Changing Schools: How To Make Adjustment Less Stressful For Your Child
Sometimes we all need to make choices that don’t meet our desires. Packing our whole life in suitcases and boxes, moving houses, cities and countries, changing jobs and schools. Changes are inevitable, and we all need to learn how to accept them.
Although adults are familiar with the constant flow of life events, kids may feel stressed-out and anxious about something new. So, as a mum, you can prepare your precious son or daughter for the new place they’ll soon become a part of.
Being involved in what your child goes through is the key. So here are some helpful tips to let you understand more how your child feels during adjustment and make the changing school process less stressful for your little one.
Discuss What Your Child Expects From New School
Transition puts your kid into an ultimately another environment. No wonder, it may bring about substantial emotional overload. Many children have their own way of dealing with emotions. Some may find it thrilling to imagine how life will go on at the new school; others may be too distrustful and expect the worst from anyone and everything. So, it’s important for mummy to stay aware of the feelings and expectations of her child.
Remember to talk with your kid about their feelings. Ask about the people and things they regret saying goodbye to. You can also find out what’s going on in your kid’s mind using one of the parental control apps, such as KidSecured. Analysing the online activity of your child, you can understand them better.
Apart from dealing with the goodbye part of the transition, try to create a detailed image of the new place. Tell about the new school, find out more about teachers to make your child less frightened of new people in their life. Maybe even show photos of the school premises. It will help to make changes less painful for your kid.
Saying Farewell To Old Friends
Leaving familiar surroundings also means saying goodbye to people who were part of the known environment. Teachers and friends your child got close to, will also make it harder to sever ties with old school.
Arranging a farewell party may help your child acknowledge the fact that transition is indeed happening. Invite some of the kid’s friends for BBQ or any other activity you prefer, and spend time reminiscing the good old days. Such gathering will leave both you and the child assured that the old friends would stay in your lives.
What if your child doesn’t have very pleasant memories of the old school? In that case, you both need to leave the past where it belongs and be happy about the changes that are about to happen. Plan a cosy dinner together with your child and let your little pumpkin express their honest thoughts on the transition. Maybe it’s something you both have been excited about?
Explore The New School Premises
There is no better cure for the fear than to look it in the eyes. That’s why to make the adjustment to new school less anxious, you could try helping the kid get acquainted with the building beforehand.
Take a tour of the school and discover whether there are parks, cafes or activity clubs nearby. Explore the surroundings and explain to your child how to get home from school. Show where the bus station is located if your kid needs to take the bus home or tell about other alternative routes they can choose. Make sure your child is familiar with the location and can find a safe way home.
You should also think about your kid’s usual way to school. The school administrator can tell you about carpools and provide you with phone numbers of the neighbours. It will also be best if you сan bring your child to school on the first day.
Introduce Your Child To Extra-Curricular Activities
Many schools have the selection of after classes activities for kids of all ages. Apart from regular sports games, such as football, gymnastics and swimming, kids can take part in subject-based activities and learn something fun.
Let your child express interest towards a particular subject or activity at school. If your child more of a creative thinker, consider signing them up for drama, art, music or cooking class. If you see that your child doesn’t move a lot, individual sports activities like dancing or karate may encourage your kid to be more active and help to reduce stress.
You may think that after-school classes are not what your overwhelmed child needs. But actually, such activities will help your kid to clear out their head and meet new friends. The thing is, studying doesn’t always let students talk to each other properly. On the other hand, the quality time spent together with other children will improve your kid’s social skills and help to adjust to the new environment faster.
Be Here For Your Child
Even if your child is a little prodigy, they may find it challenging to keep up the good work at the new school. Expect that the grades may change and your kid’s overall performance may be affected by the transition.
But you can help your child get back on track. The key is to show your support and understanding. For example, you can offer your help with homework and explain complicated topics in your own words. Even if you aren’t keen on biology or chemistry, you can google up some things and introduce your child to the easiest way of solving equations.
When the homework is done, both you and your child can enjoy quality family time together. You could do some DIY project, make a carrot cake (who doesn’t need some extra beta-carotene?) or grab some snacks and spend the evening watching Gilmore Girls or Stranger Things. By getting closer to your child, you’ll be able to develop a strong emotional bond and help your kid forget about stress and anxiety caused by the transition.
Adjustment is hard, but all kids manage to get accustomed to a new school. Different children need a different amount of time to adjust, so don’t speed up the process. You can also feel unsure, scared or worried about the sudden change in the life of your kid. But you are not alone. Being surrounded by a virtual community of other like-minded single mums, you will have everything under control. Just remember to have fun!