Hi, sorry for the long post. Currently my ex and I don’t have a parenting plan in place (separated 7 months). He was FIFO until recently so mutual agreement was 80/20 shared care. Now he works locally and I have been accomodating (he has an erratic work schedule) when he asks to see the kids but he still has not had care of the kids for 20%. He is now saying he wants 50/50 shared care and wants me to decide what is a fair arrangement so things don’t go further.
My question is what would his “further” comment refer to? Would that be mediation or court? Would he get 50/50 when he hasn’t be able to commit to 80/20? So confused!!
Firstly, get your parenting plan changed over to consent orders, this means that he will be obligated by law to follow them. I would open the conversation with him about the new arrangements and whether realistically he can do them. If that doesn’t work book mediation to make a plan, but def get those consent orders.