Being alone on Christmas Day can feel daunting, especially if we're surrounded by the pressures of the festivities and expectations of society (I'm talking about you, social media). But what if this could actually become one of your most memorable Christmas celebrations? As a single mum, I've faced a few Christmases by myself, and I promise, there are so many ways to make it special!
So, whether you are physically away from loved ones, living overseas, or just want to spend a different kind of December 25, here are some practical tips to help you upgrade a lonely day into something unforgettably fun!
Further reading: Navigating your first Christmas as a single mum
How to find joy when alone on Christmas Day
Create new traditions
Not all traditions have to involve a big gathering, some can be personal, even solitary. You could start the day by watching your favourite holiday movie or indulging in a lavish breakfast. What's great about it is you have your own timeline and you are free to do things your way! There’s something magical about creating your own habits that can be as cheesy or unique as you like.
Volunteer
Volunteering is one of the most fulfilling ways to celebrate Christmas. Many people find happiness in helping others during the holidays. When I first started to help at the nearby orphanage a few years ago, I didn't feel the loneliness at all. Instead, I built new connections with the kids and my fellow volunteers. Look for charities and organisations nearby that might interest you. I'm sure it will be a fulfilling experience.
Further reading: How volunteering can seriously help you mental health.
Eat something delicious
Who says Christmas isn’t the perfect excuse for some long-overdue me time? Being alone on Christmas Day doesn’t mean you can’t go out and enjoy yourself. Treat yourself to a Christmas lunch at a lovely restaurant or even catch a film at the cinema. Go somewhere you've been wanting to go but couldn't. You can even splurge a little! Besides, it's Christmas! Doing so might even bring the feeling of contentment. Remember, this time of year is about celebration, even if it's just you.
Create a playlist for the festive season
When loneliness at Christmas starts to creep in, music can be a great pick-me-up. Create a playlist with a couple of your go-to songs and dance around your living room! Let go of any concerns, blast those tunes, and go full party mode. The best part about it is you get to pick every song! Music has this incredible way of changing your mood and making you feel good even celebrating by yourself.
Bake your favourite treats
Nothing says Christmas like the smell of fresh-baked cookies or a delicious cake. Baking can be a therapeutic activity, and you get to enjoy every bite! You can bake mince pies, gingerbread, or something more adventurous. I don't know about you, but baking gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. And remember, there’s no pressure to share, it’s all for you! But if you want to share your baked goodies with neighbours, you can, too!
Read a good book or have a movie marathon
One of the best upsides to being alone at Christmas is the freedom to do exactly what you want. You finally have the time to read that novel you bought a long time ago or catch up on the latest episodes of your favourite Netflix series. Make it a day to escape from reality, whether it’s a Yuletide classic or something unrelated to the holidays. The beauty of it all is you can freely enjoy what you love without compromise, a cultural experience just for you!
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Self-reflection
It is indeed the most wonderful time of the year. And what better way to celebrate than by doing some self-reflection?
If you feel a little lonely, try taking a few quiet moments to list things you are grateful for. Maybe it's the simple happiness of sipping hot coffee, the sound of the birds outside, or even the opportunity for some solitude. Trust me, it can make a big difference.
Get crafty with DIY decorations
Who says you can’t decorate just because you are alone on Christmas Day? Pull out some DIY supplies and create your own ornaments or decorations. Crafting can be a joyful way to keep yourself busy. You might even end up with a beautifully decorated space that’s uniquely yours. I suggest hitting the nearest arts and crafts store weeks before to avoid the Christmas rush.
Pamper yourself with a home spa day
"Me time" will not be complete without rejuvenating yourself from head to toe. If your financial situation can't cater to a luxury salon, why not do it at home? Put on a face mask, take a warm bath, or try out some wellness and skincare products you’ve been saving. Christmas is as good a time as any to relax and treat yourself with compassion. It’s easy to forget self-care in the middle of the festive bustle, but remember how important it is to take care of yourself, especially when you are spending it alone.
Send messages to loved ones to be less lonely
Even though you are celebrating Christmas alone, sending a heartfelt message or two to loved ones can bridge the distance. Let them know you are thinking of them during this festive season, even if you are physically apart. This connection, even through a simple text or video call, can remind you of the people who care about you and vice versa.
Further reading: Surviving separation sadness if your kids are with dad on Christmas Day.
Enjoy a peaceful walk in nature
If the weight of solitude starts to creep in, try taking a walk outside. While everyone else is partying, you are getting a breath of fresh air and being one with nature. How cool is that!? Australia offers stunning natural landscapes, and a peaceful walk can make you feel connected to the world around you. Whether it’s a beach stroll, a park walk, or just enjoying the crisp December air, nature can offer peace and clarity during this time of year.
Final words: How to be alone on Christmas Day
Celebrating Christmas alone doesn’t have to feel sad. I remember my first solo Christmas after my divorce. My kids were spending the day with my ex and his relatives, so I had a whole day to myself. I won’t lie; the loneliness was intense at first. But as the day went on, I embraced the peace and solitude. I baked, watched a childhood holiday movie, and even treated myself to a home spa day. It became a day to improve my relationship with myself, and it was pure bliss.
The festive season can be challenging when you are alone, but it’s also an opportunity for self-love, new traditions, and contentment. So, if you’re spending Christmas solo this year, remember there are many ways to make it a day of happiness. Enjoy the freedom, pamper yourself, buy yourself a Christmas gift, and create a holiday that’s one of a kind. And remember, you’re not alone; many others are in the same situation. So grab the Baileys, pick your fav movie and enjoy like you did in your pre-kiddie years. May this be a wonderful time of the year for you. Merry Christmas!
