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Supporting Neurodivergent Children: Insights from Bec McKay on Beanstalk Mums Podcast
In this episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, I have the privilege of speaking with Bec McKay. Bec is a passionate advocate for neurodivergent children and their families. With over 20 years of experience in education and the disability sector, and as a homeschooling mother of three neurodivergent children, Bec shared invaluable insights into how we can best support these amazing kids and their families.
Bec’s Background and Approach
Bec brings a wealth of experience to the table. Her professional background spans over two decades in the education and disability sectors, where she has focused on a strength-based, empathetic approach to working with neurodivergent children. However, what makes her insights so relatable and powerful is her personal experience. As a homeschooling mum to three neurodivergent children, Bec’s understanding goes beyond theory—she lives this reality every day. She believes deeply that parents are their children’s greatest educators and advocates, and this philosophy guides her work and parenting approach.
Understanding Neurodivergent Behaviour
One of the key takeaways from Bec’s talk was her focus on understanding the behaviour of neurodivergent children. She emphasised that behaviours, often seen as misbehaviour, are, in fact, forms of communication. For example, meltdowns are not choices but physiological responses to overwhelming stimuli. Beck encouraged listeners to view sensory processing differences as a core aspect of how neurodivergent children experience the world.
It was particularly eye-opening when Bec pointed out that non-verbal children do not necessarily lack understanding and that many autistic children do not have intellectual disabilities—only 30-40% fall into that category. This was a call to reframe how we perceive neurodivergent children, focusing on their abilities rather than their limitations.
Supporting Neurodivergent Children: Strategies That Work
Bec provided practical advice on supporting neurodivergent children, focusing on positive reinforcement and high expectations. She urged parents and caregivers to focus on what they want to see in their children rather than what they don’t want. Visual supports, routines, and sensory regulation tools are critical in helping neurodivergent children feel safe and understood.
An empowering message Bec delivered was the importance of maintaining high expectations for these children. By doing so, we empower them to reach their fullest potential. She also reminded us to celebrate successes, no matter how small they seem, as every step forward is progress.
Advice for Parents: Self-Care and Asking for Help
Perhaps one of the most essential parts of the discussion was Bec’s advice for parents. She highlighted the necessity of self-care for those caring for neurodivergent children, noting that you cannot pour from an empty cup. Bec encouraged mums to ask for help when needed, take breaks, and understand that current challenges are temporary.
She also stressed the importance of co-regulation and connection with children, especially during tough moments. Having pre-planned calming activities in place can make all the difference when a child is experiencing sensory overload or emotional distress.
Final Thoughts on Supporting Our Neurodivergent Children
This episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast with Bec McKay was an insightful and heartwarming conversation. Bec’s empathy, expertise, and lived experience shine through as she reminds us of the incredible resilience of neurodivergent children and the importance of parental support. Whether you are a parent of a neurodivergent child or a caregiver looking to understand neurodivergence better, this episode is packed with advice, strategies, and hope.
For more support and resources, make sure to check out Beck McKay’s ongoing work with families and the neurodivergent community.
Links for this episode:
🌸 https://bit.ly/44NEbsn — Connect with Bec for a complimentary 1st consult.
✨ https://www.facebook.com/Bec.NeuroFlexible — Bec's dedicated FB page to all things Neurodiverse, a treasure trove of great resources, including her own FB group.
👯♀️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice.
🎙️ https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode.
You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to like and follow the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey!
