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Starting over after a divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when re-entering the dating world. For single mums, balancing self-care, parenting, and the pursuit of love is no small task. But with empowering dating advice for single mums, you can overcome obstacles, rebuild confidence, and take thoughtful steps toward finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
In this Beanstalk Mums Podcast episode, Laurie Gerber, a seasoned life and relationship coach, shares invaluable insights tailored to single mothers ready to embrace love again. Laurie has appeared on the Today Show, Dr, Phil, MTV and A & E and been the resident love expert at Match, Zoosk, Jdate, and many more.
She has been presenting to and coaching individuals, couples, and groups with a wide range of partners including: the dating sites above, General Assembly, She Tribe, BeSocialChange, IvyConnect, Ellevate, and many more. She has appeared on television shows, podcasts, radio shows, and all over the internet. Check out “The Secret-Free Diet”, her TedX talk on the power of truth-telling.
Here’s a look at Laurie’s key strategies and empowering advice.
Starting with You: The Divorce Detox
Before venturing into the dating scene, Laurie stresses the importance of self-work through a "divorce detox." This involves:
- Acknowledging lingering attachments to your ex.
- Clearing physical and mental spaces of their presence.
- Setting firm boundaries.
- Processing grief and anger.
- Prioritising self-care.
This foundational work ensures you’re emotionally ready for a fresh start.
Navigating Modern Dating
The dating landscape has shifted dramatically, especially with the rise of online platforms. Dating advice for single mums navigating the digital space includes:
- Approaching dating platforms with a clear purpose.
- Setting boundaries to avoid time-wasting matches.
- Using video chats as a quick, effective screening tool before meeting in person.
Laurie emphasises that successful dating starts with clarity. Define what you want in a partner—practical traits, emotional needs, and chemistry—and stick to your standards. She also highlights the value of using video chats as a pre-screening tool, saving time and energy before meeting potential partners in person.
The Three-Date Strategy
Laurie’s structured approach to dating involves evaluating compatibility through the “Three H’s”:
- Head – Practical alignment in life goals and values.
- Heart – Emotional connection and shared empathy.
- Hoo-ha – Chemistry and attraction.
If a potential partner doesn’t rate at least 8 out of 10 in all areas, it’s best to move on.
The Power of Community
Dating advice for single mums often overlooks the value of a supportive community. For single mums, dating can feel isolating. Laurie underscores the importance of being part of a supportive community where women can share experiences, seek advice, and hold each other accountable. This collective encouragement makes the journey less intimidating and more rewarding.
Building Confidence and Clarity
Re-entering the dating world often demands a mindset shift. Laurie suggests starting with self-reflection—understanding your desires and recognising your worth. Start small. attend social gatherings, practice online dating, and stay open to opportunities.
Remember, the most empowering dating advice for single mums is to prioritise self-love and clarity. By focusing on what you truly desire, you’ll attract the kind of relationship that complements your growth and happiness. Single mums model resilience and empowerment, and this strength can extend to finding a fulfilling relationship.
Closing Thoughts on Dating Advice for Single Mums
Re-entering the dating world as a single mum may seem intimidating, but it’s also an opportunity to rediscover yourself and build something meaningful. With a clear strategy, a supportive community, and practical dating advice for single mums, your journey to finding love can be as empowering as it is exciting.
Ready to Take the Leap?
Laurie’s free webinar, "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments", offers an excellent starting point. It’s packed with practical advice to help single mums approach dating with confidence, purpose, and an open heart.
During this webinar, you'll learn:
✓ How to be ready to date with intention in 30 days or less
✓ The #1 strategy for finding a compatible partner without the heartbreak of repeated disappointment
✓ Essential tips for effective communication, even about those tricky, awkward topics
✓ PLUS: The key to finding your soulmate in fewer dates!
REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinar
As Laurie beautifully puts it, “Love is foundational to life success.” With the right strategies and a supportive community, finding a partner who truly complements your journey is within reach!
Links for this episode:
🌸 "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments" - For more of Laurie’s expert dating advice, join her FREE webinar.
✨ https://lauriegerber.com — Laurie Gerber is an expert in the field of life and relationship coaching with over 20 years of experience coaching thousands of individuals and couples.
👯♀️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine — Ready to explore love again? The Beanstalk Mums community is here to cheer you on every step of the way!
🎙️ https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast — Have you got a love story to share? Drop us a voice message on our widget and who knows we might share your story on the next episode!
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