No More Swiping: Discovering Love Without a Dating App

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With the increase in dating apps, online video calling and other technology, you may be fooled into thinking that online and, in particular, dating apps are the only way to meet someone.

However, let me reassure you that is not the case. You are not alone if you feel burnt out from dating and are over the apps. I am here to tell you that dating can succeed online or offline.

You might be thinking:

“If I don’t go on the apps to meet someone, am I limiting my chances and how on earth do I meet a partner?”

Firstly, no, you are not limiting your chances. Instead, I like to think of it as refining your chances.

So, if you don’t enjoy online dating, don’t do it! Instead, try one of these five ideas to meet a partner without using a dating app.

Further reading: The 8 best dating apps for people who hate dating apps.

Join a Meetup Group

If you have not heard of Meetup, then it’s time to check it out.

It is a worldwide service where you can join any group according to a category. For example, you could join a walking, photography, or social trivia group.

I like the idea of Meetup because you can meet people without the pressure to “date” them. You are both simply there because you have a common interest, which is a great building block for any relationship. Not only that, but you might also make some new friends in the process.

Get Set Up!

Why not ask your friends and family to set you up?

Going on a blind date can certainly be daunting, but who knows you better than your loved ones? Have a chat with your friends and family about what you are looking for in a partner and what values are important to you. Remember to ask that they don’t take offence if you don’t gel with the person they have set you up with.

Volunteer for Causes You Care About

Volunteering is a fantastic way to meet like-minded people while giving back to the community. When you volunteer, you’re surrounded by individuals who share your passions and values, which can be an excellent foundation for building connections.

Whether helping out at a local animal shelter, participating in community clean-up events, or working with a charity, you’ll find that the camaraderie and shared purpose often lead to meaningful interactions.

Plus, volunteering can lead to friendships and potentially spark a romantic connection with someone who shares your commitment to making a difference.

Use an Experienced Matchmaking Service

If you’re tired of the randomness of online dating or prefer a more personalized approach, consider using an experienced matchmaking service. Unlike dating apps, which can sometimes feel impersonal or overwhelming, a professional matchmaking service takes the time to understand your preferences, values, and relationship goals.

They use this information to connect you with potential partners who are a good match for you, both in terms of personality and long-term compatibility. This tailored approach can lead to more meaningful connections and increase the likelihood of finding a partner who aligns with your vision of a fulfilling relationship.

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Host a Stranger's Dinner

What on earth is a “stranger’s dinner”, you may be thinking.

Basically, it’s a dinner party where each person invites one single person who doesn’t know any of the other guests. It’s a great way to have fun, eat and meet someone new.

If you don’t fancy hosting a dinner, check online, as depending on where you live, there are dating services that run group dinner dates in local restaurants. Not only do you get to meet new people and start a possible romance, but you get a yummy dinner to boot.

Go Speed Dating

Yes, speed dating still exists! Speed dating is a great opportunity to have 3-5 minutes with a stranger and trust your gut as to whether there is a connection or not.

If you are nervous, take a friend who is also looking for love and have many questions prepared to ask. Some people really do find long-lasting relationships through speed dating, so it is definitely worth a go. 

Further reading: 55 First date questions to break the ice.

Be Open to Meeting Someone… ANYWHERE

Know what you want and what your values are, and be open to meeting people. Accept invites to social events, especially the ones where you get to meet new people.

Embrace the idea that the next person you bump into when you are out might be your next partner. It could be walking down the road, in the supermarket, the gym, even the doctor’s surgery … it might even be the doctor!

The truth is, you don’t know where you will meet your next partner. So, smile and say “hi” to that stranger … it could be the most important connection you ever make.

Conclusion

Finding a partner doesn't have to be confined to the digital realm of dating apps. While these platforms can be effective, they are not the only way to meet someone special. By exploring alternative methods like joining Meetup groups, engaging in community service, attending speed dating events, or using an experienced matchmaking service, you open yourself up to a variety of opportunities for connection.

These approaches not only offer the chance to meet potential partners but also help you build meaningful relationships based on shared interests and values.

Remember, the key to meeting someone new is to stay open, proactive, and engaged in activities that resonate with you. Whether you’re hosting a stranger’s dinner, volunteering, or simply striking up conversations in everyday settings, every interaction has the potential to lead to something extraordinary.

Embrace the journey with confidence, knowing there are numerous pathways to finding a meaningful connection. Your next great relationship could be just around the corner.

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