Hey ladies, I have been feeling pretty lonely lately. Days run into each other, nights are the same (kids in bed then tv till I go to bed). If I don’t reach out to friends and family they forget I exist. I am literally the only one on my own among my family and friends and no one ever thinks to check in or offer company/support etc. it makes me feel a bit shit to be honest. I search what to do when you feel lonely but the advice just isn’t applicable when you’re a single mum 100% of the time with no support. Any ideas from anyone who has been here? Not after hobbies or groups etc as I just don’t have any time for ‘me’ without kids.
You’ll find as your kids get older you have more time to get out, meet people and do things that can make you feel less lonely. Are your kids school age .. can you connect with some of the mums at school?
Sometimes friends and even family can be selfish and get caught up in their own lives. Remind them that you’re there and that you need support and company. Get into a routine with them. For example I chat to my dad on Skype every other day, I speak to my cousin 3 times a week and make a point of meeting one friend at least once a week. I had to make all this happen but it helps to stop the isolation of being a single mother ….especially if you have young kids. Before this, I got my company kicks from a trip to Woollys and this just wasn’t meeting my needs!!!!
I rarely get lonely but think I would like a partner to help share the load and to help make big decisions. I think you learn to live alone over time and start to create a new way of life which you enjoy. You have to be careful not to get too used to it because then it might be hard to let someone in.
I feel you!
I’m exactly the same.
If something happened to me, n god-forbid I died, it could be weeks before anyone found me… I hate to think of how my 4.5yr old would cope 😭
I have no family in town, and IF I Had any friends, I sure as s*** don’t have any now
This is so relatable. I am really fortunate my sister checks in regularly and loves to visit the kid’s but I find friends rarely initiate plans and weekends are particularly hard. All my friends are partnered or married and I find the weekends very much family time and I hate to intrude. Plus they organise things with other couples / families.
With regards to the loneliness, I try to lose myself in a book or a good Netflix series for some escapism. I love walking and running too. And I try to remind myself it’s just a season of life. Some are better than others and it won’t last forever.
This is so true.
I know alot of African families and Muslim families. Regardless If related or not they are very community minded and socialise with there community often.
Aussies are very individualistic and it can leave you feeling quite lost.
Seriously considering my options for setting up a social group for single parent families or any families for that matter who just want to go to activities and meet other families.
I’ve very much been there. It’s very hard, especially when you don’t know many other single parents as all you see is what you don’t have. It can be lonely and difficult. It will get better, but you need to make it better. Learn something you always wanted to learn…. music is great therapy. Have daily goals and longer term goals that make you feel good. Even something super simple. I found I kept going to victim mode and feeling sorry for myself which ultimately wasn’t very helpful in hindsight! It can feel like you are the only person feeling this way but you aren’t. It will get easier.