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  • #23713 Reply
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    Hi mums.
    I’ve been a silent observer for the past week scrolling through all the past 40 pages and it’s consoled me in that I don’t feel so alone.
    It seems what’s happened to me has happened to so many of you. My husband of over 13 years decided he no longer loves me and has told me he wants to move out. I have a 3 and 5 yo and will need to find a part time job that works with their hours.
    Big questions:
    1. How much financially am I entitled to per month from him and how to split assets?
    2. He thinks he’s still going to see the kids daily. It’s as if he wants life to go on as usual just without me.

    Now what!

  • #23716 Reply
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    How much he pays you depends on your child support assessment from how much you both earn and less self support and how many nights kids spend each parent. Depends on his income I think it’s 27pc of his income if you are primary carer. Reduces if he has kids more. Assets you need to work out via solicitor or mediation or via family court which includes houses super cars furniture savings and any other asset like stocks shares jewellery etc and also dents are divided. You’ll need to mediate as to the care arrangements for kids also

  • #23717 Reply
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    You may be entitled to parenting payments or family tax benefits from Centrelink and you’ll need apply child support agency

  • #23722 Reply
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    The child support website has a child support calculator, as long as you know both your salaries you can get a rough estimate. You may also get other allowances, such as family tax benefit etc.
    If you cant agree on custody arrangements, look into getting mediation underway.
    Sorry this has happened to you.
    Men are stupid.

  • #23723 Reply
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    Thank you ladies. Right now I’m a stay at home mum and earn nothing so need to find a job soon. My intention is to try and stay away from lawyers etc as I don’t want all our savings going into legal fees.

  • #23724 Reply
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    Any financial split needs to be legally binding and you really need a lawyer or a service to help you get a fair split esp being a stay at home mum who is dependant. Relationships Australia may be able to help you or u can go lawyer to lawyer and come to an an agreement. If u are stay at home u really he’d lodge an application for parenting payments depending on kids ages and ftb a and b and possibly rent assistance as well as make an application to CSA for child support as soon as possible

  • #23725 Reply
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    Thank you #23724

  • #23727 Reply
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    Anonymous

    You’re also entitled to
    Your share of joint superannuation hun be careful and get what is yours

  • #23728 Reply
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    If you need a loan for furnishings a computer or white goods you can get a no interest no credit check loan called a nils loan which is paid off via Centrelink payment it’s $1200 and you can do it repeatedly also
    For things like car rego is free for parent receiving a parenting payments there are other micro loans thru nab or westpac a good Shepard loan which is $3k again no interest no credit check butbis paid via Centrelink deductions

  • #23729 Reply
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    Nils loan is thru Salvation Army make an apt they are super helpful

  • #23731 Reply
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    Thank you everyone. Am I the only one constantly asking myself how the actual f%#k I got here.

  • #23732 Reply
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    Prob a blessing in disguise be patient

  • #23735 Reply
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    Definitley get a lawyer for your financial settlement. With you being a single mum and having no income, he has so much power and is likely to not see your financial contributions as equal and bully you into taking a settlement that will plunge you and your children into poverty. You can be entitled up to around 70% of all pooled assets depending on your circumstances. The only one who will loose out if you don’t get a lawyer is you and he will likely have to pay your legal fees anyway.

    In terms of custody, I recommend not using lawyers or courts and going for shared custody and working toward amicable coparenting. If you are on ok terms with your ex it is honestly the best thing for your kids and screws them up the least (I know this as a child of divorce and a single mum of 3). This is especially important if your ex has expressed interest in continuing to see them and being an active father. You will still get child support. Always keep in mind that this is about what it right for them and sometimes that might be hard for you or your ex. If you and your ex fight on custody, your kids loose out big time. Good luck!

  • #23736 Reply
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    Women’s legal services or legal aid might also be able to help you. Sorry you are in this predicament, it is so hard but as i keep telling myself each day it will get better. 8 months in it is still hard, raw, but slighty easier. Hang in there

  • #23739 Reply
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    Of there is a property you won’t be eligible for legal aid try find a lawyer who will do a pay on end deal or is possible

  • #23780 Reply
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    Thank you. I appreciate your advice and the time you’ve all taken to send a message.
    I’m going to get a lawyer!!!

  • #23788 Reply
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    Def do hun! I saw carter Ferguson and they approved a pay on end deal contract as they knew there was a property so nothing to pay up front

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