Buying a vibrator: Beginners guide to buying the perfect sex toy

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Beginners guide to buying a vibrator

Buying a vibrator for the first time can be a little awkward, even embarrassing. But don’t let that put you off. It’s also lots of fun.

Even if you are a sex toy novice, the rest of the world is not. Meaning there is a HUGE amount of choice on the market when it comes to buying vibrators. Be prepared to be wowed!

If you’re thinking of taking a tentative look, but are not sure where to start, help is here. We’ll soon have you paired-up with your new buzzy best friend .. and you’ll never look back.

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WHAT TO CONSIDER WHEN BUYING A VIBRATOR

WHAT KIND OF STIMULATION DO YOU LIKE?

Buying a vibrator is all about you and your self-pleasure. It is not a one size fits all purchase. Think about wether you get pleasure from stimulation on the G-spot, cliterous, both or somewhere else. Do you enjoy the feeling inside, outside, hard, gentle .. or a mixture of all? Do you like the same sensation every time, or are you looking to widen you self-pleasure repertoire? According to LoveHoneyMost women find it easier to achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation than any other kind, which is why the vibrator is one of the most popular sex toys.’

If you like G-spot stimulation (and most women do) a good starting point is the IVibe Select IRipple G-Spot Vibrator (The Adult Shop, $108.95). For a more spread-out sensation, a little Fantasy For Here Vibrating Petite Arouse-Her (Adult Toy Megastore, $56.95) would be perfect. If you’re not sure, get one with a few extras so you can have a play around and see what arouses you most. The Cosmopolitan Hither Rabbit (The Adult Shop $109.96),  is a great first stop for your vibing journey.

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WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A VIBRATOR AND A DILDO?

Well, it’s easy. A vibrator does just that, vibrates. Whereas a dildo doesn’t. A dildo is more phallic, designed for penetration and comes in a range of materials to enhance pleasure, including rubber and glass. If a dildo is more appealing, you could try a Basix Slim 7 Inch Suction Cup Dildo (Adult Toy Megastore, $25.95), but there are heaps of others on the market. Get the one that appeals to your senses .. and your naughty side.

WILL YOU VIBRATOR WORK IN YOUR WORLD?

Strange question? Not at all. Being ladies and general over-sharers we don’t bat an eyelid, but others may, and hey being discrete is kinda classy. Plus, if you have kids, they have an uncanny way of coming across mummy’s toys at inopportune moments so be prepared! If your vibrator is just for home, make sure you find it a nice hidey-place, or buy something to fool even the most insightful child. A completely non-phallic vibrator which can be left lying around willy-nilly (pardon the pun) is the We-Vibe Sync (The Adult Shop, $239.95). It could even pass-off as a hands-free ear-piece if you need to do some fast-thinking!

It’s also worth considering the noise of you vibrator in relation to where you live and when you intend to use it i.e. the quieter the better. Not only that, a jack-hammer sound is def not conducive to feeling sexy. Luckily most vibrators are made from silicone which muffles noise, but as a general guide, the more you pay, the more discrete they are sound-wise. We like the Inya Blossom (FemPlay, $46.49).

Perhaps you travel a lot and like to keep your new friend close? If this is the case, no worries. Little doesn’t mean less with a vibrator. The hilarious but super-handy Oh! Kiss Me Lipstick Vibrator (Lovehoney, $22.95) can be popped into your handbag for whenever it’s needed!

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BUYING A VIBRATOR

BUYING A VIBRATOR ON THE HIGH STREET

No longer taboo, sex toys are big business, which is great as you can browse and buy super-easily. Pop a search into Google to find your nearest adult shop and enjoy the touch and feel of high-store shopping. Most shops have booths where you can discuss sales items privately, ensuring you come out with the perfect-purchase. If nothing else, it will be an experience you can tick off your bucket list.

BUYING A VIBRATOR ONLINE

If the thought of discussing the pros and cons of sex toys with a stranger is all too much, the easier and more popular option is to buy online, and the choice seems limitless. Reputable online stores include: The Adult Shop, LoveHoney, Adult Toy Megastore, Femplay and Black Label.

You may not have the benefit of a sales person, but you have something far more genuine: product reviews! Make sure you read through them before hitting buy and there is usually a real-time chat option on the website if you have more questions. All online shops will send your goodies in anonymous packaging, so Mr Postie will be none-the-wiser.

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BUY WITH A FRIEND

If you have a man in your life, buying your new toy together can be lots of fun. Vibrators are a great way to spice-up your sex life, so don’t hog it! Ask him what turns him on and purchase it together. The anticipation of its arrival and the thought of all three of you getting to know one another, is a sex game in itself.

No man, no worries. If you’re simply looking to enhance your sex life with yourself, you can always ask a close friend for advice. Or ask on a ladies-only FB group. Honestly, you’ll be amazed how many people will join the chat and how much information you can glean.

PICK YOUR PRICE

You’ll get what you pay for with your vibrator, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot. Prices range from $9.95 for a Basic Love Bullet Vibrator to $71.95 for an Aura Massager. Prices will vary depending on look, material and functionality. It also depends how much you have to spend and how important the purchase is to you.

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Go! Buy a vibrator!

Don’t question buying a vibrator or see it as unnecessary luxury. Sex and orgasms are as natural as the trees outside your window. Anything that will make you feel good without relying on another person is an investment in your well-being and your health. Happy vibrating!

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