wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation.
Have you ever met someone that ticks all your (dating) boxes. Like they are what you would describe as the perfect partner.
But there is just something holding you back?
Im not sure why but the age gap is getting to me a lot on this one.
The gap is about 9-10 years. He older.(40)
Anyone in a relationship with age gap. And can give me some insight or advice?
If you feel that there’s something you can’t quite work out that’s holding you back, then I think you should listen to your gut. However if it’s the age gap, and nothing else, then I don’t see a problem. Honestly, if you feel you’re compatible in every way then age doesn’t make a difference. That’s how I’ve always seen in anyway.
I, personally fell head over heels for an older guy (he was 45 I was 31) – I had zero problem with the age gap, but I felt that something was holding me back, something wasn’t quite right. I was pretty smitten (he ticked all the boxes is a massive way, even all the boxes that I didn’t expect to be ticked!) – well I didn’t listen to my gut and I went on to have kids with him. Turns out my gut was right, worst thing that ever happened to me, a very abusive relationship, but I was in deep before I realised (it was a calculated, gradual shift). I’m out now, but having kids with the guy I’m not really out if u know what I mean.
Now I’ve only shared MY story with you because I can’t tell in your post whether you have a gut feeling, or if it’s just the age. If it’s a gut feeling, then look out for red flags. If it’s just the age I reckon give it a go if you want to – even if it turns out not to be forever you’ll likely have a rockin time with great sex!
So long as you have similar views as to what you want from the relationship and the future there shouldn’t be a problem. If you go out with someone your own age who wants kids and you don’t for exaplme , that would be more of an issue in my eyes.