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- January 10, 2020 at 5:41 pm #23055AnonymousGuest
My husband left me four months ago but I can’t seem to bear taking off my wedding ring and it is really upsetting me.
Who’s long did it take for you to take off your ring and what did you do with it? I’m thinking of selling mine to buy my daughter a new bed and dresser, but it is so depressing to think about.
- January 10, 2020 at 6:23 pm #23057AnonymousGuest
I’d take it off the minute separation occurs you’re no longer together
- January 10, 2020 at 6:48 pm #23063AnonymousGuest
I still wear mine but on my other hand, and I’m 15 months in! I’m petrified of losing them and haven’t decided what to do with them yet. As for wearing them on my wedding finger, I think it was 4-6 months on and I was the one who initiated the separation.
- January 10, 2020 at 8:27 pm #23068AnonymousGuest
Kept wearing them for the first 3-4 months (telling myself we were still technically married) then took them off as I knew in my heart there was no going back. Have just put them in a cupboard for now. Not sure what to do with them. They are beautiful rings and I miss them but it just doesnt feel right anymore.
- January 11, 2020 at 4:30 am #23078Gretel DigoKeymaster
It’s totally normal to feel this way. Give it time. You’ll know when you’re ready.
- January 11, 2020 at 1:12 pm #23103Lucy GoodKeymaster
I still wear mine 8 years later, although I did take if off for a few years, then decided it was too nice to be stuck in a drawer. I wear it on the other hand and it’s actually an eternity ring so I can get away with it. Just do what feels right for you.
- January 12, 2020 at 6:15 pm #23142AnonymousGuest
I wore mine for almost 18mths after. I took it off when the time was right for me, so don’t let anyone pressure you. I have had my engagement ring & wedding ring made into a new ring, so I could pass it on to my daughter with new memories, I didn’t want to pass on my rings to her with the old memories.It was very liberating to do so and the time was right for me. So work through the process at your own pace. 😜👍🏽
- January 12, 2020 at 7:37 pm #23144AnonymousGuest
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wearing it, and it’s nobody’s business. One day you might just take it off and forget to put it on again, and feel completely fine.
I stopped wearing the rings my daughter’s father bought me not long after we split, mainly because I didn’t want him mocking me for it. After a while, I started wearing my favourite jewellery from my relationship prior to him (including my very unique handmade wedding ring which I love to bits). Now I wear them every day.
I wouldn’t sell your jewellery just yet. There’s other ways to buy the furniture (NILS loans etc). Put it away when you’re ready, and revisit the idea in 6-12mths.
- January 13, 2020 at 9:30 am #23168AnonymousGuest
Why on earth would you wear it when no longer together? Unless in denial over loss relationship.
- January 13, 2020 at 10:52 pm #23208AnonymousGuest
Because she got used to wearing it, and ir feels physically weird to take it off.
Because it’s quite likely a lovely piece of jewellery (possibly the most expensive she has) that she likes looking at and she isn’t ready to stop enjoying how it makes her feel.
Because she might have chosen it herself.
Because she can mourn a relationship without being in denial that it’s ended. Similar to someone passing away.
And because it’s only been 4 damn months, and healing is a marathon.
- January 14, 2020 at 1:29 pm #23223AnonymousGuest
Great comment 23208.
It’s up to the individual! I also agree with commenter that said hold on and revisit.
In my case, I split (my decision) 5 years ago after 12 years. And I still wear my engagement ring on my middle finger if my right hand. I absolutely love my engagement ring and it’s bloody expensive so I initially just didn’t want to leave it at home. I may have it changed up down the track (only just wound up family court…) for my daughter but haven’t really given it too much though yet!
- January 17, 2020 at 4:44 pm #23455AnonymousGuest
I took mine off straight away…within hours of telling the children we were splitting. He left me and I wasn’t interested in keeping it in view. Way way way too many mixed and torturous feelings for me. But that’s me. You need to do what’s right for you. One suggestion to take or leave, as soon as it was off I felt ‘naked’ so I bought myself a nice dress ring, nothing expensive because I couldn’t afford it, but it was something I chose, for me, by myself and it did a good job to refocus my thoughts ever time I looked at my left hand. Do what’s right for you.