Father’s Day can be a bit of a curveball when you're a single mum. For some of us, it’s a day that stirs up happy memories, while for others, it’s a bittersweet (and sometimes painful) reminder of the absence of a father in our kids’ lives. If you’re one of many amazing single mothers around the world, you might be navigating solo parenting, a blended family, or something in between. Whatever your situation, this piece is here to help you find Father's Day ideas to celebrate, nurture connections, and create moments that feel right for your family, without adding overwhelm or unrealistic expectations.
I still remember the first Father’s Day after my ex-husband and I split, my little ones wanted desperately to make a card for Dad, but he was never in the picture that year. We ended up spending the day at the rooftop instead, honouring their granddad and sharing stories about the good times.
How to navigate Father's Day with an absent dad
Father’s Day can look a little different when Dad’s not around—maybe he lives far away, maybe work keeps him busy, or maybe he’s just not as involved right now. But that doesn’t mean your kids miss out. You can still celebrate positive male role models in their world, like a granddad, uncle, or even a close family friend. A simple storytime, digging out old family photos, or sharing a special meal together can help kids feel connected and loved.
And if your ex is part of the picture, incorporating something as simple as helping the kids make a homemade card to take to his place can keep things positive. Don't just focus on filling a gap, but on making the day together memorable in your own way.
Father’s Day ideas that work for solo or blended families
Father’s Day in a blended family can look a little different, and that’s perfectly okay. You can create new traditions that work for everyone. Maybe it’s a big breakfast where step-kids and biological kids all pitch in, or a relaxed afternoon doing something Dad loves, like fishing or a backyard BBQ. The heart of it is showing appreciation and making space for every child to feel included, so Dad gets celebrated in a way that reflects the whole, beautiful mix of your family.
Simple ways to celebrate Dad when you’re doing it all
Being a single mum means you often wear both hats. But celebrating Dad doesn’t have to be an epic production. Little gestures can carry big meaning.
- Put together a quick photo collage of special memories
- Treat him to breakfast in bed with the kids as helpers
- Record a fun “Happy Father’s Day” video message
- Print out a card that the kids can decorate in minutes
- Order a small gift online to save time and stress
- Celebrate yourself (or another role model) if Dad’s not in the picture
Fun and meaningful Father's Day ideas kids can help plan
Kids love to be part of the action, and they’ll have a good time when they can contribute. Get them involved with Father's Day ideas they’ll be proud to share.
- Make homemade handprint cards or a crafty keepsake
- Create a “coupon book” full of hugs, chores, or fun activities
- Bake Dad’s favourite cake, biscuits, or slice together
- Work on a DIY storybook about their favourite happy memories with Dad or a role model
- Draw or paint pictures of happy times with family
- Plan a simple backyard picnic or walk that they can help organise
Even if you’re juggling work and parenting, these projects can keep the kids occupied while building their confidence.
Homemade gift ideas that feel personal and thoughtful
Not every gift has to come from the shops (especially when they’re overpriced). You don’t need to spend a fortune on a gift to feel special. Simple, heartfelt Father's Day ideas made at home often carry the most meaning.
- Design a custom mug or T-shirt with the kids’ artwork
- Create a photo book of family memories
- Frame a drawing or painting that the kids are proud of
- Put together a “memory jar” filled with notes of love and appreciation
- Plan a cosy movie night at home as a gift of time together
Making the day special without the pressure
I understand how easy it is to get caught up in making Father’s Day perfect, but that can quickly depress and overwhelm you and the kids. Keep it manageable by setting realistic expectations. If you can’t celebrate on the actual day, choose another time that works and focus on enjoying it.
The aim isn’t to outdo anyone, but to nurture moments of joy and connection. Whether it’s a simple bath for some well-deserved mum’s self-care while the kids play, or sharing a meal in your favourite spot, it’s about creating calm, happy spaces rather than ticking boxes.
Navigating emotions on Father’s Day as a single mum
This day can stir up all sorts of feelings, from gratitude to grief, from frustration to relief. Maybe it’s heartbreaking to see your child feel lonely, or maybe you’re still processing an abusive past. All of these feelings are valid.
If your kids ask tricky questions, “Why don’t I have a dad?” answer honestly but gently, using age-appropriate language. You might talk about different family shapes, including single mums, blended families, and single mums who’ve built beautiful lives without a father present.
Don’t forget your own self-care: a bath, a walk, or even a chat with a sibling or friend can help ground you. You’re not alone in this.
Final Thoughts: Father's Day ideas for single mothers
There’s no one “right” way to spend Father’s Day as a single mum. You might celebrate Father’s Day with your ex, with your kids' grandfather, or spend time creating your own traditions entirely. You might blend it into Mother’s and Father’s Day celebrations, or keep it low-key.
Whatever you choose, remember this - showing love, care, and effort in your own way is more than enough. You’re doing enough, Mama. You’re doing beautifully. And you’re never alone in this.
