Sometimes it can be difficult to get your young child to calm down or stop throwing a tantrum at the local supermarket. All parents know how uncomfortable that situation can be, but they push through it for the love of their children and, of course, because they have to. So when you find yourself in that tricky spot, here are some tips to help you resolve it quickly.
When your child is acting out, it is important not to cave in and give in to their demands. This may not seem like the easiest way out of the situation, but if you surrender to their bad behaviour, it will happen repeatedly. With this tactic, your child will know that they cannot manipulate you with their tantrum. So stay strong, plant your feet and give them a firm ‘no’. Do not back down or waver – just ride it out until they eventually give up.
Remain calm and collected
Patience is key when you find yourself stuck in a showdown with a toddler. Before taking such a firm stance, it’s always good to try a softer approach by speaking to them calmly and gently. Try showing them love and affection; hopefully, this will get them to forget all about the thing they were throwing a fit over. If this doesn’t work, then you should take a serious approach, but never yell or shout; it only adds to the fire. A calm head will win this battle, and never forget that you are the adult here.
Sometimes just let it happen
Many parents try to speak to their children as a tantrum is happening. This is not highly recommended because tantrums usually block most young children from thinking rationally or understanding what their parents are saying. If you were crying or acting hysterically, would you be able to think rationally? Sometimes it’s just best to remove your child from the situation, let them go through the emotions, and then try talking to them about their behaviour afterward. Remember to explain just why what they did was not okay when they’ve calmed down.
Be aware of the triggers
Try to remember or write down what usually sets your child off with their tantrums. Is it toys, or could it be when they are hungry or thirsty? Make notes and remember these things to be better prepared to handle the tantrum in the future. It will also let you know how to handle your child better and develop a routine to minimise these tantrums and eliminate the stress you might have to deal with. Parenting isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be a terrible experience.
Get help if they continue
Many places can help your child overcome their behaviour problems if they continue. Usually, you should seek help if tantrums continue after the age of four, courses and other programs are always available: Is your child eligible for community education and youth grants in Australia? Don’t hesitate to find help, especially if physical aggression is frequent.
Raising a child isn’t easy, but knowing what to do during a tantrum can help. Use these tips the next time your child has a tantrum