When you’re a single mother, you may find yourself missing the more intimate moments you’d share with a lover. After a long day running errands, clearing up toys and managing a hectic schedule of busy play dates, intimacy may be the last point on your agenda. But should being a single parent really be a barrier between you and your sexual happiness?
You may not be in a relationship right now, but there are still plenty of ways to embrace your sexuality as an individual. Being single can be one of the best times to explore your sexuality, discover what turns you on (and off), and develop some healthier and happier self-love habits.
Here are five ways to get your sexual needs met as a single mother.
5 Ways to get your sexual needs met as a single mum
1. Practice Self-Care
We’re not talking about self-pleasure here, well, not initially at least. This is about the more sensual aspect of looking after number one. As a single mother, it’s often children first and self last, but prioritising how you feel occasionally is vital for your sexual and general happiness.
Wear clothes that make you feel confident, bathe by candlelight in a tub full of bubbles, gift yourself a bouquet, or find time to connect with friends over coffee. All these things will relax and empower you, so when it comes to being sexual, you feel more ‘you’ and less ‘mum’.
2. Get Hands-On
Did you know that masturbation is one of the most powerful ways to release those happy hormones? A good orgasm can put you on the right path for a good day, improving your mood by releasing dopamine and oxytocin into your bloodstream. But orgasms are not reserved just for two, and we experience some of our best when we achieve them ourselves.
So, roll back the covers, and spend a little time on self-love. Learn to embrace your body through the positive affirmation of touch and discover what feels good with each caress you give to yourself. Using aids such as pleasure balms can really enhance the self-love experience. The best part? You can then instruct your future lovers on exactly how to get your motor running.
3. Introduce Toys
Nobody knows you like you, which is why self-pleasure comes so naturally to us. Although we can work magic with our own hands, certain toys are designed to reach deeper and stimulate us in other ways. There are so many sex toys available, from curved G-spot-seeking superstars right through to clitoris-sucking stimulators that slip right into your handbag, so you’ll be spoilt for choice.
If you’ve put off buying a toy because of noise factor, you needn’t worry. Plenty of them are silent seducers, so you can treat yourself without the worry of waking your little ones.
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4. Watch Ethical Adult Content
Whether you have a lover or not, erotic fantasies are an important part of our sexual make-up and being single shouldn’t restrict you from exploring them. Watching ethically produced adult content to enhance your solo sessions is generally a safe way to spark your sexual arousal, providing it doesn’t conflict with any other beliefs.
If watching adult content doesn’t appeal to you all that much, but you’re still keen to try something new, reading or listening to erotica can be an exciting way to enhance those moments of self-pleasure and may help you engage with your deeper fantasies. Christian Grey told us so!
5. Start Real-Life Connections
When you’ve been single for a while, stepping back into the world of dating can seem daunting, but it may help to start thinking about potential romantic connections. Physically meeting with people can be great for getting your sexual needs satisfied – and it’s never been easier.
Social media apps and dating websites offer a platform for engaging with people before you’ve even stepped outside your front door. Now, that’s handy when you’re busy being a kick-ass mum!
Even if you’re not quite ready for the commitment of a serious relationship, casual dating can bring about some of the best sex and intimacy ever. Just make your intentions clear from the start and be sure to book a childminder in advance, so you can fully relax and enjoy your new-found sexual freedom.
