Ramadan is a month of self-reflection, faith, and fasting for many Muslims around the world. As the holiest month of the Islamic calendar, it is a deeply spiritual time for those observing, filled with prayer, charity, and community. If you know a Muslim observing Ramadan, you may want to be supportive but aren't sure how. Here's how to support a friend during Ramadan.
What is Ramadan?
Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, a time when many Muslims fast between sunrise and sunset as an act of devotion and self-discipline. It is a period of increased prayer, reflection, and acts of charity. Fasting during Ramadan is one of the five pillars of Islam, and those observing can't eat or drink anything during daylight hours. Also, it's the month for strengthening faith, performing good deeds, and fostering a sense of community. In 2025, Ramadan begins on the evening of February 28 and ends on the evening of March 30, following the lunar calendar (in contrast to the Gregorian calendar).
I’ve personally had the privilege of seeing Ramadan through different perspectives. My sister converted a few years ago, and one of my closest colleagues is Muslim. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to be supportive during this important time.
I remember the first time the month came around after my sister’s conversion; as a non-Muslim, I had so many questions! At first, I worried about eating in front of her or saying the wrong thing. But she assured me that small gestures, like acknowledging her fast and understanding her energy levels, meant the world to her. Similarly, my colleague has shared how much it means when people show respect for her fasting without making a big deal about it.
How Non-Muslims Can Show Support to a Muslim During Ramadan
Wish them a ‘Happy Ramadan’
A simple greeting like "Happy Ramadan" or "Blessed Ramadan" can go a long way in showing respect and support for people observing Ramadan. Muslims welcome these warm wishes, and it lets them know you acknowledge this important time.
Learn About Ramadan
Taking the time to learn about the devotion and what it means can help you be more supportive and respectful. A quick Google search can teach you about the significance of fasting at this time and how it impacts daily life.
Respect Their Fasting
Part of Ramadan is abstaining from food and drink during daylight hours. This means they can’t take food or drinks anything from sunrise to sunset. Being mindful of this and not offering them food or drinks shows thoughtfulness.
Aside from fasting from food, Muslims are also supposed to stay away from bad actions and thoughts. Remember that Ramadan is a time for them to get close to Allah, so don't gossip around them!
Be Considerate When Eating Around Them
Remember when you were dieting and someone brings in your favourite fried chicken meal? Eating or drinking in front of someone who's fasting can be challenging for them. While many Muslims don’t mind, others may find it difficult. If you’re unsure, don’t be afraid to ask your Muslim friend or colleague how they feel about it. You might want to eat your meals somewhere else or at least have halal food.
Avoid Scheduling Food-Centric Meetings
If you’re a manager or planning a work event, try to be mindful of Muslim friends and colleagues. Avoid scheduling lunch meetings where Muslim employees may feel left out.
Understand That Energy Levels May Vary
The effects of fasting can include tiredness, lower energy levels, and difficulty concentrating, especially closer to sunset. Showing patience and understanding is a great way to support your Muslim colleagues and friends.
Offer Flexible Work Hours
If you’re a manager, offering flexible work hours for employees fasting can be incredibly helpful. My colleague once told me how grateful she was when our team leader adjusted meeting times so she could rest before iftar. Small accommodations like this make a big difference. It'll also prevent possible issues with other non-Muslim employees or clients who might not be as receptive.
Be Mindful of Scheduling
Avoid scheduling major meetings or deadlines right before sunset when those fasting are preparing to break their fast, or around suhoor.
Supporting Muslim People in Your Life During the Holy Month of Ramadan (cont.)
Acknowledge Their Effort
Fasting reminds Muslims of discipline and devotion. A kind word acknowledging their commitment can make them feel supported throughout the holy month.
Respect Their Prayer Time
Many Muslims use this as a time to strengthen their faith by praying more frequently. If a friend or colleague needs a few minutes to pray, be supportive and respectful.
Join in for Iftar
If you’re invited to an iftar (the meal to break the fast), it’s a wonderful opportunity to share in the experience and learn more about Ramadan. I remember being invited to an iftar at my sister’s home and being amazed at the warmth and generosity of the gathering. It was a beautiful way to connect. I first joined in 2024 and it's a time to learn more about their faith.
Encourage Generosity
Ramadan is a month of good deeds and charity. Whether that’s contributing to a fundraiser or donating to a food bank, showing generosity is a beautiful way to support your Muslim community.
Understand That Not All Muslims Observe Ramadan the Same Way
Some Muslims can’t fast due to health reasons or personal circumstances. Others may even observe Ramadan differently based on cultural practices.
Be Patient with Responses
Fasting can impact energy and focus, so if a Muslim friend or colleague takes longer to respond to emails or messages, be understanding.
Encourage Breaks When Needed
If you notice a fasting colleague struggling, encourage them to take a break or rest when possible.
Celebrate with Them
The end of Ramadan is marked by Eid al-Fitr, a festive holiday. Wishing someone a happy Eid or acknowledging the celebration is a thoughtful gesture. On Eid, my sister gives away chocolates, so I definitely take part in that! Oh, and their food is scrumptious.
Don’t Assume They Are Available for Evening Plans
Since the game between Mainz and Augsburg started in the early evening, some Muslims might have had to miss it because iftar takes priority. Keep in mind that Muslims use their evenings to pray, eat, and spend time with family. My siblings and I go on a dinner date once a month, but we go forego that tradition during this period for the sake of our eldest.
How to Support Muslims in Your Community During Ramadan (cont.)
Offer to Help with Tasks
If you have a fasting friend, family member, or employee, small gestures like offering to run an errand for them during your spare time can be greatly appreciated.
Respect That Ramadan Can Also Be a Time for Rest
Muslims don’t just fast; they also focus on reflection and religious and spiritual growth. Give them space if they need it.
Avoid Stereotypes
Not every Muslim practises Islam the same way. Some may observe Ramadan strictly, while others may not. Avoid making assumptions.
Encourage Inclusivity
If you have a Muslim employee or colleague, ensuring that workplace policies and events are inclusive can help them feel supported.
Ask Thoughtful Questions
If you’re unsure about how to best support your friends or colleagues, just ask! Many Muslims welcome questions about their faith and practices.
Recognise That Ramadan is a Personal Journey
Ramadan-practising Muslim family members may experience the month differently from other Muslims. Everyone has their own way of connecting with their faith.
Share the Spirit of Giving
Many people refrain from negative actions and instead focus on kindness during Ramadan. A small act of kindness on your part can align with the spirit of the month. Even if you don't share their beliefs, no one refuses an opportunity to be generous and kind.
Continue the Support During the Month of Ramadan and Beyond
Support for people observing Ramadan doesn’t have to stop once the month ends. Being respectful and supportive of their faith and traditions should not be available exclusively on Ramadan.
Final Thoughts: How to Support Your Muslim Friends During Ramadan
As a Catholic, I didn't know anything when my older sister converted to Islam. How do we navigate this new dynamic in the practise of different religions? More importantly, how do I make her feel supported and respected in her faith?
Ramadan is a time for connection, reflection, and generosity. Whether you’re supporting a Muslim co-worker, friend, or family member, your respect and kindness will mean the world to them. Wishing you all a generous Ramadan and a blessed month of self-reflection!
