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    • #54073 Reply
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      Hello,

      I have a 2yr old that I have raised solely on my own since day 1. Father never came to any court proceedings and by default, I received all parenting rights. He gets supervised visits 3 days a week for 3 hrs (9hrs total weekly). Father has issues obviously. He is very angry at me and blames me for his actions (has substance abuse issues, gambling, ptsd). He has now served me with papers to get his legal rights. We will be going to court and while I realize this will not be overnight that he will get more time with our son, I have been legally told that if he is showing interest that as the legal father he will eventually get what he wants. I can not imagine a world going to bed and waking up with my son not with me. I don’t know how mothers get through this being away from their children. My son is only 2. This tears my heart. How does everyone deal with this? This is just something I don’t want to have to accept as a mother…Need some guidance..

    • #54158 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      This is one of the biggest problems for single mums .. dealing with not having their children around which is the natural thing. All I can say, is that you will get used to (you might have to) and you might even get used to it and to having some kid-free time while your son builds a relationship with dad.

      • #54204 Reply
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        Yes, I imagine this is one of the biggest problems. It is a hard one to accept. Most generally say that in time you do get used to it and even learn to appreciate it. It’s hard for me being that my son is just a toddler and not old. I want to see every moment of these stages that fly by too quickly.

    • #54168 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      You will get used it and you are right that it will be a very gradual process which will make it easier. I have come to really enjoy my kid-free time – you might too.

      • #54205 Reply
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        I am holding on to it being gradual especially in the court system with the concerns I have with father. I hope that adjustment will be more tolerable. And yes, the consitent theme of most is that most moms have come to enjoy their kid free time.

    • #54188 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      I found it really hard at first but now I absolutely LUV LUV LUV my free time. I have been able to start a business and even date – not that the latter has been all that successful!!!!

      • #54208 Reply
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        Good for you! That is awesome how you have made that transition–and hopefully the latter will turn around soon LOL
        I can not even wrap my head around dating right now! ha

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