Don't you just love spring? This season always stirs something in me! I guess it’s the flowers blooming where there used to be bare branches, or the quiet nudge that it’s time to clear out the old and make space for the new. As single mums, trying to embrace change can feel like being asked to dance in shoes that don’t quite fit.
It’s awkward. Sometimes painful. And yet, so often, it’s where the growth happens.
This season, I’m learning not to fight change but to hold its hand, even when I don’t know where it’s leading. Change and growth really do go hand in hand, and when we choose to embrace change in our lives, something shifts in the best way.
What does it look like to embrace change as a mum
Embracing change doesn’t usually look graceful. I've learned that the hard way.
It looks like holding back tears in the pantry while your toddler is having a tantrum.
It’s adjusting bedtime routines after a move. It’s saying goodbye to the version of motherhood you thought you’d have.
But it’s also saying yes to what’s next, even when it’s different. Even when it’s hard.
Change is inevitable, and motherhood has taught me that resisting change only makes it heavier to carry. When we embrace change, we become resilient and open ourselves up to new possibilities we might not have imagined.
To embrace change as a mum is messy, brave, and ordinary all at once, and that’s precisely where growth and learning start to take root.
Small ways to stay grounded through big changes
We don’t always get to choose the process of change when our life shifts, but we can choose how we steady ourselves in it.
Here are a few small anchors that have helped me navigate change:
- A morning ritual (even if it’s just one quiet but strong cup of coffee before the kids wake up)
- A gratitude journal where I jot down small victories along the way
- Journaling through uncomfortable thoughts and feelings
- Walking barefoot on the grass as a reminder to stay grounded
These tiny acts don’t stop the waves, but they help me build resilience by teaching me to stay present. Change may feel overwhelming, but with simple practices, we can create a positive outlook and see the world in a new light.
Helping our kids embrace change gently
Children feel change too, even if they don’t always have the words for it. And as mums, we often carry the weight of their emotions alongside our own.
Here are some of the things that have helped us during huge life changes:
- Creating simple, familiar rituals (like a bedtime story that never changes)
- Naming the feelings together (“It’s okay to miss the old house.”)
- Keeping routines soft but steady
- Reminding them: “We’re in this together. You’re safe.”
Helping kids accept change takes patience, but it’s also an opportunity for growth for the whole family. Our kiddos learn adaptability when they see us model it, and they gain a deeper understanding of resilience by watching how we embrace challenges.
The importance of embracing change and clear goals
So, what is the importance of embracing change?
For one, it isn’t just about surviving hard times, but about welcoming change as a catalyst for personal growth and development.
Change means letting go of what no longer serves us. Yes, change can feel like stepping outside your comfort zone and into the unknown, but it’s also a chance to reframe the story we tell ourselves.
When we embrace change, we open up new opportunities for self-discovery and personal growth. And in this ever-evolving world, that adaptability is the boost we need to keep moving toward our best life.
Letting go and leaning into the new
Change often begins with loss, even if it’s a “good” change. Letting go of what was can hurt. But sometimes, we have to put down what no longer serves us so we can make space for new beginnings.
For me, letting go looked like:
- Saying goodbye to a job that drained me
- Allowing myself to feel a setback without labelling it as failure
- Letting go of limiting beliefs about what my future had to look like
And leaning in? It’s choosing to believe that something good might still be ahead, even if I can’t see it yet. That outlook on life is what turns change positively into a transformative journey of self-discovery.
5 tips for embracing change instead of fearing it
Here are 5 tips that have made the biggest difference for me:
- Reframe resistance to change. Instead of fearing it, remind yourself that change brings new opportunities.
- Set clear goals. Even a specific goal, like “I’ll try one new routine this week,” gives direction.
- Celebrate small victories. Every step counts when working toward personal and professional growth.
- Practice continuous learning. Whether it’s learning a new skill or simply reflecting in a gratitude journal, lifelong learning helps us grow.
- Stay open to new situations. A willingness to adapt makes unforeseen challenges feel less daunting.
But hey, these aren’t quick fixes, just actionable steps that open the door to positive transformation. And if you’d love even more practical tools to make change feel lighter, you’ll find them inside the Single Mum Hack’s Vault.
Embrace change one step at a time
If you’re facing a season of change right now — whether big or small — you don’t need to figure it all out at once.
Start with one small step.
Embracing change doesn’t mean liking it. It means choosing not to stay stuck. It means trusting that even in uncertainty, you are still the anchor your children need.
When we accept change as part of life, we give ourselves the grace to see it as an opportunity for self-improvement, not a punishment.
What change often teaches us
Most of the time, change teaches us that impermanence is the only constant. While it can feel scary, impermanence also brings with it new possibilities, space for new growth, and a deeper sense of who we are becoming.
The willingness to adapt throughout the process of change is what helps us find change positively influencing our outlook on life.
Remember, we can't make a change overnight, so let's embrace change in our lives as an opportunity for self-improvement.
Final thoughts: Embrace changes and a growth mindset
Change is necessary, and yes, it brings both loss and possibility; but it also reminds us that growth often begins in the unknown. As mums, embracing change as an opportunity gives us adaptability and resilience to overcome challenges, even when the path feels uncertain. Welcoming change opens the door to new opportunities and growth and development, while the impermanence of life invites us to create a positive, transformative outlook.
When I first became a single mum, I thought I had to have it all figured out straight away. But for weeks, everything felt messy and uncertain. One night, I was staring at the budget and wondering how I’d make it work. It felt overwhelming, but I told myself to just focus on the next right step — one bill paid, one day at a time. Slowly, things started to shift. I got better at asking for help and permitting myself to rest without guilt.
That’s what I’ve learned about change — even uncomfortable thoughts and feelings can become a catalyst for personal development when we cultivate resilience and allow ourselves to sit with them.
It’s not about doing everything at once. It’s about small, quiet steps that build strength. And before you know it, you look back and realise you’ve grown through it.
