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    • #55948 Reply
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      Hi, sorry for the long post. Currently my ex and I don’t have a parenting plan in place (separated 7 months). He was FIFO until recently so mutual agreement was 80/20 shared care. Now he works locally and I have been accomodating (he has an erratic work schedule) when he asks to see the kids but he still has not had care of the kids for 20%. He is now saying he wants 50/50 shared care and wants me to decide what is a fair arrangement so things don’t go further.
      My question is what would his “further” comment refer to? Would that be mediation or court? Would he get 50/50 when he hasn’t be able to commit to 80/20? So confused!!

    • #55963 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Further would be mediation even though he might think it would be court but you can’t go to court without attempting mediation first. Sounds like an empty threat to me.

    • #55988 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      I’d take him up on offering a suggestion. You might be able to work out something between you which would be good. Usually he’d get 50:50 unless kiddies really young.

    • #56053 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Is he changing his work arrangements ie. no longer FIFO? Otherwise how can he make this happen? Perhaps you should turn the question around to him.

    • #56071 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Firstly, get your parenting plan changed over to consent orders, this means that he will be obligated by law to follow them. I would open the conversation with him about the new arrangements and whether realistically he can do them. If that doesn’t work book mediation to make a plan, but def get those consent orders.

    • #56072 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Just to say you can book free mediation (or at least some free sessions) from Relationships Australia.

    • #56115 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Sounds to me as if he is want to be a more present father and that he is opening up the conversation as to how that might happen and is open to your opinion. Great, go with it.

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