Ever felt like you're running on empty, trying to balance everything as a single mum? We're always ready to put our kids' needs first (and there's nothing wrong with that). But it’s time to put yourself first, even just for a day. The most important relationship in your life is with yourself. Treat yourself to these great solo date ideas to boost your mood and recharge your batteries.
This article is packed with tips and fun me-time ideas designed to inspire self-care and self-love, and maybe even discover a new favourite pastime. As someone who’s embraced the joys of self-dates, I can promise you, that this is the ultimate starter guide for spending time alone for some self-lovin'. Let's get right to it!
Fun Solo Date Ideas for Self-Care
1. DIY Spa Day
When was the last time you truly pampered yourself? If you've never had a "me-time" date before, a DIY spa day is the perfect first date idea. Light a candle, slap on a face mask, and queue your favourite tunes. There is something so satisfying about getting your self-care session done at home, and it doesn’t need to cost a fortune—bonus points for a soak in a warm bubble bath. Oh, just the thought of it
Self-care isn’t only about relaxation, but it’s also about making time to unwind and show yourself some love. Whether it’s painting your nails or giving yourself a foot scrub, this date is all about you.
2. Spend the Day at a Museum or Gallery
There’s something magical about wandering through a museum or art gallery at your own pace. Take your time to explore the exhibits, and let yourself get inspired by the stories and creativity around you. You’ll feel like you have travelled to another world. The best part is, you don't need to rely on someone else’s schedule.
3. Cook a Fancy Meal for One
Who says you need someone else to enjoy fine dining? Plan your menu, grab some fresh ingredients, and cook a delicious meal for one. This is the ultimate way to practice self-love and discover if you are passionate about cooking. If you are feeling adventurous, why not try a baking or cooking class? It’s a fun way to learn new things and might even become your new pastime.
4. Get a New Hobby
Speaking of hobbies, why not dive into something new? From painting to pottery or even photography, trying a new pastime is an excellent way to practice personal growth and creativity. There's something about learning a new skill that sparks confidence and gives you a little extra pep in your step.
I know that at first, it may seem like an additional task to your never-ending checklist. However, it does not need to take up a huge chunk of your schedule. Just a few minutes daily will do. Once you get your groove with this solo-date activity, you will realise how it brings a lot of joy to your routine.
5. Treat Yourself to a Movie Night
Plan a solo date night at home with all your favourite snacks and a movie you have been dying to watch. Build a cosy fort in your living room, grab a blanket, and press play. Sometimes it’s the simplest things that make you feel recharged. This is also a great idea for when you want to disconnect and indulge in some alone time.
Free Solo Date Ideas (cont.)
6. Go on a Hike
Ready for your solo adventure? Hiking is the perfect way to reconnect with nature and clear your mind. Pick a trail you have never explored and enjoy the peace of spending quality time with yourself. Whether it’s a short trek or an all-day trek, the confidence boost you will feel after tackling it will be unmatched.
7. Morning Stroll and Coffee Break
Sometimes it’s the simplest solo date ideas that bring the most joy. Picture this: a Saturday morning stroll through your local park followed by a steaming cup of coffee at a cosy café. It’s a great way to get to know yourself and start the day on a peaceful note. Taking in nature while sipping on your favourite drink might feel like you are in a rom-com, but guess what? You’re the star of this story!
8. Try Yoga or Meditation
Yoga and meditation are fantastic ways to relax and practise self-care. Attend a local class or try a session at home. You can find plenty of mum-friendly practice videos online. Either way, this date is all about connecting with your body and mind. When I started doing yoga, I thought it was just a form of workout. But as time went by, I found out that it’s also a way to unwind and meditate.
Further reading: 20 Simple ways to be more content single mum
9. Bookstore Browsing and Reading Nook
If you are a book lover, spend a solo date browsing your favourite bookstore. Pick up a new title that excites you, then find a quiet spot to dive into it. There’s nothing like getting lost in a story while spending quality time with yourself. Bonus points if you treat yourself to a fancy bookmark or journal for added inspiration.
10. Take Yourself Out for Dinner
Yes, a table for one can be a delightful experience! Dress in your favourite outfit, choose a restaurant you’ve always wanted to try and indulge in a meal you love. Getting comfortable by yourself at a restaurant will make you feel like you are truly celebrating the most important relationship in your life—your relationship with yourself.
Further reading: Coping with lack of intimacy when you’re single.
Final Thoughts: Solo Date Ideas
I’ll never forget my first "me-time" date. It was a lovely Saturday morning, and I decided to take a stroll by the Yarra River. I’d set aside the day just for me, something I rarely did as a single mum. With my favourite tunes playing, I wandered through the markets, bought a small bouquet (for myself!), got a 30-minute massage, and ended the day with a hot chocolate at home. It wasn’t extravagant, but it made me realise how much joy comes from showing yourself some love.
Going on solo dates is a way to boost your confidence, recharge your energy, and nurture your personal growth. Remember the perfect solo date doesn't have to be extravagant, as long as you get your dose of happiness and calm. So go ahead, and make time for a self-date right away. You’ll feel like you have unlocked the ultimate self-care starter pack. Before you know it, you are getting ready for your next solo date!
