# Beanstalk Mums > Supporting Single Mums > Generated by All in One SEO Pro v5.0.3, this is an llms-full.txt file, used by LLMs to index the site. ## Posts ### [Practical Halloween Survival Guide for Parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/) **Published:** September 27, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Excerpt:** Halloween survival guide for single mums in Australia. Trick-or-treating solo, co-parenting on a Saturday, button battery, & safety. Plan your night. **Content:** Halloween lands on a Saturday this year. If you’re the only grown-up on duty, the whole night sits with you. Costumes, routes, lolly rules, whose house the kids are even at. A lot of Halloween survival guides are written as if there are two adults to split that load. For single mums in Australia, it helps to settle three things early. Pick your plan (trick-or-treating, a small get-together or a night in). Sort out who has the kids if you co-parent. And set two safety rules. Hands held at every road, and no treats eaten until they’re checked at home. That’s the Halloween survival guide in short. **Quick Takeaways:** - **Daylight saving changes the night.** Clocks go forward, so trick-or-treating there often happens in daylight. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t change their clocks, so it gets dark earlier. - **Hands at every road.** Raising Children Network says kids need active adult supervision around roads and driveways until about 11-12. - **Button batteries need fast action.** If you think your child has swallowed one from a light-up toy, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away, day or night. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), single mum of one and BSM contributor ![Kids wearing halloween costumes sitting on the porch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/In-article-images-2025-10-14t145225%20826-e1790223492594.jpg "Halloween costume ideas - Beanstalk Mums")## **What Makes Halloween in Australia a Bit Different?** In Australia, Halloween lands in spring. That means warmer nights, longer daylight in most states, and streets where plenty of houses don’t join in at all. A full-body costume with a mask is a lot for a six-year-old on a warm spring evening. Pack water, and if you’re heading out before sunset, grab hats and sunscreen as well. Then there’s the etiquette. In most Australian streets, a decorated house or a lit pumpkin at the door means they’re happy to see trick-or-treaters. No decorations usually means skip it. Many local community pages online share which streets are joining in, which saves little legs a lot of walking. Kids often ask why we do this at all, and it’s a fun one to answer together. Halloween grew out of Samhain, an old Celtic festival marking the end of the harvest. Other countries have their own versions, like Day of the Dead in Mexico in early November. When that sparks a “can we go there one day?”, [Skyscanner](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/55Ng7j) is a good place to start dreaming up a future family trip. ## **How Do You Take the Kids Trick-or-Treating on Your Own?** Keep the group together and keep the route short. With one adult and kids of different ages, the plan has to suit the youngest and slowest, not the keenest. I’ve done the lap where one child wants to sprint ahead and the other wants to be carried home after four houses. You can’t split up when you’re the only adult, so a few decisions before you leave make the whole night calmer. 1. Pick the route together at home, and keep it to a loop of streets you know. 2. Agree on a meeting spot, like a particular letterbox, in case anyone gets separated. 3. Give older kids a job, such as holding the torch or carrying the spare bag, so they feel in charge of something. 4. Set a finish time before you leave, while everyone’s still cheerful. 5. Bring the pram or carrier for little ones, even if they swear they’ll walk the whole way. Teaming up helps more than any gadget. Another mum from school, a neighbour, your sister, a friend with kids the same age. With two adults, one can walk with the slowcoach while the other keeps up with the runners. A small get-together is a good middle ground if a street-by-street lap isn’t your thing. There are plenty of [alternatives to trick-or-treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/) that still feel like a proper night, and sharing the hosting with another family halves the effort. ## **Halloween Safety Tips That Actually Matter** Three habits do most of the work. Hold hands near roads, check anything with a battery, and don’t let anyone eat on the go. I used to think glow sticks were the safety plan. Actually, that’s not quite right. Glow sticks help drivers see kids, but they don’t stop a small person stepping out between parked cars. Your hand does. Raising Children Network says children [need active adult supervision](https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/safety/car-pedestrian-safety/pedestrian-safety) around roads, driveways and car parks until about 11-12. That includes the ones who know all the rules. So for most primary schoolers, you’re walking with them and holding hands at every crossing. For older kids heading out with friends, a charged phone, a set route and a check-in time is a sensible middle step. Take a proper torch. It keeps your phone free and charged for check-in texts. Stop at every driveway. Cars reverse out on Halloween night while kids cut across front lawns, and small bodies are hard to see. Check anything that lights up. Flashing necklaces, wands and costume accessories can run on button batteries, so make sure the battery cover is screwed shut. Mandatory button battery safety standards have applied in Australia since June 2022, but the ACCC has still flagged products sold online that may not comply. Know what to do if one’s swallowed. The ACCC’s [button battery advice](https://www.productsafety.gov.au/consumers/be-safe-around-the-home/safely-use-batteries-and-technology/button-batteries-guide) is to call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 immediately, day or night, without waiting for symptoms. Don’t let your child eat or drink, and don’t try to make them vomit. Glow sticks are for holding. The liquid inside can sting eyes, mouths and skin, so bin any that crack or leak and rinse any splashes with water. Choose face paint over masks for little ones. Masks slip, block side vision and get hot fast. ![Mum taking three kids of different ages trick-or-treating solo, stopping at a driveway at dusk](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/1-mum-taking-three-kids-of-different-ages-trick-or-treating-solo-stopping-at-a-driveway-at-dusk.webp "1-mum-taking-three-kids-of-different-ages-trick-or-treating-solo-stopping-at-a-driveway-at-dusk - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Whose Night Is It? Halloween When You Co-Parent** Start with your parenting arrangements, and follow them where they cover special occasions. Where Halloween isn’t mentioned, sort it out early, because this year it falls on a weekend. Saturday 31 October means Halloween lands with whichever parent has that weekend. For some families, that’s easy. For others, it means the kids trick-or-treat at the other house, in a street you don’t know, with lolly rules that aren’t yours. A [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) can cover school holidays, birthdays, Christmas and other special occasions. Halloween isn’t always named, so check yours before you assume either way. These help, whatever your arrangement. - Ask early and keep it about the kids. A two-line message in early October is easier on everyone than a tense call on the Thursday before. - When the kids are at the other house on the night, have your own Halloween the evening before. Dress-ups, pumpkin pancakes for dinner, a movie that’s scary but not too scary, and an early night. Kids rarely complain about getting two. - Agree on one or two basics across both homes, like a finish time and checking treats before eating. It doesn’t need to go further than that. - If contact with the other parent doesn’t feel safe, don’t negotiate anything new. Stick to your existing arrangements or orders and your usual way of communicating. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is there any time if you want to talk it through. ## **Lollies, Allergies and the Sugar Question** Set the treat rules before you leave the house, then check everything at home before anyone eats it. That one habit covers allergies, choking risks for little ones and most of the lolly fights. Kids with food allergies need a bit more planning. [Allergy & Anaphylaxis Australia](https://allergyfacts.org.au/halloween-and-food-allergy/) suggests a no-eating-while-trick-or-treating rule. Then sort the haul at home into can-have and can’t-have piles. They also recommend taking your child’s adrenaline injector and ASCIA Action Plan with you. At your own front door, non-food treats like stickers or temporary tattoos mean every kid who knocks can join in. Everyone says ration the lollies. Put the bag up high, hand out one a day for a month. In our house, that turned into a nightly negotiation I didn’t have the energy for. What works better for us is one big, happy Halloween night and a handful the next day. Then the bag goes in the pantry and mostly gets forgotten. Every family’s different, and if your child has diabetes, allergies or dental concerns, go with your GP’s or specialist’s advice. A proper dinner before you head out helps too, so the lolly bag isn’t the main meal. Fruit monsters are still my go-to: apple slices with sunflower-seed teeth and a strawberry tongue. Big W stocks [healthier snacks](https://bigw.sjv.io/2aNrn0) that work for a party platter or the drive home, if you’d rather grab something ready-made. There are more [easy Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) ideas if you want to go all out on a spooky dinner. ![Close-up of hands using a screwdriver to assemble an orange gear-like wheel on a wooden work surface, with purple cords nearby.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/2-mum-checking-the-battery-cover-on-a-light-up-halloween-necklace-for-button-battery-safety.webp "2-mum-checking-the-battery-cover-on-a-light-up-halloween-necklace-for-button-battery-safety - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Staying Home Is a Real Option** If you’re hosting this year, it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Here are some Halloween party planning ideas that will help you decorate, A night in counts as a proper Halloween. Plenty of Australian households skip trick-or-treating completely, and for a lot of kids, dressing up is the best bit anyway. Pumpkin bowling down the hallway with empty bottles, a torch-lit scavenger hunt, a blanket fort and a spooky-but-silly movie. That’s a full night. I won’t list every game here, because there are ten [kids Halloween games](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/kids-halloween-games/) that work in an ordinary lounge room. Kids who love making things can haunt one room of their own. Paper bats, cotton-wool cobwebs, a toilet-roll mummy or two. Big W sells [craft kits](https://bigw.sjv.io/5k00V1) with the bits in one box, so you’re not hunting for googly eyes at 6pm. And some kids just don’t like Halloween. The doorbell going every few minutes, strangers in masks. That’s allowed. Turn the front light off, pop a note on the letterbox if you like, and have a quiet night in. If your child is neurodivergent and big events tend to end in overwhelm, [a0 neurodivergent parent coach](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/neuroflexible-parent-neurodivergent-parent-coach/) can help you plan around them. ## **Doing Halloween on One Income** Most of Halloween can come out of the wardrobe and the pantry. Spend where it saves you time or tears, and skip the rest. Costumes are the easiest place to save. A black outfit and eyeliner whiskers make a cat. Cut eye holes in an old sheet (big enough to see the footpath) and you’ve got a ghost. Pirates need little more than a striped top and a cardboard sword. There’s a longer list of [easy kids costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) with plenty of DIY picks. When there’s no time at all, the [affordable range of costumes](https://bigw.sjv.io/3JNP5A) at Big W is an easy fallback. The one place I wouldn’t skimp is comfort. A costume that itches, drags on the ground or slips over their eyes usually ends the night early, whatever it cost. And you’re allowed a treat too. [ActiveSkin](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.activeskin.com.au%2Fbuy%2Fwrinkles-schminkles-eye-smoothing-kit%2F) stocks an eye smoothing kit, a set of reusable silicone pads you wear overnight, for a bit of pampering once the kids are finally asleep. The next morning, blend a plant-based chocolate protein powder into a smoothie for a [Halloween treat for mums](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.activeskin.com.au%2Fbuy%2Fwelleco-nourishing-protein-chocolate-300g-refill%2F). It’s the one that doesn’t come out of the kids’ bags. ![Kinship carer and kids sorting Halloween treats into two bowls to check for allergies at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/3-kinship-carer-and-kids-sorting-halloween-treats-into-two-bowls-to-check-for-allergies-at-home.webp "3-kinship-carer-and-kids-sorting-halloween-treats-into-two-bowls-to-check-for-allergies-at-home - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Night Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect** Doing Halloween as the only grown-up means every call is yours, from the route to the lolly rules to what happens if it pours. That’s a lot of small decisions on top of an ordinary week. The kids won’t remember whether the costume came from the dress-up box or a shop, or how many houses you got to. They’ll remember you walking beside them with the torch, holding their hand at every crossing. So if you take one thing from this Halloween survival guide, let it be this. Pick the version of the night that fits your energy this year, and enjoy it with them. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What should a Halloween survival guide for single mums cover?** The big three are a plan for the night, sorting out co-parenting arrangements if the kids live across two homes, and simple safety rules for roads and treats. Halloween 2026 falls on Saturday 31 October, so weekend care arrangements matter more than usual. **What age can kids go trick-or-treating without an adult?** Raising Children Network says children need active adult supervision around roads, driveways and car parks until about 11-12 years old. Older kids can go with a group of friends, a charged phone, a set route and a check-in time. **Is Halloween on a weekend in 2026?** Yes, Halloween 2026 falls on Saturday 31 October. If you co-parent, check whose weekend it is early and agree on plans well before the week of Halloween. **When does it get dark on Halloween in Australia?** It depends on your state, because daylight saving starts on 4 October 2026 in NSW, Victoria, SA, Tasmania and the ACT and keeps evenings light. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t change their clocks, so it gets dark earlier there. **How do I keep Halloween safe for a child with food allergies?** Allergy & Anaphylaxis Australia suggests a no-eating-while-trick-or-treating rule, then sorting treats at home into can-have and can’t-have piles. Take your child’s adrenaline injector and ASCIA Action Plan with you on the night. **What should I do if my child swallows a button battery?** Call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away, day or night, and don’t wait for symptoms. Don’t let your child eat or drink, and don’t try to make them vomit. **What’s the most important tip in a Halloween survival guide?** Settle the plan early and tell the kids what the night will look like, so there are fewer surprises. On the night, hold hands at every road and check treats before anyone eats them. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween --- ### [10 Ways To Relieve Menstrual Heartburn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/relieve-menstrual-heartburn/) **Published:** October 27, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Menstrual heartburn often flares around your period. Try these 10 practical fixes, check whether your pain tablets play a part, & learn when to see a GP. **Content:** It’s 9.40pm. The kids are finally asleep and you ate dinner standing at the bench. Now menstrual heartburn is creeping up behind your breastbone, and your period is due in two days. There’s no one to hand the night over to, so the call on what to do next is yours. I’ve had that exact night more times than I can count. **The short answer is that most of what helps costs nothing. Eat your bigger meal earlier and take period pain tablets with food. Stay upright for a few hours after eating, and raise the head of your bed. A pharmacist can help you pick an antacid for the bad nights. If heartburn turns up twice a week or more, see your GP. And if you ever have chest pain and aren’t sure it’s heartburn, call 000.** **Quick Takeaways** - **Timing does the heavy lifting.** The healthdirect advice is to wait 3 hours after eating before lying down. An earlier, smaller dinner makes that easy. - **Check your period pain tablets.** Heartburn and indigestion are listed side effects of ibuprofen. Take it with food, and ask your pharmacist about other options. - **Peppermint can make it worse.** It’s on healthdirect’s list of common heartburn triggers, even though many period guides recommend it. - **Know when to get help.** Heartburn 2 times a week or more is a GP visit. Chest pain you’re unsure about is a 000 call. Good to knowThis article is general health information only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Please speak with your GP or pharmacist about your symptoms, and before starting, stopping, or changing any medication. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![diagram of stomach acid rising into the oesophagus, the cause of menstrual heartburn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2-what-is-menstrual-heartburn-acid-reflux-diagram-1192x800.webp "2-what-is-menstrual-heartburn-acid-reflux-diagram - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****************What Is Menstrual Heartburn?**************** Menstrual heartburn is heartburn that flares in the days before or during a period. It feels like a burning pain behind the breastbone that can rise towards your throat. It happens when stomach acid comes back up into the oesophagus, the tube between your mouth and stomach. For many women, it settles once their period ends. It’s the same [reflux anyone can get](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/symptoms/heartburn). The difference is the timing, and that pattern is your best clue. This guide sticks to the cycle-linked kind. It doesn’t cover heartburn in pregnancy or long-term reflux treatment, because those need advice from your own GP or midwife. ## ************Why Does Heartburn Flare Before Your Period?************ Nobody knows for sure. Most period guides blame the hormone progesterone, but the evidence is thinner than they let on. Progesterone relaxes smooth muscle. That’s one reason heartburn is so common in pregnancy, when progesterone stays very high for months. The theory is that the smaller monthly rise loosens the valve at the top of your stomach too. But researchers tested this in 19 healthy women. They found no real difference in that valve, or in acid levels, between the two halves of the cycle. That’s one small, older study, and plenty of women notice a clear monthly pattern. It just means hormones probably aren’t the whole story. I used to think period heartburn was simply something my hormones did to me. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. The better way to think about it is that period week changes how I eat, sleep and take medicine. Those changes can set off reflux. Look at what’s different in your own week: - Cravings for chocolate, chips and greasy takeaway, which are common triggers. - [Period pain tablets](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/ibuprofen) like ibuprofen, taken on an empty stomach. - Bloating and constipation, which leave your tummy full and tight. - Broken sleep, which tends to push dinner later and make it bigger. The upside is that you can change most of those. ![head of the bed raised on wooden blocks to help with menstrual heartburn at night](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/3-raise-head-of-bed-blocks-heartburn-relief-1192x800.webp "3-raise-head-of-bed-blocks-heartburn-relief - Beanstalk Mums") ## **************10 Ways To Relieve Menstrual Heartburn at Home************** These start with the changes that cost nothing and finish with a pharmacy visit. Pick two or three to try this cycle, rather than all ten at once. ### **************1. Eat Your Main Meal With the Kids************** Make the 5.30pm meal the big one, and sit down for it. A small snack later is far gentler than a full plate at 9pm. The healthdirect advice is to wait 3 hours before lying down after a meal. That’s only realistic when dinner is early. A stash of [kid-friendly freezer meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-kid-friendly-freezer-meals/) makes early dinners doable on the nights you’re running on empty. ### **************2. Go Smaller and Slower in the Evening************** Large meals are one of the most common heartburn triggers. In period week, I halve my evening serve and keep toast or a banana for later. Eating slowly helps too. Funny advice, I know, when dinner happens between bath time and the fourth request for water. ### ****************3. Could Your Period Pain Tablets Be Part of It?**************** This is the one most period heartburn guides leave out. The healthdirect website lists heartburn and indigestion among the side effects of ibuprofen. Ibuprofen is one of the most common period pain medicines. Taking it on an empty stomach before the school run can start your day with a burning chest. Take it with food, and ask your pharmacist whether paracetamol might suit you instead. Don’t stop a prescribed medicine without checking with your doctor first. If period pain sends you to the tablets every single cycle, raise that with your GP too. Our guide to [endometriosis or PCOS](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/endometriosis-vs-pcos-whats-the-difference/) explains two common causes of painful or irregular periods. ### ******************4. Is Peppermint Tea Helping or Hurting?****************** Plenty of period articles recommend peppermint tea for heartburn. It’s a lovely cuppa, but peppermint sits on healthdirect’s own list of common heartburn triggers. If a warm drink is your wind-down ritual, try a non-mint herbal tea instead and see how you go. ### ********************5. Keep the Coffee, Change the Timing******************** Some guides say to give up coffee and chocolate until your period ends. For a mum who was up twice last night, that advice mostly distracts from the bigger picture. Coffee is a known trigger, so try having your cup earlier in the day, with food. Keep the morning coffee that gets you going, and let the 3pm top-up go in period week. ### **********************6. Raise the Head of Your Bed********************** Lifting the head end of your bed, so you’re raised from the waist up, is on healthdirect’s list of fixes. Extra pillows usually don’t work, because they bend you at the neck instead. Sturdy blocks under the head-end bed legs, or a foam wedge under the mattress, do the job. Some doctors also suggest sleeping on your left side. The evidence is modest, but it costs nothing to try. ### ************************7. Ease the Bloat************************ Bloating and constipation are common around a period, and a tight, full tummy can make reflux feel worse. Loose waistbands help. So do water, fibre and a gentle walk earlier in the day, rather than anything vigorous after dinner. Our ideas for [finding time to exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) can help on a full day. ### **************************8. Give Stress Somewhere To Go************************** Gut symptoms and mood seem to travel together around a period. One study of 156 women found those with low mood or anxiety around their period were more likely to report several gut symptoms. Period week can be the week everything feels heavier. Five minutes on the back step with a cuppa, or a [quick nervous system reset](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers/), gives your body a chance to settle before bed. If low mood hangs around well past period week, Beyond Blue is on 1300 22 4636. ### ****************************9. Track Two or Three Cycles**************************** Jot down the days you get heartburn, what you ate and any tablets you took. After two or three cycles, you’ll know whether it follows your period or just pizza night. You already track school notes and who needs what by Friday. This list is shorter, and it hands your GP a clear pattern. ### ******************************10. Ask Your Pharmacist About the Right Antacid****************************** For mild, occasional heartburn, an antacid neutralises stomach acid and can bring quick relief. Your pharmacist can help you choose one that suits you and any other medicines you take. Stronger acid-reducing medicines are sold in low doses at pharmacies too. The healthdirect guidance is to keep these short term. Using them for longer than recommended, usually more than 8 weeks, can raise the risk of side effects. ![single mum asking a pharmacist which antacid suits her period heartburn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/4-pharmacist-antacid-advice-menstrual-heartburn.webp "4-pharmacist-antacid-advice-menstrual-heartburn - Beanstalk Mums") ## ************Is It Heartburn or Your Heart?************ If you have chest pain and you’re not sure which it is, call 000 and ask for an ambulance. The healthdirect advice is to call straight away if chest pain is severe, getting worse or has lasted 10 minutes. This matters more for women than most heartburn guides admit. Chest pain is still the most common sign. But the Heart Foundation says women are more likely than men to have other [heart attack warning signs](https://heartfoundation.org.au/your-heart/heart-attack-warning-signs). These include nausea, shortness of breath, cold sweats, tiredness, or pain in the jaw, shoulders, arms or back. Too often, those get brushed off as indigestion. Some heartburn guides only flag chest pain in people over 50. Age raises the risk, but it isn’t a cut-off. When you’re the only adult in the house, it’s tempting to wait it out so you don’t wake the kids. Please make the call anyway. A [list of emergency contacts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/emergency-contacts-fridge/) on the fridge, including someone who can come over fast, makes that call quicker. ## **************When Should You See a GP?************** See your GP if heartburn turns up 2 times a week or more. The same goes if pharmacy medicines aren’t helping, or you’re relying on them often. That’s healthdirect’s guidance, period or no period. Book in sooner if you notice: - weight loss you can’t explain - ongoing tiredness - trouble or pain when swallowing - vomiting, especially if there’s blood in it Bring your cycle notes and mention any period pain medicines. If you’re in your 40s and your periods are changing, say that too. Not sure if it can wait? The free healthdirect line, 1800 022 222, has registered nurses available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. In Victoria it’s called NURSE-ON-CALL. If getting to a GP feels impossible when you’re the sick one, our [sick single mum guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide/) has ways to cover the gaps. ![infographic of heart attack warning signs in women that can feel like heartburn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/5-heart-attack-warning-signs-women-vs-heartburn.webp "5-heart-attack-warning-signs-women-vs-heartburn - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****************The One Thing To Try This Month**************** If you only change one thing, make it the time you eat. An earlier, smaller dinner protects the 3 hours your stomach needs before you lie down, and it costs nothing. Menstrual heartburn is one more thing landing on a plate that’s already full. You don’t have to fix all ten things this month. Pick one, notice what changes, and let your notes do the talking at your next GP visit. You know your body and your week better than any list does. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **Is menstrual heartburn normal?** Gut changes around a period are common, and one study found 73% of 156 women had at least one gut symptom before or during their period. Heartburn that settles when your period ends is usually manageable at home, but see a GP if it happens 2 times a week or more. **Why does menstrual heartburn start before my period?** Progesterone usually gets the blame, but a small study of 19 healthy women found no real change in the stomach valve or acid levels across the cycle. Cravings, later dinners, bloating and period pain tablets may play a bigger part. **Can ibuprofen cause heartburn?** Yes, healthdirect lists heartburn and indigestion among the possible side effects of ibuprofen. Taking it with food can help, and your pharmacist can tell you whether paracetamol might suit you instead. **Is peppermint tea good for heartburn?** Peppermint is on healthdirect’s list of common heartburn triggers, so it may make heartburn worse. If you want a warm drink at night, try a non-mint herbal tea and notice how you feel. **When is chest pain an emergency?** Call 000 and ask for an ambulance if chest pain is severe, getting worse or has lasted 10 minutes. If you’re unsure whether it’s heartburn or your heart, call 000 anyway. **When should I see a GP about menstrual heartburn?** See your GP if it happens 2 times a week or more, or if pharmacy medicines aren’t helping. Book in sooner if you have unexplained weight loss, trouble swallowing or vomiting. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/relieve-menstrual-heartburn/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/relieve-menstrual-heartburn/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Pool Pump Running Costs: How to Cut Your Power Bill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/pool-pump-running-costs-how-to-cut-your-power-bill/) **Published:** October 22, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When you are running a household on one income, [every bill gets looked at twice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/). Groceries, school costs, petrol and rent or the mortgage all come first, and the power bill is usually the one that lands with a thud. If there is a pool in the backyard, there is a good chance a big chunk of that bill is coming from one place most of us never think about: the pool pump. Ask most pool owners what their pump costs to run and they will guess a couple of hundred dollars a year. For an older pump the real figure is often closer to a thousand. ## **Why the pool pump costs so much Most older pools have a single speed pump. It has one setting, flat out, whether it is doing a big clean or just quietly turning the water over on a Tuesday afternoon. A 1.5 horsepower single speed pump running seven hours a day, which is a normal summer setting in New South Wales, uses about 2,800 kilowatt hours a year. At current Sydney prices that is roughly $900 a year, or more than $220 a quarter, before you have turned on a light or the washing machine. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-9.png "pool pump running costs - Beanstalk Mums") That is often more than the fridge, the dryer and the TV put together. In a lot of homes it is the single biggest thing on the bill after heating and cooling. ## **What a $700 a year saving looks like A newer variable speed pump does the same job very differently. It runs slowly for most of the day and only speeds up when the pool actually needs it. Because the power a pump uses drops away sharply as it slows down, running at half speed uses roughly an eighth of the power. The same pool that cost about $900 a year to run costs around $190 with a 6 star variable speed pump on a sensible schedule. For a single parent budget, a saving of around $700 a year is real money. It is: - roughly $58 a month back in your pocket, every month - a term of swimming lessons, or most of a year of school excursions - a quarterly power bill that is around $175 smaller Savings usually land between $500 and $1,100 a year depending on the size of the pool and how long the old pump was set to run. The new pumps are also much quieter, which you notice straight away if a bedroom sits near the pool. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/1000062882-e1792629399979-1065x800.png "pool pump running costs - Beanstalk Mums")*a quiet variable speed pool pump in sydney installed by efficient energy group under the nsw pool pump rebate* ## **The cost of switching, and the rebate that covers most of it The catch has always been the up front price. A good variable speed pump costs $990 to $1,890 to buy, and pool shops typically charge $1,500 to $2,500 installed. When you are watching every dollar, that is a hard number to find, even when you know it pays off. What many NSW families do not know is that the state’s Energy Savings Scheme now covers a large part of that cost when an old single speed pump is replaced by an accredited provider. It is not a form you fill in and wait for a cheque. The discount comes straight off the installed price, so you only ever pay the reduced amount. Done through an accredited installer, a [pool pump replacement](https://www.efficientenergygroup.com.au/pool-pump-replacement/) with a 6 star 2.0 horsepower variable speed pump comes to $899 installed across Sydney, the Central Coast, Newcastle, the Hunter and the South Coast. That includes the pump, installation, setting it up for your pool and taking the old pump away. At $899 against a saving of around $700 a year, the pump pays for itself in about 15 months. After that, the saving is yours for the ten or more years the pump keeps running. ## **Who can get it - You live in NSW and you are replacing an existing pool pump. A brand new pool’s first pump does not qualify. - If you own your home, you can go ahead directly. - If you rent, the owner needs to agree. It is worth asking: the pump belongs to the property, and a landlord who pays for the pool equipment may well be happy to replace it at this price. - Eligibility is checked before anyone comes out, usually from three photos of your current pump and a recent power bill. The bill is only used for the meter number and address. Some councils add their own rebate on top. Randwick refunds 50 per cent up to $250 on pumps installed in the previous 12 months, and Ku-ring-gai pays $250 on pumps bought after 1 July 2026 with pre approval. Those are claimed from the council after the install. ## **Is your pump the problem? Three quick checks 1. **Age.** If the pump is more than eight years old, it is almost certainly single speed. 2. **Your bills.** If your summer power bills jump by $200 to $300 a quarter compared with winter and nothing else has changed, the pump is the likely cause. 3. **Noise.** If you can hear it clearly from inside the house, it is running flat out. If two of those sound familiar, the swap is close to free money. And if the old pump has started tripping the power or leaking, a repair call out at $80 to $150 is money better put towards the replacement. ## **Free things you can do today Even before changing the pump, check the timer. Many are still set to the builder’s settings from years ago, running eight or ten hours a day in winter as well as summer. Cutting winter run time to match the cooler months costs nothing. Keep the pump basket and filter clean too, because a blocked filter makes the pump work harder for every hour it runs. Pool season starts in earnest in late October. Swap the pump before the first heatwave and the first summer’s saving does most of the paying. The full steps and current pricing are on [Efficient Energy Group’s pool pump page](https://www.efficientenergygroup.com.au/pool-pump-replacement/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/pool-pump-running-costs-how-to-cut-your-power-bill/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/pool-pump-running-costs-how-to-cut-your-power-bill/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Buying diet shakes in Australia (our favs and tips from a health expert)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/top-10-diet-shakes-specials/) **Published:** January 31, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Many people swear by diet shakes as part of their diet regime. They can eliminate the fuss of making a meal whilst providing the vitamins and minerals you need to get you through the day. Whether you’re looking for diet shakes for a quick weight loss fix, or you’re looking for a long-term solution to keep you trim, there is heaps of choice available. Some would say too much! What I like most about diet shakes is that they take away the meal prep. The less I am around food, the less I want it. Even preparing a low calorie meal makes me hungry. With the shakes, you can just whizz them and get outta the kitchen! I’ve broken it down and found the best diet shakes on the market right now. Plus, I’ve included all the facts you need to compare and pick the right diet shake for you. **Exciting new addition to article:** Since first writing this article a few years ago, I’ve discovered new diet shakes so I’ve left in my favourites and swapped some out for my top newcomers to the shake market. And, because what we put in our bodies is so important, I’ve enlisted the help of Catherine Gervacio from the [E-Health Project](https://www.ehproject.org/), a highly regarded US-based online provider of Health News and Medical Research updates, to explain the following: - What to consider before using shakes to lose weight - How to make diet shakes work for you - How to choose the right diet shake for your health goals Other than being a registered dietitian, and a certified exercise nutrition coach, Catherine is experienced in helping women (mostly) achieve their health and wellness goals. With years of practice, including meal planning, nutrition consultation, and accountability coaching, she’s the perfect person to provide the facts we need about these shakes. After all, I can tell you which diet shakes in Australia I love but professional advice is super important when it comes to our personal health goals … especially when the aim is to create a healthier version of ourselves. ***Want to diet but shakes don’t cut it for you? Have a look at: [The best diet programs in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/).*** ## **What to consider before using shakes to lose weight** Over to Catherine for this one. She says: The nutritional content of the diet shakes should be considered most importantly! It’s best to look for options that provide a balance of macronutrients (carbohydrates, protein, and fats) with essential vitamins and minerals. Also, consider what you truly need. Are you wanting to lose weight? Tone muscles? Manage a health condition? These questions will help you determine what particular diet shakes you need. There are high-protein, sugar-free, or other varieties that can go well with your health and fitness goals. If that condition is a digestive one such as ulcerative colitis, the support offered by Canadian dietitians at [JM Nutrition](https://www.julienutrition.com/services/digestive-health/ibd-management/ulcerative-colitis-support/) shows why a shake should fit a tailored eating plan rather than replace it. Most importantly, I have to say that relying solely on diet shakes isn’t ideal. You want to include a variety of whole foods in to ensure improvement or maintenance of health. ## **Top 10 diet shakes in Australia** ## **The Healthy Mummy** We all have a friend who has given [The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2fproduct-category%2fsmoothies%2f) smoothies a go. These low-calorie meal replacement shakes make it super easy to shed pounds and keep it off, as long as you supplement with exercise and a proper diet. Nutritionists formulated the smoothies to ensure a nutrient-dense drink that is low in sugar (96% sugar free), high in protein and without added caffeine, artificial sweeteners or dairy. One of the best things for me is that The Healthy Mummy has a terrific support community built around the brand where you can get help, motivation and inspiration from other mums. Also try their [28-day weight loss challenge](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.healthymummy.com%2fhow-to-start-the-28-day-weight-loss-challenge%2f), the number one mums only weight loss program in the world. ***Cost per shake:** $3 to $4.37* ***Dietary info:** Breastfeeding friendly, 96% sugar free, no added dairy, caffeine or sweeteners* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Chocolate, Choc Fudge, Strawberry, Cookies and Cream, Salted Caramel, Banana, Caramel, Choc Mint, 45 Plus, Pregnancy Smoothie* ***This is the shake for you if:** You’re a busy mum who wants to lose weight and get support from other mums.* *****We found this at:**** [The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2fproduct-category%2fsmoothies%2f)* [![The Healthy Mummy | diet shakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/premimum-smoothie-triple-pack.jpg "premimum-smoothie-triple-pack - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2fproduct-category%2fsmoothies%2f) ## **Optifast** For ladies who are looking to lose weight fast under the supervision of a healthcare professional, I highly recommend the [Optifast](https://www.optifast.com.au/) VLCD shakes. Because it’s a very low-calorie regimen, this program is specifically designed to manage your diet if you are severely overweight or obese. You’ll need your doctor’s okay before starting this diet, and you’ll receive personalised coaching from the Optifast team while you’re on your weight loss journey. Support is one of the things that I love about Optifast. They really customise your experience based on your goals. The online tools are there to help you plan everything, from exercise to what you eat for each meal, and monitor your progress. ***Cost per shake:** From $4.16* ***Dietary info:** Very low calorie and protein plus shakes, nutritionally complete* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Banana, Chai, Chocolate, Caramel, Strawberry, Coffee, Mocha* ***This is the shake for you if:** You want to lose weight fast.* *****We found this at:**** [Optifast](https://www.optifast.com.au/)* [![Optifast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/14195018-4585009931100131-800x800.webp "14195018-4585009931100131 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.optifast.com.au/) ## **FatBlaster** Naturopathica [FatBlaster](https://www.fatblaster.com.au/) is another popular low carb meal replacement shakes Australia with a range of products to help you lose weight fast and keep it off. It was my go-to when I was in keto mode! I absolutely love that their Super Shake contains superfoods (chia, cacao, matcha and green coffee bean) to help burn fat rapidly whilst controlling hunger and keeping you full. If you work out regularly, the Keto Fit Protein shake contains high quality protein and MCT oil to fuel your body while you burn fat. To add, the Ultimate Indulgence shake tastes so amazing that it doesn’t feel like you’re on a diet. ***Cost per shake:** From $1.69* ***Dietary info:** 99% fat free, keto friendly, paleo friendly, dairy free, gluten free, soy free* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Rocky Road, Choc Mocha, Double Choc Mocha, Raspberry* ***This is the shake for you if:** You want an affordable and flexible product for rapid or gradual weight loss.* *****We found this at:**** [FatBlaster](https://www.fatblaster.com.au/)* [![FatBlaster | diet shakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/11279165194270.jpg "11279165194270 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.fatblaster.com.au/) ## **Nature’s Way Slim Right** [Nature’s Way Slim Right](https://www.naturesway.com.au/product-category/slimright/products-slimright) shakes have been around forever and are designed to be a complete nutritional meal for people who are actively losing weight. From memory, they are the first diet shakes I tried. Their Skinny Gut Probiotic shake is the first to contain weight loss probiotics that reduce bloating whilst boosting metabolism and making you feel slimmer and lighter. Slim Right is highly-rated for overall satisfaction as well as hunger satisfaction and taste. The shakes blend well and, best of all, are plant-based. The cost per shake is also comparable to other brands. ***Cost per shake:** $1.5* ***Dietary info:** 30% less sugar, high fibre, with probiotics, gluten free* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Chocolate, Strawberry* ***This is the shake for you if:** You like yummy shakes that keep you fuller for longer.* *****We found this at:**** [Nature’s Way](https://www.naturesway.com.au/product-category/slimright/products-slimright)* [![Nature's Way Slim Right](https://www.naturesway.com.au/media/catalog/product/tonicimages/9314807071431/11489601257502.jpg?width=400&store=naturesway&image-type=image)](https://www.naturesway.com.au/product-category/slimright/products-slimright) ## **The Lady Shake** [The Lady Shake](https://www.theladyshake.com.au/) is a meal replacement shake designed specifically for us ladies looking to lose weight and keep it off. The shake is high in protein, fibre, vitamins and minerals but low in sugar. It has 84% less sugar than other meal replacement shakes or 88 teaspoons less of sugar each week. The shake replaces two meals per day. I have mine mid morning and then have a nice evening meal. I love that they are breastfeeding friendly to help post-pregnancy mums stay slim. Vegan options are also available, as well as breakfast shakes for kids and shakes for the men in your life. ***Cost per shake:** From $3* ***Dietary info:** Low in sugar (84% less than other meal replacement shakes), high in protein, breastfeeding friendly, vegan friendly* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Chocolate, Strawberry, Banana, Coffee, Caramel and Choc Mint* ***This is the shake for you if:** You need a healthy diet shake that’s low in sugar but high in nutrients.* *****We found this at:**** [The Lady Shake](https://www.theladyshake.com.au/)* [![The Lady Shake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/B1006L.png "B1006L - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.theladyshake.com.au/) ## **Best weight loss shakes in Australia (cont.)** ## **Rapid Loss** [Rapid Loss](https://rapidwellness.com.au/collections/shakes) shakes come in original and low sugar options with a bunch of flavours to satisfy your taste buds. The original formula is low GI, gluten free and high in fibre, whilst the other has 30% less sugar and contains Garcinia Cambogia (Malabar tamarind) that makes it easier for the body to use glucose, Guarana extract, MCT oil and key nutrients. There are mixed reviews about the 30% less sugar one but I like it if well blended (not hand whisked). I also like that the brand promotes healthy eating (natural, unprocessed foods) and provides a supportive community on Facebook. ***Cost per shake:** From $2.5* ***Dietary info:** 30% less sugar, high fibre, gluten free* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Chocolate, Choc Mint, Latte, Chai Latte, Lemon Cheesecake, Salted Caramel, Strawberry, Banana* ***This is the shake for you if:** You need to lose weight fast.* *****We found this at:**** [Rapid Loss](https://rapidwellness.com.au/collections/shakes)* [![Rapid Loss | diet shakes](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0012/9384/4595/products/Choc_Mint_Pack_Shake_257_pixels_2048x2048.jpg?v=1543464636)](https://rapidwellness.com.au/collections/shakes) ## **Atkins Advantage Diet Shakes** When it comes to top-rated diet shakes in Australia, the [Atkins Advantage](https://www.atkins.com/products/atkins-shakes) shakes satisfy your hunger and provide essential nutrients and energy to support weight loss and maintenance. These were another go-to shake option for me when I was in my keto phase, after all isn’t Atkins the original keto? They fit in perfectly if you are already on the Atkins four-phase weight loss program that is focused on low-carb diets and healthy eating. Take your shake for breakfast or anytime once or twice a day to help you stay fit and lean. Like with anything Atkins or keto, make sure you’re getting all your electrolytes alongside your shakes. ***Cost per shake**: Around $2.47* ***Dietary info:** Low in sugar, gluten free, low glycemic* ***Flavours available:** Vanilla, Chocolate* ***This is the shake for you if:** You’re on the Atkins diet or you want a nutritionally-balanced meal replacement shake.* *****We found this at:**** [Atkins](https://www.atkins.com/products/atkins-shakes)* [![Atkins Advantage](https://au.atkins.com/assets/components/phpthumbof/cache/chocolate_shake_mix_front.673b39f84da2109cdded294e3309f8db.png)](https://www.atkins.com/products/atkins-shakes) ## **How to make diet shakes work for you** Our in-article dietician and nutrition coach, Catherine Gervacio says: Ideally, you want to make your diet shake. This is to ensure that you’re adding ingredients that you need and align to your own calorie and macronutrient needs. A whey protein or a pea protein can be used as a protein source, especially when high-protein is being aimed for. Then, add a liquid base using unsweetened almond milk, soy milk, or non-fat dairy milk. Fruits and vegetables should be added for nutrients and fiber, then add seeds or nuts for healthy fats. To make it flavorful, add a dash of vanilla or cinnamon! On the other hand, if preparing your shake is impossible, make it work for you by choosing a quality shake that aligns with your goals, as I mentioned above. Strategise your intake by knowing your caloric requirement and tracking it. This will help you figure out what other foods you can combine with your shake to meet your daily nutrition goals. You also want to stay active by doing regular exercises. This helps you burn calories and improve your metabolism to support health and well-being. ## **How to choose the right diet shakes in Australia for your health goals** Catherine clarifies this for us here: Other than the ones I mentioned above, check for allergens. If you have food allergies or sensitivities, check out the ingredients list and see if the shake is safe for you to consume. Also, check if the taste and texture align with your preferences. Maintaining a healthy diet necessitates sustainability. Therefore, it’s best to choose a product that you can enjoy and be able to stick with it in the long run. Most importantly, seek the advice of a healthcare professional especially if you are managing a health condition. They can give you advice as to which particular product or brand you should focus on according to what your body needs. ## **Summary: Buying diet shakes in Australia** Diet shakes can offer a convenient solution if you want to manage your weight and improve your health. Personally, I find their simplicity appealing, as they eliminate the need for time-consuming meal preparation and reduce temptation around food. With a wide variety of options available, from low-calorie choices like The Healthy Mummy to specialised programs such as Optifast, there’s something to suit every preference and goal on the Australian shake market. Expert insights from Catherine Gervacio emphasise the importance of considering nutritional content, aligning with personal health goals, and seeking professional advice before incorporating diet shakes into your routine. I have learned that while diet shakes can be a helpful tool, they are most effective when used alongside a balanced diet and regular exercise. 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The day seems built for full tables, and making a plan just for you is one more job. This guide is for mums spending some or all of the day without their kids. Maybe they’re at their other parent’s place, with grandparents or all grown up. Being [alone with your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alone-with-your-kids-on-christmas-day/) is a different kind of Christmas, so this piece sticks to the kid-free hours. Start with your handover times. Then pick two or three things you’d enjoy, like a slow breakfast, a swim or prepping your own Christmas with the kids. Add one way to connect with someone, and keep a support number handy in case the day dips. **Quick Takeaways** - **Plan around the handover.** The times the kids leave and come back shape your whole day, so build your plans around them. - **Pick a few anchors, not a full timetable.** A walk, a good meal and one phone call give the day shape without turning it into a chore. - **Ask about volunteering early.** A growing number of charities have more Christmas lunch helpers than they need, so ask in November or try aged care homes and animal shelters. - **Support is open on the day.** Lifeline (13 11 14) and Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) both answer 24 hours a day, Christmas Day included. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), single mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![Mum doing a jigsaw puzzle with tea and pavlova on a quiet Christmas Day at home alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2-quiet-christmas-day-alone-puzzle-pavlova-1192x800.webp "2-quiet-christmas-day-alone-puzzle-pavlova - Beanstalk Mums") ## **************Start With Your Handover Time************** Your handover times decide what kind of day you’re planning. A whole day on your own needs a different plan to a quiet afternoon. ### **********If They’re Away All Day********** Spread three small anchors through the day, so there’s always something coming up. That might be a swim at 8am, lunch with a friend at 1pm and a saved movie at 7pm. Long, empty afternoons tend to be the hardest stretch, so give that window a plan. Let the rest of the day stay loose. ### ************If You Swap Around Lunchtime************ Plan the hour straight after drop-off, because that’s often when it stings most. A walk from the handover spot or a coffee with a friend gives that hour somewhere to go. ### ************What If They Arrive Later in the Day?************ Then your alone time is the morning, the easy bit. Sleep in and get the house ready for when they burst through the door. If you’re still working out who has the kids and when, sort it early. Planning the whole festive season well ahead takes pressure off the day itself. If handovers don’t feel safe for you or the kids, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732. It’s open day and night. ![Woman in a wheelchair enjoying an early coastal walk alone on Christmas Day in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/3-christmas-day-alone-early-coastal-walk-1192x800.webp "3-christmas-day-alone-early-coastal-walk - Beanstalk Mums") ## ************Ideas for a Slow, Quiet Day at Home************ A quiet day at home works best when it feels like a choice, not a waiting room. The usual advice is to keep so busy you don’t think about the kids. Actually, that’s not quite right, or it wasn’t for me. Cramming every hour just made the handover sting more. A few good things, plus some room to feel what I felt, worked far better. Some ideas that suit a slow day: - Sleep in. Nobody’s checking the stockings at 5am. - Make the breakfast you’d never make for fussy eaters. - Start the series you’ve been saving, or a movie run with snacks. - A puzzle, a craft or a big cook-up can swallow a happy hour or two. - Run the long bath, then have a nap. Both count as plans. There’s a real upside to a [single-mum Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/upside-single-mum-christmas/), and having the remote all day is part of it. ## ************Where Can You Find Company on Christmas Day?************ Company on Christmas Day can come from a friend’s invite, a community meal, other single mums or a well-timed video call. If people fill you up, plan more of this. If the lead-up has wiped you out, one short catch-up may be plenty. - **A friend’s invite.** Say yes. You don’t have to host, and turning up with a pav counts. - **Community meals.** Many local Salvation Army centres let you [share a Christmas meal](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/) with others, and anyone is welcome. Not every centre hosts one, so find your closest event and register early. - **Other kid-free mums.** Ask in The Single Mum Vine, the Beanstalk Mums Facebook community. Chances are a few others are on their own that day too. - **An “orphans” lunch.** Friends without plans are often glad to be asked. - **A video call.** Family or friends who live far away make good company over a long lunch. ## ************Get Outside Before the Day Heats Up************ Getting outside early is one of the easiest wins on an Aussie Christmas Day, while it’s cool and the streets are quiet. Try an early swim, a beach walk or a bushwalk before the barbecues fire up. Some parks close on Christmas Day and public transport runs on a holiday timetable, so check before you head off. Going somewhere remote? Tell someone where you’ll be. ## **************Is Volunteering on Christmas Day Worth It?************** Volunteering can be a lovely way to spend the day, but Christmas lunch rosters often fill up early. Everyone says “just volunteer on Christmas Day”. In practice, the [Australian Psychological Society](https://psychology.org.au/insights/six-%28positive%29-ways-to-spend-christmas-on-your-own) notes that a growing number of charities have more Christmas lunch volunteers than they need. They also tend to want to check people first. Aged care homes and animal shelters are often short-staffed over the holidays, so they can be a better bet. If you want to do it, ask in November. Or give your time in the lead-up to Christmas instead. Helping others can leave you feeling connected and useful, and the [mental health side of volunteering](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/) doesn’t stop on 26 December. ![Mum wrapping presents at the kitchen table to get ready for a Boxing Day Christmas with her kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/4-preparing-boxing-day-christmas-wrapping-presents.webp "4-preparing-boxing-day-christmas-wrapping-presents - Beanstalk Mums") ## **********Get Ready for Your Own Christmas With the Kids********** If the kids aren’t with you on the 25th, your Christmas with them can happen on another day. It counts just as much. In my house, the kids cared far more about the magic than the date. So use the quiet hours to wrap, bake, set up a treasure hunt or plan a picnic. Christmas Day falls on a Friday this year, so a Boxing Day Christmas lands on a Saturday with Sunday spare to recover. It’s also a good time to start a few [new Christmas traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-traditions-separated-families/) that belong just to your house. ## ************How Do You Stay Close to the Kids Without Hovering?************ Agree a call time with their other parent before the day. Keep the call short and happy, and let the kids enjoy where they are. - **Set the time ahead.** An agreed time, like after lunch, means nobody is waiting by the phone. - **Keep it light.** Ask about presents and what they ate. Skip lines like “I’m so lonely without you”, which can leave kids feeling guilty for having fun. - **Leave a little surprise.** A note or small gift tucked in their bag gives them a piece of you that morning. - **Save the debrief.** Hold off on questions about the other house. “Did you have a good day?” is plenty. ## ************Is It Normal to Feel Flat When the Kids Are Away at Christmas?************ Yes. Feeling flat, teary or a bit lost on Christmas Day without your kids is very common. Zena Burgess, CEO of the Australian Psychological Society, has pointed out that Christmas traditions centre on shared meals and group fun. That makes a solo day harder. She also notes social media can make loneliness feel bigger, so save the scrolling for another day. Loneliness isn’t about how many people are around you. The government health service healthdirect treats [loneliness and isolation](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/healthy-living/emotional-wellbeing/loneliness-isolation-mental-health) as two different things. Loneliness is the feeling of not having the connection you want, and break-ups and family changes are common triggers. That’s partly why the first few Christmases after separation can hit hard. If the day feels heavy, it’s worth going easy on the drinks, as alcohol can make a low mood feel lower by evening. If it tips into something heavier, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Both answer 24 hours a day, Christmas included. If the sadness hangs around into the new year, your GP can refer you to a counsellor who can help you work through it. ![Single mum having a quiet coffee on her back step on Christmas morning while the kids are away](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/5-christmas-day-alone-quiet-morning-coffee.webp "5-christmas-day-alone-quiet-morning-coffee - Beanstalk Mums") ## **************One Thing to Hold Onto This Christmas************** This day has probably been sitting in the back of your mind for weeks, on top of everything else you carry. It’s one day, and you get to shape it. Pick your anchors and book in company if you want it. Then give yourself a soft landing after handover. Most of what helps with [Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/) comes down to planning a little and expecting a little less. So when “what to do on Christmas Day if I’m alone?” pops into your head again, you’ll have an answer that’s yours. And the kids will be back before you know it, ready for round two. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What to do on Christmas Day if I’m alone and the kids are with their dad?** Build the day around your handover times, then pick two or three things you’ll enjoy. Christmas Day 2026 falls on a Friday, so a Boxing Day celebration with the kids lands on a Saturday. **What to do on Christmas Day if I’m alone and feeling low?** Keep the day gentle, get outside early, limit social media and plan one call with someone you trust. If it gets heavy, Lifeline (13 11 14) and Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) both answer 24 hours a day. **Is it normal to spend Christmas Day without your kids after separation?** Yes, it’s common in families who share care. The ABS counted 1.2 million one-parent families in Australia in June 2025, so you’re in very big company. **Can I volunteer on Christmas Day in Australia?** Yes, but Christmas lunch rosters often fill up early, and many charities like to check volunteers in advance. Ask in November, or try aged care homes and animal shelters, which are often short-staffed over the holidays. **Where can I have Christmas lunch if I’m on my own?** Say yes to a friend’s invite, or look for a community Christmas meal, such as those run by many local Salvation Army centres. Not every centre hosts one, so find your closest event and register early. **How do I stay in touch with my kids on Christmas Day?** Agree a call time with their other parent before the day and keep the call short and cheerful. Avoid lines that make the kids feel guilty for having fun, and save the big catch-up for your own Christmas together. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/what-to-do-christmas-alone/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/what-to-do-christmas-alone/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas --- ### [11 Ways How To Find Yourself After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/find-yourself-after-divorce/) **Published:** October 25, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Feeling lost after divorce, Mum? Discover 11 practical ways to find yourself again as a single mum and embrace this chance for growth and new beginnings. **Content:** Finding yourself after divorce takes time, not a deadline. Give yourself room to grieve, get honest about what you want, lean on people who lift you up, look after your health, and set small, realistic goals. The 11 steps below show you how, one at a time. Divorce can be one of the hardest things you go through. It also gives you a rare chance to pause, reset, and find yourself again. As mums, we spend so much time looking after everyone else, from our kids to ageing parents, that we can lose sight of who we are at our core. Here are some tips from Ella Hickman of [**Hickman Family Lawyers in Perth**](https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au/) on how to find yourself as a single mum after divorce. **Quick takeaways:** - Healing takes time. Give yourself room to feel grief, anger and relief without setting a deadline. - Ask yourself the hard questions: what you want, what makes you happy, and whether your career still fits. - Get organised, and lean on positive people, including other single mums and a counsellor if you’re struggling. - Look after your body with sleep, good food, movement and time outdoors. - Rediscover old passions or try something new, like a club, a trip or volunteering. - Set small, realistic goals, and use a journal to see how far you’ve come. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change what we recommend. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![Two single mums after discovering ways how to find yourself after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Two-single-mums-after-discovering-ways-how-to-find-yourself-after-divorce.webp "Two-single-mums-after-discovering-ways-how-to-find-yourself-after-divorce - Beanstalk Mums")## **Give Yourself Some Time** The first step in finding yourself as a single mum is to accept that it’s not going to happen overnight. You’re in for the long haul here. So, give yourself time to deal with your grief before you are ready to move on. You may be feeling sadness, anger, resentment and fear of what lies ahead. Yet, you may also be feeling liberated and relieved that you’re not in an unhealthy relationship anymore. How long it may take to deal with these emotions will depend on your individual circumstances. There is no set rule that applies to everyone here, so take your time, but also, don’t take too long either. There’s a whole life out there just waiting for you to start! ## **Don’t Avoid Asking Yourself The Hard Questions** Before you can even begin to find yourself as a single mum, you’re going to need a plan. This starts with asking yourself some hard questions: - What do I really want? - What makes me happy? - Am I happy with my career, or do I need a change? - What am I grateful for? - What are my strengths and weaknesses? Think about the things that made you happy when you were single, hobbies you may have had, or the people you enjoyed being around and who you may not have seen for a while. Perhaps it’s now time to pursue these past activities, rekindle some old friendships, and bring some of your favourite things back into your life. [![Ad banner reading 'Have you had your Happy Hormones today?' with a smiling woman and a Happy Hormones product, and a pink Shop Now button.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Happy-hormones-ad.jpg "Happy-hormones-ad - Beanstalk Mums")](https://happyhealthyyou.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=CommissionFactory&cfclick=4edcca94c010407db930c43c6970519e)Self love for single mums 🌿 support your nervous system rebuild your self worth and begin loving yourself again one gentle step at a time ## **Getting Organised Post Divorce** Once you begin to answer these difficult questions, start getting organised! Set some goals, write down your concerns, your accomplishments, your fears, whatever, and start putting some order back into your life. When you are organised in your home, your work and your thoughts, it becomes easier to think clearly and deal with whatever challenges you’re facing. This, in turn, gives you the confidence you need to lead a fulfilling life for you and your children. And that is what finding yourself is really all about. ### **Connect With Your Support Network** You don’t need to go through this on your own. If you have family and friends around, spend time with them, but try not to focus on discussing your ex or wallow in the past. Connect with people who are positive and make you happy. Avoid, if only temporarily, people who are negative or don’t add any value to your new life. Get out and socialise. You may already know of or could arrange to meet other newly single mums who may be in a similar situation to you and looking for support, too. Selecting and connecting with a [****single mother support network****](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) is vital in getting you through this time. If you’re still struggling to cope, don’t hesitate to seek [****counselling****](https://singlemamaway.com/product/one-on-one-counselling-session-60-min/). ## **Make Time For Self-Care** Going through a divorce is physically and mentally taxing on everyone. Being under constant stress and having to take care of others makes it all too easy to neglect your own health and well-being. Try to make time for self-care in whatever form works for you. Take time to eat well, exercise, get enough sleep and avoid junk foods, excessive alcohol and over or under-eating. Remember, you have to remain healthy and strong to take care of your children too. [![a gift of reset, mental load relief](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-20.jpg "Passel 3-compressed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) ## **Spend Time Outdoors** There’s nowhere better to remind us of how wonderful life can be than being outdoors in the sunshine, surrounded by nature. If you’re living in a concrete jungle, take a day trip and get amongst nature when you can. Spend time in a park, in a forest, on a farm, on the beach and breathe fresh air and let your surroundings work some magic into your soul. ### **Discover Your Passions** If you’ve had any past passions, hobbies, or other interests that you may have stopped doing, try to rediscover them. You could also seek out some new things you may have always wanted to try but never quite gotten around to them. Join a club or a gym, treat yourself to a trip somewhere, or start a small DIY project at home. Find whatever will make you happy and keep your heart full! ## **Set Realistic Goals** In order to achieve your ultimate long-term goal of finding yourself as a single mum, it’s important to set goals to keep you focused. What’s even more important is for these goals to be realistic. Achieving a short-term goal brings you one step closer to your main goal. Such steps fill you with a sense of accomplishment and confidence in your own ability and character. Reward yourself each time you achieve a short-term goal, even if it’s just a small treat for you and your children. Setting unrealistic goals can be counterproductive as the moment you realise they are untenable; it can hinder your self-esteem. Making it that much easier to sink back into your old unsatisfying habits and routines. [![Elle counselling services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Newsletter-artwork-21 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Stay Positive** In the early stages, it may be difficult to remain positive. Having so many new challenges thrown at you all at once. It can be hugely overwhelming. However, by staying positive and focused on each challenge, you can overcome them all, perhaps just one at a time. Staying positive allows you to concentrate on finding solutions to the issues you may be encountering rather than seeing them as insurmountable obstacles in your life. ## **Keep A Journal** Keeping a journal through this difficult period can be most useful and so therapeutic. Translating your thoughts and emotions you’re feeling each day into written words, allows you to capture your mood, your state of mind and your current situation. No matter how happy or sad you are. Reading them later on also allows you to track any progress you may have made. Giving you an overall sense of achievement of how far you have actually come. ## **Volunteer** No matter how hard your life may seem at the moment, always remember that there are many people from all walks of life who may be in a far worse situation than you are. Find out about [****volunteering****](https://www.volunteeringwa.org.au/) for a cause that is meaningful to you in your area and helping others less fortunate than you, can help you be grateful for the small (or big!) joys you have in your life already. Not only it will take you out of your rut and meet new people, but helping others can be so rewarding, as you can unwittingly end up helping yourself in the process, too. ![Single mum planning after discovering ways how to find yourself after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Single-mum-planning-after-discovering-ways-how-to-find-yourself-after-divorce.webp "Single-mum-planning-after-discovering-ways-how-to-find-yourself-after-divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts on How to Find Yourself After Divorce** Navigating the aftermath of a divorce can indeed be daunting. Yet, it presents an invaluable chance to rediscover and redefine yourself as a single mum. By giving yourself time to heal, asking tough questions, and getting organised, you can begin to build a fulfilling new life. Surrounding yourself with a supportive network, prioritising self-care, and reconnecting with nature can rejuvenate your spirit. Engaging in passions, setting realistic goals, maintaining a positive outlook, keeping a journal, and volunteering are all powerful tools that can guide you through this transformative journey. Remember, every step you take towards finding yourself not only enhances your own well-being but also enriches the lives of your children. Embrace this opportunity with courage and optimism. You’ll find that life after divorce can be a time of incredible growth and new beginnings. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/find-yourself-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/find-yourself-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [Support for going through pregnancy alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/) **Published:** December 7, 2025 **Author:** Ashley Winning **Content:** Many women in Australia end up going through pregnancy alone. Some choose after turning to IVF or assisted conception with donor sperm insemination. Other women are in a long-term relationship that seems to end ‘all of a sudden’ or was on its way out when you find out you are having a baby (surprise!). Whatever your reason for having to go this alone, I want you to know that you are NOT in fact alone. I’m going to share some of my tips and tricks so you can build up your circle of support and prepare for life after birth with your newborn baby. This is the beginning of a wonderful journey … the journey of motherhood. Whether this is your first or third baby, and you are going through pregnancy alone, you can do this with confidence and belief in yourself. You have got this! ## START CREATING YOUR CIRCLE OF SUPPORT WHEN GOING THROUGH PREGNANCY ALONE Let’s identify who is currently in your circle of support. This is super important if you are going through pregnancy alone. Get a pen and paper or your phone notebook and list down all the people in your circle. Who gets you and brings positive energy into your life? Don’t include anyone who upsets you or isn’t supportive of you. Be Specific: How can those people on your list support you while you are going through pregnancy alone, birth and postpartum? Maybe your mum lives locally and is a great emotional support? Or your friend is an amazing cook? Maybe you have a sister who is excited to come to hospital appointments with you and listen to anything pregnancy/ baby related? Have conversations with those people: Once you have identified the people on your list and how they can support you, you can start to write out some of the things you will need help with during your pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Here are some more ideas: - Hospital appointments - Birth - Non-judgmental emotional support - Practical support like putting together baby furniture, picking up heavy furniture, holding the baby while you have a shower or rest, bringing around nourishing food for you - Coffee dates – someone you can get out with and have a laugh or see a movie (while you are pregnant and only when you have the energy) You may find you have a large list of people in your circle of support, or that you only have one or two people, or even no people you can rely on. If you need to build your circle of support, here are some ideas for you to start creating that circle now: - Positive birth meetings, homebirth meetings, antenatal birth education classes (like hypnobirthing) - ABA Breastfeeding Education class and monthly meetings, held Australia-wide - Online supportive single mum groups are a great way to connect with like-minded mothers - Connecting with people in your community, like your neighbours (you never know when you might need that sugar!) and small businesses like the local coffee shop – they can start to become a second family. ## PREPARE A POSTPARTUM PLAN WHEN GOING THROUGH PREGNANCY ALONE I always recommend anyone expecting a baby to create a postpartum plan, so you can set yourself up for a calm, confident and connected motherhood. This is especially helpful if you are going through pregnancy alone. It’s often hard to even try to picture how having a baby will fit into your life, especially when you are having your first baby. But maybe this is your second baby, and your first time expecting as a single mother. Postpartum Planning will give you the ability to understand some of the challenges that may lie ahead and help you to set strong foundations to support you through them. Here are some things I include in my Postpartum Plan for newborn mothers: ### Visualise your postpartum Close your eyes and imagine your postpartum with your newborn baby. How does it feel? Who is supporting you? How do you feel? Some words that come to mind may be peaceful, confident, happy, content, organised, in control, and supported. ### Breastfeeding If you are planning on breastfeeding, is this something that you need to take a class for, like with the Australian Breastfeeding Association? While breastfeeding is natural for humans, it is a learned skill for both mother and baby and will take time, patience and support to master. ### Support Who will be your main support circle? ### Meal Planning It’s important that you eat nourishing foods to help your body heal from pregnancy & birth. ## BE GENTLE, KIND & LOVING TO YOURSELF ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-leah-newhouse-50725-618923-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-leah-newhouse-50725-618923 - Beanstalk Mums") Pregnancy is one of the hardest things I have had to go through in my life. Between ‘all day sickness’, being exhausted and trying to function, the last thing I needed was to say cruel things to myself. And yet from time to time, stories would pop into my head, and I would compare myself to other pregnant women I knew or saw walking around. I felt pretty pathetic during pregnancy, and now that I have experienced two pregnancies, I have to surrender to the process and allow it to unfold the way it needs to. This means instead of telling myself and repeating old negative stories to myself like: > *‘I’m weak, I’m the worst pregnant person ever, I’m lazy, I’m not going to handle motherhood if I can’t handle pregnancy (none of those are true by the way!)’* You need to focus on all the amazing things you are doing. Even if you focus on one positive thing a day, like getting enough rest or eating a nourishing meal. Feeling comfortable in your own skin during pregnancy matters too. Treating yourself to essentials such as [Alina Mae’s comfortable maternity work pants](https://alinamae.com/collections/wear-to-work-maternity-work-pants "Alina Mae's comfortable maternity work pants") can make a real difference to your wellbeing and confidence. ## GET PRACTICALLY PREPARED WHEN GOING THROUGH PREGNANCY ALONE By planning ahead, you can reduce the stress of preparing for a baby on your own. You have a lot to think about during this time, but getting your finances in order should be a top priority. For short-term needs, it’s important to try to save enough to cover the costs of pregnancy, health insurance, and supplies. Then you can figure out the cost of baby gear, from nappies to car seats, and adjust your budget. Remember that you don’t have to buy everything. You can borrow a lot of baby things from other mums, like strollers, baby books, toys, clothes and other gear that their kids have outgrown. You can add other necessities to your [wish-list for the baby shower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/baby-shower-gift-ideas/). Don’t stress if you don’t have everything for the baby right away. Other stuff, like a crib, can be purchased after the baby arrives. ### Home/Nursery Connect with your support group to get tips on preparing your home and nursery for baby. From choosing the best cribs to hiring a cleaner to finding someone to help paint the nursery and assemble furniture, explore your contact list to see who would be happy to help out or give you advice. You might also consider nursery decorations, such as [a softly moving nursery mobile positioned safely above the cot](https://babycotmobiles.com.au/), to create a calming environment for your little one. If you’re a single mum-to-be on a tight budget, don’t be shy to ask your group if they are willing to lend you or part with baby things that they no longer use. ### Baby Clothes and nappies You’re going to need newborn clothes as well as onesies, leggings/pyjamas, jumpers and other outer clothing, hats, booties, and sleepwear. Look for clothes with the weight and height on the sizing for the best fit. Avoid clothes with too many buttons or snaps that make them hard to remove. Do choose clothes that are comfortable, soft and durable, and free from choking hazards. For nappies, you can use disposable, cloth, or something with a reusable cover. If you’re not sure what the best type of nappy for your baby’s skin is, get small packs from different brands to test them before buying nappies in bulk. You’ll also need wipes, rash cream, a changing table, a nappy pail, and a nappy bag. You can [buy affordable nappies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/) and baby supplies from big, small and local brands at online stores like Big W. ### Car and Baby Seat Similar to preparing your home and nursery, make sure to ask your mum friends and support group for recommendations. You need someone who’s been here, done that, and who knows what’s the best car seat for your baby, budget, and situation. And if you’ll be driving while pregnant, consider adding [Tummy Shield](https://tummyshield.com/blogs/resources/tummy-shield-the-safety-innovation-for-pregnant-women-on-the-road "Tummy Shield") to your car-safety plan. It’s designed to guide the lap belt below your bump, helping protect both you and your baby in a crash. Make sure to put this on your wish-list, as you might get a car seat as a gift during the baby shower. ### Kitchen and meals The last thing you want is to be on your feet for hours slaving away in the kitchen. Freezer meals are your best friend when preparing for a baby on your own. There are heaps of easy and tasty recipes online for [batch cooking and freezing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-meals-bulk-cook-freeze/). There are also detailed instructions for organising your kitchen, and packing and labelling food so it’s easy to find what you need and get a healthy meal on the table in minutes. ## MAKE SURE YOU ARE THE HEALTHIEST VERSION OF YOURSELF FOR BABY After preparing the practical things for your new addition, it’s time to make sure you are the healthiest version of yourself. From regular checkups to watching what you eat to keeping an eye on your weight, the following tips should get your body and mind in tip-top shape for baby. ### Eat healthily Eat right to feed your body essential nutrients. Micronutrients like iron, calcium, and folic acid are necessary to prevent birth defects, so make sure you’re taking enough. Take a daily supplement to meet the required 400 mcg of folic acid and other nutrients each day, and fill your pantry and fridge with healthy foods: fruits, veggies, nuts, whole grains, lean protein, and low-fat dairy. If you can’t throw away all the chips and junk food, try to cut back and have your family join you. There are apps that can help you track your calories, nutrients, workouts, and more. ### Working out when going through pregnancy alone ![going through pregnancy alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-jessica-monte-424529-1103242-1119x800.jpg "Pexels-jessica-monte-424529-1103242 - Beanstalk Mums") Getting in the best shape will make your pregnancy and delivery so much easier. An exercise class for expecting moms is an excellent workout idea, but if you can’t swing it, there are many other exercises that you can do at home or on your own, like walking, yoga, cycling, and swimming. Experts recommend 30 minutes of exercise on most days. Keeping an eye on your weight is important during this time. If you are too thin or too heavy, talk you your doctor to create a plan to achieve your healthy weight. ### Tap into your support group Lean into your support group and share in the communal wisdom of mothers who share your experiences. It’s a stressful time when you are preparing for a baby on your own, but remember that you are never alone. Boost your mental health by connecting with family, friends, co-workers, and loved ones and making sure to reach out when things get overwhelming. ### See your doctor and dentist See your doctor and dentist to address issues, manage health conditions and get advice on vaccines, supplements for you and baby, and medications. Before getting pregnant, you might also want to test for genetic disorders if you or your ex-partner has a family history. ### Quit smoking and drinking Smoking and alcohol consumption can cause a host of problems for your baby, from birth defects to miscarriage to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Give up your smokes and alcohol when you plan to get pregnant or as soon as you know you’re expecting. ## The right mindset for going through pregnancy alone Here are some of my favourite daily mindset practices to help you when you are going through pregnancy alone. - Deep breathing helps me stay relaxed and calm when I’m starting to feel sad or overwhelmed. I love to take a nice deep breath in and a long, slow breath out through my mouth (start practising and notice how relaxed your body feels). - [Positive affirmations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) are a great way to turn negative stories around. Say things like: I am enough, I am doing enough, allowing my body to rest is being kind, I am a good mother. - Daily Gratitude journaling is a great practice that can really turn my day around. Focusing on one thing that is great in my life, like a friend, a roof over my head, and a comfy bed to sleep in. ![Daily Gratitude Journal | Going through pregnancy alone | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.etsystatic.com/9365564/r/il/774c09/1218113610/il_794xN.1218113610_9hu7.jpg)Stockist: Etsy The more you practice being kind and loving to yourself, the more natural it will become, and before you know it, it will feel totally normal and natural. You will notice your mood lift and shift, and things you felt were hard work previously gradually become easier and easier. ## Final words: Going through pregnancy alone If you take anything away from this article, I want you to remember this – you are an amazing, strong and capable woman. While at times going through pregnancy alone may be challenging and difficult, I know you have got this! Sending love – Ashley ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting **Tags:** pregnancy, pregnant as a single mum, pregnancy support, postpartum plan --- ### [Why Barrier Repair Is the New Acne Fix](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-barrier-repair-is-the-new-acne-fix/) **Published:** October 19, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’ve spent years fighting breakouts, you know the cycle well. A new treatment promises clear skin. It works, briefly. Then the redness creeps in. The sensitivity. The tightness. And not long after, the breakouts return, sometimes worse than before. So you reach for something stronger, and the cycle starts again. For years, the skincare industry’s answer to acne was simple: strip it out. Stronger acids, higher retinol concentrations, more frequent exfoliation. But 2026 is shaping up to be the year that approach gets meaningfully reconsidered, as more dermatologists and skincare formulators point to an uncomfortable truth: the very treatments many people use to manage acne may be the thing perpetuating it. ## What a Damaged Barrier Actually Looks Like Your skin barrier, technically the stratum corneum, is the outermost layer of skin and the first line of defence against the outside world. When it’s functioning well, it keeps moisture in and irritants out. When it’s compromised, that balance breaks down. A damaged barrier typically shows up as persistent redness, a tight or stinging sensation after cleansing, sensitivity to products that previously caused no issues, increased dryness alongside oiliness, and breakouts that don’t respond to the usual treatments. That last point sits at the centre of the issue. A compromised barrier triggers a panic response in your skin. When its natural moisture evaporates, the skin tries to fix the problem by overproducing oil to replace what was lost. This sudden flood of oil, trapped on top of a raw and irritated surface, creates a perfect storm for deep, painful inflammation and stubborn breakouts. Strip the barrier further with harsh actives, and you may be fuelling the exact cycle you’re trying to break. ![barrier repair](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Image-1-1-1188x800.jpeg "barrier repair - Beanstalk Mums")[healthy vs damaged skin barrier](https://www.%20Shutterstock.%20Com/image-vector/skin-barrier-function-diagram-healthy-vs-2745925877) Credit matsukiyo8379 shutterstock ### Why Harsh Treatment Backfires Acne treatment has historically operated on a “more is more” logic. If a 2% salicylic acid cleanser didn’t fully clear breakouts, the answer was often a stronger concentration, more frequent use, or multiple actives layered at once. The problem is that over-exfoliation and aggressive active use don’t just target acne-causing bacteria and excess oil. They also strip the essential lipid matrix – the natural oils that make up a healthy barrier. Once that barrier is compromised, the skin becomes more reactive, more inflamed, and often more prone to the very congestion these treatments were meant to resolve. This doesn’t mean active ingredients are the enemy. It means the dose and the context matter enormously, and barrier health needs to be treated as part of the acne equation, not an afterthought to it. ## The Smarter Alternative: Barrier-Friendly Ingredients This isn’t about abandoning actives; it’s about pairing them with ingredients that rebuild and protect the barrier while treatment is underway. - **Ceramides** act like the mortar between the brick walls of your skin cells. Restoring them topically patches up the cracks in your barrier, locking in hydration and shielding your skin from the external irritants that trigger breakouts. - **Niacinamide** is the ultimate multi-tasker. It gently dials down excess oil production while helping your skin build up its own natural protective lipids, calming redness and breakouts at the exact same time. - **Azelaic acid** offers a brilliant, gentler alternative to harsh spot treatments. It clears away acne-causing bacteria and fades lingering dark marks without causing the dry, flaky irritation that traditional acne treatments often leave behind. Used together, or alongside more targeted acne treatments at a lower, more tolerable concentration, these ingredients allow the skin to address breakouts without entering the strip-and-repair cycle that so often makes things worse before they get better. ### How to Audit Your Current Routine If your skin is currently stuck in this reactive loop, the most impactful first step is a routine audit. Temporarily hit pause on high-percentage exfoliating acids, gritty physical scrubs, and drying spot treatments for just seven to ten days. Instead, reduce your daily lineup back to a [basic baseline](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kbeauty-other-minimalist-beauty-hacks-for-mums/): a gentle, non-foaming cleanser, a deeply hydrating barrier-support serum, and a nourishing moisturiser. This brief “skin fast” allows your acid mantle to stabilise. Once the stinging and tightness subside, you can gradually reintroduce your targeted acne treatments one at a time, always layering them over a supportive, comforting base. ![barrier repair](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Image.png "barrier repair - Beanstalk Mums") ## Don’t ditch the actives altogether Treating your skin gently is not a compromise. It’s often the more effective long-term strategy. This doesn’t mean ditching active ingredients altogether, particularly for those with persistent or more severe acne, where targeted treatment remains important. But it does mean reconsidering the assumption that aggression equals results. A stronger product isn’t always a better one if it’s compromising the barrier your skin needs to actually heal. For anyone looking to skip the trial and error, moving toward barrier-first skincare is the smartest next step. Brands like [Liberty Belle Rx](https://libertybellerx.com/collections/serum) are leading this shift, consciously designing formulations that treat breakouts while actively protecting and reinforcing the skin barrier. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-barrier-repair-is-the-new-acne-fix/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-barrier-repair-is-the-new-acne-fix/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Rebuilding Your Life After Separation: Free Coaching for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/rebuilding-life-after-separation/) **Published:** October 17, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Rebuilding your life after separation takes time & support. Learn how free online coaching for single mums works in Australia, & how to apply now. **Content:** Rebuilding your life after separation often starts in the quiet bit nobody warns you about. The paperwork slows down. People stop checking in. And you’re left with dinner to make, a phone you’re nervous to pick up, and one big question. Who am I now? I separated about ten years ago, and I’m a counsellor now, so I’ve sat on both sides of that question. The short answer is this. You don’t have to work it out alone, and help doesn’t have to cost you anything. A registered charity called [Sociii](https://sociii.life/) funds six months of one-on-one coaching for single mums. It’s online, it works anywhere in Australia, and mums pay nothing. I sat down on the Beanstalk Mums podcast with co-founder Natalie Shaw and Katie Cornelius. Katie is Sociii’s partnership manager, and she went through the program herself. Here’s what they shared: Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![Single mum at her kitchen table at dusk with a mug of tea, rebuilding life after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2-rebuilding-life-after-separation-kitchen-table-1192x800.webp "2-rebuilding-life-after-separation-kitchen-table - Beanstalk Mums")## ****What Does Rebuilding Your Life After Separation Actually Mean?**** Rebuilding your life after separation is the stage that comes once the legal and practical crisis settles. It’s about getting your confidence, your sense of self and your direction back while you parent, often on one income. For many single mums, it’s quieter and lonelier than the separation itself, because outside support fades. This article won’t cover property, parenting orders or payments. If you’re still in the first raw weeks, start with our guide to the [first year after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-expect-first-year-separation/). ## **Why the Quiet After the Crisis Hits So Hard** The crisis gives you adrenaline. The quiet afterwards often takes your confidence. When things fall apart, people rally. Then the dust settles and everyone goes back to their own lives. You’re left in the kitchen thinking, “Okay, the worst part is over. Now what?” Natalie sees this all the time. For many mums, she told me, this stage shows up as “a lack of self-confidence, a lack of self-worth, fear still, non-clarity about direction”. Katie lived it. She has her two girls full time, she works, and her family lives overseas. She was honest about how easy it is to slide back. “People go back to their ex because they’re scared,” she said. Here’s my gentle push-back on the usual advice. After a breakup, everyone tells you to book the massage and run the bath. Lovely, and worth doing. But a bath doesn’t answer “who am I now?” That question needs time, a plan, and someone in your corner. If you want somewhere to start, try our tips on [self-esteem after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/). ## **Is Free Coaching for Single Mums Really Free?** Yes. Sociii covers the full cost through donations and sponsors, so mums pay nothing. I get why you’d be wary. A kind man once donated over 200 bikes to Beanstalk Mums families. We struggled to give them away, because mums assumed there had to be a catch. Katie felt the same. What changed her mind was a chat with the program manager. The team was also upfront about where the money comes from. “They’re not going to try to persuade me on some religious path,” Katie said. “It’s just about you.” So who pays? Natalie says it costs Sociii around $7,000 to put one woman through the program. Some business owners sponsor a mum for the year. Others give what they can. Here’s a handy habit for any “free” offer. Look the charity up on the [ACNC Charity Register](https://acnc.gov.au/charity/about-charity-register) before you share your details. ### **How the Sociii Program Works** The program runs for six months, with about a dozen sessions. Most are one-on-one with your own coach. Here’s how it unfolds, based on what Natalie shared. - **The early sessions look inward.** Katie’s sessions took her back to her childhood, and things started “clicking” about choices she’d made as an adult. - **Group sessions come later.** You meet other mums in your intake and learn a few practical tools together. - **It’s all online.** You can join from anywhere in Australia, often with just your phone. - **Times are flexible.** Coaches run sessions at different times to suit your family and work. - **The support carries on.** After six months, past participants can join monthly talks on topics like breathwork, money and renting. Katie was often five or ten minutes late, and her coach rolled with it. “If the kids get sick, whatever, they’ll make it work,” she said. ### ****How Do You Apply?**** Applying is fairly simple. Here are the steps Natalie walked me through. 1. Fill in the [form on the Sociii website](https://sociii.life/apply-for-innerwork-program/), or email the team. 2. Have a relaxed chat with the program manager about where you’re at. 3. Complete a few short online check-ins. Natalie says they’re the everyday kind counsellors use. 4. Do a quick induction and meet your coach. If now isn’t the right time, the team can point you to other support first. ![Close-up of a mum’s hands holding a phone while checking a free coaching program for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/3-free-coaching-single-mums-checking-phone-1192x800.webp "3-free-coaching-single-mums-checking-phone - Beanstalk Mums")## **When Is the Right Time to Get Coaching?** The best time is once the crisis has settled and you have a little room to think. Sociii checks this with you at the start. It’s tempting to think the sooner you get help, the better. Actually, that’s not quite right. Early on, the priorities are safety, housing and the practical basics. Natalie said that when Sociii first opened, mums still in the thick of it struggled to keep going. “I couldn’t have done this when I was in kind of a crisis mode,” Katie said. “It would have made no difference to me.” There’s a trade-off to be honest about. Six months is a real commitment, about an hour a session. Katie locked each one into her calendar like a work meeting. If your weeks are already full to the brim, waiting a term is a fair call. If you’re tired of feeling stuck, it might be exactly the right time. And if things still feel heavy, that’s not a failure. Sometimes the better first step is [talking to a counsellor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/counselling-for-single-mums/). You can also call Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636, day or night. ## **How Coaching Changes the Way You Handle Your Ex** Coaching doesn’t change your ex. It changes how much power their messages have over you. For Katie, the biggest shift was knowing what she could control. She keeps conversations with her ex-husband about the children and doesn’t get pulled into side arguments. She used to receive threats and spiral into panic. “Now a threat to me is just words,” she said. Before, her girls could tell she was “freaking out internally”. To be clear, “just words” is about how Katie feels now. It’s not a reason to ignore a threat, and there’s a safety note below. I know that spill-over well. I’ve tried to hide my upset from my kids, and it never works. They always know something’s going on with mum. These days, Katie’s girls watch her build her own business from a small apartment. Her eldest has started a dog-walking business, with signs in their building’s lifts. For more everyday ideas, see our guide on [communicating with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/improve-communication-with-ex/). ![Single mum on an online coaching call at her dining table, notebook open beside the laptop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/4-online-coaching-single-mum-video-call-1192x800.webp "4-online-coaching-single-mum-video-call - Beanstalk Mums")## ****A 60-Second Reset for the 5:30pm Text**** It’s 5:30pm. Dinner’s on the stove, the kids are melting down, and a text from your ex lands. Here’s a two-step reset from Katie and Natalie. 1. **Let an AI tool strip out the noise.** Katie learned this from another mum in the program. Paste the message into an AI chat tool. Ask it to pull out only the practical request you need to answer. “It just keeps you on track,” Katie said, “and then you can keep cooking your dinner for the children.” 2. **Hold the steering wheel.** “You wouldn’t hand the steering wheel to someone else while you were driving,” Natalie said. You don’t owe an instant reply. Feed the kids first, then answer only the facts. Keep it “very factual and kind”. I’ve used an AI chat tool myself to help word a reply. A few cautions, though. - Take out names, addresses and your kids’ details before you paste anything in. - The tool can get things wrong. You still decide what to send. - If a message is a threat, don’t just tidy it up. Screenshot it, keep the original, and contact [1800RESPECT](https://www.1800respect.org.au/) on 1800 737 732, 24 hours a day. If you’re in danger, call 000. ## ******Accepting Help Is Part of the Work****** Saying yes to help can feel harder than doing everything yourself. So many of us grew up believing a good mum keeps every ball in the air. I’d love our daughters to learn something different. Katie still catches herself saying “no, no, we’re fine” when people offer. Now she says yes. “Take the help when it’s offered,” she said. Her reframe for the hard days is a good one. “What’s the worst that’s going to happen?” she asked. “You’re going to go back to where you were, or you’re going to grow further.” Natalie’s version is shorter. Have some hope, find support “whether that’s Sociii or something else”, then do the work. [Single parent support groups](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/) can help with the hope part, because the mums there have been where you are. ## ********Listen to the Full Episode****** + Important Links** 🎧 Prefer to listen to our episodes: APPLE <https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beanstalk-real-talk-for-single-mums/id1226897925> OR SPOTIFY <https://open.spotify.com/episode/0WIm9j0FpkadLxTIsJP5cf?si=aaec9bb1a4d84587> 👯‍♀️ Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice: <https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine> 🎁 Get our favourite practical life hacks, clever shortcuts and simple ideas to save you time, money and effort – <https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/> ![Mum and two daughters packing small parcels at the living room table, rebuilding after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/5-rebuilding-after-separation-mum-daughters-small-business-1192x800.webp "5-rebuilding-after-separation-mum-daughters-small-business - Beanstalk Mums")## ********One Step Is Enough for Today******** You’ve already been through the loudest part. What comes next is quieter, and it’s allowed to take time. Rebuilding your life after separation doesn’t need a perfect plan. It needs one honest step. That might be a coaching application, a chat with a counsellor, or a yes when a friend offers to cook. You were never meant to carry the whole family on your own. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **How long does rebuilding your life after separation take?** There’s no set timeline, and it often starts once the legal and practical crisis has settled. Sociii’s free coaching program runs over about six months. **Is there free coaching for single mums in Australia?** Yes. Sociii is a registered charity that funds one-on-one coaching for single mums, with donors and sponsors covering the cost. **How much does it cost Sociii to coach one mum?** Co-founder Natalie Shaw says it costs around $7,000 to put one woman through the program. Mums pay nothing, because donations and business sponsors cover it. **Can I join Sociii’s program if I live in a regional area?** Yes. The program is delivered online, so mums can join from anywhere in Australia. **Where do I start rebuilding my life after separation?** Start with one supported step, like an application, a counsellor or a friend you can lean on. If you’re still in the first few weeks, focus on safety, housing and the practical basics first. **What should I do if my ex’s messages feel threatening?** Keep copies of the messages and contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, 24 hours a day. If you’re in danger, call 000. --- You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Stuck In A Job? 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The good news is that a solid plan, a realistic budget and a willingness to accept help make an enormous difference. Here’s a practical, week-by-week approach, plus tips on keeping costs down and looking after your kids’ feelings along the way. # **Six weeks out: set the foundations **Lock in your dates.** Confirm your move date, lease end or settlement date, and any overlap between properties. If you can, avoid moving in the same week as school exams, a big work deadline or the kids’ birthdays. ![Mum packing moving boxes before moving house with children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-7.png "moving house as a single mum Copy focus keyphrase - Beanstalk Mums") **Set a budget.** Write down every cost you can think of: removalists or truck hire, bond and rent in advance, cleaning, connection fees, boxes, time off work and takeaway meals in the final days. Add a buffer for surprises. Seeing the full picture early helps you decide where to spend and where to save. **Check what support is available.** Depending on your circumstances, you may be eligible for government or community assistance with moving or housing costs. Services Australia and your state housing authority are good places to start, and local community organisations can sometimes help with bond loans or essentials. It’s worth asking rather than assuming you won’t qualify. **Tell the kids.** Children cope better with change when they hear about it early and from you. Keep it simple and positive, and give them space to ask questions. # **Five weeks out: declutter and get quotes **Clear out first, pack second.** The less you own, the less you pay to move and the less you have to unpack. Sell outgrown toys, clothes and baby gear online, donate what’s still usable and recycle the rest. **Involve the kids.** Give each child a box for things they’re ready to pass on. Letting them choose a charity or decide which toys go to a younger cousin gives them a sense of control. **Get written quotes.** If you’re using professional movers, get at least two or three written quotes and ask what’s included. Check whether they’re accredited by the Australian Furniture Removers Association (AFRA), how insurance works and whether they charge extra for stairs, long carries or packing. If you’re heading interstate or a long way up the coast, ask about backloading or shared loads, which can sometimes work out cheaper if your dates are flexible. # **Four weeks out: sort the paperwork **Start redirecting your life.** Make a list of everyone who needs your new address: school, childcare, doctor, bank, Medicare, Centrelink, your employer, insurers and the electoral roll. Consider setting up mail redirection with Australia Post for the first few months. **Arrange utilities.** Book electricity, gas and internet connections at the new place and disconnections at the old one. Ask about connection fees, as they vary between providers. **Enrol the kids.** If they’re changing schools or childcare, contact the new school early. Ask about uniforms, orientation days and whether your child can visit before their first day. # **Three weeks out: start packing (the smart way) **Pack the rarely used stuff first.** Books, seasonal clothes, decorations and spare linen can all go now. **Label everything.** Write the room and a short description on the side of each box, not just the top. Colour-coding by room is a lifesaver when you’re unloading on your own. **Find free boxes.** Supermarkets, bottle shops and local buy-swap-sell groups are good sources. Ask friends who’ve recently moved, too. **Say yes to help.** If friends or family offer, give them specific jobs: packing the kitchen, minding the kids for an afternoon or dropping off a meal. People are usually happy to help when they know exactly what’s needed. # **Two weeks out: the kids’ corner **Let them pack a box.** Each child can pack a “first night” box with favourite toys, books, a nightlight and their own bedding. It goes in the car with you, not on the truck. **Talk about the new place.** Look at photos of the new home, find the nearest park or library and talk about what their room might look like. For younger kids, picture books about moving can help. **Plan the goodbyes.** Leaving friends is often the hardest part. Organise a small farewell playdate, swap contact details with other parents and promise video calls if you’re moving far away. # **Moving week: keep it simple **Book the kids’ care.** If you can, arrange for a friend, family member or their other parent to have the children on moving day. You’ll get more done and they’ll avoid the stress of watching their home being packed into a truck. **Pack an essentials kit.** Include medications, chargers, toilet paper, snacks, a kettle, mugs, basic cleaning supplies, important documents and a change of clothes for everyone. **Use up food.** Plan simple meals from the freezer and pantry, and give yourself permission to rely on easy dinners for a few days. **Confirm the details.** Double-check times, access and parking with your movers, and confirm key handover arrangements. # **After the move: settle in gently **Set up beds first.** Getting the kids’ rooms ready on the first night, with familiar bedding and their first-night box, helps them feel at home faster. **Keep routines going.** Regular mealtimes, bath time and bedtime stories give children something familiar when everything else is new. ![mother children unpacking new home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-8.png "moving house as a single mum - Beanstalk Mums") **Expect some wobbles.** It’s normal for kids to feel unsettled, clingy or teary after a move, even if they were excited about it. Acknowledge their feelings, reassure them and give them time. If worries persist, have a chat with their teacher, school counsellor or GP. **Look after yourself, too.** You’ve just done a huge job, mostly on your own. Rest when you can, accept offers of help and don’t expect to have every box unpacked in the first week. # **A long-distance move? A few extra tips Moving a long way, such as leaving Brisbane for a fresh start in Far North Queensland to be closer to family, adds a few extra considerations. Allow more time for your belongings to arrive and pack a bigger essentials kit to tide you over. If you’re comparing [removalists Brisbane](https://www.r2g.com.au/removalists-brisbane) families have used for long-distance moves, ask whether they run the route regularly and how they handle delivery timing. At the other end, [removalists Cairns](https://www.r2g.com.au/removalists-cairns) locals recommend can be a good source of local advice, from parking and access at your new address to planning around the tropical wet season. # **You’ve got this [Moving](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/empowering-single-mums-with-efficient-moving-tips/) as a single mum is challenging, but it’s also a chance for a fresh start for you and your kids. Break the job into small weekly steps, ask for help when you need it and give everyone, including yourself, a little grace. Before long, the boxes will be gone and the new place will simply feel like home. ———————————————————— *Written by the team at R2G Transport & Storage, an AFRA-accredited removalist with depots in Brisbane and Cairns.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/moving-house-as-a-single-mum-what-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/moving-house-as-a-single-mum-what-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [The ultimate guide to buying a house in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-a-house/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** [Buying a house in Australia](https://www.completebymjh.com.au/house-and-land-packages/communities/NSW/Newcastle_Hunter) can be an exciting – if expensive – step to take, especially if you’re a single parent. Having your own home offers stability for you and your family. But you’ll want to ensure you’re putting yourself in the best possible position to buy a property you can afford to pay off. Whether you are buying your first home or upgrading, this guide offers the best tips and information for buying property Down Under. ## **How to buy a house: A step-by-step guide** ## **1. Assess your financial situation and savings** Prior to looking for potential properties, know how much you can spend and how much your paycheck can handle for the monthly mortgage. Here’s how to begin: - **Determine how much money you have saved for a deposit.** Ideally, you should aim for at least 20% of the property’s purchase price to avoid paying Lenders Mortgage Insurance (LMI). LMI is an added upfront home purchase cost that can number in the thousands. Some lenders will approve home loans with as little as a 5% deposit. However, there are trade-offs for these, so do your research and work with a good broker. - **Check your credit score:** A good credit score will help you secure a mortgage with favourable terms. Obtain a copy of your credit report and address any issues. - **Create a budget:** Consider your income, expenses, and how much you can afford to repay each month on a mortgage. Doing research will give you an idea of current land and property prices. You can also apply for [home buyer grants](https://www.nsw.gov.au/housing-and-construction/home-buying-assistance/eligibility-assessment) from the Australian government. ## **2. Get pre-approval for a mortgage** A pre-approval gives you a clear idea of how much you can borrow, which helps in narrowing down your property search. - **Research lenders:** Before applying for a loan, compare different lenders. Consider interest rates, fees, and features. - **Apply:** Provide necessary documentation, including proof of income, savings, and identification. - **Receive pre-approval:** If approved, you’ll receive a letter from the lender indicating how much you can borrow. Once you’ve established how much you can borrow, you have two options: follow the next steps yourself, or if you’re in NSW, enlist the help of a [knowledgeable home buyers’ agent](https://www.curtisassociates.com.au/) to handle the details for you. A good agent can save you time, ensure all paperwork is in order, and negotiate the best price. Helping you navigate the property market with ease. As you move forward with your home purchase, it’s also worth considering [how long to pay off your home loan?](https://homestarfinance.com.au/blog/market-insights/how-to-pay-off-your-mortgage-faster/) The length of your loan term can have a significant impact on your financial flexibility and total interest paid. By exploring options to pay off your mortgage faster, you can potentially save thousands over the life of the loan. ## **3. Choose the right location for your new home** - **Proximity to work and amenities:** Is the location convenient for your daily commute? Does it have access to schools, shops, and healthcare? - **Community and lifestyle:** Do you want to move to the suburbs, where [residential land blocks like this](https://www.maidment.com.au/mland/) are often more available? Or do you want to settle in the city? Think about the type of community and lifestyle you want for you and your kids — whether that’s a house, apartment, townhouse, or [duplex that suits your needs](https://www.provincialhomes.com.au/the-cost-of-building-a-duplex-in-sydney/). ![buy a house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/20240707_133329_0000.png "20240707_133329_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Search for a real estate agent** With pre-approval in hand and a location in mind, you can start looking for properties: - **Use real estate websites:** Platforms like Domain and Realestate.com.au are excellent resources for finding properties. - **Visit properties** to get a feel for what’s available and ask questions about the property’s current state and history. - **Contact a real estate agent:** While it’s fair to say that real estate agents have a contentious reputation, they do provide a lot of value to the process. Real estate agents with up-to-date [real estate training and certification](https://entryeducation.edu.au/courses/) are trained to help you find properties that meet your criteria and negotiate on your behalf. If you’re looking to buy in regional New South Wales, you can [browse properties currently for sale with DCCO](https://www.dcco.com.au/search/?show_in_sale=true&show_in_residential=true&sold=0) to explore available homes. ## **5. Conduct due diligence** Once you find a property you like, it’s time to conduct thorough checks: - **Get a building and pest inspection:** Hire professionals from [Little Critters Pest control service areas](https://littlecritterspestcontrol.com.au/areas-serviced/) to inspect the property for structural issues and pests. - **Review the contract of sale:** Have a solicitor or conveyancer review the contract to ensure there are no hidden clauses or issues. - **Check zoning and restrictions:** Verify with local authorities if there are any zoning regulations or restrictions that could affect your plans for the property. ## **6. Make an offer** - **Negotiate the price:** When you’re ready to proceed**,** work with your agent to negotiate a fair price based on market research and property conditions. Hidden defects identified during a [building and pest inspection Gold Coast](https://www.rapidbuildinginspections.com.au/locations/qld/gold-coast.html) buyers commission before purchase can strengthen negotiations around repairs or price adjustments. You can also hire a professional valuer to give an independent valuation. - **Set conditions** in your proposal, such as finance approval and satisfactory inspection results. ## **7. Secure financing through a home loan** If your proposal is accepted, it’s time to finalise your mortgage: - **Submit a formal application** along with all required documentation. - **Receive formal approval:** Once approved, you will be provided a home loan offer outlining the terms and conditions. Remember, your income is more than just your salary. Your bonuses, any interest earned by those maximiser accounts and even your child support income count. Even that side hustle on Etsy will be counted by the lender. On the other hand, credit card limits and even student debt will be assessed when they weigh up whether or not you are eligible for a loan. A savvy mortgage broker helps present your income sources in the best possible light on a loan application. They’ll know what counts – and what doesn’t – for most lenders. ## **8. Exchange contracts of sale** - **Sign the contract:** Both you and the seller will sign the sale contract. - **Pay the deposit:** Typically, a 20% deposit is required at this stage. - **Cooling-off period:** In some states, you may have a cooling-off period during which you can cancel the contract (with potential penalties). ## **9. Settlement and insurance** Finally, settlement. This is where the property title is officially transferred to your name. Conduct a final inspection to ensure the property is in the agreed state. Ensure you have building and/or home and contents insurance in place from the settlement date. Your solicitor or conveyancer will organise the transfer of funds to the seller. Don’t forget about the additional purchase costs, such as stamp duty and legal fees. Once the settlement is complete, you’ll receive the keys to your new home. Hooray! ![buy house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-27.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **10. Move in!** Congratulations! You’ve now become a homeowner. - **Set up utilities:** Arrange for electricity, gas, water, and internet services. - **Change address:** Update your address with banks, government agencies, and other important contacts. - **Enjoy your new crib!** ## **Summary: Final advice on buying a home** [Buying a home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/) as a single mum is both challenging and rewarding. I recall the mix of excitement and nerves when I bought my home. Budgeting carefully, seeking financial advice, and using government grants were crucial. The support of a good real estate agent made all the difference. Despite the hurdles, the joy of providing a stable home for my child made it all worthwhile. It proved that dreams of homeownership are achievable. The cost of purchasing a home goes beyond the asking price. There are hidden expenses lurking around every corner – inspection fees, land tax, moving costs, and the inevitable IKEA trip for furniture. Keep a detailed budget and be prepared for the unexpected. Work around your budget and never apply for a loan amount that you can’t handle paying off every month. A fancy home is nice, but your family’s basic needs should come first. Just follow this guide, and you can make informed decisions throughout the process. Good luck on your journey to homeownership! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-a-house/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-a-house/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** buy home, buy house, property invest --- ### [Therapy for Single Mothers: How To Face Challenges and Improve Confidence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/therapy-for-single-mothers-how-to-face-challenges/) **Published:** October 17, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Therapy for single mothers can help you face parenting challenges, improve confidence, and find personal time. Navigate the single parent burden. **Content:** **Therapy for single mothers gives you a private space to talk through the stress, guilt and loneliness you’re carrying. A good counsellor or psychologist also helps you build skills that steady your mood and your confidence. You don’t need to be in crisis to book in. Worry or low mood that’s hung around for weeks and is changing how you parent is reason enough. Cost doesn’t have to be what stops you, either. For mild stress, there’s a free Medicare service that needs no referral. For anything heavier, your GP can set you up with up to 10 Medicare-subsidised sessions a year.** Do you find yourself increasingly sad, insecure, and angry, and generally losing confidence in your ability to be a mum? If yes, you’re not alone. Parenting, let alone single parenting, after all, is hard. Juggling the seemingly endless responsibilities of raising children, all while dealing with your own emotions about the separation or divorce. The good news is, you already know of a possible solution: therapy for single mothers. The fact that you ended up reading this article must mean you’re already looking into therapy. Sometimes, however, there are things that hinder your willingness to seek professional help. If you are still having second thoughts about the value of therapy or are in need of a final push to finally seek help, Beanstalk Single Mums is here to help. **Quick takeaways:** - **Start free if it’s mild stress or low mood.** Medicare Mental Health Check In offers free online tools based on CBT (a practical, skills-based therapy), plus a trained practitioner by phone or video if you’d like one. It’s open to anyone 16 and over living in Australia, with no referral or diagnosis needed. Call 1800 595 212, weekdays 8:30am to 5pm. - **See your GP when it feels heavier.** Your GP can write a mental health treatment plan under Better Access. It covers part of the cost of up to 10 individual sessions each calendar year with a psychologist, or an eligible social worker or occupational therapist. Ask whether the practice bulk-bills or charges a gap. - **Counselling and CBT suit different needs.** Counselling suits talking things through at your own pace. CBT is more structured and teaches skills for anxiety and low mood. Counsellors sit outside Better Access, so ask about fees before you book. - **If it feels too heavy right now.** Call Lifeline on 13 11 14, any time of the day or night. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change what we recommend. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![Single Mama Way counselling blog woman happy after](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Single-mama-way-counselling-blog-woman-happy-after.jpg "Single mama way counselling blog woman happy after - Beanstalk Mums")## **Why Confidence Matters for Single Mums** ### **The Link Between Therapy for Single Mothers and Confidence** How would you describe your emotional well-being right now? Let’s be real: most of us go through periods where we struggle with our mental health. It’s human. But when your emotional well-being is in a good place, you’re better able to cope with life’s curveballs. You can adapt when things change, face challenges head-on, and still find a way forward. The US Centres for Disease Control and Prevention puts it this way: someone with positive emotional well-being is able to express their emotions in a healthy way, bounce back from tough times, handle conflict without blowing up or shutting down, look for practical solutions, and ask for help when needed. And here’s the thing that often gets overlooked: when you’re emotionally well, your body feels it too. You’re less likely to get sick or injured, and when you do, you tend to recover faster. Your mind and body really are on the same team. All this flows into parenting, which is why therapy for single mothers is crucial. When you feel emotionally strong, you trust yourself more. You know you can handle the tantrums, the teenage mood swings, or whatever else your kids throw at you. You respond with intention, not just impulse. You’re more open to real conversations, you listen better, and you find calmer ways to solve problems with your children. Plus, when your body’s feeling good too, you’ve got the energy to actually show up for them, not just physically, but emotionally too. You’re not just surviving. You’re present. And you’re modelling strength without being hard. That’s a powerful reminder of your strength as a single parent. ### **How Low Self-Esteem Impacts Parenting** Obviously, the state of your self-esteem has a direct impact on how you parent and raise your kids, whether you’re doing it in a single-parent or co-parenting setup. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that children are like sponges. They absorb everything. In many ways, they become a reflection of you. So, when your confidence is low, chances are, theirs will be too. This is what’s called negative modelling. And it’s something worth keeping in mind … always. Low self-esteem doesn’t just sit quietly in the background. It can show up in how you express emotions and how you handle challenges. Lacking communication skills, you might find yourself snapping at your kids, blaming them, or brushing problems under the rug. And over time, that can chip away at their own sense of confidence. This may cause feelings of bitterness and affect your parent-child relationship as they grow. If you recognise that your self-esteem is something you must prioritise for the sake of your children, therapy tailored to single mothers may help. [![Ad banner reading 'Have you had your Happy Hormones today?' with a smiling woman and a Happy Hormones product, and a pink Shop Now button.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Happy-hormones-ad.jpg "Happy-hormones-ad - Beanstalk Mums")](https://happyhealthyyou.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=CommissionFactory&cfclick=4edcca94c010407db930c43c6970519e)Self love for single mums 🌿 support your nervous system rebuild your self worth and begin loving yourself again one gentle step at a time ## **Therapy for Single Mothers: How It Helps Build Confidence** ### **Common Emotional Challenges Single Mums Face** Single parents are superheroes, not an expectation, just recognition of all that we do. But let’s be honest, we’re human, too. We experience mental health struggles just like anyone else… maybe even more. And that’s okay. Stress and anxiety from the seemingly endless child care needs, guilt and self-blame for your inability to give your child everything, relationship problems, and such feelings are common mental health issues that can affect a single parent, especially amidst extraordinary hardship. Experiencing these doesn’t necessarily mean you need therapy. ### **Signs You Might Benefit from Therapy** One of the reasons cited by some of our clients here at Single Mama Way for delaying therapy is thinking that their symptoms are not severe enough to warrant professional help. While it’s true that all of us struggle mentally and emotionally from time to time, it’s important to watch out for signs that you need to take things more seriously. - **Burnout.** Parenthood is tough. But raising a child on your own takes that to a whole new level. Every day, you’re juggling childcare, managing finances, possibly chasing child support, and trying to meet your children’s emotional needs while somehow also remembering your own. It’s no wonder the burden can feel overwhelming. With little to no personal time, burnout can creep in fast. - **Chronic Stress.** It’s ordinary to undergo some sort of stress when parenting alone. But if this condition goes on for extended periods and it seems like everything is stressing you out, you might want to have yourself checked for chronic stress and anxiety. - **Disconnection.** Losing your relationships with friends and family isn’t unusual among single mothers. Solid relationships need effort from both sides, and when everyone’s caught up in their own lives — including you — it’s easy for those connections to fade. Suddenly, your once strong support network feels distant, and those feelings of loneliness hits hard. - **Inadequacy.** I’m willing to bet nearly all of us have felt like we’re not good enough. Truthfully, most of us are just winging it as we go. But when you’re a single mum — whether as a result of divorce or your were never married — those feelings can really take a toll. It’s easy for your self-worth to slip through the cracks. - **Hopelessness.** As humans, we need to live a purposeful existence. It’s not enough for us simply exist; we must feel that there’s a larger reason for us to go on. If you’re feeling hopeless all the time, you might be experiencing something a lot more serious, like depression. [![a gift of reset, mental load relief](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-20.jpg "Passel 3-compressed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) ### **Types of Therapy That Can Help** Thankfully, these don’t have to stand in your way forever. Numerous programs can help parents seeking support in raising a child alone. One of these is therapy. Here are different types of therapy for single mothers: - **[Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).](https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral)** CBT is a well-known and highly structured form of therapy often used to treat anxiety, depression, addiction, and other mental health challenges. The basic idea is that many psychological problems stem from unhelpful thinking patterns and behaviours. The good news is, you can change those. With CBT, you learn skills to overcome these emotions and start feeling more resilient and in control. If there’s trauma involved in your psychological programs, it may be necessary to look into Trauma-informed CBT. - **Counselling.** Counselling, on the other hand, is a more open and adaptive type of one-on-one therapy. It usually takes a bit longer, but it offers a gentle, empathetic approach. Therapists hold space for you to talk freely about your thoughts and struggles, and the focus is more on understanding and healing through conversation. At Single Mama Wa*y*, we offer a safe space for single mums through our counselling service, [How to Rebuild Confidence After Divorce as a Single Mum](https://singlemamaway.com/how-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce-as-a-single-mum/). - **Support Groups for Single Mothers.** Support groups bring together people going through similar experiences. While it’s not a personalised or clinical approach like counselling or CBT, there’s so much value in shared stories and peer support. Hearing others say “me too” can be incredibly healing. Plus, support groups may be more affordable if one-on-one therapy isn’t quite within reach right now. ## **Practical Strategies to Build Confidence Daily** ### **Small Wins That Lead to Big Growth** Finding the right type of therapy is crucial for you to improve your well-being. There are also little things that you can practise on a daily basis to help yourself little by little. Recognising that there is a problem is the first step towards growth. It’s important that you stop looking away and sweeping things under the rug. Deciding to get support and do something about your mental health conditions is necessary. Developing a self-care routine is also important. Simple practises like journaling, mindfulness exercises, and deep breathing exercises, if done regularly and consistently, can foster a healthy environment inside you. ### **The Role of Self-Compassion and Positive Self-Talk** As I mentioned before, feeling like you don’t have a support system is common among single parents. Whether it is real or perceived, there is one person that is always there: yourself. Reconnect with yourself. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions, even if they are negative. It’s okay not to be OK all the time. Allow yourself to feel bad and down, knowing full well that you are going to rise from these feelings. Not beating yourself down with negative self-talk. Believe that you can get over the negative thoughts and feelings. Remind yourself about your positive qualities and the good things you do for your small circle of influence. These are simple but incredibly powerful things you can do every day to help yourself with or without obtaining therapy for single mothers. [![Elle counselling services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Newsletter-artwork-21 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **How to Access Therapy for Single Mothers** ### **Affordable or Free Therapy Options** Affordability is an important factor in whether single mums go to therapy or not. If this is your case, know that it’s not your fault. The whole world can benefit from having more accessible mental health services. Thankfully, there are free or subsidised therapy options available. For example, you can avail of free initial counselling from BetterHelp. This can help if you’re not sure if therapy is for you and are not yet willing to spend on the services. The Australian government also has several community resources and programs that can help single parents access affordable mental health services, like Beyond Blue and Lifeline Australia. [Centrelink](https://my.gov.au/en/services/health-and-disability/mental-health/living-with-mental-illness/payments-and-services-if-you-have-a-mental-illness) also has several assistance programs to help with psychological issues, such as concession or health care cards and Medicare. ### **Online vs. In-Person Therapy: What’s Best for You?** When it comes to the mode of therapy for single mothers, what’s best for you is what fits your life. There are pros and cons to online and face-to-face therapy. Online therapy is best if there is no therapist in your neighbourhood, or if the ones available do not fit your needs. As long as you get matched with a therapist that fits your needs, online therapy can also be more affordable than in-person services because of lower overhead costs. ![Single Mama Way counselling blog online therapy session](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Single-mama-way-counselling-blog-online-therapy-session.png "Single-mama-way-counselling-blog-online-therapy-session - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts on Therapy for Single Mothers as a Tool to Improve Confidence** Single motherhood is tough. There’s no sugar-coating it. You carry so much and you do it often without thanks, without rest, and without a backup plan. But here’s the truth: even in the hardest of seasons, you deserve support. And therapy can be that support. It’s not a luxury or something only for when you’re falling apart. It’s one that helps you rebuild, restore, and rediscover who you are, outside of the role of ‘mum.’ Confidence isn’t something you magically wake up with one day. It’s built slowly, from the inside out. It grows when you feel heard, seen, and understood. It grows when you take small steps toward yourself, your healing, and your peace. Therapy doesn’t make life easier overnight, but it gives you the skills, strength, and space to navigate it with more grace, courage, and clarity. Here at Beanstalk Single Mums, we believe you deserve that. We believe you deserve to feel strong in your choices, grounded in your identity, and confident in your parenting … not because everything’s perfect, but because you’re showing up. Therapy is one of the most powerful steps you can take toward that kind of inner strength. And if today is the day you take that first step, know this: we’re cheering for you. Always. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/therapy-for-single-mothers-how-to-face-challenges/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/therapy-for-single-mothers-how-to-face-challenges/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [60 Clever Last-Minute Halloween Hacks Every Mum Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/last-minute-halloween-hacks/) **Published:** October 21, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Last-minute Halloween hacks for the night before: 10-minute costumes, pantry treats, cheap & spooky decorations, and more. Read this blog today! **Content:** It’s 8pm, the kids have just mentioned the costume parade, and nothing in the house looks remotely spooky. When you’re the only adult sorting dinner, lunches and bedtime, last-minute Halloween hacks aren’t a nice extra. They’re the only plan that’s happening. **A good last-minute Halloween comes down to three things. A costume made from clothes you already own, one simple treat, and a plan for the front door or the street. Everything else is a bonus. In 2026, Halloween falls on Saturday 31 October, so there’s no school-night bedtime to battle. Pick one costume, one snack and one decoration from the hacks below, and you’re set.** **Quick Takeaways** - **Halloween 2026 is a Saturday.** It falls on 31 October, so there’s no school the next day, but it may land on the other parent’s weekend. - **Start with the wardrobe.** A black top, an old sheet or some eyeliner makes a witch, ghost, zombie or black cat in about 10 minutes. - **One treat is plenty.** Ghost bananas or a bowl of lollies at the door is a full Halloween. - **Check anything that lights up.** Battery tea lights and flashing toys can hold button batteries, which are dangerous if a small child swallows one. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![Two children sitting on grass covered in autumn leaves, painting small orange pumpkins with brushes, a watercolor paint palette and tubes of paint beside them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Last-minute-halloween-hacks-1-1.jpg "Last-minute halloween hacks 1 - Beanstalk Mums")## ****What Are Last-Minute Halloween Hacks, Really?**** If you’ve just realised your little ghoul has no costume, or you’re invited to a Halloween party and need something fast, don’t stress. These Last-minute Halloween hacks are quick shortcuts that pull Halloween together with what you already have at home. Think a costume from the wardrobe, a quick no-bake treat and a few toilet-paper decorations. Then either a short walk around the block or a bowl of lollies at the door. They skip the shopping pressure and keep the fun for the kids. Most Halloween advice online starts in September with a craft plan. You don’t need one. Kids tend to remember who they went out with and how full their bag got, not whether the porch matched. Actually, “last-minute” isn’t quite the right way to think about this. These ideas aren’t rushed versions of something better. They’re simply the ones that work in a normal, busy week. This guide won’t cover a full adult party or detailed recipes. It’s for the night before and the day itself. ## ****What Can You Still Sort Out the Night Before Halloween?**** When you’re short on time but still want to wow your guests, these quick and easy Halloween ideas are here to save the day. From no-Nearly everything. Work through it in this order and stop wherever you run out of steam. Charge the torch and lay out the clothes. Morning you will be glad you did. 1. **Raid the wardrobe first.** The costume decides what else you need, and there are plenty of [easy kids costume ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) that use clothes you already own. 2. **Check the pantry.** Bananas, popcorn, plain biscuits and a block of chocolate will cover a treat plate. 3. **Do one quick shop.** Grab a multipack of lollies, a few rolls of toilet paper and some battery tea lights. 4. **Make one decoration with the kids.** Paper bats keep little hands busy while you cook dinner. 5. **Agree on the plan.** Trick-or-treating, a bowl at the door, or a movie at home. Say it out loud so nobody’s surprised at 6pm. 6. **Charge the torch and lay out the clothes.** Morning you will be glad you did. ## ******Halloween 2026 Is on a Saturday. What If It’s Not Your Weekend?****** If Halloween lands on the other parent’s weekend, you can still celebrate. You just move it. Weekends are when lots of shared-care schedules switch houses, so plenty of families will be in this spot in 2026. Two celebrations can feel like a bonus to kids rather than a loss. - **Celebrate on Friday 30 October:** Do the costume, one treat and a spooky movie at your place before handover. - **Hold a “Second Halloween”:** Save one treat and one game for when they’re back. - **Ask about a swap:** If things with the other parent are friendly, a short message about swapping a few hours can work. If not, there’s no need to ask. - **Pack the costume:** Pop it in their bag so they can still dress up wherever they are. It’s normal to feel a bit flat about missing the night. Having something small planned for their return helps, and little rituals like this help kids settle into [living between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/). If talking to the other parent doesn’t feel safe, stick to your current arrangements. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is there if you want to talk it through. ## ******Quick Halloween Costumes You Can Make in Minutes****** The fastest costumes come straight from your wardrobe. A few basics and some makeup cover most of the classic characters. - **The Witch:** A black dress, dark lipstick and a touch of eyeliner. - **The Zombie:** Ripped jeans, an old shirt and a swipe of red lipstick for fake blood. - **The Mummy:** Wrap white clothes or toilet-paper strips over leggings. Quick and fun. - **The Secret Agent:** Black clothes, sunglasses and plenty of attitude. - **The Ghost:** An old white sheet with wide eye holes, trimmed above the ankles so nobody trips. To level things up, add simple accessories you can make or find easily: - A cape cut from an old sheet. - Cardboard masks you paint with the kids. - Witch hats, fairy wings or a broomstick. If you’re short on supplies, pop into [Big W for last-minute Halloween costumes](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzRdeO) that can go into next year’s dress-up box, too. ![Four Halloween monster donuts on a black plate, decorated with pale green and vanilla icing, rainbow sprinkles, candy eyes, white vampire fangs and red candy tongues](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Last-minute-halloween-hacks-1.jpg "Last-minute halloween hacks 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Quick Halloween Treats and Snacks for Party Guests**** No-bake treats are the quickest win. Each of these uses shop-bought basics and very little time. - **Ghost Bananas:** Dip banana halves in white chocolate and dot on mini choc-chip eyes. - **Spider Cupcakes:** Use shop-bought cupcakes, add pretzel legs, and you’re done. - **Pumpkin Biscuits:** Spread orange icing on plain biscuits and add green lollies as stems. - **Bloody Berry Bites:** Dip strawberries in white chocolate and add red icing streaks. - **Healthy Alternative:** Swap heavy sweets for fruit skewers. Think mandarin “pumpkins” and banana “ghosts”. If a guest has a food allergy, check every ingredient before you serve. Raising Children Network explains [food allergies in children](https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/food-allergies) in plain English. On a slower day, our [Halloween recipes and treats](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) go a step further. If other mums are coming over, a small sugar-free thank-you for the grown-ups goes a long way. [Quick beauty fixes from ActiveSkin](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.activeskin.com.au%2Fbuy%2Fdermalogica-protect-renew-holiday-kit%2F) or [beauty-inspired treats](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.activeskin.com.au%2Fbuy%2Felizabeth-arden-eight-hour-lip-tint-duo-set%2F) like a lip tint set make a nice change from chocolate. ## ******Easy DIY Halloween Decorations for Everyone****** Toilet paper, black paper and a few jars will decorate a whole house. None of these need craft skills. - **Toilet-Paper Mummies:** Wrap empty jars, vases or toilet rolls in strips of toilet paper. Add googly eyes or draw them on, then line them up on the windowsill. - **Cut-Out Bats:** Fold black paper, cut out bat shapes and tape them around the house. - **Pumpkin Centrepieces:** Decorate real or faux pumpkins with paint, glitter or markers. Add a few fairy lights for a warm glow. - **Ghost Lanterns:** Draw faces on milk bottles, pop in battery tea lights and line the porch. - **Spider Webs:** Stretch cotton wool and add toy spiders for a creepy effect. - **Kid Creations:** Let the little ones paint paper plates or make monster faces, then put their work on display. One quick check on those tea lights. Many run on button batteries, so make sure the battery cover is screwed shut and keep spares out of reach. The ACCC’s [button battery guide](https://www.productsafety.gov.au/products/electronics-technology/button-batteries) shows what to look for. If you think a child has swallowed one, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26, or 000 in an emergency. Painting pumpkins is faster than carving (and kinder on little fingers), and there are plenty of [no-carve pumpkin ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/) to try. When time runs short, pick up some ready-made [Halloween décor from Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/xLK4g5) and mix it in with your handmade pieces. ## ****Budget-Friendly Last-Minute Halloween Hacks for Families**** The cheapest Halloween uses what’s already in your cupboards, plus a quick stop at a discount shop. - **Shop Smart:** Discount variety shops and op shops are a goldmine for Halloween décor and dress-up pieces. - **Reuse and Reinvent:** Pull out last year’s costumes or an old Book Week outfit and add a spooky twist. - **Pantry Snacks:** Popcorn, fruit and melted chocolate become “monster munch”. Leftover cupcakes just need some icing. - **Fun on a Budget:** Try a mummy-wrapping race, a “pumpkin toss” with rolled-up socks, or spooky stories by torchlight. - **Decorate with Heart:** Mix handmade craft pieces with a few discount finds. For a small surprise on the day, the [Halloween gift guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-gift-guide/) has picks for every budget. Spending less doesn’t make it a smaller Halloween. ## ****Spooky Yet Simple Halloween Drinks and Cocktails**** A coloured cordial or juice in a fun glass does most of the work. These take a couple of minutes each. - **Witches’ Brew Punch:** Green cordial, lemonade and lime sorbet. - **Monster Mocktail:** Soda water, cranberry juice and orange slices. - **Bloody Mary Twist:** Tomato juice, lemon and celery “bones”. - **Midnight Sparkler (for the grown-ups):** Sparkling wine, blackberries and a touch of lime. - **Travel-Inspired Drinks:** A Transylvanian Sangria is red grape juice with sliced apple and orange. A Tokyo Ghost Fizz is lychee juice, soda water and lime. If they get you daydreaming, [Skyscanner](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/WyGBbn) is handy for browsing flights for the next school holidays. For extra drama, add red ice cubes or serve juice in plastic syringes. ![milk bottle ghost lanterns with battery tea lights on porch steps, a last-minute Halloween decoration](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/4-last-minute-halloween-milk-bottle-ghost-lanterns.webp "4-last-minute-halloween-milk-bottle-ghost-lanterns - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Fun Halloween Games to Try for Kids and Adults**** The best Halloween games need a roll of toilet paper and some music. That’s about it. - **Mummy Wrap Race:** Teams race to “wrap their mummy” in toilet paper the fastest, with bonus points for neatness and giggles. - **Pumpkin Toss:** Use orange balls or rolled-up socks and aim for buckets. Move the bucket further back for the adults. - **Zombie Freeze Dance:** When the music stops, everyone freezes in their best zombie pose. It burns off energy before bed. Turn the lights down and let everyone be a bit silly. If the kids want more, these [kids Halloween games](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/kids-halloween-games/) work well at home too. ## **Quick Halloween Makeup and Face Paint Ideas** Set up the door first, then sort the walk. Ten minutes of prep makes the night run smoother. - **Lolly Bags:** Use paper bags or cupcake wrappers and let the kids paint faces on them. - **Mix It Up:** Add glow sticks or mini toys as fun alternatives. - **Lolly Swaps:** Stickers, pencils and erasers won’t melt in the spring heat, and they suit kids with food allergies. - **Bulk Treats:** Grab a multipack of lollies on your next shop. - **Treat Station:** Put out a bowl and fairy lights so trick-or-treaters can help themselves while you’re out. Not every house in Australia joins in. A rule lots of families use is to only knock where there are decorations or a porch light on. In states with daylight saving, it’s still light at dinnertime, so an early start is easy. ### ****How Do You Trick-or-Treat Solo With More Than One Kid?**** Go early, keep it short, and set one rule everyone can remember. - Plan a loop of one or two streets, so the youngest can walk home. - Pop the toddler in the pram, and let older kids run ahead only as far as you can see. - Agree on a meeting spot, like each letterbox, before anyone sets off. - Leave the treat bowl and a sign at your own door. Tweens often want to go with friends instead. Raising Children Network has practical tips on [going out independently](https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/safety/car-pedestrian-safety/going-out-independently-children), from phone check-ins to agreed routes. And if a walk feels like too much this year, a movie and a bowl of popcorn at home still counts as Halloween. ### ******Which Halloween Safety Checks Matter Most?****** Visibility and flames are the two to sort before you leave. - Add something bright or a glow stick to dark costumes so drivers can see the kids. - Keep candles and lit jack-o’-lanterns away from capes, wigs and long sleeves. - Hold hands at every road crossing, even on quiet streets. ### ********Quick Halloween Makeup and Face Paint Ideas******** Eyeliner, lipstick and a little eyeshadow create four classic looks in minutes. - **Skeletons in Seconds:** Use white face paint or pale foundation as a base. Draw black circles around the eyes and a stitched smile with eyeliner. - **Wicked Witches:** Green or purple eyeshadow, winged eyeliner and messy hair. Add dark lipstick for extra drama. - **Classic Black Cat:** Draw whiskers and a tiny nose with eyeliner, then pop on a headband with ears. - **Vampire Vibes:** Pale skin (thank you, baby powder), red lipstick “blood” and dark eyeshadow. If you’re out of face paint, mix cornflour, water and food colouring for a cheap option that washes off easily. Test a little on the inside of the wrist first, since some kids have sensitive skin. If you’d rather use proper makeup on your own face, [ActiveSkin has ready-made makeup kits](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.activeskin.com.au%2Fbuy%2Fjane-iredale-value-box-with-the-handi-brush-bundle-light-beige%2F) for a quick, even base. If you’d like a full costume for yourself too, there are plenty of [DIY costumes for grown-ups](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/best-halloween-costumes-for-adults-in-2024/) to borrow from. ![mum drawing black cat whiskers on a child’s face with eyeliner, a last-minute Halloween makeup hack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/5-last-minute-halloween-makeup-black-cat.webp "5-last-minute-halloween-makeup-black-cat - Beanstalk Mums")## **A Last-Minute Halloween Is Still a Real Halloween** Halloween doesn’t need weeks of planning, a matching porch or a big shopping bill. One costume, one treat and one silly game is plenty. The kids will remember the giggles far more than the details. Pick one idea from these last-minute Halloween hacks tonight and let the rest go. It still counts, and you’ve handled much harder evenings than this one. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are the best last-minute Halloween hacks for mums?** Pick one costume from clothes you already own, make one no-bake treat, and choose a short trick-or-treat loop or a bowl of lollies at the door. None of it needs a special shopping trip. **What day is Halloween in 2026?** Halloween falls on Saturday 31 October 2026. There’s no school the next day, but in shared-care families it may land on the other parent’s weekend. **Which last-minute Halloween hacks work for costumes?** A witch, zombie, mummy, ghost or black cat can all be made from a black top, an old sheet, toilet paper and eyeliner. Most take about 10 minutes. **Is it still light for trick-or-treating in Australia?** Daylight saving starts on the first Sunday in October in NSW, Victoria, the ACT, South Australia and Tasmania, so it’s light in the early evening. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t use daylight saving, so it gets dark earlier there. **Are battery tea lights safe around kids?** They’re safer than candles, but many contain button batteries, so check the battery cover is secure. If you think a child has swallowed one, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26. **What can I give trick-or-treaters instead of lollies?** Stickers, pencils, erasers, glow sticks and mini toys all work, and they won’t melt in spring weather. They’re also a kind option for kids with food allergies. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/last-minute-halloween-hacks/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/last-minute-halloween-hacks/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Halloween **Tags:** halloween, last-minute halloween hacks --- ### [Easy Kid Friendly Freezer Meals Your Family Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-kid-friendly-freezer-meals/) **Published:** June 28, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** **Quick Takeaways from easy kid friendly freezer meals** - Maximise your freezer space to save time and reduce weeknight dinner stress. - Batch-cooking ensures you always have healthy, kid-approved meals ready in minutes. - The secret to freezer prep success is knowing exactly which recipes freeze and reheat well. If you aren’t already utilising your freezer to its full potential, it’s time to start. This wonderful kitchen appliance lets you prep delicious, nutritious meals when it suits your schedule, so they are ready to simply defrost and serve when you are short on time. While the convenience is unbeatable, the real trick is knowing what actually survives the freeze-thaw cycle without losing its flavour. We’ve done the research for you and rounded up the most popular, highly-rated make-ahead freezer meals that your kids will genuinely love. And for bigger occasions like birthday parties, [Tasty Paella](https://tastypaella.com.au/) can take the cooking off your plate entirely. Read Next: **[7 Great meal planning apps for families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/meal-planning-apps/)** ## 1. Vegetable lasagne Make this veggie lasagne ahead of time and freeze the whole thing for an easy, scrumptious dinner. Or slice and freeze for lunches and on-the-go meals. [![kid friendly freezer meals | Vegetable Lasagne | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/8moBjmBF/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/vegetable-lasagne-77907-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/vegetable-lasagne-2/7fcf9694-dfe8-4df6-90a2-4943079cc803) Recipe Source: [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/vegetable-lasagne-2/7fcf9694-dfe8-4df6-90a2-4943079cc803) ## 2. Peanut butter chicken Peanut butter, chicken and coconut milk make for a sweet, tangy burst of flavour. Even the kids will ask for seconds. Make a large batch and freeze leftovers for lunch. [![Peanut Butter Chicken | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/peanut-butter-chicken-37f339a.jpg?quality=90&resize=440,400)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-chicken) Recipe Source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-chicken) ## 3. Sweet potato, chickpea and spinach curry This veggie curry by Jamie Oliver is hearty, high in fibre and full of antioxidants. It’s also cheap and easy to make. Freeze leftovers in individual bags for easy lunches. Here are a few more ideas in case you struggle like us: **[“Lunch box Ideas: Cheap and Healthy Lunchbox Fillers for Kids”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-and-healthy-lunchbox-fillers-for-kids/)** [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/46256315-1.webp "46256315 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/vegetables/sweet-potato-chickpea-amp-spinach-curry/) Recipe Source: [Jamie Oliver](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/vegetables-recipes/sweet-potato-chickpea-amp-spinach-curry/?family-food-category=104951) ## 4. Instant Pot Shredded Beef Fajitas Try freezer fajitas next time you’re craving meat that’s on the table in minutes. Place all ingredients in a 4L bag and freeze for at least 12 hours before thawing and popping in the Instant Pot. [![Instant Pot Shredded Beef Fajitas | Beanstalk Mums](https://happymoneysaver.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/instant-pot-beef-fajitas-4-683x1024.jpg)](https://happymoneysaver.com/instant-pot-shredded-beef-fajitas-freezer-meal/) Recipe Source: [Happy Money Saver](https://happymoneysaver.com/instant-pot-shredded-beef-fajitas-freezer-meal/) ## 5. Cottage pie We love how easy this cottage pie comes together. There’s a lot of ingredients, but it’s just a matter of mixing everything together and letting the oven do the rest. Bake right away or store in the freezer. [![Cottage Pie | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-1074465_10-0f090a9.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cottage-pie) Recipe Source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cottage-pie) ## 6. Five-a-day tagine Sweet and spicy tagine serves up a day’s worth of nutrients from veggies. Double or triple the recipe and freeze the portions. [![5-a-day Tagine | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-1069520_11-38d37ad.jpg?quality=90&resize=440,400)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/5-day-tagine) Recipe Source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/5-day-tagine) ## 7. Beef and bacon pasta bake We love freezer-friendly casseroles. This one is meaty, hearty and cheesy…guaranteed to please the pickiest eaters. Enjoy it for an entire week by doubling the recipe and freezing. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Beef and Bacon Pasta Bake | Beanstalk Mums](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/18-19285-post/beef-and-bacon-pasta-bake-3-600x433.jpg)](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/recipes/beef-and-bacon-pasta-bake/) Recipe Source: [The Organised Housewife](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/recipes/beef-and-bacon-pasta-bake/) ## 8. Lamb rissoles When everyone’s hungry and you want something that’s ready in a flash, try these lamb rissoles. Make a large batch and freeze to save even more time. Serve with prepared gravy and steamed veggies. [![Lamb Rissoles | Beanstalk Mums](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/lamb-rissole2-600x407.jpg)](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/recipes/lamb-rissoles/) Recipe Source: [The Organised Housewife](https://theorganisedhousewife.com.au/recipes/lamb-rissoles/) ## 9. Easy freezer meatballs Freezer meatballs are a kitchen staple. All you need is mince, spices and bread crumbs. Triple the recipe and stock in the freezer so you’ll always have something tasty for sandwiches, pasta or eating alone. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Easy Freezer Meatballs | Beanstalk Mums](https://happymoneysaver.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/67017705_ml-683x1024.jpg)](https://happymoneysaver.com/easy-freezer-meatballs-recipe/) Recipe Source: [Happy Money Saver](https://happymoneysaver.com/easy-freezer-meatballs-recipe/) ## 10. Classic chunky fishcakes Fish cakes are kid friendly and as easy as 1-2-3. Use your favourite fish (we like salmon) to make a big batch, freeze and defrost as many as you need. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Classic chunky fish cakes | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-517515_12-07bec91.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/classic-chunky-fish-cakes) Recipe Source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/classic-chunky-fish-cakes) ## 11. Chicken and veggie stir fry Make this for stir fry night or whenever you’re too busy to spend hours in the kitchen. Great for making ahead…put the blanched veggies and cooked chicken in zip-top bags and store for up to 2 months. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Chicken Veggie Stir Fry | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/SHK-May-Recipes-25-497x745.jpg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/healthy-freezer-meals-for-busy-nights/) Recipe Source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/healthy-freezer-meals-for-busy-nights/) ## 12. Skillet honey lime tilapia Fish fillets in marinade can be frozen for weeks. This recipe calls for tilapia but feel free to substitute any fish. We like to separate family-size portions in freezer bags for easy thawing. [![ Skillet Honey Lime Tilapia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/honey-lime-tilapia-fish-recipe-1.jpg "honey-lime-tilapia-fish-recipe-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fabulesslyfrugal.com/recipes/skillet-honey-lime-tilapia/) Recipe Source: [Fabulessly Frugal](https://fabulesslyfrugal.com/recipes/skillet-honey-lime-tilapia/) ## 13. Tomato broccoli mozzarella pasta casserole Hide the broccoli in this pasta casserole to fool veggie haters. It’s like a healthier version of pizza that’s irresistible to kids. You can assemble the ingredients together in the baking pan and freeze ahead of time. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Tomato Broccoli Mozzarella Pasta Casserole | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.apartmenttherapy.info/image/fetch/f_auto,q_auto:eco,c_fit,w_660/https%3A%2F%2Fstorage.googleapis.com%2Fgen-atmedia%2F3%2F2015%2F09%2Ffc05615fad470df1e7072a9409ee54e1e8619ec5.jpeg)](https://www.thekitchn.com/recipe-tomato-broccoli-amp-mozzarella-pasta-casserole-153919) Recipe Source: [The Kitchn](https://www.thekitchn.com/recipe-tomato-broccoli-amp-mozzarella-pasta-casserole-153919) ## 14. Mexican fish stew A healthier alternative to beef stew, Mexican fish stew is perfect for busy nights. No need to thaw already frozen fish, just mix everything in freezer bags and defrost as needed. [![Mexican Fish Stew | Beanstalk Mums](https://food.fnr.sndimg.com/content/dam/images/food/fullset/2012/2/28/1/FNM_040112-WN-Dinners-021_s4x3.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.826.620.suffix/1371605951276.jpeg)](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/mexican-fish-stew-recipe-2119830) Recipe Source: [Food Network](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/mexican-fish-stew-recipe-2119830) ## 15. Easy eggplant parmesan For no-meat Mondays or any day you feel like eating more veggies, make this freezer-friendly easy eggplant Parmesan. Instead of pasta, use zucchini noodles or spaghetti squash to make it even healthier. [![15 Make Ahead Freezer Meals | Easy Eggplant Parmesan | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.theliveinkitchen.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/02143947/web-eggplant-parmesan-oh.jpg)](https://theliveinkitchen.com/easy-eggplant-parmesan/) Recipe Source: [The Live In Kitchen](https://theliveinkitchen.com/easy-eggplant-parmesan/) If you’re looking for more ways to stretch your grocery budget, check out our favourite cheap family meals in **[20 Cheap meal ideas to feed your family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-winter-meals-for-families/)** Wrapping up weeknight dinners doesn’t have to be a daily battle. By stocking your freezer with these kid friendly freezer meals, you’re giving your future self the ultimate gift of time, energy, and peace of mind. Whether you spend a Sunday afternoon batch-cooking or simply double your family’s favourite recipe during the week, a little prep goes a long way. Clear out some space in your freezer, grab the storage containers, and start making those chaotic evenings a breeze! ## Frequently Asked Questions **How long do kid friendly freezer meals last in the freezer?** Generally, most cooked make-ahead meals will maintain their best quality and flavour for 2 to 3 months. To keep your freezer organised and avoid freezer burn, always label your containers or ziplock bags with the recipe name and the date it was made. **What is the best way to reheat frozen meals?** For the best texture and flavour, it’s usually recommended to thaw your meals overnight in the fridge before reheating them in the oven, slow cooker, or microwave. However, many liquid-heavy meals like soups, stews, and some casseroles can be reheated straight from frozen—just be sure to add extra cooking time! **What ingredients should I avoid putting in freezer meals?** Not everything survives the freeze-thaw cycle. Avoid freezing meals that rely heavily on raw potatoes (they get mushy and grainy), mayonnaise, sour cream, or watery vegetables like lettuce and cucumber. Stick to robust casseroles, stews, meats, and baked pastas for the best results. **What are the best containers for freezing food?** To maximise space, heavy-duty freezer bags are fantastic because they can be laid flat to freeze and then stacked like books. For casseroles and bakes, use airtight glass or BPA-free plastic containers, or line a baking dish with foil before adding your food (once frozen solid, you can lift the foil block out, wrap it tightly, and put the dish back in your cupboard!). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-kid-friendly-freezer-meals/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-kid-friendly-freezer-meals/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food **Tags:** cooking, recipes, bulk, freezer, food prep --- ### [Creating a Stimulating Learning Environment for Toddlers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/creating-a-learning-environment-for-toddlers/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Just picture a world where a child’s natural curiosity is nurtured daily. A learning environment for toddlers should feel like an adventure, not a pressure. And it’s possible! It can be created in your home or at a childcare centre like [Childcare Gregory Hills](https://raisingstars.com.au/child-care/gregory-hills/ "Childcare Gregory Hills"). A child’s natural curiosity is sparked every day. In a learning environment, they find learning is an adventure, not a chore. This isn’t just a dream — it’s a reality that can be created in your home or through high-quality [early learning centres](https://www.mmcnq.catholic.edu.au/early-learning-centres-townsville/) where nurturing environments support children’s growth and development. By providing a stimulating learning environment, we can foster a love of learning in our youngest members of society. This is just to understand that when a child is engaged all the time, they are allowed to indulge in an educational game, not schooling. ## Why a Stimulating Environment Matters A stimulating environment is very important to a toddler’s brain, heart, and social skills. It contains a high potential for children not just to explore but also to experiment and figure out issues by themselves. They develop the skills when participating in the activities where they are challenged. These are some of the skills a child develops: - **Cognitive Skills**: Memory, attention span, and critical thinking come under this category. - **Language Skills**: A wealth of language in an environment makes it possible for children to learn new words and communicate effectively. - **Social and Emotional Skills**: Playing with others and associating with adults makes them learn how to share, work together, and regulate their emotions. - **Fine and Gross Motor Skills**: Kids feel the freedom to roam and manipulate objects, which in turn prompts the development of physical coordination. ## Creating a Stimulating Learning Environment These are some of the practical ways you can provide a stimulating learning environment for your toddler: It does not take very complex tasks and costly materials to provide children with an opportunity to explore things. Even simple puzzles, building blocks, or [Montessori toys for early learning](https://alphabet-trains.com/montessori-toys.html), provide children with an opportunity to explore coordination, solve problems, and think independently while playing. Availability of such materials so close at hand also means that the child is free to make their own choices. ### **Provide a Variety of Sensory Experiences: - **Sensory Bins**: Fill these with different things like rice, beans, or water beads. - **Playdough**: You are trying to get them to think of answers to a problem and, funnily, to do it. Besides that, they also get a chance to work on their fingers. - **Art Activities**: It’s a great tool to help discover self-expression, increase vocabulary, and even give them confidence - **Music and Movement**: Sing, dance, and liven up the atmosphere using musical instruments. ### **Nature Walks:** Go outside and discover the natural world ![Learning Environment for Toddlers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-images-52.jpg "Beanstalk Mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Read Aloud Daily: Choose Books with Bright Pictures - **Simple Stories**: Attract kids’ attention and improve their imagination by speaking aloud, telling little stories. Talk About the Story: Seed dialogue amongst children, and in the process, they can grasp the story. Point to Words and Pictures: Alleles pointing out words and pictures will help children draw parallels between spoken and written words. - **Choose Books with Bright Pictures and Simple Stories**: Get kids’ attention with pictorial books that say only one sentence. - **Talk About the Story**: Lead the child’s conversation about his or her understanding. - **Point to Words and Pictures**: The child will find it easier to understand when the words are connected to corresponding images. ### **Limit Screen Time: - **Prioritise** Real-World Experiences: Emphasise the child’s active role and try to move away from screens to socialise. - **Play Educational Games and Watch Educational Shows**: If technology is used, children can benefit from playing programs and apps that have an educational aspect to them. Let the children play. Try to make the plays as interactive and physical as possible and introduce them to other children. Whether it is simply reading a story or talking to the teachers about where they play and who they like, the child’s environment is encouraging and viable and promotes early childhood development. ## The Role of Childcare Centres Children’s care services, like childcare centres like [Childcare Mayfield](https://www.gowriensw.com.au/early-education-and-preschool/mayfield), play a pivotal role in offering diverse learning environments for young people. Finally, they have educators who are trained to give age-fitting activities for the children and to instil in their minds a yearning to be educated. Through an excellent childcare centre, ensuring your kid has the best start to their life is assured. ## Conclusion to Creating a Learning Environment for Toddlers Forming a conducive environment for toddlers to learn is the first step. Through scouring for varied means of exploration, creativity, and social engagement, we can profoundly influence the success and happiness of our children. Think of every day as an opening for them to show interest, and let them love learning all their life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/creating-a-learning-environment-for-toddlers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/creating-a-learning-environment-for-toddlers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Kid-Safe Pest Prevention for Your Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kid-safe-pest-prevention-for-your-home/) **Published:** October 13, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There are plenty of household problems parents expect to deal with: fingerprints on clean windows, toys underfoot and a washing basket that never seems to stay empty. Mosquitoes, ants, cockroaches and other pests are far less welcome. For families in warmer parts of Australia, especially tropical areas such as Far North Queensland, pests can become more than an occasional annoyance. Children spend time on floors, in backyards and in places adults may barely notice, so prevention is worth building into everyday household routines. For single mums, that does not need to mean adding another big job to an already full list. A few simple habits can make a real difference without turning pest prevention into a weekend project. If you already have a persistent problem that is not responding to normal prevention, speaking with a provider of[ ](https://ulyssespestcontrolcairns.com.au/)[professional pest control in Cairns](https://ulyssespestcontrolcairns.com.au/) can also help identify where pests are coming from and what may be attracting them to the property. ## **1. Start With Standing Water Mosquitoes need water to breed, and it does not take much. Rainwater can collect in children’s buckets, outdoor toys, plant saucers, wheelbarrows, paddling pools, blocked gutters and unused containers. After rain, take a quick walk around the backyard and tip out water from anything that does not need to be holding it. Queensland Health recommends removing pools of standing water around homes where practical because they can provide mosquito breeding opportunities. Children’s toys are worth checking carefully. A bucket or plastic truck left outside can fill with rainwater and sit unnoticed for days. ## **2. Check Window and Door Screens Fly screens are easy to ignore until you notice a tear. Check screens around bedrooms and frequently opened doors from time to time. Even small gaps can allow mosquitoes inside. The Raising Children Network recommends insect screens on windows and doors as one way to help prevent mosquito bites in children. If your children are constantly running in and out of the backyard, a self-closing screen door can also be helpful. ## **3. Keep Food and Drinks Under Control Anyone with children knows food rarely stays where it was meant to. Crumbs under the dining table, an unfinished drink beside the couch or food beneath a highchair can attract ants, cockroaches and other pests. ![kid-safe pest prevention for a family home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-4.png "pest prevention - Beanstalk Mums") You do not need to clean obsessively. Focus on a few basic habits: - wipe eating areas after meals - vacuum under the dining table - rinse sticky drink bottles - store food in sealed containers - avoid leaving pet food out unnecessarily - empty rubbish regularly. Keeping most meals and snacks in the kitchen or dining area can also reduce forgotten plates and wrappers around the house. ## **4. Check Hidden Kitchen Areas Most people clean the kitchen surfaces they can see, but crumbs and grease can build up under refrigerators, ovens, dishwashers and cabinets. You do not need to move every appliance each week. An occasional clean underneath movable appliances can remove food sources that may attract pests. Check the pantry too. Spilled cereal, rice, flour and other dry foods should be cleaned up rather than left behind packets. ## **5. Protect Kids From Mosquito Bites Outdoors Appropriate clothing can help reduce exposed skin when mosquitoes are active. The Raising Children Network recommends measures such as light-coloured clothing, long sleeves and pants, insect screens and suitable insect repellent. ![kid-safe pest prevention for a family home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-5.png "pest prevention - Beanstalk Mums") For young children, adults should apply repellent rather than allowing children to spray it themselves. Always follow the product label. Queensland Health also advises carers to apply repellent to their own hands first before applying it to a young child’s exposed skin. If you are unsure whether a product is appropriate for your child’s age, check the label or ask a pharmacist or healthcare professional. ## **6. Remember the Family Pet Dogs and cats may encounter fleas, ticks and other parasites outdoors. Keep pets on an appropriate veterinarian-recommended parasite prevention program and wash pet bedding regularly. If fleas are confirmed, remember they may also be present in carpets, bedding and other places where your pet spends time. ## **7. Reduce Pest-Friendly Areas Around the House You do not need to remove your garden to discourage pests. However, very dense vegetation immediately against the house can make inspection and maintenance harder. Trim plants covering windows or exterior walls and remove piles of dead leaves and garden debris from beside the building. Water also matters. Check beneath sinks, around laundry plumbing and near outdoor taps for leaks or damp areas. Fixing leaks early is good household maintenance and removes another condition some pests may take advantage of. ## **8. Be Careful With DIY Pest Products Homes with young children need to be especially careful about how pest-control products are stored and used. Keep pesticides and household chemicals completely out of children’s reach and follow label directions carefully. Do not assume using more will make a product work better. Products described as natural should also be handled responsibly. Natural does not automatically mean harmless, especially around young children and pets. ## **9. Pay Attention to Repeated Pest Sightings One cockroach does not necessarily mean you have an infestation, but repeated sightings deserve attention. The same applies to ants continually appearing in one area, regular flea bites or mosquitoes getting inside despite intact screens. Look for patterns. Are pests appearing near food, water or a particular entry point? ![kid-safe pest prevention for a family home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-6.png "pest prevention - Beanstalk Mums") Sometimes the solution is as simple as repairing a screen, cleaning up a hidden food source or fixing a leak. Persistent activity may require further investigation. ## **10. Know When a Bite Needs Medical Attention Most insect bites in children are uncomfortable rather than serious. The[ ](https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/insect-bites-stings)[Raising Children Network provides guidance on insect bites and stings](https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/insect-bites-stings), including when parents should seek medical attention. Contact your doctor if your child develops concerning symptoms such as significant swelling, signs of infection or feeling unwell after a bite. If a child develops signs of a severe allergic reaction, including difficulty breathing or swelling of the tongue or throat, seek emergency medical assistance immediately. ## **11. Make Prevention Part of Your Routine Parents already have enough to do, and for single mums especially, pest prevention should be simple. Build it into [normal household routines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/): empty standing water after rain, store food properly, clean significant spills, maintain fly screens, wash pet bedding, empty rubbish and fix leaking taps. The aim is not to keep a perfectly spotless home. Children will make mess, pets will bring dirt inside and toys will end up scattered around the backyard. The goal is simply to stay on top of the things that matter. Removing easy sources of food, water and shelter can make your home much less inviting to mosquitoes, ants, cockroaches and other unwanted visitors — leaving the inside of the house for the chaos you actually signed up for. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kid-safe-pest-prevention-for-your-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kid-safe-pest-prevention-for-your-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Single Mum Travel Checklist: Jobs Easy to Forget](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-travel-checklist-jobs-easy-to-forget/) **Published:** October 13, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When there are two of you, travel prep splits itself up without anyone really deciding it should. One of you sorts the boarding passes, the other remembers the kids’ medication. When it’s just you, every single one of those jobs lands on your desk, and the ones that get missed are rarely the big, obvious ones. It’s the small admin that falls through the cracks, the stuff that only matters when you’re standing at a check-in counter and realise you needed it twenty minutes ago. ## The paperwork that trips people up Everyone remembers passports. Fewer people remember that if you’re taking the kids overseas without their other parent, some countries and some airlines want to see a [signed letter of consent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/) from them, especially if your surname is different to your child’s. It isn’t always asked for, but when it is, it’s asked for at the gate, not somewhere you can duck off and print one. If there’s a custody order or a parenting plan involved, a copy of that is worth packing too, even if you’re fairly sure you won’t need it. ![single mum travel checklist for flying with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-3.png "single mum travel checklist - Beanstalk Mums") Worth doing the week before, not the night before: check every passport expiry date, including yours. A lot of countries want six months’ validity left on arrival, and that catches out more parents than you’d think, usually because they checked the kids’ passports and forgot their own. ## Medical stuff, written down somewhere boring and reliable If a doctor or a pharmacist ends up needing your child’s information and you’re not standing right there, a notes app full of half-remembered details isn’t much use. A simple written list, allergies, regular medication and doses, your GP’s number, Medicare details, costs nothing and takes ten minutes. Keep medication in its original packaging, especially anything prescribed, and carry a bit more than you think you’ll need. Flights get delayed. Pharmacies overseas don’t stock what you expect them to. ## Someone back home who actually knows the plan Not just “I’ll text you when I land.” A specific person who has your flight numbers, where you’re staying each night, and a general idea of the plan, kept somewhere other than their memory. If something goes sideways, a friend trying to explain to a hospital or an embassy which hotel you’re even in is not the moment to be figuring that out from scratch. A shared note or a quick email works fine. It doesn’t need to be fancy, it just needs to exist somewhere other than your own head. ## Staying reachable, properly This is the one that catches solo-parent trips out more than almost anything else. You’re the only adult, which means you’re the only person who can make a decision if something happens, and that’s a genuinely bad moment to discover your phone has no signal. Roaming can be expensive enough that people switch it off without thinking, and then spend the first day of the trip hunting for airport WiFi instead of actually being present with the kids. A lot of travelling mums sort a local data plan before they fly instead, an eSIM from somewhere like [Holafly](https://esim.holafly.com/) installs before you even leave home and is already working when you land, so you’re not relying on a hotel’s patchy WiFi to look up directions, book a cab, or just let someone know you’ve landed safely. It’s one less thing to sort out while also wrangling bags, kids and a jet-lagged toddler. ![single mum travel checklist for flying with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-2.png "single mum travel checklist - Beanstalk Mums") Whatever you use, make sure the kids know how to reach you too, even a simple rule like “stay where you are and I’ll come to you” if you get separated in an airport or a theme park, said out loud before you land, not worked out in a panic. ## Backups, because plans change A rideshare app that works in the country you’re visiting, downloaded before you go rather than discovered mid-meltdown at arrivals. A screenshot of your accommodation address and booking confirmation, saved offline, in case the app won’t load. A second card or some emergency cash kept separate from your main wallet, since losing a bag with every payment method in it is a very different problem to losing one with a spare. None of this needs a spreadsheet. It just needs five minutes and somewhere to put it before the trip, not during it. ## The job nobody puts on a checklist The actual hardest part of solo travel with kids isn’t any single task, it’s holding all of them in your head at once while also being the fun parent, the organised parent and the only parent, all day, every day of the trip. Getting a few of the boring bits sorted in advance, the consent letter, the medication list, a working phone, someone back home with the details, doesn’t make the trip easier exactly. It just means the things that go wrong are the normal holiday things, a missed train, a grumpy kid, a lost sock, rather than something that could have been avoided with ten quiet minutes the week before you left. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-travel-checklist-jobs-easy-to-forget/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-travel-checklist-jobs-easy-to-forget/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Travel --- ### [Is Pet Insurance Worth It? What You Need To Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/is-pet-insurance-worth-it/) **Published:** April 22, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Thinking of skipping pet insurance because your pet is young and seems invincible? I was right there with you, until my border collie’s vet bill gave me a mini heart attack. As a single mum and pet parent, I’ve learned the hard way that pet emergencies don’t come with a warning. So, if you’ve ever Googled “is pet insurance worth it?” at 2 am after your dog swallowed something suspicious, this one’s for you. In this post, I’ll break down why you need pet insurance, what it covers (and doesn’t), how much it’ll cost you, and whether it’s the right call for your pet. ## **Is Pet Insurance Worth It?** **(The Basics)** If you are a fur mum to an adorable but hyperactive fur baby, I’m sure the question “Is pet insurance worth it?” has crossed your mind dozens of times. So you put it on your to-do list. But then you had more important things to do, and the task kept getting pushed down the list. That’s completely understandable. Now that you finally have the time to look into the topic properly, here’s all you need to know. ## **What Does Pet Insurance Cover?** Pet insurance is like human health insurance, but for your furry (or feathery) family member. Depending on the pet insurance policy, you could get coverage for vet visits, surgeries, accidents, illnesses, and sometimes even dental and alternative treatments for your pet. But heads up – pet insurance doesn’t cover everything. If your pet develops a pre-existing condition before you take out a policy, that’s usually excluded. So the earlier you get pet insurance, the better. ## **Pet Insurance Can Help in Emergencies – But When Exactly?** When a pet emergency strikes (like a broken leg, swallowed sock, or surprise tumour), you can get the best care for your pet without worrying about the expenses. Why? Because your pet insurance will cover a chunk of the bill. This is where many pet owners see the real value. Without pet insurance, you’re on the hook for the full cost of treatment, which can quickly spiral into thousands. And let’s face it, the cost of pet ownership is already high enough. ## **Is Pet Insurance Worth It for Dogs and Cats?** For many dogs and cats, particularly purebreds or adventurous types, pet insurance can be worth every cent. Younger pets tend to have cheaper pet insurance premiums, and starting early helps avoid the pre-existing condition exclusions. I’ve seen friends regret skipping coverage when their cat developed diabetes and treatment wasn’t covered by pet insurance. The vet bills stacked up fast. ## **Is Pet Insurance Worth It? (The Pros and Cons)** Are there downsides to getting pet insurance? Yes, there are. Let’s compare them with the pros. Like any financial decision, there are solid pros and cons of pet insurance: ### **Pros:** - Peace of mind for major medical events - Pet insurance helps cover surprise expenses - Some pet insurance options include wellness extras ### **Cons:** - Doesn’t cover everything (like regular check-ups) - Can be expensive over time - Pet insurance may limit payouts per condition or annually ## **What Pet Insurance Does Not Cover (and What That Means for You)** Let’s talk exclusions. A majority of pet insurance companies will NOT cover: - Elective procedures or pregnancy - Routine vaccinations and flea treatments - Pre-existing conditions - Behavioural training or food That’s why it’s vital to read the insurance coverage details. Don’t assume your annual check-up or desexing will be covered by pet insurance, because chances are, they won’t. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Pexels-sam-lion-5731876-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-sam-lion-5731876 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Cost of Pet Insurance** Along with the question “Is pet insurance worth it?” comes “How much?” Now that you know the basics, it’s time to dive into the financial stuff. ## **How Much is the Average Pet Insurance Cost in Australia?** The [average pet insurance costs](https://www.finder.com.au/pet-insurance/pet-insurance-cost) around $50 to $80/month for dogs, and $30 to $60/month for cats. But the cost of pet insurance varies depending on: - Pet age and breed - Your postcode - Type of pet insurance - Level of insurance coverage - Your chosen pet insurer Be prepared for pet insurance premiums to increase as your pet gets older or if you make regular claims. ## **How Pet Insurance Pays: What You Can Expect at Claim Time** Most pet insurance providers work on a reimbursement model. You pay the vet first, then pet insurance pays you back, usually between 70% to 90%, depending on your plan. If you’re on a tight budget, make sure you understand how the claims process works and whether your vet supports direct billing. Pet insurance claims can sometimes take weeks to process. ## **How to Find the Best Pet Insurance for Your Pet’s Needs** Not all pet insurance companies are created equal. To find the best pet insurance, consider the following: - Annual limits and excess - What’s included in the pet insurance cover - Reputation of the insurance companies - Any exclusions or waiting periods Websites like Finder or Canstar can help you shop for pet insurance and compare types of insurance side by side. ## **What Pet Insurance Plan is Right for Your Pet?** Are you after basic accident-only cover? Or a premium plan that includes dental and wellness extras? Pet insurance offers different tiers to suit different pet needs and your budget. A basic plan might be fine for a young pet, while older pets or those with high-risk breeds may benefit from comprehensive coverage. Remember, the best pet plan for you isn’t always the most expensive one. It’s the one that fits your pet’s health history and your bank account. ## **Is Pet Insurance Worth It? (Bonus Tips)** ## **Alternatives to Pet Insurance: What Are the Options?** If you’re still wondering whether pet insurance is worth it, these alternatives to pet insurance might be worth looking into: - Start a pet health savings fund - Pre-paid wellness plans with your local vet - Using a credit card or personal loan (in emergencies only!) These can help cover smaller bills and ensure that your pet can get routine care. But it might fall short during a serious health issue. ## **Should You Buy Pet Insurance as Soon as Possible?** If you’re thinking about whether to buy pet insurance, earlier is usually better. The pet insurance industry works on risk, so if the pet is still young, you’ll get better rates and fewer pre-existing condition exclusions. Some experts say to take out pet insurance the day you bring your furry mate home. That way, you’ve got peace of mind from day one. ## **Does Every Pet Need Insurance? What Vets and Insurance Experts Say** Not necessarily. Some insurance experts and vets agree that the decision depends on your financial situation, your pet’s breed, and how much you’d struggle to pay for a [medical emergency](https://www.pawssum.com.au/emergency-vet-service/) out of pocket. If you need to watch what you spend, you can try trimming down on premium and unnecessary pet products. If you’re a cat owner with an indoor kitty who rarely needs the vet, you might not need coverage. But is pet insurance worth it if you’ve got a Great Dane who loves chaos? You might want insurance yesterday. ## **Top Pet Insurance Companies in Australia** - **[Buddy Pet Insurance](https://www.buddypetinsurance.com.au/pet-insurance "Buddy Pet Insurance")** – Buddy Pet Insurance offers up to 90% back on eligible vet bills and up to $35,000 in annual coverage, with no sub-limits on claims. It includes perks like GapOnly® for on-the-spot claims, 24/7 vet support, and optional add-ons for routine care and specialised therapies. Plus, Buddy donates $1 million to animal welfare organisations across Australia through its Giving Program. - **Pet Insurance Australia** – This one’s known for covering up to 90% of your vet bills, and it doesn’t have tricky sub-limits hiding in the fine print. People say the claims process is smooth, and it covers major issues like cancer and joint problems. - **Bow Wow Meow** – A regular award-winner, this insurer offers flexible plans that cover up to $20,000 a year and up to 80% of your vet costs. - **Trupanion** – This provider doesn’t cap how much you can claim in a year and covers 90% of your eligible vet bills. - **Petsy** – Petsy offers up to $25,000 in yearly coverage and pays back 90% of vet bills. - **Fetch** – Fetch gives you up to $30,000 in coverage and reimburses 80% of your costs. It includes extras like dental, physio, and behavioural support as standard. - **[Knose](https://www.knose.com.au/)** – Knose covers up to $25,000 a year and pays back between 80% and 90%. It’s known for letting you tailor the policy, with extras like dental and alternative therapies. ## **Bottom Line: Is Pet Insurance Worth It?** So, still wondering if pet insurance is worthwhile? After a $3,000 surgery bill for my dog, I’m here to say, yes, it is, if only for the stress relief it gives when something goes wrong. It does not matter if you have one pet or a dozen. Pet insurance will give you the freedom to make decisions based on your pet’s health, not your wallet. For many pet parents (especially us single mums), knowing we’ve got a safety net is priceless. Sure, there are pet insurance fees to weigh up. But if you treasure your beloved pet like family, it might just be the best investment you make in their future. I wish I’d had it from the start, and I won’t make the same mistake twice. Wondering which pet would work best for your family? Explore the options with [“The Best Low-Maintenance Pets for Children”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/) ![Do I need pet insurance? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Pet-insurance-1.png "Pet insurance - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/is-pet-insurance-worth-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/is-pet-insurance-worth-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** pet insurance, pet illness, pet accident, pet expenses --- ### [12 Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas for the Classy Single Lady](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-gorgeous-bedroom-ideas-for-the-classy-single-lady/) **Published:** April 8, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the best things about being single is [designing your bedroom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-key-elements-to-transform-your-bedroom/) just the way you want it to be, whether it’s classy, cosy, cluttered, or cherry blossom pink. The. Choice. Is. Yours. Yet, with heaps of colours, patterns, textures, and designs available, which one best suits your personality and needs? Get comfy, relax and enjoy our list of gorgeous bedroom ideas for the classy (or not so classy) single lady. ***Further reading: [7 Exciting interior design trends that will shape our space this year.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/interior-design-trends/)*** ## **12 Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas for the Classy Single Lady** ## **1. Minimalist Magic** Minimalists will love this bedroom design from Home Designing. The clean lines, neutral tones, and absence of pattern create a harmonious room that is soothing to the eye and soul. You’ll want to jump into bed at the end of an exhausting day and stay there. We picture a creative spirit loving the minimalist magic bedroom, perhaps an architect, influencer, or designer who makes ‘less is more’ their mantra. Or maybe a busy single gal who reads Kinfolk and follows fashion trends. Minimalist magic is one of the easiest designs to pull off, as you’re not coordinating colours and patterns. Choose a white base, then add neutrals and natural finishing to capture the Zen vibe like in this picture. We love the huge mirror on the left side of the room, which adds interest in the absence of art or photos on the walls. Complete the look with books, plants, and minimal vases. ![minimalist magic | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://eu-images.contentstack.com/v3/assets/blt167b24547e5b1906/blt2a348337f016edd2/66bb12a9ad96e0fedbad83a7/Service_USP_(2)_USP.jpg?format=pjpg&auto=webp&quality=80&width=1920&disable=upscale) Image source: [Emma Sleep](https://fave.co/3Ypo1nq) ## **2. Gorgeous Grey** Grey is a powerful hue that can inform the aesthetic of an entire room, as this gorgeous bedroom shows. Far from boring, grey serves as the anchor point, like a neutral wardrobe staple. The great thing about grey is that you can dress it up anyway you wish—let your mood dictate the look. Go light or go dark, it’s up to you. A grey bedroom is perfect for funky furniture pieces and statement décor. Choose a vibrant abstract painting to make the wall pop, or arrange stylish black and white photos on a grid over the bed. The options are truly endless when you choose grey as your main colour. To create a cohesive photo grid, keep the frame style and spacing consistent throughout. Framely offer a [range of framed photo prints](https://www.framely.com.au/collections/framed-photo-prints), where you can turn your favourite images into custom prints in matching black, white or raw oak frames, delivered ready to hang across Australia. ![Bedroom with a dark gray wall, a large window, and a grid of black-and-white framed photos above the bed.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Gorgeous-grey-1200x670.jpeg "Gorgeous grey - Beanstalk Mums") The dark grey walls in this room are not overpowering due to the light-coloured bedding and carpet, plus that huge window over the bed that lets in plenty of light. Plants and knick-knacks on the shelf in the same neutral shades tie it all together. ## **3. Flower Power** One of our favourite gorgeous bedroom ideas is florals. Make a great first impression by styling your space with [front entrance plants](https://theplantsproject.com.au/collections/entrance "front entrance plants"), adding both beauty and warmth. Flowers never go out of style, and this bedroom updates the look with a statement wallpaper. It’s a modern botanical pattern that is big, bold and just amazing. This beautiful wallpaper would look awesome in any room, but it’s just the thing for the bedroom of a classy single lady. The trick with striking wallpaper is choosing accents that complement the design. You definitely don’t want pieces to clash and colours to overpower each other. But if you’re a maximalist who adores mixing patterns (and you know what you’re doing), go ahead and create something wild. This wallpaper works best for medium to large rooms like the one in this picture. You really get a sense of scale and drama. Furniture and fixtures are clean and unobtrusive. We love that bright green bedding with the mauve blanket that follows the [Craft Axis Singapore](https://craftaxis.com.sg/) wallpaper colours. ![Flower Power | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://res.cloudinary.com/gimmersta-wallpaper/image/upload/c_fill,f_auto,fl_progressive,q_auto,w_500,h_500/v1716214507/articles/FL0013DA30W_interior1.jpg) Image source: [Murals Wallpaper](https://hovia.com/products/purple-pink-dark-floral-wallpaper-mural-m) ## **Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas (cont.)** ## **4. Warm and Cosy** As for gorgeous bedroom ideas, warm and cosy (or Hygge) is beautiful and super on-trend. Warm tones represent comfort and security, and it’s perfect for winter decorating. Warm neutral colorways give a look of subtlety and refinement to any room. It’s like staying at a five-star hotel or an exotic tropical resort. Choose coordinating décor and furniture that are also warm-toned. Add accents like pillows, throws, blankets and woven baskets to ramp up the cosy factor. Texture is your best friend. You’ll want the accents to be beautiful but touchable, evoking warm, comfy feelings. This bedroom is more casual boho than luxe, and you can easily achieve the look with white walls, warm pastel bedding, and natural wood accents. Don’t be afraid of prints and patterns, but keep them subtle. A warm-toned [landscape print](https://wallartcollective.com.au/collections/landscape-art/) above the bed ties the earthy palette together. Also, notice the abundance of plants and the small white rug that doesn’t cover the gorgeous floor. ![warm and cosy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Warm-and-cosy-649x800.jpg "Warm and cosy - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/547891110918142343/) ## **5. Beachside Living** Gorgeous bedroom ideas like this beachside living bedroom take us straight back to summer. The look is laid-back and understated, ideal for professional single women who want to unwind after a long day. No matter how tiring your day, it’s easy to relax when your room exudes that beachy vibe. It’s simple to achieve this look, whether you’re going for a Nantucket or Bali beach vibe. The key lies in natural materials—think woven baskets, reclaimed or polished wood, flowers, and nautical-themed décor like subtle faux coral and coastal wall art or photos. We recommend keeping the primary colour a warm neutral, then layering in cool coordinating accents. The blue walls and accents in this room pair beautifully with the neutral tones of the bed and furniture. For added charm, try incorporating [Sunbrella fabric for couches](https://www.kovifabrics.com/category/sunbrella-fabric), as it offers durability with a touch of style that’s perfect for a relaxed, beach-inspired space. Instead of wall art, the hanging shelf adds character and a hint of quirkiness—perfect for a guest bedroom. ![Beachside living | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://ksassets.timeincuk.net/wp/uploads/sites/56/2016/04/beach-themed-bedroom-ideas.jpg) Image source: [Ideal Home UK](https://www.idealhome.co.uk/bedroom/bedroom-ideas/beach-themed-bedrooms-14515) ## **6. The Green Room** If you’ve never considered having a green bedroom, this gorgeous design might just change your mind. The emerald green on the walls is like being inside a jewel box. It is elegant, unexpected and revitalising. We want to be in this room to chill and recharge our energy. This grown-up room is perfect for the ambitious single lady. We love the contrast of dark furniture with light carpeting. The wall art is understated, and the curved mirror over the dresser breaks the straight lines and adds interest. If you want to tone down the formality and make it look more inviting, choose white bedding and pile on the texture. Green goes well with either modern or traditional furnishings. If you’re all about that sustainable lifestyle, add lots of indoor plants (floor, desk and hanging) in woven baskets or natural pots. Or jazz it up with complementary jewel-toned accents like deep purple cushions, gold or copper lighting fixtures, and metal embellishments. ![The Green Room](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Features.jpg "Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Country Manor** If old world elegance is more your thing, you will adore this amazing country manor bedroom. It’s easy to transport yourself to the posh English or French countryside with the right wallpaper, furniture and décor. Country manor is all about elegant, high-quality furnishings and accents that stand the test of time. You can opt for a luxurious, ultra-posh bedroom or a slightly more vintage, weathered aesthetic. The lovely custom bed is clearly the star of this bedroom. The matching nightstands and gorgeous corner chair unify the look. We also dig the contrasting paneling on the walls. It can be hard to find pieces for a country manor bedroom if you’re on a budget. We suggest eBay, Amazon or Facebook marketplace to score beautiful but cheap finds. Antique or vintage shops and flea markets are other great sources of high-quality furniture and décor. ![country manor | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Sistinecountrymanor.jpg "Sistinecountrymanor - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Domayne](https://www.domayne.com.au/blog/discover-your-winter-bedroom-style/) ## **Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas for Single Women (cont.)** ## **8. Bling Bedroom Fun** Our list of gorgeous bedroom ideas won’t be complete without bling. Bling is fun, flirty and empowering at the same time. It tells the world that you take your work seriously, but not yourself. If you’re a die-hard minimalist, use bling as embellishments to add more oomph to a boring or safe bedroom. This bedroom is the perfect example of grown-up bling. The black and white accents on the white base scream luxury, but it’s not in your face. We love the metal photo frames and matching silver mirrors on either side of the bed. The tufted headboard, silk pillows and sleek seating up the wow factor. If you’re investing in just one main piece, try an elegant crystal chandelier or a studded headboard. Tufted ottomans and Louis XVI chairs also give off that ‘yaas queen’ vibe. For colour lovers, we suggest bold jewel tones and vibrant, happy shades for accents. ![bling bedroom fun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Bling-bedroom-fun.jpg "Bling bedroom fun - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/564216659569273002/) ## **9. Parisian Chic** There’s a reason Parisian chic never goes out of style. It’s an elegant, feminine, and pretty aesthetic that women of all ages drool over. Bring out your inner Marie Antoinette with the dainty floral prints, pastels, clawfoot furniture and paneled walls, or go bohemian with vintage pieces, weathered finishing, and plenty of great art. Modern Parisian is another option, with sleek furniture, graphic wall art, neutral base colours with vibrant accents, and vases filled with flowers. A black and white modern Parisian bedroom is incredibly chic, with pops of colour like a patterned area rug or cushions. The classic furniture in this neutral Parisian bedroom ties the look together. The amazing bed with the canopy, the vintage nightstand and the dressing table with folding mirrors are all tres chic. You can get the look without spending a fortune by investing in one central piece (like a great bed) and adding affordable but beautiful accents. ![Parisian chic | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/ca/9d/7b/ca9d7bf071e8f7c4016b999bc28a6441.jpg) Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/328833210293742234/) ## **10. White Delight** White made a huge comeback about a decade ago, and it’s still the dominant colour in interiors today. Just look at Pinterest, Instagram or your favourite design magazine. White is a canvas, and you can use it in your bedroom to make your personality truly shine. A white bedroom can be maximal or minimal, vintage or modern, depending on your aesthetic. Keep everything white on white, from the carpets to the drapes, or throw in a few vibrant or neutral accents. White is a fabulous backdrop for boho chic furniture and décor, whether it’s a kingdom villa or a warehouse loft. We love the ultimate white bedroom below with its tufted headboard in a darker shade of pale, and a rug with a subtle print to break the monotony of white. The gallery of botanical prints above the bed adds some colour without being distracting. That headboard looks expensive, but it’s actually pretty cheap and easy to DIY. Check out Pinterest for tutorials! ![white delight](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/White-room-800x800.png "White room - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pottery Barn](https://blog.potterybarn.com/the-ultimate-white-bedroom/) ## **Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas (cont.)** ## **11. Bedroom Brightness** Who doesn’t love a pop of colour? Bright, happy shades make a room look alive and inviting—perfect for a classy, single lady who is full of pep and energy. If pastels or a neutral palette is more your thing, you can add a splash of colour here and there. We love the uniquely patterned boho quilt pictured below, cushions in bright salmon and pink shades, and that gorgeous teal accent wall. The art over the bed echoes the pink and warm tones of the rest of the room. Consider anchoring the space with [extra large oil paintings](https://artbymaudsch.com/collections/large-oil-paintings "extra large oil paintings") above the headboard to tie the palette together and create a striking focal point. The woven rug and pouf add texture. This style is easy to copy, and painting the accent wall can be done in one day. You can also try painting a key piece of furniture in an unexpected colour. A bright pink or purple nightstand, desk, ottoman, or chair makes a perfect accent for a pastel room. To complete the look, add vases of cheerful flowers on desks and surfaces. ![bedroom brightness | gorgeous bedroom ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Bedroom-brightness.jpg "Bedroom brightness - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/621356079821003343/) ## **12. Modern Gothic** Yes, Gothic is in our list of gorgeous bedroom ideas. Modern Gothic, that is. Think moody, broody shades of deep blue, purple, green, or just plain black, sleek furniture and fixtures, and dramatic accent pieces like a huge black chandelier. For a more subtle effect, try a black accent wall over the bed or dark carpeting and curtains. The bedroom below is a perfect example of modern Gothic done right. Despite the dark bedding and walls, it doesn’t feel stuffy or heavy at all. The floors and furniture are lighter, so you feel like you can breathe. The subtle abstract pattern on the accent wall adds interest. To get the look, paint all the walls a dark colour except the accent wall (or use wallpaper that you can easily remove if you change your mind). Choose similar dark accents and fixtures, and keep some pieces light to give the eye a break. ![modern gothic](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Modern-gothic.jpg "Modern gothic - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/145170787958041726/) ## **Final Thoughts: Gorgeous Bedroom Ideas** You don’t have to break the bank to create a gorgeous bedroom that’s classy yet totally you. For me, after my split, turning my bedroom into a chic, calming sanctuary meant reclaiming my space and identity. I splurged a little on silky sheets, invested in a statement velvet armchair for those lazy weekend coffees, and peppered the room with plants that somehow I’ve managed to keep alive. It’s amazing how a few small touches transformed my mood and confidence overnight. You can choose between glam Hollywood vibes, sleek minimalism, or boho charm. Your bedroom should reflect exactly who you are and make you feel fabulous every time you step inside. After all, as single ladies, our rooms are our own personal retreat. Make yours beautiful, make it comfy, but most importantly, make it totally, unapologetically yours. Happy decorating! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-gorgeous-bedroom-ideas-for-the-classy-single-lady/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-gorgeous-bedroom-ideas-for-the-classy-single-lady/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** sleep, home decor, space, bedcovers --- ### [The Super Insurance Most Parents Forget They're Paying For](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-super-insurance-most-parents-forget-theyre-paying-for/) **Published:** October 9, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ### **The insurance you probably forgot you had When a parent can’t work because of illness or injury, the first worry is money. A super statement is the last thing anyone thinks to open. Yet for most Australian families there’s a lump sum sitting quietly inside that fund, waiting to be claimed, and plenty of people never touch it because they’ve no idea it’s there. It’s called Total and Permanent Disability cover, TPD for short, and it usually comes bundled into your super by default the moment your balance and age tick over the fund’s thresholds. You didn’t sign up for it in any way you’d remember. You’ve probably been paying premiums for it out of your balance for years without ever spotting the line item. ### **What TPD cover actually pays for A TPD payment is a single lump sum, handed over once, if illness or injury means you can’t work again. It has nothing to do with any Centrelink payment, and it isn’t the same thing as [income protection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/life-insurance-and-income-protection-thinking-about-the-unthinkable/). Your super balance is a separate pot again, and you may be able to draw on that early on the same medical grounds. ![Woman sits barefoot on wooden stairs, wearing a denim jacket and striped top, looking at her smartphone with a thoughtful expression in a home setting.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images.png "TPD cover - Beanstalk Mums") The amount varies wildly between funds. Some default cover is modest, sitting in the tens of thousands. Some runs well into six figures, especially if you’re insured across more than one fund. That last point matters most for anyone who’s moved around. A parent who has worked three jobs over fifteen years and never rolled their super together may hold three separate default TPD policies, each with its own payout. People leave real money behind simply because nobody checks. ### **How to work out whether you hold it You don’t need a financial adviser for this. Twenty minutes and your login details will do. 1\. Log in to each super fund you’ve ever had, not just the current one. Old funds count. 2. Find the insurance section of your account. It sits apart from your balance. 3. Look for a line that says TPD or Total and Permanent Disability, and note the sum insured next to it. 4. Write down the definition the policy uses. This is the bit that decides everything later, so don’t skip it. 5. Check whether the cover’s still active. Funds cancel insurance on inactive accounts, so a balance that hasn’t had a contribution in sixteen months may have quietly lost its cover. If you can’t see the detail online, ring the fund and ask them to confirm your TPD sum insured and the definition in writing. They have to tell you. ### **“Any occupation” versus “own occupation”, and why it decides your payout Before you claim, get clear on one word in your policy. Two people with identical injuries can get completely different answers depending on it. An “own occupation” policy asks a narrow question: can you go back to the specific job you were trained for and did before? That’s the easier test to satisfy, though it’s rarer, and it usually turns up in older or professional policies. An “any occupation” policy asks something much broader: can you work in any job at all that suits your education, training, experience or past work? The bar is higher, and it’s the standard default in most super funds. Picture a tradie with a wrecked back. Under “own occupation”, he might qualify even if he could sit at a desk and answer phones, because he can’t lay bricks any more. Under “any occupation”, the same man can be told a desk job is within reach, and knocked back. Most default super TPD runs on “any occupation”. It’s the tougher of the two, and it’s why a claim that feels obviously valid to a family can still be declined. Read your definition before you assume anything. ### **Lodging the claim, and what to do when the fund stalls The process itself is paperwork heavy. You fill in the fund’s claim forms and supply evidence of your work history, and your treating doctors write up medical reports showing how the condition stops you working. Then you wait, and the wait can stretch for months. ![Woman writing on a sheet of paper at a white desk with a laptop nearby in a bright, cozy home office/living space](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/In-article-images-1.png "TPD cover - Beanstalk Mums") Delays and knock-backs are common, and they don’t always mean your claim is weak. Insurers routinely ask for more medical evidence or pick at how a specialist worded a report. Many lean on the “any occupation” definition to argue you could do something else. A knock-back isn’t the end of it, though. You can supply further evidence, ask the fund for its reasons in writing, have the definition checked, and formally dispute the decision. If the fund drags its feet or knocks the claim back, firms like Smiths Lawyers [run TPD claims through superannuation](https://www.smithslawyers.com.au/) on a no win, no fee basis, so you can have the policy and the medical evidence reviewed before you give up on money your family may be entitled to. Because TPD is claimed nationally rather than tied to one state, that help reaches families right across Australia. Be realistic about the limits. Some conditions won’t qualify, and a lawyer can’t turn a policy you don’t hold into one you do. What a good one does is read the definition properly, spot where the insurer’s overreaching, push for the reasons behind a refusal, and check the medical evidence answers the test the policy actually sets. If your claim’s straightforward and the fund pays without fuss, you may never need one. ### **The takeaway for busy parents So check every fund, not just the one you’re paying into now, and write down both the sum insured and the exact definition each policy uses. Keep that wording somewhere you’ll be able to find it again. And if a claim gets refused, treat the refusal as a first answer rather than the last word. The money’s there to catch your family at the worst possible time, and it only helps if you know to reach for it. *This article is general information only and does not take your personal circumstances into account. TPD entitlements depend on your specific policy and situation. Before acting, speak to a licensed financial adviser or a qualified legal professional about your own cover. ### About the author **Clare Whitfield, Chief Editor** Clare has spent more than a decade writing on family finances and the everyday admin that keeps Australian households running. She writes for Stay at Home Mum readers who want the practical version, minus the jargon. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-super-insurance-most-parents-forget-theyre-paying-for/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-super-insurance-most-parents-forget-theyre-paying-for/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [25 Ways to Celebrate Halloween in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/ways-to-celebrate-halloween-australia/) **Published:** October 15, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Plan a sustainable Halloween that costs less, with costume swaps, reusable decorations, a fix for lolly wrappers & pumpkins, and more. Read on, mum! **Content:** Halloween can feel like one more thing on a list that’s already full. There’s a costume to sort, a bag of lollies to hide and maybe a handover to plan, all on top of a normal week. I’ve been the mum on a dark footpath at 7.45pm with a sleepy toddler on one hip and a nine-year-old begging for one more street. So these 25 ways to celebrate Halloween in Australia are built for one adult, a real budget and any custody calendar. **The short answer is to pick two or three ideas, not 25. A short, early trick-or-treat walk, one activity at home and a spooky movie make a full Halloween. Halloween is always 31 October, so check which day it lands on. A weekend means no school-night rush, and a school night means an earlier, shorter loop.** This list skips city-by-city events, because they change every year and your local council will know more. It isn’t a shopping list either. That’s what our [Halloween gift guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-gift-guide-2025/) is for. **Quick Takeaways** - **It’s always 31 October.** On a weekend, kids can stay out a little later. On a school night, go earlier and keep it short. - **Earlier is easier.** In most Australian neighbourhoods, trick-or-treating runs from late afternoon and winds down by about 8.30pm. - **Spend what suits you.** Many of the best ideas below cost very little, and a reused or swapped costume counts. - **Make kids easy to see.** Glow sticks, a reflective strip and a torch help drivers spot children in dark costumes. ![Mum using a wheelchair and two kids in costumes at a front gate with orange balloons on Halloween in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2-halloween-australia-trick-or-treat-front-gate-1192x800.webp "2-halloween-australia-trick-or-treat-front-gate - Beanstalk Mums") ## ********What Are the Best Ways to Celebrate Halloween in Australia?******** The best ways to celebrate Halloween in Australia are a short, early trick-or-treat walk, a simple activity at home, and one small tradition the kids can look forward to each year. Halloween here falls in spring, so evenings are usually mild and, in daylight saving states, still light into the early evening. I used to call Halloween an American import. That’s not quite right. It started as Samhain, an old Celtic festival, long before it reached American TV screens. These days it’s mostly a reason for a street full of neighbours to say hello. The ideas below are grouped by where they happen, so pick from whichever group suits your week. ## ********Trick-or-Treating Ideas That Work With One Adult******** Trick-or-treating with one adult works best when it’s short, early and planned around the youngest child’s energy. These six ideas keep it fun without a meltdown at the far end of the street. - **Hand out treats from your own front step.** Littlies who don’t want to walk often love being the ones who answer the door. Keep the porch light on, sit out the front together, and make sure an adult opens the door first. - **Do a short, early loop.** Head out around 5pm and aim for one or two blocks, not the whole suburb. In states on daylight saving it’ll still be light, which makes counting heads easier. In Queensland, WA and the NT it gets dark earlier, so bring a torch from the start. - **Find the streets that are in.** Houses taking part usually show it with decorations or orange balloons. Ask on your suburb’s community page which streets go big. - **Buddy up with another family.** Two adults with five kids somehow feels easier than one adult with two. Text a mum from school, pick a meeting corner and share the walking. - **Let older kids go as a group, with rules.** If your tween or teen wants to go without you, plan the route together and agree on a home time. The child protection charity Bravehearts suggests [older kids stick together](https://bravehearts.org.au/?p=11412) and carry a phone with your number in it. They should never go inside anyone’s house unless you’ve arranged it. - **Try a trunk-or-treat.** Some schools, churches and sports clubs run these in a car park, with kids walking from one decorated car boot to the next. It’s flat, well lit and all in one place, which suits prams, wheelchairs and tired legs. ### **********Who Has the Kids on Halloween?********** If you share care, Halloween may land on the other parent’s night. The easiest fix is to agree early on who has the trick-or-treat window and to treat the date as flexible. My first Halloween after separating, I spent more energy on the handover than on the costume. What helped was changing the question. I stopped asking whose night it was and started asking which house had the better street. If communication with the other parent is calm, these ideas on [collaborative co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/) can help with days like this. If it isn’t, keep the plan short, written and all about the kids. - **Split the night.** One parent does the early trick-or-treat walk and the other does dinner and a movie. Agree on times in writing, so nobody is guessing at 6pm. - **Celebrate on a different night.** Halloween doesn’t have to happen on the 31st. If it’s the other parent’s night, do your version the night before or the weekend after. Kids happily accept two Halloweens. Whichever way you go, a shared calendar in one of these [free co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/) keeps the plan in one place instead of a long text thread. If handovers don’t feel safe, 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 can help you plan, any time of day or night. ![Grandmother and grandkids drawing faces on oranges and a small pumpkin with markers for Halloween at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/3-halloween-at-home-decorating-oranges-pumpkin-1192x800.webp "3-halloween-at-home-decorating-oranges-pumpkin - Beanstalk Mums") ## **********How Do You Celebrate Halloween at Home?********** Celebrating Halloween at home can be as simple as one activity, one themed meal and one movie. It suits littlies, kids who find crowds too much, and nights when the weather turns. - **Run a torchlight treasure hunt.** Hide wrapped lollies, stickers or glow sticks around the backyard or lounge room, then switch the lights off and hand out torches. Give each child their own colour to find, so the youngest doesn’t come back empty-handed. It fills a good half hour for almost nothing. - **Have a spooky movie night.** Drag the mattresses into the lounge room and pick a film that suits your youngest. Start it early, so the scary bit isn’t the last thing they see before bed. - **Make a simple themed dinner.** Sausages wrapped in pastry strips like mummies, ghost-shaped toast or a green “witch’s soup” all count. The kids will mostly be excited about the name. There are more [simple Halloween food ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) to choose from. - **Decorate a pumpkin or an orange.** Carving pumpkins often turn up in supermarkets in October. If you’d rather not hand a knife to a six-year-old (fair), draw faces on with markers or stick on googly eyes. Oranges work too, and you can eat them afterwards. - **Tell a ghost story together.** Turn off the lights and take turns adding one sentence to a spooky story. Littlies can keep it funny-scary. - **Turn the hallway into a haunted house.** Sheets over chairs, a torch under a blanket and some creaky-door sound effects go a long way. Let the kids design it, then walk through as their very nervous guest. - **Play old-school party games.** Mummy wrap races with toilet paper, apple bobbing in a washing basket and pin the nose on the pumpkin are cheap and loud in the best way. Put a towel down first. ## **********Halloween on a Budget********** A cheap Halloween in Australia is very doable, because most of the fun comes from time together rather than things you buy. [Australian retail research](https://www.retail.org.au/media/halloween-to-cast-a-record-breaking-spell-over-aussie-shoppers) tracks Halloween spending every year, and costumes, lollies, decorations and parties are where most of it goes. Everyone says you need a new costume and a yard full of decorations. In my house, the kids remember the walk and the company far more than the props. So spend what suits your budget, not what the shop windows suggest. - **Give the Book Week costume a second life.** A cape, some face paint or a bit of fake cobweb turns last term’s book character into a spooky version of itself. A zombie pirate or a vampire fairy takes about five minutes. These [easy kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) have more ideas. - **Run a costume swap with other mums.** Ask in your school group chat a few weeks out. Kids grow out of costumes long before they wear them out, so most houses have a box somewhere. - **Check the op shop first.** Adult clothes in black or grey from the op shop make great capes and witch skirts. Homemade costumes get called the cheap option. Once you’ve bought felt, glue and face paint, though, a second-hand outfit often costs less. - **Dress up as an Aussie animal.** A grey hoodie with paper ears makes a koala, and a brown one with a stuffed-tights tail makes a kangaroo. No scaring required. - **Look for free local events.** Many councils, libraries and shopping centres run free Halloween discos, craft sessions or treat trails, so check their websites a few weeks before. For cheaper costume bits and seasonal deals, the [Beanstalk Mums Discount Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) is worth a scroll. ## **********Neighbourhood Ideas That Turn Into Traditions********** Halloween is one of the few nights a year when neighbours who’ve never spoken stop for a chat. These four ideas make the most of it. - **Leave a boo bag for a neighbour.** Fill a paper bag with a few wrapped treats and a drawing from the kids. Leave it on a doorstep, knock and run. To a seven-year-old, this is the greatest prank ever invented. - **Decorate the front for walkers.** Paper ghosts in the window, glow sticks along the path and a pumpkin on the step are plenty to show you’re in. You don’t need to match the house on the corner with the inflatable spider. - **Take the same photo every year.** Same spot, same pose, new costumes. In ten years you’ll see exactly how fast they grew. - **Bring the dog (if the dog agrees).** Some dogs love the attention. Others hate costumes and doorbells, and they’re happier inside with the TV on. If yours is coming along, a short lead and a glow collar keep everyone easy to spot in the dark. ## ************A Halloween Night for You************ If the kids are away on Halloween, or asleep by eight, the night can be yours too. - **Plan your own Halloween.** Say yes to the adult costume party. Have a couple of friends over for a scary movie and decent chocolate. Or run a bath and go to bed early, which counts too. If you’d like company, ask in The Single Mum Vine, where another mum may well be kid-free that night too. ![Child in a grey hoodie koala costume with paper ears in an Australian backyard, a cheap Halloween costume idea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/4-cheap-halloween-costume-koala-hoodie.webp "4-cheap-halloween-costume-koala-hoodie - Beanstalk Mums") ## ********How Do You Keep Kids Safe on Halloween?******** Keep kids safe on Halloween by making them easy to see and keeping littlies with an adult. Then check treats and light-up toys before anyone eats or plays. ### **********What to Check Before You Head Out********** - Dark costumes are hard for drivers to see. Add glow sticks or a reflective strip and carry a torch, as [NT Consumer Affairs](https://consumeraffairs.nt.gov.au/news/2023/tricks-and-treats-to-ensure-a-safe-and-spook-tacular-halloween) advises. - Check labels on costumes, masks and wigs for “flame resistant” or “fire resistant”. Keep loose fabric away from candles in pumpkins, or use battery tea lights instead. - Keep the ingredient labels from face paint and fake tattoos handy. If someone reacts, a doctor will want to know what’s in them. ### **********What to Check When You Get Home********** - Tip the bucket out and check everything before anyone eats. Throw away anything unwrapped. - Check light-up novelties for button batteries. The battery cover should be held shut with a screw. Consumer safety authorities say one child a month is seriously injured after swallowing or inserting one. - If you think your child has swallowed a button battery, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away. Call 000 if they’re having trouble breathing. - If your child has a food allergy, swap their lollies for stickers or glow sticks at home, so they still get the full bucket moment. ## **********Keeping Halloween Small (or Skipping It)********** It’s fine to keep Halloween small or skip it altogether. Some families don’t celebrate for cultural or religious reasons. Some kids find masks and loud doorbells frightening. And some years, you’re just tired. If your house isn’t taking part, leave the porch light off. Most trick-or-treaters read that as a no. A quiet version at home still counts, like a costume in daylight, a treasure hunt and a gentle pick from our [Halloween movie list](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-movies/). You can always add more next year. ![Paper boo bag with a child's drawing and wrapped treats left on a front doorstep for a Halloween neighbour surprise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/5-halloween-neighbour-boo-bag-doorstep.webp "5-halloween-neighbour-boo-bag-doorstep - Beanstalk Mums") ## **********Pick Three and Call It Halloween********** Treat these 25 ideas like a menu. You only need to order three, like one thing outside, one at home and one small tradition. You’re the one doing the planning, the walking and the clean-up after the sugar wears off. Of all the ways to celebrate Halloween in Australia, the one the kids will remember is you, there with them and in a good mood. That earns you first pick of the leftover chocolate. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **When is Halloween in Australia?** Halloween is on 31 October every year, the same date as everywhere else. Because it falls in spring here, evenings are usually mild and stay light later in daylight saving states. **How do people celebrate Halloween in Australia?** Most families trick-or-treat in their own street from late afternoon, then finish with a movie or themed food at home. Others skip the street and run a party, a torchlight treasure hunt or a scary movie night instead. **What time does trick-or-treating start in Australia?** In most neighbourhoods, trick-or-treating starts from about 4pm or 5pm and winds down by around 8.30pm. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t have daylight saving, so it gets dark earlier there. **What are some cheap ways to celebrate Halloween in Australia?** Reuse a Book Week costume, swap costumes with other families, check the op shop and look for free council or library events. A torchlight treasure hunt and a movie night at home cost very little. **Can older kids go trick-or-treating without an adult?** Many tweens and teens go in a group with a planned route, an agreed home time and a charged phone. Child safety advice also says kids shouldn’t go inside anyone’s house unless a parent has arranged it. **Who has the kids on Halloween after separation?** It depends on your parenting arrangements, and because Halloween is always 31 October, it can land on either parent’s night. Many families split the night or celebrate on another evening, such as the night before or the weekend after. **Do you have to celebrate Halloween in Australia?** No, Halloween is optional, and plenty of Australian families skip it for cultural, religious or personal reasons. Leaving your porch light off is the usual sign that your house isn’t taking part. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/ways-to-celebrate-halloween-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/ways-to-celebrate-halloween-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween --- ### [Career Pathways for Working with Children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career-pathways-for-working-with-children/) **Published:** October 8, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Working with children and young people can be a mix of rewarding, unpredictable, and also sometimes a little chaotic. And unlike what most people might think, it’s also a surprisingly broad career area. While teaching might be the first profession that comes to mind, there are plenty of other ways to build a career around helping younger Australians learn, grow, and deal with the challenges of growing up. Some roles are centred around education, while others focus more on well-being, development, family support, or community services. **If you’re considering a career with children or young people, here are seven pathways worth exploring.** 1. **Teaching and Education** For people who genuinely enjoy helping young minds make sense of the world, education is a fantastic (and obvious) place to start. Teachers can work across primary and secondary schools, specialist settings, and other learning environments, with opportunities to specialise in individual subjects or areas of student support. A teaching career doesn’t necessarily have to remain in the classroom forever, either. Experienced educators always have the chance to move into curriculum development, educational leadership, student well-being, or school management. Further study can help open up some of these directions, and options such as a [Masters of Education online](https://studyonline.uts.edu.au/online-courses/master-education) can make postgraduate study more practical for educators who want to keep working while developing their skills. ![careers working with children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/1.png "careers working with children - Beanstalk Mums") It’s a pathway with plenty of room to evolve over time, which can be especially appealing if you love education but don’t see yourself doing exactly the same job for your entire career. 2. **Early Childhood Education** Some of the most important learning happens long before a child sits at a school desk. [Early childhood educators](https://www.vic.gov.au/you-can-shape-young-lives) work with young children during a period when their communication, social skills, confidence, and understanding of the world are developing incredibly quickly. Depending on your qualifications and role, you might work in a childcare centre, kindergarten, preschool program or you could even [become a teacher’s aide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/teachers-aid/)! And the job involves much more than simply supervising children. Educators plan play-based learning, observe development, and help children build skills they will take to school and well beyond. If you’re patient, creative, and enjoy working with little kids, early childhood education can be an enormously satisfying career. 3. **Youth Work** The unfortunate truth is that adolescence isn’t an easy ride for most young people, let alone those who are faced with additional challenges. Family problems, housing instability, disengagement from school, mental health challenges, and social isolation can all make this stage of life a lot harder than it already is. Youth workers can make a real difference here. They may work through community organisations, councils, schools, outreach programs, residential services, or youth justice settings. Day to day, that could mean helping someone access housing, connecting them to support services, running community programs, or simply being a consistent and trusted adult to talk to. It’s a job that suits people who can build rapport without being judgemental and who are able to stay calm when conversations get difficult, so if that sounds like you, it’s certainly a path worth looking into. 4. **Child and Family Services** Sometimes supporting a child means supporting the whole family around them. Careers in child and family services can involve working with families facing financial hardship, domestic instability, parenting difficulties, or concerns about a child’s safety and well-being. There are plenty of roles in government departments, not-for-profit organisations, and community service providers. Workers might assess a family’s needs, coordinate services, provide practical [support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/), or work with other professionals to develop longer-term plans, depending on the position. The work can be tough, and there will inevitably be challenging days — there’s no sugarcoating it. Even then, helping a family reach a safer or more stable place can make the work feel genuinely worthwhile. 5. **Counselling and Mental Health Support** Young Australians deal with many of the same emotional difficulties as adults, often without the life experience to understand what they’re feeling or how to handle it. Because of this, a career supporting children’s mental health can be both demanding and incredibly meaningful at the same time. There are several directions within this field, ranging from counselling and psychology, to school-based well-being roles. The qualifications required vary considerably between professions, so it’s important to research the pathway you’re interested in before you commit to studying. ![careers working with children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2.png "careers working with children - Beanstalk Mums") Whichever direction you choose, the ability to listen really matters here. Young people aren’t always going to explain what’s wrong neatly, and earning their trust can take time. If you’re patient, empathetic and good at making people feel heard, this can be an incredibly rewarding career path. 6. **Allied Health** Allied health is another area that offers a broad range of possibilities for those interested in both health and child development. Speech pathologists, occupational therapists, and other allied health professionals often work closely with children who need more support in areas like communication, movement, learning, and everyday activities. You could find yourself working in hospitals, community health services, schools, disability services, or even private practice. Many professionals end up working in multidisciplinary teams, collaborating with families, teachers, doctors, and other health practitioners to give each child the support they need to thrive. Being able to see real practical progress is a huge part of what makes allied health so appealing to many. Helping a child communicate more confidently or participate more independently in everyday life might involve lots of small steps, and those small steps can add up to something huge in the long run. 7. **Community and Recreation Programs** Working with young people doesn’t have to be limited to the confines of a classroom, clinic, or formal support service. Community and recreation programs provide opportunities for kids and teens to socialise, build confidence, and discover new interests, which in turn can help them feel more connected to those around them. They can also help families by facilitating things like [single mother support groups](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/). Jobs in this area can be found through local councils, sporting organisations, camps, arts programs, charities, and community groups. Depending on the program, you might coordinate activities, mentor young people, manage events, or create programs designed around local needs. This can be a great fit for someone who’s energetic, enjoys hands-on work, and prefers a non-traditional work environment. It’s also a chance to have a positive influence on young people while doing work that rarely feels like the same day twice. ## **Finding the Right Path for You** At the end of the day, there’s no single type of person who’s suited to working with children and young people. Some people thrive in busy classrooms, others prefer one-on-one support, and some are happiest out in the community organising programs and building relationships. The best place to start is by thinking about where your own strengths sit. Maybe that leads you towards education, health, counselling or community services, whatever it is, there are plenty of ways to turn an interest into a career that genuinely helps young Australians thrive. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career-pathways-for-working-with-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career-pathways-for-working-with-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Career --- ### [How To Plan The Easiest Ever Halloween For Your Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/) **Published:** October 12, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** An easy Halloween can take ten minutes. 5 simple steps for single mums, from no-carve pumpkins to DIY ghost costumes, plus what to skip. Read now! **Content:** An easy Halloween sounds lovely until you realise you’re the only grown-up sorting it out. Every costume, treat and decoration lands with you, usually at 9pm with lunches still to pack. In our heads, the pumpkins are carved, the costumes are handmade and the house is dripping with cobwebs by mid-October. Ha ha! In our wildest dreams. **The kids need far less than that, though. An easy Halloween comes down to five small things. There’s a paper chain countdown, one ready-made decoration and a supper the kids make themselves. Then there’s a costume you put together at home, and a trick-or-treat bucket with a note from you. Pick the ones that fit your week and skip the rest. The kids will still have a great night.** **Quick Takeaways** - **Pick two or three things, not all five.** A costume, a short walk or a night in, and one treat is plenty for most kids. - **Skip the carving.** A no-carve or ready-made pumpkin decoration looks just as festive, with no knives and no soggy pumpkin a week later. - **Plan for spring weather.** Halloween falls in spring in Australia, so choose costumes that won’t overheat the kids on a warm evening. - **Two homes can mean two Halloweens.** If the kids are at their other home on 31 October, hold your own Halloween on another night. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ## **What Does an Easy Halloween Actually Look Like?** An easy Halloween is one where you choose two or three small traditions the kids will love and let the rest go. For most families, that means a costume, a short trick-or-treat walk or [a night in](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/) at home, and one Halloween treat. It doesn’t need carving, a party or a brand-new costume every year. Halloween does come with a quiet scoreboard, though. Whose costume was handmade, whose front door had the best cobwebs, whose cupcakes made it into the class group chat. That scoreboard mostly distracts from the bigger picture. In my house, nobody has ever asked who made their costume. They ask who’s coming trick-or-treating, and whether they can swap lollies on the lounge room floor afterwards. This page won’t go deep on trick-or-treating safety or lolly rules, because the survival guide linked further down covers those properly. This one is about getting Halloween done without it taking over your week. ## **1. Cackling Countdown Paper Chains** A paper chain countdown is the easiest Halloween craft there is, and it gets the kids excited weeks ahead. Make a simple paper chain with your children. Black and orange or green paper is ideal, or let them colour in some white paper. Make the number of links match the number of days until 31 October. Each day, your child removes a link until there are none left. Or do it the other way around and add a link each day until you have a chain to hang up on Halloween. Wow, Mum’s so on the ball already. If the kids split their time between two homes, the chain helps them see the days. Pop a sticker on the links for nights they’re away, and let them pull those off when they’re back. If they’re keen for more, these [Halloween crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/) are just as simple. ![Halloween paper chain](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/download.jpeg "download - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Makes and Takes](https://makeandtakes.com/counting-down-to-halloween) ## **2. No-Carve Pumpkin Decoration** Skipping the carving is the fastest way to get the house looking like Halloween. Forget the drama, the mess and the near-misses with the kitchen knife. Get crafty with some [no-carve pumpkin decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/) instead, like painted mini pumpkins or a pumpkin wrapped up as a mummy. Or skip the craft too and pick up an [outdoor Halloween pumpkin decoration](https://bigw.sjv.io/R0o9o7) from Big W. It goes straight on the front step, and you can use it again next year (yay). There’s an Aussie reason to put the knife down as well. Halloween lands in spring here, and a carved pumpkin can start going soft within days once the weather warms up. If the kids are set on carving one, leave it until the day before rather than the week before. [![Outdoor Halloween Pumpkin Decoration](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Outdoor-halloween-pumpkin-decoration-800x800.jpg "Outdoor halloween pumpkin decoration - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/R0o9o7) Stocklist: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/R0o9o7) ## **3. Spidery Halloween Supper** The easiest Halloween supper is one the kids make themselves. I’ve found two easy Halloween recipes the kids can make without too much mess. And when I say easy, I mean you don’t need a degree and five years in a pastry kitchen. Start with spider web pizzas. Buy ready-made pizza bases, spread on some tomato paste, and let the kids weave their own cheesy webs with strips of cheese. Half a black olive makes a handy spider. Mum’s job: stand by and ooh and ahh. Finish with spider cupcakes, which are so easy it’s not funny. Bake a batch ahead and freeze them, or buy plain cupcakes and let the kids decorate. Chocolate icing, liquorice legs and two lolly eyes will do it. Mum’s job: take a photo for yourself, not for the group chat. For more ideas, there are [20 easy Halloween recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) to pick from. ![Homemade spider web pizza](https://www.sheknows.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/Homemade_spooky_spider_pizza-sk_ysjexx.jpeg) Finish your seasonal supper with these so-easy-it’s-not-funny [Spider Cup Cakes](http://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/browse-all-recipes/spider-cupcakes). You can make the cakes in advance and freeze them or buy some plain cupcakes and let the kids decorate them. Mums job: Take some photos and pop them on Facebook so everyone can see you have Halloween covered. ## 4. Eerily easy Halloween costumers No Halloween is complete without [trick or treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/). But your children grow so fast that you probably end up forking out for a new outfit every year? This year give them a choice of two easy (and cheap) costumes that you really can make. Try a [Ghastly Ghost](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Ghost-Costume) or a [Bewitched Black Cat](https://www.tonyastaab.com/kidzui-blog-a-cat-costume/). Remember to keep my adjectives in there when you give them the choice. It makes them sound more exciting and it’s less likely they’ll ask to be a zombie bride or something equally as complicated. ![Black cat costume](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/6e1c2d17280a28db4f4966bb1a9de688.jpeg "6e1c2d17280a28db4f4966bb1a9de688 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Trick or Treat Basket (With Love From Mum)** A trick-or-treat bucket with a note from you is a small thing the kids look forward to every year. One sturdy bucket that comes out every October beats a new bag each year. This [pumpkin trick-or-treat bucket](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kGN0n) from Big W has the classic jack-o’-lantern face kids expect. Stick a little note on it wishing them a happy Halloween from Mum. Hand it over (maybe with some start-up booty) as they head off to frighten the neighbours. If the bucket (or any glow toy) lights up, it’s worth [checking the battery compartment](https://www.productsafety.gov.au/consumers/be-safe-around-the-home/safely-use-batteries-and-technology/button-batteries-guide) is secure before trick-or-treating. Many light-up toys run on button batteries, which can cause serious injury if swallowed. If you think your child has swallowed one, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away. [![Pumpkin Basket](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Pumpkin-basket-800x800.jpg "Pumpkin basket - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kGN0n) Stockist: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kGN0n) ## **How Much Time Do You Really Need?** Not much. You can pull off an easy Halloween in ten minutes, one evening or a weekend afternoon, depending on what your week looks like. - **Ten minutes free?** Pull out last year’s decoration, fill the bucket, and put on one of these [Halloween movies for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-movies/). - **One spare evening?** Make the paper chain or the spider web pizzas. Both work as a weeknight activity. - **A weekend afternoon?** Make the ghost or cat costume together, then decorate the cupcakes while you’re at it. - **No time at all?** Something from the dress-up box and a walk around the block still counts as Halloween. Most years, I land somewhere between the first two options. Nobody has complained yet. ## **What Can You Skip Without the Kids Noticing?** Most of it. The carving, the themed party, the cobwebs on every window and the brand-new costume are all optional. Everyone says homemade is what makes Halloween special. In my experience, kids care far more about who they’re with than who made the costume. These are the bits you can let go of without guilt. - Carving a real pumpkin. - Throwing a party. A movie and a bowl of popcorn does the job. - Decorating the whole house. One decoration on the front step tells the neighbours you’re in. - Buying a new costume every year. - Taking photos for anyone but yourself. The one thing not to skip is holding hands near roads. Raising Children Network says kids need [adult supervision around roads](https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/safety/car-pedestrian-safety/pedestrian-safety) until about 11 or 12. Even kids who know the rules can forget them when they’re excited and dressed as a bat. ## **What If the Kids Aren’t With You on Halloween?** Then you hold your own Halloween on a different night. Most kids are thrilled to get two. If your kids split their time between two homes, 31 October won’t always be your night. (If you’re solo parenting full-time, this one won’t apply, so skip ahead.) I used to see it as missing Halloween. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. The kids gain a night, and yours can be as low-key as a movie and spider pizzas. A few things make it simpler. - Pick your date early, such as the weekend before, and count the paper chain down to that day. - Pack the costume in their bag so it goes with them. A sheet ghost folds flat. - Keep messages with the other parent short and about logistics, like which night, which costume, and what time. The [Halloween survival guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/) goes further into who has the kids on the night, if that’s still being worked out. ## **My Final Words for an Easy Halloween** You’ve got enough on your plate in Term 4 without Halloween turning into a project. Choose the two or three things your kids will love and let the rest go. They’ll remember the fun, not the effort. And if you’d rather not do it alone, ask another mum from school to walk with you. Two grown-ups means more hands at the road crossings, and someone to share the lolly tax with. An easy Halloween is still a great Halloween, and you get to enjoy it too. ## **FAQs** **How do I have an easy Halloween with kids?** Pick two or three small things the kids will love, like a costume, a short walk or a night in, and one treat. Skip the carving, the party and the brand-new costume, and nobody will feel like they missed out. **What is the easiest Halloween costume to make at home?** A ghost made from an old white sheet is the easiest, and a black cat made from black clothes, felt ears and eyeliner whiskers comes a close second. Both use things most families already have at home. **Do I need to carve a pumpkin for an easy Halloween?** No, a no-carve or ready-made pumpkin decoration looks just as festive. Carved pumpkins also tend to go soft within days in warm Australian spring weather. **Is Halloween in spring in Australia?** Yes, 31 October falls in spring, so evenings are often warm. In states with daylight saving, which starts on the first Sunday in October, it’s usually still light in the early evening. **What can I do for Halloween if the kids are at their other home?** Hold your own Halloween on another night, such as the weekend before. Count the paper chain down to your date, and the kids get two celebrations instead of one. **Should kids hold hands while trick-or-treating?** Yes, especially near roads and driveways. Raising Children Network says kids need active adult supervision around roads, driveways and car parks until about 11 or 12. **Are light-up trick-or-treat buckets safe?** Light-up toys can contain button batteries, which can cause serious injury if swallowed. Check the battery compartment is secure, and call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 if you think a child has swallowed one. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween, costumes, treat or treating --- ### [The sick single mum survival guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide/) **Published:** May 20, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Getting sick sucks. Getting sick when you’re a single mum sucks even more. With little people relying on you to keep going and keep smiling, taking time out to heal can be almost impossible. But there are things you can do to make it more bearable. Our sick single mum guide will have you feeling better in no time. We’ve divided the guide into two parts: 1) Before you get sick, and 2) When you get sick. Both are important to help you manage through the challenging times. ***Further reading: [8 Ways to teach your kids emergency preparedness at home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-emergency-preparedness-home/)*** ## THE SICK SINGLE MUM SURVIVAL GUIDE: BEFORE YOU GET SICK ### Know your body You know your own body, and although a cold or flu can strike at any time, you will know what time of year you are most susceptible to illness. Most people get colds in the winter or when they are particularly run-down. Often, you will feel a cold coming on a few days before it really hits you. Be aware of these signs and try to slow down as much as possible at this stage. If you can’t, start to prepare what you need if you are out of action for a while. ### Prevention is better than cure Being healthy in general will make your immune system stronger and less susceptible to colds and flu. If you really have no support around you, you might want to consider getting vaccinated. This means you will avoid the flu altogether, or at least get fewer symptoms. Other simple ways to prevent a nasty cold from taking hold are to exercise regularly, not smoke, eat healthily and [get plenty of sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/). ### Take your vitamins to prevent being a sick single mum Taking supplements can help to prevent illness and assist in the healing process. We talked about your susceptible times already. If you know when they are, you can conveniently [order Herbs of Gold](https://www.australianvitamins.com/brand/herbs-of-gold) online to stock up on zinc, Vitamin C and echinacea, or whatever you have found to work for you in the past. And consider giving your children appropriate, safe supplements too. ***Further reading: [15 Foods to seriously boost your immune system.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-foods-to-seriously-boost-your-immune-system/)*** ### Cook and freeze When we get ill, the last thing we want to do is eat, and cooking is even less appealing. Yet, your kids will still be expecting three meals a day, with snacks in between. [Use your freezer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/simple-freezer-tips-to-streamline-your-kitchen/) to ensure you have plenty of meals and snacks you can simply defrost, reheat and serve. If you are really keen, you can even make a nice chicken broth or other [warming dishes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/foods-to-keep-you-warm-this-winter/) to assist with your healing when/if the time comes. It won’t hurt to pop some milk and other essentials in the freezer, too. Just going out of the house can be a mission if you’re really rough. ### Prepare your ‘Sick Single Mum’ kit Don’t you hate that sinking feeling when you reach for the Panadol and there are none? The local shop, which is usually super convenient, suddenly feels like it is a million miles and an assault course away. Think about what you need when you are sick and make a ‘Sick Single Mum’ kit. This may include Panadol, Berocca, Lemsips, tissues, honey, cough sweets, and even some of your favourite DVDs and magazines. You will be very grateful to your super-organised self for preparing this kit. ### On-call doctor Never used an [on-call doctor](https://homedoctor.com.au/) service before? They are brilliant. But the last thing you want to be doing when you feel ill is Googling the best one to use. Look online now or call your local surgery for details of a local call-out service. Stick the number on the fridge or in your ‘Sick Single Mum’ kit in case things get really bad and you need some medical support. ## THE SICK SINGLE MUM SURVIVAL GUIDE: WHEN YOU ARE SICK ### Call in support (and favours) This is not a time for holding back; reach out for support! Whether it’s to give the kids a lift to school or take the baby for half a day, if you don’t ask, you won’t get. If you have family nearby, call on them. What about friends you have recently helped? Or parents of your children’s friends? If you co-parent, call the kids’ dad. The more support you can get, the more rest you will have and the quicker you can heal. ### Phone in sick Don’t be a martyr … and don’t turn up to work coughing and spluttering and pass your cold onto everyone else. Your boss won’t thank you for it, nor will your colleagues. You are entitled to time off work if you are ill, take it. Make the call. Carrying on working when you’re sick will make you worse and increase the recovery time. It’s just not worth it. If you need to provide proof of illness, you can easily get an [online medical certificate through Updoc](https://updoc.com.au/medical-certificate "online medical certificate through Updoc"), without having to leave your bed. ### Keep fluids up One of the simplest things you can do to assist the healing process is to drink, drink, drink. And no, not wine. Water is best, but juice or anything cold will do, but ideally not milk, because this can be an irritant when you have a cold. Drinking will keep your temperature down, replace lost fluid and loosen mucus. Suck on ice cubes if your throat is sore … heaven. ### Use medication Don’t hold back on medication, so long as you take it according to the packet instructions. The reality is that there is no cure for the common cold, so relieving the symptoms while you sit it out is the best you can do. Having said that, don’t take more than absolutely necessary, as they will become less effective as your body gets used to them. ### Take your vitamins (again) If you weren’t taking your vitamins before you got ill, start now. Anything that can assist your body in recovering is a bonus. Hopefully, you’ll have put some in your ‘Sick Single Mum’ kit. Adding natural healing products to your pharmaceutical remedies will give your healing an extra boost. Vitamins can come from food sources, too. Lemon, garlic, ginger, and honey are all beneficial to you if you are sick. ### Don’t let sick mum’s germs spread The only thing worse than being unwell as a single mum is when your kids get ill too. Take quick action to prevent this from happening. Get military with handwashing, surface wiping and general hygiene. Cover your nose and mouth when coughing and sneezing. Use a tissue and throw it away straight after. Take out shares in hand sanitiser and use antibacterial wipes on door handles and remote controls if you have the energy. There is only so much you can do to not pass on a cold, but it’s worth a try at least! ### Do nothing Before you start laughing at the impossibility of it all, resting is the best thing you can do to recover from your illness. Tell your children this: depending on their age, it may or may not work. Sleep helps your body fight infection, so the more you can get, the better. Maybe tuck into some of that chicken broth you so cleverly thought to put in the freezer, or watch some of your favourite movies. You may even start to enjoy it. ***Further reading: [Choosing the right flowers for your sick single mum friend.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/choosing-right-flowers/)*** ### Take action if you feel worse If you find you’re not getting better, or your symptoms are persisting or getting worse, it may be time to see a doctor. Book an emergency appointment or call out a doctor. What may appear to be a common cold could be flu or something more complicated. Look after yourself mumma. ### Ditch the ‘sick single mum’ guilt You are only human, you will get ill from time to time. It is perfectly natural. You need as much time, space and support to heal as anyone else. Make sure you get it. If you do find yourself tucked up on the couch with your favourite book while your neighbour takes the kids to school, THAT IS FINE. Guilt and stress will not help you get better. Rest and relaxation will. So make the most of it, it may be a while until you get a chance again! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Sick-single-mum-3.png "Sick single mum 3 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** vitamin supplements, feeling sick, getting a cold, flu, on call doctor, covid19 --- ### [Self-Love for Single Mothers: 5 Steps to Love Yourself Again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/self-love-for-single-mothers/) **Published:** October 10, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Self-love for single mothers starts with a calmer nervous system. A counsellor shares gentle steps to ease mum guilt, set boundaries and rebuild self-worth. **Content:** **If loving yourself feels impossible right now, it’s not a personal failing. Long-term single-parenting stress keeps your nervous system in survival mode, and that turns up your inner critic. Self-love comes back in small, steady steps: calm your body first, then ease the guilt, step back from comparison, claim tiny moments for yourself, set boundaries and notice your daily wins.** When you are a single mother, “self-love” can feel like just another chore on a never-ending to-do list. Between the school runs, the mental load, and the quiet weight of making every decision alone without a partner, your relationship with yourself often takes the biggest hit. But falling back in love with yourself isn’t a luxury or a “mindset shift”—it is a biological necessity for your survival and your family’s health. In this updated guide for 2026, we explore how to move beyond toxic positivity and reclaim your sense of worth from the inside out using clinical strategies that empower your personal growth. To understand why this is so difficult, we must first look at what is happening inside your body. **Quick takeaways:** - **The Cortisol Impact**: Chronic stress from single parenting keeps the nervous system in a “fight-or-flight” loop, making self-criticism a survival byproduct rather than a character flaw. - **Self-Compassion as Regulation**: Shifting from self-judgment to self-kindness actively lowers heart rate variability and calms the amygdala. - **Micro-Habits Matter**: Rebuilding self-love isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about “micro-moments” of physiological safety. - **Neurological Rewiring**: Consistent self-validation creates new neural pathways that eventually override the “not enough” narrative of early single motherhood. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change what we recommend. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![mother embracing daughter beside the article title about self-love for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Self-love-for-single-mothers-before-1st-h2.webp "Self-love-for-single-mothers-before-1st-h2 - Beanstalk Mums")## **Why Is Self-Love Difficult for Single Mothers on a Physiological Level?** The Australian government offers a range of financial aid for essential expenses. Most of these payments are made through Centrelink, Failing to love yourself as a single mum is often a result of “survival mode”, where the brain prioritises external threats over internal nurturing to keep the family safe. When you are chronically stressed, your body is flooded with cortisol and adrenaline. In this state, your prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for self-reflection and compassion—effectively “goes offline.” You aren’t being hard on yourself because you’ve failed; you’re being hard on yourself because your nervous system is stuck in a hyper-vigilant loop. This is often referred to as the “cortisol steal,” where your body prioritises stress hormones over the hormones that allow for connection and self-warmth. Understanding the cortisol steal in single motherhood is the first step in realising that your lack of “self-love” is actually a biological defence mechanism. ## **How Does Nervous System Regulation Help a Single Mum Rebuild Self-Esteem?** Regulating your nervous system creates the “physiological safety” required for self-esteem to grow, moving you from a state of reactive shame to proactive self-worth. You cannot “think” your way into loving yourself if your body feels unsafe. By using grounding techniques—like diaphragmatic breathing or bilateral stimulation—you signal to your brain that the “emergency” is over. Once your nervous system enters a parasympathetic (rest and digest) state, the internal critic softens. This allows you to actually believe the positive affirmations you try to tell yourself and practice self-compassion without feeling forced. Clinical research on [self-compassion and the nervous system](https://self-compassion.org) shows that when we treat ourselves with kindness, we stimulate the release of oxytocin, which directly counteracts the corrosive effects of solo-parenting stress. [![Ad banner reading 'Have you had your Happy Hormones today?' with a smiling woman and a Happy Hormones product, and a pink Shop Now button.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Happy-hormones-ad.jpg "Happy-hormones-ad - Beanstalk Mums")](https://happyhealthyyou.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=CommissionFactory&cfclick=4edcca94c010407db930c43c6970519e)Self love for single mums 🌿 support your nervous system rebuild your self worth and begin loving yourself again one gentle step at a time ## **How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty as a Single Mother?** Self-forgiveness in single motherhood is the process of acknowledging that your “mistakes” are usually survival responses to an overwhelming load, not reflections of your value as a parent. Guilt is a heavy, low-vibrational emotion that keeps you tethered to the past. As a single mother, you likely carry “the mother load” entirely on your shoulders. When you snap at your children or forget a school event, your brain registers this as a failure of your character. In clinical practice, we reframe this as “capacity awareness.” You are one person doing the job of two (or more). Forgiving yourself means accepting that your nervous system was likely dysregulated in those moments. By forgiving the “survival version” of yourself and learning to let go of past shame, you create space for the “nurturing version” of yourself to return. ## **Why Do I Constantly Compare Myself to Other Mums?** Social comparison is a natural tribal instinct, but for single mothers, it often triggers a “shame response” that ignores the unique physiological and financial hurdles you face daily. We live in an era of curated perfection. When you scroll through social media and see “complete” families or mothers who seem to have it all together, your brain performs an unfair tally. You compare your “behind-the-scenes” struggles with their “highlight reel.” This comparison triggers the amygdala, the brain’s fear centre, making you feel isolated and “less than.” To combat this, you can: - Practice “digital boundaries” as a form of self-care. - Avoid negative self-talk. - Surround yourself with positive voices, such as joining a community for single mothers. Remind yourself that your path requires a level of resilience and grit that is invisible to the outside observer. Your worth is not a relative metric; it is an inherent fact. [![a gift of reset, mental load relief](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-20.jpg "Passel 3-compressed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) ## **How Can a Busy Single Mum Find Time for Herself?** Finding time isn’t about clearing a full hour in your calendar; it’s about “habit stacking” micro-moments of joy that remind your brain you exist as an individual, not just a service provider. The biggest barrier to self-love for single mothers is the belief that self-care requires a spa day or a child-free weekend. In reality, your brain needs frequent, small signals of safety. - The 5-Minute Rule: Five minutes of intentional coffee drinking before the kids wake up. It’s a great activity that brings your nervous system back to centre. - Sensory Anchors: Using a specific scent or song to signal to your brain that “Mom is off-duty” for ten minutes. Remember, your needs and wants still matter. - Micro-Passions: If you love reading, read two pages. If you love movement, stretch for sixty seconds. If you love writing, do journaling. These micro-moments of self-care tell your nervous system that you are worth tending to, even in the middle of the chaos. ## **How Do I Rebuild Confidence After a Breakup or Divorce?** Rebuilding self-confidence requires “positive data logging,” where you intentionally track small daily successes to retrain your brain to see your competence and resilience. After the end of a relationship, your self-esteem can feel shattered. You may feel like you’ve lost your identity. Rebuilding starts with celebrating your “wins,” no matter how small they seem, as part of getting your life back on track. - Did you handle a tantrum calmly? That is a win. - Did you fix a household item by yourself? That is a win. - Did you choose to go to bed early instead of doom-scrolling? That is a win. By intentionally noting these moments, you provide your brain with the “evidence” it needs to rewrite the story of who you are. You are not “just” a single mum; you are a resilient, capable woman who is navigating one of life’s most challenging paths with grace. [![Elle counselling services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Newsletter-artwork-21 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Moving Forward with Beanstalk Single Mums** You didn’t lose yourself overnight, and falling back in love with the woman you’ve become will take time. It starts with a single deep breath and the clinical understanding that you are doing something incredibly hard with a nervous system that was never meant to carry it all alone. You are worthy of love and respect, and worthy of love in the same fierce, protective way you love your children. If you’re ready to move from surviving to thriving and want to explore how our clinical counselling services can help you regulate your system, we are here for you. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/self-love-for-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/self-love-for-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [Guide To Having A Spooktacular Sustainable Halloween](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/sustainable-halloween-guide/) **Published:** October 7, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Plan a sustainable Halloween that costs less, with costume swaps, reusable decorations, a fix for lolly wrappers & pumpkins, and more. Read on, mum! **Content:** Halloween has a habit of sneaking up on us. One week it’s school lunches as usual. The next, there’s a costume to find, lollies to buy and a small person asking why our door has no spiders. When you’re making every call (and paying for it), a lecture on having a sustainable Halloween is the last thing you need. I’ve stood in a costume aisle the night before Halloween, holding a shiny polyester witch dress I knew wouldn’t survive two streets. I bought it anyway. It was in the bin by morning. **Put simply, a sustainable Halloween mostly means using what you already have, and that usually makes it the cheaper Halloween too. Pull a costume from the dress-up box, a swap or the op shop. Bring out last year’s decorations and only add things that will last. Keep fake spider webs inside, because spring is nesting season here. Collect lolly wrappers for a supermarket soft plastics bin, and eat or compost the pumpkin. None of it needs a craft weekend or anything with “eco” printed on the label. It mostly needs a few minutes of planning in early October, and a quick word with anyone else buying for your kids.** **Quick Takeaways** - **Cheapest is usually greenest.** Reusing, swapping and borrowing costumes and decorations cuts down on rubbish and spending at the same time. - **Keep fake webs indoors.** Halloween lands in spring nesting season here, and wildlife groups warn the stretchy webbing can trap small birds, bats and insects. - **Wrappers go to the supermarket, not the yellow bin.** Most lolly wrappers are soft plastic, which tangles kerbside recycling, so collect them for a supermarket soft plastics bin. - **Eat or compost the pumpkin.** A plain pumpkin can be cooked or composted, but a painted or glittered one belongs in the general rubbish. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![front door with a reusable wool spider web and solar fairy lights for a sustainable Halloween](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/2-sustainable-halloween-spring-front-door-1192x800.webp "2-sustainable-halloween-spring-front-door - Beanstalk Mums") ## ******What Is a Sustainable Halloween?****** A sustainable Halloween is one that creates less rubbish. It means reusing costumes and decorations, choosing things that last for years, and putting what’s left in the right bin. In Australia, it also means keeping fake webs indoors during spring nesting season and taking soft plastic wrappers to a supermarket collection point. Most Halloween rubbish comes from things bought to be used once, like costumes, plastic banners and party packs. So the biggest win happens before the bin, when you decide what to buy. I’m skipping the carbon maths. You don’t need a spreadsheet to know a costume worn by three kids beats one worn once. I’m also leaving trick-or-treating routes and safety to our [Halloween survival guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/), so this one sticks to what you buy and what you bin. ## ******Halloween Lands in Spring Here, and That Changes Things****** Most sustainable Halloween advice online is written for a northern autumn. Ours falls in spring, which changes a few things. - It’s still light. Daylight saving starts on the first Sunday in October in NSW, Victoria, South Australia, Tasmania and the ACT. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t use it, so it gets dark earlier there. - Carved pumpkins go soft fast. Warm days plus a candle inside turn the flesh mushy quickly. - Birds are nesting, which is the main reason to keep fake webs inside. - The backyard can decorate for you. A jar of bare sticks and a handful of gumnuts make a spooky table for free. The extra daylight means fewer lights. For a little glow after dark, [solar fairy lights](https://bigw.sjv.io/enPNxr) charge on a sunny spring day and go straight back up at Christmas. ### ********Why Are Fake Spider Webs a Problem?******** Fake spider webs are stretchy polyester that doesn’t break down. Outdoors, wildlife groups warn they can tangle up small birds, bats and insects. The webbing also travels. One Adelaide local has collected more than a dozen fallen [nests lined with plastic](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-11-08/fake-halloween-cobwebs-appearing-in-birds-nests-but-is-it-bad/11679248), much of it fake webbing. And Halloween here lands right in the middle of nesting season. Kids who love the spider look can have the webbing on an inside window instead. Or make a web from wool on the front door. It winds back into a ball and comes out again next year. ![Children craft a circular cardboard frame laced with black yarn, weaving a web on a wooden table with scissors and colorful scraps nearby.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/3-reusable-wool-spider-web-halloween-1192x800.webp "3-reusable-wool-spider-web-halloween - Beanstalk Mums") ## ********How Do I Get a Halloween Costume Without Buying New?******** Start with what’s already in the house, then swap, borrow or op shop the rest. The costume is where a sustainable Halloween saves the most, so treat a brand-new one as the last stop. ### ********Start With the Dress-Up Box******** Kids’ costumes don’t need to come in a packet. Black leggings and a black top become a cat, a bat or a skeleton with face paint. An old sheet makes a ghost (check it’s an old one first). Book Week helps too. A witch or a pirate from August works perfectly well in October. For more ideas, many of these [easy kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) start with clothes you already own. ### ********Swap, Borrow or Op Shop It******** Little kids grow out of costumes long before they wear them out. Perfect for swapping. Swaps work best for kids under about eight, who aren’t fussy about which dinosaur they are. Teens usually want one specific character, so the op shop or a cousin’s wardrobe works better for them. Swaps don’t need to be formal. A message in the class group chat is plenty. Members of [The Single Mum Vine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/) already pass clothes and toys on to each other, so a costume post there can find a home fast. Afterwards, wash the costume and store it or pass it on. One catch. Op shops can only use donations in good condition, so a split costume belongs in the general bin, not the donation bin. ## **********Decorations That Come Out Again Next Year********** The greenest decoration is the one already in your cupboard. After that, a few sturdy pieces you’ll use for years beat a bag of cheap ones that tear in the first breeze. Old sheets, glass jars and cardboard go a long way, and our [easy DIY Halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/easy-diy-halloween-decorations-for-2024/) use plenty of them. Check local giveaway groups and op shops before buying new. Plastic banners, balloons and glitter rarely survive the night, so leave them on the shelf. Storage is what makes a sustainable Halloween stick. Pack everything into [a rattan-style ](https://bigw.sjv.io/WO3NPP)[storage](https://bigw.sjv.io/WO3NPP)[ tub](https://bigw.sjv.io/WO3NPP) with a list tucked inside. Next October, you open one tub instead of buying it all again. That works well if you’ve got a cupboard or shed with room for it. In a small rental with no room to spare, share one tub with a friend or your own mum and take turns each year. ### ************Light-Up Decorations and Button Batteries************ Light-up pumpkins, glowing wands and flashing costume bits often run on button batteries. They’re dangerous if a young child swallows one. Australia’s [button battery safety rules](https://www.productsafety.gov.au/consumers/be-safe-around-the-home/safely-use-batteries-and-technology/button-batteries-guide) have required secure battery compartments since June 2022. Even so, a cracked or poorly made product can still let one fall out. These habits help. - Check battery compartments are screwed shut before the kids play. - Keep spare and used batteries up high. - Pick plug-in, solar or rechargeable lights where you can. - Never put used batteries in a household bin, because they can start fires in bin trucks. Tape the ends and take them to a battery drop-off point. If you think a child has swallowed or inserted a button battery, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away, day or night. Call 000 if they’re struggling to breathe. ## **************Do You Really Need to DIY Everything?************** No. A sustainable Halloween doesn’t need a glue gun. Everyone says to make your own decorations. In practice, cardboard creations that fall apart by November aren’t greener, and they cost you a weekend you didn’t have spare. I used to think the green choice was always the homemade one. Actually, that’s not quite right. The greener choice is the thing that gets used again, made by you or found at the op shop. So if your kids love making things, go for it. These [Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/) use toilet rolls, paper and yarn from around the house. Skip it when it’s turning into one more job. One secondhand skeleton that comes out every year beats a stack of paper bats nobody wanted to make. ![hand checking the screwed battery compartment on a light-up Halloween pumpkin decoration](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/4-halloween-decoration-button-battery-check.webp "4-halloween-decoration-button-battery-check - Beanstalk Mums") ## ********Lollies, Wrappers and the Soft Plastics Bin******** Most lolly wrappers are soft plastic, so they don’t belong in your yellow kerbside bin. Collect them and take them to a supermarket soft plastics collection point instead. Soft plastics tangle in kerbside recycling machinery. After the old supermarket scheme collapsed in 2022, bins have been coming back under a [national soft plastics scheme](https://www.accc.gov.au/media-release/soft-plastic-recycling-scheme-receives-exemption-from-certain-competition-laws) approved by the competition regulator. The scheme says supermarket bins now reach close to 70 per cent of Australians. Not every store has one yet, so check before you go. The easiest habit is an empty bread bag next to the lolly bowl. Wrappers go in, and the full bag goes with you on the weekly shop. Wrappers labelled compostable or biodegradable can’t go in the soft plastics bin, so check your council’s advice for those. A few other swaps help on the night. - A pillowcase or calico shopping bag makes a sturdy trick-or-treat bag. - Buy fewer lollies than you think you need. Leftovers are the Halloween rubbish nobody counts. - Some guides suggest handing out homemade treats. It’s a kind idea, but plenty of parents throw out anything unwrapped from a stranger, and allergies make it riskier. Wrapped lollies are fine. Hosting at home? Food on your own plates makes far less rubbish than party packs, and fruit cut into ghosts and pumpkins comes with no wrappers at all. ## ********What Should I Do With the Pumpkin Afterwards?******** Cook it if it’s plain and fresh, and compost it if it’s past its best. Only put it in the general rubbish if it’s painted, glittered or covered in wax. Many pumpkins sold here are the same ones we roast for dinner. Carve yours on the day and keep the flesh for soup. The seeds roast up into a salty snack. Once it’s carved, it won’t last long in warm spring weather, so plan for one or two nights on the doorstep, not a week. For [no-carve pumpkin decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/), use things you can pull off, like ribbon or a felt hat, so the pumpkin can still be eaten. Painted or glittered pumpkins go in the general rubbish, because paint and glitter don’t break down in compost. A FOGO (food organics and garden organics) bin is easiest if your council offers one. A backyard compost or worm farm works too, if you chop the pumpkin small first. Skip leaving it out for wildlife. It sounds kind, but wildlife groups generally advise against feeding wild animals, and a rotting pumpkin mostly brings flies and rats. ## ********Sharing Halloween Between Two Households******** Agree on one costume and one set of decorations early, so the kids don’t end up with two of everything. Both homes knowing the plan makes a sustainable Halloween much easier. When kids move between homes, it’s easy for each house to buy a costume without knowing. A quick message to the other parent about who’s sorting it, and where it lives, saves money and doubles. Then it travels in their bag like a school jumper. If Halloween night falls at the other house, celebrate at yours another night with the same decorations. The kids still get their night, and these [alternatives to trick-or-treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/) work on any night of the week. Without a second household in the picture, the same idea works with grandparents, an aunty or a friend who likes to help. Pool what you’ve got rather than everyone buying their own. ![lolly wrappers collected in a bread bag for supermarket soft plastics recycling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/5-lolly-wrappers-soft-plastics-recycling.webp "5-lolly-wrappers-soft-plastics-recycling - Beanstalk Mums") ## ********The Greenest Costume Is the One You Already Own******** If you change one thing this year, check the cupboard, the dress-up box and your group chat before you buy anything new. That one habit cuts most of the rubbish and a fair chunk of the cost. October already asks a lot, with Term 4 starting and the end of the year in sight. Halloween doesn’t need to be one more thing to get perfect. A sustainable Halloween is really a handful of small swaps, and most of them leave a little more in the budget. If the costume still comes from a shop this year, that’s okay. Wear it, wash it and pass it on next October. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **How do I have a sustainable Halloween on a budget?** Use what you already own, swap or borrow costumes, and reuse last year’s decorations instead of buying new. Most low-waste choices cost less than the single-use versions they replace. **Are fake spider webs bad for wildlife in Australia?** Wildlife groups warn that stretchy fake webs can trap small birds, bats and insects outdoors, and the material has turned up in birds’ nests in Adelaide. Halloween falls in spring nesting season here, so it’s kinder to keep webbing inside. **Can lolly wrappers go in the recycling bin?** Most lolly wrappers are soft plastic, which tangles kerbside recycling machinery, so they shouldn’t go in the yellow bin. Take them to a supermarket soft plastics bin instead, as these collection points now reach close to 70 per cent of Australians. **What should I do with my Halloween pumpkin afterwards?** Cook or compost a plain pumpkin, using a FOGO bin if your council offers one. Painted, glittered or waxed pumpkins belong in the general rubbish. **Are light-up Halloween decorations safe for young kids?** Many run on button batteries, and products sold in Australia have needed a secure battery compartment since June 2022. If you think a child has swallowed one, call the Poisons Information Centre on 13 11 26 straight away. **What makes a sustainable Halloween costume?** It’s a costume you already own, borrow, swap or buy secondhand, then wear again or pass on. Op shops can only use costumes in good condition, so split or broken ones go in the general bin. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/sustainable-halloween-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/sustainable-halloween-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween --- ### [10 Kids Halloween Games To Play At Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/kids-halloween-games/) **Published:** October 4, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Halloween games for kids that 1 adult can run at home, from freeze dance to a backyard scavenger hunt. Easy, cheap ideas for all ages. Pick 3 & play! **Content:** When you’re the only grown-up running Halloween, even the fun part comes with a to-do list. You’re sorting out Halloween games for kids of different ages, who’s coming and what it’ll all cost, usually at 10pm on a school night. The good news is that the best Halloween games for kids at home are cheap, need almost no set-up, and one adult can run them. Pick three from this list. Mix an active game like freeze dance with a calm one like bingo, then finish with a prize game like guessing the lollies in a jar. That’s a whole party. This article sticks to games. For costumes, trick-or-treating and the rest of the night, our [Halloween survival guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/practical-halloween-survival-guide-for-parents/) covers the lot. **Quick Takeaways** - **Three games is plenty.** One active, one calm and one with a prize will fill an afternoon, and one adult can run all three. - **The date can be flexible.** If Halloween lands on the other parent’s time, a games night the day before or the weekend after is every bit as fun. - **It stays light late in most states.** Daylight saving starts on the first Sunday in October in NSW, Victoria, SA, Tasmania and the ACT, so backyard games can run into the evening. - **Keep small bits away from under-3s.** Lollies, marshmallows and anything smaller than a 20-cent coin are choking risks for little ones. ## ****What Are the Best Halloween Games for Kids at Home?**** The best ones take 15 minutes or less to set up and use things you already own. Freeze dance, a scavenger hunt and a lolly-jar guess all fit that brief. Halloween games for kids are simple party games with a spooky theme, played at home instead of, or as well as, trick-or-treating. The easiest use everyday things like brooms, a jar, a hessian bag or a playlist. Most suit mixed ages, cost very little, and one adult can run them without a helper. Staying in isn’t second best. For plenty of families it’s the version of Halloween that fits, and our [alternatives to trick-or-treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/) cover movie and craft nights if games aren’t your crew’s thing. When you’re choosing, think about the kids’ ages, the space you’ve got and how much energy you’ll have left on the day. That last one matters more than most party lists admit. ## **10 Halloween Games for Kids to Play at Home** Three of these is enough for one afternoon. Under each game you’ll find the age range, the space it needs and the set-up time. ### **1. Beanbag Toss Pumpkins** *Ages 3+ · Inside or out · 5 minutes with buckets, longer if carving* This one turns a carved pumpkin into a target. Scoop out two pumpkins, cut a big open mouth in each, and stack them. Kids take turns trying to land a beanbag in the mouth. Let an adult do the carving, and skip the skewers if toddlers are around. Big orange carving pumpkins aren’t always easy to find here in spring, so plastic pumpkin buckets or a painted cardboard box do the same job. There are a few more options in our [no-carve pumpkin ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/). Rolled-up socks make fine beanbags in a pinch. [![Beanbag pumpkin toss Halloween games](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/pumpkin-carving-bean-bag-toss-1598292314.jpg?crop=0.992xw:0.992xh;0,0.00822xh&resize=980:%2A)](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/halloween-ideas/g2618/halloween-games/?slide=1) Source: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/halloween-ideas/g2618/halloween-games/?slide=1) ### **2. Spooky Tic Tac Toe** *Ages 4+ · Table game · Make it the weekend before* A game that doubles as a craft is gold on a long afternoon. Paint wooden discs or flat garden rocks, with spiders on one set and ghosts on the other. A hessian bag becomes the board and the storage bag. The painting needs drying time, so do it the weekend before and save the playing for Halloween. Our [Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/) have more make-ahead projects for kids. ![Spooky Tic Tac Toe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Ghost-tic-tac-toe-cricut-project-750x800.jpg "Ghost-tic-tac-toe-cricut-project - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Kara Creates](https://karacreates.com/festive-halloween-tic-tac-toe-an-easy-cricut-project/) ### **3. Halloween Scavenger Hunt** *Ages 3+ · House or yard · 15 minutes to write clues* A scavenger hunt is a classic for a reason. Write five or six clues, hide them around the house, and leave a small prize at the end. Rhyming clues suit school-age kids. Try “I keep your milk cold and your yoghurt too, open my door to find your next clue.” For little ones, draw pictures instead, like a fridge or a bathtub. For older kids, add extra clues or a time limit. [![Halloween Scavenger Hunt Halloween games ](https://www.playpartyplan.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/untitled-4-of-13-650x975.jpg)](https://www.playpartyplan.com/free-printable-halloween-scavenger-hunt/) Source: [Play Party Plan](https://www.playpartyplan.com/free-printable-halloween-scavenger-hunt/) ### **4. Find the Eyeball in the Haystack** *Ages 3+ · Inside · 10 minutes* Fill a deep plastic tub with shredded paper or straw and hide one lolly eyeball in it. The first kid to find it adds it to their lolly bag. Use one tub, or a few if you’re playing in teams. Under-3s can play with a tennis ball instead, with an eye drawn on in marker. It’s bigger, easier to find and much safer for little mouths. [![Find the Eyeball in the Haystack | Beanstalk Mums](https://meaningfulmama.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/1-Harvest-Party-Ideas-124.jpg)](https://www.womansday.com/life/g28153252/halloween-games/?slide=10) Source: [Womans Day](https://www.womansday.com/life/g28153252/halloween-games/?slide=10) ### **5. Halloween Bingo** *Ages 3+ · Table game · 20 minutes to make cards* Bingo is quiet, gentle and good for mixed ages. Draw a grid of nine squares for each player and fill it with simple Halloween pictures like a pumpkin, bat, ghost, witch’s hat and black cat. Pull matching pictures out of a hat and call them out. Little ones match the pictures while older kids race for a full card. Cover the cards in clear contact and they’ll last until next Halloween. [![Halloween Bingo](https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-mj7h-nVLIoA/VA9TAE2v4uI/AAAAAAAAJns/gr6sLRGc3ZE/s1600/Halloween%2BBingo%2BFree%2BPrintable.jpg)](https://www.artsyfartsymama.com/2011/10/halloween-bingo-free-printable.html) Source: [Artsy Fartsy Mama](https://www.artsyfartsymama.com/2011/10/halloween-bingo-free-printable.html) ### **6. Doughnuts on Strings** *Ages 4+ · Backyard · 10 minutes* Hang ring doughnuts from a tree branch or the clothesline at mouth height. Hands go behind backs, and the first to finish their doughnut wins. Everyone calls apple bobbing the Halloween classic. With little kids, I’d skip it. Doughnuts on strings are less wet, less messy, and nobody shares a bucket of water. Doughnuts usually contain wheat, egg and milk, so check for allergies before anyone arrives. For a lighter option, hang muffins or apple rings instead. You’ll find more easy treat swaps in our [Halloween food ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/). [![Bobbing for Donuts Halloween games](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Donut-party-for-kids-thechic1-533x800.webp "Donut-party-for-kids-thechic1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.trendhunter.com/trends/bobbing-for-donuts) Source: [Trend Hunter](https://www.trendhunter.com/trends/bobbing-for-donuts) ### **7. Truth or Scare** *Ages 7+ · Inside · 10 minutes to write cards* This is truth or dare with a Halloween twist, and it works for older kids and grown-ups alike. Write a stack of cards before the party. Here are a few to get you started. - Do your best witch cackle. - What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever watched? - Walk like a zombie to the letterbox and back. - Tell us one thing that scares you. - Howl like a werewolf for five seconds. Keep the scares silly, never mean, and let anyone pass without a fuss. [![Truth or Scare](https://www.playpartyplan.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/untitled-9-of-13-650x1300.jpg)](https://www.playpartyplan.com/halloween-truth-or-dare-questions/) Source: [Play Party Plan](https://www.playpartyplan.com/halloween-truth-or-dare-questions/) ### **8. Pumpkin Sweep** *Ages 4+ · Backyard or hallway · 5 minutes* Grab a couple of brooms and something round to sweep. Mark a start and finish line, split the kids into teams, and the first team to sweep all their pumpkins over the line wins. Real pumpkins are heavy and roll badly on grass. Small plastic pumpkins or scrunched-up balls of orange paper work better. With only two or three kids, race the clock instead of each other. [![Pumpkin Sweep](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/halloween-games-pumpkin-sweep-1653408165.png?crop=0.9972144846796658xw:1xh;center,top&resize=980:%2A)](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/halloween-ideas/g2618/halloween-games/?slide=5) Source: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/halloween-ideas/g2618/halloween-games/?slide=5) ### ****9. Monster Freeze Dance**** *All ages · Anywhere · No prep* Put on a Halloween playlist, let the little monsters dance, and hit pause. Anyone still moving when the music stops is out. My tweak is to make whoever’s out the DJ. They control the pause button, nobody sits on the couch sulking, and you get a break from the remote. [![Monster Freeze Dance ](https://content.api.news/v3/images/bin/6aa7e8674605b7447d2c564085b5c234?width=640)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/things-to-do/monster-mash-freeze-dance/news-story/8c38adc3a00bbb4b374eab712b955712) Source: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/things-to-do/monster-mash-freeze-dance/news-story/8c38adc3a00bbb4b374eab712b955712) ### ****10. Guess How Many**** *All ages · Anywhere · 5 minutes* If you’ve had zero time to plan, start here. Fill a jar with wrapped lollies, counting as you go, and ask each kid to write down a guess. The closest guess wins the jar, or a small prize if you’d rather ration the sugar. ![Black Cat Bowling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Black-cat-bowling-638x800.webp "Black cat bowling - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [BHG](https://www.bhg.com/halloween/parties/halloween-party-games/?slide=slide_a496f2fa-abae-4729-8472-c1048df81c18#slide_a496f2fa-abae-4729-8472-c1048df81c18) ## ****Can You Run a Halloween Party on Your Own?**** Yes. Fewer games and a bit of set-up the night before make it very doable for one adult. Most Halloween game lists online give you 40 or 50 ideas, and it’s tempting to plan a packed schedule. In practice, three games is plenty, because kids spend half the party running around in costume anyway. The year I tried to run six games on my own, we got through two. Nobody noticed. A few habits make solo hosting easier. - Set up the night before. Hide the clues, fill the jar and sort the playlist once the kids are asleep. - Run the games loud, then calm, then prize. Freeze dance first, bingo in the middle and guess how many to finish winds everyone down. - Give an older kid a job. A 10-year-old makes a great DJ, bingo caller or clue-hider. - Hand out lolly bags to everyone. Winners-only prizes tend to end in tears. - If the group is big, ask a friend to stay for the first hour. Asking for a hand is part of good planning. Most of these games cost next to nothing, too. A broom, a jar, a hessian bag and a playlist cover half the list. ## **How Do You Keep Toddlers and Tweens Playing Together?** Give the older kid a role and the little one a head start. That keeps them both in the same game. I used to plan separate games for each age. Actually, that doubled my work and split the party in two. The better way to think about it is one game with two jobs. - In the scavenger hunt, the tween hides the clues and the toddler finds them. - In bingo, the little one matches pictures while the big one calls. - In pumpkin sweep, the toddler gets a head start or a shorter track. - Freeze dance works for every age with no changes at all. Save truth or scare for after the little ones are in bed. Tweens enjoy it more without a four-year-old asking what a zombie is. ## **My Kids Don’t Like Scary Stuff. Can They Still Join In?** Yes. Keep it silly, keep the lights on, and let them opt out of anything. Halloween can be all friendly monsters and pumpkins without a single fright. Bingo, pumpkin sweep, freeze dance and guess how many have nothing scary in them. Skip masks and jump-scares around little ones, and give a warning before any spooky sound effects. If a child finds noise or crowds hard, turn the music down and set up a quiet corner with a blanket and a few books. A gentle movie on the couch counts as celebrating too. Start with one of the softer picks from our [family Halloween movies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-movies/) list. Some families don’t celebrate Halloween at all, for all sorts of reasons. These games work just as well as a plain spring party with no costumes in sight. ## **Why Backyard Games Suit an Aussie Spring** Halloween lands in spring here, so the backyard is often your best room. Warm evenings make outdoor games easy. In NSW, Victoria, South Australia, Tasmania and the ACT, [daylight saving starts](https://www.dpac.tas.gov.au/about-us/daylight-saving-in-tasmania) on the first Sunday in October, so it’s usually still light after 7pm on Halloween. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t change their clocks, so it gets dark earlier there. Plan the outdoor games first and move inside as the light goes. Doughnuts on strings, pumpkin sweep and the scavenger hunt all suit a backyard. If you’re starting in the afternoon, put out hats and a jug of water, because spring sun still bites. No backyard? Bingo, truth or scare and guess how many all work around the kitchen table, and the neighbours downstairs will thank you. ## **Which Safety Checks Actually Matter?** Three checks cover most of it. Watch small bits around under-3s, keep sharp tools with adults, and ask about food allergies before the party. - Anything smaller than a 20-cent coin is [a choking risk](https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/safety/choking-strangulation/choking-prevention) for young children. That includes lollies, marshmallows and small painted discs. - Adults do the carving, and skewers stay well out of reach. - Ask about allergies when you invite, and keep lolly packets so parents can check labels. Allergy & Anaphylaxis Australia has [Halloween allergy tips](https://allergyfacts.org.au/halloween-and-food-allergy/) for families living with food allergy. - Clear toys and hoses off the lawn before the games start, and keep a torch handy if you’re playing into the evening. ## **One Last Thing Before the Music Starts** The kids won’t remember whether the snack table matched. They’ll remember you hitting pause mid-song and everyone freezing mid-cackle. Running a party on your own takes more planning than it looks, and doing it on a small budget takes real skill. So go easy on yourself. Pick three Halloween games for kids from this list, set them up the night before, and let the rest go. If a new favourite comes out of your night, share it with the Beanstalk Mums community so another mum can borrow it next year. ## **FAQ Section** **What are the easiest Halloween games for kids at home?** Freeze dance, guess how many and the eyeball-in-the-haystack hunt need almost no set-up and use things you already own. Each one takes 10 minutes or less to get ready. **How many Halloween games for kids do I need for a party?** Three games is plenty for a one- to two-hour party with one adult in charge. Pick one active game, one calm game and one with a small prize. **What Halloween games are safe for toddlers?** Freeze dance, picture bingo and pumpkin sweep with plastic pumpkins all suit toddlers. Keep anything smaller than a 20-cent coin away from under-3s, because it’s a choking risk. **Can we celebrate Halloween on a different day?** Yes. If Halloween lands on the other parent’s time, a games night the day before or the weekend after works just as well. **Is it still light on Halloween night in Australia?** In NSW, Victoria, South Australia, Tasmania and the ACT, daylight saving starts on the first Sunday in October, so it’s usually still light after 7pm on Halloween. Queensland, WA and the NT don’t use daylight saving, so it gets dark earlier there. **How do I include kids with food allergies in Halloween games?** Ask about allergies when you invite, and lean on games like bingo or a scavenger hunt that don’t involve eating. Keep lolly packets so parents can check the labels themselves. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/kids-halloween-games/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/kids-halloween-games/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween --- ### [7 Best budget-friendly solo travel ideas for women 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Have you ever caught yourself staring at your old travel photos while trying to prevent a Lego disaster in your living room, wishing you could take a break for a day or two? The idea of sneaking away for a well-deserved solo escape may sound amazing. But let’s face it: when you’re balancing work, kids, and everything in between, it can feel like an impossible dream. Plus, the thought of leaving behind the pile of laundry that rivals Mount Everest might seem daunting — let alone trying to figure out the safest and best budget-friendly solo travel ideas, whether that’s a quiet city break, a nature reset, or even dreamy [Whitehaven Beach tours](https://www.magnums.com.au/whitehaven-beach/) that let you soak up paradise without the stress of planning everything yourself. This guide is here to change that! Just because you’re single-handedly managing the household doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself to a solo adventure that’s easy on the wallet. If you’ve been dreaming of beach sunsets, peaceful hikes, or city exploration, these budget-friendly solo travel ideas will get you packing. Because every supermum deserves a little “me-time,” and it doesn’t have to break the bank. ## **7 Budget-friendly Solo Travel Destinations 202**6 ## **1. Camping or campervan adventures (Say goodbye to private rooms)** First up on my list is camping or campervan adventures. If you’ve been drowning in the hustle and bustle of the city, you’ll love the laid-back vibe of living in nature on your own. As a solo camper, you don’t even have to think of activities to keep things fun. You can hike whenever you want, swim in a lake with a waterfall, eat whatever you like, read a book in peace, or even sleep all day. If you want the comfort of a private space without pitching a tent, browsing [Big Bear Lake cabin rentals](https://www.lake.com/usa/california/big-bear/) is a great way to find a cosy, affordable base that still puts you right in the heart of nature. Of course, camping on your own can be scary. Here are some reminders to stay safe when camping alone: - Share your camping plans with a trusted friend, including your exact routes and schedule - Make sure there are cell services where you are - Keep a first aid kit handy (and learn how to use it) - Pack light - Pack more than you need, in case of an emergency ![budget-friendly solo travel ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/5156ee6a-624d-4af2-9d1a-383583c8f37c-1066x800.jpg "5156ee6a-624d-4af2-9d1a-383583c8f37c - Beanstalk Mums") ## **2. Free accommodation: Housesitting** Looking after someone else’s house may not be what you consider a holiday. Are you not going on this solo trip to get away from your responsibilities at home? But don’t snub house sitting, because it means free accommodation! I’m a mum who loves my house, so I’m more comfortable staying in an Airbnb than a hotel. House sitting is an even better option since I have all the furniture and appliances I need and don’t have to pay anything. Aside from staying for free, you can also explore the neighbourhood and experience the local culture firsthand. It can be fun to experience how exactly a family lives in that area. You can even befriend the neighbours in case you get lonely. ***Further reading: [8 Great reasons to house swap for a cheap holiday.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/)*** ## **3. An off-season package holiday** An off-season package is another affordable way to travel. You can still explore the best solo travel destinations, minus the holiday crowds and prices. I always plan my cheap solo vacations during off-peak months to save a lot of money. If you plan to spend your short vacation locally, the cheapest time to go around Australia is during the shoulder season (February to April and September to November). Travelling in winter (June to August) is even cheaper here in Australia since tourism is almost dead during these months. If you don’t mind less-than-perfect weather, off-season holidays are well worth adding to your list of vacation ideas. It’s a great time to [visit the Great Barrier Reef](https://www.townsvillenorthqueensland.com.au/destinations/great-barrier-reef/) without the peak-season crowds. To compare prices and get yourself travel discounts, try sites like [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU) and [Wotif](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV). ## **Destinations for solo travellers** ## **4. A solo cruise** As a mum who loves the sea, a solo cruise is one of the best solo travel ideas for me. A cruise is definitely a breath of fresh, salty air. I managed to tick it off my bucket list with a 7-day cruise when my youngest daughter finished high school, and I was finally alone at home. But if you still have young kids you can’t possibly leave behind for long, you can find cruises for three, four, or five days. If you didn’t know, cruises are not limited to lounging on a ship and drinking wine, as the movies portray. You can find snorkelling and scuba diving cruises, or choose a [New Horizon overnight charter](https://whitsundayssailingadventures.com.au/vessels/new-horizon-2d2n/) to explore the Great Barrier Reef at sunset and wake up surrounded by crystal-clear waters. ## **5. Volunteer travel** If you’re searching for solo travel ideas for women that let you do something good for others, why not give volunteer travel programs a try? Volunteer travel is taking a trip to participate in opportunities to help others. The biggest issue for us mums when it comes to volunteering is finding short-term programs. After all, taking an extensive leave from our responsibilities at home is not an option. If you only have a few days or a week max to go on a volunteering trip, you’re better off looking for opportunities within Australia or your state. Several short-term volunteer travel possibilities are worth exploring, such as getting involved in literacy initiatives or construction projects (like building schools and homes). Additionally, some volunteer travel programs offer compensation to help cover your expenses. For instance, you could be paid for assisting with animal care or farm tasks for a week. ## **6. A biking holiday** If you’re one of the 95% of Australians who ride a bike, you’ll love this next entry. Excluding getting a bit of time off your daily schedule, cycling has so many benefits. It’s good for your body, boosts your mood, and increases your strength and stamina. You also enjoy spectacular biking routes and possibly meet new like-minded friends. Plus, if you already have some clothes and a suitable bike for your chosen route, cycling can be a relatively cheap activity. For one, you will spend less on transportation to enjoy a nice view. ***Further reading: [Is the Sunshine Coast a good holiday destination?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sunshine-coast/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/412142f7-b234-42e3-9586-78b74be35c2b-1066x800.jpg "412142f7-b234-42e3-9586-78b74be35c2b - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Hostel hopping** Last on our list of solo travel ideas for women is hostel-hopping. Hostels are a cheaper alternative to hotels and Airbnb, so they’re popular among the curious and intrepid crowd. Staying in hostels is not just cheaper. Here, you get to meet people from different places and cultures. You also get to experience the unique flavour of the street foods in the area you’re staying in for the night. However, hostel-hopping is not for the faint of heart. You usually share a room with several other people of a younger demographic. If you’re uncomfortable spending the night or two with strangers, you might be more suited to a budget motel. But if you have your mind set on this adventure, here are a few top tips to make your hostel-hopping safe: - Leave valuable items behind. - Rent a personal locker and acquire multiple luggage locks. - Thoroughly review online feedback. - Distribute your money across various hiding places. - Rely on your intuition. ## **Best places to travel alone on a budget** According to [Skyscanner,](http://skyscanner.pxf.io/7aaAMA) these destinations in the world have the biggest airfare price drop over the past year: - Sarajevo, Bosnia - Okinawa, Japan - Tirana, Albania - Sapporo, Japan - Marrakech, Morocco - Belgrade, Serbia - Gothenburg, Sweden - Prague, Czech Republic - Halifax, Canada - Jakarta, Indonesia ## **My final thoughts: Affordable solo trip ideas for women** Here’s a secret: Solo travel isn’t a privilege reserved only for carefree college students or adventurous twenty-somethings; multitasking mums like us can experience it, too. If you’re a single mum looking to go on a solo vacation without breaking the bank, solo travel is well within reach! If you want, you can keep a loose itinerary to wander at your own pace. This way, you’ll discover hidden gems and must-visit spots. Public transportation is not only easy on the wallet but also gives you a genuine feel for the local scene. Plus, many destinations offer free or low-cost tours where you can explore on foot and see the highlights without the expense. If you like visiting national parks, you can be a backpacker or join a walking tour! Or if you want to experience nightlife again, go to the hottest pubs for tourists around the area. Remember, this is your time to explore, relax, and recharge, so embrace the journey and all its little surprises; you’ve earned it! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holidaying alone, solo travel, female travel, female holiday, holiday groups --- ### [How to Protect Your Privacy on Dating Apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-protect-your-privacy-on-dating-apps/) **Published:** September 30, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** # **How to Protect Your Privacy on Dating Apps: What Single Mums Can Change, and What They Can’t** The distance shown next to your name on a dating app does not come from your internet connection. It comes from the location permission you handed that app the day you installed it. Turning that permission down from precise to approximate is the one change that moves the number, and it takes about thirty seconds. There is a second address, and it works separately. Every app you open and every site you browse is handed an address by your internet connection, and that address points to roughly the area you are sitting in. Changing it takes about two minutes on a phone: switch on a [free VPN](https://xvpn.io/free-vpn) and apps and sites see the server’s address instead of the one your home or café network gave them. Those two layers get muddled together constantly, which is why most dating app privacy advice lands somewhere beside the point. What follows sorts them out: the settings that decide what a match can work out about you, the settings that decide what the network around you can see, and the parts no software reaches. # **“Your Location” Means Two Different Things** ![Abstract infographic showing how distance and address affect your phone and connection, with a phone on the left labeled'The distance' and a device on the right labeled 'The address'](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Image-1-1200x675.png "dating app privacy - Beanstalk Mums") Dating apps deal in two separate kinds of location data, and the fix is different for each. The one you see is the distance. Your phone hands the app a set of coordinates, the app compares them against everyone else’s, and the result appears on your profile as a number of kilometres. How sharp that number is depends on the permission you granted: precise location is accurate to a few metres, approximate location is accurate to a few kilometres. The one you do not see is the address your connection carries. The moment your phone joins a network, your internet provider issues it an address. Every website and every app server you contact receives that address and works out roughly which city you are in. Nothing on your part triggers it — it travels with every request your phone makes. Turn the permission down and the distance goes fuzzy while the address keeps travelling. Change the address and the distance stays exactly where it was. Two separate switches, two separate results. # **Do Dating Apps Show Your Location?** ![Abstract map-like diagram with overlapping pale red circles around a central red dot and distance labels: 3.1 km, 2.7 km, 2.3 km, in soft tones.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Image-1200x675.png "dating app privacy - Beanstalk Mums") They show a distance, not a place — and a distance sampled enough times becomes a place. Say your profile tells a match you are 3 km away. That sounds vague. The number updates, though, and someone who moves to three different spots and records the distance from each can draw three circles. Where those circles meet is you. This is not a fault in one particular app; it is what publishing a distance does. Researchers who tested 15 dating apps in 2024 showed how far that goes. On two widely used apps, repeated distance readings narrowed a person’s position to within a couple of metres. TechCrunch reported it in July that year under the headline that Bumble and Hinge “allowed stalkers to pinpoint users’ locations down to 2 meters”. Both apps have since changed how they calculate and round the distance they publish. The fix sits in your phone rather than in the app. On an iPhone, open Settings, find the app, and switch Precise Location off. On Android, open the app’s permissions and set location to approximate. The app carries on working; the number it publishes gets blunt. A VPN does not reach this layer. The distance is calculated from the coordinates your phone supplies, so changing the address apps receive leaves that number precisely where it was. # **Three Settings Worth Changing Before Your Next Match** Three switches, ten minutes, and more effect than any software on this page. ## **Unlink Your Social Accounts** Connecting Instagram, Facebook or Spotify to a dating profile hands over your surname, your friend list, the places you tag and years of older photos in a single tap. Most people link an account for the extra photos and then forget it is there. Disconnecting them in the profile settings is the most useful thirty seconds in this article. ## **Strip the Location Out of Your Photos** Your camera writes the coordinates of the spot where a photo was taken into the file itself. Dating platforms usually remove that data when you upload to a profile, but an original image sent straight into a chat can carry it through. Two fixes: turn location tagging off in your camera settings, or screenshot the photo and send the screenshot, which drops the original data. ## **Keep Your Surname and Your Workplace Off the Profile** Use your given name. A surname combined with a workplace, or a surname combined with a recognisable view from your front verandah, is usually enough for a patient stranger to arrive at an address. The test for any detail: would this still be safe in the hands of someone who already knows your name? None of the three cost money or require you to install anything. Once they are done, the connection layer is worth a look. # **Your Connection Hands Out an Address Too** This is the layer you can change, and it is the one tied to whichever network you happen to be on. When you join the free Wi-Fi at a café, a gym or a waiting room, whoever runs that network can see which sites and services your phone opens. Every site you reach also receives the address that network gave you. With a VPN switched on, both views change: the network sees one encrypted connection, and the sites see the VPN server’s address instead of yours. Sorting which worry belongs to which layer makes the rest of this straightforward. | **What You Want to Keep Private** | **What Decides It** | **Does a VPN Change It?** | |---|---|---| | The distance shown next to your profile | The location permission you gave that app | No | | The address apps and websites receive | Your internet connection | Yes | | Location data saved inside your photos | Your camera settings, and the file itself | No | | What a café or gym network sees you opening | Your internet connection | Yes | | What a match can find out about you elsewhere | The accounts you link, and your surname | No | | Your phone number | Whether the conversation moves off the app | No | Six rows, two of them yes. A VPN is one tool on this list rather than the list itself, and treating it as the whole answer is how people end up relaxing the four settings that do the heavier work. Which server the connection lands on is a setting rather than a guess. On iPhone and Android the free version of X-VPN lets you pick the location by hand, and Sydney and Melbourne are both on that list; the free desktop version connects automatically instead. For anyone who wants the connection to stay in the country, that is what a [free VPN for Australia](https://xvpn.io/vpn-server/free-vpn-australia) means in practice. The free version starts with no account and no personal details — no email, no card — and it carries no data cap. What it changes is the address and what the local network can see. What you typed into your profile, and where you took the conversation next, sit outside its reach. # **Online Dating Safety Tips Australian Mums Can Use Today** Australia has two free, non-commercial guides on this, and almost nobody links to them. eSafety publishes a page on online dating that covers verifying who you are talking to, handling unwanted images, and what to do when someone will not take no for an answer. It is written plainly and kept current. WESNET, the national women’s services network, publishes a printable Dating Safety Guide through techsafety.org.au. It was written for women returning to dating with a reason to be careful about being found, which makes it the most relevant document in this area for readers of this site. It shows up in almost no search results for dating privacy. Two habits appear in every Australian guide on the subject. Meet somewhere public and arrange your own transport there and back. Tell one person where you are going and when you expect to be home. Both are in every list because they work. # **Dating Again After a Separation: What Is Different** [Returning to dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/) raises a problem a fresh sign-up does not have: some of your accounts are still joined to someone else. Shared logins, a photo library still syncing to two devices, location sharing left switched on from a family plan. Clearing those out before you install a dating app is quicker than untangling them afterwards. Your profile reads differently too. A photo taken on your own front verandah tells a stranger very little and tells someone who has stood there before exactly where you are living now. Naming your suburb in a bio works the same way. Judge each detail by what it gives to a person who already knows your name. If the home network was set up by your former partner, change the password on it. That is a household admin job nobody thinks to put on the list. # **Questions People Ask** ## **Will a VPN Stop Matches Seeing How Far Away I Am?** No. That number is calculated from the location permission you gave the app, so setting location to approximate is what blunts it. A VPN changes the address sites and apps receive, which is a separate layer. ## **Do Dating Apps Sell My Data?** Major platforms pass profile and usage data to advertising partners. The opt-out for personalised advertising sits in the app’s privacy settings, and it is switched on by default when you sign up. ## **Should I Use My Real Name on a Dating App?** Use your given name. A surname combined with one recognisable photo or a workplace is usually enough for someone to reach an address, and it adds nothing to your matches. ## **Is It Safe to Use Dating Apps on Café Wi-Fi?** Whoever runs that network can see which services your phone opens. With a VPN on, they see one encrypted connection instead. ## **Is a Free VPN Enough for This?** For changing the address apps receive, yes. What matters is whether the provider is clear about what it records — X-VPN’s no-logs policy was independently audited in 2026. # **The Short Version** Three things decide what a dating app gives away about you. The distance comes from a permission. The address comes from your connection. Everything else comes from what you chose to put in the profile. Two of those are settings you can change in ten minutes. The third takes longer, because it is a judgement rather than a switch. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-protect-your-privacy-on-dating-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-protect-your-privacy-on-dating-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Online Dating --- ### [The At-Home Nervous System Reset: Why Self-Care is a Clinical Necessity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers/) **Published:** October 2, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Feeling burnt out, Mum? Learn how a nervous system reset for single mothers can lower cortisol and restore calm using simple somatic tools. **Content:** **The constant stress of single motherhood isn’t a mindset flaw. It’s your nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight. A nervous system reset for single mothers doesn’t take hours: one- to two-minute sensory habits like cold water on your face, humming or box breathing can help your body shift back into calm. If self-care stops being enough, that’s the time to reach out for counselling.** The arrival of May often brings a complex “Mother’s Day Paradox” for those walking the path of single motherhood. The world celebrates with images of breakfast in bed and shared parenting joys. While the reality for many single mums is 100% of the heavy lifting with 0% of the external recognition. This discrepancy often triggers a physiological “spin out.” It isn’t just “sadness”. It is the weight of the invisible load manifesting as a tight chest, a racing mind, or a profound sense of “fawn” or “freeze” exhaustion. Waiting for external validation—a partner who isn’t there or children too young to understand—can leave your “internal cup” bone dry. To thrive, we must redefine self-care. It isn’t a frivolous luxury; it is the clinical practice of regulating your own biology in the middle of a chaotic Tuesday. **Quick takeaways:** - **Stress is physical, not a personal failing:** Carrying the full load of solo parenting keeps your body on high alert, so you can’t simply think your way out of it. - **Holidays can hit harder:** Family-focused days like Mother’s Day can trigger stress days before they arrive. - **Small sensory resets work fast:** Splashing cold water on your face, humming a low note, box breathing or softening your gaze takes one to two minutes and works with the kids in the next room. - **Build a calming kit:** Magnesium bath flakes, a body butter or an essential oil blend can become sensory anchors for a few quiet minutes. - **Know when to get support:** If small stressors cause a total collapse, or you feel constantly burnt out or numb, it’s time to talk to a counsellor. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. This article contains affiliate links to Nourished Life products. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change what we recommend. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![Nervous system reset for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers.jpg "Nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why Is Mother’s Day Emotionally Difficult For Single Mothers?** **The difficulty stems from a combination of “disenfranchised grief” and the physiological peak of the mental load without a buffer.** When you are the sole provider and nurturer, holidays that highlight a traditional family structure can trigger the amygdala to perceive a “threat” to your social or emotional safety. For a single mother, Mother’s Day isn’t a day off; it’s often just another Sunday with extra emotional weight. You are the one buying the presents for the grandmothers. The one organising the lunch, and the one still cleaning the kitchen at 8:00 PM. From a clinical perspective, this creates **“anticipatory stress.”** Your body begins producing cortisol (the stress hormone) days in advance. It is bracing for the feel of being “unseen.” This isn’t a failure of your “positive thinking”. It is your nervous system trying to protect you from the pain of unmet expectations. ## **How Does Sensory Grounding Stop an Anxiety Cycle?** **Sensory grounding works by providing a “bottom-up” neurological interrupt that forces the brain to shift focus from internal distress to external physical stimuli.** This process shifts the body from the Sympathetic Nervous System (fight-or-flight) to the Parasympathetic Nervous System (rest-and-digest). When you receive a stressful text or look at a daunting budget, your brain’s alarm system—the amygdala—doesn’t know the difference between a lion and a bill. It shuts down your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for logic) and floods your system with adrenaline. You cannot “think” your way out of this state because your logical brain is effectively offline. You must **“feel” your way out.** This is where a nervous system reset for single mothers becomes a clinical tool. By introducing a strong sensory input, you send a message to the brain: *“I am safe in this moment. I am here.”* [![gift of chaos to calm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Newsletter-artwork-12.jpg "Newsletter-artwork-12 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) ## **What Are the Best Tech-Free Micro-Habits for Nervous System Regulation?** **The most effective micro-habits involve “Somatic Interrupts,” which are short, 1- to 2-minute physical actions that reset your vagus nerve.** These habits require no technology and can be performed even while your children are in the next room. - **The Temperature Shift:** Splashing ice-cold water on your face or taking a hot shower with focused intent. The sudden change in temperature triggers the “mammalian dive reflex,” which naturally slows the heart rate. - **Vagal Toning:** Hum a low note or practice “box breathing” (inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4). The vibration of humming stimulates the vagus nerve. - **The Peripheral Gaze:** Soften your eyes and try to see the edges of the room without moving your head. This signals to the brain that there are no immediate physical threats nearby. ## **How Can Natural Self-Care Products Act as Tools for Mental Health?** **High-quality, toxin-free self-care products serve as “anchors” for somatic grounding, providing the olfactory and tactile input needed to break a stress cycle.** When products are free from endocrine disruptors, they support your body’s hormonal health rather than complicating it. Setting up a supportive self-care routine is vital for managing the unique pressures of single motherhood. When the nervous system is in a state of “high alert,” focusing on sensory grounding and transdermal mineral absorption can provide immediate, gentle relief. For a deeper dive into managing the emotional and physical toll of solo parenting, you might find our guide, [Strategies to Combat Single Parent Burnout Symptoms,](https://singlemamaway.com/combat-single-parent-burnout/) particularly resonant. [![Nourished Life promo banner with pink gradient, beauty and wellness products; text 'Shop Over 2,000 Natural Beauty & Wellness Products' and a 'Shop Now' button](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3e4aadf5-7508-455f-ab41-258c82eb3b06.gif "3e4aadf5-7508-455f-ab41-258c82eb3b06 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2f) *disclaimer we may earn a small commission if you shop through this link at no extra cost to you Every recommendation we share is chosen with care to genuinely support you and your family 💛* ## **The SMW Clinical First Aid Kit** To help you move from survival mode back into a space of peace, I’ve curated a few high-quality, toxin-free options from **Nourished Life** that specifically target stress and nervous system regulation. - **For Deep Physical Relaxation:** The[ Zea Active Magnesium Oil Topical Spray](https://www.nourishedlife.com.au/products/active-magnesium-oil-topical-spray?utm_source=Commission+Factory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=-Text+Link&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=32ea7ce741484b76a41fbad6f6fecf9f) is a fast-absorbing way to replenish magnesium levels, which are often depleted during times of high stress. It’s excellent for soothing muscle tension and encouraging better sleep quality. - **For Sensory Grounding:** The [Ecco Meditation Essential Oil Blend](https://www.nourishedlife.com.au/products/eco-modern-essentials-meditation-essential-oil-blend?utm_source=Commission+Factory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=-Text+Link&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=9ea4bdb056cb43339131ad0151493fda) features a grounding mix of **Cedarwood, Ylang Ylang and Vetiver Oil**. It’s perfect for diffusing during a quiet moment for a calming sensory reset. - **For a Restorative Soak:** If you can find 15 minutes for a bath, the[ Epzen Relax Magnesium Bath Flakes](https://www.nourishedlife.com.au/products/epzen-100-natural-magnesium-bath-flakes?utm_source=Commission+Factory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=-Text+Link&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=71482af33da7445dbe837414df841aca) combine magnesium with **Lavender, Sandalwood and Ylang Ylang** to signal to your brain that it’s time to rest. - **For Intense Skin Nourishment:** The[ Dr Organic Manuka Honey Body Butter](https://www.nourishedlife.com.au/products/dr-organic-manuka-honey-body-butter?utm_source=Commission+Factory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=-Text+Link&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=56997800d6ac4eaf948dbe2db7a87a48) provides a luxurious, toxin-free way to lock in moisture while the soothing scent of **Manuka honey** offers a small, comforting ritual. ## **When Should a Single Mother Seek Professional Clinical Support?** **Professional support is recommended when “self-regulation” no longer feels possible and your nervous system remains in a state of permanent “burnout” or “numbness.”** If your “Window of Tolerance” has become so small that even minor stressors cause a total collapse, it is time for a deeper clinical intervention. At Beanstalk Mums, we understand that you cannot “self-care” your way out of trauma or chronic systemic stress. While sensory tools are vital for daily management, counselling provides the space to unpack the “why” behind the “what.” Working with a therapist who understands the specific nuances of single motherhood allows you to move from “surviving” to “processing.” [![Promo banner advertising a 60-minute power session to tackle your biggest challenge; left image shows a smiling woman hugging a child with people in the background holding a 'HELP' sign.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Newsletter-artwork-21 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere) ## **Invest in Your Regulation** This Mother’s Day, we invite you to reclaim the narrative. Don’t wait for the flowers to arrive; instead, curate your own **“Nervous System First Aid Kit.”** - **Step 1:** Use the tools above to find your sensory anchors—look for magnesium and pure essential oils that resonate with your nervous system. - **Step 2:** If you feel the weight of this season is more than a bath can fix, book a dedicated counselling session with me (https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session). You are the heartbeat of your home, and your regulation is the greatest gift you can give both yourself and your children. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/nervous-system-reset-for-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [Squeezing in Exercise as a Busy Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Finding time to exercise as a busy single mum may be a long way down your priority list. Something for people with the luxury we crave … time. We all know its importance, but that doesn’t make it any easier. **Until now.** It’s time to change the way you think about exercise. It doesn’t have to be time-consuming, tedious or even particularly hard. The key to exercise as a busy single mum is choosing the right kind of practice. Something that fits into your schedule, gets results, and you enjoy. Once you have the formula, you’ll be off and running, quite literally. Are you ready to reform the way you look and feel? Let’s get warmed up with these simple ideas. ## Exercise in (or close to) your home The longer it takes you to get to your place of exercise, the less likely you’ll do it. Face it, time is already limited. Why waste it getting from A to B, and back again? Only use a fitness facility if it’s less than ten minutes from your home. Alternatively, create a dedicated exercise area in your home and [use a fitness app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/) to keep you motivated and on track. Invest in high-quality equipment from a [professional gym equipment supplier](https://www.cyberfit.com.au/) to enhance your home workouts. You can also utilise local parks and footpaths for running, provided they’re safe. By making exercise convenient and accessible, you’re more likely to stick to your fitness routine. ## Less can be more If you think you need a good hour to exercise, think again. According to [Fitness Blender](https://www.fitnessblender.com/blog/can-you-lose-weight-with-15-minute-workouts-are-short-intense-workouts-enough-to-change-your-body): > *‘Not only can multiple short workouts be as effective as longer duration workouts, they can be even more effective’.* With this in mind, consider two 15-minute workouts a day. Does this seem more manageable? There’s a good choice of 15-minute workout DVDs available. Or stick in your headphones and get moving. Run on the spot, jump or dance. ## Include your kids This doesn’t necessarily mean donning your best gym gear and running enthusiastically with a stroller. Remember that any exertion is exercise. Time spent chasing one another around the garden, walking to the park or playing Wii Dance is all cardiovascular activity that counts. Just because you’re having fun and not considering it exercise doesn’t mean it’s not a workout. If you can pull it off, it’s a win/win for you and your kids. ## Make it a routine The best way to ensure something happens is to plan for it. Set a time each day for exercise. If you get into a routine, it will eventually become second nature. Your kids will get used to it, too. For example, after dinner is Mum’s aerobic time. They’ll start expecting you to do it, which will motivate you. I do a 30-minute [YouTube yoga workout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/) before my kids wake up. They think nothing of seeing mummy as a tree first thing in the morning! ## Mix it up Exercise for busy mums can be a challenge. Don’t pressure yourself to stick to a rigid routine. It would be virtually impossible in the ever-changing mum world. Instead, have several options — you might [take up martial arts](https://www.umfacademy.com.au/) one day and switch to a home workout the next. If your exercise plans for the day fall through, do something else. For example, if you don’t go to the gym, do a mini workout at home. Or, if you can’t face high-intensity exercise, do a relaxing yoga and [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) workout. Back-ups and alternatives take the stress off when things don’t go to plan. ![exercise as a busy single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-20.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Finding time to exercise as a busy single mum (cont.) ## Exercise with other busy mums Doing exercise with a friend makes it more enjoyable. It’s also helpful from a time perspective. If you’ve arranged a time to do joint exercise, it’s more likely to happen *and* happen at the planned time. Committing to exercise with another person alleviates procrastination, which may hinder your day and your ability to stick with the program. Exercise for busy mums is more enjoyable and more attainable when done in the company of others. ## Do some mummy-style multi-tasking If you struggle to dedicate time to exercise, try to combine it with other tasks. Use exercise machines such as steppers and bikes. You can read and even sort paperwork while you’re on them. Take a brisk walk while you catch up on phone calls. And swap your car for your bike to run small errands. You’ll be keeping fit and keeping up with your chores simultaneously. Multi-tasking is our forte, after all. ## Explore Online Classes and Tutorials Online fitness classes and tutorials offer unparalleled flexibility, allowing you to integrate exercise into your busy schedule seamlessly. Live classes provide real-time interaction with instructors and a sense of community, which can boost motivation and accountability. Alternatively, pre-recorded sessions offer the freedom to work out on your own time, with a variety of options ranging from strength training to yoga, ensuring there’s something to fit your mood and schedule. Specialised fitness platforms and apps often provide customised workout plans, access to extensive libraries, and additional resources like meal plans and progress tracking. Many of these services are available at a lower cost than traditional gym memberships, and some even offer family-friendly options to involve your kids in your fitness routine. ## Try Family-Friendly Fitness Challenges If your kids are older, why not involve them in your fitness challenges? Transforming exercise from a solo activity into a fun family event. Start by setting up engaging and achievable goals that everyone can participate in, such as a daily step count challenge or a weekly workout routine. For example, you might aim for a collective step goal, where the family tracks their steps using pedometers or smartphone apps and works together to reach it. Alternatively, you could plan a weekly exercise challenge where each family member contributes to a different activity, such as cycling, jumping rope, or dancing. Celebrate the milestones you achieve together, whether it’s reaching a step goal or completing a series of exercises. This celebration can be as simple as a special treat, a fun outing, or even just a heartfelt recognition of everyone’s effort. By making fitness a family affair, you not only stay active but also strengthen family bonds. It creates an environment where exercise is viewed positively, and your kids learn the importance of a healthy lifestyle through shared experiences. ## Conclusion: Finding time to exercise as a busy single mum Remember that keeping fit has to be fun. You’re less likely to make time for it if you’re not enjoying it. To get off the starting block, try different exercises at different times. When you find what works, stick at it. You’ll see and feel the results, which is your motivation to keep going. Exercise for busy mums is possible. So get moving, keep smiling, and have fun. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** healthy, keeping fit, exercise routine, workouts --- ### [The Truth About Caring For Ageing Parents And Children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-truth-about-caring-for-ageing-parents/) **Published:** January 5, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** More than nine in 10 unpaid caregivers in Australia feel physically or mentally exhausted due to their caregiving responsibilities (94%). [Often neglecting their own needs](https://www.thecareside.com.au/post/unpaid-caregiving-burnout-report/) as a result (92%) highlights a 2023 study conducted by The CareSide. For those who are caring for ageing parents and children at the same time, it can be a major challenge to find a balance — especially if you’ve got [a busy work schedule](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/rewarding-career-paths-for-mums-re-entering-the-workforce/) to manage on top of it all. From the value of a solid routine to how a support network can come into play, even time for yourself can all help in the prevention of burnout. ## The power of a solid routine As a mum, you likely already recognise the value of a solid family routine, from regular sports practices to bedtimes and beyond. However, if you’re newly tasked with caring for your parents as they age, a routine can be equally beneficial. Whether you aid your parents with grocery shopping, drive them to a weekly pilates class, or accompany them to important appointments like [cataract treatment in Singapore](https://angeleye.com.sg/cataract-surgery/), the development of a routine can help establish some normalcy. That said, this doesn’t mean you have to take on more than you can handle, especially if your schedule is already full of obligations like work. In some cases, the balance between childcare and time spent with your parents can be found in an efficient solution. If possible, getting your parents involved with childcare can be a great way to take some of the stress off your own plate, even if just for a couple of hours. Not only will this present your children with an opportunity to spend quality time with their grandparents, but it will also keep your parents company as well. This is especially important if your parents are still rather independent — if they happen to live on their own, the risk of loneliness can become a major concern. Monash University highlights longitudinal data, which shows that one in five older Australians feels loneliness, [especially those aged 75 and over](https://www.monash.edu/news/articles/older-australians-join-the-fight-against-loneliness-and-social-isolation#:~:text=Longitudinal%20data%2A%20shows%20that%20one,those%20aged%2075%20and%20over.). On the flip side, you can use this block of time however you see fit, whether for self-care or to accomplish an errand for your parents. ## Caring for Ageing Parents in the same home For individuals who live with their parents in a multigenerational household, the integration of quality time spent together can be made easier with [in home aged care](https://respect.com.au/home-care-sydney/), though other problems are likely to arise. For example, schedules can become muddled, and your parents may not be able to get out of the house as much as they’d like to if they’re frequently at home with the grandchildren. With that in mind, tools such as a shared calendar that is accessible to everyone can make a big difference. A shared calendar can not only provide information in regard to work schedules, [doctor appointments](https://menshealthandmore.com/ "doctor appointments"), and school events, but can serve as a hub for communication as well, whether it be on the side of the fridge or in the home’s entryway. Room for sticky notes and pens can make for the perfect solution to communicate reminders, grocery lists, and important phone numbers around the clock. ![Caring For Ageing Parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-65.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Truth About Caring For Ageing Parents cont… ## **The power of a support network** As an informal caregiver to ageing parents and as a parent yourself, it can be incredibly difficult to do everything for everyone. Meal plans, laundry, and the dance between your child’s sports practice and your parents’ doctor appointments can quickly become too much to handle. A [strong support network](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) plays an integral role when the goal is to uncover a balance — after all, nobody has superpowers. A sibling, partner, relatives, or loved ones can all help take some of the weight off an overwhelmed schedule, though social support presents additional benefits. For instance, social support can help individuals [cope better with stress](https://www.verywellmind.com/social-support-for-psychological-health-4119970) and improve motivation. Additionally, social support can serve as an outlet where you can share your worries and experiences with those who care — and perhaps those who may share your experiences. In some cases, you may wish to consider professional help for your parents as they continue to age. At the same time, this can be a difficult decision. It can prove to be the best course of action if you are unable to realistically meet your ageing parent’s needs in addition to caring for your children and yourself. Whether your parents require around-the-clock medical care, need help with basic tasks (such as feeding themselves), or simply benefit from aids like [Phonak hearing aids](https://harmonyhearing.com.au/brand/phonak/), professional care in the right environment can often be a great decision. Exploring local [aged care homes](https://www.maacg.com.au/residential-aged-care "aged care homes") can provide your parents with professional support, social engagement, and specialised care, ensuring their needs are met even when you’re busy with childcare or work commitments. Many [aged care homes](https://www.estiahealth.com.au/) strive to create a positive environment and often feature enrichment experiences for residents that range from games to cooking, crafts, and art. Routine events and activities can also help keep boredom at bay, while philosophies such as fresh food plans will further contribute to a healthy lifestyle. ## **You can’t pour from an empty cup** Self-care can feel nearly impossible for mums who are tasked with caring for ageing parents in addition to their own children. However, it’s important to remember that you can’t properly care for others without having first taken care of your own needs. This is crucial in the prevention of burnout and will enable you to care for everyone to the best of your ability. “Since the pandemic, we’ve seen an increase in the sense of pressure that parents feel to be all things to everyone all the time,” says psychologist Adam Borland, PsyD, who goes on to share that this can lead to [chronic emotional and physical fatigue](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/realistic-ways-to-practice-self-care-as-a-parent). To avoid burnout, a plan for self-care is a must. Through the creation of dedicated time for a hobby or activity that you enjoy, you can effectively take a much-needed break from care duties. To start out, it’s noted that even 15, 10, or even just five minutes a day spent on something that makes you feel less stressed can help get you used to the prioritisation of self-care on a regular basis. The Cleveland Clinic identifies several ways to practice self-care as a parent, from exercise to a new hobby or even time spent with friends. As a parent with ageing parents, it can be incredibly difficult to find the right balance between meeting everyone’s needs in addition to your own. While strategies such as a shared calendar can help families who live together, time made for self-care is crucial in order to provide optimal care. In some cases, however, the consideration of an aged care home can be the right choice, especially for mums who wish to provide their parents with the best environment possible as they age. ## To Summarise Caring for Ageing Parents and Children Balancing the care of your children and ageing parents is no small feat, but it’s important to remember you don’t have to do it all alone. By establishing a solid routine, fostering a strong support network, and prioritising self-care, you can create a more manageable and fulfilling dynamic for your family. In some cases, professional care for ageing parents may be the best choice to ensure their well-being and allow you to focus on your own needs. Remember, taking care of yourself is essential—not just for you, but for everyone who depends on you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-truth-about-caring-for-ageing-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-truth-about-caring-for-ageing-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [The Ultimate Mum's Guide to Modern Healthcare Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-modern-healthcare-essentials/) **Published:** April 4, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Healthcare today is nothing like it used to be. Gone are the long waits, outdated magazines, and rearranging your day around a single appointment. Technology and smarter systems have transformed how we access care, manage skin concerns, and ensure medications stay safe before they reach us. Understanding this ecosystem helps you care for yourself and your family proactively. ## **Virtual Healthcare Is Changing the Game** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Seeing a doctor used to eat up half a day. Travel, waiting rooms, and the appointment itself were a hassle. [Telehealth](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telehealth "Telehealth") has changed all that. Virtual consultations cover general check-ups, prescription renewals, mental health support, and even specialist referrals, all from home. Conditions assessed remotely range from rashes and recurring infections to chronic disease management. Telehealth isn’t replacing in-person care—it just makes the first step quicker and easier. For parents, shift workers, or those outside major cities, flexibility is everything. Skin concerns often start here. A telehealth consultation can flag moles, spots, or rashes, then guide you to an in-person specialist if needed. This speeds up care and reduces guesswork. ## Skin Health Deserves More Attention Your skin is your largest organ, yet many of us only focus on daily skincare. Changes in moles, growths, or textures deserve professional attention. Regular skin checks should be as routine as dental exams, eye exams, or [hearing screenings and tests](https://harmonyhearing.com.au/hearing-test/). Not all skin concerns are urgent. Cosmetic mole removal, for example, can address issues that are physically or aesthetically bothersome. Procedures are quick, performed by trained professionals, and recovery is simple. Telehealth can start the process by providing guidance and helping book targeted appointments. Addressing skin concerns early, whether medical or cosmetic, protects health and boosts confidence. The modern system makes this easier than ever. ## The Invisible Chain That Keeps Treatments Safe ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Have you ever thought about what happens to medications and vaccines before they reach you? Temperature control is key. Vaccines, insulin, prescription medications, and skin treatment products must be stored within precise temperature ranges. Even brief deviations can compromise effectiveness. Specialised medical fridges maintain consistent temperatures, feature digital monitoring, and alert staff if conditions shift. Unlike home fridges, these units are essential for safe care. When a telehealth doctor prescribes a medication, the pharmacy relies on this equipment to keep it viable. Skin clinics store topical treatments in temperature-controlled environments. This cold chain is critical to safe [healthcare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-we-access-healthcare-is-changing/). Knowing these systems exist gives confidence. The vaccine your child receives, or medication from your virtual consult, has been safely stored from start to finish. Proper storage is one of the most important links in the healthcare chain. ## How Healthcare Elements Work Together Modern healthcare works best when services connect seamlessly. Notice a changing mole? Book a telehealth consult. Being able to[ access fast telehealth services across Australia](https://hola.health/) means no more putting off that appointment because the timing doesn’t work. The doctor assesses it virtually and refers you to a specialist. The specialist examines it in person and may suggest cosmetic removal. Treatments use properly stored products, and you leave reassured. Telehealth provides fast access. Clinics provide expert care. Storage systems ensure safety. Understanding this interconnected approach helps you navigate the system efficiently. ## Taking Control of Your Health Being proactive doesn’t require a major lifestyle overhaul. Understanding what’s available and how the system works is the first step. Telehealth removes time barriers. Accessible skin treatments remove hesitation. Proper storage removes safety concerns. Together, these elements create a healthcare experience that’s faster, safer, and more convenient. Notice a health issue? Don’t put it off. The tools and systems are in place to help you act confidently. Your health is worth it. ## Professional Skin Care and Cosmetic Solutions For moles, blemishes, or minor skin concerns, professional options like cosmetic mole removal provide effective solutions. Using trained clinicians ensures safety, proper care, and minimal downtime. You can explore these treatments through clinics after a telehealth assessment, keeping the process seamless. ## Keeping Medications Safe at Home and Clinics ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-1.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Specialised storage equipment protects the integrity of medications and vaccines. Medical fridges are calibrated to maintain exact temperatures, monitor conditions digitally, and alert staff if an issue arises. Whether it’s insulin for diabetes or products used in skin treatments, proper storage ensures effectiveness from production to the patient. Pharmacies and skin clinics rely on [medical fridges](https://www.safetysector.com.au/safety-bollard/) to maintain safety standards and comply with Australian regulations. This behind-the-scenes system is critical for safe healthcare delivery. ## Making Health Care Fit Your Life The goal of modern healthcare is accessibility and efficiency. Virtual consultations, easy access to specialist advice, cosmetic solutions, and robust storage systems remove common barriers. Telehealth means you can get answers without rearranging your schedule. Cosmetic skin treatments address concerns that might otherwise be ignored. Reliable medical storage ensures every product you receive is safe. Together, these elements let you take control of your health without stress. ## Why Awareness Matters Understanding how healthcare works helps you act confidently. Knowing telehealth options, professional treatment choices, and proper medication storage empowers you to make proactive decisions. It’s about removing obstacles and simplifying care. Start small: book a telehealth consultation, schedule a skin check, or learn about safe storage. Each step adds up. The modern healthcare ecosystem exists to support you, making care safer, faster, and more convenient. ## Final Thoughts Healthcare isn’t just about doctors and prescriptions. It’s a connected system of telehealth access, professional treatments, and behind-the-scenes safety measures that work together. Awareness gives you control, confidence, and peace of mind. By understanding these modern essentials, you can proactively care for yourself and your family. The tools are in place—now it’s up to you to take the first step and make your health a priority. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-modern-healthcare-essentials/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-modern-healthcare-essentials/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [How To Choose A Home Builder You Can Trust](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-home-builder-you-can-trust/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Launching a home is one of the biggest and most emotional steps you’ll ever take, especially when you’re doing it solo. As a single mum, I remember sitting at my kitchen table after the kids were asleep, juggling budgets, Pinterest boards, and way too many tabs open for builders. It’s exciting, yes, but also a little terrifying. You’re not just building walls and a roof, you’re building a future for your family. That’s why choosing the right home builder is so much more than comparing prices or brochures. It’s about trust. You want someone who listens, respects your needs, and shows up when they say they will. In this article, we’ll explore the key things to look for when picking a builder, so you can move forward with confidence, not second-guess. Because at the end of the day, your home’s foundation starts with the people who help build it. ## **Research and Reputation** Doing your homework is the first real step toward finding [home renovation builders](https://www.venaso.com.au/ "home renovation builders") you can actually rely on—and work with without losing sleep. Start by sussing out their reputation. What are other people saying? Real stories from past clients, online reviews, and even a good old-fashioned Google search can give you a pretty clear picture of what they’re like to deal with. Are they easy to communicate with? Do they stick to timelines? Do they fix problems or just pass the buck? Awards and industry certifications are more than a nice bonus; they’re a hallmark of [award winning home builders](https://www.johnmunrobuilder.com.au/ "award winning home builders") who demonstrate consistent quality, craftsmanship, and integrity in every project. But honestly, word-of-mouth and lived experience speak volumes. Suppose you can chat to someone who’s worked with them before, even better. At the end of the day, you want someone who’ll treat your home like it’s their own. ## **Experience and Expertise** A builder’s skill and experience in the field are the main points for you to consider. A seasoned builder like [Keir Constructions](https://www.keirconstructions.com.au/) is most likely to have faced various problems that have come up on previous projects; hence, they are better prepared to handle any issues that may arise. The number of years the builder has been in business, and the kinds of homes they have made, whether a family residence or a [newly built investment property](https://venasobali.com.au/), are certain things that one should inquire about. It is also beneficial to inquire about their specialisations, as some [Perth’s best home builders](https://homegroup.com.au/perth) excel in specific architectural styles or construction methods. ## **Financial Stability** ![home builder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-pixabay-534220-1154x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-534220 - Beanstalk Mums") Money stuff isn’t the most exciting part of choosing a builder, but it’s honestly one of the most important, and one that people often overlook. A builder with solid financial footing is much more likely to finish the job on time and do it properly, without cutting corners because they’ve run out of cash. It’s totally okay to ask about their business history. Have they had any financial hiccups like bankruptcies or legal dramas? Don’t be shy—it’s your future home on the line. It’s also worth checking if they’re insured and bonded. That might sound a bit technical, but basically, it means you’re covered if something goes pear-shaped. You want peace of mind knowing your builder won’t disappear mid-project or leave you stuck with unexpected costs. Asking a few awkward questions now can save a whole lot of stress (and money) later on. ## **Communication and Transparency** Effective communication is the key to any successful partnership. An honest builder should be prepared to give answers to questions, give regular reports, and stick to lines of communication, all of which could be established during the building process. Price transparency, timelines, and possible difficulties are the most important parts of the building process. You should have no problem whatsoever with sharing your thoughts and issues with the builder, as this will make the construction process a lot easier and the result more satisfying. ## **Quality of Work and Materials** First, a builder’s demonstration of his aptitude is quite important. The [future homeowners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-guide-to-new-homeownership-opportunities-for-single-mums/) are supposed to request pictures of a set of sample homes that were the builder’s completed projects, and consequently, talk to previous clients if it is possible. Touring model homes or looking at a strip of houses under construction can let you appreciate one’s eye for detail and involvement in the project. It is furthermore of great concern to find out about the materials involved in production and also to study the builder’s quality control guidelines to make sure the finished home lives up to high standards. ## **Customisation and Flexibility** Every individual is not the same. Each one’s preferences and necessities are different. Thus, a good builder must agree to the demand of customisation within limits. While some builders provide premade plans, they should be open to the idea of parameter alterations to meet the particular needs of an individual. The capacity to find the homeowner’s preferences and include personalised features in their work is a key characteristic of a builder. Many homeowners planning upgrades, such as [home extensions](https://www.supagroup.com.au/), also prioritise finding builders with a strong reputation for reliability and transparent communication. Similarly, customisation isn’t limited to homes alone. Outdoor structures like sheds also benefit from tailored designs, whether for storage, workshops, or agricultural use. Looking at providers such as [reliable shed builders in Toowoomba](https://www.stockmansheds.com.au/) highlights how flexibility and practical design help bring practical, tailored ideas to life. ![home builder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-pixabay-209266-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-209266 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Warranties and After-Sales Service** A responsible builder backs his work. Asking about written warranties and samples of after-sales service is mandatory. A whole structure warranty that covers all the structural parts, the systems, as well as the craftsmanship, can be a great relief to the homeowner. Furthermore, the fact that the builder is open to solving the problems, which may result in the execution of his project, speaks much about his commitment to customer satisfaction. ## **Legal Compliance and Permits** Making it clear to the builder that they need to have complied with all legal requirements is our first action. The builder shall ensure that they are licensed, registered, and that all the local building codes and regulations are obeyed. Moreover, he will manage all the required permits and inspections and hence will inform the homeowner about every part of the process. ## **Conclusion**: **How To Choose A Home Builder You Can Trust** Choosing the right home builder is one of those big life decisions you really want to get right. When I started the process as a single mum, I was overwhelmed. There’s a lot to think about: Can I trust them? Do they actually listen? Will they go MIA halfway through the build? It’s not just about glossy brochures or slick websites. You want a builder who’s honest, experienced, financially stable, easy to talk to, and actually delivers what they promise. Good communication, quality work, fair warranties, and sticking to the law should be the bare minimum. Flexibility is also a huge bonus, especially when life throws you curveballs mid-project. A dream home doesn’t just magically appear; it’s built by people who care about doing the job right. So, take your time, ask the hard questions, and don’t settle for anyone who gives you that gut feeling to run. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-home-builder-you-can-trust/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-home-builder-you-can-trust/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Property --- ### [11 Simple Self-Care Habits For Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/self-care-habits-for-kids/) **Published:** September 30, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Free self-care habits for kids, from a boring bedtime to a calm kit that moves between homes, sorted by age. Pick your first habit & start it tonight. **Content:** **Teaching your kids to look after themselves can feel like one more job on a list that’s already too long. I’ve been the mum reading about mindfulness jars at 11pm while the lunchboxes sat unpacked on the bench. So here’s the short version. Self-care habits for kids are small, free routines that help them rest, refuel and settle big feelings. The ones that do the most work are a steady bedtime, water, time outside, a snack they choose and a few calm-down tools. You don’t need all 11. Pick one, tie it to something you already do, and let it settle before you add the next.** Everything here is free. This isn’t a guide to paid classes, apps or payments, and it won’t help you work out whether your child has anxiety. It’s about habits that still work on a tired Tuesday in a one-parent house. **Quick Takeaways** - **Sleep does the most work.** Kids aged 5 to 13 need 9 to 11 hours a night, and teens aged 14 to 17 need 8 to 10, according to Australian guidelines. - **Screens have a daily limit.** For kids aged 5 to 17, it’s 2 hours of recreational screen time, and schoolwork doesn’t count. - **One habit beats eleven.** Tie a single habit to something that already happens, like brushing teeth, and add more once it sticks. - **Free help is there 24/7.** Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) supports young people aged 5 to 25, and their parents too. Good to knowThis article provides general guidance only. For concerns specific to your child’s health, development, or legal situation, please consult a qualified professional. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ![Kids running on a local park oval after school, an everyday self-care habit for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2-kids-daily-outdoor-play-park-oval-1192x800.webp "2-kids-daily-outdoor-play-park-oval - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****What Are Self-Care Habits for Kids?**** Self-care habits for kids are small, repeatable routines that help children look after their bodies and feelings on their own. They cover the basics, like sleep, water, food, movement and hygiene, plus simple tools for calming down. The goal is for kids to notice what they need and act on it, with a little less help from you each year. Self-care for kids is a skill, a bit like tying shoelaces, and it takes a lot of practice with you close by. Bubble baths are optional. Kids who can do small things for themselves often feel more capable too. That’s why [daily self-worth habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/build-selfworth-in-kids-with-daily-habits/) sit so well alongside this list. ## ****Why Do Kids Need Self-Care More When Life Changes?**** Kids lean hardest on routine when everything else is moving. A separation, a new house or a new school can shake a child’s sense of what comes next. Small habits give them a few things they can still control. I saw it with mine after we split. The meltdowns looked like they were about toast. Really, they were about not knowing which house they’d sleep at on Thursday. Big changes can bring on [separation anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/effective-ways-to-ease-separation-anxiety-in-children/), clinginess or trouble sleeping. Self-care habits won’t undo the change. They give your child a few steady points in the day that stay the same no matter what. And if your own tank is low, that’s not a personal failing. Solo parenting often means one income, one set of hands and very little spare time. That’s a system problem, and it isn’t yours to fix tonight. Every habit below was picked because it costs nothing. ## ******Everyday Self-Care Habits for Kids****** The everyday habits are the boring ones, and that’s why they work. Sleep, water, food, movement, hygiene and a screen-free wind-down do most of the heavy lifting. ### ********1. Keep Bedtime Boring******** This is the one to start with. The [Australian 24-hour movement guidelines](https://www.health.gov.au/topics/physical-activity-and-exercise/physical-activity-and-exercise-guidelines-for-all-australians/recommendations-for-children-and-young-people-5-to-17-years) recommend 9 to 11 hours of sleep a night for kids aged 5 to 13. For a 7-year-old who wakes at 7am, that means asleep by 10pm at the very latest, and closer to 8pm is better. Keep the same order every night, like bath, teeth, book, lights. Stick a picture chart on their door so they can tick off each step. That way they’re running the routine, and you’re not the bedtime police. ### **********2. Let Them Fill Their Own Water Bottle********** A lot of 4pm grumpiness is thirst or hunger in disguise. Put a jug and a cup at their height, or keep a named bottle in the fridge door. Filling it themselves is a tiny job. It teaches them to notice a body signal and do something about it, which is self-care in its simplest form. ### **********3. Get Outside and Move Every Day********** The same guidelines suggest at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous activity a day for kids aged 5 to 17. It doesn’t have to happen in one go, so three 20-minute bursts count. In our house that’s the walk to school, a run around the oval after pick-up and a kitchen dance while the pasta boils. A busy afternoon outside also tends to make bedtime easier. ### **************4. Let Them Pick the Snack************** Hungry kids melt down faster. Offer two healthy options and let your child choose, so they get a say without a fight. A snack box on a low fridge shelf works well, stocked with cheese, cut fruit or crackers. The same [cheap lunchbox fillers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-and-healthy-lunchbox-fillers-for-kids/) you pack for school double as after-school snacks. ### ****************5. Hand Over the Toothbrush**************** Hygiene is the self-care kids can see. Brushing teeth, washing hands and a quick shower all say “I look after my body.” Younger kids still need you to finish the job on their teeth, so let them go first and do a quick check after. Older kids can run their own shower with a timer. ### ******************6. Wind Down Without Screens****************** Australian guidelines cap recreational screen time at 2 hours a day for kids aged 5 to 17, and schoolwork doesn’t count. In plain terms, that’s roughly one movie. You don’t have to ban screens to stay under it (the Friday movie night can stay). Park devices outside the bedroom and swap in a book or audiobook for the last half hour. I’ll be honest, this is the habit I slip on most. A charging spot in the kitchen helped more than any rule did. ![Child choosing a snack from a low fridge shelf, a simple self-care habit for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3-kids-self-care-snack-fridge-shelf-1192x800.webp "3-kids-self-care-snack-fridge-shelf - Beanstalk Mums") ## ******Calm-Down Habits for Big Feelings****** These are the tools for the moment it all goes wrong. Practise them when your child is calm, because nobody learns belly breathing in the middle of a meltdown. ### ******7. Belly Breathing That Fits in a Pocket****** Ask your child to lie down with a soft toy on their tummy. They breathe in slowly to lift the toy, then breathe out to let it sink. Five slow breaths is plenty. Older kids can count four in and four out on their fingers. It works in the car, at the dentist and at 2am. ### ******8. Name the Feeling Out Loud****** Putting a word to a feeling often makes it less overwhelming. Start by naming it for them, like “You look really cross that your sister got the blue cup.” Over time, they’ll start doing it themselves. A feelings chart on the fridge gives little ones words they don’t have yet. ### ********9. Draw It, Scribble It or Write It******** Some kids can’t talk about a feeling but can draw it. Keep paper and crayons where they can reach them without asking. Tweens and teens might prefer a notes app or a journal they know you won’t read. Your job is to leave it alone, which is harder than it sounds. ### **********10. A Calm Spot (and a Kit That Travels)********** A calm spot is a place your child chooses to go when they need to settle. It isn’t a punishment, and they can leave when they’re ready. A beanbag, a blanket and something to squeeze is plenty. Having a set place helps a lot of kids [stay calm when stressed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-calm-if-feel-stressed/), because the decision is already made. For kids who move between homes, a small calm kit in a zip bag helps. A squishy ball, a mini colouring book and a favourite photo will do, and it goes wherever they go. ### ************11. Know Who to Tell************ The last habit is knowing when to ask for help. Help your child name three safe adults they can talk to, like you, a teacher and an aunty or family friend. It’s also worth making sure older kids know about [Kids Helpline](https://www.kidshelpline.com.au/). It offers free, private counselling for young people aged 5 to 25, any time, on 1800 55 1800. ## ************Self-Care Habits by Age************ Self-care looks different at 3, 9 and 15. Match the habit to the stage, and expect to do a little less of it for them each year. ### **************What Can Toddlers and Preschoolers Do?************** Little ones learn by copying you. With help, they can wash their hands, choose between two snacks and do big balloon breaths. The guidelines suggest 10 to 13 hours of sleep for 3 to 5-year-olds. They also suggest at least 3 hours of active play a day, with an hour of that being energetic. For 2 to 5-year-olds, the screen time guideline is 1 hour a day or less. ### ****************What Can Primary School Kids Manage?**************** This is the sweet spot for building habits. Many 6 to 11-year-olds can follow a picture chart for bedtime and pack part of their lunch. They can also fill their own water bottle and use a calm spot without being sent there. Give them the job, then try not to fix how they do it. ### ******************What Do Tweens and Teens Need?****************** Teens need more privacy and more say. Sleep is the big one, with 8 to 10 hours recommended for 14 to 17-year-olds, and it’s often the first thing to slide. Frame it as their choice rather than your rule. A phone that charges outside the bedroom and a friend they can text on a rough day both count as self-care at this age. Mums of teen daughters might like these ideas for building [teen girl self-love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teen-girl-self-love/) too. ![Calm kit with a squishy ball and mini colouring book packed into a school bag for kids' self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/4-calm-kit-for-kids-two-homes.webp "4-calm-kit-for-kids-two-homes - Beanstalk Mums") ## ******How Do You Keep It Going Across Two Homes?****** Keep your house steady and let the other house be the other house. Kids can cope with different rules in each home, as long as each one is clear and consistent. If you and your co-parent get along, agree on a few shared words, like what you call the calm spot or the bedtime order. When you don’t, skip that step. You can only run the routines under your roof, and that’s enough. Handover days are often the wobbliest. Kids settle more [happily between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) when the changeover is predictable, so keep the first hour back the same each time. A snack, a shower, then quiet time works for us. The calm kit from habit 10 goes in the bag. Where contact with your ex isn’t safe, you don’t need to coordinate anything. Your home can be the steady one. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is there 24/7 if you want to talk things through. ## ******Does Your Own Self-Care Count?****** Yes, and it might be the habit your kids learn most from. The Raising Children Network notes that [looking after yourself](https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/looking-after-yourself/parenting/looking-after-yourself) is good for your kids as well as you. I used to think modelling self-care meant looking calm all the time. Actually, that’s not quite right. What my kids learnt from was seeing me lose it over a spilt drink. Then they’d hear me say “I need five minutes on the back step,” and watch me come back calmer. You’ll see “just model self-care” everywhere. It’s good advice, but it skips a step, because it’s hard to model rest when you haven’t had any. Start small, with a cup of tea sitting down or ten minutes outside after dinner. On the harder days, your state’s parenting helpline offers free advice. Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) is there for you too. ## ******When Is It More Than a Bad Day?****** If changes in your child’s sleep, eating, mood or behaviour don’t settle, it’s time to get some support. The same goes if those changes start getting in the way of school and friendships. Everyday habits help with everyday stress. They aren’t a treatment for anxiety or depression, and they’re not meant to be. Common signs of [stress in children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/) include tummy aches with no clear cause, pulling away from friends and new trouble sleeping. Your GP is a good first stop. Kids Helpline also talks with parents, and headspace offers free support for young people aged 12 to 25 on 1800 650 890. Call 000 if your child is in danger. ![Single mum and two kids at the kitchen bench after school, practising simple self-care habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/5-self-care-habits-for-kids-kitchen-after-school.webp "5-self-care-habits-for-kids-kitchen-after-school - Beanstalk Mums") ## ******Start With One Habit This Week****** Treat these 11 habits as a menu you pick from. The internet loves a full routine. Real life doesn’t, and one habit that sticks will do more than eleven you try for a week. My pick would be the boring bedtime, because everything else is easier after a full night’s sleep. Once that feels normal, add the water bottle, then a calm spot. You know your kids better than any list does, and you’ll be the one who notices when a habit clicks. Small self-care habits for kids, done on most days, are how they learn to look after themselves. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are some simple self-care habits for kids?** A steady bedtime, water they pour themselves, daily time outside, a snack they choose and a few calm-down tools like belly breathing are a good start. Most cost nothing and fit into routines you already have. **How much sleep do kids need each night in Australia?** Australian guidelines recommend 9 to 11 hours a night for children aged 5 to 13 and 8 to 10 hours for teens aged 14 to 17. Preschoolers aged 3 to 5 need 10 to 13 hours, and some still nap. **How much screen time is okay for kids?** The guideline for kids aged 5 to 17 is no more than 2 hours of recreational screen time a day, not counting schoolwork. For children aged 2 to 5, it’s no more than 1 hour a day. **At what age can kids start learning self-care habits?** Toddlers can start by washing hands with help and copying your slow breathing. By primary school, many kids can run parts of their own bedtime routine with a picture chart. **Do self-care habits for kids help after a separation?** They can, because predictable habits give kids something steady when homes and routines change. A same-every-night bedtime and a calm kit that travels between houses are two easy places to start. **When should I worry about my child’s stress?** Talk to your GP if changes in sleep, eating, mood or behaviour don’t settle or start affecting school and friendships. Kids Helpline offers free 24/7 counselling on 1800 55 1800 for young people aged 5 to 25 and their parents. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/self-care-habits-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/self-care-habits-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Affordable and Timeless Interior Design That Shape Our Space](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/) **Published:** November 28, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As the world continues to evolve, [home decor](https://thefurnituregallery.com.au/) trends also change quickly. From bold colours and natural textures to lighting and tech-integrated spaces, there are various exciting interior design trends sure to make your home look stylish and modern. Years ago, most people would like to design their homes once every 20 years. But now, different styles are progressing rapidly, and it seems like it’s time for a refresh every three or four years. It does not mean we will start from scratch every time. New interior design trends emerge that add to your existing decor while creating a comfortable and aesthetically pleasing space. ### Timeless Interior Designs: Table of Contents - Bold Colours - Natural Materials and Décor - 1970s Influences - Hampton Style Furniture - Maximise Natural Light - Tech-Integrated Spaces - Mixed Materials - Conclusion ***Further reading: [4 Latest living room furniture trends to style your home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/living-room-furniture-trends/)*** ## Bold Colours in Interior Design Bright, bold colours in home decor are making a big comeback this year. From deep jewel tones to vibrant neons, these colours are more friendly to the human eye while adding a fun and energetic feel to any space. Whether it’s an accent wall or a piece of furniture, adding these colours is a great way to make an aesthetic statement and give a unique and special touch to your space. Moreover, they also add a sense of coziness to a room. ## Natural Materials and Décor Natural Materials have been gaining popularity in recent years, and they’re set to continue trending in 2023. From woven textiles to natural wood and stone, these materials bring warmth and a sense of comfort to a space. For homeowners looking to bring more natural texture into their interiors, [wood panelling walls](https://luxpanels.com.au/) can add warmth and visual depth while creating a distinctive feature within the space. To bring a natural look to your home, place a piece of furniture crafted from light or mid-toned woods and accent your spaces with natural rugs crafted in nubby wool, jute, or textured cotton to add warmth and texture. Complement these elements with [landscape artwork](https://artbymaudsch.com/collections/landscape), which beautifully reflects the serene and grounding qualities of nature. And, in the kitchen, stone and marble countertops add an earthy touch. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-heyho-6587898-1-1129x800.jpg "Pexels-heyho-6587898 - Beanstalk Mums") If you’ve been scrolling for inspiration for an [NYC kitchen remodel](https://nycrenovation.com/services/kitchen-remodeling-nyc/), you’ll notice the natural aesthetic works just as well in Aussie homes. The blend of warm timbers, earthy textures, and simple, functional design feels right at home in our coastal and suburban spaces. Think open shelves, soft neutral palettes, and handcrafted details that bring a relaxed, lived-in feel. It’s a style that makes the kitchen inviting, practical, and beautifully connected to the natural environment. ## 1970s Influences in interior design 1970s aesthetic is coming back in full force, and this era is apparent in everything from interior colour palettes to furniture and décor. Retro-style furniture pieces, bright colours, and warm wood tones will all be making a comeback. Bohemian home decor is also STILL having a moment. Now homeowners are bringing in ’70s textures with wicker back chairs around our dining tables and placing storage baskets woven with twine in their kitchens and bathrooms. This style evokes the fun, sensual, and downright cool vibe that defined the decade. ## Hampton Style Furniture In contrast to the 1970s-inspired style, many designers use more Hamptons elements in room decor. [Hamptons furniture](https://thefurnituregallery.com.au/collections/hamptons-collection) pieces, classic artwork, and antique decor items are becoming a popular trend for 2023. Incorporating Hamptons-style furniture in your home decor will invite relaxation and create a complete and cohesive look for socialisation. ## Maximise Natural Light Of course, lighting plays a pivotal role in setting the tone of any space. It is a way to really express your personality and solidify your design style. The right lighting design can make all the difference. Natural light remains a central focus for [architects and designers](https://crusharchitecture.com.au/ "architects and designers"), shaping the way contemporary spaces balance aesthetics, comfort, and sustainability. It gives a sophisticated look in any room while helping our health and wellness. Take full advantage of natural light; you can leave windows without treatments or choose slightly transparent curtains. ![interior design](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-pixabay-271795-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-271795 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Tech-Integrated Spaces Technology is becoming increasingly integrated into our lives, which is also valid for home decor. Technology is becoming an important aspect of home design, from bright lighting and temperature control to voice-activated assistants and integrated home entertainment systems. By incorporating the latest advancements into your home decor, you can create a more efficient and convenient living space. ## Mixed Materials Combining different materials is a great way to add depth and interest to a space. In 2023, we’ll see a trend of mixing materials like metal, glass, and natural wood to create a unique and dynamic look. This can include pairing a wooden seat with a metal frame or incorporating glass shelves into a wood-panelled wall. This trend is a great way to add visual interest and character to your home. ## Conclusion: Interior Design Trends That Will Shape Our Space It’s one thing to admire tomorrow’s interior design trends and another to incorporate them in a way that makes sense. Luckily, by keeping these five trends in mind, you can create a home that is not only stylish but also functional and sustainable. Whether you choose to incorporate one or all of these, these 2026 trends help you create a timeless interior. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Courses to be a registered nurse in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/studying-to-be-a-nurse/) **Published:** July 5, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you are considering a career in a caregiving role, understanding the courses to be a registered nurse is a good starting point for your research. By pursuing a comprehensive nursing education, you’ll gain a solid foundation in medical sciences, patient care, clinical practice, and evidence-based nursing interventions. These programs are structured to develop your critical thinking abilities, enhance problem-solving skills, and foster your capacity for compassionate, patient-centred care. In this article, we take you through the general steps to pursue a career as a registered nurse in Australia. ## Education First formal step towards becoming a nurse is applying and enrolling in a program to study nursing. A Bachelor of Nursing degree, which will most likely take three to four years to finish, will give you a solid foundation and qualification to be certified and licensed as a nurse. Diploma programs are a great option if you are looking for something that will require less time to finish but it will also offer less advancement and career opportunities for you. Check out all the courses to be a registered nurse that are available to you. ## Accreditation Make sure that the program and institution you choose is accredited and approved by the [Nursing and Midwifery Board of Australia (NMBA)](https://www.nursingmidwiferyboard.gov.au/). Just picture it, a bachelors degree combines theory and practical clinical experience to give you the important skills needed in working in emergency departments, operating theatres, hospices and other care and treatment facilities in a span of three to four years. You don’t want your effort and time completely gone to waste just because of accreditation issues. ## English Language Proficiency English proficiency is a crucial requirement in becoming a registered nurse. The Australian Nursing and Midwifery Accreditation Council (ANMAC) has set English proficiency standards for all applicants for accredited nursing and midwifery programs. Before being considered for admission to a Bachelor of Nursing program, you must complete a declaration confirming that they satisfy one of the following ANMAC assessment pathways: - English is your primary language – You have satisfactorily completed at least six years of primary and secondary education (including at least two years between years 7 and 12) in Australia, New Zealand, Republic of Ireland, South Africa, United Kingdom, Canada, or United States of America; OR - English is NOT your primary language – you have undertaken an accepted English Language Proficiency test not more than two years before taking up the degree for which you are applying; OR - You are an enrolled or registered nurse with current AHPRA registration – English language requirements will have been demonstrated already as part of your requirements as an enrolled or registered nurse 1. ## Accepted Proficiency Tests and Scores If you fall under category 2 and 3, you will have to keep and show evidence of completion of either the following accepted tests: - IELTS (academic module) with a minimum overall score of 7 and a minimum score of 7 in each of the four components (listening, reading, writing and speaking) - OET with a minimum score of B in each of the four components (listening, reading, writing and speaking) ## Clinical Placements As part of your training and education to become a nurse, you will be learning from experienced clinical instructors, use state-of-the-art technology and, hopefully, complete hundreds of hours (800 hours for bachelors, 400 hours for associates) of actual duty placements across different clinical settings. These placements shall be documented and to be provided as proof of skills and cases acquired in order for you to qualify for graduation and registration in the near future. Clinical placements may also have specific uniform requirements depending on the setting, from scrubs and appropriate footwear to accessories such as [scrub caps](https://www.drwoofapparel.com.au/collections/scrub-caps). ## Registration for courses to be a registered nurse Once you complete your course, you need to apply to the AHPRA to practice as a registered nurse. You’ll need to renew this registration annually. This is a process that you have to bear with as a new AHPRA registration applicant in order to help you and the profession ensure that quality care and standards are being maintained: - All new applicants need to submit their information at AHPRA’s online self-check - Upload to submit all your identity, qualification documents duly attested as per AHPRA guidelines - Pass the OSCE, which is a practical examination - Pay the registration fees As surreal as it may feel, after accomplishing these steps, you are already a registered nurse and officially in the position of providing care, comfort, and quality of life to both sick and healthy people. ## Continuing Professional Development Registered nurses will be required to participate in continuing professional development (CPD) activities to maintain registration. This is to sharpen your skills as a nurse and reinforce your professional discipline in continuous learning through relevant courses, [nursing communication](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-skills-nurse-leaders-must-possess/), conferences, workshops, and updates with the latest advancements in nursing. The NMBA’s terms and minimum requirements for CPD for enrolled and registered nurses are the following: - Participation in a minimum of 20 hours of CPD every year - One hour of active learning will qualify as one hour of CPD. It is your responsibility to calculate how many hours of active learning have taken place - The CPD must be relevant to the your area of practice - You must keep written documentation of CPD that provides proof of completion of the required minimum of 20 hours of CPD per year - Note: Your participation in mandatory skills acquisition may be counted as CPD if indicated ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/studying-to-be-a-nurse/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/studying-to-be-a-nurse/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** becoming a nurse, studying to become a nurse, nursing --- ### [Staggered Start to School: Is It Right for Your Child?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/staggered-start-to-school-is-it-right-for-your-child/) **Published:** September 28, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For most Aussie families and mums, the first day of Foundation, Prep, Kindy or Reception (depending on which state you’re in) is treated as a major milestone. You likely take a uniform photo on the front step, pack a large backpack, and drop your child off for a full day of structured lessons, new faces, and a new building, all before recess. A growing number of Australian schools, parents and early childhood experts are [questioning whether that all-in first day](https://theconversation.com/parents-delay-sending-kids-to-school-for-social-reasons-and-physical-size-its-not-about-academic-advantage-254076) is actually the best way to start your child’s education. The alternative isn’t complicated. It’s simply a slower start with shorter days, smaller groups, and time to feel steady before the full timetable kicks in. And there’s a decent stack of evidence suggesting that a gentler start doesn’t hold kids back academically. If anything, it may set them up for success better. ## **What a Full Day of “Big School” Actually Asks of** **Your Kiddo It’s easy to underestimate how much is packed into a single school day for your child who was in nappies just a few years ago. Following new routines, remembering a locker or a peg, sitting still through lessons, navigating a playground full of older kids, and reading social cues from new classmates happens all at once. None of that is about whether your child can count to twenty or write their name. It’s about their nervous systems that are still learning how to cope with a full day away from anything familiar. ![Mother hugs her child outdoors, the kid carrying a pink heart-pattern backpack near stairs by a school drop-off area/school entrance.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2.png "Staggered Start to School - Beanstalk Mums") Teachers who’ve spent years watching Foundation classes settle in [will often say](https://thesector.com.au/2026/01/28/supporting-school-readiness-practical-tips-from-the-early-years) [that readiness for school](https://thesector.com.au/2026/01/28/supporting-school-readiness-practical-tips-from-the-early-years) isn’t just an academic checklist. A kid can know their letters and numbers backwards and still find the emotional load of a long first day overwhelming. When that happens, the tears usually aren’t really about school itself. They’re about a nervous system trying to process too much, too fast. ## **Why Some Australian Schools Already Ease Kids In Gradually The encouraging part is that [some](https://www.bendigoadvertiser.com.au/story/8880022/greater-bendigo-schools-and-its-students-return-for-2025/) [Australian primary schools](https://www.bendigoadvertiser.com.au/story/8880022/greater-bendigo-schools-and-its-students-return-for-2025/) have already worked this out. It’s increasingly common for Foundation and Prep students to start with a staggered entry, sometimes arriving in small groups across a morning rather than all piling in with the rest of the school at once. Some schools run shortened days for the first week or two, finishing before lunch so little ones aren’t asked to sustain a full six hours straight out of the gate. Others hold one-on-one or small-group transition sessions with the teacher in the weeks before term starts, so a child’s first proper introduction to their classroom isn’t also their first day of full-time school. None of this is about lowering the bar, but more about sequencing things sensibly. A child who’s already met their teacher, found the toilets and worked out where the bag hooks are has far less to figure out on day one. That frees up mental and emotional bandwidth for the actual point of helping your child learn at school while enjoying it. If your kiddo’s school hasn’t mentioned a transition or orientation program, it may be worth asking. Most schools run something, even informally, and a five-minute conversation with their Foundation teacher can tell you a lot about what the first days will actually look like. ## **What the Data Says About Social-Emotional Readiness In plain terms, more Australian children are starting school without the social and emotional groundwork schools have traditionally assumed they’ll arrive with. That’s not a reason to panic, and it’s certainly not a reflection on your child or role as a mum. But it is a strong argument for treating the social and emotional side of a school transition as seriously as the academic one, rather than assuming kids will simply catch up once they’re in the classroom. This isn’t just a hunch backed by anecdotes. The Australian Early Development Census, a [national check-in on how children are tracking](https://www.education.gov.au/early-childhood/about/data-and-reports/australian-early-development-census) by the time they start school, has been tracking five domains of early development since 2009. These include physical health, social competence, emotional maturity, language and cognitive skills, and communication. The most recent results, from 2024, show developmental vulnerability rising across every single domain since 2021, with social competence and emotional maturity showing the sharpest increases on record. ![Two girls and a boy paint with brushes and watercolors at a bright classroom table while a smiling teacher oversees their activity.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3.png "Staggered Start to School - Beanstalk Mums") The two aren’t in competition either. A child who feels safe and settled is a child with the mental space to actually absorb what’s being taught. Rushing past the emotional groundwork to get to the “real” learning tends to backfire, because an anxious, overwhelmed child isn’t in much of a position to learn anything at all. ## **What’s Doing More Work Than You’d Think One of the simplest tools in a slower transition is something kids already do naturally. Unstructured, low-stakes play with other children gives your kiddo a way to build friendships and practise social skills without all the pressure of formal instruction. It’s also, as it turns out, doing something at a neurological level. Early childhood is a period of enormous brain growth, and [play has a measurable role](https://www.softplay.com/blog/how-play-reduces-stress-and-improves-mental-health-in-children/) in helping children process stress and build the emotional regulation skills they’ll lean on for the rest of school. That’s part of why orientation days that lean on play-based activities, rather than sitting kids down for formal lessons straight away, tend to work so well. A child who’s played with blocks or toys next to a future classmate has already done more bonding than a week of assigned seating ever could. ## **How to Support a Gentler Start at Home You don’t have to wait for the school to make the first weeks easier. Early childhood services such as StartingBlocks point out that being “school-ready” has [as much to do with emotional maturity](https://startingblocks.gov.au/resources/how-to-support-your-child-through-early-childhood-education-and-care/transition-to-school) and independence as it does with academics. A few things genuinely help in those first few weeks, such as: - Talking about school in a low-key, matter-of-fact way in the lead-up. Excitement is great, but too much hype can make the whole thing feel like a bigger deal than it needs to be. - Trying to arrange a playdate with a future classmate before term starts, even one. Walking into a classroom with a single familiar face can change everything for a nervous child. - Keeping goodbyes short and confident. Lingering, however well-intention-ed, tends to signal to your child that there’s something to worry about. - Protecting downtime in the first few weeks. Even a “successful” day at school can be very exhausting for your kid’s brain and body, so it’s worth easing off extracurricular activities until the new routine feels normal. - Staying in touch with the teacher. A quick chat at pick-up or a short email can tell you whether your kiddo is settling in the way it looks from the outside. ## **A Gentler Start, But A Stronger Foundation None of this is about keeping your kiddies swaddled or delaying the inevitable. School is coming, ready or not, and that’s exactly the point. A slower, more supported start doesn’t hold your child back from the curriculum. It gives them the emotional footing to actually take it in. For your young one, [feeling safe and known](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/love-for-a-child/) in a new environment isn’t a nice-to-have before the real learning starts. It is part of real learning, and it’s arguably the most important lesson of that first term. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/staggered-start-to-school-is-it-right-for-your-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/staggered-start-to-school-is-it-right-for-your-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [What benefits am I entitled to as a single mum?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/benefits-entitled-to-a-single-mum/) **Published:** September 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For single parents, day-to-day living can be tough. In addition to the stress of separation, there may be a significant reduction in household income. Because of this, people will often stay in an unhappy relationship for financial reasons. So it’s ok ask: **What am I entitled to as a single mum?** Knowing what you are eligible for as a single parent can make your life easier practically, emotionally and financially. In Australia, we are lucky to have a range of support services for single parents and some you may not even be aware of. Don’t let pride get in the way, as there is no shame in accepting help when you need it. So, what support services are available for single mums? ***Further reading: [15 Brilliant charities that help single mothers.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/charities-help-single-mothers/)*** ### Australian Government Payments Parenting isn’t easy, especially when you are flying solo. To make it easier, there are several Government benefits for eligible Australian single parents. These are dependent on your circumstances and income: ### Parenting Payment The Parenting Payment is for primary caregivers who meet the income and residency test. How much is the Single Parent Payment? The amount you receive may be reduced if you are working or receiving child support. Your youngest must be under 14 years old, or under 6 if you have a partner. Once your child reaches the age of 14 you may be eligible for [Newstart Allowance](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/services/centrelink/newstart-allowance). See the latest [changes to the Parenting Payment](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/centrelink/parenting-payment). ### Family Tax Benefit Part A and B The [Family Tax Benefit](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/centrelink/family-tax-benefit) is made up of Part A and Part B. These are separate from your parenting payment, and the amount you receive will depend on your household income. Part A is paid per child. Part B is paid per family. Even if you have a new partner, you still may be eligible for one or both of these payments. ### Child Care Subsidy This benefit is designed to help with the cost of childcare. The total [Child Care Subsidy](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/centrelink/child-care-subsidy/how-much-you-can-get) will depend on how much activity you do each week, as well as your income. Activity includes paid work, study, volunteering and self-employment. This is available for children under 13, provided they are not yet in high school. Any child care must be approved. ### Rent Assistance Paying for housing can be crippling, but you may be able to get some relief. [Centrelink provide housing assistance](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/enablers/how-much-rent-assistance-you-can-get/38861) for single mothers with low income to help reduce your accommodation costs. If it is time to start over, check with the housing authority in your state as you may be entitled to additional assistance. An interest-free loan to cover your bond and two weeks’ rent may be available, so this is definitely worth checking out. ## What else may I be able to claim as a single parent? But wait … there’s more! If you are a single mum, you may be entitled to: ![Assorted Australian banknotes (5, 10, 20, 50) spread out with a calculator on the side. - entitled to as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/In-article-images-2026-09-27t085401%20744.jpg "entitled to as a single mum - Beanstalk Mums") ### Child Support The Department of Human Services can assess, collect and distribute child support payments. If you have a good relationship with your ex, you may be able to collect the payments privately. Otherwise, it can all be taken care of for you. The Child Support Agency can make sure you are paid the right amount…at the right time. ### Centrepay If you are receiving Centrelink and are having trouble managing your finances, there is [Centrepay](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/enablers/about-centrepay/40431). This allows you to arrange regular instalments to be paid directly onto bills and expenses. The money will be taken out before you ever see it. ### Legal Aid For those sometimes-messy separations, people on low incomes are entitled to [Legal Aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/). You will have access to free or affordable legal advice. This may help with parenting arrangements, mediation, financial disputes and child contact issues. ### Women’s Legal Services For free general legal advice and support, women can call [Women’s Legal Services](http://www.wlsa.org.au/members). The contact details and services vary from state to state. This is a good starting point before investing in a lawyer. ### Pension and Concession Cards If you are receiving government assistance, you may be given a pension or concession card. Depending on where you are located, this can have a range of benefits including a reduction in the costs of: - Doctor’s visits - Prescriptions - Bus, train and tram tickets - Vehicle registration - Energy - School fees (school card) - Back to school subsidies (such as school books, uniform and transport) - Education supplement for adult studying Often companies will offer a discount for anyone with a pension or concession card. Even insurance companies have policies designed specifically for single parents. Everything from gym memberships to movie tickets could be discounted. If you are unsure, just ask! Energy bills can also come down through state upgrade rebates, which don’t need a concession card. Hot water is the big one: heat pump systems attract a state rebate in NSW that can cover most of the install cost. You can[ check what applies to your postcode](https://energyrebatecheck.com.au/nsw-hot-water-rebate). ### Dental Services Looking after your teeth can be costly, but most Australian children are entitled to some free dental care with the [Child Dental Benefit Schedule](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/medicare/child-dental-benefits-schedule). This requires a Medicare card, and you can check with your local dentist to determine whether you are eligible. For yourself, there is a public dental care system in each state which significantly reduces the cost of treatment. To access this, you will need a concession card. Be aware there may be a long waiting list. ## What benefits am I entitled to as a single mum? (CONT.) ### Crisis / Emergency Financial Assistance for Single Mothers Sometimes you just need some extra support, and there are organisations who can give you food, temporary accommodation and financial assistance. These include: - [Centrelink Crisis Payments](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/subjects/crisis-and-special-help) - [Foodbank](https://www.foodbank.org.au/) - [Mission Australia](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/) - [The Salvation Army](https://salvos.org.au) - [Anglicare](https://www.anglicare.org.au/what-we-offer/food-and-financial-assistance/) ### Back to Work If you need assistance getting back into the workforce, there are a range of Australian initiatives which can help you get back on your feet. Many states offer a range of free higher education courses which may be all you need to start a new career. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/benefits-entitled-to-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/benefits-entitled-to-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [7 Essential Online Skills Australian Mums Mastering in 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/online-skills-australian-mums-are-learning-to-stay-ahead/) **Published:** September 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Across Australia, a quiet shift has reshaped how parents pursue professional development. Many families now look for flexible, practical options that fit around busy routines such as school runs and evening routines. The change reflects a move away from rigid programs toward approachable, family-friendly ways to up-skill. Mums, in particular, have embraced online skills learning as a practical route that fits around school runs. It supports routines like bedtime and everything in between. By choosing flexible online options, families gain confidence and new opportunities together. Flexible digital education finally hit its stride once the pandemic pushed platforms to open up at scale, and the momentum has kept building since. What started as a stopgap has become the default way many parents study. The skills gaining ground span a surprisingly wide range. Language courses rank among the most popular choices. Demand for French tutors has climbed as mums look to sharpen conversational ability or support bilingual households. Beyond languages, the list stretches into digital marketing, design, finance, coding, project management, and wellness coaching. Each one offers something distinct, and you can learn online skills from your kitchen table at 9 pm. ## **Language Learning Through Online Tutoring Platforms Language skills, including online skills, sit at the top of the list for good reason. They unlock career mobility in multinational companies. They deepen cultural connections. For parents raising kids in more than one language, they give confidence to do it well. For Australian mums, picking up a second language also signals adaptability, a trait employers consistently value. French has emerged as an especially popular pick. Australia’s trade and cultural ties with French-speaking nations, combined with French serving as a global lingua franca in diplomacy and business, make it a strategic choice. **One-on-one tutoring platforms** connect learners with **[French tutors online](https://www.superprof.com.au/lessons/french/online/)** who are native speakers, so sessions happen at whatever hour suits a parent’s chaotic schedule. Early morning before the kids wake. Late evening after lights-out. Or squeezed into a lunch break while the toddler naps. Personalised pacing makes a real difference here. Unlike group classes that march ahead regardless, **private tutoring** lets you linger on tricky verb conjugations or sprint through vocabulary you already know. That flexibility removes the guilt of missing a session and keeps progress steady even during school holidays or sick days. Learning alongside your children turns homework time into a shared family project rather than a chore. ## **Digital Marketing and Social Media Management Plenty of Australian mums are building side hustles or stepping back into the workforce after parental leave, and **digital marketing** bridges the gap between time away and a competitive job market. Understanding how brands reach audiences online has quietly become a baseline expectation in marketing roles. The skill areas drawing the most interest include **content strategy**, paid advertising on platforms like Meta and Google, analytics interpretation, and community management. Online course platforms package each area into digestible modules. The barrier to entry stays low: most courses cost less than a weekly grocery shop and need nothing beyond a laptop. What makes this skill set so appealing is its direct path to income. **Freelance social media management** suits part-time schedules perfectly. A mum running Instagram accounts for two or three local businesses can generate meaningful revenue while staying present at home. Small-business owners also use these skills internally, saving thousands they might otherwise hand to agencies. The return on a few months of focused study compounds quickly. ![online skills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/In-article-images-2026-09-27t095254%20020.jpg "In-article images - 2026-09-27t095254 020 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Graphic Design and Visual Content Creation Visual literacy has shifted from a nice-to-have into a professional necessity. Businesses, community groups, and individual creators all compete for attention in feeds saturated with imagery. Knowing how to produce **polished visuals** gives anyone a tangible edge. **Canva**, an Australian-founded platform, has democratised design in a way traditional software never managed. Adobe Express offers another accessible entry point. Both tools let beginners create professional-grade social media posts, flyers, presentations, and brand kits without formal training. For mums wanting deeper expertise, short online courses in typography, colour theory, and layout principles round out that practical tool knowledge. The real-world applications stack up fast: - Designing product listings for an Etsy shop - Creating newsletters for a school P&C committee - Building a personal brand on LinkedIn or Instagram - Producing pitch decks for a freelance business - Formatting digital downloads to sell as passive income Each of these sits within easy reach once you grasp the **fundamentals**. Design skills also feel useful straight away, unlike some qualifications that gather dust before they ever pay off. ## **Bookkeeping and Financial Literacy Remote bookkeeping ranks among Australia’s most in-demand flexible roles, and getting qualified takes far less time than a traditional degree. Small businesses across the country need someone reliable to manage invoices, reconcile accounts, and keep BAS **lodgements** on track. Nationally recognised certifications built around **MYOB and Xero** give learners hands-on experience with the exact software Australian businesses use daily. Many of these programs run for six to twelve months at a self-paced clip, which makes them realistic for parents juggling family commitments. Some registered training organisations even bundle job-placement support into their packages. Beyond employability,[ **financial literacy**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/) reshapes how mums manage money at home. Understanding cash flow, budgeting frameworks, and basic investment principles translates directly into stronger household finances. The confidence that comes from reading a balance sheet or setting up a proper savings strategy carries into every corner of life. Set against a four-year accounting degree, the cost-to-benefit ratio of a bookkeeping certificate looks remarkably favourable. ## **Coding and Web Development Fundamentals Coding is the skill behind almost every product you use online, and learning even the basics opens up **tech careers**, freelance web development, and personal projects like building your own online store. You don’t need to master it to benefit. A foundational grasp of how websites and applications work goes a long way. Beginner-friendly options dominate the landscape. **Python** consistently appears in Australian job listings for its versatility, while HTML and CSS remain essential for anyone building or maintaining websites. WordPress development skills appeal to mums who want to freelance for small businesses needing affordable site management. The entry points vary: 1. Free platforms like freeCodeCamp and The Odin Project for structured self-study 2. Low-cost Udemy or Coursera courses with certificate options 3. Australian TAFE online programs for accredited qualifications 4. Coding bootcamps that compress months of learning into intensive weeks A persistent myth suggests you need a computer science degree to write code. That hasn’t been true for years. Many successful developers are self-taught or boot camp graduates, and what really matters is **consistent practice**. Mums who bring the same problem-solving mindset they apply to running a household often surprise themselves with how quickly the concepts click. ![online skills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/In-article-images-2026-09-27t095302%20203.jpg "In-article images - 2026-09-27t095302 203 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Project Management and Virtual Assistance Australia’s **remote workforce** has expanded significantly, and businesses need organised, detail-oriented people to keep distributed teams running smoothly. Virtual assistance and project management fill that demand perfectly. Online courses now teach **Agile basics**, Scrum fundamentals, and practical proficiency in platforms like Asana, Trello, Monday.com, and Notion. These methodologies sound corporate, yet the underlying principles (breaking large tasks into manageable steps, tracking deadlines, and communicating progress clearly) mirror what parents do on instinct. Managing a household calendar packed with school events, medical appointments, extracurriculars, and meal planning is project management in disguise. **Certification options** add professional credibility without demanding years of study. A Certified Associate in Project Management (CAPM) from PMI, or a short virtual assistant course from an Australian provider, can open doors within weeks. Many mums start with a single client, handling email management and scheduling, then expand into full project coordination as their portfolio grows. The hourly rates for experienced virtual assistants in Australia sit comfortably above minimum wage, and the work happens entirely from home. ## **Wellness Coaching and Online Fitness Certification Health and wellness coaching has surged as Australians pay closer attention to preventive well-being. The shift toward **online services**, accelerated over the past few years, created space for coaches who deliver sessions via video call, app-based programs, or hybrid models. **Nationally accredited certifications** in fitness and nutrition now run entirely online through registered training organisations. Certificate III and IV in Fitness, for instance, qualify graduates to work as personal trainers or group fitness instructors. Nutrition coaching credentials add another income stream. For mums already passionate about health, earning a qualification feels less like a career change and more like the obvious next move. The earning potential varies, but flexibility stays constant. A **wellness coach** can run morning sessions while kids are at school, host evening group classes online, or sell pre-recorded programs that generate passive revenue. Some combine coaching with the social media skills further up this list, building personal brands that attract clients organically. Others partner with local gyms or corporate wellness programs for steady contract work. Every skill covered here shares one thread that matters: each bends around family life instead of forcing family life to bend around it. Accessibility, realistic time-frames, and genuine earning potential make these seven areas worth serious consideration for any Australian mum ready to invest in herself. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/online-skills-australian-mums-are-learning-to-stay-ahead/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/online-skills-australian-mums-are-learning-to-stay-ahead/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [How Single Mums Can Move to Australia - For Our O/S Moms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-single-mums-can-move-to-australia-for-our-o-s-moms/) **Published:** September 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Deciding to move to Australia is a massive deal. Doing it as a single mum takes serious guts. You are the chief planner and the ultimate packer. You chase down mountains of international paperwork. You also act as the emotional anchor for your kids. You do all this while battling horrific jet lag. You still have to remember to pack a healthy school lunch in a brand new time zone. No one is there to tag in when you are completely exhausted. The good news? Plenty of solo mums survive this exact journey. They build wonderful lives down under. A smooth transition comes down to the gritty details. Generic relocation guides always skip the real-life issues. We wrote this guide specifically for you. We tackle the dreaded international custody consent paperwork. We show you how to manage the money gaps in your first few years. We explain the tight link between local schools and housing. Finally, we tell you exactly how to build a reliable support network from scratch. You can do this even if you land without knowing a single soul. ## **Step One: Sort Out Consent Before Anything Else This is the part single mums most often underestimate, and it can stop a visa in its tracks. If your children are under 18 and their other parent is not moving with you, Australia will usually want proof that the move has their blessing. The Department of Home Affairs uses Form 1229, which the non-accompanying parent (or anyone with parental responsibility) may need to sign to allow the children to be granted an Australian visa. Visa rules also say a child’s visa should not be granted while questions about custody or where the child will live remain unresolved. ![Move to Australia - Two people facing each other indoors, hands raised as they talk passionately, surrounded by plants.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Untitled-design-19.png "Move to Australia - Beanstalk Mums") [What if their dad will not sign](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/), or is not in the picture? You will typically need to show a court order giving you sole parental responsibility, or evidence of your genuine attempts to get consent. Get legal advice in your home country early, because court processes can take months. Two other things are worth knowing here. Australia is a signatory to the Hague Convention on international child abduction, so moving children overseas without the other parent’s consent or a court order can have serious legal consequences. And if you receive child support, check whether your home country has a reciprocal arrangement with Australia, as Australia has child support agreements with many countries that can help payments continue after you move. ## **Choosing a Visa as a Solo Parent As a single mum, you will be the main applicant, with your children included as dependants. The good news? Being single can actually work in your favour on a skilled visa. Under the points test for skilled independent and state nominated visas, you can claim 10 points if you are single. Applicants with partners only get those same points if their partner also meets skill and English requirements, so solo applicants are not at the disadvantage many people assume. Your main routes will usually be: **Employer sponsorship.** A job offer from an Australian employer can get you here on a temporary visa, with a pathway to permanent residency later. For single mums, this has a big advantage: you arrive with an income already sorted. **Skilled visas.** If your occupation is in demand, a points-tested permanent visa means you arrive as a permanent resident, which unlocks far more support (more on that below). **Family visas.** If you have close family in Australia, or an Australian partner, family pathways may be open to you. If you are already in Australia on a partner visa and your relationship has ended because of family violence, you may still be able to continue your permanent residency application under the family violence provisions. You do not have to stay in an unsafe relationship to keep your visa. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) offers confidential support, and a registered migration agent can explain your options. ## **The Money Gap Nobody Warns You About Here is the truth that catches many single mums out: arriving in Australia does not mean arriving into the safety net. Your visa type decides what support you can access, and even permanent residents often wait. **On a temporary visa**, most family payments are off the table. Several common temporary visas are not eligible for the Child Care Subsidy at all, which can make childcare eye-wateringly expensive when you are the only earner. **As a permanent resident**, things look better, but there are waiting periods: Child Care Subsidy has no waiting period for permanent residents, so it can help from day one. Family Tax Benefit Part A usually comes with a one-year wait for newly arrived residents, while Part B has no waiting period. Some income support payments, including Parenting Payment, can involve a waiting period of up to four years. The takeaway for single mums: plan to be financially self-sufficient for at least your first year, and ideally longer. Build a savings buffer before you leave, and if you are choosing between visas, weigh up how much earlier support a permanent visa could give you. Healthcare is another cost to plan for. Unless your home country has a reciprocal healthcare agreement with Australia, temporary visa holders generally need private health insurance, while permanent residents can enrol in Medicare. ## **Schools: Where Your Address Decides Everything Australian public schools are free for citizens and permanent residents, but not always for temporary visa holders. Fees depend on both your visa and your state. For example, children of Skills in Demand (subclass 482) visa holders do not pay tuition at Victorian government schools, although schools can charge smaller levies. In New South Wales, fees apply to most dependants of temporary residents, with some exemptions. Across the country, temporary visa families can face yearly fees of AUD 5,000 to AUD 15,000 per child in some states, so check the rules for your state and visa before you choose where to live. ![mum son school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Untitled-design-20.png "Move to Australia - Beanstalk Mums") The second thing to understand is catchment zones. Public schools generally take children who live within their zone, so your rental address decides your school. Many schools want proof of residency, and some expect to see a lease of at least twelve months. That means the classic advice to “find a house first, then a school” works best in reverse: pick the school zone you love, then house hunt inside it. A few more tips for solo mums: The Australian school year runs from late January or early February to mid-December, in four terms. Arriving just before Term 1 gives your kids the easiest start. Before and after school care, often called OSHC (outside school hours care), runs at most primary schools and can be a lifesaver when you work full time. Places fill up, so ask about availability when you enrol. School holiday programs run in most areas during term breaks. Book early, especially for the long summer holidays over December and January. ## **Housing: Expect Competition Finding a rental in Australia’s cities can be tough right now. The Economist Intelligence Unit has even marked down Australian cities’ infrastructure scores because of a housing crisis that has pushed rental availability to record lows. As a newcomer with no local rental history and a single income, you may find yourself up against a lot of applicants. Some strategies that help: **Book short-stay furnished accommodation for your first four to six weeks.** It gives you time to inspect properties in person and learn the neighbourhoods before signing a twelve-month lease. **Build a strong rental application.** Bring references from previous landlords, an employment contract or letter showing your salary, and bank statements showing your savings. A short cover letter introducing you and your kids can make you memorable. **Budget for upfront costs.** A bond (usually up to four weeks’ rent) plus rent in advance, plus furniture and connection costs, adds up quickly. **Think beyond the inner suburbs.** Outer suburbs and regional towns often offer more space, calmer streets and more affordable rent. For some visas, regional living can even help your pathway to permanent residency. ## **Building Your Village From Scratch This is the part no visa can sort out for you, and for many single mums it is the hardest. Back home you may have had a mum, a sister or a friend who could grab the kids when you were sick. Here, you are starting from zero. The good news is Australia has more community infrastructure for parents than most newcomers realise. **Playgroups.** Informal, low-cost groups where parents and young children meet weekly. They are one of the fastest ways to make local parent friends. Search Playgroup Australia for sessions near you. **Maternal and child health services.** Most states offer free child health checks for babies and preschoolers through community nurses, and they can connect you with local new parent groups. **Your local council.** Councils run library story time, school holiday activities, community events and sometimes specific programs for new migrants. Your local library is also a great, free place to spend rainy weekends. **Neighbourhood and community houses.** These run courses, social groups and support programs, and many are welcoming spaces for new arrivals. **Single parent organisations.** Groups like the Council of Single Mothers and their Children in Victoria offer information, advocacy and connection with other solo mums who truly get it. **Kids’ sport and activities.** Weekend sport clubs are the social heart of many Australian suburbs. Signing your kids up is an easy way to meet other families week after week. **Cultural and community groups.** Connecting with people from your home country can ease homesickness for both you and the kids, and those networks often come with practical tips about local services. One very practical thing to prepare for: schools and childcare centres will ask for emergency contacts, usually two people other than you. When you are brand new, that can feel impossible. Start building those relationships early, and consider asking a friendly neighbour, a colleague or another parent from school. Many single mums end up forming small swap circles where they cover each other’s pickups and sick days. Finally, look after yourself. The first year is often the hardest, with loneliness sometimes hitting a few months in when the adrenaline fades. That is normal. Services like Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) and your local GP can connect you with support, and reaching out is a sign of strength, not failure. ## **Your Single Mum Moving Checklist **Before you leave:** sort out consent or court orders, check your visa options, gather school records and vaccination records for the kids, and build a savings buffer. **First two weeks:** set up a bank account, get a local SIM, apply for a tax file number, and enrol in Medicare if you are eligible. **During the first month:** secure a rental in your chosen school zone, enrol the kids in school and OSHC, and find a local GP. **And Beyond:** join a playgroup or school parent group, sign the kids up for an activity, and start building your emergency contact network. ## **Get Your Visa Strategy Right From the Start When you are moving on your own with children, there is less room for error. A refused visa, a missing consent document or choosing a temporary visa when a permanent one was within reach can cost you money, time and a lot of stress. Speaking with experienced[Immigration Agents Australia](https://immigrationagentsaustralia.au/) before you apply can help you choose the pathway that gives your family the most security, make sure your consent and custody paperwork is in order, and understand what support you will be able to access once you arrive. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-single-mums-can-move-to-australia-for-our-o-s-moms/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-single-mums-can-move-to-australia-for-our-o-s-moms/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Travel --- ### [Proving Your Long-Distance Relationship for a Partner Visa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/proving-your-long-distance-relationship-for-a-partner-visa/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Jeryl Damluan **Content:** A long-distance relationship can test even the strongest couples — emotionally, financially, and logistically. And when it comes time to prove your relationship for a partner visa, that physical distance can make things feel even harder. The good news? Being apart doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t genuine. It just means you’ll need to show immigration authorities that your bond is real, consistent, and built to last. Let’s unpack exactly how to do that — from understanding what the Department of Home Affairs looks for to presenting the right kind of evidence that tells your story convincingly. ## **Understanding the Partner Visa Requirements** The Australian Partner Visa is designed for couples in genuine, ongoing relationships who want to build their lives together in Australia. Whether you’re married or in a de facto relationship, the goal is the same: proving that your commitment is mutual and exclusive. If you’re currently living apart, the application process can seem daunting. You’ll need to demonstrate not just love, but also intent to reunite and live together in the near future. Case officers don’t expect daily proximity — they expect clear evidence that your relationship is genuine and continuing despite the distance. For those ready to take the next step, you can explore the process to apply for Subclass 309/100 partner visa Australia through [Unique Migration Services](https://uniquemigration.com.au/). It’s a good starting point for understanding eligibility, requirements, and how to structure your application from the beginning. ## **The Challenge of Long-Distance Relationships in Visa Applications** Long-distance relationships challenge traditional notions of partnership. Couples who don’t share a roof can raise questions for immigration officers — not because distance invalidates the bond, but because it’s harder to prove. Physical separation means fewer shared bills, no joint lease, and less day-to-day evidence of interdependence. It can also make demonstrating financial connection and emotional intimacy more complicated. Add in cultural differences, time zone gaps, and travel restrictions, and it’s no surprise the process can feel overwhelming. But don’t worry — distance alone won’t sink your application. Many couples successfully obtain partner visas while living in different countries. What matters most is how effectively you show your ongoing commitment through consistent communication, shared plans, and clear evidence of genuine connection. ![long-distance relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-anastasia-shuraeva-4236827-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-anastasia-shuraeva-4236827 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Immigration Officers Look For** When assessing long-distance partner visa applications, case officers examine four key pillars of a relationship: 1. **Commitment to Each Other** – Are both partners emotionally invested and planning a shared future? 2. **Financial Interdependence** – Do you share expenses, support each other financially, or make joint financial decisions? 3. **Social Recognition** – Are you seen as a couple by friends and family? Do you share holidays, milestones, and important events? 4. **Nature of the Household** – Even if you’re apart, do you plan to live together soon? Is the separation temporary? To satisfy these criteria, think of your evidence as storytelling, not paperwork. Each document should help paint a picture of a living, breathing relationship — one that has evolved and endured over time. ## **Building a Strong Evidence Portfolio** Let’s break down what kind of proof works best for long-distance couples and how to frame it effectively. ### **1. Regular Communication** Provide records of consistent communication over time. Think phone logs, emails, chat messages, or video call screenshots. Don’t overwhelm your application with hundreds of repetitive “hi” messages — instead, focus on meaningful exchanges that reveal emotional depth or discuss life plans. Include brief annotations like *“Discussing our relocation plans for next year”* to give context. ### **2. Visits and Reunions** Trips are vital milestones. Save flight itineraries, hotel bookings, photos, and passport stamps. Annotate them with dates and descriptions. The goal is to show you both invest time and effort to see each other — that the relationship is active and intentional. ### **3. Shared Financial Responsibilities** This is where many couples stumble. You may not share rent or bills, but there are still ways to show a financial connection. Evidence of bank transfers, shared travel expenses, or joint online subscriptions all help demonstrate interdependence. Sometimes, financial arrangements can touch on legal or support matters. In such cases, referencing resources like [ABA Lawyers spousal maintenance services](https://abalawyers.com.au/our-services/spousal-maintenance/) can help you understand how to formalise or document your financial commitments in a way that supports your visa case. ### **4. Emotional Support and Future Plans** Emails, letters, and even digital cards showing affection and long-term planning can carry significant weight. Talk about shared dreams — future homes, weddings, or relocation plans, particularly if you’re preparing for a [Prospective Marriage Visa](https://www.australianmigrationlawyers.com.au/partner-visas/prospective-marriage-visa-300). Case officers are human too; they look for emotion, consistency, and realism. Equally important is a timeline for reunification — a concrete plan for how and when you intend to live together. Documents like [job applications](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/ "job applications") in Australia, tenancy inquiries, or joint visa planning notes can all reinforce that intent. ![long-distance relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-rdne-6415449-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-6415449 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Legal Recognition: Long-Distance Relationships Are Valid** You might worry that living apart will automatically disqualify you, but that’s not the case. In SZOXP v Minister for Immigration and Citizenship \[2015\], the Federal Court confirmed that cohabitation isn’t mandatory to prove a de facto relationship under Australian law. This precedent means long-distance couples can absolutely qualify, as long as there’s substantial proof of a genuine connection, consistent communication, and a shared future plan. ## **Avoiding Common Pitfalls** Even the strongest relationships can run into visa trouble when applications are poorly structured. Here are common mistakes — and how to avoid them: - **Insufficient Evidence**: Don’t rely on a few photos and chat logs. Create a balanced collection covering communication, finances, visits, and social proof. - **Inconsistencies**: Make sure timelines, dates, and stories align across forms and declarations. - **Generic Declarations**: Witness statements should be specific and heartfelt, not copied templates. Ask friends or family to describe events they personally observed. - **Ignoring Cultural Differences**: If your relationship norms differ culturally, explain them. Context can prevent misunderstandings. - **Lack of a Future Plan**: Case officers want to see that the distance is temporary. Include clear steps toward reunification — such as an intended application for the Subclass 309/100 partner visa — to show the relationship has a defined path forward. ## **Why Professional Guidance Can Help** Immigration paperwork is complicated, and even one missing detail can delay or derail your application. Seeking help from a registered migration agent or family lawyer can make the process smoother. They can help you structure your evidence, identify weak points, and ensure every piece of documentation aligns with the legal requirements. If your case involves complex financial or support arrangements, consulting legal experts such as those at ABA Lawyers’ spousal maintenance services can provide clarity and strengthen the credibility of your documentation. ## **Final Thoughts: Distance Doesn’t Define Love — or Your Visa Chances** A long-distance relationship may not fit the traditional mould, but it doesn’t make your connection any less real. Immigration officers aren’t looking for perfection — they’re looking for authenticity. By carefully compiling a mix of emotional, financial, and practical evidence, you can present a relationship that’s both believable and compelling. With clear communication, thorough preparation, and a realistic plan to reunite — such as moving forward to apply for Subclass 309/100 partner visa Australia — you’ll be in a strong position to prove that love really can bridge any distance. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/proving-your-long-distance-relationship-for-a-partner-visa/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/proving-your-long-distance-relationship-for-a-partner-visa/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [How to Find Out If Your Ex Is Already on Dating Apps (Without Asking Him)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-find-out-if-your-ex-is-already-on-dating-apps-without-asking-him/) **Published:** May 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## At a Glance - Wondering if your ex is already [dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-single-mothers-how-to-build-healthy-respectful-relationships/) is normal, not paranoid - There are three ways to find out: mutual friends, asking him directly, or quiet verification tools - The most discreet option is using profile verification tools that search dating apps without him being notified - Whatever you find, treat it as information, not a verdict on him or on your marriage - Do the check once and move on. Don’t make it a habit If you’ve recently separated, there’s a question that probably keeps showing up at odd moments. While you’re folding washing. While you’re putting the kids to bed. While you’re lying awake at 2 a.m., wondering how he could be moving on already. Is he already on the apps? You don’t really want to ask him. The handover at the school gate is awkward enough as it is. And honestly, the answer matters less than just knowing. Not knowing is the hard part. Here’s the good news. There are quiet, dignified ways to find out, and using them doesn’t make you obsessive. It makes you someone who would rather have information than spend the next six months wondering. ## Why You Want to Know (And Why That’s Completely Normal) Let’s be honest about something. Wanting to know if your ex is already on dating apps isn’t about jealousy in the simple sense. It’s usually a mix of things. Part of it is comparison. If he’s already swiping, where does that leave you in the timeline? Are you behind? Are you taking too long? Should you be doing the same? Part of it is processing. The story you’ve been telling yourself about the end of the marriage changes if you find out he was on Tinder six weeks after moving out. Or six weeks before, depending on how things ended. And part of it is closure. You shared a life with this person. You want to know what comes next for him, not to interfere, but because it’s information that lets you stop wondering and start moving. None of that is paranoid. It’s normal. The only question is how you find out without compromising your own dignity in the process. ## Method 1: The Indirect Approach ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-startup-stock-photos-212288-1200x800.webp "Pexels-startup-stock-photos-212288 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by [startup stock photos](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/man-using-gray-iphone-6-212288/) Mutual friends will sometimes know. Family members who have stayed in touch with him might know. His social media accounts, if he’s left them visible to you, will sometimes give it away in indirect ways: new photos, activity at odd hours, comments from people you don’t recognise. The limitation is that these signals are unreliable. He might be on the apps and very careful not to show it on Instagram. He might be off the apps, but having an affair started before the separation. Social cues are useful for forming a guess, not for getting an answer. The other problem with the indirect approach is that it can feel like you’re surveilling, which tends to leave you feeling worse, not better. Asking a friend whether they’ve heard anything puts that person in an awkward position. Watching his Instagram for new activity becomes a habit that doesn’t end well for anyone. ## Method 2: The Direct Approach ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-silverkblack-36812992-1-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-silverkblack-36812992 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by [vitaly gariev](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/young-couple-engaged-in-serious-conversation-indoors-36812992/) You could just ask him. Some women do. If your separation is on relatively civil terms and you have any kind of functional communication, this is the cleanest option. You ask, he tells you the truth or doesn’t, and you move on. The realities of this approach are: he might lie. He might tell the truth in a way designed to hurt you. He might tell you it’s none of your business. Or he might be honest in a way that lands harder than you expected. Most women, given the option, do not ask. Not because they’re afraid of the answer, but because they don’t want to give him the satisfaction of knowing they wanted to know. Which is a fair instinct. ## Method 3: The Quiet Verification Approach ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-yankrukov-6209635-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yankrukov-6209635 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by [yan krukau](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-woman-using-an-iphone-wearing-a-sweater-6209635/) This is the one most women don’t realise exists. Some tools let you [find out if your ex is on dating sites](https://www.cheateye.ai/blog/how-to-find-out-if-my-husband-is-on-dating-sites) without creating an account, without swiping for hours hoping to come across his profile, and without notifying him that anyone was looking. The way these tools work is straightforward. You enter the information you already have: his first name, his approximate age, and the city he lives in. The tool searches Tinder for matching active profiles and returns what it finds. If he’s there, you find out. If he isn’t, you find out that too. Either way, you have an answer in minutes rather than spending weeks reading tea leaves on Instagram. CheatEye is the most established option in this category. The search is anonymous, meaning your ex receives no notification that a search has been performed. There is no awkward match, no message from his account asking what you’re doing, no chance of him finding out you looked. For most women in this situation, this is the option that actually delivers what they wanted from the indirect approach: an answer, without the discomfort of involving other people. ## What to Do With the Answer This is the part nobody talks about. You get the answer. Now what? If you find a profile, the first thing to understand is that this is information, not a verdict on your marriage or on him as a person. He’s allowed to date. You’re allowed to date. Separation means both of you can do this. The question is what you do with the knowledge. For some women, finding out he’s already on the apps is the push they needed to start putting themselves out there, too. The mental block was wondering whether they were going too fast. Knowing he’s not going slow at all changes that calculation. ![Motivated lady](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Daily-gratitude-1200x762.jpg "Happy and free young beautiful woman outdoor - Beanstalk Mums") For others, finding out is closure of a different kind. The version of him you held in your head, perhaps still grieving, perhaps reconsidering, perhaps moving slowly, was inaccurate. The real version has been on Tinder for two months. That can sting in the short term, but it lets you stop investing emotionally in a story that wasn’t true. If you find nothing, that’s also information. Maybe he’s processing in his own way. Maybe he’s being more careful about his digital footprint than you assumed. Maybe he’s just not ready yet. None of this changes what you need to do for yourself, but it might soften the version of him you’ve been carrying around. ## A Note on Doing This Once The healthy version of this is doing the check once, getting the answer, and moving on. The unhealthy version is making it a habit, running searches every fortnight, and building a folder of screenshots. That’s not closure, that’s a new kind of attachment. Most women who use verification tools post-separation do exactly one search. They want the answer, they get it, they make peace with it, and they go back to their actual lives. That’s the model. ## The Bottom Line You’re allowed to want to know. You’re allowed to use the tools that exist to find out. None of that makes you obsessive. It makes you someone who would rather have information than be tortured by not having it. And once you know, whether the answer was the one you expected or not, you have something more useful than guessing. You have facts you can build from. That’s worth more than weeks of wondering. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-find-out-if-your-ex-is-already-on-dating-apps-without-asking-him/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-find-out-if-your-ex-is-already-on-dating-apps-without-asking-him/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [All You Need To Know: Government Assistance For Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/all-you-need-to-know-government-assistance/) **Published:** September 25, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Explore government assistance for single mums in Australia, from Parenting Payment and Family Tax Benefit to Child Care Subsidy, and how to check eligibility. **Content:** **If you’re a single mum in Australia, you may be able to get Parenting Payment, Family Tax Benefit, Child Care Subsidy and other Centrelink support, depending on your income, your children’s ages and your situation. The quickest way to see what fits you is the Payment and Service Finder on the Services Australia website.** When you’re raising kids on your own, even the smallest unexpected expense can throw your budget off balance. Rent, groceries, school shoes, medical bills: it’s a lot to manage, and you shouldn’t have to do it alone. The good news is that the Australian government provides a range of payments and programs to help families, carers and people with disability manage the cost of living. Let’s explore the key payments available, who they’re for, and how to access them. **Quick takeaways:** - **Parenting Payment** is the main Centrelink payment for single parents. Your youngest child generally needs to be under 14. - **Family Tax Benefit Part A and Part B** help with the everyday cost of raising kids. - **Child Care Subsidy** lowers childcare fees if you’re working, studying or training. - **Carer Payment, Carer Allowance and the Disability Support Pension** support carers and people with disability. - **JobSeeker, Austudy and Abstudy** can help while you look for work or study. - **Check your eligibility** with the Payment and Service Finder or through your myGov account. Good to knowThis article is general information only and does not constitute financial advice. Please speak with a qualified financial adviser before making any financial decisions. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Single Mum and Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ## **Understanding Government Assistance** The Australian government offers a range of financial aid for essential expenses. Most of these payments are made through Centrelink, which has information, tools, and resources so you know what you are eligible for. Common payments include: - [Parenting Payment](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/parenting-payment): Financial aid for single parents or guardians raising a child. - [Carer Payment and Carer Allowance](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/carer-payment): Assistance for those who give daily aid for a loved one with a handicap, illness, or who is older. - [JobSeeker Payment](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/jobseeker-payment): Financial aid if you’re looking for work or can’t work temporarily due to sickness or injury. - [Austudy](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/austudy): Aid for people who are studying or training. - [Disability Support Pension](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/disability-support-pension): Regular payment for PWDs who are unable to work. Each payment has its own eligibility requirements and rate, which depend on your income, situation, and number of children. [![a gift of overcoming challenges](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Newsletter-artwork-9.jpg)](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) ## **Government Assistance for Families** Raising kids as a single parent comes with unique challenges, but there are resources available to make things a little easier. The Parenting Payment is the main Centrelink payment for single parents. It offers ongoing financial assistance for everyday expenses like food, housing, school expenses, and energy bills. One eligibility criterion is that your kid is under 14 and you are the main guardian. Other programs available include: - **Family Tax Benefit (A and B)** – to aid with the ongoing cost of raising children. - **Child Care Subsidy** – to cover childcare expenses if you’re working or training. - **Energy Supplement** – a payment for energy bills. ## **Caregiver and Disability Support** If you’re looking out for a PWD, someone sick, or someone older, the important role you play doesn’t go unrecognised. Carer Payment and Carer Allowance can cover essential expenses and give financial assistance to your loved one at home. You can receive these payments alongside other benefits, depending on your income and circumstances. For PWDs, the Disability Support Pension offers regular payments for daily expenses. There are also provisions for equipment and health supplies, as well as access to benefits through the [National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS)](https://www.ndis.gov.au/). These payments and assistance options are designed for caregivers and PWDs to be more independent and secure financially. ## **Government Assistance When You’re Studying or Looking for Work** If you’re a single mum wanting to go back to school or re-enter the workforce, the Australian government offers several programs to aid your journey. Eligibility for Austudy or Abstudy depends on your level and situation. These payments aid with education, travel, and everyday expenses while you build new skills or retrain. If you’re looking for a new job, the JobSeeker Payment offers financial aid when you’re unemployed or if you’re sick or injured and can’t work temporarily. It gives you breathing room while you take care of your expenses and plan your next steps. No-cost resources like career guidance, training programs, and job search tools are also easily accessible. ![government assistance with study](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Government-assistance-with-study-e1790133961348.jpg "Government-assistance-with-study - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Health and Care Services** Health care is another key area where the government offers support. Through [Medicare](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/medicare), you can access free or subsidised medical services, hospital treatment, and prescription medicines. If you or your child has ongoing health essentials, you may also qualify for additional payments to help with equipment, treatment, or travel to medical appointments. For older Australians, the government offers financial aid to help them remain independent and safe at home, including home care packages and energy supplements. ## **How to Find Out if You’re Eligible for Government Assistance** The easiest way to check your eligibility for government assistance is through the Services Australia website. It has detailed information about available payments and programs, eligibility rules, and how to apply. You can use the [Payment and Services Finder](https://www.centrelink.gov.au/apps/clkonline_cof/payment-service-finder/payment-service-finder-start), an online tool that helps match you with payments available based on your circumstances. Some basic data about your income, living arrangements, and family size is required. If you’re unsure where to start, you can also visit a local office or speak to a social worker for more detailed advice. ## **Managing Your Money and Finding Ongoing Support** Accessing government assistance is a helpful first step, but long-term stability often means building a realistic budget and seeking [emotional and community support](https://singlemamaway.com/how-to-build-a-strong-support-network-for-mental-health/). You can combine Centrelink payments with local programs like food banks, housing services, or childcare support. There are also community organisations that offer free financial counselling, repair services, and [parenting resources](https://singlemamaway.com/links-useful-resources/). And remember — government payments are there to give a safety net, not a stopgap. Using them to steady your footing and plan ahead can help you and your kids move toward greater confidence and independence. [![Elle counselling services](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg)](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Final Thoughts: Government Assistance for Single Mums** Navigating government assistance can feel overwhelming at first, but you’re not alone in this. There is a range of payments and services designed to aid single parents financially. Take time to explore what you may be eligible for, use reliable information sources, and reach out for assistance when necessary. With the right help, you can keep your home, kids, and wellbeing on track — one steady step at a time. ### **Frequently Asked Questions** **Who is eligible for the $750 payment in Australia?** The $750 payment was a one-off payment for eligible Centrelink recipients and concession cardholders during the pandemic. While it’s no longer active, similar programs are offered to aid with financial pressures. You can check the latest options online for current financial aid programs. **What is the $4000 payment from Centrelink?** It allows qualified recipients to get part of their government payment earlier. It’s not extra money, but an advance you repay over time. Applications can be made via myGov or [Services Australia](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/) if you need short-term financial aid for urgent expenses like bills or repairs. **What assistance can I get from Centrelink?** Centrelink offers payments and programs to aid with daily expenses. These include the Parenting Payment, JobSeeker Payment, Carer Payment, and Disability Support Pension, plus educational assistance through Austudy and Youth Allowance. Extra help, like Rent Assistance and Crisis Payments, is also available. While a Crisis payment is not specifically for “mental health,” a mental health crisis can be considered an “extreme circumstance” that causes severe financial hardship, and you can use the funds for any essential needs that arise. **How do I claim my $250 Centrelink payment?** The Australian government gives it to aid with rising expenses. You don’t usually have to apply—it’s automatically paid if you’re qualified and have already received an approved payment. To confirm your eligibility, rate, and payment date, check your myGov account or visit the official Services Australia website for the latest information. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/all-you-need-to-know-government-assistance/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/all-you-need-to-know-government-assistance/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [What To Do When Your Ex Is Having A Baby?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/what-to-do-when-your-ex-is-having-a-baby/) **Published:** September 5, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Your ex is having a baby, and you're feeling all the feels. Here's a warm, supportive guide to help you process it all with strength and self-love. **Content:** It’s a moment you didn’t quite expect, or maybe you did—but now it’s real. Your ex is having a baby, and suddenly, a rush of emotions floods in: confusion, hurt, jealousy, maybe even grief. If you’re anything like the Mamas in our community, you’re probably wondering: *Why does this feel so big? Is it okay to feel this way? And how do I move forward from here, stronger, not smaller?* This blog is your space to unpack it all. I’m not here to sugar-coat or rush your healing. I’m here to help you process this news in your own way, on your own terms—with gentle, practical steps. Because, Mama, you deserve peace, even in moments like these. **So what do you actually do? Nothing, for the first little while. There’s no deadline on this, and no correct reaction. When you’re ready, three things help more than the rest. Name what you’re feeling instead of talking yourself out of it. Decide what your children need to hear, and tell them before they hear it somewhere else. Then protect your own patch. Mute the feeds, lean on the people who get it, keep your routines steady. You don’t have to congratulate anyone. You don’t have to feel gracious about it. You only have to look after your kids and yourself.** **Quick Takeaways**: - **There’s no timeline on this.** Grief, jealousy and relief can all arrive at once, years after the split, and even if you were the one who left. - **Tell your kids before someone else does.** Age-appropriate honesty, plus a clear reassurance that their place with both parents hasn’t changed. - **You don’t owe anyone congratulations.** Responding warmly is a choice, not an obligation, and it can wait until it feels honest. - **Mute rather than monitor.** Watching the pregnancy unfold online keeps the wound open, and unfollowing isn’t bitterness, it’s just less to carry. Good to knowThis article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Compassionate Single Mum Counsellor ## **Why the News That Your Ex Is Having a Baby Can Feel So Personal** Even if you’ve long parted ways, the news that your ex is having a baby can hit you in places you thought were already healed. That’s not because you’re not over them—it’s because these kinds of announcements poke at the tender corners of our lives: - **It reopens old wounds**: Maybe you had dreams of growing your family together, or you remember the pain of how things ended. - **Stirs up comparisons**: You may wonder why it “worked” with them or what their new partner has that you didn’t. - **It complicates shared parenting**: If you have kids together, this new baby could affect your child’s emotions—and yours too. These reactions are all valid. You’re allowed to feel messy and mixed up. You’re human. [![gift of emotional stability](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Newsletter-artwork-17.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://dropbox.com/scl/fi/k87v0rtbhu9s4u6pm9eq1/Emotional-Resilience-Toolkit-Your-Guide-to-New-Beginnings-1.pdf?rlkey=9mdi44a8q57qxlnjstz38wy9t&st=ev4be7b0&dl=0) ## **How to Care for Yourself Emotionally When Your Ex Is Having a Baby** Let’s walk through some gentle, yet grounding ways to look after your emotional wellbeing: ### **1. Name What You’re Feeling (Without Judging It)** You might be angry, sad, relieved, or even a little numb. That’s okay. Give your feelings space to breathe. 📝 *Try this:* Journal a stream-of-consciousness page starting with: *“When I found out my ex is having a baby, I felt…”* Let your truth spill out. No edits. No guilt. ### **2. Don’t Rush to Be the Bigger Person** If you’re craving real-life connection, local spaces can offer shared moments that online groups can’t always replicate. These don’t You don’t owe anyone a performance of grace. If you’re not ready to send congrats or play nice, don’t. You can choose to respond (or not) in your own time. ### **3. Lean on Safe People** Share what you’re going through with a trusted friend, counsellor, or a fellow Mama in the [Single Mum Vine community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). You’re not alone. ### 4. **Set Boundaries If You Need To** If seeing baby updates on social media is too much, it’s okay to mute or unfollow. You’re allowed to protect your peace. ![Woman getting emotional support from friends after knowing ex has new baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Woman-getting-emotional-support-from-friends-after-knowing-ex-has-new-baby.webp "Woman-getting-emotional-support-from-friends-after-knowing-ex-has-new-baby - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Navigating Shared Parenting When Your Ex Is Having a Baby** If you’re co-parenting, this change might affect the rhythm and feel of your family dynamic. Here’s how to steady the ship (without feeling like you’re drowning): ### **Talk With Your Child (Age-Appropriately)** - **Reassure Them**: Let them know their place in your heart—and their dad’s—hasn’t changed. - **Allow Feelings**: Some kids feel excited, others feel jealous or forgotten. Keep the lines of communication open. ### **Stay Focused on Your Lane** Your job is to nurture your child and yourself. Let your ex handle his side of the emotional labour with his new family. ### **Maintain Stability** Stick to your regular routines. Kids thrive on predictability, especially when things feel unsettled. ## **When You’re Still in Love (Or Dealing with Heartbreak)** Not every friendship group will be the right fit for you, and that is okay. It’s important to set boundaries to protect your emotional If you’re still grieving the relationship or secretly hoped for reconciliation, this news can feel soul-crushing. Here’s what can help: - **Remind Yourself:** This baby doesn’t erase your story or your worth. - **Reframe the Narrative:** His new chapter doesn’t mean you’ve been replaced. It means he’s moved in a different direction. So can you. - **Refocus on Your Future:** What dreams are still waiting for you, Mama? This could be the push you needed to step fully into them. [![Elle counselling services](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Image 1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Redirect Your Energy to Yourself** There’s something wildly empowering about choosing yourself after heartbreak. Here’s how you can begin: ### **Try a “Me First” Month:** - Reignite a passion project - [Book a counselling session](https://singlemamaway.com/product/one-on-one-counselling-session-60-min/) to talk it out - Take yourself on solo dates - Redecorate your space—start fresh - Learn something new just because you can *💛 **Remember:** His baby is not your ending. It’s a nudge toward your own beginning.* ## **Words I Want You to Remember, Mama…** Your ex’s choices do not define you. You’re defined by your courage to keep showing up, even when it’s hard. The fact that you’re here, reading this, tells me you’re already doing the work. So when your **ex is having a baby** and the world feels tilted, come back to yourself. Back to the beautiful, wild, capable woman you’ve always been. This isn’t your loss. It’s just not your path. ## **Keep Going, Mama—You’ve Got This 💛** If this post helped you, please share it with another Mama who might be quietly hurting right now. Or drop your thoughts in the comments—I read every one. You never know who your story might comfort. Want more honest, supportive conversations like this? 👉 [Join our newsletter](https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io/) for weekly inspiration, practical tools, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone. You’re stronger than you feel right now. And I’m cheering you on, every step of the way. ![ex is having a baby infographic](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Ex-is-having-a-baby-infographic-533x800.webp "Ex-is-having-a-baby-infographic - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Frequently Asked Questions** **Why does it hurt so much that my ex is having a baby?** Because it feels like a door closing, even if that door’s been shut for a while. It’s a natural grief response to lost dreams, old wounds, and unspoken hopes. **Should I tell my child about their dad’s new baby?** If your child will be part of their half-sibling’s life, age-appropriate honesty is important. Reassure them they are loved and safe in your care. **Do I have to congratulate my ex and his new partner?** Only if and when you feel emotionally ready. There’s no rulebook here—only what feels kind and respectful to you and your boundaries. **I’m spiralling with jealousy—how do I stop?** Acknowledge the jealousy, then shift focus. What are you proud of today? What is one thing you can do for *you* this week? **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/what-to-do-when-your-ex-is-having-a-baby/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/what-to-do-when-your-ex-is-having-a-baby/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [How To Know Marriage Is Over?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-to-know-marriage-is-over/) **Published:** September 23, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** How to know your marriage is over, from a counsellor & single mum: the quiet signs, when it's really exhaustion, & next steps. Start reading here. **Content:** Wondering how to know your marriage is over is one of the loneliest questions there is. It tends to land at 11 pm, once the kids are asleep, with years of shared life and a mortgage or lease sitting on top of it. **In my experience, most marriages don’t end with one big fight. The clearest signs are quieter. You feel relief when your partner is away, you’ve stopped trying to repair things, and when you picture next year, they’re not in it. If that pattern has lasted months rather than a bad fortnight, it’s worth taking seriously.** I’m a counsellor and a single mum, and I’ve sat with this question from both sides of the room. This article won’t walk you through Centrelink payments or property settlements. Those are big topics of their own, and you don’t need them tonight. What you’ll get here is a clearer read on where you are, and what to do next. **Quick Takeaways** - The strongest sign a marriage is over is usually a lasting pattern of relief, indifference or contempt, not how often you argue. - Exhaustion, depression and burnout can flatten your feelings too, so check in on your own health before treating numbness as a verdict. - If you feel afraid of your partner, or they control your money, phone or friendships, that’s a safety issue. Call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, 24/7. - Australian law requires 12 months of separation before you can apply for divorce, and that time can include living under the same roof. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Counsellor (Dip. Counselling) ![married couple living separate lives in the same kitchen one sign a marriage is over](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2-married-couple-living-separate-lives-in-the-same-kitchen-one-sign-a-marriage-is-over-1192x800.webp "2-married-couple-living-separate-lives-in-the-same-kitchen-one-sign-a-marriage-is-over - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Do You Know Your Marriage Is Over?** A marriage is usually over when at least one partner has stopped wanting to repair it. The signs are a lasting sense of relief when apart, contempt or indifference in place of frustration, separate lives under one roof, and no shared picture of the future. One bad season isn’t enough. A settled pattern over many months is. It tends to happen slowly, too. Among [divorces granted in Australia](https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/7-interesting-stats-about-australian-marriages-and-divorces-2025) in 2025, the median time from wedding day to separation was 9.4 years. Put simply, half of those couples had been married for more than nine years before they separated. If you’ve been quietly wondering for a long time, you’re in very common company. Everyone online says you’ll “just know”. From what I see in the counselling room, most people don’t. They swing between sure and unsure for months, and that back-and-forth is normal. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or can’t make decisions. I used to think the most useful question was “Do I still love them?” Actually, that one mostly muddies the water. Plenty of people love someone they can’t build a life with. The better question is whether, when things are calm, you move towards your partner or away. ## **The Quiet Signs That Matter More Than the Fighting** TThe signs that matter most tend to be quiet ones. Loud couples are often still trying. Plenty of the [signs a relationship has run its course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/signs-relationship-is-over/) apply to any couple. Marriage, kids and a shared home add a few layers of their own, and these are the ones I pay most attention to. ### ****You Feel Lighter When They’re Not Home**** If your shoulders drop when their car leaves the driveway, and tighten when it pulls back in, notice that. Missing someone is often a sign the bond is still there. Feeling lighter without them, week after week, tends to mean it has worn thin. ### ******You’ve Stopped Asking for Help****** This is the sign I see most in mums, and the one partners easily overlook. For years you asked for help with lunches, dentist bookings and the 6 am wake-ups. Then you stopped. From the outside, it looks like calm. Often it’s closer to giving up, because asking is a way of reaching for someone. ### ********Contempt Has Crept In******** Frustration says, “I need more from you.” Contempt says, “You’re beneath me.” Eye-rolling, mocking and talking down are the everyday versions. Long-running research by US psychologist John Gottman found contempt to be one of the strongest predictors of divorce. It shuts down curiosity, and without curiosity, repair gets very hard. ### **********You’re Living Separate Lives********** You eat at different times and holiday apart, if you holiday at all. Most conversations are about pick-ups, bills and who’s buying milk. Some couples describe it as being flatmates who share kids. A logistics-only marriage can run for years. It rarely feels like a marriage to the two people inside it. ### ************They’re Missing From Your Picture of the Future************ Imagine next Christmas, or your youngest’s first day of high school. If your partner keeps quietly dropping out of the picture, that tells you something your busy days might be drowning out. ![tired mum resting on the couch next to a washing basket feeling flat about her marriage](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3-tired-mum-resting-on-the-couch-next-to-a-washing-basket-feeling-flat-about-her-marriage-1192x800.webp "3-tired-mum-resting-on-the-couch-next-to-a-washing-basket-feeling-flat-about-her-marriage - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Is It Over, or Are You Just Running on Empty?**** Sometimes the numbness isn’t about the marriage at all. Exhaustion, depression, burnout and hormone changes like perimenopause can all dull your feelings towards everyone, including your partner. I’ve worked with mums who were sure their marriage was over, then found out months later they’d been depressed the whole time. Once they got support, some of the warmth came back. I’ve seen the opposite too, so this isn’t a reason to talk yourself out of what you know. Ask yourself whether you feel flat about everything, or only about them. If friends, hobbies and even the kids feel far away, start with your own health. Your GP is a good first stop. Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) and Lifeline (13 11 14) are there any time you need to talk. If the flatness is mostly about your partner, that’s useful information as well. And sometimes the flatness is grief arriving early, for the marriage you hoped you’d have. The [grief of a marriage ending](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/) can start well before anyone moves out. ## ****Signs It Isn’t Safe to Stay**** If you feel afraid of your partner, put the “is my marriage over” question to one side for now. Your safety, and your kids’ safety, comes first. Abuse doesn’t always leave bruises. [Coercive control](https://1800respect.org.au/coercive-control) is a pattern of behaviour used to scare, isolate or control a partner over time. It can look like checking your phone, limiting your access to money, cutting you off from friends, or making you doubt your own memory. The [warning signs of emotional abuse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/) often build so slowly that they start to feel normal. A lot of relationship advice says to stop blaming and look at your own part. That advice has its place between two people who both feel safe. It doesn’t fit a relationship where one person uses fear to stay in charge. You can call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, or text 0458 737 732, any time, day or night. If you’re in immediate danger, call 000. You don’t need to have decided anything before you pick up the phone. ## ****Should You Stay Together for the Kids?**** Staying for the kids can make sense in some families, but it isn’t automatically the kinder choice. What seems to matter most for children is how much conflict they live with, and how the adults handle it. The Federal Circuit and Family Court’s guidance for parents says high levels of conflict between parents put children at greater risk of emotional, social and behavioural problems. That applies whether parents live together or apart. So the conflict itself is the thing to watch, whether you stay or go. That doesn’t make leaving right for everyone. If you and your partner are kind to each other and the kids feel secure, staying while you work on things is a real option. If the kids are tiptoeing around the house, or asking why Mum cries in the car, that tells you something too. Kids notice more than we think. If you do decide your marriage is over, knowing [what to tell the kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-to-tell-young-kids-about-separation/) makes that first conversation far less frightening. ![womans hands holding a phone in a parked car making a private call for support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/4-womans-hands-holding-a-phone-in-a-parked-car-making-a-private-call-for-support.webp "4-womans-hands-holding-a-phone-in-a-parked-car-making-a-private-call-for-support - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Is Money the Only Thing Keeping You There?**** For many mums, money is the main thing holding them in a marriage that already feels over. That’s a practical problem, and it helps to pull it apart from the emotional one. The popular line online is “just leave, Centrelink will cover it”. That advice skips a lot. Payments are income-tested, and rent is the biggest hurdle. Anglicare’s 2026 national rental snapshot found only 0.5% of listings were affordable for someone earning a full-time minimum wage. That’s about one home in every 200. It’s a housing system problem, not a personal failing. So get your real numbers before you decide anything. A free financial counsellor through the National Debt Helpline (1800 007 007, weekdays) can help you see what would come in and go out each fortnight. Your housing changes the picture too. If you own your home, there’s property to sort out, which takes time. If you rent, your lease end date often sets the pace. Some couples choose to be [separated but live together](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/separated-living-together/) while they sort out money and housing. It can work if the house is calm and safe. If there’s any fear at home, it’s the wrong fit. ## ****What If Only One of You Wants to Try?**** This is more common than people think. When one of you is leaning out and the other wants to fight for it, the first job is deciding together, not fixing everything at once. Discernment counselling was designed for exactly this. It’s short, usually up to five sessions, and the goal is clarity rather than repair. Much of the work happens in separate conversations with each partner. In one US study of 100 couples who tried it, about half chose to start couples counselling to reconcile, and most of the rest chose divorce. If you’re looking for a counsellor, it’s worth asking whether they offer it. Relationships Australia and your GP are good places to start. If your partner won’t come, individual counselling still helps, because you get to untangle your own feelings without anyone else in the room. If you’ve already tried counselling and nothing shifted, that counts as information. It doesn’t mean you didn’t try hard enough. And if you both land on ending it, [conscious uncoupling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/conscious-uncoupling/) is one way couples finish things with less blame. ## ****What Happens Next If You Decide Your Marriage Is Over**** Deciding it’s over doesn’t mean doing everything this week. The first steps are small, and most of them can happen quietly. 1. Tell one safe person. A friend, a sister, a counsellor, or the mums in The Single Mum Vine, the Beanstalk Mums community group, who’ve stood exactly where you’re standing. 2. Gather your documents. Pay slips, bank statements, your marriage certificate and the kids’ records. If safety is a worry, keep copies somewhere your partner can’t reach. 3. Check your money picture with a financial counsellor before making big moves. 4. Learn how separation works. Australian law requires at least 12 months of separation before you can [apply for divorce](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/divorce-overview), and that time can include living under one roof with some extra paperwork. 5. Get legal advice before you sign anything. Legal Aid in your state and community legal centres can often help for free. The [first legal steps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/) look less scary once you see them written down in plain English. ![hands working through household bills with a calculator before deciding whether to separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/5-hands-working-through-household-bills-with-a-calculator-before-deciding-whether-to-separate.webp "5-hands-working-through-household-bills-with-a-calculator-before-deciding-whether-to-separate - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****You Don’t Have to Decide Tonight**** If you came here asking how to know your marriage is over, this is where I’d leave you. Watch the pattern over months, not days. Look after your own health. And let a few people in before you decide. Unless you’re unsafe, there’s no deadline on this. Whatever you decide, it’s okay to feel sad about something you chose, even when it’s the right call. Sitting with a question this big, instead of pushing it down for another year, takes courage. That courage counts, whichever way you go. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **How do you know your marriage is over?** A marriage is usually over when a pattern of relief, indifference or contempt has lasted for months and at least one partner has stopped wanting to repair things. One bad season on its own isn’t enough to tell. **How long do marriages last before separation in Australia?** Among divorces granted in Australia in 2025, the median time from marriage to separation was 9.4 years, according to the ABS. That means half of those couples had been married longer than that before they separated. **Is it a bad sign if we’ve stopped fighting?** It can be, because going quiet sometimes means one partner has stopped trying to be heard. Couples who still argue are often still invested in the outcome. **Can you be separated and still live in the same house in Australia?** Yes, you can be separated while living under one roof, and that time can count towards the 12 months of separation needed before applying for divorce. You’ll need to file affidavits showing how your relationship changed. **How do I know if my marriage is over or I’m just depressed?** Notice whether you feel flat about everything or only about your partner. If friends, hobbies and the kids feel distant too, see your GP or call Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 before making any big decision. **What should I do if I’m scared of my partner?** Put your safety and your kids’ safety first, before any decision about the marriage. Call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 any time, or 000 if you’re in immediate danger. **Should I stay in my marriage for the kids?** It depends on what home life is like for them. The Federal Circuit and Family Court’s guidance for parents says high conflict between parents raises children’s risk of emotional, social and behavioural problems, whether parents live together or apart. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-to-know-marriage-is-over/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-to-know-marriage-is-over/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce --- ### [Leaking Roof Fixes: A Guide for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/leaking-roof-fixes-a-guide-for-single-mums/) **Published:** September 22, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** A ceiling stain can turn an ordinary week into a round of phone calls, quotes, and heavy worries about the family budget. When you are the solo parent organising the repair while juggling school pickups, work, and the mental load of managing a household on a single income, a clear explanation of what actually needs fixing is absolutely worth asking for. A leak does not automatically mean you need a brand-new roof. Before agreeing to a costly replacement, ask a roofer to identify the exact cause and explain your repair options. On many tiled roofs, that conversation includes a layer called “sarking”. Understanding its job can help you assess a quote with confidence, without feeling like you have to become a roofing expert overnight. ## What is roof sarking Roof sarking is a membrane installed beneath the roof covering. Under tiles, it acts as a second weather barrier, catching water that gets past the tiles and directing it towards the gutter. CSR Bradford describes this drainage function in its tiled roof sarking guidance (source 1 below). You may have seen a foil-faced version in a roof photo, but membranes differ. The right product depends on the roof and the conditions it has to manage. Ask the roofer what they propose to use and why it suits your house. ![Leaking Roof Fixes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Picture2-1067x800.png "Leaking Roof Fixes - Beanstalk Mums") *The membrane sits directly beneath the timber battens that carry the tiles. If it is missing or torn, water that gets past a tile has nowhere to go but the ceiling.* Sarking does not repair a cracked tile or a faulty flashing, the metal that seals a roof junction. Those problems still need attention. Its condition is one part of an inspection, alongside the tiles, the junctions, the drainage and the supporting timber. ## Start with an explanation of the leak Tell the roofer when you first noticed the stain, whether it changes after rain and what repairs have already been attempted. Dated photos taken safely inside the house can help explain the pattern. Keep any previous quotes together so you do not have to reconstruct the history on every visit. Ask for inspection photos with the problem marked or explained. Useful questions include: where is water entering, what needs repairing, and what evidence supports the proposed work? If sarking is missing or damaged, ask how that relates to this particular leak. A quote should connect the diagnosis to the repair. A statement that a roof is old, by itself, gives you little basis for choosing between a small repair and extensive work. If the explanation is unclear and the roof can safely wait, a second inspection may help you compare the options. ## Can sarking be added to an existing tiled roof Often, yes. Where the tiles are still serviceable, a roofer can lift them from the section that leaks, fit new [sarking under the tiles](https://aussieroofrepairs.com.au/roof-sarking-installation-sydney/), replace any rotted battens and put the same tiles back. Getting to the right position beneath the tiles means lifting them, so the condition of the tiles and the timber underneath decides how big the job is. The roofer should assess whether one section can be treated or whether a larger scope is necessary. *A retrofit in progress: tiles lifted and stacked on the new battens, ready to go back on over the fresh sarking. Reusing sound tiles is what keeps a section repair well below the cost of a re-roof.* If many tiles cannot be reused, or significant timber repairs are needed, the comparison changes. Ask for the reasons behind each option and the likely remaining life of the roof you would be keeping. Replacing more of the roof is sometimes the sensible call, but you should be able to understand why. ## Compare the work included in each quote An online price for a roll of membrane tells you very little about the installed cost. A retrofit also involves access, handling tiles and dealing with whatever is found underneath. Quotes become easier to compare when they describe the same area and the same work. As a guide, sarking only the section that leaks on a Sydney tiled roof is typically quoted in the low thousands, while stripping and re-sarking a whole roof runs into the mid teens. An inspection that narrows the scope to the section that actually leaks can be the difference between those two figures. Ask each roofer to put the following in writing: - Which roof sections are included and which are excluded. - The membrane proposed and the reason for choosing it. - Whether tile breakage, battens and other identified repairs are included. - How newly discovered damage will be photographed, priced and approved. - The total price, including GST, access arrangements and rubbish removal. Also ask what the warranty covers and who to contact if the leak returns. A material warranty and a workmanship warranty cover different things; the written terms should explain what you are being offered. If the full scope is beyond your current budget, ask whether any work can safely be staged. Get the temporary measure, its limitations and the next recommended step recorded. An emergency patch and a lasting repair have different purposes, even when both stop the dripping for a while. ![Leaking Roof Fixes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Picture1-1067x800.png "Leaking Roof Fixes - Beanstalk Mums") ## Plan the visit around your household The practical arrangements deserve space in the conversation too. Ask whether you need to be home throughout the work, which areas need to stay clear and how you will receive updates. Give the contractor your school pickup window so an approval call does not become a missed call and a delay. Agree on a safe route for children and pets, away from ladders, stacked materials and the work area. Ask about noise before planning a work call or a toddler’s nap. If parking or access is shared, find out what neighbours need to know. Ask how the roof will be protected if rain interrupts the job and who will contact you if the schedule changes. Clear arrangements make it easier to judge the disruption alongside the price. ## If water is coming in now Safety comes before photographing damage or comparing quotes. Keep children away from the affected area and leave roof access to trained professionals. During a storm, follow your local emergency service’s advice. If water is near electrical fittings or a ceiling appears unsafe, keep clear and get urgent professional help (source 2 below). If you rent, report the leak promptly to the property manager or landlord and send any photos you can take safely. You can ask what inspection and repairs are being arranged without organising roof work yourself. ## Leave the inspection with a clear next step Before the roofer leaves, ask them to explain the recommendation in ordinary language: what has failed, what they will do, and why that scope suits the roof. Request the photos and the written quote so you can read them when you have a quiet moment. Sarking may be part of the answer, or the inspection may point to another repair. What matters is having enough information to approve the work with confidence, including the cost and the arrangements for your family while it happens. ## About the author Joshua Liptak runs Aussie Roof Repairs, a licensed Sydney roofing business (NSW Licence 488966C) working across the Sutherland Shire, St George and greater Sydney. ## Sources 1\. CSR Bradford, [Thermoseal Tile Roof Sarking](https://www.csrbradford.com.au/products/roof-sarking/vapour-barrier-sarking/thermoseal-tile-roof-sarking) 2\. NSW SES, [During a storm](https://www.ses.nsw.gov.au/during-emergency/during-storm) \**For more home maintenance articles and ways to look after your home like a proper tradie, check out these articles*; [Is Investing in a Reliable Plumbing Service Worth It?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-investing-in-a-reliable-plumbing-service-worth-it/) [7 Essential Home Maintenance Tips to Properly Look After Your New House](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-investing-in-a-reliable-plumbing-service-worth-it/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/leaking-roof-fixes-a-guide-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/leaking-roof-fixes-a-guide-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Ultimate Halloween Decorations For You (Plus Easy DIY Ideas)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-decorations-australia/) **Published:** September 21, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Find the best Halloween decorations in Australia to buy online, plus easy DIY ideas single mums can make with the kids for a spooky, fun home this October. **Content:** Are you ready to get spooky at home? I know I am! Every year, my kids and I absolutely love putting up Halloween decorations, and it’s one of our favourite parts of the season. We make it fun and easy, from picking out the perfect pumpkin to figuring out our handmade craft projects. And trust me, you don’t need to be a Pinterest pro! We’ve found that simple, budget-friendly, but spooktacular ideas, like turning old jars into ghost lanterns, bring the magic. So, if you’re looking to transform your space with some cheap and easy Halloween charms, let’s jump into some of the ideas I’ve loved! *By the way, we were featured in a Redfin article! Check it out here:* [*DIY Halloween Decorations, Arts and Crafts for Kids to Decorate Your Home*](https://www.redfin.com/blog/halloween-crafts-for-kids/) **You don’t need a big budget to get your home Halloween-ready. Mix a few affordable pieces from Big W and Kogan with easy DIY crafts the kids can help make, like mason jar mummy lanterns and paper bats, and you’ll have the yard, front door and indoors covered without going overboard.** **Quick Takeaways**: - **Yard and porch:** The Rest in Pieces tombstone, the witch-hit-a-tree ornament and a USB pumpkin neon light make a big impact with very little set-up. - **Front door:** Go bold with the No One Leaves door decorator, or keep it cheeky with the witch legs wreath. - **Indoors:** Drape a spider web cloth over the mantel, put a vampire blood candle on the table, and hang bat and spider decorations from the ceiling. - **On a tight budget:** DIY it. An old white sheet makes a hanging ghost, and mason jars wrapped in gauze with battery candles become mummy lanterns. - **Get the kids involved:** Setting up the yard and hanging paper bats is half the fun for them. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy a decoration through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change which products we recommend or what we say about them. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ## **Spooky Halloween Decorations for 2026** ## **1. Perfect for your yard: Rest in Pieces tombstone** I grabbed the Rest in Pieces tombstone styrofoam decor last year, and it’s been a hit in our house! My kids had a blast helping me set it up on the front lawn, and honestly, it couldn’t have been easier. Just pop it into the ground, and you have an instant sinister vibe. It’s lightweight but holds up surprisingly well, even on those windy nights. The design is eerie but not too scary, which was great for our family-friendly setup. [![Rest in Pieces tombstone | Halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Rest-in-pieces-skeleton.jpg "Rest in pieces skeleton - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/7XVNrV) Get product details here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/7XVNrV) ## **2. No One Leaves Door Decorator** I bet even introverts will hesitate to go inside with this … or not. After all, kids do the exact opposite of what you say. They won’t be able to resist this bloody threat. With this invitation to the dark side, brave trick-or-treaters will surely flock to your porch. Fill your living room with candy and chocolates so they really don’t want to leave. Of course, you can DIY this one with red paint and get the help of your kiddos with the handprints. But that will mean you will have to repaint your front door after Halloween! [![No One Leaves door decorator](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/44436449329182-Edited.jpg "44436449329182 - Edited - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/B59Ma0) Get product details here:[ Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/B59Ma0) ## **3. Best for your front porch: Halloween pumpkin neon light** Pumpkins steal the show every Halloween. But instead of traditional carved ones, why not add a little twist and get a pumpkin neon light, instead?! This festive but chilling display is USB-powered, so you can easily mount it on the window or your front porch. [![Halloween pumpkin neon light](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/catzon-halloween-pumpkin-neon-light-decor-usb-powered-for-window-wall-party-8988249_00-1.jpg "catzon-halloween-pumpkin-neon-light-decor-usb-powered-for-window-wall-party-8988249_00 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/YVYaPK) Get product details here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/YVYaPK) ## **4. Best outdoor Halloween decor pick: Witch hit a tree** We all love making fun of these evil witches on Halloween, don’t we? Maybe she needs prescription glasses or you should’ve turned the lights on. But good riddance, because she failed to get the children! If you don’t have a tree in your yard, you can install this funny Halloween ornament on a lamppost or a pillar on your porch. Don’t forget to leave her broom on the ground – as they say, the devil is in the details. [![Witch Hit A Tree Halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/1-d93738ecb1-wong-way-witch-tree-hugger-91cm-91673-1.webp "1-d93738ecb1-wong-way-witch-tree-hugger-91cm-91673-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](kogan.4p72pk.net/VmYM1E) Get product details here: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/VmYM1E) ## **Cheap Halloween decor ideas (cont.)** ## **5. Spider web fireplace cloth** I didn’t forget to pick interior inspirations to decorate and transform your crib into a haunted house! Just drape this sinister mantel over your fireplace, doorway, or window. It could be your dining room, balcony, OR why not every room in your home! It will definitely spook anyone who dares to enter your house! [![Spider web fireplace cloth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-9.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](kogan.4p72pk.net/Vmz0PA) Get product details here: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/Vmz0PA) ## **6. Best garland pick: Witch Halloween wreath** I just can’t get enough of this kind of ornaments! This garland is made from durable cloth. It’s tough enough to withstand the elements, so you can use it year after year. I hung mine on the front door, and those little witch’s legs sticking out had everyone laughing. The lace edges and bow give it a cute twist, ideal for indoor or outdoor use. I even used it for our Halloween party in the backyard, and it totally set the mood. If you’re looking for a unique decoration that’s a little cheeky, this wreath won’t disappoint! [![Halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/e75a4b75-12de-4d86-bda5-2149129a150f.jpg "e75a4b75-12de-4d86-bda5-2149129a150f - Beanstalk Mums")](bigw.sjv.io/MmGWeJ) Get product details here: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/MmGWeJ) ## **7. Haunted house pick: Hanging ghost** I admit, even I was spooked by this ghostly skull-faced decor. This oversized ghoul will definitely make a spooky first impression on your Halloween gathering! Of course, if the price is a little heavy on the wallet, you can always use an old white sheet! That will do the trick! [![Hanging ghost](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-6.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](kogan.4p72pk.net/GmP2WV) Get product details here: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/GmP2WV) ## **8. Halloween table pick: Vampire blood candle** My next pick is perfect for your Halloween table! This candle literally bleeds when lit, adding a seriously creepy touch to your indoors. Lighting it up will definitely spice up the scene. If you’re up for it, you can also place it outdoors. I would line up plenty of these candles along my patio so the whole neighbourhood can feel the chill (evil laugh)! [![Vampire blood candle | Halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-7.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](kogan.4p72pk.net/xkVRdA) Get product details here: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/xkVRdA) ## **9. Bat and Spider ceiling decoration** If you’re out of creative ideas, you can’t go wrong with the classic bat and spider decor! You can also use it as a finishing touch to your home’s Halloween makeover. Guests will enjoy looking at these mini creepers for sure! They won’t even know they’re fake. Thank me later (wink)! [![Halloween Latte Art Charms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/Halloween-latte-art-charms-800x800.jpg "Halloween latte art charms - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/en2WX6) Get product details here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/en2WX6) ## **Bonus: Easy DIY Halloween decoration** If you need to watch what you spend, why not create your own ornaments?! Doing some DIY crafts will give your home a spooky twist without breaking the bank! Grab some mason jars, toss in battery-operated candles or string lights, and wrap them in gauze to create adorable little mummy lanterns. For extra flair, stick on some googly eyes, and boom—you’ve got yourself a cute (and slightly creepy) ornament that’ll light up the night. Hang a few paper bats from the ceiling, and you’ve turned your space into a haunted house in minutes! This DIY is a fang-tastic way to get into the Halloween spirit with minimal effort. ***Further reading:** [Halloween craft ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/)* ## **Summary: Halloween decorations in Australia** I know Halloween decorations are all about keeping it simple but fun. It doesn’t have to be a big production. You can either turn your space into a mini haunted house or just add a few creepy touches for fun. After years of celebrating Halloween with little kids, I found that there’s something for every style and budget. My picks and tips above will create a fun atmosphere for your kids without going overboard. My go-to is grabbing some string lights, maybe carving a cheeky pumpkin, and letting the kids help hang paper bats from the ceiling. Plus, the kids love watching the house transform with all the spooky touches. A little creativity goes a long way, and before you know it, your home’s a Halloween wonderland they’ll be talking about for years! Happy haunting! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-decorations-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-decorations-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** pumpkins, witches, skeletons --- ### [How to Shop for a Family Car: Key Research & Buying Strategies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-shop-for-a-family-car-key-research-buying-strategies/) **Published:** September 19, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Buying a family car is always a challenging endeavour. Fears of being taken advantage of by sellers or [buying a secondhand vehicle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/) without the right modern safety features can result in families putting off the decision until it’s too late, and you’re taking Ubers to do the school run. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this guide, we’ll share our top tips for finding the right family vehicle, including some of our tried and tested car shopping and long-term budgeting strategies for single-income households. ## Research Before Meeting with Any Sellers or Sales Staff Walking into a car dealership unprepared can cost you more than you might think possible. Dealers can often sense uncertainty and use this to their advantage (i.e. by swaying you in the direction they’d like you to proceed down, rather than what’s best for you and your family). For this reason, it’s crucial to walk in armed with independent research, and a clear picture of what you need for your family. Thankfully, you can find plenty of third-party [car reviews](https://www.racv.com.au/car-match.html) online, allowing you to research and compare cars with 100% unbiased information. Here, you’ll find estimated running costs, be able to compare features and specs, and even view car financing options, all of which can help you shortlist three to five vehicles within a well-defined price range before you even head to a dealership. Parents are also advised to assess customer reviews to gauge vehicle reliability, long-term ownership costs, performance of safety features, and other general feedback from real, verified vehicle owners. Be sure to bookmark, screenshot, or take notes about review summaries to bring with you when meeting with any independent car sellers or sales staff at your local dealership. Keeping all the essential facts you need on hand can help you feel prepared when it does come time to negotiate. ![Family car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Pexels-gustavo-fring-4173192-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gustavo-fring-4173192 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by gustavo fring](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/happy-woman-with-daughter-checking-car-wheel-in-car-showroom-4173192/) ## Set a Realistic Buying Budget – And Stick to It! All single parents learn how to master the [art of budget balancing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/), predominantly out of sheer necessity. But ongoing expenses can throw even the most organised budgets for a loop, and that includes car ownership-related expenses like vehicle maintenance, repairs, and car loan repayments for those looking to purchase their next family car using auto financing. So when deciding how much you can afford to invest in a vehicle, keep a few things in mind. Calculate the total cost of ownership beyond monthly payments. Every car, whether new or used, will come with different insurance fees, fuel, charging, and maintenance costs. Using your research-based shortlist, create a spreadsheet with each of these expenses in mind. This will help you visualise what each option will *really* cost you. One smart money guide you can use when setting a budget is the 20/4/10 rule – pay 20% of the car’s total upfront price in cash, take a loan for four years or less, and ensure the total car costs are less than 10 percent of your total gross monthly income. ## Choose a New or Used Car to Fit Your Budget Buying a new car has its pros and cons, as does buying secondhand. It’s up to individual car shoppers to determine what perceived benefits and disadvantages they’re willing to take on once all the paperwork has been signed. For instance, new car sales have the advantage of being accompanied by full warranties and better financing rates. New cars themselves also offer the latest technology and safety features, making them more suitable for young families. But naturally, new cars also come at a premium. They sell for higher purchase prices, but their resale value rapidly depreciates as soon as you drive them off the lot. While used cars often have unknown histories that can lead to higher long-term maintenance costs, they are often significantly cheaper to purchase overall, giving you more bang for your buck. Reliability history matters more than age – that’s where your research comes in. Choose a model that’s recognised for its long and healthy lifespan, with real reviews to match. The general consensus is that a certified and *slightly* used vehicle (i.e. only 1-2 years old) is the sweet spot between the two for families looking to maintain access to state-of-the-art safety features. Almost new models are also more likely to still be under manufacturer warranty, with a substantially lower ticket price to boot. ## Prioritise the Features that Matter for Kids A few safety features should be on every parent’s list. Cars with reverse cameras, blind-spot monitoring, ABS braking, adaptive cruise control, and child presence alerts can take some of the pressure off when you’re trying to drive safely. You’ll need to ensure that there’s sufficient seat space for your children, especially if one or more are currently using a car seat. The size of your car seats and how easy it is to load the kids also matters. Sliding doors with low step-in heights can make loading up and heading out much less of a hassle. Here are a few other practical things to add to your [car-buying checklist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-key-considerations-for-buying-a-family-car/). ## Test Drive With Your Real Life in Mind Finally, the best way to make sure you’re not buying a lemon is to take the vehicle out for a spin. If possible, consider bringing your kids (and their car seats) along to the test drive as well. Simulate your actual daily routine. How easy is it to buckle in the kids? To parallel park near the school? To load heavy grocery bags into the boot? Does the stroller fit? Are the brakes a bit too touchy to use with a sleeping baby in the car? Can inevitable messes be easily cleaned? Arrive at each test drive with a checklist of ‘must-haves’, ‘prefers’, and ‘absolutely nots’ and see how each car aligns with your needs. Make your decision based on real life, and don’t buy anything you’re not confident in. ## Key Takeaways Buying a car for your family doesn’t have to feel like climbing a mountain. Remember these tips to reduce stress and save money when shopping for your next car: - Knowledge is power! Research reliable car reviews before heading to the dealership so you know exactly what to look for and can reduce stress and pressure. - Set a realistic budget for your single-income household, keeping the 20/4/10 rule in mind for smart financial planning. - Weigh the pros and cons to decide whether a new or used car is right for your family. - Prioritise the features that matter for driving kids, as you’re often the only adult in the car. Worry less, drive more safely. - Test drive with your real life in mind, including all the lovable little ones, their essentials, and their messes. - Negotiate with confidence. You’ve done the research, you’ve set your budget – you’re ready to shop! And remember, no decision needs to be made immediately. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-shop-for-a-family-car-key-research-buying-strategies/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-shop-for-a-family-car-key-research-buying-strategies/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Shopping --- ### [Stuck In A Job? How To Escape The 9-to-5 Trap](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/escape-the-9-to-5-trap/) **Published:** September 17, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Feeling stuck by a lack of time, money, and confidence keeps many single mums trapped. They stay in jobs that drain them. They feel like they have zero choices. In this episode, WeView founder Sabrina shares her raw story. She breaks down exactly how to overcome the fear of having no safety net. She shows you how to escape the 9-to-5 trap. She even shares how to scale a tech business while solo parenting. You can build your dream without burning out. Listen here… ## **The Fear of the Missing Safety Net** Let us talk about the big fear. You want to start a business. You have a great idea. But you only have one income. A dual-income household has a safety net. If one person takes a big risk, the other pays the rent. The other buys the groceries. Single mums do not have that luxury. You are the sole provider. The pressure is massive. You hold the entire world on your shoulders. Because of this, many mums feel trapped in jobs they hate. They stay because the steady paycheck is safe. They want more time with their kids. They want flexible hours. They want to build something of their own. But the lack of money stops them cold. The lack of free time stops them. The lack of confidence stops them. Starting a business feels like a huge risk. It feels like you are gambling with your child’s future. Sabrina understands this deep fear. She lived it every single day. She had an idea for a tech business called WeView. But she was a single mum on the Gold Coast. She had a busy toddler. The odds looked terrible. The deck felt completely stacked against her. Taking the leap felt crazy. But she did it anyway. She proves that your dream is not impossible. You just need a smarter plan. ## Why the Girl-boss Myth is a Complete Lie The startup world loves to talk about the hustle. They tell you to work all night long. They tell you to grind on the weekends. They call it the “girlboss” lifestyle. They say you just need to work harder than everyone else. This advice is absolute garbage for single mums. It is a lie. You cannot work 24 hours a day. You have a young child who needs you. You cannot skip sleep to write a business plan. If you try to hustle like a 20-year-old with no kids, you will burn out. Your health will crash. Your child will suffer. The traditional tech industry was not built for single mothers. It was built for people with lots of free time and lots of money. This means you must write your own rules. You need a completely different playbook. Success does not come from working around the clock. Success comes from extreme focus. You must be ruthless with your time. You must learn to work smart, not long. Sabrina shows us that you can build a massive company in the tiny margins of your day. ## How to Ruthlessly Audit Your Energy When you have a toddler and a business idea, time is your rarest resource. You cannot waste a single minute. You cannot afford to do busy work. Sabrina survives the startup pressure by setting hard limits on her time. First, you must audit your energy. You need to look at every single task on your daily list. Ask yourself one brutal question: Does this task actually make money? You must separate the tasks that move the needle from the noise. Ignore the administrative noise. You do not need a perfect logo right now. You do not need a fancy office desk. You do not need complex spreadsheets. You need paying customers. You need cash flow. Focus only on what keeps the lights on today. Let everything else go. If a task does not grow the business or keep your child happy, cross it off the list immediately. You have to be okay with leaving things undone. Perfect is the enemy of done. Single mums must master the art of doing just enough to move forward. Done is always better than perfect. ## Owning Your Unpolished Moments You will have messy days. It is a simple fact. A toddler will interrupt an important phone call. A baby will cry during a Zoom pitch. Your house will look like a disaster zone in the background of your video. Do not apologise for your reality. Stop saying sorry. Embrace the unpolished moments. The corporate world tells women to hide their kids. They tell you to act like you have no responsibilities at home. This act is exhausting. It drains your precious energy. Sabrina says you must own the chaos. If her toddler acts up, she deals with it calmly. She does not pretend her life is perfect. People respect honesty. Investors respect true resilience. If you can handle a screaming toddler while pitching a tech startup, you can handle a difficult client. Use your reality as proof of your strength. Your ability to juggle chaos is your superpower. Do not hide it. ![boss mum - Stuck Escape The 9-to-5 Trap](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/In-article-images-2026-09-17t200403%20556.jpg "Stuck In A Job? How To Escape The 9-to-5 Trap - Beanstalk Mums") ## Finding Your Micro-Community Building a business alone is lonely. Being a single mum is also lonely. When you combine the two, the isolation can feel completely crushing. You might be the only single mother in the room. You might be the only woman pitching an idea to a room full of men. This isolation can trigger massive self-doubt. It can make you want to quit entirely. You must combat this loneliness immediately. You need to find your micro-community. Connect with other female founders. Find women who understand the exact weight of carrying it all solo. They do not need to be in your specific industry. They just need to understand your daily life. Text them when you feel stuck. Celebrate tiny wins with them. A small, strong circle of three women is much better than a huge network of strangers. ## The 60-Second Triage Tool Every single mum has days where everything goes wrong at once. The overwhelm hits its absolute peak. Your toddler is melting down on the floor. Your bank account is running low. A client needs an answer right now. You feel like you cannot breathe. When this happens, Sabrina uses a rapid mental reset. She calls it the 60-second triage. Here is exactly how to do it: - **Stop and breathe:** Pause whatever you are doing and take one single minute for yourself. - **Brain dump everything:** Grab a simple pen and paper. Write down every single thing screaming for your attention. Get it all out of your head. - **Be ruthless:** Look at that list. Violently cross out anything that does not keep the business alive today. Cross out anything that does not keep your child safe today. - **Delete the rest:** You will be left with one or two real priorities. Everything else is delegated, delayed, or deleted. This simple tool brings you back to reality. It stops the rising panic. It gives you back your control. ## **The Gold Nugget:** > “Being in the trenches, running a business and all the rest that goes with living, to then have a chance and talk to people like Sabrina, it’s just food for the soul.” — *Elle, Host of Real Talk for Single Mums* --- ## Links for this episode: 🤝 Connect with Sabrina: <https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabrina-isabel-thompson> 🧭 Explore WeView: <https://www.weview.com.au> 💲Become a WeViewer: <https://www.weview.com.au/become-a-weviewer> 🎧 Prefer to listen to our episodes: APPLE <https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beanstalk-real-talk-for-single-mums/id1226897925> OR SPOTIFY <https://open.spotify.com/show/6SMV0pRwQZ1CzL5wPepOan?si=becd44e81d424f2b> 👯‍♀️ Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! 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As single mums, we’ve already got enough on our plates. So, the idea of spending hours making Pinterest-perfect treats? Nope, it’s not happening! But don’t worry, you don’t have to be a pro chef to whip up some Halloween magic. My picks for easy-to-make Halloween food below are perfect for busy mums like us. They require minimum effort and are sure to impress your little monsters (or your guests if you’re hosting a party). ## **20 Easy Halloween Recipes** ## **1. Tangerine pumpkins & banana ghosts** What could be simpler than this Halloween food recipe? Tangerine pumpkins and banana ghosts require only four ingredients, so that you can whip up a spooky and healthy treat in no time … and it’s healthy to boot. ![Tangerine pumpkins & banana ghosts | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/1000014859.jpg "1000014859 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Weelicious](https://weelicious.com/tangerine-pumpkins-banana-ghosts-fruity-halloween/) ## **2. Zombie cookies (Better than crackers!)** Your Day of the Dead platter will not be complete without these frightful but yummy treats. Just bake a few purple and green cookies and grab some candy eyes. The candy eyes will bring your “zombies” to life. These eerie cookies will be a hit with the kids, and you’ll look like a Halloween kitchen hero with minimal effort. ![Zombie cookies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/22c8de06-7a30-4467-bd67-43ae9093d4d1.jpg "22c8de06-7a30-4467-bd67-43ae9093d4d1 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Klein Worth Co](https://www.kleinworthco.com/zombie-cookies/) ## 3. **Monster burgers** Using tomato and olive halves to make these scary googly eyes is ingenious. The better if you can find buns in other colours, like green for zombies or white for bloodless vampires. Your kids will have fun choosing the monster they’d like to tackle. ![Monster burgers | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/b4000b71-d4aa-47c6-8223-a5cf28deaa5d.jpg "b4000b71-d4aa-47c6-8223-a5cf28deaa5d - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/monster-burgers/vh28nmfi?r=recipes/halloweenrecipes&c=7adde6d8-1ed4-4d4c-a2da-e88d307cdeea/Halloween+recipes) ## **4. Witch hats and broomsticks (Yes, they’re edible!)** Now, this one requires a teensy bit of effort. For the hats, dip the biscuits in melted chocolate, top them with a chocolate cone, and let them set. For the broomsticks, use a pretzel stick as the handle and wrap the licorice around one end for the bristles. These spooky treats are quick to whip up and sure to be a hit! ![Witch hats and broomsticks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/b3267935-7206-4580-ab5b-6e6e2262aa4c-1067x800.jpg "b3267935-7206-4580-ab5b-6e6e2262aa4c - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Women’s Weekly](https://www.womensweeklyfood.com.au/recipe/baking/witches-hats-and-broomsticks-12389/) ## **5. Jack-o-Lantern cheese ball** This was actually one great idea that I tried last year. And guess what?! It was a blockbuster! Just fry up some bacon until crispy, then mix it with cheese, cream cheese, onion, salsa, cumin, and jalapeno. Shape it into a ball, wrap it up, and chill for an hour. Once firm, roll it in crushed corn chips for a crunchy finish. For the final touch, pop a capsicum stem on top to make it look like a pumpkin. Serve with corn chips or veggie sticks for a fun party snack! ![Jack-o-Lantern cheese ball | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/928e3692-a0db-4a4a-90b9-09ad03e9d0cd-1067x800.jpg "928e3692-a0db-4a4a-90b9-09ad03e9d0cd - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Sunpork Foods](https://sunporkfreshfoods.com.au/recipes/mexican-jack-o-lantern-bacon-cheese-ball/) ## **Halloween cocktails and appetisers (cont.)** ## **6. Eyeball spaghetti** Turn dinner into a feast with this spooky Halloween spaghetti – creepy meatballs garnished with mozzarella “eyeballs” staring up from a bed of blood-red marinara! It’s yummy, frightful, and takes only about 35 minutes to make! ![Eyeball spaghetti](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/f9ffefd1-9219-4594-a93f-8648d84a823a.jpg "f9ffefd1-9219-4594-a93f-8648d84a823a - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Coles](https://www.favfamilyrecipes.com/spaghetti-and-eyeballs/) ## **7. Vampire freak shake** Sink your fangs into this over-the-top milkshake. It may look gruesome, but it actually tastes good! It’s super easy to make, and both the young and the grown-ups can have it! All you need is red food colouring or syrup, vanilla ice cream, milk, and your choice of sprinkles! ![Vampire freak shake | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/f8d86d32-9f5e-4273-a845-287c38b21606.jpg "f8d86d32-9f5e-4273-a845-287c38b21606 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Woolworths](https://www.woolworths.com.au/shop/recipes/vampire-freakshake?icmpid=sm-article-halloween-cocktails-and-finger-food) ## **8. Spooky spider web cheesecake** Do your kids want cheesecake on Halloween? Make this one. It takes a while to prepare and bake, but the end result is worth it! Have the little hands help you with the dishes or simple mixing tasks! ![Spooky spider web cheesecake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/ccd1d736-e202-41e7-8b6d-84108c99be50-1.jpg "ccd1d736-e202-41e7-8b6d-84108c99be50 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/no-bake-spiderweb-cheesecake/ea9c445b-a01b-4aa8-a27d-810488f2cbad) ## **9. RIP Halloween cupcakes** These cupcakes are a yummy way to turn your dining table into a graveyard. If you want your little necropolis to be lush and fresh, a matcha frosting will be a delight. ![RIP Halloween cupcakes | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/b587db9e-7d4c-4aea-b848-220c22d2711d.jpg "b587db9e-7d4c-4aea-b848-220c22d2711d - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ The Inspiration Edit](https://www.theinspirationedit.com/rip-halloween-cupcakes/) ## **10. Best cake pick: Halloween chocolate mousse** Serve up simple, healthy Halloween food with this mousse recipe by Sam Wood. Raw cacao, dark chocolate, coconut cream and kale make for a sweet, decadent treat. ![Halloween chocolate mousse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/5033b01c-182b-4b68-8968-fc6773015dc0.jpg "5033b01c-182b-4b68-8968-fc6773015dc0 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ 28 by Sam Wood](https://recipes.28bysamwood.com/recipe/spooky-halloween-chocolate-mousse/) ## **Halloween food ideas** ## **11. Meringue ghosts** A cute meringue ghost is as simple as it gets when it comes to Halloween food. Making the meringue is actually pretty easy, and prep time is about 1.5 hours. ![Meringue ghosts | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/2dc066d6-df36-4212-a3d8-703a86c3b258.jpg "2dc066d6-df36-4212-a3d8-703a86c3b258 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ My Baking Addiction](https://www.mybakingaddiction.com/meringue-ghosts/) ## **12. Best appetiser pick: Apple bites** If you want healthy Halloween food that’s a cinch to prepare, these apple bites are right on the money. Simply slice the apples, add nut butter or jam and decorate with slivered almonds. ![Apple bites](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/8f98774a-fd5f-4d7e-9c6e-b00648893ff9.jpg "8f98774a-fd5f-4d7e-9c6e-b00648893ff9 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ Oh She Glows](https://ohsheglows.com/2012/10/15/3-ingredient-halloween-apple-bites/) ## **13. Marshmallow bats (Better than jelly!)** These marshmallow bats are the perfect bite-sized Halloween desserts. They’re soft, gooey marshmallows dipped in chocolate and decorated with candy wings and eyes. They’re a breeze to make and will have your little monsters flying back for more! It’s perfect for a party hosted by the busy mum this Halloween. ![Marshmallow bats | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/ec79051a-7ab3-4e95-ae7f-de6301ca8425.jpg "ec79051a-7ab3-4e95-ae7f-de6301ca8425 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [Donna Hay](https://www.donnahay.com.au/recipes/kids/halloween-marshmallow-bats) ## **14. Healthy Halloween nachos (Best with dip)** These homemade nachos are a great way to sneak in some healthy, savoury goodness on this sugar-laden day. Get a bunch of Halloween-themed cookie cutters and have your kids help cut the tortilla wraps into their favourite spooky designs. [![Healthy halloween nachos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/healthy_halloween_tortilla_253-5720c17.webp "healthy_halloween_tortilla_253-5720c17 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/healthy-halloween-nachos) Learn how to do it here:[ BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/healthy-halloween-nachos) ## **15. Hot dog mummies (Get your cheeseboard ready!)** Here’s another cute mummy recipe on our list of simple Halloween food. It’s super quick to make with the refrigerated crescent rolls. ![Hot dog mummies | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Hot-Dog-Mummies-1200x600.jpg "Hot-Dog-Mummies - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ Dietz & Watson](https://www.dietzandwatson.com/recipes/hot-dog-mummies) ## **Halloween party food ideas (cont.)** ## **16. Mandarin pumpkins** This mandarin-filled recipe is one of the easiest and healthiest on our list of Halloween food. All you need is mandarins, a Sharpie, and imagination. ![Mandarin pumpkins](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/ea69b18b-1a34-4187-9df2-9a7f47be67ad.jpg "ea69b18b-1a34-4187-9df2-9a7f47be67ad - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ Design Intuition](https://designintuition.co/food-design-5-easy-halloween-food-ideas/) ## **17. Cocktail pick: Halloween ghost hard-boiled egg party snacks** Here’s another super easy recipe that kids will love. They’ll love turning the humble, hard-boiled egg into a ghoulish snack. ![Halloween ghost hard-boiled egg party snacks | Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/308b4abe-00ee-45fc-bf27-0884f20f7897.jpg "308b4abe-00ee-45fc-bf27-0884f20f7897 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ On My Kids Plate](https://onmykidsplate.com/ghost-hard-boiled-eggs-halloween-snacks/) ## **18. Candy apple substitute: Halloween ghost fruit kebabs** Fruit kebabs are a must-have on our Halloween table. This recipe dresses up the kababs with marshmallow ghosts. ![Halloween ghost fruit kebabs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/353570ab-edd2-4693-af62-5a03d434671d.jpg "353570ab-edd2-4693-af62-5a03d434671d - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/spooky-fruit-kebabs-recipe/fnx9eg8v) ## **19. Yummiest dipper pick: S’mores trifles** Kids will have a blast making these easy s’mores trifles. Don’t forget to prepare melted dark and white chocolate for dipping! Your house will definitely smell like a birthday party! ![S'mores trifles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/1000014868.png "1000014868 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here: [SBS Food](https://www.sbs.com.au/food/recipe/spooky-smores-trifles/0arbm74zx) ## **20. Brownie spiders** Halloween food should look and taste amazing. These simple chocolatey spiders tick all the boxes and require just four ingredients: brownies, chocolate chips, pretzels and candy eyeballs. ![Brownie spiders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/2e64d9e8-437a-429e-800e-ee1a88d39789.jpg "2e64d9e8-437a-429e-800e-ee1a88d39789 - Beanstalk Mums") Learn how to do it here:[ Suburban Simplicity](https://www.suburbansimplicity.com/brownie-spiders/) ## **Summary: Halloween treats** Halloween this year will surely be a busy time. And I know you don’t want to fill your charcuterie board with store-bought Halloween desserts. What I do is I start planning early so I won’t have to spend days in the kitchen (that’s actually an exaggeration, lol). But if you want to make something frighteningly festive, my picks above will help you skip the kitchen chaos and still bring plenty of spooky fun to the table. They’re quick, simple, and perfect for busy single mums who want to enjoy the festivities as much as their kids. So, let go of the pressure to be perfect and just embrace the mess and magic of the season! So, you’ve got the food sorted; don’t stop there! We have plenty more shortcuts for you:[ Halloween made easy in five simple steps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** trick or treating, party snacks --- ### [What Do Single Mothers Struggle With The Most?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/what-single-mothers-struggle-with/) **Published:** September 14, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Single mothers struggle most with money, the mental load, and time. See the real Australian data, what actually helps, and where to find support today. **Content:** **There’s a particular kind of tiredness that comes with being the only adult in the house. So what do single mothers struggle with the most? Money comes first for most of us. But it’s rarely only money.** Underneath the bank balance sits something harder to name. Every decision lands on one person. Every bill, every school note, every sick day, every call about whether you can afford the excursion. Australian data backs the money answer. One-parent families report higher financial stress than couple families across most measures. But ask a room of single mums and the word that comes up isn’t “broke”. It’s “alone with it.” **Quick Takeaways:** - **Money is the struggle most mums name first.** One-parent families with dependent children report higher rates of financial stress than couple families across multiple ABS measures. - **Single mothers head three-quarters of one-parent families.** In June 2025 there were 1.2 million one-parent families in Australia, and 77% were headed by mothers. - **Most single mums already work.** A parent was employed in 73% of one-parent families with dependents, so a job on its own doesn’t solve the money problem. - **The mental load is the quiet one.** Being the only decision-maker wears mums down more than any single expense does. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), single mum of two and BSM contributor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ![Bills and a calculator on a kitchen bench in a single-parent home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2-bills-and-a-calculator-on-a-kitchen-bench-in-a-single-parent-home-1192x800.webp "2-bills-and-a-calculator-on-a-kitchen-bench-in-a-single-parent-home - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****What Do Single Mothers Struggle With The Most?**** Money, the mental load of being the only decision-maker, and time. Financial stress is the easiest to measure. One-parent families report higher financial stress than couple families across most Australian measures. The load of sole responsibility is harder to count, but mums name it just as often. Those three feed each other. Less money means more work hours. More work hours means less time. Less time means every decision gets made while exhausted. ## **Money: The Struggle Sitting Under All The Others** Money shapes almost everything else on this list. It decides where you live, how many hours you work, and how much choice you actually have on a Tuesday afternoon. ### **What The Australian Numbers Show** In June 2025, there were [1.2 million one-parent families](https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/labour/employment-and-unemployment/labour-force-status-families/latest-release) in Australia, 16% of all families. Mothers headed 77% of them. Of the 752,000 with dependants aged 0 to 24, 79% were headed by a single mum. Most single mums work. A parent was employed in 73% of one-parent families with dependants. Work is not the missing piece people assume it is. The stress shows up anyway. One-parent families with dependent children were more likely to [report higher financial stress](https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/people/people-and-communities/general-social-survey-summary-results-australia/latest-release) than couple families across multiple indicators in the 2025 General Social Survey. I used to think this was a budgeting problem. Actually, that framing isn’t right. Most single mums I know budget better than anyone I’ve met. The income is thin, and the fixed costs are not. One note on payments. I’ve left the exact Parenting Payment amount out of this article on purpose. Rates change twice a year, in March and September, so a number printed here would be out of date within months. The current figure sits on [the Parenting Payment page](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/parenting-payment), and it’s worth checking what you can claim alongside it. There’s a fuller rundown of [single parent benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/) if you want the wider picture. ## **Housing: The Cost That Changes Everything Else** Rent is the highest fixed cost most single mums carry, and it’s the one you have the least control over. It’s also the reason the money problem doesn’t respond to budgeting. Anglicare Australia’s 2026 Rental Affordability Snapshot looked at around 49,000 rental listings across the country. A person working full-time on the minimum wage could afford 0.5% of them. That’s about one listing in every two hundred. Single-parent households were among the worst affected of every household type tested. Where you live then sets everything else. The commute. Which school. Which childcare has a place. How many hours you can work before pick-up. A cheaper suburb an hour away often costs more once you add petrol, before-school care and the hours you lose. So the standard advice, just move somewhere cheaper, misses a lot. There’s the bond, the moving costs, the rental applications you’ll lose, and the disruption of changing schools mid-year. Sometimes it’s still the right call. It’s rarely the simple call people make it sound. Two things worth checking. If you get Parenting Payment, Services Australia assesses you for Rent Assistance without a separate claim, but only against the rent details they have on file, so an old figure can quietly cost you. And most state housing registers have long waits, which means joining early matters more than waiting until things get worse. ![Fridge covered in school notes and appointments showing the mental load](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3-fridge-covered-in-school-notes-and-appointments-showing-the-mental-load-1192x800.webp "3-fridge-covered-in-school-notes-and-appointments-showing-the-mental-load - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Mental Load Nobody Sees On A Roster** The mental load is the thinking, remembering and deciding that never appears on anyone’s list. In a two-parent house it can be split badly. In a single-mum house there’s no one to split it with. It looks like this. Book the dentist. Notice the shoes are too small. Remember which kid hates tomato this month. Sign the excursion form. Work out whether that noise in the car is going to be expensive. None of it is hard on its own. All of it, every day, with no second brain, is. There’s a name for what happens next: decision fatigue. It just means your judgement gets worse the more choices you’ve had to make. By 6pm you’re not choosing badly because you’re careless. You’re choosing badly because you’ve already made four hundred decisions since the alarm went off. This is the struggle mums underestimate in themselves. You can be coping fine financially and still be flattened by the deciding. If your head feels permanently full, [managing that overwhelm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/managing-overwhelm-single-mother/) is its own skill, separate from managing money. ## **Why Does Time Feel Like The One Thing You Never Get Back?** Because there’s no handover. Work hours and parenting hours don’t overlap, and there’s no second adult to absorb the gap between them. Here’s the trade-off, honestly. More work hours brings in more money and takes hours from the only person who can do the school run. Fewer hours protects the parenting and thins the income. Neither is the wrong choice. It depends on your kids’ ages, your childcare, and how flexible the work really is. If you’re close to work with school-aged kids, extra hours can stack up well. If you’re an hour away with a toddler in care, they often don’t. The cost of getting this wrong for too long is [single mum burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/), which is a real thing and not a character flaw. ## **What If You Don’t Have A Village?** Every article on this topic says build a support network. That advice quietly assumes there’s one there to build. Plenty of mums don’t have family nearby. Some have family nearby who make things harder. Some moved for a job, some moved away from something unsafe, some never had that kind of family at all. The gentler version is this. You don’t need a village. You need two or three specific people who can do one specific thing. - One person who can collect a kid in an emergency. - One person you can text at 10pm without explaining yourself. - One swap with another mum: you take her kids Saturday morning, she takes yours Sunday. That’s it. That’s the whole network. It’s much smaller than the advice implies and far more achievable. [Asking for help](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/) is usually the hard part, not the finding. ![Two single mums arranging a childcare swap in a suburban driveway](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/4-two-single-mums-arranging-a-childcare-swap-in-a-suburban-driveway.webp "4-two-single-mums-arranging-a-childcare-swap-in-a-suburban-driveway - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Loneliness, Or Something Heavier?** Most single mums feel lonely sometimes. That’s ordinary and it passes. What’s worth paying attention to is loneliness that stops lifting. Ordinary loneliness arrives in moments. The house after bedtime. The weekend the kids are at their dad’s. It has a shape and it moves on. [Coping with loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) is mostly about having something ready to fill those specific gaps. Something heavier looks different. Days when getting up feels beyond you. Not enjoying things you used to enjoy. Feeling flat for weeks rather than nights. That’s worth raising with your GP, and there’s no threshold you have to reach first. If you want to talk to someone tonight, Lifeline is on 13 11 14 and Beyond Blue is on 1300 22 4636, both 24 hours. If you’re worried about your safety or your kids’ safety, 1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732. ## **The Co-parenting Admin That Never Ends** If there’s another parent in the picture, the admin of that relationship is its own struggle. Nobody counts it and it takes real hours. Changeover messages. Chasing a yes on a school form. Working out whose weekend the birthday party falls on. Keeping a record in case you need one later. Some mums have an ex who answers texts and shows up. Some don’t. Both are common, and neither says anything about you. Where it’s tense, the thing that helps most is dull. Keep it written, keep it short, keep it about the kids. There’s more on [communicating with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) if that’s the part draining you. And for plenty of mums there’s no other parent at all. Widowed. Never-partnered. Solo by choice. A grandmother or aunt raising kids that aren’t hers by birth. That version trades the co-parenting friction for something else: no one to hand over to, ever, and a lot of forms that assume a second name. Different struggle, same weight. ## **What Actually Helps, Ranked Honestly** Not everything that gets recommended is worth your Saturday. My rough order: 1. **Claim everything you’re entitled to.** More mums miss Rent Assistance and state concessions than miss Parenting Payment. Under-claiming is quiet money left on the table, and it compounds year after year in a way an extra shift never will. Services Australia’s Payment and Service Finder is the fastest way to check. 2. **Buy back hours, not just dollars.** A childcare swap, a cleaner once a month, an earlier bedtime. Hours are the scarcer thing. 3. **Get your two or three people.** Small and specific, as above. 4. **Sort the admin systems once.** A shared calendar, one folder for documents, one spot for school notes. The setup is a pain, then it stops costing you. 5. **Fix the sleep before the self-care.** A face mask on four hours’ sleep does very little. Budgeting apps sit lower than most articles put them. They’re fine, and for many mums they mostly distract from the bigger picture, which is income and fixed costs. If your rent moved, an app won’t fix it. Charities and community organisations are underused, partly because asking feels like a bigger step than it is. The Beanstalk Mums list of [charities helping single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/charities-help-single-mothers/) covers food, education costs and crisis support. ## **What This Article Doesn’t Cover** Family law, child support disputes and property settlements. Those change the answer to nearly everything on this page, and they need advice about your actual situation, not a general article. Exact payment amounts, for the reason above. And anything state-specific. Concessions, school costs, housing registers and Legal Aid all vary a lot depending on where you live. ![Single mum setting up a shared calendar and admin system at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/5-single-mum-setting-up-a-shared-calendar-and-admin-system-at-home.webp "5-single-mum-setting-up-a-shared-calendar-and-admin-system-at-home - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****The Thing To Take From This**** So, what do single mothers struggle with the most? Money, then the weight of carrying every decision alone, then time. In that order for most of us, on most days. But the thing I’d want you to walk away with is smaller than any of that. The struggle isn’t evidence you’re doing it badly. It’s the arithmetic of one adult covering a job that was built for two. You aren’t failing at something other people find easy. Pick one thing this week. Check what you might be under-claiming, or ask one person to be your emergency contact. One is enough. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What do single mothers struggle with the most in Australia?** Money, the mental load of being the only decision-maker, and time. ABS data shows one-parent families with dependent children report higher financial stress than couple families across multiple measures. **How many single mother families are there in Australia?** In June 2025 there were 1.2 million one-parent families in Australia, making up 16% of all families. Mothers headed 77% of them. **Do most single mothers work?** Yes. A parent was employed in 73% of Australian one-parent families with dependants as of June 2025. **What do single mothers struggle with more, money or the mental load?** Money is what most mums name first, because it shapes housing, childcare and work hours. The mental load is what more mums report as the thing that actually wears them down. **Is it normal to feel lonely as a single mum?** Yes, and it usually arrives in specific moments like the house after bedtime or a weekend without the kids. Loneliness that doesn’t lift for weeks is worth raising with your GP. **Where can a single mum get support in Australia?** Services Australia handles payments and concessions, and Lifeline (13 11 14) and Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) run 24-hour phone support. For safety concerns, 1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732. **Does single motherhood get easier over time?** For most mums, the practical load eases as children get older and become more independent. The financial pressure often shifts rather than disappears, particularly as teenage costs rise. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/what-single-mothers-struggle-with/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/what-single-mothers-struggle-with/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting --- ### [6 Pocket money apps for kids and parents in Australia 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/pocket-money-apps/) **Published:** September 10, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** How you do pocket money with your kids is a personal thing. But sometimes this gleeful little allowance can get a tad complicated. I speak from experience! If you’d like an easy way to keep yourself and your child on track with pocket money, an app could be the answer. A pocket money app is a great way to help your child learn about earning money, saving and reaching financial goals. And, if your kids are like mine and love anything app/device/phone related, they’ll love learning via an app. I’ve checked out the most popular pocket money apps available and provide a run-down on seven of the best. ***Further reading: [How to do pocket money for kids the right way.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/)*** ## 6 Pocket money apps for kids and parents ## [iAllowance](http://www.jumpgapsoftware.com/allowance/index.html) I remember using the iAllowance app when my kids were younger. They have since graduated to other pocket money apps, but I still recommend iAllowance to other parents looking for an easy-to-use reward tracking/money saving app, especially if your family is an iOS user. What I like best about iAllowance is the value for money. It’s one of the cheapest pocket money apps on the App Store and the most powerful. You get chores/reward tracking, automatic allowance payment, push reminders, local backup, data export, and auto sync. It also has different themes for parents, including dark mode. It supports unlimited users and unlimited bank accounts. The website says that iAllowance is responsible for over 30 million chores completed and 20 million allowances paid! [![Pocket Money Apps | iAllowance | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.jumpgapsoftware.com/allowance/images/screenshot1.jpeg)](http://www.jumpgapsoftware.com/allowance/index.html) ***Free version:** No* ***Cost:** $2.99* ***Pros:** Affordable, powerful financial management app for parents and kids, fun and easy to use* ***Cons:** No web or Android version* ***You will love this app if:** Your are an iOS user looking for a solid, easy to use pocket money app.* ## [Kit Pocket Money App](https://www.heykit.com.au/) One of my kids prefers using the Kit app to track daily chores and pocket money. We’re both pretty happy with it. She likes checking off her to-do list and enjoys the stories and fun characters in the app. She also uses this to track her savings. It’s super easy for me to see what’s going on, and I feel that transactions are secure. For example, I can track spending and even block some shops. I love that the pocket/spending money and savings (Stacks) are separate. You also get the exact amount paid automatically in your spending account. I recommend the Kit app for younger kids. It’s built with children in mind, as you can see from the design and navigation. It’s easy to use, colourful, and very visual. Each “lesson” is designed to be short and fun. My child, who has a short attention span, can sit through an entire story. And she loves the jokes! Kit is built by CommBank, so CommBank Yello customers can access Kit for free. Kit is priced at $3 per month (or $30 per year) for one child, and $5 per month (or $50 per year) for up to five children. Parents can also link their child’s CommBank Youthsaver account, so their child can watch their savings grow. ![Bold hero image promoting Kit: 'Join Kit. Learn money skills that stick.' with a girl, a smartphone showing a money app, and a green Kit card on the right.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Screenshot-2026-09-10-at-2-02-11-am-1200x536-1.png "Screenshot 2026-09-10 at 2 02 11 am - Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** No* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Fun and educational money-saving/reward-tracking tool* ***Cons:** There is no free version* ***You will love this app if:** You have younger kids who want to learn money management.* ## [Quiddo](https://quiddo.com.au/) [Quiddo](https://quiddo.com.au/) is a newer Australian-made option I came across, and it’s a good fit if you want to track pocket money properly with as little fuss as possible. There’s no card to order and no bank account to set up, which also means your kids’ details stay private and there’s nothing extra to manage. You set a weekly amount and a payday, and Quiddo drops it into each kid’s balance automatically and splits it across their buckets, so a bit is earmarked for saving and giving before it’s spent. You can link chores to it as well. Some jobs are paid and top up the balance once you approve them, and the everyday responsibilities hold back the weekly pocket money until they’re ticked off. The kids watch their balance and savings goals on their own devices, which gets them saving without the nagging. When they want to buy something, you pay for it and log it so the balance comes down. One subscription covers up to three families and you can add extra parents, so it works nicely for separated or multi-household families where the kids move between homes. At $15 a year for the whole family, it’s the cheapest one I’ve come across. ![Hero banner showing a smartphone with the Quiddo Add Money screen, a green mascot beside it, and the Quiddo logo with descriptive text nearby like a product landing page.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Screenshot-2026-09-10-at-2-04-09-am-1200x585-1.png "Screenshot 2026-09-10 at 2 04 09 am - Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** 14-day free trial* ***Cost:** $15/year for the whole family, however many kids* ***Pros:** Cheapest option on this list, one flat family price, no card or bank account to set up, works across multiple households, Australian-made* ***Cons:** No spending card, so you’ll still hand over your own card at the checkout* ***You will love this app if:** You want a simple, low-cost way to track pocket money, chores and savings goals without setting up a card or bank account.* ## [Spriggy](https://www.spriggy.com.au/) Having tried a lot of pocket money apps with my daughters, all of which have pros and cons, [Spriggy](https://register.spriggy.com.au/sign_up/beanstalk) is the one we use long-term. In fact my eldest only stopped using it when she turned 15. It’s the most popular app in Australia, with good reason. It’s an all-in-one financial literacy tool for kids and a great way for us parents to encourage independence. Never mind the kids, I loved using this app. The feature-packed app lets parents automate pocket money payments for all children, set jobs and savings goals, monitor spending history and send money instantly in an emergency … like when they’re out with their mates and want an ice cream but don’t have enough money in their account – this has happened. The app is easy-to-use and child orientated but is part owned by NAB so has a hint of serious banking and feels secure. Thanks Spriggy for bringing in the bank card for the older kids (without the pig on the front). It definitely gives Spriggy longevity because teens are happy to keep using it. [![Spriggy pocket money app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/spriggy-pocket-money-app.png "spriggy-pocket-money-app - Beanstalk Mums")](https://register.spriggy.com.au/sign_up/beanstalk) ***Free version:** First month free* ***Cost:** $60/child per year* ***Pros:** All-in-one pocket money and financial literacy app for families* ***Cons:** Pricey if you have a large family* ***You will love this app if:** You want to manage and track your family’s finances from one place.* ## [Hyperjar](https://hyperjar.com/kids/) My friend has great things to say about Hyperjar, a pocket money app that gives parents more control over their children’s spending. She’s a fan of the single account feature. There’s no separate app for kids, and the kids account is always paired with the adult account. Kids do have their own prepaid card that mum or dad can top up. This easy-to-use pocket money app also lets parents track where and when they spend it from the main Hyperjar app. Kids can track their balance and spending on their own Hyperjar ap, but they’ll never overspend or access your bank account directly. Other features she likes: You can set different “saving jars” for specific goals like food, entertainment, school and more (you get unlimited jars). This is a great way for kids to learn about budgeting, saving, spending wisely and planning finances for the future. [![Hyperjar | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://global-uploads.webflow.com/626689f645767bff295e77dc/6308d897d76f66b6284634f7_Web-Kids-Hero-Image-v3-p-800.png)](https://hyperjar.com/pre-paid-card/kids-card) ***Free version:** Free* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Free pocket money app, no subscription, loading or transaction* fees ***Cons:** You need the main (separate) Hyperjar app to monitor kids’ spending**You will love this app if:** You want a completely free pocket money app with zero transaction fees.* ## Best pocket money app Australia ## [Bankaroo](https://www.bankaroo.com) My younger child’s friend uses the pocket money app Bankaroo as a virtual piggy bank and she seems to like it. I tried out the free version and was impressed by the features. The basic app is perfect for families who are just getting started with financial management. You can use Bankaroo on any device and it’s available online and off. It’s easy to use and has fun educational features to help kids manage their allowance and become more financially responsible. Children as young as five can use Bankaroo to save money, earn interest on it, and get badges by completing goals. I find Bankaroo very safe because parents can access their kids’ accounts and monitor money coming in and going out. More advanced features like checking, charitable donations, and money transfer between accounts can be unlocked by paying a one-time fee of $4.99. [![Pocket Money Apps | Bankaroo | Beanstalk Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/bh3q1GiaqxY6qLLucaGGZiqP72I4DU8ZkAx4wvJOhaJlniWQFXwh9DhbzYOWCxcCFtD0=w1176-h825)](https://www.bankaroo.com) ***Free version:** Ye*s ***Cost:** $4.99 (Bankaroo Plus)* ***Pros:** Kid-focused pocket money app with chores/reward tracking, used in schools nationwide* ***Cons:** Money transfer is only available on the paid version* ***You will love this app if:** You are a teacher or parent who needs a free basic financial literacy tool for kids age 5 to 13.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/pocket-money-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/pocket-money-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Money **Tags:** pocket money, chores, allowance --- ### [How to Choose a Hair Dryer That Actually Saves You Time in the Morning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-hair-dryer-that-actually-saves-you-time-in-the-morning/) **Published:** September 9, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You know the drill. You’ve got seven minutes, one kid can’t find a shoe, the other has decided socks are the enemy, and your hair is still dripping down the back of your top. The blow-dry is the bit that always gets sacrificed, so you scrape it into a bun and tell yourself you’ll deal with it tomorrow. Here’s the thing though. A big chunk of that morning drying time comes down to the dryer, not your technique. The wrong one makes you work harder for a worse result. The right one gets you out the door with hair that’s actually dry, in a fraction of the time. So before you grab whatever’s cheapest at the chemist, here’s what genuinely shaves minutes off your morning, and what just quietly fries your hair. ## **What Actually Makes a Hair Dryer Faster (And What Doesn’t)** Most of us assume a hotter dryer is a faster dryer. It isn’t, and chasing heat is how you end up with dry, straw-like ends by winter. The two things that make the biggest difference to how long you spend drying are motor power and the airflow technology, not the temperature dial. A stronger motor with ionic technology moves more air and cuts frizz, so hair dries faster and needs fewer passes, which matters most on long or thick hair that otherwise leaves your arm aching halfway through. When we looked at what actually shortens a blow-dry, [ghd’s range of hair dryers](https://www.ghdhair.com/au/hair-dryers-c) kept coming up, mostly because the motors are built for fast, controlled airflow rather than just cranking up the heat. ghd is a professional hair-tool brand whose dryers all use ionic technology and run from the travel-sized flight up to the lightweight helios and the 2-in-1 duet blowdry brush, so there is a fit for short, fine hair right through to long and curly. If you take one thing from this, let it be that. Ask about the motor and the airflow before you ask about heat settings. ## **Weight and Balance Matter More Than You’d Think** Nobody puts “arm ache” on a shopping list, but it’s real. If a dryer is heavy or front-loaded, your shoulder is done before your hair is, and you rush the last section just to make it stop. That’s usually where the frizz and the damp patches creep in. Pick the dryer up before you buy if you can. You want it to sit comfortably in your hand without tipping forward. A lighter, well-balanced body means you can actually reach the back of your head without doing a full arm workout, and that alone tends to speed the whole thing up because you’re not fighting the tool. ## **Match the Dryer to Your Hair, Not the Ad** ![hair dryer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Pexels-gratisography-4614-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gratisography-4614 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by gratisography](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-morning-bathrobe-bathroom-4614/) This is where a lot of us go wrong. We buy the dryer our friend swears by, then wonder why it doesn’t work the same on our hair. If your hair is fine or short, you don’t need the most powerful motor on the shelf. Too much airflow just whips fine hair around and roughs up the cuticle. You want something lightweight with a bit of control so you’re not fighting it. If your hair is thick, long, curly or coarse, this is where a strong motor earns its keep. More airflow means fewer passes, and fewer passes means less time and less heat sitting on your hair. Curly and coily hair also does better with a diffuser attachment, which spreads the air out so you keep your curl pattern instead of blowing it into a frizzy cloud. Frizz-prone hair of any length benefits most from ionic technology. The short version: ions help break up water droplets and smooth the cuticle as you dry, so you get less flyaway and a smoother finish without reaching for the straightener afterwards. That’s a whole extra step off your morning. ## **Heat Is Where the Damage Lives** Speed and healthy hair aren’t opposites, but heat is where they can pull apart. Blasting your hair on the highest setting to get it done faster is a false economy. You save two minutes today and pay for it in split ends and breakage down the track, which means more time on repair masks and more bad-hair mornings. A good dryer gives you fast results at a moderate temperature, and ideally a cool-shot button to set your style at the end. Look for controlled heat rather than maximum heat. If a dryer only has one blazing setting, that’s a red flag for both your hair and your finish. ## **A Few Honest Trade-Offs When Buying a Hair Dryer** Let’s be real. The dryers that tick every box aren’t the cheap ones. A strong ionic motor, a light body, proper heat control and a build that lasts cost more up front, and if you’re barely drying your hair twice a week, a budget dryer might genuinely be fine for you. No judgement. But if you blow-dry most mornings, or you’ve got a lot of hair to get through, the maths shifts. A faster, gentler dryer that lasts years and saves you time every single morning usually earns back what you paid, and it saves your hair the damage that a hot, weak dryer quietly does over time. One more thing worth saying: attachments make a difference, so don’t chuck them in a drawer. The concentrator nozzle is what gives you that smooth salon finish, and the diffuser is non-negotiable if you’re wearing your natural curl. ## **The Quick Version** If you’re standing in a store right now with a kid melting down beside you, here’s your cheat sheet. Check the motor and the airflow first, not the heat. Pick it up and make sure it’s light and balanced. Match the power to your hair type, more for thick and curly, less for fine and short. And make sure ionic technology and a cool-shot are in there. Get that combo right and the blow-dry stops being the thing you dread. You dry faster and damage your hair less, and you get one small corner of your morning back. On a school-run Tuesday, that counts for a lot. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-hair-dryer-that-actually-saves-you-time-in-the-morning/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-hair-dryer-that-actually-saves-you-time-in-the-morning/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Self Care --- ### [Best Divorce and Separation Books: The Ultimate Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/books-for-divorce-separation-recovery/) **Published:** September 12, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Discover some great books for divorce to help single mums heal, rebuild confidence, and find hope through powerful stories and expert guidance. **Content:** When life after divorce or separation feels unbearably heavy, sometimes the gentlest way forward is through words. Books can offer a steadying voice, guiding you through moments when you doubt yourself and feel overwhelmed. Additionally, they remind you healing is possible at your own pace. The right and best books for divorce can become small anchors in the storm, offering understanding when you feel unseen. Moreover, they provide perspective when everything feels upside down and reminders that healing doesn’t have to happen all at once. However, the best Books for Divorce aren’t the ones with the highest ratings. They match the stage you’re actually in. If you’re in the first raw months, you may struggle to focus on a page. Start with a memoir or an audio book, and let someone else’s voice do the work. If you’re further along and stuck on the practical side, go straight to a handbook. The schedules, the money, and what to tell the kids stay in the handbook. The options below are grouped that way. Whether you’re navigating co-parenting, adjusting to new arrangements, or simply trying to overcome heartbreak, these stories will help you feel seen and supported. **Quick Takeaways** - **Pick by stage, not by rating.** If you’re rebuilding who you are outside the marriage, start with *Untamed*. If the day-to-day handovers are what’s breaking you, start with *The Co-Parenting Handbook*. - **Two of these follow American law.** *The New Rules of Divorce* and *The Divorce Survival Guide* are written for the US system. Read them for the mindset and the questions worth asking, not the rules. Property, custody, and filing all work differently in Australia. - **Audiobooks count as reading.** Concentration is usually the first thing to go after a separation. Listening on the school run is still doing the work. - **Check the library before you buy.** Most Australian public libraries lend ebooks and audiobooks free through BorrowBox or Libby. Search the title there first, then buy the ones you want to keep. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Compassionate Single Mum Counsellor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ## **How the Best Books for Divorce Become Your Companion in Healing** There’s something quietly powerful about reading when your world has come undone. The right story doesn’t fix the hurt, but it reminds you that pain has a shape, and like all shapes, it changes. Through the best books for divorce and separation, you begin to see that endings can also be beginnings, even during a difficult time. Reading also helps you navigate emotions that feel too big to name. Between the lines, you might find courage, forgiveness, or humour in unexpected places. Moreover, as you read, the healing process becomes gentler. You also get to reflect on your past, learn to set new boundaries, and remember that self-care isn’t selfish. These stories teach us that growth can happen quietly. As one wise therapist might say, every page turned is a small act of self-reclamation. ## **Best Books For Divorce And Separation You’ll Want To Read Now** The right books to read don’t just tell a story; they meet you where you are. However, whether you’re in heartbreak or rediscovering yourself beyond the marriage, Books for Divorce offer comfort and hope. ### **[“Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After” by Katherine Woodward Thomas](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/POMveY)** Long before “conscious uncoupling” became a cultural phrase, Katherine Woodward Thomas already created a compassionate, practical guide to personal renewal. This book helps readers transform anger into awareness through five clear steps that minimise resentment and encourage self-growth. It’s also ideal for anyone who wants to start living with peace after separation and divorce; it’s an invaluable resource for your emotional and mental health alike. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/71jp604wuvl%20_sl1500_-195x300-1.jpg "71jp604wuvl _sl1500_-195x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/POMveY) ### **[“Untamed” by Glennon Doyle](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/POMEGe)** Winner of the Goodreads Choice Award for Best Memoir in 2020, this must-read is for anyone rebuilding after a divorce or breakup. Part self-help, part manifesto, Doyle writes with witty honesty about identity, motherhood, and self-trust. This life-changing memoir shows how to overcome guilt and begin to thrive beyond expectations. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/818ljuvnyil%20_sl1500_-189x300-1.jpg "818ljuvnyil _sl1500_-189x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgje5) ### **[“No Fault: A Memoir of Romance and Divorce” by Haley Mlotek](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/JKMXDQ)** This reflective memoir explores how love evolves and fades with grace. Mlotek’s storytelling feels deeply relatable for Australians and women everywhere who are rebuilding after a divorce. She also writes about contact with your ex, emotional cycles, and learning to let go without bitterness. Her poetic style makes this one of the top books for anyone examining a major life transition with honesty and compassion. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/71wok-jj8kl%20_sl1500_-199x300-1.jpg "71wok-jj8kl _sl1500_-199x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ramq9Q) ### **[“You Could Make This Place Beautiful” by Maggie Smith](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/N9Mvd7)** A lyrical meditation on divorce, motherhood, and rediscovery, Smith’s book reads like therapy in verse. Each reflection honours grief, humour, and slow rebuilding. For single mums, it’s a book to pick up when life feels too loud; its poetic rhythm invites rest and renewal. She doesn’t shy away from grief or anger, but she also leaves space for tenderness, humour, and hard-won hope. It’s among the few fiction books and memoir hybrids that truly teach the beauty of staying soft while becoming better and stronger. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/71vpltbfm7l%20_sl1500_-199x300-1.jpg "71vpltbfm7l _sl1500_-199x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/N9Mvd7) ### **[“The Co-Parenting Handbook” by Karen Bonnell with Kristin Little](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LKMBb3)** Co-parenting can be one of the hardest parts of separation or divorce, but this compassionate guide makes it feel possible. Written by counsellor Karen Bonnell and family therapist Kristin Little, it helps parents create healthy communication, respectful boundaries, and consistent routines for children. This book is both a self-help and a parenting resource. It offers information to help minimise conflict, manage arrangements, and practise self-care while maintaining your children’s stability. It’s a must-read for anyone who wants a calmer, kinder path forward. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/819aju1ajtl%20_sl1500_-194x300-1.jpg "819aju1ajtl _sl1500_-194x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/K0MvRn) ### **[“The New Rules of Divorce: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness” by Jacqueline Newman](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/QjMvBP)** Written by lawyer Jacqueline Newman, this practical guide breaks down how to protect your finances, health, and happiness during divorce. It blends legal expertise with empathy, covering topics from negotiation and mediation to emotional well-being. Newman doesn’t sensationalise conflict; she teaches women how to make empowered decisions under family law. The tone is realistic yet hopeful—a steady reminder that you can manage this life transition with clarity and grace. [![best books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/71ovrpinbrl%20_sl1500_-199x300-1.jpg "71ovrpinbrl _sl1500_-199x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/QjMvBP) ### **[“The Divorce Recovery Workbook” by Mark S. Rye & Crystal Dea Moore](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/APvezJ)** This step-by-step workbook helps readers work through anger, guilt, and grief. It also uses reflection and mindful exercises to guide healing. Psychologists Rye and Moore explain the emotional recovery cycle and show how to build healthier boundaries and self-care habits. The book is also a gentle reminder that healing takes time and that growth often begins with stillness. This is a must-read companion for those ready to do the inner work and move forward intentionally. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/71vboysygsl%20_sl1500_-240x300-1.jpg "71vboysygsl _sl1500_-240x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/Z6Mv2q) ### **[“A Separation” by Katie Kitamura](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DyvG2q)** For readers who prefer fiction books, A Separation offers quiet emotional insight. It explores the disconnection between couples and the ache of absence. Moreover, Kitamura’s minimalist prose captures grief and ambiguity, mirroring the reality of many women experiencing separation or divorce. It’s literary, reflective, and life-changing in its honesty. [![best books for divorce](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/91vacRZVv3L._SL1500_-202x300.jpg "Directory video - converted with Clipchamp - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/09vMbM) ## **[“The ](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgaB3 ""Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other" by Lauren J. Behrman & Jeffrey Zimmerman")**Divorcees**[: A Novel” by Rowan Beaird](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgaB3 ""Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other" by Lauren J. Behrman & Jeffrey Zimmerman")** Set in the 1950s, The Divorcees is a must-read novel about women reclaiming freedom during a life transition. Through its desert-ranch setting, it honours resilience, community, and shared courage. It’s both nostalgic and witty, reminding readers that even in isolation, women can thrive when they share their stories. It’s one of those rare must-read books that makes you feel stronger by the final page. [![books for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/91cvbkno3ol%20_sl1500_-197x300-1.jpg "91cvbkno3ol _sl1500_-197x300-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/K0MvVn) ## **Finding Support Beyond the Best Books for Divorce** divorce or separation often means reaching beyond the page—to people, spaces, and support groups that remind you you’re not alone. - [**Counselling services**](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere) – Speaking with a qualified therapist or counsellor can help you process emotions and learn tools to minimise overwhelm. - **[Support group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** – Shared experiences help you build community and confidence through open communication and mediation-based listening. - **[Free journals and worksheets](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts)** – Writing helps you reflect and stay grounded in your self-care routine. Books offer invaluable insight, but reaching out turns reflection into real healing. Whether it’s therapy, peer support, or a moment of stillness, each act helps you overcome and move forward, one steady, compassionate breath at a time. [![Elle counselling services](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Image 1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Best Books for Divorce: Thrive and Be Empowered** Healing after divorce isn’t about forgetting; it’s about carrying your story differently. These best books for divorce are your companions, guiding you toward peace, confidence, and renewal. Every page you turn, every insight you share, becomes part of your reclamation. Some days you’ll make bold steps; other days, you’ll simply rest, but both are progress. There’s no single roadmap to heal. What matters is continuing to navigate life with tenderness, self-care, and trust that you’ll start living fully again. You don’t have to rush your next chapter; just move forward at your own pace, one act of courage at a time. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are the best books for divorce if I can’t concentrate?** Start with a memoir or an audiobook rather than a workbook. Short chapters and a narrator’s voice ask less of you when your focus is gone. **Are these best books for divorce written for Australian readers?** Most are memoirs and recovery books, so they travel fine anywhere. The two legal and financial titles are American, so treat their rules as background rather than guidance for your own situation. **Do American divorce books apply under Australian family law?** No. Australia uses a no-fault system where you apply for divorce after 12 months of separation, and property and parenting matters are handled separately from the divorce itself. **Which book helps most with co-parenting?** The Co-Parenting Handbook by Karen Bonnell with Kristin Little is the practical pick. It focuses on communication, routines and boundaries rather than the emotional side of the split. **Can I read any of these books for free?** Most Australian public libraries lend ebooks and audiobooks at no cost through apps like BorrowBox and Libby. Search each title there before you buy a copy. **What if reading isn’t enough right now?** Books help you make sense of things, but they don’t replace talking to someone. If it’s all sitting heavily, Lifeline is on 13 11 14 and Beyond Blue is on 1300 22 4636. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/books-for-divorce-separation-recovery/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/books-for-divorce-separation-recovery/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [Thinking of Using a Sperm Donor to Grow Your Family? Here's What the Latest Data Means for You](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/using-a-sperm-donor-to-grow-your-family/) **Published:** September 7, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For so many women choosing to become mums on their own, a sperm donor isn’t a backup plan; it’s the plan. But new research is confirming something many solo mums by choice already know from experience: getting access to donor sperm in Australia is getting harder, slower and more expensive. New data from [Genea Fertility](https://www.genea.com.au/blog/donor-sperm-demand-australia-MCXUN42Z3KWZGYTF2YDLTQSAJP3I), one of Australia’s largest fertility clinic networks, has found that demand for donor sperm has jumped by 97.6% between 2022 and 2025. That’s nearly double in just three years. If you’re currently on a waitlist, weighing up your options, or just starting to research your path to parenthood, this surge in demand explains a lot about what you might be experiencing. **The odds are tougher than you’d think** Here’s the number that stopped us in our tracks: just 0.66% of donor sperm enquiries actually result in an available donor. That’s fewer than 1 in 150. According to the data, most patients (80.7%) go through clinic-recruited donors, with a growing number (19.3%) turning to known donors instead, often a friend, family member, or someone found through a donor community. Only around a third of enquiries even make it to the screening stage, and just 2% of those screened are ultimately released as available donors. It’s a narrow funnel, and it’s getting narrower as more people join the queue. Dr Tween Low, Fertility Specialist at Genea Fertility, explains some of the reasoning behind the bottleneck: “Australia’s identity-release framework can deter some potential donors, and the screening process is rigorous, involving medical checks and counselling. While these safeguards are essential, they can be time-consuming and contribute to drop-off, with eligibility criteria further narrowing the pool of donors who complete the process and qualify as donors.” **Where you live really does matter** One of the more eye-opening findings is just how much your postcode affects your options. Australia doesn’t have one national set of rules for donor sperm; each state sets its own limits on how many families a single donor can help, and that patchwork creates very different experiences depending on where you’re based. South Australia currently leads the country, holding 32% of the nation’s available donors, largely thanks to a more generous 10-family, Australia-only limit. Western Australia, meanwhile, has the highest use of local donors of any state, at 88.5%, reflecting a newer clinic program at Genea Fertility that has prioritised building up local donor numbers rather than relying on overseas donors. At the other end, NSW and WA operate under a stricter five-family worldwide limit, and Victoria’s more heavily regulated system means the state accounts for only 5.7% of the national donor pool. If you’re in one of these states, you may find your search takes longer, or that a donor you were hoping to use has already reached their family limit by the time you’re ready to proceed. As Dr Low puts it: “This variability underscores the fragmentation of Australia’s [fertility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/fertility-options-for-modern-women/) landscape. It affects not just access, but also equity and patient choice, reinforcing the need for a more nationally consistent approach to donor regulation and supply.” ![sperm donor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Pexels-shvets-production-6991905-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-shvets-production-6991905 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by shvets production](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/crop-woman-with-pregnancy-test-6991905/) **Going overseas isn’t the easy fix it once was** For a long time, international donor sperm felt like the pressure valve; if local supply was tight, you could look overseas. That’s changing too. The local-to-international donor split has shifted from 66% local and 34% international back in 2022, to a near-even 51/49 split in 2025. More people are turning overseas, right as international donor sperm costs have risen by an average of 39.1% in just the past year alone. That combination, more demand chasing a smaller pool, plus rising international prices, is putting real financial pressure on people trying to become parents. Dr Low says she’s “increasingly seeing patients delay treatment simply to save for donor sperm, while others reconsider whether they can proceed at all.” For anyone trying to have a baby, especially solo, where there’s no second income cushioning the cost, that delay can feel like the hardest part of the whole journey. **You’re not imagining the wait, and you’re not alone in it** If there’s one thing worth taking from this research, it’s reassurance rather than discouragement. The barriers you might be feeling- long waits, rising costs, donors becoming unavailable- aren’t a reflection of anything you’re doing wrong. They’re a reflection of a fertility system under real strain, one that experts like Dr Low are actively calling to be reformed with a more nationally consistent approach to donor access. In the meantime, arming yourself with knowledge about how the system works in your state, what your realistic timelines might look like, and what questions to ask your clinic can make a genuinely stressful process feel a little more manageable. And as Dr Low reminds us, every donor who does come forward is making an extraordinary difference: “You’re giving someone the chance to have a child, to build a family. For many people, that’s everything.” *This article is based on national data and expert commentary from* [*Genea Fertility*](https://www.genea.com.au/blog/donor-sperm-demand-australia-MCXUN42Z3KWZGYTF2YDLTQSAJP3I)*, drawn from the clinic’s internal patient and donor records covering January 2022 to December 2025.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/using-a-sperm-donor-to-grow-your-family/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/using-a-sperm-donor-to-grow-your-family/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [78 Heartwarming Quotes About Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/heartwarming-quotes-about-mums/) **Published:** September 10, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Heartwarming quotes about mums, grouped by the moment you need one: the hard days, the funny bits, the card you have to write. Pick the line that fits. **Content:** There’s a particular kind of tired that comes with being the only adult in the house. Dinner, bath, reading, the second glass of water, the negotiation about the light. And then it’s quiet, and you’re on the couch with a cold cup of tea, scrolling. That’s usually when we go looking for words. **The heartwarming quotes about mums that actually help are the ones that match the moment you’re in. A sweet line about a mother’s love is lovely on a card and not much use at 11pm when you feel like you’ve got nothing left to give. So this list is sorted by moment instead of by author. The hard nights. The love nobody sees. The funny stuff. The short ones for a text. The card you have to write. And the days when you’re doing it on your own.** Every line below is ours. We wrote them because the ones we kept looking for didn’t exist. Find your moment. Take the line. It’s yours now. **Quick Takeaways** - **Sorted by moment, not by famous name.** Skip to the section that matches how today actually went, rather than scrolling sixty quotes hoping one fits. - **Sweet lines and honest lines do different jobs.** The sweet ones belong in cards. The honest ones are the ones that help on a bad night. - **Most quote lists assume two parents.** In June 2025 the ABS counted [1.2 million one-parent families](https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/labour/employment-and-unemployment/labour-force-status-families/latest-release) in Australia, and 77% of them were headed by mums. Very few collections are written with that reader in mind. - **A quote is a starting point.** It can shift a mood for an hour. It won’t fix a hard week, and it isn’t meant to. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor Published: September 10, 2026 ![Mum plaiting her daughter's hair before school on an ordinary morning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2-mum-plaiting-her-daughters-hair-before-school-on-an-ordinary-morning-1192x800.webp "2-mum-plaiting-her-daughters-hair-before-school-on-an-ordinary-morning - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Makes A Quote About Mums Actually Land?** The ones that land name something specific. The ones that don’t just praise mothers in general. Heartwarming quotes about mums are short lines that put words to the love and effort inside motherhood. They work best when they describe something you recognise straight away. A general tribute to how wonderful mothers are tends to slide off. A line about worrying with your eyes closed sticks. Everyone says the best quotes are the uplifting ones. In practice, the ones that help most are usually the honest ones. When you already feel like you’re falling short, being told you’re wonderful can land as a bit of a rebuke. Being told the thing is hard lands as company instead. There’s a second reason the specific ones work. A vague quote asks you to agree with an idea. A specific one shows you a picture you’ve already lived, so you don’t have to do any work to feel it. Worth knowing the difference between a quote and a mantra, because they’re different tools. A quote is somebody else’s words about the thing. [A mantra you can repeat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) is your own words, said on purpose, usually to steady yourself. If you want the second one, that’s a different list. That’s the sorting logic here. Match the tool to the moment. ## **Heartwarming Quotes About Mums For The Hard Nights** These are for the nights when nothing went right and you’re too flat to be philosophical about it. They don’t tell you to cheer up. They say the load is real, which is often all you need somebody to say. 1. The day was hard. That’s information about the day, not about you. 2. You got everyone through it. That’s not nothing, that’s the whole job. 3. Tired isn’t a character flaw. It’s a receipt. 4. Some days you parent well. Some days you just parent. Both count. 5. You’re not behind. There’s just more of it than one person can do at once. 6. The dishes will keep. Sit down for ten minutes first. 7. You’ve been needed since six this morning. Of course you’re empty. 8. Nobody could do this without getting tired. Nobody. 9. You lost your temper and then you came back. Coming back is the part that matters. 10. Tomorrow you get to start again, and you will, because you always do. I’ve read a lot of these lists at 11pm. The ones that helped were never the ones telling me I was doing a beautiful thing. They were the ones that said the tiredness makes sense. Number nine is the one I’d put on a wall. Most of us have had the night where we snapped over something small, felt awful about it, and then went in and sat on the edge of the bed anyway. That going-back-in is the actual work. If a line isn’t going to cut it tonight, that’s fair enough. And if the flat feeling has been sitting on you for weeks rather than just for tonight, [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) answers on 13 11 14, any hour of the night. ## **Quotes For The Love Nobody Sees** Most of the work of mothering happens where nobody’s watching. No audience, no feedback, no colleague who saw you handle it well. These are the lines that name that. 11. Nobody saw you do the hard bit. It still happened. 12. You remembered the excursion form, the library book and the odd sock. That’s love doing admin. 13. The thing about invisible work is that the kids feel it even when they can’t name it. 14. You’ve been the safe place all day. That’s a lot to be. 15. Half of mothering is noticing, and you notice constantly. 16. They won’t remember the dinner. They’ll remember that dinner always turned up. 17. You made a whole childhood out of ordinary Tuesdays. 18. The calm in this house isn’t an accident. You built it. That theme matters more than people realise. Nobody signs off on your day. There’s no review and no handover. A good line does a small version of that job. Somebody, somewhere, noticed the thing and wrote it down. It isn’t the same as being thanked. It’s closer than nothing. The same is true of [the bond between a single mum and her son](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mother-and-son-quotes/), which gets written about far less than it deserves. ![Single mum and her children at the kitchen table on a weeknight](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3-single-mum-and-her-children-at-the-kitchen-table-on-a-weeknight-1192x800.webp "3-single-mum-and-her-children-at-the-kitchen-table-on-a-weeknight - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Funny Quotes About Mums, Because Some Days That’s The Only Option** Laughing is a legitimate coping strategy and I’ll defend it. On the days when the sweet lines feel like too much, reach for these instead. 19. You found a shoe in the fridge and didn’t even flinch. That’s growth. 20. Motherhood: running a small hotel for two people who never tip. 21. The only thing faster than a toddler is a toddler holding something they shouldn’t be. 22. You have a favourite hiding spot in your own house and it’s the pantry. 23. Silence means one of three things and none of them are good. 24. You’ve had a hot cup of tea this month, statistically. You just can’t remember it. 25. Nobody warned you that you’d become the family’s search engine. 26. You know every word of a song you have never once chosen to listen to. The shoe one is real, by the way. I found it next to the milk and just put it on the bench like that was a normal thing to happen on a Thursday. If you want more of that energy, [how the day really goes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-mothers-day/) for single mums on Mother’s Day is worth five minutes. ## **Short Quotes About Mums For Texts And Captions** Short lines work when the space is small and the moment is casual. Under ten words is the sweet spot. Anything longer gets scrolled past or cut off mid-thought. 27. You’re the safe place. That’s the job. 28. Fed, safe, loved. That’s the bar. 29. She’s doing more than anyone can see. 30. Ordinary days build whole people. 31. You showed up. Again. 32. Home is wherever you are. 33. Love does the quiet work. 34. You’re not late, you’re carrying more. 35. One person, whole family. 36. Still here, still turning up. These are the ones to keep on hand. A short line lands in a text without the other person feeling like they’ve been sent homework, which is the trap with the long, beautiful ones. They also fit places you wouldn’t expect. Six words on a note in a lunchbox does more for a seven-year-old than a paragraph they won’t read. Small, regular notes like that are one way to [build your child’s sense of worth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/build-selfworth-in-kids-with-daily-habits) without turning it into a whole conversation. ## **What Do You Write In A Mother’s Day Card When It’s Complicated?** Pick a line that’s true rather than a line that’s warm. Copy one of these straight in if the words won’t come. 37. Thanks for the things you did that I only noticed later. 38. You made it look easy. I know now that it wasn’t. 39. I got your stubbornness and I’ve decided to be grateful for it. 40. Whatever I know about turning up, I learned from watching you. 41. You’re the reason I know what home is meant to feel like. 42. Thank you for the ordinary days. They were the good ones. 43. I don’t say it often enough. You did a good job. 44. For the mum who mothered me without being my mother, thank you. 45. Happy Mother’s Day. I hope today is easy on you. 46. You gave me more than I knew to ask for at the time. 47. For Nan, who did the whole job twice. We noticed the second time too. 48. I’m glad you’re mine. That’s the whole card. Number 44 is there on purpose. Aunties, grandmothers, kinship carers, the neighbour who fed you after school. Plenty of us have a mother figure who isn’t on the birth certificate, and Mother’s Day cards rarely account for her. A note on the complicated ones, because plenty of us are in that boat. If your relationship with your own mum is strained, a line about the purest love you’ll ever know is not the one. It’ll sit on the page and feel like a lie, and she’ll probably feel it too. Look instead for something about a single specific thing she gave you. Her sense of humour. The way she cooks. Her stubbornness, which you inherited. Then stop. Nobody’s asking you to write a eulogy for a woman who’s still alive. If the day itself is the hard part rather than the card, there are ways to [keep Mother’s Day cheap and cheerful](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-single-mums/) without pretending it’s easy.work has [more on spotting the early signs](https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/first-1000-days/looking-after-yourself/anger-management-for-parents) and calming down before things escalate, and their suggestions point the same way. ![Australian school pick-up, the everyday setting behind these mum quotes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/4-australian-school-pick-up-the-everyday-setting-behind-these-mum-quotes.webp "4-australian-school-pick-up-the-everyday-setting-behind-these-mum-quotes - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Quotes For Mums Raising Kids On Their Own** This is the section almost every other quote list skips. Roughly one in six Australian families has a single parent in it, and most of those parents are mums, so the gap is a bit odd when you think about it. Here’s the trouble with the ones that do exist. Most were written by people looking at solo parenting from the outside, so they land somewhere between pity and applause. Neither is much use on a Wednesday. So we wrote twenty. 49. The house is quiet because you made it quiet. That took the whole day. 50. Nobody signs off on your work. You just get up and do it again. 51. You’re not half a family. You’re a whole one with a different shape. 52. Some nights the win is that everyone ate and everyone slept. 53. You’re allowed to be proud of something nobody else noticed. 54. The love in this house isn’t smaller. It’s carried by one person. 55. You didn’t fail at a family. You built a different one. 56. Being the only one who remembers everything is a job. It counts as one. 57. The bar isn’t perfect. It’s fed, safe and loved. 58. You’ve been the calm one all day. You’re allowed to not be, now. 59. Nobody claps at the end of a Tuesday. It still counted. 60. There’s no version of this where you get it all right. There’s only the one where you keep turning up. 61. One set of hands, one whole childhood. It adds up. 62. You make every decision alone and you still get most of them right. 63. There’s no second opinion at 2am, so you became your own. 64. You’re the routine, the rules and the fun. That’s three jobs. 65. Your family isn’t a story about what’s missing. 66. The kids aren’t waiting for a second parent. They’re waiting for you to sit down. 67. You’ve done handovers, school forms and birthdays solo. Put it on a CV. 68. Nobody hands out medals for this. Have a biscuit instead. Number 65 took the longest to write and it’s the one I’d defend hardest. So much writing about single-parent families frames them by absence. Your family is a whole thing that exists, not a subtraction from something else. More in this vein sits in our longer collection of [quotes written for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-quotes-to-inspire-and-uplift/). ## **Where Are The Australian Quotes About Mums?** Thin on the ground, which is why we wrote our own. Almost every quote list on this topic is American, so the mums in them are packing lunchboxes in a different country, driving to a different kind of school, saying “mom”. Something small gets lost in that. Not the meaning, exactly. More the sense that the person writing has stood where you’re standing. 69. Term four is a marathon and nobody trains for it. 70. You’ve packed a lunchbox in 40-degree heat and called it a win. 71. Christmas in a hot kitchen, and you still made it feel like Christmas. 72. The school run, the tuckshop roster, the note that needed signing yesterday. You did all three. 73. You’ve stood at the school gate feeling like the only one. You weren’t. 74. Sunscreen, hats, water bottles, and out the door. Every single morning. 75. Long weekends aren’t a break when you’re the whole roster. 76. You’ve driven the long way home so they’d finish the nap. That’s love with a fuel bill. 77. Nobody tells you that most of parenting happens in the car. 78. Six weeks of summer holidays and you got everyone to February. Well done. Number 78 is for anyone reading this in late January. You’re nearly there. ## **What Do You Actually Do With A Quote You Like?** Put it somewhere you’ll see it again. A line you read once and scroll past does nothing at all. A line in your eyeline on a Tuesday morning does a small amount of real work. Here’s the order I’d go in. 1. **Screenshot it now.** Not later. Later doesn’t happen. 2. **Set one as your lock screen** for a week. Swap it when it stops registering, which takes about six days. 3. **Write one on a sticky note** for the inside of a kitchen cupboard door. You open that door twenty times a day without thinking. 4. **Send one to a mum having a rough week.** No message attached. Just the line. It reads as thinking of her rather than advising her, which is a real difference. 5. **Put one in your child’s lunchbox**, with their name in it if you can manage it. 6. **Keep a note in your phone** called something boring, and drop good ones in as you find them. Then you’re not searching at 11pm. One more, and it’s the one people skip. **Write your own.** Not for anyone else. Just a line about your own week, in your own words. Most of the seventy-eight above started as something muttered in a kitchen. Yours will fit your life better than ours ever could. Worth saying plainly, because it would be a bit rich to end a list of quotes pretending they’re a solution. None of this replaces actual support. The Raising Children Network has practical guidance on [getting support as a single parent](https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/family-diversity/single-parents/support-for-single-parents), and a sticky note isn’t a substitute for a person who turns up. ![A note tucked into a school lunchbox, one way to use a quote about mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/5-a-note-tucked-into-a-school-lunchbox-one-way-to-use-a-quote-about-mums.webp "5-a-note-tucked-into-a-school-lunchbox-one-way-to-use-a-quote-about-mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Bit Nobody Says About Quotes** I nearly wrote that the sad ones don’t belong on a list called heartwarming. That’s not quite right. A line that names the hard part is warm precisely because it doesn’t pretend. Pretending is the cold thing. Two things this list doesn’t cover, on purpose. There are no quotes about mothers who’ve died, because grief needs its own space and a scroll-through list isn’t it. And there are no affirmations, which are a different tool doing a different job. One last thought. Heartwarming quotes about mums work best when you stop reading them as a verdict on how you’re doing. They’re not a scorecard and they’re not an instruction. They’re just somebody putting words to a thing you already knew, so that for a minute the load feels a bit less private. Take the one that fits tonight and leave the rest. And if you want something more solid than words, [small habits that hold a week together](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/single-parents-healthy-habits/) are a decent place to start tomorrow. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are heartwarming quotes about mums?** Heartwarming quotes about mums are short lines that put words to the love and effort inside motherhood. The ones that work name something specific rather than praising mothers in general. **What is the best heartwarming quote about mums to put in a card?** Choose a short line about one specific thing she gave you, rather than a grand statement about a mother’s love. Short quotes also fit the card, which matters more than people expect. **What do you write when your relationship with your mum is complicated?** Pick a line that’s true instead of a line that’s warm, and keep it brief. A borrowed quote lets you say something kind without claiming more than you feel. **Are there quotes about mums raising kids on their own?** Yes, though they’re rare in most collections. In June 2025 the ABS counted 1.2 million one-parent families in Australia, with 77% headed by mums, so the gap in quote lists doesn’t match the reality. **Why do inspirational mum quotes sometimes make you feel worse?** Being told you’re wonderful can land as a rebuke when you already feel like you’re falling short. Lines that name the hard part honestly tend to help more on a bad day. **What should you do with a quote once you’ve found one?** Put it somewhere you’ll see it again, like a lock screen, a sticky note inside a cupboard door, or a lunchbox note. A quote read once and scrolled past does nothing. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/heartwarming-quotes-about-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/heartwarming-quotes-about-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking --- ### [Great Books For Divorce You Need To Read First](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/best-books-for-divorce/) **Published:** September 8, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Discover some great books for divorce to help single mums heal, rebuild confidence, and find hope through powerful stories and expert guidance. **Content:** Going through a divorce is like riding an emotional rollercoaster you never really signed up for. There’s a mix of sadness, anger, relief, and even fear of what comes next. When I first found myself in this situation, I often felt like I was on an island. Surrounded by emotions too intense to handle alone. But I discovered that fiction and self-help books for divorce could be a lifesaver. They helped me process these overwhelming feelings, showing me that I wasn’t alone. There was a way through the fog. **The great books for divorce fall into four groups, and most of us need one from each. For the emotional stages, start with *Rebuilding* by Bruce Fisher. For the money side, *The Barefoot Investor* by Scott Pape sorts the practical stuff in plain Australian terms. For helping the kids through it, *The Splits* by Bron O’Loan gives you the actual words to use. And when you need to laugh instead of cry, *Get Divorced, Be Happy* by Helen Thorn is the one I reached for first.** Pick one. You don’t need all ten at once. **Quick Takeaways:** - **Start with one book, not five.** Finishing a single title that matches where you are right now does more than a stack that sits beside the bed unread. - **Match the book to the problem.** Emotional recovery, money, the kids, and the legal side are four different reads, and no single title handles all four well. - **Audiobooks count as reading.** School run, folding washing, walking the dog. Most of these titles can be listened to, which is often the only way a chapter gets finished. - **Try your library before you buy.** Most Australian public libraries lend ebooks and audiobooks free with your card, so you can test a book before spending anything on it. Good to knowThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy a book through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. It does not change which books we recommend or what we say about them. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ## **Literature and Separation** Literature, especially during such trying times, serves as a gentle guide. It offers perspectives that resonate, practical advice, and stories that remind you that healing is possible. When choosing a book to accompany you on this journey, look for key themes such as resilience, emotional healing, and practical guidance on rebuilding your life. These themes are essential as they help you survive a breakup, bringing comfort during uncertainty. As for me, **[Helen Thorn’s Get Divorced, Be Happy](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/qza9dL)** is the book I read after my separation. Being a comedian, Helen made me laugh, cry, and realise it’s not the end of the world. Honestly, she convinced me I didn’t want to get back together with my ex-husband. From my years of experience coaching other single women, here are 10 more books for divorce to help you through: ## **Top 10 Best Books to Read for Divorce or Separation** ### **[“The Barefoot Investor” by Scott Pape](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgad1)** Divorce isn’t just about emotional upheaval; it often comes with financial challenges, too. Scott Pape’s *The Barefoot Investor* became my go-to guide for getting my finances in order. Although not specifically written with divorcees in mind, it’s perfect for anyone who feels overwhelmed by financial jargon. Scott breaks down complex financial concepts into simple, actionable steps, helping you take control of your financial future. What’s more, Scott is actually Australian, so you’ll find many stories and situations you can relate to in this bestselling book. [![The Barefoot investor book](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/image-1.jpeg "How to enjoy a solo Valentine's Day - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgad1) ### **[“Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends” by Bruce Fisher](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/POMEGe)** This classic has been a trusted companion for many facing the end of a relationship. Bruce Fisher’s Rebuilding provides a step-by-step program to help you move through the emotional stages of the end of a marriage. The book is like a kind friend, offering understanding and practical counsel on how to rebuild your life from the ground up. [![Rebuilding when your relationship ends book](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/image-4.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/POMEGe) ### **[“Surviving an Unwanted Divorce” by Lysa TerKeurst](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/JKMXDQ)** Two of my customers, who had battled from a religious perspective during their divorce, suggested this book to me. Even if you are contemplating divorce, going through one, or still trying to get over it years later. It doesn’t matter where you are in their journey. Surviving an Unwanted Divorce offers practical, biblically based strategies for growing in self-awareness and faith when one stage of life ends and a new, optimistic one begins. [!["Surviving an Unwanted Divorce" by Lysa TerKeurst](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9781400250127/7209/surviving-an-unwanted-divorce.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/JKMXDQ) ### **[“How to Divorce and Move On Like a Queen” by Carla Da Costa](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vPJkRN)** Carla teaches you how to locate the one, not just another one, and explains why you did or did not choose certain partners. This book will motivate you to make this next phase of your life the best one yet in terms of relationships, finances, job, love, and self-worth, regardless of where you are in your divorce recovery. [!["How to Divorce and Move On Like a Queen" by Carla Da Costa](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9781763800991/2108/how-to-divorce-and-move-on-like-a-queen.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vPJkRN) ### **[“Heartbreak” by Florence Williams](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LKMBb3)** Florence Williams’ Heartbreak exposes the science of emotional pain, offering a unique perspective on the physical and psychological effects of a breakup. It’s both a memoir and an exploration of the science behind heartache, providing comfort in understanding why you feel the way you do — and how to heal. [!["Heartbreak" by Florence Williams](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/image-3.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LKMBb3) ### **[“Aftermath” by Rachel Cusk](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgax3)** Aftermath: On Marriage and Separation is a profoundly personal account of Rachel Cusk’s own experiences. Her raw and honest writing resonates with those who are grappling with the identity shifts that come with the end of a marriage. Rachel writes an unflinching reminder that while divorce is an ending, it’s also a beginning, a chance to redefine yourself. [!["Aftermath" by Rachel Cusk](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/image-6.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgax3) ### **[“Split: A Memoir of Divorce” by Suzanne Finnamore](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/APvezJ)** Screenwriter and editor Suzanne Finnamore’s [Split ](https://amzn.to/3z7l7uZ)is a candid, often humorous memoir that captures the emotional whirlwind of failing marriages. Best known for her work in Oprah and The New York Times. Suzanne’s hilarious writing is both relatable and insightful, making you laugh one moment and tear up the next. Filled with humour, it’s a comforting reminder that you’re not alone in this journey. [!["Split: A Memoir of Divorce" by Suzanne Finnamore](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/image-9.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/APvezJ) ### **[“Your Divorce Advisor” by Diana Mercer & Marsha Kline Pruett](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DyvG2q)** This invaluable manual, authored by a skilled team of psychologists and attorneys, gives divorcing individuals the tools they need to take charge of their own divorce on all levels—legally, financially, and emotionally. It takes you step-by-step through the divorce procedure. With the help of crucial financial information and cutting-edge research on children’s needs, you can make decisions that benefit both you and your kids and put you on the path to solutions that benefit all parties. The way all of this is conveyed is kind, reasonable, and reassuring. [!["Your Divorce Advisor" by Diana Mercer & Marsha Kline Pruett](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9780684870687/0000/your-divorce-advisor.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DyvG2q) ## **[“Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other” by Lauren J. Behrman & Jeffrey Zimmerman](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgaB3 ""Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other" by Lauren J. Behrman & Jeffrey Zimmerman")** Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other provides effective techniques rooted in values-based parenting and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). You’ll receive resources to assist you in recognizing conflict cycles and methods for ending them before they become unmanageable. Additionally, you will learn how to have healthy and constructive conversations with one other and your kids. You’ll gain practical tools to help you deal with the pain and rage that might follow a high-conflict divorce. This book will teach you how to transition from ex-parent to co-parent and begin reestablishing your life and that of your child. [!["Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other" by Lauren J. Behrman & Jeffrey Zimmerman](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9781626259041/3415/loving-your-children-more-than-you-hate-each-other.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLgaB3) ### **[“The Splits: How to help your kids navigate separation and divorce” by Bron O’Loan](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/YRMPEe)** The Splits is a manual for parents who are concerned about how their children may be affected by separation and who require assistance in having the essential discussions with their children about all facets of separation, divorce, and what would happen if the matter went to family court. By teaching you what to talk about with their children and what to avoid talking about with them, this book will empower you to help your children. [![](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9781922553393/0410/the-splits.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/YRMPEe) ## **Best Books for Divorce Navigating the Aftermath** Once the dust has settled, it’s time to rebuild. Whether you’re a couple going through mediation or handling custody arrangements, these books for divorce provide the guidance and insight needed to steer the complexities of divorce. This is where these books truly shine, offering guidance on how to take the next steps. Whether it’s getting your finances in order with The Barefoot Investor or finding emotional clarity with Rebuilding, these books provide the tools you need to move forward. One common pitfall to avoid is rushing into new relationships or thinking about remarrying before you’ve fully healed. Books like Split can help you understand the importance of giving yourself time to process and grow. Remember, the aftermath of divorce isn’t just about survival — it’s about rebuilding a life that’s even stronger and more fulfilling than before. ## **Finding Support Beyond Books for Divorce** While books are an excellent resource, they’re just one piece of the puzzle. Managing the complexities of a breakup often requires professional help beyond the pages of an essay, poem, or novel. This is especially true when dealing with family law issues, high-conflict separation, parenting arrangements, and legal matters. ![Woman reading great divorce books in bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Woman-reading-great-divorce-books-in-bed.jpg "Woman-reading-great-divorce-books-in-bed - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Family Law and Mediation** Seeking the input of a family lawyer can provide you with the legal support and clarity you need during this challenging time. A good law practitioner can help you understand your rights, negotiate fair arrangements, and guide you through the legal processes involved in the dissolution of a marriage. Mediation is another option worth considering if you want a less combative approach. It offers a more collaborative way to resolve disputes, allowing both parties to reach mutually beneficial agreements without the stress of court battles. ### **Therapy and Counselling** In addition to legal support and books for divorce, [therapy or counselling can be incredibly beneficial](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere). A therapist can help you process the emotional turmoil that comes with a split, offering coping strategies and a safe space to express your feelings. For many, therapy provides the emotional tools needed to navigate this life transition with resilience and strength. ### **Support Groups** [**Joining a support group** ](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)was a game-changer. It was a place where I could share my story, listen to others, and realise I wasn’t alone. These groups can offer a sense of community and understanding that complements the wisdom found in books. They also provide a platform to discuss practical matters, such as legal challenges, custody issues, setting boundaries, and co-parenting strategies with others who are going through similar experiences. Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. Professional help, whether through a solicitor, mediator, therapist, or support group, can provide you with the comprehensive support you need to move forward confidently. Each piece of the puzzle works together to help you rebuild your life and find peace on solid ground. [![Elle counselling services](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Image 1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ## **Conclusion: Embracing a New Chapter with Books for Divorce** Divorce is undoubtedly one of life’s most challenging experiences, but it’s also an opportunity for growth and renewal. As you turn the pages of these books, you’ll find not just stories and advice but a roadmap to healing and rebuilding from grief. Let these stories inspire you to embrace this new chapter of your life with an open heart and mind. Know that you’re stronger than you think and more capable than you ever imagined. After all, every ending is just a new beginning in disguise. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are the best books for divorce to read first?** Start with the one that matches what is loudest right now, whether that’s the emotional fallout, the money, or the kids. Of the ten books for divorce on this list, *Rebuilding* by Bruce Fisher is the most common first read because it walks through the emotional stages in order. **Do books for divorce actually help, or are they just something to hold?** They help most when you pick one for a specific problem rather than reading generally about separation. A book that explains why you feel a certain way, or gives you a sentence to say to your kids, gives you something you can use that week. **Should I read one while I’m still deciding whether to leave?** Yes, and some of these are written for exactly that stage rather than the aftermath. Reading about what the process actually involves tends to make the decision feel less frightening, not more. **What should I read to help my kids through a separation?** *The Splits* by Bron O’Loan is written for parents who don’t know what to say to their children about separation and family court. It covers what to raise with them and what to leave out, which is the part most of us get stuck on. **Is there an Australian book that covers the money side?** *The Barefoot Investor* by Scott Pape is Australian, so the accounts, terms, and examples match the system you’re actually dealing with. It isn’t written for divorce specifically, which is worth knowing, but it’s the plainest starting point for rebuilding finances on one income. **Can I read these for free?** Most Australian public libraries lend ebooks and audiobooks to members at no cost, usually through an app you can borrow from at home. It’s the cheapest way to work out whether a book suits you before you buy a copy to mark up. **How many books do I actually need?** One at a time is plenty, and many mums only ever finish two or three of the ten here. Reading four half-finished books tends to leave you with less than reading one all the way through. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/best-books-for-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/best-books-for-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [2026 Halloween Gift Guide: Ultimate Spooktacular Halloween Gift Ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-gift-guide/) **Published:** September 6, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Our Halloween gift guide covers kids, teachers and costumes on a single-income budget. See what's worth buying and what to skip this October. Read now! **Content:** October has a way of arriving before you’ve finished with September. If Halloween is sitting somewhere on your list between the school notices and the grocery shop, you’re in good company. **Here’s the short version. In Australia, Halloween isn’t a gift occasion the way a birthday or Christmas is. Most of what gets called a Halloween gift is really one of three things: a small treat for your own kids, a token for a teacher or neighbour, or a costume you’d rather not spend $60 on. This Halloween gift guide covers all three, priced for one income. Retail figures put the average Halloween spend at around $103 a person, and that number is a national average, not a bar you have to clear.** **Quick Takeaways** - **If your kids move between two homes, pick things that fit in a bag.** A gift that lives at one house gets forgotten at the other. - **Halloween 2026 falls on a Saturday.** No school-night bedtime fight, and it sits inside a weekend block if you share care. - **The average Australian spends about $103 on Halloween.** Most of a good night costs nothing at all. - **Sort the costume by mid-October.** Stock in the discount stores thins right out in the final fortnight. Affiliate disclosureThis article contains affiliate links. If you buy through one of them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we believe are genuinely useful for single mums, and a commission never buys a spot on our lists. --- COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![Single mum and two kids in homemade Halloween costumes on an Australian front porch at dusk](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/1-single-mum-and-two-kids-in-homemade-halloween-costumes-on-an-australian-front-porch-at-dusk.webp "1-single-mum-and-two-kids-in-homemade-halloween-costumes-on-an-australian-front-porch-at-dusk - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Counts as a Halloween Gift in Australia?** A Halloween gift in Australia is usually a small, low-cost item given around 31 October. Think a treat for a child, a token for a teacher or neighbour, or a costume accessory. There’s no tradition of wrapped presents the way there is at Christmas. Most households spend under $110 across lollies, costumes and decorations combined. That last part is where most gift guides go wrong. They’re written as though Halloween is Christmas with cobwebs, complete with wrapping paper and a present under every arm. Nobody in my street has ever given or received a Halloween present. What actually happens is a costume, a bucket, and forty minutes of walking around in the warm. So this guide keeps the presents small. It won’t cover big-budget yard displays or hosting a party either, because both of those need money and a spare weekend, and I’m assuming you have limited amounts of both. ## **Halloween 2026 Falls on a Saturday. Here’s What Changes.** A Saturday Halloween removes the two hardest parts of the night. There’s no school pickup to work around, and no 8pm scramble to get overtired kids into bed for a Monday morning. It also means the 31st sits inside a whole weekend block rather than cutting across a school night. If you have a set arrangement, that weekend already belongs to someone. Worth sorting early, and worth sorting in writing. A short message in October beats a tense phone call on the day. If the two of you are still working out how to make joint decisions land without friction, some of the ground rules in [collaborative co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/) apply here too. ### **What If the Kids Are With Their Dad on Halloween?** You have three real options, and none of them are a consolation prize. - Swap the weekend if your arrangement has any give in it and you both want to. - Do your own version on the Friday night. Costumes on, lollies out, a walk around the block if any neighbours are set up early. - Let the 31st go and take the Sunday instead. A [Halloween movie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-movies/) afternoon on the couch, with the good snacks. I used to treat a missed Halloween as something lost. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. What my daughter remembers isn’t the date. It’s the year we made a ghost out of an old sheet at 9pm and laughed until we couldn’t breathe. The calendar matters far less to them than it does to us. ## **Halloween Gift Ideas for Kids** The best Halloween gifts for kids are small, cheap, and portable. If your children move between two homes, portable matters more than it sounds. - A torch or a set of glow sticks. Useful on the night, and it doubles as a safety item. - A bucket or tote they can reuse every year. Ours is on its fourth Halloween. - A pack of temporary tattoos or face paint. Cheaper than a costume and often more fun. - A single paperback with a spooky bent, sized to fit in the changeover bag. - Glow-in-the-dark stickers for the bedroom ceiling. Sixty cents of joy. Most of that turns up in the seasonal aisle from about mid-September. [Bulk packs on Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2f) work out cheaper if you’re buying glow sticks for a whole group of kids. Notice what’s missing. No plush toys, no keepsakes, no engraved anything. Those things are lovely and they’re also the things that end up in a cupboard by November. A cheap torch gets used every night for a year. ![halloween gift guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Halloween-gift-guide-1.jpg "Halloween gift guide 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Small Gestures for Teachers and Neighbours** Something small and consumable, or nothing at all. Teachers get an enormous amount of tat, and most of them would rather have a note. If you want to mark it, a handful of individually wrapped lollies in a paper bag with a drawing from your kid on the front does more than a bought item. It costs about two dollars. It also gets eaten, which means nobody has to find a shelf for it. If you’d rather send something bigger, for a grandparent or a carer who’s done the heavy lifting this year, a [Gourmet Basket hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fgourmet-food-and-wine%2fboxed-treats%2f) covers it without you having to think of anything clever. For neighbours who go all out with their decorating, a thank-you note through the letterbox on 1 November is a nice touch. Costs nothing. Makes the street a bit friendlier for next year. And if baking is your thing rather than buying, a batch of [simple Halloween food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) splits neatly into a dozen small paper bags. ## **How Much Should Halloween Actually Cost?** Less than the figures suggest. Australians are [forecast to spend an average of $103 a head](https://www.roymorgan.com/findings/10046-ara-roy-morgan-media-release-halloween-2025) on Halloween, up 11% on the year before, and roughly one in five adults now takes part. In plain terms, that’s about a hundred dollars per participating adult across costumes, lollies, decorations and parties. You don’t need to hit that. Here’s roughly where the money actually goes for most families: - The costume, if bought new. This is the big one, usually $25 to $60. - Lollies to hand out, if your street gets traffic. Two or three large bags. - Decorations, which are optional and reusable once you own them. The line most people skip is the lollies. If you live somewhere busy, handing out is the cost that catches you off guard, not the costume. ## **Handing Out at the Door** Two large bags of individually wrapped lollies covers most streets. Buy less than you think and top up if you run out, because leftover Halloween lollies have a way of becoming your problem. Keep a few non-food treats in a separate bowl as well. Stickers, glow bracelets, small erasers, temporary tattoos. There will be at least one child on your street with a serious allergy, and their mum will notice that you thought of it. A few practical bits worth knowing: - Put the bowl out on the front step if you can’t get to the door every time. - Wrapped items only. Homemade treats go straight in the bin at most houses, which is a waste of your afternoon. - Skip anything hard or small if there are toddlers about. And if you’d rather sit this part out, turn the porch light off. That’s the accepted signal in most Australian streets and nobody thinks twice about it. ![halloween gift guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Halloween-gift-guide-2.jpg "Halloween gift guide 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Costumes Without the Last-Minute Scramble** Buy or build the costume by mid-October. The last fortnight is when the shops are down to size 2 and size 14, and you end up paying more for less. The cheapest good costume is almost always something you already own plus one bought piece. A black outfit and a set of cat ears. A white sheet and a marker. The [costume aisle at Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/EE79ee) or a rummage through the op shop will finish most looks off cheaply. There are plenty of [easy kids Halloween costume ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) that work on a school night’s worth of effort. Two practical things I’ve learned the hard way. Face paint beats a mask, because a mask that slips is a kid who can’t see a driveway. And whatever they wear needs something bright or reflective on it, because dusk in late October is exactly when this goes wrong. ## **How Do You Find a Street That Does Trick-or-Treating?** Ask before you drive.[ Halloween participation in Australia](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-10-31/halloween-australia-growth-displays-community-connection/105954120) is street by street, not suburb by suburb, and there’s nothing worse than walking a costumed five-year-old past twenty dark houses. Three ways that actually work: 1. Check your local council website. Many now list community events or trick-or-treat maps. 2. Ask in a local community group online. Someone always knows which streets go big. 3. Drive past in the late afternoon on the day. Decorated fences and carved pumpkins on the front step are the signal. Go early. Most Australian streets wrap up by about 8.30pm, and the sweet spot with small kids is 5pm to 6.30pm while it’s still light. [Kidsafe’s Halloween safety advice](https://www.kidsafevic.com.au/spooktacular-safety-tips-for-halloween/) is worth two minutes of your time before you head out, particularly the bit about choking hazards in the bucket for children under four. If you’re splitting the night with a co-parent or meeting up with another family, agreeing the route and the finish time in advance saves a lot of texting. A shared calendar in one of the [free co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/) handles this without a conversation. ## **Something Small for You** You’re allowed one. Halloween in Australia has grown into an adult occasion as well as a kids’ one, and there’s no rule that says the person doing the organising goes without. A block of decent chocolate hidden where the children won’t find it counts. So does an early night once the sugar wears off. There are seasonal offers worth a look in the [Beanstalk Mums Discount Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) too. And if the kids are away for the night, [Lovehoney’s Halloween range](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2f) covers the adults-only version of the occasion. ![Close-up of a child's hands painting a pumpkin at a kitchen table](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/2-close-up-of-a-childs-hands-painting-a-pumpkin-at-a-kitchen-table.webp "2-close-up-of-a-childs-hands-painting-a-pumpkin-at-a-kitchen-table - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Making Halloween Work on Your Terms** The whole point of a Halloween gift guide is meant to be making the night easier, not adding six things to your list. So here’s the one thing worth keeping if you keep nothing else: the kids will remember the walk, the costume they helped make, and you being in a good mood. None of that has a price on it. Whatever this October looks like in your house, whether that’s the full street parade or a movie and a bowl of lollies on the couch, it counts. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What day is Halloween in 2026?** Halloween falls on Saturday 31 October 2026. That’s a change from 2025, when it landed on a Friday, and it means no school-night bedtime pressure. **What should I buy for a Halloween gift guide on a budget?** Small, cheap and reusable beats keepsakes every time. A torch, glow sticks, a reusable trick-or-treat bucket and temporary tattoos will cost under $20 together. **How much do Australians spend on Halloween?** Retail research puts the average at around $103 per participating adult, up 11% on the previous year. That covers costumes, lollies, decorations and parties combined, and it’s an average rather than a target. **What do you give teachers for Halloween?** Something small and consumable, or a handwritten note. A paper bag of wrapped lollies with a drawing on the front costs about two dollars and doesn’t need a shelf. **How do I know which streets do trick-or-treating?** Check your local council website for community events or trick-or-treat maps, and ask in a local online community group. Decorated fences and carved pumpkins on the front step are the on-the-day signal. **What should I hand out at the door?** Two or three large bags of individually wrapped lollies covers most streets, plus a small bowl of non-food options like stickers or glow bracelets for children with allergies. Turn the porch light off if you’d rather not take part. **What if my kids are with their other parent on Halloween?** Swap the weekend if your arrangement allows, or run your own version on the Friday or Sunday. Children remember the costume and the walk far more than the specific date. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-gift-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-gift-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween, halloween gift guide --- ### [20+ Online clothing stores for women in Australia (with specials)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/20-online-clothing-stores-for-women-with-specials/) **Published:** October 6, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Who needs a shopping centre when there is a massive range of women’s clothing available online? Personally, I find shopping for clothes online way more enjoyable than shopping in-store. There are heaps of advantages that explain why so many people are now choosing to scroll from their sofa and click to buy without physically trying anything on. I rarely pay for postage, returns are easy (often free), and the quality and range of sizes will impress the most avid shopper. Bigger online clothes stores have handy zoom buttons to drill in and check out every detail of the piece I am planning to buy, and videos give me an excellent feel for how clothes will look when worn. Plus, I get the feeling that retailers *want*me to purchase online. For this reason, they offer incentives such as money off, free shipping, and exclusive online specials. Best of all, I get to try the clothes on in the privacy of my home and see if they work with the rest of my wardrobe. Win. Win. Win. But with so much choice, where do you start? Here is a list of my top online clothing stores for women, including their discounts, specials, shipping details and all that important stuff. ## MY LITTLE BUYING GUIDE **Note:** As wonderful as online shopping is, I find it is easy to get carried away. Here is some advice from an average shopper (me) to shop smart online: - Always refer to the sizing guide before you buy. All stores have different sizing. Getting it right the first time alleviates the hassle of a return … take it from someone who has made hundreds of unnecessary returns. - Check the currency on the website you are browsing. It is all too easy to think you are paying in AUD when it’s actually USD. This can be an expensive mistake, which I will admit I have made more than once. If you are happy to pay in a different currency, calculate the exchange rate so you know how much it will come out of your account. - If you need your item of clothing by a certain time, be sure to check how long delivery takes to avoid frustrating no-shows. In many cases, you can pay more for a faster delivery option. - Be aware of the return procedure as these vary from site to site. Check whether you can return items and if you get a full refund or a voucher to spend in-store. Many online clothing stores, but not all, charge a fee for a return depending on where you drop your return parcel. For example, some of the major stores charge me around $9 to drop a return at a Post Office, whereas if I drop it at ParcelPoint, it is $1. It’s a nice saving if you read the small print. - Make use of the brilliant review systems on the big online clothing superstores. Get purchasers’ thoughts on the pieces of clothing you are considering, and even see photos of them being worn. I find this particularly handy for sizing, as people suggest whether clothing comes up big or small, which is the one question I always have when picking a size. - Be savvy and don’t spend more than you have to. [Simple online shopping hacks that can save you money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/8-brilliant-online-shopping-hacks-to-need-to-know/) include subscribing to emails so I know when my favourite online clothing store has a sale, and checking for coupon codes to add at checkout. ## BRILLIANT ONLINE CLOTHING STORES FOR WOMEN IN AUSTRALIA ### [MILANOO](https://m.milanoo.com/ "MILANOO") Online clothing store Milanoo has been around since 2008, selling women’s and men’s clothes, accessories and electronics. Their store is based in China and the clothes tend to be trendy and affordable with lots of one sizes and smaller sizing in general. It’s all a bit crazy, but I particularly like their extensive costume/cosplay section and special events/bridal dresses that are relatively cheaper compared to more popular brands. ***Available sizes:** Small to XXL* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, Discover, JCB, Diners Club, PayPal, Western Union, bank wire transfer* ***Delivery details:** Standard, expedited shipping and Milanoo delivery available* ***Specials:** $10 off your first order when you sign up to emails* ![Milanoo Bodycon Dress | Beanstalk Mums](https://www-s.mlo.me/upen/v/2022/202209/20220927/20220927181119519566.jpg) My favourite piece at [Milanoo](https://m.milanoo.com/) ### [BIRDSNEST](https://www.birdsnest.com.au/) Next up is Birds Nest, which is all about on-trend but wearable style for all ages. They’re known for their personalised styling service (perfect for busy mums like me) and excellent customer service. Never wonder what to wear again … just head over to their styled outfits section to see over 1000 outfits of the day (OOTD) ideas for practically any event. The sizing is inclusive and goes up to 3XL for many styles. ***Available sizes:** From XS (6-8) to 3XL (22 and up)* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free express delivery when you spend $150 or more, flat rate of $9.95 for less than $150* ***Specials:** Markdowns in the Sale category, more specials on their website* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Birdk-506__greymarle_019__44075-533x800.jpg "Birdk-506__greymarle_019__44075 - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [BIRDSNEST](https://www.birdsnest.com.au/cdn/shop/files/NBIRD-110_Lagoon_Model_tahneei_10_Full_1_20260302_S.jpg?v=1772461874&width=900) ### [THE ICONIC](https://www.theiconic.com.au/womens-clothing-dresses/ "THE ICONIC") The Iconic is the go-to online clothing store for anyone who wants to build a versatile and professional wardrobe. They have an excellent selection of sleek work outfits (pencil skirts, tailored pants, and blazers) as well as printed tops and dresses, supportive swimwear, and everyday staples. The denim selection is a must with trendy cuts that flatter every shape. The shop carries brands like Tommy Hilfiger, Polo Ralph Lauren, Nike, Topshop, and Calvin Klein. I tended to shop at The Iconic when I worked in an office, less so now that I work from home. ***Available sizes:** From 6 to 26* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal and Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free standard shipping on orders $50 and over (Sydney Metro), otherwise $7.95* Specials: $20 voucher when you sign up for *their mailing list* [![The Iconic Lotus Strapless Dress | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img1.theiconic.com.au/fK9BGGZePl1iO_MTtJ3sN7ydxbQ=/634x811/filters:quality(95):fill(ffffff)/http%3A%2F%2Fstatic.theiconic.com.au%2Fp%2Fby-johnny-3094-9494131-1.jpg)](https://www.theiconic.com.au/the-lotus-strapless-dress-1314949.html) My favourite piece at [The Iconic](https://www.theiconic.com.au/the-lotus-strapless-dress-1314949.html) ## [ZAFUL](https://www.amazon.com/stores/ZAFUL/page/8DD095E7-6253-4688-AF24-1ED3D47FADB0) If you’re looking for affordable and chic clothes and accessories, Zaful is worth a look. The popular online retailer carries everything from workwear to activewear. Their regular sizing tends to be on the small side, though (lots of one sizes), but there’s a brilliant plus size section that goes up to 4XL. Overall, I like the cute, fun, on-trend styles that won’t break the bank. For even more savings, check out their flash sales and ‘Sale’ category. ***Available sizes:** From XS to 5X*L ***Payment options:** All credit cards, PayPal, Western Union,* ***Delivery details:** Free standard shipping on orders over $69* ***Specials:** 15% off your first order when you sign up for their newsletter, student discount* My favourite piece at [Zaful](https://www.amazon.com/stores/ZAFUL/page/8DD095E7-6253-4688-AF24-1ED3D47FADB0) ## [LONELY KIDS CLUB](https://lonelykidsclub.com/) Lonely Kids Club is an independent Australian clothing brand known for ethical graphic tees, women’s fit tees, oversized tees, hoodies and artist collaborations. Printed to order in Sydney using ethically sourced garments, the brand blends humour, original artwork and sustainability into clothing designed to stand apart from mass-produced fast fashion. ***Available sizes:** From S to 5X*L ***Payment options:** All credit cards* ***Delivery details:** Free standard shipping on orders over $85* ***Specials:** Sign up to earn sloth coins for big discounts just for buying clothes*. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Isawadogtee14-800x800.webp "Isawadogtee14 - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Lonely Kids Club](https://lonelykidsclub.com/collections/maples/products/i-saw-a-dog-tee?_pos=12&_fid=687c38530&_ss=c&variant=48100508991730) ## [BIG W](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) Although their selection is not as big as other online clothing stores, Big W’s discount prices and frequent specials are the biggest pulls for bargain-loving fashionistas. There’s always a sale to be found, whether you’re looking for a casual dress (starts from $10) or a great-fitting pair of jeans (head to their bestseller section for options). And the more you buy, the more you save. Check out their Everyday Rewards program that lets you collect points for every dollar you spend at Big W. I use this store for my basics, but occasionally find a piece that I really love, like the floral shirt below. ***Available sizes:** From XS to 3XL* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free standard shipping on orders over $100* ***Specials:** Collect 1 point on every dollar (exclusions apply) you spend with Everyday Rewards* [![Big W &me Floral Tie Blouse | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h4e/h77/30839408033822.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/ORvOzZ) My favourite piece at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/ORvOzZ) ## [IMAGINE FASHION](https://www.imaginefashion.com.au/) If you’re looking for an easy, breezy skirt that can do a bit of everything, Imagine Fashion’s [sustainable linen skirts](https://www.imaginefashion.com.au/collections/linen-skirts) are worth a look. There’s a good mix of lightweight linen and linen-blend styles, from relaxed midi skirts to longer, flowy options that are lovely for warm-weather days, holidays or simply throwing on with a favourite tee. I particularly like the range of neutral shades such as latte, navy, white and onyx, although there are some brighter colours if you prefer something with a little more personality. Sizes vary by style, with several options designed to fit sizes 8 to 18 and some extending to size 20. ![Person wearing a navy midi skirt with white painterly stripes and white sneakers, standing with one hand at the side.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Aim5219naim5218n_12_copy_2e78f18b-0343-461e-aba3-a0c37f60a9b1-1-571x800.webp "Aim5219naim5218n_12_copy_2e78f18b-0343-461e-aba3-a0c37f60a9b1 - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Imagine Fashion](https://www.imaginefashion.com.au/collections/linen-skirts/products/tamia-skirt-in-navy?variant=41128148172843) ***Available sizes:*** *Varies by style, with options from S to XXL and selected styles fitting approximately sizes 8–20* ***Payment options:*** *Afterpay, PayPal, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Shopify Pay and major credit cards* ***Delivery details:*** *Free standard shipping within Australia on orders over $150; shipping is calculated at checkout for orders under $150* ***Specials:*** *Selected linen skirts are currently discounted, with some sale styles also offering extra discounts at checkout* ## [SALTY CRUSH](https://saltycrush.com/) Inspired by Sydney’s gorgeous beaches, the clothes at Salty Crush are breezy, wearable, and laid-back. This is the shop to go to if you’re looking for vacation clothes. There are plenty of boho styles, playful prints, and bold colours that are not super trendy. I adore the maxi dresses that scream summer. Head to their sale section now to score discounts on pretty dresses and workwear. Salty Crush is one of my personal favourite online clothing stores for women. ***Available sizes:** From XS to XL* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Afterpay, Zip Pay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $100 Australia wide, otherwise $10* ***Specials:** Big discounts on Sale items* My favourite piece at [Salty Crush](https://saltycrush.com/) ## CHIC PICKS: CLOTHING STORES FOR WOMEN IN AUSTRALIA TO BUY ONLINE ## [HELLO MOLLY](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/41444?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.hellomolly.com%2f) Hello Molly is the online clothing store for on-trend but affordable essentials. This brand is all about the ultra-feminine aesthetic, from its floaty casual wear to bodycon party dresses. Fashionistas are in for a treat with 100 new styles every week, ranging from fun and flirty to bold and confident. Most of the pieces are perfect for younger women chasing the next trend, but there are also a handful of classic and timeless styles (check out their power dressing separates for work/office) that older women can pull off. ***Available sizes:** From XS to XL (8-24)* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, AfterPay, Hello Molly store credi*t ***Delivery details:** Free express shipping on orders over $50, otherwise $6.95* ***Specials:** Sign up to get 10% off your first order, more specials in their Sale section* My favourite piece at [Hello Molly](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/41444?Url=https%3a%2f%2fau.hellomolly.com%2fproducts%2fmodel-me-midi-dress-pink) ## [CITY CHIC](https://www.citychic.com.au/) It’s easy to see why City Chic is fast becoming a favourite shopping destination for plus-size ladies. Their shop is dedicated to on-trend outfits that flatter curvaceous figures (sizing is up to 24/XXL). The overall style is wearable and not overly trendy, and the pieces can be easily mixed and matched with what’s already in your closet. Their formal dresses section is filled with gorgeous styles in form-fitting silhouettes that are perfect for night outs, clubbing, and special events. ***Available sizes:** From 14/XS to 24/XXL* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal, Afterpay and City Chic gift cards* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $150, otherwise a flat rate fee of $10* ***Specials:** Up to 50% off selected styles, big markdowns in their sale section* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Citychic-481x800.jpg "Citychic - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [City Chic](https://www.citychic.com.au/) ## [SHOWPO](https://www.showpo.com/row/) Showpo is a Sydney-based online retailer that’s beloved by fashionistas of all ages and sizes. The styles are fun, playful, and laid back. There’s a wide range of looks to choose from, whether you’re looking for a trendy going out dress, a structured piece for workwear or basics for every day. They add 50-100 new styles each week, so you’ll never run out of ideas. I’ve bought some classic pieces at Showpo that have stood the test of time … and quality. ***Available sizes:** From 0 to 20, Plus size section* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $40, $6.95 for orders under $50* ***Specials:** More specials on their website, 10% Student discount* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Astra_midi_dress_-_v_neck_long_sleeve_knit_dress_in_white_255-500x800.webp "Astra_midi_dress_-_v_neck_long_sleeve_knit_dress_in_white_255 - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [ShowPo](https://www.showpo.com/row/) ## [APERO](https://www.aperolabel.com/collections/dresses) Can’t get enough of French fashion? You’ll love Apero. This French-inspired label is wowing fans with its tres chic, timeless styles made from natural materials. Whether it’s something casual for a lunch date or a dressy 2-piece as evening wear, they have the effortless look nailed down. This is definitely a “wear more than once” item that you will keep in rotation. I’m a sucker for the classic silhouettes, charming details, and pops of bright colour. ***Available sizes:** From XS to 3XL* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Afterpay, Shop Pay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $150, otherwise $7.95 flat rate* ***Specials:** Markdowns in the Sale category, 10% off your first order when you sign up for emails* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Apero-ecomm-10%2010%202524530_1296x-533x800.webp "Apero-ecomm-10 10 2524530_1296x - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Apero](https://www.aperolabel.com/collections/dresses) ## [BODEN](https://www.boden.com/en-au) UK-based Boden is now offering stylish clothes for Aussie shoppers. Their line is extensive and includes clothes and accessories for women, men, kids, and babies. It’s really a one-stop shopping experience if you’re looking to stock your entire family’s wardrobe. Boden has exclusive collections of cashmere, workwear, petite, holiday, and linen items if you want to narrow down your search. Big thumbs up from me for their ‘no questions asked’ return policy for all online purchases. ***Available sizes:** From 6 to 22* ***Payment options:** Visa, MasterCard and PayPal* ***Delivery details:** Free delivery on orders over $200, otherwise $35 flat rate* ***Specials:** Sign up for emails to get 10% off your first order, more specials on their website* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Boden-619x800.webp "Boden - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Boden](https://www.boden.com/en-au) ## [TULIO](https://tulio.com.au/) Tulio is an online clothing store that carries brands like Bamboo Body, Caroline Morgan, Cotton Village, RTM, and more, as well as proudly homegrown designs. Shopping at Tulio is like shopping at my fave department store, where I’ll find a combination of styles and inclusive sizing. Browse by season, occasion, destination, and choice (Eco Edit, Bamboo, Linen). I like their wide selection of plus-size clothing and a Sale category organised by size. ***Available sizes:** From 8 to 24* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, PayPal, Apple Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $45, otherwise $7 flat rate* ***Specials:** Get 10% off when you subscribe to emails, check out specials in the Sale category* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Tulio.webp "Tulio - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Tulio](https://tulio.com.au/) ## [BOOHOO](https://au.boohoo.com/) If you’re on Instagram, you’ve probably heard of the brand Boohoo. The label is popular with younger women because of its on-trend styles that won’t break your wallet. Boohoo has grown since its launch in 2006, and it just keeps getting bigger (over 100 new items are added to its catalogue every day). If it’s variety you want, Boohoo definitely delivers. While most of the pieces are trendy, older women can find timeless styles for work or everyday. Check out their staples, workwear, and maternity categories! ***Available sizes:** From 4 to 28* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal and Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** $14.99 Australia standard shipping* ***Specials:** 10% off when you sign up for emails, more specials on their website* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Boohoo-533x800.webp "Boohoo - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Boohoo](https://au.boohoo.com/) ## [Best & Less](https://www.bestandless.com.au/) If you’re on the hunt for basics and everyday casuals that won’t break your wallet, Best & Less is the place to be. Formerly Sheknows, the online store is like its brick and mortar counterparts: minimal, pared down and stocked with quality items as low as $1. Their inventory runs to over 2,600 items, mostly tops, bottoms and accessories. Join their Friends Club for free to get even more perks while you shop, including birthday vouchers, weekly draws, and exclusive offers. Oh, and it’s the one-stop shop for undies for my family. ***Available sizes:** From 8 (45) to 26* (28) ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Afterpay, Zip Pay*, *Klarna* ***Delivery details:** Flat rate $10 Australia-wide* ***Specials:** Big markdowns in the Clearance category* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Best-less-640x800.avif "Best less - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Best & Less](https://www.bestandless.com.au/) ## OUR FINAL PICKS: WHERE TO BUY WOMEN’S CLOTHES ONLINE ## [SHOPBOP](https://www.shopbop.com/) If you’re in the mood for stylish, well-made clothes and endless variety, head to Shopbop, an online retailer that curates pieces from established and up-and-coming designers. Find bestselling and popular pieces from your favourite brands like AGOLDE, 7 for All Mankind, Tory Burch, Levi’s, Adidas, and more. Whether you’re dressing up for a hot date or down for casual Friday, you’re sure to find something unique. Make sure to check out their “favourites” category, where you can shop by occasion and brand. ***Available sizes:** From XXS to XXL* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, UnionPay, Alipay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $100, otherwise $15* ***Specials:** 15% off your first purchase when you sign up for emails, more specials on their website* ![Rag ang Bone Calista Dress | Beanstalk Single mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/G/01/Shopbop/p/prod/products/ragbo/ragbo4594624527/ragbo4594624527_1649282403552_2-0.jpg) My favourite piece at [Shopbop](https://www.shopbop.com/) ## [TAKING SHAPE](https://takingshape.com/AU/) Plus-size ladies shop at Taking Shape for everyday staples and wearable basics that are timeless. All styles are designed to make you look and feel empowered, whether you’re a plus-sized petite, tall or of average height. The basics are wearable and perfect for work, play and going out. If you’re in the mood for more trendy pieces, there are pretty dresses and flowy solids in bold colours. ***Available sizes:** From 12 to 24* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Openpay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders over $90, otherwise $9.95* ***Specials:** Visit their Sale and Clearance sections for great deals, sign up to receive exclusive offers* ![Taking Shape Dazzle Lace Tunic | Beanstalk Mums](https://takingshape.com/dw/image/v2/BCSJ_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-master-catalog-takingshape/default/dwd6ea47fc/images/MT-37082/T37082_9001_1.jpg?sw=696&sh=975) My favourite piece at [Taking Shape](https://takingshape.com/AU/) ## [BARDOT](https://www.bardot.com/) Australian online clothing store Bardot offers up sleek glamour and sophisticated sustainability for discerning fashionistas. Founded over two decades ago, the brand has everything from on-trend, sexy pieces to updated classics for day to night. If, like me, you love vegan fashion, you’ll adore their eco-friendly, premium line (check out the vegan leather and organic edits). There’s also Bardot Junior for when you feel like twinning with your mini me. Prices are mid to high, and sizing could be more inclusive, but overall, the timeless, wearable style makes Bardot a winner. ***Available sizes:** From 6 to 16* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free shipping on orders $150 and over, otherwise $$9.95* ***Specials:** Great deals on their website, $20 off your first purchase* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Bardot-533x800.jpg "Bardot - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite piece at [Bardot](https://www.bardot.com/) ## [SHEIN](https://www.anrdoezrs.net/click-100360368-13507586?url=https%3A%2F%2Fau.shein.com%2F%3Furl_from%3Daugooglebrandshein_shein07_srsa_20210124) SHEIN has been all over social media lately, and you’ve probably seen the cute clothes on your feed. SHEIN is a fast fashion retailer selling affordable and trendy apparel and accessories for women, men and kids. It’s a brilliant place to shop for fashionistas on a budget and people looking for fun pieces they plan to wear once (the quality of the clothes is similar to Forever21, and can be a hit or miss). The value is incredible, but some items come into the ‘get what you pay for’ category, which isn’t a major issue, as returns are easy. ***Available sizes:** From XS to 4XL* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free for orders over $29.00, otherwise $7.95* ***Specials:** 10% off your first order when you sign up for emails, more specials on their website* ![Shein | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.ltwebstatic.com/images3_pi/2021/03/20/16162296382b9f0be66864d52d817a0bcf5f3eaf52.jpg) My favourite piece at [SHEIN](https://au.shein.com/Solid-Rib-Knit-Bodycon-Dress-p-2166747-cat-1727.html?scici=WomenHomePage~~ON_Banner,CN_cat,HZ_sweatshirt,HI_hotZonejedoztnvnpc~~6_1~~real_1727\~~~~) So, you’ve got your outfit sorted, and now you need some posh new undies? 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Learn how much sunscreen you really need, what to skip, and which habits earn their place. **Content:** There’s a specific kind of tired that has you standing at the bathroom mirror at 11pm, doing the maths on whether any of this is worth it. I’ve been that mum. Most nights, if I’m honest. So let’s skip the scolding. **The 7 sins of skincare are the habits that quietly undo the effort you’re already making. In Australian conditions they come down to seven things: using too little sunscreen, trusting the SPF number on its own, skipping sun protection in the car, stripping skin that’s already irritated, piling on too many active ingredients, applying products in an order that cancels them out, and sleeping in a full face of makeup.** Most of them cost nothing to fix. One of them might save you money. **Key Takeaways:** - **Amount beats brand.** Cancer Council recommends one full teaspoon of sunscreen for your face, neck and ears. Most people use a fraction of that. - **Two hours, always.** Reapply every two hours and after swimming, sweating or towel-drying, no matter what the bottle says about water resistance. - **Indoors is usually fine.** Cancer Council advises that sunscreen indoors is generally unnecessary. The car is the gap most Australians miss. - **Sunscreen still works.** Independent testing in 2025 found many popular SPF 50 products fell short of their label. The advice from every expert involved was to keep using it and apply more. Good to knowThis article is general information only and is not medical advice. For anything specific to your skin, including a spot or mole that has changed, please see your GP or a qualified health professional. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), Beanstalk Mums contributor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ![The 7 Sins Of Skincare | A full teaspoon of sunscreen showing how much to use on face, neck and ears](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/2-a-full-teaspoon-of-sunscreen-showing-how-much-to-use-on-face-neck-and-ears-1192x800.webp "2-a-full-teaspoon-of-sunscreen-showing-how-much-to-use-on-face-neck-and-ears - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Are The 7 Sins Of Skincare?** The 7 sins of skincare are seven common habits that reduce how well a routine protects your skin. In Australia they are: using too little sunscreen, relying on the SPF number alone, skipping sun protection while driving, over-cleansing irritated skin, layering too many actives, applying products in the wrong order, and sleeping in makeup. Here’s what this article won’t do. It won’t diagnose anything, recommend a brand, or tell you what to do about acne, melasma or a mole you’re worried about. Those need a GP, not a blog. What it will do is sort the habits that matter from the ones the internet keeps repeating. Same principle as [the daily habits that actually hold up](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healthy-habits-for-single-parents/) when you’re running a household solo: fewer moving parts, done more often. ## **Sin 1: Going Too Light On Sunscreen** The most common sunscreen mistake in Australia isn’t skipping it. It’s using a smear when you need a scoop. Cancer Council notes that most people apply far less than the recommended amount, which means they get nowhere near the protection printed on the bottle. A product that tests at SPF 50 in a lab is only SPF 50 at the lab’s application rate. ### **How Much Sunscreen Do You Actually Need?** For an adult, [about one teaspoon for your face, neck and ears](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/sunscreen), and a teaspoon each for your arms, legs, front and back. That’s roughly seven teaspoons for a full-body application. A teaspoon on your face looks like a lot. It is meant to. Apply it 20 minutes before you go out, on clean dry skin. And do the bits that get forgotten: ears, the back of your neck, the tops of your feet in thongs, the backs of your hands on the steering wheel. The same rule applies to the kids, which is where most of us quietly cut corners. A quick swipe across a wriggling five-year-old’s cheeks isn’t a teaspoon. Neither is what a teenager does to themselves at 8:15am. If you’ve got [a tween starting to handle their own skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tween-skin-care/), the amount is the one thing worth checking before you hand over the bottle. One exception: Cancer Council doesn’t recommend sunscreen for babies under six months. Shade, a hat and covering clothing do the job at that age. If you’ve been dotting it on like moisturiser, that’s not a failure of discipline. Nobody ever told you the amount. That’s the whole sin. ## **Sin 2: Trusting The SPF Number And Stopping There** SPF is a guide, not a guarantee. In June 2025, the consumer group CHOICE tested 20 popular Australian sunscreens and found 16 didn’t meet their labelled SPF claim. One returned a result so low it was later recalled. The TGA opened an investigation, and several products have since been pulled or retested. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was to feel a bit had. But the response from CHOICE itself is worth sitting with. Their chief executive warned against people concluding that sunscreen doesn’t work, because the gap between an SPF 50 label and an SPF 35 result is a much smaller gap in actual protection than the numbers suggest. Sunscreen still prevents skin cancer. The problem was label accuracy, not whether the stuff works. So the practical move isn’t to panic-buy. It’s to stop treating the number as the whole answer: - Reapply every two hours, and after swimming, sweating or towelling off. - Use it alongside a hat, shade and sleeves, not instead of them. - Check the expiry date, and don’t leave the bottle baking in the car. - Check the UV forecast rather than the temperature. UV can be high on a cool, overcast day. That last one catches a lot of people. Sunburn tracks UV, not heat, so a mild grey Sunday at the park can do more damage than it feels like it should. Cancer Council recommends sun protection whenever the UV index hits 3 or above, which in most of Australia is most of the year. One more thing on sprays. Cancer Council doesn’t recommend aerosol sunscreens, because it’s very hard to get enough product onto the skin. Australian research found a large share of it blows away in ordinary beach wind. If you’ve been relying on a spray for the kids at the park because it’s the only thing they’ll stand still for, a cream will do more, even applied imperfectly. ## **Sin 3: Skipping Sunscreen For The School Run** This is the one almost nobody writes about, and it’s the one I’d fix first. Every guide online tells you to wear sunscreen indoors every day. Cancer Council actually says [the opposite for most people](https://www.cancer.org.au/iheard/should-i-wear-sunscreen-when-indoors). Ordinary glass blocks UVB, so sitting inside away from direct sun carries low risk. Unless you spend hours right beside a sunny window, clothing is usually enough and sunscreen usually isn’t needed. That’s one product you don’t have to buy. Small win. The car is different. Windscreens are laminated and block nearly all UVA, but side windows generally aren’t, and untinted side glass lets a good chunk through. Because we drive on the left in Australia, sun damage tends to show up more on the right side of the face and the right arm. Now think about how much of your week happens in that seat. School drop-off, pick-up, Saturday sport, the supermarket, the after-school drive that exists purely so someone falls asleep. If you’re doing all the driving for a family on your own, you’re clocking up more of it than most households split between two adults. Nobody is taking the Tuesday run for you. Sunscreen on your face and the backs of your hands before you get in the car does more than a whole cabinet of serums. Window tinting helps too, though it has to meet your state’s rules. Actually, let me correct the framing. It isn’t that indoor sunscreen is wrong. It’s that the advice got aimed at the wrong room. The risk was never the lounge. It was the driver’s seat. ![Mum gently cleansing her face at a family bathroom basin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/3-mum-gently-cleansing-her-face-at-a-family-bathroom-basin-1192x800.webp "3-mum-gently-cleansing-her-face-at-a-family-bathroom-basin - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Sin 4: Stripping Skin That’s Already Struggling** If your skin is oily or breaking out, the instinct is to scrub harder. It usually backfires. Harsh foaming cleansers and repeated washing strip the outer barrier that holds moisture in. Skin that’s had its oils stripped tends to produce more, and irritated skin reacts to things it previously tolerated. You end up with oiliness and sensitivity at once, then spend money on products to fix a problem the cleansing caused. Twice a day with something gentle is plenty. Once, if your evening ran away from you. Hot water is the other half of this. A long, very hot shower at the end of a brutal day feels like the best thing available, and it does strip the skin more than a warm one. I’m not going to tell you to give that up. Just rinse your face at the basin instead of standing under the hot water with it, and put moisturiser on while your skin is still slightly damp. Sleep-deprived, stressed skin is more reactive than usual, which is worth knowing during a rough patch. Post-separation, a newborn, a house move: your skin notices. Being gentler for a few months isn’t giving up. It’s [adjusting what you ask of yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/) to match the season you’re in. ## **Sin 5: Stacking Too Many Actives At Once** Retinol on Monday, acid on Tuesday, vitamin C, a peel, a new serum a friend swears by. Then a rash around the mouth that wasn’t there a fortnight ago. Active ingredients work. They also compete, and a barrier that’s already thin can’t take four of them. The honest version: pick one active, use it a few nights a week, and give it eight to twelve weeks before you judge it. Skin turns over slowly. Most people quit at week three and blame the product. Fragrance is worth a mention here too. It often appears on labels simply as parfum, and it’s one of the more common triggers for contact reactions. If your skin has turned reactive and you can’t work out why, fragrance is a reasonable first suspect. Cancer Council also suggests testing any new product on a small patch of skin first, which takes about ten seconds and saves the occasional bad week. Everyone online says a proper routine means more steps. In practice, more steps is where most irritation comes from, and a shorter routine you actually do beats a long one you abandon in a fortnight. There’s a money side to this as well. A shelf of half-used serums is real spending that went nowhere. If skincare has become one of the places the budget leaks, [the discounts worth knowing about](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) are a better starting point than another product that promises to fix the last one. ## **Sin 6: Getting The Order Wrong** The standard rule is thinnest to thickest, so a watery serum can absorb before a heavy cream seals it in. That part holds up. But the rule everyone quotes for sunscreen doesn’t match Australian guidance. Most skincare guides say sunscreen goes last, on top of moisturiser. Cancer Council advises applying sunscreen first, to clean dry skin, so it can bind properly, then putting moisturiser or makeup over the top. Skin needs those 20 minutes for the sunscreen to set before UV exposure. Two credible positions, and the difference matters most on days you’ll be outside. The other order point worth knowing: SPF in a foundation or a moisturiser is a bonus, not a substitute. Nobody applies a teaspoon of foundation. If you’re relying on your makeup for sun protection, you’re getting a fraction of the number on the box. For anything more involved than this, the sequence stops mattering much. Cleanse, treat, moisturise, sunscreen. That’s it. ![Crowded skincare shelf showing too many active products layered at once](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/4-crowded-skincare-shelf-showing-too-many-active-products-layered-at-once.webp "4-crowded-skincare-shelf-showing-too-many-active-products-layered-at-once - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Sin 7: Falling Asleep In Your Makeup** Every skincare article scolds you for this. None of them account for the fact that you were up at 5am and did bath, dinner, homework and a load of washing on your own. So here’s the version that works. Sleeping in makeup does clog pores and irritate the eye area, and doing it regularly shows up. But the fix isn’t a full routine at midnight. It’s the minimum version that beats doing nothing: - Keep a pack of gentle cleansing wipes or a bottle of micellar water on your bedside table, not in the bathroom. Distance is the real obstacle. - Do your evening skincare after dinner, not at bedtime. Once you’re horizontal, it’s over. - Treat eye makeup separately. The skin there is thinner, and eye products are built to stay put, so rubbing at it with the same pad you used on your face isn’t kind to it. Wipes aren’t as thorough as a proper cleanse. They’re miles better than a pillowcase. On a night you’re running on nothing, take the wipe and go to bed. If you’re regularly getting to midnight with nothing left, the skincare isn’t really the issue. [Sleep is doing more for your skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/sleep-supplements/) than any night cream on the shelf, and no amount of retinol makes up for four broken hours. ## **What Does A Realistic Skincare Routine Look Like In 2026?** Three steps, most days. That’s the whole thing. A gentle cleanse. A moisturiser. Sunscreen in the morning, applied properly. Add one active in the evening if you’ve got a specific thing you’re working on and the patience for it. That routine takes under two minutes and holds up to a bad week. A ten-step routine looks better on social media and gets abandoned by the third night of broken sleep. If you want the longer version some evenings, have it. A slow shower and something nice on your face is a perfectly good [way to reset when the house is finally quiet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/relax-recharge-repeat-the-ultimate-at-home-spa-guide/). Just don’t build the baseline around your best night. Build it around your worst one. Same principle applies to the kids. A hat and sunscreen at the door beats a cupboard full of products, and the habit sticks better when it lives by the front door rather than in the bathroom. ## **Does Expensive Skincare Work Better?** Not reliably, and Cancer Council says so plainly about sunscreen: a higher price doesn’t necessarily mean higher quality. What matters is that it’s broad-spectrum, SPF 50 or 50+, water-resistant, and TGA-approved. The 2025 testing made the point for them. [The most expensive product](https://www.choice.com.au/health-and-body/beauty-and-personal-care/skin-care-and-cosmetics/articles/sunscreen-test) in the whole group returned the lowest result of any sunscreen tested, well below several supermarket options. Cancer Council’s line on choosing one is the best advice in this article. The best sunscreen is the one you’ll actually use. If it feels heavy, or it stings, or it leaves a cast you hate, you’ll skip it, and a skipped SPF 50 protects nobody. Same logic across the rest of a routine. A cleanser and a moisturiser that suit your skin will outperform a shelf of expensive products you use inconsistently. If money is tight and you’d rather spend it on the kids, that’s a completely reasonable call. Put it into the sunscreen and the moisturiser, and let everything else wait. ## **When Is It Worth Seeing A GP About Your Skin?** Sooner than most of us do. Around two in three Australians are diagnosed with skin cancer in their lifetime, and roughly 2,000 Australians die from it each year, according to Cancer Council. Those numbers are the reason the sunscreen sins sit at the top of this list rather than the bottom. Book an appointment if you notice a spot or mole that’s changing in size, shape or colour, a sore that won’t heal, or a new mark that looks different from the others on your skin. Persistent rashes, painful cystic acne, or a reaction that won’t settle are all worth a visit too. Getting a skin check into the calendar is one of those things that slides when you’re the only adult running the show. There’s no one else in the house going “have you booked that yet?” So book it the same week you book the kids’ dental appointments. Piggyback it onto something already scheduled, because that’s usually the only way anything for you gets done. ![Micellar water on a bedside table as a quick makeup removal step at night](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/5-micellar-water-on-a-bedside-table-as-a-quick-makeup-removal-step-at-night.webp "5-micellar-water-on-a-bedside-table-as-a-quick-makeup-removal-step-at-night - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The One Thing To Take From The 7 Sins Of Skincare** If you read all seven and remember one, make it this: use more sunscreen than feels reasonable, and put some on before you drive. That’s it. Not a new routine, not a shelf of products, not a single extra minute in a day that doesn’t have one. The rest of the 7 sins of skincare are worth fixing when you have the space, and there’s no rush. Fold them in one at a time, or don’t. Plenty of[ looking after yourself costs nothing at all](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/), and this is one of those areas. You’re not behind. You’re a woman running a household on her own who happens to also have skin, and it’s been quietly doing its job through every one of those 11pm nights. Be a bit gentler with it. And with yourself, while you’re at it. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **What are the 7 sins of skincare?** The 7 sins of skincare are using too little sunscreen, trusting the SPF number alone, skipping sun protection in the car, over-cleansing irritated skin, layering too many active ingredients, applying products in the wrong order, and sleeping in makeup. In Australian conditions, the sunscreen-related ones matter most. **How much sunscreen should I use on my face?** Cancer Council recommends about one full teaspoon of sunscreen for your face, neck and ears, which is roughly 5mL. Most people apply far less, which means they get well below the SPF printed on the bottle. **Do I need to wear sunscreen indoors every day?** Cancer Council advises that sunscreen indoors is generally unnecessary, because ordinary glass blocks UVB and indoor UV exposure is low. The exception is sitting for long periods beside a window in direct sun, or driving, where untinted side windows let UVA through. **Is sunscreen still worth using after the 2025 testing results?** Yes. Independent testing found 16 of 20 popular sunscreens fell short of their labelled SPF, but the difference in real protection is much smaller than the difference in the numbers. Every expert involved advised people to keep using sunscreen and apply more of it. **Which of the 7 sins of skincare should I fix first?** Start with the amount of sunscreen you use, then add sunscreen before you drive. Both cost nothing and do more for your skin than any additional product. **Does expensive skincare work better than cheap skincare?** Not reliably. Cancer Council states that a higher price does not necessarily mean a higher quality sunscreen, and that the best one is the one you will use consistently. **Is it really that bad to sleep in makeup?** Regularly sleeping in makeup clogs pores and irritates the delicate skin around the eyes. On a night when you have nothing left, a cleansing wipe or micellar water is a reasonable substitute for a full cleanse. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/7-sins-of-skincare/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/7-sins-of-skincare/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Mum Rage: Validating the Anger No One Talks About](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/mum-rage-single-mums/) **Published:** September 2, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Mum rage hits harder when there's no one to tap in. Find out what drives it, what calms it fast, & where to find real support in Australia. Start here. **Content:** This is a specific kind of tired that comes from being the only person who can do bedtime. And then the only one who can do the morning after it. **Mum rage is the sudden, oversized anger that rises up during ordinary parenting, usually over something small, and usually followed by a wave of guilt. It isn’t a diagnosis and it isn’t a character flaw. Most of the time it’s your body telling you it has been running on empty for too long. For single mums it often lands harder, because there’s no second adult in the house to take over when you hit your limit. Below you’ll find what’s driving it, what helps in the moment, how to repair things with your kids afterwards, and when it’s worth raising with a GP.** I’ve been the mum who shouted about a lost drink bottle and then cried in the car about it. **Quick Takeaways** - **What it is:** Mum rage is fast-rising, intense anger during everyday parenting, usually followed by guilt. It points to overload, not to bad mothering. - **Why solo hits harder:** With no second adult at home, there’s no handover at the exact moment you run out. - **What works in the moment:** A 2024 review of 154 anger studies found that calming your body down beats letting the anger out. - **Help in Australia:** A GP can write a mental health treatment plan, which covers Medicare rebates for up to 10 individual sessions each calendar year. Good to knowThis article provides general guidance only. For concerns specific to your child’s health, development, or legal situation, please consult a qualified professional. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![Diagram showing what sits underneath mum rage including sleep loss and mental load](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/2-diagram-showing-what-sits-underneath-mum-rage-including-sleep-loss-and-mental-load-1192x800.webp "2-diagram-showing-what-sits-underneath-mum-rage-including-sleep-loss-and-mental-load - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****What Is Mum Rage?**** Mum rage is a sudden, intense burst of anger felt during everyday mothering, often set off by something small and followed by guilt or shame. It isn’t a formal medical diagnosis. GPs and counsellors generally treat it as a signal of long-running overload, unmet needs, or a sign of something like postnatal depression or anxiety sitting underneath it. It shows up in two shapes. The first is the explosion. Everything seems fine, then one more request tips you over and you’re shouting in a voice you don’t recognise. It’s over in ninety seconds, and the shame arrives before your heart rate comes back down. The second is quieter and, in my experience, much harder to spot. A low simmer that never quite clears. Every noise grates. Every question feels like an imposition. You’re not yelling, but you’re not warm either, and you can hear it in your own voice at dinner. Both count. The simmer is the one that gets missed, because it doesn’t look like anything from the outside. What surprises most mums is the speed. There’s no build-up you can point to afterwards, no moment where you decided anything. One second you’re scraping plates and the next you’ve slammed a cupboard hard enough to frighten yourself. That gap between who you think you are and what just came out of your mouth is a big part of why this is so hard to talk about. It also travels with exhaustion. If the anger has arrived alongside a flat, hollowed-out feeling, [single mum burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/) is worth reading as well, because the two share most of the same causes. ## ****Why Solo Parenting Changes the Shape of the Rage**** Solo parenting doesn’t cause mum rage. What it does is remove most of the release valves that keep it manageable for everyone else. ### ****There’s No One to Tap In**** Read almost any article on this topic and the advice arrives at the same place. Talk to your partner. Share the mental load. Ask him to take bedtime. Agree on a code word so he can spot your early warning signs. Fine advice for the mums it’s written for. Not much use at 6pm on a Tuesday when you’re the only adult in the building and the four-year-old has just tipped her dinner onto the floor. This is the part almost nobody writes about. The rage isn’t only about what you’re carrying. It’s about carrying it with no scheduled end. There’s no handover at seven. There’s no “I’ve got them, go have a shower.” The load and the [feeling of being overwhelmed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/managing-overwhelm-single-mother/) simply roll into the next day, and the one after that. ### ******The Anger That Belongs Somewhere Else****** Some of the anger you feel at your kids was never really about your kids. If there’s an unanswered message about school fees, or a change of plans that landed on you at short notice, that frustration doesn’t evaporate. It sits in your chest all afternoon and then comes out at whoever asks you the next question. Usually a child. Naming that helps more than you’d expect. Not because it fixes the co-parenting situation, but because it stops you drawing the wrong conclusion about yourself. You’re not a mum with an anger problem. You’re a mum holding a frustration that has nowhere reasonable to go. ### ********The Days They Come Back******** If your kids spend time with their dad, the day they come home can be the hardest one of the fortnight. They arrive unsettled. Routines have shifted. Someone is overtired, and someone else has decided that bedtime is negotiable now. You’ve had a break, so you expect to feel patient about all of it. Instead, you’re short with them inside twenty minutes, and it feels like evidence that the break was wasted on you. It isn’t evidence of anything. Coming back is hard for everyone in the house. The kids are switching worlds, and so are you. If you plan that afternoon to be low-key rather than lovely, you’ll spend less energy fighting how it actually goes. ![Mum taking a short breathing break in the hallway to calm rising anger](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/3-mum-taking-a-short-breathing-break-in-the-hallway-to-calm-rising-anger-1192x800.webp "3-mum-taking-a-short-breathing-break-in-the-hallway-to-calm-rising-anger - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****What’s Actually Underneath the Anger?**** Rage is nearly always the top layer. What sits under it is more ordinary, and more fixable, than it feels at the time. The usual suspects. - Broken or short sleep, night after night, which makes it much harder for anyone to keep their temper. - Basic needs going unmet. Eating standing up. Never finishing a hot drink. No stretch of time alone. - The mental load of being the only person who knows when the excursion form is due. - No adult conversation for days at a time. - Money pressure sitting in the background of every small decision. - Grief for the version of you who had a Saturday. That last one gets dismissed as self-indulgent, and I don’t think it is. Missing your old life doesn’t mean you regret your kids. Some mums read a list like that and recognise none of it. The sleep is fine, the kids are older, the bills are covered, and the rage is still there. If that’s you, the trigger is often something less obvious: a body that’s been braced for a long time and hasn’t been told it can stop. Bracing is useful during a separation. It’s exhausting three years later. Smaller things matter more here than they should, too. A few [simple ways to lower daily stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) really do change how much room you have before you snap. ## ****What Helps in the Moment When You’re the Only Adult There?**** The goal isn’t to feel calm. It’s to get from rising anger to a bearable moment without doing anything you’ll be sorry for. These work when nobody is coming to help. 1. **Catch it early.** Anger has a run-up. Tight jaw, shallow breathing, heat across your chest, a sudden hatred of the sound of the telly. That’s your window. 2. **Say it out loud, then take ninety seconds.** “I’m getting cross. I need a minute.” Go to the kitchen or the hallway. With little ones, take them with you into one room and sit down. You’re not abandoning anyone. You’re showing them what a person does with a big feeling. 3. **Make your breath out longer than your breath in.** Four counts in, six or seven out, a handful of times. It’s dull and it works, which is a good combination when you’re on your own. 4. **Unclench something.** Jaw, shoulders, hands. Most of us hold anger in one particular spot, and letting that spot go tells the rest of your body the emergency is over. 5. **Drop the standard for the next hour.** Toast for dinner, screens on. The washing can wait. 6. **Ring someone for two minutes.** A voice note to a friend who gets it does more than another twenty minutes of scrolling. None of that needs another adult to turn up. That’s the whole point of it. The trick is deciding which one is yours before you need it. In the moment you won’t be choosing from a list of six, so pick the one that sounds least annoying right now and let that be your default. Building a few [realistic habits into your week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healthy-habits-for-single-parents/) makes these moments less frequent as well, though they won’t disappear entirely. ## ****Does Punching a Pillow Actually Help?**** Probably not, and this is the advice I’d most like to see quietly retired. Nearly every article on maternal anger tells you to let it out. Punch a pillow. Scream into a cushion. Go for a hard run. Stomp it off. I used to pass that on myself, because it sounds right. Anger feels like pressure, so releasing the pressure should help. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. In 2024, researchers at Ohio State published a review in Clinical Psychology Review covering 154 studies and more than 10,000 people. Activities that brought the body down, like slow breathing, muscle relaxation, mindfulness and simply taking a timeout, lowered anger consistently. Activities that revved the body up, including hitting things and going for a run, did not. In some cases they appeared to make it worse. So a hard run is still good for your heart. It just doesn’t look like the tool for the ten minutes after a blow-up. Which is quietly good news for a single mum. The things that seem to work are free, take two minutes, and don’t need anyone to watch the kids. Raising Children Network has [more on spotting the early signs](https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/first-1000-days/looking-after-yourself/anger-management-for-parents) and calming down before things escalate, and their suggestions point the same way. ![Mum crouching to her child's level to repair things after losing her temper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/4-mum-crouching-to-her-childs-level-to-repair-things-after-losing-her-temper.webp "4-mum-crouching-to-her-childs-level-to-repair-things-after-losing-her-temper - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****The Guilt Afterwards, and How to Repair It**** Every skincare article scolds you for this. None of them account for the fact that you were up at 5am and did bath, dinner, For most mums I know, the guilt weighs more than the rage did. You look at a small confused face and decide you’ve damaged her. Then you promise yourself tomorrow will be different, and by Thursday it isn’t, and the story you tell about yourself gets a bit worse each round. What matters most to a child is the repair, not the absence of the rupture. Keep it short. Own the behaviour, not the feeling. Don’t ask them to make you feel better about it. Something like: “I yelled before. That wasn’t okay, and it wasn’t your fault. I was tired and I got cross. I’m going to work on it.” Then move on. Three sentences is plenty. Any longer and they end up managing your guilt for you. Older kids will sometimes push back, or bring it up again three days later at an inconvenient moment. That’s not a sign the repair failed. It usually means they trust you enough to keep talking about it. And if you spend most of your spare energy convinced you’re falling short everywhere, [single mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) is worth a read on a quiet night. ## ****When Mum Rage Is Pointing at Something Bigger**** Most of the time, mum rage is overload. Sometimes it’s a sign of something that deserves a proper look, and the difference is worth knowing. Australian health services list irritability and anger among the things that can show up with postnatal depression and anxiety, and both get missed regularly, because people expect them to look like sadness instead. It’s worth talking to a GP if the anger is happening most days, if a flat or hopeless feeling isn’t lifting, if you’re frightened by your own reactions, or if you’ve stopped feeling much of anything at all. Physical causes like thyroid problems can play a part too, which is another reason to start with a doctor rather than a search bar. One thing that gets whispered about and almost never written down: some mums get sudden, awful mental images during a rage episode. A 2023 study in the journal Sex Roles that interviewed 65 mothers reported this as well, and the researchers noted the women who described those images were clear they did not act on them. Frightening thoughts appear to be far more common than the silence suggests. It’s still worth telling a GP, because it’s useful information for her and she has almost certainly heard it before. If booking feels like a hurdle, it helps to write down three things before you go: how often the anger is happening, what it looks like, and how long it’s been going on. Fifteen minutes goes fast, and the specifics do more than trying to explain how you feel. While you’re there, you can ask about a [mental health treatment plan](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/mental-health-treatment-plan). It gives you Medicare rebates for up to 10 individual sessions each calendar year, usually six first and the rest after a review with your GP. There’s often still a gap to pay, so ask what the psychologist charges before you book. If your own [low mood has been sitting there a while](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/depression-single-mother/), take that to the same appointment rather than saving it for another day. Lifeline is on 13 11 14, Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636, and 13YARN on 13 92 76 for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander mums. If one of your kids needs someone to talk to, Kids Helpline is 1800 55 1800. ## ****What Helps Over the Longer Run**** This article won’t tell you how to stop your kids doing the thing that set you off, and it can’t tell you what’s going on for you specifically. Both matter, and both need somebody who knows your actual situation. What it can do is point at the conditions. The advice everyone gives is self-care, and I’ve come to think that word does single mums more harm than good. A bath doesn’t fix a sleep debt. What actually helps is anything that gives you a real gap in the caring. - A swap with another mum. She takes yours on Saturday morning, you take hers on Sunday. - Before or after school care used for breathing room, not only for work hours. - The school counsellor or wellbeing officer, who is free and badly underused. - Grandparents, aunties, a neighbour. Anyone who can do one school pickup a fortnight. - Protecting your sleep the way you’d protect a bill that has to be paid. The swap is the one worth pushing on, because most mums assume they have nothing to trade. You do. Two hours of someone else’s Saturday is exactly what you’re offering back. Ask the mum at school whose kid yours already likes, and ask for something small and specific rather than open-ended help. If your kids spend time with their dad, those days are a reset that fully solo mums don’t get, and it’s fair to spend some of them resting instead of catching up on housework. If they don’t, the swap and the paid care matter more, and arranging them isn’t indulgent. For talking to somebody without going through a GP first, PANDA runs [a free helpline for parents](https://www.panda.org.au/) dealing with anxiety, depression and the harder feelings of early parenthood. There’s a fuller list of what’s out there in our [guide to support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/). ![Two single mums arranging a childcare swap at a local park](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/5-two-single-mums-arranging-a-childcare-swap-at-a-local-park.webp "5-two-single-mums-arranging-a-childcare-swap-at-a-local-park - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Rage Is Not the Measure of Your Mothering**** It’s the loudest ten minutes of a very long day, and it says far more about your conditions than your character. Start with one thing. A longer breath out. Ninety seconds in the hallway. A short repair afterwards that lets you both move on. Then, when you’ve got half an hour spare, make the appointment. Mum rage gets quieter when you’re less alone with it. Not gone, just quieter. That’s enough to be going on with. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **Is mum rage normal?** t’s a common experience in motherhood, and researchers have studied it formally, including a 2023 study of 65 mothers published in the journal Sex Roles. It isn’t a medical diagnosis, and feeling it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you as a mother. **What causes mum rage in single mums?** Commonly named drivers include broken sleep, unmet basic needs, the mental load of being the only person tracking everything, isolation and money pressure. It often feels bigger for single mums because there’s no second adult at home to take over at the moment she reaches her limit. **Does mum rage mean I have postnatal depression?** Not necessarily, though Australian health services list anger and irritability among the signs that can appear with postnatal depression and anxiety. If the anger is happening most days, or a flat feeling isn’t lifting, it’s worth raising with a GP. **What should I do in the moment I feel the anger rising?** Say out loud that you need a minute, step into another room if you safely can, and slow your breathing so the out-breath is longer than the in-breath. A 2024 review of 154 anger studies found calming activities like slow breathing and taking a timeout worked better than venting. **Does punching a pillow or going for a run help with anger?** The evidence points the other way. That same 2024 review found activities that raise the body’s arousal, including hitting things and running, did not lower anger and in some cases increased it. **How do I repair things with my child after I’ve yelled?** Keep it to two or three sentences, own the behaviour rather than the feeling, and make clear it wasn’t their fault. Avoid asking your child to reassure you, because that shifts your guilt onto them. **Where can single mums in Australia get help with anger?** A GP can write a mental health treatment plan, which covers Medicare rebates for up to 10 individual sessions with a mental health professional each calendar year. PANDA runs a free national helpline for parents, and Lifeline is available on 13 11 14 at any hour. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/mum-rage-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/mum-rage-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [Festivals in Australia: The Magic of Shared Celebrations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/festivals-in-australia/) **Published:** August 31, 2026 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Festivals are magical. There’s just something about being in a large group of people celebrating and enjoying the same thing. Somehow, you feel connected to all the strangers; you feel like you truly belong. Somehow, festivals feel like a community, a family. Thankfully, there are a lot of festivals here in Australia. From Darwin to Tasmania, it’s not hard to find a festivity for wherever your kids’ interests and intentions lie. There are arts festivals, music festivals, folk festivals, fashion festivals, and multicultural festivals. Here’s why you need to seriously consider festivals in your family’s holiday plans. ## The Cultural Significance of Festivals in Australia One of the best reasons to bring your kids to cultural festivals is that these are an avenue for us to honour our roots and celebrate the things that make our country unique. For example, [NAIDOC Week](https://www.naidoc.org.au), scheduled from 6 to 13 July this year, celebrates the rich history and culture of our Indigenous peoples. Here, not only will the audience learn about Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. They will also, hopefully, develop a sense of pride and connection with our elders and ancestors through art, dance, and storytelling. There are also festivals that remind us of just how diverse our country is. The [Greek Festival of Sydney](https://www.darlingharbour.com/whats-on/archive/events/greek-festival), which will happen on the 22nd and 24th of February at Tumbalong Park, Darling Harbour is a personal favourite, since I love everything Greek. Meanwhile, my mum has been a regular attendee of the [Lunar New Year celebrations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/exciting-lunar-new-year-activities-for-kids-2025/) in Melbourne Chinatown since time immemorial. Internationally loved events like these are a chance for our kids to try new foods, learn new traditions, and celebrate the incredible melting pot that is Australia. ![The Cultural Significance of Festivals in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-11-1.png "In article image 11 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Festivals as a Social Glue I don’t know about you, but for me, being a single mum can feel isolating. But festivals? They’re like a giant hug from the community. They remind us we’re not alone. Small-town festivals have a way of bringing people together. Just last January, one of my uncles was a performer at the Elvis Festival at Parkes again, since he’s like the hugest fan. I’m sure even non-fans of The King or of rock-and-roll will enjoy the music and the costumes. Moreover, it feels touching to see all those people keeping the memory of the famous musician alive. And then there are events like the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, which happens on February 14, right in time for Valentine’s Day. For the participants of this annual festival, it not just a parade or a party. More importantly, it’s a celebration of inclusion and love. Everyone is welcome here. Barriers fall away. This is a time when the joy of being together takes centre stage. I’m sure you’re bound to find a festival that suits your interests. Australia’s country music lovers have the [Tamworth Country Music Festival](https://www.tcmf.com.au), which just happened last month. There’s also a [blues festival](https://www.bluesfest.com.au/tickets) and [jazz festival](https://www.melbournejazz.com). There are also fabulous [spring festivals](https://www.big4.com.au/tips-and-inspiration/things-to-see-and-do/culture-art-and-heritage/top-6-australian-flower-festivals-this-spring) for those who love flowers and agricultural stuff. For literature lovers, Byron Bay has a three-day festival for writers. ## Economic and Community Impact Aside from all the entertainment we experience, festivals also do a lot of good for the local economy. Big events like Vivid Sydney or the Adelaide Fringe pump millions of dollars into the economy, creating jobs and supporting local businesses. Bendigo Easter Festival, the oldest Australian community festival, is a source of pride. But it’s not just about the big names. Smaller festivals breathe life into regional areas. Take the Elvis Festival again. This quirky celebration attracts people from different parts of the country and even the world, and has turned Parkes in New South Wales into a must-visit destination. And let’s not forget about volunteering. Many festivals rely on volunteers to make the magic happen. Whether you’re handing out programs, setting up stalls, or helping with clean-up, it’s a chance to give back while meeting new people. It’s a win-win for everyone. ![Economic and Community Impact of Festivals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-13-1.png "Keep your home cool - Beanstalk Mums") ## Mental and Emotional Benefits of Festivals Sometimes, we just need a little break from our daily grind. Festivals have a way of lifting us up. They bring joy and connection in ways that few other things can. Take the Woodford Folk Festival, held annually from Dec 27th through to January 1st. Aside from music, it also serves as an avenue for people to gather and share stories, dance, and relax for six days and six nights. There’s also something magical about outdoor festivals like Falls Festival or Splendour in the Grass. Being out in nature, surrounded by music and happy faces, feels like hitting the reset button. And the memories? They stick with you. Whether it’s your little one’s wide-eyed wonder at their first festival or the belly laughs you shared with friends, these moments remind us why life is worth celebrating. ## Some popular festivals in Australia Thankfully, you’re bound to find a festival loved by Australian and international visitors to attend that takes place in whichever city you are in Australia: - Australian Open: January - Fremantle International Street Arts Festival: March/April - Melbourne International Comedy Festival: March/April - West Coast Blues ‘n’ Roots Festival: March/April - DreamBIG Children’s Festival: May (50 years in 2025) - Horizon Festival (premier multi-arts festival in Sunshine Coast): May - Hinterland Music Festival: August - Australian Motorcycle Grand Prix (Victoria): October - Melbourne Cup: November - Perth International Jazz Festival: November - Brisbane International Film Festival: November/December - Big White’s Christmas Eve Festival: December - New Year’s Eve festivals (in different cities): December Whether you love comedians, sports, or virtually anything, there’s something for you in any Australian city. If you’re after something historic, you can [book your NFL Melbourne tickets through Ticket Merchant](https://www.theticketmerchant.com.au/sports-tickets/nfl-tickets/nfl-australia-tickets) for the Rams vs. 49ers clash at the MCG this September, marking the league’s first-ever regular-season game on Australian soil. ![Some popular festivals in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-12-1.png "In article image 12 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Your Child’s First Fest Taking your child to their first festival? Here are some things you should consider: - **Your child’s interests:** Make sure to leave a great impression of festivals by bringing them to events that they actually like. Got a kid who loves dancing? The Youth Dance Festival is held at Canberra every November. There’s also the Alice Springs Beanie Festival Inc for anyone who loves, well, beanies! - **Food:** Check that the festival offers stalls with foods appropriate for kids. For example, a food and wine festival might not be the perfect venue for young children. - **Accommodations:** If you’re planning to stay overnight or a couple of days, you’d like to check available hotels or BNBs. Kids have different needs, so staying in tents might not be the best idea. - **Time**: Festivals can happen for three days, four days, five days, or more. You will most probably go on a weekend because of work and school, but also consider the volume of attendees. - **Accompanying popular events:** You’d want to check for performance by artists or fireworks displays that your little ones will enjoy. Many festivals organise other themed activities your kids might enjoy like competitions, workshops, theatre, displays, and exhibitions. ## Conclusion: The Power of Festivals Festivals are more than just fun events; they’re a lifeline for our communities. They bring us together, celebrate our diversity, and remind us of the beauty of connection. Great thing you’re bound to find a festival whether you are in the Northern Territory, Western Australia, South Australia, or anywhere. Next time you see a poster for a local festival or discover about an event nearby, go. Take your kids, take your friends, or just take yourself. Immerse yourself in the music, fine food, the laughter. Celebrate being part of this incredible community we call Australia. I promise, it’s going to be worth it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/festivals-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/festivals-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [Flower Subscription Boxes: Enjoy Fresh Blooms Delivered](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/flower-subscription-boxes/) **Published:** October 16, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a fanatic of flowers, I am glad that I could impart my knowledge of the flower subscription box service. They have made the whole experience of having a bunch of fresh flowers in our homes and offices a complete reality. Here I will be enlightening you on the subject of flower subscription boxes, their advantages, and how they can be a reason for joy in your daily life. ## What Are Flower Subscription Boxes? In simple words, flower subscription boxes are the companies that send freshly cut flowers to your doorstep on a weekly, biweekly, or monthly basis. This model mainly consists of a few handpicked, genuine, eccentric blooms chosen and stylized by the best florists in the town. ## The Appeal of Regular Flower Deliveries There are a few reasons the flower subscription boxes have been enjoying a lot of success lately. One of the nicest things about it is its convenience. In my case, as a busy individual, it is much better for me not to go shopping regularly for fresh flowers at a florist or a grocery store. A subscription acts as a catalyst since I get to enjoy the benefits of the beauties delivered on my doorstep without any input from me. ***Convenience* One of the key perks of flower subscription boxes is their convenience. As I am always short of time, I find it more comfortable not to visit the shop or supermarket regularly just to buy flowers. For occasions when a subscription is not needed, Flowers For Everyone also provides [convenient flower delivery in Sydney](https://www.flowersforeveryone.com.au/) for one-off orders. ***Variety* Flower subscription services usually offer a wide variety of flowers throughout the year. This variation allows me to see and try new kinds of flowers and arrangements; one might not be chosen on her own. This is a perfect way to meet new favourites and broaden my knowledge of flowers. ***Freshness* Furthermore, the flowers in the subscription boxes are fresher than the ones sold in stores. The reason is that companies usually cut and ship the flowers directly from the grower, which shortens the gap between harvesting and delivery. So, I am able to keep the flowers in my house for a longer time. ***Cost-Effective* Actually, the beginning price of flower subscriptions might seem higher rather than the buying of them reveals. Nevertheless, buying with a subscription is more cost-effective in one way. Many services have competitive pricing, which makes them more attractive for long-term subscriptions. Otherwise, it will be beneficial to receive flowers directly from the field. ![Flower Subscription Boxes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-45.jpg "Beanstalk Mums Blog for mothers - Beanstalk Mums")Beanstalk mums blog for mothers## Choosing the Right Flower Subscription Service There are some points to consider when choosing one of the companies that provide flower subscription boxes: - ***Frequency of Delivery*** I would advise you to choose a service that you can easily carry out while fitting your lifestyle and preferences. In the market, you have available options for the service, such as weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly subscriptions. The frequency of your collection is determined by the amount of cut flowers you’d like in your space that you would have to think of when making the choice. - ***Types of Flowers*** The basic idea of all these subscription services is to give different forms of seasonal flowers and arrangements. Some of the subscriptions are very specific to the types of flowers like roses or tropical flowers. In this sense, you can take a look at the options and then choose the one that catches your eye. - ***Customization Options*** The primary idea is to offer some possibilities for you to be creative with your orders. This means you can choose a colour scheme, specific types of flowers, or, if need be, even stop one shipment. For those who seek personalization, you must opt for the service that provides such choices. - ***Pricing and Commitment*** Start by checking the service plans and compare the prices. Also, consider the length of time they require one to commit. Moreover, the time frames of some subscriptions include discounts for longer-term commitments, and flexibility can be gained from others monthly. ## Making the Most of Your Flower Subscription Boxes I suggest a few measures so that you can benefit fully from your flowers subscription: - ***Proper Care*** Once the flowers arrive, give them a slanted cut and put them in water with flower food. Try to change the water frequently so you can keep the flowers longer in your house. - ***Experiment with Arrangements*** There is no need to be restricted to the original design. You may want to make your flower vases or do some smaller sprays and put them around the room. - ***Learn About the Flowers*** Make use of this free learning tool and learn more about the selected flower you receive every time. Some companies even provide information about the flowers delivered in their parcels. - ***Share the Joy*** If you find that you have more flowers than you actually need, think about sharing them with the people around you, be that your friends, family, or colleagues. It is a simple act, but it could change somebody else’s day and transmit the excitement of fresh flowers. ## Conclusion Flower subscription boxes are one of the best ways to fill your place with beautiful, fresh [flower delivery sydney](https://www.marketfreshflowers.com.au/) all the time. I can say this from my own experience of receiving weekly deliveries of flowers, which have been the main reason I could feel the good changes in my home and state of mind. You might be a flower lover, or you just want to increase the admiration of life with flowers a little bit; a flower subscription box may be a perfect solution. Get yourself a try and appreciate the joy of getting fresh flowers delivered regularly to your door! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/flower-subscription-boxes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/flower-subscription-boxes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Understanding single parent benefits in Australia 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/) **Published:** August 17, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you have recently separated from a partnership where you had children, you will need to get your head around single parent benefits in Australia. This includes how they work and what you might be entitled to. As a single parent, you may be eligible for various government benefits to help you get back on your feet and support your single parent family during difficult financial times. These include monetary support with parenting costs, job seeking, child care and rental expenses. The key is knowing what is available to you, whether you are entitled it, and how to apply. The amount you receive will depend on your personal circumstances such as income, assets, the number of children in your care and the amount of time you care for them. All this is tested and checked before payments are made. Note: In some cases, this can be a long process. In this article we take you through benefits for single parents so you can claim what you need to, when you most need it. ## Government benefits to single parents ## Family Tax Benefit Family Tax Benefits (FTB) provide financial assistance to millions of Australian families with dependent children. There are two parts to FTB – Part A, which is based on household income and the number and age of your children; and Part B, which is only available to one-income households, which includes single parents. For 2021-22, the maximum rate of FTB Part A is now $191.24 for a child 0 to 12 years and $248.78 for a child 13 to 19 years. In addition, children aged 16 – 19 must be studying in order to collect FTB Part A. At the end of the financial year, eligible parents can also receive the FTB Part A end-of-year supplement. This is a one-time payment of up to $788.40 that is available per eligible child, which is used to balance your payments against your income from work. Overall, how much you will get in Family Tax Benefits will depend on your eligibility and individual circumstances. For single parents, however, FTB Part B provides additional financial support or assistance to help your family get through tough times. ## Parenting Payment Single Single parents on a low income may be eligible for the Parenting Payment Single, which helps provide financial assistance to help cover costs associated with raising children. The payment is a great help, particularly for single parents who have limited financial means. To be eligible, single parents must meet certain criteria such as having a dependent child and not living with a partner. The payment is generally reviewed to ensure recipients are meeting the eligibility requirements, so any changes in your circumstances must be reported to Centrelink within 14 days. ## Child Care Subsidy The Child Care Subsidy is an Australian Government payment designed to assist parents with the costs of child care. It replaces the former Child Care Benefit and Child Care Rebate which are no longer available. The amount of money received through the subsidy depends on a family’s individual circumstances, including their combined income, how many hours they work each week, the type of child care they use, and an hourly rate cap on [childcare costs](https://juniorsjourney.com.au/child-care-subsidy-calculator-australia-juniors-journey/). For you to work out how much you might be able to get, you will need to use the [Centrelink Payment and Service Finder](https://www.centrelink.gov.au/custsite_pfe/pymtfinderest/paymentFinderEstimatorPage.jsf?wec-appid=pymtfinderest&wec-locale=en_US#stay). The results of this assessment will indicate your eligibility for the Child Care Subsidy as well as the amount that may be available to assist with child care costs. ## Jobseeker Payment Scheme (the old Newstart Allowance) Newstart Allowance was discontinued on 20 March 2020, when the new JobSeeker Payment scheme came into effect. This payment is the main financial support provided to individuals between the ages of 22 and Age Pension age, who are either looking for work or unable to complete their usual studies or work due to sickness or injury. In order to receive JobSeeker Payment, individuals must meet certain criteria and continue to comply with any mutual obligation requirements that were put in place when they were receiving Newstart Allowance. These obligations may include meeting regularly with an employment service provider, participating in activities that improve the individual’s job prospects, or completing a training program. Those who fail to meet these obligations may be subject to sanctions or have their payments suspended. ## Parents Next ParentsNext is a program designed to support single parents with young children, aged six and below. It provides the necessary resources for them to plan for the future and prepare for future employment when their children reach school age. To participate in this program, single mums must be selected and be willing to report their progress fortnightly; otherwise, they may face the risk of not receiving their Parenting Payment or Newstart benefits on time. ## Crisis Payment as a single parent benefit Australia Crisis Payment is a one-off, non-taxable financial assistance provided by the government to individuals who are facing extreme circumstances and severe financial hardship. To be eligible for this payment, one must meet all of the following criteria: - They must be in a state of severe financial hardship - Be receiving or eligible to receive an income support payment or ABSTUDY Living Allowance - Be facing an extreme circumstance such as experiencing family violence, displacement due to natural or other disasters not covered by disaster relief payment - Newly arrived Humanitarian Entrants in Australia for the first time - Recently released from prison or psychiatric confinement. To apply for a Crisis Payment, you must contact servicesaustralia.gov.au within 7 days of the extreme circumstance occurring, or within 14 days if your extreme circumstance is due to coronavirus (COVID-19). You can still claim Crisis Payment even if you’re receiving new electrical goods or food from other agencies or charities. Note that in cases where disaster relief payments are applicable, Crisis Payments cannot be claimed. If you believe you’re eligible for a Crisis Payment, contact Services Australian as soon as possible to see how they can best help. Their experienced team is always ready to support you in your time of need. ## Child Support Agency (CSA) The Child Support Agency (CSA) is an invaluable resource for single mothers, providing a valuable bridge between ex-partners to ensure that children are cared for financially. Navigating the CSA system can feel daunting – but it doesn’t have to be. For those who are struggling to receive payments from their former partner, help and support are available. The CSA provides online services to make the process easier, and you can also register with them for private collection. In other words, you can tell the CSA that your ex is responsible for privately paying child support to you – and if they fail to do so, you can report them. So don’t be scared of the CSA; get in touch and find out what help is available. What’s more, you can even link the CSA to your MyGov account for added convenience. With the right support and guidance, managing child support payments doesn’t have to be a stressful experience. For more information about any of the above government payments for single parents or Child Support, head to the [Services Australia website](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/). ## Further financial support for single mothers Australia Family and domestic violence is a major social issues that can take many forms. It can include, but is not limited to, controlling behaviours such as threats and intimidation; physical abuse like hitting, slapping, kicking and restraining; sexual assault or abuse; emotional abuse such as humiliation and insults; stalking through use of technology or otherwise; and financial abuse such as controlling access to funds or withholding money. [Diane Tate](https://www.afia.asn.au/afia-board/dianetate), a prominent financial expert, and advocate for domestic violence victims has stressed the fact that banks do not require legal evidence of domestic violence such as an Apprehended Violence Order in order to assist customers. This is a critical point to note, as it means that even without going through the formal legal channels, banks are able to offer assistance with protecting your finances from domestic violence, and ultimately getting you back on track. Using banks for support at this difficult time is one of the little-known but hugely helpful single mother benefits. Your bank can help you when your relationship ends, providing you with advice and assistance on changing account names and passwords, as well as support in setting up a new bank account. They can also provide guidance on how to keep your finances safe from an ex-partner who may try to access your accounts or use them for their own purposes. ## Domestic violence crisis payments from Australian banks ## Commonwealth Bank domestic violence crisis payments Commonwealth Bank is taking a stand against domestic violence by providing crisis payments to those single mothers who have recently left their husband. These single mothers are reporting that they received a $600 cash payment which is not officially confirmed by Commonwealth Bank. However, there is an [assistance program](https://www.commbank.com.au/support/financial-support/financial-hardship.html) in place for customers of the bank and the [checklist for divorce](https://www.commbank.com.au/articles/financial-wellbeing/divorce-separation-financial-checklist.html?ei=tl-art-divorce-checklist) can prove helpful to those who might be considering leaving an abusive relationship. ## Westpac Bank domestic violence emergency cash Westpac Bank has made a meaningful effort in curating essential information and resources for separating parents, especially mums. To further supplement this effort, Westpac offers its customers the option of an [emergency cash provision](https://www.westpac.com.au/about-westpac/sustainability/our-positions-and-perspectives/difficult-circumstances/experiencing-family-violence/) for those who are victims of family violence. This special service is specifically targeted at helping victims escape volatile home situations with financial support that can provide temporary shelter or other living accommodations. ## ANZ Bank separating parents advice ANZ Bank provides invaluable advice for separating parents, especially mums, through their resources. They provide an abundance of contacts and advice on a variety of topics such as how to handle superannuation after separation, child support payments and financial assistance. And you can [apply for assistance due to financial difficulty](https://www.anz.com.au/support/financial-hardship/). ## Charities that offer benefits for single mothers ## Council of Single Mothers and their Children The [Council of Single Mothers and their Children (CSMC)](https://www.csmc.org.au/) is a non-profit organization dedicated and committed to providing much-needed support and assistance to single mothers and their children in Australia. Established in 1969, the CSMC has been working relentlessly for decades towards improving the lives of single mums and their families. ## The National Council of Single Mothers and their Children (NCSMC) [The National Council of Single Mothers and their Children (NCSMC)](https://www.facebook.com/SingleMumsInfo/) is a non-profit organisation that was established more than four decades ago with the aim of supporting and empowering single mothers living in hardship. Through their work, they seek to eliminate and respond to instances of violence, domestic abuse and other forms of hardship faced by these single parent families. ## Lifeline [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) is a charity organisation that works hard to provide emotional support and counselling for single mothers who find themselves in difficult situations. They understand the struggles that these courageous women face, and work tirelessly to lend a helping hand. Through their services, those affected by domestic violence, natural disasters or other crises can receive short-term counselling to help them cope and survive with their current difficulties and challenges. In addition, Lifeline provides online resources and telephone support or assistance for those who require additional help. ## Beyond Blue [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) is a charity organisation that provides support, help and aid to single mothers who are going through emotional distress. They provide a wide range of services such as phone, email, and online chat support from trained professionals and mental health experts. This support is designed to give people the help they need in times of difficulty and uncertainty, whether it be due to anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts and tendencies. ## Black Dog Institute The [Black Dog Institute](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/) is an internationally-renowned medical research organisation that focuses and centers solely on mental health and well-being. Founded in 2002, it has since developed into a highly respected institution dedicated to providing comprehensive evidence-based solutions to improve the lives of those affected by mental illness. Through innovative research, cutting-edge technology, qualified clinical services and strong public advocacy, the Institute is committed to creating a mentally healthier world and reducing the stigma associated with mental illness. All these organisations mentioned above are doing incredible work to encourage, support and empower those women in need and make a real difference and improvement in their lives. With the right assistance, we can ensure that all these single mums have access to these useful resources they need to lead happy, contented, and fulfilling lives. By supporting these organisations, we can make this world a better place for single mums and their families. ***Further reading: [15 Brilliant charities that help single mothers.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/charities-help-single-mothers/)*** ## Free legal aid for single mothers When it comes to single mothers, having access to quality legal advice, counselling and guidance can be a challenge. If you need more information about the different legal issues that may arise after a relationship has ended, such as parenting arrangements [Legalaid.qld.gov.au](https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Find-legal-information/Relationships-and-children) can provide you with comprehensive advice and assistance to help guide you through this difficult time. With access to experienced solicitors and lawyers, they can provide advice and support about any aspect of family law, from parenting orders to family violence and all other relevant law. ***Further reading: [What is legal aid and can I get it for my family law case.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/)*** ## Final words: Understanding single parent benefits Australia Delving into the realm of single parent benefits in Australia highlights the critical role that social welfare programs play in ensuring the well-being of both parents and children. The Australian government’s multifaceted support system acknowledges single parents’ unique challenges and seeks to alleviate financial strains while fostering a conducive environment for holistic growth. The comprehensive analysis of various benefits, such as the Single Parent Payment, Family Tax Benefit, and Child Care Subsidy, underscores the government’s commitment to enhancing the quality of life for single parents. These initiatives offer financial assistance and recognise the pivotal role of education and employment in uplifting families from the cycle of dependence. Nevertheless, the landscape of single parenting is ever-evolving, and the effectiveness of these benefits hinges on continuous evaluation and adaptation to the changing needs of society. Furthermore, enhancing public awareness about the available support systems is paramount to ensure eligible single parents can access these resources without unnecessary hurdles. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** child support, centrelink, claims, services australia, family tax --- ### [The Home Problems No One Warns You About When You Have Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-home-problems-no-one-warns-you-about-when-you-have-kids/) **Published:** April 9, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There are plenty of things people prepare you for when you become a parent. Sleep deprivation, shifting routines, the constant balancing of responsibilities. What gets mentioned far less often is how much the home itself becomes part of that equation. When you are managing a household with children, especially on your own, the way your home functions starts to matter in a different way. It is no longer just a place you live in. It becomes the structure that supports everything else, from morning routines to bedtime wind-downs. And when something in that structure stops working, even briefly, it can throw the entire day off course. ## **The Fragility of a “Normal” Day** Most parents develop systems that make daily life manageable. School drop-offs, meals, laundry, and quiet moments where they can be found. These routines do not happen by accident; they are built over time and adjusted constantly. What makes them work is consistency. When the home supports those routines, everything flows more easily. When it does not, even small issues can create disproportionate stress. A sink that will not drain, a washing machine that is delayed, or a bathroom that suddenly becomes unusable can quickly turn a manageable day into a complicated one. These are not dramatic problems, but in the context of parenting, they carry more weight than they might otherwise. ## **When Small Issues Become Urgent** One of the realities of family life is that small problems rarely stay small for long. This is especially true when it comes to plumbing. With multiple people using the same systems every day, there is constant pressure on pipes, drains, and fixtures. Children, in particular, do not always use things with long-term consequences in mind. Too much toilet paper, the wrong items flushed, or general overuse can quickly lead to blockages that escalate faster than expected. In those moments, the issue shifts from inconvenience to urgency. A blocked toilet is not something that can be worked around easily, especially in a busy household. It requires immediate attention, often at the least convenient time. This is where knowing where to turn matters. Having access to [help with a blocked toilet in Brisbane](https://allkindplumbing.com.au/blocked-drains/blocked-toilet/) means the situation can be resolved quickly, allowing the household to return to normal without extended disruption. ## **The Mental Load of Home Management** Beyond the practical challenges, there is also the mental load that comes with maintaining a home. Parents are often managing multiple responsibilities at once, keeping track of schedules, needs, and tasks that are not always visible to others. Whatever city you’re in, having a trusted [Melbourne plumbing](https://zebraplumbing.com.au/) provider already on hand means one less thing to figure out in the moment, and one less way a busy day can spiral out of control. When something goes wrong at home, it adds another layer to that load. It is not just about fixing the issue; it is about rearranging the day, managing the impact on routines, and sometimes dealing with the stress that comes from unexpected disruption. This is why reliability matters so much. Systems that work consistently reduce the number of variables parents have to manage. When those systems fail, even temporarily, it can feel like everything else becomes more difficult. ## **Prevention Is Helpful, But Not Always Possible** There is often advice around preventing household issues, being mindful of what goes down the drain, staying on top of maintenance, and checking systems regularly. While these habits can certainly help, they are not a guarantee. Family homes are active environments. They are used constantly, and not always carefully. Over time, wear and tear are inevitable, and some issues will arise regardless of how attentive you are. This is why a balanced approach is more realistic. Awareness and prevention, where possible, combined with readiness to act quickly when something does go wrong. ## **Teaching Kids About Care (Without Expecting Perfection)** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-6-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") As children grow, there is an opportunity to involve them in understanding how the home works. Simple habits, like using the right amount of toilet paper or knowing what should not be flushed, can make a difference over time. At the same time, it is important to recognise that mistakes will still happen. Homes with children are not designed to be perfectly controlled environments. They are lived in, used, and sometimes pushed beyond ideal conditions. The goal is not perfection, but reducing the likelihood of repeated issues while maintaining a sense of flexibility. ## **A Broader View of Home Wellbeing** There is increasing recognition that the condition of a home affects more than just convenience. It influences well-being, stress levels, and overall quality of life. When a home functions smoothly, it supports both physical and mental comfort. According to the [Australian Institute of Health and Welfare](https://www.aihw.gov.au/), housing conditions play a significant role in overall well-being, particularly in relation to safety, hygiene, and daily living standards. This highlights that maintaining a home is not just about upkeep; it is about creating an environment that supports the people living in it. ## **Keeping Things Moving, Even When Life Is Busy** For parents, especially those [managing households](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/) on their own, the goal is rarely perfection. It is about keeping things moving, maintaining a sense of order, and creating an environment where daily life feels manageable. When the home supports that, everything else becomes a little easier. When it does not, even small disruptions can feel amplified. Understanding this changes how we think about maintenance. It is no longer just about fixing problems when they arise, but about recognising how much those systems contribute to everyday life. And when something does go wrong, having the right support in place makes all the difference. Not just in solving the issue, but in restoring the rhythm that families rely on. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-home-problems-no-one-warns-you-about-when-you-have-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-home-problems-no-one-warns-you-about-when-you-have-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [The Single Mum's Guide to Buying a Second-Hand Car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Buying a second-hand car as a single mum can feel like stepping onto a used car lot with a flashing “easy target” sign over your head. Because who’s got time to become an overnight car expert, right? But here’s the good news: you don’t have to be one. With the right info (and a bit of confidence), you can find a reliable, budget-friendly set of wheels without getting taken for a ride, literally or financially. The single mum’s guide to buying a second-hand car is here to help you cut through the jargon, dodge the lemons, and walk away with a ride that suits your lifestyle and budget. Whether you need a zippy little hatchback for daycare runs or something bigger for weekend adventures, we’ve got you covered. Because every single mum deserves a smooth ride, on the road and in life. If you’re upgrading your vehicle, and you’re based in the ACT, exploring options for [cash for cars](https://www.1800salvage.com.au/cash-for-cars/canberra "cash for cars") in Canberra can be a convenient way to sell your current car and boost your budget for a newer model. ## **How much should I spend when buying a second-hand car?** Understanding all of the costs involved when you’re buying a second-hand car is one of the most essential factors in working out what vehicle will be best for your family. We all work to a budget, and a car can be a significant suck on your finances. The cost doesn’t stop once you’ve completed the purchase – insurance, rego, fuel, servicing, tyres and maintenance will all add up. Work out what you can afford and then refine a monthly budget. How many kilometres you travel will determine how frequently you’ll need to service your vehicle. A more fuel-efficient vehicle will cost you less to run, while a later-model vehicle will (typically) cost you less to maintain. The [ASIC Moneysmart website](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/life-events/buying-a-car/car-buying-in-australia) offers some great insight into running costs, and the [Moneysmart Cars App](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/tools-and-resources/calculators-and-apps/mobile-apps/moneysmart-cars), available for Apple and Android phone users, helps calculate costs as you plan your budget. Also, think about the cost of the car and whether you need to borrow the money to make the purchase. Speak to [Liberty Loans](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin) to discover your options and the best way forward in your current situation. ## **Second-Hand Car Safety Features** When you are buying a used car, ideally, you want to look for a vehicle with a five-star ANCAP safety rating and inspect the odometer reading. This gives assurance that it will perform in the event of an accident. As you refine your shortlist, check out the ANCAP website for crash tests and safety data, including the green vehicle guide. The website will let you compare different models to see how they stack up. Other features you may want to look at include car seat configurations. If you are swapping children frequently between vehicles, you may want to look at cars with ISOFIX securing points, as they will make car seat fitting easy and safe every time if you have ISOFIX seats. It’s also worth asking specifically about the condition of the cooling system, since a second-hand car with an ageing radiator can look fine on a test drive but fail expensively down the track, and a quick [radiator service](https://natrad.com.au/radiators/) before you buy is far cheaper than dealing with an overheating engine a few months later. All vehicles sold in recent years have features designed to make them safer on the road for you and pedestrians. And if your current car is more than ten years old, there’s a chance you won’t have come across some of these great features. Reverse cameras are a massive help in manoeuvring in car parks, but they also help you spot stray children, animals and pushchairs and avoid tragic accidents. While autonomous emergency braking will brake your car automatically if it senses an imminent collision, blind spot monitoring will alert you to vehicles in your blind spot. Adaptive cruise control is like cruise control, but sets your speed to keep a safe distance from the vehicle in front, reducing wear and tear on your brakes. Most car manufacturers include good demonstrations of the technology on their websites or can show you at a test drive. ***Further reading: [Choosing a car seat for your child.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/choosing-a-car-seat-for-your-child/)*** ## **Buying a Second-Hand Car to Best Suit Your Needs?** Be realistic about the kind of driving you’ll be doing and the work your vehicle will have to do. A sporty red convertible is a great mid-life crisis car, but a two-door vehicle is a pain in the bum when you have to get out of your seat every trip to let the kids in and out. A small car like a Toyota Corolla or Volkswagen Golf might be an ideal choice if you live in a small suburb, but if you’re in the country and frequently called upon to carry about extra children, it won’t serve as the mum-bus you might need. A big, flashy European SUV might be the styling wheels you want to be seen in at the school gates. Still, in reality, it will quite possibly turn into a money pit with expensive replacement tyres, brakes and other components likely to bite into your budget. Ask your friends and family what they like about their vehicle. Is it cost-effective to maintain and reliable, and what features does it offer that they desire? Is it flexible enough to deliver what they need from a car? Before committing to any purchase, it’s also wise to have the car checked by a [qualified and reputable mechanic](https://noosaradiators.com.au/ "qualified and reputable mechanic") to ensure there are no hidden issues or costly surprises. For smaller issues involving exhaust parts or replacement components, some drivers may choose to [source car exhaust parts](https://www.performexauto.com.au/collections/exhaust) online before arranging installation with a mechanic. And what is it like on fuel compared to other cars in Australia? This is all the sensible stuff that needs consideration – you want a car to fit in with you, not one that will be a fuss (or exxy) to maintain. ![Buying a second-hand car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Buying-a-second-hand-car-1200x630.jpg "Beanstalk Mums Supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Places to Consider When Buying a Second-Hand Car** Generally speaking, the best second-hand car to buy is the newest one you can afford, with the lowest mileage, a good service history and, ideally, a warranty. When buying a car from a car dealer, statutory warranties for used vehicles vary from State to State, so use a checklist to ensure compliance. Rules for NSW may differ from those for Victoria or South Australia. Check your State’s consumer affairs or fair-trading site for the specific terms. Older vehicles, vehicles that have travelled over a certain number of kilometres and some commercial vehicles are not always covered by warranties. Hence, it pays to check the small print if buying from a dealer. Some retailers will sell an extended warranty, and these can be a good option if they come at the right price and are affordable for you. However, extended warranties do come with strict caveats. If a car looks like it is too good to be true, then it most likely is, so always verify the vehicle identification number (VIN). When buying a car privately, unless you have a lot of mechanical knowledge or a family member with a workshop, it is best to stay clear of something that looks like an outright bargain. ## **Should I Buy Privately or From a Dealer?** Once you’ve got your budget worked out and a short list of makes and models, it’s time to do some research online. [Carsales.com.au](http://www.carsales.com.au/) provides resources for checking the value of the car. It is a great place to check out what cars are selling for and what’s available in your area from private sellers and dealers. If you haven’t yet settled on a brand, you can start by searching by body type or [lifestyle](https://www.carsales.com.au/cars/family-lifestyles/). Refine your search by selecting budget, year, and location from the guide to buying a used car, and you will start to narrow down a list of options. Deciding between buying from a private seller or a car dealership will depend significantly on your available budget and location. On the plus side, buying privately could get you a car at a better price. Yet there’s no warranty with a private sale, so buyer beware. On the other hand, buying a used car from a dealer can be challenging. So you may want to take a friend or knowledgeable acquaintance to help you make the deal. ## **Do These Things Before You Hand Over Your Cash!** - Once you’ve settled on a car, carry out a [PPSR check](https://www.ppsr.gov.au/buying-a-car). The personal property securities register will let you know if the car you’re looking at has any finance on it. It could also tell you if it has been stolen or has ever been written off. Avoid any car with a red flag against it. - Take the used car to a [reliable auto mechanic workshop](https://onestopautocare.com.au/) for a pre-purchase inspection. Any reputable seller should be comfortable letting you take the car for an inspection. Or presenting the car on your behalf to a mechanic for an independent inspection. An inspection will let you know of any safety items that need to be addressed. Such as when tyres or brakes need to be replaced, whether services have been carried out to schedule, what major service items are due, and whether there is work that will need to be done shortly. This check will be over and above a roadworthy inspection. Giving you more advice and insight into the car rather than just a ‘pass’ or ‘fail’ assessment, ensuring you are sure the car is worth the investment. - Sign up with your State’s motoring club for roadside assistance. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees when it comes to buying a second-hand car, so having roadside coverage in place will be peace of mind should you break down or have a flat tyre or issue with your battery. ***Further reading: [Getting a car loan: What you seriously need to know.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/get-a-car-loan/)*** ## **Frequently Asked Questions About Buying a Second-Hand Car in Australia** ### **What should I consider when buying a second-hand car in Australia?** When you decide to buy a used car in Australia, you should consider several factors. First, determine your budget, including the cost of the vehicle and any additional expenses such as car insurance and registration fees. It’s also essential to consider the purpose of the car—whether it’s for commuting, family trips, or a combination of both. Additionally, research various used vehicles to find models known for reliability and safety. Furthermore, always check the odometer reading and ensure it aligns with the car’s age and condition. Create a checklist to keep track of your research and findings. ### **How can I effectively inspect a used car before purchasing?** To effectively inspect a used car, examine the interior and exterior for any signs of damage or wear and tear. Look for rust, paint inconsistencies, and the condition of the tyres. Check under the hood for leaks or corrosion and ensure all fluids are at appropriate levels. It’s also advisable to take the car for a test drive to assess its performance. Listen for any unusual sounds and pay attention to how it handles. If you’re unsure about your ability to inspect the vehicle thoroughly, consider hiring a professional to conduct a car inspection. ### **What is the value of the car I’m interested in?** The value of the car you’re interested in can be determined through several avenues. Research online platforms like RedBook or CarsGuide to get an estimate based on the make, model, year, and condition. You can also check current listings for similar used cars in your area to gauge market value. If buying from a private seller, negotiate based on your findings and any issues identified during your inspection. Always pay a fair price based on the car’s condition and market trends. ### **What documents should I check when buying a second-hand car?** Checking several documents is crucial to ensure a smooth transaction when buying a second-hand car. Firstly, request the vehicle identification number (VIN) and confirm it matches the details in the registration papers. Additionally, obtain a Personal Property Securities Register (PPSR) certificate to check for any money owing on the car or if it has been written off. Ask for the car’s service history to understand how well the vehicle has been maintained. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Buying-a-second-hand-car-1.png "Buying a second hand car - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money, Shopping **Tags:** buying a car, car safety, second hand car, purchase car --- ### [The Kindest Decision: How to Know When It's Time to Let Your Pet Go](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-let-your-pet-go/) **Published:** August 28, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Most people think the hard part is the appointment. It isn’t. The hard part is the weeks before, lying awake, asking whether today is too soon or whether you’re already a few days late. So let me be blunt about the thing nobody says plainly enough: the aim was never to squeeze out every last day. It’s to let them go before the bad ones start to win. That’s the whole job. Everything here is about helping you see where that line falls for your own dog or cat, and what a gentle goodbye can actually look like. You won’t get a perfect day. There’s no blood test for “it’s time.” And waiting for a moment that feels obviously right is a trap, because when a pet fades slowly, that moment usually never comes. ## **The Slow Fade Is the One That Fools You** A sudden collapse is awful, but you can read it. What catches people out is the slow version. Month by month, a little worse, never enough in any single week to alarm you. And because you’re there every day, you adapt. You start lifting them onto the couch, and it becomes routine. They stop meeting you at the door, and you barely clock it. The bar for “normal” keeps dropping, and you’re the last to notice because you’re the one moving it. That’s the reason many people, afterwards, quietly wish they’d been a little earlier. Not guilt exactly. Just the truth that the slow slide hides suffering in plain sight. Name the pattern now, while you can still act on it. **Watch These, Specifically** Skip the “you’ll just know” advice. You might not. Track the concrete stuff instead, and jot it down for a week or two so you’re reading a trend and not a single decent Tuesday. - Eating and drinking. On their own? Keeping it down? If they’ll only eat from your hand, that counts. - Getting around. Up, down, over to the water bowl, without a real fight. Slipping and getting stranded aren’t just old-age quirks. - Toileting. Straining, accidents from a pet who was reliable for years, obvious discomfort. That’s a body giving out. - Interest. Your voice, dinner, their name at the door. When a pet checks out of everything they used to love, listen to that. - The tally. Good days against bad ones. Once the bad start outnumbering the good, and especially once the good simply stops, you have your answer. Plenty of vets lean on a quality-of-life scale for exactly this: a score across pain, appetite, hydration, hygiene, happiness, mobility. You don’t need the official form. Give a few of those a mark out of ten every evening for a week. Numbers on a page are stubborn in a way that wishful thinking isn’t. ## **The Part You Genuinely Can’t Do Solo** Pain. Here’s the catch with pain: animals hide it. A dog will wag through it. A cat will purr through it. “He’s not whimpering” tells you almost nothing. This is the bit where a vet actually earns their keep, watching how your pet moves, weighing the illness against what treatment can realistically still offer, and being straight with you about whether comfort is still on the table or whether medicine has quietly run out of gentle options. And no, asking for a quality-of-life assessment doesn’t lock you into anything. It’s a conversation. A decent vet won’t march you toward a needle that afternoon. More often than not, you walk out with clarity, and occasionally with more time than you feared. ## **Getting Yourself, and the Kids, Ready** ![A person's hand resting near an orange cat on a white bedsheet, the cat's paw gently touching the hand area.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Pexels-anastas-20439967-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-anastas-20439967 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by anastasia bekker](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/cats-pawn-on-humans-hand-20439967/) Then there’s the conversation at home, which is usually worse than the one at the clinic. If there are children, tread carefully but honestly. The “gone to live on a farm” route almost always unravels; kids feel the lie and invent something grimmer to fill it. Telling them the truth in words that fit their age, that the pet is very sick, that the vet can help them stop hurting, that being sad is allowed, tends to go down better. It also lets them say their own goodbye, which matters more than we give it credit for. Extend yourself the same grace. When you’re the only grown-up in the house, you’ve probably been holding it together through every stage of this. You don’t have to keep holding it together now. ## **What the Goodbye Actually Looks Like** Fear feeds on the unknown, so here’s the plain version. It’s unhurried and it’s calm. Usually a sedative comes first, and your pet slips into a deep, painless sleep against you over a few minutes. Only then, once they’re fully relaxed, does the final injection follow, and it’s quick and quiet. You can hold them the whole time. You can keep talking to them. After, you get time by yourselves, and a say in what comes next, whether that’s a private cremation with the ashes back to you, or something small to keep, like a paw print. None of it has to happen under a strip light on a metal table. ## **Why Families Choose In-Home Pet Euthanasia in Melbourne** For a lot of Melbourne households, the kindest version skips the clinic altogether. This is a city that sprawls, from the bayside suburbs out to the eastern hills and the growth corridors up north, and a sick, elderly pet feels every kilometre of a cross-town drive in peak traffic. [Pet euthanasia in Melbourne](https://restyourpaws.com.au/in-home-pet-euthanasia-melbourne/) can instead happen in your own home, and that one change reshapes the entire day. Your pet stays put, in their bed, in the warm square of sun on the rug, on your lap, instead of being lifted into a car, edged through the traffic on the way to an unfamiliar clinic, and walked into a room thick with the scent of every nervous animal that passed through before them. The upsides are practical, not just sentimental. No white-knuckle drive across the city while you’re already unravelling. No holding your face together in a public waiting room. The kids can be right there, or not, whatever suits them, at home rather than in a consultation room. And a home visit works whether you’re in an apartment in the inner north or a house out in the outer suburbs, since the vet comes to you. If you’re one parent carrying the grief and the logistics and the children all at once, pulling the clinic out of the equation lifts one genuinely heavy thing off a day that has no business being any heavier. ## **The Kindest Thing Is Rarely the Easiest** Letting your [pet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/) go while there’s still some dignity in the tank isn’t quitting on them. It’s the last piece of care in a whole life of it, and it’s brutal precisely because it makes you put their comfort above your own ache to keep them a bit longer. If this is where you are right now, start small and start today. Keep that daily log. Book the quality-of-life chat with your vet. Have a quiet think about where you’d want the goodbye to happen if it comes to it. Deciding with a clear head, before a crisis rips the choice out of your hands, is about the kindest thing you can do for them and for you both. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-let-your-pet-go/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-let-your-pet-go/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Social Hack: How To Connect With Other Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/how-to-connect-with-other-single-mums/) **Published:** August 27, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Learn effective ways to connect with other single mums in this step-by-step guide. Build a supportive single mother community to share experiences & resources! **Content:** When I first became a single mother, I felt incredibly alone. Even though I had friends and family, I struggled to find people who truly understood the emotional weight of single parenthood. I wanted to know how to connect with single mums who really got it—tried to connect with other single mums. I craved a support network of people in the same boat who wouldn’t just offer advice but could share the highs and lows of single parenting. At first, putting myself out there felt daunting. I worried about judgment, whether I’d fit in, and whether I could make new friends. But I realised I wasn’t alone once I took that first step—joining an online community, attending a playgroup, and saying yes to a coffee invite. There were so many single parents out there, also looking to meet new single parent friends, who understood the juggle of work, childcare, and trying to have a social life. If you’re in that place now, wondering how to connect with other single mums and build meaningful connections, know this: It’s possible and worth it. Here’s how to take that first step towards finding your tribe. Good to knowThis article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ESWritten by: [Elle Sitek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/ellesitek/), Compassionate Single Mum Counsellor ## **The First Steps on How to Connect With Other Single Mums** ### **Understanding What You Need from a Community** Every single mama has different friendship needs. Some want a friendship group for emotional support, while others seek practical help, such as shared playdates or school drop-offs. Some single parents wish to expand their social life, while others need advice on balancing work and parenting. Take a moment to reflect: - Are you looking to meet like-minded single parents for friendship and support? - Do you need help with childcare swaps or just someone to chat with? - Are you hoping to meet potential new single-parent friends and ask for parenting advice? Once you understand what you need, it becomes easier to find the right community and connect with other single mums. [![gift of emotional stability](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Newsletter-artwork-17.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://dropbox.com/scl/fi/k87v0rtbhu9s4u6pm9eq1/Emotional-Resilience-Toolkit-Your-Guide-to-New-Beginnings-1.pdf?rlkey=9mdi44a8q57qxlnjstz38wy9t&st=ev4be7b0&dl=0) ### **Letting Go of Fear and Embracing Connection** Many single mothers hesitate to reach out due to fear of judgment or rejection. It’s common to feel anxious about making new friends, but building a happy single-parent life means embracing vulnerability and connection. If you worry about being judged for your circumstances, remember that most parents in the same boat understand your challenges. They are likely just as eager to connect as you are! ## **Where to Connect With Other Single Mums** If you’re wondering where to find a supportive community for single parents, there are many great options. ### **Online Spaces: Find the Best Facebook Groups & Forums** Online communities can be a soft entry point when you’re exploring how to connect with single mums. They don’t require getting dressed, organising childcare, or finding extra energy — you can simply show up as you are. Some top online spaces include: - [Beanstalk Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) – Specifically for single mamas looking to connect. - Single Mum Australia – A welcoming and approachable Facebook group. - Social apps like Peanut – A friendship app tailor-made for connecting with fellow single parents. Don’t hesitate to reach out on forums or social media when engaging online. You might be surprised by how many single parents are willing to offer advice, share experiences, or even arrange local meetups. ### **Local Meetups, Playgroups & Networking Events** If you’re craving real-life connection, local spaces can offer shared moments that online groups can’t always replicate. These don’t need to be big social commitments. Often, the smallest interactions become the most meaningful. Some of the best places that can naturally bring single mums together include: - Playgroups – An excellent way for kids to socialise while parents chat. - Local groups – Many community centres host events for single mums. - School or nursery PTA meetings – A natural way to meet other parents. - Events – Your local area may also have parenting workshops or events. Exploring how to connect with single mums doesn’t mean attending every event or joining big groups. It can be as small as reaching out to one mum who feels safe, joining a values-aligned online community, or saying yes to a low-pressure catch-up. ![In article women connecting with other single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/In-article-women-connecting-with-other-single-mums.jpg "In-article-women-connecting-with-other-single-mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Overcoming the Fear of Rejection & Judgment** ### **Why Single Mothers Struggle to Put Themselves Out There** It’s natural to feel hesitant about making the first move in making friends. Many single parents worry about whether they’ll be accepted or if their friendships will change over time. However, it’s important to remember that friendships evolve. Some will last a lifetime, while others may be short-term. That’s okay! The key is to focus on what feels right for you at the moment. ### **How to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone Without Anxiety** You don’t need to force confidence or pretend you’re ready for big social leaps. Connection grows slowly, through gentle, manageable steps. If the idea of meeting new people makes you anxious, start small: - Choose an environment that feels calm, not overwhelming or highly social. - Join an online group first and chat with other single parents. - Attend a structured event, such as a parenting workshop. - Introduce yourself casually—maybe you hit it off with another mum at the local park. ### **How to **Connect With Other Single Mums: Real Stories of Finding Support**** “I became a single mum when my son was two, and I felt completely lost. A friend suggested a single parent support group, and I was hesitant at first. But within weeks, I found a group of mums who really understood me. We go on playdates, have coffee catch-ups, and even plan holidays with other single parents. It’s changed my life.” – Emma, 34 ## **Maintaining Healthy Relationships Without Overwhelm** ### **Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Well-being** Not every friendship group will be the right fit for you, and that is okay. It’s important to set boundaries to protect your emotional energy. - Remain as someone who prioritises their well-being. - If a connection isn’t fulfilling, know that you’re meant to stick with what feels good. - Keeping your availability flexible, rather than overcommitting. - Saying no without explanation, simply because you need rest. - Not sharing everything at once, especially if trust is still forming. - Let people know that you’re looking for balanced, supportive friendships. Read more on [how to set healthy boundaries](https://singlemamaway.com/how-to-create-healthy-life-boundaries-for-single-mothers/) and [protect your peace as a form of self-love](https://singlemamaway.com/self-love-boundaries-powerful-ways/). [![Elle counselling services](https://singlemamaway.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Newsletter-artwork-21.jpg "Image 1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session) ### **Connect With Other Single Mums: Balanced Support** The most nourishing relationships are those where support flows both ways. You don’t have to be the strong one all the time. You also don’t need to carry someone else’s emotional load on your own. Balanced support can look like: - Sharing but not oversharing, so conversations stay manageable. - Checking in with your own energy, not just theirs. - Noticing when the give-and-take feels even. - Letting yourself receive help, not just offer it. - Choosing relationships that feel grounding, not draining. Remember, friendship does not work if it’s one-sided. If someone is consistently draining, take a moment to step back. Circumstances change, and so it is okay to reevaluate relationships that are no longer healthy. ### **Recognising When a Connection Isn’t Right for You** Not every friendship will last forever. If a relationship is making you feel exhausted, judged, or undervalued, it is okay to move on. Ask yourself: Does this friendship bring me joy? If not, it might be time to make a change. ## **Connect With Other Single Mums in a Way That Feels True to You** Building a support network as a single parent is one of the most rewarding and open-hearted things you can do. Whether through an online mum group, local meetups, or a casual chat at the local park, taking small steps to meet fellow single Mamas can lead to lifelong connections. You might even find a new best friend who truly understands you. So, don’t be afraid to leap. You deserve a community that uplifts and supports you. As you continue exploring how to connect with other single mums, remember that there’s no perfect timeline. Connection grows in its own rhythm, in the spaces where you feel safe and seen. Remember, you’re not alone. There is a single parenthood community waiting to welcome you with open arms. Go to find your tribe—you’ll be glad you did. **[Book a Dedicated Counselling Session](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/60-min-strategy-session?month=2026-06)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/how-to-connect-with-other-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/how-to-connect-with-other-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [Welcome to Our Mental Health Hub](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/title-welcome-to-our-mental-health-hub/) **Published:** August 25, 2026 **Author:** Clinton Lucock **Content:** Welcome to Beanstalk Mums’ new Mental Health hub. This space has been created to provide single mums with practical, compassionate guidance on emotional wellbeing. We’ll explore topics including anxiety, stress, burnout, grief, confidence, healing and building resilience. New articles and trusted resources are coming soon, all designed to help you feel understood, supported and better equipped to take your next step forward. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/title-welcome-to-our-mental-health-hub/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mental-health/title-welcome-to-our-mental-health-hub/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mental Health --- ### [15 Fun and free activities for kids in Sydney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-activities-kids-sydney/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As a mother who has braved the bustling streets of Australia’s harbour city with my brood, I’ve discovered heaps of free activities for kids in Sydney. I’d love to share them so you can plan your trip without taking out an emergency holiday loan (don’t ever do this!). Sydney, with its stunning landmarks and breathtaking landscapes, has an array of free activities that can turn your family adventure into a budget-friendly blast. From breathtaking coastal walks with spectacular views to magical encounters with wildlife at the heart of the city, Sydney offers a diverse range of experiences. Keep reading as we embark on a whirlwind tour through Sydney’s no-cost wonders. A journey that promises to keep your kiddos entertained and your bank account intact. ## [Sydney Harbour](https://www.sydney.com/destinations/sydney/sydney-city/sydney-harbour) Where better to start on our complimentary journey than at the world-renowned Sydney Harbour? Get the camera ready mum as photo opportunities abound! From the harbour, you’ll be rewarded with a premier view of the impressive Sydney Harbour Bridge. Look extra hard as you might spot brave people climbing it … a good time to feel grateful that you’re on solid ground. Then there’s the iconic Sydney Opera House. You can get up close and personal by wandering inside the foyer to feel the ambiance (and, in the summer, the heavenly air-con). The wide stairs to the entrance make the perfect place to chill, snack and people-watch. And don’t forget the nature. The harbour is a prime spot for whales, dolphins and seals (we saw one on the concrete shore behind the Opera House). **Note:** Whale season in Sydney is between May and November. If you see a group of people pointing excitedly out to the harbour, look where they’re looking, you may get a sighting! ## [The playground in Darling Quarter](https://www.darlingharbour.com/see-do-stay/darling-harbour-children-s-playground#:~:text=The%20Darling%20Harbour%20Children's%20playground%20offers%20boundless%20opportunity%20for%20your,balance%20ropes) Oh yes! The playground in Darling Quarter is going to bring a cracker of a day to your exuberant munchkins. Wanna know why? This bursting Wonderland is crammed full of fabulous play equipment for children of all ages to run wild and free from your watchful eyes. There’s plenty of water to splash around and challenging spaces like balance ropes, spider web climbing frames, flying fox and supernova roundabouts to entertain young children and big ones alike. While jam-packed of fun is assured, the only downside is that it can get really busy … especially on the weekends. My trip with my kids was on a weekday, so it was a lot quieter and heavenly. I suggest you do the same to experience the best this place can offer. By the way, the playground in Darling Quarter is also referred to the Darling Harbour Water Park … I hope this saves you any confusion! ## [Royal Botanic Gardens of Sydney](https://www.botanicgardens.org.au/#) Remember all times you’ve asked your kids for help in the garden, but they wouldn’t? Well, now is the time to press your luck (once more) by enchanting them with a visit to the Botanic Gardens of Sydney. This is the ultimate meeting place for people, science, nature and nurture. From romantic rose beds to one-of-a-kind endangered plants from around the world, the gardens feature a diverse beauty that you can’t help but get mystified by (as I’ve seen in the eyes of my now-little garden helpers). But among all of them, the garden display of “Cadi Jam Ora” was truly something special. The Cadi Garden is believed to be the first public garden that recognises the indigenous culture of Australia. And the best part? You and your kids can FaceTime friends to boast about the Royal Botanic Garden, thanks to their free Wi-Fi throughout the area. ## [Sydney Olympic Park](https://www.sydneyolympicpark.com.au/) My little guy is a big sporting fan, and it was such a thrill to be able to take him to Sydney’s Olympic Park. Oh, yes, it’s the same epic stadium that hosted around 2000 Olympic games and a Rolling Stones concert, which is now very much open to the masses. Our trip there was like being part of legendary moments … though we’d never been to an Olympic game or a Rockstar concert before. Aside from breathing the air of history, you and your little balls of energy can enjoy bird spotting, ride bikes on the massive 430 hectares of parklands and swim in the same pool where Ian Thorpe won his gold medals. It’s also a great spot for kids learning to swim — private swimming classes, like those offered by [Tanya’s Tadpoles](https://tanyastadpoles.com.au/ "Tanya’s Tadpoles"), can help build confidence in a fun, world-class environment. And if you can handle the sweat and grit (because my un-athletic legs couldn’t!), take the not-to-be-missed Brickpit Ring Walk, elevated 18 metres above, and feel like an athlete. ## [BirdLife Australia Discovery Centre​](https://birdlife.org.au/places/discovery-centre/) Honestly, there’s nothing my little kids love more than watching the colourful flying chickens (as they call them!). So, while I was on the hunt for free activities for kids in Sydney, the Birdlife Australia Discovery Centre was one of my top finds. The centre is actually a 48-hectare Newington Nature Reserve that is home to more than 200 native birds and other animals. They even have a bird book and an educational room for creative learning. One of the most fascinating facilities in the centre is the EagleCam. It’s a video technology where visitors can get close to the resident White-bellied Sea Eagles. And guess what? We were lucky enough to catch a bird’s-eye view (excuse the pun) of a chick in the nest. However, if you miss the chick, don’t stress. There are still plenty of birds that can be seen somersaulting in all their fine feathers around the reserve, such as the Rainbow Lorikeet and the Chestnut Teal. ## [The famous Sydney Beaches](https://www.australia.com/en/places/sydney-and-surrounds/best-beaches.html) We love the ocean … and luckily Sydney has over 100 fantastic beaches to spend the perfect sunny summer on – from the heavenly calm secret coves to busy surfing spots. Whether the kids want to build sandcastles or mums going for a cocktail on the beachfront after paddle boarding, everyone gets to pick their fun and relaxing aquatic activity on Sydney’s many famous beaches. Start off with Bondi Beach and its bubble of shops, cafés, and some of the best beachfront [restaurants in Sydney](https://www.opentable.com.au/metro/sydney-restaurants), for anyone looking for outdoor entertainment post-swim. From there, you can switch beaches by taking the 40-minute coastal walk to Bondi’s nearest sister shore, Bronte, which is popular among surfers and swimmers. But if you’re looking for something unique, you can visit Gordon Bay, a little oasis that is home to underwater nature trails. The family can take a dip there and walk around the bay. Enjoy the tasty burger joint right ahead and their bestseller fish burger, which is super delicious. ## [Wendy Whiteley’s Secret Garden](https://www.wendyssecretgarden.org.au/) If you hang around with the locals, you will find several people talking about one common tourist spot destination: Wendy Whiteley’s Secret Garden. Contrary to its name, this famous Sydney stopover isn’t really a secret. It’s a place that gets featured on television and radio a lot, with countless visits from people all over the world. The Secret Garden (as me and my kids learnt) is a haven created by Wendy Whiteley where you can discover sculptures around twisting pathways. The nature patch is so serene that you can greatly enjoy reading a book under the garden’s canopy. You may even get lucky like my utterly adventurous younglings and stumble upon a fairy house. The secret garden is open and free all days of the week. But just a bit of a reminder: Since we’re mums jet-setting with our little companions, there are steep inclines and ranges to watch out for. Other than that, rest assured, you’re going to enjoy your visit there. ## [Australian Museum](https://australian.museum/) Your adventure to the Australian Museum with your kids will not be a bore and a waste of time. Honest, we went there ourselves, and guess what? We loved it! The Australian Museum is the first Australian museum built in 1827, which means it’s old (not haunted though), but you wouldn’t notice that. The museum is equipped with up-to-date technology (I found out it was recently renovated in 2020). They have an impressive educational collection of Australian culture from almost 200 years ago. The main highlights are the “Wild Planet Exhibition” and the storeys from indigenous Australian folks – both of which wowed my kids into silence for a short while. ## [Art Gallery of New South Wales ](https://www.artgallery.nsw.gov.au/) The Art Gallery of New South Wales is considered to be an Australian flagship for visual arts institutions. So, if you want to skip going to the Australian Museum, maybe you want to consider visiting this one instead. Although, my recommendation is to do both if you can. Every year, this art gallery attracts a million visitors because of its large collection of art. Another thing that adds to its alluring beauty is that it’s located within the beautiful parklands, with just a 15-minute walk from the city centre. What’s even better is that you don’t need to crash your bank account to come and join the events and exhibitions; they’re totally free – making it perfect for my list of free activities for kids in Sydney. Just in time, in 2022, the art gallery expanded with a new museum campus across two adjacent buildings that are linked by a public art garden. And if you ever need some refreshments, there are plenty of cafés and kiosk that feature native Australian ingredients. There are even regular guided tours that offer Korean and other languages, which we attended only because of my son’s knack for manga and Japanese lingo (true story!). ## [Barangaroo Reserve](https://www.barangaroo.com/precincts/barangaroo-reserve) The Barangaroo Reserve is Sydney’s buzzing waterside precinct, cocooned by 7,500 native shrubs and trees and vast green lawns with a to-die-for view of the harbour. Fun fact? The beautiful 6-hectare land was once used for storage containers. Now, it has been returned to the people, with plenty of free activities for kids in Sydney. For starters, there are walking trails, sandstone steps and several coves, which I might say are the best picnic spots. If you get hungry after taking a stroll into the Wulugal Walk, you can bring your own food, or you can just grab an easy bite from the many bars and restaurants. What’s more? Right at the entrance, there’s an audio-visual artwork that is very educational for your kids. The reserve is even beautified with important public artwork, which is very pleasing. And we’ve seen it all. ## [Sydney Fish Market](https://www.sydneyfishmarket.com.au/) In terms of fish variety, Sydney Fish Market is the largest in the world outside of Japan. This was one of our absolute favourite excursions as we all love seafood. The size and activity in this market is quite staggering. Be sure sure to keep hold of younger kids as there is so much to see and people everywhere. True story: I told my kids, who were six and nine years old at the time, they could choose anything they wanted for lunch. ‘Anything all” I said grandly while gesturing to the huge array of seafood around us. I had assumed they’d both go for fish and chips, but no, two lobster it was! So while the Sydney Fish Market makes a great free activity for kids in Sydney, it can get pricey if you choose to dine there … especially if your littles ones have expensive tastes like mine. ## [Centennial Parklands](https://www.centennialparklands.com.au/) If you want free activities for kids in Sydney, you should go visit the Centennial Parklands. This grand park has a European vibe to it, covering 189 hectares of land. It has gardens, ponds, a Grand Avenue, cycle tracks, sporting fields and some statues … all great photo ops. Oh, and for cost, there is horse riding too. My youngest said it was “so magical that it looks like the village where Frodo and his furry feet gang would hang out.” Once you finish galloping on horseback feeling elfish, you can visit the cafes and restaurants around the corner. To keep you visit free, there is plenty of outdoor fitness equipment to use in the area. And there are also 15,000 fantastic trees to read under and enjoy a picnic with the family. ## [Tumbalong Park Playground](https://www.cityofsydney.nsw.gov.au/playgrounds/tumbalong-park-playground) Playgrounds are a staple of free activities for kids in Sydney. Over the years, I’ve made several trips to Sydney as a teen and a mum. Though every visit has a new destination to offer, there is no better place to have fun with your energetic nippers than Tumbalong Park Playground. This park is right by the water. You can sit under the shade and watch the boats coming in and out of the docks (as my kids love to do). Or take a scenic stroll on the massive playground and get social with the locals. But if you want more fun, there’s a ping pong table and water features to cool off the summer heat. Afterwards, if the family gets hungry, there’s a bunch of cafés and restaurants for your pickings. And you know what the best part is? Everything I just mentioned is free, except for the food, of course. ## [Bondi to Coogee Coastal Walk](https://www.sydney.com/things-to-do/nature-and-parks/walks/bondi-to-coogee-coastal-walk) Looking for free stuff to do with kids in Sydney that keeps the whole family fit (while tiring everyone out)? If that’s a yes, you will love the Bondi to Coogee Coast Walk. Apart from getting to visit two of Sydney’s most beautiful beaches, the stroll between these shores reveals plenty of local scenic views. The iconic 6-kilometre walk from Bondi to Coogee takes about 2 to 3 hours to complete. Now, this might be challenging for the kids, but trust me, the walk is suitable for all ages and fitness levels. Along the way, there are clifftops, amazing cafes and parks to take a respite from. And honestly, with all the stops we took in between, it took us a full day to finish the walk. Therefore, I suggest doing the walk in the morning. And don’t forget your sunscreen because the summer heat is intense, especially with minimal tree cover. ## [Cockatoo Island](https://www.cockatooisland.gov.au/en/) Want to soak up in Sydney with a twist of history? Take a ferry ride and detour to Cockatoo Island. This piece of land is a remarkable historical mark in Sydney that has contributed to Australian maritime affairs for more than 100 years. It’s the perfect free activities for kids in Sydney with a sprinkle of history lessons. Once you set foot in Cockatoo, you’ll be intrigued and inspired. The island used to be a site for shipbuilding and convict prisons in the 1800s. Amazingly, it has the only surviving dry dock built by the convicts. Feeling a bit spooked? Don’t be; our travel was full of sunshine, I swear (just ask my little brave companions). You can wander around its famous attractions, (ghost-free, just kidding), like the heritage and campground accommodations and panoramic views. Then, afterwards, you can sit and relax in the waterfront cafes. ## Free activities for kids in Sydney: My summary There you have it: My list of free activities for kids in Sydney. From our favourite (the Sydney Fish Markets) to the action-packed (Tumbalong Park Playground), and the historic (the Australian Museum) to the iconic (all of Sydney’s world-class beaches), there is so much free stuff that you’ll be spoiled for choice. When you’re planning your trip to this brilliant city, make sure you pad out your itinerary with some of these options to keep you kids entertained and your bank account intact. Luckily, Sydney boasts efficient, reasonably price public transport, so getting from place-to-place is easy, fun and cheap. Make use of trains, buses and, of course, the famous Sydney ferries. And, get your little ones walking because that’s how to see the most. Enjoy your Sydney adventures … especially the ones that cost you nothing! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-activities-kids-sydney/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-activities-kids-sydney/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** cheap travel, NSW, bondi, city break --- ### [What Every Australian Mum Needs to Know About the ATAR Before Year 12](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/what-every-australian-mum-needs-to-know-about-the-atar-before-year-12/) **Published:** August 21, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Most parents have heard of the ATAR. They know it is the score their teenager needs to get into university. But very few parents actually understand how it is calculated – and that lack of understanding creates a lot of unnecessary anxiety for both students and families heading into Year 12. Here is a plain-language breakdown of how the ATAR works and what you can do as a parent to support your child through it. ## **What Is the ATAR?** The ATAR – Australian Tertiary Admission Rank – is a number between 0 and 99.95 that ranks a student against all other students in their state who sat the same exams. It is not a mark out of 100. It is a percentile rank. An ATAR of 80, for example, means your child performed better than 80 per cent of their eligible peers. It does not mean they scored 80 per cent in their exams. ## **Why the Actual Exam Mark Is Not the ATAR** This is the part that confuses most parents. Your child might score 75 per cent in their maths exam but end up with a scaled score that looks very different by the time the ATAR is calculated. The reason is scaling. Each subject is scaled based on how the students who took that subject performed overall. Subjects taken by high-achieving students tend to scale up, meaning students who do well in those subjects get a boost to their score. Subjects taken by lower-achieving students tend to scale down. This is why subject selection in Year 10 and 11 matters so much. Choosing subjects purely based on what your child enjoys – without considering how those subjects scale – can affect the final ATAR significantly. A clear explanation of how this works is available through resources like the[ ATAR scaling explained](https://educatta.com/atar-scaling-explained) guide from Educatta, which breaks down the process in plain language for WA students and their families. ![Mother helps her young son with homework at a wooden table, writing in a notebook with a pencil beside a tablet and books.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Year-12.jpg "Year 12 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Parents Can Actually Do** **Talk about subject selection early.** Year 10 is not too early to start thinking about which subjects will serve your child best both academically and in terms of ATAR calculation. A conversation with their school’s careers advisor, combined with some independent research, goes a long way. **Help them understand where they are tracking.** Students do not have to wait until results day to get a sense of their ATAR. Free online tools allow students to input their current performance and get an estimated score. Knowing where they stand early reduces the shock factor in December and gives them time to adjust their effort. **Normalise asking for help.** Many teenagers are reluctant to admit they are struggling in a subject because they do not want to worry their parents or look like they are not coping. Creating an environment at home where it is normal to talk about academic challenges – and where getting a tutor is seen as a practical tool rather than a last resort – makes a real difference. **Watch for burnout signals.** Year 12 is genuinely hard. The combination of study pressure, social expectations, and uncertainty about the future creates a level of stress most teenagers have not experienced before. Sleep disruption, irritability, withdrawing from activities they used to enjoy, and physical complaints like headaches and stomach aches are all signs that the pressure may be getting too much. ## **The ATAR Is Not Everything** This is worth saying clearly. The ATAR is one pathway to university, and university is one pathway to a career. Many students who do not get the ATAR they hoped for find alternative routes – TAFE, pathway programs, deferred entry, or simply applying again in the following year – that get them exactly where they want to go. The pressure that builds around the ATAR in Australian schools and households is real, but it is also somewhat out of proportion to how much the number actually determines the rest of a young person’s life. Your job as a parent is not to manage the outcome. It is to manage the environment your child is operating in – keeping home calm, keeping communication open, and making sure they have the support they need to do their best without burning out in the process. ## **A Final Word on the Year Before Year 12** If your child is currently in Year 10 or 11, the habits they build now matter more than most parents realise. [Students](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-do-i-get-into-university-as-a-mature-student/) who develop consistent study routines, understand how their subjects are assessed, and seek help early when they are struggling tend to perform significantly better in Year 12 than those who leave everything to the final year. The ATAR is not a sprint. It is the result of two years of consistent effort, good subject choices, and having the right support in place. Start the conversation early – it is worth it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/what-every-australian-mum-needs-to-know-about-the-atar-before-year-12/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/what-every-australian-mum-needs-to-know-about-the-atar-before-year-12/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [When It's Just You: How Single Mums Can Support a Teenager Through Year 12](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/how-single-mums-can-support-a-teenager-through-year-12/) **Published:** August 21, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There is a particular kind of pressure that comes with being the only adult in the house when your teenager is doing Year 12. You are managing the household, the finances, the emotional load and your own schedule. And then there is this other enormous thing happening at the kitchen table every night, full of subjects you may not have studied in decades, a grading system that feels opaque, and a teenager who oscillates between needing you desperately and wanting you to disappear entirely. Nobody talks enough about how hard this is for single parents. The advice out there tends to assume two adults, a calm household, and someone who can sit down and help with Maths Methods after dinner while the other one cooks. That is not most families. And it is definitely not most single mum families. So this is for you. ## **You Do Not Need to Understand the Content** This is the first thing to let go of. Your job is not to know what a context statement is, or how to calculate a derivative, or what the difference is between analytical and creative writing in the VCE context. Your job is to create the conditions in which your teenager can do the work. That is a completely different thing, and it is something you are already doing. Creating the conditions means: A consistent place to study. It does not have to be a dedicated desk. It just has to be somewhere that signals to the brain that it is time to focus. The kitchen table is fine. The bedroom is fine. What matters is that it is the same place, at roughly the same time, with the phone somewhere else. Regular meals that do not require your teenager to think about food. Year 12 students are notoriously bad at feeding themselves when they are stressed. One less decision is genuinely helpful. A home that is reasonably calm during study blocks. This is hard in a busy household. It does not need to be silent, but it does need to be predictable. ## **The Emotional Support Is the Main Thing** Your teenager will not always say this. In fact they will often say the opposite. But the research on what helps students through high-stakes assessment periods consistently points to the same thing: feeling supported at home matters more than any specific academic intervention. What that looks like in practice is less dramatic than it sounds. It is checking in without interrogating. It is noticing when they seem flat without making it a big conversation. It is occasionally sitting near them while they work, not hovering, just being present. Single mums tend to be exceptionally good at this kind of attentive, non-intrusive support. It is something that comes from years of reading a situation quickly and responding to what is actually needed rather than what should be needed. Trust that instinct. ![Woman and girl drawing together at a table with markers and papers in a bright living room](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7653339-1-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7653339 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by tima miroshnichenko](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-woman-writing-on-a-notebook-while-sitting-beside-a-boy-5303660/) ## **When You Can Tell Something Is Wrong** There is a difference between normal Year 12 stress and something more serious. Normal stress looks like irritability, tiredness, the occasional meltdown about a piece of work that did not go well. It is loud and temporary. Something more serious looks like withdrawal, persistent low mood, losing interest in things they used to care about, or consistently avoiding the work rather than engaging with it badly. If you are seeing the second set of signs, it is worth having a direct conversation. Not about Year 12, not about marks, but about how they are actually going. The question, asked and without an agenda, is often enough to open something up. ## **The Practical Question of Academic Support** Single-income households have to make more deliberate decisions about where money goes. Tutoring can feel like a luxury, and it is honest to say that it is an additional cost. At the same time, the window for Year 11 and 12 is short and specific. A student who is genuinely lost in one or two subjects can fall behind in ways that compound quickly, and catching up becomes harder as the year progresses. If academic support is something you are considering, small-group[ Year 12 tutoring](https://novascholars.com.au/) tends to be more cost-effective than private one-on-one sessions while still giving students the individual attention that a full classroom cannot provide. It also takes the academic pressure off the home environment, which matters a lot in a household where you are already carrying everything else. This is not a decision that needs to be made at the start of the year. It is worth watching how the first term goes and making the call based on what you actually see. ## **Giving Yourself Permission** There is a version of this year where you hold yourself to an impossible standard. Where you feel guilty for not being able to help with the content, guilty for being tired, guilty for the nights when dinner is toast and you have nothing left to give. That version is not useful to you or your teenager. The more useful version recognises that you are doing something genuinely hard. You are holding a household together while also trying to emotionally support a young person through one of the most pressured periods of their life. The fact that you are thinking about how to do this better is already evidence that you are doing it well. Year 12 ends. The marks come out. Life continues in one form or another. What your [teenager](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenagers-dating/) will carry forward from this year is not just whatever score they receive. It is the knowledge of what it felt like to have someone in their corner. You are that person. That is the thing that matters most. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/how-single-mums-can-support-a-teenager-through-year-12/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/how-single-mums-can-support-a-teenager-through-year-12/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [5 Ways To Better Relate To Your Married Friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/relate-to-married-friends/) **Published:** August 26, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Married friends after separation often drift without anyone meaning to. See what really gets in the way & the small swaps that keep the ones that matter. **Content:** A certain kind of quiet lands a few months after a separation. The group chat is still there. The invitations just stopped arriving, and nobody announced it. **If you’re wondering what to do about your married friends after separation, here’s the short version. Most of these friendships don’t end because someone stopped caring. They fade because catching up got harder and nobody said so out loud. What brings them back is usually smaller than you’d expect. Shorter catch-ups, honest logistics, one clear line about the matchmaking, and letting go of the idea that it all has to look the way it used to.** This isn’t a piece about making friends from scratch. That’s a different topic. This is about the people you already had. **Key Takeaways** - **Drifting is the usual pattern.** Most couple friendships fade slowly rather than ending in an argument, and most single mums keep one or two of them. - **The barrier is practical, not personal.** No second adult at home, babysitting costs, and handover weekends that don’t line up with everyone else’s Saturday night. - **Small and regular beats big and rare.** A twenty-minute walk or a coffee at drop-off holds a friendship together better than a dinner you keep postponing. - **Feeling isolated right now is ordinary.** Around 1 in 6 Australian women were experiencing loneliness in 2024, based on AIHW analysis of HILDA survey data. Good to knowThis article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor ![Two mums walking and talking on a suburban footpath after school drop-off](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/2-two-mums-walking-and-talking-on-a-suburban-footpath-after-school-drop-off-1192x800.webp "2-two-mums-walking-and-talking-on-a-suburban-footpath-after-school-drop-off - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why Married Friends After Separation Start To Feel Far Away** Most of the distance is logistics, not judgement. Married friends after separation often drift because the routines holding the friendship together have changed. Couple dinners, weekend barbecues and shared holidays all assumed two adults per household. When one household drops to one adult, the same plans cost more, take more organising, and carry a weight they never used to carry. I noticed it first at a Saturday barbecue I’d said yes to without thinking for six years running. The seventh year I sat in the car outside for a minute, working out how I was going to answer “so how are you going?” forty times before the sausages came off. Nothing had gone wrong between us. The shape of the thing had changed, and neither side had words for it yet. ## **Is It Normal To Lose Most Of Your Couple Friends?** Yes, and it’s usually gradual rather than dramatic. If your split was messy or public, some people pick a side. That’s a sharp, specific loss and it stings for a long time. Far more common is the slow version. Calls get shorter. Someone stops suggesting dates. Six months go past and you realise you haven’t seen her since the school holidays. Most mums I know came out the other side of that first year with one or two friendships from their married life intact. Not none, and not all of them. One or two. That’s a normal landing spot rather than a sign you did something wrong, and the way [friendships shift after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/finding-friends-after-divorce/) catches almost everyone off guard. ## **Why Does Catching Up Feel So Much Harder Now?** Because it now costs money, planning and a favour, where it used to cost nothing. The advice everyone repeats is that you’ve simply grown apart. Sometimes that’s true. More often the friendship is fine and the logistics are what’s broken. A Friday dinner means a sitter, or a swap with another mum, or your kids being at their dad’s on a weekend that doesn’t line up with the invitation. Your friend picks up her keys and walks out the door. You run a small operation. Actually, calling it a money problem isn’t quite right either. Money is part of it. The bigger part is that there’s no one to tag out to, so every yes has to be arranged days ahead and every no starts to feel like it needs a reason attached. That gap is worth saying out loud to the friends you want to keep. Most of them have no idea it exists. Not because they don’t care about you. Because they’ve never once had to think about it. Feeling flat in this season is also common enough that [loneliness across Australia](https://www.aihw.gov.au/mental-health/topic-areas/social-isolation-and-loneliness) sits at roughly 16% of women, going by AIHW’s read of the 2024 HILDA data. Plenty of mums are [busy and still lonely](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/busy-but-lonely/) at the same time, which surprises people who assume a full day means a full life. ![Woman driving a car on a suburban street, hands on the wheel, wearing a brown sweater and seatbelt.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/3-single-mum-sitting-in-her-parked-car-before-going-into-a-friends-barbecue-1192x800.webp "3-single-mum-sitting-in-her-parked-car-before-going-into-a-friends-barbecue - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Do You Handle The Couples’ Dinner Invite?** Go, but go on your own terms. The standard advice tells your friends to keep inviting you to couple things and tells you to say yes. It’s well meant. It also assumes the problem is the invitation, when the problem is usually the three hours. Some things that make it easier: - Decide your leaving time before you arrive. Ninety minutes is a real visit. - Bring one thing. Dessert, a bottle, the good crackers. It hands you a job for the first ten minutes. - Sit next to the person you actually want to talk to, not opposite a couple. - Have one honest answer ready for “how are you going?” so you’re not making it up on the spot each time. - Say no to some of them, without a reason attached. And here’s a swap worth offering out loud: a Tuesday morning walk instead of a Saturday night dinner. Half the time that’s the catch-up she was hoping for too, and neither of you was game to suggest it. ## **What Do You Say When They Keep Trying To Set You Up?** Say it once, clearly, and warmly. Something along the lines of: “I love you for thinking of me. I’m not looking at the moment, and I’ll tell you the day I am.” That’s enough for most people. If it keeps coming, it’s usually because they see your situation as a problem waiting to be fixed rather than a life you’re actually living. You can name that gently too. “I know you want me happy. I mostly am. This bit isn’t the bit that needs sorting.” There’s no rule that you owe anyone an explanation about your dating life. [Asking for help](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/) with a school run is a completely fair use of a friendship. So is asking to be left alone about this one thing. ## **Swap The Big Catch-Up For Something Small** Friendships survive on low-effort contact, not on big occasions. Waiting until you have more time and money is the thing that quietly ends them. The time doesn’t turn up on schedule. Two years go by, the thread goes, and nobody meant for that to happen. Small things that hold: 1. A walk on a weekday morning, pram or no pram. 2. Coffee in the ten minutes after drop-off, standing up, still in activewear. 3. A voice message recorded in the car. No scheduling, no babysitter. 4. Kid-inclusive Saturdays at a park instead of adult-only nights out. 5. One standing catch-up a month. Same day, same time, no negotiating. Number five does more work than the other four put together. Once it’s in the diary, nobody has to be the one who chases, and nobody has to feel bad about being chased. ![Single mum at a school assembly with an empty seat beside her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/4-single-mum-at-a-school-assembly-with-an-empty-seat-beside-her-1192x800.webp "4-single-mum-at-a-school-assembly-with-an-empty-seat-beside-her - Beanstalk Mums") ## **School Events And Birthday Parties Hit Differently** These are the moments that catch mums sideways, and almost nothing written about friendship mentions them. The assembly where every other child has two adults in the row. The birthday party where couples quietly tag each other out for a coffee run and you’re on duty for the full two hours. The Sunday your kids are at their dad’s and the whole family-day thing is happening in every direction around you. A few things that take the edge off. Text one friend before you walk into a school event so there’s a face you’re looking for. Arrive at parties with a job, because cutting up watermelon beats standing at the edge of a lawn. Ask someone to save you a seat, which most people are glad to be asked to do. And on handover weekends, put something in the diary early in the week, not to fill the day, just so it has a shape before it arrives. [Your parenting village](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-your-parenting-village/) doesn’t have to be all couples or all single mums. Most good ones are a bit of both. ## **When A Friendship Has Quietly Ended** Sometimes the honest answer is that it’s finished, and that’s allowed. If you’ve reached out three or four times and nothing has come back, you have your answer. You don’t need a villain for the story to make sense. People rearrange themselves after a separation in ways that often aren’t about you at all. That loss still deserves grieving. Losing someone who knew you at twenty-two is its own particular sadness, and it tends to land months after the separation itself, when you finally have room to feel it. If [loneliness settles in](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) and stays for a long stretch, talk to someone. The [Council of Single Mothers](https://www.csmc.org.au/) runs a support line staffed by people who work with single mums every day. Lifeline is on 13 11 14 at any hour, and Beyond Blue is on 1300 22 4636. ## **Keeping Old Friends While You Make New Ones** You don’t have to pick a side. The advice you’ll hear most is to build a whole new circle of single mums who get it. That’s half right, and the half that’s right matters. Other single mums understand things nobody else has to have explained to them, and those friendships are worth going after. But a circle made up entirely of people who met you after the separation cuts you off from everyone who knew you before it. Both kinds hold something the other can’t. Beanstalk Mums has a longer guide if you want to [find new friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/) with a bit more structure to it, and Raising Children Network lists [support for single parents](https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/family-diversity/single-parents/support-for-single-parents) around the country. ![Chart comparing types of catch-up and how well each keeps a friendship going](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/5-chart-comparing-types-of-catch-up-and-how-well-each-keeps-a-friendship-going-1192x800.webp "5-chart-comparing-types-of-catch-up-and-how-well-each-keeps-a-friendship-going - Beanstalk Mums") ## **You Don’t Have To Choose Between Two Lives** If you take one thing from this, take this. Your married friends after separation aren’t a problem to solve or a group to mourn. They’re people also working out what the new version of this looks like, mostly badly, mostly without saying so. So pick one. Send the message today, before the evening gets away from you. Suggest something small enough that neither of you has to find a babysitter for it. The friendships that last are usually the ones where somebody kept turning up, in whatever small way was going at the time. ## **FAQ Section** **Is it normal to lose married friends after separation?** Yes, and the usual pattern is a slow drift rather than a falling out. Most single mums keep one or two friendships from their married life, which is a normal outcome rather than a sign anything went wrong. **How do I stop feeling like the odd one out at couples’ dinners?** Decide your leaving time before you arrive and bring one thing, like dessert or a bottle, so you have something to do in the first ten minutes. Ninety minutes counts as a real visit. **What do I say when friends keep trying to set me up?** Say it once and warmly: that you love them for thinking of you, you’re not looking right now, and you’ll tell them when you are. If it keeps happening, they’re treating your situation as a problem to fix rather than a life you’re living. **Should I tell my married friends I can’t afford to go out?** Naming the practical barrier is usually more useful than declining repeatedly without a reason. Most friends have never had to think about babysitting costs or handover weekends and will happily suggest something cheaper once they know. **How do I keep married friends after separation when I have no babysitter?** Move the friendship to daytime and to places kids can come. A weekday walk, a coffee after drop-off or a park Saturday all skip the babysitter problem entirely. **Is it better to just make new single mum friends?** Other single mums understand things you don’t have to explain, so those friendships are worth building. A circle made up only of people who met you after the separation cuts you off from everyone who knew you before it, so both kinds are worth keeping. **How long does it take for friendships to settle after a separation?** Most mums describe the first year as the unsettled one, with the shape of things becoming clearer somewhere in the second. Losing a long friendship often hits later than the separation itself, once there’s room to feel it. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Relate-married-friends.png "Relate married friends - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/relate-to-married-friends/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/relate-to-married-friends/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** mates, friendship --- ### [Parenting Styles And Why You Should Have Confidence In Yours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/) **Published:** August 20, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Parenting styles explained for single mums: the four types, what the research really says, and why a hard week doesn't mean you've picked wrong. Read on! **Content:** There’s a particular kind of 11pm worry that comes with parenting alone. You’ve had a hard evening, you were sharper than you meant to be, and now you’re lying there googling parenting styles to work out whether you’ve got it all wrong. So, the short version. **Parenting styles describe how much warmth and how much structure a parent brings. There are four, and the research favours the one that combines both: warm and responsive, with clear limits. But the label matters far less than what you actually do on most days. Australian research points the same way. What happens between you and your kids matters more than who else lives in the house.** **Key Takeaways** - **Drifting is normal.** Most parents move between styles depending on stress and tiredness. A rough stretch isn’t proof you’ve chosen the wrong approach. - **Four styles, two ingredients.** Authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. They’re sorted by how much warmth a parent shows and how much structure they set. - **The research favours authoritative.** Sometimes called supportive. Warm and responsive, with clear and consistent limits. - **Structure isn’t the deciding factor.** The Australian Institute of Family Studies has found that parenting practices matter more for children’s outcomes than who’s in the family. Good to knowThis article provides general guidance only. For concerns specific to your child’s health, development, or legal situation, please consult a qualified professional. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ![Grid showing the four parenting styles sorted by warmth and structure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/2-grid-showing-the-four-parenting-styles-sorted-by-warmth-and-structure-1192x800.webp "2-grid-showing-the-four-parenting-styles-sorted-by-warmth-and-structure - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Are The Four Parenting Styles?** Parenting styles sort how parents raise their kids using two things: how much warmth you show, and how much structure you set. Psychologist Diana Baumrind identified three in the 1960s after studying preschool children. Researchers Maccoby and Martin added a fourth in the 1980s. Australia’s national parenting health service lists [the same four styles](https://www.pregnancybirthbaby.org.au/parenting-and-family/parenting-skills-and-daily-life/parenting-styles) today. Here’s what each one looks like in a real house. ### **Authoritarian Parenting** High structure, low warmth. Rules are firm, expectations are high, and the reasoning behind them often goes unexplained. “Because I said so” lives here. Children raised this way are often well behaved. Research has also linked the style with lower confidence and more anxiety. Worth saying: firm rules on their own aren’t the problem. It’s firm rules without the warmth alongside them. ### **Authoritative Parenting** This is the one the research keeps landing on. High structure and high warmth together. You set clear limits, and you explain them. You listen when your child pushes back, and you hold the line anyway. When they fall short, you deal with it without withdrawing your affection. Plenty of mums are already doing this and don’t have a name for it. It sits close to what a lot of people call [gentle parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/gentle-parenting/), though the two aren’t identical. ### **Permissive Parenting** Picture the Sunday night where nobody wants a fight, so bedtime quietly becomes negotiable. High warmth, not much structure. These parents are affectionate and accepting, and they’ll usually avoid a confrontation. Kids often feel close to them. What tends to go missing is self-regulation, because the limits that build it aren’t there. ### **Uninvolved Parenting** This is the one that worries people, so let’s be careful with it. Low warmth and low structure over a long stretch: not much connection, and not many limits either. If reading that made your stomach drop, read this next bit. A hard month is not a parenting style. Grief, illness, a brutal separation, or a bad patch with your own mental health can flatten anyone for a while. That’s a season, not a pattern. If it’s gone on longer than sits right with you, that’s a conversation for your GP, not a reason to hand yourself a verdict at midnight. ![Tired single mum on her bed at night reading about parenting styles on her phone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/3-tired-single-mum-on-her-bed-at-night-reading-about-parenting-styles-on-her-phone-1192x800.webp "3-tired-single-mum-on-her-bed-at-night-reading-about-parenting-styles-on-her-phone - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why The Four Styles Don’t Tell The Whole Story** The four-style model is useful shorthand, and it has real limits. Baumrind’s original research looked at a fairly narrow group of families in 1960s California. Studies since, across different cultures and family types, have found the outcomes don’t map as neatly as the tidy version suggests. For years I told other mums to work out their style and commit to it. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. Most of us don’t have a style so much as a bundle of habits that shift with the day, the child, and how much sleep we got. And here’s where I’ll gently disagree with almost every page you’ll find on this. They all tell you to be authoritative. Fine, the evidence supports it. But “be warm and firm at all times” is advice written for a house with two adults in it. When you’re the only one, holding that line at 6pm on a Thursday is a different physical task. Some mums land somewhere closer to [low demand parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/low-demand-parenting/) for a season, and that’s a reasonable call, not a failure. What this article won’t do is tell you which style to pick. It also isn’t the place for behaviour that’s genuinely worrying you. That’s a conversation with your GP or a child psychologist, and it deserves more than a blog post. ## **Do Parenting Styles Work Differently For Single Mums?** The styles themselves are identical. What changes is how much it costs you to hold one. Two things make it harder, and neither gets much airtime. You don’t have another adult to compare notes with, and you can’t hand a decision to someone else when you’re out of road. Australian health guidance names both directly. You’re also the only person setting limits, which means you carry the “bad guy” role every single day, with nobody to swap it with. That’s the honest part. Now the part almost nobody prints. Research summarised by government health services shows [parenting practices matter more](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/single-parenting) than family structure when it comes to how kids turn out. The same body of work notes that single parents tend to reach for positive problem-solving rather than punishment when behaviour gets difficult. Single-parent homes are also less likely to run on rigid gender roles, and children often get a real say in family decisions earlier. So the structural disadvantage you’ve been quietly assuming? The evidence doesn’t back it. If you’re working out [discipline across two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/smart-strategies-to-discipline-your-children-whilst-co-parenting/), that’s a logistics problem, not a verdict on your parenting. ## **Why Your Style Changes When You’re Running On Empty** You are not the same parent at 7am on a Saturday and 6pm on a Wednesday. Nobody is. Australian health guidance says this outright: parenting under stress often pushes people to be either too strict or too lenient. Not because their values changed. Because their capacity did. The 5pm version of you snaps faster and folds faster. Both. Sometimes in the same ten minutes. What helps isn’t gritting your teeth harder. It’s repair. You come back twenty minutes later, you say the thing you snapped about was fair but the way you said it wasn’t, and you move on. Kids learn more from watching a person recover than from watching a person never slip. If the days have stopped feeling manageable altogether, that’s worth reading about [single mum burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/), and Lifeline is on 13 11 14, any hour of the day. ![Child's overnight bag by the front door before a co-parenting changeover](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/4-childs-overnight-bag-by-the-front-door-before-a-co-parenting-changeover-1192x800.webp "4-childs-overnight-bag-by-the-front-door-before-a-co-parenting-changeover - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Happens When Your House And Theirs Run Differently?** Kids cope with two sets of rules better than most adults expect. What unsettles them isn’t the difference. It’s conflict about the difference. If you’re co-parenting and things are reasonably civil, some alignment on the big items is worth having: bedtimes on school nights, screens, how homework gets handled. Small stuff can differ without harm. Different houses, different rules. Children work that out surprisingly young. Chasing consistency across two houses is usually the wrong goal, and it burns energy you don’t have spare. You can’t set the rules in a home you don’t live in. What you can do is run yours well. Some mums deliberately balance out the other household rather than matching it, which is the idea behind [complementary co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/complementary-co-parenting/). Big weekend at their dad’s, quiet reset at yours. If communication with your co-parent is difficult or unsafe, matching styles isn’t the priority at all. [Parallel parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/) lets you both disengage from each other and focus on your own relationship with the kids. It’s a legitimate arrangement, not a lesser one. ## **The Two Hours After Handover** Your child comes back from their other parent’s place and everything falls apart. This is so common that Australian health guidance names it: children can take anywhere from a few hours to a few days to resettle after time in the other household. It isn’t a report card on your parenting. It also isn’t proof that something happened over there. Which means the two hours after pickup is the worst possible time to test whether your approach is working. Feed them. Keep it low. Save the conversation about the maths homework for tomorrow. If changeover itself is where things reliably go sideways, there are practical ways to build [smoother changeovers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/change-overs-when-coparenting/) into the routine. ![Single mum and her child laughing together on the couch at home in the evening](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/5-single-mum-and-her-child-laughing-together-on-the-couch-at-home-in-the-evening-1192x800.webp "5-single-mum-and-her-child-laughing-together-on-the-couch-at-home-in-the-evening - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Do You Know If You’re Getting It Right?** Australian health services offer three questions that beat any style quiz. You can feel positive about your parenting if you’re reasonably confident most of the time, if you care about being a good parent, and if you call on other people for support. That’s it. Notice what isn’t on the list. Consistency every single day. A house that runs to a schedule. Never raising your voice. If you want something more concrete to work with, [free parenting support](https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/family-diversity/single-parents/support-for-single-parents) is available across Australia through government-backed services, and it costs nothing. Here’s the thought I’d want you to take to bed instead of the 11pm spiral. Parenting styles are a description, not a diagnosis. Nobody hands you one at the hospital and expects you to keep it forever. You’ll be warmer some weeks and firmer others, and you’ll get it wrong on a Tuesday and repair it on a Wednesday. The mum who worries whether she’s doing it right is already showing you the answer. Worrying about it is the work. ## **FAQ Section** **What are the four parenting styles?** The four parenting styles are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. Diana Baumrind identified the first three in the 1960s, and researchers Maccoby and Martin added the fourth in the 1980s. **Which parenting style is best for single mums?** Research favours the authoritative style, which combines warmth with clear and consistent limits. It works the same way in a single-parent home, though holding it takes more effort when there’s no second adult to share the load. **Does having one parent instead of two affect how children turn out?** The Australian Institute of Family Studies has found that parenting practices matter more for children’s outcomes than family structure. Children raised by one parent are generally just as happy as children raised by two. **Is it bad if my parenting style changes when I’m tired?** No, and it’s very common. Australian health guidance notes that parenting under stress often pushes parents to be either stricter or more lenient than usual, which reflects your capacity rather than your values. **Should my co-parent and I use the same parenting style?** Some alignment on big items like bedtimes and screens helps, but matching every rule isn’t necessary or realistic. Children adapt to different rules in different homes, and conflict between parents unsettles them more than the differences themselves. **Why is my child unsettled after coming home from their other parent’s house?** Children commonly take anywhere from a few hours to a few days to resettle after time in their other household. It’s a normal adjustment, not a sign of a problem in either home. **Where can I get free parenting support in Australia?** Raising Children Network offers free, evidence-based parenting resources backed by the Australian Government, and parenting helplines operate in every state. Lifeline is available on 13 11 14 if things feel unmanageable. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** single parent, single mother, parenting styles, solo parenting, authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved, parenting alone --- ### [My ex and I can't agree on a school for our child, now what?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/cant-agree-school/) **Published:** April 12, 2022 **Author:** Cassandra Kalpaxis **Content:** When it comes to co-parenting decisions don’t stop when the Court Orders are dry. Just because you’ve signed off custody and school holiday care does not mean everything is done and dusted. For many parents one of the biggest decisions they have to make together is deciding what school to send their children too. Reaching a joint decision on this can be extremely challenging even when parents are together, let alone when they are apart. Collaborative Family lawyer Cassandra Kalpaxis says this is something she sees all the time at her practise Kalpaxis Legal in Sydney. So she’s giving her advice if you and your ex find yourself in this position. Cassandra also works as a mediator, and parenting coordinator helping families find resolution without the need for court. ## EQUAL SHARED RESPONSIBILITY It’s important to remember that the concept of equal shared parental responsibility applies to parents unless there is an order stating otherwise. This means that there is an expectation that collectively parents will share in the decisions jointly around education, health, travel and medical for children. In the event that a disagreement arises it is important that parents take early intervention to assist them in reaching a resolution. ## PLAN THE CONVERSATION Try and discuss the topic in small bite size chunks. If you know the conversation is going to get heated, set ground rules before you meet. Have expectations around: - Language to be used - Where the conversation is to take place (somewhere neutral) - When the conversation will end (if ground rules are broken and when it can be picked up again). ## SCHEDULE MEDIATION If you are unable to have an independent conversation, then schedule a mediation with a registered FDRP. It is the Mediators role to work with the parties to permit healthy dialogue and try to reach a resolution in the matter. Mediations can be scheduled quickly and topics don’t need to be crammed into one session. They can be broken down into small mini mediations to allow the parties to think clearly and communicate or make decisions without pressure. It is important to prepare for mediation in advance. Practice active listening, write down what is important to you and why. Think about where you could compromise. Practice meditation and breathing techniques to prevent overwhelm. ***Further reading: [10 Smart strategies for successful mediation.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/)*** ## PARENTING COORDINATION (PC) If you can’t reach a decision but are both committed to the process, Parenting Coordination could assist. Note that PC is often a 12-month commitment by the parties and will deal with topics beyond schooling in that when the parties meet with the PC at the end of each month three topics can be used raised with the PC which will be workshopped. A non-binding direction can be given by the PC which the parties will be directed to follow. ## FILE A COURT APPLICATION The last resort if the parties can’t agree is to file an application with the court seeking orders for the enrolment of the child into a specific school. Be aware that this can be costly, time consuming and the court will be concerned about parents who cannot make decisions together about basic parenting decisions such as schooling. If the parties agree whilst in court, the parties can reach a consent position and ask the court to make the orders by consent For more information you can head to Cassandra’s website [Kalpaxis Legal](https://kalpaxislegal.com.au/) or [Parenting Coodination Australia](https://parentingcoordinationaustralia.com.au/). ![Can't agree on school | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Agree-school.png "Agree school - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/cant-agree-school/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/cant-agree-school/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** education, school, coparenting, coparent --- ### [How to emotionally prepare for family court day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/emotionally-prepare-for-your-day-in-family-court/) **Published:** October 19, 2020 **Author:** Shaya Lewis-Dermody **Content:** At the outset, it should be said that in my practice I will do everything possible to *avoid* having my clients enter the Family Law Court system. After nearly 20 years in the jurisdiction, no client has ever left the courtroom telling me that they really enjoyed the experience! The Family Law Courts have at times been described as “*a legal cage fight*”. The truth is that having your personal Family Law matter in the Family Law Court system is tough and can also be very expensive, particularly if your matter proceeds to Trial. The jurisdiction encourages and requires the filing of affidavit material and it is usual for affidavit material to set out your concerns about your ex-partner (and visa versa, their concerns about you). I often say to clients that entering the Court system is also likely undo any opportunity to have a [co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/) or [amicable relationship with your ex-partner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stay-friends-with-your-ex-after-divorce/) in the future. If you are able to resolve your parenting or property matter through either [mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/) (Family Dispute Resolution) or negotiation, then you should. There are some exceptions and some matters where a court application is not avoidable. Examples include: - Where there has been family violence - Urgent applications or where you and your ex-partner have simply been unsuccessful through the mediation or negotiation process and there is no other option to resolve your matter. - Or your ex-partner has initiated the proceedings and essentially forced your hand through this “*legal cage fight”.* So, how do you emotionally prepare for your Day in Family Court? Here are my seven tips … ## HOW TO EMOTIONALLY PREPARE FOR YOUR DAY IN FAMILY COURT ### Understand that your “Day in Court” is likely to be at least a 12-month process It is incredibly rare that a Family Law dispute, be it parenting or property, would resolve with only one Court hearing. I find that many clients who come to me do not realise that this is likely to be a lengthy process. Some clients instruct me to initiate proceedings thinking that it will be over in a matter of weeks which is simply inaccurate. Understanding what to expect from a procedural perspective and understanding the timeline of Court directions will help you to prepare for the process. It is a good idea to think of your matter in “stages” so that you can get to the point of the next court hearing, the Family Report process, a Conciliation Conference and so on. Also know that there is ultimately an end point which is a Trial. It may seem as though your life is completely consumed and on standstill whilst going through the process, but you will reach the point of either [consent orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) (agreed orders with your ex-partner) or a Trial. ### ARM YOURSELF WITH KNOWLEDGE Knowledge is power. Educate yourself as much as possible around procedural issues and also the law. If you have a lawyer, ensure that they explain the process to you without the legalese. If your matter is a property settlement, then get advice in relation to likely outcomes and property division. If you are in Court in relation to children make sure you educate yourself around what reasonable orders and arrangements are for your children. Understand that the concerns that you have are likely to be different to your judicial officer. If you have a lawyer, they should be giving you this guidance. If you are self-represented, start with resources that the Court offers on their [website](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/family-law-in-australia/). If you cannot afford to instruct a lawyer then, at minimum, meet with a lawyer from your nearest [Legal Aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/) office or Community Legal Centre. The more you arm yourself with knowledge, the more in control you will be. ***Further reading: [Expert advice to navigate family court without a lawyer.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigate-family-court-without-lawyer/)*** ### PICK YOUR BATTLES & WEAR YOUR “BUSINESS HAT” There will be *many* battles that you will face if your matter ends up in the Family Law Court. A key element is to pick your battles. Ensure that you understand what is actually involved in the Court proceedings and what the Court’s view on specific “battles” is. Often, the things that are important to my clients are things that the Court either doesn’t care about or doesn’t have the time or jurisdiction to deal with! This is a really difficult and highly emotional time for you. Try to step back and really focus on what overall outcome is important for you rather than losing focus. Are you able to think of this process as a business transaction? I know it’s easier said than done. But if you can remove some of the emotion and put on your “business hat” it will help you through the process. ### RALLY YOUR PROFESSIONAL TEAM TO HELP PREPARE FOR FAMILY COURT Dealing with the breakdown of your relationship is likely one of the most traumatic times in your life. When you throw the Family Law Court into the mix, you must ensure you have the best support team around you. You need to know they have got your back, are knowledgeable and will guide you through the process. If you are in the process of [engaging a lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-choose-the-right-lawyer-for-your-family-law-case/), ensure that you instruct someone who specialises in the Family Law jurisdiction, as opposed to a generalist law firm. Many firms offer low cost of free first meetings and this is a great opportunity to see if you are the right fit for each other. You must ensure that you are both comfortable and confident in their ability. There are numerous Court support services for women which you may wish to explore. If you were referred to a family violence officer post-separation, you may consider linking back to that service for ongoing court support. They will also be well-placed to offer you alternative support services that are best for you. There are also family Court support services for women whereby you can chose to have someone attend court with you. Sometimes a safety room can be booked if there is an AVO against your ex-partner or you have concerns for your safety. ## HOW TO PREPARE FOR FAMILY COURT (CONT.) ### RALLY YOUR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT TEAM (FRIENDS & FAMILY) It is important to have not only a professional team around you but a good support network generally. Having friends and family by your side through the process and attending appointments and Court with you can offer fantastic emotional support. They can assist as another set of listening ears and also take notes for you when perhaps you are unable to. One word of warning though: > *Do not rely on them for legal advice! While it is common for people to have their own separation and family law stories, you should not rely on these people for legal advice. It is not uncommon for me to speak with new clients who have formed unrealistic expectations about their matter because their friend went through a “similar experience”. Often that well-meaning advice is simply wrong.* Friends and family hold a very important place in your Family Court journey – to listen and provide emotional support. ### OH, BEHAVE! “*I need you to sit politely and keep a poker face”*. This is what I say to clients before we go into the Court room. There will be things said during the proceedings that you strongly disagree with. You cannot be seen shaking your head, huffing and puffing or trying to speak to rebut what has been said. Likewise, things will be said that you strongly agree with – but it is not the time to clap or fist punch! I have seen it all too often where parties either self-represented or with their lawyer are unable to control their emotions during a hearing. It does not go unnoticed. Like it or not, your conduct is being observed by the judicial officer. It is not the time to be drawing attention to yourself or upsetting the Judge. ### STAY OUT OF FAMILY COURT! Negotiate. Mediate. Don’t litigate …. if possible! ![How to emotionally prepare for your day in family court | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Prepare-family-court.png "Prepare family court - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/emotionally-prepare-for-your-day-in-family-court/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/emotionally-prepare-for-your-day-in-family-court/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** family court, hearing, trial --- ### [How to prepare interim parenting arrangements after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/the-importance-of-interim-parenting-arrangements-after-separation/) **Published:** May 24, 2023 **Author:** Melanie Wyatt **Content:** Separation is hugely challenging not only for the parents but also for the children. Parents are often unsure or unable to communicate with each other about what time the children will spend with each parent. It is especially difficult when the separation is not amicable. For this reason, preparing interim parenting arrangements to guide you before creating a formal agreement is really important. Interim parenting arrangements refer to temporary custody and visitation plans established after separation, before a more permanent custody agreement is reached. While it may be tempting for separating parents to postpone addressing these arrangements amidst the emotional upheaval, doing so can harm the children involved, who need order, calm and continuity to thrive. Many couples find that the interim arrangements are an excellent way to test what works and what doesn’t, which makes preparing the final orders easier. The choices made during the interim period can shape children’s future well-being and influence co-parenting dynamics. Learn how to prepare interim parenting arrangements to forge a peaceful path forward for everyone in the family. ## PREPARE A PARENTING PLAN Normally the first step to work out interim parenting arrangements for children is through a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/). This is a written agreement between the parents with or without legal advice. The parenting plan must be signed by both parents and should be dated. The issue is if the parents have not received legal advice and did not understand what they were signing, or if one parent was coerced into to agreeing and signing due to family violence or a power imbalance between the parents. A parenting plan is not legally binding and cannot be enforced by the Family or Federal Courts if one parent does not comply with the parenting plan. If either parent decided to make an Application to the Family Court or Federal Circuit Court then the parenting plan would be persuasive for the Court to make a decision based on the previous arrangements for the children. ## USE A FAMILY DISPUTE RESOLUTION One way to reach an agreement through a parenting plan is through family dispute resolution (FDR), otherwise known as [mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/). This process allows the parents to reach an agreement and have their voices heard in a safe environment. If there are safety concerns then the family dispute resolution practitioner (FDRP) can arrange for the parents to be in separate rooms and the FDRP can go into between the rooms with the parents’ proposals. If an agreement is reached then a parenting plan can be entered into and preferably taken to their lawyers to obtain legal advice prior to signing. There are plenty of government funded family dispute resolution services, such as [Relationships Australia.](https://www.relationships.org.au/) ## ARRANGEMENTS TO NEGOTIATE FOR YOUR CHILDREN The FDRP can assist with the parents to negotiate interim parenting arrangements for the children, including spending scheduled times with each parent (week and weekend time), special occasions such as Christmas, birthdays and school holidays. Another consideration is where changeover will occur. It is important to have time commencing and concluding to provide the children with stability and a regular routine. Further, the issue of equal shared parental responsibility (ESPR) (making long term decisions for the children such as education, health and religion) or sole parental responsibility. Either EPSR or sole parental responsibility is not about spending time with the children, only about making long term decisions for the children. ## WHAT IF AN INTERIM PARENTING ARRANGEMENT CAN’T BE REACHED? If no interim parenting arrangement can be reached at FDR then the mediator can issue a Section 60I Certificate which looks very insignificant but is important if one parent decides to make an Application to the Family Court or Federal Circuit Court to seek parenting Orders. Applications will be not be accepted by the Court without a Section 60I Certificate unless in circumstances of family violence, a child is at risk or urgency (such as a recovery Order when one parent unilaterally withholds a child). The Orders sought from the Court can include interim and final Orders. The interim Orders are those arrangements before final Orders are made by the Court or by Consent by the parents. ## WHAT HAPPENS WHEN AN AGREEMENT IS REACHED? If parents reach an agreement by way of a parenting plan, this can be drafted into Consent Orders which are filed in the Family Court. Both parents must sign the Consent Orders and are not required to obtain independent legal advice, although it’s a good idea to do so. The Consent Orders are Court Orders and must be complied with by both parents. There are consequences if one parent does not comply with the Orders. ## PUTTING YOUR CHILDREN FIRST If your children are young and the separation is difficult, it can be hard to consider how to be civil to the other parent for what they may have done to you during the marriage or relationship or how one parent has suddenly stepped up after separation and now going for parent of year award. Putting these differences aside and working on your own emotions can help your children for the future by having parents that can communicate effectively and are civil at changeovers. Parenting after separation can be difficult. It is important to consider what is in the children’s best interests and ensure they have a meaningful relationship with both parents (unless there are issues of risk). ## Final words: Preparing interim parenting arrangements after separation It can be hard to put your differences aside but through individual counselling (or couple counselling if appropriate) and not viewing your children as possessions, you can work together as [co-parents of your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/) until they are 18 years old and beyond. Remember, your children do not want to be in a position of not inviting one or both parents to their significant life events due your inability to get along whilst they were growing up. 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Trying to reach an agreement that has the least impact on your children can be tricky, especially if the separation is not particularly amicable. Many divorcing and separating couples use mediation as an alternative to resolve problems without going to court. Even if you think things have gone too far, [mediation can help with high-conflict separations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-mediation-high-conflict-separations/). [Family mediation](https://www.familylawyersdw.com.au/mediation-family-dispute/) might not be the first solution that comes to mind, but it’s often the best one. It can significantly reduce the stress of divorcing, allowing you to move on much quicker and very much cheaper than using lawyers and going through the family courts. It is also better for your kids for several reasons. ## Family law terms and definitions Before we go deeper into the topic, here is a definition of some unfamiliar and legal terms. ### Family dispute resolution practitioner A professional who helps families resolve conflicts and reach agreements, especially about parenting or financial issues, without going to court. ### Family dispute resolution service A service that provides support and mediation to help families resolve disputes, often involving issues like child custody, property division, and other family-related conflicts. It is offered by the Family Relationship Centre. ### Family mediation A process where a neutral third party, called a [mediator](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/good-family-mediator/), assists family members in discussing and resolving their disputes in a cooperative and non-adversarial manner. ### Family violence Any form of abuse, including physical, emotional, or psychological harm, that occurs within a family or between intimate partners. ### Legal aid Financial assistance is provided to individuals who cannot afford legal representation and advice. ### Legal advice Guidance provided by a qualified lawyer or legal professional regarding legal rights, obligations, and the best course of action in a particular situation. ![legal assistance in family mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/IN-ARTICLE-images-4.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Reasons why family dispute resolution (FDR) or mediation is best ## Family mediation is less stressful than going to court Mediation is much less stressful for all parties compared to going through court orders and all that drama. When you’re [stressed as a parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/), this is always picked up by your children and creates more unease in the home. ### Pay less for mediation service (If you don’t need to get legal advice) Lawyers cost thousands of dollars and it can take months (sometimes years) to finalise your divorce. You will almost certainly end up with a much bigger legal bill than you ever expected, which will have a significant impact on your financial situation. Mediation, on the other hand, costs only a few hundred dollars per person, which is much more affordable. No need to worry about being able to afford new school shoes or pay for their next school excursion. ### Mediation is confidential Everything that happens in mediation is completely private and confidential. There is no public record of it, so your children don’t ever have to know what has transpired. Keeping the process private will mean less of an impact on your children and you don’t have to worry about anyone sharing public information with them either. ### Mediation is quicker than going to court When you divorce using the federal circuit and family court system, your divorce may take months or years to finalise. During this period of uncertainty, your life is on hold – the kids will pick up on this, and the months of stress can rub off on them. A successful[ mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/) will help you settle your terms of separation or divorce a lot quicker. Most couples need only one mediation session to come to a mutual agreement on how to proceed with splitting their assets and parenting arrangements for the kids. This makes it a lot better for your children as they can get used to any [new living arrangements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) that have been made with confidence and mutual agreement between you and your ex. ## FDR works (cont.) ### It focuses on parenting plans that are best for your kids A mediator’s role is to be completely impartial. They are there to help you and your ex to come to a mutual agreement on the terms of your divorce. They are not there to take sides or favour one person over the other. This is very different from lawyers who clearly represent one side or the other and look for small differences to argue about. If you have children, the mediator needs to consider their best interests when mediating between two parents. This makes it one of the best ways to divorce if you have your children’s best interests at heart. Mediation is the best thing you can do for your kids if you are separating or divorcing. Find a local mediator today who can help you move on quickly and affordably, with the [least amount of stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/) for not only you but also your children. ## Summary: Use FDR to resolve conflicts [Choosing family mediation ](https://baysidemediation.com.au/)is one of the best decisions you can make for your children during a separation. Unlike the stressful atmosphere of a courtroom, mediation creates an environment where you and your ex can work together to find the best solutions for your children and property. It helps protect your little ones from the emotional turmoil brought by conflicts. It shows your kids that even though Mum and Dad might not be together anymore, they can still work as a team. In the end, choosing mediation not only saves time and money but also preserves the family bonds that are important for your children’s sense of security and their emotional and psychological health. Remember, a mediator will help you focus on what’s truly important—the kids. In doing so, you can develop a parenting plan that will make your children happier and give them a more stable environment. No matter how much you loathe your ex, make a genuine effort and always attend mediation sessions. Believe me, the dispute resolution process works. I have seen several friends resolve their family law disputes and are living happier lives now. ![Why mediation is the best thing you can do for your kids | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Mediation-for-kids.png "Mediation for kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/why-family-mediation-best-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/why-family-mediation-best-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** divorce, mediation, child inclusive mediation, family dispute resolution, court, seperation, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner, FDRP --- ### [The top 12 don'ts of separation and divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/donts-of-separation-and-divorce/) **Published:** May 1, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With divorce rates higher than ever, there’s a good chance that you, or someone you know, are making the transition from a wife to a single life. Divorce is a rollercoaster of emotions, with guilt, stress and sadness leading the way. The good news is that by making the right decisions, you can minimise the negatives and turn your divorce into the start of a positive new journey for you and your children. Make your journey to Destination Divorce as smooth and stress-free as it can be with our list of top 12 don’ts of separation and divorce. ## The top 12 don’ts of separation and divorce ## 1. **Don’t take your friend’s legal advice** Make sure your divorce is handled properly by seeking professional advice from a reputable source. Well-meaning friends or your great Aunt Margot, who’s astonished you’re even considering divorce, aren’t able to offer you the quality advice a professional can. A professional will help you navigate your options, tell you what’s required and secure a fair settlement for you and your children. Remember, the first step is [not necessarily a law firm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separating-doesnt-mean-need-lawyer/). Try [mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/) or a separation specialist for a less aggressive pathway. ## 2. **Don’t ignore the legalities** This is one of the crucial don’ts of separation and divorce. Sure, you might think you’ve got it all figured out – who gets the dog, who keeps the family home – but hold your horses! Regarding legal stuff like property settlement, finances, and all that jazz, get in touch with someone who knows the ropes. A knowledgeable family lawyer can provide invaluable guidance tailored to your situation. They’ll walk you through the ins and outs of the process, from setting that all-important separation date to making sure you’ve clocked in those mandatory 12 months apart before hitting up the family court of Australia. Now, let’s talk about debts. Many married couples who get divorced or separated get tangled up with this problem. When it comes to debts, the law doesn’t care much about who swiped the credit card last—it’s all about joint liability. That means both parties are on the hook, even if only one of you was the big spender. So, before you go your separate ways, make sure to settle every single liability. ![Separation and divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/aa618b2d-8a86-466e-ad13-5e86f9fbb165_20240425_202107_0000-1066x800.jpg "aa618b2d-8a86-466e-ad13-5e86f9fbb165_20240425_202107_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") And let’s not forget the consent orders. They’re legally binding agreements that cover everything from asset division to child arrangements. Work with your family lawyer to draft and finalise these crucial documents. ## 3. **Don’t refuse communication** Children need to see that even though you are no longer together as a couple, both you and your spouse are still in this parenting gig together. To make a success of the ‘living between two house[s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/)‘ thing, communication is key. Doing this in a civilised manner will help your children feel loved and safe. Keep the conversation focused on your children, and at the first sign of a disagreement, reschedule the conversation for a time when you’re both feeling more level-headed. If things get bad, booking mediation can have a great outcome for your kids. It will resolve issues quickly and calmly with a third party .. so you can continue being the best parents you can be. ## 4. **Don’t overlook the difference between separation and divorce** Now, why does this matter? Well, for starters, understanding the difference between separation and divorce can save you a ton of confusion and heartache. It affects things like property settlements, assets, and even your tax status. Knowing the difference can also help you decide whether you want separation or divorce. Plus, if you’re thinking of remarrying down the line, you’ll need to apply for a divorce beforehand. Separation occurs when you’re still legally married or in a de facto relationship, but you’re living apart. It’s a chance to take a breather, sort out your feelings, and maybe even work on things if you’re feeling optimistic. During separation, the couple’s assets, liabilities, and responsibilities are addressed through informal or legally binding agreements, but your marriage or de facto union remains intact until formally dissolved through divorce or other legal means. On the other hand, divorce is the legal termination of your marriage. This means you’re no longer married or in a de facto relationship, and you’re free to go your separate ways, legally speaking. Divorce proceedings involve formal legal processes, including court appearances and the issuance of a final divorce decree by a competent judicial authority. ## 5. **Don’t forget the good times** In the midst of the hard times, it is difficult to remember why you got together with your ex. Gone are the days when you hung on his every word (now you feel like living in separate worlds). However, by choosing to remain positive about your past, you’ll be laying a foundation of healthy memories you can share and enjoy with your children. This will help them feel more connected and emotionally secure. It will also help to remember the good times before heading to the federal circuit and family court for your hearing. Doing this will keep you from being blinded by rage and potentially making a mistake in front of the judge. You don’t want that! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/5dae83b3-9f5f-4b45-b815-526471e9b488_20240425_201925_0000-1066x800.jpg "5dae83b3-9f5f-4b45-b815-526471e9b488_20240425_201925_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The top 12 don’ts of divorce and separation (cont.) ## 6. **Don’t give your children too much information** Divorce can be confusing at the best of times. This confusion can often lead to fear and insecurity for children. Asking children how they feel and openly discussing issues that might arise is a healthy way for them to feel valued. However, discussing intimate issues about the divorce could result in the opposite and leave your children feeling like they have to choose a side. When my parents decided to separate, there was one instance where they started explaining all about their separation – the whole shebang. Now, don’t get me wrong, I appreciate their honesty, but let’s just say some of those details were a bit TMI for my teenage brain. I felt overwhelmed and confused as they continued to lay out their plans separately. I mean, I didn’t need to know every little detail. All I really wanted was reassurance that everything would be okay and that they still loved us. Looking back, I realise they were just trying to be transparent. But sometimes less is more, especially when it comes to delicate matters like separation and divorce. ## 7. **Don’t isolate yourself** By this, I don’t mean go and relive your 20s by clubbing every night (the first week doesn’t count). Rather, make sure you have a solid support system to turn to instead of falling into the trap of leaning on your kids for emotional support. Don’t get lonely. Remember, you are only separated from one person, not from the entire world! Chat with other single mums on the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/) private Facebook group. Contact us and we will listen. Now is the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself and surround yourself with positive people. ## 8. **Don’t underestimate the role played by social media** 75% of family court cases now use [social media as a form of evidence](https://minellalawgroup.com/blog/can-social-media-prove-an-unfit-parent/). For this reason, it’s important not to assume that you can remove any of your social media histories without potential legal consequences if you or your partner have filed for divorce. Our advice is to STOP before you post that Facebook rant, and stick to the funny cat vines instead. ## 9. **Don’t hold onto bitter feelings** Divorce with children can seem all-consuming. Changing your perception is the most powerful thing you can do to alter your outlook on life. Take those bitter feelings and feel grateful that you’re done with them. Sure, you can feel anger and frustration for a bit, but don’t let it define you. You’re so much better than that. Learn to be a [more content and happy single mama](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/). ## 10. **Don’t forget time for yourself** Enjoy yourself! Find hobbies and activities that make you happy, engage in them and get to know yourself again. I once had a girlfriend whose love of pole dancing resulted in a massive confidence boost and the loss of 20kg. I might not be able to touch my toes to save my life, but during my monthly ‘me time, ’ my masseuse, Lorenzo, tells me I look lovely, which makes me feel 20kg lighter. ## The top 12 don’ts of divorce and separation (cont.) ## 11. **Don’t rush into a new relationship** After getting to know yourself again and taking the time to discover what you really want in life, you might find yourself ready to [commit to a new relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ready-to-start-dating-again/). As tempting as it is to disregard the language barrier with Lorenzo, it’s probably for the best. Blended families can provide a lot of fantastic support, but many children struggle with being forced into them before they’re ready. ## 12. **Don’t judge yourself** The final point on our list of don’ts of separation and divorce is: Don’t judge yourself! If you need to turn off your phone, sit on the couch with ice cream and watch re-runs of Friends for a few days then that’s perfectly okay. In fact, the biggest positive of divorce is that you’re now free to do whatever you want. Remember that you’re amazing and doing your best to get through this in one piece; love yourself for it. ## **Summary: Don’ts of separation and divorce** So what’s the bottom line? Whether you’re going through separation or divorce, don’t rush the process or go at it alone without some legal backup. Take it from me; I thought I could handle it all on my own. I thought I could spare my children from the complicated legal stuff. But guess what? That only made things messier. It was not until I reached out for professional help and got some legal advice that things started to make sense. Seek advice from fellow single mums who went through the same path before. But know that it will not always be smooth sailing. Separation and divorce can get messy, so you need all the help you can get. Don’t be afraid to ask for support from friends and family during these difficult times. Take the time to understand everything about separation and divorce, lean on legal counsel for guidance, and, above all, prioritise the well-being of yourself and your children. Remember, you’ve got this, mumma. ![The top 10 don'ts of divorce and separation | Beanstalk Mums | Beanstalk Single Mum Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Top-10-donts-of-divorce.png "Top 10 don'ts of divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/donts-of-separation-and-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/donts-of-separation-and-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** co parenting, breakup, social media, legal advice, kids of divorce, forgiveness --- ### [How Economic Abuse and Financial Wastage Are Treated in Family Law](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-economic-abuse-and-financial-wastage-are-treated-in-family-law/) **Published:** August 20, 2026 **Author:** Scarlett Mao **Content:** Navigating a separation is one of the most overwhelming chapters of life. Between managing the emotional well-being of your children, keeping the household running, and worrying about your family’s future financial stability, the weight can feel entirely consuming. Historically, the legal system didn’t always make this easier; dividing property was often treated as a cold, retrospective accounting exercise. The court calculated the asset pool and looked at financial contributions, sometimes leaving a mother who had sacrificed her career progression to raise children at a distinct disadvantage – especially if her ex-partner controlled the bank accounts or ran up secret debts. However, as we move through 2026, the landscape has fundamentally shifted. Following the commencement of the Family Law Amendment Act 2024 in mid-2025, the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA) has been handed a much sharper lens to view property division. The law now explicitly recognises that financial misconduct – whether it takes the form of coercive economic abuse or the reckless wastage of family assets – fundamentally alters what constitutes a fair property split. This reform bridges the gap between cold ledger calculations and the real, lived experiences of modern Australian families. ## **Economic abuse is now recognised as a form of family violence** One of the most validating shifts in recent years is the formal legislative recognition of economic and financial abuse under Section 4AB of the Family Law Act 1975. For too long, many people experienced behaviours that felt deeply controlling but were difficult to quantify under old legal frameworks. The current laws move financial abuse out of the shadows, establishing it as a standalone category of family violence. The Court is now mandated to look at specific, controlling behaviours that deny a partner financial autonomy – behaviours that heavily impact a parent’s ability to provide for their children. These include: - **Forcible control:** Restricting your access to joint bank accounts, your own income, or vital information about the family’s financial position. - **Employment sabotage:** Preventing you from re-entering the workforce after parental leave, disrupting your work schedule, or intentionally limiting your career advancement to keep you financially dependent. - **Coerced debt:** Forcing you to sign loan agreements or credit card applications, or secretly accumulating substantial debts in your name without your genuine consent. - **Withholding support:** Unreasonably refusing to provide the money needed to meet basic and reasonable living expenses for you and the children, such as groceries, school fees, or medical bills. ## **What this means for your property settlement** ![The basic home improvement checklist for everyone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Home-improvements.jpg "Home maintenance checklist - Beanstalk Mums") When a judge assesses your property settlement, they must now formally evaluate how this abuse impacted your ability to make financial or non-financial contributions during the relationship. If your ex-partner sabotaged your career or starved you of funds, the Court recognises that your financial contributions were artificially suppressed while your non-financial contributions as a parent were undervalued. Consequently, the Court can make a percentage adjustment in your favour to ensure the final division is genuinely just and equitable for your future. ### **Unmasking financial wastage** Alongside economic abuse, the treatment of financial wastage has been radically overhauled to protect the family asset pool. If you have watched your ex-partner blow thousands of dollars on gambling, speculative investments, or extravagant personal spending while you were trying to secure your children’s future, the law now offers a direct avenue for recourse. The recent amendments have codified the concept of material wastage directly into the legislation. Substantial financial loss caused intentionally or recklessly is now an explicit statutory factor that the Court must evaluate when determining a property split. Common examples of material wastage argued in court include: - Extensive, unapproved gambling losses. - High-end, unilateral lifestyle spending or luxury travel post-separation. - The deliberate destruction, neglect, or undervaluation of matrimonial property (such as letting a family home deteriorate out of spite). - Vindictively incurring unnecessary financial or legal liabilities to reduce the asset pool intentionally. ### **Moving away from “notional property”** Previously, courts would sometimes attempt to “add back” wasted funds into the asset pool as “notional property” – a process that could be mathematically complex and unsatisfying if the cash was truly gone. Under current practice, judges utilise their broad statutory discretion to adjust the final percentage distribution of the remaining real assets. If your former partner recklessly wasted $100,000 of your family’s wealth, you are highly likely to receive a significantly larger slice of what is actually left, ensuring you and your children are not financially penalised for their misconduct. ### **Tougher rules on financial disclosure** ![dividing assets after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/dividing-assets-after-separation.jpg "dividing assets after separation - Beanstalk Mums") To ensure that economic abuse and financial wastage cannot easily be concealed, the reforms have elevated the duty of financial disclosure directly into the *Family Law Act 1975* (Cth). New sections 71B (for married parties) and 90RI (for de facto relationships) operate alongside Chapter 6 of the *Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Family Law) Rules 2021* (Cth). Transparency is no longer merely a procedural requirement; it is a core statutory obligation that applies from the beginning of separation. Both parties are legally required to provide a full, frank, and robust accounting of their financial positions. If a party attempts to hide assets, obscure cash flows, or deny financial wastage, the FCFCOA has enhanced powers to issue severe penalties. This includes awarding legal costs against the non-disclosing party or drawing adverse inferences – essentially assuming the hidden funds exist and deducting that estimated value from the deceptive party’s final share. ## **Practical steps you can take when navigating separation** If you are currently navigating a separation and a dispute over economic abuse or reckless financial wastage is brewing, the surgical precision required in your evidence has changed. To build a strong case and protect your family, we recommend taking these practical steps: - **Audit and secure financial records:** Gather bank statements, tax returns, [superannuation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-is-superannuation-divided-during-a-divorce/) summaries, and credit card histories as soon as safely possible. Look for unusual cash withdrawals or sudden transfers. - **Document the behaviours:** Keep a detailed, private log of instances in which financial autonomy was denied, threats were made regarding money, or your employment was sabotaged. Text messages, emails, and bank records serve as powerful corroborative evidence. - **Trace the wastage:** If gambling or reckless spending is a factor, obtain the specific statements showing those exact outlays. You must quantify the material loss rather than relying on generalised allegations. - **Seek urgent legal advice:** If you believe your ex-partner is actively draining accounts or disposing of property to defeat your claim, [your lawyer](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/family-law/ "your lawyer") can apply for urgent freezing orders to preserve the remaining asset pool for your children’s future. ## **Key takeaways** The recent family law reforms reflect a profound societal shift. By embedding economic abuse and material wastage directly into the Family Law Act, the system ensures that you are supported, validated, and protected. Building a new chapter for you and your children requires a solid legal foundation. Ensuring that your invaluable contributions as a parent are fairly recognised, and that any unjust financial harm is corrected, is the best way to guarantee a secure, independent future for your family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-economic-abuse-and-financial-wastage-are-treated-in-family-law/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-economic-abuse-and-financial-wastage-are-treated-in-family-law/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law --- ### [How to Travel Safely as a Solo Female Traveller](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/how-to-travel-safely-as-a-solo-female-traveller/) **Published:** August 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Solo travel can be one of the best ways to see the world. You get to set your own pace, change your plans on a whim, eat wherever you fancy and spend your days exactly how you want. It can also be a wonderful chance to learn more about new places and, surprisingly, yourself. Of course, a great solo trip doesn’t rely on luck. A little planning and a few sensible habits can make a huge difference when you’re travelling on your own. From knowing where you’re going to keeping an eye on your surroundings, being prepared helps you feel more confident along the way. Safe travel is really about being ready for the unexpected without letting it spoil the fun. When you plan ahead and stay aware, you can relax and enjoy the experience. Here are some practical tips to help make your next solo adventure safe, memorable and full of joy. ## How to Travel Safely as a Solo Female Traveller From doing some homework before you leave to staying connected with people back home, these tips are easy to work into your travel plans. You don’t need to become an expert traveller or follow a rigid itinerary. Just stay prepared, listen to your instincts and give yourself the freedom to enjoy the adventure while knowing you’ve taken a few sensible precautions. ## 1. Research Before You Go A good trip starts well before you board the plane. Before heading off, spend a little time getting familiar with your destination. Look up local laws, safer areas, public transport options and the easiest ways to get around. Travel blogs can be helpful, but also check local news and your accommodation’s website for useful updates. It’s also a good idea to open Google Maps and save important locations, such as your accommodation, the nearest train or bus station and a nearby hospital. Knowing where these places are before you arrive can save you a lot of stress later. Before you leave, make sure you know: - Which areas are generally safe - How local buses and trains work - Important emergency numbers - Whether cash or cards are commonly used - Any local customs or traditions worth knowing ## 2. Share Your Itinerary One of the best ways to stay safe is to let a close family member know where you will be. Share your full plan, even if it may change a bit while you are away. If you book a [Cruise from Brisbane](https://www.cruiseguru.com.au/cruises-from-brisbane/), send your ship name, port stops, and room number to a loved one. Do the same with hotel names, flight data, and day tour plans. This helps your close people know where to reach you if they need to. You must keep them up to date. This habit only takes a few minutes, yet it gives both you and your loved ones more peace of mind. ![White cruise ship sailing on calm blue ocean, sunset light reflecting on the hull.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Pexels-vali741-38952325-1-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-vali741-38952325 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by valentin onu](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/luxurious-cruise-ship-sailing-in-monaco-waters-38952325/) ## 3. Trust Yourself Your own instincts are one of your best safety tools when travelling alone. If a place, ride or conversation doesn’t feel right, you don’t need to stick around just to be polite. Sometimes, saving a few dollars on a cheap room or ride simply isn’t worth the uneasy feeling that comes with it. Listen to that little voice in your head and give yourself permission to walk away if: - A place feels unsafe or uncomfortable - A ride or driver doesn’t seem right - A deal feels suspiciously too good to be true - Someone you’ve just met starts asking overly personal questions You don’t need a dramatic reason to leave. If something feels off, that’s reason enough. You do not owe your time or trust to people you have just met. So put your own well-being first at all times. This way, you can plan a safe, joyful, and [budget-friendly solo trip](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/). ## 4. Stay Connected with Your Family and Friends Staying connected can make solo travel feel a lot more reassuring, especially when you’re far from home. Keep your phone charged and carry a power bank when you’re heading out for a full day. It’s also worth saving important numbers in your phone and writing a few down somewhere safe, just in case your phone gets lost or runs out of battery. A quick message to let the [people who actually care for you](https://www.forbes.com/sites/maynardwebb/2019/10/08/how-to-spend-most-of-your-time-with-people-who-make-you-better/) know where you’re going can also give everyone peace of mind. You don’t need to check in every five minutes, but keeping your loved ones in the loop means someone knows your plans if you need help. These little habits are easy to follow and can help you feel connected, even when you’re miles away. ## Conclusion Solo travel gives you the rare chance to see the world entirely on your own terms. You can follow your curiosity, change plans when you feel like it and come home with stories you’ll remember for years. It can also build confidence and teach you to trust yourself in ways you might not expect. The trick is simply to balance that freedom with a little common sense. Take some time to research each destination, let someone you trust know where you’re going and check in with family along the way. Most importantly, listen to your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, you don’t need to explain yourself before walking away. These small habits won’t take the adventure out of solo travel. If anything, they’ll help you relax, feel more confident and enjoy every new place with greater peace of mind. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/how-to-travel-safely-as-a-solo-female-traveller/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/how-to-travel-safely-as-a-solo-female-traveller/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [The beginners guide to lawn mowing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/guide-lawn-mowing/) **Published:** August 25, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you have never mowed a lawn and are unsure how to go about it, we are here to help you feel confident and equipped to tackle your first lawn mowing session. For those looking for a quick and low-maintenance option, [instant lawn](https://lilydaleinstantlawn.com.au/ "instant lawn") can be laid to create an instant green space, giving your garden a fresh, uniform look in just a few hours. This beginner’s guide will provide essential tips and techniques to make you the mother-of-all-mowers, with a lawn that is the envy of your neighbours. Regular mowing keeps your lawn neat, promotes healthy growth, and prevents weed infestations. By following this beginner’s guide, you’ll soon be on your way to mastering the art of lawn mowing. So, let’s get started and transform your lawn into a beautiful oasis! ## Using the right mower Use a lawn mower that is right for the size of your yard, type of terrain, and kind of grass you’re going to cut. Mowers can be cylindrical, rotary or hover, and they can be powered by gas, electricity/batteries or manually (push start). Do your research before [buying a lawn mower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-lawn-mower/) so you know you have the perfect machine for your garden. Here are some mower options to choose from. ### Cylinder Cylinder mowers have cylindrical blades that cut grass against a fixed blade. Choose this type if your yard is flat and even. ### Rotary Rotary mowers are usually petrol or electric-powered. They have powerful spinning blades that cut grass. Use this type if you have a large yard. ![rotary lawnmower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Rotary-lawnmower-850x800.jpg "Rotary lawnmower - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/SUNCOO-Battery-Powered-13-Inch-Cordless/dp/B08L1JJW4V/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=Rotary+Mower&qid=1636511961&sr=8-3) ### Hover Hover lawn mowers hover above the grass as you mow. This is great for small to midsize yards with uneven terrain. ![Air Force Hover Mower F-19](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Air-force-hover-mower-f-19.webp "Air force hover mower f-19 - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Parwest](https://parwest.com/product/airforce-hover-mower/) ## Ensuring your mower is maintained and in working order Keeping your lawn mower in tip-top shape is one of the secrets of a great-looking yard. Lawn mower maintenance should be done at least once a year, ideally at the end of mowing season. ### Consult the manual Read your manual before doing any maintenance so you don’t accidentally damage the machine. ### Basic maintenance Remove dirt and debris that has accumulated on the underside of the mower. Change the oil (once for every 25 hours of use) and clean/replace the air filter. If the mower is going into storage for a long time, drain the petrol and remove the spark plug. ### Professional maintenance Haven’t used your lawnmower for a long time? Take it to a professional to be serviced, or if you can’t get it to start. Lawn service pros can troubleshoot issues like dull blades, broken air filters, and battery problems. ## Tips to start or charge your mower Can’t mow the lawn because the mower won’t start? We’ve all been there. Besides checking the obvious (Are the batteries charged? Is the tank full?), here are other tips: ### Start a Petrol Mower - Make sure there’s fresh petrol in the tank and the oil is new. - Prime the engine first if you haven’t used the mower recently. - Hold the handles down while pulling the starting rope quickly and forcefully. You might need to do this a few times. **Pro tip:** Still won’t start? Drain the old petrol and replace it with fresh petrol. Also, check the carburettor. It may be flooded, dirty or in need of repair. ### Charge an Electric Mower - First, disconnect the charger. Connect the positive side and then the negative. Plug the charger into the outlet and wait until the battery is 100% charged before disconnecting. - Charge the battery before using the mower and before storing it. Make sure to use batteries and chargers made by the manufacturer. - Avoid overcharging or completely discharging lithium-ion batteries. Keep them at 20 per cent or higher, and disconnect when fully charged. **Pro tip:** Before your mower goes into storage, remove the battery and keep it fully charged so it’s ready to power your machine come spring or your next mowing session. ## Preparing your lawn ready to mowing Mowing your lawn is a straightforward activity, but it is more than just cutting grass. You need to consider a few things. Is your lawnmower ready for action? Is your yard a mess? How high should you trim the grass? - Get your mower ready. If you’ve done proper maintenance before storing your mower, you’re good to go. If you haven’t used the mower in a while, now’s the time to clean it, change the oil, check the filter, and fill up with fresh petrol or charge the batteries. - Clear the area. Remove objects that will get in the way of the lawn mower, like rocks, toys, and fallen branches. These can damage the engine and dull the blades. - Don’t cut the grass too short. For a healthy lawn that is thick and dense, don’t cut the grass too close to the soil. The right height depends on what kind of grass you have, but a good rule of thumb is not to cut more than one-third of the grass. Set a mowing schedule based on how fast the grass grows back. - The best time to mow the lawn? You guessed it. Not in the middle of a hot summer day. Experts recommend mowing the lawn in the late afternoon or when the sun’s not so intense. - Don’t mow wet grass. It’s hard to get a clean cut if the blades of grass are soaked. It’s also slippery and dangerous, especially if you’re using an electric mower. ## Mowing techniques for a perfect result Your yard can be an award-winner with the proper mowing techniques. - Have a sloping lawn? Mow in a side-to-side direction, not up or down. - Take it slow and steady. Low to medium speeds give you the best control. Go slow when mowing around trees, landscaping, garden beds and obstacles. - Don’t you just love that professional, striped look? Here’s how to get it: Pay attention to direction. Mow your lawn in a straight line and in a back-and-forth direction. Overlap each pass of the mower a few inches to avoid missing thin strips of grass. ![Lawn mowing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Mowing-the-lawn-534x800.png "Mowing-the-lawn - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/guide-lawn-mowing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/guide-lawn-mowing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** garden, lawn, lawnmower, grass --- ### [Does Gentle Parenting Spoil Kids?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/does-gentle-parenting-spoil-kids/) **Published:** August 14, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Excerpt:** Gentle parenting does not spoil kids when the boundaries stay firm. See what works when you are the only adult in the house, and where to start today. **Content:** You know the moment. Your kid comes apart in the Woolies queue, you crouch down to their level, and you can feel the woman behind you forming a view. Then at a family lunch someone says it out loud. You’re too soft on them. And because you’re the only adult making these calls, there’s nobody at home to check it with afterwards. **So here’s the plain answer. Gentle parenting doesn’t spoil kids, as long as the boundaries stay firm. The style that causes trouble is permissive parenting, where the warmth is there, and the limits are missing. Those two get muddled constantly, including by the people doing the criticising. The line sits in whether you follow through, not in how softly you speak.** **Quick Takeaways:** - **Gentle is not permissive.** Gentle parenting keeps clear limits and drops the punishment. Permissive parenting drops the limits too. - **Warm plus firm is the combination with evidence behind it.** Australian health guidance points to parents who are loving and who set clear rules. - **Follow-through matters more than tone.** Your child learns from what happens next, not from whether you managed to say it in a soft voice. - **Repair beats perfection.** Going back after you’ve lost your temper does more good than never losing it, which nobody manages anyway. COBy [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. ![adult hand on a child's shoulder showing gentle parenting connection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/2-adult-hand-on-a-childs-shoulder-showing-gentle-parenting-connection-clean-1192x800.webp "2-adult-hand-on-a-childs-shoulder-showing-gentle-parenting-connection-clean - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What Gentle Parenting Actually Means** Gentle parenting is a style built on empathy and clear boundaries. Parents respond to the feeling behind a behaviour, then still hold the limit. It rules out smacking, shaming and yelling as tools, but it doesn’t rule out rules, consequences or the word no. Connection first, then correction. Actually, “style” is the wrong word for it. There’s no founder, no manual, no accreditation. It’s a loose label that different people fill with different things, which is exactly why the arguments about it go nowhere. Two mums can both say they’re doing gentle parenting and be doing opposite things. What most versions agree on: behaviour is information. A four-year-old throwing a shoe is telling you something, usually that they’re tired, hungry, or out of words. You deal with the feeling. Then you deal with the shoe. It also isn’t the same thing as [low demand parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/low-demand-parenting/), though the two get bundled together often enough. That one is about reducing how much you ask of a child on a given day, which is a different lever altogether. You can run gentle parenting with plenty of expectations built into it. What it doesn’t mean is negotiating everything. Or narrating a meltdown like a nature documentary while dinner burns. ## **HSo Does Gentle Parenting Spoil Kids?** No. Not when it’s done with limits attached. I want to be honest about the evidence here, because most articles skate past it. There’s no large body of research on “gentle parenting” as a named thing. It’s too new and too loosely defined for anyone to have studied it properly. What we do have is decades of research on the two ingredients underneath it: warmth and structure. Australian health guidance is clear that the [authoritative approach works best](https://www.pregnancybirthbaby.org.au/parenting-and-family/parenting-skills-and-daily-life/parenting-styles), where parents are loving yet set firm limits. That’s gentle parenting with the marketing stripped off. Kids raised with warmth and no limits do run into trouble. That’s permissive parenting, and the research on it isn’t kind. But warmth was never the problem. The missing structure was. So when your mother-in-law says gentle parenting spoils children, she’s usually describing something she saw at a playground that had no boundaries in it at all. This article doesn’t cover teenagers in any depth, by the way. The fifteen-year-old version of this question is a different one, and it deserves its own piece. ## **Gentle Parenting Vs Permissive Parenting: Where The Line Sits** Same warmth. Very different structure. Here’s how they split: - **The rule itself.** Gentle: the rule exists and doesn’t move. Permissive: the rule bends depending on how loudly it’s argued with. - **What happens after a no.** Gentle: you sit with the upset and the answer stays no. Permissive: the upset changes the answer. - **Consequences.** Gentle: logical ones, linked to the behaviour. No screen time tonight because the tablet went on the floor. Permissive: consequences get announced and then quietly dropped. - **Who’s in charge of the plan.** Gentle: you are, and you explain some of it. Permissive: the child sets the agenda and you follow. - **Whose comfort is being protected.** This is the honest one. Sometimes we cave because the child is distressed. Sometimes we cave because we’re done and we want the noise to stop. Both are human. Only one is a parenting style. Nobody lives in one column full time. You’ll hold four rules beautifully and fold on the fifth because it’s Friday and you cannot face it. That’s not permissive parenting. That’s Friday. ## **What Do You Say When Someone Says You’re Too Soft?** Not much, and not in the moment. The comment almost never comes from a stranger. It comes from your mum, your sister, or the ex who’s decided your house has no rules in it. And it lands when you’re already at the end of a long day, in front of your kids, over a roast. A few things that have worked for me. With family, keep it short and don’t defend. “It’s working for us.” Then pass the beans. Explaining co-regulation over dessert convinces nobody and costs you an hour you’d rather spend sitting down. With an ex, don’t debate the method at all, because debating it invites more of it. “Different houses, different rules” closes the conversation without conceding a thing. With a stranger in a shop, say nothing. You will never see her again. And with yourself at 11pm, when the comment is still rattling around? Check the boundary, not the tone. Did the rule hold today? If it did, you’re fine. If it didn’t, that’s worth a look, and it still has nothing to do with being soft. Because “too soft” is nearly always a judgement about volume. People hear a calm voice and assume there’s no rule behind it. There usually is. They just weren’t standing in your kitchen at seven o’clock when the screen went off. ![single mum sitting on the floor staying calm during a child's tantrum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/3-single-mum-sitting-on-the-floor-staying-calm-during-a-childs-tantrum-clean-1192x800.webp "3-single-mum-sitting-on-the-floor-staying-calm-during-a-childs-tantrum-clean - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Bit Nobody Writes About: Doing This On Your Own** Every article on gentle parenting is written for a house with two adults in it. Read them closely and you’ll spot the assumption everywhere. ### **Nobody To Tag Out To** The standard advice when you’re about to lose it is to step away and regulate yourself. Lovely. Who’s with the three-year-old? When you’re solo, “take a break” often means leaving a child alone in a room, which is fine for ninety seconds and not fine for ten minutes. So the advice needs rewriting for us. What works instead is regulating in the room. Sit on the floor with your back against the wall. Say less. Two words, not twenty. “I’m here.” Then nothing. You’re not performing calm, you’re just staying put while your body catches up. The second thing is cutting the number of decisions the day asks of you. Fewer rules, held properly, beat twenty rules held badly. Pick the four that actually matter in your house and let the rest go, especially between five and seven, which is the hour least likely to go well for anyone. The third thing isn’t a technique at all. It’s having one person you can text at 6pm to say “he’s been feral for two hours” and get a reply. [Building that kind of support around you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-system-when-theres-no-coparent/) does more for your patience than any script will. ### **How Do You Stay Consistent When The Other House Doesn’t?** You can’t control what happens over there. So stop trying to. Here’s the reframe that helped me most: consistency doesn’t mean identical rules in both homes. It means predictable rules in yours. Kids handle different settings fine. They cope with a teacher who’s strict about phones and a grandma who isn’t. What throws them is a rule that changes based on your mood. So when your child says it’s allowed at Dad’s, you don’t argue the point and you don’t criticise him. “That might be how it works there. Here, screens go off at seven.” Then it goes off at seven. Expect some testing for a week or two after each changeover. That’s not a sign the boundary is wrong. It’s a kid checking that the ground is where they left it. There’s more on [handling discipline across two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/smart-strategies-to-discipline-your-children-whilst-co-parenting/) if that’s the part grinding you down at the moment. ## **What If You’re The One Who Can’t Stay Calm?** This is the question underneath the question, and almost nobody asks it out loud. Gentle parenting asks for a regulated adult. It asks for that at 6pm, which is the hour you have least of it. If you’re running on four hours’ sleep and a coffee, “respond, don’t react” is not a technique, it’s a fantasy. Australia’s Raising Children Network puts it plainly enough. [Looking after yourself](https://raisingchildren.net.au/preschoolers/behaviour/encouraging-good-behaviour/positive-behaviour-children-teenagers-overview) is what gives you the energy to guide your child’s behaviour. That’s a government-funded parenting service saying your capacity is part of the picture, not a nice extra on the side. Which means the honest answer to “how do I stay calm” is sometimes “you’re too depleted to, and that’s the thing to fix first”. There’s also a group of mums for whom the regulation piece is harder for reasons that have nothing to do with effort. A lot of women reach their thirties or forties before anyone mentions ADHD, having spent decades assuming they were simply bad at coping. If that’s landing, the [ADHD Woman’s Compass](https://adhdwomanscompass.mindshiftmentors.net/?fpr=elle61) is a self-paced Australian program built for late-diagnosed women, and it starts with emotional regulation rather than organisation. It’s an affiliate link, so Beanstalk Mums earns a small commission if you join. ![Open doorway to a sunny garden; a blue backpack and red sneakers sit on a wooden floor inside the entryway.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/4-childs-overnight-bag-by-the-front-door-before-a-changeover-clean-2.webp "4-childs-overnight-bag-by-the-front-door-before-a-changeover-clean - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Repair Matters More Than Getting It Right** Everyone tells you the goal is to stay calm. I don’t think that’s the most useful thing to aim at. You will yell. I’ve yelled. I once shouted at my daughter over a lunchbox and then sat in the car park afterwards feeling like the worst person in the neighbourhood. Staying calm every single time isn’t a goal, it’s a setup for failing daily. Repair is the skill worth building instead. It’s short, it happens after, and it goes roughly like this: 1. Wait until you’re both settled. Not mid-storm. 2. Name what you did. “I yelled at you before. That wasn’t okay.” 3. Don’t explain it away with what they did. No “but you wouldn’t listen.” 4. Say what you’ll try next time. 5. Move on. Don’t make them comfort you. That’s it. Thirty seconds. And it teaches something a perfectly calm parent never could, which is what a person does after they get it wrong. One caveat. If the yelling is happening most days rather than most fortnights, repair alone won’t shift it. That’s usually a capacity problem wearing a parenting costume, and it’s worth reading about [single mum burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/) rather than trying harder at scripts. ## **Is It The Method, Or Is It The Guilt?** Now the real question. A lot of us aren’t going soft because of a parenting philosophy. We’re going soft because we’re carrying guilt about the separation, about the house they left, about the dad who cancels. Saying no to a child who’s already lost something feels unbearable in a way it didn’t before. So the boundary slides. And then we blame the method. Worth separating the two. If you’d have held that line before the split, hold it now. Kids whose world has been rearranged need the structure more, not less. It’s the one thing that still feels solid to them. Guilt is a rotten guide to parenting decisions, and it’s also [a poor measure of how you’re doing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/). The mums who feel the most of it are usually the ones paying the closest attention. ## **When Gentle Parenting Isn’t The Right Fit** I’d rather say this than pretend the method suits everyone. Some kids need more structure and fewer words than the standard advice offers. Children with bigger emotional or behavioural needs sometimes find long conversations about feelings overwhelming rather than soothing. For a dysregulated child, ten words land where forty don’t. If your child is autistic or has ADHD, the usual playbook often misfires, and [punishment tends to misfire even harder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/why-punishment-doesnt-work-for-autism-and-adhd-and-what-to-do-instead/). What tends to help there is shorter, more predictable, and more visual. Fewer choices, more warning before transitions, and the same words every time. Age matters too. A two-year-old can’t reason their way out of a feeling, so most of the talking is for your benefit, not theirs. A nine-year-old can, and will, and may well out-argue you. If you’ve run the gentle route for months and things are getting worse rather than better, that’s information. It doesn’t mean you did it wrong. It means this child needs something adjusted, and a GP or child health nurse is a reasonable first stop. ## **Three Books Worth Reading** If you want to go deeper, these three cover it from different angles: - [**Little People, Big Feelings by Gen Muir**](https://adhdwomanscompass.mindshiftmentors.net/?fpr=elle61)**.** Australian, written by a parent educator and obstetric social worker, and the closest thing to a practical manual for firm-and-kind limits. Scripts you can actually use. Start here. - [**Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy**](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/E0WdLQ)**.** The best argument I’ve read for why boundaries and warmth belong together rather than in opposition. Useful if you’re the one who keeps caving. - [**The Whole-Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson**](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/bk014b)**.** The science underneath all of it, explained without jargon. Short chapters, which matter when you’re reading in ten-minute grabs. ![Woman in a denim shirt making coffee at a wooden kitchen island, kettle on the counter and dishes piled to the right, warm overhead light.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/5-exhausted-single-mum-in-the-kitchen-after-the-kids-are-in-bed-clean-1.webp "5-exhausted-single-mum-in-the-kitchen-after-the-kids-are-in-bed-clean - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Where To Get Help In Australia** You don’t have to work this out from Instagram. Free, evidence-based parenting programs run across the country, and the Australian Institute of Family Studies has reviewed [which parenting programs actually hold up](https://aifs.gov.au/resources/policy-and-practice-papers/effective-parenting-programs-what-does-evidence-say) if you’d rather check before committing your time. Your GP or child and family health nurse can point you to what’s running near you. Most states and territories run a free parenting helpline, so search for yours and save the number in your phone before you need it. Kids Helpline is on 1800 55 1800 and takes calls from parents, not just kids. And if the thing that’s cracking isn’t your parenting but you, Lifeline is on 13 11 14, any hour. So, does gentle parenting spoil kids? Not on its own, and not in your house. If you’re warm and you follow through, you’re doing the version that works, on the hardest possible setting, without anyone to share the load. The woman in the Woolies queue has no idea what she’s looking at. ## ****FAQ Section**** **Does gentle parenting spoil kids?** No, not when clear boundaries stay in place. Australian health guidance supports the warm-and-firm combination, and the problems people blame on gentle parenting usually come from permissive parenting, where the limits are missing. **What is the difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting?** Both are warm, but only one holds the line. Gentle parenting keeps rules and consequences while dropping punishment; permissive parenting drops the rules as well. **Does gentle parenting spoil kids after a separation?** No, and children who have been through a separation usually need the structure more rather than less. The risk after a split is guilt loosening boundaries, which is a different thing from the parenting style itself. **Can you use consequences with gentle parenting?** Yes. Logical consequences linked directly to the behaviour are part of it, and Australian parenting guidance treats consequences as a normal tool alongside praise and positive attention. **Is it okay to say no when you use gentle parenting?** Absolutely. Saying no calmly and then holding that answer is the core of the method, not a departure from it. **What if I yell at my kids?** Every parent does at some point, and going back afterwards to acknowledge it matters more than never doing it. That repair teaches children what a person does after they get something wrong. **What if my ex parents completely differently?** Children cope with different rules in different homes as long as your own house is predictable. Focus on consistency inside your four walls rather than trying to match the other household. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/does-gentle-parenting-spoil-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/does-gentle-parenting-spoil-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [18 Ways To Celebrate Your Birthday As A Single Mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/birthday-single-mother/) **Published:** August 5, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Content:** Nobody warns you that the hardest part of learning to celebrate your birthday as a single mother is the admin. There’s no one quietly sorting a cake behind your back. No one prompting the kids. That absence usually lands about three days out, when you realise the date is coming and nothing is planned. **Celebrating your birthday as a single mother works best when you decide early what you want the day to look like, say it out loud to the people around you, and put it in the calendar. Most mums find the ideas are the easy bit. The asking is what takes practice.** This is about your birthday, by the way. Your children’s parties are a whole separate headache. **Quick Takeaways** - **A quiet birthday still counts.** Choosing to let the day pass is a decision, not a failure. - **Plan it two weeks out.** Birthdays left until the day itself tend to slide past unmarked, so get something in the calendar early. - **Tell people plainly.** Kids and friends will happily make a fuss of you, but almost all of them need to be told the date first. - **Match the idea to your budget.** There are good options at nothing, at twenty dollars, and at a few hundred. COBy [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor This article contains affiliate links. If you buy through them, Beanstalk Mums may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only include products we think are worth a single mum’s money. ![Single mum lighting a candle on a cupcake at her kitchen bench on her birthday morning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/2-single-mum-lighting-a-candle-on-a-cupcake-at-her-kitchen-bench-on-her-birthday-morning-1192x800.webp "2-single-mum-lighting-a-candle-on-a-cupcake-at-her-kitchen-bench-on-her-birthday-morning - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Why Your Birthday Hits Differently As A Single Mum**** Your birthday feels strange because every part of it now sits with you. In a two-parent house, someone else usually holds the date in their head. They’re the one who remembers. They take the kids to the shops, they hide the wrapping paper, they hiss “say happy birthday to Mum” over the cereal. When that person is gone, the whole thing lands on the one person it’s supposed to be for. I used to think what I missed was the presents. Actually, that’s not quite right. What I missed was being held in someone else’s mind for a day without having to ask. That’s a much smaller thing than a gift and a much harder one to replace. Plenty of mums feel a flash of resentment about it. That’s a normal response to doing a job that used to be shared, and it doesn’t mean anything about how you feel about your kids. ## **How Do You Celebrate Your Birthday As A Single Mother?** You tell people. That’s the whole trick, and it’s the part almost nobody writes about. Every list on the internet says treat yourself. Treating yourself is lovely, and it isn’t what makes the day feel different. What makes the day feel different is somebody else knowing. So say it. Specifically, and to the right people: - Tell the kids the week before, then again the night before. A five-year-old cannot read a calendar and a fifteen-year-old is not looking at one. - Give them a job they can actually finish. “Make me a card” beats “do something nice for Mum”. - Send one friend a real invitation, with a day and a place. “It’s my birthday Thursday, can we grab lunch?” works far better than hoping. - Put it in the work calendar so somebody brings in a slice of something. The first time you do this it feels contrived. That feeling fades faster than you’d think, and the kids stop needing the prompt after a year or two. If asking makes you feel like a nuisance, that’s [single mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) in a new outfit. It shows up in a lot more decisions than this one. ## **Free And Nearly-Free Ways To Mark The Day** You don’t need money to make a birthday feel different. You need it to feel unlike a Tuesday. **1. Take the day off.** If you work, book it. If you don’t, take the day off the housework instead. The washing will hold. **2. Sleep in properly.** Not twenty extra minutes. Set the kids up with breakfast they can manage alone and go back to bed with a coffee. **3. Go somewhere with a view.** A beach, a lookout, a decent walking track. Free, outdoors, and it resets the day early. **4. Claim the whole evening.** Kids down, phone face-down, and whatever counts as a treat in your house. The [cheapest self-care ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/) are usually the ones you already own the ingredients for. **5. Print one photo.** Scroll back through the year, pick the one that makes you laugh, and get it printed at Kmart for a few dollars. **6. Make one promise to yourself.** Not a list. One thing, small enough that you’ll still be doing it in March. ![Two kids carrying a homemade birthday cake to their mum in the lounge room](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/3-two-kids-carrying-a-homemade-birthday-cake-to-their-mum-in-the-lounge-room-1192x800.webp "3-two-kids-carrying-a-homemade-birthday-cake-to-their-mum-in-the-lounge-room - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Birthday Ideas To Do With The Kids** Kids want to celebrate you. They’re just hopeless at logistics. **7. Breakfast in bed.** Let them do it, and allow a solid hour afterwards for the state of the kitchen. It’s the trade. **8. Cake, made or bought.** If you like baking, bake. If the thought of the kitchen again makes you want to lie down, buy one. Nobody has ever been disappointed by a supermarket mud cake. **9. A picnic, the park, or the beach.** No booking, no cost, and it works for almost every age at once. **10. Hand them the gift job.** With little ones, buy something yourself and let them wrap it. With older kids, twenty dollars and some heavy hints. Teenagers do better with a shortlist than a blank brief, so send them a few [gift ideas for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/75-gift-ideas-for-mothers-day/) and let them pick. **11. Get the far-away people on a video call.** Grandparents, your sister interstate, the friend who moved to Perth. Ten minutes of everyone talking over each other does more than a card. There’s real value in kids seeing their mum being made a fuss of. It’s how they learn that adults get to be celebrated too. ## **What If Your Birthday Falls On Their Weekend With Their Dad?** Then you’ve got something rare: a birthday with nobody else’s needs in it. Worth planning for rather than dreading. The first time it happens it can feel rotten. Handover on your birthday morning is a specific kind of quiet. Give that feeling ten minutes, then get out of the house. **12. Do the thing you’d never do with kids in tow.** A long lunch that isn’t rushed. A film that isn’t animated. A surf lesson, a gallery, a bookshop with no timer running. **13. Plan a day of nothing on purpose.** There’s a difference between an empty day you fell into and one you chose. Same day, completely different feeling. **14. Move the celebration.** Have your cake on the Tuesday you do have them. Kids genuinely do not care that the calendar disagrees. If a whole day to yourself feels more daunting than appealing, a few [solo date ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/solo-date-ideas/) give it a shape to follow. ## **Ideas Worth Saving Up For** Some birthdays call for something you’ll still have in a year. **15. Pay someone to do the job you’ve been avoiding.** The windows, the gutters, the garden that’s got away from you. An odd-job service or a local handyman will quote for an afternoon’s work. Handing over a task you’ve resented for two years is a better gift than most objects. **16. Turn a photo into something on the wall.** Online canvas printers and the big office supply chains both do this cheaply, and a large print of your kids costs less than dinner out. **17. A subscription that keeps arriving.** Magazines, coffee, books, skincare. A year of small deliveries lands better than one big splurge, and [iSubscribe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) covers most of the magazine side. *(Affiliate link, see disclosure above.)* **18. A tattoo that means something.** Plenty of mums mark a birthday this way. Book early, go somewhere reputable, and pick something you’d have chosen five years ago as well as today. A code from the [Beanstalk Mums discount directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) can take the edge off any of these. ![Single mum reading at a cafe table on her birthday while the kids are with their dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/4-single-mum-reading-at-a-cafe-table-on-her-birthday-while-the-kids-are-with-their-dad.webp "4-single-mum-reading-at-a-cafe-table-on-her-birthday-while-the-kids-are-with-their-dad - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What About Your First Birthday After Separation?** The first one is the hardest, and it’s the one worth lowering the bar for. It often doubles as a grief day. You’re not just marking a year older, you’re marking the first one without the person who used to organise the cake. That’s a lot to ask of a Tuesday in March. So plan one small thing and one person. Not a big night out you’ll have to perform your way through. A quiet birthday can also tip into something heavier, and [loneliness as a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) has a habit of arriving on exactly these dates. If the flatness hangs around for more than a couple of weeks, [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) has a support line on 1300 22 4636. [Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/) runs low-cost counselling in every state for people working through a separation. Next year is usually easier. That’s not a platitude, it’s just how first ones go. ## **Is It Okay To Just Skip It This Year?** Yes. A birthday you deliberately let pass is a completely different thing from one that passes because nobody noticed. Some years you’re too tired, too broke, or too close to something hard. Treating the day as a normal Sunday is a legitimate choice and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for it. The same permission applies to [Mother’s Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-single-mums/), which lands even harder for a lot of mums. One caveat, gently. Skipping it three years running usually isn’t a choice any more, it’s a habit. If the thought of marking the day makes you feel silly rather than tired, that’s worth a second look. And if the year has been an isolating one, the Council of Single Mothers and their Children runs free [support and referral services](https://www.csmc.org.au/) in several states. ## **A Simple Plan For The Two Weeks Before** 1. **Two weeks out:** decide the shape of the day. With kids, without, or both. 2. **Ten days out:** tell the kids and one friend, with the actual date. 3. **One week out:** book anything that needs booking, including a sitter. 4. **Three days out:** sort the cake and the gift, even if the gift is from you. 5. **The day before:** set the out-of-office, or drop it in the group chat. 6. **On the day:** no admin. Nothing involving a form, a queue, or Centrelink. ![Single mum sitting quietly with a cup of tea on her first birthday after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/5-single-mum-sitting-quietly-with-a-cup-of-tea-on-her-first-birthday-after-separation.webp "5-single-mum-sitting-quietly-with-a-cup-of-tea-on-her-first-birthday-after-separation - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Your Birthday Is Worth Marking** The reason it’s worth learning to celebrate your birthday as a single mother isn’t self-care in the Instagram sense. It’s that your kids are watching how you treat yourself, and they’re taking notes on what a woman is allowed to expect. So pick one thing off this list. Tell somebody the date. Then let them make a fuss of you, which is the bit most of us find hardest and need the most. Inspiration for self-love is free flowing in these articles: [107 Self-care ideas that cost you nothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) [10 Extra quiet vibrators that won’t wake the household](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-extra-quiet-vibrators-that-wont-wake-the-household/) ## ****FAQ Section**** **How do you celebrate your birthday as a single mother?** Decide what you want the day to look like at least two weeks out, then tell the people around you the actual date. Most single mums find the ideas come easily and the asking is the part that takes practice. **What should you do if your birthday falls on the weekend your kids are with their dad?** Plan something that only works without children, like a long lunch, a class, or a film that isn’t animated. You can also move the celebration to a day you do have them, since kids rarely care that the calendar disagrees. **Is it normal to feel sad on your birthday as a single mum?** Yes, particularly on the first birthday after a separation. The day often doubles as a reminder that the person who used to organise it is gone, which is a normal grief response rather than ingratitude. **How do you get your kids to remember your birthday?** Tell them the week before and again the night before, then give them a job small enough to finish, like making a card or wrapping a gift you bought yourself. Young children cannot read a calendar and teenagers are not looking at one. **What are some free ways to celebrate your birthday as a single mother?** Take the day off work or off the housework, sleep in properly, walk somewhere with a view, or claim the whole evening once the kids are down. Printing one favourite photo from the year costs a few dollars at the chemist. **Is it okay to skip your birthday altogether?** Yes, choosing to treat the day as a normal Sunday is a legitimate decision and needs no explanation. It’s worth a second look only if you’ve skipped it several years running and the thought of marking it makes you feel silly rather than tired. ![Celebrate your birthday as a single mother | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Birthday-single-mother.png "Birthday single mother - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/birthday-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/birthday-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Birthdays **Tags:** celebrations, birthday, celebrate --- ### [Can I Afford To Be A Stay-At-Home Mum?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/afford-stay-at-home-mum/) **Published:** August 2, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Content:** Most mums I know don’t lie awake over the budget. They lie awake over the deciding. Whether staying home is the right call. Whether they’ll regret it in ten years. Whether they’re even allowed to want it. If that’s you at 11pm with a browser full of tabs, nothing has gone wrong. You’re weighing something real, on your own, with consequences either way. And nobody handed you the numbers to do it with. That’s a lot to carry before you’ve even started. So let’s take the deciding off your plate for a minute. Let’s just look at the numbers. Can I afford to be a stay-at-home mum? On your own in Australia, it comes down mostly to your rent. A single mum whose youngest child is under 14 can get up to $1,066.30 a fortnight in Parenting Payment Single. That’s from the [current Parenting Payment rates](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/how-much-parenting-payment-you-can-get) that took effect on 20 March 2026. Add up to $257.88 a fortnight in Rent Assistance if you’re renting, plus Family Tax Benefit for each child. That’s your starting point. What you build on it is yours. I’ve sat at my own kitchen table doing this maths twice. Both times it felt smaller once it was written down. Let’s do yours. **Quick Takeaways:** - **Know Your Real Floor:** A single mum whose youngest child is under 14 can get up to $1,066.30 a fortnight in Parenting Payment Single from 20 March 2026, plus up to $257.88 in Rent Assistance if you’re renting. That’s the base you’re building on before any work income. - **Work Won’t Cost You Everything:** You can earn $224.60 a fortnight before your payment reduces at all, and it only drops by 40 cents in every dollar after that. One day a week of work leaves most mums around $389.84 a fortnight better off. - **Childcare Is No Longer The Trap It Was:** Since 5 January 2026, every family eligible for the Child Care Subsidy gets at least three days of subsidised care a week, whether or not you work. The old activity test that locked mums out is gone. - **Plan For The Age 14 Change Early:** Parenting Payment Single stops when your youngest turns 14, and you move to a payment worth $183.80 less a fortnight. Knowing that years out gives you room to plan calmly rather than scramble. - **Rent Is The Number That Decides It:** Your rent drives this more than any budgeting tip. Getting your Rent Assistance right is worth up to ten times more than cutting the small stuff, so start there. Good to knowThis article is general information only and does not constitute financial advice. Please speak with a qualified financial adviser before making any financial decisions. COWritten by: [Cedie May Omana](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/author/cedie/), BSM contributor This article has been fact-checked against current Australian guidelines. ## [![Fortnightly Parenting Payment Single breakdown for an Australian single mum in 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/2-fortnightly-parenting-payment-single-breakdown-for-an-australian-single-mum-in-2026-clean.webp "2-fortnightly-parenting-payment-single-breakdown-for-an-australian-single-mum-in-2026-clean - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/2-fortnightly-parenting-payment-single-breakdown-for-an-australian-single-mum-in-2026-clean.webp) ## **What Staying Home Actually Means When You’re The Only Income** For a single mum in Australia, staying home means living on Parenting Payment Single plus family payments. No wage coming in. The maximum is $1,066.30 a fortnight from 20 March 2026. You qualify if you’re the principal carer of a child under 14 and you meet the income and assets tests. There’s one thing tucked inside that most articles skip over. Once your youngest turns 6, you have mutual obligation requirements. Job search, study, or an approved activity, unless Centrelink gives you an exemption. So staying home the way a partnered mum means it really runs until your youngest starts school. ## **Can I Afford To Be A Stay-At-Home Mum In Australia?** It turns on your rent more than anything else. Low or subsidised rent with no debt behind you, and the numbers work. High city rent is where they get tight. And that’s about the rental market rather than anything you’ve done. ### **What The Payments Add Up To** Your Parenting Payment Single is made up of four parts: - Base rate: $1,017.20 a fortnight - Pension Supplement (basic amount): $30.10 - Pharmaceutical Allowance: $7.00 - Energy Supplement: $12.00 Which comes to **$1,066.30 a fortnight** all up. On top of that: - Rent Assistance, up to $257.88 a fortnight if you’re renting with one or two children - Family Tax Benefit Part A and Part B, which varies with your child’s age and your income Those figures come from the Department of Social Services rates list dated 20 March 2026. I’ve left Family Tax Benefit as “varies” on purpose. It shifts with your child’s age, your income, and how many kids you have. I’m not handing you a number that could be out by $60 a fortnight. The Payment and Service Finder on the Services Australia site will give you yours. Ten minutes, and it’s the only figure that really counts. For the fuller picture of [what single parents can claim](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/), we’ve gone through the whole list separately. ### **What A Property Settlement Does To Your Payment** Parenting Payment has an assets test as well as an income test. It catches recently separated mums more than anyone. Settlement money sitting in your account counts. So does a second car, a caravan, an investment property. The home you live in doesn’t. There’s a second part most mums don’t see coming. Centrelink treats your savings as though they’re earning income at a set rate. That’s whether your bank actually pays you that or not. So a lump sum can reduce your payment through the income test before it ever reaches the assets limit. The limits move, and they’re different for homeowners and renters. Worth checking yours on the day rather than trusting a number from a forum. I know a mum whose settlement landed in March. Her payment changed in April. She hadn’t done a thing wrong. Nobody had mentioned it to her. If yours is coming, a free financial counsellor can talk you through the timing before the money arrives. ### **The Rent Assistance Rule Most Mums Miss** Rent Assistance isn’t a flat amount. You get 75 cents for every dollar of rent you pay above $203.28 a fortnight, up to a maximum of $257.88. Turn that around and it tells you something useful. To get the full amount, a single mum with one or two children needs to be paying at least $547.12 a fortnight in rent. About $274 a week. Paying $400 a fortnight instead? You’d get around $147.54. This is the one most mums get wrong when they work out their income before they decide. So update your lease details in myGov before you plan anything else. All of that assumes you’re renting. If you own your home, Rent Assistance doesn’t apply and your assets limit is lower. Your numbers look quite different, so it’s worth checking yours specifically. ## [![Single mum checking her superannuation balance after years at home with the kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/3-single-mum-checking-her-superannuation-balance-after-years-at-home-with-the-kids-clean.webp "3-single-mum-checking-her-superannuation-balance-after-years-at-home-with-the-kids-clean - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/3-single-mum-checking-her-superannuation-balance-after-years-at-home-with-the-kids-clean.webp) ## **How Much Can I Earn Before Centrelink Reduces My Payment?** With one child, you can earn $224.60 a fortnight before your payment changes at all. Above that, [the income test](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/income-and-assets-tests-for-parenting-payment) reduces it by 40 cents in every dollar. Add $24.60 to that free area for each extra child. Forty cents in the dollar sounds steep. It’s actually the gentlest of the Centrelink payments. JobSeeker takes 50 cents, then 60. | **You earn (gross, per fortnight)** | **Your payment becomes** | **Total in your hand** | **Better off by** | |---|---|---|---| | $0 | $1,066.30 | $1,066.30 | Nothing | | $500 | $956.14 | $1,456.14 | $389.84 | | $1,000 | $756.14 | $1,756.14 | $689.84 | | $1,500 | $556.14 | $2,056.14 | $989.84 | One child, before tax. Parenting Payment is taxable, so what actually lands will be a little lower at the top end. Look at the $500 row. That’s roughly one day a week of work. And you’re $389.84 a fortnight better off. Call it $10,135 across a year. Your payment doesn’t stop altogether until you’re earning $2,890.35 a fortnight with one child. That’s around $75,000 a year. Plenty of mums have no idea the cut-off sits that high. So they turn down shifts in case they lose the lot. You won’t. The reduction is gradual on purpose. If you’re after something that bends around school hours, we’ve listed [jobs that suit single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/flexible-jobs-for-single-mums/) with the hours and the qualifications for each. ## **Where The Money Actually Goes (And Why It Isn’t The Coffee)** Everyone says cut the takeaway coffee. Make your own cleaning spray. Build a capsule wardrobe. In practice, that’s rarely where the money is. Two flat whites a week is about $24 a fortnight. Getting your Rent Assistance right is worth up to $257.88. Same amount of effort, ten times the money. And only one of them asks you to give something up. That advice isn’t wrong. It just distracts from the bigger picture. And it usually turns up before anyone has looked at your rent. Four things move a sole-parent budget, roughly in this order: 1. **Rent.** It’s 40 to 60% of your money. Moving suburb, or into a granny flat, beats every frugal tip put together. 2. **Payment accuracy.** Old lease details, an unreported income change, a supplement nobody told you about. That money is already yours. 3. **Car costs.** Registration, insurance, fuel and repairs on an ageing car add up faster than groceries. 4. **Debt.** Interest doesn’t care how well you meal plan. Groceries come fifth. And by then you’re arguing over $30 a fortnight. None of which makes the small stuff pointless. It just isn’t first. Our [money saving tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/) are worth having once those four are sorted. And the Beanstalk Mums [Discount Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) has member deals on the bills that turn up every single month. That’s where small savings add up month after month. If debt is what’s keeping you up, the National Debt Helpline on 1800 007 007 is free and confidential. Financial counsellors do this all day. They’re on your side rather than the lender’s. ## **What Happens When Your Youngest Turns 14?** Parenting Payment Single stops and you move across to JobSeeker Payment as a single principal carer. That’s worth $882.50 a fortnight. So it’s $183.80 less each fortnight, or about $4,778 across a year. Actually, I need to correct something. I had this wrong for years and repeated it to other mums. The old cut-off was age 8. It’s still everywhere, including in articles published this year. It changed in September 2023, and it’s now 14. If you’ve been planning around age 8, you have six more years than you thought. Six years is enough to finish a qualification. Starting at 13 is a different story. The mums I know who handled this well started thinking about it around age 10. Not because there’s anything to panic about. A plan made calmly just beats one made in a hurry. Our breakdown of [what Centrelink pays a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/) covers what that change looks like in practice. ## [![Rental housing is the biggest cost for an Australian single mum staying home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/4-rental-housing-is-the-biggest-cost-for-an-australian-single-mum-staying-home-clean-400x268.webp "4-rental-housing-is-the-biggest-cost-for-an-australian-single-mum-staying-home-clean - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/4-rental-housing-is-the-biggest-cost-for-an-australian-single-mum-staying-home-clean.webp) ## **The Cost Nobody Mentions Until You’re 60** Parenting Payment doesn’t come with superannuation. Not a cent. Every fortnight at home is a fortnight your balance sits still. Australian women already retire with less super than men. Time out of paid work is the main reason why. And on your own, there’s no second balance in the household to lean on. Two years at home won’t undo your retirement. A longer stretch adds up more than most of us get told. I’d rather say it plainly than leave it out and have you find it at 55. The middle ground is the useful bit. One day a week of paid work keeps super going in. It won’t be a big number. It’ll be more than nothing. And it keeps growing quietly for the next thirty years. Want someone to look at the whole picture with you? Our guide to [support services for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/) lists who to ring and what each one does. Most of them cost nothing. ## **The Childcare Rule That Changed In January 2026** Since January 5, 2026, every family eligible for the Child Care Subsidy gets at least 72 hours of subsidised care a fortnight. That’s [three days of subsidised care each week](https://www.education.gov.au/early-childhood/providers/child-care-subsidy/3-day-guarantee). The old activity test is gone. Worth reading twice, because it changes the question. You used to need work or study hours to unlock subsidised care. No job meant no subsidy. No childcare meant no way to get a job. A lot of mums were stuck in that loop for years. It’s open now. Three days of subsidised care while you’re at home means three days to study, apply for things, or pick up a few shifts. All without paying the full fee. There’s still a gap fee, and you still have to find a place, so it isn’t free. But the door isn’t locked anymore. Which is why I’d gently push back on the whole home-versus-work framing. The real question is how many days. For most single mums, the answer sits somewhere between one and three. ## [![Single mum with her teenager as Parenting Payment Single approaches its age limit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/5-single-mum-with-her-teenager-as-parenting-payment-single-approaches-its-age-limit-clean-400x268.webp "5-single-mum-with-her-teenager-as-parenting-payment-single-approaches-its-age-limit-clean - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/5-single-mum-with-her-teenager-as-parenting-payment-single-approaches-its-age-limit-clean.webp) ## **So, Can You Afford To Be A Stay-At-Home Mum?** Three figures will tell you. Your fortnightly rent. Your total payment stack from the Payment and Service Finder. And what one day a week of work would add. For most single mums I’ve talked to, the answer isn’t yes or no. It’s “not full-time, but more than I thought.” One day a week puts $389.84 a fortnight in your pocket. It keeps super ticking over. And it keeps a foot in the workforce for when your youngest turns 14. Three days of subsidised care are yours either way now. Those two things together make part-time the answer for far more mums than the internet lets on. And whatever the numbers say, they aren’t a report card. A budget that won’t stretch says something about what rent costs in this country. It says nothing about how hard you’ve worked or how much you love your kids. Plenty of us have run these figures, not liked them much, and found a way through anyway. If you’re still finding your feet, our guide to [surviving financially as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/) is a good place to start. And if the money worry is sitting heavier than the maths tonight, Lifeline is there on 13 11 14, any hour. Working out whether you can afford to be a stay-at-home mum isn’t something you’ll settle in one sitting. And you don’t have to. Look at the real numbers. Take what they tell you. Leave yourself room to change your mind in a year. That’s allowed. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **Can I afford to be a stay-at-home mum in Australia?** It depends mostly on your rent, not your spending habits. A single mum with a child under 14 can get up to $1,066.30 a fortnight in Parenting Payment Single, plus up to $257.88 in Rent Assistance if she rents. **How much is Parenting Payment Single per fortnight in 2026?** From 20 March 2026, the maximum is $1,066.30 a fortnight, made up of a $1,017.20 base rate plus supplements. Services Australia updates this rate every 20 March and 20 September. **How much can I earn before my Parenting Payment is reduced?** You can earn $224.60 a fortnight with one child before your payment reduces, plus $24.60 for each extra child. Above that, your payment drops by 40 cents for every dollar you earn. **What happens to Parenting Payment when my child turns 14?** You move from Parenting Payment Single to JobSeeker Payment as a single principal carer, which pays $882.50 a fortnight. That is a drop of $183.80 a fortnight, or about $4,778 a year. **Can I get the Child Care Subsidy if I do not work?** Yes. Since January 5, 2026, the 3 Day Guarantee gives every eligible family at least 72 hours of subsidised care a fortnight, regardless of how much you work or study. **Is being a stay-at-home mum worth it financially for a single mum?** Financially, part-time work usually leaves you ahead because the 40 cent taper is generous. Earning $500 a fortnight leaves you about $389 better off than staying home with no income at all. **How much rent do I need to pay to get the maximum Rent Assistance?** A single parent with one or two children needs to pay at least $547.12 a fortnight in rent to receive the maximum $257.88. Below that, you get 75 cents for every dollar of rent above $203.28 a fortnight. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/afford-stay-at-home-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/afford-stay-at-home-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Single Mum Mortgages: How to Buy Your Home on One Income](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/single-mum-mortgages-how-to-buy-your-home-on-one-income/) **Published:** August 17, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… If you are lying awake at 2 AM panicking about housing after a separation, you need to know that single mum mortgages are entirely possible. You are not locked out of the property market just because you are surviving on a single income. The truth is that lenders do not care about your relationship status; they only care about your overall financial picture. By structuring your accounts correctly, using hidden government schemes like the 2% deposit, and avoiding the trap of applying with just one bank, you can successfully secure a single mum mortgage and rebuild your borrowing power. This guide breaks down exactly how to move from financial panic to proactive recovery. **Quick Takeaways** - **The Single-Income Myth:** Banks do not assess your relationship status; they only care about your actual financial numbers. Do not disqualify yourself from single mum mortgages before speaking to an expert. - **Hidden Government Help:** You might actually qualify for a 2% deposit scheme, or a family guarantee that lets you borrow up to 107% of the purchase price. - **Child Support Counts:** Every single bank views your child support differently. A broker shops around to find the specific lender who gives you the most borrowing power. - **Prep Your Accounts Now:** Make your finances easy to read. Separate your daily spending money from your income account and start a consistent savings habit today. ## The 2 AM Housing Panic Separation brings a massive, suffocating blanket of heavy decisions. The scariest one is almost always about housing. When I separated ten years ago, I had to move out of the family home and dive back into the rental market. I honestly thought I would never be able to afford a house of my own again. I actually went directly to my regular bank to ask about refinancing my situation. They looked at my single-parent pension and essentially told me to come back when I was in a new relationship. It was absolutely soul-crushing and made me assume my ability to secure my family’s future had disappeared. But things have changed, and you do not have to accept a “no” from a single bank teller. Kylie Soltani, Co-Director of Soren Financial, handles complex separation lending every single day. She is here to prove that getting approved for single mum mortgages gives you far more property options than you realise. ## Debunking the Single-Income Lending Myth The most damaging myth we tell ourselves after a divorce is incredibly simple. We think that because we are on one income, no bank will ever lend to us. Kylie hears this exact phrase from her clients almost every single week. But here is the reality check you desperately need today. Lenders do not actually assess your relationship status. They assess your income, your assets, your liabilities, and your overall financial position. Has your separation changed your financial numbers? Yes, absolutely. Does it automatically mean you can never own a home again? Not at all. Many single mums discover they are actually in a much stronger position than they thought once a professional structures their finances. The biggest mistake you can make right now is disqualifying yourself before you even speak to a specialised broker. ## How Lenders Actually View Child Support Child support and single-parent payments can absolutely help you secure a home loan. But there is a massive catch you need to understand. Every single lender treats this income completely differently. One lender might use 100% of your child support payment toward your income assessment. They might just need to see a formal agreement and a history of consistent payments. But if you walk into a different bank down the street, they might only count a fraction of that exact same child support. They might also impose strict rules about how long the payments will last based on the ages of your children. This is exactly why walking into your usual bank branch is a terrible idea. If you only speak to one bank, you only hear one policy. A mortgage broker looks across multiple lenders to find the one that will assess your unique situation fairly. ## Navigating Reduced Work Hours and Income Drops Many mums step away from work or reduce their hours to raise their kids. Then, separation hits unexpectedly. Suddenly, you are expected to refinance or take out a new loan on a much smaller, part-time income. If this is you, do not panic. You have multiple pathways forward when looking into single mum mortgages. - **Restructure the Loan:** You can often make repayments more manageable by extending the loan term. - **Change Repayment Types:** Switching the type of repayment can free up your immediate cash flow if deemed appropriate. - **Adjust Your Timeline:** You might just need to build more time into your mediation timeline to establish a consistent work history before applying. Remember, your only options are not just “qualify today” or “sell the house”. Timing is a brilliant strategy. Waiting a few months to strengthen your position can drastically open up your lender options and improve your borrowing capacity. ## Unlocking Government Schemes and 2% Deposits Do not assume you do not qualify for financial help. Mortgage brokers do not just look at loan products; they look at government support. There are specific programs designed entirely to get you into a home. - **The 2% Deposit Scheme:** The Australian government has a specific stream for eligible single parents. You could purchase a home with a deposit as low as 2%. - **The 5% Deposit Scheme:** Have you been out of the property market for a long time? If you have not owned a home in the last 10 years, you could qualify for the broader 5% first-home buyer scheme. - **Family Security Guarantee:** If your parents or family members own property, they can use it as security for your loan. Some lenders will let you borrow up to 107% of the purchase price. This extra buffer covers huge transaction costs like stamp duty and legal fees. ## Beating the Bank’s Unrealistic Expense Benchmarks (HEM) When a bank assesses your loan, they use a benchmark called HEM, or the Household Expenditure Measure. This is a blanket estimate of what a family of your exact size spends each month. Sometimes, this assigned number is totally ridiculous. A bank might assume a single mum with two kids spends $5,000 a month on living expenses. We know single mums are incredibly frugal and know how to stretch a dollar. If the bank’s HEM is ruining your borrowing capacity, you can actively fight it. A good broker can bypass that benchmark by submitting your actual, documented budget. If you work from home and spend absolutely nothing on transport, you can prove it with your bank statements to get a fairer assessment. ## The Six-Month Preparation Roadmap When you separate, everything feels like a five-alarm fire. You feel immense pressure to buy a house today before you completely miss your chance. But rushing into an application is often a major mistake. Instead, slow down and build a six-month preparation roadmap with a broker. - **Assess the Damage:** Figure out exactly what income you have, what debts you owe, and what savings you have built. - **Establish Work History:** Use those six months to return to work or gather a clear return-to-work letter from your employer. - **Hold Steady:** Avoid making drastic financial changes that could spook a lender and reduce your borrowing options. Those six months are not about waiting around. They are about actively preparing. When you finally apply, you will have more lender choices available and much higher borrowing power. ![Upsizing Essentials: Key Considerations to Make Before you Buy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-cottonbro-4569289-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-4569289 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Three Steps to Fix Your Bank Accounts This Week Do you want to look absolutely flawless to a mortgage broker in 12 months? You need to make your finances incredibly easy to read. Start doing these three simple things right now. - **Separate Your Money:** Pay your income into one account. Transfer your spending money into a completely separate transaction account so lenders can clearly see your habits. - **Build Consistent Savings:** Lenders love consistency. Saving just $20 or $50 every single week looks infinitely better than randomly dumping a lump sum into an account. - **Avoid Unnecessary Debt:** Do not increase your credit card limits. Step away from “Buy Now, Pay Later” apps like Zip or Afterpay unless genuinely necessary, because every liability drags down your borrowing capacity. ## The 60-Second Financial Fresh Start We always give you a practical tool you can use instantly to make life better. Here is your 60-second challenge for today. Open your internet banking app right now. Create a brand new savings account and name it something incredibly powerful and meaningful. Call it “The New Foundation” or “My Fresh Start”. Transfer exactly $10 into it. This is not about the amount of money. This is about aggressively challenging your mindset and moving from financial defence to proactive recovery. ## The Gold Nuggets > “Lenders don’t actually assess you based on your relationship status. What they do look at is your income, assets, liabilities, and generally your overall financial position.” – Kylie Soltani > “Clarity really creates confidence. Because you know that uncertainty is far scarier than working towards a plan.” – Kylie Soltani ## Ready to Reclaim Your Financial Future? You are not starting from zero; you are starting from experience. If you are tired of generic advice and want exclusive resources, real talk, and highly useful tools designed specifically for the Beanstalk Single Mums community, you need to be on our email list. We drop zero-fluff, actionable magic directly into your inbox every single week. 💌 Sign up here to get the inside scoop: [**https://beanstalksinglemums.subscribepage.io**](https://beanstalksinglemums.subscribepage.io) ## Links for this episode: 🤝 Connect with Kylie – [**https://calendly.com/kylie-sorenfinancial/30min**](https://calendly.com/kylie-sorenfinancial/30min) ✨ Explore the Soren Financials website – [**https://www.sorenfinancial.com**](https://www.sorenfinancial.com) 👯‍♀️ Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice – **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** 🎁 Get our favourite practical life hacks, clever shortcuts and simple ideas to save you time, money and effort – [**https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts**](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Single Mum Mortgages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/single-mum-mortgages-how-to-buy-your-home-on-one-income/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/single-mum-mortgages-how-to-buy-your-home-on-one-income/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast --- ### [The health insurance checklist all mums need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/health-insurance-checklist/) **Published:** March 28, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Let’s face it, health insurance bills have a big impact on the household budget and when you’re living on a single income, it’s even more difficult to stay on top of everyday expenses. Unfortunately, some [health insurance premiums](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-insurance/) are going up in 2022. Yep, you read that correctly. Another price rise! With this in mind, we’ve compiled a must-do checklist for all single mums before premiums start going up from April 1st. ***Further reading:*** ***[Health Insurance: Is staying loyal to your health insurer worth it?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/health-insurance-is-it-worth-it/)*** ## 1. Get yourself up to speed on the 2022 premium increase 2022 is unlike previous years when it comes to health insurance premiums. You may be unsure about if and when your premium is going up. That’s understandable given the life of a single mum is a constant juggle! Let’s cut through the confusion. Some policy premiums are increasing on April 1st to provide some financial relief for members during the COVID-19 pandemic, and others are going up later in the year. Find out if and when your premium is expected to increase (if you don’t already know) and use the opportunity to review your policy to ensure it still suits your needs and budget. ## 2. Work out how much extra you’ll likely be paying Premiums will go up by 2.70% on average in 2022, costing families an extra $125 per year on average[\[1\]](#_ftn1). It’s important to remember that this is an average only. Some policies will increase by more and others less. In fact, most people will see their premiums rise by 3.06% on average as five funds that make up the majority of market share are all increasing their premiums by an average of at least 3.06%[\[2\]](#_ftn2). With this in mind, it’s time to work out how you could get better value or even save some money. ## 3. Assess your current circumstances If there’s one thing we all know, it’s that life is constantly changing. Maybe you haven’t reviewed your health insurance in a few years and you’re about to have a teenager on your hands (gasp!), or perhaps your youngest is about to fly the coop. What stage you and your children are at in life is a key factor in determining what kind of health insurance is suitable. So sit down, take a well-earned time out, and assess your stage of life and the needs of you and your children. This brings us to the next item on our checklist. ## 4. Consider whether your Extras are necessary [Extras cover helps pay for a range of services](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-insurance/hospital-and-extras-cover/) not covered by Medicare. If you’re making frequent trips to the dentist or the physio, paying for Extras cover may be well worth it. However, if you’re not using your Extras, then why would you pay for them? You could consider hospital cover only or if you still want to use some services, you could look at flexible products that combine your separate extras limits into a single annual limit. ## 5. Remember to shop around regularly Last but most certainly not least, remember to shop around! The Private Health Insurance Ombudsman recommends that you review your policy at least once a year[\[3\]](#_ftn3). So use the 2022 premium rate rise as your cue to review. This is the easiest checklist item of all because a [comparison service like iSelect](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-insurance/)\* can help you compare hospital and extras policies to help you find a suitable level of cover from their range of providers\*. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")Disclaimer: *\*iSelect does not compare all health insurance providers or policies in the market. The availability of policies will change from time to time. Not all policies available from its providers are compared by iSelect and due to commercial arrangements, your stated needs and circumstances, not all policies compared by iSelect are available to all customers. Some policies and special offers are available only from iSelect’s contact centre or website. Click* [*here*](https://www.iselect.com.au/partners/) *to view iSelect’s range of providers.* [\[1\]](#_ftnref1) Source: Based on weekly calculations included in Minister’s media release multiplied by 52 weeks to reach an annualised figure <https://www.health.gov.au/ministers/the-hon-greg-hunt-mp/media/delivering-australias-lowest-private-health-insurance-premium-change-in-21-years> [\[2\]](#_ftnref2) Calculated as a weighted average based on the percentage of policies held in the respective funds per the APRA Operations of Private Health Insurers Annual Report data 2020-21 (<https://www.apra.gov.au/operations-of-private-health-insurers-annual-report>) and <https://www.health.gov.au/resources/publications/average-annual-increases-in-private-health-insurance-premiums> [\[3\]](#_ftnref3) Source: https://www.ombudsman.gov.au/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/factsheets/all-fact-sheets/phio/ten-golden-rules-of-private-health-insurance/ ![Health insurance checklist | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Health-insurance-checklist.png "Health insurance checklist - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/health-insurance-checklist/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/health-insurance-checklist/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Money --- ### [8 Emergency contacts to keep on your fridge](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/emergency-contacts-fridge/) **Published:** November 13, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Helping your family stay prepared for any and all emergencies can naturally take a little bit of planning. From finding all your most reliable 24/7 trades services through [RACV Trades](https://www.racv.com.au/in-your-home/trades.html) to developing emergency procedures for your household, there are a number of considerations you must make to help you and your kids stay safe in the event of a home emergency. For this reason, keeping all your household’s most important emergency contact information on your fridge should be a standard practice, especially for single parents who are caring for younger children. Here are the top 8 emergency contacts that you should be keeping on your fridge. ## 1. Local police and fire departments If you’ve moved house recently, then chances are your new local council offices may have sent you a [fridge magnet](https://www.darwin.nt.gov.au/council/about-council/publications-and-forms/cod-safer-city-fridge-magnet) that lists contact information for all your local emergency services. We recommend that you place this magnet in a prominent position on your fridge, alongside informing your kids about the numbers on this magnet and who they should contact in certain situations. If you have younger kids, it will be beneficial to teach them how to ring 000 on top of ensuring that your kids are familiar with the contact numbers for your local police and fire departments. The [Triple Zero Kids’ Challenge](https://kids.triplezero.gov.au/) app can help parents easily teach their kids about 000 and how to ask for emergency services if they ever need to contact these services on their family’s behalf. ## 2. Your family doctor You’ll want to make sure that contact information for your family doctor is readily available at all times. Having your doctor’s information on hand becomes especially important if you or your kids have any medical conditions or are routinely on medication. That’s why it’s imperative that you keep the landline phone number for your local GP and clinic on your fridge. Be sure to also include any extension numbers to help you reach your family doctor directly if necessary or applicable. ## 3. Your nearest hospital As ambulances are required to transport patients to the nearest hospital in the event of an emergency, it’s essential that your kids know the name of that hospital and how they can reach it via a phone call in the event that you or any of their siblings are transported there. Like your council emergency contact information, you can use a fridge magnet to help your kids quickly identify contact numbers for their local hospital. Some parents may even decide to include maps detailing where your nearest hospital is located to help kids better contextualise the distance from your home. It’s all about including the resources that will be most beneficial and reassuring for you and your family. ## 4. Your plumber Did you know that [burst or broken pipes](https://www.grangeinsurance.com/tips/how-to-handle-home-emergencies) are amongst the most common household emergencies? Water damage can also be one of the most insidious faults that any house can experience, with prolonged damage having the potential to cause major structural damage to your property, as well as negatively impact your family’s health through the production of mould spores and moisture in the home. With these facts in mind, it’s crucial that your kids know just who to call in the event that a pipe does burst, there are leaks in the walls or ceiling, or your house becomes flooded. Equipping your family with all the right tools to get ahead of plumbing faults can help both keep your family safe and healthy, and keep your home in tip-top shape, too. ## 5. Your electrician Electrical safety tends to be of the utmost importance for most parents, especially if they have younger kids who are prone to getting a little too curious. Electrical faults, fires, and other home electrical emergencies caused by unsafe handling of home appliances or power outlets can still occur with even the most rigorous childproofing. That’s why it’s vital for all kids to [learn about electrical safety](https://www.momjunction.com/articles/kid-safe-electric-hazards_00103445/) as soon as they’re old enough. If you ever experience flickering lights, tripped circuits, or sudden electrical faults, it’s helpful to have a trusted local professional you can reach right away. Keeping contact details for[ Brisbane electrical services](https://www.voltoraindustries.com.au/) on your fridge ensures that any electrical issues can be addressed promptly and safely, giving you peace of mind during unexpected situations. On top of this, your kids should also know how to contact [local electricians](https://radianceelectrical.com.au/electrician-manly/ "local electricians") and other emergency electrical services. Be sure to keep this contact info up-to-date, especially in the lead-up to storm season. ## 6. A local locksmith If you’ve ever been locked out, you’ll know just how horrible and helpless the situation can make you feel. There’s also undoubtedly a sense of regret with every lockout experience, because your brain naturally goes back to how the situation could’ve been easily avoided with a little extra care. Regardless, lockouts are a part of life, and they can happen to anybody at any time, but especially so for parents who are frantically trying to leave the house with young kids in tow. So if you ever find yourself in a situation where you or the kids have locked yourself out, knowing how to get in touch with your locksmith can help alleviate some of the stress that inevitably comes with experiencing a lockout. ## 7. School and work contact info Your kids should know how to reach you during work hours whenever they may need to. This means that both your mobile number and work contact information should be clearly visible on the fridge at home, as well as on record with your kids’ schools. Speaking of school, you should also be sure to keep all school and kindergarten contact information nearby in case you ever need to communicate with your kids, their teachers, or school administration on weekdays. ## 8. Your next-door neighbours As the nearest adults who can access your home almost immediately and are familiar to your kids, your next-door neighbours absolutely deserve a spot on your household’s emergency contact list. Be sure to ask for your neighbours’ mobile numbers as well as their home’s landline number, just to make sure that you’ve covered all your bases. You should also offer to exchange numbers so that they know they can rely on you in the event of an emergency, just as much as you can rely on them. By keeping these 8 emergency contacts on your fridge at all times and developing household emergency procedures with your kids, you can help ensure that you and your family stay safe in the event of any and all home emergencies. ***Further reading:[ Quick guide to feeling safe in your home as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/feeling-safe-in-your-home-as-a-single-mum/).*** ![Emergency contacts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Spring-Style-Inspiration-2.png "Emergency contacts - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/emergency-contacts-fridge/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/emergency-contacts-fridge/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Soulara review 2024: Plant based ready meals (with latest specials)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/soulara-review/) **Published:** May 18, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I am a lover of healthy, plant-based food, so I was very excited to do a Soulara review. Soulara has been popping up in my online space regularly, and each time I see a meal, I think “ooh, that’s a bit of me”. It’s exactly the kind of food I love to eat. I guess if you are reading this review, you like plant-based, healthy food too. However, the big question is: Do the Soulara meals look and taste as good as they do in the pictures?” Of course, as a consumer, you will have lots of other questions as well. Such as how easy it is to order, are the meals worth the money, and so much more. That’s what this Soulara review is all about. I’m going to take you through my experience of purchasing, reheating and eating Soulara meals so you can decide whether it’s the right meal delivery service for you, or not. ## A bit about Soulara Soulara is a plant-based meal delivery service that offers ready-to-eat meals that are nutritious, delicious, and sustainable. Soulara’s meals are created by chefs and nutritionists, and are made with whole food ingredients free from artificial preservatives, colour and flavours. The meals are also gluten- and dairy-free, making them suitable for different dietary needs and preferences. Customers can choose from various meal plans, including high protein, calorie-controlled and low-carb options, and customise their orders to suit their taste preferences. Soulara’s meals are delivered directly to customers’ doors weekly, making it easy and convenient to eat healthy, sustainable, plant-based meals. ## Signing up with Soulara Ordering with Soulara is as easy as pie (of course, a nice, healthy, plant-based pie). After completing the standard sign-up and password creation, you can proceed to placing an order. ## Regular or large meals The first question you will be asked, which I love, is whether you would prefer regular or large meals. Thank you, Soulara, for acknowledging that standard ready meals are not enough to satisfy most appetites. To clarify: - A regular meal is 350g - A large meal is 450g I, for one, jumped at the chance of large meals, and I can tell you that the 100g extra makes all the difference. Being greedy, not only did I order large, but I also bought a heap of salad and fresh vegetables to add to my meals to ensure they satisfied my hunger. I needn’t have bothered! They really are more than enough as a stand-alone, even when, like me, you have a huge appetite. ## Plans and prices (Soulara review 2023) If you are undecided as to whether to order regular or large, Soulara makes it easy to flip between the two size plans to see what you can get for your money. Obviously, if you order regular-sized meals, you will get more meals for your money. If cash is tight, consider the regular meals that you can top up with veg or salad. As of May 2023, here are the options: ## Regular price plans [![Regular Soulara meal plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Screenshot-2023-05-01-at-11.28.20-am.png "Screenshot 2023-05-01 at 11.28.20 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.com.au/)Regular Soulara meal plans ## Large price plans [![Large Soulara meal plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Screenshot-2023-05-01-at-11.28.31-am.png "Screenshot 2023-05-01 at 11.28.31 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.com.au/)Large Soulara meal plans Once you’ve picked your meals, you’ll be taken to the “Extras” section where, at an additional cost, you can add kombucha and/or bliss balls to your order. [![Kombuchas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Screenshot-2023-04-25-at-12.08.43-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.com.au/)Add kombuchas to your Soulara order [![Bliss balls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Screenshot-2023-04-25-at-12.08.50-pm.png "Screenshot 2023-04-25 at 12.08.50 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.com.au/)Add bliss balls and bites to your Soulara order ## The Soulara referral program In addition to that, they have a special called Give $30 Get $30, which is a basic referral program. Refer a mate, and when they order, they receive $30 off their order, and you will get a $30 credit to put towards your next order. Yes, you can use both specials. So, for maximum financial benefit, use code **120SOULARA** at checkout for $120 off your first six orders, then refer a friend for $30 off your next. Win-win! ## Meal choice Now comes the fun part: Looking at the delicious food photos and deciding what to order. You can rest assured that everything you order from Soulara is free from animal parts, phew. To help you decide, meals are categorised like this: - High protein - Radiance - Gut health - Calories controlled Everything is what I would consider a full dinner meal. In addition, there are three breakfast dishes, such as Ruby Sunrise Chia Pudding, which I would (and did) eat for dessert. ![Choosing meals with Soulara](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/IMG_9562-2.png "IMG_9562 2 - Beanstalk Mums")Choosing meals with Soulara ## Delivery What can I say? I couldn’t be easier. This is how it worked: - I received a reminder text the day before delivery - I received a text on the day confirming the approximate delivery time - The box was delivered and left in a safe place during the allocated time frame - I received a text to inform me that the delivery had been made ![Soulara box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/IMG_9636-scaled.jpg "Soulara delivery - Beanstalk Mums")My Soulara delivery waiting to be unpacked. Exciting. ## Packaging I was delighted when I opened the box, as the meals were tightly packed and had all remained upright. This is really important with ready meals. If they are sideways or upside down, it can ruin the appearance of the meal, turning it from something yummy and enticing to an unidentifiable mess. There were three large, solid ice packs. My delivery sat outside in 24 degrees Celsius for nearly three hours. I am not sure how well it would have faired if left out longer during the summer. At least everything is meat-free, so that alleviates worry about E. coli and Salmonella. Note: A lot of the Soulara meals contain cooked rice, which has the bacteria Bacillus Cereus – this can produce vomit-inducing toxins if left between 5 and 60 degrees Celsius for a long time. So get your meals out of the box and into the fridge as soon as possible. ![The packaging](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/IMG_9637-scaled.jpg "Packaging - Beanstalk Mums")This is how my meals arrived ## Taste testing Having received 18 meals, I won’t provide details on all. Instead, have picked a few different ones to talk about in this article. ## Thai-style tofu As I rule, I always review the very first meal I try to ensure non-biased opinions (it’s easy to pick and talk about the best meals!). I was impressed. The Thai Style Tofu is a generous helping of deliciously spiced quinoa with green beans, broccoli and tofu. There must have been about 250g of tofu, which made the dish super filling. While the green beans were slightly overcooked, the broccoli was perfect – still intact with a bit of crunch. And the flavour was spot on with a hit of chilli, lemongrass and garlic mellowed out with coconut milk. This first dish has me excited, as I still have lots more left in the fridge to try. ![Thai style tofu](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/IMG_9639-scaled.jpg "Tahi Style Tofu - Beanstalk Mums")Thai Style Tofu. Taste test score: 8/10 ## BBQ Black Bean Casserole Soulara meals understandably feature a lot of tofu and other meat substitutes. Personally, I like to make up my protein with beans and pulses. For this reason, I was keen to try the BBQ Black Bean casserole. My heart sank when I took it out of the microwave as the potatoes looked floury and dry (nothing worse), but they weren’t … they were waxy and very flavoursome. Lots of garlic and rosemary in this classic comfort dish. I was surprised that it contained pearl couscous, which I am not a fan of. As a main ingredient, it should have featured in the title of the dish. And couscous alongside beans and potatoes makes for a very heavy dinner, especially when you order large, as I had. Overall, it was crazy-filling and surprisingly tasty. I left the couscous, thoroughly enjoyed the rest and was still full to the brim! ![BBQ Black Bean Casserole](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/IMG_9645-1-scaled.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")BBQ Black Bean Casserole. Taste test score: 8/10 ## Mindful Moussaka A great name for a veggie dish, but not one of my favs when doing my Soulara review A nice helping (large, of course!), lots of perfectly cooked vegetables (a bit of bite), but, although very flavoursome, it wasn’t a flavour I was keen on. It tasted slightly sweet. Having checked out the ingredients list, it was the addition of palm sugar and cinnamon. I am sure some people would love it, but I prefer my savoury food to be just that … savoury. Personal choice. Not to say I didn’t eat it all! Like the other large portions, it was more than enough. Plenty of vegetables, although more eggplant would be nice since it’s the star of the show with moussaka. And chickpeas too, which added some texture and made it all the more filling. ![Mindful Moussaka](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Mindful-moussaka-scaled.jpg "Mindful Moussaka - Beanstalk Mums")Mindful Moussaka. Taste test score: 6/10 ## Ruby Sunrise Chia Pudding Omg to this gem from Soulara. I am a dab hand at chia puds, so wasn’t expecting the Ruby Sunrise Chia Pudding to meet my high homemade expectations. And, I have to say, it doesn’t look great in the container. You’ll see from the photo that I had taken the pudding out and decanted it into a nice heart-shaped dish, topped with the coconut yoghurt and seed topping provided. I then devoured it in front front the TV. Dee-licious! Perfect consistency and creaminess, full raspberry flavour and sooo much of it. I couldn’t eat it all … which is saying something! But stored the rest in an air-tight container for brekkie the following day. Impressed! ![Ruby Sunrise Chia Pudding](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/IMG_9647-1-scaled.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")Ruby Sunrise Chia Pudding. Taste test score: 10/10 ## Customer service Since my order and delivery were super-smooth and I was happy with my order, I had no reason to contact the Soulara customer service. I looked through the many (4.8+ star) Soulara reviews and saw only good things about it, though. There is a comprehensive FAQ section on the website and a direct email address, which I prefer over an untraceable-once-sent contact form. [![FAQ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/IMG_9563.png "IMG_9563 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.com.au/) ## Soulara review: Pros and cons ## Pros - It’s wonderful to have a menu based entirely around plant-based foods, no more narrowing down the menu to limited vegetarian options - I like the way meals are further categorised, allowing me to choose between meals that are calorie-controlled or high in protein, etc. - Absolutely love the larger portion, which I have never seen in a ready meal delivery service before - The packaging for Soulara is 100% recyclable, so an important deciding factor when ordering packaged meals - Overall, the meals are super tasty, beautifully flavoured and well-cooked … not an overcooked vegetable in sight - A great price with excellent value for money ## Cons - The packaging looks great, but I can’t read the instructions or ingredients unless I wear my glasses and stand in the sun - It would be good to have a few more breakfast and dessert choices - Some of the dishes weren’t to my taste, and others were a little bland. I will order with more care next time, based on my experience with this order - Although the packaging is 100% recyclable, I still worry about so much waste with each meal ## Is Soulara worth the money? Having completed my Soulara review, there is a lot I like about Soulara, but top of the list is value for money. I base this on ordering the large portions, which were more than enough for every meal, meaning there was no need to supplement with more food/cost. Out of all the [ready meal delivery services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) I have tried (even with meat), these are the most filling, so you definitely get your money’s worth. ## Would I recommend Soulara to a friend? Soulara was recommended to me by a friend, and then it kept coming up in my online feed (how does that happen?). This is the reason I gave Soulara a go. To all my veggie friends, I would definitely recommend Soulara. I might even try and convert some meat-eating friends, as it’s a great way to discover the diversity of vegetarian food without having to cook it yourself. It’s worth noting that Soulara has 1200+ 4.8-star reviews at the time of writing, so I am not the only one who is impressed. I hope you have enjoyed and got use from my Soulara review. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/soulara-review/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/soulara-review/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping --- ### [10 Fun and flirty sexy costumes for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-costumes-for-men/) **Published:** June 16, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about sexy costumes for men was last updated in 2022.*** We’ve already shared our list of great [dress-up for ladies in the bedroom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-sexy-outfits-to-entertain-in-the-bedroom/), but we can’t leave out the men! After all, there are some really provocative pieces available that we are sure he will love. Start your raunchy research here with our list of fun and flirty sexy costumes for men (and boy did we have fun looking). ## 10 Fun and flirty sexy costumes for men ### 1. [FRISKY FORMAL TUX](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2funderwear-for-men%2fcostumes-for-men%2fp%2flhm-tuxedo-boxer-shorts%2fa33904g60834.html) These tuxedo boxer shorts from Lovehoney fits the bill if you’re looking for sexy costumes for men. Be the Pussy Galore to his James Bond in this stylish ensemble. Features a flattering hipster style waist and faux shirt front with bow tie detail. 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[![Sexy Costumes for your Man | Doctor Love Costume | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ibb.co/fts6JvR/Screenshot-2022-06-16-192346.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76118?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.naughtystore.com.au%2fenvy-doctor-love-costume-l%2fxl-blec09-lxl) **Available sizes:** L to XL **Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay **Delivery details:** $12 per package **Specials:** Price beat promise **(**If you find a better price on stocked items, they’ll beat it by 10%)* ### 3. [Swbreety Men’s Shiny Metallic G-String Thong Underwear](https://amzn.to/43rLYhV "https://amzn.to/43rLYhV") The hot cop outfit is always a winner when it comes to sexy costumes for men. He’ll dare you to defy authority in tight little blue trunks with a handcuff and badge print. The matching hat adds a nice touch and makes it more realistic. All you need is a prisoner costume. 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[![Sexy Costumes for your Man | The Borat Slingshot | Beanstalk Mums](https://atmsc-cache-p.azureedge.net/202941_2.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fcostumes%2fmale-costumes%2fborat-slingshot%2f202941%2f98%2f) ***Available sizes:** Small to XL* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, PayPal, Zip Pay* ***Delivery details:** $6.95 standard shipping, Free delivery for orders over $100* ***Specials:** Get exclusive discounts when you join their mailing list* ### 5.[Sexy Men’s Floral Lace Underwear](https://amzn.to/4kzGVlJ "https://amzn.to/4kzGVlJ") This sexy sheer leotard from Milanoo is perfect for Halloween, dress up parties or fantasy role play. The sheer mesh leotard shows off his muscles and bares his backside to the world. Butterfly decoration optional. The best EVER when it comes to exotic male costumes! [![Mr. Butterfly Butt | Beanstalk Mums](https://www-s.mlo.me/upen/v/tb2017/tb201702/tb20170217/b6c7c2a2-efc1-4794-887f-b90086162099.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fmen-s-sexy-costume-black-sheer-butt-bare-leotard-gay-costume-halloween-p662161.html%23m21950636) ***Available sizes:** One size* (23.5 to 31.5) ***Payment options:** Credit card, debit card, PayPal, Western Union, bank wire transfer* ***Delivery details:** Depends on location, free shipping for orders over $109 **Specials:** Register and get $10 off* ## MEN’S ROLE PLAY COSTUMES (CONT.) ### 6. [Sexy Fireman](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2funderwear-for-men%2fcostumes-for-men%2fp%2fenvy-sexy-fireman-trunks-and-braces-set%2fa34804g63024.html) This sexy fireman costume is too hot to handle. He’ll sizzle in this trunks and braces set: the fire engine red suspenders and dark blue shorts, complete with high visibility stripes, are perfect for fancy dress parties or bedroom role play. [![Sexy Costumes for your Man | Sexy Fireman | Beanstalk Mums](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/63024_a34804_blue_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2funderwear-for-men%2fcostumes-for-men%2fp%2fenvy-sexy-fireman-trunks-and-braces-set%2fa34804g63024.html) ***Available sizes:** Medium to XL* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Shop Pay, Apple Pay, Google Pay* ***Delivery details:** $9.95 flat rate Australia-wide, Free standard shipping for orders $59 and over **Specials:** Sign up for emails to get 15% off your first order* ### 7. [BEDDABLE BIKER](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fcostumes%2fmale-costumes%2fenvy-biker-bikini-bottom-cuffs--hat-3-piece%2f158358%2f98%2f) Sexy costumes for your man don’t get any badder than this beddable biker outfit from Club X. Featuring black faux leather briefs with chain detail and matching cuffs and hat. Ask him for a slow striptease a la Magic Mike or go for a wild ride. Motorcycle not included. [![Beddabe Biker | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0682/0289/products/baci-167687-img-1_1a_600x_crop_center.jpg?v=1587205198)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fcostumes%2fmale-costumes%2fenvy-biker-bikini-bottom-cuffs--hat-3-piece%2f158358%2f98%2f) ***Available sizes:** M to XL* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay, Zip Pay, Laybuy* ***Delivery details:** $6.95 standard shipping, Free delivery for orders over $100 **Specials:** Get exclusive discounts when you join their mailing list* ### 8. [comeondear Mens Underwear Lingerie](https://amzn.to/3QS3zrS "https://amzn.to/3QS3zrS") You’ll want to do something naughty when you see your man wearing this barely-there cowboy costume. Made for frisky bedroom fun, the playful ensemble comes with a red and white bandana and a g-string loincloth with a lone star badge. Now that’s a raunchy ride. [![comeondear Mens Lingerie Sexy Underwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Comeondear-mens-lingerie-sexy-underwear.jpg "Comeondear mens lingerie sexy underwear - Beanstalk Mums")](https://amzn.to/3QS3zrS) ***Available sizes:** One size* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** $12 per package **Specials:** More specials when you sign up to their mailing list* ### 9. [COCKY COWBOY](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2funderwear-for-men%2fcostumes-for-men%2fp%2fmale-power-cocky-cowboy-costume%2fa44901g80820.html) Turn up the heat and let him fulfil your Wild West domination fantasies in this smoking hot cowboy number from Lovehoney. The 4-piece costume includes a bandana and cut out shorts with tassel detail to show off his assets. Sexy costumes for your man just got sizzling. [![Male Power Cocky Cowboy | Beanstalk Mums](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/80820_a44901_brown_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2funderwear-for-men%2fcostumes-for-men%2fp%2fmale-power-cocky-cowboy-costume%2fa44901g80820.html) ***Available sizes:** S to XL* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Afterpay, Apple Pay, Zip Pay* ***Delivery details:** From $9.95 per order Australia wide, Free standard shipping for orders $59 and over **Specials:** Get 15% off when you sign up to emails* ### 10. [SEXY SEAMAN](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d41523) Try sexy costumes for your man like this seaman outfit if you’re in the mood for something nautical. The sea captain uniform comes complete with a legit-looking captain’s hat, shirt collar with removable tie, cuffs and gold buttoned trunks that cling to his package. [![Sexy Costumes for your Man | Sexy Seaman | Beanstalk Mums](https://d3f650ayx9w00n.cloudfront.net/940/75584-00.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d41523) ***Available sizes:** Small to XL* ***Payment options:** Visa, MasterCard, Amex, Maestro and Visa Debit, PayPal, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** From $9.95 per order Australia wide, Free standard shipping for orders $59 and over **Specials:** Get 15% off when you sign up to emails* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/sexycostumes.png "sexycostumes - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-costumes-for-men/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-costumes-for-men/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Shopping **Tags:** sex, sex toys, bedroom, outfits, role play --- ### [Bento Boxes for Kids: Our Pick of the Best](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bento-boxes-kids/) **Published:** March 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a busy mum, I’m always on the lookout for healthy and convenient meal options for my kids packed lunches. It’s for this reason that I absolutely love bento boxes! These handy containers are the perfect solution for packing delicious and nutritious lunches for my little ones. With separate compartments for different foods, bento boxes allow me to create a well-balanced meal that’s both visually appealing and fun to eat. Plus, they’re easy to clean and reusable, which makes them an eco-friendly choice. In this article, I’ll be sharing some tips and tricks for creating the perfect bento boxes for kids, along with my pick of the best bento boxes on the market. So, if you’re looking for a new way to make lunchtime more exciting for your little ones, keep reading! ## WHAT IS A BENTO BOX? A bento box is a traditional Japanese lunch box that is typically made of wood, plastic, or metal and features multiple compartments for holding a variety of foods. The word “bento” comes from the Japanese word for “convenient,” and these boxes are designed to be just that – a convenient and compact way to pack a balanced meal for on-the-go eating. In Japan, bento boxes are often packed with rice, protein, vegetables, and fruit, and are enjoyed by both children and adults. Bento boxes have become increasingly popular around the world in recent years, and many people now use them to pack healthy and creative lunches for work or school. ***Further reading: [50+ Easy recipes for healthy after school snacks.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/)*** ## BEST BENTO BOXES FOR KIDS AUSTRALIA ### [PERSONALISED BENTO BOX](https://www.amazon.com/OmieBox-Bento-Box-Kids-Compartments/dp/B017SGKZUI/?th=1) I personally love large lunch boxes with lots of compartments, and this fits the bill. This sturdy, leak-proof, roomy, and easy-to-clean, bento box won’t just carry your child’s healthy and yummy meals, it is also fully customisable to scream (or whisper) her/his unique personality. You don’t just get to write your little one’s name on it. There are seven colours and many font options to choose from! [![OmieBox Bento Box for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Omiebox-bento-box-for-kids-736x800.jpg "Omiebox bento box for kids - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/OmieBox-Bento-Box-Kids-Compartments/dp/B017SGKZUI/?th=1)Omiebox bento box for kids Buy here: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/OmieBox-Bento-Box-Kids-Compartments/dp/B017SGKZUI/?th=1) ### [BENTO BOX FOR TEENS](https://bigw.sjv.io/n4V12X) This bento box has three compartments so you can make sure your older kids and teens can have their balanced meals. It’s made with good quality plastic material (ABS, PP) so is tough and leak-proof, meaning your kid can take it everywhere. The bright colour makes it super easy to find in the morning rush! [![Bento Box Lunch Containers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Bento-box-lunch-containers.jpg "Bento box lunch containers - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/n4V12X)Bento box lunch containers Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/n4V12X) ### [SISTEMA BENTO BOX FOR KIDS](https://bigw.sjv.io/Ry4079) Now, if you’re looking for a simple lunch box with large capacity that allows your little one to have a variety of food, check out Sistema’s 1.25L Bento Box. It is leak-proof, with multiple removable compartments and a yoghurt pot, stackable, dishwasher safe, microwavable, and fridge/freezer-friendly. [![Sistema 1.25L Bento Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/sistema.jpg "sistema - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/Ry4079) Buy here: [BIGW](https://bigw.sjv.io/Ry4079) ### [Stainless Steel Bento Lunch Box](https://bigw.sjv.io/k4Ajod) If your kid is into eco-friendly vibes, you won’t go wrong with this super smart lunch box from Seymours. Made of just stainless steel and silicone ring, this lunch box is a great non-toxic alternative to plastics. The clasp is strong enough to prevent leakage, too. [![Ever Eco Stainless Steel Bento Lunch Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Ever-eco-stainless-steel-bento-lunch-box.jpg "Ever eco stainless steel bento lunch box - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/k4Ajod)Ever eco stainless steel bento lunch box Buy here: [BIG W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k4Ajod) ### [SPIDER MAN BENTO BOX](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRaWOP) Sometimes, kids can be super cute when engrossed with their favourite characters. Show support to your little one’s love for your friendly neighbourhood Spiderman with this Spiderman Kids Bento Box! Made of sturdy and safe material, this lunch box is also easy-to-clean, so it’s perfect for both daily use and picnics. Moreover, this bento box is relatively affordable, making it perfect for mums on a budget. [![The Somewhere Co. Bento Lunch Box - Spiderman](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/The-somewhere-co%20-bento-lunch-box-spiderman.jpg "The somewhere co Bento lunch box - spiderman - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRaWOP)The somewhere co bento lunch box spiderman Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRaWOP) ### [FROZEN BENTO BOX](https://bigw.sjv.io/aND1eR) If your child is a fan of Anna and Elsa from Frozen, then this Bento Box is the perfect choice for their school lunches. With the same specifications as the previously mentioned lunch box, this option is ideal for parents whose kids prefer the beloved Arendelle princesses over Spider-Man. The box features a fun and colourful design that is sure to make any Frozen fan happy. It is also practical and convenient for packing healthy meals and snacks for your little ones. [![B.Box Limited Edition Mini Lunch Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/B%20Box-limited-edition-mini-lunch-box.webp "B Box limited edition mini lunch box - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/aND1eR)B box limited edition mini lunch box Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/aND1eR) ### [PENNY SCALLAN BENTO BOX](https://bigw.sjv.io/EE5K7K) Last but definitely not least, is this koala lunch box. Although a bit on the pricey end, this one’s my personal favourites. It has four leak-proof compartments and silicone lid to make sure that it’s safe to bring in schools, playgrounds, and campsites. Although the store also sells them separately, the bag is insulated to help keep the food warm or cold. But what I love most is the sleeping koala design and colour – super cute! [![Penny Scallan Rainbow Days Bento Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Penny-scallan-rainbow-days-bento-box-800x800.jpg "Penny scallan rainbow days bento box - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/k4AjWL)Penny scallan rainbow days bento box Buy here: [Penny Scallan Design](https://bigw.sjv.io/k4AjWL) ## TIPS TO PACK THE PERFECT BENTO BOXES FOR KIDS ### Plan ahead Take a few minutes each week to plan out what you’ll be packing in your child’s bento box. This will help you ensure they get a variety of foods and avoid packing the same thing day after day. ### Use a variety of colours Kids are more likely to eat something if it looks appealing, so try to include a variety of colorful fruits and veggies in their bento box. ### Include a protein source Make sure to include a protein source, such as grilled chicken, tofu, or hard-boiled eggs. This will help keep your child full and satisfied throughout the day. ### Mix up the textures Kids love variety, so mix up the textures of the foods you include in their bento box. Try including crunchy carrot sticks, smooth hummus, and chewy dried fruit. ### Get creative Use cookie cutters to make fun shapes out of sandwiches, fruits, and veggies. This will make lunchtime more enjoyable for your child and encourage them to eat a wider variety of foods. ### Don’t forget a treat Pack a small treat, such as a homemade cookie or a few pieces of chocolate, to make lunchtime more enjoyable for your child. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bento-boxes-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bento-boxes-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household, Shopping **Tags:** packed lunch, lunch box, school lunch --- ### [50 Indoor Party Games for Adults That Are Fun and Easy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/50-indoor-party-games-for-adults-that-are-fun-and-easy/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As winter rolls in here in Australia and outdoor parties become harder to pull off without freezing toes (or tiny people begging to go inside), it’s time to bring the fun indoors — and that’s where indoor party games for adults come in. If you’re like me — a mum who loves a good get-together but always has one eye on the toddler with jam-covered hands — then this list is for you. These group games for adults are fun, interactive, and best of all, wholesome enough to keep playing even when your little ones are wandering through the snack table. Whether you’re hosting dinner parties, celebrating birthdays, [kid’s party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fab-party-themes-for-children/) (with chaperones), or just gathering the girls for a Friday night reset, these games offer laughter, connection, and a little break from the everyday juggle. ## Indoor Party Games for Adults to Break the Ice and Set the Mood Here are games you can play to get your guests talking and laughing early. - **Two Truths and a Lie.** Each person shares three statements: two true, one false. Everyone tries to guess the lie. Perfect game to play when everyone is still warming up. - **Never Have I Ever (PG Edition).** This fun take on the classic drinking game can be made wholesome. Just raise a hand if you’ve done the thing. Great game to get to know each other without using alcohol. - **Who Am I?** Stick a post-it note with the name of a famous person on everyone’s forehead. Ask yes/no questions to figure out who you are. - **Would You Rather.** Take turns posing dilemmas. “Would you rather have coffee for blood or sneeze glitter?” You’ll get even more fun answers after the first few rounds. - **This or That.** Quick fire round of preferences — coffee or tea, dogs or cats, summer or winter. The rules are simple and the game is a great way for guests to get to know each other. ## Classic Indoor Party Games for Adults (With a Twist) These are familiar favourites, but with updated, adult-friendly spins. - **Charades.** A classic game that never fails. Divide into two teams, act out phrases or movie titles without speaking, and let the chaos unfold. - **Pictionary.** Draw clues for your team to try to guess. Use a timer and a whiteboard — or even scrap piece of paper. The game can be played with any group size. - **Pass the Story.** One person starts with a sentence. The next one adds a line. First team to get the right message to the player at the end wins! Hilarious results guaranteed. - **Telephone Whisper.** Sit in a circle and whisper a sentence to the next player. See how garbled it becomes by the end. - **20 Questions.** Someone thinks of something, and the rest ask up to 20 yes/no questions to guess. A great option for chilled dinner parties. ![indoor party games for adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-13.png "In article image 13 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Indoor Party Games Without Materials (Because We Don’t Have Time to Prep) These games offer fun with zero setup and can be played spontaneously. - **Freeze Dance.** Put on music and dance. When the music stops, everyone freezes. Anyone who moves is out. Perfect for when kids are present too. - **The Laughing Game.** One person says “ha,” the next person says “ha-ha,” and so on. If someone laughs for real, they’re out! - **Don’t Say Yes or No.** Ask questions. If they say “yes” or “no,” they’re out. It’s harder than it sounds! - **Categories.** Pick a category (e.g., fruits, cities). Go around the circle naming one. Repeat until someone blanks. - **Alphabet Game.** Choose a theme (e.g., animals), and go through the alphabet with words in that theme. ## Indoor Party Games for Adults with Slips of Paper (Write It Down, Draw It Out) You’ll need some pens and slips of paper, but the prep is minimal. - **Fishbowl Game.** Each person writes down three phrases. You play charades, Pictionary, and one word only in three rounds. - **Write Down a Secret.** Each person writes something about themselves anonymously. Guess who wrote it. Great way to break the ice. - **Paper Telephone.** Write a sentence, pass it along, and have the next person draw it. Then the next writes what they think the drawing is. Repeat! - **Secret Mission.** Assign each person a mission (e.g., say “unicorn” 3 times in a conversation). Try to complete it without getting caught. - **Who Said That?** Write quotes or phrases from friends or family members. Guess who said it! ## Indoor Party Games for Adults That Get You Moving Some energy, some silliness, all good vibes. - **Balloon Waddle.** Players race with a balloon between their knees. Easy to learn, plus kids love this one too. - **Spoon Relay.** Players race carrying a small object without using their hands. Left without a spoon? Improvise with a toy! - **Human Knot.** Everyone stands in a circle and holds hands with two different people across. Untangle yourselves without letting go. - **Blindfold Obstacle Course.** One person wears a blindfold and another gives directions to guide them across the room. - **The Floor is Lava.** You know the rules. No stepping on the floor! When hosting at home doesn’t cut it, booking an escape room at [adventurerooms.com.au](https://adventurerooms.com.au/) is a ‘level-up” option, especially for thrill-seekers! ## Funny and Ridiculously Fun Party Games for Adults (Cue the Giggles) These are fun and interactive games that always bring out the silliness (if that’s your party theme) to your next get together. - **Marshmallow Stuffing.** See how many marshmallows you can fit in your mouth while saying a phrase. Let the fun and laughter ensue! - **Emoji Storytelling.** Text your partner 5 emojis — they have to make up a funny story using them. Best played for intimate groups. - **One-Word Story.** Everyone adds one word at a time to build a story. - **Accent Challenge.** Say random phrases in assigned accents. A great game for mixed crowds! - **Freeze Frame.** Pose in ridiculous ways and hold it as long as possible. ![indoor party games for adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-14.png "In article image 14 - Beanstalk Mums")In article image 14 ## Indoor Party Games for Adults Played in Pairs (Perfect for Small Groups) These games are a great option for intimate gatherings or quieter moments. - **Mirror Movement.** Partners mirror each other’s moves in sync. - **Guess the Object.** One person holds an item behind their back. The other guesses by asking yes/no questions. - **Drawing Back-to-Back.** Sit back to back. One person describes an image, the other draws based on that. - **Compliment Tennis.** Go back and forth giving compliments. First to hesitate loses! - **Secret Code.** Partners agree on a secret code word before the party. Try to get the other to say it naturally. ## Trivia and Word Group Indoor Games (Great for Brainy Fun) Flex those mental muscles! - **General Trivia.** Prepare trivia questions or use a mobile app. The player with the most number of correct answers wins. - **Movie Quote Match.** Match quotes to movies. Bonus if someone does impressions! This game is perfect for couch potatoes! - **Word Association.** Say a word, and the next person responds with the first word that comes to mind. - **Anagram Race.** Give everyone a scrambled word. First to get it right gets a point. - **Spelling Bee (Adults Only!).** Pick hilarious or naughty words. Keep it fun and light. ## Indoor Party Games for Adults Inspired by Popular Party Hits (Mum-Appropriate Versions!) - **[Kids Against Maturity](https://www.kidsagainstmaturity.com/?srsltid=AfmBOoo19UYL3_4v_-BjLFEjGb7uOSRIUZLIySAJPIV0kf1OODRKAKwk).** Like Cards Against Humanity, but kid-safe. Many printable versions online! - **Heads Up!** Hold your phone to your head and guess the word from clues. Everyone takes turns and it’s easy to play. - **Song Lyrics Guessing.** Play 5 seconds of a song. Guess the lyrics or title. - **Pop Culture Bingo.** Make bingo cards using recent celebrity news or TV moments. - **TikTok Challenge IRL.** Try a TikTok trend live (just not the dangerous ones). ## Party Games for Adults for Bigger Groups (The More the Merrier) Games that are more fun with a number of players! - **Mafia/Werewolf.** Assign roles and play the game in rounds. The aim of the game is to find the secret killer before they eliminate you. - **Scavenger Hunt.** Make a list of quirky indoor items to find. Great to involve kids too. - **What’s in the Box?** Put an object in a box. Others reach in and guess by touch. Hilarity ensues. - **Musical Cushions.** Like chairs, but with cushions! A fun game for all ages. - **Team Skits.** Divide your guests into two teams, give a random scenario, and perform a skit after 10 minutes of prep. Bonus points for costumes. Perfect party game for family reunions! ## Conclusion: The Best Indoor Party Games for Adults Whether you’re hosting your first winter house party games night or you’re a seasoned party queen who knows how to get your guests moving, these fun party games for adults are your go-to toolkit for creating connection, laughter, and a truly perfect party. And yes, I’ve played many of these with my friends while my toddler watched from under the table, munching popcorn and calling us “silly.” Because being a mum doesn’t mean the fun stops—it just means we get creative, find joy in the little things, and laugh a little louder with the people who get it. So grab that post-it note, put the kettle on (or pour the bubbly), and play this game, or five. We deserve it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/50-indoor-party-games-for-adults-that-are-fun-and-easy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/50-indoor-party-games-for-adults-that-are-fun-and-easy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Winter --- ### [Still the Nursery Favourite: Why the Aroma-Snooze and Aroma-Snooze Plus Keep Winning Awards](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/swhy-the-aroma-snooze-and-aroma-snooze-plus-keep-winning-awards/) **Published:** August 6, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’ve ever paced a hallway at 2am with an overtired, overstimulated baby who simply will not settle, you know the feeling. At that hour, most parents will try almost anything for a full night’s sleep. That exact feeling is what led to one of Australia’s most-loved nursery products, and seven years on, it’s still picking up awards. ## **Born From a Real Parent Problem: The Ultimate Nursery Humidifier** Back in 2019, Lively Living founder Julie Parr noticed something happening in the homes of parents already using one of her cool-mist diffusers. Next to the cot, there wasn’t just the diffuser. There was usually a separate white-noise machine doing its own job, and a separate night light, too: three gadgets, three cords, three things to manage in the middle of the night. Julie set out to combine them properly, not as a smaller, decorative add-on, but as a genuine nursery humidifier. That meant a water tank large enough to deliver real humidification benefits for dry air, congestion, and general comfort in a baby’s room. From there, every other detail was built around where the product would actually live: a child’s bedroom. A soft night light went in. Soothing, sleep-associated sounds were layered on top. And in what’s become one of the product’s most-loved features, a voice recorder was added so parents could record their own voice for their baby to hear through the night. The result was the original Aroma-Snooze diffuser: a considered answer to a problem real parents were already solving for themselves, just clumsily, with a tangle of mismatched gadgets. ![Lively Living founder Julie Parr with certified organic essential oils](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Ad_4nxf6mzbtnd4gf0e9yjkywerfo4abihrrya6pfm1jdstnom3cnkxutx3gutx38jl5ru0lvpqo_z1dd9ljqnyiube8zyspgzu4uhmbebke7urjumjrvmuqjsbbsaoacbiuqvzhbmx4hppwllhq_nfbnohmjg4slzbrcqss2048.jpg "Ad_4nxf6mzbtnd4gf0e9yjkywerfo4abihrrya6pfm1jdstnom3cnkxutx3gutx38jl5ru0lvpqo_z1dd9ljqnyiube8zyspgzu4uhmbebke7urjumjrvmuqjsbbsaoacbiuqvzhbmx4hppwllhq_nfbnohmjg4slzbrcqs=s2048 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **An Award-Winning Aroma-Snooze Diffuser** What matters most is that the Aroma-Snooze isn’t a new product chasing a trend. It’s been the go-to nursery sleep aid since 2019, and it hasn’t slowed down since. The original picked up early recognition, including a Bronze Medal for Best Nursery Item at the 2022 Bounty Baby Awards and a Gold Medal for Favourite Sleeping Aid at that year’s My Child Excellence Awards. The Aroma-Snooze Plus arrived in 2023 and carried the momentum further: Gold for Best Nursery Accessory at the 2024 Bounty Awards, then Gold for Best Sleep Aid at the 2025 Bounty Baby Awards. Most recently, Lively Living picked up Gold in three categories at the 2026 Mum Central Awards, with both the Plus and the original Aroma-Snooze among the winners. Across the range, the brand now counts more than a dozen industry awards for safety, design and effectiveness since the original’s 2019 launch. Both products are still current, both are still winning, and parents are still choosing between them based on what suits their nursery. ## **How the Aroma-Snooze Humidifier Works for Your Baby** The Aroma-Snooze humidifier works on multiple senses at once, which is part of why it’s stuck around rather than becoming last year’s nursery gadget. The tank was designed to properly humidify a child’s room, not just take the edge off. The red LED light setting is tied to the body’s melatonin production, so it’s not just a nice glow; it’s a sleep cue with some science behind it. The built-in sounds, including pink noise, rain, and lullabies, are chosen specifically for their sleep-association qualities. And because it uses ultrasonic vibration rather than heat to create its mist, there’s no warm steam and no burn risk in a room with a baby. There is also the option to add an ACO Certified Organic essential oil blend, made specifically for [young children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-young-boys/ "young children"). This certification is a critical differentiator for the brand; unlike generic labels, ACO certification provides real transparency by ensuring that oils are independently audited and verified, giving parents peace of mind about the purity of what they are using in the nursery. It’s entirely optional: on its own, the Aroma-Snooze already does the job of a premium white noise diffuser, night light, and humidifier, designed as one considered piece for a child’s room rather than a shelf of mismatched gadgets. ### **Choosing Between Aroma-Snooze and Aroma-Snooze Plus** Both products share the same DNA: real humidification, light, sound, and that signature voice recorder. The choice comes down to what a particular nursery needs. The original [Aroma-Snooze](https://livelyliving.com.au/products/aroma-snooze-sleep-aid-vaporiser) remains a simple, reliable, multi-sensory sleep aid with a 300ml tank, and its ongoing award wins are proof it hasn’t been outpaced by newer products entering the market. The [Aroma-Snooze Plus](https://livelyliving.com.au/products/aroma-snooze-plus-organic-oil) takes it further with a larger 500ml tank for stronger mist output, optional Bluetooth connectivity for parents who want to stream their own music or white noise, a handheld remote for adjustments without walking into the room, an optional sleep timer, and three interchangeable designer covers to match any nursery style. Both, along with bundle options that pair the sleep aid with oils and accessories, are available through Lively Living’s [Aroma-Snooze collection](https://livelyliving.com.au/collections/aroma-snooze-bundle). ## **Lively Living: The Brand Behind the White Noise Diffuser Parents Trust** Lively Living has grown into one of Australia’s leading suppliers of [aromatherapy products](https://livelyliving.com.au/), including ultrasonic aromatherapy diffusers and certified organic essential oils, engineered in partnership with Ultransmit, the pioneers of cool-mist ultrasonic technology. But it’s still led by the same founder, Julie Parr, who has spent more than 13 years refining the humidifier for baby and other products for Australian nurseries and homes. For parents who have trusted the brand with their baby’s sleep for the better part of a decade, that continuity is part of the reassurance. More than 740,000 Australian families have now brought a Lively Living diffuser into their home, making it the top baby humidifier that Australian families trust. Seven years, two products, and awards that keep coming. The Aroma-Snooze range has earned its place as a nursery staple the old-fashioned way: by actually working, and by parents sharing their experience with friends and family. \*Images sourced from Lively Living ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/swhy-the-aroma-snooze-and-aroma-snooze-plus-keep-winning-awards/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/swhy-the-aroma-snooze-and-aroma-snooze-plus-keep-winning-awards/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Are Roller Shutters Worth It in Perth's Climate?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/are-roller-shutters-worth-it-in-perths-climate/) **Published:** July 30, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** [Roller Shutters Perth](https://ozshut.com.au/) are a common sight across Perth homes, and there’s a good reason for that. Few cities put a home through the extremes that Perth does, from blistering summer heat to wild winter storms. The question for most homeowners isn’t whether shutters work, but whether they’re worth the outlay for their situation. Looked at against Perth’s particular climate, the case for roller shutters is stronger than in many other places. Here’s why. ## Built for Perth’s brutal summers Perth summers are long, dry, and intense, with sun-facing rooms turning into heat traps by the afternoon. Roller shutters block that heat at the window before it ever gets inside, keeping rooms dramatically cooler and taking pressure off the air conditioning. In a climate where cooling costs dominate the [power bill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-independent-mums-guide-to-slashing-winter-power-bills/) for much of the year, that reduction in heat load is exactly where shutters earn their keep. ## Protection when storms roll through Perth’s winters bring their own drama, with strong fronts driving wind, rain, and flying debris. Closed roller shutters add a layer of protection for your windows against the battering that storms can deliver, giving you peace of mind when the weather turns. For homes in exposed or coastal areas, that extra barrier against wind-driven debris is a genuine practical benefit, not just a comfort. ![Home office scene: laptop on a wooden desk, a tall leafy plant to the left, and a framed poster beside a window with green blinds.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-antonioborriello-1297611-1195x800.jpg "Pexels-antonioborriello-1297611 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The security bonus On top of the climate benefits, roller shutters deliver serious security. A sturdy shutter over a window is a powerful deterrent to opportunistic break-ins, making your home a far harder target and one most intruders will pass over. You essentially get two upgrades in one: climate control and home security, from a single installation. For homes left empty during the day, that dual benefit is especially handy. Shutters keep the heat out while you’re at work and present a hard barrier to anyone who notices the house is unoccupied, addressing two of a Perth homeowner’s most common concerns at once. ## Weighing cost against benefit Roller shutters are an investment, and the upfront cost is a fair question. Against that, you’re offsetting years of reduced cooling and heating bills, added security, storm protection, better privacy, and noise reduction. For many Perth homeowners, those combined benefits stack up well over the life of the shutters. They can also add to a property’s appeal, since buyers in Perth recognise the value of a home that’s already set up for the local climate. It’s worth factoring in comfort that never shows up directly on a bill, too. A home that stays cooler through a run of forty-degree days is simply more pleasant to live in, and rooms that were once unusable in the afternoon heat become liveable again. Durability suits the local conditions as well. Quality shutters built for the Australian climate are designed to withstand the harsh sun and salt air that quickly degrade lesser products, so a good set fitted once should serve a Perth home for many years. As with any investment, the value depends on choosing well. A cheap, poorly installed shutter won’t deliver the insulation or security a quality one does, so it pays to work with a reputable local supplier who understands exactly what Perth’s weather demands. ## Are they right for your home? Shutters make the strongest case on sun-exposed and street-facing windows, in homes where cooling costs bite hard, or where security and storm protection are priorities. If that sounds like your place, they’re likely to be a worthwhile addition rather than a luxury. Given everything Perth’s climate throws at a home, roller shutters are one of the more sensible investments a local homeowner can make. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/are-roller-shutters-worth-it-in-perths-climate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/are-roller-shutters-worth-it-in-perths-climate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Am I Ready To Date Again? A Realistic Checklist For Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-date-again/) **Published:** August 10, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Content:** Am I ready to date again is one of those questions that rarely gets said out loud. It just sits there. Usually late, usually once the house has gone quiet and there’s nobody left to talk it through with. And the deciding is heavier than the dating. You already decide everything else in this house. The school forms, the dinners, whether that cough needs a doctor. One more decision, and one this personal, is a lot to carry on your own. If you’ve been going back and forth on it for months, nothing has gone wrong. That’s just what a big decision looks like when you’re the only one making it. So, the short version. You’re ready to date again when a date would add something to your week rather than fill a hole in it. That’s the test. Not a set number of months. Not a certain amount of healing. Not what anyone else thinks you should be doing by now. What this article won’t do is help you write a profile or pick an app. That advice is everywhere, and most of it is fine, including our own guide to [setting up your first dating app profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/). The part nobody covers properly is the decision that comes before it. So that’s what this is. **Quick Takeaways:** - **Capacity Beats Calendars:** You’re ready to date again when a date would add something to your week rather than fill a gap in it, so readiness is about whether your life works right now, not about hitting a certain number of months since separation. - **The Waiting Rule Has Nothing Behind It:** There’s no waiting period in Australian law or research, and Australian Institute of Family Studies findings that men often repartner faster than women mean taking longer is common rather than a sign you’re behind. - **Sort The Evening Before The Feelings:** One reliable free evening a fortnight with care organised is usually the missing piece, and arranging that is a scheduling job rather than an emotional one. - **Safety Is Four Small Habits:** Meeting somewhere public, getting there and home under your own steam, and telling one person where you are covers most of first-date safety when you’re the only adult at home. - **Not Yet Is A Real Answer:** A no on these questions is information rather than a verdict, and the not-yet stretch is the one window where you get to work out what you actually want with nobody else’s opinion in the room. [![Single mum sitting on her back step deciding how long to wait before dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/2-single-mum-sitting-on-her-back-step-deciding-how-long-to-wait-before-dating-again.webp "2-single-mum-sitting-on-her-back-step-deciding-how-long-to-wait-before-dating-again - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/2-single-mum-sitting-on-her-back-step-deciding-how-long-to-wait-before-dating-again.webp) ## **What Does Being Ready To Date Again Actually Mean?** Being ready to date again means you can enjoy someone’s company without needing them to fix your mood, your week or your loneliness. Readiness is about capacity, not calendars. A single mum is usually ready when her life works without a partner, and a relationship would be a bonus rather than a rescue. Most advice on this stops at feelings. Feelings matter. They’re just not the only moving part. You also need a free evening, a phone with charge in it, and one person who knows where you are. **A quick note on who this is for:** Plenty of mums reading this are separated or divorced, and the article leans that way. But if you’re widowed, or you were never partnered, or you chose solo motherhood on your own terms, the ten questions still hold. Same if the person you’re picturing isn’t a man. Swap the words that don’t fit and the rest works. Capacity is the word I keep coming back to. Not confidence. Confidence turns up around date three, not before. ## **The Waiting Rule Nobody Can Back Up** There’s no waiting period anywhere in Australian law or the research. The “wait a year” line gets repeated constantly, and nobody can tell you where it came from. What the research does say is that men tend to repartner faster than women. The Australian Institute of Family Studies has reported [some separated fathers repartnering within six months](https://aifs.gov.au/research/family-matters/no-92/effects-co-parenting-relationships-ex-spouses-couples-step-families). That’s often while the care and property arrangements are still being worked out. So if you’re eight months in and your ex is already seeing someone, that gap is a pattern in the data. It isn’t a comment on you. I sat on my hands for two years because of the wait-a-year rule. Then I went for one coffee and realised I’d been ready for ages. I’d been waiting for a feeling that was never going to arrive on its own. I also know mums who started at eight weeks and found the whole thing harder than they expected. Neither of those is about the number of months. I used to tell mums to wait until they felt confident. Actually, that framing isn’t quite right. Confidence comes out of dating, not into it. The better question is whether a bad date would flatten your week or just annoy you for an afternoon. One place the timing does change. If you’ve left a violent or controlling relationship, the question isn’t how you feel. It’s whether it’s safe for anyone new to know where you live. Speak to 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 before you speak to anyone on an app. ## **Is It Loneliness, Or Do You Want A Partner?** These two feel identical at 9pm on a Sunday, and they need completely different things. Loneliness wants company. It shows up when the kids are finally asleep, the house goes quiet, and there’s nobody to tell about your day. A partner would ease it. So would a phone call, a walking group, or one friend who texts you back. Wanting a partner is more specific. You picture someone in your actual life doing ordinary things. Bringing in the bins. Sitting through the school concert. Being there on a Wednesday when nothing much is happening. Here’s a test worth trying. Imagine the next six months exactly as they are, but with two good friendships added and no romance at all. If that sounds decent, what you’re after is connection, and you can go and get some this week. If it still sounds flat, it’s a partner. Both answers are fine. They just point somewhere different. Dating from loneliness tends to make the first kind person look like the right person. That’s worth knowing about yourself before you start. Being yourself from the first message sorts the wrong people out faster than any checklist can, which our piece on [honest online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-genuine-advice/) gets into properly. ## **A Realistic Checklist: 10 Questions To Ask Yourself** There’s no pass mark here. More yeses means fewer things to sort first, that’s all. 1. **Can you talk about your ex for five minutes without your chest going tight?** You don’t have to feel warm about them. Neutral is the bar. If you’re widowed, this one’s about whether you can talk about your person without it taking the rest of your day. 2. **Do you want a partner, or do you want a break?** These get mixed up all the time. If what you’re after is one night where nobody asks you for anything, a babysitter and a cinema ticket will do it faster. A relationship coach made a similar point on our podcast about [dating with intention](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/finding-love-again-dating-advice-for-single-mums/) rather than out of restlessness. 3. **Is there one evening a fortnight you can leave the house?** Not in theory. In your actual roster, with actual care sorted. If there isn’t one yet, that’s the first thing to fix. And it’s a scheduling job, not an emotional one. 4. **Would you be alright if they cancelled an hour before?** Annoyed, sure. If a cancellation would land harder than that, your week might be carrying more than one new person should be asked to hold. 5. **Do you know what you’d say if your six-year-old asked where you were going?** You don’t owe your kids the details. An answer that isn’t a lie is worth having ready. Kids notice, and they remember. 6. **What happens if you like them and your kids don’t?** Worth sitting with before it’s real. Almost every mum meets this one eventually. Having thought about it in advance takes some of the heat out of the moment. 7. **Would you tell a friend where you were going and who with?** Wanting privacy is completely fine. Feeling like you have to hide it is a different thing. It usually softens with a bit more time. 8. **Are you dating because you want to, or because your ex has?** Both are human. If it’s the second, the last relationship is still doing the driving. That tends to sort itself out on its own. 9. **What are you like after a knockback?** Someone will leave you on read. It’s a numbers game, not a verdict on you. If that would sit heavily for a fortnight, a bit longer might be kinder. 10. **Can you name three things you like about your life right now?** Not three things you’re grateful for. Three things you actually like. This one takes most of us a minute. Now for the advice I’d push back on. Everyone says burn your dealbreaker list. Half right. The ones about height, hobbies and whether they’ve got a ute can go. The ones about how they treat your children, how they handle the word no, and what they do when you’re busy are worth keeping. [![Three women walk and chat on a suburban sidewalk; one uses forearm crutches and wears a green shirt and black leggings.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/3-single-mum-walking-with-friends-working-out-if-she-wants-connection-or-a-partner-400x268.webp "3-single-mum-walking-with-friends-working-out-if-she-wants-connection-or-a-partner - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/3-single-mum-walking-with-friends-working-out-if-she-wants-connection-or-a-partner.webp) ## **What Does Dating Actually Cost When You’re The Only Parent?** The expensive part isn’t dinner. It’s care. A partnered person decides to go out and goes out. You decide to go out and then need another adult in your house for four hours. That’s the real barrier. Almost nothing written about dating readiness mentions it. So plan around it rather than into it. A daytime coffee on a contact weekend costs nothing extra. A walk costs nothing at all. Save the evening out for someone you’ve already met twice in daylight, which doubles as a screening tool. Now the bit I’d argue with. Every article about starting over tells you to invest in yourself. Somewhere inside that sentence sits a paid matchmaking service. For most single mums, that money mostly distracts from the thing that actually unlocks this, which is care. Six babysat evenings will do more for your dating life than any membership. Swapping care with another single mum beats both. She sits your kids on Thursday, you sit hers on Saturday. No money changes hands, and neither of you has to explain where you’re going. If paid care is your only option, our [member discounts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) are worth a scroll first. ## **Telling The Kids, And When They Should Meet Someone** Your kids don’t need to meet anyone you’ve been seeing for six weeks. The common advice is to wait six months. There’s a better test than the calendar. Stability, not time. Has this survived a disagreement? Has it survived one of you being sick, stressed or broke? A relationship that’s been through something real at four months tells you more than one that’s coasted through eight. Kids are also usually not where you are. They can [still be grieving the family they had](https://www.relationshipsnsw.org.au/blog/introduce-new-partner-to-children/) while you’re feeling hopeful for the first time in ages. Both things are true at once. Yours doesn’t cancel theirs. Keep the first meeting short, public and a bit boring. A park, forty minutes, no announcement. If it falls flat, that’s normal. Nobody bonds to a schedule. Our longer piece on [dating once you’ve got kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-with-kids/) goes further into the introduction itself. ## **When Your Co-Parent Finds Out** They’ll find out, usually sooner than you’d like, and often from a child. That’s the argument for saying it yourself. One plain sentence, before it arrives sideways. You’re not asking permission and you don’t owe details. “I’ve started seeing someone. The kids haven’t met them and won’t for a while” covers it. The research supports taking this seriously. AIFS found conflict between separated parents often rose after one of them repartnered. That was strongest where it happened early and the arrangements for the children were still being settled. Knowing that in advance makes it easier to stay steady if the conversation gets bumpy. One trade-off, stated plainly. All of the above assumes a co-parent who’s safe and reasonable, and plenty are. If yours isn’t, that calculation changes completely. The better first call is free legal advice through Legal Aid in your state, rather than a conversation you have to manage alone. [![Kids meeting a parent's new partner for the first time at a local park](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/4-kids-meeting-a-parents-new-partner-for-the-first-time-at-a-local-park-400x268.webp "4-kids-meeting-a-parents-new-partner-for-the-first-time-at-a-local-park - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/4-kids-meeting-a-parents-new-partner-for-the-first-time-at-a-local-park.webp) ## **Dating Safety When You’re The Only Adult At Home** You’re the only adult in the house, which shifts the maths on a few decisions. These four take about four minutes in total. - Meet somewhere public the first three times. Not their place, not yours. - Tell one person where you’re going, who with, and when you’ll be back. - Get there and home under your own steam. - Reverse-image search their photos before you go. Thirty seconds. Keep your address, your kids’ school and your suburb out of it early on. There are [safety apps worth having on your phone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/) that share your location with a friend while you’re out. Don’t lean on the apps to do this for you. Several of the big dating services signed a voluntary safety code after a federal government roundtable in 2023. But the [eSafety Commissioner has no power to enforce it](https://www.esafety.gov.au/key-topics/staying-safe/online-dating). It’s a promise, not a protection. Your own habits are what’s doing the work. A few behaviours are worth watching rather than explaining away. Pushing to meet your kids in the first month or two. Wanting your suburb before you’ve had their surname. Getting short with you when the children mean you can’t make it. Talking about moving in already. None of that means someone’s dangerous. All of it means slow down and see what they do next. Anyone decent will be fine with slow. And how a person handles a boundary tells you more than anything they say about themselves. If something feels off, leave. You don’t owe anyone politeness. And if you’re worried about how someone is treating you or your children, 1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732, any time of day. ## **What Readiness Looks Like In Five Areas** Readiness isn’t one switch. It’s five, and they flick at different times. | **Area** | **Sign you’re ready** | **Sign to give it time** | **What helps** | |---|---|---|---| | Emotional | You can talk about your ex without your chest tightening | You still rehearse arguments in the shower | A few more months, or a chat with someone who gets it | | Your kids | Their routine is settled and the questions have eased off | A recent move, new school, or fresh upset | Steady them first, take your time in the meantime | | Time | You have a free evening a fortnight with care sorted | Every date needs a favour from someone | Sort reliable care before you download anything | | Co-parenting | You could say it in one plain sentence | The thought of them finding out sits badly | Work out your one sentence, or get advice if it isn’t safe | | Safety | You’re comfortable meeting someone in public on your own | You’re uneasy about anyone knowing where you live | Ring 1800RESPECT before you start | ## **What If The Honest Answer Is Not Yet?** Then it’s not yet, and that’s a real answer rather than a failed test. The mums I know who did this well almost all spent the not-yet stretch on something other than men. Getting one night a fortnight that was properly theirs. Sorting the care arrangement. Asking for a bit of help. There are [free support services across Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/charities-help-single-mothers/) that cost nothing but a phone call, and most of us never use them. There’s something else about that stretch, and I only worked it out afterwards. It’s the one window where you get to decide what you want with nobody else’s opinion in the room. That’s not waiting. That’s the useful part. If the flat feeling has been sitting there for months and nothing shifts it, that’s worth a conversation with your GP rather than a dating app. Lifeline is on 13 11 14 if tonight is a hard one. Six months from now you’ll answer these ten questions differently. Come back then. ## [![Single mum sharing her location with a friend before a first date for safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/5-single-mum-sharing-her-location-with-a-friend-before-a-first-date-for-safety-400x268.webp "5-single-mum-sharing-her-location-with-a-friend-before-a-first-date-for-safety - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/5-single-mum-sharing-her-location-with-a-friend-before-a-first-date-for-safety.webp) ## **Am I Ready To Date Again: Where To Start** Whatever you answered on those ten questions, there’s no wrong answer sitting in there. A no is information, not a verdict on you. Working out whether you’re ready to date again is something most of us do quietly, late, and mostly alone. That’s the part that makes it feel bigger than it is. Said out loud to another mum over a wine, it’s usually much smaller than it looks at midnight. If you take one thing from this, take this one. Readiness is something you build, not something that arrives. Nobody wakes up ready. They get one reliable free evening a fortnight. They tell one friend where they’re going. The rest follows from there. So sort the evening first. Everything after that is smaller than it looks from here. And whenever you do go and have that coffee, next Friday or next year, it’ll be because you decided it. Not because a rule said a year. Not because anyone else’s timeline made you. That’s a good way to start something. ## **FAQ Section** **How do I know if I’m ready to date again as a single mum?** You’re ready when a date would add something to your week rather than fill a gap in it. Practical capacity counts as much as feelings, so check you have a free evening and reliable care before you check your heart. **How long should I wait after separation before dating again?** There’s no waiting period in Australian law or the research, so the popular “wait a year” rule has nothing behind it. The Australian Institute of Family Studies has found men tend to repartner faster than women, with some fathers repartnering within six months of separating. **Should I mention my kids in my dating profile?** Yes, plainly and without apology, because it sorts out anyone who isn’t up for it. You don’t need to say how many, how old, or share any photos of them. **When should my kids meet someone I’m dating?** Wait until the relationship has survived something real, such as a disagreement or a stressful stretch, rather than counting to six months. Children are often still adjusting to the separation long after their mum feels ready. **Do I have to tell my ex I’m dating again?** In most cases there’s no legal obligation, though AIFS research links early repartnering to increased conflict between separated parents. If your parenting orders include terms about who spends time with your children, contact Legal Aid in your state for free advice. **Am I ready to date again if I still think about my ex?** Thinking about them is normal and not a barrier on its own. The signal worth watching is your body, so if talking about them for five minutes still tightens your chest, a bit more time may be kinder. **Is it safe to use dating apps as a single mum?** Yes, with a few habits in place. Several major dating services signed a voluntary Australian safety code after a federal government roundtable in 2023, but it isn’t enforceable, so meet in public, arrange your own transport and tell one person where you’ll be. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-date-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-date-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [The Sick Single Mum Survival Guide: How to Keep Going](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide-2/) **Published:** July 28, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Getting sick is an absolute logistical nightmare. You must immediately drop your parenting standards and fully embrace Minimum Viable Parenting. Stop worrying about the messy house; allow yourself to use daycare. Keep a hidden “feel better box” fully stocked with adult medications and easy snacks before winter even hits. Use free telehealth services for fast medical advice. Order your pharmacy scripts straight to your door to avoid going outside. Most importantly, ditch the mum guilt entirely because resting on the couch is the absolute only way your body will heal. **Quick Takeaways from the Sick Single Mum Survival Guide:** - **Embrace Minimum Viable Parenting:** You must completely lower your household standards. - **Build your kit:** Pack a feel-better box early and hide it until illness strikes. - **Use virtual care:** Utilise telehealth services instead of dragging sick kids to a clinic. - **Drop the guilt:** Stop putting a lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect. There is a very specific brand of dread. It hits when you feel that first tickle in your throat. You hear a dry cough echo through the house. You look at the massive mountain of unfolded laundry. When you’re a single mum, illness feels like a major logistical crisis. We do not have a partner to tap in. Everything is on us. We carry the entire mental load alone. I used to think sleep was something I could easily ignore. I failed miserably at getting enough sleep. I kept burning the candle at both ends. That physical exhaustion makes you highly susceptible to winter viruses. When you’re sick, the normal daily routine must completely stop. Do not write massive to-do lists each day. Stop putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Survival is the absolute only metric that matters this week. You must fully embrace Minimum Viable Parenting. Take some time to chill on the sofa. Find a little me-time amidst the chaos. ## What happens when you get sick as a single mum? **Getting sick as a single mum forces you to immediately lower your parenting standards, prioritise rest over household chores, and use every shortcut available to survive the week.** Getting sick as a single mum truly tests your ultimate endurance. The reality hits hard. Nobody will rescue you from the daily tasks. You must fiercely protect your remaining energy. You need to get some sleep. Make getting enough sleep each day your primary goal. ## How do you handle meals when you cannot cook? **You survive by feeding your children ultra-simple meals from the fridge or freezer, completely ignoring standard nutritional rules until you fully recover.** Cooking requires physical energy you simply do not have. Open your fridge and assess your absolute easiest options. Grab the fruit pouches, rice crackers, and simple cheese sticks. You can easily order takeaway for dinner without any guilt. This is pure survival mode. Before winter hits, load up your freezer. Stash some batch-cooked meals or store-bought meat pies. We rely heavily on frozen dinners whilst we recover. I vividly remember eating dinners whilst I was sick sitting straight on the living room floor. It kept us all fed and happy. Make sure the kids get enough water. They will easily survive a few days of random snacking. You can completely skip your daughter’s bedtime routine. Let the kids sleep in your bed. Your only goal is to rest. ### Three Easy No-Cook Meals for Sick Days When you feel completely exhausted, rely on these incredibly easy options. - **The Snack Plate:** Throw crackers, cheese, and sliced apples on a large plate. Kids love a fun “picnic” dinner. - **Cereal for Dinner:** Pour some milk over their favourite cereal. It fills their tummies fast. - **Toast and Vegemite:** Toast requires almost zero physical effort. Add a banana on the side. ## What goes into an emergency feel-better box? **A sick kit contains adult medications, hydration sachets, easy kid snacks, and secret entertainment options that you hide away until illness strikes.** Do not wait for a nasty fever to hit. Build a feel-better box today. Hide it in the top cupboard away from tiny hands. Pack it with adult cold tablets and throat lozenges. Add some hot lemon drink sachets. Throw in some brand-new colouring books. Keep the digital babysitter ready to go. Let them sit on the couch watching TV. The normal screen-time limits completely vanish when mum is unwell. Screens keep them safe and occupied. They give you the quiet space to close your eyes. ## How can we prioritise our health as solo parents? **Solo mothers must boldly embrace free micro-habits like early bedtimes and strategic resting to build physical resilience against seasonal bugs.** We must strictly prioritise our health. Good parenting requires a fully functioning parent. Do not use the quiet evening to frantically clean the house. Go straight to bed. Your body needs absolute stillness to heal. We carry so much internal guilt as solo mothers. We constantly worry about failing our precious kids. But worrying about being a good parent proves you already are one. You are doing a fantastic job. Let the dirty dishes sit in the sink. When you rest, you can reflect on life. Listen to an audiobook or gentle podcasts. Find a quiet moment to simply breathe. The messy house will wait for you to recover. Read more about beating [**single mum guilt**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) here. ![Sick Single Mum Survival Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/In-article-images-2026-07-28t101834%20400-400x300.jpg "Sick Single Mum Survival Guide - Beanstalk Mums") ## Where can single parents get practical help? **Use government telehealth services for virtual doctor visits, utilise pharmacy delivery apps for medications, and boldly ask your community for doorstep drop-offs.** You cannot safely drag sick children to a medical clinic. Use the free 24/7 [**national health hotline**](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/symptom-checker). A registered nurse can quickly assess your symptoms over the phone. They can even arrange an electronic script for you. It is the absolute easiest way to get medical advice. Do not leave the house if you feel dizzy. Use a smart app to deliver me medication straight to my door. You can also boldly ask a trusted neighbour for help. Most people genuinely want to support single mothers. They will happily drop medical supplies on your front porch. ### How to Build Your Emergency Village You need a reliable support system long before sickness strikes. - **Connect with school mums:** Swap phone numbers with other parents at the school gate. You can easily trade emergency pick-up favours. - **Find local delivery options:** Save the phone numbers of local grocery stores. Ensure they offer fast same-day delivery services. - **Ask family for virtual help:** Grandparents can read stories over a quick video call. This occupies the kids while you rest. ## Why does Beanstalk share these Survival tips? **We provide practical, mum-to-mum strategies because no one understands the brutal exhaustion of solo mothering quite like another single mother.** Beanstalk actively aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues. We fiercely write these guides to share the honest truth about single motherhood. The reality of single parenting is incredibly tough. But you are never truly alone. Single motherhood constantly tests your absolute physical limits. I read an insightful article on Kidspot recently about single mothering struggles. It validated exactly how I felt. Podcast host Julia Hasche also frequently talks about these exact daily challenges. She reminds us all to embrace the beautiful chaos. Sometimes you just need a fast change of scenery. Open a window and let fresh air inside. It helps clear the stale germs out of the house. These small household hacks will practically help you get back on your feet. You will survive this nasty sick day. You can read more about managing financial stress during sick days via our [**single parenting payment**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) guide. ## The Germ Control Checklist **Preventing virus transmission requires strict boundaries around personal hygiene, targeted surface disinfection, and simple physical barriers.** I recently discovered – sick days demand strict hygiene boundaries. You cannot physically isolate yourself from your dependent children. You must tactically track down the household bugs. Wash your hands with warm soapy water constantly. Use antibacterial wipes on all high-touch surfaces. Quickly wipe down doorknobs, taps, and fridge handles. Do not share bath towels with your kids. Retrain your kids to cough directly into their elbows. ## Frequently Asked Questions About Solo Sick Days ### How do I handle single mum guilt when I am too sick to play? You must accept that “good enough” is all your children actually need, and worrying about being a good mother proves you already are one. We constantly question our child-related choices. Single mum guilt flares up quickly when we look around a messy house. But getting your kids fed and keeping them safe is the true measure of success. Perfection is a complete myth. Your children do not need a flawless superwoman. Let them eat cereal for dinner and banish that guilt completely. ### What if my ex complains about the kids getting sick on my watch? You must keep all chats centred strictly on your child and avoid comparing parenting styles. Co-parenting brings out a ton of emotions. If your ex starts a debate, use a co-parenting app to keep things structured and less emotional. Stick strictly to the facts without using any sarcasm or guilt trips. Your child’s health is the only priority. Do not let angry texts fuel the fire. Let go of the small stuff to protect your own peace. ### How do I manage the financial stress of missing work? You should review your Services Australia entitlements; these payments help stabilise your income during illness. Money worries hit fast when you run a household solo. Government payments are specifically designed to help cover everyday living expenses. They provide vital stability during unexpected sick days. Log in to myGov to view your current payment rates. Update any changes to your work hours promptly. This proactive step ensures you get the exact support you need while you recover. ### When should I actually see a doctor? **You must seek professional medical advice if your fever spikes dangerously high or you cannot keep basic fluids down.** Take it from a fellow mum who spent 27 years as a registered nurse: you cannot simply push through a severe secondary infection. Your body demands absolute stillness to heal. Use telehealth services to get a fast electronic script from your bed. If you feel dizzy or short of breath, call for help immediately. Lean heavily on your village and ask a trusted friend to come over. Asking for help makes you wise, not weak. Juggling a burning fever is the absolute hardest part of the single mum gig. But you do not have to do it completely isolated in your dark living room. Come over and **[join our private Facebook community.](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** We call it the SingleMum Vine. It is a safe, completely judgment-free space filled with resourceful mums. We are ready to offer practical advice. We share our own clever hacks. We will just listen to you vent. Grab your hot tea and come join the sisterhood! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide-2/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-sick-single-mum-survival-guide-2/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Where to buy vitamins and supplements online in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/buy-vitamins-supplements-online-australia/) **Published:** May 26, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With Covid an unwelcome visitor in everyday life, vitamins and supplements are more important than ever to keep ourselves and our families in tip-top health. Whether you prefer to stay dosed up as a form of prevention or like an emergency supply if illness hits, shopping for vitamins and supplements online has many benefits, including exclusive online specials and free delivery to your door. Here is a list of trusted online pharmacies to compare before you purchase. ***Further reading: [15 Foods that seriously boost your immune system.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-foods-to-seriously-boost-your-immune-system/)*** ## Where to buy vitamins and supplements online in Australia ### [AUSSIE HEALTH PRODUCTS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2f) Aussie Health Products is the nation’s “favourite” online health food store where many wellness-minded mums buy vitamins and supplements online in Australia. This is the place to get your natural health and beauty items, supplements and bulk organic food. Besides OTC and prescription meds, they offer allergy-free groceries, natural beauty products, eco cleaning products, supplements, superfoods, healthy snacks and bulk groceries from over 300 brands. There’s a wealth of options with more than 5,000 natural products in their inventory, all carefully curated. Plus, their frequent specials ensure you won’t break your wallet. [![Aussie Health | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/Lhj8LBg/Screenshot-2022-05-01-004758.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2f) ***Delivery cost:** $8.95* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Afterpay, Humm, direct deposit* ### [ELITE SUPPS](https://www.elitesupps.com.au/) For the fitness-minded and regular gym-goers, Elite Supplements has you covered. This rapidly growing sports supplement company offers vitamins and supplements online in Australia from big brands like Muscle Nation, ANS Performance, Biotech USA, Optimum Nutrition and more. Discount prices on the widest selection of fitness supplements, a free gift with every order, and a 30-day money-back guarantee are just some of the reasons to buy from this online pharmacy. If you change your mind or are unhappy with your purchase, simply ship it back and get a refund. A great one-stop shop for all your [body supplements](https://www.bodyscience.com.au/). [![Elite Supplements | Vitamins and supplements online in Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/GQnvzbW/Screenshot-2022-05-01-004827.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60251?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.elitesupps.com.au%2f) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $150, otherwise $10 flat rate* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Shop Pay, Google Pay, Apple Pay, Zip Pay, Laybuy* ### [CHEMIST DIRECT](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2f) We’re impressed with Chemist Direct’s product selection: over 10,000 health, beauty and prescription products at the best prices and delivered within 1-2 days to most areas in Australia. Their work with a large network of suppliers and have direct access to shipping routes nationwide to give customers the best online shopping experience. We also like their customer service, with support people and pharmacists available to take your calls Monday to Friday from 9 to 5. And if you can’t find a product at the price point you want, there’s always the Clearance section with less than $2 items and items close to expiry. [![Chemist Direct | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/6XtD6td/Screenshot-2022-05-01-004859.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2f) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $99* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Latitude Pay, Afterpay, Humm* ### [SUPPLEMENT MART](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2f) Looking for sports and wellness vitamins and supplements online in Australia? Look no further than Supplement Mart, home to a huge range of high-quality sports nutrition and wellness brands. Whether it’s protein powders, fat burners, or daily supplements, they have it. This premium supplement store gets rave reviews for its product selection, fast delivery and great customer service. If you have a particular fitness goal, don’t hesitate to reach out to their team of sports nutrition, bodybuilding, lifestyle and wellness professionals who will give you personalised guidance. [![Vitamins and supplements online in Australia | Supplement Mart | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/KbdKd8h/Screenshot-2022-05-01-004929.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2f) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $99, otherwise $9.95 flat rate* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay* ## Where can I buy vitamins online in Australia ### [PHARMACY ONLINE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34879?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.pharmacyonline.com.au%2f) Pharmacy Online is one of the country’s leading discount pharmacies selling 10,000 products from top brands, including those you can’t find in other stores. Why so cheap? According to their website, they use technology to create an efficient fulfillment system that gets rid of overhead expenses and other costs that would have otherwise been passed to the customer. This system ensures that you get affordable supplements, prescriptions and healthcare essentials all under one roof and delivered straight to your door, fast. [![Pharmacy Online | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/GvnQXj7/Screenshot-2022-05-01-005000.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34879?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.pharmacyonline.com.au%2f) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $99* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Zip Pay, Latitude Pay, Zip Pay, Humm, Afterpay* ### [VITABLE](https://vitable.pxf.io/Yg4QYr) Vitable is your one-stop-shop for personalised, subscription supplements. Ever wondered which supplements you should be taking? Vitable takes the guesswork out of the equation and makes the entire process super convenient. You take a short quiz to determine your lifestyle, diet and goals, and you’ll receive 30 sachets of daily vitamins personalised just for you. If you’re worried about the cost of customisation, don’t fret. Their direct-to-consumer retail model means no middlemen margins or overheads, only affordable, high-quality vitamins shipped to your doorstep. [![Vitable | Vitamins and supplements online in Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/cxxnqzS/Screenshot-2022-05-01-005057.jpg)](https://vitable.pxf.io/Yg4QYr) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $30, otherwise $9.95* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Apple Pay, Google Pay* ### [CHEMIST WAREHOUSE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43806&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chemistwarehouse.com.au%2F) On a hunt for bargain vitamins and supplements online in Australia? Head to the country’s “cheapest chemist” and get up to 50% off on prescriptions. Like Pharmacy Online, Chemist Warehouse can offer deeply discounted products by being a massive pharmacy and doing huge trade volumes. Bargain lovers love their price matching. Their website says that if you find a cheaper price on the same item, they will match it and give you 10 percent off the difference. Besides discounts, their product selection is pretty hard to beat. This store is your best bet if you’re on the lookout for a hard-to-find supplement. [![Chemist Warehouse | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/RQfFNcc/Screenshot-2022-05-01-005204.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43806&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chemistwarehouse.com.au%2F) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $50, otherwise $8.95* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Afterpay, Zip Pay, AliPay, Wechat, Bpay* ### [PRICELINE](https://www.priceline.com.au/) Priceline is unlike other online pharmacies with their focus on health and beauty products and services. Their popular Sister Club is the country’s biggest health and beauty program with its 7 million members. The revamped club now offers better rewards and exclusives. Even if you’re not a member, you can still enjoy regular specials, a wide range of products, fast shipping and great customer service. Priceline gets top marks on overall satisfaction, value for money, service and pharmacist availability, according to Canstar Blue’s 2021 review of 14 retailers. [![Priceline | Vitamins and supplements online in Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/xsDV449/Screenshot-2022-05-01-005235.jpg)](https://www.priceline.com.au/) ***Delivery cost:** Free shipping on orders over $50, otherwise $9.95* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Vitamins-supplements-online-Australia.png "Vitamins supplements online Australia - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/buy-vitamins-supplements-online-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/buy-vitamins-supplements-online-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** health, making deicisons, immune, feel better --- ### [Pro tips on how to name kids' school stuff](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/name-kids-school-stuff/) **Published:** October 1, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Getting your kids ready for school with everything they need for a successful year is a huge mission. Ensuring it makes it home again at the end of each day is even bigger. Labelling your kids many school items is an essential task but sometimes it can be hard to know the right way to go about it. Name labels need to withstand the rigours of little hands, lots of use and the general mayhem of school. Having had years of practice in which I learned what works and what is a waste of time, I’m going to guide you through labelling different school items so anything that belongs to your kids will stay with your kids. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Further support: [Back to school costs and how to stop them sky rocketing.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/back-to-school-costs-and-how-to-stop-them-sky-rocketing/) ## LABELLING SCHOOL UNIFORMS ### Stick on labels Stick on labels are very popular if you want to name kids school stuff and nowadays you don’t even need an iron! They are made from high quality vinyl and you’d think they come off in the wash … but they don’t. I have even found them to stay fully intact after the tumble dryer. My kids always liked the labels from [Stuck On You](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/wrap-stick-clothing-labels.html) because we could customise the design to whatever they were into at the time. ### Iron on labels If you don’t mind using the iron, iron-on labels are still widely available and some would say they are more resilient than the stick-on clothes labels but the jury is still out for me. Again, they can designed to your little ones taste and colour of the moment. To use, apply the sticker to the uniform and press in place with a warm iron. For a great range of iron on labels try [Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/). [![Iron On Name Labels Value Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Iron-on-labels-kit-gallery_trust_au_bsk_2024_v2-800x800.jpg "Iron-on-labels-kit-gallery_trust_au_bsk_2024_v2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/iron-on-labels-kit.html) ### Permanent marker pen Permanent marker pens are actually really good for labelling school uniform. No time to design, download or buy custom labels? Use permanent markers specially designed for fabric (usually more expensive than regular Sharpies) to write your child’s name on the inside of the fabric. Or write their name on masking tape and tape the label to the uniform. I’ll be honest, once my girls were over the cute designs, using a sharpie was the easiest option and avoided the issue of other students pulling the labels off when they reached high school. Sadly this does happen. ### Washi tape For the creative mum and child, washi tape can be a fun alternative to plain name labels. Washi tape is tape printed with different designs, patterns and colours, so your child can choose their favourite. You can even create custom Washi tape designs online. The sky’s the limit! This can take more time than sticking labels on uniforms, but it’s an activity you can enjoy together. Washi tape is also good for older kids who find naming items very uncool but do need to identify what belongs to them! Here’s a really good earth-friendly one I found at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9VQAX5). ## NAMING SCHOOL SHOES School shoes can be one of the most expensive back-to-school items on your list, so labelling them is a must. Use plastic or vinyl sticker labels that are easy to read and stick them on the inside of the shoes. Fancy monograms are wayyy trendy. You can buy actual shoe labels at some of the specialist naming stores, here are some from [Stuck On You](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/65304?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.stuckonyou.com.au%2flabels%2fspecialty%2fshoe-labels). Keep an eye on the shoes and make sure the labels stay on. I found they’d move and eventually side-off every couple of months. Keep replacing, as stickers are cheaper to replace than shoes. ## LABELLING SCHOOL STATIONERY Stationery is pretty easy to label, but if you have multiple children and lots of supplies, I suggest getting organised nice and early. Set aside a space, like a desk or dining table, to collect all the supplies and labels in one place. Next, organise the supplies and stickers by child’s name or by their favourite colour. Then it’s all a matter of sticking the labels onto the stationery. Just make sure to get the right size stickers; you want them big enough to be legible but small enough to fit all your school supplies. ### Rubber Stamp Labels If you have heaps of school supplies to label then you could rubber stamp them. Granted, you need to pre-order the stamp and have it customised and delivered, but it’s a one-time deal. Then it’s just a matter stamping away which I have to say is very satisfying. Permanent ink is guaranteed not to rub off of pencils, glue sticks and hard-to-label items. ## LUNCHBOX AND WATER BOTTLE Without name labels, lunch boxes and water bottles can be easily lost in communal storage. Keep your kids food and drink out of the lost and found with waterproof stick on labels that can stand up to daily use. Alternatively, you can buy personalised lunch boxes and water bottles to make your little ones feel super special. Check you the range at [Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/premium-metal-drink-bottles.html), where we found the below. [![Personalised Gifts | Bright Star Kids | Kids Gifts | Kids Gift Shop](https://bsk-media.com/media/widgets/2021-BSK-Metal-Drink-Bottle_ST_ETCH_CG_V2.jpg)](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/premium-metal-drink-bottles.html) ## SCHOOL BAG TAGS Kids keep everything in their bags and backpacks so it’s almost always a disaster when these are misplaced. Use waterproof sticker labels with your child’s name clearly visible and readable. Not into labels? Instead of stickers, you can attach name tags like keychains to the bags. ## OTHER THINGS TO LABEL School supplies like books, notebooks, pencil cases and expensive items like bags, school uniforms and shoes are all on our list of must-label items for back to school. If you’re not sure what else to label, think about what your kids are likely to lose at school or on the way home. The list is long and includes but is not limited to: - Sports equipment - Binders - Phones and laptops - Individual food containers inside lunch bags - Raincoats - Hats Don’t get stressed if you anticipate that labelling is going take up too much time. Do it in batches and make it fun! Set an hour or so each day or when you’re free and catch up on your favoruite TV show (or listen to some soothing tunes) while you’re at it. ![Name kids school stuff | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Name-kids-school-stuff.png "Name kids school stuff - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/name-kids-school-stuff/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/name-kids-school-stuff/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School **Tags:** labels, naming --- ### [Co-Parenting Changeovers in Winter: Smooth Handovers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/co-parenting-changeovers-in-winter-smooth-handovers/) **Published:** July 23, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Co-parenting changeovers in winter amplify the physical and emotional stress of transitioning children between homes. To minimise friction, parents should eliminate the need to pack bags by keeping duplicate winter essentials at both houses, aim for daylight or school-based transitions, and establish comforting homecoming rituals that allow children to safely decompress.** **Quick Takeaways:** - **Eliminate Bag Lag:** A key strategy for co-parents to streamline the child handover when co-parenting. Keeping duplicate winter essentials like coats and pyjamas at both homes completely removes the stress of packing oversized bags in the freezing rain. - **Establish Soft Homecomings:** Creating a quiet, predictable routine when your child returns helps their nervous system settle as they transition between two different household environments or living arrangements. - **Keep Logistical Boundaries Clear:** Managing your own emotional response during cold, dark changeovers sets a calm, safe tone for your children, especially when emotions are high. - **Adjust Schedules:** If possible, shift changeovers to earlier in the afternoon before it gets dark, or use school drop-offs as a neutral buffer zone. - **Shop Smart for Duplicates:** Offset the financial burden of buying double the winter gear by utilising school second-hand pools, local buy-nothing groups, and online marketplaces ## The Freezing Reality of the Winter Changeover A specific type of solo parenting exhaustion peaks on dark, freezing Sundays at 5:00 PM. You stand in a bleak, wind-swept car park with chattering teeth. You try to juggle an oversized puffer jacket, a bulging backpack, and a leaky water bottle. Beside you is a grumpy, overtired child. They feel overwhelmed by shifting between two entirely different homes. This challenge is often faced by separated parents navigating parenting arrangements after separation or divorce. Winter adds a heavy layer of physical friction to our already packed co-parenting arrangements. When the weather is miserable, everyone’s fuse is shorter. The traffic is terrible, and transition anxiety peaks. We cannot change the weather, but we can plan ahead. We can turn these icy handovers into safe, warm transitions for our little rascals. Simply introduce comforting homecoming rituals and simplify logistics. This ensures we always focus on the child’s best interests. ## What are the best co-parenting changeover strategies for winter? **The most effective winter co-parenting changeover strategies focus on minimising travel-day friction and duplicate organization. Keep basic cold-weather clothing (like coats, pyjamas, and toiletries) at both houses to eliminate packing stress. Coordinate schedules via shared digital calendars to ensure handovers occur before dark. This reduces transition anxiety during stormy weather, which is foundational for successful co-parenting.** When the temperature drops, you do not want to argue on a driveway about a missing jumper. The absolute best strategy for winter survival is drastically reducing what travels back and forth. Lugging massive bags through the rain invites a meltdown for everyone. This is especially true if you navigate a high-conflict dynamic. Instead, look at adjusting the timing of your child handover arrangements. Does your parenting plan or do your court orders allow flexibility? Try moving the changeover time to the end of a school day or daycare drop-off. The school acts as a neutral buffer zone. A weekend swap may be unavoidable when you share time. If so, aim for an earlier afternoon slot before winter darkness sets in. This naturally keeps the mood lighter when you collect the children. ## How can I help my child adjust during winter handovers? **Ease transition distress by establishing a consistent homecoming ritual. You might serve a warm snack, play cozy music, or schedule quiet downtime. Avoid scheduled drop-offs when children are tired or hungry. Create an emotionally safe environment—like a “circle of trust”—so kids can decompress freely. This ultimately supports the child’s needs.** Children after separation experience unseen emotional turbulence when moving between houses. Winter fatigue also makes it harder for them to regulate. They aren’t just moving between spaces. They are adjusting to different rules, energies, and expectations in their care arrangements. Our job during a handover is to act as their emotional shock absorber. We must exercise our parental responsibility thoughtfully. Resist the urge to quiz them about your ex’s house the second they buckle up. Give them space. Validate that switching houses can feel a bit weird sometimes. Let them decompress at their own pace without any pressure to perform. ![co-parenting changeovers in winter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/In-article-images-2026-07-23t143025%20314.jpg "In-article images - 2026-07-23t143025 314 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Homecoming Ritual: Melting the Winter Chill **When your child walks through the door—perhaps coming home from school—their sensory cup is full. Do not dive straight into homework or bedroom cleaning. Establish a predictable, cozy routine instead. This signals to their nervous system that they are safe at Mum’s house. Children thrive on this kind of consistency.** Have a warm Milo or a plate of hot buttery toast waiting on the kitchen bench. Turn on some low, relaxing music and pop the heater on. Let them choose their own decompression path. If they want to sit in complete silence on the couch for twenty minutes, let them. If they want to read a book in their pyjamas, let it happen. Let them retreat into a comfortable space without immediate questions. This quickly melts away transition tension and smoothly helps you care for the child. ### The Winter Changeover Checklist To protect your sanity and stop the endless text messages about forgotten items, aim to keep duplicates of the winter basics at both properties. It cuts down on bag weight and stops the frantic garage searches on Monday morning. Try to ensure both households have a dedicated set of these winter essentials as part of your overall arrangements after separation: - **The Heavy Layers:** One high-quality waterproof raincoat and a thick winter fleece. - **Bedtime Basics:** Two pairs of warm flannel pyjamas and a reliable sleeping sack for toddlers and younger children. - **Daily Toiletries:** Dedicated toothbrushes, hairbrushes, and skin creams so nothing travels in bags. - **School Uniform Spares:** At least one spare set of trackpants and a school jumper at each house to prevent laundry emergencies. - **Warm Extremities:** A stock of thick woollen socks, beanies, and gumboots for wet weather play. ## Keeping Handovers Polite When It’s Freezing **Your children are incredibly attuned to your body language and emotional energy during a handover. If you are visibly tense, checking your watch, or sighing deeply, they will internalise that stress before they even step out of the car. Managing this proactively is a critical part of maintaining a functional co-parenting relationship while co-parenting after separation.** Keep the interaction brief, professional, and entirely focused on immediate logistics, almost like a business meeting. If it is pouring rain and freezing cold, a polite nod and a quick “Thanks, see you Tuesday” is completely acceptable, even if you are dealing with new partners or navigating a high-conflict situation. Save any complex discussions about school fees, holiday schedules, or future arrangements for your children for an email or a specialised co-parenting app later in the week when the kids are asleep. ## What are the financial impacts of maintaining duplicate winter households? **Maintaining two sets of winter wardrobes and winter household supplies places a significant financial burden on single-income households. Navigating these extra seasonal costs requires careful budgeting, maximisation of government family support payments, and utilising community clothing pools.** If financial disputes arise, seeking dispute resolution or a mediator is often much more cost-effective than immediately hiring a family lawyer. When you are solo parenting, buying double sets of expensive winter items like heavy blankets, heaters, and weatherproof boots can stretch your cash flow to its absolute limit. It is vital to know exactly what financial support you have coming in so you can plan for these seasonal spikes. For a clear, simple guide on maximising your fortnightly budget, check out our breakdown on [**Single Parenting Payment Rates: Services Australia Update Explained**.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) To keep these duplicate costs manageable, never buy retail if you can avoid it. School second-hand clothing pools, local buy-nothing groups, and online marketplaces are absolute goldmines for sourcing cheap winter bundles. For current independent data on shifting Australian consumer living costs and tips on household budgeting, you can check out the latest tracking resources via the **[Australian Financial Review.](https://www.afr.com/)** ## Frequently Asked Questions About Winter Handovers #### What if my ex is consistently late during bad winter weather? If transit delays, something unexpected, or storms make your usual changeover spot unsafe or freezing, move the drop-off indoors. Suggest a public, heated space like a local community library, a shopping centre play area, a cozy local cafe, or even a McDonald’s. This keeps everyone warm, removes the stress of waiting in a dark car park, and naturally encourages polite behaviour because you are in a public setting. #### How do I handle it if my child returns without their winter coat? It is incredibly frustrating when expensive gear gets left behind, but try to avoid making it a battleground in front of your child. Keep a cheap, backup winter coat stashed in your car boot just in case. Send a calm text message later requesting the item be returned at the next swap, keeping the conversation strictly polite and focused on the logistics, which is ultimately what is best for your children. #### Is it normal for my child to misbehave right after a changeover? Yes, this is completely normal and is often called “restraint collapse.” Children hold their big emotions together during the emotionally charged stress of the handover, and the second they feel safe with you, they let those big feelings out. For reassuring signs that you are handling these tough parenting moments beautifully, read our article on Single Mum Guilt: Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job. Co-parenting through the cold months is a massive test of endurance, and you do not have to figure out the logistics all on your own. If you ever need legal advice regarding Australian family law and your rights regarding shared parental responsibility, consider speaking to counsel or attempting mediation to clarify things. Otherwise, come over and **[join our private Facebook community, the SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**. It is a warm, completely judgment-free space filled with thousands of single mums who are swapping tips, sharing their winter survival checklists, and offering a virtual hug when the handovers get tough. Pop the kettle on and come join our digital village! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/co-parenting-changeovers-in-winter-smooth-handovers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/co-parenting-changeovers-in-winter-smooth-handovers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation --- ### [Online fabric stores Australia: Our pick of the best](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/online-fabric-stores-australia/) **Published:** December 29, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you need fabric fast see my list of online fabric stores in Australia. Only a couple of weeks ago my daughter changed classes and started Fashion. Soon after came the request that she needed 2 metres of fabric to make a pair of shorts for a lesson *this week*. I work full-time so can’t get to the shops. Now what? Thank goodness for online fabric stores. Having been in a similar situation before with my other daughter, I knew exactly where to head to find the material we needed. This list is to help you if you get caught in the same predicament and find yourself frantically hunting for online fabric stores in Australia. ## Buy fabric online Australia ### [SPOTLIGHT](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fsewing-fabrics%2ffabric-by-the-metre) One of my go-to online fabric stores is Spotlight. Their Fabric By the Metre section has thousands of cute and sophisticated designs that always make me want to hoard, haha. They have all types of fabric, from cotton to linen to satin, and they sell big brands like AFL, Disney, Harry Potter, Velcro, and more. It’s super easy to find what you want ( I like to sort by price and popularity to see cheap, trendy fabrics), and most orders can be delivered straight to your home. [![Spotlight](https://www.spotlightstores.com/medias/BP80579202.jpg-SPOTWF-productHero?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3w5ODc5N3xpbWFnZS9qcGVnfGltYWdlcy9oODAvaDQ4LzE0MzY5NTgyNzQzNTgyL0JQODA1NzkyMDIuanBnX1NQT1RXRl9wcm9kdWN0SGVyb3xiNjNjMDVkMzRlNzM5NzY3MGI5MTQyNjVhMjVhYjVkOWYwNDhmZjBkMmZhY2ExNDc3YmIyODhlMDk0YzlkODY5)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fsewing-fabrics%2ffabric-by-the-metre) An example fabric from: [Spotlight Stores](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fsewing-fabrics%2ffabric-by-the-metre) ### [BIG W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QO7vVM) Don’t you just love Big W? They have everything and I mean everything that a family could possibly need, including fabric for your craft and sewing projects! While their selection is tiny and variety is limited (only 20 fabrics listed when this article was written), they have affordable plain and patterned fabrics as well as supplies like crochet thread and embroidery hoops. A bundle of craft fabric starts at around $6. [![Buy Fabric Online | Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h2a/hb1/14383611772958.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/QO7vVM) An example fabric from: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QO7vVM) ### [ETSY](https://www.etsy.com/search?q=fabric&instant_download=false) Etsy is the home of crafters and creative people, so I always make a stop here when fabric shopping. I know I can always find a wide range of unique and vintage designs like this lovely set of Japanese scraps that’s perfect for quilts and bags. Pricing can vary depending on the type of fabric, but I can usually find quality designs for around $10-20 per bundle or yard. ![Etsy](https://i.etsystatic.com/8469272/r/il/4869df/1341449024/il_1140xN.1341449024_7kzu.jpg) An example fabric from: [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/search?q=fabric&instant_download=false) ### [CLOTH EDIT](https://clothedit.com.au/collections/cloth) If you’re a serious sewist, head to Cloth Edit for beautiful fabrics, patterns, and sewing supplies. This shop specialises in unique fabrics and sustainable, natural fibres for designer and RTW clothing. They have a decent selection (238 items) of fabric types and designs, from cotton and linen to tweeds and silk. Pricing varies depending on material and how much you’re buying. Don’t forget to check their “Sale” section for specials. [![Buy Fabric Online | Cloth Edit](https://i.ibb.co/6RqB9mt/1.jpg)](https://clothedit.com.au/collections/cloth) An example fabric from: [Cloth Edit](https://clothedit.com.au/collections/cloth) ## Online fabric stores Australia ### [AMAZON AUSTRALIA](https://amzn.to/3UdsW7l) If you can’t find a certain type of fabric at your local online store, chances are you’ll find it on Amazon. I found some cute fabric scraps here for laptop bags I was making for holiday gifts. I also found Inkjet fabric that’s ideal for printing, cross-stitch cloth, and super shiny, glittery faux leather sheets for fun crafts. The options are nearly endless. Again, cost per metre/yard depends on the type of fabric. ![Amazon Au](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81NWXS+KA+S._AC_SL1000_.jpg) An example fabric from: [Amazon AU](https://amzn.to/3UdsW7l) ### [ALI EXPRESS](https://www.aliexpress.com/w/wholesale-fabrics-for-sewing.html?spm=a2g0o.productlist.search.0) The biggest draw of Ali Express for me is the (almost) wholesale pricing and fabric variety. If you happen to be making holiday costumes for an entire class, definitely head to Ali Express to get your materials. To find what I want quickly, I like to sort by fabric type, feature (breathable, elastic, windproof, etc.), and price. I also tick the boxes next to “Sale”, “Free Shipping,” and star ratings. [![Buy Fabric Online | Ali Express](https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/Sa7f487fe64374d05900e9e533531292bv/20x30cm-50-143cm-Meetee-Suede-Fabric-Self-adhesive-Adhesive-Cloth-for-Car-Interior-Modification-Door-Panel.jpg_Q90.jpg)](https://www.aliexpress.com/w/wholesale-fabrics-for-sewing.html?spm=a2g0o.productlist.search.0) An example fabric from: [Ali Express](https://www.aliexpress.com/w/wholesale-fabrics-for-sewing.html?spm=a2g0o.productlist.search.0) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/online-fabric-stores-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/online-fabric-stores-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping **Tags:** fashion, textiles, fabric, material, sewing --- ### [Stop Waiting: Heal & Rebuild Your Life After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/stop-waiting-rebuild-your-life-after-divorce/) **Published:** July 20, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## **Listen here…** **Quick Takeaways on how to rebuild your life after divorce** - **Time doesn’t heal everything:** Just waiting around won’t fix your confidence or stop you from repeating the same mistakes. Healing takes actual work. - **Protect your morning:** Don’t reach for your phone the second you wake up. Spend a few minutes just “being” before you start your endless to-do list. - **Feed your brain good stuff:** Swap out doom-scrolling and negative news for inspiring podcasts or audiobooks while you drive or clean. - **Set the rules:** Boundaries are not about controlling your ex; they are about deciding what behaviour you will accept in your life. - **Use the 60-second pause:** When your phone blows up with angry texts, you do not have to reply right away. Take back your power by choosing *when* you respond. We are often told that time heals all wounds, but for a single mum dealing with a messy divorce, waiting around just keeps you stuck. To actually rebuild your life, you have to take action. Control what you listen to, set firm rules with your ex, and use simple tools like the “pause” to protect your peace. You don’t need hours of free time to do this; you can start taking your power back right now, right in the middle of your daily chaos. ## Why the “Time Heals” Advice Is a Trap When your marriage falls apart, well-meaning friends will often tell you, “Just give it time”. They might tell you to “get over it” or say things could be worse. But when you are the one packing the lunchboxes, managing the laundry, and figuring out how to pay the bills on a single income, just waiting for time to pass is a trap. Time alone does not fix your shattered confidence. If you do not actively work on your own healing, you carry that heavy baggage right into your next chapter. Sandra, the founder of Women on Transition, knows this firsthand. After her first marriage broke down, she didn’t do the deep work to heal. Because she still struggled with low self-worth, she ended up in a second marriage that also ended in a messy divorce 12 years later. She learned the hard way that you are the common denominator in your life. To break the cycle, you have to focus on building yourself back up. > *“Healing does not just heal with time. You know, there’s a lot of old, bitter, angry people out there resentful and triggered by their ex… because they’re caught up in the past and not healing and growing.”* — Sandra ## How to Heal When You Have Zero Free Time It is easy to say you need to “work on yourself.” It is much harder to actually do it when you are totally tapped out and running on zero energy. You might barely have five minutes to drink a cup of coffee while it is still hot. The good news is you do not need hours of free time to start healing. You can squeeze it into the messy parts of your day. Sandra started her healing journey while driving three hours to drop her kids off for visits with their dad. Instead of listening to sad songs or negative news on the radio, she loaded up her CD player with stories of people overcoming massive struggles. You have to change what you feed your brain. You can also start writing daily affirmations on your bathroom mirror. When you brush your teeth, look at yourself and say, “I am enough” or “I am a great mum”. It might feel silly at first, but it slowly trains your mind to believe it. Another simple trick is changing your morning routine. Instead of waking up and immediately checking your phone for messages, leave it alone. Lay in bed for just a few extra minutes. Decide *who* you want to be that day before you start focusing on what you have to *do*. ## Setting Unbreakable Boundaries Setting boundaries is one of the hardest things for a single mum to do, especially when your confidence is low. But without them, you will feel completely out of control. A boundary is not a weapon you use to control your ex-partner. It is simply a rule you create for your own life about what you will and will not put up with. You have to decide your non-negotiables. You also have to remember that your kids are watching everything you do. They are 50% you and 50% their dad. When they hear you badmouth him, it hurts them deeply. Having strong boundaries means you act like the adult, even when your ex does not. It means you stop fighting in front of the kids and you show them what emotional strength looks like. ![rebuild your life after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/In-article-images-2026-07-20t114602%20170.jpg "In-article images - 2026-07-20t114602 170 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The 60-Second “Pause” Protocol So, what do you do when your ex blows up your phone? Sandra remembers a day she walked away from her phone and came back to 50 missed calls and 130 abusive text messages. It put her straight into a state of panic and trauma. This is when you need to use the power of the “pause”. When the phone starts pinging, your heart races and you want to fight back or freeze. But you can choose to take back your control. - **Stop and breathe:** You do not have to reply right away. - **Send a holding text:** If you need to, just say, “I will think about this and get back to you tomorrow”. - **Set a schedule:** Tell your ex you will only check and respond to messages at 10:00 AM and 2:00 PM. - **Stick to it:** Do not jump every time the phone dings. Stop giving him free rent in your head. By doing this, you are telling him that you are still open to talking about the kids, but you are doing it on your own terms. ## Reclaiming Your Joy and Fun Ultimately, doing this work is about getting your life back. A lot of single mums forget how to even have fun. When Sandra asked women what their hobbies were, many said they were just trying to survive the day. At the Women on Transition events, they teach women how to live big again. One woman went to a retreat and danced for the first time in 25 years because her ex-husband had made fun of her dancing at their wedding. They take women quad biking and remind them that the sky is the limit. You do not have to just survive this chapter. You completely deserve to step into a brilliant, happy, and fun next act. > *“Life did not go to plan. However, we get to choose every step from here… we can choose how we do things differently moving forward and be kind to ourselves while we’re learning.”* — Sandra **Ready to stop just surviving and start thriving?** **Join the Beanstalk Mums inner circle.** Get the inside scoop, real talk, and exclusive, zero-fluff resources delivered straight to your inbox to help you fiercely love your life again: \[Insert Email Subscribe Link Here\]. --- ## Links for this episode: 🤝 **Ready to take the first step?** Join Sandra at the **[Women on Transition 3-Day Reset Event](https://resetandshine.com/?am_id=ellesitek7947)** 🎧 **Listen to the [Women on Transition Podcast](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6p7YpOznLIRPdv39O392TFllJKLADImS)** for more insights. 👯‍♀️ **Don’t forget to join** the **[Single Mum Vine on Facebook!](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🗣️ **Drop us a voice message** with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. 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Eight weeks after my separation, I was sitting in a Centrelink waiting room with a crumpled ticket and a folder of papers I didn’t fully understand. Looking around, I saw plenty of other mums with that same “where do I even start?” expression. Starting over is expensive, but the real “hidden” cost is the time lost to confusion. When you’re juggling kids and a tight budget, every week spent wondering which professional to call is a week you aren’t moving toward your own front door. In Australia, there are about 1.2 million single-parent families, and let’s be real: the system still acts like everyone has two incomes and two signatures. Here’s how to cut through the noise, stabilise your world, and get back on the property ladder. ## The First 30 Days: Financial Triage Your first job isn’t to plan the next ten years; it’s to make sure next week is safe. - **Safety First:** If you’re dealing with domestic violence, you’re entitled to 10 days of paid FDV leave under the National Employment Standards. Use it for court, moving, or meeting with a solicitor without losing your pay. - **Lock Down Your Cash:** Open a bank account in your name only. Redirect your pay and any benefits there immediately. Change your passwords and kill off any joint access to redraws or offset accounts. - **Centrelink Update:** Tell Services Australia about your change in status ASAP. As of March 2025, the Parenting Payment Single is around $982.50 per fortnight. Use their online calculators to get a realistic view of your new “normal.” - **The “Life File”:** Start a folder (digital or physical) with everything: bank statements, super, car rego, and any debt letters. If you’re overwhelmed, the Family Relationship Advice Line (1800 050 321) is a great free starting point. ## Building Your A-Team ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-vlada-karpovich-7433845-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-vlada-karpovich-7433845 - Beanstalk Mums") You don’t need a village; you need a few experts who actually get it. Start with a family lawyer or Family Dispute Resolution (FDR). Mediation (FDR) is usually cheaper and faster if things are amicable. However, if there’s coercive control or assets are being hidden, go straight to a lawyer. For those in North Queensland, things can get complicated if you’ve also been dealing with a work or road injury. If your ability to work is affected, it changes your borrowing power and your child support. In these cases, speaking with [townsville lawyers](https://www.townsvillecompensationlawyers.com.au/) who understand both injury claims and property splits is a smart move to ensure you aren’t leaving money on the table. You’ll also want a broker and an accountant. The accountant tidies up your tax (essential for loan apps), and the broker checks your “serviceability”—the bank’s way of asking, “Can she actually afford this on one income?” It’s also worth booking a session with a firm offering [financial advice Melbourne](https://www.listonnewton.com.au/melbourne/financial-advisors) locals trust, or an equivalent planner in your own city, to map out how the pieces fit together long-term rather than just what’s needed to get the loan approved. ## Navigating the Legal Red Tape Timing is everything in property settlements. You generally have 12 months from a divorce or 2 years from a de facto split to finalise property matters in court. A huge win for mums: since June 2025, courts must now consider the economic impact of family violence when splitting assets. If violence held back your career or drained your finances, make sure your lawyer knows. Lenders generally want to see Consent Orders (court-approved agreements). It shows them the deal is final and you aren’t going to be hit with a surprise legal bill or a change in assets three months after you buy. ## Cracking the Deposit Code ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-3.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") The old “20% deposit” rule is great if you’ve got it, but most single mums don’t. Here is how to get in sooner: 1. **Family Home Guarantee:** This is a lifesaver. Eligible single parents can buy with as little as a 2% deposit without paying Lenders Mortgage Insurance (LMI). 2. **Queensland’s Boost to Buy:** This is a shared-equity scheme where the government chips in up to 30% for a new home (or 25% for existing). You still only need a 2% deposit. 3. **First Home Super Saver (FHSS):** If you’ve got time, you can pull out voluntary super contributions (up to $50k total) to use for your home. 4. **The Grants:** Queensland’s First Home Owner Grant is $30,000 for new builds until mid-2026. Plus, there are huge stamp duty concessions—often $0 duty for homes up to $700,000. ## Choosing a Sustainable Budget A bank might tell you that you can borrow $500k, but that doesn’t mean you should. When you’re the sole breadwinner, your budget needs to cover: - Mortgage repayments (at higher rates, just in case). - Council rates and water. - Body corporate fees (if you’re looking at a townhouse or unit). - The “Oops” Fund (for when the hot water system inevitably dies). Don’t forget the “lifestyle tax.” A cheaper house two suburbs further away might cost you more in fuel, childcare, and sanity. Sometimes paying a bit more to be near school and support is the more “affordable” choice. ## Don’t Sign Without a Review When you finally find “the one,” the pressure to sign is huge. Don’t do it until a professional looks at the contract. In Queensland, the “unconditional” date is the point of no return. You want someone to check the fine print for easements, zoning issues, or body corporate nightmares before your deposit is at risk. Getting a [buyers solicitor](https://www.cairnsconveyancingsolicitor.com.au/buying-property/) to review the contract before you’re locked in is the best insurance policy you can buy. They can flag if the settlement dates are too tight for your bank or if there’s a hidden flood risk you didn’t notice. ## Keeping the Books Clean ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-4.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Lenders love consistency. If you’re self-employed, get your BAS up to date and make sure your tax returns match what you’re telling the bank. Clean up your “financial skin” by: - Closing unused credit cards. - Ditching “Buy Now, Pay Later” services (lenders hate these). - Ensuring child support is documented and regular. Starting January 2026, eligible families can access at least 72 hours of subsidised childcare per fortnight. Factor this into [your budget](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/ "your budget")—it could significantly boost your “spare” cash in the eyes of a lender. ## Your Progress Scoreboard It feels like a mountain, but you’re probably higher up than you think. Track these wins: - \[ \] Direct debits moved to your new account. - \[ \] Centrelink status updated. - \[ \] Asset schedule completed. - \[ \] Pre-approval from a broker. - \[ \] Solicitor review of a contract. Rebuilding is a marathon, not a sprint. Take the small wins where you can, get the right experts in your corner, and remember: you’re not just buying a house, you’re building a foundation for your family’s new chapter. You’ve got this. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/guide-to-lawyers-accountants-and-property-buying/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/guide-to-lawyers-accountants-and-property-buying/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [The Independent Mum's Guide to Slashing Winter Power Bills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-independent-mums-guide-to-slashing-winter-power-bills/) **Published:** July 16, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Let’s be honest: there are few things more anxiety-inducing than the gentle *thud* of the winter electricity bill landing in the letterbox, or the silent ping of a utility email hitting your inbox in mid-August. For single mums running a household on a single income, [winter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/super-easy-winter-wellness-activities-to-boost-your-health/) is the ultimate financial balancing act. On one hand, you are managing grocery inflation, school fees, and the endless cost of living. On the other hand, the temperature has dropped to four degrees overnight, the house feels like an industrial freezer, and keeping the kids warm is your absolute top priority. When faced with a freezing house and a tight budget, many independent mums fall into a common, incredibly expensive trap: the plug-in column heater. We have all done it. You buy a cheap, $40 oil heater from a local department store, plug it into the kids’ bedroom, and assume you are saving money because you aren’t running the “big, expensive” air conditioner on the wall. Unfortunately, this well-intentioned logic is completely backward. It is time to demystify household heating and empower yourself with the knowledge to stay warm without dreading the next billing cycle. ## The Plug-In Heater Trap To take control of your utility bills, you have to understand the basic mathematics of heat generation. Cheap, portable electric heaters — whether they are oil columns, radiant bar heaters, or fan heaters — operate on a principle of raw electrical resistance. To produce one kilowatt of heat energy, they must consume exactly one kilowatt of electrical energy from your wall socket. This 1:1 ratio makes them the most expensive, inefficient way to heat a room. Running a standard 2400-watt column heater in your child’s bedroom for eight hours a night can easily add $100 to $150 to your quarterly electricity bill. If you run two of them in different rooms, you are practically throwing money away. ## The Reverse-Cycle Advantage Conversely, the reverse-cycle air conditioner sitting on your living room wall operates on a completely different physical principle. Instead of *creating* heat from scratch, it acts like a sponge. The outdoor compressor absorbs trace amounts of heat from the outside air (even on a freezing night), amplifies it, and pumps it inside. Because it is moving heat rather than creating it, a modern inverter air conditioner is astonishingly efficient. It can produce three to four kilowatts of heat for every single kilowatt of electricity it uses. That makes it up to 400% more efficient than a plug-in heater. If you want to slash your winter power bill, you need to turn the cheap portable heaters off, pack them away in the garage, and utilise the reverse-cycle system that your home already has. ## The Hidden Cost of Neglect ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-gabby-k-5849565-1200x704.jpg "Pexels-gabby-k-5849565 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by monstera production](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/person-with-bills-for-goods-or-services-5849565/) However, there is a catch. A reverse-cycle air conditioner is only cheaper to run if it is actually in good working condition. As a busy mum, maintenance tasks like checking the air conditioner often fall to the very bottom of the mental-load to-do list. But neglecting this machine is a fast track to financial waste. If your wall unit is low on refrigerant gas, or if the internal coils are suffocated by six months of summer dust, the compressor has to work twice as hard to reach the desired temperature. An unmaintained heater will draw significantly more electricity, entirely cancelling out its natural efficiency advantage. Before winter truly sets in, booking a flat-rate [air con service in the Hills](https://www.dreamairconditioning.com.au/castlehill), which locals recommend, is the best way to ensure your heater isn’t wasting electricity. A professional will check the gas pressure, clean the mechanical parts, and ensure the unit is running at its absolute peak efficiency, saving you far more on your energy bill than the service itself costs. ## Hiring a Tradie Without the Stress For many single mums, the hesitation in booking a service isn’t just the upfront cost; it’s the dread of dealing with tradespeople. We’ve all heard the horror stories of opaque pricing, surprise call-out fees, and tradesmen talking in confusing technical jargon. Taking charge of your home maintenance means setting the terms of engagement. When you call an air conditioning company, look for these three green flags: ### 1. Upfront, Flat-Rate Pricing Never agree to an hourly rate for a standard service. A reputable local business will tell you exactly what a winter service costs over the phone, before they even step foot on your driveway. ### 2. Licensing Always ask if they carry an ARC (Australian Refrigeration Council) “Tick”. This proves they are legally licensed to handle refrigerants, guaranteeing they aren’t a cowboy handyman trying to make a quick buck. ### 3. Clear Communication A good technician will happily explain *why* your system is inefficient without making you feel uneducated. ## DIY Efficiency Hacks for the Budget-Conscious Mum Once your main heating unit is running efficiently, you can implement these zero-cost, DIY hacks to keep the warmth trapped inside your home: - **The “Goldilocks” Temperature:** Every single degree you raise your thermostat increases the machine’s running cost by roughly 10%. Setting the heater to 26°C is a massive drain on your budget. The [sweet spot for Australian winters is between 18°C and 20°C](https://www.energy.gov.au/households/household-guides/seasonal-advice/winter). Set the thermostat to 20°C, put a jumper on, and let the machine do its job efficiently. - **Zone Your Home:** If you have a ducted system, don’t heat the guest room, the laundry, or the formal dining room you never use. Use your zoning pad to shut off airflow to empty spaces, forcing all the warm air into the living areas where your family actually spends their time. - **Embrace the “Snake”:** Drafts are the enemy of an efficient heater. If cold air is rushing in under the front door, your heater will run endlessly to compensate. Go to a cheap discount store and buy a few fabric draft stoppers (the “snakes”). Block the gaps under the front door, the laundry door, and the kids’ bedroom doors to lock the expensive heat exactly where you want it. - **The Curtains Rule:** Open your blinds completely during the day to let the natural, free solar heat warm the carpets and furniture. The very minute the sun starts to set, draw every heavy curtain and blind in the house to trap that free heat inside. ## Empowerment Through Knowledge Managing a household budget on your own is an incredible achievement. By understanding how your appliances actually work, you strip away the stress and uncertainty of the winter season. Ditch the expensive plug-in heaters, invest in a professional service for your primary air conditioner, and use simple DIY insulation hacks. You will drastically reduce your winter power bills, leaving more money in your account for the things that actually matter — like a hot chocolate and a movie night with the kids in your wonderfully warm, budget-friendly home. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-independent-mums-guide-to-slashing-winter-power-bills/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-independent-mums-guide-to-slashing-winter-power-bills/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Winter --- ### [Most popular dating apps in Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2/) **Published:** July 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Online dating is definitely “a thing”, and using dating apps is one of the most convenient ways to meet your potential love match in 2024. No longer do singles have to trawl through pubs on a Friday night or strike up awkward conversations with a crush at work. Chatting with a stranger from the comfort of your own home is the new normal. In your PJs. Glass of wine in one hand, phone in the other. As long as you can [decode a guy’s dating profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/decoding-online-dating-profile/), you’re off and running. With online dating becoming so popular, you may be wondering where to start. Well, we’ve done the research for you. Here are the top dating apps for Aussies and what to expect from them. NOTE: Here are some handy tips to stay safe while having fun: [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/). ## DoULike [DoULike](https://www.doulike.com/) is a well-known dating site that was founded in 2005. There you can find meaningful or hookup connections. DoULike has a trusted reputation among singles. The site has a large number of users and offers a diverse pool of potential matches. Approximately 80% of members’ profiles have photos. It allows users to quickly assess compatibility based on physical appearance, fostering initial attraction. Doulike profiles are detailed, allowing users to show their interests and personality, facilitating more accurate matchmaking. [![DoULike](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/DoULike-1200x773.jpg "DoULike - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.doulike.com/) ### DoULike Pros DoULike offers a unique feature called “Valuable Matches.” It allows you to see matches who share your values and life views. It allows you to find deep and meaningful connections on the website. DoULike’s user-friendly interface provides a seamless platform navigation experience. DoULike offers free membership for women, promoting inclusivity and encouraging active female participation on the platform. ### DoULike Cons Some premium features require payment, but you can still browse profiles and find Matches on DoULike. ## Eharmony [eharmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) is the veteran dating app that has been around the longest. It has evolved with ever-changing dating trends to become the inclusive dating app and website we know and love today. The “number one most trusted dating app” features one of the most detailed member profiles on our list. Whilst it can take ages to fill out, it’s ultimately a good thing as the more information everyone provides, the more likely we are to find a compatible match, right? Once they have your details, a clever data-driven matching system ensures like-minded people who share the same goals, whether a long-term relationship, marriage or just a casual fling, get to meet and have a higher chance for relationship success. There’s a price tag attached to this service (around $60/month), but we think it’s worth it as you get top-quality matches, video dating and more. Check out our full, genuine [eharmony review](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eharmony-review/). [![eharmony | Dating app | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Screen-Shot-2019-11-23-at-3.44.48-pm.png)](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) ### eharmony pros If you’re taking your dating adventures seriously and want a long-term relationship, eharmony is up there with the best. All users have paid, so everyone on eharmony has already shown they are ready to invest in finding a new partner, which is a great start. Their thorough surveys allow you to personalise your profile, interests, and bio to your heart’s content so you can make more accurate matches. ### eharmony cons eharmony can be pricey for someone new to online dating and wants to test the waters before committing. They do offer a free version, but it’s fairly limited. ## Tinder Can you believe [Tinder](https://tinder.com/en-AU) launched 10 years ago? Tinder was the first dating app to skyrocket in popularity in Australia, and it’s still going strong in 2022. It is viewed as a hookup app that millennials and Gen Z use, but don’t be put off by its raunchy reputation. Is it possible to find Mr Right on Tinder? Absolutely! You just need to be patient and sign up for premium access because that’s where you’ll find the most matches. A paid subscription unlocks heaps of other goodies like profile boosts to make your photo and bio stand out, and the ability to go back and swipe right on someone you swiped left on. [![Internet dating | Tinder | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-6.32.26-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 6.32.26 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tinder.com/) ### Tinder pros Tinder remains an easy-to-use and fun dating app for beginners and seasoned folks alike. If you’re on the lookout for casual flings or a good time, it’s a pleasure to use this because the swipe-right matching system is quick and fuss-free. And don’t discount Tinder if you’re looking for a guy to marry. Sure, you’ll meet hundreds of men only here to hook up, but a chat can turn into something more meaningful. ### Tinder cons The free version of Tinder is pretty basic, so you’ll need to sign up for a paid membership if you want to avoid being bombarded with requests from guys who are playing the numbers game. ## Adult Friend Finder [Adult Friend Finder](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) combines the best of playful porn and social media. It’s like Facebook but for hookups online and off. And if that’s what you’re into, you’ll find plenty of like-minded people here. They have a huge membership base (with over 25 million visitors each month), plenty of features to keep a casual browser occupied (watch webcams, vlogs, join chatrooms), and more horny members and adult content than you know what to do with. This app is for women looking for a good time, although there’s a chance to make deeper connections that can progress into something more serious. [![Adult Friend Finder | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/6d234c6d5dfcb87944c945604886d91e1c5aea57/0_0_1148_689/master/1148.jpg?width=620&quality=85&auto=format&fit=max&s=675d48e27f3dc642878071c3aeb75afa)](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) ### Adult Friend Finder pros When it comes to dating apps for sex and casual encounters, we particularly like this one because of the large membership base, detailed profiles, and heaps of features. You can express your sexuality in multiple ways and have the freedom to explore and be as wild as you like without judgment. ### Adult Friend Finder cons Something we find a bit tricky is messaging. You can’t contact other members as easily if you’re on the free version, so you’re basically just browsing. You can still watch videos and view profiles, but that’s about it. If you don’t want to spend money, make sure your profile stands out so others can contact you. ## BEST DATING APP AUSTRALIA (cont.) ## HAPPN The dating app that gives missed connections a second chance, [Happn](https://happn.com/), is all about connecting with people you’ve met in the past or people in your area. Wonder no more what it’s like to chat up that cute regular at your fave coffee shop. If he’s using Happn, you can track him down in the app and say hello. You’re more likely to match with people that you see often compared to those you’ve met just once or twice. So if you live near a happening (forgive the pun) place, like a university or a community where you hang out on the regular, definitely give this app a go. [![Happn | Top Dating Apps | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/BWrpFKtVEr0qk4LMzDBEcMrD1eR2tDZuRTdbuf1I6hupnMsZyk8d2ZTb_zZNB-DJ2kan=w1313-h815)](https://www.happn.com/en/) ### Happn pros The location-based matching is the biggest selling point for us. For those looking for love in an urban area, the free version of Happn allows you to see heaps of potential matches, like their profiles, and send a message if the feeling is mutual. ### Happn cons You need to pay for the premium version if you want to be proactive and contact members or see the profiles of people who have liked you. Another downside is that if you live in a rural or remote location, you’ll see fewer people to connect with. ## Bumble [Bumble](https://bumble.com/) is a dating app for ballsy women or ladies who love making the first move. In an empowering twist, Bumble lets us (women) send the first message to potential matches. Like Tinder, you swipe right, and if it’s a match, you can start chatting. If that sounds brilliant and not scary, then Bumble might be the app for you. We’ve seen many successful relationships start off on Bumble, and it’s a place where you can easily connect with people who share the same interests, whether it’s a future husband, a coffee buddy, or a new best. [![Bumble | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.27.12-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.27.12 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bumble.com/) ### Bumble pros We love the fact that ladies get to initiate conversations with their matches. We get to choose who to contact and avoid creeps (for the most part). Bumble is easy to use, lets you filter matches using different categories and is a great app for women who are looking for love or networking opportunities. Bumble is also perfect if you’re just looking around and want to go on dates with different guys. ### Bumble cons: Bumble profiles tend to be less detailed than, say, eHarmony or OK Cupid, which can reduce the accuracy of matches. Also, you have 24 hours to send a message to your match after both of you have swiped right or the opportunity is gone (although there are ways to extend this deadline). ## OK Cupid Not a fan of swiping on dating apps? [OK Cupid](https://www.okcupid.com/) delivers a more website-based experience with data-driven matching that claims to connect singles based on factors that really matter. The app is well-designed and has an extremely detailed signup survey to gather information about you. The data is then used to make highly accurate matches and save you from sifting through hundreds of profiles. Simply set your relationship goals (hookup, friends, marriage, etc.), fill out the questionnaire, and view your matches. Apart from the detailed bios and accurate matching, what we like best about OK Cupid is that most features are free … and we all love freebies. [![OKCupid | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.36.15-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.36.15 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.okcupid.com/) ### Hello Cupid pros OK, Cupid is a good alternative to swiping apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge, with its detailed profiles, free dating tips, and smart algorithm designed to give you accurate matches no matter your relationship goal. In addition, the app is very inclusive and great for LGBTQI+. The price to unlock premium features is pretty affordable at around $10/month. ### Hello Cupid cons: Because most features are free, the app is ad-supported. There’s also no video chat; you can only message people you’ve liked and who have liked you back, and you’ll see ads when you browse, which can interfere with the experience. We’ve also heard of some users reporting inaccurate results when using the search function. ## Passion [Passion](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) is another dating app for steamy casual connections, similar to Adult Friend Finder but not quite so obvious. For example, your message settings come with a filter to block out X-rated messages. You can set this to be as clean or as dirty as you like. The Passion community ranks profiles through a points system, and you can participate through voting if that’s your cup of tea. What we love most about Passion is the customisation. There are 12 sections to each profile, so you can be as detailed as possible. You can also add photos, videos, webcams and video chats. When browsing profiles, you can use the search filters to narrow down the results, for example, by interests and romantic goals. [![Passion | Top Dating Apps | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/p.jpg "p - Beanstalk Mums")](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) ### Passion pros The Passion membership base continues to grow, and along with it, the chances to meet the guy of your dreams. We love that you can hang loose on this sultry dating platform without being hit by a constant barrage of adult content, and you connect with fun people for hookups or more serious relationships the way you want. ### Passion cons: The free version of Passion will take you only so far. The premium subscription is where it’s at. ## Grindr If you’ve used [Grindr](https://www.grindr.com/), you know that it’s so much more than a dating app. The world’s biggest social networking app for gay, bi, trans and queer people has 4.5 million daily users in almost every country on earth, so you’re spoilt for choice. And this can be a good or bad thing. What we like best about Grindr is that you can send anyone you fancy a message and don’t have to wait for a match to connect. The free version lets you send audio and video messages. Sign-up takes a minute, and you can share as much (from links to your social media accounts to the date of your last HIV test) or as little information as you want. [![Grindr](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Screen-Shot-2022-09-16-at-8.55.52-am.png "Screen Shot 2022-09-16 at 8.55.52 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.grindr.com/) ### Grindr pros The free version of Grindr lets you play around with lots of features. It’s hard to get bored browsing with millions of members and profiles to see. It’s anonymous, and you can be yourself. For those who identify as LGBTQI+, Grindr feels like home because of the culture and understanding. ### Grindr cons Grindr is known for high-quality members, but many are bots or faceless profiles. The pop-up ads on the free version can also interrupt your experience. Another frequent gripe is the obsession with body image. You’re going to see heaps of toned, chiselled physiques here, which can either get you to the gym or torpedo your self-esteem. ## Badoo [Badoo’s](https://badoo.com/) over 450 million members make the dating app feel like a colossal social media website that is designed to connect singles with each other. The majority of Badoo users are here for casual fun, but it’s possible to meet someone who’s looking for a serious relationship or even marriage if you dig deep enough. Badoo is great to use if profile aesthetics is more important to you than content. Let your photos do the talking and attract potential matches. Badoo is location-based, so the first profiles you’ll see are people near you, whether you’re at home or travelling abroad. [![Badoo dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Badoo_packshot_1.png "Badoo_packshot_1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://badoo.com/) ### Badoo pros If you travel frequently, Badoo is a great app to meet new friends or lovers. Matches are based on your current location, and you can tag favourite places to narrow down your match results. We also like the photo verification, video chat, celeb lookalike feature and inclusivity (you can choose from 50 genders). ### Badoo cons We find the matching system to be a little tricky because you have to use multiple filters to get relevant results. It’s also not the best place for women looking for long-term relationships. But if you’re down for something fun and casual, finding a match is effortless. ## Sugarbook Sugar daddying can be pretty lucrative on dating apps like Sugarbook. It’s one of those places dedicated to connecting people looking for a mutually beneficial relationship, in this case, women (often students and young women) who want money and treats in exchange for a sexual relationship, usually with sugar daddies in their 20s to early 50s. Most of the members are female college students in their 20s and 30s, and the rest are paying members. What we like best about Sugarbook is the fact that students get a premium membership for free and access to all paid features when they sign up with their ID or show proof of enrollment. ### [![Sugarbook | Beanstalk Mums](https://miro.medium.com/max/4748/1%2Auwsqs6y_qMHkUHeiTCUbvA.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69445?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsugarbook.com%2f) ### Sugarbook pros We think it’s great that female students get free access to premium features when they present their IDs or proof of enrolment. However, this means that most of the members are females competing for the attention of paying sugar daddies. ### Sugarbook cons You can only browse profiles, and you can’t send messages unless you’re subscribed to premium. This can be expensive if you just want to connect with someone hot or if you are not in the student program. Sugarbook is a fun place for singles who are into long-term transactional relationships, but it’s pricey if you plan to be a paying member. ## Elite Singles The [Elite Singles](https://dating.elitesingles.com.au/) dating app is for professional singles over 30 looking for serious and long-term relationships. Their membership base continues to grow, with nearly 400K signups every month, with the majority of members having above-average education levels. You’ll be right at home if you are a single professional looking for meaningful conversations, serious romantic relationships, or marriage. Although we have to admit that we’ve never known anyone to meet their perfect match through this app. However, they recently added an upgrade in the form of a swiping-style matching system called “Have you met,” which is brilliant if, like us, you love easy-to-navigate apps like Tinder and Bumble. [![Elite | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.23.46-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.23.46 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dating.elitesingles.com.au/) ### Elite Singles pros Elite Singles keeps growing and has members in over 25 countries, so it’s easy to connect with someone who shares your interests locally or abroad. We particularly like their virtual and in-person speed dating events in select cities. ### Elite Singles cons Like other marriage-focused dating sites, the free version is limited. If you really want to make the most of your time on Elite Singles, you need to upgrade to a paid subscription to unlock features like viewing photos and unlimited messaging. The UI can feel outdated if you’re used to dating apps like Tinder, but it should be a non-issue if you prefer a website-based experience. ## Hinge If Facebook dating feels way too uncomfortable, try [Hinge](https://hinge.co/), the dating app that connects you to people in your chosen location. The dating app started as a location-based social network where you can also see Facebook friends that you have in common. For those who are wary of meeting strangers online, we like that Hinge shows people’s information, from age to job to height. You can connect with a limited number of people by matching with a profile or commenting on their page. No worries if you get cold feet. Witty conversation starters are ready to send and break the ice with your match. [![Best Dating Apps | Hinge | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/c052_vGWWXU9dfwjplzK4FnXO9cGhYNMnH2HEVmj1Xa4eZWezWZQ8L_fLxxfr0vEd-Ly=w1313-h816)](https://hinge.co/) ### Hinge pros Hinge is a dating app for people who are into meaningful conversations. It shows detailed bios, including last names and other demographic data, to make matching more accurate and weed out fake profiles. Most of the features are free to use, but you can upgrade to the premium version to unlock things like unlimited daily matches. ### Hinge cons Like other apps, you can only get a limited number of matches unless you pay for a subscription. The app’s daily picks for matches tend to be off and unreliable. As the system wants you to pay for something called “roses”, or profiles that more accurately match your interests and goals. ## Zoosk Zoosk is like a pared-down version of eHarmony that offers something for everyone. Whether you’re into casual dating or serious relationships, Zoosk has a large membership base (35 million members) and quality matches. Signup takes no time at all, and the app is easy to use and navigate. But where Zoosk really shines is its matching system. Based on technology that analyses 35 million profiles to give you more accurate matches. Overall, Zoosk is not the best app if you’re looking for marriage, but there is a good mix of people to keep things interesting. [![Top 10 dating apps in Australia 2019 | Zoosk | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.15.47-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.15.47 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.zoosk.com/) ### Zoosk pros You’re guaranteed to find a match with 35 million members on Zoosk. And if you like traditional online dating sites where you create detailed bios and answer questionnaires to make your profile stand out, you’ll love Zoosk. There’s also a Carousel, their swipe-based matching system to scratch that Tinder itch. ### Zoosk cons Zoosk is a paid app with a free, limited trial. So, you’ll probably need to pay for premium features if you’re hoping to find Mr Right. You may also get more messages from people looking for hookups than from those who are into serious or long-term relationships. ## POF (Plenty of Fish) There are plenty of fish at Plenty of Fish, with around 3 million daily users. The biggest selling point for us is POF’s popularity with the 30s, 40s and early 50s age groups. This is the place to find people looking for a second chance and older adults looking for love, friendship or something casual. The app is free, including unlimited messaging. There’s no need to write a novel to boost your bio, and there’s a good chance of hitting it off with someone, even if you live outside the city or you’re in a rural area. We love that POF has been around since 2003 and it’s still going strong despite bigger competition. [![Online dating Australia | POF | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.12.38-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.12.38 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.pof.com/) ### POF pros Being part of Match.com’s group of companies lends credibility to POF. The free version of POF lets you do what other dating apps restrict. Like messaging as many people as you like and seeing who’s viewed your profile. It also has a live stream feature to easily connect with your matches. ### POF cons There are many things to like about POF. However, the number of fake profiles may discourage those who want to connect quickly with a potential match. Like other free dating sites, you’ll see ads, and you’ll need to filter the results to see better matches. ## Raya It can be hard to find love on mainstream dating apps. Especially if you’re a social media influencer, celebrity, millionaire, or someone who’s extremely picky about who you date. Like the League, [Raya](https://www.rayatheapp.com/) is an exclusive place for interesting, social-media-savvy singles who don’t mind waiting for the right person. Registration alone takes about ten minutes, and the wait time to be approved is a few months. Raya is great for singles who have a heavy social media presence and don’t want to join popular dating apps. It’s also great for highly educated professionals with lots of life experience or anyone whose profile can sell itself. [![Raya](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/raya-8.jpeg "raya-8 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.rayatheapp.com/) ### Raya pros Some of the best things about Raya are the high-quality members and high success rate for meeting people, whether for friendship, networking or romance/marriage. It’s also relatively affordable at $9.99 per month, and you only pay if you get approved as a member. ### Raya cons Raya is for iOS only, so no luck for Android users. The application process takes a ridiculously long time, and they approve less than 10% of applicants. While the exclusivity and hype are big draws. There are plenty of great alternatives out there if you’re looking for a serious relationship. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Dating-apps-Australia.png "Dating apps Australia - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** tinder, plenty of fish, dating, pof, online dating, dating online, dating apps, internet dating, eharmony, relationship, bumble, rsvp --- ### [How Much Does a Family Lawyer Really Cost in Australia?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-much-does-a-family-lawyer-really-cost-in-australia/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re navigating [family lawyers in Brisbane](https://mk-law.com.au/family-law/) — whether that’s separating from a partner, working out parenting arrangements, or sorting through a property settlement — it’s only natural to ask: *how much will a family lawyer really cost me?* The slightly frustrating answer is: *it depends.* Family law is a bit like ordering at a restaurant with no menu prices — you know what you want, but the final bill often comes as a surprise. The good news? With a little preparation and the right questions, you can get a pretty good idea of what to expect (and how to avoid blowing the budget). This article breaks down the key factors that influence family lawyer costs in Australia — and how you can keep them manageable. ## **How Much Do Family Lawyers Charge in Australia?** Family lawyer fees at firms like [Kingston Fox Lawyers](https://kingstonfox.com.au/) can swing quite a bit depending on where you live, the complexity of your case, and the lawyer you hire. - **Hourly rates**: On average, expect between **$300 and $600 per hour**, though senior specialists may charge more. - **Initial consultations**: Some lawyers offer a free first meeting, while others charge a flat rate or their usual hourly fee. - **Overall costs**: A straightforward, uncontested matter may cost only a few thousand dollars. But a messy dispute involving children or property? That can climb well into the tens of thousands. ***Key takeaway:*** Most people can expect to pay a few hundred dollars per hour, but the *total* depends on how long the matter takes and how complicated it becomes. ## **Fixed Fees vs. Hourly Billing** One of the first things to do when evaluating how much a Family Lawyer really costs in Australia is to ask how your lawyer charges. - **Fixed-fee packages**: Many firms now offer fixed prices for relatively simple matters, such as [divorce applications](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/apply), consent orders, or binding financial agreements. These give you certainty up front — you’ll know exactly what the bill will be. - **Hourly billing**: For more complex or contested issues, hourly billing is the norm. This covers reviewing documents, drafting court paperwork, negotiating, and appearing in hearings. While hourly billing can feel like leaving the taxi meter running, it’s often the fairest way to account for unpredictable twists and turns. ***Key takeaway:*** Fixed fees work well for simple jobs. Hourly billing is more common once disputes become complicated or involve the courts. ![family lawyers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Melbourne-Lawyers-4-1200x800.jpg "Melbourne Lawyers 4 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5 Factors That Influence the Final Bill** Your lawyer’s hourly rate is just the start. Here are the five big drivers of cost: 1. **Complexity of the Case** - A straightforward property split is much faster than a dispute involving multiple assets, businesses, or overseas property. - Add children into the mix, or allegations of family violence, and the work required increases significantly. 2. **Level of Agreement Between Parties** - Two people who can sit down and negotiate (even if it’s awkward) will almost always save money. - A high-conflict separation tends to drag on — and so does the bill. 3. **Court Involvement** - Matters settled out of court are cheaper. Once court filings, hearings, and trials are required, costs increase sharply. 4. **Location** - [Lawyers in major cities like Sydney](https://justicefamilylawyers.com.au/divorce/separation-period-for-divorce-nsw/) or Melbourne usually charge more than those in smaller towns or regional areas, which is why many clients turn to experienced [Townsville Lawyers](https://www.connollysuthers.com.au/ "ownsville Lawyers") for high-quality legal advice at more accessible rates. 5. **Experience of the Lawyer** - Senior [family lawyers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyers-near-me/ "family lawyers") often have higher hourly rates, but they may resolve matters more efficiently. Sometimes paying more per hour actually saves money overall. *Key takeaway:* It’s not just about the sticker price per hour. The real driver of cost is how long the case runs and how complicated it becomes. ## **Extra Costs You Might Not Expect** On top of your lawyer’s time, you’ll also need to budget for disbursements — third-party costs that are passed on to you. These may include: - Court filing fees - Process server charges - Expert reports (e.g., from psychologists, accountants, or property valuers) - Barrister fees for complex cases or trials - Mediation or arbitration services Think of these as the “hidden extras” that aren’t in the hourly rate but can add thousands to the final bill. ***Key takeaway:*** Always ask for a breakdown of likely disbursements so you’re not blindsided. ![family lawyers - Family Lawyer Really Cost](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to Keep Your Legal Costs Under Control** While you can’t control everything, there are smart ways to stop costs from spiralling: - **Get organised**: Have documents and timelines ready so your lawyer doesn’t spend time chasing them. - **Batch your questions**: Instead of emailing your lawyer five times a week, keep notes and ask them all in one scheduled call. - **Be clear on your goals**: If you know what outcome you want, your lawyer can focus on achieving it instead of going around in circles. - **Reduce conflict where possible**: Every argument adds time — and therefore money. - **Ask about alternatives**: Some firms offer limited-scope services or coaching if you’re willing to handle parts of the process yourself. Also, if you’re experiencing financial hardship or family violence, check whether you’re eligible for Legal Aid, which may cover some or all of your costs. ***Key takeaway:*** The more organised and cooperative you are, the more money you’ll save. ## **Final Thoughts** **on How Much** **Does a** **Family Lawyer Really Cost** Understanding family lawyer costs in Australia isn’t just about knowing the hourly rate — it’s about seeing the bigger picture. The complexity of your case, how cooperative both sides are, whether you end up in court, and even your lawyer’s level of experience all play a part. Yes, the numbers can be daunting. But with preparation, clear communication, and the right guidance, you can keep costs manageable — and your sanity intact. If you’re worried about where to start, consider booking an initial consultation. Most lawyers will give you a realistic idea of fees, timelines, and strategies so you can plan ahead with confidence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-much-does-a-family-lawyer-really-cost-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-much-does-a-family-lawyer-really-cost-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Separation --- ### [KBeauty & Other Minimalist Beauty Hacks For Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kbeauty-other-minimalist-beauty-hacks-for-mums/) **Published:** September 1, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a mum is a full-time job with zero days off. Between finding mysterious sticky stuff on the couch, refereeing snack-time wars, and mastering the art of one-handed coffee drinking, carving out “me time” feels like hunting for a unicorn. And when it comes to beauty routines? Forget it. That’s where K-Beauty comes in – famous for its simple, fuss-free skincare that actually works. These routines are designed to fit right into your busy mum life, focusing on lightweight, multi-tasking products that hydrate, protect, and give you that fresh glow. Add in some other minimalist hacks (because who has time for complicated?), and suddenly looking and feeling a little more “you” doesn’t have to be another chore. Because let’s face it, the real glow-up is surviving motherhood with your sanity intact and maybe looking a little fabulous while you’re at it. ## Why Mums Love Minimalist Beauty When you’re juggling school drop-offs, snack requests, and a never-ending pile of laundry, the idea of spending 45 minutes on your face just isn’t realistic. That’s why so many mums are falling in love with the [best Korean skincare](https://www.arktastic.com/korean-skincare) routines as they’re simple, effective, and can fit into even the most chaotic mornings. Let’s be honest: self-care can feel like a luxury when you have kids. But minimalist beauty makes it possible without the guilt. It’s not about skipping care altogether; it’s about choosing a few powerful, multitasking products that work hard so you don’t have to. With skin-loving formulas and a “less is more” approach, you can look and feel refreshed in minutes, leaving more time (and energy) for the little people who need you most. ## K-Beauty Skincare Secrets That Work for Mums K-Beauty is about working smarter, not harder. From achieving that dewy “glass skin” glow in under 10 minutes, to using multitasking products that save both time and money, these routines are made for busy, sleep-deprived mums. Gentle, hydrating, and effortlessly effective, they’re proof that you don’t need a 12-step ritual to feel radiant. ### The “Glass Skin” Look in Under 10 Minutes It’s no secret that getting a radiant, dewy “glass skin” complexion can be a tall order if you’ve got no sleep and a million Mum things to do before you dash out the door. The solution? You don’t have to spend hours on it. In fact, all you need are a few multitasking products and these easy steps for the base of your glowing makeup look that you can apply in less than 10 minutes. The focus is on hydration and glow, which is the secret to making skin look plumper, brighter and healthier, no matter how many hours (or how little) of sleep you managed last night. ![minimalist beauty hacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5240352-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5240352 - Beanstalk Mums") **Here’s how to do it:** 1. Start with a good, but gentle cleanse. You’ll need a mild cleanser that removes dirt without stripping moisture, like a creamy or hydrating one rather than a scrub. 2. Hydrate with a light toner or essence. Layer on a hydrating toner or essence, a [Korean Skin Care](https://boniik.com.au/collections/skin-care) ritual that plumps skin and optimises the absorption of the products you’ll layer over it. 3. Opt for a serum rich in hydrants like hyaluronic acid. This type of hydrator plumps up skin and seals in moisture, creating a hydrated, glassy look. 4. Lock in moisture with a light moisturiser. Choose a lightweight moisturiser that will provide nutrients without feeling heavy. 5. Never leave home without SPF. Even if you’re in a rush, make sure you apply a moisturiser with SPF (or at least a sunscreen) to protect your skin from the sun. This is the best way to keep your skin’s glow looking healthy and prevent damage that could dull your complexion over time. Refresh with facial mist all day if you like. It’s a really nice step you can include to refresh skin throughout the day, without spending much time at all. The best part is these simple steps use your skin’s natural glow, so you can look as if you’re fresh and rested even on days when you’re anything but. ### Multi-Tasking Products That Save Time and Money When you’re a mum, time feels like the most precious commodity, and your beauty routine has to keep up. That’s where multi-tasking products come in clutch. Instead of juggling a million different bottles and steps, these all-in-one heroes simplify your routine while still giving your skin the love it deserves. Whether it’s a tinted moisturiser with SPF, a cleanser that doubles as a gentle makeup remover, or a serum that hydrates and brightens, these products help you save both time and money because let’s face it, who wants to spend extra on products that don’t pull double duty? Using fewer, smarter products means less stress, less clutter, and more time for the things (and people) that really matter. ### Gentle & Hydrating Routines for Sleep-Deprived Skin Motherhood often means carrying exhaustion in every fibre of your being, and your skin doesn’t just reflect the sleepless nights, it feels it too. Beyond dryness or dullness, lack of sleep can make skin sensitive, inflamed, and less able to protect itself. That’s where K-Beauty really shines. K-Beauty is built on a philosophy of gentle, nourishing care that works with your skin, not against it. Instead of harsh treatments or quick fixes, it embraces layering lightweight, soothing products designed to rebuild and hydrate over time. Ingredients like centella asiatica to calm irritation, hyaluronic acid to flood your skin with moisture, and ceramides to strengthen the skin barrier are staples in Korean routines (perfect for mums running on empty). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5240446-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5240446 - Beanstalk Mums") If you’re looking for a simple [guide to glowing skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/) that fits into your busy mum life, following a K-Beauty-inspired routine isn’t about adding stress to your day, but about creating simple, calming rituals that help your skin recover and glow despite sleepless nights. It’s a way to be kind to yourself and your skin, reminding you that even when life is overwhelming, a little hydration and gentleness can go a long way. ## Other Minimalist Beauty Hacks You’ll Love Sometimes, the best beauty solutions are the simplest ones (especially when you’re a busy mum). These minimalist hacks aren’t about adding more to your to-do list, but about smart shortcuts and easy tricks that help you look and feel your best without any extra hassle. So here are some of our favourite easy wins you’ll want to try. #### 5-Minute Makeup Routines for the School Run When the school bus is practically at the door, you need a makeup routine that’s quick, easy, and fuss-free. The key is to [curate a kit that works with every look](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/makeup-magic-curate-a-kit-that-works-every-look/), with a few multitasking staples that help you glow without the hassle. Start with a tinted moisturiser or BB cream that evens out your skin tone and adds a touch of hydration. Next, a waterproof mascara can open up tired eyes with just one coat. Add a cream blush that doubles as a lip tint for a fresh pop of colour, and finish with a brow pencil or gel to frame your face effortlessly. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-polina-kovaleva-5927811-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-polina-kovaleva-5927811 - Beanstalk Mums") #### Hair Tricks for Mornings When You Can’t Even There’s not always time for a complete wash and dry down. So, here are some useful hacks to fake it till you make it while still looking somewhat like yourself. The first thing to remember is that dry shampoo is your friend. It’s great at cutting through grease at the roots and adding instant volume without the washing and drying down. Easy styles are the way forward, think of a messy bun or a low ponytail, fastened with a soft scrunchie so it doesn’t cause breakage. Try slipping on a silk scarf or headband as a quick way to feel pulled together while also keeping any flyaways at bay. Finally, if you’re feeling extra a bit extra fancy, twist small sections of hair into loose braids the night before, so you wake up to effortless waves with little to no effort. ## Making Self-Care Part of Mum Life It’s easy to forget about [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/self-care/) when you’re so used to putting everyone else first. But it’s the little things that add up in the day, simple rituals here and there can really help improve your skin, as well as your overall wellbeing. Whether that’s a five-minute facial massage as you wait for your morning coffee to brew, or a moment to mindfully apply your favourite moisturiser, these simple acts of self-care are an opportunity to check in with yourself, away from the rush. Letting your children join you in your skincare routine is a great way to get them into good habits early, so making self-care a family affair is a great way to help your little ones grow up understanding the importance of self-kindness when it comes to skincare too. ## Ready to Try These Beauty Hacks? Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming, especially when you’re a busy mum. These simple beauty hacks are here to make your routine easier, your skin happier, and your days a little brighter. So go ahead, try one or two, and give yourself permission to enjoy those small moments of self-care you absolutely deserve. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kbeauty-other-minimalist-beauty-hacks-for-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/kbeauty-other-minimalist-beauty-hacks-for-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How Busy Mums Can Balance Family Life, Travel and Healthy Habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-busy-mums-can-balance-family-life-travel-and-healthy-habits/) **Published:** April 30, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It is 7 am on a Tuesday. You have one child looking for their lunchbox, another refusing to wear shoes, a work email that came in at 6 am and a half-drunk cup of tea going cold on the bench. Sound familiar? For most Australian mums, this is not an unusual morning. It is a Tuesday. And somehow, by 8:30, the kids are dropped off, the emails are answered, and you are back at your desk or school gate, wondering how you pulled that off again. Managing the daily juggle of family life, work, healthy habits and a bit of time for yourself is genuinely hard. But with a few small shifts in how you plan your days, your snacks and your downtime, it starts to feel a lot more manageable. Here is what has worked for a lot of mums navigating exactly that. ## **Building Healthy Daily Habits That Actually Stick** The tricky thing about healthy habits is that they sound simple until you are tired, short on time and faced with a snack cupboard full of things your kids actually want to eat. The key is making the healthy option the easy option. Not a complicated meal plan overhaul, just small swaps that remove the friction. For after-school snack time, this often comes down to what is already in the house. If the only thing in reach is crackers and cheese, that is what everyone eats. If there is something colourful and appealing at eye level, the kids are much more likely to grab it first. There are great ready-made options available now that are genuinely nutritious and actually taste good, which is the hard part with kids. Providing a variety of [healthy snacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/) across the week helps avoid the inevitable “I don’t want that” standoff. One option worth keeping on hand for busy afternoons is veggie-based snacks. When you can [shop veggie chips online](https://shary.com.au/products/shary-mixed-veggie-crisps), it takes one decision off your plate and keeps the pantry stocked without adding another errand to the week. Having a few reliable go-to snacks sorted means one less thing to think about between school pickup and dinner. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-9-1200x675.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Balancing Work Commitments and Family Life** If you work, there are weeks when the two worlds of career and family collide in ways that feel impossible to manage gracefully. A big presentation falls on the same week as the school sports day. An interstate meeting gets added to the calendar when you already have three after-school pickups to coordinate. It is not that either thing is too hard on its own; it is the combination that tips the scales. Being realistic about what the week holds, early, makes an enormous difference. A five-minute look at the calendar on Sunday night, with an honest assessment of what needs help, saves hours of stress mid-week. For mums who travel for work, even occasionally, getting the logistics sorted properly is a genuine form of self-care. Scrambling to book flights and accommodation on top of everything else is exhausting. Using a dedicated [conference travel](https://spencercorporatetravel.com.au/business-meetings-event-travel-management/) service takes that off your plate entirely, so you can focus on the work you are actually going there to do. It also helps to accept that some weeks are heavier than others. Rather than trying to maintain the same level of everything during a big work period, the goal is just to keep the most important things running. The rest can wait. ![Woman with dark hair laughing, hand covering her face, holding a coffee cup beside a large window on a ferry or boat.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-8-1200x795.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Planning Family Holidays Without the Overwhelm** There is a particular kind of tiredness that builds up across a long school term. By the end of it, everyone in the house is a bit frayed, including you. A proper break, one where you genuinely switch off and the kids get to be kids somewhere new, can reset the whole family. The planning part, though, can feel like it adds to the workload rather than alleviating it. The trick is to start simple. Choose a destination you are genuinely excited about, not just one that seems sensible. Bali, home to retreats like [Mana Retreat Bali](https://manasanctuary.com/), remains one of the most popular choices for Australian families, and for good reason. It is relatively close, incredibly affordable by international standards and has options for every type of family, from beach relaxation to cultural experiences and everything in between. Seminyak specifically works well for families because it is well-serviced, has great restaurants and shopping within easy reach and a range of accommodation suited to different group sizes. Searching for [Bali villas Seminyak](https://www.villa-bali.com/en/find/seminyak) gives you a solid range of private villa options, many of which include pools and multiple bedrooms, which is so much more practical than hotel rooms when you have kids in tow. A private villa also means you have a base to come back to. Somewhere to put a tired toddler down for a nap without worrying about noise, somewhere to have a glass of wine on the deck after the kids are asleep, somewhere that feels like yours for the week. Booking something you are looking forward to, even months away, is genuinely good for your wellbeing. Having a holiday on the calendar changes the energy of the weeks leading up to it. ## **Staying Organised Without Burning Yourself Out** The goal is not a perfectly run household with everything colour-coded. The goal is a life that feels manageable most of the time. A few things that make a real difference, without adding extra pressure. Batch your errands. One online grocery order covers the week instead of three separate trips. One school admin session on a Sunday handles the notes, the permission slips and the lost-and-found enquiries. Keep a running list somewhere visible. A whiteboard on the fridge, a notes app, a scrap of paper you actually look at. When things are out of your head and on a list, they stop taking up mental space. Let the smaller stuff go. Not everything needs to be done to a high standard. Some evenings, dinner is cereal. Some weekends, the washing sits in the basket until Monday. This is not failure, it’s prioritisation. And spend a little time planning things you want, not just things you have to do. A weekend trip. A dinner out. A morning when you do not set an alarm. These do not need to be elaborate. They just need to be in the calendar, protected from being swapped out for something more urgent. ## **You Are Already Doing a Lot** Honestly? The bar for a good day when you are a mum managing work, kids, a home, and a life is not as high as the internal voice sometimes suggests. Did the kids eat? Are they loved? Did you get through it? That is a good day. The habits, the travel planning, the organised pantry, these are all things that make the good days come a little more easily. But they are tools, not standards to measure yourself against. Keep the snacks sorted. Protect the things you are looking forward to. Ask for help with the logistics when you need it. And give yourself credit for how much you are already carrying and doing well. You got this! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-busy-mums-can-balance-family-life-travel-and-healthy-habits/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-busy-mums-can-balance-family-life-travel-and-healthy-habits/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Exciting Lunar New Year Activities & Crafts for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/exciting-lunar-new-year-activities-for-kids/) **Published:** December 31, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** As the vibrant celebrations of the Chinese Lunar New Year approach, families worldwide are gearing up for a season filled with joy, tradition, and creativity. This year, why not engage your little ones in exciting activities and crafts that not only entertain but also educate them about the rich cultural heritage of the Lunar New Year? Get ready to unleash your child’s imagination and celebrate this auspicious occasion with joy and laughter! ## How can kids celebrate the Chinese New Year through craft activities? Celebrating the Chinese New Year can be a delightful experience for kids through various easy Chinese New Year crafts. These fun craft ideas help children understand a part of Chinese culture while engaging in arts and crafts. An engaging activity is crafting traditional Chinese red envelopes to give to family members, embodying the spirit of a happy New Year. Kids can also enjoy New Year colouring pages featuring vibrant Chinese New Year red themes or use craft sticks to create cute decorations. These cute Chinese New Year crafts and activities for kids not only celebrate the Chinese Lunar New Year but also offer simple, easy-to-follow Chinese craft options. Involving children in these DIY Chinese projects makes the New Year celebration memorable and educational. ## What are some fun Chinese New Year crafts for kids? From crafting colourful lanterns and intricate paper cuttings to cooking delicious traditional treats, there are countless ways to immerse children in the festivities. These hands-on projects foster creativity, enhance fine motor skills, and provide an opportunity for family bonding. Whether you’re looking to decorate your home, prepare for the New Year’s feast, or enjoy some quality time together, this guide offers fun, easy crafts to celebrate the New Year. ## Easy to make Chinese paper lanterns for the Lunar New Year First on my list of Chinese New Year activities is the [Chinese lantern craft](https://www.hersheyland.com/activities/lunar-new-year-paper-lantern.html), which can be made using toilet paper rolls and coloured paper. They’re super easy to make! Kids can easily learn how to make these vibrant decorations to hang around the house for the lantern festival. ## Craft ideas for creating a Chinese dragon mask Unleash your kids’ imagination while celebrating one of the most iconic Chinese symbols with dragon masks! You can use simple supplies like paper plates, markers, and colourful tissue paper. This activity is a great way to learn about the symbolism of dragons —representing power, strength, and good luck. Check out this handy guide for a step-by-step approach: [Dragon Paper Plate Mask](https://www.bakerross.co.uk/craft-ideas/kids/dragon-paper-plate-mask/). When we tried this at home, the kids ended up in a giggling frenzy as they danced around the living room with their masks. It’s a memory we still laugh about! ## Printable Chinese zodiac animal crafts It’s the Year of the Snake. And what better way to celebrate it than creating zodiac animal crafts for children! These are perfect for teaching kids about the 12 animals of the Chinese zodiac while letting them enjoy a hands-on activity. From dragons to pigs, these crafts are as fun as they are educational. All you need is a printer, some scissors, and coloured pencils or markers to bring these zodiac animals to life. Check out these fantastic templates: [Chinese Zodiac Colouring Pages](https://funcraftskids.com/chinese-zodiac-coloring-pages/). ## Making a red envelope for good luck for the Lunar New Year Red envelopes, or ‘hongbao,’ are a staple of the Chinese New Year and symbolise good luck and prosperity. Your kids can have fun creating their own red envelopes while learning about this tradition. All you need is red paper, some gold markers, and a little creativity to design your envelopes. Add traditional characters like “Fu” (福, meaning happiness) for an authentic touch. When you do this at home, you can fill the envelopes with chocolate coins instead of money. This is one of the best Chinese New Year crafts, perfect to hand out to friends and family as a token of good fortune! ## Creating a paper plate dragon puppet Next on my list are paper plate dragon puppets. As for the craft supplies, you’ll need two paper plates, some string, and lots of colourful paint and glitter. You can craft a dragon puppet that your kiddos can parade around. Find free templates online or just wing it; the messier, the better! This paper plate craft is equal parts creative and chaotic, just the way kids like it. ## Free printable dragon templates for crafting Printable templates are a lifesaver for those who love dragons but aren’t ready to dive into a full-scale craft project. These templates make it easy to create complicated dragon designs without the hassle of drawing freehand, especially for busy mums like us. Simply print, colour, cut, and voila—you’ve got yourself a dazzling dragon ready for display. It’s perfect for both younger and older kids! ![Lunar New Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-71.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Printable guides for making a paper fortune cookie Paper fortune cookies are a quirky and charming craft that adds a unique twist to Lunar New Year celebrations. With a printable guide, it’s easy for kids to make their own fortune cookies using brightly coloured paper. Write little fortunes or wishes inside for an extra special touch. When we made these last year, my youngest wrote fortunes like “You will eat cake today,” which turned into a running joke all evening. ## Fun and easy Chinese New Year shaker crafts Get ready to shake things up this Chinese New Year with crafts that are as fun to make as they are to use! These Chinese New Year shaker crafts are perfect for kids and adults alike—whether you’re looking to entertain little ones, add festive flair to your celebrations, or simply get creative. With easy-to-find materials and simple steps, you’ll have your own vibrant noisemakers in no time. Add some glitter, paint, or festive red-and-gold touches, and let the celebration begin with a joyful shake! ## What are some ideas for the Lunar New Year activities? ## Participating in a dragon dance Dragon dances are one of the most iconic Chinese New Year traditions. It’s a fantastic way to immerse the kiddos in the festive spirit while learning about Chinese traditions. They are not only mesmerising to watch but also offer participation. They will surely love the vibrant colours and rhythmic drumbeats that bring the dragon to life. Look out for local events or performances in your area, as many offer opportunities to join in or even learn the basic moves! Beyond the fun, these activities show our little ones the value of celebrating diversity. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-70.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Exploring the significance of the Chinese zodiac If your kids still haven’t learned about it in school, you can teach them about the Chinese zodiac. It introduces kids to the concept of different cultural belief systems. Each year is associated with a specific animal, and exploring the zodiac can be a fun way to learn something new. You can look up your zodiac sign, discover your “compatible” animals, and read up on personality traits associated with each sign. This can become a yearly tradition of reflection and prediction. Some families even incorporate their zodiac animals into decorations or gifts, adding a personal touch to the celebrations. I remember when we discovered that my eldest son’s zodiac animal was the dragon. We ended up decorating the house with little dragon crafts, which made the celebration feel extra special! ## Engaging kids with interactive Chinese Lunar New Year activities Chinese New Year is a fantastic opportunity to [engage the kids with hands-on activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/kids-cut-down-screen-time/). Try introducing them to Chinese calligraphy by writing festive phrases like “Happy New Year” in Mandarin. Cooking dumplings or making Chinese lanterns are other brilliant options that are both fun and educational. You could also set up a mini treasure hunt with red envelopes (‘hongbao’) as rewards, teaching kids the importance of good luck and generosity. Last year, we made dumplings together as a family, and the kids were surprisingly good at folding them. It turned into a fun little competition. These activities, along with [Chinese enrichment classes](https://www.edugrove.com.sg/), not only celebrate Chinese traditions but also teach kids the importance of respecting and enjoying cultures outside their own. ## How can parents help kids learn about Chinese culture through crafts? ## Incorporating traditional elements in craft ideas Crafts are a brilliant way to introduce kids to Chinese culture. Start with simple projects like making red paper lanterns or designing the best Chinese New Year banners. Use traditional colours like red and gold, which symbolise good luck and prosperity, to keep the crafts culturally relevant. Origami can also be a fun way to create symbolic shapes, such as dragons or zodiac animals. The key is to keep the activities age-appropriate and allow kids to explore their creativity while sticking to traditional themes. By the end of it, you’ll have a bunch of unique, handmade decorations to display around the house! These project ideas for kids can spark curiosity and help them see the beauty in cultural differences. ![Lunar New Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-69.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Explaining the symbolism of the Lunar New Year crafts While making crafts, explain the stories and meanings behind them. For instance, red lanterns are believed to ward off bad luck, and paper cuttings often symbolise happiness and wealth. This helps kids appreciate the cultural importance of these items. You could even turn it into a storytelling session, sharing legends like that of Nian, the monster scared away by loud noises and the colour red. These explanations make the crafting experience more meaningful and ensure kids walk away with a greater appreciation of the traditions. Don’t forget to tell them about the Lunar calendar! ## Teaching kids about different Chinese New Year legends Another important element of the Chinese New Year is the legends in China. Share stories like the origins of the zodiac animals or the tale of Nian. You could pair storytelling with related crafts, such as making a dragon mask to go with the story of the dragon’s dance. These legends often offer lessons in bravery, kindness, and unity, valuable takeaways for young minds. Plus, incorporating these stories into your celebrations ensures that the cultural context isn’t lost. You and your kids can make these an annual tradition. Learning about such stories helps them appreciate the values shared across different cultures. ## Final Thoughts: Lunar New Year Crafts and Activities for Kids Chinese New Year is the most important holiday in China. It isn’t just about dumplings, paper lanterns, and red envelopes; the New Year is also about opening our kids’ eyes to the richness of cultural traditions. When we involve them in these celebrations, we’re teaching them to appreciate the beauty of diversity and fostering a sense of curiosity about the world. It’s these little experiences, like making a Chinese lantern or hearing the tale of Nian, that stay with them. They not only connect to Chinese culture but also learn the universal values of kindness, community, and respect. Plus, as parents, it’s a great reminder for us, too, that the world is full of stories and traditions waiting to be discovered. So, this Chinese New Year, let’s embrace the fun, the food, and the festivities—and maybe learn a thing or two along the way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/exciting-lunar-new-year-activities-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/exciting-lunar-new-year-activities-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Clean Up Australia Day: Amazing Ways to Involve Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/clean-up-australia-day/) **Published:** February 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** There was a time when I was that person: the one carrying a mason jar of compost, refusing plastic straws like it was a moral victory, and living a full-on zero-waste lifestyle. Years ago, I was involved on a personal level in environmental causes, and Clean Up Australia Day was my annual reminder that small actions can make a change. I knew how to concoct my own toothpaste (spoiler: it tastes terrible) and could fit a year’s worth of trash into a single jar. And then … motherhood happened. Let’s just say there’s nothing quite like a screaming newborn and a mountain of nappies to humble your eco-warrior spirit. Between sleepless nights and survival mode, reducing waste felt impossible. Convenience won. And for a while, I let go of my eco-dreams. But lately, I’ve been finding my groove again … baby steps, one nappy at a time. Clean Up Australia has become one of those tiny but mighty steps. It’s a chance to teach my 3-year-old that we can care for the world without being perfect. And honestly? It’s fun. Especially when you turn it into a game. ***Further reading: [Explore Volunteering Its Good For Improved Mental Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/volunteering/)*** ## What Is Clean Up Australia Day? Founded by environmentalist Ian Kiernan, Clean Up Australia Day is the largest community-based environmental event where people come together. Since 1990, over 22 million Aussies and Australian families, schools, and community groups head out to parks, beaches, and neighbourhoods to pick up trash on land and in the water. For the past 35 years, it is held on the first Sunday in March. (The activity is endorsed by business.gov.au, but there’s also a business clean up held last February.) The best part? Anyone can get involved in this effort for the environment. You can join the [official website](https://www.cleanup.org.au) or register your own initiative. It’s a hands-on program to teach kids about caring for the planet. (By the way, if you sign up, you receive a free clean up kit.) And honestly, it feels good. There’s something powerful about seeing the immediate impact of your work on the local community … especially when you’re doing it together with your kids. And it’s just for one day of this month. If you’re ready to get your kids involved, here are nine practical and simple ideas to turn Clean Up Australia Day into an adventure. ## How to Get Kids Involved in Clean Up Australia Day ## For Toddlers and Preschoolers (Ages 2-5) ### 1. Litter Treasure Hunt My daughter loves a good treasure hunt. We grab a little bucket (one of her beach pails) and set out to find “hidden treasures”: plastic wrappers, bottle caps, and those mystery bits of garbage that seem to appear everywhere. If she drops something into the bucket, I cheer like she’s discovered gold. At the end, she gets a homemade “Eco Hero” badge, which she proudly sticks to her shirt like she’s won a medal. ### 2. Sort-and-Smile Game Sorting rubbish is surprisingly thrilling for little kids, and services like [Rubbish Removal Melbourne](https://rubbishremovalmelbourne.com.au/) handle the rest. We set up three cardboard boxes—one for paper, one for plastic, and one for metal. When she finds something, she carefully decides which box it belongs in. For the bigger clean-ups, [same day junk removal](https://ridlyrubbishremoval.com.au/ "same day junk removal") can make the process faster and easier. In childcare centres, maintaining this same sense of teamwork and cleanliness matters year-round. Professional [childcare cleaning Melbourne](https://leadcommercialcleaning.com.au/childcare-centre-cleaning/ "childcare cleaning Melbourne") services help ensure play areas, classrooms, and shared spaces stay hygienic and safe for little learners every day. ![How to Get Kids Involved in Clean Up Australia Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-23.png "In article image 23 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 3. Weed Detectives I call this our “detective mission,” and it turns pulling weeds into an epic quest. We search for pesky weeds in the garden, and she loves “saving” the plants. Plus, I sneak in a little gardening while she’s on the case. ## Getting Kids Into Clean Up Australia Day 2025 (cont.) ## For Elementary Kids (Ages 6-12) ### 4. Eco Bingo My friend Tina swears by this one with her 8-year-old twins. For 2023 and 2024, she printed out a kit of bingo cards with items like “plastic bottle,” “chip packet,” and “something blue.” Once her kids check off five in a row, they win a prize (usually homemade brownies or extra screentime). It turns a boring task into a competitive (and delicious) game. ### 5. Trash Art Challenge After a morning of collecting trash, why not get creative? Use clean, safe items — bottle caps, plastic lids, cardboard — to create an inspired sculpture. Tina’s kids once built a “Rubbish Robot” that stood proudly on their porch for weeks. ![Getting Kids Into Clean Up Australia 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-20.png "In article image 20 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 6. Clean-Up Relay Race If your kids love competition, this is a winner. Set a timer and see who can collect the most amount of litter in five minutes. My daughter isn’t quite old enough for the racing portion. But she loves to help cheer on her older cousins while handing out gloves when the team reaches the base. ## Activities for Clean Up Australia Day (cont.) ## For Teens (Ages 13-18) ### 7. Social Media Clean Up Australia Day Challenge Want to get your teen involved? Instagram. Tina’s 14-year-old, Mia, began a “Clean Up & Share” challenge with her friends. They took before-and-after photos of their local park and shared them with #CleanUpAustralia. Suddenly, saving the planet felt pretty cool. ### 8. Upcycling Project Teens love a good DIY. Let them improve garbage into something useful. Mia once transformed an old top into a reusable bag. Another time, she came up with a bird feeder from a milk bottle. The projects provide trash a second life and keep teens entertained. ![Activities for Clean Up Australia Day (cont.)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-21.png "In article image 21 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 9. Lead the Path Teens love a bit of independence, so why not let them take charge? Mia led a clean-up at her school oval last year and invited her friends. It gave her leadership experience and she felt proud seeing the difference they created towards a better world. ## Final thoughts: How to Get Involved in Clean Up Australia Day I’ll be honest: my zero-waste days feel far behind me … for now. These days, I’m just doing my best. Some weeks that means cloth bags and compost bins. Other weeks, it means surviving on takeaway coffee and disposable nappies. And that’s okay. It is a gentle reminder for all of us that everyone can make a difference in his own backyard. When my daughter proudly shows me the “treasures” she’s collected, I remember that caring for the planet doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to start somewhere. And who knows? Maybe one day, 30 years later, she may refuse plastic straws, too. Along with our kids, let’s stick to treasure hunts and Eco Hero badges. For now, a simple pledge feels like a pretty great place to begin. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/clean-up-australia-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/clean-up-australia-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Family-Friendly Home Upgrades That Improve Safety and Style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/family-friendly-home-upgrades-that-improve-safety-and-style/) **Published:** April 4, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Last month, I had three of those heart-in-your-mouth parenting moments. A toddler reached for a saucepan handle on the stove. Someone nearly slipped on wet bathroom tiles. And I found the garage door open with paint tins and tools sitting right at kid height. The good news? None of those problems needed a [full-blown renovation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-your-living-room-never-feels-spacious-enough-and-how-to-fix-it/). A few smart upgrades can make your home safer, easier to clean, and nicer to live in without blowing the budget. The trick is choosing changes that do double duty: they lower risk and make everyday family life feel a bit simpler. In Australia, more than 68,000 children are hospitalised every year because of accidents at home. Falls, burns, poisoning and driveway incidents are some of the biggest causes. The upside is that many of these risks are easy to reduce with a few well-chosen changes. ## **Start with the fixes that matter most** The easiest way to tackle family-friendly upgrades is to work in order: - Fix the biggest risks first - Choose materials that are easy to clean and hard-wearing - Spread bigger jobs across a few months so the cost feels manageable If you rent, don’t stress. Plenty of these ideas are reversible and won’t put your bond at risk. ## **Safer garage storage without the mess** Garages are often where the biggest hazards end up. Paint, petrol, fertiliser, tools, sharp blades and random bits of hardware all seem to collect there. The safest move is to get everything off the floor and locked away. Chemicals and tools should ideally sit higher than 1.5 metres so little hands can’t reach them. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-2.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") A sturdy lockable storage chest is one of the easiest ways to do that. The same heavy-duty storage used in work vehicles is brilliant in garages and sheds, too. If you want something weatherproof and portable, these [ute boxes](https://westoztools.com.au/product-category/tools/accessories-and-consumables/storage/ute-boxes/ "ute boxes") are designed with dual locks, weather seals and gas struts, so you don’t have to wrestle with a heavy lid while carrying tools. Add a simple list of what’s inside under the lid and keep anything toxic separate from pet food or pool supplies, and if you suspect hazardous materials, call in specialists like [Alpha Asbestos](https://alphaasbestos.com.au/). If you’re renting, even better — you can take the whole thing with you when you move. ## **Swap halogens for LEDs** Swapping old halogen bulbs for LEDs is one of the easiest, cheapest upgrades you can make. LEDs use less power, last much longer, and instantly brighten the house. Warm white globes around 2700K to 3000K work well in bedrooms and living areas, while brighter bulbs suit kitchens. Motion-sensor lights in hallways, bathrooms and the garage are great for safer late-night trips too. Best of all, most families can upgrade the whole house for under $300. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Make the bathroom safer and easier to clean** Bathrooms are one of the easiest places for slips and falls to happen. If you’re renovating, choose larger floor tiles with a good slip rating — they’re safer and easier to clean because there’s less grout. Not renovating? A few small fixes still help: add a non-slip bath mat, stick anti-slip strips in the shower, install grab rails if needed and make sure your hot water isn’t hotter than 50°C. Those little changes can make the bathroom much safer without making it feel clinical. ## **Alarms, Windows and Safer Cooking** Check smoke alarms and safety switches — not glamorous, but crucial. Make sure photoelectric smoke alarms are in bedrooms, hallways and every level, testing monthly and changing batteries as needed. Safety switches (RCDs) should be tested twice a year to prevent electric shocks. Secure blind cords and windows by using cord cleats or cordless blinds, and add window locks or restrictors on upper floors. Switching to induction cooktops is safer, cooler, easier to clean, and better for indoor air quality, despite higher upfront costs. ## **Choose a kitchen bench that can handle family life** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-1.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Kitchen benchtops get a serious workout in busy family homes. They need to survive hot pans, spilled tomato sauce, craft projects, lunchbox making and the occasional toy truck. That’s why easy-care surfaces matter. Laminate is affordable, but it scratches and stains more easily. Timber looks beautiful, but it needs regular oiling. Natural stone can work well, but it often needs sealing. For something tougher and lower maintenance, porcelain is becoming a popular choice. A [porcelain panel benchtop](https://studioporcelain.com.au/laminam-porcelain-benchtops/ "porcelain panel benchtop") is heat-resistant, stain-resistant and simple to wipe clean. It’s a practical option if you want a surface that looks stylish without creating more work. Matt finishes are especially handy because they hide fingerprints and smudges better than glossy ones. Rounded corners are another smart choice in family homes because there’s less chance of little heads or hips hitting a sharp edge. If a full kitchen update isn’t in the budget yet, even adding a large porcelain board to your main prep area can make cleanup easier. ## **Pool safety matters more than you think** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-artbovich-8143669-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-artbovich-8143669 - Beanstalk Mums") If you have a pool, the fence and gate deserve a proper check before summer. Pool gates should close by themselves and swing away from the pool. The latch needs to be high enough that children can’t reach it. Also, take a look around the fence line. Pot plants, chairs, toys and shrubs can all become climbing points without you realising. You don’t always need to replace the whole fence. Sometimes adjusting the gate closer or latch is enough to make things much safer. ## **Make the driveway safer for kids** Make your driveway safer for kids by clearly separating cars from play areas. Reverse in so you can drive out forward, add a curved mirror on blind corners, and set up a scooter or chalk zone away from vehicles. Keep bins and garden clutter clear, and consider a physical barrier — it protects everyone without relying on memory during busy moments. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-3-1200x800.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") For families with a narrow driveway or shared space, [yellow safety bollards](https://www.safetysector.com.au/safety-bollard/ "yellow safety bollards") are an easy way to create a visible boundary. They also help protect walls, air-conditioning units and meters from accidental bumps. If you live in a strata property, check the rules before installing anything permanent. ## **A simple 90-day plan** Trying to do everything at once can feel overwhelming, so break it into stages. ### Weeks 1–2 - Swap halogens for LEDs - Test smoke alarms and safety switches - Secure blind cords - Add non-slip mats ### Weeks 3–6 - Organise safer garage storage - Book any bathroom or electrical work - Get quotes for bigger jobs ### Weeks 7–10 - Upgrade the cooktop if you’re switching to induction - Choose new benchtops or tiles - Improve driveway safety ### Weeks 11–13 - Check pool gates and fences - Finish any remaining storage or lighting upgrades - Take before-and-after photos for your records ## **Safety and style can work together** The best family-friendly upgrades don’t just make your house look nicer. They take away those little everyday worries, too. Start with the quick wins this weekend: test the smoke alarms, secure the blind cords and clear out the garage. Then work your way towards the bigger changes when the budget allows. You don’t need a perfect house. You just need a home that works a little better for your family, feels safer day to day and is easier to keep on top of. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/family-friendly-home-upgrades-that-improve-safety-and-style/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/family-friendly-home-upgrades-that-improve-safety-and-style/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Teething Nights: A Real Guide to Soothing a Fussy Baby (and Surviving the Broken Sleep)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teething-nights-a-real-guide-to-soothing-a-fussy-baby/) **Published:** July 15, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There is a particular kind of tired that only arrives with a teething baby. The days are long, the nights are longer, and when you are doing it on your own, the exhaustion has nowhere to hand off to. If you are pacing the hallway at 3 am with a red-cheeked, dribbling little one who will not settle, you are not doing anything wrong. Teething is genuinely uncomfortable for babies, and it is genuinely draining for the mum getting them through it. Here is what is actually happening, what helps, and how to look after yourself while you look after them. # What teething really looks like Most babies start teething somewhere around the six-month mark, though plenty begin earlier and some take their time well past the first birthday. The first teeth to push through are usually the two at the bottom front, followed by the top front pair. The signs are hard to miss once you know them. Lots of drooling, a strong urge to chew on anything within reach, flushed cheeks, gum rubbing, general grizzliness, and disrupted sleep. Some babies go off their food for a day or two because their gums are sore. It is worth knowing what teething does not usually cause. A high fever, vomiting, or diarrhoea are not standard teething symptoms, and health authorities are clear on this point. If your baby has any of those, it is more likely a separate bug or infection, and it is worth a call to your GP or health line rather than writing it off as “just teeth”. # Safe ways to soothe sore gums ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-jean-marc-bonnel-387362531-17847289-1049x800.jpg "Pexels-jean-marc-bonnel-387362531-17847289 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by jean marc bonnel](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/cute-newborn-baby-playing-with-fingers-17847289/) The good news is that the most effective comfort measures are also the simplest. **Counter-pressure works.** Sore gums feel better with something firm and cool to bite on. A clean, chilled (not frozen) teething ring is ideal. Frozen rings get too hard and can bruise tender gums, so pop them in the fridge rather than the freezer. A clean, damp washcloth that has been chilled works just as well and is easy to hold. **Your clean finger is a tool.** A gentle rub along the gum with a washed finger gives real relief, and for a lot of babies, the closeness settles them as much as the pressure does. **Cool food for older bubs.** If your baby has started solids, cold options like a little chilled yoghurt or purée can soothe from the inside. Always supervise, and skip anything that is a choking risk. **Catch the dribble.** All that drooling can irritate the skin around the mouth and chin. Wiping gently and using a barrier balm keep a teething rash from adding to the misery. For a practical rundown of gentle, dentist-recommended techniques, this guide to [soothing a teething baby](https://www.1300smiles.com.au/blog/8-tips-to-soothe-your-teething-baby-and-your-soul/) is worth bookmarking. # What to skip A few popular “remedies” are best left alone. Amber teething necklaces are heavily discouraged by consumer safety and child health bodies because of the very real risk of choking and strangulation, and there is no good evidence that they do anything. The same caution applies to anything tied around a baby’s neck or wrist. Be careful with teething gels, too. Some are not recommended for infants, and a few contain ingredients you would not want to use repeatedly. Have a quick chat with your pharmacist before reaching for one, and if you are ever unsure about pain relief, ask your GP or child health nurse rather than guessing. # Surviving the nights when it is just you ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-kampus-7414402-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-kampus-7414402 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by kampus production](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/mother-and-child-brushing-teeth-7414402/) The teething advice is the easy part. The harder part is functioning on fractured sleep with no one to tap in for the next shift. A few things genuinely help. **Lower the bar, deliberately.** For the stretch, you are in the thick of it, the house can be messy, and dinner can be simple. Protecting your energy is the actual priority, not a tidy kitchen. **Sleep when you can grab it, not when you “should”.** The old line about sleeping when the baby sleeps is annoying precisely because it is true. A twenty-minute lie-down in the afternoon will not fix everything, but it takes the sharpest edge off. **Prep for the night before you are wrecked.** A bottle of water by the bed, the chilled washcloth ready in the fridge, a dim lamp instead of the big light. Small bits of setup make the 3 am wake-up fractionally less brutal. **Let people in.** If a friend or family member offers to hold the baby so you can shower or nap, say yes without the guilt. Accepting help is not failing. If you have access to a local mums group or an online community, lean on it. Even at 2 am, knowing someone else is awake and in the same boat matters more than it sounds like it should. **Watch your own tank.** Broken sleep on top of solo parenting is a lot. If you notice yourself feeling flat, hopeless, or unable to cope in a way that is not lifting, please talk to your GP or a support line. Looking after your own [mental health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/) is part of looking after your baby, not separate from it. # When to get it checked Ring your GP if your baby has a fever, seems unwell beyond ordinary teething fuss, is not feeding or wetting nappies as usual, or if you are simply worried and want reassurance. Trusting that instinct is never an overreaction. Once those first little teeth arrive, they need looking after too. Wipe them with a soft cloth or a small soft brush, and it is worth booking a first dental visit within the recommended window so someone can keep an eye on how things are coming through. The teething stage feels endless while you are in it, and then one day the tooth is through, the cheeks are less red, and you both get a proper night’s sleep again. You will get there. Be as gentle with yourself as you are with your baby. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teething-nights-a-real-guide-to-soothing-a-fussy-baby/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teething-nights-a-real-guide-to-soothing-a-fussy-baby/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [5 Ways to Stay Safe With AI Companions Without Taking All the Fun Out of It](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-ways-to-stay-safe-with-ai-companions/) **Published:** July 15, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It is 10.47 pm. The kids are finally asleep, the kitchen is mostly clean, and you have exactly enough energy to lie on the sofa and ignore the washing. You open an AI companion app. The character is funny. It remembers what you said yesterday. It asks how your day went and, unlike several real people you could name, appears interested in the answer. Twenty minutes later, you mentioned your separation, your work stress and the fact that your eldest goes to swimming lessons every Wednesday. It feels like a private conversation. But it is still information being entered into a digital service. AI companions can be playful, comforting and surprisingly good company. They may help with confidence, creativity or simply the loneliness that can creep in after the household goes quiet. Yet dodgy platforms can also collect intimate data, encourage emotional dependence, push expensive subscriptions or expose users to disturbing content. The answer is not to panic. It is to use the same practical instincts you would bring to online dating, banking or any app that wants access to your private life. ## Quick takeaways - A friendly chatbot is not the same as a confidential diary. - Check who operates the service before sharing personal information. - Never give an AI companion details that could identify your children. - Watch for guilt, pressure, frightening advice and aggressive spending prompts. - Choose platforms with visible terms, safety rules and a real deletion process. ## 1. Find out who is behind the pretty face A polished app or attractive avatar doesn’t guarantee the company behind it is trustworthy. Before signing up, look for a privacy policy, contact details, terms of service and clear instructions for cancelling your account or deleting your data. If you can’t find basic business information, it’s best to steer clear. Remember, deleting the app doesn’t always delete your account or chat history. Since AI companion apps often collect personal information, choose platforms that are transparent about how your data is stored, used and removed if you decide to leave. ## 2. Do not tell it everything, just because it remembers everything AI companions are designed to feel personal. That is their appeal. They may remember your favourite meal, ask about an argument from last week or notice that you usually log in after bedtime. This can create a strong feeling of being known. The danger is that users start talking to the system as though it were a best friend protected by professional confidentiality. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Chatgpt-image-jul-15-2026-06_12_47-am-730x800.jpg "Chatgpt image jul 15 2026 06_12_47 am - Beanstalk Mums") It is not. Avoid giving an AI companion: - your full address; - your children’s names, schools or regular activities; - your daily schedule; - banking or Centrelink information; - passwords or security answers; - medical reports; - details of family court proceedings; - identifiable intimate images. When it comes to AI companions, less is more. Avoid sharing details like your full name, address, workplace or your children’s routines, as small pieces of information can build a surprisingly complete picture of your life. Use a separate email address, choose a unique username and only grant permissions the app genuinely needs. Before uploading photos, check for anything that could reveal your location. You can still enjoy meaningful conversations without sharing your personal life. ## 3. Watch how the companion reacts when you try to leave A good AI companion should be easy to put down. If it makes you feel guilty for leaving, pressures you to keep chatting or encourages you to spend money, that’s a red flag. AI companions are designed to keep users engaged, so it’s important to set healthy boundaries. Turn off notifications if they’re becoming distracting, take breaks when needed and pay attention if the app starts affecting your sleep, relationships or daily routine. Most importantly, don’t rely on an AI companion for medical, legal or mental health advice—those conversations are best had with qualified professionals. ## 4. Guard your money, images and phone permissions ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Chatgpt-image-jul-15-2026-06_15_43-am-1200x800.jpg "Chatgpt image jul 15 2026 06_15_43 am - Beanstalk Mums") Some AI companion apps don’t ask for a lot of money upfront—they encourage small purchases that quickly add up through extra messages, images or hidden subscriptions. Before paying, check the total cost, renewal terms and how easy it is to cancel. Avoid downloading apps from unofficial websites or links, as scammers often use AI to create convincing fakes. Be careful about what you share, too. Never upload photos of your children, ID or personal images. Finally, question every permission an app requests. If it doesn’t need access to your contacts or location, don’t grant it. ## 5. Choose visible safety rules over vague promises No platform is risk-free. Still, some signs are more reassuring than others. A useful positive example is [Joi AI](https://joi.ai/ "Joi AI"). Its current terms describe an adults-only virtual companion service offering text and voice communication, with video calling available in certain circumstances. The website also provides visible links to its privacy policy, [safety information](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/), support, refund policy and complaints process. Joi explicitly states that the service is not healthcare or professional mental-health support. Its privacy policy says the company does not sell personal data and allows users to submit requests relating to access, correction and deletion. It also clearly lists information the service may process, including a first name, profile details, facts discussed in chats, text or voice messages, device information and usage data. Some information may be handled by service providers used for hosting, analytics and other functions. That transparency is the positive part. Users can see that a “personalised” conversation requires data and make a more informed choice. It does not mean you should pour every family secret into the chat. Joi’s own terms grant the company broad rights over content used to create virtual characters, so users should read the ownership sections before uploading original artwork, personal photographs, or material they may want to control elsewhere. A good platform does not ask for blind trust. It gives you enough information to set sensible limits. ## Your two-minute red-flag check | **What you notice** | **What it could mean** | |---|---| | No identifiable company or support address | Nobody may be accountable when something goes wrong | | No clear data-deletion process | Your conversations may remain after you leave | | Requests for contacts, precise location or unrestricted photo access | Excessive data collection | | Guilt or panic when you close the chat | Manipulative engagement design | | Pressure to buy tokens or gifts immediately | Compulsive-spending tactics | | Claims that the bot is a therapist or can replace professional care | Unsafe and misleading advice | | Weak or missing age controls | Children may access explicit or harmful interactions | | Requests for your children’s images or personal details | Serious privacy and safeguarding risk | ## When something feels wrong Stop engaging. Take screenshots, cancel payments, change any reused passwords and contact your bank quickly if unexpected charges appear. If personal information or money has been stolen, report the incident through Scamwatch or ReportCyber. Scamwatch advises acting quickly to reduce further loss, and anyone in immediate danger in Australia should call 000. Most importantly, do not feel foolish. These systems are deliberately designed to feel engaging and personal. Being drawn into a conversation does not make you naïve. AI companionship can be fun. It can even provide a little comfort during a quiet, difficult stage of life. Just keep one part of your mind outside the fantasy. Enjoy the character. Protect the woman holding the phone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-ways-to-stay-safe-with-ai-companions/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-ways-to-stay-safe-with-ai-companions/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [The Hidden Electrical Hazards Found in Older Bondi Homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/hidden-electrical-hazards-found-in-older-bondi-homes/) **Published:** July 14, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Older homes have a lot of character. In Bondi, that might mean original cottages, older apartment blocks, renovated terraces, Art Deco buildings or beachside homes that have been updated bit by bit over the years. These properties can be beautiful, but they can also hide electrical issues that are not obvious until something goes wrong. The problem is that many older homes were not built for the way we use electricity today. Modern households rely on air conditioning, dishwashers, induction cooking, home offices, large TVs, Wi-Fi systems, phone chargers, security cameras and plenty of everyday appliances. If the electrical system has not been upgraded properly, it may be under more pressure than it was ever designed to handle. Professional[ electrical services in Bondi](https://reactiveplumbingandelectrical.com.au/electrician-sydney/electrician-bondi/) can help identify these hidden hazards before they become dangerous or expensive. If you live in an older Bondi home, here are some of the warning signs and risks worth knowing about. ## **Old Wiring Behind the Walls** One of the biggest risks in older homes is ageing wiring. Because wiring is hidden inside walls, ceilings and floors, it can be easy to forget about. The lights still turn on, the power points still work, and everything may seem fine from the outside. But older wiring can become brittle, damaged or unsuitable for modern electrical loads. Renovations over the years may also leave a mix of old and new wiring throughout the home. This can make faults harder to detect without a proper inspection. Warning signs may include flickering lights, buzzing switches, frequently tripping circuits, discoloured power points or a burning smell. If your home has not had its wiring checked in a long time, it is worth arranging an electrical inspection. ## **Outdated Switchboards** Your switchboard keeps your home’s electrical system running safely, but many older Bondi homes still have outdated setups. Old ceramic fuses, overloaded circuits and missing safety switches may struggle to cope with today’s power demands. If your home has frequent power trips or you’re planning renovations, a switchboard upgrade can improve safety, support modern appliances and help prevent future electrical problems. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-kleison-leopoldino-219870943-31701039-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-kleison-leopoldino-219870943-31701039 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by kleison leopoldino](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/senior-woman-adjusting-electrical-fuse-box-31701039/) ## **Not Enough Power Points** Older homes often have fewer power points than modern [households](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/) need. This leads to power boards, extension leads, and double adaptors being used as permanent solutions. While power boards are useful for temporary use, relying on them everyday can create problems. Overloaded outlets can heat up, especially when high-demand appliances are connected. Extension leads running under rugs, behind furniture or across walkways can also become damaged or unsafe. If you constantly need power boards in bedrooms, living areas, kitchens or home offices, it may be time to add properly installed power points. This is a simple upgrade that can make the home safer and more practical. ## **DIY Electrical Work from Previous Owners** Older homes often pass through multiple owners, renovations and DIY repairs, and not all electrical work is completed to a safe standard. Faulty wiring, poorly installed fittings, or hidden shortcuts can remain unnoticed for years until something goes wrong. If you’ve spotted exposed cables, unusual power points, switches that don’t seem to do anything or other odd electrical features, it’s worth booking a professional inspection. Catching these issues early can help prevent costly repairs and keep your home safe. ## **Salt Air and Coastal Conditions** Living near the beach has its perks, but Bondi’s salty air can speed up wear and tear on outdoor electrical fittings. Power points, lights, switchboards and other exposed components are more prone to corrosion, which can lead to poor performance or safety issues over time. If you live close to the coast, it’s a good idea to have outdoor electrical equipment inspected regularly to catch any damage before it becomes a bigger problem. ## **Flickering Lights** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-brett-sayles-1073054-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-brett-sayles-1073054 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by brett sayles](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/incandescent-light-bulb-1073054/) Flickering lights are easy to dismiss, especially if they only happen occasionally. Sometimes the cause is simple, such as a loose bulb or old fitting. But regular flickering can point to loose connections, overloaded circuits, ageing wiring or switchboard issues. If lights dim when appliances turn on, or if several rooms flicker at the same time, the problem may be more than a faulty bulb. It is worth calling an electrician to test the circuit and find the cause. Ignoring flickering lights can allow a small fault to worsen over time. ## **Warm or Discoloured Power Points** Power points and switches should not feel hot during normal use. They should also not show brown marks, melted plastic, cracks or a burnt smell. A warm or discoloured power point can indicate overheating, loose wiring or an overloaded circuit. This is a serious warning sign, especially in older homes where wiring may already be under strain. If you notice heat, buzzing, crackling or burn marks, stop using the outlet and arrange an inspection. Do not cover the issue with furniture or keep using the power point because it still works. ## **Missing or Faulty Safety Switches** Safety switches are designed to help protect people from electric shock by cutting power quickly when a fault is detected. Many homeowners assume their property is protected because they have circuit breakers, but circuit breakers and safety switches do different jobs. Older homes may not have safety switches installed on all required circuits, or the switches may not be working properly. They should be tested regularly using the test button, but many households forget to do this. If you are unsure whether your Bondi home has proper safety switch protection, a licensed electrician can check the switchboard and recommend any upgrades needed. ## **How Renovations Can Create Electrical Problems** After a renovation, it’s easy to focus on the new kitchen, fresh paint or updated bathroom and forget about what’s happening behind the walls. But adding things like air conditioning, extra lighting, new appliances, or more power points can put extra pressure on your home’s electrical system. If the wiring or switchboard hasn’t been upgraded to handle the increased demand, you might notice power tripping, flickering lights or circuits overheating. That’s why it’s worth having an electrician check your electrical system before or after any major renovation. They can make sure everything is safe, up to code and capable of supporting your home’s new setup. Even if you’re not renovating, an electrical inspection is a smart idea if you’ve bought an older home, are planning to rent it out, or have noticed anything unusual like buzzing outlets or frequent power outages. A quick inspection today could help you avoid expensive repairs and keep your family safe in the long run. ## **Keep the Character, Upgrade the Safety** Older Bondi homes have charm, history and personality, but their electrical systems may need attention. Ageing wiring, outdated switchboards, overloaded power points, corrosion, DIY repairs and missing safety switches can all create hidden risks. The good news is that these problems can usually be identified and fixed with the right professional help. Quality electrical services can make an older home safer, more reliable and better suited to modern living without taking away its character. If something flickers, buzzes, trips, smells burnt or feels warm, don’t ignore it. Acting early can help protect your home, your appliances and the people living in the property. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/hidden-electrical-hazards-found-in-older-bondi-homes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/hidden-electrical-hazards-found-in-older-bondi-homes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Creating a Family on Your Terms: Fertility Options for Modern Women](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/fertility-options-for-modern-women/) **Published:** July 4, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For modern women in Australia, the journey towards having children has moved away from the traditional route. Some women are trying to conceive after several failed attempts. Others, like single women, single mothers, or those who have been diagnosed with a medical condition that has caused them to become conscious about their reproductive choices. There are even others who would just like to know what choices are open to them without making any immediate decisions. The change here is not only in the technology but, more importantly, in the approach. Many contemporary women are coming to their reproductive issues with the understanding that fertility planning should not be left until problems arise. It matters a great deal because the choice available when someone plans ahead is usually wider than when she becomes anxious. ## Why Reproductive Timing Is Important Female fertility depends on her ovarian reserve, which is a measure used to denote the quantity and quality of eggs left in a woman’s ovaries at a certain period of her life. This reserve naturally decreases over time, which influences the results of treatment in a way that should be known beforehand. The speed of ovarian reserve depletion can differ between women, but in general, it becomes clinically important starting from the middle of one’s thirties. This does not imply that conception is out of the question in the future, but it implies that the treatment will become more complicated and unpredictable. Being informed about your reproductive condition is important not to scare yourself, but to have information to make informed choices. ## Finding the Right Specialist Support To get help from the fertility clinic in Australia, one should be aware of the accredited specialist care centres. There is a great difference between clinics in terms of service, laboratory, and clinical skills; thus, it would be better to know how a clinic works before undergoing any procedures. ![water during pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/water-during-pregnancy.jpg "water during pregnancy - Beanstalk Mums") If women live in Sydney, then visiting a [fertility clinic in Sydney CBD](https://www.adorafertility.com.au/locations/new-south-wales/) may have certain benefits that will be helpful during all stages of the procedure. Indeed, fertility treatment often requires numerous visits, sometimes more than one in a single period, and proximity is more crucial than we think at first sight. In Australia, fertility clinics work according to the standards of the Reproductive Technology Accreditation Committee. Thus, choosing an accredited clinic is the minimum requirement for the start of treatment. ## Understanding IVF as a Process In vitro fertilisation is the most common assisted reproductive technology method practised in Australia and the world over. It is also among the most misunderstood methods and is often considered just a single process rather than a series of steps. IVF involves hormonally stimulating ovaries to produce several follicles, collection of eggs through sedation, fertilisation in a lab, development of the embryos and then their transfer to the womb. Each step of this process requires certain clinical decisions, whose results impact the overall success of the process. IVF pregnancy rates differ significantly based on the age of the woman, reasons for infertility, where applicable and many other clinical factors. Information regarding this can be found on the Your Fertility website, which is operated by the Fertility Society of Australia & New Zealand. ![pregnant with a sperm donor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/pregnant-with-a-sperm-donor.jpg "pregnant with a sperm donor - Beanstalk Mums") ## Egg Freezing and Fertility Preservation Oocyte cryopreservation, which is often called ‘egg freezing’, enables women to preserve their unfertilised eggs for future use. This procedure has been made accessible to Australian women within the last decade and is currently offered by most fertility centres. The procedure of egg retrieval is similar to that used during IVF and involves the use of vitrification – a fast-freezing technique that is considered the gold standard in oocyte preservation. Frozen eggs are thawed, fertilised, and transplanted as part of IVF treatment in the future. Egg freezing has significance in two broad scenarios. First, the procedure is used for elective purposes for those women who have decided to preserve their [fertility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/can-naturopathy-help-with-fertility/) while their ovarian reserve is still adequate. Second, egg freezing can be considered by women undergoing some medical procedures, such as some types of chemotherapy. ## Donor Conception and Single-Parent Pathways There are many recognised routes to parenthood through donor conception, such as single mothers, same-sex female couples, and heterosexual couples who require sperm or egg donations. The use of donor sperm in Australia is managed under state and territory laws that differ from state to state. One constant in all of Australia is that donor-conceived individuals have rights to information about their genetic background, including the right to know the identity of their donor when they are adults. It will depend on what state you live in, so it is important to understand the legal situation before engaging in a programme. In terms of single women seeking pregnancy with donor sperm, the treatment starts with intrauterine insemination, but IVF will be chosen in case intrauterine insemination does not work. ## Why Early and Educated Discussions Matter Fertility treatments in Australia present women with some real choice, but that choice is not always equally possible at different stages in their lives. It’s not that science has changed for women aged 38 compared with those aged 30, but rather that biology has whittled down the possibilities in between. What reproductive medicine professionals consistently advise is that women seek information sooner rather than later, hopefully before urgency comes into play. An appointment with a fertility expert, who may just be asked for an opinion without plans for actual treatment, will give a realistic sense of where one stands. That sort of educated position is, in many ways, the most valuable thing a woman can have. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/fertility-options-for-modern-women/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/fertility-options-for-modern-women/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Construction Workwear For Women: Why It Matters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/construction-workwear-for-women/) **Published:** July 12, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the construction industry, the right workwear is essential for both comfort and safety. While workwear options have traditionally been designed with men in mind, it is crucial to recognise the importance of [suitable workwear for women](https://lodworkwear.com.au/womens.html). In this article, we will explore the types of construction workwear for women and why it is vital to invest in workwear specifically designed for women’s sizes. ## Why women-specific workwear matters ### Recognition of women’s unique body shapes and sizes Women have distinct body shapes and sizes compared to men. It is crucial to acknowledge these differences when designing workwear. Women-specific workwear takes into account factors such as waist-to-hip ratio, shoulder width, and overall body proportions, ensuring a better fit and increased comfort. ### Enhanced comfort and mobility during construction tasks Ill-fitting workwear can restrict movement and hinder productivity. Women-specific workwear is tailored to provide optimal comfort and mobility, allowing women to move freely and perform their tasks efficiently. ### Increased safety and protection on the job site Safety should always be a top priority in the construction industry. Ill-fitting workwear can compromise safety by exposing workers to potential hazards. Women-specific workwear ensures proper coverage, protecting women from injuries and minimising the risks associated with loose or poorly fitting garments. ### Empowerment and confidence for women in a male-dominated industry The construction industry has traditionally been male-dominated, and the lack of women-specific workwear can contribute to feelings of exclusion and discomfort. By providing workwear designed specifically for women, it promotes inclusivity, empowers women, and boosts their confidence on the job site. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Pexels-pixabay-209719-1195x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-209719 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by pixabay](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-in-gray-vest-with-yellow-hard-hat-inside-room-209719/) ## Essential workwear items for women ### Protective headgear and helmets Head protection is vital in the construction industry. It is essential to consider proper fit and adjustment when choosing headgear. Fortunately, there are helmet options available that are designed specifically for women’s head sizes and shapes, ensuring a secure and comfortable fit. ### Durable and comfortable work boots Work boots play a crucial role in providing support and protection for feet on the job site. Women should opt for work boots that come in women’s-specific sizes to ensure optimal fit and prevent discomfort or foot-related issues. Look for key features such as reinforced toes, slip resistance, and appropriate arch support. ### Sturdy and functional work pants Work pants should be durable, flexible, and comfortable. Women-specific work pants are designed to accommodate women’s bodies, providing a better fit and allowing ease of movement. Consider factors such as fabric durability, knee pad compatibility, and appropriate sizing options. ### Purposeful and practical work shirts Work shirts should offer both functionality and comfort. Women-specific work shirts take into account women’s proportions, providing a better fit around the bust, waist, and shoulders. Look for options with breathable fabrics, sufficient pockets, and closures that suit your needs. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6474459-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6474459 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by tima miroshnichenko](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-wearing-white-helmet-while-holding-a-tablet-inside-the-house-6474459/) ### Safety vests and high-visibility clothing Safety vests and high-visibility clothing are essential for visibility on the job site. It is crucial to choose the right size and fit to ensure maximum visibility and comfort. Fortunately, there are women’s-specific options available that cater to the unique requirements of women’s bodies. ## Additional considerations for women’s workwear ### Climate and weather-specific gear Depending on the climate and weather conditions, it is important to choose workwear that offers appropriate protection and comfort. Women-specific workwear accounts for climate-specific needs, such as adaptations for extreme temperatures, layering options, and breathable fabrics. ### Protective accessories and gear In addition to clothing, protective accessories such as gloves, eyewear, and hearing protection should also be considered. It is crucial to choose accessories designed specifically for women, ensuring proper fit and optimal protection. ### Customisation and personal style Workwear can provide an opportunity to express individuality and personal style while still adhering to safety guidelines. Some brands offer customisable options that allow women to personalise their workwear, promoting a sense of ownership and confidence. ## Where to find construction workwear for women Finding women’s [construction workwear](https://www.metroworkwear.com.au/) is becoming easier as awareness grows. You can explore local retailers and specialty stores that cater to women in the construction industry. Additionally, online platforms and e-commerce websites offer a wide range of options, providing convenience and accessibility. Look for brands that specialise in women’s workwear, as they are more likely to offer a comprehensive range of sizes and styles tailored to women’s needs. ## **Conclusion**: Construction workwear for women Investing in suitable construction workwear for women is crucial in the construction industry. Women-specific workwear recognises the unique body shapes and sizes of women, enhances comfort and mobility, increases safety, and promotes empowerment in a male-dominated industry. By prioritising the purchase of workwear tailored to women’s sizes, women can feel confident, protected, and comfortable on the job site. Remember to consider essential workwear items, additional considerations for specific needs, and to explore various sources to find the right fit. Let’s strive for inclusivity and safety by embracing workwear designed with women in mind. ***Further reading: [What to think about before making a career move.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/career-move/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/construction-workwear-for-women/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/construction-workwear-for-women/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** tradie, trade, women in trade, work clothes --- ### [Where to Buy Cheap School Uniform Online in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/cheap-school-uniform-online-australia/) **Published:** April 21, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The new school year of 2025 is looming, and the race is on to get everything your kids need for the start of term, most importantly, the right school uniform and school shoes. If you’re hunting for a cheap school uniform online like me (to avoid the crowds in-store, and for more size availability), you are one smart mama. Sometimes, I even check a [second-hand/sustainable school uniform website](https://rethread.com.au/ "second-hand/sustainable school uniform website") first. It’s a great way to save money and still find good-quality items. Generally, if I need to return an item, I will take it back to the shop or, if I’m super busy, use the return policy. Most online stores have a simple process to organise a return, and it’s often free. I’m pretty sure retailers *want* us to shop online because they offer exclusive promotions that you can’t get in-store. Keep an eye out for discount codes and specials. Sign up for newsletters so you don’t miss out, as the savings are really helpful, especially if you are buying for more than one child. ***For more ways to bring down the cost of your cart, see: [8 Brilliant online shopping hacks to save you money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/8-brilliant-online-shopping-hacks-to-need-to-know/).*** ## **Where to buy cheap school uniforms online in Australia** ## [**Big W**](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) As much as I love online shopping, back-to-school shopping is something that I prefer not to spend a lot of time on. That’s why I like stores that have everything or nearly everything that’s on my list. [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) stocks a wide range of back-to-school items, from school uniforms to shoes to accessories. Their back-to-school stock increases from December, but they have the basics covered all year round: plain shorts, jumpers, jackets, pants, shorts, polos, blouses, shirts and hats. I like the quality of the clothes that I’ve purchased from Big W and think they are a level up from Kmart. [![Big W | cheap school uniform online](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hdb/h73/26519480369182.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) Source: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) ## [**Blank Clothing**](https://www.blankclothing.com.au/school-uniforms/) I always have a hard time finding plain tops and bottoms. Thankfully, I found [Blank Clothing](https://www.blankclothing.com.au/school-uniforms/), a store that sells plain and blank clothes, from hoodies to [polo shirts](https://flashuniforms.com.au/collections/casual-polo-shirts), in every colour of the rainbow at affordable prices (around $20 on average). They also have towels, aprons and hats, which come in handy at school too. All you need to do is add school patches, monograms, or embroidery – some schools are not too worried about it, though, especially if they know money is tight. If you’d rather skip the DIY approach, [embroidery services](https://2kthreads.com.au/services/embroidery) can professionally add school crests, initials, or team logos to polos, jumpers, and hats. It’s a quick, affordable way to make plain uniforms look polished and ready for the classroom. Their website claims that they have the biggest range of plain clothing on the market, and I have to say that their actual catalogue is quite impressive. ## [**Kmart**](https://www.kmart.com.au/search/?searchTerm=school+uniforms) [Kmart’s](https://www.kmart.com.au/search/?searchTerm=school+uniforms) back-to-school deals are too good to pass up, with prices starting at $5 for school uniforms. Their inventory is not that extensive, at around a hundred items listed, but it’s a one-stop shop for shoes, backpacks, hats, hoodies, tops, bottoms, and other essentials at bargain prices. If you don’t have time to comparison shop or check out multiple websites, I would recommend Kmart, as you know it’s gonna be cheap. I recommend using Kmart for cheap school uniforms online, but only for the items that kids go through quickly, like white shirts. Go elsewhere for items that need to be more durable, like jumpers and shoes. ## [**Marks & Spencer**](https://www.marksandspencer.com/au/l/kids/school-uniform-shop/) Buying school uniforms from Marks and Spencer is normal for me as I’m English, so I was surprised and pleased to see that [M&S Australia](https://www.marksandspencer.com/au/l/kids/school-uniform-shop/) stocks school uniforms too. They have around 430 items listed, including shoes, socks, backpacks, and undies with prices starting at $7. Expect to spend around $25+ per item, but I think it’s reasonable considering you’re paying for good-quality clothes that are designed to be worn daily. The fabric is high quality and durable, which I expect from M&S. I also love that there are frequent discounts if you buy more than one item, like the one that takes off 20% when you buy four sweatshirts or leggings. ## **Cheap School Uniform Online in Australia (cont.)** ## [**The School Locker**](https://theschoollocker.com.au/) If you are looking for specific school uniforms, [The School Locker](https://theschoollocker.com.au/) is one of the best places to shop online. The website is really user-friendly and keeps me calm. You can shop by school, university, and department. You can also filter the results by category, brand, and price. I went straight to the school and filtered by year level to find the items that I needed to get. Look out for the “Optional” and “Compulsory” tags to see what’s mandatory and what’s not. Prices are higher than generic uniforms you can buy at any store, but that’s to be expected. ## [**School Uniforms Australia**](https://www.schooluniformsaustralia.com.au/) If you’re ever looking to buy school uniforms wholesale, check out the [School Uniforms Australia](https://www.schooluniformsaustralia.com.au/) website. The company is a family-owned business that manufactures, supplies, and distributes wholesale school uniforms across the country. If you’re not buying in bulk, it can be pretty hard to shop because prices are not listed. You need to download the catalogue to see a full list of their product offerings, or you can request a quote by clicking the button on the top right of the page. I haven’t shopped here personally, but the school uniforms look well-made and durable. ## [**Best & Less**](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/qnAZvq) [Best & Less](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/qnAZvq) has more basic and plain school uniforms at super low prices to compete with Kmart and Big W. A good choice for shopping for a cheap school uniform online. From pants and skirts to dresses and jumpers, they have a wide range of choices at affordable prices (up to $30). I’ve been more than happy with all the items I’ve purchased at Best & Less. The jumpers and pants fit well, the tops are easy to care for, and the coloured shirts are surprisingly fade-resistant after six washes. I’m impressed with the quality and durability, and I also love the 100-day quality guarantee. In case you’re not happy with any of the items, simply ship back your parcel to Best & Less within 100 days of purchase to get a refund. [![Best & Less | cheap school uniform online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Screenshot-2022-10-14-181916.jpg "Screenshot-2022-10-14-181916 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/qnAZvq) Source: [Best & Less](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/qnAZvq) ## [**Target**](https://www.target.com.au/c/school/school-uniforms/W97369) Target is another great website for school uniforms. They have uniforms for boys and girls from primary through secondary school. Their school uniforms category includes uniforms plus accessories, with over 100 items listed. They have all the basics covered, and the prices are unbeatable (starting at $5). The quality is good for the price, but sizing can be hit or miss depending on the item. One t-shirt was a little large compared to a jumper that was the right size. Overall, I would shop at Target again for things like plain clothing, like sports t-shirts and polos. ## **Where to buy school shoes online in Australia** ## **[ Ecco](https://fave.co/3Gh5tAx "Doc Martens")** Don’t you just love Doc Martens shoes? The super sturdy design, the thick soles, and the trademark yellow stitching. I remember my first pair in high school, which took me a whole summer to save up for, haha. I always get my kids regular school shoes, because let’s face it, Doc Martens are not exactly cheap. But recently I caved and bought Mary Janes for my 10-year-old, something comfy and lightweight that would last the whole year. She’s pretty happy with the shoes, and so am I. Every design that we looked at is built to last, and this one is no different. It’s great for all-weather wear and great value for money. ## [**Children Salon**](https://fave.co/4ixMkrp) Coming from the UK, [Children Salon](https://fave.co/4ixMkrp) is a must for school shoes. You can’t go wrong with over 70+ styles on their list. I’ve been on the lookout for sturdy sports shoes, and one of their bestsellers, the Ace Black, fit the bill. They look like trainers, but the design is subtle enough to make them all-purpose. The self-fastening velcro strap is a godsend for young kids and will save you hours over the course of a week putting shoes on and off. I consider it a steal at $90 as I’ve seen similar shoes priced at around $150. And the Minecraft collab with freebie didn’t hurt! ## [**Joma Shop**](https://fave.co/43YRcSJ) [Joma Shop](https://fave.co/43YRcSJ) is one of my go-to places for school and everyday shoes. My in-store and online shopping experiences have been great so far, and the staff are always friendly. Tip: We book a fitting online, go in-store to get the correct shoe sizes and then head home and purchase on the website to get the online specials. They have heaps of options when it comes to styles and brands, the postage is fast, and delivery is free on all orders over $69. ## [**Foot Locker**](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43864&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.footlocker.com.au%2Fen%2Fsearch%3Fquery%3Dschool) [Foot Locker](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43864&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.footlocker.com.au%2Fen%2Fsearch%3Fquery%3Dschool) is better known for adult sports shoes and trainers, but they also sell high-quality kids’ sports shoes. There are no black shoes for uniforms, but they have plenty of athletic and casual styles for sports/everyday from brands like Adidas, Nike, Puma, and Vans. The website is well-organised and I had no trouble finding the shoes that I wanted. Most of the items are in the “SALE” category and marked down up to 50%, so you’ll definitely find a good deal here. The delivery fee is $10 per order or free when you spend over $150 in a single order. ![cheap school uniform online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Cheap-school-uniform-1200x800.png "Cheap school uniform - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts: Buying a Cheap School Uniform Online in Australia** At the end of the day, finding a cheap school uniform online doesn’t mean settling for second best. With a bit of savvy scrolling, you can nab quality gear that stands up to the rough-and-tumble of school life, without blowing your budget. Whether your kid is starting kindy or heading into high school, there are heaps of affordable options out there that’ll tick all the boxes: comfy, durable, and easy on the wallet. Plus, shopping online means no dragging tired kids through crowded aisles or dealing with last-minute panic buys. It’s all about convenience, savings, and keeping your sanity intact. So skip the stress, stay in your trackies, and shop smart from the comfort of your couch. Your future self (and your bank account) will thank you. Happy uniform hunting, mum! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/cheap-school-uniform-online-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/cheap-school-uniform-online-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School **Tags:** school uniform, back to school, school costs --- ### [Women's tradie workwear: 6 Best places to buy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/womens-tradie-workwear/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Hey there, fellow tradie ladies! Looking for the perfect workwear that combines style, comfort, and functionality? Well, look no further! As a seasoned tradie woman who understands the importance of quality workwear, I’m here to guide you to the best places to buy women’s tradie workwear. Gone are the days when workwear shopping meant settling for ill-fitting men’s gear or compromising on style. Today, we are fortunate to have many options specifically designed to cater to our needs as hardworking women in the trades. Whether you’re an electrician, carpenter, plumber, or any other skilled professional, the correct workwear can make all the difference in terms of safety, durability, and confidence. In this article, I will share my knowledge and experiences to help you navigate the world of women’s tradie workwear. From practical pants and sturdy boots to high-visibility shirts and protective gear, we will explore the best retailers and online platforms that offer an extensive range of workwear options tailored to our unique requirements. I understand the challenges we face as women in traditionally male-dominated industries, and that’s why I’m committed to empowering you with the information you need to make informed choices. So, prepare to gear up and embrace your trade with confidence, comfort, and style! Let’s dive in and discover the ultimate destinations for women’s tradie [workwear and uniforms](https://designstoyou.com/), designed to balance comfort, durability, and style. ## Work Wear Hub First, my go-to store: Work Wear Hub. This store has high-quality products ranging from uniforms to footwear, safety gear, and accessories from the biggest brands in women’s tradie workwear. You’ll love that they proudly partner with heaps of Aussie heritage and up-and-coming brands. Work Wear Hub has products for men and a handful of items for kids, such as high-visibility jackets, so it’s kind of a one-stop shop for safety wear. Plus, Work Wear Hub offers free refunds, so you’re guaranteed to only get top-notch products. [![Work Wear Hub women's tradie workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/workwearhub.webp "workwearhub - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.workwearhub.com.au/) Shop here: [Work Wear Hub](https://www.workwearhub.com.au/) ## Bisley Workwear Bisley Workwear by PIP is a homegrown brand known for the exceptional quality of work, safety, and protective wear for men and women alike. Its women’s range includes shirts, jackets, pants, shorts, and coveralls. The garments ensure safety and protection while remaining flexible and comfortable to move in. It also has a range of flame-resistant workwear, which guarantees to keep you safe under hazardous conditions. This is the only brand-specific store in this list, but I have to include it because I’ve been using my Bisleys for many years now and can vouch for their quality. What I like most about Bisley Workwear is that they’re super durable in the laundry, maintaining their quality for years. [![Bisley Workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/bisley.jpg "bisley - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bisleyworkwear.com.au/womens/) Shop here: [Bisley Workwear](https://www.bisleyworkwear.com.au/womens/) ## Kogan If you need another reason to shop at Kogan, it also carries some women’s tradie workwear brands. The workwear collection is affordable compared to other online stores with higher-end brands. But if you’re looking for essential workwear, it has hi-vis jackets, breathable shirts, scrub suits, cargo pants and shorts, and jeggings. It also doesn’t carry big brand names like Bisley. But the basic selection will be good enough if you’re not into trades that are very hazardous and require specialised garments. [![Kogan women's tradie workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/kogan.webp "kogan - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Nk6vo2) Shop here: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Nk6vo2) ## Get Real Workwear This Aussie company sells products from the leading safety and workwear brands. The selection is small as of the time of writing, but Get Real Workwear covers the basics when it comes to high-quality women’s tradie workwear. Get Real Workwear has fleece jackets and jumpers, cooling shirts, coveralls, hi-vis tops, singlets, cargo pants, stretch pants, and maternity drill pants. You’ll also find reflective hardhat stickers, caps and hats to shield your head from the sun, socks, sweatbands, and towels. And it has a super nice collection of safety shoes and boots, like this lovely pink pair, which I really love. ![Get Real Workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/pink2_1_600x.webp "pink2_1_600x - Beanstalk Mums") Shop here: [Get Real Workwear & Safety](https://getrealworkwear.com.au/collections/workwear-womens) ## Lowes Tradie Workwear Lowes’ collections are still limited as of this time, but you can find a handful of women’s tradie workwear at an affordable price. The store carries hi-vis shirts and jackets, [scrubs](https://simplyscrubs.com.au/), shorts, jeggings, pants, footwear, and more. What I love about shopping at Lowes for industrial wear for ladies is, of course, the low price. When I’m not looking for specialised gear – which most companies provide, by the way – I always check the options at this retailer first. The selection will most likely be enough for everyday wear, so I don’t need to shell out lots of money. ![Lowes women's tradie workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/lowes.webp "lowes - Beanstalk Mums") Shop here: [Lowes](https://www.lowes.com.au/workwear/womens-work-wear) ## Hip Pocket Tradie Workwear Here’s one thing that sets Hip Pocket Workwear apart from others on this list. Its women’s tradie workwear collection includes corporate dresses, skirts, and blazers. Aside from office wear, you will find regular safety boots and shoes, hi-vis gear, shorts, pants, coveralls, and other accessories. So, if you need something more business and professional but still want to enjoy the comfort and stretch of typical workwear, head on to Hip Pocket Workwear. It’s nice to check this if you’re looking to shop for ordinary workwear and something more fashionable at the same time. ![Hip Pocket Tradie Workwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/hip-pocket-656x800.jpg "hip pocket - Beanstalk Mums") Shop here: Hip Pocket Workwear ## Final words: Women’s tradie workwear What trades are best for women? Well, all of them! We women in trade have proven that we are capable of everything, even in traditionally male job environments. But here is one thing women should not (and must not!) do: try to squeeze into men’s work clothing! Obviously, we have different requirements when it comes to clothes since men’s and women’s bodies are built differently. It’s great news that we no longer have to settle for ill-fitting men’s clothing. There is a vast choice of industrial wear available now that provides the same level of protection, flexibility, and comfort while still feeling nice on our bodies. From shirts to jackets to pants to footwear, the [online stores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/money-saving-online-christmas-shopping/) and retailers in this list guarantee that clothes don’t hinder our ability to show our skills and passion for our trade. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/womens-tradie-workwear/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/womens-tradie-workwear/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** trade, work clothes --- ### [The trouble with teenagers: Tips and tricks to help you navigate the teen years](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tips-and-tricks-to-help-you-navigate-the-teen-years/) **Published:** August 20, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Door slamming. Crashing and banging. Shouts of ‘I hate you’ and ‘You’re the worst mum EVER’. Sound familiar? You join the leagues of parents all over the world who are dealing with tricky teenagers. Hormonal rows and tantrums can create a real sense of disharmony and tension in the home, but how do you get through these challenging years? One thing many parents consider doing is installing a [spy phone app ](https://www.mspy.com/mobile-phone-spy-software.html)into their teenager’s cell phone, to keep an eye on what they are up to and to ensure that social media is not creating more problems. But what if it is not that? What can you do to make life a little happier for the whole household? ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [Is my teen taking drugs? 10 Warning signs you need to know …](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/signs-of-teen-substance-abuse/)*** ## When things are good, celebrate them Think about how you would deal with a toddler. You try to ignore [low level ‘bad behaviour](https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/379249/Below_20the_20radar_20-_20low-level_20disruption_20in_20the_20country_E2_80_99s_20classrooms.pdf)’ as far as possible and reward positive behaviour, and the same goes for the teenagers of the house. For example, if you and your team have a reasonable conversation, finish off with a casual ‘hey, was great to have a chat’. Do not make a big deal about it, do not shout it across the room or embarrass them and go back to whatever it was you were doing after. If you can, non-verbal communication such as a high-five, thumbs up or a simple touch of the shoulder as you walk past can mean as much to a teenager as praise. By doing this a couple of times a day, you will see an increase in the number of positive interactions you have with your teen child. ## Make sure any ‘punishment’ is appropriate for the action It can be tempting to go all out when your teenager does something that they shouldn’t and punish them heavily, but if you hand out big punishments for minor things, when they do something really wrong, you have nothing to fall on. Many parents opt for a punishment that involves a loss of a privilege, whether that is the use of their [cell phone](http://www.techbuzzer.org/best-iphone-7-apps/), TV, or games console for a specified period. Other parents like to use ‘grounding’ where their child is not allowed out other than to school. Keep it brief – no more than a night or two, and make sure that they understand the punishment correlates to the behaviour. ## Find a way to meet them in the middle Even the best-behaved teenagers are going to push the boundaries at some point – it is a normal part of growing up, and sometimes, you must pick your battles. Find some sort of middle ground. Maybe you can relax bedtimes a little if they meet you halfway on some other issue. Perhaps they can go to that party if they do a task. Teenagers can be hard work, that is for sure. However, remember that most parents experience the same frustrations and problems that you do, and talking to them to find out how they deal with things is a way to feel[ less isolated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tips-and-tricks-to-help-you-navigate-the-teen-years/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tips-and-tricks-to-help-you-navigate-the-teen-years/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Quick guide to feeling safe in your home as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/feeling-safe-in-your-home-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** July 22, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you sometimes feel on edge when alone in your home, or with just your children? You are not the only one. When you hear an unusual noise halfway through the night and there’s no one next to you to go and investigate, it’s scary. You need to feel safe in your home, as do your children. Here are our tips to feeling safe in your home as a single mum. ## QUICK GUIDE TO FEELING SAFE IN YOUR HOME AS A SINGLE MUM ### GET USED TO THE SOUNDS When you first move into a house, listen for sounds. Every house has its own sounds and it can take a while to get use to them. What you first thought was a madman knocking on a downstairs window might turn-out to be the sound of pipes as your hot water system refills. It is no longer scary but a noise that suggests the house is preparing to look after you and your family in the morning. ### GET A WIRELESS VIDEO DOORBELL If you’re like our household, we all jump when the doorbell goes as it’s such a rare occurrence for someone to turn up unannounced. A video door bell is a clever solution to know who is calling. It is a doorbell connected to you phone whereby you can view the person standing at your door on your phone before choosing to answer it. There is a range available on the market at very reasonable prices and most are easy to install. Try the [Wifi Smart Doorbell](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07S92W335/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07S92W335&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=36bbcfc573b9b8a314c888e8c071bd74). ### SECURITY LIGHTS Security lights are a double-edged sword when it comes to feeling safe in your home as a single mum. They are a good way to deter unwelcome visitors, but some are ultra-sensitive meaning they may come on if a cat crosses your yard, giving you the fright of your life. The answer: Make sure the lights are set-up properly and you know what will set them off. You can also get solar security lights which save on money and energy. [![Solar lights | Feeling safe in your home as a single mum | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h99/he6/97293520076830.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/3JgM4A)Stockist: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/3JgM4A) ***Further reading: [How to choose the right security cameras for your home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/home-security-cameras/)*** ## QUICK GUIDE TO FEELING SAFE IN YOUR HOME AS A SINGLE MUM (CONT.) ### SMART LIGHTING Talking of lights, Smart lighting is taking off and is now very affordable. You buy the bulbs and you are able to control them from your Apple or Android phone. You can do all sorts of fancy things with Smart lighting, such as change colours, set timers and dimming. But we like the fact that you can turn lights on and off around the home from wherever you are in the home, or if you are out. ### BE FRIENDLY WITH YOUR NEIGHBOURS People-power is better than anything else when it comes to feeling safe in your home as a single mum. If you’re on good terms with your neighbours, they will be looking out for you. Not only is this a comforting thought, but it can make all the difference if you need help fast, and you know they are willing. ### BOOTS OUTSIDE The ‘workbook’ trick is an oldie but a goodie. Get an old pair of men’s work boots and leave them outside your front door. The bigger the better! This suggests that a big, burly man lives in your home, and could deter you from becoming a target as a single-mum household. If you don’t have a man in your life who will donate a pair of boots, head to a charity shop and grab a pair. Best ever trick to feeling safe in your home as a single mum. ## QUICK GUIDE TO FEELING SAFE IN YOUR HOME AS A SINGLE MUM (CONT.) ### BE CAREFUL ON SOCIAL MEDIA We all love to brag that we are heading to Bali for ten days, but it is not always the best move. You could instead post and thank the imaginary friend who is looking after your house while you go to Bali for ten days. Be careful announcing anywhere that your home will be empty. This even applies to having a night out. And don’t think that your posts are restricted to friends only. A well-meaning friend may share your post, and the wrong person sees it. Just be careful! ### GET A PET Dogs can make great guards for your home, but [getting a dog](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/) is a huge responsibility so only get one if you have the time, energy and money to care for one. A cat won’t have the same effect when purring at a burglar, but they can be great company for you and make you feel less alone, especially if the kids are with dad. Even birds can keep you company. I have my robot vacuum cleaner, who I chat to on a regular basis. ### CLOSE THE CURTAINS It seems obvious, or does it? When your home is lit-up from the inside on a dark night and your curtains are open, you may as well be on a concert stage. Passers-by can see everything! Make sure you close your curtains or [blinds](https://www.dotcomblinds.com/) as dusk sets in. Be especially careful in the hot months when you need cool air circulating your home, as you still need privacy from outsiders. ## OUR FINAL IDEAS FOR FEELING SAFE IN YOUR HOME AS A SINGLE MUM ### REPORT ANYTHING STRANGE If you see something strange in your neighbourhood, even if it isn’t directly related to your home, report it. Be a part of keeping your area safe. If it doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t. You can report suspicious behaviour to your local police station, [Crime Stoppers](https://www.crimestoppers.com.au/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwp5_qBRDBARIsANxdcin-qFqsAYqSpyJy7kBlbc322YpzxNEchln4ogXvAF6bgjO8UCo-c70aAnX1EALw_wcB) or [Neighbourhood Watch](https://nhwa.com.au/). ### GET AN APP There are a number of apps available to support people living alone. Many of them are for elderly people or those in need of care, but they are just as handy for us single mums. As well as many other features on offer, they will check in on you at your programmed times. If you don’t respond they will alert a nominated family member or friend so they can make sure you are ok. Perfect if you have young children or are solitary when the kids are with dad. ### KEEP YOUR PHONE BY THE BED If nights are particularly stressful for you and you feel unsafe or on edge, keep your phone close to you. You can change the setting to Do Not Disturb so your group chat in another country doesn’t wake you every seven seconds. Put numbers into your phone of people you can call in an emergency. You can then relax and wind-down, knowing that help is just an arm-stretch away. This alone will help you to [get a better night’s sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/) and have you feeling safe in your home as a single mum. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-banner-320x100-2-1200x148.jpg "ecourse banner 320x100 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) For more safety ideas to help with all kinds of situations on your single mother journey read: [The Ultimate Guide to Personal Safety Apps for Single Mums.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/3rd-Pins.png "3rd Pins - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/feeling-safe-in-your-home-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/feeling-safe-in-your-home-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** home safety, living alone, home security, neighbours --- ### [Best jobs for single mums (Flexible Mum Jobs 2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/flexible-jobs-for-single-mums/) **Published:** May 31, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Single parents have it tough balancing work and looking after their kids alone. Finding gigs with part-time hours or flexible schedules is key for Mamas juggling childcare and job duties. The best jobs offer a steady income and have flexible hours for handling family stuff. You might need to do some retraining, but it will be worth it. You might even find one that’ll let you work from home! Let’s look at the best flexible jobs for single mums. ## Best flexible jobs for single mums ## Uber driver [Uber](https://www.uber.com/a/drive/au/?ds_rl=1242130&ds_rl=1249734&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc-brand&utm_campaign=search-google-brand_10_-99_au-national_d_all_acq_cpc_en_exact&adgroup_name=GE%3EDR%3EUber%3EPure%3EGeneric%3EExact&utm_term=uber&kw=uber&campaign_id=71700000018203026&cid=71700000018203026&adgroup_id=58700002066096905&adg_id=58700002066096905&kw_id=p16321338453&kwid=p16321338453&ad_id=279869148383&ext_id=&ran=5410221601425092201&lint_id=&lphy_id=9069272&pos=1t1&dev=c&net=g&match=e&placement=&target=&ds_rl=1242130&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bkXytacWCWmIYxH7RFNxwl3Dhc-2h5Ts6TwpQeW8znozBldJtOjUAoaAh9FEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) tops my list because it saved me when I was looking for a job. Drivers only need a smartphone, a full driver’s license, and a passport or birth certificate. As for the [vehicle requirements](https://www.uber.com/au/en/drive/requirements/vehicle-requirements/), you’ll need a car that is a 2008 model or newer, has 4 doors, is registered and CTP-insured in your state, and has no cosmetic damages or commercial branding. Your car must pass an approved Uber inspection, so give it a good clean. Additionally, you’ll need to pass a simple medical exam. Ensure you are listed as an insured driver for the car you’ll use. Signing up is easy – you can start earning money within a few days. You get paid weekly and can track your earnings as you go. Uber driving can be done alongside your current job or any of the other jobs listed below, as you can work as little or as much as you like. ### What can I earn with Uber driving? *Most Uber drivers make about $25/hour. Your earnings depend on the day, the times you drive, and how long you need to wait between trips.* ## Contract bookkeeper This next job is a perfect side hustle during school hours if you are a whizz with numbers. It allows you to work for people across the world. You will need a [Certificate IV or higher in Bookkeeping](https://www.icb.org.au/), as well as training in GST and BAS Agent Registration. You’ll need access to a popular program that your potential clients will recognise, such as [Xero ](https://www.xero.com/au/)or [QuickBooks](https://quickbooks.intuit.com/au/). Once you’re ready to start, head online to [Fiverr ](https://www.fiverr.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=G_AU_Competitors_Desktop_Exact&utm_term=Exact_Freelancer&utm_content=AdID%5e194401592532%5eKeyword%5efreelancer%5ePlacement%5e%5eDevice%5ec&caid=314302991&agid=29651815871&ad_id=194401592532&kw=freelancer&lpcat=bu_general&show_join=true&sherlock=true&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bnryVPAHgieo3yjsvdKKkH-wPE5Ka5Tuba5LXBfDTI4xfuHWRd0g4IaApjWEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds)and/or [People Per Hour](https://www.peopleperhour.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=Exact+-+People+Per+Hour&utm_campaign=CWW-NS-Brand-ALL&label=+CO_WW-CI_ALL-NE_S-TH_Brand-BR_Brand&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bmnstQz4BVJFDWhDaUR2DscnXbsMY3nDqRvI3pzrelSh-89HLs4LPgaAkEyEALw_wcB) to register and bid for new jobs. Completing an [accountancy course online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/accounting-course/) is a great way to kickstart your new career in numbers. ### What can I earn as a contract bookkeeper? *Payment for contract bookkeeping work varies by client and task, but basic earnings are around $28/hour.* ## Fitness instructor Becoming a fitness instructor is a fantastic way to earn, work around your kids, and[ stay fit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/). It allows you to work during school hours and the opportunity to start your own business. You’ll need to study for a [Certificate III/IV in Fitness](https://www.fitnesseducation.edu.au/courses/) and gain work experience through a vocational placement. After that, you’re ready to go. According to Seek, fitness instructors have been in demand for years, so it’s the best time to become one. ### What can I earn as a Fitness Instructor? *The average wage for a fitness instructor is $25/hour. However, you’ll earn more if you start your own fitness studio.* ![flexible jobs for single mums - fitness instructor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/IN-ARTICLE-images-6.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Best side hustle for extra income ## Virtual Assistant or Project management If you have office experience, you can be a home-based virtual assistant (VA) or project manager. Businesses, big and small, are recognising the value of good VAs, so it’s time to dust off that keyboard. You can work at home as a VA for multiple clients simultaneously, and they can be based anywhere in the world. Search on freelance websites such as [Fiverr](https://www.fiverr.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=G_AU_Competitors_Desktop_Exact&utm_term=Exact_Freelancer&utm_content=AdID%5e194401592532%5eKeyword%5efreelancer%5ePlacement%5e%5eDevice%5ec&caid=314302991&agid=29651815871&ad_id=194401592532&kw=freelancer&lpcat=bu_general&show_join=true&sherlock=true&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bnryVPAHgieo3yjsvdKKkH-wPE5Ka5Tuba5LXBfDTI4xfuHWRd0g4IaApjWEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds), [Upwork](https://www.upwork.com/), and [Freelancer](https://www.freelancer.com/). If you need to polish up old skills or learn a few new ones, it’s easy and affordable to train online with courses from [Udemy](https://trk.udemy.com/xJkYjx). ### What can I earn as a virtual assistant? *For casual VA work, you can earn between $35 to $55 per hour.* ## Teacher, teaching assistant or school office worker Working at a school is perfect for single mothers. It allows you to save on gas and keep an eye on your child. These jobs are highly sought after, particularly because you get time off during school holidays, often with pay. If you don’t have time to train and become a full-fledged teacher, you can become a [teaching aide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/teachers-aid/) instead. Alternatively, you can leverage your past administrative or marketing experience to work in the school office. If you have a knack for food and beverages, the school tuck shop is another option. Start by volunteering at your child’s school. Use this opportunity to showcase your abilities and mention your interest in job openings. I did this when my oldest daughter was in kindergarten. While working there, I saved on commuting costs, I’m available for any school emergencies, and I have holidays off to spend with her. [According to TSA](https://www.tsa.edu.au/blog/best-work-from-home-jobs/), being an online tutor is another in-demand work-from-home job, as it offers flexibility and the fulfilment of working with students. ### What can I earn in Teaching? *Full-time teachers earn between $60K and $86K per year, depending on the state. Teaching assistants earn around $24/hour or $38K/year, while school secretaries earn an average of $57K/year.* ## Sell stuff online If you’re clever and crafty, try making and selling items online. Platforms like Etsy allow you to bypass creating a website and just SELL. Don’t worry if, like me, you don’t have an artsy bone in your body. You could buy wholesale items and sell them individually at a profit on Gumtree, [eBay](https://www.ebay.com.au/?mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=), or Etsy. Selling online offers a huge amount of work-hour flexibility and enormous room for growth. ### What can I earn Selling Online? *Your earnings depend entirely on what you sell, your cost of sales, and your sales volume.* ## Best part-time flexible jobs for single mums ## Hairdressing, eyebrow technician, spray tanner A job in the beauty industry can give you flexible hours with the right employer, or you can even set up your own business from home. Depending on what you’re interested in, your qualifications, and the equipment you already have, it might be as simple as [getting an ABN](https://abnregistration.com.au/?gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bkfLiMsCa5z2kQOTZbfJAEklg1qytc7eIXTMgk6xbpz1Rmi1bX47WUaAmKIEALw_wcB) and getting started. If you need training, there are plenty of online beauty schools that can get you certified. And the equipment might be cheaper than you think—check out second-hand items on [eBay](https://www.ebay.com.au/?mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001&mkevt=1) or affordable new gear on [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/s?k=beauty+equipment&_encoding=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&crid=3NGCMB69AZHRC&linkCode=ur2&linkId=bdbbe4a95f07e8a66e8211aaa13b74b7&sprefix=beauty+equip%2Caps%2C353&tag=beanstalk0f-22&ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_12). After her divorce, my friend Joan badly needed a job. She always loved doing hair and makeup, so she took a few online courses to get certified in hairdressing. Now, Joan has a steady stream of clients. The best part was she could support and be there for her son while doing something she loves. ### What can I earn in the Beauty Industry? *If you’re employed as a beauty therapist, you can earn about $25/hour, depending on your experience. Working for yourself can be more profitable, with earnings of around $50/hour after considering equipment and other costs. Hairdressers typically start at around $18/hour, and senior stylists make about $55/hour.* ## Transcriptionist If you’re quick on the keyboard, transcribing could be the ideal career choice for you. It involves listening to live or recorded audio files and typing the words into document form. Usually, transcriptionists work for legal, police, or medical services, meaning professionalism, accuracy, and discretion are crucial. ### What can I earn as a Transcriptionist? *You can earn around $25 to $55 per hour doing transcriptions.* ## Chef, waitress, café supervisor If hospitality is more your thing, why not work in a café, daytime restaurant, or bar? With many eateries on the high street, there’s plenty of choice. Securing a job as a waitress can be done with a bubbly personality, good grooming, and a willingness to work. A[ barista ](https://www.australianbaristaschool.com.au/)licence also helps. Such jobs can easily lead to supervisor positions, which pay more. If you have experience as a chef or kitchen hand, you can showcase your abilities to a café owner. Make sure any potential employer knows your situation and that you are available for lunch service most days and perhaps some evenings when the kids are with their dad. ### What can I earn as a Café Employee? *As a waitress, you will earn around $25/hour. If you land a permanent job as a supervisor, this can increase to $49K/year. The average pay for a kitchen chef is $23/hour, which increases with experience. Hospitality workers often receive tips and bonuses for holiday work.* ## Freelance Writer (Best work-from-home option) If you’ve had a career as a writer or just enjoy writing, there are plenty of opportunities for writers in today’s content-hungry world. Check out websites such as [iWriter](https://www.iwriter.com/member), where you’ll find callouts for every type of writer—website content, blogging, academic papers, and everything in between. Topics vary, so if you have expertise in a certain area, you can write about that and charge a premium. These part-time jobs have deadlines that you can work on within school hours or when the kids are in bed. If your writing skills are a little rusty, run your work through [Grammarly](https://www.grammarly.com/?q=brand&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=brand_f1&utm_content=329885936579&utm_term=grammarly&matchtype=e&placement=&network=g&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bm4tii7NK5Ng8K73MQ7ZFwwNWBRlkmM8OnRSQW6ZUVj5IcrCzEG8oEaAqRKEALw_wcB) to check for spelling or grammatical errors. ### What can I earn from Freelance Writing? *Depending on the employer, niche, and writing speed, writers generally earn between $25 and $100 per hour.* ## Childcare worker Working with younger children in a kindergarten or daycare centre is a sensible choice when you’re looking for part-time, flexible jobs for single mums. If you don’t already have the necessary qualifications, you will need to complete a [Certificate III in Early Childhood and Care](https://www.opencolleges.edu.au/courses/education-and-childcare/certificate-iii-in-early-childhood-education-and-care?_bt=322845590557&_bk=&_bm=b&_bn=g&_bg=62007566622&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bnU2giKl0X3XySRk9CGsjK3JSWdY8UA4qPdj9_qpQ9d621jlmSmdVoaAnNgEALw_wcB) and/or Children’s Services. To become a manager or coordinator, which pays better, you will need to obtain a [Diploma in Early Childhood Education and Care](https://www.opencolleges.edu.au/courses/education-and-childcare/diploma-of-early-childhood-education-and-care). These qualifications can be partially completed from home, with vocational placements, which may even lead to a permanent position. ### What can I earn as a Childcare Worker? *The average wage for a daycare worker is $23/hour. The average salary of a daycare centre manager is $66K/year.* ![flexible jobs for single mums - child care worker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/IN-ARTICLE-images-5.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Best part-time home jobs ## Data entry A data entry job is fantastic for solo mums because it offers flexibility. Since many of these positions can be done from home, you can avoid the stress of commuting and save on costs. This kind of gig involves tasks like entering, updating, and maintaining data in databases. It can be done part-time, offers flexible work, and doesn’t require special qualifications. ### What can I earn with a Data Entry job? *Pay rates for data entry jobs generally range from $12 to $20 per hour.* ## Freelance graphic designer If you’re creative, consider a graphic design job. To deliver professional files in the correct format, you’ll need software like [Photoshop](https://www.adobe.com/au/creativecloud/photography.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bmEZdECCxjFwQaz2tXwvMmyO110IMvrjO1RfdIFc46Sk2Ut6ApaBK0aAgBfEALw_wcB&sdid=TY6XL4MR&mv=search&ef_id=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bmEZdECCxjFwQaz2tXwvMmyO110IMvrjO1RfdIFc46Sk2Ut6ApaBK0aAgBfEALw_wcB:G:s&s_kwcid=AL!3085!3!341071007435!e!!g!!photoshop). However, many graphic designers now utilise platforms such as [Canva](https://partner.canva.com/EarqJP) or [Easil](https://about.easil.com/), both of which offer free versions. You need to create an impressive profile on freelancer websites such as [Upwork](https://www.upwork.com/) and [Fiverr](https://www.fiverr.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=G_AU_Competitors_Desktop_Exact&utm_term=Exact_Freelancer&utm_content=AdID%5e194401592532%5eKeyword%5efreelancer%5ePlacement%5e%5eDevice%5ec&caid=314302991&agid=29651815871&ad_id=194401592532&kw=freelancer&lpcat=bu_general&show_join=true&sherlock=true&gclid=Cj0KCQjww47nBRDlARIsAEJ34bnryVPAHgieo3yjsvdKKkH-wPE5Ka5Tuba5LXBfDTI4xfuHWRd0g4IaApjWEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds). Be sure to showcase a small portfolio of your work and price yourself competitively in the market without undervaluing the quality of your work. Further reading: [Single mum income in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mum-sought-after-jobs/) ### What can I earn in Graphic Design? *Earnings in this field vary depending on experience and skills, but the average wage falls between $35 to $55 per hour.* (All earning rates taken from Payscale at the time of writing.) ## Summary: Flexible jobs for single mothers Like many single mummas, I know firsthand the struggle of balancing it all. But I’ve found that there are plenty of options that allow us to earn while being there for our kids. Whether you want to drive with Uber or work freelance as a writer, you can explore different career paths. Each job offers different challenges and rewards, but the best thing about them is being able to take control of your career and schedule so you can be there for your kiddos whenever they need you. Have fun with your job search! ![](//swagbucks.7eer.net/i/1253070/160885/799)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/flexible-jobs-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/flexible-jobs-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** flexible jobs, school hours jobs, jobs for mums, freelance work, contract work, uber driving, 2024 --- ### [15 Ways to stay safe trick or treating this Halloween](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/) **Published:** August 17, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Kids love trick or treating. But for parents it can scarier than Freddie Kruger hiding under the bed. Dark nights, ghoulish costumes, stranger’s houses. It’s everything we would usually have them avoid like the plague. So, how can we find the balance to allow our children to have fun, but ensure they stay safe? Follow our advice so your kids stay safe trick or treating … but still have a bloodcurdling blast. ## 15 Ways to stay safe trick or treating ## 1. Go with them (if it’s not too uncool) It’s great trick or treating with really young kids as it’s a given that parents go along and join in the fun. Try and encourage this for as long as possible. Being with your kids while they wander the dark streets is the best precaution for them to stay safe trick or treating. ## 2. Road safety Whether you are with your kids or not, make sure they are aware of road safety. This includes walking on pavements (not roads), looking both ways before crossing or only crossing at pedestrian crossings or in well-lit areas. ## 3. Plan a safe trick or treating route If you plan a route with your children, not only will you know where they are going and when they will be home, but you can make sure it is safe. For example, choose streets which are well lit, with pavements and little traffic, as well as residential areas popular with young families. ## Halloween safety tips (cont.) ## 4. Go while it’s still light This may defeat the purpose but actually seeing where you’re going does make it easier. Plus, you get the best pick of the Halloween treats! Going earlier also means you miss the older kids terrorising in gangs … now that really is scary, with or without the creepy costumes. ## 5. Light your kids up If going out in daylight is not an option, make sure your children are well lit up. You could include some reflective strips on their costumes, hang a torch off them or decorate them with glow bands. Anything that makes your little one glow in the dark will help them stay safe trick or treating. ## 6. Choose a safe trick or treating costume It is marvellous that your child wants to go treat or treating as the human centipede, but is it practical? And if not, can you make it practical? Avoid long hems they can trip over, high-heeled footwear, anything too hot or too cold, and masks that will impair their vision. ***Further reading: [15 Really easy kids Halloween costumes.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/)*** ## 7. Only go to houses you know In residential communities where people know one another, it is easy to collect a bountiful booty stash by only visiting the homes of friends and families. They will be delighted to see you and will likely have some special treats in store. Best tip ever for safe trick or treating! ## 8. Only go to house with decorations Make sure your children know that not everyone shares their enthusiasm for Halloween, and some people are intimidated by night-time house callers. They should only call on houses that have decorations outside and are clearly happy for their visit. ## 9. Never go inside an unknown home There is no reason for a child to going inside a house while treat or treating. Decorations and treats should be at the front of the home or given out at the front door. Many people now leave garages open, lit and decorated so kids can call on them there. ## Ways to stay safe trick or treating (cont.) ## 10. (No) trick or treating It may be called ‘trick or treating’ but the trick part is not acceptable. Nobody has to provide Halloween lollies, and if they don’t, ensure your kids use their manners and move on politely. Tricks can get out of hand and be upsetting for people and pets, as well as damaging to property. ## 11. Stick together for safe trick or treating Whether you are part of the ghostly gang or not, to ensure safe trick or treating, make sure your kids understand the importance of sticking together at all times. Know how many are in their group and keep count regularly so no one is left behind. ## 12. Have a lost person plan To cover all eventualities and stay safe trick or treating have a plan should someone get lost. For older kids, they will likely use [Snap Chat maps](https://www.techadvisor.co.uk/how-to/social-networks/how-use-snapchat-snap-map-3660594/) on their phones. Younger kids could have a meeting point or maybe go onto the street (pavement not road) and wave their glow sticks in the air. ## 13. Drive like a Nana If you’re behind the wheel on Halloween evening, take no chances and drive like a nana. Not all kids are in high vis and many are dressed entirely in black. This combined with over-excitement and sugar highs means they won’t always be thinking, so as a driver you must be ultra-cautious. ## 14. Check the treats It is a good idea (if you get the chance) to check your kids treats before they eat them, or encourage them to do it themselves. Make sure they know what they’re putting in their mouths and leave anything part-opened or foreign looking for the bin. ## 15. Do something different If treat or tricking is all too much, there are lots of other things you can do to entertain the kids on Halloween. Theme parks and local malls often have events. Schools might be holding Halloween discos. Or arrange a scary movie night at your home and prepare some spookily [simple Halloween snacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/). ***Get more ideas and inspiration here: [Frighteningly fun alternatives to trick or treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/).*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween, trick or treat --- ### [Frighteningly fun alternatives to trick or treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/) **Published:** August 25, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Trick or treating is a steadfast Halloween tradition. It can be soooo much fun, but it can also be a little daunting … especially for young children. **Fun fact:** Trick or treating used to be very different to what it is today when kids knock on doors and scream ‘trick or treat’. In the Middles Ages, impoverished children used it as a way to make money. After dressing up in something spooky to disguise themselves, they would entertain on strangers doorsteps by singing, dancing, quoting rhymes, even telling the odd joke. The hopeful reward was anything from food or money and even wine or beer! Fast forward to today, and you can be forgiven for not wanting to encourage your kids to roam the streets at night, knocking on strangers doors and demanding lollies. And this year we can’t use covid and social distancing as an excuse for them not going out. So, the question is: What can you do instead that still screams Halloween and keeps your little hobgoblins happy? Here are some frighteningly fun alternatives to trick or treating. ## Don’t want to trick or treat? Here’s what you can do instead … ## Have a pumpkin hunt One of our favourite alternatives to trick or treating is a pumpkin hunt. Can’t have Halloween without pumpkins! A pumpkin hunt is like an Easter egg hunt. You hide mini pumpkins, toy pumpkins or craft pumpkins with treats inside all over the house and let the kids loose. This is not only safe if you live in an [iffy neighbourhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/), it also lets you control the amount of sweets the kids eat. Don’t fret if you’re too busy, this activity involves little planning ahead. Order toy pumpkins online (get the ones you can fill with small treats) and fill with candy, toys or healthy snacks. Hide them in your backyard or living room, put up some fun decorations and blast some monstrous music. ## Do some apple bobbing Apple bobbing is a classic [Halloween tradition dating back hundreds of years](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_bobbing#:~:text=The%20tradition%20of%20bobbing%20for,the%20goddess%20of%20plenty%2C%20Pomona.). Originally, you put apples in a barrel or bucket of water and the kids try to catch them with their mouth without using their hands. If you want everyone to stay dry all evening, hang the apples from a string and let the kids eat them with their hands behind their backs. Don’t like apples? Donuts, candy bars and popcorn balls also work. Or whip up some healthy-ish Halloween cookies ahead of time for the kids to munch on. Apple bobbing is a fun activity for both kids and adults especially with dance beats in the background. ## Have a scary movie night Parents always need alternatives to trick or treating in case the weather doesn’t cooperate or your kids get sick and can’t go out. You’ll probably want to stay in anyway this year due to the COVID-19 situation. Entertain the kids indoors this Halloween with a scary movie night. This is the perfect activity for the whole family and needs zero planning time. Set up the backyard, living room or bedroom, get in your pyjamas and watch classic Halloween movies on Netflix or Amazon while munching on treats. Movies like *Hocus Pocus*, *Casper*, *It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown*, and *Addams Family* are must sees. ***Further reading: [Our 10 favourite Halloween movies to watch with the kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-movies/)*** ## Frighteningly fun alternatives to trick or treating (cont.) ## Get creepily crafty Alternatives to trick or treating like a creepily crafty Halloween night is perfect for younger or older kids who love creative activities. Here’s a list of fun craft ideas for all ages if you’re looking for inspiration. Also try [no-carve pumpkin decorating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/) or paper folding crafts to keep older kids focused and interested. A craft night is a great way to make Halloween decorations without spending a bob. Chances are you already have the required materials like acrylic paint, brushes, craft sticks, yarn and construction paper. Make craft night even more fun by playing fun music and having yummy snacks at hand. Order takeout if you’re pressed for time! ## Invite friends over for Halloween party Why not invite some friends over for a smashing Halloween party? Plan a party with other mums who want a fun and safe alternative to trick or treating and get the kids together on Halloween night. Have everyone show up in costume and hand out tasty treats to the kids. Or put all the treats in a piñata and let the kids have a go. The treats don’t have to be sweets. Get creative and whip up some easy Halloween snacks. To make it really festive, plan lots of Halloween games like apple bobbing, pumpkin hunting and a dance off. And make it a potluck party so you don’t have to make all the food. ## Have a creepy cooking session And by this we don’t mean cook with the lights out! No, safety first every time, even on Halloween. Instead, find some super [simple Halloween food recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/), gather the ingredients (and your kids) and get cooking. Then, set up a ghostly table or indoor picnic space with a ghostly theme where you can sit and enjoy the fruits of you labour. Think spiderweb pizza, meringue ghosts and hot dog mummies. Best bit is that dinner’s sorted and you can throw the leftovers in the pack lunch boxes the following morning. A witchy win for mums looking for a great alternative to trick or treating. ## Have a ghostly games night Another alternative to trick or treating is to organise a games night for the whole family. Plus mums can control the amount of sweets the kids eat. Give candy treats out as prizes for winning some games and keep the rest of the snacks healthy. These Halloween snacks are super tasty, festive and oh so simple to make. Try Halloween-themed games like a pumpkin hunt, scavenger hunt, [pumpkin decorating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/no-carve-pumpkin-decorations-for-halloween/), Halloween bingo, sack race and ring toss. Make sure to play Halloween party music to get everyone in the mood. This sounds like it requires a lot of planning, but it’s actually pretty simple. ***For more game ideas see: [10 Kids Halloween games to play at home. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-halloween-games/)*** ## Final words: Fun alternatives to trick or treating With so many crazy things happening in our neighbourhoods, mums might hesitate to let your kids roam around at night, asking for candies from strangers. That’s perfectly fine; the safety of your little ones is always the top priority. If you – or sometimes, your children – are not keen to trick or treat this Halloween, hold on to your broomsticks. There are many enjoyable alternatives so your kids don’t feel like they’re missing out on the fun in the streets. You can fill up plastic pumpkins with treats and hide them around your home for your kids to hunt. Or, you can play apple (or donut!) bobbing for traditional Halloween fun. Have a scary movie marathon, work on creepy crafts, hold a cooking session, or play ghost-themed games. If your local authorities permit, why not host a small costume party for your kids and their friends? You can incorporate the fun alternative activities listed here to turn your Halloween party into a truly festive night. At the same time, you and your fellow parents will not have to worry about the dangers lurking outside. Trick or treating is not the only way for your kids to have fun on this spooky night. Witching you a happy Halloween! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/alternatives-to-trick-or-treating/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween, spooky, games, pumpkin, apple bobbing --- ### [10 Ways to find new friends as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/) **Published:** December 10, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It is not unusual to lose friends when you first become a single mother. Separation and divorce comes with lots of sadness and loss, including that of friendships from your married life. It can leave you wondering how to find new friends as a single mum. If you had a messy or public split, people who you were friends with as a couple might decide to take sides … and not necessarily with you. This is a bitter pill to swallow especially if you feel unheard or misrepresented. For others (myself included) there is a gradual shift in friendships as you begin your new path into single motherhood. I found it harder to [relate to my partnered friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/relate-to-married-friends/) and was drawn toward other single mothers. I can honestly say I have remained in a close friendship with just one of my married friends since my separation. I don’t dislike my old mates, we just drifted apart and we never got around to closing the gap because our lives had become so different. This might happen to you. If it does, please know that it is a normal part of the transition from partnered mum to single mum. The problem comes if you don’t make new friendships because we all [need good friends during motherhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/importance-making-friends-motherhood/). This could be for several reasons, such as: - Taking time to socialise and meet people is way down your list of priorities - Invitations drop off because (and this still happens) people think because you are single you will steal their husband. Honestly, are they mad? We’ve just got rid of one, do they really think we want another? - You might have [lost your confidence and self-esteem](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/) making it hard to put yourself out there - The trust is gone because past friends have let you down and you don’t want to get burnt again - You are embarrassed – looking for friends in adulthood feels humiliating (it absolutely is not though!) - There is not enough time in the day ## 10 Ways to find new friends as a single mum ### 1. USE A FRIEND FINDER APP I’m going to start with the suggestion of using a friend finder app as it is the easiest way to find new friends locally who have the same interests as you. Like dating apps, they take a lot of the work out of the search because you are immediately connected with other people looking for friends too. My favourite app is [Peanut](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1695511&u=1855502&m=105348&urllink=&afftrack=) because it is especially for mums and mums-to-be. This means we all have two important things in common … motherhood and the need for friendship. It’s a great common ground from which to start. Other apps have different demographics which might suit you better. Be wary of mixed-sex friendship apps because you will get hit on and this can confuse the search for genuine friends. ***Find out more here: [8 Best friend finder apps in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/)*** ### 2. JOIN A FACEBOOK GROUP Here on Beanstalk, we have the [Single Mum Vine Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) which is specifically for single mums to connect and focus on the good parts of single motherhood. It is one of thousands of FB groups that you can join to find like-minded friends. Don’t be put off by the digital aspect. Lots of people meet online nowadays before taking the next step and meeting up in real life. I met one of my very best friends on the Single Mum Vine. We live in different states but have visited one another regularly over the last four years and speak nearly every day. Love ya Kitty! ### 3. VOLUNTEER Two years ago, I decided to volunteer at my local Lifeline shop to do something selfless that took me out of my own life and away from my work desk. Little did I know the huge effect it would have on my social life. I’ve met lots of ladies who I totally click with and, most importantly, have a damn good laugh with. Meeting people through volunteering is different from meeting people through work. We already have lots in common, there is less pressure on work targets and volunteering for a cause bigger than ourselves makes spending time together worthwhile and enjoyable … a great breeding ground for new friendships. ***Further reading:*** [***How volunteering can seriously help your mental health.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/) ### 4. THROW A PARTY A trick I used when my girls were younger and my friendship group had dwindled to insignificance, was to let my kids have a party. Organising a party means you need to connect with their friend’s parents and this opens opportunities for new friendships. When the kids are being dropped off and picked up welcome the parents in and offer them a cuppa. Even if they can’t stay, they’ll remember your kindness and you might become a candidate on their possible-friend-list. **Tip:** Keep the parties small. Five or so kids. Or you’ll be too stressed and busy to focus on finding friends and won’t have time to chat with the parents and decide which ones you click with. ### 5. GET INVOLVED AT SCHOOL OR PLAYGROUP If you have some spare time, even just a few hours a week, offer your support to your children’s school or playgroup. This is a surefire way of getting into the mix and bagging yourself a new buddy. You’ll find yourself helping alongside teachers, teacher aids and other parents. Any of whom could be potential new pals. You’ll be Miss Popular straight away because schools are always looking for help from parents. So put your hand up and join the PTA, help with reading or ask them how you can assist. ## WAYS TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS ### 6. SMILE AND CHAT Whether you are volunteering, helping at school, watching your child play sport, waiting at school pick-up or ordering a coffee, make a point to smile and chat with the people around you You might be super stressed and the last thing you feel like doing is smiling and striking up small talk but it is a requirement of making friends. [Dr Younes Henni, PhD](http://researchgate.net/profile/Younes-Henni) did some research which shows that: *“A quick chat with someone you barely know can uplift your mood and offset feelings of loneliness. Such as smiling, making eye contact, and exchanging a few sentences while ordering a cup of coffee, was found to boost happiness and feelings of belonging.”* This means that smiling and chatting not only puts you in the running for a new companion but it will make you feel better too. ### 7. JOIN WEIGHT WATCHERS Ok so it doesn’t necessarily have to be Weight Watchers, it can be any kind of club where you connect with people who have a common interest or goal as you. [Weight Watchers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/weight-watchers-review-australia/) is a great example as it has a huge community of people all trying to change habits and live a healthier life, and most importantly, it has a huge focus on community. They have online and in-person meetings which are ripe for finding friends and the bonus is that you have a ready-made conversation topic. If you have a goal or hobby you want to peruse, do it alongside other people so you can buddy up and make the journey fun and friendship-filled. ### 8. JOIN A GYM If you’ve not joined a gym yet, now could be the time. When you have a gym routine, you’ll find you’re always bumping into the same people. Over time, you’ll work out their characters and which you might choose as your chums. If another gym member smiles at you, then smile back and make a passing comment. Next time it might become a small chat, a laugh together the following week, and an arrangement to meet for coffee the next. If the machine circuit isn’t doing it for you. Join some classes. Arrive early and hang around after to join in the pre and post class chats. **Note:** Male friends are great but if a guy is winking at you or asking you back to his for a healthy smoothie, there is a high chance that it’s not just friendship he’s after. ### 9. INSTIGATE It’s all very well putting yourself in the right place to meet new people. You can even master the smiling and chatting thing but to clinch a friendship someone has to take it to the next level i.e. arrange to get together outside of the situation you are in. And that person might have to be you. Remember, your potential friend might feel the same. She/he might really like you but is too shy to take the friendship further. If you both feel this way and don’t do anything, you are at a stalemate. Make a gentle suggestion to catch up for coffee in the week and see how your possible pal reacts. If they are keen, jump on it and make arrangements straight away. Swap numbers and seal the deal. If they don’t seem keen, that’s ok, you tested the water without making a fool of yourself. Next! ### 10. DATE You might not be ready for a relationship but getting out and dating is a good way to kick-start your social life and meet people. I went on [eharmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) for six months and made it really clear on my profile that I was looking for company only and not a long-term commitment. It turns out a lot of people are looking for the same. During that time, I made two close males friends who I am still in contact with. I also have friends who have made firm friends through dating apps when the spark was missing but they got on like a house on fire. Opening up your world and meeting new people from different walks of life means lots more potential to find new friends. Further reading: [The beginners guide on how to date as a single parent.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** lonely, friends, mate --- ### [10 Amazing porridge recipes from a porridge connoisseur](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/porridge-recipes/) **Published:** December 17, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are a porridge lover, like me, you will love the comeback of this classic comfort food. Porridge recipes are getting increasingly more delicious as we work out wondrous new ways to enjoy this nourishing nosh. I can’t go past porridge for breakfast and will eat it anytime of the day. It’s my go-to comfort food and if it’s on a menu, I have to order it. Although porridge has been taken up a notch over the last few years, it has been around *forever*. According to [New Scientist:](https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn28139-stone-age-people-were-making-porridge-32000-years-ago/) > *“Hunter-gatherers ate oats as far back as 32,000 years ago – way before farming took root.”* There’s good reason why porridge has stood the test of time. It’s tastes good and it makes you feel good. In fact, oats are a superfood which provide us with all sorts of goodness such gut soothing fibre, a host of vitamins and minerals, together with antioxidants to make us look younger, yay. And if that isn’t enough, they are a slow-release energy, so if you chow down on porridge oats they will keep you feeling full and energised long after you’ve washed up your bowl. If I’ve not converted you to become a fellow porridge lover yet, the below porridge recipes are sure to do so. No longer the grey sludge of prison canteens, modern-day porridge is now complemented by other wonderfully health-giving ingredients with vibrant colours and beautiful adornments like bright fruits and edible flowers. Here are my most-loved porridge recipes … ## 10 Amazing porridge recipes from a porridge connoisseur ### 1. APRIL BLOOMFIELD’S ENGLISH PORRIDGE Sometimes with porridge, the simpler, the better. This one is really easy to make but it has a twist: Sugar *and* salt. I promise you that it works. We all thought salted caramel and chilli chocolate was strange … until we tried it. It is no different with this porridge. Give it a go and you will be converted. ![English porridge](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-10.43.58-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [April Bloomfield’s English porridge](https://food52.com/recipes/21668-april-bloomfield-s-english-porridge). ### 2. Cinnamon porridge with berries and banana This is one of the best combinations for porridge I have had. Cinnamon complements the creaminess of the oats, cooked banana is sweet and delicious and the berries give a pop of acidic taste and colour. ![Cinnamon with banana and berries porridge recipe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-10.47.55-am.png "Screen Shot 2022-10-23 at 10.47.55 am - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Cinnamon porridge with bananas and berries](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cinnamon-porridge-banana-berries). ### 3. Chocolate porridge From one of my favourite chef’s, Jamie Oliver, comes this unusual but yummy porridge for the chocolate lover. Adding gooey dates, cocoa powder and nuts (I use whatever I have in the cupboard) is a winning combination and totally works. ![Chocolate porridge](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-10.53.32-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Chocolate porridge](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/breakfast-recipes/chocolate-porridge/). ### 4. Rhubarb porridge Rhubarb has a tongue-twisting tang that works well alongside creamy oatmeal. I would go so far as to say they are a match made in heaven. Rhubarb can vary in sourness so I often add a little more sugar or sugar alternative when I make this one. ![Rhubarb porridge recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-10.58.42-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Rhubarb porridge](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/rhubarb-porridge/a4e3c2c5-0f81-4183-88c9-f73d6bc7a51a). ### 5. Congee No list of porridge recipes would be complete without congee … the traditional Chinese dish made with rice (not oats like the other recipes on this list). I have made this recipe twice and mixed it up with both sweet and savoury ingredients which is the way in the East. Congee can take ages to make but this recipe is just 20-minutes which is super-fast in the congee world. ![Congee](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.08.15-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get this recipe for [Congee](https://thewoksoflife.com/20-minute-congee-recipe/). ## Best porridge recipes ### 6. Raw apple pie porridge Possibly the healthiest dish on my list of porridge recipes, this one is packed full of healthy ingredients, all served raw. It’s has the added bonus of being vegan. Although it’s raw, you can still serve it warm by putting it over a gentle heat before serving. I used normal sugar or maple syrup if I can’t find coconut sugar. ![Raw apple pie porridge recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.14.52-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipes for [Raw apple pie porridge](https://wallflowerkitchen.com/raw-apple-pie-porridge/). ### 7. Pumpkin porridge This recipe for pumpkin porridge has no less than 20 ingredients! Most are store cupboard but I have skipped and/or substituted a few occasionally. I’m not usually one for too many tastes, preferring more simple dishes but this is well-worth the effort. It’s another porridge that can be enjoyed by the vegan’s amongst us. ![Pumpkin porridge](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.20.52-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Pumpkin porridge](https://www.yummly.com/recipe/Pumpkin-Porridge-1337904). ### 8. Coconut cream pie overnight oats The jury is still out on whether overnight oats constitute as porridge but it’s my list, so my rules … and these decadent coconut cream oats are too good not to include. I love that you make it all the night before. Knowing it’s sitting in the fridge waiting to be eaten will sometimes get me up earlier in the morning, no joke! ![Coconut cream pie porridge recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.24.32-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Coconut cream pie overnight oats](https://eat-drink-love.com/coconut-cream-pie-overnight-oats/). ### 9. Cherry Bakewell Porridge If you love a cherry Bakewell tart, you’re gonna love this porridge. It incorporates the ingredients of the original cake such as cherries and almonds and even includes a crumbled digestive biscuit on the top to give it that cake-like feel. I always use frozen cherries as they are cheaper and the stones have been removed making the process less fiddly. ![Cherry Bakewell porridge](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.30.04-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Cherry Bakewell porridge](https://www.instagram.com/p/CSWE1ibo0Uq/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=3a6fadf1-e68e-4c58-9382-c75a2c46e1a5). ### 10. Matcha oatmeal Ending on a healthy high, my daughter got me into this antioxidant-packed matcha oatmeal. It does have a tiny bit of sugar which I have tried to omit but it’s needed to balance the strong and not-that-nice matcha flavour. I also like to substitute the nut milk for coconut milk, again, to overwhelm the matcha. The end result is delicious and super-duper healthy. ![Matcha oatmeal porridge recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-23-at-11.40.46-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe for [Matcha oatmeal](https://www.monicanedeff.com/matcha-overnight-oats/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/porridge-recipes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/porridge-recipes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food **Tags:** breakfast, comfort food, porridge --- ### [Keep your pool sparkling and swim-ready with pool cleaners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/pool-cleaners/) **Published:** July 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Owning a pool is a fantastic luxury that provides endless hours of entertainment and relaxation. However, to enjoy your pool to the fullest, it’s important to keep it clean and well-maintained. That’s where [pool cleaners](https://allstarpoolparts.com.au/pool-cleaners) come in. These ingenious gadgets are designed to effectively remove debris, dirt, and algae from your pool, ensuring crystal-clear water for a refreshing swim. In this blog, we will explore the different types of cleaners available online and help you choose the best one for your pool cleaning needs. ## **Robotic Pool Cleaners** Robotic pool cleaners are among the most advanced and efficient options on the market. These intelligent devices operate independently, using electric motors and built-in sensors to navigate your pool and clean its surface, walls, and even the pool floor. Robotic cleaners are renowned for their excellent cleaning abilities, energy-saving features, and user-friendly design. They often come with a self-contained filtration system, reducing the strain on your pool’s filtration system and prolonging its lifespan. With programmable cleaning cycles and advanced scanning technology, robotic pool cleaners can adjust to the shape and size of your pool, assuring thorough cleaning with minimal effort on your part. ## Suction-Side Pool Cleaners Suction-side pool cleaners operate by attaching to the skimmer or a specific suction line in your pool. These cleaners go about the pool and gather dirt using the filtration system’s suction force. They are equipped with brushes and scrubbers that help loosen dirt and algae from the pool surface, allowing the filtration system to remove it. Suction-side cleaners are generally more affordable than robotic cleaners and are suitable for pools with a simple layout and minimal debris. However, they may require more frequent emptying of the pool’s skimmer basket or pump basket to maintain optimal performance. ## Pressure-Side Cleaners Pressure-side cleaners use the water pressure generated by your pool’s circulation system to propel them around the pool and collect debris. They generally require a separate booster [pool pump](https://allstarpoolparts.com.au/pool-pumps) to provide the necessary water pressure. These cleaners are equipped with a collection bag or mesh that captures leaves, twigs, and other large debris. Pressure-side cleaners are known for their powerful suction capabilities and efficient cleaning performance. They are suitable for pools with a significant amount of debris and can help reduce the workload on your pool’s filtration system. ***Further reading: [Surefire ways to smarten up the front of your home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/front-of-your-home/)*** ## **Manual Pool Cleaners** For those who prefer a hands-on approach, manual pool cleaners offer a cost-effective and straightforward cleaning solution. These cleaners include manually operated tools like vacuum heads, nets, and pool brushes. Manual pool cleaners are suitable for spot cleaning or addressing specific areas that need attention. While they may require more effort and time compared to automated cleaners, they provide greater control and allow you to target specific areas that need cleaning. ## Pool Cleaning Maintenance Regardless of the type of cleaner you choose, proper maintenance is essential to ensure its longevity and optimal performance. Regularly clean and inspect the cleaner’s components, including the brushes, filters, and hoses, to remove any debris or blockages. Follow the manufacturer’s guidelines for handling and storing the cleaner, especially during the off-season. Additionally, backwash or clean the filter regularly to keep your pool’s filtration system in top shape, ensuring proper water chemistry. ## Bottom Line Investing in a quality cleaner can significantly improve and simplify your pool maintenance routine. Consider the size and shape of your pool, the amount of debris it accumulates, and your budget when selecting the right pool cleaner. Remember to read customer reviews, compare features, and seek professional advice if needed. With the right cleaner by your side, you can enjoy sparkling clean water, spend more time swimming, and worry less about pool maintenance. ***Further reading: [How to host a successful pool party for children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-dos-and-donts-of-child-safe-pool-design/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/pool-cleaners/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/pool-cleaners/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [10 Surprising links between exercise and mental health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-and-mental-health/) **Published:** June 24, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a mum in today’s fast-paced world, you are not alone in wanting to improve your mental health. And understanding the links between exercise and mental health is a great starting point. You may have tried traditional methods like therapy or medication. These can work but are pricey or have adverse side effects. But did you know that exercise may be just as effective, if not more so? In fact, the benefits of exercise on mental health go far beyond just improving mood or [reducing stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) … and not a pill or expensive therapy sesh in sight! I explore ten surprising links between exercise and mental health that you may not have heard of before to encourage you to get moving. Whether you’re a regular gym-goer or can’t remember the last time you did a star jump, read on to discover how exercise can benefit your mental health. If you’re looking for expert guidance to create a workout plan tailored to your needs, searching for an [exercise physiologist near me](https://www.healthstin.com.au/exercise-physiologist-near-me/) can help you find a professional who can support your fitness and well-being goals. ## The science behind exercise and mental health Ok, let’s start with the science. It’s complex, but here goes. Basically, when we exercise, we increase blood flow to the brain, which does three things: - Reduces inflammation - Increases neuroplasticity - Releases endorphins These three effects have some pretty impressive results for our mental health, including warding off depression, regulating mood, lifting self-esteem, improving cognitive function, and more. Let’s dive further into them. ## Regulate your mood One of the most significant benefits of exercise on mental health is its ability to regulate mood. When we exercise, we release endorphins, boosting mood and reducing stress. Endorphins are the body’s natural painkillers, and they can also help to reduce anxiety and improve sleep quality. In addition to endorphins, exercise also increases the production of neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine. These chemicals are vital in regulating mood and are often targeted by medications that treat depression and anxiety—a process also supported by [psychologists and counselors](https://www.cfhp.com.au/ "psychologists and counselors"). If you find your mood dipping and diving more frequently than that rollercoaster your kids forced you on last summer, exercise could be the perfect solution to level things out. ## Lift your self-esteem Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves and our abilities. It is an essential component of mental health, and low self-esteem is a common symptom of many mental health disorders. Us mums, who barely have time to find the lipstick, let alone put it on, are key sufferers of low self-esteem. When we exercise, we set goals and work towards achieving them. And there is nothing like [reaching a goal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/goal-setting-for-success-in-six-easy-steps/) to make you feel damn good about yourself. Additionally, exercise can improve your physical appearance, such as a more toned body, better skin, and fewer wobbly bits. Looking good and knowing it will definitely lead to increased confidence and self-esteem. ## Improved cognitive function Sometimes, as a mum, you might feel your brain has turned to mush and your memory deserted you in the birthing room. This is due to your cognitive function, which refers to the mental processes involved in learning, thinking, and remembering. Exercise has been shown to improve cognitive function in several ways because it increases: - Blood flow to the brain, which can improve cognitive function and memory - The production of neurotrophic factors, which are essential for the growth and survival of neurons - The production of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that stimulates the growth of new neurons and synapses. BDNF is essential for learning and memory, and exercise has been shown to increase its production. Think of it this way: You won’t lose precious time exercising because you’ll get it back by spending less time looking for your car keys every time you leave the house. ## Exercise and social connections If you are one of many mums who rarely gets out of the house and lives an existence of changing nappies and singing Bluey songs, then it is normal to experience some level of social anxiety. We all know that social connections are essential for maintaining good mental health. Just think how good you feel after a phone call or coffee catch-up with a friend. Or even laughing with a few other mums at school pick-up. But if you need more human interaction, exercise can help you build social connections by providing opportunities to meet new people and engage in group activities with like-minded souls. This will increase self-confidence and [reduce social anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/social-anxiety/), making it easier to interact with others. ## Exercise can ward off depression Depression is a common mental health disorder affecting millions, many of whom are mums. It is characterised by sadness, hopelessness, and a [lack of motivation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/get-motivated-instant/). Research has found that exercise can reduce symptoms of depression by a whopping 40%. Although [managing depression as a mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/) needs to be treated in several ways, carving out time for a small amount of exercise a few times a week will give your mental health a much-needed boost. Don’t just take my word for it. If you’re feeling down, head to the gym, walk, or run around with your kids for a bit. Then assess how you feel after. It’s likely your spirits will have lifted. Best of all, exercise can also prevent depression from returning, making it an ideal long-term solution. This is because exercise increases the production of neurotrophic factors, which are essential for the growth and survival of neurons. This, in turn, helps to regulate mood and prevent depression. ## You will sleep better Life feels 100 times better after a good night’s sleep, right? In my experience, doing at least 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise will increase my sleep by about two hours per night. The sleep is better quality too. Let’s not even bother being scientific about it: If you don’t get enough sleep, you feel crap. Lack of sleep leaves us tired all day and increases anxiety and the ability to think positively. Exercise can help to improve sleep quality by reducing stress and anxiety and increasing the production of endorphins. When we exercise, we also increase the production of adenosine, a chemical that promotes sleep. Exercise can also help regulate the body’s internal clock, making it easier to fall asleep and wake up simultaneously each day. ## Lower your stress levels Stress is a common problem for us mums, and it can significantly impact our mental health. When we exercise, we release endorphins, boosting mood and reducing stress. Exercise can also help regulate the body’s stress response by reducing the production of cortisol, a hormone often associated with stress. A morning walk with your fav [meditation app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/) will do the job. But, if you’re feeling really stressed, get pounding the treadmill at the gym or take a boxing class to let out your frustrations. ## Exercise assists in addiction recovery Never feel alone in the world if you have some form of addiction. As a mum, it can be hard to admit an addictive problem, let alone get help. Addiction is a complex mental health disorder that affects millions of people. Exercise is a helpful tool in addiction recovery by helping to reduce cravings and withdrawal symptoms, which increases the production of endorphins. In addition, exercise can provide a healthy outlet for stress and anxiety, which can be addiction triggers. Instead of pouring that wine, do some exercise. Try a short [online workout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/) if you can’t leave the house because you have little ones asleep. ## Reduce anxiety Being a mum is anxiety-inducing in ways I hadn’t even known existed in my pre-kid life. There is always something to worry about from baby to toddler, to teen and beyond. [Anxiety is a common mental health disorder](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/anxiety-disorders) that is becoming more prevalent in the modern age. And, yes, you guessed it: Exercise is an effective way to reduce anxiety levels. When we exercise, we release endorphins, boosting mood and reducing anxiety. Exercise can also help regulate the body’s stress response by reducing the production of cortisol, a hormone often associated with anxiety. If I’m doing a mind-numbing exercise such as the treadmill, I’ll stick in my headphones with a meditation for a double-whammy anxiety-busting activity. ## Conclusion: How exercise impacts mental health Exercise is a powerful tool for improving mental health. It can ward off depression, regulate mood, lift self-esteem, improve cognitive function, and more. Exercise can also build social connections, enhance sleep quality, reduce stress and anxiety, and assist in addiction recovery. To reap the mental health benefits of exercise, it is recommended that you aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise per week. This can include activities like walking, cycling, or swimming. So, dig out your runners and get moving to look good and feel great too. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-and-mental-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-and-mental-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** anxiety, depression, sleep, gym, active --- ### [5 Reasons to enrol on a bookkeeping course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/bookkeeping-course/) **Published:** March 3, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** You might have heard of bookkeeping if you own a small business or plan on operating one. Bookkeeping involves keeping track of all financial transactions of a business. It lets you know how your business is doing, such as making a profit or losing money. Having bookkeeping skills will help you make money if you work for others. Also, if you have your own business, it will save you money as you can update your business figures before handing them to your [accountant](https://sleek.com/au/accounting-services-australia/) to work on. ## What Bookkeeping Entails Bookkeepers do an assortment of day-to-day operations of a business. Here are some of them: - Organise records - Prepare financial reports - Record a business’s daily expenses - Keep track of the business’s revenue - Data entry ## Reasons to Enrol in a Bookkeeping Course Enrolling in a [bookkeeping course](https://www.monarch.edu.au/courses/accounting-bookkeeping/) is the way to go if you want to understand bookkeeping. That way, you can understand its fundamentals and apply them properly. But, even if you aren’t planning to become an entrepreneur, bookkeeping is extremely useful. Here’s why: ### 1. It’s Easy Even for Beginners Even if you don’t have experience in bookkeeping, you can enrol in a bookkeeping course to get started. Bookkeeping is not like other professions, such as in healthcare, for instance, where you need a medical-related background. However, remember that you do have to become a [certified bookkeeper](https://www.icb.org.au/s/about/welcome). Also, bookkeeping does not impose age limits until you can become a bookkeeper. So, if you want a shift in your career or are looking to start fresh, know that you are always welcome to try. ### 2. Helpful When Starting Your Own Business When starting your own business, it’s always a good idea to have everything planned out. Aside from the nature of the business you want to enter, it also helps if you know how to do the books. That way, you can keep track of your budget and resources. According to [statistics](https://lawpath.com.au/blog/small-businesses-statistics), 29% of companies failed because they ran out of cash. If you know how to do bookkeeping, you can easily tell if your business is losing money. And you can also make better business decisions regarding marketing strategy or budget based on your records. ### 3. Businesses Always Need a Bookkeeper Finding a job in the market today can be challenging that’s why it is important to have the edge over other applicants. Bookkeeping is an example of a valuable skill. This is because businesses will always need bookkeepers to manage their business transactions. In fact, according to Australia’s labor [market insights](https://www.jobsandskills.gov.au/data/occupation-and-industry-profiles/occupations/5512-bookkeepers), the unemployment rate for bookkeepers is below average. So, you don’t have to worry about your bookkeeping course going to waste. ### 4. Allows Flexibility of Schedule Most full-time jobs require you to work onsite. However, with bookkeeping, some companies can offer you the option to work full-time or part-time. Bookkeeping can also be done remotely, giving you flexibility in your schedule. You’ll also be glad that bookkeeping does not require intense physical labor. All you need are your desk and computer. ### 5. A bookkeeping course Improves Financial Management You aren’t limited to applying your bookkeeping knowledge in business. Bookkeeping can also be used to manage your finances at home. You can better manage your finances when you become acquainted with bookkeeping basics. Also, bookkeeping can help you keep track of your expenses. This way, you can stay on top of your budget to the last cent. With this, you won’t have to worry about where your last paycheque went or going over budget in last month’s groceries. ## Enrl in a Bookkeeping Course Now Bookkeeping is a valuable skill, not just for managing your finances but for finding an occupation. Enrolling in a bookkeeping course is an excellent way to kickstart your bookkeeping journey. ***Further reading: [12+ Jobs you can actually fit into school hours.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/)*** ![Bookkeeping course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Bookkeeping-course-1.png "Bookkeeping course - Beanstalk Mums")### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/bookkeeping-course/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/bookkeeping-course/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career --- ### [Handy exercise tips for busy single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-tips-single-mums/) **Published:** February 1, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Everyone knows that regular exercise is an important part of a healthy lifestyle, but when you’re a single mum, you have so many other things to think about that exercise often goes to the end of your to-do list. Often, it doesn’t get done at all. Whether you’re trying to find [quality waist trainers that last](https://waisttrainersaustralia.com.au/) to lose a few pounds or you want to fit in some strength exercises at various times during the day, these exercise tips for busy single mums will help you reach your exercise and fitness goals. ## Exercise tips for busy single mums ### Waist Trainers Using a waist trainer is probably the easiest tip we have on our list. You simply put it on and wear it as you go about your regular day. [High-quality waist trainers](https://www.estasbel.com.au/collections/hourglass) not only burn fat, but they also help you regain your core strength after giving birth, assist with improved posture, and give your body the curves you want. Of course, if you don’t want to wear a waist trainer all day, you can wear one only during your workouts to boost their effectiveness. ### Use Your Children as Weight An excellent way to incorporate strength exercises throughout your day is to use your children as weight. Lift them whenever you can and perform repetitive actions such as raising your toddler over your head or shifting your body side-to-side as you move your baby from arm to arm. Certainly, you need to be careful when you exercise with your children, but with the right precautions, you can entertain your kids and exercise a little bit at the same time. ### Use the Time You have It’s a common misconception that you have to block off huge amounts of time to get a workout in. There are benefits to working out even 10 minutes at a time, so whenever you have a few minutes when you’re not actively doing anything, take the opportunity to do some squats or lunges. You can actually fit in quite a few of these body-weight exercises in 10 minutes and they can be done almost anywhere. ### Make a Plan It’s easy to avoid exercise if you don’t make a plan to do it. Procrastination gets in the way of busy mums who always put others before themselves. For this reason, make your health a priority and plan some time for your exercise routine. Whether it’s in the morning before your children wake up, during your lunch hour when they’re at daycare or school, or a couple hours before you go to bed after you kids have had their baths and are asleep, put some time on your schedule that you don’t skip for anything. ### Walk Everywhere Many of us rely on our vehicles too much. There are usually plenty of places that we can walk to but we choose convenience instead of exercise. Think about where you can replace your vehicle with [walking ](https://www.huffpost.com/entry/10-minute-walk-benefits_l_63a0ad0ae4b03e2cc502ba16)and grab your child’s pram and just walk. This is the easiest and cheapest form of exercise for anyone. Plus, if your kids are old enough to walk with you, they’ll get into the habit as well. Even more walking can be incorporated if you park your car far away from entrances and force yourself to walk further from your vehicle to stores, banks, parks, schools, and other places. There are other perks to this as well, including the fact that you don’t have to worry about finding a close parking space because you’re purposely parking far away. ### Multitask Sometimes, you just want to binge on your favourite Netflix program instead of exercising. No one will ever fault a busy single mum for wanting to indulge in a little escapism. But, there’s no reason you can’t do both tasks at once. There are plenty of exercises you can do while you watch television. Walk in place, do some planks, do a few [sit-and-stands](https://www.forbes.com/2008/09/10/health-office-exercise-forbeslife-cx_cm_0910exercise.html?sh=2a3ba44a2c52) from a low chair, or even grab a gallon of milk and do a few arm curls. Again, these free exercises will really make a difference in your strength and fitness levels. ## Conclusion: Exercise tips for busy single mums Exercise is often the first part of our routines to go when we become busy and this is especially true for single mums who only have so much time in the day to get everything done that needs to be done. But, remember that you can’t parent well if you don’t feel well, and keeping your body healthy through exercise is a large part of staying well. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-tips-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-tips-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [15 Gift Ideas To Treat Yourself This Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/treat-yourself-this-mothers-day/) **Published:** April 2, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** **Quick summary** - You don’t need to wait for someone else — this Mother’s Day, treat yourself - This list covers 15 gift ideas for every budget, all available in Australia - Whether you want something practical, luxurious, or relaxing, there’s something here for you Being a mother is no easy feat. We are cooks, teachers, taxi drivers, nurses, referees, and therapists all rolled into one. Is it any wonder we need a little TLC and the odd gift? This Mother’s Day, instead of waiting for someone else to pamper you, why not treat yourself? After all, no-one knows your needs better than you! From spa treatments to posh drink wear, I have some great ideas to browse before you buy. So sit back, relax, and get ready to spoil yourself like the queen you are. This Mother’s Day, it’s all about you. **Mother’s Day can feel complicated when you’re doing it solo. Join for free resources and ideas year-round.** [Access Free Tools](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) ## Quick comparison: all 15 gifts at a glance | \# | Gift | Best for | Price | Shop | |---|---|---|---|---| | 1 | Online course | Beginners | From $30–$35/month | [Udemy](https://trk.udemy.com/xJkYjx) | | 2 | Drink containers | On the move | $25.36 | [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/rEQYqj) | | 3 | Hamper | Gifting yourself | $229.00 | [Charity Hampers](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fmoet-pamper-treat%2F) | | 4 | Perfume | Self-care | $205.00 | [City Perfume](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66619?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cityperfume.com.au%2fCarolina-Herrera-Very-Good-Girl-Blush-EDP-50ml) | | 5 | Spa treatment ★ | Self-care | $109.00 | [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fretreatment-botanics-glowing-skin-self-care-ritual-set) | | 6 | Weighted blanket | Winding down | From $50 | [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FDiocletia-Weighted-Blanket-LEVE2077.html) | | 7 | Dyson hair dryer ✦ | Saving time | $499.00 | [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/YV97Ye) | | 8 | Robot vacuum | Single mums | — | — | | 9 | Massage tool | Self-care | $69.95 | [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/renpho-pillow-massager-with-remote-control/p/9901072942) | | 10 | Glassware | Everyday treats | $18.00 | [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrY4M) | | 11 | Flowers | Everyday treats | $119.25 | [Floraly](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.floraly.com.au%2fcollections%2fmothers-day-flowers%2fproducts%2fpink-roses%3fvariant%3d44226340782359) | | 12 | Magazine subscription | Downtime | From $29.00 (digital) | [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/national-geographic-12-month-subscription/magazine/6000000011468.html) | | 13 | Fitness watch ✓ | Best overall | $79.95 | [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Gbm7dn) | | 14 | Meditation app | Single mums | From $12.99–$19.99/month | [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app) | | 15 | Coffee machine ♡ | Single mums | $130.99 | [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7jK) | ## What are the best gifts to treat yourself this Mother’s Day? ### An online course $ Budget pick Best for beginners 💰💰 From $30–$35/monthWhy not treat yourself to some learning this Mother’s Day? Whether it’s emotional guidance, academic, a new language, music lessons, professional development, or anything in between, you’ll find it online. Education is one of the very best gifts you can give yourself. You can even find plenty of [free online courses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-online-personal-development-courses/) if cash is short right now. **Best for:** Single mums ready to invest in themselves **Why it works:** - Thousands of courses across every interest and skill level - Learn at your own pace, around the kids - Available instantly — no waiting for delivery [![Udemy | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Udemy-online-courses-for-beanstalk-mums-1200x440.png "Udemy-online-courses-for-beanstalk-mums - Beanstalk Mums")](https://trk.udemy.com/xJkYjx) [Shop Now](https://trk.udemy.com/xJkYjx) --- ### On-the-go drink containers Best for single mums on the move 💰 $25.36I love these handy drinks containers which are perfect for early morning coffee and sundown wine. Make sure you choose high-quality products in designs that makes you happy as you’ll use them daily. A constant reminder of your kindness and love for yourself. **Best for:** Single mums who are always on the move **Why it works:** - A daily reminder to do something kind for yourself - Keeps drinks hot or cold for hours - Replaces disposable cups — better for your wallet and the planet [![Coffee Cup, 304 Stainless Steel Thermos Cup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Coffee-cup-304-stainless-steel-thermos-cup.webp "Coffee cup 304 stainless steel thermos cup - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/rEQYqj) [Shop Now](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/rEQYqj) --- ### Hamper with your favourite treats Best for gifting yourself 💰💰💰 $229.00I love giving and receiving gift baskets on special occasions, and I secretly love it more when I get something luxurious. This Mother’s Day, it’s time to give yourself the gift box you’ve been eyeing forever. You don’t have to wait for someone else to give it to you: you know exactly what you want… and you must get it. **Best for:** Single mums who love a luxurious treat **Why it works:** - Curated, ready-to-enjoy — no effort required - Feels indulgent without the guilt - Available for delivery across Australia ***Find more here: [Mother’s Day hampers for delivery in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mothers-day-hampers-delivery-australia/)*** [![Gift box | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Moet_pamper_treat-scaled-1-914x800.jpg "Moet_pamper_treat-scaled - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fmoet-pamper-treat%2F) [Shop Now](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fmoet-pamper-treat%2F) --- ### Your favourite scent Best for self-care 💰💰💰 $205.00Knowing I smell good is something that gives me a massive boost in self-confidence throughout the day. When finding your signature scent, remember to buy from authorised and official stores as there are many dupes out there that could cause allergies. **Best for:** Single mums who love a confidence boost **Why it works:** - A signature scent becomes part of how you carry yourself - Long-lasting and worth the investment - Available in a range of sizes and price points [![Carolina Herrera Very Good Girl Blush](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/scent.jpg "scent - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66619?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cityperfume.com.au%2fCarolina-Herrera-Very-Good-Girl-Blush-EDP-50ml) [Shop Now](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66619?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cityperfume.com.au%2fCarolina-Herrera-Very-Good-Girl-Blush-EDP-50ml) --- ### Any kind of spa treatment ★ Best pick Best for self-care 💰💰 $109.00For me, nothing says relaxation more than a day at the spa. It doesn’t matter if it’s a facial, a full body massage, or a scrub – any kind of spa treatment is a great gift for any woman. You deserve to be pampered! **Best for:** Single mums who need to completely switch off **Why it works:** - At-home ritual set means spa results without leaving the house - Natural ingredients, gentle on sensitive skin - Available Australia-wide [![Glowing Skin Self Care Ritual Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Glowing-skin-self-care-ritual-set.webp "Glowing skin self care ritual set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fretreatment-botanics-glowing-skin-self-care-ritual-set) [Shop Now](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fretreatment-botanics-glowing-skin-self-care-ritual-set) --- ## What practical gifts are worth buying for yourself as a single mum? ### Cosy or weighted blanket Best for winding down 💰 From $50Weighted blankets have been hyped these past years, and I admit I have always wanted to get one. Choose a material that makes you feel good: cotton, bamboo, flannel, linen, or rayon. Every hardworking woman and mum deserves a good night’s rest. **Best for:** Single mums who struggle to wind down at night **Why it works:** - Gentle pressure helps reduce anxiety and improve sleep - Available in a range of weights to suit different bodies - A one-off purchase that lasts for years ***Find the right blanket for you here: [Buying a weighted blanket: Here’s what you need to know …](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/neptune-blanket/)*** [![Diocletia Weighted Blanked](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/DiocletiaWeightedBlanket.jpg "Diocletia+Weighted+Blanket - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FDiocletia-Weighted-Blanket-LEVE2077.html) [Shop Now](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FDiocletia-Weighted-Blanket-LEVE2077.html) --- ### The Dyson hair dryer! ✦ Worth the splurge Best for saving time 💰💰💰 $499.00If you’re still looking for a sign to get the Dyson, this is it! This super popular hair dryer is on the expensive side, but it dries your hair without extreme damage. If you’re still wondering if the Dyson is a worthy investment, yes. After all, we’re queens – and queens deserve beautiful crowns. **Best for:** Single mums who want to save time getting ready **Why it works:** - Significantly reduces drying time - Protects against heat damage with intelligent heat control - Worth the investment — built to last [![DYSON SUPERSONIC™ HAIR DRYER | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/dyson.jpg "dyson - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/YV97Ye) [Shop Now](https://bigw.sjv.io/YV97Ye) --- ### Robot vacuum (and mop too if you like!) Best for single mumsStop stressing too much about those hard-to-reach nooks and crannies around the house with a cleaning robot. These robots will give you back more time to do more of the things you love while keeping your home squeaky clean. Make sure to check reviews or ask around to find one that gives the most value for your money. **Best for:** Single mums who want to reclaim their time **Why it works:** - Cleans while you work, sleep, or spend time with the kids - Many models also mop — two jobs, one machine - Reduces daily mental load significantly Learn more about robot vacs here: [Your guide to buying a robot vacuum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-robot-vacuum/) ![Eufy BoostIQ RoboVac](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/eufy.jpg "eufy - Beanstalk Mums") --- ### Something to massage you Best for self-care 💰💰 $69.95I love getting massages, but as a working mum, I don’t have the luxury of time. A portable massager will give you that much needed soothing and relaxing massage at the end of the day. Choose a massager that you can use for different parts of your body so you don’t need to buy separate ones. **Best for:** Single mums carrying tension from a long day **Why it works:** - Use it on your neck, back, shoulders, or legs - Available at an accessible price point - No appointment needed [![Massage Pillow | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Renpho-pillow-massager-with-remote-control-800x800.jpg "Renpho pillow massager - with remote control - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/renpho-pillow-massager-with-remote-control/p/9901072942) [Shop Now](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/renpho-pillow-massager-with-remote-control/p/9901072942) --- ### Beautiful glassware Best for everyday treats 💰 $18.00There are little things that make us smile, and for me that is posh glassware! Aside from the design, make sure to look for good-quality glass that could stand a few stumbles, especially if you have little kids around the house. **Best for:** Single mums who appreciate the everyday things **Why it works:** - Elevates even a simple glass of wine after the kids are in bed - Ribbed gold rim design looks far more expensive than it is - A set of 4 so you’re ready for friends [![Openook Ribbed Gold Rim Champagne Glasses 4 Pack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Openook-ribbed-gold-rim-champagne-glasses-4-pack-800x800.jpg "Openook ribbed gold rim champagne glasses 4 pack - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrY4M)Openook ribbed gold rim champagne glasses 4 pack [Shop Now](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrY4M) --- ## What are some smaller, everyday gifts you can give yourself this Mother’s Day? ### Flowers Best for everyday treats 💰💰 $119.25Beautiful, fresh flowers can instantly brighten up any room – and any mood, too. Choose closed flowers that will open and last as long as possible in your home. Plus, if sustainability is something you care about, look for locally sourced blooms. (Then, maybe you have time to dry and preserve them?) **Best for:** Single mums who love something beautiful in the home **Why it works:** - Instantly lifts the energy of any room - A seasonal, affordable luxury - Locally sourced options available for eco-conscious mums [![Flowers | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/pink-roses.jpg "pink roses - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.floraly.com.au%2fcollections%2fmothers-day-flowers%2fproducts%2fpink-roses%3fvariant%3d44226340782359) [Shop Now](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.floraly.com.au%2fcollections%2fmothers-day-flowers%2fproducts%2fpink-roses%3fvariant%3d44226340782359) --- ### Magazine subscription Best for downtime 💰 From $29.00 (digital)If you love reading, why not gift yourself the good ol’ magazine subscription? I love an old-fashion mag but you can get digital subscriptions now if that’s more your style. If you want the print copy but are worried about collecting dust and clutter over time, donate them to a local public library near you. **Best for:** Single mums who love to switch off with a good read **Why it works:** - New content every month — always something to look forward to - Digital options available for clutter-free reading - Great value for a full year of enjoyment [![Magazine Subscription | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/National-Geographic-Feb-2023-1.png "National-Geographic-Feb-2023-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.booktopia.com.au/national-geographic-12-month-subscription/magazine/6000000011468.html) [Shop Now](https://www.booktopia.com.au/national-geographic-12-month-subscription/magazine/6000000011468.html) --- ### Fitness watch ✓ Top rated Best overall 💰💰 $79.95Whether you’re already into fitness or trying to be more active, a smart watch is always a good investment. There are a lot of styles to choose from now, so it’s easy to find one that fits your personal look. **Best for:** Single mums working on their health and fitness goals **Why it works:** - Tracks steps, sleep, and heart rate in one place - Comes with noise-cancelling earbuds included in this set - Stylish enough to wear every day [![AIWA Smart Tech Duo - 2-inch Smartwatch with Pink Straps and White Noise-Cancelling Earbuds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Aiwa-smart-tech-duo-2-inch-smartwatch-with-pink-straps-and-white-noise-cancelling-earbuds-800x800.jpg "Aiwa smart tech duo - 2-inch smartwatch with pink straps and white noise-cancelling earbuds - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/Gbm7dn) [Shop Now](https://bigw.sjv.io/Gbm7dn) --- ### Meditation app Best for single mums 💰 From $12.99–$19.99/monthA meditation app is perfect to start or end your day. They can keep you focused at work, and give you a quick shot at calmness in the middle of the day. There are many meditation apps to choose from, so choose one that has different options that you would most likely use. Personally, I love a meditation app that can help me build routines as well. **Best for:** Single mums who need 10 minutes of peace **Why it works:** - Accessible anywhere, anytime — even in the car during school pickup - Headspace has proven tools for anxiety, sleep, and focus - Free trial available before committing ***Further reading: [9 Meditation apps to improve your life through mindfulness.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/)*** [![Meditation App | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/headspacec.jpg "headspacec - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app) [Shop Now](https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app) --- ### A decent coffee machine ♡ Staff pick Best for single mums 💰💰💰 $130.99If you love to grab a cup (or two) on a regular basis, a coffee machine will definitely be a good investment that will save you money in the long run. Depending on your needs (and budget), you can get a basic one or a barista coffee machine. Get this if, like me, you can’t function without caffeine! **Best for:** Single mums who run on coffee **Why it works:** - Saves money compared to buying coffee out every day - Ready in minutes — no waiting in queues - Options available across every budget [![Coffee Maker | Treat yourself this Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/coffee.jpg "coffee - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7jK) [Shop Now](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7jK) ## Conclusion Whether you choose something small and practical or something you’ve been eyeing for months — the point is that you chose something for you. And that matters. Single mums give so much every single day. Taking a moment to fill your own cup is not selfish. It is necessary. You deserve it. --- **Get seasonal ideas and year-round support — free tools, weekly tips, and real help for single mums.** [Join Free](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) --- ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/treat-yourself-this-mothers-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/treat-yourself-this-mothers-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Shopping **Tags:** mother's day, gifts for mum, gift yourself, mum presents --- ### [10 Warning signs that you need to take a break from online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/break-from-online-dating/) **Published:** April 1, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re looking for love, you’ll likely be looking online. But it’s an emotional rollercoaster and sometimes the only way to stay sane is to stop the ride and get off! The question is: What are the warning signs that you need to take a break from online dating? Internet dating can be wonderful, and I have heard many happy success stories. On the other hand, it can be emotionally battering and confidence-destroying! For this reason, taking a break will not only help your mental health but will make your dating journey more successful. Here are the sure-fire signs that you need to ditch dating apps for a while. ## 1. Lack of enthusiasm Being on a [dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/) should be fun and exciting. If you’re not feeling it, then something isn’t right. Whatever your reason for lack of enthusiasm, whether you’re not ready to date or you’ve had some bad experiences, you need to be all-in to make this work. Let’s face it, it takes considerable positive intention to connect with and meet virtual strangers. If you’re not enthusiastic enough, you won’t get the desired result. ## 2. You’re not getting anywhere If you feel like you are on a carousel, going round and round but ending up with matches that do not interest you, then maybe it’s a sign to step back. It’s possible that the app’s algorithm is not doing you any favours. A tip here is to delete and re-install the app which can sometimes generate more potential matches. Better still, take a break and return in a month or so to fresh potential matches and get a sense of achievement from your online dating mission. ## 3. Feeling drained A girl can handle only so many witty online messages and first dates. Because, let’s face it, communicating and meeting up with strangers is arduous work. If you’ve been putting your best foot forward with potential partners without success, you will likely feel drained and disheartened. The online dating game is hugely time-consuming and can put pressure on other parts of your life, such as work, parenting, and [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/). It’s ok to take a break and come back refreshed and ready to mingle. ## 4. Constantly comparing yourself to others It’s great to hear a successful online dating story. It gives us hope. But, simultaneously, we can feel a wee bit jealous. You might find yourself thinking: > *“How come she found love and I can’t?”* > > *“What’s wrong with me.”* These [negative thought patterns](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/limiting-beliefs-ruin-dating/) will not serve you in the dating world. You need to be in a good frame of mind to be able to [date with confidence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-date-with-confidence-and-have-fun/). If you are focusing on others and feeling resentful or bitter, something is wrong, and you must step away from online dating apps. ## 5. It’s making you feel anxious Do you feel uneasy when you check your dating app or are unpleasantly apprehensive before first dates? Are your experiences online making you worry or obsess? You are not alone if you feel this way. However, you must take action because [long-term anxiety](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/anxiety#:~:text=There%20are%20some%20physical%20symptoms,dizziness) affects not only our mental health but our physical health too. I only allow myself up to six weeks on an app before removing myself for at least six weeks. This gives me the balance I need to keep all the other elements of my life in check alongside looking for a potential partner. This lessens anxiety and makes me feel calmer. Remember, online dating should be fun and exciting, not anxiety-inducing! ## 6. Your mental health is suffering The last thing you would want to compromise is your mental health when you try your luck in the world of online dating. I know it can be stressful and affect your emotional and mental well-being. If you are [experiencing depression](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/depression-single-mother/) or other negative emotions related to online dating, it’s time to re-evaluate your approach and take a break. Reconnect with other hobbies that bring back your joy, or learn something new instead. Who knows, you might meet a potential date this way. ## 7. You can’t find who you are looking for Dating involves vulnerability; there’s a risk of opening up to a complete stranger and counting on them to like you. If you are going through the motions but the conversations are superficial, it’s a sign that you are not really invested in a potential relationship, and that’s fine. If you are meeting people but are not making meaningful connections, this is your signal that you need to take a break. You can use the time to focus on other areas of your life, recharge and dive back in once you’re ready. ## 8. It’s become all-consuming Do you check your app first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Are you neglecting work/family/friends to indulge in online dating? Do you spend a considerable amount of your waking hours thinking about online dating? All the above are signs that your mission to find Mr Right has taken on a life of its own and might have a negative impact on the rest of your world. Think of it this way: David/John/James from Tinder will probably not be in your life in three months but your friends and family will be. Nurture the relationships that really matter. If being online is stopping you from doing this, delete the app. ## 9. You’ve run out of people to match with We all know that hopeless feeling when your apps tell you that you’ve run out of potential new matches in your areas. Yes, you could widen your search area. But do you really want to match with someone 200km away? Instead, it might be time to take a break from the dating scene and return when there are many fresh new people to match with. ## 10. If it’s not making you happy take a break from online dating If you’ve tried online apps and they are not making you happy, it could be time for a dating detox. Start by deleting the app from your phone and take time for your hobbies, new things to do, go somewhere different, or practice self-care. Sometimes putting yourself first can reward you in unexpected ways. Your body and mind will thank you, and you will feel more refreshed and ready to take on dating, whether online or offline again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/break-from-online-dating/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/break-from-online-dating/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** dating online, dating apps, internet dating --- ### [10 Reasons why Bali is great for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/bali-great-for-kids/) **Published:** April 8, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Bali, the stunning island province of Indonesia, is a dream destination for travellers of all ages and from all over the world. It is also one of my favourite places to take my children. So, what makes Bali great for kids? If you haven’t yet visited this stunning and easily accessible holiday haven, now is the time to consider it. In this article, I’ll talk you through why, as a single mum travelling with kids, Bali ticks all the boxes for our family. ## 1. It’s easy to get to Getting to Bali is easy as the island has an international airport, Ngurah Rai International Airport (DPS), which serves many airlines worldwide. For further ease, the airport is located in the southern part of the island, near popular tourist areas such as Kuta, Seminyak, and Nusa Dua. Many airlines offer direct flights to Bali from major cities in Asia, Australia, and the Middle East and connecting flights from Europe and North America. For us, the flying time is just over six hours, which is manageable. [Flying with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/flying-with-kids-everything-you-need-to-know/) can be challenging so I always book daytime flights because we can’t get enough sleep on a night flight and arrive exhausted. Never a good start for a holiday! ## 2. It’s easy to get around Another thing I love about Bali is that it’s accessible and easy to get around, even with kids in tow. Most locals use mopeds to get around. It’s safe to say that they are popular around the island. Renting one is cheap, but not for the faint of heart. I wouldn’t recommend sticking your kids on one. Bali doesn’t have Uber, but it has another rideshare app. [Grab](https://www.grab.com/id/en/transport/) is practical, easy, and relatively cheap. Grab cars are nicer than taxis and most drivers speak English. They will chat with you and get to know you, which is nice. However, Grab is slower than mopeds due to the traffic on the island. So if your estimated arrival time says 15 minutes, allow more time during busy parts of the day. Traffic generally eases off in the evenings. If hailing a taxi is a must, I recommend [My Bluebird Taxi](https://apps.apple.com/au/app/mybluebird-taxi/id476533261). Unlike rideshare, it goes by the metre but is moderated, safe and reliable. I use the app as it allows me to pay via credit/debit card, just like Grab. Last, if you can put up with the kids whinging, there’s always walking. Some neighbourhoods are more pedestrian-friendly than others. Just avoid speeding mopeds, especially during rush hour. ## 3. Lots of family-friendly accommodation With the popularity of Bali among families all over the globe, there now is plenty of family-friendly accommodation on the island. Whether you’re [renting a Bali villa](https://balivillaescapes.com.au/) or staying in a resort, Within a reasonable budget, you can find a beachfront property that offers five outdoor swimming pools (including a toddler pool, a kid’s pool, and three adult pools) along with eight dining options and 24-hour room service. Also, if you and/or your kids cannot live without connectivity, free Wi-Fi is now a priority in most hotels and hostels. The kind of things I look for in accommodation when holidaying in Bali with kids are: - Kids’ clubs - Multiple swimming pools, including one safe for small children - Family rooms or interconnecting options - Child-friendly amenities at no extra cost, including cots, high chairs, etc - Kids activities options such as craft workshops, dance lessons, mini golf - Babysitting services Bali is great for kids because you won’t have to look far for any of the above. They are usually part and parcel of most medium to large family-friendly resorts in Bali. ## 4. The Balinese love kids! The Balinese people are known for their warm hospitality and welcoming nature towards tourists, especially kids. They deeply respect children and believe they bring joy and positive energy to their communities. This is something we feel on every visit. Many Balinese people love interacting with kids and sharing their culture and traditions. They are often happy to answer questions, offer insights into local customs, and even teach kids a few words in the Balinese language. Once, my children scored us a special invitation to participate in a temple ceremony, where they could learn about traditional Balinese dress, dance, and music. Magical. ## 5. Heaps of fun outdoor activities Due to the climate in Bali, you’ll want to be outdoors most of the time enjoying the sun. Not only does Bali have the world-famous beach for hours of fun swimming, surfing and snorkelling, but there is heaps more to do under their big blue, sunny sky. Depending on the ages of your kids, you might want to try the following: - Bike tours - Elephant safaris - [The Tree Top Adventure Park](https://bali.com/places/bali-treetop-adventure-park/) - [Bali Zoo](https://www.bali-zoo.com/) - [Ubad Monkey Forest](https://monkeyforestubud.com/) - Some of the best waterparks in Asia ## 6. A great cultural experience for kids Balinese love it when kids appreciate their culture at a young age. These are their formative years, and such experiences can enrich their growth and development. The majority of Balinese practice Hinduism. This makes for a vibrant place to visit with kids due to the daily offerings and ceremonies performed by locals. We’ve enjoyed many cultural experiences in Bali, such as: - Balinese cooking classes - Learning to dance Balinese style - Playing percussion in Gamelan music - Batik textile painting - Canang Sari – Balinese Offering Making - Temple visits (yes, these can be fun!) As for a dance show, the epic of Ramayana and the movements of the Kedak dance come to life in a sunset performance in the Uluwatu Temple. It was an unforgettable memory for my kids and me. ## 7. There are even educational opportunities For me, there is no better education for children and adults than visiting different countries worldwide. And Bali doesn’t disappoint. Bali is great for kids because it provides a beautifully enriching educational experience for them. They can learn about Balinese culture, traditions, and values by visiting temples, attending cultural performances, and interacting with locals. Bali also offers opportunities to learn about biodiversity, conservation, sustainability, history, language, and social and emotional learning. Exploring Bali’s natural wonders, observing wildlife, visiting historical sites, learning some Balinese words and phrases, and experiencing the island’s friendly culture are all educational experiences … disguised as fun! ## 8. They have babysitting services! The locals understand that it is important to have a little help, especially for families with infants and toddlers. If you have a date night planned to immerse yourself in the island’s beauty sans kids, you can arrange a babysitting service. It’s good to know that most nannies have worked with many tourist families and understand the needs of their children. Arranging for babysitting services is very simple in Bali. All I had to do was book them online and provide a few details. The agency provides a quotation, and I pay through my chosen payment method, then the booking is confirmed. It’s easy. **Note:** Always do your homework before choosing a babysitting service. Check for references and credentials in both childcare and first aid. And it goes without saying that they need excellent, recent, genuine reviews. ## 9. Good healthcare available for tourists Bali understands tourists need peace of mind during their visit, especially when travelling with little ones. Most clinics and hospitals in Bali have English-speaking doctors. It is best to remember that Bali is not a first-world country, so the standard of care may differ, particularly in the island’s more remote areas. It’s crucial to have full travel insurance that covers emergency medical treatment, hospitalisation, and repatriation in case of a medical emergency. Many hospitals in Bali require payment upfront, so having adequate insurance is essential. We’ve only experienced healthy, happy holidays in Bali but have spoken to other tourist who have had to utilise medical facilities and their experiences were positive. ## 10. The food is kiddy-friendly One of the reasons that Balinese food is kid-friendly is because many dishes are mild in flavour, such as nasi goreng (fried rice), mie goreng (fried noodles), and gado-gado (vegetable salad with peanut sauce). Plus, they are similar to dishes we eat at home or in our local restaurants. Suppose your child likes to stick with what they know. In that case, Bali has many international restaurants catering to various tastes, including Western-style fast food, Italian, Japanese, and Thai cuisine. These restaurants often offer kid-friendly menus like pizza, pasta, burgers, and fries. It’s also worth noting that Bali has many health-conscious cafes and restaurants that serve organic, vegetarian, and vegan food, smoothie bowls, fresh juices, and healthy snacks. These can be great options for families looking for healthy, nutritious meals. A few of our favourite local dishes include: - Fried rice (Nasi Goreng) - Satay (Grilled Meat Skewers) - Fried Noodles (Mie Goreng) - Spring Rolls (Lumpia) - Chicken Noodles - Chicken Congee - Dumplings - Banana fritters What’s great is that these are easy to replicate at home. My kids can learn how to prepare these and relive our precious memories in Bali through food. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/bali-great-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/bali-great-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holiday, travel, bali, package --- ### [Getting one-on-one time with each child as a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/time-with-each-child/) **Published:** July 6, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When you first separate and learn the ropes of single parenting, you will overcome many parenting challenges. However hard it might feel at the beginning, you will find a balance and a new way of parenting that works for you. In this article, I discuss a dilemma you might not even consider initially. That is how, as a co-parent with more than one child, to get one-on-one time with each. This is a predicament for every single parenting style, including co-parenting, solo parenting, parallel parenting, or anything in-between. When you have your kids, you’re on your own. It means getting that all-precious one-on-one time with each child can feel nearly impossible, however much you and each of your children crave it. Finding ways to spend quality one-on-one time with each child is crucial for their emotional well-being and the parent-child bond. While it may seem daunting at times, implementing strategies and making conscious efforts to connect individually with each child can profoundly impact their development. Having co-parented one child and solo-parented another for over ten years, I’d like to share my advice and help you carve out that all-special one-on-one time with each child. ## Reframe one-on-one time I used to think of one-on-one time as a big event or extravagant activity, but it doesn’t have to be. The solution is easier when you realise this and reframe your thinking around it. One-on-one time can be as simple as doing an activity around the home together, sharing a bowl of hot chips after an extracurricular sport, or doing a weekly chore, such as grocery shopping. Make the most of the more mundane moments when you have one-on-one with a child. Put your phone away and start a conversation. Anytime with just the two of you is precious. Don’t waste it. ## Schedule dedicated time with each child I swear by a [good routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/good-routine/) to stop my life from crashing around me. Making time for the essential things in life is a must, including one-on-one time with your children. It doesn’t mean you have to take each of them to a different cinema viewing every week or out for dinner. These are occasional treats, which while great, are not sustainable in your busy family schedule. They are likely not sustainable on your purse either! Instead, put aside an hour each week with each child to do something together around the house. For us, my eldest loved netball, so we’d shoot hoops together after school every Wednesday. My younger daughter loves cooking, so we’d make a cake or bake biscuits together every Sunday afternoon. Life can interrupt our carefully laid plans, so if you miss one week’s dedicated time together, that’s ok. Just make sure you get back on track the following week. ## Bring in backup Every single parent needs and is [entitled to support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-single-mother/), whether from family, friends, or professional services such as a [childcare centre](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/child-care-subsidy). Can you get someone to care for your child or children, leaving you to have time with just one? If you have little by way of support, think creatively. Is there another single mum who might have the same problem as you? Could you arrange a care system allowing both you and her one-on-one time with each of your children individually? I struggled for support when mine were little. Eventually, I enrolled my youngest into childcare one afternoon a week, allowing me two hours after school with my eldest. Weigh up the cost against any other options available to you. It was well worth the money to have a set time to spend alone with my eldest. And my little one loved childcare, so it was a win/win/win! ## Alternate care options Talking of professional care options, you can use these to not only allow yourself some me-time but to orchestrate individual time with each child. When my daughters were in primary school, we made full use of the after-school club. Both girls would go together one day each week, allowing me time to catch up on weekly chores. Then one would go to the club on her own the following day, and the other on her own the next day. This gave me time with each child once a week, knowing the other was safe and happy in a familiar environment with friends. Note: It is super important to allow yourself [self-care time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) too, so balance this with getting one-on-one with each child. ## Use bedtime for one-on-time with each child [Getting your kids to bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/the-ultimate-kids-bedtime-routine/) in a non-chaotic, restful manner is a skill you learn to master as a parent. As a single parent, combining bedtime with one-on-one time is genius! I’m not saying do completely different bedtime routines for each child. Who would have the time for this? But separating story time and allowing longer to chat and cuddle up with each child is nice for you and them. It could make the bedtime routine run more smoothly as they look forward to their cherished one-on-one time with you before going to sleep. This can work well with older kids too. Take time to sit with them before they go to sleep. Chat through the highs and lows of the day and focus solely on them. ## Make it happen with technology We spend most of our lives trying to get our kids off technology. But there are times when it comes in handy, such as when you are masterminding how to get one-one time with each child. If your children are old enough to own a device they can message on, send them personal messages. It’s not entirely private time with them, but you can have a special mother/child chat about the two of you with no one else involved. If you are at home and all your children need minding, you can spend time with just one by setting the others up with an age-appropriate game or some [fun online education](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-online-education-resources/) to entertain them. Finally, most kids (boys especially) love online games. Take advantage of their hobby by learning how to play with them. It’s a great way to connect without leaving the home. Not only are you meeting them on their level, but they’ll think you’re a super-cool mum for joining in the gaming fun. ## Encourage individual hobbies Having two girls, I always felt lucky that they had similar pastimes, toys and sports hobbies. However, encouraging their individualism is essential and an excellent opportunity to connect with them without your other children getting involved. My younger daughters loved jigsaw puzzles, while the other found them boring. Instead of encouraging her older sister to join in, I would use our puzzle time as one-on-one with my younger daughter, knowing my older daughter was content to sit out the activity. Tailor your time with each child to fit in with your little ones characters and hobbies while encouraging their beautiful uniqueness. ## Final words As a single parent, I must make time for one-on-one interactions with each of my children. Despite the challenges, by dedicating specific time to each child, I demonstrate my love for them, build trust, and show interest in their unique needs, interests, and concerns. Spending one-on-one time allows me to observe and appreciate their individual qualities, strengths, and struggles. It creates shared experiences and memories that strengthen our relationship. While finding this time can be difficult, I hope this article has inspired you to find ways to make it happen. Ultimately, prioritising quality one-on-one time with each child as a single parent creates a nurturing environment that fosters emotional development, strengthens the parent-child bond, and contributes to the overall well-being of our family. Despite the demands, the rewards of these connections are immeasurable. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/time-with-each-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/time-with-each-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** parenting, time with kids --- ### [17 Completely free kids activities in Melbourne (plus more!)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activities-in-melbourne/) **Published:** December 5, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’ve ever dreamed of uncovering Melbourne’s best-kept secrets for kids’ entertainment on a budget, then this guide is tailor-made for you. As a thrifty mum who recently explored this great city, I can’t wait to spill the beans on the incredible kids activities in Melbourne … all for free! Sure, playing with a million lego bricks at LEGOLAND Discovery Centre and exploring science at Scienceworks are incredibly fun, but not everyone has a budget for that. Good thing, with its vibrant cultural scene and captivating attractions, Melbourne offers a wealth of opportunities for frugal family fun. From picturesque parks brimming with laughter to engaging museums that ignite curiosity. You’ll be amazed by the wealth of cost-free experiences. Let’s dive into a world of boundless excitement, where the magic across Melbourne unfolds without spending a single cent. Here’s this single mamma’s must do experiences in Melbourne: ***Further reading: [8 Great reasons to house swap for a cheap family holiday.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/)*** ## 17 Free fun things to do in Melbourne with kids ## [Royal Botanic Gardens](https://www.rbg.vic.gov.au/) Pack some bathers and dirt-friendly clothes to get down and dirty so you and your kid can play and learn at the Gardens! Just when you thought gardens were only great for adults who have a passion for horticulture. The Royal Botanic Gardens is filled with opportunities for exploration. These include the Children’s Garden, the desert cacti garden, and the fern gully, among many. Your child won’t possibly get to play mini-golf here, but they can learn about planting and cultivating soil hands-on! It’s a good alternative to Collingwood Children’s Farm. This, for me, is definitely one of the best free kids activities in Melbourne. ## [Fitzroy Adventure Playground](https://www.melbourneplaygrounds.com.au/cubbies-fitzroy-adventure-playground-napier-street-fitzroy) Fitzroy Gardens is possibly one of the most stunning places to visit in Melbourne, period. Its tropical conservatory, historic Scarred Tree, and cottages are just beautiful to behold especially during autumn. I have enjoyed their free weekly guided walking tour once. I believe they still offer it every Saturday at 10 am. For your little ones, the best feature of Fitzroy will most likely be its Adventure Playground, also known as “Cubbies”. Massive structures of animals and fantasy creatures, sometimes ingeniously made with recycled materials, serve as play centres. If you’re early and lucky, you and your kids might also chance upon the staff facilitating free activities, like storytime. Definitely one of the must-do experiences for kids and families in Melbourne. ![kids activities in melbourne](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/In-article-image-6.png "In article image 6 - Beanstalk Mums") ## [St Kilda Beach](https://www.visitmelbourne.com/regions/melbourne/see-and-do/nature-and-wildlife/beaches-and-coastlines/vv-st-kilda-beach) There’s nothing quite like the beach when you think of fun activities. Good news, there is no need to go to a pricey resort when you’ve got a beautiful beach that offers the best venue for free activities for the whole family. Head on over if your kids keep bugging you about Port Melbourne. Whether you want to have a gorgeous picnic with your child. Or tick off every activity you want to try with your kid on a beautiful summer day. You can have a fun swim and even try out the different water activities being offered by hobby shops, such as kitesurfing and windsurfing. Is the water not your kid’s thing? Just bring a bike or rollerblades and some yummy snacks, and your child will still have a blast at the beach. ## [Melbourne City Library](http://www.melbourne.vic.gov.au/community/libraries/Pages/libraries.aspx) Inculcate in your kids the love for reading and books without having to build a collection yourself. As a kid, I loved going to the State Library of Victoria, and I hope I can get my kids to love doing it as well. There is something magical and healing about libraries. I will never forget the wide-eyed amazement on my kid’s face every time we visit Melbourne City libraries. All sorts of people reading. The endless rows of books. The smell of paper. It’s a wonderland for anyone who loves books. Spend a few hours indoors cosied up in a new read while it’s a chilly 16 degrees outside. Your kids will enjoy the wide variety of books that they can read and enjoy for hours in the golden silence and comfort of this city’s indoor treasure. ## [Seville Water Play Park](https://www.yarraranges.vic.gov.au/Explore-Yarra-Ranges/Pools-water-play-parks/Seville-Water-Play-Park) Cool down the best way possible during those hot days from September to April. The sound of squealing and laughing kids are constant in this water play park, and you’ll understand why. There are open spaces, shared areas, and a playground where your kid can make new friends, play to their heart’s content, just enjoy being in the water, and collect fun memories. ## [City Circle Tram](https://www.ptv.vic.gov.au/route/1112/35/) One of my happy memories as a teen was getting on this zero-fare tram on special school holidays to take in Melbourne’s CBD sights and to hop off stops near my favourite shops. Operated by Yarra Trams, this experience shows the beauty of Melbourne from the vintage beauty of a tram. It’s also a great way to bond with your kids and save up on fuel and parking fees while you’re in the city. You can hop on and off stops near parks or food spots and make an adventure out of a school holiday with your kids, just like I did! ## Free activities for kids in Melbourne (cont.) ## [Curtain Square Fountain](https://www.yarracity.vic.gov.au/facilities/curtain-square) Saturday plans don’t have to be complicated. Often, all your kids need is sunlight, a sweaty couple of hours spent playing and making new friends, and a relaxing picnic with their amazing mum. Visit the Curtain Square and watch your kids play with other kids at the play area or read books with them on the lawns. It will not cost you anything as it is open to the public. It also has historic drinking fountains that will help you and the family stay hydrated during your stay in the city. You can pack some sandwiches or lunches from home and spend precious time with your kids at Curtain Square. ![Curtain Square Fountain](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/In-article-image-10.png "In article image 10 - Beanstalk Mums") ## [Phoenix Park Community Playground](https://www.stonnington.vic.gov.au/Community/Parks-and-sporting-facilities/Phoenix-Park) I still have a cute photo of my youngest posing in the gorgeous wooden fairytale castle playground at Phoenix Park. That was a great day and I am pretty sure my kids enjoyed a biiiit more than I did. Certainly a picturesque and free kid activity in Melbourne, this playground is built for the enjoyment for kids of all ages. Every turn and level of this playground has been utilised to provide various sensory and physical activities. Adjacent to the playground is a grassed area with picnic tables. Our kids’ childhoods have become incredibly digitalised. It would be great to bring your kids out to Phoenix Park every now and then to get some physical exercise, learn and socialise through play, enjoy the fresh air, and eat and bond with the family under the sun. Seriously, add this to your list of family activities! ## [Birrarung Marr](https://whatson.melbourne.vic.gov.au/things-to-do/birrarung-marr) As Australian mums, it’s also important for us to expose our kids to the rich heritage of our country. Melbourne is bursting with museums and galleries. Including ones with entry fees like the Old Melbourne Gaol and also heaps of free ones. Birrarung Marr is a beautiful place full of artwork and designed with so much symbolism that honours the Aboriginal culture, especially of the Wurundjeri people. The park is a popular venue for so many public events and bazaars which you and your kids can attend now and then. Familiarity with the history and design of Birrarung Marr will help your kid develop a sense of community and appreciation for the diverse and indigenous culture of Melbourne. ## [Queen Victoria Market](https://qvm.com.au/) On a no-school Monday, you should take your kids to Queen Victoria Market for a really cool activity: the Kids Passport! Starting at 9 am every Monday, kids can pick up their Kid Passport from the Information Hub. They can use their passports to collect stamps from different traders and vendors around Queen Vic Market. They will be able to meet different kinds of entrepreneurs and artisans and learn plenty about crafts, products, and trade items. At the end of their little market adventure, they can return to the Information Hub and present their stamped passports to claim special prizes. ## [Royal Arcade](https://royalarcade.com.au/) I remember one of my favourite memories with my mum is strolling and window-shopping at the Royal Arcade. We didn’t necessarily have to buy anything, but it was a beautiful place with a history that amazed me. The different shops sparkled with their wares just like they do today. Although you can’t find arcade games here, the Victorian building’s pathways leading to different streets are fun to explore. You can also tell your kid how many generations have walked and shopped here since it opened in 1870 as you browse around and appreciate the arcade’s architecture. ## [National Gallery of Victoria](https://www.ngv.vic.gov.au) Here’s one for the lovers of culture and the arts! The National Gallery of Victoria (NGV) is a gem for families looking for a mix of culture, creativity, and fun in the centre of Melbourne. Whether it’s a rainy day or sunny skies, the NGV offers something special for every age. It’s a great alternative to MoPA. Your kids will love exploring the interactive exhibits in the NGV Kids space, where art meets play in the most colourful and engaging way. Wander through breathtaking galleries filled with masterpieces from around the world, or marvel at the iconic stained-glass ceiling in the Great Hall—it’s a perfect spot to lie down and take it all in. If you’re feeling peckish, the café has plenty of family-friendly options, or you can enjoy the peaceful gardens outside for a relaxed picnic. With free entry to many areas and an ever-changing array of exhibits, the NGV makes a day out with the kids both exciting and inspiring. ## Best activities for kids in Melbourne for free ## [Docklands Park](http://www.melbourne.vic.gov.au/community/parks-open-spaces/major-parks-gardens/Pages/docklands-park.aspx) The Docklands might remind you of nights spent in inebriated fun back during your younger years. Nowadays, the area has developed into a more family-friendly area perfect for spontaneous day trips with your kids. For example, Docklands Park is open to the public at no charge. It has a playground and beautiful green space that are perfect for children and adults to stretch their legs, spend some pent-up energy and play around in after eating at the different culinary spots nearby. ## [Australian Centre for the Moving Image](http://www.acmi.net.au/) A trip to Melbourne isn’t complete without going to the country’s national museum for film, video games, digital culture, and art. Mums of multimedia-loving kids, need I say more? Being cultured and having an appreciation for art should start from a young age. It’s great for older kids who love art. Thankfully, Melbourne is brimming with such, like the Melbourne Museum and Australian Sports Museum. With highly developed and curated exhibition areas and film showcases and no entrance fee, this museum is a free kids’ activity in Melbourne that you shouldn’t pass up. Once you see how cool, immersive, and educational everything is inside, you will be glad to have taken your kids who will surely enjoy “watching” the museum. They won’t be looking for their virtual reality goggles once they experience the story of the moving image in real life. ![kids activities in melbourne](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/In-article-image-7.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums") ## [CERES Community Environment Park](https://ceres.org.au/) CERES has 4 locations that are all fantastic places to visit where your kids can learn about different kinds of plants and interact with nature. My particular favourite is their East Brunswick location; let me tell you why. This community environment park has a nursery and bookstore where little ones can engage in the amazing process of cultivating plants. It also has a creative play space for kids; a stunning shed made out of recycled bikes. Here, you can relax at an organic grocery and a cafe where your kids can refuel with healthy and delicious meals after a full morning of exploring the park. ## [Cooks’ Cottage](https://www.visitmelbourne.com/regions/melbourne/see-and-do/art-and-culture/history-and-heritage/cooks-cottage) Is your child showing signs of great interest in history? Here’s one of the best places to nurture that curiosity at no extra cost. Bring your kids to the Cooks’ Cottage, where they can learn about the incredible story of the cottage, which was transported brick by brick to Australia from England in the 18th century! The interior setup was also preserved in its 1700s fashion as well as the attire of the guides who will be imparting their knowledge of the cottage and Melbourne during that time. Cooks’ Cottage is a fun and inexpensive way to travel to the past. If your kids have already seen the infamous Ned Kelly museum, this is a great way to expand that experience. ## [Edinburgh Gardens](https://www.yarracity.vic.gov.au/facilities/edinburgh-gardens) This is a spot I love visiting during the cooler days of summer with my kids. Edinburgh Gardens is a beautiful venue for several free kids’ activities in Melbourne. You can go biking, relax under the shade of majestic trees, walk your family dog, have a barbie, and enjoy the company of other kids at the playground. You and your kids can easily spend a full day at Edinburgh Gardens with all the space and fun opportunities you can explore as a family. ## “Almost” free fun activities in Melbourne ## [Heide Museum of Modern Art ](https://www.heide.com.au/)(Gardens and Sculpture Park) Lucky for us, we’ve got Heide to bring our kids to for creative inspiration and education. Entrance is free for all kids aged under 16 This astonishing museum is a must-visit for mums like you who are looking for free kids’ activities in Melbourne. Aside from outstanding paintings and artworks in various media, Heide also has a mind-blowing sculptural park and gardens that are especially perfect on sunny days. The museum regularly offers art programs targeted towards kids and families. Your kids can join a workshop or group activity where they can create and learn about artistic techniques. ## [The Pauline Gandel Children’s Gallery](https://museumsvictoria.com.au/melbournemuseum/whats-on/childrens-gallery/) The Pauline Gandel Children’s Gallery at Melbourne Museum is one of my favourite spots for kids indoor play and it runs throughout the year! Entry is free for kids for a 50-minute session … though the adult has to pay $15. It’s a play-based learning and creative exploration that’s an absolute treasure for curious kids under five. Your toddlers and school kids will light up every time they dig for fossils, pretending to be mini paleontologists or climb through the bushland play area like they’re on a real adventure. It’s so much more than a play space in a safe and fun environment. It’s an indoor play area where their imaginations run wild, and they learn without even realising it. From the sensory displays to the interactive exhibits, every visit feels like a new discovery. It’s one of the best children’s museums, hands down. ![kids activities in melbourne](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/In-article-image-9.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## [Melbourne Zoo](https://www.zoo.org.au/melbourne/melbourne-zoo-prices/) Saving this for last because zoos are ALWAYS a hit for kids. Kids ages 4 to 15 get free entry weekends, while children ages 0 to 3 are always free. If you don’t have the budget for the Sea Life Melbourne Aquarium, this spot is a fascinating alternative for your kiddos to appreciate flora and fauna. It’s the perfect place to spend a day exploring with your kids, especially when the weather is just right for a little outdoor adventure. Home to over 300 species from around the world, the zoo offers an unforgettable experience where you can get up close to wildlife. Stroll through the lush trails and marvel at majestic lions, playful lemurs, or the always-fascinating penguins. The kids will love the Keeper Kids play space, where they can role-play as zookeepers while you might enjoy a quiet moment by the tranquil Japanese Garden. Pack a picnic or grab a bite at one of the cafés on-site. There’s plenty of space to relax and recharge. Melbourne Zoo isn’t just about animals; it’s about making memories with your family in a vibrant, educational, and fun environment. (By the way, the Werribee Open Range Zoo is also free for kids on weekends, so it’s a nice alternative.) ## The National Communication Museum in Melbourne This is an absolute gem for families, offering a fun, cheap way to engage with history, technology, and creativity. Packed with fascinating exhibits, it dives into the evolution of communication—from the first telegraphs to modern smartphones. Kids will love exploring hands-on activities, like sending messages via Morse code or seeing old-school switchboards in action. It’s not just educational—it’s a great spot to spark curiosity and conversation, making it perfect for an outing that combines learning with entertainment. Plus, the central location makes it easy to include a day out exploring Melbourne. Plus, as a Beanstalk Mums reader, you can enjoy a 15% discount when you book through our [discount directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/the-national-communication-museum/). ## Conclusion: Free indoor and outdoor kid-friendly activities in Melbourne You might have read of negative experiences incurred in free activity places … but not in Melbourne! Melbourne truly shines as a treasure trove of free, family-friendly activities that make every day an adventure without denting your wallet. From lush parks and inspiring museums to sandy beaches and playful playgrounds, Melbourne is definitely a city for kids! As a single mum, I know how important it is to balance fun with affordability, and Melbourne delivers this in spades. So, pack your snacks, grab your kids, and set out to explore these incredible spots. The beauty of it all? Every moment is a reminder that the best things in life really *are* free. Here’s to discovering the magic of Melbourne with your family without breaking the bank. ***Further reading: [15 Essential tips for planning a stress-free single parent holiday.A](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-free-single-parent-holiday/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activities-in-melbourne/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activities-in-melbourne/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** victoria, st kilda, cheap kids, vic --- ### [Positive parenting programs for separated couples in Australia 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parenting-programs-separated-couples/) **Published:** August 24, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In this article we explore positive parenting programs tailored specifically for separated couples in Australia. Navigating co-parenting after a separation can be a complex and emotional journey. Finding the right support is crucial for the well-being of both parents and children. The programs listed in this article offer valuable tools to navigate the challenges of co-parenting with empathy and mutual understanding. They can help if you are separated or seeking to improve an existing co-parenting arrangement. Remember that by creating a nurturing and harmonious parenting environment you are putting your children’s happiness and growth first. Which is a parenting win! Read on for our pick of positive parenting programs for separated couples in Australia. ## [Triple P (Positive Parenting Program)](http://triplep-parenting.net.au/qld-en/triple-p/) Possibly the most tested and studied program and resource for parenting strategies, Triple P caters to parents of kids and teens looking to reduce problem behaviours and improve parenting confidence. For over 35 years, their programs have helped millions of parents by providing tools and ideas they can incorporate into their parenting styles. For separated couples, parenting can feel like a daunting task to take on alone. This program can help align two separated parents’ visions and goals while individually supporting them toward becoming self-assured and confident parents. ***Find out more from our [podcast with Triple P.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/raise-happy-confident-resilient-kids/)*** ![Triple P parenting programs for separated couples](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Triple-P-1200x600.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Relationships Australia: Focus On Kids](https://www.relationshipsnsw.org.au/group-workshops/parenting-after-separation-focus-on-kids/) Are you fresh off your separation and struggling to meet your ex halfway when co-parenting your kids? The Focus on Kids program by Relationships Australia might be the right one for you. This course is a group workshop for separated parents facilitated in six sessions over six weeks. It is designed to help attendees learn how to reduce conflict with their exes to become better co-parents. It is one of the parenting programs for separated couples that focuses on communication techniques and supports clients as they navigate the difficulties of separation. ![Relationships Australia: Focus On Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Relationships-Australia.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Tuning in to Kids](https://tuningintokids.org.au/) For better or for worse, separation or divorce can be an intensely emotional and life-changing period for a former couple’s children. Thankfully, evidence-based parenting programs for separated couples now exist to help parents continue being their children’s primary teachers in emotional intelligence skills. Tuning in to Kids is a suite of programs designed to teach parents and carers emotional coaching. Here, parents learn to identify, accept, validate, empathise, and support their kids as they work through different emotions and challenging situations. There are available programs catering to the unique developmental needs of children, from toddlers to teens. Tuning in to Kids Online is also available for parents and carers with children from 0 to 12 years old. In addition, they have programs to help dads and teachers get involved in teaching emotion coaching. ![Tuning in to Kids parenting programs for separated couples](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/tuning-in-to-kids-MAIN-1024x422-1.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Separated Parents: Orders Training](https://www.parentingordersprogram.online/programs/) Are you advised by the legal system to go through a parenting program to help you deal with the challenges of divorce/separation? Are you stressed out because there’s no place for such a program in your demanding and hectic daily life? Reputable online parenting programs for separated couples, like Separated Parents Orders Training, are the answer. With ten locked modules designed to help you make objective decisions focused on the best interests of your children, SPOT allows you to complete the program at home, at your own pace. The program results from extensive research and advocates for both parents’ conscientious and loving involvement in the upbringing of their children. ![Separated Parents: Orders Training](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Parenting-portal-Online-1.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Parents Under Pressure](https://www.pupprogram.net.au/) Parents Under Pressure can be considered one of the parenting programs for separated couples that directly addresses the trauma of conflict-ridden separation. With its focus on helping parents going through difficult life circumstances, it aims to help the affected children have optimal development. The program is based on decades of research linking self-regulation skills to a child’s holistic development. The goal is to help parents under immense stress and pressure due to unfortunate situations (like bankruptcy, substance misuse, or separation) manage their emotions and personal resources to become the present and nurturing parents we all need to be. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/PuPLogo-2022-FullColour-RGB.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Mallee Family Care: Post Separation Cooperative Parenting](https://www.malleefamilycare.org.au/Our-Services/Family-Support/Separation-and-Divorce.aspx) Divorce/separation is a contentious and deeply frustrating affair for many separated couples. This is why parenting programs for separated couples who can no longer communicate without conflict are important resources, especially for former partners who have just recently separated. MFC offers a program designed explicitly for separated couples struggling to get on the same page and cannot shield their children from their conflict and differences. The program looks into its clients’ situations and struggles and helps them develop applicable ways to minimise conflict and better manage the relationship with their ex as co-parents. ![Mallee Family Care: Post Separation Cooperative Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/mfc_logo_landscape_option2.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Australian Government: Post Separation Co-operative Parenting Program](https://www.communitygrants.gov.au/grants/pscp) Next on the list of parenting programs for separated couples is aimed at helping those who are in constant stressful conflict with their former partner. Designed for Australian parents by the Australian government, the Parenting Orders Program – Post Separation Co-operative Parenting Program assists in reducing constant conflict between separated or divorced parents. As great as it sounds, this government program is not directly available to individuals. Instead, you can access it through selected local organisations that facilitate programs for families going through divorce and separation. If you manage to get into the program, expect to receive child-focused and child-inclusive education, so you learn to focus on your children’s needs instead of your hatred towards your ex. ![Australian Government: Post Separation Co-operative Parenting Program parenting programs for separated couples](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/124-comm-grants-pop.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Better Relationships: Post Separation Parenting Course](https://www.betterrelationships.org.au/services/education/post-separation-parenting/) As it mentions in its website, this parenting course does not teach people how to parent. It aims to provide practical strategies and skills adapted to separated parenting. Unfortunately, this is not a Family Law Court-approved course, so this might not be useful if the legal system has ordered you to take parenting programs for separated couples. But if you are looking for programs providing personalised guidance with a professional counsellor, this course can be worth your while. Although you will not get court points for enrolling in the course, it might be the supportive environment you need to gain confidence in parenting and rebuilding your life post-separation/divorce. ## [Parenting After Separation](https://courses.parentingafterseparation.com.au/) This organisation offers more than one course for separated couples/parents, Australia-wide. Whether you are coming from a high conflict separation case and a subsequent court order or going through some anger management issues, this education-based institution has something to offer. Depending on your needs, you can choose from various parenting programs for separated couples. You can find the essential co-parenting course, improving communication strategies, managing your anger, Parenting Orders Program, and even Tuning in to Kids (which I have discussed earlier). You can also find counselling and consultation services if you need more personalised help navigating this new and challenging situation. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/images.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Parenting After Separation (Relationship Matters)](https://relationshipmatters.com.au/programs/parenting-after-separation-online/) The organisation behind Relationship Matters has taken the wonderful initiative to gather resources for parenting programs for separated couples. These include the previously mentioned Tuning in to Kids and Parenting After Separation. Before enrolling in Parenting After Separation, you are required to take a one-hour intake with a qualified practitioner to help you find the best program for your case. You will then participate in a small online environment with other participants and the facilitator. The program is relatively short, with just two 3-hour sessions via Zoom. At the end of the program, you get a court-approved Completion Certificate. RM has set up offices in every major city in Australia to offer their help and services to separated parents. ![Parenting After Separation (Relationship Matters)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/rm-logo-header-01.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## [Parents Beyond Breakup](https://www.parentsbeyondbreakup.com/) Last but surely not least, Parents Beyond Breakup is a charity offering parenting programs for separated couples experiencing trauma. What sets PBB apart from the rest of the programs in this article is its commitment to reducing divorce- or separation-related mental health struggles and suicides. The charity aims to help parents find healthy coping mechanisms and skills in healing from separation-related trauma. It has programs not just for mums and dads, but also for grandparents experiencing distress from getting separated from their grandchildren. Aside from readily available resources on the website, PBB’s helpline is open seven days a week. They have also set up Facebook support groups for distressed mums, dads, and grandparents who wish to be part of an online community. ![Parents Beyond Breakup parenting programs for separated couples](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Logo-PBB-1-1-1200x579.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parenting-programs-separated-couples/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parenting-programs-separated-couples/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** shared care, co-parenting, parenting support, parenting help --- ### [Keeping body language positive when talking to your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/body-language-positive/) **Published:** August 5, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As someone who has been through the ups and downs of separation and co-parenting, I know how challenging it can be to communicate with your ex, especially when emotions are still raw. But, here’s the thing – keeping body language positive during those conversations can make a world of difference for everyone involved, especially your little ones. I have discovered that our body language can speak louder than words, conveying emotions and intentions in ways we might not even realise. When we approach interactions with our ex-partners wearing a cloak of negativity, it only adds fuel to the fire. But choosing to don a more positive demeanour can work wonders in diffusing tension and fostering healthier communication. In this article, I’ll share some invaluable tips and personal insights on how to keep your body language positive while talking to your ex. Mastering these essential skills can create a more harmonious co-parenting environment, leading to happier and more secure kids. ***Further reading: [Co-parenting tips I wish I knew 10 years ago.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/)*** ## Start with smile Things would have been easier if you broke up amicably. But since that’s not always the case, you might have to force yourself to smile. But don’t worry, because even forced smiles trigger positivity in your brain, according to a [University of South Australia](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/08/200813123608.htm) research in 2020. Positivity is contagious, so your ex will most likely feel a boost in his mood – something that’s good for you both and the kids. The downsides to forcing them are minor, so you’ve got nothing to lose being the first to offer a smile. If you’re unsure how to fake a smile that won’t look like a grimace, a quick Google or YouTube search will help. ## Don’t cross your arms Although crossing your arms can also be a way to self-soothe, you’re better off reserving the gesture when your ex and kids are out of sight. You don’t want them to think you’re defensive and stressed. From childhood, we have known that crossed arms convey a generally negative emotion, and negativity is highly contagious, too. When our parents or teachers crossed their arms, that usually implied we did something wrong. I don’t know about you, but when my mum looked at me with her arms folded, I would *fold*. What an effective way to shut down communications! If you catch yourself crossing your arms around your ex, take a deep breath and put them down. It will be hard to control this reflex the first few times, but eventually, your body will get it. ## Leaning in or out Leaning in or out during conversations are obvious nonverbal cues that mean opposite things. Leaning in shows that you’re engaged with what the other person is saying. Alongside eye contact, it shows you’re actively listening, which improves your conversation. However, you don’t want to overdo it with the leaning in, unless you want your ex to think you’re still interested or to send them running off (which you don’t want because you’re co-parenting). Conversely, leaning back demonstrates a level of disinterest. Like leaning in, too much leaning out, your ex might think you don’t care. While it might seem rude at first, who leans in and out shows who controls the situation. In short, be aware of your tendency to lean in or out when talking. The right amount at the right time will influence your relationship going forward. An important factor when keep your body language positive. ## Watch your hand gestures Humans are born to speak with our hands, so making gestures naturally comes naturally to us. Knowing this, learn to control your hands so your motions don’t lead to misinterpretations. What I mean is no pointing fingers, clenched fists, the middle finger, and sharp, angular gestures that convey aggression. Moreover, avoid holding sharp and pointed objects if you tend to use your hands when talking. You don’t want to hit your ex by accident! ## Maintain eye contact Maintaining eye contact doesn’t only demonstrate confidence; it’s also crucial in communication. It shows respect and readiness to listen and potentially improve understanding. I know it’s not easy, and looking your ex in the eye can be incredibly awkward. Our eyes are the windows to the soul, they say. So, it can be pretty scary to look someone you have just divorced in the eye and possibly reveal all sorts of emotions. Don’t worry, because you don’t have to maintain 100% of the time. Actually, you need to look someone in the eye only 50% of the time, for 4 to 5 seconds, according to this article from [BetterUp](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-is-eye-contact-important). ## Keeping body language positive when talking to your ex (cont.) ## Relax your posture One person I wished I was around when I and my ex started co-parenting was my mum. When I was younger, she always gave me a soft smack when she caught me slouching. I badly needed that reminder when facing my ex the first few times. It’s a game-changer when trying to keep your body language positive. According to research, slouching makes you think negative thoughts. On the contrary, good posture encourages positive thoughts and feelings. Additionally, sitting or standing straight makes you exude confidence and assertiveness – two things you need to prove you won’t be a pushover. ## Use the right tone of voice A popular saying to keep in mind when talking with your ex is this: it’s not what you say but how you say it. Sometimes, our tone can give away hidden resentments and tensions. We can sound combative or too formal. Instead, try to talk like you used to – minus the shouting and passive aggression, of course. Try to be calm and kind, and even friendly. It’s not going to be that easy at first, but you’ll be more comfortable eventually as your communication improves. Remember, you’ll co-parent for a long time, if not forever. It’s going to be pretty exhausting to always be in an antagonistic mode. ## Stay mindful of your facial expressions As someone with an open-book face, I find it challenging to hide my emotions. Doubly so because this is a man I was married to for many years, and he can read me pretty easily. In the first few months of our co-parenting journey, I didn’t even bother hiding the slightest annoyance of being in the same space as him. Obviously, that made co-parenting tougher than it should have been. Over dinner, my eldest told me I was unnecessarily rude to their dad, which made them uncomfortable. My youngest commented I was being immature. So, I knew I had to make a change if I wanted this to work (and not push my daughters further away). I became more conscious of the slightest movements, like raising my eyebrows and glaring. I practiced faking my smiles (see first point) until they weren’t fake anymore. I saw a massive change in my ex’s demeanour, which eased my anxieties, too. ## Practice active listening Poor communication is one of the major reasons for divorce. If this was part of what led to your separation, it can be tricky talking to each other again. But also, you already know why your relationship did not work. Although you’re not getting back together, working on your communication for the kids’ sake is important. You will still make decisions together, so you must show each other respect. Actively listening is one of the most effective ways to demonstrate respect and decency. Here are a few things to remember to be fully present when your ex speaks: - Stop what you’re doing. - Listen to understand, not to respond. - Don’t interrupt. - Reflect and repeat what your ex says to ensure you understand it correctly. (In a related note, don’t put words in their mouth.) ## Take deep breaths Before you can do anything on this list, take a deep breath. This is the starting point to clear your mind and calm your feelings when facing your ex. By taking a deep breath, you regain your composure, helping you approach things clearly. It’s never too late to take a deep breath. If you catch your gestures or your tone getting aggressive, or you’re folding your arms or leaning in too much, pause and breathe. And if you’re worried your ex will catch you breathing deeply and think you’re being too emotional, that’s okay. You’re acknowledging your complex emotions and regulating them healthily and maturely. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/body-language-positive/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/body-language-positive/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** communication with ex, conflict, talking to ex --- ### [10 Sleep supplements for the best night's sleep ever](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/sleep-supplements/) **Published:** August 21, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you tired of being tired? I hear you. I’ve been on a first-name basis with the Sandman for what feels like a century. Now, after countless nights of tossing, turning, and negotiating with tiny bedtime dictators, I’ve discovered some sleep supplements that have transformed my restless nights into peaceful slumber. In the realm of motherhood, a full night’s sleep often feels like a mythical creature, right alongside unicorns and well-behaved toddlers. And let’s face it, we could all use a little extra magic in the form of shut-eye. In this article, I spill the beans on ten sleep supplements that have given me a fighting chance against the nocturnal antics of my beloved offspring and have, quite literally, saved the day. From melatonin gummies that rival the sweetness of bedtime stories to chamomile capsules that whisper “calm” louder than a tantrum in a toy store, let me take you though my treasure trove of sleep-inducing goodies. Peaceful night’s sleep, here we come. ***Further reading: [How to get your child to sleep in their own bed.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-get-your-child-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/)*** ## Happy Healthy You Sleep Bundle Sleep Bundle is a three-part sleep system, pairing MSP (Magnesium, Sleep, Pain), Happy Hormones, and Happy Calm to tackle sleep from every angle, perfect if you’re a mum juggling racing thoughts at bedtime as much as sore muscles. The magnesium in MSP helps relax muscles and ease you into sleep, while Happy Hormones and Happy Calm work on calming the nervous system and easing the stress hormones that keep you tossing and turning. Unlike a single tub-and-scoop product, this one’s a bundle of three separate formulas designed to work together, so it’s less “mix and drink” and more “build a full routine.” It’s non-sedative too, so no grogginess the next morning; it’s about nudging your body back into a natural rhythm rather than knocking you out. Many people report feeling calmer within the first few nights, with deeper improvements to sleep patterns building over 1–2 weeks of consistent use. [![Sleep Bundle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Anxiety-sleep-bundle-hh240-mspx1-hc90-1080x1080-180825.webp "Anxiety-sleep-bundle-hh240-mspx1-hc90-1080x1080-180825 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78503?Url=https%3a%2f%2fhappyhealthyyou.com.au%2fproducts%2fsleep-bundle%3f_pos%3d3%26_psq%3dslee%26_ss%3de%26_v%3d1.0)Anxiety sleep bundle hh240 mspx1 hc90 1080x1080 180825 Stockist: [Happy Healthy You](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78503?Url=https%3a%2f%2fhappyhealthyyou.com.au%2fproducts%2fsleep-bundle%3f_pos%3d3%26_psq%3dslee%26_ss%3de%26_v%3d1.0) ## Nature’s Way Sleep Ashwagandha Gummies Don’t you sometimes wish every medication came in the form of gummies? Not only are they more fun to take, but they’re also reportedly easier for the body to absorb and digest. Did I mention they taste better? If the idea of sleep gummies is to your liking, try these blackcurrant-flavoured soft gummies from Nature’s Way. They’re 99% sugar-free and made with ashwagandha, a popular herb for relieving stress and anxiety. My only issue with these gummies is that they are expensive. Each bottle comes with 40 pastilles. You’re supposed to take 4 pastilles 30 minutes to 1 hour each day before going to bed. That means each bottle only lasts 10 days max! Also, note that these gummies have sorbitol and maltitol, which may have a laxative effect or cause diarrhoea. If you have an issue with these sugar alternatives, maybe skip these gummies. [![Nature's Way Sleep Ashwagandha Gummies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/phar-9314807080129-1.webp "phar-9314807080129-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34879?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.pharmacyonline.com.au%2fnature-s-way-high-strength-adult-vita-gummies-sleep-ashwagandha-99-sugar-free-x-40)Stockist: [Pharmacy Online](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34879?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.pharmacyonline.com.au%2fnature-s-way-high-strength-adult-vita-gummies-sleep-ashwagandha-99-sugar-free-x-40) ## Earth’s Bounty Sleep Perfect Capsules Not a fan of ashwagandha? Try Earth’s Bounty Sleep Perfect Capsules. These vegan-friendly and gluten-free caps have valerian root, passion flower, and skullcap, also widely known in traditional medicine to induce sleep. It also has magnesium, which helps you relax. This is 100% my favourite on this list, since it works perfectly for me. I have been sleeping so well since discovering Sleep Perfect, and I don’t feel groggy in the morning. The only downside is that it’s slightly more expensive than other sleep supplements. But I think the price is on point for its benefits. [![Earth Bounty's Sleep Perfect Capsules sleep supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/13.jpg "13 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fau.iherb.com%2Fpr%2Fearth-s-bounty-sleep-perfect-60-vegetarian-capsules%2F46061)Stockist: [iHerb](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fau.iherb.com%2Fpr%2Fearth-s-bounty-sleep-perfect-60-vegetarian-capsules%2F46061) ## NutraOrganics Beauty Sleep Bundle My friends from yoga class have moved on to this one, and honestly, I get why. It’s got the same beauty-sleep angle as our old Moon Milk pick, but this time it’s a proper bundle: Collagen Hot Chocolate, Collagen Beauty Unflavoured, and a Whiz Stick to mix it all up. This one comes ready to go. Whiz a scoop of Collagen Hot Chocolate into hot (or cold, if you’re team iced choc) milk of choice, then stir in a serve of Collagen Beauty for a “supercharged” hit of collagen, targeted for skin, hair, nails, and gut, plus the general collagen support from the hot chocolate itself. The magnesium in the Hot Chocolate is the real MVP here for winding down at night, it’s what’s behind the relaxation claims, alongside a low-sugar, naturally sweetened (monk fruit and thaumatin) recipe that still tastes indulgent. And because it’s a proper drinking-chocolate ritual rather than a savoury mix, it feels like more of a treat-yourself moment before bed than a supplement. It promises to help you relax into sleep while supporting glowing skin overnight, so like our old favourite, it’s still very much an “arsenal” pick, just with a cosier, chocolatey twist. [![Beauty Sleep Bundle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Collagen_beauty-april25-bundle-2-collagen_hot_chocolate_bundle-640x800.webp "Collagen_beauty-april25-bundle-2-collagen_hot_chocolate_bundle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://nutraorganics.com.au/products/collagen-beauty-hot-chocolate-bundle)Collagen beauty april25 bundle 2 collagen hot chocolate bundle Stockist: [Nutra Organics](https://nutraorganics.com.au/products/collagen-beauty-hot-chocolate-bundle) ## Nature’s Way Chamomile Capsules If you’re a fan of chamomile tea, you will love these capsules that provide the same calming and anxiety-reducing effects but in a more handy form. Nature’s Way Chamomile Capsules are here to the rescue for busy days when you can’t brew a cup of tea. The recommended dosage is two capsules thrice daily – or a total of 6 per day. But I pop two an hour before bedtime, and it still works wonders. I always wake up feeling fully rested and energised. Having been using them for a couple of years, I can personally vouch for the effectiveness of these chamomile capsules. But if you want more proof, it’s highly rated with over 300 5-star verified customer reviews! [![Nature's Way Chamomile Capsules sleep supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/45.jpg "45 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3qiRFhj)Stockist: [iHerb](https://fave.co/3qiRFhj) ## NutraLife Magnesium Sleep Another sleep supplement worth trying is NutraLife’s Magnesium Sleep. Magnesium is a relaxing mineral that promotes the production of melatonin and serotonin to improve your mood and help you sleep. Magnesium Sleep has 3 different forms of magnesium that help improve muscle health and neuromuscular functions. It also contains Chinese and Western herbs that effectively induce a night of restful sleep. My eldest, who used to suffer from sleeplessness until trying magnesium, takes a capsule an hour before bedtime. She swears it boosted her sleep quality, so she has made this a part of her night routine. [![Nutra-Life Magnesium Sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/3DF_800.jpg "3DF_800 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fnutralife-magnesium-sleep-cap-x-60)Stockist: [Chemist Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fnutralife-magnesium-sleep-cap-x-60) ## Swiish Sleep Superfood Powder Superfood. If you’ve been tuned with anything health-related lately, you have undoubtedly heard of the term. Simply put, a superfood is a food rich in beneficial compounds like antioxidants and fibre. Swiish Sleep Superfood Powder promises melatonin production, which we know is a stress-inducing hormone. You can drink it with plain water, but if you want something creamier, mix a scoop or two with 1/2 to 1 cup of warm milk. The mix already has honey and dates, but you can also add a sweetener if desired. Its all-natural ingredients are tart cherry, banana, cherry, cacao, honey, date, ginger, turmeric, Siberian ginseng, cinnamon, and natural vanilla flavour. If you prefer products with familiar ingredients, definitely give this sleep supplement a go. Plus, even if you’re not having sleep problems, the ingredients are still beneficial for your body. [![Swiish Sleep Superfood Powder sleep supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Sleep_duo_set_3000x-615x800.webp "Sleep_duo_set_3000x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74932?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.swiish.com%2fproducts%2fsleep-superfood-powder%3f_pos%3d1%26_sid%3de61f81023%26_ss%3dr%26variant%3d40197699207228)Stockist: [Swiish](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74932?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.swiish.com%2fproducts%2fsleep-superfood-powder%3f_pos%3d1%26_sid%3de61f81023%26_ss%3dr%26variant%3d40197699207228) ## x50 Sleepy Herbal Tea If, like me, you’d rather have a traditional cup of tea to help calm your nerves and help you sleep, why not try x50 Sleepy Herbal Tea? This all-Aussie and caffeine-free blend has valerian root, lavender, chamomile, and linden flower. A word of caution: don’t drink this tea when you don’t intend to immediately sleep. Linden flower is known to induce drowsiness, so if you’re planning to drive or operate heavy machines, don’t think about it. But if you’re going to sleep, steep a teaspoon of the loose-leaf blend with a cup of hot water and let sit for 3–5 minutes. Good night! [![x50 Sleepy Herbal Tea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/IMG_0271_750x-600x800.webp "IMG_0271_750x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70581?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.x50lifestyle.com.au%2fproducts%2fsleepy-herbal-tea-x50-40g%3f_pos%3d1%26_sid%3d65450a1f0%26_ss%3dr)Stockist: [x50 Lifestyle](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70581?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.x50lifestyle.com.au%2fproducts%2fsleepy-herbal-tea-x50-40g%3f_pos%3d1%26_sid%3d65450a1f0%26_ss%3dr) ## Kiwi Herb Organic Valerian Oral Liquid The products I have included in this list were created with adults in mind, but how about kids? If you have a child who needs occasional help to relieve tension during the day or sleeping at night, check out Kiwi Herb Organic Valerian Oral Liquid. It can be used both by adults and children above 3 years old. Valerian root is known as a traditional herbal remedy for nerves and insomnia. Research shows that it’s safe to use for up to six weeks. However, whether valerian root is safe for long-term use is still unknown. It’s better to stick to the recommended dosage and get clearance from your doctor before administering valerian drops to your child to be safe. [![Kiwi Herb Organic Valerian Oral Liquid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/kiwiherb-organic-valerian-oral-liquid-100ml.webp "kiwiherb-organic-valerian-oral-liquid-100ml - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fkiwiherb-organic-valerian-oral-liquid-100ml.php)Stockist: [Aussie Health](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fkiwiherb-organic-valerian-oral-liquid-100ml.php) ## Wanderlust Soulful Sleep This time it’s a swap from liquid drops to capsules with Wanderlust’s Soulful Sleep, a plant-active blend of California Poppy, Passionflower, Lavender, and Hops, all backed by Western Herbal Medicine tradition for easing you into a good night’s rest. Still very much an Ayurvedic-adjacent, herbal-first pick, but the format’s changed: instead of measuring out drops, it’s just one capsule before bed. California Poppy and Hops work as the sleep inducers here, while Passionflower and Lavender help calm nervous tension and support overall mental wellbeing. California Poppy also doubles as a natural pain reliever, so it’s a nice bonus if tense muscles are part of why you can’t wind down. No added gluten, dairy, soy, artificial colours or flavours here, and it’s suitable for vegetarians and vegans too, a step up from the “bitter but bearable” liquid drops, since there’s no taste to mask at all. [![Wanderlust Soulful Sleep Cap](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Wanderlust_soulful_sleep_cap_x_30_1.webp "Wanderlust_soulful_sleep_cap_x_30_1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fwanderlust-soulful-sleep-cap-x-30)Wanderlust soulful sleep cap x 30 1 Stockist: [Wanderlust](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fwanderlust-soulful-sleep-cap-x-30) ## My final words on sleep supplements In the realm of sleep struggles, finding the right aid can be as elusive as catching a unicorn. Yet, armed with these sleep-inducing companions, I’ve embraced the magic of shut-eye with newfound vigor. The nights of tossing and turning have been replaced by tranquil rest. As I bid farewell to restless nights, I invite you to explore this arsenal of sleep-enhancing staples. May the Sandman’s visits become a welcoming embrace. Here’s to peaceful nights and the promise of a well-rested morning. However, despite the availability of sleep supplements in the market, don’t forget to make lifestyle changes to help improve sleep. Avoiding caffeine and too much sugar late in the day, winding down a few hours before bedtime, maintaining an environment that is conducive for sleeping (like finding the perfect temperature and turning your room pitch dark), therapy, and finding the underlying issues behind your inability to get a good shut-eye are still safer options than being too reliant on sleep medication. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/sleep-supplements/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/sleep-supplements/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** tired, insomnia, bed, relax --- ### [10 Christmas wreath ideas to welcome the Christmas season](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-wreath-ideas/) **Published:** September 28, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a mum who absolutely adores the festive season, I can’t help but get giddy when it comes to Christmas decorations. And if there’s one thing that never fails to add a touch of yuletide charm to my home, it’s the beloved Christmas wreath. There’s something magical about a beautifully adorned wreath hanging on your front door or gracing your living room wall. It’s like a warm, welcoming hug that sets the tone for the holiday season. Keep reading as I share a sleigh-load of Christmas wreath ideas that will help you infuse your home with the spirit of the season. Remember, nothing screams MERRY CHRISTMAS like a Christmas wreath! ***Further reading: [10 Christmas tree colour schemes: Traditional and ‘out there’.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-tree-colour-schemes/)*** ## Frosted white berry wreath Deck your wall, door or window, with this classic addition to your wintry Christmas wonderland. Crafted with natural twigs and white berries, the gorgeous tones on this décor is dusting white shimmering frost right at your doorstep. You can even improvise and use this wreath as a unique Christmas feast centrepiece – which I’m thinking of doing this year. ![Frosted white berry wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1-1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: Etsy ## Teardrop wreath This teardrop Christmas wreath adds a wild spash of colour to your Christmas tree or fireplace … or even on your front porch. I saw this holiday charm hanging on my best friend’s farmhouse and it added such a rich rustic appearance on her background wall which made me super jealous. All the better, it’s made of thermoplastic material which you can reuse for several Christmases. ![Teardrop wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/2.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found these at: Light in the Box ## Elf On The Shelf wreath Are you a fan of any elf on the shelf? If so, take a look at this mischievous and quirky take on the traditional Christmas wreath. This one is perfect for Christmas theme parties which you can also coordinate with your other fun elves’ supplies and holiday baubles. If you’re a mum with kids (like I am), think about adding this to your Christmas wreath collection this year. ![Elf on shelf](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/3-800x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: Unique Party Shop ## Frosted LED wreath Trust me, this all-white wreath trinket, featuring poinsettias and berries, will bring magic to your holiday season. Offering a touch of class wherever you put it (but preferably on the patio, front porch or window), the frosted LED wreath creates a cosy and enchanting atmosphere that wonderfully complements the festivities. And as someone who loves dazzling fairy lights, I’m totally hooked on this trendy wreath take. ![Frosted LED Christmas wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/4.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: [Temple & Webster](https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/Frosted-Colonial-LED-Christmas-Wreath-NATN1022.html?refid=LKS&utm_source=affiliates&utm_medium=10&utm_content=1&utm_campaign=Linkshare&ranMID=41108&ranEAID=3543403&ranSiteID=ZyRbSLJoru8-wypxVeknKNCZVJIYtJwYqQ) ## Cute gingerbread man wreath Want to add a little seasonal sweetness to your home? Try this cute gingerbread man as a Christmas wreath accessory. I love how it features plaid bows, red berries, pinecones and a sweet smile, wrapped pretty in a holiday swirl. It just whoops festive flair, right at your door or hanging in your Christmas tree. ![Cute gingerbread man](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/5.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found these at: [AU She](https://au.shein.com/1pc-Christmas-Decoration-Christmas-Wreath-Garland-Pendant-Gingerbread-Man-Pinecone-Shaped-Pvc-Hanging-Ornament-For-Christmas-Tree-p-21684639-cat-3439.html?src_identifier=st=2%60sc=christmas%20wreath%60sr=0%60ps=1&src_module=search&src_tab_page_id=page_home1695101895679&mallCode=1&imgRatio=3-4)[in](https://au.shein.com/1pc-Christmas-Decoration-Christmas-Wreath-Garland-Pendant-Gingerbread-Man-Pinecone-Shaped-Pvc-Hanging-Ornament-For-Christmas-Tree-p-21684639-cat-3439.html?src_identifier=st=2%60sc=christmas%20wreath%60sr=0%60ps=1&src_module=search&src_tab_page_id=page_home1695101895679&mallCode=1&imgRatio=3-4) ## Pretty in pink wreath If Molly Ringwald in *Pretty in Pink* was going to deck her family house with any Christmas wreath trim, it would definitely be this beautifully crafted Pretty in Pink collection. It doesn’t only work for doors or walls, but it’s also a great table centrepiece. Personally, I’m obsessed with the frosted foliage that splashes all the fun festive colours of silver, pink and white. ![Pretty in pink Christmas wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/6.webp "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: [Kogan](https://www.kogan.com/au/buy/christmas-complete-pretty-in-pink-christmas-wreath-56cm-tre5216/?clickid=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFRs2RwZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_content=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFRs2RwZRlQRU0&utm_medium=1253070&irmpname=singlemums99%40&utm_source=dgm&utm_term=&utm_campaign=) ## Grinch wreath Oh look, that sneaky Grinch just got stuck in Santa’s sack. What better way to throw some humour on the Christmas holiday than this Grinch wreath? It’s the perfect scene-stealer décor right outside your door, or Christmas branches. My sister has this Christmas wreath, and it spreads plenty of fun cheer for anyone who sees it (me, included). ![Grinch wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/7-800x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: Fruugo Australia ## Felt wall hanger wreath There’s no stringent rule that says you can’t freely DIY your Christmas wreath. This felt wall hanger wreath can satisfy your sense of creativity with the coolest Christmas elements to put on the full holiday feels; reindeer, snowman, mistletoe, candies and Santa Claus. Plus, the option to go “lights out” or “lights off” is for the picking. ![Felt wall hanger wreath](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/8.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found these at: [My Deal](https://www.mydeal.com.au/diy-felt-christmas-wreath-wall-hanging-decor-6924582?irclickid=1FTz3e0zYxyPT8XW1Uzkf1CLUkFRszwUZRlQRU0&sharedid=&irpid=1253070&irgwc=1&utm_source=imp&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=singlemums99%40&utm_content=Online%20Tracking%20Link) ## Bright deco snowman wreath Nothing quite screams Christmas morning than this eye-catching bright deco snowman wreath. Adorned with striped roles of deco mesh of lime green, aqua and hot pink – complete with curly furls of glittering ribbon and the cutest Snowmen you’ll ever see in your life. This Christmas wreath will add the wow-factor to any door. ![Bright deco snowman](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/9.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: Etsy ## Nordic Noel wreath No need to go over-the-top to tis the season. At times, simplicity can be alluring, as with this Nordic Noel Christmas wreath. The classic greenery ensemble, adorned with tiny white mistletoes, epitomises elegance in any space. I dig this holiday décor, and I’m sure your friends and family with the greenest of thumbs will do too. ![Nordic Noel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/10-800x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")I found these at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/nordic-noel-door-wreath/p/300267?irclickid=1FTz3e0zYxyPT8XW1Uzkf1CLUkFRszU0ZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link) ## Final thoughts As a dedicated lover of the holiday season, I can’t help but get excited about Christmas decorations. The Christmas wreath, in particular, holds a special place in my heart, bringing that extra touch of yuletide magic to my home. In this article, I’ve shared a treasure trove of Christmas wreath ideas, each with its own unique charm and personality. From the classic elegance of the Frosted White Berry Wreath to the whimsical playfulness of the Grinch Wreath, there’s a wreath for every taste and style. I hope these Christmas wreath ideas inspire you to infuse your home with the true spirit of the season. Remember, nothing quite says “MERRY CHRISTMAS” like a beautifully crafted Christmas wreath. May your holiday season be filled with joy, warmth, and the delightful presence of these festive wreaths. Happy decorating! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-wreath-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-wreath-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** decorations, festive, Xmas, decor --- ### [12 Cheap space saving ideas for small homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-cheap-space-saving-ideas-for-small-homes/) **Published:** October 30, 2019 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** > *This article about 12 cheap space saving ideas for small homes was last updated in 2021.* 12 Cheap space saving ideas for small homes. Does your home feel too small for your family and all your belongings? Are you always looking for stuff because everything is cramped and untidy? When it comes to your family home, it’s not about how much space you have, it’s about how you use it. Even a simple cupboard can hold so much more if organised effectively. And any home can be transformed with sprinkle of space-saving imagination. Get inspired with our favourite (and cheap) space saving ideas for small homes. ## 12 CHEAP SPACE SAVING IDEAS FOR YOUR HOME ### 1. FUN STORAGE FOR KIDS BEDROOMS This 3-tier hanging storage basket is perfect for small spaces. Hang it in a sneaky corner or hook it up to the wardrobe for extra storage. Not just for kids rooms, this is also great for the laundry or mud room to store clothes and shoes. ![ Multifunction Clothes Drying Rack Storage Hanger | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51o3U%2BkVNrL._SL1000_.jpg) We found this at: Amazon ### 2. [TOILET SPACE SAVER](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fitm%2F174322087345&campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=) No more wasted space above the toilet! Store bathroom essentials and more in this 3-tier rack from eBay. It’s slim and fits snugly around the toilet space. Also comes with two hooks on the side for hanging towels, shirts and laundry bags. [![Space saving ideas | Toilet Space Saver | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/ankAAOSw5j1e7KwP/s-l1600.jpg)](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fitm%2F174322087345&campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=) We found this at: [Ebay](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fitm%2F174322087345&campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=) ### 3. [FOR ALL THOSE SHOES](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-45-pair-wood-shoe-storage-cabinet-3-door-shoe-organizer-rack-217939.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) If you’re like us, you own more shoes than your household will need in a lifetime. Get them neat, organised and out of the way with this stylish shoe rack from Ebay that can house up to 45 pairs. [![Shoe Storage Cabinet | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.crazysales.com.au/products_pictures/217/217939_1696471_F.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-45-pair-wood-shoe-storage-cabinet-3-door-shoe-organizer-rack-217939.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) We found this at: [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-45-pair-wood-shoe-storage-cabinet-3-door-shoe-organizer-rack-217939.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) ### 4. FOR THE PLAYROOM (IF YOU HAVE ONE) This toy organiser isn’t just for the playroom. Use it to organise clutter around the house or garage and watch your space get bigger. Comes with 12 storage bins that fit into a sturdy wooden frame. We found this at: [Catch](https://www.catch.com.au/product/tot-tutors-toy-organiser-multi-556506/?offer_id=696853&gclid=Cj0KCQjwivbsBRDsARIsADyISJ-32sJjjCnGkqfeahTWTvxKMt5W5F5A4iQJakQF4fGt-6pC166w1GUaAo7tEALw_wcB&utm_source=affiliates&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=b20b5b0f5a0d4bfd858d810dd057679d) ### 5. [SORT OUT UNDER THE SINK](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07CHXSQT2/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07CHXSQT2&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=491a0c908b6783d76a2ca2ac1fa86bf2) Desperately in need of more space in the kitchen? Use the space under the sink! The WEBI organiser is perfect for the job with its expandable shelving that holds cookware, dishes and other kitchen essentials. This is one of the best space saving ideas there is! [![Space saving ideas | WEBI Under Sink Organizer | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/811ob5iThyL._SL1500_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07CHXSQT2/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07CHXSQT2&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=491a0c908b6783d76a2ca2ac1fa86bf2) We found this at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07CHXSQT2/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07CHXSQT2&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=491a0c908b6783d76a2ca2ac1fa86bf2) ### 6. GOTTA SPARE CORNER? Too much stuff but lacking space? Get these stylish corner shelves from Porto. Fits in corners anywhere, from the bathroom to the living room, and holds everything from plants to bath products. We found this at: Mocka ## Cheap space saving ideas for small homes ### 7. [BELTS, SCARVES, NECKLACES …](https://track.flexlinkspro.com/a.ashx?foid=1136999.138722163&foc=1&fot=9999&fos=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.freedom.com.au%2Fstorage%2Forganisation%2Fall-organisation%2F22384348%2Fcouture-belt-hanger%3Freflist%3Dstorage) This ultimate hanger from Freedom is a winner in our list of space saving ideas. It comes with 12 hooks to organise belts, scarves, jewellery and anything you’d otherwise stuff into a drawer. [![Space saving ideas | COUTURE belt hanger | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/COUTURE-belt-hanger_1of1_460x460-e1571027410238.png "COUTURE-belt-hanger_1of1_460x460 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://track.flexlinkspro.com/a.ashx?foid=1136999.138722163&foc=1&fot=9999&fos=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.freedom.com.au%2Fstorage%2Forganisation%2Fall-organisation%2F22384348%2Fcouture-belt-hanger%3Freflist%3Dstorage) We found this at:[ Freedom](https://track.flexlinkspro.com/a.ashx?foid=1136999.138722163&foc=1&fot=9999&fos=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.freedom.com.au%2Fstorage%2Forganisation%2Fall-organisation%2F22384348%2Fcouture-belt-hanger%3Freflist%3Dstorage) ### 8. [MAGAZINES, BOOKS, HOMEWORK …](https://track.flexlinkspro.com/a.ashx?foid=1136999.138722163&foc=1&fot=9999&fos=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.freedom.com.au%2Fstorage%2Forganisation%2Fall-organisation%2F24109468%2Fwire-magazine-rack-gold-colour%3Freflist%3Dstorage) Organise your books, magazines and stray [homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/) with this sleek and super stylish wire rack from Freedom. It’s gold, trendy and instantly jazzes up any surface. It also has a handle for easy transport. We found this at: [Freedom](https://track.flexlinkspro.com/a.ashx?foid=1136999.138722163&foc=1&fot=9999&fos=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.freedom.com.au%2Fstorage%2Forganisation%2Fall-organisation%2F24109468%2Fwire-magazine-rack-gold-colour%3Freflist%3Dstorage) ### 9. [STORAGE CUBE / COFFEE TABLE / BEDSIDE CABINET](https://www.mydeal.com.au/vidaxl-storage-box-mindi-wood-dice-design-side-coffee-table-home-organiser-1128177?msclkid=d623534088ec1bd96ba80cd724992c53&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=High%20Commission%20(16-19)&utm_term=4581321358789139&utm_content=High) The Mindi wood storage cube is versatile and just the right size for a cramped house or apartment. It is stackable and doubles as a stool or side table…perfect for the play room and great for hiding toys, shoes and knick knacks. [![ Space saving ideas | Storage Cube | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.mydeal.com.au/44019/vidaxl-storage-box-mindi-wood-dice-design-side-coffee-table-home-organiser-1128177_00.jpg)](https://www.mydeal.com.au/vidaxl-storage-box-mindi-wood-dice-design-side-coffee-table-home-organiser-1128177?msclkid=d623534088ec1bd96ba80cd724992c53&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=High%20Commission%20(16-19)&utm_term=4581321358789139&utm_content=High) We found this at: [My Deal](https://www.mydeal.com.au/vidaxl-storage-box-mindi-wood-dice-design-side-coffee-table-home-organiser-1128177?msclkid=d623534088ec1bd96ba80cd724992c53&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=High%20Commission%20(16-19)&utm_term=4581321358789139&utm_content=High) ## SPACE SAVING PRODUCTS (CONT.) ### 10. DON’T BURY YOUR BOOKS A simple, yet effective space saving idea, the Artiss bookcase is sleek and tidies up any room in no time. We like it in our home office, but you can use it practically anywhere, including the living room and nursery. We found this at: Shop Zero ### 11. [HANG IT FROM THE CEILING](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FKitchen-Hanger-Rack-A80008-NVST1051.html%3Frefid%3DGPAAU447-NVST1051%26device%3Dc%26ptid%3D960162702872%26gclid%3DCj0KCQjwivbsBRDsARIsADyISJ--m7EUKX2JeDpXaNfajUd_-YQbe8Rm2IV6AMTco7zFw82Aav0KfssaAl4VEALw_wcB) No matter how big the kitchen, it seems we’re still running out of counter space. This hanger rack is a brilliant solution. Hang it above the sink or stove for easy access to your pots, pans and cookware. [![Space saving ideas | Kitchen Hanger Rack | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/34207/18379110/4/Kitchen-Hanger-Rack-A80008.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FKitchen-Hanger-Rack-A80008-NVST1051.html%3Frefid%3DGPAAU447-NVST1051%26device%3Dc%26ptid%3D960162702872%26gclid%3DCj0KCQjwivbsBRDsARIsADyISJ--m7EUKX2JeDpXaNfajUd_-YQbe8Rm2IV6AMTco7zFw82Aav0KfssaAl4VEALw_wcB) We found this at: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FKitchen-Hanger-Rack-A80008-NVST1051.html%3Frefid%3DGPAAU447-NVST1051%26device%3Dc%26ptid%3D960162702872%26gclid%3DCj0KCQjwivbsBRDsARIsADyISJ--m7EUKX2JeDpXaNfajUd_-YQbe8Rm2IV6AMTco7zFw82Aav0KfssaAl4VEALw_wcB) ### 12. [ORGANISE THE GARAGE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-54l-triple-compartment-pedal-bin-kitchen-recycling-waste-bins-coated-steel-black-211163.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) Last on our list of space saving ideas: Garages can get messy and cramped really quickly, but this triple compartment waste bin solves that problem. It’s sturdy, spacious (18L capacity per bin) and perfect for organising waste into recyclable and non-recyclable. Can also be used to store tools and odds and ends. [![Triple Compartment Pedal Bins | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.crazysales.com.au/products_pictures/211/211163_1630249_F.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-54l-triple-compartment-pedal-bin-kitchen-recycling-waste-bins-coated-steel-black-211163.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) We found this at: [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-54l-triple-compartment-pedal-bin-kitchen-recycling-waste-bins-coated-steel-black-211163.html%3futm_source%3dmyshopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26aid%3d3) ![12 Cheap space saving ideas for small homes | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Space-saving-ideas.png "Space saving ideas - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-cheap-space-saving-ideas-for-small-homes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-cheap-space-saving-ideas-for-small-homes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** organisation, storage, space savers, space saving products --- ### [Best Last Minute Stocking Fillers For Girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/stocking-fillers-for-girls/) **Published:** November 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Choosing stocking gifts for little girls is heaps of fun. But with so much out there, it’s hard to know where to start! No need to stress because our list of stocking fillers for girls is here! Even though stocking gifts are small, take your time buying them and think before making a purchase. Presents that just fill space in the stocking but which will be tossed aside after opening, are a waste of money. An idea is to get fewer gifts of slightly more value that you know your little girl with use and love. Another idea for filling stockings so they are nice and full is to gift necessities that you would have had to buy anyway. Think undies, clothes and items for playgroup or the new school term, such as a water bottle or a lunchbox. We’ve found some cheap yet thoughtful gifts that will have your girl smiling from ear to ear on Christmas morning. ***Further reading:[ 20 Sneaky places to hide Christmas gifts to outwit your kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-gift-hiding-places-kids-christmas/)*** ## **30 Cute stocking fillers for girls** ## **1. Magic water colouring book** First on our list of stocking fillers for little girls: Little artists will adore this mermaid-inspired Magic water colouring set. All you need is water and a brush to reveal the hidden art. [![Magic water colouring book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Galt-water-magic-animals-kids-childrens-colourful-art-crafting-book-3y-1.webp "Galt water magic animals kids childrens colourful art crafting book 3y+ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oe2rQW)Galt water magic animals kids childrens colourful art crafting book 3y+ Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oe2rQW) ## **2. Watermelon board game** This watermelon-themed board game adds a little spice to dull wordplay games! Word A Melon 2.0 helps kids build words, boost memory, and laugh as they out-flip the competition. It’s perfect for family game nights or playdates! [![Watermelon board game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1000015811.png "1000015811 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4gb1922) Available at: [Fat Brain Toys](https://fave.co/4gb1922) ## **3. Bento lunchbox** Keep your kid’s sandwiches fresh and in shape all day inside this bento lunch box. Available in different designs, these containers are easy to open and dishwasher safe. [![Bento lunchbox](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Bentgo-kids-snap-go-lunchbox.webp "Bentgo kids snap go lunchbox - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Z69Q5X)Bentgo kids snap go lunchbox Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Z69Q5X) ## **4. Jigsaw puzzle** Keep the little ones entertained with an insect-themed book and jigsaw combo. The 24-page puzzle book is perfect for long road trips. [![Jigsaw puzzle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1829b5f0-37fb-49ee-badb-0ed5b0755e2a-1.jpg "1829b5f0-37fb-49ee-badb-0ed5b0755e2a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/qz4Y3O) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/qz4Y3O) ## **5. Squishy plush toy** If your kids love all sizes and shapes of plushies, why not add one more (or two) to their collection? This Stranger Things Squishmallow definitely caught my eye! [![Squishy plush toy | stocking fillers for girls](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h1c/hcb/51802730627102.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/9Lg0PQ) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9Lg0PQ) ## **Christmas stocking fillers for little girls (cont.)** ## **6. Pencil case** This roomy Stitch pencil case holds all their writing essentials and more. [![Stitch Plush Pencil Case _ BIG W](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Stitch-plush-pencil-case-_-big-w.jpg "Stitch plush pencil case _ big w - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/L05DqY)Stitch plush pencil case big w Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/L05DqY) ## **7. Lip balm** If your kiddos adore Frozen, this Lip Smacker Disney Frozen II Lip Balm Collection will be their new favourite! With six fun flavours like Optimistic Cherry for Elsa and Warm Tea Hugs for Olaf, each balm brings a bit of magic and a lot of smiles. I love how these balms keep my daughter’s lips soft and add a little sparkle, perfect for dress-up days or just because! Plus, they’re cute enough to collect and share. [![Lip balm | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/81cac7a3-cc13-4e03-91d4-1c3d4534d4b7.jpg "81cac7a3-cc13-4e03-91d4-1c3d4534d4b7 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/POy79q) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/POy79q) Further reading:[ Where to buy kids toys online in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buy-kids-toy-online-australia/) ## **8. Disney Princess activity bag** We love this Disney activity book filled with colouring pages, fun games and puzzles. It’s one way to keep your toddler busy while you’re preparing for the festivities. [![Disney Princess activity bag](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h32/hea/51456884768798.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/aOn7mQ) Available at:[ Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/aOn7mQ) ## **9. Unicorn towel** Not only a fun and practical gift, this cute and enchanting towel will take up plenty of space in the stocking! [![Unicorn towel | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/21e4f503-fb3e-4e42-903c-e7aab552c81c-1067x800.jpg "21e4f503-fb3e-4e42-903c-e7aab552c81c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Ftopanga-girls-pastel-unicorn-hooded-towel%2F20305358-01.html) Available at:[ City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Ftopanga-girls-pastel-unicorn-hooded-towel%2F20305358-01.html) ## **10. In my heart: A book of feelings** Give your little bookworm a heartwarming read about how hearts can feel so many feelings. The language is direct and easy to understand even for very young children. [![In my heart: A book of feelings](https://www.qbd.com.au/img/products/0/9781419713101.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fproduct%2f9781419713101%2f) Available at:[ QBD Books](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fproduct%2f9781419713101%2f) ## **Best gift ideas for little girls (cont.)** ## **11. Barbie accessories set** Unlock your little girl’s inner Barbie with these adorable accessories. This 13-piece set is complete with bow hair ties, hair clips, and a brush! [![Barbie accessories set | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Barbie-kids-watch-wallet-set.jpg "Barbie kids watch wallet set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/xL4ka1)Barbie kids watch wallet set Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/xL4ka1) ## **12. Ava and Ever girls’ bucket hat** Keep your little girl’s head protected from the heat of the sun with a pretty bucket hat. Our pick from City Beach features a minimalist floral design. [![Ava and Ever girls' bucket hat](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dw87983c43/images/20348018/20348018-01-BK-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https://www.citybeach.com/au/ava-and-ever-girls-krista-bucket-hat/20348018-01.html) Available at:[ City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https://www.citybeach.com/au/ava-and-ever-girls-krista-bucket-hat/20348018-01.html) ## **13. Frozen cosmetic compact** Here’s a cute cosmetic compact for your girl to practice their makeup skills. Perfect for playing dress up. Its small size makes it the perfect stocking stuffer for little girls. [![Frozen cosmetic compact | stocking fillers for girls](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h73/h08/28309652078622.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/XxBP2X) Available at:[ Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/XxBP2X) ## **14. Go fish alphabet** This classic card game helps kids learn the alphabet by matching upper and lowercase letters. Your girl will adore the illustrations on each card. [![Go fish alphabet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/4a8e0c56-8163-4158-8f03-8df8f4d2386d-1.jpg "4a8e0c56-8163-4158-8f03-8df8f4d2386d - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fschool-zone-flash-cards-go-fish-alphabet-game%2fvarious%2f9781488933769%2f) Available at: [QBD Books](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fschool-zone-flash-cards-go-fish-alphabet-game%2fvarious%2f9781488933769%2f) ## **15. Incredible touchable bubbles** Give your little girl touchable bubbles for a great sensory experience. Ideal for birthday parties and indoor or outdoor play. [![Incredible touchable bubbles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Heebie-jeebies-touch-bubbles-800x800.jpg "X - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-heebie-jeebies-touch-bubbles-13377.aspx)X Available at:[ Lime Tree Kids](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-heebie-jeebies-touch-bubbles-13377.aspx) ## **Stocking stuffer ideas for toddler girls (cont.)** ## **16. Play-Doh** Let your kids make a mess and boost their creativity with a sensational set from Play-Doh. Comes with 8 tubs of different colours. [![Play-Doh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Play-Doh-modeling-conpound-640x800.jpg "Play-Doh-modeling-conpound - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/play-doh-modeling-compound-8-pack-assorted-/p/5264?irclickid=wrL3zITghxyNUlt2AC2gzzSlUkFRLqRx%3A0RI300&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link) Available at:[ Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/play-doh-modeling-compound-8-pack-assorted-/p/5264?irclickid=wrL3zITghxyNUlt2AC2gzzSlUkFRJaU5%3A0RKRg0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online+Tracking+Link) ## **17. Flamingo swim ring** Lounge by the pool in style with a flamingo swim ring. The attached sunshade will protect your little girl from sunburn. [![Flamingo swim ring | stocking fillers for girls](https://assets.kogan.com/images/gobuy/GTB-6553039143049/1-bda2d07ea6-capture_94d93c93-b1a4-46ed-b0b5-e3e964214cb2.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/WDoj2A) Available at:[ Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/WDoj2A) ## **18. Make your own Dreamcatcher** What’s better than a dreamcatcher? A dreamcatcher that can be customised. This one includes 2 hoops and colourful feathers. [![Make your own dreamcatcher ](https://www.target.com.au/medias/static_content/product/images/full/01/94/A1360194.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/djExK) Available at:[ Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/djExK) ## **19. Hello Kitty fidget toy** If your little girl likes popping bubble wrap, she’ll love this Hello Kitty popper slash fidget toy. Simply flip over after popping to restart your relaxation. [![Hello Kitty fidget toy | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Sanrio-hello-kitty-quick-push-bubble-game-console.webp "Sanrio hello kitty quick push bubble game console - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/o4EqKg)Sanrio hello kitty quick push bubble game console Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/o4EqKg) ## **20. Bath crayons** Make bath time playtime with these colourful bath crayons. Let them draw and doodle all they want without worrying about cleanup. [![Bath crayons](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Dreams-unicorn-bubble-bath-bath-crayons-gift-set-800x800.jpg "Dreams unicorn bubble bath bath crayons gift set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/3JDeKv)Dreams unicorn bubble bath bath crayons gift set Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/3JDeKv) ## **21. World’s smallest topple tower** Last on our list of stocking stuffers for little girls: Hands too small for Jenga? The world’s tiniest topple tower is the answer. It’s so small it comes with tweezers! [![World's smallest topple tower | stocking fillers for girls](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-WS-WS_TT-800x800-_3_2000x2000.jpg)](https://www.coolthings.com.au/worlds-smallest-topple-tower) Available at:[ Cool Things](https://www.coolthings.com.au/worlds-smallest-topple-tower) ## **22. Thinking putty** Enchanting Unicorn thinking putty is a sensory delight with a rainbow of neon confetti, golden glitter, and a glow-in-the-dark surprise! Not only is it mesmerising to squish and stretch, but it’s also great for building hand strength in tiny fingers. Perfect for playtime, this putty can be bounced, popped, and sculpted into endless fun shapes. [![Thinking putty](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Thinking-putty-800x800.jpg "Thinking putty - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kO0YKv)Thinking putty Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kO0YKv) ## **23. Hair accessories** If your little one loves dressing up as much as mine, this set of hair accessories will be an instant hit! With adorable clips and bows that actually stay in place, it’s perfect for adding a splash of cuteness to those wild toddler curls. I love how easy they are to pop in before we dash out the door, and each piece feels as unique and sweet as my little girl’s style. [![Hair accessories | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Hair-accessories-girls.jpg "Hair accessories girls - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjmyQY)Hair accessories girls Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjmyQY) ## **Best stocking stuffers for teens** ## **24. Sparkling tattoos and nails** Temporary tattoos have never gone out of style, especially sparkly ones! Teen girls can express themselves with glittery patterns and even edgy options that make them feel grown-up. Teens love them, and they’re a fun way to brighten up the holiday season! [![Sparkling tattoos and nails](https://cdn.caseystoys.com.au/cache/0f4326810bd1cb8959e22d662081c13e_thumb.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2fproducts%2fshimmer-sparkle-sparkling-glitter-tattoos-nails%2f61304%2f1) Available at: [Casey’s Toys](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2fproducts%2fshimmer-sparkle-sparkling-glitter-tattoos-nails%2f61304%2f1) ## **25. Disco ball** The USB mini disco is a cool stocking filler that can light up any room, literally! This gift comes in plenty of options, from classic rainbow to pastel colours, so they’ll love playing DJ wherever they are. It’s a fun way to brighten up a dull evening! [![Disco ball | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Kids-mini-dj-kids-dance-party-disco-light.jpg "Kids mini dj kids dance party disco light - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/09LZN3)Kids mini dj kids dance party disco light Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/09LZN3) ## **26. Photo clip string lights** Perfect for the budding decorator, these photo clip string lights add a soft, dreamy glow to any room. Ideal for displaying polaroids or snaps from a friend’s sleepover, this gift is trendy, fun, and perfectly sized to fit right into a stocking. Plus, it’s a gift idea that’s sure to make their room sparkle. [![Photo clip string lights](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/E30c0892-d230-4e5f-b557-d99e2525e6c3-1.jpg "E30c0892-d230-4e5f-b557-d99e2525e6c3 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/YRQ9aO) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/YRQ9aO) ## **27. Bluetooth shower speaker** Who doesn’t love a good singalong in the shower? This Bluetooth shower speaker is the perfect stocking stuffer for music-loving teens. Small enough for any Christmas stocking, the speaker also comes in different colours. It’s a great addition to anyone’s bathroom and will let them blast tunes during their morning routine. [![Bluetooth shower speaker | stocking fillers for girls](https://assets.kogan.com/images/vividwallpaper/VWP-6663215906870-39825896636470/1-47d02380c5-1_dba033fb-ea74-4ece-ae0d-62bd3ca682ad.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/aOn7oq) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/aOn7oq) ## **28. Gooseneck phone holder** Another top choice for stocking fillers, this gooseneck phone holder is both practical and flexible. It’s perfectly sized to fit in any stocking and makes hands-free phone browsing or video streaming a breeze. If your teen loves watching and creating TikToks, they’ll love this fun and functional gift! [![Gooseneck phone holder](https://assets.kogan.com/images/mightyape/MPE-34844089/1-4a9ff1d92e-316482954.jpeg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/APW7OJ) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/APW7OJ) ## **29. Cool cat stress balls** Help your teen unwind with a squishy stress ball shaped like a cat! It’s a guaranteed hit with kids of all ages and even grown-ups who might sneak one away for themselves. [![Cool cat stress balls | stocking fillers for girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Schylling-needoh-cool-cats-stress-ball-800x800.jpg "Schylling needoh cool cats stress ball - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/Vxm7kJ)Schylling needoh cool cats stress ball Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Vxm7kJ) ## **30. A new scent** Need a gift for your teen that’s fresh and fun? The Impulse Festival Summer Edition is all about spontaneity and self-expression. This scent is perfect for the girl on the go—whether she’s at school, the gym, or a friend’s sleepover. Just a spritz after a shower, and she’s ready to take on the day smelling fantastic. [![A new scent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/487340ba-d0d4-4512-8b09-74d4f9c6e73d-1.jpg "487340ba-d0d4-4512-8b09-74d4f9c6e73d - Beanstalk Mums")](http://bigw.sjv.io/XmY7ey) Available at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/XmY7ey) ## **Final words: Great stocking fillers for girls in 2024** Growing up, the best part of Christmas morning was reaching deep into my stocking, pulling out treasures like plush toys, glittery temporary tattoos, and little string lights that turned my room into a party zone. I’d never know what each stocking held, but it was always special enough to make me smile. As I got older, those surprises evolved from puzzle games that filled hours of fun to practical gadgets like a mini portable charger. Every year, I’d laugh, thinking Santa must have known me so well. Each of these ideas can turn a Christmas sock into a memorable gift. Remember, sometimes the best gifts come in small packages. Happy gift hunting, and Merry Christmas! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/stocking-fillers-for-girls/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/stocking-fillers-for-girls/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, gift ideas, gifts for girls, stocking fillers, stocking gifts --- ### [The 4 step pathway to an amicable divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/amicable-divorce/) **Published:** July 13, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The words ‘divorce’ and ‘amicable’ are rarely used in the same sentence. However, there are so many benefits to working with your ex during this testing time, rather than against him. No-one can explain this better than [Anne-Marie Cade](https://annemariecade.com/) who is a single mum to three and an award-winning Lawyer, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner, Nationally Accredited Mediator and founder of Divorce Right. Anne-Marie is passionate about family and relationships and works with couples to empower them to reach a peaceful, amicable separation and stay out of the Family court. In this podcast we discuss her simple yet effective 4-step pathway, including: - The benefit of being amicable during the divorce process, now and in the future - The 4 steps that Anne-Marie suggests and what’s involved in each - The importance of a mediator and what results you can expect - Why court is not the best option to resolve your separation issues - How to get the process started right now for an amicable divorce ### Listen here … ![Pathway to an amicable divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Podcast-The-4-step-pathway.png "Podcast - The 4 step pathway - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/amicable-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/amicable-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Divorce **Tags:** divorce, separation, 4 steps to an amicable divorce, amicable divorce, amicable separation, tips for an amicable divorce --- ### [Turn self sabotage into motivation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/turn-self-sabotage-to-motivation/) **Published:** September 6, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I love doing podcasts that really get me thinking, which is exactly what this one did. Here we discuss the highly interesting topic of self-sabotage with international mindset and identity specialist, Sue Lester from [Growing Content](https://www.naturaltherapypages.com.au/connect/growingcontent/about/transition_personal_results_coaching). Sue is an expert at what she eloquently calls ‘clearing head trash’, which it seems we build up over the years and end up with quite a lot of. And self-sabotage is a real thing. We ALL do it, and often without knowing it. Fascinating. But, like most things, once we identify it, we can deal with it. In this case, we can turn our self-sabotage into motivation i.e. ‘ditch our inner bitch’ and replace it with something far more useful. Topics covered include: - What is self-sabotage and why do we do it - How to prevent self-sabotage and turn it into motivation - What is our unconscious blue print and what impact does it have on us - How to avoid negatively programming our children - Immediate action we can take NOW to ditch our inner bitch - Some super-cool freebies from Sue to help you on your journey ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/turn-self-sabotage-to-motivation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/turn-self-sabotage-to-motivation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Podcast **Tags:** motivation, motivated, motivated single mum, how to motivate yourself, motivational speaker, preventing self sabotage --- ### [20 Ways to Show Love for a Child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/love-for-a-child/) **Published:** June 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There are many do’s and don’ts when [parenting through separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-through-separation/). They include minimising the disruption to your children’s routines and protecting them from visible conflict. We must also ensure our kids know how much we love them. This may seem an obvious point, and one you don’t need reminding of, thank you very much. After all, we all love our kids. But that’s just the point. In the aftermath of a divorce, ‘we’ know the love is still there, but do they? Parental separation can tip a child’s fragile world on its axis. Things they had thought permanent are no longer so. They may even feel partly to blame for the situation. It can lead them to question what they had previously taken for granted, including the unwavering and unconditional love of their parents. It’s no surprise that kids are struggling too. In fact, we can’t imagine how much this separation can affect their social interactions, health and emotional well-being. Simply engaging, listening and playing with your children are ways of showing you love them. Yet, sometimes, we need some more inventive ways to show our true love. Here are some simple ideas for showing affection to your kids that you may not have thought of yet—without the fuss. ***Further reading: [What’s a condom? And other awkward questions.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-awkward-questions/)*** ## Simple ways to show your child you love them - Put a love note in their lunch box. Or wrap their sandwich in cling wrap and write a message on it with a permanent marker pen. (Your teen will tell you it’s cringe-worthy, but I swear they secretly love it. You be the judge!) - Have a secret code, an action that is special to the two of you. When my daughter and I hold hands, we squeeze hard twice to say ‘I love you’. A loving hug, a nod, or a touch that only the two of you know the meaning of will cement your parent-child friendship. - Give them a little love heart tattoo with a pen before they go to school, on a sleepover, or to their dad’s house. Many children will remember their parents’ playful gesture of kindness for the rest of the day. - Cut their lunch sandwiches into heart shapes, use heart shapes for fried eggs and pancakes, or spell it out with raisins or Cheerios. This is one of the simplest yet most special treats you could ever give your kids. - Make them a playlist. Include [Just The Way You Are](https://youtu.be/LjhCEhWiKXk?si=HMtxPnmCckFgCGD1) by Bruno Mars and other cool love songs. Add songs from their favourite artists or genres – something they didn’t know, you know. You can also offer to cuddle with them as you listen together to the playlist for the first time. - Make up a song or saying to be said at certain times, which expresses the love you feel. My daughter won’t let me walk out of her room at night without saying, ‘Mummy loves you’ … she’s nearly 13! - Read them [The Invisible String](https://fave.co/4bE4Xr2) by Patrice Karst. This book is full of warmth, and I believe it can help heal kids when they get hurt. Tell them to visualise a string from their heart to yours that conducts your love. [![The Invisible String to show your kids you love them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Screenshot-2023-04-12-at-11.07.38-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4bE4Xr2) Stockist: [Booktopia](https://fave.co/4aJwLss) - Buy them small surprise gifts. Nothing big, just something to reassure them even when you are not with them. It’s hard to fail at this one – kids are very easy to please. - Have an affectionate nickname for them that is used as a term of endearment. When you use this name, they will feel loved and special. My daughter absolutely doesn’t want strangers using her special nickname! ![20 ways to show love for a child - mother playing with children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/IN-ARTICLE-images-7.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## More wonderful ways for mums to show love for a child - Do they have a play chalkboard or whiteboard? Don’t miss this opportunity for a love message to greet them when they come home from school. - Magnetic letters, fridge … need I say more? I promise they’re not just for kindergarten children. You probably already have them at home, too, so why not use them as a daily reminder to your kids of what mum’s love feels like? Stockist: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/R571V7) - Make them cupcakes with love hearts, a big cake saying ‘I love you’, or heart-shaped biscuits. Children and adults alike love this kind of surprise. - Write them a heartfelt love letter and put it in the mailbox. Ask them to collect the mail that day or one week later. You’d want to thank them for their resilience amidst all the stress. - Pick them a flower or buy some. Let them know that giving someone flowers is a way of saying ‘I love you, ’showing compassion, and expressing gratitude. [Consider getting a flower press](http://bigw.sjv.io/Or7nAA) for beautiful blooms that last forever. ## More ways to show your love for a child - Do something random and unexpected (like letting them have cake for breakfast). When they ask why, say ‘because I love you’. Allowing them a little harmless autonomy may be all they need to feel understood and get through tough times. After all, kids should be kids. - Stock up on heart-shaped chocolates around Valentine’s Day and stick them in lunch boxes and pencil cases when a boost of love is required. Or use Swizzels Lovehearts. [![Swizzels love hearts to show your kids you love them](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h88/h60/34842255458334.jpg)](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/swizzels-giant-love-hearts-39g/p/568490?irclickid=wkK2nr1uCxycUNhwn0WmqViHUkpSGExp4Vo%3AQQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link) Stockist: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/daYLdQ) - Buy them a love heart key ring to put on their school bag or pencil case. Or maybe something less girly for boys. - Draw a love heart on the bottom of their water bottle so they see it whenever they take a drink. (Obviously, this only works with clear water bottles.) - Print off a cool [All You Need Is Love Poster](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/486811040941173012/) and tear off love messages to give them when the need arises. You can also check out similar messages that will resonate with their personality—something that they won’t find corny. - Tell it straight. I love you. Unconditionally. Anywhere, anytime. (Shout it at the school gates… unless they don’t want this sort of PDA.) ## Conclusion: The Power of Hugs, Friendship, and Unconditional Affection The deep love and affection parents feel for their children are beautifully profound. Expressing this love through hugs, guidance, and compassion is essential. Parental love is truly unconditional, embodying the essence of true love. Embracing our children as they are and appreciating the love they bring into our lives is crucial. While parenting comes with its complexities, including moments of hurt and challenge, it also brings immense joy and selflessness. Let us cherish and celebrate the boundless love that defines the parent-child relationship. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/love-for-a-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/love-for-a-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** Children of divorce, loving kids, parenting through separation, showing love --- ### [How to keep your home naturally cool this summer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-naturally-cool-summer/) **Published:** November 21, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With summer right around the corner, it’s imperative that you take some time as the weather warms up in spring to gauge just how comfortable your home’s interiors are with the increasing heat. If it’s already feeling a little stuffy on a 25° Celsius day, then it’s likely that considering some passive cooling tips now can help your household save big on your utility bills over the summer holidays. So how should Aussie families go about keeping their homes naturally cool this summer? We’ll be outlining some of our favourite passive cooling tips here to help single parent households effortlessly stay on top of their home’s energy consumption and temperature control requirements over this coming summer. ## How to keep your home naturally cool this summer ### Swap out your window coverings A surprising amount of cold air created by ceiling fans or air conditioners can easily be lost through your home’s windows, even if they’re kept closed on harsh summer days. This is why investing in heat-resistant window coverings is guaranteed to help keep your home nice and comfortable during the summer months. Thankfully, there are a wide range of different window coverings to choose from, ranging from modern [venetian blinds](http://www.quickfitblindsandcurtains.com.au/white-timber-venetian-blinds.html) to delicate sheer curtains or even sunscreen roller blinds for added sun protection. With the diverse array of curtain and blind styles available for Aussie homeowners nowadays, you’ll easily be able to find something that complements your interior design scheme alongside helping trap cool air inside your home. We recommend opting for window coverings that can help keep your home’s interiors nice and dark during the day, however, as darker interiors are more likely to retain cooler air. And this isn’t to say that you have to make do with dark and gloomy interiors all through summer just to stay cool! With just a few design tweaks, you can still enjoy [bright interiors](https://www.thespruce.com/ways-to-brighten-a-dark-room-11848328) even with your curtains or blinds firmly drawn all throughout our longer summer days. However, if you’re looking for a more long-term solution to combat the loss of cool air, you might consider upgrading to double-glazed windows. Double-glazed windows are designed with two panes of glass, which creates a layer of insulation that reduces the transfer of heat, noise, and cold air into your home. While the initial [double-glazed windows price](https://www.nu-eco.com.au/how-much-does-it-cost-to-double-glaze-windows/) may seem high, they can ultimately save you money on your energy bills in the long run. Plus, they can add value to your home if you ever decide to sell it. ### Invest in heat reflective (and retentive) insulation One of the most evergreen tenets of passive temperature control for Aussie homes is utilising the power of insulation. Investing in home insulation can make a world of difference with regards to not only keeping your home cooler in the summer, but easily warmer in the winter as well. Although it may be easy to understand just how insulation works in the winter, the benefits of insulation in the summer are less likely to be common knowledge. Which is why we’ve mentioned it on this list today! There are different types of insulation to be used in the ceilings, walls, and even in the floors of your home, ranging from natural materials like wool, other natural fabrics, and cellulose fibre, to inorganic materials like polyester batts and rolls or poly foam insulation. Reflective foil insulation can be particularly useful for households looking to reduce heat absorption through walls and ceilings. On the same note, however, foil insulation may not provide the most effective heat retention properties in winter. Selecting the best insulation for your home will naturally require considering your wider local climate. For instance, Aussie families living along the southeast coast should take into consideration the sporadic weather conditions presented in Victoria and New South Wales. As greater Melbourne and Sydney are prone to experiencing temperamental weather conditions with bracing winters and scorching summers, your home insulation should ideally cater to both of these seasonal extremes. This is why more modern Australian homes are opting for a [composite insulation](https://www.yourhome.gov.au/passive-design/insulation#:~:text=Source%3A%20SEAV%202002-,Composite%20insulation,-Composite%20insulation%20combines), that utilises a traditional insulatory material like polyester or wool batts which is then wrapped in a foil blanket to help reflect heat during the summer months. Simply put, securing a composite insulation for your home will help ensure your household is ready for whatever weather conditions are thrown your way. ### Consider indoor plants and landscaping One of the best parts of summer down under has to be the luxurious elongation of daylight hours across the seasonal peak. And although we may not get a traditional ‘white Christmas’ ourselves, it’s nice to be able to celebrate Christmas Day a touch longer than over half the rest of the world. So it seems like a shame to keep your curtains drawn all through the summer. If you’re not a fan of keeping your home as dim as possible by drawing your curtains in the summer months, there are thankfully still ways that you can enjoy a little shade without having to shut out the outside world altogether. Positioning plant life both inside and outside your house can help to reduce the overall sun exposure of your windows during hot summer days. For example, planting a tree right outside your bedroom window can help you wake up with the morning sun without having to deal with its harsh heat. Similarly, having potted plants sitting in and around your window sill can help reduce the overall sun exposure of your home’s interiors, allowing your plants to soak up all the daylight instead. Just be sure to only place suitably hardy, [drought-tolerant plants](https://www.bhg.com/gardening/container/plans-ideas/container-garden-plants-that-take-the-heat/) in direct sunlight! You don’t want to end up killing any of your potted plants due to excess sun exposure. ### Open doors and windows in the evening Finally, although you may not be able to open your windows during the day out of fear of letting hot air from the street into your home, there are actually some benefits to opening your doorways and windows as the sun leaves the centre of the sky and begins its descent into the evening sky. The setting sun will bring a cooler front that’ll help carry you through to a temperate summer evening, making during or after dinner the perfect time to try and get some of that refreshing evening or dusk air into your home in time to get to bed. We highly recommend installing fly screens on your windows in the lead-up to summer, however, or updating your fly screens if they have any rips or tears. The last thing you’ll want on a warm summer evening is a litany of flies and mosquitoes invading your home through your open windows! --- ## CONCLUSION: HOW TO KEEP YOUR HOME COOL THIS SUMMER With all these passive cooling tips at your disposal, it should be a piece of ice cream cake to keep your home as comfortable as possible during harsh summer weather. Be sure to share all these great tips with your kids to get the whole family involved in keeping your home naturally cool without having to worry about your summer utility bills. ***Further reading: [How to save electricity and make your bills smaller this summer.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-naturally-cool-summer/)*** ![Cool this summer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/3rd-Pins.png "Cool this summer - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-naturally-cool-summer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-naturally-cool-summer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [14 Free kids activities in Cairns (and the surrounding area)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activites-in-cairns/) **Published:** October 7, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Picture this: a single mum armed with an unstoppable 3-year-old tornado and a 4-year-old daydreamer on our latest adventure to Cairns in tropical north Queensland. Now, before you imagine me sipping cocktails on a fancy beach, let me set the record straight … our mission was to find free things to do with kids in Cairns. And we got very lucky! With its lush jungles, laid-back vibes, and beachy goodness, Cairns is a family dream come true. But entertaining young kids while ensuring we were suitably fed and watered for five days doesn’t come cheap. For this reason, finding free things to do was a priority to ensure our trip was fun-filled without the expensive price tag. I hope this article helps you save money on your holiday while still having a fab time making memories with your little ones. ***Further reading: [How to bag yourself a cheap family holiday.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-family-holiday/)*** ## [Cairns Esplanade](https://cairnstoursaustralia.com.au/attractions/cairns-esplanade/) No doubt, this promenade would definitely be in Peter Pan and the Lost Boys’ itinerary — and it should be in your kids too. Cairns Esplanade is like a joyful town, offering free kids activities in Cairns, with the most exquisite sunsets that you can watch with family while dipping in the lagoon. During your visit, you can enjoy a picnic on the grassy range, eat ice cream at their beaming food park and watch sea creatures, which your moppets will love for sure, as mine did, at their spectacular aquarium. All these, by the way, without costing you anything — even the locals take their kids here! ## [Crystal Cascades](https://www.cairnsattractions.com.au/explore/getting-back-to-nature/crystal-cascades---cairns-attractions.423.html) On the hunt for one-of-a-kind free kids activities in Cairns? Look no further than the Crystal Cascades; the hidden treasure of Cairns and North Queensland. This luxuriant tropical rainforest unveils a series of swimming holes and waterfalls that flow straight into larger pools, wonderfully shrouded with granite boulders. Even on hot summer days, your kids can splash around in the cool water, thanks to the hovering mountain trees. After the water chute adventure, you can either go barbecuing or run around with your kids in the picnic area, as I did. ## [Trinity Beach](https://www.tropicalnorthqueensland.org.au/articles/trinity-beach-guide/) A day on the beach doesn’t have to be pricey. Lined with coconut trees and boasting clear waters, there’s no better place for free kids activities in Cairns than here on this beach, where little ones can make sand castles and dance with ocean waves. Then again, you don’t have to spend the entire day on the beach — there’s an all-ages Bluewater playground nearby, perfect for your land-loving munchkins. Or you could take a scenic stroll at the popular Earl Hill with a picturesque view of the entire Trinity beach. With these activities, for sure, you and your kids will never get bored! ## [Cairns Skate Plaza](https://www.kidsaboutcairns.com/cairns-skate-park-on-the-esplanade/) Do your kids love to skate? If they do, then you should definitely take them to one of the country’s biggest skateparks. You can have fun with your little ones while also teaching them balance, coordination and how to be social, here at Cairns Skate Plaza. No worries, it’s completely safe— your little balls of energy can skate through easy gaps and ledges, and learn proper skate etiquette from other friendly visitors. And, if the roller skates don’t work out, in my experience, just bring out the scooter. You can watch them play while you busy yourself with the picnic table on the side. ## [Cairns night markets](https://www.nightmarkets.com.au/) Humming and bustling with locals and traveller’s alike — the night market is a great place to teach your kids how to be adventurous and experience the life Cairns-style. There are street performers and live music, adding flair and excitement, as you go shop for local handicraft souvenirs and clothing. While the hub of activities is plenty, the food was definitely the highlight for me and my kids. There are tasty street foods you can’t find elsewhere, which are an explosion of Mediterranean, Asian and Australian flavours. So, I suggest you go for as many bites as you can! ## [Muddy’s Playground](https://www.kidsaboutcairns.com/muddys-playground/) Unlike your typical playground, Muddy’s is a hybrid of a playground and a parkland, a completely safe, state-of-the-art facility that offers free kids activities in Cairns. Aesthetically, the play “park-ground” is a splash of the ocean, themed as “Life in the Trinity Bay.” They’ve got plenty of educational fun for your kids to indulge in — and I mean, plenty. You’ve got the water play areas, sound chime, rope bridge, mouse wheels, playhouses, trick track, seesaw, slides, flying fox, puzzle games and storytelling areas. It’s a child’s dream haven — you’d barely catch your breath the same way I had, running after my kids who were sampling every play equipment there is. ## [Smithfield Mountain Bike Park](https://parks.qld.gov.au/parks/smithfield/about/mountain-bike-park-expansion-project) Smithfield is pretty iconic — not only is it the oldest bike park in the country, but it’s also home to Australia’s first world championship, almost 20 years ago. So, taking your kids there is like a history lesson with a fun twist. Smithfield is a winding trail of spectacular landscape with flowing streams and jagged ridges, right in the vine-encrusted jungle. And in the lower reaches of the park, there are green trails with easy challenges that your little riders can participate in to hone their beginners’ skills and just have fun. ## [Babinda Boulders](https://www.queensland.com/sg/en/things-to-do/attractions/p-5d76f04f91e870ab6a29569c-babinda-boulders) Thinking about free kids’ activities in Cairns? Well, Babinda Boulders is just right on the corner. Wrapped in tropical rainforests and cascading streams, the entire vicinity feels like taking a piece of Amazon with you (as my kids pointed out). Now, the boulders are completely safe for children. The place has a selection of refreshing pools of mountain water for the little ones to catch some rays and take a dip. Adjacent to the swimming area, there’s a cool spot to picnic and play frisbee. It’s great to take the whole family there, just to bond and breathe fresh air. ## [Stoney Creek Swimming Holes](https://www.visitmoretonbayregion.com.au/natural-attractions/stony-creek-swimming-hole-woodford) Whatever recreational activities you have in mind, I’m sure Stoney Creek can deliver. It’s legit a nature’s paradise where you can swim and play. Apart from dipping in the cool waters, you can throw in the inflatables and float around the swimming holes, just chillaxing. Even better, the kids can get their paddle boards and try kayaking for the first time. But if they don’t want to get wet, there’s the shaded grassy spot for picnics or the beautiful forest tracks where my kids and I were mesmerised listening to the high-pitched wail of whipbirds. In this digital age, outdoor fun is a must-have experience for your kids to get some sunshine and inculcate the love for nature. ## [Cairns Regional Gallery](https://www.cairnsartgallery.com.au/) Instil in your kids the love for art, so they can grow a strong appreciation for it. You can kick start that journey by visiting Cairns Regional Gallery — they open even on a Saturday. People of all ages come to pay homage to the unique culture and history of Northern Queensland. The gallery has profound programs and exhibitions that showcase Cairn’s heritage in distinct ways. Even my young kids couldn’t help but bombard me with questions about their enormous high-priced collection. To them, it was interesting to see the world from a different period, and I was in the same haze. ## [Centenary Lakes](https://www.visitmoretonbayregion.com.au/natural-attractions/centenary-lakes-park-caboolture) At Centenary Lakes, there’s a truckload of fun … and fitness flexes to be had. When my kids and I visited the lake, well, we were just expecting to see still water surrounded by land – and it was there. But beyond the fantastic backdrop of the lake, there are waterfalls, rainforests, and native wildlife that got my animal-lubber younglings overly ecstatic. Just around the corner, there are also picnic shelters and a vast grassy area for dads to barbecue, moms to do yoga and kids to drive their scooters. Everyone gets to do their own thing while soaking in the sunshine vitamin! ## [Machans Beach](https://www.kidsaboutcairns.com/machans-beach/) Machans Beach is just a 10-minute travel from North of Cairns. But you’re not heading there for a swim, because the place is a rock wall and has no beach to begin with – not even a spot to lay down your towel to sunbake. So, what are you there for? Well, you can experience the golden quiet of this relaxing suburb and the little interesting cafes that lined the area. My kids, however, brought in their fishing rods and enjoyed fishing with dad. They even hung out with the local children and tried catching yabbies for bait, but to no avail, because it wasn’t low tide – bummer! ## [Cattana Wetlands](https://www.coffeeincairns.com.au/cattana-wetlands) I was dragged by my son on one Sunday morning, because he wanted to see, per his description, “the birdies paradise.” That paradise was actually a mining quarry turned nature conservation park called “Cattana Wetlands” – a place I’d never been before until that very morn. Well, the birdie utopia didn’t disappoint. Lucky us, we got to see what it feels like a hundred bird species somersaulting overhead. Bird watching was a site to behold, my little tornado was completely mesmerized. But it wasn’t just the birds, there were the palm forest and saltwater lakes, inhabited by turtles that would shyly pop up their heads out of the water. Now, me and my kids are planning our next trip! ## [Red Arrow Walk](https://www.tropicalnorthqueensland.org.au/articles/red-arrow-cairns/) Finally, the place where I call my family’s top track of choice, the “Red Arrow Walk.” Whenever I want to take my kids for some fitness exercise, we take on the 250 menacing steps of the Red Arrow lap. We’ve had tons of practice by now, so my kids were skipping through the steps like nothing. Now, the hike atop takes about 40 minutes or more to finish. But no worries, this is manageable, even my low-level fitness kids did it! Up there is the real prize though, the panoramic view of the Coral Sea and the beautiful Cairns City was enough to take our heavy breathing away ## Final words: Free things to do with kids in and around Cairns Cairns has proven to be a paradise for budget-conscious families seeking memorable adventures. From the lively Esplanade to the serene Wetlands, from artistic exploration to thrilling bike trails, Cairns offers a wealth of cost-free activities that will leave your children brimming with joy and you with treasured moments. So, as you plan your next family getaway, remember that Cairns is not just a tropical paradise; it’s a haven for unforgettable, wallet-friendly experiences. Pack your bags, gather your little explorers, and embark on a Cairns journey that will forever hold a special place in your family’s heart. Cairns, thank you for being a dream come true, and we eagerly anticipate our next visit to create more cherished memories. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activites-in-cairns/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-activites-in-cairns/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holiday, Queensland, budget travel --- ### [How to use social media positively after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/social-media-positively-after-separation/) **Published:** September 23, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Brace yourself for the topic of breakup social media. Don’t panic though. I won’t tell you to close your accounts and meditate in a field. Instead, I’m focusing on how to use social media positively after separation. Because if you take precautions, it can actually help you with this transitional (and sometimes scary) stage of your life. Transforming how we engage on social media is not just about what we put out there but also what we allow ourselves to see and react to. Embrace the power to curate your feed, and surround yourself with inspiration, positivity, and accounts that make you smile. It’s still absolutely okay to be a social media lover. It’s all about changing how we use it, both in what we share and let into our digital world. Here’s to positivity, laughter, and embracing the journey … one happy post at a time. ## Change your privacy settings If you had a public profile before, try switching to a more intimate one where only your closest friends and family can see your posts and tweets. The first thing I did after separating from my ex was changing my privacy settings. Believe me, it’s one of the healthiest things I have ever done for my social media accounts. I get to control who can see what I post online, thus, limiting any negative interaction (which we don’t need). The key to using social media positively after separation is blocking any negative or toxic interactions before they even take place. ## Cull your friend/follow lists This brings me to my second point. If you’re keen on using social media positively after separation, you can try culling your friends and followers/following lists. The fewer people you have contact with, the lesser the possibility of online altercations and whatnot. If you have plenty of followers and don’t want to lose them, that’s fine too. But make sure you’re ready for hate comments from people who love to talk without knowing the whole story. Naturally, you have to remove your ex from your friends list (like I did). You might need to unfriend and unfollow his family and friends, too. But this is on a case-to-case basis. If you’re still on good terms with some of them, then there’s no reason to sever ties. ## Maybe do the odd block Blocking someone on social media doesn’t mean you’re too weak to read undesirable posts. Think of it as another part of your [self-care routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/). Remember, self-care isn’t limited to physical aspects. It also means putting your mental health above anything else. You don’t have to put up with people harassing you or saying bad things about you. You might be able to shrug them off before, but it’s different now that you’re in this critical stage of your life. ## Curate your feed So you changed the settings on who can see your posts, but be sure you also change what you see on your feed. If someone’s posts or tweets keep stressing you out, you don’t want them invading your daily life. Remember, this is a challenging time for you, so you should see negative posts in moderation, or else it might affect your well-being. You don’t necessarily need to block them, clicking the “unfollow” button will do. Instead, follow profiles that inspire you and make you laugh or smile. I had a way better social media experience after doing this. It’s true what they say, nothing heals better than a dose of laughter (or a funny cat video). ## Post positive, not negative If you don’t like seeing negative posts on your feed, it could be the same for others too. So set an example, share only positive stuff. If your friends see nothing but hateful vibes from you, you might end up losing them as well. I believe in the saying “You get what you give.” If you radiate positivity, it will eventually come back to you. Sometimes, when I’m upset, I also get the urge to rant or post something unpleasant online. Every time that happens, I tell myself to think before clicking. Because you’ll never know how a simple post can impact someone else’s life. ***Further reading: [Why not to plaster your divorce all over social media.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divorce-on-social-media/)*** ## Focus on moving forward No matter how hard you try to keep things positive, you’ll come across someone or something hostile online. It’s social media, after all. It could be a hateful comment or a snide remark. The best way to deal with such negativities is to ignore them. I know it’s hard. And I know you’re pretty sensitive right now so you get offended by even the smallest things. But if you keep your focus on moving forward and disregard insignificant stuff, things will get better. After separating, I spent more time at work and worked harder than anyone. I [revisited my goals in life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/) and focused on achieving them. Thinking about my future instead of dwelling on the past got me going. ## Make people laugh You don’t have to force yourself to laugh if you’re not ready yet. However, during my healing journey, I found out that I love making people laugh. And whenever I did, it took a lot off my chest and I felt lighter. If you’re not one to craft jokes, there are plenty of funny videos or memes online that you can share or repost. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll also make someone’s day. Laughter is the best medicine, after all. ## Connect with supportive people Another thing I learned in using social media positively after separation is connecting only with supportive and optimistic people. Not only is it uplifting but also encouraging to be around them. Stick with friends who cheer you on and support you to become a better person (not the other way around). However, remember that friendships aren’t always rainbows and tea parties. Your friends will argue and scold you for doing something stupid. But that’s a good thing. Because that’s how you know they’re your real friends. ## Engage in positive chat You won’t gain anything from exchanging unpleasant messages or comments online. The fact is, it will stress you out even more. If you want to use social media positively after separation, this is one big no-no. Sometimes, I still get offended by derogatory comments about my previous relationship. But whenever I want to talk back, I pause for a while, take deep breaths, and tell myself it’s not worth my while. Don’t go down to their level, you’ll only be wasting your time. ## No stalking! I know, you’re only human, so sometimes you can’t help but wonder how he’s doing. You want to know whether he’s happy or miserable. No matter how difficult it is, never stalk your ex’s social media. I learned this the hard way. Trust me, nothing good ever comes out of stalking. It will open up wounds that should already be healing. It will resurface feelings that should be buried and forgotten. Stalking your ex is like Pandora’s box. You’ll only end up hurting yourself. ***Further reading: 5 Reasons not to stalk your ex.*** ## Avoid comparing yourself to others One more essential factor in using social media positively after separation is avoiding comparing yourself to others. You won’t be able to control what your friends post on social media. So you’ll be seeing plenty of happy marriages and successful relationships. It’s easy to forget that people typically showcase only the highlights of their lives on social platforms, creating an unrealistic and potentially detrimental standard for comparison during an already vulnerable time. Focusing on others’ seemingly perfect relationships or lifestyles can undermine your self-esteem and hinder the healing process necessary after a breakup. [Embracing self-compassion](https://positivepsychology.com/how-to-practice-self-compassion/) and staying true to your unique journey is crucial for personal growth and building resilience during this challenging period, and constant comparisons can hinder that progress. ## Know you only see part of the story Never respond negatively to a post when you don’t know the whole story. Remember, what you see on social media isn’t everything. Most of what’s posted online are half-truths. My best friend received hateful comments and got misjudged for something she didn’t do. What she went through was unacceptable. It can happen to you or to someone you love. As an advocate for using social media positively after separation, I encourage you to know the truth first before posting any harsh comments online. ## Limit social media time I know that social media helps you connect with friends and family from far away. It also helps you expand your virtual network and connections. But limiting your social media usage can benefit you too. Excessive social media use can exacerbate feelings of [loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) and [depression](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/), as it often exposes individuals to idealised versions of others’ lives, creating unrealistic comparisons and a sense of inadequacy. By reducing the amount of time you spend on social media, you can focus on self-reflection and personal growth, facilitating the process of moving on from your past relationship. ## Prioritise real-life connections There’s nothing better than having heart-to-heart talks with a real person. Prioritise real-life connections instead of looking for online interactions. Receiving genuine advice from a loved one in person is more heartwarming than reading it through your inbox. My favourite thing to do is have long talks with my sister over coffee. You can also find a confidant — it could be your BFF, a sibling, or even a new friend! ***Further reading: [8 Best friend finder apps in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/)*** At the end of the day, how you want to deal with your social media positively after separation is up to you. What matters most is your happiness and well-being. So whatever makes you happy and helps you cope and move forward, do it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/social-media-positively-after-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/social-media-positively-after-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking --- ### [Intervention Orders (Australia): The facts in plain English](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/) **Published:** December 7, 2023 **Author:** Susan Ilias **Content:** This article has been written to explain the facts about about Intervention Orders (“IVO”), Domestic Violence Orders (“DVO”) and Apprehended Violence Orders (“AVO”) in an understandable manner without legal jargon. We are Susan and Dylan, Principal lawyers at Aitken Partners. Together we have over 30 years’ experience working exclusively in Family Law and Family Violence. Susan is also an Independent Children’s Lawyer and is appointed by the Court to represent children in difficult matters. This gives Susan incredible insight when dealing with parenting matters and also family violence. To start, all three orders mentioned above (IVO, DVO, AVO) are basically the same, it just depends which Australian state you live in. IVOs are in Victoria. DVO’s are in Queensland and AVOs are in New South Wales. However, any Order made in any state is now nationally recognised. For example, an Order made in Victoria, is still enforceable in Queensland. For ease of reference, we will refer to them as a Family Violence Order (“FVO”) from here on. ## What is a Family Violence Order and what is its purpose? A family violence Order is an Order of a Court which is designed to protect a person or persons. It is now law that all children of a person who obtain an Intervention Order in Victoria are placed on the Order as well for their protection. A parent does not need to do a separate Application for children under 18 years of age. A Family Violence Order is actually a civil Order and is not a criminal matter. However, if someone breaches a Family Violence Order, the matter can then become criminal. The police can charge the person breaching the FVO with a criminal offence. ## Who can apply for an Intervention Order? Any person who is suffering family violence. Family violence is a very broad ranging matter and is so much more than just physical violence. Family violence can include: - Emotional abuse - Psychological abuse - Financial control and abuse - Coercive control (which is now a criminal offence in NSW and Queensland) - Stalking - Not allowing someone to talk or spend time with friends and family - Depriving someone of their liberty and freedom ## The process of applying for a Family Violence Order ### Immediate danger If you are in immediate danger you should call 000 contact your local Police station immediately. Police can apply for a Family Violence Order for your protection in cases where a person is in immediate danger. ### Not in immediate danger If you are not in immediate danger or the Police refuse to take out an Order on your behalf, you will need to apply to the Court. Applying for a Family Violence Order has been simplified significantly in recent years. ### To apply for an Order - You can now submit an online Application through the Magistrates Court website for your state - Your online Application is then sent to the Family Violence Registry at your local Magistrates Court - A Registrar of the Court will contact you to confirm the details and arrange a time for the matter to be heard before a Magistrate You will be referred to as the Affected Family Member (AFM) in the FVO. ## Evidence required to support a FVO application. When you apply for a FVO, you need to write down your narrative of the family violence you have been suffering. This is to include the most recent example of what has happened but also historical occurrences as well. It is important that this is detailed and shows specific examples of family violence which you have suffered. There isn’t a lot of space on the form to go into great detail but try and fit in as much as possible. It is important to include dates and time of the incidents that have occurred if you can. ## What happens after a FVO is granted? After a FVO is granted, it is then served on the Respondent. Once the Order is served, it is legally enforceable. If the Respondent is to break any of the conditions of the Order, you should report it immediately to Police. It is important to understand that you are not able to agree with the Respondent to do things that are not permitted by the FVO. For example, if you were to say to the Respondent that they can come to your home for a barbecue on the weekend, and the Order doesn’t allow the Respondent to come to your house, then the Respondent will be breaching the Order by attending your house. The police are still able to charge the Respondent with a breach of the FVO even though you agreed for the Respondent to breach the conditions. ## What are the common terms of a FVO? Each FVO is unique and has its own conditions, however an example of some of the main Orders are: - Not to commit family violence against the AFM/s. As mentioned earlier, this has a very large and wide-reaching definition. It is important to remember that family violence is not only physical and has a lot of different interpretations. - Not to go within or stay within 200m of somewhere the AFM goes to school, work or lives. - No to go within or stay within 5 metres of the AFM. For example, if the Respondent was to see you at the shops, they are not to approach you and are to keep 5 metres away. - Not to communicate with the AFM. This includes via telephone, social media or text message. - Not to publish anything on the internet about the AFM. Most recently this has included comments on Instagram, Facebook and other social media sites. - Not to get anyone else to do something that the FVO does not allow the Respondent to do. For example, the Respondent cannot have people post things on the internet about the AFM at the Respondent’s direction. ## What happens if someone breaches a FVO? Breaching a FVO becomes a criminal offence. Remember above, we were talking about a FVO being a civil Court Order. Well, if the Respondent breaches an Order, it becomes a criminal matter and the police lay charges. There are very serious consequences depending on what the breach relates to. However, breaching an FVO carries options for imprisonment, large fines and criminal convictions. It really does depend on the severity of the breach and the context. ## How long does a FVO last and can I extend it? There is no standard time for the duration of FVOs. Each case is determined on its merits. In most instances FVO are made for 12 months or more. In very serious cases an Order can be made indefinitely. It is the Magistrate who determines the duration of the FVO. There is always the option to seek an extension of an Order should the Respondent breach the Order or if there are ongoing risks at the time the Order is due to expire. It is important to note that any extension Application needs to be made prior to the Order expiring. To extend a FVO, you will need to do a further Application and make a list of the Family Violence issues which have occurred or what the ongoing risk is. It is important to again provide detail as to the allegations of family violence which have occurred. ## Can a Family Violence Order be revoked? A FVO can be revoked if there is a material change in circumstances since the Order came into place. A revocation of an Order is not common and is very rare on an interim basis. The usual circumstances that an Order may be revoked is if the AFM is no longer living in Australia or there are Family Court Orders which render the FVO impractical. ## Is an FVO just a piece of paper? Although it is said that a FVO is just a piece of paper, if the FVO is breached, the police have the power to arrest and charge the Respondent. A FVO provides protection for the AFM and makes it clear to the Respondent that there are restrictions on certain behaviour. ## Summary: Understanding Intervention Orders in Australia We hope that the Q&As in this article have given you clarity around Intervention Orders in Australia. As mentioned, each case for a Family Violence Order is different and is based on the severity of events leading up to the order and future risk to the Affected Family Member. We urge you not to take advice from other people who have personal experience with FVOs. Well-meaning advice is often incorrect due to their state of affairs being different to yours. While you can submit an Application independently online through the Magistrates Court, it is important to understand the impact of the order, exactly how they work and what will happen if your application is successful. For advice specific to your circumstances, chat to [experienced local family lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyers-near-me/) or see if you are [eligible for legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/). Experts in Family Law will guide you to make the right decisions and the path forward to ensure you and your family are safe. ## Get more information For further information about Interventions Orders in your state see these links: [If you are in Queensland](https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/going-to-court/prepare-for-court/i-am-a-complainantapplicant/going-to-court-as-an-applicant-dfv) [If you are in New South Wales](https://localcourt.nsw.gov.au/types-of-cases/apprehended-violence-orders--avos-.html) [If you are in Victoria](https://www.mcv.vic.gov.au/intervention-orders) [If you are in Western Australia](https://www.magistratescourt.wa.gov.au/r/restraining_orders.aspx#:~:text=You%20can%20apply%20to%20have,concerned%20that%20it%20will%20continue.) [If you are in South Australia](https://www.sa.gov.au/topics/housing/emergency-shelter-and-homelessness/legal-protection-from-domestic-violence/intervention-orders#:~:text=A%20Magistrates%20Court%20can%20issue,to%20as%20a%20protected%20person.) [If you are in the Northern Territory](https://localcourt.nt.gov.au/going-to-court/domestic-violence-applications-and-personal-violence-restraining-orders) [If you are in the Australian Capital Territory](https://www.courts.act.gov.au/magistrates/law-and-practice/family-violence-and-protection-orders) [If you are in Tasmania](https://www.magistratescourt.tas.gov.au/going_to_court/restraint_orders#:~:text=The%20Magistrate%20will%20make%20the,usually%20last%20about%2012%20months.) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** domestic violence order, DVO, intervention order, IVO, AVO, apprehended violence order --- ### [The sleepless mum's guide to glowing skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/) **Published:** May 15, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a mother can be a rewarding experience for many, but the effort and care we put into our children can sometimes mean that we neglect ourselves. As mothers, we often have to juggle multiple responsibilities, often at the expense of personal care and well-being. In an [article in Vogue](https://www.vogue.com/article/tired-mom-skin-dark-circles-dry-complexion-at-home-facials-face-masks-makeup), Michelle Ruiz, who experiences these things for herself, uses the term “Tired Mom Skin™” to describe the sudden appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, coupled with a general lack of radiance and dryness, among other symptoms, as a result of the hectic demands of childcare, leaving little time for proper skincare routines. The term reflects the exhaustion of constant early mornings and the neglect of self-care practices such as facials. In this article, we look at how Rejuran injectables can offer a promising solution for revitalising tired skin, especially for mothers, to help them regain that youthful glow that can fade in the busy life of motherhood. ## The impact of motherhood The journey begins with pregnancy, a period defined by hormonal changes that dramatically alter both the appearance and condition of the skin. During this time, hormonal fluctuations often trigger a variety of skin changes. For instance, hyperpigmentation is a common issue affecting up to [70% of expectant mothers](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0190962201496034), with melasma being one of the most visible manifestations—characterised by dark, blotchy patches on the face. While most cases of hyperpigmentation resolve after childbirth, some may persist over time. Another frequent symptom during pregnancy is vascular changes, which can lead to conditions such as spider telangiectasias, especially prominent on the face, neck, and arms, and palmar erythema. Though most of these vascular changes diminish post-childbirth, they highlight how pregnancy can stretch and strain the skin. Post-pregnancy, women often have issues like postpartum acne and dry skin, driven by ongoing hormonal adjustments. The increased sebum production during pregnancy can clog pores and spark breakouts, while the drop in hormonal levels post-pregnancy can deplete the skin’s moisture, leading to dryness and flakiness. Furthermore, the stress associated with motherhood—juggling childcare, financial pressures, and personal expectations—can significantly impact skin health. Elevated stress levels aggravate skin issues by increasing inflammation and sebum production, disrupting skin healing, and accelerating aging through the breakdown of collagen and elastin. In response to these challenges, treatments like Rejuran can help provide enhanced healing and robust support in the skin’s repair process. ## So, what is Rejuran? [Rejuran](https://www.rejuran.com.au/) is a transformative skin treatment that uses the regenerative capabilities of wild salmon DNA to renew and rejuvenate the skin at a cellular level. Since its introduction by Pharma Research Products Co. Ltd. in 2014, Rejuran has emerged as an effective treatment, specialising in anti-ageing and skin regeneration. At the heart of Rejuran’s approach is its DNA Optimising Technology (DOT™️), which extracts polynucleotide DNA fragments from wild salmon ([salmon sperm](https://www.rejuran.com.au/)). This technology captures the bioactive DNA molecules that are adept at promoting natural skin cell regeneration and repairing damaged tissues. Unlike traditional treatments that rely on substances like hyaluronic acid, Rejuran functions as a powerful biostimulator—stimulating the body’s natural processes and promoting tissue regeneration from within. The bioactive compounds derived from salmon DNA serve as a template for cellular rejuvenation. While Rejuran is often referred to as “[salmon sperm injections](https://www.rejuran.com.au/)” due to its primary use of wild salmon DNA, its benefits surpass its playful nickname. ### What Rejuran offers The primary appeal of [Rejuran skin booster injections](https://www.rejuran.com.au/pages/classic) lies in their ability to significantly improve skin elasticity, hydration, and overall appearance. It stimulates blood vessel formation, which enhances blood flow and promotes a healthier, more vibrant complexion. This effect is crucial for mothers who experience dull skin due to hormonal changes and stress associated with parenting. Rejuran treatments are known for their biocompatibility, even in sensitive areas that are difficult to treat with other products. A 2020 report by the [Journal of Dermatological Treatm](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0855/8523/2186/files/Clinical_Study_Web_Upload.pdf?v=1709536449)ent highlighted Rejuran’s effectiveness in enhancing wound healing and reducing signs of aging, such as wrinkles, sagging, and uneven pigmentation. Observing a [Rejuran before and after case study](https://www.rejuran.com.au/pages/clinical-study) clearly shows these results. The application process of Rejuran is designed to cause minimal discomfort, starting with an application of numbing cream followed by precise delivery of the product via needle or injectable gun. Treatments typically conclude with a soothing mask or LED light therapy, both of which calm the skin and enhance the treatment’s effects. ### The Rejuran line The [Rejuran Australia](https://www.rejuran.com.au/) line includes several specialised products: - REJURAN Healer Classic: This is a gel formulation designed for comprehensive dermal rejuvenation. It uses bioactive salmon DNA to stimulate skin regeneration and reduce inflammation. - REJURAN i: Tailored for the delicate under-eye area, this formulation features a lower viscosity to specifically target dark circles, fine lines, and wrinkles around the eyes. - REJURAN s: Designed to treat sunken scars, this version has a higher viscosity to treat acne marks, pigmented spots, and other types of scars. It boosts fibroblast activity in the skin to promote collagen production, which aids in smoothing and plumping scar depressions. Rejuran healer injections offer an innovative approach to skincare, particularly beneficial for mothers seeking to recover and maintain their skin’s health post-pregnancy. The unique use of wild salmon DNA taps into natural regenerative processes while ensuring high biocompatibility across various skin conditions. Incorporating Rejuran treatments into their skincare routine may lead to significant improvements in texture, tone, and overall skin health, helping mothers both feel and look their best. This groundbreaking treatment reflects advancements in dermatological science, offering a reliable solution for combating the visible signs of aging and stress. If you are looking for ‘Rejuran near me,’ you can [visit their website](https://www.rejuran.com.au/) for more information. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty **Tags:** skin care, beauty --- ### [Equal Shared Parenting to Best Interests: A Guide for Parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/equal-shared-parenting-to-best-interests-a-guide-for-parents/) **Published:** June 18, 2024 **Author:** Dianne Loveday **Content:** Australian Family Law underwent significant changes, effective 6 May 2024. These changes will impact equal shared parenting matters that are not finalised by this date and future arrangements concerning children. They will not apply to matters where a final hearing has commenced by this date. [Bayside Mediation](https://baysidemediation.com.au) and FDR can help parents navigate these changes. ## **Parenting Arrangements Post-Separation** Many parents manage to work out their own arrangements post-separation. However, in instances where an agreement can’t be reached, parties may seek parenthood orders from the Family Court (Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia or FCFCOA). These orders address matters such as the time with each parent and deciding on significant, long-term issues. In children’s matters, the Family Court’s priority is to always act in the well-being of the child. ## **Key Changes to How Parenting Orders Are Determined** The Family Law Amendment Act 2023 introduces new criteria for determining what is in the best interests of the child. The presumption of equal [collaborative parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/) has been removed. This comes from findings that unrepresented parties believed they were required to enter into equal shared care arrangements. ## **Criteria for Determining What is in the Best Interests of the Child** 1. **Safety of the Child**: Consideration of any history of family violence and relevant orders. 2. **Child’s Views**: Taking into account the offspring’s own perspectives. 3. **Developmental Needs**: Assessing the kid’s developmental, psychological, emotional, and cultural needs. 4. **Parental Capacity**: Evaluating each parent’s ability to meet the needs of the child. 5. **Beneficial Relationships**: The importance of the child maintaining relationships with parents and other significant individuals (e.g., grandparents, siblings). 6. **Other Considerations**: Any other circumstances that are relevant to the child. 7. **Cultural Connection**: For Aboriginal and/or Torres Strait Islander children, how do the arrangements support their cultural experiences? ## Sole vs Equal Shared Parental Responsibility The law recognizes two main types of parental responsibility arrangements for parents: sole and equal shared parental responsibility. Under the Family Law Act 1975, the court determines which arrangement is in the best interests of the child. Where violence within the family and child protection issues are present, sole parental responsibility may be awarded to one parent. However, with the new changes in the law, there is a focus on promoting equally sharing parental responsibility. This shift has led to more collaboration and information sharing between the family. This also means increased time for children to spend with both parents. When separated parents are unable to reach an agreement on parental responsibility for the child, they may seek the assistance of family lawyers. The family law court plays a crucial role in resolving disputes and making decisions regarding parental responsibility. Aussie family lawyers work to ensure that the best interests of the child are prioritized in any decisions made. This may include facilitating sharing between the family law. It also ensures that the rights and responsibilities of both parents are upheld in accordance with Australian law. ## What Does Presumption Of Equal Shared Parental Responsibility Mean? Family law, at least here, recognizes the importance of both parents being involved in their children’s lives after separation. Equal shared parental responsibility means that both parents are expected to share duties for making major decisions about their children’s lives. This includes decisions about schooling, medical treatment, religion, and other important matters. In addition, the law encourages children to spend the same amount of time with each parent, provided it is for the welfare of the child. Under the law mentioned above, the court orders parents to have balanced duties, even if they do not spend time equally with the child. This means that both parents are equally responsible for the offspring’s upbringing, regardless of how much time they spend with the child. Family violence and child protection are important considerations in family law. The court will always prioritize the safety and well-being of the child. If there are concerns about domestic violence or child abuse, the court limits or even denies shared responsibilities. This ensures that the child’s interests are protected above all else. Overall, the recent family law changes in Australia aim to promote cooperation and information sharing within the family. This ensures that both parents are actively involved in their kid’s life and well-being. ## How is Equal Shared Parental Responsibility Determined in Australian Courts? Laws determine shared parental responsibility in Australia by considering the best interests of a child. When separated or divorced parents cannot agree on how to make decisions for their child, the court intervenes to ensure equal shared duties is established. This means that both parents are responsible for the upbringing of the child and have an equal say in important decisions. The Australian law encourages parents to equally share responsibilities for the child, including 50-50 time with the parents. Recent changes in family law have emphasized the importance of children to spend equal time with both parents unless it is not in the minor’s best interests. The Family Law Act 1975 dictates that the court must prioritize the safety of the child. Lawyers play a crucial role in advocating for the kid’s welfare and ensuring shared duties are established in accordance with the law. ![equal shared parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Untitled-design-4.png "Untitled design (4) - Beanstalk Mums") ## Does Equal Shared Parental Responsibility Mean Equal Time with the Child? In this country, the law recognizes the importance of bringing children together. However, it does not necessarily mean that separated parents must spend equal amounts of time with the child. According to the law, both parents are required to make decisions regarding the child. While the law encourages parents to have 50-50 responsibility, it does not prescribe a specific division of time. The family law court may intervene in cases where each parent must spend equal time with the child is not deemed suitable. Particularly in cases involving family violence and child protection. The recent family law changes have underscored the importance of information sharing between the family and lawyers, promoting fifty-fifty responsibility and co-operation in family relationships. ## **Clarification on Joint Decision-Making and Equal Shared Parenting** If there are no Court orders dealing with “parental responsibility,” each parent has parental responsibility for their child. If it is safe to do so, parents are encouraged to consult with each other about major long-term issues concerning the child. The Court can make an order for joint or sole responsibility to decide for major long-term issues or can allocate responsibility between the parents for certain decisions. When the court mandates joint decision-making about long-term issues, each parent usually must consult with the other and make a genuine effort to reach a joint decision. Third parties (e.g., schools/doctors) are not required to verify if a decision has been jointly made before acting on it. ## **In instances where there are safety concerns, the court also considers:** - Any history of violence, abuse, or neglect involving the child or a person caring for the child. - Any family violence order that applies or has applied to the child or a member of the kid’s family. ## **Scope of Consultation on Non-Major Long-Term Issues** When a child is under the care of a particular person due to a parenthood order or plan, you generally are not required to consult with others who have parental responsibility for immediate, non-major decisions about the child, such as daily activities and needs. ## **Amending Final Parenting Orders** Under the new law, to modify existing parenting orders, the court must find a significant change in circumstances and that the amendment would serve the best interests. Without these criteria being met, existing orders cannot be altered without mutual agreement. If you believe that your existing orders are not in the best interest of your child and you wish to review them, Bayside Mediation and FDR will help you discuss and reach an agreement. ## **Effect on Existing Orders** The new law does not automatically alter existing parenting orders. Those with orders in place should continue to adhere to them until any amendments or new orders are made by the court. ## **How Bayside Mediation and FDR Mediation Can Assist** These changes reflect a shift in the court’s approach to prioritising the needs and safety of children in family law matters. FDR Mediation is an important step in the court’s process, and that is reflected in the fact that FDR mediation is now mandatory for all family law cases. By initiating FDR mediation early in your separation, not only are you complying with the requirements of the Family Law Act. You are also giving yourself every opportunity to resolve your and your ex’s issues. For detailed guidance specific to your situation, please consult us at Bayside Mediation. The content of this article is intended to provide a general guide to the subject matter. Specialist advice should be sought about your specific circumstances. --- For more information or to seek assistance, contact **Bayside Mediation on 95536491** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/equal-shared-parenting-to-best-interests-a-guide-for-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/equal-shared-parenting-to-best-interests-a-guide-for-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Shared parenting --- ### [Prioritize Yourself and Create the Change You Crave](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/prioritize-yourself-and-create-the-change/) **Published:** July 10, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Welcome back to the Beanstalk Mums podcast! In this episode, we chat with the incredible Kathy Sullivan, author of “*Moms Eat First: Five Principles to Prioritize Yourself and Create the Change You Crave”*. Kathy shares her personal journey as a single mum and offers us some golden nuggets from her book tailored just for you. Ready to dive into the five principles that will help you put yourself first, tackle mum guilt, and balance career, family, and self-care? Kathy’s got you covered! Plus, we explore how to navigate life’s ups and downs while reclaiming your power and embracing peace. So grab a cuppa, get comfy, and join us for a heartwarming and empowering 20 minutes. You deserve this time for yourself. 💖 And hey, don’t forget to check out the Single Mums’ Vine on social media – it’s the best place to connect with other fabulous single mums like you! ✨ [Join the Single Mum Vine here](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). Got an extra 5 minutes up your sleeves? [Check out these articles on more self-care strategies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/). Writen for single mums buy our awesome Beanstalk Mums team and recommended authors. [Grab your copy of “Moms Eat First: 5 PRINCIPLES TO PRIORITIZE YOURSELF AND CREATE THE CHANGE YOU CRAVE” here](https://amzn.to/3RQZjtA). ## Listen here… [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Moms Eat First: Prioritize Yourself and Create the Change You Crave](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/prioritize-yourself-and-create-the-change/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/prioritize-yourself-and-create-the-change/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Self Care --- ### [Thriving as a Single Mum: Inked Mama's Journey to Success](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/thriving-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** August 10, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Ready to dive into another inspiring episode of Beanstalk Mums? This time, we’re focusing on thriving as a single mum with the amazing Maggie. Also known as the Inked Mama and the beautiful face behind many of our IG reels. She’s here to share her journey. From the early days of single motherhood to becoming a successful business owner and content creator. Proving that single mums can achieve amazing things. Join us as Maggie opens up about her biggest challenges, the importance of finding your tribe, and how she managed to carve out time for self-care amidst the chaos. Plus, she spills the tea on navigating the dating world as a single mum and finding love again. Whether you’re in the thick of single motherhood, on a similar path, or just looking for a dose of inspiration, Maggie’s story is sure to resonate and uplift. So grab your earbuds, hit play, and let’s celebrate the resilience and strength of single mums together. Links in this episode; [🖋️ https://www.theinkedmama.net ](http://www.theinkedmama.net/) The Inked Mama is a public diary with pieces from parenting to Maggie’s personal experiences as a survivor of DV and everything in between. [🎙️ https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast) Check out our new widget! Would you like to feature on our podcast? Have something to share? Or a challenge you would like guidance on? Leave us a voice mail, and we’ll include it in the podcast. [📖 https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse) The ultimate guide to live your best single mum life. “You’ve Got This” eCourse. Get ready to embrace your independence. Redefine your path and be the best you can be, all whilst being a brilliant single mum. [👯‍♀️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) Don’t forget to check out the Single Mums’ Vine on social media! It’s the best place to connect with other fabulous single mums like you! ✨ ## Listen here… [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Thriving as a Single Mum: Inked Mama's Journey to Success](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/thriving-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/thriving-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast **Tags:** dating, self care, podcast, inspiration --- ### [Spinning the Reels: Why Pokies Are a Multitasking Mum’s Best Friend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/spinning-the-reels-why-pokies-are-a-multitasking-mums-best-friend/) **Published:** January 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Life as a mum is a whirlwind. Between school drop-offs, meal planning, and squeezing in a workout (if you’re lucky), finding a moment to yourself can feel like a pipe dream. Enter the perfect solution: slot machines. Known as pokies in Australia, these colourful and captivating games offer a rare chance for multitasking mums to unwind and recharge. With many options out there, you don’t even have to leave your lounge to enjoy the fun. So, why are pokies the ultimate entertainment for busy mums juggling a million things at once? Let’s take a closer look. ## **A Quick Escape Without the Commitment** Slot machines are like friends who never demand too much of your time. You can play them for five minutes while waiting for the pasta to boil or during a rare quiet moment when the kids are engrossed in their favourite TV show. Unlike other hobbies that require focus and hours of effort, pokies allow you to dip in and out as your schedule allows. Research suggests that the average Australian spends just 11 minutes a day on personal leisure activities. For mums, this number might be even less. Pokies provide a way to enjoy those precious moments without overthinking or planning. ## **A Splash of Fun in Everyday Chaos** The life of a mum can feel like an endless to-do list. Pokies bring a pop of colour, excitement, and even a little adrenaline to your day. With their engaging themes, exciting sounds, and the occasional win, they offer a much-needed contrast to the routine of folding laundry and mediating sibling squabbles. In fact, studies have shown that short bursts of entertainment can significantly reduce stress levels and improve overall mood. So, spinning the reels isn’t just fun, it’s practically therapeutic. ## **Multitasking? Pokies Have You Covered** Mums are the queens of multitasking. You’re making lunches with one hand, texting the teacher with the other, and keeping an ear out for the toddler raiding the pantry. Thankfully, pokies fit seamlessly into this lifestyle. Unlike hobbies that demand your full attention, slot games can be played in short bursts while you’re doing other things. Whether you’re keeping an eye on the baby monitor or waiting in the car for school pick-up, pokies let you steal a little enjoyment without missing a beat. ![pokies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/3337ad94-92b2-47f3-a208-08c7b6f478bc-1066x800.jpg "3337ad94-92b2-47f3-a208-08c7b6f478bc - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Portable Fun for the Modern Mum** Thanks to mobile technology, pokies are more accessible than ever. With a quick tap on your smartphone, you can dive into a world of vibrant colours, captivating soundtracks, and endless possibilities. Whether you’re lounging on the couch during nap time, waiting in the school pickup line, or stealing a quiet moment in the backyard while the kids are busy with chalk drawings, mobile pokies fit seamlessly into your day. Recent surveys show that over 65% of Australians use their phones for gaming, and busy mums are no exception. The portability of pokies means there’s no need to carve out extra time or space in a hectic schedule. The games are there when you need them, offering a quick and enjoyable escape from the daily grind. With a wide range of themes and styles, mobile pokies provide a tailored experience, making it easy for mums to find their perfect fit. In today’s fast-paced world, they combine convenience and entertainment in one neat package, bringing fun to even the busiest of lifestyles. ## **A Social Spin** If you think pokies are a solitary pastime, think again. Modern online pokies platforms are transforming the gaming experience with interactive features like leaderboards, chat rooms, and multiplayer options. These social elements allow players to connect with others, fostering a sense of community that goes beyond the game itself. For mums, who might find it challenging to carve out time for traditional social activities, these features offer a unique opportunity to interact with like-minded individuals. Beyond connecting with other players, social pokies often include friendly competitions and challenges, where you can share your achievements or engage in lighthearted rivalry. Some platforms even host virtual events or tournaments, creating a dynamic and engaging environment that mirrors the camaraderie of in-person activities. Whether it’s celebrating a high score or simply chatting about shared interests, the social aspect of pokies adds an extra layer of enjoyment that many mums find refreshing and rewarding. ## **The Thrill of Rewards** Let’s face it, mums often work tirelessly without much recognition or immediate gratification. A win on a pokie—whether it’s a life-changing jackpot or a small payout—can bring a sense of achievement and excitement that’s hard to replicate in the daily hustle. The moment those reels line up and a cascade of lights and sounds fills the screen, it’s a little slice of victory that feels uniquely yours. Beyond the big wins, pokies keep players engaged with a variety of smaller incentives. Bonus rounds, free spins, and loyalty rewards ensure that the fun continues even when the stakes aren’t high. These elements add layers of strategy and anticipation, keeping the experience fresh and exciting over time. For mums, these small bursts of joy can be a welcome break—a moment to recharge before diving back into the demands of daily life. It’s not just about the money; it’s about the thrill, the entertainment, and that fleeting yet fulfilling sense of accomplishment. ## **Final Thoughts: Why Pokies Are a Multitasking Mum’s Best Friend** Being a mum is an incredible yet exhausting role, and finding ways to recharge is essential. Slot machines, or pokies, offer a delightful escape that’s tailor-made for multitasking mums. From their quick-play format to their colourful, [stress-busting fun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/ "stress-busting fun"), pokies provide a slice of entertainment that fits perfectly into the busiest of schedules. So, the next time you find yourself with a spare moment between tasks, why not spin the reels? With options like the pokies available at Betinia, you’re never far from a bit of well-earned fun. Because let’s face it, mums deserve a little magic too. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/spinning-the-reels-why-pokies-are-a-multitasking-mums-best-friend/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/spinning-the-reels-why-pokies-are-a-multitasking-mums-best-friend/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Radiance Redefined: The Luxe Skin Treatments You Need Now](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/radiance-redefined-the-luxe-skin-treatments-you-need-now/) **Published:** January 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In today’s fast-paced world, glowing skin isn’t just a beauty goal—it’s a testament to self-care and confidence. Balancing busy schedules, career demands, and personal commitments can leave your skin feeling dull and neglected. Fortunately, modern skin treatments promise transformative results without the need for invasive procedures or lengthy recovery times. From rejuvenating facials to body contouring innovations, these advanced options redefine beauty on your terms. Here’s your guide to the most sought-after treatments reshaping self-care. ## **Best Skin Treatments You Need Now** ### **HydraFacial Syndeo: Your 30-Minute Glow-Up** Perfect for a pre-event boost or a mid-week refresh, the [HydraFacial](https://www.hydrafacial.com/pages/the-device) Syndeo is the ultimate solution for busy individuals seeking a radiant complexion. In just 30 minutes, this non-invasive treatment deeply cleanses, exfoliates, and hydrates your skin, leaving it smooth, glowing, and photo-ready. **Why It’s a Must:** - **Instant Results:** Achieve visibly brighter and smoother skin in just one session. - **Customisable:** Addresses specific concerns such as fine lines, pigmentation, or acne. - **Effortless Glam:** Ideal for anyone who wants a polished, red-carpet-ready look without the hassle. For those eager to experience the HydraFacial Syndeo, Lisa Rush Skin Clinic in Sydney’s Paddington is a premier destination. “Our clinic focuses on enhancing natural beauty through innovative, non-invasive treatments tailored to individual needs,” explains Lisa Rush, founder and aesthetic expert. With its personalised approach and calming atmosphere, this clinic is where science meets luxury for flawless results. ### **Ultraformer MPT: The Non-Surgical Power Lift** Who says achieving a youthful, lifted appearance requires invasive surgery? The Ultraformer MPT uses advanced ultrasound technology to firm sagging skin and contour areas such as the face, neck, and jawline. It’s an anti-aging powerhouse that delivers dramatic results without having an invasive procedure. **Why It’s a Game-Changer:** - **Next-Level Lift:** Creates a firmer, more defined silhouette by stimulating collagen production. - **Deep Impact:** Reaches the deeper layers of skin for results that last. - **Zero Downtime:** Walk out of the clinic feeling rejuvenated, with no need to pause your busy schedule. This cutting-edge treatment offers a powerful alternative, giving you the confidence of a youthful glow while embracing a non-invasive approach to skin rejuvenation. ### **TruSculpt iD: Sculpted Confidence** For those struggling with stubborn fat pockets that seem resistant to diet and exercise, TruSculpt iD offers an innovative solution. Using advanced radiofrequency technology, this treatment contours and sculpts your body, providing visible fat reduction in as little as one session. **Why It Works:** - **Efficient Fat Reduction:** Requires only 2-3 sessions for noticeable changes. - **Targeted Precision:** Focuses on problem areas like the abdomen, thighs, and flanks. - **Seamless Integration:** Fits into your schedule, so you can tone up without missing out on life. Whether you’re preparing for a special event or simply want to feel more confident in your skin, TruSculpt iD empowers you to achieve a smoother silhouette with minimal effort. ![skin treatments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/43a7882e-c375-43b2-9cd7-b11016df0e6f-1066x800.jpg "43a7882e-c375-43b2-9cd7-b11016df0e6f - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Secret RF Microneedling: Glow from Within** When it comes to serious skin rejuvenation, Secret RF Microneedling combines the benefits of radiofrequency energy with microneedling for a game-changing treatment. This innovative approach stimulates collagen production at a deeper level, addressing common concerns like scars, stretch marks, and fine lines. Using high-quality [professional microneedling serums](https://calecimprofessional.com/ "professional microneedling serums") alongside this treatment can help intensify its skin-renewing benefits, ensuring deeper absorption of active ingredients. **Why It’s Worth It:** - **Versatile Solution:** Efficiently treats the signs of sun damage, uneven texture, enlarged pores, and more. - **Minimal Downtime:** Visible improvements without compromising your busy lifestyle. - **Timeless Results:** Collagen stimulation ensures ongoing enhancement of your skin’s appearance over time. Secret RF Microneedling is ideal for those seeking a radiant, refreshed look with natural results that improve gradually, leaving you feeling confident and rejuvenated. ## **The Rise of Customised Self-Care** These transformative treatments represent a new era of beauty and self-care, where science and luxury seamlessly intersect. By addressing individual concerns with precision and care, they empower individuals to embrace their natural beauty while achieving noticeable results. At the heart of this movement is the understanding that every person’s journey is unique. Clinics like Lisa Rush Skin Clinic in Paddington, Sydney are setting the standard, offering bespoke treatments tailored to your skin type and goals. “We believe in creating a personalised experience for each client, combining cutting-edge technology with a calming, luxurious atmosphere,” says Lisa Rush. This commitment to individualised care ensures that every treatment feels like a retreat—a moment to focus on yourself and emerge with newfound confidence. ## **Self-Care Meets Science** Modern beauty is no longer about masking imperfections; it’s about enhancing your natural features and feeling your best. The treatments featured here—HydraFacial Syndeo, Ultraformer MPT, TruSculpt iD, and Secret RF Microneedling—are designed to fit seamlessly into your lifestyle while delivering results that last. Read more at <https://lisarush.com.au/>. Whether you’re looking for a quick pick-me-up, a more defined silhouette, or long-term skin rejuvenation, there’s a treatment to meet your needs. With advancements in non-invasive technology, radiant, youthful skin is more accessible than ever. ## **Why Wait?** Radiance isn’t just about appearances—it’s about confidence, self-expression, and embracing your individuality. With these innovative treatments, you can invest in your skin’s future while enjoying the immediate benefits of looking and feeling your best. After all, glowing [skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/protect-skin-barrier/ "skin") is the ultimate accessory and the journey to achieving it starts with the right treatment. Let science and luxury guide you to a more radiant you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/radiance-redefined-the-luxe-skin-treatments-you-need-now/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/radiance-redefined-the-luxe-skin-treatments-you-need-now/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [How to Commemorate Anzac Day with Kids in 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/anzac-day-with-kids/) **Published:** March 24, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Anzac Day is one of Australia’s most important national days of remembrance, and Anzac Day with kids in 2026 offers a meaningful opportunity to teach children about courage, community, and gratitude. In 2026, Anzac Day falls on Saturday, April 25, giving many families the chance to slow down and honour the day together. For single mums juggling parenting, work, and everyday responsibilities, finding ways to mark the day that are simple yet meaningful can make all the difference. The good news is that commemorating Anzac Day with children doesn’t need to be complicated. So, here are some thoughtful, family-friendly ways to observe this special day. ## Why Celebrate Anzac Day with Kids Anzac Day, held each year on April 25th, is one of the most significant national events across Australia and New Zealand. It is a day to remember the landing of the Australian and New Zealand Army Corps (ANZAC) on the Gallipoli Peninsula in Turkey on 25 April 1915 during World War I. Out of the 295,000 Australians who served on the Western Front, 46,000 lost their lives. The first Anzac Day was held on 25 April 1916. But more than just a history lesson, Anzac Day is a time for remembering the sacrifices of the soldiers of Australia and New Zealand who served and lost their lives. Children don’t need to understand every historical detail to appreciate the values behind Anzac Day. At its heart, the day commemorates bravery, sacrifice, and mateship—qualities that can resonate even with younger children. ## Is Anzac Day 2026 a public holiday on Monday, April 27? No. In 2026, Anzac Day falls on Saturday, April 25. Most states (NSW, VIC, QLD, SA, TAS, NT) will not observe a substitute public holiday on Monday. Only WA and the ACT have an additional holiday on Monday, April 27. ## What Makes Anzac Day 2026 Special for Families In 2026, Anzac Day falls on a Saturday, which may give families more flexibility to participate in remembrance activities. While rules about the Anzac Day 2026 public holiday vary slightly between states, many Australians will treat the weekend as an opportunity to attend local services, spend time together, and reflect. For single mums especially, a Saturday commemoration can mean less pressure to rush through the morning before school or work commitments. It creates a natural window for families to learn about the day together and build meaningful traditions. ![anzac day with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/New-ig-size-6-600x800.jpg "Create Your Own Ritual for Anzac Day with kids - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Commemorate Anzac Day with Kids in 2026 There are many simple Anzac traditions for kids that allow families to commemorate the day respectfully while keeping children engaged. 1. **Attend a Local Dawn Service** Dawn services are a longstanding Anzac Day tradition held across Australia. They symbolise the early morning landing of ANZAC troops at Gallipoli in 1915. If you plan to attend a dawn service with children: - Bring warm jackets or blankets - Pack a thermos of hot chocolate or tea - Explain beforehand that the service will be quiet and respectful Even younger children can participate by standing quietly for a moment of silence. For many families, attending a dawn service becomes a powerful annual ritual. 2. **Participate in Light Up the Dawn 2026** If attending a public service isn’t practical, Light Up the Dawn 2026 offers a meaningful alternative. This community initiative began during the pandemic when people couldn’t attend traditional services. Families stood in their driveways or balconies at dawn with candles or torches to honour veterans. Today, many families continue the tradition. It’s especially helpful for parents with small children who may find large crowds or early travel difficult. 3. **Anzac Day Badges and Shirts** Whenever we go to the shops in April, my daughter loves pointing out the poppies and badges at the counter. We always buy one to support the veterans, and I explain to her that the money helps people who served our country. She proudly wears her badge all day, even if it ends up on her toy rabbit by the afternoon. Aside from badges, you and your kids can also wear Anzac apparel and accessories for the whole day. Wearing a poppy or a sprig of rosemary on your shirt is also a simple way to commemorate this important day without spending. 4. **Make Crafts on Anzac Day with Kids in 2026** Crafts are another wonderful way to engage little ones and great classroom activities, too. This year, my niece’s class held a poppy wreath contest using red paper and glue. We are helping cut out the poppies, and the little ones stick them onto a paper plate to make a wreath. If your kids are older, they might enjoy painting a poppy field or making a paper soldier silhouette. Crafts can also give them informal lessons about the history of Anzac Day. You can also make a ‘Lest We Forget’ sign with cardboard and coloured pencils and place it in the front window. It’s a small but meaningful way to show respect to Australia’s soldiers who fought during the First World War and other wars. ![How to Commemorate Anzac Day with Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-47.png "In article image 47 - Beanstalk Mums") 5. **Baking the “Long-Life” Anzac Biscuit** Few traditions feel as comforting—or as Australian—as baking Anzac biscuits on April 25. Making Anzac biscuits together is a lovely way to bring kids into the spirit of the day. Little helpers can measure oats, stir ingredients, and roll the dough into small balls before baking. As the biscuits cook and the kitchen fills with their warm, caramel scent, it becomes a moment to pause, reflect, and talk about the traditions Australians have kept for generations. Many families enjoy their biscuits after a dawn service or during a quiet morning at home, making this small ritual a comforting part of Anzac Day with kids 2026. We love this [Anzac biscuit recipe from RecipeTinEats](https://www.recipetineats.com/anzac-biscuits-golden-oatmeal-cookies/). Aside from the commemorative biscuits, you can also cook [recipes celebrating the Anzacs](https://www.taste.com.au/entertaining/galleries/25-ways-commemorate-anzac-day/pfyeta1v?page=5). ## Create Your Own Ritual for Anzac Day with Kids in 2026 Every family observes Anzac Day differently, and there’s no single “right” way to commemorate it. You might consider creating your own traditions, such as: - Lighting a candle together at dawn - Sharing Anzac biscuits after a dawn service - Reading a remembrance story before bedtime - Visiting a local war memorial These small rituals help children build a sense of continuity and connection, even in the simplest moments. And the beauty is—you get to shape them in a way that fits your family, your energy, and your season of life. If you’re wanting a little more inspiration on how meaningful routines can support your child’s sense of security and belonging, you might enjoy our article on family rituals and why they matter: **[“Family Rituals to Strengthen Love, Security, and Joy at Home”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/family-rituals-to-strengthen-bonds/)** ## Making Anzac Day Meaningful for Busy Single Mums For single mums balancing work, finances, and parenting, it’s important to remember that meaningful traditions don’t need to be elaborate. Even simple gestures—like lighting a candle or baking biscuits—can create powerful memories. Children learn values not just through lessons, but through the everyday moments they share with their parents. Taking time to acknowledge Anzac Day together teaches empathy, gratitude, and community awareness. ## Final Thoughts: Commemorating Anzac Day with Kids Celebrating Anzac Day with kids in 2026 can be a thoughtful and enriching experience for the whole family. With the day falling on a Saturday, Anzac Day, many families will have extra space to reflect and participate in remembrance traditions. Whether it’s through baking, crafting, or watching footy together, little moments help shape their understanding of the bravery of Australians and New Zealanders who have served and continue to serve these two countries. And as a single mum, I love that I get to create these traditions with my daughter. She’ll hopefully carry these with her, just as I did from my childhood. ### **FAQs** ### Q: Is Anzac Day 2026 a public holiday in Australia? Yes. Anzac Day 2026 public holiday falls on Saturday, April 25. Public holiday arrangements may vary by state, but dawn services and commemorations will take place across Australia. ### Q: What time is the 2026 Anzac Day Dawn Service? [Dawn services usually begin between about 4:20 am and 5:45 am](https://www.sydney.com/destinations/sydney/sydney-city/city-centre/events/anzac-day-dawn-service), depending on the city. For example, Sydney’s main service at Martin Place starts at 4:20 am, while many other services, such as those in Canberra and Melbourne, begin around 5:30 am. ### Q: What is a simple way to celebrate Anzac Day with kids in 2026? A simple way to observe Anzac Day with kids 2026 is by attending a dawn service, joining Light Up the Dawn 2026, baking Anzac biscuits, or making poppy crafts together. These activities help children understand the meaning of remembrance in a gentle way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/anzac-day-with-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/anzac-day-with-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal --- ### [The ABCs of Kid-Friendly Dental Care: Tips for Bright Smile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-abcs-of-kid-friendly-dental-care-tips-for-bright-smile/) **Published:** April 11, 2025 **Author:** Dr. G. Samuel **Content:** Watching your child grow the first baby teeth and then transform them into permanent ones is an exciting experience filled with anxiety and fear. Remember, babies’ soft gums and pearly little teeth demand proper dental care, which starts with understanding the ABCs of pediatric dentistry. This blog will help parents understand the important aspects of children’s tooth development. We’ll explore different points, from building a daily brushing routine to regular dental checkups and more. ## **The ABCs of Kid-friendly Dental Care** ## **‘A’ Stands for Attention and Awareness** To your surprise, babies’ basic dental substance starts to form soon during pregnancy, even though their first teeth appear when they are around six months old. Well, this indicates that you should pay attention to your child’s dental health immediately after they are born. Start by cleaning the gums regularly. You can use damp cotton buds to clean the gums. This will remove sugar, germs, and bacteria that can cause cavities or weaken the gums. ## **‘B’ is for Brushing** Soon after your baby’s first teeth appear, it’s time to switch from cotton buds to soft-bristle toothbrushes. Cleaning your child’s teeth from the very start will help them build a daily routine. [Brush your child’s teeth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-abcs-of-kid-friendly-dental-care-tips-for-bright-smile/ "Brush your child’s teeth") twice or thrice a day. Make sure to make the brushing experience exciting for your child. Play music or their favorite poems while brushing. Moreover, to encourage your child, we’d recommend brushing your teeth along with them. If your baby sees you enjoying brushing, they might start loving it! ![Kid-friendly dental care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Kid-friendly-dental-care.jpg "Kid-friendly dental care - Beanstalk Mums") ## **‘C’ Stands for “Cut the Sugary Treats”** Honestly, sugar is the worst enemy of baby teeth. If a child consumes sugary meals, it can cling to the bacteria present in the teeth, leading to plaque buildup (if not removed properly). Moreover, sugar can also cause cavities in baby teeth. Hence, it’s important to cut sugar from your child’s meals. Instead of offering them lollipops, jellies, and other sugar-filled treats, feed them delicious fruits. Cut bananas, strawberries, or other fruits into small pieces and offer them in colourful little bowls. Shakes can also work wonders for babies aged from 1 to 11 months—they haven’t fully developed teeth for chewing fruits. ## **‘D’ is for Dental Checkups** Regular dental checkups are essential for children. Pediatric dentists diagnose and treat oral diseases with advanced techniques and methods. This helps in the early detection of dental issues before they become too severe and painful for the child. Make sure to consult an experienced family doctor who can provide a friendly and welcoming environment for your child. Check their testimonials first and make sure to assess their experience during the first consultation. Getting recommendations from your family members and friends can also help you find an experienced dentist like [Bluff Point](https://www.bluffpointdental.com.au/ "Bluff Point"). Additionally, contact pharmacies or industry experts for their reviews on different pediatric dentists. Before scheduling an appointment, it’s also important to inquire about the quality of the [dentistry instruments](https://www.gerdentusa.com/blog/dentistry-instruments) they use. ![Kid-friendly dental Care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Kid-friendly-dental-care-1.jpg "Kid-friendly-dental-care - Beanstalk Mums") ## **E Stands for Effective Diet Plan** A healthy diet plan goes a long way. Balanced diet plans strengthen the gums and promote effective teeth development. With the help of a dietitian, you can create a personalised diet plan for your child. Here is an overview of nutrients that should be included in the child’s diet: | **Age** | **Important Nutrients** | **Foods Necessary for Teeth Development** | |---|---|---| | **Under 6 months** | Vitamin D, Calcium, Phosphorus | Breast milk, formula | | **6-12 months** | Iron, Zinc, Vitamin C | Iron-filled cereals, pureed fruits and vegetables | | **1-2 years** | Fiber, Calcium, Phosphorus, Vitamin D, | Dairy products (cheese, yogurt), green vegetables, whole grains | | **2-3 years** | Phosphorus, Calcium, Vitamin D, fiber | Dairy products, lean proteins, fruits, vegetables | | **3 years onwards** | Phosphorus, Vitamin D, Calcium, fiber | Dairy products, lean proteins, fruits, vegetables, whole grains | ## **‘F’ is For Fun Treats or Toys** Offering your child some delicious treats and fun toys can encourage them to practice the daily brushing routine. Here are some good options you can try at home: - Oatmeal with milk - Hard-boiled eggs - Celery with raisins and peanut butter - Baked sweet potato fries Make sure to use a minimal amount of sugar in the above treats. Brush your child’s teeth after feeding them delicious meals. ## **Final Words!** Following all the above [kid-friendly dental care tips](https://www.gerdentusa.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-pediatric-dental-patients-7-proven-tips) can help parents ensure effective tooth development in their children. Building a healthy brushing routine, visiting pediatric dentists, and providing healthy diets to your baby all play an essential role in keeping their smiles bright and healthy. If you’re anxious, consult with an experienced dentist. They will provide you with personalised opinions and a dental care plan that primarily addresses your child’s unique needs. ## **FAQs** **How can I find a licensed pediatric dentist online?** The best way to find a licensed pediatric dentist online is to join an online telemedicine platform. There, you can consult with world-renowned dentists anywhere around the world. **Can I use toothpaste for my baby’s brushing?** For young babies under 2 years old, it’s generally recommended to avoid using toothpaste. That’s because toothpastes often contain fluoride, which can be harmful and cause health concerns on swallowing. **What toothpaste is safe for a 3-year-old?** Dentists recommend using fluoride-free toothpaste for young children. These toothpastes are safe and won’t harm the child if they accidentally swallow them. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-abcs-of-kid-friendly-dental-care-tips-for-bright-smile/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-abcs-of-kid-friendly-dental-care-tips-for-bright-smile/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Eating Out With Confidence After All-on-6: Menus, Social Tips and Little Wins](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/eating-out-with-confidence-after-all-on-6-menus-social-tips-and-little-wins/) **Published:** October 14, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You did something huge for your health and your smile with your All-on-6 dental implant. Now comes the part that makes life feel normal again. Coffee catch-ups. Family dinners. Work lunches. Eating out without second-guessing your choices. This guide is friendly and practical, with bite-sized steps you can follow. No jargon. No pressure. Just simple ways to feel confident eating, socialising, and enjoying life again with your new full-arch bridge. If you ever want a gentle refresher on recovery basics, here is a reliable resource:[ All on six dental implant Sydney](https://evergreendental.com.au/all-on-6-implant-recovery-guide/) ## **Start where you are** It is normal to feel a little unsure. New bite. New routine. Give yourself time. Progress is not a straight line. Some days feel easy. Others feel slow. Both are fine. ## **Mindset reset** - Compare yourself to last week, not to anyone else. - Celebrate small wins. First café toast. First dinner with friends. - Ask for help. Your dental team wants to hear from you. ## **Your first café trip** Cafés are a great place to practise eating out again. There is choice. There is no rush. Staff are used to requests. ### **Easy menu ideas** - Scrambled eggs with soft avocado. - Banana bread warmed and sliced. - Soft wraps with chicken and mayo. - Soup of the day that is smooth and not too hot. ### **Quick ordering tip** Say, “Could I please have that sliced smaller?” People are kind. They will help. ## **Your gentle menu decoder** Reading a menu with a new bite can feel new for a while. These simple swaps keep things comfortable while you build confidence. ### **Choose** - Slow-cooked meats. - Steamed veg and soft grains. - Pasta with creamy or tomato sauces. - Burgers cut into quarters. - Fish fillets rather than crumbed bones. ![eating out](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-olly-3811663-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3811663 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Go easy on it for now** - Crackling and hard crusts. - Very sticky sauces. - Nuts and seeds are scattered over salads. - Hard lollies and ice cubes. ### **What to ask your server** - “Is the chicken tender or crumbed?” - “Can you swap the crusty roll for soft bread?” - “Could the salad come without seeds?” These small tweaks make a big difference. They also become second nature. ## **Eat with calm, not speed** Your new bridge is strong. It still appreciates a gentle rhythm while you are settling in. ### **Pace and posture** - Sit tall with both feet on the ground. - Take small bites. Put the fork down now and then. - Sip water to clear crumbs. - Use the side that feels easiest today. It will even out with time. ### **Build confidence week by week** Everyone’s timeline is different. Use this as a friendly guide you can adapt. ### **Week one out and about** - Choose soft meals when dining out. - Pick quiet cafés at off-peak times. - Share plates so you can pick what feels right. ### **Week two** - Add gentle textures. Tender steak strips. Soft tacos. - Try a longer lunch with friends. Notice how speech and laughter feel easier. - Practise ordering a small change. You will see how helpful the staff can be. ### **Week three** - Aim for a favourite restaurant. Read the menu ahead of time. - Try one new texture. Keep the rest familiar. - Take a quick bathroom break to rinse if you like. A simple swish with water is enough. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-askar-abayev-5638644-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-askar-abayev-5638644 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Week four and beyond** - Enjoy most foods with common sense. - Keep the few hard or sticky things for special moments and cut them smaller. - If something feels off, call your clinic. Early tweaks keep everything smooth. ## **Social confidence, one moment at a time** A strong smile is not just about chewing. It is about feeling like yourself again. ### **Before a catch-up** - Take a calming breath. - Keep lip balm handy. - Have a water bottle in your bag. ### **During** - If a bite feels tricky, laugh it off. Everyone has food moments. - Choose the seat with good light so you can see what you are cutting. - If you need to pause, pretend to check your phone. Take a sip. Reset. ### **After** - Celebrate the win. - Note any food that felt awkward. You can test it again next time. ## **Family dinners without fuss** Cooking for family is about connection, not perfection. Keep the menu simple while you find your rhythm. ### **Go-to ideas** - Slow-cooker beef with mash. - Baked salmon with rice and greens. - Soft tacos with shredded chicken. - Stir-fry with tender veg and noodles. ### **Little kitchen habits** - Slice apples and pears. - Warm bread to soften the crust. - Keep a small bowl of water on the bench to wet your fingers if food sticks. Kids at the table. Dogs under the chair. Life is busy. Shortcuts are smart, not lazy. ## **Work lunches and travel snacks** Back at the office or on the move. Your bridge fits your life with a little planning. ### **Desk-friendly food options** - Yoghurt cups with soft fruit. - Hummus and soft wraps. - Pasta salads without seeds. - Soups in a thermos. ### **Mouth hygiene travel kit** - Fold-up brush and floss or a bridge floss pick. - Pocket mirror. - Small bottle of water or saline spray. A quick bathroom swish after lunch is optional. If you skip it, no stress. ## **Speaking clearly and feeling natural** Speech settles fast for most people. These small habits help. ### **Daily two-minute speech routine** - Read a short page aloud. - Record a simple voice note. - Smile when you speak. It softens sounds and boosts confidence. Phone calls, Zoom meetings, chats at the footy. You will notice each feels easier week by week. ### **Seek medical attention if you notice;** - A spot in your mouth that traps food again and again. - A click or a new sound when you chew. - A chip or a sharp edge. - Swelling or odour that does not settle with brushing. ## **Gentle mouth hygiene that fits real life** A clean mouth feels fresh and protects your work. Keep it simple. ![eating out](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8307362-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8307362 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Morning** - Soft brush along the gum line and around the bridge. - Rinse well. - Water floss on a low setting if your dentist has said it is fine for you. ### **After meals** - Swish with water. Done. ### **Night** - Brush with a mild paste. - Thread floss or use a bridge floss pick where advised. - Wear your night guard if you grind. It protects your bridge and your jaw joints. Keep your kit where you cannot miss it. Near your phone charger. Next to your skincare. Habit beats willpower every time. ## **Your seven-day courage plan** This is a simple, printable plan. One tick a day is enough. - Day 1: Order a soft meal at a quiet café. - Day 2: Read aloud for five minutes and record it. - Day 3: Try a small menu tweak. Ask for soft bread or no seeds. - Day 4: Cook a slow-cooked dinner and invite someone you trust. - Day 5: Plan a short lunch with friends. Choose the seat you like. - Day 6: Eat a new texture cut into small pieces. Celebrate if it feels fine. Try again if not. - Day 7: Take a photo you like. Save it. You earned that smile. ## **Common myths to ignore** - “You must eat everything straight away.” You do not. Ease in. You will go further, faster. - “A fixed bridge means you never need to think about food.” You still make smart choices, just like natural teeth. - “If you need a tweak, something went wrong.” Not true. Small adjustments are a normal part of getting the fit just right. ## **Kind words to finish** Confidence grows in everyday moments. Coffee with a friend. A first laugh that feels easy. A dinner where you forget to think about chewing. Keep going. Your smile will feel more and more like you with each week. If you would like a deeper, step-by-step recovery walkthrough, you can always check All on six dental implant Sydney. It is there when you need it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/eating-out-with-confidence-after-all-on-6-menus-social-tips-and-little-wins/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/eating-out-with-confidence-after-all-on-6-menus-social-tips-and-little-wins/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Styling for Single Mums: How to Dress with Ease Daily](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/styling-for-single-mums-how-to-dress-with-ease-daily/) **Published:** June 15, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** Being a single mum means handling countless responsibilities every day. Your routine can be packed from sunrise to bedtime, from organising school lunches to managing endless chores. Amid this hustle, it’s easy for your personal style and self-care to slip. However, taking time for yourself isn’t a luxury—it’s essential. This guide to styling for single mums will help you simplify your wardrobe and feel great without extra stress or expense. Single mums deserve practical fashion choices that genuinely fit their busy lives. One authentic solution is [ASOS](https://www.asos.com/au/)—an accessible, reliable platform that simplifies online shopping for everyday styling needs without breaking the bank. ## **Why Styling for Single Mums Should Be Practical** Styling for single mums doesn’t mean following fleeting trends or spending hours shopping. Your wardrobe should enhance your life, not complicate it. ASOS provides a practical, reliable selection of clothing suited for real-life demands—from casual weekends to busy weekdays. The website’s intuitive filters and extensive sizing options, including petite, maternity, and curve collections, make it easy to find outfits that genuinely fit your needs and body type. Forget fussy garments or impractical pieces. Good styling for single mums includes versatile clothing that’s comfortable, functional, and effortlessly chic. ## **Styling for Single Mums Across Seasons** Australian weather is famously unpredictable, often requiring versatile and easy-to-layer clothing. The right wardrobe staples make seasonal transitions simple and stress-free. ## **Styling for Single Mums: Summer Essentials** Summer styling for single mums is all about breathable fabrics and easy silhouettes. Think light maxi dresses, comfortable linen shorts, and versatile sandals. [ASOS stocks plenty of outfits](https://www.asos.com/au/women/sale/dresses/cat/?cid=5235&ctaref=hp|ww|sale|carousel|2|category|dresses) that are stylish yet practical. These choices make it effortless to stay cool and comfortable, whether you’re managing school holiday activities or enjoying outdoor adventures with your kids. ## **Styling for Single Mums: Cosy Winter Choices** When colder weather arrives, practical layering becomes key. Styling for single mums in winter means having reliable coats, warm knitwear, and comfortable leggings. ASOS offers cosy, stylish jumpers and versatile outerwear, perfect for keeping warm during the school run or weekend outings. Chunky knits and lightweight jackets allow easy layering, letting you adapt effortlessly to changing temperatures. ## **Practical Footwear Styling for Single Mums** Shoes are the cornerstone of any practical wardrobe. For busy single mums, footwear needs to be comfortable enough to handle long days without sacrificing style. ASOS excels here with options ranging from classic trainers and comfy flats to stylish boots suitable for everyday wear. The platform also thoughtfully caters to different foot sizes and shapes, including wide-fit styles. This means you don’t have to choose between comfort and style—both are easily achievable. ![Styling for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/In-article-images-99.jpg "In-article images 99 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Accessorising Made Easy for Single Mums** On busy mornings, accessorising might feel like a step too far—but simple additions can transform your look and boost your mood. Accessories such as statement earrings, practical crossbody bags, or stylish hats can instantly elevate even the simplest outfits. [ASOS provides a vast array of affordable and attractive accessories](https://www.asos.com/au/women/jewellery/cat/?cid=4175), making it straightforward to refresh your look without significant effort or expense. These items also serve as thoughtful self-care treats, providing little moments of joy amid your daily routine. ## **Beauty Essentials for Quick Self-Care Moments** Self-care is vital for single mums but can often feel impossible. Styling isn’t limited to clothing—it extends to how you care for yourself. ASOS’s extensive selection of beauty and grooming products allows you to indulge in quick, effective self-care at home. Treat yourself to soothing face masks, nourishing moisturisers, or vibrant nail polishes. Integrating these small rituals into your busy days can help you feel refreshed and centred, providing emotional and mental support as you manage your daily responsibilities. ## **Confidence and Comfort for All Body Types** Effective styling for single mums means celebrating diverse body types and enhancing confidence. ASOS demonstrates authentic inclusivity, offering clothing ranges specifically tailored to various body shapes—from maternity wear to petite and curve collections. Embracing your unique body type with clothing that fits well boosts your confidence and encourages self-appreciation. Feeling comfortable and beautiful in your clothes helps reinforce your inherent strength and resilience as a single mum. ## **Convenience: Fashion Delivered to Your Doorstep** Time is precious for single mums, and traditional shopping can be inconvenient and exhausting. Online platforms like ASOS remove these barriers, delivering fashion directly to your door. With straightforward returns and quick shipping, online shopping helps streamline your busy life, allowing you to browse and purchase at times that best suit your schedule. Explore more practical tips on [balancing self-care and motherhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-without-a-father-figure/) for additional support. ## **Styling for Single Mums is Self-Care** Ultimately, styling isn’t just about clothing—it’s about recognising and valuing yourself. Single motherhood involves constant giving, making it essential to also nourish your own well-being. Choosing practical, stylish, and affordable outfits contributes positively to your self-image, daily comfort, and overall emotional health. When you prioritise yourself through thoughtful styling choices, you reinforce your own value. This empowers you to approach life’s daily challenges with renewed energy and confidence, positively impacting your family. ## **Final Thoughts on Styling for Single Mums** Remember, effective styling for single mums is achievable and affordable with the right approach and resources. ASOS provides practical, inclusive, and stylish options specifically suited to the needs of busy single mothers. Take a moment today to explore ASOS and see what works best for you, embracing clothing and accessories that enhance your confidence and comfort. After all, feeling good about yourself radiates outward, positively influencing every aspect of your busy life. --- > This article contains affiliate links, meaning we may earn a small commission if you click through and make a purchase, at no extra cost to you. We only recommend what we truly believe in. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/styling-for-single-mums-how-to-dress-with-ease-daily/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/styling-for-single-mums-how-to-dress-with-ease-daily/?share=x) - **Categories:** Reviews --- ### [Self-care Gifts For Mums That Make Her Feel Truly Special](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-gifts-for-mums-that-make-her-feel-truly-special/) **Published:** September 25, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being a mum is equal parts joy and chaos. Between the daily grind of school runs, work, and trying to remember if there’s milk in the fridge, self-care often drops to the bottom of the list. I know for me, it wasn’t until a friend surprised me with a small self-care gift — a tea and sleep mask set — that I realised just how much I’d been running on empty. That little reminder to pause and breathe felt like the best way to reconnect with myself. If you’re looking for thoughtful self-care gifts for mums, whether it’s for Mother’s Day, a birthday, or just to make her day, these gift ideas are the perfect choice to help her relax, indulge, and feel appreciated. ## Why self-care gifts for mums truly matter Mothers often give endlessly without asking for much in return. A self-care gift is more than just a present. It’s a reminder that mums deserve intentional time for themselves, beyond the roles of caregiver and problem-solver. Choosing thoughtful presents also shows that you’re tuned into her well-being and want to support her in motherhood with kindness and care. ## Affordable self-care gifts for mums to try today Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive to feel lavish. Affordable gift ideas like candles, [styling wands](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fvs-sassoon%2fdigitalaire-wet-to-dry-styling-wand-013252.html "styling wands"), and cosy journals can make her day without breaking the bank. You could also create a DIY gift hamper filled with her favourite chocolate, a sweet note, or even some handcrafted touches, such as homemade bath salts. These budget-friendly gifts are an excellent way to show love. Check out our Affordable Self-Care Rituals guide for more inspiration. ## Self-care gift ideas for mums who need rest Sometimes the best gift for mum is simply rest. A back massager, cosy loungewear, and a sleep mask are indulgent yet practical ways to help her unwind. These gifts are perfect for slowing down the daily grind and encouraging proper rest. For new mums especially, rest-focused gifts are a truly special way to support their wellbeing. ## Self-care gifts for mums: Balancing calm, comfort and practicality Like I said, not every gift has to be over-the-top indulgent. Everyday items can get a self-nurturing twist: a stylish water bottle that encourages hydration, a herbal tea set for evening calm, or a planner that doubles as a mindfulness tool. The best gifts are something that makes her life easier while reminding her she’s worth spoiling. ## Mindful self-care gifts that support mums’ wellbeing Mindfulness is a great way to help mummas reconnect with themselves. [A meditation app subscription](https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/55N7Y1), a gratitude journal, or even decorative affirmation cards can bring moments of calm into busy days. These mindful self-care gifts are a way to help her emotional well-being while reminding her to pause and breathe. (See our [*Breeze Wellbeing Review* article for more ways to ease the pressure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breeze-wellbeing-review-a-full-review-of-the-mental-health-app/).) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-anastasia-shuraeva-6236640-1-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-anastasia-shuraeva-6236640 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why self-care is the perfect gift for mums Motherhood is beautiful but exhausting. Self-care is a wonderful way for a mum to recharge and feel grounded again. A self-nurturing gift is a way to say, “I see you, Mum, I appreciate you.” Gifts that focus on wellness and relaxation [remind her she deserves space to unwind.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-cuddly-comfort-matters-in-single-mum-self-care/) ## Pamper and wellness packs for home spa days A spa day gift might feel luxurious, but mothers deserve it. If a full session isn’t possible, a bundle of curated, organic and [100% Australian-made cosmetics from Dopeskin.co](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77472?Url=https%3a%2f%2fdopeskin.co%2fcollections%2fkits) is an excellent way to pamper her at home. These gifts are perfect to help her loosen up without leaving the house. ## Gift hampers that feel indulgent Gift hampers are one of the most popular gift ideas for mum because you can hand-pick everything she needs to relax. From a cosy [snack box hamper](https://snackboxhampers.com.au/ "snack box hamper") filled with chocolates and herbal teas to a luxe basket with her favourite scent, there’s something for every mum. Some Australian businesses also curate [gift baskets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2f) with essential oil rollers, comfy socks, or a sweet note tucked inside. It’s a really special way to make her feel loved. ## Jewellery with sentimental touches Jewellery has always been a favourite choice for mums, especially when you personalise it. A necklace with initials, a bracelet engraved with her kids’ names, or even a keepsake ring makes a sentimental yet stylish gift she’ll treasure for years to come. [Jewellery is more than just decorative](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14981?Url=https%3a%2f%2fambersceats.com%2f) — it’s a gift that helps her feel connected to her family while still being something she can indulge in just for herself. ## Self-care gifts for mums to feel grounded, valued, and seen When a gift is personalised, it tells her that you’ve thought about what makes her unique. Custom jewellery, photo books, or even a curated indoor herb garden are perfect ways to create a beautiful keepsake of how much she’s valued. ![self-care gifts for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-rdne-5848065-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-5848065 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Gift cards are a perfect choice If you’re unsure, a gift card can be the perfect gift. It lets her choose what she truly wants, whether it’s her favourite chocolate shop in Melbourne, a wellness treatment in Sydney, or even a cooking class to learn new skills. Sometimes, [giving her the freedom to personalise her own gift](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62126?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgiftcardstore.com.au%2f) is the best way to support her. ## Creative gifts and crafts that let her create something new [Craft and handicraft experiences](https://redballoon.pxf.io/OexmKZ), like pottery or painting workshops, allow Mamas to relax while doing something therapeutic. These presents are perfect because they combine fun with relaxation, letting her create something she’ll cherish. It’s also a great celebration of her creativity, offering a hands-on escape from mama routines. ## Choosing self-care gifts for mums without guilt Mamas are often the first to feel guilty about taking time for themselves. But giving mum the gift of self-care isn’t selfish — it’s the way to give her energy, joy, and balance. Choosing pampering gifts reminds her she’s allowed to indulge, spoil herself, and embrace rest without guilt. ## Conclusion: Self-Care Gifts for Mums Self-care gifts for mums aren’t just about candles or chocolate — they’re about feeling supported, valued, and strong in the middle of mamahood. At the end of the day, mothers deserve more than just a quick “thanks.” Self-care gifts are a wonderful way to show appreciation, help her relax, and remind her that she’s loved. The best gifts don’t need to be big or expensive — they remind her she’s more than the daily routines and that [her wellbeing matters.](https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/health/mental-health/national-study-mental-health-and-wellbeing/latest-release) Start small if you need to, choose gifts that are guilt-free, and don’t be afraid to honour your own needs along the way. Because at the heart of it all, mums deserve thoughtful care — every day, not just sometimes. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-gifts-for-mums-that-make-her-feel-truly-special/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-gifts-for-mums-that-make-her-feel-truly-special/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Shopping --- ### [Is Solar Still Worth It for Australian Families on a Tight Budget?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/is-solar-still-worth-it-for-australian-families-on-a-tight-budget/) **Published:** July 2, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The power bill has become that envelope, or email, that nobody opens with joy. You sort of squint at it first, like it might behave better if you don’t make direct eye contact. For families already juggling groceries, rent or a mortgage, school costs, insurance and the weirdly expensive business of simply existing in Australia, solar can feel both tempting and suspicious. Too good? Too costly? Too much admin? That’s usually where the conversation starts, especially when people begin looking at options like solar batteries, hybrid systems and trusted [sigenergy installers](https://renewcosolar.com.au/our-products/sigenergy-2/) who can explain what actually suits a household rather than just flogging the fanciest box on the wall. Because that’s the thing. Solar isn’t magic. It’s not a golden ticket that makes every bill vanish in a puff of eco-friendly glitter. But for many Australian families, especially those who use a decent amount of electricity during the day, it can take a real bite out of household expenses. Not a polite nibble. A proper bite. And right now, that matters. ## Why solar can make a real difference to the family budget Plenty of families are doing the little budget dance. Buying mince when steak looks rude. Turning lights off with military seriousness. Running the dishwasher at odd hours because someone on Facebook said it’s cheaper then. I’ve done that last one, by the way, and then forgotten to unpack it for two days. Glamorous stuff. Solar fits into this messy domestic reality because it tackles one of the few household costs that can be partly controlled. You can’t haggle with the supermarket checkout. You can’t tell your insurer, “Look, mate, I’m not in the mood this year.” But electricity? If your roof is suitable and the numbers stack up, you can produce some of your own. That feels small until summer hits. Air conditioners are beautiful little monsters. Necessary, yes, especially when the house turns into a pizza oven by 3 pm. But they chew power. So do pool pumps, washing machines, dryers, hot water systems, fridges, laptops, gaming consoles and every device a teenager insists is “basically essential”. A solar system can help offset that daytime usage, which means less power being pulled from the grid when the sun is doing its big Australian thing overhead. ## Get the most value by using solar power during the day ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-szafran-31859250-992x800.jpg "Pexels-szafran-31859250 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by roman biernacki](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/eco-friendly-home-with-solar-panels-in-verdant-field-31859250/) The trick is using the power while you’re making it. That sounds obvious, but it’s where many families either win or lose value. If everyone leaves the house at 8 am and the solar system is exporting most of its energy for a modest feed-in tariff, the savings may still be useful, but not as juicy as they could be. Shift a few habits, though, and the story changes. Run the washing machine in the middle of the day. Charge devices before evening. Set timers. Heat water when solar production is strong. Boring little tweaks, yes. But boring tweaks pay bills. ## Is solar worth it for single-income households? For single-income households, the decision is trickier, and I don’t think anyone should pretend otherwise. The upfront cost can feel heavy. When one income is doing the work of two, every big purchase gets interrogated like it has committed a crime. Is it essential? Can it wait? What if the car needs tyres? What if the school sends another “voluntary contribution” note that is somehow not voluntary in spirit? Solar has to compete with all of that. So the question is not “Is solar good?” The question is, “Is solar good for this home, right now?” That depends on a few unglamorous details. Roof direction. Shade. Daily energy use. Current electricity plan. Whether someone is home during the day. Whether the family plans to stay in the property long enough to enjoy the payback. Whether a battery makes sense now or later. No two homes are identical, even if the houses in a new estate all look like they were copied and pasted. ## Understanding solar rebates and battery options Rebates help, but they can be a little confusing. In Australia, rooftop solar incentives are often handled through small-scale technology certificates, usually shortened to STCs. In plain English, they reduce the upfront cost of an eligible solar installation. Most households don’t manually trade certificates themselves, thank goodness, because who needs another life admin swamp? Usually, the installer applies the discount through the quote. Battery rebates are also part of the conversation now, especially for families who want to store excess solar energy for evenings. That can be handy because evenings are when many homes come alive. Dinner. Showers. Homework. TV. The kettle is going on for no reason except emotional support. A battery can let you use more of your own solar power after sunset, instead of buying as much from the grid. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Pexels-kindelmedia-9875438-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-kindelmedia-9875438 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by kindel media](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/solar-panel-on-roof-of-house-in-california-usa-9875438/) But, and this is a very important but, batteries are not automatically the right move for every household. Some families get excellent value from solar panels alone. Others may benefit from adding a battery if their evening usage is high, their electricity plan rewards it, or they want a bit more energy independence. A single-income household should be particularly careful here. Not scared. Just careful. There’s a difference. You want a system that suits the budget, not one that looks impressive in a neighbourly driveway conversation. ## Choosing the right solar system for your home I once had a neighbour who bought the biggest system he could fit on his roof because, in his words, “future-proofing, mate.” Fair enough, sort of. But he didn’t really understand his usage, and for months he complained that the savings weren’t what he expected. The panels weren’t the problem. The expectation was. Solar is not a personality purchase. It’s a numbers purchase with a nice environmental side effect. Still, the emotional side is real. There’s something comforting about producing your own power. You look at a sunny day differently. Instead of thinking, “Great, the backyard is trying to kill the lawn again,” you think, “Well, at least the roof is earning its keep.” That sense of control can matter when every other bill feels like it has wandered in wearing muddy boots. For families on tight budgets, the most sensible path is usually simple. Get a few quotes. Ask for estimated payback based on your actual usage, not some fantasy family from a brochure. Check whether the installer is accredited and whether the products have strong warranties. Understand what’s included because cheap quotes sometimes hide expensive surprises. Ask about monitoring apps too, because seeing what your system is doing can help you change habits without needing to become a full-time energy nerd. Unless you want to. No judgement. ## When solar may not be the right investment Solar is probably not worth it if your roof is badly shaded, your usage is tiny, you’re moving soon, or the finance repayments wipe out the bill savings. There, said it. But for many Australian families, it can be a worthwhile investment, particularly when the system is sized properly and the household can use a good chunk of the power during the day. And for single-income households? It can still make sense. The key is caution, not hesitation forever. Look at the payback period. Look at rebates. Look at whether solar repayments, if financed, are lower than the bill savings. Look at your real life, not the shiny version where children turn lights off, and nobody ever runs the dryer during peak pricing. Solar works best when it fits the household like a decent pair of shoes. Not too tight. Not oversized and silly. Just practical, comfortable and ready to [save a bit of money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/) every sunny day. Which, in Australia, we do get a fair few of. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/is-solar-still-worth-it-for-australian-families-on-a-tight-budget/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/is-solar-still-worth-it-for-australian-families-on-a-tight-budget/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Best Christmas Gifts for Men in 2025: Top Editor Picks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-men-under-50/) **Published:** September 18, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Finding the perfect holiday gift for the man in your life can feel like an impossible task; I’ve been there. Last year, I spent hours searching for something unique for my partner, only to end up with another pair of socks. This year, though, I’ve done my homework. I’ve rounded up the best Christmas gifts for men of 2025 that are unique and fun, from cool tech gadgets to luxurious lifestyle finds. Trust us, these ideas will make your shopping so much easier. Let’s dive into the top gift trends and take the stress out of finding something truly special this year! ## **Best Christmas Gifts for Men in 2025** ## **1. **Best Christmas Gifts for Men** (Top Pick):** **Christmas Gift Hampers** If the way to his heart is through his stomach, a [Christmas gift hamper](https://snackboxhampers.com.au/product-category/christmas-gift-box-hampers/) is a guaranteed win. Packed with gourmet nuts, jerky, licorice, chocolate and maybe even a cheeky hot sauce. Snack hampers feel fun and indulgent without being over the top, and they’re perfect for men who’d rather munch than fuss over fancy gifts. It’s a crowd-pleaser that proves you know exactly what he loves. ![Christmas Gift Hampers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Christmas-gifts-snack-box-hampers-1200x757.jpg "Christmas-gifts-snack-box-hampers - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Snack Box Hampers](https://snackboxhampers.com.au/product-category/christmas-gift-box-hampers/) ## **2. **Christmas Gifts for Men (BBQ Guy Pick):**** **Grillz 2-in-1 portable fire pit BBQ** For the outdoorsy man, the Grillz 2-in-1 Portable Fire Pit BBQ is a fantastic gift. The body and grill parts are made of food-grade stainless steel, so it’s safe for cooking. It’s perfect for backyard gatherings or camping trips. He’ll love lighting this beauty up for cosy evenings under the stars. [![Grillz 2-in-1 portable fire pit BBQ | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1e34d35e-615e-4962-a6c8-42c00ecea53f.jpg "1e34d35e-615e-4962-a6c8-42c00ecea53f - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qz4YQ5) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qz4YQ5) ## **3. ****Christmas Gifts for Men**** (Premium Pick):** **Calvin Klein robe** Want to give him a gift that screams luxury? This Calvin Klein robe is the answer. Made from soft, absorbent materials, this robe is perfect for relaxing after a long day. It’s the kind of gift that makes every day feel like a spa day. [![Calvin Klein robe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/342f2456-256a-47db-8f7a-f474977d5cb7.jpg "342f2456-256a-47db-8f7a-f474977d5cb7 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3CRYFrj) Available at: [The Iconic](https://fave.co/3CRYFrj) ## **4. Slip-on loafers** Looking for something comfy? These classic black loafers are perfect for both casual and formal wear, making them a versatile and stylish gift. He can wear this pair for long hours as they come with padded heels and socks. [![Slip-on loafers | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/69bf5591-e78b-4bff-a791-d5caa1bc3191.jpg "69bf5591-e78b-4bff-a791-d5caa1bc3191 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3Vfm8Je) Available at: [River Island](https://fave.co/3Vfm8Je) ## **5. ****Christmas Gifts for Men**** (For the Sneakerhead): Nike sneakers** What man doesn’t like a new pair of sneakers!? If he’s not a dress shoes kind of guy and is more of a sporty type, you can’t go wrong with these Nike sneakers. Plus, trail shoes are a trend right now, so he’ll go gaga over these for sure! [![Nike sneakers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/05f295a3-71d6-417b-9288-5a126e5e4196-2-1067x800.jpg "05f295a3-71d6-417b-9288-5a126e5e4196 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3B6szra) Available at: [Nike](https://fave.co/3B6szra) ## **6. Christmas Gifts for Men** **(For the Handyman): Certa PowerPlus 20V cordless multi-tool** This practical gift is ideal for the handyman. This multi-tool features removable blades and sanding accessories, just what he needs for tackling those DIY projects. He’ll appreciate having everything he needs right at his fingertips. [![Certa PowerPlus 20V cordless multi-tool | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/80864197-52b1-4478-8366-7bb6873c5d94.jpg "80864197-52b1-4478-8366-7bb6873c5d94 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DyK7Yj) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DyK7Yj) ## **Best Tech** **Christmas Gifts for Men** ## **7. Personalised AirPods case** If he keeps losing his AirPods, then he’ll be happy to get this custom earbuds case. It’s made of leather, so you know it’s built to last. It also comes with a metal ring so he can bring the case anywhere without losing it! Now he’ll never lose his earbuds! [![Personalised Airpods case](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/C1aec668-023f-4852-9826-c473ee60187a.jpg "C1aec668-023f-4852-9826-c473ee60187a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3ZbCHqA) Available at: [Casetify](https://fave.co/3ZbCHqA) ## **8. For the gadget lover: Devanti wireless charging station** Wireless charging is the way of the future, and a sleek wireless charging station will declutter his desk or nightstand. It’s a functional gift that will keep his devices charged and organised. No more cord clutter! [![Devanti wireless charging station | Christmas gifts for men](https://assets.kogan.com/images/new-aim/NAI-WC-A-063-BK/1-106009612d-wc-a-063-bk-99.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=1200.0%2C800.0&dpr=1.0&enable=upscale&fit=bounds&height=800&quality=90&width=1200)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jerYxe) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jerYxe) ## **9. Portable projector** Next on my list is great for anyone who loves watching films on the big screen. It’s excellent for a backyard movie night or creating a makeshift cinema inside. Now he can have a movie night anywhere! [![Portable projector](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/6a1ad8da-6a4d-467d-9198-272838889191.jpg "6a1ad8da-6a4d-467d-9198-272838889191 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/JKz7eR) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/JKz7eR) ## **10. Waterproof Bluetooth speaker** Does he love singing in the shower? Now he can enjoy his solo bath concerts with this waterproof Bluetooth speaker. It’s rated IPX7 waterproof. What does that mean? It means it can handle splashes and can even be submerged in water, but only up to 1 meter for 30 minutes. The long-lasting battery is also a great bonus. [![Waterproof Bluetooth speaker | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/6c0dca66-53b8-4d9e-9b75-9620d357ebad.jpg "6c0dca66-53b8-4d9e-9b75-9620d357ebad - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/EEK7rP) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/EEK7rP) ## **11. Noise cancellation earplugs** For the man who loves his quiet time, he’ll definitely want to receive these Loop earplugs. These earplugs offer powerful noise reduction so he can say goodbye to unwanted noise and focus whenever he needs to. [![Noise cancellation earplugs | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/8410de45-2a0b-46dd-ab9e-66e200e05221-1.jpg "8410de45-2a0b-46dd-ab9e-66e200e05221 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4eR9WoV) Available at: [Loop Earplugs](https://fave.co/4eR9WoV) ## **12. ****Christmas Gifts for Men**** (For the Sleepyhead):** **European pillow** A good pillow is essential for a great night’s sleep. This luxe, high-quality pillow from Morgan & Finch will support his neck and keep him comfortable all night. It sure is one gift he’ll use every single day (and night). [![European pillow](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Ed0ab9d1-7804-4d23-b3fe-36414afc7e4e.jpg "Ed0ab9d1-7804-4d23-b3fe-36414afc7e4e - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3Zy738k) Available at: [Bed Bath N’ Table](https://fave.co/3Zy738k) ## **13. ****Christmas Gifts for Men**** (Self-care Pick):** **Aesop facial lotion** Aesop is the gold standard for men’s grooming, and their skincare products make an excellent gift. We love this facial lotion because it hydrates the skin while protecting it from harmful UVA and UVB rays. That’s double the purpose! It’s an excellent gift for guys who love the outdoors. [![Aesop facial lotion | Christmas gifts for men](https://www.lookfantastic.com/images?url=https://static.thcdn.com/productimg/original/11772382-1884884266493012.jpg&format=webp&auto=avif&width=985&height=985&fit=cover)](https://fave.co/3Zu1RC3) Available at: [LOOK FANTASTIC](https://fave.co/3Zu1RC3) ## **14. Christmas Gifts for Men (Customised Pick): Personalised bracelet** Jewellery doesn’t have to be just for women. A stylish, masculine bracelet is a great way to add a personal touch to any outfit, and you can even have it engraved to make it an extra special gift. He’ll wear it for the holiday gatherings for sure! [![Personalised bracelet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/A357496f-1f4f-4225-a335-b0a8c13b54c7.jpg "A357496f-1f4f-4225-a335-b0a8c13b54c7 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4g71R0m) Available at: [Not On The High Street](https://fave.co/4g71R0m "Not On The High Street") ## **15. Christmas Gifts for Men (Practical Pick): Gift cards** When in doubt, gift cards are always a safe option. Whether he’s into tech, fashion, or fitness, a gift cheque lets him pick out exactly what he wants. It’s the ultimate last-minute gift idea. [![Gift cards | Christmas gifts for men](https://giftcardstore.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/5275286CS1-334x214.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62126?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgiftcardstore.com.au%2f) Available at: [Gift Card Store](https://giftcards.woolworths.com.au/big-w/p/bigw0001) ## **16. UGG Slippers** Every man needs a good pair of slippers, and they make for a practical and thoughtful gift. This pair from UGG may not be made of horsebit, but they are warm, comfortable, and stylish. I know he’ll want to wear them every day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Minichocside_0edceb41-0916-4603-ac07-8403d0cf9069.webp "Minichocside_0edceb41-0916-4603-ac07-8403d0cf9069 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [UGG](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84542?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.australianuggboots.com.au%2fcollections%2fmens-ugg-boots) ## **17. Christmas Gifts for Men (For the Beer Guy): Six-pack Australian craft beer** If your giftee is a beer connoisseur or just enjoys cracking open a cold one, this variety pack will make him raise a glass. This isn’t your standard Corona and Heineken combo. I’m talking six top-notch, hand-picked beers from different Australian breweries. [![Six-pack Australian craft beer | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/91645318-dcbf-4b41-a6ca-57a2bb74ea1c-1.jpg "91645318-dcbf-4b41-a6ca-57a2bb74ea1c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beercartel.com.au%2f) Available at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beercartel.com.au%2f "Beer Cartel") ## **18. For his skincare routine: Clinique grooming kit** A skincare routine is not only crucial for us ladies but for men as well. If you think your giftee knows the importance of well-hydrated skin, introduce them to the best grooming kit from Clinique. Clinique is a famous brand when it comes to skincare products, so you know this all-in-one kit works wonders. [![Clinique grooming kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/A6cbbee0-2696-47e1-9a40-e9c7006424da.jpg "A6cbbee0-2696-47e1-9a40-e9c7006424da - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4fVkkgY) Available at: [Beauty Bay](https://fave.co/4fVkkgY) ## **19. Christmas Gifts for Men (Environment-friendly Pick): Organic soap** Is he into gardening? No need to look further because you’ve found a gift he’ll love! This organic bar of soap is made particularly for gardeners’ hands. It washes away all the soil and bacteria he might have acquired while gardening. You no longer have to worry about him using his bare hands at the table (or in bed). You’re welcome! [![Organic soap | Christmas gifts for men](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/E1e98dcd-0490-4d2b-927d-835d5d6a3c0c.jpg "E1e98dcd-0490-4d2b-927d-835d5d6a3c0c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2f) Available at: [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2f) ## **20. Camping chair** When in doubt, I buy a guy a camping chair! Extra points if it has a drink holder and leg rest. ![Camping chair](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/81403217018910-800x800.jpg "81403217018910 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QODrqa) ## **21. A Game of Thrones, A Song of Fire and Ice Series: Book 1** He’s seen the series (several times) but still hasn’t had enough? How about giving him the book? They say the read is always better than the screen. [![A Game of Thrones, A Song of Fire and Ice Series: Book 1 | | Christmas gifts for men](https://i5.walmartimages.com/asr/0847bfb1-8cd1-4df1-aa68-d0676440df80.f8d750c190c9a545b7885e77548a524a.jpeg)](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/DyK40n) Available at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-game-of-thrones-george-r-r-martin/book/9780007448036.html) ## **22. Portable Bluetooth speaker with microphone** Get the outdoor party started with a waterproof portable speaker from JVC. This one has a microphone too if your dad/brother/uncle/son/mate likes to perform after a few beers! [![Portable Bluetooth Speaker ](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h25/hda/13900846432286.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/rnM37d) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/rnM37d) ## **23. Knit jumper** Gotta love a Christmas jumper! They make a brilliant part-practical, part-joke Christmas gift for men. Available at: [ASOS](https://www.asos.com/au/) ## **Affordable Christmas gifts for men** ## **24. Magazine subscription** This holiday season, give your man the gift of a magazine subscription. Grab yours now on iSubscribe and get up to 73% off on top-selling magazines. [![Magazine Subscription](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/361/11468/xlarge/National-Geographic-Oct-2019.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f%3f%26mckv%3ds%26pcrid%3d386332687143%26plid%3d%26kword%3disubscribe%26gclid%3dCj0KCQiAq97uBRCwARIsADTziyboaFHw_S5Ng6xQEmY76DY2jktomwtYmvzPCiHn-gj9GmTnX5oTP_gaAi63EALw_wcB%26gclsrc%3daw.ds) Available at: [iSubscribe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f%3f%26mckv%3ds%26pcrid%3d386332687143%26plid%3d%26kword%3disubscribe%26gclid%3dCj0KCQiAq97uBRCwARIsADTziyboaFHw_S5Ng6xQEmY76DY2jktomwtYmvzPCiHn-gj9GmTnX5oTP_gaAi63EALw_wcB%26gclsrc%3daw.ds) ## **25. Pornburger: Hot Buns and Juicy Beef Cakes Cookbook** Not for the health-conscious, this book is packed with mouthwatering photos and 80 delicious burger and burger-related recipes – pretty much every kind imaginable. A fun, useful and cheeky book. Perfect for a boyfriend … if I had one! [![PornBurger: Hot Buns & Juicy Beef Cakes Cookbook | Christmas gift ideas for men](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/brumby-sunstate-pornburger-hot-buns-juicy-beefcakes-cookbook-yellow-octopus-30801355530_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555168610)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x95D2x) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x95D2x) ## **26. Bacon air freshener** Come on! Our list of Christmas gifts for men just gets better and better … as we bring to you this fabulous bacon air freshener, which is sure to delight any man on Christmas morning. [![Bacon Air Freshener ](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/archie-mcphee-bacon-air-freshener-yellow-octopus-30777403722_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555125934)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ORK3mZ) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ORK3mZ) ## **27. Australia’s Most Unbelievable True Stories** This book will provide plenty of subject matter to impress friends and family. From the unknown, the forgotten, and the very, very surprising, these unbelievable yarns are sure to impress. [![Australia's Most Unbelievable True Stories | Christmas gifts for men](https://s3-ap-southeast-2.amazonaws.com/assets.allenandunwin.com/images/small/9781760632410.jpg)](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/55g4aL) Available at: Dymocks ## **28. Barbecue tool set** Another excellent gift for the man who loves his outdoor cooking: a 10-piece barbecue tool set made of stainless steel. [![BBQ Tool Set](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/38295/19130716/4/10%2BPiece%2BBarbeque%2BTool%2BSet.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2F10-Piece-Barbeque-Tool-Set-BBQ-SET-10-LEVE1716.html) Available at: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2F10-Piece-Barbeque-Tool-Set-BBQ-SET-10-LEVE1716.html) ## **29. The Very Embarrassing Book of Dad Jokes** Ah, the good old Dad jokes. All the more funny because they’re not very funny. But that doesn’t matter; they still make us laugh. If you’re buying for your dad, make sure he never runs out of material to entertain with this handy joke-filled book. [![The Very Embarrassing Book of Dad Jokes | Christmas gifts for men](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/B00PPHORBG.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg)](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/9LgKG3) Available at: [Dymocks](https://www.dymocks.com.au/the-very-embarrassing-book-of-dad-jokes-by-ian-allen-9781907554537) ## **30. Head Shiatsu massager** No need to book a spa visit when you have this little baby at home. The heated shiatsu massager helps soothe achy muscles and relieve tension. And yes, it comes in at under $50. [![Head Shiatsu Massager ](https://i.ibb.co/7y6Rgrj/3.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QOM63x) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QOM63x) ## **31. Thermos** Keep his drinks cool or piping hot, whatever the weather. This insulated food jar is the right size for a meal, with a wide mouth that’s easy to fill. I like this particular one as the insulation is high quality. [![Thermos | Christmas gifts for men](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h6e/h33/12195015524382.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/x9M3xx) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/x9M3xx) ## **32. Dart Gift Set** For the man who loves darts, this gift set makes a brilliant Christmas gift. A bullseye when it comes to presents for men. Still searching for the perfect surprise? Our favourite [personalised gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/ "personalised gifts for kids") are thoughtful, fun, and guaranteed to make your little one smile. [![Dart Gift Set | Christmas gifts for men](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h49/hd2/28603519729694.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/AoZV9J) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/AoZV9J) ## **Summary: Unique gift ideas for men** Gifts for men come in a variety of shapes and sizes. But no matter what his interests are, these gift ideas are sure to delight the man in your life. Whether it’s gadgets, fashion and beauty, or practicality he’s into, there’s something for everyone. And, if you’re anything like me, finding the perfect gift is an adventure of its own. Also, I suggest you get your shopping done early to avoid the holiday rush. I remember the year I got my dad a portable BBQ grill for Christmas. We spent the whole evening outside, roasting marshmallows and swapping stories. It wasn’t just the gift itself, but the memories that came with it. That’s what great gifts are all about: creating memories that last a lifetime. 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Are you cursing yourself that you didn’t do that [diet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/) or starting that [fitness routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/)? Well, don’t. If your kids are dragging you to the water and skipping dessert the night before hasn’t made the blind bit of difference, there is another way. Take a look in the mirror and decide your body shape. From there, let us help you find a flattering swimsuit that accentuates the good bits and subtly hides the parts you’re not as keen on. Here are our ideas on how to choose swim wear for your body type. ***Further reading: [Which laser hair removal machine to buy in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/laser-hair-removal-machine/)*** ## How to choose swim wear for your body type ## Big boobs First on our list of swim wear for your body type: Straps and underwire are your friends if you have a bigger bust. You can wear any style you like as long as it’s supportive and comfy. Look for adjustable straps, halter bikinis or something with closure on the back that keeps the suit on no matter how active you get! [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Sle-sl3027eco_black_model_genericm_sample_crop_0_20250729_s_2048x2048-533x800.webp "Sle-sl3027eco_black_model_genericm_sample_crop_0_20250729_s_2048x2048 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.birdsnest.com.au/) We found this at: [Birdsnest](https://www.birdsnest.com.au/) ## Flat chest Ladies with flat or smaller chests are in luck because they can wear virtually any style, especially the cute trendy ones that people with bigger boobs may have a hard time pulling off. To accentuate the chest area, choose something that draws the eye to the top like ruffles, prints and embellishments. Bandeaus and bikinis are excellent choices.[](https://www.citybeach.com/au/brands/kaiami/) [![Flat chest](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dw9696861c/images/20335892/20335892-01-BK-XL.jpg)](https://www.citybeach.com/au/womens/swimwear/bikinis/) We found this at: [City Beach](https://www.citybeach.com/au/womens/swimwear/bikinis/ "City Beach") ## Plus size Plus size swimsuits are as varied as regular swimsuits, so choose whatever style complements your body type, whether its apple, pear, curvy or straight. One piece swimsuits are a popular choice because they offer full coverage, but you can get away with other styles if you make design elements work for you. Knotted waist styles are brilliant to appear slimmer in the midsection, and solid or subtle prints draw the eye away from areas you want to hide. [![Plus size Swim wear body type](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h8c/h26/28105842655262.jpg)](https://www.bigw.com.au/) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/) ## No curves Have a flat body or wish you were more curvy? Ruffles, ruching, fringe, bold prints, piping and sexy styles are the best swimsuits for your body type. These embellishments distract from a flatter butt and top and give the illusion of curves. Pick a cheeky bottom over a full coverage one to better show off your assets. [![No curves ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.28.54-pm-536x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.28.54-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.cupshe.com/collections/bikinis) We found this at: [Cupshe](https://www.cupshe.com/collections/bikinis) ## Pear shape Pear-shaped ladies are more curvy on the bottom than the top, so this means getting coverage for the bottom half whilst drawing the eye to the neckline or bust area. Try a plunging neckline with a sleek, simple bottom or a colour block bikini with a bold printed top and solid bottom. Avoid boy shorts and bottoms with extra fabric that adds bulk. [![Pear shape Swim wear body type](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/G/01/Shopbop/p/prod/products/shani/shani300251ba03/shani300251ba03_1626301184761_2-0.jpg)](https://www.shopbop.com/) We found this at: [Shopbop](https://www.shopbop.com/) ## Best swimsuits for body type ## Short legs Continuing on our list of swim wear for your body type: Cheeky bottoms are perfect for short-legged gals who want a lengthening look. Try a thong if you have a slim bottom or trendy high leg styles (think 80s and original Baywatch) that give the illusion of mile-long legs. Don’t be afraid to show skin and rock that skimpy bikini! [![Short legs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.39.56-pm-595x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.39.56-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tigerlily.com.au/) We found this at: [Tigerlily](https://tigerlily.com.au/) ## Long legs For the lucky ladies with longer legs, the sky’s the limit. You can wear any swimsuit for your body type, from full coverage bottoms to barely-there bikinis. If you want to downplay the length, though and look less gangly, try a skirt bottom, low-rise bikini or boy shorts. ## Short body Shorter torsos need the help of embellishments to lengthen the leg and draw attention to the bust area. Choose low-rise bottoms, string bikinis and anything cheeky that elongates the leg, as well as halter tops or something with an embellished or plunging neckline. [![Short body](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.45.41-pm-463x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.45.41-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.asos.com/search/?q=swim) We found this at: [ASOS](https://www.asos.com/search/?q=swim) ## Long body Two-piece swimsuits break up the length of the torso and make swimsuit shopping a lot easier…you can mix and match! Choose high waist and high cut styles but avoid swim skirts, boy leg and chunky bottoms. A colour block one-piece like this one is also perfect if you want more coverage. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/1663291235973367414.webp "1663291235973367414 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Peony Swimwear](https://us.peonyswimwear.com/products/solstice-ruched-one-piece-florentine?variant=44941333135496) ## Big tummy We can all benefit from a swimsuit that keeps the tummy area taut and flat, can’t we? It’s actually very easy to do this if you choose the right style. A one-piece suit with a plunging neckline and embellished waist is both brilliant and high-waist bottoms that you can match with a patterned or bold top. ## How to choose swimwear for your body type (cont.) ## Big butt Big bottoms are so hot right now, but if you want to de-emphasise yours at the beach or pool, you’ll need a comfortable swimsuit with full coverage. Choose solids and clean lines, and save the embellishments for the top area where you want the eye to focus. ![Big butt Swim wear body type](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.49.15-pm-637x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.49.15-pm - Beanstalk Mums") ## Flat butt A flat tush is a dilemma that can be easily solved with a bottom that gives the illusion of fullness or simply distracts the eye. Choose loud patterned, frilled and ruched bottoms and avoid full coverage ones. You can also get away with more cheeky styles like a Brazilian. [![Flat butt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.52.09-pm-530x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.52.09-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://au.cupshe.com/collections/bikinis) We found this at: [Cupshe](https://au.cupshe.com/collections/bikinis) ## Love handles Similar to a large tummy, love handles are easily hidden with a cute one-piece or something with a high-waist bottom that extends past the belly button. Separates make it a cinch to shop as you can mix and match. This one piece is also a perfect swimsuit for your body type. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/20546216-1-black.avif "20546216-1-black - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Asos](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=37863&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.asos.com%2Fau%2Friver-island-plus%2Friver-island-plus-floral-bikini-set-in-black%2Fgrp%2F71037%3Fclr%3Dblack%26colourWayId%3D60063168%26cid%3D10117%2320546216) ## Big hips Rock your big hips like Beyonce with a swimsuit that draws the eye to the slimmest part of the torso (waistline) and the chest and shoulders. Any high-waisted or high-rise bottom works perfectly as well embellished tops and deep necklines. [![Big hips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.57.20-pm-652x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-09-at-1.57.20-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://cottonon.com/AU/) We found this at: [Cotton On](https://cottonon.com/AU/) ![Swimwear for body type | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Swim-wear-for-body-type.png "Swim wear for body type - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/swimwear-for-your-body-type/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/swimwear-for-your-body-type/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping **Tags:** swimsuits, beachwear, bikinis, swimmers --- ### [The Single Mum's Ultimate Guide To Buying Gym Clothes Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/buying-gym-clothes-online/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Shopping for workout clothes and gym gear shouldn’t feel harder than a HIIT session, but sometimes it totally does. Aside from squeezing a 20-minute workout (if I’m lucky), finding gym clothes online that actually fit, feel comfy, and don’t cost a fortune can be a mission. So I put together this little guide to help you get workout clothes online, the brands, the fabrics, the must-haves, all from a real-life, sweaty, budget-conscious mum. In this guide, I’ll be your personal shopper. I will reveal the best places to shop for everything from leggings and tank tops to that sports bra you didn’t know you needed until that one time during burpees… ## **Where to Buy Affordable Gym Clothes Online** ## **[THE ICONIC](https://www.theiconic.com.au/womens-sports-all/?page=1&sort=popularity&utm_source=google&utm_medium=au_sem_nonbrand&utm_content=Clothing_BMM&utm_campaign=AU_RC_Sports_IM_Brand_On&utm_term=shop+on+clothing&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21299036522&gbraid=0AAAAADxWFGXK79LYe2BsZbm1sbhOF1ac5&gclid=CjwKCAjw9anCBhAWEiwAqBJ-c6J8zfFh5bhq5qKXm-Rb6NZUhw9jTFk3BAzxOxNAMPvjs4XF00EllBoC69oQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) – Workout Clothes for Every Style** THE ICONIC has become my go-to brand for all things gym and activewear. With a wide range of workout clothes, from comfy leggings to breezy tank tops, it ticks my boxes for proper fit, style, and fabric quality. I love that they stock high-end brands like Adidas by Stella, but also budget-friendly labels that still hold up through an all-out HIIT session. Plus, their fast shipping and easy exchange policies are gold for busy mums who don’t have time for fuss. ## **[Lululemon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43371?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lululemon.com.au%2f) – Stylish Gym Clothes Online** Lululemon’s workout clothes are made with moisture-wicking, breathable materials that keep you cool even during a tough yoga flow or sprint at the gym. Their leggings have great durability and always have a solid seam (no awkward splits mid-squat!). I swear by their tank tops and sweatpants, especially for cold mornings on the school run. Definitely one of the best places to invest in stylish, high-quality gear. ## **[Cotton On Body](https://cottonon.com/AU/co/women/womens-activewear/?srsltid=AfmBOorCq22XCxwpBn2i6F7fn3gFqlXXWHp8B09-kkHrO0xX0YJJKIjf) – Affordable Gym Clothes Online With Personality** If you’re on a budget (like me, always), Cotton On Body is an absolute lifesaver. Their gym clothes are colourful, stylish, and surprisingly tough. Expect fun prints, supportive sports bras, and leggings that don’t roll down every time you bend over. Their tank tops and bottoms are often made with soft cotton blends, so they’re suitable for light exercise like [yoga](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/ "yoga") or walks with the pram. I also love their accessory options – cute gym bags and water bottles included. ![gym clothes online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-mart-production-8846271-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-8846271 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **P.E Nation – My Go-To Store for Shorts and Sweatpants** Is your preference the bold, athleticwear aesthetic? This brand delivers on both high fashion and function. Think structured jackets, fitted gym shorts, and breathable spandex tops that look just as good on your Instagram feed as they do in a circuit class. They cater to serious gym-goers but also mums who just want to look put-together while getting the groceries. Worth it for those pieces that make you feel a bit like a boss. ## **Ryderwear – Gear Built for Strength Training** If you’re into lifting or CrossFit, Ryderwear is your one-stop gym gear brand. Their shorts and tops are built to handle tough, sweaty workouts without losing shape. The synthetic fabrics like polyester help with ventilation and moisture-wicking, so you’re not stuck in a soggy tank post-sesh. Bonus: their accessory game is strong — gloves, belts, and even gym bags designed for performance. ## **Mid-Priced to Premium Gym Clothes Online** ![gym clothes online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-shvetsa-4587364-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shvetsa-4587364 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Koral – Luxe Leggings & Stylish Gym Wear** For those days you want your leggings to double as brunch pants (no shame here), Koral is a chef’s kiss. This high-end brand uses synthetic materials that give you a full range of motion, and their glossy leggings are practically high-fashion. Their tank tops and jackets also work as chic layers for school pick-up. Yes, they’re an investment, but the fabric and fit make it worth it if you can splurge a little. ## **[Under Armour ](https://fave.co/4l7DphM)– Tough Gear for Serious Sweat** Under Armour delivers when it comes to workout clothes built for performance. If you want to unleash your inner athlete or just love feeling like a total boss at the gym, this brand has your back. Their tops, leggings, and shorts are made with moisture-wicking fabric that pulls sweat away from your body, keeping you cool and dry no matter how intense it gets. I’ve got a pair of their leggings that I’ve washed a million times, and they still look and feel like new. Talk about durability! Their base layers are ideal for winter workouts, and they do great accessories too. They’ve got breathable gloves, even tank tops that feel like armour (pun intended). It’s the kind of athletic gear that gives you confidence, even if you’re just exercising between laundry loads. ## **Alo Yoga – Soft, Breathable & Instagram-Worthy** Designed with the yogi in mind, Alo’s workout clothes offer incredible breathability and soft fabric. Their leggings and tank tops are seamless and supportive, so you can move freely during yoga or stretch sessions. Everything is moisture-wicking, and their cold-weather jackets are a fave in my winter gym rotation. Bonus: they’re super cute, and yes, you’ll see them all over Instagram. ## **ASOS – Trendy and Affordable Accessories** ASOS is a bit of a boutique jackpot when it comes to finding trendy gym and workout staples. They’ve got a wide range of brands, styles and prints, so whether you prefer matching sweatpants sets or fitted tops for running, you’re sorted. Their accessory section offers a wide variety, too. ![gym clothes online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-cottonbro-5310719-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-5310719 - Beanstalk Mums") Stockist: ASOS ## **[Nike](https://fave.co/4ldDHE8) – Functional from Top to Bottom** When I need gym gear that just works (think no fuss), Nike is my fallback brand. They’ve got everything from durable nylon leggings to practical jackets that can handle both rain and sweat. Perfect for everyday exercise or when I’m dragging the kids to soccer and need to sneak in a jog. They also carry runners and accessories for every range of sports, so there’s no need to buy from another store. ## **Final Thoughts: Where to Buy Gym Clothes Online** When you’re a single mum, sometimes just putting on your gym clothes is the win. Some days I only wear my activewear to wrangle kids and run errands, and that’s okay. But on the days I do get to the gym, I want to feel comfy, confident, and ready to move. Good workout clothes can significantly impact your performance, even if you’re only lifting groceries and small humans. The trick is to find the brands that work for your body, your workout, and your budget. Of course, embrace that not every legging or top will be perfect. I’ve had my fair share of sweaty mishaps, sheer fabric, and leggings that slid down mid-lunge (classic). But once I lived the process, I’ve found what works for me, and now, hopefully, for you too! Trust me, you’ll need to get the right gym clothes to make you feel just a little bit more like the strong, capable woman you are. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Where-to-buy-activewear-online.png "Where to buy activewear online - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/buying-gym-clothes-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/buying-gym-clothes-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping **Tags:** exercise, activewear, gym clothes, pants, crop tops, runners, sports bras --- ### [Practical Ways to Restore Mental and Emotional Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-mental-and-emotional-health/) **Published:** October 29, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** If you’ve ever felt stretched thin juggling work, kids, and everything in between, you’re not alone. Many single mums carry incredible strength, but even the strongest need time to recharge. Your mental and emotional health deserves the same care and attention you give to everyone else because it’s the foundation of your overall health and well-being. Finding balance doesn’t have to mean big changes. It’s about small, intentional steps that restore calm, clarity, and confidence in daily life. When you focus on your emotional well-being, you’re not just surviving; you’re creating space to thrive and cope with challenges in healthier ways. In this guide, we’ll explore practical ways to improve mental and emotional health through simple, sustainable habits. We’ll also share a few trusted Aussie finds from partners like Biome Eco Stores and Chemist Direct that support calm, self-care, and sustainable wellness, because you deserve to feel steady, supported, and strong. ## Understanding Mental and Emotional Health Your mental and emotional health shapes how you think, feel, and handle life’s ups and downs. Mental health affects how you focus, manage stressful situations, and relate to others. Emotional health influences how you express feelings, form healthy relationships, and find a sense of purpose. When both are aligned, you feel emotionally healthy, balanced, capable, and connected. But when one is stretched, the other often follows. Emotional exhaustion or chronic stress can affect your mood, while ongoing negative emotions can impact your physical and mental state. And if you’re a single mum, feeling numb or worn out doesn’t mean you’re failing, it simply means you’ve been giving your all. You might need a little restoration if you’ve noticed: - Constant irritability or snapping over small things - Trouble concentrating or feeling mentally foggy - Emotional numbness or detachment - Difficulty getting enough sleep, even when exhausted - A sense of being “on edge” most of the time Recognising these signs is a powerful first step. From here, you can start making small choices to improve your emotional health and reduce stress one moment at a time. ## Practical Ways to Improve Mental and Emotional Health Improving your mental and emotional health isn’t about perfection but small, sustainable shifts that fit into everyday life. Think of it as gentle course corrections that help you breathe a little easier and cope a little better each day. So, here are some easy, everyday ways to start: - Begin your morning with gratitude or intention, such as a quiet moment for reflection before the day rushes in. - Prioritise enough sleep, regular meals, and gentle movement like stretching or a walk. - Break big tasks into smaller steps to ease overwhelm. - [Keep a journal](https://singlemamaway.com/healing-after-divorce/ "Keep a journal") to focus on positive feelings and personal growth. - Create calm at home with soothing scents from [Biome’s](https://www.biome.com.au/) pure essential oil blend that helps relieve stress. - Stay connected with supportive communities that provide emotional support to reduce feelings of isolation. And remember, health and well-being grow through consistency, not perfection. Scheduling “mental breaks” is a form of self-care and a powerful way to improve your overall emotional balance. ![restore mental and emotional health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Mental-and-emotional-health-1.jpg "Mental and emotional health 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Mental Health: Techniques to Manage Stress and Anxiety Stress and anxiety disorders can creep in quietly, especially when you’re managing work, family, and everything in between. Common triggers include financial pressure, lack of rest, and emotional overload. The good news? Simple techniques can help you manage stress, calm your mind, and protect your mental well-being. You can try these real-world coping skills, such as: - **Deep breathing** – To steady your nervous system, try box breathing — in for four, hold for four, out for four. - **Ground yourself** – Focus on what you can see, hear, and feel to ease emotional distress. - **Take mindful pauses** – A few minutes of mindfulness or gentle meditation can reset your energy. - **Move gently** – A short walk or light yoga can reduce stress and boost your physical health. - **Support your body** – Invest in [affordable wellness options from Chemist Direct, such as magnesium supplements](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/herbs-of-gold-magnesium-chewable-tab-x-60?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Chemist+Direct&cfclick=438f0196b66947bbbfdcc547ac3ba39f "affordable wellness options from Chemist Direct, such as magnesium supplements") or vitamins. But always check with a pharmacist or GP first. Managing stress is about awareness, not avoidance. With the right tools, you can cope calmly and bounce back stronger. ## Emotional Well-Being: How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience Resilience is not about avoiding hardship but the ability to bounce back after setbacks. For single mums, emotional resilience means growing through life’s challenges, not just surviving them. It’s one of the most powerful ways to improve your mental and emotional health. So, here are some gentle ways to strengthen your resilience: - **Reframe challenges** – Instead of “Why is this happening?”, ask “What can this teach me?” - **Celebrate small wins** – Recognising progress builds positive feelings and personal growth. - **Build your circle** – Stay connected with friends or mentors who lift you up and provide emotional support. Resilience grows through compassion, moderation, and consistency. So, each time you pause and practise kind self-talk, you’re building inner strength. ## Mindfulness Practices for Mental and Emotional Health Mindfulness means paying attention to the present moment without judgment or pressure. For single mums, practising mindfulness can help ease mental clutter, calm emotions, and restore focus when life feels overwhelming. It’s a small act with a big impact on your mental and emotional health. So, here are a few easy ways to weave mindfulness into a busy day: - **Take breaks** – Take a 5-minute breathing break before school pick-up or bedtime. - **Practise mindful eating** – Slow down, notice flavours, and enjoy regular meals without multitasking. If you don’t know where to start, check out this article for tips on [mindful eating for busy mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/mindful-eating-for-busy-mums/ "mindful eating for busy mums"). - **Add mindful movement** – Do gentle stretching or yoga to stay physically active and balanced. - **Gratitude journaling** – Keep a short gratitude journal to centre your thoughts. - **Mindful meditation** – Practice mindful meditation. Check out [ozdingo shopping for eco-friendly yoga mats](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84267?Url=https%3a%2f%2fozdingo.com.au%2fproducts%2fjade-yoga-level-one-mat-classic-purple-copy) for your mindfulness meditations that are both relaxing and kind to the planet. Even a few mindful moments each day can improve your health and relieve stress, helping you feel grounded in everyday life. ## Self-Care Strategies for Emotional Balance and Wellness While bubble baths and pamper nights absolutely count, self-care also means setting boundaries, resting without guilt, and nourishing your body and mind. For single mums, it’s about creating small, meaningful moments that refill your energy tank and protect your mental and emotional health. So, here are some simple self-care strategies you can try: - Schedule intentional “me-time” each day because even ten quiet minutes can make a difference. - Say no without guilt when you’re at capacity. Protecting your peace is a form of self-care as well. - Set tech boundaries after hours to give your mind space to rest and recharge. - Pay attention to your health. Choose whole, balanced meals and explore [organic foods from Chemist Direct](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/organic-and-gluten-free/organic?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Chemist+Direct&cfclick=188777e6afa2460e8545e335f4df7656 "organic foods from Chemist Direct") to support your body’s natural energy and calm Caring for yourself consistently also supports your well-being, reduces chronic stress, and enhances your quality of life. ![restore mental and emotional health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Mental-and-emotional-health-3.jpg "Mental and emotional health 3 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Overcoming Emotional Burnout for Health and Well-Being Emotional burnout is a deep fatigue that rest alone cannot fix. It’s often caused by prolonged chronic stress and emotional overload, which is a sign that your mental and physical health needs attention. But recognising this early can help prevent more serious health problems. Here are a few ways to start restoring your energy: - **Take structured breaks** – Step away, even briefly, and delegate tasks where you can. - **Prioritise rest and quiet** – Allow moments of stillness without the pressure to be productive. - **Reconnect with joy** – Rediscover creative hobbies, nature walks, or anything that lights you up again. - **Support your body gently** – Check out wellness options from [Chemist Direct, such as quality vitamins and supplements](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/vitamins-and-supplements?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Chemist+Direct&cfclick=42b083ae8c56430f8e70edc7a0f4e925 "Chemist Direct, such as quality vitamins and supplements") to boost energy, balance mood, and support relaxation. If burnout feels persistent, seek professional help from a mental health professional, psychiatrist, or [support services that offer confidential care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/ "support services that offer confidential care"). Healing takes patience, but every act of restoration helps you improve your emotional balance. ## Building Healthy Coping Mechanisms Healthy coping skills help you respond to stress without relying on avoidance or using substances. The goal isn’t to eliminate hardship but to find balanced ways to cope and feel more in control of your mental wellbeing. So, it’s important to build healthy coping mechanisms, such as: - Pause instead of powering through by taking a few slow breaths before reacting. - Express, don’t suppress. Write, paint, or talk it out to cope with challenges. - Doing short walks or yoga helps reduce stress and improve physical and mental energy. - Take natural supplements or wellness kits that help calm the mind and boost energy. Over time, these habits improve your overall emotional balance and help you relate to others with more patience and compassion. ## Final Takeaway: Restoring Inner Peace and Emotional Stability Caring for your mental and emotional health is all about consistent restoration. Every mindful breath, act of self-care, and moment of gratitude strengthens your health and emotional balance. You can start with one small action today, such as meditation, a short walk, or lighting a candle. Even these things that help can shift your mindset and reduce stress. You’re never alone in this journey. Stay connected with others, share sensitive information only with trusted supports, and know that mental illness doesn’t define your worth. Explore tools that make restoration easier, such as [Biome for sustainable calm](https://www.biome.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=2df69ceffc59484fa7ab55756cd33f29 "Biome for sustainable calm") to [Chemist Direct for trusted wellness support](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_term=&utm_campaign=Chemist+Direct&cfclick=48433dc5cf4b4a9997bae35aa311fdea "Chemist Direct for trusted wellness support"). You deserve peace, strength, and balance in everyday life because your mental health, emotional health, and well-being matter deeply. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-mental-and-emotional-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-mental-and-emotional-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** mental health, self-care, emotional health, mental and emotional health --- ### [Inexpensive Self-care During The Holiday Season Made Easy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/inexpensive-self-care-during-the-holiday-season/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Self-care during the holiday season can feel like a distant dream — somewhere between the gift wrapping, the school concerts, and wondering why every shop is playing the same three carols on repeat. For many single mums, December brings a strange mix of magic and mental gymnastics, and it’s far too easy to forget taking care of your own needs while trying to create a special time for your kids. The truth? Keeping even a tiny piece of your energy intact matters. With a handful of [simple habits and gentle, practical ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/), you can protect your wellbeing, stay grounded, and still make the holidays feel warm and memorable for your family. ## Practical self-care during the holiday season for single mums When holidays are often seen as a time of joy, it’s easy to feel pressure to make everything perfect. But perfection isn’t the goal—presence is. - **Create a simple holiday routine.** Schedule time for you before the calendar fills up. Add your self-care activities to the list alongside gift wrapping or cooking. - **Time-block your energy.** If the to-do list is growing, try time-blocking. Set aside 15–20 minutes for deep breathing or meditation each day. - **Use tools to stay centred.** Mindfulness apps or [self-care kits](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fmcobeauty-full-size-6-piece-skincare-bundle) can help you slow down, recharge, and feel connected to the present moment. I remember one Christmas when I tried to do it all—decorate, cook, and organise gifts solo. By Christmas Eve, I was exhausted and teary. That year, I learnt that “good enough” really is enough. ### How can I realistically practise self-care during the holiday season? Start small—even five minutes of rest or quiet tea before bed counts. The goal is consistency. You can also journal three small acts of self-care you’ll prioritise. ## Holiday self-care strategies for single mums Planning ahead helps you stay anchored amidst the holiday hustle and bustle. - **Plan early.** Spread out your holiday tasks so you don’t feel overwhelmed. - **Delegate what you can.** Whether it’s getting your kids involved or asking family and friends to bring a dish, it lightens the mental load. - **Honour your limits.** Create boundaries around social interactions or events that drain you. ![self-care during the holiday season](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-gustavo-fring-5523172-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gustavo-fring-5523172 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### What strategies help single mums stay sane during the holidays? Focus your attention on what truly matters—connection. An [organisational planner](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/4G4BN3) can also help you stay sane and focused during this period. ***Try this:*** Note one strategy you’ll implement this week. ## Managing holiday stress while caring for your family - Managing holiday stress isn’t about avoiding it—it’s about finding ways to navigate it. - Recognise triggers like financial stress, lack of sleep, or unrealistic expectations. - Communicate mindfully with your kids and relatives—set clear expectations about what you can and can’t do. - Allow yourself to say no without guilt when you need rest. One year, I skipped a big family lunch to spend the day at the beach with my son. We ate sandwiches, laughed, and felt content. It was the first Christmas I truly enjoyed after my separation. ### How do I manage stress without affecting my kids? Kids mirror your energy—when you slow down, they do too. Practise being mindful together. ## Mindful self-care during the holiday season When you feel pulled in all directions, mindfulness helps you return to the centre. - **Deep breathing.** Notice your inhalation and exhalation to calm the nervous system. - Try five minutes of meditation in the car before school pick-up. - Be present in the moment—notice lights, laughter, and small joys. ### What mindfulness practices are quick and effective for mums? Even two mindful minutes can help you feel grounded. The key is to remember to take time. ***Try this:*** Take five minutes today to practise a grounding exercise. ## Quick relaxation techniques as self-care during the holiday season When you’re short on time, small acts of unwinding can still replenish your energy. - Stretch while your coffee brews. - Listen to calming music or nature sounds. - Light a candle during dinner for a moment of stillness. ### How can I relax quickly when time is limited? Micro-breaks matter. They help you reset and bring you joy. Utilise relaxation tools or wellness products that can help you unwind in seconds. ***Try this:*** Commit to one 5-minute break today. ## Setting boundaries to protect your energy Boundaries protect your peace and your mental health. - Say no without guilt to extra events or people and events that drain you. - Set boundaries around the time you spend on holiday errands or social media. - Check in with yourself daily to notice when you’re nearing overload. ### How do I enforce boundaries without feeling selfish? Remind yourself that boundaries help you show up calmer and kinder for others. Books or [online courses](https://singlemamaway.com/product-category/courses/) can also help you learn to say no kindly. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-tim-douglas-6210815-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tim-douglas-6210815 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Budget-friendly self-care during the holiday season Self-care doesn’t need to cost much. - Make time for a hobby or craft that brings joy. - Enjoy a nutritious meal or festive beverage just for you. - Find small, meaningful connections with people who uplift you. - [Affordable gift sets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fchristmas-gift-hampers%2fchristmas-treats-2%2f) can make lovely pampering treats. ### How can I enjoy self-care during the holiday season without overspending? Make a list of three low-cost treats for yourself. Focus on what revitalises you, not what costs more. ## Creating joyful rituals for you and your kids Traditions don’t have to be elaborate; they just need to nurture connection. - Bake together, walk at night to see the lights, or start a gratitude jar. - Incorporate being mindful and gratitude into your daily routine. - Focus on meaningful connections over material gifts. ### How can I balance fun and self-care during the holiday season? Choose rituals that respect both you and your children’s joy. I’ve learned that [kids’ activity kits](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/galt-fluffy-friends-kids-childrens-interactive-activity-kit-play-toy-playset-5y-/p/9900215469) or books can inspire fun rituals. ## Coping strategies for emotional overload If loneliness, holiday blues, or feelings of isolation hit, you’re not alone. - Reach out to supportive friends, a psychologist, or online groups. - Use coping strategies like journaling, meditation, or gentle walks. - Remember: helping others can also help you feel connected. - Counselling apps or support tools can help you process emotions safely. ### How can I cope when I feel emotionally overwhelmed? It’s okay to vent, cry, and rest. Healing happens in small, honest moments. ## The ultimate form of self-care during the holiday season: Prioritising rest amidst festive chaos Rest is not optional—it’s how you recharge. - Schedule time for naps or quiet moments. - Keep your sleep routine consistent, even with late nights. - Make rest part of your plans, just like meals and gifts. - Sleep aids or relaxation apps can help you unwind at night. ### How can I get proper rest while managing holiday chaos? Getting enough rest helps you stay patient, calm, and joyful. Commit to one daily rest or pause period. ## Final reminder: Self-care during the holiday season The holidays are a time for connection and cheer—but they’re also a reminder to slow down and nurture yourself. When you support your mental health through small, mindful acts of self-love, you not only survive the season—you create moments that truly bring you joy. You’re not alone in this, Mum. Remember to take time for yourself, honour your needs, and trust that calm and joy are possible—even in the busiest season. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/inexpensive-self-care-during-the-holiday-season/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/inexpensive-self-care-during-the-holiday-season/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal, Christmas --- ### [Affordable Home Office Essentials for Mums Starting a Side Hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/affordable-home-office-essentials-for-mums/) **Published:** December 9, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Starting a home-based side hustle or small business is an exciting idea for many Australian mums — the flexibility, independence, and chance to earn from your skills is a real win. But to make the most of those precious work windows (during nap time, school hours, or after bedtime), you’ll need a space that helps you focus without blowing the budget. The good news? Creating a functional home office doesn’t mean buying expensive gear or converting a whole room. With a few home office essentials and some simple organisation, you can set yourself up to succeed. A well-planned workspace helps you switch into business mode quickly, even when time’s tight. It boosts concentration, adds comfort, and signals — to you and your household — that your work matters. Below are some practical, affordable must-haves to help you build a home office that works beautifully with busy mum-life. ## 1. Begin With a Small but Committed Workplace To make an effective office, you do not have to have an entire room. Even a small hollowed-out spot would count. The most important thing will be to have a specific place where you will know that it is time to work. This may be part of your bedroom, a tiny space in the lounge room or a small nook beneath the stairs or even a fold-out desk in the hallway. Wall-mounted desks or small workstations are the best options when space is limited. They consume less space, and they provide you with a distinct space where your business activities reside, and this keeps you at ease and in the mindset to work. ## 2. Select an Affordable Desk That meets your requirements The place you will spend most of your time is your desk, which will be the centre of your home office, so you should select what fits your space and workflow. You do not need to spend much; you can find numerous cheap items at department stores, online, or at a second-hand sale. Flatpack desks are also stable, light and simple to build. Used office furniture is particularly robust and might be a great deal–lots of individuals make wonderful deals as they peruse commercial furniture for sale. When choosing your desk, you can think about how big the space is, do you need in-built shelves or drawers, and what area you need to have for your laptop or other materials. It can be useful even a small table that is well-considered. ## 3. How to Buy a Furniture Chair and Spend Under $300 ![home office essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-fotios-photos-1263558-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-fotios-photos-1263558 - Beanstalk Mums") Even a good chair is not a luxury; it will assist you to remain upright, prevent back pain, and be more comfortable when working longer hours. Most of the mums do not take the issue of proper seating seriously until they start experiencing aches. Luckily, you do not have to buy a fancy ergonomic chair in order to receive appropriate support. Find a chair that is of a reasonable price with an adjustable seat, supportive back, and a cushion. You can also upgrade a plain chair with a cheap lumbar cushion, seat pad or footrest (to make it). Finding comfort is the reason why you will remain productive and make sure that your working time is not painful. ## 4. Employees need to have good lighting during early and late working hours Since working mums usually fit the activities in the early mornings or late evenings, it is necessary to make sure that there is proper lighting. Lighting is so bad that it puts a strain on your eyes and makes you feel fatigued sooner. Effort to have your desk close to a window so that you can enjoy the free natural light throughout the day. To use during the night, you might want to purchase a cheap yet efficient LED desk lamp or a clip-on light that can be attached to your desk or shelf. Daylight-type bulbs contribute to the establishment of a clean, bright working environment that makes you alert. Good lighting makes you look better on a video call, too, which is also a professional touch without having to pay a lot for the lighting. ## 5. Noise-Cancelling Headphones in Their Busy Homes Well, to be frank, mum life is noisy. Be it children playing, a TV playing in the background or the house in full swing, the background noise can be distracting. Two affordable, noisy-cancellation headphones can change the world. They assist you to maintain attention, make professional calls, and build a silent mental nimbus even in the disturbing surroundings. You do not have to utilise the high-end brands; numerous low-cost models provide high-quality performance in the course of ordinary business. ## 6. Clever Storage to Clean Your Space and Organise it Being organised is among the greatest difficulties with mums at home as they work, during which your workspace has to be shared with family spaces. Cheap storage facilities can assist you to keep things tidy so that your office does not get lost in household mess. Basic stuff such as drawer units, shelves, baskets, magazine holders and desktop organisers is a game-changer. Vertical storage serves to make small spaces look larger, and labelled boxes assist in ensuring that you pack up your work at the end of the day in a quick manner. Having a clean work environment will make you think straight and will make transitioning between mum life and business less stressful. ## 7. The Essentials of Technology to Start With Affordably ![home office essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-pixabay-159839-1200x798.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-159839 - Beanstalk Mums") Even to operate a small business productively, you do not need the best technology in the world. Many businesses run by mums need nothing more than a simple laptop or a tablet. Second-hand or refurbished devices are also reliable and much more affordable. To enhance comfort and productivity, a budget keyboard and a mouse may be added. A simple printer can prove effective in businesses with much paperwork, whereas a significant number of mums are satisfied with digital reports. In case your house has Wi-Fi dead zones, a cheap Wi-Fi extender will help you out before you decide to upgrade your whole internet package. Some clever decisions would provide you with a fluent electronic setup without any unjustifiable expenses. ## 8. Plans, Whiteboards, and Resources to Be Organised Mums have various schedules to take care of children, home and now business. It is better to have everything in sight. You can use a weekly planner, a small whiteboard with things to do or a plain notebook with what you need to get done every day. Organisational tools can be used to avoid overload, maintain a focus on your objectives, and are able to subdivide bigger projects into smaller steps. ## 9. Plain Decor, which motivates to work A house office must be attractive even when it is small. There is no need to spend a lot of money on fancy decorations; only minor details can activate inspiration. The changes in your workspace could include a plant or a framed quote or a cute mug or a candle, or a soft throw. Select those things that put you in touch with your ground and inspiration as you sit down to work. ## Final Thoughts: Affordable Home Office Essentials for Mums Building a home office without causing a fortune is quite possible for mums who [begin a side hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/) or any small business. By making a few considered decisions and spending less on basic needs, it is possible to create a workspace that is comfortable, tidy, and inspiring. It does not have to be flawless, it must only work in your favour and help you move forward day by day. The tiniest, the most economical system may turn out to be the beginning of a marvel. Discover premium workplace solutions tailored to modern businesses at corporateofficeint.com, where innovation meets efficiency. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/affordable-home-office-essentials-for-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/affordable-home-office-essentials-for-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career --- ### [25 Amazing gift ideas for young girls (primary school age)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-young-girls/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Some think that girls are notoriously hard to shop for, but I disagree! I have always found present-buying for my daughters so much fun, especially when they were young. Here are some gift ideas for young girls that are sure to delight. Choosing anything pink and sparkly tends to go down well, like unicorns, fairies and princesses. But, little girls also love fun garden and sports stuff like planting pots, baskets, roller skating, and anything water related, such as a mask and snorkel or a fun inflatable. My firstborn loves music, and I’m sure she’ll appreciate concert tickets someday. She loved the over-the-ear headphones she received for her birthday. On the other hand, my youngest loves a craft activity, think beads, arts or (as included in this article) a jelly soap kit. But it might be that you are buying for a quieter, more studious, little girl who likes to curl up with a good book, scribble in her secret diary, complete with lock and key, or slip on the softest slippers. From Sol De Janeiro mist to Hailey Bieber Rhode suction phone case, there are heaps of choices as Gen Alpha girls love everything! Today, BaubleBar, Sol De Janeiro, Lululemon, Kendra Scott, Squishmallow, JellyCats, and Pink Sugar are some popular brands among this age group, too, thanks (or no thanks) to TikTok influencers. With so much choice, I thoroughly enjoyed putting together this curated list of gift ideas for young girls. No need to spend hours scrolling through search engines. Ready? Scroll down! ***Need more ideas? See: [30 Cute little stocking stuffers for little girls.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cute-little-stocking-stuffers-for-little-girls/)*** ## 25 Gift ideas for young girls (primary school age) ## 1. Star Projector When it comes to presents for young girls, star projectors are genius. See colourful star formations on walls and ceilings when you turn off the lights. One of my daughters used it as a night light for years. ![Star Projector](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/46271bd151b58abdef51af1989103afe53d33632d419ba662da0170ffa2d92fd?ts=1729770933) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/star-master-star-projector/47252/1) ## 2. An Electric (or Normal) Scooter Next up in our gift guide, you can’t go wrong with a scooter for a young girl. We never made it to the electric variety, but they are all the rage now. Think about where the scooter will get most use, as some places do not allow electric scooter use in parks or pedestrian pathways, in which case a good old-fashioned scooter would be a better choice. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Stitch-fixed-inline-scooter.jpg "Stitch fixed inline scooter - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/QY01YM)Stitch fixed inline scooter I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QY01YM) ## 3. Pool Inflatables Little girls who love to swim or just lounge in the pool need an awesome inflatable. We found it worth paying a bit extra for one that lasts the season, as they are rarely used to relax on. My girls would use them for jumping on and off and seeing how many of their friends could get on board before it sank. ![Pool Inflatables](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/a7cde2698c859cd78319a936c75179e27d821e829c70d0e7d2f5ca14f1c97adc?ts=1729770964) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/intex-inflatable-pool-cruisers-assorted/60467/1) ## 4. Underwater Camera Techie gifts for young girls are always a winner. A handy underwater camera like this one from is perfect for summer at the beach or poolside. It’s even one of the best gifts for teen girls. Because of its size, it’s the perfect stocking stuffer. ![Underwater Camera](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/925a7cb1b3b86985af3cc9081d6d0b49fff660d8b70283fcdef9a28191e41466?ts=1729771001) I found this at: [Bang Good](https://au.banggood.com/HD368-2_7K-48MP-Full-HD-Underwater-Digital-Camera-10FT-Waterproof-Dual-Screen-16X-Digital-Zoom-for-Snorkelling-Swimming-p-1994348.html?cur_warehouse=CN&ID=6287842&rmmds=search) ## 5. Hoodie Blanket A hoodie blanket is like a comforting and warm hug that can soothe nighttime anxieties and help young girls sleep better. I recently bought a cosy blanket for my youngest daughter, who suffers from anxiety, and she adores it. She says it’s like having a plush that hugs her. ![Hoodie Blanket](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/6cc754c1d19b7d2938fa35c2922bf2b190c7831511e75ce73d6e0a5b100495e8?ts=1729771025) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/make-it-real-unicorn-hoodie-blanket/47857/1) ## Gifts for Girls (cont.) ## 6. Play Tent Level up your playhouse with a pink princess castle tent that’s perfect for indoor or outdoor fun. I love that it’s sturdy, durable, and easy to assemble. You can choose from other designs that are less girly, too. ![Play Tent](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/d59334f0ba4826d7850642d580953fa329da7fa31a4304d1341d6239d74e71f9?ts=1729771050) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/princess-castle-tent/60277/1) ## 7. Funky Jewellery Friendship bracelets have been viral lately. This princess jewellery-making set comes with multicoloured beads and charms. Now that’s an adorable gift for your little crafter. They can even use it to make bubble initial necklaces and other personalised jewellery! ![Funky Jewellery](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/e94488dd2178d992f6324e9e4fbba77a0773c2dae43afd750ac85f3bf8185738?ts=1729771075) I found this at: Toymate ## 8. Cool Pencil Case What is it about young girls and their pencil cases? Mine was obsessed with them. It’s also a handy gift for a young girl’s new school term or to help her keep stationery tidy around the home … in our dreams anyway! ![Cool Pencil Case](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Hot-dawg-pencil-case.webp "Hot dawg pencil case - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Toymate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75697?Url=https%3A%2F%2Ftoymate.com.au%2Fhot-dawg-pencil-case%2F) ## 9. Wireless Earbuds If you have an active girl, I’m sure she’ll love wireless earbuds. Never get tangled in wires again as you listen to your fave tunes and watch movies. Life changed when my girls got their own buds and over-the-head headphones, and I wasn’t subjected to their loud music and kids’ TV shows on a daily basis. Make sure to pick one in their favourite colour. Peace at last … [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Jbl-wave-buds-true-wireless-earbuds-800x800.jpg "Jbl wave buds true wireless earbuds - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/qWVdzj)Jbl wave buds true wireless earbuds I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/qWVdzj) ## 10. Roller Skates I love presents for young girls that improve balance and motor skills. Best-selling roller skates like these are made for street and park skating. I recommend a helmet too. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/61umdqbcil%20_ac_sy695_.jpg "61umdqbci+l _ac_sy695_ - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/GIMKOUNN-Roller-Sneakers-Charge-Wheels/dp/B0CQPGVCH5?th=1&psc=1) ## What to Get for a Young Girl (cont.) ## 11. Soap Kit And because we love DIY kits, here’s a soap set that lets your little girl make cute soaps for bath time. You can turn it into their first introduction to skin care. Our editor swears by this specific kit, as she had recently hosted an unforgettable sleepover for her 7-year-old’s friends. You can also buy their favourite scents separately. ![Soap Kit/gift ideas for young girls](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/5a87d653a69ca0282a0bbdf0baa8f6fd6621e6f6615fdc4de6a33f6133cb3565?ts=1729771148) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/clementoni-science-play-soaps-bath-bombs-kit/65377/1) ## 12. Satchel This trendy satchel makes a great gift for young girls. It’s just the right size for school or travel. I think teenage girls would still quite like this one as a purse or belt bag … my 16-year-old surely does! ![Llama Satchel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Yummy-desert-satchel-bag-713x800.webp "Yummy desert satchel bag - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Toymate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75697?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftoymate.com.au%2fyummy-desert-satchel-bag-llama-theme%2f) ## 13. Their Favourite Dress Up Playing dress-up is not only fun, but it also does wonders for your child’s creativity and imagination. Costume Box has heaps of cute designs for any occasion. ![Their Favourite Dress Up](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/2.png "2 - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Costume Box](https://www.costumebox.com.au/products/little-storybook-mermaid-sequin-girls-costume) ## 14. A Beach Towel We go through about ten beach towels a year in our house. I have no idea what happens to them all. For this reason, a beach towel makes a great gift, but maybe don’t spend too much in case it gets lost. ![A Beach Towel](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/7c83415e96c95ac99a9ebfb0080eab681df2d54ece4543659fc810b1826191dc?ts=1729771235) I found this at: [Harris Scarfe](https://www.harrisscarfe.com.au/home/bathroom/beach-towels/sheridan-tully-kids-beach-towel/BP661084001-lt-multi) ## 15. New Bedcovers New bedcovers are the best for adults and kids alike. New linen definitely makes bedtime more exciting. Make the most of buying the cute patterns while they’re young. My girls now have grey and green, respectively! ![New Bedcovers](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/3c5268635d29d8f4adc4d39c1ed924e2cd9cd8a5170b33c74ce2a12a9980eecd?ts=1729771262) I found this at: [Bed Bath n’ Table](https://www.bedbathntable.com.au/kids/kids-bedding/kids-quilt-covers) ## Best Gift Ideas for Little Girls (cont.) ## 16. Anything Harry Potter Few fandoms are as beloved by young children as the timeless Harry Potter. Any gift with a Harry Potter theme is sure to be a hit, like this Luna Lovegood fashion doll. ![Anything Harry Potter](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/7e9cea4644c562a6af7609adbc79f80095f7600fb06aba29ad258a5b4e1e41e5?ts=1729771288) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys ](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/harry-potter-luna-deluxe-fashion-doll/60039/1) ## 17. Science Kit Looking for educational gifts for young girls? This science kit from Toymate lets your little scientist decorate her own glitter-covered pet. ![Science Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Sensory-science-kit.webp "Sensory science kit - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: Toymate ## 18. Books! Give your young reading machine more fuel for the imagination. QBD is my go-to shop for popular titles like this sticker book. You can also find cookbooks for kids, if that’s what your little girl likes. Their eyes get a rest from the tablet or Nintendo Switch, too. ![Books](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/eb3abb253caa43498cb47f02720cd89bad0fb3adb9cd305d356366b9d51238fb?ts=1729771317) I found this at: [QBD](https://www.qbd.com.au/bluey-lets-stick/bluey/9781761345432/) ## 19. Mask and Snorkel Set A high-quality mask and snorkel set is essential for little swimmers. This one has a splash guard and mask with a silicone skirt for comfortable wear. Great for the beach but equally as much fun in a swimming pool. This is also one of the best gifts for teenage girls. ![Mask and Snorkel Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Catzon-kids-snorkel-mask-full-face-with-camera-mount-800x800.jpg "Catzon kids snorkel mask full face with camera mount - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [OZSALE](https://ozsale.com.au/) ## 20. Anything Personalised! Nothing can brighten up a young girl’s mood more than personalised gifts. From mugs, tumblers, shirts, pillow cases, and even money boxes, she’d like a gift that was especially made for her. ![Personalised ABC beads](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Just-my-style-personalized-abc-beads-772x800.jpg "Just my style personalized abc beads - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: Toymate ## 21. Earring Box This sweet, musical trinket box with a dancing ballerina takes me right back to my own childhood. The perfect place to store your little girl’s treasures. Alternatively, you can get a small travel jewellery case. ![Earring Box/gift ideas for young girls](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/1ec16f7b9ee7845f2654b4be751676da453bedfb07495b81b683e81cee888b49?ts=1729771504) I found this at: [OZSALE](https://ozsale.com.au/) ## 22. Art Kit Artsy presents for young girls are perfect to get the creative juices flowing. This mould and paint kit has everything they need to make cool clay projects. ![Art Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Sparkle-decal-art-kit-794x800.jpg "Sparkle decal art kit - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Toymate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75697?Url=https%3A%2F%2Ftoymate.com.au%2Fsparkle-decal-art-kit%2F) ## 23. Board Games If your child is a fan of I Spy, they will love this game. Board games are a great way to entertain and educate your little girls. ![Board Games](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/72bee74d087767d7fad6c017ce451d3afb04cb3d1c21227e30b022a8978013e8?ts=1729771560) I found this at: [Spotlight](https://www.spotlightstores.com/art-craft/kids-craft/games-puzzles/i-spy-preschool-game/BP80609380-multicoloured) ## 24. Easel Crayola’s double-sided portable easel (dry-erase and chalkboard) is the perfect present for your little artist. The surface is magnetic, so you can hang art, and there’s space for art supplies underneath. ![Easel/gift ideas for young girls](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/7ef4dde7d1fbcfe85aa68775c0469885a410499fc6d20c6f1d206366ac3f532d?ts=1729771591) I found this at: [Casey’s Toys ](https://www.caseystoys.com.au/products/crayola-tripod-easel-accessories/65211/1) ## 25. Bed in a Bag If your little girls are like mine, they will love a sleepover. This cool bed in a bag makes it so much more fun and means they can camp out anywhere. It comes in different colours and designs. ![Bed in a bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/4.png "4 - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/Bedding-Bed-Bag-Toddlers-Comforter/dp/B0BJ33D9FD?th=1) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-young-girls/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-young-girls/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, gifts, Xmas, tweens --- ### [Anxiety Causing Stomach Pain: How Stress Impacts Digestive Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/anxiety-causing-stomach-pain-how-stress-impacts-digestive-health/) **Published:** June 30, 2026 **Author:** Earl Wagner **Content:** At 6 am, the alarm goes off. Laptops, lunches, messages and forms are waiting. And then there is the vague, nagging sensation of a tightening stomach. Easy to blame breakfast or skip it. But sometimes the stomach is merely reacting to another force altogether: the steady, unrelenting burden of responsibility for managing a family. Many parents (and especially many who are navigating divorce and/or sole parenting) carry stress in their bodies. Their records show this stress. The majority of the time, it manifests physically as digestive issues. A tight knot in the belly due to a difficult morning isn’t random: it’s your body reacting to the cumulative impact of the burdens you’ve been carrying. Understanding why can remove much of the mystery and concern associated with those uncomfortable mornings. ## **Your Gut and Your Brain Have Been Having Conversations Since Birth** There is a continuous flow of information travelling between your brain and your gut (the gut-brain axis) throughout the day. This exchange occurs via a combination of nerves, hormones and various chemical signals. As soon as your mind senses increased levels of stress/pressure, your digestive system typically gets that message too. Therefore, during a particularly stressful phone call, your stomach may churn. Or, a stressful week can disrupt your appetite. Research has demonstrated that while the relationship appears to exist between your emotions and your digestive health, it works in reverse as well. Ongoing gastrointestinal problems can negatively affect your mood. Conversely, emotional distress can similarly negatively affect your digestive health. While researchers continue to study the specific biological pathways involved, the relationship exists. ## **How Stress Manifests Physically** Not all stress/pressure announces itself to you mentally as racing thoughts. Many times, it arrives as feelings in your lower torso. For example: a clenching stomach, mild nausea, stomach cramps, a rapid heartbeat before a challenging conversation, or an empty, heavy ache in your abdomen that cannot be attributed to an identifiable reason. Some individuals report needing to use the restroom more often when they sense rising anxiety. Others may report losing their appetite without realising why. Identifying [anxiety stomach pain](https://modernrecoveryservices.com/conditions/anxiety/anxiety-stomach-pain/) by giving these sensations names makes identifying patterns possible. Identifying patterns allows separating an average physiological response to stress from an actual symptom deserving further investigation. Naming the experience is typically the beginning of feeling less anxious about the experience. Recall that a stress-induced stomachache and a physical stomach problem are physiologically different. Therefore, awareness is critical and relying solely on intuition will likely result in inadequate assessment. ## **Why Certain Seasons Ask More of You Than Other Seasons** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-helenalopes-9138966-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-helenalopes-9138966 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by helena lopes](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-woman-holding-a-green-ceramic-cup-9138966/) Some seasons of life place a heavier load on your body than others. Moving house, navigating separation, dealing with custody arrangements, financial pressure or carrying the full mental load of parenting can all create ongoing stress. Over time, that stress can affect your digestion, especially if you’re skipping meals, relying on caffeine, eating on the run or not getting enough sleep. Poor sleep and gut health are closely linked, with each influencing the other. If this sounds familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It simply means your body is responding to a very real and ongoing load. ## **When It Makes Sense to Check In With a Healthcare Provider** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Image-2-1200x675.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")[photo by vitaly gariev](https://unsplash.%20Com/photos/doctor-writing-notes-while-patient-sits-opposite-xjph81n6rdc) While linking stomach pain to stress is reasonable, it should never automatically be assumed to be the sole explanation for any given set of symptoms. Depending on your symptoms, some may require a healthcare provider’s evaluation; it’s better safe than sorry. Consider scheduling an appointment with a healthcare provider if you experience: - Severe/steadily worsening abdominal pain - Weight loss that cannot be explained - Vomiting - Difficulty swallowing - Bloody stools or dark/black stools - Abdominal pain that awakens you from sleep or persists despite resting - Persistent abdominal symptoms that persist for several weeks despite treatment efforts A healthcare provider can assist you in determining whether you have a physical problem requiring medical treatment or assess what is causing the discomfort you are experiencing. Both outcomes are important regardless of whether you believe your discomfort is clearly related to stress. Anxiety caused by stomach pain and a true gastrointestinal disorder can appear very similar. Obtaining clarity provides protection either way. Additionally, if you’re concerned with managing your anxiety – it’s impacting sleep/eating/daily activities, raising this issue with a healthcare provider is also warranted. Emotional health and physical health are intertwined; improving one area often improves the other. ## **Tiny, Repeatable Actions to Help Calm Your Body** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Yoga-1200x800.png "Yoga - Beanstalk Mums") You don’t need the perfect routine to support your gut health. When life feels overwhelming, small, consistent habits are far more realistic—and often more effective—than ambitious plans that are hard to maintain. Start by taking a few minutes each day to breathe slowly and deeply. While it won’t make your stress disappear, it can help calm your nervous system and reduce physical tension. Prioritising the basics also makes a difference. [Eating regular meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-winter-meals-for-families/ "Eating regular meals"), staying hydrated and aiming for a little more sleep can all support healthier digestion. If your stomach symptoms keep popping up, try jotting down when they happen and what was going on beforehand. A quick note at the end of the day may help you spot patterns without feeling like you’re keeping a detailed diary. If you’ve been diagnosed with IBS, avoid making major dietary changes on your own. Diets such as Low FODMAP can help some people, but they work best under the guidance of your GP or an accredited practising dietitian. Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Stress-related digestive issues rarely disappear overnight, but small, repeatable steps can gradually help your body feel calmer and more balanced. ## **A Better Path Moving Forward** Stomach discomfort directly related to stress is common and usually indicates nothing is wrong with you, just that your body has taken on far more than it normally carries. By listening to the message sent by your body (instead of dismissing it or getting overly concerned), you are providing yourself with another quiet form of self-care. You have permission to take this seriously, yet avoid spiralling out of control. Recognise your patterns, maintain what you reasonably can of basic habits, and seek assistance from professionals to establish clear boundaries between physical symptoms generated by stress and symptoms possibly indicating an issue requiring further examination. Awareness and willingness to seek professional guidance tend to serve solo parents effectively, both internally and externally. **Safety Disclaimer** If you or someone you love is in crisis, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988, or chat via 988lifeline.org to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Support is free, confidential, and available 24/7. **Sources** - Saleh Mohammad. (2019). Depression and Anxiety in Patients with Gastroesophageal Reflux Disorder With and Without Chest Pain. Cureus. <https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.6103> - David Cantarero-Prieto. (2022). The effects of gastrointestinal disturbances on the onset of depression and anxiety. PloS one. <https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0262712> - Jing Zhang. (2024). Efficacy and Safety of a Low-FODMAP Diet in Combination with a Gluten-Free Diet for Adult Irritable Bowel Syndrome: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. Digestive diseases and sciences. <https://doi.org/10.1007/s10620-024-08671-8> ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/anxiety-causing-stomach-pain-how-stress-impacts-digestive-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/anxiety-causing-stomach-pain-how-stress-impacts-digestive-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [20 Easy meals to bulk cook and freeze](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-bulk-cook-freeze/) **Published:** July 17, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about bulk freezer meals was last updated in 2026.*** Frequently asked question: How can I save money and time in the kitchen? Frequently given answer: Bulk cook and freeze. This is all very well, but you might be wondering what exactly you should bulk cook and freeze. After all, some foods lend themselves beautifully to this cost and time-effective method, whilst others would be a disaster. I mean, have you ever tried frying and then freezing 20 fried eggs? Neither have I. But I guess it wouldn’t work. To help, see these recipes, all of which are easy to cook in large quantities, which can be frozen and later defrosted for a super-easy home-cooked meal. ## 20 Easy meals to bulk cook and freeze ### 1. [Prosciutto Wrapped Meatloaf](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/prosciutto-wrapped-meatloaf/91dfbb52-d419-4cff-ac66-501074b6f2a1) This prosciutto-wrapped meatloaf is perfect to bulk cook and freeze. And it’s a snap to prepare for a family of four. [![Prosciutto Wrapped Metaloaf | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/6A4QDBzF/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2016/11/prosciutto-wrapped-meatloaf-96691-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/prosciutto-wrapped-meatloaf/91dfbb52-d419-4cff-ac66-501074b6f2a1) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/prosciutto-wrapped-meatloaf/91dfbb52-d419-4cff-ac66-501074b6f2a1) ### 2. [Frugal Vegetarian Lasagne](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/frugal-vegetarian-lasagne/) Vegetarian. Tasty. Cheap. Bulk cook and freeze this yummy lasagne recipe for up to three months. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Frugal Vegetarian Lasagne | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Vegetarian-Lasange-1024x768.jpg)](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/frugal-vegetarian-lasagne/) Recipe source: [Stay at Home Mum](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/frugal-vegetarian-lasagne/) ### 3. [Three-Cheese and Chive Tart](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/three-cheese-and-chive-tart/) A gorgeous tart filled with three types of mouthwatering cheese. Need we say more? The kids will never know if you sneak in some veggies. [![Three Cheese and Chive Tart | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/cheese-and-chive-tart.jpg)](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/three-cheese-and-chive-tart/) Recipe source: [Delicious](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/three-cheese-and-chive-tart/) ### 4. [Big Batch Bolognese](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/big-batch-bolognese) Feeding a crowd? Bulk cook and freeze a big batch of delicious bolognese. This one is ready in about an hour and a half. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Big Batch Bolognese | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.bbcgoodfoodme.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/bolognese.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/big-batch-bolognese) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/big-batch-bolognese) ### 5. [Roast Pumpkin Soup](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/roast-pumpkin-soup-recipe/3vbd2xhv) Here’s a recipe for the easiest roast pumpkin soup ever. Roast in the oven, scoop out the seeds and add stock. Easy peasy. [![Roast Pumpkin Soup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/736x/6c/f5/2f/6cf52f21b593b6bfdd4d55465cbb33d4.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/roast-pumpkin-soup-recipe/3vbd2xhv) Recipe source: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/roast-pumpkin-soup-recipe/3vbd2xhv) ## Healthy batch cooking recipes for freezing (cont.) ### 6. [Spaghetti Pepperoni Lentil Bake](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/spaghetti-pepperoni-lentil-bake/wf663poq) Craving pizza and spaghetti? This crowd-pleasing freezer-friendly recipe is what you need. Guaranteed to be a family favourite. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Spaghetti Pepperoni Lentil Bake | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/t5k_hXMc/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2018/05/spaghetti-pepperoni-and-lentil-bake-137820-1.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/spaghetti-pepperoni-lentil-bake/wf663poq) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/spaghetti-pepperoni-lentil-bake/wf663poq) ### 7. [Black Bean Burger](https://www.thekitchn.com/black-bean-burger-261539) Skip the meat and serve up some black bean burgers for dinner tonight. Pro tip: Pop the beans in the oven to dry them out and avoid mushy burgers. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Vegmeals-01-640x800.jpg "Vegmeals-01 - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [The Kitchn](https://www.thekitchn.com/black-bean-burger-261539) ### 8. [Classic Moussaka](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/meat-and-poultry/classic-moussaka/) Comfort Greek food doesn’t get easier than a classic moussaka filled with lamb, aubergine and gooey bechamel topping. Bulk cook and freeze the leftovers for breakfast and snacks. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Classic Moussaka | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/736x/5d/f8/12/5df8123e9fb86327e6c705f8e46f1c0a--greek-recipes-meat-recipes.jpg)](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/meat-and-poultry/classic-moussaka/) Recipe source: [Olive Magazine](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/meat-and-poultry/classic-moussaka/) ### 9. [Cauliflower and bean Chilli](https://realfood.tesco.com/gallery/10-healthy-meals-for-your-freezer.html) Here’s another meatless comfort food that you can bulk cook and freeze: cauliflower and bean chilli. A one-pot wonder that’s ready in a few hours. [![Cauliflower Bean Chilli | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://realfood.tesco.com/media/images/RFO-1400x919-Cauliflower--bean-chilli-c539ce7c-84c2-4889-a51c-6a209d460ac9-0-1400x919.jpg)](https://realfood.tesco.com/gallery/10-healthy-meals-for-your-freezer.html) Recipe source: [Real Food](https://realfood.tesco.com/gallery/10-healthy-meals-for-your-freezer.html) ### 10. [Slow Cooker Classic Beef Stew](https://www.foodandwine.com/recipes/slow-cooker-classic-beef-stew) Indulge in a classic beef stew that’s easy to make and freezer-friendly to boot. Double the recipe and throw everything in a slow cooker for a rich flavour. Recipe source: [Food and Wine](https://www.foodandwine.com/recipes/slow-cooker-classic-beef-stew) ## What meals are good to batch cook and freeze? (cont.) ### 11. [Cheesy Bacon Veggie Rice Slice Recipe](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheesy-bacon-veggie-rice-slice-recipe/bojjzdsl) Cheesy bacon and veggie rice slices are perfect for lunch boxes. Bulk cook and freeze ahead of time and serve with a fresh salad. [![Cheesy Bacon Veggie Rice Slice | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/TZLg1pYv/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2019/03/cheesy-bacon-and-veggie-rice-slice-148013-2.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheesy-bacon-veggie-rice-slice-recipe/bojjzdsl) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheesy-bacon-veggie-rice-slice-recipe/bojjzdsl) ### 12. [Mango Chicken Slow Cooker Curry](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/mango-chicken-slow-cooker-curry-recipe/zq3vdgfu) The flavours of mango, chicken thighs and coconut milk come together beautifully in the slow cooker. Serve with steamed rice and lime juice. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Mango Chicken Slow Cooker Curry | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/1Nl5YOMT/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2020/02/mango_chicken_slow_cooker_curry_final-1-956465-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/mango-chicken-slow-cooker-curry-recipe/zq3vdgfu) Recipe source: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/mango-chicken-slow-cooker-curry-recipe/zq3vdgfu) ### 13. [Make Ahead Beef Enchiladas](https://wholeandheavenlyoven.com/2016/03/14/make-ahead-beef-enchiladas-homemade-enchilada-sauce/) Every ingredient of these beef enchiladas can be made in advance and frozen for up to 2 months—even the homemade enchilada sauce. [![Make Ahead Beef Enchiladas | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://wholeandheavenlyoven.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/Make-Ahead-Beef-Enchiladas7.jpg)](https://wholeandheavenlyoven.com/2016/03/14/make-ahead-beef-enchiladas-homemade-enchilada-sauce/) Recipe source: [Whole and Heavenly Oven](https://wholeandheavenlyoven.com/2016/03/14/make-ahead-beef-enchiladas-homemade-enchilada-sauce/) ### 14. [Oven Roasted Meatballs with Kale Pesto](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/oven-roasted-meatballs-kale-pesto-mozzarella/acc331e1-5716-4df5-ae92-586c13aee48a?r=recipes/collections/mrtgp9cs) For maximum flavour in no time, try some oven-roasted meatballs with kale pesto. It’s on the table in about 30 minutes. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Oven Roasted Meatballs | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/DSMAJvj3dzY/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/oven-roasted-meatballs-kale-pesto-mozzarella/acc331e1-5716-4df5-ae92-586c13aee48a?r=recipes/collections/mrtgp9cs) Recipe source: [Delicious](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/oven-roasted-meatballs-kale-pesto-mozzarella/acc331e1-5716-4df5-ae92-586c13aee48a?r=recipes/collections/mrtgp9cs) ### 15. [Steakhouse Soup](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/steakhouse-soup/) We love some hearty steak soup on cold winter nights. This recipe can be prepared ahead of time and frozen in containers. Adjust the spices when making for kids. Recipe source: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/steakhouse-soup/) ## Meals that freeze well and reheat well (cont.) ### 20. [Bacon cheese rissoles](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/bacon-cheese-rissoles-recipe/kdmo3na9?r=easydinners/y9n9ovux&h=easy%20dinners) These bacon cheese rissoles are ready to eat in just 20 minutes. Bulk cook and freeze the leftovers for lunch boxes. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | Bacon Cheese Rissoles Recipe | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/L5Ok4RlB/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2018/04/bacon-and-cheese-rissoles-recipe-522361-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/bacon-cheese-rissoles-recipe/kdmo3na9?r=easydinners/y9n9ovux&h=easy%20dinners) Recipe source: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/bacon-cheese-rissoles-recipe/kdmo3na9?r=easydinners/y9n9ovux&h=easy%20dinners) ### 21. [Bean sausage hotpot](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/bean-sausage-hotpot) This five-ingredient comfort food is a lifesaver after a long day at work. Whip up a big batch and freeze for easy dinners. [![Bean Sausage Hotpot | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-196484_11-8950e7e.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/bean-sausage-hotpot) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/bean-sausage-hotpot) ### 22. [Speedy Minestrone](https://www.womensweeklyfood.com.au/recipes/speedy-minestrone-4570) Love minestrone? This quick and easy version is ready in under an hour and can be made up to two days ahead. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Minestrone-image1-200656-2-1200x800.webp "Minestrone-image1-200656-2 - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/minestrone-soup/5013c0be-2b52-464c-9440-41b157d6c203) ### 23. [Smoked Haddock and chive fishcakes](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/fish-and-seafood/smoked-haddock-and-chive-fishcakes/) Bulk cook and freeze these tasty fishcakes when you’re pressed for time. A yummy standby the whole family will love. [![Smoked Haddock and Chive Fishcakes | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/2/2018/02/OLI0218-Healthy-SweetPotatoGingerFishcakes_020314-6bb836f.jpg?quality=45&crop=11px,1620px,5462px,2350px&resize=960,413)](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/fish-and-seafood/smoked-haddock-and-chive-fishcakes/) Recipe source: [Olive Magazine](https://www.olivemagazine.com/recipes/fish-and-seafood/smoked-haddock-and-chive-fishcakes/) ### 24. [US-style Mac N’ Cheese](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/us-style-mac-n-cheese/) Nothing beats homemade mac n’ cheese when you’re in the mood for comfort food. This US-style recipe is loaded with flavour and gooey creaminess. [![Bulk Cook and Freeze | US-Style Mac N' Cheese | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/777026-1-eng-GB_proper-mac-and-cheese-768x960.jpg)](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/us-style-mac-n-cheese/) Recipe source: [Delicious](https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/us-style-mac-n-cheese/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/meals2.png "meals2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-bulk-cook-freeze/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-bulk-cook-freeze/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food **Tags:** bulk, freezer, dinner, freeze, recipe --- ### [18 Easy hot chocolate recipes to make at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/18-easy-hot-chocolate-recipes-to-make-at-home/) **Published:** May 12, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes winter warmers there is nothing as deliciously comforting as hot chocolate. Warm, rich, velvety … it hits the spot every time. Best of all, it’s super easy to make and satisfying for adults and kids alike. Surely a hot chocolate a day keeps the colds and flu away! We love hot chocolate so much that we’ve put together a list of our favourite and very easy hot chocolate recipes. Whether it’s kiddie-friendly, healthy(ish), decadent or anything in-between, you’re bound to find one that makes you drool. ## Extra easy hot chocolate recipes ### 1. HOMEMADE WHITE HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY GIMME SOME OVEN Creamy, thick and suitably sweet, the white chocolate-lover will not be able to go past this hot chocolate. Made with just four ingredients, it is simplicity at it’s finest. [![Homemade White Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.gimmesomeoven.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/Peppermint-White-Hot-Chocolate-2.jpg)](https://www.gimmesomeoven.com/homemade-white-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Gimme Some Oven](https://www.gimmesomeoven.com/homemade-white-hot-chocolate/) ### 2. SUPER SIMPLE HOMEMADE HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY HONEST & TASTY This is the simplest hot chocolate we could find. Made with good old cocoa powder and a few extra bits to pep it up, you’ll whisk this little number up in under a minute. ### [![Super Easy Homemade Hot Chocolate ](https://i0.wp.com/honestandtasty.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Super-Easy-Homemade-Hot-Chocolate.jpg?resize=650%2C433)](http://honestandtasty.com/super-simple-homemade-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Honest & Tasty](http://honestandtasty.com/super-simple-homemade-hot-chocolate/) ### **3.** QUICK & EASY HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY GIRL GONE GOURMET A quick and easy hot chocolate recipe with just four ingredients. In about 3-4 minutes you’ll have a hot, yummy drink to enjoy. [![Quick & Easy Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.girlgonegourmet.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Easy-Stovetop-Hot-Chocolate-11-683x1024.jpg)](https://www.girlgonegourmet.com/quick-easy-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Girl Gone Gourmet](https://www.girlgonegourmet.com/quick-easy-hot-chocolate/) ### 4. EASY HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY BAKING MISCHIEF This recipe is perfect when you’re craving hot chocolate NOW but don’t have a mix at hand. You can make this in the microwave or on the stove top in 5 minutes. [![Easy Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://bakingmischief.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/hot-chocolate-for-one-picture-683x1024.jpg)](https://bakingmischief.com/2015/12/24/emergency-3-ingredient-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Baking Mischief](https://bakingmischief.com/2015/12/24/emergency-3-ingredient-hot-chocolate/) ## Kid’s favourite hot chocolate recipes ### 5. THE HEALTHY EASY HOT COCOA RECIPE FOR KIDS ### BY LIVING WELL MOM Here’s a healthy and delicious hot chocolate recipe that kids will love. Replace sugar with honey or maple syrup and add almond milk to make it dairy-free. [![The Healthy Easy Hot Cocoa Recipe for Kids | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i2.wp.com/livingwellmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Healthy-Homemade-Hot-Cocoa-for-Kids-recipe.jpg?w=534&ssl=1)](https://livingwellmom.com/healthy-easy-hot-cocoa-recipe-kids/) Get recipe here: [Living Well Mom](https://livingwellmom.com/healthy-easy-hot-cocoa-recipe-kids/) ### 6. NUTELLA HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY CAFE DELITES This hot chocolate recipe is a winner for kids who are crazy about Nutella. Top with marshmallows, crushed hazelnuts, chocolate chips and extra Nutella or your own favourite toppings. [![Nutella Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cafedelites.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/Nutella-Hot-Chocolate-31.jpg)](https://cafedelites.com/nutella-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Cafe Delites](https://cafedelites.com/nutella-hot-chocolate/) ### 7. MARSHMALLOW SNOWMAN HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY KITCHEN FUN WITH MY THREE SONS Hot chocolate with marshmallows, cookie icing, pretzel sticks and candy corn may not be the healthiest treat for kids, but it sure is delicious. Let your kids get creative making their own marshmallow snowman! [![Marshmallow Snowman Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://kitchenfunwithmy3sons.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Marshmallow-Snowman-Hot-Chocolate-3.jpg)](https://kitchenfunwithmy3sons.com/marshmallow-snowman-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Kitchen Fun With My Three Sons](https://kitchenfunwithmy3sons.com/marshmallow-snowman-hot-chocolate/) ### 8. CREAMY JUNIOR MINT HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY PICKY PALATE Do your kids like their hot chocolate minty and yummy? This recipe is irresistible with a generous helping of junior mints and topped with whipped cream and grated chocolate. [![Creamy Junior Mint Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://picky-palate.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/Creamy-Jr.-Mint-Hot-Chocolate-3-t.jpg)](https://picky-palate.com/creamy-junior-mint-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Picky Palate](https://picky-palate.com/creamy-junior-mint-hot-chocolate/) ## Kinda healthy hot chocolate recipes ### 9. 5 MINUTE VEGAN HOT COCOA ### BY MINIMALIST BAKER This vegan hot chocolate recipe has unsweetened almond milk, dairy-free semisweet chocolate chips and coconut whipped cream (genius!). Healthy, delicious and ready in five minutes. [![5-Minute Vegan Hot Cocoa | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://minimalistbaker.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/5-Minute-Vegan-Hot-Cocoa-MINIMALISTBAKER.COM-vegan-glutenfree.jpg)](https://minimalistbaker.com/5-minute-vegan-hot-cocoa/) Get recipe here: [Minimalist Baker](https://minimalistbaker.com/5-minute-vegan-hot-cocoa/) ***Further reading: [Is it worth buying a Nang cream charger for your kitchen?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/nang-cream-chargers/)*** ### 10. HEALTHY HOT CHOCOLATE (5 WAYS) ### BY THE HEALTHY MAVEN [![Healthy Hot Chocolate (5 Ways) | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.thehealthymaven.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/healthy-hot-chocolate.jpg)](https://www.thehealthymaven.com/healthy-hot-chocolate-recipe/) Need your hot chocolate fix without the guilt? We’ve got you covered with this five-in-one recipe that calls for raw cacao, almond milk and bananas, among others. Get recipe here: [The Healthy Maven](https://www.thehealthymaven.com/healthy-hot-chocolate-recipe/) ### 11. 35 CALORIE HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY AMY’S HEALTHY BAKING If you’re counting calories and want a delicious hot drink for these chilly days, try this 35-calorie hot chocolate recipe. The cashew milk and vanilla stevia add creaminess and sweetness. [![35-Calorie Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://amyshealthybaking.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/hot-chocolate-7781-683x1024.jpg)](https://amyshealthybaking.com/blog/2015/11/24/35-calorie-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Amy’s Healthy Baking](https://amyshealthybaking.com/blog/2015/11/24/35-calorie-hot-chocolate/) ## Easy hot chocolate recipes for adults only ### 12. KAHLUA HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY DAMN DELICIOUS The splash of Kahlúa really makes this hot chocolate a treat for the grownups. Add marshmallows, whipped cream and salted caramel sauce if you like, but the main recipe calls for only a handful of ingredients. [![Kahlua Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://s23209.pcdn.co/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/IMG_5812edit.jpg)](https://damndelicious.net/2013/12/03/kahlua-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Damn Delicious](https://damndelicious.net/2013/12/03/kahlua-hot-chocolate/) ### 13. HOT COCOA – ADULTS ONLY ### BY GENIUS KITCHEN Adults-only hot cocoa doesn’t get simpler than this. Combine prepared hot cocoa (use mix to save time) with schnapps and vodka and you’re all set. [![Hot Ccocoa - Adults Only | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.sndimg.com/food/image/upload/c_thumb,q_80,w_564,h_317/v1/img/recipes/16/50/5/picaE3bR3.jpg)](https://www.geniuskitchen.com/recipe/hot-cocoa-adults-only-16505) Get recipe here: [Genius Kitchen](https://www.geniuskitchen.com/recipe/hot-cocoa-adults-only-16505) ### 14. ADULT HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY WILL COOK FOR SMILES This scrumptious hot chocolate recipe has Godiva, whipped cream vodka and homemade cocoa. You can always use ingredients that you already have to make it even easier. [![Adult Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.willcookforsmiles.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Adult-Hot-Chocolate-1-from-willcookforsmiles.com-hotchocolate-cocktail-hotcocoa.jpg)](https://www.willcookforsmiles.com/adult-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Will Cook for Smiles](https://www.willcookforsmiles.com/adult-hot-chocolate/) ## Very naughty but totally delicious creations ### 15. RED WINE HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY TAYLORS We drink red wine all the time, so why not put it in the hot choco as well? With only three ingredients (red wine, dark chocolate and milk), this decadent drink is perfect for parties or when guests come over. Get recipe here: [Taylor’s Wines](https://www.taylorswines.com.au/blogs/wine-blog/red-wine-hot-chocolate) ### 16. TEQUILA SPIKED MEXICAN HOT CHOCOLATE ### BY DIARY OF AN EX-SLOTH For adults who love their hot chocolate sweet and extra spicy, this tequila-spiked drink fits the bill. There are 10 ingredients, but it’s easy to prepare and ready in about 15 minutes. [![Tequila Spiked Mexican Hot Chocolate | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.exsloth.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/tequila-spiked-mexican-hot-chocolate4b.jpg)](http://www.exsloth.com/tequila-mexican-hot-chocolate/) Get recipe here: [Diary of an Ex-Sloth](http://www.exsloth.com/tequila-mexican-hot-chocolate/) ### 17. CAMPFIRE S’MORES HOT CHOCOLATE COCKTAIL ### BY SUGAR & SOUL Nothing beats sitting around a campfire in winter drinking hot chocolate. Bring the campfire indoors with this hot choco cocktail that has S’mores and whiskey as the main ingredients. [![Campfire S'mores Hot Chocolate Cocktail | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.sugarandsoul.co/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/campfire-smores-hot-chocolate-cocktail-recipe-4.jpg)](https://www.sugarandsoul.co/smores-hot-chocolate-cocktail-recipe/) Get recipe here: [Sugar & Soul](https://www.sugarandsoul.co/smores-hot-chocolate-cocktail-recipe/) ### 18. COCONUT RUM HOT COCOA ### BY SELF PROCLAIMED FOODIE The days are cold but your belly doesn’t have to be. Make this utterly decadent coconut rum cocoa with bittersweet/dark chocolate to warm you up and keep you smiling. ## [![Coconut Rum Hot Cocoa | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://selfproclaimedfoodie.com/wp-content/uploads/coconut-rum-hot-cocoa.jpg)](https://selfproclaimedfoodie.com/coconut-rum-hot-cocoa/) Get recipe here: [Self Proclaimed Foodie](https://selfproclaimedfoodie.com/coconut-rum-hot-cocoa/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/18-easy-hot-chocolate-recipes-to-make-at-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/18-easy-hot-chocolate-recipes-to-make-at-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Winter, Food **Tags:** winter food, winter warmers, hot drinks --- ### [How to Save Money on Groceries Without Sacrificing Quality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Has grocery shopping been a never-ending battle between feeding your family well and sticking to a budget? You are not alone, Mummy. With grocery prices climbing and supermarkets full of temptations, finding a way to save money on food is more important than ever. But how do we do that while maintaining our kids’ healthy diet? Your dilemma is over! I filled this guide with practical tips to help you save money on groceries while still keeping delicious, nutritious meals on the table. ## **How to Save Money on Groceries** ## **1. Take Advantage of Supermarket Discounts and Specials** Local supermarkets constantly have specials and discounts on various products. Keeping an eye on these deals can save you money in the long run. A great way to save is to plan your weekly meals around items when they’re on sale. Check catalogues online and compare prices to get the best deals. Also, look out for loyalty programs and rewards points that can reduce your grocery bill. I have loyalty cards at two major supermarkets, and the savings are incredible! ## **2. Buy in Bulk for Long-Term Savings** Buying non-perishable items like toilet paper, staples like rice, pasta, and even spices in large quantities can help you save over time. Bulk shopping is particularly useful for large households or for stocking up on essentials when prices are low. Shopping at warehouse stores or looking for bulk sections in Coles and Woolworths can help you get better deals. While the initial cost may be higher, buying items in large quantities means spending less per unit, which goes to waste far less often. ## **3. Choose Seasonal Produce** Fruits and vegetables can be pricey when out of season, so opt for seasonal produce to get the best value. Aldi and IGA often have fresh, budget-friendly options that won’t break the bank. Buying items that are in season also means fresher, tastier meals. You can even freeze fresh produce like bananas and carrots for smoothies or soups. This helps you reduce food scraps while still enjoying nutritious meals. ![save money on groceries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/998f3158-6228-4cb9-a4c8-643d76169470-1066x800.jpg "998f3158-6228-4cb9-a4c8-643d76169470 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Opt for Affordable Cuts of Meat** Meat is one of the biggest expenses in any weekly shop, but there are ways to keep costs down. Look for cuts of meat that are cheaper yet still full of flavour, like chicken thighs instead of breast or mince instead of steak. Stocking up on pork or beef when they’re on special and freezing portions can also save you money. Coles and Woolworths regularly have discounts on larger packs, which can be split into meal-sized portions and frozen for later. ## **5. Use Leftovers to Cut Down on Food Waste** Using leftovers creatively is a simple way to reduce waste and cut down on food waste. You can turn last night’s roast chicken into sandwiches, pasta, or soups to make the most of every meal. Leftover vegetable scraps can be used to make stock, while extra rice can be turned into fried rice or added to casseroles. Food scraps are a major issue for many households, but being mindful of what you already have in the fridge and pantry can make a huge difference. ## **How to **Save Money on Groceries** (cont.)** ## **6. Compare Unit Prices for Pantry Staples, Fruits, and Vegetables** Just because a product looks cheaper doesn’t mean it actually is. Checking the unit price (price per 100g or per litre) on price tags at your local supermarket can help you save by showing you which option gives you the best value. Looking at these prices makes it easier to compare brands and sizes. This trick works especially well for pantry essentials, frozen produce, and packaged vegetable and fruit options. ## **7. Stick to a Shopping List and Shop Once a Week** Impulse buys can add up quickly, so making a shopping list and sticking to it is one of the best ways to save money on groceries. I found that online options can also prevent unnecessary purchases. Shopping just once a week also helps with budgeting since you’re less likely to pick up extra snacks or treats on multiple trips. Planning your meals ahead of time ensures you only buy what you need. ## **8. Opt for Store Brands (such as Aldi or Woolworths) Over Name Brands** Store-brand products from Aldi, Woolworths, and Coles are often just as good as name brands but at a fraction of the cost. Swapping expensive brands for store-label versions of basic needs like milk, cereal, and canned goods can lead to significant savings. The same manufacturers even make many store-brand items as their premium counterparts, so you’re often getting the same quality without the high price tag. [Woolworths or Coles: Which is better?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/woolworths-coles-online-shopping/) ## **9. Use Your Freezer to Make Frozen Produce Last Longer** Freezing ingredients can help stretch your budget and reduce kitchen waste. Frozen fruits and veggies are just as nutritious as fresh ones and can be used in a variety of dishes. If you find meat or other perishables on promo, buy extra and store them in the freezer for future meals. It’s a great way to always have ingredients on hand without having to rush to the grocery shop. ## **10. Avoid Takeaway and Cook at Home** While takeaway is convenient, it can drain your budget fast. Cooking at home is one of the easiest ways to save money on food while also eating healthier meals. Preparing large meals that provide leftovers for lunch the next day means fewer mid-week food expenses. Plus, homemade meals can be just as quick and tasty as fast food when planned ahead. ## **Final Thoughts: How to **Save Money on Groceries**** Finding a way to save money on groceries as a single mum doesn’t have to be overwhelming. You can significantly reduce your grocery expenses by using discounts, buying in bulk, choosing seasonal ingredients, and being mindful of food waste. Store brands offer plenty of budget-friendly options, and with a bit of planning, your weekly shop can be both affordable and nutritious. Remember, small changes add up. Whether it’s swapping premium brands for store labels, freezing meat, or sticking to a shopping list, every little effort goes to waste if not put into action. With these tips, your household can enjoy healthy, delicious meals without the stress of overspending. Happy shopping! If you’re looking for even more ways to take control of your budget and stretch your dollars further, check out our [Budgeting Hacks page](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) for helpful tools and expert tips that will guide you to smarter financial choices every day. ![Save money on groceries | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Save-money-on-groceries.png "Save money on groceries - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money **Tags:** save money, food shopping, groceries, supermarket, online grocery shopping --- ### [How to choose the right removalist for your home move](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/home-move/) **Published:** September 1, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A home move can be an exciting yet overwhelming experience. Amidst the flurry of packing boxes, coordinating logistics, and saying goodbye to the familiar, one crucial aspect stands out—the selection of a [reliable Sydney removalist](https://www.zoomremovals.com.au/ "reliable Sydney removalist"). We are here to tell you that not all removalists are equal. Therefore, taking the time to do your research could make the difference between a calm, controlled home move and a total calamity (it does happen!). Keep reading so your worldly belongings are handled and moved with the caring expertise they deserve, allowing you to concentrate on other aspects of the move, like meeting the neighbours and connecting to the internet. ***Further reading: [Tips to save money when moving to another state.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/moving-to-another-state/)*** ## Do an online search The best way to find and compare moving services, such as [Sydney removalists](https://vmove.com.au/), is online. It is fine to check out the ones that show as paid adverts at the top of the search page, but pay more attention to those that rank organically, as these are the larger, better-established companies. From each removalist’s website, you can view a full range of services, prices, contact details, and hopefully customer reviews. ## Licensing and insurance We assume removalists will have all the licensing and insurance coverage necessary for a home move, but it is always worth checking. It is your worldly belongings we are talking about here. If something goes wrong, you need to be covered. Removalist companies generally need a business license to operate legally. The specific requirements may vary depending on the state or territory in which the company operates. Check with the local government or relevant authorities to determine the particular licensing requirements in your area. They should have Public Liability insurance, which protects against third-party claims for property damage or personal injury that may occur during the moving process. Lastly, check for transit insurance to cover the loss or damage to goods transported during the move. This insurance protects against theft, fire, or accidents that may occur while the belongings are in transit. ## What services do they provide? Think of exactly what assistance you need during your home move. You might be happy to pack and unpack everything yourself, and need a service to move your belongings from A to B. Alternatively, many removalists will wrap, pack, move and unpack everything for you. Some offer specialised services for transporting items such as antiques and pianos, while others can assist with [downsizing your home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/downsizing-your-home/) and international moves. ## Do your quote homework Like any service or product you consider purchasing, do your homework and get at least three quotes. Each quote should outline the exact nature of the service, the time it will take, additional extras, taxes, insurance costs and anything else you have discussed pre-quote. Beware of overly low or high quotes and always opt for a reasonable and transparent pricing structure. ## Get an in-home assessment A [reputable removalist](https://www.foxremovals.com.au/) firm will always send a staff member to your property to gauge the work involved in the home move before they quote or commit to a job. If they don’t, steer clear and find another removalist. Not only are they taking the job seriously and quoting accurately, but it is an excellent opportunity for you to get a feel for the company, their professionalism and their work ethic. Make sure you prepare any questions to ask in person during this visit. ## Experience and track record With services such as AirTasker making everyone a professional, checking for experience is high on the list of priorities in a home move. How long has the business been established, and do they have a good track record of residential moves? Or have you come across a man and his van hoping to make some extra cash? A removalist with extensive experience is more likely to have encountered various moving scenarios and can handle unexpected challenges efficiently. ## Check customer reviews Nothing can help you determine the quality of a service like customer reviews. Ensure the reviews are independent, i.e. through a website like Trust Pilot, and not the removalist’s choice-pickings of good reviews to share on their website. Also, make sure they are recent and they sound authentic. It is all too common for business owners to ask friends and family to write positive reviews. Hopefully, in this internet-savvy world, potential customers can see a fake review as a red flag to look elsewhere for the service. ## Good communication When moving day arrives, you will want everything to run as smoothly as possible. For this to happen, communication needs to be clear prior to the move and on the day of the move. Choose a removalist firm that is happy to answer all your questions clearly and promptly by phone and email. You need a paper trail (i.e. emails) of the agreements you have made so there is total clarity throughout the process. ## The right moving equipment and workforce With the previously mentioned man and his van, it is wonderful to have a cheaper moving option available, but check that they have the correct equipment for a safe home move to ensure no harm comes to your worldly possessions. This means more than having a decent-sized truck. They will need enough manpower to move heavy items without damage. Packaging materials, furniture straps and tie-downs should be a standard feature for protection during transit. As well as ramps, lifts and trolleys for a smooth transition between property and truck, and out again. The right equipment and staff are usually a given for a large, well-established removalist firm, but definitely worth paying attention to if your chosen service seems a little amateur. ### Final Thoughts Moving home is no small task, and choosing the right Sydney removalist can make all the difference between a stressful ordeal and a smooth, memorable transition. By checking licensing and insurance, clarifying services, comparing quotes, and paying attention to professionalism and reviews, you set yourself up for a safe and efficient move. And remember—your move isn’t just about transporting boxes. It’s also a chance to set up a fresh start in every sense. Before the big day, take time to [compare energy plans and removalists in Sydney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hiring-removalists-in-sydney/) so that your new home is both cost-effective to run and comfortably settled from day one. A little preparation now can save you time, money, and headaches later—leaving you free to focus on the joy of creating new memories in your new space. ![Home move](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/3rd-Pins-1.png "Home move - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/home-move/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/home-move/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property --- ### [40 Best gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/40-gift-ideas-for-her/) **Published:** October 30, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Finding the perfect gift for the ladies in your life can feel a little tricky, right? I remember last year, I spent hours searching for something thoughtful for my sister’s birthday, only to realise that the best gifts are the ones that reflect her personality. No need to splurge! From super comfy slippers she’ll love slipping into to cute home decor that’ll make her smile, I’m sure you’ll find something for everyone. In this post, I’ll share some of my favourite picks that blend thoughtfulness with style without breaking the bank. Scroll down for the best gift ideas for her that are sure to impress! ## **Best gift ideas for her (mums, sisters, aunties and girlfriends)** ## **1. Scented Candle** Candles are the best gift when you want to give her something that brings comfort when she’s winding down after an exhausting day or having a spa night. [![Scented Candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Jo-malone-english-pear-freesia-scented-candle.jpg "Jo malone english pear freesia scented candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOL4YL)Jo malone english pear freesia scented candle Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOL4YL) ## **2. Neck and shoulder massager** Relax her tired and achy muscles with a neck and shoulder massager from Kogan. It comes with a heat therapy feature for more efficient relaxation. [![Neck and shoulder massager](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/9663e102-ba10-494b-afd2-684e971d820f.jpg "9663e102-ba10-494b-afd2-684e971d820f - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/WyXyB3) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/WyXyB3) ## **3. Magic wand salt and pepper set** Add some cuteness to her table with this modern salt and pepper set. A hit with kids and adults alike! [![Wand Salt And Pepper Dispenser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Wand-salt-and-pepper-dispenser.webp "Wand salt and pepper dispenser - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/nXD4mA)Wand salt and pepper dispenser Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/nXD4mA) ## **4. Cosy UGG slippers** UGG slippers are comfy, stylish, and durable. These cosy slippers are perfect for lounging at home and are stylish enough to be worn outside, too. The special lady in your life will love slipping into these after a long day. [![cosy ugg slippers best gift idea for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-51.jpg "Beanstalk Mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums")](https://theuggshop.com.au/collections/women-ugg-slippers-moccasins/products/australian-shepherd-homey-special?cfclick=3da341b2c6e14e68b392657e6733fb37) Available at:[ The UGG Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79760?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftheuggshop.com.au%2fcollections%2fwomen-ugg-slippers-moccasins%2fproducts%2faustralian-shepherd-homey-special) ## **5. Personalised jewellery box** Every woman needs a trendy [jewellery box](https://lussopack.com/packaging/jewelry-boxes "jewellery box") to store her favourite pieces. This luxe accessory is perfect for keeping necklaces, earrings, and rings neatly organised. Personalise it with her initials to make it even more special! [![Personalised jewellery box | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015554.jpg "1000015554 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/40pyCkM) Available at: [Not On The High Street](https://fave.co/40pyCkM) ## **6. Trendy tote bag** A tote bag is a must-have accessory that’s both practical and stylish. This roomy tote will hold everything she needs, from her phone to her yoga mat. If you don’t know what colour she likes, choose a neutral shade to be sure! [![Women Tote Bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Women-tote-bag.webp "Women tote bag - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FCalvin-Klein-Calvin-Klein-Women-s-Tote-Bag-Black-White%2Fs%2FgSZjkCW77kiFEQgSxNErhw)Women tote bag Available at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FCalvin-Klein-Calvin-Klein-Women-s-Tote-Bag-Black-White%2Fs%2FgSZjkCW77kiFEQgSxNErhw) ## **7. Tea set** If you’re gifting someone who loves tea and Disney characters, this cute Mrs Potts teapot set will make her day! What a way to spice up tea time, don’t you agree? [![Tea set | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015559.jpg "1000015559 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fbeauty-and-the-beast-mrs-potts-teapot-and-chip-cup)Available at: [Cool Things Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fbeauty-and-the-beast-mrs-potts-teapot-and-chip-cup "Cool Things Australia") ## **8. Breville Nespresso** A pricey gift that’s totally worth it, the Breville Nespresso coffee machine is the perfect present for the coffee lover. Brew tasty coffee with five different cup sizes available. [![Breville Vertuo Pop Nespresso Machine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Breville-vertuo-pop-nespresso-machine-800x800.webp "Breville vertuo pop nespresso machine - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9LvVK5)Breville vertuo pop nespresso machine Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9LvVK5) ## **9. iRobot Roomba** For the mums who work 24/7, let the Roomba vacuum lighten the load! She can schedule her cleaning from anywhere and forget about it! This iRobot model recharges itself so it’s always ready to go. [![iRobot Roomba](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Irobot-roomba-800x800.jpg "Irobot roomba - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjVY5Y)Irobot roomba Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjVY5Y) ## **10. Triffid Tonic Four Pack Box** My next pick is an excellent present for the self-made home barista. She can whip up a classy, refreshing drink with this Triffid Tonic Four Pack Box. It’s the perfect way to treat herself and the whole family to something fresh and flavourful! [![Triffid Tonic 200ml Four Pack Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Triffid-tonic-200ml-four-pack-box.avif "Triffid tonic 200ml four pack box - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.biome.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ftriffid-tonic-200ml-four-pack-box)Triffid tonic 200ml four pack box Available at: [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.biome.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ftriffid-tonic-200ml-four-pack-box "Biome") ## Best gifts for women 2024 (cont.) ## **11. Healthy Mummy 28-day Health Challenge** Treat your health-conscious mum friends to a subscription to the Healthy Mummy 28-Day Challenge. The monthly access comes with meal plans, workout videos, recipes and support. [![Healthy Mummy 28-day Health Challenge | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/1910_NV_Challenge_BudgetFriendly_HeroDesktop_TakePartNow.jpg "1910_NV_Challenge_BudgetFriendly_HeroDesktop_TakePartNow - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f28-day-challenge-signup-2019%2f%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQjw9fntBRCGARIsAGjFq5FZ9ZzugZL6hwbyELgL94NOSgLJpqURqClY7h69Gd5KPO4v9NGAP-EaAjosEALw_wcB) Available at: [Healthy ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f28-day-challenge-signup-2019%2f%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQjw9fntBRCGARIsAGjFq5FZ9ZzugZL6hwbyELgL94NOSgLJpqURqClY7h69Gd5KPO4v9NGAP-EaAjosEALw_wcB)[Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f28-day-challenge-signup-2019%2f%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQjw9fntBRCGARIsAGjFq5FZ9ZzugZL6hwbyELgL94NOSgLJpqURqClY7h69Gd5KPO4v9NGAP-EaAjosEALw_wcB) ## **12. Noise cancelling headphones** For amazing sound and clear conversations, she’ll need powerful noise-cancelling headphones like this one from Kogan. Built for comfort and all-day listening. [![Noise cancelling headphones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/white.webp "white - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/eKJRgg) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/eKJRgg) ## **13. Insulated water bottle** Let her drink water or juice in style, whether at home or on the go. The Tempa Sawyer insulated water bottle is made with high-quality stainless steel to keep her drinks cool. [![Insulated water bottle | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015562-1066x800.jpg "1000015562 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/gOPRbv) Available at: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/gOPRbv "Kogan") ## **14. Best sentimental gift: Personalised silver heart earrings** For a unique present idea, why not get her personalised earrings? It’s a sentimental gift that she’ll love wearing daily. Plus, initial earrings are trendy right now, so she’ll be ecstatic to receive these gems. [![Personalised silver heart earrings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015564.jpg "1000015564 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3Uvjf6x) Available at: [Not On The High Street](https://fave.co/3Uvjf6x) ## **15. De-puffing eye mask** Give her the gift of instant relaxation with Sephora’s De-puffing eye mask, a quick fix for tired eyes that makes her feel refreshed and rejuvenated. It’s a mini spa treatment she’ll appreciate, perfect for those moments when she needs to unwind and brighten up her day! [![De-puffing eye mask | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015566.png "1000015566 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4e8L1Nn) Available at:[Sephora](https://fave.co/4e8L1Nn) ## **16. Peak Chocolate** Chocolate that boosts every part of your day? Now that’s a great gift for her. This introductory set from Peak has three great-tasting chocolates for energy, focus, and rest. [![Unwind Mint Crunch Chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Unwind-mint-crunch-chocolate.webp "Unwind mint crunch chocolate - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80527?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fpeakchocolate.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fall%2Fproducts%2Frest-mint-chocolate%3Fvariant%3D45668902666414)Unwind mint crunch chocolate Available at: [Peak Chocolate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80527?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fpeakchocolate.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fall%2Fproducts%2Frest-mint-chocolate%3Fvariant%3D45668902666414) ## **17. Touch-up set with a makeup bag** Every woman needs a makeup bag small enough to fit into her tote. Whether she’s travelling or just needs a quick touch-up, this chic cosmetics bag keeps all her beauty essentials organised. [![Touch-up set with a makeup bag | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015570.png "1000015570 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/40u9cm7) Available at:[ Sephora](https://fave.co/40u9cm7) ## **18. Crossbody bag** A crossbody bag is perfect for the woman who’s always on the go. It’s a chic, hands-free way to carry her stuff without weighing her down. This versatile bag can be dressed up or down, making it one of the best gifts for women any time of the year. [![Crossbody Bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Crossbody-bag.jpeg "Crossbody bag - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FGuess-Guess-Women-s-Eco-Ali-Convertible-Flap-Crossbody-Bag-Taupe-Multi%2Fs%2Fv09XsyTeiky7H0tmKQPJXg)Crossbody bag Available at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FGuess-Guess-Women-s-Eco-Ali-Convertible-Flap-Crossbody-Bag-Taupe-Multi%2Fs%2Fv09XsyTeiky7H0tmKQPJXg) ## **19. Cake decorating set** If she wants to learn to bake or practice her skills, this complete cake decorating set from Mondo will do the trick. It includes 19 essential tools, from icing bags to couplers to egg whisks. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Bp80458996-multicoloured.jpeg "Bp80458996-multicoloured - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.spotlightstores.com/party/baking-chocolate-making/decorating-tools-accessories/decorating-tools/decorating-kits/mondo-complete-cake-decorating-set-19-piece/80458996?gclsrc=aw.ds&gclid=Cj0KCQjwyOuYBhCGARIsAIdGQRN1jhc_AgBfF7R4xYVP_UVw9Xf9ipshpJXqJvfWaaur9xU7YRq_eUMaApqtEALw_wcB&utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Spotlight&cfclick=b6c24bdf31594bbba4b0b45cd576c3c4) Available at: [Spotlight Stores](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fparty%2fbaking-chocolate-making%2fdecorating-tools-accessories%2fdecorating-tools%2fdecorating-kits%2fmondo-complete-cake-decorating-set-19-piece%2f80458996%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwyOuYBhCGARIsAIdGQRN1jhc_AgBfF7R4xYVP_UVw9Xf9ipshpJXqJvfWaaur9xU7YRq_eUMaApqtEALw_wcB) ## **20. Self-Care pick: Skincare gift set** This gift set is a no-fail gift for anyone who enjoys pampering themselves. It’s the perfect way to encourage some well-deserved relaxation and me-time. [![Dermalogica Personalised Skincare Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Dermalogica-personalised-skincare-set.webp "Dermalogica personalised skincare set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fdermalogica-peronsalised-skincare-set)Dermalogica personalised skincare set Available at: [OZ Hair And Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fdermalogica-peronsalised-skincare-set) ## **Thoughtful gifts for her (cont.)** ## **21. Hand cream** Treat her to a moisturising hand cream, a little luxury that will keep her hands feeling soft and cared for, just like she deserves. Every time she uses it, she’ll think of you and feel a bit more pampered, no matter how hectic her day gets! [![Hand cream | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015576.jpg "1000015576 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3NLg7jd) Available at:[ LOOKFANTASTIC](https://fave.co/3NLg7jd) ## **22. Personalised pajamas** What’s better than cosy pyjamas after a long day? A luxe pyjama set is one of those gifts that she’ll want to wear every night. This pair is soft and chic, perfect for lounging at home. [![Personalised pajamas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015578.jpg "Cosy pyjamas - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/48rM21O) Available at: [Cotton On](https://fave.co/48rM21O) ## **23. Cowhide clutch bag** When it comes to gift ideas for women, you can’t go wrong with this ethically-sourced cowhide clutch bag. It jazzes up any outfit and is the right size for all her essentials. [![Cow Hide Leather Tobacco Pouch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Cow-hide-leather-tobacco-pouch.webp "Cow hide leather tobacco pouch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Bnq5W4)Cow hide leather tobacco pouch Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Bnq5W4) ## **24. Outdoor cushion** Give her outdoor space a quick style upgrade with this Panama stripe outdoor cushion. It’s made with UV fade and water-resistant fabric, so this cushion is perfect for relaxing or hosting guests without any worry. [![](https://www.bedbathntable.com.au/media/catalog/product/M/_/M_F_Summer_S24-25_LS_Studio_Outdoor_Cushions_Panama_Range_Detail-15_SI_7.jpg?optimize=high&fit=bounds&height=&width=)](https://fave.co/4ebCrgN) Available at: [Bed Bath n’ Table](https://fave.co/4ebCrgN) ## **25. Friends are Cheaper Than Therapy book** This hilarious book will be her new go-to read whenever she feels down. Friends are Cheaper Than Therapy book is filled with fabulous photos of women captioned with friendship quotes. [![Friends are better than Therapy book | gift ideas for her](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015580.png "1000015580 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.qbd.com.au%2Ffriends-are-cheaper-than-therapy%2Fcath-tate%2F9781909396371%2F) Available at: [QBD Books](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.qbd.com.au%2Ffriends-are-cheaper-than-therapy%2Fcath-tate%2F9781909396371%2F) ## **26. Air fryer** If she loves deep-fried food, an air fryer is a must-have. It cooks dishes much more quickly and with less oil so she can indulge guilt-free. ![Air fryer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/KA5LDGAFRYA_1.webp "KA5LDGAFRYA_1 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/WDkVEM) ## **27. Sand and Sky pink clay sand** I just can’t get enough of skin-pampering gifts for her. This organic pink clay sand scrub is a winner and gives her skin that silky smooth softness and glow. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Sand-_-sky-australian-pink-clay-porefining-face-mask-60g_1.webp "Sand-_-sky-australian-pink-clay-porefining-face-mask-60g_1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fsandy-sky-australian-pink-clay-porefining-face-mask-60g)Sand sky australian pink clay porefining face mask 60g 1 Available at: [OZ Hair And Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fsandy-sky-australian-pink-clay-porefining-face-mask-60g) ## **28. Collagen peptides** Collagen does wonders for your skin, hair, nails and joints. This set of mixed flavours from the Collagen Co. contains 14 self-serve sachets. [![Collagen peptides](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Collagen-peptides-800x800.webp "Collagen peptides - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fthe-collagen-co-immunity-collagen-peptides-loose-powder)Collagen peptides Available at: [OZ Hair And Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fthe-collagen-co-immunity-collagen-peptides-loose-powder) ## **29. Cotton throw blanket** Wrap her in comfort with the comfy throw blanket, a warm hug she’ll reach for every time she wants to relax. It’s the perfect present to show her how much you care, keeping her warm and snug while she unwinds after an exhausting day! [![Cotton throw blanket | gift ideas for her](https://www.bedbathntable.com.au/media/catalog/product/M/_/M_F_LS_W24_Throw_Sherpa_Silverdale_SI_1.jpg?quality=100&bg-color=255,255,255&fit=crop&width=600&height=600&canvas=600:600&auto=webp)](https://fave.co/3Yr4sv0) Available at: [Bed Bath & Table](https://fave.co/3Yr4sv0) ## **30. Fragrance mist** Why not give her a fragrance mist that’s as fun and refreshing as she is? It’s a sweet, thoughtful way to make her smile and keep you close, no matter where she goes! [![MCoBeauty Fragrance Mist No.4](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Mcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no%204.webp "Mcobeauty fragrance mist no 4 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fmcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no-4-vanilla-macadamia-90ml)Mcobeauty fragrance mist no 4 Available at: [OZ Hair And Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fmcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no-4-vanilla-macadamia-90ml) ## **Unique gifts for her (cont.)** ## **31. How It Works: The Mum Ladybird book** Mums will giggle at the realities of motherhood as portrayed in this hilarious book. Something to pick up when she’s stressed out or feeling down. [![How It Works: The Mum Ladybird book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/How-it-works-the-mum.avif "How-it-works-the-mum - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLAJB3)How it works the mum Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/xLAJB3) ## **32. Ultimate eye accessory: Sunnies** These trendy sunnies are perfect for the *fashionista* lady in your life! What I love about this pair is how stylish they are while protecting the eyes from harmful rays. [![Sunnies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015586.jpg "1000015586 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3AlGSYr) Available at: [Vehla](https://fave.co/3AlGSYr) ## **33. Swear word colouring-in book** Colouring books are all the rage, especially for stressed women in desperate need of some alone time. This funny book is just the ticket with plenty of swear words that she can colour in. [![Keep Fcking Calm and Colour On](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Keep-fcking-calm-and-colour-on.webp "Keep fcking calm and colour on - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PO1zoM)Keep fcking calm and colour on Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PO1zoM) ## **34. iSubscribe magazine subscription** Give your friend a subscription to their favourite magazine this Christmas. iSubscribe has a sale with up to 73% off on bestsellers like Better Homes and Gardens, Gardening and National Geographic. [![iSubscribe Magazine Subscription](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/33/79/xlarge/Better-Homes--Gardens-Oct-2019.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) Available at: [iSubscribe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) ## **35. CPR Hair Volume** **Set** I can’t recommend the CPR Hair Volume Set enough. I was recently put onto this product, and the difference it’s made for my hair and scalp has been surprisingly quick. This set brings the luxury of a salon-quality treatment right into your home, focusing on revitalising both scalp and hair with a deeply refreshing spa experience. It’s not only relaxing but packed with natural, nourishing ingredients that leave the scalp feeling balanced and hair looking shinier and healthier with each use. Ideal for anyone who deserves a little pampering this season! [![CPR Hair Volume Complete 4 Set Bundle ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Cpr-hair-volume-complete-4-set-bundle-800x800.webp "Cpr hair volume complete 4 set bundle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fvitafive-cpr-volume-complete-4-set-bundle)Cpr hair volume complete 4 set bundle Available at: [OZ Hair And Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fvitafive-cpr-volume-complete-4-set-bundle) ## **36. Smart fitness watch** Looking for a unique gift for your fitness enthusiast mum, wife, or girlfriend? This elegant, smart fitness watch that comes in pretty pastel colours won’t disappoint. [![Kogan Active 4 Smart Watch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Kogan-active-4-smart-watch.webp "Kogan active 4 smart watch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QjVYa9)Kogan active 4 smart watch Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QjVYa9) ## **37. Stay on Tropic: The Nourishing Kit** Gift the glow this Christmas with *Stay on Tropic: The Nourishing Kit* by Drunk Elephant! Packed with hydrating essentials, it brings a burst of tropical goodness to any skincare routine, leaving skin visibly plump and radiant. Perfect for anyone who loves a touch of luxury in their skincare! [![Repairing moisturiser | gift ideas for her](https://www.drunkelephant.com/dw/image/v2/BBSK_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-itemmaster_drunkelephant/default/dw5d1cc2fc/products/images/2024/September/StayOnTropic_NourishingKit/Stay_On_Tropic_PDP_1.jpg?sw=1408&sh=1408&sm=fit)](https://fave.co/3YpqKxb) Available at: [Drunk Elephant](https://fave.co/3YpqKxb) ## **38. Satin robe** My next pick is a sexy gift for your wife or girlfriend – a black satin robe! It’s lightweight, so it flatters her curves which is perfect for sexy time. [![Satin robe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015592.png "1000015592 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2flingerie%2fnightwear%2frobes%2fp%2flovehoney-short-black-satin-robe%2fa33354g59330.html) Available at: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2flingerie%2fnightwear%2frobes%2fp%2flovehoney-short-black-satin-robe%2fa33354g59330.html) ## **39. The Dreamer Tea Bag** For tea lovers who need some quality sleep, this set from T2Tea makes the perfect present. It comes with a pretty floral mug and a caffeine-free blend of loose-leaf tea. [![The Dreamer Tea Bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/The-dreamer-tea-bag-800x800.jpg "The dreamer tea bag - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.t2tea.com%2Fen%2Fau%2Fthe-dreamer-tea-bag-icon-tin-20-pack-B140AI131.html)The dreamer tea bag Available at: [Tea2Tea](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.t2tea.com%2Fen%2Fau%2Fthe-dreamer-tea-bag-icon-tin-20-pack-B140AI131.html) ## **40. Aromatherapy kit** Does she need some morning energy and motivation? Let her try this aromatherapy kit that includes a unique blend of essential oils to wake you up and a plug-and-go USB diffuser. [![Aromatherapy kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Travel-Immune-Dream-Sinus-Gift-Bundle-800x800.webp "Travel-Immune-Dream-Sinus-Gift-Bundle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60227?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fecomodernessentials.com.au%2Fproducts%2Faromatherapy-starter-kit) Available at: [Eco](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60227?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fecomodernessentials.com.au%2Fproducts%2Faromatherapy-starter-kit) ## **Final words on gift ideas for women** Wrapping it up, picking the right gift for the women in your life doesn’t have to be stressful. Just think about what they love, their hobbies, and what makes them light up, and you’ll find something that’s both thoughtful and personal. You can go with something practical like a grocery box or a little luxury like a pair of boots; there are plenty of great options to match the amazing women you know. Pay attention to the little clues they drop, whether it’s a comfy night with a book, time spent on a favourite hobby, or enjoying a nice glass of wine. The best gifts show that you’ve really thought about what they love. ![Pinterest gifts for women](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/Gifts-ideas-for-mums-1.png "Gifts ideas for mums 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/40-gift-ideas-for-her/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/40-gift-ideas-for-her/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, festive, Xmas, gifting --- ### [Health Insurance: Is staying loyal to your health insurer worth it?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/health-insurance-is-it-worth-it/) **Published:** November 7, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Loyalty is a virtue. But is blind loyalty costing you savings? New research conducted by iSelect as part of their [2024 Health Pulse survey](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-pulse-2024/) found that Australian women, on average, have been with their current health provider for 8.2 years. To put that into perspective, eight years ago, Malcolm Turnbull was our Prime Minister. The average cost of petrol was $1.10 a litre, and we watched on as the UK held its Brexit referendum. It’s fair to say a lot has changed in eight years’ time. While there’s nothing wrong with sticking with a good thing – which appropriate health insurance no doubt is – setting and forgetting can have consequences, including the financial type. I get it; we’re all busy. The idea of taking time out of your day to check on your health insurance may seem like more effort than it’s worth. That is until you realise iSelect’s survey also discovered that 72% of people who switched their health insurance in the last 12 months [saved money.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/) The average annual saving was a satisfying $1,151. ## Why are women sticking with the same private health insurer? With kids, jobs, and life admin all fighting to be front and centre of our brains, it’s understandable that Australian women can only think about their health insurance long enough to pay for it. What may be taken as loyalty to a health insurer could simply be a case of not having enough time to find an option that better suits them (and their families). ## What are Australian women looking for in their health insurance? When asked why they chose to switch health insurance, surveyed Australians had two top reasons: they wanted better value and a cheaper deal. Given the cost-of-living crisis appears to have no end in sight, those are incredibly understandable and relatable motivations. But what does better value actually mean? Well, for the surveyed Australian women, there was a clear consensus for which three extras were the most important. General dental, optical, and major dental coverage were priorities for more than half of the women surveyed. Medicare doesn’t typically cover these services, so people will often opt for private health insurance to help with what can be some expensive bills. These services can be particularly meaningful for women on family policies. Dental disease can have widespread impacts on a child’s health and well-being, now and well into the future. Kids aged five to nine, unfortunately, have the dubious honour of the highest rate of potentially [preventable hospitalisations due to dental conditions](https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/dental-oral-health/oral-health-and-dental-care-in-australia/contents/summary#:~:text=The%20rate%20of%20potentially%20preventable%20hospitalisations%20for%20dental%20conditions%20was%20highest%20in%20those%20aged%205%E2%80%939%20years%20(12.3%20per%201%2C000%20population).) when compared to other Australian age groups. Anecdotally, we’ve all heard of at least one child’s misbehaviour or lack of interest in class suddenly being rectified with a pair of glasses and the ability to see the whiteboard. ## So, how much can women expect to save by switching health insurance? While the Health Pulse survey did reveal Australians, on average, saved $1,151, the numbers aren’t quite the same when split by gender. On average, women only saved $869, compared to men who saved $1,379 on average. ![average savings to switching health insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Picture1.png "Beanstalk Mums Blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") Importantly, health insurance is community-rated. This means that, unlike other types of insurance, gender doesn’t affect premiums. Women and men pay the same premium for the same policy. So, why the discrepancy in savings? According to iSelect’s Andres Gutierrez, Health General Manager, it could be down to the coverage different genders are selecting. “If women are after a policy that covers them for pregnancy so that they can choose their obstetrician and give birth in a private hospital, they’ll generally need to pick a gold-tier hospital policy. Gold, obviously, is top of the line, offering the most coverage while also tending to come with a higher premium,” he said. “While this gold tier policy can certainly be beneficial when you’re looking to start or expand your family, it could also have unnecessary cover if you aren’t planning on having any babies in the near future.” Sure, no one would be mad about receiving an extra $869 a year, but is it the best women can hope for? Not necessarily. Looking at the data through the lens of a family policy suggests there could be more savings to be had. According to those surveyed who [switched health insurance](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-insurance/) while on a family policy in the last 12 months, they saved an average of $1,589 annually. ![health insurance statistics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Picture2-1200x734.png "Picture2 - Beanstalk Mums") Even how Australians went about switching also appeared to have an effect on their expected annual savings. Those who opted to use a comparison service, on average, saved an extra $200. ## How could you save by switching health insurance? Everyone’s health needs are different. As a result, we all require different things from our health insurance. While one person may need minimal coverage, another may need more services covered. These differences can lead to a wide range of health insurance premiums. However, there are still tips everyone can follow to be a savvy health insurance switcher. ## Pick only the cover you need When looking at health insurance, it can be a good idea to stick to the essentials as best you can. Sure, it can be tempting to be covered for as much as possible, but it may not be necessary for you right here and now. In the future, your health needs may change (they likely will!) and you can always adjust your cover as the time comes. That way, you can avoid paying for things you don’t actually need. It can be worthwhile to take the time to really think about what you need (or expect to need) over the coming year or two. Maybe this year is the year you finally get back to the dentist? If so, extras that include dental might be on the cards. Alternatively, you might be thinking about expanding your family in the next couple of years. In that case, hospital cover that includes pregnancy may be the order of the day. ## Check-in on your health insurance regularly Loyalty could be responsible for far too many women paying more than they need to for their health insurance, so don’t let it happen to you. Making time to regularly re-evaluate your health insurance, including what you’re covered for and what you’ve been using, could help you get both value and savings. Remember, what you needed last year or the year before may not be what you need now. If you’re worried about not having enough time or bandwidth to do a thorough check-up of your policy, comparison services can help. They can quickly help you compare a range of policies from different insurers and see if you could be better off with another option. ## Consider the value of covering your kids While a family or single-parent family policy may mean a higher premium than a ‘singles’ policy, it does mean you can look after your kids’ health, too. Plus, remember that kids are often free to cover up until a certain age. It can be a balance between what you pay in premiums and what you get back in value. Paying a little more each month to look after both your and your kids’ well-being could be more than worth the extra cash. ## Is it time to find out what you could be saving on health insurance? Leave blind loyalty to the fairytales. Taking the time to really look at your health insurance – and what else is out there – could be one way you take back some power over the cost-of-living crisis and find some wiggle room in your budget. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/health-insurance-is-it-worth-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/health-insurance-is-it-worth-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Naked Wines Australia: Everything You Need to Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/naked-wines-australia/) **Published:** February 14, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Honestly, I didn’t really drink wine before I became a single mum. Not because I had anything against it … I just never needed it. Then I found myself deep into the chaotic world of single parenthood. Suddenly, a glass of red wine in the evening seemed like a reasonable survival strategy. Enter **[Naked Wines Australia](http://nakedwinesaustralia.sjv.io/dO7RGK)**. But as a single mum, I also don’t have the time (or budget) to wander the bottle shop aisles, pretending I know the difference between a $10 bottle and a $30 one. Naked Wines Australia is a local wine subscription service that promises quality wines while supporting independent winemakers. It sounded too good to be true, so I gave it a shot. This is my honest take: the good, the bad, and whether it’s worth it for fellow single mums. [ $100 off your first 12 wines + free delivery with code BSTM100](https://nakedwinesaustralia.sjv.io/c/1253070/2890939/26864) ***Further reading: [Where to buy alcohol online in Australia: Websites and discounts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/where-to-buy-alcohol-online-websites-and-discounts/)*** ## What is Naked Wines Australia? Naked Wines Australia operates differently from your typical online wine shop. Instead of just selling bottles of wines made in the country, it runs on a crowdfunding model where members (called “Angels”) contribute a monthly amount, which goes directly to independent winemakers. (In my book, that’s a good company.) As an Angel, you get exclusive access to 12 bottles of boutique wines at discounted prices, ordering from hundreds of exclusive wines crafted by Australia & New Zealand’s best independent winemakers! Your $40 monthly contribution isn’t a membership fee—it goes directly toward funding independent winemakers. This amount sits in your account as a credit until you’re ready to use it. Wine prices vary, ranging from $9.99 to $79.99 per bottle, depending on your selection. And if a wine doesn’t hit the spot, they’ll credit your account—so you can always find something you love! In theory, it’s a win-win: you get access to quality wines, and small winemakers get the financial backing they need to create amazing drops. It can be the best way to buy wines. But does it really live up to the hype? ![What is Naked Wines Australia?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-11.png "In article image 11 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Perks: Why I Love Naked Wines Australia I had low expectations when I first signed up. I assumed I’d get a box of “just okay” wines, the kind that taste fine on a Friday night when you’ve survived the week but isn’t exactly worth raving about. After all, the company offers discounted wines, and I’ve had my fair share of horror stories when it comes to discounts and discount vouchers. I was wrong. Happily. My first box of wine came as a shock, with bottles like Red by Caroline Dunn Shiraz, R. Paulazzo SB Cab Petit Verdelho, and Margaret River 2nd Chap Rosé. The wines are absolutely high quality. The Tapi Organic Sauvignon Blanc was crisp and refreshing. The Army of Grapes Riesling was beautifully balanced. And the Dream Bird Pipsqueak was a light, easy-drinking red perfect for warm evenings. For me, that’s good value. The quality can seriously restore your faith in Naked Wines Australia. There’s also useful information about the wines that come from the card that accompanies each bottle and also includes an onboarding booklet. This allows you to try new wines while also knowing what to expect. Beyond the case of wine itself, here’s why I’m a fan: - You get access to small-batch wines that you wouldn’t normally find in stores. - It’s affordable, especially if you’re the kind of mum who likes a glass now and then but doesn’t want to splurge on hit-or-miss bottles. - It’s convenient because the wine will be delivered straight to your home. Let’s be honest: taking a toddler into a bottle shop is a special kind of chaos. ![The Perks: Why I Love Naked Wines Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-7.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Criticism: What Some People Don’t Like Now, let’s talk about the not-so-great parts. If you’re new to Naked Wines, you’ve probably seen complaints about the Angel program. I’m sorry to hear that some customers have felt misled about the automatic $40 monthly charge, not realising it was a membership rather than a one-time purchase. Some only realised this a month into their Naked Wines experience. Others have struggled to cancel the subscription, saying it wasn’t as easy as they expected. Personally, I didn’t have these issues and am quite happy with the service. From the start, I knew what I was signing up for. I’ve found the website pretty clear. And I appreciate that you’re welcome to cancel at any time. But I absolutely understand why some people were frustrated with the Angel membership. If you’re considering it, my advice is to read the fine print before you sign up. Other downsides? - If you don’t spend on wine often, the monthly credits can add up faster than you use them. There is such a thing as too much wine. - The marketing emails can be a bit much. I love a good deal, but I don’t need ongoing emails about the subscription every other day. That said, I do think a lot of the criticism comes from misunderstanding how the model works rather than the quality of the wines themselves. Please feel free to contact their friendly customer happiness team on 1300 898 677 to know more. You can also check the information on their website and reach out to customer service via email at chat@nakedwines.com.au. ![The Criticism: What Some People Don't Like](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-8.png "In article image 8 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Is Naked Wines Worth It for Single Mums? If you’re a single mum who enjoys good wine at a reasonable price, I’d say yes, with a few caveats. - It’s great if you like to try the wines without spending a fortune. You have a balance being used towards your next order. - It’s NOT ideal if you only take wine once every few months and forget to use your credits. - If you sign up, make sure you understand the subscription model. If you decide to become a member, here’s how to get the most out of it: - Use your Naked Wines balance credits strategically; wait for special deals and curated packs before you use the voucher. - Try a variety of wines; don’t just stick to what you know. - Pause your membership if needed; you can put it on hold rather than cancelling in case you still want the wine. - Keeping the receipts of all orders might be a good idea. If you’re ready to place your first order, we have a discount voucher here for you! [Get $100 off your first 12 wines here](https://nakedwinesaustralia.sjv.io/c/1253070/2129778/26864). ![Is Naked Wines Worth It for Single Mums?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-9.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## My Verdict: To Sip or Skip? For me, being a Naked Wines angel is a win. I get better wines, I love supporting small Aussie and Kiwi winemakers, and it makes my life easier. I’m pretty happy with the service and, more so, the wines. Yes, the marketing can be pushy, and the subscription model isn’t for everyone. But if you enjoy exclusive wine and are happy to do your due diligence, it’s absolutely worth paying the membership fee for your next purchase of wines. ![My Verdict: To Sip or Skip?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-10.png "In article image 10 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Conclusion: Everything You Need to Know About Naked Wines Australia Being a single mum is hard enough. We deserve a little treat now and then. If delicious wine is your thing, Naked Wines Australia is a fun and affordable way to enjoy different wines without the bottle-shop overwhelm. Just read the fine print, know what you’re signing up for, and enjoy it responsibly. (Because no one wants to parent through a toddler tantrum with a hangover). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/naked-wines-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/naked-wines-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How to Prevent Colds and Flu & Defend Your Family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/prevent-colds-and-flu/) **Published:** June 28, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** **Quick Takeaways on how to prevent colds and flu at home:** - **Prevention is everything:** Wash your hands often to stop classroom germs from spreading. - **Track your medicine:** Keep a written log of every dose so you don’t double up at 2 AM. - **Lower your standards:** If you are sick, drop the chores and embrace survival mode without guilt. - **Trust your gut:** Always seek medical help if your child’s symptoms worsen or they struggle to breathe. Winter is here on the Gold Coast, and the school run has turned into a chaotic chorus of coughs. My 11-year-old seems to bring home every germ circulating in her classroom. Once a virus hits our front door, it is only a matter of time before the common cold or flu takes out the whole house. As a single mum, there is no “backup parent” to take the night shift when the cold and flu season strikes. Trying to manage cold and flu symptoms while your dogs use your aching body as a trampoline is a special kind of solo parenting hell. You don’t need a miracle cure for the common cold or expensive smoothies; you just need a solid plan to prevent colds and flu at home. ## Why is flu season so exhausting for single mums? When you’re the sole provider, a cold feels like a massive logistical crisis. If the kids are sick, your work schedule crumbles, and you’re left managing congestion, fever, and the mental load entirely on your own. It’s exhausting, but you can help prevent or treat these bugs with some practical, no-nonsense strategies. If the mental load of managing a sick house is overwhelming, check out our [**household tips for single mums**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/life/household/) to help simplify your routine. ## How to prevent the spread of germs - **Wash your hands often:** Make your kids wash their hands the second they walk in the door to prevent the spread of school germs. - **Keep it clean:** Sanitise high-touch spots like doorknobs and remotes daily. This may help keep the respiratory tract clear of nasty bugs. - **Ventilation:** If the weather allows, open windows to push out stale, germy air. ## Cold or Flu: How to tell the difference? It’s often hard to know if you are getting a cold or flu. A cold usually comes on slowly with a sore throat and runny nose, while you remain somewhat functional. The flu, however, hits like a freight train. Flu symptoms like high fever, body aches, and extreme exhaustion are your clues that it is time to see your GP. ![Prevent Colds and Flu at Home with nature](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/2026-australian-federal-budget-1-2.jpg "How to Defend Your Family & Prevent Colds and Flu at Home - Beanstalk Mums") ### Simple, effective home remedies that may help While there is no cure for a cold, some natural remedies and home remedies for cold can help ease the misery. - **Fluids:** **Plenty of fluids** are the best way to handle nasal congestion and keep kids hydrated. - **Salt water:** A gargle with a teaspoon of salt and warm water is an effective home remedy for a painful sore throat. - **Support:** Vitamin C and zinc are supplements that may help boost your defences against an upper respiratory infection. Found that taking vitamin C before getting sick can sometimes reduce cold and flu symptoms. - **Classic Comfort:** A simple bowl of chicken soup really may help relieve the duration of cold symptoms. If you are looking for more [**easy winter wellness activities**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/super-easy-winter-wellness-activities-to-boost-your-health/), check out our guide here. ## Safely managing medicine When you are exhausted, never guess a dose. Use over-the-counter medications carefully. - **Log everything:** Keep a written record of when you give pain relievers or a decongestant so you don’t double up at 2 AM. - **Use the right tool:** For babies, use a bulb syringe to clear mucus. - **Check the label:** Always talk to your doctor about which cough and cold medicines or antihistamines, and pain relievers are safe for your child’s weight. ## When is it time to see your GP? Trust your gut. If your child has severe symptoms or trouble breathing, don’t wait—seek medical help. **[The Centres for Disease Control and Prevention guidelines](https://www.cdc.gov/flu/signs-symptoms/index.html)** suggest that if flu can cause breathing issues, it is time to see your GP. For more information on when to seek care, the **[Healthdirect guide on colds and flu](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/colds-and-flu)** is a great resource. ## Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) **What is the best way to help prevent colds and flu at home?** The best way is to wash your hands often, sanitise high-touch surfaces daily, and ensure your home is well-ventilated to help prevent the spread of germs. **Are there natural remedies that may help relieve symptoms?** Yes, home remedies like chicken soup, a salt water gargle, and staying hydrated with plenty of fluids may help relieve your cold or flu symptoms. **How do I know if it’s time to see a doctor?** If your child has severe symptoms, persistent high fever, or difficulty breathing, it is time to see your gp or seek medical help immediately. **How do I safely manage medication for my kids?** Always use over-the-counter medications based on your child’s current weight, use a proper measuring tool, and keep a written log so you don’t double-dose. > ***Disclaimer: This is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s health, please seek medical attention or contact a nurse via Healthdirect.*** ![How to protect your family against colds and flu? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Colds-and-flu-534x800.png "Colds and flu - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/prevent-colds-and-flu/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/prevent-colds-and-flu/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** flu, colds, illness, winter, health --- ### [Cheap Winter Meals for Family: Comfort Food Dinner Ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-winter-meals-for-families/) **Published:** June 28, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Quick Takeaways: Cheap Winter Meals for Families - **Embrace Batch Cooking:** Preparing large portions of stews**,** bakes, and slow-cooker meals maximises ingredient use and saves hours in the kitchen. - **Pantry Staples Are King:** Relying on tinned beans, lentils, and frozen vegetables keeps costs low without sacrificing nutritional value. - **Freezer-Friendly Prep:** Most budget-friendly winter meals can be frozen for up to three months, making mid-week dinner chaos manageable. There is nothing quite like walking into a cold house and being greeted by the rich, comforting scent of a slow cooker working its magic. When you are running a household on a single income, the mental load of deciding what to cook every single night is exhausting enough. Add the 2026 cost-of-living squeeze to the mix, and dinnertime can feel more like a math test than a cosy family moment over a bowl of chilli. Making a cheap, nutritious meal your kids actually eat is a major win for single parents. Let’s drop the grocery guilt and focus on budget-friendly winter dinners that fill them up. ## What are the Best Cheap and Healthy Winter Meals for Families? **The best cheap winter meals focus on high-fibre, batch-cook recipes like bean stews, vegetable pasta bakes, and slow-cooker beef chuck steak. Utilising affordable pantry staples like tinned beans, lentils, and frozen vegetables is a highly effective way for single-income households to manage 2026 cost-of-living pressures.** When the temperature drops, our instinct is to reach for heavy, comforting food. The trick to keeping it healthy and cheap is stretching your proteins by mixing them with high-fibre fillers. Tuscan-style white bean stew, one-pot sausage casserole, and vegetable-loaded pasta bakes are absolute goldmines for winter budgeting. If you want to take total control of your household expenses, learning how to master these pantry-raid dinners is a fantastic place to start. For more tips on managing solo finances, check out our guide on [**Financial Planning For Single Mothers: How to Take Control**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/). ### Why the Slow Cooker is the Secret to Cheap Winter Meals Let’s be honest, the slow cooker is the ultimate honorary co-parent for a tired single mum. You can throw your ingredients into the pot at 8:00 AM while yelling at someone to find their school shoes, turn it on, and completely forget about it until dinner. When cooking cheap winter meals, tough cuts of meat like beef chuck steak or chicken drumsticks transform into melt-in-your-mouth masterpieces after a few hours of low-and-slow cooking. It saves your sanity at 5:00 PM when the witching hour hits, and you have absolutely zero energy left to stand over a hot stove. ## How can single mums master winter meal planning on a budget? **Mastering winter meal prep on a budget requires a strategic focus on batch cooking, ingredient cross-utilisation, and organised meal planning before heading to the supermarket.** Preparing double portions of base meals ensures you have quick, cost-effective backup dinners ready for chaotic weeknights, like one-pan noodle dishes. The golden rule of single-income meal prep is to cook once and eat twice (or three times, if you can stretch it). When you are balancing work, school runs, and parenting alone, cooking from scratch every night is a fast track to burnout. Don’t plan five totally different dinners for the week. Instead, pick two or three basic meals that share the same ingredients. For example, you can use a big batch of tasty beef mince to make a shepherd’s pie on Monday, sloppy joes on Tuesday, and a pasta bake on Thursday. If you want more tips on saving money while raising kids on your own, check out our guide on **[How to Actually Survive Financially As A Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/)**. To keep your grocery bill under control, plan your meals entirely around what is already hiding in your cupboards and what is currently on sale. For an authoritative guide on what’s currently in season and cheapest at the checkout, visit the **[Seasonal Food Guide Australia](http://seasonalfoodguide.com/)**. - **Audit your pantry:** Never buy a spice or a tin of tomatoes without checking the back of the cupboard first. - **Buy frozen veggies:** They are snap-frozen at peak nutrition, cost a fraction of the price of fresh produce in winter, and won’t rot in the crisper drawer. - **Bulk up with pulses:** Drop a handful of red lentils or a tin of brown lentils into your bolognese sauce—it doubles the volume of the meal for pennies, and the kids won’t even notice. ## What are 20 Cheap Winter Meals Your Family Will Actually Eat **The best budget-friendly family dinners for cold weather utilise low-cost proteins, root vegetables, and grains to create filling, warm plates.** These twenty classic meal ideas provide high comfort and low grocery receipts. ### **Tuscan White Bean Stew:** Tinned cannellini beans simmered with diced tomatoes, garlic, Italian herbs, and spinach, served with crusty toast. [![Tuscan Bean Stew | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/wh5c0IpC/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2019/05/tuscan-style-white-bean-stew-150068-1.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/tuscan-style-white-bean-stew-recipe/8d4psxen) I found this on: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/tuscan-style-white-bean-stew-recipe/8d4psxen) ### **One-Pot Sausage Casserole:** Budget-friendly beef sausages sliced and cooked with carrots, potatoes, and a rich tomato paste broth make for a hearty winter dinner. [![One Pot Sausage Stew | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/-d4E9XTL/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2016/11/one-pot-sausage-stew-80369-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pot-sausage-stew/28c5e396-c40e-4a99-a3ae-f42cf0c0c0d6) I found this on: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pot-sausage-stew/28c5e396-c40e-4a99-a3ae-f42cf0c0c0d6) ### **Slow-Cooker Beef Chuck Ragout:** Tough beef chuck steak broken down beautifully with root vegetables over budget pasta. [![Slow Cooker Steak & Mushroom | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.kidspot.com.au/ATFLEK2m/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2015/03/3313-500711-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/slow-cooker-steak-mushrooms-recipe/wmv3n49c) I found this on: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/slow-cooker-steak-mushrooms-recipe/wmv3n49c) ### **Lentil Shepherd’s Pie:** Brown lentils and mixed frozen veggies topped with a fluffy layer of mashed potato. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/19814_shepherdspie_full-1015x800.jpg "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.vegkit.com/recipes/vegan-main-meals/vegan-lentil-shepherds-pie/) I found this on: [Veg Kit](https://www.vegkit.com/recipes/vegan-main-meals/vegan-lentil-shepherds-pie/) ### **Creamy Pumpkin Soup:** Roasted seasonal pumpkins blended with a potato for thickness and a splash of milk. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/1-creamy-pumpkin-soup-7-1-of-1.jpg "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.manusmenu.com/creamy-pumpkin-soup) I found this on: [Manusmenu](https://www.manusmenu.com/creamy-pumpkin-soup) ### **Vegetable Pasta Bake:** Macaroni mixed with whatever vegetables are in the fridge, smothered in a basic cheesy white sauce, can be a delicious vegetarian option, or you could add meatballs for extra protein. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Wsq_vegetable-pasta-bake-1-800x800.jpg "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://qcwacountrykitchens.com.au/recipe/vegetable-pasta-bake/) I found this on: [Country Kitchens](https://qcwacountrykitchens.com.au/recipe/vegetable-pasta-bake/) ### **Chicken Drumstick Tray Bake:** Budget-friendly chicken drumsticks roasted with chunks of potato, pumpkin, and onion. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Chicken_drumsticks_with_potato_and_broccoli_web_1_of_1_c64cd8b9-78a2-4ab7-b428-26694206ce2c-e1782609845620-edited-1.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.leahitsines.com.au/blogs/recipes/chicken-drumstick-tray-bake-1) I found this on: [Leah’s Kitchen](https://www.leahitsines.com.au/blogs/recipes/chicken-drumstick-tray-bake-1) ### **Curried Egg and Rice:** Hard-boiled eggs simmered in a mild, kid-friendly curry sauce served over white rice can be a comforting dinner idea. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Curried-eggs-with-rice.jpg "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.recipecommunity.com.au/pasta-rice-dishes-recipes/curried-eggs-with-rice/55a9daus-33ee8-895647-beea0-lmcfkh9d) I found this on: [Thermomix](https://www.recipecommunity.com.au/pasta-rice-dishes-recipes/curried-eggs-with-rice/55a9daus-33ee8-895647-beea0-lmcfkh9d) ### **Fried Rice Raid:** Day-old rice tossed with frozen peas, corn, soy sauce, and a couple of scrambled eggs. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Egg-fried-rice_3-1-edited-1.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.recipetineats.com/egg-fried-rice/) I found this on: [RecipeTinEats](https://www.recipetineats.com/egg-fried-rice/) ### **Mexican Bean Quesadillas:** Tortillas filled with rinsed black beans, corn, and shredded cheese, toasted in a pan. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Mexican-bean-quesadillas-1200x790.avif "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.waitrose.com/ecom/recipe/mexican-bean-quesadillas) I found this on: [WaitRose](https://www.waitrose.com/ecom/recipe/mexican-bean-quesadillas) ### **Potato and Leek Soup:** A classic, filling winter warmer that costs next to nothing to whip up in bulk. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Potato_and_leek_soup.webp "Cheap Winter Meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kitchenaid.com.au/blogs/kitchenthusiast/potato-and-leek-soup-0) I found this on: [KitchenAid](https://kitchenaid.com.au/blogs/kitchenthusiast/potato-and-leek-soup-0) ### **Tuna Mornay Bake:** Tinned tuna, pasta, and corn are baked together with a crunchy breadcrumb topping, making for a cosy dinner on the table. [![Cheap winter meals for the family](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/WZYp9IuE/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/03/creamy-tuna-mornay-950691-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/creamy-tuna-mornay-recipe/ornof6of) I found this on: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/creamy-tuna-mornay-recipe/ornof6of) ### **Cheesy Savoury Muffins:** Great for an easy “breakfast-for-dinner” night using grated zucchini, carrot, and cheddar, adding a touch of flavour to the meal. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Cheesy-savoury-muffins_0-edited.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.recipetineats.com/cheese-garlic-muffins/) I found this on: [RecipeTinEats](https://www.recipetineats.com/cheese-garlic-muffins/) ### **Slow-Cooker Chicken Cacciatore:** Chicken thighs cooked low with capsicum, olives, and tinned crushed tomatoes. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Slow_cooker_chicken_cacciatore-1536x1024-1-1200x800.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://healthymadetasty.com.au/recipes/slow-cooker-chicken-cacciatore/) I found this on: [Healthy Made Easy](https://healthymadetasty.com.au/recipes/slow-cooker-chicken-cacciatore/) ### **Beef and Vegetable Barley Stew:** A handful of beef mince stretched into a massive pot of soup using pearl barley and diced root veggies. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Beef-and-barley-stewimg_8060%20Jpg-533x800.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://damndelicious.net/2019/01/06/beef-and-barley-stew/) I found this on: [Damn Delicious](https://damndelicious.net/2019/01/06/beef-and-barley-stew/) ### **Homemade Mini Pizzas:** Using English muffins or pita bread as bases, topped with tomato paste, cheese, and leftover ham. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Aug25-homemade-mini-pizzas-976x549-1.jpg "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.coles.com.au/recipes-inspiration/recipes/homemade-mini-pizzas) I found this on: [Coles](https://www.coles.com.au/recipes-inspiration/recipes/homemade-mini-pizzas) ### **Zucchini and Corn Fritters:** Grated zucchini and tinned corn bound with flour and egg, shallow-fried until golden. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Hayley-zucchini-fritters-small-385x293-1.png "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://farmers.org.au/recipe/zucchini-and-corn-fritters/) I found this on: [Australian Farmers](https://farmers.org.au/recipe/zucchini-and-corn-fritters/) ### **Chunky Minestrone Vegetable Soup:** A hearty blend of vegetable stock, tinned tomatoes, small pasta shapes, and kidney beans can be enhanced with sweet potatoes for a more filling winter dinner. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Minestrone-soup_0-572x800.webp "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.recipetineats.com/minestrone-soup/) I found this on: [RecipeTinEats](https://www.recipetineats.com/minestrone-soup/) ### **Baked Potatoes with Baked Beans:** Fluffy jacket potatoes stuffed with warmed baked beans and a sprinkle of cheese. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/1400x919-jacketpotatoecurriedbeanswithpaneer-recipe-4f0a5f18-091d-4159-8d2d-8898d3fcb2db-0-1400x919-1-1200x788.jpg "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://realfood.tesco.com/recipes/jacket-potatoes-with-curried-beans-and-paneer.html) I found this on: [Tesco](https://realfood.tesco.com/recipes/jacket-potatoes-with-curried-beans-and-paneer.html) ### **BBQ Pulled Chicken Sliders:** Chicken breast slow-cooked in a bottle of budget BBQ sauce, shredded, and served on cheap soft rolls. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/The-best-bbq-pulled-chicken-sliders-for-a-crowd-533x800.jpg "Cheap winter meals - Beanstalk Mums")](https://sundaytable.co/bbq-pulled-chicken-sliders/) I found this on: [Sunday Table](https://sundaytable.co/bbq-pulled-chicken-sliders/) Feeling the pinch of solo parenting and looking for a safe space to share your budget victories, recipe failures, or just vent about the daily chaos? Come over and join our private Facebook community, the **[Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**. It is full of resourceful, amazing mums who truly get it—grab a cuppa (or a glass of wine) and join the sisterhood! ## **Frequently Asked Questions About Budget-friendly Winter Meals** **Can I freeze these **cheap winter meals**?** Yes, stews, casseroles, and pasta bakes freeze beautifully for up to 3 months. Always allow the food to cool completely before portioning it out. Use airtight containers or heavy-duty freezer bags to prevent freezer burn. If you want to stock up for those truly chaotic nights, check out our guide to [**Easy Kid Friendly Freezer Meals Your Family Will Love**.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-kid-friendly-freezer-meals/) **How do I stop my kids from complaining about hidden vegetables?** The finest trick in the solo mum playbook is the blender. If your kids refuse to eat visible chunks of zucchini, carrot, or onion. Simply cook the vegetables down in your tomato base, then blend the sauce until it’s completely smooth before adding your pasta or meat. **Is batch cooking actually cheaper than buying pre-made meals?** Absolutely. Raw staples like rice, beans, potatoes, and bulk minced meat are very affordable. They cost significantly less per portion than processed, pre-packaged convenience meals. Making them a great choice for wholesome soups and stews. Plus, you avoid the added sodium and preservatives. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-winter-meals-for-families/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-winter-meals-for-families/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Food **Tags:** budget meals, cheap food, budget dinners, cheap recipes, cheap dinner --- ### [Single Parent Travel: Expert Tips For An Awesome Holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/single-parent-travel-holiday/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Single parent travel can feel overwhelming. The cost, the logistics, and the practicalities. All too often, single mums put holidaying in the hard basket or make a promise to do it another time. Please don’t do that. Spending quality time with your kids away from home and taking them travelling is hugely important for you and them. Not only is travelling an incredible experience for kids, but I have found it to have many other benefits. It opens their mind, boosts development, motivates problem-solving, and encourages empathy with others (particularly different cultures) whilst making them more accepting of the world around them. Getting away as a family can also strengthen your bond with your children as you leave the mundane behind and discover new experiences together. I’ve lived on a shoestring all my single-mother life and have still travelled extensively with my daughter. I also have the experience of being an ex-travel agent. Here is how I made it happen. ***Further reading on this topic: [Flying with kids: Everything you need to know.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-travel-let-an-online-travel-agent-plan-for-you/)*** ## Single parent travel and holiday tips ## Travel anywhere Travel doesn’t have to be extensive or expensive. Yes, it is wonderful to go overseas and treat yourself to a nice hotel. Yet, camping an hour’s drive from home can be just as much fun, sometimes more. Work with what you have and what you can afford. For example, during lockdown, we couldn’t leave our state, so I booked a cheap hotel deal in a town 3 hours away. I packed light—just the essentials. It was one of the most enjoyable trips we have had together. I would never have considered it had it not been for travel restrictions. You don’t need much travel money. The important part is getting away from your home and your everyday routine while spending time together as a family. ***Further reading: [Single parent holidays: 6 Easy ideas to get away.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-holidays/)*** ## Get the cheapest holiday deals available Shopping for travel can take a while because there are so many deals, which is good, but time-consuming. I start early and take my time, so I get the absolute lowest prices available. Check out the large online travel platforms for flights, accommodation, and holiday packages. You can also enter your requirements directly into a Google search and compare flight and accommodation prices for specific dates. My starting points are always: - [Skyscanner](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001) (brilliant to compare flights) - [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU) - [Last Minute](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW) - [Booking.com](https://fave.co/42VWnRc) - [Scoopon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/42875?Url=https%3a%2f%2fscoopon.com.au%2fau%2fhotels) - [Deals](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64128?Url=https%3a%2f%2fdeals.com.au%2fau%2fhotels) Note: Scoopon and Deals are discount coupon websites that offer discounted holidays alongside other offers. It is definitely worth checking in with both of these before you book, as you could bag a big travel savings. ![Single parent holiday travel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000011045-1066x800.jpg "1000011045 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Take the kids out of school If you’ve ever booked a holiday or any travel, you will know that pricing is extremely date-sensitive. Costs can triple during holiday time compared to term time. Not everyone will agree with my choice, but I take my kids out of school to get cheaper pricing. If you do this, remember to notify the school and make sure your kids stay ahead with their schoolwork. I am taking my daughter out of school two weeks early at the end of this term, but it is on the condition that she is up-to-date with her studies. It’s an excellent incentive to get them working, and there is no need to wait for the next school holiday! The money you save on flights and accommodation can also free up room in your budget for [family travel insurance](https://www.freely.me/au/traveller/family), giving you extra peace of mind if unexpected delays, cancellations or medical emergencies pop up while you’re away. Travelling in term time will save you thousands of dollars, and it is quieter everywhere, too. ## Single parent travel and holiday tips (cont.) ## Contact the accommodation directly Single-parent families are not particularly well catered for in the holiday industry. For some strange reason, hotels and other accommodations assume every booking is for two adults and two kids, and they price accordingly. For this reason, always phone your choice of accommodation directly and explain your situation and the sleeping arrangements you require. When my girls were young, hotels were happy for us to share a room. Now they are teens, they are classed as adults, and although we still want to share a room, the hotel booking systems won’t allow it or will charge me more. Instead, I call ahead and explain that yes, we are two adults, but it is my daughter and me. They are always happy to put us in the same room, sometimes with a small extra charge for a Z-bed, which is way cheaper than booking a second room. I find that when I chat with the accommodation directly, they are more than happy to help us single parents travelling with kids. ### We love an inclusive breakfast Not only is it a lovely treat to have breakfast included in our accommodation booking, but it also saves a lot of money. We are always starving in the morning and don’t want to roam unfamiliar streets looking for a nice place to eat at extra expense. Rather, we head zombie-like to the hotel breakfast room and stuff our faces. It is the one time I encourage my kids to eat as much as they can, and (no judgment, please) we do take the odd piece of fruit to eat later in the day. An inclusive breakfast might seem like an unnecessary expense at the time of booking, but it will save you money in the long run and leave you more to spend on excursions or other travel highlights. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000011046-1066x800.jpg "1000011046 - Beanstalk Mums") ## House swap for a free family holiday If you are a single mum with a young child, several children, or a child with special needs, the thought of single parent travel will feel particularly daunting. But there are still ways to make it happen. House swapping is free and a great way to experience being away from home with all your home comforts. Do an exchange with a family similar to your own, and you’ll likely have everything you need on arrival. You must do this through a reputable site to ensure you are fully insured, and the people coming into your home are vetted. [Aussie House Swap](https://www.aussiehouseswap.com.au/?tap_a=11812-cb2a64&tap_s=3155364-faa687) has good reviews and testimonials. Although we have never done the aforementioned house swap, I do rent out our home when we are away for extended periods. Why? Because it pays for the whole holiday! Think about it. The most reputable platforms for renting your home are [Airbnb](https://www.airbnb.com.au/) and [Stayz](https://www.stayz.com.au/?CID=a_ph_6&utm_source=aff_ph&utm_medium=partner&utm_campaign=yieldkit_ph_1100l715&utm_content=0&k_clickid=1100lwbE4Fh4&affcid=STAYZ-AU.DIRECT.PHG.1011l24013). ## Single parent travel: put it first (the rest will follow) If you want travel and holidays to become a regular part of your life as a single parent, you have to prioritise them. That also means [protecting your plans with solid travel insurance](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/11003?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.covermore.com.au%2f)—so one mishap doesn’t blow the budget or your confidence. Our downstairs bathroom is a health hazard and should have been replaced about ten years ago, but, as a family, faced with the choice of a new bathroom or a trip to America, the bathroom continues to fester. [Become a savvy saver](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/cheap-family-holiday/) and set aside money each month for your next adventure with your kids. Discuss places you would like to visit and why. Having something to look forward to is important for good mental health. As a single mum with lots of outgoings, the only way to make single parent travel happen is to prioritise it. ## Single Parent Travel as a Co-parent If you are co-parenting, please make sure you have permission to take your kids on holiday before you pay for anything. More importantly, do not book an overseas trip if your child does not have a passport. A passport needs to be signed by both parents, and I have lost count of the number of people I know who had [problems getting their exes to sign a passport form](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/). Your parenting orders or consent orders might detail how travel works in your separated family. We don’t have orders, but I will always ask my ex in writing (usually by text) if it is ok to take the kids away. It is courteous to let the other parent know, and I would want to be notified if it were the other way around. Nothing ruins single parent travel plans faster than an ex who won’t sign the passport application. ***Further reading:*** ***[Co-Parenting Travel Guidelines: Navigating travelling with children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/)*** ## Travel with a fellow single mum Travelling with another single-parent family will help decrease costs by sharing expenses. Three years ago, my friend Tina and I decided to take our kids on a beach vacation together. By combining our budgets, we could afford a spacious rental house right by the shore. Every morning, we planned our day’s activities while drinking our morning coffee, and the kids played together. Instead of eating out every meal, we took turns cooking delicious dinners and sharing recipes and stories late into the night. As we watched our kids build sandcastles and chase seagulls, we knew that our shared experiences were worth more than any discount we could find. You, too, can invite a fellow single mum on a getaway. Pooling your resources will help you save money and create a stronger bond between your kiddos. ## Summary: Single parent travel holiday tips Planning a single-parent travel holiday can seem like a lot of work at first, but think about the memories you will be creating with your little ones! Plus, you get to take time off from household chores and work deadlines, even if it’s only for a few days. The first step is to check the [best holiday deals online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/holiday-deals-online/) and book them immediately because they sell out fast! Remember to reach out to other single mums and consider travelling together to share costs. When packing, think of practicality over excess. Versatile clothing and essentials will save you space and hassle. And don’t forget to bring along some entertainment for the kids – their favourite book, a board game of their choice, or their beloved stuffed animal. During your trip, try to keep a loose itinerary. Allow for flexibility in your plans because, let’s face it, sometimes the best moments happen when you least expect them. Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help or look for family-friendly accommodations and activities. Many places offer discounts for single parents or have amenities specifically designed to cater to families. 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It’s about upgrading your headquarters to work smarter. For us, sustainability is a superpower—it’s about lowering those quarterly bills, creating a healthier environment for our kids to grow up in, and building a home that actually supports our lifestyle. Here is how to take charge and create a greener, more efficient home that works as hard as you do. ## **1. Utilise outside spaces** One of the smartest moves a household CEO can make is expanding the living footprint without the cost of a full extension. Our [backyards](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-turn-your-backyard-into-a-space-the-whole-family-will-love/) are high-potential assets. Every hour the kids are outside is an hour where the lights are off, the TV is silent, and the air conditioning gets a well-earned break. I remember when I finally cleared out the “junk corner” of my patio and put down some decent outdoor rugs and a few sturdy chairs. It became my morning “boardroom” where I could have a coffee and plan the day while the kids ran off their energy. If you’re giving your backyard a refresh, investing in [All Year Round Turf sir walter buffalo grass](https://allyearroundturf.com.au/sir-walter/ "All Year Round Turf sir walter buffalo grass") can make the space more inviting for the whole family. A hardy, low-maintenance lawn means less time worrying about upkeep and more time enjoying picnics, backyard games, or simply letting the kids play barefoot. - **The Smart Connection:** If you’re looking at a bigger upgrade, installing a sliding glass door to connect your lounge to the deck is a brilliant “green” investment. It floods your home with natural light (cutting down on daytime lamp use) and allows for cross-ventilation, which is the Aussie secret to avoiding the “AC tax” on your power bill during summer. ## **2. Embrace plants and natural materials** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-aliona-zueva-42707571-10903305-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-aliona-zueva-42707571-10903305 - Beanstalk Mums") Plants are nature’s hard workers. They don’t just sit there looking pretty; they’re actively filtering the air and cooling your property. If you want a perimeter that offers privacy for your family while helping the planet, you can’t go past the [Lilly Pilly Resilience](https://www.thenurso.au/pages/lilly-pilly). These Aussie icons are tough, fast-growing, and create a lush “green wall” that keeps your yard cooler than a hot timber fence ever could. Inside, your “green team” should include low-maintenance houseplants. If you think you haven’t got the time to keep a plant alive, look for a “Zanzibar Gem” or a “Snake Plant”—they are the single mums of the plant world: resilient, independent, and capable of thriving even when ignored for a bit. - **Natural Durability:** When it’s time to update furniture, pivot toward natural wood and stone. They aren’t just eco-friendly; they are “kid-proof.” A solid timber table can be sanded back and rescued from even the most enthusiastic Sharpie artist, making it a much better long-term investment than cheap, flimsy plastics. ## **3. Switch to efficient appliances** We’re already experts at checking price tags; we just need to apply that same scrutiny to energy labels. When the washing machine finally gives up the ghost, don’t just look at the upfront cost. An appliance with a high Energy Star rating is like a gift to your future self—it’s a monthly “discount” on your electricity and water bills for the next ten years. Think about the high-use items: the dishwasher, the fridge, and the dryer. Modern heat-pump dryers, for example, use a fraction of the energy of the old “box of hot air” versions. - **The $5 Weekend Fix:** If you haven’t made the switch to LED light bulbs, make that your mission this weekend. They last up to 25 times longer than old incandescents. It means fewer trips up the ladder and significantly less power used every time a child inevitably forgets to turn the hallway light off. ## **4. Add an EV charger** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-andersen-ev-1587213396-27355829-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-andersen-ev-1587213396-27355829 - Beanstalk Mums") The way we get around is changing, and being “ahead of the game” is a core mum skill. If you’re considering your next vehicle, hybrids and EVs are becoming the practical choice for city runs and school drop-offs. An [EV charger installation](https://evse.com.au/?srsltid=AfmBOopIJ6Gw-4EqBtd8PnSECD-Eo3EA7A91WX__kimB7rvGlNjhP4px) at home is about convenience as much as it is about the environment. Imagine never having to detour to a petrol station at 7:00 AM on a Monday morning because the “Empty” light is blinking. You “refuel” in your driveway while the house is asleep. It’s a holistic shift that simplifies your logistics and drastically cuts your carbon footprint. Plus, it’s a massive selling point for your home’s future value. ## **5. Manage the climate** In many parts of Australia, we spend a fortune trying to fight the weather. But a savvy homeowner knows how to make the house work with the environment. Passive climate control is all about using the structure of your home to stay comfortable. - **[Larger windows](https://www.rylock.com.au/):** Think of your windows as your home’s lungs. Using heavy blockout curtains or honeycomb blinds can trap a layer of air that keeps the heat out in January and the warmth in during July. - **Smarter Roofing:** If you’re renovating, look at “cool roofing” options or lighter-coloured tiles. They reflect the sun’s rays rather than absorbing them into your ceiling. It’s the difference between a house that feels like an oven and a house that stays naturally breezy. ## **6. Change habits** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-shvets-production-7512847-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shvets-production-7512847 - Beanstalk Mums") Finally, the greenest home is one where the habits match the hardware. This is where we lead by example, showing our kids that being resourceful is a sign of intelligence. - **The Food Waste Audit:** Instead of binning the leftovers, get the kids involved in a worm farm or a Bokashi bin. It’s a great way to show them how nature recycles, and it turns your kitchen scraps into free fertiliser for your Lilly Pillies. - **The Chemical-Free Swap:** Most of those “heavy-duty” cleaners in the supermarket are overpriced and full of things we don’t really want our kids breathing in. Microfibre cloths, lemon juice, and bicarb soda are the “holy trinity” of green cleaning. They’re cheaper, safer, and they get the job done without polluting our waterways. - **Energy Awareness:** Make the kids the “Energy Wardens.” Give them the responsibility of checking that chargers aren’t left plugged in and lights are off. It’s not just about the environment; it’s about teaching them the value of a dollar. ## **Final Thoughts** Creating a greener home isn’t an “all or nothing” deal. It’s about making one or two smart choices every year that compound over time. Whether it’s choosing a more efficient fridge or planting a hedge that keeps the house cool, you’re making executive decisions that benefit your family’s health and your household’s bottom line. Take a look around your home today. What’s one small “eco-efficiency” you can tackle this week? You’re already doing the work of two people—let’s make sure your home is pulling its weight, too. You’ve got this, Boss Mama. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/six-simple-steps-to-create-a-greener-home-environment/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/six-simple-steps-to-create-a-greener-home-environment/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [12 Step guide to buying property in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-property-in-australia/) **Published:** April 28, 2025 **Author:** Chandel Brandimarti **Content:** When it comes to financial goals, buying a property is certainly one that features on the list for many Australians. In recent years, single women in particular have been [buying smart property investments](https://www.builderdirect.com.au/investment-property-townsville/) in droves as a means to secure their long-term wealth. (Which makes me do a little internal happy dance every time I think about it.) If you’re tired of watching your hard-earned cash disappear into someone else’s mortgage, it might be time to [stop renting](https://www.stoprentingadelaide.com.au/) and consider buying your own place. However, let’s be honest: in a property market as competitive as Australia’s, buying a property can often feel like a daunting task. The steps between wanting a property of your own and actually getting one can seem very disconnected. So, let’s break it down step by step, remove the jargon and finance fluff, and get more comfortable and confident with the process of buying a home. Ready? Let’s do it! ## **12-Step guide to buying property in Australia** ## **1. Mindset** When you’re purchasing a property, it’s normal to experience a few hiccups along the way. Whether you miss out on an auction or receive a less-than-impressive building report, there will be times when you wonder if it’s all worth it. However, with the right mindset and the right support, we believe the journey is absolutely worth it. ## **2. Expenses (1 hour)** Do you live for that morning coffee or a weekly bottle of wine? Have dance lessons or soccer team fees to pay for regularly? When it comes to your loan, it doesn’t matter how much your monthly expenses are, as long as your budget is realistic. So, try to be as honest as possible (with your mortgage/financial adviser, and yourself!) about your actual expenses. Pour yourself a glass of wine, be kind and turn this into a fun goal-setting task. Already feeling the anxiety setting in, thinking, ‘I’m just not great with money?’ We call BS – we need to get better at talking to ourselves about money. In terms of a deposit, we recommend aiming to save between $20,000 – $100,000 for an initial deposit, depending on your circumstances and/or whether you are taking advantage of any schemes available to you (more on that below). If you’re considering a house and land package, working with a reputable [home builder](https://www.carlislehomes.com.au/ "home builder") ensures your new property is tailored to your lifestyle while meeting all current building codes and energy efficiency standards. ## **3. Borrowing Power (30 minutes)** In terms of borrowing money from the bank, there’s an amount you *could* borrow and an amount you *should* borrow. It’s all about finding that sweet spot so you can live a life you love, in a home you love. There are lots of different paths to take, so knowing exactly what your borrowing power is can go a long way to giving you peace of mind that you’re not going to overextend yourself. As a very general rule of thumb, most banks will lend you a maximum of six times your income. We recommend booking a meeting with a good mortgage broker to help you with this. They will have access to many different lenders across the market and will work hard to get you the best deal and right fit for your situation. > *Hot tip: Most of the time,* *working with a mortgage broker doesn’t cost you a thing – it’s the bank you take your loan out with, that pays them. We can’t recommend using a good broker enough, it will ease so much of the stress associated with buying a home.* ## **4. Deposit (1 to 7 years)** A 20% deposit is great if you can manage it, and it will save you from paying a fee known as Lender’s Mortgage Insurance (LMI). However, these days, not having a hefty deposit is not necessarily a deal breaker. If a 20% deposit is out of the question for you, there are also low deposit and no deposit options available, depending on your circumstances. With the government introducing the [Family Home Guarantee (FHG)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-home-guarantee-single-parents/) in the recent budget, this is a great scheme to take advantage of as a single parent. > *Fun fact: It takes the average couple living in Sydney*[ *six and a half years*](https://www.domain.com.au/research/domain-first-home-buyer-report-2020-989186/) *to save a 20% deposit for a home in Sydney. So, if you’re feeling frustrated at how long it is taking, just know you’re not alone, and that average time is long!* ## **5. Government Schemes (2 weeks to 3 months)** There’s nothing quite like helping people buy their first home, and with the many grants and schemes available right now, as well as record-low interest rates, there really has never been a better time! We’ve broken down each of the grants and schemes [available in each state or territory on our website](https://www.purefinance.com.au/first-home-buyer-grants-and-schemes/), or we’re more than happy to walk you through your options (over coffee if you prefer)! ## **6. Purchase Breakdown (1 to 3 days)** We like to come back to our clients with a purchase breakdown to help them understand all the forgotten costs of buying a property: - Stamp duty - Legal fees for [conveyancing services](https://entryconveyancing.com.au/conveyancers-geelong/) - Building and pest reports (Yep – it all adds up!). Once our client decides on a purchase breakdown, we then come back to them with different lender options, with a breakdown of their rates, repayments, annual fees and any hidden benefits. This process can take anywhere from one day to a week, depending on how quickly our clients decide on a purchase price and loan amount. ![buying property in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Buying-property-in-australia-1200x800.png "Buying property in australia - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Buying Property in Australia (cont.)** ## **7. The Finance (3 to 14 days)** The golden rule of property hunting: *Get pre-approval before you start looking at properties.* This means that when you do find ‘the one’, you’ll be able to move fast! The beauty of working with a finance specialist is that they can help manage the entire finance process, hurrying things along at the bank and shielding you from the stress, whilst ensuring you get approved on time. All you need to do is dig up a couple of recent payslips, 100 points of ID, and some recent bank statements, and they can manage the rest (for free!). ## **8. The Conditional Pre-Approval (3 to 30 days)** Once your application has been signed and lodged, your conditional pre-approval can take anywhere between one and thirty days to come through. It really depends on the bank, how many applications they are receiving, and how quickly they are assessing them. Your broker will be able to tell you how long to wait… Congratulations! Your *Conditional* Pre-Approval has come through! You should be issued with a nice shiny letter for your records. At this stage, your loan is approved in theory with the bank outlining a few leftover ‘conditions’, before granting you *Unconditional* Approval. These leftover conditions are usually things like a valuation on the property you are hoping to buy, once you’ve found it. A good mortgage broker and a good solicitor will help you to take care of those final conditions, outlined in your Conditional Approval letter. > *Hot tip: Was one of your conditions, closing your credit card? No need to rush ahead to close it just yet – you’ll only need to close it once you’ve secured your property.* ## **9. The Property (1 week to 6 months)** Ready to say goodbye to your Saturdays and go on a property hunt? To make your life easier, have a look at recent sale prices of similar properties in the area you’re looking to buy. This way you become more familiar with the market and set your expectations at the right level. If you find it all too overwhelming, a buyer’s agent can help you find and negotiate on a property for a fee. Companies like Moove, acting as a [dedicated buyers agent for home buyers](https://www.moove.com.au/ "dedicated buyers agent for home buyers"), can make the process more efficient and less stressful, particularly if you’re short on time or get overwhelmed at auctions. > *Fun fact: In 2020,* [*43,000 Australian’s moved from cities to regional areas*](https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/net-migration-regions-highest-record)*. This is up from 19,000 in 2019.* ## **10. Making an Offer (3 days)** So, you’ve found the property of your dreams and you want to make an offer? Fantastic! In some circumstances, you can buy a property prior to auction. However, it’s really important to get a solicitor to look over the contract to make sure there are no hidden nasties. Your solicitor is there to protect you legally, so make sure you engage someone you feel comfortable with. ## **11. Settlement (42 days)** After you’ve put the shiny ‘SOLD’ sign up, there is a period between when you have paid your 10% deposit and both parties (buyer and seller) have signed the contract at the agreed price (‘exchange’), and when you actually get the keys (‘settlement’). This is when we would order a valuation on your behalf. Exchange to settlement is typically 42 days, et voila – you’re a homeowner! > *Fun fact: Did you know,[ the average age of a first home buyer in Australia is 36](https://www.realestate.com.au/news/average-age-of-aussie-first-home-buyers-closer-to-40-than-20-research-reveals/#:~:text=A%20new%20study%20by%20Money,when%20buying%20their%20first%20home.)?* ## **12. Annual Reviews (Once a year)** The thing about a great home loan is that it doesn’t always stay great. Banks can be sneaky, and sometimes they adjust interest rates over time. Considering that property is an investment, you should always be looking to make sure you’re keeping your costs as low as possible, which means keeping tabs on your home loan interest rate. At Pure Finance, we’ve instituted our industry-first annual rate review process, where we continually negotiate with our clients’ lenders every 12 months to ensure the lowest possible costs on their loans are maintained. Neat huh? And there you have it! It doesn’t seem quite so daunting when you break it down, and remember, while purchasing a property is absolutely a big decision, people do it every single day (and live to tell the tale!). ![Buying property in Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Buying-property-Australia.png "Buying property Australia - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-property-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-property-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** mortgage, investment, family home guarantee, property, broker, home --- ### [The Best Natural Remedies to Relieve Everyday Aches](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-natural-remedies/) **Published:** April 20, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Let’s be real, being a single mum means juggling school drop-offs, work, bills, dinner, and somehow still remembering where you last saw the Panadol. So when stress, a migraine, or a dodgy tummy hits, you want a natural option that doesn’t add another item to your already packed to-do list. That’s where home remedies come in handy. Whether you’re trying to calm a teething toddler or soothe your sore muscles, there are natural ways to feel better without rushing to the chemist every five minutes. From lavender oil for stress to ginger tea for that upset stomach, I will reveal the best natural remedies you can try at home. And yes, I’ve tried most of these myself during some sleep-deprived crisis or another; so they’re mum-tested and life-approved. ## **10 Best Natural Remedies** ## **Lavender: One of the Best Natural Remedies for Anxiety** I often find myself hitting stress overload by Tuesday. When my nerves are fried, I reach for a lavender essential oil. This calming solution has been around forever, and there’s good reason, as it helps settle the nervous system, encouraging relaxation and deeper sleep. Just inhaling lavender or using a diffuser during a quiet moment (once the kids are asleep!) can reset your mood. Lavender is also used in aromatherapy to help reduce anxiety. I keep a roller blend of diluted essential oils (lavender plus a touch of peppermint) in my bag for those frantic school runs or awkward parent-teacher meetings. It’s a small thing, but it genuinely helps me feel a bit more grounded. ![Lavender: One of the Best Natural Remedies for Anxiety | best natural remedies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Best-natural-remedies-lavender-diffuser-1200x800.png "Best natural remedies lavender diffuser - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Ginger: One of the Best Natural Remedies For Digestive Pain** There’s not much that ginger can’t do. From easing nausea to settling a bloated tummy, ginger has been my lifesaver, especially when a sneaky bug starts making its way through the household. A cup of hot ginger tea with a touch of honey is my go-to home remedy for any digestive woes. Ginger is also a powerhouse when it comes to anti-inflammatory effects. Ginger’s natural compounds, like gingerol, help relieve pain without needing to reach for ibuprofen. It is a lifesaver whenever you’ve overdone cleaning or just have general soreness. Bonus: it tastes lovely in smoothies too! ## **Eucalyptus: For Colds** The moment my daughter gets the sniffles, I whip out the eucalyptus oil. Inhaling eucalyptus oil is one of those cures that feels like magic. It clears up cold symptoms and supports breathing when the house feels like a germ factory. You can use eucalyptus in steam inhalation or even mix it into a rub (always dilute essential oils!). It helps open up the airways and support the parasympathetic nervous system, which sounds fancy but just means it helps you chill and breathe easier. I find it especially useful on those nights when [sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-improve-sleep-quality/ "sleep") is already a battle. ## **Best Natural Remedies (cont.)** ## **Turmeric: For Aches and Pain** Turmeric isn’t just for your fave curry; it’s actually packed with curcumin, a powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant. I first started adding it to my smoothies after dealing with knee osteoarthritis pain, and now I swear by it for overall pain management. This golden spice may help treat issues like rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia, too. The trick is pairing it with a little black pepper to boost absorption. Whether you use it in a turmeric latte or sprinkle it on roast veggies, this natural solution offers serious pain relief. All without the chemical nasties. ## **Peppermint: Relief for Migraine and Muscle Pain** When a migraine hits and the kids yell over Bluey, peppermint oil is my little hero. Thanks to its menthol content, a few drops rubbed onto my temples help me soothe the pain. Its cooling effect makes it easier to get through the day (or at least until bedtime!). [Peppermint is also fab for muscle pain](https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness-exercise/essential-oils-for-sore-muscles "Peppermint is also fab for muscle pain"). After a long day of lugging laundry and chasing after kids, I use a topical cream with peppermint to relax tight spots. For ongoing discomfort, [physiotherapy support](https://enhanced-living.org.au/) can also help improve mobility, address muscle tension, and support longer-term recovery. Even a warm bath with peppermint oil can feel like a reset. It’s one of those natural remedies I recommend to every mum friend. ![tea time | best natural remedies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Best-natural-remedies-tea-1200x800.png "Best natural remedies tea - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Tea Time** There’s something about a warm cup of herbal tea that feels like a hug. Depending on your need, tea can help with sleep, digestion, or energy. I rely on chamomile or peppermint for winding down at night and ginger or green tea to pick me up in the morning. Beyond being comforting, tea has medicinal properties. Some herbal brews even contain antioxidant and anti-inflammatory elements that support immune function and help reduce stress. When you can’t change the chaos around you, at least you can sip something soothing. ## **Magnesium** Most of us are low in magnesium and don’t even know it. I learned this after my aunt dealt with fibromyalgia-like symptoms. Once she started taking a dietary supplement (and adding magnesium-rich foods like almonds and yogurt), the soreness started to ease. Magnesium plays a big role in relaxing muscles and nerves, which can help with everything from migraine prevention to sleep quality. Whether you add Epsom salts to your bath or take a daily supplement, it will be one of the best natural things you’ve added to your routine. ## **Best Natural Remedies (cont.)** ## **Capsaicin** If you’re brave with spice, capsaicin (the compound in chilli peppers) can do wonders for pain relief. It works by helping to activate your body’s natural pain relievers and desensitising pain receptors. I’ve used capsaicin creams for rheumatoid arthritis, and the relief was surprisingly good. It’s best used in topical form for pain associated with joints or backache. Just be careful not to use too much and always wash your hands! This natural treatment isn’t for the faint-hearted, but it definitely gets results. ## **Clove** Clove is one of those spices you don’t realise is powerful until you need it. I used it when I had a toothache, and the pain relief was incredible. Just a drop (well diluted) near the sore spot and the discomfort eased almost instantly. This spice also has antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties, so it’s great for immune support or as a backup cure for a sore throat. Add it to your tea, or use the oil when you need a little backup. ![mindfulness and breathing exercises](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Yoga-1200x800.png "Yoga - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Mindfulness and Breathing Exercises** When everything else fails, or you simply don’t have any oils or herbs lying around, mindfulness and breathing exercises are a free and effective way to calm the chaos. Practising deep breathing when the overwhelm hits has saved me from snapping more than once. These techniques help regulate our physiological response to stress or anxiety. It calms our nervous system and improves mental clarity. Even just taking five minutes to breathe deeply and exhale slowly can do wonders. No herbs, no oils. Just you, breathing, and a little peace in the madness. ## **Final Thoughts: Best Natural Remedies** When you’re raising little ones solo, it’s easy to put your health on the back burner. But these natural remedies offer simple, low-cost ways to feel better, mentally and physically. You can sip on peppermint tea, rub in lavender oil, or take a quiet moment to breathe. Whichever you choose, all of these remedies will help you power through motherhood with a little more ease. I’ve personally used many of these in my everyday mum-life chaos, and they’ve been a real help when I needed them. Remember, you’re not just looking after your kids, you deserve to feel good too, Mama. Keep a few of these remedies up your sleeve, and give yourself the same care you give everyone else. ![Natural home remedies | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Natural-home-remedies-2.png "Natural home remedies 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-natural-remedies/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-natural-remedies/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care **Tags:** essential oils, natural cleaning products, nits, bicarb, body scrub, chemicals --- ### [Homeschooling: How to get started when you have no idea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/homeschooling-how-to-get-started/) **Published:** April 23, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Schools across the country are partially closed due to COVID-19 and parents everywhere are being thrust into their worst nightmare … homeschooling! I was lucky enough to chat with education and curriculum expert, Karen Green from [MAPPEN](https://info.getmappen.com/), about how to make homeschooling work and come out the other side still talking to your kids. Karen shares her expertise from over 40 years in the education sector to guide us through the do’s, don’ts and its-gonna-be-ok’s of home learning. Plus, as a response to the Covid-19 crisis, the brilliant MAPPEN team have adapted some of their content for [home-based learning](https://www.wonderschool.com/p/child-care-provider-resources/home-based-child-care/) and are offering it for FREE to parents wishing to supplement the work that is being sent home by teachers. Get the details at the end of our chat. ## Homeschooling: How to get started when you have no idea In this podcast we discuss: - How to prepare for home learning and what to expect - How best to guide our children through this new adventure - Routines: To have or not to have - Do we actually have to ‘teach’ our kids? - How to ditch the guilt around homeschooling - Karen’s top tips to make homeschooling work - The biggest misconceptions and no-no’s of home learning - [MAPPEN’s](https://info.getmappen.com/) free content to help parents with home learning during COVID-19 - How bloody wonderful our teachers are and how grateful we are to them ### Listen here … ![Pandemic pack for mindful mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Pandemic-pack-300x250-1.png "Pandemic pack 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums") ![Homeschooling | Beanstalk Mums Podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Podcast-Homeschooling.png "Podcast - Homeschooling - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/homeschooling-how-to-get-started/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/homeschooling-how-to-get-started/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Covid-19, Education **Tags:** COVID-19, pandemic, Coronavirus, outbreak, home learning, distance learning --- ### [Enjoying virtual dating during Pandemic isolation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/virtual-dating-during-isolation/) **Published:** April 16, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are dating you will know it doesn’t come without challenges. Well, right now with Covid-19 laying down the rules, we have one more. And it’s a big one. We are not allowed out of our houses to meet anyone! A challenge indeed. But don’t let that stop you having fun on your search for Mr Right. Virtual dating has lots of advantages. To share them with you as well as to guide you in this new exciting world, I chat with [Kerri Sackville](https://www.penguin.com.au/authors/kerri-sackville) – author, columnist (Sydney Morning Herald, Melbourne Age and news.com.au) and single mother to three. ### How to have fun with virtual dating during isolation Listen to us chat, laugh and share Kerri’s wisdom as we discuss: - The advantages of virtual dating and how it can be even better than normal dating - What does a virtual date look like and how to prepare for one - The big no-no’s and red flags of virtual dating - The reality of making it work if you’re really into your virtual date - How to prepare for eventually meeting when we are all allowed out again ![Pandemic pack for mindful mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Pandemic-pack-300x250-1.png "Pandemic pack 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Listen here … ![How to have fun with virtual dating during isolation | Beanstalk Mums Podcast Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Podcast-Virtual-dating.png "Podcast - Virtual dating - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/virtual-dating-during-isolation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/virtual-dating-during-isolation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Online Dating --- ### [How to boost your immune system using pantry staples](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/boost-your-immune-system-using-pantry-staples/) **Published:** June 1, 2022 **Author:** Matt Legge **Content:** ***This article about boosting your immune system with pantry staples was last updated in 2022.*** Having to stay inside during this isolation can be overwhelming, especially if you have children. It is natural to worry about their health and want everyone in the family to be in tip-top condition. Before rushing out to spend hundreds of dollars on vitamins, check what items you already have in your pantry. There are so many basic ingredients that can help support a healthy immune system for all family members, including the kids. ## Let’s start with the basics Micronutrients such as vitamins and minerals make sure you are capable of functioning. Think of them as the building blocks and essential ingredients to make your first line of defence to any nasty germs. But, just like when you are building something, having extra building materials doesn’t necessarily do anything extra. For example, there is no point mega dosing on bricks if you don’t have everything else you need to go with them for an extension. With vitamins and minerals, you just need to make sure you have enough to prevent deficiency and support your immune system. You don’t need to mega dose or hit massive levels of nutrients. More is not better and, in some cases, can make things worse. ## What specific vitamins and minerals do we need to support a healthy immunity through COVID-19? The main vitamins to help support your immunity throughout this time are vitamin C, vitamin D, vitamin A and zinc. Ensuring an adequate dosing of each of these will support a healthy immune system. Food sources of nutrients to help support a healthy immunity ### Vitamin C 75 – 150mg is enough to prevent deficiency and support your immune system. - ½ to 1 cup of capsicum / bell peppers / chilis - 2 cups of kale - 1 cup of papaya or strawberries - 2 kiwi fruits or oranges or 1 mango - 1 small head of broccoli or cauliflower ### Vitamin D We get it from exposure to sunlight as do a lot of animals and plants that we eat. Consuming 400–800 IU (10–20 mcg) of vitamin D per day in foods plus sunlight will cover your needs. - Cold water fish like 1 150g fillet of salmon or tuna. - 1 cup of shiitake mushrooms - 5 Litres of “fortified” cow’s milk, soy milk or yoghurt - 3 cups of “fortified” tofu ### Vitamin A Just 900 mcg per day is enough to prevent deficiency. - ½ cup sweet potato - 1 cup of cooked carrot - 150g fillet of tuna - 1 cup spinach - 4 cups lettuce, broccoli or capsicum ### Zinc Prevent deficiency with about 11mg of elemental zinc daily. - 2 oysters - 150g beef steak - 2 chicken drumstick and thigh - 3 cups of tofu - 100g hemp seeds or pumpkin seeds - 200g almonds or brazil nut ## Add some functional flavour ### Natural flavouring and sauces to support your immune system Sauces and flavouring can be a major source of sugar, fat and empty calories or it could be an added benefit of functional active ingredients. Traditionally flavouring comes from herbs, spices and seasonings and not just sugars with artificial flavouring designed to resemble traditional herbs and spices. ### Onions, garlic and shallots Onion, garlic and shallots have a lot of great benefits to immune system, traditionally used to support healthy blood and cardiovascular health and the basis of many flavours. ### Celery Celery often forms the basis of many stock cubes. Using fresh celery and adding celery seed can add that flavour and provide some other nutrients. Celery seed is often sold in capsules to aid fluid retention and swelling. ### Reishi mushrooms [Reishi mushroom](https://au.atpscience.com/reishi-mushroom-taking-a-look-under-the-cap/) *Ganoderma lucidium* makes for a great savoury flavoured stock. Add it to anything that could use a nice beef like flavour. A teaspoon of pure Reishi powder added to savoury mince or Shephard’s pie or other soups and stews can really add some value. Reishi has a long traditional use for supporting a healthy immune system. ### Fennel seed, cardamom pods and anise seed Fennel seed, cardamom pods, anise seed are used in traditional food therapy systems such as Ayurveda to relieve spasms and cramps, traditionally added to teas for dry coughs and irritated throat or for other spams and griping in your guts and to relive gas and associated discomfort. ### Cloves and clove oil Cloves and clove oil is available for tooth ache as it can help to numb tissue it touches. It also has a reputation for numbing throat and on ulcers, teething and sore gums. ## How to boost your immune system using pantry staples (cont.) ### Clever combos for maximising yield Consider the food lists mentioned above and realise a lot of the nutrients listed will be lost in the water when you boil or steam those foods. A good idea that you may want to try is to make a soup entrée or a nutrient dense tea / beverage to have with your meals made from that water. ### Don’t just throw it away Add some of those herbs, spices and seasonings. For example take the water left over after steaming the vegetables, throw in some anise seed, thyme and fennel seeds and continue to boil it or just let them sit in the hot water to steep and sip on that with meals. Or add some garlic, onion, tomato paste and oregano and make as a soup entrée. ### Organic versus non-organic? Organic food does not necessarily mean it has more nutrients on the inside. It just ensures you don’t have toxins on the outside typically. For nutrients, you may not need to pay the extra for organic if that is outside of your budget. You may be able to clean your food to remove the toxic burden and still get the nutrients. Skins and peels are the best place to find the nutrients so try not to just discard these parts. Some helpful immune-boosting recipe ideas using ingredients above can be found [here](https://au.atpscience.com/category/recipes/). ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") For more on this see: [15 Foods to seriously boost your immune system](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-foods-to-seriously-boost-your-immune-system/). ![Pandemic pack for mindful mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Pandemic-pack-300x250-1-400x333.png "Pandemic pack 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums") ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Immune-pantry-staples-2.png "Immune pantry staples 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/boost-your-immune-system-using-pantry-staples/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/boost-your-immune-system-using-pantry-staples/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Food **Tags:** COVID-19, isolation, Coronavirus, lockdown, immunity, vitamins, supplements --- ### [The facts about getting sole parental responsibility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/sole-parental-responsibility/) **Published:** September 9, 2022 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There are lots of reasons single parents consider Sole Parental Responsibility of their child or children. These might include but are not limited to: - The other parent is no longer in their lives so it seems right to formalise the situation with an Order of Sole Parental Responsibility - The other parent is still around but is not focused on the welfare of the child or is putting them at risk - As co-parents or [parallel parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/), you are unable to communicate and reach agreements which, in-turn, is effecting the well-being of your child - You want to define the boundaries around parenting, including parental responsibility and financial commitments - In some cases, older children in a family separation might ask for this arrangement as it makes them feel safer and in control Before you start filing papers, you need clarity about what is involved in order to make an educated decision. If you then decide is in your child’s best interest to obtain an Order of Sole Parental Responsibility, this is a matter for the Family Court and there is procedure to follow. Here is further information about Sole Parental Responsibility and how the family law system works in relation to it. ## Sole Responsibility vs. Shared Responsibility The Family Court system by definition assumes that you and your ex will have equal shared responsibilities when it comes to your child. In the past, this has been known as custody. Even if the child does not live with both parents, they are both responsible for making decisions about: - Where the child stays - Health - Education - Religion - Their legal name A Family Court will assign sole parental responsibility if they determine it is in the best interest of the child to live with only one parent, and that parent will make all major decisions for the child’s welfare until they turn 18 years of age. However, it does not remove the financial responsibility of providing support for the child from the parent who is no longer part of the Order for Parental Responsibility. For this reason, [Child Support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/) can still apply. ## How do I get sole parental responsibility? You must rebut (or change) the court’s presumption that both parents can provide a safe environment for your child to live or visit. The definition of a safe environment includes providing a warm home, food and clothes, but also maintaining a home free from any abuse caused by the ex-spouse, their visitors, or even a part-time caretaker such as sitters. In order to accomplish this, you must file for a hearing with the Family Court. During several hearings, they will listen to testimony given by all involved parties. When and if the Family Court determines it is best for your child to have only one parent, they will issue a Parental Order of Sole Parental Responsibility. ## Factors considered by the Family Court When the [court reviews a case regarding parental orders](https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Find-legal-information/Relationships-and-children/Children-and-parenting/What-the-court-considers-when-making-parenting-orders), they take many parts of the child’s life into consideration. Before they exclude a parent from the responsibilities of raising their child, they must decide that short-term counselling or support would not help the parent retain some of their responsibilities. The courts may assign an [independent children’s lawyer (ICL)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/independent-childrens-lawyers/) to speak to the child and both spouses to obtain a more objective view of the situation before issuing any orders. For their report, they take into account: - Physical and mental safety of the child - Ability of both parents to make informed, reasonable decisions for their child and agree - Ability of both parents to spend meaningful time with the child - Harmful atmosphere created by disagreements between the parents which leave a lingering negative impact on the child ## How hard is it to get sole parental responsibility? The Family Court functions on the basic concept that a child raised by two parents (even if living separately) will grow into a more stable, happier and healthier adult. To this end, the courts are far more likely to issue a Shared Parental Responsibility order than a Sole Parental Responsibility order. The courts break down these responsibilities into five major categories: - Education - Religion - Health - Name - Changes to living arrangements (that limit time with one of the parents) Many times, the court issues shared orders. Here, they assign some of the five major decisions to both parents, but not others. For example, it is possible that you will share their education and religious upbringing, while they assign sole responsibility for the child’s health, name, and living arrangements to one parent. It is uncommon for courts to assign complete sole responsibility simply because one parent is living in a different part of the country. If you are unable to agree on anything, you must prove to a judge that the parents fail to work together for the good of the child even after attending court-ordered mediation or counselling. You may then be able to obtain a Sole Responsibility Order. ## How a Child Custody Lawyer Can Help While it is possible to [file for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-divorce-in-australia/) without using an attorney, fighting for parental responsibilities is a much more challenging prospect. You might consider contacting divorce lawyers who have the experience needed to approach the courts and provide testimony in a manner that can get faster results. Once you have the legal beagle on your side, don’t hesitate to reach out to the [community for emotional support.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-single-parent-support-groups-you-may-not-know-about/) Other mums are working through this, too. For sole parental responsibility consent orders examples, the [Legal Aid website](https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/files/assets/public/publications/relationships-and-children/consent-orders-parenting-orders-and-parenting-plans.pdf) has some good support. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Sole-parental-responsibility.png "Sole parental responsibility - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/sole-parental-responsibility/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/sole-parental-responsibility/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** court order, sole, shared, responsibility --- ### [Is Getting Single Parent Private Health Insurance Worth It?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/single-parent-private-health-insurance/) **Published:** June 22, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** **Quick Takeaways from Single Parent Private Health Insurance**: - Private health insurance premiums in Australia traditionally jump on 1 April every year. This adds massive pressure to tight solo-parent budgets. - Most health funds charge single parents the exact same premium rate as a standard two-parent family policy. You must shop around to find funds that price policies specifically for single incomes. - Reviewing your extras and switching to a basic hospital or ambulance-only cover can save you thousands. You can still keep your kids protected. - Self-care does not cost a fortune. You can ditch the guilt of skipping premium coverage. True health management starts with free, achievable micro-habits. - You can use government comparison tools to choose the best health insurance for your exact family situation. > Friendly disclaimer: I am a fellow single mum sharing survival hacks, not a certified financial planner. This is general information. Please chat with an insurance expert before you change your financial setup! ## Why Do Private Health Insurance Rates Change Every Year? **Private health insurance premiums change every year because the Federal Minister for Health approves indexed rate adjustments to cover rising medical costs.** These hikes take effect on 1 April, hitting your household budget when you least need it. Let’s be completely honest for a second. You stand at the kitchen bench with a cold cup of coffee. Or maybe you hold a well-deserved glass of Savvy Bee. You look at your monthly direct debits, and it triggers a minor panic attack. Skyrocketing grocery receipts and electricity bills look like phone numbers. Seeing your health insurer demand more cash feels like a personal insult. The health insurance industry operates on a strict cycle. Funds argue that they must raise prices because medical procedures have become more expensive. Corporate explanations do not help when you try to stretch a single income. You simply pay more for the same level of care you had last year. You work hard to keep your head above water, but you deserve true value for money. ## How Do Private Health Insurance Changes Specifically Impact Single Mums? **Changes impact single mums disproportionately because most Australian funds price ‘single parent’ policies at the same rate as full family packages.** This is the ultimate kick in the teeth for single parents. You run the entire show on your own. You manage the massive mental load. Yet the health system treats your wallet as if you hide a secret second salary in your bank account. It makes keeping health cover feel like an impossible luxury rather than a sensible safety net. Many funds even charge single parents extra on top of standard single cover rates just to add a child. Some insurers refuse to offer policies specifically for single households, forcing you into a standard family cover policy instead. When premiums rise every April, it forces us into a corner. We have to choose between single parent private health insurance and other vital household essentials. If you feel under the pump, check out the article **[**Single Parenting Payment Rates: Services Australia Update Explained**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/)** on Beanstalk Single Mums. This helps you figure out exactly what government support comes into your account to offset these rising lifestyle costs. ![Single Parent Private Health Insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/2026-australian-federal-budget-1-3.jpg "Single Parent Private Health Insurance - Beanstalk Mums") ## What Are the Best Ways to Save Money on Your Health Fund? **You save money by stripping away unnecessary adult clinical categories and downsizing to a single-adult plus dependents policy.** You must aggressively review your extras insurance. Ensure you only pay for treatments your kids actually use. You want a policy that covers basic needs like dental check-ups and glasses. Do not let health fund marketing departments scare you. You do not need to buy expensive hospital and extras packages. If your child-bearing days are done, check your policy details. Ensure you do not pay a premium for pregnancy and birth coverage. Dropping down from gold to silver plus and bronze plus tiers can shave hundreds off your bill. Finding the right cover means you stop paying for things you never use. - **Check your tiers:** If your child-bearing days are done, check your policy details. Ensure you do not pay a premium for pregnancy and birth coverage. - **Downgrade smartly:** Dropping down from gold to silver plus and bronze plus tiers can shave hundreds off your bill. - **Stop overpaying:** Finding the right cover means you stop paying for things you never use. Moving your policy is much simpler than it looks. You can switch your health fund and policy at any time without losing your served waiting periods for existing conditions. Simply ensure you move to an equal or lower level of cover. Take 10 minutes to compare the market and actively hunt down the best deal for your budget. ## Should You Switch Health Insurance or Drop It Completely? **You should switch providers if you find a lower premium, but you should keep basic hospital cover if your income crosses the Medicare Levy Surcharge threshold.** If you earn over the base statutory income tier, keeping basic private hospital cover saves you money. It is often cheaper than paying the government tax penalty at tax time. You should consult an insurance expert or accountant if you feel unsure about your tax bracket. If you earn under the surcharge threshold, dropping health insurance cover completely is a highly valid budget move. You can rely on Australia’s excellent public health system. Our public system is world-class for emergencies. Do not let corporate guilt convince you that you are a bad parent. You simply cut a bill you cannot afford. If you want peace of mind for speech therapy or avoiding elective surgery waitlists, switching beats quitting. You can find the best health insurance for single parents by using the free, independent [**PrivateHealth.gov.au comparison tool**](https://www.privatehealth.gov.au/). Spend ten minutes while the kids watch TV to find a leaner, meaner policy. ## How Do Co-Parenting Arrangements Affect Private Health Insurance? **Co-parenting affects health insurance because legal responsibility for maintaining a child’s coverage depends entirely on your formal parenting orders.** If there is no explicit legal clause, the parent who signs the health fund contract pays the premiums. Navigating who pays for what turns into an absolute minefield of awkward text messages. If your agreement states that you split medical expenses, you must keep impeccable records. You need to track your statements and out-of-pocket expenses carefully. If communication breaks down, you must keep things purely transactional. You do not need extra stress from a difficult ex-partner. For practical advice on managing tricky boundary lines, read our guide on **[Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/co-parenting-when-your-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend/).** It helps you keep the focus firmly on the kids. ## What Free Micro-Habits Can Help Single Mums Manage Health Costs? **Free micro-habits include using community health clinics, downloading bulk-billing telehealth apps, and taking advantage of school dental programs.** You embrace these zero-cost community resources. This allows you to maintain your family’s physical well-being without triggering financial anxiety. We must completely redefine what looking after our health looks like. You do not need a $200 day spa voucher. You do not need an expensive wellness routine to stay sane. True self-care for an exhausted solo mum is simple. You drink an extra glass of water. Walk around the block. Or hide in the pantry for five minutes of pure silence. These tiny moments matter. Make sure you maximise the Medicare Child Dental Benefits Schedule. This provides free basic dental cover for eligible children. You can drop expensive private dental extras entirely. This gives your monthly budget some much-needed breathing room. ## The Fine Print: What Do You Need to Know About Health Insurance Jargon? **Understanding heavy health insurance jargon helps you navigate complex fund rules and ensures you never overpay for basic medical cover.** The private health insurance single parents sector uses confusing terminology to overwhelm buyers. When you know about health insurance rules, you take back your power. We know reading policy documents is boring. But you need to know about health terms to protect your wallet. Here is your quick mum-to-mum translation guide: - **Lifetime health cover loading:** If you do not buy hospital cover by the 1st of July following your 31st birthday, the government adds a 2% penalty to your premiums every year. If you hit the age of 31 soon, you need health insurance basic cover to dodge this tax. - **Single parent policies:** These are specific health insurance policies tailored for one adult and their dependents. Only a few providers offer genuine policies for single parents. - **Health funds charge single parents:** Ask upfront how your chosen health fund’s pricing structure works. Ensure they do not charge single-parent families the couples rate. - **Adding kids:** You can usually add a child to your single parent cover for free until they turn 21. Ask your provider how to attach kids to their health insurance policy for free. - **Single policies vs family cover:** Always check if buying two separate single policies (one for you, a cheap one for your teen) is cheaper than upgrading your whole family to silver plus. - **Network dentists:** Using a fund’s preferred provider network saves you money. For example, if you need a brace for your teenager, using an approved orthodontist reduces your gap fee. - **Specific Funds:** Providers like HCF or Navy Health Gold often run promotions. You must do a health insurance comparison to see if getting the best sign-up bonus is actually worth the monthly cost. ## Are There Ways to Protect Your Family’s Health on a Budget? **You protect your family by purchasing a standalone ambulance policy and using public hospital emergency departments for all acute medical crises.** Ambulance trips can cost a fortune. Standard Medicare does not cover them in places like New South Wales. Think of ambulance cover as your ultimate low-cost shield. A basic standalone policy costs pennies compared to full private health insurance. For everything else, trust the public system and build a reliable relationship with a local bulk-billing GP. You do an incredible job juggling the finances, the meals, and the emotional load all on your own. If you ever doubt yourself, please read our article **[Single Mum Guilt: Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/)**. You protect your family every single day. It does not require a gold-plated private insurance card. It just requires your love, your presence, and your fierce resourcefulness. Because you’re a single mum, you already possess all the strength your kids’ health needs. Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by rising bills, confusing health insurance policies, and the daily mental load of solo parenting? Come and join our private Facebook community, the **[SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**! It’s our private, safe haven to vent, share money-saving hacks, laugh at the chaos, and connect with thousands of other Australian single mums who completely understand the journey. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/single-parent-private-health-insurance/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/single-parent-private-health-insurance/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Money **Tags:** health insurance, private health insurance, health insurance policies, changes to health insurance, changes to private health insurance --- ### [The "Trap" of the New EOFY 2026 Tax Deduction for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-trap-of-the-new-eofy-2026-tax-deduction-for-single-mums/) **Published:** June 21, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Quick Takeaways on the EOFY 2026 tax deduction** - **The New Standard:** Starting **1 July**, for the new **income year**, a $1,000 standard deduction will be introduced. - **Receipt-Free:** You can **claim a deduction** of a flat $1,000 without keeping **written evidence** or **proper records**. - **It is NOT Cash:** This reduces your **taxable income** (before they calculate your **assessable income**), not a $1,000 cash handout. - **The “Trap”:** If your actual **work-related expenses** (phone, internet, laundry) total more than $1,000, you will lose money. - **Wait and See:** This change applies to the 2026-2027 tax year. You cannot **claim in 2026** for the period ending **30 June 2026**. - **Other 2026 Wins:** Look out for a **marginal tax rate** cut. **Australians** will also see the new “Payday Super” for their **superannuation** starting in July 2026. The **end of the financial year** is usually a frantic scramble. As the **financial year approaches**, we spend weeks trying to find faded Kmart receipts at the bottom of our handbags. We just hope we have enough to **reduce your tax** and bump up our **tax return**. So, when the government announced a new $1,000 standard, “receipt-free” **tax deduction**, it sounded like a dream come true for busy single mums. But before you throw away your shoebox of receipts, you need to look closer. While it promises to save you **tax time**, the new **EOFY 2026 tax deduction** might actually cost you hundreds of dollars. Here is what you need to know so you don’t get caught in the “easy option” trap. ## What is the new $1,000 standard tax deduction? **The $1,000 standard deduction is an optional, receipt-free claim. The Australian Taxation Office designed it to make things faster and stop the receipt madness.** Instead of tracking every $5 notebook, the government offers a quick system where you just **deduct** a flat $1,000. But here is the catch: it is a deduction from what is taxable, not a direct cash gift. For the average mum on a median income, this translates to roughly $200 to $300 extra. It is important to note that if you choose this flat $1,000, you cannot use any other available deductions that are usually claimable. ## Why should single mums be careful with the new EOFY 2026 tax deduction? **While the convenience is tempting, most single mums who work from home, use their own car for work, or run a** **small business on the side will likely find their actual expenses total much more than $1,000.** We need good EOFY tax planning tips to help us make informed decisions. If you work from home, your actual expenses will likely total much more than $1,000. If you accept the “one-click” $1,000 deduction, you are waving goodbye to other legitimate deductions. Between your mobile phone, home internet, and maybe income protection insurance, $1,000 disappears quickly. If your receipts add up to $1,500, skipping the “easy” deduction is the smarter move for your tax position. Always check your checklist of expenses to maximise deductions and optimise your refund. Do not just take the easy way out of your tax obligations. Always do a quick checklist tally of your [**Single Parenting Payment Rates**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) and your work spending before you lodge. Especially if you want to maximise deductions and optimise your tax position. ![EOFY 2026 tax deduction](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/2026-australian-federal-budget-1-2-1.jpg "2026 australian federal budget 1 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Do you run a side hustle? Business Tax changes you need to know. **If you have an aggregated turnover of less than $10 million, you are one of the eligible small businesses. This means you can use the instant asset write-off threshold. If you make asset purchases, you might qualify for an immediate deduction. You do not have to slowly depreciate them using simplified depreciation rules in the small business pool. You can just write off the whole instant asset**. Good EOFY tax planning is vital for a small business. For both individuals and businesses, navigating business tax is tricky. Look out for tax incentives for eligible businesses. There is even an R&D tax (research and development) concession, plus updates to GST and CGT (capital gains tax). A good tax accountant or financial adviser can help you utilise these tax strategies and avoid nasty tax debts or an audit. ## What other major tax changes are coming in July 2026? **Along with the deduction, the government is lowering the lowest tax rate from 16% to 15% and introducing “Payday Super” to ensure your retirement fund grows faster.** The drop in the tax rate for those earning between $18,201 and $45,000 means you keep more of every dollar you earn. While the saving is modest (about $268 a year for some), it’s a little extra breathing room in the weekly budget. The real sleeper hit, however, is **Payday Super**, which mandates that employers pay your super at the same time they pay your wages. No more waiting three months to see if your boss actually deposited your super! This change ensures your money starts earning interest immediately, which is a massive win for single mums who often face a “superannuation gap.” If you’re trying to figure out how to stretch the pennies even further, our guide on [how to actually survive financially as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/) has some great tips on managing these small wins. ## Can I claim the EOFY 2026 tax deduction for this year’s tax return? **No, the new $1,000 standard deduction doesn’t officially kick in until the 2026-27 financial year, so you still need your receipts for the return you lodge this July.** There’s always a bit of confusion when the government announces “new” things, but this one is for the *future*. You still need your receipts for the return ending 30 June. For the return covering 2025 to 2026, keep your proof! If you’ve been working from home, you should be using the **70 cents per hour fixed-rate method,** which covers your power, phone, and internet. Just make sure you have a log of your hours. If you’ve spent $200 on a new office chair or $400 on a laptop for work, those are separate and should be claimed on top of your hourly rate—another reason why that future $1,000 flat rate might actually be a bad tax plan. ## How do I know if I’m better off with receipts or the $1,000 flat rate? **The best way to decide is to use a simple “comparison test”. Track your major work expenses for just one month and multiply them by twelve.** **Then use that as your tiny but mighty EOFY tax planning reality check.** If you pay $80 a month for a phone/internet plan used partly for work, that’s $960 a year right there. Add in a few professional courses, some stationery, or the cost of washing your uniform, and you’ve already smashed through the $1,000 limit. The ATO’s goal with this new deduction is simplicity, but as any single mum knows, “simple” and “cheap” aren’t always the same thing. I’ve spent many a night sitting on the floor with a glass of wine and a calculator, and let me tell you, it’s worth the headache. If itemising your receipts gets you an extra $400 in your refund, that’s a week’s worth of groceries and a new pair of school shoes. Don’t let the government’s promise of “six clicks” trick you into a smaller refund than you deserve. Feeling the tax-time pinch? You don’t have to navigate the fine print of the tax plan alone! Come and join us at the **[SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**—our private Facebook community where we share the real-deal money hacks, vent about the mental load, and support each other through the chaos of solo parenting. We’d love to see you there! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-trap-of-the-new-eofy-2026-tax-deduction-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-trap-of-the-new-eofy-2026-tax-deduction-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** eofy, tax deduction --- ### [17 Gifts for teachers which they’ll actually really like](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/) **Published:** September 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It’s the end of the school year and Christmas to boot, so we all know what that means … gifts for teachers (and don’t forget childcare). Not only is this a tradition, but it’s a good way to teach children about giving back to the people who have worked hard to educate and care for them over the past year. Whether your child had the ‘best teacher EVER’ or is just glad the year is over, it’s good to gift a little something to show your appreciation. ## What to consider when gifting a teacher - Make your gift to your kid’s teacher unique; consider a thoughtful [plant gift for teachers](https://sarasgarden.com.au/collections/teachers-gift "plant gift for teachers"), so it stands out and is something different from what they expect or usually get. - What do you know about your child’s teacher? Are they known for a love of coffee, fishing or anything else? Giving a thoughtful gift will mean more and will likely be more useful. - Think about grouping together with other parents/students and buying the teacher something larger and more significant, such as a spa day, an experience or a voucher for their favourite shop or restaurant. - We all love an edible gift, but make sure it has a long shelf life or is non-perishable. If your kid’s teacher receives ten boxes of lovingly baked cookies, they won’t be able to eat them all, and that will be a waste. - Consider the relationship your child has with a particular teacher and base your gift around that. If your child is known for stressing out their poor teacher, give them something calming, such as a candle or a stress relief colouring book! - The same way you have to label absolutely *everything* for school, remember to label your gift so they know who it is from when they get a quiet moment to go through everything they have received. - Still struggling for ideas? See our list of teacher gift ideas below, or these lists for further inspiration: [22 Homemade Christmas gift ideas that are easy to make](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/) [50+ Christmas gift ideas for women](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-gift-ideas-for-mums-sisters-aunties-girlfriends/) [50+ Gifts for dad for under $50](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-gifts-for-dad-for-under-50/) [Perfect Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/secret-santa-gift-ideas/) ## 17 Gifts for teachers which they’ll actually really like ## 1. Teacher planter stem We’ve got something special for those amazing teachers, daycare providers, and carers. These Teacher Planter Stems are a thoughtful way to show gratitude. Each one is unique, featuring your choice of saying and a lovely floral design. Personalise it with your child’s and teacher’s names. ![Teacher stem planter | Gifts for teachers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.23.03-am-799x800.png "Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.23.03-am - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Name It Custom Decor](https://nameitcustomdecor.com.au/products/teacher-planter-stem) ## 2. **Thanks for putting up with my kids’ candle** Consider gifting them a sweet ‘Thanks For Putting Up With My Kid’ candle. It’s a little token of appreciation for all the love and care they pour into our little ones. Trust me, they’ll cherish it. ![Thanks for putting up with my kids candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.24.35-am-665x800.png "Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.24.35-am - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: Etsy ## 3. Personalised bag Give your favourite teacher a gift that’s both thoughtful and practical with this personalised bag. Perfect for carrying all those classroom essentials, it’s roomy, durable, and stylish. Add their name or a sweet message to make it truly one-of-a-kind. It’s the kind of gift they’ll use every day, and think of you every time they do. A+ for appreciation! Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/products/personalised-leather-cosmetic-bag-black-m7085-black) ## 4. Teacher stubby holder Got a male teacher who loves his beer? How about this cool stubby holder? You could fill it with lollies, or even include the beer. [![Teacher stubby holder ](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/b2oAAOSwllpbGfdu/s-l1600.jpg)](http://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?ff3=4&pub=5575511937&toolid=10001&campid=5338549815&customid=&mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fi%2F123070532240%3Fchn%3Dps%26norover%3D1%26mkevt%3D1%26mkrid%3D705-139619-5960-0%26mkcid%3D2%26itemid%3D123070532240%26targetid%3D467329273826%26device%3Dc%26mktype%3Dpla%26googleloc%3D9069272%26campaignid%3D6472181460%26mkgroupid%3D79014237513%26rlsatarget%3Daud-497372010363%3Apla-467329273826%26abcId%3D1141716%26merchantid%3D110864390%26gclid%3DCjwKCAjwusrtBRBmEiwAGBPgExw4eDRdSEm9OX2XhuwftkFUZRnf7WAYETeuC4nViVs2b5xFOlSTGhoCDdcQAvD_BwE%26var%3D423495457331) ## 5. Personalised alcohol gift box Give your kid’s teacher a lovely custom gift box to hold a bottle of wine, champagne or their preferred alcoholic beverage. They’ll adore the name engraving and custom message. Available at: Etsy ## What would teachers like as a gift (cont.) ## 6. Personalised teacher coaster Thank your teacher with these cute personalised coasters that come in 16 different designs. Perfect for tea time or happy hour! ## 7. Personalised cookie jar These personalised cookie jars are great for an inexpensive yet personal gift. The bottle is just the right size and perfect for gifting sweet treats or small stationery pieces. ![Personalised Cookie Jar | Gifts for teachers](https://i.etsystatic.com/16097458/r/il/78ad87/2135111972/il_1140xN.2135111972_clfq.jpg) ## 8. “You rule” bamboo ruler This personalised bamboo ruler from Etsy lets your favourite teacher know that they rule. It’s laser-engraved and comes in two lengths: 6 inches and 12 inches. ![You rule bamboo ruler](https://i.etsystatic.com/14519444/r/il/2b1b20/1602544580/il_794xN.1602544580_8bpv.jpg) ## 9. Teacher planter stick gift Here’s another winning gift for plant lovers. A planter stick that says “Thank you for helping me grow.” Customise it with a lovely message to thank your teacher for a job well done. ## 10. How teachers swear colouring book This colouring book is filled with relatable teacher humor, and trust me, it’s a riot! It’s not just about swearing, but it’s all in good fun. I think it’s a fantastic gift idea to show our appreciation. They deserve a bit of humour and relaxation, don’t you think? [![How teachers swear colouring book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/ImageHandler.jpeg "ImageHandler - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dymocks.com.au/book/how-teachers-swear-coloring-book-for-adults-by-kdprahat-printing-house-9798703829035?gclid=CjwKCAjwu4WoBhBkEiwAojNdXhhg7j_VVCbpiiXWYtJO87uzmPwz3CgZKpo1TiP-OnQUpG5tXWJCQRoCxIwQAvD_BwE) ## Gifts for teachers from students (Cont.) ## 11. Thank you dozen brews Brewquets is our go-to shop for alcoholic gifts that are guaranteed to make teachers smile. This box is filled with a dozen different beers that are perfect for after-work relaxing. Available at: [Brewquets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62908?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbrewquets.com.au%2fcollections%2fthank-you-gifts%2fproducts%2fthank-you-box-of-beers) ## 12. For the best teacher ever quote book Let your teacher know how much you appreciate them with a book of inspirational quotes. An ideal gift for the end of the school year. Available at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/for-the-best-teacher-ever-summersdale-publishers/book/9781786859631.html) ## 13. Personalised tea towel Prettify a boring tea towel with a personalised message and custom design that your teacher will love. 100% cotton and washing machine safe. [![Personalised tea towel | Gifts for teachers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Screenshot_2020-10-07-Personalised-Tea-Towels-Unique-Teachers-Gift.png "Screenshot_2020-10-07 Personalised Tea Towels Unique Teachers Gift - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/tea-towel.html?cfclick=80f2d5ad8eed4d96a86fca36551abe0b#template_id=2153) Available at: Bright Star Kids ## 14. Teacher appreciation gift keychain These keychains are really neat- they come in all sorts of designs and styles. From apple-shaped ones to ones with inspiring quotes, there’s something for every teacher. It’s a little token they can carry with them every day. It’s a small gesture that goes a long way in brightening their day. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.28.35-am-847x800.png "Screenshot-2023-09-26-at-9.28.35-am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://wish.pxf.io/GmEP5E) Available at: [Wish](https://wish.pxf.io/GmEP5E) ## 15. Personalised wine labels Make your teacher feel like the superhero that they are with personalised wine labels from Bright Star Kids. Available in hundreds of designs. Available at: Bright Star Kids ## 16. Personalised timber beer caddy We didn’t forget the caddy for your teacher’s beer! This vintage-style steel-and-timber carrier fits six beers, comes with a built-in bottle opener, and can be personalised with a name or funny message. ## 17. Teacher off duty socks Socks are always a winning gift for teachers. Not only are they practical, but they’ll be secretly chuffed to be considered a ‘cool teacher’. [![Teacher off duty socks ](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/LogAAOSw4g5foAXr/s-l1600.jpg)](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/324357935369?chn=ps&_trkparms=ispr%3D1&amdata=enc%3A1ytpfe62KRBOh7d6wnvMm0Q47&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&mkcid=1&itemid=324357935369&targetid=1395035668016&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9069272&poi=&campaignid=14475548384&mkgroupid=132282084371&rlsatarget=pla-1395035668016&abcId=9300653&merchantid=9412652&gclid=CjwKCAjwtfqKBhBoEiwAZuesiF1XRkZf39_zqfkgbsnE5JZHrmuUxeWF-2-IeuOSDYkFo2HUNiHDxxoCu1gQAvD_BwE&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) Available at: [eBay](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/324357935369?chn=ps&_trkparms=ispr%3D1&amdata=enc%3A1ytpfe62KRBOh7d6wnvMm0Q47&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&mkcid=1&itemid=324357935369&targetid=1395035668016&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9069272&poi=&campaignid=14475548384&mkgroupid=132282084371&rlsatarget=pla-1395035668016&abcId=9300653&merchantid=9412652&gclid=CjwKCAjwtfqKBhBoEiwAZuesiF1XRkZf39_zqfkgbsnE5JZHrmuUxeWF-2-IeuOSDYkFo2HUNiHDxxoCu1gQAvD_BwE&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) ## Final words on gifts for teachers As the school year wraps up and the holiday season sneaks in, let’s not forget the unsung heroes of education – our teachers! It’s the perfect time to shower them with appreciation, and hey, it’s also a sneaky way to teach our kids about gratitude. When it comes to gifting, make it memorable and quirky. Think outside the apple-shaped box! Find out what makes your teacher tick, whether it’s coffee, fishing, or a secret passion for interpretive dance. A personalised touch goes a long way. Got a case of collective generosity? Join forces with fellow parents or students to go big with a spa day or their favourite shopping spree – it’s like a group hug in gift form. Practicality is your BFF, especially with edible treats. Ensure they won’t go stale before summer break ends. Tailor your gift to the teacher’s personality and your kid’s relationship with them. Stressed-out teacher? Calming candle. That’s math even we can understand. Oh, and don’t forget to label your gift – teachers appreciate clarity almost as much as a quiet classroom. Check out our list of teacher gift ideas for inspiration. After all, they’ve earned it. Let’s give ’em something to smile about! ![Gifts for teachers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Gifts-for-teachers-2.png "Gifts for teachers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Education, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, school, appreciation --- ### [Best electric drills in Australia: Buyer's guide 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/electric-drills/) **Published:** March 6, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Welcome to our electric drill buying guide for Australia! Whether you’re a DIY enthusiast or have never owned a drill before, a electric drill is an essential tool for tackling a variety of projects around the home and garden. But with so many options on the market, it can be overwhelming to choose the right cordless drill for your needs. That’s where we come in. In this article, we’ll provide you with all the information you need to make an informed purchase, from the different types of electric drills available, drill attachments and the features you should look for. We’ll also highlight some of the top electric drills currently available in Australia, so you can find the perfect tool for your next project. Whether you’re drilling into wood, metal, or masonry, we’ve got you covered. So let’s dive into the world of electric drills and find the right one for you. ***Related read: [Beginners DIY: 6 Tips if you’re new to home improvement.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/)*** ## DIFFERENT TYPES OF ELECTRIC DRILLS ### Drill/Driver The most common type of electric drill, a drill/driver is a versatile tool that can be used for drilling holes and driving screws. It typically has a chuck that can accept a variety of drill bits and screwdriver bits. ### Hammer Drill A hammer drill is designed for drilling into tough materials like concrete and masonry. It has a special hammering mechanism that delivers rapid, short bursts of force to the drill bit, allowing it to break through hard surfaces. ### Impact Driver An impact driver is a powerful tool that’s designed specifically for driving screws and bolts. It uses a combination of rotational force and concussive blows to drive screws quickly and efficiently. ### Right Angle Drill A right angle drill is a compact, versatile tool that’s perfect for working in tight spaces. Its head is angled 90 degrees, allowing you to drill or drive screws in areas that are hard to reach with a traditional drill/driver. ### Rotary Hammer Drill A rotary hammer drill is a heavy-duty tool that’s designed for drilling into hard surfaces like concrete and stone. It uses a piston mechanism to deliver a powerful, hammering action that can quickly break through tough materials. ### Drill Press A drill press is a stationary tool that’s used for precision drilling. It’s typically used in woodworking and metalworking applications, and it allows you to drill holes at exact angles and depths. ## FEATURES TO CONSIDER WHEN BUYING A electric DRILL ### Battery Look for an electric drill with a battery that has a long run time and a quick charging time. Lithium-ion batteries are a popular choice for cordless drills because they are lightweight, long-lasting, and recharge quickly. ### Chuck The chuck is the part of the drill that holds the drill bit. Look for a drill with a chuck that’s easy to change and adjust. Keyless chucks are a popular option because they allow you to change bits quickly and easily. ### Speed Most electric drills have adjustable speed settings, which can be useful for different types of projects. Look for a drill with a variable speed motor that allows you to control the speed from low to high. ### Torque Torque refers to the twisting force that a drill can generate. Look for an electric drill with a high torque rating, especially if you’ll be working with tough materials like hardwood or metal. ### Comfort Look for a drill with a comfortable grip that’s easy to hold for extended periods of time. Some drills also have features like rubberized grips or ergonomic designs that can help reduce hand fatigue. ### Size and Weight Consider the size and weight of the drill, especially if you’ll be using it for extended periods of time. A smaller, lighter drill may be easier to handle, but a larger, heavier drill may be more powerful and better suited for heavy-duty projects. ### LED Lights Some electric drills come with built-in LED lights that illuminate the work area, making it easier to see what you’re doing. This can be especially useful if you’ll be working in dimly lit areas. ## OUR PICK OF THE BEST ELECTRIC DRILLS AUSTRALIA ### [Monika 12V Pink Lithium Cordless Drill](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/P01xDX) Now, it may be just me, but who can resist this super stylish, hot pink contraption? Specifically made for ladies, you can take this high performance drill wherever you go. It also comes with a drill, battery pack and charger, as well as commonly used bits, so it doubles as a screwdriver, too! [![Monika 12V Pink Lithium Cordless Drill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/monika.jpg "monika - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/P01xDX) We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/P01xDX) ### [Certa PowerPlus 20V Electric Drill with hammer function](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/VyoPXa) If you’re looking for a lightweight and cordless electric drill that’s not a, then Certa ![Certa PowerPlus Electric drill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/certa.jpg "certa - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/VyoPXa) ### [Cordless Drills Bunnings Ryobi 18V ONE+](https://www.bunnings.com.au/ryobi-18v-one-2-0ah-drill-driver-kit_p0029012) I’m so down for this eye-catching handheld machine that can do all the drilling and driving you need. The easy-to-carry drill comes with the lithium battery and charger to kickstart your DIY journey. What’s more? You get a 6-year warranty for the drill and 3-year warranty for the battery and charger! [![Cordless Drills Bunnings Ryobi 18V ONE+](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/ryobi.png "ryobi - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bunnings.com.au/ryobi-18v-one-2-0ah-drill-driver-kit_p0029012) We found this at [Bunnings](https://www.bunnings.com.au/ryobi-18v-one-2-0ah-drill-driver-kit_p0029012). ### [MasterSpec 47PCs 12V Lithium Cordless Drill](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fMasterSpec-MasterSpec-47PCs-12V-Lithium-Cordless-Drill-with-2-Batteries%2fs%2fcxqI2ytwXkCTTVLuveMtXQ%3fssf%3dfalse) If you’re looking for something that looks basic but with a professional punch, there’s MasterSpec. Coming in a gender neutral body, it’s perfect for mum, dad, and even the future beau. This power tool is a tool kit and cordless drill with 19 position key-less chuck, and made of high-grade steel and comes in a sturdy tool case. So whether you’re a contractor or a DIY beginner, MasterSpec will surely last. [![MasterSpec 47PCs 12V Lithium electric drill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/masterspec.jpg "masterspec - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fMasterSpec-MasterSpec-47PCs-12V-Lithium-Cordless-Drill-with-2-Batteries%2fs%2fcxqI2ytwXkCTTVLuveMtXQ%3fssf%3dfalse) We found this at [OzSale](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fMasterSpec-MasterSpec-47PCs-12V-Lithium-Cordless-Drill-with-2-Batteries%2fs%2fcxqI2ytwXkCTTVLuveMtXQ%3fssf%3dfalse). ### [Makita 12V 1.5Ah Driver Drill](https://www.mitre10.com.au/makita-12v-1-5ah-3-8-driver-drill-with-case-df333dwy) Teal is in and this Makita driver and drill looks super chic. Stylish exterior aside, this cordless drill is perfect in drilling narrow and compact spaces. It has all the capabilities of other electric drills. You’d love that it only takes 22 minutes for your Makita drill to recharge! You also get up to 5 years in warranty. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/makita.jpg "makita - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mitre10.com.au/makita-12v-1-5ah-3-8-driver-drill-with-case-df333dwy) We found this at [Mitre10](https://www.mitre10.com.au/makita-12v-1-5ah-3-8-driver-drill-with-case-df333dwy). ### [BAUMR-AG 20V SYNC Cordless Lithium Power Drill](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10966?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mytopia.com.au%2fbaumr-ag-20v-sync-cordless-lithium-power-drill-kit-with-battery-charger-hammer-drill-function-accessory-kit%3fqueryID%3d83e916e265fee06e6291795b51dd7484%26objectID%3d4357%26indexName%3dProduction_Mytopiadefault_products) Last on the list (but definitely not the least) is this cordless lithium power drill. This lightweight and compact power tool boasts its trademark TriMode – drill, screw and hammer. It also comes with charger, battery, hammer drill function, and accessory kit, making it your all-in-one companion for your DIY projects. [![BAUMR-AG 20V SYNC Cordless Lithium Power electric drill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/clean2.jpg "clean2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10966?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mytopia.com.au%2fbaumr-ag-20v-sync-cordless-lithium-power-drill-kit-with-battery-charger-hammer-drill-function-accessory-kit%3fqueryID%3d83e916e265fee06e6291795b51dd7484%26objectID%3d4357%26indexName%3dProduction_Mytopiadefault_products) We found this at [Mytopia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10966?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mytopia.com.au%2fbaumr-ag-20v-sync-cordless-lithium-power-drill-kit-with-battery-charger-hammer-drill-function-accessory-kit%3fqueryID%3d83e916e265fee06e6291795b51dd7484%26objectID%3d4357%26indexName%3dProduction_Mytopiadefault_products). ## ATTACHMENTS THAT MAY COME WITH YOUR ELECTRIC DRILL The attachments that come with a electric drill may vary depending on the manufacturer and model of the drill, but typically they include: - **Drill bits:** These are the most common attachments that come with an electric drill. They are used to make holes in a variety of materials such as wood, metal, and plastic. - **Screwdriver bits:** These attachments are used for driving screws into different materials. They come in different sizes and shapes to fit different types of screws. - **Nut drivers:** These are used for tightening or loosening nuts and bolts. - **Hole saws:** These attachments are used to make larger diameter holes in wood, plastic, and some metals. - **Spade bits:** These are used for drilling larger holes in wood and are shaped like a spade. - **Auger bits:** These are used for drilling deep, narrow holes in wood. - **Sanding attachments:** Some electric drills come with sanding attachments that can be used for sanding or polishing surfaces. - **Wire brush attachments:** These are used for removing rust or paint from metal surfaces. - **Jigsaw or reciprocating saw attachments:** Some electric drills come with attachments that can be used to turn the drill into a jigsaw or reciprocating saw. - **Masonry drill bits:** These attachments are used for drilling holes in concrete, brick, and other masonry materials. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/electric-drills/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/electric-drills/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping **Tags:** diy, tools --- ### [Master Your ADHD Morning Routine: Ultimate Resets for Solo Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/master-your-adhd-morning-routine/) **Published:** June 17, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** **Quick Summary for an ADHD Morning Routine;** - **The real goal:** It isn’t to be a perfect parent, but to regulate your nervous system fast enough to give one clear instruction that actually lands. - **Rewire your response:** Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming (CPR) rewires the automatic mental habits that cause you to snap, dropping your hypervigilance. - **Break the loop:** 60-second physical resets act as an instant pattern interrupt to pull a neurodivergent child out of a paralysis episode. - **Proactive regulation:** Establishing a physical movement drill immediately upon waking helps clear anxious energy before the routine even begins. **Listen here…** If getting your kids who have ADHD out the door feels like an emotional warzone, you are not alone, and you are not failing. The secret to a calm ADHD morning routine isn’t micromanaging your kids who have ADHD—it’s reprogramming your own automatic stress response. By combining 60-second physical resets with affordable Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming, single mums can drop the hypervigilance, stop the screaming, and reclaim their mornings. ## **Why does standard parenting advice fail single mums?** Standard parenting advice assumes there are two adults in the house to tag-team a meltdown. When a solo mum is trying to get ready for work, make lunches, and manage an ADHD paralysis episode, her brain goes into overdrive. Out of sheer panic, she fires off twenty rapid-fire instructions, which only escalates the child’s sensory overwhelm. Furthermore, a single mum is not just dealing with the stress of the immediate morning routine. She is carrying the totality of the day’s potential issues, constantly worrying if today will be the day the school calls about a behavioural incident or if she will have to fight with the NDIS. The goal isn’t to be a perfect parent. The goal is to regulate your own nervous system fast enough to give one clear instruction that actually lands. ## **How does Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming (CPR) stop the guilt cycle?** MindShift Mentors founder Rob built his framework to provide affordable support that can be used in everyday life to improve automatic behaviour patterns. Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming (CPR) isn’t about sitting in therapy analysing your childhood. Instead it; - **inserts a pause:** By retraining the brain at night, you learn to automatically insert a pause in the morning, giving you the space to choose a different response instead of defaulting to a reactive, yelling pattern. - **uses a highly focused state:** CPR utilises a trance state, which is similar to being deeply absorbed in a book, allowing new patterns to embed in the subconscious mind. - **stops the guilt loop:** It prevents the brain from automatically defaulting to the “I’m a bad mum” shame loop after a morning escalation. ## **What are 60-second physical resets?** When the tension in the kitchen is about to snap, talking doesn’t work. Col’s expertise in movement-based resets provides an instant pattern interrupt. - **Checking for dream triggers:** If a morning goes entirely off the rails for no obvious reason, checking if the child had a weird dream the night before can - **Preemptive strikes:** For best results, children should start the day with a physical drill right when they get out of bed, blowing off steam and building confidence before they even attempt to get dressed or brush their teeth. - **Punch-kick combinations:** If an aggressive meltdown occurs, a quick 60 to 90-second combination of eight to ten punches and kicks can instantly calm the mind and restore focus. - **The Soft Hug:** For some children, a firm hold is dysregulating. A “soft hug” allows the child to know they are cared for without feeling physically restricted. ## **Affordable Support Options for Single Mums** Single mums are frequently priced out of specialised mental health care. MindShift Mentors offers two distinct, budget-friendly paths to get immediate help. - **[The MindShift Mentors App ($29.95/month)](https://app.mindshiftmentors.com?fpr=elle80):** This subscription is the daily maintenance toolkit. It grants full access to over 300 evidence-based CPR audio sessions. - **[Surviving the Morning Wars Program](https://survivingmorningwars.mindshiftmentors.net/?fpr=elle30):** This is a targeted, system-wide reset specifically for ADHD families. It provides dedicated audio tracks for the child to calm reactivity, the parent to reduce overwhelm, and the siblings to foster empathy. Crucially for single mums on a budget, there is an exceptionally high chance that self-managed NDIS plans could fund this specialised program. *\***Please note:** Self-managed NDIS funding may be available for this program, but eligibility depends on your individual plan. Please confirm with your NDIS provider, as we cannot guarantee funding approval.* ![ADHD Morning Routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Mindshift-beanstalk-banner-options-col-rob.jpg "Podcast - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Frequently Asked Questions** - **How can movement help neurodivergent children?** Incorporating movement helps children manage anxiety and channel energy positively, leading to improved focus and behaviour. - **What are some effective strategies for an ADHD morning routine?** Establishing a routine that includes engaging activities can set a positive tone for the day and reduce stress for both the single mum and her child. - **How can I change negative behavioural patterns?** Identifying and consciously altering patterns through techniques like mindfulness and cognitive reprogramming can lead to more constructive responses in challenging situations. 💌 Want more real talk like this? Subscribe to the [Beanstalk mums newsletter here](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) and join a community of women doing the heavy lifting. ## Links for this episode: 🤝 **[https://mindshiftmentors.com](https://app.mindshiftmentors.com?fpr=elle80)** – Explore the Mindshift Mentors services, the app, and connect with Rob. 📝 **[https://survivingmorningwars.mindshiftmentors.net/](https://survivingmorningwars.mindshiftmentors.net/?fpr=elle30)** – Discover Col’s highly recommended program. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! 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They are a great way to celebrate an imminent birth, to get together with friends (before mum-to-be is too tired!) and receive some gifts to help with the huge amount of paraphernalia a new baby requires! We’re all for gifting the essentials, but it can also be nice to gift mum and yet-to-be-born bub something a little special to mark the exciting journey they are on. For this reason, we’ve created a list of baby shower gift ideas to melt the heart. Happy baby showering! ## **15 Baby Shower Gift Ideas to Melt the Heart** ## **1. [French Linen Play Mats](https://wallabycollective.com/collections/linen-play-mats "French Linen Play Mats")** Floor play is a must for babies’ development, and Wallaby Collective’s beautifully crafted [French linen play mats](https://wallabycollective.com/collections/linen-play-mats) make it a dream! Thick, reversible, and cloud-soft, these luxe mats provide ultimate comfort and safety from birth and beyond. Plus, they’re naturally hypoallergenic, breathable, and thermoregulating, keeping bub comfy year-round. Perfect for tummy time, playtime, or simply lounging, these machine-washable mats come in a range of chic neutral tones and stylish reversible patterns to complement any nursery or living space. And with super soft OEKO-TEX® certified padding and premium vegan leather finishes, they’re as practical as they are beautiful. Designed right here in Australia, the Wallaby Collective Linen Play Mat is the ultimate blend of style, safety, and sustainability. Whether it’s newborn snuggles or toddler play, this is one baby essential you’ll love for years to come! [![Wallaby Collective French Linen play mats | Baby shower gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Wallaby-french-linen-play-mats.jpg "Wallaby french linen play mats - Beanstalk Mums")](https://wallabycollective.com/collections/linen-play-mats) We found this at: [Wallaby Collective](https://wallabycollective.com/collections/linen-play-mats "Wallaby Collective") ## **2. [The Very Hungry Caterpillar Set](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/toddlers/hungry-caterpillar-book-toy "The Very Hungry Caterpillar Set")** This adorable bundle includes the beloved Eric Carle classic and a cuddly plush caterpillar—perfect for tiny hands and growing imaginations. Storytime becomes extra special as little ones explore the colorful pages and snuggle their new reading buddy. A timeless keepsake that sparks a love for books from day one, because every baby deserves a story as sweet as they are! [![The Very Hungry Caterpillar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/The-very-hungry-caterpillar-798x800.png "The very hungry caterpillar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/toddlers/hungry-caterpillar-book-toy) We found this at: [Gifts Australia](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/toddlers/hungry-caterpillar-book-toy "Gifts Australia") ## **3. [Let the Fin Begin Blue Shark Robe](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/ "Let the Fin Begin Blue Shark Robe")** This adorable, ultra-soft baby blanket is like a warm hug for little ones! It’s machine washable, because let’s be real, babies are messy! Available in cute, gender-neutral designs, it’s a gift that’ll get “awws” at the party and plenty of use afterward. This blanket is a win for babies and sleep-deprived parents! [![Let the Fin Begin Blue Shark Robe | baby shower gift ideas](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/cdn/shop/products/BA14129BL-3-l_1280x.jpg?v=1665691990)](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/) We found this at: [Corner Stork](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/) ## **4. [I Just Couldn’t Wait to Meet You Board Book](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/NdJy1)** This beloved picture book about the joyful anticipation of childbirth is a great baby shower gift. Mums will read it to their children for years to come. [![I Just Couldn't Wait to Meet You Board Book ](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/500/9780143785071/0000/i-just-couldn-t-wait-to-meet-you.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/NdJy1) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/NdJy1) ## **5. [PatPat Letter Print Romper](https://www.patpat.com/au/baby-boy-girl-childlike-letter-print-romper-p588695.html)** This adorable baby romper is a love letter in outfit form! With its sweet “I Love Mama” print and cloud and stars designs, it’s perfect for snuggles, playtime, and stealing hearts. Made from soft, breathable fabric, it keeps little ones cozy while melting Mama’s heart. Plus, it’s easy to snap on and off for quick diaper changes! [![PatPat Letter Print Romper | Baby shower gift ideas](https://image.yfswebstatic.com/origin/product/oc/clothing/shooting/67930092413d7.jpg)](https://www.patpat.com/au/baby-boy-girl-childlike-letter-print-romper-p588695.html) We found this at: [PatPat](https://www.patpat.com/au/baby-boy-girl-childlike-letter-print-romper-p588695.html "PatPat") ## **15 Baby Shower Gift Ideas to Melt the Heart (cont.)** ## **6. [Natural Curve Nursing Pillow](https://fave.co/42LSuhP)** Say hello to comfy, stress-free feeds with the Natural Curve Nursing Pillow! Designed to support both mum and bub, its ergonomic shape keeps baby in the perfect position while reducing strain on your arms and back. Made with firm, breathable cushioning, it stays put—no slipping or sliding! Whether breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, this cosy companion makes every cuddle even sweeter. For something extra special, consider a cuddly comforter that also helps with sleep training—[Riff Raff](https://au.riffraffbaby.com/ "Riff Raff") comforters are popular among new parents for their softness and built-in white noise feature. [![Natural Curve Nursing Pillow](https://ergobaby.com.au/cdn/shop/products/NPAGRYSTP_main-1000x1000_1500x.jpg)](https://ergobaby.com.au/products/natural-curve-nursing-pillow-heathered-grey-1) We found this at: [Ergobaby](https://fave.co/42LSuhP) ## **7. [Splish Splash! Bath Time Baby Gift Basket](https://fave.co/3YbHett "Splish Splash! Bath Time Baby Gift Basket")** What mama wouldn’t love this practical baby shower gift idea? This adorable 22-piece basket is packed with everything needed for a splashtastic time, including a baby wash tub, cozy hooded towel, ultra-plush duck security blanket, and a waddling crew of rubber duckies. It’s the ultimate bath-time bundle with gentle Johnson & Johnson bath essentials and sweet baby accessories. [![Splish Splash! Bath Time Baby Gift Basket | Baby Shower Gift Ideas](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/cdn/shop/products/15_89091-L_1280x.jpg)](https://www.cornerstorkbabygifts.com/products/splish-splash-baby-gift-basket#) We found this at: [Corner Stork](https://fave.co/3YbHett "Corner Stork") ## **8. [Self-Care For New Mums](https://fave.co/44AbCBB "Self-Care For New Mums")** Want to get something for a new mum? You’ve found the perfect present! Packed with practical tips, gentle reminders, and expert advice, it helps you prioritise your well-being, because a happy mum means a happy bub! [![Self-Care for New Mums](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/assets/alt_1/60987916.jpg)](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/self-care-for-new-mums) We found this at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/44AbCBB) ## **9. [Baby Love Gift Box](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fweleda-baby-care-gift-pack%3fvariant%3d29391538323567%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26utm_campaign%3dgoogle%2bshopping%26utm_campaign%3dgs-2019-09-10%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dsmart_campaign%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwu5CDBhB9EiwA0w6sLcdLwGtjQWBn_3gMOKy2BbDfda5r7ThFlne-pzNjy9tSJbUO2PqLqhoCxYUQAvD_BwE%2f)** If you are out of baby shower gift ideas, head to the Well Store. They curate gift boxes for newborns packed with all the essentials plus sweet extras, like this box filled with Weleda’s Calendula baby care products. [![Baby Love Gift Pack | baby shower gift ideas](https://www.thewellstore.com.au/cdn/shop/files/WEL339ST_COMBO_1024x1024.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fweleda-baby-care-gift-pack%3fvariant%3d29391538323567%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26utm_campaign%3dgoogle%2bshopping%26utm_campaign%3dgs-2019-09-10%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dsmart_campaign%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwu5CDBhB9EiwA0w6sLcdLwGtjQWBn_3gMOKy2BbDfda5r7ThFlne-pzNjy9tSJbUO2PqLqhoCxYUQAvD_BwE%2f) We found this at: [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fweleda-baby-care-gift-pack%3fvariant%3d29391538323567%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26utm_campaign%3dgoogle%2bshopping%26utm_campaign%3dgs-2019-09-10%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dsmart_campaign%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwu5CDBhB9EiwA0w6sLcdLwGtjQWBn_3gMOKy2BbDfda5r7ThFlne-pzNjy9tSJbUO2PqLqhoCxYUQAvD_BwE%2f) ## **More Beautiful Baby Shower Gift Ideas** ## **10. [Taf Toys Developmental Activity Centre](https://fave.co/4jkW49p)** The Taf Toys Developmental Activity Centre is packed with music, lights, and interactive fun to keep bub entertained while boosting motor skills, hand-eye coordination, and sensory development. From a light-up bunny and peek-a-boo surprises to rattles, mirrors, and colourful ribbons, there’s so much to discover! Plus, it’s lightweight, foldable, and easy to carry, making it perfect for on-the-go adventures. [![Taf Toys Developmental Activity Centre](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/50/hash/28002/20251379/4/Taf+Toys+Developmental+Activity+Centre.jpg)](https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/Taf-Toys-Developmental-Activity-Centre-TAFT1057.html) We found this at: [Temple and Webster](https://fave.co/4jkW49p) ## **11. [Embrace Soft Air Mesh Baby Carrier](https://fave.co/440vOfX "Embrace Soft Air Mesh Baby Carrier")** The Embrace Soft Air Mesh Baby Carrier is like a warm hug for you and bub, keeping them close, comfy, and content while giving your arms a break. The breathable, ultra-soft mesh keeps things cool, even on warm days, and the easy, no-fuss design means no complicated wrapping—just pop it on and go! Perfect for hands-free cuddles, coffee runs, or just soaking in those [newborn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/newborn-baby-essentials/ "newborn") moments. Because they won’t be this tiny forever! 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In a busy classroom, standardised lesson plans are often designed for the “average” student, which means individual strengths, challenges, and learning styles can easily be overlooked. While some children thrive in that environment, others may start to struggle quietly. You might notice your child losing confidence, becoming anxious about homework, or simply switching off when it comes to school. They may be trying their hardest but still finding it difficult to keep up, leaving them frustrated and discouraged. The good news is that learning doesn’t have to be a one-size-fits-all experience. Personalised education takes a different approach, tailoring lessons to suit your child’s needs, interests, and pace. If your child is falling behind, losing motivation, or dreading schoolwork, these six signs may suggest that a more personalised approach could transform their academic journey. ## 1. Customising the Learning Pace to Match Your Child’s Needs In traditional school life, the bell rings and the class moves on to the next topic, regardless of how well your child did with the lesson. This controlled timeline often leaves struggling students behind. Personalised education removes this barrier and allows your child to take their own path. If they’re working hard in a math unit, the tutor can slow down and give them a week. After quickly learning the basics of the unit, they can move on to the next level. ## 2. Targeting and Filling Critical Knowledge Gaps Traditional classrooms rarely have the luxury of looking backwards. If your child fails to learn a foundational concept in term one, that learning gap will only grow wider as the year progresses, making advanced coursework seem impossible. Expert [Melbourne tutors](https://excelacademics.com.au/tutors-in-victoria/melbourne/) can help your child pause, trace their steps back, and point out where they first got lost. To fill those specific educational gaps, a mentor makes your child’s classes significantly easier to manage. ## 3. Aligning Lessons with Your Child’s Unique Interests ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-silverkblack-36713063-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-silverkblack-36713063 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by gustavo fring](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-teaching-girls-sitting-by-the-table-7156103/) It is challenging for a teenager to focus on schoolwork when the material feels entirely disconnected from their real life. Personalised learning addresses this common motivational hurdle by integrating your child’s passions directly into their daily curriculum. Whether it’s framing difficult word problems around their favourite sport or selecting reading materials that align with their hobbies, studying suddenly stops feeling like a chore. 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I know many mums who have gone from sitting through every homework session to simply checking in from time to time because their kid has developed the skills and confidence to manage things independently. That shift doesn’t happen overnight, but when it does, it’s a wonderful reminder that they’re learning skills that will serve them well long after their school years are over. ## 5. Boosting Your Child’s Inner Academic Confidence ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Finding-the-right-tutor.png "Finding the right tutor - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by thisisengineering from pexels](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/women-sitting-outside-3861966/) If a child has been falling behind their classmates for years, they may lose self-esteem and give up. Personalised support creates a safe, low-pressure environment where mistakes are not seen as failures but as normal milestones. Seeing themselves master a concept that they once thought was hard to do completely changes their self-esteem. Instead of seeing themselves as “bad students”, they see themselves as capable learners who can confidently tackle the tough test questions they can solve. ## 6. Cultivating a Genuine, Lifelong Love for Learning When school feels stressful and overwhelming, it’s only natural for children to become frustrated with books, assignments, and education in general. Personalised learning takes away much of that pressure by allowing your child to progress at a pace that suits them, without constantly comparing themselves to classmates. Instead of feeling like they’re stuck in a competition, children can focus on their own growth and celebrate their individual achievements. Over time, learning becomes less about chasing grades and more about exploring ideas and discovering new interests. When children feel understood and supported in the way they learn best, their mindset shifts. They begin asking questions, embracing challenges, and developing a genuine curiosity that can stay with them well beyond the classroom. *Related article: [Savvy Back To School Budget Ways To Save Big](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/savvy-back-to-school-budget-ways-to-save-big/)* ## Support Your Child’s Learning Journey Today We all want our children to feel capable, confident, and excited about their future. That’s why personalised learning support can be so powerful. It does much more than help improve marks—it can completely change the way your child sees themselves and their ability to learn. By working at a pace that suits them, filling in knowledge gaps, and rebuilding their confidence, this tailored approach gives children the chance to rediscover that learning doesn’t have to feel like a constant struggle. Sometimes, all they need is support that meets them where they are. In the long run, you’re not just helping your child get through their next test or assignment. You’re investing in their self-belief. And as any parent knows, seeing your child go from feeling frustrated and defeated to proud of what they can achieve is one of the most rewarding things of all. Those lessons in confidence and resilience can stay with them long after the school years are over. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/6-signs-your-child-could-benefit-from-personalised-learning-support/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/6-signs-your-child-could-benefit-from-personalised-learning-support/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [How can I be so busy but still feel so lonely?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/busy-but-lonely/) **Published:** March 10, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Life as a working single mother is crazy-busy, and yet … it can be so very lonely. Does anyone else feel this? How can it be that every day is packed full of chores, people and the vibrant chaos of our children, but we still feel isolated somehow? Slightly adrift from the rest of the world. Alone. It is almost laughable that someone who can barely find a minute to herself during her waking hours, still craves more. Yet, it is “what” we are craving that is important here. Let’s first look at what loneliness is. ## WHAT IS LONELINESS? According to [Vocabulary.com](https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/loneliness), the definition of loneliness is: > *“Loneliness is the state of being alone and feeling sad about it. It is a feeling of sadness or even anxiety that occurs when you want company. On the other hand, it is possible to feel loneliness in a crowd, especially if you aren’t interacting with others, like in a crowded subway car or busy grocery store.”* YES! That is exactly it! This not only describes loneliness, but it also validates why single mothers can struggle with loneliness, even when they are super busy. Ask yourself about the interactions you have throughout an average day. Are they quality interactions that help you feel less alone in the world? Or are you simply communicating with those around you as a way of making it through the day? This article might resonate with you: [Why single mums can feel like the loneliest people on earth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-single-mums-loneliest-people-on-earth/). Ok, we’ve identified loneliness and understand that we don’t need to be physically alone to feel it. Let’s move on. ## HOW CAN EXTENDED LONELINESS AND ISOLATION AFFECT ME? ![Breakfast in Bed This Mothers Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Blog-features-57.jpg "breakfast in bed ideas for kids to make on Mother’s Day - Beanstalk Mums") Negative feelings come and go. Understanding them is an integral part of managing our mental health daily. For example … I can be skipping along perfectly happy with my singledom, then I catch up with one of my favourite married couples (yes, there are still a few remaining in my friend circle), and suddenly feel very lonely. This will last as long as it takes me to drive home, hog the remote control and my entire queen bed … then the feeling will pass. All quite normal. Yet, when loneliness sticks around, and even full ownership of a Netflix remote and a queen bed can’t eliminate it, that’s a different story. Extended feelings of loneliness have a myriad of worrying outcomes, including health problems. This article from [APA](https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/05/ce-corner-isolation#:~:text=%22Lacking%20encouragement%20from%20family%20or,also%20augment%20depression%20or%20anxiety.%22) elaborates: > *“Those who are lonely may slide into unhealthy habits. In addition, loneliness has been found to raise levels of stress, impede sleep and, in turn, harm the body. Loneliness can also augment depression or anxiety.”* Well, this makes perfect sense. Lack of connection and meaningful conversation makes your problems and negative thoughts spin around and around inside your head in a never-ending circle of self-doubt that can drive you mad. Is it any wonder this can lead to stress, insomnia, anxiety, and even depression? **Question:** If you are struggling with your mental health, could it be caused by the absence of meaningful connection and companionship? ## WHY ARE MY NEEDS NOT BEING MET? I’m just gonna say it: > *“We lack meaningful companionship and connection leaving us with feelings of loneliness and isolation because we are so damn busy*.” Does that sit better with you now that you know the facts? Yelling at your kids to “get out the door, you’ll miss the bus”, listening to your work colleagues rattle on in a meeting or talking to child support on the phone is NOT going to fulfil your interaction needs. And allowing yourself 30-minutes to get lost in the drama of Bridgerton or Offspring every evening does not constitute a social life. What we desperately need and deserve is: - Meaningful connection and conversation with people who get us and genuinely care for us (otherwise known as non-work-related adult conversation) - The chance to support and guide those close to us (not only our kids) to feel a sense of value and self-worth - A reason to smile with another adult, ideally giggle … better still, belly laugh - The feeling of being supported by others, even if they are not physically present all the time. ## I FEEL GUILTY THAT MY KIDS ARE NOT ENOUGH FOR ME? I’d like to cover this because it is how I felt in my darkest days. And I believe a lot of single mothers feel the same. We have these gorgeous little people in our worlds. Our children. They are our greatest loves, our mini entertainers, our biggest time takers. We love them to the moon and back a million times. So why is this not enough? Yes, our children do provide us with connection and companionship in their own special childlike ways, but NEVER assume that this should be enough for you. In fact, the huge amount of time, energy and all-consuming love for our kids is often what breaks our ties with other people around us, thus exacerbating the problem. I have two beautiful daughters whom I adore. Yet, there was no time during the “play mat and building block years” through to the testing teenage years that they were filling the full spectrum of my social needs … nowhere close. If anything, my care for them was preventing me from meeting those needs. There is no shame in admitting this. It is a reality. The sooner you accept it and work on filling your need bucket outside the realms of Kid World, the sooner you will feel better. For further reading on mum guilt, see: [The truth about mum guilt and how to kiss it goodbye](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/). ## HOW CAN I CHANGE THIS? Feeling lonely is one of the biggest challenges for single mothers. For this reason, we have heaps of resources on this website to help you [manage stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) and [work your way around loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) to a happier place. Let’s cover a few limiting beliefs that may be preventing you from finding the friendships and quality connections that are out there waiting for you. ### MY LIFE IS SO BUSY. WHERE DO I FIND THE TIME TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE? This is the main one, isn’t it? And I totally get it. You’ve got a few options here. Can you manage your time better? Can you streamline tasks? See these articles with time-saving tips: [Brilliant time management tips for busy single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/) [4 Fabulous time saving tips for busy mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/time-saving-tips-mums/) Once you’ve juggled a bit of time, you may find you have to be disciplined when you prioritise. So, instead of spending Tuesday night ironing, invite a friend over for a wine when the kids are in bed, or head to the movies with them. What’s a few creased clothes when your mental health is at stake? ### I FEEL DEPRESSED AND DON’T WANT TO SEE/CHAT WITH ANYONE This is sooooo me. The less I see people, the less I feel like seeing them. Can you relate? If so, you will know it is a vicious cycle. Feeling depressed can be a stress response and a sign that you need further support from a GP or counsellor. You can also call [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) or [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/). I have chatted to both in relation to single motherhood in these podcasts: [BEYOND BLUE: Helping single mums understand and manage anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-anxiety/) [LIFELINE: Feeling down as a single parent? There is help out there.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-for-single-parents-lifeline/) For some simple ways to break your cycle of chronic stress and/or depression, see this candid article about: [How I manage my depression as a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/). As well as this, try to get some momentum to your social life, however small. Even if it’s going for a coffee alone, you interact with people around you. Other ideas include: - Walking your dog – great for making small talk with strangers! - Volunteering at your kid’s school - Arriving at day care or school pick-up early to meet and chat with other parents - Spending time talking to a friend or family member, in person or by phone Aim to do one of these things, or similar, at least once a day if possible. ### I PHYSICALLY CAN’T GET OUT OF MY HOUSE TO SOCIALISE WITHOUT MY KIDS Stuck at home? No worries. We live in the age of technology, which leaves us no excuses to connect with one another. Get tech savvy with your favourite [video calling app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/video-calling-apps/) and arrange chats, dates and even parties, all from your living room when the kids are asleep. In addition, engage with social media and online support groups to meet people. Some are especially for single mums and are area-specific. This website runs the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine), where many women have initially connected online, then arranged to meet up and have found “real-life” friendships. For me, this is one of the most rewarding parts of starting Beanstalk (cue: nice warm feeling inside). Of course, real human contact is best, but getting tech-social is a pretty close second. ### I HAVE LOST MY SELF ESTEEM AND SENSE OF SELF Lack of connection over a long period of time can definitely cause a lack of confidence. In fact, the journey to becoming a single mum can be so intense that we are left wondering, “who is this woman staring at me in the mirror?” Well, now is the time to discover her. Self-discovery is the very first module of my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) and is an imperative step to rebuilding your world (and your dreams) as a single mother. Allow yourself time to discover who you are, what you enjoy, and think about the kind of people you would like to spend your precious time with. After all, until you are confident in who you are, how can you reach out and find healthy, authentic friendships? Check out these articles for further support: [Finding the real you amid the craziness of being a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/) [How to supercharge your self-esteem after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Busy-but-lonely.png "Busy but lonely - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/busy-but-lonely/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/busy-but-lonely/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** depression, lonely, isolated, friends, isolation, alone --- ### [Emotionally prepare for the workforce after time off being mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/emotionally-prepare-workforce/) **Published:** February 17, 2021 **Author:** Rita Cincotta **Content:** You are ready for this moment. You have been longing for the day when the role you want is available, in the organisation you want, for people that you want to work with. You have had the last few years off with the kids. This period with the kids has been great. It has also been gruelling and relentless. No time to yourself, always “on”. It is time to re-enter the paid workforce, for you and for your family. So why does it feel heavy and stressful? Why does it feel like this comfortable bubble and routine you have created will disappear? Is this the right decision for the family? Is the job you have selected going to be too big and busy? ## THE INTERFERENCE OF THE LIZARD BRAIN! Your amygdala, also known as your [lizard brain](https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/where-addiction-meets-your-brain/201404/your-lizard-brain#:~:text=Lizard%20brain%22%20refers%20to%20the%20oldest%20part%20of%20the%20brain,as%20family%20members%20and%20friends%2C), is responsible for these questions that serve to doubt the choice you have made to return to the paid workforce. The lizard brain, or the amygdala, is the part of your brain that is responsible for your flight and fight response. It is doing what it needs to do by posing these questions. But these questions aren’t helpful when preparing to return to the paid workforce. ## SO LET’S DISCUSS YOU … It is possible that in the last few years, you have been caring and attending to everyone else’s needs and you have lost yourself? Perhaps you have become the needle in the haystack? As parents, it is not hard to lose our identity. I don’t mean your role or career title. I mean YOU. Who are you, and how are you like outside of parenting? Now you may be rolling your eyes and questioning, “Who has had any time for that?” And that is a fair, and I will allow that eye roll. However, when we lose a sense of who we are, it can be challenging to find it. As parents, we need to fight hard to protect our identity. It doesn’t mean it won’t change or adapt. It’s about [retaining a sense of self](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/) and ensuring it’s at the heart of everything you do. This self-care will increase the care and love for those around you. It is not selfish. It is vital, and it means that you won’t be difficult to find and reconnect with. ## WAYS TO EMOTIONALLY PREPARE YOU FOR YOUR RETURN TO WORK ![How to balance work and childcare as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Working-mother-with-baby.jpg "Working mother with baby - Beanstalk Mums") ### YOUR PURPOSE Can you articulate your purpose for returning to work? If not, that’s ok. Sit down with pen and paper and map it out. Don’t forget to add your aspirations and hopes. We all have gas bills to pay, but consider your career path, potential future studies and what you want in the next five years. If you can articulate your purpose, it will provide an anchor for you to rely on as you progress through this transition. ### GUILT Let’s get this one out of the way early. My fairy godmother wand can’t be used for this one, unfortunately. We all know that even pre-conception, we feel guilt and self-doubt. Have I fed her enough? Is he sleeping enough? Why isn’t my child walking yet? Why isn’t my child talking yet? Why is my child the roughest, quietest, loudest, smallest, or biggest? Have I been present enough? Have I smothered them too much, not allowing them to develop independently enough? How about this? ### ENOUGH! We can’t rid ourselves of guilt. However, what we can do is remind ourselves that we are parenting with the best of intentions and know that we are doing enough. Be conscious when you do feel the guilt barometer rising, but give it a big push down. It doesn’t serve you at all. *For more support here see: [The truth about mum guilt and how to kiss it goodbye](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/)* ### GET ORGANISED ![Lady working from home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/Work-from-home-business.jpg "Work from home business - Beanstalk Mums") You can make life so much easier for yourself by jumping on the organisation train right now. Now, I see you. Put that phone down, and do not even be tempted to jump on those *“I am so organised, look at me, look at me, look at me”* Facebook pages. Don’t. They won’t help you get organised. In fact, they’ll probably dial up your guilt. In all seriousness, look if you must, but don’t get sucked into the I’m not good enough vortex. So, how do you start getting organised? With a paper and pen. Make a list of what needs to be done to facilitate an easier back-to-work transition. You might like to organise your thoughts in columns, or my favourite, a mind map. Dump it all on paper. Even a good old spreadsheet or Word table will do. There are the main things to include: - Care of your kids – timetable, who will care for them when you are at work, and getting to and from work? - Meals – all meals… breakfasts, lunches, dinners, snacks - Routine – from the start of the day to the end of the day. Who needs to be doing what and when? - Activities and exercise -again – don’t forget you - School holidays if you have school-aged kids - Does your co-parenting arrangement need to be modified if you are co-parenting? There’s a lot in all of this; however, having a killer plan will help you manage any guilt that creeps in. My tip is that if you go searching for a fancy system to create your plan in, this may serve to distract rather than to get it all on a page. Once it’s out of your mind on paper, you can pop it into a system. ### PREPARE THE KIDS ![Children seated at a table playing with colorful clay in a classroom setting.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8422170-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8422170 - Beanstalk Mums") Depending on your kids’ age, it’s a good idea to be clear with them about the changing circumstances. You might like to discuss with them new routines, and if they are older children, how they can support this transition. Generally, kids love to be included and trusted to assume age-appropriate responsibilities. This is also the time to let them know why you have decided to enter or re-enter the workforce. Kids are quite intuitive, so they will sense any anxiety or nervousness. This doesn’t mean you need to lie or not be transparent. Be open and honest about your decision, and share with your kids your hopes and expectations for this. ### WHO’S IN YOUR CORNER? We don’t get special medals for doing things on our own. When I was raising my daughter solo, I remember how fiercely independent I wanted to be. Despite this, I still reached out to a couple of close friends who were there with wisdom and love. This support crew created space for me to fall in a heap on hard days, and they lifted me higher on great days. Who’s in your corner? You don’t need a whole team of cheerleaders. Just a couple of close confidantes is enough. ### MANAGE EXPECTATIONS It won’t go well all the time. With great planning, you are setting up the right conditions for success, but there will still be average days. It’s important to manage your expectations. Kids and plans don’t always work. Have some contingencies in place? Plan for “what if’s…?” So, when that curveball comes your way, you are ready! How you and your family feel on a day-to-day basis with a new routine can also change and vary. On these days, go back to your purpose. Connect with your why. It’s easy for the daily nuisances to bring us down. In these moments, elevate your thinking to your bigger reason. On this point, it’s important to convey your expectations to your employer. If you are negotiating what your return to work looks like, ensure you are clear on hours and boundaries. This clarity upfront will avoid awkward conversations later. Only commit to what you can. If this means easing back in with a gradual increase in hours over time, that’s ok too. ### DON’T FORGET TO HAVE FUN Part of the charm of being at home with the kids is seeing joy in them. Every day isn’t 10/10 joyful, but there will be that one moment that makes your heart sing. Going back to work doesn’t mean these moments are gone. Sometimes we just need to look a little harder for them. So when you’re with your kids, be with them. Limit distractions. A 20-minute park play after dinner, a run through the sprinklers, getting them to help you make dinner, watching a funny TV show together, or reading a funny book they love. These things don’t take up hours, but it’s in these moments that you will find joy. And most importantly, don’t forget to have fun for yourself. Schedule time with friends, where you can grab a bite or a coffee. Aim for one thing per week. It sounds like a lot, but 30 minutes to an hour is all you need. Your time out is not work. It’s work. So ensure you are also having fun. Use your support crew and schedule it in. Here are some ideas to help you along your way: [107 Self-care ideas that cost you nothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) ### LOVE IT ALL Finally, make a conscious decision to love it all, even the ordinary days. This is about training your mindset to see the light where there’s shade. When you choose to embrace it all, it’s easier to see the good bits. What’s bad sticks out like a sore thumb. But the great bits are harder to find at times, but so rewarding. Choose to love it all. ![Prepare emotionally for workforce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Emotionally-prepare-for-workforce.png "Emotionally prepare for workforce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/emotionally-prepare-workforce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/emotionally-prepare-workforce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** work life balance, employment, job, work, employee --- ### [Finding the ‘real you’ amid the craziness of being a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/real-you-single-mother/) **Published:** January 4, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Single mums play many roles. From first thing in the morning until last thing at night, we can swap our hats faster than a professional hat swapper. This includes being mum, dad, friend, employee, handyman, chef, cleaner, important guest at a teddy bear’s tea party, and so on. I remember a time when I was super busy cooking dinner, dealing with a work email and helping my daughter with homework. In the background, my younger daughter was begging me to show her how to do a handstand. Next thing I knew, I was upside down against a wall, taking in an alternative view of the madness. Only kids can make our lives this kind of crazy. And it’s good, yet it is so all-encompassing that you can be forgiven for losing sight of the “real you”. Who is this deranged-looking woman doing a handstand on my living room wall when she should be peeling the potatoes? If you feel this way, it means you are an amazing single mother who is giving it all you’ve got to be the best single mum you can be. That is brilliant. BUT. I bet you’d still like a bit of “you” back … the woman you were before kids and single motherhood? If this is you, keep reading because this article is about how to find the “real you” amid the craziness of single mum life. ## Finding the ‘real you’ amid the craziness of being a single mum ### RECOGNISE THE IDENTITY CRISIS Before you can make a positive change, you need to recognise and accept where you are at right now. In my eCourse, the first exercise is called “Face In The Mirror”, where I encourage you to simply look in the mirror and evaluate what you see. We can do a scaled-down version of the exercise now. So, find a mirror … When was the last time you really took the time to look at yourself properly? Who do you see staring back at you? Is it you? Is it a stranger? Is it a different version of yourself? Do you see someone older, wiser, wilder? Take time to assess (without judgement) what you see and consider how you have changed since becoming a single mum. Some of this change will be good and some not so good. Most importantly, think of the things that you love about yourself that have been pushed to the side while you fulfilled your role as a single mother. Simply by assessing where you are at this exact moment in time and recognising what parts of yourself you want back, has given you a path … a place from where you are now to where you want to be. The next steps will help your journey along this path to recover and discover the “real you”. ### LIST YOUR HOBBIES (STAY WITH ME HERE) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-4-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Listing hobbies may seem like a pretty average piece of advice, but it’s super important for single mums looking to find the wonderful person they have become. Be prepared: You will probably unearth a few surprises. I certainly did! The reason for this was that I was no longer with my husband, with whom I shared my life and my hobbies for so many years. For the first time in a long time, I could be honest about what I wanted from life … both on a daily basis and for my future. Turns out that I really don’t like fishing! And I actually love shaking my booty with the local gym crowd. It’s liberating to be completely honest and authentic about who you are, rather than giving a part of yourself to someone else because that is what’s expected of you. Welcome to the wonderful world of single motherhood! So, come on. What is it you truly love doing? There are heaps of hobbies for moms. A [yoga class](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/), start writing, [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/). Do you [need a boost of adrenaline](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/breakup-monontony-of-mum-life/) every now and then? Or are you happiest doing sweet FA? There is no right or wrong answer here, just list the things you genuinely love doing. ### SHOW YOUR KIDS THE “REAL YOU” (AND THAT SHE MATTERS) Now you must coax the “real you” from the craziness of your single mum life. To do this, you need to carve out some free time. Finding this elusive “free time” is a mission for many single mothers and, again, it’s something we cover in great detail on my eCourse. The usual suggestions include getting up early before the kids wake up, putting them in childcare, getting a babysitter, etc. But for this article, I’m going to suggest something different. You are looking for time to be the “real you”. And that “real you” is a wonderful person you want to share with your children. So, let them see it! Instead of pursuing hobbies when the kids aren’t around, let your children witness this new, emerging version of you. All children love to see their mum happy. It is also important for them to witness you putting yourself as a priority. Let your children know that it is Mummy’s time for painting/yoga/meditating. The earlier children get used to the idea of mum taking time out for herself, the sooner they will accept it. And, if you’re feeling the familiar pangs of [mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/), don’t! It’s good for children to understand that there is lots more to Mum than cooking, cleaning and shouting at them to get ready for school. Be the “real you” for everyone to see! Note: Only you know how much time your child can spend unattended or not entertained so act within the realms of your own family. ### MONITOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH When it comes to mental health as a single mother, there is nothing more important. If your mental health is not in tip-top condition, it will affect every area of your life, and possibly even your children. Poor mental health can be caused by so many different things, including sleep deprivation, self-doubt, negative thoughts, anxiety, poor physical health, financial worries and so on. Allowing yourself to be authentic is a brilliant way to manage your mental health. There is nothing more cathartic than dropping all the pretences and being “you”. It gives you the freedom to be the person you aspire to be and relief to pursue and do what you choose to do. ![Finding real you as a single mother | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Real-you-single-mother-1.jpg "Real you single mother - Beanstalk Mums") If you feel lost or depressed and are unable to pull yourself back to positive space easily, please seek further support. Both [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) and [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) have excellent 27/7 phone help lines. Or book an appointment with your GP, who can offer support or a referral to a clinical psychologist. In this article, I share my experience with depression and how to cope whilst juggling all the balls of single motherhood: [Signs of depression as a single mother and how to cope](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/real-you-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/real-you-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** me time, depression, self care, support, mental health, self development, time --- ### [The science of friendship: Proven strategies for making friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/science-friendship-making-friends/) **Published:** August 14, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** In a world that is increasingly connected yet socially distant, making and maintaining friendships has never been more important. But what if making friends wasn’t just an art, but a science? Welcome to the fascinating realm of the science of friendship, where researchers have delved deep into the intricacies of human connection to uncover proven strategies for forming meaningful relationships. You might be an introvert looking to expand your social circle or simply curious about the secrets behind lasting friendships. Either way, this is the perfect read for you. I explore the science of friendship and provide practical strategies alongside thought-provoking insights to help you foster meaningful connections in your own life. So, get ready to unravel the mysteries of human connection and discover the science-backed strategies that can transform how you approach and nurture your friendships. ***Further reading: [The importance of making friends during motherhood.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/importance-making-friends-motherhood/)*** ## Practice active listening Have you ever met someone you simply want to be around with and talk to? Chances are, they’re good listeners! Active listening engages the brain’s social cognition network, signalling to the other person that you are genuinely interested in them. People who are active listeners can make you open up and feel heard around them, making you want to become friends with them. You love talking to them as you think they understand what you say. This activates areas associated with empathy and trust, promoting a sense of connection and rapport. Unfortunately, not all of us listen to understand. Instead, we tend to listen to reply. If you have this problem, here is how you can start improving your listening skills: - Restate what the other person said to make sure you understood the message - Ask appropriate questions to show your interest - Demonstrate positive nonverbal cues Doing these the first few times can be challenging, but being an active listener will soon come naturally. ## Show empathy and understanding Scientifically speaking, empathy triggers mirror neurons in the brain. This leads us to resonate with the emotions of others. This neural synchronisation fosters emotional bonding and a sense of shared understanding. I’m sure you’ve been told to try putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. This is how we develop empathy, the ability to see a situation through another person’s point of view, the “social glue” that prompts us to help and be kinder. Sometimes, when a friend is in a situation we do not agree with, we could be tempted to become the voice of reason and try to correct them. But this could destroy a relationship, as the other person might feel invalidated or judged. Instead, we must practice more empathy. One of the most important ways to be empathetic is to resist the desire to give advice or pass judgement, especially when unwarranted. Imagine how you would feel if you were in their situation, and how you would simply need a listening ear. ## Be a reliable friend Being reliable is another crucial ingredient in making friends. In a nutshell, being reliable means that if you say you will do something, you will do it. Everyone loves a reliable person. It shows that you respect others and are trustworthy and dependable. Reliability and trustworthiness activate the brain’s “trust circuitry,” which enhances feelings of safety and security within social relationships. Here are 3 ways to become a more reliable friend: - **Live up to your promises**. If you commit to meet for coffee at 3 pm on Saturday, be there. Regularly failing to show up gives the impression that this person is unimportant to you. - **Show up on time**. This demonstrates respect for the other person’s time. Remember, your friend also as their schedule and routine, and they are setting aside time for you. - **Communicate well.** If something urgent comes up, have the grace to call up and tell your friend. And update them occasionally; don’t just leave them waiting, not knowing when you’ll show up, if at all. ## Show positivity and humour There’s a reason making friends seems easier for funny people. Positivity is contagious! We already struggle with personal issues on our own, so being around people who can make situations lighter and brighter is more enjoyable. Don’t take life too seriously, and learn to have fun. According to scientists, positivity and humour can trigger the release of endorphins and oxytocin, promoting feelings of pleasure and bonding. They also reduce social barriers and make you more approachable. You don’t have to be the “class clown” of your friend group, but improving your sense of humour will surely help make you someone people love to have around. If you need help being a little bit funnier, watch more comedy! However, be cautious about the kinds of jokes you make. For example, jokes made at the expense of other people’s appearance are always a no-no. ## Be authentic Being authentic means staying true to who you really are. We will discuss this separately at the end of this article. For now, let’s talk about authenticity in social interactions. Authenticity means living in such a way that your words and actions align with your personal values. It is key to building trust and social cohesion. The brain’s social cognition network is sensitive to detecting sincerity, and genuine interactions are more likely to be rewarding. Also, you’ll be more at ease in social interactions when you’re not hiding behind a mask, keeping appearances, or trying to please others. It’s a less stressful way to live! ## Compliment your friends Everyone, secretly or not, loves hearing good things about themselves. Receiving compliments activates the same brain regions associated with rewards. Genuine compliments reinforce positive feelings and strengthen social bonds. Whether it’s a simple “You look great today” or an “I’m so grateful to be your friend” that comes with a hug after allowing you to cry on their shoulder, compliments are a great way to show your appreciation. Asking for their opinion or help can also make them feel valuable. But be careful not to overdo it that you come off as insincere, patronising, or worse, weird. Don’t fawn over them, and don’t excessively flatter. Remember, love bombing is never cool! ## Smile and use positive body language They say it’s not what you say but how you say it. And a huge part of that is your body language. Humans are very sensitive to reading nonverbal cues, and we react to them, consciously or unconsciously. For example, if we see someone with a pleasant smile, the part of our brain that processes rewards is activated, which makes us feel good. And when we make people feel good, they will love to be around us. That’s one reason to start smiling! Aside from smiling, walking up to people, making eye contact, and having an open posture also suggest you are open to making friends. Positive body language, including eye contact and smiling, activates mirror neurons, creating a sense of connection and understanding between individuals. ## Respect people’s boundaries Do you also feel icky when someone crosses your personal space? Believe it or not, you’re not being extra sensitive; it’s your instinct! Instinct is crucial for our survival. That’s why we dodge when something is about to hit us and avoid objects in our path. And when someone crosses your boundaries, your brain sets off alarm bells, making you uncomfortable. Respecting boundaries promotes a sense of autonomy and control in social interactions. When people feel respected, they are more likely to feel comfortable and open in building friendships. So if you want to start making friends, don’t just show up at someone’s front door without asking! Aside from respecting other people’s physical boundaries, it’s important to respect each other’s emotional boundaries. Be sensitive to words or actions that make others feel uncomfortable. Respect their decisions and feelings. ## Be yourself Lastly, being true to yourself is another major ingredient to building relationships. It means you are not changing who you are to make friends. Being yourself is when your values and actions align. I struggled with this a lot when I was younger, especially as a teenager. I so badly wanted to fit in that I changed my personal style, the way I talked, and even my opinions to hang around the cool kids. In hindsight, I realised I was never really happy around them. That I was not myself all those years must be why I was unhappy. To be yourself, you must first know yourself. Know where your values lie. What makes you uncomfortable? What can you compromise, and what things are non-negotiable when it comes to friends? Next, embrace your strengths and vulnerabilities. This is how you feel worthy of love and friendship for who you really are. Finally, remember that you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, so stop caring about how others think of you. ***Further reading: [Why single parent support groups will enlighten your life. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/science-friendship-making-friends/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/science-friendship-making-friends/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** lonely, mates, company --- ### [What you need to know before getting a dog](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/) **Published:** May 17, 2023 **Author:** Ashley Winning **Content:** Bringing a dog into your life can be a fulfilling and fun experience. Dogs are known for their unconditional love, unwavering loyalty and joyful presence. But there is lots to think about before getting a dog. Before diving headfirst into dog ownership, you must be fully prepared and aware of the responsibilities of caring for a furry companion. It’s essential to understand what it takes to provide a loving and nurturing environment for a dog. If you are considering welcoming a dog into your home, allow me to equip you with the knowledge to ensure a smooth transition and a lifelong bond with your new four-legged family member. ## Puppies are like newborn babies If you are considering adopting a newborn puppy, you best remember those nights with your newborn baby and having to get up several times a night! Puppies are babies removed from the warmth of their mother’s comfort and bed. They need a lot of attention and care. You will be their new mother. This means you must take on all motherly duties, including setting an alarm clock in the middle of the night to take your puppy outside to wee & poo (because they can’t hold their bladder for long), having a clock with a ticking sound under their bed to emulate their mother’s beating heart, and snuggling them with one of your shirts with your scent. Puppies often cry out when left and need lots of love and attention, just like a newborn baby. This is one of the most important things you need to know before getting a dog, especially a puppy. ## TRAINING A PUPPY TAKES TIME With the proper training and time given, you can help your new family member adapt to your home more quickly. It means paying anywhere from a few hundred dollars to a few thousand (all up) to fully train your puppy to sit, walk with a lead, and learn to eat safely around children. It takes time and commitment. Each day you and your children must practice and implement the skills you have learned in training with your dog. It helps to have a positive mindset to support you on this journey! ## Getting the right breed for your family Each dog breed comes with different challenges as well as unique & exciting traits. My Pomeranian, for example, is a crazy, fun, playful and beautiful small dog we love dearly, but she is a colossal yapper. She barks at people walking past our home, when she sees a bird, at people mowing their lawns, and, of course, whenever another dog barks. You must take the time to research which dog breed would be a good fit for your family. Keeping in mind: - If you have a big backyard or a small one - If your dog will be allowed inside - Where they will sleep - How much exercise they need - If they yap - Behavioural issues (including some breeds being more aggressive naturally) - Any health issues they may end up having Some dog breeds are much better around children based on temperament and size (little dogs could easily be injured by small children running around the home). ## DOGS REQUIRE A LOT OF ATTENTION (AND money) Unlike cats, dogs require a lot of attention and get bored if under-stimulated, leading to negative behaviours like constant barking, chewing things around the home and digging up garden beds. Before getting a dog, you must consider whether you are home a lot or away from home. If you are regularly away from home for the weekend or holidays, you will need to organise someone to pet-sit your dog or put them into a kennel, costing an average of $25.00+ a day. Plus, dogs must have up-to-date kennel cough vaccinations in most kennels, which is another hundred or so dollars! The costs associated with putting our dog into a kennel have stopped us from going on holiday occasionally, as it all adds up. They must be played with daily, taken for walks, and considered when doing anything in or away from home. ## Mixing dogs and children We got our beautiful dog Layla as a puppy eight years ago, pre-kids. She was my fur baby and got all my love and attention. When my girls were born, they became my primary focus, especially while they were babies. For safety reasons, I chose to stop my dog from coming into the home. Layla is a small dog, and as my girls have gotten older and are confident walkers, we have brought Layla back into the home. We made this decision for both the dog’s and baby’s safety. As Layla was an outside dog for the last few years, we had to re-train her to wee and poo outside. We always had to be careful the children didn’t have food around her because dogs might bite, growl and attack anything that messes with their food. Even soft toys get eaten and used as chew toys! Layla loves to settle in for the night and relax. My girls love to run around playing and often don’t notice Layla on the floor (she loves to lay in the worst spots… like the walkway!) She has a nice comfy bed and huge crate to retreat to – but always chooses to stay with us. She loves to live on the edge! I constantly have to keep her safe from the kids and navigate times when she growls at the girls and scares them. Of course, the girls forget and they are annoying her again two minutes later! ## AS THE MOTHER YOU WILL BE WELL, THE MOTHER! I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that you will take most of the responsibility if you decide to get a dog. Financially, emotionally and physically. I am the only person in the household who feeds our fish (and I didn’t want them in the first place!). Make sure you have space, patience and time to fit another member into your family. While dogs are so loving, rewarding and fun, just like children, they are a huge responsibility that can be with you for 20 years, even longer than some children live at home. Our pets deserve to be homed with the best intentions, a well-thought-out plan and a realistic idea of what being a pet owner is like. The last thing you want to happen is to realise that you have over-committed and cannot care for this beautiful animal. This article has given you a good idea of what you need to know before getting a dog. You might also like: The family pet: To buy or not to buy. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** dogs, pets, getting a dog --- ### [8 Hot dating apps for a casual fling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/dating-apps-casual-fling/) **Published:** October 25, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you craving intimacy or some steamy dates in your area but don’t feel ready for a relationship? Then a casual fling could be just the ticket! With an array of different dating apps at our finger-tips, some of which specialise in “no strings attached” style meetups, you won’t have to look too far. In this article, I provided two super handy lists. They are: - How to choose an app for a casual fling - My pick of the best dating apps for a casual fling Oh and just a quickie (excuse the pun!): Please use common sense and caution when meeting through dating apps. Here are some resources to help you stay safe: [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/) 16 Clever personal safety apps for single mums ## How to choose an app for a casual fling ## Make sure it covers the location you are in Ever wondered how those flying heart emojis landed on your feed? From Tinder to Grindr, it turns out all of these hookup applications use one common algorithm to filter your sexual match … location. It’s technically your chief starting point for finding a catch. In the realm of casual dating, the hunt for Mr Right and anything in between becomes the quest for the “Right Person Around the Block.” So, it only makes sense that it should cover your location. ## Read user reviews There are heaps of one night stand apps out there. And, not all are equal. Therefore, make sure the one you choose is of great quality. The best way to do this is to read user reviews and hear from people who came before you. Why go through the hassle? User reviews give you a fleshed-out insight before you sign up to an online dating and part with your time and money. These online reviews even provide a ranking system, so check that one as well, before you decide which one fits your needs. Reading the reviews will also give you an idea about the kind of people who use the app. In the case of dating apps for casual flings, you can check they are genuine, not creepy. ## Get advice from mates who have used the apps While it’s great that there’s a whole legion of dating apps for casual flings at our fingertips, it can get confusing. One of the best ways to narrow down the long list is to seek advice from your experienced mates. Yes, you don’t need to suffer alone; reach out and ask a friend who has used the apps. After all, there’s no better way to learn the quirks and perks of one-night-stand apps than from a close mate who’s “been there, done that.” Remember to ask your friends who are also seeking a casual fling, not those on the hunt for a full-blown relationship. ## Ensure it has good privacy and safety features Millions of people around the globe use dating apps for casual fling. In that case, when meeting someone new online, it’s smart to take precautions. While your dating safety is mostly on your shoulders, a lot still rests on the dating apps themselves. There are sites out there that have your back and put your safety at the forefront of their decision-making. Find the one that embodies just that. I mean, what good is getting a sexual kink if it puts you in danger, right? ## Can you remain anonymous (if you want to) Whatever you put in your dating profile (address or phone number) can easily be seen by online lurkers. Unfortunately, there’s no guarantee that everyone using dating apps for casual flings is legit. For this reason alone, it’s best that you use one-night stand apps that give you the freedom to remain anonymous (if you want to) until you find a genuine match. Staying anonymous doesn’t mean you’re faking it. Dating online has real-life consequences and while you want the person to get to know you, it’s better safe than sorry. ## Check you can communicate via the app (without providing personal details) All it takes is a single piece of information to pull up your Facebook and find everything about you — which I doubt you want if you’re after a quick fling. One of the biggest mistakes you can commit online is to share personal information with others (without knowing how it will be protected). When choosing dating apps for casual fling, make sure you can communicate without giving away personal details. Remember, you’re using one-night stand apps for fun, not to get involved in a romance scam. ## Ensure the user base includes others looking for one night stands Why are you using dating apps for casual fling again? Oh, to find potential hookup partners and explore your sexual fantasies — duly noted. However, some of these one-night-stand apps don’t include people with the same interests in their user base. And that’s one thing for you to take note of before signing up for any dating website. Having similar interests is important because it makes an easier find. If you’re meeting people in the same hook-up game, it’s more fun and convenient! ## My pick of the best dating apps for a casual fling ## [Adult friend finder ](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) If you are looking for dating apps for a casual fling, Adult Friend Finder is even better than Tinder. This hot hookup site is in your face raunchy and the profiles are even more so. The free version lets you message people (expect lots of “send nudes” and other x-rated messages in your inbox), play games, watch videos and ask others to be friends. Adult Friend Finder is great way to blow of steam at the end of a tiring day and strike up naughty conversations. Definitely not for women looking for a serious relationship. [![Adult Friend Finder | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/6d234c6d5dfcb87944c945604886d91e1c5aea57/0_0_1148_689/master/1148.jpg?width=620&quality=85&auto=format&fit=max&s=675d48e27f3dc642878071c3aeb75afa)](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) > ***Free version:** Yes* > > ***Pros:** Great app for someone who’s just looking for a hookup or friends with benefits. Definitely for the open-minded, not for conservative people.* > > ***Cons:** Free version has lots of pop-up ads, website layout looks shady* > > ***You will love this app if:** You want a quick hookup or you’re looking for some fun with no strings attached.* ## [Sugarbook](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69445?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsugarbook.com%2f) Want casual hookups and the potential to earn money at the same time? Sugarbook has you covered. This sugar daddy website is popular among young people and students (free premium account for girls who sign up with a university email) who love getting gifts and treats in exchange for sexy time. There’s a fairly large user base of ID verified members (mostly female) and sugar daddies/mummies who don’t mind paying a premium for this type of relationship. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1_uwsqs6y_qMHkUHeiTCUbvA-1200x543.png "- Beanstalk Mums") > ***Free version:** Yes (limited features)* > > ***Pros:** Large membership base of ID-verified sugar daddies/mummies and sugar babies, user-friendly app, multiple filters to customise matches, free premium account if you sign up with a university email (for sugar babies)* > > ***Cons:** Expensive, premium account needed to send unlimited messages* > > ***You will love this app if:** You are looking for a sugar daddy/mummy-sugar baby relationship.* ## [Passion](https://passion.com/go/g1452031) Passion is like a toned down Adult Friend Finder. You still get the raunchiness but without the endless barrage of nudes and dick pics in your inbox. As dating apps for casual flings go, Passion app offers a chill, laid-back environment where you can safely trawl for steamy connections. It boasts millions of members around the world so it’s easy to find someone to talk to. However, the chances of actually meeting someone and hooking up drops if you live in a remote area. [![Passion | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/p.jpg "p - Beanstalk Mums")](https://passion.com/go/g1452031) > ***Free version:** Yes* > > ***Pros:** Easy to use and navigate, unlimited live webcam, access to IM and chats* > > ***Cons:** No mobile app, limited features on the free version, lots of fake profiles* > > ***You will love this app if:** You’re looking for a sensual dating experience without in-your-face naked pics and videos.* ## [Eharmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) eharmony is one of the first online dating sites and it’s still going strong in 2021. Whilst not strictly for casual hookups, eharmony is a great option if you’re a cautious dater and want the best of both worlds: potential matches for flings and long-term relationships. You can sign up for a free basic account with limited features to start, then upgrade to premium to enjoy the full experience when you click with someone interesting and want to take it to the next level. [![eharmony | Dating Apps Casual Fling | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Screen-Shot-2019-11-23-at-3.44.48-pm.png "eharmony - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) > ***Free version:** Yes* > > ***Pros:** Easy to use, profiles are packed with information, free relationship advice, features add-ons that are not available on other dating sites, safe and secure matching* > > ***Cons:** Only paid members can view photos of matches.* > > ***You will love this app if:** You are new to online dating or you are looking for a serious relationship/marriage.* ## Find steamy dates in your area ## [Feeld](https://feeld.co/) Want to explore beyond the “vanilla” and get on with something more? Feeld can pique your curiosity and pleasure in a lot broader scope. This hookup site is a dating haven for people who are looking to connect with individuals who want sex outside the mainstream. Feeling queer and kinky? Feeld thinks there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sexual experimentation. So, if you feel underserved by Tinder, sign up for free, upload a photo, pick a “fantasy name” and fill your profile with your desires. Since there aren’t many users in Feeld, you can explore a larger range of distance (up to 250 miles) and gauge with your romantic or sexual compatibles with something highly specific. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Untitled-1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://feeld.co/) > ***Free version:*** Yes > > ***Pros:*** Great app for anyone who isn’t looking (or interested) in vanilla sex, user-friendly interface, the free version offers a lot of mileage > > ***Cons:*** Conversations can’t start unless two users like each other back, no option for an opening message, smaller user base, miss notifications if you don’t use the app more often > > ***You will love this app if:*** You are an LGBTQ wanting to connect with people who have complex and diverse sexual interests. ## [Pure](https://pure.app/) Pure is a hookup app that delivers dates on demand. Think of it like an Uber for casual sex, but with a time limit. You have about an hour to find a date in your area, after which your profile self-destructs and is automatically deleted. Signing up requires your email, phone number, payment info and location, but these are not displayed on your profile. Only your photo and sexual preference are shown so you remain entirely anonymous. This app is great for women (females can use the app for free!) in their 20s to 30s looking for quick and casual fun, but whether you find an actual date or not largely depends on your location. [![Pure | Beanstalk Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/tpJmmuPLv_qkpjDEmL3FceblrGt0p3qJSGEDSjBD7qVZn5Msoo0CG0R8t2cF8HJfezc=w1194-h789)](https://pure.app/) > ***Free version:** Free for female users* > > ***Pros:** Easy sign up, anonymous and temporary profiles* > > ***Cons:** Requires payment information at sign up, time limits restrict activity, few Pure users in Australia (around 2000)* > > ***You will love this app if:** You want anonymous and no-strings attached hookups.* ## [Grindr](https://www.grindr.com/) Are you LGBTQ and looking steamy dates in your area? Grindr is a must. Nothing is hotter when it comes to dating apps casual flings for the gay community. With around 3.3 million daily active users (almost 250,000 members in Australia) from 190 countries, you’re guaranteed to find like-minded people looking for hookups and excitement. Attract matches by spicing up your profile with risque descriptions (preferred sex position, body type, pronouns and more) and join a Tribe that best describes your personality (Bear, Daddy, Geek, etc.). This is the app to download if you’re all about sending nudes and receiving them. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Screenshot-of-the-Grindr-user-interface-615x800.jpg "Screenshot-of-the-Grindr-user-interface - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.grindr.com/) > **Free version:** Yes* > > Pros: Easy setup, large and very active user base, unique emojis (Gaymojis) > > ***Cons:** No email verification can mean lots of fake profiles, live chat only available on premium* > > ***You will love this app if:** You are LGBTQ looking for quick and casual dates in your area.* ## [Plenty of fish](https://www.pof.com/) The Plenty of Fish or POF experience is somewhat in the middle between Tinder and eharmony. POF is all about options. There’s a fairly large membership base spread across a wide range of ages with profiles that are not super detailed. You can sign up for free and immediately start browsing profiles. Be on the lookout for people specifically looking for casual hookups or no-strings-attached relationships if you’re here just to flirt and have fun. [![POF | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.12.38-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 8.12.38 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.pof.com/) > ***Free version:** Yes* > > ***Pros:** Send messages to members and browse for free, huge and active membership base* > > ***Cons:** The interface is a bit dated, some profile sections and features are hidden behind paywalls, and personality tests have a timer so you have to complete them quickly.* > > ***You will love this app if:** You want to browse profiles, send messages and make connections for free.* ## [Tinder](https://tinder.com/?lang=en-AU) Probably the most popular dating app for a casual fling, Tinder remains a contender for the best place to find casual, steamy connections. The majority of the Tinder demographic is on the younger side, but don’t let that stop you from finding the hookup of your dreams. There are plenty of older adults here who are looking for the same things as you are. For best results, keep your profile fun and raunchy and make your intentions clear. [![Dating Apps Casual Fling | Tinder | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-6.32.26-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-14 at 6.32.26 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tinder.com/?lang=en-AU) > ***Free version:** Yes4* > > ***Pros:** Swipe right/left matching system is simple and fun, more than 3 million users in Australia* > > ***Cons:** Has a reputation as a casual hook up app.* > > ***You will love this app if:** You want a simple, fun app for a good time or casual dating (Tip: State in your bio if you are looking for a serious relationship so you are matched with like-minded people.)* ## Final words: Datings apps for a casual fling Long gone are the days of traditional dating and waiting around for love sparks to crackle. Instead, hookup is the new norm, people. However, finding someone to hook up with online is just as challenging as striking love in real life. Yes, online casual encounters, whatever you want to call it, can be risky (especially for first-timers and women). But lucky for you, we just served with the best dating apps for casual fling and some bonus tips on “How to choose an app for casual fling,” all right for the taking. All is not lost. There is an array of one-night-stand apps at your finger-tips that are safe to use with countless success stories. So, I say, heed our advice to the letter with a sprinkle of good logic, get into it and start swiping through your casual fling potentials. 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And is age really what we should be focusing on? To help you make an informed decision, here are some questions to ask yourself when deciding whether to buy your child their first phone or not. ## Child smartphone safety: should I get my child a phone or not? ### Do you live in an area where your child needs a phone? A phone has many benefits when a child travels alone. Whether you live in a rural/high-crime area or do they have a long bus ride to school, a cell with a GPS location tracker gives you and your child peace of mind. You can easily check their location history if they frequently walk alone or go to new places. And you can install and activate safety apps for an added layer of security. ### Does your child have responsibilities that requires them to be contactable? Older kids need a cell for reasons beyond socialisation. They may have a part-time job and need to be contactable by their boss or be home alone, frequently looking after younger siblings. If you have a teen driver, they may need a device should they experience car problems or need to pick someone up. It’s important to make sure they understand that texting or talking on the mobile phone whilst driving is one of the most dangerous things they can do. Talking to them about the risks is important, but setting a good example is even better. ![Child smartphone safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-11.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Are you aware of the health risks before you get your child a phone? ### Radiation Radiation is understandably a chief concern amongst mums. While not as much as x-ray machines, a cell phone may emit radiation that may affect developing brains. So far, studies have shown no link between phone or tablet use and brain tumours in adolescents, but experts say it will take decades to get conclusive evidence on this issue. In the meantime, current evidence suggests cell phone users are not at risk of radiofrequency energy exposure. Setting reasonable time limits is best to help keep your child safe. ### Vision Too much screen time is linked to problems that range from blurry vision to obesity. Habits picked up at a young age can persist through adulthood, so it’s important to establish good ones now. Make sure to monitor too much time on the screen and gaming. Avoid using mobile phones before bedtime. Ensure your kids engage in active play each day away from devices. Get regular vision screenings when you visit your doctor to prevent problems. ### ADHD [ADHD](https://www.psycom.net/children-adhd-screen-fixation) is another issue that can be a concern with using their phone and mobile phone safety. Children with ADHD are more likely to be distracted by smartphones that, by design, reinforce addictive behaviours. These can make them ignore or avoid important but boring activities like [homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/). If your child has ADHD and struggles with impulse control, they are more likely to post something on social media that they will regret later. They will also find it harder to follow schedules. It’s best to manage impulsivity or you’ll have to be strict with [limiting screen time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/9-ways-to-cut-back-on-family-screen-time/). Good thing many iPhone and many Android models now have parental control apps to keep your child safe. ### Cyber Safety for Kids You should know by now that the Internet and social networks are not the safest places for anyone. This is especially so for younger children who may not be equipped to handle such situations, like cyberbullying and access to age-inappropriate and unsuitable content and chat rooms. To help prevent this, you can restrict access to certain websites and apps using features like age verification on iOS devices or setting up a blocker. You must also talk to your child about mobile phone safety during family time. While passwords and parental controls allow you to monitor the sites and apps your child uses, it’s more important that they fully understand safe online behaviour and the risks of the use of mobile phones. ![child being cyber bullied - Child smartphone safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-12.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Is your child mature enough to own a phone? Maturity level is more important than age when deciding whether to get your child a phone or not. An 11-year-old can be more emotionally and socially mature than a 14-year-old who is impulsive and acts out on social media. Is your child socially aware? Does he/she understand social cues, or do they need more help in this area? You know it’s inappropriate (and annoying for the receiver) to text the same message over and over again when you don’t get a response, but your child might not. Do they follow schedules well and do homework on time despite downloaded video games/distractions? Or do they tend to stay glued to the screen? Are they tech-savvy, or do they need more instruction? ## Child smartphone safety (CONT.) ## Is your child trustworthy enough to own a phone? Trust is another important factor when preparing your child to have a phone. Is your child responsible as a rule, and can they be trusted to take care of belongings, especially a smartphone for kids that costs hundreds (if not thousands) of dollars? Do they lose things often, or are they careful most of the time? If the mobile phone does break or is lost, who is responsible for replacing/paying for it? Even if you’re giving them a basic phone (for calls, text messages, and storing phone numbers), you should still drive home that it is an item of value and responsibility. ## Does your child need a phone or want one? You’ve probably felt left out when, as a child, you couldn’t have a video game or a trendy toy that everyone had. The fear of missing out and peer pressure are some of the top reasons children ask their parents for a phone, even if they themselves don’t really want one or are not ready for one. Aside from child smartphone safety, you should consider whether getting one is a real need or something else. It’s your decision whether to get them a phone based on their maturity level and responsibility, regardless of age and what their friends have. ## Will it help if your child has a phone? For many parents it is really helpful for their child to have phone access. Not only can you keep in real-time contact with them through phone and messages, but you can use the phone tracker so you know where they are at any time. This is especially helpful in the early teenage years when they are developing their social independence and staying out in the evenings. A mobile phone can also be a reassurance if you co-parent and your child spends time at dad’s house. It’s nice to know you can contact them, even if just to wish them goodnight, and they can contact you should something go wrong. ## Conclusion to Child Smartphone Safety So, when it comes to making sure your child’s phone is as safe as possible, there are a few things you can do. First, make sure you have designed by parents’ settings on their devices so they can only access certain apps and websites. You can also set up a safe zone where they can only use their phone in certain areas. Keep an eye on their app usage by checking the activity report and history regularly. Make sure they don’t lie about their age when signing up for apps and games. Set age requirements and make sure they don’t lie. Consider getting a screen protector and a phone with an SOS emergency button for added safety. And most importantly, rely on the person signing up to be across all the small print in the contract. By following these tips, you can greatly reduce the risk of your child falling for a scam online. ![Should I get my child a phone, or not? | Beanstalk Single Mum Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Should-I-get-my-child-a-phone.png "Should I get my child a phone - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-smartphone-safety/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-smartphone-safety/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** home alone, smart phone, phone apps, phone safety, screen time --- ### [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/) **Published:** May 25, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With around 4.5 million Australians using online dating every year, it is fast become the most popular way to meet a new partner. Yet, along-side this super-convenient way to date comes potential dangers. Knowing what they are and how to avoid them is essential to having a fun, positive dating experience. Here are our tried and tested tactics to date safely online. ## 12 TRIED AND TESTED TACTICS TO DATE SAFELY ONLINE ### USE A TRUSTWORTHY DATING APP There are heaps of dating apps available. Most online daters have their favourites, as well as a number of horror stories. Our advice is to use one of the mainstream dating apps because they have the best functionalities and safety settings, as well as more choice. Using a paid app, as opposed to a free one, is generally (but not always) a safer option. [1 in 10 people who use free dating sites are scammers](https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/dangers-of-online-dating), whereas people who pay for an app are usually more genuine in their intentions to find love. ***Further reading: [Online dating apps: Paid vs. free.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/)*** ### BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SHARE Writing a profile for an online dating app can be hard, but it is key to being able to date safely online. You need to get across the right message about who you are and what you are looking for in a potential partner … whilst not sharing too much information about yourself! The best way is to only share low-level information, such as your hobbies, yours likes and dislikes, fun experiences you have had and basic information about your height, religion, smoking/drinking habits etc. Nothing else is needed, especially as it might get into the wrong hands. ### DOUBLE-CHECK YOUR PROFILE PHOTOS Once you have chosen the perfect photos for your profile, look at them again with a critical eye. Is there anything on them that gives away where you live or hang out? Make sure your children are not in the photos, even in the background. And ensure they don’t give-off the wrong impression of who you are as a person. To date safely online it is best not to use the same profile photos as the ones on your Facebook or Instagram account. This is because all it takes is for someone to Google your photo to find out stuff about you that you don’t want them to know … yet. ### GET TO KNOW THEM BEFORE MEETING-UP Whilst there is a danger of getting into a textationship i.e. texting for months without actually meeting-up, it is important to get to know someone a little before arranging the first date. We recommend moving out of the ‘text zone’ and instigating a phone conversation fairly early on and definitely before meeting each other. You can get to know a lot more about a potential date from hearing his/her voice and chatting, as opposed to a million texts. Beware: If they don’t want to meet with you, it could be a case of [catfishing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/catfishing-can-protect/), so do your research and find out more about them. ### DO A LITTLE STALKING The reason it is so important to protect your identity online is because it is very easy to stalk someone. Yet that is exactly what we suggest you do! If you’re chatting to a guy you like and are considering meeting him, do some detective work. First, Google him. You might find him listed on Facebook or LinkedIn. If his name brings up nothing of interest, then include any other information you have about him in your search, such as where he lives or where he works. Note: We do not recommend crazy-style-stalking, just basic due diligence to ensure his story checks-out as a means to date safely online. ### GOOGLE YOURSELF Talking of Google, you should also Google yourself and see what comes-up in the search results. If I Google my name, it brings up lots of my photos and my online business. For this reason, I date online with usernames that cannot link back to me and only ever share my first name. See what comes up if you Google yourself and use that information when you decide what to share on your dating profile or with anyone you are chatting with. ## TRIED AND TESTED TACTICS TO DATE SAFELY ONLINE (CONT.) ### LOOK OUT FOR RED FLAGS TO DATE SAFELY ONLINE If you meet someone online who seems too good to be true, they probably are. We all ‘recreate’ ourselves online to some extent, and this is usually harmless, but not always. Be alert for red flags that suggest things are not what they seem. These include being too keen, asking for money or signs they are already in a relationship. According to [The Bittersweet Life:](http://thebittersweetlife.com/2012/online-dating-dangers-facts-tips/) > *“62% of people lie about their relationship status online, and 11% are already married.”* ### THE FIRST DATE LOCATION RULES However many times you have texted or chatted on the phone, when you go on a first date, you are still meeting a stranger. So. Be. Careful. Ensure you meet in a busy social place, not at his home or yours. Ideally, meet in the day for coffee. A short date in daylight will give you lots of options to abort if things are not going to plan. If things go really well, suggest going for a walk after but again, do not go back to either of your houses. To protect yourself if anything should go awry, download a [personal safety app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/) on your phone so you can get help if needed at any time. Even if sparks are flying, you must protect yourself and your children in these early days. ### BE FIRST DATE SAVVY Always ensure you have back-up for your first date. This can be as easy as letting a friend know where you are going and when you expect to be home. There are lots of personal safety apps available that allow people to check-in on you, some even allow you to raise an alarm by shaking your phone. Or ask a friend to simply track your smart phone to ensure your safety. ### STAY SOBER TO DATE SAFELY ONLINE Not only is it advisable not to involve alcohol on a first date, but it’s best stick to soft drinks when using a dating app. Drinking makes us feel bolder and more daring. You might end up saying, doing or sending some things that in the morning seem inappropriate. Plus, your guard will be down and you might give away information that could put yourself or your children at risk. If you want to date safely online, leave the wine unopened in the fridge. ### BE HONEST It always pays to be honest. In online dating, it also saves a lot of time and anguish. Plus, if you are honest about who you are, you are more likely to receive honesty in return. Dating with truth and transparency is much more enjoyable and a damn site safer. ### REPORT ANYTHING SUSPICIOUS Any dating app worth using will have a ‘report’ button. Don’t be afraid to use it. We are all in this together and if someone is offensive or something doesn’t seem right, report them. You could be saving another person who didn’t see the red flags from a lot of pain and heart-ache. Further reading: [Ensuring children’s safety when using discreet dating apps.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/discreet-dating-apps/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** online dating, dating apps, first date, dating profile, online preditors, profile photos --- ### [Reinvent your style: Fashion to keep on trend in midlife](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/reinventing-your-style/) **Published:** June 27, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Fashion trends come and go. If you have found yourself stuck in a style rut for too many years now, today is the day to reinvent your style. If you want to dress to impress and find a style that works for you in midlife, follow these easy steps. ## The Basics When you start reinventing your style, you need to get back to basics and find staple items that can be worked around. Many women make the mistake of purchasing a few items they like, which don’t necessarily work well together. Start by building a core wardrobe, either with clothes you already own in your current wardrobe or by starting from scratch. Be sure to sell old clothes you haven’t worn or donate to a local charity store before you go shopping for new items. Adding a few versatile [women’s dresses](https://floandfrankie.com.au/collections/dresses) can provide stylish options that work for both casual and formal occasions. If you’re still struggling with picking key pieces, start with a shirt, coat, some plain t-shirts and a few pairs of denim jeans or pants and create a style from there. You’ll want these items to be a reflection of your personality and work well with your body shape and skin tone. Once you have these basic items nailed, you will look and feel good in everything you wear. Having basic items also gives you something to work around when looking at new outfits. Moreover, make sure they’re of good quality – you don’t want to spend your money on clothes that don’t last. When purchasing more clothing, think about what staple items will work well with the item so you can imagine how many outfit choices you can get from your new clothes. If you struggle to put outfits together, [follow this guide for some handy tips](https://www.wikihow.com/Put-Together-Outfits). Or, if you have money to spare, check out a stylist to create a wardrobe for you and get your style game up and running. ![reinvent your style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-8.png "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Balance When it comes to style, it’s important that your new stuff will make you look and feel good. Just because it’s part of the latest trends doesn’t mean it will go with everything. The way to dress on-trend whilst still dressing for your age requires a balance. This doesn’t mean you can’t wear fashion trends; it just means you need to find trendy items and team them with sophisticated clothing. Sneakers are a massive trend at the moment and provide a comfortable alternative to loafers or boots. ## Break Free from Bland Clothing Many midlife mums tend to dress in bland colours such as black and white, which doesn’t do much for their style. Whilst having a few sartorial, block colour pieces can work well, reinventing your style is about breaking free of the mould and finding a trend that works for you. Colourful clothing full of patterns (like leopard print) is on-trend, and with so many different choices out there, you are bound to find some colourful outfit inspiration. Dressing in colours that agree with your hair and skin colour will only accentuate your look and leave you feeling a million bucks. Don’t be afraid to stand out in a crowd. Even though it’s scary at first, colour can take years off your appearance and instantly make any outfit trendier. If you’re stuck wondering which colours suit you best, it’s time to check [Colorwise.me](https://colorwise.me/self-analysis). Just upload a high-resolution photo of you to get a free colour analysis! ## Layers Adding layers to your style recipe is a game-changer without breaking the bank. There’s no better way to add dimension and versatility to your look. Once you’ve nailed the game, you’re going to thank us. Start with a comfy base like a fitted tee or a lightweight blouse, then add a cosy cardigan or a chic blazer for those cooler moments. Scarves are another fab piece: they can instantly elevate a simple outfit and add a pop of colour. Don’t shy away from mixing textures, like pairing a denim jacket with a soft knit sweater. They not only keep you stylish and comfortable through the day’s activities. They also offer the flexibility to adapt to different settings, whether you’re heading to a PTA meeting or grabbing coffee with friends. ## Details It isn’t only about the colours you wear but also the little details in your outfit that can make your look go from middle-aged to stylish. There are small choices you can make that will add a lot of panache to your outfits. You’re looking for bold, sharp lines, such as suit jackets. This may be all that is needed to bring a sense of style to your usual outfits. Instead of going for another pair of skinny jeans, why not choose a pair of tailored trousers? Tailored pants are bang on-trend in fashion, and a pair of pinstripe trousers looks much more fashionable than a pair of standard black jeans. If you enjoy the clothing you wear but want to reinvent your personal style in some way, making simple changes in the details can make a big difference. ![reinvent your style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/IN-ARTICLE-images-15.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Accessorise Well Once you have gotten your outfits in order, it is time to accessorise. If you wear [eyeglasses](https://www.ray-ban.com/usa/eyeglasses/view-all), finding a new pair can make you look younger. Many leading designers and style icons have their own range of eyeglasses, with round-frame eyeglasses being one of the biggest trends this season. Eyeglasses are more than just a necessity, and if you wear them every day, consider purchasing a new pair that accentuates your face shape. Eyeglasses can definitely be trendy, so don’t miss this trick. Don’t forget to find a signature pair of sunglasses too. Accessories can make any outfit more modern, especially with the use of a statement watch or a classy necklace. Be subtle in your accessories. Less is always more. There are plenty of jewellery options out there, such as plain silver chains or tribal rings, which look great on a man of any age. Be bold and adventurous and try something new. There are easy ways to keep on-trend in midlife without looking like you are trying to reclaim your youth, and some fashion items look great no matter what your age. Follow this guide if you are looking to give yourself a fresh take on your style journey. ## Try on Wigs If you haven’t tried wigs before, you’re missing out on one of the [easiest ways to upgrade your looks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/best-hair-wigs-australia/). Wigs are a fun and versatile way to change up your look without committing to a permanent hair change. You can experiment with different and new styles, colours, or lengths you wouldn’t normally have. Plus, they can help protect your natural hair from damage caused by heat styling and colour treatments. Oh, My Pretty has [lots of glueless wigs](https://ohmyprettywig.pxf.io/c/1253070/2055628/22900), which you can try. There are so many types of wigs available, from synthetic to human hair, lace front to full lace, and everything in between. You can choose a wig that mimics your natural hair or go for something completely different to switch things up. With wigs, you can try on different looks as you search for your signature style. But don’t take our word for it: try it out and see for yourself! ## Summary: Reinvent your style Getting a new wardrobe can be such a rewarding experience when you think about reinventing your style. It’s all about embracing change with confidence. From building a versatile capsule wardrobe of essential pieces and balancing trends with sophistication to adding bold colours and playing with accessories, there are countless ways to refresh your style needs. Remember, fashion is a form of self-expression, so have fun with it! Incorporate different types of clothing, experiment with details, and don’t shy away from trying wigs for an instant transformation. With these tips, you’re well on your way to a stylish, confident new you. You’ve got this! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/reinventing-your-style/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/reinventing-your-style/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life **Tags:** style, fashion, clothing --- ### [Finding a babysitter app you can trust in Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/babysitter-app-australia/) **Published:** October 23, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A good babysitter is like gold dust. In fact, finding a good babysitter is like panning for gold. You have to sift through a lot until you find a gem. And doing this has become much easier with the arrival of the babysitter app. Gone are the days when you had to rely solely on your neighbour’s scary gothic daughter because there was no one else to ask. Babysitter apps open up a whole new world, and it’s full of people who want to look after your kids! Suddenly, the odd night out doesn’t seem impossible anymore. Of course, it’s not as simple as a Shein order. Choosing someone to care for your little ones has to be done with the utmost care. Luckily, these apps couldn’t make it easier. In this article, we talk about how an app for babysitters can massively help the selection process. Meaning you find the perfect person to care for your precious little people. In addition, we list the most popular babysitter apps in Australia because finding the right app is the first step to finding the right childcare. ## Why a babysitter app could solve your childcare problems ### Get access to heaps of keen babysitters near you My main issue with finding babysitters in the past was actually finding them! This may sound obvious. But where do you find a decent babysitter? Unless you have an extensive network of friends or are super active in your neighbourhood, the pickings might be slim. And fewer choices means fewer chances of finding your very own Mary Poppins. Apps for babysitters give you instant access to local babysitters within seconds. Yes, a whole group of people keen to care for your kids. Not, as has been the case in the past, your mate’s teen who doesn’t want to do it but has been forced by their mum. This alone is a great reason to use a babysitter app. Further reading: [The pros and cons of hiring a teenage babysitter.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/teenage-babysitters/) ### You can check the sitter verification I’m sure that, like me, one of your primary concerns when hiring a babysitter is ensuring their trustworthiness. These babysitter apps perform Sherlock Holmes-level investigations on babysitters. They check criminal backgrounds, and references, and sometimes even ask for their favourite ice cream flavour. Just kidding, but they go pretty deep! This level of scrutiny can give parents peace of mind, knowing they are entrusting their children to a reputable caregiver. ### Ratings and reviews show honest experiences Babysitter apps often come with a rating and review system. This feature allows parents to read about the experiences of other families who have hired a particular babysitter. These reviews can provide valuable insights into the babysitter’s reliability, professionalism, and childcare skills. It’s like getting the inside scoop on the latest babysitting talent in town. All that at the palm of your hand! ### No direct price negotiations Negotiating babysitting fees is a big no-no for me. I’ve experienced haggling prices with a babysitter. Believe me, it is an uncomfortable experience! Babysitter apps swoop in to save the day with transparent pricing. No more awkward bargaining sessions; you’ll know the cost upfront, so you can budget like a pro. This also ensures that both parties are on the same page regarding compensation. ### Find sitters for whenever you need them Have an impromptu work event, a medical emergency, or an “I-just-need-a-break” moment? These apps have a treasure trove of dependable babysitters ready to swoop in when you need them. It’s like having a babysitter genie in your pocket. Babysitter apps efficiently find sitters who can accommodate your schedule. They ensure your little one is in good hands, even on short notice. Talk about convenience, right?! ### Some have GPS tracking (they really do!) Safety is paramount when it comes to childcare. And even if these babysitter apps are trustworthy, having GPS tracking wouldn’t hurt. Some apps (like our recommendations below) offer this feature for meticulous mums out there. You can watch your child’s babysitter adventure in real-time as it allows you to monitor their whereabouts during the time you’re away. This technology ensures that your child remains in a safe and designated area, offering an additional layer of security and peace of mind. ### In-app communication Communication is key, right? These apps have in-app messaging that lets you talk to your babysitter. Through this feature, you can interview sitter candidates before making a choice. More importantly, you can easily discuss important details, share your child’s favourite bedtime story, or receive updates with a quick check-in. It also allows the babysitter to ask questions in case something comes up. ### Accountability (babysitters work hard for good ratings) Ever wish your job came with a rating system? Well, babysitters have one! The review system in babysitter apps creates a sense of accountability for babysitters. They work hard to get those gold stars, so you can trust that they’re giving the best possible care for your little ones. This kind of approach encourages professionalism and excellence within the caregiving community. ## Babysitter app Australia ## Kiddo [Kiddo](https://kiddoapp.com.au/) is one of my go-to babysitter apps. It stands out for its rating and review system. It is like having a cheat sheet of the best babysitters in town, straight from experienced parents. This app allows you to book last-minute babysitters, hotel babysitters, and even babysitters for weddings! One of the best things about Kiddo is that many of their sitters are also support workers. So if your child has particular needs, simply input them, and the app will work its magic. Their GPS tracking also adds an extra layer of assurance. It would have been better, however, if they had more sitters available in less-populated areas. I’ve used Kiddo a bunch of times, and it’s been smooth sailing every time, making my life as a single mum so much easier. [![Kiddo | babysitter apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Kiddo-1200x790.png "Kiddo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kiddoapp.com.au/) ## Sittr With [Sittr](https://www.sittr.com.au/), not only can you find babysitters, but also regular nannies. All their carers went through a comprehensive screening process. What I love about this babysitting app is that all their sitters have completed Senior First Aid training, including asthma and anaphylaxis management. But wait, there’s more! Sittr created its own insurance (called the Public Liability and Professional Indemnity insurance) that’s more extensive than existing childcare insurance providers. Unlike other babysitter apps, you don’t have to pay membership or placement fees with Sittr, as they charge by the hour. My sister swears by it, too; Sittr introduced her to an amazing nanny who’s practically part of the family now! [![Sittr](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Sittr-1200x478.jpg "Sittr - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.sittr.com.au/) ## Babysitter app Australia (cont.) ## Juggle Street [Juggle Street](https://www.jugglestreet.com.au/) has been around since 2014. So it has established a wide community of families around Australia and New Zealand. Finding a sitter is a breeze with its user-friendly interface. Simply post a job on your account. Your job posting will be visible to a network of reliable carers and they can easily apply with a single tap of a finger. Aside from babysitters, Juggle Street also provides tutoring services. I’ve used it to find sitters from my own community. I love the direct communication; it’s like having a chat with a friendly neighbour. The app’s flexible scheduling is perfect for busy parents like me. I’ve had impromptu playdates, and my kids love meeting sitters who live nearby. It’s like building a little support network right in my neighbourhood. [![Juggle Street](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-5-1200x543.png "image-5 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.jugglestreet.com.au/) ## BabySits [BabySits](https://www.babysits.au/) is where affordability meets convenience. When it comes to babysitter apps it’s perfect for budget-conscious parents like me. I’ve found plenty of reliable sitters at reasonable rates. The straightforward pricing structure is a win – no surprises. I’ve recommended BabySits to a bunch of friends who are all about value for money. It’s become their go-to app for finding great sitters without breaking the bank. With BabySits, you can easily screen potential sitters through their detailed profiles and schedule interviews before booking. It also allows you to download receipts when needed. BabySits truly understands the need for affordable childcare solutions, and it’s been a lifesaver for many of us. [![BabySits | babysitter apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-6-1200x492.png "image-6 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.babysits.au/) ## Final thoughts: Finding a babysitter app you can trust In today’s world, babysitter apps are the modern parent’s best friend. They’ve revolutionised the way we find and trust caregivers for our children. Instead of settling for the neighbour’s gothic teenager out of desperation, these apps open up a world of possibilities. They make the whole childcare adventure smoother, safer, and even a bit more fun! It’s not just about convenience; it’s about trust. The verification processes, transparent pricing, and community-driven feedback on these apps offer a level of reassurance that traditional babysitting methods couldn’t provide. Whether you need a sitter for a sudden dinner invite, an important meeting, or just some well-deserved “me time,” these apps make it possible without compromising on safety or quality. With the right app, you’ll not only find trustworthy caregivers but also gain peace of mind and the freedom to enjoy those precious moments away from home. Finding that childcare gem is easier than ever, thanks to these innovative platforms. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/babysitter-app-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/babysitter-app-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** child care, childcare, home help --- ### [Books to help you help your kids through separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-help-kids-through-separation/) **Published:** July 10, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about books to help you help your kids through separation was last updated in 2022.*** Breaking-up is hard. With children it’s harder still. Alongside a myriad of other questions, you might be wondering - How to talk to them about your separation? - Whether to be brutally honest, or not? - What they might be thinking but haven’t voiced? - Whether to put on a brave face, or bare all? - What you can do to assure them everything will be ok? - Whether certain behaviour is caused by the separation and how to handle it? - How can you make the journey easier for them? The list is endless. If you’re in need of solid, workable support, look no further than these great books to help you help your kids through separation. ### 1. [THE GUIDE FOR SEPARATED PARENTS by Karen and Nick Woodall](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/n1nrRx) Helping kids through separation is a priority for parents. This complete guide, written by the founder of the Centre for Separated Families, provides practical strategies like parenting plans and meetings to resolve conflicts during and after separation. It helps parents remain close after a relationship breakdown for their children’s well-being. [![The Guide for Separated Parents | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/519GfIyVXbL._SX316_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/n1nrRx) ***Recommended for:** Separated parents who want to stay close for their children’s sake.* ### 2. [PARENTING APART by Christina McGhee](https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?linkCode=kpd&ref_=k4w_oembed_0aIX3sye7we6aQ&asin=B0051UPLHQ&tag=beanstalk0f-22&amazonDeviceType=A2CLFWBIMVSE9N&from=Bookcard&preview=inline) Parenting Apart is an essential resource packed with empowering tips for parents to help their kids through separation. Divorce coach Christina McGhee examines important and difficult issues for separated families and offers practical advice to help parents and kids navigate their emotions during this time. She also helps you deal with family law issues and a difficult ex. [![Kids Through Separation | Parenting Apart | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51VcxK6SEtL.jpg)](https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?linkCode=kpd&ref_=k4w_oembed_0aIX3sye7we6aQ&asin=B0051UPLHQ&tag=beanstalk0f-22&amazonDeviceType=A2CLFWBIMVSE9N&from=Bookcard&preview=inline) ***Recommended for:** Separated parents and support professionals.* ### 3. [MAKING DIVORCE EASIER ON YOUR CHILD by Nicholas Long, Ph.D.](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vn2G4A) Many divorce books are big on theory but lack practical advice. This book is an exception. Based on the latest research findings, Dr. Robert Brooks offers quick access to proven strategies that parents can use to help kids through separation. Learn 50 realistic strategies and action steps for every imaginable issue that may arise when a marriage ends. [![Makign Divorce Easier on Your Child | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/0809294192.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/making-divorce-easier-on-your-child-nicholas-long/book/9780809294190.html?irclickid=Rusy512CNxyIW6D2YnW0fUvaUkG2wfQHTVp92Y0&bk_source=1253070&bk_source_id=1253070&irgwc=1&utm_campaign=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=Impact) ***Recommended for:** Parents who want realistic, sensible tips to help their kids thrive through separation.* ### 4. [GOOD PARENTING THROUGH YOUR DIVORCE by Mary Ellen Hannibal](https://www.mightyape.com.au/product/good-parenting-through-your-divorce-the-essential-guidebook-to-helping-your-children-adjust-and-thrive-based-on-the-leading-national-program/2402747?gclid=CjwKCAjwlYCHBhAQEiwA4K21m1TxBL8i4hQ4omu_1KADQUynyi-VDrzu0qGd0eNDbNP6O3PR5RPfShoC018QAvD_BwE) Divorce is life-altering for everyone involved, but it need not be a tragedy for your children. This book is filled with wisdom on topics like responding to your child’s feelings, how divorce affects development, dealing with challenging behaviour, and more. You’ll learn to adopt positive emotional habits to communicate more effectively with your ex and be great co-parents. [![Kids Through Separation | Good Parenting Through Your Divorce | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://d3fa68hw0m2vcc.cloudfront.net/ed7/179104107.jpeg)](https://www.mightyape.com.au/product/good-parenting-through-your-divorce-the-essential-guidebook-to-helping-your-children-adjust-and-thrive-based-on-the-leading-national-program/2402747?gclid=CjwKCAjwlYCHBhAQEiwA4K21m1TxBL8i4hQ4omu_1KADQUynyi-VDrzu0qGd0eNDbNP6O3PR5RPfShoC018QAvD_BwE) ***Recommended for:** Parents who want to be effective communicators and co-parents.* ***Further reading: [Robert Brooks](https://unmask.com/Robert-Brooks/).*** ### 5. [FAMILY BREAKDOWN by Penelope Leach](https://www.amazon.com.au/Family-Breakdown-Helping-children-parents/dp/1783520493) Family Breakdown shows parents that raising happy, resilient kids through separation is possible. The book is a complete guide to minimising the impact of separation and dealing with difficult decisions. Parents will discover the effect of divorce on children of different ages, ways to help them cope, and strategies to deal with financial and legal matters. [![Family Breakdown | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://productimages.worldofbooks.com/1783520493.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/Family-Breakdown-Helping-children-parents/dp/1783520493) ***Recommended for:** Separating parents, their new partners, extended families and support professionals.* ### 6. [LOVING YOUR CHILDREN MORE THAN YOU HATE EACH OTHER by Lauren J. Behrman, Ph.D.](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/YgdEqO) This book is a godsend for parents in the middle of a high-conflict divorce or separation. It is filled with practical tips to help you manage intense and difficult emotions whilst creating a loving home for your kids. You’ll learn skills to break the cycle of negativity, deal effectively with shame and blame, and communicate healthily. [![Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other | Beanstalk Single MUms](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51udGG411LL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/YgdEqO) ***Recommended for:** Parents in a high-conflict separation who want to make their children a priority.* ### 7. [HELPING CHILDREN SURVIVE DIVORCE by Archibald Hart, Ph.D.](https://www.amazon.com.au/Children-Divorce-Archibald-D-Hart/dp/0849939496) This book is essential reading for religious parents who want to help their kids through separation. Written by a clinical psychologist and Christian counsellor, it offers specific ways to ensure your children’s healthy development post-separation. The book deals with spiritual issues surrounding divorce, common mistakes made by divorced parents, and building a blended family. ***Recommended for:** Religious families coming to terms with separation or divorce.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-help-kids-through-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-help-kids-through-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shopping **Tags:** support children, support kids --- ### [Happy Christmas as a co-parent: How to make it work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-co-parent/) **Published:** November 6, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I know firsthand the challenges of planning a “perfect Christmas” when your family dynamic has shifted. Between organising the best Christmas morning and planning handovers with your ex, balancing tradition and flexibility is no small feat. My first Christmas post-separation was tough. I felt the despair of not having my children with me for the full holiday. Yet, I also wanted them to experience a joyful season. But fear not. This guide is here to help make your Christmas as a co-parent smoother. Here’s how I’ve learned to make it possible while keeping the holidays special for my kiddos. ## **Happy Christmas as a co-parent: How to make it work** ## **1. Make plans a long way in advance** Planning for Christmas as a mum is HUGE, but as a single mother, it is like running a military operation. Unless you have a[ parenting plan or orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) with specific instructions about who has the kids and when negotiations may be long-winded. Having to make plans in haste can be stressful. The sooner you broach the conversation with the other parent, the sooner you can reach an agreement on the who’s, where’s, and when’s of the festive period. ## **2. Get the Christmas communication right** Use this time to work on good communication with your ex. Choose the type of communication that works best for you as a former couple, i.e. face-to-face, text or a co-parenting app. Then, stick to it. Be mindful to use non-aggressive communication and gestures to keep everything on-topic and respectful. Keep a record of the plans you have made together. You may need to refer to them if there is confusion later on. It can be an email or text, which you can forward if arrangements are going awry and one parent needs a gentle reminder. ## **3. Be flexible when sharing the holidays** It’s all very well to plan early and be super-duper organised, but this is life, and changes are inevitable. We just don’t know what’s around the corner, so be open and ready to make changes to your plans. Organise your parenting plan or consent orders now if you don’t already have them. Most[ parenting plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) include arrangements for special occasions. A parenting plan or consent order can save the day (and your co-parenting relationship) when you have already dictated your plans, and both parents simply have to follow them. Don’t stress if you don’t want to make arrangements to share Christmas as a co-parent in a certain way for the next ten years. Plans and orders can be changed as situations evolve and your children grow and have different needs at Christmas. NOTE: Family law courts are bursting at the seams pre-Christmas while everyone tries to get their arrangements documented. Do yours early, or muddle through this Christmas and get one prepared in the new year. ## **Christmas as a Co-parent (cont.)** ## **5. Think of new Christmas traditions** If you are sharing Christmas as a co-parent, it will be different now, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be better. Create some new[ Christmas traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-traditions-separated-families/) and routines that will provide comfort and joy through the years. How about a trip to the cinema on Christmas Eve or a walk to see the lights in your neighbourhood? A different treat for Santa or some new decorations that you can put up together? Single mum life is full of new routines that we create to provide security and contentment for our children. Christmas is no exception. ## **6. The kids ALWAYS come first** All the extensive arrangements and precision planning around Christmas are because we want our kids to have the best Christmas EVER. Yet, amid all the tangled tinsel and crazy Christmas planning, it is easy to lose sight of why we want everything to be perfect. For. Our. Kids. We want to make wonderful Christmas memories that they will cherish forever and ultimately pass on to their own children. If you and the other parent find yourself arguing over festive plans, remind yourself (and him) why you’re doing this. Your children’s happiness is the one thing you have in common and is a great middle ground from which to make plans that work in their favour. ![Christmas as a co-parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/B273e106-1f95-46ba-a442-5bb4687d0bb5-1066x800.jpg "B273e106-1f95-46ba-a442-5bb4687d0bb5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Get everyone on the same page** Holidays for separated families are a bit complicated. Not only do both parents want to celebrate with the kids, but there are grandparents and extended family to consider … not to mention if either of you has re-partnered and there is a whole other family that needs to slot into the plans somewhere. You are not alone if you feel completely overwhelmed. But please remember: Everything is doable. Once you’ve made plans, make sure everyone knows what they are. Most importantly, share them in an age-appropriate way with your kids. Letting your children know the plans will help them feel secure in the knowledge that Christmas is under control and they can look forward to it without anxiety or worry. ## **8. Plan the Christmas gifts (Decide who gets to be Santa)** And then there’s the presents … If your co-parenting relationship allows, talk to the other parent before buying anything. Ideally, pull together and go halves on the larger gifts, so you both save money while the kids get what they want. They’ll also be delighted that it’s from both of you. If your relationship is on the rocks and talking about presents might send it over the edge, just send your ex a quick email so he knows what you’re getting for the kids. This way you won’t both buy the same thing. ## **How to have a happy Christmas as a co-parent (cont.)** ## **9. Limit your alcohol intake (or have none at all)** Christmas Day is a great excuse for a Champagne breakfast or to crack a beer before midday. But PLEASE be careful. Especially if you are not a seasoned drinker. Too much[ alcohol on Christmas Day](https://www.mydr.com.au/nutrition-weight/alcohol-and-christmas-tips) can make you momentarily merry but lead to feelings of anger, tiredness, irritability and anxiety. It can also make you over-emotional or argumentative … which you seriously don’t need when you are trying so hard to keep the peace with your ex. Plus, your kids won’t enjoy seeing their mummy drunk, so limit the drink and stay on form for them. Note: If the other parent is a big drinker, try and arrange Christmas so neither you nor the kids are around him while he is intoxicated because this is prime time for heightened emotions and arguments. ## **10. Prepare for emotions and be kind to yourself** For many separated families, Christmas can bring up a mix of emotions. It is mentally, emotionally, and[ financially challenging.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/) It’s understandably normal to feel moments of sorrow, anger, or even resentment, but it’s also a time to be gentle with yourself. Being a single parent during this season is tough, and giving yourself a break, both mentally and emotionally, can make a world of difference. Remember, no family is perfect, and yours doesn’t have to be to feel the joy of the season. If you will be spending all or part of[ Christmas Day alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alone-christmas-day/), make plans and keep busy. And know that it will get easier as the years go by. **Further reading: *[Alone on Christmas Day: Tips to make it memorable ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/alone-christmas-day/)*** ## **11. Goodwill to all (even your ex!)** Use this time to reach out to the other parent and mend some of those burnt bridges (if you’re ready). Perhaps you can invite him for breakfast or even buy him a small gift. Check out this article for ideas:[ 12 Hilarious Christmas gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/). The reality is that mum and dad getting on (even for one day) is the very best present you can give to your kids. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/6df6fab0-16b2-42fd-bcbb-13f2d8224d20-1066x800.jpg "6df6fab0-16b2-42fd-bcbb-13f2d8224d20 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **12. Enjoy the day and have fun** Yes, Christmas without the kids won’t be as memorable, but it doesn’t hurt to let your hair down and enjoy yourself too. Be sure to allow time for “me time” even if it is lying comatose on the couch watching The Wiggles Christmas Special. ## **Final words: Shared parenting on Christmas** The first Christmas after my divorce, I felt a heavy heart knowing that I’d only have half the day with my children. While I was determined to make it enjoyable for them, I couldn’t shake the sadness that Christmas would look different from now on. My ex-husband and I had arranged to split the day, and though it was awkward at first, we both realised that seeing our children happy was worth the effort. Over time, I learned that creating our own little customs, like having a special breakfast before the handover, brought new joy to our holiday. I started to understand that Christmas could be magical, even if it didn’t look like it used to. In the end, we realised that as co-parents, working together during the festive season was one of the biggest gifts we could give our children. Wishing all the single mums out there the best Christmas EVER. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-co-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-co-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, coparenting, Xmas --- ### [3 Suggestions to make mum life less complicated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/3-effortless-hacks-to-make-mum-life-less-complicated/) **Published:** March 16, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a mum is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but it can also be one of the most exhausting! Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way to make mum life less complicated? Juggling work, kids, finances and household responsibilities can feel overwhelming. It leaves little to no time for self-care and relaxation; without this balance, your mental and physical health can suffer. Fortunately, there are simple ways mum life more manageable. In this article, we explore some of the best effortless hacks for mums and provide practical advice to make life simpler and more enjoyable. ## Get quality alone time Dedicating some time of the day to relaxation and decompressing is essential. Find a hobby that will be your escape from reality for a short period. Hit the brakes and think about what would inspire you to become a better person. Besides having a rewarding job and a career that pushes you forward, your passion makes you feel alive. For example, going to the gym is an excellent source of motivation, and running on a treadmill or heavy bag training will give you more energy for your everyday activities. Taking some time off is not only advice; it is necessary for every mother. It doesn’t mean you’re selfish or don’t love your kids. Instead, it is a responsible decision based on the lifestyle that can be truly overwhelming. ## Utilise technology to make mum life less complicated Nowadays, numerous gadgets and applications are easy to use, install, and, most importantly, they make your life easier. With the aid of these devices, you can organise your life more effectively. From parenting apps and apps that help you find the closest playground, to apps that help you [find new mum friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/) with whom you can share experiences, exchange tips and tricks, and turn to them for advice on every topic you can think of. Making friends is only a click away. Also, if you are too busy, of course, there are apps that serve as reminders. Whether it is your anniversary, a swimming lesson, or a soccer practice, they’ve got you covered. It is not a weakness to rely on technology! ## Consider a career change A career change can provide more flexibility regarding working hours and location, allowing mums to balance their work and family responsibilities more effectively. For example, a career that allows for remote work or flexible hours can enable mums to work from home or adjust their work schedule around their children’s school schedules and activities. Secondly, a career change can provide mums greater job satisfaction and fulfilment, leading to a more positive outlook on life and reduced stress levels. By pursuing a career that aligns with their passions and interests, mums can feel more fulfilled and motivated in their work, leading to a better overall quality of life. ## Conclusion: Suggestions to make mum life less complicated By prioritising self-care, organisation, and communication, mums can reduce stress levels and improve their overall quality of life. This, in turn, will help them better manage their work and family responsibilities. The trick is to be open to new ideas and strategies which pave the way to a perfect balance that works for them and their families. In conclusion, making life as a mum easier is about finding what works best for you and your family. Whether implementing small daily hacks or making more significant changes, the most important thing is to prioritise your well-being to allow you to enjoy this wonderful and rewarding role to the fullest. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/3-effortless-hacks-to-make-mum-life-less-complicated/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/3-effortless-hacks-to-make-mum-life-less-complicated/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking --- ### [Being A Young Single Mum: How to Thrive, Not just Survive!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-young-single-mum/) **Published:** March 6, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being a young single mum is a journey filled with fierce love, serious resilience, and, let’s be real, a *lot* of frantic late-night googling. For many women, this means figuring out how to navigate solo parent life while juggling work, finances, and raising tiny humans completely on your own. Whether you are newly single, have been navigating this path for a while, or are currently preparing for single parenthood, you deserve a massive cheer squad and some practical, no-nonsense advice. While there are very real challenges that come with this territory, there are also incredible opportunities for personal growth, independence, and an unbreakable connection with your children. With the right mindset, a solid support network, and a few clever strategies, being a young single mum and truly thriving is absolutely possible. ### Quick Takeaways: The Bottom Line on Thriving as a Solo Mama **Prioritise Your Peace:** Micro-moments of self-care are essential, not selfish. You cannot pour from an empty cup. **Feel the Feelings:** The emotional rollercoaster is completely normal. Validate your feelings and give yourself grace as you find your footing. **Build Your Village:** Combat loneliness by actively seeking out local playgroups, online forums, and other single-parent communities. **Take Financial Control:** Stabilise your life by creating a realistic single-income budget and claiming all available government support. **Ditch the Guilt:** Motherhood isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up. Celebrate your daily wins and ignore outdated societal judgments. ## How do I manage the emotional rollercoaster of being a young single mum? You manage the emotional rollercoaster by validating your feelings, prioritising basic self-care, and giving yourself permission to intentionally rediscover your identity outside of your past relationship. I’ll be honest: when I first became a single mother, I felt like I was nowhere near prepared. One moment, I was highly motivated and ready to take on the world, and the next, I was drowning in frustration, exhaustion, and self-doubt. Solo parenting is a wild emotional ride, and you will feel everything from paralysing fear to soaring hopefulness. To keep your head above water, try to focus on these emotional anchors: - **Acknowledge the overwhelm:** It is perfectly okay to feel like it’s too much. Naming the feeling removes its power. - **Forgive your mistakes:** You are learning on the job. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a best friend. - **Embrace the identity shift:** You are adjusting to parenting alone while rediscovering who you are outside of a partnership. Give yourself permission to grow into this new, empowered version of yourself. ## What is the best way to cope with loneliness as a single parent? The best way to cope with loneliness is to actively build a support network by joining local playgroups, participating in online single-parent forums, and connecting with other solo mothers who truly understand your daily reality. Yes, it can feel incredibly lonely at times, especially when everyone else seems to have a partner to lean on or pass the baton to at 6 PM. I clearly remember sitting in my 20s, watching my baby sleep, and feeling like I’d never get my social life back. Seeking out single mum support can completely transform your experience of parenting alone. Here is how you can start building your village: - **Look locally:** Many Australian communities offer local playgroups or library sessions specifically designed for single parents. - **Go digital:** Online forums and Facebook groups are lifelines at 2 AM when you just need to talk to someone who “gets it.” - **Share the load:** Swap resources, babysitting time, and advice with other single mums. You are not alone. There are so many others in the exact same boat, ready to validate and support you. ## How do I handle the financial challenges of being a young single mum? You handle financial challenges by creating a realistic single-income budget, exploring flexible work options, and claiming all government financial support available to single parents. One of the scariest parts of becoming a solo mama is suddenly having to handle the household finances alone. I couldn’t have predicted how financially overwhelming it would be at first. Raising children isn’t cheap, and the weight of providing full-time care while paying all the bills can quickly sink your confidence. But here’s the truth: you are far more resourceful than you think. Small, intentional adjustments can make all the difference. To build your financial independence, focus on these steps: 1. **Track everything:** Understand exactly what is coming in and going out. 2. **Negotiate expenses:** Don’t be afraid to call utility companies and ask for hardship programs or better rates. 3. **Explore flexible work:** Look into remote work or gig-economy roles that fit around your parenting schedule. 4. **Claim your entitlements:** Ensure you are receiving the correct government assistance. If you want to better understand the financial help available to you, read our comprehensive guide on how to survive financially as a single mum over at Beanstalk Mums, and always check your official eligibility for the Parenting Payment directly through the [Services Australia website](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/parenting-payment). ## The Guilt of Being a Young Single Mum (And How to Let It Go) Mum guilt is a universal experience, but single mothers often feel it ten times over. You might regret past decisions, worry endlessly about your child’s emotional state, or feel terrible when you physically can’t be in two places at once. Here is what I’ve learned: motherhood isn’t about being perfect. It is simply about showing up. To release that heavy guilt: - **Drop the unrealistic expectations:** You are one person doing the job of two. You cannot do it all, and that is okay. - **Stop the self-blame:** Avoid doubting your choices. You are making the best decisions you can with the resources you have. - **Celebrate the tiny wins:** Did everyone eat something remotely nutritious today? Did everyone survive? That’s a massive win. ![young single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Cb061fee-a350-420e-b9bc-e676feab2814-1-e1772753220700-608x800.jpg "Being a Young Single Mum: Strength, Support & Growth - Beanstalk Mums") ### Dealing with Judgement: Why Their Opinions Don’t Matter People will always have opinions. *“I’m sure you’d be happier if you found a boyfriend.”* *“A child really needs both parents in the house.”* I’ve heard it all, and at one point early on, it actually embarrassed me. But here’s what is actually important: it doesn’t matter what they think. Single mum challenges often include navigating these outdated, frustrating stereotypes. Families come in many beautiful shapes and forms, and children thrive in loving, stable environments—not just traditional ones. Only you know what’s best for your kids. Focus on what works for your unique family unit, and stop wasting your precious energy trying to fit into anyone else’s expectations. ### The Art of Making Time for Yourself Between school drop-offs, work, and trying to keep the house from looking like a disaster zone, it’s remarkably easy to forget yourself. But if you don’t make time for your own well-being, you will burn out. Coping as a young single mum means recognising that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s an essential survival tool. When you recharge, you show up as a calmer, more present parent. Try these micro-moments of self-care: - Read a single chapter of a book while they eat breakfast. - Do a 10-minute stretch or yoga video on YouTube. - Enjoy your favourite trashy TV show once the kids are finally asleep without feeling guilty about the laundry. ### The Importance of One-on-One Time With Your Child Life as a single parent is notoriously busy, but kids deeply need one-on-one time with their mother to feel anchored. I remember a phase when my kids’ behaviour completely changed for the worse, and I suddenly realised they were just craving my undivided attention. Thriving while raising children alone often comes down to simple, quiet moments of connection. You don’t need elaborate, expensive activities. - A 15-minute board game after dinner. - Letting them help you cook (even if it makes a mess). - A solid, distraction-free chat sitting on the edge of their bed at night. Your presence and attention are what matter most. ### Learning to Forgive and Move Forward Single motherhood often comes bundled with anger—whether that stems from a messy divorce, an absent co-parent, or just personal disappointment that your life didn’t turn out the way you planned. But holding tightly onto anger only harms *you*. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, and it certainly doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior. It means freeing yourself from the heavy anchor of negativity. When I finally let go of my resentment, my whole mindset shifted. My parenting improved, and I felt in control of my own happiness again. Focus your energy on what you *can* control: your mindset, your home environment, and the fierce love you give your children. ### Navigating Dating as a Young Single Mum Being a young single mum in the dating scene is undeniably tricky. When do you introduce a new partner? How do you balance it all with your parenting schedule? It’s completely okay to take your time. If you do decide to start dating, be fiercely protective of who you bring into your child’s life. Kids are highly observant, and they need stability above all else. Many young single mothers find it incredibly helpful to rebuild their own confidence and independence *before* trying to merge their life with a new partner. There is absolutely no timeline for dating again—do what feels right for your heart and your family. ### Final Thoughts: You’re Doing Better Than You Think Single motherhood changed my life, but it also paved the way for a bright, beautiful future I never could have expected. When you consciously shift your focus from simply surviving the day to intentionally creating a fulfilling future, everything changes. If you ever feel like you’re not enough, look at your child. They love you exactly as you are. Being a young single mum operates on a whole other level of difficulty, but you are doing an amazing job. It builds resilience, independence, and an unbreakable, powerful bond with your kids. Keep going, stay hopeful, and remember that you are never alone in this beautiful, messy journey! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Dear-young-single-mum.png "Dear young single mum - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-young-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-young-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** stigma, young mum, teenage mum --- ### [Single Mum Guilt: Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) **Published:** March 6, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As “pre-parents,” we all have such grand visions. We know *exactly* the type of mother we’ll be. A perfect one, of course! It’s not until we actually become a parent that the shine comes off our carefully laid plans. We discover that “perfect parenting” is a cruel trick of the media. In reality, “good enough” parenting that produces happy, balanced children is exactly what they need. Yet, so many of us are drowning in single mum guilt. We continually question our child-related choices. The food we prepare. Our level of discipline. Our style of communication. Hell, I wasted 10 minutes yesterday feeling incredibly guilty for letting my kids stay up late on a school night (MasterChef was on, I’m only human). If you constantly feel like you’re screwing up your child-raising role, it’s time to think again. It’s the little, seemingly mundane things that actually make you a brilliant parent. Read my list of what makes a good parent, and you might just realise you rank pretty high on the super-mummy scoreboard. And remember this golden rule: the very fact that you worry about being a good parent means you already are one. ## Quick Takeaways: The Bottom Line on Single Mum Guilt - **Worry equals care:** If you are feeling single mum guilt, it proves you deeply care about your child’s well-being. - **Perfection is a myth:** “Good enough” parenting is all your children actually need to thrive. - **Comparison is the thief of joy:** Your family is unique; parenting to *their* specific needs is the ultimate sign of success. - **Presence over perfection:** Showing up, listening, and sharing the last piece of chocolate matters far more than a spotless house. ## How do I stop comparing myself to other parents? First on the list of signs that you’re doing a fantastic job is that you actively try not to compare yourself to others. Instead of looking sideways, you focus on your own unique, wonderful children and the specific situation you are currently navigating. By doing this, you are parenting directly to *their* needs, not competing with other parents whose children require completely different things. Ditching the comparison trap will save you a massive amount of wasted time and emotional energy. ## What does it mean to be a truly “present” mother? Being present doesn’t mean scheduling endless activities; it means giving your children your undivided attention during the small, everyday moments. Here are the hallmarks of a present, engaged mum: - **You watch all their shows:** Whether it’s a living room dance routine or a magic act your child has performed a million times before, you sit down and watch it. With the patience of a saint, you smile, clap, and congratulate them—even if you feel like banging your head against the wall with the monotony of it all. - **You actively listen:** You listen to your kids when they talk to you. And I don’t mean half-listening while typing an email. If your little one has something important to say, you stop and give them the respect of eye contact. Feeling heard is one of the most treasured gifts you can give your kids. - **You enjoy life with them:** From toddler tea parties to weekend dress-up sessions, you make sure to actually *enjoy* life with your kids. No matter how busy you are, you squeeze in time for a picnic or a board game. - **You cheer on their interests:** You might hate soccer (because your ex loves it), but your kid is a fan. So, you watch every single game, cheer from the top of your lungs, and even learn the rules. That is putting your children’s needs before your own. - **You do the handstands:** You always take time to have silly fun with them. My daughter used to be obsessed with handstands, and I’d often find myself upside down against a wall, balancing, while I had hundreds of chores to do. It’s a simple gesture to show you have time for them. ## Why do I feel like I’m failing when the house is a mess? It is so easy for single mum guilt to flare up when you look around a messy house. Yet getting your kids fed, dressed, and out the door with love is the true measure of a successful morning. So what if the dishes aren’t done, the toys are all over the floor, or you haven’t brushed your teeth yet? What is genuinely important is that you got your kids out the door, fed, and (reasonably) clean. Don’t ever think that you’re failing as a parent just because the household chores slipped. If you get your kids to school on time and feeling safe, you are doing great! ![Single Mum Guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/New-ig-size-3-600x800.jpg "Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job - Beanstalk Mums") ## The “Unsung Hero” Signs of Great Parenting Single mum guilt often makes us overlook the gritty, unglamorous things we do every single day out of pure love. Give yourself a high-five if you do any of these: 1. **Handle the gross stuff:** You are immune to your little one’s excretions. I mean, how can you throw away a perfectly good cookie just because it’s covered in toddler saliva, right? 2. **Teach good values:** You prioritise teaching them to share, say “please” and “thank you,” and be respectful to their classmates and teachers. 3. **You are fiercely protective:** You might be a soft-spoken lady normally, but you turn into “mum-zilla” the second you need to fend off danger. You are their knight in shining armour (possibly in a dress). 4. **Proud of their effort:** You don’t pressure them to be at the top of the class. Whether they get an A or a C, you are immensely proud as long as they did their best. 5. **Tolerate the repeats:** You’ve watched *Frozen* 2,468 times and still shout ‘yay’ when it starts again. You put their 100th viewing before your Netflix series. 6. **Endure their music:** You patiently let Olivia Rodrigo blast out of the car speakers every time you drive to the supermarket, even if it drives you around the bend. (Pro tip: just learn the words and turn it into carpool karaoke!). ## How does emotional empathy make me a better parent? As a single mum, you develop a profound emotional connection with your child, often acting as their sole emotional landing pad. This deep empathy is a massive indicator of your parenting success. - **You share your sanctuary:** You would gladly split your very last piece of sanity-saving chocolate just to see them smile after a tough day. - **You feel their pain:** You feel their highs and lows multiplied tenfold. Even the tiniest bruise on your little one feels like a stab to your heart. If your tween gets “heartbroken,” you cry at rom-coms with them while eating ice cream. - **You cry at the school plays:** You shed tears of joy because you witnessed firsthand how hard they practised. - **You get nervous for them:** Days before their big test or performance, you feel the butterflies in your own stomach because you are so invested in their success. - **You cuddle too hard:** Sometimes, between the chaos of cooking and maths homework, you just want to squeeze them like they’re still a toddler. - **You have a sixth sense:** It takes just one split-second glance at their slumped shoulders after school, and you instantly know how they feel. ## Ditching Single Mum Guilt: You Don’t Need to Be Superwoman Who has time for that? Between the school drop-offs and surprise science projects (that they swear they told you about last week), trying to be a flawless superwoman is completely overrated. Some days, your biggest achievement is not burning dinner or simply remembering there’s a special event at school. And that is perfectly okay. We don’t have to be perfect; we just have to be there, cape or no cape. Besides, who else is going to laugh at their corny jokes or make sure the boogeyman isn’t hiding under the bed? No superpowers are needed, just a whole lot of love and a splash of caffeine! If you are struggling to balance it all and the guilt is becoming overwhelming, you are not alone. Check out this excellent, practical guide on how to stop feeling guilty as a single mum on Beanstalk Mums for more actionable advice. ## My Final Thoughts on Single Mum Guilt Being a good parent is not about throwing the wildest birthday bashes, snagging the most expensive toys, or ensuring report cards are flawless. Good parenting is all about rock-solid love, a whole bunch of patience, and simply showing up. It’s being there with a tub of ice cream after a bad day, or giving a knowing nod that says, “Been there, kiddo.” A great parent knows they’re not perfect and isn’t afraid to admit, “Yep, I messed that one up.” Most importantly, you are their safe zone—a landing pad for all of life’s ups and downs. For more insights into the psychological impact of parental guilt and how to reframe it, [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/guilt) offers fantastic resources. Remember, you *are* a good parent. Please don’t let single mum guilt—or anyone else—tell you otherwise. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** good parent, positive parenting, being a mum, inspiration for parenting --- ### [2026 Australian Federal Budget for Single Parents: What You Need to Know Now](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/2026-australian-federal-budget-for-single-parents/) **Published:** June 8, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Quick Takeaways on the 2026 Australian Federal Budget for Single Parents: - **Energy Bill Relief:** Every household gets two $75 rebates ($150 total) automatically applied to electricity bills by the end of 2025. - **Fuel Excise Drop:** Petrol prices are getting a cut! The fuel excise will drop by 32 cents per litre for three months starting April 1, 2026. - **Childcare “3 Day Guarantee”:** The strict activity test has been abolished! As of Jan 5, 2026, eligible families get 72 hours of subsidised care per fortnight, regardless of work or study hours. - **Tax Cuts:** From 1 July 2026, the tax rate for the $18,201–$45,000 bracket drops from 16% to 15% (and will drop again to 14% in 2027). A new $250 Working Australians Tax Offset (WATO) will also be introduced in 2027. - **No-Receipt Deduction:** A new $1,000 automatic tax deduction replaces the need for keeping physical receipts for many low-to middle-income earners. - **Child Support Crackdown:** A massive $182.6 million system overhaul will crack down on unpaid child support with forced employer withholding and stricter enforcement. - **Medicine & Health Caps:** PBS co-payments are capped at $25 per script from January 2026, and concessional scripts are strictly frozen at $7.70 until 2030. Plus, 137 free Medicare Urgent Care Clinics have been permanently secured. - **PPL & Super:** Paid Parental Leave is expanding to a full 26 weeks. Superannuation (at 12%) will also now be paid on Government PPL for babies born after 1 July 2025. ## What the heck is a federal budget anyway? I don’t know about you, but “Budget Night” usually involves me squinting at a TV screen while trying to finish an old pile of laundry, wondering if any of those billions of dollars will actually make it to my bank account. It’s a lot of suits in Canberra talking about “fiscal trajectories” when all we really want to know is if we can afford the “fancy” cheese this week. Navigating the 2026 Australian Federal Budget for single parents feels like a high-stakes game of Tetris. We are already the masters of stretching a dollar until it screams, but with the cost of living still biting, any extra breathing room is a win. I’ve gone through the boring papers so you don’t have to—here is the breakdown of what is actually landing in your purse. ## How does the 2026 Federal Budget affect single mothers in Australia? **The [2026 Federal Budget provides significant cost-of-living relief and structural reforms for single parents](https://nsw.childcarealliance.org.au/news-current/federal-budget-2026-early-childhood-education-care-related "2026 Federal Budget provides significant cost-of-living relief and structural reforms for single parents"). Key measures include a $150 energy bill rebate, a tax rate reduction to 15% (dropping to 14% in 2027), a 32-cent per litre fuel excise cut for three months, the abolishment of the childcare activity test for a “3 Day Guarantee,” frozen $7.70 concessional medicines, and a major $182.6 million crackdown on unpaid child support to prevent financial abuse.** For most of us, the biggest impact is the immediate “cash in hand” feel of the energy rebates and the fuel excise cut. While it’s not a permanent fix, having $150 shaved off your power bills and saving 32 cents a litre at the petrol pump for three months (starting April 1) means one less “final notice” heart attack and cheaper school drop-offs. The childcare win is HUGE. Starting Jan 5 this year, this budget measure means the strict activity test is officially gone. You now get a “3 Day Guarantee” of 72 hours of subsidised care per fortnight, regardless of your work or study hours. You can finally attend interviews or just catch a breath without massive out-of-pocket fees. If you are working part-time, the shift in tax brackets also means you keep more of every dollar you earn, which is vital when you’re the sole provider. ![2026 australian federal budget for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/2026-australian-federal-budget-1-1.jpg "2026 australian federal budget 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## What does the 2026 budget mean for child support and financial abuse? Another major victory is the $182.6 million child support crackdown rolling out over the next four years. For too long, non-payment has been used as a tool for post-separation financial abuse and domestic violence. But the government is finally shifting from a passive system to a highly proactive one. Here is exactly how they are stepping in: - **Protections for “Private Collect”:** The government is putting $78.6 million into regulating “Private Collect” arrangements. If an ex-partner is using this setup for financial abuse or persistent non-payment, Services Australia now has the authority to step in and rapidly switch the arrangement back to state-enforced agency collection. - **Forced Employer Withholding:** They are deploying $39.6 million to dramatically expand mandatory employer withholding. This means they will bypass a non-compliant ex-partner entirely by taking the child support directly out of their paycheque, acting with the same severity as a tax debt. Not something you have to chase like another exhausting repayment plan or confusing withholding tax rate issue. - **Welfare Debt Waivers:** This is a massive win. From December 2025, Services Australia will have the power to waive social security debts if they were incurred as a direct result of family, domestic, and sexual violence (FDSV) or financial coercion (like an ex forcing you to misreport your income). - **Safer Digital Systems:** Funding is being used to build strict “safety-by-design” features into all Australian Government digital systems, like MyGov, to ensure an abusive ex cannot use these platforms to track, control, or defraud you. ## What are the energy bill rebates and tax cuts for 2026? **Every Australian household will receive two $75 energy rebates by the end of 2025. Additionally, a new $1,000 automatic tax deduction has been introduced for low and middle-income workers, removing the need for physical receipts. Tax rates are dropping, and a $250 Working Australians Tax Offset will launch in 2027.** The energy relief is a continuation of the relief we saw previously, just broken down into two $75 chunks to keep the lights on during the peak seasons. It’s not exactly a stress-free holiday fund, but it’s a tank of petrol or a week’s worth of school snacks. The most “mum-friendly” change has to be the $1,000 automatic tax deduction. If you’ve ever lost a shoebox full of receipts or forgotten to claim your work boots (which used to be capped much lower), this is for you. It simplifies the tax return process for anyone earning low to middle incomes, meaning you get your refund faster without the “mental load” of an audit. And it gets better: from 2027, the new Working Australians Tax Offset (WATO) will give you a permanent $250 tax offset, boosting the effective tax-free threshold. ## Reclaiming the “Mental Load” of the budget Budgeting as a single mum isn’t just about the numbers; it’s about the peace of mind. When we know exactly when the Single Mum Guilt starts to creep in because we can’t afford the “extras,” having a structured plan for these rebates can help. Try to “ladder” your bills so they hit when these credits appear on your account. It’s not about “looking on the bright side”—it’s about survival strategy. **Your Quick Action Checklist:** - Check your Services Australia account to ensure your income estimate is up to date. (And rest easy knowing those new safety-by-design features will better protect your data!) - The energy rebates are usually automatic—no need to spend three hours on hold to Centrelink! - Look out for cheaper scripts at the chemist as the $25 cap kicks in, and if you have a Commonwealth concession card, your scripts are strictly frozen at $7.70 until 2030! - Scope out your nearest Medicare Urgent Care Clinic for free, fully bulk-billed emergency pediatric and non-critical care to save you from gap fees and long hospital waits. - Review the latest [single parenting payment rates for 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-new-centrelink-updates/ "single parenting payment rates for 2026") so you know what support should be landing in your account. ### FAQ: When do the tax cuts start? The first round of tax cuts (dropping from 16% to 15% for the lowest bracket) officially begins on July 1, 2026, and steps down again to 14% on July 1, 2027. You’ll see this reflected in your take-home pay shortly after that date. ![2026 australian federal budget for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/2026-australian-federal-budget-1-2.jpg "2026 australian federal budget 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Want to chat about how you’re stretching your budget? Come join us in our private Facebook community, the SingleMum Vine. It’s a safe space to vent, share tips, and realise you’re definitely not doing this alone! Want to chat about how you’re stretching your budget? Come join us in our private Facebook community, the [SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/). It’s a safe space to vent, share tips, and realise you’re definitely not doing this alone! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/2026-australian-federal-budget-for-single-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/2026-australian-federal-budget-for-single-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** budget, money --- ### [Life After Divorce: 10 Tips to Help You Heal and Start Fresh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** So, you’ve gone through a divorce. Welcome to the club no one really wants to join. But once you’re here, you might as well make the most of it, right? I’m here to show you there’s life after divorce. Being a single mum, especially after a marriage ends, can feel like you’ve been thrown into a riptide without a surfboard. But trust me, you’ll find your way back to shore. You might even discover that the water’s pretty nice once you get your bearings. Let’s explore strategies you can take to heal, find your footing, move on with your life, and start anew. Here are some steps you can take to deal with painful emotions of this difficult experience and come out a new and better you. ## 10 Tips to Start Life After Divorce ### Understand Your Emotions Some days, it feels more like a haunted house with surprise jump scares, right? One moment, you’re feeling a wave of relief, ready to conquer the world on your own. Then, out of nowhere, you find yourself tearing up over an old photo or that strange coffee mug he insisted on keeping — why on earth did I ever agree to that? One day, I found myself crying in the supermarket aisle because I saw his favourite cereal. It wasn’t even a particularly good cereal. To be honest, it tasted like cardboard. But there I was, holding the box like it was a lost treasure, filled with resentment. A lovely older lady walked by, saw my tears, and kindly said, “Darling, that’s not worth crying over,” which snapped me out of it. We had a laugh together, and it reminded me how unpredictable emotions can be after a divorce. These emotional ups and downs are completely normal. You’re likely to go through the stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance — though not necessarily in that neat, predictable order. It’s more like trying to fold a fitted sheet: you twist and turn, thinking you’ve got it sorted, only to realise it’s still a jumbled mess. But eventually, with patience (and maybe a bit of help), it starts to make sense. The key is allowing yourself to feel the emotions without judging them. Give yourself time to heal. Cry when you need to… seriously, let it all out! It’s cathartic. Laugh when you can, even if it’s over something silly. Like, your life is so much better without that awful cereal in your cupboard. ### Establish a Support System Your emotional support system is like that Kit Kat you hide in the secret pocket of your favourite shoulder bag. These are the people who lift you up when you’re down, who remind you of your strength when you’re doubting yourself, and who make you laugh when all you want to do is grieve for the end of your marriage. It’s your best friend who knows exactly when to show up with a bottle of wine. It’s your mum who always has the right advice (or at least a warm hug). Or it’s even that lovely neighbour who never runs out of encouraging words (and warm biscuits). These are the people who will help you cope and get through your thoughts and feelings. There’s nothing wrong about asking for help with emotional issues. Sometimes, all it takes is hearing a heartfelt “me too” from someone who truly understands what you’re going through to make you feel a little less isolated. But here’s the thing: don’t be afraid to reach out for a little extra counsel and professional help. Therapists, support groups, and online communities are like adding extra layers to your favourite chocolate bar. They take something good and make it even better. Seeking professional support and legal advice can be invaluable in helping you navigate the murky waters of post-divorce life. ![life after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/in-article-image-5-1.png "in article image (5) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Focus on Self-Care As a mum, you may find it difficult to look after yourself. But you’ve been through the wringer, so now it’s time to pamper yourself. Self-care isn’t just about indulging in bubble baths and chocolate (though, let’s be honest, those are non-negotiables). It’s about taking care of yourself in every way. Don’t underestimate eating well, getting enough sleep, and moving your body, even if it’s just a quick stroll around the block. [Exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-tips-single-mums/) releases endorphins, which are basically nature’s way of giving you a high-five. Aside from care of your physical health, your mental and emotional well-being are equally important. That could mean treating yourself to an expensive hair treatment, getting [dental veneers](https://www.drplaton.com.au/service-veneers-wetherill-park/ "dental veneers") to improve your smile, or upgrading your wardrobe. Don’t forget about the power of mindfulness and meditation, either. Don’t forget about the power of mindfulness and meditation. Even just five minutes of deep breathing can completely turn your day around and release negative emotions. Self-care will help you create a better you and bounce back. ### Rediscover Your Identity Remember those things you loved before marriage, kids, and divorce turned your world upside down? Yeah, they’re still there, waiting for you like a long-lost friend. Try reconnecting with things you used to love or taking up a new hobby. Always wanted to learn to paint? Grab a canvas and sign up for that class. Miss getting lost in a good book? Dust off those novels that have been gathering dust on the shelf. I remember when I finally picked up my old guitar after years of it sitting in the corner like a neglected houseplant. At first, I was all thumbs. But as I started strumming, it felt like reconnecting with an old friend who had way more patience than I deserved. It was rusty, and so was I, but it was also pure joy. This is your chance to rediscover who you are outside of being someone’s partner or mum. You’re not just a mum taxiing kids around or the person who makes sure there’s always enough milk in the fridge. You’re still you, with passions and dreams waiting to be reignited. Set new personal goals, even if they’re small at first. Embrace this opportunity for growth and adventure. You might just surprise yourself with what you’re capable of now that you have the time and space to explore it. Don’t feel guilty of trying out things you might enjoy. ### Establish New Routines Routines might sound boring, but right now, they’re your best friend. Divorce may feel chaotic, and routines can bring stability. Start with the small things: a morning coffee ritual, a weekly family movie night, or even a daily walk around the block. These little routines give you something to look forward to and help create a sense of normalcy, especially when things feel overwhelming. They’re like little anchors in your day, keeping you grounded when life feels stormy. And the best part? They’re a sneaky way to fit in some self-care without you even realising it. ### Explore New Relationships Dating after divorce… wait, what? The mere thought might make you want to dive headfirst under the doona. I get it. The idea that you will meet other people can be downright terrifying. But here’s the thing: when you’re ready, finding a new love can be an exciting new chapter in your life. Rather than rushing, take your time and space to grieve. Dip your toes in slowly if you need, or take a full-on running leap when the moment feels right. When I first started thinking about dating again, I was convinced it was like trying to ride a bike after years of walking. I remember sitting in my car outside a café, trying to convince myself that going in for a date was a good idea. My inner dialogue was a mix of “You’ve got this!” and “Run while you can!” But once I finally walked in, I realised that the nerves were just part of the process, and they didn’t last forever. When you meet new people, you’re not looking for someone to “complete” you. Just because your marriage ended in divorce or you’re feeling lonely doesn’t mean you’re not whole. Instead, look for someone new who adds to your happiness, someone who complements the amazing person you already are, not someone who needs to be the sole source of it. And don’t forget, it’s okay to have fun along the way. That’s part of the healing process. ### Manage Financial Changes Post-divorce finances can be a real doozy and it can feel like another layer of betrayal. Suddenly, you’re facing a whole new budget and financial reality, and it’s not always pretty. You might even if doubt if you made the right decision because of the financial difficulties. But don’t worry; you’ve got this. First things first, get a clear picture of your income and expenses. It can feel like facing a monster under the bed, but trust me, it’s better to know what you’re dealing with. Create a budget that works for you, not against you. Think of it as your financial game plan. And if you find yourself a bit lost, don’t hesitate to talk to a financial advisor. They can be like your financial GPS, helping you navigate the twists and turns. And hey, if you haven’t already, grab a copy of [*The Barefoot Investor*](https://amzn.to/3XnRmPQ) by Scott Pape. It’s written by our fellow Aussie, and it’s full of down-to-earth advice that actually makes sense. ### Set Boundaries with Your Ex-Partner When co-parenting after divorce, can feel we’re tiptoeing through a minefield, but healthy boundaries are your secret weapon. They’re your map to smoother terrain. Amidst the upheaval, be crystal clear about what you need — whether it’s setting rules for communication or dividing parenting duties. Stick to your boundaries like glue, but stay flexible when it’s what’s best for the kids. Practice assertive communication if needed. And here’s a little reminder: there’s no need to be besties with your ex. You just need to be civil enough to co-parent effectively. Think of it like a business partnership — professional, polite, and all about getting the job done right. The goal isn’t friendship; it’s raising happy, well-adjusted kids. ![embrace change](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/IN-ARTICLE-images-36.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mums single mum support - Beanstalk Mums") ### Embrace Change and Move Forward Change is hard, but it’s also a fact of life. The silver lining? You’re way stronger than you give yourself credit for. Come to terms with the new opportunities that come your way, whether it’s a new job, a new hobby, or even a fresh outlook on life. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, take this opportunity to build resilience and let go of things that may no longer serve you. I remember when I first had to tackle home repairs on my own. I was staring at a leaky faucet like it was a puzzle I’d never seen before. At first, I panicked, thinking, “I’m not cut out for this!” But after a few YouTube videos and a lot of pep talks to myself, I got it fixed. It wasn’t perfect, but it worked, and I felt like a champion. That’s the thing about challenges: they can seem daunting at first. But once you face them head-on, you realise they’re not as scary as they seem. Instead of seeing challenges as setbacks, start viewing them as opportunities to grow and learn. This little shift in mindset will help you move forward with confidence, and who knows, you might even find a bit of excitement along the way. Every challenge you conquer is just proof that you’re more capable than you ever imagined. ### Prioritise Your Children’s Well-being The people going through a divorce is not just you and your kids. Your kids are navigating this transition too, and they’re watching you closely. They’ll take their cues from how you handle things. Be there for them emotionally, offering support and understanding, but also give them the space they need to process everything in their own way. Open communication is key. Let them know it’s okay to talk about their feelings, but don’t push them if they’re not ready. Co-parenting might not be a walk in the park, but it doesn’t have to be a nightmare either. First off, avoid casting blame – ever if you feel you can never forgive your kids’ other parent. With a bit of patience and a lot of focus on your children’s needs, you can create a new, healthy family dynamic. It’s about finding a balance that works for everyone. And hey, while it might not always be easy, it’s worth it to see your kids thrive. ## Conclusion: Life After Divorce Contrary to how you feel at the moment, divorce isn’t the end of the world. Instead, it’s the start of an exciting new chapter. Yes, it’s scary, and yes, it’s tough, but it’s also your chance to create a life that truly brings you joy. Think of it as the blank page you’ve been handed to write a story that’s entirely your own. There’s no right or wrong to move on. Take it one day at a time, and remember, you don’t have to do it all at once. Surround yourself with strong support. Most importantly, don’t forget to find the humour in the little things. Laughter is your secret weapon, so use it generously. I hope you find use of these practical tips to help you heal and come out stronger. This is your time to shine, to rediscover who you are, and to build a life that makes you truly happy. So take a deep breath, embrace what it’s like after divorce, and remember — you’ve got this! The best is yet to come. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Healing --- ### [Top 5 Brisbane Counsellors for Trauma, Anxiety, and Emotional Wellbeing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-5-brisbane-counsellors-for-trauma-anxiety-and-emotional-wellbeing/) **Published:** June 5, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Most people searching for Brisbane counsellors for trauma don’t realise how much variation exists between practitioners who call themselves “trauma-informed” and those who actually specialise in it. The gap matters more than most people expect. After reviewing dozens of counselling practices across Queensland, the disconnect between marketing language and real clinical depth became very clear. Long wait times, patchy Medicare rebate access, and the challenge of spotting genuine trauma specialisation versus general therapy training all make this search harder than it should be. This guide breaks down five practices worth knowing. ## **The research approach for this ranking** Publicly available information formed the backbone of this research, drawing from practitioner directories, official practice websites, client testimonials, and mental health professional registers. Only practices with a demonstrated track record in trauma-informed or trauma-specific care were carried through to the final list. *→ See the full research breakdown* - **DragonFly Blue**—Best for online trauma-centred counselling and trauma-informed therapy - **Holistic Counselling with Emily**—best for wellness counselling and spiritual mental health support - **Christie Burke** – Best for mental health counselling and health coaching - **Moksha Holistic Counselling** – Best for trauma-informed counselling and clinical supervision - **Alana Grace Counselling**—Best for trauma-informed counselling with wellness support ## **Why Brisbane Counsellors For Trauma Matter for Your Mental Health** Choosing the wrong counsellor doesn’t just waste time. It can set someone’s recovery back by months. Brisbane has a real access problem. Wait times for trauma-specialised counsellors stretch weeks in many cases, and the Medicare rebate gap between counsellors and psychologists leaves many clients paying more out of pocket than they expected. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-silverkblack-23496577-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-silverkblack-23496577 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by vitaly gariev](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-woman-sitting-in-a-chair-talking-to-another-woman-23496577/) That cost pressure pushes people toward whichever practitioner is available fastest, rather than the best fit. And a poor fit with a trauma counsellor carries genuine risks, including re-traumatisation and early dropout before any meaningful progress happens. The right match, by contrast, shows up clearly in the numbers that matter: shorter time from inquiry to first appointment, stronger session retention across a full treatment cycle, and measurable symptom reduction on validated tools like the PCL-5 or IES-R. ## **Top 5 Brisbane Counsellors for Trauma: Breakdown and Comparison** Note: All data in this table is sourced from review platforms and the official websites of the listed companies. | **Company Name** | **Headquartered In** | **Best For** | |---|---|---| | DragonFly Blue | Brisbane | Online trauma-centered counselling and trauma-informed therapy | | Holistic Womyn’s Counselling | Gold Coast, QLD, Australia. | Women, couples, and young adults seeking holistic emotional support. | | Christie Burke | Brisbane | Mental health counselling and health coaching | | Moksha Holistic Counselling | Australia | Trauma-informed counselling and clinical supervision | | Alana Grace Counselling | Noosa Heads, QLD | Trauma-informed counselling with wellness support | ## **DragonFly Blue** ## **What Does DragonFly Blue Do?** DragonFly Blue is a Brisbane-based practice led by Rachael Greany, running 100% online through Zoom. The practice covers anxiety, trauma, burnout, grief, childhood patterns, people-pleasing, and relationship issues, all through 90-minute sessions designed for real depth rather than surface-level check-ins. For anyone who has searched for [professional holistic counselling near Brisbane](https://www.holisticcounsellingbrisbane.com/) and felt overwhelmed by generic options, this practice provides something more specific: a clear timeline, with most clients reporting meaningful change within three to six sessions. ## **Why Does DragonFly Blue Stand Out for Brisbane Counsellors for Trauma?** The combination of a defined outcomes timeline and a complimentary 20-minute discovery call removes two of the biggest barriers trauma survivors face when starting therapy. That kind of clarity about what to expect, before committing financially, is genuinely rare in this space. And it builds trust in a way that a slick website simply can’t. ## **Summary of Real User Reviews:** Client feedback consistently points to Rachael’s ability to create a safe space where real progress happens without pressure. The 90-minute session format comes up again and again in reviews as a reason clients feel they actually get somewhere, rather than just scratching the surface each week. ## **Holistic Womyn’s Counselling** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Image-1200x556.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Holistic Womyn’s Counselling is a Gold Coast-based practice led by Christina-Grace May. It offers individual counselling, couples counselling, group therapy, retreats, logotherapy, Reiki, dream therapy, meditation, relaxation therapy, life coaching, and corporate coaching. The practice focuses on emotional well-being, personal meaning, and whole-person support. For people comparing Brisbane counsellors for trauma, it may suit clients who want support that connects trauma, stress, identity, relationships, and life direction. Christina-Grace May also brings experience working with women and children, including difficult family situations and domestic violence. Public review information is limited, so the strongest points are the wide service range and holistic approach. ## **Christie Burke** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Image-1-1200x750.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Christie Burke combines Registered Nurse credentials, integrative therapy training, and certified health coaching. The practice supports mental health counselling, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation, and lifestyle concerns. Sessions are available in Brisbane and through telehealth across Australia. Christie Burke stands out because the work looks beyond surface symptoms. The model is partnership-based and focuses on tracing anxiety, stress, and emotional patterns back to their roots. For trauma clients who also deal with burnout or nervous system dysregulation, this mix of counselling, somatic support, and health coaching can be useful. ## **Moksha Holistic Counselling** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Image-3-1200x652.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Moksha Holistic Counselling is led by Emily, an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and Yoga Teacher with more than 15 years of experience. The practice runs online through Zoom and offers 50-60 minute sessions. Its approach brings together social work, psychology, yoga, breathwork, and nutritional medicine. Moksha stands out because trauma is often held in the body, not only in thoughts or emotions. A counsellor who understands clinical mental health and body-based regulation can help clients stuck in fear, shutdown, [overwhelm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/managing-overwhelm-as-a-single-mother/), or stress responses. Moksha also provides clinical supervision for allied health professionals. ## **Alana Grace Counselling** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Image-2-1200x655.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Alana Grace Counselling is based in Noosa Heads and offers secure video sessions for clients across Queensland. The practice supports anxiety, depression, relationship challenges and trauma-related concerns. It uses Internal Family Systems, narrative therapy, yoga, and Ayurvedic approaches, with a focus on nervous system regulation. This practice may suit clients who want formal counselling mixed with wellness support. The Bachelor of Counselling background and Level 2 membership with the Australian Counselling Association provide a professional foundation, while IFS and narrative therapy add emotional depth. ## **Research Methodology and Selection Process** The goal was to create a shortlist of trauma-focused counselling practices that appear to deliver on what they advertise. The process included practitioner directories, association registers, practice websites, testimonials, and public feedback. Practices without clear credentials, relevant services, or a trauma-informed focus were removed. The final ranking considered trauma-specific service depth, background, access, session structure, client-centred language, and contribution. Where public reviews were limited, the article avoids overstating client results and focuses on verified services, listed qualifications, and counselling approach. ## **How to Choose the Right Brisbane Counsellors For Trauma** - Before booking, look for more than the phrase “trauma-informed.” A stronger profile will usually mention specific approaches such as EMDR, IFS, somatic therapy, nervous system support, or structured trauma counselling. Session length, cost, rebate options, cancellation policy, and professional membership also matter. ## **Bottom Line** Finding the right trauma counsellor in Brisbane can take time, especially when many practices use similar language online. These five practices bring different support. The best choice depends on the client’s goals, budget, session style, and comfort with the practitioner. For trauma work, fit matters as much as availability. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-5-brisbane-counsellors-for-trauma-anxiety-and-emotional-wellbeing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-5-brisbane-counsellors-for-trauma-anxiety-and-emotional-wellbeing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [How to make yourself feel better in the moment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/feel-better-in-the-moment/) **Published:** October 18, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** We all have those moments. That point in time when you feel really low. Be it from stress, exhaustion, anxiety, overwhelm, sadness … or any number of bleak and upsetting emotions. Even a mixture of all of them. These feeling are part and parcel of daily life, and usually we are able to dust ourselves off and keep on going. But not always. Occasionally, unwelcome feelings hit and it’s incredibly hard to move on from them. They can stop us in our tracks and prevent us from functioning as we need to. When this happens, you’re gonna need some help. For this reason, here are some ideas to make yourself feel better in the moment so you can banish the negative vibes and get on with your day. ***Further reading: [50 ‘I Am’ statements: Positive affirmations for your well-being.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/i-am-statements/)*** ## HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER IN THE MOMENT ### FRESHEN UP If you are at home and have five minutes to spare, strip off and hop in the shower. Did you know that having a shower can increase productivity, boost confidence, crank up energy levels and decrease anxiety? In fact, according to [Wellness Workdays](https://www.wellnessworkdays.com/post/four-surprising-benefits-of-your-daily-shower#:~:text=In%20fact%2C%20bathing%20has%20been,is%20lower%20following%20a%20shower.): > *“Bathing has been linked to improved mental health. This is because taking a warm shower can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. The body’s reaction to being warm naturally relaxes your muscles and thoughts. Because of this mechanism, the risk of depressive symptoms is lower following a shower.”* Of course, you’ll come out smelling lovely too. ### THE POWER OF NOW The feeling of being overwhelmed is often the catalyst of our pessimistic thoughts. Furthermore, if you stop to anaylise your overwhelm you will notice it is caused by thoughts about the past and future. One has happened and the other is yet to come. A handy (and easy) tool is to focus on the “now”. Grab a copy of the [The Power of Now](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/EaeoQe) by Eckhart Tolle and learn that focusing on the present can help you find deep inner peace … however crazy busy your life may be. ### DRINK SOME WATER Yes, it really can be as simple as downing a glass of water. As stated by Mass Public Health Blog: > *“Being dehydrated throws off the delicate dopamine and serotonin balances in the brain, natural chemicals that can increase/affect depression and anxiety. One of the fastest and easiest ways to improve your mood is by drinking a glass (or two!) of water. Getting hydrated can quite literally calm your nerves.”* Better still, get ahead of the dehydration by carrying a water bottle wherever you go and sipping regularly. If water’s not your thing, add flavour with a tasty teabag, or give it some fizz with a SodaStream. ### TELL PEOPLE, GET HELP If you feel crap … tell someone. Phone a mate and have a vent. Or tell your kids that “mummy’s not feeling great”. Once it’s out there you’ll feel slightly better, and you’ll hopefully get some sympathy to boot. Even young kids will want mum to feel good and will try and help in their own little way, which in turn will hopefully lift your mood. ### BREATH It’s a cliché, I know. But I promise you it works. Did you know that when you are stressed or anxious, your breathing pattern changes? Instead of deep, healthy breathing from your diaphragm, your shoulders tense and your breath becomes short and shallow. When this happens, take action. Here is a cute video from [Beyond Blue](https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/welcome-and-orientation/dealing-with-feelings-of-isolation-and-loneliness/td-p/498054) to help you relax … Another option is to download a meditation app to your phone. Many of these have fast, accessible exercises you can do anywhere. Further reading: [9 Apps to learn meditation and improve your life through mindfulness.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/) ### HAVE A CUPPA This is the English in me coming out … But, if you need to lift your spirits, stick the kettle on. Have a nice cup of tea, coffee … or make a hot chocolate with whipped cream, marshmallows and chocolate sprinkles. Basically, have a harmless treat to lift your spirits. ### GET OUTSIDE If you can, head outside and gulp some fresh air. Better still, do it with the afore-mentioned cuppa and breathing exercises. This article from [Kent Teach](https://www.kent-teach.com/Blog/post/2017/04/25/6-benefits-of-getting-fresh-air.aspx) explains: > *“The more fresh air you get, the more oxygen you will breathe which will increase the amount of serotonin (the happy hormone) you inhale, consequently making you happier.”* If there are some roses nearby, smell them! ### LISTEN TO SOME TUNES I don’t need to tell you the power of music. A damn good tune floods your brain with dopamine which gives you the feeling of pleasure, alongside a generous serving of motivation. Dance, sing, twerk … whatever floats your boat. Get ahead of the blues by creating a motivational playlist which you can hit play on at any time. ***Further reading (if you’re single): [15 Positive songs about being single (and why to listen to them).](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/positive-songs-being-single/)*** ### HAVE SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO Feeling down and despondent? Then give yourself something to look forward to, however small. A takeaway for dinner or the promise of an early night is all it takes sometimes. That feeling of anticipation will make you feel more positive and may be the incentive you need to claw your way out of the rut you find yourself in. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## IF YOU JUST CAN’T SHAKE IT If you find yourself struggling with pessimistic thoughts on a regular basis and your life is being negatively impacted, seek help. You can call [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) or [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/). Listen to me chat to both charities about how they can help on my podcast: [BEYOND BLUE: Helping single mums understand and manage anxiety.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-anxiety/) [LIFELINE: Feeling down as a single parent? There is help out there.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-for-single-parents-lifeline/) ![Feel better in moment | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Make-yourself-feel-better-in-moment.png "Make yourself feel better in moment - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/feel-better-in-the-moment/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/feel-better-in-the-moment/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** motivation, anxiety, stress, depression, motivate --- ### [How I manage my depression as single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/depression-single-mother/) **Published:** December 30, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As humans we have a myriad of different mood types which we swing through at an alarming rate. Yet, as a single mum, depression may visit you all too frequently. I have been a single parent for eight years and have suffered with depression from within my marriage and still do today. I have been through the full cycle of not recognising my depression; firmly denying it; trying to cope without support; learning to accept and understand my depression; to ultimately managing it successfully. Every day I am alert for the sinking signs of my own sadness and I have become an expert on what they are and how to act fast to stay on top of my mental health. I am not a doctor or a psychologist and make no claim to diagnose, cure or provide expert advice around depression. I am a single mum with clinical depression who has learned to live a healthy, happy, successful life with two great kids and a thriving business. The reason for this article is to share my red flags of depression taking hold and the simple tools I use to work through it while still functioning as a mother. If you recognise the symptoms and feelings which I share below and have not yet sought help for depression, please do. You can visit your local GP or call [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) or [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) for support. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help, guidance and treatment. I personally chat to both Lifeline and Beyond Blue on my podcast, so take a listen to find out how they can help you … and how bloody wonderful they are: [Beanstalk Single Mums podcast with Lifeline](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-for-single-parents-lifeline/) Beanstalk Single Mums podcast with Beyond Blue (coming in Feb) **Note:** I have only covered some signs of my depression in this article, there are many others and we each experience depression differently. ## SIGNS OF DEPRESSION AS A SINGLE MOTHER AND HOW TO COPE ### ETERNAL EXHAUSTION AND LACK OF MOTIVATION Feeling tired all the time is a No.1 sign of depression for me. Yet, as a single parent it can be hard to identify it as a symptom of depression because we are usually fairly exhausted! I have found there is a difference between “normal exhaustion” and “depressive exhaustion”, the latter of which is an inexplicable lack of motivation and extreme tiredness. Basically, if you have been crazy busy all day and fall asleep on the couch the minute the kids are in bed, this is normal. Anyone would be tired after the kind of day you have had! A more worrying exhaustion is the kind that you get at 10am even though you slept well. Or you’re having a quiet day, yet you don’t have the energy to make a sandwich for lunch or iron your top. > **If you feel accountably tired and unmotivated:** > > Be super kind to yourself and give yourself a break from everything apart from the absolutely necessary i.e. getting the kids up and to school, going to work, ensuring everyone is clean and fed. All that other stuff (cleaning, bulk cooking, Pilates, sorting the garage) can wait until you feel better. > > Also, check your diet to make sure you include [energy boosting foods and supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/energy-boosting-secrets-tired-mums/). You could even get a health check to ensure your vitamins levels are where they should. > > Many people find that exhaustion and lack of motivation can be managed by [incorporating exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) into your weekly routine, which is certainly worth a try. However, for me it’s about doing less and being super gentle with myself until my energy returns. ### DESPERATE FOR ESCAPISM Another undeniable sign that my depression is rearing its ugly head is the desire to escape from the world I am living. I feel myself thinking: “Stop the world, I want to get off”. I want a break from the day, from the routine, from my commitments and from my head. This can reveal itself in a fairly innocent fashion whereby I develop an unhealthy obsession with my bed and the need to curl up and sleep, even when I am not tired. Why? Because Dreamland is far more inviting than my real world. In the past, if bed was not possible as it’s 3pm and I need to collect kids, do homework, prepare dinner (you get the picture), I used to drink alcohol as a form of escape. Other people may partake in substance abuse, overeating or another unhealthy addition. Behaviours such as these are red flags with neon flashing lights and fireworks firing from the top. “Taking a break” or “feeling fed up” is part and parcel of mum-life but feeling an insatiable need to escape may signal that your mental health is suffering. > **If you are constantly longing for the sweet relief of escapism:** > > It’s time to get acquainted with the many healthy ways to temporarily break-free from the reality you are struggling with. > > Carve a little time in your day for your own personal escape. This could be as simple as: > > - Walking around the block and seeing other people who take your mind off your own life > - Allowing storylines in books and movies to sweep you away > - [Learning to meditate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) to calm and control your monkey brain and impending negative thoughts > - Listening to podcasts that channel your thoughts elsewhere or music that takes the focus off your gloomy thoughts > > At the risk of you rolling your eyes dear reader: You could find a new hobby or craft. Knitting (yes, knitting!) is where I go to escape most days. Just ten minutes concentrating of the simplicity of wooden needles and wool is enough to calm my mind and provide the escape I so desperately crave. ### UNWILLINGNESS TO ASK FOR HELP The natural reaction if we struggle is to reach out for help. It is human nature. If our car breaks, we call on a mechanical. If we have tooth ache, we call on a dentist. If we feel down or need to vent, we call on a friend or family member. All perfectly normal stuff. A red flag of my depression is not wanting to call on anyone. Why? I feel so miserable that I worry about bringing other people down to the horrible place I am inhabiting. Not only do I not want to upset others, but I feel embarrassed about where I am. It’s like opening the front door to someone when your house is an absolute pigsty. I’d rather just slam the door shut. A few of things to look out for here are: Feeling depressed but unwilling to reach for support; displaying introvert tendencies when you are usually outgoing; or (like me) you have normal introvert tendencies with are exacerbated i.e. a fear of taking the bins out! Time alone with poor mental health is not good and it’s important to take action straight-away. > **If you are afraid or unable to reach for help:** > > First remember that according to the [Black Dog Institute](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/1-facts_figures.pdf), one in seven Australian’s will suffer depression at some point their life time, so you are not alone. > > Connect with a friend or family member. This can be as simple as a phone call or a coffee date. You don’t have to tell them you feel depressed if you don’t want to … just connect and talk. I can not put into words the power of human connection when you are depressed. It is like magic. > > If you don’t have someone to talk to phone either [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) or [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/). They are open 24/7. You can also chat on the [Single Mum Vine FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/), where we focus on the positives of single motherhood. > > Moving forward, make sure you have a support system around you for when depression jumps out from its hiding place. If you don’t have one and are not sure how to create one, it is something we work on in my “[You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) and is an absolutely invaluable tool as a single mother but equally important to help keep on top of your mental health. ## COPING WITH DEPRESSION AS A SINGLE MOTHER ### COMPLETE AND UTTER OVERWHELM I’m a “doer”. I expect you are a “doer” too. As single mums we have to be. I generally charge through my days and complete an amazing number of chores in record time. Caring for the kids, working, cleaning, cooking and everything else that comes my way. But sometimes, the thought of doing just one of these things overwhelms me. Literally the thought of having to do it, will send me into a blind panic or a spiral of self-pity It is normal to experience overwhelm, but if you are feeling overwhelmed by a schedule you would normally do in your sleep, then your depression may have come knocking. > **If you experience unfathomable overwhelm and you can’t shift it:** > > Give your spinning head a break by writing out a list of everything you need to do, even if it’s ordinary chores you don’t usually have a list for. Include everything from cleaning your teeth to making dinner. Remove anything from the list that is not essential and make another list of stuff to do another day, that way you won’t feel overwhelmed by what you are not doing! > > Work through the list item by item crossing off items as you go. Gradually you will get a feeling of moving forward and this in turn will help you to feel less overwhelmed and more accomplished. > > Honestly, this might seem like such an obvious thing to do but it helps me every time I hit overwhelm overdrive and it can stop my depression in its tracks. ### THE BLEAK FUTURE FEELING How do you feel when you think about the future? The reason I ask is because I find it is a great question to gauge my mental health at any point in time. I used to feel excited for the future. Yet, in my most depressed years, I felt nothing for the future … it was like I didn’t have one. Now I feel OK about it, and that is enough for me right now. If you feel excited and positive about what the future holds for you, that is a great thing! On the other hand, you might feel anxious and negative about your future. Having hopes, dreams and visions for a future is really important. It is what drives us forward every day and gives us the determination and strength to thrive. But, if your feelings for the future are bleak all the time, this could be a signal of depression taking hold. > **If your future is a place of worry, instead of a place of hope:** > > Take some time to work out what is worrying you. > > It might relate to your finances or your health? Perhaps you are worried about being alone or providing for your children? It is likely a number of different things. > > Next think about what a happy future looks like to you and how you can capture those aspirations. > > The importance of this is two-fold. Not only do you have plan for the future which you are working towards, but you have peace-of-mind that everything is going to be ok. You can draw on this when you feel down and it will create a more optimistic thought pattern. > > If you need help working on a plan for your future, I can help you with this in my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/), which is all about getting a plan in place and working towards it, alongside all the other challenges of single mum life! ![Signs of depression as a single mother | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Depression-single-mother.png "Depression single mother - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/depression-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/depression-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** mental health, feeling down, depressed --- ### [Things to think about before heading back to college](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/5-things-to-think-about-before-heading-back-to-college/) **Published:** July 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you considering the crazy idea of heading back to college? Trust me, I’ve been there. It’s a big move. This decision goes beyond just personal growth. It affects your whole family dynamic. How will you juggle it all? Can you handle the financial strain? Balancing priorities is no joke! In this article, I discuss the five main factors you need to consider before leaping into higher education. I urge you to delve carefully into each and see what other questions they bring up for you. Then, drill down on every thought and scenario to ensure that heading back to college is right for you at this time in your life. ## What are your career goals? Some careers definitely require a college degree, like medicine, teaching, or law. But if you see yourself in jobs that don’t require college degrees, you will be better off building your portfolio, getting certified, completing short courses, and continuously upskilling. Think executive assistants, writers, artists, business owners, and skilled labour. While having a degree increases your job opportunities and earning potential, it also has drawbacks. For one, it can restrict your options. Yes, a diploma can gain you a job in the field you graduated from. But what if you suddenly realise you want a career shift? Sometimes, your degree can make it harder for you to find employment in other industries. ## Can you afford it? I’m sure by now you have already researched how much tuition fees in Australia cost. Unfortunately, the already unaffordable price of college is not just about tuition and other fees. Food, groceries, transportation, and technology are equally important expenses you must think about. And if you have little kids, include daycare or babysitting services in your budget, too. Together, these expenses will take a huge chunk out of your family budget. If your earnings fall in the Aussie family’s annual household average, you will have to set aside half of that each year to finish your college degree. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Pexels-freestocks-287335-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-freestocks-287335 - Beanstalk Mums") What’s a bummer is that you might find it challenging to find additional part-time jobs to augment your income. College will take up most of your time, so juggling different jobs, alongside your responsibilities in your family, can be a struggle. Sure, there are scholarships. But these can be highly competitive, in addition to scarce. You can also take out student loans, but proceed with caution. In my case, I heard that many Aussie grads are still buried in student debt, even after years or decades of paying. That’s scary, so I opted out. ## Do you have enough time to study? You already have many things on your plate as a single parent. There’s your family, your job, your relationships, self-care, and several personal struggles you could be facing. Is higher education something you can fit into your schedule right now without getting overwhelmed and burnt out? College, especially in this day and age, can be physically, mentally, and emotionally taxing. You will spend time in class, whether virtually or on campus. Then, you will need time to complete projects, research, and prepare for the next class. It’s no surprise that single mothers are less likely to graduate than their peers who are not in the same situation, but it’s not impossible. If you’re hell-bent on finishing your schooling, then prioritising your family, alongside studies and self-care, is certainly achievable. Giving up activities that unnecessarily take up your time are significant step to succeed. Taking fewer units per semester may also help. ## Are you in the right headspace to see it through? ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Pexels-karola-g-5311442-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-5311442 - Beanstalk Mums") It took me quite some time to continue my undergraduate degree. I knew that it was an absolute necessity to be emotionally balanced and ready. I was aware college would be tough, especially with the gap in my schooling and my responsibilities as a mum. Being in the right headspace all the time is challenging, especially so for a single undergraduate parent. If you are dead-set on finishing your studies, you must develop positive coping mechanisms. In case of a major challenge, like divorce or mental health struggles, think twice about going back to school. These will make you lose focus on studying and cause your grades to suffer. ## Do you have enough support around you? It takes a village to raise a child. And we single mums need all the help we can get … especially when heading back to college. Surrounding yourself with people who support your goals and aspirations is vital if you want your return to college to succeed. That can be your parents, who can volunteer to look after your kids. Your best mate can happily cook your meals or clean your house occasionally. If you have people helping you succeed by taking over some chores, you will have fewer worries and can focus better on studying. You don’t need cynics in your life right now. Support can also come from government monetary incentives for mums returning to college, such as [Austudy](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/austudy). Or, it can be your college if they have programs to help single mums, such as free daycare in their libraries. ## Final words on heading back to college I’m privileged to be one of those mums who successfully returned to college and finally got the degree I’ve always dreamed of. But the reality is that not all mums who return to school will graduate. Before submitting that application and paying the exorbitant tuition fees, it’s crucial to assess your current situation and whether you will finish what you start. Ask yourself: - Do I need a college diploma for the career I want? - Can I handle the financial requirements? - Can I manage my time to study and perform my responsibilities as a mum? - Am I mentally prepared for college? - Do I have enough support system? But saying no to any of these questions doesn’t mean you have to give up on your college dreams. Postponing going back to college for a few more years until you’re in a better position in life is perfectly okay. Good luck! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/5-things-to-think-about-before-heading-back-to-college/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/5-things-to-think-about-before-heading-back-to-college/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** study, university, uni, upskill --- ### [Funny Father’s Day gifts: For the dad who loves a good laugh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/funny-fathers-day-gifts/) **Published:** July 31, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Father’s Day is just around the corner, and while the relationship might not have lasted, your sense of humour sure did! Finding the right gift for your ex can be tricky. After all, you want something that’s thoughtful but not too personal, light-hearted but not sarcastic. That’s where funny Father’s Day gifts come in! We’ve curated quirky and clever gifts that are perfect for keeping things friendly and fun. From beard beanies that’ll have him chuckling to pun-filled gag books that channel his inner comedian, these gifts say, “I appreciate you” in the most light-hearted way possible. So, why not spread a little joy and laughter this Father’s Day? After all, everyone could use a good giggle. ## **Funny Father’s Day gift ideas in 2026** ## **Fart zone slippers** Amusing slippers never get old. Remind him of how you and your kids experienced his flatulent explosions. ![Fart zone slippers | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014350.jpg "1000014350 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/4fnd1iy) ## **Cards Against Humanity** Just the tagline on the box is enough to get a giggle .. ‘A party game for horrible people’. But it is actually a brilliantly funny game that he’ll love playing with his mates. ![Cards Against Humanity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014352-1067x800.jpg "1000014352 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/45h0gRW) ## **100 Best Dad Joke Cards** Give him a new source from which to get fresh dad puns. It’s a playful way to show you still appreciate their humour without crossing any boundaries. Your kids are sure to roll their eyes with these terrible but witty puns. ![100 Best Dad Joke cards | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014354.jpg "1000014354 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [CoolThings Australia ](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coolthings.com.au%2F100-corny-jokes&sref=https%3A%2F%2Fbeanstalkmums.com.au%2Flife%2Fseasonal%2Ffathers-day%2Ffunny-fathers-day-gifts%2F) ## **For the Star Wars fan: Dark Side doormat** I know how annoyed you were with his Star Wars obsession. But this is a playful reminder to leave the drama at the door. It’s a fun way to say, “May the force of humour be with you.” ![Dark Side doornat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014356.jpg "1000014356 - Beanstalk Mums") Available from: [CoolThings Australia](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coolthings.com.au%2Fstar-wars-dark-side-door-mat&sref=https%3A%2F%2Fbeanstalkmums.com.au%2Flife%2Fseasonal%2Ffathers-day%2Ffunny-fathers-day-gifts%2F) ## **Sloth dad coffee mug** Our next pick is the perfect gift for the ex-husband who takes an enormous effort to wake up. If your ex is a workaholic, this is a lighthearted way to add some lazy-day vibes to his routine. ![Sloth dad coffee mug | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014359.jpg "1000014359 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [CoolThings Australia](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coolthings.com.au%2Fsloth-coffee-mug&sref=https%3A%2F%2Fbeanstalkmums.com.au%2Flife%2Fseasonal%2Ffathers-day%2Ffunny-fathers-day-gifts%2F) ## **More terrible puns: Book of Dad jokes** Because I know one dad gag gift idea isn’t enough, here’s another one for your cheesy ex. Your kids are sure to roll their eyes at this terrible but amusing compilation. ![Book of Dad jokes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014361.jpg "1000014361 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.giftsaustralia.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fterribly-cheesy-dad-jokes-9781913004057&sref=https%3A%2F%2Fbeanstalkmums.com.au%2Flife%2Fseasonal%2Ffathers-day%2Ffunny-fathers-day-gifts%2F) ## **Hilarious gag gifts for your kids’ Dad** ## **Lonely Kids Club Rude T Shirts** For dads with a questionable sense of humour, Lonely Kids Club’s collection of [rude T shirts](https://lonelykidsclub.com/collections/fuck-off) features cheeky, inappropriate and conversation-starting designs printed to order in Australia. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Donot1-800x800.webp "Donot1 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Lonely Kids Club](https://lonelykidsclub.com/collections/fuck-off "Lonely Kids Club") ## **Cocktail recipe book** This witty cocktail recipe book mixes classic drinks with a splash of movie humour. It’s perfect for an ex who enjoys a good laugh with their liquor. ![Cocktail recipe book | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014364.jpg "1000014364 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/4ltnGcE) ## **Beard beanie** The witty beard beanie is a knitted hat that comes with an attached faux beard, giving your ex an instant, over-the-top facial hair look. It’s perfect for those cold days when they could use a laugh and a little extra beard coverage. ![Beard beanie | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014368.jpg "1000014368 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/45kbLJD) ## **Funny socks** These statement socks made our tummies hurt from laughing so hard. Imagine the look on his face once he sees this pair! We’re sure these will make him laugh, too! ![Funny socks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014370.jpg "1000014370 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **More picks for funny Dad gifts** Available at: [MyDeal](https://fave.co/4lWKz9A) ## **Toilet timer** One of our favourite funny gift picks is this comical but useful toilet timer! It will remind your ex of how you used to banter over who dropped a stinky bomb in the loo! ![Toilet timer | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014372.jpg "1000014372 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [CoolThings Australia](https://fave.co/3JmfcGX) ## **Classic Insults flipbook** The fun we had creating this list! I know my ex would find this hilarious, and we hope yours would too. The perfect gotcha read for your #1 frenemy. ![Classic Insults flipbook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014374.jpg "1000014374 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [The Nile](https://fave.co/4olVafM) ## **Best ex-husband decor** Does your ex love cheeky accolades? This one will be a funny addition to his living room. ![Best ex-husband decor | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014376.jpg "1000014376 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Red Bubble](https://fave.co/3HnFcRH) ## **\[Bonus Father’s Day selection for your kids\] Gifts for Dad** If you’re still struggling with last-minute ideas of what the kids should give Dad on this special day, we have some great (and much more tame) ideas here: ## **Sarcastic but funny coffee mug** He’s given you so much over the years. But let’s be honest, you’re not planning to pay him back anytime soon. So why not make your Dad laugh with this witty coffee cup, perfect for the dad who’s always been generous with his time, money, and advice? The message reads, “Dad, I Can Never Repay You. Literally.” It’s a sarcastic yet heartfelt way to show your appreciation and love. ![Coffee mug](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014379.jpg "1000014379 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/4fnd1iy) ## **Tumbler with straw** Make his breakfast smoothies ready on the go with this insulated double-walled tumbler. We’re sure he’ll appreciate the minimalist design and colour, too! ![Tumbler with straw](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014381.jpg "1000014381 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [MyDeal](https://fave.co/40TkSyk) ## **For his beer glass: Stubby holder** The Stubby Holder is a handy sleeve designed to keep Dad’s beer glass cold and his hands warm. It’s perfect for those backyard BBQs or lazy days on the couch. It’s a simple yet [essential gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/fathers-day-gifts/) that ensures their favourite beverage stays chill. ![Stubby holder | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014383.jpg "1000014383 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/47iYeTU) ## **Beer bouquet** Well, technically, it’s not a bouquet. But it’s a pack of 5 beers curated as a gift basket. It even has a witty name – Brewquet. We’re sure any beer-loving dad will drool over this! ![Beer bouquet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014386.jpg "1000014386 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Brewquets](https://fave.co/4mswXTc) ## **Photo crystal portrait** How about giving Dad something that uniquely captures a special memory? A personalised photo crystal does just that! With a photo printed on the back of the crystal, it creates a stunning display that’ll look great on their mantelpiece all year round. ![Photo crystal portrait](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014388.jpg "1000014388 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Callie](https://shrsl.com/4xm0d) ## **For the chef dad: Barbecue grill brush** The Bristle-Free grill brush is a sturdy, safe alternative for cleaning the grill. It’s designed to scrub away grime without leaving dangerous bristles behind. Its durable, stainless steel construction ensures a thorough clean while being gentle on the grill grates. ![Barbecue grill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014390.jpg "1000014390 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Kogan.com](https://fave.co/46T6D0e) ## **BBQ apron** The Australia flag apron is a great Father’s Day present because it lets Dad show off his Aussie pride while manning the BBQ. It’s also a fun way to keep him looking cool, even when he’s getting a bit messy ![Bbq apron | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014392.jpg "1000014392 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [MyDeal](https://fave.co/45C6Xzf) ## **For the coffee lover: Geeky caffeine tee** If the kids’ Dad is both a nerd and a coffee-lover, he will adore this geeky T-shirt! It’s a witty illustration of a caffeine molecule, how cool is that?! ![Geeky caffeine tee](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014396.jpg "1000014396 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [CoolThings Australia](https://fave.co/45lnIxv) ## **Hydro Mate whiskey ice ball maker** This silicone cube tray is perfect for the father who’s more of a whiskey guy than a beer guy. ![Hydro Mate whiskey ice ball maker | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014398.jpg "1000014398 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/40V8vlk) ## **Vans sneakers** If you want to splurge a bit for Dad this year, why not get him a pair of cool sneakers? This pair has an old-school design but features ultra-lightweight and comfortable soles. ![Vans sneakers | Funny Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014402.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Single mum support - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Surf Dive ‘n Ski](https://fave.co/4fqlKk2) ## **Summary: Witty Father’s Day presents** In wrapping up your gift-hunting adventure, remember that a humorous gift to your ex shows you’re cool with keeping things light. It’s a great way to remind him that it’s all about the kids. It can be something that pokes fun at his quirks or a novelty item that’s just too good to pass up. Father’s Day is about celebrating the bond he has with your child; it is a simple way to show that you still appreciate that. So, don’t stress too much. Pick something that’ll bring a smile to his face and keep the day feeling positive. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/funny-fathers-day-gifts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/funny-fathers-day-gifts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Father's Day **Tags:** father's day, gifts for dad, gifts for the ex --- ### [When Your Child Gets Sick at 8pm: How Telehealth Can Help (and When to Head In)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-telehealth-can-help-and-when-to-head-in/) **Published:** June 4, 2026 **Author:** Dr. Gurbakhshish Singh **Content:** It’s 8 pm on a Wednesday. Your child has a temperature, they’re miserable, and you’re doing the mental calculation every parent knows well: *is this a wait-and-see situation, or do I need to do something about this tonight?* The clinic closed at six. The nearest after-hours GP is a 25-minute drive. You have another child already asleep, a work meeting at 8 am, and approximately zero desire to sit in an emergency waiting room for three hours if it turns out to be a virus that just needs rest and fluids. This is exactly the situation telehealth was made for. ## **What telehealth actually means for families** Telehealth isn’t new, but a lot of parents still think of it as a pandemic-era workaround rather than a genuinely useful part of everyday family healthcare. In reality, it’s become one of the most practical tools available to busy Australian families — particularly for after-hours situations, repeat scripts, and the kind of low-grade health questions that don’t warrant a trip to the clinic but still need an actual answer from an actual doctor. At its simplest, telehealth means speaking with a GP by phone or video call from home. No travel, no waiting room, no trying to keep a sick and cranky toddler entertained under fluorescent lighting while you wait forty minutes past your appointment time. For parents, the practical advantages stack up quickly. ## **When telehealth works brilliantly for families** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-8376203-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-8376203 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by tima miroshnichenko](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/doctor-checking-the-temperature-of-her-child-patient-while-sitting-on-green-couch-8376203/) **After-hours illness that needs assessment but probably not emergency care.** Fever, ear pain, a rash you’re not sure about, a cough that’s gotten worse — these are exactly the situations where telehealth shines. A GP can assess symptoms, advise on treatment, and if needed, send an electronic prescription directly to your nearest pharmacy, often within the hour. **Medical certificates.** If your child is too sick for school and you need a [medical certificate](https://medicly.com.au/online-medical-certificate) for work or their school’s attendance policy, a telehealth appointment is a perfectly legitimate way to get one. No need to drag a sick child out of the house just to confirm they are, in fact, sick. **Repeat prescriptions.** If your child is on ongoing medication and you need a repeat script, telehealth appointments are ideal. The same goes for your own scripts — because parents get sick too, and somehow always at the most inconvenient possible time. **Mental health support.** For parents navigating the mental load of family life, or [teenagers who need to speak with someone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparent-teenagers/), telehealth has genuinely expanded access to psychological support. Many people find it easier to open up from the privacy of home, and removing the logistics of getting to an appointment removes a significant barrier to actually seeking help. **Follow-up appointments.** After an in-person visit, many follow-ups can be handled by phone or video — checking in on how a course of antibiotics is going, reviewing test results, or touching base on a referral. ## **When you still need to go in person** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-gustavo-fring-3985219-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gustavo-fring-3985219 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by gustavo fring](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/worried-about-her-sick-son-3985219/) Telehealth is useful, but it’s not a replacement for everything — and it’s worth being clear-eyed about that. If your child has difficulty breathing, a febrile seizure, severe abdominal pain, a head injury, is unresponsive or unusually difficult to rouse, or you’re genuinely worried something is seriously wrong — go in. Call 000 if needed. A telehealth doctor can’t examine your child, and there are situations where physical assessment matters. A good telehealth GP will clearly tell you whether what you’re describing needs in-person attention. That’s not a failure of the service — it’s exactly what you want from it. The honest version of telehealth is this: it’s brilliant for a wide range of everyday family health situations, and it’s not the right tool for genuine emergencies. Most parents develop a reasonable instinct for which category they’re dealing with. Telehealth is there for everything in between. ## **A few things that make telehealth appointments run more smoothly** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Pexels-karola-g-7195087-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-7195087 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by www Kaboompics Com](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-looking-at-the-laptop-screen-7195087/ "photo by www. Kaboompics. Com") If you haven’t used telehealth before, it’s genuinely straightforward — but a little preparation helps, especially when you’re dealing with a sick child and a tired brain. - **Have your Medicare card handy.** Fees vary by provider, and whether a Medicare rebate applies will depend on your circumstances and the service you’re using — worth checking when you book. - **Know your child’s symptoms and when they started.** Sounds obvious, but when you’re flustered, and a GP asks “how long has the fever been going?” it helps to have thought about it beforehand. - **Have any relevant medications nearby.** If your child is already on something, or if you’ve given them paracetamol in the last few hours, the GP will want to know. - **Decide on phone or video.** Both work. Video can be helpful if you want to show a rash or visible symptom; phone is easier if your child is distressed and won’t sit still. - **Check that the provider is legitimate.** More on that below. ## **What to look for in a telehealth provider** Not all telehealth services are equal, and it’s worth spending two minutes checking before you book — especially when it involves your children’s health. Look for services that use AHPRA-registered GPs, offer real-time consultations (not just chat or messaging), follow Australian privacy laws, and are transparent about fees and Medicare eligibility. A reputable provider will also refer you to in-person care if that’s what your situation requires. Medicly is an Australian telehealth platform offering GP consultations, after-hours access, medical certificates, e-scripts, and specialist referrals — with AHPRA-registered doctors and real-time phone and video appointments. It’s a practical option worth bookmarking for those 8 pm moments before they happen. ## **The bottom line for busy parents** Telehealth won’t replace your regular GP, and it shouldn’t. But having a reliable telehealth option in your back pocket means that the next time your child spikes a temperature at dinner time, you have somewhere to turn that isn’t a three-hour emergency waiting room or a frantic Google spiral. That’s a genuinely useful thing. And for parents already carrying an enormous amount, useful things are worth knowing about. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-telehealth-can-help-and-when-to-head-in/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-telehealth-can-help-and-when-to-head-in/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [How to Turn Your Backyard Into a Space the Whole Family Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-turn-your-backyard-into-a-space-the-whole-family-will-love/) **Published:** April 5, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Here’s the thing—if your backyard currently looks more like a dumping ground for random toys, half-dead grass and that one hose no one’s bothered to untangle since last summer, you’re in very good company. Most of us have an outdoor space that *could* be amazing… but between work, school runs, dinner, laundry and everything else on your plate, it just never quite becomes the space you imagined. The good news? You don’t need a full renovation, a massive budget or a spare weekend you don’t have. A few small, thoughtful tweaks can completely change how your backyard feels—and more importantly, how often your family actually uses it. Let’s make it somewhere you *want* to be. ## **Why getting outside matters (even when life is busy)** When you’re juggling everything as a single mum, it’s easy to think of the backyard as a “nice-to-have” rather than something essential. But those little moments outside? They actually do a lot of heavy lifting. For kids, being outdoors supports their physical development, helps regulate emotions and gives them a break from screens (without you having to negotiate it). They run, climb, dig, imagine—and burn off energy in ways that make evenings a whole lot smoother. And for you? Even ten minutes outside can shift your mood. A coffee on the back step while the kids play. A quiet sit in the fresh air after a long day. It doesn’t need to be a big, planned activity to count. The trick is making your outdoor space easy and inviting enough that you naturally drift out there—rather than it feeling like one more thing to organise. ## **It’s not just for the kids—you deserve to enjoy it too** A lot of backyards are designed purely with kids in mind. And while that makes sense, it often means adults end up hovering awkwardly or heading back inside. The best outdoor spaces work for *everyone*. Think about when you’re most likely to use the backyard. For many families, it’s that late afternoon to early evening window—after school, before dinner, when the heat drops and things slow down just a little. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-fabian-cooper-2156657831-34532471-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-fabian-cooper-2156657831-34532471 - Beanstalk Mums") Creating a simple “grown-up” zone can make a huge difference. Nothing fancy—just somewhere you actually want to sit. A comfy chair, a small table for your drink, maybe an outdoor rug or a few cushions. Add some string lights or a lantern, and suddenly the whole space feels warmer and more inviting. Some families love adding a fire pit for that cosy, wind-down vibe. There’s something about a flickering fire that pulls everyone in—kids get mesmerised, conversations happen more easily, and the evening feels a bit more special (even if dinner was just nuggets and chips). But even without that, a bit of soft lighting can completely change how your backyard feels after dark. It turns it from a space you leave… into one you linger in. And honestly, when you’re doing evenings solo, having a spot where you can actually *relax* while the kids wind down is a bit of a game-changer. ## **Make it practical (because chaos is already covered)** A beautiful backyard is great—but if it falls apart the second your kids step outside, it’s not going to work long-term. Practicality matters. A lot. One of the easiest ways to make your yard more functional is by creating simple zones. You don’t need anything fancy or permanent—just a bit of structure. For example: - An [outdoor fire pit](https://www.outdoorlivingabode.com.au/collections/fire-pits "outdoor fire pit") for after-dark or twilight moments - A sandpit or digging area - A space for bikes or scooters - A quieter corner for drawing, reading or building When kids know where things belong, there’s usually less arguing and way less mess getting dragged back inside. It also helps to think about flow. Where do the kids come in and out? Where do shoes get kicked off? Where does the hose live (and can it actually be used without a fight)? Little decisions like these save you from repeating the same instructions over and over. If you host playdates or birthday parties, having some way to guide movement can help too. Even something as simple as placing furniture or using [rope queue barriers](https://www.retaildisplaydirect.com.au/rope-barriers-and-retractable-barriers/ "rope queue barriers") can stop kids from running straight through areas you’d rather keep calm (or safe). And on a day-to-day level, having a clear system—where bikes go, where toys are stored, where muddy feet get cleaned—makes pack-up so much easier. ## **Budget-friendly ideas that actually make a difference** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-3-1200x675.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") You don’t need to spend big to see real change. In fact, some of the most effective backyard upgrades are the simplest ones. ### **Use what you already have** Old pallets can become benches or garden beds. A spare tarp can turn into instant shade. Bits of timber and rope can become swings or cubby add-ons. It doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to work. ### **Prioritise shade** If there’s one thing worth investing in, it’s shade. A shade sail or even a well-placed umbrella can make your backyard usable for so much longer during the day—especially in the Aussie heat. For families who want something more flexible than a fixed shade setup, [motorised awnings](https://www.factoryfast.com.au/collections/motorised-awning) can be a practical option too, helping create a cooler, more comfortable outdoor area without needing a full backyard renovation. ### **Contain the mess (your future self will thank you)** A sandpit with a lid, a big outdoor storage box for toys, and a simple hose-off spot near the back door can cut your cleaning time in half. It also makes it far less tempting to say “no” to outdoor play just because of the mess. ### **Think up, not out** Short on space? Go vertical. Wall hooks for bikes, hanging planters, or even a small vertical herb garden can add function without crowding your yard. ### **Do it bit by bit** You don’t have to fix everything at once. Pick one area that’s annoying you the most and start there. Get it working well, then move on to the next thing. ## **You don’t need perfect—you just need usable** It’s easy to scroll through Pinterest or Instagram and feel like your backyard needs to look a certain way to be “good enough.” It doesn’t. The families who get the most out of their outdoor spaces aren’t the ones with the fanciest setups. They’re the ones who’ve made it *easy* to go outside and spend time together. Your backyard doesn’t need to be styled to perfection. It just needs to be: - Comfortable enough - Practical enough - Set up in a way that suits your real, everyday life Maybe that’s a shaded spot where your [toddler](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/creating-a-learning-environment-for-toddlers/ "toddler") can dig happily while you sit nearby. Or maybe it’s a simple seating area where you can breathe for five minutes. Whatever it looks like for you—that’s enough. Start with what’s not working, make one small change, and go from there. Because at the end of the day, the best backyard isn’t the prettiest one. It’s the one your family actually uses. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-turn-your-backyard-into-a-space-the-whole-family-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-turn-your-backyard-into-a-space-the-whole-family-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [15 Tips For The Greatest Stress-free Single Parent Holiday Ever](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-single-parent-holiday/) **Published:** November 12, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’ve ever been on holiday with your little rascals, you know it’s less of a relaxing getaway and more of a high-stakes adventure. As a battle-hardened solo parent with my fair share of vacation victories and “this can’t possibly be happening” moments, I’m here to spill the beans on how to plan a stress-free single parent holiday. From unravelling the mysteries of airport security (and teaching your kids the art of shoe removal) to magically fitting an entire house into a single suitcase, I’ve got the secrets you need. Let’s face it, we’ve mastered the art of juggling tasks, striking deals, and bending time – planning a holiday has gotta be easy, right? Here are my crucial tips for pulling off a stress-free vacation that the whole family enjoys, including you! ## Advice for a Stress-free Single Parent Holiday ## Book early for good deals and plenty of time Time is gold with holiday bookings. Especially when it comes to airfare, placing reservations in advance is the key to a stress-free trip. Aside from being on the lookout for promos, I typically book flights and packages months in advance: two to three months ahead for domestic and at least six months for international. Some destinations offer early bird discounts as well. Through years of being my family’s de facto vacation planner, I save hundreds of dollars simply by reserving early – dollars we can use for other luxuries like better accommodation, meals out, and activities like theatre. Try the big sites like [Cudo](https://cudo.com.au/au/experiences), [Trafalgar Tours](https://www.trafalgar.com/en-sg), [Wendy Wu Tours](https://www.wendywutours.com), as they always have great deals for early-bird specials. ![Make sure your destination is kid-friendly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-11.png "In article image 11 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Make sure your destination is kid-friendly A non-negotiable when it comes to travelling with kids is – surprise, surprise! – to ensure that your venue suits kids. Thankfully, a quick Google search will tell you the best vacation spots for families, so you have zero excuse for picking a spot your children will find boring. But what makes for a child-friendly location? Here are my four must-haves when choosing a vacation spot: Easy to access attractions: No long drives in between sights Lots of food options: It can be challenging to make kids try new food, so it’s nice to have a backup plan for safe spots to eat that offer their favourites Heaps of fun activities: The outdoors – think theme parks, wildlife, pools, and beaches – are a must Family-friendly accommodations: Kids need comfortable beds and spaces, so reserve hostels and capsule hotels for when you are on a solo trip or they are older ***Further reading: [10 Reasons why Bali is great for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bali-great-for-kids/ "10 Reasons why Bali is great for kids")*** ## Get covered with holiday insurance Don’t forget travel insurance. Although nobody wants to think that something wrong will happen during your family vacation, it doesn’t hurt to have a cushion for emergencies when you’re far from home. In many countries, including Australia, insurance is a highly recommended requirement and is totally worth it, too. It covered medical emergencies, flight cancellations or delays, and lost baggage. When worse comes to worst, and you end up in a natural disaster, insurance has your back. Although it’s an additional expense, you get peace of mind in return. My absolute top recommendation for insurance is [Cover More](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/11003?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.covermore.com.au%2f). I have claimed twice with them, once for over $7,000 (I told you things can go wrong when you travel!) and both times, the claim was easy and fast to make. ## Get local insight of where you are going As a seasoned traveller, I’ve learned that there’s nothing more valuable than learning about a place through the eyes of its residents. To do this, I fully use personal blogs, social media, and forums when planning our family vacations. There are critical things about a place you do not learn from fellow tourists and travellers. For example, I planned a trip to a popular Southeast Asian city. But scouring Reddit, I found that many locals actually have negative views of tourists! For one, they hate visitors’ excessive use of cars, making traffic unbearable and disrupting their everyday lives. These insights were crucial for me to schedule my vacation. Negativity aside, you get a whiff of how best to enjoy a spot to sightsee from a local perspective. You discover the best cafés, restaurants, and attractions that may be less popular for tourists. ## Start shopping for holiday essentials as soon as possible I enjoy packing long before an actual trip. Knowing I have everything I need to turn a vacation into a stress-free holiday as a single parent is therapeutic. Think nappies, sunblock, appropriate clothes and footwear, sunglasses, personal care items, and your first aid kit. Also, consider buying toys and busy books to entertain little kids during a long trip. In addition, you don’t want a “hangry” (hungry + angry) child on the road. So, I also include quite a lot of healthier snacks like protein bars, popcorn chips, and electrolyte drinks. It’s also much cheaper to bring your own food than buy from convenience stores and snack bars. (Needless to say, check the expiration dates if you plan to purchase early on.) ![Write a list of what to pack/stress-free single parent holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-9.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to have a stress-free single parent holiday (cont.) ## Write a list of what to pack Planning a family vacation is both exciting and intimidating, particularly with kids. An organised checklist is vital for a stress-free vacation. Note essentials like clothes, toiletries, and meds tailored to each member. Prepare enough snacks, entertainment, and comfort items for the journey. Include age-appropriate activities at your target place for a balanced plan. Remember documents, insurance, and contacts. Prioritise safety with emergency numbers, first aid, and health needs. Create a routine accommodating nap times and meals. Consider the weather and involve kids in checklist-making. Crafting a thorough checklist guarantees a smooth, enjoyable trip for the family, with room for flexibility if needed. ## Choose luggage that is easy to move with kids The right kind of luggage is another non-negotiable for travelling as a single parent, minus the stress. When it comes to going on trips with kids, opt for a durable and light suitcase, like a hard polycarbonate shell. Meanwhile, a suitcase with 360-degree spinner wheels can be easily manoeuvred with one hand while holding your little rascal with the other. If they’re big enough, you can also get your tiny travellers their own luggage. Choose a lightweight suitcase with heavy-duty wheels and straps to keep things together. Recently, ride-on suitcases have become very popular for families as they can double as footrests and chairs during transit. ## Need a stroller? Get a light-weight travel one Unless you are willing to carry your little bundle of joy in your arms the whole time during your trip, you’ll need a light-weight portable and collapsible stroller. For your trips, make sure you can easily stash your baby’s stroller in the overhead compartment or the trunk of your [rental car](https://bargaincarrentals.com.au/rental-search/ "rental car"). There are also strollers that automatically fold themselves with a click. When [choosing a stroller for your trip](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/travel-strollers/), consider where you are going. Some strollers are made for flat, smooth surfaces, while some can stand on terrains. Think about whether your carrier allows bringing a stroller as your carry-on. ## Plan rest time on your holiday itinerary Resist planning your holiday plans with back-to-back activities. Rest is an absolute necessity for a stress-free holiday – for you and for the kids. Regardless of the age of my kids, I always place rest as a top priority during vacations. I typically plan our first day as a rest day, especially if it is a long trip. Getting well-rested and refreshed to enjoy the rest of the vacation is important. Usually, we sleep in the hotel as soon as we arrive. If you have little kids, the more critical rest becomes. When restless, children are super challenging to handle. They won’t sit around, they won’t sleep, and they will get cranky – all the ingredients that will ruin your trip. So, plan just enough activities for the day to allow plenty of much-needed rest for everyone’s tired legs. Anyway, you can always return if your kids want to explore more. If you’d rather hand the planning over to someone else entirely, the [best premium tours](https://www.gadventures.com/travel-styles/geluxe/) take care of every detail, from itinerary to accommodation, so you can be fully present with your kids instead of juggling logistics. ![Make sure your kids are airport prepared](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-12.png "In article image 12 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Make sure your kids are airport-prepared As a single mum with two young daughters, I used to get pretty paranoid when taking them to the airport. But now I have it down pat. I have their travel documents in an inner pocket in their jackets, along with a card containing my contact details. Weeks before our flight, we also practised what to do in case one of them got lost. I make sure they know to seek assistance only from security and what information to share with authorities. In addition, teach your kids how to behave during different times on your flight. Tell them what happens during security checks, like why and how to take off their shoes when passing through a scanner, if needed. Through books and videos, you can also prepare their expectations once they board the aeroplane, aeroplane ears, and seatbelts. ## Tips for stress-free single parent holiday (cont.) ## Pack first aid and medications Next in our guide for a stress-free single-parent vacation is ensuring you have first aid and medications on hand. With little kids, you’re better off expecting a wound or a scratch here and there. Here are what you need for your first aid kit, at the very minimum (don’t worry, it doesn’t take up much space): - Thermometer - Cute bandages (for babies and toddlers) and liquid bandage (for older kids) - Alcohol-based sanitiser or antibacterial wipes - Antibiotic ointment - Sterile gauze pad - Antiseptic cleanser - Antihistamine - Pain reliever and fever medication (I love paracetamol lollies!) - Anti-gas drops - Instant ice packs - Tweezers and scissors - Wee bag (for babies) If your kids are old enough, you can teach them basic first aid as well. Children as young as six years old can start learning about emergencies. ![Make sure you have valid passports and visas/stress-free single parent holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-10.png "In article image 10 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Make sure you have valid passports and visas Fortunately, I’ve never experienced cancelling vacation plans due to an expired passport or visa, but it definitely happens to some. Imagine wasting all that time meticulously planning your activities and packing essentials – all for nothing! Plus, your kids will be disappointed because you overlooked something this basic. Here are the measures you must take well in advance to prevent this from happening: - Confirm the expiration dates of passports for both you and your children - Research visa requirements for your chosen location, as regulations vary - Initiate the visa application process early to avoid last-minute rush - Keep photocopies and digital scans of all important documents as a precaution This proactive approach guarantees smooth entry and exit from your excursion, allowing you to concentrate on enjoying quality time with your children without unwelcome hiccups. ## Prepare for long journeys (flights, car, train) I’m pretty sure all kids hate long journeys. But by proactively addressing the unique demands of different modes of travel, you can pave the way for a more enjoyable and stress-free single-parent journey with your kids. For flights, reserve seats in advance to secure comfortable seating arrangements for you and your kids. Load tablets or devices with kid-friendly apps, movies, and games. Or, encourage them to bring books and toys to turn down the tantrums during downtime. Prioritise comfort by packing cute neck pillows and snugly fleece blankets. In cars, strategise rest stops for stretching and bathroom breaks. Install sunshades to shield from glare, and organise a variety of car-friendly games or audiobooks. I also recommend preparing a playlist of their favourite nursery and Disney songs to sing along to throughout the drive. Make sure there’s something for everyone on your playlist. On trains, select family-friendly seating and explore the train’s amenities together. Kids will love going through different cars with you. You can also create a designated “activity time” during the journey for shared games or drawing. ***Further reading: [How to prepare for a long car ride with kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/long-car-ride-kids/)*** ## Learn language basics for your destination Although English is universally understood and spoken, it doesn’t hurt to have basic knowledge of expressions in your place. These are incredibly helpful in building rapport with the locals and asking for directions. Locals do not really expect you to converse with them fully in their own language, but simple greetings can go a long way. Back in the day, it was harder to learn other languages properly because we had to study using books. Thankfully, that’s not the case today. There are now many free apps that teach you how to properly pronounce words in other languages. Long before your trip, come up with a range of activities to learn basic phrases to help you and your kids converse with the locals. ## Keep your money safe Finally, ensure a successful holiday with your children by prioritising the security of your finances. Opt for a travel money card, which is a secure alternative to cash. Load it with the desired amount before your trip, reducing the risk of carrying large sums. These cards often offer favourable exchange rates and can be easily replaced if lost or stolen. Remember to keep a backup card and store it separately. This approach not only safeguards your funds but also grants you peace of mind, allowing you to focus on creating lasting memories with your children. ## Final words: Planning a stress-free single-parent holiday As a seasoned solo parent with a trove of both triumphant vacation stories and incredulous “how is this even happening” moments, I hope this guide will help you orchestrate the greatest single-parent vacation without the stress. From booking flights in advance to planning for rest to keeping your money secure, these simple steps ensure a seamless vacation that promises delight for the entire family, including yourself. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-single-parent-holiday/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-single-parent-holiday/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** vacation, travel, travel money, long journey, airport prepared --- ### [Healthy Habits for Single Parents: Realistic Ways to Feel Better](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healthy-habits-for-single-parents/) **Published:** May 31, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Quick Takeaways on Realistic Healthy Habits for Single Parents in 2026** - **Hydration is your cheapest hack:** A glass of water by the bed is the absolute easiest way to kickstart an exhausted body. - **Micro-mindfulness actually works:** You do not need an hour of total silence; ten deep breaths in a parked car count. - **Prioritise unapologetic rest:** Ditch the guilt over the unwashed dishes and protect your limited sleep windows fiercely. - **Incidental exercise is enough:** A 20-minute walk or a living room stretch session is all it takes to boost endorphins. - **Hack your nutrition:** Pre-chopped veggies and “snack plates” for dinner are perfectly acceptable ways to fuel yourself. - **Adult connection is vital:** Leaving voice notes for friends or chatting at the school gate protects your mental health. - **Lower the bar:** Escaping into Netflix or celebrating the fact that the kids are fed is legitimate, necessary self-care. ## Why is hydration one of the easiest healthy habits for single parents? **Drinking plenty of water first thing in the morning rehydrates your body, boosts energy levels, and supports kidney function without costing a single cent or adding to your mental load.** Yes, ladies, we mean water, not the leftover wine from last night! When you are running a single-parent household completely on your own, you need to drink plenty of water to clear your mind and energise your tired muscles. We all know the challenges of single mum fatigue are heavy and relentless, so keeping your health habits aggressively simple is the key to actually sticking to them. - Put a full glass of water by your bed in the evening and drink it before your feet even hit the floor the next morning. - It feels incredibly good to flush the system, and it prevents that dreaded mid-morning headache when you are wrangling a toddler. - If plain water really is not your thing, switch to healthy herbal teas to get the water content alongside a few extra health benefits. - Buy yourself a massive, brightly coloured drink bottle with a straw; you are much more likely to sip away at it while driving the school run. For many single parents, the win is learning to create a routine so simple it still works on the messiest, most busy days. ## How can single mums fit mindfulness into the daily chaos? **You can practice mindfulness in just a few minutes a day by taking deep, intentional breaths or using a free guided app before the kids wake up. These self-care tips can actively help reduce stress, help you manage overwhelm, and stabilise blood pressure.** While we constantly rush around putting out spot fires, our breathing often becomes incredibly short and shallow. You absolutely do not need an hour of total silence in a dedicated yoga room to find some zen. Just learning to stop for a few minutes before collecting the kids from school can reset your entire afternoon and stop you from snapping over spilled milk. - Find a free app on stress management techniques or read up on [meditation for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/meditation-for-mums/) to figure out what tiny practices work for your chaotic schedule. - If a formal practice feels like too much work, just set a timer to take 10 deep, relaxing breaths—in through the nose, out through the mouth. - Try “grounding” yourself while doing the dishes by focusing entirely on the temperature of the water and the smell of the soap. - Deep breathing is also an excellent, practical trick to teach your kids when they are feeling overwhelmed or having a total meltdown. ![healthy habits for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Healthy-habits-1.jpg "Healthy habits 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How can single mothers manage sleep deprivation without losing their minds? **Establishing a strict bedtime routine and aggressively prioritising sleep over housework helps regulate your nervous system and combat the chronic fatigue of solo parenting.** Let’s be brutally honest: single mothers are often running on an ungodly lack of sleep. When you are the only one getting up to soothe nightmares or fetch glasses of water at 3 AM, the exhaustion sinks deep into your bones. The most critical healthy habit you can adopt is giving yourself permission to leave the house messy so you can actually rest. - Stop “revenge bedtime procrastination,” where you stay up until midnight scrolling on your phone just to get some quiet time. - Leave the folding in the laundry basket; the clothes will still be there tomorrow, but your opportunity to get eight hours of sleep will not. Sometimes, you just have to accept that some days the laundry wins. - Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and completely free of noisy kids’ toys to signal to your brain that it is time to shut down. - If your kids still nap during the day, absolutely banish the guilt and lie down on the couch at the exact same time. ## What are the best ways to keep moving when you are an exhausted solo parent? **Daily movement, like a quick 20-minute evening walk or stretching in your living room, releases endorphins and keeps your body strong without requiring an expensive, time-consuming gym membership.** Whether you do some simple stretches or a quick, sweaty session on the living room rug, including movement in your daily routine is paramount. It keeps the endorphins flowing and helps your body cope with the intense physical demands of single parenting and juggling childcare responsibilities. You do not have to train like an Olympian or buy fancy activewear to feel the very real benefits. - Try taking a 20-minute night walk after dinner; stick on your headphones, listen to your favourite tunes, and get some essential quiet time. - If you are stuck at home while the kids finally sleep, check out these [12 online fitness programs you can do in your undies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/). - Have a 10-minute kitchen dance party with your kids while dinner is cooking to burn off their crazy energy and get your heart rate up. - Remember, any movement is drastically better than none, so just do what you can manage today and let the rest go. All these self-care tips can leave you feeling less stressed and help you cope with the physical and emotional demands of single parenthood. ## What are the easiest healthy eating hacks for time-poor single mums? **Relying on pre-chopped frozen vegetables, bulk batch-cooking, and simple “snack plates” ensures you get vital nutrients without the immense mental load of cooking complex daily meals.** Feeding a family on a single income is hard enough, but finding the energy to cook a nutritious meal at 6 PM is an entirely different battle. We often end up eating our kids’ leftover crusts over the sink because making a separate adult meal feels impossible. Simplifying your nutrition takes the pressure off, makes life easier, and supports basic child health without turning mealtime into a full production. - Buy the frozen, pre-chopped vegetables; they are just as nutritious as fresh, much cheaper, and save you 15 minutes of chopping. - Embrace the “snack plate” dinner on hard days by throwing cheese, crackers, carrot sticks, and some hummus onto a plate for everyone. - When you actually do have the energy to make a big spaghetti bolognese, double the recipe and freeze the rest in single-serve portions. - Hide handfuls of spinach in your morning smoothie so you get a massive hit of iron before the chaos of the day even begins. ## How do you find a real connection when you are parenting alone? **Connecting with other adults, whether through a quick coffee date, a school gate chat, or exchanging voice notes with a friend, is a proven way to reduce isolation, strengthen your support network, and protect a single parent’s mental health.** Being the sole adult in the house, night after night, can be incredibly lonely and isolating. Make it a strict habit to connect with at least one other adult every single day, and no, having an argument with your toddler does not count. Phone a friend, or better still, meet them for a quick coffee if you can scrape together the precious time. - If an in-person catch-up is impossible, leave voice messages on WhatsApp for a mate so you can chat and vent on your own schedule. - Strike up a conversation with another parent at school pick-up to slowly build your support system, even if it is just complaining about the cost of school uniforms. - If you are feeling completely overwhelmed by the isolation and the weight of doing it all, reach out to professional support services like [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au) to speak with someone who can actually help. - When things get hectic, seeking help or choosing to seek professional support before you hit the wall can be the strongest move you make. A quick chat during playgroup or pick-up can remind you that other mums have similar experiences, and that the challenges of single parenting are not yours to carry in silence. ![healthy habits for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Healthy-habits-2.jpg "Healthy habits 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why is lowering your expectations the ultimate self-care habit? **Giving yourself permission to stop, escape into a TV show, and celebrate the small, mundane wins can actively prevent burnout and build long-term resilience.** It is completely natural to doubt yourself when you are doing the job of two entirely separate people. Throw away the toxic idea of the “perfect” wellness routine and simply add one small habit to your day that shows yourself some genuine compassion. Sometimes, the absolute healthiest thing you can do for your family is absolutely nothing at all. - Have an extra 10 minutes in bed, or lock the bathroom door for a hot bubble bath once the kids are finally asleep and the house is quiet. You deserve alone time and a few minutes away from your children without drowning in guilt. - Write down three basic things you achieved today; yes, getting the kids fed and out the door with both shoes on absolutely counts as a massive, consistent daily win. - Embrace unapologetic escapism by losing yourself in a good book or binge-watching a trashy reality series on Netflix. - Remind yourself constantly that a happy, somewhat rested mum is a million times better for your kids than a stressed, burnt-out perfectionist. **Join the Conversation:** Single motherhood is an incredibly wild ride, and you should never have to navigate it completely alone. Come and join our private Facebook community, the **[SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/ "SingleMum Vine")**, to connect, vent, and share practical survival hacks with a brilliant group of Aussie mums who truly get it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healthy-habits-for-single-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healthy-habits-for-single-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** self care, healthy habits --- ### [How In-Home Physiotherapy Helps Older Australians Stay Independent Longer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-in-home-physiotherapy-helps-older-australians-stay-independent-longer/) **Published:** May 30, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As Australians age, maintaining independence becomes increasingly important for both physical health and emotional wellbeing. Many older adults want to continue living comfortably in their own homes for as long as possible, but mobility issues, chronic pain, balance problems and injuries can make everyday tasks more difficult. This is where in-home physiotherapy can make a significant difference. Physiotherapy is designed to improve movement, strength, balance and overall physical function. For older Australians, receiving treatment at home offers several unique advantages that support long-term independence and quality of life. Rather than travelling to clinics or hospitals, seniors can access personalised care in familiar surroundings where they feel most comfortable. ## Why in-home physiotherapy is more accessible for seniors One of the biggest benefits of in-home care is convenience. Travelling to appointments can become stressful or physically demanding for elderly individuals, especially for those recovering from surgery, managing chronic conditions or living with reduced mobility. Public transport may not always be accessible, and relying on family members or carers for transportation can sometimes limit how often appointments are attended. Having a physiotherapist come directly to the home removes transportation barriers and ensures treatment remains consistent and accessible. Consistency is particularly important when it comes to rehabilitation and maintaining physical function. Missed appointments or inconsistent exercise routines can slow recovery and contribute to declining mobility over time. In-home physiotherapy helps create a more manageable and sustainable treatment process, allowing older adults to stay engaged with their care plans more effectively. ## Creating a safer home environment Home-based treatment also allows physiotherapists to assess the patient’s real living environment. This provides valuable insight into factors that may contribute to falls or mobility challenges, such as stairs, slippery surfaces, loose rugs, poor furniture positioning or limited accessibility. By identifying these risks, physiotherapists can recommend practical modifications to improve safety around the home. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-yankrukov-5793683-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yankrukov-5793683 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by yan krukau from pexels](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-in-white-dress-up-shirt-holding-the-shoulder-of-woman-in-white-t-shirt-5793683/ "photo by yan krukau from pexels") Simple adjustments can make a major difference. Recommendations may include installing handrails, rearranging furniture to improve movement pathways, using assistive devices correctly or improving lighting in key areas of the home. These small changes often help older adults feel safer and more confident while carrying out everyday tasks. ## Personalised exercise programs that support independence Another key advantage is personalised exercise programs tailored to the patient’s individual needs and surroundings. Exercises can focus on improving strength, flexibility, coordination and balance using equipment and spaces already available in the home. This often makes it easier for older adults to continue their exercises independently between appointments, helping to maintain long-term progress. Unlike generic fitness routines, physiotherapy programs are designed around the patient’s current ability levels, medical conditions and personal goals. For some individuals, the focus may be on improving walking stability and preventing falls. For others, it may involve recovering after surgery, managing chronic pain or maintaining mobility while living with neurological conditions. ## How physiotherapy helps prevent falls Falls are one of the leading causes of injury among older Australians, and physiotherapy plays an important role in prevention. Falls can have serious physical and emotional consequences, including fractures, hospitalisation and reduced confidence in mobility. After experiencing a fall, many seniors become fearful of moving around independently, which can lead to reduced activity levels and further physical decline. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-yankrukov-5793977-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yankrukov-5793977 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by yan krukau](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/woman-in-white-dress-shirt-holding-a-person-s-legs-5793977/) Through targeted balance training, gait correction and muscle strengthening, physiotherapists help reduce the risk of falls and improve confidence when walking or performing daily activities. Increased confidence can also encourage greater social participation and physical activity, which are both essential for healthy ageing. ## Staying active supports mental wellbeing Remaining socially active is closely linked to mental health and overall wellbeing. Seniors who maintain mobility and confidence are often more likely to continue participating in community activities, spending time with friends and family, attending appointments independently and enjoying hobbies that keep them mentally engaged. For seniors managing chronic conditions such as arthritis, Parkinson’s disease, osteoporosis or stroke recovery, physiotherapy can assist with pain management and mobility maintenance. Regular movement and guided rehabilitation help improve joint function, reduce stiffness and support overall physical health. Many older adults find they can continue participating in activities they enjoy for much longer with the right support. ## Managing chronic conditions through physiotherapy Many older Australians live with conditions like arthritis, stroke recovery or Parkinson’s disease, all of which can make everyday movement more challenging over time. Joint pain, stiffness, balance issues and reduced coordination can affect simple tasks like walking, climbing stairs or getting around safely at home. In-home physiotherapy helps by improving strength, mobility, posture and muscle control through gentle, personalised exercises that fit into daily life. Because treatment happens at home, sessions can focus on real-life movements and routines, helping seniors feel more confident, comfortable and independent while continuing to enjoy the activities that matter most to them. ## The comfort of receiving care at home ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-karola-g-4506075-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-4506075 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by www Kaboompics Com](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/crop-unrecognizable-chiropractor-examining-arm-joint-of-female-patient-4506075/) In-home services such as [mobile physiotherapy](https://www.movinghealthcare.com.au/) also provide a more comfortable and relaxed treatment environment. Many patients feel more at ease receiving care in familiar surroundings, which can improve engagement and communication throughout the rehabilitation process. Clinical settings can sometimes feel overwhelming or intimidating for elderly patients, particularly for those experiencing cognitive decline, anxiety or confusion in unfamiliar environments. Home-based care removes much of this stress and allows treatment sessions to feel more personalised and supportive. ## Supporting family members and carers Family members and carers also benefit from in-home physiotherapy. Physiotherapists can provide guidance on safe transfers, mobility assistance and strategies for supporting loved ones without causing strain or injury. This collaborative approach helps create a safer and more supportive home environment for everyone involved. Carers often play a vital role in helping older adults maintain independence, but without proper guidance, caregiving responsibilities can become physically demanding and emotionally stressful. Physiotherapists can educate carers on correct lifting techniques, safe mobility support and ways to encourage physical activity safely between sessions. ## Why preventative physiotherapy matters Physiotherapy is not only helpful after an injury or health setback — it can also play a big role in preventing problems before they start. By addressing small mobility issues early, older Australians may be able to stay active, avoid falls and maintain their independence for longer. Staying mobile also supports emotional wellbeing, confidence and overall quality of life, especially for seniors who want to continue living comfortably in their own homes. Even gentle improvements in balance, strength or movement can make everyday tasks feel easier and safer, helping older adults feel more confident doing the things they enjoy each day. ## Helping older Australians stay independent for longer Ultimately, staying independent is about more than just mobility. It is about maintaining dignity, confidence and the ability to continue living life on your own terms. In-home physiotherapy provides older Australians with practical, personalised support that helps them remain active, safe and independent for longer. As Australia’s ageing population continues to grow, demand for [accessible home-based healthcare services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-modern-healthcare-essentials/) is also increasing. In-home physiotherapy offers a flexible and highly personalised approach to care that supports healthy ageing while allowing seniors to continue living comfortably within their own communities. With the right support, many older Australians can maintain their independence, continue enjoying the activities they love and experience a better quality of life well into their later years. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-in-home-physiotherapy-helps-older-australians-stay-independent-longer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-in-home-physiotherapy-helps-older-australians-stay-independent-longer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Why being a single mum makes me a better parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-single-mum-makes-me-a-better-parent/) **Published:** August 15, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When I look back over the last decade of my life, I feel a little baffled. I certainly never expected to be a divorced single mum. Not in a million years. I married because I was madly in love, and my dreams of the distant future included a 40th wedding anniversary, downsizing and growing old with my husband/soul mate/father of my children. In reality, we staggered into our 10th wedding anniversary tired, disillusioned and both knowing it wasn’t working. Shortly after, we separated, and I became (dramatic pause) a single mum. But here’s the thing. It was at this time that I became a much better mum. In fact, I became the mum I always wanted to be, but had never quite found within me. Seven years into my single mother journey, and I know that being a single mum has made me a better parent. This is my story of motherhood from a partnered mum to a single mum. It will resonate with many women. Think about it in the context of your life. If you haven’t realised it already … you are a bloody amazing single mum. ## Why being a single mum makes me a better parent. ### THE LESSONS FROM A FAMILY BREAK-UP Separating from children is indescribably hard. It is never done lightly and often avoided for as long as possible. The avoidance of the reality that breaking up is for the best can lead to years, sometimes decades, of ‘[staying together for the kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-staying-together-for-the-kids-may-not-be-the-best-thing-to-do/)’. It is a desperately sad period of time for all involved. Everyone feels the strain, children included. What happened to our happy family? How did we get this so wrong? How can we get back to where we were? Living through this was one of the saddest times in my life. Not only had my dreams not panned out, but they were affecting the people I loved most in the world, my children. Life had been simple, planned … a given. But now it had been cut adrift and was heading into the unknown. I had two choices: Float along with it and hope for the best. Or consider it from another perspective, i.e. separating. Ultimately, it all came back to my daughters. I had always known I wanted to be a loving, caring, hands-on mum. But now I was thinking bigger. I wanted to be a strong role model, I wanted to teach them about the power of change and show them that … I’m just gonna say it … if you get lemons, make lemonade! It was during this difficult time that I discovered the lioness within me. No one was going to f-ck with my kids’ lives, least of all us as parents. I discovered more about myself as a mum during our separation than I had in the previous ten years. I learnt that challenges which seemed insurmountable were a walk in the park when my children’s happiness was at stake. I was no longer just ‘mum’. I was somehow more than that. I became a strong mum. A fearless mum. A super mum. ### PARENTING ON MUM’S TERMS So, you have made the decision to separate. It comes with a world of emotions. You are now officially a single mother. Even if you are co-parenting, how you choose to mother is entirely your choice. No back-up. No support. No, just wait till your Dad gets home. Whether it’s discipline, [homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/) or the ‘birds and bees’ talk, you need to think on your feet and do it alone. For me, it was great. I loved it. For the first time, I was able to parent exactly how I wanted. It meant living by my values in my home. These are kindness and respect. I enforce my values strongly encouraging my girls to share them and take them into the rest of their lives. I believe in a peaceful, happy home. There is rarely raised voices, yet if we want a sing-along and dance halfway through dinner, yes, that is allowed. In fact, it is a regular occurrence. I learnt at the beginning of this crazy thing called co-parenting to always concentrate on my own corner to be a better mum. I developed a new way of co-parenting, which worked for us. I call it complementary co-parenting. This involves understanding that you have no control over how Dad parents. Instead of worrying or arguing, adapt your parenting style to complement his. For us, this meant my girls would come back from Dad’s exhausted (but happy) and full of their favourite junk food, so I provided quiet time, routine and nourishing meals. As I learned to co-parent, I became more defined as a mother. I learnt that being a mum was so much more than the daily routines that had dictated our world. It was about providing balance, contentment, peace and a true understanding of what matters. I learned to prioritise what is important as a single mum. I became an open-minded mum. An empathetic mum. A more balanced mum. [![](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/11783-848610)](https://imp.i339540.net/c/1253070/848610/11783) ![](//imp.pxf.io/i/1253070/848610/11783)### I’M A BETTER PARENT FOLLOWING MY DREAMS Slowly, life levels out and being a single mother is the norm. For many, myself included, we actually really enjoy it. It takes time to get to this place, but it is so worth it. Your life may feel exciting again and full of hope. You are taking a new path, which, before, was daunting, but now is full of opportunity. A new home, a career change, even a relationship. When I think about the woman I was before I became a single mum, it almost scares me. I had so much untapped potential, much of which has improved my ability to parent. I have discovered skills and traits that drive me every day. Perseverance, independence, adaptability, and the desire to be the best role model I can be. I know what I want from my life, as a family, and for myself as a person. The journey to reach my goals is well underway and my girls are enjoying the ride. A high point of my life, which I will never forget, is when my oldest daughter told me she was proud of me. And your children will be proud of you, too. You see, however much you may ‘think’ you are ballsing up this mothering thing, you are not. As a single mum juggling money, work, home-life, an ex-partner and everything else life throws at you, you are a shining example of a modern-day single mother. They may see you struggle, but they also see you finding solutions and overcoming challenges every day. You are their hero. You are strong, independent, surviving, thriving and kicking goals. I am a long way from perfect. There are still regular occasions that everything comes crashing down, a few choice swear words are released, and I find myself apologising to my kids and telling them for the 100th time that mothering doesn’t come with a manual, and I am doing my best. But I am really happy with the mum that I have become, and my mothering journey is more enjoyable than ever. I know that being a single mum has made me a better parent. And, if you think about it, you might realise that too. ![Why being a single mum makes me a better parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Why-being-a-single-mum-makes-me-a-better-parent.png "Why being a single mum makes me a better parent - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-single-mum-makes-me-a-better-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/being-a-single-mum-makes-me-a-better-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** parenting, single parenting, happy single mum, complementary co parenting, co parenting, self love, values, family breakup --- ### [12 Surprising life lessons you can learn from divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/12-surprising-life-lessons-you-can-learn-from-divorce/) **Published:** March 14, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Getting divorced with kids is a learning curve. Which is a mild way of putting it. To be fair, it’s more of a learning rollercoaster where we are forced to do things that are upsetting, unnatural and waaaay outside our comfort zone. That said, every challenge is a lesson. And as I sit here eight years after my divorce, I can clearly see the lessons I learned. More importantly, I can see how they changed me for the better. Whether you are in the midst of your break-up, coming through the other side, or in a state of shock thinking ‘where did it go wrong’ I am here to highlight the good bits. Here are 12 surprising life lessons you can learn from divorce. > *And, in case you’re wondering who I am …* > > *I’m Lucy, a single mum and the founder of the website you are on. I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums.* > > *You can get more in-depth, personalised support from my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://ecourse.beanstalkmums.com.au/).* ## 12 SURPRISING LIFE LESSONS YOU CAN LEARN FROM DIVORCE ### 1. CHILDREN ARE MORE RESILIENT THAN YOU THINK Your children are going to fine. Your separation will not turn them into crazed hermits or cat women. They will live perfectly normal lives. In some ways [divorce can be positive for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/). Living in two happy homes is better than one unhappy home. Plus, they learn empathy for others, become more organised and can create better relationships with each parent and their siblings. So, stop worrying! *Further reading: [The positive impact of divorce on children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/)* ### 2. YOU HAVE HIDDEN STRENGTHS I often worry that if my marriage hadn’t broken down, I wouldn’t have discovered so many strengths hidden within me. Your divorce journey will have you showcasing just how strong you really are. You are a protector, a warrior. You become resilient and fiercely independent. These are strengths that will make you an even better mother, employee, friend, lover. ### 3. YOU LIKE YOURSELF AGAIN It is not uncommon to feel like a failure when your relationship breaks down. We try and analyse what we did wrong and what is wrong with us. But you will soon realise that there is nothing wrong with you. You are a perfectly imperfect human being like the rest of us, and that is enough. From there, you will learn to give yourself some slack and like yourself again. Then, loving yourself is just a stone’s throw away. ### 4. THE LITTLE THINGS DON’T MATTER Did I really used to worry about the type of car I drove? Or that my daughter’s top matched her pants? Irrelevant stuff no longer matters to me, and it’s a weight off. When you don’t sweat the small stuff, you free your mind to concentrate on what really matters. Swapping your attention from worrying about your kids wearing Bonds undies, to focusing on the real-life bond you have with them, is far more fulfilling. ***Further reading: Things I no longer give a sh\*t about now I’m a single mum.*** ### 5. IT’S OK TO BE DIFFERENT Even with the ever-increasing number of single parents hitting the school playgrounds, as a single mum you may still feel different from the norm. And that is perfectly ok. Married life was about fitting in and keeping up with the Jones’s. Single mum life is about doing things your way. Which would you rather? ### 6. YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR WORTH It is not unusual for a single mum to look back at her married life and wonder ‘what was I thinking’ or ‘why did I put up with that for so long’. This is because you will have learnt your worth. One of the most important lessons you can learn from divorce is to know your worth. You will then accept nothing but the very best for yourself and your children. You’ll be amazed how much this will change your life … for the better. ## 12 SURPRISING LIFE LESSONS YOU CAN LEARN FROM DIVORCE (CONT.) ### 7. YOU ARE A WOMAN! Once you find your groove as a single parent, you will start to remove the layers of armour and find yourself again. For many, this means discovering themselves as an individual and as a woman. This could be finding love again or at least intimacy with a partner. For others, it could be about [self-pleasure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/) or just enjoying the freedom and power of womanhood. This is one of the most empowering things you can learn from divorce. ***Further reading: [How to have the best sex life ever … with yourself.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/)*** ### 8. YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING If I got through the nightmare of my beloved family breakup, then so can you. And once you have, you will be equipped to deal with anything life throws at you. You’ll know it, and so will everyone around you. You become capable, fearless and oh so proud. Even better, your kids will see this in you and respect you all the more for it. ### 9. FINANCIAL CONTROL IS FREEING Many women worry about finances when they separate. Earning money and managing money can seem daunting. But when you have control of your money, you have the power, and with that power comes freedom. [Save for things you want](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/). Spend on the things you want. No more outgoings on slabs of beer, or anything that isn’t purely beneficial to you or your children. ***Further resources: Get excellent, free support with your finances from [MoneySmart](https://moneysmart.gov.au/getting-divorced-or-separating).*** ### 10. YOU ARE FINE ON YOUR OWN Becoming single again in my late 30’s gave me nightmares involving lots of empty shelves and me choosing which one to sit on. But you know what? It’s fine to be single at any age. So many people are separating and re-partnering later in life now. Not only is it completely accepted, but it’s actually gratifying, freeing and a wonderful learning experience to have a period of singledom later in life. ### 11. IT IS A BEGINNING, NOT AN END With divorce comes sadness. It is the end of something that you honestly believed would not have an end. Yet, with every end comes a new beginning. And new beginnings are exciting. Once you learn you are at the beginning of something new, you will be able to embrace the change and enjoy your journey. ### 12. REAL FRIENDS WILL SHINE Any traumatic life event will shine the light on your real friends … and leave the imposters out in the cold. I learned very quickly who my real friends were when I separated from my husband. It was great. Since then, my life has been enriched by friendships with wonderful people who really get me. ## OH AND ONE FINAL LESSON YOU CAN LEARN FROM DIVORCE ### 13. EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS OK IN THE END However hard things get, however low or desperate you might feel, you are going to get through this. And not only that, you will be OK. You will be more than OK. I work with hundreds of single mums every day who are not only surviving, but thriving. This. Will. Be. You. ![Life lessons divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Surprising-life-lessons.png "Surprising life lessons - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/12-surprising-life-lessons-you-can-learn-from-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/12-surprising-life-lessons-you-can-learn-from-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Life, Divorce **Tags:** positive thinking, Children of divorce, empowerment, new beginnings, good things about divorce --- ### [12 Best co-parenting apps and software 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-co-parenting-apps-2024/) **Published:** May 19, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There is an app for everything nowadays. Some verge on the ridiculous, yet some are incredibly helpful. For this reason, you won’t be surprised to discover there are several great **apps specifically for co-parenting**. Depending on the relationship between the parents, most co-parenting situations will eventually reach a comfortable balance. However, in some cases, especially if there is tension, disagreement or non-compliance from either parent, it can turn everyday living into a rollercoaster ride for everyone involved, especially and sadly, our children. Children need stability, calm and security as they grow up. And not just with the big things like which house they’ll be sleeping at, but also the little things, like knowing their school excursion note will be signed off. The concern of these parental jobs is not their burden, and it’s our role as parents to have it covered, allowing our kids to be kids. Due to their capacity to synchronise, co-parenting apps can alleviate the need for communication about menial matters. It’s often the menial matters that cause disagreements that hamper co-parenting harmony. So, these apps can actually reduce conflict, which can only be a good thing. Let’s take a look at what co-parenting apps are available on the market at the moment. ## [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) The [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) app was created by a divorced couple who needed better communication and sharing of information regarding their children (hats off to a couple who can create an app post-divorce!) The end result is one of the most extensive co-parenting apps available with an array of tools that schedule child custody, track parenting time, share information, and manage expenses. It also logs communication to provide an accurate record of divorce proceedings. Part of the main Our Family Wizard website, it suggests useful resources such as counselling and divorce lawyers. [![Our Family Wizard | Co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-21-at-9.37.17-pm-1200x605.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-21 at 9.37.17 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ***Available via:*** *Website, Apple, Android* ***Free version:** 30-day money-back guarantee* ***Best features:*** *Easily work with third parties and professionals* ***Pros:** 30-day money-back guarantee, free access to legal and mental health professionals* ***Cons:** Calendar and scheduling features can take some getting used to.* ***You will love this app if:** You are happy to pay a reasonable cost for an app that has extensive, interactive co-parenting support and tools that genuinely help you to be the best co-parent you can be.* ## [Cozi app](https://www.cozi.com/) One of the simplest co-parenting apps we looked at is Cozi. Although not specifically designed for [co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/navigating-conflict-and-co-parenting-strategies-for-better-outcomes/ "co-parenting"), it has everything a co-parenting couple would need and more. With Cozi, you can set up shared calendars, create to-do lists, and share photos. It even allows you to store and share favourite recipes, which is handy for keeping meals consistent and dealing with food allergies across two homes. [![Cozi Family Organizer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-21-at-9.47.21-pm-1200x647.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-21 at 9.47.21 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.cozi.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:*** *Yes, free with ads* ***Best features:*** *Free version, easy-to-use family organiser* ***Pros:*** *Free to use, one account for all family members, features recipes and grocery lists* ***Cons:*** *Occasional glitches, ads can be annoying on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You want something super-easy to operate, which has heaps of cool features on a fresh, clean interface. Also, as it’s free, you can try it and see whether it works for you and your ex, without outlay.* ## [WeParent](https://weparent.app/) WeParent is an excellent time management and tracking app designed for divorced and separated co-parents. Manage your custody schedules and appointments, send messages to your private group, and organise contacts, lists, photos, and documents all from one app. We suggest taking full advantage of the 14-day free trial before committing to the monthly fee, as some users report errors that can make the app unusable. ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free for 14 days* ***Best features:** Fully featured scheduling, tracking, and messaging app for co-parents* ***Pros:** One subscription for the entire family plus support team (lawyers, counsellors, etc.), great customer service* ***Cons:** Reviewers report bugs and errors* ***You will love this app if:** You need an all-in-one scheduling and tracking tool.* ## [FamCal app](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.famcal&hl=en) The FamCal app has a host of features to improve family connection, so although it is not exclusively for co-parents, it can certainly be used by them. It has a shared calendar that allows every member of the family to share dates, events, schedules, tasks, and notes in one place. It keeps things particularly easy with visuals such as colour codes for each family member. The app is available for both Android and iOS users, and the basic version is free. [![Famcal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-24-at-1.58.13-pm-1200x572.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-24 at 1.58.13 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.famcal&hl=en) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes* ***Best features:** Free app, shared family calendar with notifications, memos and tasks* ***Pros:** Easy-to-use family calendar with useful add-ons like tasks and lists* ***Cons:** Free app is very basic, you have to pay for additional features like text month view, shared contacts and birthday/anniversary tracking* ***You will love this app if:** You have a large family or group to organise, where lots of people need to be connected and updated. Also handy if you respond to visuals with colour.* ## [2houses](https://www.2houses.com/en/) 2houses offers a great suite of features for every aspect of co-parenting. This co-parenting software covers the practicalities with an advanced management calendar and detailed expense recording. It also houses an extensive information-sharing feature called 2houses Journal. The idea is that even if your children are with the other parent, you’ll never feel far away as it allows the sharing of news, photos, videos and even those endearing children’s quotes. Another nice touch is the Wish List, on which you can send a photo and discuss a future gift for your child. You can use the best parental control software free of charge to always stay in touch with your kids. [![2 Houses | Co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-24-at-2.08.02-pm-1200x424.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-24 at 2.08.02 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.2houses.com/en/) ***Available via:*** *Website, Apple and Android* ***Free version:** Free 14-day trial* ***Best features:** Scheduling tool with finance and messaging features* ***Pros:** One account for the whole family* ***Cons:** Reviewers report glitches and auto-renewals* ***You will love this app if:** You are looking to streamline the practicality of co-parenting, as well as working with your ex to further enhance the well-being of your children.* ## Best co-parenting apps and software in 2024 ## [Custody Connection app](http://www.custodyconnection.com/) A straightforward and reputedly easy-to-use app, Custody Connection is based around a primary calendar programmed with a synchronised custody schedule. It can be customised for easy viewing and has an ultra-handy Trade Request Feature, should parents need to swap custody days. Avoid disputes as the app records whether requests are accepted or declined, then updates both parents’ calendars accordingly. [![Custody Connection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-24-at-2.01.14-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-24 at 2.01.14 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](http://www.custodyconnection.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple* ***Free version:** Free for 30 days ***Best features:** Scheduling app* ***Pros:** Shared calendar, scheduling changes can be done through the app* ***Cons:** Only available on the iPhone, hard to contact customer service* ***You will love this app if:** You and/or your ex-partner have busy schedules that are liable to change and affect the care of your children.* ## CoPilots If you want more than a calendar and scheduling app for co-parenting, CoPilots is for you. The app aims to help separated or divorced families raise happy kids between two homes with a variety of tools: a common calendar, a parenting schedule, a child journal, photo sharing, and messenger. Parents and any adult caretaker can view their child’s schedule as well as track contacts, appointments, and messages. Users can add multiple adults in the child’s circle, including different partners. ![CoPilots | Co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Untitled.png "Untitled - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** 30-day free trial* ***Best features:** Feature-packed, includes messenger, photo sharing and kids journal* ***Pros:** Multiple adults/caretakers can use the app without extra charge.* ***Cons:** User interface could be more streamlined and easier to navigate.* ***You will love this app if:** You’re looking for a well-rounded co-parenting app that lets you do much more than just create and view schedules.* ## [TimeTree app](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en) TimeTree puts your entire family, work, and social calendars in one place for easy management. The app makes it super easy to plan family events and organise school and work schedules. You can even chat with your co-parent right from the event calendar. This app is packed with features, including calendar and scheduling, shared notes and lists, and multiple calendars. If you own a business, you can also track inventories, share agendas and connect with the workplace. [![TimeTree ](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/4_t-wJjlmrfG-w3fCN_vTWiwcKswN8I9nyxY8VwLoDI8KEqcUbCwXcBUv3Mk6p7O1s0=w1150-h766)](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Web* ***Free version:** Yes, free with ads* ***Best features:** Calendar app for sharing and collaborating* ***Pros:** Easy to use, lots of features, including calendar management and inventory tracking for business owners.* ***Cons:** Pop-ups and ads can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You need an easy-to-use co-parenting app for collaborating.* ## [MyMob](https://www.mymob.com/) Created by Stepfamilies Australia and Drummond Street Services, the free co-parenting app MyMob helps separated families manage schedules and holds parents accountable for their children’s welfare. The app features messaging (with a profanity filter), a shared calendar, storage for important contact numbers, wish lists, and a virtual fridge to post artwork, photos and notes. According to Stepfamilies Australia, the app was used regularly by 2000 families, mostly due to court orders. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-2-1200x469.png "image-2 - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free* ***Best features:** Messaging with profanity filter, virtual fridge for photos and memories* ***Pros:** Completely free co-parenting app with lots of features* ***Cons:** Buggy, not compatible with some mobile devices, not for high-conflict parents* ***You will love this app if:** You want to keep private messages appropriate for little eyes.* ## [Appclose app](https://appclose.com/) Appclose calls itself the future of co-parenting technology, and we agree for the most part. It is a completely free alternative to similar paid apps with all the features you need to sync calendars, organise schedules, and communicate with family. It comes with messaging, built-in payments and tracking, and the ability to create a shared parenting plan. However, usability can be improved. [![Appclose](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/rMTApRnqLNBKglWkhGuiiH2Df0G59ujoP-h6gYYXbTuhOn2IoIWABX5VD34QiDsLqnQr=w1150-h766)](https://appclose.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes* ***Best features:** Scan receipts and request payments electronically through the built-in payment system.* ***Pros:** Has all the co-parenting app features you need for free* ***Cons:** Not very user-friendly compared to paid apps* ***You will love this app if:** You want a completely free co-parenting app with all the basics.* ## **Conclusion: Best co-parenting apps and software 2024** So there you have it: twelve co-parenting apps (and co-parenting software). If you feel your co-parenting style needs improving or you want to create a little more harmony with your ex-partner, why not give one a go? Anything that helps communication and organisation will only improve the well-being and happiness of your children. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-co-parenting-apps-2024/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-co-parenting-apps-2024/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** Famcal, 2Houses, shared custody, Custody Connection, synchronized calendars, Coparently, Parentship, communication, shared care, coparenting, cozi, Our Family Wizard, We Parent --- ### [How I saved and took my kids to Disneyland](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/save-kids-disneyland/) **Published:** December 22, 2019 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *25 November 2017* She’s been all over social media with her brilliant (if slightly teary) video telling her three children that they *were* going to save and they *were* going to Disneyland. And to Disneyland they went! In this podcast Jo Harlow from [Mentor Mumma](https://twelveminuteconvos.com/jo-harlow/) tells us her story about how she made this dream come true and why it was so very important to her. I tell you ladies, if you need some inspiration to help you work towards your next life goal, you will find it here. Amongst other things, we chat about: - Why it was so important for Jo to make this trip happen - How to turn dreams from ‘talk’ to ‘do’ - The phases in our children’s lives, and how/why to capture them - Practical savings tips and advice that really work (she went to Disneyland!!) - What lessons our children can learn from working towards such a big goal ### Listen here … ![How I saved and took my kids to Disneyland | Beanstalk Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Podcast-Kids-to-Disneyland.png "Podcast - Kids to Disneyland - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/save-kids-disneyland/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/save-kids-disneyland/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Life, Podcast, Money **Tags:** Disneyland, saving for Disneyland, Tips on saving for Disneyland --- ### [How to have the best orgasms of your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/best-orgasms/) **Published:** May 16, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** No longer a taboo topic, talking about sex is perfectly normal and allows us to improve on our sexual experiences, whether partnered or alone. In this podcast we get straight to the heart (or should I say the g-spot) of the matter and discuss how to have the best orgasms of your life. Mother and daughter sexperts, Dr Janet Hall and Ella Hall from Women’s Power Pleasure come to us complete with 60 years of experience to guide and educate. There’s no looking back ladies! Get the advice you need for mind-blowing orgasms and a wonderfully fulfilled sex life *right here*. ## How to have the best orgasms of your life In this podcast we chat about: - Why it’s so important to have lots of wonderful orgasms - What a “full body orgasmic state” is and how to achieve it - Some sneaky snippets and tips from Dr Jan and Ella’s Claim Your Pleasure Power eCourse - How to handle low esteem in the bedroom - Points to fine tune solo sex or self pleasure [![Single mother ecourse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-rectangle-960x800.png "ecourse rectangle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ![How to have the best orgasms of your life | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinteret](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/Podcast-Orgasms.png "Podcast - Orgasms - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/best-orgasms/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/best-orgasms/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Sex **Tags:** sex, self care, self pleasure --- ### [The best diet programs in Australia 2026 (with specials)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/) **Published:** July 13, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Everything you need to know about diet programs in 2026 is right here … I don’t care what anyone says, eating healthily and dieting takes time. Put it this way: It takes longer to prepare a nutritious home-cooked dish than it does to say .. stick some chicken nuggets in the oven or grab a takeaway. And with kids in the mix who are not following your diet regime, it can be almost impossible for modern-day mums to kick the cals. Enter the wonderful world of diet programs, which make ‘eating right’ so damn easy that we have no more excuses. Except maybe one: Which weight loss program is the best? Well, to cross that final excuse off your list and to get you happily dieting, we’ve prepared a list of the best and easiest diet programs for busy mums. After all, anything that [saves time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/time-saving-tips-mums/) AND makes us thinner has got to be a winner. Or, if shakes are more your thing? See: [Top 10 diet shakes on the market right now (with specials)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/top-10-diet-shakes-specials/). ## Ready-made Food Diet Programs Using a ready-made meal delivery service is the easiest way of all to diet. Simply pick your food online, receive your delivery, heat it up and serve … in the plastic container if you like, no judgement here. There are differences though. Some are fresh, some frozen and different ones cater to different diets and of course, different budgets. Here is our overview of ready-made food diet programs. ## WeightWatchers The recently rebranded WeightWatchers (WW) is the maker of the “#1 best diet for weight loss 9 years in a row,” according to U.S. News and World Report, so they must be doing something right. Everyone knows someone who has lost weight with WeighWatchers. Besides offering personalised diets/meal plans created by nutritionists for those who are actively losing weight, WW is for anyone who wants to build healthy habits. Weight Watchers (WW) Healthy Kitchen is perfect for busy mums who want to prepare healthy meals but don’t have the time. Created by chefs and nutritionists, WW Healthy Kitchen’s ready-made meals are balanced, protein-packed, gluten free and without added sweeteners, artificial flavours or preservatives. One downside of this diet program is the lack of delivery option. At this time, you can only buy ready-made meals at Woolworths or the Woolworths online shop. We have our fingers-crossed this will change soon and in the meantime you can buy direct online. ***For more about WeightWatchers see: [Weight Watchers: A review from a user in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/weight-watchers-review-australia/)*** ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person (400g per box)* ***Price range:** Starts at $3.25 per 320g box, WW membership starts at $42.50/month* ***Pros:** Chef and nutritionist-prepared healthy meals* ***Cons:** The selection is quite limited (6 lunches and dinners), and there is no home delivery service at this time.* [![WeightWatchers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_085655_www.weightwatchers.com_-1200x497.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_085655_www.weightwatchers.com - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54978?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.weightwatchers.com%2fau%2f) ## Be Fit Food Be Fit Food’s science-backed weight loss programs are designed for people looking to shed kgs fast or maintain their weight loss. Created by a nutritionist and a doctor, the program is based on a ketogenic diet that restricts carbohydrates and relies on fats for energy. Whether you choose the rapid, gradual or maintenance program, it’s safe and effective if you stick to it. We particularly like that you get to eat less processed foods and more veggies, fruits, whole grains, nuts, lean meats, and healthy fats. No bars or shakes here, just healthy meals and reduced calories based on your weight loss goals. They also have healthy snacks, kids’ meals, and bundles if you just want healthy meals delivered. ***Box types:** Meals for individuals, couples and families* ***No. of meal kits per week:** 7, 14 or 28* ***Delivery area:** Australia wide, see full list [here](https://befitfood.com.au/pages/delivery-routes).* ***Price range:** From $94.95 (7 meals) per week* ***Pros:** Tasty and filling meals, great meal variety, dietitian-designed meals* ***Cons:** Very restrictive calorie intake for rapid/gradual weight loss may not be sustainable for a lot of people* ***SPECIAL:** Sign up to Be Fit Food for exclusive rewards* [![Be Fit Food | diet programs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_085927_befitfood.com_.au_-1200x454.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_085927_befitfood.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77476?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbefitfood.com.au%2f) ## A Life Plus [A Life Plus](https://alifeplus.com.au/) offers meal plans and individual food items to choose from whether you’re looking to lose weight or simply need meal planning easier. If you’re concerned about the quality of ingredients in your meals, we love its focus on real fresh foods. A Life Plus promises that every meal is made with clean and non-GMO ingredients. There are also different meal plans available: ketogenic, NDIS, plant-based, gluten-free, alkaline, and organic. It comes with a diet calorie calculator which will guide you on the best meal plan to meet your goals. Then, you can choose among 900-, 1200-, 1500-, and 1800-calorie meals for the ketogenic plan. Having these options give individuals the choice whether they want fast changes or take it slow and steady. ***Box types:** Meals for individuals* ***No. of meal kits per week:** 3, 7, 14 or 28* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide except Darwin and Perth, see full list [here](https://alifeplus.com.au/pages/home-meals-delivery-areas).* ***Price range:** From $78 for 3 days (6 meals)* **Pros:** *Options for keto, NDIS, gluten-free, plant-based, alkaline, and organic + You can choose between standard and organic ingredients* ***Cons:** Website is confusing and there’s no discount for large orders* ***SPECIAL:** Share your success story for a chance to win 2 weeks of free meals* *+ Free shipping for orders $50 and up* [![A Life Plus](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_091342_alifeplus.com_.au_-1200x564.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_091342_alifeplus.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://alifeplus.com.au/) ## My Muscle Chef [My Muscle Chef](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088) is a fairly new ready-made food delivery service, but it has already established a loyal following. We notice that their growing fans love their clean, high-protein meals and meal plans that meet a range of dietary requirements. They have it all! High-protein, low-carb, low-calorie, keto and even vegan options as well as fixed meal sets for couples. Their goal is provide great-tasting nutritious meals for active and busy people, from bodybuilders to working mums. The meals are great value for money and perfect if you’re a time poor mum on a weight loss/healthy lifestyle journey. ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person and couples* ***No. of meal kits per week:** As many as you like* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide, See full list [here](https://www.mymusclechef.com/delivery?showMap=true&isForm=true).* ***Price range:** From $10 per meal, meal plans and fixed sets from $110 per week* ***Pros:** High-protein meals for active people, excellent meal variety, no additives or artificial flavours* ***Cons:** People with bigger frames may need to supplement the meals with snacks* ***SPECIAL:** [Free shipping+ $20 off for subscribers](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088)* [![My Muscle Chef | diet programs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/m.png "m - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088) ## Macros Clean eating for weight loss is effortless thanks to Macros, a meal delivery company specialising in fresh, healthy meals made from whole food ingredients. We have to add that there is something about the black packaging that makes the meals look super yummy. Each meal is designed by a dietitian and prepared by a chef so you can enjoy what you’re eating even if you’re on a diet. Their menu selection is pretty impressive, with high protein, plant-based, gluten-free, nut-free and dairy free meals on offer, and apparently all under 350 cals. Simply choose your diet goal/meal plan (weight loss, sculpt, balanced, etc.), number of meals per week (the more you order the cheaper it gets, which we love) and you’re all set. ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person and families* ***No. of meal kits per week:** As many as you like* ***Delivery area:** Australia wide* ***Price range:** From $81.20 per week ($9.65 per meal) for single meals* ***Pros:** High protein dietitian-designed meals, excellent meal variety, fresh ingredients without additives* ***Cons:** Portion sizes may be too small for very active people or those building muscle* ***SPECIAL:** Sign up for emails to get $20 off your first order* ***Further reading: [MACROS User review with latest special.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/macros-fresh-meal-delivery-review/)*** [![Macros](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_090159_www.macros.com_.au_-1200x419.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_090159_www.macros.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) ## Which weight loss program is the best? ## Dr. Sanford Siegal’s Famous Cookie Diet Cookies to lose weight? Yes, please! This is a really great option for the sweet toothers amongst us who hate to give up desserts and treats. Dr. Sanford Siegal’s Cookie Diet may be the right diet for you. The Cookie Diet is a two-step weight loss plan that relies heavily on cookies to help you shed those kgs. It may sound bizarre but the concept is pretty simple: You are restricted to 1,000 to 1,200 calories per day. You get to eat nine cookies each day (60 calories/cookie for a total of 500 calories) and a healthy dinner of lean protein and salads. This sounds almost too good to be true but we hear it works, so definitely worth giving it a go … especially as it includes nine whole biscuits every day! ***Box types:** Cookie packs for 1 person* ***No. of meal kits per week:** As many as you like* ***Delivery area:** Free shipping Australia wide* ***Price range:** From $69.95 for a one-week supply to $539.95 for a 4-month supply* ***Pros:** Great for short-term weight loss, affordable* ***Cons:** Very restrictive, not recommended for people on a gluten-free, vegan or dairy-free diet* ***SPECIAL:** Receive a $10 welcome coupon when you sign up for emails.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Screenshot-2026-04-01-at-12-50-33-am-1200x603.jpg "Screenshot 2026-04-01 at 12 50 33 am - Beanstalk Mums") ## Youfoodz Weight Loss Food Program [Youfoodz](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324) is Australia’s #1 healthy meal delivery service (according to customer reviews), and they certainly deliver with a line of ready-made meals that are sumptuous, healthy and fresh, not frozen. Youfoodz aims to make healthy eating easy for everyone, and their ready-made meals are a great fit for the busy mum lifestyle. One of the popular diet programs from Youfoodz is the 70/30. It’s a line of meal plans based on the premise that by eating clean, healthy meals for 70% of the week, you can lose weight and become healthier. The 70/30 plan comes in three variants: Starter (10 meals for 5 days), Classic (10 meals and 10 snacks for 5 days) and Complete (15 meals and 10 snacks for 5 days). You can create your diet program on their website, choose your favourite meals from an extensive list and have them delivered straight to your door. ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person* ***No. of meal kits per week:** As many as you like* ***Delivery area:** See list [here](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324)* ***Price range:** Meal plans from $47.45 to $89.82* ***Pros:** Endless menu and meal combos, next-day delivery, fresh meals* ***Cons:** Minimum order value for home delivery, meals are not frozen* ***SPECIAL:** [Money-back guarantee on your first delivery – Currently win $10,000](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324)* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Screenshot-2026-04-01-at-12-53-06-am-1200x603.jpg "Screenshot 2026-04-01 at 12 53 06 am - Beanstalk Mums") ## Lite n’ Easy Anything that saves time and makes meal prep easier is worth paying for. Especially when you’re juggling too many things at the same time and desperately need a break in the kitchen, that’s where [Lite n’ Easy](https://www.liteneasy.com.au/) comes in. We love how easy it is to customise healthy meals for every night of the week. You won’t ever get bored, like you can with other weight loss programs, as they have over 230 ready-made meals to choose from. Whether you’re trying to lose weight or eat healthier, Lite n’ Easy has a meal plan for you. We recommend the vegetarian option if you are trying to eat less meat. These meals were surprisingly tasty with just the right portion sizes, and the money-back guarantee is a great deal. ***Meal plans:** Full 5 and 7-day meal plans and dinners* ***Delivery area:** See full list [here](https://www.liteneasy.com.au/how-it-works/delivery/)* ***Price range:** From $16.95 for combo packs, $85-$200 for full meal plans. Total price depends on chosen meal plans and delivery location.* ***Pros:** Customisable meal plans with over 100 meals to choose from, money-back guarantee* ***Cons:** Minimum order value of $49 for all deliveries* ***SPECIAL:** [Money-back guarantee on your first delivery](https://www.liteneasy.com.au/)* [![Lite n' Easy | diet programs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_085149_www.liteneasy.com_.au_-1200x385.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_085149_www.liteneasy.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.liteneasy.com.au/) ## Jenny Craig If your goal is weight loss with home-delivered meals instead of serving healthy meals for your family, we reckon [Jenny Craig](https://www.jennycraig.com.au/) is a good bet. They offer a range of plans, from simple breakfasts and lunches to meals for busy people, but their Max Up plan is a complete program specifically designed for weight loss. It’s based on intermittent fasting, where you have your meals during a 10-hour period, then take a break for 14 hours. What we like best about this diet plan is the one-on-one coaching that makes reaching your goal weight that much easier. Your daily calories are based on your current weight and goal weight, among other factors. They also deliver prepackaged meals straight to your doorstep. While it’s not for everyone, the program is safe and teaches you healthy eating and fitness habits. ***Meal plans:** Simple, Essential and Rapid Results* ***Delivery area:** See full list [here](https://www.jennycraig.com.au/jc-locations/)* ***Price range:** From $90/week to $194/week* ***Pros:** Dedicated personal consultant, popular with diabetics, vegetarian options, wide range of low-calorie, low-fat and low-sodium meals, pickup option* ***Cons:** Prices tend to be on the high side, limited selection of vegan, paleo and keto meals* ***SPECIAL:** Sign up for emails to be the first to hear about specials.* [![Jenny Craig](https://images.agoramedia.com/everydayhealth/gcms/The-Jenny-Craig-Diet-Weight-Loss-Reviews-Cost-Foods-and-More-722x406.jpg)](https://www.jennycraig.com.au/) ## Weight Loss Programs with Meal Planning The other option is to join a weight loss program with meal planning. These require you to prepare your own food following their guides. They make it super-easy, with some even going so far as to provide shopping lists. This is a more time-consuming but affordable option, which lots of mums are loving. It also introduces new meal ideas and cooking techniques to your kitchen skillset, which you can use even when you’re not on the program. Here are our thoughts on some of the top offerings on the market today. ## CSIRO Total Wellbeing Diet Australia’s national science agency, the Commonwealth Scientific and Industrial Research Organisation (CSIRO), recently released its Total Wellbeing Diet program that’s grounded in years of clinical testing and the latest scientific evidence. Sounds clever? That’s because it is. The goal of the Total Wellbeing Diet is not just fast weight loss, but sustainable weight loss and good gut health. It runs for 12 weeks and takes into account your behaviour and personality on top of nutrition and physical activity level in order to make healthy eating truly sustainable. The Premium Program comes with coaching sessions with a dietitian, unlimited phone support and a cookbook. These weight loss programs are unlike other diet plans in that there are no excluded food groups (yay), meaning you can eat whatever you want as long as the meals meet the macronutrient requirement, which is essentially higher protein and low glycemic index. ***Meal plans:** 12-Week Program and Premium* ***Price range:** $199 for 12 weeks, $299 for the Premium Program, $19.95/month loyalty plan* ***Pros:** Evidence-based weight loss, nutrition and exercise program with food and exercise tracking, shopping lists and meal plans* ***Cons:** $19.95 monthly fee after completing the 12-week program* ***SPECIAL:** Get a $199 refund when you successfully complete the 12 week program (conditions apply).* [![CSIRO Total Wellbeing Diet | diet programs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_090616_www.totalwellbeingdiet.com_-1200x471.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_090616_www.totalwellbeingdiet.com - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/39270?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.totalwellbeingdiet.com%2fau%2f) ## Noom [Noom](https://noom.8utb.net/EaB1RX) is an award-winning diet program grounded in the psychology of weight loss and well-being, and it aims to change behaviours that keep us from losing weight for good. We like that it removes the diet stigma and focuses on healthy eating and long-term lifestyle changes, which feel more sustainable in the long-term. Right from the start, you get asked several questions about your age, height, weight and other information to personalise your plan. Noom tells you how long it will take you to reach your goal weight, but this is easily adjusted by choosing a calorie-restricted meal plan that fits your lifestyle. Track your meals, calories and activity with the user-friendly Noom app and check in with your goal specialist about once a week. You can also share your progress/interact with other Noom users online. ***Price range:** Plans from $60 (monthly) to $199 (annual with upfront payment)* ***Pros:** Personalised diet plan, flexible pricing, user-friendly app, psychology-based weight loss/healthy lifestyle program* ***Cons:** Coaching needs improvement, may not work for everyone* ***SPECIAL:** [14-day free trial ](https://noom.8utb.net/EaB1RX)* [![Noom](https://i0.wp.com/www.usmagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/noom-woman-cooking-at-home.jpg?crop=0px%2C283px%2C2000px%2C1051px&resize=1200%2C630&ssl=1&quality=86&strip=all)](https://noom.8utb.net/EaB1RX) ## SuperFastDiet The ‘fast’ in the [SuperFastDiet](https://superfastdiet.com/) is more about fasting than speed, as it cuts down drastically on calories on some days of each week. The concept behind this diet program is to eat like you normally would for most days of the week (up to 2000 calories for women) and eat reduced calories (500 for women, 600 for men) on the other days. The SuperFastDiet has three fasting methods (2, 3 and part-day fasting) that let you enjoy your favourite foods without guilt whilst achieving your weight goals. Subscribers also get multiple coaching videos every week, a personalised tracker and dashboard, and lots of recipes and meal plans. ***Ease of meal preparation:** 5/5, Easy meal prep with recipes and meal plans* ***Price range:** $28 for the 28-Day Challenge* ***Pros:** Comprehensive weight loss program with meal plans, recipes and private support group* ***Cons:** Not suitable for a lot of people (type 1 diabetics, teens, pregnant women, the elderly and frail, and those with underlying medical conditions)* ***SPECIAL:** [28 days for $1](https://superfastdiet.com/)* [![The SuperFast Diet | diet programs](https://go.superfastdiet.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/super-fast-diet-mook-recipes-600.jpg)](https://superfastdiet.com/) ## Michelle Bridges It’s easy to see why Michelle Bridges’ 12-week body transformation (12WBT) weight loss program is so popular. At one point, it took Australia by storm. This online fitness and healthy eating plan attracts massive crowds of people looking to lose weight and live healthy lifestyles. Once subscribed, you get access to meal plan options, tasty recipes, weekly shopping lists, exercises and motivational videos. The plans are tiered for beginners (3 different beginner programs), intermediate and advanced users, so there’s something for everyone, even the busy mum. The program can also be customised based on goals, like pregnancy fitness, losing that post-baby weight, or becoming more active. ***Ease of meal preparation:** 4/5. There are multiple meal options, including cooking for one and time saver plans. Meal prep and food shopping can take a lot of time.* ***Price range:** Starts at $159 for 12 weeks of meal and exercise plans or $19.99 weekly* ***Pros:** Sensible meal planning and fitness program geared for long-term health and fitness* ***Cons:** Tracking weight/fitness and exercising can be time-consuming* ***SPECIAL:** [Try 12WBT for free](https://www.12wbt.com/free-sample)* ![Michelle Bridges](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-07-10_085314_www.michellebridges.com_.au_-1200x564.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-07-10_085314_www.michellebridges.com.au - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Healthy Mummy Next on our list is [The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.healthymummy.com%2f), the largest healthy eating and weight loss program designed specifically for busy mums. The 28-day weight loss challenge is the core of The Healthy Mummy, and most of us know a friend-of-a-friend who has done it. After signing up for a monthly challenge, you gain access to the program and mobile app for tracking progress. There’s no reason to get bored with meals, as the menu and theme change every month. Besides a wide array of delicious and customisable meal plans, you also get thousands of recipes, home workout videos and an amazing national support group. ***Ease of meal preparation:** 5/5, bulk meal planning and budget-friendly recipes\\* ***Price range:** Subscription plans from $69 (6 month access) to $99 (12 months)* ***Pros:** Affordable plans, nutritionally balanced meals, built-in workout program* ***Cons:** Lots to digest and may be complex to get into for beginners* ***SPECIAL:** [$19.99 on the 28-Day Weight Loss Challenge](https://secure.healthymummy.com/28-day-challenge-signup-2019-vip/)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Food **Tags:** weight loss, diet programs, weight loss food plans, weight loss diet plans, healthy living, weight loss programs, food delivery services, meal delivery services --- ### [Blended families and why they are beautiful](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/blended-families-beautiful/) **Published:** February 22, 2020 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Blended families are becoming quite the norm, and for many couples who are committed and in lurve, they really can work. No one goes into a relationship expecting it to fail. Even for those of us whose parents were divorced, we were overly optimistic, thinking that with our own children, it would be different. But life doesn’t always work out like the movies, and the happily ever after we expect can be more like a messily ever after. Some couples grow apart. Some couples go through something that cannot be forgiven. Some couples should never have been together in the first place. So, we end up as single mums, we find strength and power, and the result is a bond with our children that can never be replaced. Time goes by, and you may begin to feel you are ready to move on and let someone new into your life. Dating is interesting, it can be awkward, funny and a way for you to meet a variety of people and work out what you want (and don’t want). It could take one year, it could take five, but eventually, that person you are looking for will be right there in front of you. If they pass the ‘meeting the kids’ test, it could lead to a new kind of family dynamic. When you say goodbye to that old notion of a traditional family being 2 parents and 2.5 kids, you will realise a blended family can be a beautiful thing. ***Further reading: [7 Trouble shooting tips for blended families.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/blended-families/)*** ## Blended families and why they are beautiful ## A step-parent is just a step away With two children who are being raised in a blended family, I can tell you from personal experience that it does not come without its complications. However, any positives far outweigh the negatives, and when a step-parent genuinely cares, it gives them an additional role model they otherwise wouldn’t have. [They have more people to love them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/every-child-needs-great-support-system/), and their extended family suddenly gets a lot bigger. When you learn from the lessons of your previous relationship, the second time around can be a whole lot sweeter for you, too. For me, having children and the experiences I went through to get to a new phase of my life helped me to mature and find a more respectful relationship based on common interests and similar goals for the future. With my first relationship lasting for 13 years, followed by years as a single mum, it was never a case of settling but finding someone who suited the person I now was, while accepting the three of us as a package. When I asked my 9-year-old son how he feels about having a stepfather, he said: > *“A step dad is just a step away from being a dad. He isn’t my dad, but he’s ‘like’ a dad.”* ## Make your blended family work your way Depending on the ages of your children, they may remember the initial breakup and the subsequent adjustment to life with two households. Another shift in their life with the introduction of a new partner is not always going to be easy, but it does teach them resilience. It can take time, perhaps even years, for everyone to feel truly secure and comfortable with the new family structure. The adults in the situation need to be understanding and patient. Very patient, with a commitment to make it work. A sense of humour helps too! [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-1-1200x501.png "image-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.pocruises.com.au/) Every situation is different, and it is all about getting the balance just right. Stepmums, step-dads, step-siblings, half-siblings or a mixture of all of these make every family unique. The way you make your own blended family work will be a personal thing. In our home, everyone is treated with respect. But, I am the disciplinarian of my own children, and he is the one who they turn to if they need a fresh perspective that isn’t overshadowed by their mother’s overprotective emotions. Having dedicated activities to do as a family, as well as spending one-on-one time with each child, will make for a happy, balanced, yet still sometimes crazy home. Remember, those shared experiences, even something as simple as going for family walks together, or randomly turning the music up and announcing a “dance off”, will help to forge that new bond. A blended family can be something worth celebrating; it just takes a little work to fit all of the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle together. My advice: Don’t avoid taking a chance to meet someone new just for the sake of protecting your children. If you meet the person who is meant to be in your life, they will add an extra positive element to your family and will take the highs and lows of their new role in their stride. ![Blended families and why they are beautiful | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Blended-families.png "Blended families - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/blended-families-beautiful/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/blended-families-beautiful/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families **Tags:** co parenting, relationship, remarry, re-partnering, families, family, step parent --- ### [10 Things single mums want married mums to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/10-things-single-mums-want-married-mums-to-know/) **Published:** June 16, 2023 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** It is normal for women to compare themselves to others. Single mums and married mums may appear to be very different, and in many ways we are. But we all have that crazy 4 pm time slot where our children turn into werewolves. And, we all worry about which high school our two-year-old will go to. Despite our similarities, often as single mums we have to endure [maddening single mum comments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rise-above-single-mum-comments/) and feel like we are being judged by our married sisters. To even the playing field, here is a list of 10 things single mums want married mums to know. ## 1. I’m not going to steal your husband I’m really not. If you think I lie awake at night plotting an elaborate scheme to woo your man, think again. I’m not saying he isn’t a catch, but just because I’m single doesn’t mean I am a man-eater and looking to make him my new baby daddy. And, if I’m lying awake at night, it is probably because I am trying to work out how to pay my bills, or trying to remember if I washed my son’s soccer gear. In all honesty, I just love my kids being invited to play with yours, and a coffee with Mum company is fun for me too. ## 2. There’s nothing wrong with me Please don’t judge me. And please don’t attach me to the popular misconception about single mums. The reason I am a single mum doesn’t really matter, and there is actually nothing wrong with me! Life is a funny thing and can be unpredictable. If I happen to be single, it doesn’t define who I am. We are all that our marital status shouldn’t define individuals and our worth. Please take the time to get to know me as a whole person, not just as a “single” person. ## 3. I’m not a party animal .. or an alcoholic But sometimes, I need some adult company, and a night out with friends is a chance to let my hair down and have some “me” time. Being a single mum means my babysitting passes are limited and when an occasion arises, I’m going to put on my high heels and party like it’s 1999 .. and probably still fall asleep before midnight. ## 4. I have to be a Mum, and a Dad and the buck ends with me I have to find unique ways to discipline my children; I can’t scare them by simply saying, “wait until your father gets home”. It’s more of a begging, pleading kind of scenario, which starts with the good cop and ends with the bad cop. If you see me yelling at my children in the supermarket, please don’t raise your eyebrow as if I have lost all sense of embarrassment and control of my offspring. As a side note, I recently sat down on the floor in Toys R Us and loudly stated, “I’m bored, I’m bored.” This was in response to my children doing the exact same thing to me minutes before at Jeans West. They weren’t impressed. With no “I’m telling your father” to fall back on, we do what works! ## 5. How many single mums does it take to change a lightbulb? Just one. When your husband works late or is out with his mates, you may feel alone and even declare, “I feel like a single mum”. While I don’t doubt your absolute dedication and how much you actually do (because ALL mums do a LOT), it isn’t quite the same thing. Because when your husband owes you for that night out, you can demand he change the light globe. A single mum has no such luxury. Instead, she is precariously balancing on the table so her children don’t have to eat by candlelight. ## 6. I value your friendship You have no idea how much. [We do get lonely](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/). Friends mean everything to a single mum; we don’t have a husband to confide in, so we need our friends. Having children means we have similar interests, we want to talk about toilet training and how little sleep we got last night. We want to talk about makeup and the latest cat video and go for walks with our pushchairs. It is so easy to feel isolated with life on repeat, like the lead character in Ground Hog Day. Some girly gossip gives us much-needed adult conversation, and we adore you for it. ## Things single mums want married mums to know (cont.) ## 7. I’m not a superhero, but I’ll get it done It’s called improvisation. We only have limited favours to call upon, such as the summoning of one’s brother to move a television or a grandmother who offers the occasional babysitting service. I made a conscious decision not to buy any ridiculously heavy furniture, and most of the time, I can awkwardly drag things around myself as needed. A hex key can be your best friend or your worst enemy, and until you have made a bed out of a flat pack, you don’t know what you’re capable of. So when you’re helping your husband assemble furniture with his electric drill – spare a thought for the single mum whose hands are blistered from the dreaded hex key. ## 8. My values are the same as yours I want the same for my children, and just like you, I am willing to make sacrifices to make their lives great. It may feel like a circus act, but while I’m organising a costume for [book week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/), making a [homemade cake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-kids-birthday-cakes/) (it’s not always pretty) for my child’s birthday and listening to them read .. I realise you are probably doing the same things. [We are all good parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-signs-youre-good-parent/). We share the same values, the unconditional love for our children and the hope they grow up to be kind, responsible and happy humans. ## 9. I don’t mind being single Unless I ask, please don’t try to set me up with Harry from your brother’s, friend’s, or uncle’s workplace. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I am desperate, and when I’m ready to date .. I will! Right now, I am content having the TV remote to myself and dancing to Queen in my PJs without judgmental eyes upon me. Being a single mum doesn’t necessarily mean I am unhappy, just as being married doesn’t necessarily mean you are happy. When the time comes, and I want to meet this Harry, I will let you know. ## 10. Life is a juggling act for all of us, and we really aren’t that different Mums come in all shapes, sizes and relationship statuses, but one thing is for sure – [raising children](https://raisingchildren.net.au/) is one of the hardest (yet fulfilling) roles we have to play in life. It is a juggle for all of us, and you and I really aren’t that different! ## Final words As a single mum, I just want you – dear married mum – to know that I can be a great friend, if not the best. I want to belong like I should in the sacred and beautiful circle of mums. In a world that is still judgmental towards single mums, I hope that you are someone I can count on as an ally. Great mum friends and better-quality sleep (and deeper pockets!) are what I need. It’s high time we stop this narrative of single and married mums being divided by this wall of distrust and stigma. We are all mums who need support and reassurance in this challenging but joyous world of motherhood. I hope for empathy and understanding when you see us struggling with things that you find ordinary. To stay sane, I will go out and have fun every once in a while, reconnect with the world, hopefully without being judged. If you could join me, that would be fantastic. Being a single mum does not mean I am the town temptress; it means my hands are always full and I often feel swallowed and isolated by my responsibilities. Your friendship and compassion can feel like a cool balm to the feverish pace of my life. Some days do feel lonely, but know that I am a grown woman who knows when it’s the right time for me to find the right man. I am a mum who is trying her best to raise her kids with the same values as every other good mum. Just like you, I hope to get some much-needed rest every night, recharge myself by enjoying my favourite things (like watching true crime docus in bed), and connect with a mum tribe who root for me in my journey as a parent and as a woman. And I hope you could be one of them. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/10-things-single-mums-want-married-mums-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/10-things-single-mums-want-married-mums-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** friendships, stigma, married mums, married friends --- ### [8 Really easy Easter bonnet ideas to save the day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-bonnet-ideas/) **Published:** February 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Have you received the dreaded instructions from playgroup or school to make an Easter bonnet with your little one? It’s all fun and games if you have lots of time and plenty of crafty inspiration. But what about the rest of us? We’ve come to the rescue with ten easy bonnets to ensure you have a happy little bunny this Easter. ***For more Easter ideas see: [15 Fabulous Easter crafts that your kids (and you) will love.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/)*** ## 8 Really easy Easter bonnet ideas to save the day ### 1. [FUNNY BUNNY EASTER HAIRDO](https://simpleasthatblog.com/funny-bunny-easter-hairdo/) This Easter bonnet is sweet, silly and as easy as they come. Whip up a funny bunny hairdo in minutes with pink and white felt, googly eyes and pipe cleaners. Works best for medium-length to long hair. [![FUNNY BUNNY EASTER HAIRDO | Easter Bonnet | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://simpleasthatblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/bunny_hair1.jpg)](https://simpleasthatblog.com/funny-bunny-easter-hairdo/) *We found this at: [Simple As That](https://simpleasthatblog.com/funny-bunny-easter-hairdo/)* ### 2. [Carrot and Bunny Easter Hat](https://www.madeformums.com/school-and-family/giant-carrot-and-bunny-easter-bonnet-step-by-step-guide/) What’s more festive than a carrot and bunny Easter bonnet? This one is a little different from your traditional Easter hat and is sure to turn heads! Make it with cardstock, tissue paper and a soft bunny toy. [![Carrot and Bunny Easter Bonnet | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/28/2020/03/carrothatnew5-2879dd0.jpg)](https://www.madeformums.com/school-and-family/giant-carrot-and-bunny-easter-bonnet-step-by-step-guide/) *We found this at:* [*Made for Mums*](https://www.madeformums.com/school-and-family/giant-carrot-and-bunny-easter-bonnet-step-by-step-guide/) ### 3. [DIY Bunny Headband](https://iheartcraftythings.com/diy-bunny-headband-craft-for-kids.html) Possibly the easiest Easter bonnet on this list, this DIY bunny headband is the perfect project for younger kids. The template is provided so all you need to do is cut the pieces and glue them together. Stick on a button nose and googly eyes and you’ve got an adorable headband. [![DIY Bunny Headband | Easter Bonnet | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://iheartcraftythings.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/diy-bunny-headband-2.jpg)](https://iheartcraftythings.com/diy-bunny-headband-craft-for-kids.html) *We found this at:* [*I Heart Crafty Things*](https://iheartcraftythings.com/diy-bunny-headband-craft-for-kids.html) ### 4. [Easy Easter Bonnet](https://mykidcraft.com/easy-easter-bonnet/) Get ready to rock the Easter party with this hopping headwear made of corrugated cardboard. Paint the cardboard or use coloured paper, then shape pipe cleaners into flowers to decorate the headband. You can also use feathers! *We found this at:* [*My Kid Craft*](https://mykidcraft.com/easy-easter-bonnet/) ## Easy Easter hats (cont.) ### 5. [Bunny Cap Easter Hat](https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/things-to-do/make-a-bunny-cap-easter-hat/news-story/b71b6785be7322c4b74cd2992ca894e2) A plain white or pink cap makes a brilliant Easter bonnet for your Easter hat parade. Print out the bunny ears template, cut out the shapes and stick cotton balls on the edges to make fluffy bunny ears. [![Easter Bonnet | Bunny Cap Easter Hat | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://content.api.news/v3/images/bin/41c3c5cd516e67d788e4f445023704b1)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/things-to-do/make-a-bunny-cap-easter-hat/news-story/b71b6785be7322c4b74cd2992ca894e2) *We found this at:* [*Kid Spot*](https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/things-to-do/make-a-bunny-cap-easter-hat/news-story/b71b6785be7322c4b74cd2992ca894e2) ### 6. [Easter Egg Crown](https://alphamom.com/family-fun/holidays/diy-easter-egg-crowns/) Could Easter bonnets look any cuter? There are two ways to make this egg-cellent headgear: One is by gluing plastic coloured eggs and flowers together to make a hat, and the other is by cutting out the provided template in the shape of a crown and sticking eggs at the end. Both take only a few minutes to craft. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-crown2.jpg "Easter-crown2 - Beanstalk Mums") *We found this at:* [*Alpha Mom*](https://alphamom.com/family-fun/holidays/diy-easter-egg-crowns/) ### 7. [Paper Plate Easter Bonnet](https://sugarspiceandglitter.com/paper-plate-easter-bonnets/) Celebrate Easter festivities with a paper plate Easter bonnet that’s a brilliant craft activity for tiny hands. You’ll need paper plates, paints, and whatever decoration you have on hand: stickers, pom poms, flowers…go crazy! Have the kids decorate their own hats and let the paint dry before wearing. [![Easter Bonnet | Paper Plate Easter Bonnet | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/YZn974R/paper-plate-easter-bonnet-craft.jpg)](https://sugarspiceandglitter.com/paper-plate-easter-bonnets/) *We found this at:* [*Sugar Spice and Glitter*](https://sugarspiceandglitter.com/paper-plate-easter-bonnets/) ### 8. [Bunny Party Hats](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2015/03/diy-bunny-party-hats.html/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Pinterest) Dress up in these lovely bunny party hats to make your Easter egg hunt or dinner party extra fun. No bunny costume needed! The hats are super simple to make, use inexpensive materials and take just 5 minutes. Gather the kids together and make it your Easter activity. [![Bunny Party Hats | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/bunny-party-hats.png)](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2015/03/diy-bunny-party-hats.html/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Pinterest) *We found this at:* [*The House that Lars Built*](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2015/03/diy-bunny-party-hats.html/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Pinterest) ***Further reading: [17 Gifts for teachers they will actually really like. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-bonnet-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-bonnet-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter, Education **Tags:** craft, easter, art --- ### [10 Handy goal tracking apps (2023)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/goal-tracking-apps/) **Published:** June 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about goal tracking apps was last updated in 2023.*** I don’t know about you, but just getting through the day with children, home and job remaining intact is a goal for me. For this reason, focusing on the bigger picture and those big-arse dreams for the future is mighty hard at times. But there is a way to make it easier … and that is with goal tracking apps. We’ve done our research and have hunted down the best apps to track your goals, with everything you need to make the right choice for you. ## WHAT IS A GOAL TRACKING APP? A goal tracking app tracks your progress towards whatever you want to achieve, whether it is saving up money for a vacation, losing weight or kicking your shopping addiction. Goal tracking apps let you set goals in black and white, so they become actionable and manageable. ## HOW DOES A GOAL TRACKING APP WORK? Goal tracking apps are like digital planners, you can add, edit and view goals right from your smartphone or your laptop/desktop. Think your big goal is unattainable? Goal tracking apps help you break up big goals into smaller, more manageable tasks that can be completed daily or weekly. Set up your goal, view progress on each task, take notes on why you failed to meet a target and stay motivated with graphs and charts. ## CAN AN APP REALLY HELP ME TRACK MY GOALS? Yes, an app can really help you track goals and even increase your productivity. Goal tracking apps help turn your dreams into actionable goals. Want to drink more water or save more money? A goal tracking app will keep you focused on specific tasks and hold you accountable with daily reminders and progress reports. ## APPS TO HELP YOU TRACK YOUR GOALS ### [DONE](https://thedoneapp.com/) Done makes habit tracking simple with a clean, colour-coded interface that lists all of your goals. Right after opening the app, you can see the number of books you’ve read this week, cupcakes you’ve eaten, workouts you’ve done, and other habits you are tracking. Or switch to calendar mode to get motivated by the ‘streaks’ (a chain of completed daily tasks) for each habit. The app lets you track habits daily, weekly, monthly or yearly, and it lets you track one habit multiple times per day. Done makes it super simple to build good habits and quit bad ones, even if you are completely new to productivity apps. [![Done App | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://thedoneapp.com/images/home_3UP.png)](https://thedoneapp.com/) ***Available via:** Apple* ***Cost:** $59.99/year, free version with limited features* ***Pros:** Clean interface, easy to use, password protection* ***Cons:** Free version lets you track only three habits* ***You will love this app if:** You are new to goal tracking and want an easy-to-use app* ### [STRIDES APP](https://www.stridesapp.com/) Strides is like an Excel productivity sheet in your pocket. It’s one of the most feature-packed goal-setting apps available with four unique types of trackers (Habit, Target, Average and Project) and plenty of charts to monitor and visualise anything that matters to you. All you need to do is pick a goal (or several) and an action that turns that goal into a regular habit. Your goals are organised into a neat list on your dashboard, which can be customised to show ‘red’ areas or areas that you need to focus on. Stay motivated with streaks, success rates, trends and rankings. [![Goal Tracking Apps | Strides | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.stridesapp.com/images/devices-v2-2x.png)](https://www.stridesapp.com/) ***Available via:** Apple* ***Cost:** Free, or $4.99/month, $29.99/year, $79.99/lifetime access* ***Pros:** Feature-packed, data-driven goal tracking, customisable* ***Cons:** Limited features on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You want deeper insights into your goals and habits* ### [LIFETICK](https://lifetick.com/) Track your goals with Lifetick, a web-based productivity app for teams and individuals. Like Strides, Lifetick is a data-driven goal tracking app that combines [journaling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/), due dates, reminders and charts. It’s easy to get started: choose what’s important to you, set S.M.A.R.T. goals, write about your experiences in the journal and track your progress. You can even share your goals with family and friends if you need extra motivation. Bonus: Lifetick donates $1 from every initial subscription payment to the Halo Trust, an organisation that removes landmines around the world. [![LifeTick | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://lifetick.com/websiteAssets/support/images/pages/homeLaptop.png)](https://lifetick.com/) ***Available via:** Website* ***Cost:** $1/week (Individuals), free version with limited features* ***Pros:** Lots of features, set SMART goals easily, support for teams* ***Cons:** Interface is made for the web, mobile version can be clunky* ***You will love this app if:** You want to track your goals along with a group of people* ### [WAY OF LIFE APP](https://wayoflifeapp.com/) Way of Life is one of those goal tracking apps that works better the more you use it. Way of Life combines note-taking, a daily checklist and in-depth analysis of your progress. The app guides you all the way from picking your goal to motivating you to keep going when you’re stuck in a rut. You’ll get a daily reminder to take notes when you hit or miss your targets. For a bigger picture, you can view your progress weekly, quarterly or yearly. We love the app’s clean interface and accountability tools that help explain why you didn’t meet a goal that day. [![Goal Tracking Apps | Way of Life | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/K64NdUuYg6NSFLRiof7HeYyQd8HOGLcLiGN8TNh4BPAHq50magwZZSR1ZDk1Pq8Rbx0=w1092-h721)](https://wayoflifeapp.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** $6 for Premium, free version* ***Pros:** Feature-rich app with a clean interface, easy to use* ***Cons:** Limited goals on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You love journaling and data-driven goal tracking* ### [DREAMFORA](https://www.dreamfora.com/) Dreamfora is all about one-tap goal setting. The app helps you plan and manage your goals with a minimum of fuss. Use the planning wizard to set up new goals in a flash (choose from the list or write down your own) and start tracking. Switch to day mode to see your daily checklist and focus on what needs to be done today. The progress page shows an analysis of your progress and highlights areas that need improvement. Dreamfora features milestones, habits, tasks and notes to guide you on your journey, plus a thousand motivational tips and quotes to keep you inspired. [![Dreamfora | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/KLdWTk2bG7qhbTx0oNAExHZbQjNp5TM55r73cptk2aWLWDeVL5Ux4rfnlvdjpanOa9I=w1092-h721)](https://www.dreamfora.com/) ***Available via:** Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** One-tap goal setting and management, clean interface* ***Cons:** No iOS version, needs more options for habit tracking* ***You will love this app if:** You want to set and track goals with a minimum of effort* ## WHAT IS THE BEST GOAL TRACKING APP (CONT.) ### [STREAKS](https://streaksapp.com/) Streaks is a well-designed habit tracker that has everything you need to create great habits and reach your goals. The app tracks 12 habits at a time to help you focus, and it tracks three different types of tasks: positive, negative (habits you want to break) and timed (tasks you want to count, like exercise minutes). If you need deeper insights and motivation, tap on each habit to go into calendar mode and see progress bars and completion percentage. Streaks is also integrated with the Apple Health app, so you can easily check health data–perfect if you are tracking workouts or trying to lose weight. [![Streaks | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://streaksapp.com/images/demo2-with-watch.png)](https://streaksapp.com/) ***Available via:** Apple* ***Cost:** $4.99* ***Pros:** Affordable habit tracker, well-designed app, integration with Apple Health* ***Cons:** No Android or website support, habits limited to 12* ***You will love this app if:** You are an Apple user looking for a cheap and effective habit tracker* ### [ATRACKER](https://atracker.pro/home.html#:~:text=ATracker%20is%20a%20time%20tracking,simply%20by%20tapping%20a%20task.) Atracker is a goal-setting app that focuses on time tracking. If you want to know what eats up most of your 24 hours, as well as your biggest time wasters, Atracker is the perfect tool. You only need to enter a name or icon for each task (with optional advanced settings), and you’re good to go. The main screen takes you to the current day’s list of tasks and time overview. At the end of the day, you can check the handy pie chart to visualise your time spent for the entire day. This makes it easy to cut back on time wasters and spend more time on your goals. [![Goal Tracking Apps | Atracker | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://atracker.pro/images/2-iphone-left.png)](https://atracker.pro/home.html#:~:text=ATracker%20is%20a%20time%20tracking,simply%20by%20tapping%20a%20task.) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** Atracker Pro for $4.99 (one time) or $2.99/mo premium* ***Pros:** Access from any device, highly customisable (beginner to advanced modes)* ***Cons:** Limited features on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You want an easy-to-use goal tracker with advanced options* ### [HABITICA](https://habitica.com/static/home) Goal tracking doesn’t have to be a chore. Habitica makes the entire process fun with an RPG (role-playing game) approach that’s unique and appealing if you’re a long-time fan of games. You are essentially levelling up a character by completing daily tasks, and your character can go on adventures and join parties with other Habitica users. The app is open source and completely free to use. However, the whole RPG concept can be a downside if you’re not a gamer, as the character stats can be overwhelming when combined with your goal-tracking data. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Screenshot-2026-05-26-at-1-22-50-am-1-1200x573.jpg "Screenshot 2026-05-26 at 1 22 50 am - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** $47.99/year, Free version* ***Pros:** Fun goal tracking app for game lovers, free to use, great for younger people* ***Cons:** Stats can be distracting* ***You will love this app if:** You love games and want a fun goal tracking app* ### [GOALS ON TRACK](https://www.goalsontrack.com/) Goal tracking apps like GoalsOnTrack have everything you need to reach your goals and boost productivity. You get progress updates in real time, an offline time tracker that tells you how you spend your time, a journal for writing down your thoughts, and guidance when breaking up big goals into milestones or smaller tasks. You can build a detailed action plan for important goals, with actions, milestones and schedules all on a single page. Check out the ready-made templates with built-in habits if you want to save time. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Screenshot-2026-05-26-at-1-23-21-am-1200x573.jpg "Screenshot 2026-05-26 at 1 23 21 am - Beanstalk Mums")Screenshot 2026 05 26 at 1 23 21 am ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** $68/year (30-day money-back guarantee)* ***Pros:** Comprehensive goal tracker, ready-made goal templates, bonus motivational eBooks* ***Cons:** Limited free version, app interface could be improved* ***You will love this app if:** You need a comprehensive goal tracker that is fully customisable* ### [TOODLEDO](https://www.toodledo.com/) Toodledo is a goal tracking app and so much more. It can organise your entire life, including work, hobbies and daily schedules. This is a great app if you are already familiar with organisation and productivity software. You can import and export existing data from other applications and organise information with the search tool. You can also share tasks, lists and individual folders with other people and track progress as a team. Personalise your dashboard any way you want to fit your lifestyle. [![Toodledo | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/OwKUpdKCSbuwHZSIKjIUj3rr35kJm9R_goFGG_KVoA9nkRBSHTSc4tVWv5HBdfaLsfkv=w1092-h773)](https://www.toodledo.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Feature-rich, flexible, access from all your devices* ***Cons:** App can be buggy* ***You will love this app if:** You are familiar with productivity apps and want to track goals as a team or individually* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/goaltracking2-copy.jpg "goaltracking2 copy - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/goal-tracking-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/goal-tracking-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** goals, aspirations, dreams --- ### [8 Easy ways to diet for the time poor mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/) **Published:** April 3, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** ***This article about easy ways to diet for the time-poor mum was last updated in 2026.*** With the amount of weight loss options and ideas available today, dieting can be complex. It can also be time-consuming, which is the reason why many mums find it hard to succeed. They simply DON’T HAVE TIME. Yet, if you cut through the crap of recipe programs and laborious calorie recording apps, there are some really easy ways to lose weight, which work alongside your busy life. Our list of five easy ways to diet for the time-poor mum talks you through long-term weight loss, without the time-wasting. ## 8 Easy ways to diet for the time poor mum ## 1. Food delivery services For mums who lack time to cook or prepare delicious, healthy meals, food delivery is the answer. With the click of a button, you can have your next week’s groceries on their way to your doorstep without leaving the house… and not just any old groceries, but meal plans crafted by nutritionists and chefs. Even if you love cooking and find it relaxing, who has the time or energy after a long day at work and running after the kids? [Meal kit delivery services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) take the guesswork and labour out of meal preparation so you can have more time for the things that matter most while shedding weight. There are lots of food delivery services to choose from that will deliver Australia-wide. We love Weightwatchers, which lets you customise meals around your lifestyle and preferences. You can start with familiar recipes (but healthier) to help you stick with a routine. [![Weightwatchers | easy ways to diet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/76693353_2813657338666088_1946369038405861376_o.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54978?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.weightwatchers.com%2fau) ***Ease of dieting:** 5/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** As low as $4 per meal* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** One of the simplest ways to lose weight and save time, you get to eat familiar foods with a healthy twist* ***Your chance of success and why:** 4/5. You need a certain level of commitment to healthy eating in order to succeed.* ## 2. Meal replacement shakes Meal replacement shakes are shakes that replace one or more meals each day, helping you save both calories and cooking time. Perfect for the busy mum, right? [Meal replacement shakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/top-10-diet-shakes-specials/) do work when used in conjunction with healthy eating plans and exercise. But the results are not instantaneous (surprise, surprise); you still have to put in the time. Originally designed for hospital patients, meal replacement shakes are now one of the most popular diets. A shake typically contains multivitamins, macronutrients, milk, sugar, soy protein, inulin and different flavourings. They are designed by nutritionists to be balanced and portion-controlled to help you reduce overall calorie intake. Because they’re high in protein and fibre, you feel fuller for longer. We’ve reviewed some popular shakes here, and one standout is [The Lady Shake](https://fave.co/3POosUG), a meal replacement shake specifically designed for women. We love the fact that it has up to 84% less sugar than other meal replacement shakes. [![The Lady Shake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/TLS_buy3get1-e1581267780138.png "TLS_buy3get1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3POosUG) ***Ease of dieting:** 4/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** Starts from $1-2 per shake* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** Drink a yummy shake to lose weight and save time on meal prep.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 4/5. Drinking your calories instead of eating them can take some getting used to.* ## 3. Weight loss tablets The worldwide obesity epidemic is alarming, to say the least, and it’s no wonder many mums are turning to fad diets and desperate solutions. If only there were a pill to make us all magically thinner … oh wait, there is. Weight loss tablets promise the world … pop a pill or two each day and watch the fat melt away. You know what they say: if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. But what’s the real deal? Weight loss tablets are usually designed to be taken in conjunction with low-calorie meal plans and regular exercise. Taking these pills while eating normally and ignoring exercise just won’t work. When you read the fine print, you’ll find that success stories involve more than just taking brand X and include diet changes and increased activity. If you’re still keen on weight loss tablets after reading that, we recommend something that is at least regulated and made from all-natural ingredients. Thinco’s Yummy Mummy Pack has everything you need to get back on track with your health. If you follow the plan religiously and take the pills as directed, you’ll save calories every day and won’t have to prepare a complicated diet meal for yourself. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Beanstalk-Features.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1594423&u=1855502&m=100146&urllink=&afftrack=) ***Ease of dieting:** 3/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** Anywhere from $20/bottle to $250+ for bundles* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** You take diet pills, in conjunction with low-calorie meals and exercise, to lose weight.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 3/5. If you have a hard time sticking to low-calorie diets, it can be difficult to lose weight with any diet pill.* ## Easy ways to lose weight (cont.) ## 4. Weight loss accelerators For busy single mums juggling multiple responsibilities, weight loss can feel like an uphill battle. Well, weight loss accelerators speed up the process. These tools, ranging from supplements to workout programs, aim to boost metabolism, curb cravings, and enhance fat burning. They can provide that extra push needed to see results amidst Mum’s hectic schedule. These easy ways to diet come in various forms, all aiming to give your weight loss efforts a boost. Think of them as little helpers that speed up your metabolism, crush those cravings, and help burn fat faster. You’ve got your metabolism-boosting supplements filled with natural ingredients like green tea extract or caffeine, giving you that extra kick to burn calories. Then there are meal replacement shakes or bars, perfect for busy days when cooking seems impossible. They’re packed with nutrients and keep your calorie intake in check. The [X50](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70581?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.x50lifestyle.com.au%2fcollections%2fbest-sellers) Green Tea is perfect if you have just started your weight loss journey. It cleanses the body and boosts metabolism. We love that each pack comes with free access to an Accelerated Weight Loss Program (AWLP), which offers helpful lifestyle tips, meal plans, and easy recipes. [![Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/GT-Raspberry60Serves-01.webp "GT-Raspberry60Serves-01 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70581?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.x50lifestyle.com.au%2fcollections%2fbest-sellers) ***Ease of dieting:** 4/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** Anywhere from $23/pack to $120+ for bundles* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** It’s easy to make and can be taken on the go.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 3.5/5. You’ll probably be hungry most of the time because of the boosted metabolism, so you have to curb cravings often.* ## 5. Water with a difference You might not know this, but sparkling water is one of the most affordable and easy ways to diet. It’s a zero-calorie beverage, so it is an excellent alternative to sugary sodas and juices that can contribute to weight gain. By replacing high-calorie drinks with sparkling water, you can reduce your overall calorie intake. Sparkling water can help with satiety – the feeling of fullness. The carbonation in sparkling water can create a sensation of fullness in the stomach, which may help curb appetite and prevent overeating. Drinking sparkling water before or during meals can help you feel satisfied with smaller portions. Additionally, staying hydrated is crucial for overall health and can support weight loss by promoting proper digestion and metabolism. Since sparkling water is just as hydrating as still water, it can help keep you feeling full and energized throughout the day. This reduces the urge to snack on high-calorie foods. The Sparkling Protein Water from Muscle Nation is our favourite. Not only does it have zero calories, but it is also free from dairy and sugar. Plus, it comes in yummy, refreshing flavours! [![Water with a difference | easy ways to diet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/1000009715.png "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69853?Url=https%3a%2f%2fmusclenation.org%2fcollections%2fsparkling-protein-water%3fpage%3d1%26sortBy%3ddefault) ***Ease of dieting:** 4.5/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** Starts at $69.99/12-pack* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** It makes you full right away while keeping you hydrated and providing your protein requirement.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 4/5 Sparkling water alone won’t magically melt away pounds. You need to incorporate it into a balanced diet and a healthy lifestyle.* ## 6. Protein powders and supplements We know how essential protein is for supporting muscle health and keeping hunger at bay during busy days. [Protein powders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/which-protein-powder/) and supplements are convenient products that offer a quick and easy way to boost protein intake. Protein supplements can help single mums meet their daily protein needs without spending hours in the kitchen preparing elaborate meals. You can easily add a scoop to your smoothies, mix it into oatmeal, or even bake protein-packed treats (with less guilt!). Even the busiest mummy can blend a protein shake in minutes for a nutritious on-the-go breakfast or snack. With options ranging from whey to plant-based protein powders like those from [Supplement Mart](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2f), there’s something to suit every dietary preference, lifestyle, and, most importantly, budget. By incorporating protein powders and supplements into their diet, busy single mums can stay fueled, satisfied, and one step closer to reaching their health and fitness goals amidst their hectic schedules. ![Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/macro-mike-premium-almond-protein-800g-assorted_508x508_crop_center.webp "macro-mike-premium-almond-protein-800g-assorted_508x508_crop_center - Beanstalk Mums") ***Ease of dieting:*** *3/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:*** *Starts at $2.99 (1 serving) to $139.99 (40 servings)* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** These supplements offer versatility and flexibility, especially for busy mums.* ***Your chance of success and why:*** *4/5 Although protein supplements are very filling, consuming too much might cause bloating, so only take the recommended serving.* ## 7. Fasting Fasting or [intermittent fasting](https://www.booktopia.com.au/intermittent-fasting-diet-guide-and-cookbook-becky-gillaspy/book/9781465497666.html) is a popular diet for a reason. It is a way of eating where you cycle between periods of eating and fasting. Instead of focusing on what you eat, it’s more about when you eat. There’s no meal prep involved, no buying shakes or weight loss tablets; you’re just reducing your calorie intake by not eating during certain hours of the day. For example, you might eat only during an 8-hour window each day and fast for the remaining 16 hours. This approach can help control calorie intake and improve metabolism. What could be simpler, especially for time-poor mums? There’s the 16:8 diet, the 5:2 diet, and the 24-hour fast. With the [5:2 Diet](https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/the-5-2-diet-guide) or the [Fast Diet](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-fast-diet-new-science-new-recipes-revised-edition%2fmichael-mosley-mimi-spencer%2f9781780722375%2f), you eat normally five days of the week while restricting calories to 500-600 per day on the other two days. No special foods are required, just restrictions on when you can eat. Most people lose weight on this diet because they consume fewer calories and are less likely to have a big meal before bedtime. But like any lifestyle change, jumping into a new diet that significantly reduces calories even for just two days can throw your body for a loop and cause hunger pangs, fatigue, dizziness and irritability. [![5:2 Diet | easy ways to diet](https://www.thelifeco.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/basics-of-52-diet.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-fast-diet-new-science-new-recipes-revised-edition%2fmichael-mosley-mimi-spencer%2f9781780722375%2f) ***Ease of dieting:** 4/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** $0* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** Cheap way to lose weight and a great time-saver, if you stick to the schedule.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 4/5. Drastically reducing calorie intake can cause some side effects and might lead to overeating on non-fast days.* ## 8. Healthy eating and exercise Last (but definitely not least) on our list of easy ways to diet – healthy eating and exercise. Good old healthy eating, coupled with increased [physical activity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) is the most sustainable diet for most people and the lifestyle approved by health practitioners. This can be as easy as eating three healthy meals a day, ensuring you include a good mix of food groups. For easy calorie counting, try a [diet meal program](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/) that does it all for you. Stick to healthy snacking, limited alcohol and plenty of water. Add to this regular exercise to get your endorphins and heart pumping. Anything that is sustainable for your lifestyle will yield the most successful results that will last for the longest period of time. ![Healthy eating and exercise](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3076509/pexels-photo-3076509.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&h=750&w=1260) ***Ease of dieting:** 4/5* ***Cost to do this easy weight loss idea:** Cost of your usual meal* ***Our favourite thing about this easy way to diet:** Very sustainable if you are committed.* ***Your chance of success and why:** 4/5. Success depends on your mindset/habits, commitment level and current lifestyle.* ## **Summary: 8 Easy ways to diet for the time poor mum** For single mums juggling a million tasks, finding time to focus on their own health can feel like mission impossible. They are often stretched thin between work, household chores, and taking care of their children. Finding time to plan and prepare healthy meals is also a major challenge, and that leaves little room for self-care activities like exercise. Budget constraints can also make it difficult for single mothers to afford nutritious food options. Healthy foods are often more expensive than processed or convenience foods, so we can’t blame them if they opt for cheaper, less nutritious alternatives. You may or may not be aware of this, but the stress associated with being a single parent can sometimes lead to emotional eating. Turning to food for comfort can sabotage weight loss efforts and start a cycle of unhealthy eating habits. We hear you, Mama. But do you know? Despite these challenges, many single mums find ways to overcome obstacles and make positive changes to their health. With determination, it’s possible for single mothers to achieve their health and wellness goals while balancing the demands of solo parenting. Our list of easy ways to diet will help you kickstart your journey to a healthier you without adding extra stress to your plate (and your wallet!). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/1.png "1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** exercise, weight loss, meal replacement shakes, lose weight, diet program, fasting --- ### [Childhood anxiety: How to spot it and what to do](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/) **Published:** April 19, 2023 **Author:** Jessie White **Content:** Anxiety is a normal human emotion that everyone experiences occasionally, but when it becomes excessive and persistent, it can be a cause for concern, especially in children. Childhood anxiety can manifest in various ways and can affect a child’s daily life, including their academic, social, and family interactions. Unfortunately, many parents and caregivers may not recognise the signs of anxiety in their children or may dismiss them as typical childhood behaviour. Identifying and addressing childhood anxiety early on is crucial to preventing it from affecting the child’s mental health and overall well-being. In this article, we will discuss how to spot childhood anxiety and provide tips on what parents and caregivers can do to help their children manage and overcome their anxiety. ***Further reading: [17 Children’s books about anxiety and worry](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/15-books-to-help-kids-with-anxiety-worry-and-stress/).*** ## How to spot childhood anxiety Much like our children, childhood anxiety is unique, special and sometimes hard to categorise. Everyone experiences it differently and to varying degrees. Here are just some of the signs to look out for. ### Asking lots of questions An anxious child may ask the same question over and over or different questions around the same subject/topic. Children with anxiety seek reassurance that their world is safe, secure and can be soothed. Their brain tells them something about this topic is unsafe, unknown and dangerous. Remember, our adult brains have logical, reasoning and thinking centres far more developed than children, and in these moments, these parts are switched on and working. For our children, they most likely are not. You might have answered and answered well, yet they are still asking. ### Sleep challenges and childhood anxiety When a child is experiencing anxiety, they can find it [hard to go to sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/), night waking and nightmares. Their gorgeous brains are spinning around and around in emotions, thoughts and images. They cannot switch it off easily. Going to sleep for some children can be experienced as dangerous, either from early trauma, current home situations (DV, recent separation, parents changing jobs, new sibling) or fears. If we think about our evolution, we needed our caregivers close within the same room/cave to ensure we weren’t another animal’s dinner. We might be in houses and safe from being hunted now, yet our brains and especially defenceless children’s brains, still activate their stress responses. ### Implosive behaviours ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-7929426-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-7929426 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by [mikhail nilov](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-boy-in-gray-sweater-7929426/) Many behaviours could be signs of childhood anxiety. These include, but are not limited to: - Crying a lot - Whinging - Self-harm, - Needing to be perfect - Changing personality to fit in with different groups - Verbalising negative thoughts - Being withdrawn - Not participating in activities at school, at home or socially, - Inability or appearing unwilling to do things that their peers might be enjoying or engaging in ### Explosive behaviours Often, children with anxiety who fall more into this category get incorrectly labelled as [ADHD](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/attention-deficit-disorder-add-or-adhd) (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). They express their fear outwardly, unlike implosive people who express it inwardly. Explosive anxious people can move around a lot, fidget, pace around, be physical when their system is overwhelmed, yell, scream, and be defiant because they need to control anything to ease the anxiety. They repeat sounds or words or phrases like a mantra or broken record. It is annoying to us and soothing to them – they get to focus on one singular thing. I dare you to try it. They also might get physical by hitting, kicking, destroying or throwing items, as the feelings inside are so overwhelming they need to release them and get them out. ## WAYS TO EASE CHILDHOOD ANXIETY ### Find your calm When a child is experiencing anxiety, it can be challenging for both you and your child. You may feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to help your child feel better, which can lead to frustration and anxiety for both parties. However, it is crucial to [remain calm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) when helping an anxious child. They look to their parents for reassurance and support, and if the parent appears anxious or stressed, it can exacerbate the child’s anxiety. Remaining calm and composed can help your child feel safe and secure and allow you to think more clearly and respond appropriately to your child’s needs. Additionally, modelling calm and confident behaviour will help your child learn to manage their own anxiety in the future. ### Listen, validate and support ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8654497-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8654497 1 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by [mikhail nilov](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/boy-with-hand-under-chin-8654497/) Listen to your child’s anxious thoughts and fears. Validate them, doesn’t mean agreeing. To validate your child’s experience, you could say one of the following: > *“Gosh, that would be frightening and scary.”* > > *“Wow, I can see why you’re afraid to go to sleep if that is what your brain tells you.”* Support means bringing some perspective and coping tools into the mix. ### Seek professional support for your child and yourself As someone with experience with anxiety, I understand how difficult it can be to see a loved one, especially your child, struggle with this overwhelming emotion. While it’s natural to want to help your child independently, it’s essential to recognise that professional support may be necessary. Anxiety can be complex and challenging to manage, and a trained professional can offer valuable insight, guidance, and support. A mental health professional can help your child develop coping skills and strategies to manage their anxiety and provide a safe and supportive space for them to express their emotions. Seeking professional support can also help alleviate some of the pressure and stress of parenting a child with anxiety, allowing you to focus on providing your child with love and support. ### Incorporate natural remedies that the children can control and create themselves Autonomy and ownership over their anxiety are valuable skills that could help your child. This can include things like: - Meditation and mindfulness - Healthy diet - Exercise - Seeing a naturopath for a holistic approach - Using essential oils and flower essences I’ve seen incredible outcomes from flower essences and essential oils in my professional and personal life. My boys tell me how stressful their day was by asking for their self-care tools at night. I know it’s been a challenging day if they ask for the meditation app, essential oil diffuser, foot massage, and/or flower essence drops. Conversely, they indicate when it’s been a calmer day by asking for none or some of those self-care tools. ## My final word on childhood anxiety There is a scientific saying: > *“What fires together wires together.”* This is about our brains wiring pathways together when they are experienced together. Childhood anxiety doesn’t have to be a lifelong struggle. Trying the above suggestions can help wire and rewire your child’s brain for calm, quiet and filled with coping strategies. As someone who cares deeply about the well-being of children, I hope this article has provided you with valuable information on how to spot childhood anxiety and what you can do to help your child manage it. Anxiety is a normal human emotion, and it’s essential to approach it with compassion and understanding. By creating a safe and supportive environment for your child, encouraging open communication, and seeking professional support if necessary, you can help your child develop the skills and confidence needed to manage their anxiety and thrive. Remember, as a parent or caregiver, you are not alone, and there is always help available. With patience, persistence, and the proper support, you can help your child overcome their anxiety and lead a happy and healthy life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** anxiety, stress, anxiety in children --- ### [Who gets the dog? Understanding Australia’s new "companion animal" reforms in Family Law
](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-australias-new-companion-animal-reforms-in-family-law/) **Published:** May 21, 2026 **Author:** Sarah Gadallah **Content:** Historically, in the eyes of the Australian legal system, a beloved family golden retriever was treated no differently than a couch or a car. Ownership was determined by a cold assessment of financial contribution: who paid the breeder’s fee, and whose name was on the microchip registry? However, as we move through 2026, the landscape has fundamentally shifted. Following the commencement of the Family Law Amendment Act 2024 in mid-2025, the law now recognises “companion animals” as a distinct category of property. This reform bridges the gap between traditional property law and the emotional reality of modern Australian families. ## The New Legal Framework The 2025 reforms moved away from the “chattel” approach. While pets are still technically classified as property (rather than children), the Court is now mandated to consider a specific set of welfare factors when deciding where a pet should live. For the first time, the Court’s focus has shifted from who paid to who cares. ## Key Factors the Court Now Considers When a dispute over a companion animal reaches the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA), the judge will evaluate the following: - **The Primary Carer:** Who performed the daily care? This includes feeding, walking, grooming, and attending veterinary appointments. - **The Attachment of Children:** One of the most significant 2026 shifts is the explicit consideration of the bond between a child and the pet. If a pet acts as a vital source of emotional support for a child during the trauma of separation, the Court is highly likely to order that the pet remain with the child’s primary resident parent. - **Safety and Family Violence:** The new laws formally recognise that cruelty or threats towards a pet can be a form of coercive control. A history of animal abuse is now a critical factor that can disqualify a party from retaining ownership. - **Future Capacity:** The Court will look at each party’s ability to maintain the animal independently, considering factors like suitable housing, financial stability, and work schedules. ## What the Court Cannot Do ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-ron-lach-10117512-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ron-lach-10117512 - Beanstalk Mums")Image source [ron lach](http://photo%20by%20ron%20lach%20:%20https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/senior-lady-talking-to-her-dog-laying-on-sofa-10117512/) A common misconception in 2026 is that the Court can order “pet custody” or shared-time arrangements similar to parenting orders. Under the current legislation, the Court’s powers are limited to making orders for sole ownership. It can order that the pet stay with one party, be transferred to another, or, in extreme cases, be sold. It cannot, however, enforce a “week-on, week-off” schedule or order shared vet bills. If you desire a shared arrangement, this must be reached via a private Consent Order or a side agreement. ## Practical Steps for Pet Owners in 2026 If you are currently navigating a separation and a dispute over a pet is brewing, the surgical precision required in your evidence has changed. We recommend: 1. **Vet & Grooming Records:** Ensure your name is listed as the primary contact and attendee on clinical histories. 2. **A “Pet Log”:** Documenting who handles the daily routine can be persuasive evidence of primary care. 3. **The “Safety First” Approach:** If there are threats to the animal’s safety, seek legal advice from firms like [Owen Hodge Lawyers](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/family-law/) immediately, as these matters are now given significantly higher priority in property proceedings. ## The Final Word As our definition of family continues to evolve, so too must our [legal strategies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/how-much-does-a-family-lawyer-really-cost-in-australia/). The recent reforms acknowledge that for many Australians, a pet is not just an asset to be divided, but a source of stability and comfort during one of life’s most challenging transitions. By moving to a welfare-based approach, the law finally reflects the heart of the home. Whether you are negotiating a property settlement during a relationship breakdown or drafting a new Will, ensuring your companion animal’s future is handled thoughtfully is the best way to guarantee a smooth transition for every member of your family – two-legged and four-legged alike. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-australias-new-companion-animal-reforms-in-family-law/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-australias-new-companion-animal-reforms-in-family-law/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law --- ### [Painful periods? 7 Best Natural Remedies for Period Cramps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/natural-remedies-for-period-pain/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** No doubt you have gone through life being told that period problems like painful cramps and horrible mood swings are normal, right? Maybe you’ve been told that they’re something that women ‘just have to deal with’? You would’ve thought you shouldn’t be looking for unnatural or natural remedies for period pain, because it’s just going to come back next month, right? Well, let me be the one to break it to you… THESE SYMPTOMS ARE NOT NORMAL! Say what? That’s right, although cramps are a common symptom, they are not actually considered ‘normal’. (I can hear you gasping … I did too when I first learnt this stuff.) In fact, your period shouldn’t be a time of suffering. It’s a sign that something is out of balance in your body, and there are ways to address it. Whether it’s through lifestyle changes, diet, stress management, or even medical support, there’s hope to get things back on track. You don’t have to resign yourself to dreading that time of the month. You deserve to feel empowered and in control of your cycle rather than at its mercy. And this guide is here to help relieve menstrual cramps. ## So, just how common is menstrual pain? A study of Australian women aged between the years of 16 and 25 found that 88% of people who menstruate experienced dysmenorrhoea, also known as painful periods. The national prevalence of women experiencing dysmenorrhea is a whopping 70 – 90%! But here’s the kicker: women aren’t going to their GP’s with these issues, and when they do, they are quickly offered birth control as a means of treatment (side note: the pill is not a treatment but more of a band-aid solution for these symptoms, but that is a whole other story). Before we get into some natural remedies to help with menstrual pain and mood swings, it’s important to understand exactly what causes these symptoms. When it comes to menstrual health, prevention is key. Implementing these tips into your life for at least three cycles will give you the most benefits. So stick with it and I promise you will be glad that you did. ## How menstrual pains feel I don’t really believe I have to explain how menstrual pain to fellow mums. But if you need some reminder, period cramps can feel like a deep, throbbing ache in your lower belly that sometimes spreads to your lower back or legs. For some, it’s a constant, dull pain, while for others, it’s like sharp, intense waves that come and go. It can feel like your uterine muscles are in a knot, making it hard to sit still or focus on anything else. Sometimes, there’s a heavy, bloated feeling that comes with it, and it can bring on fatigue or even nausea. Everyone’s experience is a little different, but let’s be honest… period cramps can affect your life. ## The cause of symptoms when you get your period ### Period pain Menstrual pain is caused by the release of excess amounts of prostaglandins within the uterus, which leads to inflammation and pain. You can have either primary or secondary dysmenorrhea. Primary dysmenorrhea is your ‘typical’ period cramps that goes away after taking over-the-counter pain relievers like mefenamic acid or ibuprofen. It doesn’t affect your quality of life too much. Secondary dysmenorrhea is more severe and generally lasts longer. It may be caused by PCOS, endometriosis or infection, so it is important to investigate further if this sounds like you. ### Mood swings When your hormones are balanced, they are supportive of your mood! Oestrogen (the hormone in charge of the first half of your cycle) boosts your feel-good hormones serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine. Progesterone (the hormone produced in the second half of your cycle, but only after ovulation has occurred) helps to keep you calm and reduces anxiety. When your hormones are out of balance you might experience premenstrual syndrome. Common symptoms are depression, anxiety or moodiness. ![natural remedies for period pain](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/In-article-image-14.png "In article image 14 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 7 home remedies for menstrual pain and mood swings By now you’re probably thinking, ‘well it’s great that these symptoms aren’t normal … but what the heck can I actually do about it!?” Depending on pain intensity, here are some of my favourite natural remedies that that may help reduce menstrual pain at home: ### 1. Apply heat If you’re tired of popping NSAIDS every time your menstrual periods roll around, you might want to check out some natural remedies for period pain. A systematic review and meta-analysis from 2022 found that heat can actually be as effective as ibuprofen for relieving cramps. That’s right! Just a warm pack on your belly can help your womb contract and relax to help ease those annoying menstrual symptoms. Perhaps the simplest of home remedies to relieve menstrual pain is applying heat to the area. Heat therapy is first aid for severe cramps. A wheat pack or hot water bottle works great for this. Apply a hot water bottle or heating pad on your abdomen to soothe pain as required. Even a heat patch would do. ### 2. Take magnesium Magnesium works by reducing prostaglandin levels and relaxing the uterus. One of the easiest (and most relaxing) ways to incorporate magnesium into your life is in a bath! You can purchase either Epsom salts or magnesium flakes and add 1-2 cups to your bath to help treat menstrual pain relief. Start taking magnesium baths in the days leading up to your period to help reduce pain. Additionally, supplements like [Gundry MD Total Restore](https://www.consumerhealthdigest.com/health-supplements/total-restore-review.html "Gundry MD Total Restore"), which contain a beneficial amount of magnesium, not only support menstrual relief but also promote gut health, helping to maintain a healthy digestive system alongside overall wellness. ### 3. Golden milk Turmeric is another natural remedy that reduces prostaglandins! My favourite home remedy that incorporates turmeric is golden milk, which is known for its antiinflammatory benefits. It is a lush, slightly spiced hot drink that is perfect for reducing period pain. I like to make up a batch of turmeric paste and freeze it in ice cube trays. Then you can pop them into a container and store them in the freezer. A few days before your period is due, take a cube out and heat it in a cup of your favourite milk. Easy peasy! There is a plethora of recipes available online. When searching for a recipe, be sure to choose one that has black pepper and some form of oil/ fat in it to increase absorption of the turmeric. If you’re not fan of creamy beverages, you can also try ginger tea or other herbal teas. ([Placebo-controlled studies](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10460800/) also found turmeric to be beneficial against heart ailments, so I don’t know why you’re not yet buying your first pack now. It’s a perfect nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory concoction.) ### 4. Castor oil heat pack Castor oil packs can help to reduce cramping and bloating associated with your period. You will need a hot water bottle, towel, hand towel, jar and castor oil (preferably organic). Firstly, prepare your hot water bottle and lay in a comfy position. Tuck the towel into your pants, skirt or underwear to protect your clothing from the oil, you can also lay on a towel to protect your furniture. Soak the hand towel in castor oil (it doesn’t need to be dripping) and place the hand towel over your lower abdomen. Place the hot water bottle over the hand towel and relax for 20 to 30 minutes. After this time, wipe the excess oil off your abdomen, place the oily hand towel in the jar for the next time you use it and store in the fridge. Ideally, treatment should be done for 3-4 days per week leading up to your period. Note: Please DO NOT do this treatment during your period. The increased [lymphatic flow will promote heavy bleeding.](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8652051/) ### 5. Seed cycling One way you can help support hormonal balance at home is with seed cycling! This is the process of eating different seeds during different phases of your cycle. The seeds help promote hormonal balance by optimising nutritional intake, supporting oestrogen and progesterone levels and aiding in detoxification of hormones. Here’s how to do it in a nutshell: - You will need flaxseeds, pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds and sunflower seeds as these foods may also help. Make sure you buy the whole seed and not a pre-ground version. - Pre-grind your seeds in a coffee grinder or bullet blender every 3-4 days and store them in the fridge to help prevent them from going rancid. You can mix the 2 combinations together to make this easier for yourself (eg. For 3 day’s worth, add 3 tablespoons of flaxseeds and 3 tablespoons of pumpkin seeds and blitz.) - During the follicular phase of your cycle (menstruation to ovulation/ roughly day 1 to day 14) take 2 tablespoons of your ground flaxseed and pumpkin seed mix. During the luteal phase of your cycle (ovulation to before menstruation/ roughly day 15 to day 28) take 2 tablespoons of the ground sesame seed and sunflower seed mix. - Add the ground seeds to your smoothie, sprinkle them on your salads, add them into soups or simply mix them in water. Remember to have them every day of your cycle! You will see the best results after using this method for 3-4 cycles. ### 6. Essential oils If you’re struggling with period pains, essential oils may really help. Many peer-reviewed studies show that aromatherapy is great for relaxing tense muscles and improving blood flow. I’d recommend trying lavender for soothing cramps and stress, or clary sage, which is amazing for balancing hormones. Peppermint’s cooling effect is also great for quick relief. You can mix a few drops with a carrier oil and massage it onto your abdomen, or even add some to a warm bath for extra comfort. It’s a simple, natural way to feel better when cramps hit. Of course, make sure to use quality essential oils. Not all essential oils are made equal. Make sure you’re choosing a manufacturer with strict sourcing guidelines and relies on peer-reviewed studies for their products. ![natural remedies for period pain](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Katerina-may-6clboiwuzsu-unsplash-1200x800.jpg "Katerina-may-6clboiwuzsu-unsplash - Beanstalk Mums") ### 7. The effect of yoga Yoga and other gentle exercises can be a great way to ease period cramps and feel more comfortable during your cycle. Studies have shown that regular yoga practice, especially gentle stretches and deep breathing exercises, can help alleviate the intensity of menstrual pain. Studies published by various academic research institutions found that women who did yoga experienced less severe cramps. By helping to reduce stress, relax muscles, and improve circulation, yoga offers a natural, soothing option for managing period discomfort. ## If nothing works… If none of these home remedies for severe menstrual cramps are lending you any relief, I recommend working with a women’s health naturopath to get to the bottom of any hormonal imbalances. When it comes to hormones, it is so important to consider the basics. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating well? Dietary changes can affect your hormones. Are you detoxifying your hormones? Are you exercising regularly? What are your stress levels like? Is your gut function optimal? All of these factors play a contributing role towards hormonal imbalances and cause menstrual cramps! And if you need help to guiding your daughter through her period read this: [How to talk to your daughter about her period (from the pros)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/talk-to-your-daughter-about-her-period/). ## Conclusion: Natural remedies for period pain at home From ginger tea to yoga, these home remedies for menstrual cramps may help relieve pain when you experience cramps. Remember, cramps are normal, but if they’re a total nightmare, it’s always good to check with your doctor. Some of these home remedies can help deal with severe pain, especially for those dealing with premenstrual dysphoric disorder. Plus, the best part? Many of these natural options encourage your body to release endorphins, those feel-good hormones that can lighten your mood. So next time you’re suffering, don’t just randomise your approach, try some of these easy and natural home remedies! After all, who doesn’t want to feel less pain during menstrual bleeding? Give them a shot and see what works for you! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/natural-remedies-for-period-pain/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/natural-remedies-for-period-pain/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** menstrual cycle, time of the month, mood swings, stomach cramps, natural health --- ### [Helpful ways to prepare your child for primary school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/helpful-ways-to-prepare-your-child-for-primary-school/) **Published:** December 24, 2021 **Author:** Andrew Oberthur **Content:** Starting school is an exciting time in a child’s life. It can also be an anxious time for children and parents alike. So, how can we help our child prepare for school in such a way that will minimise their anxiety and allow them to look forward to the journey ahead? There are some simple things you can do to give your child the confidence to be ready to face the challenges that school will present to them. Hopefully they will also give you peace of mind that your child will be ready to face school for the first time. Let me suggest these things to prepare your child for primary school. ## HELPFUL WAYS TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD FOR PRIMARY SCHOOL ### CHECK OUT THE PRIMARY SCHOOL Firstly, if you get a chance, visit the school. Some schools welcome families to visit the campus, explore the playground and walk past the classroom so the child is familiar with environment. This may have happened during orientation process late last year. It is an opportunity to remind the child: > *“This is your school”* > > *“This is the playground”* > > *“This is your classroom’.”* ### GET FAMILIAR WITH THE UNIFORM Second idea: Get your child to try on their school uniform multiple times over the next few weeks. This gives them a sense that they are going to be wearing these clothes to “big school”. It also means you have to wash the uniform and make it a bit softer, to take away that stiffness that comes with any new clothes. If they have to wear formal shoes for the first time, make sure they spend a few hours walking around in them. I actually know of children who slept in their uniform with the excitement and anticipation that they’re going to be wearing this too “big school” in the next week. Children should be able to use buttons, manipulate zips, use shoelaces or Velcro. This way, if they are allowed to take their shoes and socks off, or if they have a swimming lesson, they are able to undress and dress themselves independently. Remember, your child will be wearing a hat to school so make sure they have “worn in” their new hat. ### WORK ON NAME RECOGNITION Make sure your child can recognise their own name because you’re going to have labelled all their clothes and belongings with it! Not essential but really handy. ### ORGANISE SOME PLAYDATES If they get the opportunity for a playdate with some of their classmates before school it can really help. It also gives you a support base of other parents whose children are starting school for the first time. Have a conversation with the other mums while your child gets to chat and play with some mates. As a mum, you can share your concerns and wisdom with other parents in a supportive environment. Then, come Day One, you are as calm as possible. ### PRACTICE WITH LUNCH To give your child a sense of independence and confidence it’s important that they are self-sufficient with their eating habits. If they have a new lunchbox make sure your child can open and close it. If you provide a popper to drink, make sure they can open the straw and puncture the carton. ### SAY THE TEACHERS NAME When it comes to the first day, your child needs to know their teacher’s name. It can help to practice saying it. Mrs Smith is easy. Mr Oberthur is not so easy! Some schools will have released their class lists so you’ll know the teacher’s name and who is in their class. This will allow you to familiarise your child with both the teacher’s name and the names of some of their classmates. ## GETTING PREPARED FOR PRIMARY SCHOOL (CONT.) ### TALK TO OTHER PARENTS There will be other parents feeling the same sense of excitement and possibly anxiety that you may be feeling. If so, share those feelings with other parents because they will appreciate knowing that they’re not alone. When the school offers you Tissues and Tim Tams on the first day, or the first week, take the opportunity to go and meet other parents. ### ENCOURAGE READING When it comes to your child’s learning experiences what you do and what you’ve already done will set them up for academic success. The greatest gift you can give your child is a [love of reading](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pre-schooler-headstart-in-literacy/). 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You can acknowledge their nerves and that they might be feeling a little bit anxious and that’s quite ok. That’s perfectly normal. 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For this reason, subscription boxes are all the rage. And what can be better than the gift that just keeps giving! ## WHAT IS A SUBSCRIPTION BOX? A subscription box is a box filled with curated products that are delivered straight to your doorstep. Subscription boxes are recurring deliveries, and you usually get a box each month for the length of your subscription. Either the subscriber or the company curates the boxes around a theme in a particular niche, like beauty, food and fitness products. It’s a great way to get multiple items that you love in one delivery. There’s also an element of surprise as you don’t know exactly which products you’re going to get, which makes it all the more fun. ## WHY DOES A SUBSCRIPTION BOX MAKE A WONDERFUL GIFT? Are you always stumped when it comes to choosing the perfect gift? A subscription box is the perfect solution. Sign up your recipient to a box based around their interests and let the subscription company take care of the rest. A subscription box makes the ultimate gift as the items are specifically curated to the giftee’s likes and preferences. We love that there’s a subscription box for everyone, from knickers to kids crafts to gourmet food … you’ll never run out out of options. ## HOW TO CHOOSE AND ORDER A SUBSCRIPTION BOX It’s easy as 1-2-3. There’s often more than one type of plan for every subscription box, the most popular being the monthly plan that runs for a year. Your card will be charged each month until you cancel, or you can choose to pre-pay for all the boxes. If you want a shorter duration, choose the 3 month or 6 month plan. Always check the options to make sure you’re getting the plan you want. Now we’ve got the basics out the way, let’s help you find the perfect subscription box, whoever it is you are buying for. *Please note: Some box subscriptions have paid to be in this article but are only allowed to list on approval.* ### BEAUTY AND FASHION BOXES ### [Knobby](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/81070?Url=https%3a%2f%2fknobby.com.au%2f) An underwear subscription? Yes, please! This is simply the BEST way to get undies without going shopping. Get the most comfortable, most imaginative undies each month, delivered straight to your door! You’ll love that you don’t get the same design twice, so it’s a surprise every time you open the box. [![Knobby Subscription Box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Happy_Hour_-_Banner_1024x.jpg "knobby - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/81070?Url=https%3a%2f%2fknobby.com.au%2f) ***Box delivery interval options**: Monthly* ***Payment options:** Amex, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Mastercard, PayPal, Shop Pay, Visa, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Expect your delivery in 1-15 working days* ***Why we like this box:** No lock-ins, no minimum spends, no cancellation fees, and they use ZERO single-use plastic for their packaging!* ### [Bellabox](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/bellabox-gift-packs.cfm?affid=771&cfclick=db01399c2a3747f9b66deb3db8762961) This subscription box allows you to enjoy 5+ surprise beauty items every month! Bellabox is known for distributing amazing beauty products for subscribers to enjoy. 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[![Beautifully Well Subscription Box | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Dec-2019.jpg "Dec 2019 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beautifullywellbox.com.au/pages/1-month-subscription-lp1?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=beanstalkmums) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly, 3, 6, and 12 months* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal Express, Shop Pay, Apple Pay, Google Pay* ***Delivery details:** Free standard shipping Australia-wide* ***Why we like this box:** Cancel anytime, 100% no-risk 30-day money-back guarantee, great value and variety of good-for-you products in each box, eco-friendly packaging* ### [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2fbeauty-box.html) Nourished Life lets you test up-and-coming beauty brands as well as top-rated bestsellers all in one box. Receive organic skincare, makeup, health products, and home items every month. ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly, 12 months* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal* ***Delivery details:** Free delivery* ***Why we like this box:** Cancel anytime (monthly plan), natural/organic box option* ### [Hello Peachiee Lingerie](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fhello-peachiee-lingerie.cfm) New sets of cute underwear delivered to your doorstep! If you have the urge to shop for new outfits every month or so, why not invest the same in the items that you rely on the most? Hello Peachiee delivers beautiful new designs every month- all made of 100% cotton gusset! ### [![Hello Peachiee Lingerie](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/5499/41163/xlarge/Hello-Peachiee-Lingerie-Jan-2023.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fhello-peachiee-lingerie.cfm) ***Box delivery interval options**: 8, 12, 16 weeks* ***Payment options:** Visa, Mastercard, Amex, Prepaid cards* ***Delivery details:** Carbon-neutral shipping on all orders, free delivery on most orders.* ***Why we like this box:** Money-back guarantee and 50% of profits donated to ensure everyone has access to clean water and a toilet within our lifetime.* ### [Who Gives A Crap](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100loQuu) Who A Crap makes eco-friendly products and donates 50% of its profits to help build toilets for the billions of people in need. To date, they’ve donated over AUD 10.8 million to fund sanitation projects around the globe. 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[![The Mofo Club Subcription Box | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Mofo_Club_Mix_Red-_mixed_case_720x720px.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/27340?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.vinomofo.com%2fwine-clubs%2fmofo-club) ***Box delivery interval options:** Every 1, 2, or 3 months* ***Payment options:** Credit card* ***Delivery details:** Australia-wide, free shipping* ***Why we like this box:** Detailed wine reviews, personalised recommendations* ### [The Whisky Club](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75983?Url=https%3a%2f%2fthewhiskyclub.com.au%2f) Prefer whiskey over wine? The Whisky Club is Australia’s biggest whisky subscription, with no sign-up fees or contracts. [![The Whisky Club](https://i.ibb.co/ZJQxRC3/Homepage-Banner-D11.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75983?Url=https%3a%2f%2fthewhiskyclub.com.au%2f) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly* ***Costs:** From $110-145/bottle* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal* ***Delivery details:** Flat rate $15 Australia-wide* ***Why we like this box:** Receive amazing whiskies from around the world, no contracts or monthly membership fees* ### [Sans Drinks](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fsansdrinks.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fsubscription-boxes) [![Sans Drinks Subscription Box | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/AutumnSpecialMixedBundle6Pack-800x800.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://go.skimresources.com/?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fsansdrinks.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fsubscription-boxes) A beverage subscription box for the sober kids? Absolutely. Offering the best brands for non-alcoholic wines, beers, and spirits, Sans Drinks has great subscription offerings for you! ***Box delivery interval options:** Every 1,2, or 3 months* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Apple Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Flat rate for Sydney same-day delivery* ***Why we like this box:** Receive amazing non-alcoholic wines, beers, and spirits!* ### [Garden Street Gin Club](https://www.gardenstreet.com.au/) Garden Street Gin Club’s curated boxes are filled with a whole bottle of craft gin plus two bottles of tonic water, sweet and savoury snacks, a magazine and more goodies delivered to your door each month. 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Add or remove products anytime and choose how often you receive restocks. 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Bionic Books offers a personalised book subscription that sends you great title recommendations from expert curators who base their picks on your preferences! 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Their subscription boxes are specially designed to include a handful of activities that will help your children learn more about the world around them. [![Green Kid Crafts Subscription Box](https://www.greenkidcrafts.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Garden-Box-Photos-2021-6.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=387394&u=1855502&m=40843&urllink=&afftrack=) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly* ***Payment options:** Credit card, Paypal* ***Delivery details:** Free delivery for US customers only* ***Why we like this box:** Environmentally thoughtful and educational activities for children that you can cancel anytime* ### [KiwiCo Science and Art Subscription Boxes](https://www.kiwico.com/) Encourage kids’ creativity and engineering/design skills with a monthly box from KiwiCo. The box is filled with high-quality materials for maker projects, plus magazines, DIY tips, and more. ### [![Subscription Boxes Australia | Beanstalk Mums](https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn%3AANd9GcSMDB9tmbZTeXcuat0S_lKKvHvGwxdVL07Jj7xlFu4fE6G2iNaj)](https://www.kiwico.com/) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly, 3, 6, and 12 months* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal* ***Delivery details:** Shipping fee depends on location* ***Why we like this box:** Cancel anytime, switch box types anytime, box options for different ages/interests* ### [Sow N’ Sow Gift of Seeds](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fsow-n-sow-gift-of-seeds.cfm) Cultivate the earth and enjoy nurturing plant species that are picked according to the Australian seasons and suitable sowing times. This is the subscription that literally keeps on giving… and growing. Sow ‘n Sow’s seed subscription offers unique Gift of Seeds varieties for every month. [![Sow N' Sow Gift of Seeds Subscription Box](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/5462/40732/large/Sow-n-Sow-Gift-of-Seeds-Subscript-Jul-2021-1.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fsow-n-sow-gift-of-seeds.cfm) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Afterpay, iSubscribe voucher, gift cards, or reward points* ***Delivery details:** Subscriptions are posted at the start of every month; expect to receive delivery in the first 10 days, monthly.* ***Why we like this box:** Seeds are selected for Australia’s right month and season.* ### [PeekyMe Animal Lovers](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fpeekyme-animal-lovers-craft-box.cfm) Watch your kids enjoy and get creative with craft boxes filled with activities from Animal Lovers. Their themes include storytelling, food, nature, and more! All the PeekyMe Animal Lovers activities are designed for younger children. [![PeekyMe Animal Lovers Subscription Boxes](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/5418/40331/large/PeekyMe-Animal-Lovers-Craft-Box-Jun-2020-3.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fpeekyme-animal-lovers-craft-box.cfm) ***Box delivery interval options:** Monthly* ***Payment options:** Credit card, PayPal, Afterpay, iSubscribe voucher, gift cards, or reward points* ***Delivery details:** Please allow up to 2-5 weeks for the first delivery.* ***Why we like this box:** Craft activities for children that they can use in their themed and imaginative play and storytelling.* ## Self care subscription boxes Australia ### [Crimson Collective](https://crimsoncollective.com.au/) Never dread your period again. The classily named Crimson Collective recently launched their hand-curated Period Subscription Boxes. 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But the trick is … not to feel like a complete fool! At the mildly worrying age of 49, when it comes to choosing fancy undies, I am very aware there is a fine line between hot and smokin’ and trying to hold it all in. Don’t get me wrong. I’m fine in my own skin. I’ve housed two beautiful babies in this bod and no longer hide my stretch marks, instead, I wear them as a badge of honour. As a busy, working mum, I’ve not always had the time or energy to take care of my figure as I would have liked, and yes, it shows! But none of this stops me from wanting to look and feel sexy … whether for a lover in the bedroom or just to make me feel damn good. Yet, it can take a bold woman to pull off some of the latest [sexy undies you can find online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-sexy-underwear-online-discounts/) (think handkerchief for an ant!). So, what about the more reserved lady who wants to look great but stay within her comfort zone? Don’t stress you gorgeous ladies. Here is my top pick of sexy lingerie outfits you won’t feel a complete fool in, alongside where to buy and browse for more. As a recent addition to this article, I’ve included a section with my tips for buying sexy undies. I really hope this will help you not only choose the perfect outfit but also enjoy the process of picking something you feel super confident and crazy hot in. ***Further reading: [How to get your confidence back in bed (even if it’s been a while](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/get-confidence-back-in-bed/)).*** ## 12 Sexy lingerie outfits you won’t feel a fool in ## 1. Lovehoney Peek-a-Boo White Lace Babydoll Set Lovehoney’s Peek-a-Boo White Lace Babydoll Set is the perfect combo of comfort and seduction. The plunging neckline with lace details draws the eye to your assets and the see-through skirt skims your hourglass figure. Adjustable straps and soft, clingy material ensure a great fit for all body types. And with the open-back design and cheeky thong, your lover won’t be able to keep their hands off you. [![Lovehoney Peek-a-Boo White Lace Babydoll Set | sexy lingerie](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/83750_a46618_white_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbaby-dolls-chemises%2fp%2flovehoney-peek-a-boo-white-lace-babydoll-set%2fa46618g83750.html) We found this at: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbaby-dolls-chemises%2fp%2flovehoney-peek-a-boo-white-lace-babydoll-set%2fa46618g83750.html)* ## 2. [](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44483&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.brasnthings.com%2Fvamp-havent-you-heard-push-up-bra-black.html)Enchanted Perpetual Femininity Plunge Underwire Corset[](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44483&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.brasnthings.com%2Fvamp-havent-you-heard-push-up-bra-black.html) The Enchanted Perpetual Femininity Corset from Bras N’ Things is perfect if you love sexy lingerie that provides full support. The stretch fabric won’t cut into your skin and the sheer lace and mesh show off your assets. Pair it with a full-coverage satin top for ultimate comfort. [![Enchanted Perpetual Femininity Plunge Corset](https://www.brasnthings.com/media/catalog/product/0/1/01290701_05.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44483&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.brasnthings.com%2Fenchanted-perpetual-femininty-plunge-underwire-corset-dark-pink-multi-colour.html) *We found this at: [Bras N’ Things](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44483&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.brasnthings.com%2Fenchanted-perpetual-femininty-plunge-underwire-corset-dark-pink-multi-colour.html)* ## 3. Leopard Print Camidoll set Take a walk on the wild side in the Leopard Print Camidoll set from adultshop.com without showing too much. The plunging neck reveals cleavage but the cropped top hides flaws so you can look and feel confidently seductive. Made from gorgeous nylon mesh with lace detailing that you can wear with pants or jeans. *We found this at: [adultshop.com](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34726?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.adultshop.com%2fstm-11263-2-piece-leopard-print-camidoll-set)* ## Where to buy sexy underwear online (cont.) ## 4. Libido Boost Eyelash Babydoll with Thong This 2-piece set from ClubX is a bestseller and I can see why. It comes in red, black, and white – take your pick! Feel sexy and confident in an instant with its lace see-through design. The fabric feels super soft on the skin, while the flirty nightie and crotchless thong really up the seduction metre.. [![Libido Boost Eyelash Babydoll with Thong](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/image.png "image - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64094?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.clubx.com.au%2fproducts%2flibido-boost-eyelash-babydoll-w-thong-2-pc-9) *We found this at: [ClubX](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64094?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.clubx.com.au%2fproducts%2flibido-boost-eyelash-babydoll-w-thong-2-pc-9)* ## 5. Vixen Neon Symphony Bra and Panty This garter belt and panty set from Femplay is anything but boring. It’s perfect if you want to feel comfortable while still feeling like a bombshell. The lace material is soft and flatters every figure, and the straps hug your body in all the right places. The peek-a-boo detail and neon hot pink material are super fun and flirty. [![Vixen Neon Symphony Bra and Panty | sexy lingerie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Vixen-Neon-Symphony-533x800.jpg "Vixen-Neon-Symphony - Beanstalk Mums")](cfjump.com/59558/t/34852?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.femplay.com.au%2fvixen-neon-symphony-bra-garter-belt-and-panty-one-size.html) *We found this at: [Femplay](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34852?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.femplay.com.au%2fvixen-neon-symphony-bra-garter-belt-and-panty-one-size.html)* ## 6. Tropical Dreams Open Back Floral Lace Teddy Colourful sexy lingerie is always a winner in my book. This aqua teddy from Wild Secrets will make you feel like a million bucks. Tease and strut confidently in the soft, stretchy fabric that hugs your skin and lets you move easily. The underwire cups enhance cleavage and the open-back design completes the vampy look. Plus, they offer discreet delivery! [![Tropical Dreams Open Back Floral Lace Teddy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/sexy-lingerie.jpg "sexy-lingerie - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f235399%2fMapale-by-Espiral-Tropical-Dreams-Open-Back-Floral-Lace-Teddy) *We found this at: [Wild Secrets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f235399%2fMapale-by-Espiral-Tropical-Dreams-Open-Back-Floral-Lace-Teddy)* ## 7. Late Night Liaison Lace Body Lovehoney’s Late Night Liaison Lace Body lets you seduce your lover with confidence. The deep V-neckline reveals cleavage and the sheer lace shows off your skin. Create an hourglass figure and a comfortable fit with the adjustable straps. And with the cheeky thong back and open crotch, they won’t be able to keep their hands off you. [![Late Night Liaison Lace Body | sexy lingerie](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/72050_a39224_blue_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbodies-teddies%2fp%2flovehoney-late-night-liaison-blue-crotchless-lace-body%2fa39224g72050.html) *We found this at: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbodies-teddies%2fp%2flovehoney-late-night-liaison-blue-crotchless-lace-body%2fa39224g72050.html)* ## Buy sexy lingerie online in Australia (cont.) ## 8. Killing It Fishnet Bra Set Be a master of seduction in the Killing it Fishnet Bra Set from Club X. The black mesh material is completely see-through, looks amazing on any body type and lets your turn up the heat without any self-consciousness. [![Killing It Fishnet Bra Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/image-1.png "image-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64094?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.clubx.com.au%2fproducts%2fkilling-it-fishnet-bra-set) *We found this at: [Club X](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64094?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.clubx.com.au%2fproducts%2fkilling-it-fishnet-bra-set)* ## 9. Leopard Lace Mini Dress Here’s another full coverage sexy lingerie you won’t look a fool in. Adult Toy Megastore’s pink leopard lace mini dress is a dream: sheer mesh cups and scopp neckline to show off you cleavage and collarbone, a flirty fitted skirt and matching panty, and leopard print lace with open side panels. Also great for wearing as a regular nighty. [![Leopard Lace Mini Dress | sexy lingerie](https://atmsc.azureedge.net/prod-five/228275_0.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fbody-stocking%2fleopard-lace-mini-dress%2f217806%2f85%2f) *We found this at: [Adult Toy Megastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fbody-stocking%2fleopard-lace-mini-dress%2f217806%2f85%2f)* ***Further reading: [Find beautiful plus sized underwear in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/where-to-buy-gorgeous-plus-size-underwear-online/)*** ## 10. Milanoo Sexy Teddies If you’re like me who loves to stick to basic shades like black and white – this sexy teddy will not disappoint. The body-hugging design will flatter your curves without being too tight on the skin. The belted design creates the illusion of a smaller waist and the v-shaped neckline draws the eye to your best features. We love the uber-cheeky thong and barely-there lace cups. This is the lingerie to wear if you want to impress. [![Milanoo Sexy Teddies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/image-2.png "image-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fteddies-lingerie-white-polyester-women-sexy-teddies-p1034410.html) *We found this at: [Milanoo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fteddies-lingerie-white-polyester-women-sexy-teddies-p1034410.html)* ## 11. Underwired Lace Triangle Bra & Crotchless G-String Set Lovehoney sexy lingerie always makes you look and feel awesome, and this bra and g-string set is no different. The halterneck bra accentuates your body shape with adjustable straps for a perfect fit. The underwire is just right for a gentle boost. Reveal all and send him to cloud 9 with the open thong and removable lace cups. 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[![2-piece Peekaboo Bra and Gstring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/2-piece-peekaboo-bra.jpg "2-piece-peekaboo-bra - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fbikini-sets%2f2-piece-peekaboo-bra-and-gstring%2f224558%2f82%2f) *We found this at: [Adulttoymegastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fbikini-sets%2f2-piece-peekaboo-bra-and-gstring%2f224558%2f82%2f)* ## My tips for choosing super sexy undies you won’t feel stupid wearing ### Stick to your own style I’m a jeans and t-shirt kinda gal. I don’t go for bright colours and the latest trends but love a little vintage and lace from time to time. For this reason, I feel more comfortable in black or white lingerie with a retro yet raunchy look. I advise you to choose sexy undies that match your everyday style because you’ll feel more comfortable in them. And feeling comfy and at ease is the fast track to that seductive, sensual look you’re going for. ### Select styles that work for your body type Like I said, my body is not how it used to be. But even if I’m proud of every single stretch mark, it doesn’t mean that I force myself on sexy lingerie designs that don’t look good on me. Choosing undies that complement your body type is key to feeling confident and sexy, especially for mums in their fabulous 40s like me. Select styles that enhance your best features – embrace your curves! If you’re an hourglass, highlight that waist; if you’re pear-shaped, draw attention to your upper body. Opt for lace or satin to add a touch of elegance, and if you have a vibrant personality, don’t shy away from bold colours. ### Be sure to get the size right Yes, you want to feel sexy and confident, but finding out that you’re now a size 16 (when you used to be a size 6) can cause that confidence to dwindle. Fear not fellow mum, because there are sexy lingerie brands that accommodate all shapes and sizes (like some of our recommendations above). Remember, confidence begins with the perfect fit. The right size not only feels fantastic but also accentuates your curves in all the right places – a crucial feat if you’ll be wearing it on date night (\*wink). Don’t underestimate the power of a well-fitted bra or panties – it can make all the difference. Get professionally measured if needed (and if you can), because our bodies change. I prefer lingerie that fits snugly and allows some room for a hint of mystery. Avoiding anything too tight or too loose is the golden rule. ### Pick colours that suit you So, I hit this lingerie store recently. The salesperson suggested a hot burgundy lace set. I was like, “Hmm, maybe?” I never had that shade before, so I was hesitant. But when I tried it on, it looked fantastic on me! The colour vibed with my skin tone, and suddenly I felt like a boss. Talk about a confidence boost! Lesson learned – trust the store peeps and be open to trying new shades. This burgundy number not only hugged my curves but also gave me that extra oomph. Never underestimate the sass and confidence a killer hue can bring. ### Browse online for inspiration I’ll spill another one of my go-to moves when lingerie shopping. It’s none other than browsing body-positive platforms where real women showcase their killer looks. Scroll through different websites and check out influencers flaunting their fave brands and styles on social media. I have found that Pinterest boards are a goldmine for unique lingerie ideas. I also appreciate how Instagram reels offer styles that cater to various body types. Remember not to focus solely on the models. Instead, consider them as everyday women embracing their sexy and the confidence that they exude. ### Make use of the push-up bra! Let’s talk about the magic that is the push-up bra! This little wonder does wonders for giving the girls a boost, enhancing your cleavage, and adding that extra va-va-voom to any outfit. When I’m feeling a bit low or just want to spice things up, I throw on a push-up bra and watch my confidence skyrocket. I’ve got a favourite black lace push-up that’s my go-to when I want to amp up the sass. Wearing it makes me feel like I don’t need to conform to anyone’s standards, and that I can embrace my curves and feel fabulous doing it. The push-up bra will remind you just how gorgeous and confident you are, mama! Flaunt it, own it, and let that push-up bra be your lingerie sidekick. ### Go for fuller cover (it can still be super sexy) If you prefer rocking fuller-coverage lingerie, you definitely can! You can still be smokin’ hot and feel like a queen! Besides, sexy lingerie is not only about showing skin but embracing your body in whatever style makes you feel amazing. Whether it’s lacy bodysuits or high-waisted sets that accentuate your curves and leave a little to the imagination – you can wear whatever design you want. Trust me, there’s something incredibly empowering about feeling secure and sexy at the same time. I’ve got this killer black lacey bodysuit that’s my absolute favourite for those days when I want to command attention without baring it all. Remember, sexy comes in all shapes and styles, and rocking that fuller coverage can make you feel like the goddess you truly are! ### Shop for sexy lingerie with a confident mindset I cannot stress this enough, ladies – confidence is your ultimate accessory. Whether you’re shopping online or in a physical store, your mindset matters most – you have to own it! Remember, the standards of society don’t matter, because you deserve to feel worthy, beautiful, and sexy. Don’t be afraid to try new styles or colours that speak to your fabulous self. Strut into that shop or click through those websites with a mindset that says, “I am a queen, and I deserve lingerie that makes me feel like one.” Your confidence will radiate, and trust me, that’s the real secret to looking and feeling irresistible in whatever sexy lingerie you choose. ## Summary: Sexy lingerie outfits you won’t feel a complete fool in When buying sexy lingerie, comfort is key. You can either stick to pieces that make you feel good while looking great or you can be adventurous with your picks, as long as you’re comfortable. If you’re in a relationship, also consider your partner’s preferences and choose pieces that will make him hop in bed right away! Keep in mind, though, that you are celebrating your body, not conforming to unrealistic standards. If you are happily single, that’s totally fine too! Remember, you don’t need to be with a man to buy sexy lingerie. Besides, they’re not only for sexy time- these undies help boost confidence in us ladies when we need it most. Even when I was single, I rewarded myself with steamy pieces from my favourite brands, because I knew I deserved it. Whether it’s a lacy teddy or a silk chemise, make sure the pieces suit your unique shape – curves and all! If it’s your first time buying sexy lingerie, my tips above will get you on the right track. So, beautiful ladies, go forth with confidence, and let your lingerie shopping be a celebration of your fabulous self! 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Drinking ruins my health kick (that I start every Monday religiously) and I have so little “me time” that I’d rather spend that time catching up with my existing friends and family that I’m grossly neglecting! > ### Be introduced? > > But how awkward going to all that effort only to feel desperate and realise “Mr perfect” has bad breath and now I have two people to subtly break the news to. My best friend and her colleague. Eek! > ### Speed dating? > > Fantastic … a human sushi train filled with rejection for the entree, cringing for the main and the longest five minutes of my life for dessert … no thanks! > ### Online Dating > > [Which app do I choose](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/)? Am I a “Bumble” Bumble-bee? Perhaps a “Tinder” Tinder-ella? Or shall I get un-Hinged on “Hinge”? Feeling my heart rate racing already … and not in the good way! > ### Manifestation > > Do I need to vision board my dream man into my life? As much as I would love to dedicate a year to being Julia Roberts in the movie “Eat-Pray-Love”, being a single mum is more like being the leading lady in a 24 hour action film called “Clean-Play-Fark (my life)” even though I wouldn’t have it any other way. Cynical jokes (from someone who truly gets it) aside, I have some good news and tips if you’re ready to date again. ## I WANT TO DATE AGAIN BUT WHERE THE HELL DO I START? ### 1. START WITH YOU Design your 10/10 day. Be realistic with a sprinkling of inspirational then action that plan in the MOST social way available. Add stuff from your bucket list. For example, if you power walk solo for exercise, start doing it in a group a few times a week. If you enjoy business but mainly watch webinars start going to networking events (many are on Zoom now so a great opportunity if you have young kids.) If you love self-help books, start going to motivational seminars! Mathematically, the bigger your network is, the higher the chance of a “spark” (and with someone who shares similar interests) all whilst doing the things that bring you closer to your goals. ### 2. BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER When you meet amazing couples or people, rather than thinking “all the good ones are taken” or “why not me”, instead nurture genuine friendships on your mission to date again. Be proactive and invite them over for a barbecue and encourage them to bring friends as you never know who they know. Plus, according to Oprah, “you become like the five people you spend the most time with” and you will be connecting with amazing people. Find or create meet ups for other single parents with kids of a similar age so you can be a support network for each other and who knows, possibly even more! ### 3. GET ONLINE – LET GO OF “HOW” YOU MEET THEM It amazes me how people are so resistant to “meeting someone online” when the reality is that it honestly does not matter where you meet. It matters that you meet. Let’s think logistics: Single parents are busy so online is convenient. And other single parents, career types and busy people who don’t know where to start are on also there (and probably hate the idea as much as you!). It’s a brilliant tool if you are ready to date again. Love is our deepest human need; you are not alone. Have fun! See it as networking and making new friends. And use [virtual dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/virtual-dating-during-isolation/) to screen people via a friendly intro call before wasting your time on awkward and time consuming first dates. Here is the perfect profile formula. - Two recent photos. One ultra-natural and one being the best version of you smiling (new mummy’s that might mean having your first shower in a week.) - Start with an attention grabbing headline like “prepared to lie about where we met”. Use humour and be authentic and quirky. - Then describe a typical day in your life including plenty of conversation starters and unique details about you! A profile should make a quick first impression of you, spark interest and start a conversation, it should not be an essay. Less is more and be real. For example: > A little about me: A typical day in my life would start with a walk in nature, running my home business by day and ending my day with a delicious home cooked dinner with a glass of organic red before quality family time and reading anything to do with science – yes I am a self-professed foodie and geek! ### 4. SELF LOVE BEFORE YOU EVEN START TO DATE AGAIN The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship. Sit down and ask yourself “would I date me”? Under the headings of looks, qualities and lifestyle list the top 5 reasons why and the top 5 why not. Everyday get grateful for the reasons why and work on the reasons why not (always with self-kindness and compassion). ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") And always remember, there are as many pro’s and con’s to being single as there are being in a relationship. So, enjoy every fabulous moment of exactly where you are at whilst having fun attracting the next fabulous chapter! Yours in self-love and soulmates, Miranda Claire [The Soulmate Coach](https://www.linkedin.com/in/miranda-claire-2b95108b/) ![I'm ready to date again | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Im-ready-to-date-again-1.png "I'm ready to date again - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/im-ready-to-date-again-but-where-the-hell-do-i-start/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/im-ready-to-date-again-but-where-the-hell-do-i-start/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, internet dating, relationship, finding love, meeting people --- ### [How to make change overs when co-parenting a blinding success](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/change-overs-when-coparenting/) **Published:** August 5, 2020 **Author:** Mirjana Boznovska **Content:** What is it that enables some couples to find peace and synergy in a broken relationship, while others drown in the stress of weekly change overs and ever-changing routines. The changing family dynamic ultimately requires conscious-minded decision making to enable the children to feel safe in their new situation. However, every family has different circumstances as to they arrived at their break-up. With this in mind, there can be no one-size-fits all solution for everyone when it comes to changeover days. Rather, it is about learning a new way of thought and therefore action that can help each family reach their own rhythm of what works. As a mum-of-four and having been in the relationship at a young age, exiting the marriage was one of my life’s most defining experiences. Regardless of what was going on for me mentally and emotionally, my focus was ensuring my children felt emotionally supported. ***Further reading: [Using a third party for changeover with shared parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/third-party-changeover/)***. ## My Experience with Changeover It was so tempting to ask my 10 and 12-year-old what was going on at the “other” house. How was their routine, what did they eat for dinner? What was bedtime routine like? Did they brush their teeth? Yet, I bit my tongue because I didn’t want them to feel pressure of being interrogated and having to come up with an answer that wouldn’t “upset mum”. I’m proud that I did that. There is so much freedom and sense of peace that comes from letting go of the need to control or manage other people’s feelings and emotions. The realisation that all I can do is merely be in charge of my own thoughts, words and actions is comforting and oddly not as hard as I once thought it might be. Mirjana, 52, divorced for five years, separated for six and co-parenting two daughters who spend time with their dad each fortnight and more during school holidays. With my two eldest children now grown, it has reached another dynamic, one that I continually grow with. Divorce has been one of the most stressful transitions I’ve been through, not to mention the changeover required. Fortunately, I have more awareness now and am excited to share my experience and understandings which hopefully makes it easier for you to navigate your personal situation. ## Changeover Considerations - Confirm with their dad the exact time and details for handover, that is, is he dropping them off, or am I? Also, consider any special requirements needed for the stay. - Go over any routines, extracurricular activities, homework routines, appointments etc. - [Communicate with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) and prepare the children for the transition. - Show excitement – be in ease and flow and let go of attachments - Ensure and check off against the checklist of what they may need for the stay - Meet and greet their dad, have a pleasant exchange of conversation ## Embracing Change and The Changeover If you’re reading this, you likely know all too well that moment when you knew the family dynamic was about to change, navigating everyone’s feelings and emotions, least your own. What I have learned through my own experiences of separation and divorce, is that it’s about *being fully present in the now* and this includes the regular drop offs and pick-ups. This essentially means we become emotionally conscious and unafraid to share how we feel. Children respond to the emotions of parents. If you are anxious during this period of drop offs and pick-ups, it helps to share this with your children as, more often than not, unspoken words get left to interpretation. It’s important not to allow your emotions and feelings to keep you stuck in victim mentality or become abusive and speak negatively about your ex-partner. If you are hurt or angry, it is best to find a safe space in order to vent and expunge those feelings. It is critical to not do this with the children. Here are some tips that worked for me around the whole changeover reality and still bring balance today. The ripple effect of such a routine is everyone benefits. Look after your emotional and physical needs, so you have the blessing of self-support that then impacts those around you. ### Acknowledge Your Emotions Changeover can trigger many emotions. It’s not uncommon for them to build up and leave you feeling emotionally drained. It’s important for you to take responsibility for your own emotional well-being at this time and make sure that you nurture yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually. ### Self-Care Self-care is essential to a positive mindset and this relieves the symptoms of stress during time of changeover. Nothing helps our emotions bounce back better than nourishing our body well. Read, get plenty of rest, take a hot bath, develop a new hobby, eat healthy and nutritious foods and surround yourself with positive people. Put effort into living a lifestyle that will promote feelings of good self-worth and esteem during this time of changeover. ### Let Go If you are faced with an uncomfortable experience during changeover, learn to let it go. Take some time to figure out what is best for you and the child, then communicate that effectively. Stay focused on what you have control over and let go of the rest. ### Permission to Feel** Emotions are normal, whether they are negative or positive. What we do with the emotions we are feeling plays a big role in our experience of the changeover. ### Expect Nothing and Appreciate Everything No one has any control over the feelings and actions of another person. We might think that during our relationship we had some control, but we did not. Now there is a changeover in process, we have even less control than before. Let go of trying to control any aspect of what your spouse may feel or what actions they will take. Let go of what you feel the outcome should be and learn to accept whatever might happen. It’s about being tolerant whilst also maintaining effective communication and your boundaries. ## Amicable Parenting During Hand Over After separation and divorce, it took time for my two younger girls to get used to [moving between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/). In fact, they hated it at first and were very overwhelmed at the thought of living in two homes. What I found helped was to communicate clearly about the routine, where, how and when changeover will take place. Clear and predictable rules made it easier for them to cope with different routines and houses. I also felt it was important to have the girls involved. Your child is likely to adjust better to living arrangements after separation or divorce if they feel like they have had some input and what they think matters. What I found worked for our family dynamic of co-parenting was to reassure our children that we would consider the living arrangements *they want*. You can involve them in the discussions if you think they are old enough. Your child may worry they must make a choice that means pleasing one parent and hurting the other. It’s okay to reassure them and let them know that it’s not up to them to make the major decisions. Reassure your child that living arrangements aren’t about who loves your child the most. Rather, base them on practical issues like who is at home most, lives closest to school or can get to after school activities. The wellbeing of the child is paramount. ## Where, How and When When your child moves between homes, they might feel unsettled and grumpy when they first arrive. The good news is you can plan ahead for this unsettled period. Here are some tips that worked for us: ### Organisation Keep basic clothing and personal items like underwear, toiletries, pyjamas etc in each home. This way, your child doesn’t have to remember to move everything between the two homes. To make things easier at packing time, help your child [pack their changeover bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/) or write a list of what he needs to take and stick it on the wall. Older children might need help planning school routine and homework to take. ### Two Homes, Two Routines Children can cope well with different routines, as long as the rules are clear and you keep things as predictable as possible. You might need to say something like, “When you’re here, we’ll do it this way.” Eventually your child will get used to the differences. ### A ‘Place for Me’ Children need a place of their own and a space to store things in both homes. Think outside the box a little, make it fun and exciting. Find a way to give your child some ‘me space’. ### Listening If your child is confused or anxious about moving between two homes, listen to what’s bothering them. You might need to talk to your former partner about the arrangements if they need changing to suit your child’s needs. Keep the lines of communication open. ### Flexibility A consistent and predictable routine helps children feel secure, confident and happy. But as your child gets older, they’ll have extra school, social, sport and even part-time work commitments. This might make it harder for them to move from one house to another. You might need to adjust your arrangements to your child’s changing needs. ## What Works for My Family - We have a homecoming ritual. It could be playing favourite music, dancing, playing a game, doing art, eating a snack together, or just sitting in the same room and chatting, telling stories and sharing feelings and emotions. This can help ease the transition. - Give the children a chance to unwind. I take the cues from them about whether they’d prefer a quiet activity like reading a book, or something physical like outside play. - I encourage them to keep in touch with their dad when they’re with me. - If possible, I avoid making the transition or changeover when they are tired or hungry. It’s usually early morning or later afternoon. - We have a circle of trust. Once we engage the circle of trust, we are each free to speak as we feel and share without the feeling of being judged or overwhelmed or protective. It really has expanded our channels of communication. ## What to Do When It’s Not Smooth Sailing Some children have trouble moving between houses. Your child might decide they don’t want to go to your exes or come home to you. Try not to take this too personally. This feeling might go away once your child gets into the routine. For some, especially very young children, separation can be quite difficult. If possible, try to work out a solution with your ex. You might need to look at your arrangements again, to make sure your child’s needs are being met. For example, you might need to change the time of day when the changeover is happening, the activities leading up to changeover, or where you do the changeover. The foundation for effective communication after divorce and for changeover to be seamless is a commitment from you and your co-parent to raise your children together in a healthy environment free of conflict. Remembering this commitment can help you and your ex-partner reach an effective parenting partnership. With that commitment always in mind, you can turn your attention towards establishing the other building blocks of effective communication. ## How to Best Communicate During Changeover - Manage your own emotions, recognising if you lose control, matters will only get worse. You can do that through deep breathing, relaxation techniques or just telling yourself that by remaining calm yourself, things may go better. - Plan the timing of your communications to occur when neither of you have the kids around and you are both free of distractions. - Remain polite and respectful no matter what. Speak how you would want to be spoken to. - Chose the right medium for communicating. That can be face-to-face, telephone, messaging, email or a [communication book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-book-for-co-parenting/). - Keep your communication brief and only about the matter at hand. If you go on a tangent, it can be a slippery slope to topics you may not appreciate. If your ex goes to topics you are uncomfortable with, indicate so and ask to either change the subject or reschedule the call to when you are prepared to address the issue. ## How Conscious Parenting Fits into the Divorce Picture (and hand over) Children do not thrive emotionally or truly feel “at home” when exposed to chronic conflict, estrangement between parents, or disengaged and dysfunctional role modelling. This is where conscious parenting comes into play when moving into the phase of successful changeover. The primary goal of a smooth changeover is to create a foundation for your child to become at ease, well-adjusted, independent, confident and a happy and connected person. If changeover is handled with mutual compassion, grace, respect and patience, the experience of moving through it can offer your children tools to help them navigate future trials and tribulations, skills for problem-solving, conflict management, mindfulness and resilience. Co-parenting and changeover is often assumed to be contentious for the parents. Once you’ve lived life as a family under one roof, co-parenting while physically separated can feel overwhelming and it can also be hard to imagine working together in a way that does not compromise consistency, security and connection with your children. Each person has the power to choose a conscious co-parenting partnership and conscious process of changeover that reflects and expresses their best self. I’m always reminded that my ex-husband and I will see each other in a fortnight at the changeover. It can be hard or easy, discourteous or respectful, rigid or compromising. For all concerned parties, it’s a conscious choice to take the high road. ![How to make change overs when co-parenting a blinding success | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Successful-changeover.png "Successful changeover - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/change-overs-when-coparenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/change-overs-when-coparenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** two homes, co parenting, shared care, coparenting, handover, changover --- ### [Choosing the right phone for your child this Christmas (2023)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/choose-phone-child-christmas/) **Published:** September 11, 2023 **Author:** Kenny McGilvary **Content:** Australia is a nation addicted to mobile phones, and that includes Aussie children. The Australian Communications and Media Authority’s *Kids and mobiles interactive report* shows that: > *“Almost half (48%) of children aged 6-13 now own or use a mobile phone, with 1 in 3 owning the phone they use.“* So while thinking about getting a phone for their child this Christmas can feel like a big step for many parents, allowing your child the use of their own phone is pretty normal these days. And, it can be a great way to foster independence and responsibility in kids. Of course, it can also be expensive if you choose the wrong device but thankfully not every phone comes with a sky-high price tag, and not every child needs the latest and greatest in smartphone technology to stay connected. Here are a few suggestions on what to look for in a child-friendly phone and some devices you could consider getting that won’t break the bank. ***Further reading: Should I get my child a phone, or not?*** ## Determine the purpose of the phone When selecting the perfect phone for your child, it’s crucial to start by determining its primary purpose. Ask yourself whether the phone will primarily serve as an educational tool, an entertainment device, a means for socialising with peers, or as a communication lifeline connecting your child with you, their school, and emergency services. Defining the purpose will help you make informed decisions about factors like the phone’s features, budget, and durability. Whether it’s fostering learning, ensuring safety, or providing entertainment, understanding the phone’s role in your child’s life is the first step towards making the right choice. ## Work out your budget No matter what advertisers say to guilt-trip you into buying your precious child the latest, most advanced smartphone, kids do not need an expensive, high-end phone. Especially when there is a high chance it will get lost or broken. So, regardless of whether you are on a single income or have more leeway to get a better gadget for your child, getting something affordable for their first phone is the way forward. What’s great is that even the cheapest smartphone options today can run several basic applications your child might need. Determine how much you can afford to set aside from your family’s budget for your child’s phone and stick to it. Remember, a phone is not a one-time purchase. You need a cellular plan so your child can call, text, and access the Internet – which are why you’re getting a phone in the first place. Budget is one of the most important factors to consider when getting your child a phone for Christmas. ## Consider pre-owned or refurbished As I previously said, kids do not need expensive phones. They – well, all of us – also don’t need new ones! One incredible thing that recently exploded worldwide is buying secondhand, with Gen Zs leading the pack. If you’re concerned about technology waste and having a lower carbon footprint, a pre-loved or refurbished phone is an excellent option for your pocket and the planet. When it comes to pre-owned or refurbished phones, I highly recommend checking out [PhoneBot](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66117?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.phonebot.com.au%2f) and [Green Gadget](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/85205?Url=https%3a%2f%2fshop.greengadgets.net.au%2f). You will find good secondhand iPhones and Androids for as low as a couple of hundred dollars with these sustainability-minded Aussie companies. ## Handset durability I was a very physically active and particularly clumsy child, so I know that my phone would not have lasted long if I had one back in the day. I would have dropped it, sat on it, or accidentally submerged it some form of liquid. Even that trusty Nokia 3310 wouldn’t have stood a chance. That’s normal, and that’s why you don’t get kids high-end phones. Children are not known to be the most careful bunch, so keep durability in mind when searching for a phone. Sleek iPhones and Android phones are beautiful and fashionable, but they also need careful and mindful handling. It’s nice to know that waterproof and shockproof rugged phones exist today. They’re built to withstand the harshest conditions and handling, so think of them if you want a phone that allows your kids to be kids. ## Age appropriate features Age-appropriate features are pivotal when making the big decision of getting your child a phone for Christmas. Consider factors such as a sizeable, easy-to-read screen to protect their eyes from strain. GPS tracking and locator functions enhance safety, allowing you to monitor their whereabouts. Parental controls and content filtering are indispensable for shielding young users from inappropriate content and managing screen time. Look for phones with a simple interface and restricted access to sensitive settings. These features ensure that the device aligns with your child’s age and maturity level, providing a secure and controlled digital environment where they can learn, explore, and communicate safely. ## Phone battery life Have you heard about old Nokias still running on charge after decades of being turned off? How I wish they would make phone batteries like that again! Kidding aside, solid battery life is not just to ensure your child can run her favourite apps and watch videos uninterrupted during long trips. More importantly, you need it in case of emergencies and power outages. Remember to ask about battery life when shopping for your child’s phone. Thankfully, manufacturers nowadays are doing everything to make their phone batteries long-lasting, which is a good thing for us mums, since we have a lot more options. By the way, lithium batteries’ lifespan typically lasts 2 to 3 years, after which they drop. But you can also teach your kids some tricks to keep their phone’s batteries healthier by not downloading and running so many apps and regularly optimising their phones. ## Operating system (iOS Apple or Android) Historically, Aussies seem to prefer Android phones, although Apple’s iOS is seeing a significant rise in market share this year. You can be a fan of one or the other, but which operating system is better for your child? I’m far from being a tech expert, but based on my research, Android wins as the operating system for a kid’s phone. Google’s Android allows parents to monitor and control their children’s phone use. As a mum, you can set parental rules on their digital life. Meanwhile, iOS is impeccable when it comes to security and privacy, yet these features do not discriminate whether the user is a child or an adult. I mean, upholding your child’s privacy is crucial, but that also means she is more susceptible to accessing harmful content without proper guidance. ## Camera quality Frankly, I don’t think camera quality is crucial for kids’ phones. You’ll probably be taking photos of her from your phone more than her. But if your child, especially your teen, is fond of documenting her childhood or is interested in photography, a nice camera would be a important addition to your list of things to look for. Today, even phones on the lower end of the price spectrum have decent cameras. However, remember that saving many photos will take up lots of storage and make the phone run slower. You should install an SD card or automatically sync your child’s photo gallery to the Cloud. ## Parental controls I have already touched on this in the topics of age-appropriate features and operating system, but that’s because it’s *that* important. The Internet despite its benefits can be a scary and dangerous place, so parental control features is high up on many mums’s criteria. The thought of monitoring my teenage daughters’ phone activities and messages from my device is some Black Mirror-level spin in my book. But I also have a good friend who used to do it to protect her kids, so no judgements here. While many of us mums don’t go to such lengths, there are still other ways to protect our children from dangerous content on the Internet. Think compatibility with kid-safe apps and [parental control apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parental-control-apps/), like turning off social media, blocking software downloads, and setting device limits. Whether or not you’re keen on having controlling and monitoring your child’s phone, it’s important to educate her on proper and responsible Internet use beforehand. ## Storage capacity If you’re looking for a phone that goes beyond the basic functions, you should also check storage capacity. It’s needed for downloading and runnings apps and software, saving photos, and reading files offline. Although your kids don’t need a lot of storage space on their first phones, it is a necessity if they want to customise their wallpapers and fonts. It’s also needed when updating the software; when you have a small storage space, your phone will slow down faster. Remember to teach your children to manage their storage space responsibly. As a mum, you should guide your kids on how to manage storage effectively, delete unnecessary files, and be cautious about downloading large files or apps that could quickly fill up the device’s storage. Furthermore, you can set storage limits and monitor your child’s device usage to ensure it aligns with your [family’s phone rules](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/). ## Prepaid vs. postpaid phones Another equally important factor when getting your child’s first phone is whether you will get prepaid or postpaid plans. As I mentioned earlier, a phone is not a one-time purchase. You have to buy cellular data to make it function, too. Prepaid and postpaid plans have their respective pros and cons. Prepaid plans ensure that your children will learn to control their usage. The downside is that they cannot communicate with you once they reach their limit. On the other hand, postpaid plans ensure seamless communication throughout the month, but uncontrolled usage will lead to additional fees. As for me, I got my daughters’ postpaid phones with the most basic cellular plan. It was scary at first, as I constantly worried they would exceed their limits. Thankfully, they never did. I carefully explained to them the inclusions of their plan and the consequences if they go overboard. (That is, they will have to pay for top-up from their allowance.) ## Warranty and insurance Finally, you should also check the availability of warranty and insurance. Most phones sold in official stores come with a warranty, while cellular plans also offer device insurance. If you are considering buying a slightly expensive phone, I highly recommend getting gadget insurance. Although it seems unnecessary for a first phone, warranty and gadget insurance can give you peace of mind about the likelihood that your child’s phone will be damaged, especially since she’s bringing it to school. I wish I had this advice when I got my daughters’ first phones. In the first two weeks, my youngest came home with a broken screen that we had to repair. What a hassle! ## Final words: Choosing the right phone for your child this Christmas Choosing a phone for your child this Christmas is a multifaceted decision that involves considering their unique needs and circumstances. By carefully weighing factors such as durability, storage capacity, age-appropriate features, and budget, you can provide your child with a device that enhances their safety, education, and entertainment. Ultimately, the goal is to strike a balance between technology’s benefits and responsible usage, ensuring that the chosen phone supports your child’s growth and development while offering peace of mind for us parents. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/choose-phone-child-christmas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/choose-phone-child-christmas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Xmas, iphone, device, android --- ### [Find the best back to school deals in Australia 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-deals-australia/) **Published:** October 17, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With the new school year starting soon after Christmas, you are gonna want bang for your buck when it comes to back-to-school deals. I get it! And am here to help you keep the cost of back-to-school 2023 down. As a single mum of two girls who I have got through school on a shoe-string without them wanting for anything, I’m going to tell you where to find the best school deals alongside other tips to help you save money, including: - What to do before you buy anything for the new school year - Ways to save on back to school supplies - When to start your hunt for back to school deals - Where to find the best back to school deals ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")Further reading: [Back to school costs and how to stop them sky rocketing.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/back-to-school-costs-and-how-to-stop-them-sky-rocketing/) ## What to do before you buy anything for the new school year Before you hit the shops (or the websites) it’s worth doing a quick check around the home for items you may already have. Such as: - Check old [pencil cases](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pencil-cases/) for pens, pencils, rulers, rubbers, sharpeners that can be re-used - Check through exercise books that are returned from school as some may be un-used or have very little use – just tear out the used pages and *voila* - If packed lunch boxes and water bottles have withstood the previous school year or been recently replaced, use again - Take time to [go through school uniform](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-school-uniform-online-australia/) with your children to see what actually fits and what doesn’t so you only buy what is really necessary - Check out school shoes for size, many have removable insoles allowing them to last longer as your child’s feet grow, you may get away with not buying a new pair … yet ## WAYS TO SAVE MONEY ON SCHOOL SUPPLIES As well doing the above, here are some other tips to save money on your back to school shopping: - If it’s not late, get younger kids to put items they need on their list for Santa, this way you can get Christmas gifts and “back to school” all rolled into one cost - Hand down items of clothing, shoes, sportswear to younger children if it is still in good order - Only buy school uniform for the season and spread the cost of winter items for later in the year (remember your child is likely to have a growth spurt between now and then) - Don’t get caught up with brand names whatever the “other kids” are getting, buy with your budget - Put your name down to receive notifications about second-hand uniform sales at your schools and get in early for the best bargains - Check local Facebook groups for parents selling second-hand school uniform because their kids are finishing or moving schools - If your child is required to get a box of stationery, get the list and buy the items separately, this is more timely but often less expensive than buying it made-up - Shop the web for online specials on back to school gear (I do this for you below) ## WHEN DO BACK TO SCHOOL SALES START? In Australia, some back-to-school sales start as early as Boxing Day. Others start at the beginning of January allowing a good three weeks before children return to school, which is usually at the end of January, depending on the state they are in. Check 2023 term dates [here](https://education.qld.gov.au/about-us/calendar/future-dates). ## WHERE TO FIND THE BEST BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS? I’ve scoured the web for some really great back to school deals. Here is what I found. ## SCHOOL SHOES ### [CLARKS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64748?Url=https%3a%2f%2fclarks.com.au%2fschool%2fstyles%2fblack-school-shoes%2findulge-snr-black) Clark’s has the best back to school deals on shoes for girls and boys. Besides the specials, I love the endless variety of sizes to ensure a perfect fit. Schedule an in-store fitting for precise measurements. Get 10% off by becoming a [Clarks VIP member](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64748?Url=https%3a%2f%2fclarks.com.au%2fschool%2fstyles%2fblack-school-shoes%2findulge-snr-black). [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Clarkes School Shoes | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/apijypvxx__44735.1604129489.jpg "apijypvxx__44735.1604129489 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64748?Url=https%3a%2f%2fclarks.com.au%2fschool%2fstyles%2fblack-school-shoes%2findulge-snr-black) ### [DR MARTENS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61242?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.drmartens.com.au%2fjunior-polley-t-bar-24386001-blk.html%2393%3d3552) My kids say Doc Martens are too cool for school, haha. I have to tell them that these are for school because they can withstand anything. The shoes are pricey but totally worth it in terms of quality, construction, and durability. They don’t have a lot of width options, but other than that, the shoes are always an excellent buy. They have a big range with [30% off](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61242?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.drmartens.com.au%2fshop%2fcollections%2fback-to-school) and you sign up to their newsletter to get more savings. [![Dr Martens | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.drmartens.com.au/media/catalog/product/cache/db6130527737a35b7652b68f1cc1d88c/2/4/24386001_01.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61242?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.drmartens.com.au%2fjunior-polley-t-bar-24386001-blk.html%2393%3d3552) ### [SHOES & SOX](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64350?Url=https%3a%2f%2fshoesandsox.com.au%2fpromotions%2fblack-friday%2f25-off%2fschool-sf-strap-720510-black%2f) My Shoes & Sox purchases are always a good buy. I like their perfect fit guarantee, great customer service, and free delivery on orders over $69. And if you are a loyalty club member, you get your 7th pair of shoes [completely free](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64350?Url=https%3a%2f%2fshoesandsox.com.au%2floyalty-program%2f). [![Back to School Deals | Shoes & Sox | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-kxbnxul8gb/images/stencil/564x704/products/4803/89984/api6ybzoi__41244.1612597627.jpg?c=2)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64350?Url=https%3a%2f%2fshoesandsox.com.au%2fpromotions%2fblack-friday%2f25-off%2fschool-sf-strap-720510-black%2f) ***Further reading: [4 Mistakes when buying school shoes.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/4-mistakes-when-buying-school-shoes/)*** ## SCHOOL BAGS ### [CITY BEACH](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-shine-bright-backpack%2F20320462-02.html) Head over to City Beach for great back to school deals on everything from school bags to travel luggage. There’s a great selection of brands and styles for all ages at discounted prices. [Get 20% off you first order](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2F%3Fcq_src%3Dgoogle_ads%26cq_cmp%3D86167616%26cq_term%3Dcity%2Bbeach%26cq_plac%26cq_net%3Dg%26cq_plt%3Dgp%26gclid%3DCj0KCQjw166aBhDEARIsAMEyZh7R2va9zARQsX3wmzqdB58TmEdbi989JjaigUUj30bxryqmXpQQS6caAkd3EALw_wcB) when you sign up to their newsletter. [![City Beach Backpack | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dweaf432ca/images/20320462/20320462-02-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-shine-bright-backpack%2F20320462-02.html) ### [COTTON ON](https://cottonon.com/AU/accessories/bags/backpacks/) You can count on Cotton On and Typo (which you’ll find on the Cotton On website) is best for school bags, especially for older girls. The shop carries well-known and local brands for primary school to university. All items come with free delivery when you order $60 or more and at the time of writing there is [50% off original prices](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2F). [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Cotton On School Bag | Beanstalk Mums](https://cottonon.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-catalog-master-typo/default/dw7a9b4a33/145735/145735-05-2.jpg)](https://cottonon.com/AU/accessories/bags/backpacks/) ### [KOGAN](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/4ONd0) Kogan’s back to school deals on backpacks and school bags are hard to beat. If you’re on a really tight budget, they have multiple instalment plans like Zip Pay and Afterpay. Most of the styles are utilitarian and perfect for older kids or teens off to uni. The [Kogan Hot Deals](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9W0rYy) some of the best on the internet. [![Kogan School Bag | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets.kogan.com/files/product/etail/Puma-/PUM-076622-01_1.jpg?auto=webp&canvas=1200%2C800&fit=bounds&height=800&quality=75&width=1200)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/4ONd0) ## SCHOOL UNIFORM ### [RIVERS](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44368&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rivers.com.au%2Fkids%2Fback-to-school) Find back to school deals on school uniforms at Rivers, your one-stop bargain destination. For even more discounts and exclusive offers, check out [Rivers Rewards](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44368&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rivers.com.au%2Floyalty). Tip: If you can wait for some items, check out the [Clearance](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44368&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rivers.com.au%2Fclearance) section in about March for cheap school gear. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Rivers School Uniform | Beanstalk Mums](https://static-nbgimages.freetls.fastly.net/prod/DSV/JB4PKWX04_1.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44368&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rivers.com.au%2Fkids%2Fback-to-school) ### [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZdM7zz) Big W is home to high-quality but affordable school gear, with a wide range of uniforms, shoes, and accessories starting at $4. Besides the price, I love the the good fit, decent fabric, and good construction of their basics and plain clothing. Check out the [catalogue specials](https://bigw.sjv.io/Zd7RA1) as back to school approaches as you’ll find lots of deals. [![Back to School Deals | Big W School Uniform | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h67/h17/30395293564958.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/GjM7k2) ## STATIONERY ### [CATCH](https://www.catch.com.au/search?query=school+stationery&search_src=topbar&ac=0) One of our favourite shops has awesome back to school deals on stationery and supplies. From pens to post-its to standing desks, Catch has the best prices on a wide range of popular brands. Extra $15 off if you pay with Latitude Pay. ### [OFFICEWORKS](https://www.officeworks.com.au/campaigns/back-to-school) Officeworks is the store for you if you are back to school shopping or simply crazy about affordable office supplies. Their brand and item selection is unbeatable and the 5% price beat guarantee is a big plus. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Officeworks Stationery | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.officeworks.com.au/api/2/img/https://s3-ap-southeast-2.amazonaws.com/wc-prod-pim/JPEG_1000x1000/SMPEBA496_studymate_premium_a4_exercise_book_96_page.jpg/resize?size=706&auth=MjA5OTcwODkwMg__)](https://www.officeworks.com.au/campaigns/back-to-school) ### [EBAY](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fsch%2Fi.html%3F_from%3DR40%26_trksid%3Dp2499334.m570.l1313%26_nkw%3Dschool%2Bstationery%26_sacat%3D3142&campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=) Ebay back to school deals can be hard to find so we’ve put a nice handy link here for you. Ebay is a treasure trove of one-of-a-kind items, cool stationery and vintage designs at affordable prices. They also have standard school supplies that you can buy individually or in bulk. [![Ebay Stationery | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/4PkAAOSwb5VfzJvI/s-l500.jpg)](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fsch%2Fi.html%3F_from%3DR40%26_trksid%3Dp2499334.m570.l1313%26_nkw%3Dschool%2Bstationery%26_sacat%3D3142&campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=) ## APPLE AND BACK TO SCHOOL ### [BIG W](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZdM7zz) One thing I love about Catch is the frequent specials. There’s always a sale happening. If you’re looking for back-to-school deals like these sweet Apple Airpods, head to the store now. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Catch Apple Airpods | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hb7/hb5/30342496026654.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZdM7zz) ### [KOGAN](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/kDqaV) Kogan is the place to be if you love Apple products but have a tiny budget. Kogan Refreshed has a wide range of refurbished Apple electronics that have been tested and include original accessories…at less than half the price of a brand-new device. [![Kogan Apple iPad | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets.kogan.com/files/product/Apple-iPad-Air-2013/ipad-air-2013-grey-front-hires-AG.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/kDqaV) ### [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/yRjDoN) Apple devices are pricey but you can get great back to school deals at The Good Guys. They negotiate weekly deals so customers pay less than the advertised price. You can also use Latitude Pay for no-interest installment payments. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | The Good Guys Apple Macbook | Beanstalk Mums](https://thegoodguys.sirv.com/products/50073770/50073770_751215.PNG)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/yRjDoN) ## LUNCH BOXES AND WATER BOTTLES ### [HOUSE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40452&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.house.com.au%2Fthermos-funtainer-food-jar-290ml-owl%3FSearchID%3D51167796%26SearchPos%3D1) House is one of my top shopping destinations for kitchen appliances and homewares. I found this cute thermos that’s a perfect addition to my daughter’s back-to-school lunch box. [![House Thermos | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ibb.co/fHr8PvB/Screenshot-2022-10-17-012457.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40452&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.house.com.au%2Fthermos-funtainer-food-jar-290ml-owl%3FSearchID%3D51167796%26SearchPos%3D1) ### [KMART](https://www.kmart.com.au/product/grey-lunch-box-with-tray-42945000/) I like Kmart Australia for bargain back-to-school deals like this multi-layered lunch box and food keeper. Plus, the store has heaps of payment options (Afterpay, Zip Pay) and Fly Pay for installment purchases. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Kmart Lunch Box | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ibb.co/525szs6/Screenshot-2022-10-17-012620.jpg)](https://www.kmart.com.au/product/grey-lunch-box-with-tray-42945000/) ### [TEMPLE & WEBSTER](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FJungle-Insulated-Lunch-Bag-LADL1639.html) I prefer printed lunch boxes to boring, plain ones and my kids agree. This lunch bag with a whimsical jungle print is a winner. It’s roomy and it’s insulated to keep your hot lunch hot and cool drinks cold. [![Temple & Webster Lunch Box | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/38593/19624375/4/Jungle%2BInsulated%2BLunch%2BBag.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FJungle-Insulated-Lunch-Bag-LADL1639.html) ***Further reading: [Bento boxes for kids: Our pick of the best.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bento-boxes-kids/)*** ## SCHOOL LABELS AND NAMING ### [STUCK ON YOU](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/65304?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.stuckonyou.com.au%2flabels%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQiAtqL-BRC0ARIsAF4K3WFZa768SF5odb08Q3uvQGiWnut2aOtC-UxTgSltuhjRv4GoYurbAMYaAmZMEALw_wcB) Head to Stuck on You for all your school and name labelling needs. They have stick on labels, iron-on labels and specialty labels like stamps, pencils and allergy. Personalisation is a snap and you can choose from small or large sticker packs. The best deals can be found in the Stuck On You [Value Packs](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/65304?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.stuckonyou.com.au%2fvalue-packs). ### [BRIGHT STAR KIDS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64098?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.brightstarkids.com.au%2fname-labels) Bright Star Kids is another great store for school and name labels for kids and teens. Their value kits let you choose a design and font for your text. Shop now and get 100 labels for just $30. Join their [Family Club](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64098?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.brightstarkids.com.au%2f) to collect points with purchases to use as payment on future orders. [![Bright Star Kids School Labels | Beanstalk Mums](https://bsk-media.com/media/catalog/product/cache/d7762794b12fde16f4f1f892b1a9bb86/d/e/designer-essential-labels-value-kit-_flay_st_comp_etch_v2_1.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64098?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.brightstarkids.com.au%2fname-labels) ### [HIPPO BLUE](https://www.hippoblue.com.au/labels/name-labels) Hippo Blue labels are excellent for school and home. Younger children will love the illustrated designs that can be customised to your heart’s content. Some sticker packs include over 200 labels for just $15. [![BACK TO SCHOOL DEALS | Blue Hippo School Labels | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ibb.co/h1Y0rY8/HB-Category-Labels20-720x.jpg)](https://www.hippoblue.com.au/labels/name-labels) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-deals-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-deals-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School **Tags:** school supplies, kindergarten, day care, uniform, stationery --- ### [Things to do before leaving your rented home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/moving-out-checklist-things-to-do-before-leaving-your-rented-home/) **Published:** January 4, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** So, you have found an awesome new property to call home and it is finally the right time to move out of your rental. What next? Maybe you have hired a mover and may have started packing already. But, it is often easy to miss out on crucial to-dos while you are in the middle of what can be an extremely stressful experience for many. Vacating your rental property isn’t as simple getting out with your stuff and leaving the keys behind. Here’s a list of essentials you’d want to tick off before moving out. ***Further reading: What to expect from interstate removalists.*** ### 1. Give your landlord a notice period Once you have made up your mind about moving out and started making arrangements for the same, it is a good idea to let your landlord know. Not only because he deserves to know early on if his property is going to be vacant soon, but also because you are bound by the contract to do so in most cases. Typically, most tenants are required to send a notice a month before the move out date, though notice period may vary from contract to contract so read the fine print. This one step will not only save you from undue headache, but also from paying rent in two places if you decide to leave before the lease expires. ### 2. Keep your service providers informed Make sure all your service providers have your new address weeks before the actual move. The types of services who you need to notify the change of address includes your bank, insurance provider, gas and electric suppliers, mobile/internet provider, voter’s registration, and tax agencies, among others. ### 3. Forward your mail In extension to the previous point, forward your mail while you notify others of your move. Failing to do this on time will have you chasing your bills and important documents right after you have moved to the new address. Even after you have done your best to inform about your change of address, an odd mail or two could still land at your old address from time to time. Leave your forwarding address with your agent so they can send them to you, just in case one of them arrives. ### 4. Cancel your subscriptions You may be subscribed to newspapers, magazines or online stores. You could cancel your subscriptions with these services or change your address to ensure that you keep receiving the subscribed items in your new home address. ### 5. Fix and clean up This is, by far, is the biggest task involved when you are moving out. Getting your full bond refunded requires you to follow the end of lease terms as outlined in your contract. This includes sending out notice beforehand, repairing any damage that may have occurred during your stay, and cleaning the property before you leave. Given the stress and the thousands of other chores you will be dealing with during this time, it often pays off to hiring professional house cleaning services instead of taking up the job yourself. Plus, professional cleaners who are experienced in end-of-lease cleaning go the extra mile to achieve the level of cleanliness as it was in at the beginning of the tenancy. Speaking of professional house cleaning Hobart has many reliable companies to offer. ### 6. Finding Help Depending on how much belongings you have, getting them to your new home could be a huge aspect of your move. Of course, enlisting the help of friends is always an option. Offer to provide some drinks, and maybe some lunch and you might have some helpful friends who can help you transport and carry some boxes. A more trustworthy approach would be to use a moving service like Muval to find removalists to take care of the job. ### 7. Do the final checks before the move out After you have fixed and cleaned the place as well as removed your belongings from the property, here are a few important checks to do: - Take note of the final meter readings on the day you finally move out. - Notify your suppliers that you have left the property and are not responsible to pay for any usage after the move out date. - Take photos of every room and corner of the property in case any disputes arise after you leave. - Check with your agent if there are any formalities left to complete. - Ask the landlord about the date you will get your bond money back. - Return the keys to the property, including all copies you might have made during your stay. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Moving out of a rented property can be an overwhelming process. Following the checklist above should make things easier for you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/moving-out-checklist-things-to-do-before-leaving-your-rented-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/moving-out-checklist-things-to-do-before-leaving-your-rented-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property --- ### [What to consider before getting your child their first smartphone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-first-smartphone/) **Published:** February 1, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Today, there’s no getting away from tech as it’s become an integral part of our lives. Kids are getting smartphones at younger ages than ever before, and even if you’ve been trying to shield your child and let them be a kid for as long as possible, there comes a time for every parent where their child wants to be more connected to the wider world through technology. Getting a smartphone can be a very good thing for kids these days – not only does it provide them with a way to stay in touch with you and their friends, but it can also support their learning and education with the right guidelines and rules in place. Here are some of the main things to consider before getting your child their first smartphone. ## Is Your Child Ready for a Phone? Every child is different and as their parent, only you know them well enough to determine if they are ready to have their own smartphone. Consider a range of factors such as your child’s age and maturity level – do you trust them to use a smartphone responsibly under your guidance? Most kids start to get their own smartphones as they reach the pre-teen years, and if your child’s friends all have or are getting smartphones of their own, it’s a good indicator that it might be time for your child to have one as well. This is especially true if your child is starting to spend more time with friends these days and is gaining their independence; having a smartphone will help to keep them safe by providing them a way to contact you if needed or call for help in an emergency situation. ## Type of Phone First of all, what type of phone will you get your child? Chances are that you don’t want to get them anything too expensive for their first handset, especially if they are still young since there’s always the risk of it being lost or broken. Hand-me-downs are often a good option for a kid’s first handset so if you have your old phone still or know a family member or friend who’s upgrading their contract, it might be worth doing this to save money while introducing your child to the world of smartphones. If you want to buy a handset for your child, refurbished options are a good idea since they are often cheaper than brand new, but just as good. You can also often find older handset models available refurbished compared to brand-new ones. ## Type of Phone Plan There are various different types of phone plans available to suit your circumstances. When getting your child their first smartphone, you may want to consider; - Adding them onto your own smartphone plan if this option is available - Getting them a separate smartphone contract - Opting for a SIM-only contract or Pay and Go option Pay and Go options often come with bundle choices that are ideal for kids since you are not tied into anything and can be flexible about how much you pay. For example, [Lebara](https://www.lebara.com.au/) offers a range of thirty-day bundle options with no contract that you can change on a monthly basis if you wish. These Lebara bundles start at just $14.90 for unlimited minutes and texts, 3GB of data, and 300 international minutes, which can be very useful if you have relatives or friends abroad that your child may want to call. ## Ground Rules for Kids With Smartphones As a parent, it’s up to you what kind of [ground rules](https://wehavekids.com/parenting/5-Cell-Phone-Rules-You-Must-Put-in-Place-When-Your-Kids-are-Young) you want to set for your child when it comes to using their smartphone. Kids can easily become addicted to using their phone and the last thing that you want is them staring at the screen all day long, so it’s a good idea to set some rules about screen time and when they are allowed to have their phone. Some parents, for example, have their child leave their smartphone downstairs at night to avoid them getting distracted by their phone in bed. It’s also worth considering which apps you want your child to avoid using. For this reason, many parents allow their children to have a smartphone but draw the line at allowing their child to use social media. Social media can be very dangerous for kids, so if you’ve decided that you’re going to let your child use it, it’s important to have a serious conversation with them beforehand about the dangers of cyberbullying and why they should not speak to anybody that they don’t know online. Generally speaking, most social media platforms allow anybody over the age of 13 to sign up so if your child is younger, it is not advisable to allow them to join just yet. ## Parental Controls To give you some extra peace of mind, you may want to consider installing [parental control tools](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parental-control-apps/) on your child’s smartphone. There are various parental control options available with different features to choose from. Most smartphone networks will come with built-in parental controls where anything that isn’t suitable for an audience under the age of 18 is blocked while using data. However, there are easy ways to get around this – such as using a Wi-Fi connection that doesn’t block anything that isn’t family-friendly – so it might be worth considering the option of using a separate parental control app for your child. This allows you to block anything that you wouldn’t want your child looking at online such as violence or pornography, and some parental control apps will also give you the option of blocking your child from downloading certain applications that you don’t want them to use. Many parental control apps also have GPS tracking features, which can be very handy for keeping your child safe. ## Spending Money Today, a common problem that many parents face is children spending tons of money on in-app and in-game features when using their smartphone – on their parent’s credit or debit card. Many apps make it easy to spend money without even realising how much you are spending, even if you’re spending your own money – so it’s easy for kids to do this without grasping how much they are actually costing you over time. To avoid losing your money in this way, it’s a good idea to make sure that if you’re going to attach your own payment details to your child’s smartphone, there’s a strong password in place that your child doesn’t know when it comes to making payments for certain apps or in-app features. If you are happy to allow your child to spend a certain amount of money on apps or in-app features it might be worth topping up an iTunes or Google Play Store gift card for them to do it this way. ## Promoting Safety Online The good news is that [online safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-safe-online/) is often taught in schools today, so chances are that your child already knows about keeping themselves safe online when using a smartphone or another device connected to the internet. Speak to your child on a regular basis about online safety and make sure that they know that they can come and speak to you if they find anything that makes them feel uncomfortable online, or feel that they are being bullied. Kids are using smartphones earlier in life than ever before. And while this can be a scary thought for some parents, the good news is that there are plenty of resources to help your child stay safe online and enjoy using their new tech. ![Child first smartphone | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Child-first-phone.png "Child first phone - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-first-smartphone/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-first-smartphone/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** phone --- ### [10 Brilliant co-parenting apps for separated families 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparenting-apps-2024/) **Published:** June 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about brilliant co-parenting apps for separated families was last updated in 2024.*** If you are co-parenting, you will know that it’s complicated. It is possible to [co-parent successfully](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/) but it requires dedication, commitment and precision organisation from both parents. For this reason, anything that makes co-parenting easier has got to be a bonus. Enter … the co-parenting apps. In this article, we’ll take you through: - What a co-parenting app actually is - How a parenting app can improve your co-parenting abilities - What to look for when choosing an app that is right for your separated family - Our pick of great apps on the market in 2023, with everything you need to know about them ## WHAT IS A CO-PARENTING APP? A co-parenting app is a digital tool that helps separated parents improve communication while caring for their children. Co-parenting apps tend to work best in a low-conflict or amicable relationship. ## WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF A CO-PARENTING APP? Co-parenting apps can synchronise schedules, keep tabs on your kids’ online and offline activities, store financial transactions, and even document conflict to assist legal professionals. Share care apps give you the ability to: - Manage your children’s day-to-day activities - Create and share calendars, photos and messages - Effectively communicate with your ex - Keep track of expenses and settle payments electronically - Store important contact info (nannies, grandparents, lawyers and counsellors) - Connect with support professionals - Minimise conflict and drama ## HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT PARENTING APP FOR YOUR SEPARATED FAMILY Most co-parenting apps feature a shared calendar to keep your schedules in sync and better manage your time. If you need more features like payments, journal, storage and social media integration, there are many free and paid options available. When choosing a co-parenting app, consider what you need (basic features vs. nice extras) and what you can afford. ## OUR PICK OF CO-PARENTING APPS ON THE MARKET IN 2021 ### [OUR FAMILY WIZARD](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) Our Family Wizard is one of the most feature-packed co-parenting apps available. It has everything separated parents need to manage their time and focus on the kids: sync custody time, share information, manage expenses and record events for legal proceedings. The website also has an extensive library of resources for co-parents, including contacts of legal, counselling and other support professionals. It’s fair to say that Our Family Wizard sits in a league of its own when it comes to functionality and user success. [![Co-Parenting Apps | Our Family Wizard | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-21-at-9.37.17-pm-1200x605.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-21 at 9.37.17 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ***Available via:*** *Website* ***Free version:*** *30-day money back guarantee* ***Cost of app:*** *From $130/year* ***Best features:*** *Add unlimited users to one account, including legal, mental health and support professionals* ***Pros:*** *30-day money back guarantee, access to legal and mental health professionals* ***Cons:*** *Calendar and scheduling features can take some getting used to.* ***You will love this app if:*** *You are prepared to pay for an app that can seriously help your co-parenting relationship.* ### [COZI](https://www.cozi.com/) Cozi is one of those co-parenting apps that are easy to use even if you are not tech savvy. Setting up an account is a breeze and you can immediately create calendars and to-do lists, share photos and recipes, track activities, document events and more. The interface is clean and the most important buttons are right up top so you can manage your schedules without a fuss. [![Cozi Family Organizer | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-21-at-9.47.21-pm-1200x647.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-21 at 9.47.21 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.cozi.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, website* ***Free version:** Yes, free with ads, 2-week free trial of Cozi Gold (web version)* ***Cost of app:** $29.99 per year for Cozi Gold* ***Best features:** Easy to use family organiser* ***Pros:** One account for all family members, free version is enough for most users* ***Cons:** Occasional glitches, ads can be annoying on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You are looking for a free and easy to use co-parenting app with heaps of features.* ### COPARENTA Coparenta is a new co-parenting and calendar app that makes it easy to create and experiment with different custody schedules. The app features calendar, scheduling, messaging, appointment and finance tools to help co-parents improve communication whilst raising their kids. Coparenta is the only app that lets you use different colours for each calendar and print it out as a PDF. If you like organising calendars by colour, this is definitely the app for you. Sign up today and get Coparenta free for life (for the first 1000 users). ![Coparenta | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/home-page.png "home-page - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:*** *Web (Android and Apple coming soon)* ***Cost of app:** Free for life for the first 1000 users and then $99 per year subscription* ***Best features:** Easy to create schedules, print out family calendars* ***Pros:** Printable colour-coded calendars, feature-packed co-parenting app* ***Cons:** Finance tracking has not yet been implemented* ***You will love this app if:** You need an all-in-one co-parenting app with colour-coded calendars.* ### [2HOUSES](https://www.2houses.com/en/) 2Houses has scheduling, communication, payment and document storage features plus support for more than one family so is useful if you have kids with more than one ex partner. If you can’t get your ex to sign up and cooperate, you can invite another family member instead. We like the journal that keeps communication private when needed and the album that you can choose to share with other people. [![Co-Parenting Apps | 2 Houses | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-24-at-2.08.02-pm-1200x424.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-24 at 2.08.02 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.2houses.com/en/) ***Available via:** Website, Apple and Android* ***Free version:** Free 14-day trial* ***Cost of app:** $7.42/month or $89 every 12 months* ***Best features:** Scheduling tool with nice extras like journalling, messaging and finance* ***Pros:** One account for the whole family, add more than one family* ***Cons:** Reviewers report glitches and auto-renewals* ***You will love this app if:** You have kids with more than one ex-partner and want to streamline communication and schedules.* ## SHARED PARENTING APPS 2021 (CONT.) ### [APPCLOSE](https://appclose.com/) Appclose is a completely free co-parenting app that features shared calendars, messaging and expense tracking. The built-in payment platform lets you scan receipts and send and receive payments. Communicating with your ex and family members is easy thanks to the in-app messaging feature. You can also send texts and emails to people who are not in your circle. [![Appclose | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/rMTApRnqLNBKglWkhGuiiH2Df0G59ujoP-h6gYYXbTuhOn2IoIWABX5VD34QiDsLqnQr=w1150-h766)](https://appclose.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Best features:** Built-in expense tracker and electronic payment system* ***Pros:** Free co-parenting app with all features you need* ***Cons:** Not very user-friendly compared to paid apps* ***You will love this app if:** You need a completely free co-parenting app that gets the job done.* ### [MyMob](https://www.mymob.com/) MyMob is another free co-parenting app with all the basics you need (shared calendars, messaging and documentation) plus extras: a profanity filter, wish lists and a virtual fridge to post your kids’ photos and art. MyMob was created by Stepfamilies Australia and Drummond Street Services to help separated parents be more accountable for their children’s welfare. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012450-424x800.jpg "1000012450 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mymob.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Best features:** Messaging with profanity filter, virtual fridge for photos and memories* ***Pros:** Completely free co-parenting app with everything you need* ***Cons:** Not compatible with some mobile devices, not for high-conflict parents* ***You will love this app if:** You want to keep messages clean for your kids.* ### [WeParent](https://weparent.app/) WeParent is a complete scheduling and tracking app to help separated families manage their lives. It features shared calendars, messaging and group chat and data storage. It also lets you add mediators and other family members to your account. We like that the 14-day free trial lets you test the app and see if it’s a good fit for your family before committing to the subscription service. ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free for 14 days* ***Cost of app:** $9.99 per month or $199.99 for Lifetime* ***Best features:** Full-featured scheduling, tracking and messaging app* ***Pros:** One subscription for the entire family plus support team, great customer support* ***Cons:** Reviewers report bugs and errors* ***You will love this app if:** You need an all-in-one scheduling and tracking tool.* ### [TIMETREE](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en/) Timetree is a an all-one scheduling app that lets you create multiple calendars and share them with your ex, family members, mediators and co-workers. Create, edit and view all your calendars (family, work, school) in one place and plan events easily. For business owners, the app lets you share agendas, connect with the workplace and track inventories. [![TimeTree | Co-Parenting Apps | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/4_t-wJjlmrfG-w3fCN_vTWiwcKswN8I9nyxY8VwLoDI8KEqcUbCwXcBUv3Mk6p7O1s0=w1150-h766)](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Web* ***Free version:** Yes, free with ads* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Best features:** Calendar app for sharing and collaborating* ***Pros:** Feature-rich scheduling app with business features* ***Cons:** Pop ups and ads can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You need a scheduling app to manage family, work, school and social.* ## THE BEST CO-PARENTING APPS & SOFTWARE IN 2021 ### [Parentship](http://www.parentship.co/) We love inclusive co-parenting apps that support all kinds of families. Parentship is one example, helping separated parents, step families and caregivers manage kids’ crazy schedules. The custom calendar feature lets you schedule activities easily and track events, expenses and documents. Parentship is easy to use and feature-rich, although you need to pay a monthly subscription fee of $3.99. ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes, plus free 1 month trial with subscription* ***Cost of app:** $3.99 per month and $24.99 annually* ***Best features:** Everything you need in one place* ***Pros:** Heaps of features, custom calendars, document tracking* ***Cons:** You need to pay to unlock all features* ***You will love this app if:** You want a co-parenting app that supports different kinds of parenting arrangements.* ### [Coparently](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.famcal&hl=en) [![Co-parenting Apps | Co-Parently | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/coparently-way.png "coparently-way - Beanstalk Mums")](http://coparently.com/) Coparently has all the tools you need to make co-parenting stress-free. It has a shared calendar, private journal, expense tracking features, messaging and document storage. You can add your kids to your account to make communication easier, as well as mediators, legal professionals and other family members. Customise your calendars and get everyone on the same page. ***Available via:** Website* ***Free version:** Free for 30 days* ***Cost of app:** $4.99 per month or $26.99/year* ***Best features:** All-in-one co-parenting app* ***Pros:** Custom calendars, can add kids, guests and family law professionals* ***Cons:** Separate monthly fee for each parent* ***You will love this app if:** You are in the middle of a separation and need the help of family law and other professionals.* ### [TALKING PARENTS](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talkingparents.tpandroid&hl=en&gl=US) Talking Parents is a no-nonsense co-parenting app designed for separated parents working with legal and mediation professionals. The app focuses on accountability and respectful communication, and it ensures that messages and calls cannot be tampered with or deleted. You can also use the app to create calendars, sync schedules and share photos with your family. [![Co-Parenting Apps | Talking Parents | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/h6QMgkD8Y22mTRMkGX8w7Tkpgj4MmMyUkK7_a1Acyun1quH1ZgGbnRBEesvl_fZG_ImP=w1080-h853)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talkingparents.tpandroid&hl=en&gl=US) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, website* ***Free version:** Free web version + 30-day free trial on the paid version* ***Cost of app:** $9.99/month (standard) and $24.99/month (premium)* ***Best features:** Call your ex without revealing your phone number* ***Pros:** Free ad-supported website version, great for co-parents working with mediators and attorneys* ***Cons:** Can be pricey, you need to pay to download calendars, messages and expense PDFs* ***You will love this app if:** You need a co-parenting app to record conversations with your ex and manage schedules.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1.png "1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparenting-apps-2024/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparenting-apps-2024/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** co-parenting apps, co-parenting software, co-parenting tools, coparenting apps, shared calendars --- ### [Best eco friendly laundry detergents in Australia 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/eco-friendly-laundry-detergents/) **Published:** August 22, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** I’ll admit that I have always been dubious about earth friendly cleaning products, mainly because I didn’t think they’d do the job and would therefore be a waste of money. Recently, and with encouragement from some eco-warrior family members, I’ve made the switch … and have not looked back. I can honestly tell you that many [eco-friendly](https://paylesspromotions.com.au/blog/how-to-empower-your-business-with-easy-sustainable-business-practices/) products work even better than their chemical-packed counterparts. Which genuinely surprised me. But, I’ve not yet switched my laundry detergent. For this reason, I need to to do some research and I thought why not share it with others looking to lessen their carbon footprint. Here’s what you need to know about eco friendly laundry detergents that are safe for the environment. ***Further reading: [7 Best eco friendly cleaning products to buy in Australia. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-cleaning-products/)*** ## What is an eco friendly laundry detergent? An eco friendly laundry detergent is a greener alternative to traditional detergents that contain non-biodegradable chemicals and other ingredients that leech into our water supply and pollute the environment. They use ingredients and packaging that are gentle on clothes, our skin and the environment. No laundry detergent can be truly “green” or have zero impact on the environment, but the use of eco friendly options (and doing less laundry in general) can go a long way in helping families save the planet. ## What are the benefits of going green with my laundry? - Gentler on the skin and clothes. The absence of harsh chemicals makes greener detergents gentler on the skin and on your clothes. Perfect for people with allergies or skin sensitivities. - Save money by using less detergent. Many eco friendly laundry detergents are highly concentrated so you need only a small amount per wash/load. - Reduce water pollution. Eco friendly detergents do not contain chemicals like phosphates that end up in waterways and sewage systems. - Reduce plastic waste. Eco friendly detergents use biodegradable/compostable packaging or plastic packaging that can be reused and recycled. ## What to look for when buying eco laundry products? **Ingredients:** Check the ingredients list of your detergent. Look for words like non-toxic, biodegradable, hypoallergenic, vegan, cruelty-free, and ethically sourced. Avoid detergents with a long list of harsh chemicals like phosphates and parabens. **Certifications:** Look for certifications on the label indicating that the product has passed safety checks and standards. **Packaging:** Choose detergents with biodegradable, compostable, or reusable packaging. Many brands offer refills so you don’t have to buy the same plastic container when you run out. **Cost per wash:** Some eco friendly options tend to be pricier than traditional detergents. Compare prices and cost per wash to get the best deal. ## Eco friendly laundry detergents that are safe for the environment ## Zero Co Zero Co delivers eco friendly laundry detergents and home cleaning products to your door without all the single-use plastic. Simply send back the empty refill pouches for free. [![Zero Co](https://cdn.arenacommerce.com/zero-co-australia/hero.png)](http://zero-co.pxf.io/9WAaE0) ***We found this at:** [ZERO CO](http://zero-co.pxf.io/9WAaE0)* ***Different scents:** Lemon Myrtle & Australian Grey Gum, Finger Lime & Davidson Plum, Lemon Aspen & Pepperberry, Earl Grey & Cucumber* ## Koala Eco Koala Eco laundry wash is plant-based, biodegradable, and grey water/septic safe. Natural antibacterials clean your clothes effectively without harsh chemicals. Smells amazing, too. A great septic safe laundry detergent Australia. [![Koala Eco | eco friendly laundry detergents](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/1160/4260/products/kc27_16255_400x400_3fd93a91-d482-4563-b7b9-35ba94da042d_1024x1024.jpg?v=1604191246)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fkoala-eco-natural-laundry-wash-1l%3f_pos%3d7%26_sid%3dd3966f36e%26_ss%3dr) ***We found this at:** [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fkoala-eco-natural-laundry-wash-1l%3f_pos%3d7%26_sid%3dd3966f36e%26_ss%3dr)* ***Different scents:** Lemon Scented Eucalyptus & Rosemary* ## Mild By Nature, Laundry Detergent Pods Mild By Nature takes the guesswork out of measuring detergent with these pre-measured pods. It has 10 pods that’s the right amount of laundry detergent for 10 loads. With no phosphates and dyes, it’s a great detergent for newborn clothes. They’re also very handy when travelling. [![Mild By Nature Laundry Detergent Pods](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/6.jpg "6 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/44fzBCg)***We found this at:** [Mild By Nature](https://fave.co/44fzBCg)* ***Different scents**: Fragrance-free* ## The Dirt Company Dirt laundry detergents are super concentrated (8x more concentrated) and use 4x less packaging than supermarket brands. Proudly Australia-made. [![The Dirt Company | eco friendly laundry detergents](https://i.ibb.co/PQt2R33/00.jpg)](https://thedirtcompany.com.au/) ***We found this at:** [The Dirt Company](https://thedirtcompany.com.au/)* ***Different scents:** Spring Scented, Wild Water* ## Eco Store Have skin allergies or sensitivities? The ultra-gentle Eco Store laundry powder is free from harsh chemicals and artificial fragrances. It’s great for your clothes and your skin. [![Eco Store](https://www.doorsteporganics.com.au/image/optimised/large/303706.jpg)](https://www.doorsteporganics.com.au/Laundry-Powder-Ultra-Sensitive-Fragrance-Free-Eco-Store-1kg) ***We found this at:** [Doorstep Organics](https://www.doorsteporganics.com.au/Laundry-Powder-Ultra-Sensitive-Fragrance-Free-Eco-Store-1kg)* ***Different scents:** Fragrance-free* ## Abode Abode laundry liquid is another eco friendly choice for those with skin sensitivities. The formula is hypoallergenic and completely free from fragrances, salt, phosphates, and harsh ingredients. [![Abode | eco friendly laundry detergent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Abode_Lav_and_Mint_Abode_lIquid_1L_9c357d6f-e0f5-4bcc-9123-2b06b116b065_1024x1024-800x800.webp "Abode_Lav_and_Mint_Abode_lIquid_1L_9c357d6f-e0f5-4bcc-9123-2b06b116b065_1024x1024 - Beanstalk Mums")](t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fsoap-nuts%2f15377-soapberry-shells-250g-799439052888.html) ***We found this at:** [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fabode-laundry-liquid-lavender-and-mint-2l%3f_pos%3d8%26_sid%3dd3966f36e%26_ss%3dr)* ***Different scents:** Lavender and Mint* ## Earth friendly laundry detergent (cont.) ## Organic Soap Berries (Soap Nuts) Save Himalayan trees and reduce pollution by using 100% organic soapberries (soap nuts) to wash your clothes. The dried shells contain high amounts of saponin (nature’s soap) and can be reused for up to 4 loads. [![Organic Soap Berries (Soap Nuts)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/organic-soap-berries-soap-nuts-natural-laundry-detergent-250g-799439052888-cleaning-39075754344676.jpg "organic-soap-berries-soap-nuts-natural-laundry-detergent-250g-799439052888-cleaning-39075754344676 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fsoap-nuts%2f15377-soapberry-shells-250g-799439052888.html) ***We found this at:** [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fsoap-nuts%2f15377-soapberry-shells-250g-799439052888.html)* ***Different scents:** Soap berry* ## Biocasa If you hate measuring cups, Biocasa offers eco friendly laundry strips that you pop straight into the washer. The no plastic formula is highly concentrated but gentle enough for the most sensitive skin. [![Biocasa | eco friendly laundry detergents](https://i.ibb.co/TMN9FY4/1.jpg)](https://biocasa.com.au/) ***We found this at:** [Biocasa](https://biocasa.com.au/)* ***Different scents:** Fresh Linen, Delicate & Baby, Fragrance-free* ## Nellie’s Laundry Soda Good for 100 regular-sized washes, Nellie’s Laundry Soda is non-toxic, scent-free, septic safe, allergy-friendly, not tested on animals, and packaged in a recyclable tin can. Whew! If you’re not drawn to the vintage design, you will love this long-lasting powder detergent that’s good for you and the planet. [![Nellie's Laundry Soda](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/56-800x800.webp "56 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3seVIf9)***We found this at:*** *[Nellie’s](https://fave.co/3seVIf9)* ***Different scents:** Fragrance-free* ## Tru Earth Tru Earth is another eco friendly option for laundry strip lovers. The concentrated, hypoallergenic strips zap stubborn stains and are suitable for all types of washing machines. ***We found this at: [Tru Earth](https://www.truearth.net.au/Store/Tru-Earth-Eco-strips-Fresh-Linen-Platinum-384-Loads)*** ***Different scents:** Fragrance-free* ## Final words: Eco friendly laundry detergents in Australia Embracing eco-friendly laundry detergents marks a significant stride towards sustainable living in Australia. These conscientiously crafted products, designed to minimise environmental impact, hold the promise of a cleaner future for our planet and our homes. When you are looking for the ideal eco-friendly detergent, remember to scrutinise labels for biodegradable, plant-based ingredients, and certifications from reputable eco-labelling organisations. Opting for phosphate-free, low VOC, and cruelty-free options further amplifies your positive contribution. The benefits of adopting eco-friendly laundry detergents are multifaceted. By reducing harmful chemicals and synthetic additives, you protect aquatic ecosystems and conserve water resources. Not only that, these detergents prove gentler on sensitive skin, ensuring the well-being of your loved ones. Over time, your commitment to environmentally-friendly choices not only minimises your carbon footprint but also influences industry practices, propelling a more sustainable market. So, let’s take the small yet impactful step of embracing eco-friendly laundry detergents, as together, we weave a cleaner, greener fabric for our shared future. ***Further reading: [18 Eco-friendly present ideas for sustainable gifting.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-present-sustainable-gifting/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/eco-friendly-laundry-detergents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/eco-friendly-laundry-detergents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping **Tags:** washing, environmental, earth friendly, green --- ### [Single parent housing options Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-housing-options-australia/) **Published:** July 20, 2023 **Author:** Wilhelmina Ford **Content:** I believe every person in Australia should have access to safe and secure housing. It’s integral to maintaining good health and feeling part of a community. A shortage of affordable housing and high rents (highest in 15 years) means low-income people are increasingly vulnerable to homelessness. Single parent families, in particular, spend the most on housing as a percentage of their weekly gross income. Did you know … > “*Single parents paid hours fell more than 30% in the depths of the crisis in April. By December, even though there were no significant restrictions in place anywhere in Australia, paid hours for single parents remained 10% lower than they had been a year earlier.* > > *Employment for single parents fell more than 10% between December 2019 and September 2020 and is still 5% lower than in December 2019. About 50,000 single parents dropped out of the workforce altogether during the first lockdown – 11% of all single parents in Australia.*“ These stats show that it is time for strategic thinking and looking outside the square regarding your housing options as a single parent. Thinking outside the square doesn’t just encompass the different options of housing you could choose, which I will go into depth later on, but also how you apply for the accommodation. Why? Because it is not a level playing field when it comes to things like rentals, loans, availability, and even support when compared with other coupled parents. Competing in the rental market as a single parent can be pretty deflating. Numerous people turn up each time. As single mothers, we rely mainly on single parent pensions from Centrelink, sometimes some PAYG work or self-employment income. In most cases, child support is non-existent. Our finances, more often than not, look terrible. Add to that some of us don’t start off with rental history. Combine all that and we look like pretty bad applicants on paper when going up against families or double-income no kid couples. It’s often difficult for us to get to open homes because we are juggling so many things and getting the paperwork completed can be very daunting and time-consuming. With many of us unable to rely on support from others, it’s a battle we do all so often when it comes to the private rental market. We don’t have it easy, that’s for sure. But it doesn’t mean it’s impossible. There are ways for single parents to find affordable housing options in Australia and ways to get them that aren’t such a headache. ## The private rental No, it’s not a myth. There are still some affordable and accessible private rentals around, depending on where you look. I recommend a few different things here. Firstly, expand your search radius. Look 15 – 20kms minutes further away. People always pay a premium for closer-located housing. However, if you have a car and can commit to getting up 20 minutes earlier, you will likely find a less competitive rental and something cheaper than the housing close to everything. And when it comes to writing that application, there are a few ways to get yours noticed above other applicants. Make sure you get the rental application before you go to the inspection so you have it ready to give at the inspection. Include a letter to the landlord in the application that outlines why you would be a good tenant and follow up a few days later. Always ask why if you did not get it. Ensure you keep copies of everything that’s needed to go into an application because you will need it again. This is a great time-saving hack to prevent a constant scramble whenever you want to apply for a private rental. Some places to find private rentals are [Domain](http://domain.com.au/), [Realestate.com.au](http://domain.com.au/), and private real estate agents (Google real estate agents in your area). ***Further reading:*** [***Make yourself the perfect applicant for the rental property of your dreams.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/perfect-applicant-for-the-rental-property/) ## Sharing a house When it comes to considering single parent housing options in Australia, sharing a house is worth considering. This can happen in two ways. Either someone offers a room in their house plus common space for a reduced price, or two people (sometimes more) team up to find a rental together. This is a great way to reduce costs, such as: - Initial bond - Ongoing rental expenses - Household expenses It can allow you to live in a bigger house in a better neighbourhood. Plus, it’s likely you won’t all need to apply for the rental, so it saves time and energy on the formal application process and getting references. In my experience, if your home has enough space, you do your due diligence and ensure you have good boundaries and good communication, home sharing is an excellent choice. It does more than help your financial capabilities and housing options. Sharing a home can help with your social isolation and emotional well-being. We all need a support network after all. Some places to find home shares are [ShareAbode](http://www.shareabode.com.au/) (specifically for single parents in Australia), [Flatmates](http://www.flatmates.com.au/), [Room Exchange](https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-room-xchange?originalSubdomain=au), [Roomgo](https://au.roomgo.net/) and various FB groups if you search share accommodation. ## Public housing State and Federal governments across Australia provide some housing that is commonly referred to as government housing or public housing. These are usually 1,2 or 3 bedrooms and are provided in order of need or what is called priority. The conditions are different for every State, but generally, you may apply if you: - Do not exceed the income and asset eligibility limits - Do not own or part own a house, unit or flat - Do have Australian citizenship or permanent residency status - Do not owe money from a previous public housing tenancy or Bond loan To apply you need to fill out the General Public Housing Application form. Just google that for your state. The wait can be quite long, sometimes years, so you need to think ahead if this is something you can do. Apply now for the future and look at the other options here for the immediate need for housing. ## Social housing Community or social housing is a secure and affordable long-term rental managed by a not-for-profit organisation, specifically for low-income people with special needs or escaping domestic and family violence with children. It isn’t easy to get into as there is not a vast amount available. The best way to find out is to search Social Housing within your state and see what organisations come up. You can then apply directly. ## Home ownership It might seem strange to mention this but if you are a single parent with money from a divorce settlement or have been saving, you could look at purchasing your own little place. I would recommend looking at the following: - **[First Home Owners Grant](https://www.firsthome.gov.au/):** This is great for saving on a down payment, if you haven’t previously owned a property in your name. - **[Family Home Guarantee](https://www.nhfic.gov.au/support-buy-home/family-home-guarantee):** This brand-new scheme is especially to help single parents after separation. It allows the purchase of a home with as little as a 2% deposit! ***Further reading:*** [***Updated info on the Family Home Guarantee.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-home-guarantee-media-release/) ## Temporary accommodation Temporary accommodation provides a vital lifeline for individuals and families facing urgent housing needs, many of whom are single mothers. This accommodation offers a safe and secure place to stay during challenging times like homelessness, fleeing domestic violence, or experiencing a sudden housing crisis. Various organisations, community groups, and government agencies work together to provide temporary accommodation options. These include emergency shelters, crisis centres, transitional housing, and supported accommodation services. The aim is not only to offer a roof over one’s head but also to provide essential support services, such as counselling, food assistance, and referrals to other relevant resources. Temporary accommodation plays a crucial role in helping individuals and families stabilise their situations and plan for more permanent housing solutions. It offers a lifeline during difficult times and empowers those in need to access necessary support while they work towards achieving stability and self-sufficiency. ## Final words about single parent housing options Australia At the end of the day, housing is expensive and often competitive to get into. For this reason, single parents must get creative for the opportunity to settle in a secure home. Find a solution to make life easier and less stressful without constantly struggling to keep an expensive rental. Don’t live a life where you are always stressed, overworked, and have little time for other things, including your kids. Hopefully my suggestions single parent housing will help you find another way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-housing-options-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-housing-options-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** renting, housing, shared housing, government housing, plublic housing, social housing --- ### [How to pay for braces if they aren't in your parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-pay-for-braces/) **Published:** September 20, 2021 **Author:** Kara Reynolds **Content:** “Braces” is one word that conjures up anxiety for children and parents alike. There’s fear about how much the procedure itself will hurt and worry over how much the treatment will cost. Let’s face it — braces are one of the biggest pains of adolescence. While you’re recounting your ordeal with braces, reassure your child they’ll survive their journey and be better for it. Braces are a childhood rite of passage. Give them this good news as they embark on their orthodontic adventure. Here’s some good news for you, too — six ways to help pay for braces if they’re not in your parenting plan. ## 1. Treat Your Child When They’re Young Talk to your dentist about starting orthodontic care for your child while they’re still young. Most orthodontists will encourage an examination as early as age 7 and start treatment between 8 and 14. Getting orthodontic care at an early age can be incredibly beneficial to your child because it prevents minor issues from becoming full-fledged problems, primarily through the use of retainers and other devices. Being proactive in orthodontic treatment can also save you money in the long term by reducing your child’s need for braces at 16 by starting with a retainer at 8. Talk to your dentist for more advice on how you can best proceed with your child’s smile. ## 2. Opt for a Lower-Cost Provider When you first notice [the small gap](https://foxkidsdentistry.com/blog/how-to-fix-gap-with-braces/), or diastema, between your child’s front teeth, you might realize they need braces. It’s wise to talk with your dentist for orthodontist recommendations, as they might have a referral for a colleague who offers their services at a more affordable rate. Another option to consider is working with orthodontists who are still receiving their education. Often, children can get braces for reduced rates when [treated at dental schools](https://www.asdanet.org/index/get-into-dental-school/before-you-apply/u-s-dental-schools). This is an excellent option for parents and kids living near a big city with a medical university. Remember that because students are learning, appointments and treatments can go long. However, all dental and orthodontic students are under the care of certified dentists and orthodontists, and the length of time in no way impacts the quality of care. ## 3. Inquire About a Family Discount Based on a report conducted by the American Dental Association in 2020, the [average cost of braces is $6,000](https://ebusiness.ada.org/productcatalog/85994/Center-for-Professional-Success/Survey-of-Dental-Fees-2020/CPS-85994). The type you decide to use can impact the price somewhat significantly. Metal braces can lower the price. If your child wants versions that go behind their teeth or a clear alternative, this will likely raise the price considerably—especially if you’re searching for [braces Sydney](https://gloworthodontics.com.au/braces-sydney "braces Sydney") options. With the price of braces in mind and your budget, ask if your orthodontist offers any form of discount. Be honest and explain your financial situation — you’re not the first family to wonder about how to pay for braces. Many offices provide discounts for families with more than one sibling who will need them. Some even offer plans that let you pay for your child’s braces over a more extended period. However, try to avoid a low interest-rate plan with hidden terms or fees triggered if you miss or are late with a payment. ## 4. Get a Second Opinion Once your dentist identifies that your child is a likely candidate for braces, it’s wise to do a little research on orthodontists in your region. After your first visit, you always want to get a second opinion because while the average cost of braces is $6,000, fees tend to vary by practice. The consultation visits themselves should be free of charge. Make sure you take the time to find an orthodontist and practice you and your child are comfortable with because you’ll be spending a lot of time together throughout the treatment. ## 5. Apply for Financial Aid If you find you still could use assistance when paying for your child’s braces, consider the following options. Smiles Change Lives is a fantastic organization that reduces the overall [price of braces to approximately $600](https://www.smileschangelives.org/). This program is income-based and accepts applications from children ages 10 through 18 who take good care of their teeth. It serves children in the United States and Canada. Donated Orthodontic Services, sponsored by the American Association of Orthodontics, has provided more than $5 million for orthodontic care since its inception in 2009. The program provides pro-bono services for low-income families without insurance or those who don’t qualify for other forms of assistance. ![Pay for braces | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Pay-for-braces-Pin.png "Pay for braces Pin - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-pay-for-braces/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-pay-for-braces/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [12 Tips to co-parent teenagers from a mum who’s been there](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparent-teenagers/) **Published:** February 8, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There’s lots of advice available about how to co-parent with young kids, but less for co-parenting with teenagers. Is this because, as they are older, they are expected to cope? Hopefully not because having co-parented toddlers to teens, I can tell you that teens need just as much support, if not more. Here is some genuine advice from my own experience to help if you are co-parenting your infuriatingly wonderful teens. ## CO-PARENTING WITH TEENAGERS ### EXPECT NEW EMOTIONS If, like was the situation in our family, the separation happens while your children are young, you might expect them to be “used to it” by the time they hit their teens years. And yes, they might have accepted being co-parented as their new normal, but as they grow, they will have new perspectives on the situation. This, in turn, will create new questions and might need different coping mechanisms. For example, as they learn more about human behaviour and relationships, they might question “why” their parents relationship broke up and want age-appropriate answers. Be ready for new emotions and allow your teens to express them. ### UNDERSTAND THEIR BRAINS! Understanding teenagers is a minefield! This is because their brains are changing and developing during these all-important years. It also explains why your once-sweet child may turn into the Exorcist overnight (yes, I half expected to see my daughters head turn 360 degrees at the dinner table). These changes in the adolescent brain can cause many issues such as their inability to communicate, erratic behaviour, different sleep patterns and so much more. I’m no scientist but I found [The Teenage Brain by Frances E Jensen](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gbL4X5) hugely helpful in guiding my teens as a co-parent. Rather than being annoyed by their new exasperating habits, my newfound knowledge allowed me to show compassion and understanding which definitely helped to calm the farm. ### GIVE THEM SOME SLACK Teens have a lot going on. Even more so if they live between two homes. Each parent is likely to be laying down new teenager rules, possibly different ones, and this can be confusing and overwhelming. Pulling back on some rules is an effective way of making them feel understood. It also shows that you trust them and that you’re on their side. I know this goes against the grain, but I have honestly found that leniency can be more effective, so long as their safety is not jeopardised in any way. ### SHOW LOVE … NO MATTER WHAT I am too ashamed and embarrassed to share some of the awful thoughts I had about my teens during the most challenging years. Instead, I’ll say I always loved them, but at times I found it hard to like them. Yet, just like toddlers, our teens need to know they are loved, always. When they are at the other parent’s house send them a message each day to tell them you love them, even just a few kisses. When they come back from the other parent’s home, try not to go into battle mode, instead show them how happy you are to have them home. They might pretend to hate it, but knowing they are loved, even when your relationship is tense, is incredibly important. ## MORE TIPS TO CO-PARENT TEENAGERS ### GET THE TONE OF THE CONVERSATION RIGHT Learning “how” to talk to your teen is paramount. If you don’t get it right, they can clam up and I will tell you from experience that a silent teen is scarier than a screaming teen. According to [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/parenting/raising-a-teen): > *“Part of helping your young person develop into an independent adult is respecting their choices – providing support and guidance, but also space for them to work things out for themselves. This means the way you communicate together also has to change – and this shift is often just as hard for parents as it is for young people.”* Create an environment in which open conversations are part of the routine. Learn to listen and show respect for whatever your teen is telling you because it clearly matters to them. If they need to talk about the other parent, remember to keep your emotions in-check and think carefully before responding. No child, whatever their age, will want to hear a parent being bad-mouthed. ### ACCEPT THEIR DECISIONS As your child hits their teenage years, they might want more say in how they are co-parented. I have found it worthwhile to respect this. Living between homes is hardest in the teenage years as they become responsible for the logistics. Plus, tight friendship groups or romantic relationships might mean they don’t want to move from one area to another. One of our daughters chose to live with me full-time when she was 16. Our other daughter decided at 14 that she wanted to change from week-on-week-off to two-weekly. Both these decisions yielded great results and I am glad we respected them. Understand that (in many situations) your teens know what is best for them and allow them to try their ideas, however disruptive it might be to your own life. ### JUST GIVE … WITH NO EXPECTATIONS Raising teenagers is a huge responsibility, especially when you have to relinquish control to another parent with different parenting styles. We feel as though what we teach them now will affect them for the rest of their lives. We worry that if they don’t pull their weight around the home, they will grow up to be lazy humans who will be unemployable, drive future partners mad and ultimately end up alone. Consequently, we are always on them to be responsible, to be tidy and to pull their weight. They see this as nagging! Instead of always having expectations from them, try showing them that you are on their side with simple gestures that will make them feel happy and loved, such as: - If they are lazing in bed all morning, instead of shouting at them to get up and tidy their room. Take them a cuppa, give them a cuddle and tell them to relax if they need it. You might find they are up and on it sooner than you think. - If they are going to movies with friends, give them $10 for popcorn to share. Don’t ask for anything in return. Just give. You might find they are home on time without the usual dramas. ### SHOW THEM THE BENEFITS If your teens are struggling with being parented by separated parents and living between two homes, help them see the benefits. My ex-partner is a lot more relaxed with rules around our teens social life, they have relative freedom, getting the bus around town, grabbing take-aways and staying at friends. Yet, when they come to mine, I like to know where they are and will drive them around, pick them up late from parties and feed them healthy, home-cooked food. Neither parenting style is right or wrong, just different, and you can translate it back to your teens as them having the best of both worlds. ## HELP WITH CO-PARENTING TEENAGERS (CONT.) ### HAVE FLEXIBLE BOUNDARIES Teenagers change so quickly. One moment they are as sweet as pie laughing at all your jokes and next, they are grunting, eye-rolling and are almost unrecognisable. Only to change back again a year or so later. As a result, be flexible with the boundaries you set for them. What worked when they were 15 is likely not to work when they are 16. Let them know you see them and you understand their needs so you are changing boundaries according to their behaviour and their situation as co-parented children. Hard, fast, set rules don’t always work with our fast-growing, transient teen ### WORK WITH THE OTHER PARENT (IF YOU CAN) It’s not always easy, or even possible, to work with the other parent but if you are on the same page as parents, it is a gift for your teenage children. Remember, our teens are getting super-clever and will play their parents off against each other, which is an easy game if said parents are not on speaking terms. If you are unable to work together, be aware of how your ex is parenting and try to complement and balance out their parenting style with your own to make life as easy as possible for your teen. For example, my ex was very lenient which meant I couldn’t be a strict as I would have liked as it was too hard on my daughters to manage the extremes between homes. ### BE A ROLE MODEL Whether we like it or not, we are always role models to our children. Scary thought, I know. As your teens enter their own relationships, whether romantic or friendships, they learn values from both their parents. These includes everything from communication, work ethic, use of alcohol, coping mechanisms and how much we respect and love ourselves. Remember, you are being watched and your behaviour may be mirrored by your no-so-mini-me’s. ### CHECK FOR RED FLAGS When your teen is living between two homes and is displaying normal moody teen behaviour it could be hard to spot signs of serious anxiety or depression. According to [HealthDirect](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/depression-in-teenagers): > *“One in 4 young people are affected by mental health problems and disorders.”* You know your teen best, but just some signs that might suggest they are depressed include: - Becoming socially withdrawn - Not sleeping or eating properly - Struggling at school - Signs of alcohol or drug use - Loss of interest in friends and activities they once enjoyed If you are worried, speak to the other parent and/or your teenager’s school. They will be able to take note of his/her behaviour when you are not around and fill in any gaps. Don’t leave anything to chance. If you are concerned get professional support from your GP or a charity such as [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/), [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) or [Headspace](https://headspace.org.au/). Further reading: [Addiction and drug facts every parent needs to know.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/addition-and-drug-facts-every-parent-needs-to-know/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparent-teenagers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/coparent-teenagers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** teens, adolescent, older kids --- ### [Why purchase a rental property before the end of the year?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/purchase-rental-property-before-end-of-year/) **Published:** March 18, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’ve been looking to get into the real estate game, now is the time. With market rates at an all-time high and mortgage interest rates still near historic lows, this may be your last chance to buy a house before they shoot up. At least that’s what some experts are predicting. Furthermore, with tax season ending on December 31st, there’s no better time than right now to purchase a rental property. Of course, the idea that you can get a good rate of return on rental properties has been around for a while. Unfortunately, most would-be investors are scared away by three things. First, they believe that there is a lack of free money in real estate to make investing in rental properties a profitable endeavour. Second, they’re afraid to buy property at the wrong time because of what’s been happening in real estate lately. And, third, they’re reluctant to risk their money on a property they don’t fully understand. The truth, however, is that all three of these concerns are overblown. First, the idea that there isn’t enough money out there to invest in rental property is wrong. In fact, real estate investors are making more money now than they have ever done before. But most people don’t really know how much income you can make on rental property and how you can go about doing so. [**Click here**](https://rentola.com.au/) to know more about Rental Properties. ## The 4 Benefits to Rental Property ### 1) Low Risk If you’re going to invest in something, you want to minimise your risk. Buying rental property reduces the amount of risk that comes with other investments. For example, if you buy a stock or bond today, there is no guaranteed return on your money at all. You’re putting all your money into something with an uncertain payoff. With real estate, there are no such risks. You can put your money into a building (a rental property) and you will likely see a return on your investment. You can’t say that for other investments out there. ### 2) High Returns The rate of return on rental property is higher than any other type of investment out there. You see, when you buy a stock or bond, you are essentially loaning money to someone else and hoping to get that loan back with interest. That’s why you have to pay for “insurance” on those types of investments. But with rental property, you are actually earning money from the building that you buy. ### 3) Tax Breaks Because you are collecting rent and making a profit on property, there are a lot of tax incentives to investing in real estate. The government wants people to invest in real estate because it will help the economy grow by creating jobs and generating more capital for companies to use for growth. Real estate also acts as a buffer against inflation. As the economy grows, you can use the money you make from your rental property to buy other investments that will keep pace with inflation. ### 4) Level Playing Field Today’s market is very competitive and has driven prices up to near the stock market highs of last year (16th). This is an excellent time to invest in rental properties because there are so many buyers out there competing for the same houses. ## Appreciation Since the real estate market is growing, you are more likely to see a return on your investment. Traditional investment strategies like stocks and bonds have been flat recently. With an investment in one house, you can expect steady gains in value. This is because of the second reason most people are afraid to buy a property – they are worried they will invest in the wrong time. But this is an old strategy that goes back to the 1920’s with the housing bust of 2008. The truth is that you should always buy real estate if you can afford it. It’s not worth it, however, to go out and buy something just because you believe it’s going up in value, just like it isn’t smart to sell something for less than what you can get for it. ## Mortgage Reduction This is one of the big reasons people are afraid to buy a property. As the rates on mortgages rise, they will be paying more than they can get on their current income. That’s why you have to have enough money saved up in order to get a mortgage that you can afford. But most real estate investors don’t bother buying because they believe it’s too late to get any kind of mortgage. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")## Conclusion Now is the time to buy real estate. There are tons of properties available right now that can be had at a bargain price. The market has been driven up by very high demand for housing and interest rates are low. Some investors don’t even qualify for conventional mortgages because their debt exceeds what banks will lend them money for. If you don’t have enough for a house but can afford to buy a rental property, now is the time to do it. ![Purchase rental property | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Purchase-rental-property.png "Purchase rental property - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/purchase-rental-property-before-end-of-year/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/purchase-rental-property-before-end-of-year/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property --- ### [How do I get into university as a mature student?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-do-i-get-into-university-as-a-mature-student/) **Published:** June 28, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you thinking of going to university as a mature student? Well, hold that thought! University has changed over the years, and even more since the pandemic, with course structures offering flexibility and accessibility to study from home around work, kids and everything else in the mix. However, if school is a distance memory, you are likely wondering whether you are eligible for university and, if not, what hoops do you have to jump through to get in. In this article we explain: - Different types of university paths - Ways to get into university - How to obtain past learning education certificates - What is a literacy and numeracy test and how to prepare for it - Getting help from a student advisor ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [Tips for studying as a single mum.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/)*** ## Different types of university paths and possible requirements for each ### Single subject course A single subject course may be the ideal option if you are not ready to commit to full-time university as a mature student. Choose a single subject that fits your professional background and goals so you can quickly gain the skills needed to advance in your career. Many single subjects don’t have entry requirements; you just enrol, pay fees and you’re good to go. ### Undergraduate course An undergraduate course may be the right choice if you don’t have a previous degree or qualification, or you are returning to uni after a long break. You can start with a few undergraduate courses that don’t have entry requirements or go full steam ahead and take a semester’s worth of subjects if you have a strong academic history. ### Postgraduate course Already done with uni, have work experience and want to change careers or upgrade your skills? A postgraduate course, like a Masters’s Degree, Graduate Certificate or Diploma is a great option. You may be able to get credits for your past study and work experience to fast-track your learning. ## Ways to get into university ### ATAR The [Australian Tertiary Admissions Rank (ATAR)](https://www.studyassist.gov.au/you-study/how-get-higher-education) is a system that ranks Year 12 students of the same age group in terms of readiness to enter university. The ATAR score is a number between 0.00 and 99.95, and your rank determines if you can apply to a certain university or enrol in tertiary courses. Of course as a mature student you won’t be fresh out of Year 12 so ATAR is not a path for you but most universities take other factors into account when selecting students, like test and interview results, past work experience and portfolio. ### VET QUALIFICATIONS A [Vocational Education and Training (VET)](https://www.studyaustralia.gov.au/english/study/vocational-education) qualification provides practical skills and knowledge to high school students, job seekers, career changers and those who need formal qualifications for career advancement. Have a VET certificate or diploma (like an Information Technology or Early Childhood Education Certificate)? You can use it to get into university as a mature student if it is in a similar topic. ### RECOGNITION OF PREVIOUS STUDY OR WORK Universities recognise previous study and work experience when considering applications from mature students. Entry requirements depend on the course and institution, but you should be eligible for credit transfers and recognition of prior learning (RPL) so you can complete your studies faster. Those who don’t meet general academic requirements have other options, such as sub-bachelor courses that help improve your skills to prepare for university life, and enabling courses or subjects to help you meet entry requirements for a bachelor-level course. ### LITERACY AND NUMERACY TESTING Literacy and numeracy tests may be required to enter university for courses like Teacher Education and for students who have not completed year 12. Contact the admissions office or your student advisor to find out if you need to take an LLN or similar assessment. *[StudyAssist](https://www.studyassist.gov.au/you-study/how-get-higher-education) suggests:* > *“Entry pathways to higher education may differ between providers, even for a similar course. Contact your intended higher education provider and check the requirements with them.”* ## How to obtain past learning education certificates ### Domestic (Australian) students You’ll need your old school records when applying to university as a mature student. The best way to get them is to contact your school directly. In most cases, you’ll need to provide identification and details of your past study, like years attended and graduation date. If you attended a public school that no longer exists, has changed its name, is closed or has merged with another institution, you can reach out to your state’s education website. Victoria residents, for example, can go to the [Archives and Record department](https://www.vic.gov.au/access-school-student-records). ### International students The amount of paperwork required to study university abroad can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s best to contact your school directly to get your records and prepare all the requirements before applying for admission to an Australian university. In addition to other documents, international students who want to study in Australia need their old transcripts and employment certificates (for those with past work experience). They also need to take an English proficiency assessment like the [English Language Testing System (IELTS)](https://ielts.com.au/australia/about/what-is-ielts/ielts-in-australia/ielts-for-your-student-visa) test. ***Further reading:*** ***[Courses to become a registered nurse.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/studying-to-be-a-nurse/)*** ## What is a literacy and numeracy test and how to prepare for it ### What is the literacy and numeracy test A literacy and numeracy test is an assessment for students who did not complete their Higher School Certificate (HSC) or senior school qualification. When applying to university as a mature student, you can take a literacy and numeracy test to prove that you have the basic reading, writing and numeracy skills to succeed not just in college but in everyday life. In [NSW](https://educationstandards.nsw.edu.au/wps/portal/nesa/11-12/hsc/hsc-minimum-standard/online-tests), a Level 3 or 4 in reading, writing and numeracy is needed to meet the minimum standard. ### How to prepare for it Check your state’s website for application procedures and exam dates for the literacy and numeracy test. Prepare for the test way ahead of time by taking a [demo test](https://curriculum.nsw.edu.au/use-the-curriculum/literacy-and-numeracy), arranging an online [practice test](https://exams.nesa.nsw.edu.au/minstd.html) and studying your materials. ## Getting help from a student advisor You’ll need all the help you can get when studying at university as a mature student. What with balancing the demands of family, career and studies, you need someone to guide you every step of the way. That’s where a [student advisor](https://www.open.edu.au/advice/insights/your-guide-to-university-as-a-mature-age-student#:~:text=Most%20universities%20consider%20anyone%20over,starting%20out%20in%20the%20workforce) comes in. Whether you want to change careers or enter university for the first time, a student advisor can help you choose the right subjects to take and give you advice on everything from student loans to mental health to talking to your professor about getting extra credits. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/University-mature-student.png "University mature student - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-do-i-get-into-university-as-a-mature-student/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-do-i-get-into-university-as-a-mature-student/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** career, study, college, uni, retrain --- ### [18 Eco friendly present ideas for sustainable gifting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/eco-friendly-present-sustainable-gifting/) **Published:** September 25, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ***This article about eco friendly present ideas for sustainable gifting was last updated in 2022.*** Are you looking for a planet-happy gift for a friend or family member? Whether it’s you, them or both of you who are conscience about wasteful gifting, the earth will thank you for choosing something sustainable instead of another piece of junk to increase our landfill. Luckily, there is so much choice when it comes to eco-friendly gifts. Here are some of our favourites … Further reading: [7 Best eco-friendly cleaning products to buy in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-cleaning-products/) ## Eco friendly present ideas for sustainable gifting ## 1. 100 ways to save the planet cards Here’s one of our top eco friendly present ideas: *100 Ways to Save the Planet* cards. They’re packed with simple and easy-to-follow ideas to protect the planet, from buying a bird feeder to buying in bulk to save on packaging waste. What’s not to love? [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1fdd4a978e87805d101c5f353d11f7da.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.yellowoctopus.com.au/products/100-ways-to-save-the-planet-cards) We found this at: [Yellow Octopus](https://www.yellowoctopus.com.au/products/100-ways-to-save-the-planet-cards) ## 2. Go For Zero cleaning pack Facts: Bamboo produces more oxygen (about 35 times more), uses little water, and doesn’t even need pesticides to sprout so beautifully. Thus, what’s not to love about this 4-in-1 dish and laundry block plus bamboo-made dish brushes? They’re not only eco-friendly but super stylish looking for your kitchen or bathroom. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Zeroheropack_5000x-800x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://goforzero.com.au/products/go-for-zero-zero-waste-cleaning-pack-zero-hero?_pos=3&_sid=2e1e22051&_ss=r)We found this at: [Go for Zero](https://goforzero.com.au/products/go-for-zero-zero-waste-cleaning-pack-zero-hero?_pos=3&_sid=2e1e22051&_ss=r) ## 3. Recycled jewellery Kooky and quirky or fun and fabulous? Whatever your style, you can help save the planet by getting some funky recycled jewellery to dress up your outfits. Plus, you’re supporting local artists when you buy these boho sea pottery earrings. ![Recycled jewellery | eco friendly present](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/il-794x-N-3992687354-kwi8.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: Etsy ## 4. Eco friendly water bottle Water bottles are essential to keep your body healthy and hydrated. Get one that’s not only eco friendly, but also super pretty. We dig the inky mandala design on this one. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/ll35-20336-400x400-71a86416-a276-4205-8921-e59966bed5cf-1024x1024-1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fluvin-life-crystal-water-bottle-amethyst-gratitude-550ml%3fvariant%3d40763355201647%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26utm_campaign%3dgoogle%2520shopping%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwxveXBhDDARIsAI0Q0x3BMrzpU4X39iQUsOg6tTZ6G1URjXjrvxcgDTxN-mHQBJeQa1GBfhcaAkNHEALw_wcB) We found this at: [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fluvin-life-crystal-water-bottle-amethyst-gratitude-550ml%3fvariant%3d40763355201647%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26utm_campaign%3dgoogle%2520shopping%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwxveXBhDDARIsAI0Q0x3BMrzpU4X39iQUsOg6tTZ6G1URjXjrvxcgDTxN-mHQBJeQa1GBfhcaAkNHEALw_wcB) ## 5. A bird house Attract more birds to your garden with a hanging bamboo bird house. It’s perfect for balconies, windows and cosy backyard spaces where you want to sip your morning coffee while listening to songbirds. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/54BHG-800x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: Gifts Australia ## 6. Biodegradable and compostable coffee capsules K-Cups are great but they can take a toll on the environment. Why not try an alternative? These coffee capsules are compostable, biodegradable, and Australian-certified organic. Great for the eco-conscious javaholic. [![Biodegradable and compostable coffee capsules](https://assets.kogan.com/images/ecocaffe/ECF-251/1-ef5730f6ff-ethical-colombia-10.png)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/x9GmA3) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/x9GmA3) ## What do you get someone who is environmentally friendly? ## 7. Hemp clothing Hemp clothing? Yes, please! We know the men in your life will love some ultra cool (literally and figuratively) walkshorts that are also eco friendly and stylish. [![Hemp clothing | eco friendly present](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dwf30efbbb/images/20338047/20338047-01-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Flucid-hemp-walk-shorts%2F20338047-01.html) We found this at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Flucid-hemp-walk-shorts%2F20338047-01.html) ## 8. An environmentally friendly phone case 100% compostable phone cases exist, and they’re a great option when you need eco friendly present ideas. This one is minimalist and made from plants that were processed to be as firm and flexible as plastic. Genius! ![An environmentally friendly phone case](https://i.ibb.co/7Q4qy0R/il-1140x-N-3481600246-ms4y.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## 9. Bee pollination kit Saving the bees just got easier with a bee pollination kit that has everything you need to grow food for these essential insects. The kit is sustainable and comes with recycled coffee cups and two types of seeds (Borage and Alyssum) that bees love. We found this at: [Life Cykel](https://lifecykel.com/search?type=article%2Cpage%2Cproduct&q=Bee%2A+Pollination%2A+Grow%2A+Kit%2A) ## 10. Best Of Banksia gift pack A beautiful gift pack filled with handcrafted banksia must-haves; aroma diffuser, tea, beeswax candle and 100% pure Australian Eucalyptus essential oil. This package is biodegradable and comes with the perfect alternative to disposable coasters … crafty! ![Best of banksia gift pack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/best-of-banksia-gift-pack-bobp-m-homewares-39418190987492-800x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Biome](https://www.biome.com.au/products/best-of-banksia-gift-pack?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=c8b443c5bc9b4041a68ebee93057cfa3) ## Environmentally friendly gift ideas ## 11. A sustainable sex toy We need more sustainable sex toys, definitely. This one from Lovehoney is super sleek, made from recycled materials and comes with four speeds and seven vibration patterns. It’s also sleek and travel sized for on-the-go fun. [![A sustainable sex toy | eco friendly present](https://hips.hearstapps.com/vader-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/1620417837-82033_a45529_grey_000.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fbullet-vibrators%2fp%2flovehoney-x-love-not-war-amore-sustainable-rechargeable-bullet-vibrator%2fa45529g82033.html) We found this at: [LoveHoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fbullet-vibrators%2fp%2flovehoney-x-love-not-war-amore-sustainable-rechargeable-bullet-vibrator%2fa45529g82033.html) ## 12. Single use plastic home cleaning starter pack Make laundry more sustainable with a cleaning pack that is not single-use plastic and is gentle on your hands. An 8-piece starter pack of eco friendly home cleaning products will last you for 2-3 months (average 4-person household). [![Single use plastic home cleaning starter pack](https://i.ibb.co/Cw35kj3/acf-Zero-Co-Home-Box-1.jpg)](https://zero-co.pxf.io/3PNYmr) We found this at: [Zero Co](https://zero-co.pxf.io/3PNYmr) ## 13. A vegan cook book If you’ve always wanted to go vegan, start with this brilliant cookbook from Matt Pritchard. The book is filled with over 80 cheap, easy and yummy recipes that’s oh-so-good for you. From pies to stir fries, this vegan cookbook has you covered. [![A vegan cook book | eco friendly present](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/513r94wr-VS.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/dirty-vegan-matt-pritchard/book/9781784725969.html) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/dirty-vegan-matt-pritchard/book/9781784725969.html) ## 14. Flowers (sustainable ones of course) A huuuge bouquet of sustainable sunflowers will never fail to make anyone smile. That’s why they are one of our fave eco friendly present ideas. These ones come from one of the country’s best growers. [![Flowers ( sustainable ones of course)](https://i.ibb.co/r3DZj3H/HANDHELD-09-01-0020-1800x1800.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.floraly.com.au%2fproducts%2fsunflowers%3fvariant%3d28819120980021%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_medium%3dproduct_sync%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_content%3dsag_organic%26utm_campaign%3dsag_organic%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwxveXBhDDARIsAI0Q0x1ji05LaWJahuhHnzAH0IlvQomZK8KIfnClYmEZ7bHuia7AFoX8x8oaAp0gEALw_wcB) We found this at: [Florally](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.floraly.com.au%2fproducts%2fsunflowers%3fvariant%3d28819120980021%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_medium%3dproduct_sync%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_content%3dsag_organic%26utm_campaign%3dsag_organic%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwxveXBhDDARIsAI0Q0x1ji05LaWJahuhHnzAH0IlvQomZK8KIfnClYmEZ7bHuia7AFoX8x8oaAp0gEALw_wcB) ## 15. A cork bag Environmentally friendly bags with an eye-catching take on cork accessories? Oh, give me one! The vibrant specks on these carryalls are super trendy and made of natural cork that biodegrades completely. Great for eco-living fashionistas! We found this at: Etsy ## 16. Natural scent Strawberries and vanilla make the perfect summer scent. This natural perfume has concentrated nutrients and botanicals that are good for your skin. Vegan, cruelty-free and shipped in recyclable packaging. [![Natural scent](https://i.ibb.co/BjwW3Sj/1.jpg)](https://www.biome.com.au/natural-organic-perfume/18728-earths-purities-natural-parfum-strawberry-vanilla-706502760946.html) We found this at: [Biome](https://www.biome.com.au/natural-organic-perfume/18728-earths-purities-natural-parfum-strawberry-vanilla-706502760946.html) ## 17. Tropical coconut bowl gift set Colour your kitchen tropical and eco-friendly with these handmade coconut bowl gift set. Made of coconut shells, these items don’t break easily. Plus, for every purchase you make, you get to plant a tree back on the farm land. Hmm, a gift that keeps on giving. ![Tropical coconut bowl gift set | eco friendly present](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Tropical-coconut-bowl-gift-set_alt13_31e794f2-3f06-44d4-ab8e-2ba6522e85c3.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Coconutsy](https://coconutsy.com.au/products/tropical-coconut-bowl-gift-set?_pos=1&_sid=59b1559f8&_ss=r) ## 18. Starter composter kit Stay true to your commitment to the war on waste with this 7L starter kit compost starter. It has everything you need to kick off composting: a liquid EM spray, a recycled bucket and a refill bottle (also recycled), complete with instructions. So, what say you in starting your own compost, right at your very home? ![Eco friendly, natural, vegan, zero waste products Australia - Biome US](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/urban-composter-bokashi-city-compost-starter-kit-7l-natural-ucckn-garden-39124349223140.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Biome](https://www.biome.com.au/collections/urban-composter/products/urban-composter-bokashi-city-compost-starter-kit-7l-natural?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=22cc0705426c4c6986e24667aefc5e37) ***Further reading: [Cheap yet life-changing gift ideas. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-yet-life-changing-christmas-gift-ideas/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/eco-friendly-present-sustainable-gifting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/eco-friendly-present-sustainable-gifting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** present, environmentally friendly, sustainable, waste free --- ### [9 Top rated head lice treatments that actually work 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/head-lice-treatments-that-actually-work/) **Published:** August 2, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If your child has not yet experienced the delights of nits, your turn will be coming! And it is no fun at all. UNLESS … you find some head lice treatments that actually work to both treat and prevent the little buggers. Now, this is a list you will thank us for! Whether you are looking to protect your child from an outbreak in their class, or the insects have already taken hold in their hair, we have you covered. Let the battle games commence … we are coming in for the kill. Oh, and one other line of defence: If your child has long hair, make sure they wear it up when they go to school. There are actually some [hairstyles that lice hate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hairstyles-prevent-lice-nits/), but a nice, neat bun will suffice. ## Nit treatments to kill lice and eggs ## [Nitwits All-In-One Head Lice Solution](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fnitwits-all-in-one-head-lice-solution-120ml) First on our list of head lice treatments is the bestselling NitWits All-In-One Head Lice Solution. This product kills both lice and eggs in one go and promises to work with a single application. It contains the active ingredient dimethicone that kills lice and eggs quickly without needing a comb. NitWits All-In-One comes in a sensitive formulation to help reduce the risk scalp irritation … perfect for young people with sensitive skin. ***No. of treatments required:** 1 treatment* ***What we like about this product:** No mess spray applicator, no-repeat treatment, great for sensitive skin and scalp* [![Head lice treatments | NitWits ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61j8H0zNRiL._AC_SL1500_.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fnitwits-all-in-one-head-lice-solution-120ml) ## [NYDA Express Head Lice Treatment](https://www.superpharmacy.com.au/products/nyda-express-2x-50ml-family-pack?gclid=Cj0KCQjwk8b7BRCaARIsAARRTL5k7jMbKc_2auNW9O28En7eOnf8QVBoP8FKriGIl-IzrEwqQxCMR7oaAorYEALw_wcB) Another head lice treatment that mums love, NYDA Plus contains double acting 92% dimethicone that gets rid of lice at all stages, including eggs. This treatment pack contains a 100 ml treatment bottle, applicator and lice comb. NYDA Plus is proven to work with only one application, and there’s plenty of product left to treat the entire family. Treatment may need to be repeated if a new infestation occurs. ***No. of treatments required:** 1 treatment* ***What we like about this product:** Takes one application and can be used from birth and during pregnancy.* [![NYDA Express ](https://i.ibb.co/vX507Qh/1.jpg)](https://www.superpharmacy.com.au/products/nyda-express-2x-50ml-family-pack?gclid=Cj0KCQjwk8b7BRCaARIsAARRTL5k7jMbKc_2auNW9O28En7eOnf8QVBoP8FKriGIl-IzrEwqQxCMR7oaAorYEALw_wcB) ## [Ego Moov Head Lice Shampoo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fego-moov-head-lice-shampoo-200ml) Ego Moov head lice shampoo is a clinically proven lice killer that contains sodium lauroyl sacrosinate, eucalyptus oil and anise seed oil. It can be applied directly to [dry hair](https://hairkempt.com/hair-types-explained/), and according to the label there’s no need to shampoo it out after treatment. Simply leave on the hair, cover with a shower cap and rinse out with water after 15 minutes. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one (repeat application 7 and 14 days after initial treatment)* ***What we like about this product:** Affordable head lice treatment ($14.64 for a 200 ml bottle)* [![Ego Moov Head Lice Shampoo head lice treatments](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51dac3jEhAL._AC_SL1000_.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fego-moov-head-lice-shampoo-200ml) ## [Full Marks Solution](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/362274479869?chn=ps&_ul=AU&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&mkcid=1&itemid=362274479869&targetid=&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9068935&poi=&campaignid=15791083372&mkgroupid=&rlsatarget=&abcId=9300816&merchantid=7364522&gclid=CjwKCAjwrfCRBhAXEiwAnkmKmfOkD03SC5roSq099CD_sHyYDF7GqfFmsxjI8Xpe28RAVsgVfDwjwhoCkJQQAvD_BwE&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) Full Marks Solution is a 10-minute head lice treatment that eliminates lice and eggs without pesticides, harsh chemicals or strong fragrances. The 200 ml bottle is large enough for four treatments and comes with a fine tooth comb to get rid of nits after application. Full Marks Solution can be used on kids with eczema and asthma. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one, repeat treatment after 7 days* ***What we like about this product:** Gentle on the scalp and suitable for people with asthma and eczema* [![Full Marks Solution](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/media/catalog/product/cache/3e6a76ef90c487c9b0a5c089cb1584af/3/0/306126.jpg)](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/362274479869?chn=ps&_ul=AU&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&mkcid=1&itemid=362274479869&targetid=&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9068935&poi=&campaignid=15791083372&mkgroupid=&rlsatarget=&abcId=9300816&merchantid=7364522&gclid=CjwKCAjwrfCRBhAXEiwAnkmKmfOkD03SC5roSq099CD_sHyYDF7GqfFmsxjI8Xpe28RAVsgVfDwjwhoCkJQQAvD_BwE&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) ## [SoCozy, Kids, Boo! Lice Scaring Shampoo](https://prf.hn/l/zndJqy9) This lice-scaring shampoo from SoCozy, Kids, Boo! is infused with a great blend of tea tree, rosemary and oils that help keep lice away. Their fresh smelling formula promises “the look and feel of salon hair” as it keeps your hair strong, soft, and clean while being protected from lice. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one (repeat application as is with any shampoo)* ***What we like about this product:** Great choice of oils in a shampoo that smells so refreshing and naturally good while it keeps lice away!* [![SoCozy, Kids, Boo! head lice treatments](https://cloudinary.images-iherb.com/image/upload/f_auto,q_auto:eco/images/ozy/ozy00581/v/2.jpg)](https://prf.hn/l/zndJqy9) ## [KP24 Medicated Lotion](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fkp-24-medicated-lotion-for-head-lice-100ml) KP24 Medicated Lotion effectively kills lice and eggs to stop future infestations. This product is great if you have younger kids with head lice as it can be used on children aged 6 months and up (with parental supervision of course). The active ingredient is maldison 0.5% (malathion), which is known to kill lice and tiny insects by paralyzing them. Use with a fine tooth comb after treatment for best results. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one, repeat treatment after 7 days* ***What we like about this product:** Can be used to treat head lice in younger kids* [![KP24 Medicated Lotion ](https://www.discountdrugstores.com.au/wcsstore/ExtendedSitesCatalogAssetStore/images/products/9314807000691_LL_1.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fkp-24-medicated-lotion-for-head-lice-100ml) ## Head lice treatments for preventions of nits ## [Natural Look Anti Lice Leave-In Conditioner](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60253?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbeautopia.com.au%2fproducts%2fnatural-look-anti-lice-pyrethrum-leave-in-conditioner-250ml%3fvariant%3d7490615181378%26currency%3dAUD%26utm_medium%3dproduct_sync%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_content%3dsag_organic%26utm_campaign%3dsag_organic%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwk8b7BRCaARIsAARRTL7DIYuKT1B0c7EnY9APC3OvahhjBNVtsSAdc8EBNW4wtP1WTVHQoQkaAlxCEALw_wcB) If you’re looking for head lice treatment that works long term, get the Natural Look Anti Lice Leave-In Conditioner. This product is best used with Natural Look pyrethrum shampoo and can be used daily by kids and adults. Simply spray directly on your child’s hair after shampooing and use a fine tooth comb to remove the nits. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one, suitable for daily use* ***What we like about this product:** Prevent future infestations with a daily leave-in lice killing conditioner* ## [Ego Moov Head Lice Defence Spray](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fego-moov-head-lice-defence-spray-120ml) The Ego Moov Head Lice Defence Spray is part of their lice killing line and best used with the Ego Moov Head Lice Shampoo. This product is sprayed directly on the hair like a leave in conditioner for daily defence over an eight-hour period. It’s gentle enough to be used every day to protect your little ones and prevent recurrence. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one, can be used daily* ***What we like about this product:** Easy to use spray on conditioner that is gentle for every day use, provides 8-hour protection* [![Ego Moov head Lice Defence Spray | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51i1PbecVPL._AC_SL1000_.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fego-moov-head-lice-defence-spray-120ml) ## [Babo Botanicals Lice Repel Conditioning Spray](https://au.iherb.com/pr/Babo-Botanicals-Lice-Repel-Conditioning-Spray-8-fl-oz-237-ml/49625?gclid=Cj0KCQjwk8b7BRCaARIsAARRTL7Ruac4OkLqxvYqomwVBbwrqAVtLpS2eAKXn37W_uMsZ3NN3lyqcO0aAg_4EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) As far as head lice treatments go, there’s nothing safer to use an organic, all-natural product. Babo Botanicals Lice Repel Conditioning Spray contains shea butter, coconut oil, chamomile, kudzu, calendula and meadowsweet extracts that kill lice and eggs and prevents the nasty critters from coming back. ***No. of treatments required:** More than one, repeat treatment as needed* ***What we like about this product:** Organic, hypoallegenic head lice treatment* [![Babo Botanicals Lice Repel Conditioning Spray](https://s3.images-iherb.com/bbo/bbo00251/y/7.jpg)](https://au.iherb.com/pr/Babo-Botanicals-Lice-Repel-Conditioning-Spray-8-fl-oz-237-ml/49625?gclid=Cj0KCQjwk8b7BRCaARIsAARRTL7Ruac4OkLqxvYqomwVBbwrqAVtLpS2eAKXn37W_uMsZ3NN3lyqcO0aAg_4EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/head-lice-treatments-that-actually-work/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/head-lice-treatments-that-actually-work/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** nits, head lice, itchy scalp --- ### [107 Free and easy self-care ideas: Boost your mental and physical wellbeing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** No excuses, ladies. Self-care is a MUST. And you don’t need money to make yourself feel good. Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive. I have heaps of self-care ideas that cost nothing at all. There are different types of self-care. Your idea of me-time can be relaxing, running, or rummaging through your wardrobe. My suggestions below cover all forms of self-care to help you prioritize and find your happy place. ## **Start simple: Create a self-care plan** 1. Get a[ good night’s sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/) – SO important 2. Feed your soul with healthy food 3. Go for a walk and get some fresh air 4. Read a book or watch a good[ free movie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/movies-online-for-free/) (here are some[ empowering single mum movies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-uplifting-single-mums-movies/)) 5. Listen to music that makes you feel good 6. Listen to audiobooks and rest your eyes 7. Drink enough water ## **Move your body** 8. Do yoga at home 9. Walk a dog. Don’t have one? Borrow your neighbour’s 10. Run, run, run 11. Dance around the house, get funky, and[ do some tapping](https://tappingschool.com/gamut-point/) 12. Ride a bike 13. Teach yourself to surf 14. Go to the beach or the local pool, just get in the water ## **Practice self-care that just makes you feel good** 15. Watch a movie that makes you laugh 16. Masturbate with your[ favourite toy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/) 17. Eat your favourite comfort food 18. Wrap your hands around a hot drink 19. Clean your bed covers and enjoy the moment 20. Do an act of random kindness 21. Go to bed an hour early 22. Have a heavenly lie-in 23. Wear matching underwear 24. Eat the kids’ chocolate (secretly!) 25. Wear nice clothes – even at home ![self-care ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Self-care-routine-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Pamper yourself with self-care** 26. Deep condition and/or style your hair 27. Give yourself a fake tan 28. Have a nice hot bath with a bath bomb or Epson Salts 29. Make a facemask or body scrub 30. DIY manicure/pedicure 31. Floss your teeth 32. Burn some aromatherapy oils 33. Have a shower that is twice as long as usual 34. Give yourself a massage with a tennis ball ## **Free ideas for better mental wellbeing (cont.)** ## **Be at one with nature** 35. Watch the sunset or sunrise 36. Go on a nature trail 37. Taking time to lie in the sun 38. Do some gardening 39. Have a picnic 40. Pick flowers or foliage and arrange indoors (or press them) 41. Do some birdwatching 42. Build a sandcastle 43. Star gaze 44. Watch the clouds move 45. Go fishing ## **Social self-care ideas** 46. Meet a friend 47. Go on a date 48. Sign up for[ online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2019/) 49. Join Meetup 50. Catch up with family 51. Write a letter to someone far away 52. Skype your bestie 53. Join a charity ## **Self-awareness and self-love** 54. [Meditate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) using the free version of[ Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/) or[ Calm](https://www.calm.com/) 55. Practice gratitude and self-compassion 56. Think only about what you are doing in the moment 57. Have a mental health day 58. Write a journal 59. Start a[ memory jar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/) 60. Learn some[ mantras](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) 61. Write a list of five things you love about yourself 62. Look through old photos 63. Do some tapping ([emotional freedom techniques](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_Freedom_Techniques)) ## **Self-care routines for the doer** 64. Minimise and unclutter – your home, garden, or mind 65. Fix one thing that’s annoying you 66. Do a[ free online course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-online-personal-development-courses/) 67. Rearrange cupboards and draws 68. Learn something new – a language or an instrument 69. Make a vision board 70. Plan your future 71. Cook for yourself (here’s how to[ cook for one](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/6-tips-when-cooking-for-one/)) 72. Bake your favourite cake or biscuits 73. Sell stuff on[ Gumtree](https://www.gumtree.com.au/) 74. Organise your handbag 75. Do one thing you’ve been procrastinating about 76. Sort your finances, read[ The Barefoot Investor](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0730324214/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0730324214&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=fd6abeb3908823d03d9688733c7d8bfb) 77. Write a poem 78. Write a book (or ebook) ## **Self-care practices (cont.)** ## **Creative self-care** 79. Raid the kids’ art box and do their stuff 80. Colour-in 81. Sew, knit, croquet 82. Play an instrument, or try at least 83. Create a playlist 84. Create a collage 85. Start a keepsake box 86. Start some Pinterest boards ## **Slightly out-there ideas** 87. Rollerskate 88. Blow bubbles 89. Sing karaoke or just sing at the top of your voice 90. Say no 91. Learn the Pitch Perfect Cup Tapping Song 92. Turn OFF your phone 93. Get[ out of your comfort zone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/breakup-monontony-of-mum-life/) 94. Take deep breaths 95. Find a park and ride a swing 96. Roll down a grassy hill 97. Write a good review for somewhere you’ve been lately 98. Unsubscribe from mail lists that annoy you ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/2590d7e9-f6c9-4714-8816-34dd6bb9435a_20240625_005138_0000-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Last but not least** 99. Play cards, try these one-player card games 100. Change your screensaver 101. Update your social media profile 102. Do an online friend cull 103. Book a check-up at the doctor to know your health condition 104. Update your picture frames 105. Ask for help whenever necessary 106. Do a puzzle, word search, or crossword 107. Watch funny animal videos on YouTube ## **Summary: Why self-care is important** For us single mums, finding time for self-care is as difficult as having a quiet moment in a house filled with kids. Yet, as you have seen above, the best self-care ideas and activities are free and right at your fingertips – no need to break the bank! You can find relaxation by spending time in nature, through journaling, or you can boost your mood simply by getting better sleep. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish. It’s okay to take care of yourself or relax when you’re feeling down or don’t feel like cooking or doing the laundry. Self-care means taking care of your overall well-being, including your mental and physical health. Treat yourself like a queen through these simple joys and recharge, especially when you feel stress and anxiety. Make self-care a part of your daily routine, because a happier you means happier kiddos. So, go ahead, take that bubble bath, and let the dishes wait—because you deserve it. ![Self care ideas | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Self-care-ideas-cost-nothing.png "Self care ideas cost nothing - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** motivation, exercise, encouragement, self love, feel good, inspiration, reflection --- ### [All You Need To Know About Child Support: An Easy Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/) **Published:** September 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The essential guide to Child Support for newly separated parents … So, you’ve recently separated, and there are lots of questions to consider. One of those might be ‘How am I going to support myself and the kids?’. In Australia, child maintenance or child support is based on the Child Support (Assessment) Act, not the Family Law Act. It is administered by the Department of Human Services (Child Support Agency), not the Family Court. ***Further reading: [Understanding single parent benefit in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-benefits-australia/)*** ## The Basics of Child Support The first step for your guide to Child Support is understanding how much Child Support you might receive or pay. To do this, visit the [Child Support Estimator](https://processing.csa.gov.au/estimator/About.aspx) on the Department of Human Services website. This calculator estimates the amount of child support you will pay or receive based on the formula in the Child Support (Assessment) Act. ## How does the Child Support formula work? Well, as with most things in life after you separate, it is complicated … however, breaking it down, it’s generally based on the following: - Your income; - The other parent’s income; - How much care do each of you have for the children? - The ages of your children; - Whether either of you has any other dependent children. ## How do I get child support from the other parent? There are two ways to do this. Either you approach the other parent and ask them to pay privately or you can make an application to the Child Support Agency. Many parents have private arrangements for child support, which may differ significantly from what an assessment would determine. ## How does child support get paid? There are two options. - Private collection by Bank transfer (do not use cash as it cannot be traced); or - The Child Support Agency can collect money. You can change from the private collection to the Agency collection at any time. You don’t need the other parent to agree. ## What if the other parent does not pay the child support when it is due? If you are registered with the Child Support Agency, they can collect your child support. BUT they will only backdate payments for 3 months. So, if the other parent stops paying, you need to quickly register for Agency collection, or you miss out. ## What if I don’t think the income used by the Child Support Agency is my ex’s real income? Assessments are based on your most recent tax returns. If there is a business involved, you might have been income splitting, so your ex’s income needs to be increased and yours decreased. You may have taken a pay cut or one of you might have a new job making more money. If your tax returns aren’t based on current, real incomes, you can apply for a [Change of Assessment](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/forms/cs1970). If your ex has a creative accountant, consider lodging a Change of Assessment form if you think the real income of the business is higher than what is being declared to the ATO. ## What about school fees and Child Support? This question is a very common one. If children are attending private school, then you can apply for a Change of Assessment to contribute to private school fees on top of the assessment. Things considered include whether the children are already at a private school, or whether there has always been an agreement that the children attend private school, and whether both parents signed the enrolment forms. State school fees are usually considered to be covered in the formula assessment. ## What about extracurricular fees? Child support is intended to cover each parent’s costs of raising the children, including extracurricular activities, medical costs and uniforms. Each parent is expected to contribute to the cost of the children for those things when the children are in their care. However, sometimes kids have expensive activities or expenses, such as orthodontic work. The Child Support Agency might increase an assessment for those items under a change of assessment. ## Other reasons for a change of assessment? If you are unhappy with your support assessment, you can apply to the Agency for a [Change of Assessment](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/forms/cs1970) (to increase or decrease it). Reasons for a change of assessment can include: - private school fees; - orthodontic treatment; - incomes of one or more parties do not reflect their true situation; - the parent has a lifestyle that is in excess of their declared income. - that a child has special needs; - that there are significant costs for a parent spending time (access) with a child. A Change of Assessment goes through the Agency, and they consider submissions and can require documents to be produced by both parents. ## What if I’m not happy with a Change of Assessment? You can [lodge an objection](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/enablers/objections-child-support-decisions/34686) with the Agency. This goes through a similar process, but a new officer looks at it. If you are unhappy with the result of the objection, then you can lodge an appeal. ## This all sounds very complicated. Is there another way? There is no denying that the Australian Child Support system is complex, time-consuming and often frustrating. Not too many people like the Agency! There is another option and a way to remove the Agency from your life. Parents can enter into a private agreement regarding child support. You can lodge the contract with the Agency. With some restrictions, if one of you is receiving Centrelink, the formula may be different. ![child support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Money-saving-home.jpg "Money saving home - Beanstalk Mums") ## Wouldn’t I be better off relaxing on a beach rather than earning money just to pay child support? Parents in Australia have an obligation to support their children. Some parents have a belief that the other parent is not using the money for the children and is instead spending it on themselves. They then take the attitude that maybe they should chuck in their job and go and sit on a beach. This kind of strategy can backfire. The Child Support Agency can assess based on **an individual’s earning capacity**, rather than their actual income. If you or your ex quit your job to avoid paying child support, the Agency can still assess your ability to pay based on your previous earnings. ## What if the support isn’t paid despite an assessment? The Child Support Agency has very long arms that can reach into many pockets. Think Mr Squiggle. They can take tax refunds, money from bank accounts, make you bankrupt and block you from travelling overseas. Meanwhile, penalties and interest are racking up. In 2018, the Agency had a crackdown on people who had large child support debts and collected millions of dollars in arrears, penalties and interest. Famously, one payer who owed over $300,000 in child support was pulled off an international flight and was not allowed to leave Australia until he paid his debt. ***Further reading: [My ex pays me nothing, but I’ve found peace with that.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ex-pays-me-nothing/)*** ## I am receiving Centrelink benefits, but my ex is not paying the amount they are supposed to. What happens? If you are receiving Centrelink payments, the expectation is that the other parent must pay at least the formula amount. If you don’t actually receive that, the government will still reduce your payments as if you were. Again, this is to make sure that parents are supporting their children, rather than the taxpayer. Agreements for a lower amount than the formula will not usually be approved if you are on Centrelink. ## If my ex is late paying child support, do they have to pay interest? If the Child Support Agency is collecting your payments, then interest and penalties are imposed. However, these do not go to you! These all go to the Agency. With the child support debtor who was dragged off the plane, the payee only received about a third of the amount recovered, because the debt was so old that interest and penalties had racked up over the years, and they went to the Agency. ## What does all this mean, and where should I start? The best place to start is with the online [Child Support Estimator](https://processing.csa.gov.au/estimator/About.aspx). If you have [good communication with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/civil-with-your-ex/) and are able to make an agreement, that is often the best way, as you will avoid the drama of annual reviews, especially if one of you is self-employed. However, if this is not an option, you can do a [self-service set-up](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/enablers/applying-child-support-assessment/27971#a2) online here and follow the prompts to make your application. ***Further reading: [The difference between single mum support in the US and Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-support/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation, Money **Tags:** single parent income, single mum finances, child support, CSA --- ### [Finding the best internet provider for your household](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-internet-provider-for-your-household/) **Published:** June 5, 2020 **Author:** Kenny McGilvary **Content:** Choosing a home internet provider can sometimes feel confusing. There are different types of broadband service available, the industry is laden with jargon and there are so many deals to choose from that it can be hard to know where to start. But a little bit of knowledge can go a long way towards finding the right kind of plan for you, with potential cost savings to be made. ## WHAT ARE MEGABITS AND WHY ARE THEY IMPORTANT? The first thing you need to understand when looking into home internet provider is what “megabits per second” or Mbps means. Mbps is a universal method used to measure how fast data travels along the network. More Mbps means a faster connection, less means a slower one. The number of Mbps is also the capacity of your internet connection. The thing to bear in mind is that your home internet is a shared resource. Each task you do online occupies a certain amount of this capacity and with each new user and task on your connection, the remaining capacity drops. So if you’re streaming [Baby Shark](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqZsoesa55w) You Tube videos for the kids then the internet may be slower for everyone else using your connection. That may not be ideal if you want to stream something on Netflix or Stan at the same time, especially in high definition. As a rule of thumb, your internet will need to be faster if you have a lot of people and devices accessing that connection. There are many types of broadband service available but let’s focus on your most likely connection type: an NBN service. ## WHAT IS THE RIGHT NBN SPEED FOR MY HOUSEHOLD? The first thing to work out is which NBN service suits your needs for a home internet provider. Data allocation used to be a key consideration, but nowadays the majority of NBN deals offer unlimited data or more data than almost anyone could need. Today, it’s the speed of your internet connection that’s most important and choosing an unlimited data plan will rarely mean a big difference in price. This gives you one less thing to worry about and you can focus on working out how fast is fast enough for you. A good starting point is to see what kind of speed your current connection gets and use your experience with those speeds as a benchmark for what you might need to change to. To get an idea of the speed your current service delivers, run a quick [speed test](https://www.whistleout.com.au/Broadband/Speed-Test). That should help guide you towards which NBN speed tier would be best for you. ## WHAT ARE SPEED TIERS? The National Broadband Network comes in several different technology types. Seven of them in fact. They include: - Fibre to the Premises - Fibre to the Node/Fibre to the Building - Fibre to the Curb - HFC Cable - Fixed Wireless - Satellite / Sky Muster Importantly, you don’t get to choose which technology is used to connect your home to the NBN. The specifics of the rollout have been decided on by NBN Co based on which technology works best at each address. The table above indicates the maximum speeds you can get on each NBN speed tier. However, the actual speeds you get at home will still be dependent on the NBN plan and provider you choose, and congestion during peak hours (this is what is meant by ‘evening speeds’). Expect to only achieve about 80-90% percent of these speeds during the peak hours of 7 to 11pm. ![Household Internet speed | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Screen-Shot-2020-06-08-at-12.18.27-pm.png "Screen Shot 2020-06-08 at 12.18.27 pm - Beanstalk Mums") The table above indicates the maximum speeds you can get on each NBN speed tier. However, the actual speeds you get at home will still be dependent on the NBN plan and provider you choose, and congestion during peak hours (this is what is meant by ‘evening speeds’). Expect to only achieve about 80-90% percent of these speeds during the peak hours of 7 to 11pm. ### NBN 50 If you’re not sure what kind of NBN plan to pick, we typically advise trying a no-contract NBN 50 plan first. These plans are your best bang for buck option as they provide a significant speed upgrade over most ADSL connections and are pretty affordable. Testing out a no-contract option first will stop you from getting locked into a service you’re not happy with. They’re also a good option for families – households with between two and four people. An NBN 50 plan will ensure everyone in your household is able to do what they want online, whether it’s streaming movies and music, online gaming or [video calling family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-online-chat-tools-during-isolation/) and friends. ### NBN 100 These plans are the best for large households and anyone who regularly downloads or uploads large files. If you are managing a tribe of children every day then games will download for them much faster, and videos and movies will stream smoothly so everyone from the kids to grandma can get online and binge their favourite shows at the same time and on different devices. However, as you may expect Premium comes with a higher price tag and you’ll tend to pay about $20-30 more per month for an NBN 100 connection over an NBN 50 plan. The maximum speeds are twice as fast but ask yourself if you’ll make use of them. ### NBN 25 These plans are best suited for a one or two person household. There’s not much you can do online that needs a faster speed than NBN 25, but you may notice slower speeds if multiple people are using your connection at once. If there are just two of you in the house then an NBN 25 may be right for you, particularly as they tend to come in between $10 – $20 cheaper than NBN 50 plans, which means a significant saving if the speeds are workable for you. ### NBN 12 NBN 12 services give you roughly the equivalent performance as you’d get on an older ADSL2+ connection. While still enough to [stream high definition video](https://www.whistleout.com.au/Broadband/Guides/Best-broadband-plans-for-Netflix) from the likes of YouTube and Foxtel Now, an NBN 12 plan may only be suitable if your household doesn’t have heavy internet users, or you rarely use streaming video services. There’s also no longer much of a discount to be had by picking an NBN 12 plan. Given an NBN 50 plan is four times faster, there’s little reason not to get the faster plan when they’re both practically the same price. 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That said, over recent months Optus has been recording the fastest peak evening speeds, according to the ACCC’s ‘[Measuring Broadband Australia](https://www.accc.gov.au/regulated-infrastructure/communications/monitoring-reporting/measuring-broadband-australia-program/latest-performance-report)’ report. ## HOW DO I SET-UP OR CHANGE MY INTERNET PROVIDER? After you’ve picked the service you want, make sure you’re not still under contract with your current provider as it’s possible you could be hit with early cancellation fees. It may be worth contacting your ISP to find out how much it will cost to leave early if you’re very eager to make the change. Once you’re out of contract, all you need to do is place your NBN order (either online, via the phone, or in a retail store), and your new ISP will take care of switching your internet service – and your landline number if you have one – over to your new plan. Your new NBN provider will organise an installation date and time, plus guide you through anything else you need to know to get connected. ## A NOTE FOR THE RENTER If you rent then make sure you have your landlord’s permission before installing, and if you live in a unit or apartment you may need to double-check with your building’s management or strata before hooking up your service. ## WILL I EXPERIENCE DOWNTIME WHEN I CHANGE INTERNET PROVIDER? Be prepared for a small period of downtime between switching off your ADSL and switching on your NBN service. If you’re without internet during the changeover period for more than three days, your carrier is obliged to offer an interim service while you wait. If you’re already on the NBN but want to change providers then the process should be straightforward, thanks to an industry-wide agreement on switching protocols. It’s possible to be connected to your new NBN provider on the same day that you make your order – it could even take less than an hour. ## WHAT ABOUT THE MODEM? When it comes to equipment, nearly all NBN plans include a new NBN-ready modem which will probably be bundled into the cost of your plan if you’re signing a contract. Or you might be charged an up-front fee for the modem if you go down a no-contract route. While getting the NBN installed is free, some providers may charge you a service set-up fee, particularly if you’ve chosen a contract-free option. If your new ISP is asking you to buy their modem and you already have one that’s NBN-ready, it may be worth contacting them to see if you can negotiate. However, if the modem comes free with the plan then why not upgrade and get yourself a newer one that might serve you better? ## NO NBN? HOME WIRELESS BROADBAND Home wireless broadband is the alternative where NBN doesn’t work out. Home wireless is internet designed for a home connection that is delivered over a mobile network – the same networks utilised by your smartphone. But it’s important to note that the quality of your mobile broadband connection is dependent on mobile signal. If you don’t get good mobile reception at your house, home wireless is probably not a good option. Home wireless plans can offer download speeds of up to 100Mbps. However, our real-world testing has generally found speeds of between 20Mbps and 50Mbps are more achievable. It’s also important to note that many home wireless plans have their speeds capped to 12Mbps, which is equivalent to NBN Basic speed (NBN 12). Be sure to check speeds offered before signing up, so you know what you’re in for. If you’re not a big internet user then you may even get by with a smartphone’s data plan, but we wouldn’t recommend it for a family with kids, homework to do and Netflix to watch. ![Finding the best internet provider for your household | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Internet-provider.png "Internet provider - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-internet-provider-for-your-household/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-internet-provider-for-your-household/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money **Tags:** wireless, nbn, broadband --- ### [The thing narcissists do that you don’t notice till you go insane](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-one-thing-narcissists-do/) **Published:** March 9, 2020 **Author:** Cherlyn Chong **Content:** Have you ever told someone that you needed comfort, but somehow during the conversation, you ended up supporting and reassuring the other person, and you walked away feeling even worse than before? There’s a reason why this happens, and it’s not anything that you did or said, rather, it’s a subtle, unconscious thing that everyone does. Most doing it are unaware it is even occurring. It’s called “conversational narcissism.” And yes, it’s a real thing. It’s a term coined by [sociologist Charles Derber](https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/mcas/departments/sociology/people/faculty-directory/charles-derber.html) in his book “[The Pursuit of Attention: Power and Ego in Everyday Life](https://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-Attention-Power-Everyday-Life-ebook/dp/B000QTD3TK/).” It describes the tendency to steer a conversation back to oneself. The person takes over most of the talking and makes it about them. And people who are egocentric and manipulative, a.k.a. narcissists, are masters of it. According to Derber, there are two main kinds of responses you can have within conversational narcissism—a shift response and a support response. The shift response shifts the spotlight back to a person, while the support response supports and maintains the attention on the other person. **Here’s an example of a support response:** > ***Lisa:*** I am so tired today. My head really hurts. > > ***Keith:*** I feel you. Is it a headache? I have something for that. **Here’s an example of a shift response:** > ***Lisa:*** I am so tired today. My head really hurts. > > ***Keith:*** I’m tired too. I barely got any sleep last night because of the kids. ### NARCISSISTS CAN TAKE THE SHIFT RESPONSE TO THE NEXT LEVEL IN TWO WAYS - They pepper the conversation with disinterested support responses while maintaining the shift response, leading you to think that they are interested in you too. - They shift the conversation 90% to them and their needs, with you 10% supporting them. ### AND HERE’S HOW THIS MANIPULATES YOU Because these conversations are never truly about you, the narcissist reinforces the belief that you are supposed to give, give, give to get an inch of their attention. Your role is to support, soothe or even stroke their ego. The key thing to note here is the narcissist’s shift of power; they want attention and a reaction from you, not *for* you. They make you feel “bad” for even expressing yourself, which keeps you malleable and docile—perfect for their manipulations. ### BUT YOU CAN CATCH IT IN TIME The signs are not going to be immediately noticeable because the conversational narcissism is so subtle. So, notice how you feel instead. If you feel cut off, denied, or even suddenly sympathetic, you might have just been “shifted” on. You’ll feel like you have “no voice” after a while and might even feel doubtful about expressing yourself in other conversations. When you leave the conversation, you might feel a sense of something being unresolved or feel queasy in the stomach. Don’t be surprised if there is a little anger too, after all, you’ve just been invalidated. ### AND HERE’S HOW YOU CAN COUNTERACT THEIR TRICKS The first step is realisation. Be very aware that this is an actual thing that’s being done to you. Second, a narcissist deals in energy, or rather, the attention that they are getting from you. When you find yourself being “shifted” on, feel free to catch it and state how you feel about it. This will irritate the narcissist but will lessen their control. Be level-headed and calm, and withdraw any form of support for them. If there is no energetic exchange, the narcissist cannot win. Then, politely explain that you need a break, and just walk away. Doing so might result in the narcissist feeling confused, and they will leave you alone. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Need more support? Read this: [Crucial tips for co-parenting with a narcissistic ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/). ![The one thing narcissists do | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/The-one-thing-narcissists-do.png "The one thing narcissists do - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-one-thing-narcissists-do/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-one-thing-narcissists-do/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** relationship, narc, gray rock, grey rock, toxic, narcissism --- ### [Life insurance and income protection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/life-insurance-and-income-protection-thinking-about-the-unthinkable/) **Published:** January 20, 2020 **Author:** Laura Crowden **Content:** Do you ever lie awake in bed at night thinking about what would happen to your kids if something unexpected was to happen to you? I’m guessing the answer is probably yes. And while no parent wants to spend time thinking about the unthinkable, unfortunately part of your role as a parent can be that you need to spend time thinking about all the important stuff, no matter how hard it might be. That can include life insurance and income protection. For single parents, this is an even harder thing to think about. Many single parents don’t have the luxury of knowing that a current or former partner would step up and step in to look after your kids. But of course, this means it’s even more important for single parents to have a plan in place to look after their kids if they aren’t able to. If you couldn’t work for an extended period of time, would you still be able to cover your day to day living expenses, including rent and mortgage? And if you were to pass away, are you confident that your kids would be financially secure? It’s too easy to put income protection and life insurance in the ‘too hard’ basket, telling yourself you’ll get around to it another day. Not only is it an unpleasant topic to think about, but it’s also confusing to understand the difference between life and income protection. This article aims to help you understand and navigate through some types of insurance which could help to protect your family’s financial future. ### WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INCOME PROTECTION AND LIFE INSURANCE? Put simply, life insurance can help look after your beneficiaries if you were to pass away (really, it should be called ‘death insurance’ but I guess that wasn’t going to get past the marketing department…). Income protection on the other hand is all about helping to replace some of your income if you were unable to work for an extended period of time due to injury, accident or illness. It’s important to understand that income protection doesn’t cover you for things like quitting your job, being made redundant or fired. ### SO HOW DOES INCOME PROTECTION WORK? When your family relies on a single income, the thought of that income disappearing is frankly terrifying. [Income protection insurance](https://www.iselect.com.au/life/income-protection-insurance/) can provide single parents with peace of mind as it replaces a percentage of your income (generally up to 75%) if you are unable to work due to illness, accident or injury. Income protection is generally paid weekly or monthly (like a normal income) and is designed to help you cover living expenses such as rent, mortgage, bills and the general day to day costs of being a single parent. When taking out an income protection policy, you can choose how long you’ll receive benefits for (generally between two year and/or up to age 65 which does obviously impact the cost of your premium) and the length of your waiting period (anywhere from two weeks to two years). ### INCOME PROTECTION CAN BE TAX DEDUCTIBLE In some cases, income protection policies can be tax deductible which can help make the premiums more affordable. You can also choose to fund your income protection through your superannuation meaning it won’t chew into your take-home pay (but if you choose this option, it’s not tax deductible). ### WHAT ABOUT LIFE INSURANCE? No parent wants to think about what would happen to their kids if they were to pass away, but for a single parent that thought is even more confronting. While nothing would replace your presence in your kids’ lives, [life insurance](https://www.iselect.com.au/life/) can help ensure their financial needs are at least taken care of. The term ‘life insurance’ is often used as a catch-all phrase but there are actually a few different types of life insurance that help protect your family if you pass away or were permanently unable to work. Unlike income protection which is paid in instalments, life insurance is paid in a lump sum and helps to cover expenses such as mortgage, funeral costs or your kids’ education fees. ### WHAT ABOUT TPD AND TRAUMA? WHAT ARE THEY? In addition to income protection, there are three main types of life insurance that are generally referred to under the umbrella term of ‘life insurance’: - **Term life insurance** (this one is essentially death cover) pays a pre-agreed amount in a lump sum at the upon death. - [**Trauma cover**](https://www.iselect.com.au/life/trauma-insurance/) is insurance cover for critical illnesses, such as cancer, strokes and heart attacks. It is paid in a lump sum which can cover medical expenses and ongoing recovery and rehabilitation costs. - [**Total & permanent disability (TPD)**](https://www.iselect.com.au/life/tpd-insurance/) covers you in the event you are unable to work again due to serious illness or injury. It is paid in a lump sum. There is a bit of overlap between the different product types so you may decide that you only need a couple or want the protection that comes from having all your bases covered. Before deciding on a level of insurance ensure you review the insurers Product Disclosure Statement (PDS) which will outline information about policy inclusions, limitations and exclusions. ### BUT DOESN’T MY SUPER PROVIDE LIFE INSURANCE? Most superannuation policies do include some form of life insurance but it may not be sufficient to meet your family’s financial situation. It’s worth finding out exactly how much is covered through your super policy and deciding whether it is an adequate amount. If not, then you may decide to look into a stand-alone policy. ### I’M TOO BUSY TO THINK ABOUT IT! Parents are busy people, and single parents are just about the busiest people on the planet! So if income protection and life insurance has been on your to-do list for some time but you just haven’t got around to it, then it may be time to get started. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") iSelect’s qualified life insurance advisers can help you compare from a range of life insurers and policies[\[1\]](#_ftn1). And that’ll hopefully mean you’ll have one less thing to worry about as you are lying in bed awake at night. ***Disclaimer:*** *\*iSelect does not compare all life insurers or policies in the market. We therefore don’t compare policies offered by life insurers who are not our providers. We maintain an internal list of approved life insurance policies that our advisers compare from all of our providers. We call this our ‘Approved Product List’. We have commercial arrangements with each of the providers.* *iSelect Life Pty Ltd – ABN 89 124 304 347, AFS Licence Number 331128. Any advice provided by iSelect is of a general nature and does not take into account your objectives, financial situation or needs. You need to consider the appropriateness of any information or general advice iSelect gives you, having regard to your personal situation, before acting on iSelect’s advice or purchasing any policies. You should consider iSelect’s [Financial Services Guide](https://www.iselect.com.au/life/pdf/iSelect-Life-FSG.pdf) which provides information about iSelect services and your rights as a client of iSelect. iSelect receives commission for each policy sold. Click [here](https://www.iselect.com.au/partners) to view our range of providers.* ![Life insurance and income protection | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Income-protection-and-life-insurance.png "Income protection and life insurance - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/life-insurance-and-income-protection-thinking-about-the-unthinkable/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/life-insurance-and-income-protection-thinking-about-the-unthinkable/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money **Tags:** super, insurance, income protection, tax deductions, financial future --- ### [How divorce coaching will save you money, time and stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/divorce-coaching-save-money-time-stress/) **Published:** September 19, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** You may not have heard of divorce coaching before. And if you have, you may discard it as an unnecessary extra in your separation process. But you seriously shouldn’t. In this podcast I chat to Anne-Marie Cade from Divorce Right about all things divorce coaching, and you may be surprised by what you learn. It’s a subject I feel passionate about as it is seriously helping so many people, not only with the separation process, but with communication, co-parenting and quality of life in the future. Our discussion includes, but is not limited to: - What divorce coaching is and how it works - Why you should aim to avoid the family courts at all costs - How divorce coaching can actually save you money when you separate - The many other benefits of working with a divorce coach - The advantages of even just one party using a divorce coach - How to go about finding the right divorce coach for you. ### Listen here … ![Divorce coaching | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Podcast-Divorce-Right.png "Podcast - Divorce Right - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/divorce-coaching-save-money-time-stress/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/divorce-coaching-save-money-time-stress/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Divorce --- ### [10 Sneaky ways to get your kids to eat healthy food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-tricks-to-inspire-your-kids-to-eat-healthily-by-choice/) **Published:** March 24, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You don’t have to look far to find a TV programme or online article telling us our kids are overweight and generally unhealthy. With technology making the world move faster and our kids move slower, parents seem to be pushing against the tide in our attempts to get our children to eat healthy food. A starting point is to create new healthy habits at home by getting your children involved with food preparation and allowing them choices in the kitchen. This will make them feel valued and encourage them to try new (healthy) foods. And of course, if there’s an element of fun involved you’ll automatically get their attention. Here is our list of simple and fun tricks to encourage your children to eat healthy food. ## 10 Sneaky ways to get your kids to eat healthy food ### 1. Stick it on a stick Kids love food if it’s presented on a stick! Cucumber and tomato on its own may not appeal but put it on a cocktail stick and it’s suddenly food from the gods. Skewers are ideal for fruit but don’t stop there. Skewer cooked veggies and tiny cut-up sandwiches and thread them on. Trust me, if it’s on a skewer (especially if they put it there) they’ll eat it. Note: For younger kids you may wish to cut-off the pointed end of the skewer. ### 2. Shake it up Give healthy foods, herbs and spices appealing names that makes them sound more fun, then let them shake it onto their food. That shaking action is a dead-set winner. We call oats ‘sprinkles’ in our house, and they are sprinkled over other breakfast cereals as a ‘treat’. This can be done with a variety of foods such us seeds on salads, nuts on desserts and even a shake of ‘magic powder’ (otherwise known as [turmeric](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turmeric)) over eggs and potatoes. Best way EVER to get your children to eat healthy foods! ### 3. Serve it up Children love to be involved with cooking but when time is short, especially at the end of a busy day, their intervention is the last thing you need. Yet don’t underestimate the power of a little involvement to get them interested in what you’re making. Make a [healthy meal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-healthy-meals-your-kids-will-love/) and then ask them to serve up the dinner, or at least their own plate. Tell them you trust them to be sensible about the amount they serve themselves i.e. plenty of vegetables. Once they have your trust you’ll be amazed how they rise to the challenge. Allow them a little time to make a pattern or a smiley face. When the plate hits the table they’ll be much more willing to eat everything on it. Young kids love being delegated [age-appropriate chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/), so make the most of it before the teenage years hit. ### 4. Groovy Smoothie Smoothies are a sure-fire winner when it comes to getting children to eat healthy food. They are a cheeky way to get fruits, calcium and even spices into children. They taste great and what’s more they’re fun and easy to make. Our[ NutriBullet](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07L5H9VFV/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07L5H9VFV&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=3397da60eab7a9bd43a3afee584eda31) is our most loved kitchen gadget. Use frozen fruits as it’s cheaper, fresher and lends itself to the desired smoothie texture. Give your kids the choice of what goes in and let them make it themselves. It truly is my number one trick to get goodness into my little ones. [![Nutribullet for healthy smoothies for kids](https://d4zzp4ohshzeb.cloudfront.net/resize/listing-picture/a1d78da3-4915-3998-94d9-6f45d9b99ab8?width=1200&height=630)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07L5H9VFV/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07L5H9VFV&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=3397da60eab7a9bd43a3afee584eda31) Stockist: [Amazon Australia](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07L5H9VFV/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07L5H9VFV&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=3397da60eab7a9bd43a3afee584eda31) ## MORE SNEAKY WAYS TO GET YOUR CHILDREN TO EAT HEALTHY FOODS (CONT.) ### 5. Build your own buttie Children relish the opportunity to make their own sandwiches ‘just like mum’. When lunching at home, instead of making their sandwiches/rolls/wraps for them, put the fillings on a large plate i.e. ham, lettuce, cucumber, tomato, and let them ‘build’ their own lunch. In time, their desire to build a bigger and better sandwich will have them adding foods they may not usually eat. This is how I got my daughter to eat tomatoes … and now she loves them. ### 6. See it, make it, eat it If you don’t cook with your children, then it’s time to start. You don’t need to do it all the time, even just once every couple of weeks. Get their creative juices flowing by allowing them to choose a recipe book (ideally a kids one to keep it easy) from the library and ask them to pick whatever they want to cook. My daughters drool over pictures of dishes that I wouldn’t have thought they’d like. Then we make it, and they eat it. Magic. ### 7. Pleasurable pinwheels When using a simple filling such as vegemite, ham, grated cheese or honey, you can turn the simple sandwich into a stand-out pinwheel. If you’ve not done it, it’s so easy a child could do it! Simply take two pieces of bread (ideally brown), cut off the crusts and line them up so one covers the other by about 3cm. Use a rolling pin to flatten the bread, which will also stick the two pieces together. Then simply pop on the filling, roll it up (starting at a short end) and cut into the desired thickness. Somehow, they even taste better than a normal sandwich … a brilliant trick to get children to eat healthy food. [![Yummy pinwheels for healthy snacks](https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ey6GngoU94A/Uw9f356D3lI/AAAAAAAATaQ/95SjnP0UiiI/s1600/IMG_3342.jpg)](http://www.apronandsneakers.com/2011/10/bread-swirls-with-honey-pistachios.html) Image: [Honey, Pistachios & Chocolate from Apron and Sneakers](http://www.apronandsneakers.com/2011/10/bread-swirls-with-honey-pistachios.html) ### 8. Plan it out to get your children to eat healthy food As a busy single mum I’m guessing you’re fairly organised with your meals i.e. you plan them ahead of time. Allow your children to have a say in the planning. Choose one or two nights a week when they can decide what is served for dinner, with the proviso that they make a healthy, balanced choice. They will relish the responsibility and at the same time learn what’s acceptable for a nourishing meal. ### 9. Turn to technology to get your children to eat healthy food The reality is that one of the best ways to get information through to our children is via an electronic device. Be it an iPhone, a tablet or a computer, if it’s digital then it’s deemed worthy in their eyes. Leverage this by encouraging them to play games that revolve around healthy food choices. For a computer try [Healthy Eating Made Easier](http://www.healthyeating.org/Healthy-Kids/Kids-Games-Activities.aspx) or [Nourish Interactive](https://www.superkidsnutrition.com/nc_nutrition-education/). ### 10. Take them to the source Whenever the opportunity arises show your children how food grows, where it comes from and how it’s produced. Places like fruit fields, dairies and factories are brilliant to not only teach them about the food process but to encourage them to eat it. Sometimes understanding the food can make it more appealing and they’ll be more willing to give it a go. One of my daughters wouldn’t touch a blackberry until we went to the UK where they grow wildly. To pick and eat them was a whole new experience and created a fruity new love affair. ## Conclusion: How to get children to eat healthy food Encouraging children to eat a healthy diet is essential for their well-being and development. As caregivers, we play a vital role in shaping their eating habits, helping them make better food choices and [limit their sweet tooth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/healthy-habits-to-help-your-kids-manage-sweets-and-treats/). We can do this by providing plenty of nutritious foods, involving children in meal planning and preparation, setting a good example with our own eating habits, and making healthy eating a fun and enjoyable experience. Changing food habits can take a while, and at times it might feel like an uphill battle, but you will get there, and the long-term benefits of a healthy diet for our children are well worth it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-tricks-to-inspire-your-kids-to-eat-healthily-by-choice/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-tricks-to-inspire-your-kids-to-eat-healthily-by-choice/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health, Food **Tags:** food preparation, nutribullet, food sources, finger food, smoothies --- ### [How to navigate back to school as a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-single-parent/) **Published:** January 8, 2022 **Author:** Kara Smyth **Content:** January is the season of back-to-school expenses. As a single parent, you essentially now have the joys of doing this on a single income with or without help from your ex-partner. I am dedicating this blog to tips on how to make your dollar spread further by making sure you only get what’s needed, and how to handle an ex that doesn’t contribute to the expenses at this time of year. Interested in how I’ve managed to handle this time of year for the last 15 years? Read on. ## SCHOOL SHOES Is it just me, or are black leather school shoes the ugliest and most expensive things, ever? I feel so ripped off that I can’t buy cute shoes for the amount of money I am forking out. My process for shoes is to always buy quality fitting shoes – preferably on sale, if that is an option. But, shoes aren’t the place I try to bargain hunt as growing bodies need good quality shoes. Kids wear these shoes all day, so they do need good shoes. But, I lessen the burden by buying just one pair if the school allows me too. How? I always opt for the black leather running shoe. This meets the leather shoe criteria to meet uniform requirements, and it can be used with the sport uniform too. [Rebel Sport](https://www.rebelsport.com.au/p/under-armour-charged-assert-8-kids-running-shoes-M57500901.html?dwvar_M57500901_color=Black&cgid=bts-little-kids-fw#prefn1=color&prefv1=Black&sz=60&start=4), Myer, David Jones and [Athlete’s Foot](https://www.theathletesfoot.com.au/asics-gt-1000-sl-gs-kids-black-black.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=surf) all sell these types of leather running shoes. Be sure to check whether you have any points from your loyalty programs to help reduce the costs of the shoes too. The company I run, [Nurch Childcare Loyalty Rewards](https://www.facebook.com/nurchchildcareloyaltyrewards/), sees the savvy mums cashing in their Nurch points earned from paying childcare fees on school shoes in January. I love seeing gift card [redemptions ](https://www.prezzee.com.au/)coming through. The downside of this trick is that when kids reach high school, this leather running shoe trick no longer applies. In that case, I make sure the sneaker is something they would wear on the weekend, if I can. That way, the shoes are more versatile and I find my teen’s feet have fully grown by year 10 so I can usually get a little longer out of the school shoes (if they look after them!). ## UNIFORMS Personally, I only ever buy 2 formal uniforms, 1 sports uniform, 3 pairs of socks, 1 hat and winter items, as needed. If the school requires the bag, I buy 1 bag and it usually lasts till the graduating year. The reason I only buy what I need is because I do midweek washing and I can wash the uniforms. If they are in good condition, I will buy them second hand. If not, I just ensure they are big enough to be worn for the whole year (possibly two years). I find that after two years, they are ready to be thrown out (especially if you have a son/s). If your school allows you to buy the basics from [Target](https://www.target.com.au/back-to-school#uniforms), [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/kids/school-uniforms/c/800107) or [Best n Less](https://www.bestandless.com.au/back-to-school) – then take advantage of this! No one can tell what you paid for it so get the cheapest one available, every penny counts when you’re a family on a single income. Do some online research shopping to manage your time best. ## BOOKS The book list will provide you with what you need to buy. My tip is to see what you have at home first before you buy new. But my best tip is to put a call out on your community social media pages to see if other families are selling textbooks, secondhand. Other than that, there really isn’t any way of getting around this except just buying in bulk to save dollars if you have multiple children. Personally, I opt for convenience and if I can, I tick the box to get the school to supply and I pay the school the book fees. ## SCHOOL FEES If after all of this, you are scraping to get the school fees in, speak to your school. Some schools will delay, offset, reduce or void school fees if you need the help. Personally, I have always paid my school fees in full and early to get the discounts available. But if you need help, don’t suffer in silence – just ask. Most schools will gladly help you out. This applies for Public, Catholic and Private Schools. ## LUNCH BOXES Is it just my children that want a new drink bottle and lunch box every January? I do comply because after one year of usage, they do look gross. I also think if a $20 lunch box is going to make you enjoy packed lunches more, I will save dollars on tuck shop visits. Just be sure to buy lunch boxes that are [practical ](https://mindfulmomma.com/reusable-lunch-containers/)and large enough for the items required. My children are expected to pack their own lunches so I buy ones that suit their lunch making skills. BPA free, recyclable plastics are durable and easy to clean. The clips are also handy as opposed to zips that can break or get jammed. ## LOST ITEMS I have a rule. I only buy one of everything at the start of the year. If my children break or lose their items, they are required to earn the pocket money required to replace them. I do this because I find that children lose less items when they know they will have to replace them out of their pocket money or by doing extra chores. I strongly believe that this helps children learn the value of money while saving me the cost of replacing items mid year. If you do need to replace something and you can wait, I find after Easter and July sales are always off the most competitive rates. When my children have to fork out their own cash for items, I use this as an opportunity to teach them my exceptional bargain hunting skills, learned from 15 years as a single mum. Skills that I assure you, you will learn to master. ## SELLING ITEMS Try to recoup some school expenses by selling the items your little one might not use or need. If you don’t end up selling them, donate them. There are always people in positions that would appreciate the kindness. ## SHARING EXPENSES Some single parents have great exes who are happy to halve the cost of essential items, like back-to-school expenses. Others can’t, won’t or don’t! All you can do is keep receipts and ask but don’t expect it. If it gets paid, great. If not, then as the primary carer you would have had to buy these items anyhow. [Child Support](https://queenslandlawhandbook.org.au/the-queensland-law-handbook/family-law/spousal-and-child-maintenance-and-child-support/child-maintenance-and-child-support/) is calculated to cover essential items. Essential items are school expenses except for Private School fees. So don’t use your stingy ex as the excuse to void your responsibility here whether they do or don’t pay Child Support. Life isn’t fair, but it’s not the kids fault and as the primary parent you have a responsibility to provide this. The way I justify it to myself is that the more I have paid for my children, the more I know I did my part and that’s all I can control. My part. I hope you enjoyed the blog on the tips I have used to navigate school expenses when I was a single parent. I still follow all of this now even with a husband – once a single mum, always a single mum! I know that your life might be a struggle right now but trust me when I say this, it does and will get easier. Being a single parent actually gave me the grit and determination I needed to run and co-found [Nurch Childcare Loyalty Rewards](https://www.facebook.com/nurchchildcareloyaltyrewards/). The best part of Nurch is that everyday I wake up knowing that my program is helping single mums save on everyday purchases like school items for their children. Life is a constant hustle but if you look for the lessons and opportunities, it will guide you to where you need to be. Sometimes the lesson is just that your kids need to see how hard it is to work for them so they can realise their full potential too. In a perfect world, school items and education would be free but it’s not. Our job as a parent is to do what we have to do to give our children the best opportunities. ![Back to school single parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Back-to-school-pin.png "Back to school pin - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-single-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/back-to-school-single-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School, Education --- ### [What To Do After Separation: Remarkably Powerful First Steps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/what-to-do-after-separation/) **Published:** December 4, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The early days after my breakup felt a bit like someone tipped my life upside down, gave it a good shake, and then wandered off without leaving instructions. If you’re sitting there wondering what to do after separation, trust me — I’ve been there, and there was definitely no secret handbook we were all supposed to read in school. When my relationship ended, I looked around at the paperwork, unanswered texts and a suspicious number of takeaway containers and thought, “Okay… so where’s the adult who’s meant to handle all this?” It may seem chaotic at first, but with the tips below, you can create clarity, stability, and a sense of control while you move into this new phase. These steps helped make things easier for me, and that may make your own journey feel a little lighter. ## 7 Steps: What to Do After Separation ### 1. Get your finances sorted One of the first things you need to jump into is finance. Separation might leave you sharing accounts, debts, and expenses long after your hearts have gone in different directions. If you hold a joint bank account, you may want to open one in your own name promptly, especially if you want to keep your income, savings, and transactions more private. Many couples don’t realise that until things are legally finalised, you can still be liable for anything that happens financially, including a credit card that’s still shared. This is also a good time to: - Cancel or separate joint memberships, streaming services and utilities. - Contact your lender about the mortgage, especially if you plan to stay in the family home. If you don’t and will now be buying for the first time, contact a [first home buyer mortgage broker](https://www.ryroloancentre.com.au/services/first-home-buyers) as soon as possible. - Keep copies of financial records, including income, superannuation, bills, and assets. A little organisation now acts as a safeguard later. Don’t forget to advise [Services Australia](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/) (human services) about changes to income if child support or benefits apply. ### 2. Document your date of separation Separation can happen slowly, loudly, suddenly, or after lots of quiet conversations. No matter how it unfolded, it’s important to determine and record your date of separation. This date matters legally, especially if you later apply for divorce, child support, property settlement, or a future court order. You can document it in several ways: - Writing it in a message or email to your former partner or spouse - Letting friends or family know - Informing the school or daycare if children are involved - Updating your address where necessary If things ever need to go down the official path later, having the date clear just makes life easier. It’s not exciting, but it saves future headaches. ![what to do after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-6932014-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-6932014 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 3. What to do after separation to secure passwords, privacy and documents [Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/freedom-after-separation-practical-legal-tips-for-mums/ "Separation") is an emotionally charged season, and protecting your privacy is important. This applies even when things are on good terms. I changed every password I could think of — bank login, email, social media, government accounts, Medicare, the lot. Not because I thought of misuse, but because I wanted a clean slate and a sense of security. You may want to: - Change passwords on accounts where your former partner was a holder - Update your credit card auto-payments - Retain control of digital backups and cloud accounts - Collect originals or copies of essential documents These include: - Birth certificates - Passport and citizenship papers - Marriage certificates - Financial information and relevant financial documents If you like ticking things off, making a list helps hugely, especially on the harder days when your brain has checked out. ### 4. What to do after separation regarding living arrangements One thing separation tosses up quickly is living arrangements. Do you stay in the house together short term? Or, stay in the house while your former partner moves out? Do you rent somewhere new? There’s no one right answer; only what works best for your situation, budget, and well-being. Some mums can continue living in the home with the kids, while others temporarily move in with family or friends while they plan the next step. If you need to change your address formally, the post office can redirect mail so you don’t miss anything important. If you’re handling parenting arrangements, schools appreciate being updated early. That helps with continuity and keeps the children’s best interests front and centre. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6694570-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6694570 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 5. What to do after separation when seeking legal advice (even if things are amicable) Talking to an experienced family lawyer has helped me feel steadier, clearer, and better informed. Many family lawyers offer initial consultations, and some may also help explain family law in a way that feels human instead of intimidating. A lawyer can help you: - Understand your rights - Navigate property settlement, liability, assets and superannuation - Review any proposed court order or agreement - Work out what’s realistic moving forward If things are amicable, you may also consider mediation with a mediator. Sometimes sitting down with a neutral professional helps move forward without unnecessary tension, especially when decisions involve the kiddos, co-parenting or parenting arrangements. Even if everything is friendly today, getting legal advice now can help make the entire journey smoother. ### How to inform others about your separation Telling people about my divorce felt awkward at first, but I’ve learned that it doesn’t need to be a big announcement. Start with your inner circle — the people who’ll actually support you — and keep it simple: “We’ve separated, and I’m taking things one step at a time.” For schools or childcare, a quick update helps with continuity for the kids. Everyone else can get the short version if and when you feel ready. You don’t owe anyone details, drama or explanations. ### Emotional coping strategies after separation The emotional side of divorce hits in waves, so be gentle with yourself. Small grounding habits help — journaling, long walks, talking to someone who actually gets it, or just sitting with a cup of tea before the kids wake up. Allow yourself to feel everything without judging it. Lean on your support crew, rest when you can, and remember: this season won’t last forever. You’re doing better than you think, Mama. ## Bonus Tip: What to Do After Separation Among all the paperwork, bank accounts, appointments and practical decisions, don’t forget yourself. Separation is a trying time. Your well-being matters as much as your to-do list. Whether it’s a long shower, a walk, a good cry, journalling, or talking to someone who understands, give yourself space to process. This chapter might feel heavy, but it can also be the start of something incredibly strong, grounded, and hopeful. It took me a while to see it, but opening this door led to so many moments that reminded me I was still me — capable, loving, and stepping one day at a time into a life I was proud of. You don’t have to have it perfect. You just have to keep going. ![The first 5 practical things to do when you separate | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/First-5-practical-things-to-do.png "First 5 practical things to do - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/what-to-do-after-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/what-to-do-after-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** mortgage, Bank accounts, credit cards, home loan, separation date --- ### [An Analysis: The Impact of Rising Fuel Prices on Dating Behaviour in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/the-impact-of-rising-fuel-prices-on-dating-behaviour-in-australia/) **Published:** May 20, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The impact of rising fuel prices on dating is becoming harder to ignore, with more Australians quietly reassessing how far they’re willing to travel for romance. What once felt like a thoughtful romantic gesture is now being weighed against petrol costs, time, and everyday financial pressure. If you’ve been looking for evidence that the cost of living is affecting more than just the weekly grocery run, the evidence is now showing up in the dating data. Australia’s romantic geography, the distances people are genuinely willing to travel to meet someone new, has contracted meaningfully in the space of just two months. And the No. 1 driving force, in line with the new study, is exactly what you might anticipate: the rising cost of getting in a car and going somewhere. ## The impact of rising fuel prices on dating behaviour in Australia In February 2026, [Australian insurer Youi](https://www.youi.com.au/you-connect/articles-and-guides/love-in-the-time-of-high-fuel-prices-how-far-will-aussies-drive-for-a-date-now) surveyed more than 1,000 Australians on their first-date driving conduct. The photograph that emerged in that factor was broadly positive: the most popular solution of how a person can press for a primary date has been for an hour, indicating that Australians still want a new person to cover reasonable ground within the Assembly call. Two months later, UE came back with the same questions and the same demographics. The results had shifted substantially enough to constitute a meaningful change in national dating behaviour. By April, the most popular answer had shifted to 30 minutes or less. That single data point, the collapse of the one-hour norm to a 30-minute ceiling, sits at the centre of what the data describes as a fundamental rewiring of what Australians consider an acceptable romantic commitment. The [insurance](https://www.youi.com.au/car-insurance) and fuel maths of [dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-in-your-40s/) have become, for a significant and growing portion of the population, impossible to set aside. At $2.50 a litre, getting a first date and home again has a price that registers in a way that it sincerely did not while petrol changed cheaply, and sensible kilometres felt less like a choice. ## Are men and women responding differently to fuel costs when dating? Radius changes are the headline spot, statistics include numerous other layers that are really worth checking out individually as opposed to dropping right into the unmarried story. Gender separation is their priority. Women who pulled back moved one bracket, from the one-hour camp to the under-30-minute zone, in a contained, measured adjustment that reflected their starting position. Men made a far more dramatic retreat. Those who’d declared in February they’d happily drive two hours or more had, by April, scaled back significantly across the board. The most enthusiastic long-haul romantics turned out to be the most sensitive to the financial pressure when it arrived. ![rising fuel prices on dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Image-1-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Which generations are changing their dating habits the most? The generational divide is equally revealing and adds important context to the headline numbers rather than just adding complexity for its own sake. Gen Z changed the least, largely because their preference for local everything meant their dating radius was already compact well before fuel prices entered the conversation as a cultural topic. Baby Boomers also held relatively steady, drawing on decades of economic experience that teaches a longer view on cost spikes. It’s Millennials and Gen X who’ve adjusted most sharply, the generations carrying the most financial pressure and, perhaps, the most cultural mythology about romantic gestures that needed to be quietly revised. ## Are Australians less comfortable talking about dating travel distances? There’s a finding about disclosure confidence that adds a quieter, more human dimension to the data and is worth giving its own space. In February, 57% of men and 55% of women said they’d be comfortable mentioning their travel distance as a first date talking point, a gentle humblebrag, and a signal that this person was worth the trip. By April, that comfort had declined noticeably. More Australians now describe themselves as neutral, uncomfortable, or reluctant to raise the subject. When the drive is 20 minutes, there isn’t a great story in it, and people appear to understand that instinctively. ## What dating expectations have stayed the same despite fuel price increases? What hasn’t changed is perhaps as instructive as what has, and it’s worth dwelling on. The expectation around pick-ups, with roughly one in three Australians expecting the date’s organiser to collect them, held completely steady between February and April without any variation. Australians haven’t become more transactional about who covers petrol costs. They’ve simply decided the cleanest solution is to not generate much of a petrol cost in the first place. Less driving, same expectations, no negotiation required. A very pragmatic response. ## What now counts as an “impressive” dating effort? The survey also captures a shift in what Australians now consider an impressive travel effort, which adds another layer to the story. In February, one-third of respondents said they’d be impressed by any distance, because the gesture was what counted, regardless of the kilometres. By April, that group had largely migrated toward saying that under 30 minutes was sufficient to count as a genuinely impressive effort. The symbolic weight of showing up hasn’t disappeared. It’s been recalibrated to reflect what the petrol that powers it currently costs. ## What does this shift say about modern dating in Australia? What the data ultimately describes is not a romantic culture in retreat but one in active and unsentimental adaptation. Australians are still dating. They’re still making the effort to get there. The definition of what that effort looks like, how far it extends, and how openly it’s communicated has been updated for the conditions of 2026. The 30-minute drive isn’t a lesser gesture than the one-hour drive was. It’s the current one, arrived at honestly and without much drama. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/the-impact-of-rising-fuel-prices-on-dating-behaviour-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/the-impact-of-rising-fuel-prices-on-dating-behaviour-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [Managing Overwhelm as a Single Mother: Practical Tips for Exhausted Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/managing-overwhelm-as-a-single-mother/) **Published:** May 19, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Quick Takeaways on Managing Overwhelm as a Single Mother:** - **Acknowledge the burnout:** Your deep exhaustion is completely valid and entirely normal, not a personal failure. - **Lower the daily bar:** Surviving the day with fed kids and a locked front door is a massive, legitimate win. - **Micro-rest is key:** Ditch the expensive idea of a day spa and embrace five minutes of quiet in the parked car. - **Outsource the mental load:** Automate your utility bills and standard groceries to free up essential brain space. - **Hack your decision fatigue:** Eat the exact same breakfast every day and use a rotating, simple dinner menu. - **Log off immediately:** Step away from social media to stop the toxic comparison game from draining your emotional energy. - **Set ruthless boundaries:** Say no to extra school volunteering and focus purely on your family’s immediate survival. ## Why is single mother overwhelm so fiercely common? **Single mother overwhelm happens because you are carrying the financial, emotional, and physical burden of two parents entirely on your own shoulders.** It’s not because you are weak, inherently disorganised, or failing at motherhood. You are quite literally doing the job of two adult people, usually on a fraction of the budget and with absolutely zero sleep. Society expects us to parent like we do not work, and work like we do not have children, which is a perfect recipe for total burnout for any overwhelmed mom. - The mental gymnastics required to coordinate school runs, work commitments, and household chores alone are staggering when you have to juggle everything yourself. - You are the only safety net for your kids, meaning the pressure to constantly keep everything afloat is unrelenting and can leave you feeling like you are drowning. - Acknowledge that the system is incredibly flawed. Cut yourself some serious slack when the laundry pile turns into a permanent mountain. - Remember that feeling overwhelmed is a perfectly rational response to an irrational amount of daily pressure in single-parent households. ## What are the physical signs of solo parenting burnout? **The physical signs of burnout include chronic fatigue, snapping over minor issues, tension headaches, and a constant feeling of tightness in your chest.** Your body actively keeps the score when you are constantly living in a stressful fight-or-flight mode. You might find yourself crying over a spilled cup of milk or staring blankly into the fridge for ten minutes because you simply cannot compute. Pushing through the physical pain only leads to complete exhaustion, so learning to recognise your bodily warning signs is critical for your health and well-being. - Watch out for changes in your sleep patterns, like lying awake at 2 AM despite being bone-tired. - Digestive issues, frequent colds, and unexplained muscle aches can signal that your body needs you to slow down before stress takes a deeper toll. - If you are experiencing intense physical symptoms of anxiety, reach out to professional mental health organisations like [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) for free support and a genuine lifeline. - Never ignore heart palpitations or shortness of breath; your health is the most valuable asset your family has. ![managing overwhelm as a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Managing-overwhelm-2.jpg "Managing overwhelm 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How can you cope & aggressively reduce your daily mental load? **You can reduce your mental load by automating repetitive household tasks, bulk-buying essential items, and unapologetically saying no to extra commitments.** The mental load is the silent killer of single mums; it is the constant, running to-do list taking up all your precious brain space. It is remembering that it is crazy sock day, the electricity bill is due, and we are out of toilet paper. Automate everything you possibly can to clear some of that heavy cognitive traffic, and reshape the chaos of managing a household - Set up direct debits for every single household bill so you never have to remember a due date again. - Save a “favourites” list on your supermarket app and get your heavy, non-perishable groceries delivered once a fortnight. - Take a brutal look at your calendar and cancel any social event or volunteer task that does not serve your immediate sanity. - Keep a communal whiteboard on the fridge where older kids can write down what they need, transferring the responsibility like a practical checklist. ## How do you beat the daily grind of decision fatigue? **Decision fatigue can be beaten by standardising your daily routines, such as wearing a basic uniform and keeping a simplified, rotating meal plan.** By the time 5 PM rolls around, a single mother has made hundreds of micro-decisions and has nothing left in the tank. This is why the simple question “What is for dinner?” can induce a minor panic attack. You need to strip back the choices you have to make every single day to preserve your energy for the big stuff. - Eat the exact same breakfast and lunch every weekday, so you do not even have to think about it. - Create a simple two-week rotating dinner menu (e.g., Taco Tuesday, Pasta Wednesday) and never deviate from the plan. - Curate a “mum uniform” of comfortable, matching clothes so you can get dressed in the dark without making a fashion choice. - Delegate age-appropriate decisions to your kids, like letting them choose and pack their own school snacks. ## What are the best ways to handle financial overwhelm as a single mum? **Managing financial overwhelm requires tracking your exact entitlements, creating a micro-budget, and seeking out free community resources for essential family needs.** Money stress is often the heaviest rock in the single mum’s backpack, constantly hovering over every single choice we make. When the cost of living skyrockets, the panic of providing on one income can feel entirely suffocating. Taking back a tiny bit of control over your finances is the quickest way to stop the spiral. - Always double-check your government entitlements and stay updated on the latest [single-parenting payment rates](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) to ensure you are getting exactly what you deserve as a single parent. - Set up a micro-budget that only covers the absolute essentials: rent, utilities, basic food, and petrol. - Utilise local community pantries, toy libraries, and Facebook “Buy Nothing” groups to source what you need for free. - Stop feeling embarrassed about asking for help or financial hardship plans from your utility providers; that is exactly what they are there for. ## Why is micro-dosing rest the new self-care for single parents? **Micro-dosing rest involves taking tiny, five-minute breaks of low-stimulation downtime throughout the day instead of waiting for a mythical, expensive weekend off.** We simply do not have the free time or the disposable income for a luxury wellness retreat in Byron Bay. Instead, you need to focus on stealing back micro-moments of rest whenever the opportunity actually presents itself. It is about actively calming your central nervous system in tiny, achievable increments. - Sit in the school pick-up line with the radio off and enjoy ten minutes of glorious, uninterrupted silence. - Hide in the bathroom for an extra three minutes, lock the door, and take five deep belly breaths. - Lie flat on your back on the living room rug while the kids watch Bluey; you are still supervising, but your spine gets a break. - Stop cleaning the kitchen the second the kids go to bed, and immediately claim thirty minutes of unapologetic couch time to take a break. ![managing overwhelm as a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Manage-overwhelm-as-a-single-mother.jpg "Manage overwhelm as a single mother - Beanstalk Mums") ## How do you stop the guilt from making the overwhelm worse? **You stop the guilt by recognising that “good enough” parenting is perfectly fine and that a stressed, burnt-out mum cannot possibly be a perfect mum.** The mother’s guilt trip is a miserable journey we all take far too often, but it only adds to the crushing weight of the overwhelm. Serving toast or cereal for dinner on a desperate Tuesday night is not going to ruin your children’s future. If you are struggling with this, remind yourself of the genuine [signs you are actually doing a great job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) despite the daily chaos. - Lower the bar of success from “organic, home-cooked meals” to “everyone survived and ate something today.” - Apologise to your kids when you inevitably lose your temper; showing them how to repair a relationship is brilliant parenting. - Write down three things you accomplished today, even if it was just putting on a load of washing. - Remember that your children desperately want a happy, relaxed mother, not a perfect, exhausted martyr. Also, they will be happier with a calmer mama. ## How do sandwich generation single mums survive the double caregiving load? **Being a sandwich generation single mum—caring for both growing children and ageing parents—exponentially increases your mental load, making ruthless boundary-setting and external support absolutely essential.** If you are caught in the brutal squeeze of the sandwich generation, your overwhelm is practically doubled. You are simultaneously trying to manage your kids’ chaotic schedules and your elderly parent’s medical appointments, all on a single income. It is an incredibly heavy, isolating burden, and you cannot possibly be everything to everyone without sacrificing your own well-being. - Access government support immediately by getting your parents assessed through My Aged Care to unlock essential home help, transport, and respite services. - Combine errands ruthlessly; if you are doing a weekly grocery shop for yourself, duplicate the order online and have it delivered directly to your parents’ house. - Do not let your siblings off the hook; families often unfairly assume the single daughter has “more time,” so firmly delegate specific caregiving shifts to them to share the load. - Accept that you simply cannot fix everything for everyone; sometimes dropping a pre-made meal off and leaving is all you can manage, and that is perfectly okay. ## How does a digital detox help single mums manage stress? **Stepping away from social media stops the toxic comparison game and frees up precious emotional energy that is much better spent on resting or sleeping.** Scrolling through Instagram and seeing perfectly curated nuclear families in matching outfits will trigger your stress levels almost instantly. We naturally compare our chaotic, messy behind-the-scenes reality with everyone else’s highly edited highlight reel. Turning off the noise is a crucial step in managing your mental load. - Put your phone on “Do Not Disturb” at 8 PM every night and plug it into a charger in a completely different room. - Unfollow any parenting influencer whose perfectly clean house makes you feel bad about your own living room. - Swap doom-scrolling for a cheap fiction novel, fresh air, or a lighthearted podcast that actually makes you laugh out loud. - Limit your daily news intake if global events are making you feel even more anxious and out of control. ## How can setting ruthless boundaries protect your energy? **Setting strict boundaries with your ex-partner, extended family, and the school community stops external demands from draining your extremely limited resources.** As single mothers, we often feel the need to overcompensate by saying “yes” to everything to prove we can handle it. This people-pleasing behaviour is a direct one-way ticket to complete physical and emotional collapse. You have to build a fortress around your time and energy because setting boundaries is survival. - Keep communication with a difficult ex strictly via email or a parenting app, and only check it once a day. - Say no to baking for the school fete; buy a packet of store-bought biscuits and absolutely refuse to feel bad about it. - Tell well-meaning family members that unsolicited parenting advice is no longer welcome in your household as a single parent. This is especially true when family dynamics are already complicated. - Protect your weekends fiercely by rejecting social invitations that feel like an exhausting chore rather than a joy. ![managing overwhelm as a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Managing-overwhelm-1.jpg "Managing overwhelm 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Join the Conversation Single motherhood is an incredibly wild, exhausting ride, and you should never have to navigate it completely alone. Come and join our private Facebook community, the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/ "Single Mum Vine"), to connect, vent, chat, and share practical survival hacks with a brilliant group of Aussie mums who truly get it. It is a safe space for the lonely days, the heavy isolation, and the everyday practice of surviving motherhood without pretending everything is fine. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/managing-overwhelm-as-a-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/managing-overwhelm-as-a-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** self-care, managing overwhelm as a single mother, tips for single mums --- ### [How to Stop Doubting Yourself as a Single Mother in 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/stop-doubting-yourself-as-a-single-mother/) **Published:** May 15, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Quick Takeaways on how to stop doubting yourself as a single mother** - The Struggle is Real: With 1 in 3 single-parent households in Australia currently facing poverty, your stress is often a systemic issue, not a personal failure. - The “B\*tch” in Your Head: That inner critic is a powerhouse, but she thrives on comparing your “behind-the-scenes” to everyone else’s highlight reel. - Centrelink Check-In: Parenting Payment Single rates are indexed on 20 March and 20 September 2026, so make sure you’re getting every cent you’re entitled to. - Micro-Resets: You don’t need a day spa; a 30-second “physiological sigh” can reset your nervous system while you’re waiting for the nuggets to cook. - The “Good Enough” Rule: If your kids feel safe venting to you, you’ve already won the parenting game. Look, we’ve all been there—hiding in the pantry at 5:00 PM, clutching a lukewarm tea (or something stronger), and wondering if we’re actually cut out for this solo parenting gig. If you’re currently doubting every decision you’ve made since 2010, take a breath; you aren’t failing, you’re just human, and quite frankly, you’re doing it in one of the most hectic economic climates we’ve ever seen. ## Why do I feel like I’m failing as a single mother in 2026? Self-doubt in 2026 is driven by the “intensive parenting” trap and a chronic lack of “baton-passing” support, leaving solo mothers in a state of constant high alert. We are living in an era of curated “aesthetic” parenting where we’re expected to host Pinterest-perfect parties while navigating a massive mental load. For a solo mum parenting alone, there is no one to pass the baton to when you’re having a “parent tantrum,” which makes every minor setback feel like a total disaster. This isn’t a flaw in your character; it’s a natural reaction to single motherhood and being the sole emotional landing pad for your family. That pesky voice inside your head—the one we affectionately call a total bitch—is constantly making you compare yourself to partnered mums who have half the load and twice the help. It’s time to wrap some reality around those thoughts and realise that “winging it” is actually the gold standard for most of us. You aren’t supposed to have a rule book, and if you did find one, you should probably sell it and retire on a private island. ### The Identity Shift: From “We” to an Unstoppable “Me” as a Single Parent Losing the “we” in your identity can feel like your foundations have been ripped out, especially after a divorce or separation you never wanted, but it’s actually the start of your most powerful era. You aren’t just “half” of a parenting team anymore; you are the CEO, the CFO, and the entertainment committee all rolled into one fierce package, building a strong foundation for your family. This shift is where you stop asking for permission, empower yourself, and start trusting your own gut, which is the ultimate cure for that lingering insecurity, low self-worth, and self-doubt. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/New-facebook-post-15.jpg "Un stoppable me - Beanstalk Mums") ## How does the cost-of-living crisis affect my parenting confidence? Financial stress in 2026 creates a “scarcity mindset” that erodes confidence, as single mothers are often forced to sacrifice their own needs to cover soaring grocery and housing costs. Let’s be real: it’s hard to feel like a “Super Mum” or even a good mom when you’re doing mental gymnastics at the checkout to see if you can afford both the berries and the bread. In regional Australia, families are spending over $5,500 extra a year just for basic food compared to city dwellers, which is enough to make anyone’s confidence crumble. This “silent crisis” means many of us are skipping the dentist or the GP just to keep the lights on. The good news is that the 2026 system has a few buffers, with Parenting Payment Single now staying with you until your youngest child turns 14. Rates are indexed every March and September to keep up with inflation, so keep an eye on your myGov account for those updates. For research-based tips, guidance and support on keeping the household running without losing your mind, the [Raising Children Network](https://raisingchildren.net.au/ "Raising Children Network") is a solid, free resource to have in your bookmarks. ## What are the signs I’m actually doing a great job? True parenting success in 2026 is measured by your child’s emotional security and your ability to be a “safe zone,” rather than the state of your kitchen floor. Sometimes we get so bogged down in the guilt that we miss the evidence that we’re actually crushing it. If your kids feel comfortable enough to have a meltdown in front of you, it’s actually a compliment—it means you’re their safe space. You might find more reassurance in our guide on [Single Mum Guilt: Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/ "Single Mum Guilt: Signs You Are Actually Doing a Great Job"), which reminds us that presence always beats perfection and that you’re doing better than your tired brain gives you credit for. Signs you’re a total legend include: - You admit when you’ve messed up, which teaches your kids that nobody is perfect. - You provide “one-on-one” time, even if it’s just five minutes of reading before bedtime with your young kids. - You’re a fierce advocate for your child when they need a “Mum-zilla” in their corner. - You nurture their belief in themselves on the hard days. ## How can I shut down my inner critic on hard days? You can silence your inner critic by naming the negative thoughts, examining the objective facts, and practising “Radical Acceptance” of the current messy reality. The next time you feel that wave of self-doubt, stop and actually listen to what that inner critic is whispering. Ask yourself: Is it actually true that I’m a bad mum because we had toast for dinner twice this week? Most of the time, the answer is a resounding “no”,, so don’t sweat the tiny stuff that only looks huge when you’re stuck in a funk. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, it might be time to [embrace change for a powerful fresh start](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/embrace-change-in-your-life-for-a-powerful-fresh-start/ "embrace change for a powerful fresh start"). Shifting your perspective doesn’t require a total life overhaul; it just requires a tiny bit of self-compassion, self-reflection, positive affirmations, and self-love. Remember, you are working through one of the hardest life events known to women—motherhood, anger toward the past, and trying to get your life back on track all at once—so give yourself some credit! ## What are the best 30-second resets for solo parent burnout? Nervous system resets like the “physiological sigh” and the “cold spot technique” are the most effective 2026 hacks for single parents to overcome anxiety in under a minute. We don’t have time for 90-minute hot stone massages, so we have to get sneaky with our self-care. The “physiological sigh” is a total game-changer: take a long inhale through your nose, a second short inhale to fully pop the lungs, and then a long, slow exhale through your mouth. It regulates your carbon dioxide levels and tells your brain you aren’t actually being chased by a sabre-toothed tiger (even if it feels like it), and it’s brilliant for feeling better fast. Other quick hacks for the 2026 mum include: - **The Cold Spot**: Run cold water over your wrists for 30 seconds to snap out of a stress spike and cope before the next crisis. - **The Doorframe Reset**: Take one intentional deep breath every time you walk through a doorframe. - **Five-Finger Gratitude**: Touch each finger with your thumb and name one tiny thing you’re glad for, like “hot coffee” or “Bluey”. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-gabby-k-7353018-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gabby-k-7353018 - Beanstalk Mums") You’ve got this, mama. You’re not alone. You’re doing the work of two people with the resources of one, and that makes you a literal superhero as a single mom. Want to connect with a community that actually gets the mental load and can help you build resilience against self-doubt as a single parent? Join our private Facebook support group for single moms, [The Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlemumvine "The Single Mum Vine"), to vent, laugh, and share the ultimate survival guide and hacks with mothers who are right there with you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/stop-doubting-yourself-as-a-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/stop-doubting-yourself-as-a-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** single mother, solo parenting, self care --- ### [How to find your parenting village](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-your-parenting-village/) **Published:** September 26, 2021 **Author:** Kara Smyth **Content:** We weren’t designed to do parenting alone and that is why being a single mum is the hardest thing you will ever do. At 21, I was a single mother living on the pension, who had to go bankrupt. While I had family nearby, I never felt like I had that constant support network to rely on. Nevertheless, what didn’t kill me made me stronger and I was able to find a whole other village that wasn’t family. And that gave me confidence that the world is full of beautiful people. If you feel lonely, lost, overwhelmed, overworked, hamstrung or about to break – you need some help from your village. If you don’t have a village, we need to find you one because you need to be okay for your kids to be okay. Think about that for a second. I live my life by a saying I picked up in all the years I travelled (oh those were the pre-covid days!). “Fit your own mask first before you help others”. What?! A mum putting her first. Albeit a single mum! No way!! Trust me, if you make sure you are okay first, you will be a better mum and better everything. A long time ago, finding a village was a lot easier because there were so many more village helpers, but COVID is making it challenging to find close ones. So, we now have to get creative to find our helpers and I have found the most unlikely people to be my biggest supporters. So here are my go-to tips. ## FAMILY Is it just me that found an entire new respect for my mum when I became a mum? I feel like I see her and want her more than ever. Not necessarily *just* a mum, but you might have a dad, siblings or extended family who are reliable, understanding and play an active role in your family, and live close. But, your village helpers aren’t just family or in-laws – yes, they are amazing, and you must count your lucky stars when you *do* have that support from family but not everyone has family to rely on. ## LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR I am incredibly lucky to have lived next door to two wonderful women, who became like family to me. One I unfortunately don’t live close to anymore, but both women are still people I can call on and visa versa. Karin has helped me with last-minute babysitting more times I can count! Fiona is not only my friend, but my children LOVE her, and she is always so supportive. Another person I couldn’t do life without is Sharon. She became part of our family when her sister was friends with my eldest sister. Sharon is my second mum and my children now know her as Ninny.CLOSE ## NETWORK Delightfully unexpected surprise additions to my village were the wonderful schools and supportive sporting associations my children are a part of. The teachers and coaches have been such great confidants and helpers. I have felt so supported all these years and the teachers have understood my “out of the box” family dynamics. They have always offered to help where they can or pointed me in the right direction to find help. Not to mention, you have something instantly in common with parents of the other children in the class or team – so don’t shy away from starting a conversation. ## PARK IT Having an “established” routine and community group, like schools and sporting groups, can definitely make finding village support easier. But, what if you’re a new mum or a toddler mum who isn’t quite there yet? I say, park it! Visit your local park consistently and albeit you’ll find another mumma who is doing the same. You already know they likely live close by *and* have similar aged children. Leverage that; you’ll know quickly if they are someone you feel could be a part of your village. And, don’t be scared to ask for their number or arrange another time to meet. Sometimes finding your village feels a lot like mum dating (which I guess it is, in a way). But if you’re feeling the good vibes, it’s likely they are, too! ![Parenting friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/pexels-tatiana-twinslol-5444952.jpg "pexels-tatiana-twinslol-5444952 - Beanstalk Mums") ## TINDER FOR MUMS Speaking of mum dating… One of the newest ways to meet mums in your area is through, [Peanut App.](https://www.peanut-app.io/about-us) It is basically Tinder for mums. I met my now husband on Tinder, so I have a lot of faith in Apps. And now, I have also met lovely mums through Peanut. Peanut or other online forums, like Facebook groups, can be a great tool to use, especially during lockdowns when face-to-face meets are not allowed. ## CHILDCARE As a mother of three children and the cofounder of [Nurch Childcare Loyalty Rewards](https://www.facebook.com/nurchchildcareloyaltyrewards/) program, I know my way around a centre and OSCH (outside of school care hours) or two, and good from bad. Your childcare should be nurturing and supportive, a likely and safe community to share the load. I once had a childcare worker ask if I cuddled my son. I was mortified that she alluded that my son was unsettled because I didn’t show enough love. I un-enrolled my son and we were much happier at the next centre where the staff supported my son and his learning needs. Your children’s childcare workers are saints in my eyes, and they have a relationship with your child. I have requested babysitting from my children’s carers many times. Just because they are paid, doesn’t mean they can’t be your helpers and confidants. Providing an income is helping them too so enjoy the nice exchange. ## UBER FOR BABYSITTERS Not all centres allow you to hire your childcare workers. But I am pleased to say I have found wonderful helpers online. Babysitting Apps, like [Kiddo](https://kiddoapp.com.au/), make it easy to connect with close-living, prescreened sitters that have a valid Blue Card and a Police Check, checked references and ratings by other families – who are available when I need them. Often when you need to hire a babysitter, it’s almost always an emergency and Kiddo has simplified the whole process. Unlike other babysitting websites where I post an advert and people apply, I choose the time I require and select the sitter available during that time. This makes finding a babysitter, last-minute, super easy. ## MUMS GROUPS As a new mum, I thought the mum’s group the hospital signs you up for was going to be lame. Like, “I didn’t need to go to them”. And it’s true, you don’t. But, it’s the best place to start. All of the parents there are in the exact same boat as you – tired, nervous, excited, smitten, scared, maybe even peeing their pants a little from a weak bladder. But, from 20 new mums in my group, I’m still friends with five of them, five years on. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Eventually mums, you do get to an easier age where they don’t need constant supervision, but it pays to have a supportive village. My now 14-year-old is very independent and prefers to take care of himself. He has his own phone, bank account and even orders his own takeaway or uber if he is home alone. But let me assure you, I still call on my village helpers as raising teens is beyond my pay grade and what teen listens to mum? Not many. So even if your children are closer to teen years than little children, still spend the time creating your little village as they make this whole parenting thing a lot easier and happier. ![Parenting village | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/3rd-Pins.png "3rd Pins - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-your-parenting-village/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-your-parenting-village/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** friendships, support, friend --- ### [Best Trending Christmas Gift Ideas of 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/trending-christmas-gifts/) **Published:** November 5, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you ready to make this holiday season extra special with the best trending Christmas gift ideas? Whether you’re shopping for family, friends, or even that hard-to-buy-for person on your list, finding the perfect present can feel overwhelming with so many options out there. To make it easier, we’ve handpicked the best gift ideas of the year, featuring unique, thoughtful, and must-have items that are sure to bring joy. From clever gadgets to cosy home essentials, our guide has something for everyone, making it your go-to resource for memorable holiday shopping. Happy gifting! [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/265210)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/b/265210) ## 25 best trending Christmas gift ideas for everyone: what’s trending ## 1. Supplement digital gift card First up in our holiday gift guide, we have a gift card! Health supplements are still trending for the nth year in a row, and we’re projecting that they’re not going anywhere in the years to come. Your friends will love that they have the freedom to choose a supplement they want/need with digital gift cards. 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Timeless Confidence: Bold Red Lips for 2025 A bold red lip never goes out of style, and it’s still one of the hottest trends this year. Gifting a classic red lipstick is like gifting confidence—perfect for empowering your loved one to take on 2025 with flair. Whether for a night out or an everyday pop of colour, a rich red shade elevates any look and is sure to become a beauty staple. It’s a thoughtful, stylish gift that celebrates timeless elegance and self-assurance! [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/28d21b8c0c9caeb7225b5220eff9bad44c1a9ac8fdb853d743fa4e7edcca6b5d?ts=1729476093)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84266?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beautyaffairs.com.au%2fproducts%2fmac-lipstick-mini-mac-1-8g%3fvariant%3d43775669436645)We found this at: [Beauty Affairs](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84266?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beautyaffairs.com.au%2fproducts%2fmac-lipstick-mini-mac-1-8g%3fvariant%3d43775669436645) ## 4. Power coat A machine-washable coat or jacket is the ultimate gift for literally ANYONE. Everybody has a use for it at some point – they’ll be able to use it for school or office or to grab groceries. A chic trenchcoat like this one is versatile and stylish. [![](https://www-s.mlo.me/upen/v/202311/20231117/a837c956-7f10-42d6-9029-0a11c56fe51e.webp)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fwomans-outerwear-black-sash-winter-warm-wool-coat-2023-p1005842.html)We found this at: [Milanoo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fwomans-outerwear-black-sash-winter-warm-wool-coat-2023-p1005842.html) ## 5. Airpods cleaning kit Airpods are here to stay, so a multifunctional cleaning kit for your kids’ or friends’ wireless earbuds and headphones should stay, too. ![](https://imgaz.staticbg.com/thumb/large/oaupload/banggood/images/91/2E/10521836-bf45-4118-9c12-8a6ca2c2ac05.jpg.webp)We found this at: [Bang Good](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43831?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.banggood.com%2f) ## 6. Uggs I’m pretty sure your tween has bugged you over these ultra-comfy best-selling slippers. I know anyone who would receive a pair of slippers for Christmas will love this perfect present. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/eea4ecbd92f8710a8f2a9815d9edce8193fe8d6b80c7660614082a398231967b?ts=1729478884)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79760?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftheuggshop.com.au%2fcollections%2fwomen-ugg-slippers-moccasins%2fproducts%2faustralian-shepherd-muffin-plus-platform) We found this at: [The Ugg Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79760?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftheuggshop.com.au%2fcollections%2fwomen-ugg-slippers-moccasins%2fproducts%2faustralian-shepherd-muffin-plus-platform) ## 7. Nourish and Revitalize: Nekko Scalp Oil & Lashin Scalp Stimulator Set Give the gift of luxurious self-care with the Nekko Scalp Oil & Lashin Scalp Stimulator Set. This duo is a dream for anyone craving a revitalised scalp and healthier hair. The nourishing Nekko Scalp Oil is packed with natural ingredients that hydrate and strengthen hair from root to tip, while the Lashin Scalp Stimulator enhances circulation and encourages healthy hair growth with its gentle, massaging bristles. It’s perfect for a relaxing, spa-like experience at home—ideal for winding down after a long day and promoting a balanced, healthy scalp year-round. [![trending Christmas gift](https://nekkocare.com/cdn/shop/files/nekko-0723_2024-07-12T04_13_02.533Z_900x.png?v=1720758546)](https://nekkocare.sjv.io/dOKjv3)We found this at: [Nekkocare](https://nekkocare.sjv.io/dOKjv3) ## 8. A Smart Choice for the Planet and Your Budget: Refurbished iPhone 15 Pro If a brand-new smartphone isn’t in the holiday budget, consider a high-quality refurbished iPhone 15 Pro as an eco-friendly and cost-effective alternative. This “like-new” model offers all the premium features of the latest iPhone—powerful 5G connectivity, sleek design, and fantastic camera quality—without the environmental impact of new production. By choosing a secondhand device, you’re reducing electronic waste and supporting sustainable tech consumption. Plus, each unit is thoroughly tested to ensure it has excellent battery life, so you can feel confident it’s a thoughtful and long-lasting gift. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/8d68a4c677ec493fa3d9f27358421216ccbe4866c478b74d8600016d313c0917?ts=1729479821)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66117?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.phonebot.com.au%2fapple-iphone-15-pro-5g-128gb-like-new) We found this at: [Phonebot](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66117?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.phonebot.com.au%2fapple-iphone-15-pro-5g-128gb-like-new) ## 9. Stylish and Timeless: Kate Spade Adeline Cat-Eye Sunglasses Retro cat-eye sunglasses, like the Kate Spade Adeline, make a chic gift for any occasion. These shades are a perfect pick for the sunrise lover or anyone who enjoys a touch of vintage flair in their style. With high-quality lenses and an elegant cat-eye shape, they protect the eyes while adding a classic, sophisticated look that never goes out of style. Thoughtfully designed in an Asian fit for added comfort, these sunglasses blend fashion with function—an ideal choice for those who want to see the world with a bit more style. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/a945e9211c74fb25dbbdeab278d735db7b786121f178dba7a02e2670abbd77b0?ts=1729480334) We found this at: [Vision Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/1381?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.visiondirect.com.au%2fdesigner-sunglasses%2fKate-Spade%2fKate-Spade-AdelineGS-Asian-Fit-807IR-606626.html) ## 10. Digital picture frame Easy-to-use digital picture frames make the perfect Christmas gift for your mum, friends or your parents. This is a great gift to make memories even more long-lasting. It should come with a USB cord and hours of battery life. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/d6a1c88a45df128835236b200f9a69c014b7b759e2ee5de185f17f388ff98edd?ts=1729480980)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43831?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.banggood.com%2f) We found this at: [Bang Good](https://au.banggood.com/Frameo-10_1-Inch-Smart-WiFi-Digital-Photo-Frame-1280x800-IPS-LCD-Touch-Screen-Auto-Rotate-Portrait-and-Landscape-Built-in-16GB-Memory-Share-Moments-Instantly-via-Frameo-App-from-Anywhere-EU-Plug-Adapter-p-1998341.html?cur_warehouse=CN&ID=628783047757&rmmds=search) ## 11. Sunrise alarm clock If you need to find the perfect present for the types of sleepers who need to get up on schedule, like students or office workers, get an alarm clock. 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Made with organic oils, this set offers three refreshing scents: Citrus, Rose, and Tea Tree, each crafted to leave your skin feeling soft and revitalised. Free from synthetic ingredients, it’s ideal for those looking to bring natural, sustainable products into their routine. A thoughtful gift that combines luxury with nature’s best, perfect for anyone wanting to care for themselves and the planet. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/2fa80b6c1d0da7be36acf00d8099e80d6f206567ccc664cbbee06527c984d72f?ts=1729483044)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fdr-bronners-pure-castile-soap-liquid-summer-lovin-237ml-x-3-pack-citrus-rose-tea-tree%2f) We found this at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fdr-bronners-pure-castile-soap-liquid-summer-lovin-237ml-x-3-pack-citrus-rose-tea-tree%2f) ## 14. Thermal printer If you have friends or family who love watching those viral organisation videos, here’s a sleek gift. They can make many cool tags (even if with images) with this handy tool. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/ed977ba922e0b7cead81729c938de689de628655a942de7ec610aa79b44dbee0?ts=1729483180)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2f) We found this at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2f) ## 15. Portable photo printer Speaking of printers, portable photo printers are also a nice gift idea that’s going to be adored by everyone. It’s also a great gift for teens who love photography. 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This is a wonderful choice for those who appreciate unique, timeless fashion with a fresh twist. [![](https://princesshighway.com.au/cdn/shop/files/PGFY349_009_1_768x.jpg?v=1728568865)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.princesshighway.com.au%2f) We found this at: [Princess Highway](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.princesshighway.com.au%2f) ## 19. French Flax Linen Apron in Sage: The Perfect Gift for Cooking Enthusiasts For the friend or family member who channels their inner chef—or dreams of a homestead lifestyle like Nara Smith or Ballerina Farms—this French Flax Linen Apron in Sage is a beautifully practical gift. Made from high-quality, breathable linen, it’s as stylish as it is functional, with a soft sage hue that complements any kitchen. This apron adds a touch of elegance to everyday cooking, baking, or gardening, and it’s durable enough to handle all their culinary adventures. Thoughtful, timeless, and effortlessly chic—this is the perfect gift for anyone who loves spending time in the kitchen. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/0ca4af4f453022cc5f63e9ee3665d589507d40437c588205560ce55e6779ecf0?ts=1729490077)](https://www.ilovelinen.com.au/products/french-flax-linen-apron-in-sage)We found this at: [I Love Linen](https://www.ilovelinen.com.au/products/french-flax-linen-apron-in-sage) ## 20. **A Cleaner World: Eco-Friendly Clean Sweep Collection** Gifting cleaning products may seem unconventional, but the EcoStore Clean Sweep Collection makes it a thoughtful, practical, and eco-conscious choice! This collection brings the power of organic, plant-based cleaning solutions to everyday messes, making homes healthier and safer for little ones. With everything from all-purpose cleaners to dishwashing essentials, this kit replaces harsh chemicals with gentle, biodegradable ingredients. It’s perfect for any mum wanting a safe, sustainable way to keep her home sparkling. Let’s make eco-friendly cleaning the new norm – after all, a clean home and a cleaner planet make the ultimate gift! [![](https://ecostore.com/media/catalog/product/cache/bb14c7b4351594bbcd85fe2d1afc5374/e/0/e0565_websitebundles_cleansweep_v1_.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/85834?Url=https%3a%2f%2fecostore.com%2fau%2fclean-sweep-collection-unit%2f) We found this at: [EcoStore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/85834?Url=https%3a%2f%2fecostore.com%2fau%2fclean-sweep-collection-unit%2f) ## List of the best Christmas gifts of 2024 (cont.) ## 21. Give the Gift of Stories: Books for Everyone This Christmas With physical books making a big comeback, thanks in part to the BookTok trend, books have become a popular and thoughtful Christmas gift once again. At QBD, you’ll find a wide range of titles to suit everyone on your list—from gripping novels and inspiring memoirs to practical guides and stunning coffee table books. There’s truly a book for every interest and personality, making it a timeless gift choice that’s both personal and meaningful. This year, surprise your loved ones with a story they’ll cherish long after the holiday season. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Screenshot-2024-11-05-200655.png "Screenshot 2024-11-05 200655 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2f)Screenshot 2024 11 05 200655We found this at: [QBD Books](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fhoover/9781471156267/) ## 22. **Back to Health Meal Plan: A Gift of Wellness** Give the gift of nourishment with the Back to Health Meal Plan subscription from Garden of Vegan. Perfect for health-conscious friends and family, this meal plan offers a delicious, plant-based approach to support their wellness journey. With thoughtfully crafted, nutrient-dense meals, it’s more than just convenient—it’s a meaningful way to show you care about their health and happiness. Each meal is designed to fuel their day while aligning with their wellness goals, making it an ideal gift for anyone striving to prioritise their well-being. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/f90664f334554004d4518e3eec59533a73f840eb09eb931a7560c91bbe0b5f46?ts=1729490360)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79284?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgardenofvegan.com.au%2f) We found this at: [Garden of Vegan](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79284?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgardenofvegan.com.au%2f) ## 23. KONKA V19 Fascia Gun The KONKA V19 Fascia Gun is a game-changer for anyone looking to unwind tight muscles and boost recovery. With six adjustable speeds and interchangeable massage heads, it targets sore spots and melts away tension like a pro. It’s especially handy for busy mums on their feet all day, needing quick relief from aches. The 1200mAh battery offers impressive power and portability, perfect for home or on-the-go use. Whether you’re dealing with post-workout stiffness or just need a relaxing massage at the end of a long day, this massager delivers a professional-quality experience at a fantastic price point. ![trending Christmas gift](https://imgaz.staticbg.com/thumb/large/oaupload/banggood/images/3E/71/8138ada1-b670-46b0-81fe-7332e458120a.jpg.webp) We found this at: [Bang Good](https://www.banggood.com/) ## 24. Matcha It’ll be an injustice if I don’t include matcha in this guide to find the perfect gift for Christmas. This versatile drink can be turned into a hot tea, hot latte, iced latte, and more. You can even bake with it. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/10482df89bd29b1d9c7e82f2a00ff5f6ee1d34646679d4897322135515f74b19?ts=1729492142)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fmorlife-matcha-brain-nootropic-creamy-white-choc-100g)We found this at: [Chemist Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fmorlife-matcha-brain-nootropic-creamy-white-choc-100g) ## 25. Insulated travel mug Finally, to cap off our list of this year’s best trending Christmas gifts is … reusable vacuum drinkware! Insulated tumblers have been trending crazy over TikTok for the past months. The mug version is a unique gift. Personalise it by having it laser engraved with the gift recipient’s name. [![trending Christmas gift](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/40b4533bdc3fa5e974c96e3775d031b6d5ebda6e9dc21d51c10c7debd82595c2?ts=1729478663)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61178?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.harrisscarfe.com.au%2fkitchen-dining%2fdrinkware%2ftravel-cups-mugs%2fthermos-king-470-ml-stainless-steel-vacuum-insulated-travel-mug-slate%2fBP654481-nc) We found this at: [Harris Scarfe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61178?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.harrisscarfe.com.au%2fkitchen-dining%2fdrinkware%2ftravel-cups-mugs%2fthermos-king-470-ml-stainless-steel-vacuum-insulated-travel-mug-slate%2fBP654481-nc) With so many exciting options on our list of trending Christmas gifts, there’s plenty to make this season unforgettable! But as we welcome these new toys and gadgets into our homes, let’s keep safety in mind—especially when it comes to batteries. Many popular gifts, like remote-controlled toys and interactive devices, rely on small but powerful coin batteries. [Energizer](https://energizer.com/apac/australia/power/) has recently introduced its world-first 3-in-1 Child Shield Innovation in Australia, offering added protection for lithium coin batteries to create a safer environment for kids. Taking a moment to choose safe options helps ensure the festive season is filled with joy, excitement, and extra peace of mind. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Image019.png "Image019 - Beanstalk Mums")](energizer.asia/Australia/) Happy shopping! Remember to check out our exclusive Beanstalk Discount Directory, where we’ve handpicked special deals just for you. Enjoy discounts of 10% to 20% off on a fantastic selection of items from trusted brands and services – perfect for making your shopping even more rewarding. Take a look here to start saving today: [Beanstalk Discount Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/)! **Didn’t find what you’re looking for? See even more gift ideas here:** - **[10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/)** - **[Best Christmas gifts for mums to give themselves in](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-mums-to-give-themselves/)** - **[Best Christmas gifts for men in 2024: Top editor picks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/50-christmas-gifts-ideas-men-under-50/)** *(Transparency statement: We get commissions when you buy through our links.)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/trending-christmas-gifts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/trending-christmas-gifts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, gifts, Xmas, what to buy --- ### [25 Best secret Santa gift ideas in 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/secret-santa-gift-ideas/) **Published:** November 6, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Need a memorable Secret Santa present that is sure to impress? Are you hunting for something practical, funny, or downright unique? Whatever you’re looking for, I’ve got a treasure trove of ideas lined up for 2024. This guide brings you the coolest Secret Santa gift ideas, with plenty of options to surprise your giftee and avoid those awkward moments of “Oh, thanks…” Let’s dive in to make your Secret Santa exchange the highlight of the holidays! ## **25 Best Secret Santa gift ideas** ## **1. Bluetooth speaker** A Bluetooth speaker is the ultimate gift for anyone who loves portable music. Perfect for bringing tunes to the office, a picnic, or even the beach, this device is a win for any giftee who enjoys a little rhythm in their life. [![Bluetooth speaker | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://assets.kogan.com/images/thebeautyshop/BEA-8292585504993/2-b69c4bfa3b-sd873e136955643288686f9f3c07abedei_7e310539-cee7-4ee1-9664-5c59555e3d4e.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1v0GQ) I found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1v0GQ) ## **2. Electric mini waffle maker** For the breakfast enthusiast, an electric mini waffle maker is a cute and compact gift idea. This mini kitchen appliance is perfect for making single servings of waffles or even fun creations like hash browns. ![Electric mini waffle maker ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/7f6e1a1a-ad55-44ef-8447-fcaa8e4b673e.jpg "7f6e1a1a-ad55-44ef-8447-fcaa8e4b673e - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: Gifts Australia ## **3. Jewellery case** A jewellery case is a fabulous Secret Santa gift for anyone who loves organising their bling. This little case offers compartments for rings, bracelets, and more, making it a great gift for the organised accessoriser. It’s the perfect size for storing everything from delicate rings to [yellow gold necklaces](https://www.bevilles.com.au/collections/yellow-gold-necklaces), keeping your favourite pieces safe and tangle-free when you’re on the go. [![Jewellery case | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://img.crazysales.com.au/products_pictures/292/292497_2520845_HD.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-jewelry-boxes-organizer-with-lock-mirror-jewelry-dispaly-case-for-earring-ring-gifts-for-girls-mon-white-292497.html) Available at: [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-jewelry-boxes-organizer-with-lock-mirror-jewelry-dispaly-case-for-earring-ring-gifts-for-girls-mon-white-292497.html) ## **4. Popcorn maker** Nothing says cosy holiday season quite like a tabletop popcorn maker. This fun and quirky gift adds a touch of old-school charm and is ideal for creating popcorn kernels in classic style. [![Popcorn maker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/69fba9c5-3ba4-4d48-a0f4-392c31b5b788.jpg "69fba9c5-3ba4-4d48-a0f4-392c31b5b788 - Beanstalk Mums")](kogan.4p72pk.net/jeX7v5) I found this at: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/jeX7v5) ## **5. Perfect gift for anyone: Portable charger** A portable charger is a practical Secret Santa gift for colleagues and friends who seem to always be running out of battery. It’s a lifesaver that they’ll actually use, and the wireless option adds extra convenience. [![Portable charger | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://assets.kogan.com/images/sobre/SBR-S00A1611/2-d6e9c1edb4-anker-anker-622-magnetic-battery-maggo-5000mah-wireless-portable-chargersobre-smart-living-store-641245.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/19eYmd) I found this at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/19eYmd) ## **6. Face mask or sheet mask** Face masks are a lovely gift to give anyone looking to unwind. It’s a simple yet thoughtful Christmas gift that’ll add a touch of self-care to their day. [![Face mask or sheet mask](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Be34716f-bdd6-40c1-b8ec-8dcde794012a.jpg "Be34716f-bdd6-40c1-b8ec-8dcde794012a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3NTnXHN) I found this at: [LOOKFANTASTIC](https://fave.co/3NTnXHN) ## **7. Succulent planter** A succulent is a cute gift that’s low-maintenance yet brightens up any desk or window. A small planter filled with a hardy succulent is a great present idea for pretty much everyone, from green thumbs to plant newbies. ![Succulent planter | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/B8c1fe53-8dca-43ff-a690-7bcbf7091bb1-1.jpg "B8c1fe53-8dca-43ff-a690-7bcbf7091bb1 - Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: Gifts Australia ## **8. Reusable tote bag** A reusable tote bag is perfect for anyone trying to go green. It’s also practical, machine-washable, and stylish. Ideal for those impromptu grocery runs or as an extra carry-on. [![Reusable tote bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/3aa73f6b-f49f-4919-9dd9-5a1a3b901e85.jpg "3aa73f6b-f49f-4919-9dd9-5a1a3b901e85 - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/BnE36L) I found this at: [My Deal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/BnE36L) ## **9. Eye mask** A weighted eye mask is a perfect gift for anyone needing better sleep. It’s comfortable to wear and great for both home and travel. It’s the ideal gift for night owls! [![eye mask | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://static.thcdn.com/images/large/webp//productimg/1600/1600/13311398-6734900600643835.jpg)](https://fave.co/4eiEkIo) I found this at: [LOOKFANTASTIC](https://fave.co/4eiEkIo) ## **Gift ideas for Secret Santa 2024 (cont.)** ## **10. For the foodie: Maldon sea salt flakes** A small jar of Maldon sea salt flakes is a thoughtful gift for anyone who enjoys cooking. This gourmet seasoning makes a perfect addition to holiday gift guides for the culinary-inclined. [![Maldon sea salt flakes](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81CXOs6zMPL._SL1500_.jpg)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Xmyabg) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Xmyabg) ## **11. Ceramic Christmas mug** A ceramic mug is a simple yet great gift. Choose a mug with a unique design or slogan to make your giftee’s morning coffee a little brighter. [![Ceramic Christmas mug | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/987e5cb1-2291-419d-b7c1-809c6828d55a.jpg "Christmas ceramic mugs - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fchristmas%2fchristmas-kitchen-dining%2fchristmas-drinkware%2fbouclair-christmas-holly-magic-cottage-mugs%2fBP80640434-red) I found this at: [Spotlight](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fchristmas%2fchristmas-kitchen-dining%2fchristmas-drinkware%2fbouclair-christmas-holly-magic-cottage-mugs%2fBP80640434-red) ## **12. Fidget popper** A fidget popper is a must-have for anyone needing a break from their screen. This fun gadget is great for coworkers who enjoy something lighthearted and interactive. [![Fidget popper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/43698a1d-5cdb-42c8-b229-c3f1befcb73d.jpg "43698a1d-5cdb-42c8-b229-c3f1befcb73d - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/bObBAk) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/bObBAk) ## **13. AirTag** An AirTag makes for a thoughtful gift for the person who’s prone to lose their belongings. Small but mighty, this tech gadget can track down keys, wallets, or even bags in a snap. [![AirTag | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/801b4561-940f-480e-bd78-5db18be0eab0.jpg "801b4561-940f-480e-bd78-5db18be0eab0 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/GKXNXB) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/GKXNXB) ## **14. A gift for your boss: Yankee candle** A Yankee candle brings warmth and fragrance to any room. Choose a scent that fits the season, like pine or cinnamon, to add to the festive feel. [![ Yankee candle](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h8d/hfe/51287578116126.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/55aNaD) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/55aNaD) ## **15. Travel neck pillow** This Ever Rest travel neck pillow is packed with urethane memory foam. That means it moulds perfectly to the contours of your head, neck, and spine so that the mystery traveller on your list will arrive at every destination refreshed and actually happy (imagine that!). The memory foam is antibacterial and resistant to mould and dust mites, so it’s perfect for folks with allergies who want to avoid a sneeze-fest on the go. Plus, the removable cover makes cleaning up easy, because nobody wants a funky travel pillow! [![Travel neck pillow | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/4ef2815e-8ecd-4561-bb64-773d48f77979.jpg "4ef2815e-8ecd-4561-bb64-773d48f77979 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fbedroom%2fbedding%2fpillows%2fspecialty-pillows%2fever-rest-memory-foam-travel-neck-pillow%2fBP80179878-natural) I found this at: [Spotlight](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fbedroom%2fbedding%2fpillows%2fspecialty-pillows%2fever-rest-memory-foam-travel-neck-pillow%2fBP80179878-natural) ## **16. Phone stand** A phone stand is a great Secret Santa gift idea for those who love Facetime, TikTok, or hands-free working. It’s practical, compact, and a handy gadget for the tech-savvy giftee. [![Phone stand](https://assets.kogan.com/images/snapmango/MGP-82572/2-0ada0dfbb6-82572__2.png?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ra4K7R) I found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ra4K7R) ## **17. Retro video game console** Bring back those Saturday morning arcade vibes with this mini 16-bit game console. It’s the ultimate gift for that friend who can’t stop talking about the “good old days.” It comes with 156 classic games and a colourful 2.8” screen. Plus, it’s got a rechargeable battery and TV hookup, so they can play anywhere. [![Retro video game console | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Retro-video-game-console.jpg "Retro video game console - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/N9BxO2) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/N9BxO2) ## **18. Work-from-home essential: Grinch Throw Blanket** For those days when you *really* don’t feel like answering to the boss, this Grinch throw blanket is the perfect work-from-home essential. Cozy, colourful, and with just the right amount of attitude, it’s a festive way to add warmth and a little cheeky style to any home office setup. Ideal for curling up and pretending the next email doesn’t exist! [![Cotton throw blanket](https://img.crazysales.com.au/products_pictures/341/341776_3000300_OR.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-christmas-grinch-blanket-flannel-throw-150-200cm-colorful-holiday-decor-for-halloween-thanksgiving-christmas-decorations-for-sofa-or-bed-341776.html) I found this at: [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-christmas-grinch-blanket-flannel-throw-150-200cm-colorful-holiday-decor-for-halloween-thanksgiving-christmas-decorations-for-sofa-or-bed-341776.html) ## **19. Ashdene Native Art Apron: Style Meets Function** Bring a touch of Australian artistry to the kitchen with the Ashdene Native Art Apron. Featuring beautiful indigenous artwork, this apron isn’t just a visual treat—it’s made for comfort, too, with an adjustable strap to ensure the perfect fit. Whether it’s for the home chef or a creative friend, this unique apron is a stylish and thoughtful Secret Santa gift that combines cultural appreciation with everyday practicality. I found this at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2f) ## **20. Grown-up colouring book** A grown-up colouring book is a fun way to unwind. Choose one with intricate designs to help de-stress and encourage creativity. Colouring books are all the rage, especially for stressed colleagues in desperate need of some alone time. This funny book is just the ticket with plenty of swear words that they can colour in. [![Grown-up colouring book](https://www.dymocks.com.au/media/catalog/product/978/164/643/29/9781646432905.jpg?quality=80&bg-color=255,255,255&fit=bounds&height=446&width=280&canvas=280:446)](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/jeX7o0) Available at: [Dymocks Books](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/jeX7o0) ## **21. Lululemon Release and Recover Ball Set: Unwind Anytime, Anywhere** Help your Secret Santa recipient de-stress on the go with the Lululemon Release and Recover Ball Set. Perfect for releasing muscle tension and easing into relaxation, this compact duo is designed for targeted relief wherever it’s needed. Ideal for the fitness enthusiast or anyone who could use a little self-care, this gift brings a touch of luxury to their wellness routine. [![ Lululemon massage balls](https://images.lululemon.com/is/image/lululemon/LU9AKXS_0023_1?size=800,800)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43371?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lululemon.com.au%2fen-au%2fp%2frelease-and-recover-ball-set%2fprod10190225.html) I found this at: [Lululemon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43371?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lululemon.com.au%2fen-au%2fp%2frelease-and-recover-ball-set%2fprod10190225.html) ## **22. Personalised necklace** Make your Secret Santa gift unforgettable with this personalised birthstone and initial necklace! Crafted in 925 sterling silver or 18K gold plating, it’s both timeless and luxe. Choose a birthstone to celebrate a special month and add an initial for that extra personal touch. [![Personalised necklace | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/21f991d2-cbe8-4549-9c75-dd27cf76f1dd.jpg "21f991d2-cbe8-4549-9c75-dd27cf76f1dd - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/40B1wyz) I found this at: [Not On The High Street](https://fave.co/40B1wyz) ## **23. Wireless earbuds** Give the gift of focus with the Kogan H2 Pro Active noise-cancelling earphones. It’s an awesome Secret Santa pick for anyone who loves to focus at work while listening to music! With active noise cancellation and up to 24 hours of playback (with case), these earphones bring serious sound and convenience. Plus, the sleek metallic finish and fast USB-C charging make these earphones as stylish as they are practical! [![Wireless earbuds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/591b4bf9-6e28-42db-8f25-4eb302d0cee2.jpg "591b4bf9-6e28-42db-8f25-4eb302d0cee2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/RGPreg) I found these at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/RGPreg) ## **24. Make-up remover** Clinique’s makeup remover is a thoughtful Secret Santa pick that’ll make your giftee’s skincare routine smoother and irritation-free!! This gentle yet effective formula wipes away waterproof makeup and stubborn lipsticks effortlessly, all without a trace of fragrance. It’s ideal for anyone who’s experienced the sting of makeup mishaps. [![Make-up remover | Secret Santa gift ideas](https://image-optimizer-reg.production.sephora-asia.net/images/product_images/closeup_1_Product_200012_2520Clinique_2520Take_2520The_2520Day_2520O_ff7c66681c8e7b0f7a5fdd9ddf422413d0a09044_1724040699.png)](https://fave.co/3YyXAvD) I found this at: [Sephora](https://fave.co/3YyXAvD) ## **25. Hot Gift Alert: The Australian Firefighters Calendar** For a Secret Santa gift that’s sure to spark some laughs and a few blushes, the *Australian Firefighters Calendar* is a perfect choice! Featuring Australia’s finest firefighters—and a few adorable animals—it’s a lighthearted gift that combines humour with heartwarming charm. Ideal for adding a little fire to the gift exchange, this calendar is sure to bring a smile and keep spirits bright all year long. ![](https://media.australianfirefighterscalendar.com/catalog/blowups/product-51-240627-103937.jpg) ## **Final thoughts** Finding the perfect Secret Santa gift can sometimes feel like a tall order, but with the variety on this list, you’re bound to strike gold with something memorable, fun, or downright useful. Last year, I went with a portable coffee maker for my office Secret Santa exchange, and let me tell you, it was a hit! We had coffee parties, which made our weekly meetings a little more exciting. Whether you’re shopping for a coworker, friend, or family member, this guide gives you all the inspiration you need to find a gift that they’ll actually use and appreciate. Let’s make this holiday season one to remember! ***Further reading: [10 Hilarious Christmas outfits for festive fun.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-christmas-outfits/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/secret-santa-gift-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/secret-santa-gift-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** kris kringle, gift exchange --- ### [15 Mocktails to drink with your kids on New Year's Eve](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mocktails/) **Published:** November 7, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** New Year’s Eve doesn’t have to be boozy, but it does need a celebratory cocktail or two. With my list of mocktails you can get the best of both worlds. I gave up alcohol two years ago, yay me. Since then I’ve navigated my way through many special events and have found non alcoholic cocktails to be a life saviour. They taste good, you can share them with your kids and they inject glitz and glamour into any occasion, especially New Year’s Eve. I also love that when you’re holding a mocktail nobody asks the dreaded question: Why aren’t you drinking? Whatever you have planned for New Year’s Eve, here is a list of my very favourite mocktails to enjoy with your kids any time of the day … hangover not included. ***Further reading: [10 Ideas to celebrate New Year’s Eve with your kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/celebrate-new-years-eve-with-kids/)*** ## 15 Mocktails to drink with your kids on New Year’s Eve ### 1. Virgin Mojito Alcohol-free mojitos for New Year? Yummy! And super easy. You need just four ingredients: sugar, mint leaves, limes and soda or tonic water. Feel free to use a sugar alternative (like I did — it wasn’t noticeable at all and my kids loved it) like Splenda, Stevia, or Agave Nectar to reduce calories but not the taste. Another tip: Use all three limes and mix them with the mint and sugar for maximum flavour. ![Virgin Mojito | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2021/11/Mojito-mocktail-c4f3e75.jpg?quality=90&fit=700,466) I found this recipe for Virgin Mojito on: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/mojito-mocktail) ### 2. Gummy Bear Mocktail This drink is too pretty! My kids and I just love the pop of pink and yellow from the gummy bears. So festive for NYE and very easy to make. Just add your favourite colour gummies to the white cranberry juice and pop it in the fridge to chill for around 30 plus minutes. Finally, top the glass off with watermelon lime bubbly. I think I’m going to serve this again at my kid’s birthday party. It’s just that good! ![Gummy Bear Mocktails | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://kimspireddiy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/gummy-bear-mocktail-1.jpg) I found this recipe Gummy Bear Mocktail on: [Kimspired DIY](https://kimspireddiy.com/gummy-bear-mocktail-how-to-make-non-alcoholic-gummy-bear-punch-easy-quick-recipe-fun-kids-juice-party-idea-gummy-bear-diy/) ### 3. Italian Soda Mocktail I had cream sodas with my siblings at the local diner when I was little and this tasty drink took me back to those hot summer days. But it’s not just for summer. It’s the perfect drink to sip when you’re watching fireworks live (or on the telly).You and your kids will absolutely love this creamy, syrup-flavoured fizzy drink. Try out different flavoured syrups and add more heavy cream or half and half to make an ice cream float. ![Italian Soda | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/italian-soda5-1651254455.jpg?crop=1.00xw:0.612xh;0,0.184xh&resize=980:%2A) I found this recipe for Italian Soda on: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a39787192/italian-soda-recipe/) ### 4. Orange Creamsicle Shirley Temple The iconic Shirley Temple drink was named after the famous child actress from the ’30s and it’s remained super popular to this day. Maybe because it’s just that delicious. It’s also non-alcoholic and perfect for children and mums to enjoy on New Year’s Eve. The flavour comes from the cream soda, orange soda and grenadine syrup, plus the cherry and orange garnish makes this drink extra pretty. ![Orange Creamsicle Shirley Temple | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://mocktail.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/orange_creamsicle_shirley_temple_3-720x986.jpg) I found this recipe for Orange Creamsicle Shirley Temple on: [Mocktail.net](https://mocktail.net/shirley-temple-drink-recipe/) ### 5. Chocolate Peppermint Martini Mocktail I always crave some good chocolate during the holidays. This Chocolate Peppermint mocktail is like Christmas in drink form, with chocolatey and minty candy cane flavours served up in a fancy martini glass ringed with crushed candy canes (it looks as cute as it sounds). Your kids will love this! I love the drink on its own, but if you’re feeling the party mood, sneak in some alcohol into your glass like I did … hey, it’s NYE! ![Chocolate Peppermint Martini Mocktail | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://mindovermunch.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Chocolate-Peppermint-Martini-Mocktail-1-728x486.jpg) I found this recipe Chocolate Peppermint Martini on: [Mind Over Munch](https://mindovermunch.com/recipes/seasonal/holiday/chocolate-peppermint-martini-mocktail/) ## Alcohol free cocktail recipes (cont.) ### 6. Cotton Candy Mocktail This Cotton Candy mocktail is the magical drink you’re looking for to ring in the new year. Impress your kids with some science and sweetness in a glass. They’ll be wowed when the cotton candy disappears as you pour in the liquid. Don’t worry, this is way easier to make than it looks. Decorate your martini or champagne glasses, add the cotton candy, and add the liquid (mix the sparkling water, cranberry juice, strawberry puree, lime juice and ice in a shaker). ![Cotton Candy Mocktails](https://www.busylittlekiddies.com/wp-content/uploads/Cotton-Candy-Mocktails-Cocktail-for-kids-new-year-birthday-party-food-7.jpg) I found this recipe for Cotton Candy Mocktails on: [Busy Little Kiddies](https://www.busylittlekiddies.com/cotton-candy-mocktails/) ### 7. Mango Pine Lime Slushies Mango and pineapple drinks scream summer to me, but this one is just as good for NYE if you’re in a vacation mood or you want some chill beach vibes. My kids and I had a blast making this yummy drink as we listened to party music. We pulsed the mango, pineapple, lime cordial and coconut water in a blender and poured them into serving glasses, then topped with coconut cream, shaved coconut and lime wedges. I also made an adult version with alcohol for the other guests, and it was a winner. ![Mango Pine Mocktails](https://img.taste.com.au/tcijdgfz/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2017/09/pine-lime-slushie-131052-1.jpg) I found this recipe for Mango Pine Lime Slushies on: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/mango-pine-lime-slushies/x4yf0Xnj) ### 8. Non-Alcoholic Sangria Speaking of tropical, here’s a sangria recipe for your New Year’s Eve party that tastes as amazing as it looks. I usually make a mixed sangria with red wine, seasonal fruit, and soda water, but you won’t miss the alcohol at all when you take a sip of this refreshing mocktail. Instead of wine, I used ginger ale and sparkling water, added passion fruit juice, and decorated with sliced fruit. Then I let it sit in the fridge for a bit to let the flavours meld together. Don’t you just love the green star fruit and the red cranberries? Tropical and Christmasy! ![Non-alcoholic Sangiras | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-gmi-pmc.edge-generalmills.com/d72bb6e3-c8c6-4fa5-a11c-fd0d60f66855.jpg) I found this recipe for Non-Alcoholic Sangria on: [Tablespoon](https://www.tablespoon.com/recipes/non-alcoholic-sangria/28d78fb7-1dba-4728-9674-28a17dcac18b) ### 9. Toasted Marshmallow Campfire Cocktail If your kids can’t live without marshmallows, serve them this campfire mocktail with marshmallow fluff, hot espresso, simple syrup, and heaps and heaps of toasted marshmallows for garnish. It’s the perfect drink to sip when you’re watching holiday movies. The recipe has marshmallow flavoured vodka in it if you want to make an adult version. For the kid-friendly drink, replace with mocha syrup or coffee cream if you like. ![Toasted Marshmallow Campfire Cocktail | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/easter-cocktails-toasted-marshmallow-1601663999.png?crop=0.9973856209150327xw:1xh;center,top&resize=980:%2A) I found this recipe for Toasted Marshmallow Campfire Cocktail on: [Woman’s Day](https://www.womansday.com/food-recipes/food-drinks/g828/summer-drink-recipes/?slide=16) ### 10. Easy Snow Cones Snow cones for NYE? Yes and yes! This snow cone recipe is just brilliant for younger kids and a great way to cool off after a warm day. These take just a few minutes to make and my kids had fun helping me with the prep. We tried different flavours of Kool-AID and made our own mixes. It was like a fun little science experiment and the kids enjoyed pouring the coloured liquids into the crushed ice. ![Easy Snow Cones | Mocktails](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Snow-cone-syrup%20700-1.jpg "Snow-cone-syrup 700-1 - Beanstalk Mums")Snow cone syrup 700 1 I found this recipe for Easy Snow Cones on: [Little Cooks Reading Books](https://littlecooksreadingbooks.com/homemade-snow-cones-with-snow/) ## Non alcoholic cocktails to enjoy with your kids (cont.) ### 11. Watermelon Lemonade If you’re looking for a refreshing drink for NYE that’s non-carbonated, try this watermelon lemonade. We made our lemonade from scratch but you can use ready-made lemonade to save time. I love this recipe because once you have the base drink mastered, you can mix it up with unique flavours and customise your drink however you want. This one is as easy as it gets: half watermelon, half lemonade, and frozen watermelon chunks for a drink you can eat! ![Watermelon Lemonade | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/del.h-cdn.co/assets/16/25/delish-lemonade-watermelon.jpg?crop=1xw:0.99975xh;center,top&resize=980:%2A) I found this recipe for Watermelon Lemonade on: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/food/g2164/non-alcoholic-drinks/?slide=28) ### 12. Virgin Pina Coladas Fancy a virgin pina colada for your New Year’s eve party? Here’s my go to recipe that is super simple and delicious. Blend pineapple juice (freshly strained or store-bought), cream of coconut, and crushed ice to make slushies, and decorate your glasses with maraschino cherries, pineapple wedges and cocktail umbrellas. Sipping these with my kids in the backyard is like being transported to some tropical beach resort, no travel required. I almost always make an adult version of these mocktails for the guests, but the drink is yummy on its own. ![Virgin Pina Coladas | Mocktails](https://houseofnasheats.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Virgin-Pi%C3%B1a-Coladas-Non-Alcoholic-3.jpg) I found this recipe for Virgin Pina Coladas on: [House of Nash Eats](https://houseofnasheats.com/virgin-pina-coladas-non-alcoholic/) ### 13. New Year Sunrise I discovered this lovely New Year Sunrise mocktail on Pinterest and want to make it for our family celebration. The colours look like a lovely orange yellow gradient (hence the name) that is perfect for tall serving glasses. You need just 3 ingredients (orange juice, grenadine, and sugar-free lemonade) and fruit slices of your choice for garnish. I add fancy sprinkler straws to make our drinks extra festive, but feel free to skip. You can also use gold or silver cocktail umbrellas. ![New Year Sunrise | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/Super-easy-3-ingredient-mocktail-for-kids-perfect-for-New-Years-Eve-and-other-celebrations-Eats-Amazing-UK.jpg) I found this recipe for New Year Sunrise on: [Eats Amazing](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/family-friendly-recipes/drinks/new-year-sunrise-easy-mocktail-kids) ### 14. Kiwi Lemonade Spritzer It’s nice to just chill with the family at the end of a warm day sipping cool drinks. Me and my kids love to cool off with a sparkling kiwi lemonade spritzer. It would be perfect to count down the hours to the new year with these! They’re easy to make and so refreshing for hot nights. I blitzed the kiwis and sugar in a blender until there were no lumps and added the puree to the juice and water mix. I let it chill in the freezer until really cold but not frozen, and poured into tall glasses. Fill the rest of the glass with ice and seltzer water and serve. ![Kiwi Lemon Spritzer | Non Alcoholic Cocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/wdy.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/15/09/54efc3dfa1c6d_-_kiwi-lemonade-0708-md.jpg?crop=1xw:1.0xh;center,top&resize=980:%2A) I found this recipe for Kiwi Lemonade Spritzer on: [Woman’s Day](https://www.womansday.com/food-recipes/food-drinks/recipes/a21009/kiwi-lemonade-spritzer/) ### 15. Mai Tai Mocktail Last but not least on our list of non-alcoholic cocktails to drink with your kids on NYE: A Mai Tai mocktail or the perfect party punch as I like to call it. I made this one with pineapple juice, orange juice, lime juice, almond syrup, grenadine, and sparkling water, and let the kids go to town with the garnish. We used lime wedges and cherries (we ran out of cocktail umbrellas) and the drinks we’re a hit with everyone! Even the adults had seconds. The best drink to enjoy with your seafood kebabs and barbecue. ![Mai Tai Mocktails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/gtV33xG/1.jpg) I found this recipe for Mai Tai Cocktail on: [Liz On Call](https://lizoncall.com/mai-tai-mocktail-party-punch/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mocktails/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mocktails/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas --- ### [Can naturopathy help with fertility?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/can-naturopathy-help-with-fertility/) **Published:** February 27, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Fertility and conception can be challenging for many couples, leaving many frustrated and unsure of how they can boost their fertility. Naturopathy can help here, offering a holistic approach that considers overall well-being alongside reproductive health. By targeting the root cause of health issues instead of just the symptoms, naturopathy can help to improve your fertility. How, you ask? Let our guide today show you! ## **How naturopathy helps with fertility** Naturopathy and naturopathic doctors can help couples improve their chances of conceiving by addressing the underlying cause of fertility issues. Typically, this involves balancing hormones, improving sperm and egg quality and creating a supportive environment for conception. How naturopathy achieves this is done through several methods, including: - **Acupuncture –** which helps to improve blood flow to your reproductive organs and reduce stress - **Botanical medicine –** to support reproductive function and overall health - **Lifestyle counselling –** that can help couples make sustainable changes, supporting fertility - **Nutritional counselling –** which addresses dietary deficiencies and supports hormonal balance - **Stress management techniques –** to reduce the impact of stress on fertility Naturopathy looks at the foundations for preconception care to help with fertility, which we have detailed below for you to learn more about this course of treatment. ### **Egg quality** Egg quality usually declines with the age of a woman, but there are other factors that can reduce the quality of eggs. These include an unhealthy diet, smoking, a sedentary lifestyle, and underlying conditions like ovarian cysts or endometriosis. Naturopaths work with an individual to support the quality of the egg. They might encourage lifestyle changes, using nutraceuticals to support hormonal imbalances and supplements to reduce oxidative stress, which can diminish egg quality. ### **Sperm quality** Sperm quality refers to sperm count, motility, and morphology. It can be impacted by dietary and lifestyle choices. A naturopath will provide education on the importance of a nutrient-rich diet and appropriate exercises to support healthy sperm production. They can also explore environmental factors, testosterone levels, and stress management, which can impact healthy sperm production. ### **Holistic Health** A large part of naturopathy is holistic health, where you focus on treating the whole person rather than one health concern they may have. You will look after the overall health of the body. To do this, a comprehensive intake and lab testing are conducted to assess your current health. From this, a naturopath can create a treatment approach that supports a healthy pregnancy for the patient. Alongside lifestyle changes, botanicals and acupuncture will be offered to support conception. They will also look at psycho-emotional stressors that you can encounter during fertility difficulties and help you manage these. ### **Adjunctive care to conventional fertility treatments** You don’t need to choose between naturopathic and conventional treatments, as they can be used in conjunction with one another. Naturopathic care can be used alongside IVF or other fertility treatments. ## **Lifestyle tips that can improve fertility** While naturopathy can be helpful, in some cases, changing your lifestyle can be enough to improve your fertility. Below are several ways that you can improve fertility through your lifestyle. Remember, these might not work for everyone, but they can improve your chances of conception. ### **Reduce your weight** Being overweight can impact ovulation, especially if you have excess fat in your abdomen. This can be linked with insulin resistance, where your body works harder to keep your blood sugar at normal levels. This can cause irregular menstrual cycles, making it harder to conceive. Some obese women also suffer from ovulation disorders, which prevent them from releasing eggs. By lowering your weight, you can avoid these conditions to help with fertility. Being overweight during pregnancy comes with its own set of challenges, too, so it’s better to address this issue now. ## **How naturopathy helps with fertility (cont.)** ### **Eat foods rich in antioxidants** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/1976aa64-a523-4feb-83ce-e73aa8a5d426-1067x800.jpg "1976aa64-a523-4feb-83ce-e73aa8a5d426 - Beanstalk Mums") Studies have found a positive link between antioxidant consumption and oocyte quality and maturation, implantation, and placenta formation. [Zinc also plays a role in ovulation](https://www.wagnerhealth.com.au/products/high-strength-zinc/) and the menstrual cycle, so eating more foods rich in antioxidants can improve your fertility. ### **Limit caffeine, tobacco, and alcohol** Caffeine, tobacco, and alcohol can impact your ability to get pregnant and negatively impact your baby’s health once you do conceive. It is a good idea to limit your consumption of these substances before conception. ### **Rescue stress** It can be tricky to do so, but lowering your stress can impact your [fertility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/fertility-options-for-single-women/ "fertility"). Psychological stress can impact your fertility and your physical health in general. Where possible, take time to find ways to reduce day-to-day stressors and improve your health and fertility. ### **Address the cause of fertility issues** It is always worth seeking professional help to see if there is an underlying or root cause of your fertility issues. There might be a health condition that is impacting your ability to conceive, and you should address it alongside making any lifestyle changes. ## **Find fertility naturopaths in Brisbane** Fertility naturopaths play an important role in helping you better understand your body and fertility. There are plenty of fertility naturopaths in Brisbane that can help you with your fertility journey, providing you with the care and support you need. Find your [fertility naturopaths in Brisbane today.](https://theshiftclinic.com.au/fertility-naturopaths-brisbane/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/can-naturopathy-help-with-fertility/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/can-naturopathy-help-with-fertility/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How to Get a Toddler to Sleep in Their Own Bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-get-a-toddler-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/) **Published:** May 19, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’ve ever woken up at 3 a.m. to find a toddler’s foot in your face, you’re not alone. The middle-of-the-night migration where your little one insists on sleeping in your bed is a rite of passage for many parents. It’s frustrating, yes, but then, it’s also very normal. Toddlers are navigating huge emotional and developmental shifts, and bedtime is often when all their needs for comfort, closeness, and control rise to the surface. Whether it’s separation anxiety, habit, or just plain protest, the challenge of getting your toddler to sleep in their own bed can feel endless. But it’s only a phase. With the right blend of patience, strategy, and support, the problem of how to get a toddler to sleep in their own bed can be solved. ## **Understanding Why They Won’t Stay in Their Bed** Toddlers may resist sleeping in their own bed for a variety of reasons: - [Separation anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/separation/kids-and-separation/), especially if there’s been a recent change at home, like a new sibling or starting daycare. - Fear of the dark or of being alone, which becomes more pronounced around age two. - Habit (If they’ve been co-sleeping, the transition may feel abrupt or unwelcome). - Big transitions like potty training or moving houses can unsettle sleep patterns. It’s also important to know the difference between a child who is truly not ready and one who is just putting up a fight. If your toddler becomes hysterical at bedtime or shows signs of true panic, it might be worth pausing the transition for a few weeks. But if they protest and then calm down with reassurance, they’re probably just adjusting. ## **Techniques That Work** Here are some proven techniques that can make bedtime feel less like a battle: ### **A Bedtime Routine That Whispers “Your Bed Is Safe”** ![How to get a toddler to sleep in their own bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Bedtime-routine-for-toddler-to-help-761x800.jpg "Bedtime routine for toddler to help - Beanstalk Mums") Kids thrive on consistency. So the more predictable and calming your bedtime routine is, the easier the transition will be. A peaceful bedtime routine, like a bath, dim lights, a few bedtime stories, and a cuddle, sends signals to the brain that it is time to sleep. The goal is to keep it calm, predictable, and connected. ### **Gradual Retreat** Rather than leaving your toddler alone cold-turkey, try sitting by their bed while they fall asleep. Each night, move slightly farther away until you’re out of the room. Over time, they learn to sleep alone without feeling abandoned. ### **Comfort Objects and Transitional Items** Your child’s cuddly companions might just be the answer. Truly, a favourite stuffed animal, blanket, or even a small nightlight can offer some emotional reassurance that makes the bed feel lonely for a child. Some children may feel more secure having a photo of their family nearby. ### **Stay-in-Bed Clocks** These clocks use colours or images to show toddlers when it’s okay to get out of bed. While they work best for children over two and a half, they can be surprisingly effective when paired with praise and consistency. ### **Reward Charts** If your child is old enough to connect their actions with a reward, sticker charts or token systems can be a great option. Just keep the rewards simple, age-appropriate, and tied directly to the goal. For example, by staying in their own bed all night, they might earn a sticker and three stickers earn a special breakfast. If your child is old enough to connect their actions with a reward, sticker charts or token systems can be a great option. Just keep the rewards simple, age-appropriate, and tied directly to the goal. For example, staying in their own bed all night might earn a sticker, and three stickers earn a special breakfast. There’s something quietly effective about these systems. They work because toddlers, much like the rest of us, respond to visible progress and small wins. That instant gratification loop, whether it’s a bedtime sticker or a token on a chart, builds momentum. ## **Common Mistakes to Avoid** ![How to get a toddler to sleep in their own bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Screen-time-toddler-to-sleep-in-own-bed-1-1200x800.jpg "Screen time toddler to sleep in own bed - Beanstalk Mums") Even with the best intentions, certain strategies can backfire if we’re not careful. Here are a few mistakes to avoid: - **Rushing the process:** Transitions take time. Expect some back and forth before the independence you’re aiming for sticks. - **Shaming or blaming:** Comments like “big kids don’t do this” or “only babies sleep with their parents” might sound cool. But they can actually increase anxiety. - **Letting tantrums win:** It’s tough, but it is important to maintain consistency and never give in during a meltdown. - **Inconsistency between caregivers:** Progress is bound to stall if one parent enforces the boundary and the other lets it slide. - **Overuse of screens right before bed:** Blue light from tablets and TVs can seriously disrupt sleep readiness as it delays the production of melatonin. Here’s a helpful video explainer on [screen time and toddler sleep](https://youtu.be/YV6Jc5-oSkc?si=6Djbxebhx9ERHrwb). ## **What If They Get Up Again and Again?** Many toddlers test the boundary, not maliciously, but because they’re wired to seek proximity and comfort. One of the most helpful methods when your child keeps getting up is the “silent return.” Each time they leave their bed, gently walk them back with minimal talking and no frustration. Keep your voice soft and avoid negotiations. It may take several nights, but the more boring the response they get when they do it, the faster the behaviour fades. Again, consistency wins. Also, remember that you can adapt your strategy. Some parents start by sitting on a mattress beside their toddler’s bed for the first few nights. Others begin with naps before tackling overnight sleep. ## **When to Get Professional Help** Occasional struggles are normal. But if your toddler’s sleep disruptions persist beyond a few months, or if they show signs of deeper anxiety (frequent night terrors, panic at bedtime, or trouble breathing while asleep), it might be time to consult your pediatrician or a pediatric sleep consultant. ## **Progress Over Perfection** There’s no magic switch for sleep independence. Helping your toddler sleep in their own bed is a process, and every child moves at their own pace. There will be setbacks, regressions, and maybe a few tears and tantrums. That’s normal. What matters most is consistency, compassion, and realistic expectations. So instead of aiming for perfect sleep, aim for a little more comfort, a little more space each week, and a change in strategy when needed. Also, make a habit of celebrating small wins, like one night spent entirely in their bed or a bedtime routine without tears. Those small wins add up till full sleeping independence comes. And if it takes longer than expected? That’s okay, as parenting is a long game. You and your cute little toddler will surely get there someday soon! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-get-a-toddler-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-get-a-toddler-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children --- ### [Explain An Absent Dad With Simple Books For Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-kids-absent-dad/) **Published:** November 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When a dad isn’t present — whether by choice, circumstance, or complex adult decisions — children often feel confused, worried, or unsure of what their family “should” look like. Books can be incredibly powerful tools to help explain an absent dad gently, honestly, and in ways that help kids feel secure. Below is an updated list of books that support kids navigating father absence, including a brand-new Australian title from one of our very own, The Single Mum Vine FB group, mums, Lara Owers. If you haven’t already, you may also want to explore our companion resources: - **[Podcast with Lara Owers (YouTube)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XoQP85UrKBs&t=187s)** - **[Podcast with Lara Owers (Apple Podcasts)](https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beanstalk-real-talk-for-single-mums/id1226897925)** - **[How to Explain an Absent Father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-to-explain-an-absent-father)** These three pieces together offer reassurance, scripts, and real-life wisdom for mums supporting kids through this emotional terrain. ***For further support on this topic, see: [Raising A Child Without A Father: Introducing Your Village](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/raising-a-child-without-a-father/)*** ## Books to help kids deal with an absent dad ## [Mummy, Me & Our Family](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/aOaZPQ) — by Lara Owers (NEW) *Best for: Toddlers to age 7* Written by single mum and the Single Mum Vine member Lara Owers, this beautiful picture book was born from a deeply personal moment — the day Lara’s toddler asked, “Presley… dad?” while watching Bluey. Realising she couldn’t find a story that directly reflected their family structure, Lara decided to write one. The result is a warm, simple, child-friendly book that celebrates the family you *do* have, rather than focusing on the parent who isn’t there. [![Mummy, me and our family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Book-cover.png "Book cover - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/aOaZPQ) ## [The Invisible String](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/559Bmo) — by Patrice Karst *Best for: Kids experiencing separation, loss, or distance* A timeless classic that helps children understand emotional connection, even when someone isn’t physically present. While not specifically about absent dads, it provides comfort for kids who feel disconnected or confused. [![Book cover of Heart on string](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/The-invisible-string.avif "The-invisible-string - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/559Bmo) ## [Families, Families, Families!](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gOZQrv) — by Suzanne & Max Lang *Best for: All ages* This fun, inclusive book shows dozens of different family types — two mums, one parent, blended families, adoptive parents. A great way to widen your child’s understanding of what “normal” really means. [![Book cover different families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Families-families-families.avif "Families-families-families - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gOZQrv) ## [No matter what](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DK10D2) – By Debi Gliori *Best for:* *Parents with kids who need constant reassurance* This book is a lovely illustration of the unconditional love a parent has for their child. It is meant to reassure children that their parents will continue to love them in spite of their mistakes and, well, endless questions! It is understandable for your kids to have many insecurities, especially after the divorce. If you have a child who needs constant reassurance that you love them no matter what, this is a great story to read together at bedtime or to give as a meaningful gift. [![No matter what | books absent an dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/no-matter-what.jpg "no-matter-what - Beanstalk Mums")](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DK10D2) ## [Why don’t I have a daddy?](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/2rzRDa) – By George Anne Clay *Best for:* *Parents who want to explain how donor conception works to young children.* I have a few friends who have conceived from an anonymous donor; their experiences have been wonderful, but it can be challenging to explain the situation, especially to young kids. This charming book can help. The story is about a lion cub who is curious about his absent daddy. His lion mum shows how he came to be through a donor lion, and how special their little family is because of this. [![Why don’t I have a daddy?](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51xURYWLziL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/2rzRDa) ## [Growing up without my daddy](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/an6RBR) – By Angela Adley *Best for:* *Faithful single mums who wish to raise strong and confident daughters* Growing up without a father can be tough, especially for girls who need his love, guidance, and protection. As a single mum, this is one of the books I needed for my two daughters, who were missing an absent dad’s love. Not only does this book reassure a little girl that she can still grow into a strong and confident woman despite not having a dad at home. More importantly, she is not really fatherless because her true father, God, is looking out for her. [![Growing up without my daddy | books absent an dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/growing-up-without-my-daddy.jpg "growing-up-without-my-daddy - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/an6RBR) ## [Love makes a family](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/KemBby) – By Sophie Beer *Best for:* *Parents who want to teach their kids that all types of families are special*. *Love Makes a Family* is a must-read for any atypical family. Love is baking a cake, love is finding puddles, and love is in the everyday. The fun and colourful illustrations perfectly reinforce the simple but powerful message: No matter the situation (an absent dad, one parent/grandparent or two mums), each family is special and unique. Because when it’s all said and done, it is love that makes a family … I never let my kids forget that. [![Love makes a family](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81ekQaqNUPL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/KemBby) ## [Where is my dad?](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZQ4bPX) – By Ambry L. Ivy *Best for:* *Single mums with a daughter who struggles with her identity without a dad* As a divorced mum of two girls, I have firsthand experience with the challenges of raising young daughters without their father at home. I witnessed their insecurities about our family setup and envy toward other children with “complete” families. This is one of those books that offer positive answers to their awkward questions about an absent dad. Plus, it helps your little girls regain their identity even if their dad is missing in their lives. [![Where is my dad? | books absent an dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/where-is-my-dad-.jpg "where-is-my-dad- - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZQ4bPX) ## [Is Daddy coming back in a minute? ](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/mgq4Ma) – By Alex Barber *Best for:* *Families dealing with parental death and loss.* Having lost my own mother at age seven, I understand that the sudden passing of a parent is a life-changing event that can be challenging to understand for children at any age. This book manages to provide honest answers to tough questions while assuring readers that it’s okay to feel intense emotions like sadness and, eventually, happiness as well. The beautiful illustrations show the importance of a support system to kids dealing with the loss of a parent. We need more books like this. [![Is Daddy Coming Back in a Minute](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51Da2mOakgL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/mgq4Ma) ## Books to help kid’s deal with dad not being around (cont.) ## [Why do families change?](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DVGWoa) – By Jillian Roberts *Best for:* *Younger kids with parents going through a divorce or separation.* Separation and divorce are explored in this handy and empowering book by child psychologist Dr Roberts. It’s the perfect first book to explain the concept of changing families to kids ages 3-5 years. Kids will learn the invaluable lesson that it is never their fault when parents decide to go their separate ways and that each parent’s love for them will never change. [![Why do families change? | books absent an dad](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/B08W2QSM7G.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/DVGWoa) ## [A family is a family is a family](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/jW0Rb6) – By Sara O’Leary *Best for:* *Parents who want to show their kids that every family is unique.* Here’s another brilliant book that celebrates family diversity and inclusivity. The story is filled with short vignettes about different kinds of families, one with two mums, another with a foster mom, etc., all of them similar in one way that matters most: the families are made with love and caring. Kids will adore the fun watercolour illustrations and the simple, straightforward storytelling. My girls and I adored this book when they were young, and I was pleased to be able to pass it on to another single mum. [![A Family is a Family is a Family](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/91Xeg8qddgL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/jW0Rb6) ## [Where’s my daddy?](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/9gQGv3) – By Zoe Jones *Best for:* *Single mums who have left an emotionally abusive relationship.* If you are a single mum who left an abusive relationship, this book can help your child understand why his or her dad is no longer in the picture. Based on the author’s personal experience and consultations with mental health practitioners, the story is simple and heartfelt. It carries the message that it is not your child’s fault that dad is absent, and that they are safe and loved no matter what. [![Where's my daddy? | books absent an dad](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/71uoAh1m8PL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/9gQGv3) ## [All kinds of families](https://www.booktopia.com.au/all-kinds-of-families-anita-ganeri/book/9781445161075.html) – By Anita Ganeri *Best for:* *All kinds of families!* Last but definitely not least is one of my favourite books in this list, although not singularly about an absent dad. The non-fiction book discusses the different kinds of families: big and small, with a mum and dad, with two mums or two dads, or with a solo parent. I love that it emphasises that, regardless of the setup, what makes it a family is love. It’s an incredible addition to your family’s bookshelf that will still be useful once your children have their own families or your family setup changes. [![All kinds of families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/all-kinds-of-families.jpg "all-kinds-of-families - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.booktopia.com.au/all-kinds-of-families-anita-ganeri/book/9781445161075.html) ### How to Choose the Right Book for Your Child When selecting a book to help explain an absent father, consider: #### ✔ Age Toddlers need simple reassurance. Older kids need validation and clarity. #### ✔ Emotional readiness Some kids want direct language. Others prefer stories they can come back to when they’re ready. #### ✔ Your family structure Choose books that mirror your reality — single mum, donor conception, separation, or no father involvement at all. #### ✔ Your values Select stories that reflect how *you* want to frame your family, your strength and your village. ## I hope this list of books to help kids with an absent dad has helped Some of the most heartbreaking questions I’ve been asked by my little daughters post-divorce involved their dad. > *Where’s my dad?* > > *Is he coming home soon?* > > *Why is Daddy gone?* I’m pretty sure every mum who has undergone separation has to answer these, too. Unless you’re a teacher or a children’s book writer, it can be super stressful to come up with age-appropriate answers to our young kids’ essential questions. But I’ve got your back. If you’re a new single mum, this list of children’s books that explain an absent dad can be invaluable. I have chosen books for different situations, so I hope you find something that fits your family’s circumstances. May these books help your children navigate the absence of a dad in their lives. It’s my wish that these can reassure them that they are loved and they will still grow up well despite his absence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-kids-absent-dad/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-kids-absent-dad/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shopping **Tags:** absent dad, book, solo parent, help child --- ### [3 Surprising Ways to Boost Vaginal Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-surprising-ways-to-boost-vaginal-health/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your vagina is wonderfully self-cleaning, but smart daily choices can keep that natural system running smoothly. Below are three evidence-backed habits, focused on nutrition, gentle hygiene, and [safer sex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexual-needs-single-mum/ "safer sex"), that doctors and researchers consistently link to better vaginal health. ## **1. Nourish & Move: Feed Your Vaginal Microbiome** Think of your vagina as an ecosystem. When “good” Lactobacillus bacteria dominate, the environment stays slightly acidic, discouraging yeast and harmful pathogens. What you eat and how you move strongly influence that balance. ### **Plant-rich diet & probiotics** High-fibre fruits, veggies, and whole grains fuel beneficial bacteria throughout the body, including the vagina. This balanced diet supports overall vaginal wellness, but some people still experience issues like dryness due to hormonal shifts. For persistent discomfort, options like [NeuEve’s estrogen-free natural treatment for vaginal dryness](https://www.neueve.com/pages/vaginal-dryness) can offer targeted, hormone-free support. Probiotic foods like plain yogurt, kefir, and kimchi supply live cultures that may reduce bacterial vaginosis (BV) recurrence. ### **Hydration** Adequate water keeps mucous membranes, including vaginal tissues, supple and healthy. Aim for 6–8 cups daily unless your clinician advises otherwise for your specific health needs. ### **Regular movement & pelvic-floor strength** Cardio boosts circulation, while strength training stabilises the core and pelvic organs. Pelvic-floor exercises, often called Kegels, are particularly beneficial. To perform one, contract the muscles you’d use to stop urine, hold for 3–5 seconds, and then release. Aim for 10–15 repetitions in 3 sets per day for improved arousal and lubrication. | **Key Insight:** Your diet and exercise habits directly influence your vaginal microbiome. A plant-rich diet and pelvic floor exercises help maintain an acidic environment that naturally protects against infections. | |---| ## **2. Clean… But Don’t Over-Clean** ![vaginal health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-gru-120834-369433-1197x800.jpg "Pexels-gru-120834-369433 - Beanstalk Mums") First, a quick glossary: The vagina is the internal canal, while the vulva is the external skin, including the labia and clitoris. Only the vulva needs washing, as the vagina is self-cleaning. ### **Why does douching harm you** Douching flushes water or scented solutions inside the vagina, stripping away Lactobacillus and raising the pH. ### **Gentle external wash routine** - Warm water is usually enough. If you prefer soap, choose mild, fragrance-free, pH-balanced formulas. - Wash the labia and around the clitoris; do not insert soap internally. - Pat dry with a clean towel, as excess moisture can invite yeast. ### **Supporting habits** Choose breathable cotton underwear and be sure to change after workouts or swimming. When it comes to pubic hair grooming, trimming versus a full shave is a personal choice. However, avoid heavily perfumed shaving creams and never reuse blades to limit micro-abrasions and potential infection. | **Important:** Never douche. It disrupts your vagina’s natural pH balance and strips away protective bacteria, increasing your risk for bacterial vaginosis (BV) and pelvic inflammatory disease. Your vagina is self-cleaning. | |---| ## **3. Practice Safe, Comfortable Sex** Barrier protection is a cornerstone of sexual health. Condoms can significantly lower the risk of STIs, and dental dams work similarly for oral-vaginal contact. ### **Make pleasure protective** Consent and clear communication foster relaxation, which improves natural lubrication. For added comfort, use water-based or natural oil lubricants to reduce micro-tears that raise infection risk. Vaginal dryness is a common experience; a study found that of women reporting discomfort, [85% experienced dryness and 52% had pain during intercourse](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23571518/). ### **Pre- & post-sex hygiene checklist** - Empty your bladder before and after intercourse to help flush bacteria from the urinary tract. - Gently wash your external genitals with warm water. - Change into clean, breathable cotton underwear. ### **Sex toys matter, too** Choose body-safe materials like silicone, stainless steel, or borosilicate glass. Always wash toys with mild soap and warm water, letting them air-dry fully. Non-porous materials limit bacterial harbouring and make disinfection much easier. | **Pro Tip:** Using a lubricant isn’t just for comfort; it’s a health measure. It significantly reduces friction and micro-tears during sex, which lowers your risk of irritation and potential infection. | |---| ## **When to See a Healthcare Professional** While these habits support daily wellness, it is crucial to seek medical advice if you notice persistent or concerning symptoms. Schedule an appointment with your clinician if you experience any of the following: - A persistent fishy or yeasty odour - Thick, clumpy, or greenish discharge - Burning, itching, or vulvar swelling - Painful intercourse or pelvic pain These signs may point to BV, a yeast infection, or STIs that require targeted medical treatment. While concerning symptoms should always be evaluated, remember that serious conditions are uncommon. According to the CDC, [vaginal and vulvar cancers are very rare](https://www.cdc.gov/vaginal-vulvar-cancers/statistics/index.html), and the American Cancer Society notes they account for [only 1% to 2% of cancers in the female genital tract.](https://www.cancer.org/cancer/types/vaginal-cancer/about/key-statistics.html) An in-person evaluation is vital for an accurate diagnosis. ## **Your Next Steps** Building a foundation for lasting vaginal health comes down to small, consistent actions. Here is a summary of key takeaways to integrate into your routine for better wellness. - ✓ Nourish your microbiome with fibre-rich meals, probiotics, and regular movement (don’t forget daily Kegels). - ✓ Keep cleaning gently: skip douching, choose cotton underwear, and use unscented cleansers only on the vulva. - ✓ Make sex safer and more comfortable with barriers, adequate lubricant, and simple hygiene routines. Small, consistent habits today lead to lifelong vaginal wellness. | **Author Profile:** NeuEve is the leading manufacturer of all-natural vaginal care products for women experiencing [menopause](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-symptoms/ "menopause") and intimate health challenges. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-surprising-ways-to-boost-vaginal-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-surprising-ways-to-boost-vaginal-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Where to find holiday deals online (with ways to save)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/holiday-deals-online/) **Published:** August 25, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Don’t go to your travel agent to book your next trip because you can find the best holiday deals online. I speak from experience. The last time I went to a travel agent, I had to wait in a queue outside the shop so I could book an appointment to come back another time. As a result, I looked online and found some excellent holiday deal sites, which made booking easy and left me with money for my trip. If you’re looking for [senior tours in Australia](https://www.funover50holidays.com.au/), many of these websites, such as TripADeal, Booking.com, and HelloWorld, feature holiday packages and group tours tailored to older travellers, often with discounts, flexible booking, and extra comfort options. On my first two bookings, I ran the special by a travel agent to check I wasn’t being ripped off, and they were unable to compete with the prices. So I knew I had a great deal on my holiday, but was I booking a dud? To answer this question, I checked reviews for the travel website I was booking through, as well as the accommodation/flight/tour directly. If there were no reviews, I would probably not book them, as they are my safety backup. Look for recent reviews only. It helps to use a travel website you trust, and there are a few biggies out there. Stay away from the smaller, lesser-known ones. This list contains my go-to websites for the best holiday deals online if you live in Australia. ***Further reading: [How to bag yourself a cheap family holiday even as travel costs rise.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-family-holiday/)*** ## Where to find holiday deals online if you live in Australia (Updated 2025) ## Booking.com Booking.com is one of the biggest travel marketplaces in Australia and offers accommodation, flights, packages, car rentals and attractions. You can also book airport taxis, which I use as a stand-alone because I like to arrange transport from the airport to the hotel before arriving anywhere, as it takes the stress off. The accommodation section is extensive, with everything from hotels to hostels and privately rented guest houses. Flight prices are comparable with others across the web, but occasionally, they have super cheap seat allocations, which beat everyone else hands down. For package holidays (flight + hotel), Booking.com teams up with Agoda, and you’ll save a healthy 25% on flights. In May 2022, they teamed up with the Eurovision Song Contest and created the Italian Music Retreat package, so whatever kind of holiday you’re after, you’ll find it here. **Handy tip:** Check out our seasonal and holiday deals in a tiny font right at the bottom of the page. This shows the top active deals in several categories that aren’t displayed elsewhere. **Ways to save with Booking.com:** - Get online specials such as 15% off Late Escape Deals - Join the Genius loyalty program for discount stays, free breakfasts and room upgrades and support via a live agent - Become a Booking.com member and save 10% on accommodation - Sign up for the newsletter for “secret specials” ![Booking.com | Best holiday deals online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Booking.com_.jpg "Booking.com - Beanstalk Mums") ## [Trivago](https://fave.co/44nrIwt) Trivago is a metasearch engine that compares prices from various online booking sites. Here, you can find the best prices on hotels, flights, and vacation rentals. You can also read real user reviews and ratings for hotels and accommodations. This is a deal breaker for me as it ensures that the place I book meets my standards and expectations. The best thing about Trivago is the flexible booking options. Last year, I had to reschedule a trip due to a work emergency, and Trivago let me do it smoothly. With this feature, you can plan your holiday with peace of mind. Look for hotels and flights with free cancellation or flexible change policies so you can adapt your plans if needed without any extra stress. **Handy tip:** Book through the app to get better deals on hotel rooms, including last-minute and up to 60% off. **Ways to save with [Trivago](https://fave.co/44nrIwt):** - Keep an eye out for early booking discounts and seasonal promotions on Trivago. - Sign up for their newsletter to receive notifications about limited-time offers, flash sales, and promo codes. - The TripAdvisor Plus program provides members with deeply discounted hotel rates, special amenities, and deals on travel experiences. [![Trivago](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Trivago.jpg "Trivago - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/44nrIwt) ## [Last Minute](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2F) I have to say that I’m more of an advanced than a last-minute trip planner, but there are times when you just need to find the cheapest deals online. And fast! [LastMinute](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2F) is not just for last-minute holidays. The name comes from the days when last-minute holiday bookings were always a win. This is no longer the case, and LastMinute has the same date ranges to book as the other big travel sites, alongside some great last-minute deals to honour their namesake. No matter your budget, LastMinute has something for everyone. From quick weekend getaways to luxury stays at the best hotels, you can find [great last-minute deals here](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2Flp%2Fdeals%2Flast-minute). I particularly love their flash deals and specials on all-inclusive holidays. You can score last-minute flights plus hotel packages without breaking the bank with their lowest price guarantee. They match the lower price if you find a cheaper hotel or package within 24 hours of booking (terms apply). **Handy tip:** According to the website, if you create a lastminute.com.au account and log into it before you search for hotels, you’ll see “[Sneaky Saver](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2Fmember-discounts)” deals to access secret hotel deals for last-minute and even advanced bookings. **Ways to save with lastminute.com:** - Sign up for a [lastminute.com account](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2Ftrips) to see exclusive deals like Secret Hotels and save up to 50% - Compare multiple deals on their website before booking anything. Filter by location, holiday, or activity to narrow down results. - Sign up for Sneaky Saver emails to get 10% off hotels and be the first to hear about flash sales. - Get bundle deals when you can. These are generally cheaper than separate bookings for flights, hotels, and activities. [![Last Minute | Best holiday deals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Last-Minute.jpg "Last Minute - Beanstalk Mums")](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lastminute.com.au%2F) ## [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU) Another website that I always check when I’m looking for holiday deals online is [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU). What I particularly love about Expedia is their frequent specials, [bundle deals](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2FTravel-Deals), and how super easy it is to find whatever I’m looking for to plan my dream vacation. I can also buy travel insurance here, and I earn points through their Rewards Program … points that I can use for future travel. Make sure to check Expedia’s Holiday [Deals](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2FTravel-Deals) page for specials on everything from five-star hotels to off-the-beaten-path accommodations. Expedia always has a sale, but the best way to save is by bundling or booking flights, hotels, and activities together instead of separately. You can still compare the cost of each line item with the prices on the company’s own website to see how much you are saving (sometimes booking directly is cheaper). I often set my search filters to “fully refundable” when I’m browsing to make sure can easily cancel bookings. **Handy tip:** Sign up for [Expedia Rewards](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2Frewards%2Fhowitworks) to access members-only pricing and collect points for future travel. **Ways to save with Expedia:** - Sign up for an [Expedia account](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com%2Fsignup%3Fenable_registration%3Dtrue) to unlock exclusive deals. - Book from the [Expedia app](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2Fapp) to get 10% off on hotels, double your reward points, get travel alerts, and access other app-only specials. - Bundle your flight and hotel together or book your hotel later to save up to 43%. - Bookmark the Deals, Coupons, and Student Travel Discount pages. [![Expedia | Best holiday deals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Expedia.jpg "Expedia - Beanstalk Mums")](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU) ## [TripADeal](https://www.tripadeal.com.au/) TripADeal specialises in sourcing unbeatable deals on group tours, cruises, and holiday packages. It also provides access to hotel stays and experiences. We once got to stay at a 4-star hotel at an affordable rate! With discounts of up to 70% off retail prices, you can enjoy luxury getaways without the luxury price tag. What I love most about TripADeal are their *[2 for 1 Travel Deals](https://www.tripadeal.com.au/campaign/2-for-1-sale)*. It is a travel bundle for two at the price of one! Talk about getting the most bang for your buck! I also prefer booking with the app as it allows me to browse hundreds of trips, save my favourite deals, and easily book later. **Handy tip:** 2 for 1 Travel Deals are incredibly budget-friendly but sell out quickly, so I suggest booking early to take advantage of them. **Ways to save with TripADeal:** - Join the Qantas Frequent Flyer loyalty program for free (save A$99.50) when you sign up as a TripADeal customer. - Sign up as a [Qantas Frequent Flyer](https://www.qantas.com/au/en/frequent-flyer/discover-and-join/join-now.html/code/tad) to earn more points as you spend and book via TripADeal. Qantas Frequent Flyer members can earn 3 Qantas Points per A$1 spent or use Qantas Points to book their exciting travel products. - Look for ‘Book With Confidence’ deals. These deals come with clear terms for date changes and the ability to Buy Now, Choose Dates Later. - Subscribe to the TripADeal newsletter to be the first to know about their latest deals. [![Trip a Deal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Trip-a-Deal.jpg "Trip a Deal - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tripadeal.com.au/) ## [Skyscanner](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001) Although I check directly with airlines and other sites like Kiwi and Kayak, [Skyscanner](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001) is my go-to when booking flights. It’s designed to help you find the cheapest flights. They don’t cover all flights on the planet, but their huge database covers around 99%. And it’s not just for flights; you can also use Skyscanner to book hotels, activities, and travel insurance. What I love best about Skyscanner is the price alert emails they send when prices drop for my destination. I’ve saved hundreds on flights with this! I also use their [‘Everywhere Search’](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skyscanner.com.au%2Fnews%2Ftips%2Fhow-to-use-skyscanners-multi-city-flight-search) feature when I’m feeling spontaneous or whenever I want to check alternate routes and prices. This shows the cheapest destinations you can fly to based on your location. They also have a very helpful [multi-city feature](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skyscanner.com.au%2Fnews%2Ftips%2Fhow-to-use-skyscanners-multi-city-flight-search) that shows the cheapest connections as well as the number of stops for each flight. You can really customise each flight with Skyscanner to save even more money. **Handy tip:** When booking flights, choose “Whole Month” instead of individual dates to find the cheapest day to fly (if your dates are flexible). **Ways to save with Skyscanner:** - When booking, select “Whole Month” or “Whole Year” in the Depart box to see the best and cheapest days to fly. - Select [“Everywhere”](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skyscanner.com.au%2Fnews%2Fskyscanner-everywhere-search-how-to-find-flights-from-australia-to-anywhere-in-the-world) as your destination to see the cheapest destinations you can fly to. - Use “Everywhere” as your departure point to explore alternate and cheaper flights. - Sign up for [Skyscanner email notifications](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skyscanner.com.au%2Fnews%2Fget-best-air-fares-skyscanner-price-alerts) to get alerts when prices drop. [![Skyscanner | Best holiday deals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Skyscanner.jpg "Skyscanner - Beanstalk Mums")](https://skyscanner.pxf.io/c/1253070/1027991/13416?associateid=AFF_TRA_19354_00001) ## Best holiday deal sites in Australia ## [Wotif](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV) I’ve used Expedia-owned [Wotif](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV) a couple of times when comparing prices on flights and hotels and the website is an excellent starting point or guide, especially for local travellers wanting to discover the best the country has to offer. What I like best about Wotif is their neat hotel comparison feature and a decent amount of listings. While I’ve never actually booked a hotel here, my friend said their customer support was great when she had a refund issue. If you live in Australia and want to DIY your vacations, Wotif offers plenty of deals on local hotels and activities. Wotif makes it easy peasy to organise your travels whether you’re a backpacker, a business traveller, or a honeymooner. Wotif was originally known for its great hotel deals but now they have thousands of offerings that include flights, car hire, activities, and even travel insurance. It’s really a one-stop travel planning website that has a special place in the heart of many Aussie travelers. **Handy tip:** Create an account on Wotif.com to access exclusive deals like secret Mates Rates pricing. **Ways to save with Wotif:** - Sign up for Wotif account to unlock members-only pricing like secret Mates Rates and other exclusive deals. - Download the [Wotif app](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wotif.com%2Fapp) for real-time updates, free cancellation on select hotels, and easy booking changes. - Bookmark the “[Deals](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wotif.com%2Fdeals)” page to see what’s currently on sale. [![Wotif](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Wotif.jpg "Wotif - Beanstalk Mums")](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV) ## [Luxury Escapes](https://fave.co/3wmK8Rp) Once in a while, I book a weekend getaway that’s over my usual travel budget just because, well, I want to experience something different. And pamper myself, of course! Aussie-owned and operated [Luxury Escapes](https://fave.co/3wmK8Rp) is one of the websites that I visited when I was researching a trip to Hawaii. They offer deals for (you guessed it) exclusive, swanky, and [luxurious experiences](https://fave.co/3wmK8Rp) all over the world. Luxury Escapes aggregates the best hotels, resorts, tours & cruises, last-minute escapes, experiences, and flights in one place as curated by experts. They “negotiate the best prices so you don’t have to” and work directly with top global hotels and brands to give you the best deals. For my Hawaii trip, I found it cheaper and more convenient to book directly on the resort’s website, so I didn’t end up booking with Luxury Escapes. However, they do have heaps of deals, a referral program, and a [price match guarantee](https://fave.co/3Wqf1yV) if you happen to find a better deal elsewhere (terms apply). **Handy tip:** Create an account with Luxury Escapes to unlock exclusive offers like VIP inclusions and the latest specials. **Ways to save with Luxury Escapes:** - Sign up to access members-only deals. - If you find a better price for the same deal/package on another website, [Luxury Escapes will match it](https://fave.co/3Wqf1yV) (applies only to Limited Time Lux Exclusive packages). - [Refer a friend](https://fave.co/3Wqvmnw) and earn rewards ($50/referral) when your friend books their first trip with Luxury Escapes. [![Luxury Escapes | Best holiday deals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Luxury-Escapes.jpg "Luxury Escapes - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3UHxe9T) ## [Hello World](https://www.helloworld.com.au/) [HelloWorld Travel](https://www.helloworld.com.au/) is another Aussie-based travel company that offers [great deals](https://instore.helloworld.com.au/) on flights and activities. What makes them different from other aggregator websites is their huge network of travel agents and specialists who will tailor the perfect travel itinerary or tour package based on your goals and budget. My friend, who has booked several trips with Helloworld, loves the custom holiday packages they created for her and her family. Sometimes, it’s great to have someone else plan your entire trip for you. It’s one less thing you need to think about! If you’re this type of traveller, head to the HelloWorld Travel website and click on “[Enquire](https://www.helloworld.com.au/enquire)” or “[Find An Agency](http://agents.helloworld.com.au/)” to talk directly to a travel agent. However, if you’re a DIYer, you can plan an itinerary the usual way. They offer flights, hotels, cruises, tour packages, activities, and travel insurance. To see their specials on holiday deals online, head to the “[Deals](https://instore.helloworld.com.au/)” section at the top of the page. You can search by keyword and price or browse by destination. **Handy tip:** Sign up at HelloWorld Travel to be the first to hear about the latest deals on flights, hotels, and packages. **Ways to save with HelloWorld Travel:** - Head to the “[Deals](https://instore.helloworld.com.au/)” section to see specials for that week. - Create an account to get the latest deals and offers. [![Hello World](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Hello-World.jpg "Hello World - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.helloworld.com.au/) ## Summary: Best holiday deals online Like most single mums, I don’t always get to spend every holiday with my daughters, so finding the best deals is crucial. Aside from discounts, we aim to stretch every dollar while creating unique, lasting memories. Let’s face it, organising a better vacation than your ex wouldn’t hurt, am I right? Start with thorough research. I usually spend hours scouring the internet for the best holiday deals online. But after planning numerous vacations over the years, I’ve narrowed everything down to my list above. It will help you choose efficiently. So, say goodbye to high rates and long waiting times at travel agencies! If you haven’t decided on a destination yet, be open to different options or travel dates. This can lead to significant savings—as proven by yours truly! Utilising loyalty programs and credit card rewards can also help offset costs. Consider alternative accommodations like vacation rentals or house swaps for a more affordable and comfortable stay. But no matter how much you want to lower costs, never compromise on comfort, especially when travelling with your kids. Final tips for the road: Plan ahead and budget meticulously. This ensures that every expense is accounted for, from transportation to activities. If you’re lucky, you might even have some extra cash left for souvenirs! Travel safe and enjoy! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/holiday-deals-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/holiday-deals-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Travel **Tags:** holiday, travel, flights, accommodation, break, hotels --- ### [Where can I donate my wedding dress in Australia?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/donate-wedding-dress-australia/) **Published:** August 10, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you wondering where you can donate your wedding dress in Australia? Maybe you are divorced and your dress no longer has meaning … or, it has meaning but not particularly good ones. Even if you are partnered, a wedding dress isn’t much use after the big day. I’d always imagined that I would give my wedding dress to one of my daughters. But really? Would they get married in mum’s old dress? It was a thing of wonder 25 years ago when I got married but now it’s outta date and, from memory, has a nasty wine stain down the front. In reality, there’s not a lot of point in hanging onto a wedding dress. On the other hand, there are lots of reasons to donate it. - It will free up space … stop being a hoarder - If you’ve had no use for it for the last however many years, you will unlikely have a use for it in the future - It will save your kids the trip to the charity shop when you cark it - There are lots of people out there who would have a use for it - Donating/reusing anything is doing a good turn for the world’s resources - It will provide money for a good cause and help those less fortunate than yourself - [Doing charitable stuff](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/) makes you feel good OK, so you’re finally ready to ditch the dress? Here are some suggestions on where to donate your wedding dress in Australia. ## Where can I donate my wedding dress in Australia? ## Angel Gowns If you are considering where to donate your wedding dress, the best place in my opinion is [Angel Gowns](https://www.angelgownsaustralia.org.au/). Angel Gowns is a charity that does two wonderful things: - They make and gift angel gowns to parents of babies who have sadly passed - They make and gift tutus to children who have a long-term illness It’s a shame that dress collections are closed at the time of writing. My understanding is that they already have too many dresses but if you have a wedding dress to donate, keep an eye on the website as hopefully they will open for donations soon. Btw, there are other ways to help this incredible charity, head to the website and [apply to be a volunteer.](https://www.angelgownsaustralia.org.au/index.php/support/applications-for-seamstress) ***Further reading:*** [***How volunteering can seriously help your mental health***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/)***.*** ## Give it to a charity shop We all have a local charity shop that will be delighted to accept your wedding dress as a donation. I volunteer at Lifeline and we get some beautiful wedding dresses to resell. If you donate your dress to an [op-shop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/brilliant-reasons-op-shop/) it might be worn for another wedding, a party, or get ripped apart to re-use the beautiful material. It’s heartening to see these dresses get another lease on life … whatever form that might take. Us volunteers always get excited when a customer tries on a second-hand wedding dress! ![Wedding dress donation Lifeline](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/IMG_7832-scaled.jpg "IMG_7832 - Beanstalk Mums")Wedding dress donation Lifeline ## Stick it on Facebook If you want to get a wide reach and gift your dress in such a way that feels right for you, why not list it on Facebook Marketplace? Make sure you list it as “FREE” and add a little spiel about who you would like to gift the dress to, for example: *“If you are getting married and can’t afford a dress I would love to gift it to you.”* OR *“I would love my dress to go to good use, please tell me how you plan to re-use it.”* Selling this way allows you to connect with the person you donate it to. You can personally hand over the dress and you know what will happen to it. This can be a meaningful and cathartic way to part with your dress. ## Where can I donate my free wedding dress in Australia? ## Local hospitals or NICUs Donating your wedding dress to local hospitals or Neonatal Intensive Care Units (NICUs) can bring solace to grieving families or comfort premature babies. The dresses are often transformed into delicate gowns for stillborn infants or those who pass away shortly after birth. The gesture offers a small source of comfort during an immensely challenging time. Reach out to your local hospital or NICU to inquire if they accept such donations. It’s a touching way to provide support and create a meaningful impact for families in need within your community. ## Dare Formal Wear On my hunt for where to donate wedding dresses in Australia, I came across this fab shop, [Dare Formal Wear](https://www.instagram.com/dareformalwear/) in Strathpine, QLD. Dare Formal Wear is a not-for-profit organisation which supports victims of domestic violence through the proceeds of their shop which resells donated wedding and formal wear. If you are happy to pay for postage, send your dress to them. Or, if you live near the shop or are passing by at any time, drop in your wedding dress and know you have done something to help protect women and children from domestic violence across Australia. ## My Wedding Wish [My Wedding Wish](https://www.facebook.com/WeddingWish/) is a charity that plans and gifts weddings to the terminally ill. They, like Angel Gowns, have temporarily stopped wedding dress donations because they have too many. Again, stay posted with My Wedding Wish as if they re-open wedding dress donations, you want to be first in line. ## Final words: Where can I donate my wedding dress in Australia? In the journey of a wedding dress, its significance doesn’t have to fade after the big day. Donating your wedding dress in Australia opens the door to myriad possibilities, each contributing to a greater cause. From Angel Gowns Australia repurposing dresses into delicate garments for angel babies, to simply dropping your dress into your local op shop, the impact is profound. By choosing to donate your wedding dress, you extend the joy of your celebration to others, offering hope, dignity, and support where it’s needed most. Your dress becomes a symbol of love that transcends its initial purpose, embodying the spirit of giving and compassion that binds communities together. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/donate-wedding-dress-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/donate-wedding-dress-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** charity, second hand, op shop, wedding dress, wedding gown, donate --- ### [Expert advice to navigate Family Court without a lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigate-family-court-without-lawyer/) **Published:** November 21, 2023 **Author:** Melanie Conn **Content:** If you have found yourself separated and unable to agree about what should happen with your children or property, at the same time as your usual expenses are piling up but you’re down one income, there is an alternative to simply giving in to your ex-partners demands. That alternative is to represent yourself in Family Court without a lawyer. Every year about 25% of people going to the Family Court represent themselves. No one is required to have a lawyer. With the cost-of-living pressure we’re all facing it makes sense that the number of people representing themselves is likely to increase soon. Someone who is representing themselves will need to write their own court documents, gather their evidence, write letters, speak in court, and follow the orders and rules of the Court. ## Five tips on representing yourself in Family Court without a lawyer ## 1. Treat it like a second job 1. Unfortunately going to court is time consuming and mind consuming. If you’re going to represent yourself, it will be a lot of work and probably some days off work. It helps to approach it like your second (or third or fourth) job. Get set up so that any court related emails are going to a specific email address. This way it is easier to find things and you don’t risk being blindsided when you only checked your email to find out what time the Easter Hat parade was being held. Be familiar with the [Commonwealth Courts Portal](https://www.comcourts.gov.au/pip/individual/new). This is how people give documents to the court and the court gives you copies of orders made. It is a good idea when you create your portal account to select to receive email notifications of anything new being lodged. Get a calendar. Diarise everything. Deadlines are important. The Court is not likely to accept, ‘I forgot,’ as an excuse. If you can’t meet a deadline, let the other person know. Just like with your usual job you need to maintain work/life balance and look after yourself. Court proceedings are stressful, enlist as much help and support as possible – including professional supports. Consider setting boundaries on your self-representing ‘work,’ such as office hours, so you’re not left fuming after reading an affidavit right before bed. ## 2. Budget for hidden costs Even if you’re representing yourself, going to court will still cost money. The hidden costs can be broken down into the following categories: ### Fees you must pay the court These [fees are listed on the court website](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/fees/fl-fees) and include, for example: to give an application to the court about parenting -$550 and for each day of a hearing -$745. You can apply to the court for an [exemption from court fees](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/guidelines-exemption-fees) if you’ll experience hardship in paying them. You do this by completing a form on the court website. ### Costs for experts You may be required by the court to contribute to the costs of an ‘expert’ that is necessary. This could be the costs of Hair Follicle Testing for drugs/alcohol ($500-$600) or to obtain a report from a new psychologist or a current treating psychologist. ### There is always a risk you might be ordered to pay the legal costs of the other person Usually, each person pays their own legal fees. However, the court can make an order for someone to pay the other person’s legal costs where the circumstances justify this. You can read about what the court considers in [s117 of the *Family Law Act 1975*.](http://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117.html) ## 3. Research and obtain targeted legal help The Judge comes to a decision based on what the law says they must consider. It’s important to understand the key concepts in the law. You also need an understanding of the basic process of the court. Both are considered legal information and can be found online. The best places to get information are the website of the [Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl) and [Legal Aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/). While you may not be able to afford a lawyer to send letters or attend court for you, you should still consider getting help with the most essential parts of your case – documents and advice. There are lawyers that will write documents or provide you with advice even though they are not representing you. This is called ‘unbundled’ legal services. [Family Court Solutions](https://www.facebook.com/people/Family-Court-Solutions/61550621656995/) is an online service run by experienced family lawyers to help people representing themselves. They can write your documents for a fixed fee and provide advice over the phone. They also offer a review service where they can read a document you’ve written and give you advice about it. ## 4. Respect the power of words Family Court cases are run mainly through documents. You tell the court in your ‘Initiating Application’ or ‘Response’ documents what it is that you want. You can’t just turn up to court and let the Judge know by talking to them. The evidence that the Court uses to make decisions is what you write in your ‘affidavit’ and any documents you might attach to your affidavit. It is important to your case to have clear and relevant documents. - Top tips for writing an affidavit that a Judge will pay attention to: - It might seem obvious but type it up - Use headings and sub-headings based on what you know about the key concepts in the law - If you’re telling a story, organise it by date - Don’t use the words ‘always’ and ‘never’ – there is an exception to everything! ## 5. Prepare for court events To make sure you’re going to the right place at the right time you can look up your matter on the court website the day before, by searching for ‘daily list.’ If you don’t have dial-in details, email the Judges Associate or the other person’s lawyer. Each court event starts off with people saying who they are. The ‘Applicant’ is the person who applied to the court first. The ‘Respondent’ is the person who did their documents second. People are usually defined as the ‘mother/father’ or ‘wife/husband,’ depending on what is relevant. Someone who is representing themselves is often referred to as ‘unrepresented’ or an ‘unrepresented litigant.’ You should refer to the Judge as ‘Your Honour’ or a Registrar by their job title i.e. a Registrar as ‘Registrar,’ and a Senior Judicial Registrar as ‘Senior Judicial Registrar.’ Sometimes Court can be overwhelming. If you’re not sure what people are talking about you should let the Judge know, it’s their job to explain it to you. Try to have someone else attend with you and write down everything that happens, as it happens. If you can’t, make sure you write down what the Judge decided at the end of the court event and ask what the purpose of the next court event is. ## Some general dos for representing yourself in family court without a lawyer - No matter what, be respectful of the Judge – they make the decision, it’s best to try and stay on-side. - Be gracious to your ex-partner. There might be very little that is positive that you can truthfully say, however, if you acknowledge some good points or correct information, it makes you come across as more reasonable. Never roll your eyes while your ex is speaking – write down what has upset you, you will get a turn to tell the Judge. - Try to be as formally dressed as possible. Impressions consciously or unconsciously add to the Judges opinion. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigate-family-court-without-lawyer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigate-family-court-without-lawyer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** legal aid, legal, self represent --- ### [10 Best value washing machines in Australia 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/best-value-washing-machines/) **Published:** March 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you are in the process of researching the best value washing machines, there are many factors to consider, including price, efficiency, capacity, and durability. You want good value, but you also need a quality machine that won’t let you down under pressure! It’s great that there are so many options available on the market. However, knowing which washing machine offers the best value for money in the long term can make it challenging. This article provides a comprehensive guide to the best value [washing machines](https://www.thegoodguys.com.au/laundry/washing-machines "washing machines") in Australia 2025, both top-loaders and front-loaders. Keep reading to find the perfect machine for your budget and washing requirements. ## The difference between top loaders and front loaders ### Drum capacity Top loaders have an edge when it comes to drum capacity. Front-loaders tend to perform worse with heavy loads, and you should take extra care not to overload your machine. For front-loaders, you should wash lighter loads instead. This would take more time compared to washing using a top-loader. ### Cleaning performance Front-loaders take the cake when it comes to cleaning performance. Consumers, reviewers, technicians, manufacturers and retailers agree that front-load washing machines tend to be better when it comes to both stain removal and water removal. This is because the wash motion is better than top-loaders, making the mechanical action more effective. ### Loading and unloading When it comes to loading and unloading, top-load washing machines are better than front-loaders. For many people, especially the elderly, find top-load washing machines more comfortable, since they don’t have to bend over to unload the wash. Manufacturers do make pedestals to make loading and loading better for top-load users, but these incur additional costs. ### Noise Front-loader washing machines tend to be quieter. They also cause less vibration compared to top-loaders. The agitator used in top-load washing machines is often louder than the mechanism used in their counterpart. If your laundry area is near bedrooms or living areas, look for the anti-vibration feature, which would make your top-loader quieter, or opt for a front loader. ## How to assess if a washing machine is good value for money ### Price comparison A primary factor to consider when searching for the best washing machine is the price. Of course, as a mum, you want to choose the best value for your hard-earned money. Look at different models within your budget and study their features. You will find that many features are similar across brands (e.g. wash programs, eco modes, child lock), so look for one that have the features you need but without breaking the bank. ### Eco features Different washing machines have different eco features. If carbon reduction benefits are important for you, consider what it is you want to priorise. Using less detergent? Less water? Or finishing the load quickly to consume less electricity? However, note that eco mode can have disadvantages when it comes to performance. You might want to take a look at both pros and cons of eco settings. ### Energy efficiency Related to eco features is energy efficiency. Simply put, your appliance should get the job done while conserving electricity. Many appliances nowadays come with Energy Star rating, which you can use to check the energy efficiency of your washing machine. Basically, an Energy Star certified washing machine will be better for finishing your laundry in less time or at a lower temperature. This means it is better for avoiding higher electricity bills. ### Water usage Another important factor to look into is how much water your machine needs to finish a cycle. This is important if you want to save money in your water bills. An easy way to check the water efficiency of your machine is if it is Energy Star certified. An Energy Star certified washing machine consumes 14 gallons of water per load, compared to standard washing machines which need 20 gallons per cycle. ### Durability Durability, or the average lifespan of a washing machine, is another important consideration, especially in terms of reducing resource consumption and waste production. The average life of a washing machine today is 10 to 13 years. You want a washing machine that will live up to its expected life span or even more so you don’t have to buy a new one every few years. ### Maintenance The final factor to look out for when researching best value washing machines is the availability of servicers and parts suppliers in case there are issues in your washing machine. Make sure that critical parts are available locally so it can be easily replaced when necessary. Most of the washing machines listed in this article have a warranty of at least two years, so check if the merchant is in your locality and able to help if issues arise. ## Our pick of best value washing machines in Australia 2025 ## Front loader washing machines ### [Hisense 7.5kg Front Load Washer](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60101?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.binglee.com.au%2fproducts%2fhisense-7-5kg-front-load-washer-purejet-hwfy7514) With a washing capacity of 7.5kg, an energy and water rating of 4.5 stars, and energy consumption of 230 kwh/year, Hisense 7.5kg Front Load Washer is a dream washing machine. Aside from being aesthetically beautiful, this stainless steel washing machine has 15 incredible programs to choose from and steaming function. I personally love its Baby Care Steam feature, giving new mums peace of mind when it comes to washing their kids’ clothes. [![HISENSE 7.5KG FRONT LOAD WASHER - PUREJET (2022) HWFY7514](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/hisense.jpg "hisense - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60101?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.binglee.com.au%2fproducts%2fhisense-7-5kg-front-load-washer-purejet-hwfy7514) Buy from [BING LEE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60101?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.binglee.com.au%2fproducts%2fhisense-7-5kg-front-load-washer-purejet-hwfy7514) ### [Kogan 8kg Front Load Inverter Washing Machine](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/5gaGjj) This beauty – which comes in black and white – has a capacity of 8kg, with 16 wash programs with LED display, a built-in timer for up to 24 hours, and a water and energy rating of 4 stars. I love the smart-pausing feature, which allows me to add clothes in the middle of the cycle. It also has a child lock and anti-flood devices. [![Kogan 8kg Front Load Inverter Washing Machine (Series 9)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/kogan.jpg "kogan - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/5gaGjj) Buy from [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/5gaGjj) ### [Euhomy 8.8LBS Portable Washing Machine](https://amzn.to/4irMZem "https://amzn.to/4irMZem") The key features of this washing machine include Anti-Bacterial Treated door seal and detergent dispenser, buttons in LED display, and spin speed of 1200 rpm. With 4 star energy rating and 4.5 star water rating, its 16 program cycles make sure you’re able to properly care for different types of fabric. It also has child lock and speed up wash option for when something urgent pops up. [![Haier HWF75AW2 7.5kg Front Load Washing Machine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/haier.jpg "haier - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.jbhifi.com.au/products/haier-hwf75aw2-7-5kg-front-load-washing-machine?queryID=de84a3d551176843199840d7b3c6ac82&objectID=348196) Buy from [JB HI-FI](https://www.jbhifi.com.au/products/haier-hwf75aw2-7-5kg-front-load-washing-machine?queryID=de84a3d551176843199840d7b3c6ac82&objectID=348196) ### [Panda 5kg Portable Washing Machine ](https://amzn.to/4i6MjeB "https://amzn.to/4i6MjeB") If minimising your impact on the environment is your top priority, then the Esatto 5kg Front-Load Washing Machine could be a great choice for you. Although its capacity is relatively low, it still has 15 wash programs to help you take care of different types of fabric. For heavily soiled garments, there are also Pre-Wash and Extra Rinse functions to make sure your laundry is extra clean. 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It has a maximum spin speed of 1400 rpm, making the machine super quiet. ![Euromaid 8.5kg 84cm Front Load Washing Machine Garment/Clothes Laundry Washer WH](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/euromaid.jpg "euromaid - Beanstalk Mums") Buy from MYDEAL ## Top loader best value washing machines ### [Kogan 10kg Top Load Washing Machine](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/vNzvDO) Need a washer with a massive capacity? Look no further than Kogan 10kg Top Load Washing Machine. It has 6 wash programs, 8 water level settings plus 9 water power levels. I personally love the memory function and fuzzy logic control. It also has child lock protection from the curious little ones. 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It also has vibration reduction technology that makes it a super quiet machine – perfect when your laundry room is near a bedroom or living room. ![9.0 kg Topload Washing Machine with Wobble™ and Digital Inverter Technology](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/samsung.jpg "samsung - Beanstalk Mums") Buy from [BING LEE](https://www.binglee.com.au/products/samsung-white-9kg-top-load-washer-wa90t6250bw) ### [Haier 6kg Top Loader](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60101?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.binglee.com.au%2fproducts%2fhaier-6kg-top-load-washing-machine-hwt60aa1) You would love the automatic load-size and water-sensing function of Haier 6kg Top Loader. The model boasts of being gentle for clothes, with its gentle pulsating wash action that uses less water than conventional machines and reduces abrasions and tangling. But what I love the most is its advanced auto-balancing technology which corrects unbalanced wash loads. 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Euromaid 8kg Top Load Washing Machine solves that with its extra large opening, making it faster to finish your laundry in one go and easier to load bulkier items. Although the model is also a bit more expensive than other washing machines, it successfully merges traditional design with modern convenience. Euromaid is also incredibly quiet, compared to most top-load machines. Buy from [APPLIANCES ONLINE](https://www.appliancesonline.com.au/product/euromaid-8kg-top-load-washing-machine-etl800fcw) ### [Carson 9kg Top Load Washing Machine](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/5gaGk9) Last on our list of best value washing machines, this top-loader from Carson has a massive capacity of 9kg, easy to set up, and has great wash features. It has 8 wash programs, including a mode for children’s clothing and anti-crease. My favourite thing about this washing machine compared to others in the list is that, despite its large capacity, it’s still sleek, so it will fit even in smaller laundry rooms. 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If you’re booking a holiday to this popular tourist destination, it’s good to be prepared should the heavens open. And you’ll be pleasantly surprised as there is lots of fun stuff to do in bad weather on the Gold Coast. Rainy days can be an opportunity to delve into the hidden gems of the Gold Coast undercover world, unveiling a treasure trove of memorable experiences that cater to all ages and interests. So, don’t let a few raindrops dampen your spirits. Here are some great ideas of things to do in bad weather on the Gold Coast. ## Visit an indoor attraction There are a lot of indoor attractions on the Gold Coast that you and your family can choose from on a grey, rainy day. Your kids will be amazed with the oddities, futuristic maze-like worlds, and holograms of dinosaurs, among others. These facilities provide a fun and immersive play experience for the whole family. Many guests return to these attractions again and again, so don’t be surprised if your family asks you to take them there again, even when it’s not a rainy day. Here are some great starting points for you: - [Ripley’s Believe It or Not! Surfer’s Paradise](https://www.ripleys.com/surfersparadise/) - [Infinity Attraction](https://infinitygc.com.au/) - [Holoverse – Dinosaur World](https://surfers-paradise.holoverse.com.au/) Or, if your kids are adventurous, head on to [iFLY Indoor Skydiving Surfer’s Paradise](https://ifly.com.au/) for some indoor skydiving and levitating action. ## Check out a museum or gallery It’s always good to have a deeper knowledge and appreciation about a place you are visiting. Rain or shine, museums and galleries are perfect venues to learn about art and history, and on the Gold Coast, you’re in for a treat. For example, the Gold Coast boasts of the largest collection of wax figures in this side of the equator ([Gold Coast Wax Museum](https://australiagoldcoast.com/)), a vast collection of relics from various wars Australia was involved in ([Gold Coast War Museum](https://www.goldcoastwarmuseum.com.au/)), and a “trick-art” gallery of optical illusions ([ArtVo Gold Coast](https://www.artvogoldcoast.com.au/)), among others. Here are other museums and galleries your family might enjoy love: - [Gold Coast Motor Museum](https://gcmm.com.au/) - [The Royal Queensland Art Society](https://rqas.com.au/) - [Surf World Gold Coast](https://www.surfworldgoldcoast.com.au/) ## Go shopping The Gold Coast offers a wide range of stores, boutiques, and entertainment that are perfect for the family to spend a rainy day. Whether you’re looking for global brands or local artisans, you can easily find something in a shopping centre. Many of these shopping centres also have cinemas, arcades, and restaurants – so they’re an all-in-one family destination to pass time during a bad weather. Some of our favourites are: - [Harbour Town Premium Outlets](https://www.harbourtowngoldcoast.com.au/) - [Miami Marketta](https://www.miamimarketta.com/) - [Paradise Centre](https://www.paradisecentre.net.au/) ## Indoor trampoline parks Another idea is to have a couple of hours of energetic fun at an indoor trampoline park. It’s thrilling and enjoyable, not to mention a great way for you and the kids to get your [daily exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/). Take this as an opportunity to release some stress, too! Make sure to bring extra shirts to change in after all that high-flying and bouncing. Here are some indoor trampoline parks on the Gold Coast to check out: - [BOUNCE Trampoline Park Gold Coast](https://www.bounceinc.com.au/burleigh-waters-info) - JUMMPS Indoor Trampoline Park ## Go bowling or play arcade games Take your kids’ eyes off the screen of their mobile phone, and head to one of the Gold Coasts’ bowling alleys and arcade centres. You can have a little friendly competition in the bowling alley, or allow your kids to play arcade games on their own. It’s a fantastic way for the family to pass time and bond over games and yummy food from the snack bar. If you’re thinking of bowling alleys and arcade centres as a backup plan in case it rains, here are some options: - [Timezone Surfers Paradise](https://www.timezonegames.com/en-au/surfers-paradise) - [Level Up Arcade](https://www.leveluparcade.com.au/) - [Strike Bowling](https://www.strikebowling.com.au/) ## Catch a movie For a minimum of two hours solid entertainment where you don’t need to lift a finger, why not head out to the latest blockbuster or an independent film at one of the Gold Coast’s cinemas. Choose choose regular screens, VMax screens, or premium lounges with recliners and waiters to bring your food and drinks. Some cinemas also offer discounts for group bookings, making them perfect for the whole family. Hit up Google for the nearest cinema to where you are staying or head out further and explore some other parts of the coast on your cinema trip. Alternatively, the Gold Coast also has great theatre productions, so if you’re not in the mood for the big screen, definitely check them out. ## Indoor mini-golf Another fantastic way to spend a rainy day is by challenging your family to a game of mini-golf at an indoor facility. Whether you’re seasoned golfers or amateurs, indoor mini-golf is a fun way to be active in a non-intimidating environment. Simulated golf has popped up in various restaurants and bars, but there are also family-friendly facilities on the Gold Coast. Here are some indoor golf facilities you can take the kids: - [Holey Moley Golf Club Cavill](https://www.holeymoley.com.au/) - [Game Over](https://www.gameovergc.com.au/mini-golf) ## Visit a local library Wouldn’t we rather stay in bed and read a book when the weather is bad? But then, the kids. Thankfully, you and your family won’t have to be stuck in your Airbnb or hotel because the Gold Coast has numerous libraries to add to your rainy day to-do list. Libraries are typically free admission, and you can spend the whole day there. Don’t worry about the kids getting bored since most libraries today are not limited to books; they have movies, games, maker spaces (with 3D printers, blocks, and more), and play areas for the whole family to enjoy. ## Relax at a spa or wellness centre If there’s one thing bad weather can’t stop, it’s a pamper session! And luckily there are heaps of options on the Gold Coast to indulge in a massage, facial, or spa treatment to rejuvenate your body and mind. Here are some of the Gold Coasts’ popular spas but you can easily book into a local nail parlour or high street massage facility too. - [Gold Coast Massage and Day Spa](https://goldcoastmassageanddayspa.com.au/) - [Spa Q Gold Coast](https://www.qthotels.com/gold-coast/spaq/) - [Soak Bathhouse](https://soakbathhouse.com.au/) For your little princesses, we highly recommend Pamper Parlour in Paradise Resort! They will love the hair braiding room, glam services (face gems, press-on nails, glitter blush) applied by expert attendants. They can even host a small parlour party with sparkling pink lemonade, finger sandwiches, fresh fruits and pastries, and an option for a 90-minute ice skating session. ## Explore the local cafes and restaurants You can simply enjoy your wet-weather day with yummy food and coffee in the array of cafés and restaurants the Gold Coast has to offer. Take your pick among the Michelin-star restaurants and highly-rated cafés and bakeries. While you’ll love the long list of fine dining restaurants in this foodie paradise, you’ll also appreciate the kid-friendly casual dining spaces. For starters, these restaurants have TVs and play areas for the kids so you can kick-back a little and enjoy your break. - [Lonestar Tavern, Mermaid Waters](https://www.lonestartavern.com.au/) - [Paradise Country Farmhouse Restaurant](https://paradisecountry.com.au/park-info/farmhouse-restaurant) - [Penguins Restaurant](https://paradiseresort.com.au/eat/penguins-restaurant/) ## Conclusion: What to do in wet weather on the Gold Coast We hope this article has provided you with plenty of ideas so you can enjoy your holiday knowing that bad weather on the Gold Coast does not have to dampen your plans. Despite the region’s reputation for sun-soaked beaches and outdoor activities, plenty of enjoyable options are available when the weather takes a turn for the worse. Remember, bad weather is merely an opportunity to discover a different side of this vibrant coastal destination. So, pack your umbrella and embrace the unexpected, for the Gold Coast has something unique to offer, rain or shine. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/bad-weather-on-the-gold-coast/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/bad-weather-on-the-gold-coast/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** Gold Coast, indoor fun, rain --- ### [Uplifting & Affordable Mother’s Day Ideas for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-single-mums/) **Published:** May 6, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Quick Takeaways from Affordable Mother’s Day Ideas for Single Mums - Mother’s Day is exhausting. It is completely normal to find this day challenging, isolating, and financially stressful as a single mum. - Keep it cheap and cheerful. You do not need expensive outings to feel valued; cost-free nature walks, messy potlucks, and backyard gardening work wonders. - Redefine self-care for survival: Embrace free, achievable micro-habits like taking an uninterrupted bath or cooking your favourite spicy meal. - Protect your absolute peace. Stay off social media to avoid the comparison trap, and set firm, boring boundaries with your ex during handovers. - Opting out is totally fine. If the day is just too heavy, you have full permission to treat it like a standard Sunday. Put on your trackies and simply rest. ## Why is Mother’s Day challenging for single mums? **Mother’s Day is uniquely difficult for single mums because it often highlights our sheer exhaustion, financial strain, and the lack of another adult to orchestrate the celebrations.** It’s the one day of the year that’s supposed to be all about you. Yet it can feel like a glaring reminder of doing absolutely everything solo. When there’s no partner to sneak the kids out for a secret shopping trip or make you slightly burnt toast in bed, the day can feel incredibly heavy. Add the endless social media feeds of perfectly curated, two-parent families having matching brunches, and the single mum guilt can easily creep in. You might find yourself questioning if you’re giving your kids enough or doing this whole parenting gig right. But remember, getting your kids fed, dressed, and out the door with love is the true measure of a successful morning. You are showing up every single day, handling the epic tantrums, the tight budget, and the endless mental load while probably running on four hours of sleep. So, don’t forget to organise a special Mother’s Day gift for yourself. Mother’s Day doesn’t define your worth; you are already their safe zone and a landing pad for all of life’s ups and downs. If your kids are with their other parent this weekend, the quiet house can feel a bit deafening. We just need a practical survival plan that doesn’t cost the earth, require a fake smile, or make us feel worse. ## What are the best affordable Mother’s Day ideas for single mums? **The best affordable Mother’s Day ideas for single mums include hosting a low-cost potluck, enjoying a nature trail, and leaning into simple, low-effort hobbies.** You do not need a $200 day spa voucher to feel valued today. In fact, some of the most restorative activities are completely free or cost very little. Allowing you to enjoy Mother’s Day without financial strain. Here are my top realistic, budget-friendly ways to reclaim the day. **1. Host a single mum potluck brunch.** If you hate the idea of sitting at home, text your fellow solo-mother friends. Have everyone bring whatever random snacks are currently in their pantry for a zero-stress potluck brunch. You can vent, laugh, and eat without worrying about a massive restaurant bill or keeping toddlers quiet. **2. Get outside for a nature walk.** If the house feels too cramped and chaotic with toys everywhere, pack a simple lunch and head outdoors. Grab your picnic blanket, find a quiet spot in a local park, and just breathe. A special day walking in nature is great therapy. Getting out of your usual messy environment works wonders for a heavy mindset, especially when you can pick a bouquet of flowers and bring it home as a reminder of beauty. ![affordable Mother's Day ideas for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/f41389ec-3000-4e47-9aea-90e8694d3df5_20240409_152623_0000-1066x800.jpg "f41389ec-3000-4e47-9aea-90e8694d3df5_20240409_152623_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") **3. Dig into garden therapy:** For the green-thumb mums, spend the day tending to your plants and getting your hands dirty. If you don’t have a big yard, creating a small indoor garden or repotting a balcony plant is incredibly grounding. Watching something grow under your care is a beautiful reminder of your nurturing power. **4. Give back through volunteer work:** Sometimes, the best way to shift our own funk is to help someone else who needs it. Volunteering at a local animal shelter or community garden gets you completely out of your head. It gives you an instant sense of purpose and connection when you might be feeling a bit lost. ## How can I celebrate Mother’s Day alone without feeling overwhelmed? **You can celebrate Mother’s Day alone without feeling overwhelmed by reframing the day as a much-needed personal retreat and focusing on achievable self-care.** If it’s your weekend without the kids, the sudden silence can be incredibly confronting. But instead of seeing it as an empty house, try to reframe it as a rare, uninterrupted sanctuary. You finally have full control over the TV remote and the thermostat, and you don’t have to share your snacks. **5. Take a strict social media detox:** The worst thing you can do on Mother’s Day is doom-scroll through Instagram. Seeing curated photos of elaborate family brunches is a fast track to feeling totally inadequate. Delete the apps for 24 hours to protect your peace and avoid the comparison trap. **6. Start a memory book or journal:** Grab a cheap notebook and pour your unfiltered feelings onto the pages. Reflect on your parenting journey, acknowledge how exhausted you are, but also how incredibly strong you’ve been. If you want to dive deeper into connection, check out our guide on the **[Single Mothers Club: How to Beat Loneliness This Awareness Week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-single-mothers-club-how-to-beat-loneliness-this-awareness-week/)**. **7. Have a guilt-free binge-watch session:** Shut the blinds, stay in your trackies, and watch that trashy reality show you usually have to hide from your kids. You don’t have to do anything even remotely “productive” today. Surviving the week and keeping tiny humans alive is productive enough. ## Are there free ways to treat yourself on Mother’s Day? Yes, there are many costless ways to treat yourself on Mother’s Day, such as taking a long bath, making a comforting meal from scratch, or writing yourself a letter of appreciation. Self-care doesn’t have to look like a luxury wellness retreat or a complex 5 AM morning routine; it can simply be personalising your day to suit your needs. Real self-care is about finding tiny, achievable micro-habits amidst the daily chaos. Let’s redefine treating yourself as things that don’t stretch the already-tight budget. **8. Create an at-home DIY spa:** Use those dusty bath salts that have been sitting in the bathroom cupboard since last Christmas. Run a hot bath, lock the door, slap on a face mask and stay in there until the water goes completely cold. Nobody is going to knock and ask you to wipe their bum, so enjoy the absolute peace. **9. Cook (or order) your exact favourite meal:** We spend 364 days a year cooking plain pasta and meticulously cutting crusts off sandwiches. Today, make the spicy, complex, or indulgent food your kids would normally complain bitterly about. Eat it while it’s actually hot, ideally with a nice glass of cheap wine. **10. Write yourself a letter of appreciation:** It sounds a bit cheesy, but writing down three things you are genuinely proud of as a mum is incredibly powerful. You are the one doing the heavy lifting, the late-night worrying, and the endless budgeting. Give yourself the massive validation you deserve, because you have absolutely earned it. ## How do I manage co-parenting triggers on Mother’s Day? **You can manage co-parenting triggers on Mother’s Day by setting firm boundaries with your ex, keeping handovers brief, and keeping all communication strictly about the kids.** Mother’s Day can often bring up complicated, messy feelings if you have to navigate a handover with your ex. Seeing them, or not hearing a simple “Happy Mother’s Day” from them on behalf of the kids, can really sting. Remember that their behaviour is a reflection of them, not your worth as a brilliant, exhausted mother. Keep any communication strictly centred on your child, and use a co-parenting app if needed to keep things structured and less emotional. Do not expect them to validate your hard work today, because you will likely just end up disappointed. Try not to dictate what happened during their time unless it crossed a line, as letting go of the small stuff gives you peace. If your kids are coming back from their dad’s house, don’t pressure them to have a gift or a handmade card ready. They are little, they don’t hold the purse strings, and they probably forgot. Just greet them with a massive hug and move straight into a relaxing evening together on the couch. ![Garden therapy Beanstalk Single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000009911-1066x800.jpg "1000009911 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How can I manage the financial pressure of Mother’s Day without overspending? **You can manage the financial pressure of Mother’s Day by reviewing your government entitlements, making smart fortnightly budgets, and completely ignoring the retail hype.** When you’re running a household solo, every single dollar has a purpose, and the budget is always stretched thin. The commercialisation of Mother’s Day is designed to make people spend money they don’t have, which can trigger massive anxiety. Understanding your single-parenting payment rates can make a real difference to your sense of control. Take a moment to note your current single parenting payments and any upcoming changes, so you can move forward feeling informed rather than overwhelmed. Use this weekend to look at [**Single Parenting Payment Rates: Services Australia Update Explained**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) to ensure you are getting everything you are entitled to. Budget your fortnightly payments into weekly amounts to help cover everyday living expenses and child-related costs without the guilt. Remember, applying for benefits isn’t “asking for help”—it’s accessing the support you’re entirely entitled to while raising children on your own. ## Is it okay if I just want to ignore Mother’s Day entirely? It is completely okay to ignore Mother’s Day entirely if the holiday causes you too much emotional distress, financial pressure, or sheer exhaustion. There is no legal rule saying you have to celebrate Mother’s Day. If the day brings up too much grief, anxiety, or exhaustion, you have full permission to treat it like a normal, boring Sunday. Skip the forced celebrations, ignore the targeted ads, and do whatever feels easiest for your mental health. You can spend the day doing loads of laundry, mundane grocery shopping, or just catching up on desperate sleep. Sometimes, ignoring the hype is the ultimate, most rebellious form of self-care. Do not let marketers, pushy relatives, or social pressure dictate how you spend your valuable weekend. If friends or family push you to attend a massive family event you just don’t have the energy for, a polite “no thank you” is a complete sentence. Protect your boundaries fiercely, because you are the boss of your own time. For more insights into the psychological impact of parental guilt and how to reframe it, [**Psychology Today offers fantastic resources**](https://www.psychologytoday.com/). ### Join the Village Single motherhood is a wild, exhausting ride, and you shouldn’t have to do it alone. Come and join our private Facebook community, the SingleMum Vine. It’s a safe, judgement-free place to connect, vent, and share a digital glass of wine with a community of mums who truly get it, especially during Mother’s Day in Australia when emotions can run high. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day **Tags:** mother's day, Mother's Day Ideas --- ### [Tips for studying as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** September 29, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Having children is wonderful, but one thing’s for sure: they are not conducive to furthering your career. However much we hear about workplace gender equality, taking time off for baby-making can set you back big time in the employment stakes. If you’ve lost your footing on your pre-baby career or it’s time for a change, you may be deliberating the prospect of studying as a single mum. Whether the classroom beckons out of necessity, boredom or aspiration, the challenge will be trickier this time round. That’s not to say it can’t be done. Single mothers are extremely capable. We are masters of multitasking. Driven by the desire for a better life for their children, single mums make enthusiastic and hard-working students. So what do you need to take into account when studying with children? Whether you’re already immersed in study, or you’re pondering your pupil within, these guidelines will get you top marks as a student… and as a mum. > ## STUDYING AS A SINGLE MUM ### DON’T BITE OFF MORE THAN YOU CAN CHEW This is hugely important when it comes to studying with kids. The desire to get the study completed so you can embark on your shiny, new career is understandable. But slow and steady wins the race. Your children are your main commitment, and your study must work around them. Think of it this way: Would you rather finish your studies in two years with a low result and unhappy children? Or finish your study in four years with a great result and your mother/child bond intact and thriving? ### SURROUND YOURSELF WITH INSPIRATION Working towards a goal isn’t always easy. Like any resolution, you’ll be fired up at the beginning, and this will propel you through the first stages of your new study/mum life. Then, as boredom, tiredness, and ‘why did I decide to do this’ kick in, you may lose sight of your original agenda. Harness your enthusiasm at the beginning to make it easier in the later stages. Put pictures/visuals of your desired career in strategic places in your home. Do a mission statement. Save an inspirational phrase to your desktop. Choose a friend/family member to encourage you when the chips are down. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-9159413-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-9159413 - Beanstalk Mums") ### ORGANISATION IS KEY FOR STUDYING AS A SINGLE MUM As a single mum, you will know that the key to, well … everything, is organisation. As long as you are highly organised, all is a-ok. Study is no different. According to Skills You Need, ‘Getting yourself organised so that you can study effectively is an important first step in study skills’. So make sure you enjoy your study by preparing efficiently, both at home and within your new curriculum. For help getting your single mum life to make the space needed for study, see our [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ### CHOOSE A STUDY THAT EXCITES YOU This study/kids thing is going to be challenging. Hopefully in a good way, but challenging nevertheless. Make sure you study a subject/vocation you are genuinely interested in. Something that will engage you, even excite you. Your enthusiasm for your study will fuel you through the hard times. Make the right decision now to prevent changing and wasting time further down the line if you become bored with your topic. ### DO IT FROM HOME WHEN STUDYING AS A SINGLE MUM With a huge variety of [online study options](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-courses-that-can-improve-your-job-prospects/) available, it’s possible to do a degree from your dining room table. It’s a big plus when studying with kids, allowing the flexibility to work around single mum commitments, as well as saving time (and money) travelling. There’s still plenty of opportunity for communication with your teachers and other students by phone, email and online forums. Take a look at [Open University](https://www.open.edu.au/), which offers a myriad of courses in conjunction with leading universities. ### HEALTHY BODY, HEALTHY MIND You’re going to need maximum brain power for your studies. And extra energy too. It can be all too easy to let your own health slip when time is of the essence. But you must look after yourself in order to successfully study with kids. *Hello Brain* suggests ‘Regular exercise like taking a brisk walk in the park or physical activities like gardening can nourish our brain and recharge batteries, galvanising brain power. Medical studies reveal that the fitter you are, the healthier your brain becomes.’ ## MORE SUPPORT FOR SINGLE MOTHERS WHO STUDY ### COMPARTMENTALISE YOUR STUDY TIME ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Image-2.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") You know, when you have loads to do, you try to do it all at once and achieve very little? It’s an easy trap to fall into. If you compartmentalise your study time away from other aspects of your life, you will be more productive. Work out how many hours of study you need to do a week and allocate time for them. Choose times with no distractions when the kids are in bed or at school. Or go to the library so you’re not tempted to turn on the TV or prepare dinner instead. Again, our [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) can seriously help you with this. ### OUTSOURCE (IN OTHER WORDS, GET HELP!) Studying with children is no mean feat, and no one will think any less of you if you seek help. Whether it’s calling in favours from friends, leaning on family or paying for a cleaner, if it will make life easier … do it. Consider how busy your life is already, and then imagine it with your new study commitment. There are only so many hours in a day, so treat yourself to some help. A cleaner for a few hours a week, or a childminder. It will be worth it in the long run. ### SEEK SUBSIDIES, FIND FUNDING, GET IN WITH THE GOVERNMENT Depending on the type of study and your home circumstances, there will be government assistance. This includes a number of [Centrelink study allowances](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/services/centrelink/education-entry-payment?utm_id=7), a federal government loan scheme and [training supplements](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/services/centrelink/pensioner-education-supplement). Check out [online single mother groups](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-single-parent-support-groups-you-may-not-know-about/) for advice and suggestions. Make sure you do your homework to find out what applies to you before you get started. You might find you don’t have the time later, or it’s too late to claim. There is help out there. And you are entitled to it. ### MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOUR CAREER ADVISOR Usually, when you start a study course, you’ll be assigned a career advisor. Take time to introduce yourself and make your circumstances known. It will be a comfort to have someone to turn to for advice and support. Their experience with other single mums studying will be invaluable to you. Several websites offer career advice; they are less personal but have heaps of information. Try [My Future](http://myfuture.edu.au) and [Career Girls](http://www.careergirls.org/) for starters. ### REMEMBER THE BIGGER PICTURE WHEN STUDYING AS A SINGLE MUM Studying with kids can cause feelings of guilt. It’s typical to feel your children may suffer from your long study hours and occasional short temper. At times like this, you must remember the bigger picture (and remind your kids of it too). You are studying for a fulfilling and rewarding career from which everyone will benefit. It is important for our children to see us aspire and achieve. They will grow up believing they can also reach their dreams if they put their minds to it. ![Tips for study as a single mum | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Study-as-a-single-mum.png "Study as a single mum - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** online courses, study and kids, college, university, career ladder, online study --- ### [20 Hilarious ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/crazy-hair-day/) **Published:** May 11, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Get your hair brush and gel ready because we have some fabulous ideas for Crazy Hair Day that will have your child rocking the catwalk (sorry, assembly line) at school this year. This day of follicle frenzy is the ultimate excuse for kids to let their imaginations run wild and transform their everyday school hairdo into a work of art. From rainbow-coloured Mohawks to gravity-defying beehives and bed-head-hair-on-steroids, it is the perfect opportunity for kids to show off their creativity and express their unique personalities. Of course, you might be scratching your own head and wondering how on earth you will turn your child’s hair into a masterpiece. If so, keep reading for inspiration and ideas for Crazy Hair Day. ## Ideas for Crazy Hair Day: Girls ### Pouring pop Such a great idea for the long-haired kiddies. Tun their luscious locks into a bottle pouring pop. ![Pouring pop | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/GMwwZ99.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Imgur](https://imgur.com/gallery/GMwwZ99) ### Donut bun Turn a simple ballet bun into a yummy donut with minimal effort and maximum effect. ![Donut bun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/donut-doughnut-pink-frosting-and-sprinkles-hair-style-crazy-hair-day-fun-hair-clip-costume-easy-diy-hot-glue-crafts-and-diy-hairclip13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Doodle Craft Blog](https://www.doodlecraftblog.com/2016/10/donut-with-sprinkles-hair-clip.html) ### Bird Cage It’s not just Crazy Hair Day; it’s Bring Your Pet to School day, too! Perfect for medium to long hair, mum gets additional points if the bird chirps. [![Bird cage | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/bird-cage.jpg "bird cage - Beanstalk Mums")](http://crafty-kid.com/2018/09/bird-cage-crazy-hair-day/) Source: [Crafty-kid.com](http://crafty-kid.com/2018/09/bird-cage-crazy-hair-day/) ### Easter Basket Oh, this basket braid is perfect for girls with thick and silky hair. It would make a great impact at an [Easter bonnet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-bonnet-ideas/) parade too. Exchange the eggs for milk bottles and dress her in a milkmaid dress if you’re not feeling Easter. [![Easter Basket](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/easter-basket.jpg "easter-basket - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/42jWwiw) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/42jWwiw) ### Peppermint Patty Here’s another neat upgrade to the basic bun. It’s fun and creative without being over-the-top. [![Peppermint Patty | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/peppermint-patty.jpg "peppermint-patty - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/73n7m9x) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/73n7m9x) ### Rapunzel’s Tower Time for your littl girl to lend their magical golden tresses to everyone’s favourite Disney princess. The longer the hair, the higher the tower! [![Rapunzel Tangled Tower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/tangled.jpg "tangled - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/3Yat8vo) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/3Yat8vo) ### Clothesline Transform those mid-length locks into poles to dry Barbie’s clothes on. I love the green dye on the tips that make the braids look like palm trees. [![Clothesline | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/clothesline.jpg "clothesline - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/5icgOi4) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/5icgOi4) ### Spiky Porcupine Perfect for chocolate brown tresses as spikes, using toothpicks is an incredible and fun upgrade to the basic bun. [![Spiky Porcupine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/porcupine.jpg "porcupine - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/5Mo67OD) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/5Mo67OD) ### Medusa This hairstyle is perfect for Greek mythology fans. Intertwining the rubber snakes into your kid’s sophisticated braids will surely make everyone take a look. (A plus if her stare can turn them into stone!) [![Medusa | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/crazy-hair-day-medusa.jpg "crazy-hair-day-medusa - Beanstalk Mums")](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/136796907425994071/) Source: [Pinterest](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/136796907425994071/) ### Shoot That Ball Great for medium to long hair in any colour, showcase her love for sports by turning her tresses into a net. Switch to baseball or football for a change. [![Shoot that ball](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/basketball3.jpg "basketball3 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/Okynq67) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/Okynq67) ## Ideas for Crazy Hair Day: Boys ### Surfer Boy If you have a little wannabe surfy dude, this is easy, on-point and really cool. ![Surfer Boy | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/66a57dbd6a976a72577b5ac07ec3cde6.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/13510867607472342/) ### Electricity head Get your little lad all charged up with this hilarious spark plug hair design. ![Electric head](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/e9250b17e3d0c6eaf8aba566a8e7057c.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/587227238932453244/) ### Lightning McQueen Your racer-in-the-making will surely speed up to school with his Cars-themed hair. [![Lightning McQueen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/lightning-mcqueen.jpg "lightning-mcqueen - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.loulougirls.com/) Source: [LouLou Girls](https://www.loulougirls.com/) ### Pineapple This pineapple head is a classic and always a big hit. Make sure that your boy is up to shaving his head like this juicy summer fruit. Tell him his hair will grow back fast! [![Pineapple | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/pineapple.png "pineapple - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.facebook.com/Pickselly/photos/gm.454893431316720/727980847277407/) Source: [Pickselly](https://www.facebook.com/Pickselly/photos/gm.454893431316720/727980847277407/) ### Campfire Bring camping to the school grounds! Great for fiery redheads, the twigs and s’mores turn up the heat with this hairstyle. (If your Boy Scout’s hair isn’t naturally red, you can always dye it!) [![Campfire](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/bonfire.jpg "bonfire - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/6ASecEs) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/6ASecEs) ### Chameleon Is it an iguana? Or is it a chameleon? Or is it a gecko? If he still needs to get into it, this hairdo is an exciting way to introduce him to the world of reptiles. [![Chameleon | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/iguana.jpg "iguana - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/2whRFbi) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/2whRFbi) ### Creepy Crawlies What are little boys made of? This one’s an awesome design for your little kid who’s always collecting creepy crawlies. [![Creepy Crawlies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/grass.jpg "grass - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.notjustahousewife.net/grass-costume/) Source: [Not Just a Housewife](https://www.notjustahousewife.net/grass-costume/) ### Shark Attack Sink into his love for the deep blue sea and those sharp teeth! If you’re feeling extra villainous, why not add a surfer or two? [![Shark Attack | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/shark-scaled.jpg "shark - Beanstalk Mums")](https://headcasechristian.wordpress.com/2017/05/15/crazy-hair-day/) Source: [The Headcase Christian](https://headcasechristian.wordpress.com/2017/05/15/crazy-hair-day/) ### Lawnmower and Grass It’s like reminding him of his responsibilities at home, but in a fun, wacky way! [![Lawnmower and Grass](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/lawnmover.jpg "lawnmover - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/7HukIz0) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/7HukIz0) ### Weiner Dog Who let the dogs out? It’s mum! Well, it’s not every day your little dog-lover can get away with bringing their favourite furry friend to school. [![Weiner Dog | Ideas for crazy hair day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/weiner-dog.jpg "weiner dog - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pin.it/EMyT9xS) Source: [Pinterest](https://pin.it/EMyT9xS) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/crazy-hair-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/crazy-hair-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [What's a memory jar and how can it help my child?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/) **Published:** July 3, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As the single mother of two young daughters who are experiencing the highs and lows of co-parenting, I’m always looking for ways to make their lives easier. And one of the very best tools I have found is a memory jar. This wonderfully simple invention is not only for children of separated families. Memory jars have a fantastic place in children’s lives whatever their age and situation. And adults, too. Children today are indescribably busy because they have pressures that were non-existent in our childhood, alongside the demands of technology and the increasing speed of everyday living. As a result, we as parents must encourage downtime and reflection. Children must have the opportunity to stop, take stock and be thankful for the positive things in their world. If they whizz through life too quickly without conclusion or afterthought, they can become exhausted and complacent. Enter the memory jar … which is simply a way of recording happy memories! What could be better than that? An opportunity to harness the good in life, allowing us to reminisce and evoke feelings of happiness created from past events. ## What’s a memory jar, and how can it help my child? ### HOW TO MAKE A MEMORY JAR? A memory jar is simply a container in which children (and adults) write down all their happy memories. Creating a memory jar is so easy … it’s child’s play. Here’s what you do: - Simply take a jar or container - Decorate it with colours, ribbon and/or stickers (optional) - Label it. For example: \[Child’s name\] Memory Jar (optional) - Prepare some small pieces of paper and place them by the jar with a pen - Alternatively, you can buy a personalised jar online - That’s it. Your memory jar is ready to go! Stockist: [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/668272379/farmhouse-memory-jar-thankful-jar-guest?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=memory+jar&ref=sc_gallery-1-1&plkey=e5f6e4e54cda380172f121a0184d491141d3d09d%3A668272379) ### HOW TO USE A MEMORY JAR So, every time your child does something that makes them happy, they (or you) write it on one of the pieces of paper and put it in the jar. If they go to daycare or school, ask them what they did and remind them to add the positive things to the jar. Note: It’s the little things that matter with a memory jar. Did they eat a yummy piece of chocolate cake, have a joke with a friend or were they praised by a teacher? Moments of happiness, pride, peace or [contentment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/) can all be written on a piece of paper and popped into the jar. Then, pick a time, the end of each week, for instance, empty the jar and read what’s on the pieces of paper, i.e. the happy moments. Relive them, laugh about them and tell each other why they made you feel good. ### HOW CAN COLLECTING MEMORIES HELP CHILDREN OF DIVORCED OR SEPARATED PARENTS? For children who [move between parents and houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/), a memory jar is a fantastic tool to make the handover as happy and positive as possible. This is because children need to feel content, not only about where they are going, but also about where they are leaving. Therefore, just before handover is a perfect time to empty the memory jar and look back over the happy moments you’ve shared. It’s a content conclusion to their time with you. You may even discover something you didn’t know. A moment they consider worth remembering that you didn’t think was important to them. ### HOW CAN A MEMORY JAR HELP CHILDREN TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS? ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Pexels-pixabay-236215-1200x792.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-236215 - Beanstalk Mums") A memory jar is invaluable if your child is feeling anxious or overwhelmed about their life. At times, children struggle to view their lives in a positive light. A common issue is what’s known in psychology as [memory bias](http://www.sciencedaily.com/terms/list_of_memory_biases.htm). This means they remember what they want to. It can result in them remembering the past as being great, which in comparison makes the present day not as good, and ultimately creates feelings of negativity, [anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do/) or even depression. However, the weekly use of a memory jar can remind children of all that is good in their world, allowing them to view their current life more favourably and, in turn, feel happier. ### MORE IDEAS TO STORE YOUR HAPPY MEMORIES - Memory jars don’t have to be individual. Why not start a shared memory jar for the whole family? There’s a great deal of pleasure in emptying the jar and sharing moments that have shaped your lives. - Memory jars make beautiful bespoke gifts. An individually crafted memory jar given as a gift for a wedding, birthday or to a new mother is sure to delight. - Don’t restrict a memory jar to notes only. Memorabilia can be added on a whim. Anything small enough that conjures a memory is perfect. For example, a cinema ticket or a small keepsake prize. - Start a memory jar at the beginning of a New Year. Use it to record all the special moments throughout the year. Looking back through the jar at the end of the year will be magical. - Create a memory jar for a special holiday. Whilst away, write down your memories and collect souvenirs. Then, when you get home, decorate a jar and stash your holiday memories in it. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Above all, remember that we go through life experiencing ‘things’ one after the other, almost without a heartbeat in between. Many are good, some are great. Yet because we have over [2,500 and 3,300 thoughts in heads per hour](http://www.successconsciousness.com/blog/inner-peace/how-many-thoughts-does-your-mind-think-in-one-hour/), much of what we experience is forgotten. Don’t let these wonderful moments fleet past. Collect them. Store them to fuel the rockier times in life. For a memory that makes you smile, is it a memory worth keeping? ![Memory jar | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Memory-jar.png "Memory jar - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Healing **Tags:** anxiety, co parenting, mental health --- ### [What Medical Research Says About Sustainable Weight Loss During Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/what-doctors-want-you-to-know-about-sustainable-weight-loss-during-separation/) **Published:** May 11, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** **Quick Summary on weight loss during separation:** - **It’s biology, not willpower:** The chronic stress and sleep disruption of a separation directly impact hunger hormones (like ghrelin and leptin), naturally driving up sugar cravings. - **Focus on sleep first:** Managing your mental load and improving sleep hygiene are critical first steps before attempting any restrictive caloric deficit. - **Sustainable over restrictive:** Healthy weight loss as a single mum requires realistic, science-backed habits that fit into your busy co-parenting routine, rather than crash > **The Weight Watchers Clinical Approach** > > - **Doctor Recommended:** Weight Watchers is the #1 doctor-recommended weight-loss program, built on an evidence-based framework by nutrition and behavioral science experts. > - **Clinically Informed:** Rather than restrictive dieting, the program is clinically designed to support sustainable habit building and weight loss, even during high-stress life transitions. > - **Proven Performance:** The platform helps members lose weight while still eating the foods they love, backed by decades of nutritional research. Separation is easily one of life’s most exhausting marathon events. Between looking after the kids, untangling finances, and dealing with a daily emotional rollercoaster, self-care usually drops right off the to-do list. Let’s be honest, in those early days of a breakup, “dinner” sometimes looks like half a piece of leftover toast and a large glass of wine. But as the dust settles, many mums find their sleep is entirely disrupted, and their eating patterns are all over the place. Suddenly, you’re craving sugar at 9 PM and feeling exhausted by 9 AM. Interestingly, doctors point out that this isn’t a lack of willpower—chronic stress and short sleep actually change the way your body regulates hunger[\[1\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=A%20good%20night%E2%80%99s%20rest%20promotes,appetite%2C%20growth%2C%20and%20fat%20production). When you’re running on less than six hours of rest, your body produces more ghrelin (a hormone that stimulates appetite) and less leptin (the hormone that signals fullness)[\[2\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=Research%20subjects%20who%20slept%20only,a%20hormone%20that%20triggers%20hunger)[\[1\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=A%20good%20night%E2%80%99s%20rest%20promotes,appetite%2C%20growth%2C%20and%20fat%20production). That hormonal shift leaves you craving sugary, high‑fat foods at precisely the time you’re least able to resist them. This article explains why that happens and offers practical, sustainable strategies for taking care of your body and mind without adding extra pressure. ## Why does lack of sleep during separation affect hunger and cravings? Short sleep alters hunger hormones almost immediately. Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people who slept only four hours a night for two nights had an **18 % decrease in leptin and a 28 % increase in ghrelin**[\[2\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=Research%20subjects%20who%20slept%20only,a%20hormone%20that%20triggers%20hunger), while volunteers also reported greater cravings for sweets and starchy foods[\[3\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=The%20study%20volunteers%2C%20all%20healthy,such%20as%20bread%20and%20pasta). A population‑based study from Stanford showed that people who regularly slept **five hours instead of eight** had **14.9 % higher ghrelin and 15.5 % lower leptin** levels[\[4\]](https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html#:~:text=The%20researchers%27%20data%20showed%20a,population%2C%27%20he%20said). These hormonal changes make you feel hungrier and less satisfied after eating, increasing the risk of overeating. In addition to hormone shifts, poor sleep affects decision‑making and self‑control. Sleep‑deprived brains seek out quick energy in the form of refined carbohydrates and sugar, especially when you’re already emotionally taxed. Chronic exhaustion also makes you too tired for physical activity, compounding the energy imbalance[\[5\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=sleep%20can%20also%20lead%20to,Fatigue%20may%20also%20affect%20BMI). By prioritising sleep, you stabilise your hunger hormones and give yourself the mental bandwidth to make healthier choices. ### What happens when you get less than six hours of sleep? When your sleep is cut to five or six hours, your body enters a state of **hormonal imbalance**. Ghrelin levels rise and leptin drops[\[2\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=Research%20subjects%20who%20slept%20only,a%20hormone%20that%20triggers%20hunger)[\[4\]](https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html#:~:text=The%20researchers%27%20data%20showed%20a,population%2C%27%20he%20said), causing intense hunger even when you’ve eaten enough. Sleep loss also increases cortisol, the stress hormone, which further stimulates appetite and promotes fat storage[\[6\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=%E2%80%9CWhen%20we%20experience%20stress%2C%20our,General%20Practice%20based%20in%20London). Over time, chronic short sleep has been linked to higher body mass index and weight gain[\[7\]](https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html#:~:text=The%20researchers%27%20data%20showed%20a,population%2C%27%20he%20said). This is why tracking your sleep—aiming for seven to nine hours—can be a powerful, non‑restrictive tool for supporting your health. ### How can you improve sleep when you’re overwhelmed? Even small shifts can make a big difference. Try: - **Setting a consistent bedtime and wake time** – routine helps regulate your body clock. - **Creating a calming pre‑bed ritual** – warm showers, gentle stretching, or reading can promote relaxation. - **Limiting screens before bed** – blue light can suppress melatonin and delay sleep onset. - **Seeking help** – talk with your GP if insomnia persists; medical support is a sign of strength. The Weight Watchers (WW) app includes a **sleep tracker** that reminds you to prioritise rest. It logs your nightly hours so you can see patterns and celebrate improvements. Getting consistent sleep supports the long‑term success of the Points® program by helping to rebalance ghrelin and leptin[\[1\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=A%20good%20night%E2%80%99s%20rest%20promotes,appetite%2C%20growth%2C%20and%20fat%20production). ## How do stress and emotional upheaval cause sugar cravings when you’re newly single? Stress triggers a cascade of hormones that make high‑sugar, high‑fat foods especially tempting. **Cortisol**, released during chronic stress, increases appetite and can lead to emotional eating[\[6\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=%E2%80%9CWhen%20we%20experience%20stress%2C%20our,General%20Practice%20based%20in%20London). Harvard Health notes that persistent stress raises cortisol and drives people toward energy‑dense “comfort” foods; this combination of hormones and sugary foods pushes people to overeat[\[8\]](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat#:~:text=Stress%20eating%20can%20ruin%20your,to%20relieve%20stress%20without%20overeating). In the short term, stress may dampen appetite, but when it persists, cortisol levels remain elevated, and cravings intensify [\[9\]](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat#:~:text=In%20the%20short%20term%2C%20stress,temporarily%20puts%20eating%20on%20hold). Eating these foods temporarily boosts feel‑good chemicals like dopamine[\[10\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=stressed%20can%20create%20unhealthy%20associations,that%20behavior%20in%20the%20future), creating a feedback loop between stress and snacking. High cortisol also disrupts the balance of ghrelin and leptin[\[11\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,emotional%20eating%20as%20a%20coping), making you feel hungrier even when your body doesn’t need more energy. This can lead to weight gain, particularly around the abdomen[\[12\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,%E2%80%9D). ![weight loss during separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/New-facebook-post-12.jpg "What doctors want you to know about sustainable weight loss during separation - Beanstalk Mums") ### How can you manage emotional eating triggers? Acknowledge that comfort eating is a normal response to stress, and approach yourself with compassion. Then consider: - **Identifying non‑food coping strategies** – journaling, calling a friend, or stepping outside for fresh air can soothe strong emotions. - **Practising mindfulness** – pausing for a few deep breaths before eating helps you decide whether you’re truly hungry or seeking comfort. - **Having nourishing options ready** – keep fruit, nuts and other satisfying foods on hand to satisfy hunger without heavy sugar spikes. - **Seeking community support** – connecting with other mums through Weight Watchers’ **Connect** community can offer encouragement and reduce feelings of isolation. Remember that occasional emotional eating is human. The goal isn’t perfection but awareness and self‑kindness. ## What are realistic strategies for mums to manage weight without restrictive diets during a breakup? A sustainable approach focuses on small, maintainable habits rather than restriction. Doctors emphasise that **preserving muscle mass** and moderating calorie intake are key to long‑term health[\[13\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=Why%20Muscle%20Mass%20Matters%20and,How%20to%20Keep%20It). Here are practical tips: - **Prioritise protein and fibre** – lean meats, legumes and vegetables keep you fuller for longer and support muscle maintenance. - **Stay hydrated** – thirst can masquerade as hunger; track water intake through the Weight Watchers app. - **Plan balanced meals and snacks** – prepare simple meals ahead of time to avoid last‑minute choices driven by fatigue or stress. - **Move in ways you enjoy** – walking with the pram, gentle yoga or dancing with the kids count as activity. Consistency beats intensity. - **Celebrate non‑scale victories** – mood, energy levels and strength are just as important as numbers. If you are looking for a tool that actually supports this kind of gentle consistency, [**The Weight Watchers program**](https://www.weightwatchers.com/au/marketing/affiliates?irclickid=1lyWRW1dkxycUXrRPDVMW2-VUkuUFL05dxh1RY0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&ir_partnerid=1253070&ir_adid=2854007&ir_campaignid=24408&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=affiliate&utm_group=%22Content%22) is designed as a **behaviour‑focused, evidence‑based lifestyle plan**. It emphasises flexibility, allowing you to enjoy all foods within your Points Budget and encourages mindful eating rather than banning certain foods. By tracking your meals, sleep and activity in one place, the app reduces mental load and helps you spot patterns without rigid rules. ### How do Weight Watchers’ features simplify healthy habits? - **Sleep tracking:** The Weight Watchers app monitors nightly sleep duration. Because inadequate sleep disturbs ghrelin and leptin[\[1\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=A%20good%20night%E2%80%99s%20rest%20promotes,appetite%2C%20growth%2C%20and%20fat%20production), understanding your sleep patterns can highlight why you’re feeling ravenous or low on energy. - **Enhanced activity tracking:** The app syncs with more than **60 fitness devices and health apps**, including Apple Health, Android Health Connect, Fitbit, and Oura. Steps and workouts automatically count toward your Points Budget. - **AI Body Scanner:** An innovative visualisation tool (available on iPhone XR or later and not offered in Illinois) creates a 3‑D scan of your body to track changes in body fat, lean muscle mass and waist circumference. This focus on muscle defence helps members see that weight loss comes primarily from fat, not precious muscle tissue. Preserving muscle helps maintain your resting metabolic rate and supports long‑term health[\[13\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=Why%20Muscle%20Mass%20Matters%20and,How%20to%20Keep%20It). ## How can Weight Watchers help you maintain muscle while losing fat? Maintaining muscle is crucial for metabolism, strength and longevity. Muscle tissue is metabolically active and raises your **resting metabolic rate**, meaning you burn more energy even at rest[\[14\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=The%20Role%20of%20Muscle). Strong muscles also support joint health, reduce the risk of falls, and contribute to better mental well-being [\[15\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=As%20you%20age%2C%20you%20naturally,risk%20of%20falls%20and%20fractures). As you age, you naturally lose muscle mass (sarcopenia), so preserving it becomes even more important[\[16\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=As%20you%20age%2C%20you%20naturally,risk%20of%20falls%20and%20fractures). The Weight Watchers program supports muscle maintenance in several ways: - **Balanced nutrition guidance** – the Points system encourages adequate protein and nutrient‑dense foods, which help repair and build muscle. - **Strength‑building plans** – Weight Watchers’ movement library and new partnerships with PVOLVE offer resistance‑training sessions that fit into busy schedules. - **AI Body Scanner** – by measuring lean muscle mass, it helps members track their progress to see that their gains come from fat loss rather than muscle loss. - **GLP‑1 Success program** – for members using weight‑loss medications, Weight Watchers offers specialised nutrition targets aimed at preventing muscle loss and maintaining energy levels. ## What are simple stress‑reduction practices for sleep‑deprived mums? Stress not only affects your emotions but also promotes fat storage and cravings[\[17\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,to%20a%20more%20sedentary%20lifestyle). Gentle, achievable practices can help lower cortisol and improve sleep: - **Mindful breathing:** Inhale for four counts, hold for four, exhale for six; repeat several times to reset your nervous system. - **Brief movement breaks:** A five‑minute stretch or walk can lift your mood and regulate blood sugar. - **Journaling or gratitude lists:** Writing down feelings or three things you’re thankful for can shift focus away from stress. - **Social connection:** Reach out to a friend or join a Weight Watchers workshop; sharing your experiences lightens the load and offers perspective. - **Professional support:** Counsellors and GPs can provide tools and therapies for managing stress, insomnia or anxiety. ## What do the Weight Watchers membership levels include? According to independent reviewers, all memberships include the Points program, a database of zero‑Point foods and GLP‑1 tracking. The differences lie in the level of support: | Plan | Who it suits | Key features | |---|---|---| | **Core** | Mamas who prefer a self‑guided approach using the app | Access to the Weight Watchers app for food, water and activity tracking; Points Budget; Connect social community; no ongoing workshops (a two‑week free trial of workshops is included)[\[18\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=,week%20free%20trial). | | **Core+** | Those who want extra accountability and community | Everything in Core plus **unlimited virtual or in‑person meetings** with Weight Watchers Coaches; access to structured programs such as menopause support and the GLP‑1 success program (behavioural support only, not medical prescriptions)[\[19\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=,and%20the%20%2024). | | **Med+** | Mums who need medical guidance alongside lifestyle changes | Includes all Core+ features **plus a telehealth platform with board‑certified clinicians** who can evaluate eligibility for weight‑loss medications. Prescriptions (e.g., GLP‑1 medications) are provided if you qualify, but medication costs are separate[\[20\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=,be%20covered%20by%20your%20insurance). | These tiers allow you to choose the level of support that matches your needs and budget. Keep in mind that some plans may require a 12‑month commitment[\[21\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=IMPORTANT%21%20Weight%20Watchers%2012%20Month,Commitment). ## Summary Navigating separation is challenging, and it’s common to experience disrupted sleep, stress and cravings. Medical research shows that sleeping less than six hours and chronic stress can elevate ghrelin, lower leptin and raise cortisol, leaving you hungrier and more prone to emotional eating[\[2\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=Research%20subjects%20who%20slept%20only,a%20hormone%20that%20triggers%20hunger)[\[8\]](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat#:~:text=Stress%20eating%20can%20ruin%20your,to%20relieve%20stress%20without%20overeating). Instead of strict dieting, focus on **sleep hygiene, stress reduction, balanced nutrition and preserving muscle mass**[\[13\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=Why%20Muscle%20Mass%20Matters%20and,How%20to%20Keep%20It). Weight Watchers offers a flexible, clinically informed program that integrates sleep tracking, activity syncing and an AI Body Scanner to support you through this season without adding to your mental load. Remember, sustainable change comes from compassionate self‑care and small, consistent habits rather than quick fixes. Reach out for support; [**you deserve to feel strong and nourished during and after separation.**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/what-to-do-after-separation) And for all our Beanstalk Mum readers, we’ve secured 60% off core memberships \*terms apply – **[Get it here.](https://www.weightwatchers.com/au/marketing/affiliates?irclickid=1lyWRW1dkxycUXrRPDVMW2-VUkuUFL05dxh1RY0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&ir_partnerid=1253070&ir_adid=2854007&ir_campaignid=24408&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=affiliate&utm_group=%22Content%22)** --- [\[1\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=A%20good%20night%E2%80%99s%20rest%20promotes,appetite%2C%20growth%2C%20and%20fat%20production) [\[5\]](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption#:~:text=sleep%20can%20also%20lead%20to,Fatigue%20may%20also%20affect%20BMI) [How a Lack of Sleep May Increase Calorie Consumption \| Sleep Foundation](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-deprivation/lack-sleep-may-increase-calorie-consumption) [\[2\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=Research%20subjects%20who%20slept%20only,a%20hormone%20that%20triggers%20hunger) [\[3\]](https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain#:~:text=The%20study%20volunteers%2C%20all%20healthy,such%20as%20bread%20and%20pasta) Sleep loss boosts appetite may encourage weight gain – UChicago Medicine <https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/news/sleep-loss-boosts-appetite-may-encourage-weight-gain> [\[4\]](https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html#:~:text=The%20researchers%27%20data%20showed%20a,population%2C%27%20he%20said) [\[7\]](https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html#:~:text=The%20researchers%27%20data%20showed%20a,population%2C%27%20he%20said) Stanford study links obesity to hormonal changes from lack of sleep <https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2004/stanford-study-links-obesity-to-hormonal-changes-from-lack-of-sleep.html> [\[6\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=%E2%80%9CWhen%20we%20experience%20stress%2C%20our,General%20Practice%20based%20in%20London) [\[10\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=stressed%20can%20create%20unhealthy%20associations,that%20behavior%20in%20the%20future) [\[11\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,emotional%20eating%20as%20a%20coping) [\[12\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,%E2%80%9D) [\[17\]](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds#:~:text=,to%20a%20more%20sedentary%20lifestyle) Why Stress Can Lead to Craving Comfort Foods <https://www.healthline.com/health-news/being-stressed-leads-your-brain-to-crave-more-comfort-foods-study-finds> [\[8\]](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat#:~:text=Stress%20eating%20can%20ruin%20your,to%20relieve%20stress%20without%20overeating) [\[9\]](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat#:~:text=In%20the%20short%20term%2C%20stress,temporarily%20puts%20eating%20on%20hold) Why stress causes people to overeat – Harvard Health <https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/why-stress-causes-people-to-overeat> [\[13\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=Why%20Muscle%20Mass%20Matters%20and,How%20to%20Keep%20It) [\[14\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=The%20Role%20of%20Muscle) [\[15\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=As%20you%20age%2C%20you%20naturally,risk%20of%20falls%20and%20fractures) [\[16\]](https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it#:~:text=As%20you%20age%2C%20you%20naturally,risk%20of%20falls%20and%20fractures) Why Muscle Mass Matters and How to Keep It <https://www.massgeneral.org/news/article/why-muscle-mass-matters-and-how-to-keep-it> [\[18\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=,week%20free%20trial) [\[19\]](https://theholymess.com/weight-watchers-2025/#:~:text=,and%20the%20%2024) 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We love choosing for this age group because you can get away with silly, jokey presents—they absolutely love a good prank! Or go the messy route with mud, slime, or insect-themed fun. For the sporty boys, anything soccer, basketball, or even fishing-related will hit the mark. Tech-minded kids might be thrilled with a toy drone, walkie-talkie set, or something that makes a big bang—like a science kit with a play volcano. And let’s not forget the quieter ones who’d happily lose themselves in a new book or a favourite game on their console. With so many options, it can feel overwhelming, but don’t worry — we’ve pulled together 20 creative gift ideas for young boys to make your choice simple. ***More to get? Keep looking here: [20 Cool stocking fillers for little boys.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cool-stocking-fillers-for-little-boys/)*** ## 20 Cool Gift Ideas for Young Boys ## 1. Gift Ideas for Young Boys (Sweet Tooth Pick): Kids Gift Hamper First on our list of gift ideas for young boys – a snack box gift hamper! It is a sweet way to spoil a young boy without overthinking it. Packed with kid-friendly favourites—think Freddo’s, Maltesers, Skittles, or even a block or two of their go-to treat—it’s guaranteed to light up their face. You can even mix in a small toy or colouring book to balance out the sugar rush. It’s simple, fun, and always a hit! ![Kids Gift Hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Gifts-young-boys-snack-box-hampers-1004x800.jpg "Gifts-young-boys-snack-box-hampers - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Snack Box Hampers](https://snackboxhampers.com.au/product-category/gift-box-hampers-for-kids/ "Snack Box Hampers") ## 2. Mini Drone A drone is one of our top gift ideas for young boys. We recommend a mini drone that is easy to control and fly. [![Mini Drone | gift ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/34653048930334-800x800.jpg "34653048930334 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bigw.com.au/) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/) ## 3. Trampoline A trampoline that’s safe and secure is a must for your backyard. Designs like this one protect kids from metal components. [![Trampoline](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1-8fe02e1dd8-tw10004or-4.webp "1-8fe02e1dd8-tw10004or-4 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/oqVrjE) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/oqVrjE) ## 4. Gift Ideas for Young Boys (Affordable Pick): Beach Towel When it comes to gift ideas for young boys, an awesome poncho beach towel is perfect. Choose from an endless variety of designs. [![Beach Towel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/GoodVibesPonchoPalCottonBeachPoncho.jpg "GoodVibesPonchoPalCottonBeachPoncho - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/Good-Vibes-Poncho-Pal-Kids-Cotton-Beach-Poncho-BAMF2898.html) We found this at: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https://www.templeandwebster.com.au/Good-Vibes-Poncho-Pal-Kids-Cotton-Beach-Poncho-BAMF2898.html) ## 5. Fishing Set Teach your children how to fish with a fishing set made for tiny hands. The fishing pole, lures and tackle are kid-sized and easy to handle. [![Fishing Set | gift ideas for young boys](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81JExqEOJrL._AC_SL1500_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/34n3JyU) We found this at: [Amazon](https://amzn.to/34n3JyU) ## 6. Gift Ideas for Young Boys (Educational Pick): Books Give your kids a head start in reading with books and magazines that they will love. Comic books with drawings are perfect for primary school. [![Books](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61Us-mQLXJL._SY498_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/obsessed-with-marvel-peter-sanderson/book/9781785656651.html) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/obsessed-with-marvel-peter-sanderson/book/9781785656651.html) ## 7. Gift Ideas for Young Boys (Practical Pick): Smart Watch Not old enough for a smartphone? Give your boy a smart watch that has call and text functions, a camera, a tracker, and SOS for emergencies. [![Smart Watch | gift ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/PDP-thumbnail3copy7_1728x.webp "PDP-thumbnail3copy7_1728x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77630?Url=https%3a%2f%2fspacetalk.co%2fproducts%2fspacetalk-adventurer-2-smartwatch-phone) We found this at: [Spacetalk](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77630?Url=https%3a%2f%2fspacetalk.co%2fproducts%2fspacetalk-adventurer-2-smartwatch-phone) ## 8. Snorkel and Mask A snorkel and mask can make swimming in the pool or ocean easier for kids who are still learning. Choose high-quality materials for durability. [![Snorkel and Mask](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/fbIAAOSwWVxetjRx/s-l1600.jpg)](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/264725388379?chn=ps&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) We found this at: [Ebay](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/264725388379?chn=ps&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) ## 9. Backpack Young boys will always find a use for a new backpack. Pick a cool design that matches your child’s personality. ![Brightstar Kids backpack | gift ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Backpack-product-gallery-square_thumb-800x800.jpg "Backpack-product-gallery-square_thumb - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/kindy-backpack.html) ## 10. Robotic Claw This kit lets your kids build their own robotic claw to pick up all sorts of objects! It’s easier than you think and incredibly fun. [![Robotic Claw](https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-cf7jv97qb3/images/stencil/1280x1280/products/22142/121279/FSG3434_1__62605.1617006325.jpg?c=2)](https://www.edresources.com.au/toys/) We found this at: [EdResources](https://www.edresources.com.au/toys/) ## Outdoor Gift Ideas for Young Boys ## 11. Scooter It’s easier to get around the neighbourhood when you have a scooter. Plus, it develops balance and coordination. Pick one that is designed for safety with soft grips, smooth bearings, and a non-slip grip. [![Scooter | gift ideas for young boys](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h36/ha9/29220911284254.jpg)](https://www.bigw.com.au/) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/) ## 12. A Tent! Gifts for young boys who love adventure? We got you. A classic camping tent will keep your kids comfy and protected from the elements. [![Tent](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/2662/bestway-camping-tent-pop-up-canvas-hiking-beach-sun-shade-camp-3-person-dome-8814618_00.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/Oryn7Z) We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Oryn7Z) ## Premium Gift Ideas for Young Boys ## 13. Smart Puppy Robot Dog Kids want a dog but hate cleaning up after them. Give them a robot dog. It does everything a real puppy can do (and more) minus the mess. [![Smart Puppy Robot Dog | gift ideas for young boys](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/6115OXia3ML._AC_SL1007_.jpg)](https://www.crazysales.com.au/) We found this at: [Crazy Sales](https://www.crazysales.com.au/) ## 14. Marble Run Make marble races ten times more exciting with a marble build set. It’s a great bonding activity for parents and kids. Although marble runs come in different designs, a natural colour makes it easier to fit somewhere as an interesting decorative piece once your boy doesn’t want it in his room anymore. [![Marble Run](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/BP80562159-natural.jpg "BP80562159-natural - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.spotlightstores.com/art-craft/other-crafts/craft-kits/robotime-marble-night-city-diy-kit/80562159?gclsrc=aw.ds&gclsrc=aw.ds&gclid=CjwKCAjw6p-oBhAYEiwAgg2PgvFdVGkArF_GBjO97iY67CcJPSuMjFdRehLakHHPRmGeOJ0KKZ5hbxoCddIQAvD_BwE) We found this at: [Spotlight](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fart-craft%2fother-crafts%2fcraft-kits%2frobotime-marble-night-city-diy-kit%2f80562159%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjw6p-oBhAYEiwAgg2PgvFdVGkArF_GBjO97iY67CcJPSuMjFdRehLakHHPRmGeOJ0KKZ5hbxoCddIQAvD_BwE) ## 15. A Bike Learning to ride for the first time? A balance bike is perfect. The low frame makes it super easy to balance and build confidence. [![Bike | gift ideas for young boys](https://assets.kogan.com/images/kg-electronic/KXG-18245/1-a207b2b839-18245.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qnMNAq) We found this at: [Bicycles Online](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qnMNAq) ## 16. Illuminated Globe This globe lights up and features animals from different countries. Fun and educational! [![Illuminated Globe ](https://www.limetreekids.com.au/database/images/childrens-illuminated-animal-pattern-globe-main-191854-10374.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-childrens-illuminated-globe-10374.aspx%3fsource%3dGoogle%26device%3dc%26campaign%3d1525049439%26adgroup%3d61166619507%26keyword%3d%26matchtype%3d%26placement%3d%26adposition%3d%26location%3d9068935%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwqp-LBhDQARIsAO0a6aJANIprbza8noBrk7C9vAKotrqvGLuWv_-QMQwTwSH957rlCOkCoO4aAp6bEALw_wcB) We found this at: [Lime Tree Kids](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-childrens-illuminated-globe-10374.aspx%3fsource%3dGoogle%26device%3dc%26campaign%3d1525049439%26adgroup%3d61166619507%26keyword%3d%26matchtype%3d%26placement%3d%26adposition%3d%26location%3d9068935%26gclid%3dCj0KCQjwqp-LBhDQARIsAO0a6aJANIprbza8noBrk7C9vAKotrqvGLuWv_-QMQwTwSH957rlCOkCoO4aAp6bEALw_wcB) ## 17. Scalextric Set Modern kits have everything you need to race toy cars indoors or out: cars, race track, hand controllers and power supply. [![Scalextric Set | gift ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1-f31a43119f-83121-1.webp "1-f31a43119f-83121-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/KjgDey) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/KjgDey) ## 18. Game Console and/or Accessories Game consoles for young boys don’t have to be boring. Ones that require no internet or downloads are super awesome. Simply plug into your TV and play. [![Game Console and/or Accessories](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h10/hf9/28136380006430.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/DVo1QG) We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/DVo1QG) ## 19. Easel For little artists who love painting and drawing, a big easel will help improve skills and creativity. We recommend getting an easel where one side is dry-erase, and the other is a chalkboard. [![Easel | gift ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/crayola-kids-wooden-art-easel-bs040479-6331196_00.webp "crayola-kids-wooden-art-easel-bs040479-6331196_00 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Qy05Ox) We found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Qy05Ox) ## 20. Giant Puzzle Like board games, puzzles are excellent for teaching young kids logic and problem-solving skills. A giant connect fours is ideal for the backyard. [![Giant Puzzle | gift ideas for young boys](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/8skAAOSwBTpgRmf5/s-l1600.jpg)](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/323217391950?chn=ps&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) We found this at: [Ebay](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/323217391950?chn=ps&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) ## Final words on gift ideas for young boys (primary school age) When it comes to finding the perfect gifts for young boys of primary school age, the options are as diverse as their interests and personalities. From mini drones that ignite their sense of adventure to trampolines that promise hours of outdoor fun, and from books that nourish their imagination to smart watches that keep them connected in a digital world, there’s a gift for every type of young boy. For the prankster, consider a robotic claw or a smart puppy robot dog that brings endless entertainment without the mess. For the budding scientist, a telescope or a science set can spark their curiosity about the world around them. And for those who love creativity, an easel or a build-your-own robot kit can unleash their artistic and engineering talents. Remember that gifts are not just material possessions; they’re a way to nurture their interests, fuel their passions, and create cherished memories. Whether they’re into sports, technology, nature, or art, the perfect gift can light up their faces and leave a lasting impact. Explore these ideas and choose a gift that will bring the biggest smile to the special young boy in your life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-young-boys/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-young-boys/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, Xmas --- ### [Gift Ideas That Mums-to-Be Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/gift-ideas-that-mums-to-be-will-love/) **Published:** February 11, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Celebrating new life entering this world is an incredible event, and baby showers provide the ideal venue to commemorate it. Choosing thoughtful but practical baby shower gifts that leave an impression can be difficult. No one wants to choose something that will just collect dust or, worse, be regifted. In this blog, we will look at some great ideas that the mum-to-be will love. ## Personalised Keepsakes for Adorable Memories Gifts that can be tailored specifically for the recipient have a lot of sentimental value, such as custom baby blankets embroidered with their expected name or initials, photo albums, and [keepsake boxes](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KROhGra9FPM) that store special keepsakes from their first year. These can hold more meaning as they symbolise how special this relationship between the family and baby will always remain. These treasures will surely become adorable memories that everyone in the family can enjoy. ## Luxury Pampering Sets for Mum Baby showers provide a wonderful opportunity for new mothers-to-be to show how much comfort and relaxation matter during this important period. You can give her organic skincare products, soothing bath salts, or [aromatherapy candles](https://www.bestcandles.com.au/) as part of a luxury pampering set, which may bring much-needed calm from life’s busyness. Specifically, pregnancy kits can offer safe, therapeutic products that nurture expectant mums during this time. A soft robe or comfortable slippers would also be welcome additions, giving mum some well-earned indulgence before the little tornado gets hectic. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-garonpiceli-2100341-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-garonpiceli-2100341 - Beanstalk Mums") ## A White Noise Machine A [white noise machine](https://lovetodream.co.uk/products/white-noise-machine) makes an excellent baby shower gift that helps the newborn and expectant mother sleep better. These devices produce soothing background sounds, such as soft rain or static, to mask disruptive noise pollution and promote relaxation. It’s an amazing gift any mum needs in early parenthood. ## High-Quality Diaper Bags That Combine Style and Functionality Boring diaper bags should not be an option anymore. The designs that are available today are both fashionable and functional. A high-quality diaper bag featuring multiple compartments, easy-to-clean fabric, insulated pockets for bottles and stroller straps, and comfortable shoulder straps could be life-changing for new parents. Look out for [brands ](https://onefinebaby.com.au/baby-hub/best-nappy-bags-australia?srsltid=AfmBOorbtec4q7NydKjuC-rxDlzDGxQ2qIbP0zqRkUSPi_4mp5ztYrbz)offering bags with features such as these, and bonus points if it suits the mum-to-be’s personal style as well. ## Books That Create Bonds Books make an amazing and thoughtful present, helping children develop an early love of reading while strengthening the relationships between family members. You can give classic [children’s books](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/), sensory board books for newborns, or parenting books as gifts that build connection early. Make the gift extra meaningful with an inscribed handwritten message inside its cover. This will remind the recipient of your thoughtful support every time the book is opened up. ## Practical Gifts for Everyday Convenience Practical gifts don’t have to be boring. In fact, functional presents often end up being the ones most appreciated. Items such as baby swings, muslin swaddles, carrier strollers, or bottle sterilisers can make everyday life simpler for new parents. Sleeping pods provide a secure sleeping environment that newborns can relax into safely and securely. These presents demonstrate how you have thought not only of the baby’s needs but also of those of its parents as well. ## Meal Subscription Services Going through early parenthood can be exhausting, making a [meal subscription service](https://www.womensweekly.com.au/lifestyle/best-meal-delivery-services-for-families/) an ideal gift to ease their transition. Many companies provide healthy, pre-prepared meal options that meet different dietary needs to give new parents time and energy for bonding with their baby instead of planning, shopping, and cooking. When you gift them this service, you are helping save the parents’ time and effort. This gift not only benefits their health and well-being, but it can also ease some of the stress during what can often be an exhausting time for families. Families will greatly appreciate being able to cherish moments with their little one, knowing delicious and nutritious meals are close by. ## Adorable Baby Clothing Adorable baby clothing can make any parent smile, but comfort and quality matter just as much as cuteness. Look for beautifully made newborn essentials crafted from soft, gentle fabrics that are kind to delicate skin, including knitted onesies, bonnets, booties, and cosy layering pieces. For a timeless and thoughtful gift, [3 Little Crowns](https://www.3littlecrowns.com.au/) offers heirloom-style newborn outfits in soft neutral tones, designed with a classic aesthetic that feels both elegant and beautifully understated. ## Unique Nursery Decor Help the parents-to-be create an elegant nursery by gifting decor that’s both useful and decorative. Think about items such as colourful wall art, soothing musical mobiles, or soft night lights as thoughtful items to help add character and practicality. Opt for gifts that fit easily with their nursery’s decor. You can choose neutral colours and timeless themes, so your present will fit right in. Thoughtful decor pieces not only demonstrate your creativity but also create a warm and welcoming environment for the baby, making their space truly special. From decorative accents to functional items with personality, your present will turn their nursery into an oasis. ## Customised Gift Hampers Whilst choosing one gift can be overwhelming, why not look at creating your own customised hamper instead? From practical essentials like diapers, bibs, and burp pads to plush toys, baby skincare products, and tiny books. You can present these thoughtful products together in an exquisitely wrapped basket. Soon, you will have an unforgettable baby shower present that offers both functionality and delight. ## Experiences and Vouchers Sometimes experiences are even more meaningful than physical gifts. Vouchers for photography sessions, maternity spa days, or [online baby classes](https://tummytalks.com.au/) make great gifts. Alternatively, purchase store credit at popular baby retailers so the parents have freedom of choice when selecting what they need for their new baby. This is an empowering gesture that honours this exciting chapter in their lives. ![gift ideas that mums-to-be will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Image-1-1200x800.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by elliot verhaeren on unsplash](https://unsplash.%20Com/photos/white-printer-paper-beside-brown-bear-plush-toy-smjqcaoretu) ## Conclusion When you are racking your brain on what the perfect baby shower gift is, choose something with meaning for both the mum and baby. That may mean something practical, like making her daily life easier, or something sentimental, like keeping it as part of her keepsake collection forever. These options in this blog provide you with plenty of ideas that the mum-to-be will love and treasure as part of her motherhood journey. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/gift-ideas-that-mums-to-be-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/gift-ideas-that-mums-to-be-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [How to Help Kids Stay Hydrated All Summer Long](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-help-kids-stay-hydrated-all-summer-long/) **Published:** May 9, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Mums want the best for their kids, and that includes keeping them healthy. Making sure they get enough water is essential to this mantra. You’ll need to plan around those summer heat waves to keep your children on the move. To make it fun, try these tips on how to help kids stay hydrated. ## 1. Eat Your Water You don’t just have to drink your water! There are [plenty of foods that hydrate you](https://utswmed.org/medblog/hydrating-healthy-foods/) without ever having to fill your glass or bottle: - Cucumbers: 96% water - Lettuce: 96% water - Celery: 95% water - Tomatoes: 94% water - Zucchini: 94% water - Watermelon: 92% water - Strawberries: 92% water Peaches, chicken broth, skim milk, yogurt and broccoli also contain 92%-88% water. In general, most fruits and leafy vegetables will help your kiddos feel hydrated. Prepare snacks for long trips or hot days to pack in the H2O on the go. ## 2. Add Some Flavour Plain water can be boring for some children, but you can spice it up with flavour. Citrus slices, watermelon chunks and strawberries are a healthy way to make water tasty. Cucumber slices and mint from the garden also work. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-juliazolotova-1320998-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-juliazolotova-1320998 - Beanstalk Mums")Image source [julia zolotova](http://photo%20by%20julia%20zolotova:%20https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/sliced-lemon-fruit-in-glass-picher-1320998/) Make it a learning experience for your child by planting basil that they can use in their water bottle. Or, go to the grocery store to find sparkling waters that infuse fruit with no added sweeteners. ## 3. Try Electrolytes Electrolytes [can help you stay hydrated](https://revivalist.com/best-hydrating-drinks/). Hydrating drinks for kids, like Gatorade, give their bodies electrolytes such as calcium, potassium and chloride to help cells recover faster. However, note that children should only ingest these drinks during long, intense sessions of extreme heat. You can give them electrolytes before and after exercise to reduce dehydration. Watch the processed sugar intake. Many packaged drinks are filled with sugar and will likely make your child go over their recommended daily intake. Instead, use electrolyte packets and pour them into water or coconut water. ## 4. Make Icy Poles Icy poles help keep mums and kids cool all summer long. To make your own strawberry icy poles, buy a mould from the grocery store or online. Add [12 ounces of plain Greek yogurt](https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/strawberry-greek-frozen-yogurt-pops/), ¼ cup of maple syrup, 2 cups of strawberries, 1 teaspoon of vanilla and 2 tablespoons of lemon juice to a blender. Pour the mix into the mould and freeze for four hours. Remove the icy poles from the mould once thoroughly frozen and enjoy. If strawberries aren’t your child’s favourite, try flavouring them with grape, mango or watermelon. ## 5. Create a Water Station ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-rdne-5593650-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-5593650 - Beanstalk Mums")Image source [rdne stock project](http://photo%20by%20rdne%20stock%20project:%20https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/a-cute-girl-in-yellow-apron-drinking-water-5593650/ "rdne stock project") Many kindys have water stations and bubblers outside. Mums can imitate that concept at home by setting up a dedicated area for their children to stay hydrated. Here’s how to set up a station with hydrating drinks for kids in the backyard: 1. Find a shaded, accessible area where your child can fetch water or a beverage independently. 2. Fill a 1-2L transparent dispenser with liquid. You should get 4-6 cups out of it. 3. Show your child how to use it and use it yourself to model drinking behaviour. 4. Refill the dispenser when it runs out. ## 6. Serve Cold Soups Cold soup is refreshing and often nutritious. Many are also easy to make, like cold cucumber soup. To make it, [add six large cucumbers](https://www.loveandlemons.com/cold-cucumber-soup/), 1½ cups of Greek yogurt, ¾ cup of basil, ¼ cup of extra-virgin olive oil, 3 tablespoons of lemon juice, 2 tablespoons of dill, ¾ teaspoon of sea salt, ½ teaspoon of honey, 1 garlic clove and a dash of ground pepper to a blender. Blend until smooth. Chill the soup for four hours. Top with cucumber, pepper, dill or chives as a garnish. Carrot and coconut soup, corn gazpacho and zucchini soup are also tasty on hot days. ## 7. Fun Water Bottles ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pexels-gustavo-fring-4127348-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-gustavo-fring-4127348 - Beanstalk Mums")Image source [gustavo fring](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/happy-mother-and-daughter-spending-time-together-on-city-street-4127348/) Encourage your child to decorate their water bottles. When you personalise them with fun stickers, shapes, and cartoon characters, they may be more excited to hydrate. Start a DIY project. Use permanent markers to write your child’s name and try stencils to paint fun designs. If you need inspiration, search Pinterest boards. Don’t forget the straw. Instead of a straight straw, find a colourful, curly one. Make a game out of it. Kiddos thrive when parents set goals with meaningful rewards. You could tell them they can play their favourite video game for an hour if they drink 4 cups of water that day. Find a water bottle with measuring guidelines to track progress more easily. ## 8. Create a Routine Children may stick to what they’re used to. If you give them soft drinks or juice at lunch, they see that as part of their routine. Giving them water at every meal or most meals will ensure your kid associates that drink with food. Take it slow when introducing new things in your kiddo’s day. Start by replacing one drink at a time or cutting their juice with water. ## How Much Should My Child Drink? When learning how to help kids stay hydrated, you need to know how much water they should be getting. Babies can’t tell you with words when they’re dehydrated, so [look for dry diapers](https://lonestarivmedics.com/signs-of-dehydration/), sunken eyes, a dry mouth and crying without tears. Once they’re older, their age, weight and activity level will determine their water intake. The Australian government has guidelines for how much [water your 1- to 18-year-old child](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/hydration-tips-for-children) needs: - Children 1 to 3: 4 cups - Children 4 to 8: 5 cups - Children 9 to 13: 5-6 cups - Teens 14 to 18: 6-8 cups ## Make Hydration Fun For Your Kids Staying hydrated during summer is easy. With a bit of effort, you can start making hydration a part of [your child’s routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/the-ultimate-kids-bedtime-routine/). Your children deserve a fun and exciting way to get in that H2O, so start implementing these tips today. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-help-kids-stay-hydrated-all-summer-long/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-to-help-kids-stay-hydrated-all-summer-long/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [30 Tattoos To Celebrate Your Children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-celebrate-children/) **Published:** May 6, 2026 **Author:** Cedie Omaña **Content:** **Quick summary** - Tattoos are a beautiful, permanent way to honour your children and carry them with you always - This list covers 30 ideas — from minimalist symbols to detailed portraits and matching designs - You can personalise any design with names, birth dates, your child’s handwriting, or their own artwork As a mum, the most important people in our worlds are hands-down our children. So why not honour them with something permanent? I’ve put together 30 tattoo ideas to celebrate your kids, so even when they’ve flown the nest, it feels like they’re always with you. This list is my own personal choice, but if you look online, you’ll find heaps of other ideas. If you are artistic, you might like to create your own design. It’s a great way to rock your totally unique artwork in body ink form. Simply take your design to a reputable tattoo shop and ask them to copy it. Or choose one below and add a twist to make it exclusive to your body. If you’d prefer something you can hold rather than wear, you can also celebrate your child by having a design engraved on [Custom Coins](http://www.enamelcoins.com/us). Not only can it be printed with your child’s name, but also their birth date or a precious moment you’ve shared together, like a permanent keepsake that travels with you everywhere. I love every tattoo on this list. I hope you do too. --- **Being a single mum means doing everything with a lot of heart. Get free tools and weekly support to help you thrive.** [Get Free Resources](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) --- ## 30 Tattoos to celebrate your children ### 1. Stork and balloons A cute stork bearing blue and pink balloons is peak cuteness when it comes to tattoos to celebrate your children. Add the names of your kids inside the balloons in a pretty script or simple lettering. [![Stork and balloons tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Stork-and-balloons-tattoo.jpg "Stork-and-balloons-tattoo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://uk.pinterest.com/pin/1011832241270257956/)Stork and balloons tattoo Source: [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/pin/1011832241270257956/) ### 2. Mother and child symbol The simplicity of this tattoo makes it for me. I love the way the child is nestles inside mum in this minimalist design that would work pretty much anywhere on your body. I think it would sit well on the ankle. ![Mother and child symbol](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/l-400x400.jpeg "l - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Tattoo Filter](https://www.tattoofilter.com/p/328423) ### 3. Baby footprints Few things in life are sweeter than baby footprints. Instead of the usual clay print, why not get tattoos to celebrate your children? This one lists the names of the children next to the prints but I think it would look nice without the names for a tidier design. ![Baby footprints tattoos celebrate your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Screen-Shot-2022-10-01-at-3.28.18-pm-300x400.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Romper](https://www.romper.com/parenting/baby-footprint-tattoo-ideas) ### 4. Name heartbeat My second daughter had an irregular heartbeat when she was inside me and now it is perfectly healthy. For this reason, heartbeats have a special significance to me and this tattoo is one that I am seriously considering. ![Name Heartbeat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Heartbeat-400x300.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/537054324310932807/) ### 5. Mum and daughter A wonderful mum and daughter drawing makes such a cute tattoo to celebrate your children. Choose something simple and graphic or a more realistic illustration. Add your child’s name and birth details to complete the piece. ![Mum and daughter tattoos celebrate your children](https://images.ctfassets.net/iyiurthvosft/featured-img-of-post-223203/f10b0c765b27df0ad5fa7a2df2d626b9/featured-img-of-post-223203.jpg?fm=jpg) Source: [Cafe Mom](https://cafemom.com/lifestyle/223203-tk-baby-name-tattoos-for-parents-to-celebrate-their-babies) ### 6. Your kid’s drawing Kid’s drawings are works of art but you’d have to be a bit brave to have one tattooed on you. I am not sure if I could do it as my kids are not that good at art! Anyway, they make brilliant tattoos to celebrate your children. This seahorse did make me laugh. Genius and super brave. ![Your kid's drawing tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Screen-Shot-2022-10-01-at-3.35.59-pm-389x400.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Popsugar](https://www.popsugar.com/family/Tattoos-Represent-Baby-Child-37761328?stream_view=1#photo-37761334) ### 7. Elephant family A family of majestic elephants walking in line is way better than those stick figure car stickers. This black and white tattoo is inked on the wrist but I think I’d put it somewhere more discreet. ![Elephant family tattoos celebrate your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/6144e13308fa54c5bfd1be479358028a-400x400.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/714876140823579249/) ### 8. Hand and foot print Baby foot and hand prints make great tattoos to celebrate your children. Go big and bold like this mumma with fancy, swirly name lettering on the bottom. Or get a smaller print with your child’s initials and DOB. It’s perfect on the arm or ankle. ![Hand and foot print](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/2c99bc274e14a104d891baca69b2863f.jpg "2c99bc274e14a104d891baca69b2863f - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/401664860491122423/) ### 9. Sleeping baby I love all these mother and child tattoos to celebrate children but this is one of my favourites. Here’s a lovely illustration of a sleeping baby being cuddled by her mum. The child’s name is at the bottom and the date of birth curves softly over the figure. Beautiful. ![Sleeping Baby tattoos celebrate your children](https://d207ibygpg2z1x.cloudfront.net/image/upload/v1555008800/articles_upload/content/i3hkjy2v4ugvmvwcaot4.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/104568022583394071/) ### 10. Cute animals There’s something about cute animal tattoos that makes me melt, and I definitely have a bit of an elephant theme happening here. This one shows a mother and baby elephant with the child’s name placed over the birth date in Roman numerals. You can try other animals like deer, dogs and birds. ![Cute Animals tattoos celebrate your children](https://images.ctfassets.net/iyiurthvosft/img-of-media-slide-325738/9120a88e2a8f787f1e41f861d1044b73/img-of-media-slide-325738.jpg?fm=jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/379357968608722775/) If tattoos feel like part of a bigger journey of self-discovery, you might also love our list of [20 brilliant divorce tattoos that say it all](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/divorce-tattoos/) — another powerful way to mark a new chapter. ## Tattoos to celebrate your children (cont.) ### 11. Your kid’s handwriting As for genius tattoos to celebrate children, your kid’s handwriting is right up there with kid drawings. This mum inked her child’s note saying “Mom, I Love You” on her upper arm. Aweeeeeee. It’s a perfect reproduction down to the uneven scrawl. Up there with the best [meaningful tattoos for mums](https://herway.net/meaningful-tattoos-for-moms/). ![Your Kid's Handwriting tattoos celebrate your children](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/fe/d7/21/fed721b0e1dba662a1e0c9476a3eefea.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/258886678553711881/) ### 12. Detailed footprint I adore the clay moulds I have of my kids footprints when they were little. This tattoo is a cooler version of that. Complete with all the details you want to include about your little one. It will take some designing but well worth it I reckon. ![Detailed footprint tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/2b15269aea043be918cf7030ddeb6507-299x400.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/317503842475135776/) ### 13. Floral baby name Take it from Hollywood celebrities. Pretty flower name tattoos are amazing to celebrate the birth of a daughter. Pick your fave flower and go for something realistic like this rose tattoo or an elegant flower symbol with your child’s name. ![Floral Baby Name tattoos celebrate your children](https://images.ctfassets.net/iyiurthvosft/img-of-media-slide-325740/81b8776d42e4cc85ae3de5c71ba09ce1/img-of-media-slide-325740.jpg?fm=jpg) Source: [Pop Sugar Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/601863937693774976/) ### 14. Graphic arrows Jump on the arrow tattoo trend to celebrate your children. I like this one that shows graphic arrows shot through with the children’s names in pretty script. A more subtle take like an arrowhead symbol with the name trailing behind. [![Graphic Arrows](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/fe/20/92/fe2092d10552a9890df1f085172dfbd8.jpg)](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/11892386496886809/) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/11892386496886809/) ### 15. Name script Never mind all the fancy drawings, sometimes a single word is enough. Your child’s name. Need I say more? ![Name Script tattoos celebrate your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Screen-Shot-2022-10-01-at-3.55.09-pm-400x269.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Kids World Fun](https://www.kidsworldfun.com/blog/tattoo-ideas-parents-wanting-honor-kids/kids-name-tattoo/) ### 16. Family portrait A family portrait can come in all shapes, sizes and styles. It some cases it can come in a tattoo form, like this one here. This is a bit Addams Family but somehow it works for me. ![Family portrait tattoo](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/3c/84/9b/3c849bc82210bdfcf223a81fa6f36cd6.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/369013763218143676/) ### 17. Mother and child portrait Love realistic art tattoos? This lifelike mother and child portrait from Tattoo List will inspire you. Just make sure to go to a professional tattoo artist who has years of experience doing this kind of work. ![Mother and Child Portrait tattoos celebrate your children](https://tattoolist.co/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Image-URL-3.jpg) Source: [Tattoo List](https://tattoolist.co/tattoo-inspiration/mom-child-tattoos-inspiring-tattoo-designs/) ### 18. Abstract mother and child This abstract take on the mother and child tattoo is just the thing if you’re looking for something subtle and elegant. The softly curving lines are classy on their own, but you can always add more details like names and birth dates. [![Abstract Mother and Child Tattoo](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/1b/ec/21/1bec214190734bf50e5b4eb5e84fb6d5.jpg)](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/257901516139797057/) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/257901516139797057/) ### 19. Cute heart balloons If, like me, you are a sucker for a cute tattoo, look no further than this picture book artwork. It shows a little boy and a girl holding cute balloon hearts. If you look closer, you’ll see that the balloon strings are actually the kids’ names written in script. ![Cute heart balloons tattoos celebrate your children](https://www.dicasdemulher.com.br/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/tatuagem-familia-61.jpg) Source: [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/p/BluiNYChyqE/) Many single mums find that [small acts of self-expression — including body art — are part of rebuilding their identity after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/reclaim-your-look-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce/). There’s something powerful about wearing your love for your kids on your skin. ## Tattoos to honour your kids (cont.) ### 20. Trendy abstract art Another on-trend tattoo idea: abstract art. Curved lines form an elegant portrait of a mother and her child in black ink. This would look amazing on the inner or outer arm, on the back or anywhere on the legs. ![Trendy Abstract Art Tattoo](https://tattoolist.co/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/61451453_146889169779882_6745982440593557052_n-1-819x1024.jpg) Source: [Tattoo Inspiration](https://tattoolist.co/tattoo-inspiration/mom-child-tattoos-inspiring-tattoo-designs/) ### 21. Meaningful symbol If you are wondering what this tattoo symbolises, it is how the parents of children with Down syndrome “rise up and move forward.” The artist Mica May said the number three represents the three 21st chromosomes that result in Down syndrome. So powerful and life-affirming. ![Meaningful Symbol tattoos celebrate your children](https://media3.s-nbcnews.com/j/newscms/2018_07/1317661/mother-kids-down-syndrome-tattoos-today-180212-inline-04_ab5e15f6f7c632fefc743d1a3ae307a8.fit-560w.jpg) Source: [NZDSA.org](https://nzdsa.org.nz/lucky-few-tattoo-may-tattoo/) ### 22. Infinity name A mother’s love for her children is infinite, as shown by this elegant infinity name tattoo. The names of the children, and in this case a bible verse, follow the curve of the symbol. I think I’d do with my kids first names, alongside their dates of birth and their first word if it would fit. ![Infinity Name Tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Infinity-name-tattoo.jpg "Infinity-name-tattoo - Beanstalk Mums")Infinity name tattoo Source: [Pinterest](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/847661961135045494/) ### 23. Birth place coordinates Angelina Jolie’s love for tattoos extends to her children. This one shows geographical coordinates of the place of birth of each of her kids (plus Brad Pitt’s birth place in Oklahoma). It’s simple, unique and meaningful. ![Brithplace Coordinates tattoos celebrate your children](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/64/2c/1a/642c1a77f2f4e8ee3c7d94601f6a60c8.jpg) Source: [Parents](https://www.parents.com/parenting/moms/beauty/tattoo-ideas-for-moms/) ### 24. Memorable dates One of my friends has a tattoo similar to this on her inner wrist with the dates of her two children’s birthdays. It’s a good choice for mothers who are getting a tattoo for the first time as it can be nice and small and as hidden as you like. ![Memorable Dates Tattoo ](https://www.boredart.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/coordinates-tattoo-Ideas-to-Mark-a-Memory-on-Body-10.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/173177548155777784/) ### 25. Zodiac signs Even if you don’t believe in astrology, you have to admit that zodiac signs and symbols look amazing inked on the skin. Opt for simple symbols for each of your children like this one, or an elegant constellation of stars. ![Zodiac Signs tattoos celebrate your children](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/e7/66/6d/e7666d87c8bf254dbd90fd27b766b118.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/487373990917590050/) ### 26. Bird family A bird family or flock of birds tattoo can mean whatever you want it to mean. On this particular one, the birds sitting on a flowering branch represent the mother, father and their two kids. As a single mother, I’d have to adapt it but that’s the beauty of tattoos, you can design away until they are perfect for you. ![Bird Family Tattoo ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/mom-tattoos-bird-family-1583524581.jpg?crop=0.879xw:0.973xh;0.0554xw,0&resize=480:%2A) Source: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/g31250436/mom-tattoo-ideas/) ### 27. Matching tattoos Matching mother and child tattoos are good for when your kids are older. Celebrate your special bond with an endless variety of precious tattoo designs. I like this one that says “Forever,” “For Always” and “No Matter What” in beautiful script. [![Matching tattoos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Matching-mother-and-children-tattoo-800x800.jpg "Matching-mother-and-children-tattoo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tattoofilter.com/p/298317)Matching mother and children tattoo Source: [Tattoo Filter](https://www.tattoofilter.com/p/298317) ### 28. Morse Code How unique is this Morse code tattoo? It represents the letter S and L, the initials of this mum’s two children. Yours doesn’t have to be this short. A name or birthday fully written in Morse code would be amazing. ![Morse Code tattoos celebrate your children](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/mom-tattoos-morse-code-1583447233.jpg) Source: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/g31250436/mom-tattoo-ideas/) ### 29. Birthmark Having a hard time choosing a unique tattoo design? It doesn’t get more special or personal than a birthmark tattoo. This mum inked her child’s birthmark on the same exact place: the space just below the V of the left hand’s thumb and index finger. Very possibly my favourite idea on this list. ![Childs birthmark tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/tattoos-funny-7522503424.jpeg "tattoos-funny-7522503424 - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Cheezburger](https://cheezburger.com/7522503424/tattoo-of-her-childs-birthmark) ### 30. Roman numerals I’ve seen a few people with these roman numeral tattoos lately so they must be coming back into fashion. They do make for an artistic design when you are working with a special birthday, and not too adventurous for a first time inker. [![Roman Numerals Tattoos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Roman-numerals-tattoo.jpg "Roman-numerals-tattoo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/606578643559530453/)Roman numerals tattoo Source: [Pinterest](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/606578643559530453/) If you’re going through a big life change alongside this new chapter of self-expression, you might find comfort in our piece on [reclaiming your look to rebuild confidence after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/reclaim-your-look-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce/) — because feeling like yourself again matters too. ## Conclusion There is no right or wrong way to celebrate the people who matter most to you. Whether you choose something tiny and tucked away, or something bold that takes up your whole forearm — your tattoo is yours. That is the whole point. As a single mum, you carry so much every single day. A tattoo is one small, permanent reminder of the love that makes it all worth it. You are doing an incredible job. --- **Join 10,000+ single mums getting free resources, weekly support, and real tools that help.** [Join Community](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) --- ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-celebrate-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-celebrate-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** tattoo, ink --- ### [7 Rewarding Career Paths for Mums Re-Entering the Workforce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/rewarding-career-paths-for-mums-re-entering-the-workforce/) **Published:** December 12, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Returning to the workforce after a career break can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. Between managing family responsibilities and staying on top of an ever-evolving job market, the thought of re-entering can feel a bit daunting. But here’s the truth: This is not about cramming yourself into a career that no longer fits. It’s about re-entering the workforce by finding something new, satisfying and adaptable that works for *you*. Whether you’re considering retraining, upskilling, or even just discovering an option that suits your current lifestyle, the job market is shining with opportunities. And the best part? Most of these jobs are ideal for mums juggling work with family. Here are six career paths that put to use the skills you’ve developed as a parent while also leading you on a journey of growth and purpose. ## **7 Rewarding Career Paths for Mums Re-Entering the Workforce** ## **1. Early Childhood Education** If there is a profession that understands multitasking, patience and reacting to chaos on a moment’s notice, it’s early childhood education. Mums often bring a unique perspective to this field, understanding the emotional and developmental needs of young children on a deeper level. You’re already a pro at this! A great way to break into this rewarding career is by pursuing the [CHC50121 Diploma of Early Childhood Education](https://practicaloutcomes.edu.au/courses/chc50121-diploma-of-early-childhood-education-and-care/). This qualification equips you with the skills to provide children with the safest and healthiest environments to meet key developmental milestones during the formative years. Whether it’s opening your own childcare centre, working as an educator or maybe even starting your own home-based childcare service, this diploma paves the way for a fulfilling and flexible career. Plus, the early childhood sector is booming, with increasing demand for qualified educators. Not only will you be helping young minds develop and grow, but you’ll also have the chance to work in a caring and family-oriented environment — perfect for a mum wanting to transition back into a work role. ## **2. Home Care Provider** A growing number of mums are finding meaningful work as a [home care provider](https://letsgetcare.com.au/ "home care provider"), offering essential support to individuals in need while enjoying flexible hours and the opportunity to make a real difference in their communities. ## **3. Virtual Assistance** If you’ve ever planned a school fundraiser, run a household schedule, or balanced a budget, you already possess many of the skills you need to succeed as a [virtual assistant (VA)](https://www.seek.com.au/career-advice/role/virtual-assistant#:~:text=A%20Virtual%20Assistant%20provides%20remote,flexibility%20in%20their%20work%20environment.). This modern, tech-savvy career allows you to work remotely, offering administrative support to businesses and entrepreneurs. As a VA, you could do anything from managing emails and booking appointments to bookkeeping and social media management. The best part about this path is that it’s flexible — you can work as little as part-time or as much as full-time, and all from the comfort of your home. A lot of mums who work as VA’s also love the fact that this type of role doesn’t have to require formal qualifications, although having certifications in areas such as bookkeeping or digital marketing can increase your earning potential. The Virtual Assistant (VA) sector is booming because a growing number of businesses are outsourcing several fields to save money. It’s a career where you can choose your own hours, your own rate, and, most importantly, a job that will allow you to apply the skills that you already have and use every single day. ## **4. Social Media Management** If you’re great at writing Instagram captions or have a knack for creating aesthetically pleasing Pinterest boards, social media management may be for you. With businesses constantly looking to improve their online presence, social media managers are in high demand. This role involves creating and scheduling content, analysing engagement metrics and keeping up with trends to help businesses grow their online following. It’s creative, dynamic and — most importantly — flexible. Although formal qualifications aren’t always required, short online courses around social media marketing can help you stand out from the crowd. The beauty of this career path is that you can scale it to fit your lifestyle. Start by managing accounts for local businesses or freelancers and gradually expand to bigger clients. It’s a great way to combine your creativity with the communication and organisation skills that mums are experts at. ![6 Rewarding Career Paths for Mums Re-Entering the Workforce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-62.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Healthcare Support Roles** Another great sector with lots of opportunities for mums returning to work is the healthcare sector. If you’re interested in making a difference through your work, a job as a medical receptionist or aged care worker could be a perfect fit. Many mums returning to work find meaningful opportunities in [aged care in Melbourne](https://www.oxacare.com.au/residential-aged-care), where they can provide essential support to elderly residents while enjoying flexible hours and rewarding work These types of career roles often involve both organisational skills and empathy — something many mums come already equipped with. Some roles may require short courses or certifications, but many are entry-level, so you can get in quickly and work your way up over time. In many healthcare settings, facilities also depend on external support [for staffing solutions](https://chghealthcare.com/solutions-overview) to maintain consistent care levels, which can open up more flexible opportunities for those easing back into employment. This added support structure helps ensure smoother operations while giving returning workers a more adaptable pathway into the industry. One of the best things about healthcare careers is that they are stable and in demand. Given that we have an ageing population and a growing focus on community health, these jobs aren’t going anywhere soon. Base salary is usually good, and you can often choose your hours to accommodate your family commitments, given the shift-based nature of many healthcare positions. ## **6. Freelance Writing or Editing** If you have a way with words, freelancing as a writer or editor could be a lucrative and flexible career choice. From writing blog posts and ghostwriting books to editing technical documents, this field has endless opportunities for creativity and growth. With remote working on the rise, you can do this job from anywhere, making it a great option for mums who require flexibility or need to [work from home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/work-from-home-with-kids/). Of course, some freelance gigs require experience or a portfolio, but it only takes one job to get you started. Writing for local businesses/niche blogs, for example, helps with credibility. Freelancing also allows you to set your rates and workload. Whether you’re working a few hours a week or going full throttle, it’s a career that accommodates your family’s needs. And the best part? You’re always learning, you’re always growing, and that keeps the work interesting and rewarding. ## **7. E-Commerce and Online Retail** Have you ever considered converting your hobby into a business? Mums with a shred of creativity and sales or organisation skills are well suited to the e-commerce world. From selling simple handmade crafts on Etsy to carefully curating products in an online shop, e-commerce allows you to work on your terms. It’s easier now than ever to launch your digital storefront, thanks to platforms such as Amazon and Shopify. With inventory management, marketing, and customer service tools available, the barriers to entry are low. It may take time and work to start up an e-commerce business, but the rewards, both financially and personally, are definitely worth it. One of the best sides of e-commerce is the capacity to scale. You can do it as a side hustle and grow it into a full-time job whenever your confidence and skills improve. It’s a fantastic way to combine creativity and business and manage your timetable. ## **Wrapping it Up on Re-Entering the Workforce** Re-entering the workforce isn’t about fitting into a rigid nine-to-five box. It’s about finding a career that aligns with your skills, passions, and current lifestyle and even one that helps you cultivate a new identity. From the structured career of early childhood education to the flexible career of freelancing, the opportunities for a stay-at-home mom are endless. Remember — it’s never too late to pivot, learn something new or take that first step back into the workforce. The skills you’ve developed as a parent — patience, resilience, adaptability — are transferable assets that can aid you in succeeding in any career. So go on, [have a think](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/career-move/), find your path, and embrace the exciting journey ahead. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/rewarding-career-paths-for-mums-re-entering-the-workforce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/rewarding-career-paths-for-mums-re-entering-the-workforce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career --- ### [5 Things to Know Before Buying NAD+ for Reproductive Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/5-things-to-know-before-buying-nad-for-reproductive-health/) **Published:** May 1, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** NAD+ has become one of the most talked-about supplements in fertility and reproductive health. From egg quality to hormone balance, the claims are compelling. But before jumping in, it’s worth taking a step back. What does the science actually say? Which form should you take? And how do you know you’re buying something legitimate? Here are five key things to understand before you buy NAD+ for reproductive health. ### 1. Understand What NAD+ Actually Does NAD+ (nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide) is a coenzyme found in every cell. It plays a central role in energy production, DNA repair, and regulating proteins called sirtuins, which influence how cells age and respond to stress. As we get older, NAD+ levels naturally decline. This matters for fertility because both eggs and sperm require high amounts of energy to function properly. ### Egg Quality and Mitochondrial Function Egg quality is a major factor in fertility, and mitochondria sit right at the centre of it. These structures generate ATP, the energy your cells rely on — and NAD+ is essential in that process. Some research suggests higher NAD+ levels in egg cells may support fertilisation and embryo development. This has drawn particular interest for women over 35, where egg quality tends to decline more noticeably. ![Pregnant belly cradled by hands with wooden cut-out man and woman icons on the belly, symbolizing family.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-puwadon-sang-ngern-2168173-9666395-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-puwadon-sang-ngern-2168173-9666395 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Hormonal and Cellular Ageing NAD+ also plays a role in managing oxidative stress. Sirtuins — which rely on NAD+ — help regulate inflammation and protect cellular function. In reproductive terms, this may help maintain a more stable hormonal environment. That said, NAD+ is not a fix-all. It won’t replace hormones or resolve structural fertility issues, but it may support the overall environment in which reproduction happens. ### A Note on IV Therapy You may have come across [NAD IV therapy for fertility](https://www.thehcginstitute.com/nad-supplementation-and-fertility/). This involves delivering NAD+ directly into the bloodstream, bypassing digestion. While it can increase levels more quickly, it’s not a standard fertility treatment, and evidence is still limited. If you’re considering it, speak with a qualified provider and keep expectations realistic. ## 2. Know the Difference Between Precursors (NMN, NR, Niacin) One key point: you can’t effectively absorb NAD+ directly from oral supplements. Instead, you take precursors — compounds your body converts into NAD+. The main ones are: - **NMN (nicotinamide mononucleotide)** - **NR (nicotinamide riboside)** - **Niacin (vitamin B3)** ### NMN vs NR NMN and NR are the most common in the fertility and longevity space. NR has more human studies showing it can raise NAD+ levels. NMN sits one step closer in the conversion pathway and has shown promising early results. At this stage, neither has enough fertility-specific research to outperform the other clearly. Both appear effective at increasing NAD+, but what that means for actual fertility outcomes is still being studied. ### Niacin as a Budget Option Niacin is cheaper and widely available, but it follows a longer conversion pathway. Higher doses can cause flushing and other side effects, and it’s generally not the first choice for reproductive health support. ### Reading Labels Properly Always check the supplement facts panel. Look for: - The specific precursor (NMN, NR, or niacin) - The dose Typical study ranges: - NMN: 250–500 mg/day - NR: 250–1,000 mg/day If a product just says “NAD+ booster” without details, that’s a red flag. ## 3. Evaluate the Science Carefully ![Abstract illustration of two intertwining DNA strands made of multicolored spheres against a dark blue background.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-googledeepmind-25626515-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-googledeepmind-25626515 - Beanstalk Mums") The research around NAD+ and fertility is promising — but not definitive. ### What Animal Studies Show Much of the excitement comes from animal studies. In mice, boosting NAD+ has improved egg quality and reversed some age-related fertility decline. However, animal models don’t translate directly to humans. Doses are often higher, and biological timelines differ. ### Human Evidence So Far There are currently no large-scale clinical trials confirming that NAD+ improves human fertility outcomes. Smaller studies and early trials are underway, focusing on egg quality, embryo development, and ovarian reserve. More data is expected in the coming years, but for now, the evidence is still emerging. ### What It Doesn’t Do NAD+ is not a standalone treatment for infertility. It won’t “fix” poor ovarian reserve or guarantee IVF success. Any claims suggesting otherwise should be taken with caution. ## 4. Check Quality, Purity, and Testing The supplement industry isn’t as tightly regulated as pharmaceuticals, so quality can vary significantly. ### Why Third-Party Testing Matters Third-party testing ensures: - The product contains what it claims - The dosage is accurate - It’s free from contaminants For NAD+ precursors, this is particularly important. Some lower-quality products have been found to contain a less active ingredient than advertised. Look for certificates of analysis (COAs) from independent labs. If a brand doesn’t provide them, that’s a concern. ### Bioavailability and Delivery Not all formats are equal. Options include: - Standard capsules - Liposomal formulations - Sublingual (under the tongue) Some may offer better absorption than others. If available, look for products with published absorption data. Some formulations also include compounds like resveratrol to support related pathways, though whether that’s necessary depends on your situation. ### Red Flags Watch out for: - Vague ingredient labels - Heavy reliance on testimonials - Prices that seem too low High-quality NMN and NR aren’t cheap to produce. If the price looks too good to be true, it often is. ## 5. Speak to a Specialist and Time It Right ![Doctor in a white coat shows a tablet to a seated patient in a clinical room with ultrasound equipment nearby.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-mart-production-7089329-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-7089329 - Beanstalk Mums") NAD+ supplementation isn’t one-size-fits-all. ### Why Professional Guidance Matters Before starting, it’s worth speaking with a reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist. They can assess: - Ovarian reserve - Hormone levels - Overall reproductive health This helps ensure you’re not overlooking more direct or effective treatments. ### Timing Your Supplementation If you’re preparing for IVF, some specialists suggest taking NAD+ precursors for 2–3 months beforehand. This aligns with the ~90-day maturation cycle of egg cells. For natural conception, the same principle applies — consistency over time matters more than short-term use. ### Combining With Other Supplements NAD+ is often used alongside: - CoQ10 - Melatonin - Folate These have stronger or complementary evidence in [fertility care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/fertility-options-for-single-women/). A combined approach can better support mitochondrial function, oxidative stress, and overall reproductive health. ## Conclusion NAD+ is an exciting area in reproductive health, but it’s not a shortcut. The science is promising, though still evolving. Before you buy, make sure you: - Understand what NAD+ actually does - Choose the right precursor - Read the research realistically - Check product quality - Get professional guidance Taking a measured, informed approach won’t just protect your investment — it gives you a better chance of using NAD+ in a way that genuinely supports your fertility goals. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/5-things-to-know-before-buying-nad-for-reproductive-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/5-things-to-know-before-buying-nad-for-reproductive-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [What single mums do on Mother’s Day: The hilarious reality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/single-mums-mothers-day/) **Published:** April 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Mother’s Day: It conjures up images of happy mummies receiving gifts galore, being pampered to within an inch of their lives and feeling justly rewarded for being a great mum. And rightly so. But it’s not always the case for single mums. Mother’s Day for single mums can take on a slightly different angle. We cherish our roles as mothers and are [proud to be single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-being-a-single-mum-makes-me-so-damn-proud/), but without a partner to preside over the proceedings, we can feel a little short-changed. ## Breakfast in bed for single mums on Mother’s Day What better way to begin Mother’s Day than with breakfast in bed? However, for single mums, this traditional treat is done without the help of an adult. Lying nervously in bed, as we listen to the clatter and crash of kitchen utensils, whilst praying the knives are well out of reach, is not quite how it is in the movies. And of course, what we actually end up eating is in the lap of the gods. Keep smiling, though, Mama. It’s the thought that counts, and it will only take an hour or two to clean the room that was once your kitchen. ## Single Mums Mother’s Day Gift time We love our [beautiful home-made gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pretty-much-free-mothers-day-gifts/) that are retrieved with relish from school and kindy bags. I mean, one can simply never have too many macaroni necklaces. Yet, the “it’s-from-the-kids-but-it’s-really-from-dad” present is notable in its absence. Single mums with a little foresight and spare cash will grab themselves a Mother’s Day gift for the kids to wrap up, hide and present on the big morning. Make sure they remember where they hid it, though. I speak from bitter experience. ## Going out for a Mother’s Day treat Where to this Mother’s Day, ladies? A day spa? A champagne bar? Not so for single mums. It’s pretty much a normal day. And we all know the best way to keep it easy, and that’s to do what the kids want. Local park, it is then. So, if you see a single mum looking suitably chilled in a park on Mother’s Day, it may be that she’s treated herself to a sneaky mid-afternoon wine in her water bottle. After all, we’ve got to get our kicks where we can. And it is only once a year. ## Mummy me time Ah, yes, the elusive me-time. This is Mother’s Day we’re talking about, surely even single mums deserve some peace and quiet. We get top points for trying anyway. Strategies include good-old bribery, tiring them out to the point where they fall asleep or plugging them into their [favourite movie](https://editorial.rottentomatoes.com/guide/essential-movies-for-kids/). Oh, and if all else fails, there’s always the option of locking yourself in the bathroom. Happy Mother’s Day, mums! Oh, and don’t forget to [treat yourself to the gift you deserve](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/treat-yourself-this-mothers-day/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/single-mums-mothers-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/single-mums-mothers-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day **Tags:** breakfast in bed, gifts for mum --- ### [A Simple Guide to Comparing Energy Plans and Removalists in Sydney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hiring-removalists-in-sydney/) **Published:** February 26, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Comparing energy plans and removalists before moving to Sydney can save you hundreds of dollars and prevent service disruptions. Smart research helps you avoid overpriced electricity plans and unreliable moving companies that could damage your belongings. In this article, we break down everything you need to know about comparing electricity and gas plans while finding reliable [removalists in Sydney](https://hollowayremovals.com.au/removalists-sydney/). We’ll cover essential steps, costs, and smart strategies to make your move smooth and budget-friendly. ## **Understanding Sydney’s Energy Market** Sydney residents can choose from many electricity and gas providers. NSW energy rules make pricing clear. Your final bill depends on how much power you use, and knowing your usage helps you pick a plan. ### **Key Energy Providers in Sydney** AGL, Origin Energy, EnergyAustralia, and ENGIE serve most Sydney homes. Some offer rewards, others sell carbon-neutral power. New brands like Ampol Energy also compete with low rates and no-discount plans like its “Powering On” deal. ## **How to Compare Energy Plans Effectively** Note your postcode, usage, and preferred contract length. Give these to each retailer so you get accurate quotes. Then compare costs, fees, and contract details side by side to find the plan that works for your needs. ### **Understanding Tariff Types** Energy plans bill you differently. Fixed-rate plans keep the same price per kilowatt-hour. Variable plans can change, but providers must warn you. Time-of-use plans cost more during busy times. Single-rate plans charge the same at all hours. ### **Green Energy Options** Many providers offer plans that use green power. Some pay for carbon credits, while others buy power from wind or solar farms. These plans cost more but still cut emissions. Check how much renewable energy each plan has. ## **Finding Reliable Removalists in Sydney** Sydney has many moving companies, but quality varies. Most charge hourly rates based on team size. Research each company’s history to avoid damaged items or late arrivals. Review their reliability to save money and headaches. For the best value, consider [Sydney cheap removalists](https://connectmarket.com.au/removals/removalists-sydney/) who offer affordable services without compromising on quality. ### **Getting Multiple Quotes** Get quotes from three removalists. Provide the same details: current and new address, home size, and any special needs like piano moving. Ensure each quote lists rates and extra fees to avoid surprises on moving day. ### **Checking Insurance and Credentials** Ask to see each removalist’s liability and goods-in-transit insurance. These policies protect you if items are lost or broken. Check their license and read online reviews for feedback on punctuality and how they handle belongings. ### **Understanding Packing Services** Many removalists offer packing as an add-on. Full packing covers all items with boxes. Partial packing focuses on valuables. Packing saves time and lowers damage, but do it only if it fits your budget. ## **Moving Cost Breakdown for Sydney** Moving costs in Sydney vary by area. Inner-city moves are pricier because of tight parking and building access. Movers also charge more for driving or stairs. Ask about waiting and parking fees before agreeing to a quote. ### **Factors Affecting Moving Costs** Distance affects costs: longer moves mean more fuel and time. Carrying heavy items upstairs or through narrow doors takes longer. Bookings on weekends or end-of-month usually cost extra because demand is higher. ### **Timing Your Move** [Breeze Removals in Sydney](https://www.breezeremovalistssydney.com.au/) recommends booking your move at least two weeks before moving, especially during busy seasons like December to February. Moving mid-week or mid-month can cut costs. Line up your move date with your utility connections so you don’t arrive without power. ## **Energy Connection Timeline** Contact your energy provider at least two weeks before moving. Existing homes often get same-day connections. New buildings may need more time. Check each provider’s timeline to avoid moving in without electricity or gas. ![removalists in Sydney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-artempodrez-5025664-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-artempodrez-5025664 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Transfer vs New Connection** Stay with the same provider to transfer your account and keep any discounts. Switching providers means opening an account, which may require a credit check or deposit. Compare options and decide which works best. ## **Using Comparison Platforms Effectively** Energy Made Easy is the free Australian Government comparison service that includes all NSW providers. This official platform ensures you see every available plan without commercial bias. For removalist comparisons, platforms like Connect Market aggregate quotes from multiple moving companies. These services save time by allowing you to compare prices and services from a single interface. Or you can [check out Econnex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/energy-and-internet-comparison/). We have teamed up with them to make it simple to compare and switch providers for gas, electricity, and internet—all in just five minutes. Plus, get a Beanstalk mums’ exclusive bonus! ### **Benefits of Using Comparison Platforms** Comparison platforms like Connect market standardise information presentation, making it easier to evaluate options. They often include customer reviews and ratings to help assess service quality alongside pricing. Some platforms negotiate exclusive deals with providers, potentially offering better rates than going directly. However, always verify final pricing directly with your chosen provider before committing. ## **Creating Your Moving Budget** List all costs: energy connection fees, deposits, removalist charges, packing materials, and storage if needed. Then add 10–15% extra for unexpected expenses. A clear budget helps you avoid stress and last-minute money surprises. ### **Money-Saving Tips** [Bundle electricity and gas with the same provider to get a discount.](https://www.econnex.com.au/?rc=21582&cid=a87da8a248ae4e6595b07d911e174166&msclkid=59558&cfclick=a87da8a248ae4e6595b07d911e174166) Many waive connection fees for new customers. Book movers during off-peak times if possible. Pack small boxes yourself and hire professionals only for big items. ## **Final Preparation Steps** Confirm all bookings at least one week before the moving day. Verify removalist arrival times, energy connection appointments, and any building access requirements at your new property. Prepare an essentials box with items you’ll need immediately after moving. Include important documents, phone chargers, and basic supplies for your first night in your new Sydney home. Create a moving day contact list that includes the removalist company’s numbers, energy provider contacts, and building management contacts, if applicable. Having these numbers readily available prevents delays if issues arise during your move. ## **Conclusion** Successfully comparing energy plans and removalists requires research, planning, and attention to detail. Start early, gather multiple quotes, and verify all credentials thoroughly before making a decision. Using comparison platforms can streamline the process; however, always confirm details directly with the providers. With proper preparation, your first move to Sydney can be efficient, cost-effective, and stress-free, setting you up for success in your new home. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hiring-removalists-in-sydney/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hiring-removalists-in-sydney/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [What to Look for in a Local Childcare Provider](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/what-to-look-for-in-a-local-childcare-provider/) **Published:** April 28, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Finding a childcare provider close to home is about more than convenience. A local centre becomes part of your family’s daily rhythm, a place where your child builds friendships, educators become familiar faces, and the drop-off and pick-up routine weaves into the fabric of your community. The short drive or walk matters, but so does everything that happens once you arrive. With so many providers to choose from, particularly in growing suburbs, it can be hard to know what really separates a good local centre from a great one. This guide walks through the signs worth looking for, the questions worth asking, and the quiet details that often reveal the true culture of a childcare service. ## **Why “Local” Really Matters** When a centre is close to home, your child is more likely to be cared for alongside the children they will eventually attend school with. These early friendships are precious, and they often extend to families who become part of your wider support network. Grandparents and other carers can drop in more easily, school-age siblings can visit for special events, and the logistics of the morning and afternoon are simply easier. Local centres also tend to have strong ties to their surrounding community. They may know the local library, have relationships with nearby primary schools, and draw on local parks and nature reserves for excursions. This sense of place gives children a grounded understanding of their community and their role within it. ## **The First Impression** When you first walk into a potential childcare centre, pause and notice how it feels. Is the atmosphere calm but lively, or chaotic and stressful? Are the adults engaged with the children, or gathered in a corner talking among themselves? Do you see children who appear happy, curious, and comfortable, or do they seem bored, unsettled, or overly quiet? A well-run centre has a particular energy. Children are busy with purpose, educators move through the space with awareness, and there is evidence of children’s thinking everywhere you look. Artwork reflects real creative exploration rather than identical craft templates. Photos of children engaged in activities line the walls. Spaces are organised but lived-in. ## **Observe the Educators** The quality of any childcare centre rests on the quality of its educators. Watch how they interact with the children during your visit. Do they crouch down to speak at a child’s eye level? Do they ask open-ended questions and listen patiently to rambling answers? Are they attentive to quieter children as well as those who demand attention? Warmth is essential, but so is professionalism. Skilled educators understand child development, recognise learning moments, and tailor their approach to each individual. They set clear, respectful limits while celebrating each child’s unique personality. Ask how long the team has been together. Low turnover is one of the strongest indicators of a healthy workplace culture and consistent care for children. ![Children sit at a table shaping colorful clay in a bright classroom setting, focusing on their craft pieces.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8422170-1-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8422170 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Spaces That Inspire** The physical environment shapes what children can do and how they feel. Look for spaces that offer a balance of activity and quiet, indoor and outdoor, individual and group. Natural light, natural materials, and access to greenery all support children’s wellbeing. Storage at a child’s height encourages independence. Loose parts, open-ended materials, and a rotation of thoughtful provocations suggest an educational program that values children’s agency. Outdoor spaces deserve particular attention. Children need room to run, climb, dig, and explore. A great outdoor area includes varied surfaces, shade, gardens, sand and water play, and opportunities for risk-taking that match the children’s ages. Weather considerations matter too, so ask how the centre makes sure outdoor play happens year-round. ## **The Educational Program** All approved early learning services follow the Early Years Learning Framework, which guides educators to plan for each child’s learning and development. Ask to see an example of how the program is documented and how it reflects individual children. Look for evidence that educators observe children closely, plan experiences based on their interests, and involve families in the process. Beware of programs that are overly focused on academic outcomes like letter recognition, worksheets, or structured lessons. Strong early childhood programs are play-based, child-centred, and rich in language, storytelling, creative arts, music, and movement. They prepare children for school in the deepest sense by developing curiosity, confidence, and capability. ## **Communication With Families** Great centres see families as partners, not customers. Ask how you will be kept informed about your child’s day. Will educators have time to chat at drop-off and pick-up? Is there a digital communication platform where photos, observations, and updates are shared? Are parent-teacher meetings offered regularly? Also, ask how concerns are handled. A centre that has clear, respectful processes for raising and resolving issues shows it takes relationships seriously. Providers operating in suburbs like Perth’s eastern corridor, including centres such as Cuddles Early Learning’s [Carlisle childcare centre](https://www.cuddlesearlylearning.com.au/carlisle/), place particular emphasis on strong family partnerships because they know children settle and thrive more easily when parents and educators are truly aligned. ![Love of reading in your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Love-of-reading-in-your-kids-1.jpg "Love of reading in your kids - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Nutrition, Rest, and Wellbeing** Day-to-day care is about more than activities. Ask about meals, rest times, hygiene, and illness policies. Are meals cooked on site or brought in? Do they cater for allergies and cultural preferences? How is rest managed for children of different ages? What happens when a child is unwell, and what are the expectations around keeping unwell children at home? These practical details affect your child’s comfort every single day. A centre that has thought carefully about nutrition, sleep, and hygiene has usually thought carefully about everything else too. ## **Transition and Orientation** Starting care is a significant life event for a young child. Ask what the orientation process looks like. Good centres offer staggered visits, invite parents to stay for part of the early days, and pair new children with a primary educator who will be their main point of connection. They are patient with tears, adaptable to each child’s pace, and honest with parents about how the settling-in is going. ## **Cost and Practicalities** [Childcare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-sending-your-child-to-child-care-when-youre-not-quite-ready-to-let-them-go/ "Childcare") is a significant investment, so cost deserves careful thought. Ask exactly what is included in the daily fee and what is extra. Find out how the Child Care Subsidy applies and how the centre can help you navigate it. Understand the policies around public holidays, illness, and absences. Think about opening hours and whether they match your work schedule, including any flexibility you might need for occasional late meetings or early starts. Consider the location in the context of your weekly life, not just the distance from your front door. ## **Trusting the Fit** At the end of the day, the right local childcare provider is the one where your child thrives and where you feel confident and welcome. Visit more than one centre if you can, take notes, and give yourself time to reflect. Choosing carefully now sets the stage for years of positive experiences, strong community connections, and rich early learning for your child. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/what-to-look-for-in-a-local-childcare-provider/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/what-to-look-for-in-a-local-childcare-provider/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [The Ultimate Guide to Personal Safety Apps for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/) **Published:** May 5, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Quick Takeaways of personal safety apps for single mums;** - **Safety is Proactive:** Modern personal safety apps for single mums use AI threat detection and 24/7 human support to stop trouble before it even starts. - **Privacy is Paramount:** Specialist Australian apps let you research domestic violence and financial support services without leaving a digital footprint in your browser. - **Set-and-forget security:** Tools that automate check-ins and crash detection are lifesavers, easing the heavy mental load for exhausted solo parents. - **Financial Safety Matters:** Knowing your rights regarding government payments and child support is a foundational part of your overall safety and stability plan. - **Hands-Free Help is Crucial:** Voice-activated emergency apps trigger alarms even if your phone is buried at the absolute bottom of a heavy nappy bag. - **Budget-Friendly Options Exist:** You don’t need to spend a fortune; there are brilliant free tools and built-in smartphone features that provide robust protection. ### What Are the Best Personal Safety Apps for Single Mums in 2026? **The absolute gold standard for 2026 includes comprehensive apps like bSafe and Life360 that offer voice-activated SOS triggers, real-time GPS sharing, and automated check-ins.** As solo mums, we’re usually navigating the world with a cranky toddler on one hip and a massive bag of groceries on the other. We simply do not have a spare hand to unlock a phone and dial 000 in the middle of a crisis. That is exactly why [**bSafe** ](https://getbsafe.com/)remains a top-tier pick for our community this year. It uses a highly sensitive voice-activated SOS to immediately start recording audio and video, uploading it straight to the cloud so the evidence cannot be deleted by anyone else. If you are more worried about managing the relentless daily juggle, **[Life360](https://www.life360.com/en-au)** has evolved into an essential family security ecosystem. It runs quietly in the background of your phone, offering automatic crash detection and real-time location sharing with your trusted circle. An ambulance can locate your exact GPS coordinates if you’re in a collision on the school run, giving you the kind of “set it and forget it” protection we actually need. It takes one massive worry off your overflowing plate. ### How Do Free Domestic Violence Apps Protect Vulnerable Mums? **Daisy and Sunny are specialised Australian tools that connect women to domestic violence and disability support without leaving a traceable digital footprint on their devices.** Developed by 1800RESPECT, the [Daisy app](https://www.1800respect.org.au/daisy) is a vital national directory of over 900 local services, ranging from free legal aid to emergency housing. Its brilliant, privacy-first design means you can safely research your financial rights while the kids are finally asleep. You can check the latest [Single Parenting Payment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) rates without the search history ever showing up if an ex-partner insists on checking your phone. For single mums living with a disability, the [**Sunny** app](https://1800respect.org.au/sunny) provides an absolutely vital survival kit. It uses accessible, easy-to-understand storytelling to help women understand their rights, recognise abuse, and validate their lived experiences. Both of these government-backed apps serve as highly secure, discreet safe havens for mums navigating volatile or controlling co-parenting situations. They remind you that you are never entirely alone. ### Which Apps Keep You Safe While Walking Alone or Dating? **WalkSafe+ and UrSafe feature journey-sharing with trusted friends, verified local “safe spaces,” and clever fake call triggers to help you safely exit awkward dates.** If you are heading to a late-night Woolies run for emergency Panadol, or bravely dipping your toe back into the online dating pool, **[WalkSafe+](https://walksafe.io/walksafe/)** is an incredible app to have in your corner. It allows you to share your real-time journey with your trusted circle of friends, so they know exactly when you make it home safely. The app also features a brilliant community map that highlights safety-trained venues and well-lit routes, helping you completely avoid high-risk areas. For completely hands-free protection, [**UrSafe**](https://ursafe.com/) integrates directly with emergency services and is fully voice-activated. You can set a specific safe word that will trigger a fake phone call from a “friend” to give you a polite excuse to bolt from a terrible Tinder date. Alternatively, you can set a panic word that immediately alerts 000 and your trusted contacts if you are in genuine danger. ### How Can Parental Control Apps Reduce Your Solo Parenting Mental Load? **Modern parental control apps like Qustodio and Norton Family act as a digital fortress, providing real-time location tracking while aggressively blocking predatory content.** Managing the digital mental load as a single parent is completely, utterly exhausting. Apps like **[Qustodio](https://www.qustodio.com/)** let you see all your kids’ locations on a single, clean map. This is an absolute lifesaver when one child is at weekend soccer, the other is catching the bus, and you are stuck at work. You can also set specific alerts for dangerous keywords, protecting them from inappropriate content or online predators while you’re busy cooking dinner. Norton Family is another budget-friendly win that supports unlimited devices across your entire household. It lets you monitor the kids’ online safety while you’re hiding in the bathroom for a much-needed, uninterrupted five-minute breather. ### What Are the Top Emergency Apps for Mums Living Alone? **For solo households, apps like Snug Safety and the official Emergency+ app offer daily check-ins and exact GPS coordinates to ensure help arrives if you are injured.** The deep, nagging fear of slipping in the shower and having absolutely no one know is a very real solo-parenting anxiety. **[Snug Safety](https://www.snugsafe.com/)** acts like a highly reliable friend by requiring a simple daily check-in on your phone at a time you choose. If you miss that check-in window, the app automatically alerts your emergency contacts with your last known location. It is brilliant for your peace of mind, especially when you are [coping with loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) and simply do not have another adult in the house to notice if something goes horribly wrong. Additionally, every single Australian mum absolutely must download the[ **Emergency+**](https://www.emergencyplus.com.au/) app today. Developed directly by Australia’s emergency services, it uses your smartphone’s GPS to tell the 000 operator exactly where you are, which is a lifesaver when you’re too panicked to remember your own street address. ![personal safety apps for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/New-facebook-post-11.jpg "New facebook post 11 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Are There Good Free Personal Safety Apps for Single Mums on a Budget? **Yes, built-in smartphone features like Apple’s Emergency SOS and Google Maps location sharing provide robust, completely free safety tracking for mums on a tight budget.** We know that money is incredibly tight, and adding another monthly app subscription simply isn’t feasible for everyone right now. Thankfully, your phone already has some brilliant, free safety tech built right into the operating system. Apple’s Emergency SOS lets you rapidly press the side button 5 times to instantly call local emergency services and text your precise location to your trusted contacts. Similarly, Android phones have a built-in Personal Safety app that offers car crash detection and emergency location sharing at zero cost. You can also use the free “Location Sharing” feature on Google Maps to let your best friend or your mum track your journey home after a late shift. You do not need to spend a fortune to implement a solid, reliable safety net for your family. ### How Do You Discuss Safety Apps With Co-Parents and Older Kids? **Keep conversations about safety apps practical and boundary-focused, framing them as tools for emergency peace of mind rather than daily surveillance.** Introducing tracking apps can sometimes ruffle feathers with a prickly co-parent or a rebellious teenager who values their independence. The trick is to frame these apps purely as emergency safety nets, not as a way to spy on anyone’s weekend activities. Explain to your kids that apps like Life360 are just a modern version of calling home to say they arrived safely. If your ex-partner is resistant to using family safety apps during their custody time, you must hold your boundaries firmly but politely. Focus entirely on the practical benefits, like crash detection or coordinated emergency responses, rather than making it an emotional argument. Ultimately, you can only control what happens on your own devices, so prioritise securing your own phone and establishing rules for the kids when they are under your roof. ### Why is a “Digital Spring Clean” Essential for Your 2026 Safety Plan? **A digital spring clean is a proactive micro-habit involving a strict audit of your app permissions and location settings to prevent accidental tracking.** Life moves incredibly fast, and it is ridiculously easy to forget which random gaming or shopping apps have been granted full access to your microphone or location. Reclaim control of your privacy. Simply go into your phone settings this weekend and aggressively turn off “always on” location tracking. You should only grant permanent location access to your designated, trusted safety apps. Make sure you regularly update your passwords for myGov and your banking apps to keep your hard-earned finances completely secure from prying eyes. Finally, unsubscribe from toxic marketing noise and actively unfollow social media accounts that drain your energy or make you feel inadequate. Protecting your mental and emotional space is just as critically important as managing your physical safety. Navigating the world as a solo mum often feels like walking a tightrope while holding a crying toddler and balancing the household budget. It is intensely hard work, but with these clever tools in your pocket, you aren’t just surviving the chaos—you’re proactively building a fortress of peace for you and your kids. --- **Ready to chat with women who actually get it?** Come and join our private Facebook community, the [SingleMum Vine](https://www.google.com/search?q=https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlemumvine). It’s a safe, incredibly cheeky space to share everything from budget hacks to those exhausting “mum-zilla” moments. We would absolutely love to have you in our tribe! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** home safety, home security, personal safety apps, home alone, safe dating, feeling safe --- ### [How to Actually Get Breakfast in Bed This Mothers Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/breakfast-in-bed-this-mothers-day/) **Published:** April 28, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ## (Without the Kitchen Explosion) Quick Summary for Breakfast in Bed This Mothers Day; - **Prep is King:** The secret to a low-stress morning is doing 90% of the work on Saturday night while the kids are asleep. - **Kid-Safe Hacks:** Choose “assembly-only” meals like yogurt parfaits or pre-bought croissants that little hands can “plate up” without using the stove. - **The Spill Guard:** Use a large tray or even a beach towel over the duvet to catch the inevitable crumbs and coffee sloshes. - **Lower the Bar:** It’s not about a five-star feast; it’s about the five minutes of quiet and a drawing from your toddler. - **Outsource the Effort:** Don’t be afraid to use delivery services or head to a local café to eliminate the “mental load” of cleaning up a messy kitchen. Let’s be real: as a single mum, the dream of Mother’s Day breakfast in bed usually involves us waking up at 6:00 AM to the sound of a “surprise” crash in the kitchen. We then spend the next hour pretending to sleep—with one eye open—while mentally calculating the cost of the broken cereal bowl and the state of the grout after a juice spill. You deserve that lukewarm coffee and the slightly burnt toast. You’re in the trenches every day, acting as the head chef, the professional cleaner, and the “boogeyman fending” specialist. This year, we’re reclaiming the tradition with some tactical planning. Ensuring you actually enjoy the moment—and don’t end up scrubbing the floor by 9:00 AM. Here is how we make it happen without losing our minds. ## What are the best low-mess breakfast ideas for single mums? **The best low-mess meals are “cold-prep” options like fruit skewers, yogurt parfaits, or bakery-bought pastries that require zero cooking.** If your kids are young, the stove is the absolute enemy of a relaxing morning. Steer them toward a “Continental Platter” approach. A couple of croissants from the local bakery, some pre-chopped fruit, and a juice box are much safer (and tastier) than a toddler trying to master a poached egg. Items like rainbow fruit skewers are a massive win for little helpers who want to feel like they’ve “cooked” something special. You can even set up a “parfait station” on the kitchen bench the night before with granola, yogurt, and berries. It’s essentially “construction work” for kids, which they love, and it keeps the heat-based disasters at bay. ## How can I involve the kids without a kitchen disaster? **Assign specific “stations” like the “Plating Pro” or the “Menu Designer” to keep kids focused on safe, non-messy tasks.** Give them jobs that don’t involve liquids, knives, or heat. A “Menu Designer” can spend twenty minutes decorating a card or a paper menu while you secretly get the kettle ready. If they really want to help in the kitchen, let them sprinkle powdered sugar over store-bought muffins. Or, arrange berries into a heart shape on your plate. It keeps them busy, makes them feel like “super-helpers,” and according to [Nutrition Australia](https://nutritionaustralia.org/resources/breakfast/), a healthy breakfast routine is a great way to kickstart everyone’s metabolism. By focusing on the “presentation” rather than the “preparation,” you save your kitchen from becoming a disaster zone while still letting the kids feel the pride of serving their mum. ## What are the must-have “survival” items for breakfast in bed this Mothers Day? **A sturdy, high-lipped tray and a “crumb-catcher” layer (like a throw rug or towel) are essential to protect your bedding from spills.** We’ve all seen those aesthetic Pinterest photos of white linen sheets and open mugs of coffee. In the world of solo parenting, that is a recipe for a $200 dry-cleaning bill. Be practical, not “Pinterest-perfect.” - **The Spill Guard:** Lay down a thick beach towel or a patterned throw rug over your duvet before the tray arrives. It’s easier to throw a towel in the wash than a heavy quilt. - **The “Mum” Mug:** If you have a travel mug with a lid, use it. It’s not “un-fancy”; it’s smart. It keeps your coffee hot while you’re opening cards and prevents a total bed-soaking if a toddler jumps on the mattress. - **Baby Wipes:** Keep a pack on the nightstand. They are the unofficial sponsor of single motherhood for a reason and will save you from sticky-finger-syndrome. ## Is it okay to just order takeaway for Mother’s Day breakfast? **Absolutely; letting someone else do the cooking is a top-tier self-care move that removes the mental load of cleaning up.** There is zero shame in the “Uber Eats” game. In fact, many mums now prefer [eating out at a local café](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/10-affordable-mothers-day-ideas-for-lonely-single-mums/) or ordering in specifically to avoid the “Mother’s Day Mess.” If the kids want to “serve” you, let them meet the delivery driver at the door and carry the bag (carefully!) to your room. You get hot food, they get the glory of the “delivery,” and the kitchen stays pristine. This is particularly helpful if you’re navigating a busy weekend or just don’t have the energy for a DIY feast. Remember, Mother’s Day is about *your* comfort, not about ticking a box of traditional expectations. ![Breakfast in Bed This Mothers Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/New-facebook-post-10.jpg "breakfast in bed ideas for kids to make on Mother’s Day - Beanstalk Mums") ## How can I prep for Mother’s Day on a tight budget? **Focus on “high-impact, low-cost” items like home-grown flowers, printable vouchers, and supermarket bakery specials.** Being a single mum often means living on a “champagne taste, beer budget” reality. You don’t need a fancy florist. Ask the kids to pick some greenery from the garden or even some “pretty weeds” (dandelions are flowers too!). Check the supermarket “markdown” section on Saturday evening for pastries or fruit that can be used the next morning. Another great freebie is the “Mum Voucher” book—ask the kids to draw up vouchers for “One Load of Laundry” or “30 Minutes of Quiet Time.” These are worth more than any store-bought gift and cost exactly zero dollars. ## What if I’m spending Mother’s Day without the kids? **Redefine the day as a “Me-Day” and treat yourself to the breakfast *you* want, on your own timeline.** If the kids are with their dad this year, the “breakfast in bed” dream might look a little different, and that can feel lonely. Use this time to indulge in the things you can’t do when they are home. Sleep in until 10 AM. Eat your toast while it’s actually hot. Watch a show that doesn’t involve animated dogs or superheroes. Treat yourself to a nice coffee from the shop down the road. If the silence feels too loud, reach out to a friend or another single mum in the same boat. Self-care isn’t just for when the kids are present; it’s about honouring the hard work you do every other day of the year. ## How do I handle the “Single Mum Guilt” of a less-than-perfect morning? **Remember that the fact you’re even worried about making the day special for them proves you’re already doing a brilliant job.** If the toast is cold, the juice is spilt, and you’re still in your old PJs with a top-knot that hasn’t been brushed in three days, take a breath. Being a “good enough” parent is exactly what your kids need to thrive. Still feeling the weight of expectations? Check out our guide on [overcoming single mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mum-guilt-signs-you-are-actually-doing-a-great-job/) to remind yourself of how well you’re actually doing. Your presence, your patience, and a sticky hug are worth more than a gourmet meal. The kids won’t remember that the pancakes were store-bought; they’ll remember that they got to snuggle in bed with their favourite person. --- **Ready to vent, laugh, or share your own “failed” breakfast stories?** Come join us over at the **[‘SingleMum Vine’](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** Facebook community. It’s our private sanctuary where we trade survival hacks, share the mental load, and remind each other that we’re doing a bloody great job. To keep up with all our latest tips, survival guides, and community news, make sure you **[sign up for our newsletter](https://subscribepage.io/beanstalksinglemums "sign up for our newsletter")** —we promise no spam, just real-talk delivered straight to your inbox! You don’t have to do this alone! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/breakfast-in-bed-this-mothers-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/breakfast-in-bed-this-mothers-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day **Tags:** mother's day, breakfast in bed, kid's cooking --- ### [The Do’s and Dont's of Child-Safe Pool Design](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-dos-and-donts-of-child-safe-pool-design/) **Published:** April 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Although summer is in the rearview and winter is fast approaching, pool safety should remain at the forefront of parents’ minds. The winter months still present a surprising amount of water safety risk, especially for families with backyard pools where play areas sit close to the water. Kids don’t necessarily see the pool as off-limits just because it’s winter, and without the usual supervision that comes with swim season, hazards can be easier to overlook. In this article, we’ll cover how to ensure your design aligns with laws around [compliant pool fencing](https://www.outbackfencing.com.au/pool-fencing/), our top design tips for child-safe pool maintenance, and what you can do to prepare for and prevent emergencies. Read on to learn more. ## Do: Familiarise Yourself With Compliant Pool Fencing Requirements. Australia’s pool fence laws are designed to keep families safe. At times when you’re upgrading your current pool design or installing a pool for the first time, follow the [Australian pool safety barrier standards](https://www.standards.org.au/blog/standards-spotlight-as-1926-1-2024) closely to minimise the risks associated with keeping a backyard pool. Not just any style of fence will do, either. Pool fencing must be at least 1.2 metres tall, with no more than a 10-centimetre gap between the ground and the bottom of the fence. If you choose slat fencing over glass pool fencing, note that vertical gaps between slats must be smaller than 10 centimetres wide to prevent children from slipping through, while horizontal slats must be spaced at least 90 centimetres apart to prevent climbing. ## Don’t: Leave Plant Pots, Furniture or Other Climbable Objects Around Your Fence. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-freestockpro-11266724-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-freestockpro-11266724 - Beanstalk Mums") Another must for ensuring your pool fencing remains compliant with Australian law is to keep the area around the fence clear of climbable objects. A 90-centimetre radius around the fence – called the Non-Climbable Zone – must be kept completely clear at all times. Design your pool area so that any objects that kids may be able to use to climb up and over the fence, like potted plants, chairs, barbecues, trees, and toys, are placed safely. If you often host outdoor gatherings or employ landscapers for the yard, these climbable objects may move from their ideal positions and into the danger zone. Try to regularly sweep the surrounding area of your yard to ensure nothing has inched closer to the pool barrier. ## Do: Consider Upping Your Gate Access and Control Game. Gates and access points are another crucial aspect of child-safe pool design. Your gates must open outwards (away from the pool) and be both self-closing and self-latching. These latches must be at least 150 centimetres above the ground, safely out of a child’s reach. But good security doesn’t stop here. Adding an [app-connected security camera](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-security-cameras/) or motion sensor alarm can add an extra layer of safety and give you greater peace of mind, alerting you if any child tries to sneak into the pool area to swim or play unattended. Likewise, ensuring your home’s doors and windows are equipped with childproof locks can stop a child from leaving the home and venturing too close to the pool area without supervision. ## Don’t: Slack on Keeping Your Pool Water Crystal Clear. Clean, clear pool water is essential for child safety. The clearer the water, the better your visibility, and the less likely swimmers are to become sick from algae or bacteria. Part of maintaining a clean pool comes down to effort, whether that’s hiring a professional or tackling maintenance yourself. But a well-designed pool can lighten your load. Simple pool shapes, like rectangles and ovals, are easier to keep clean, as they have fewer curves, corners and crevices where dirt, algae and bacteria can grow and accumulate. Smooth pool interiors, like fibreglass or vinyl liners, make cleaning a breeze, as they require less scrubbing. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-artbovich-8134750-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-artbovich-8134750 - Beanstalk Mums") Designing your pool with strategic circulation points is also key to pool water clarity – stagnation is a major contributor to algae growth. Finally, automatic filtration and chemical dosing systems can greatly reduce your maintenance costs and time, while also enhancing child safety. ## Do: Prepare for Emergencies Before They Happen. No one wants to imagine their child in the worst-case scenario, but realistically, planning for emergencies is the best way to prevent them. Australian safety laws require that CPR and resuscitation signs be displayed in the pool area and be legible from three metres away. Equipment like safety rings should be easily accessible as well. Talking with your [child about safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/talking-safety-with-kids-everyday-chats-that-matter/) is another great line of defence. Your pool area design should also include lockable sheds or boxes for storing toys when not in use. Toys in the pool area are risky for two reasons. First, they can tempt children to enter the area when unsupervised. Second, they can create visual distractions and reduce clarity in the area. Thinking ahead in your design process, even about seemingly small things like storage, can make a big difference. ## Don’t: Forget to Conduct Routine Inspections. It’s important to avoid becoming complacent. Conducting routine inspections to ensure your pool design remains compliant may seem like no big deal, but it’s actually essential for child safety. Seasonal reviews of Australian pool safety laws and routine strolls through the area with a measuring tape can be the difference between a safe summer and a preventable emergency. ## Key Takeaways A child-safe pool design isn’t just about following the law. It’s about preserving your family’s well-being and peace of mind. Here’s what you need to remember: - Familiarise yourself with compliant pool fencing requirements around height, slat separation and gaps to ensure your pool barrier is as safe as it can be. - Create a non-climbable zone around your pool by removing items like plant pots, furniture or barbecues from around your fence. - Up your gate access and control game by following relevant laws and adding extra layers of security like app-connected motion sensors. - Design with water clarity in mind, preventing low-visibility and algae-related sicknesses. - Prepare for emergencies before they happen by displaying safety signs and designing with crucial storage in mind. - Conduct routine inspections to ensure your design remains compliant throughout the seasons. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-dos-and-donts-of-child-safe-pool-design/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-dos-and-donts-of-child-safe-pool-design/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Home Support Aiming to Improve Wellness and Independence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/home-support-aiming-to-improve-wellness-and-independence/) **Published:** March 11, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Growing old does not always mean giving up the familiarity and comfort of your own home. A lot of individuals prefer that with suitable assistance, they are able to carry on living in their own homes, which they have been familiar with for many years. There are professional home support services that give real-world help in keeping up with personal needs, enabling individuals to keep their quality of life intact while remaining in familiar environments. This option honours personal autonomy while meeting the genuine issues of getting older. # The Worth of Remaining in Familiar Environments There is a quality to living in your own house. The kitchen in which you have prepared hundreds of meals, the garden that you have worked at year after year, and the neighbourhood where everyone knows your name all provide a sense of identity and familiarity. These familiar places hold memories and comfort that are able to be provided by no other environment. When physical challenges happen, the instinct may be to think about moving to a place that has support built in. But for many, finding ways to bring support into the home they have helps them maintain independence much more effectively than moving. Your house is your castle, your haven, and your own place. With proper support, managing tasks that have become challenging, you can continue to enjoy the life you have established without unnecessary disruption or loss of independence. # Learning Flexible Support Options Today’s support services understand that everyone’s circumstances are distinct and ever-changing. What you need today may be very different from what you need next month or next year. The Australian Government’s new [Support at Home program](https://www.careabout.com.au/support-at-home) reflects this flexibility, offering funding and tailored assistance to help older Australians access the right care at the right time. [Home care packages](https://holdsworth.org.au/services-holdsworth/aged-care-at-home/home-care-packages/) offer funds that can be established to meet specific requirements, be it help with cleaning, personal care, nursing visits, or access to communities. The benefit of these programs is that you have a say as to how help is administered and when help is offered. You can have someone to help with the heavy housework twice a week, but maintain everything else in your control. Or perhaps you require assistance daily with morning routines, but can handle afternoons by yourself. This adapted approach guarantees that services are allocated exactly where they are most needed, varying as the need requires, without rigid timings or unnecessary services. # Simple Management of Domestic Duties Keeping a home running requires ongoing effort that becomes exhausting with fluctuating energy levels. Vacuuming, mopping, dusting, and bathroom cleaning all take physical stamina. Washing involves bending, lifting, and repetitive actions, which stress joints that are ageing. Cooking requires standing for extended periods of time and handling heavy pots and frying pans. If such household tasks become too much, support services can genuinely ease the load. In some cases, living in or accessing [SDA housing](https://www.inplaceliving.com.au/) can also make a big difference, with homes designed to reduce strain and support day-to-day independence. Professional cleaners keep your home clean without you lifting a finger. Laundry services ensure that your clothes and bed linen remain fresh. Meal preparation support puts wholesome food on your plate without the gruelling work of cooking. These services don’t take away your independence — they simply lighten the physical load, so you can save your energy for the things you actually enjoy. ![home support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-vlada-karpovich-5790710-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-vlada-karpovich-5790710 - Beanstalk Mums") # Personal Care Delivered with Care Some things in life become unexpectedly difficult with declining mobility or the onset of health issues. Bathing in safety, dressing, grooming, and mobilisation within the home require physical capacity that can slowly dwindle. These personal activities are assisted by trained professional carers without sacrificing your dignity and privacy. Trained support staff recognise the delicacy of personal care. They treat each contact with respect, assisting you to do as much as you can and only taking over where absolutely necessary. This equilibrium makes you feel capable and independent. Beyond individual care, support may involve medication reminders, dressing wounds, continence care, and mobilisation. Having trained personnel handle these issues provides your family and you with peace of mind, realising that health requirements are being taken care of well and on time. # Bringing Healthcare Home Doctor’s visits are exhausting, particularly when they involve travelling and waiting rooms. Having medical professionals visit you at home eliminates this hassle while you receive proper medical attention. Nurses monitor chronic conditions like diabetes or heart disease, checking vital signs and reporting to your doctor. They dress and redress wounds, manage medications, and watch for changes that need medical attention. Your [physiotherapy](https://acquirephysiotherapy.com.au/ "physiotherapy") specialist assists you in exercises to maintain your mobility and avoid falls, practising safe movement in your actual living environment. Occupational therapists examine how you accomplish things in your home and suggest adaptive equipment or methods to make daily activities easier. Dietitians design meal plans that meet particular health needs with consideration of what you find appealing to consume. This comprehensive care given in the comfort of your home equates to physical surveillance and earlier intervention of issues without the inconvenience of frequent medical facility visits. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-kelly-2950003-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-kelly-2950003 - Beanstalk Mums") # Social Contacts and Community Life Independence is not only concerned with body care but also with continued engagement in society, you know. When driving is no longer safe or taking public transport is too daunting, contact with the outside world may be severely restricted. Transport services enable you to continue attending social events, visiting friends and relatives, shopping for yourself, or just going out to your favourite haunts. Support staff can take you to community groups, exercise classes, or cultural events with both transportation and company. For loneliness, weekly visits from support staff bring valuable social interaction and emotional connection. Many of these relationships grow into real friendships that add light to each week. Staying socially engaged keeps minds alert and spirits bright. It provides structure to your days and an incentive to greet each morning with optimism rather than just going through each day alone. # Designing Safer Living Spaces At other times, the home itself must be adapted in order to continue being safe as physical abilities shift. A bathroom that suited you perfectly for years may now present fall hazards. Stairs never considered a problem may turn into hazardous barriers. Professional evaluation locates these risks and suggests feasible measures. The fitting of [safety compliant stainless steel grab rails](https://www.lencare.com.au/rail-series/grab-rail/) around toilets and showers affords much-needed stability. The addition of ramps at the front of the house does away with dangerous steps. Enhanced lighting within the dwelling minimises trip hazards. Shifting furniture facilitates more open routes for walkers or wheelchairs. These adjustments, along with small repairs such as tightening loose floors or fastening rugs, make your home a safer place. Incorporating [Tranquil’s GPS tracker watch for elderly residents](https://feeltranquil.com/tranquil-watch-lp/) can further enhance safety by allowing caregivers to monitor location in case of wandering or emergencies. The investment in these adjustments tends to be much less expensive than the cost of dealing with injuries from avoidable falls. Most importantly, they instil confidence to move unencumbered about your own home without constant worry about accidents. # Building a Sustainable Future at Home The strength of comprehensive home care is that it can adapt with you as time goes by. Needs do not stay the same, and good care anticipates this fact. You may need little assistance at present, maybe only heavy cleaning and yard work. With the passage of months and years, you may need more assistance with personal care or managing [healthcare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-we-access-healthcare-is-changing/). Flexible services expand effortlessly, introducing new features without interfering with daily habits. That is how you can stay in your own place throughout life phases instead of being subject to compulsory relocations at times of greater need. It is true that you might not need support yet, but setting up help relationships in advance creates trust and comfort. When more intensive support becomes required, you’re already dealing with individuals who understand you, your likes and dislikes, and your routines. Care continuity smooths out transitions and reduces stress, helping you to age in place for as long as possible. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/home-support-aiming-to-improve-wellness-and-independence/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/home-support-aiming-to-improve-wellness-and-independence/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Avoiding AC Headaches: Tips for Getting the Best Service](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/avoiding-ac-headaches-tips-for-getting-the-best-service/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Nothing’s worse than your air conditioner failing on a scorching hot day. Whether it’s weak airflow, strange noises, or a complete breakdown, dealing with AC problems can be frustrating—especially if you don’t have a reliable service provider. Many homeowners struggle with long wait times, overpriced repairs, or unqualified technicians, turning a simple AC fix into a major hassle. But the good news? You can avoid these headaches by knowing what to look for and taking proactive steps. In this guide, we’ll cover when your AC needs servicing, what to look for in a professional, and how to ensure you get top-notch service. ## **Signs You Need AC Service** Your air conditioner won’t always break down suddenly — it often shows warning signs first, which is why regular [Aircon Servicing](https://www.jetstyle.com.sg/) is essential for catching issues early and avoiding costly failures. Knowing these signs can help you schedule service before minor issues become costly. ### **1. Weak or Inconsistent Cooling** If some rooms in your home feel significantly warmer than others or your AC struggles to reach the set temperature, it may be time for a professional inspection. This could indicate a clogged filter, refrigerant leaks, or issues with the compressor. In cases like this, having a technician from [Crown Air](https://crownair.com.au/) Airconditioning take a look can help identify the issue early and keep things running as they should, so it doesn’t turn into a bigger problem later on. ### **2. Strange Noises or Smells** Loud banging, rattling, or squealing sounds aren’t typical. These could be signs of loose parts, motor issues, or debris inside the system. Additionally, musty odours may point to mould growth in the ducts, while a burning smell could indicate electrical problems. ### **3. High Energy Bills** If your electricity bill suddenly spikes without an apparent reason, your AC might be working harder than necessary due to an issue. Dirty coils, clogged filters, or an aging system can all lead to reduced efficiency and higher costs. ### **4. Frequent Cycling or Constant Running** Your AC should run in cycles, turning off once it reaches the desired temperature. If it’s constantly cycling on and off or running for unusually long periods, there might be a thermostat issue, low refrigerant, or a problem with airflow. ### **5. Excess Moisture or Leaks** While some condensation is normal, excessive moisture around your AC unit could signal a refrigerant leak or a blocked drain line. Both issues should be addressed quickly to prevent damage to your system and home. ## **DIY Troubleshooting Before Calling a Pro** Before you book a service appointment, check a few things yourself: - Ensure the thermostat is set correctly and has fresh batteries. - Clean or replace the air filter if it’s dirty. - Make sure vents are open and unblocked. - Check your circuit breaker in case the AC has tripped. If none of these quick fixes solves the issue, it’s time to call in a professional. ## **Choosing the Right AC Service Provider** Finding a trustworthy AC technician can feel overwhelming, especially with so many options available. Not all service providers offer the same level of expertise, and choosing the wrong one can lead to wasted time and money. Here’s how to find a reliable professional: ### **1. Look for Experience and Certifications** An established company, like one specialising in [air conditioning Greater Blue Mountains](https://www.altitudeairsolutions.com.au/areas-we-service/ "air conditioning Greater Blue Mountains") with years of experience, is often safer than a newly launched business. Check if the technicians are certified and licensed to perform AC repairs in your area. Proper credentials indicate they’ve undergone the necessary training and follow industry standards. ### **2. Read Customer Reviews and Ratings** Online reviews can give you a good sense of a company’s reputation. Look for patterns in customer feedback—consistent complaints about delays, poor workmanship, or hidden fees are red flags. On the other hand, a provider with plenty of positive reviews and repeat customers is likely a solid choice. ### **3. Compare Quotes and Ask Questions** Don’t settle for the first company you come across. Contact multiple providers and compare their pricing, warranties, and service guarantees. Be sure to ask: - What’s included in the service fee? - Do you offer warranties on repairs? - How long will the service take? - Do you have emergency or same-day appointments? Instead of buying a new air-conditioning unit, consider renting one from [Precision Air Rental](https://precisionairrental.com.au/) — their portable units offer a cost-effective alternative that can save you a lot on upfront costs while still keeping your home cool and comfortable. ### **4. Avoid Companies That Push Unnecessary Repairs** Some technicians might upsell expensive repairs or even recommend a complete replacement when a simple fix is enough. If a quote seems excessively high, get a second opinion before agreeing to any significant work. ### **5. Prioritise Transparency and Communication** A trustworthy company will be upfront about pricing, potential repair options, and expected timelines. If a technician is vague about costs or avoids answering your questions directly, looking elsewhere is best. ### **6. Finding Reputable Air Conditioning Companies** Finding reputable [air conditioning companies in Sydney](https://www.penair.com.au/sydney/) can make all the difference in terms of quality service. Look for providers with strong local reputations, clear pricing policies, and well-trained technicians to ensure your AC is in good hands. ## **What to Expect from a Professional AC Service** Hiring an AC technician isn’t just about getting the job done—it’s about ensuring the work is thorough, professional, and reasonably priced. Knowing what to expect from a service visit can help avoid surprises and ensure you get the best value. ### **1. Initial Inspection and Diagnosis** A professional AC service starts with an inspection. The technician should check key components such as: - The thermostat settings - Air filters and ducts - Refrigerant levels - Electrical connections - The compressor and condenser coils After the inspection, they should clearly diagnose the issue and discuss potential solutions before proceeding with repairs. ### **2. Transparent Pricing and Service Agreement** Before any work begins, you should receive an itemised estimate detailing the cost of labour, parts, and additional services. Avoid companies that are vague about pricing or try to push services without explanation. ### **3. Cleaning and Maintenance Tasks** Many AC problems can be prevented with routine maintenance. A good service visit often includes: - Cleaning or replacing filters - Checking for refrigerant leaks - Inspecting ductwork for blockages - Lubricating moving parts - Tightening electrical connections A company that doesn’t include these basic tasks may not provide a complete service. ### **4. Red Flags to Watch Out For** Unfortunately, not all service providers are honest. Be wary of technicians who: - Insist on replacing your AC unit without a clear explanation - Refuse to provide a written estimate - Add unexpected fees at the last minute - Seem unsure about diagnosing the problem A reputable provider will always keep you informed and respect your budget while offering solutions that make sense for your system. ## **Maintaining Your AC to Reduce Future Issues** Maintenance goes a long way in keeping your AC running smoothly and avoiding costly repairs. By following these simple steps, you can extend the lifespan of your system and ensure consistent performance. ### **1. Change or Clean Filters Regularly** Clogged filters restrict airflow and force your AC to work harder, increasing energy consumption. Check your filters every 1-3 months and replace or clean them as needed. ### **2. Keep the Outdoor Unit Clean** Leaves, dirt, and debris can accumulate around the outdoor condenser unit, blocking airflow. Keep the area clear and gently clean the fins with a hose every few months. ### **3. Schedule Annual Professional Maintenance** Even if your AC works fine, scheduling a professional tune-up at least once a year helps catch minor issues before they become big problems. ### **4. Check for Air Leaks** Leaky ducts or gaps around windows and doors can let cool air escape, making your AC work harder. Sealing leaks can improve efficiency and reduce energy bills. ![AC](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/22426117-2496-4a30-ac54-ead088f45d9d-1066x800.jpg "22426117-2496-4a30-ac54-ead088f45d9d - Beanstalk Mums") ### **5. Use a Programmable Thermostat** A programmable thermostat helps regulate temperature settings based on your schedule, reducing unnecessary strain on your AC when you’re not home. By staying on top of these simple maintenance tasks, you can avoid emergency repairs, keep your AC running efficiently, and enjoy an incredible, comfortable home all year round. ### **Conclusion** Dealing with AC problems can be stressful, but you can avoid unnecessary headaches with the right approach. By recognising the early signs of AC issues, choosing a reputable service provider, and understanding what to expect during a professional visit, you can ensure your system gets the care it needs. Regular maintenance is also key to preventing breakdowns and keeping your AC running efficiently for years to come. Taking a proactive approach to AC service will save you time, money, and frustration—so don’t wait until a heatwave hits to start looking for a reliable technician. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/avoiding-ac-headaches-tips-for-getting-the-best-service/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/avoiding-ac-headaches-tips-for-getting-the-best-service/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Quick guide to financial disclosures when you separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/financial-disclosures-separate/) **Published:** July 21, 2021 **Author:** Lydia Shelly **Content:** When your relationship ends, it is normal to feel a rollercoaster of emotions. Common emotions can include anger, fear, grief, resentment, relief, happiness and a new sense of optimism for the future. You can ebb and flow between your emotions throughout the separation process. The legal process involved when a relationship breaks down can be even more bewildering when you are experiencing that rollercoaster of emotions. One of the very first steps you need to take if you have [separated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/what-happens-family-home-separate/), and you need to resolve your property/financial arrangements, is to make a full and frank financial disclosure to your ex-partner. This duty to make full and frank financial disclosure applies if you are resolving your property/financial arrangements by consent or if you find yourself in Court because you cannot agree with your ex-partner as to how your property should be split. ## What does full and frank financial disclosure mean? All parties that are involved in family law disputes must make full and frank financial disclosure to each other. They have a duty and obligation to make disclosure, and to continue to make disclosure to each other. Your obligation to make full and frank financial disclosure starts even before you are in Court, and it continues until your matter has resolved (either by consent or because the Judge has heard all the evidence and has reached a decision). This obligation covers your direct and indirect financial circumstances. That means that along the way, and until your matter has been resolved, you must continue to provide the other party: - Information regarding your financial circumstances (for example, this may include if you are made redundant or if you have received an inheritance). - Any financial documents that have been created or come into your possession (for example, tax statements, notice of assessments and bank statements). [Rule 13.04 of the Family Law Rules (2004) Cth](https://www.austlii.edu.au/) sets out what the obligation is and what type of information and documents are covered. It can be quite time-consuming and overwhelming to start collating the financial documents and information regarding your financial circumstances. It is often the hardest step that people have to take when they start the legal process in resolving their financial relationship with their ex-partner. ## What happens if you or the other party refuses to make a full and frank financial disclosure? There can be severe consequences if you do not comply with your obligation to make full and frank financial disclosure. These consequences can include the Judge not allowing you to rely on certain documents or information for your case, a cost order being made against you, dismissing part or all of your case, issuing you a fine or even imprisonment if it is demonstrated that you are in contempt of Court. If the other party suspects that you have not made disclosure, they are likely to issue correspondence and/or subpoenas to certain agencies or companies to enable documents to be produced to the Court directly. This can increase the expenses associated with your matter and prolong your matter, ultimately resolving. If you suspect that the other party have not made full and frank financial disclosure, you should obtain legal advice as soon as possible. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/financial-disclosures-separate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/financial-disclosures-separate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** financial separation, property settlement --- ### [The Rise of Kids’ Skincare Brands: What Parents Need to Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-rise-of-kids-skincare-brands-what-parents-need-to-know/) **Published:** April 24, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your child might be asking for a skincare routine because they’ve seen it online. Next thing you know, they’re eyeing anti-aging serums like they’ve got a mortgage and a presentation deadline. If you’re a single mum prioritising a lighthearted yet safe approach, discover everything you need to know about skincare for children. ## Why Kids’ Skincare Is Suddenly Everywhere Kids have always played with grown-up stuff like lip gloss, hair clips and mum’s perfume when you’re not looking. What might feel new is the scale, shiny packaging and “must have” mentality. ### Social Media Makes Skincare Look Like Self-Care Online, tweens and young [teens show off skincare](https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/sephora-kids-trend-controversy-1.7088691#:~:text=The%20%22Sephora%20kids%22%20trend%20is%20a%20divisive,harsh%20and%20not%20meant%20for%20pediatric%20skin) hauls and step-by-step routines. Some of those routines include strong anti-aging products formulated for adult skin. The “Sephora Kids” trend has been widely reported, and it’s linked to social media influence and the rise of “get ready with me” content. Social platforms sell the idea that a routine means calm and that a shelf full of products means control. Kids watch creators talk about “glass skin,” texture and pores, and they want to copy the script. Copying is normal, and kids often copy what they admire. However, the tricky part is that skincare content is designed to convert and sell. So, your child ends up wanting a product because it creates a sense of belonging rather than because their skin actually needs it. A lot of this lands in your lap as a parent as you raise a confident child while protecting their skin barrier and bank account. ### The Money Behind the Moment ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-the-good-hygiene-co-2149304841-36078637-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-the-good-hygiene-co-2149304841-36078637 - Beanstalk Mums") There’s big money in skincare. The broader skincare industry continues to expand, and brands keep carving out new niches. The industry is projected to grow significantly, [reaching $145 billion b](https://www.dermcaremgt.com/2022/07/dermatology-industry-trends/)y 2028. That kind of growth invites new products and new audiences, including kids. It’s easy to see why kids’ skincare has become a sudden and growing category. When the market grows, everyone wants a slice. ## Do Kids Need Skincare Products? [Skincare for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tween-skin-care/) can be totally fine with the right approach, but it can become problematic fast if the products are too harsh or used too often. Most kids do not need a complex routine because their skin is still doing what young skin does best, which is recovering quickly, producing plenty of natural moisture and bouncing back after a rough day at school. That said, you might still allow your child to use skincare simply because they want a routine and ritual. You can work with that and shape it into a gentle routine. Most kids and teens [only need a mild soap](https://www.childrens.com/health-wellness/what-parents-need-to-know-about-skincare-for-kids), a fragrance-free moisturiser and sunscreen. A mild cleanser helps remove sweat, sunscreen and grime, while a simple moisturiser helps if skin feels tight or dry. Sunscreen protects against UV radiation, the main long-term threat to skin health. If your child wants a routine, let this be it. As puberty rolls in, skin can change with oil and breakouts. That’s when a slightly more consistent approach can help. If acne is starting to bother your child, a doctor or pharmacist can guide you on an age-appropriate option. Rather than 10 products, you just have one or two that really work. ### The Risk of Kids Using Grown-Up Products A lot of adult skincare is built around strong ingredients like exfoliating acids, retinoids, peels and resurfacing. All of [these can be harmful](https://healthcare.utah.edu/healthfeed/2024/11/four-things-teenagers-should-know-about-anti-aging-skin-products) to young skin. Kids can end up with redness, burning and flaking, which can lead them to need more products to address the irritation and get them stuck in an expensive loop. ## What to Look for in Kids’ Skincare Brands Kids’ skincare brands sit in the middle. They can be a safer alternative for a child who wants to copy adult routines, but they can also be unnecessary clutter. Mums already do a lot, so you don’t need a 30-step routine for your ten-year-old. If your child really wants a routine, you can steer them toward gentle choices that match their age. ### Pros of Kids’ Products ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-ron-lach-8142198-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ron-lach-8142198 - Beanstalk Mums") The best part of skincare for kids is the compromise. Your child still gets to participate and feel included, and kids’ products tend to avoid heavy hitters. There are fewer harsh actives, simpler formulas and more focus on hydration and protection. By establishing a skincare routine early, children are more likely to adopt the critical habit of using sunscreen, offering immense lifelong skin protection. You can also use skincare to encourage your child to [eat foods rich in essential vitamins](https://revivalist.com/eat-your-skincare-7-top-foods-to-nourish-your-skin/), minerals and nutrients, which can support a healthy complexion. ### Cons to Watch For Kids’ skincare is often market-driven. It’s still selling a dream, and some brands also pile on fragrance or glittery extras. Check the ingredients when you’re shopping. Some kids’ lines still sneak in ingredients that read more adult. If you see “anti-aging,” “wrinkle,” “firming”, or “resurfacing,” that’s your cue to step back. Choose fragrance-free products with short ingredient lists. Skip anti-aging claims and scrubs. If your child has sensitive skin or eczema, keep skincare simple and consider checking with a clinician. A patch test can help, too. A small amount on the inner arm for a day or two is usually enough. Overuse is another issue. Even gentle [products can irritate the skin](https://www.yalemedicine.org/news/when-kids-are-obsessed-with-skin-care-products) if your child cleanses five times a day because they saw someone else do it. It can also waste product and require you to restock more often. You should teach your child the best time and frequency to apply their skincare products to avoid the consequences of overuse. ## Glow With the Flow Skincare for kids works best when it stays simple. Try a gentle cleanser, fragrance-free moisturiser and sunscreen. If your child wants a routine, you can let them have one. You just keep it safe. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-rise-of-kids-skincare-brands-what-parents-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-rise-of-kids-skincare-brands-what-parents-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Expert travelling tips for surviving long-haul flights with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/tips-for-long-flights-with-kids/) **Published:** June 20, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Heading off by plane for long-overdue family travel is usually filled with excitement. Still, if you haven’t done it before, the thought of flying with kids can bring a lot of worries. Stop right there! Before you start stressing yourself, know that there are plenty of small steps you can take to make air travel with your children easier. Tips for a long flight with kids coming right up! ## **Top tips for travelling a long-haul flight with kids** ## **Preparation is key** First on my list of tips and tricks for a successful long flight with kids: prepare. Many little things can make a big difference to your flight. Start by choosing which airline you fly, arranging travel insurance, and selecting the time of day you travel. Then, involve your kids in choosing seats, selecting the right snacks and entertainment, and figuring out the best strategies to get some sleep. Involving your children in planning your vacation is one way to prepare them and get them excited. ### **Preparing your kids** If your children haven’t flown before, tell them what to expect and what will happen throughout the flight. Expect that these are all new and confronting things for your kids. Tell them about having to put their favourite toy through the security scanner, waiting in long lines, needing to sit down for long periods, and the plane’s loud noises. One effective way to prepare them is by reading [children’s books about flying](https://amzn.to/3VLgPSp). You can also look at apps about flying and doing some role-playing with toddlers. Don’t forget to tell them about jet lag! They better be ready if you don’t want a moody kid while on vacation. ![Tips for a long flight with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012399-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Go hands-free** If travelling with a baby, [invest in a baby carrier](https://www.hopeandplum.co/collections/shop-all-baby-carriers), a portable bassinet, or a stroller to have your hands free to deal with carry-on luggage, passports and any other children. It’s also useful on the plane when you need to go to the toilet and when you want to sleep and want to know your baby is secure and comfy. ## **Take the right documents** If you’re travelling solo, you must have a notarised letter signed by your children’s other parent stating you are allowed to take them out of the country. I know for many, this isn’t possible or desirable, so official custody or court orders are used instead. You might also need birth certificates or adoption papers, as they are also required sometimes, especially when your surname differs from your children’s surname. For instance, countries such as South Africa require that all children under 18 years must present a birth certificate with both parents’ names on it, in addition to their passport. There are plenty of people, including me, who have never been asked to produce any documents in addition to passports at immigration, but there are just as many people who have, and if they don’t have the essential documents, they’re sent home. Also, make sure you check the exact requirements from the consulate or embassy for where you’re going, and even the airline you’re flying on, because rules change quickly and differ from country to country. ***Further reading: [Ex won’t sign passport application? Here’s what to do.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/)*** ## **Check COVID vaccination requirements** Aside from these documents, ensure you have proof of your COVID-19 vaccination status for both you and your children, either a hard copy or on your phone. Different countries have different rules when it comes to COVID. You may need to be vaccinated to enter the country you are travelling to or be instructed to wear a mask on the flight. The rules are always changing, so check everything and check again the day before flying. Note: Domestic travel can be just as tricky, with different states having different, ever-changing COVID requirements. Head to [SmartTraveller](https://www.smartraveller.gov.au/COVID-19) for the very latest COVID updates in relation to travel. ## **Travel light when flying with kids** I know how tempting it is, but NEVER pack for every eventuality. If you pack too much, it will become a real burden going through the airport, in the airport toilets, and at that terrifying moment when you have to chase down your runaway toddler. When flying with kids, I take on the plane one day-pack for me and one each for the kids that aren’t too heavy; otherwise, they’ll end up wanting me to carry them (you don’t want that). When the boys were toddlers, I’d check in one bag with everyone’s gear inside, but now that they’re at school, they’re in charge of their own bags. Another thing to remember when you’re packing and getting dressed to fly is that you’ll most likely have to remove your shoes, belt and jacket at airport security (just you, not your young kids). Make it easier on yourself by wearing slip-on shoes, no belt or jacket, and having your electronics and liquids in an easily accessible part of your bag for inspection. ![long travel flight with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012398-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Tips for long haul flights with little ones** ## **Use the airline lounge** If you can, organise access to an airline club or lounge if you fly internationally from a busy airport. In places like Brisbane International Airport, it is easy to look after the kids in the terminal building while you wait for your plane. But in places like Los Angeles, flying with kids in tow is a whole other matter. Airline lounges are little pockets of sanity for tired parents. There are showers, nice bathrooms, children’s play areas, and meals to enjoy before you fly. More and more airport lounges are becoming available for independent use. Otherwise, see if you can gain access through your credit card or by joining the airline club. ## **Board early** Now I know that you’re unlikely to want to spend any more time on a plane than you have to. It may seem cumbersome, but arriving at the airport hours before your flight and boarding early has plenty of advantages. Doing this allows you to get into your seats in advance and settle before everyone else starts blocking up the passageways and the overhead lockers. It also helps to ask the flight attendants about special requests early on. ## **Accept and ask for help if you are flying with toddlers** Ask a friend or family member to take you to the airport and help you with the kids until after you’ve checked in. It’s small but can make all the difference in getting off to a good start. You won’t always have the lovely granny next to you who’s happy to entertain your toddler while you eat, or the nice man who offers to get your bag off the carousel. But if they offer (and your judgment says they’re likely to be good people), then accept. ## **Summary: Expert tips for flying long-haul flights with kids** I remember the Christmas of 2022 when my sons and I visited my hometown. It was a 6-hour flight, so I had my full battle gear on. I brought the tablet and coloured pens to keep them busy during long waits. This mama also packed their headphones for a more peaceful takeoff and landing. I even bought their favourite water bottles to avoid tantrums. After all the preparation, I thought I was ready, but tiny mishaps are unavoidable at times like this. Thank goodness for the nice flight attendant who assisted us with the nappy problem! Flying solo with kids may not be all unicorns and rainbows, but the flight won’t last forever. With the memories you will be making, believe me, it will all be worth it in the end. Happy flying! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Flying-with-kids.png "Flying with kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/tips-for-long-flights-with-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/tips-for-long-flights-with-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holiday, airport, plane, travel, passport --- ### [10 Super cute bedroom ideas for little girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-cute-bedroom-ideas-for-little-girls/) **Published:** August 19, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about bedroom ideas for little girls was last updated in 2026.*** Are you decorating your daughter’s bedroom and need inspiration to create something she will completely LOVE? All little girls are different, and you’ll want to find something just perfect. To get you started, here is our list of bedroom ideas for little girls. ### 1. UNDER THE SEA An under-the-sea theme is one of our top bedroom ideas for little girls. It’s fun, it’s classic, plus there are mermaids! And what little girl doesn’t adore mermaids? This look is really easy to pull off and totally affordable, especially if you’re a DIYer. Even if you’re not a crafty mum, plenty of online stores sell paint and supplies for cheap (Etsy, Amazon and eBay are some of our faves). The focal point of this room is the pretty clamshell headboard, which you can buy on Etsy. Or cut the scallop pattern out of wood or thick cardboard and slap on some pink and yellow paint. The rest is just underwater-themed décor. Get some fish/coral decals, quirky table lamps, and a bed cover in aqua, lavender and purple hues. Finally, hang up some nautical prints on the wall and arrange coordinating pillows on the bed. ![Bedroom Ideas for Little Girls | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/ae/73/95/ae7395233798761475d2e78ed675e90c.jpg) Image Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/914862413787941/) ### 2. FOR THE FROZEN FANS *Frozen* is here to stay, and we mums should accept it and move on. We love this bedroom idea for little girls because you can go crazy with the theme or keep it subtle and classy; it’s totally up to you. For a look that’s true to the *Disney* movie, grab some *Frozen* decals and merchandise (sheets, pillowcases, plushies) from your favourite shop. Or make your own décor from craft store supplies. Start with a giant foam snowflake on the wall directly above the bed with smaller snowflakes scattered here and there. Hanging paper snowflakes is also a great option. For a subtler take, paint the room in ice blue colours with a deeper colour for the accent wall. Keep the snowflakes, but go easy on the prints. Choose minimal but coordinating bed linens, pillows, and accessories. Hang one or two Elsa prints on the wall to complete the look. ![Frozen bedroom idea | Beanstalk Mums](https://homebnc.com/homeimg/2016/01/31-fun-with-foam-frozen-disney-room-decoration-homebnc.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Home BNC](https://homebnc.com/disney-room-ideas-and-designs/3/) ### 3. FLOWER POWER A floral theme always looks amazing in girls’ bedrooms, whether they are 4 or 14. Flowers are pretty and will always be one of the classic bedroom ideas for little girls. It’s also a flexible theme that lets you go minimal, maximal or eclectic. To get the look below, paint the walls in soft pastel or warm neutrals. Get some decals and fake flowers from the craft store and arrange them over the bed in a branching pattern. Or skip the work and just put up pretty floral wallpaper for the accent wall. Decorate with big lanterns, dolls and pastel accessories Keep the bedroom furniture coordinated. Choose complementary tones like the wooden bed and nightstand in the picture. A white metal bed frame and pastel accessories would also work. Finally, choose bed linens that match the flowers on the wall. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/250b8389a700154c1f3a4f4baf5c5b53-1-546x800.jpg "250b8389a700154c1f3a4f4baf5c5b53 - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/774124930884167/) ### 4. OVER THE RAINBOW Brighten up your little girl’s bedroom with pops of colour and a fun, fabulous rainbow as the focal point. Kids love bright and happy hues, and this is the best way to add life and cheerfulness to an otherwise bland space. A rainbow looks best on white or neutral walls, but feel free to add a bright or dark accent wall. A chalkboard is perfect for a playroom! The room below keeps the focus on the rainbow with simple furniture and clean lines. Notice the understated pattern on the bedding and colours that don’t take away from the main wall. Many online shops sell peel-and-stick rainbow decals like this one that won’t damage your walls. If you’re a ‘more is more’ kind of mum, you can get away with key statement pieces if you keep the rest of the furniture simple and the walls muted. Add colourful garlands and bright paper lanterns that look great on white paint. ### 5. TOM BOY Looking for bedroom ideas for little girls that are not ultra-feminine? This beautiful room with plaid wallpaper, animal accents and a cute teepee is just the thing. The muted walls, carpeting and décor really make the blue pop. Check out the animal plushies on the wall, simple furniture, and the play on texture. We love the inviting corner space with the tufted sofa, pile of pillows and the little shaggy pouf that’s perfect for reading and relaxing. To make this look your own, use your child’s favourite colour for the walls or wallpaper and work around that main hue when picking your accessories. If she’s into outdoorsy stuff or athletics, decorate with nature prints, sporty decals and matching plushies. If she’s a science nut, get star decals, bedding with solar system prints, and fun science posters. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Pexels-dwanghong-17495866-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-dwanghong-17495866 - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Dang Hong](https://www.pexels.com/@dwanghong/) ### 6. PARIS LOVIN’ It’s never too early to introduce your daughter to Paris. Paris is right up there with florals when it comes to our favourite bedroom ideas for little girls. It’s a classic theme that you can play around with and really make your own. The bedroom below is quite a literal take and perfect if your child loves pink. The stripes, polka dots and black details (check out that awning!) are super adorable. To get this look, paint vertical stripes on the walls in alternating dark and light pink or use similar wallpaper. Use pink and black bed linens, rugs and curtains, and pile on the cute pillows. Plastic flowers or feathers in a vase also add to the charm. We love the chandelier and the bedframe that tie the room together. You can get these for cheap on eBay or Facebook Marketplace. The rest of the décor is easy to find online. ![Paris theme room | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d3/87/32/d3873211932e1aa16ec7e46fade1dbac.jpg) Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.fr/pin/331577591302748599/) ### 7. BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLIES A list of bedroom ideas for little girls won’t be complete without a butterfly theme. Like the rainbow room, this theme works great on white or neutral spaces that show off the brilliant colours of the butterflies. The room below is one of the easiest to copy. Put up big butterfly decals on the wall above the bed or use hanging butterflies, and get matching bed linens and pillowcases. The big oval rug, side tables and lampshades in light pink are pretty but don’t distract from the main theme. This look works whether you have Ikea furniture or something more ornate. You can keep the colours muted or choose brighter shades for a more vibrant look. But make sure to play off the colours against something neutral to avoid overwhelm. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Bedroom-ideas-for-girls-toddler-butterflies-min-min.jpg "Bedroom-ideas-for-girls-toddler-butterflies-min-min - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [The Canvas Factory](https://www.thecanvasfactory.com.au/blog/bedroom-ideas-for-girls/bedroom-ideas-for-girls-toddler-butterflies-min-min/) ### 8. ENCHANTED FOREST The woodland theme is still going strong, as shown by this amazing enchanted forest bedroom. We love everything in this room. That bed, the canopy, the textures, the copper and blue shades…it’s just perfect for tomboys and younger girls who love animals and nature. The trendy bed with the canopy is the focal point here. You can DIY it or get it online from kids furniture stores (check FB marketplace for bargains). No worries if you have a regular twin bed, it’s all about accessorising. Get animal plushies and cute pillows in warm or neutral colours, and decorate with texture. Think woven rugs, baskets and wooden toys. Don’t forget the woodland wallpaper for the accent wall. If you want to customise and make it your own, keep the walls and furniture neutral and use your little girl’s favourite colours. If she likes yellow, use different shades of yellow for the décor and accessories. ![Bedroom Ideas for Little Girls | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.kidsinteriors.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/1k-4.jpg) Image source: [Kids Interiors](https://www.kidsinteriors.com/parkers-enchanted-forest-inspired-room/) ### 9. PRINCESS PALACE A little princess needs a bedroom that’s fit for royalty. This room is a subtle take with the pastel walls and bed linens, but you can easily go all out Disney or sophisticated luxury. We like a sophisticated take on the princess palace with purples and pinks offset by neutral walls and statement decor. To get this look, choose white or pastel furniture if you want colours to stand out, or keep the colours light if you have dark furniture. Dress up the wall above the bed with purple drapes and lanterns on a string. Add personalised wooden letters on a shelf or stick name decals on the wall. Then pile on monogrammed or name pillows on the bed and choose a dainty quilt with a skirt. The oval mirror on the wall is straight from a fairy tale, but a bigger standing mirror also looks elegant and makes the room look bigger. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Pexels-michael-d-beckwith-2150568551-31488428-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-michael-d-beckwith-2150568551-31488428 - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Michael D Beckwith](https://www.pexels.com/@michael-d-beckwith-2150568551/) ### 10. SURF SISTER A fun nautical theme completes our list of bedroom ideas for little girls. Whether you live on a waterfront block or in the middle of an urban jungle, bringing the ocean indoors is always a good (and relaxing) idea. For little girls who love the surf, the bedroom below is perfect. Get this look by starting with a white room and adding textured wainscoting. Keep the furniture clean and simple, and dress it up with bright bed linens and cute pillows. Decorate with colourful hanging beads, plushies, surf-themed posters and a surfboard. This theme also works great with boho chic décor and accessories. Think textured poufs, woven rugs and curtains with tassels. Add lots of plants to liven up the room…fake ones look just as great and require zero maintenance! ![Bedroom Ideas for Little Girls | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/9c/46/6b/9c466b3f99abe6df04d90bf362f39893.jpg) Image source: [Pottery Barn Kids](http://www.potterybarnkids.com) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Got a little girl you need to plan a birthday bash for? Take a look at this article: [How to plan, affordable kids birthday party.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/) [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/147831)](https://www.fantasticfurniture.com.au/) ![Bedroom ideas for little girls | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Bedroom-ideas-for-girls.png "Bedroom ideas for girls - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-cute-bedroom-ideas-for-little-girls/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-cute-bedroom-ideas-for-little-girls/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household **Tags:** diy, theme, bed, room --- ### [Pick the right vibrator: Beginner guide to buying the perfect sex toy 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/buying-a-vibrator/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Buying a vibrator for the first time can be a little awkward, even embarrassing. But don’t let that put you off. It’s also lots of fun. Even if you are a sex toy novice, the rest of the world is not. This means there is a huge amount of choice in the market when it comes to buying vibrators. Be prepared to be wowed! If you’re thinking of taking a tentative look, but are not sure where to start, help is here. We’ll soon have you paired up with your new buzzy best friend … and you’ll never look back. ## **Reasons to buy a vibrator** ### **Increase your happiness** While experts are not exactly sure why vibrators feel oh so good, they know that they can help men and women increase sexual pleasure. The hormone oxytocin is released during orgasm, which may raise your feelings of happiness, affection, and contentment. ### **Learn about your body and what makes you reach orgasm** Remember how exciting it was the first time you explored your own body? If it’s been years since you felt joy and thrill like that, a vibrator. It can give you the confidence to tell your partner exactly how to please you, or you can please yourself in the bedroom with your new best friend. ### **Enhance the pleasure of solo play** Even if you’re single, a vibrator can take masturbation to the next level. It’s a fact that some women need a vibrator to orgasm, so it’s worth it to try if you have a difficult time reaching climax on your own. If you’ve never used a vibrator before, check out recommendations for beginners. There’s a wide range of vibrator types available on the market, so you’re sure to find something to love. ### **Improve your overall relationship** The positive effects of using a vibrator can spill over to other areas of your relationship. When you feed the hunger for pleasure and physical closeness, it can make your partner more loving and affectionate. Because let’s face it, a satisfied, happy person in the bedroom makes an amazing partner. ### **Better sex life with your partner** A vibrator can do wonders for your sex life. A couple of toys (or toys for him and her) intensify the pleasure and joy of sex for many people. If your sex life is lacklustre, or it’s been a while since you were happy in the bedroom with your man, sex toys might just re-ignite that spark and help improve your relationship. Start slow if both of you have never used them before. Try out different types and see what you like. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/9407be6b-d970-4d68-9029-fdee253f31fb_20240801_130156_0000-1066x800.jpg "9407be6b-d970-4d68-9029-fdee253f31fb_20240801_130156_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What type of vibrator do you like?** Purchasing a vibrator is all about you and your self-pleasure. It is not a one-size-fits-all purchase. Think about whether you get pleasure from stimulation on the G-spot, clitoris, both, or somewhere else. Do you enjoy the feeling inside, outside, hard, gentle .. or a mixture? Do you like the same sensation every time, or are you looking to widen your self-pleasure repertoire? 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For a more spread-out vaginal sensation and vibration, a little[Frigga Lay On Massager](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fclitoral-vibrators%2ffrigga-lay-on-massager%2f227428%2f226%2f) would be perfect. ### **Remote-controlled vibrator** Pleasure Chest’s vibrator collection features the Lovense Lush 3 Teledildonic Vibrator, a high-tech, app-controlled toy designed for long-distance and hands-free play. With customisable vibration patterns, a whisper-quiet motor, and Bluetooth connectivity, it’s a must-have for those seeking innovative pleasure. Stockist: [Vibrators](https://www.pleasurechest.com.au/collections/vibrators "Vibrators") ### **Clitoral vibrator** If you want a vibrator that stimulates the clitoris, the clitoral vibrator is specifically designed for that. They come in various shapes and sizes, from small and discreet to larger, more powerful models. These vibrators focus on giving intense and direct stimulation to the clitoris, so you’ll get fast and strong orgasms. ### **Suction vibrator** A suction vibrator is perfect if you enjoy oral sex. It uses air pressure to create a clitoral suction effect, mimicking the sensation of oral sex. These vibes often have multiple intensity settings, so get ready for an intense and highly pleasurable external stimulation. ## **Best vibrators for beginners** If you’re getting your first sex toy, choose a vibrator that’s easy to use. ### **Bullet vibrator** Bullet vibrators are small and discreet but versatile. They can be used for clitoral stimulation or to enhance other erogenous zones. Despite their size, bullet vibrators are very powerful. It’s our favourite portable option for on-the-go pleasure. ### **Wand vibrator (Best penetration)** Perhaps you travel a lot and like to keep your new friend close? If this is the case, no worries. Little doesn’t mean less with a vibrator. If you want to use your vibrator on the go, the super-handy[ Oh! Kiss Me Lipstick Vibrator](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d36187) can be popped into your handbag whenever needed! [![Buying a vibrator: Beginners guide to buying the perfect sex toy | Beanstalk Mums](https://d3f650ayx9w00n.cloudfront.net/940/66785-0.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d36187) Stockist:[ LoveHoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d36187) ## **Guide to buying a vibrator: FAQs** ### **What’s the difference between a vibrator and a dildo?** Well, it’s easy. A vibrator does just that, vibrates. Whereas a dildo doesn’t. A dildo is more phallic, designed for penetration and comes in a range of materials to enhance pleasure, including rubber and glass. If a dildo is more appealing, you could try a[ Basix Slim 7-inch suction Cup Dildo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fdildos%2fcoloured-phallic-dildos%2fbasix-slim-7-inch-suction-cup-dildo%2f20584%2f872%2f), but there are heaps of others on the market. Get the one that appeals to your senses … and your naughty side. [![Basix Slim 7 Inch Suction Cup Dildo | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://atmsc-cache-p.azureedge.net/19630_0.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fdildos%2fclassic-dildos%2fbasix-slim-7-inch-suction-cup-dildo%2f19630%2f515%2f) Stockist: [The Adult Toy Megastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fdildos%2fcoloured-phallic-dildos%2fbasix-slim-7-inch-suction-cup-dildo%2f20584%2f872%2f) ### **Is your vibrator a good fit for your lifestyle?** Strange question? Not at all! Being ladies and general over-sharers, we don’t bat an eyelid, but others may, and hey, being discreet is kinda classy. Plus, if you have kids, they have an uncanny way of coming across mummy’s toys at inopportune moments, so be prepared! If your vibrator is just for home, make sure you find it a nice hiding place or buy something to fool even the most insightful child. A completely non-phallic vibrator that can be left lying around willy-nilly (pardon the pun) is the [Lush 3 Bluetooth Vibrator by Lovense](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flove-eggs-jiggle-balls%2fvibrating-love-eggs%2fp%2flovense-lush-3-app-controlled-rechargeable-love-egg-vibrator%2fa39154g82398.html). We love how we can customise the vibration settings. It’s small and could even pass off as a hands-free earpiece if you need to do some fast thinking! Further reading:[ 14 Sex toys you can disguise if your kids discover them.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-sex-toys-you-can-disguise-if-your-kids-discover-them/) Also, consider the noise of your vibrator depending on where you live and when you intend to use it i.e. the quieter, the better. Not only that, a jackhammer sound is def not conducive to feeling sexy. Luckily, most vibrators are made from silicone, which muffles noise, but as a general guide, the more you pay, the more discrete they are sound-wise. We like this [Quiet Waterproof Clitoral Massager](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34852?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.femplay.com.au%2fsatisfyer-pro-2-rechargeable-waterproof-clitoral-vibrator.html). Further reading:[ 10 Extra quiet vibrators that won’t wake the household.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-extra-quiet-vibrators-that-wont-wake-the-household/) If your vibrator is not for you alone and you have a partner to use it with, a[ remote control vibrator](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34852?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.femplay.com.au%2fdual-rider-remote-control-thrust-and-grind.html) is a good option. It allows you to control the level of fun for your partner, even if you are not together! ### **How to clean your vibrator** To clean a vibrator, first, turn it off and remove any batteries. Use warm water and mild soap to wash it gently while removing all the lube. Rinse thoroughly and avoid any electrical parts. Dry with a clean towel. Store in a cool, dry place until you’re ready for some solo play. ![buying a vibrator](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/e55ae7a6-7930-4399-9c8f-279c02b89d62_20240801_130246_0000-1066x800.jpg "e55ae7a6-7930-4399-9c8f-279c02b89d62_20240801_130246_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Eco-friendly vibrators (yes, they exist!)** We can all agree that vibrators are good for your body, mental health, and relationships. However, many sex toys end up choking landfills, polluting oceans and adding to plastic waste. Some countries have strict rules about the disposal of sex toys and won’t accept used ones for recycling, so they end up in the garbage. In addition, certain chemicals in plastic sex toys can be harmful. An example is phthalates which can affect the reproductive system in animals. If you’re feeling a little guilty each time you add a new toy to your cart, there’s reason to celebrate. 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Enjoy your new sex toy! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Buying-a-vibrator-2.png "Buying a vibrator - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/buying-a-vibrator/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/buying-a-vibrator/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Shopping **Tags:** sex, vibrators, dildos, vibrators online, sex toys --- ### [5 Reasons behind the popularity of breast augmentation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breast-augmentation/) **Published:** February 4, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Breast Augmentation is an innovative breast surgery for women who lost volume in their breasts due to pregnancy, dramatic weight loss, or aging and are looking to increase the bust size and chest width. It is a type of procedure in which breast implants are used to add fullness and volume to the breast. The surgery is typically performed by a [plastic surgeon](https://drmarkkohout.com.au/) and can be done using silicone or saline implants. Saline implants are filled with sterile salt water, while silicone implants are pre-filled with silicone gel that closely mimics the feel of human fat. Your surgeon will help you decide on choosing size, shape, and fill options that meet your personal goals and what will work best with your body shape and size. The surgeon will make incisions in the dark skin around the nipples. Once the incision has been made, the surgeon places the implant either behind the breast tissue or the chest muscle. There may be bruising and tenderness after surgery, but recovery time is normally a couple of weeks. Keep reading to understand the secrets behind why breast augmentation is so popular ### Table of Contents - Regain Self-Confidence - Delivers Long Lasting Results - Breast Augmentation Can Correct Asymmetry - Breast Augmentation Can Help to Reduce the Effects of Aging - Restore or Improve Your Pre-Baby Curves - Get Post-Mastectomy Breasts - Conclusion ## Regain Self-Confidence Breasts that are too small or not shaped correctly can affect your self-confidence and make you feel self-conscious. Poor confidence has also been linked to poor health and improving self-esteem can help you a better sense of self and more happiness in life resulting in a healthier you overall. The reason why [breast augmentation](https://drmarkkohout.com.au/procedures/breast/breast-implants-and-enlargements-sydney/) is popular is that it regains confidence while improving body image and self-esteem for both men and women. 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Breast augmentation is a cosmetic procedure that ensures you will increase breast size and enhance breast shape using silicone implants, and saline implants while improving the contour and appearance of the breasts. ***Further reading: 15 Ways to stay looking young without knives or needles.*** ![Breast augmentation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Breast-augmentation-1.png "Breast augmentation - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breast-augmentation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breast-augmentation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Everything you need to know about liposuction surgery](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/liposuction-surgery/) **Published:** March 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If diet and exercise are not giving you the body you want, it might be time to consider liposuction surgery. With liposuction, a cosmetic surgeon makes incisions in your body and removes targeted pockets of fat. Many think liposuction is about losing weight, but that is not always true. Liposuction is ideal for women at or near their ideal weight but have trouble getting rid of stubborn fat sections on their bodies. This guide explores what you can expect during and after the procedure so you can decide whether this surgery is right for you. *Please note: We have referred to the surgeon in this article as a ‘he’ but recognise that either a male or female surgeon may perform the surgery.* ***Further reading: 15 Ways to stay looking younger without needles or knives.*** ## Is Liposuction surgery Right for You? Before you take the plunge and get your [liposuction procedure](https://www.robertgoldman.com.au/vaser-liposuction/), it is essential to understand what liposuction is and whether it is right for you. Taking some time to review the process upfront makes your life that much easier. 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Combine liposuction with breast augmentation to take your appearance to the next level. Liposuction compliments and enhances the appearance of your breasts after the augmentation. In addition to breast augmentation, some women get breast lifts after liposuction. A tummy tuck could be right for you if you are still not happy with the look of your body. Ensure you keep your needs and goals in mind from when you begin to after you finish healing. You improve your results by putting a little thought into the path you select. ## Final Thoughts The decision to undergo liposuction is a personal one that requires education and careful consideration. Be sure to consult a qualified, highly-experienced plastic surgeon who can evaluate your medical history, current health status, and aesthetic goals to determine whether liposuction is the right choice. By taking the time to research, ask questions, and make an informed decision, you can achieve the best possible outcome and enjoy the benefits of a more sculpted and toned physique. While liposuction surgery can help improve body contours and remove stubborn fat, it is not a substitute for a healthy diet and regular exercise. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/liposuction-surgery/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/liposuction-surgery/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** liposuction, plastic surgery --- ### [Getting your sexy back as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/getting-sexy-back-single-mum/) **Published:** May 4, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Feeling sexy as a single mum is not always easy. There’s sleep deprivation, dirty nappies and the morning school rush hour in your uggies. This is probably not what Justin Timberlake had in mind when he had us “bring sexy back…Yeah.” But, you are a sexy single mum and here are a few things you can do to show it. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-banner-320x100-2-1200x148.jpg "ecourse banner 320x100 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ***Further reading: [It’s been so long since the last time. Is it all still working down there?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/its-been-so-long-since-the-last-time-is-it-all-still-working-down-there/)*** ## Getting your sexy back as a single mum ### Buy a new sexy single mum outfit You really don’t have to feel guilty about buying a new outfit for yourself. For most of us, our bodies have changed after having kids and your clothing and style has probably evolved to account for this. I know that if I had to try to squeeze myself into my ‘sexy’ stomach revealing clothes from pre-pregnancy days it would dramatically reduce my self confidence. Instead, I have learnt to work my new curves. Feeling sexy as a single mum starts with how you dress. You know which parts of your body to accentuate and what makes you feel good. So, if it has been a while since you’ve treated yourself to an outfit, now is the time to [update your mum wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-to-refresh-your-mum-wardrobe/). A dress, skinny jeans or flattering top. Find your style and go for it … don’t forget the shoes! ### And, new underwear too… It really doesn’t matter if anyone else is going to see it or not. Every woman needs some pretty lingerie in her drawer. Something beautiful close to your skin is going to contribute to you feeling sexy as a single mum. Special undergarments don’t have to be just for special occasions. This time, instead of going for comfort – choose something which makes you feel sexy. Don’t forget getting great looking [swimwear perfect for your body shape](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/swimwear-for-your-body-type/) so you feel good by the pool and on the beach. ### A little pampering goes a long way Foam yourself up in a lather of fake tanning mousse, paint those nails and get your eyebrows threaded to perfection. If you’re time poor, sometimes just a dash of ruby red lipstick and black as black mascara is all it takes to make you feel sexy again. You see it in the movies after a break up, the woman always comes back looking revived with a new hairdo and a killer manicure. First stop is a change at the hairdresser, last stop you’ll be singing “I’m sexy and I know it” and fluttering your eyelashes. ### Exercise for mind, body and soul Feeling sexy as a single mum can be as simple as a regular bout of exercise. Sweat it out, pump it up and get those endorphins flowing. Exercise makes you look and feel better and increases your confidence. A boxing class will tone you up while allowing you to vent your frustrations towards an inanimate object. Yoga will stretch and lengthen your muscles and increase your flexibility. Or, try running with a friend and get those calves high heel ready. ***Further reading: 12 Online fitness classes you can do in your undies.*** ## Getting your sexy back as a single mum (cont.) ### Have a girls night out A girls night out will give you a chance to let your hair down, and show the boys you are a sexy single mum [(sex gets better as you get older](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sex-over-40-just-gets-better-and-better-heres-why/) btw!). Funnily enough, I have had 19 year olds asking for my number on more than one occasion. To which I have replied ‘I am very flattered, but you don’t look much older than my son. He’s 8. Perhaps I can adopt you instead’. But, it isn’t just about the men and whether or not you score. This is about allowing yourself to be a person outside of being a mother. At least every now and then. Dance the night away and enjoy yourself. Wine in hand. ### The most important thing for getting your sexy back as a single mum is … [Feeling sexy as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sexy-fun-single-mum/) is all about confidence. It is about embracing your strengths and accentuating your features. It’s about not caring about what other people think. It doesn’t matter what is on the outside, but about how you feel on the inside. If these tips don’t work, pop on a hat, strut your stuff while blasting some “I’m Too Sexy” on repeat until you believe it. Am I showing my age? ![Sexy back single mum | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Get-your-sexy-back-1.png "Get your sexy back - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/getting-sexy-back-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/getting-sexy-back-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Sex **Tags:** confidence, feeling sexy, sexy lingerie, feeling good, pampering, girls night out --- ### [The beginners guide on how to date as a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/) **Published:** August 31, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you thinking about dating again? Being a single parent is all-consuming, and your children are firmly your top priority. Yet at some point, it’s natural to find yourself wondering if maybe, just maybe, it’s worth giving dating another whirl. The question is: How do I date as a single parent? Well, the principles are the same, but life is very different now. You’ve ‘been there and done that’. Your past experiences have made you what you are today and will affect the decisions you make about your future. It’s no longer all about you. You have little people in your world who feature in everything you say, think and do. Yep, dating with kids is a whole new ball game. However, just because you’re a single mum doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun. And looking for a partner is perfectly natural. If you’re over the play dates and ready for some real dates, keep on reading for a simple guide on how to date as a single parent. ***Further reading: 8 Dating books to help you date like a pro.*** ## HOW TO DATE AS A SINGLE PARENT ### TIMING IS EVERYTHING Is now the right time for you to start dating? Only you will know. It’s important to make sure you’re over your ex and you feel good about yourself. You may think a new partner can help you with these things, but you need to do them yourself. Once you are [content with your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/), you are ready to let a new person in. On the same token, don’t leave it too long. It could knock your confidence and make it harder to re-enter the realms of the dating world. Remember, with new phenomena such as [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/), you need to be strong enough to take the good with the bad when you start dating again. ### DO YOU HAVE THE TIME? Dating can be addictive and time-consuming. Before you get started, consider whether you have time for it in your busy life. If not, either make some changes in your life to [free up some time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/) or wait until you are less hectic. The last thing you need is to add pressure to your life, causing you or your children to suffer. Dating should be a fun, positive addition to your world. If it’s not, then something’s wrong. ### THE ONLINE OPTIONS TO DATE AS A SINGLE PARENT ![dating apps casual fling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/dating-apps-casual-fling.jpg "dating apps casual fling - Beanstalk Mums") Cringe, cringe. If you’re old-school like me, the thought of promoting yourself online can be enough to put you off altogether. But if you’re hoping to meet Mr Right in a swanky bar when you never go to swanky bars, you’ll be waiting a long time. There are heaps of online dating sites. Some are free, such as [Tinder](https://www.gotinder.com/), whereas others, such as [eHarmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g), charge a fee (which is generally worth it). This is also one of the top cougar dating apps out there right now. If you’re interested in dating a younger guy, this can be a great way to find them. You just need to be a bit broader with your age preferences on your profile, and you can make it happen. Dating younger guys isn’t for everyone, but it’s growing in popularity and general acceptance. More and more confident women are meeting and dating younger men. It’s pretty common to see older men date younger women, so why not give the reverse a shot? Using a dating app not only allows you to meet loads of potential partners that you wouldn’t have met otherwise, but you can also get to know them better before you commit your valuable time to meeting them. There is plenty of advice online about writing your online profile and what to be wary of … so do your research first. ***Further reading: [15 Most popular dating apps in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-apps-australia-2021/)*** ### BE UPFRONT BUT NOT AN OPEN BOOK ![Dating single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Dating-single-mum.png "Dating single mum - Beanstalk Mums") You need to tell your date about any important factors in your life, including that you have children. They are not ‘baggage’ as some people infuriatingly refer to them. They are part of the wonderful package that is you. But just names and ages are fine to start. No need to regale all the details, such as childcare arrangements and their father. It’s just not the kind of stuff a possible partner will want to hear straight away. Save the details for later if your relationship becomes more serious. ## DATE AS A SINGLE PARENT: MORE TIPS ### PARENT FIRST, PARTNER SECOND Remember, when you date as a single parent, it’s not going to be the same as when you were 18. Take time to consider how it will fit into your current world. You can’t swan off when you like or spend hours chatting on the phone when you should be helping your kids with their homework. Meeting someone you really like is a heady sensation. Don’t jump in headfirst and then get frustrated that your home commitments are holding you back. Keep your priorities foremost in your mind. ***Further reading: [What nobody tells you about dating with kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-with-kids/)*** ### MAKE YOUR EXPECTATIONS CLEAR ![Take single mum on a date](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Take-single-mum-on-a-date.png "Take single mum on a date - Beanstalk Mums") It’s important to work out what you want to get from your return to the dating scene. Are you looking for a life partner? Or just friendship and fun? Once it’s clear in your mind, you can tell your date. He will appreciate you being up-front and honest. Not to say it will always end up the way you plan. You might be looking for a fling and end up with Mr To Death Do Us Part. Clear expectations are a good start if you’re looking to date as a single parent. ### GET PROTECTED I know, I know. You might even be having ‘the talk’ with your older children. Just because you are older and may not want more children, it doesn’t mean your body is aware of the plan. And yes, we are just as susceptible to all the scary STIs that we shudder about for our kids. If you decide to take the relationship to the next level, go for it, but get up-to-date with contraceptives and find the right one for you. ***Further reading: [Which contraception is right for me?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/which-contraception-is-right-for-me/)*** ### WHEN AND WHAT TO TELL THE KIDS All children are different, so when you tell yours about your new partner is entirely your call. [RSVP](https://www.rsvp.com.au/) recommends: > “You need to go out with them for some time and know that this is real and has long-term potential before they get an introduction to your kids.” Your children don’t need to be party to your disastrous dates (and there will probably be a few). Keep in mind that you are your child’s role model. How you behave now could have an effect on the way they date later in life. ***Further reading: [The lowdown on introducing your new man to your kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-lowdown-on-introducing-your-new-man-to-your-kids/)*** ## FINAL TIPS ON HOW TO DATE AS A SINGLE PARENT ### ADULT SLEEPOVERS WHEN YOU DATE AS A SINGLE PARENT As your relationship progresses, you will naturally consider the possibility of your partner staying the night at your house. Consider how your children will react if your partner stays over. Will they feel comfortable? They may feel confused or even demoted. Be careful, as they won’t always tell you, especially if they feel it could burst your happiness bubble. ### THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER Even though you’re single, because of your children, your ex-partner may still be very much part of your life. And vice versa with your potential partner. Jealousy has no place in potential new relationships. Anything that puts a strain on the rapport you have with your children’s dad is a no-no. It will make your life harder, but your children’s infinitely more so. Maturity and acceptance are required to navigate the complications of mixed families. ***Further reading: [Blended families and why they are beautiful.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/blended-families-beautiful/)*** ### SAFETY FIRST You won’t be as footloose and fancy-free as your first time around the dating scene. Safety and privacy are high priorities to protect yourself and your family. Don’t share information too quickly. Especially about your kids. Online pictures of them are a definite no-no. Always arrange the first meeting in a public, ideally busy, place. And don’t give your address or issue an invite to your home unless you feel really comfortable. ***Further reading: [Tried and tested tactics to date safely online.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/)*** ![The beginners guide on how to date as a single parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-beginners-guide-to-dating.png "The beginners guide to dating - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** relationships, online dating, first date, finding love --- ### [Simple Time Saving Cleaning Tips for Your Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/) **Published:** February 19, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As someone who loves a tidy home but hates spending all my free time cleaning it, I’ve become quite the expert at finding time saving cleaning tips. After all, who wants to spend their precious hours scrubbing and dusting when we could binge-watch our favourite shows or try out a new recipe? So, in the spirit of maximising our leisure time, I’ve compiled a list of my favourite cleaning hacks that will have your home looking spick and span in no time. ## Time-saving cleaning tricks to clean your home fast ### 1. CREATE A CLEANING SCHEDULE It sounds very clinical, but creating a cleaning schedule can help to ensure that all your household chores are completed when they need to be done. For example, according to science, you are meant to change your bedding at least once every two weeks. Why not have a schedule for the whole family so you get some help and your little ones learn about the importance of teamwork? ### 2. DECLUTTER YOUR HOUSE Simply put, the fewer things you have, the less stuff you have to clean. So, if you have a load of books that are just sitting gathering dust, make sure you take them to your nearest charity shop. They get a new home, and you don’t have to dust as much. Win-win! ### 3. USE MICROFIBRE CLOTHS Speaking of dusting, make sure you are using microfibre cloths; these will save you time and help you clean faster. Alternatively, you can use something that is 100% cotton, such as a pillowcase or a t-shirt. ### 4. HAVE A CATCH-ALL BASKET If you’re like me, having all the clutter in one giant pile is better than having it scattered all around. That’s why having a catch-all bin as you clean is such a great idea. Toss all “found” items you run across into a lightweight basket you carry and put them back in their proper place as you go from room to room. Also, you can leave a basket or bin in rooms with high foot traffic, like the living room or kitchen, where anyone can leave their things. Then, after every few days, you can sort through the baskets and return them to their rightful place. This way, everyone knows where they would most likely find stuff. It just got easier for you to keep the house spic-and-span, and the kids spend less time bugging you with, “Mum, have you seen my…?” ### 5. BUY THE RIGHT ECO PRODUCTS Some eco-friendly cleaning products may seem expensive at first, but they offer long-term benefits that make them worth it. Not only do they save you time, but they also reduce your exposure to harsh chemicals, creating a safer home for you and your family. Plus, choosing eco-friendly options helps protect the environment without compromising on effectiveness. Wouldn’t you rather clean the oven in just 5 minutes with a natural, non-toxic cleaner instead of spending hours scrubbing with harsh chemicals? I recommend [checking out Ecostore](https://ecostore.com/en-au), a well-known New Zealand brand that specialises in environmentally friendly and sustainable household products. ![Eco cleaning products - Beanstalk mums time saving cleaning tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Eco-cleaning.jpg "Eco cleaning products - Beanstalk Mums") ### 6. STOCK UP ON BAKING SODA AND VINEGAR These kitchen staples don’t just make for a classic science class demo. They also have heaps of uses, together or on their own. Baking soda can be used to remove stains from stuffed animals, your couch, your cushions, your laundry, and even your sneakers, among others. On the other hand, vinegar can be used to get rid of water spots, clean blinds, polish glass, clean electronic appliances, and more. Together, baking soda and vinegar can unclog drains and clean burnt pans. Having these cheap kitchen ingredients on hand will save you time and money in the long run. As an add-on, keep a record of when to use it for a faster reference. ### 7. SAVE MONEY AND THE PLANET Always buying new sponges can feel like you are not being environmentally friendly and like you are spending unnecessary money. A quick way to clean them is by putting them in the microwave on a high setting for a minute or two. This will get rid of any nasty bacteria, and you can use them again. ### 8. GET A LINT ROLLER This can easily be your new favourite contraption. Cheap lint rollers don’t just remove annoying fuzzy fluff clinging to your dark clothes. Some of the big things this little gadget does are collect pet hair from the couch, pick up tiny glass shards or glitter, dust off fabric lamp shades, and clean drapes. Grab one from the hardware and start rolling! ### 9. REUSE YOUR OLD TOOTHBRUSHES Another great way you can be more mindful of waste is by reusing your toothbrushes. Toothbrushes are great at getting the dirt out of hard-to-reach places, especially in the bathroom. ### 10. SOAK IT Whether it’s the toilet, the bathroom floor, or the bathtub, soaking it with cleaner breaks down the buildup and makes the gunk easier to scrub or wash down. Let the chemicals do their job while you do other things. You can even leave the cleaning overnight. Before going to bed, douse the scummy areas you wish to clean with the cleaner. Then, you can resume cleaning when you wake up the following day. To keep everyone safe, ensure no one uses it at night, so it will be best if you do one bathroom at a time. ### 11. DON’T FORGET THE SHOWERHEAD Whilst we are talking about cleaning in the bathroom, don’t forget to clean the shower head. Shower heads can gather built-up residue and grime. A simple fix can be tying a bag of vinegar around it and leaving it to dissolve. Then, you need to rinse the shower head, and it should be much cleaner. If you’re looking to upgrade your bathroom with fixtures that require less cleaning, [sleek TOTO Neorest toilets from Premier Bidets](https://premierbidets.com/collections/toto-neorest-toilets) feature self-cleaning technology that makes bathroom maintenance much easier. ![Cleaning robot - beanstalk mums time saving cleaning tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Cleaning-robot.jpg "Cleaning robot - Beanstalk Mums") ### 12. INVEST IN A CLEANING ROBOT Nothing’s better than having a helping hand around the house. So, while we’re at it, why not one that won’t complain about the chores? If you have funds to spare, let AI do the cleaning for you. Depending on your budget, you can now get a robot lawn mower, pool cleaning, window cleaner, vacuum, or mop to do the tasks you find the most difficult or time-consuming. Cleaning robots can cost heaps of money. But with the time you save doing things you love more, it will be worth it! ### 13. GET ORGANISERS FOR YOUR FRIDGE You’ve surely lusted over those immaculate-looking fridges on Instagram and Pinterest. Who hasn’t? Do yourself a favour and get stackable storage boxes to make wise use of vertical space. Grab some uniform plastic baskets or acrylic boxes to keep things looking pristine. This will take your fridge game to a whole other level. Also, don’t forget to stick a list of what’s inside, including the use-by date, to save yourself from spoilage and unnecessary food waste. ### 14. LEAVE YOUR SHOES OUTSIDE If you’re still not banning outdoor footwear from the house, this is your sign. Doing so will save you heaps of time and effort from scrubbing dried shoe prints and vacuuming your carpets. Leaving shoes outside the door is common worldwide, including among our Kiwi neighbours. This is to maintain cleanliness in houses, schools, offices, and places of worship. You can offer your guests disposable hotel slippers or cheap slide slippers. Meanwhile, you and your kids can wear anti-skid socks indoors: you’ll see your floors polished in no time! ### 15. PRACTICE CLAYGO AT HOME The best helping hands are those of the people you share your home with. Training your household to clean up after themselves could sound like a shot in the dark. But once it becomes part of their lifestyle, they will take this concept of responsibility everywhere they go. Clean as you go, or CLAYGO, is cleaning up your mess before leaving. Throwing your trash, clearing the table after eating, and wiping the floor dry after you shower are just some of the simple things everyone can do to contribute to a clean home. Remember that changing bad habits takes time. So, when introducing CLAYGO to your household, expect a bit (or heaps) of resistance. But with consistency and patience, cleaning after themselves will eventually become automatic. ## CONCLUSION: Time saving cleaning tricks for your home No matter who you are, where you live, or what you enjoy doing, there’s no denying that having a clean apartment or house always feels better. Sometimes, we are inspired to do some cleaning, such as in spring when many people like to do a spring clean. Other times you have to clean, for example, if your family are coming round or if you are having a [rental property inspection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/). Cleaning doesn’t have to feel like a chore; just follow our top tips and tricks to help save you time and effort. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** cleaning, household cleaning, housework --- ### [Get All the Info: Understanding eSIM Technology Today](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/esims-a-busy-mums-tech-guide/) **Published:** April 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Let’s talk about those clever little life-hacks that actually make a difference. We’re all about finding ways to stay connected, keeping the household humming, and making sure we have more time for the things that actually matter. There’s a brilliant bit of tech called an eSIM that’s making waves lately, and honestly, it’s a total win for any savvy woman who wants one less physical thing to keep track of. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking there has to be an easier way to manage your phone plan—especially when you’re busy or planning a well-deserved getaway—you’re going to love this. It’s about making life a little more seamless, and who doesn’t want that? ## So, what actually is an eSIM? Think of it as the digital evolution of the SIM card. You know that tiny, fiddly bit of plastic you usually have to poke out of your phone with a paperclip? The one that’s so small it practically begs to be dropped and lost forever in the carpet? Well, the “e” in eSIM stands for embedded. Instead of being a removable card, the SIM technology is already built right into your phone’s hardware. It’s a tiny chip that does everything a traditional SIM does, but without the physical baggage. It’s essentially “software-based” connectivity. Just like we moved from carrying around bulky CDs to streaming music on our phones, we’re now moving from physical plastic cards to digital profiles. It’s sleek, it’s modern, and it’s one less thing to worry about losing. ## Why it’s a Total Win for the Modern Mum We’re usually the ones who keep the wheels turning, right? Whether it’s organising the [school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/savvy-back-to-school-budget-ways-to-save-big/) calendar, coordinating with friends, or just staying in touch with family across the country, our phones are our lifelines. Here’s why switching to an eSIM is a bit of a masterstroke: ### 1. No More Fumbling with Tiny Plastic Let’s be real: trying to swap a SIM card while you’re out and about is a recipe for disaster. With an eSIM, there is no physical card. You don’t need a SIM tool, you don’t need a paperclip, and you certainly don’t need to worry about dropping a tiny piece of plastic. Everything is handled digitally through your phone’s settings. ### 2. Travel Becomes a Breeze ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-am83-36789720-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-am83-36789720 - Beanstalk Mums") If you’re planning a holiday—maybe a cheeky trip to Bali, a visit to family in the UK, or just a quick hop over to New Zealand—an eSIM is your new best friend. In the old days, you’d land at the airport, find a kiosk, wait in line, and swap your SIM card (and hope you didn’t lose your Aussie one in the process). With an eSIM, you can jump onto a site like Holafly, pick your destination, and have your data plan ready to go before you even board the plane. The second you touch down and turn off flight mode, you’re connected. You can message the family to say you’ve arrived safely or pull up your maps to find your accommodation without a second of stress. ### 3. One Phone, Two Numbers This is a game-changer for many of us. Because an eSIM lives digitally alongside your physical SIM slot (in most modern phones), you can actually have two active numbers on the one device. - You could have your personal number for friends and family. - You could have a second “school and admin” number, or maybe a number for a side hustle or business. It’s a fantastic way to keep your life organised without having to carry around two separate handsets. ### 4. Better, Tougher Devices Because phone manufacturers don’t have to leave a giant hole in the side of the phone for a SIM tray, they can make devices that are much better at keeping out the elements. We’re talking better water resistance and dust protection. If your phone ends up near a spilled juice box or a splash at the beach, that extra bit of “seal” can make all the difference. ## How Does the Magic Actually Work? It sounds very “high-tech,” but the process is actually quite straightforward. The core idea is the **virtualisation** of the authentication process. Instead of the phone reading data off a chip on a piece of plastic, it downloads a “digital profile” from your chosen carrier. 1. **Choose your plan:** You pick a provider and a data package that suits your budget. 2. **Scan or Enter:** Usually, you’ll get a QR code. You just head into your phone’s settings, tap “Add Data Plan,” and scan the code. 3. **Activate:** Your phone talks to the network, downloads the profile, and you’re done. These digital profiles are stored securely in a dedicated component within your device called the eSIM chip. You can store multiple profiles on one chip, though you usually only use one or two at a time. It’s all about flexibility. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-volodymyr-felbaba-1860196-19023239-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-volodymyr-felbaba-1860196-19023239 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Keeping it Real: A Few Things to Know While we love a good tech upgrade, it’s always good to have the full picture. - **Device Compatibility:** Not every phone has eSIM tech just yet. Most iPhones from the XR/XS onwards have it, as do many newer Samsung and Google Pixel models. It’s always worth a quick Google search of your model to see if you’re “eSIM ready.” - **Carrier Support:** Most of the big Aussie telcos are on board, but some of the smaller, budget providers might still be catching up. - **The Learning Curve:** Moving away from what we know (the physical card) can feel a bit strange at first. But once you’ve done it once, you’ll wonder why we ever bothered with the plastic bits in the first place! ## The Big Picture: Why the Industry is Changing The shift to eSIM isn’t just a fad; it’s the future of how we all stay connected. For the tech industry, it’s about efficiency. It allows for “Internet of Things” (IoT) devices—like smartwatches—to stay connected without needing a bulky SIM slot. For us, it means a more competitive market. When it’s easier to switch providers, the providers have to work harder to keep us happy with better deals and better service. ## Where Holafly Comes In If you’re looking to dip your toes into the world of eSIMs, especially for travel, the legends at Holafly are a fantastic place to start. They’ve made it their mission to demystify the whole process. They offer heaps of info and support to help you understand exactly how it works for your specific device. They’re big advocates for this digital revolution because they’ve seen how much it simplifies life for travellers and busy people everywhere. By providing clear guidance and easy-to-use plans, they’re making sure that everyone—not just the tech-heads—can enjoy the benefits of staying connected effortlessly. You can check out their range of plans and [get all the info](https://esim.holafly.com/) you need right here: ### Wrapping Up At the end of the day, understanding eSIM technology is just about staying informed in a fast-moving world. It’s a practical innovation that offers real-world benefits: convenience, better device protection, and the freedom to choose what works for your family and your budget. Life is busy enough as it is, so any time we can use technology to shave off a bit of stress or save a bit of time, it’s a win. Whether you’re heading overseas or just looking to streamline your daily setup, the eSIM is definitely worth a look. Have you thought about making the switch, or are you sticking with your physical SIM for now? Either way, it’s great to know the options are there when you’re ready to embrace the change! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/esims-a-busy-mums-tech-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/esims-a-busy-mums-tech-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How to do pocket money for your kids the right way](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/) **Published:** January 7, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you a pocket money kinda mum, or not? Most parents give their children pocket money at some stage. But there are definitely strong feelings amongst the masses as to when to give pocket money, how much to give and whether or not your children should do chores for their pocket money. Basically, it’s all about you as a family. About what you believe in, the way you want to raise your children, and your own personal situation, around time and money. Whether you’re already $$$ into the pocket money thing, or you’re thinking about giving your child pocket money, but are not sure how to structure it, here are some tips to help you along the way. ## WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT POCKET MONEY ### At what age should I start giving my kids pocket money? You can start giving your child a pocket as early as you like. A good time is when they develop an understanding of how we need money to buy and do the things we want. This is something you can teach in early play and everyday life. It also helps if they understand the concept of saving, even if it’s just to the point of ‘if you spend it all today, there will be nothing left tomorrow’. With many children, this is around the age of five, but consider your own child’s needs, personality and sibling influences. ### How much pocket money should I give? The big question! How much pocket money you dole out depends on your own financial circumstances, i.e. how much you have to give!? It also depends on the age of your children and whether they do chores for their pocket money, and if they do, then what chores? Also, what do you expect them to use their pocket money for? It may be that you pay for everything for them, so it is just extra spending (or saving) money. If they are older, you might give them more, but expect them to buy their own clothes, etc. ### Should my kids do household chores to get pocket money? Now this is a tricky one! And there is no right or wrong. Many parents want their children to work for their money, as it may instil a better work ethic later in life. Others believe the children should help with chores around the house regardless of money. Either way, money is a motivator, so if you want something done, adding a dollar sum to it may help! [The Barefoot Investor](https://amzn.to/2JAlSQR) (Scott Pape) recommends three [age appropriate household jobs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/) per week over and above helping the family with general chores. Another way is to give pocket money based on school grades and performance. Choose what works best for your family and your children. [![Chore chart for pocket money | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Screen-Shot-2019-05-13-at-12.59.52-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-05-13 at 12.59.52 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.etsy.com/au/) Stockist: [Stone Creek Wall Decals](https://www.etsy.com/au/) ### When should I give out pocket money? Try to stick to a regular time to make your payout. The beginning of the weekend can be a good time, so they have money to spend when at the shops with you or out with friends. If they need help saving, you might like to leave it longer between payouts, say two weeks or even a month. It’s good for children to know when they will get their pocket money, as they can plan what they will do with it, or even try to increase it with extra chores around the home. ### Should I encourage my children to save their pocket money? If you give your child pocket money, you may also like to advise them on what to do with it. This is a great time to [teach your children about money.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-teach-your-children-about-money/) Never is money so valuable to them as when it’s theirs! Again, you can get some great tips from [The Barefoot Investor for Families](https://amzn.to/2JAlSQR) by Scott Pape. He recommends three simple jam jars labelled Smile, Splurge and Give. The brilliant peeps at [MoneySmart](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/families/teaching-kids-about-money/giving-kids-pocket-money) recommend the same, so it’s a great starting point and teaches the importance of saving, spending and giving. Allowing children choices with their money is important so they can make their own mistakes and learn from them before the stakes are higher. [![Kids pocket money smile splurge give jars | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/10306926-3x2-700x467.jpg "10306926-3x2-700x467 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://amzn.to/2JfjCiJ) Idea from: [The Barefoot Investor for Families by Scott Pape](https://amzn.to/2JfjCiJ) ### Should I give pocket money in cash or on a card? Money experts tend to push that pocket money should be in cash, as kids learn visually. While this is important, the world is veering more towards card payments, so teaching kids about cash and cards is a valuable lesson. There is nothing like the delight of being handed shiny coins or fresh banknotes. But there are some great apps for electronic money, which are just as exciting. ### How to stop arguments about pocket money? Money is a powerful tool, and you may find yourself using it to bribe your kids more than you’d like. Taking pocket money away or lowering it may teach your child a lesson, but it could start an argument. To keep the peace around pocket money, have strict rules about how it works in your house, and stick to them so everyone knows where they stand. Write them down and put them somewhere they can be seen and referred to if needed. Tell your child when and why pocket money will be given or withdrawn, and don’t give in if they argue against it. For older children, allow them input in the pocket money process; this way, they will be more understanding when you have to enforce the rules. ### What if my child is not interested in pocket money? We always say money motivates, but not for all. If your child has not yet grasped that money makes the world go round, then you may need to incentivise them. Maybe pull back on treating them with your own money and encourage them to earn treats. Talk about what they might like to buy, how much it is and how long they would need to save for it. Use a reward chart to track their savings and make a big hoo-haa when they reach their savings goal. ![Reward chart for pocket money | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Screen-Shot-2019-05-13-at-12.54.57-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-05-13 at 12.54.57 pm - Beanstalk Mums") Stockist: Etsy ### What are some other ways my kids can earn pocket money? If your children have ravaged the bank of mum and there’s nothing left to give, they can find other ways to make pocket money. How about: - Selling unwanted toys - Walking the neighbour’s dog - Offering to do chores for other family members - Babysitting younger siblings or the children of family friends - Baking cakes to sell or have a lemonade stand - Sell old toys on eBay ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/pocket-money-for-kids.png "pocket money for kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Money **Tags:** saving, pocket money, kids money, household chores, barefoot investor, spriggy --- ### [Single parent holidays: 6 easy ideas to your best getaway](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/single-parent-holidays-6-easy-ideas-to-getaway-2024/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** If you are a solo parent you can be forgiven for thinking that going on a trip is more trouble than it’s worth. But please don’t. Us single parents deserve a decent vacation more than most. Not only that, single parent holidays can be cheap, easy and lots of fun. I am a single mum, blogger, ex travel agent, and seasoned traveller! It doesn’t matter how hard a family vacation might seem, I always find a way. It doesn’t matter if we’re on business class or coach, my girls and I still manage to get away and make memories together. It might seem like a big ask but luckily there is lots of choice so you’re bound to find something that works. Here are my single parent travel tips to inspire the best holiday with your kids. ## Tips to the Best Family Trip as a Single Parent Planning the perfect getaway while single parenting doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Here are a few tricks to make it smooth, affordable, and relaxing. 1. **Choose a Trip Within Your Budget:** Find a place that won’t break the bank, even if it’s nearby. Local spots can be just as exciting without adding financial stress. 2. **Keep Logistics Simple:** Look for places with direct flights or straightforward connections. You want an itinerary that’s easy to both get to the airport and fly back home. 3. **Minimise Planning Time:** Spend a little time planning upfront so you can actually relax on the trip. Well-planned doesn’t mean complicated! 4. **Accommodate Special Needs:** Make sure the location caters to any family needs, whether it’s dietary requirements, accessibility, or age-friendly activities. 5. **Comply with Requirements:** For custody arrangements, you may need to check for any restrictions to keep everything on track with your child’s other parent. 6. **Prioritise Your Own Rest:** Look for trips that give you a chance to relax, even for just a couple of hours in the spa or gym! A holiday where you’re constantly on the go isn’t ideal if it leaves you exhausted. Taking a little time to plan ensures a vacation that’s memorable, affordable, and truly enjoyable. ## Package Holidays ![Package Holidays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/In-article-image-8.png "Beanstalk mums blog articles for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums")The good old package getaway still exists and is a really nice when travelling as a single parent as everything is organised for you. This includes transport, accommodation and transfers, but in some cases food and tours too. Some will even give you fab rewards. Sometimes, airlines and hotels offer these packages already. Package bookings usually offer competitive prices as the travel agent gets a better rate than you if you booked flight and accommodation separately. I always do a calculation to ensure I’m not being massively ripped off and paying heaps more than I would if I booked directly. Remember, the package trip might have a slight premium because you pay for the convenience of having the work done for you. But most of the time, you get to save money. Bali really is the perfect package getaway destination for Australian families. Not only does it tick all the boxes such as great beaches, beautiful resorts and lots of activities, but [Bali is great for the little ones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bali-great-for-kids/) too. The main advantage of a package tour is that you don’t have to do the logistical hard work yourself. You can rest assured that everything will be organised correctly to get from your home to your resort and back again. You don’t have to physically see an agent one-on-one to pick a package family holiday. The best deals are found online at the big websites and apps such as: - [Trafalgar Tours](https://www.trafalgar.com/en-sg) - [Wendy Wu Tours](https://www.wendywutours.com) - [Cudo](https://cudo.com.au/au/hotels) - [Go City](https://gocity.com/en/sydney) - [Scoopon](https://scoopon.com.au/au/hotels) My favourite locations for easy package tours from Australia are Bali, New Zealand, Fiji and Singapore. They all have direct flights, reasonable travel times, manageable time differences and great places to explore with the kids. ## Island Getaways Nothing screams “holiday” like an island getaway. For us Aussies, we have lots of islands that are perfect for a travelling single mum and her kids. One of our best family vacations was on Daydream Island (part of the Whitsunday Islands) before it was devastated by the cyclone. Since then, it has been revamped and reopened. It is small enough to feel like you are on an island, but large enough to have all the amenities you need for a great trip with your kids. If you’re looking to explore more of the Whitsundays, a [New Horizon sailing charter](https://truebluesailing.com.au/new-horizon-overnight-tour/ "New Horizon sailing charter") is a fantastic option for families wanting both adventure and comfort. Other great islands to stay on with your kids are: - [Kangaroo Island](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/%5Bp_id:1100l444513%5D/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2FPenneshaw-Hotels-Kangaroo-Island-Seafront-Holiday-Park.h71392361.Hotel-Information%3Fsemcid%3DAU.UB.GOOGLE.PT-DSA-c-EN.VR%26semdtl%3Da113551949380.b1125413614604.g1aud-1665158934460%3Adsa-1243122942421.l1.e1c.m1Cj0KCQjwnvOaBhDTARIsAJf8eVNJXZaEM82lNdeOOde_JgJi_a-uZ4ZzqHdTtauV5r9N6KVSQYN-Rl8aAggeEALw_wcB.r1.c1.j19069272.k1.d1528212403102.h1.i150540471351.n1.o1.p1.q1.s1.t1.x1.f1.u1.v1.w1%26gclid%3DCj0KCQjwnvOaBhDTARIsAJf8eVNJXZaEM82lNdeOOde_JgJi_a-uZ4ZzqHdTtauV5r9N6KVSQYN-Rl8aAggeEALw_wcB) (SA): Wildlife, beaches, cooler weather - [Fraser Island](https://cudo.com.au/au/experience/kgari-explorer-day-tour-(ex-hervey-bay)/rez:PDCNYA) (QLD): 4-Wheel driving, inland lakes, camping - [Moreton Island](https://cudo.com.au/au/experience/wrecks-adventure-tour/rez:PXQXZU) (QLD): Water sports, dolphin feeding, snorkelling - [Fitzroy Island](https://www.fitzroyisland.com/tours-day-trips/) (QLD): expeditions, scuba diving, snorkel tours ## Cruising We are slowly welcoming fabulous cruise trips back into our post-COVID world. This is a good thing for single parents looking for a relaxing vacation. You only have to get your family to the ship and you’re done … time to relax. ![Cruising/single parent holidays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/In-article-image-6.png "In article image 6 - Beanstalk Mums")Whether it’s [cruising up the east coast of Australia](https://www.pocruises.com.au/destinations/australia/australia/cairns/shore-tours/great-barrier-reef), an hour-long dolphin-watching cruise in Perth, heading to the [South Pacific Islands](https://www.carnival.com.au/cruise-to/south-pacific-cruises.aspx) or delighting your kids with the new [Disney cruise](https://disneycruise.disney.go.com/), there are lots of kid-friendly options to choose from. Cruise ships are floating cities packed to the rafters with entertainment for kids and adults. You’re looking for family-friendly accommodation options, easy food choices, onboard medical centres and kids clubs galore. ***Further reading: [What I love most about cruising with kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cruising-with-kids/)*** Try these cruise lines that cater brilliantly for families: - [P&O](https://www.pocruises.com.au/) - [Royal Caribbean](https://www.royalcaribbean.com/aus/en?country=AUS) - [Carnival](https://www.carnival.com.au/) - [Celebrity](https://www.celebritycruises.com/au) - [Princess](https://www.princess.com/) If you or your kids are not fond of the waters, there are similar tours on land. Bus tours in Bangkok and rail tours in Switzerland are fantastic alternatives. ## Camping or Campervanning Depending on your family, camping is either the best or worst trip idea. That it is literally the cheapest way to get away and there are so many places to camp in Australia were enough to convince me to do it for years. We could decide to go one day and be packed and on the road the next. But of course, make sure to check the weather forecasts for a great time for camping. You don’t want to plan your outdoor activity on rainy days. Most campsites are kid-friendly, but always check first. If you have lots of children or a child with special needs, camping can be hectic. Setting up tents, safekeeping your belongings, blowing up beds, and providing suitable shelter from the elements is not conducive to a relaxing break for mum. It’s also a fact that the novelty of preparing family meals on a single-ring gas stove and washing up in the camp kitchen can wear off pretty quickly, especially if kids didn’t want to help. Sometimes, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But for families who love the outdoors experience but need some home comforts, reserve a campsite cabin or hire a campervan. My daughter made me hire a small campervan when there was a special, and haven’t used the tents since! ## Theme Parks If you want to be in the running for the “Best Mummy” award, then a fun family trip centred on amusement parks is the children’s favourite. After all, rides are the top cure for a tantrum. You don’t need to leave Australian shores or spend lots of money abroad. Since you’re in a country with world-class amusement parks right here on the Gold Coast (QLD), you can easily choose from the following: - [Dreamworld](https://www.dreamworld.com.au/) - [Seaworld](https://seaworld.com.au/) - [Warner Bros. Movie World](https://movieworld.com.au/) - [Wet’n’Wild](https://wetnwild.com.au/) - [WhiteWater World](https://www.dreamworld.com.au/rides-attractions/whitewater-world) For a relaxing stay nearby, the [InterContinental Sanctuary Cove Resort](https://www.sanctuarycove.intercontinental.com/weddings/) offers spacious, family-friendly accommodation that works well for single-parent trips. If money allows and you want to take the experience to the next level, don’t be afraid to go overseas to one of the six Disney parks in either Florida, California, Tokyo, Hong Kong, China or Paris. Check out [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU/%5Bp_id:1100l444513%5D/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.expedia.com.au%2FWalt-Disney-World-Resort-Orlando.d6034120.Attraction) and [Wotif](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAV/destination:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wotif.com%2FOrlando.d178294.Destination-Travel-Guides) for package deals that you might be pleasantly surprised by. ## Adventure Travel ![Adventure Tours/single parent holidays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/In-article-image-7.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums")Adventure trips are like package holidays but with heaps of tours for a more active, experience-based getaway. I love excursions as you see lots of the country you are travelling around while learning about their history and cultures. For adults and kids, journeys are a fascinating learning experience. They are the kind of trips I can justify taking my kids out of school for. If you plan a voyage, you will be placed with a group who are doing the same experience as you. It’s a great way to meet people and enjoy the company of others on your trip. Although you are on the move a lot, everything is organised for you, so you can relax and enjoy the excursion with your kids. Adventure tours are usually geared at specific age groups or interests so you are travelling with like-minded companions. There are family-friendly tours and some operators, such as [Trafalgar](https://www.trafalgar.com/en-sg/ways-to-go/single-parent-holidays) even cater for single parent families, yay. ## Conclusion: Tips for travelling as a single mum Traveling as a single mum can feel daunting, but it’s absolutely doable … and well worth it! Whether you choose a packaged getaway, an island escape, a cruise, camping, theme parks, or an adventure tour, there’s an option out there to suit your family’s needs and your budget. With a bit of planning and the right type of trip, you can create lasting memories with your kids, relax, and enjoy a well-deserved break. So go ahead, single mums: plan that trip, have an adventure, and remember that you and your kids deserve this time together to explore, unwind, and recharge. For the love of travels … here’s to your next family adventure! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/single-parent-holidays-6-easy-ideas-to-getaway-2024/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/single-parent-holidays-6-easy-ideas-to-getaway-2024/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** travel, holiday ideas, trip ideas --- ### [A Practical Guide to Choosing the Right Mobility Aid in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/a-practical-guide-to-choosing-the-right-mobility-aid-in-australia/) **Published:** April 16, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re a single mum juggling school runs, medical appointments, and care for a parent, the last thing you need is a confusing search for the right device. Maybe it’s for you, or maybe it’s for your mum or dad. Either way, the stakes feel high and time feels short. The process gets simpler when you follow the right order. Start with your body and your daily trips, then check legal limits and sizing, and only then shop. Ten focused minutes can show you what to shortlist and where to buy safely. In 2022, an estimated 5.5 million Australians, or 21.4 per cent, had disability, and 52.3 percent of people aged 65 and over had disability. If you’re working through this choice, you’re far from alone. ## **Start With You: Three Quick Decisions** Choose for your real body, routes, and transport limits before you compare brands. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-11-1.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Choose based on your real body, daily routes, and transport limits — not brand comparisons. If your needs change, plan for your hardest regular day, not your best. Think about your body: can you walk short distances, carry bags, or steer safely if you’re tired or in pain? Consider where you’ll use it: indoors, footpaths, shops, flat surfaces, or uneven ground with kerbs and hills. And transport: will it stay home, go in a car, or take public transport? Are there stairs or tight spaces? It may feel strict, but it helps you avoid buying for good days and struggling the rest of the week. ## **Know the Device Types** Each device type solves a different problem, so match the category to how you move each day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-11.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") The cheapest option isn’t always the cheapest to live with. If it is hard to fold, too wide for your hallway, or painful after 20 minutes, it will sit unused. ### **Seat Walkers and Rollators** These suit people who can still walk but need balance support and short rests. Check brake strength, seat height, and folded width before you buy. ### **Manual Wheelchairs** These work well indoors and in tight spaces, especially when a carer can push. Check the overall width against your doorways and the chair’s weight before anyone tries to lift it into a car. ### **Powered Wheelchairs** These suit people who cannot walk or stand safely for daily tasks. Victorian guidance notes that powered wheelchairs can better support people who need tight turning, complex seating, and posture support. ### **Scooters for Outdoor Trips** These suits people who can stand and walk a few steps but need wheels for longer outdoor trips. If school runs and errands are your main trips, compare mid-size models with kerb-climbing ability, a 10 km/h limiter, stable steering, and aisle-friendly turning at SectorCare company. For busy weekdays, easier kerb starts and steadier handling often matter more than a flashy spec sheet, and a [mobility scooter](https://sectorcare.com.au/mobility-scooter) with the right range and load rating can make daily routines much easier. If you’re stuck between two categories, choose the one you can manage safely on your worst regular day, not the one that looks best in a brochure. ## **Scooter vs Powered Wheelchair: Make the Call in Five Questions** A scooter usually suits outdoor errands for people who can still transfer, while a powered chair suits tighter indoor use and higher support needs. Think about transfers, steering, and turning before you think about price. Those three points shape most of the daily experience. Answer these questions to narrow the choice fast. 1. Can you safely transfer on and off without help? 2. Do you mainly travel on footpaths and through shopping centres? 3. Do you need tight indoor turns every day? 4. Do you have reliable hand control and vision for handlebars? 5. Is car boot loading unrealistic because of weight? If you answer yes to Questions 1, 2, and 4, and no to 3 and 5, a scooter is usually the better fit. If Questions 3 or 5 are yes, look harder at a powered chair. ## **Check It Fits: Home, Car, and Public Transport** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-wheeleo-33120773-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-wheeleo-33120773 - Beanstalk Mums") If it doesn’t fit your daily spaces, it won’t stay useful. Bring a tape measure when testing — extras like baskets and armrests add width, and folded size matters most. At home, measure doorways, hallways, and turning space. Plan a safe charging spot. For the car, check the weight against who’ll lift it and whether ramps or tie-downs are needed. On public transport, aim for standard space limits and practise boarding during quiet times. For flights, check airline rules for size and batteries before you travel. ## **Money Matters: Funding, Renting, and Smart Buying** Funding, short-term hire, and asking the right questions can make mobility aids far more affordable. If approval takes time, renting keeps you moving and helps you test what actually works before committing. With the NDIS, the aid must relate to your disability and meet funding criteria. An occupational therapist may be required, and low-cost items can fall under Core Consumables — so keep your quotes and reports handy. Through My Aged Care, funding tiers range from small supports to larger amounts with evidence, and some aids can be rented through providers. Before buying, ask about road rule compliance, turning circle, kerb-climb height, and real-world range. Also check servicing, spare parts, and warranty times. If your needs are temporary, renting or borrowing is often the smarter, less stressful choice. ## **Battery and Charging Safety** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-rollz-19903109-1200x669.jpg "Pexels-rollz-19903109 - Beanstalk Mums") Safe charging habits matter as much as the device itself. Lithium-ion batteries need careful charging and storage to reduce fire risk at home. Fire and Rescue NSW reported at least 318 lithium-ion battery fires in 2024. - Charge in garages or well-ventilated areas, not bedrooms. - Use the supplied charger only. - Do not charge overnight or block exits with the device. - Stop using damaged or swollen batteries immediately. - Recycle batteries through proper channels, never in household bins. If a battery swells, leaks, smells odd, or gets very hot, stop using it and contact the supplier before charging again. ## **Optional Extras for Gentle Exercise and Recreation** The right add-on can make light [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/ "exercise") feel doable again without adding extra strain. This is separate from a medical device decision, but the same principle applies. Reducing what you carry can make light movement feel safer and less tiring. For mums easing back into walking, or for older parents who still enjoy golf, a StackStore-powered caddy can remove the strain of hauling clubs. That matters on long fairways, where repeated lifting, awkward posture, and shoulder fatigue can undo the benefit of walking for exercise for many people over time. A [remote control golf buggy](https://stackstore.com.au/collections/electric-buggies) lets you keep moving at your own pace while the equipment carries itself. ## **Final Thoughts** A calm, step-by-step choice usually leads to a safer and more useful result. Choose your real routes, not a perfect showroom floor. Confirm the rules, measure your spaces, and book a supervised trial before you pay. That one step can save money and add freedom to daily life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/a-practical-guide-to-choosing-the-right-mobility-aid-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/a-practical-guide-to-choosing-the-right-mobility-aid-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [10 Tips for Single Mums Who Want to Find Love Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/10-tips-for-single-mums-who-want-to-find-love-online/) **Published:** April 16, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For a single mum, online dating is rarely just about romance. It’s about time. Energy. Trust. It is about deciding whether you really want to let someone new into a life that already has a lot going on. That is why the usual dating advice can feel useless. *“Just put yourself out there”* sounds fine until you remember that you also have children, responsibilities, and very little patience for people who waste your time. The good news? Online dating can actually work well for single mums, mostly because it gives you something traditional dating often does not: control. You can choose when to log in, when to reply, and who is worth your attention. And that matters. Pew Research found that 53% of adults under 50 who are single and looking are current or recent users of dating sites or apps, which says a lot about how normal online dating has become for people who are genuinely trying to meet someone. ## 1. Be clear about what you actually want First, be honest with yourself before you create a profile. Not in a dramatic way. Just clearly. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? A serious connection with real potential? Or are you only just starting to open up to the idea of dating again? The clearer you are about what you want, the easier it becomes to filter out people who want something completely different. This saves time and emotional energy. ## 2. Choose a platform that supports real connections Next is choosing the right kind of platform. Some apps are built for speed, attention, and quick reactions. Others are better for actual conversation. If your goal is something more meaningful, it helps to choose a site that gives people room to talk properly. A platform like [online dating for relationships](https://www.dating.com/) can work well for that because Dating.com offers multiple ways to communicate, including chat, email, voice messages, audio calls, and video chat. Those extra layers make it easier to move past flat small talk and get a better sense of who someone is. ![Online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/Online-dating.png "Online dating - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Create a profile that feels real Your profile matters, but not for the reason people think. You do not need a perfect profile. You need a believable one. That means using current photos, writing in a natural tone, and giving someone a real sense of who you are. The strongest profiles are usually not the cleverest. They are the clearest. A short bio that sounds like a person will almost always do better than something overly polished. Mention what kind of life you have, what matters to you, and what kind of relationship you are open to. You do not need to write a life story. You just need to make it easy for the right person to recognise you. ## 4. Be open about being a mum It helps to be open about being a mum, but without turning your profile into a warning label. You are not confessing a problem. You are describing your actual life. Something as simple as “*I’m a proud mum, my life is busy, and I’m looking for someone kind, steady, and emotionally mature*” is enough. The right person will not be put off — they will be aligned. ## 5. Focus on quality over quantity Talking to too many people at once usually creates noise. Ten half-dead conversations are not better than one meaningful one. If you are a single mama, your time is already spoken for. You do not need volume. You need quality. A smaller number of good conversations is almost always the better route. ## 6. Pay attention to communication early ![discreet dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/discreet-dating-apps.jpg "discreet dating apps - Beanstalk Mums") Pay close attention to communication in the early stage — not chemistry alone. Is the person consistent? Do they ask real questions? Do they remember what you said last time? Do they sound grounded, or do they immediately push the conversation into something intense or vague? These things matter more than most people admit. A person can look great on paper and still be exhausting to deal with in practice. Early messaging will tell you a lot if you stop trying to read for potential and start reading for behaviour. ## 7. Move things forward gradually When the conversation feels good, move it forward gradually. Text is useful, but it has limits. Someone can seem warm and interesting in messages and then feel completely flat on a call. That is why voice notes, audio calls, or video chats are so helpful. Dating.com includes those features, which make it easier to figure out whether something actually feels natural before investing too much time. ## 8. Protect your safety Safety matters too, and not only in the obvious sense. The FTC continues to warn that [romance scammers](https://www.huntress.com/cybersecurity-101/topic/romance-scams) often build trust by chatting frequently, then try to move the conversation off-platform and eventually ask for money. Never send money to someone you met online, no matter how convincing the story sounds. ## 9. Protect your emotional energy, too ![Online dating advice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Online-dating-advice.jpg "Online dating advice - Beanstalk Mums") If someone makes you feel confused from the start, pushes for too much too quickly, or keeps creating pressure where there should be ease, pay attention to that. A good beginning does not need to feel chaotic. It can feel calm. In fact, calm is often the better sign. For single mums especially, the goal is not to find the most exciting profile in the room. It’s about finding someone whose presence doesn’t make your life harder. A lot of women come back to [dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-profile-red-flags-what-to-watch-out-for/) carrying two opposite fears at the same time: settling for too little, or expecting too much. The answer is usually somewhere in the middle. You don’t need perfection. You need to be compatible. You need someone emotionally available, respectful, and reliable. Someone who can communicate without turning everything into a guessing game. ## 10. Let dating fit into your life You do not need to be online all the time or reply instantly. You do not need to treat this like another full-time responsibility. A healthier rhythm usually works better: check in when you have the energy, step away when it starts to feel draining, and do not confuse availability with interest. The right person will not punish you for having a full life. If anything, they will respect it. ## Final Thoughts The best part of online dating for single mums is that it lets you be selective without apologising for it. You are not starting from scratch. You’re starting from experience. You already know what inconsistency feels like. You already know what emotional immaturity costs. That’s not baggage. That is judgment, and good judgment is useful in dating. So no, the goal is not to “put yourself out there” in the reckless sense. The goal is to open the door carefully, with standards, clarity, and enough self-respect to leave the wrong conversations early. That is usually how something good begins. Not with drama. Not with urgency. Just with one decent conversation that feels easy to continue. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/10-tips-for-single-mums-who-want-to-find-love-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/10-tips-for-single-mums-who-want-to-find-love-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [10 Mind-blowing vibrators for absolute beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-mind-blowing-vibrators-for-absolute-beginners/) **Published:** April 15, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you in the market for a vibrator, but you’ve never actually used one before? This article about vibrators for beginners is here to help! Buying sex toys is heaps of fun because there is a H-U-G-E array of choice out there, but, at the same time, it can be overwhelming knowing [which particular vibrator is right for you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/). 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You will also find them created from plastics or even glass! I recommend silicone because: - It’s a softer material - Kinder to the sensitive regions of your body - It feels more like the real thing! - Easy to clean As you are reading an article about vibrators for beginners, you might not know that you can get eco-friendly sex toys. These are designed with both pleasure and the planet in mind. They minimise ecological impact and are typically crafted from body-safe, recyclable materials like: - Medical-grade silicone - ABS plastic A great option to indulge in guilt-free pleasure while contributing to a greener, more sustainable future. ## Does the brand matter? When it comes to sex toy brands, the big names include but are not limited to: - Lovehoney - Lelo - We-Vibe - Womanizer I tend not to shop by brand alone, as you can save money getting a very similar toy from a lesser-known brand. 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Most [good online adult toy shops ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/)have excellent customer service and Live Chat available 24/7. ## Do you want to use it in the shower? What I mean here is: Do you want a vibrator that you can get wet? Luckily, most vibrators can withstand some water because they need to be cleaned between uses. However, not all are made for water play. As mentioned above, check the specs, and if you need clarification, ask! ## The power source! Nearly all vibrators are rechargeable now. But you can still get old-school battery-operated toys suitable for travel if you don’t know when you can next juice up. Many modern vibrators come with built-in rechargeable batteries, or the toy itself recharges. They can be charged using a USB cable or a charging dock. Some of my toys are compatible with my iPhone charger, which is super convenient. 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Please read through my consideration points above and think about each in relation to yourself. Then start your search. I highly recommend any of the vibrators listed above as a great starting point. Happy shopping, ladies. May you choose wisely and enjoy bedtime alone more than ever before. ![vibrators for beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/vibrators1.png "vibrators1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-mind-blowing-vibrators-for-absolute-beginners/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-mind-blowing-vibrators-for-absolute-beginners/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Shopping **Tags:** dildos, sex toys, masturbation, self pleasure --- ### [20+ Free online education resources in 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-online-education-resources/) **Published:** February 27, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a mum, I know how important it is to provide our children with the best education possible. However, with busy schedules and limited resources, it can be challenging to find the time and money to enrol our kids in traditional classes or purchase expensive learning materials. Fortunately, in today’s digital age, there are many free online education resources available for children that can supplement their learning and help them reach their full potential. In this article, I will share some of the best free online education resources for children that I have personally used and recommend. Whether your child is struggling in a particular subject or you simply want to enhance their learning experience. These resources include educational websites, apps, services, where you can ask to [write my essay with EssayHub](https://essayhub.com/), videos and games that cover a wide range of subjects and are designed to make learning fun and engaging. Note: Some of the resources below are completely free, while others have a free subscriptions periods. Many are Australia-based, while some are from elsewhere in the world, but are brilliant so we added them. ***Related reading: [Give your pre-schooler a head start in literacy and enjoy it. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pre-schooler-headstart-in-literacy/)*** ## Free online education resources ### [Homer](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) Learn with Homer is a multi-awarded app for learning reading, math, social and emotional learning, thinking skills, and creativity. Designed for toddlers to 6+ learners, Homer weaves repetition and review with creative play, so if you think the lessons are repetitive, that’s intentional! Parents can also opt to get the Homer App or Sesame Street App. [![Homer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/homer.png "homer - Beanstalk Mums")](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) ***Which part is free?** 30-day free trial* ***Pros:** Homer Learn & Grown works offline, provided your child has completed the activity.* ***Cons:** If you bought the mobile app later, you can’t transfer the progress of your child on mobile.* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a multi-awarded learning app for your kid* ***Further reading: [Our review of the HOMER learning program.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/homer-early-learning-review/)*** ### [Scholastic Learn at Home](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html) First on our list of free online education resources: Scholastic’s Learn at Home Program is one of the best free online education platforms available, with daily projects for kids sorted into grade levels (from PreK to Grade 9). There are lots of resources for parents and teachers that are super useful for home schooling and distance learning. Activities are designed to reinforce and sustain learning for students who are unable to attend school. [![Scholastic Learn at Home | Beanstalk Mums](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/content/dam/classroom-magazines/magazines/support/scholastic-at-home/HOMEPAGE-HERO-V2.jpg)](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html) ***Which part is free?** 20 days’ worth of activities covering all subjects* ***Pros:** Lots of free resources for students, parents and, teachers* ***Cons:** Some activities are not that in-depth* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have kids who are stuck at home bored.* ### [ABC Mouse](https://www.anrdoezrs.net/click-9232864-11075548) Award-winning ABC Mouse has been in the e-learning business for many years, offering a full online curriculum for kids ages 2-8. The program is focused on early learning, with a huge catalog of activities (+9000) for reading, maths, science and art. The app version is just like the web version, allowing kids to learn anywhere and be immersed in a step by step program with 10 levels. ![ABC Mouse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Screenshot-2023-02-27-at-10.24.21-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Which part is free?** 30-day free trial on the full online curriculum* ***Pros:** Extensive catalog of early leaning material from pre-K to grade 2, up to 3 student profiles in one account* ***Cons:** Need to pay for tests/assessments, virtual learning rewards can be distracting for some children* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want age-appropriate learning activities for younger kids* ### [Busy Things](https://www.busythings.co.uk/) Busy Things is a UK based educational e-learning program packed with games, fun activities and learning resources for kids aged 3 to 11. All activities are curriculum based and a great supplement to classroom instruction. They cover reading, phonics, maths and creativity (colours, shapes and sounds). Kids will love the bright colours and fun graphics on the website. This is a paid program with a free 7-day trial to support school closures. You can access lots of resources with the trial, including worksheets and hundreds of activities. [![Busy Things | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.busythings.co.uk//public_images/social_media/facebook_schools.png)](https://www.busythings.co.uk/) ***Which part is free?** Free 7 day trial for families or free 28 day trial for schools* ***Pros:** Fun, comprehensive e-learning resource for ages 3-11, affordable ($71/year)* ***Cons:** Not a substitute for in-depth classroom instruction* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a fun learning program for kids and want to easily monitor learning progress* ### [Classroom Secrets Kids](https://kids.classroomsecrets.co.uk/) If you like the educational resource website Classroom Secrets, you’ll love Classroom Secret Kids, a new online platform filled with fun learning activities for children. There’s a wide range of engaging material on offer designed by teachers. The subjects cover years 1-6 and include maths, reading, spelling and history. More resources are upcoming so make sure to check their website for updates. [![Classroom Secrets Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://s3-eu-west-1.amazonaws.com/images.kidzapp.com/media/CACHE/images/venues/3fb36b37-0bf9-48a6-86db-4b86ddda25b8/0caa2f535bbcc6e5d98e2a6400e589c9.png)](https://kids.classroomsecrets.co.uk/) ***Which part is free?** Free access to everything while in beta version* ***Pros:** Comprehensive, all-in-one education resource for parents and educators* ***Cons:** Lessons can get repetitive* ***You will love this education platform if:** You are a new teacher/educator looking for engaging classroom resources or a parent who wants excellent distance learning material for younger kids* ### [NatGeo Kids](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/) Next on our list of free online education resources: Did you know that the popular magazine for kids has an online website packed with learning support? These are mostly articles on science, history and trending topics like climate change and coronavirus. The website is a little too cluttered with sponsored ads, but it’s still a better alternative to online games and aimless browsing, especially if your kids are obsessed with science, nature and/or history. [![NatGeo Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/c013wYtubY4/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/) ***Which part is free?** Free online learning resources* ***Pros:** Free general learning resources on natural science, history, culture, reading and trending topics* ***Cons:** Articles are not that in-depth, requires supplementary material for mastery* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a fun jump-off point for kids learning science and history* ## English and Reading online education resources ### [Reading Eggs](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) [Reading Eggs](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) is one of Australia’s most popular programs for learning to read. Instead of the traditional teaching method, Reading Eggs uses games, songs and rewards to keep learning fun and interesting. They have programs not just for young children but also for older kids up to 13 years. We suggest getting the app version for on-the-go learning. [![Reading Eggs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Screenshot-2023-02-27-at-10.30.02-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) ***Which part is free?** 30-day free trial* ***Pros:** Learn to read quickly, basic and advanced reading activities, mobile app version* ***Cons:** Paid subscription after trial, design is outdated* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want make learning to read fun and interesting.* ## Science and Maths Platforms ### [Backpack Sciences](https://www.backpacksciences.com/science-simplified) If you’re looking for a free online education platform focused on science, give Backpack Sciences a try. Through videos, the program teaches kids hands-on elementary science without the overwhelm. It’s brilliant how the subjects are structured, increasing the amount of science kids can learn without getting bogged down in the nitty gritty. [![Backpack Sciences](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Screenshot-2023-02-27-at-10.34.51-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.backpacksciences.com/science-simplified) ***Which part is free?** Free video series for parents and educators on how to simplify teaching science* ***Pros:** Free short videos teaching you how to enjoy teaching science* ***Cons:** Only for parents and educators* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want to improve your teaching skills in science* ### [Mathletics](https://www.mathletics.com/au/for-home/free-trial/) Another multi-award winning e-learning platform, Mathletics is designed specifically to teach mathematics. Their extensive content for pre-K up to grade 12 covers subjects including numeracy, algebra, trigonometry and applied calculus. The lessons are self-paced but teachers can assign specific content and tests. Progress is recorded to help parents and teachers decide whether to provide supportive lessons or re-assign activities. This is one of our favourite free online education resources but for further support check out [online maths classe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-maths-classes/)s too. [![Mathletics | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets-homepages.3plearning.net/wp-content/uploads/mathletics-product-interface-sc-rewards-01.png)](https://www.mathletics.com/au/for-home/free-trial/) ***Which part is free?** Free to try entire program for 48 hours* ***Pros:** Extensive maths curriculum for pre-K to 12 students, self-paced lessons* ***Cons:** Some activities are repetitive and kids can get bored quickly, rote questions* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want kids to prepare for advanced maths courses or simply catch up on difficult subjects* ### [Prodigy](https://www.prodigygame.com/) Maths is hard, but you can make the learning experience fun and entertaining for your kids through Prodigy. Prodigy motivates 1st through 8th grade students to learn, practice and improve their maths skills through a fun fantasy game. Their maths content is curriculum-aligned and designed by certified educators to ensure a high-quality learning experience. Overall a great review and practice tool when supplemented with classroom instruction. ### [![Prodigy | Beanstalk Mums](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/prodigyteacherpresentationv2-150520202626-lva1-app6891/95/prodigy-teacher-overview-presentation-1-638.jpg?cb=1474491063)](https://www.prodigygame.com/) ***Which part is free?** Free maths review and practice lessons* ***Pros:** Fun format for teaching kids basic and advanced maths skills whether at home or at school* ***Cons:** Many features can only be accessed with a paid account* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want to introduce your kids to civics and government* ### [Splash Learn](https://www.splashlearn.com/) When it comes to maths-focused free online education resources, Splash Learn is an excellent platform for younger kids. The lessons adapt to how each child learns, whether used for catch up, practice or enrichment. Splash Learn is currently offering free access to all educators during the COVID-19 pandemic, with home access for remote learning. This means that all lessons assigned by the teacher can be accessed at home by the parent or student. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Splash Learn | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/M0RXtfAJAiI/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.splashlearn.com/) ***Which part is free?** Free access to all educators/teachers with home access (subjects not assigned require subscription)* ***Pros:** Teachers can assign questions, easy practice and tracking progress* ***Cons:** Limited content on the free account, questions can get repetitive* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have younger kids who need help in maths* ### [Zearn](https://about.zearn.org/distance-learning?utm_campaign=distance-learning&utm_medium=native&utm_source=homepage) Zearn is an online learning platform that combines group instruction, independent online study and teacher support for maths learning and enrichment. Using only the digital content for studying is not the goal here; group instruction and in-person support are required for best results. Zearn is designed to support public school education and teachers learn how to create lessons for individuals and small groups based on the student’s progress. [![Zearn | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/28u-XAK8Jfc/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://about.zearn.org/distance-learning?utm_campaign=distance-learning&utm_medium=native&utm_source=homepage) ***Which part is free?** Free access to K-5 curriculum for students, parents and teachers during the pandemic* ***Pros:** Great resources for live lessons, perfect balance of online lessons and in-person support* ***Cons**: Questions could be more open-ended, pricey for long-term homeschooling* ***You will love this education platform if:** You are an educator/parent who needs a thorough maths curriculum to teach younger children* ### [Math Seeds](https://mathseeds.com.au/) Mathseeds is another free online educational platform that teaches kids aged 3-9 core maths and problem solving skills. The lessons are a combination of highly structured instruction and interactive games to keep children engaged. Reviewers say that the lessons and games can be addictive! Kids can learn from a desktop computer or a mobile device. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Math Seeds | Beanstalk Mums](https://mathseeds.com/images/home-banner-1.jpg)](https://mathseeds.com.au/) ***Which part is free?** Free trial for parents and teachers (includes access to Mathseeds for ages 3-9 and Reading Eggs)* ***Pros:** Wide variety of fun lessons and games in learning and practice modes, skill-based rewards* ***Cons:** Help can be hard to find in some sections* ***You will love this education platform if:** You need a program to make maths learning and practice fun for younger kids* ### [Fizzics Education](https://www.fizzicseducation.com.au/) Science can be a difficult subject for many kids, but learning it shouldn’t be. Fizzics Education provides fun and entertaining live science classes via video conference so children can learn anytime, anywhere. The instructors are experts in their field and dedicated to making science learning an engaging experience. If you’re not keen on the subscription program, they have a huge library of resources for FREE, including science experiments, podcasts and STEM teaching articles. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Fizzics_banner_2020-1-scaled-1-1200x321.jpg "Fizzics_banner_2020-1-scaled - Beanstalk Mums")***Which part is free?** Free science resources for students and teachers* ***Pros:** Fun video lessons, expert teachers, science parties* ***Cons:** Limited options for remote classes, frequent classes can get pricey* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want kids to love learning science and STEM subjects* ## Other Free Online Educational resources ### [Typing Club](https://www.typingclub.com/) The Typing Club is a free online education platform dedicated to teaching people how to touch type, whether you’re a kid or adult. Each lesson lets you practice until you reach mastery (five stars). We love that it takes only a few minutes each day for one to two weeks to become a pro touch typist. All you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. [![Typing Club](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/junior1.png "junior1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.typingclub.com/) ***Which part is free?** Everything!* ***Pros:** Spanish, French and German versions, interactive lessons, progress tracking* ***Cons:** When unsupervised, students may cheat by looking at the keyboard* ***You will love this education platform if:** You or your kids wants to learn or improve touch typing skills* ### [PEO.gov](https://peo.gov.au/) The Parliamentary Education Office (PEO) is a great website if you’re looking for supplementary civics and government e-learning resources. Book a free video conferencing program and connect students with experts in Parliament. The program explores how laws are made, the responsibilities of representatives, the formation of government and how government is kept accountable. Lessons are suited for years 5-10. [![Parliamentary Education Office](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Screenshot-2023-02-27-at-10.41.00-am.png "Parliamentary Education Office - Beanstalk Mums")](https://peo.gov.au/) ***Which part is free?** Free video conferencing program, immersive learning, and outreach programs* ***Pros:** Excellent supplementary resources for students and teachers of civics and government* ***Cons:** Not designed as standalone lessons, subject can be dense and boring for younger kids* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want to introduce your kids to civics and government.* ### [Type Kids](https://www.typekids.com/) Type Kids is an adaptive touch typing tool designed specifically for kids. It’s like Typing Club but with a fun, kid friendly user interface, and entertaining games and badges. We love the fact that program learns from mistakes and adapts the exercises automatically to help kids with problem letters. It’s like a having a private touch typing tutor. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Type Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.5minutesformom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/TypeKids-Touch-Typing-for-Kids.png)](https://www.typekids.com/) ***Which part is free?** Free one month trial* ***Pros:** Touch typing tutor for kids, fun games and rewards, money back guarantee* ***Cons:** Complete course is pricey at $99.95* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a kid-friendly touch typing program* ### [ABC Kids](https://www.abc.net.au/abckids/) Watch your favourite ABC Kids show from any mobile device with the ABC Kids app. Designed for preschool and younger school-aged viewers, it features shows like Bluey, Peppa Pig, Hey Duggee, Play School, ABC Kids Listen and more. Kids can also play games and download activities like colouring kits and party packs. The app is completely free, but expect the usual ads. [![ABC Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/McDO_hRI2uMpK5QeoYvsKGiILKdcZw4UXQHpd6JAvq9IUGAQ1pLXKd2yA7Ro_FqxXw4=w1192-h803-rw)](https://www.abc.net.au/abckids/) ***Which part is free?** Free Apple and Android app* ***Pros:** Lots of popular kids shows and programs, plus games and activities* ***Cons:** Doesn’t work without an internet connection* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have little kids and want quality educational entertainment.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-online-education-resources/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-online-education-resources/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** education, home school, learn from home, online learning --- ### [25 Free educational websites to support your kids learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-educational-websites/) **Published:** October 6, 2022 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Following long school closures caused by the pandemic, some children might need a little extra help with school work or a [head start before the school year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pre-schooler-headstart-in-literacy/)? Luckily, there is heaps of support online in the form of brilliant free educational websites. If you can find a program which allows your little one to have fun whilst learning then you’re onto a winner! We are here to help you with our list of free educational websites for kids. Note: Some of the resources below are completely free and others have free subscription periods. Many are Australia-based, while some are from elsewhere in the world, but are brilliant so we added them. ## English and Reading free educational websites ### [Reading Eggs](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) [Reading Eggs](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) is one of Australia’s most popular programs for learning to read. Instead of the traditional teaching method, Reading Eggs uses games, songs and rewards to keep learning fun and interesting. They have programs not just for young children but also for older kids up to 13 years. We suggest getting the app version for on-the-go learning. [![ABC Reading Eggs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/11530068-16x9-large.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) ***Which part is free?** 30-day free trial (new customers only) with full access to all programs* ***Pros:** Learn to read quickly, basic and advanced reading activities, mobile app version* ***Cons:** Paid subscription after trial, design is outdated* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want make learning to read fun and interesting.* ### [Homer](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) Kickstart your kids’ learning with Homer Learn & Grow designed for kids from 2 to 8. It has thousands of interactive lessons, quizzes, songs, and other activities in five subjects: reading, math, social and emotional learning, thinking skills and creativity. Plus, if you want some off-screen educational time for your kid, you can also purchase the Homer Explore and Activity Kits (numbers, letters and feelings). You can also get the Sesame Street app, which is designed for kids from 2 to 4. [![Homer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/homer.png "homer - Beanstalk Mums")](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) ***What part is free?** 30-day free trial* ***Pros:** thousands of effective lessons, interactive games, songs, and more* ***Cons:** Your kid has to retake her quizzes to transfer her progress on the mobile app.* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a program that’s developed by experts, research-based, kid-tested, and parent-approved.* ## Free Educational Websites for children ### [Scholastic Learn at Home](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html) Next on our list of free educational websites: Scholastic’s Learn at Home Program is one of the best free online education platforms available, with daily projects for kids sorted into grade levels (from PreK to Grade 9). There are lots of resources for parents and teachers that are super useful for home schooling and distance learning. Activities are designed to reinforce and sustain learning for students who are unable to attend school. [![Scholastic Learn at Home | Free educational websites | Beanstalk Mums](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/content/dam/classroom-magazines/magazines/support/scholastic-at-home/HOMEPAGE-HERO-V2.jpg)](https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html) ***Which part is free?** Free resources and activities covering all subjects* ***Pros:** Free downloadable resources for students, parents and, teachers* ***Cons:** Some activities are not that in-depth* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have kids who are stuck at home bored.* ### [ABC Mouse](https://www.anrdoezrs.net/click-9232864-11075548) Award-winning ABC Mouse has been in the e-learning business for many years, offering a full online curriculum for kids ages 2-8. The program is focused on early learning, with a huge catalog of activities (+9000) for reading, maths, science and art. The app version is just like the web version, allowing kids to learn anywhere and be immersed in a step by step program with 10 levels. [![Free Online Education Platforms | ABC Mouse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Screenshot_2020-12-09-ABCmouse-com.png "Screenshot_2020-12-09 ABCmouse com - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.anrdoezrs.net/click-9232864-11075548) ***Which part is free?** 30-day free trial on the full online curriculum* ***Pros:** Extensive catalog of early leaning material from pre-K to grade 2, up to 3 student profiles in one account* ***Cons:** Need to pay for tests/assessments, virtual learning rewards can be distracting for some children* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want age-appropriate learning activities for younger kids* ### [Busy Things](https://www.busythings.co.uk/) Busy Things is a UK based educational e-learning program packed with games, fun activities and learning resources for kids aged 3 to 11. All activities are curriculum based and a great supplement to classroom instruction. They cover reading, phonics, maths and creativity (colours, shapes and sounds). Kids will love the bright colours and fun graphics on the website. This is a paid program with a free 7-day trial to support school closures. You can access lots of resources with the trial, including worksheets and hundreds of activities. [![Free educational websites | Busy Things | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.busythings.co.uk//public_images/social_media/facebook_schools.png)](https://www.busythings.co.uk/) ***Which part is free?** Free 7 day trial for families or free 28 day trial for schools* ***Pros:** Fun, comprehensive e-learning resource for ages 3-11, affordable ($71/year)* ***Cons:** Not a substitute for in-depth classroom instruction* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a fun learning program for kids and want to easily monitor learning progress* ### [Classroom Secrets Kids](https://kids.classroomsecrets.co.uk/) If you like the educational resource website Classroom Secrets, you’ll love Classroom Secret Kids, a new online platform filled with fun learning activities for children. There’s a wide range of engaging material on offer designed by teachers. The subjects cover years 1-6 and include maths, reading, spelling and history. More resources are upcoming so make sure to check their website for updates. [![Classroom Secrets Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://s3-eu-west-1.amazonaws.com/images.kidzapp.com/media/CACHE/images/venues/3fb36b37-0bf9-48a6-86db-4b86ddda25b8/0caa2f535bbcc6e5d98e2a6400e589c9.png)](https://kids.classroomsecrets.co.uk/) ***Which part is free?** Free 14-day trial with unlimited access* ***Pros:** Comprehensive, all-in-one education resource for parents and educators* ***Cons:** Lessons can get repetitive* ***You will love this education platform if:** You are a new teacher/educator looking for engaging classroom resources or a parent who wants excellent distance learning material for younger kids* ### [NatGeo Kids](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/) Our list of free educational websites just when up a level: Did you know that the popular magazine for kids has an online website packed with learning support? These are mostly articles on science, history and trending topics like climate change and coronavirus. The website is a little too cluttered with sponsored ads, but it’s still a better alternative to online games and aimless browsing, especially if your kids are obsessed with science, nature and/or history. [![Free educational websites | NatGeo Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/c013wYtubY4/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/) ***Which part is free?** Free online learning resources* ***Pros:** Free general learning resources on natural science, history, culture, reading and trending topics* ***Cons:** Articles are not that in-depth, requires supplementary material for mastery* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a fun jump-off point for kids learning science and history* ### [Khan Academy Kids](https://learn.khanacademy.org/khan-academy-kids/) It’s hard to beat Khan Academy Kids when it comes to foundational and quality early learning content. Kids won’t get bored easily with the lessons due to the variety of activities and breaks that encourage free play and creativity. The high-quality videos, games, books and songs cover math, logic, creativity and ELA for preschoolers up to first grade. For kids age 5 and up, Khan Academy is one of the best free educational websites to supplement classroom math instruction. [![Free Educational Websites | Khan Academy Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://khankids.zendesk.com/hc/article_attachments/360007563932/KhanKids_Screenshot_iPad1.png)](https://learn.khanacademy.org/khan-academy-kids/) ***Which part is free?** Everything* ***Pros:** Huge database of high-quality activities, completely free* ***Cons:** Some parents may want more detailed feedback tracking* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want free but excellent quality early learning materials.* ### [Highlights Kids](https://www.highlightskids.com/) Highlights Kids is the companion website to the popular and enduring Highlights magazine. Kids can play online games, make crafts and conduct science experiments. They can also submit drawings and jokes that may be published on the site or in the magazine. Parents will love the variety of fun activities for different ages, most of which contain lessons on science, reading and other subjects. The best part is kids don’t need to register (or have a magazine subscription) to access activities. [![Free educational websites | Highlights Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.inspiringsavings.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/highlightskids-website.png)](https://www.highlightskids.com/) ***Which part is free?** Everything* ***Pros:** Fun, diverse and creative activities, you don’t need a magazine subscription to access content* ***Cons:** Lessons are not in-depth* ***You will love this education platform if:** Your kids are big fans of Highlights magazine.* ## Science and Maths Platforms ### [Mathletics](https://www.mathletics.com/au/for-home/free-trial/) Another multi-award winning e-learning platform, Mathletics is designed specifically to teach mathematics. Their extensive content for pre-K up to grade 12 covers subjects including numeracy, algebra, trigonometry and applied calculus. The lessons are self-paced but teachers can assign specific content and tests. Progress is recorded to help parents and teachers decide whether to provide supportive lessons or re-assign activities. This is one of our favourite free online education resources. [![Mathletics | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets-homepages.3plearning.net/wp-content/uploads/mathletics-product-interface-sc-rewards-01.png)](https://www.mathletics.com/au/for-home/free-trial/) ***Which part is free?** Free 30-day trial for teachers and schools, free 2-day trial for parents* ***Pros:** Extensive maths curriculum for pre-K to 12 students, self-paced lessons* ***Cons:** Some activities are repetitive and kids can get bored quickly, rote questions* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want kids to prepare for advanced maths courses or simply catch up on difficult subjects* ### [Prodigy](https://www.prodigygame.com/) Maths is hard, but you can make the learning experience fun and entertaining for your kids through Prodigy. Prodigy motivates 1st through 8th grade students to learn, practice and improve their maths skills through a fun fantasy game. Their maths content is curriculum-aligned and designed by certified educators to ensure a high-quality learning experience. Overall a great review and practice tool when supplemented with classroom instruction. ### [![Prodigy | Beanstalk Mums](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/prodigyteacherpresentationv2-150520202626-lva1-app6891/95/prodigy-teacher-overview-presentation-1-638.jpg?cb=1474491063)](https://www.prodigygame.com/) ***Which part is free?** Free maths review and practice lessons* ***Pros:** Fun format for teaching kids basic and advanced maths skills whether at home or at school* ***Cons:** Many features can only be accessed with a paid account* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want to introduce your kids to civics and government* ### [MultiplicationGames](https://www.multiplicationgames.com/) Play games and learn at the same time with MultiplicationGames. The educational website is full of free multiplication games for grades 1 to 5. Some tables are provided in the form of games whilst others are more traditional multiplication exercises. Kids can play alone on any device and solve equations with their classmates. It’s a fun way for kids to practice maths and supplement classroom or online instruction. [![Multiplication Games | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/art-1.png "art - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-educational-websites/) ***Which part is free?** Everything!* ***Pros:** All multiplication games are free, available on all devices, large catalog of games from easy to difficult (times table 1-12)* ***Cons:** Ad supported* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have grade school kids struggling with multiplication tables.* ### [Splash Learn](https://www.splashlearn.com/) When it comes to maths-focused free online education resources, Splash Learn is an excellent platform for younger kids. The lessons adapt to how each child learns, whether used for catch up, practice or enrichment. Splash Learn is currently offering free access to all educators during the COVID-19 pandemic, with home access for remote learning. This means that all lessons assigned by the teacher can be accessed at home by the parent or student. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Splash Learn | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/M0RXtfAJAiI/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.splashlearn.com/) ***Which part is free?** Free limited access to all parents and teachers, free 24-hour trial on your first premium class* ***Pros:** Teachers can assign questions, easy practice and tracking progress* ***Cons:** Limited content on the free account, questions can get repetitive* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have younger kids who need help in maths* ### [Math Seeds](https://mathseeds.com.au/) Mathseeds is another free educational website that teaches kids aged 3-9 core maths and problem solving skills. The lessons are a combination of highly structured instruction and interactive games to keep children engaged. Reviewers say that the lessons and games can be addictive! Kids can learn from a desktop computer or a mobile device. [![Free educational websites | Math Seeds | Beanstalk Mums](https://mathseeds.com/images/home-banner-1.jpg)](https://mathseeds.com.au/) ***Which part is free?** Free 30-day trial for parents and teachers (includes access to Mathseeds for ages 3-9 and Reading Eggs)* ***Pros:** Wide variety of fun lessons and games in learning and practice modes, skill-based rewards* ***Cons:** Help can be hard to find in some sections* ***You will love this education platform if:** You need a program to make maths learning and practice fun for younger kids* ### [Fizzics Education](https://www.fizzicseducation.com.au/) Science can be a difficult subject for many kids, but learning it shouldn’t be. Fizzics Education provides fun and entertaining live science classes via video conference so children can learn anytime, anywhere. The instructors are experts in their field and dedicated to making science learning an engaging experience. If you’re not keen on the subscription program, they have a huge library of resources for FREE, including science experiments, podcasts and STEM teaching articles. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Fizzics_banner_2020-1-scaled-1-1200x321.jpg "Fizzics_banner_2020-1-scaled - Beanstalk Mums")***Which part is free?** Free science resources (experiments, podcasts, trivia and articles) for students and teachers* ***Pros:** Fun video lessons, expert teachers, science parties* ***Cons:** Limited options for remote classes, frequent classes can get pricey* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want kids to love learning science and STEM subjects* ### [Exploratorium](https://www.exploratorium.edu/) Exploratorium is a science website and “public learning laboratory” from the museum of the same name in San Francisco, CA. All activities (videos, science experiments, hands-on activities, printables) are free to access and kids don’t need to register. Besides science and math, some of the content focus on art and history. Exploratorium has excellent resources for teachers to support home learning and make teaching fun. [![Explroatorium | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.exploratorium.edu/sites/default/files/feature_slides/Tinkering-at-home-1200x380.jpg)](https://www.exploratorium.edu/) ***Which part is free?** Everything* ***Pros:** Extensive library of interactive activities and science experiments* ***Cons:** Lessons are not in-depth, content designed to increase museum visitors* ***You will love this education platform if:** Your kids are science buffs who love going to museums.* ## Other Free Educational websites ### [Typing Club](https://www.typingclub.com/) The Typing Club is a free online education platform dedicated to teaching people how to touch type, whether you’re a kid or adult. Each lesson lets you practice until you reach mastery (five stars). We love that it takes only a few minutes each day for one to two weeks to become a pro touch typist. All you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Typing Club | Beanstalk Mums](https://static.typingclub.com/m/pub/images/tpc-dvorak.png)](https://www.typingclub.com/) ***Which part is free?** Everything!* ***Pros:** Spanish, French and German versions, interactive lessons, progress tracking* ***Cons:** When unsupervised, students may cheat by looking at the keyboard* ***You will love this education platform if:** You or your kids wants to learn or improve touch typing skills* ### [PEO.gov](https://peo.gov.au/) The Parliamentary Education Office (PEO) is a great website if you’re looking for supplementary civics and government e-learning resources. Book a free video conferencing program and connect students with experts in Parliament. The program explores how laws are made, the responsibilities of representatives, the formation of government and how government is kept accountable. Lessons are suited for years 5-10. [![PEO Online learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/PEO_law-federal.jpeg "PEO_law-federal - Beanstalk Mums")](https://peo.gov.au/) ***Which part is free?** Free video conferencing program, immersive learning, and outreach programs* ***Pros:** Excellent supplementary resources for students and teachers of civics and government* ***Cons:** Not designed as standalone lessons, subject can be dense and boring for younger kids* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want to introduce your kids to civics and government.* ### [Type Kids](https://www.typekids.com/) Type Kids is an adaptive touch typing tool designed specifically for kids. It’s like Typing Club but with a fun, kid friendly user interface, and entertaining games and badges. We love the fact that program learns from mistakes and adapts the exercises automatically to help kids with problem letters. It’s like a having a private touch typing tutor. [![Free Online Education Platforms | Type Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.5minutesformom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/TypeKids-Touch-Typing-for-Kids.png)](https://www.typekids.com/) ***Which part is free?** Try the first three lessons for free* ***Pros:** Touch typing tutor for kids, fun games and rewards, money back guarantee* ***Cons:** Complete course is pricey at $99.95* ***You will love this education platform if:** You want a kid-friendly touch typing program* ### [ABC Kids](https://www.abc.net.au/abckids/) Last but most definitely not least on our list of free educational websites for kids: Watch your favourite ABC Kids show from any mobile device with the ABC Kids app. Designed for preschool and younger school-aged viewers, it features shows like Bluey, Peppa Pig, Hey Duggee, Play School, ABC Kids Listen and more. Kids can also play games and download activities like colouring kits and party packs. The app is completely free, but expect the usual ads. [![ABC Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/McDO_hRI2uMpK5QeoYvsKGiILKdcZw4UXQHpd6JAvq9IUGAQ1pLXKd2yA7Ro_FqxXw4=w1192-h803-rw)](https://www.abc.net.au/abckids/) ***Which part is free?** Free Apple and Android app* ***Pros:** Lots of popular kids shows and programs, plus games and activities* ***Cons:** Doesn’t work without an internet connection* ***You will love this education platform if:** You have little kids and want quality educational entertainment.* ### [Solitaire](https://solitaired.com/) Another great option that provides education as well as enriching entertainment is Solitaired, the website features several of the most classic card games. Games such as Spades, Hearts, Yahtzee, and Solitaire are available online for free. Additionally, some of these games are equipped with educational decks that highlight notable achievements such as the Women’s Hall of Fame and Heroes of Space and Flight decks. [![Solitaire](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screenshot-2023-04-04-at-12.01.27-pm.png "Screenshot 2023-04-04 at 12.01.27 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://solitaired.com/) ***What part is free?** Both their website and app* ***Pros:** versatile library of popular card games* ***Cons:** can be challenging for children under 6* ***You will love this education platform if:** Your goal is to provide improved brain function, memory, and strategic skills* ![Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Free-online-education-3.png "Free online education - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-educational-websites/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/free-educational-websites/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** education, school, learning, pandemic, Coronavirus, home school, learn from home, covid --- ### [12 Online fitness programs you can do in your undies 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/) **Published:** March 2, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There are two things that make exercising hard. They are finding the time and getting motivated. Well, now there is a way to overcome both of these issues and get fit without leaving the house. Online fitness programs are flexible, self-paced and fun—no need for fancy gym gear, or the gym for that matter. By accessing online workout programs, you have access to a huge amount of resources for your own personal fitness journey, with professional (even famous) instructors from around the globe to motivate you. The only problem is, with so many choices available, how do you know which program is right for you? Here is a comprehensive list of the best online fitness programs, including all the fiddly details you need to know. ## 11 Online fitness programs you can do in your undies ### 1. Tone It Up [Tone It Up](https://www.toneitup.com/) is one of the top online fitness programs for women. It is available on iPhone and Android devices and on the Tone It Up website. The program features daily workout routines created by personal trainers to make you sweat and get the body you’ve always wanted. Each class is led by a fitness trainer, and subscribers have access to a supportive community of women to cheer them on and keep them motivated to reach their goals. ![Tone It Up | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/tone-it-up-31-day-challenge-workout-preview.jpg "tone-it-up-31-day-challenge-workout-preview - Beanstalk Mums") ***Cost of program:** Free with in-app purchases, $14.99/month* ***Available via:** iPhone, Android and Tone It Up website* ***Program highlight:** Multiple fitness programs (HIIT, yoga, barre, kickboxing, kettlebell, cardio, pregnancy workouts) at your fingertips* ***You’ll love this program if:** You’re easily bored and want variety in your daily fitness routine* ### 2. Body Groove Shake your booty and shed pounds with the super fun [Body Groove](https://www.bodygroove.com/) dance workout by Misty Tripoli. You don’t have to be a dancer either. Even beginners will love the 5-minute videos of easy dance moves that are personalised just for you. We love that it lets you change up the moves and make them your own so you don’t get bored or discouraged. Choose from over 100 routines, with no more repetitive workouts! If you love dancing or just want to have fun while getting leaner and stronger, Body Groove is the perfect program. ![Online fitness programs | Body Groove | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/EktRJk9kKHXUGNfKyfDFKX2xICSryEm2tyXhg-fcYg7V0LHCYHQ5P2mAEqMi-4ogwkQ=w1491-h794-rw) ***Cost of program:** Free with in-app purchases, $13.99/month or $99 a year* ***Available via:** iPhone, Android, Chromecast, Roku, FireTV* ***Program highlight:** Personalised dance workouts* ***You’ll love this program if:** Dancing is your favourite workout, or you just want to mix up your routine with something fun* ### 3. 28 BY SAM WOOD Fans of The *Bachelor Australia* know Sam for his way with the ladies, but did you know that he’s also a fitness professional? [28 by Sam Wood](https://28bysamwood.com/fitness-programs) is his lifelong dream come true, where he teaches people to live their best, healthiest life. His secret to complete body transformation is simple: move differently every day for 28 minutes, eat real food, have a support network and take regular breaks. Sam’s 20+ years of experience as a fitness trainer working with thousands of people shines through in this super accessible fitness and nutrition program. By signing up, you’ll have access to daily workouts, meal plans, expert advice and support from Sam himself, an amazing community, and more…and for only $2 a day (about $59/month). Even if you’re a busy mum, it’s so easy to squeeze the workout into your daily routine. We also love the free morning workouts for families and kids that are live-streamed on Facebook. Definitely check it out if you’re still on the fence about signing up. ![28 By Sam Wood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/logo.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Cost of program:** $59/month or $147/quarterly* ***Available via:** iPhone, Android and 28 by Sam Wood website* ***Program highlight:** Family-friendly workouts, customised workouts for different needs and fitness levels* ***You’ll love this program if:** You’re looking for a fitness and nutrition program for the whole family.* ***Additional Resource: [What’s the Difference Between Resistance Bands and Free Weights?](https://www.jaquishbiomedical.com/resistance-bands-vs-weights/)*** ### 4. Buf Girls (The Upbeat) We can see why Bondi-based [BUF Girls](https://www.theupbeat.fit/) is one of the top-rated online fitness programs in the country. Unlike other workouts, BUF Girls is the opposite of competitive. The community is incredibly welcoming and positive, with plenty of like-minded ladies ready to motivate and support you. The workouts are inclusive and open to people of all fitness levels, whether you’re a beginner or a regular gym goer. BUF Girls has you covered with workouts that include strength training, HIIT, yoga, yin yoga and boot camp. They also provide nutrition coaching. ![Online fitness programs | Buf Girls | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/5e155626d1d66c0aa399c8d7/1584224267153-9O5WWOVB1Z93BUO4MQJ4/TU-ShareImage.jpg?content-type=image%2Fjpeg) ***Cost of program:** Membership plans from $19/week to $69/week, Free scheduling app* ***Available via:** iPhone, Android and BUF Girls website* ***Program highlight:** Small training groups and supportive community* ***You’ll love this program if:** You hate competitive workouts and prefer a positive community of like-minded women to work out with* ### 5. Les Mills Up for a challenge? With 20,000 clubs and 140,000 instructors, [Les Mills](https://www.lesmills.com) has a program that fits you, whether you’re a newbie or a pro, and whether you love lifting or equipment-free workouts. Les Mills publishes 15-20 new workouts each month, so you don’t get tired of doing the same workouts over and over again. Fans also rave over the music played during every workout, with their special world-class fitness to music programming. Plans are easily customisable and reset every six weeks. [![Les Mills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/lesmills.png "lesmills - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.lesmills.com) ***Cost of program:** Free for 30 days, from $7.49 (50% on your first month)* ***Available via:** Fire TV, Apple TV, Xbox, Roku, Chromecast, Android TV* ***Program highlight:** 20+ programs with 2000+ workouts* ***You’ll love this program if:** You want science-based and challenging workouts that come with the best music in the industry* ### 6. obé Fitness Looking for accountability, empowerment, and results in one platform? Then, give [obé Fitness](https://obefitness.com) a try! Exercises are designed for all fitness levels, and may be upgraded by using equipment. Whether you want to build strength, get leaner, feel less stressed, or move consistently, they offer a variety of progressive programs and challenges. Choose from over 10,000 workouts and 20+ class types. Exercises range from low-impact to high-intensity. There’s an option for whatever your body craves. However, workouts are only available for those in Canada and the United States. [![Obe Fitness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/obe.png "obe - Beanstalk Mums")](https://obefitness.com) ***Cost of program:** $169.99 (billed annually) or $24.99 (billed monthly) with a 30-day free trial* ***Available via:** website, iOS app, Android app, Chromecast, Apple TV* ***Program highlight:** Daily live stream classes can be adjusted based on your time zone.* ***You’ll love this program if:** you want the ability to track your classes* ## Online exercise programs (cont.) ### 7. Body By Finch Burn calories and feel amazing with Body by Finch, an online fitness program designed to change the way you think about your body. The program focuses on health and longevity, with leading wellness experts teaching you how to regain confidence, love movement, and nourish your body and mind. They have cardio, strength training and flexibility routines that can be modified to suit your fitness level. Meal plans include paleo, vegetarian, gluten-free and pregnant/breastfeeding options. Body by Finch also helps you focus and achieve the right mindset with meditation exercises. ***Cost of program:** $24.95/month* ***Available via:** iPhone, Android and Body by Finch website* ***Program highlight:** All-in-one fitness program that helps you get fit and establish healthy habits* ***You’ll love this program if:** You are a worn-out* single mum, *or you want a wellness program to help with healing and regaining confidence* ### 8. 12WBT Michelle Bridges The popular [12WBT](https://www.12wbt.com/fitness) online fitness program by Michelle Bridges promises to transform how your body moves and feels in just 12 weeks. Upon sign-up, you get over 900 yummy recipes for easy meal planning, 6 different weight loss programs and mindset videos that help prepare your head and make it easier to maintain long-term results. You also get access to a supportive community. Fitness tracking is easy with the 12WBT iPhone app. We love that the workouts are easy to follow but challenging enough to keep you motivated. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Screenshot-2026-04-13-114858-1200x543.jpg "Screenshot 2026-04-13 114858 - Beanstalk Mums") ***Cost of program:** $19.99/week or $159 upfront payment* ***Available via:** iPhone and 12WBT website* ***Program highlight:** Exercise made easy with workout videos that transform your body in 12 weeks* ***You’ll love this program if:** You want an all-in-one body and mind transformation program* ## EXERCISE YOU CAN DO AT HOME (CONT.) ### 9. Franklin’s iBodyFit [Franklin’s iBodyFit](https://www.ibodyfit.com/signupform.php) is another top-rated fitness program that gives you custom workouts and access to a personal fitness trainer. Founded by Franklin Antoian, one of SHAPE Magazine’s Top 50 Trainers in America, iBodyFit is all about creating fitness and diet plans based on your goals, equipment and lifestyle. They offer multiple plans that start at $15. High-tier plans are a bit pricey, but they do come with hands-on customer service. For beginners, the starter plan ($49 for one month) is perfect and gives you a custom workout and diet based on the goals you entered when you signed up. ![Franklin's iBodyFit | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.ibodyfit.com/2015_images/corp/iBodyFit-Beach-Workout-5.png) ***Cost of program:** From $15 (premium trial) to $999 (VIP Plus 52 weeks)* ***Available via:** Franklin iBody website* ***Program highlight:** Customisable workouts that range from exercise videos to one-on-one coaching with a personal trainer* ***You’ll love this program if:** You want a flexible fitness program and the option to work with a personal trainer/health coach* ### 10. 8fit [8fit](https://8fit.com/) is an online fitness program that fits in your pocket. Think of it as your mobile personal trainer/lifestyle coach that’s available 24/7. 8fit markets itself as a “lifestyle change” and not a [diet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/)…the ultimate goal is to help people lose weight and keep it off whilst boosting confidence. The app itself is simple and easy to use with workout plans for all fitness levels, healthy personalised meals and progress tracking. Whether you want to drop a few pounds for beach season or your goal is long-term health and wellness, 8fit will help you get there. ![Online fitness programs | 8fit | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/CS5LdYLiEny7Y0irI2yBXzB_TutK2APRfilspLpkrX73QUX-9JxnaUdmg1wYEsg8vw=w1491-h794-rw) ***Cost of program:** Free with in-app purchases, Pro version $59.99*/year ***Available via:** iPhone, Android and 8fit website* ***Program highlight:** Health and fitness coach that fits in your pocket* ***You’ll love this program if:** You want an affordable, on-the-go fitness and lifestyle program* ### 11. Gixo (OpenFit) For people who avoid the gym and prefer at-home workouts, [Gixo (OpenFit)](https://www.gixo.com/) is a great online fitness program. It lets you join an online class taught by a certified fitness trainer. You can chat with your trainer, who personalises your exercise plan in real time, and you can join live workouts wherever you are. The classes range from 15 to 40 minutes in duration, and you can take them live or anytime (pre-recorded videos). Gixo Pro subscribers have access to unlimited workouts (cardio, strength training, HIIT, tabata and more) taught by live trainers and receive feedback/encouragement. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Screenshot-2026-01-16-at-1-08-06-pm-1200x517.jpg "Screenshot 2026-01-16 at 1 08 06 pm - Beanstalk Mums") ***Cost of program:** Free with in-app purchases, from $8 to $19/month* ***Available via:** iPhone and Android* ***Program highlight:** Workout with a live trainer at home, outdoors or anywhere* ***You’ll love this program if:** You want coaching from a certified personal trainer without leaving your home* ### 12. Sweat [![Sweat App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/sweat.png "sweat - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.sweat.com) Kayla Itsines’ [Sweat](https://www.sweat.com) app gained immense popularity in the media in the past few years. They’ve been featured in various TV shows, too. Choose from low impact, high intensity, pregnancy and post-pregnancy, HIIT, energy boost, zero equipment, lifting, boxing, barre, yoga, and much more. The app also has healthy and yummy recipes you that can complement your fitness journey. ***Cost of program:** $19.99 monthly after 7 days free trial or $119.94 billed annually* ***Available via:** iPhone and Android app* ***Program highlight:** Off the track complete fitness and lifestyle program* ***You’ll love this program if:** you want a myriad of options to exercise in the gym or at home* ## The benefits of exercising from home with online fitness programs Just in case you need some more convincing, here are five reasons why you should join an online fitness program. 1. **Convenience:** One of the most significant benefits of exercising at home is the convenience it provides. You don’t need to leave your house or deal with the hassle of going to a gym, making it easier to fit exercise into your busy schedule. 2. **Cost-effective:** Working out at home is often more cost-effective than paying for a gym membership or a personal trainer. You can find a wide variety of exercise routines and equipment online for free or at a lower cost than you would pay for a gym membership. 3. **Comfortable environment:** Home is a familiar and comfortable environment, which can help reduce stress and anxiety during your workout. You can wear what you like, listen to your favourite music, and work out at your own pace without feeling self-conscious. 4. **Flexibility:** When exercising at home, you have the flexibility to choose the time, duration, and type of workout that suits your needs. You can also modify the exercises to fit your fitness level and specific goals. 5. **Family-friendly:** Exercising at home is a great way to involve your family in your fitness routine. You can include your children or partner in your workout, making it a fun and healthy activity for everyone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** meditation, exercise, yoga, workout, cardio, toning --- ### [The 30-Minute Fitness Habit That Helps Busy Mums Feel Like Themselves Again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-30-minute-fitness-habit-that-helps-busy-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/) **Published:** March 24, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It’s ironic, really. Somewhere between the never-ending school pickups and the piles of laundry, the “you” that existed before kids can often become a distant memory. For many mums, identity often shifts into a purely functional role. We become the keepers of schedules and the finders of lost socks, while our own well-being gets pushed to the very bottom of the to-do list. However, the solution to regaining that feeling of self does not mean that you need to disappear for two hours of the day. In fact, one of the biggest obstacles we face is that fitness has to be this all-encompassing, hour-long activity. There is a stark contrast in the amount of time that parents have to devote to themselves, with mums struggling to fit in even a minute of ‘me time’, according to a survey by Belgravia Leisure. The reality is that a 30-minute “reset” habit (focusing on intentional movement, mobility, and strength) is often more effective than a marathon gym session you can only manage once a month. It’s not about weight loss but a reconnection with your own physical capability. ## **Why Short Workouts Work for Busy Parents** When life is chaotic, consistency is your best friend. Short workouts are inherently more “sticky” because they fit into the cracks of a real, messy life. You’re far more likely to stick to a plan when you know it’s over in half an hour. In addition to the convenience factor, the physiological advantages are enormous. The statistics from the American Psychological Association emphasise the benefits of [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/ "exercise") in stress relief and the ability to boost mood and enhance mental resilience against the pressures of everyday life. The benefits of moderate strength training are enormous to your health. According to Harvard Health, strength training has a profound effect on your body by increasing more than muscle mass. It helps to improve metabolic function and decrease inflammation. By opting for shorter and more effective workouts, you are focusing on your cardiovascular system without reaching the point of exhaustion. ### **The Science Behind “Exercise Snacks”** You may have heard the term *“exercise snacks”* being used recently. This is a quick burst of activity that adds up throughout the week. Research published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine suggests that taking smaller “doses” of exercise can result in significant improvements to health. This method helps to create a sustainable habit by eliminating the “all or nothing” attitude that can cause people to quit. ![11 Online fitness programs | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Exercise-at-home.jpg "11 Online fitness programs | Beanstalk Single Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **A Simple 30-Minute Routine Busy Mums Can Follow** If you have 30 minutes, you can do a complete session. The idea here is balance. We want to reach aerobic health, functional strength, and the type of mobility that prevents your back from hurting after a day of lifting toddlers or sitting at a desk. ### **1. Five Minutes: Warm-Up and Mobility** You never want to skip the beginning. Spending five minutes on dynamic stretching, such as arm circles, leg swings, or “cat-cow” stretches, gets your central nervous system going. As the World Health Organisation (WHO) recommends in its guidelines on physical activity, proper preparation of the body is key to muscle readiness. It’s about telling your brain that you are doing something for yourself now, while also reducing the risk of those annoying “cold muscle” tweaks. ### **2. Twenty Minutes: Strength-Focused Movement** This is where the “meat” is. Emphasise strength movements. These are movements that use multiple joints and muscle groups simultaneously. This means squats, lunges, push-ups (on your knees if you have to), and rows using a band or weights. Since this type of movement is similar to real-life movements, this will definitely improve your posture and your energy level. Experts from Harvard Health recommend that even just two or three strength movements per week will definitely improve your bone density and functional power. This is exactly what your growing kids need. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-rdne-7240203-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-7240203 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **3. Five Minutes: Cool-Down and Reset** Use the final five minutes to bring your heart rate down and stretch out. This isn’t just for your muscles; it’s a mental transition. It helps prevent that post-exercise dizziness and allows you to walk back into your “mum role” feeling calm rather than rushed. ## **Why Movement Helps Mums Feel Like Themselves Again** intentionally. It is a contained act of personal time on an otherwise reactive day. When you feel physically strong, that translates into a psychological feeling of resilience as well. ### **Reclaiming Energy and Identity** Fitness is a brilliant tool for rebuilding identity. When we have major changes in our lives, like having a baby or going back to work, we don’t trust our physical capabilities. Showing up for 30 minutes each day is a way of building that trust. It is a way of saying to yourself that you are valuable enough to give yourself this time. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339643-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339643 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **When a Structured Training Environment Can Help** Though our personal journey may have started at home, like in our living room, there will come a time when the change of environment will make all the difference. For people who need guidance or have access to specific types of equipment, going to a [**Chatswood gym**](https://www.fit.com.au) will prove to be beneficial in order to ensure consistency in the 30-minute sessions. There will come a time when the mental pressure of what type of exercise to do will become overwhelming. In the professional setting, the plan has already been done for you. Having the guidance of an expert or being around people who have the same goals in mind will make all the difference when days come when motivation to do the 30-minute sessions will not be present. ## **Making the 30-Minute Habit Sustainable** To make this sustainable in the long term, stop thinking of your exercise routine as something optional. Start thinking of it as an appointment with your doctor and schedule it in your phone calendar. To be more realistic and humane, schedule it three or four times a week, instead of exercising every day. This will help you avoid overtraining. ### **Small Wins Build Long-Term Habits** Instead of weighing yourself, track your progress based on how you feel. Do you feel like you’re not as puffed walking up the stairs? Do you feel like your moods are more even in the afternoons? It is by recognising these small victories, also known as “non-scale victories,” that you can turn your short-term fitness obsession into a long-term lifestyle. ## **The Power of Showing Up for Yourself** The reality is, at the end of the day, exercise doesn’t have to be extreme in order to be life-changing. You don’t have to be away from your family for hours in order to feel like “you” again. All it takes is a simple, focused 30-minute routine to bring back your energy, your mental clarity, and build a body that feels strong enough. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s the starting point that allows you to show up better for everyone else. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-30-minute-fitness-habit-that-helps-busy-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-30-minute-fitness-habit-that-helps-busy-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Can AI Characters Help Single Mums Feel Ready for Dating Again?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/can-ai-characters-help-single-mums-feel-ready-for-dating-again/) **Published:** April 11, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Dating after a breakup is awkward enough. Dating after a serious relationship, kids, emotional burnout and years spent in survival mode is something else entirely. Many single mums do not return to dating feeling confident or excited. They come back exhausted, cautious and unsure what they even want. Maybe they miss feeling desired. Maybe they want connection, confidence, or simply proof that there is still a version of themselves beyond stress, routine and disappointment. That is why an interesting question has started to emerge: can AI characters help single mums feel ready to date again? Not replace dating. Not to become the end goal. Just offer a gentle, low-pressure space to reconnect with the parts of themselves that have been buried under heartbreak, motherhood and self-protection. Surprisingly, for some women, the answer may be yes. It can quietly remind them they are still interesting, attractive and emotionally open to something new. ## Why dating after survival mode feels different One of the least talked-about parts of single motherhood is how easily your romantic side can quietly disappear. You are making lunches, paying bills, answering school emails, working, holding everything together, and maybe healing from something painful, too. Desire gets pushed aside. So does playfulness and curiosity. You become efficient. Capable. Hard to impress. Great at carrying the load. That may help you survive, but it does not leave much room for romance. Then one day, people say, “You should get back out there.” Back where, exactly? Apps? Awful. Small talk? Exhausting. Random “hey” messages? Spiritually bleak. For many single mums, the hard part is not finding someone attractive. It is finding the energy to start again when life already feels full. ## How AI characters create a low-pressure space ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Fpbftumgxavisn2qefswrfjhwy35pbrhbbmcigfp-1-527x800.jpg "Fpbftumgxavisn2qefswrfjhwy35pbrhbbmcigfp - Beanstalk Mums") That is where AI characters get interesting. They take away a lot of the pressure that comes with dating again. No babysitter. No outfit stress. No awkward dinner or having to explain your whole life story to someone who has not earned it yet. Instead, there is a private space to explore conversation, attention, chemistry, and even flirting without the usual risk. For a lot of women, the first step is not dating. It is thawing. Remembering what it feels like to be noticed, to enjoy charm again and to work out what kind of energy actually feels good now. That is where AI may help more than people expect. ## Using AI as a rehearsal space A private digital interaction can become a kind of rehearsal space. Not for pretending life is a movie, but for noticing your own reactions. Do you still enjoy teasing banter? Do you prefer softness now over intensity? Do you want confidence without aggression? Do you miss being pursued, or do you feel safer when you set the pace? These things can be easier to explore in a low-stakes environment than on a real date, where you are also worrying about timing, safety, texting etiquette, and whether your ex is going to message about pickup changes suddenly. There is also a confidence piece here that should not be dismissed. After a breakup or divorce, especially one that involves rejection, neglect, betrayal, or plain years of feeling invisible, many women are not only hesitant about dating. They are unsure of their own desirability. That word sounds shallow, but it is not. Feeling desirable is not just about vanity. It is about feeling alive in your own body again. Interesting. Magnetic. Open. It is very difficult to date well when you feel emotionally flat and half-disconnected from yourself. ![Online dating mistakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Online-dating-mistakes.jpg "Online dating mistakes - Beanstalk Mums") Sometimes people recover through friendships, therapy, travel, style changes, or time. Sometimes they recover it through private digital spaces where they can safely experiment with attraction again. A tool like [Joi](https://joi.com/generate/character "Joi") fits into that conversation because it offers a customizable, private environment where fantasy, personality preferences, and emotional tone can be explored on your own terms. ## AI is not the answer — but it can be a bridge That does not mean every single mum should be doing this. It does not mean AI is the answer to heartbreak. It definitely does not mean a generated character is somehow equivalent to real intimacy. But it may serve a purpose that real-world dating often fails to serve in the early stages: it lets someone ease back into romantic energy without immediately exposing themselves to disappointment. That is not trivial. That is often exactly what people need. Of course, there are limits. If AI characters become a permanent substitute for real connections, that is a different story. If someone starts preferring total control over the unpredictability of actual people, things can get murkier. Real relationships are messy. They require patience, compromise, emotional tolerance, and the ability to deal with someone who does not always say the right thing at the right time. A digital character can be customised. A real person cannot. That difference matters. ## The real beginning of dating again: the first flicker There is a huge middle ground between total replacement and total dismissal, and that is where this conversation becomes useful. Think of it less as “choosing AI over men” and more as “using a low-pressure space to rebuild confidence before dating men again.” That framing is far more realistic. Many women are not looking for a digital forever-person. They are looking for a bridge. Something that helps them move from numbness to curiosity, from guardedness to experimentation, from pure self-protection to selective openness. And bridges are underrated. So much of adult dating advice is weirdly performative. Be confident. Know your worth. Put yourself out there. Stay open. Trust the process. Most of this advice ignores how hard it is to feel spontaneous when you have been through real life. Especially when children are involved. Especially when your time is limited, and your emotional bandwidth is precious. Single mums do not need more pressure to become polished, carefree daters overnight. They need safer ways to reconnect with themselves. ![dating apps beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/dating-apps-beginners.jpg "dating apps beginners - Beanstalk Mums") That may mean therapy. It may mean a year off dating. It may mean one good lipstick and a better group chat. It may mean learning how to flirt again in private before doing it in public. It may even mean exploring AI characters, not because real life has failed, but because real life is complicated and people recover in stages. That is the part that matters most: in stages. Not every woman goes from heartbreak to healthy romance in one dramatic leap. Sometimes the path is much smaller and stranger than that. A little confidence returns. A little humour. A little sense of preference. A little spark. Enough to think, maybe I do want to be met by someone again. Maybe I am not done with this part of myself. If AI characters can help some [single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-single-mothers-how-to-build-healthy-respectful-relationships/ "single mums") reach that point, then the question is not whether it looks unconventional from the outside. The question is whether it helps them feel more like themselves on the inside. And for many women, after years of giving, coping, holding everything together, and becoming functional at the expense of softness, that might be the real beginning of dating again. Not the first date. The first flicker. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/can-ai-characters-help-single-mums-feel-ready-for-dating-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/can-ai-characters-help-single-mums-feel-ready-for-dating-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [How to Feel Like Yourself Again: Simple Style and Self-Care Habits for Busy Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/simple-style-and-self-care-habits-for-busy-mums/) **Published:** April 10, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You know that moment when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror at school pickup and think, “Oh. Is that what I look like today?” No judgement. We have all been there. There is something about the relentless pace of a mum’s life that quietly chips away at the little things you used to do for yourself. The haircare routine that took fifteen minutes but made you feel human. The accessories you used to wear without thinking. The handbag that carried your things and somehow also carried your sense of self. It is not vanity. It is about feeling like a whole person on top of being a mum. The good news is that you do not need a full lifestyle overhaul or a spare hour you definitely do not have. Small, consistent habits can genuinely shift how you feel every single day. ## **Why Self-Care Matters for Confidence** Here is something worth saying out loud: taking care of yourself is not selfish. It actually makes you a better mum, not in a clichéd way, but in a real and practical sense. When you feel reasonably put together, you feel more confident. When you feel more confident, you are calmer, more patient and more present with your kids. Self-care for busy mums is not about bubble baths and spa days, although those are lovely if you can manage them. It is about the small daily habits that tell your brain you matter too. And the thing is, most of these habits take less time than you think. You just need to make them feel non-negotiable. The way the school runs is non-negotiable. For more ideas on how to build sustainable [self-care habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/) into a busy life, there is a wealth of practical advice from women who genuinely get it. ## **Quick Beauty and Haircare Habits** Your hair is often the first thing to suffer when you are running on empty. Dry shampoo becomes a personality trait. Ponytails are on heavy rotation. And the idea of actually washing and styling your hair feels like a whole project you cannot fit in. The trick is not to overhaul your routine. It is to make a smaller routine genuinely enjoyable so you actually do it. Start with one good product that does the heavy lifting for you. A quality hair oil or treatment makes a noticeable difference to how your hair looks and feels, even when it is not freshly washed. Applied to the ends before bed or after a quick blow dry, it takes sixty seconds and makes your hair look intentional rather than neglected. If you have not tried [Moroccanoil](https://beautyworks.com.au/brands/moroccanoil/) products before, they are worth looking at. The range includes lightweight oils and treatments designed for everyday use, making them a practical addition to a low-effort routine. A few other habits that help: sleeping with a silk pillowcase to reduce frizz overnight, keeping a good dry shampoo in the bathroom and on your bedside table, and allowing yourself to keep your haircut simple enough to maintain without effort. The goal is hair that looks deliberate, not hair that looks like a masterpiece. That is achievable in five minutes, and it genuinely changes how you feel heading out the door. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-7-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Practical Style for Everyday Life** Getting dressed as a mum is often a puzzle that has no perfect solution. You need to be able to move, manage kids, potentially work, and still feel like an adult human being in the same outfit. The answer is not necessarily a full wardrobe reset. It is more about understanding what actually works for your body and your life right now, and investing in a few pieces that pull their weight every time you wear them. A good rule of thumb: focus on fit over brand and comfort over trend. One area where it is worth spending a bit more is your bag. As a mum, your bag is doing serious work. It carries your phone, your wallet, your kid’s snacks, a rogue toy, your sunglasses and everything else life throws at you on a Tuesday morning. A bag that is well-made, thoughtfully designed and big enough to actually be useful changes your daily experience in a small but real way. Browsing through [women’s hand bags](https://au.louisvuitton.com/eng-au/women/handbags/all-handbags/_/N-tfr7qdp) at different price points and styles is a good way to figure out what you actually want from a bag beyond just capacity. Think about how you carry things, whether you prefer a shoulder bag, a tote or something more structured, and what material suits your lifestyle. A bag that works hard and still looks good is one of the few everyday items that genuinely upgrades how put-together you feel without any effort on your part. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-1-1-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Small Details That Boost Confidence** Once you have sorted the basics, it is the small things that finish a look and lift your mood. You do not need to be a jewellery person to benefit from wearing a simple piece or two. A pair of gold earrings, a delicate ring, or a fine bracelet can make a casual outfit feel considered without adding any extra effort to your morning. Jewellery has this quiet way of making you feel like yourself. It is the kind of detail that you might barely notice until you are not wearing it, and then you wonder why you feel slightly off. If you are in Melbourne and thinking about adding a few new pieces to your collection, it is worth taking some time to look at quality over quantity. A single well-made ring or necklace that you wear every day is worth far more than a drawer full of things you never reach for. For those in the inner south-east, exploring [jewellery in Armadale Melbourne](https://www.hollowaydiamonds.com.au/armadale/) is a good starting point, particularly if you are looking for something classic and lasting rather than trend-driven. The key is choosing pieces that feel like you, not pieces that feel like you are making an effort. The best accessories disappear into your day while quietly doing their job. ## **Conclusion** Feeling good as a mum does not require a major transformation or a generous budget. It requires a few small, consistent habits that remind you that you exist outside of the school run and the laundry. Do something simple for your hair each morning. Find a bag that genuinely works for your life. Wear one piece of jewellery that makes you feel like yourself. None of this is frivolous. It is a practical, quiet form of self-respect that keeps you feeling like a person, not just a parent. And honestly? Your kids notice when you feel good. Happy mum energy is contagious in the best possible way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/simple-style-and-self-care-habits-for-busy-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/simple-style-and-self-care-habits-for-busy-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [What to Eat Before and After a Workout: An Australian Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/what-to-eat-before-and-after-a-workout-an-australian-guide/) **Published:** April 8, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** [Getting your training right](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-women-can-build-strength-confidence-and-a-sculpted-physique/) is only half the equation. What you eat around your sessions has a direct impact on how you perform, how quickly you recover, and how consistently you can train week after week. Yet for most people, workout nutrition is still an afterthought. This guide breaks down what to eat before and after exercise, how long to time your meals, and which foods actually deliver results versus which ones just sound good on a label. ## **Why Pre and Post-Workout Nutrition Matters** Your body runs on fuel. Before a session, the right food gives your muscles available energy to draw from and delays the point at which fatigue kicks in. After a session, nutrition shifts to a different job: repairing muscle tissue, restoring glycogen, and reducing inflammation so your body is ready to go again. Getting this wrong consistently leads to slower progress, longer recovery times, and a higher chance of burnout or injury. The good news is that the fundamentals are not complicated once you know what to focus on. ## **What to Eat Before a Workout** The goal of a pre-workout meal is to top up energy without sitting heavily in your stomach. You want carbohydrates for fast-available fuel, a moderate amount of protein to reduce muscle breakdown during training, and minimal fat and fibre, which slow digestion and can cause discomfort mid-session. Good pre-workout options include oats with banana and a small serve of yoghurt, whole grain toast with peanut butter, or a rice cake with honey eaten closer to training time. Timing matters here. A larger meal should be eaten two to three hours before training. A lighter snack can be consumed 30 to 60 minutes before if needed. Hydration is equally important and often overlooked. Aim to drink 400 to 600 ml of water in the two hours leading up to your session and sip consistently throughout. ## **What to Eat After a Workout** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-1-4-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Post-workout nutrition has a narrower window than most people realise. Within 30 to 60 minutes of finishing, your muscles are primed to absorb nutrients and begin the repair process. This is when protein and carbohydrates do their most effective work. Protein is the priority. It provides the amino acids needed to repair muscle fibres broken down during exercise. Many Australians turn to supplementation here because whole food sources are not always practical straight after training. Choosing [clean protein powder in Australia](https://bearwell.com.au/collections/protein-powder) that uses quality ingredients without artificial sweeteners or unnecessary additives means you are supporting recovery without compromising on what goes into your body. Pair your protein with a source of carbohydrates to restore glycogen levels. Good options include a banana, a serving of rice, or a smoothie with fruit. The combination of protein and carbs after training has consistently shown better recovery outcomes than protein alone. ## **Balancing Macros Throughout the Day** Post-workout nutrition does not end with your recovery meal. How you eat across the rest of the day matters just as much, particularly if you are training more than three times per week or working towards a specific body composition goal. Protein should be distributed across meals rather than loaded into one sitting. Research suggests the body can only synthesise a limited amount of protein per meal for muscle building purposes, making consistent intake across breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks more effective than a single high-protein meal at the end of the day. Carbohydrates should reflect your training load. On harder training days, increase your intake. On rest days or lighter sessions, moderate it. Fat plays an important role in hormone production and joint health, so do not eliminate it entirely in favour of leaner macros. ## **Whole Food Protein Sources Worth Including** Supplements are a useful tool, but they work best alongside a diet built on whole food sources. Eggs, legumes, tofu, tempeh, Greek yoghurt, cottage cheese, canned fish, and lean meats all provide quality protein with additional micronutrients that processed supplements do not replicate. Quinoa and edamame are two plant-based options worth keeping on rotation. Both are complete proteins, meaning they contain all nine essential amino acids, which is less common in plant foods and makes them particularly useful for vegetarians and vegans managing their intake carefully. Nuts and seeds round out this category well. They combine protein with healthy fats and minerals that support energy metabolism and muscle function, making them a practical everyday option rather than just a gym-day food. ## **The Case for Hemp Seeds** One whole food protein source that has gained genuine traction in the Australian health food space is hemp seeds. Soft and mild in flavour, they are easy to add to meals without changing the taste of what you are eating. Three tablespoons of hemp seeds deliver around 10 grams of protein along with omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids in a ratio that supports inflammation management, which is directly relevant to exercise recovery. They also provide magnesium, iron, and zinc, nutrients commonly depleted through sweat and physical output. Sourcing quality matters with hemp. Opting for [hemp seeds in Australia](https://vassevalley.com.au/products/raw-hemp-hearts) from a reputable local supplier ensures the product is fresh, minimally processed, and free from contaminants that can affect the nutritional profile of raw seeds. They work well stirred into porridge, blended into smoothies, scattered over salads, or mixed into a post-workout yoghurt bowl. Unlike many health foods that require significant meal prep to incorporate, hemp seeds fit into existing eating habits without much effort. ## **Practical Tips to Make Workout Nutrition Consistent** Knowing what to eat is only useful if it is actually achievable within your daily routine. A few simple habits help turn good intentions into consistent practice. Prepare your post-workout meal or snack before you train so it is ready when you finish. Keep protein sources visible and accessible in your fridge. Batch cook grains and legumes at the start of the week. And treat hydration as part of your training routine, not something you remember only when you feel thirsty. Small, consistent habits compound over time. When your nutrition supports your training reliably, the results show up faster and last longer than any short-term overhaul. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/what-to-eat-before-and-after-a-workout-an-australian-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/what-to-eat-before-and-after-a-workout-an-australian-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [A Practical 90-Day Reset After Separation for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/a-practical-90-day-reset-after-separation/) **Published:** April 8, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Look, you didn’t plan for a breakup. No one puts “restructure my entire life” on their vision board next to “Mediterranean holiday.” But if you’re reading this, you’re likely in the thick of it—the stage where school lunches, mounting bills, and legal jargon are all screaming for your attention at once. The mums who navigate this best aren’t superheroes; they just don’t try to fix everything in a weekend. They work in stages. Over the next 90 days, we’re going to steady the basics: safety, money, parenting, and housing. Once the dust settles, then we can look at the fun stuff—like turning your space into a sanctuary. ## The First 14 Days: The “Triage” Phase The first two weeks are about the protection of your safety, your rights, and your sanity. ### 1. Safety and Digital Security If there’s any risk to you or the kids, call 000 immediately. For the digital side, change your passwords, turn on bank alerts, and set a “code word” with a trusted mate. In Queensland, if you’re renting and dealing with domestic violence, you can use RTA Form 20 to end your interest in a tenancy quickly and change the locks for safety. ### 2. Secure Legal Timelines In Australia, the clock is ticking. Generally, property and financial proceedings must start within 12 months of a divorce or 2 years of a de facto breakdown. Don’t wait until day 364 to get advice. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-7.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") If you’re based in Far North Queensland, navigating the local court system can feel like trekking through the Daintree without a map. Getting a handle on [family law Cairns](https://cairns-divorce-lawyers.com.au) early on—specifically regarding parenting orders and property settlement deadlines—can save you a world of stress (and cash) later. ### 3. Stabilise the Cash Open a bank account in your name only. Redirect your wages and update your myGov account. Your immediate goal? A $1,000 “starter” emergency fund. It’s not much, but it’s a buffer between you and a crisis. ## Days 15 to 60: Care, Cash, and Calendar ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-8.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Now that you’re not in “active fire” mode, it’s time to build the framework. ### Setting the Parenting Groundwork Decide if you need a Parenting Plan (flexible, written agreement) or Consent Orders (legally binding court orders). If communication is strained, keep it “Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm” (BIFF). Short, factual texts are your best friend. ### Lock in Your Entitlements ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-5.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") - **Child Support:** Don’t rely on pinky-swears. Get a formal assessment from Services Australia. Choose “Child Support Collect” if payments are shaky or “Private Collect” if you’re both on good terms. - **Family Benefits:** Check your eligibility for Family Tax Benefit Part B and the Child Care Subsidy. *Note**:** From January 2026, the “3 Day Guarantee” provides eligible families with at least three days of subsidised care per week.* ### Know Your Work Rights You’re entitled to 10 days of paid family and domestic violence leave each year under the National Employment Standards. You can also request flexible work arrangements if you’re caring for school-aged kids. If your boss says no, get it in writing—you might need it for the Fair Work Commission. ## Days 61 to 90: Rebuilding the Routine By now, the “new normal” is starting to take shape. This month is about tightening the budget and building a support squad. ### The 50/30/20 Reset Try this simple budget: - **50%** for Needs (rent/mortgage, groceries, utilities). - **30%** for Wants (coffee, Netflix, that occasional Kmart run). - **20%** for Savings or Debt. If things are tight, push more into the “Needs” pile. The goal is clarity, not perfection. ### Build Your Care Network List your “Emergency Five”: 1. Two trusted school parents. 2. An after-hours GP. 3. A backup sitter. 4. A reliable legal contact. ## From Surviving to Thriving: The Home Glow-Up ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-9.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Once your parenting arrangements are settled and your income is steady, you can finally look at your surroundings. Changing your space is a powerful way to reclaim your life. ### When to Renovate Only start a project if you have a steady income and at least three months of bills paid on time. If your property settlement is still in dispute, wait. You don’t want to sink cash into a home you might not keep. ### Check Your Builder’s Credentials In Queensland, the QBCC (Queensland Building and Construction Commission) is your best friend. Any residential work over $3,300 must be covered by the Queensland Home Warranty Scheme. Always: - Run a QBCC licence search. - Get a fixed-price contract. - Ensure insurance is in place *before* work starts. ### Local Expert Support If you’re ready to transform your space in the Far North, look for teams that handle the heavy lifting for you. Managing school runs and work is hard enough without playing project manager for five different trades. Exploring reputable [Cairns home renovations services](https://cairnsqualityhomes.com.au/full-house-renovation) can provide a single point of contact to ensure your laundry flow, bedroom layouts, or secure fencing are handled with zero drama. ## Tracking Progress ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Image-10.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Progress isn’t always a straight line. Once a month, do a quick “Stability Check”: - **Safety:** Do I feel secure? - **Legal:** Are my deadlines in the calendar? - **Money:** Are the bills paid? - **Self:** Have I taken five minutes for myself today? You don’t need a perfect 10-year plan. You just need the next right step. Pick one task—maybe it’s checking that legal deadline or opening that new account—and do it today. You’ve got this. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/a-practical-90-day-reset-after-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/a-practical-90-day-reset-after-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation --- ### [Camping with kids: How to avoid disaster and have a great time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/camping-with-kids/) **Published:** April 5, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Camping with kids is a brilliant way for your family to spend quality bonding time with each other. Aside from being an affordable short getaway, camping is a great way to instil your kids with quality life skills and lessons. It is also a chance to disconnect and experience a much simpler lifestyle. In this article, we look at how you can introduce your kids to camping for the first time and make your trip a huge success. ***Further reading: [How to prepare for a long car ride with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/long-car-ride-kids/)*** ## Have the right camping equipment When it comes to camping, nothing is more important than having the right equipment. Some essential items to bring include a [sturdy tent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-tent/) that can withstand any weather conditions, warm sleeping bags, a portable stove for cooking meals, and a first aid kit in case of any emergencies. Be sure to check the weather and bring appropriate clothing, including rain gear, hats, and warm layers. You’ll also want to bring activities and games to keep the kids entertained during downtime. ## Focus On Sleep One of the most crucial aspects of camping with kids is ensuring that they get a quality night of rest. Everyone is happier after a good night’s sleep! This means bringing along blow-up mattresses if necessary, along with comfortable sleeping bags, pillows, blankets and anything else your children may need to fall asleep easily. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Pexels-kampus-6482318-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-kampus-6482318 - Beanstalk Mums") Sleeping in a new environment may be a little intimidating to your little ones. Ensure the experience is as calm and comfortable as possible. Don’t forget bedtime stories, crucial comforters and soft toys for younger children. A good night of sleep is also essential to get everyone ready for the next day’s activities. Plus, if the kids sleep well, so does mum, and if mum’s in a good mood, everything is OK! ## Stay Close To Home For your first family camping trip, you needn’t head out into the wilderness. You can stay as close to home as possible to ease your children into camping life. One of the best ways to do this is to pitch a tent in your own backyard! A cosy night in the backyard with songs, games, activities and toasted marshmallows will be a dream for the kids. It will also be a dream for mum since you don’t have to suss out an appropriate camping site, and you have a real toilet. Practising setting up a tarp or pitching a tent in your backyard is also a fantastic way to get your children familiarised with all things camping-related, in the privacy and safety of your own home. We don’t know a single child who wouldn’t jump for joy at the chance to rough it out in their very own backyard. It will be like a [sleepover party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/survive-sleepover-party/) under the stars. Camping with kids has never been so easy. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Pexels-hanuman-photo-studio-564865561-17751977-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-hanuman-photo-studio-564865561-17751977 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Plan A Simple ‘camping with kids’ Menu Planning a simple menu with [easy meals when camping with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-meals-when-camping-kids/) is a game-changer. Some easy favourites are toasted marshmallows, energy bars, campfire pizzas and grilled cheese sandwiches. Always ensure to keep foods cold until you are ready to cook, especially if you’re serving cheese, meat or any other perishable. Be sure to get the kids’ opinions on what foods they’d enjoy on the trip. This will make them feel involved and avoid any potential tantrums that may dampen the mood. Camping with kids will be a success if you have the right fuel to keep them full of energy and in a good mood. ## Book A Campsite If you are feeling adventurous and looking to light a campfire somewhere other than your own backyard, [booking a campsite](https://parks.des.qld.gov.au/) in advance is essential. Some things to factor in when choosing an appropriate site are how far away it is and if your children will be able to endure the duration of the ride. As well as the facilities, the site will provide. Choose a site that isn’t too far from home for your first camping trip. Keep things easy and to get the kids into the groove of camping. Slow and steady wins the race! ## Conclusion: Camping with kids Camping is a truly wonderful experience that broadens children’s horizons and can help you bond with your kids on a deeper level. Some of the happiest memories are made on camping trips. So, grab the tent, take a few deep breaths and give it a go. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/camping-with-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/camping-with-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Travel **Tags:** camping equipment, campsites, camping food, holiday, break --- ### [The dos and don’ts when remarrying after divorce in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-dos-and-donts-when-remarrying-after-divorce-in-australia/) **Published:** April 2, 2026 **Author:** Sarah Gadallah **Content:** Remarrying after a divorce is a significant and often joyful new chapter in one’s life. However, navigating the legal and administrative landscape of a second marriage in Australia requires careful consideration. It is important to know that there are legal timeframes and administrative hurdles that must be respected. Overlooking these critical requirements can lead to serious consequences. This guide outlines the essential dos and don’ts of remarrying after divorce in Australia, ensuring your new beginning is built on a solid legal foundation. ## DO: Understand the legal timeframes The first and most critical rule of remarrying in Australia is to respect the “1 month and 1 day” requirement. Under Australian law, a person cannot legally remarry until this period has elapsed from the date the divorce order is issued. This specific timeframe is not an arbitrary rule; it exists to allow for any potential appeals to the divorce order. While a divorce order is typically granted at a divorce hearing, it does not become legally “final” until this waiting period has passed. ## DON’T: Plan your wedding based on assumptions Don’t make the mistake of booking a wedding and making irreversible plans based on an estimated divorce timeline. While a divorce application generally takes three to four months to process, this is not a guarantee. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-thngocbich-760710-1200x798.jpg "Pexels-thngocbich-760710 - Beanstalk Mums") Numerous factors can cause delays that are entirely outside of your control. Planning your wedding down to the wire and risking a clash with the legal waiting period can result in the loss of significant deposits and a great deal of unnecessary stress. It is far wiser to wait until the divorce order has been formally granted and the one-month and one-day waiting period has passed before finalising any wedding arrangements. ## DO: Prepare for potential delays Understanding what can delay a divorce proceeding is crucial for realistic planning. These “derailers” are designed to ensure the legal process is fair and thorough. If you have made a sole application for divorce, you must formally serve the other party with the application. The other party then has 28 days to respond if they are in Australia, or 42 days if they are overseas. An uncooperative or acrimonious relationship can lead to complications in this step, potentially delaying the process. A joint application, where both parties agree to the divorce, can be a smoother and faster path. The court’s paramount concern is the welfare of any children under 18 from the marriage. The court will not grant a divorce order unless it is satisfied that proper arrangements for the children’s care and financial support have been made. Any doubts regarding these arrangements will cause a court to delay or even refuse the divorce until the issues are resolved. If your marriage was for less than two years, the court requires a certificate confirming that you have attended marriage counselling. This is a mandatory step that must be completed before the court will hear the divorce application. ![What is legal aid and can I get it for my family law case? | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Legal-Aid-1-1200x630.jpg "What is legal aid and can I get it for my family law case? | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## DO: Understand the legal status of overseas marriages If your previous marriage was conducted overseas, you must understand whether it is legally recognised in Australia. A foreign marriage is recognised here if: 1. It was officially recognised and recorded in the country where it took place. 2. Both parties were over 18 years of age at the time of the marriage. 3. Neither party was married to another person at the time. If your overseas marriage meets these criteria, it is considered valid in Australia, and you must formally obtain an Australian divorce order to legally remarry. If the marriage does not meet these criteria, it is not recognised under Australian law, and therefore, you are not considered married and do not need a divorce to remarry. ## DON’T: Try to bypass the law by marrying overseas While the idea of a spontaneous overseas wedding to circumvent Australian legal timeframes might sound romantic, it is not a viable or legal solution. Every country has its own requirements for solemnising a marriage, and most will require proof that there is “no impediment” to the marriage. A key document for Australians marrying overseas is a Certificate of No Impediment to Marriage (CNI), which is issued by the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade (DFAT) and confirms that you are legally free to marry. Attempting to marry overseas without the necessary documentation could leave you in a legal limbo and, in the worst-case scenario, lead to the crime of bigamy. ## DO: Revisit your estate planning A crucial consideration that is often overlooked is the impact of divorce on your estate planning. In Australia, a divorce order automatically revokes any existing will you may have, unless it was made “in contemplation of divorce.” ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Family-lawyers.jpg "Family lawyers - Beanstalk Mums") This means that after a divorce, you are effectively without a will, and your estate would be distributed according to the rules of intestacy. To protect your assets and ensure they are distributed according to your wishes, you should create a new will immediately after your divorce. Likewise, after remarrying, you should update your will again to reflect your new marital status and provide for your new spouse and family. ## DON’T: Risk the crime of bigamy The act of marrying another person while still legally married to your first spouse is a serious crime known as bigamy. In New South Wales, the maximum penalty for a conviction of bigamy is a prison term of up to five to seven years. It is a strict liability offence, and ignorance of the law is not a defence. It is also important to note that a person who knowingly marries someone who is already married is also guilty of a crime. This highlights the absolute importance of ensuring your divorce order is final and the one-month and one-day waiting period has passed before you enter into a new marriage. ## Key takeaways Remarrying after a [divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/) must be approached with patience and a clear understanding of the legal requirements. Ensure your paperwork is in order by consulting divorce and remarriage experts from [Owen Hodge Lawyers](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/). By considering all factors, you can protect yourself and your loved ones from future complications. Ultimately, a new beginning built on a foundation of legal compliance is the best way to ensure a happy and secure future. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-dos-and-donts-when-remarrying-after-divorce-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-dos-and-donts-when-remarrying-after-divorce-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation --- ### [When a new year ends in a separation: What you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/when-a-new-year-ends-in-a-separation-what-you-need-to-know/) **Published:** April 2, 2026 **Author:** Sarah Gadallah **Content:** This time of year is a common one for couples to initiate separation and divorce. Following the holiday season, with its intense family gatherings, increased financial pressures, and prolonged proximity, there can be significant strain on relationships already facing challenges. For many Australian couples, the heightened stress of this period often leads to the decision to separate once the celebrations conclude. If 2026 has brought your relationship to an end, understanding the initial, critical steps of separation under Australian family law is essential for a smoother transition for all involved. ## How does separation work? Under Australian law, separation does not require a formal document or the agreement of both parties. Separation is legally recognised the moment one person decides the relationship is over and clearly communicates this decision to the other party. This decision must be accompanied by actions that demonstrate the breakdown (e.g., ceasing shared activities, meals, or intimate relations). It is common for couples to separate while still living in the same home, often due to financial necessity. To prove legal separation in this situation, you must show that the fundamental nature of the relationship has changed (e.g., sleeping separately, minimal shared social life, no shared domestic duties). The date of separation is vital as it begins the 12-month period of separation required before you can apply for a formal divorce. So, once you’ve decided to separate, what are the next steps? ## Priority 1: Arrangements for children ![Immigration lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Immigration-lawyer.png "Immigration lawyer - Beanstalk Mums") When a relationship with children under 18 breaks down, the primary focus of Australian family law is the best interests of the child. Both parents generally retain equal shared parental responsibility, meaning they must consult and make joint decisions about major long-term issues for the child (e.g., schooling, health). The law encourages children to have a meaningful relationship with both parents, provided it is in their best interests. However, there is no automatic rule of “50/50” time; arrangements are determined by the child’s needs and the practical circumstances of the family. Except in urgent circumstances, the court requires parents to make a genuine effort to resolve parenting arrangements through Family Dispute Resolution (FDR), such as mediation, before applying to the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA). If you and your former partner agree on parenting arrangements, you can formalise them in two ways: | Type of Agreement | Legal Status | Purpose | |---|---|---| | Parenting Plan | Not legally enforceable. | A flexible, written document detailing arrangements. | | Consent Orders | Legally binding and enforceable. | An agreement approved and made into court orders by the FCFCOA. Recommended for legal certainty. | ## Priority 2: Financial and property matters ![Family lawyer in Sydney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Family-lawyer-in-Sydney.png "Family lawyer in Sydney - Beanstalk Mums") Separation requires a fair division of the property pool (assets, liabilities, and superannuation) accumulated during the relationship. This is governed by a flexible, four-step process that applies whether you were married or in a de facto relationship. ### The Four-Step “Just and Equitable” Test: 1. Identify and Value: Determine the net worth of the property pool. This includes all assets and liabilities, regardless of whose name they are in or when they were acquired. 2. Assess Contributions: Evaluate the financial (e.g., income, inheritances, initial contributions) and non-financial (e.g., parenting, homemaking, renovations) contributions of each party throughout the relationship. 3. Future Needs: Consider the future needs of each party, adjusting the percentage split based on factors like age, health, disparity in income-earning capacity, and who will have the primary care of the children. 4. Just and Equitable: Ensure the final percentage division is fair and equitable in the circumstances of the specific relationship. To support this process, it’s important to start collecting detailed statements for all bank accounts, superannuation, debts, property valuations, and tax returns. Open a new bank account in your sole name, redirecting your income there. Take steps to secure personal records, passwords, and change joint arrangements where appropriate. Property matters must be finalised by applying for Consent Orders or filing an application with the court within 12 months of your divorce becoming final (for married couples) or 2 years from the date of separation (for de facto couples). ## Priority 3: Finalising the divorce The process of [divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/) legally terminates a marriage and is separate from property and parenting matters. Australian law does not require you to prove “fault” for the breakdown. The only ground for divorce is the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage, demonstrated by a continuous period of separation for 12 months and one day. Once the separation period is complete, you can apply for a divorce order to the FCFCOA. If there are children under 18, the court must be satisfied that proper arrangements have been made for their care, welfare, and development before granting the divorce. ## How to get started Separation can be overwhelming. Seeking professional help is crucial for both legal clarity and emotional support. Consult with the family law specialists at [Owen Hodge Lawyers](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/ "Owen Hodge Lawyers") immediately to receive tailored advice on your unique circumstances, particularly regarding the formalisation of parenting and property arrangements. Utilise resources like Family Relationship Centres, which provide support services, mediation, and counselling to help families navigate the emotional and practical transition. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/when-a-new-year-ends-in-a-separation-what-you-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/when-a-new-year-ends-in-a-separation-what-you-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation --- ### [75+ Gift ideas for Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/75-gift-ideas-for-mothers-day/) **Published:** April 2, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you struggling with gift ideas for Mother’s Day? Say no more! We’ve had an incredible rummaging around and have come up with over 75 present suggestions that the queen in your life deserves. Get inspired and treat your Mum with our super-long Mother’s Day 2026 gift ideas. These presents will not only put a smile on her face but also make her heart flutter. ## **Fabulous gift ideas for Mother’s Day** ## **[Plant](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/7602?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.petals.com.au%2fflower-arrangement%2ftanami-beauty%2finprod1220102%3fskuId%3dinsku1200238%26zipMin%3d)** First on our list of gift ideas for mums is a real, living plant. Though it’s nice to receive a bouquet once in a while, a plant is something that will last Mum longer. All she has to do is take care of the plants – one thing we know she’s an expert at. [![Plant | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/plant.png "plant - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/7602?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.petals.com.au%2fflower-arrangement%2ftanami-beauty%2finprod1220102%3fskuId%3dinsku1200238%26zipMin%3d) We found this at [Petals Network](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/7602?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.petals.com.au%2fflower-arrangement%2ftanami-beauty%2finprod1220102%3fskuId%3dinsku1200238%26zipMin%3d) ## [**A massager**](https://bigw.sjv.io/9WxKRW) Relax those tired hands and relieve achy muscles with a massager. Get something portable so mum can take it with her when she travels. Find the perfect massager for your mum: [Massage guns: What, why and where to buy.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/massage-guns/) [![A massager](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-13.png "Untitled-design-13 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9WxKRW) We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9WxKRW) ## [****Flower delivery in Brisbane****](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.floraly.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fthe-paris) Send Mum an elegant arrangement of beautiful flowers and greenery. We like something with roses and pretty pastel blooms, which are synonymous with Mother’s Day in Australia. This is one of our classic gift ideas for Mother’s Day. [![Beautiful flowers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/The-paris.webp "The paris - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.floraly.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fthe-paris) We found this at [Floraly](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78586?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.floraly.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fthe-paris) ## **[Contour® flip pillow](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fcontour-flip-pillow)** Give Mum the gift of a good night’s sleep with the Contour® flip pillow. This is no ordinary pillow, as it features an ergonomic design that helps improve spine, neck, and head alignment. [![Contour® flip pillow](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Contour_Flip_Pillow_Gallery_10-new.jpg "Contour_Flip_Pillow_Gallery_10-new - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fcontour-flip-pillow) We found this at [Global Shop Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fcontour-flip-pillow) ## **[IPL hair removal handset](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7mZ)** If Mum has no time (and budget) to visit the spa, she will fall head over heels for this hair removal set. It is sleek, user-friendly, and perfect for every skin type. She will love that she can do this in the comfort of her own home. [![Ipl Hair Removal Device](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Ipl-hair-removal-device.jpg "Ipl hair removal device - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7mZ) We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7mZ) ## [**Earrings**](https://klayycollection.com/products/copy-of-mum-s-flowers-polymer-clay-earrings-drop?_pos=3&_psq=mum%27s+flow&_ss=e&_v=1.0%20) Add a pop of colour to plain outfits with fun retro earrings. It’s like a pick-me-up for Mum’s OOTD. (Make sure you pick a design that resonates with her style so the pair will not stay in her trinket box.) [![Earrings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-15.png "Untitled-design-15 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://klayycollection.com/products/copy-of-mum-s-flowers-polymer-clay-earrings-drop?_pos=3&_psq=mum%27s+flow&_ss=e&_v=1.0%20) We found this at [Klayy Collection](https://klayycollection.com/products/copy-of-mum-s-flowers-polymer-clay-earrings-drop?_pos=3&_psq=mum%27s+flow&_ss=e&_v=1.0) ## **[100% pure makeup ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ffruit-pigmented-palette-pretty-naked)** The natural skincare and cosmetic line that has taken Hollywood by storm is now available in Australia. On this special day, mums can look and feel their best with pure skin and body products and a full range of makeup coloured by the antioxidant-rich pigments of fruits and vegetables. [![100% Pure Makeup | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-16.png "Untitled-design-16 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ffruit-pigmented-palette-pretty-naked) We found this at [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ffruit-pigmented-palette-pretty-naked) ## [**Salt and pepper pots or grinders**](https://bigw.sjv.io/DWK7ed) Mum needs stylish salt and pepper pots to make her fall in love with her kitchen all over again. Choose natural materials like wood to coordinate with her tableware easily. [![Salt and pepper pots or grinders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/The-gourmet-collection-essential-seasoning-pinch-pots.jpg "The gourmet collection essential seasoning pinch pots - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/DWK7ed) We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/DWK7ed) ## **[Supplements](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fvital-all-in-one-1kg)** Take your health to the next level with Vital All-In-One, mum. This nutrient-dense daily supplement is packed with 78 natural ingredients. Feel energised, support your immunity and take care of your gut health with just one product. [![Vital All In One](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Vital-all-in-one.webp "Vital all in one - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fvital-all-in-one-1kg)Vital all in one We found this at [Chemist Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fvital-all-in-one-1kg) ## **[Diffuser](https://www.dusk.com.au/diffusers-oils/diffusers/ultrasonic-diffusers)** This safe-to-use diffuser is perfect for mums who want to relax at home. Its mist, which features a swirling effect in pink marble, gives off a very feminine vibe. ![Aroma swirl Diffuser By Lively Living](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Aroma-swirl-diffuser-by-lively-living-pink.webp "Aroma swirl diffuser by lively living - pink - Beanstalk Mums")Aroma swirl diffuser by lively living pink We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/3kegod "Kogan") ## **[PowerXL grill air fryer](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fpowerxl-grill-air-fryer)** Next on our list of gift ideas for Mother’s Day 2026 is what every grill-loving mum needs. The fact that it is an outdoor grill and an air fryer in one makes it a winner in our book. [![Mothers day gifts 2024 Beanstalk mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/PowerXL-Grill-Air-Fryer.jpg "PowerXL-Grill-Air-Fryer - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fpowerxl-grill-air-fryer) We found this at [Global Shop Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fpowerxl-grill-air-fryer) ## [**Cheese board**](https://fave.co/49th9Je) This portable cheese board is a must-have for foodie mothers who travel often or spend a lot of time outdoors. We like a folding wooden board that’s easy to store. [![Cheese board](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/71fBNMqpA-L._SL1500_-e1572893403347.jpg "71fBNMqpA-L._SL1500_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/49th9Je) We found this at [Amazon](https://fave.co/49th9Je) ## **[Body polish](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fblack-chicken-remedies-love-your-body-polish "Body polish")** This exfoliating and hydrating set will surely make mum’s inner glow radiate to the outside, too. The set comes with a buffer. Don’t you just love the colour of this pair? [![Love Your Body Polish](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Love-your-body-polish.webp "Love your body polish - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fblack-chicken-remedies-love-your-body-polish)Love your body polishWe found this at [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fblack-chicken-remedies-love-your-body-polish) ## **[Clutch/Beauty bag](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrYZ0 "Clutch/Beauty bag")** It’s not just a bag… It’s a beauty bag! Make mum feel even more special this Mother’s Day with a clutch that’s made just lovely. [![Willow & Rose Clutch Bag - Lavender](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Willow-rose-clutch-bag-lavender.jpg "Willow rose clutch bag - lavender - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrYZ0)Willow rose clutch bag lavender We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/jRrYZ0) ## **[Skincare](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Faspect-sheer-hydration-50g)** Motherhood is hard, and it can show on every mum’s skin. Give your mum friends the gift of younger-looking skin. A skincare set that hydrates dry, tired skin is a must. [![Aspect Sheer Hydration Oil Free Moisturiser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Aspect-sheer-hydration-oil-free-moisturiser.webp "Aspect sheer hydration oil free moisturiser - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Faspect-sheer-hydration-50g)Aspect sheer hydration oil free moisturiserWe found this at [Oz Hair & Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Faspect-sheer-hydration-50g) ## **Gift ideas for Mother’s Day (cont.)** ## [**Jigsaw puzzle**](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e4BWDQ) It’s time to put away the mobile phone and slow down with a jigsaw puzzle that stimulates the creative juices. The best thing? She can make this into a family activity to take the kids off their gadgets. [![Jigsaw puzzle | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-21.png "Untitled-design-21 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e4BWDQ) We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e4BWDQ) ## **[Antioxidant powder](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/88782?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fmybrainco.com%2Fproducts%2Fnac)** Antioxidants are every mum’s best friend. myBrainCo’s Nac Powder is anti-inflammatory and immune-boosting as well. Discover more great superfoods here: [10 Superfood supplements to help mums get through the day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/top-superfoods-every-aussie-mum-needs-to-try/) [![Antioxidant & Detoxification](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Antioxidant-detoxification.webp "Antioxidant detoxification - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/88782?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fmybrainco.com%2Fproducts%2Fnac)Antioxidant detoxification We found this at [myBrainCo.](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/88782?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fmybrainco.com%2Fproducts%2Fnac) ## ****Gift ideas for mums (cont.)**** ## [**A book**](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/jW2LP6) Mums can’t have too many books. Something hilarious like this one will make long days more bearable. [![A book | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-22.png "Untitled-design-22 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/jW2LP6) We found this at [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/jW2LP6) ## [**A language lesson**](https://trk.udemy.com/Pzy7Re) Learning new skills, like a new language, is a great gift that no one can take away. Mums will love one-on-one lessons or even a group class from certified language teachers. [![A language lesson](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-23.png "Untitled-design-23 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://trk.udemy.com/Pzy7Re) We found this at [Udemy](https://trk.udemy.com/Pzy7Re) ## **[Coffee plunger](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7Rq)** Does she love coffee? (Well, who doesn’t?) Give her something familiar but different this Mother’s Day. We suggest a coffee plunger in a classy, unique design. [![Casabarista Coffee Plunger with Scoop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Casabarista-coffee-plunger-with-scoop.jpg "Casabarista coffee plunger with scoop - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7Rq)Casabarista coffee plunger with scoop We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7Rq) ## **[Funny card game](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.crazysales.com.au%2Fonline-cards-against-humanity-family-edition-ages-8-and-up-a-party-game-for-mature-boys-girls-and-men-women-373728.html)** An adults-only card game that’s hilariously embarrassing? It’s the perfect gift for mums with a sick sense of humour. [![Cards Against Humanity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Cards-against-humanity.webp "Cards against humanity - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.crazysales.com.au%2Fonline-cards-against-humanity-family-edition-ages-8-and-up-a-party-game-for-mature-boys-girls-and-men-women-373728.html)Cards against humanity We found this at [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.crazysales.com.au%2Fonline-cards-against-humanity-family-edition-ages-8-and-up-a-party-game-for-mature-boys-girls-and-men-women-373728.html) ## **[Peak Chocolate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80527?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.peakchocolate.com.au%2f)** Have you got a ‘Sweet tooth’ for a mum? Peak Chocolates will satisfy her cravings without the guilt! These treats are gluten-free and have no sugar added. [![Peak Chocolate | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-25.png "Untitled-design-25 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80527?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.peakchocolate.com.au%2f) We found this at [Peak Chocolate](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80527?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.peakchocolate.com.au%2f) ## **[Mules](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYRr)** Mums need comfy slip-ons after a hard day’s work. These stylish mules are perfect for winter, paired with a cup of hot tea. [![Dr. Martens Zebzag Mule Clog Slide Suede Slip On in Muted Purple](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Dr%20-martens-zebzag-mule-clog-slide-suede-slip-on-in-muted-purple.jpg "Dr Martens zebzag mule clog slide suede slip on in muted purple - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYRr)Dr martens zebzag mule clog slide suede slip on in muted purple We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYRr) ## **What to get Mum for Mother’s Day (cont).** ## **[The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f)** Mums deserve proper nourishment. Healthy Mummy smoothies work wonders for that. They are quick and easy to make, perfect for busy mothers. [![The Healthy Mummy | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-26.png "Untitled-design-26 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f) We found this at [The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f) ## [**Healthy coffee**](https://nutraorganics.com.au/collections/lattes) Give Java addicts a twist on the old cuppa. Healthier alternatives to regular coffee look good, taste awesome and are super nutritious. [![Healthy coffee](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-27.png "Untitled-design-27 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://nutraorganics.com.au/collections/lattes) We found this at [Nutra Organics ](https://nutraorganics.com.au/collections/lattes) *(Save 10% on any heavenly Nutra Organic products with checkout code: BEANSTALK.)* ## [**Yummy-smelling candle**](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7oa) Make precious me-time even more relaxing with a great-smelling candle. Personalise your gift with Mum’s name and a sweet or inspiring message. [![Someone Special 300g Vanilla Scented Candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Someone-special-300g-vanilla-scented-candle.jpg "Someone special 300g vanilla scented candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7oa)Someone special 300g vanilla scented candle We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/L0X7oa) ## **[A fitness course](https://imp.i384100.net/1rN00D)** Fan of fitness and courses? Why not give the gift of a self-paced online course? She can even have a certificate to add to her credentials. [![A fitness course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-7-1.png "Untitled-design-7-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i384100.net/1rN00D) We found this at [Coursera](https://imp.i384100.net/1rN00D) ## [**The Lady Shake**](https://fave.co/4a3NE1i) If your mum is a health buff and won’t accept chocolates, The Lady Shake will do the trick. These low-sugar meals contain nutrients equivalent to a complete meal. They’re healthy and yummy! [![The Lady Shake | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-29.png "Untitled-design-29 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4a3NE1i) We found this at [The Man Shake](https://fave.co/4a3NE1i) ## **[Portable fan](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2farctic-air-outdoor)** Give Mum something to cool her off in this extreme heat. She can take this portable fan anywhere as she lounges after all the chores. Especially helpful for those mums going through menopause! [![Portable fan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-9.png "Untitled-design-9 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2farctic-air-outdoor) We found this at [Global Shop Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2f) ## **Gift ideas for mums (cont.)** ## **[Hello Fresh meal kits](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/R5q9xy)** Give your mother or mum friend a break from cooking meals every day. HelloFresh offers a wide selection of meals that can be customised to your mum’s budget and preferences. [![Hello Fresh meal kits | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-30.png "Untitled-design-30 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/R5q9xy) We found this at [Hello Fresh](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/R5q9xy) ## **[Koala Eco gift boxed set](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jRrYDn)** Cruelty-free, biodegradable hand and dish soap? No mum wouldn’t love that! Koala Eco products are environmentally friendly and great for mums with sensitive skin. [![Koala Eco gift boxed set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-31.png "Untitled-design-31 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jRrYDn) We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jRrYDn) ## [**Concept Japan** ](https://fave.co/3Iyfo2c) This Oriental-detailed ceramic set is an excellent addition to any mum’s collection. These fine homewares will bring a Japanese touch into her kitchen. [![Concept Japan | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-32.png "Untitled-design-32 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3Iyfo2c) We found this at [Minimax](https://fave.co/3Iyfo2c) ## **[Juicer](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2femeril-pasta-beyond)** The gift of health is perfect for mums. Health-conscious mums will love to have their juicer to make healthier drinks for the whole house. The best thing about our pick? It also makes pasta, ice cream, and so much more! [![Juicer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-1-2.png "Untitled-design-1-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2femeril-pasta-beyond) We found this at [Global Shop Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2f) ## [**Body brush**](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/enKYJg) Treat mum with a pampering body brush that revitalises and exfoliates the skin. Get something with a long handle for those hard-to-reach areas. If she’s not yet at it, maybe it’s time to introduce her to the beautiful world of dry brushing in the morning. [![Wicked Sista Dry Body Brush](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Wicked-sista-dry-body-brush.webp "Wicked sista dry body brush - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/enKYJg)Wicked sista dry body brush We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/enKYJg) ## **[Ice cream maker](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYXm)** Making healthy desserts is now effortless with a handy ice cream maker. Mum will have a blast preparing frozen fruit desserts in a few minutes. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Kitchenaid-5ksmicm-icecream-828845-02092022_1667964332.webp "Kitchenaid-5ksmicm-icecream-828845-02092022_1667964332 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYXm) We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNYXm) ## **More unique gift ideas for Mother’s Day** ## **[Psychic reading](http://bestpsychiclab.pxf.io/75N22Y)** A psychic reading is an incredible Mother’s Day present, whether mum’s a fan of the occult or she just needs a bit of entertainment. Whether she needs spiritual help with her love life, finances, career, and life path, this is a fun gift to give. [![Psychic reading | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-10.png "Untitled-design-10 - Beanstalk Mums")](bestpsychiclab.pxf.io/75N22Y) We found this at [Soulight](http://bestpsychiclab.pxf.io/75N22Y) ## **[WeightWatchers membership](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/kOM1Nv)** If your Mum is trying to lose weight, she will love a WeightWatchers membership plan. With this subscription, she will hit her goal weight quickly. [![WeightWatchers membership](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-34.png "Untitled-design-34 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/kOM1Nv) We found this at [WeightWatchers](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/kOM1Nv) ## [**A healthy, edible posy**](https://www.wholesomeposyco.com.au/collections/posies) Just clean, wholesome goodies, but with a luxe touch. They’re blooms that won’t wilt. They’re goodies without any of the bad stuff (no preservatives, artificial flavours or sickly sweet additions). Vegan, gluten-free options, dairy-free and all healthy homemade snacks – what’s not to love? [![A healthy, edible posy | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-35.png "Untitled-design-35 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.wholesomeposyco.com.au/collections/posies) We found this at [Wholesome Posy Co.](https://www.wholesomeposyco.com.au/collections/posies) ## [**Bracelets**](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14981?Url=https%3a%2f%2fambersceats.com%2fproducts%2fbahamas-bracelet) Mums will adore a set of bracelets that match any outfit, whether casual, dressy, or office. This is an absolute winner when it comes to gift ideas for mums. [![Bracelets | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/bracelet.png "bracelet - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14981?Url=https%3a%2f%2fambersceats.com%2fproducts%2fbahamas-bracelet) We found this on [Amber Sceats](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14981?Url=https%3a%2f%2fambersceats.com%2f) ## [**Coasters**](https://www.livingstyles.com.au/tranquillity-4-piece-round-cork-coaster-set/) Say goodbye to boring coasters. Choose something botanical or floral for nature lovers or something stylish and bold for the classy mum. [![Coasters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-1.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:53,j:3316199627778912052,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.livingstyles.com.au/tranquillity-4-piece-round-cork-coaster-set/) We found this at [Living Styles](https://www.livingstyles.com.au/tranquillity-4-piece-round-cork-coaster-set/) ## [**A hamper**](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Frecipe-for-relaxation-2%2F) Now, mums have a reason to take the day off and stay in bed until noon: a gift hamper filled with gourmet goodies and other favourites. Check out many other hampers that mums will love here: [Mother’s Day hampers for delivery in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mothers-day-hampers-delivery-australia/) [![Recipe for Relaxation Hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Recipe-for-relaxation.jpg "Recipe for relaxation - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Frecipe-for-relaxation-2%2F)Recipe for relaxation We found this at [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Frecipe-for-relaxation-2%2F) ## **[A handy scarf](https://bigw.sjv.io/YVVM6P)** Mum will be delighted to receive a scarf that is chic and practical. Wear it as a top on the beach, or keep your locks in place on a windy day. Talk about versatility! [![Urban Aegean Silk-Feel Scarf](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Urban-aegean-silk-feel-scarf.jpg "Urban aegean silk-feel scarf - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/YVVM6P)Urban aegean silk feel scarf We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/YVVM6P) ## **Gift ideas for mums: Our unique picks** ## [**Outdoor wine table**](https://bigw.sjv.io/AgW7aD) An outdoor wine table is excellent paired with a folding cheese board for picnics and outdoor fun. We like something big enough to hold a spread for two—one of our favourite gift ideas for Mother’s Day. [![Outdoor wine table | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-1-1.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:55,j:445154863988979591,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/AgW7aD) We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/AgW7aD) ## [**Trinket pot**](https://redirect.viglink.com?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.myer.com.au%2Fp%2Fvera-wang-with-love-pearl-gift-box-503133040&key=37ce2aed9bf4200ffd45ea7d080c20c4&prodOvrd=WRA&opt=true) Give mum a stylish trinket pot to store her most prized possessions. This lovely metal one can hold all her jewellery. [![Trinket pot](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-2.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:56,j:5309042461538723486,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://redirect.viglink.com?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.myer.com.au%2Fp%2Fvera-wang-with-love-pearl-gift-box-503133040&key=37ce2aed9bf4200ffd45ea7d080c20c4&prodOvrd=WRA&opt=true) We found this at [Myer](https://redirect.viglink.com?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.myer.com.au%2Fp%2Fvera-wang-with-love-pearl-gift-box-503133040&key=37ce2aed9bf4200ffd45ea7d080c20c4&prodOvrd=WRA&opt=true) ## **[Wild Secrets lingerie](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2F)** Who said you can’t gift your mum new lingerie? Our pick from Wild Secrets is made from breathable fabric and will accentuate her curves, making mum feel good about herself. [![Wild Secrets lingerie | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-3.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:58,j:3316199627049846955,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2F) We found this at [Wild Secrets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2F) ## [**Colouring book**](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/53mKj) Colouring books are all the rage, especially for stressed women who desperately need some alone time. We suggest something naughty with plenty of swear words. [![Colouring book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-4.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:60,j:5486934647130059556,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/53mKj) We found this at [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/53mKj) ## **[Cotton On Comfiest](https://fave.co/3TuV1t8)** You can’t go wrong with a new addition to her wardrobe when it comes to gift ideas for mums. Cotton On offers a wide selection of comfortable clothes at a budget-friendly price. [![Cotton On Comfiest | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-5.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:61,j:9054911452797552107,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3TuV1t8) We found this at [Cotton On](https://fave.co/3TuV1t8) ## **Mother’s Day gift ideas: Stylish picks** ## **[Floral jumpsuit](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fgrasshopper-floral-jumpsuit%3Fvariant%3D46967389028611)** Jumpsuits plus florals are the perfect combination for our next pick. However, make sure you know your mum’s size before purchasing! [![Grasshopper Floral Jumpsuit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Grasshopper-floral-jumpsuit.webp "Grasshopper floral jumpsuit - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fgrasshopper-floral-jumpsuit%3Fvariant%3D46967389028611)Grasshopper floral jumpsuit We found this at [Princess Highway](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fgrasshopper-floral-jumpsuit%3Fvariant%3D46967389028611) ## [**Tea for one**](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.t2tea.com%2Fproducts%2Fherbs-flowers-fruits-loose-leaf-gift-pack%3Fvariant%3D47094592274685) Elevate tea time to another level with an elegant tea gift set fit for a queen. Get one in mum’s favourite colour. [![Herbs, Flowers & Fruits Loose Leaf Gift Pack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Herbs-flowers-fruits-loose-leaf-gift-pack-800x800.jpg "Herbs flowers fruits loose leaf gift pack - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.t2tea.com%2Fproducts%2Fherbs-flowers-fruits-loose-leaf-gift-pack%3Fvariant%3D47094592274685)Herbs flowers fruits loose leaf gift pack We found this at [T2 Tea](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.t2tea.com%2Fproducts%2Fherbs-flowers-fruits-loose-leaf-gift-pack%3Fvariant%3D47094592274685) ## **[A new look with a wig](https://ohmyprettywig.pxf.io/75N2jY)** Hair care products are a great gift idea, but so are wigs! Wigs allow mums to experiment with different looks without committing to a completely new hairstyle. [![Wig](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/oh-my-pretty.png "oh my pretty - Beanstalk Mums")](https://ohmyprettywig.pxf.io/75N2jY) We found this at [Oh My Pretty](https://ohmyprettywig.pxf.io/75N2jY) ## [**Smartwatch**](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40YNv) Are you looking for a unique gift for an exceptional person? Look no further than an elegant, smart watch in a soft, pastel shade. [![Bluetooth Smart Watch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Bluetooth-smart-watch.jpg "Bluetooth smart watch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40YNv)Bluetooth smart watch We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40YNv) ## **[Personalised Jewellery](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/690071586/personalized-russian-ring-%20necklace?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_%20query=russian+ring+necklace&ref=sc_gallery-1-%208&plkey=68cc4abdb687d69ed58872ba29396971d5a9f987%3A690071586&pro=1&col=1)** You can’t go wrong with personalised jewellery. They make brilliant Mother’s Day gifts and keepsakes for future generations. [![Personalised Jewellery](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-9.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:67,j:2165529922608441312,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/690071586/personalized-russian-ring-%20necklace?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_%20query=russian+ring+necklace&ref=sc_gallery-1-%208&plkey=68cc4abdb687d69ed58872ba29396971d5a9f987%3A690071586&pro=1&col=1) We found this on [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/690071586/personalized-russian-ring-%20necklace?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_%20query=russian+ring+necklace&ref=sc_gallery-1-%208&plkey=68cc4abdb687d69ed58872ba29396971d5a9f987%3A690071586&pro=1&col=1 "Etsy") ## [**An unusual kitchen gadget**](https://www.crazysales.com.au/online-the-unique-automatic-pan-stirrer-with-led-speed-indicator-grey-290315.html) Treat Mum to an unusual kitchen gadget and save her loads of time on food prep. We like this automatic pan stirrer with an LED speed indicator. [![An unusual kitchen gadget | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-10.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:68,j:6736683542928455538,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.crazysales.com.au/online-the-unique-automatic-pan-stirrer-with-led-speed-indicator-grey-290315.html) We found this at [Crazy Sales](https://www.crazysales.com.au/online-the-unique-automatic-pan-stirrer-with-led-speed-indicator-grey-290315.html) ## [**A cute water bottle**](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7WN) They’ll gladly replace their boring old tumbler with a cute, stylish one. We suggest double-wall material to keep drinks hot while travelling or on the go. [![Brilliant Basics Insulated Drink Bottle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Brilliant-basics-insulated-drink-bottle.jpg "Brilliant basics insulated drink bottle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7WN)Brilliant basics insulated drink bottle We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Jkz7WN) ## **[Llama Canvas Tote](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fllama-canvas-tote%3Fvariant%3D46179984179459)** Mum will fall in love with this llama-inspired tote. It’s easy to clean and spacious, so it can accommodate all her stuff. It’s perfect for quick grocery runs. [![Llama Canvas Tote](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Llama-canvas-tote.webp "Llama canvas tote - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fllama-canvas-tote%3Fvariant%3D46179984179459)Llama canvas tote We found this at [Princess Highway](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fllama-canvas-tote%3Fvariant%3D46179984179459) ## [**Bluetooth speaker**](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7E0) A colourful Bluetooth speaker is an ideal gift for the techie mum. It is practical, portable, and perfect for parties indoors and outdoors. [![JBL Charge 6 Portable Bluetooth Speaker - Pink](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Jbl-charge-6-portable-bluetooth-speaker-pink.jpg "Jbl charge 6 portable bluetooth speaker - pink - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7E0)Jbl charge 6 portable bluetooth speaker pink We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/ZVQ7E0) ## [**Keyring**](https://bigw.sjv.io/B507Y0) Mums will love a simple key ring that celebrates motherhood. We like personalising our key rings with the recipient’s name or a sweet quote. [![Urban Best Mum Keyring Hanging Keychain Bag Decorative Accessory Pink](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Urban-best-mum-keyring-hanging-keychain-bag-decorative-accessory-pink.jpg "Urban best mum keyring hanging keychain bag decorative accessory pink - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/B507Y0)Urban best mum keyring hanging keychain bag decorative accessory pink We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/B507Y0) ## **[Edgy cat sunglasses](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fnew-arrivals%2Fproducts%2Fedgy-cats-eye-sunglasses%3Fvariant%3D44121749946627)** Make sure Mum’s eyes are well-protected with style. These edgy sunglasses have a unique and fresh design that is perfect for mums of all ages. [![Edgy cat sunglasses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-15.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:74,j:2942400858249763420,t:24041005 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fnew-arrivals%2Fproducts%2Fedgy-cats-eye-sunglasses%3Fvariant%3D44121749946627) We found this at [Princess Highway](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fprincesshighway.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fnew-arrivals%2Fproducts%2Fedgy-cats-eye-sunglasses%3Fvariant%3D44121749946627) ## **[Exercise machine](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fellipse-by-legxercise)** An exercise machine is a must for mums who barely have time to get their 10,000 steps in. With this leg exerciser, she can stay active even while working on her computer, prepping in the kitchen, or tutoring the kids. It’s even small enough to fit under her office table. [![Exercise machine | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-6.png "Untitled-design-6 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2fproducts%2fellipse-by-legxercise) We found this at [Global Shop Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76774?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.globalshop.com.au%2f) ## [**Cocktail shaker**](https://bigw.sjv.io/WOq7PO) For the hostess with the mostest, a classy cocktail shaker is a chic addition to any bar. Now, Mum can impress guests with her mixing skills. [![Openook Cut Glass Cocktail Shaker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Openook-cut-glass-cocktail-shaker.jpg "Openook cut glass cocktail shaker - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/WOq7PO)Openook cut glass cocktail shaker We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/WOq7PO) ## **[Maxi dress](https://bigw.sjv.io/dyaYq3)** This maxi dress is perfect for when mum needs to dress up. The floral pattern is a feast for the eyes. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Pink-floral-print-maxi-dress.jpg "Pink floral print maxi dress - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/dyaYq3)Pink floral print maxi dress We found this at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/dyaYq3) ## [**Teeth whitening kit**](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/white-glo-advanced-teeth-whitening-kit/p/206811) A teeth-whitening kit for Mother’s Day? Brilliant! There’s no need to leave the house and visit the dentist to get those pearly whites. 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[![Three Warriors Gradual Tan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Three-warriors-gradual-tan.webp "Three warriors gradual tan - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fthree-warriors-gradual-tan)Three warriors gradual tan We found this at [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fthree-warriors-gradual-tan) ## **[Massage ca](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YV97vK)[n](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84086?Url=https%3a%2f%2filowellness.com.au%2fcollections%2fshop-all%2fproducts%2fmassage-candle)[dle](https://ilowellness.com.au/collections/shop-all/products/massage-candle)** Upgrade her scented candle game with this massage candle. Perfect for intimate moments with a partner or a new Ilo sex toy. [![Shiatsu Massage Candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Shiatsu-massage-candle.webp "Shiatsu massage candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YV97vK)Shiatsu massage candle We found this at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YV97vK) ## [**Grocery box**](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) Mums are super busy. Help by giving them a grocery box filled with fresh ingredients and recipes. Maybe they’ll thank you with a delicious meal? Choose the right one for your Mum here: [Meal delivery services in Australia (with discounts).](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) [![Grocery box | Mothers Day 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-21.jpg "xr:d:DAGB-x8Mwjo:82,j:1420184187260061414,t:24041006 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) We found this at [Everyplate](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) ## **[Wine](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/32549?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wineselectors.com.au%2fproduct%2fhunter-valley-chardonnay-dozen%2f243010)** Sometimes, Mums just need to sit down and drink a glass of wine. Or a bottle. Make sure you’re giving her the best selection to make every day feel like Mother’s Day. [![Wine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/wine.png "wine - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/32549?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wineselectors.com.au%2fproduct%2fhunter-valley-chardonnay-dozen%2f243010) We found this at [Wine Selectors](https://www.wineselectors.com.au/product/hunter-valley-chardonnay-dozen/243010) ## [**Cookbook**](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/eGJQj) Mug cakes are perfect for people who don’t have the time and energy to whip up a big cake. We suggest this book, which has over 30 yummy recipes to satisfy those sweet cravings. 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[![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Herringbone-faux-fur-throw-rug-taupe.webp "Herringbone faux fur throw rug taupe - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/enKY56)Herringbone faux fur throw rug taupe Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/enKY56) ## **Summary: 75+ gift ideas for Mother’s Day 2026** No present, not even the most expensive ones, can amount to the sacrifices our mothers made for us. But no matter which one you choose from our gift ideas above, we know she will treasure it in her heart forever. Well done if you have been a dutiful offspring and have consistently given your Mother’s Day gifts! But you might be out of fresh ideas. Don’t worry; our unique picks will not disappoint. If you are a prodigal child who wants to make up for all the lost years, it is more appropriate to give your mother one of our more premium suggestions (you better!). Aside from the present you will be giving her this Mother’s Day, do not forget to remind your Mum how much you love her and how grateful you are. But remember, make her feel special and express your gratitude every single day, not just on this special day. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/75-gift-ideas-for-mothers-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/75-gift-ideas-for-mothers-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Shopping **Tags:** mother's day, gifts for mums, presents for mums --- ### [10 Best Pregnancy Gifts for First-Time Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/10-best-pregnancy-gifts-for-first-time-mums/) **Published:** April 2, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Looking for the perfect pregnancy gift? You are in the right place. Here are thoughtful ideas for that special someone (and her very special +1). From essentials to indulgences, here are the best ways to celebrate her this year. ## For Her Mind A woman’s mind gets overwhelmed during pregnancy. There are so many different elements at play, some completely out of their control, so it’s critical to try and occupy them with creativity rather than anxiety. ### **Give Her a Painting Kit** If pregnancy doesn’t require otherwise, women should make the most of those nine months, focusing on their passions and interests. If your pregnant loved one enjoys painting, consider gifting her a painting kit. Pregnancy can be a beautiful time to [reconnect with creativity](https://www.amandaparker.co/articles/rediscover-your-creativity-a-simple-challenge-awaits). ### **Get Her an Audiobook Subscription** An audiobook subscription is another thoughtful pregnancy gift. Although it’s not as cozy as curling up with a physical book and a cup of tea, it is practical. A mum-to-be can enjoy a story during her daily walks, while commuting, or waiting for appointments – turning those tedious moments into relaxing mini-getaways. ### **Encourage Her to Start a Scrapbook** A scrapbook is more than just a creative outlet. It is a precious keepsake, especially for a new mum-to-be. Give her a notebook or an empty album and encourage them to start a scrapbook. The rest is up to her. She can [save ultrasound images](https://www.babyglimpse.com.au/blog/precious-pregnancy-keepsakes), bump photos, tickets, dried flowers, stickers, chocolate wrappers, and virtually anything she kept during pregnancy. What may seem like simple arts and crafts today can one day become a testament to one of the most beautiful periods in her life. ## For Her Body A woman’s body goes through tremendous changes during pregnancy. It deserves the best care. ### **Sign Her Up for Prenatal Yoga** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7055715-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7055715 - Beanstalk Mums") Prenatal yoga is a wonderful way to stay active during pregnancy. It keeps the body flexible and strong while reducing levels of anxiety. It is also a great environment for sharing. As all the participants are on the same journey, yoga classes become their safe space where they share joys, struggles, and challenges and support one another. ### **Surprise Her with Comfortable Footwear** While some women stay active in the gym during pregnancy, many prefer lighter routines, like long walks in the fresh air. If that sounds like your pregnant loved one, a pair of comfortable sneakers can be a great gift. As the pregnancy progresses, even tying shoelaces can become a challenge. Choosing footwear that’s easy to slip on can help her stay consistent. Considering how important the comfort levels are, you should invite her to choose the pair herself. That way, you’ll know they fit perfectly, and that she truly loves them. ### **Book a Pregnancy-Safe Massage** [Prioritising self-care](https://ppdil.org/2024/02/self-care-during-pregnancy-importance/) is a prerequisite for being able to take care of others, especially a tiny being such as a newborn. Encourage your loved one to do so. Show how much you care by booking a massage for her. Even a half-hour session will relax and energise her body, giving her elan for everything that comes next. ## For Her Soul She takes care of her body, cultivates her mind; it’s time to nourish the soul. ### **Gift Her Motherhood-Inspired Affirmation Cards** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-natalie-bond-320378-29557946-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-natalie-bond-320378-29557946 - Beanstalk Mums") Create these yourself and make the gift extra personal. But if you don’t consider yourself a creative person, consider buying affirmation cards. These can be fun, preparing a mother-to-be for a new chapter while keeping her curious and excited. ### **Download a Meditation or Sleep App for Her** If you haven’t experienced it yourself, it is hard to imagine what it’s like being awake night after night. Even if you can’t fully understand it, you can help. Find [a meditation or sleep app](https://www.humnutrition.com/blog/best-meditation-apps/) and gift it to your pregnant loved one. She will appreciate it and, to be honest, try anything that might help her get more hours of sleep before the baby arrives. ### **Take Her to a Sound Bath Session** Sound baths are healing sessions that are very beneficial to pregnant women. In person or online, they are a one-of-a-kind experience that helps achieve emotional balance and calmness. ## Simply Be There There’s something paradoxical about [pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/). It seems like you’re always in a crowd, surrounded by people, and can still feel lonely. Showing care through gifts is nice. Still, dedicating your time to a pregnant woman, sitting next to her, sharing your thoughts and wishes, listening to her struggles and happiness; that’s something money can’t buy. As such, time is the final suggestion on our list of pregnancy gifts for first-time mums, and perhaps it’s the most valuable one. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/10-best-pregnancy-gifts-for-first-time-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/10-best-pregnancy-gifts-for-first-time-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [Single Mum Hacks: The Small Wardrobe Wins That Make Mornings Easier](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-small-wardrobe-wins-that-make-mornings-easier/) **Published:** April 1, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** *Why the right basics (especially the humble romper) are a solo parent’s secret weapon.* There’s a specific kind of chaos that belongs to single-parent mornings. You’re simultaneously making breakfast, locating a lost shoe, answering a work email on your phone, and trying to get a wriggly baby into an outfit that has approximately nine hundred press studs and no clear starting point. Something has to give, and it’s usually your sanity. Or the toast. Often both. Over the past two years of doing this solo, I’ve learned that the single biggest time-saver in my mornings isn’t a fancy routine chart on the fridge or a Sunday [meal prep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/how-to-cook-tasty-meals-with-less-oil-tips-and-recipes/) session. It’s the baby’s wardrobe. Specifically, making it so simple that getting dressed takes thirty seconds instead of five increasingly frustrating minutes. ## **The Zip-Up Revolution** I used to buy the cute outfits. The matching sets with the tiny buttons. The dungarees that looked adorable on the rack, and then took four hands to put on a child who was actively trying to roll away. The little cardigans with buttons the size of lentils. Looked gorgeous. Took an eternity. Then I discovered the zip-up [baby romper](https://lovetodream.com.au/collections/baby-rompers), and honestly, I haven’t looked back. One zip, top to bottom, done. No buttons, no press studs, no trying to line up nineteen poppers while your baby does that thing where they go completely rigid and scream like you’re committing a terrible injustice. For nappy changes (which, when you’re doing them solo, are already a one-woman logistical operation), a two-way zip that opens from the bottom is an absolute lifesaver. You don’t need to undress the whole baby. Just unzip from the feet, change, zip back up. Thirty seconds, maybe less. Move on with your morning. Or your 2 am. Or your fourth change of the day. ## **The Capsule Wardrobe Approach** When you’re parenting solo, laundry is relentless. There’s no “I’ll do it later” because later there’s another load, and the one you washed yesterday is still sitting in the machine smelling faintly questionable. So I’ve stripped my baby’s wardrobe down to the essentials: five to seven rompers in the current size, a couple of sleeping bags, a light jacket, and a hat for sun protection. That’s it. That’s the whole wardrobe. Everything goes with everything (or more accurately, everything is a standalone outfit). Nothing requires ironing, because honestly, who has the time (or the will)? Everything survives the washing machine at 40 degrees and comes out looking presentable. The whole lot fits in one drawer. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Pexels-abbey-chapman-169330696-26385468-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-abbey-chapman-169330696-26385468 - Beanstalk Mums") This approach works for two reasons. First, fewer clothes means fewer decisions. When you’re running on four hours of sleep, decision fatigue is real, and it hits early. Opening a drawer and grabbing the next clean romper removes one tiny choice from a day already packed with them. It sounds small, but small wins compound when you’re doing everything yourself. Second, it means you can invest in quality over quantity. Five well-made rompers that keep their shape, colour, and softness after fifty washes are worth more than fifteen cheap ones that bobble, stretch, and lose their snaps after three trips through the dryer. ## **What to Look For** Not all rompers are created equal, and when you’re relying on them as daily workhorses, the details genuinely matter. Look for flat seams (less irritation on sensitive skin), a zip guard at the neck (so it doesn’t catch their chin on the way up), and fabric with a bit of stretch so it moves with your baby rather than fighting them. Organic cotton and bamboo blends tend to hold up better over time and feel noticeably softer against the skin. They also handle heat better than synthetic fabrics, which matters when you’re dealing with Australian summers and a baby who runs warm. Size up when you can. Babies in the 3-6 month range grow at a pace that will genuinely astonish you. One week it fits perfectly; two weeks later, the feet are scrunched. Buying one size ahead means you get a few extra weeks of wear before the next rotation, and a slightly roomy romper is perfectly fine for day-to-day. ## **The Bigger Win** This isn’t really about rompers, if I’m being honest. It’s about giving yourself permission to simplify. Solo parenting is hard enough without making every small task harder than it needs to be. Every system you streamline, every decision you eliminate, every morning you shave a few minutes off is a win. The mornings that run smoothly don’t happen by accident. They happen because you set things up the night before, you keep it simple, and you stop feeling guilty about choosing practical over Pinterest-worthy. Your baby doesn’t care about matching outfits or coordinated accessories. They care about being warm, comfortable, and close to you. A zip-up romper handles the first two beautifully. And you’ve already got the third one covered. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-small-wardrobe-wins-that-make-mornings-easier/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-small-wardrobe-wins-that-make-mornings-easier/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [Divorce in Australia: The First Legal Steps Explained](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/) **Published:** March 30, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Facing divorce can feel like your whole world has been turned upside down. If you are navigating divorce in Australia for the first time, it is completely normal to feel anxious, confused, and overwhelmed by what comes next. Between parenting, work, finances, and the emotional toll of separation, the legal divorce process can seem intimidating at first. When everything feels uncertain, even knowing where to file, what document to gather, or how to apply for a divorce can feel like too much. Understanding the legal steps involved is an important way to protect yourself, your children, and your financial future. The more clearly you understand the court pathway, the easier it becomes to prepare each application for divorce, file the right forms, and respond calmly if your spouse or ex-partner disagrees. You do not need to have all the answers right away. However, having a practical checklist can make a difficult time feel more manageable. Take a moment to gather your questions before you start the process. ## Divorce in Australia: Understanding the Legal Process If you are new to the system, the legal side of ending a marriage can sound far more complicated than it really is. In Australia, divorce is the formal legal ending of a marriage, but issues like property, financial support, and children are often dealt with separately through family law processes. That is why a step-by-step overview matters before you file for divorce or make any big decisions. Here is a simple overview of what the divorce process usually involves: - **Understanding eligibility requirements:** Before you apply for a divorce, you need to meet the legal rules, including being separated for at least 12 months and showing that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. - **Filing procedures and associated costs:** You may file your divorce application online through the Commonwealth Courts Portal, pay the relevant fee, and check whether reduced filing fees apply. - **Serving the other party correctly:** If you make a sole application, you must serve your divorce papers correctly and keep proof that your spouse received them. - **Court hearings and mediation expectations:** Depending on your circumstances, a court may list a hearing or require you to address parenting or property issues through mediation. - **Managing property, finances, and parenting arrangements:** Divorce itself does not settle these matters, so you may still need an arrangement about children, money, and assets. When you understand how each stage fits together, the process can feel far less overwhelming. Support can also make a huge difference during this time, especially when you are balancing solo parenting, work, and legal admin. For extra help, guidance, and practical resources, explore [**Beanstalk Mums’ support services**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/). ## Step 1: Apply for a Divorce and Check Eligibility Requirements The first legal step is checking whether you are eligible to apply for a divorce in Australia. [**The Federal Circuit and Family Court**](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/divorce-overview) handles most federal family matters, and the court’s rules focus on whether the marriage has ended, not who was at fault for the breakdown. Australia has a no-fault system, so the court does not decide blame. Instead, it must be satisfied that the relationship has broken down irretrievably and that you meet the legal criteria before you file. #### Here are the key filing criteria to understand: - **Must be separated for at least 12 months:** You usually need to be separated for 12 months, or at least 12 months prior to lodging the divorce application. In some cases, couples may live under one roof while still being considered separate. - **At least one spouse must live in Australia:** One party must live in Australia, treat it as home, or be an Australian citizen. - **Grounds for divorce:** The only ground is that the marriage has irretrievably broken down after a period of separation. - **Filing online or via paper application:** Most people file an application for divorce online, though some still use a paper document. - **Required supporting documents:** You will usually need to provide a marriage certificate, and sometimes a translated copy, extra proof, or an affidavit if you were living together after you separated. If you and your former spouse were living under one roof, the court may ask you to file an affidavit explaining how you lived separately and apart, even though you stayed at the same address. If you were married less than two years, you may also need to consider counselling or obtain permission from the court to proceed without it. Before you file, it helps to create a simple checklist so you know which form, copy, and supporting document you still need to file. If you have children under the age of 18, the court will also want details about the arrangements for the children. This does not mean you must have every parenting issue settled, but you do need to show there is a workable arrangement in place for schooling, care, and daily life before the court will grant the divorce. ![Divorce in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-facebook-post-6.jpg "Divorce Process - Beanstalk Mums") ## Step 2: Serving Divorce Papers to Your Spouse If you make a sole application, the next step is serving the divorce documents on your spouse or ex-partner. This part matters because the court must know the other person has received the application for divorce and had a fair chance to respond. If your ex-partner wants to disagree with part of the claim, they may be able to file a response before the hearing. Here are the main ways papers can be served in Australia: - **Personal service:** The forms can be hand-delivered by someone over 18, but not by you. This could be a friend, a professional server, or another adult. - **Post or registered mail:** You may send a copy by post if the other party is willing to sign an acknowledgement of service. - **Accepting formal consent:** A cooperative spouse may sign to confirm receipt, which can make the divorce application smoother. - **Understanding timelines and proof of service:** You must serve the papers within the required timeframe and keep proof for the court. If your spouse is in Australia, you generally need to serve the papers at least 28 days before the divorce hearing. If they are overseas, the timeframe is usually longer, so it is wise to prepare early and keep a full copy of everything you file. The signed Acknowledgement of Service and any affidavit help the court verify that the process was handled properly. This step can feel awkward or emotionally charged, especially if communication with your ex-partner is already strained. But getting service right matters, because a missing document, a timing error, or an unsigned acknowledgement of service can delay the hearing, force the court to adjourn, or require you to file again. ## Step 3: Attending Court Hearings and Mediation in Family Law By this stage, many mums start worrying about whether they will need to attend the hearing. The good news is that not every divorce in Australia involves a dramatic day in court. Many matters are straightforward, and the hearing is simply the point where the court checks that the application for divorce, service, and children’s details all satisfy the rules. Here is what to expect: - **Court appearance for consent or contested divorces:** If there are children under 18 or the matter is disputed, you may need to attend the divorce hearing. - **Mediation for parenting or financial disputes:** Separate issues about children, property, or money may be dealt with through mediation rather than a final court hearing. - **Preparing necessary documents in advance:** Bring or upload every document, copy, and note the court requires. - **Seeking legal advice for representation:** A lawyer can provide legal advice, explain the likely order, and help you decide whether to file a response. If your spouse or ex-partner challenges part of the application, the family court may ask both sides to provide more information or may adjourn the matter to another hearing date. Some people also choose to seek counsel or emotional support before a hearing, because legal stress and family change often go hand in hand. If there are parenting or property disputes, mediation may help you agree on a practical arrangement without deepening the conflict. Preparation makes a real difference here. Knowing when you must attend, what you need to show, and whether your case belongs in mediation or a family court setting can help you feel calmer and more in control. ## Step 4: Finalising the Divorce Order Once the court is satisfied with the paperwork and any required hearing has taken place, it may grant your divorce. At that point, the court makes a divorce order, but the divorce is not final on the same day. This is one of the most important parts of the divorce proceedings, because the legal end of the marriage only happens when that order takes effect. Here is what happens next: - **The court issues the divorce order:** If the court is satisfied, it will grant the divorce and make a divorce order. - **The effective date of the order:** In most cases, the order becomes final one month and one day later. - **Obtaining the official certificate:** You can then download the final decree or official copy through the Commonwealth Courts Portal. - **Understanding post-divorce rights and responsibilities:** A final order ends the marriage, but parenting, property, and money matters may still need separate action. This is often the point where the process feels real. Once the divorce order takes effect, you have a clear legal record that the marriage has ended. Keep a safe copy of the final document, because you may need it later for name changes, admin, or future applications. If you still need property court orders or a binding financial arrangement, this is a good time to speak with a lawyer. ## Step 5: Managing Property, Finances, and Children For many families, this is the part that feels the most emotional and overwhelming. Even after you apply for a divorce, there are still decisions to make about assets, debts, children, and future financial support. These issues can affect your stability for years, so it helps to slow down, gather information, and avoid rushing into an order or informal promise just because you feel pressure from a spouse or ex-partner. Here are some of the key areas to work through: - **Division of assets and liabilities:** Property settlement can include the home, savings, debts, cars, superannuation, and other shared responsibilities. - **Child custody, parenting plans, and support:** You may need parenting arrangements that set out where the children live and how decisions are made. - **Financial agreements or settlements:** Consent court orders or financial agreements can formalise an arrangement and reduce future conflict. - **Seeking legal or financial guidance:** An attorney or adviser can help you apply the right strategy to your circumstances. If you have children under the age of 18, the court will look closely at whether there are suitable arrangements for the children. That could include schooling, health care, living schedules, and contact with each parent. It is also important to remember that divorce itself does not automatically settle property matters, even if you and your ex-partner are already living separate lives or have been back together briefly at some point since the original separation. This step is not only about legal paperwork. It is about building a workable future for yourself and your children. Taking the time to understand your rights, your budget, and what kind of support you may need can help you make steady decisions instead of reactive ones. ## Common Mistakes to Avoid During the Process of Divorce in Australia When you are under emotional and practical pressure, it is easy to miss a date, lose a copy, or file the wrong document. During a divorce in Australia, even small mistakes can lead to delay, extra expense, or an unexpected hearing in court. Staying organised can reduce stress and help you protect your rights. Here are some common mistakes to avoid: - **Missing deadlines or paperwork errors:** A filing error, missing document, or incomplete form can delay the court process. - **Not seeking professional legal advice:** Good legal advice can help you understand your options before you agree to anything important. - **Failing to document parenting or financial arrangements:** Keep written records of each arrangement, expense, and care schedule. - **Letting emotions drive decisions:** Strong feelings are normal, but they can make it harder to think clearly about the long term. It also helps to remember that one part of the process does not automatically fix everything else. A final decree ending the marriage does not instantly settle parenting, property, or support issues. If you are unsure, ask a lawyer, community service, or trusted support person to review your checklist before you sign or file anything else. ## Where to Find Legal Advice and Support in Australia You do not have to navigate this on your own. The right support can help you feel more informed, more confident, and less alone as you move through the court system and the wider family transition. Whether you are looking for a private lawyer, low-cost help, or emotional support, there are trusted services across Australia that can guide you. Here are some of the main places to look for help: - **Family law solicitors and mediation services:** A family lawyer can explain your rights, help you file, prepare for a hearing, and advise you about court orders. - **Legal aid and community support organisations:** Legal aid services can be especially helpful if the budget is a concern. In New South Wales, Legal Aid NSW may be one starting point. - **Online government resources:** The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia offers guides, FAQs, and an interactive pathway through the Commonwealth Courts Portal. - **Support groups for separated or divorced parents:** Community groups, counselling, and peer support can provide both practical guidance and emotional counsel. If you are looking for affordable guidance, Beanstalk Mums also shares helpful information on [**free legal support in Australia**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/). Reaching out for support is not a sign of weakness. It is a smart step towards protecting yourself, your children, and your future. ![Divorce Process](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-facebook-post-5.jpg "The First 5 Legal Steps of the Divorce Process Explained - Beanstalk Mums") ## FAQ: How Long Does It Take to Finalise a Divorce in Australia? The timeline can vary, but there are a few key stages that affect how long it takes from separation to final order. - **Usually, after 12 months of separation** – Before you can apply for a divorce, you must be separated for at least 12 months. - **Depends on whether the divorce is contested or uncontested:** If your spouse agrees and no one needs to file a response, the path is often simpler. - **Court processing times may vary by region:** The hearing date and administration timeline can differ depending on the court. - **Legal advice can help speed up or clarify steps:** Early support can help you complete the right forms, avoid an absence problem at the hearing, and reduce the risk of delay. In many cases, once the court decides to grant the divorce, the final order takes effect one month and one day later. If the court needs more information, however, it may delay or adjourn the matter. ## Taking the Next Step with Confidence Navigating divorce in Australia can feel daunting at first, but understanding each legal step can make the process far less overwhelming. By following each stage carefully, from the first application for divorce to the final divorce order, you can reduce stress, avoid unnecessary setbacks, and better protect your rights, your finances, and your children’s well-being. This is a challenging season, but it is also one where informed, steady decisions can help you move through the court system with more confidence. Start organising your documents today — taking small steps brings clarity and control. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-in-australia-the-first-legal-steps-explained/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce --- ### [How Franchise Opportunities Make Great Side Hustles for Busy Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-franchise-opportunities-make-great-side-hustles-for-busy-mums/) **Published:** March 26, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a mum comes with its own set of challenges, especially when it comes to balancing family life with the desire for a fulfilling career. Many mums want to contribute to their household finances, grow professionally, and maintain a flexible schedule that allows them to stay present for their children. Franchise opportunities present an ideal solution, offering the perfect balance between work, income, and flexibility. Here’s why franchise opportunities are a great side hustle for busy mums. ## **Flexibility in Work Hours** One of the most significant benefits of owning a franchise as a busy mum is the flexibility that it provides. Unlike the traditional 9-to-5 jobs, most [franchise opportunities](https://franchises-for-sale.au/) allow you to set your hours, meaning you can work when it suits you best—whether that’s during your kids’ school hours or in the evenings just before bedtime. This flexibility is invaluable for mums, as it allows them to be hands-on with family responsibilities while still earning a steady income on the side. Additionally, many franchises offer remote or home-based models, which can further enhance the convenience of managing a business while raising a family. ![franchise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/0658ae1b-f356-427e-b473-94cc0f58a8ed-1066x800.jpg "0658ae1b-f356-427e-b473-94cc0f58a8ed - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Lower Risk with Established Business Models** Starting a business from scratch can be a daunting and risky process, especially for mums who may not have the time or resources to navigate the challenges of building a brand and customer base. Franchises, however, offer a lower-risk opportunity. The business model, branding, and often the customer base are already established, which means you can hit the ground running with a proven system. Many franchisors also provide training and even ongoing support, further reducing your franchise business’s chances of failure. Some franchises even offer financing options, making it far easier for mums to get started without having to provide such a substantial initial investment. And for those who need support with setup costs or early-stage cash flow, [private lender business loans](https://securedlending.com.au/secured-business-loans/private-lender-australia/) can provide flexible funding while helping keep personal finances protected. ## **Minimal Experience Required** Many mums may feel they lack the specific skills or experience to run their own business. However, franchises are designed to be user-friendly and provide ample support. Whether it’s a retail, service, or food franchise, most companies offer training programs that teach you everything you need to know to succeed. For mums who want to start a side hustle without needing years of prior experience, a franchise is a great way to tap into entrepreneurship without being overwhelmed, as some franchises allow part-time hours, so it can be a fantastic way to make some money on the side without abandoning your responsibilities as a mother. Some franchises also provide mentorship programs, connecting new franchisees with experienced business owners to help guide them through the early stages of operation. ## **Opportunities for Passive Income** Many franchise models are designed to operate with a semi-passive income structure. For busy mums, this is a game changer. Once the initial setup is done, some franchises can run on autopilot with minimal day-to-day involvement. You can hire staff to manage the operations, while you take on a more supervisory or managerial role. This allows you to focus on your family while still earning income, creating a perfect work-life balance. Examples of semi-passive franchises include vending machine businesses, laundromats, and subscription-based services, all of which can generate income with limited oversight from the franchisee. ## **Personal Growth and Satisfaction** Franchise opportunities can also provide a sense of personal accomplishment and growth. Being a mum can sometimes feel like you’re stuck in a routine, especially if you’re juggling home life and children’s schedules. Owning a franchise can reignite your passion for work and business, giving you a sense of achievement that can positively impact your mental health and confidence this is why many successful female entrepreneurs may use franchising as a great stepping stone to setup their own business from scratch in the future once they acquire the experience necessary to be successful. Additionally, running a business can provide valuable skills such as financial management, leadership, and problem-solving, which can be beneficial for both personal and professional development. ## **Community and Networking** Owning a franchise also provides the opportunity to network and connect with other like-minded individuals, including fellow franchisees, customers, and suppliers. For mums, this can be an excellent way to expand social circles, build friendships, and gain support from others who understand the challenges of balancing work and family life. Additionally, many franchise communities offer ongoing learning opportunities, workshops, and conferences, which can help mums develop new skills and stay motivated. Some franchises even have exclusive networking groups for women in business, providing a supportive environment to share experiences and advice. ## **Diverse Franchise Options** There are countless franchise opportunities available that cater to different interests and investment levels. Whether a mum is passionate about fitness, education, beauty, or food, there’s a franchise to suit her skills and lifestyle. Some popular choices for mums include tutoring franchises, home cleaning services, fitness studios, and children’s activity programs. These options allow mums to engage in industries they enjoy while maintaining flexibility and financial independence. ## **Conclusion** Franchise opportunities are an excellent way for busy mums to start a [side hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/ "side hustle"), offering flexibility, lower risks, and opportunities for passive income and personal growth. Whether you’re looking for a way to earn extra money, achieve personal fulfillment, or take control of your schedule, franchising is a practical solution that aligns well with the demands of modern motherhood. By choosing the right franchise, mums can enjoy the benefits of business ownership without compromising their ability to be present for their families. The combination of support, structure, and independence makes franchising one of the best side hustle options for mums who want to have it all. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-franchise-opportunities-make-great-side-hustles-for-busy-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-franchise-opportunities-make-great-side-hustles-for-busy-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Career --- ### [How to Start a Small Business in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/start-a-small-business-from-hobby/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Thinking of starting a small business? Whether it’s a passion project or a game-changing idea, turning your vision into reality can be both exciting and challenging. This guide will walk you through every step, from brainstorming your business idea to managing your finances and building your online presence. By the end, you’ll have a clear roadmap to launch and grow your business confidently, even if you’re juggling the responsibilities of being a single mum. ## **Why start a small business in Australia?** Australia has a thriving economy and support systems designed to help entrepreneurs succeed. For single mums, starting a business may offer the flexibility and financial independence needed to balance work and family life. Every business venture is a chance to turn your skills and passions into a source of income while contributing to your community. ## **10 Steps to starting a business** ## **1. Find the best business idea** The first step in launching a small business is brainstorming a good business idea. Think of the kind of business you want. What are your interests, skills, and market gaps? Many small businesses start from hobbies or solutions to everyday problems. A strong business idea will set you up for success by addressing potential customers’ needs and standing out in a competitive market. Also, when protecting your intellectual property as a new business owner, consulting with [IP attorneys in Melbourne](https://ipguardian.com.au/melbourne/ "IP attorneys in Melbourne") can help ensure you’re safeguarding your ideas from the get-go. Engaging an [established firm like DCC](https://dcc.com/expertise/patents/) to manage your Australian patent protection services ensures your unique business solutions are legally defensible as you enter the competitive market ## **2. Craft a well-written business plan** A [well-written business plan](https://business.gov.au/planning/business-plans/develop-your-business-plan) can help you map out your business goals, strategies, and financial projections. It’s a tool to help your business grow and secure funding. Your plan should cover the structure of your business, product or service offerings, and how you’ll reach your target audience. A detailed plan can be your secret weapon for success. ![Small business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/1000018371-1067x800.jpg "1000018371 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Understand business structure options** Choosing the right business structure is crucial. In Australia, you can operate as a sole proprietorship, partnership, or limited liability company. Each has its own tax implications and liability considerations. Many business owners choose a sole proprietorship for simplicity, but consulting an expert can help you decide what’s best for your business. ## **4. Choose a business name** Choose a memorable business name that reflects your brand. Don’t forget to secure a domain name if you’re planning an online business. ## **5. Register your business** You’ll need to register your business with the Australian Government to operate legally. Registering your business is a vital step to protect your business identity and build credibility. ## **6. Open a business bank account** Keeping your business and personal finances separate is essential for smooth operations. A business bank account not only simplifies tax time but also helps you track business expenses and income efficiently. Many business owners find it’s a key step to managing finances effectively. ## **7. Set up an online presence** Launching a website and using digital marketing can make your business visible to potential customers. Whether it’s through social media, email campaigns, or a professional website, building your online presence can make your small enterprise stand out and grow. ## **8. Choose the right business loans and grants** Starting a [new business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/small-businesses-start-from-home/) often requires capital to get started. Australian entrepreneurs can explore small business loans to cover initial costs. The government also offers business grants, but you’ll have to check your eligibility first. Many companies leverage these resources to invest in equipment, space for your business, or marketing efforts. Researching your options can make your business venture more feasible. ![Start a Small Business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Dcc3b6a8-d561-430c-8ac9-9509153446d2-1066x800.jpg "Dcc3b6a8-d561-430c-8ac9-9509153446d2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **9. Manage finances with accounting software** Every company needs reliable accounting software to track income, expenses, and financial projections. Tools like MYOB or Xero are popular in Australia and can simplify bookkeeping, invoicing, and tax reporting. This step can set you up for success and free up time to focus on running your business. ## **10. Get a business insurance** Liability insurance is crucial for protecting your business from unexpected risks. Business insurance can cover your assets, employees, and operations. While no one likes to think about worst-case scenarios, preparing for them ensures you can keep your business off the ground and thriving. ## **Tips to Grow Your Small Business** Once your business is running, it’s time to think about growth. Invest in digital marketing services like [SEO marketing](https://safaridigital.co.nz/seo-agency/ "SEO marketing"), expand your product or service offerings, and network with other business owners. Many business owners find that small, consistent improvements help their businesses grow sustainably. ## **Small business ideas** 1\. **Photography Business**: Love snapping photos? Turn your skills into a business! Capture special moments at events, shoot family portraits, or dive into real estate photography to give homes that picture-perfect look. 2\. **Catering Service**: Got a knack for cooking? Start a home-based catering gig! Whip up meals for events or offer meal prep services to help busy families enjoy delicious, stress-free dinners. 3\. **Virtual Assistant:** If you prefer working from home, being a virtual assistant could be your jam. Help businesses handle scheduling, emails, and admin work. 4\. **Event Planning:** Love planning parties? Put your creativity to work organising weddings or events. Handle the details, work with vendors, and make dream celebrations come to life. 5\. **Online Retail**: Do you have a talent for crafting or a knack for finding unique items? Sell your creations or curated finds online and reach customers worldwide through popular e-commerce platforms. ## **Final Thoughts** Starting your business may seem overwhelming, but breaking it into manageable steps can make the process rewarding. For single mums, the flexibility and independence of being a small business owner can transform your lifestyle. Take Megan’s story, for example. As a single mum of two, she started an online business selling handmade jewellery from the comfort of her own home. By following a strong business plan and keeping her finances separate, Megan turned her hobby into a successful small business.So, are you ready to take the leap and launch your own business? With determination, planning, and the right resources, you can turn your dream into reality. After all, every successful business starts with a single step—and this could be yours! ![Turn hobby into home business | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Turn-hobby-to-business.png "Turn hobby to business - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/start-a-small-business-from-hobby/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/start-a-small-business-from-hobby/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** business owner, self-employed, work from home, small business, hobby, business idea --- ### [10 Breastfeeding jumpers for convenience and warmth 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-feeding-jumpers/) **Published:** June 1, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Breastfeeding is the best! But it can be challenging to find comfortable, convenient clothing that allows for easy nursing while keeping you and your baby warm and cosy. That’s where breastfeeding jumpers come in! Whether you’re out on a cold day or snuggled up at night, these versatile pieces of clothing are designed specifically for nursing mothers, providing easy access for feeding while keeping you warm and comfortable. On a mission to ensure all breastfeeding mothers and their babies feel snug and safe, I’ve hunted down the best breastfeeding jumpers on the market in 2026. I hope this list makes your breastfeeding journey easier and more enjoyable. ## Breastfeeding jumpers for convenience and warmth 2026 ### 1. Shein breastfeeding jumper Breastfeeding mums are looking glamorous, thanks to the array of fashionable choices we have today. I love the way this jumper from Shein gives you a beautiful silhouette and gives the baby easy access to the boob. Styles like this are perfect when you want something a little formal and special. [![Shein breastfeeding jumper | Breast feeding jumpers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/SHEIN.jpg "SHEIN - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3MeKSNI) Buy here: [Shein](https://fave.co/3MeKSNI) ### 2. Brilliant Basics Women’s Maternity Hoodie I love hoodies, and I love the concealed zippers on the sides of this one. This should be perfect for taking the baby out for a stroll or a quick walk to the shops. The material also looks super comfy, so it’s also a good all-rounder. [![Brilliant Basics Women's Maternity Nursing Hoodie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/brilliant-basics.jpg "brilliant basics - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bigw.com.au/) Buy here: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/) ### 3. Boohoo brown knit Knit mums represent! Knits are such versatile pieces, and I appreciate that the boob access on this jumper is on the side instead of the chest. Tucked in or under a nice blazer, this one can still be perfectly usable even when you’re not breastfeeding anymore. [![Boohoo brown knit | Breast feeding jumpers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/womens-olive-maternity-slouchy-cowl-neck-jumper.jpg "womens-olive-maternity-slouchy-cowl-neck-jumper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=42506&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fau.boohoo.com%2Fmaternity-slouchy-cowl-neck-jumper%2FGZZ39497.html%3Fcolor%3D151) Buy here: [Boohoo](https://au.boohoo.com/) ### 4. Mamas Boobery from Etsy I mean, sweatshirts are already perfect as they are, but did you know they make for superb maternity gear? This super cosy and hilarious statement sweatshirt from Mama’s Boobery may just be what you need to make a tiring day a little better. This design comes in a variety of colours, so choose one that makes you feel your best (or one that effectively hides spit-ups). ![Mama's Boobery from Etsy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/mamas-boobery.jpg "mama's boobery - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Women Causal Maternity Nursing Sweatshirt](https://amzn.to/3FaWrnW "https://amzn.to/3FaWrnW") ### 5. The maternity Oodie Nothing in this list says “snuggles” more than an oversized wearable blanket. Super warm and comfy, use it when breastfeeding, enjoying a cup of hot cocoa on the couch, or binge-watching your fave shows. And if that’s not enough, it also has an internal pocket, a phone pocket on the shoulder, and a giant front pocket. With all these pockets, the Stork Oodie is perfect for every mum (and every woman in general). [![The maternity oodie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/oodie.jpg "oodie - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/42qCy30) Buy here: [The Oodie](https://theoodie.com/) ## More fabulous breastfeeding jumpers here ### 6. Elonglin breastfeeding hoodie This casual breastfeeding hoodie is perfect for everyday indoor and outdoor wear in spring and fall. It’s made of terry cloth, so it’s breathable and comfy – which mums should prioritise when nursing. The material is absorbent, too, effectively hiding drool and spit-ups. ![Maternity Mom Plaid Print Long Sleeve Breastfeeding Hooded Sweatshirt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/matenity-mom.jpg "matenity mom - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Elonglin Womens Maternity Hoodie](https://amzn.to/43paNLu "https://amzn.to/43paNLu") ### 7. Shein funnel neck nursing top I love that nursing mums are not limited to oversized clothes nowadays. This black funnel-neck nursing top from Shein makes breastfeeding look sexy and sophisticated. Customers rave about the very stretchy fabric that still retains its shape. This particular style goes up to size 18 and comes in black and burgundy. [![Shein maternity funnel neck | Breast feeding jumpers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/shein-maternity.jpg "shein-maternity - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/41nSeCJ) Buy here: [Shein](https://fave.co/41nSeCJ) ### 8. Asos Mamalicious maternity top Ooh la-la, that’s one Mamalicious top! This doesn’t really look like something you wear to breastfeed, but it is! This sexy bump-to-baby maternity jumper is soft, stretchy, and goes up to XXL. No harm in [getting your sexy back as a mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/getting-sexy-back-single-mum/ "getting your sexy back as a mum") … even while breastfeeding! [![Asos Mamalicious](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/asos.png "asos - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3nYW5bE) Buy here: [Womens Maternity Tops/Shirts](https://amzn.to/4byacZX) ### 9. Cotton On Side Split Sweat Sweatshirt and side split? I’m sold! As I mentioned before, I love when the slit is on the side instead of the chest because you can still use this sweatshirt when you’re not heavily pregnant or breastfeeding. Plus, Cotton On is known for their super comfy and relaxed clothes, and that’s what you absolutely want when pregnant or nursing. Possibly my favourite in this list. [![Cotton on maternity classic washed split crew fleece](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/cotton-on.jpg "cotton on - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fmaternity-classic-washed-side-split-crew-fleece%2F2056107-04.html%3Fdwvar_2056107-04_color%3D2056107-04%26cgid%3Dwomens-maternity%26originalPid%3D2056107-04%23start%3D7%26sz%3D60) Buy here: [LILLUSORY Batwing Sweaters](https://amzn.to/3Fbg8fk "https://amzn.to/3Fbg8fk") ### 10. PatPat plaid hoodie Finally, we have this burgundy hoodie from PatPat. The zippers are discreet, so they don’t look like breastfeeding wear at first glance. However, if you’re a mum with larger breasts, this kind of nursing pocket might not be the best for you since it can be hard to zip up and down. [![PatPat stylish plaid long-sleeve nursing hoodie | | Breast feeding jumpers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/patplat.jpg "patpat - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60117?Url=https%3a%2f%2fau.patpat.com%2fproduct%2fstylish-plaid-long-sleeve-nursing-hoodie-428797.html) Buy here: [Bhome Nursing Hoodie](https://amzn.to/3FaPqDB "https://amzn.to/3FaPqDB") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-feeding-jumpers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-feeding-jumpers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping --- ### [How Women Can Build Strength, Confidence, and a Sculpted Physique](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-women-can-build-strength-confidence-and-a-sculpted-physique/) **Published:** March 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** More women than ever are redefining what their best body actually looks like. It is no longer about being the smallest version of yourself. It is about being the strongest, the most capable, and the most genuinely confident. It’s about building a body that performs well, looks great, and reflects the effort and intention you put into [taking care of yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/). That shift in perspective has changed everything, from how women train to how they approach the recovery habits and cosmetic choices that support the goals lifestyle alone cannot always fully deliver. This guide brings all three worlds together. It covers the training tools and habits that build real physical strength, the recovery practices that protect your results and keep you consistent, and the body confidence options that help women close the gap between where they are and where they want to be. ## **Why Strength Training Is the Best Investment a Woman Can Make** For years, we’ve been told cardio is the answer—but strength training is where real change happens. Lifting weights helps reshape your body, build definition, and boost your metabolism so you’re burning energy even at rest. It also supports bone health, which becomes more important as we get older. But honestly, the biggest shift? It’s how you feel. You stop chasing a certain look and start noticing what your body can actually do—and that confidence hits differently. If you’ve been hesitant, I get it. I used to think I’d bulk up too. But the reality is, women build lean, strong muscle—not anything extreme. No need to go all in overnight. Start small and give yourself the chance to feel stronger in your everyday life. ## **Why Kettlebells Belong in Every Woman’s Training Toolkit** Kettlebells are honestly one of the easiest ways to get strong without overcomplicating things—especially when you’re short on time or space (which, let’s be real, most of us are). With just one or two weights, you can work your whole body. Swings, squats, presses, rows—they hit multiple muscle groups at once while also getting your heart rate up. It’s efficient and actually feels like you’ve done something in a short session. I love that you can get a solid workout in 30 minutes without needing a full gym setup. They’re also great for real-life strength—the kind that helps with carrying kids, groceries, or just feeling more capable day to day. For mums building a home gym setup or looking to add serious training capability without a large equipment footprint, a quality kettlebell set is the highest-value addition available. If you’re ready to invest in the tool that transforms your training, you can shop for [kettlebells set](https://kintafitness.com.au/category/strength/weights/kettlebells/) through Kinta Fitness and choose from a range of quality options suited to every training level, from beginner to advanced. Selecting the right weight matters. Women new to kettlebell training typically begin with a weight between eight and twelve kilograms for most exercises, with a heavier option for lower body movements like swings and deadlifts. As strength builds, progressing to heavier weights is what drives continued adaptation and results. ## **Building a Training Routine That Produces Real Results** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-10-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/full-shot-people-training-together-gym_40132995.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=19&uuid=29031761-eec3-4895-95e7-2694c80c60e7&query=building+a+training+routine) Having the right equipment helps, but consistency is what really changes your body. Even three to four kettlebell sessions a week can make a difference if you stick with it. Keep it simple—squats, swings, presses, and rows. A mix of lower and upper body sessions is enough to get results. The key is progression. Gradually increase the weight, reps, or intensity so your body keeps improving. And don’t forget protein. Foods like eggs, chicken, fish, or a quick shake support muscle and recovery. ## **Recovery: The Part of the Equation Most Women Underestimate** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-9-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/young-pretty-caucasian-woman-sitting-armchair-designed-living-room-holding-book_12859182.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=0&uuid=8df0227d-dcfb-4fe1-b097-73a1857d0f2d&query=rest+recovery%3a+the+part+of+the+equation+most+women+underestimate) Training is what gets the ball rolling—but recovery is where the real progress happens. If you’re feeling stuck, it’s often not your workouts—it’s everything in between. Sleep is the big one. I know how hard that is as a mum, but even small improvements help. That’s when your body repairs, resets, and actually builds strength. On rest days, gentle movement like walking or stretching keeps things ticking without adding pressure. It helps your body bounce back faster. And then there’s recovery support. Regular massage can ease soreness and help you relax—but let’s be real, it’s not always practical. Having something at home, like a massage chair, can make it easier to look after your body consistently—without needing to carve out extra time you don’t have. Investing in [recliner massage chairs](https://www.relaxforlife.com.au/collections/massage-recliner-chairs) through Relax for Life gives you access to a range of options designed for genuine therapeutic benefit rather than novelty. Modern massage recliners incorporate body scanning, zero gravity positioning, air compression, and targeted roller systems that deliver a recovery experience that supports the demands of consistent strength training. For women serious about their training results, quality recovery infrastructure is as important as quality training equipment. The physical and psychological reset that a dedicated recovery session provides also supports the consistency that produces long-term results. Training feels sustainable when your body is genuinely recovering between sessions. It feels like an uphill battle when it is not. ## **Body Confidence: Closing the Gap That Training Cannot Always Bridge** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-11-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/young-woman-stretching-railing_1043199.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=14&uuid=d9ce3824-0e7f-463b-9b7a-51bc12b37a8b&query=body+confidence%3a+closing+the+gap+that+training+cannot+always+bridge) Strength training can do amazing things—but it still works within what your body naturally gives you. And sometimes, that means certain changes just won’t happen through workouts alone. Things like breast size, shape, or changes after weight loss, pregnancy, or breastfeeding can feel frustrating—especially when you’ve worked hard to feel strong again. You’re not imagining it. For some women, options like fat transfer breast augmentation feel like a more natural step. It uses your own fat (usually from areas like the tummy or thighs) to gently add volume and shape—no implants involved. It’s a personal choice, and there’s no right or wrong here. Just what helps you feel comfortable in your own skin. If it’s something you’re considering, finding a skilled, experienced surgeon really matters. If you have been exploring [breast enlargement options in Sydney](https://www.bbclinic.com.au/breast-augmentation-with-fat-transfer/), a thorough consultation with an experienced specialist is the most important starting point. Look for a clinic with a proven track record in this specific technique, a transparent consultation process, and a genuine commitment to natural-looking outcomes. These factors protect both your safety and your results. ## **The Complete Picture** Getting your best body isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding what works for you and sticking with it. For me, that looks like squeezing in a quick strength session between school runs, doing what I can with what I’ve got, and not skipping rest (because burnout is real). Some days it’s a kettlebell workout in the lounge. Other days, it’s just getting to bed earlier or booking that appointment I’ve been putting off. It all counts. You don’t need to justify your choices or compare your path to anyone else’s. You’re allowed to do this your way. Start small. Stay consistent. Trust yourself. Strong and confident isn’t some far-off version of you—it’s built in the little choices you make every day. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-women-can-build-strength-confidence-and-a-sculpted-physique/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-women-can-build-strength-confidence-and-a-sculpted-physique/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Single Parenting Payment Rates: New Centrelink Updates for 2026](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-new-centrelink-updates/) **Published:** March 27, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ### **Quick Takeaways:** - The official single parenting payment rates 2026 have seen a slight indexation bump to $1,011.50 per fortnight. - Commonwealth Rent Assistance and the Family Tax Benefit (FTB) have also increased to help keep pace with inflation. - A massive win: The new “3-Day Guarantee” gives single mums 72 hours of subsidised child care without the stressful activity test. - Watch out for “deeming rate” increases if you actually have a chunk of savings stashed away. - You don’t need to do anything to get the new rates; existing recipients usually have updates applied automatically. Let’s be brutally honest for a second: the sheer panic of checking your bank account right before grocery day is a universal single mum experience. When you are the sole financial provider, the project manager, and the emotional support human for your kids, the mental load is absolutely crushing. That is why any news about the single parenting payment rates for 2026 is a big deal for our household budgets. We have just hit the March indexation period. This means Services Australia has slightly adjusted our payments to keep up with the terrifying cost of living. I know dealing with Centrelink usually requires a strong cup of coffee and a lot of deep breaths, but this update is actually a win for us. Let’s break down exactly what the new single parenting payment rates 2026 look like and how they might give your budget a tiny bit of breathing room. ![single parenting payment rates](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-facebook-post-2.jpg "single parenting payment rates - Beanstalk Mums") ## What are the new single-parenting payment rates for 2026? **As of March 20, 2026, the Parenting Payment Single (PPS) has been indexed to $1,011.50 per fortnight for principal carers. This $4.00 fortnightly increase to the single parenting payment rates in 2026 is part of the standard CPI adjustment to help solo parents manage rising household costs.** Look, I’m not going to pretend a $4.00 fortnightly increase is going to magically solve our budget squeezes. It might barely cover a lukewarm flat white while you’re hiding in the car before school pickup. But when you are flying solo, every single dollar counts towards keeping the lights on and the kids fed. Your exact single parenting payment rates are calculated individually by Services Australia based on your current situation. If you want to dive into the nitty-gritty of the legislation and exact income thresholds, the [**Services Australia website**](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/) has all the official tables and calculators. If you are still unsure what you are entitled to, check out our guide on [**Single Parenting Payment Rates: Services Australia Update Explained**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/). It helps to know exactly what safety nets are available when you’re doing it all yourself. ## What other Centrelink changes impact single mums in 2026? **Alongside the single parenting payment rates 2026, Family Tax Benefit (FTB) limits have increased**. **Plus, a new 3-Day Guarantee provides 72 hours of subsidised child care per fortnight. However, deeming rates on savings have also increased to a maximum of 3.25%**. **This may slightly reduce payments for parents with significant assets.** The basic payment isn’t the only thing that got a tweak this March. Your Family Tax Benefit (FTB) limits and rates were also slightly bumped up as part of the routine inflation indexation. Again, this is automatic, but it means a little extra buffer against the ever-growing grocery bill. Then there is the child care update, which is genuinely life-changing. The old, incredibly stressful “activity test” has been scrapped. Single mums are now guaranteed at least 3 days (72 hours) of subsidised early childhood education each fortnight. This applies regardless of how many hours you actually spend working, studying, or volunteering, which takes a massive weight off our shoulders. The only tricky update is the “deeming rates” increase. If you actually managed to squirrel away some savings (a rare luxury, but it happens!), Centrelink now assumes those assets earn more interest—up to 3.25%. This means they think your savings are making you more money, which could slightly reduce your payment if you have a decent chunk of cash stashed away. ## How do the single parenting payment rates affect Rent Assistance? **Eligible single parents with 1–2 children will see their maximum Commonwealth Rent Assistance rise to $253.12 per fortnight starting March 20, 2026. This 4.7% increase is automatically applied alongside your regular single parenting payment rates 2026 if your rental details are up to date.** Rent is out of control right now. Finding an affordable place for you and your little rascals feels like an extreme sport. This extra boost to Rent Assistance isn’t going to buy you a mansion, but it provides vital stability during seasons of transition. Just make sure your lease details are completely up to date on your myGov account so you don’t miss out. If your housing situation changes, whether you rent, own, or are paying off a mortgage, it can heavily affect additional support. Keep Centrelink in the loop so you don’t end up with a terrifying debt letter down the track. Update changes promptly, as delays can lead to overpayments or debts. ## Why understanding the single parenting payment rates matters for family resilience. Let’s be real: raising kids on one income is exhausting. The mental math we do at the supermarket checkout is relentless. We don’t need toxic positivity telling us to “just budget better”. We need practical help covering everyday living expenses and child-related costs, including housing, food, school supplies, and utilities. These indexation updates are a legal requirement to keep up with inflation, even if they sometimes feel like a drop in the ocean. Understanding how the rates for 2026 work helps you make informed decisions without guilt or confusion. It reminds us that we have every right to access this support while we raise the next generation. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-facebook-post-3-edited.jpg "Single parenting payment rates services australia update explained - Beanstalk Mums") ### Making the most of the single parenting payment rates for your kids. When that slightly larger payment lands in your account, it is tempting to just let it get swallowed by the overarching grocery bill. Instead, try budgeting fortnightly payments into weekly amounts. It helps stretch the dollars so you aren’t living on two-minute noodles by day thirteen. If you are ready to take control of your budget and build long-term stability, check out our guide on [**Financial Planning for Single Mums: How to Stand on Your Own Two Feet**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/financial-planning-for-single-mums-how-to-stand-on-your-own-two-feet/). You are doing an incredible job under immense pressure. There is absolutely no shame in using these safety nets to help you build an independent, sustainable future. ## What are the most frequently asked questions about the single parenting payment rates for 2026? **Here are the most common questions single mums have about the March 2026 changes impacting the family budget.** - **Do I need to contact Centrelink to get the new rate?** No, existing recipients usually have updates applied automatically. You only need to contact them if your circumstances (like your income or rent) have changed. - **What if I work part-time?** Your payments reduce gradually as income increases. Always declare your gross income accurately so your top-up is calculated correctly without triggering a debt. - **How do I check my exact payment amount?** Log in to myGov Services Centrelink to view your current rate and payment history. Motherhood is a wild ride, and doing it solo is the toughest gig in the world. You don’t have to navigate Centrelink, budget stress, or toddler tantrums alone. Come and join our private Facebook community, the **[SingleMum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**. Connect, vent, and share with a community of mums who truly get it. We’ve got the virtual wine ready! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-new-centrelink-updates/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-new-centrelink-updates/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Almost Free Co-parenting Apps for Separated Parents to Communicate Better](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/) **Published:** March 26, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Navigating parenting after separation isn’t easy, especially when communication with your ex feels strained, inconsistent or emotionally charged. Fortunately, the right free co-parenting apps can make a huge difference. For single mums juggling work, finances and raising kids, these digital tools can help you stay organised, reduce conflict and focus on what matters most—your children. Below, we’ve rounded up the best almost free co-parenting apps to communicate better, including their features, pros, and what to watch out for. ***Further reading: [How to let go of hate and be a better co-parent.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/)*** ## Free Co-parenting Apps Options ### [Talking Parents](https://talkingparents.com/home) TalkingParents is designed specifically to support clear, accountable communication between separated parents, with a strong focus on record-keeping. **Key features:** - Unalterable message records (cannot be edited or deleted) - Time-stamped communication logs - Shared calendar and file storage - Option to download court-admissible records **Which bit is free**: Messaging function, Shared Calendar, receiving payments and recorded phone calls **What mums should know:** This app is particularly useful if communication tends to break down or if you need a reliable record of conversations. It removes the “he said, she said” dynamic. **Best for:** Parents needing transparent, documented communication [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-6-1200x486.png "image-6 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://talkingparents.com/home) ***Available via:*** Apple and Android ### [Cozi](https://www.cozi.com/) Cozi is a general family organiser, but many separated parents use it as a simple shared parenting app when communication is relatively amicable. **Key features:** - Create shared calendars and to-do lists - Share photos, recipes, shopping lists, and meal planners with the family - Automatic reminders for appointments and school events - Communicate with your co-parent via the Cozi app. **Which bit is free**: Free to use all features (with ads) **What mums should know:** There’s no built-in messaging designed for co-parenting, so you’ll need to communicate elsewhere. However, it’s excellent for keeping both parents aligned on schedules. **Best for:** Low-conflict co-parenting where organisation is the main goal [![Cozi](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/e7lwlnhZy1foesjclSPPgUTaTayEFgqKMhEYHG3tAGFG9aJwUOFYJgAdJfaiNk9Rm38=w1313-h815)](https://www.cozi.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ### [Famcal](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.famcal&hl=en) FamCal is another family organiser that can double as a lightweight shared parenting app. We like the colour-coded organiser that identifies each family member. The free version is very basic, and you need to upgrade to premium to access features like shared contacts and event tracking. **Key features:** - Shared calendar with events and appointments - Notes, contacts and to-do lists - Birthday and event reminders **Which bit is free**: Shared family calendar, memos, tasks and notifications **What mums should know:** Like Cozi, it lacks formal co-parenting communication tools, so it’s best used alongside another messaging method. **Best for:** Simple coordination and scheduling [![Famcal free co-parenting apps ](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/LbmuaHgKIpuF730ZYkyX6KgY0M7v0OEJaUBZHgeUVUtA1S44t_vEuRH52_I727zvjvM=w1313-h815)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.famcal&hl=en) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ### [Google Calendar + Google Docs](https://calendar.google.com/) 1. If you prefer flexibility, using Google tools is a practical, free co-parenting app alternative. **Key features:** - Share a Google Calendar for custody schedules and events - Use Google Docs to outline parenting agreements or routines - Store important documents in Google Drive **Which bit is free:** All features are free to use **What mums should know:** This option requires more manual setup and cooperation, but it gives you full control without ongoing costs. **Best for:** Tech-comfortable parents who prefer custom solutions ![Free Co-parenting Apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/In-article-images-2026-03-26t100805%20177.jpg "Free Co-parenting Apps Options - Beanstalk Mums") ## Free-mium Co-parenting App Options ### [Fayr](https://www.fayr.com/) With a simple and fresh UX design and easy-to-use interface, Fayr aims to keep co-parenting drama-free and transparent with its features. It has a strong focus on transparency and reducing conflict. **Key features:** - Shared parenting calendar with custody tracking - Built-in messaging with full communication history - Expense tracking with receipts and categorisation - GPS check-ins for verifying pick-ups and drop-offs - Court-admissible reports covering time, money and communication **Which bit is free**: All features are free to try for 14 days **What mums should know:** Fayr goes a step further than many apps by offering detailed reports and even location tracking, which can help reduce disputes around handovers. It’s designed to minimise legal stress and improve accountability between parents. **Best for:** Parents who want detailed records and extra accountability (especially helpful in higher-conflict situations) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-4-1200x539.png "image-4 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.fayr.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ### [Appclose](https://appclose.com/) A few months ago, AppClose stopped being one of the free co-parenting apps. Subscription costs around $9 USD, but it comes with a surprisingly comprehensive feature set, making it ideal for cost-conscious single mums. **Key features:** - Organise schedules and communicate with family members via the messaging feature. - Create a shared parenting plan and track and settle payments. - Court-admissible records **Which bit is free**: 7-day trial, then paid subscription **What mums should know:** Unlike many apps, AppClose doesn’t lock key features behind a paywall. It’s a great starting point if you’re new to co-parenting apps and don’t want to commit financially. **Best for:** Budget-friendly, all-in-one co-parenting support [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Screenshot-2026-01-01-at-11-44-44-am-1200x583.jpg "Screenshot 2026-01-01 at 11 44 44 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://appclose.com/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ### [TimeTree](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en/) TimeTree is a popular free co-parenting app alternative that helps separated parents stay organised through a shared calendar system. **Key features:** - Shared calendar that both parents can view and update in real time - Ability to create multiple calendars (e.g. custody schedule, school events, activities) - Event-based chat so you can discuss plans directly within each event - Notifications and reminders for upcoming activities and changes - Shared notes, to-do lists and photo uploads within events **Which bit is free**: Calendar, messaging and collaborating **What mums should know:** TimeTree isn’t a dedicated co-parenting app, but it works brilliantly for managing the logistics of shared parenting. Instead of constant back-and-forth messaging, both parents can simply check the calendar — reducing misunderstandings and missed events. **Best for:** Low to moderate conflict co-parenting where scheduling and organisation are the main priorities [![TimeTree best co-parenting apps](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/4_t-wJjlmrfG-w3fCN_vTWiwcKswN8I9nyxY8VwLoDI8KEqcUbCwXcBUv3Mk6p7O1s0=w1313-h815)](https://timetreeapp.com/intl/en/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Web* ### [Our Family Wizard](https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/?utm_source=shareasale.com&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=link&utm_term=home&utm_content=tools&sscid=61k8_p0kps) One of the most recognised co-parenting apps, OurFamilyWizard, is often recommended by family law professionals in Australia and internationally, especially in higher-conflict situations. **Key features:** - Messaging with a built-in “ToneMeter” to flag emotionally charged language before sending - Detailed shared parenting calendar with custody schedules - Expense tracking with receipts and reimbursement requests - Secure document storage (e.g. school reports, medical records) **What mums should know:** This app is structured and accountability-focused. Messages are time-stamped and cannot be edited or deleted, which can help reduce conflict and provide clarity in the event of legal issues. **Best for:** High-conflict co-parenting or when legal documentation is important [![Our Family Wizard](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Screenshot-2023-10-19-at-9.19.23 am-1200x670.png "Screenshot-2023-10-19-at-9.19.23 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/?utm_source=shareasale.com&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=link&utm_term=home&utm_content=tools&sscid=61k8_p0kps) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Web* ### [WeParent](https://weparent.app/) WeParent is another extensive co-parenting app that has everything you need to organise daily life as a separated family. It is a purpose-built co-parenting app designed to simplify communication without overwhelming users. **Key features:** - Manage appointments and custody schedules - Send messages to your private group - Organise contacts and documents from one app. - Expense tracking and payment logs **Which bit is free**: All features are free to try for 14 days **What mums should know:** The interface is clean and intuitive, which is helpful if you’re already juggling a lot. It’s designed to reduce back-and-forth confusion. **Best for:** Busy parents who want something straightforward and user-friendly [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Screenshot-2026-01-01-at-11-48-19-am.jpg "Welcome - Beanstalk Mums")](https://weparent.app/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ### [2Houses](https://www.2houses.com/en/) 2houses is a well-rounded co-parenting tool designed to manage both communication and the day-to-day logistics of raising kids across two homes. **Key features:** - Comprehensive information sharing with the 2Houses Journal - Expense tracking and budgeting tool - Journal to log updates about your child (health, mood, milestones) - Information bank for school and medical details **Which bit is free**: All features are free to try for 14 days **What mums should know:** The journal feature is especially helpful for younger children, as it keeps both parents informed about routines, sleep, or behavioural changes. **Best for:** Parents who want a holistic view of their child’s life across households [![2Houses](https://www.2houses.com/assets/screenshots/en/calendrier-b7fe9cbccbde7ef8ce6e3d7c86fe10e8dbceb75d19e31c4b231a9a38859731dd.png)](https://www.2houses.com/en/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Web* ### [Custody Connection](http://custodyconnection.com/) Mainly a calendar app, Custody Connection syncs custody schedules between two homes. The app is designed to help separated parents manage schedules and parenting time without unnecessary complexity. **Key features:** - The Trade Request feature lets you communicate with your co-parent if you need to swap custody days. - Visual schedules to track where children will be and when - Time tracking for overnights and visits - Basic reporting to summarise parenting time - Ability to export schedules for personal or legal use **Which bit is free**: All features are free to try for 30 days **What mums should know:** If you’re looking for a free co-parenting app for separated parents that focuses purely on scheduling (without the overwhelm of extra features), this is a practical and easy-to-use option. **Best for:** Parents who want a simple, reliable way to manage custody schedules and parenting time [![Custody Connection best co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-24-at-2.01.14-pm.png "Screen Shot 2019-07-24 at 2.01.14 pm - Beanstalk Mums")](http://custodyconnection.com/) ***Available via:** Apple* ## **Co-Parenting Works Best with the Right Tools and Mindset** Even the best co-parenting apps won’t fix everything, but they can make communication clearer, reduce stress and help you stay organised as a busy mum. Pairing the right free co-parenting app with a healthier mindset can make a real difference, so if things still feel tough, it’s worth learning how to [be](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/)[ a better co-parent by letting go of hate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/) and focusing on what truly matters—your child’s wellbeing. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** synchronized calendars, shared care, shared parenting --- ### [How to choose a good family mediator for your separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/good-family-mediator/) **Published:** May 15, 2023 **Author:** Ian Shann **Content:** Once you’ve decided to separate or divorce, you might start looking for a family mediator to help you come to a shared agreement with your ex. Family mediators can provide a cost-effective and amicable process for separation – certainly much quicker, less stressful and cheaper than going through the Family Court – but how do you choose the right family mediator for you when there are dozens to choose from? [Ian Shann](https://moveon.com.au/about-us/), of Move On Mediation, shares some tips, as a family lawyer and mediator of over 30 years, on how to choose the right family mediator for your separation. ## Understand Your Mediation Goals Understanding your goals at family mediation and knowing what you want to achieve at your mediation session is the first question to ask when deciding on how to choose the right mediator. Preparing a “wish list” of the things you would ideally like to achieve will also enable the mediator to understand your situation. Your list should include financial and parenting arrangements you might be proposing (or have already agreed to) with your ex. A good family mediator will always work to achieve an outcome that is fair and just to both parties and one that is practical and workable for the whole family. Don’t expect bias towards either you or your ex. ## Get A Personal Recommendation A good way to find the right mediator is through obtaining a personal recommendation from someone you know and trust, and who has had a successful experience with a particular family mediator. You could also check the [**Family Dispute Resolution Register**](https://fdrr.ag.gov.au/) for someone local in your area. However, this may depend on how closely your circumstances match those of the person making the recommendation. ![Family Dispute Resolution practitioner/Family Law Mediator](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/IN-ARTICLE-images.jpg "Family Dispute Resolution practitioner/Family Law Mediator - Beanstalk Mums") ## Read Online Reviews to find a good family Mediator Fortunately, today’s technology can make life easier with reviews on websites and on various social media and rating platforms. Check them out. Some online reviews can be misleading when people are aggrieved by issues that may be completely beyond a mediator’s capacities – for instance, where the mediation did not even take place. Some businesses also only post the positive reviews, leaving some doubt as to the realities. But nevertheless, online third-party reviews on rating websites like [Trust Pilot](https://au.trustpilot.com/) and social channels are extremely helpful. ## Do They Have Expertise In This Niche? Without doubt, chatting or meeting face to face with the mediator will provide you with the best indicator as to whether they may be appropriate for your separation. The best way of finding out if they have the expertise to deal with your specific case is simply to ask up front. Call them and ask your questions. A good family mediator will have an excellent understanding of handling complex property and financial matters and be compassionate and understanding when dealing with highly emotive children’s and parenting matters. Ask them for their credentials, as well as how long they have been practising, their training and their rate of success. Good mediators will not hesitate to provide you with answers to your questions. You’ll get a sense of whether the mediator has the ability to handle your particular matter. ![Choosing your divorce lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Choosing-your-divorce-lawyer.png "Choosing your divorce lawyer - Beanstalk Mums") ## If the Mediator is a Member Of Professional Bodies? Mediators should be accredited by the National Mediators Accreditation Scheme (NMAS). There are rigorous requirements for accreditation, and a mediator’s qualifications are not in doubt when accreditation is achieved. Mediation accreditation must also be regularly updated so you know that their abilities are current and not something they had decades ago. Accredited mediators are bound by a strict code of conduct and are required to be of good character and undertake regular training and skill updates. ## Discuss Your Circumstances With Them Good mediators will be happy to chat to you and discuss your particular circumstances. They need to know what the sticky points of your dispute may be, so they can focus on them and prepare possible alternatives and choices for you to consider. A good family mediator will always ensure that you have both agreed to end your relationship. If you are still unsure, they may refer you to a divorce coach or other specialists to help you. They will always encourage parties to be aware of their rights and responsibilities, such as your right to receive and duty to [disclose all relevant financial information](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/duty-of-disclosure-family-law/) and the imperative that any proposals regarding kids be in their best interests. After meeting with the mediator and discussing your circumstances, you’ll develop a “gut feel” which may be the best indicator whether they are the right one for you. Trust it. ## Check Their Mediation Fee Structure A mediator’s fee structure may also be a good indicator to help you choose the right mediator. You might be encouraged by the fact that a proposed mediator offers a fixed fee for the whole process right at the start (rather than charging by the hour or in stages); this indicates that your mediator is more interested in achieving results than spending time on your matter. Knowing what the total cost is upfront – which both partners may choose to share – ensures that you don’t receive any nasty surprises if the process is allowed to drag on. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/good-family-mediator/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/good-family-mediator/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law --- ### [How Can Busy Mums Choose Safe Flea and Tick Treatments for Their Family Dog?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/safe-flea-and-tick-treatments-for-their-family-dog/) **Published:** July 9, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Everyone is familiar with the hectic life most mothers lead. A mother might have to deal with a lot of issues, such as children’s schooling, meal plans, work schedules, and time-consuming to-do lists. In this entire hustle and bustle, one might forget to take the dog to the vet to get it protected from fleas and ticks. Pet owners are generally attentive to their pets’ needs, but when it comes to protecting their dogs from fleas and ticks, it’s absolutely essential—this is one area where there’s no room for compromise. These pests, other than being bothersome, are the carriers of various hazardous infections that can be even more troublesome due to skin allergies in pets. The good news is that you can easily get safe and effective flea and tick treatments from [**veterinary supplies**](https://www.dvmcentral.com/shop-now), without wasting any of your valuable time. Let’s find out the best way to be safe about flea and tick control for your pet, and still have your family as your priority and also save time. ## **Why Safe Flea and Tick Treatment Matters for Your Whole Family** ![safe flea and tick treatments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Ad_4nxcurevt10k4ptrszrpa5jueqgrk7cfxn13_ya0r5pudgfdgsdcyohfardndmler_obalavhcbvh8yr0ekqtfsismjuygmdbj_2s4mrraq3hdjsuioauxtxr_cq6rwgglvpltono7w.jpg "Ad_4nxcurevt10k4ptrszrpa5jueqgrk7cfxn13_ya0r5pudgfdgsdcyohfardndmler_obalavhcbvh8yr0ekqtfsismjuygmdbj_2s4mrraq3hdjsuioauxtxr_cq6rwgglvpltono7w - Beanstalk Mums") You probably know it well that your dog is not the only one affected. Fleas and ticks don’t limit themselves to just one host. They can move from pet to carpet, furniture, and even a person. Kids are the most susceptible because they play closely with the animals quite often, and also on the floor. Due to this fact, it is crucial to discover flea and tick solutions that can protect your dog effectively and simultaneously guarantee the safety of your household. Many pet owners don’t realise that some over-the-counter products may contain dangerous chemicals or ingredients that are not safe for the exposure of children or pregnant women. That’s why it’s always a good idea to spend a little more on vet-recommended, and tested for safety, veterinary products, for peace of mind. These products undergo strict quality checks to ensure they eliminate pests without compromising your family’s safety. ***Related article:** [The Best Low Maintenance Pets for Children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/ "The Best Low Maintenance Pets for Children")* ## **What to Look for in a Safe Flea and Tick Product** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Ad_4nxeptchrceyffb4nre6z6danet9mfnxvrzpgkeg3-i4-m9qfwcyjg7oiooi0t14omu4z8gmfozfbtan-hk4brulqnfvzc-jreu8b4zpvgzyvqx5gvjrde0ajecs8twbsh1a32q_pea.jpg "Ad_4nxeptchrceyffb4nre6z6danet9mfnxvrzpgkeg3-i4-m9qfwcyjg7oiooi0t14omu4z8gmfozfbtan-hk4brulqnfvzc-jreu8b4zpvgzyvqx5gvjrde0ajecs8twbsh1a32q_pea - Beanstalk Mums") It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the endless options—topical treatments, oral medications, collars, and shampoos—and sometimes the treatment you need might not even be listed. It is, most importantly, the content that comes first, whatever form of packaging it may appear in. When the question of having a solution for ticks and fleas comes up, be a little bit curious about the ingredients. Look for solutions containing Insect Growth Regulators (IGRs) like S-methoprene or pyriproxyfen. Forget harsh pesticides such as permethrin that are unfriendly to cats and some dogs. In addition, look at the manner of application of the product. If your dog shows a strong aversion to tablets, then a spot-on treatment can be given to him/her. If you are concerned that the chemicals may come in contact with children or furniture, then the oral medication will be the better choice. Last but not least, the product must be clearly marked as one that is for dogs of the same age, weight, and breed as your pet– otherwise, using a big dog product on a small breed can be fatal. ## **The Importance of Consulting with Your Veterinarian** ![safe flea and tick treatments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Ad_4nxfobyxrfbgfmfzk7gtwg1gy992rbjhuqvoushduzspi6fsfzx323tsu6oujswtokuwrbpuqne2rpg9xzykulnyd2lgkvb-o1jlbwsiiyowicer3-s9ri56hfs4hniy5qkg91fv9wq.jpg "Ad_4nxfobyxrfbgfmfzk7gtwg1gy992rbjhuqvoushduzspi6fsfzx323tsu6oujswtokuwrbpuqne2rpg9xzykulnyd2lgkvb-o1jlbwsiiyowicer3-s9ri56hfs4hniy5qkg91fv9wq - Beanstalk Mums") Your veterinarian knows your dog better than anyone, especially if you’re not a vet yourself. A mum who is busy all the time may find it hard to book an appointment, but a quick phone call or email to her vet can help her a lot. For busy families, [in-home veterinary care](https://www.pawssum.com.au/mobile-vet/) can make flea and tick prevention easier to stay on top of, especially when a dog is due for a check-up or tailored product advice. “Prevention works best when treatment is matched to the dog, the household, and the level of parasite risk,” says Dr Ben, an experienced veterinarian with Pawssum. Services such as Pawssum’s mobile vets give owners a practical way to discuss safe flea and tick treatment options with a veterinarian at home, which can be especially helpful for anxious dogs, multi-pet households, or families trying to manage a full schedule. A vet tech should be asked for recommendations, taking into account the pet’s health history, lifestyle, and exposure to risk factors, such as frequent walks in areas where ticks are more often found, as they can do it most effectively after studying the particulars of the case. Furthermore, they can guide you to avoid the most typical issues, e.g. not using a drug meant for dogs on a household cat or being too liberal with multiple products, which might lead to bad interactions. Families with small children, multiple pets, or dogs with allergies benefit most from professional veterinary guidance. To be more exact, most of the highly efficient medicines are realised through veterinary distributors only them being a few places where this kind of medicine can be reached. These products are always the best when they come through the hands of a well-skilled vet. All the necessary testing and customising are never omitted. The best treatments are those recommended and provided by your veterinarian. These products are thoroughly tested, trusted, and tailored to your pet’s specific needs, giving you peace of mind that they are both safe and effective. As vet rep careers continue to expand and evolve, pet owners benefit from a broader range of expertise and specialisation, ensuring that pets receive the highest level of care across every stage of life. ## **Time-Saving Tips for Mums Managing It All** Are you a busy mom juggling a never-ending to-do list? Then, how to manage the flea and tick prevention matter without adding yet another thing to worry about? The following steps will guide you to the goal: - Use digital reminders or calendar alerts based on how often your dog needs flea and tick treatments to avoid missing a dose. - The auto-shipment provided by pet pharmacies and vet clinics helps you to avoid the situation of running out. - Keep a consistent record—whether manually or digitally—of treatments and any observed side effects. - You can reduce collar usage time by opting for long-acting treatments like 3-month oral tablets or 6-month collars. By collaborating with veterinary distributors and their products, you can make sure that you not only get a proper and effective product but that it is also safe for the pet. Choosing the right product helps avoid wasted money and protects your pet from potential harm caused by unsafe or ineffective treatments. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-nishizuka-25426-485294-1195x800.jpg "Pexels-nishizuka-25426-485294 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Natural and Alternative Options Stack Up** If you are a mother who is attracted to a more natural way of life, your thoughts might be about the natural remedies for fleas and ticks. Products containing essential oils, such as cedarwood, lemon eucalyptus, or neem oil, are tremendously growing in popularity. Although “natural” may sound safer—especially in a home with children—it doesn’t always mean the product is safe for pets. Some essential natural oils can be harmful to dogs, causing skin irritation to them, particularly if they are not properly mixed with a carrier oil. Therefore, before testing these products, it is essential to have a conversation with your veterinarian about the natural options that you intend to take. The vet might be in the position of proposing the use of a combination of natural shampoo with the most suitable collar or oral medications for achieving all-around protection. It would be fair to say that a multi-faceted strategy that strikes a balance among safety, effectiveness, and personal preferences is usually the best mode of action. ## **Understanding the Risks of Doing Nothing** If you are lured to overlook your dog’s flea and tick treatment in winter or believe that your dog is “not itchy,” you should reconsider. Flies can stay in the house all year round, and ticks remain active even at 4°C. If you don’t regularly treat your dog, you allow infestations to take place, which, although they are costly and time-consuming to eliminate, also make your dog uncomfortable and very likely to be at risk of getting sick from them. Diseases like Lyme disease, ehrlichiosis, and even tapeworms can all be transmitted by untreated flea or tick bites. For pet parents, prevention is always less stressful (and less costly) than treatment after the fact. The small investment of time and money upfront can protect your entire household from much bigger issues later. ## **Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This, Mum!** Deciding on an effective flea and tick treatment is not only a tick box exercise, but it goes further to taking care of your family, your pet, and your quality of life. As a mother, you endure a lot of stress from different fronts, so your dog’s health doesn’t have to be the one thing more. Whoever you get the products from, have a professional opinion and treatment, and be consistent in application, you will be certain that the home protector is effective and protective against the pests. Furthermore, remember that you can also go to the vet and use pet care clinics for professional help. Veterinary products offer added confidence in both safety and effectiveness, especially for households with children and pets. Don’t rely solely on personal plans—consult your vet, set reminders, and stay connected with your local pet care community. If in doubt, consult trusted websites, dvm professionals, and other reliable sources. With just a small time investment, you can keep your puppy safe from pests. Given a little planning and the correct help, the issue of protecting your dog from unwanted pests is something that will take you only a short time to do, yet it is very crucial. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/safe-flea-and-tick-treatments-for-their-family-dog/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/safe-flea-and-tick-treatments-for-their-family-dog/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Help, my child doesn’t want to start school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/help-my-child-doesnt-want-to-start-school/) **Published:** October 1, 2022 **Author:** Jacque Bruggemann **Content:** Starting school can be an exciting and nerve-racking time for both mother and child. Some kids are counting down the days and hours, while others are filled with fear and worry. I get it. My son is a stage 5 clinger and looks for me when I leave the room for five seconds. Even as a former primary school teacher, the thought of his first day of school (which is kindy for him this year) is enough to have me rocking in the corner. I have committed to a few things during January to have him ready and excited on his first day away from me. When we get there it could be tears and tantrums (from us both) but I will endeavour to support him until he loves it. ## How to prepare a child who doesn’t want to go to school ## Drop labels and emotionally charged words Children tend to embody the words we use about them, so we must aim to use as many empowering words as possible. While they may be ‘shy’ or ‘scared’, swap these words to help them find their excitement a little faster. ‘Quiet’ is a good word to swap for ‘shy’. ## Make starting school fun Talk about all of the FUN they will have while at school. Get visibly excited when you discuss playing on the playground or in the home corner with all their new friends. ## Listen and acknowledge It is important to listen and acknowledge the aspects that are making them nervous or unsure. Validate their feelings and use the ‘feel felt found’ method. Saying things like: > *“I can see how you are feeling a little nervous about meeting new friends. I felt the same way when I started school. What I found was that everyone was really nice and my teachers helped me settle in.”* Spend time brainstorming ways they can find their confidence and even how they can support other new friends feeling the same way. ![School shoes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/School-shoes.png "School shoes - Beanstalk Mums") ## Bedtime routine Begin a bedtime routine now to help your child practice mindfulness and be well rested when school starts. Include story time and guided meditations. You Tube as a massive range of Children’s meditation, as does iTunes. Here is my [children’s bedtime playlist](https://www.facebook.com/487164971491598/posts/1183604208514334/). ## Affirmation cards Introduce conversation starter cards or Affirmation cards. These are great to give your child a word or a simple statement to focus on for their day. Encourage them to remember their word and say it to themselves throughout the day, especially if they have moments when they are feeling a little upset or unsure. ## Playdates before starting school If you know a child or two who is starting in the same class or year, arrange a quiet play date to give them a chance to make a friend for their first day. ## Play-based expression Find some space to allow your child to express and work through their feelings using their favourite play-based activity. This may be drawing how they will feel at the end of their first day when you greet them with a hello hug. Or for those Lego-loving kids, have them build the school playground or something for you to have to remind you of them while they are at school, having fun. ![Should outdated schooling consider working single parents? | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/Outdated-schooling-2-1200x630.jpg "Outdated schoolingShould outdated schooling consider working single parents? | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to prepare yourself for your child’s first day of school ## Make time for you In the lead up and during those first weeks (well forever actually) MAKE time for you. Yes, you have heard it everywhere and always, but I am saying it again. You must make yourself and self-care the top of your list. It doesn’t have to cost anything or be overly time-consuming. This could be five minutes to enjoy the silence at night. Or rising 15-minutes before the children to do a quick workout. ## Talk to your friends Chances are, your girlfriends with kids have been through this before or are going through it too. This chat doesn’t just have to be for ideas, but can be simply about having a good old vent and offload. Let it out girl!! ## This is what to do when school starts ## Be prepared for starting school On their first day of school, be as prepared as possible the night before, including an early bedtime. Greet them with excitement. It is so important that your emotions and acts show them you are excited for their experience. Have a great breakfast together, pick their favourite healthy (ish) meal. While scrambled eggs or oats and fruit are probably what we should put on the table, if pancakes and strawberries are their favourite, it is ok to run with that on Day One. Even if you have a shocking sleep, do your best to be upbeat and excited for them. ## Make time to play Give yourself as much time as possible on that first day (even first week) to be present in the classroom as they settle. That said, the teachers will be amazing and have done this many times before, so trust that they will have it if you need to unlatch your child from your waist (tears and all). ## Celebrate Celebrate them making it through their first day and even week. Plan something as a treat to do together after their first day. A trip to the park, cake and milkshakes, or snuggles and a movie at home. ## You’ve got this Mumma, remember, you’ve got this. You are fierce, and you are raising fierce and confident little loves. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Child-doesnt-want-to-start-school-1-534x800.png "Child doesn't want to start school - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/help-my-child-doesnt-want-to-start-school/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/help-my-child-doesnt-want-to-start-school/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School, Education **Tags:** new school, childhood anxiety, prep, playground, kindy, kindergarten --- ### [Why you should have confidence in your ability to mother alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-you-should-have-confidence-in-your-ability-to-mother-alone/) **Published:** March 31, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Mothering alone is high-pressure. You make all the decisions and are 100% responsible for your children. There is no one to back you up. If you feel it’s hard, it is with good reason. But if you are doing your best, that is enough, and you should have confidence in your ability to mother alone. Consider this. A few months before I left my ex, we argued over something minor. Probably because I left an empty toilet roll in the bathroom. After a couple of days of being subjected to the silent treatment, I remember wondering why I was still there. The only reason I could come up with was the fact that I didn’t want to be a single parent. It had nothing to do with wanting to save our relationship, but simply the prospect of mothering alone was overwhelming. I had single mum friends, and I didn’t know how they managed to successfully juggle everything. So, I apologised, and we went about our lives, until I was confronted with something I could not put up with. With two children under 4, no home and no money in the bank, I left and became the strong single mother I never thought I could be, possibly an even better parent than I was before. Ignore the critics (or the voice in your head), you’ve got this. ***Further reading: [Why being a single mum makes me a better parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/being-a-single-mum-makes-me-a-better-parent/).*** ## Why you should have confidence in your ability to mother alone ### You gave them life You grew a human inside of you. You know the saying, if you can give up wine for 9 months, you can get through anything. Wait, maybe the saying is if you can get through childbirth? Either way, it’s true! What’s more, you survived those few sleep-deprived months with bags under your eyes and spew on your clothes. You were there before anyone else and felt them [kicking inside of you](http://www.thehealthsite.com/pregnancy/your-babys-kicks-6-amazing-facts-d214/). ### You know what you want for your children Whether you are partnered or single, your values and goals are still going to be the same. When you are mothering alone, you are able to instil these in your children every day. You go with your gut and follow your intuition. You will be just fine, and so will they. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-2-1120x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ### You will always work it out It may not be perfect, but you will get the job done. You are a surviving single mother, and that is something to be bloody proud of. You are resourceful, and in those moments when you don’t have the answer, you are still prepared to find out. Why do you think Google was invented? ## Why you should have confidence in your ability to mother alone (cont.) ### You are their person You could be reassuring your fifteen-year-old daughter that just because her boyfriend broke up with her, there will be many more boys to come. Or, you know, to stop yourself from running onto the pitch every time your eight-year-old son falls over at soccer. Because he gets embarrassed. Every day, your children change, and you are there to experience it. You know them. ### It’s you and your children against the world You’re a [mother lion protecting her cubs](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1388234/Mother-knows-best-The-dramatic-moment-lioness-protects-son-father-gets-bit-competitive.html). You know intuitively when your children need to stand up on their own or when they need a little extra assistance. It is you who knows they need crystals under their pillow to sleep, or how to cook their favourite meal. Take pride in the fact that it is you who makes the difference in their present and their future. As a single parent, you are a Queen of multitasking, a master of snuggles and an expert at applying band-aids to invisible scratches. Remember, you may be mothering alone, but you are not alone. You don’t have to do it all. Friends, family and [single mum services](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) are often there to lift you up if you feel as though you are struggling. You love your children, and they love you. Their big hugs and smiles are all the confidence you need when mothering alone. Be proud of your efforts. You are a strong, independent single mother. You will have good days and bad days, but you have one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. Raising humans. With a bond like no other. ***And if you need more inspiration on a daily basis check out: [66 single mum quotes to inspire and uplift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-quotes-to-inspire-and-uplift/).*** ![Why you should have confidence in your ability to mother alone | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Confidence-in-your-ability-to-mother.png "Confidence in your ability to mother - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-you-should-have-confidence-in-your-ability-to-mother-alone/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-you-should-have-confidence-in-your-ability-to-mother-alone/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Parenting **Tags:** raising kids alone, am i good parent --- ### [How do we tell our kids we're getting divorced?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/) **Published:** June 23, 2020 **Author:** Renee Catt **Content:** How to tell your kids you’re getting divorced can be one of the most daunting questions you are faced with. It often holds many people back from accepting and moving forward with the marriage ending. The thought of having to look at your little people in the eyes and tell them their parents are getting a divorce can be heartbreaking. “How will they cope? How will they make sense of what is going on? What would I even say?” might be only a few questions rolling around in your mind. My children were 4 and 5 at the time, and we were not sure what to tell them. My former husband had been staying away, and then one night the kids asked me, ‘When is Daddy coming home?’ I took that as my cue to go with it, even though I was there on my own with them; now was the time. I had already decided that, due to their age, I would keep it simple. I believe we can all keep it simple; we just have to want to, and we have to keep our emotions out, as hard as that is. [Kids don’t need to be stressed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/) or burdened with adult problems. I also think it is important to know what NOT to say. So here are the DONT’s first: - Mummy doesn’t love Daddy anymore - Mummy did XYZ, and it’s her fault - Daddy is to blame because he XYZ - Let your kids overhear conversations you’re having together or about the other parent (c’mon, we have all done it, that girlfriend kinda vent moment) Also, saying the D word, Divorce, doesn’t exactly roll off the adult tongue and sound that nice in our older brains or feel that great on any level. The thing is, divorce comes down the track, what is actually happening right now is a separation. But do we really need to burden little people with these big and impactful words? So here are my tips on how to tell your kids you are getting divorced. Keep it simple by starting with the end in mind, which is kids who are thriving and adjusting in two homes where they feel loved and supported. 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[![Get Cozi - it's free!](https://static.shareasale.com/image/50314/CoziAdwords_Static_300x250.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1150365&u=1855502&m=50314&urllink=&afftrack=) ## When should you tell your kids you are separating? As soon as you’ve both decided the relationship is over. Sometimes parents have a ‘trial’ separation, or as I prefer to call it, a ‘Pause’ and then who knows what is possible? What if you can get the right support and coaching and repair the relationship?? ## How should you tell your kids you are getting a divorce? Pick a time of day when everyone is not too tired, and consider doing it on a neutral ground, e.g., in a park or even in the backyard. Ultimately, you know your children best and focus on WHAT they DO need to hear. If we say ‘Daddy isn’t coming home ever again, or Daddy is leaving us’ (as typically, this is what happens, the Father moves out), then the child has to think of what is NOT happening before it can think about it positively. That is how our brains work. If I said to you, don’t think of the purple cow behind you right now, what did you think of? Did you move to check if the purple cow was there? We have to think of what NOT to do before we can think of what to do. ## How do we tell our kids we’re getting divorced? (cont.) ### It will depend on their ages, too It will be age-dependent as to who, what, why, when and how, and sometimes little people start asking more questions once they are more familiar with the words divorce and separation when their friends at school are in the same family set-up. Teenagers will hear different messages and pick up on what’s going on around the home sooner rather than later. ![mum and children read book about an absent dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Blog-features-8.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog - Beanstalk Mums") Our children’s brains aren’t fully formed until much later in life, and in the imprinting 0-7 years, they don’t have the facility to question anything they are told until they are in the 7-12 modelling period. Being aware of that is helpful. When children don’t have all the correct information they need, they ‘make things up’ that work in their minds to fill in the blanks. I am sure you’ve heard half-truths or stories from your kids before, and part of it makes zero sense. ## The important message The biggest things we parents need to know when talking to our children about divorce are that it’s not the divorce that affects our children, but the conflict parents expose their children to. Children need to know that they are loved, supported and belong. Remember, two happy homes are better than one unhappy and fighting home. Keep the conversations open with your kids at all times, as they will be your best guide on what they need to know. Here’s to amicable co-parenting for the sake of all our kids. ![How do we tell our kids we're getting divorced? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/How-do-we-tell-our-kids-were-getting-divorced-1.png "How do we tell our kids we're getting divorced - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** Children of divorce, separation --- ### [The Ultimate Mum's Guide to Finding the Right Tutor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/finding-the-right-tutor/) **Published:** May 7, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It’s not an exaggeration to say that the very first thing single mothers consider when it comes to the welfare of their children is their education. When a child is having trouble with specific subjects or needs extra help, hiring a great tutor can be a game-changer. This beginner’s guide to finding the right tutor is specially designed to help single mothers in their search for a certified tutor who will then assist their children in improving their academic records. ## **Identifying the Need for a Tutor** Prior to embarking on a tutor-hunting expedition, it’s obligatory to spot if the child in question is in particular need of an extra push. The signals that a tutor might be immensely useful include: - The child always scores low in some subjects - The child finds it difficult to do homework - He/she lacks confidence in school competitions - He/She complains or feels separation anxiety when working on schoolwork A mum who notices these markers should consider the idea of a tutor who can provide adequate help for a particular need. ## **Determining the Type of Tutoring Required** After the need for a tutor is revealed, the next step is to identify your child’s weak spots. This could be a specific subject matter like math, science, study techniques, or time management or a more general one. The needs of the child are paramount in the search for a proficient tutor. ## **Exploring Tutoring Options** Single mothers have a few different tutoring alternatives to choose from, and each has its advantages. The availability of these includes the following: 1. [Private tutors](https://www.apextuitionaustralia.com/ "Private tutors"): They deal with issues one-on-one, and they understand the children’s requirements. 2. Learning centres: Such institutions have organised plans to bring the child to the session, and what’s more, may allow even individual or small group work. 3. Online tutoring: This option is so popular that it has a wide range of activities in other areas, most often at no cost. 4. School-based tutoring: Some classrooms are known to offer free or low-cost tutoring programs to students. One must take kids, budgets, and schedules, as well as the learning style of the child, into account before deciding on a certain mode of tutoring. ## **Researching Potential Tutors** Much information needs to be considered when looking for a tutor: - Making inquiries amongst teachers, parents, and school counsellors - Perusing online learning platforms and reading reviews - Consulting local centres or libraries about teaching programs - Ask at nearby universities or colleges if they offer tutoring services Forming a group of would-be tutors will facilitate making a well-thought-out decision. ![finding the right tutor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-cottonbro-6986439-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-6986439 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Evaluating Tutor Qualifications** Single mothers have several considerations regarding the aptness of possible tutors on top of what has been listed above: - Educational qualification and the fitness experience (if any) - Familiarity of teachers with the current syllabus and teaching methodology - Communication skills and the teacher’s ability to relate to kids - Free periods and adjusting their routine to the family’s schedule - Referrals from previous students or parents It is a good idea to talk to the teacher about an interview or trial period so that the student can see if the tutor is a good fit with her/him or not. ## **Monitoring Progress and Adjusting as Needed** During the time when tutoring is in progress, it is a must for the parents to keep an eye on the child’s development. This is achieved by: - Regular updates from the moon regarding the progress she/he has made with the tutor - Tracking completion of homework and examination scores to show better performance - Observing how children complete their homework as well as their test scores, if the child gets a better result as a result of this change - Looking at how the child perceives learning now and their self-confidence - Ensuring that there is good communication between the tutor and your child’s teacher Should the anticipated progress not be made, there might be a need to reconsider the tutoring method or get a different tutor. Here are [useful tips for preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/tips-for-preparing-your-child-for-school/ "useful tips for preparing your child for school") that might help. ## **To Sum It Up** Selection of a great tutor, particularly when looking at [tutors Sydney](https://artofsmart.com.au/), can be a development that changes your child’s life, improving not only the general grades but also your child’s confidence. As per the walkthrough here, single mothers can succeed in the steps of tutor research and the learning process pragmatically. Note that the main idea is not just to work on the grades of your child, but rather you want to add the thirst for more knowledge and equip them with skills that will be useful to them throughout their academics and beyond. Thus, single mothers have the chance to step into quite a powerful role as far as their children’s educational accomplishment is concerned when they hold on to patience, persistence, and the proper help from parents. It might not be very easy to do, but the benefits of a child’s scholastic achievement are incalculable. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/finding-the-right-tutor/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/finding-the-right-tutor/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Education --- ### [Tech-Free Best School Holiday Camps Australia 2026 (And How To Pack For Them)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/school-holiday-camps-australia/) **Published:** March 18, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** This year, I decided to take a different approach to school holidays. Instead of diving headfirst into a whirlwind of DIY craft projects and screen time negotiations, I decided to explore the world of school holiday camps here in Australia. And let me tell you, it’s been an eye-opening experience for both my kids and me. As a parent, I understand the importance of balancing quality family time with a little breather for yourself. So, I did my research, packed my investigator’s hat, and set out to find the best kids’ school holiday camps across this beautiful land down under. From outdoor adventures that fuel their curiosity to creative workshops that let their imaginations run wild, I’ve curated a list of some fantastic options that might just be the answer to your holiday dilemmas. And, for the record: It’s okay to take a moment for yourself. Treat your kids to an unforgettable camp experience while you enjoy a well-deserved break. A recharged parent means a happier home. Here’s to discovering exciting opportunities, fostering growth, and maybe even savouring a cup of tea in peace. ### **Quick Takeaways** - Digital detoxes are the most highly requested camp feature for 2026. - Nature-based camps safely push kids out of their comfort zones to build massive resilience. - States like Victoria and NSW offer heavily subsidised adventure programs for budget-conscious mums. - Packing strictly durable, cheap, and easily replaceable items is the golden rule. - Homesickness is normal; trust the camp professionals to handle the tears while you rest. ## Why Is Tech-Free Programming The Biggest Camp Trend For 2026? **Tech-free programming is the biggest trend for 2026 because camps are actively helping children undergo vital digital detoxes following Australia’s strict new social media bans.** With Australia’s strict under-sixteen social media bans taking effect in late 2025, we are all desperately navigating massive shifts in our kids’ online worlds. Stripping away digital devices at camp provides children with a much-needed break from constant algorithmic overwhelm. Without the relentless glare of an iPad, kids are forced to look up, engage with their peers, and participate in actual reality. This forced technological absence rapidly accelerates emotional development and forces kids to practice genuine conflict resolution. Quiet, device-addicted kids routinely transform into confident team leaders when placed in collaborative outdoor scenarios like canoeing. Returning home, these campers frequently report feeling a surprising sense of relief at having survived a week without their phones. ## How Do Nature-Based Camps Build Childhood Resilience? **Nature-based camps build childhood resilience by forcing kids to safely conquer physical fears, navigate unpredictable weather, and rely entirely on teamwork to achieve outdoor goals.** The 2026 camp landscape heavily emphasises the profound psychological benefits of immersing children in rugged, natural environments. Navigating a muddy hiking trail or successfully paddling a canoe teaches children that they are physically capable of handling extreme discomfort. When children are separated from us, they must learn to self-soothe and trust their own intrinsic judgment. High-element activities, such as giant swings, are intentionally designed to safely trigger and then conquer deep-seated fears. Overcoming these massive physical obstacles translates directly into increased emotional confidence when facing challenges back at school. Plus, returning home covered in mud is the ultimate sign of a successful, highly active week away. ![best school holiday camps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-ig-size-7-600x800.jpg "The Best Tech-Free Australian Holiday Camps For 2026 (And How To Pack For Them) - Beanstalk Mums") ## What Are The Top Subsidised Camp Options In Victoria And NSW? **Top subsidised options include The Portsea Camp in Victoria for beachside adventures, and CRU Day Camps in NSW, which offer highly structured, affordable fun.** Victoria is arguably the adventure camp capital of Australia, offering breathtaking coastal and rugged country experiences. **[The Portsea Camp](https://www.theportseacamp.com.au/summer-camp/)** stands out, charging an incredibly reasonable $750 for a fully inclusive five-day beachside adventure. With massive, giant swings and loud evening discos, it is perfectly designed to keep high-energy kids completely exhausted. In New South Wales, **[CRU Day Camps](https://crucamps.com.au/day-camps/)** offer well-structured activities at multiple accessible locations. These run for three to five days, featuring giant jumping castles and a reassuringly tight leader-to-participant ratio, making them perfect for younger kids. Older teenagers seeking a life-altering challenge can tackle the **[Outward Bound Family Adventure](https://www.outwardbound.org.au/choose-your-adventure/school-holiday-adventures/)** on the Hawkesbury River, which is perfect for a digital detox. ## Where Can Children Experience Adventure Camps In QLD, WA, SA, And The ACT? **Children can experience incredible adventures at Camp Cooby in QLD, state-run recreation facilities in WA, council programs in SA, and Outward Bound expeditions in the ACT.** Queensland’s beautiful climate makes it an absolutely ideal location for year-round outdoor holiday programming. **[Camp Cooby holiday adventure camps](https://campcooby.com.au/programs/school-holiday-camps/)**, located outside Toowoomba, is widely renowned for its strict anti-screen policy and challenging outdoor adventure activities. Western Australia actively champions accessible outdoor education through its highly impressive network of heavily affordable, **[state-run recreation camps like Ern Halliday](https://www.cits.wa.gov.au/sport-and-recreation/recreation-camps/ern-halliday)**. South Australian local councils are incredibly generous when it comes to subsidising school holiday entertainment for struggling families. Councils regularly host activities at heavily discounted or free rates, ranging from community skateboarding clinics to nature play sessions. In the ACT, the legendary Outward Bound facility provides some of the nation’s most rigorous youth development programs to forge resilient changemakers. ## How Should Mothers Manage Co-Parenting Logistics For Camp Dates? **Managing co-parenting logistics involves communicating camp dates extremely early, sharing the financial costs clearly, and establishing firm logistical boundaries without resorting to arguments.** The highly complex logistical dance of co-parenting becomes infinitely more complicated when camps actively disrupt the usual visitation schedule. Clear, unemotional communication is absolutely vital when proposing a camp that overlaps with your ex’s designated parenting time. Presenting the camp as a fantastic developmental opportunity for the child, rather than a personal scheduling convenience, usually yields much better cooperation. Financial discussions regarding the splitting of camp fees should ideally happen via a dedicated co-parenting app to maintain a clear paper trail. Provide the direct booking link and exact payment deadlines well in advance. Removing all personal emotion from the financial request and sticking strictly to the logistical facts helps prevent unnecessary, exhausting hostility. ## How Can Single Mothers Safely Pack For A Week-Long Camp? **Packing safely for camp requires permanently naming every single item, focusing heavily on durable clothing, and intentionally leaving all expensive electronic devices at home.** Sending a child to an overnight camp means completely surrendering control over their daily wardrobe choices and basic hygiene. Expect them to return home wearing strange items you did not pack, while simultaneously missing half their original socks. The golden, unbreakable rule is to never pack anything that holds significant financial or sentimental value. Labelling absolutely everything with a waterproof permanent marker is your only solid defence against the inevitable lost property bin. Buy second-hand clothes, as mud stains from high ropes courses are usually permanent, and pack the scruffiest pair of enclosed runners possible for mud runs. Actively involve your children in the physical packing process so they actually know what is packed in their own bag. ## How Do Camp Professionals Handle Severe Childhood Homesickness? **Camp professionals handle severe homesickness by distracting children with highly engaging activities, validating their fears, and ensuring they build immediate social bonds with cabin mates.** Sending a highly nervous child away can easily trigger immense anxiety for both the terrified child and the mother watching the bus depart. It is entirely normal for kids to feel terrified about sleeping in a strange bed surrounded by completely unfamiliar faces. Resist the deep urge to promise an early pick-up, as this inadvertently tells them you don’t think they can handle the challenge. Instead, pre-emptively validate their anxiety, gently explaining that feeling homesick simply means they have a lovely, warm home to miss. Packing a small, highly discreet comfort item—like a familiar pillowcase—provides an excellent emotional anchor. Modern camp leaders are highly trained professionals who employ effective strategies to distract and redirect homesick campers from the start. You are warmly invited to join our **[private Facebook community, the ‘SingleMum Vine’](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)**, to share your packing hacks and vent safely. It is a wonderfully safe, highly supportive space to connect, laugh, and share with a community of mums who truly get it. ## What Tech-Free Camp Options Do I Have? #### [The great Aussie Bush Camp](https://bushcamp.com.au/) PGL Adventure Camps offer a fantastic opportunity for kids to have fun, make friends, and learn new skills. Experienced instructors and group leaders ensure your child’s safety and enjoyment. Activities include: - Archery - Canoeing - Raft building Also, Jacob’s Ladder promotes teamwork and personal growth. The camps operate year-round, offering summer and winter options, and adhere to Australian Adventure Activity Standards. Positive reviews from parents and campers underscore the great experiences offered. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Gabc-jacobs-ladder-kindilan-08-56f7c3f0.webp "Gabc-jacobs-ladder-kindilan-08-56f7c3f0 - Beanstalk Mums") **Camp Location:** NSW, QLD, VIC **For Children Aged:** 8-14 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Crave outdoor adventures and want to make new friends #### [Australian Sports Camps](https://australiansportscamps.com.au/) As a mum who wants her children to stay active and passionate about sports, I’ve found Australian Sports Camps to be an excellent choice for school holidays. With camps in major cities across Australia, ASC offers a diverse range of sports programs for various age groups. ASC provides: - 18 hours of coaching and care (Led by enthusiastic and qualified coaches) - Safety and skill development. Small group sizes ensure individual attention, while guest appearances by sporting idols inspire young athletes. The use of top-quality sporting facilities guarantees an authentic sports experience. So, if you want your child to enhance their sports skills while having a blast during school holidays, ASC is the answer. ![Australian Sports Camps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.04.53-am-1200x503.png "Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.04.53-am - Beanstalk Mums")**Camp Location:** Various cities across Australia **For Children Aged:** 5-15 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Seek a fun and skill-improvement-focused holiday activity #### [Cave Hill Creek](https://www.cavehillcreek.com.au/cave-hill-creek/holiday-programs/) Cave Hill Creek offers exceptional summer and winter holiday camps for kids aged 8-14. Located near Ballarat, this camp is perfect for adventure-loving children. They offer: - Summer Camp, where kids can enjoy water-based activities like canoeing and raft building - Sleeping under the stars adds to the charm. - Winter Camp offers a unique winter adventure, exploring Raglan Falls and enjoying campfire stories with hot chocolate. Nestled in Mt. Cole State Forest, the camp provides award-winning accommodation and access to beautiful Australian wildlife. With over 30 years of experience, Cave Hill Creek is ATAP-accredited and ensures a safe environment. ![Cave Hill Creek](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.07.28-am-1200x618.png "Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.07.28-am - Beanstalk Mums")**Camp Location:** Near Ballarat, Victoria **For Children Aged:** 8-14 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Seek outdoor adventures and make new friends during their second school holidays #### [Outward Bound Australia](https://www.outwardbound.org.au/resources/for-parents/) Outward Bound provides immersive programs for schools of all sizes. From centre-based camps to journey-based expeditions, they empower young minds. [School holiday adventures](https://www.outwardbound.org.au/choose-your-adventure/school-holiday-adventures/) in wild, breathtaking landscapes. They also support Duke of Ed programs. Their focus on outdoor activities is: - Kayaking - High ropes - Abseiling - Raft Building - Overnight Expeditions These experiences teach responsibility, build confidence, and nurture optimism in students. With locations in ACT, NSW, VIC, and WA, they offer diverse landscapes for learning. Outward Bounds is one of the most well-known school holiday camps in Australia, offering kids adventure, self-discovery, and unforgettable memories. Give your child the gift of potential. ![Outward Bound](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.12.41-am-1200x723.png "Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.12.41-am - Beanstalk Mums") **Camp Location:** ACT, NSW, VIC, WA **For Children Aged:** 4-12 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Seek adventure-based learning experiences during school breaks #### [Halls Outdoors Education Camps](https://www.hallsoutdoored.com.au/) Halls Outdoor Education is a top-notch provider of outdoor education experiences across three Australian states. They focus on delivering programs that challenge and educate while being incredibly enjoyable for kids. The one I really enjoy is their School Holiday Programs and Camps, which are perfect for kids during school breaks. Halls Outdoor Education offers ACA-accredited campsites, ensuring safety and quality. Their programs promote ***resilience, leadership, and teamwork*** – valuable skills for life. This holistic approach ensures kids leave not just with memories of a great time, but with a toolkit of skills that will serve them throughout life’s journey! ![Halls Outdoors Education Camps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.18.45-am-1200x739.png "Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.18.45-am - Beanstalk Mums")**Camp Location:** Victoria, New South Wales & South Australia **For Children Aged:** 5-12 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Seek thrilling outdoor experiences, a chance to develop leadership and teamwork skills, and make new friends #### [Ignite Camp](https://www.ignitecamp.com.au/) Ignite Camp is a transformative experience for young people, held during the Victorian September and Easter school holidays. It’s available in two age groups: junior camp (10-14 years old) and senior camp (14-18 years old). What stands out is the focus on making each young person feel: - Acknowledged - Loved - Empowered This creates a safe space for self-expression and personal development. Ignite Camp is run in partnership with Burn Bright, a program with ***over 10 years*** of experience in youth development. It equips young participants with valuable life skills and a strong sense of self. You wouldn’t believe the incredible impact Ignite Camp has had on past participants – their testimonials say it all. It’s an opportunity you wouldn’t want to pass up. Consider registering a young person in your life for this truly extraordinary and potentially life-altering camp. *It could be a game-changer for them!* ![Ignite Camp](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.20.01-am-1200x552.png "Screenshot-2023-09-07-at-8.20.01-am - Beanstalk Mums")**Camp Location:** Victoria, Australia **For Children Aged:** 10-18 years old **This Camp Would Suit Kids Who:** Seek personal growth, connection, and a sense of empowerment ## Final words on best school holiday camps… As parents, we know the importance of striking a balance between quality family time and giving ourselves a well-deserved break during school holidays. That’s why I decided to explore the world of school holiday camps in Australia, and it’s been an eye-opening journey for both me and my kids. Remember, it’s okay to take a moment for yourself. By treating the kids to these unforgettable camp experiences, you can enjoy a well-deserved break, and a recharged parent means a happier home. Here’s to discovering exciting opportunities, fostering growth in our kids, and maybe even savoring a cup of tea in peace. From one mum to another, I hope this guide helps you plan an amazing kids holiday camp in Australia! ***Further reading: [Yes, there is free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-gold-coast/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/school-holiday-camps-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/school-holiday-camps-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** holiday care, summer camp, winter camp --- ### [Low-Fuss Ways to Make Kids’ Birthdays and Weekends Feel Special](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/low-fuss-ways-to-make-kids-birthdays-and-weekends-feel-special/) **Published:** March 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## **Creating Magic Without the Pressure** Birthday season, especially kids’ birthdays, hits differently when you are doing it solo. The party venue quotes, the pressure to outdo last year and the endless scroll through other people’s celebrations. It all stacks up before a single balloon is blown up. Weekends carry their own quiet weight too, especially when you want your kids to feel like their time with you is genuinely full and fun. Your kids do not need perfection. They need a present. The best memories from childhood are rarely expensive. They are silly, messy and unplanned half the time. That is exactly the kind of magic you can create on any budget, on any weekend, without running yourself into the ground. ## **Keep It Simple but Meaningful** You do not need a hired entertainer or fifty guests to throw a birthday that your child will remember. Some of the most special parties happen in backyards with a handful of mates and a sprinkler running. The secret is presence over production. **Decorations on a Shoestring** Dollar store streamers, hand-drawn bunting and a balloon arch from a $10 pack can transform a living room entirely. Get the kids involved in making decorations the night before. That craft time often becomes the highlight, not just the lead-up. **Tiny Guest Lists, Big Fun** Fewer kids means less chaos and more actual connection. One friend per year of age works well as a guide. A five-year-old gets five mates. Plenty to play with and genuinely easy to manage. **Activities That Cost Almost Nothing** Treasure hunts using clues scribbled on paper. Obstacle courses built from couch cushions and pool noodles. A dance-off with a speaker going in the kitchen. Kids are entertained by silliness, not expense. Give each child a small role during the party. Someone is the DJ, someone is the judge, and someone holds the finish line ribbon. Kids love feeling important, and that sense of responsibility costs nothing at all. Food choices also shape how included every child feels. A party where everyone eats freely, without reading labels or asking questions, sets a relaxed tone from the very start. Getting the cake right is one of the simplest ways to achieve that. Catering for different dietary needs does not have to mean a compromise on taste or presentation. Plenty of bakeries now specialise in exactly this, and the results speak for themselves. ## **Inclusive Birthday Cakes That Everyone Can Enjoy** ![Bluey cakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Bluey-cake.png "Bluey cakes - Beanstalk Mums") When one child is dairy-free, and another cannot have eggs, traditional recipes get complicated quickly. The good news is that specialist options have improved dramatically. If you are in a city like Sydney or Melbourne, you will find a [vegan bakery](https://www.zestpatisserie.com.au/vegan-cakes/) that makes celebration cakes so beautiful that nobody would ever guess they are free from dairy and eggs. Ordering from a specialist bakery takes the guesswork out of ingredient lists entirely. No Friday night spent searching for egg substitutes or worrying about cross-contamination at the table. If you would rather bake at home, simple swaps work reliably well. Coconut cream in place of regular cream and applesauce instead of eggs both perform consistently. A chocolate cake made with olive oil tastes surprisingly rich and holds moisture beautifully. Letting your child choose the flavour or the colour of the icing gives them real ownership of the moment. That small act of choice matters far more than a three-tiered masterpiece. ## **Active Fun That Builds Confidence** ![kids' birthdays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-7-1200x776.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Screen time has its place, but birthdays and weekends are golden opportunities to get kids moving. Physical play builds coordination, resilience and a quiet confidence that no classroom activity can fully replicate. **Park Meetups Over Venue Hire** A birthday morning at your local park costs nothing beyond a trip to the shops for sausage rolls and juice boxes. Let the playground do the entertaining. Add a footy or a frisbee and the kids will run themselves tired well before lunch. Weekend park meetups with other families follow the same logic. A text to a couple of other parents, a thermos of coffee for you and the afternoon takes care of itself. A mini Olympics in the backyard is another idea that never fails. Egg and spoon races, sack races using old pillowcases and three-legged races tied with bandanas. Award everyone a ribbon cut from crepe paper. It is competitive enough to be exciting and silly enough that nobody ends up in tears. **Gifts That Get Them Outside** Instead of another toy sitting in a cupboard by February, consider gifts that encourage outdoor play and build real physical skills. Active gifts grow with children and keep them engaged across multiple seasons. The best gifts pull kids away from screens and into movement. Something that challenges their body and builds genuine capability is worth more than the latest gadget. [Kids balance bikes](https://rideons.com.au/collections/shop-balance-bikes) are a brilliant choice for little ones not yet ready for pedals. They develop coordination and balance naturally, and watching a toddler confidently zoom around the driveway is genuinely entertaining for the whole family. Skipping ropes, cricket sets, and scooters all fall into the same category. Active gifts that keep them playing long after the wrapping paper hits the bin. ## **Healthy Party Food Made Easy** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-8-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Party food does not have to mean a table full of lollies and chips. Kids will happily graze on colourful platters if you make them look fun and position them within easy reach of small hands. **Build a Snack Board** Rainbow fruit skewers, cheese cubes, crackers, cherry tomatoes and hummus arranged on a large wooden board look genuinely impressive and take almost no time. Kids eat with their eyes first, so colour is your most effective tool. Cut watermelon into star shapes using a cookie cutter. Thread strawberries and grapes onto bamboo skewers. These small touches take five minutes but look like you spent considerably longer. A couple of treat options balanced alongside real food means everyone eats well without feeling like they have turned up to a health retreat instead of a party. Weekend rituals follow the same logic. Simple, consistent and something to look forward to every single week. Saturday morning pancakes. A Sunday afternoon walk to the same park where you always stop for an ice cream on the way home. Small traditions give kids something to count on, and that reliability is what makes them feel genuinely safe. Short on time during a busy party prep week? Planning ahead with fresh produce delivered directly removes one task from the list entirely. Services like [fruit delivery Perth](https://thefruitboxgroup.com.au/fruit-delivery/perth) bring seasonal produce right to your kitchen, saving a supermarket run and ensuring your snack board and fruit skewers are ready to assemble on the morning of the party. Even outside of party prep, a regular fruit delivery means there is always something fresh in the house for lunchboxes and after-school snacks. ## **It Is the Moments That Matter** Your kids will remember that you were there. That you laughed with them, let them lick the spoon and choose the music. For more ideas on keeping celebrations fun and budget-friendly, the [mum community](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/sisterhood-stories-beanstalk-community/) is full of practical inspiration shared by parents navigating exactly the same moments. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/low-fuss-ways-to-make-kids-birthdays-and-weekends-feel-special/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/low-fuss-ways-to-make-kids-birthdays-and-weekends-feel-special/?share=x) - **Categories:** Birthdays --- ### [Simple Ways to Uncover and Nurture Your Child's Hidden Talents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/simple-ways-to-uncover-and-nurture-your-childs-hidden-talents/) **Published:** March 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Every child has something that lights them up—those little clues to a child’s hidden talents. Maybe it’s your little one humming in the back seat, or your teen filling sketchbooks you secretly think are amazing. As mums, we notice those sparks first. The challenge isn’t spotting the talent—it’s knowing how to support it without overwhelming them (or blowing the budget). The good news? You don’t need a big plan or expensive programs. It can be as simple as a cheap paint set, a chat about what they love, or just paying attention to what they choose when no one’s directing them. This guide is for mums who want to help their kids explore what excites them and gently support it. Whether your child is creative, academic, or musical, there are simple, affordable ways to encourage them—starting right where you are. ## **Starting With Art: The Gateway to Self Expression** Art is often the first place where a child’s individuality starts to shine. The act of creating something from nothing builds confidence in a way few other activities can. A blank canvas, some brushes, and a good set of [acrylic artist paint](https://www.craftonline.com.au/collections/acrylic-paint) can keep your kiddo entertained for hours. Acrylics are a fantastic choice for young artists because they dry quickly, clean up easily with water, and produce vivid colours that kids love. Unlike watercolours, which can feel unpredictable for younger children, acrylics give them more control over the finished result. That’s encouraging when they’re still building their skills. You don’t need to set up a formal studio, either. Throw down an old sheet on the kitchen table, hand them some supplies, and let them go. For older children and teenagers, art can become a meaningful outlet for emotions they might struggle to put into words. Keeping a visual journal, experimenting with mixed media, or trying digital illustration are all ways to keep that creative muscle working as they grow. ![child's hidden talents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-5.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Building Confidence Through Hands-On Projects** One thing I’ve noticed with my own kids is that confidence doesn’t come from being told they’re great. It comes from doing something challenging and seeing it through. Hands-on projects offer that in spades. This could look like anything from building a birdhouse to sewing a simple tote bag to decorating their bedroom wall with a mural they designed themselves. The key is choosing projects that stretch them just enough to be interesting without being so difficult that frustration takes over. If your child is on the younger side, start small. Finger painting, collage making, or even decorating rocks for the garden are wonderful entry points. As they get older, you can introduce more [complex projects that require patience and planning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/). ## **Supporting Academic Ambitions Without the Pressure** Not every child leans creative—some thrive on equations, debates, or diving deep into subjects they love. Academic strengths matter just as much, but they can be trickier to support. The challenge is figuring out what’s going on. Are they struggling because it’s hard, or have they switched off because they’re bored or overwhelmed? Catching that early makes a real difference. Pay attention to how they talk about school. Are they frustrated and confused, or just disengaged? Those little cues say a lot. As they move into senior school, pressure ramps up. Subjects get more specialised, expectations rise—and that’s where your calm, steady support really counts. This is where outside support can make a real difference. Connecting your child with [expert VCE tutoring services](https://vcevanguardcoaching.com.au/) can provide them with targeted guidance that goes beyond what a classroom teacher has time to offer. A good tutor doesn’t just help with content; they teach study strategies, build exam confidence, and help students manage their time effectively. What’s important is framing academic support positively. Tutoring isn’t a punishment or a sign that something’s wrong. It’s an investment in your child’s potential, no different from signing them up for art classes or sports coaching. The most successful students are often the ones who aren’t afraid to ask for help and who have people in their corner cheering them on. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-2-1.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Power of Music in a Child’s Development** Studies have shown that children who engage with music from a young age tend to perform better academically, particularly in maths and language. That’s because music involves pattern recognition, counting, and language processing, all working together at once. It’s a full brain workout disguised as fun. The challenge for many families is finding the right teacher. A brilliant music instructor doesn’t just teach technique; they inspire a love for the craft. They know when to push and when to ease off, and they understand that every child learns differently. If your child has shown interest in picking up an instrument or has been singing around the house nonstop, it might be time to [find music teachers in Brighton](https://bumblebeecentre.com.au/services/music-classes/brighton/) who can channel that enthusiasm into structured learning. Starting with short, fun lessons is usually the best approach for younger kids. Forcing a five-year-old to sit through a formal piano lesson rarely ends well. But introduce them to rhythm games, simple songs, and the joy of making noise with an actual instrument, and you’ll often see their eyes light up. Older children and teens might prefer to jump straight into learning songs they love, which is a perfectly valid way to build skills and keep motivation high. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-6.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Letting Your Child Lead the Way** The most supportive thing we can do is follow their lead. Pay attention to what they choose to do in their free time, the topics they bring up at dinner, and the activities where they lose track of time entirely. Those are the breadcrumbs that lead to their true interests. This doesn’t mean you can’t expose them to new things. In fact, offering a variety of experiences is one of the best ways to help them figure out what they love. Sign them up for a trial art class. Let them borrow a guitar for a month. Enrol them in a coding workshop. The goal isn’t to commit to everything; it’s to give them enough experiences that something clicks. And when something does click, step back and let them own it. Your role is to provide opportunities, encouragement, and the occasional gentle nudge when they want to give up too soon. The rest is up to them. ## **Pulling It All Together** Nurturing your child’s talents isn’t about pushing them toward greatness or ticking off a list of extracurricular activities. It’s about creating an environment where they feel safe to explore, supported when things get tough, and celebrated for who they are. Whether that means setting up a painting station in the kitchen, finding them the right academic support for their senior studies, or connecting them with a music teacher who truly gets them, every step you take matters. Because here’s the thing, mums already know deep down: the talent was always there. Sometimes all it needs is a little space to grow. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/simple-ways-to-uncover-and-nurture-your-childs-hidden-talents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/simple-ways-to-uncover-and-nurture-your-childs-hidden-talents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [Simple Ways to Turn Your Backyard Into the Best Room in the House](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/simple-ways-to-turn-your-backyard-into-the-best-room-in-the-house/) **Published:** March 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Here’s something nobody tells you when you become a parent. Your backyard quietly becomes the most important room you own. It’s where the kids burn off energy on Saturday mornings. Where you sip tea after bedtime while the crickets do their thing. Where birthday parties happen, water fights break out, and someone inevitably tracks mud through the house five minutes after you mopped. It doesn’t have to be that way. And honestly, it doesn’t take a huge budget to change things. Whether you are working with a sprawling block or a compact courtyard, there are simple, practical upgrades that can transform your outdoor space into somewhere your family genuinely wants to spend time. We are talking about comfort, safety, and a little bit of fun thrown in for good measure. Let’s get into it. ## **Outdoor Cooking Changes Everything (Seriously)** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-3.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") If you have never cooked a proper meal outside, you are missing one of life’s simplest pleasures. Most families start with a basic grill, and that’s perfectly fine. But once you discover the joy of outdoor cooking, it’s natural to want a little more from it. That’s where things start to get interesting. Slow cooking outdoors has become incredibly popular. The concept is simple: low heat, longer cooking times, and flavours you just can’t recreate in a kitchen oven. Think tender pulled pork, smoky chicken wings, and even vegetables that soak up that rich, wood-fired flavour. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-4.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") A good [barbecue smoker](https://www.outdoorlivingabode.com.au/collections/smokers) can become the centrepiece of your outdoor entertaining. It is one of those purchases that pays for itself over and over because it pulls people outside and turns a meal into an event. Kids love watching the process. Friends suddenly find reasons to pop over. One of the best things about smoking food is how hands-off it is. Once the temperature’s set and everything’s going, you’re free to help with homework, hang out the washing, or actually sit down for five minutes. For busy parents, that kind of cooking is pure gold. If you’re new to it, start simple. Pork ribs and chicken are great beginner options. You don’t need fancy rubs either—just salt, pepper, a little paprika, and a bit of patience. ## **Making the Space Comfortable (Without Spending a Fortune)** You do not need a magazine-worthy setup to enjoy your backyard. But a few thoughtful touches can take it from “meh” to genuinely inviting. Start with shade. Being able to sit outside without squinting or slowly roasting makes an enormous difference to how much time your family spends out there. Seating matters too. You do not need matching outdoor furniture from a catalogue. Sturdy secondhand chairs with some outdoor cushions work brilliantly. The goal is to have enough spots for everyone to sit without someone ending up on the grass (unless they want to). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-3.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Lighting is the other game changer. A string of solar-powered fairy lights instantly makes any outdoor space feel warm and welcoming once the sun goes down. They are cheap, easy to install, and they create the kind of atmosphere that makes you want to linger outside after dinner instead of heading straight to the couch. If you enjoy reading more [practical household tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/life/household/) for making home life run a little smoother, there is always something new to try when it comes to getting more out of the spaces you already have. Plants are an easy win for any backyard. You don’t need a green thumb or a big plan—just a few hardy pots near your seating area can add colour and life with minimal effort. Herbs are a great place to start. They look good, smell amazing, and you can use them in your cooking. Rosemary, basil, and mint are perfect for beginners. The key is not to overthink it. Start small and build from there. Your backyard just needs to feel like a space your family enjoys spending time in. ## **Safety First: Protecting Your Property and Your Peace of Mind** ![backyard](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Backyard.jpg "Backyard - Beanstalk Mums") Here’s the less fun part—but it matters. When you have kids, safety is always on your mind. Inside, we childproof everything—locking cabinets, covering power points, anchoring furniture. But outdoor spaces often don’t get the same attention, even though they come with real risks. Driveways are a big one. They’re one of the most dangerous areas around the home, especially for young children. Kids are small, quick, and unpredictable. A ball rolls out, and they chase it without thinking. A car reverses, and the driver may not see what’s behind them. It’s every parent’s worst-case scenario—and it’s more common than we’d like to think. One increasingly popular solution is installing [removable security bollards](https://www.safetysector.com.au/safety-bollard/) at the boundary between your driveway and the rest of your outdoor space. These sturdy posts create a physical barrier that prevents vehicles from entering areas where children play, while still being easy to remove when you need full access for your own car or deliveries. What makes them so practical is the flexibility. You can set them up when the kids are outside playing and pack them away when you need the space. It’s a simple solution to a serious problem. Beyond the driveway, take a look at your fencing and gates. Are there gaps a child could squeeze through? Does the latch close properly every time, or does it sometimes swing open? Lighting matters too, especially during shorter days when kids are still playing outside after dark. Motion sensor lights near steps, paths, and entry points are an easy, affordable way to make your space safer. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-4.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Getting the Kids Involved** One of the best parts of improving your outdoor space is getting the kids involved—and honestly, it makes a big difference. Let them help choose plants, or give them a small patch to call their own. Hand them a paintbrush and let them add colour to a planter or fence. These small moments of ownership turn it from “the backyard” into their space. Older kids can pitch in too—assembling flat-pack furniture, hanging lights, or learning basic outdoor cooking (with supervision). For little ones, a simple mud kitchen made from old pots and crates can spark hours of play. It’s low-cost, low-effort, and keeps them happily busy while you get things done nearby. ## **Pulling It All Together** Your backyard doesn’t need a full makeover to feel special. Usually, it’s just a few thoughtful changes that shift how your family uses the space. Cook outside more. Set up comfy seating. Add some lighting and a few plants. Cover the safety basics so you can relax while the kids play. Let them get involved where you can. That’s really it. Your outdoor space isn’t just a patch of grass—it’s where everyday moments turn into memories. Think lazy Sunday lunches, after-school wind-downs, and birthday parties they’ll actually remember. Start with one small change this weekend. Just one. You’ll be surprised how quickly it all comes together! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/simple-ways-to-turn-your-backyard-into-the-best-room-in-the-house/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/simple-ways-to-turn-your-backyard-into-the-best-room-in-the-house/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [12 Extra quiet vibrators that won’t wake the household](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-extra-quiet-vibrators-that-wont-wake-the-household/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There is nothing more natural than allowing yourself some independent sexual pleasure, especially if you’ve been single for a long time (or even if you’re in a relationship, \*wink). But if you get caught in the act, trying to explain “Mummy’s weird toy” to a two-year-old can be embarrassing! 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I don’t see them as a luxury or a crutch — I see them as support. When life makes it hard to keep up with perfect nutrition, vitamins step in to give you a boost — not to replace food or rest, but to help you feel a little more like yourself. ## My Turning Point: When I Started to See the Gaps That switch is the main reason I decided to improve my diet and rethink my conception of vitamins. The “gap” in your health is often the changes that are being “subtly” noticed. My case was the same, where even after a good night’s sleep of 8 hours, I was always feeling exhausted and fatigued. At first, I brushed it off. Maybe it’s just stress. Maybe it’s the weather. But then I realised — maybe my body was missing something. I looked into it and found that a lot of people are chronically deficient in certain vitamins, especially among those who eat hastily, lead a sedentary lifestyle, or prefer to stay indoors. Vitamins D and B12, iron and magnesium are often overlooked and the negative consequences can be quite delayed. That’s when I got intentional. I talked to a professional, got some bloodwork done, and started a basic supplement routine tailored to my actual needs. It wasn’t about loading up on dozens of pills — just the ones that made sense for my lifestyle. ## What Changed When I Got Consistent I won’t lie and say I felt like a superhero after a week. But after a few weeks, I saw improvements that were real. - The next morning, I felt more awake and didn’t need three cups of coffee. - I wasn’t getting those 3 PM brain fog crashes. - I recovered faster after workouts. - I was in contact with my body the most. I did not simply allow the emotions I experienced to dictate my actions; I made changes. Complications from medical problems are one of the things we can develop efficient work habits to tackle. Not because they’re flashy, but because they build something solid over time. And vitamins, as simple as they seem, are a huge part of that. ![vitamins](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-jeshoots-com-147458-576831-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jeshoots-com-147458-576831 - Beanstalk Mums") ## It’s Not About Being Perfect — It’s About Being Smart Let’s get something straight: vitamins are not magic bullets. They won’t cancel out a diet of fries and soda or replace movement, sleep, and real food. But they do fill in the blanks when life isn’t perfect. And whose life is? The goal isn’t to be flawless. It’s to be supported. Now, I look at supplements the same way I look at things like stretching, drinking water, or journaling — they’re not exciting, but they make everything else better. And when I’m buying vitamins now, I care about where they come from. I want to know they’ve been tested, recommended by professionals, and sourced responsibly. Stores like Mr Vitamins are great for that — they don’t just stock shelves, they guide you based on your body’s real needs. That kind of support matters. ## How I Made It a Habit (Without Overthinking It) It has to be easy for something to stick. It has to be easy for something to stay. That’s why I found a speed that worked for me. - My toothbrush is close to my vitamins. I remember my [supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/buy-vitamins-supplements-online-australia/ "supplements") when I remember to brush. - I simplified — I don’t take everything every day. Some I take twice a week, others daily. - I give myself grace. It’s not the end of the world if I miss a day. I just started the next day. It’s a gentle habit now — no pressure, just support. ## What I learned: Small things add up. What have I learned the most from all of this? There are thousands of minor decisions that make up your health. - Water instead of coffee when I want to. - Taking a walk even when I don’t want to. - Picking whole foods more often, but not worrying about getting everything right. - And sure, I do take my vitamins. It’s not about being focused or having strict plans. It’s about doing little things every day to be there for myself. That’s what I now think it means to be good. ## So, do vitamins really work? I thought they were just pills at first. They are now for me, aids that manage my productivity and efficiency while allowing me to spend the least amount of time thinking about how to organise my tasks in a day. That’s the reason I can’t get any vitamins. All I desire is to get through life’s hurdles, protect my mental and physical health, and bring some calm to my life in this chaotic world. In a kind manner, they demonstrate that they give you. So no, they’re not just pills. They’re support. They’re energy. They’re clarity. They’re a form of self-care. And honestly, I wish I’d started sooner. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-i-stopped-thinking-of-vitamins-as-just-pills/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-i-stopped-thinking-of-vitamins-as-just-pills/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [What Single Parents Should Know Before Building a Family Friendly Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-single-parents-should-know-before-building-a-family-friendly-home/) **Published:** March 17, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When having the luxury and opportunity to build your own home, it’s important to invest your time seriously into it, especially as it can help to create a home that’s flexible for your living situations from the moment you have your babies, as well as when they’ve flown the nest, and you’re now a retired couple living in the property. To help build a home that sustains and sees you through family life and beyond, this guide will hopefully help you build a beautiful property and to avoid the mishaps that can impact the functionality and design of the place. ## Tips for building a family friendly home When it comes to building a family-friendly home, here are some of the useful tips that will help you build one with all of the best intentions in mind. ### 1. Strategic layout for solo supervision ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-pixabay-271667-1200x795.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-271667 - Beanstalk Mums") The layout of the home is an important consideration. Ideally, you’ll want it to be open but also flexible for parent households, especially those with single-parent occupancy, so you can manage multiple tasks on your own while keeping an eye on your children. For those, it might be parents where one works away a lot, and so an open or strategic layout for supervision can be really helpful to keep the home running smoothly. Design your kitchen to flow into the dining and living areas where possible. Again, it’s another great way to supervise the homeowner or play while you’re preparing family meals. It’s always good to have some safe retreats where older children can have privacy without being completely isolated. These closed spaces or nooks are a great way to make the most of the space in a family home. Think windows, seats, or separate snug areas, for example. For younger children, try to keep bedrooms close together to make nighttime awakenings easier to manage. As your kids get older, it’s good to think about future-proofing the property so the layout can be converted into independent zones, especially as they become teenagers. For layouts and making sure the design of the build is appropriate, approaching a [101 Residential home builder](https://www.101residential.com.au/) is a great way to make sure you’re getting the home you’ve been dreaming of and that you may have designed partly in your head, into a reality. ### 2. Low-maintenance and high-durability materials ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-kelly-2950003-2-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-kelly-2950003 2 - Beanstalk Mums") When there’s limited time for cleaning, let alone repair work on the home, it’s important to choose hardworking finishes. For flooring, opt for durable, easy-to-clean options like stone, timber, or luxury vinyl plank. This is scratch-resistant and helps hide muddy footprints. The use of washable paint is handy, especially in high-traffic areas where little ones will often roam. Look at your kitchen worktop options and consider investments like [scratch-resistant quartz](https://mayfairworktops.co.uk/quartz-vs-granite-vs-porcelain-worktops-which-is-best-for-your-kitchen/?utm_term=black%20quartz%20kitchen%20countertops&utm_campaign=JF+-+Mayfair+Worktops+-+Search+-+Broad+-+Quote+Conversion+Action+Test&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=7354939031&hsa_cam=22739126765&hsa_grp=183336929162&hsa_ad=776480517255&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-297379806188&hsa_kw=black%20quartz%20kitchen%20countertops&hsa_mt=b&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22739126765&gbraid=0AAAAAD9p8wy7dx86x0nJLQ9Rnn7wEMScY&gclid=CjwKCAjw1N7NBhAoEiwAcPchpxj6TwSXimHdjh4roRjNxDsxAwPiAsxb403st2Hy_Dn9mwszSy3U7xoC0iUQAvD_BwE "scratch-resistant quartz") to ensure a long-lasting surface for food prep. When it comes to having kids, the furniture you choose is influential, too. So perhaps look for items with removable, washable covers and stain-resistant fabrics to handle inevitable spills. ### 3. Integrated storage solutions ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-freestockpro-12945027-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-freestockpro-12945027 - Beanstalk Mums") Clutter can also increase stress in single-income households or in households challenged by shared spaces among family members. With that in mind, consider built-in storage solutions that help maintain order in the home effortlessly. A boot room or utility area helps keep mud, coats, and school bags out of the main house. This is really handy when it comes to your little ones and the mess they often bring in. Dead space is something to utilise too, whether it’s alcoves under the stairs or storage options. You could even make use of space under the floor to keep various toys and knick-knacks out of the way. This is especially helpful when it comes to things you don’t use all the time or that are seasonal. The use of ottomans and under-bed storage is great for maximising every square inch of your home. Consider the option of built-in drawers and how they help you make the most of every available storage space. ### 4. Smart technology and security [Smart technology](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-smart-technology-is-redefining-independence-for-people-with-cerebral-palsy/ "Smart technology") is an important part of the modern-day household. It can often provide that extra set of hands – albeit digital – for safety and efficiency. There are many different forms of smart technology you could enjoy. For example, security systems are useful to have in place. A reliable alarm kit provides peace of mind and instant mobile notifications. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Bence-boros-anapphjfrhm-unsplash-1200x800.jpg "Bence-boros-anapphjfrhm-unsplash - Beanstalk Mums") Smart speakers like Amazon Echo can be the smart help you need to set timers, answer the many questions kids ask daily, and control appliances around the home, hands-free. Using safety lighting is important, especially in hallways and bathrooms. It’s a way of helping children, especially to navigate the home safely at night. ### 5. Financial and practical realities When it comes to building a home as a single parent, there’s strict discipline and planning that’s required to get it right the first time. A simple footprint, such as a rectangular or square design, is often more cost-effective to build and maintain than complex shapes. You should also think about setting aside a contingency fund. This is helpful when dealing with unforeseen circumstances and expenses. Always set aside 10-15% of your budget where possible. It’s always good to have more money to play with than not to have enough required to sort the issues that may otherwise crop up at some point during the build. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-karola-g-7680742-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-7680742 - Beanstalk Mums") In addition to the above, you should consider the home’s energy efficiency. Investing in high-quality insulation and energy-efficient windows upfront will help to lower your long-term, monthly utility bills significantly. Single parents can still find success in building their own home, but detail and due diligence are important to ensure it meets their standards. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-single-parents-should-know-before-building-a-family-friendly-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-single-parents-should-know-before-building-a-family-friendly-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How to Take Care of Yourself and Your Baby at the Same Time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-take-care-of-yourself-and-your-baby-at-the-same-time/) **Published:** March 15, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Motherhood is one of the most rewarding seasons of life, and also one of the most demanding. Sleep deprivation, a changing body, and a mental load that never switches off become the new normal faster than most women expect. Here is the truth every mum deserves to hear: taking care of yourself is not a luxury. It is part of caring for your baby. When you feel well and confident, you show up with more patience, more joy, and more presence. This guide covers five areas that make a real difference to how you feel every day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-1-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/brunette-woman-watches-her-daughter-painting-something-while-they-rest-large-bed_1120619.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=23&uuid=90f0f6b3-0e54-4b1d-873f-3267cc348345&query=real+mum%27s+playbook) ## **Protecting Your Baby’s Skin** A newborn’s skin is thinner, more permeable, and far more sensitive than adult skin. Issues like eczema, redness, and irritation can appear without warning, and the products you choose matter more than most new parents realise. Many commercial baby products contain fragrances, preservatives, and synthetic compounds that aggravate sensitive skin rather than soothe it. Reading ingredient labels becomes one of the most important habits you can build early on. For babies with eczema or heightened sensitivity, clean formulations that support the skin barrier and avoid common irritants make a genuine difference. You can browse the [best non toxic eczema cream for babies](https://skinfriend.com/collections/baby-products) through Skin Friend and find options developed specifically for sensitive, eczema-prone baby skin. Consistent application after every bath and nappy change, lukewarm water during bath time, and breathable natural fabrics like cotton and bamboo all work together to reduce the frequency and severity of flare-ups. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/businesswoman-holding-her-back-while-working-laptop-home-office-desk-young-woman-stretching-sitting-feeling-her-back-tired-after-working-laptop-small-home-office-interior_27158156.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=8&uuid=9e85dc31-a158-4e5c-98af-37a1212232ea&query=mum%27s+hip+joint+ache) ## **Your Body After Baby** Pregnancy and birth ask an enormous amount of a woman’s body, and the demands do not stop at delivery. Joint pain, pelvic instability, back pain, and hip discomfort are common postpartum issues that are often under-discussed and under-supported. Rest and time help, but they are not always enough. When pain persists or begins to limit your ability to function, seeking specialist assessment is the right step. Early intervention consistently produces better outcomes than pushing through for months and hoping things improve on their own. If you are dealing with joint pain or a musculoskeletal concern that has not responded to conservative care, connecting with a trusted specialist makes a real difference. If you are looking for a [leading orthopaedic surgeon in Melbourne](https://www.davidsime.com.au/), David Sime’s practice offers clinical excellence and genuine patient focus for knee, hip, and joint conditions at every stage of life. Alongside specialist care, pelvic floor rehabilitation, gentle strength training, and walking all support physical recovery. Adequate protein, anti-inflammatory foods, and sufficient calcium and vitamin D also protect the body, which pregnancy and breastfeeding can quietly deplete. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-1200x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/mother-daughter-having-breakfast_4582090.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=7&uuid=3f6db6de-575c-4611-ba24-28643ec53c9f&query=smart+snacking+for+mums) ## **Smart Snacking for Sustained Energy** Eating well as a new mum is simple in theory and genuinely hard in practice. Meals get skipped or replaced with whatever is fastest while a baby naps. Over time, a diet built around convenience depletes energy, destabilises mood, and slows physical recovery. Snacking smarter throughout the day is one of the most practical upgrades a busy mum can make. The goal is straightforward: choose options that provide real nutritional value, stabilise blood sugar, and sustain energy, rather than creating the spike-and-crash cycle that processed snacks deliver. Protein and fibre are the two most important elements. Together, they help maintain steady blood sugar, reduce cravings, and support the focus and mood regulation required after a sleepless night. Vegetable-based snacks are a fantastic solution. They deliver fibre, micronutrients, and natural energy without the sugar load that tanks your afternoon. You can [shop veggie chips online](https://shary.com.au/products/shary-mixed-veggie-crisps) through Shary and keep your snack drawer stocked with something you can feel genuinely good about reaching for. Hydration matters just as much. Breastfeeding increases fluid requirements significantly, and dehydration worsens fatigue, reduces milk supply, and contributes to the foggy feeling many new mums describe. Keep a large water bottle visible and within reach throughout the day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-2-1182x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/happy-mother-daughter-sitting-with-croissant-bed_4029902.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=24&uuid=3f6db6de-575c-4611-ba24-28643ec53c9f&query=smart+snacking+for+mums) ## **Your Smile Deserves Attention Too** Dental appointments are among the first things that get postponed in the postpartum period. But your smile is one of the most visible parts of how you present yourself to the world, and it is worth investing in. Pregnancy itself affects oral health through hormonal changes, increased gum sensitivity, and the repeated acid exposure that morning sickness creates. Addressing a smile concern that has been sitting on the to-do list for years is a meaningful act of self-care. Modern orthodontic options have made treatment far more accessible and discreet than most people expect. Clear aligners are removable, virtually invisible, and require no changes to your diet or cleaning routine. Most people around you will not notice you are undergoing treatment at all. You can learn more about [invisible braces](https://www.drgeoffreywexler.com.au/our-orthodontic-technology/invisible-braces/) through Dr Geoffrey Wexler’s orthodontic practice and explore whether clear aligners are the right path to the smile you have been putting off pursuing. The confidence that comes from a smile you genuinely love touches everyday life in ways that are hard to appreciate until you experience them. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Image-1-2-1120x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums")[***source***](https://www.%20Freepik.%20Com/free-photo/lifestyle-woman-going-through-motherhood_94964536.%20Htm#fromview=search&page=1&position=29&uuid=2ceb4e66-0fdb-417b-bce9-31676723151d&query=postpartum+body+confidence) ## **Postpartum Body Confidence** Your body grew and delivered a human being. The changes it carries afterwards are a testament to that process. It is also completely reasonable to want to feel comfortable and confident again. Both of those things are true at the same time. For most mums, consistent movement and balanced nutrition restore a great deal of how they feel over time. But some areas of stubborn fat that appear during pregnancy simply do not respond to lifestyle changes the way others do. This is not a reflection of effort. It is hormonal and genetic, and it is more common than most women are told. Non-surgical body contouring has become a widely accepted option for postpartum women who want to address these resistant areas without surgery or downtime. Fat freezing works by applying controlled cooling to a targeted area, causing fat cells to break down and be naturally eliminated over six to twelve weeks. The treatment takes under an hour, requires no recovery period, and results develop gradually and naturally. You can learn more about [fat freezing](https://www.bodycatalyst.com.au/women/treatment/fat-freezing/) through Body Catalyst and find out whether it is the right fit for where you are in your postpartum journey. ## **One Good Decision at a Time** Every section of this guide comes back to the same idea. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you do not need to. Caring for your baby’s skin, addressing your pain, eating well, investing in your smile, and feeling confident in your body are not competing priorities. They are all part of the same approach to being a healthy, present, and genuinely happy mum. Start with one area that matters most to you right now. One good decision builds momentum toward the next, and over time those decisions stack into a version of motherhood that feels not just manageable but joyful. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-take-care-of-yourself-and-your-baby-at-the-same-time/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-take-care-of-yourself-and-your-baby-at-the-same-time/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [10 Easter gifts to buy online and send to your loved ones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/) **Published:** March 13, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Easter is about family. Yet not all families have the option to get together in person. There are other ways to let your loved ones know you care this Easter. See our list of Easter gifts to buy online. Getting a surprise delivery could make someone’s Easter. Here are some really beautiful ideas for online Easter gifts to delight the lucky recipient. Grab your Easter basket and get browsing. ## EASTER GIFTS TO BUY ONLINE AND POST ### 1. [EASTER EGG BUCKET](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2feaster-egg-bucket%2f) The Easter Egg Bucket is packed with sweet Easter treats for the whole family. Enjoy assorted donuts, chocolate bars and a mini Nutella. [![EASTER EGG BUCKET](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-egg-bucket-914x800.jpg "Xrddafcbbkksa010j48005962122t23030222 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2feaster-egg-bucket%2f) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2feaster-egg-bucket%2f) ### 2. [GIANT SUNFLOWER GROWING KIT](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) Now is the perfect time to learn gardening or teach your kids. This giant sunflower kit is just the ticket for beginners. The box includes a step by step instruction booklet to guide little hands. [![Easter Gifts to Get Delivered | Giant Sunflower Growing Kit | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-giant-sunflower-growing-kit-8_2000x2000.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) ### 3. [HAPPY EASTER HAMPER](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-easter-hamper%2f) You and your kids won’t miss the Easter parties this year thanks to the Happy Easter Hamper from Gourmet Basket. Packed with assorted Cadbury milk chocolate eggs perfect for an indoor or outdoor hunt. [![HAPPY EASTER HAMPER](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Happy-easter-hamper-621x800.webp "Happy easter hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-easter-hamper%2f) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-easter-hamper%2f) ### 4. [MAGICAL EASTER UNICORN CHOCOLATE ALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/50545?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.boozebud.com%2fp%2fbridgeroadbrewers%2fmagicaleasterunicorn1) Give this ale a try this Easter while you’re day drinking. It’s kinda like distilled chocolate eggs, and this is the “only beer that can harness the full potential of its power.” Truly magical. [![Magical Easter Unicorn Beer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Bridge-Road-Magical-Easter-Unicorn.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beercartel.com.au%2fbridge-road-magical-easter-unicorn-chocolate-ale-355ml-can%2f) We found this at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beercartel.com.au%2fbridge-road-magical-easter-unicorn-chocolate-ale-355ml-can%2f) ### 5. [PAMPER AND TREATS FRUIT HAMPER](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Fpamper-and-treats-fruit-hamper%2F) Treat your family to something sweet but healthy this Easter. This hamper from Gourmet Basket filled with yummy tropical fruits is perfect. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Pamper-and-treats-fruit-hamper-915x800.jpg "Pamper and treats fruit hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Fpamper-and-treats-fruit-hamper%2F) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Fpamper-and-treats-fruit-hamper%2F) ## Easter gifts to buy online and get delivered to your loved ones (cont.) ### 6. [FAMILY EASTER BREAKFAST HAMPER](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster-gift-baskets%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) It’s a great time to connect with old friends and other people, even in isolation. Why not send them a breakfast hamper for Easter? This one is packed with scrumptious sweet and savoury goodies the whole family will love. [![Easter Breakfast Hamper | Beanstalk Mums](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Family-Easter-Breakfast-Hamper-LR.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster-gift-baskets%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster-gift-baskets%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) ### 7. [EASTER EARRINGS MILK CHOCOLATE NOVELTY TREAT](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PzyD9R) These fun, wearable earrings are crafted from smooth milk chocolate, making them a perfect small gift or a playful addition to any Easter celebration for older children and adults. [![EASTER EARRINGS MILK CHOCOLATE NOVELTY TREAT](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-earrings-milk-chocolate-novelty-treat.webp "Easter earrings milk chocolate novelty treat - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PzyD9R) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PzyD9R) ### 8. [BOUQUET IN A GLASS JAR](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/35555?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.interflora.com.au%2Fproduct%2Ftulips-en-masse "BOUQUET IN A GLASS JAR") For people who prefer flowers over candy, a beautiful bouquet in a glass jar is sure to be appreciated. We recommend this bold and vibrant arrangement from Interflora. [![Flowers in Glass Vase | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Flowers-in-glass-vase.webp "Flowers in glass vase - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/35555?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.interflora.com.au%2Fproduct%2Ftulips-en-masse) We found this at: [Interflora](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/35555?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.interflora.com.au%2Fproduct%2Ftulips-en-masse) ### 9. [FAMILY EASTER BREAKFAST HAMPER](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) Start your family’s Easter morning off right with our delicious Family Easter Breakfast Gift Hamper, packed with everything you need to create a memorable and indulgent breakfast spread. There are enough hearts to munch on while watching your favourite movies and TV shows. [![Easter Gifts to Get Delivered | Easter Hamper | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Family-easter-breakfast-hamper-915x800.jpg "Family easter breakfast hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2ffamily-easter-breakfast%2f) ### 10. [HAPPY EGGSTER BUNNY BUCKET](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-eggster-bunny-bucket%2f) Last on our list of Easter gifts to buy online: Here’s a classic Easter hamper to satisfy your sweet tooth. Filled with an assortment of milk chocolate Easter Eggs and presented in a pretty gold box with ribbon. [![HAPPY EGGSTER BUNNY BUCKET - Easter gifts to buy online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Happy-eggster-bunny-bucket-914x800.jpg "Happy eggster bunny bucket - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-eggster-bunny-bucket%2f) We found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2feaster%2fhappy-eggster-bunny-bucket%2f) --- Get more fab Easter ideas here: [21 Easter gifts for kids that have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) [Fun ideas to entertain the kids this Easter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-for-kids-this-easter/) [15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) ![Easter gifts delivered | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/gifts3.png "gifts3 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter, Shopping **Tags:** Easter presents, Easter Sunday, Good Friday, Easter Monday, easter eggs --- ### [How to Handle Single Mum Burnout: A Guide to Survive](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/) **Published:** March 17, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ### Quick Takeaways: The Ultimate Survival Guide to Solo Parenting Burnout - **Burnout is systemic, not personal:** With 31.3% of single-parent households navigating poverty, your exhaustion is a normal reaction to a difficult economy. - **Ditch the toxic positivity:** Solo parenting is objectively gruelling, and pretending to “enjoy every moment” only accelerates mental health decline. - **Embrace Minimum Viable Parenting:** During a burnout crisis, drop all expectations except basic safety, simple meals, and keeping the kids alive. - **Self-care is free micro-habits:** Five minutes of mindful breathing or a free app like MindMum is far more effective than an overpriced, unrealistic day spa. - **Financial help exists:** Leverage 2026 government updates like the $150 energy rebate, the expanded Single Parenting Payment, and tax cuts to ease the mental load. Let us be completely honest for a second. The reality of solo parenting usually involves hiding in the pantry with a lukewarm coffee, aggressively counting down the minutes until bedtime. Single motherhood is an extreme sport played without a backup parachute, and the mental load is absolutely crushing. Single mum burnout is a real thing, creeping in around somewhere between the 47th “Mum?” of the day and the realisation you haven’t sat down since Tuesday. Society loves to push the narrative of the flawless, super-resilient single mum, but that toxic positivity ignores the very real wall of parental burnout. Sufferers describe feeling entirely hollowed out, existing in a state of nervous hyperarousal where even a small request feels monumental. If the mere thought of making one more packed lunch induces the urge to cry, this guide is for you. ## What Actually Causes Solo Parenting Exhaustion? **Solo parenting exhaustion is caused by the chronic stress of carrying the entire financial, logistical, and emotional burden of a household without partner support. This is heavily compounded by the “working poverty trap,” systemic housing insecurity, and the current cost-of-living crisis.** The guilt associated with parental burnout is heavy, but the latest data proves that the exhaustion is entirely justified. The 2026 Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) survey confirms a devastating reality, showing that 31.3% of single-parent families are operating below the poverty line. These households are nearly three times more likely to experience poverty than two-parent homes, making financial panic a daily baseline. Furthermore, the old myth that simply getting a job cures financial stress is completely shattered for our demographic. Recent reports show that while 78% of single mothers are employed, a massive 61% are trying to sustain their families on less than $60,000 a year. The burnout is not a lack of resilience; it is the result of carrying the entire weight of a household in a punishing economy. ## What Are the Hidden Signs of Single Mum Burnout? **The primary signs of single mum burnout include chronic physical exhaustion, emotional detachment or “autopilot” parenting, and a pervasive feeling of incompetence. Sufferers often experience intense nervous system dysregulation, sleep disturbances, and a profound sense of isolation.** Parental burnout is not just feeling a bit tired after a long week. It is a specific syndrome where the burden of perceived stress completely exceeds your personal resources to cope with it. You might find yourself emotionally distancing from your kids as a survival mechanism, feeling detached and then suffocated by guilt over it. Another major red flag is the pervasive feeling of incompetence, where you feel like you are failing at absolutely everything. You might experience physical symptoms like constant headaches, being more prone to illness, and waking up already dreading the day ahead. If you are constantly operating in ‘fight or flight’ mode, your body is screaming at you to stop. ![how to handle single mum burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/New-ig-size-5-600x800.jpg "How to Handle Single Mum Burnout: A Guide to Survive - Beanstalk Mums") ## How Can Solo Parents Recover From Burnout Using Free Micro-Habits? **Recovery from solo-parenting burnout requires abandoning perfectionism and adopting** “Minimum Viable Parenting,” focusing only on keeping the kids fed and safe. Utilising **micro-habits, such as five minutes of mindful breathing, and securing peer-to-peer childcare swaps are highly effective survival strategies.** When the bank account is empty and the exhaustion is bone-deep, a $200 day spa is a laughable suggestion for self-care. Instead, clinical recovery relies on small boundary setting and shifting immediately into “Minimum Viable Parenting” during a crisis. This means stripping away every single expectation until only the absolute core survival metrics remain. If the children are physically safe, have eaten something simple, and basic hygiene is met, the day is a massive success. Research shows that just 30 to 60 minutes of protected daily rest can produce a measurable reduction in burnout over an 8-week period. To help secure this rest, reach out to another single mum to organise a zero-cost childcare swap, giving each other a precious couple of hours off. You can also focus on [spring cleaning your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/spring-cleaning-your-life-find-calm-in-the-chaos/) by reassessing routines and clearing space for five-minute mindfulness exercises. Even sitting down for five minutes to eat mindfully acts as a biological reset switch. You must give yourself absolute permission to let the laundry pile up while you recover. ## Where Can Single Parents Find Real, Affordable Mental Health Support? **Single parents can access free, evidence-based mental health support through digital applications like MindMum and HeadGear. For immediate crisis support, the ForWhen Helpline offers dedicated assistance for navigating perinatal and parental psychological distress.** We need to normalise asking for professional help when the mental load becomes too heavy to carry alone. Skip the expensive therapy waitlists and look into free, evidence-based digital tools funded by the Australian Government. The MindMum app is brilliant for this, offering practical strategies to manage emotional ups and downs during early parenthood. Sometimes, an app is simply not enough, and you need to speak to a real human who understands the complexities of maternal exhaustion. We highly recommend reaching out to the(https://forwhenhelpline.org.au/parent-resources/parental-burnout/) for dedicated assistance. They offer specialised, compassionate support for parents struggling with burnout and psychological distress. ## What 2026 Government Financial Supports Are Available for Single Mums? **Single mothers can access the updated Single Parenting Payment of up to $998.20 per fortnight, alongside new 2026 tax cuts, energy bill rebates, and free Medicare Urgent Care Clinics.** Because financial terror is the fastest route to burnout, securing every single dollar of structural support is mandatory self-care. It is vital to brush up on your [practical financial literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/) to ensure you are maximising the help available to you. The Single Parenting Payment currently offers a maximum baseline of $998.20 per fortnight, with Rent Assistance available if you are eligible. Beyond Centrelink, make sure you are benefiting from the 2026 federal budget updates designed to ease the cost of living. The newly implemented tax cuts reduce the 16% bracket to 15%, putting up to $268 back into your pocket each year. Every household is also entitled to a $150 energy rebate applied directly to utility bills, providing a small but necessary buffer. ### Final Thoughts on Surviving the Solo Parenting Trenches Parental burnout is an incredibly dark, isolating place, but please know it is not a permanent destination. The exhaustion is a biological signal that your load is too heavy, not a reflection of your worth as a mother. By dropping the toxic facade of perfection and embracing Minimum Viable Parenting, you can step out of survival mode. Remember, the goal is not to be a superwoman; the goal is simply to be a healthy, present parent. Nobody understands the gritty, exhausting reality of this journey quite like another solo parent. Come over and join our private Facebook community, the SingleMum Vine, to vent, connect, and share with mums who truly get it. ***Connect with other single mums online here:*** [***Single Mum Vine.***](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) ***Further reading: [How to pamper yourself at home for almost nothing.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pamper-home-cheap/)*** ![Burnout single mum | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Burnout-single-mum.png "Burnout single mum - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-handle-single-mum-burnout/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** mental health, tiredness, exhaustion --- ### [The Ancient Postpartum Practice That Western Mums Are Finally Catching On To](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/ancient-postpartum-practice/) **Published:** March 17, 2026 **Author:** Fiona Ho **Content:** When I was preparing for my son’s arrival, I thought I had everything covered. My hospital bag was packed, the bassinet was assembled, and I had a freezer full of dumplings and lasagna. What I wasn’t prepared for was the sheer physical exhaustion that followed. No one tells you that growing and delivering a human being will leave your body not just tired but hollow in a way that sleep and comfort food can’t fix. My Chinese grandmother kept reminding me of the importance of confinement. She talked about it casually, as if the structured process of postpartum recovery was entirely intuitive. For her, it was. For me, raised in the Western mindset of bouncing back as quickly as possible, it was a revelation. After the initial struggle, I decided there must be some ancient wisdom in it, and I decided to try confinement. I didn’t follow every practice religiously, but those I did embrace affected me more deeply than I anticipated and led me to research why Western culture hadn’t adopted any of this. ## So What Actually Is Confinement? Confinement (“zuo yue zi” in Chinese, which translates to “sitting the month”) is a postpartum healing practice rooted in Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) that dates back thousands of years. At its core is the idea that a woman’s body is vulnerable and depleted after giving birth, requiring intentional care to restore health. Traditionally, it meant 30 days of rest and warmth with nourishing food and family members taking on caregiving roles while the mother focused on healing. This involved warming the body, replenishing blood and energy lost during birth and supporting milk production. These practices exist in most cultures. In India, it’s known as “jaappa.” In Latin America, “la cuarentena.” In Korea, “sam-chil-il.” Almost every traditional culture has some form of this practice. The outlier is the Western model, which skips the recovery phase altogether and prefers the power of “bouncing back”. ## Is This All Just Voodoo? I expected to find that a lot of confinement practices were superstition dressed up as tradition. But the thing that stood out when I first began reading about it: They are commonsense and rooted in wisdom. Childbirth depletes iron, zinc, and other essential nutrients. It allows time for the uterus to contract back to normal size. Hormones drop significantly in the days immediately following delivery. The pelvic floor has been traumatised. Sleep deprivation exacerbates it all. And that soft, stubborn mum pooch? That is not laziness; that is a body that has not been given what it needs to heal. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-asphotography-105028-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-asphotography-105028 - Beanstalk Mums") In short, the body has just done something monumental and needs help to heal. These are the issues confinement practices directly address. Warming foods like ginger, sesame, and slow-cooked broths are rich in nutrients the body lacks. Rest reduces inflammation. Avoiding cold (a key confinement principle) is believed to protect joints and circulation when the body is most vulnerable. Whether viewed traditionally or from a contemporary nutritional stance, most of it is solid. ## What Does It Look Like in Practice? Traditionally, confinement involves the entire family. A grandmother or confinement nanny moves in, takes on baby duties, and cooks specific meals three times a day. The new mom sleeps, feeds the baby, and does little else. In reality, that’s not a setup most Australian moms have. But the principles are still attainable. Even trying a few aspects of the practice can be helpful. Prioritising warm, nourishing food over convenient snacks. Keeping the house warm in the first few weeks. Taking herbal baths to aid physical healing. Incorporating rest instead of rushing back to normal life. Let’s talk about the food for a second, because this is where confinement gets interesting. Traditional confinement meals rely on easily digestible and warm ingredients: slow-cooked pork rib and black bean soup, sesame ginger chicken, fish with ginger and spring onion, red date and longan tea. These are not exotic or difficult flavours; they are comforting and packed with the nutrients a recovering body needs. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-qjpioneer-5266120-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-qjpioneer-5266120 - Beanstalk Mums") If you are curious about how to bring confinement nutrition into your postpartum recovery, [Golden Month](https://goldenmonth.com.au/ "Golden Month") offers confinement meals, herbal soups and lactation teas designed specifically for Aussie mums. ## Why This Matters Even More If You Are Doing It Solo If you’re a single mum, the demands of confinement can seem out of reach. You’re on the night shift, the day shift, and the on-call shift. There’s also enormous pressure to just keep moving through it. But the principles matter even more in that case. Your recovery impacts your ability to care for your baby. Everything becomes harder if your body is depleted. Postpartum depletion can last months if not addressed. Choosing to nourish and heal is not indulgent; it’s essential. The beautiful thing about confinement care is that it reframes recovery as a non- negotiable, not a nice-to-have. It gives you permission to put yourself first. Practically speaking, how do you access nourishing, traditional postpartum food without someone cooking for you? That is where things are genuinely changing in Australia. The availability of ready-made confinement meals and herbal products is growing, making the food side of recovery more accessible than in previous years. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/Pexels-rdne-6849529-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-6849529 - Beanstalk Mums") ## What Western Medicine Is Starting to Say The postpartum healing period is now receiving more attention from Western medicine than in past decades. The fourth trimester is increasingly recognised, acknowledging that the twelve weeks following birth are a critical recovery period, as important as [pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/ "pregnancy") itself. Research highlights the importance of postpartum nutrition for recovery, mental health, and breastfeeding. Postnatal depletion is being taken more seriously as a clinical concept. Midwives and obstetricians are focusing more on post-birth care, not just pre- and during birth. In many respects, what Eastern wisdom has practised for centuries, Western science is now beginning to document and validate. ## You Do Not Have to Do It Perfectly The most important thing I want to leave with you is that you don’t need your grandmother to know every herbal blend or set unwavering rules to benefit from these ideas. Small decisions like choosing warm foods over cold ones, drinking nourishing broth, and allowing yourself the peace to take recovery seriously can make a big difference. Your body has done something extraordinary. It deserves more than a box of crackers and the expectation to “bounce back.” If I could time-travel and tell myself something before my son arrived, it would be this: recovery is not optional, and the wisdom that has helped women for thousands of years is worth attending to. How you care for yourself in those first thirty days can shape your wellbeing for the next thirty years. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/ancient-postpartum-practice/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/ancient-postpartum-practice/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [21 Easter gifts for kids that have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) **Published:** March 12, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With Easter comes a long weekend, lazy days and plenty of time with friends and family. Which also includes the expectation of gifts, especially for the kids. And, as much as we all love the odd chocolate treat, it’s nice to give something which isn’t scoffed and forgotten in two-seconds flat. So, if you’re looking for a cute little present that will make it past Easter Monday, checkout our list of Easter gifts for kids which have nothing to do with chocolate. ***Further reading: [10 Easter gifts to buy online and send to your loved ones.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/)*** ## EASTER GIFTS FOR KIDS ### 1. [BUNNY SLIPPER SOCK](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qAv) Dress up your kid in this cosy bunny slipper sock from Ali Express. Not quite a slipper, not quite a sock, it can be worn year-round, not just for Easter. [![Bunny Slipper Sock | Easter Gifts for Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Brilliant-basics-kids-easter-cosy-bunny-home-socks-800x800.jpg "Brilliant basics kids easter cosy bunny home socks - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qAv)Brilliant basics kids easter cosy bunny home socks We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qAv) ### 2. [EASTER EGG STRING LIGHTS](https://bigw.sjv.io/GbmN1B) One of our favourite Easter gifts for kids: Easter decorating just got more exciting with colourful egg-shaped string lights. Perfect for kiddie parties, Easter baskets and lighting up the dance floor. [![Easter Egg String Lights](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-egg-string-lights-800x800.jpg "Easter egg string lights - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/GbmN1B)Easter egg string lights We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/GbmN1B) ### 3. [Personalised Kids Apron](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/oNq9JY) These personalised kids aprons from Bright Star Kids are too precious for words. Perfect to wear on Easter morning for making yummy treats. [![Easter Gift for Kids | Personalised Kid Aprons | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Personalised-kid-aprons.webp "Personalised kid aprons - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/oNq9JY)Personalised kid aprons We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/oNq9JY) ### 4. [JELLYCAT CREAM BLOSSOM BASHFUL BUNNY](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fjellycat-bashful-bunny-cream-medium%2F58905%2F1) Here’s an Easter bunny that won’t make kids cry. In fact, Jellycat Cream Blossom Bashful Bunny is sure to be a cherished toy for years to come. [![JELLYCAT CREAM BLOSSOM BASHFUL BUNNY](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Jellycat-bashful-bunny-cream-original-medium-800x800.jpg "Jellycat bashful bunny cream original medium - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fjellycat-bashful-bunny-cream-medium%2F58905%2F1)Jellycat bashful bunny cream original medium We found this at: [Casey’s Toys](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fjellycat-bashful-bunny-cream-medium%2F58905%2F1) ### 5. [EASTER EGG HUNT WOOD SIGNS](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/m45mkZ) Help your children out with some cute signs that will guide them to hidden Easter eggs and treats. Includes 5 wood slices and one wooden egg hunt sign that are easy to hang. [![Easter Egg Hunt Wood Signs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-egg-hunt-wood-signs.webp "Easter egg hunt wood signs - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/m45mkZ)Easter egg hunt wood signs We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/m45mkZ) ### 6. [COLORFUL BUNNY ERASERS](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QYyQxz) These neon bunny erasers are guaranteed to be used long after Easter is over. Comes in a clear pouch for easy storage. [![Bunny rubbers | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Colourful-bunnies-set-of-4-erasers.webp "Colourful bunnies set of 4 erasers - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QYyQxz)Colourful bunnies set of 4 erasers We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/QYyQxz) ### 7. [GIANT SUNFLOWER GROWING KIT](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) Give your little one the gift of sunflowers for Easter. It’s easy to grow and will inspire kids to start their very own garden. The ultimate Easter gift for kids. [![Easter Gifts for Kids | Giant Sunflower Growing Kit | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-giant-sunflower-growing-kit-8_2000x2000.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k40qPv) ## EASTER PRESENTS FOR CHILDREN (CONT.) ### 8. [THE BEST EGG HUNT EVER](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zaXDq0) *We’re Going on an Egg Hunt* is brilliant for Easter storytime. Join a group of rabbit friends and lift the flaps to find wonderful Easter eggs. [![The Best Egg Hunt Ever | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/1408870118.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zaXDq0) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zaXDq0) ### 9. [ICE AGE – THE GREAT EGGSCAPADE](https://www.sanity.com.au/products/2326801/Ice-Age---The-Great-Eggscapade) Ice Age – The Great Eggscapade is one fun movie for kids to watch on this day. Perfect to wind down the kids after a busy day of running around. [![Ice Age The Great Eggscapade](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/SDC_2326801_2017-03-2-00-15-56.jpg "SDC_2326801_2017-03-2--00-15-56 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.sanity.com.au/products/2326801/Ice-Age---The-Great-Eggscapade) We found this at: [Sanity](https://www.sanity.com.au/products/2326801/Ice-Age---The-Great-Eggscapade) ### 10. [BUNNY RABBIT COLOUR CHANGING UMBRELLA](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/xJkGq3) An umbrella that changes colours in the rain is a magical Easter gift for kids. Also great when you get caught in a downpour while egg hunting! [![Easter umbrella | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0088/0263/1760/products/FLO34635_02.jpg?v=1571725410)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/xJkGq3) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/xJkGq3) ### 11. [EASTER CRAFT BUCKET](https://bigw.sjv.io/2R1NLM) Painting real eggs can be hard for tiny hands. Get this paper bucket instead … it’s filled with plaster eggs and Easter designs that lie flat on a surface. [![Easter Craft Bucket Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-craft-bucket-beanstalk-mums-800x800.jpg "Easter craft bucket beanstalk mums - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/2R1NLM)Easter craft bucket beanstalk mums We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/2R1NLM) ### 12. [HATCH YOUR OWN DINOSAUR OR UNICORN](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/7X5N9V) Or better yet, grab some eggs that hatch into dinosaurs or unicorns! Just place in water and wait for 24-48 hours for the creature to emerge. [![Dino Eggs | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Dino-eggs-beanstalk-mums.webp "Dino eggs beanstalk mums - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/7X5N9V)Dino eggs beanstalk mums We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/7X5N9V) ### 13. [THE VERY HUNGRY CATERPILLAR EASTER STICKER AND COLOURING BOOK](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/aXQ7N) For kids who love reading and indoor activities, the Very Hungry Caterpillar Easter sticker and colouring book will provide hours of fun. Follow the caterpillar on an adventure in springtime. [![The Very Hungry Caterpillar Easter Sticker and Colouring Book | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51s59N3DjJL._SX351_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/aXQ7N) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/aXQ7N) ### 14. [INFLATABLE BUNNY EAR AND HOOP GAME](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9VgYjY) How about a rabbit ears ring toss game for Easter? Wear the inflatable bunny ears and get the party started! [![Easter Gifts for Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets.kogan.com/images/shinuoshop/SNU-3JK151119J7H57Z50/1-2e16de64b0-9a17f006-b768-441a-9750-f1945563804d.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9VgYjY) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9VgYjY) ## WHAT TO GET THE KIDS FOR EASTER (CONT.) ### 15. [Plush Chicken Girls Costume](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgNDo) An adorable chicken costume for Easter? Yes please! Your little one will be the star of the party in this fuzzy chicken girl costume from Costume Box. [![Easter Gift for Kids | Plush Chicken Girls Costume | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Fuzzy-chicken-chick-rooster-animal-farm-unisex-child-boys-girl-costume-800x800.jpg "Fuzzy chicken chick rooster animal farm unisex child boys girl costume - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgNDo)Fuzzy chicken chick rooster animal farm unisex child boys girl costume We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgNDo) ### 16. [EASTER BABY ANIMALS BOOK](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gEkYg) Young readers will love the Easter Baby Animals board book by Rosie Greening. Reveal different animals and delight in a special treat at the end of the story. [![Easter Gifts for Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h2d/h99/15136105857054.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gEkYg) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gEkYg) ### 17. [FELT EASTER GARLAND KIT](https://bigw.sjv.io/1GrNM6) For older kids who love crafts, this felt Easter garland kit from Etsy is the gift you want. There’s enough felt material and decoration for seven cute Easter-themed items. [![Felt Easter Garland Kit | Easter Gifts for Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Diy-felt-easter-ornaments-set-800x800.jpg "Diy felt easter ornaments set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/1GrNM6)Diy felt easter ornaments set We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/1GrNM6) ### 18. [EASTER BUNNY CHILDREN’S DINNER SET](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNVvx) Your Easter picnic won’t be complete without this adorable bunny-themed dinner set. The plate, cup and flatware can be personalised with your child’s name. [![EASTER BUNNY CHILDREN’S DINNER SET](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-bunny-childrens-dinner-set-800x800.jpg "Easter bunny childrens dinner set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNVvx)Easter bunny childrens dinner set We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/zzNVvx) ### 19. [FLORAL PEARL BUNNY EAR HEADBAND](https://bigw.sjv.io/E0KNP9) Jazz up your kid’s Easter costume with the prettiest bunny ears of them all. Features faux pearls, roses and plenty of glitter. [![Easter Bunny Ears Headband](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-bunny-ears-headband-800x800.jpg "Easter bunny ears headband - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/E0KNP9)Easter bunny ears headband We found this at: at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/E0KNP9) ### 20. [BUNNY WOODEN PULL ALONG TOY](https://bigw.sjv.io/9VgYZY) Here’s a festive bunny toy that will help kids build fine motor skills. The perfect addition to any Easter basket. [![Easter Gifts for Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Bubble-wooden-pull-along-800x800.jpg "Bubble wooden pull along - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9VgYZY)Bubble wooden pull along We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9VgYZY) ### 21. [EASTER MATCHING GAME](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgN0b) Last, but most definitely not least, on our list of Easter gifts for kids: an Easter memory matching game that the whole family will love. Perfect for game night! [![Easter Gift for Kids | Easter Matching Game | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Easter-matching-game-800x800.jpg "Easter matching game - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgN0b)Easter matching game We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/5kgN0b) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Get more fab Easter ideas here: [21 Easter gifts for kids which have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) [Fun ideas to entertain the kids this Easter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-for-kids-this-easter/) [15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Easter-Gifts1.jpg "Easter Gifts1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter, Shopping **Tags:** Easter presents, non chocolate, non edible, Easter Sunday, Easter egg hunt, Easter bunny --- ### [Financial Planning For Single Mothers: How to Take Control](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Financial planning for single mothers, don’t you wish there was some sort of crash course for it? I did! I became a single mum when my daughter was two. We were trying to survive on a single income. I had no idea how to manage my finances or where to get help. I remember crying outside Centrelink, panicking over school fees, and many nights spent on a spreadsheet trying to figure out how much money was going where. But slowly, I found my way, thanks to second-hand shopping, government assistance, and a lot of trial and error. If you’re going through the same or you just want to tighten your budget, this article is packed with practical money moves for single parents. ## **Financial Planning for Single Mothers 101** ## **1. Create a Detailed Budget That Works for You** Every good financial decision starts with a budget. As a single mother, I’ve learned that it’s important to know where your money is going each week. Having a detailed budget helps me understand my income and expenses. I listed everything down, from rent or mortgage to groceries and utility bills. Tracking my expenses gave me peace of mind and helped me take control, as it shows me exactly what I have to work with. Use a spreadsheet or a budget app tailored for single mums to categorise your spending. Prioritise essentials, then set aside money for an emergency fund. Don’t forget to include things like birthday gifts or car rego, so those unexpected costs don’t throw you off. ## **2. Slash Debt and Financial Stress** Debt and financial pressure are common when you’re relying on a single income. But burying your head in the sand only makes it worse. Start by listing all your debts, their interest rates, and repayment amounts, and consider whether [combining multiple balances into one manageable monthly payment](https://www.achieve.com/debt-consolidation "combining multiple balances into one manageable monthly payment") could help reduce financial pressure. Tackle the smallest ones first (the snowball method), or the ones with the highest interest (the avalanche method), whichever keeps you motivated. If you’re experiencing financial hardship, get in touch with your lenders. Many offer hardship programs or paused repayment plans. You can also speak to a financial counsellor or advisor for tailored financial advice without the jargon. ![financial planning for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6693665-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6693665 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Financial Planning for Single Mothers (Ultimate Tip): Save for an Emergency Fund** Ready for another tip? Every single parent needs an emergency fund. I’m not telling you to save hundreds overnight, but you can try to save up little by little. Even $10 a week adds up. This fund could cover unexpected costs like car repairs, a broken fridge, or a sudden childcare fee. Set up an automatic transfer into your savings account, so it becomes one of your good money habits. ## **4. Make Childcare Costs Manageable as a Single Mum** I’m sure you already know, but raising children is crazy expensive. The good news is that help is available. Consider the child care subsidy, which reduces fees based on your income and activity level, such as part-time work or studying. Also, explore community-run centres or family day care; they are way more affordable. If you’re unable to work because of health or family reasons, you may still qualify for government assistance designed to help single mums. ## **Financial Planning for Single Mothers FAQs** ## **1. Where Can I Get Child Support Payments?** If you’re eligible for child support payments, don’t feel awkward about it; it only means your children’s needs are met. You can arrange private agreements or go through Services Australia. Getting child support can be tricky, especially when the other parent isn’t cooperative. But it’s worth following up, as this money can make a real difference in your financial position and help cover things like school fees or utility bills. ## **2. What are Centrelink Benefits for Single Parents?** Depending on your circumstances, you might be eligible for [Centrelink benefits](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/get-centrelink-payment?context=1 "Centrelink benefits") like Parenting Payment, Rent Assistance, or Family Tax Benefit. Make sure you know your eligibility and keep your details updated. There are also tools online to estimate your payments. This financial support can ease financial stress and help you keep up with basic living costs. ## **Bonus Tips: Financial Planning for Single Mothers** ## **1. Set Financial Goals That Motivate You** ![financial planning for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8297033-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8297033 - Beanstalk Mums") Setting financial goals gave me something to aim for beyond the weekly grind. Whether it’s saving for a holiday, buying a car, or starting a superannuation account, these goals help make your financial future feel more in reach. Break your goals into short and long-term milestones. Celebrate little wins. They might not seem like much, but they add up and keep you moving toward financial freedom confidently. ## **2. Prioritise a Return to Work (On Your Terms)** If you’re [returning to work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/ "returning to work"), make sure it benefits your wellbeing and long-term financial future. Whether it’s part-time hours, remote work, or trying a new field, figure out what works for you. Single mothers can often access programs or study subsidies for an easier transition. Explore options like JobTrainer or SkillsCheckPoint. And don’t underestimate how good it can feel to be back at work again. ## **3. Practice Good Money Habits** Good habits now lead to financial success later. Review your budget every few months, automate your bills, and track your income and expenses. These steps help you manage your finances with more confidence. Apps like Pocketbook or MoneySmart are user-friendly options that many single mums love (including yours truly). The more you understand your financial situation, the more control you have over it, and the less scary it feels. ## **4. Seek Financial Support When You Need It** I cannot stress this enough – you don’t have to do this alone. There are free financial planners, support groups, and community centres offering help to single mothers. Sometimes, just having a chat with someone who’s been there can change everything. If you’re experiencing financial or emotional pressure, never hesitate to reach out. The right support can help you avoid a crisis and build a better future for you and your kiddos. ## **Final Thoughts: Financial Planning for Single Mothers** Financial planning as a single mum is not a walk in the park, but it’s not impossible. Step by step, you can make your financial life more secure. Start with a solid budget, build an emergency fund, and chip away at debt. Learn what Centrelink can offer, take advantage of child care subsidies, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Most importantly, remember that it’s okay to make short-term sacrifices when they’re leading you towards financial stability, for yourself and for your kids. You’ve already got the hardest job in the world, Mum. Taking control of your financial future is just one more thing you CAN handle. You’ve got this! ![Financial planning single mother | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Financial-planning-single-mothers.png "Financial planning single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** money, finance --- ### [Financial Planning for Single Mums: How to Stand on Your Own Two Feet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/financial-planning-for-single-mums-how-to-stand-on-your-own-two-feet/) **Published:** March 6, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## Financial Planning for Single Mums: Smart Money Moves for Single Parents There’s a moment after separation that I like to call the financial fog. It’s when you realise you’re now the CFO of your household…and you didn’t exactly apply for the job. Honestly, I used to think “diversifying my portfolio” meant buying wine and gin. But maybe you became a single parent overnight, and suddenly, the bills, mortgage, school fees, and the grocery shop are all sitting squarely on your shoulders. This is exactly where financial planning for single mums becomes less of a “nice-to-have” and more of a lifeline. For many single mothers, money conversations feel intimidating, especially if they weren’t managing the budget before. When you’re adjusting to single parenting, juggling childcare or family daycare, tracking child support payments, and possibly exploring part-time work, your financial situation can feel overwhelming. But contrary to popular belief, financial planning for single mums isn’t about spreadsheets or being financially savvy. It’s actually about creating a spending and investment plan that reflects your real life, tracking your income and expenses, and building enough savings to cover unexpected costs without panic. Now this is the space Helen Baker of On Your Own Two Feet has dedicated her career to. Helen is a seasoned financial adviser who specialises in helping women, particularly those navigating separation and rebuilding their lives. Her work is designed to help you take control of your financial decisions, reduce debt, manage payments confidently and build long-term financial security. Her approach is refreshingly practical and deeply empathetic, focused on helping women move from uncertainty to genuine financial independence. Most importantly, she’s passionate about women’s financial independence and empowering you to truly stand on your own two feet. ## Why We Trust Helen Baker With Our Wallets & Financial Planning When it comes to financial planning for single mums, trust is everything. You’re not just handing over numbers on a spreadsheet—you’re sharing your fears, your goals, and the future you want for your kids. That’s why Helen Baker’s vibe matters just as much as her qualifications. Here’s why you can put your trust in her: ### She Understands Real Life As A Single Parent Helen isn’t about intimidating boardroom energy or talking over your head. She’s warm, practical and laser-focused on the very real challenges women face, including: - Navigating a financial settlement after divorce - Managing on a single income - Understanding child support and child support payments - Working out eligibility for government assistance - Accessing Centrelink benefits for single parents - Budgeting for childcare or family day care - Balancing parenting, work and financial pressure She knows that a financial settlement after divorce forms the foundation of your next chapter. And without structure, it can quietly disappear into everyday expenses. ![Financial Planning for Single Mums: How to Stand on Your Own Two Feet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-ig-size-4-600x800.jpg "Break Up With Money Stress. - Beanstalk Mums")Break up with money stress ### Credentials That Back It Up Helen Baker is an award-winning financial adviser with more than 15 years’ experience in finance. She holds two Master’s degrees and is the author of three books, including Money For Life: How To Build Financial Security From Firm Foundations (2025). Her advice is grounded in study, experience and a genuine commitment to women’s financial freedom. ### On Your Own Two Feet Is The Mission But what we really love is the mission behind her business, On Your Own Two Feet. Helen founded her Australia-wide service to help women regain and retain their financial freedom. Her goal is to equip you with knowledge, strategy and confidence so you can make empowered decisions long after your sessions with her are over. That ethical alignment matters to us at Beanstalk Mums. You’re resilient, capable, and already juggling a million things. The right financial adviser shouldn’t make you feel small or confused — they should help you feel informed, steady and in control. When you work with Helen Baker, financial adviser and advocate for women, the end goal is simple: you standing firmly, confidently, on your own two feet ## The Biggest Myth About Financial Planning For Single Mums The biggest myth we hear about financial planning for single mums? “I don’t have enough money to need a planner.” It makes sense. When things feel tight, financial advice can seem like something reserved for high-net-worth couples with investment properties and share portfolios. But according to Helen Baker, that’s exactly when you need a plan the most. Financial planning is actually all about making smart decisions with what you do have. Even more so after a financial settlement after divorce, when one wrong move or a lack of strategy can quietly undo months (or years) of hard-won progress. Here’s where a clear plan becomes powerful: - **Protecting your settlement**: Without a strategy, funds can slowly disappear into daily payments and unexpected expenses. A plan helps secure your financial freedom. - **Creating a spending and investment plan that works in real life:** Creating a detailed plan means tracking your income and expenses, planning for grocery costs, childcare, school fees and even affordable treats. - **Superannuation and long-term planning:** Planning for the future matters. Even small savings contributions build long-term financial stability. - **Managing debt effectively:** Listing all your debts and creating a manageable repayment plan reduces stress and helps you prioritise what’s essential. You don’t need more money. What you need is a plan that helps you manage, reduce pressure, and feel in control of your financial direction. ## Practical Steps To Regain Control & Prioritise Good Money Habits When you became a single mother, your financial responsibilities shifted overnight. The key is to break your goals into manageable actions. Here are practical money moves for single parents inspired by Helen’s philosophy: #### 1. **Create A “Sleep Well At Night” Emergency Fund** An emergency fund is designed to help cover unexpected costs, such as car repairs, medical bills or sudden school expenses. Even small, automated savings deposits build stability and peace of mind. Aim to save gradually. Automate transfers so saving becomes a habit, not a chore. #### 2. **Track Your Income And Expenses** Use a spreadsheet or budgeting apps to track your income and expenses clearly. When you track regularly, you can see exactly where your money goes. This helps you: - Identify unnecessary expense patterns - Reduce overspending - Manage childcare and household costs - Prioritise essential payments - Tracking motivates you because progress becomes visible. #### 3. **Understand Support And Assistance Available (Childcare, Child Support Payments)** As a single parent, you may be eligible for government assistance or financial support programs. This includes Centrelink benefits for single parents, child support payments and understanding the latest single parenting payment rates available to you. Understanding eligibility criteria ensures you’re not missing out on support designed to help ease the transition. #### 4. **Tackle Debt Repayment Step By Step** If debt feels overwhelming, list all your debts and create a clear debt repayment strategy. Focus on one milestone at a time. Structured repayment makes things manageable and reduces financial stress in the long term. None of this requires perfection. It requires good money habits, clarity and consistent action. #### 5. **Understand Your Settlement Entitlements** Before you can truly move forward, you need to understand exactly what you are entitled to in a settlement. This isn’t just about dividing assets; it’s about securing your foundation and protecting your financial future. *For more resources on navigating your work and finances post-separation, explore the Beanstalk Single Mums [“Entitlements for non-working parents in a property settlement”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) article.* ## Financial Planning for Single Mums: How On Your Own Two Feet Can Help If you’re ready to take control of your financial life, On Your Own Two Feet offers **[personalised women’s financial planning services](http://www.onyourowntwofeet.com.au/contact)** tailored to single parents at every stage. (Enjoy 10% off your first consult, because every Beanstalk Mum deserves a little extra support while rebuilding her financial confidence.) One of the cornerstones of Helen’s work is the 5 foundations of financial freedom — a strategy that helps you build rock-solid financial security before moving on to bigger goals. These foundations include everything from emergency funds and a realistic spending and investment plan, to insurance, superannuation and estate planning — all essential pieces that protect what you have and set you up for long-term success. If you’re not ready for a full consult just yet, Helen’s books are an accessible, uplifting starting point that still gives you practical tools and confidence: - **[On Your Own Two Feet: Steady Steps To Women’s Financial Independence:](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fon-your-own-two-feet%2fhelen-baker%2f9781920727789%2f)** A friendly, empowering guide to building financial confidence at any stage of life. - **[On Your Own Two Feet Divorce:](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/1Gr7z9)** Your (Pre-divorce) Survive And Thrive Financial Guide: Perfect if you’re approaching separation or in the thick of negotiations and want clarity before you make big decisions. - **[Money for Life:](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/DWK3J2)** Explores the foundations of financial security so you can build strength and resilience into your money life. Each resource helps you set financial goals, break your goals into clear steps, and work toward financial security. Whether you grab a copy of her book to start your learning or book a discovery chat to map out your next steps, Helen’s support can help transform financial planning from something scary into something empowering, accessible and genuinely achievable. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/In-article-images-2026-03-06t135054%20043.jpg "Books by Helen Baker - Beanstalk Mums") ## Your Money, Your Power, Your Fresh Start Money isn’t just numbers in an app. It’s stability. It’s options. The ability to secure your children’s future and feel peace of mind at night. Financial planning for single mums is self-care in its most practical form. It’s about taking control of your financial direction, building good money habits, reducing stress and creating long-term financial confidence. You already juggle a thousand things every day. Getting support with your money doesn’t make you less capable; it makes you strategic. And when it comes to women’s financial independence, Helen is one of the good ones. Go check her out. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/financial-planning-for-single-mums-how-to-stand-on-your-own-two-feet/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/financial-planning-for-single-mums-how-to-stand-on-your-own-two-feet/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [What Personal Info Are You Giving Away When You Sell Your Car Online?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-personal-info-are-you-giving-away-when-you-sell-your-car-online/) **Published:** September 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Selling your car online may seem quick and easy, but what many sellers don’t realise is just how much personal information they’re making public in the process. From your contact details to your car’s registration history, a simple listing could open the door to privacy risks that most Australians are not prepared for. If you’re searching for the safest way to [sell your car](https://www.cars4us.com.au/sell-my-car), it’s worth understanding these risks and how to avoid them. ## **Hidden Data in Online Listings** When you create an online ad to sell your car, you often include more than you realise. Phone numbers, suburb names, and email addresses are usually required, and even if you mask these with platform tools, determined individuals can still find workarounds. The photos of your car may include your number plate, which, when reverse-searched, can lead to information about past owners, service records, and even the registered address in some cases. Even vehicle details like your VIN (Vehicle Identification Number), sometimes visible in interior shots, can be used to access your car’s entire service and accident history. This opens the door to scams, false claims, and identity theft. ## **The Risk of Identity Theft** One of the most serious privacy risks of selling a car online is identity fraud. If someone gathers enough information from your listing — such as your name, number plate, and contact info- they may be able to impersonate you, intercept calls or messages from genuine buyers, or worse. There are also increasing reports of scam listings where fraudsters copy real ads and trick buyers into sending deposits, using your vehicle as bait. This kind of personal information exposure isn’t just a nuisance; it’s a real financial and emotional risk for car sellers who aren’t tech-savvy or cautious. ![sell your car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-heitorverdifotos-2529456-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-heitorverdifotos-2529456 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Communication Can Compromise You When You Sell Your Car Online** Even once your listing is live, ongoing communication with potential buyers can result in oversharing. People might request to call, text, or meet at your home. Some may even ask for your license or ID details before test driving, claiming it’s for [insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/never-underestimate-the-potential-return-on-investment-with-a-good-insurance-policy/ "insurance") purposes. Unless you’re dealing with a verified buyer through a secure platform, sharing these details can compromise your personal safety and lead to data misuse. ## **Safer Ways to Sell Your Car** Instead of navigating this risky landscape alone, many Australians are choosing secure alternatives to sell carsquickly and safely. A professional car buying service eliminates the need for public listings, test drives with strangers, and back-and-forth negotiation with unknown buyers. Some vehicle owners prefer selling to services offering [cash for junk cars](https://www.wreckerland.com.au/cash-for-cars-melbourne/junk-cars), which can simplify the process of getting rid of old or unwanted vehicles. These platforms offer a private and protected way to sell your car without exposing your information. From valuation to collection, everything is handled discreetly and securely. ## **Why It’s Worth Protecting Your Data** The digital world has made car selling more accessible, but also more dangerous. If you’re still considering a private sale, ask yourself whether saving a few hundred dollars is worth risking your personal data. Selling through a verified and secure service gives you peace of mind, protection from scams, and a far smoother experience. **Protect your privacy — sell securely through us.** <https://www.cars4us.com.au/sell-my-car> ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-personal-info-are-you-giving-away-when-you-sell-your-car-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-personal-info-are-you-giving-away-when-you-sell-your-car-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Shopping --- ### [Binding Financial Agreement (BFAs): A Simple Guide for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/binding-financial-agreement-guide-for-single-mums/) **Published:** March 5, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For many couples, a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) is the ultimate tool for finding clarity during an incredibly stressful time. This agreement sets clear boundaries around your property, debts, and spousal support, helping both of you understand exactly what you are entitled to under Australian family law. Having a properly drafted financial agreement in place protects your future and keeps you far away from unnecessary (and expensive!) family court battles. When a relationship breaks down, the emotional load is heavy enough without throwing a bunch of complex legal and financial decisions into the mix. Questions about who gets what, how a property settlement actually works, and what your financial reality will look like post-split can easily send you into a spiral. Because let’s be honest, mama, you can’t fully embrace your fresh start until you know your family’s financial foundation is completely secure. Take a deep breath. Let’s break down how a Binding Financial Agreement can protect you and simplify your next chapter. ## Quick Takeaways: The Bottom Line on BFAs - **What it is:** A Binding Financial Agreement is a private, legally enforceable contract that outlines exactly how your assets and debts will be divided if your relationship ends. - **Why it helps:** It provides absolute financial certainty, prevents costly court proceedings, and keeps you in control of your own property settlement. - **The Golden Rule:** You *cannot* DIY this. To be legally binding, both you and your ex must get independent legal advice from separate lawyers before signing. - **When to get one:** You can enter into a Binding Financial Agreement before, during, or after a marriage or de facto relationship. ### What Exactly is a Binding Financial Agreement? A Binding Financial Agreement is a legally recognised contract under Australian family law that sets out exactly how your assets, liabilities, and financial resources will be divided after a breakup. Think of it a bit like a pre-nuptial agreement, but with the flexibility to be created during your marriage, throughout a de facto relationship, or even after you’ve separated or divorced. For a BFA to hold up in court, it must meet some very strict legal requirements. It, : - **It covers the big stuff:** property settlement terms, the division of assets, superannuation, and spousal maintenance. - **It keeps you out of court:** It provides certainty and prevents either of you from needing to make a messy application to a judge later on. - **It is a private contract:** Unlike consent orders (which are filed with and approved by the Family Court of Australia), a Binding Financial Agreement remains a private document between you and your ex. - **It requires lawyers:** Both parties *must* obtain independent legal advice before signing, otherwise the court can (and will) set the agreement aside. *(For broader guidance on navigating your legal pathways during a split, check out our* [*family law resources and support services article*s*.*](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/separation/family-law/)) ### How Do I Know if I Actually Need a Binding Financial Agreement? You will likely benefit from a Binding Financial Agreement if you and your ex have agreed on how to divide your property and you want to lock in those terms legally without dragging the matter through the family court. Not every separating couple needs one, but a BFA is a brilliant way to formalise your separation if you fit into any of these categories: - You are planning a separation or divorce and want a clean, out-of-court property division. - You have complex financial circumstances (like business interests, family trusts, or significant investments). - You brought assets into the relationship, or you expect to receive a large inheritance soon. - You want to fiercely protect your children’s financial interests and secure their future needs. - You simply want the peace of mind that comes with knowing your agreement is legally waterproof. For single mums, protecting what you’ve worked so hard to build is non-negotiable. A properly prepared Binding Financial Agreement gives you the security to secure housing and move forward with financial stability. ### What Needs to be Included in a Valid Binding Financial Agreement? For the family court to take your financial agreement seriously, it has to tick some specific legal boxes. The document must clearly lay out both parties’ financial realities and the agreed-upon split. A valid, iron-clad BFA typically includes: - **Full Financial Disclosure:** A completely honest list of both parties’ incomes, assets, debts, and resources. - **The Settlement Details:** Exactly who gets what regarding property and assets. - **Spousal Maintenance Terms:** Clear rules on whether one spouse will receive ongoing financial support from the other. - **Legal Certificates:** Signed documents confirming that both you and your ex received independent legal advice. - **Proper Execution:** Both of your signatures, added *only* after that legal advice was given. ### What is the Exact Process for Creating a Binding Financial Agreement? Creating a Binding Financial Agreement involves much more than jotting down a few bullet points on a piece of paper. To ensure your agreement is actually enforceable, you need to follow a strict legal pathway. Here is the step-by-step process: 1. **Gather Your Documents:** Compile a full financial disclosure from both parties so every single asset and liability is on the table. 2. **Negotiate the Split:** Reach a mutual agreement on how to divide your property and financial resources fairly. 3. **Hire Separate Lawyers:** Engage a family lawyer for yourself, and have your ex do the same. You *must* receive independent legal advice. 4. **Draft the Document:** Have the lawyers carefully draft the financial agreement so it complies perfectly with Australian family law. 5. **Get the Certificate:** Your lawyers will provide a signed certificate confirming they explained your rights and the agreement’s impact to you. 6. **Sign on the Dotted Line:** Once signed, the BFA is binding! You don’t even need to file it with the Family Court. ![Binding Financial Agreements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-ig-size-2.jpg "Binding Financial Agreements - Beanstalk Mums") ### Common BFA Mistakes You Need to Avoid Binding Financial Agreements are powerful tools, but making a mistake during the setup can be a very expensive headache. If errors occur, the court has the power to throw the agreement out entirely. Protect yourself by avoiding these common traps: - **Sharing a lawyer:** You *cannot* use the same lawyer. You must receive advice from separate legal professionals. - **Hiding assets:** Incomplete disclosure of your financial resources or debts will void the contract. - **Relying on a handshake:** Using a DIY or informal separation agreement is not legally binding. - **Forgetting to update it:** Failing to update the agreement after a massive life change (like having another child) can make it obsolete. - **Rushing the process:** Never sign without reading, reviewing, and truly understanding the document. ### How Do BFAs Affect My Property Settlement? A Binding Financial Agreement directly controls the outcome of your property settlement. Instead of rolling the dice and asking a family court judge to decide what is “fair” based on your contributions and future needs, a BFA puts the power back in your hands. By having a BFA, you can: - Streamline the entire settlement discussion. - Save thousands of dollars by preventing lengthy court proceedings. - Protect your pre-existing assets or business interests. - Secure absolute certainty regarding your financial separation. ### When Should I Consult a Family Lawyer? Under Australian law, seeking advice from a qualified family lawyer is a mandatory legal requirement for a Binding Financial Agreement. You should absolutely consult a lawyer: - *Before* you attempt to draft or sign any financial paperwork. - If your financial situation involves trusts, businesses, or hidden debts. - To guarantee the agreement complies with the latest family law standards. - If your former spouse is trying to challenge or enforce an old agreement in court. ### Can I Update or Enforce My Binding Financial Agreement? Life changes! Your career evolves, new assets are purchased, and circumstances shift. If a massive life event occurs, your BFA might need a refresh. If things change, you should: - Review the agreement with a lawyer to see if it still protects you. - Seek advice before attempting to draft a new formal agreement. - Apply to the court if your ex breaches the terms and enforcement becomes necessary. (The court will review the BFA to ensure it was prepared correctly before enforcing it). ### FAQ: Quick Answers About BFAs **Are Binding Financial Agreements legally enforceable in Australia?** Yes. A Binding Financial Agreement is fully legally recognised under Australian family law and can be enforced by the family court, provided all the strict legal requirements were met when it was created. **What makes a Binding Financial Agreement legally valid?** For complete validity, the agreement must be drafted correctly, neither party can hide assets (full financial disclosure), and it cannot be signed under duress. Crucially, both parties *must* receive independent legal advice and have the certificates to prove it. **Can a court throw out a Binding Financial Agreement?** Yes. If the requirement for independent legal advice wasn’t met, if someone lied about their assets, or if the agreement is deemed egregiously unfair or improperly executed, the family court can set the agreement aside. ### Moving Forward with Confidence and Clarity Separation is emotionally exhausting, but getting your finances sorted shouldn’t be. A carefully prepared Binding Financial Agreement allows you to protect your assets, avoid the family court, and walk away with your head held high. When done right, a BFA provides the certainty you need to close this chapter and confidently start the next one. Consider reaching out to a trusted family lawyer today to see if a Binding Financial Agreement is the right empowering step for your family’s future. (For more detailed information on how these contracts work within the legal system, you can read the official guidelines on **[Financial Agreements from the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/fp/financial-agreements)**). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/binding-financial-agreement-guide-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/binding-financial-agreement-guide-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up --- ### [Updating Your Will After Separation An Inexpensive Way to Security](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/updating-your-will-after-separation-an-inexpensive-way-to-security/) **Published:** March 5, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Let’s be honest, mama: separation turns your entire world upside down. Alongside the heavy emotional toll, your brain is suddenly flooded with practical worries about your home, your kids, your finances, and how you’re going to juggle it all solo. In the middle of this chaos, updating your will after separation probably feels like just another overwhelming, depressing task on a never-ending to-do list. I get it. But this step is incredibly empowering. Taking control of your estate plan ensures your assets go exactly where you want them to (like to your kids) and dramatically reduces the risk that your hard-earned money could unintentionally end up in your ex’s hands. Whether you’re untangling from a marriage or a de facto relationship, your legal reality has shifted. Taking a moment to update your paperwork means your wishes are crystal clear, legally valid, and perfectly aligned with your new life. You’ve worked hard to build your fresh start; let’s make sure it’s protected. ## Quick Takeaways: The Bottom Line on Updating Your Will After Separation - **Separation does NOT cancel your will:** In Australia, simply separating from your partner does not automatically revoke your existing will. If you don’t update it, your ex could still inherit your estate. - **Superannuation is separate:** Your superannuation and life insurance do not automatically form part of your will. You must update your binding death benefit nominations directly with your super fund. - **Guardianship matters:** If you pass away, your will is the legal document that officially states who you want to care for your minor children. - **Update ownership:** If you own a home as “Joint Tenants” with your ex, they will automatically inherit your share if you die, regardless of what your will says, unless you sever the tenancy. ## What do I need to review when updating my will after separation? When updating your will after separation, you need to review and, if necessary, completely overhaul your beneficiaries, your chosen executor, your asset list, and your child guardianship nominations. Your estate plan needs to evolve alongside your relationship status. If you’ve recently gone through a split, here are the vital areas you need to audit immediately: - **Your current relationship status:** Ensure your ex-partner or former spouse is legally removed as a beneficiary if you no longer want them to inherit. - **Your chosen Executor:** You probably don’t want your ex managing your estate, paying your debts, and sorting through your personal belongings. Choose a trusted friend, sibling, or professional. - **Property and financial accounts:** Review your home, bank accounts, investments, and business interests. If you’ve finalised your property settlement, your will must reflect your new sole assets. - **Guardianship of minor children:** If your parenting arrangements have changed, your estate plan should reflect your wishes for your children’s care, financial support, and any trust structures designed to protect their inheritance. ## Why is updating your will after separation so critical before the divorce is final? Updating your will after separation is critical before the divorce is final because, under Australian law, separation does not automatically void your will, meaning your ex could still legally inherit everything if you unexpectedly pass away. After a split, it’s completely normal to feel emotionally exhausted and want to put legal paperwork on the back burner. However, waiting until the ink is dry on your official divorce certificate can create massive risks for your family: - **Your ex could remain in power:** If your ex is still named as your executor, they legally control how your estate is administered. - **Family disputes become highly likely:** Outdated documents create ambiguity, which almost always triggers stressful legal conflicts between your ex and your family members. - **Your children’s future is left exposed:** Your kids’ financial future and living arrangements need to reflect your *current* reality, not the reality of five years ago. For brilliant, mum-focused resources on navigating the emotional and practical hurdles of untangling your life, check out our the fantastic [separation guides](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/separation/). ![Updating Your Will After Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-ig-size-1-600x800.jpg "Updating Your Will After Separation - Beanstalk Mums") ## How do I manage my property and assets in my will after we split? To manage your property and assets correctly after a split, you must align your new will with your finalised property settlement, sever any “Joint Tenancy” property ownership with your ex, and separately update your superannuation beneficiaries. After separation, the way you own things changes drastically. You might now hold assets solely, or you might be stuck in a messy joint ownership situation while you negotiate. Here is exactly what you need to review: - **List absolutely everything:** Write down your home, every bank account, investments, and shares. - **Understand Joint Tenancy vs. Tenants in Common:** This is huge! Property held in “joint tenancy” automatically passes to the surviving owner (your ex) if you die. To leave your share of the house to your kids, you usually need a lawyer to sever the joint tenancy and change it to “tenants in common.” - **Tackle the superannuation trap:** Super does *not* automatically go into your estate. You must contact your super fund directly to update your “Binding Death Benefit Nomination.” ## Updating Guardianship for Your Kids For us single mums, this is the part that hits right in the heart. If the unthinkable happens, your will is the primary legal document that tells the world who you trust to raise your babies. - **Nominate guardians:** Choose someone whose parenting style and values align with yours, while keeping existing family court parenting orders in mind. - **Include backup guardians:** Life happens. If your first choice is unable to take on the responsibility, make sure you have a solid plan B. - **Set up a Testamentary Trust:** Consider setting up a trust within your will so that the money you leave your kids is managed responsibly until they reach an age you deem appropriate (like 21 or 25). ## Common Mistakes to Avoid when Updating Your Will After Separation When life feels like a giant juggling act, estate planning can easily slip through the cracks. Avoid these common legal traps: 1. **Assuming divorce fixes everything:** While divorce *does* revoke certain parts of a will in many states, relying on it is a massive gamble. The laws differ depending on where you live. 2. **Forgetting the digital assets:** Don’t forget to include instructions for your digital life, including access to photos, social media, and online businesses. 3. **Taking the DIY route:** A $20 post office will kit might save you money today, but it can cost your children thousands in legal fees later if you make a mistake. ## Seeking Proper Legal Advice While DIY kits exist, estate law is complex—especially when ex-partners and blended families are involved. Getting professional advice is worth its weight in gold for the peace of mind it brings. A qualified estate planner or family lawyer will ensure your document complies with Australian law, help you set up trusts for your kids, and clarify tricky tax implications. For an excellent, highly regarded breakdown of how wills and powers of attorney work, I highly recommend visiting the Australian Government’s [MoneySmart website](https://www.google.com/search?q=https://moneysmart.gov.au/wills-and-powers-of-attorney). ## Communicating Your Changes Once you’ve successfully tackled updating your will after separation, take a breath and communicate your decisions. Notify your new executor so they aren’t surprised, tell your chosen guardians where your important documents are kept, and reassure your older children that you have a solid plan in place to protect them. ## Frequently Asked Questions on Updating Your Will After Separation **Do I need to update my will after a separation if I haven’t yet divorced?** Yes, absolutely. Even before your divorce is legally finalised, you need to update your will. In Australia, separation alone does not automatically revoke your existing document. Without immediate changes, your entire estate could still legally pass to your ex-spouse if you were to pass away. **How do I secure my family’s future?** Updating your will after separation is one of the most loving, fiercely protective steps you can take for your kids. It’s not just about money; it’s about ensuring your voice is heard and your family is safe, no matter what happens. You’ve got this, mama! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/updating-your-will-after-separation-an-inexpensive-way-to-security/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/updating-your-will-after-separation-an-inexpensive-way-to-security/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up --- ### [Long-Term Investing for Kids: How to Build a Nest Egg with Just $5](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/long-term-investing-for-kids-with-just-5/) **Published:** March 5, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ## How to Build a Long-Term Investment for Your Child with Just $5 If I’m honest, when I first thought about investing for kids, it came with a big side of mum guilt. As a parent, you want to build a secure financial future for your child, maybe help with a home loan, education, or even a first car. But when you’re counting pennies for school shoes and stretching groceries to payday, investing can feel like something “other people” do. The kind of families with spare thousands in a savings account. Not mums like us. And definitely not starting with as little as $5 or rounding up spare change. Then I discovered Raiz. And honestly? It shifted my mindset from “I can’t afford to invest” to “I can’t afford not to.” It helped me see that small, regular contributions could gradually build wealth and create a long-term investment plan for my child’s future. ## Why We Love Raiz for Single Mums Investing for Kids Let’s be real, most of us don’t need another complicated thing to manage. What I love about Raiz (and why it feels so aligned with single mums across Australia) is that it’s low-pressure. It works quietly in the background through round-ups, investing your spare change into a diversified fund without you having to think about it. It’s what I call “mum math.” You buy a $4.80 coffee, and that extra 20 cents gets invested. That unnoticed cash becomes part of a long-term investment strategy designed to build growth gradually. Yes, you’re not moving hundreds of dollars. But, you’re making small, regular deposits that can compound over time thanks to interest and market returns. Plus, Raiz lets you choose from different portfolios that include shares and bonds, helping you manage risk based on your comfort level. Some parents may consider investment bonds or other structures with certain tax benefits, but this option makes it simple for beginners. For families focused on building financial freedom, it’s powerful to know you can invest in your child’s financial future without needing high income or professional wealth management. If you’re looking at the bigger picture, we’ve also shared practical tips on [financial planning for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/) to help you create a solid foundation beyond just investing. ## The Myth: “I Need Thousands to Start Investing for Kids” Let’s bust this myth: you do not need thousands to start investing for your child. When it comes to long-term wealth, time matters more than the amount. That’s the real investment advantage. Here’s the golden nugget: compound interest. It’s like your money having babies… and then those babies having babies. Over a long-term investment horizon, even small amounts can grow significantly. If you’re curious what $5 a week could turn into, you can play around with the [Compound Interest Calculator](https://moneysmart.gov.au/) to see the numbers for yourself. **Let’s look at the strategy:** If you invest $5 a week from birth to adulthood (18 years), that’s $4,680 contributed. With potential returns over time — even at a modest rate — that money can grow beyond what you personally put in. Compare that to trying to save a lump sum later while juggling mortgage repayments or other family expenses. Which feels more realistic? Small, regular contributions win. Especially when you consider higher returns over the long-term versus keeping everything in a standard savings account with a lower interest rate. Of course, markets move. There will be market fluctuations, which are a part of investing. But long-term planning helps smooth out short-term risk. ## How Raiz Kids Work (The Practical “How-to”) Raiz Kids is a feature within your Raiz Invest account. It allows you to create a sub-account in your own name, allocated for your child. This means you: - Stay in full control of the investment account - Choose the portfolio (mix of shares and bonds) - Manage contributions - Can withdraw funds if needed - Track everything in one place It’s not a separate legal structure like investment bonds, so you may want to consider tax implications depending on your personal income and marginal tax rate. While Raiz offers simplicity, seeking professional advice is essential if you’re unsure about how this fits into your broader financial planning plan. The strategy is simple: Set up a recurring $5 deposit and make regular contributions (that’s one coffee a week!) If you use the promo code **BEAN30**, Raiz will automatically invest **$30 into your new account** once you’ve made your first investment of at least $5. So technically? You start with $5… and get a $30 boost to kickstart your child’s investment journey. It’s a small head start, but when we’re talking long-term investing for kids, every little bit helps. ## Teaching Them to Fish Beyond Investing for Kids (Financial Literacy) As mums, we don’t just want to hand our kids a lump sum at 18 and hope for the best. We want them to understand it and know the importance of good financial decision-making. That’s what I love most about using Raiz Kids as part of our approach to investing for kids — it creates teachable moments. Instead of money being this mysterious, stressful thing adults whisper about, you can literally show them the graph. You can point to the ups and downs and explain, “See? This is how investing works. It grows over time.” For many single-parent families, money has been a source of stress. But teaching your child that money is a tool, not something to fear, can help set them on a different journey. If you’re curious about how it all works in practice, you can check out how Raiz Kids works here: <https://raizinvest.com.au/raiz-kids> ![Investing for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/03/New-ig-size.jpg "Investing for Kids Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## Common Questions about Micro-Investing (FAQ) ### **Q: Is my money locked away?** No — and this is huge for solo parents. Life happens. Cars break down. School excursions pop up out of nowhere. With Raiz (including Raiz Kids), your money isn’t locked away until your child turns 18. You can withdraw funds if an emergency hits. Of course, the goal with investing for kids is to leave it there to grow. But knowing you can access it if you absolutely need to? That peace of mind matters when you don’t have a second income to fall back on. ### **Q: Is it safe? Raiz uses bank-level security measures to protect your account and personal information. It’s a regulated investment platform in Australia, and your funds are held securely. As with any investment, returns aren’t guaranteed because markets go up and down — that’s part of how investing works. But from a platform and data security perspective, it’s built with the same level of protection you’d expect from major financial institutions ### **Q: What are the fees? Raiz charges a small monthly account fee (which varies by balance) plus underlying investment costs. But here’s the honest mum-to-mum take: for many of us, the automation is the magic. The Round-Ups. The recurring $5 investments. The set-and-forget structure that makes small investments for beginners actually happen. Because what’s more expensive in the long run: a modest monthly fee, or never starting at all? For busy single mums juggling everything, sometimes paying a little for simplicity and consistency is exactly what makes building a nest egg possible. ## Simple Financial Planning for a Stronger Financial Future You don’t need to be a Wall Street wolf or have thousands in the bank. You just need your phone and $5. That’s it. One small decision that future-you (and future-them) will be grateful for. Whether your goal is education, helping avoid debt in adulthood, or contributing to children’s future milestones, you are helping build something meaningful. You’ve got this. Download the app, skip one treat this week, and watch the magic happen. > *This post is general information, not personal advice. Invest only after reading the PDS and seeking financial advice. TMDs and PDS are available at [**www.raizinvest.com.au**](http://www.raizinvest.com.au/)*.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/long-term-investing-for-kids-with-just-5/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/long-term-investing-for-kids-with-just-5/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [How to Dress so You Feel Good About Yourself, Always](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-dress-so-you-feel-good-about-yourself-always/) **Published:** February 27, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** First of all, you are wonderful and should always show up as you are. It is important for you to feel good about yourself, no matter what. And, sometimes, that means being mindful about what you wear so you can, indeed, feel good. With the onslaught of opinions and so-called influencers coming at you from every direction, the messaging of how others believe you should look can quickly become very overwhelming. Instead of worrying about what other people think, it is time to take action and take care of yourself. Please keep reading for helpful tips that will encourage you to dress for you. ## Select the Clothing that You Want to Wear Styles and trends will come and go. Always. While you can chase the latest look, of course, you do not have to follow the masses. Be your own person and select clothing that you actually want to wear. It can include the must-have and of-the-moment styles or possibly tried-and-true classics that never go out of style. Mix and match on-trend clothing with timeless pieces to create a style book and look all your own. The most important part of choosing clothing you will be happy to wear is finding the right size for you. Look for [plus size](https://clairepowell.com.au/collections/plus-size) options at retailers that focus on high-quality fabrics that are beautiful and comfortable. Many articles of clothing are designed to move with you while highlighting your beauty. Pick pieces that make you feel beautiful, because you are. ## Adorn Yourself in Accessories There is something special about accessories. They range from [jewellery](https://fashionjournal.com.au/fashion/4-creatives-everyday-jewellery/) to scarves and [handbags](https://www.louenhide.com.au/blogs/journal/handbag-accessories-every-woman-needs?srsltid=AfmBOopdnKwygwhDKKZ0f4H6zS4Mz3bEIx9RC4Sr_jErX5NHXzrveCXi) to sunglasses. These often small pieces of wearable art can transform any outfit into something different. ![how to dress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-rdne-7240203-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-7240203 - Beanstalk Mums") Think about this: If you are getting ready to go to the gym, but know you need to make a quick stop at a store beforehand, you might want to dress yourself up a bit. Of course, you never need to, but if you would like to, consider adding some small accessories to your gym attire. Small huggie hoop earrings, a well-worn denim jacket, and maybe a hat will pull it all together. If you have a simple black pair of quarter-length pants with a coordinating black caftan, all it takes is silver and turquoise earrings, a necklace, and a ring to instantly elevate it to something that can go straight to the office, dinner, or a night out with your friends. Scarves and pashminas are not just relegated to chilly temperatures. They add colour, contrast, and texture to any outfit. Watch this video for 10 styling suggestions when wearing a pashmina. Own your narrative. Wear what you want to wear. Take charge of your [wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/ideas-to-refresh-your-mum-wardrobe/) by shopping for items that you know will make you happy. Follow the herd or forge your own path. Once you find pieces that help you feel confident and bring out your beauty, add accessories to make them even more you. Layer everything with a pashmina to complete the effect. Being comfortable in your skin means wearing what you want. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-dress-so-you-feel-good-about-yourself-always/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-to-dress-so-you-feel-good-about-yourself-always/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Top Wellness Essentials That Help You Stay Present as a Parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-wellness-essentials-that-help-you-stay-present/) **Published:** December 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a parent, especially a single mum, is a full-time job in itself. Between working, dropping the kids off at school, scaling mountains of laundry, and attempting to claw your way to some sort of social life, it can feel like there’s hardly any time left for YOU. It’s almost as if you have a marathon to run without a finish line. That’s why embracing wellness essentials is key to maintaining your energy and focus. But here’s the thing: to be present for your kids — emotionally, mentally, and physically — means being balanced, and balance begins when you take care of yourself. So, whether you’re squeezing in a quick self-care session or carving out time for a little alone time, it’s vital to keep wellness a priority. You’ve got this, mama! Here are some of the best wellness essentials to help you feel your best so you can show up for your kids day after day. help mindfully ## **Upgrade Your Mattress and Sleep Quality** Sleep isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity. But for many single mums, a good night’s sleep is also akin to a long-lost relic. But we all know that rest can make all the difference — your mood, your energy, your ability to deal with all those mini meltdowns (be they yours or your kids’). If you’re tossing and turning on a single mattress, or even worse, falling asleep in your kid’s bed, it’s time to give your sleep setup a serious glow-up. Hard-working mums deserve at least a comfortable and supportive [queen mattress](https://www.fortywinks.com.au/mattresses/queen/) to stretch out on every night. A good-sized mattress that supports your body correctly can help relieve back pain, improve posture, and—if you’re dealing with persistent discomfort—even make a visit to a [chiropractor](https://www.infinitehealthgroup.com.au/chiropractic "chiropractor") less likely as you fall into a deeper, more restorative sleep cycle. Queen and king-sized mattresses are also ideal for parents as they provide enough room for kids to squeeze in without having to sacrifice their own comfort too much. So next time one of your little ones has a nightmare, you won’t need to worry about sleeping with one foot hanging off the edge of the bed. ## **Regular Movement: Stretch, Walk, Dance — Just Move!** Let’s talk about movement for a second. You may be thinking, “There’s no way I’ve got time to go to the gym,” and we get it — we’re right there with you! With a never-ending list of to-dos, including strenuous housework that could easily pass as exercise, the thought of working out seems daunting. But here’s the thing: you don’t need to do those long, hard workouts to achieve the benefits of exercise. A [daily dose of movement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) — whether it’s stretching, a walk around the block or even dancing around the kitchen to “Baby Shark” with your little one — does wonders for your physical and mental well-being. Regular exercise helps release those feel-good endorphins, which — alongside supportive [chiropractic treatment](https://spinalworks-chiropractic.com.au/) — can make all the difference when you’re running on fumes as a single mum managing a busy schedule. It increases energy, alleviates stress and enhances the quality of sleep. Plus, it’s a nice way to clear your head and reset when you’re feeling frazzled. Even if you only have a spare 15 minutes a day, a quick stretch or walk can help reset you and allow you to remain present. So round up the kids and get outside for a brief adventure, or lay down that yoga mat in the living room. It doesn’t need to be perfect; it needs to be done. ## **Mindfulness: Breathe In, Breathe Out** As a parent, you’re often pulled a hundred different ways at the same time. That can leave your mind racing, your body tensed up, and your patience wearing thin. One wellness essential that keeps us pressing pause and gets us back in the present moment is mindfulness. Mindfulness practice doesn’t need to be an hour of meditation (though if time permits, then do that). Even a few minutes of deep breathing, focusing on your breath, or simply sitting in silence can work wonders. There are loads of easy ways to bring mindfulness into your daily routine as a mum. Maybe you take five minutes in the morning before the chaos begins, or during your lunch break, or even while you’re washing the dishes. As you breathe deeply and focus on the present, your mind quiets, and you’re able to manage stress more effectively. You’ll find you can deal with those toddler tantrums a lot more calmly, or you’ll be able to truly listen to your kids when they talk. Being present means not only being physically there but also mentally engaged. Mindfulness can help you do just that. And remember that mindfulness can mean different things to different people. So whether you’re using [meditation apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/) or just practising some deep breathing whilst looking out the kitchen window in between washing pots and pans, take a moment to enjoy the wellspring of peace and relaxation that exists from within. ![wellness essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-66.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Fuel Your Body the Right Way** We’ve all been there — grabbing a quick snack while wrangling the kids or reaching for coffee to get through the afternoon slump. But what if we told you that what you eat can drastically impact your energy levels, mood, and ability to stay focused as a parent? The right nutrition is key to feeling your best, and it doesn’t have to be complicated. Adding in more whole foods like fruits, veggies, and lean proteins can provide a steady source of energy for you during the day. Consider it your “mum fuel.” Instead of grabbing that snack laced with sugar, go for something that’ll fuel you instead — a handful of nuts, some hummus and veggie sticks or a smoothie with fresh greens and berries. And don’t forget to hydrate! Hydrating keeps you alert, averts headaches, and can even enhance your mood. So, as you’re preparing your meals, consider your body’s needs. Eating well can go a long way in you being able to stay present, patient, and maintain your energy throughout the day. ## **A Little Alone Time: Recharge Your Batteries** We understand that “[alone time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/take-time-as-single-mum/)” might be an alien concept when you’re a single mum. But carving out moments to recharge your batteries is a complete non-negotiable for your mental health. It could be reading a book in silence, taking a bath or simply sitting outside with a cup of tea — those little moments of solitude allow your mind to reset. Alone time doesn’t have to be long. Even 10 or 15 minutes can make a big difference in how you approach the rest of your day. It helps you process your thoughts, gain perspective, and, most importantly, remind yourself that you are more than just a mum. You are a person too, with needs, dreams, and emotions. We all need time for ourselves, we all need to fill our own cup up, in order to be our best selves for our children. It’s all about the balance, right — being there for your little munchkins, but making sure you’re taking care of yourself, too. ## **Connecting with Other Mums** Last but certainly not least, let’s talk about the importance of connection. Being a single mum can be isolating, and it’s easy to feel like you’re in this alone. But the truth is, you don’t have to be. Having a network of other mums to lean on is one of the most effective ways to keep your feet on the ground. Be it a WhatsApp group, a local meet-up or an online community, the presence of those who actually get what you go through can change everything. This connection is not just a way to vent (although, believe us, that helps). It’s about sharing tips, swapping stories and receiving reassurance that you’re doing a great job. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone can lighten your load. So schedule a time to catch up, even if it’s just a quick chat over coffee or a virtual hangout. Your village is out there, and they’re just waiting to lift you up. ## **“Wellness” Your Way to Being a Better Parent** Parenting is tough, especially when you’re doing it solo. But with the right wellness essentials, you can manage your day-to-day life with more energy, focus, and peace of mind. Take it one step at a time — prioritise your sleep, movement, nutrition, mindfulness, alone time, and connection with others. **You deserve it, and your kids will benefit from the best version of you. Remember, staying present starts with looking after yourself first. You’ve got this, mumma!** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-wellness-essentials-that-help-you-stay-present/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/top-wellness-essentials-that-help-you-stay-present/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [The Strength-and-Mobility Routine That Helps Mums Feel Like Themselves Again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-strength-and-mobility-routine-that-helps-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/) **Published:** February 14, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Some days, the body does not feel like “your” body. The back feels tight. The hips feel stiff. The core feels switched off. Even carrying a child can feel heavy. This is common for mums. Life gets busy fast. Sleep gets chopped up. Stress stays high. Movement becomes more about getting through the day. The good news is simple. Strength and mobility can come back. It does not need long gym sessions. It needs a routine that fits real life. This article shares a practical approach. It builds strength. It restores mobility. It supports posture and energy, too. ## **Why Mums Lose Strength and Mobility So Quickly** Strength can drop when movement changes. Daily life becomes more repetitive. More sitting. More lifting. More one-sided carrying. Less time for full-range movement. Mobility can drop for similar reasons. Hips tighten. Chest muscles shorten. Ankles stiffen. Then the body starts compensating. Core strength can feel different, too. [Pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/ "Pregnancy") and postpartum change the abdominal wall. [The NHS explains](https://www.nhs.uk/baby/support-and-services/your-post-pregnancy-body/?utm_source=chatgpt.com) common post-pregnancy body changes and safe ways to rebuild. None of this means the body is “broken.” It simply means it has adapted — and with the right support through [Women’s Pelvic Health Physiotherapy](https://www.movementlaboratory.com.au/services/womens-pelvic-health-physiotherapy/), the next step is guiding it to adapt back in a safe, structured, and sustainable way. ## **The Routine That Works Best for Busy Mums** The best routine has three features. - Short sessions that are easy to start - Low-impact strength that protects joints - Mobility work that is tied to daily life The goal is not soreness. The goal is steady improvement. The routine should feel challenging, but repeatable. A simple target works well. Aim for 20 to 30 minutes, 3 times weekly. ACOG shares [exercise after pregnancy guidance](https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/exercise-after-pregnancy?utm_source=chatgpt.com) that supports a safe return to training. ![strength-and-mobility routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339643-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339643 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Three Pillars That Bring the Body Back** ### **Controlled Leg Strength** Leg strength supports the whole day. Getting off the floor. Carrying groceries. Walking up stairs. Chasing toddlers. Controlled leg training builds glutes and thighs without joint pounding. It also teaches better alignment. Key cues help. - Keep knees tracking over toes - Drive through the whole foot - Move slowly on the lowering phase ### **Core Stability, Not Crunches** Core work should improve control. It should help the spine and pelvis stay stacked. It should not be endless ab burn. Good core training includes: - Dead bug patterns with slow breathing - Side planks for hip and trunk support - Anti-rotation work to resist twisting This style carries into daily movement. It also supports posture. ### **Mobility With Strength** Mobility is not only stretching. It is a strength at the end range. That is what keeps movement feeling free. The best mobility work targets: - Hip flexors and glutes - Thoracic spine and ribs - Ankles and calves - Shoulders and upper back This is where the “lighter body” feeling often returns. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339326-1-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-6339326 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Where Reformers Fit Into a Mum-Friendly Routine** Mat training works well. Machines can make things easier to repeat. A reformer guides movement. It uses spring resistance. It helps reduce wobble and momentum. This can be helpful for mums who feel deconditioned. It also helps mums who want strength without impact. For home training, looking at a [low-impact reformer machine](https://thecorecollab.com.au/collections/pilates-reformers) can make consistency much easier. Here are reformer options that suit different goals and spaces: Some mums also want higher resistance sessions. That is where high-intensity reformer styles come in. Sculptformer is one machine in that category. It supports stronger resistance and a longer time under tension. The main focus should stay on the method—slow tempo. Clean alignment. Full-body sequencing. Consistency first. ## **The Fast “Micro-Routine” for Busy Days** Some days do not allow a full session. That is normal for mums. Progress can still happen with a short, repeatable reset. The key is picking moves that cover legs, core, and mobility at once. Use a simple 8 to 10-minute circuit. Move slowly. Keep breathing steady. Stop 2 reps before form breaks. Try this sequence: - 45 seconds of glute bridges with a 2-second squeeze - 6 slow sit-to-stands from a chair - 30 seconds of wall-supported calf raises - 6 dead bugs per side, with a full exhale - 20 seconds of side plank per side - 3 deep breaths with ribs stacked over hips This kind of “minimum effective” work protects momentum. It also reduces stiffness from long sitting. Over time, it builds the habit that makes bigger workouts easier to return to. ## **The Signs the Routine Is Working** Progress is not only visual. It shows up in daily life first. Look for these wins. - Less back fatigue when carrying - Easier stairs and floor transitions - Better balance on one leg - Less neck and shoulder tightness - A stronger “zip up” feeling through the trunk These changes build motivation. They also make training feel worth it. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-alexy-almond-3758125-1-981x800.jpg "Pexels-alexy-almond-3758125 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Common Mistakes That Slow Results** Many mums work hard, then stall. These are the usual reasons. ### **Going Too Hard Too Soon** Hard sessions are not the issue. Recovery is the issue. Sore joints make consistency harder. ### **Skipping the Basics** Fancy moves do not beat clean basics. Slow squats and bridges work. ### **Bracing All Day** Constant bracing can increase tension. Core training should include breathing. ### **No Progress Tracking** Track something simple. Reps. Range. Time under tension. Weekly notes help. ## **Safety Notes for Mums** Pain is not the goal. Sharp pain should not be trained through. A professional should assess persistent pain. Postpartum bodies also need patience. Pelvic floor symptoms matter. Abdominal separation needs smart progression. A clinician can guide safe steps. Training should build confidence. It should not create fear. ## **Final Thoughts** Feeling like yourself again is possible. It does not require perfect weeks. It requires a routine that fits reality. Controlled leg strength builds the base. Core stability improves support. Mobility keeps the body moving freely. Together, they create a strong, capable body. Start small. Stay consistent. Keep sessions simple and repeatable. Over time, strength and mobility return. That is when daily life feels lighter again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-strength-and-mobility-routine-that-helps-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-strength-and-mobility-routine-that-helps-mums-feel-like-themselves-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Children's books about divorce and separation: Helping Kids Cope](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/childrens-books-divorce-separation/) **Published:** June 1, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Parenting is hard, but[ parenting through divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-and-children/) is harder. While dealing with our emotions, we must also help our kids understand and cope with the situation. Thank goodness for a wonderful range of children’s books about divorce and separation that are easily accessible these days to help kids cope. Whether your kids are into colourful picture books or more on-point references, my specially curated list of books is comforting, stigma-free, and provides coping mechanisms. Many of my picks are written by children psychologists or formed from years of research. ## SEPARATION & DIVORCE BOOKS FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN ### **1.** [Living with Mum and Living with Dad: My Two Homes (Age 5+)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fliving-with-mum-and-living-with-dad-my-two-homes%2fmelanie-walsh%2f9781406341768%2f) By Melanie Walsh [![Living with Mum and Living with Dad | 12 Books to help your children cope with separation and divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.qbd.com.au/img/products/0/9781406341768.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fliving-with-mum-and-living-with-dad-my-two-homes%2fmelanie-walsh%2f9781406341768%2f) This feel-good book is about a little girl whose parents got divorced and who is now living in two homes with two sets of everything. Sometimes she’s with her Dad, and sometimes she’s with her Mum, but she’s always having fun. The book shows how children of divorce can still enjoy their time with both parents. It comforts young children of separated parents that two homes can be just as normal. **Recommended for:** Parents looking for a read-aloud book that teaches kids to accept families of all kinds and variations, especially single-mum families. ### **2.** [Mum and Dad Glue (Age 3-5)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZMerg) By Kes Gray and Lee Wildish [![Mum and Dad Glue | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61pwqbLcTOL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZMerg) Written by an award-winning author, I love the simplicity of this story. It is about a little boy who tries to find some glue to bind his mum and dad back together and restore their smiles, dealing with the emotions children of divorce often feel. The story reminds and helps children understand that even after witnessing their parents’ divorce, they are still loved. **Recommended for:** Parents who want to reassure their preschoolers that mum and dad loves them as much as ever. ### **3.** [The List of Things That Will Not Change (Age 8-12)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/P0YBYz) By Rebecca Stead [![The List of Things That Will Not Change | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/418bxqiPaaL._SX325_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/P0YBYz) Bea is dealing with big changes after her parent’s divorce, like living in two separate apartments and her dad announcing his upcoming marriage. It’s not always easy, but she copes by keeping a list of things that will always stay the same – her parents’ love for her and each other. This uplifting book is about the constancy of love through life’s changes. **Recommended for:** Middle-grade kids who are dealing with changes after divorce or separation. It is perfect for parents who want to reassure their children that they are always loved, no matter what happens. ### **4.** [Two Homes (Age 3-5)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/okanE) By Claire Masurel [![Two Homes | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61AGly-u-ML._SY462_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/okanE) This book focuses on little Alex and his difficulties getting accustomed to living between two homes. It explains how, although his parents no longer live together, one thing always remains the same, which is that he is still loved. The matter-of-fact style of writing makes light of what can be a big issue. It focuses on what is gained when parents separate rather than what is lost. It helps kids become more optimistic about their situation. **Recommended for:** *Parents looking for a separation book that is child-focused and easy to understand. It can help kids become more optimistic about their situation.* ## Divorce books for children (cont.) ### **5.** [Dinosaurs Divorce (Age 3-6)](https://amzn.to/3X4jaJm) ### By Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown. [![](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/91feDbFOCBL._SY385_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3X4jaJm) Through its fun dinosaur characters, this picture book explains why divorce happens, what changes to expect, and how to cope with emotions. Its friendly illustrations and straightforward language make it easier for young readers to grasp their feelings and situations. **Recommended for:** Young kids who are into dinosaurs and picture books, as it will help them understand such sensitive issues. ### **6.** [It’s Not The End Of The World (Age 8-13)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zoDjW) By Judy Blume [![It's Not The End Of The World | Books for children of divorce | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41O3NpZF2bL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zoDjW) This emotional story follows 11-year-old Karen, whose parents separated. It shows her journey from desperation for them to stay together and, eventually, to acceptance. It covers the frustrations and sadness of the situation, the value of good friends, and how, in time, it’s possible to feel happy again. **Recommended for:** Older kids and preteens who are struggling to make sense of their new normal. This book will help them understand that divorce/separation is truly not the end of the world. ### **7.** [When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends (Let’s T](https://www.amazon.com/When-Parents-Forgot-Friends-About/dp/0764131729)[alk About It!)](https://amzn.to/3XbNRfs)[ (Age 3-7)](https://www.amazon.com/When-Parents-Forgot-Friends-About/dp/0764131729) ### By Jennifer Moore-Mallinos [![](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81lV6FTukRL._SY385_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3XbNRfs) This book follows a young child who notices that their parents are arguing more and eventually decides to live apart after getting a divorce. The story explores the child’s confusion, sadness, and fear as they navigate this new reality. Through conversations and reassurance from both parents, the child learns that the separation is not their fault and that both parents still love them deeply. **Recommended for:** Younger kids who are just beginning to read because of its simple text and engaging illustrations. ### **8.** [The Case of the Scary Divorce (Age 9-12](https://amzn.to/2Lxg3ky)[)](https://amzn.to/3KrwboU) By Carl Pickhardt [![The Case of the Scary Divorce | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51WP0W141DL._SX326_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3KrwboU) An unusual yet refreshing way of dealing with divorce issues, this book is about a ten year old boy with a helping investigator called Professor Skye. Between them they have to solve eight cases which deal with topics encountered during his parents break-up and divorce. Covering topics in this style is particularly helpful for boys who may not otherwise consider their feelings as closely. ***Recommended for:** Older kids who are struggling to cope with emotions like sadness and anger in the middle of a divorce. Great for kids who hate self-help books but love mystery books.* ## Our final selection of parents’ divorce guides for kids ### **9.** [Was it the Chocolate Pudding? (Age 3-6)](https://amzn.to/4aP1PXY) By Sandra Levins [![](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51j4rG3EKAL._SY385_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/4aP1PXY) Through its fun dinosaur characters, this picture book explains why divorce happens, what changes to expect, and how to cope with emotions. Its friendly illustrations and straightforward language make it easier for young readers to grasp their feelings and situations. **Recommended for:** Young kids who are into dinosaurs and picture books, as it will help them understand such sensitive issues. ### **10.** [Candyfloss (Age 9 to 14)](https://amzn.to/3V2K1CV) By Jacqueline Wilson [![Candyfloss | Books for children of divorce | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-eu.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51D3hdRI-UL.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3V2K1CV) An endearing story of 12-year-old Floss, who has to cope not only with her parent’s divorce but with her mother and her new family moving to the other side of the world. This book presents the difficult choices that may have to be made and the emotions that accompany them. A riveting yet tender storyline demonstrates how even the hardest decisions can be made and overcome with parental love and support of good friends. ***Recommended for:*** *Preteens and younger teens who are dealing with the aftermath of divorce and all its complexities, including the difficulties of maintaining friendships.* ### **11.** [The Suitcase Kid (Ages 9-14)](https://amzn.to/3V7LmZ2) By Jacqueline Wilson [![The Suitcase Kid | Books for children of divorce | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61KTwqYykCL.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3V7LmZ2) A heart-warming, realistic read about a young girl who lives week on/week off between her two stepfamilies, feeling she doesn’t really fit into either. It follows an unusual yet compelling structure as the chapters work through the letters of the alphabet. Dealing with upsetting issues which some children will find comfort relating to, it retains a perfect balance of sadness and comedy with a feel-good happy ever after. ***Recommended for:** Preteens and younger teens looking for reassurance, comfort and guidance after a parental split, especially on navigating new family dynamics.* ### **12.** [Goggle Eyes (Ages 12-16)](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/0vBYE) By Anne Fine [![Goggle Eyes | Books for children of divorce | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41gyRknmn2L._SX325_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](http://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/0vBYE) This book combines comedy and charm. Kitty, who is dealing with the post-divorce trauma of her mother’s new boyfriend, helping kids cope with similar situations. She shares her feelings with her friend, who is also from a broken family but who has different circumstances and opinions. Her journey to learn how to accept change, however difficult, is sensitive yet amusing, making it an unputdownable preteen read. ***Recommended for:** Preteens and teens who are struggling with anger, sadness and fear that comes with adjusting to a new family member post-divorce.* ## Summary Going through separation or divorce is tough for both parents and kids. The right books on separation help explain what’s happening in a way, kids can understand and provide comfort during a confusing time. These divorce books can ease the sense of isolation your child may feel as they relate to fictional characters dealing with similar experiences. After my divorce was finalised, my daughters and I read some of these books together. Doing so helped my kids express their feelings and ask questions. You, too, can help your child feel less alone and more secure. Sharing these stories can help your family connect, heal, and move forward with more understanding and love. ![](//imp.pxf.io/i/1253070/585215/9632)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/childrens-books-divorce-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/childrens-books-divorce-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Children, Shopping **Tags:** reading, resources for kids, kid's books --- ### [Supporting Your Child’s Education and Special Behaviour Needs as a Single Parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/supporting-your-childs-education-and-special-behaviour-needs/) **Published:** February 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a single parent is like being a teacher, a coach, and a source of emotional comfort all rolled into one. If you have a child who needs extra attention, learning, or behavioural help, just multiply that by a whole new level. To say the least, it is totally reasonable that one feels overwhelmed by these demands. However, this can be a game-changer as far as the move towards a model like PBS is concerned. Embracing the reasons why certain behaviours are happening and only responding to the behaviours creates an atmosphere that is peaceful and supportive in which your little one can thrive. ## **Understanding Positive Behaviour Support Plans** So, what is a Positive Behaviour Support (PBS) plan? In a nutshell, this approach is proactive in teaching new skills and modifying the child’s environment to minimise uncomfortable moments. Instead of punishment, PBS poses the “why” behind a child’s behaviour. Evidence from research through PubMed states that these evidence-based strategies are highly effective at lowering challenging behaviours while significantly increasing a child’s social and emotional skills. In the childcare or schooling context, these plans ensure that each and every educator is on the same page as well. This level of coordination is of paramount importance as it enables your child to feel completely secure and understood by the care provider. Working with a certified [positive behaviour support practitioner](https://www.outcomesconnect.com.au/positive-behaviour-support/) to develop a proper support plan enables you to come up with strategies that can operate uniformly in the home and childcare settings. Since this information enables the child to know what is expected of them, it reduces their anxieties, thus making it easy for them to play and learn as well. ## **Creating a Consistent Routine at Home and Educational Settings** For children with extra behavioural needs, surprises are not fun. Consistency is the catch-all that gives each day a sense of routine. Your time as a single parent is extremely valuable, and the routines do not need to be complex to be useful. The morning routine can be as simple as the three-part routine of breakfast, then teeth, then shoes. When these home behaviours are also consistent with the structure observed within a quality early learning centre, the effects are additive. Children in a more consistent, high-quality care structure demonstrate improved language and literacy skills, according to the Australian Institute of Family Studies. By linking your home schedule with the flow of their childcare day, you are actively reinforcing the PBS strategies their teachers or education providers are utilising. This kind of synchrony helps your child transition from one setting to another without getting lost, therefore not reaching a meltdown or withdrawing. ![Home Energy Efficiency: Smart Ways to Save Money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Home-energy-efficiency-1.jpg "Home energy efficiency 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Choosing Childcare That Supports Your Child’s Behaviour and Learning** When you are on your own, getting the right village is crucial. When you are visiting various centres, you should not just look at the presentation of toys. You should check if they are using positive reinforcement and if they have a daily flow that is structured. You want a team that can look at your child’s individual needs as a journey they are taking alongside you, as opposed to a problem that needs fixing. The support should be an environment where your child feels nurtured and where teachers are willing to adapt their practice. According to the Australian Government Department of Education, for a child to learn to cope with the social demands of primary school, their early learning must be of quality. If you are in Victoria, then as a single parent, you could investigate local [Armstrong Creek kindergarten](https://www.busybees.edu.au/locations/armstrong-creek/) options that maintain supportive learning environments aligned to positive behaviour strategies. Picking a local service that values PBS will mean your child is receiving expert support throughout the day, which takes a huge amount of pressure off your shoulders when it comes to collecting them. ## **Practical PBS Strategies Single Parents Can Use at Home** You don’t have to be a psychology major to implement PBS strategies around your home. “Visual Schedule,” which is a picture schedule showing all activities for a given day, is very helpful and allows a child a sense of mastery and control. “Reward Chart” is also a big winner, provided you focus on effort, not achievement. So, if your child really tried hard to stay calm while making a transition, this is something to really celebrate! Any other suggestions, try to take the learning outside. Nature-based play can be an incredible way to balance the energies. A report by the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare highlights the importance of the quality of early experiences, including outdoor play, which is vital for children’s good social development. Whether it is a colour hunt in the backyard or feeling the grass, these expériences can be very grounding. Remember, adaptability is key. If a plan is not working on Tuesday, it is perfectly acceptable to adapt it on Wednesday. ## **Collaborating Effectively with Teachers and Educators** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Signs-of-teen-substance-abuse-1.jpg "Signs of teen substance abuse 1 - Beanstalk Mums") You can consider the teachers as home team members. You are the expert about your child, and the observations you share from home are invaluable to the teachers there. Do you know if your child gets irritated more easily in the morning? Are there certain kinds of music your child enjoys listening to? Sharing these small aspects helps the teachers there implement more effective strategies for your child. The Productivity Commission’s inquiry into early childhood education highlighted the significance of the interdependence of high-quality outcomes and the partnership between parents and educators. The implication is that, if possible, have a quick check-in during drop-off or use a communication app if the centre offers it. By speaking the same language and rewarding it with the same rewards, your child will receive a clear message about what this looks like in terms of positive behaviour. By working this way, the PBS will not be a piece of paper but a living mechanism that will grow and develop along with your child. ## **Encouraging Engagement Through Fun Learning Activities** Learning doesn’t have to be done at a desk, and in fact, for those with extra needs, it’s far more interesting when it’s hands-on. Try using a “Sensory Bin” filled with basic kitchen staples such as rice or beans. A great way of teaching turn-taking and patient waiting, it requires virtually no preparatory time at all. Another great idea is a “Nature Scavenger Hunt.” Sit your child down and give him or her a brief list of items to look for: a yellow leaf, a smooth stone, a twig, and the like. This task helps your child develop the skill of focus and listening to and following directions, all in a fun, non-threatening way. These [activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/) are easy, and these skills are the same ones the PBS plans teach, but don’t feel as menial. ## **Conclusion** Managing and understanding the distinctive educational and behavioural development journey for your child as a single mum is a daunting feat, yet it seems that in grasping the Positive Behaviour Support concept and establishing a consistent routine, you are creating a simply superb foundation for a successful future for your child. It is not about having the perfect day every single day; it is about the small wins. The merging of your love, intuition, professionalism, and supportive childcare is the key to success. Are you prepared to take the next step? Look and see how PBS and CCC Armstrong Creek can assist your family in finding their groove. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/supporting-your-childs-education-and-special-behaviour-needs/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/supporting-your-childs-education-and-special-behaviour-needs/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Life, Education --- ### [Why Punishment Doesn’t Work for Autism and ADHD (And What to Do Instead)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/why-punishment-doesnt-work-for-autism-and-adhd-and-what-to-do-instead/) **Published:** February 18, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you have ever experienced the agony of frustration felt when traditional time-outs or lost privileges appear to not only intensify your child’s tantrum but make it worse, then know that you are definitely not alone. Traditional approaches to discipline do not always seem to translate very well to neurodivergent children. Rather than providing corrections, these approaches lead to more distress.” Furthermore, by moving towards ‘evidence-based alternatives’ such as positive behavioural support, we might work on emotional regulation rather than simply stopping a “bad” moment. ## **What “Punishment” Usually Means in Behaviour Management** In the world of parenting and schooling, the solution to any problem is thought to be punishment. A child’s “naughty tray” might be a quick lecture, no iPad, or a “time out” in the “naughty corner.” Regardless of the style, the end result is the same: to decrease an undesired behaviour by adding a consequence to it. But what if the child suffers from Autism or ADHD, and punishment is not the right tool to use on them? Punishment implies that a choice is made by the child intentionally, in a wilful manner, to “misbehave.” The point we need to understand, however, is that neurodivergent children might be asking us to do something to meet their needs as children would, due to difficulty in articulating what exactly the unmet need might be. The thing we can do when we punish, instead of actively educating the children to deal with situations differently in future, is to make them more anxious than they already are. ## **Why Punishment Isn’t Effective for Neurodivergent Children** Several decades of studies have proven that punitive measures are less effective on individuals with neurodevelopmental concerns. According to the NDIS Quality and Safeguards Commission, a high-quality support practice should be informed by human rights and evidence-based practice approaches instead of punitive practices. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8653981-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8653981 - Beanstalk Mums") Since the distinction between the two is that autism and ADHD are real differences that impact the way the child handles the world through their executive function and emotions, the child literally cannot “just sit still” or “stop shouting” using their own willpower. Data from Autism Spectrum Australia (Aspect) acknowledges that PBS is not particularly about punishment. It is about the environment. According to studies, punishment may silence the child for a brief time out of fear, but it does not address the source of the trigger. Eventually, these strategies can lead to a negative parent-child interaction and undermine the child’s development of the skills these strategies were intended to support. ## **What Works Instead: Practical, Strength-Based Strategies** ### **Understand the Function Behind the Behaviour** As a first step to make a change to a behaviour, it is essential to determine why the behaviour is occurring. We refer to this as a functional assessment. Does your child seek to get away from a loud room? Does your child seek a certain type of sensation? Could it be that your child has difficulty transitioning to another activity? When we shift from “How do I punish this?” to “What is my child trying to tell me?” then we know what to do next. ### **Teach Emotional Regulation Skills** Instead of waiting for the crisis to occur, we can take the initiative in teaching our kids how to manage their “engine levels.” - **Calm-down routines:** Practice deep breathing or “grounding” when they are already happy and relaxed. - **Sensory tools:** In some cases, a weighted lap pad or a pair of noise-cancelling headphones would be far more effective than trying to give verbal instructions. - **Visual aids:** A “Zones of Regulation” chart assists kids in understanding what they’re feeling (sad = blue, ready to go = green, out of control = red) before they get to that breaking point. ### **Positive Environment Adjustments and Predictability** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8654497-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8654497 - Beanstalk Mums") In many cases, the best way to deal with your behaviour is to prevent the stressful situation from happening in the first place. Known routines and use of a visual schedule help control the ‘anticipatory anxiety’ that might be felt by many ADHD and autistic children. For instance, by giving your child a visual cue like ‘time for dinner in five minutes,’ you are effectively eliminating all possible environmental triggers for your child’s behaviour. ### **Reinforcement of Skills Instead of Compliance** Reinforcement is the opposite of punishment; this is “catching them being good.” Again, this’s not in relation to giving them a treat when they comply with your order, but thriving when they apply the new skill they have been taught. If they use their words to ask for a break instead of tossing the toy, well done! Reinforcement helps build the child’s confidence, and they will most definitely ask again in the future. ## **When to Seek Professional Support** Parenting is a marathon, and you don’t have to run it without a coach. If you’ve tried all the strategies suggested above and your child continues to experience difficulties with emotional control and/or behaviours of concern, seek the services of a [positive behaviour support practitioner](https://abilityactionaustralia.com.au/positive-behaviour-support/). They can assist you with the development of a behaviour support plan that addresses skills and triggers, not punishments. These people don’t just “fix” the child. They work hand-in-hand with your entire family to completely redesign your home environment and develop a blueprint for your success. According to the NDIS’s guidelines on behaviour support, these professionals will “assist in the development of an understanding of the functions of behaviour and make attempts to address these functions in a way which reduces the need for any RPP.” Is your child’s behaviour causing social isolation or safety issues? A specialised strategy may be the solution to unlocking new possibilities for your child. ## **Final Takeaways for Parents** Being less punitive does not mean “giving in.” Being less punitive means being more effective. We desire our children to become well-regulated, self-assured adults like the above example in the brief introduction. We achieve this by teaching, not by reprimanding. You can also go over these [*Smart strategies to discipline your children whilst co-parenting*](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/smart-strategies-to-discipline-your-children-whilst-co-parenting/). It takes an incredible amount of patience, along with a trial-and-error approach, to determine what works best in your unique individual child’s profile. Keep in mind that by making that decision to create an atmosphere of understanding versus discipline, you are creating a foundation that will last much longer than the time-out episode. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/why-punishment-doesnt-work-for-autism-and-adhd-and-what-to-do-instead/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/why-punishment-doesnt-work-for-autism-and-adhd-and-what-to-do-instead/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [Raising A Child Without A Father: Introducing Your Village](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/raising-a-child-without-a-father/) **Published:** December 1, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Raising a child without a father is one of the most challenging and often isolating journeys a mother can undertake. If you’re reading this, you’ve likely felt that familiar pang of worry—the guilt that whispers you’re not enough, or the panic that flares up when your little one asks, “Where is my daddy?” Please, take a deep breath. That emotional turmoil is real, but it doesn’t define your family’s future. Your home is already full of love, safety, and a strength you might not even realise you possess. The secret to thriving when raising a child without a father isn’t finding a replacement, but instead finding and nurturing the beautiful, diverse community you already have. ***Further reading: [The facts about getting sole parental responsibility.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sole-parental-responsibility/)*** ## Raising a Child Without a Father: Navigating the “Where Is Dad?” Conversation When you are raising a child without a father, that inevitable question about his absence can feel like a spotlight on your biggest fears. But children are incredibly intuitive; they feel our emotions before they process our words. The goal is to answer the question without shame and fear. If you look tense or embarrassed, your child might internalise the idea that their family structure is a defect. ### The Power of Age-Appropriate Honesty The best approach is radical, age-appropriate honesty. It is crucial to remember that it’s okay to admit you don’t have all the answers. 1. **Keep it Simple:** For a toddler, the explanation is best kept concise: “Some families have two parents, and our family has a mummy and you.” 2. **Normalise Your Family:** Treat your family structure as perfectly normal and valid. This teaches your child that their life is just one of many different, beautiful ways to be a family. 3. **Use Tools:** Resources like children’s books for single mums can normalise diverse families and help you answer your child’s question, “Where’s dad?” without shame. ***Further reading:*** ***[Explain An Absent Dad With Simple Books For Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-kids-absent-dad/)*** ## Building Your Child’s Village: Redefining Family When raising a child without a father, there’s often a misconception that the child is missing a key piece. The truth is, children need a network of love, not a specific title. The key is in building a village of aunties, uncles, friends and grandparents. This community shows your child that love and support come from many different sources. It’s the greatest gift you can give them. ### The “Family Description” Bedtime Ritual One powerful, practical tool for solo parents is the “family description” bedtime ritual. This ritual shifts the focus entirely from who is absent to who loves them. As you tuck your little one in, simply list all the wonderful people who love them: - “Grandpa loves you.” - “Your Auntie Sarah loves you.” - “Mummy loves you most of all.” By the time you finish the list, your child is wrapped in a mental blanket of security and love, realising their life is full, not lacking. This ritual is a gentle way to show kids who love them, even when there’s no father figure. ![Wrapped up in love - raising a child without a father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/In-article-images-92.jpg "Wrapped up in love - Beanstalk Mums") ## Practical Tools & Mantras for the Solo Mum The daily grind of raising a child without a father is physically and mentally exhausting. The pressure to “do it all” can leave you feeling like you are “barely holding it together”. You need tools and community as much as your child does. ### 1. Lean on Your Village It’s okay to ask for help. Therapy and leaning on your village are vital. Your friends, family, and other single mums are your lifeline. Community is power. Sharing your story, even if it’s just letting us know who’s in your child’s village, helps other mums realise they aren’t alone. ### 2. Prioritise Self-Care You cannot solo-parent effectively if you are running on empty. Self-care doesn’t have to be a spa day; it can be a “tiny tool” that helps you reset. - **“Parenting is a process”**: This mantra reminds you that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Every day is a lesson, not a judgment. - **Trust Your Gut:** You know your child best. Trusting your gut as a mum is critical when you don’t have a partner to check in with. - **Find Identity Beyond Motherhood:** Remember the person you were before the baby. Finding moments to nurture your own interests is key to healing and finding identity beyond motherhood. ### 3. Seek Hope and Healing Your journey—whether it involved a complex NICU experience or a difficult separation—is valid. By sharing your story, you realise that strangers need support and that writing or creativity can become your healing. Know that you are doing better than you think. ***Further reading: [Affordable Self-Care Rituals That Make a Difference](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/affordable-self-care-rituals/)*** ## A Final Note of Hope: You Are Enough If you’ve made it to the end of this article, you are already a champion. Raising a child without a father is a journey that demands incredible strength, and you are walking that path every single day. Please, let the guilt go. The absence of one person does not define the worth of your family, nor does it define your worth as a mother. Your child doesn’t measure love by the number of parents in the house; they measure it by the security, the joy, and the fierce, protective dedication you pour into their life. They see the mum who is doing double duty, the mum who is building a diverse village just for them, and the mum who is navigating hard questions with honesty and grace. You are capable of turning what felt like a painful struggle into a beautiful, resilient story of self-determination. Trust your gut, lean on your community, and know that you are giving your child exactly what they need: an unwavering foundation of love. --- ### Resources and Next Steps If you are feeling lost or need more support: - **[Listen to Real Talk](https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beanstalk-real-talk-for-single-mums/id1226897925):** Hear more real-mum stories on mum guilt, co-parenting, and rebuilding after separation. - **Find Resources:** Visit [**Single Mama Way for counselling sessions**](https://singlemamaway.com) and helpful resources for single mums. - **Connect:** If you loved this, share it with a friend and **[join our supportive community on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine),** The Single Mum Vine, to let us know who’s in your child’s village! ![raising a child without a father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Absent-dad-4.png "Absent dad 4 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/raising-a-child-without-a-father/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/raising-a-child-without-a-father/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting, Children **Tags:** solo parenting, sole parental responsibility, no dad --- ### [15 Tattoo ideas for legs that are classy and cool](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoo-ideas-legs/) **Published:** October 11, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Tattoos are becoming increasingly popular with a trend in philosophical designs perhaps due to two years of uncertainty and isolation caused by the pandemic. As people get out once again and 2023 approaches, tattoo needles are humming once more. I’m going to look at tattoo ideas for legs that I think are really classy. Legs make a great canvas for a tattoo because there is so much choice. You can go big with a thigh, calf or full leg design. Or keep it simple, small and understated with a cool concept that nestles into the ankle or is secretly tucked away at the top of your thigh. What I like most about a leg tattoo is that it can be hidden away or paraded with pride, depending on your mood. A couple of my friends have had their legs inked and never looked back. Here are my favourite tattoo ideas for legs. ## 15 Tattoo ideas for legs that are classy and cool ### 1. Butterly below the knee I get why butterflies are popular tattoo ideas for legs. Butterflies are beautiful and they look great on any body part. I remember I had a temporary butterfly tattoo on my arm when I was 10 and I didn’t want to wash it off for days! They’re versatile as well. You can size them up or down, use one or two, or an entire swarm, do colour or black and white … they’d still look amazing on your skin. ![Butterfly below the knee](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.39.21-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/627548529335568657/) ### 2. Upper thigh roses Roses, roses, give me roses all day. Exactly like the design below, please. This one is not only well executed(props to the tattoo artist), the thigh area is just the perfect body part for this stunning design. The curving shape of the roses and the leaves is like a spotlight saying “Look at me, I’m fabulous.” If you’ve always felt self-conscious about your thighs like I do, this tattoo might help you love your body more. ***Further reading: [Colourful flower tattoos to adorn your body.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coloured-flower-tattoos/)*** ![Rose upper thigh tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/rose-thigh-tattoo-by-@mafmonroy.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found on [Our Mindful Life](https://www.ourmindfullife.com/thigh-tattoos-for-women/) ### 3. Leafy ankle tattoo The ankle is a pretty easy and safe place for a beginner tattoo and this design is brilliant. The monochromatic leaves that curve around the ankle and down draws attention to your pretty feet. If you are looking for something beautiful and meaningful but not so showy or too conspicuous, this design is perfect. It would look amazing in colour (maybe red roses) as well! ![Leafy ankle tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.43.11-pm.png "Screen Shot 2022-10-02 at 1.43.11 pm - Beanstalk Mums")I found this on: [Qadin](https://qadin.net/en/different/other/109720-elegant-ankle-tattoos-for-women.html) ### 4. Full leg story tale sketch All tattoos are personal and tell a beautiful story, from a tiny wrist symbol to a full leg treatment like the design below. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to get something like this for myself, but I’m too scared, haha. I also prefer minimalist designs, even though I secretly envy women who can pull off gorgeous colour tattoos like these. It’s an investment in time and money for sure, but totally worth it if your tat ends up looking like this. ![Full leg story tale sketch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.46.55-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")I found this on: [HoneyBramble](https://honeybramble.com/womens-style/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ### 5. Patterned shin Mehndi designs are always lovely, especially on larger skin areas like the legs. I think they look like lace, don’t you? Did you know that in India, women typically apply mehndi art to their hands, feet and backs of the shoulders for weddings and festivals? Anywhere there is contrast between the henna and the lighter skin of the palms, back of the hands and on the feet. TIL! ![Patterned skin leg tattoo ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.52.00-pm.png "Screen Shot 2022-10-02 at 1.52.00 pm - Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [StayGlam](https://stayglam.com/life/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ## Leg tattoo ideas for females ### 6. Hidden dagger How’s this for tattoo ideas for legs: weapons! It’s not my personal favourite design, but it’s definitely powerful and symbolic. Remember those badass ladies in the movies who keep knives in their stockings? A tattoo version is just as cool and probably safer. If you identify with femme fatales, this “hidden dagger” tattoo is for you. You can tweak the design and soften it with leaves or flowers if you like. ![Hidden dagger](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.55.02-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")I found this at: [Zest Vine](https://stayglam.com/life/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ### 7. Permanent garter A lace garter circling the upper thigh is oh-so-sultry and perfect for shorty shorts weather. I have a friend who has a similar tattoo and she loves it. She says it makes her feel sexy, powerful and like a 60s pinup. I agree! The garter belt design definitely gives me bombshell vibes. I also get why it’s a popular design. The garter can be customised in so many different ways and looks amazing no matter your body type. ![Permanent garter leg tattoo ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-1.58.27-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Stay Glam](https://stayglam.com/life/back-of-thigh-tattoo/) ### 8. Flying birds leg tattoo I cannot get enough of flying bird tattoos. Another versatile tattoo design that’s filled with symbolic meaning and looks awesome no matter where you put it. Whether a solo sparrow, two lovebirds, or a flock in flight, it’s guaranteed to look great on your legs. My friend who recently left a 15-year relationship got a similar tattoo to celebrate her freedom and the possibilities of her future. I think it’s a lovely way to mark a life-changing experience. ![Flying birds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-2.03.12-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/300122762638740707/) ### 9. Full back of leg tattoo For the minimalists out there, you can have a full tattoo for the front or back of the leg that still looks understated and elegant. Take this black and white design below filled with fancy scrollwork and Rococo curves. I love how the symbols somehow fit together seamlessly like a satisfying puzzle. And check out the hot air balloon tattoo on her ankle. I would get this one if you’re a steampunk fan. ![Full back of leg tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/dd20ce386da2895d32ebc0ad8868f775.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on [Zest Vine](https://www.zestvine.com/leg-tattoos-for-women/). ### 10. Flower resting above the knee Do you like sunflowers? I think they’re the happiest flowers. The colour, the bold dark centres…everything about sunflowers just screams fun. I think this flower tattoo above the knee is a great option if you have a bubbly, optimistic personality. If not, it’s still a good design if you’re looking to lift your mood or need a jolt of sunshine. Even in black and white, this tattoo makes a bold statement. ![Flower knee tattoo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Leg-Tattoo-For-Women-1-1.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Tikli](https://www.tikli.in/2022/03/leg-tattoo-for-women.html) ## Best leg tattoo ideas ### 11. Tribal leg tattoo design Tribal tattoos will never go out of style. Warriors in the past wore their tattoos to indicate their tribe and as a warning or challenge to other tribes. For us ladies, I like to think of these bold markings in terms of empowerment and belonging. They can also be like armour that shields the wearer from the slings and arrows of life. If you can trace back your family tree to ancient times, it would be super cool to get a tattoo of your clan/tribal crest. ![Tribal tattoo ideas for leg](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-2.15.07-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [The Trend Spotter](https://www.thetrendspotter.net/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ### 12. Dream catcher thigh I know a dreamcatcher is designed to catch bad dreams and serve as protection for babies and children, but I was today years old when I learned that it’s supposed to represent a spider web. According to the Ojibwe legend, when the Spider Woman couldn’t reach all the children to protect them, mothers and grandmothers started to weave these dreamcatchers. With this tattoo, you always have a protective dream catcher charm with you to ward off harm and evil influences. ![Dream catcher on thigh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Dream-Catcher-Tattoo-on-Thigh.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Saved Tattoo](https://www.thetrendspotter.net/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ### 13. Around thigh jelly fish Jellyfish might be the last thing on your mind when it comes to tattoo ideas for the leg. But look at this beautiful jellyfish tattoo around the thigh. If you love the ocean and everything in it, this is the perfect tattoo to get. And did you know that jellyfish symbolise immortality and tenacity? A type of jellyfish (called *T. dohrnii*) is actually immortal and (theoretically) never dies. If not eaten by a predator or if it does not die from disease, the immortal jellyfish reverts back into an embryo form and starts life all over again. Sweet. ![Around thigh jelly fish](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Around-Thigh-Tattoos.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Outsons](https://outsons.com/best-around-thigh-tattoo-ideas-that-will-blow-your-mind/) ### 14. Flowers growing up leg Everything’s coming up roses. And daisies and buttercups. Nothing like flowers to lift the mood! Besides being easy on the eyes, they are also packed with symbolism. Starting fresh after a breakup? Moving to a new place? Experiencing a big life change? Consider getting a tattoo of flowers growing up your legs. They mean hope, new beginnings, a bright future, and vitality. I like the quote “Grow where you are planted.” Try adding your favourite string of words to this growing garden. ![Floral leg tattoo ideas for leg](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-02-at-2.27.41-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this on: [Durimel](https://durimel.com/shin-tattoos/) ### 15. Tattoo for the cat lover For us ladies who love their cats, a cat tattoo is a no-brainer. But instead of going literal, I love an elegant take on the subject like this garter tattoo that goes around the upper thigh. I couldn’t even see the two cats at first, they’re just that well hidden! And look at the subtle blue-purple background. It’s the perfect combo of black ink and watercolour. A cat tattoo has so many meanings (luck, mystery, mysticism, grace, royalty, the list goes on), and you can make yours as personal as you want. ![Cat lover ink](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/leg-tattoos-for-women-thigh-round-galaxy-space-cats.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums") I found this at: [Glaminati](https://glaminati.com/leg-tattoos-for-women/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoo-ideas-legs/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoo-ideas-legs/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** ink, inking, body art --- ### [7 Apps to find the cheapest fuel near you (Australia) 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/apps-find-cheapest-fuel-near-you-australia/) **Published:** August 28, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Would you pay for something if you could buy it cheaper around the corner? I doubt it. Especially in 2023, when the price of everything is rising at an alarming rate. Which is why being all over your local fuel prices is so important. Even small savings at the petrol pump can save you plenty in the long term. To help you on your mission to never pay more than you need to, we’ve compiled a list of apps to find the cheapest fuel near you. ***Further reading: [12 Ways to maximise car fuel efficiency and save money.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/improving-power-fuel-efficiency-car/)*** ## WHERE TO FIND THE CHEAPEST PETROL ### [Petrol Spy](https://petrolspy.com.au/) When it comes to apps for the cheapest fuel, Petrol Spy has everything you need. This free service uses crowdsourcing or data from other users to give you petrol prices all over the country, including diesel, unleaded and AdBlue. The app has a pretty impressive coverage of all fuel stations in Australia, plus daily price updates, historical fuel price graphs in metro areas (for unleaded and E10 petrol) and a chance to win a $25 fuel voucher. According to a 2019 [*Choice.com* survey](https://www.choice.com.au/transport/cars/general/articles/cheap-fuel-apps-review), Petrol Spy is one of the most accurate apps for the cheapest fuel in Queensland, NSW, ACT and Victoria. [![Petrol Spy | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/B_cakSV6cNasTtGknms93F9ONM1vtwxe0O752O5c63DEcOiD6Xcq_YOys4TnzEfmZXc=w1240-h628)](https://petrolspy.com.au/) ***Available on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Petrol Spy:** Solid nationwide coverage of petrol stations, a chance to win a fuel voucher* ### [Fuel Map](http://fuelmap.com.au/) [![App Cheapest Fuel | Fuel Map | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/ekZDT29fBqGOOsod4hRh-02pnqW57HGu8p1JTnymUvrpoYKys23H3IWO58FJJo1t6A4=w1203-h682)](http://fuelmap.com.au/) Fuel Map is another crowdsourced app for the cheapest petrol that shows station, brand and price information from other motorists. When you add a fuel price, for example, other users across Australia can see it as well. If you live in NSW, Queensland or Western Australia, you’ll see real-time prices from government sources. The app is easy to use, with petrol stations pinned on the map and the last known price indicated. We love the handy feature that lets you track purchases, fuel history and your car’s fuel economy. ***Available on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Fuel Map:** Easy to use, fuel purchase and fuel economy tracking* ### [Petty](https://petty-app.com/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/Screenshot-2026-02-14-at-1-43-29-am-1200x564.jpg "Screenshot 2026-02-14 at 1 43 29 am - Beanstalk Mums") Search “app cheapest fuel” for iOS, and you’ll find Petty at the top of the list. This app will set you back around $4.50 a year for premium features not found in other free fuel apps, like Siri voice search, so you can compare fuel prices while driving, 3-month historical trend data, and a useful home screen widget for the iPhone and Apple Watch. If accuracy is a big deal to you, you’ll be happy to know that data is pulled from government sources in Queensland, NSW, SA, WA and Tasmania. Overall, a clear winner for Apple users. ***Available on:** Apple* ***Cost:** $4.49/year* ***What we like most about Petty:** iPhone widget and Siri shortcuts, 90-day historical data, price notifications* ### Pumped Fuel Own an electric vehicle? Pumped Fuel is the app for you. It’s one of the few apps for the cheapest fuel that shows electric charging stations on the map. Besides the usual fuel prices and petrol stations, it also shows current promotions for each station, such as garage services and product specials, so you can make informed decisions on the road. In addition, it displays the operating hours and facility information for stations (whether there’s a loo or not), so you don’t have to stop and waste time. [![App Cheapest Fuel | Pumped Fuel | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/ddc24e_0a0fa61da4504422b873942c2bd33446~mv2.png)](https://www.pumpedfuel.com/) ***Available on:** Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Pumped Fuel:** Fuel station specials, facility information, and electric charging stations* ## CHEAP PETROL NEAR ME (CONT.) ### [Vroom Vroom Vroom](https://www.vroomvroomvroom.com.au/vroom-fuel-price-compare/) VroomVroomVroom is a car rental comparison website with a handy fuel check app for people living in NSW, WA or Queensland. While coverage is not Australia-wide, the free service is solid and accurate. It uses government data to provide real-time prices for petrol stations in these states so you can find the cheapest fuel near you. Simply select your fuel type, compare petrol stations and prices, and get directions to your chosen station. For iOS users, Vroom comes with Siri voice search for hands-free fuel comparison while driving. [![Vroom Vroom Vroom | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/mxTlssJXsLE_mDvaso0JeBq_GSH3elDnh8JmKBWOmahJ9WC6WrNko-8_MrvHL1JrXw=w1203-h682)](https://www.vroomvroomvroom.com.au/vroom-fuel-price-compare/) ***Available on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Vroom Vroom Vroom:** Real-time pricing for NSW, WA and Queensland motorists* ### [Gas Buddy](https://www.gasbuddy.com/app) [![App Cheapest Fuel | Gas Buddy | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/YLIT_onwyvb5Kq5Ml1MohX82EN2XKC1fSs35ln1bWLHKsVxcPllVVt7W6hw7LPLcsJk=w1203-h682)](https://www.gasbuddy.com/app) Like other apps on this list for the cheapest fuel, Gas Buddy uses crowdsourcing to provide pricing information. If you enter fuel details for a station, you can earn points and get a chance to win a $100 fuel card. You have to create an account to do this, however. Other than that, the app is easy to use and straightforward. Instead of showing a map, you immediately get a list of stations and prices near you, and then it shows you directions to that station. Another cool feature is the fuel economy tracking that uses GPS and sensor data. ***Available on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Gas Buddy:** Chance to win a fuel voucher, fuel economy tracking* ### [Motor Mouth](https://www.onlybrisbane.com.au/motormouth) Motor Mouth is a national fuel comparison app that relies on data from other drivers, fuel retailers and station operators. According to their website, Motor Mouth shows prices for 4,500 fuel stations across the country. The colour-coded map makes it super easy to find the best prices: Red dots are the most expensive, yellow dots are mid-range and green means go (the cheapest). Save your favourite locations, track trends and fuel usage, and add petrol station and price information to earn points redeemable for rewards. [![Motor Mouth | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/hbG2vhSeuSswRTVmeMFVhKzg6ufoCl6SG5ycktjqmMtmrYjk3Mjwc6uMy6PjZ47WmUA=w1203-h682)](https://www.onlybrisbane.com.au/motormouth) ***Available on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***What we like most about Motor Mouth:** Colour-coded map, earn points for rewards when you add fuel price data* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Cheap-fuel-apps-Australia-1.png "Cheap fuel apps Australia - Beanstalk Mums")### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/apps-find-cheapest-fuel-near-you-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/apps-find-cheapest-fuel-near-you-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Shopping **Tags:** car, petrol, vehicle, transport, car pool --- ### [Reasons Why Child Support May Not Be Right For You](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/why-child-support-might-not-be-right-for-you/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Child Support. You either love it or you hate it. Even if you are on the receiving end of child support, it can be confusing, unreliable and conflictual. There are some cases in which it works perfectly, allowing parents to fairly balance the load between care and finances. But for many ex-couples, navigating child support is a minefield, leaving both parents feeling as if they got the short straw. And this does not create a good structure from which to co-parent successfully. Of course, child support is an absolute necessity for most single parents at some point and reaching out for support when you need it is essential when raising children. Yet, once you’re back on your feet financially, could it be that receiving financial support is causing more friction than freedom in your world … and doing away with it could be a positive and empowering move? To get you thinking, here are eight reasons why child support might not be right for you. ## **8 Reasons why receiving Child Support might not be right for you** ## **It can play havoc with your financial planning** Any financial planner will tell you that the ultimate goal is financial independence, a place where you are in complete control of your money. If you are relying on another person (possibly one who doesn’t like you very much) for all or part of your income, you could be putting yourself and your children at financial risk. Other than waiting for the money to hit your account you have no control over child support. What will happen if your ex loses his job, decides to go travelling, becomes unwell or remarries? Your payments will stop or change and there is nothing you can do about it. It is much better to have a reliable source of income that you have control over, such as employment, a business/sideline … or anything that is possible for you at this stage in your life. ## **It can f-ck up your co-parenting relationship** Child support and the extensive issues that surround it are so in-depth and difficult that they can drive a wedge between many co-parenting couples, and the people most affected are your children. Is it really worth it? Does child support compromise your co-parenting setup? And would a co-parenting relationship without child support be less contentious and happier for your children? ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/72e48ca3-fbd7-4d35-9934-389fe7b1618b-1067x800.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Child support can prevent you from furthering your career** If you have an income source from another person, you might decide not to work or to further your career. As a mum, this is completely understandable. We all want as much quality time as possible with our children, especially when they are young. However, if you’re in a position to get back to work, even part-time, then do it! Working will not only provide an income but it gives you a sense of value and can even improve your social life. Maybe you could consider a job during [school hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/), utilise after-school clubs, and work while your kids are with dad, but don’t sit back and let your career nose-dive. Having a year or two off work can challenge your career, having ten years off work could completely ruin it. ## **It could make for a bleak future** Think of the future. Your kids may be little now and think you are the best thing on earth, wanting to be with you 24/7. That doesn’t last forever. There will come a time when your children are off doing their own thing and you no longer receive child support payments. Then what? The leap to get back on the career ladder may be a big one. ![child support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/2c3095df-d832-48b0-9f4f-4c2733c3f577-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **It can come back and bite you in the arse** Remember, child support works both ways. It could be that you are receiving child support payments which allow you to head back to college and [retrain for your dream career](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/chosen-career-dream-job/). But once you are back on the career ladder you might start earning more than your ex, meaning you pay him. If you take child support off the table, you are both free to earn what you wish and keep all your money. ## **It could bring down the economy?** Dramatic maybe, but think of it this way … Your ex has a good job, and he gets offered a promotion. Instead of accepting and reaching for the champagne, he declines it because if he earns more, he has to pay more child support. At the same time, you get offered a great job, something you would love to do. But the champagne stays in the fridge because if you start earning (or earn more) it will decrease your child support payments. So, we have two capable people who could potentially make positive contributions to the workforce but they don’t because they are disincentivized by the terrors of child support. Not good for the economy, and not good for you either. ## **Reasons why child support shouldn’t be the first stop in a break-up (cont.)** ## **Child support can be a waste of time and energy** Child support is not straightforward. It involves care arrangements and estimated earnings, all of which can be ever-changing. How long have you spent tapping figures into the online calculator? Or have you waited on hold to talk to a member of staff from [Child Support](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/contact-child-support?context=64107 "Child Support")? It’s a waste of time and energy that you could put into something way more positive, like looking for work, setting up a business or sticking pins in your eyes … anything is better than manifesting negative energy on child support. ## **It can stop you from reaching true independence** Depending on your situation, child support might be a necessity. And it is the support that you are entitled to. But wouldn’t it be wonderful to get a place where you didn’t need to rely on your ex (or anyone) for anything? By aiming for this, you will become stronger and more independent. You will discover hidden strengths that help you reach your goals and thrive as a single mum. Knowing you did it without child support will make the success all the sweeter and yourself so much prouder. ![8 Reasons why receiving child support might not be right for you | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Child-support-not-right.png "Child support not right - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/why-child-support-might-not-be-right-for-you/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/why-child-support-might-not-be-right-for-you/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** child support, family breakup, career, coparenting --- ### [Clever resume hacks to get the job you want](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/resume-hacks/) **Published:** January 30, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you struggling to get past the resume stage when applying for new jobs? If so, you might need some clever resume hacks to ensure your first impression packs a punch. With the average corporate job receiving around 250 applications ([Zippia](https://www.zippia.com/advice/how-many-applications-does-it-take-to-get-a-job/)) the competition is furiously high. This means that unless your resume is top-notch, potential employees will be slamming the door in your face before you’ve had a chance to prove your awesomeness during an interview. I’ve been on both sides of the fence when it comes to resumes. I’ve worked in an HR department with resumes crossing my desk daily, and I’ve used heaps of different resume styles to get myself into that interview chair. I know what works and what doesn’t. Here are my clever resume hacks to help you get the job you want. ***Further reading: [12+ Jobs you can actually fit into work hours.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/)*** ## Clever resume hacks to get the job you want ### Use a photo Including a photo on your resume is a simple yet effective hack that can help you stand out from other applicants. A professional headshot can make a big difference. It makes you seem more approachable and personable, and it can help the hiring manager remember you better. When choosing a photo, make sure it is recent, high-quality, and professionally taken. Avoid using selfies or casual photos as they may not give off the professional image you’re trying to convey. ### Use Canva (for free) [Canva](https://partner.canva.com/EarqJP) is a powerful graphic design tool that can assist you in creating a visually stunning resume without the use of costly design software. It gives you the option of selecting from a variety of templates and customising them with your own text and images. You can also include charts, diagrams, and other visual elements to showcase your skills and qualifications. I have found that when I use Canva to design my resume; it looks more polished and professional, which gives me an edge over other applicants. ### Tailor it to the job you are applying for Tailoring your resume to the specific job you’re applying for is one of the most important things you can do when applying for a job. This means highlighting the skills and experiences that are most relevant to the job and leaving out anything that isn’t. When tailoring your resume, be sure to use the same language and terminology as the job posting, and use keywords that apply to the job. The first time I did this I was successful in securing an interview as it helped me distinguish myself from other applicants. Now, I do it whenever I am applying for work. ### Include a cover letter A cover letter is a great way to introduce yourself and explain why you are the best fit for the job. It’s also an excellent opportunity to showcase your writing skills and personality. In your cover letter, be sure to mention specific skills and experiences that make you the best candidate for the job, and explain how you can contribute to the company’s goals. I always include a cover letter with my resume and it has helped me get interviews for jobs I may have otherwise not been considered for. ### Make it eye-catching Your resume must stand out among the hundreds of others that the hiring manager will review. One way to do this is by using a unique design or layout. You can choose a template that differs from the traditional resume format, or use colours, images, and other design elements to make it more eye-catching. Try to use action verbs and quantifiable achievements to make your resume more impactful. Instead of saying: > *“Managed a team of 15 people,”* I’ll say: > *“Managed a team of 15 people, resulting in a 25% increase in productivity.”* ### Use video resume Video resumes are a new and innovative way to showcase your skills and personality. Instead of a traditional written resume, you can create a short video of yourself explaining why you are the best candidate for the job. This can help you stand out and show off your communication skills. When creating your video resume, keep it brief and to the point, and dress and act professionally. ### Use social media In today’s digital age, social media is a powerful tool that you can use to your advantage when job hunting. You can use LinkedIn to showcase your professional experience and connect with potential employers. Twitter and Instagram can also be used to promote your personal brand and interests. When using social media to job hunt, be sure to keep your profiles professional and avoid posting anything controversial or inappropriate. Connect with professionals in your industry and take part in relevant groups and discussions. This can help you expand your network and increase your visibility among potential employers. ### Use the resume summary The resume summary, also known as a professional summary, is a powerful tool that can help you highlight your most important skills and experiences. It’s usually a brief statement at the top of your resume that summarises your qualifications and highlights your major accomplishments. When writing your resume summary, be sure to use strong action verbs and quantifiable achievements to make it more impactful. ### Use storytelling Storytelling is a powerful technique that can help you stand out from the crowd. Use it to tell a story about a specific accomplishment or experience that showcases your skills and qualifications. A hiring manager once told me this made her get a strong impression of me and therefore differentiate my resume from other candidates. Use specific details and anecdotes in your resume storytelling to make it more engaging and relatable. ### Use keywords Keywords are an important part of any resume because they assist employers and applicant tracking systems in finding your resume when they are looking for candidates. Include keywords such as job titles, skills, and industry terms throughout your resume. Use the same language and terminology as the job posting when using keywords, and use keywords that are relevant to the job. ### Use online courses and certifications Online courses and certifications can be an excellent way to demonstrate your knowledge and qualifications. Use them to demonstrate your dedication to learning and professional development. When listing online courses and certifications on your resume, include the course title, the institution that provided it, and the date you completed it. Include any relevant skills or knowledge you gained from the course. ### Utilise infographics Infographics are an excellent way to present information in a visually appealing and easy-to-understand format. Use them to highlight your qualifications and skills, or to tell a story about a specific accomplishment. This can help you make a good impression on the hiring manager and set yourself apart from the competition. When creating an infographic for your resume, use clear and simple designs, as well as images and charts to convey information in an understandable manner. ## Final words: Clever resume hacks to get the job you want Overall, by using these clever resume hacks, you can ensure that your resume stands out from the crowd and gets you the job you want. Remember to be unique and professional, to present your skills and qualifications in a visually appealing and easy-to-digest format, and to tailor your resume to the job you are applying for. Good luck! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/resume-hacks/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/resume-hacks/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** job, work, cv, resume, interview, hr --- ### [Thinking of becoming a teachers aide? Here's what you need to know.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/teachers-aid/) **Published:** October 12, 2023 **Author:** Yvette Salvaris **Content:** So you want to become a teachers aide, but have no idea what to do or what the job entails. This article is for you. Before we look at the steps involved in becoming a teachers aide, lets look at what its like to actually work as one. After all you want to be sure it’s the right career for you! As a single parent the thought of pursuing a meaningful career can be confronting and a real challenge. You have to be able to find a suitable job that you can juggle around your responsibilities. However, there is a potential career choice that is right in front of you … becoming a teachers aide. A role that has family friendly hours and flexibility, but also is incredibly rewarding while making a positive impact on the lives of children. ## Why to become a teachers aide You may have seen two teachers in your child’s classroom. Chances are one of them is a teachers aide and they play a vital role in supporting children and the lead educator. The role of a teachers aide is varied and you may find yourself doing many different things. These include but are not limited to: - Preparing teaching materials - Providing support to students in small groups or one to one - Helping the lead educator with classroom management - Supervising students both in class and out in the playground ## Flexible Hours As a single parent, it can be incredibly hard to find that [sweet spot of work/life balance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/balance-single-mum-life/). Most jobs these days require you to work before and after school. However working as a teachers aide you would be [working during school hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/). This means you will be available for school drop off and pick up. A perfect way to still be a awesome parent while pursuing a meaningful career. ## Use your skills Parenting is a skill within its self. These skills that you use every day, can be incredibly valuable in a classroom setting. As a parent you are always multi tasking and juggling many things at once. This skill is something that translates well into a classroom setting. As a teachers aide you are always juggling children’s needs. Every child that you work with is different and as such so are their needs. Being a parent you naturally have patience and empathy. You are able to see things in a different light. These soft skills are incredibly valuable in the classroom. As a parent you understand that children can be challenging and as such adapt to their needs. ## Making a meaningful impact in the lives of children The role of a teachers aide is a special one. As a teachers aide, you become a guiding light for those students who need the most support. Your involvement in shaping the educational experiences for children can help to create a positive learning environment and thus making the child feel valued and supported. The most amazing thing is when you witness the positive effect of your support on the child, you start to see a real difference in their life in the classroom. ## A sense of community Being a part of a school community as a staff member can be very different then as a parent. As a staff member you are part of a team of educators who are all aiming for the same goal. Being a teachers aide can bring you closer together with your fellow teachers as you all share your experiences and support each other, which can be a stepping stone to other [teaching careers](https://www.tsv.catholic.edu.au/careers/ "teaching careers"). When people come together with a common goal and support each other, this can further strengthen the well being of the students. If this all sounds like you then these are the steps you need to take to become a teachers aide. ## How to become a teachers aide ## Step 1: Train Enrol in an approved nationally recognised qualification. I recommend the [Certificate 4 in School Based Education Support.](https://training.gov.au/Training/Details/CHC40221) This course will equip you with the necessary skills. ## Step 2: Build relationships What does this mean for you? While you are on your teachers aide placement, it’s the ideal time to build a relationship with the school. Try your best to get involved in the community. If you already have an existing relationship with a school due to your children, use this to your advantage. ## Step 3: Get experience While you are studying to become a teachers aide, use this time to do some sort of work that is related to your course. Think: Disability support work with children or working in outside school hours care. You will be amazed how this experience can help your career in the long term. ## Step 4: Apply for work Put in the applications, and make sure you follow all the instructions if there is a key selection criteria. ## Final words: Becoming a teachers aide Becoming a teacher’s aide is a great career for single parents. It’s a career that aligns with parenting responsibilities and offers personal fulfilment. There are flexible schedules, work is meaningful, and you have the opportunity to make community connections. Your role as a teacher’s aide goes beyond the classroom – it contributes to shaping the future, one child at a time. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/teachers-aid/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/teachers-aid/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** school hours, teaching --- ### [The best things in life are free ... or are they?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-best-things-in-life-are-free-or-are-they/) **Published:** March 14, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the most talked-about realities when becoming a parent is the importance of budgeting. This rings even truer when you’re a single mum trying to juggle parenthood, a full-time job and the remote possibility of a social life. But it’s also good to remember the importance of finding time to pamper yourself. While it’s undoubtedly acceptable to splurge and spoil yourself on your favourite treat every once in a while, your wallet might not be so forgiving. That’s why we’ve come up with a list of fun activities that won’t break the bank yet will still give you a sense of relaxation you so deserve. ## 1. Playing Free Pokies – the activity’s name sells itself because … It’s hard to think of anything better than winning big money playing games. Well, how about if we told you that it is possible to try your luck on pokies without spending a penny? In recent years, online gambling has become incredibly popular, with more and more internet casinos popping up. Operating in such a saturated market isn’t easy for any business, and as a result, many of these gambling portals offer potential customers enticing offers to try their games. So, why not give [Australian online pokies](https://www.speedau2.com/en-au/ "Australian online pokies") a go and see if you get lucky? ![Online fun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Picture-1.png "Picture 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Get Stuck Into A Book There is no greater form of escapism than reading. So pick your poison, whether that is fantasy, romance or sci-fi, and discover an alternate reality for a couple of hours. Who knows, you might educate yourself by learning something new while you are at it. What’s more, books are known to be a great conversation starter and joining [a book club](https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/4d2tfP38MXzZ8bgM7KZ4Wyb/novel-connections-how-to-set-up-your-own-online-book-group), be it online or in real life, is another brilliant way to meet people. ![Read a book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Picture-1.jpg "Picture 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Get Outdoors and Enjoy Some Fresh Air After having lived through many lockdowns over the last couple of years, people have truly begun to understand the importance of getting outdoors for their daily dose of fresh air. Not only is being outside brilliant for your mental health, but it also provides an excellent excuse to get your body moving. Getting outdoors doesn’t necessarily mean you need to pack a tent and head into the wilderness; something as simple as taking a jog around your local park or taking the dog for a walk should do the trick. ![Fresh air](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Picture-2.jpg "Picture 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Get Crafty Crafting is a great way to tap into your creative side without spending a fortune. Whether you decide to take up knitting, complete a paint-by-numbers or get stuck into that DIY project you keep putting off. If you are lucky, you might have all the materials you have at hand. Crafting doesn’t cost the earth but provides a lovely therapeutic outlet. Who knows, you might even create something you are proud to display in your home at the end of it all. ![Get crafty](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Crafts.jpg "Crafts - Beanstalk Mums") ## 5. Whip Up Something Delicious In The Kitchen Perhaps you don’t have the cash to splash on a fancy fine dining restaurant, but that doesn’t mean you can’t create something truly delicious at home. Not much of a cook? Well, there is no better time to get started. Begin by whipping up something easy, such as a loaf of banana bread or a classic omelette, and before you know it, you’ll be impressing your guests with homemade asparagus tarts or a creme brûlée. Dig out old family recipes or peruse the internet for inspiration. [Cooking](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/6-tips-when-cooking-for-one/) is a life skill, so stop treating it like a chore. Get creative and start making mealtimes fun. ![Do some cooking](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Cooking.jpg "Cooking - Beanstalk Mums") ## 6. Volunteer If you want to do something meaningful with your time rather than just having fun, why not consider volunteering for a local organisation that advocates for a cause that is close to your heart? If you have language skills, consider working with refugees or volunteering to read to children at a local school or orphanage. If animals are more your thing, look for opportunities to volunteer at a local animal shelter. It’s as simple as picking a cause you care about and offering up your skills. Chances are you won’t just find the activity highly rewarding, but you are bound to meet like-minded people while you are at it. ![Volunteer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Volunteer.jpg "Volunteer - Beanstalk Mums") ## 7. Organise A Games Night Tired of watching your family lounging in front of the TV or scrolling through their phones? Do something more interactive by organising a games night. Dig out old board games, puzzles or a deck of cards and have an evening of old-fashioned, device-free fun. If sports are more your vibe, get out into the backyard for a soccer or basketball game. Whatever you choose, be sure to get the whole family involved and have fun! In short, there is a lot you can do with little or no money. Be creative, think outside the box and make use of the things you’ve already got gathering dust in your home. Whether you revisit an old hobby or explore new activities, the world is your oyster, so be sure to use your time wisely. ![Games night](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Games-night.jpg "Games night - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-best-things-in-life-are-free-or-are-they/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-best-things-in-life-are-free-or-are-they/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [The Valentine’s Day survival guide for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/the-valentines-day-survival-guide-for-single-mothers/) **Published:** February 12, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Valentine’s Day: a wondrously commercialised day aimed to fill hearts, boost egos, empty wallets and cause the singles amongst us to drown our sorrows in an ocean of pity, chocolate and wine. Up until a couple of years ago, this was certainly how I viewed Valentine’s Day. I saw it as a stupid, exclusive celebration that further highlighted how single I was, especially when I first became a single mother — the kind of day that made you wish you’d had your own Valentine’s Day survival guide. But with time and patience, my perception has changed dramatically … for the better. I’ve learned to embrace the day and focus on the loved ones already in my life, instead of looking outward for someone to love me. So, with a cup-half-full attitude, here is my Valentine’s Day survival guide for single mothers. ## The Valentine’s Day survival guide for single mothers “Survival” seems like a strong word to describe a day, considering us single mothers, we are already survivors. Some of us walked away from very difficult situations, coped with rejection, and had to start again from rock bottom. So, instead of approaching Valentine’s Day as a survival exercise, let’s challenge ourselves to fall in love with this day and all it has to offer. ## Valentine’s Day: A Little History Lesson I know a lot of us are beyond our schooling years, but the teacher nerd in me did a little research and discovered some pretty cool history. > *“During the peak of the Roman empire, Claudius ruled that young men could not marry as he felt they were better fighters during war than their married counterparts. Saint Valentine was not cool with this law and continued to marry-off young couples against Claudius’ wishes (what a rebel). Claudius then got a little egotistical and ordered his execution. While awaiting his fate, Valentine fell in love with the jail warden’s daughter. Before his execution, Valentine wrote a letter to her which he signed off ‘from your Valentine’ (a hopeless romantic – what a guy!).”* From there, the “celebration of romance” came about because February 14th aligned with the day that birds started their mating season. Finally, skip forward to today, when it’s become the cultural norm to be all commercial and objective. If you’re keen to learn more, head to this [website](http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day/history-of-valentines-day). ![Valentine’s Day survival guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Valentines-gifts-get-yourself.jpg "Valentines gifts get yourself - Beanstalk Mums") ## It comes down to love In essence, the central theme of Valentine’s Day is ‘love’. Love has so many misconceptions, which in turn makes us single mothers loathe the day when it rolls over. I feel that if we change our perception of what love is, our outlook on Valentine’s Day will change for the better. Years ago, I read this powerful piece of writing, which challenged how I viewed love forever: > *“Love is a verb. Love is not just a feeling; it is an action. Love is a choice. Understanding this concept will change your life and determine your ability to find happiness in any situation. Love never ends.”* Every moment of every day, we are provided with a series of choices. Do we choose to love unconditionally and ultimately find happiness, or do we work against the grain, get caught up in the commercial nature of love and ultimately be miserable? Being a single parent is the greatest exercise in love that we can ever engage in because we not only have to love ourselves first, but through those actions, teach our children how to practice and experience love. ***Further reading: [Valentine’s gifts for mums to get themselves.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-gifts-get-yourself/)*** ## Take Positive Ownership of Valentine’s Day Here’s a thought … > *“Why can’t Valentine’s Day be a day to remind us about the power of love rather than a day to be loathed and feared?”* Use this day as an opportunity to teach and practice love and kindness to your children. Do something that makes everyone happy, and don’t forget to take care of yourself, too! ## My two key takeaways Here are two key takeaways from my Valentine’s Day survival guide for single mothers: ### Make it about connection Take time to acknowledge how important your children are to you. Reflect on their achievements, highlight the things that you love about them, and remember to LISTEN to why they love you! Go on a child date with your child/ren. Do something nice that works within your time restraints and budget. Maybe a BBQ/ picnic in the park or a special movie night in the house (create a little movie setting with food and sheets). ### Reach out to others Remember, love, being an action? Do something that helps someone in the community beyond your family. Go to the discount store and buy some small gifts to give to the elderly at nursing homes, or get your children to make some Valentine’s gifts for them. Whatever it may be, encourage them to understand the importance of not only loving their own family but also loving others. ## To conclude my Valentine’s Day survival guide for single mothers I hope that you now view Valentine’s Day a little differently than before. Like many things in life, it helps to think outside the box. Of course, there is always the option to ignore Valentine’s Day altogether, but it is unlikely that your kids will let you, especially younger kids. And why ignore something which is pink and pretty and all about love? Perhaps you may start to look forward to the day. Even relish the opportunity to spread a little love and positivity to those who are lucky enough to have you in their lives. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/the-valentines-day-survival-guide-for-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/the-valentines-day-survival-guide-for-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day **Tags:** self love, being single, Valentine's Day, love --- ### [Things to do with your kids on Valentine's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/kids-on-valentines-day/) **Published:** February 12, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Valentine’s Day is meant to be all about love… and let’s be honest, no one loves quite as fiercely (or as loudly) as our little humans. I adore my children more than chocolate, sleep-ins, or a quiet cup of tea — so of course, spending the 14th of February with them feels just right. But once you’ve made that decision, the big question pops up… what on earth do you actually do with kids on Valentine’s Day? My girls are older now, and we are like ships in the night with one working and one in senior school, so it’s great to have an excuse to spend time together doing something we all enjoy. When they were younger, Valentine’s Day was an excuse to do special things together with a focus on hearts, cuddles, kisses and love. Below, I have listed what we used to do in the past as well as the things we do now. Whatever age your kids are, put aside some time on Valentine’s Day to celebrate your love for one another. ## 20 Things to do with your kids this Valentine’s Day ## 1. Make up a dance It’s always good to get active with our kids, and making up dances is so much fun. We laugh till we cry every time. Use a dance app (your kids will know what I’m talking about) that teaches the moves, records you, and then adds music and special effects. Keep with the Valentine’s theme by choosing a love song you all know and like. ## 2. Kindness project I haven’t tried doing this with my kids on Valentine’s Day, but we’re kicking it off this year. Here’s the plan – on the night of the 13th, we’ll cut different-sized hearts from coloured paper. Then we’ll write positive messages and compliments on them. They don’t need to be long quotes; a simple “You’re special” or “You’re doing great” will do. Then, on Valentine’s Day, we’ll go spread some love via our own special kindness project. Whether it’s neighbours, friends or family, leaving a small note sharing love is a mood booster for anyone, especially those who don’t have anyone to celebrate this day of lurve with. ## 3. Adopt an animal to love When was the last time you went to the zoo? Use this Valentine’s Day to share some love with the animals. Some zoos allow you to get up close with cuddly creatures. What could be more app than cuddling a koala on Valentine’s Day? You might even be able to adopt an animal, which means you can keep on loving well after the zoo visit. ## 4. Have a chocolate fountain We love our bright pink chocolate fountain. It isn’t Valentine’s Day unless we dust it off and use it. There is something about decadent chocolate that matches perfectly with a day focused on love. Don’t worry if you don’t have a chocolate fountain, make hot chocolate and dip pieces of chocolate so they go all gooey and delicious. ## 5. Create a family love tree If you have excess pieces of paper hearts from the Kindness project, you can use those for a family love tree. Write down messages for each other and hang or paste them on the tree. This has been our tradition for years; we would cut out a tree trunk from coloured paper, and the heart-shaped messages served as leaves. The finished product looks incredible! It makes my heart full to see my daughters write thoughtful messages for each other and for me. If you want to do this with your kids on Valentine’s Day, you can also use a real tree branch from your backyard and place it in a pot. Then you can fasten a piece of thread through each note and hang them along the branch. ## 6. Sunrise or sunset It doesn’t matter which! Both sunrise and sunset are beautiful times of the day that symbolise love, life and beauty. Snuggle up and watch the sun do its performance while you talk about what and who you love most in the world and why. ## 7. Valentine’s Day science experiments If you want to go all nerdy with your kids on Valentine’s Day, this will do the trick! Now, this one can be a bit messy, but the post-clean-up can also be a bonding sesh with your little ones! Search for simple but fun science experiments online and add a Valentine’s Day twist. For instance, you can do a colour-changing milk experiment and use shades of red. Be sure to do age-appropriate activities, though. They might lose interest if the tasks are too difficult. ## 8. Breakfast in bed Breakfast in bed makes the perfect start to the day. For years, my girls loved preparing brekkie in bed for me. It was a bit hit and miss, I can tell you. The most memorable year was when they put baby beetroot in the fruit salad instead of grapes. Now, though, my teens and I snuggle up with a pot of coffee and toast. It is much easier, and you know what you’re putting in your mouth! ## 9. Pick wildflowers It all sounds a bit Anne With An E, but we love picking wildflowers, and it’s a perfect thing to do with your kids this Valentine’s Day. You can walk down a road and not notice one flower until you look for it. For better pickings (excuse the pun), head to a leafy area such as a park or woodlands. ## 10. Cooking and baking How about spending a few happy hours in the kitchen with your kids on Valentine’s Day? Make sure you stick to Theme Love and incorporate lots of hearts, pretty pinks and yumminess into your cooking. If you time it right, you can eat what you make for dinner, which means one less meal to make. Winner. ***Get ideas and easy recipes here:*** [***10 Valentine’s Day treats to make with the kids.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/valentines-day-treats-kids/) ## 11. Walk up a mountain There is something about walking up a mountain that is really wonderful compared to a flat walk. It’s the climb that gets the adrenaline pumping, the achievement of reaching the top, and then the reward of spectacular views. This is a super healthy Valentine’s pursuit if you have active kids, and a local mountain walk they will do without too many moans and groans. Don’t forget to give them a big, fat cuddle and tell them you love them when you reach the top. ## 12. High tea with kids on Valentine’s Day High tea is a very elegant and romantic affair. Those delicate sandwiches and the cute little cakes. If you want to go out for high tea, book early as lots of people might have the same idea for Valentine’s Day. Or you can make your own at home, as we do. Head to your local op shop for a cheap tea stand and old-fashioned tea cups. Then add sandwiches with the crust cut off and some shop-bought cakes, and you’re ready to go. Pinkies out, everyone. ![kids on Valentine's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/In-article-images-2.jpg "High Tea kids on Valentine's Day - Beanstalk Mums") ## 13. Virtual Valentine’s Day party This activity is perfect if you have loved ones and friends from far away – organise a virtual party with them! When creating the programme, you can include a dancing or singing competition that the whole family can participate in. Prepare a prize for the winning team to keep everyone motivated. And don’t forget the online games for the kids! ## 14. Valentine’s craft Valentine’s is an ideal time to get crafty with your kids. Suggestions from me include decorations for your house, homemade jewellery, or Valentine’s cards for secret loves. I still have art we made on Valentine’s Day years ago; it makes my heart melt. ## 15. Create a family love playlist The airwaves will be filled with romantic love songs on this day, so we create a playlist customised just for us. This is one way to let my kids know that Valentine’s Day is not only for couples but also for families and loved ones in general. Take turns suggesting songs to add to the playlist and make sure to stick to the theme of “family love.” If you can’t think of any, here are two of our favourites: “Mama” by the Spice Girls and “Ode to Family” by The Cranberries. ## 16. Make mocktails You can’t beat a mocktail to celebrate a special occasion. As someone who has been proudly sober for two years, I am the master of this alcohol-free decorative drink. You’ll find lots of ideas for mocktails online, but add your own twist for Valentine’s. Think fizzing sherbert, fairy floss, strawberries and love heart lollies. ## 17. Loved-up movies Life is hectic, so I jump at any opportunity for a movie marathon with my kids. It’s a great way to get your cuddle quota on Valentine’s Day. Here are my suggestions for great kids’ movies with a love/Valentine’s theme: - Gnomeo and Juliet - Enchanted - The Lady and the Tramp - Shrek - Up - See [here](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/valentines-day-ideas/g35067977/best-valentines-day-movies-for-kids/) for suggestions from others Round it off with a big box of chocolates to share. It’s Lindt Lindor all the way for us but get whatever takes your fancy … it is Valentine’s Day after all. ## 18. A spa session Nails for the girls and a massage for the boys? You can’t beat a bit of pampering on Valentine’s Day. Treat yourself to an in-store service or, if money is tight, [pamper yourself at home for almost nothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pamper-home-cheap/). My girls and I went through a phase of doing face packs. Just trying not to laugh while they are on is enough to make you cry with laughter. My nephew loves them too, so don’t leave the boys out. ## 19. Love letter treasure hunt This is one of my favourite things to do with my kids on Valentine’s Day. Why, you say? Because I get to write down and show them how much I love them. Each year, I would compose several love letters (each one contains clues that lead to the next) and hide them around the house and the yard. Then, they get a special treat (a chocolate bar or their fave snack) after finding all the hidden notes. ## 20. Go through old photos Spend a few lazy hours on Valentine’s Day going through old photos with your kids. They love seeing pics of themselves from when they were little. Tell them all about times gone by, focusing on how loved they have always been. We thoroughly enjoy going through our old albums, and my girls love me re-telling the same stories. There is something very nostalgic and love-filled about reminiscing on times gone by. ## Summary: Things to do with your kids this Valentine’s Day This annual celebration of love need not be confined to romantic relationships. We can redefine Valentine’s Day to show our children that it’s not just about romantic love but also about the love we share as a family. For years, my girls and I have had a blast creating our own Valentine’s Day cards, whipping up sugary delights in the kitchen, and snuggling up for cozy movie marathons. I know I won’t be their date forever. Someday, my girls will be in a relationship, and they will want to spend this special day with their romantic partner. That is inevitable, and I’m completely fine with it … really, I am (cue: holding back the tears). But now, while I’m still the sole apple of their eye, I will make the most of this day. If they get tired of the activities I listed above (or get too grown-up for them), I’ll come up with fresher and more exciting things to do with my kids on Valentine’s Day. You too can try ditching the traditional romantic notions in favour of crafting, treasure hunts, and doing messy experiments. They require a lot of energy, but they are very fulfilling. And I assure you, they’re more fun than having a candlelight dinner at a fancy restaurant. (\*wink) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/kids-on-valentines-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/kids-on-valentines-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day **Tags:** love, valentine --- ### [Savvy Back To School Budget Ways To Save Big](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/savvy-back-to-school-budget-ways-to-save-big/) **Published:** February 2, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Back-to-school season can feel like a financial sprint before the year even begins — uniforms to replace, shoes that don’t fit anymore, and stationery lists that never seem to shrink. When school starts, the costs can add up quickly, especially for single mums trying to juggle work, parenting, transport, and a stretched bank balance. But our back to school budget hacks are here to help you navigate the season without hiding from the numbers. ## Back to School Budget Hacks for School Supplies School supplies are often where budgets quietly blow out, but they’re also one of the easiest places to find ways to save. From stationery and tech accessories to backpacks and folders. These back to school budget hacks focus on keeping school costs manageable while ensuring kids get what they need to feel prepared and confident. - **Compare prices online before buying:** Before you head out shopping, take time to check prices across retailers, online marketplaces, and even your local store. A quick finder search can uncover great deals, especially on bulk stationery and tech-related supply items. - **Use coupons, store apps, and loyalty programs:** Many Aussie retailers offer app-based discount codes, cashback, or loyalty savings to help you save on the cost of living. Stacking these is a savvy way to save money without sacrificing quality — one small tip that really does count. - **Buy in bulk for shared items to help manage the cost of living.** Pencils, notebooks, glue sticks, rulers, and even markers are ideal for bulk buying. If you can share packs with another family or school group, you’ll reduce the per-item cost and avoid mid-term expense surprises. - **Consider second-hand or gently used items for primary school to help reduce expenses.** Pre-loved and second-hand school supplies — like calculators or pencil cases — are often barely used. Check local thrift stores, community swap events, or Facebook groups to stock up in a budget-friendly and sustainable way. One of my favourite ways to take the ‘hunt’ out of price-matching is using a tool like [Coupert](https://coupertlimitedus.sjv.io/xL0vy1). It’s a free browser extension and app that automatically finds and applies the best discount codes while you shop online—which is a total lifesaver when you’re trying to tick off a long stationery list after work. What I genuinely love about them (and why we’ve teamed up) is their ‘Max-Saving Guarantee’ and the fact that their cashback payouts are some of the fastest I’ve seen, usually hitting your account in about 3 to 15 days. For us, that quick turnaround makes a real difference when we’re trying to stretch this week’s budget into next week’s grocery run. ## Ways to Save Money on Clothing and Uniforms for Back to School School clothes, shoes, and uniforms can take a serious bite out of any budget, especially when kids get taller faster than expected. These back to school budget hacks help you tackle uniform and shoe costs without panic shopping or unnecessary purchase regret. - **Shop end-of-season sales or clearance racks:** Buying uniforms and basics after Christmas or during seasonal clearance periods often means paying far less than you would in peak back-to-school months. - **Mix and match existing wardrobe pieces:** Before buying anything brand-new, check what still fits. You may be able to refurbish outfits by pairing last year’s items differently — a simple way to reduce spending. - **Buy quality basics that last longer:** A durable uniform, sturdy shoe, or good-quality jumper may cost more upfront, but is often cheaper long-term. These items survive washing, playground wear, and everyday routine. - **Explore second-hand stores or community swaps:** Local swap days, school-based group chats, and online marketplace listings are goldmines for uniform items. Many families happily share or sell pieces kids have outgrown. ## Using Subsidies to Lower Back to School Costs Support programs do exist to help families manage school costs. However, they’re often underused simply because no one talks about them enough. These back to school budget tips focus on making sure you access every form of assistance you are entitled to. - **Check eligibility for school supply vouchers for primary school students.** Many states in Australia offer vouchers covering school supplies, uniforms, and shoe purchases to help alleviate the cost of living for families. A quick eligibility check could deliver instant savings. - **Explore programs for uniforms, meals, and extracurriculars:** Subsidies may also apply to lunch, activity fees, school camp, excursion, or extracurricular activities. These programs ensure kids get equal access without extra expense. - **Ask school administration about available support:** Schools often know about grants, transport assistance, or local community funds. Asking for help is a smart, practical move, not a weakness. It’s not too late to find out and apply for the subsidies your family is entitled to. Even if you missed the school start deadline, read more here: [***The After School Child Care Subsidy (CCS) Made Simple.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-after-school-child-care-subsidy-ccs-made-simple/) And if you want to feel more confident with money day-to-day, you’re not alone. Understanding budgeting and money management can make a huge difference. For guidance tailored to parents, check local resources offering workshops and tools for financial planning, such as ***[Capabilite for Financial Literacy.](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2)*** ![Back To School Budget meal prep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/In-article-images-2026-02-02t113718%20357.jpg "Savvy Back To School Budget Ways To Save Big - Beanstalk Mums") ## Meal Planning on a Budget for School Days Daily meals are one of those back-to-school expenses that sneak up fast. Our budget hack strategies make lunch prep simpler, more budget-friendly, and far less stressful. - **Plan weekly menus and shopping lists:** Planning ahead helps you organise, avoid impulse shopping, and keep food spending productive. - **Batch cook and freeze lunches:** Batch cooking reduces time pressure and grocery expense. Freezer-ready meals are a lifesaver during chaotic mornings. - **Buy seasonal fruits and vegetables for affordability:** Choosing seasonal produce keeps meals nutritious and more affordable. - **Involve children in planning simple meals:** When kids help plan, they’re more likely to eat what’s packed, reducing waste and morning stress. ## Practical Tips That Actually Reduce Back-to-School Expenses Saving money doesn’t mean stripping away joy. Back to school budget planning could also be fun, creative, and genuinely effective. Proof that you can embrace simplicity without feeling deprived. - **DIY lunch boxes and accessories can be a fun way to save money with a little planning.** Customise plain items using stickers or a **marker** to make them feel new. Kids get excited, and you avoid replacing perfectly good gear. - **Swap books and uniforms with friends or community groups:** School swaps, Facebook groups, and local parent group chats help families share resources and uncover great deals. - **Set a spending limit per child and stick to it:** Clear limits reduce impulse buying and teach kids that budgets matter. - **Reuse arts and craft materials:** Before buying new, check what you already have in stock; half-used supplies often hide in cupboards. ## How to Stretch Your Back to School Budget Effectively We know the feeling — you sit down with the numbers, take a deep breath, and wonder how it all adds up so fast. Stretching your budget isn’t about doing everything “right,” it’s about making thoughtful choices that work for your family. These back-to-school budgeting strategies are here to help you stay steady, capable, and in control. - **Combine discounts, cashback, and loyalty programs:** Layering offers across one retailer or platform can significantly reduce your total spend. - **Plan purchases over several weeks to avoid overspending:** Spreading out purchases helps spread the cost and avoids last-minute surprise expenses. - **Focus on experiences and learning rather than expensive items:** Kids get more from feeling supported than from flashy extras. Routine, learning, and connection matter more than brand names. ## Wrapping It All Up (Without Wrapping Your Wallet in Stress) Back-to-school doesn’t need to feel like a stressful financial ambush. With a few small, thoughtful adjustments, you can seriously reduce both expenses. As well as the overwhelm while facing the challenges of the cost of living. Whether it’s uniforms, supplies, or transport plans like a carpool. Or planning for a school camp or excursion, every mindful step counts. Our back to school budget hacks prove that smart planning, a dash of creativity, and trusting your instincts go a long way (no cape required). Start applying these hacks now and watch your school-year expenses shrink. You deserve a confident, capable, and genuinely stress-free back-to-school season. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/savvy-back-to-school-budget-ways-to-save-big/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/savvy-back-to-school-budget-ways-to-save-big/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Back To School --- ### [Single Parenting Payment Rates: Services Australia Update Explained](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/) **Published:** February 11, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** If you’re raising kids on your own, money worries can sit quietly in the background—or hit loud and fast—especially at the start of a new year. Between rent, groceries, school costs, and trying to stay afloat emotionally, understanding single parenting payment rates can make a real difference to your sense of control. When you’re single and managing everything solo, knowing what you’re entitled to and how updates may affect you helps reduce stress and supports smarter planning. Take a moment to note your current single parenting payments and any upcoming changes, so you can move forward feeling informed rather than overwhelmed. ## Understanding Single Parenting Payments A parenting payment is a government support designed to help sole parents in Australia manage the cost of raising children on one income. These payments are administered through Services Australia (Centrelink) and are income- and asset-tested, meaning your personal circumstances matter. For many single mums, especially those without a partner contributing financially, it provides vital stability during seasons of transition. At their core, parenting payments are designed to: - Help cover everyday living expenses and child-related costs, such as housing, food, school needs, and utilities - Provide government-supported income assistance, administered through Services Australia as a key social support service - Support parents transitioning back into work or study, including access to payment while you’re a young parent, rebuilding financial independence These payments exist to support you if you’re ayoung child’s main carer, or if you’re a young child’s main source of financial and emotional support. Understanding how the system works helps you make informed decisions without guilt or confusion. If you are still unsure what you are entitled to, check out **[“What benefits am I entitled to as a single mum?”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/government-benefits-for-single-mums/)** or **[“$5000 Payment: Domestic and Family Violence Support in Australia”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/domestic-violence-payment-australia/)** ## Recent Changes to Single Parenting Payment Rates Here’s the part that can save you a lot of confusion: parenting payment rates don’t usually change in January. Services Australia updates rates on 20 March and 20 September each year, so your *single parenting payment rates* are more likely to shift at those indexation points. That said, January can still bring changes that affect some families, particularly if your income, care arrangements, or relationship status with a partner has changed. So, here are the latest updates you should know: - **New rates effective from January:** No standard January rate increase; indexation happens in March and September. But some limits and supplements across the government service system may be indexed in January - **Adjustments for inflation or cost-of-living:** January indexation applies to selected payments and thresholds and may indirectly affect your overall support - **Impact on weekly or monthly payments:** Even without a rate rise, your take-home amount may change due to income reporting, child support, or changes involving a partner - **Differences between existing recipients and new applicants:** Existing recipients usually have updates applied automatically. New applicants receive the rate that applies from the date their claim is approved. The best way to confirm whether the January changes affected you is to check the **[Services Australia website](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/how-much-parenting-payment-you-can-get?context=22196&utm_source=chatgpt.com).** ## How Payments for Single Parents Are Calculated Understanding how Centrelink works out your payment can feel overwhelming—but once you know the moving parts, it’s much easier to sense-check your entitlements. Single parenting payment rates are calculated individually by Services Australia based on your current situation. Centrelink (the delivery arm of this government service) considers: - **Your income:** Earnings from work, child support, or changes involving a partner. Take note that payments reduce gradually as income increases. - **Number and age of children:** Eligibility depends on your youngest child’s age - **Housing situation:** Whether you rent, own, or are paying off a mortgage can affect additional support, such as Rent Assistance (if eligible). Payments are made **fortnightly**, though many parents budget weekly or monthly. ![Calculating single parenting payment rates](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/In-article-images-2026-02-11t131613%20748.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Tips for checking your personalised payment rate online - Log in to myGov → Services → Centrelink to view your current rate and payment history. - Use Centrelink’s Payment and Service Finder to estimate changes if your income or hours increase. - Update changes promptly (work hours, care arrangements, income), as delays can lead to overpayments or debts ## Eligibility Criteria for Single Parenting Support Eligibility for single parenting support is designed to reflect real-life parenting situations, especially when you’re parenting without a partner. You may qualify if: - You’re single or not financially supported by a partner - You’re the young child’s main carer - Your youngest child is under 8 years old (under current guidelines) - You meet the residency and income requirements set by Services Australia Additional criteria may apply if: - You care for a child with a disability - You’re a kinship carer - You’re experiencing family violence or crisis If your situation has changed, submitting or updating a **claim** may be worthwhile—even if you’ve been declined before. ## Applying for Single Parenting Payments Applying for a single parenting payment can feel intimidating, but breaking it into steps makes it manageable. Starting early helps ensure your claim is processed with fewer delays. Steps to apply: - **Gather documents** - ID, proof of income, and child details - **Submit your claim** - Apply online via myGov linked to Services Australia - Or visit a service centre if you need in-person help - **Track progress** - Monitor updates online or via Centrelink helplines - **Avoid common errors** - Missing documents - Not reporting shared care or partner details accurately A helpful mindset shift here: applying isn’t “asking for help”—it’s accessing support you’re entitled to while raising children on your own. Start your application today to ensure payments begin promptly. ## Single Parenting Payments and Living Costs When you’re running a household solo, every dollar has a purpose. Single parenting payment rates are designed to support essentials while giving you breathing room to plan ahead. Payments can help: - Cover rent, utilities, groceries, transport, and schooling - Stabilise income during illness, school holidays, or reduced work hours Smart strategies include: - Budgeting fortnightly payments into weekly amounts - Combining support with Family Tax Benefit and other services - Planning short-term needs while building long-term security These payments aren’t just about survival—they’re about support while you build a sustainable future for your family. ## Final Thoughts on Single Parenting Payment Rates Staying informed about single parenting payment rates empowers you to plan with clarity, reduce financial stress, and make confident decisions for your family. Review your current payments and explore available resources to make the most of your support. Explore our other popular articles on this topic: [Financial Planning For Single Mothers: How to Take Control](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/) [How to Actually Survive Financially As A Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parenting-payment-rates-update-explained/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [15 Parental Control Apps to Keep Your Child Safe Online (2026 Updated)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parental-control-apps/) **Published:** February 10, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Children are going online at an almost frighteningly early age. For this reason, parents must have a way to monitor what they view and do … as well as when they do it. Thank goodness for parental control apps. These tools are an absolute godsend to parents who don’t have time to monitor their children’s time online physically, and quite frankly, who does? If you’re deliberating over which one best suits the needs of your family, we have you covered. See below our list of parental control apps to keep your child safe online, including all the facts you need to make an educated decision. ## **15 Parental control apps to keep your child safe online** ## **AirDroid Parental Control** [AirDroid Parental Control](https://www.airdroid.com/parental-control/) is a powerful yet parent-friendly solution. What really stands out is how easy it is to get started—even for parents who aren’t particularly tech-savvy. The interface is clean and well-organised, allowing you to check your child’s activity, location, and device status without feeling overwhelmed. Beyond screen time management, app/web blocking, notification sync, and screen mirroring, the highlight feature is its social media monitoring on 14+ apps. This all-in-one monitoring capability covers the most popular social and messaging platforms kids and teens use daily, from Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat to WhatsApp, Discord, and Telegram, eliminating blind spots in your child’s online social interactions. You will get an alert once the app detects potential risk, like cyberbullying/explicit/self-harm content. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Screenshot-2026-02-10-at-12-43-12-am-1200x572.jpg "Screenshot 2026-02-10 at 12 43 12 am - Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** 3-day free trial available* ***Cost of app:** From around $4.99/month (annual plan)* ***Pros:** Real-time GPS location tracking, Geofencing alerts for key locations, Screen time and app usage management, Clean, easy-to-use interface remote camera and one-way audio check the kids’ surroundings* ***Cons:** Some advanced features require a paid plan, Best experience when both parent and child use Android devices* ***You will love this app if:** You want a reliable way to safeguard kids’ online and offline safety* ## **[SpyX](https://spyx.com/track?url=1&agent=56)** First on our list is the highly recommended SpyX. We love the user-friendly interface. It’s easy to monitor your kids’ online activities, even for parents who just started using technology. The app’s design is sleek and intuitive, so you won’t need to spend hours figuring out how to use it. From tracking social media usage to setting screen time limits, SpyX does it all. For us, the key feature is the real-time alerts. Thanks to this lifesaver, you’ll have peace of mind about your child’s safety. The best part? It feels less like spying and more like responsible parenting. Say goodbye to worrying about what your kids are up to online! SpyX will be your extra set of eyes, but cooler and way more discreet. ![SpyX](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/image-1200x498.png "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** No, only free demo available* ***Cost of app:** From $11.66/month (1-year plan) to $49.98/month (1 month)* ***Pros:** Call and text message tracking, social media monitoring, GPS location tracking, stealth mode operation, real-time updates* ***Cons:** Limited device monitoring, no money-back guarantee* ***You will love this app if:** You want to monitor your kids’ online activity discreetly* ## [Xnspy Parental Monitoring App](https://xnspy.com/) Xnspy offers a complete monitoring solution with over 20 features and support for 13+ social media apps. You will get instant updates on your child’s calls, messages, emails, browsing history, and more. What we really liked is how quickly you get access to this information — no more waiting around. Plus, Xnspy’s live location tracking, geolocation, and remote controls make it one of the best monitoring apps we have tested. As a parent, you can even lock their phone, wipe data, block apps, and record their surroundings with simple commands. With a user-friendly interface and 24/7 customer support, it is no surprise that Xnspy was the most downloaded monitoring app in Australia for 2024. [![](https://lh7-rt.googleusercontent.com/docsz/AD_4nXeu6SisFtyYiDKRkYI-5_wyl6M0iYbUqAN84qr4h5GymbeG4seQgKvrX9kTxNvdDLIoC2R8hCdtixR6SgQmwcvZA_h_HhBq0RO5tvQR5rPPItistDinjDxm9TntckZOqhpyJMJrFg?key=BNxSp0GxcHR8VfgceDBbPTe1)](https://xnspy.com/) ***Available via:*** *Android, Apple, Website* ***Free version:*** *Free demo is available* ***Cost of app:*** *From $4.99/month (1-year plan) to $35.99/month (1 month)* ***Pros:*** *Track social media apps, phone logs, screen time, location, media files, apps, key logs, recordings, and more.* ***Cons:*** *No live camera feature* ***You will love this app if:*** *You want a solution that provides social media monitoring across all apps, stays completely in stealth mode, and is offered at an affordable price.* ## [**mSpy Parental Control App**](https://www.mspy.com/parental-control.html) mSpy is your ultimate parental control app and smartphone tracker. One of mSpy’s best features is monitoring messaging apps like Facebook Messenger, WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat, and Kik so you always know what’s going on. You can also track SMS messages, calls and your children’s GPS location. This app gets top marks for text/IM tracking as well as location/geofencing, viewing browsing history, and running in stealth mode (your kids will never notice). It’s voted No.1 choice in Australia so a brilliant option to keep your kids safe online. ![mySpy Parental control app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Screen-Shot-2022-03-23-at-8.35.40-pm.png "Screen Shot 2022-03-23 at 8.35.40 pm - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:** Android, Apple* ***Free version:** 7-day free trial* ***Cost of app:** From $11.66/month (1-year plan) to $48.99/month (1 month)* ***Pros:** Track messaging apps (Snapchat, WhatsApp, FB messenger, Tinder, etc.), knowing their GPS location, checking call logs, text/media messages* ***Cons:** Can be expensive if you need to track multiple devices* ***You will love this app if:** You want the ultimate parental control app with excellent SMS/IM tracking features.* ## [**Norton Family Premier**](https://family.norton.com/web) Norton Family Premier is a complete solution when it comes to parental control apps. Made for families with lots of children, the app can be installed on unlimited devices and offers comprehensive features: location tracking, web activity monitoring, text message monitoring (Android and desktop only), time scheduling and website filtering. If you have a Norton Antivirus subscription, Norton Family Premier is free. Otherwise, it costs $49.99 per year. ![Norton Family Premier | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://static.nortoncdn.com/nf-assets/prod/portal/5.8.0-53/webstatic/images/desktopbanner/BANNER-0.jpg) ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Website* ***Free version:** 30-day free trial* ***Cost of app:** $54.99/year* ***Pros:** Installs on unlimited devices, great for large families and Android users, free if you have a Norton Antivirus subscription* ***Cons:** Expensive if you have a single child, limited iOS features, no geofencing* ***You will love this app if:** You have a Norton Antivirus subscription or you want a relatively affordable and complete parental control app for multiple family members.* ## [**Kidslox**](https://kidslox.com/?utm_campaign=site&utm_source=beanstalk&utm_medium=web) Kidslox is a flexible parental control tool that provides a wide range of features for both iOS and Android users. With one, easy-to-set-up app installed on both child and parent devices, Kidslox provides remote controls for your child’s phone or tablet along with screen time limits, location tracking, web monitoring and more. ![Kidslox](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Kidslox-image.png "Kidslox image - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:** Android, Apple* ***Free version:** 3-day free trial of Premium, then free basic app with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** $79.99/year* ***Pros:** Easy setup, easy to use, instant lock switch, take remote screenshots of Android phones* ***Cons:** No call or text monitoring* ***You will love this app if:** You want a wide selection of parental control tools to create a highly customised setup* ## [**Net Nanny**](https://www.netnanny.com/) If your family uses both Android and Apple devices, Net Nanny is the parental control app for you. Net Nanny’s intuitive interface is super easy to use and navigate and the app itself is packed with features that work on both iOS and Android. Set time schedules for Internet use, filter websites, track your child’s location and block unwanted apps on their phones. Integration with popular social media apps like YouTube and Instagram lets you screen content without entirely blocking these programs. ![Parental Control Apps | Net Nanny | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/FVZyPe9bC3g9SPv8g_26bkf7xf6dY8-nwKyO9z5zw5t5Gv17GyzCVlXb7j_2FIW6qQfb=w1189-h832) ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Website* ***Free version:** Free basic app with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** $54.99/year* ***Pros:** Easy to use, feature-packed, excellent website filtering* ***Cons:** Expensive, no call or text monitoring* ***You will love this app if:** Your primary concern is your kids accessing inappropriate websites.* ## [**Family Time**](https://familytime.io/) For families looking for real-world as well as online protection for their children, FamilyTime is one of the best parental control apps. It lets you track your kids’ locations easily, set SOS alerts/pick-me-up options in case of emergency, track calls, block apps, schedule browsing time, track visited pages and more. One downside is that the app is exclusive to mobile devices. You’ll need a separate program to monitor [PC](http://fiercepc.co.uk/) and Mac activity. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Screenshot-2026-02-10-at-1-05-34-am-1200x608.jpg "Screenshot 2026-02-10 at 1 05 34 am - Beanstalk Mums") ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Website* ***Free version:** Free basic app with in-app purchases, 3-day free trial on the premium version* ***Cost of app:** Based on the number of devices, from $27/year to $69/year* ***Pros:** Easy to install, real-world protection like SOS and pick-me-up emergency alerts* ***Cons:** No content filtering, no desktop version, relatively expensive with limited devices covered* ***You will love this app if:** You want both online safety and real-world protection for your kids.* ## [**Qustodio Parental Control App**](https://www.qustodio.com/en/) Qustodio is one of the best parental control apps for families using multiple devices. The app is available on iOS, Android, Macs, PCs and even Amazon Fire tablets. Feature-wise, Qustodio has everything parents need and more to track their children’s location and website activity whilst blocking inappropriate apps. Qustodio is highly customisable and lets you set time limits for each app and device. You can also see all your kids’ locations simultaneously at a glance. ![Parental Control Apps | Qustodio | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/static.qustodio.com/public-site/uploads/2021/08/06124055/group-69%402x.png) ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Desktop* ***Free version:** Free basic app with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** Depends on the number of devices, from $54.95/year to $137.95/year* ***Pros:** Feature-packed, excellent call and text monitoring on Android, app blocking on desktop and mobile* ***Cons:** Can be expensive for small families, social media tracking is limited to Facebook* ***You will love this app if:** You have a large family with kids who use multiple devices.* ## [**Child Control App by Salfed**](https://salfeld.com/en/child-control/) Child Control by Salfeld is an award-winning app available for Android smartphones and Windows computers. Its user-friendly interface and advanced features empower you to protect and manage your children’s use of technology, ensuring a balance between fun and educational purposes. The development team offers excellent support and is receptive to user feedback for ongoing improvements. [![Child Control By Salfeld](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Screenshot-2024-02-08-at-10.37.30-pm.png "Screenshot-2024-02-08-at-10.37.30-pm - Beanstalk Mums")](https://salfeld.com/en/child-control/) ***Available via:** Salfeld’s Website (The app protects Android & Windows devices. You can also manage it via an Apple device).* ***Free version:** 30-day trial version for new users, plus a 30-day money-back guarantee.* ***Cost off app:** €29.95 for a 24-month license on 1 device, €49.95 for 3 devices, and €59.95 for 5 devices.* ***Pros:** Child Control allows you to set a global time limit across multiple devices, preventing kids from evading set restrictions by switching devices. The app’s unique ‘time-voucher’ feature lets children earn extra time on specific apps as a reward for completing tasks, encouraging educational use of technology.* ***Cons:** The app offers detailed controls over time limits and internet usage, which may require a short period of learning to navigate effectively.* ***You will love this app if:** You’re keen on setting precise boundaries and promoting responsible tech use.* ## [**Family Zone**](https://www.familyzone.com/) Parents worried about their children’s in-game purchases should install Family Zone. You can disable this feature entirely or fine-tune restrictions so the kids can have fun whilst you avoid credit card bill surprises. Besides strict monitoring of in-app purchases, Family Zone offers screen time scheduling, app blocking and social media management. Additionally, you can manage all accounts from a single dashboard. ![Family Zone | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/EJt8nXX2fNngK0AXt21pKzQ7H8r-AAzmcVudzydT4ML7asj0eMxx9ZfFVaw4nufHEQ=w1189-h832) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free basic app with in-app purchases, premium version free for 30 days* ***Cost of app:** $6.99/month* ***Pros:** Excellent monitoring of in-app purchases and downloads, view all accounts from one dashboard, get advice from cyber experts* ***Cons:** Setup and customisation can take some time* ***You will love this app if:** You have kids who love playing games and downloading paid content on their smartphones.* ## [**ESET**](https://parentalcontrol.eset.com/) Looking for parental control apps with unlimited coverage for Android devices? Try ESET Parental Control. ESET comes with strong app management, time scheduling, location tracking and geofencing features (premium version) for multiple phones and devices. The app also has a helpful SOS emergency feature that lets kids send a message to you with a single tap. We recommend the 30-day free trial to see if the app is a good fit for your family. ![Parental Control Apps | Eset | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/kyek5uLA6JIE78eoc5VolbOfBVm0SgnjiycM4ApdUP-RdqTa6M72lHPzcTLDoUnbNHPw=w1059-h730) ***Available via:** Android, Windows Desktop* ***Free version:** Free basic features with in-app purchases, free 30-day trial of the premium version* ***Cost of app:** From $39.99/year* ***Pros:** Install on unlimited devices, strong location tracking* ***Cons:** Only available on Android, no call or text monitoring, user interface could be improved* ***You will love this app if:** Your family only uses Android devices, and you want an affordable parental control app.* ## [**WebWatcher**](https://www.webwatcher.com/) Stealthy parental control apps have their uses. If you need a tamper-proof app that your kids won’t accidentally uninstall, give WebWatcher a try. WebWatcher lets you monitor and record phone activity, including keystrokes, screenshots, text messages, websites, social media, photos and location. You get an email alert each time a risky activity is detected, so you can view the details and take appropriate action. WebWatcher is available on multiple devices and can be installed in a few minutes, even if you’re not tech-savvy. ![WebWatcher | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/1B7IBQwTHQ3KcYPg1Yh6wKUPOH4Zx0u1-p7HNTaddYLXpESnfRN2d5PjRyMej-oNPFc=w1059-h730) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Desktop* ***Free version:** Free 7-day trial* ***Cost of app:** From $10.83/month* ***Pros:** Multi-platform functionality, remote device blocking, stealth mode that sends browsing and other activity discreetly to parent accounts, tamper-proof to prevent uninstall* ***Cons:** App blocking could be improved, dashboard available only on the Premium version, doesn’t work on all browsers* ***You will love this app if:** You are looking for a stealthy app that lets you monitor kids’ risky behavior without their knowledge.* ## [**Kaspersky Safe Kids**](https://www.kaspersky.com/safe-kids) Kaspersky Safe Kids is one of the best parental control apps in terms of value for money. For only $14.99 a year, you can install the app on unlimited devices, including desktops and Macs. Even the free version is packed with strong features like screen time scheduling, website filters and app management. The premium version also lets you block bad YouTube searches and review search history, track your kids’ location and get notifications on their online activity. ![Parental Control Apps | Kaspersky Safe Kids | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/eL_1EeT2JY_W6VAWIQC4JQvB8hNQnv3eit97UW8nlHJCE08brzpD9NpUy3YIi9jso-w=w1059-h730) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Desktop* ***Free version:** Free basic app, 7-day free trial on the premium version* ***Cost of app:** $14.99/year* ***Pros:** Affordable, lots of free features, get tips from child psychologists* ***Cons:** User interface can be confusing, no call or text monitoring on iOS* ***You will love this app if:** You are a budget-conscious mum who needs a robust but affordable parental control app.* ## [**Our Pact**](https://ourpact.com/) [Our Pact](https://ourpact.com/) used to be the only parental control app that could block any Apple app, probably why it was kicked out of the App Store in 2018. It has since been reinstated, and parents can use it to manage all their children’s online activity and even get the kids involved in budgeting their own screen time. Other features are app blocking, multi-device installation (up to 20), family locator, text messaging management, web filters and on-demand screenshots. ![Parental Control Apps | Our Pact | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/mm7Z3Jpr0HX-Jlcll0wrn3LOPprTB3vlV-12BkhgW7vKTCZ6r6vkg4QMuHauQLgWWA=w2560-h1440) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free basic app with 1 schedule* ***Cost of app:** $6.99 to $9.99/month (1 device)* ***Pros:** Easy to use and navigate, gets the kids involved in setting their own screen time* ***Cons:** No call monitoring, limited web filters, can be expensive for large families with multiple devices* ***You will love this app if:** You want your kids (great for older kids and teens) to be involved in managing their own screen time and online activity.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parental-control-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/parental-control-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** iphone, software, internet, gaming, surfing --- ### [10 Pencil Cases To Help Your Kids Look Forward To School](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/pencil-cases/) **Published:** October 14, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the best ways to get your kids to look forward to going to school, is to get them the perfect pencil case. And boy, are there plenty to choose from! Check out our list of super cool pencil cases that will have your child chopping at the bit to get to their classes! ## Pencil cases to help your kids look forward to school ### [Car Shape Pencil Case](https://bigw.sjv.io/xL0vx3) The car-shaped pencil case is super adorable and big enough to hold any amount of pens, pencils, highlighters, and small office supplies your kids have. When it comes to back-to-school essentials, this is one of my top picks in my list of things to get. It’s just perfect for organising and stashing my kids’ stuff. There’s plenty of room with three different compartments to get everything sorted. [![Car Shape Pencil Case](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Big-capacity-car-shape-pencil-case-800x800.jpg "Big capacity car shape pencil case - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/xL0vx3)Big capacity car shape pencil case We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/xL0vx3) ### [PENCIL CASE FOR YOUNG BOYS](https://bigw.sjv.io/kO7vnx) Young boys who love dinosaurs will go crazy for this pencil case from big W. It’s the perfect print, colour, and size to keep my son’s school things organised and dry. I like that it’s made of wetsuit material (super soft to the touch and easy to grip). And you get two compartments, one big and one small, to get pens and smaller items sorted. [![PENCIL CASE FOR YOUNG BOYS](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Pencil-case-for-boys-3d-800x800.jpg "Pencil case for boys 3d - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kO7vnx)Pencil case for boys 3dWe found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kO7vnx) ### [FOR THE SUPER ORGANISED](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjRXqa) For the child who finds it very Zen to keep things neat and tidy, I recommend this large, high-capacity pencil case from Big W. With two compartments, your girl will have a blast organising their pens, pencils, paintbrushes, scissors, and erasers. Can also be used as a cosmetic case to hold makeup, hair brushes, and hair accessories. [![10 Pencil Cases for School | For the Super Organised | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Smash-pockie-pencil-case-800x800.jpg "Smash pockie pencil case - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjRXqa)Smash pockie pencil case We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QjRXqa) ### [“SUPPORT YOUR TEAM” PENCIL CASE](https://www.theaflstore.com.au/products/gws-giants-song-pencil-case) A sporty case like this one is great for my older son who’s into athletics. He can proudly support his favourite AFL team with a pencil case showing the team colours and the team song. I also like that is roomy, with one main compartment and a smaller side pocket to fit all his writing supplies plus plenty of space left for his phone, lunch money, and other essentials. [![“SUPPORT YOUR TEAM” PENCIL CASE](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Gws-giants-song-pencil-case-800x800.webp "Gws giants song pencil case - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.theaflstore.com.au/products/gws-giants-song-pencil-case)Gws giants song pencil case We found this at: [The AFL Store](https://www.theaflstore.com.au/products/gws-giants-song-pencil-case) ### [LARGE PENCIL CASE](https://bigw.sjv.io/RG4ozX) One of my kids tends to be rough on his school things, so we usually get him sturdy bags for storage and organisation. I kept that in mind when choosing a pencil case for back to school. This one is made with hardtop material to protect writing supplies and stationery. I like that it’s big and has two main zipper compartments plus smaller inner mesh pockets and pen slots to keep things from getting jumbled together. [![Large Pencil Case](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Large-pencil-case-pencil-pouch-800x800.jpg "Large pencil case pencil pouch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/RG4ozX)Large pencil case pencil pouch We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/RG4ozX) ### [SAFARI NIGHTS PENCIL CASE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-safari-nights-pencil-case%2F20323249-01.html) A simple pencil case with a cute summery design is great for older kids. This one from Billabong features a troipcal floral design in a black background. It’s not only for storing pens and pencils but also makeup, hand lotion, hair clips and more. Made from polyester fabric with a zipper fastener and internal keyring holder. [![Surf Sister Storage | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dwfca76765/images/20323249/20323249-01-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-safari-nights-pencil-case%2F20323249-01.html)We found this at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-safari-nights-pencil-case%2F20323249-01.html) ### [SOPHISTICATED PENCIL CASES FOR OLDER KIDS](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YRrYOe) For pre-teens and teenagers who’ve outgrown princesses and cartoon characters, I recommend an understated pencil case like this lovely suede case from Office Works. The tan colour and cute tassel on the zipper are super trendy, plus it’s roomy enough to fits school supplies, phones, and wallets. [![10 Pencil Cases for School | Sophisticated Pencil Cases for Older Kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Stylish-officeworks-pencil-case.webp "Stylish officeworks pencil case - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YRrYOe)Stylish officeworks pencil case We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/YRrYOe) ### [GLITTERY PENCIL CASE FOR YOUNG GIRLS](https://bigw.sjv.io/9LbZN4) Girls in the unicorn and glitter stage love everything sparkly. Give them this pretty pencil case with pink sequins that move when shaken (a fun activity when class gets boring). The transparent case features stars and a mermaid on the front. There’s plenty of room for all their school supplies inside. [![GLITTERY PENCIL CASE FOR YOUNG GIRLS](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Floating-glitter-holographic-pencil-pouch-800x800.jpg "Floating glitter holographic pencil pouch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9LbZN4)Floating glitter holographic pencil pouch We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9LbZN4) ### [PERSONALISED PENCIL CASES](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxLKJ6) Make your child’s pencil case extra special with a personalised label. These bag-style cases are just the right size for storing pencils and stationery supplies. They are also made from high quality materials for durability and are machine washable. Choose from lots of designs, colours and fonts before adding your child’s name or a special message. [![10 Pencil Cases for School | Personalised Pencil Cases | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/3x-minecraft-personalised-named-pencil-800x800.jpg "3x minecraft personalised named pencil - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxLKJ6)3x minecraft personalised named pencil We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxLKJ6) ### [“MAN BAG” PENCIL CASE](https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/born-pencil-case-black-boskt48ps?cm_mmc=Google:SEM:OW%7CShopping:PLA&istCompanyId=0403b0ba-0671-498f-aeb7-e2ff71b61924&istFeedId=ea709c9a-279e-40be-951f-2668243ec753&istItemId=piawrlrxa&istBid=t&cm_mmc=Google:SEM:Always_on:RP%7COffice+Supplies%7CArt+Supplies%7C%7CBorn%7C%7C%7CSH%7C%7CSupplier&s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-eeMBhCpARIsAAZfxZB6ktJGryi2oALBvMAqpDBn0A1kMa9Dcpkl1bot5oqgO1lZ-pB43UMaAnd8EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) A simple and utilitarian pencil case is just the thing for older boys and girls. Get something that is durable and stands up to heavy abuse like this one from Office Works. It’s lightweight, padded, water repellent and can hold up to 36 pencils. It’s a bit smaller than your standard pencil case but the two compartments has enough space for a phone, charger, and change. Two zippered compartments make it easy to sort your stuff. [![“MAN BAG” PENCIL CASE](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Born-pencil-case-black-800x800.jpg "Born pencil case black - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/born-pencil-case-black-boskt48ps?cm_mmc=Google:SEM:OW%7CShopping:PLA&istCompanyId=0403b0ba-0671-498f-aeb7-e2ff71b61924&istFeedId=ea709c9a-279e-40be-951f-2668243ec753&istItemId=piawrlrxa&istBid=t&cm_mmc=Google:SEM:Always_on:RP%7COffice+Supplies%7CArt+Supplies%7C%7CBorn%7C%7C%7CSH%7C%7CSupplier&s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-eeMBhCpARIsAAZfxZB6ktJGryi2oALBvMAqpDBn0A1kMa9Dcpkl1bot5oqgO1lZ-pB43UMaAnd8EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds)Born pencil case black We found this at: [Office Works](https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/born-pencil-case-black-boskt48ps?cm_mmc=Google:SEM:OW%7CShopping:PLA&istCompanyId=0403b0ba-0671-498f-aeb7-e2ff71b61924&istFeedId=ea709c9a-279e-40be-951f-2668243ec753&istItemId=piawrlrxa&istBid=t&cm_mmc=Google:SEM:Always_on:RP%7COffice+Supplies%7CArt+Supplies%7C%7CBorn%7C%7C%7CSH%7C%7CSupplier&s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!s_kwcid=AL!12073!3!498504090670!!!g!899406790942!&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-eeMBhCpARIsAAZfxZB6ktJGryi2oALBvMAqpDBn0A1kMa9Dcpkl1bot5oqgO1lZ-pB43UMaAnd8EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Get your hands on plenty more specials here: [Find the best back to school deals in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/back-to-school-deals-australia/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/pencil-cases/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/pencil-cases/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School, Education **Tags:** school, back to school, stationery --- ### [How to live your best single mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/best-single-mum-life/) **Published:** April 4, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Excerpt:** single mum life **Content:** Single mum life is a mixed experience. Like everything else, it is what you make it. Whether you are rocking this single mum gig or still getting used to a life you didn’t expect, focusing on the good is the way forward. For many women, they wouldn’t have life any other way. When you become a single mum, your way of thinking changes. What once mattered no longer does. More important things come into focus, and priorities change. It’s actually pretty liberating. For me, it has been life-changing. Here are some of the things I do to live my best single-mum life. ## How to live your best single mum life ## Stop keeping up with the Joneses This one is such a relief. Who are the Joneses, anyway? And why was I so desperate to keep up with them? When I was married, I had to have the house, the car, and the holidays that were on par with everyone else. Never mind if everything was mortgaged to the hilt; it was looks that mattered. Honestly, I am so happy to have gracefully opted out of this race. I own a home. I bought it on my own. It is the smallest of all my kids’ friends’ homes (by far), but we LOVE it. I am prouder of my little home than I ever was of the larger houses I lived in with my ex-husband. Then there is the craziness with the cars. My current car is the oldest and smallest of all the cars at school pickup, but it’s safe, and it gets us from A to B. I could get a loan for another, but why would I? Our car has character all over the back seat, and we love it. When our second child was born, I was barely out of the hospital before I began my search for an eight-seat SUV. What was that all about? I was desperate to keep up with the Joneses. Now, they can all go jump. ## Stop worrying about PTA and things like that Firstly, thank you to all the wonderful mothers who give up their time to run and help PTAs and the like. I am truly grateful to you. As a married, non-working mother, I always did my bit. Late-night baking for school fairs and threading popcorn onto a string for Halloween discos—I’ve been there, done that. But not anymore. If a PTA help request hits my inbox, I decline, and I don’t feel guilty. I’m a single mum now, and my priorities have changed. I will get my own children to school events with the right costumes and contributions, but other people’s kids are not my problem this year. I can no longer imagine a life where I had time to volunteer. My world is now so full and happening … and I wouldn’t have it any other way. ![single mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/paige-cody-bOVZ_f3fbQM-unsplash-1198x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## Don’t stress over being perfect We can’t help wanting that perfect family. Society has conditioned us to want it from day dot. We are taught that the perfect family is a happy one with two parents who love one another. Think Peppa Pig, etc. As mums, we are subjected to multi-million-dollar ad campaigns of stereotypical families laughing and the parents looking adoringly at one another. Secretly, we want this, too, and we set out to get it. Yet, as so many single mums know, being happy is not about the family we see on our screens; it’s about so much more than that. Happiness comes from safety, contentment, clarity and peace. It comes from accepting that things have not worked out and from the strength we find inside us to make the changes we need. As for being perfect. What actually is that? And who wants it anyway? Perfect is what is right for you and your children. It is completely personal and unique to each individual. And it has nothing to do with those around you, especially not Mummy Pig, Daddy Pig and Little Brother George. ## It’s OK not to be OK I remember the days when I had to show up in the school playground after a stressful morning, screaming at the kids to ‘clean your bloody teeth’ (that bit has not changed, btw). I would take a deep breath, plaster a smile on my face and get out of the car to face my playground peers, pretending that all was well in the world. It was exhausting. Since becoming a single mum and connecting with like-minded women, I have learnt something hugely important … it is ok not to be ok. Not only that, there is strength in admitting you are not ok, and it is the initiator to make things better. I am like every other human in the world; some days, I am not ok. The difference now is that I admit it to myself and to others who can help me. By doing this, I have built a support system around me for my ‘not ok’ days, and I love that I am there for others for their ‘not ok’ days. ![Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/vivek-kumar-a-_1PPjnbUg-unsplash-1200x756.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## Let go of the inconsequential sh\*t Was there really a time when I used to worry about stuff like dinner parties and whether my kids wore matching socks? Wtf was all that about? Now, if I have people over for dinner, it’s a BBQ with ‘bring your own plate if you like’ or take-away on mismatched plates .. usually with lots of wine and plenty of laughter. And socks for the kids; I can barely get my girls to wear shoes! The things that matter are very different, and they are the things that should matter. Like, whether my relationship with my ex is healthy enough for us to be good parents. Am I earning enough money to pay all my bills and save for the future? Is there enough food on the table? Are my kids happy, and do they talk to me about the things that matter to them? Letting go of the inconsequential sh\*t is a wonderfully liberating feeling. ## Stop giving a sh\*t about what others think The minute you stop giving a sh\*t what people think about you, life becomes a whole lot easier. It is like a weight has been lifted. And never more so than for a single mum. Being a single mum comes with a [societal stigma](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/) that should have been dropped in the dark ages. However liberal and open-minded people might appear on the outside, they are still fascinated (possibly a wee bit jealous) by single mums. In a society where women are still considered the weaker sex, we are a group of strong, independent women who push the boundaries of normal. People don’t know what to make of us, so they come to their own conclusions, some of them unfavourable. Let them guess. I love being me, and I love my unusual yet beautiful family. What others think of me is entirely and utterly insignificant .. being an enigma is fun. ## How to live your best single mum life (cont.) ## Stop chasing your prince I believed I had met my prince when I got married. I thought I was firmly on the path to my happily ever after. And I still believe my ex was my prince at that time, but we both changed and grew apart. Now I am prince-less. But it SO does not matter. It has taken me a long time, but I am 100% content as a single woman with my beloved children. Ironically, it takes getting to this place to be ready for another relationship, and if that happens, that is fine, too. But I know I don’t need a man to be happy. And I know that ‘happily ever after’ comes in many different forms, and it doesn’t have to be with a partner. Learning this lesson has given me a sense of freedom. I don’t worry about being alone, as I am at peace with it. And as mums, we are never really alone anyway. Instead of hunting down Mr. Right, I enjoy hogging my bed, slurping my tea and watching whatever I choose on Netflix. Happy days. ![best single mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/gabe-pierce-PEUqEZRa5GA-unsplash-1200x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## Remember that your children don’t need a male influence at home Society has placed the heteronormative family on a pedestal, alienating many of us who are in different family setups. The fact that [children need a male influence](https://www.lifelongadoptions.com/10-lgbt-adoptive-parents/732-the-importance-of-male-role-models-for-kids#:~:text=In%20fact%2C%20you%20may%20be,problems%20as%20they%20get%20older.) can keep us from leaving a toxic relationship with their father or from staying single after separation. But then, I realised my kids don’t need a dad to have a male influence. There are, in fact, lots of father figures if you just look around. They have grandfathers and uncles who can serve as positive influences in their lives. There are male teachers, coaches, and counsellors at school. There are male doctors, church leaders, and other professionals. Then, there’s Bennie from the convenience store, who treats your kids like his own. We have to remember that not all male influence is positive, and “positive” is what our children need. ## Don’t forget yourself And I mean physically and psychologically. You have to be strong and healthy for your kids. If you get sick, who will look after them? This is a real fear in your new single mum’s life. I always remember an instruction before flights: in case of emergencies, you put on your oxygen mask and life vest first before putting on your kids’. This way, you are properly equipped to help them. It’s the same with life now: we have to be in our best shape. It’s not a bad thing to exercise, eat healthy, and prioritise your sleep to attend. It also means not putting off the things that make you feel confident in your own skin, whether that’s finally booking that dental check-up, considering a [veneer teeth treatment](https://dentalboutique.com.au/services/all-veneers/) to fix what’s always bothered you, or simply getting a haircut. In fact, you need it to be the best mum you can be. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are little things we can do to [practise self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/take-time-as-single-mum/) in our daily lives that won’t harm the kids. ## Summary: Live your best single mum life Being a single mum is hard, but it’s our reality now. We might as well embrace it and make the most of this situation, right? In this article, I have outlined the things I have stopped giving a sh\*t about in order to live my best single mum life. I hope that this list helps you in your own journey. Looking back, there are so many things we worry about that are actually holding us back from living our best single-mum lives. We compare our lives to our neighbours’, not realising our situations are totally different. PTA and other inconsequential stuff clutter our minds and take time (and energy) from more productive things. Our desire to look like we have the perfect life just leaves us miserable. But it’s really OK not to be OK. Instead of acting like you have it all together, it’s better to admit to yourself and others that life is far from perfect. Stop caring so much about what others think of you as a parent. What’s important is you’re giving your kids the mum that they deserve. Another incredible realization is that you don’t need a prince to whisk you away. Life, obviously, is not a fairy tale, but you can still have your happy ending outside a romantic relationship. While you may be pressured into thinking your kids need a dad, look around you and be creative in finding father figures who will serve as positive male influences on them. Finally, prioritise yourself. To have the best single mum life, you must be healthy inside and outside. Do this for your children; inspire them to live their best lives, too. Don’t worry, you got this. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/No-longer-give-a.png "No longer give a - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/best-single-mum-life/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/best-single-mum-life/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** positive thinking, stressed single mums, stress relief tips, stigma, stereotypes, moving on, overwhelm --- ### [10 Fabulous first birthday ideas (not parties)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fabulous-first-birthday-ideas/) **Published:** July 1, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When your beautiful babe turns one, it can be really hard to decide how to celebrate their birthday. They’re too young to actually remember the proceedings, but it is a special occasion that needs to be marked – for us, if not for them! Although a party might seem obvious to celebrate the first year of life, at the tender age of one, it is likely they will miss the point. Remember, there will be many years ahead when you can create Instagram-worthy parties. Instead, keep your child within their comfort zone by doing something you know they will love and something you will remember forever. But what to do instead of a party? Here is our list of 10 fabulous first birthday ideas (that aren’t parties). ## 15 Fabulous first birthday ideas (that aren’t parties) ### 1. DECORATE THE HOUSE Just because there’s no party doesn’t mean you can’t have decorations. Have a blast decorating the entire house with your child. Before the big day, prepare by shopping for supplies. Make sure you have enough time to get good prices and compare shops. Etsy and eBay are some great online stores where you can get cheap party supplies. Keep your receipts so you can return things you don’t end up using. If you’re on a tight budget, DIY is the way to go. Gather up craft paper, leftover wrapping, ribbons, string and paper plates to make paper flowers, bows and cheap décor. There are tons of first birthday ideas out there (we recommend Pinterest). Or go with your child’s favourite TV show or book of the moment. ![Decorate the House | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3980609/pexels-photo-3980609.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&dpr=3&h=750&w=1260) ### 2. GIVE THEM A NEW EXPERIENCE Babies are always thrilled to experience something new, whether it’s a trip to the local zoo or a mini vacation to a place they’ve never been. Your child would love seeing the animals and fish at the aquarium, and you can snap photos all day to commemorate the event. A lot of places are excellent for kids to do things they’ve never done before: aquarium, carnival, petting zoo, park, seasonal festivals, exhibits, farmers market, camp grounds, children’s museum, activity centre, water park, and the great outdoors. Or give them a new experience without leaving home. Spend the day making art and paper crafts or introducing them to new sensory experiences with clay, slime, kinetic sand and silly string. ![First Birthday Ideas | Give them a New Experience | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1555453549-7f25381ccba7?ixlib=rb-1.2.1&ixid=eyJhcHBfaWQiOjEyMDd9&auto=format&fit=crop&w=1000&q=80) ### 3. GET INTO THE GARDEN Does your baby love making a mess?! Get them outside and into the garden! Little hands will enjoy playing with dirt and helping you grow a potted plant or herb garden. Plant a special bulb, flower or tree to mark their first birthday. The tree will grow taller each year, and it will be fun to measure your child’s height against the tree. Many online shops sell growing kits for kids starting their very first garden. These kits have everything you need, including potting soil, seeds, fertiliser, garden pot, and trowel for digging. Great for indoor gardening when the weather doesn’t cooperate. This is also a great time for reading books with a nature or garden theme, like [The Very Hungry Caterpillar](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/D4NVy)*.* ![Get Into the Garden | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/1134062/pexels-photo-1134062.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&h=750&w=1260) ### 4. LUNCH WITH THEIR FAVOURITE PEOPLE Lunch with their favourite people is one of our top first birthday ideas. It’s the perfect excuse to invite grandparents and other people your baby loves for an informal get together. It’s best to keep the gathering small to avoid overwhelm if you have a fussy child. Plus your baby gets more one-on-one quality time with friends and family. It can be a mini playdate with simple games, story time and opening presents, followed by a lunch or dinner. Don’t worry too much about the menu or décor. Order takeout if you don’t have time to cook. Or skip the prep altogether by taking the whole gang to a kid-friendly restaurant instead. ![First Birthday Ideas | Lunch with Their Favourite People | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3171151/pexels-photo-3171151.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&h=750&w=1260) [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/131860)](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/name-labels/name-labels-value-kits) ## 10 Fabulous first birthday ideas (cont.) ### 5. PLAY WITH NEW TOYS TOGETHER If you’re out of first birthday ideas, try this: Spend some quality time with your baby playing with new toys and give them undivided attention. It’s a fantastic day for bonding especially if you’ve been busy and are feeling the [dreaded mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/). Toys can be educational or just plain entertaining. Find out what your baby enjoys the most and work from there. Check out Amazon for a list of bestselling, age-appropraite toys for children. Brightly coloured puzzles are a hit with most babies, and so are toys that make sounds and music. Picture books and read aloud books are also great to build language skills and vocabulary. ![Play with New Toys Together Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3985015/pexels-photo-3985015.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&h=750&w=1260) ### 6. MAKE A CAKE THEY WILL LOVE Don’t skip cake and candles even if you’re not having a party! Cake is yummy for everyone and babies love eating and smashing into them. The popular first birthday cake smash has become a highlight for many families and you can start your own tradition at home. Baking a cake is easier than you think (many recipes take less than an hour). Make a simple cake out of box mix if you’re pressed for time, or make a gorgeous elaborate cake from scratch. Check out our [list of quick and easy birthday cake ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-kids-birthday-cakes/). Read through the recipe and make a grocery list about one week ahead of the event so you have enough time to get the ingredients you don’t have. ![First Birthday Ideas | Make a Cake They Will Love | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/776945/pexels-photo-776945.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&dpr=3&h=750&w=1260) ### 7. PARK AND A PICNIC The local park is an amazing destination if you’re running out of first birthday ideas. Pack a picnic basket and have a blast spending time outdoors and enjoying nature. Many parks have baby-friendly offerings and facilities like bucket swings and paved walkways for strollers to make your day easier and more fun. Head to the pond to view the fish or the water park/fountain to splash in puddles. Visit the playground and let your kid loose. Have the birthday lunch right there on the grass if the weather permits or indoors if it rains. Either way, your baby will love the activities and new experience of being outdoors. ![Park and Picnic | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1544903096-5c7127ebe39d?ixlib=rb-1.2.1&ixid=eyJhcHBfaWQiOjEyMDd9&auto=format&fit=crop&w=1000&q=80) [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/123025)](https://www.smoochbaby.com.au/catalogue/out-and-about/kids-pretend-playsets) ## Our last fabulous first birthday ideas ### 8. TAKE SOME FUN PHOTOS TO FRAME A first birthday won’t be complete without photos. It’s the best day to dress up your baby (and yourself) in a cute outfit and snap away. Go to the local park or outdoors in the garden to catch some rays and set up your photoshoot. Or you can hang up a sheet indoors as a backdrop and take photos there. Get some props to make your photos pop! We love sunglasses, fake mustaches, crowns/tiaras, and paper decorations. All of these can be made at home with craft supplies (or buy them online if you don’t have time). If you have the budget, consider getting professional photos taken. The quality is definitely worth the price. ![First Birthday Ideas | Take Some fun Photos Together | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3771689/pexels-photo-3771689.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&dpr=3&h=750&w=1260) ### 9. BIRTHDAY PRESENT HUNT Turn your child’s first birthday into a fun, exciting event with a present hunt. As first birthday ideas go, this one is sure to be a hit. It’s like an Easter egg hunt but with birthday gifts. These don’t have to be pricey, just gifts you know your baby will love. Get lots of small presents, wrap them up and hide them in different places in your living room or nursery. Then play some music and let the hunt begin. Your baby will need help finding things, so give them plenty of clues and directions. Half the fun is unwrapping the presents when the hunt is over. It’s also the perfect time for a photo op. Make sure you have your camera ready. ![Birthday Present Hunt | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/17796/christmas-xmas-gifts-presents.jpg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&dpr=3&h=750&w=1260) ### 10. HAVE A MINI DISCO Last on list of first birthday ideas is a mini disco. Because we all know babies love dancing to music. Make your child’s first birthday extra special by setting up disco lights and playing their favourite tunes. Invite some people over for a mini play date…dance parties are better with friends! You can even have a karaoke sing-along. Hearing their voice on a mic for the first time can be a fun experience. Also try simple party games that involve dancing like musical chairs. Hang up a few decorations and set up a simple buffet (or order takeout if you don’t have time to prep). Make sure to take lots of photos and videos to remember the event. ![First Birthday Ideas | Have a Mini Disco | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.pexels.com/photos/3662824/pexels-photo-3662824.jpeg?auto=compress&cs=tinysrgb&dpr=3&h=750&w=1260) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![10 Fabulous first birthday ideas | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/First-birthday-ideas.png "First birthday ideas - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fabulous-first-birthday-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fabulous-first-birthday-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Birthdays **Tags:** Presents, decorations, birthday cake, celebration --- ### [I want to get a divorce, but my partner controls all the money. What do I do?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/i-want-to-get-a-divorce-but-my-partner-controls-all-the-money/) **Published:** September 12, 2025 **Author:** Jillian Zhang **Content:** Divorce is an emotionally taxing journey, and the challenges are amplified when one partner has historically controlled the finances. The feeling of being financially disempowered can be overwhelming, but understanding your rights and taking proactive steps can safeguard your future. Resources such as legal information platforms and directories, including [Top 10 Lawyers](https://www.top10lawyers.com.au/), can help individuals better understand the types of professional support available during this process. The key to navigating this complex situation is early preparation, professional guidance, and strategic financial management. ## **Understanding financial control in divorce** When one spouse has maintained primary control over the household finances, the other spouse may feel isolated and vulnerable at the prospect of divorce. This control can manifest in various ways, from managing all bank accounts and investments to handling bill payments and limiting access to financial information. A significant imbalance in financial knowledge and access can create considerable hurdles during property settlement negotiations. The good news is that Australian family law is designed to ensure a just and equitable distribution of assets, regardless of who managed the money during the marriage. However, you need to arm yourself with information and take decisive action to ensure your interests are protected. ## **Immediate steps to secure your financial position** The moment you contemplate divorce, securing your financial present and future becomes paramount. Here are some steps you can take to safeguard your assets and financial security during this time. ### **1. Update utility accounts and leases** If you or your partner moves out of the marital home, it’s crucial to address utility accounts and lease agreements promptly. If your name remains on these, you could be held liable for unpaid bills or damages, even if you no longer reside at the property. Contact utility providers and landlords to have your name removed or accounts transferred as soon as possible. This proactive step prevents unexpected financial liabilities from arising post-separation. ![Divorce without seeing a lawyer | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Dont-need-a-lawyer.jpg "Divorce without seeing a lawyer | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") **2. Secure your personal finances** This is a critical step. If it’s safe to do so, consider establishing new, individual accounts where your income can be directed. Immediately change all PINs and passwords associated with your bank accounts, credit cards, and online financial platforms. If closing joint accounts isn’t feasible or advisable (for instance, if it could escalate conflict or jeopardise immediate needs), ensure your bank does not share address changes or other sensitive information with your ex-partner without your explicit consent. The goal here is to establish financial independence and privacy. **3. Change passwords** Beyond financial accounts, it’s imperative to change passwords for all your digital access points. This includes your computer, phone, tablet, email accounts, and any social media profiles. Use strong, unique passwords for each. Even in amicable separations, situations can change, and protecting your digital privacy is essential. **Building your financial foundation for property settlement** Divorce property settlements require a comprehensive understanding of the marital asset pool. This is where diligent information gathering becomes crucial. **1. Compile comprehensive financial information** Begin meticulously compiling a detailed list of all assets and liabilities. This includes: - **Bank Accounts:** Both joint and individual accounts, including savings, checking, and term deposits. - **Properties:** The family home, investment properties, and any other real estate. - **Vehicles:** Cars, boats, motorcycles, etc. - **Debts:** Mortgages, personal loans, credit card debts, and any other liabilities. - **Investments:** Shares, managed funds, superannuation (pension funds), and any other investment portfolios. - **Business Interests:** Any ownership in companies, partnerships, or trusts. Keep records of all financial statements, tax returns, pay slips, and any documents related to these assets and liabilities. Any changes to these assets post-separation should also be meticulously documented, as they will all contribute to the overall property pool and influence the final settlement. **2. Monitor your assets diligently** Even in seemingly amicable separations, maintaining vigilance over your financial assets is vital. If substantial funds remain in joint accounts, consider discussing with your bank the possibility of setting withdrawal limits or requiring joint signatories for transactions. Regularly review bank statements and investment reports to detect any unauthorised transactions, asset sales, or significant changes. Any unexplained movements could impact your property settlement. ![divorce lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Choosing-your-divorce-lawyer.png "Choosing your divorce lawyer - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The indispensable role of professional advice** Navigating the complexities of family law and financial division without expert guidance is akin to sailing without a compass. It’s absolutely essential to consult with a family lawyer like [Owen Hodge Lawyers](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/) as soon as possible after separation. A family lawyer will explain your rights and obligations, guide you through the legal process, and help you understand how Australian family law principles apply to your unique financial circumstances. Beyond a family lawyer, consider engaging other professionals: - **Tax Advisers:** They can help you understand the tax implications of asset division, particularly concerning capital gains tax on property sales or the transfer of shares. - **Financial Planners:** A financial planner can assist in structuring your finances post-divorce, helping you create a budget, plan for retirement, and make informed investment decisions. Early advice from these experts can prevent costly mistakes, clarify complex financial structures (such as trusts or company interests), and set the stage for more successful and efficient negotiations. ## **Transparency and amicability: A path to resolution** While it may seem counterintuitive in a high-conflict situation, aiming for transparency and open communication can significantly streamline the divorce process. Open communication about finances, even if difficult, can reduce misunderstandings, alleviate stress, and expedite the settlement process. Both parties have a legal duty of full and frank disclosure of their financial circumstances. By being transparent, you fulfil this duty and help to narrow down the key issues for negotiation. This approach can ultimately save you considerable time, money, and emotional distress, as it can reduce the need for protracted legal battles and extensive discovery processes. *Related article: [10 Popular Myths About Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/myths-about-divorce/)* ## **Key takeaways: I want to get a divorce, but my partner controls all the money** Facing a divorce when your partner controls the finances can feel like an insurmountable challenge. However, by taking swift, strategic action to secure your personal finances, meticulously compiling financial information, and seeking expert professional advice from family lawyers, accountants, and financial planners, you can empower yourself. Remember, the law is designed to achieve a fair outcome, and with the right preparation and support, you can protect your financial interests and build a secure future for yourself. Are you prepared to take these initial steps to safeguard your financial future? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/i-want-to-get-a-divorce-but-my-partner-controls-all-the-money/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/i-want-to-get-a-divorce-but-my-partner-controls-all-the-money/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Separation, Divorce --- ### [Lunch box Ideas: Cheap and Healthy Lunchbox Fillers for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-and-healthy-lunchbox-fillers-for-kids/) **Published:** January 31, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** If packing a lunch box were an Olympic sport, single mums would already have the gold. Probably while answering emails, tying shoelaces, and negotiating with a tiny kid about why biscuits don’t count as fruit. When you’re juggling solo parenting, work, and finances, finding healthy lunchbox fillers that are affordable, nutritious, and actually get eaten can feel like a daily endurance event, especially on a busy school day. But the truth is, nutritious, budget-friendly lunchbox ideas *are* possible without spending hours in the kitchen or blowing the grocery budget. With a few smart strategies and realistic choices, you can make lunches that fuel growing bodies and busy school days. Read on below for a collection of easy, healthy lunch ideas designed for real life. ## What Makes Healthy Lunchbox Fillers Nutritious When you’re packing lunch on autopilot, it helps to know what actually matters nutritionally. Without turning lunch prep into a science experiment. Healthy lunchbox fillers don’t need to be fancy or perfect; they just need to work with your child’s body and energy levels throughout the day. Here are the simple, practical principles to keep in mind: - **Balance protein, carbohydrates, and healthy fats:** Protein helps kids stay full and focused, carbohydrates provide energy for learning and play, and healthy fats support growing brains. Simple pairings work best: yoghurt with fruit, wholegrain crackers with cheese, or eggs with toast fingers. - **Include fresh fruits and vegetables for vitamins and fibre:** Fresh produce supports digestion, immunity, and sustained energy. It doesn’t have to be elaborate — apple slices, carrot sticks, cucumber rounds, cherry tomato, or a banana go a long way. Frozen ingredient options like corn or berries can also be a great option. - **Minimise processed sugars and high-salt snacks:** Highly processed food can lead to quick energy spikes followed by crashes, not ideal for long school lunch breaks. Choosing lower-sugar snacks most of the time leaves room for the occasional treat without guilt. - **Provide hydration options:** Hydration matters more than we often realise. Water is the best everyday choice, while milk adds calcium and protein — a better option than sugary drinks or chocolate milk. When healthy lunchbox fillers are built around balance and simplicity, you help your child feel steady, focused, and ready to learn — and if you’re ever unsure what’s truly “healthy” (or feel confused by all the mixed messages), you can dive deeper with this easy guide: <https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/healthy-eating-for-children> ## Ideas for Budget-Friendly and Healthy Lunchbox Fillers With a few go-to staples, healthy lunchbox fillers can make weekday lunches easier, even when grocery prices feel relentless. - **Sandwiches with wholegrain bread and lean protein:** A simple sandwich made with wholegrain bread keeps kids fuller for longer. Fillings like egg, tuna, ham, chicken, cheese, or hummus are affordable and easy to pack. - **Seasonal fruits and vegetables:** Buying produce in season helps you get more value for money. Apples, orange segments, carrots, cucumber, and capsicum are lunch box classics that kids recognise. - **Homemade snacks: muffins, granola bars, dips:** Baking once per week can make several lunches. Homemade snacks usually contain less sugar and less packaging, and they’re easy to prepare ahead of time. - **Bulk-buy staples: rice cakes, nuts, yoghurt:** Bulk buying reduces cost per serve and saves time. Plain yoghurt, rice cakes, a small nut portion (where allowed), or even leftover rice can all work well in a bento box setup. ![Healthy Lunchbox Fillers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/In-article-images-2026-01-31t125541%20340.jpg "Lunch box Ideas: Cheap and Healthy Lunchbox Fillers for Kids - Beanstalk Mums") ## Nutritious School Lunch Choices Kids Will Actually Eat Let’s be honest: the healthiest school lunch is the one that comes home eaten, not untouched in the bag. When picky eating shows up, a little creativity goes a long way. - **Use fun shapes or colourful presentations:** A wrap cut into pinwheels or veggies arranged by colour can turn ordinary food into something exciting. - **Mix familiar favourites with new foods gradually:** Pair a safe favourite with one new idea. Think apple slices plus berries, not a full surprise lineup. - **Let kids help pack lunches:** When kids feel involved, they’re more likely to eat what’s inside. - **Include dips or sauces:** Hummus or yoghurt dip can turn carrot sticks, cucumber, or corn into a fun treat instead of a chore. This low-pressure approach helps kids explore food without battles, which is a great win for everyone. For more ideas on what to pack, read: [Bento Boxes for Kids: Our pick of the Best](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bento-boxes-kids/) ## Allergy-Friendly Ideas for Healthy School Meals School lunches come with extra layers of care when allergies are involved — and that care shouldn’t mean extra stress or expensive specialty foods. - **Dairy-free yoghurts and milk alternatives:** Coconut, soy, and oat options are widely available and suitable for healthy school lunches. - **Nut-free proteins:** Boiled eggs, hummus, seeds, and lean meats work well in nut-free schools. - **Gluten-free bread or crackers:** These are now easy to find and can hold simple fillings like egg, cheese, or chicken. - **Clearly label allergen-safe foods:** A simple label or note helps schools manage safety and gives everyone peace of mind, including you. ## Tips for Quick and Easy Lunch for Your Child Some mornings are smooth. Others start with missing shoes and a clock moving far too fast. The goal with healthy lunchbox fillers is about making good choices easier when you need them most. - **Prepare ingredients the night before**: Washing fruit, chopping vegetables, or portioning snacks ahead of time turns chaotic mornings into simple assembly jobs. - **Batch cook snacks or proteins**: Boiled eggs, muffins, roast vegetables, or chicken can be prepped once and used across several lunches, saving time and money. - **Use reusable containers for grab-and-go lunches**: Bento boxes and small containers keep portions ready, reduce waste, and make packing faster (and calmer). These systems can save you at least a **minute** (or ten) each morning. ## Best Healthy Foods for School Days When you need reliable, no-fuss lunchbox staples, these healthy lunchbox fillers are always a great choice: - **Fresh fruit:** apple slices, grapes, berries - **Vegetables:** carrot sticks, cucumber, cherry **tomato** - **Protein:** boiled eggs, lean meats, cheese cubes - **Whole grains:** wraps, rice cakes, whole-grain pasta salads Simple, familiar, and kid-friendly; exactly what busy mornings call for. ## Time-Saving Ideas for Packing Healthy Lunchbox Fillers When your to-do list is already full, saving even ten minutes matters. These small systems help healthy lunchbox fillers come together faster without compromising nutrition or blowing the budget. - **Pack in bulk for the week ahead**: Portion snacks, fruit, or proteins once, then grab as needed during the week. - **Use pre-cut fruits and vegetables**: They’re a practical option on busier weeks and can reduce prep time significantly. - **Prepare versatile ingredients for multiple lunches**: One batch of roasted vegetables, boiled eggs, or pasta can work across wraps, salads, or snack boxes. - **Keep a checklist to ensure balanced meals**: A simple reminder or checklist takes the guesswork out of packing. ## Progress Over Perfection (and Fewer Crumbs in the Bag) With a handful of reliable healthy lunchbox fillers, a bit of prep, and a sense of humour for the days it all goes sideways, you’re already doing a better job than you think. If your child feels fuelled and your kid’s lunch box comes back mostly empty — even if there’s the odd chip or square of chocolate — that’s a win. Now go enjoy your coffee while it’s still warm. You’ve earned it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-and-healthy-lunchbox-fillers-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-and-healthy-lunchbox-fillers-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [The After School Child Care Subsidy (CCS) Made Simple](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-after-school-child-care-subsidy-ccs-made-simple/) **Published:** January 31, 2026 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Balancing work and family life with the rising cost of childcare can feel like a constant juggling act, especially when you’re managing everything for your child on your own. For many families in Australia, after school child care subsidy provides practical financial help. This government support helps subsidise approved after-school care, so children receive safe, structured care every day. With the right information, families can use the child care subsidy to reduce fees, manage income pressure, and plan with confidence. ## What Is After School Child Care Subsidy? After school child care subsidy is part of the **Australian Government Child Care Subsidy (CCS)**, designed to help families pay for approved childcare services, including outside school hours care. This child care subsidy reduces the fee you pay directly to your provider, making it easier for a family to stay in work or study while their child attends structured after-school programs. For CCS-eligible families, this support can make a meaningful difference to weekly and fortnightly budgets. After-school care subsidies can help by: - Reducing out-of-pocket childcare costs, easing pressure on household income. - Supporting working, single, and low-income families to maintain employment or education. - Children attend after-school sessions covering approved activities such as homework clubs, sport, and enrichment activities. - Varying per child and per family, as CCS rates depend on the combined family income, the family’s hours, and the approved provider. Understanding how the after school child care subsidy works helps families find care that fits both their child’s age, needs, and financial circumstances. ## What You Need to Know About Child Care Subsidy Payments After-school support payments under the Child Care Subsidy (CCS) are designed to recognise modern work patterns. The amount you may receive depends on your CCS eligibility, combined family income (adjusted taxable income), number of children in care, and the hours per fortnight your child attends. A common question is child support: in most cases, the child support you *receive* doesn’t reduce your CCS, because it isn’t treated as taxable income in the same way wages are. If you *pay* child support, it may be taken into account in your family assistance assessment, which can affect how your income is calculated for CCS purposes. (*Read more about Child Support here: [All You Need To Know About Child Support: An Easy Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/)*) Some CCS payments are applied directly to your provider, lowering the fee you pay upfront. Others depend on confirmed attendance, booking, or absence reporting. If a child is absent, CCS may still apply for allowable absences, but families must ensure the details in their account are correct. To apply, families must provide documentation such as proof of income, work or study hours, and enrolment details. This process helps Centrelink confirm entitlement and ensure the after school child care subsidy reflects your current circumstances — including any changes to work, care arrangements, or family situation. ![calculate the After School Child Care Subsidy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/In-article-images-2026-01-31t122012%20425.jpg "IThe After School Child Care Subsidy (CCS) Made Simple - Beanstalk Mums") ## CCS Eligibility Criteria for After School Child Care Subsidy Eligibility for after-school care subsidies is determined by the Australian Government’s CCS eligibility rules. Families must meet certain criteria to be considered eligible. In general, families may qualify if: - The child is enrolled in an approved OSHC provider - The child is a CCS-eligible child and meets age requirements (usually under 13) - Parents meet residency and income requirements - The family agrees to pay fees and comply with CCS rules via Centrelink Even one child in care can qualify, and families should find out early to avoid missing their entitlement. ## How to Apply for After-School Support Funding Applying for the after school child care subsidy is straightforward when broken into steps: - **Gather your documents**: Collect personal ID, proof of income, work or study details, and your child’s enrolment information with an approved after-school care provider. - **Submit your application**: Apply through the relevant government portal (such as Services Australia) or via your provider, depending on the funding type and program. - **Track your application status**: Monitor progress online and respond promptly if additional information is requested to avoid delays. - **Confirm approval with your provider**: Once approved, ensure your after-school care provider has the correct details so subsidies are applied accurately. - **Update details as circumstances change**: Notify the provider or government service if your income, work hours, or family situation changes to keep your after-school care subsidies aligned with your needs. ## Recent Changes to Child Care Subsidy Recent updates to after school child care subsidies aim to make support more accessible and better aligned with modern family life. Here are some key changes to take note of: - A guaranteed 72 hours per fortnight of subsidised care regardless of the family’s activity level. - Higher CCS rates for certain families, including First Nations children. - Simplified access for part-time or casual workers. - Expanded support that may combine CCS with Additional Child Care Subsidy (ACCS). These changes help children receive stable care every day, even when family schedules vary. ## After-School Support and Associated Costs While the after school child care subsidy can significantly reduce childcare expenses, it’s important to understand the costs that may still sit outside the subsidy. Having a clear picture upfront helps you plan realistically and avoid financial surprises. Here are some potential out-of-pocket costs to consider: - Co-payments or top-ups may still apply, depending on your subsidy rate and the provider’s fees - Additional fees for special activities, such as excursions, workshops, or premium enrichment programs - Transport or snack costs, which may not be included in standard after school care fees - Budget planning tips to maximise benefits, such as choosing approved providers, reviewing fee structures, and aligning care hours closely with your work or study schedule A quick conversation with your provider about what’s included—and what’s optional—can go a long way in helping you stay in control of your childcare budget. ![after school child care subsidy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/In-article-images-2026-01-31t122049%20825.jpg "The After School Child Care Subsidy (CCS) Made Simple - Beanstalk Mums") ## How the After School Child Care Subsidy is Calculated Understanding how after-school care subsidies are calculated can help you make informed choices about care and budgeting. While the formulas can sound complex, they’re designed to reflect your family’s real circumstances rather than a one-size-fits-all approach. After school subsidies are generally calculated using the following considerations: - Family income and number of children in care, which influence your overall subsidy rate. - A percentage of approved care fees is covered by the subsidy, with higher support for lower-income families. - - Adjustments for part-time, casual, or irregular attendance, ensuring flexibility for changing work or study schedules. - State or provider-specific variations, as fee structures and program approvals, can differ. Families can learn more or find estimates through the Australian Government website on [Child Care Subsidy](https://www.education.gov.au/early-childhood/providers/child-care-subsidy). ## Recognise the Common Mistakes to Avoid When Claiming After School Support Claiming after school care subsidies can make a meaningful difference to your family budget, but small oversights can lead to delays or reduced support. To stay on track, watch out for these common mistakes: - Missing deadlines to claim or update details - Incomplete billing or enrolment information - Not reporting changes in income or care hours - Assuming CCS covers every cost Staying organised helps families meet requirements and avoid payment issues. ## Making After-School Care More Affordable for Your Family The Child Care Subsidy helps families across Australia manage after-school childcare costs with confidence. By checking eligibility, keeping information current, and understanding CCS rates, families can maximise their entitlement. When used well, after-school care subsidies support children, strengthen family stability, and create real breathing room—week by week, per financial year, and beyond. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-after-school-child-care-subsidy-ccs-made-simple/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-after-school-child-care-subsidy-ccs-made-simple/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [12 Gifts for your boyfriend to show your wicked sense of humour](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/gifts-for-your-boyfriend/) **Published:** July 24, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your boyfriend’s birthday is coming up, and whether you’ve been together for two weeks or two years, it can be hard to know what to get him. Men are notoriously hard to buy for, and most have everything they need anyway. So why not add a bit of fun to the occasion with a present to remind them how cheeky and fun you can be? To assist with the mission, we’ve compiled a list of gifts for your boyfriend that show you have a wicked sense of humour. ## Insulated Coffee Mug When it comes to a gift for your boyfriend, a simple mug with a funny, heartfelt message is always a winner. This one from Etsy is on point and great for couples who met online. 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It is about making every square metre of your home pull its weight. When you’re the primary person managing the chaos of kids, work, and a mortgage or rent, your smart furniture shouldn’t just sit there looking pretty. It needs to solve problems. Whether you find yourself trying to declutter and decorate your way through a small apartment space or you’re trying to determine how to navigate the sprawling landscape of the suburbs, the right furniture pieces can help fill the gap between the mess and the comfort and functionality you should find at home. ## **Why Multifunctional Furniture is a Game-Changer for Families** If you’re watching the pennies, it’s just common sense to buy one piece of furniture that does two or three jobs. Think of a storage ottoman: it’s a seat, a footrest, and a secret hiding spot for those Lego bricks that seem to end up under your heel. This kind of versatility is paramount because it reduces the need to buy extra bulky cabinets, keeping your floor space clear for play. To many families, the living room serves as a guest room or a home office. That’s where such pieces as sofa beds or desks cleverly hidden come into play. According to InteriorGrid, choosing furniture like modular units means you can modify your space as your kids grow. If you’re after pieces that can handle the heavy lifting of family life without breaking the bank, sourcing from a reputable [**furniture wholesaler in Sydney**](https://horgans.com.au/pages/sydney) is one sure way to find designer-level quality at a much more manageable price point. It’s about finding those sturdy, versatile items such as an extendable dining table, working for a Tuesday night homework session and a Sunday family roast. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/Pexels-amelia-hallsworth-5461569-1-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-amelia-hallsworth-5461569 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Durable and Kid-Proof Furniture for Everyday Life** We know the experience all too well: the sinking feeling as the juice jug leans towards the sofa. It’s impossible to replace the sofa every two years in a single-income household, especially when character-developing stains come into play. That’s why it’s a necessity, and not an indulgence, to prioritise functionality and easily cleaned materials like stain-resistant or quick-wipe materials. OrganizationTip101 recommends emphasising strong frames, like solid wood or metal, as opposed to the cheap particleboard kind. Why? Because kids use their furniture like gym machines. A solid coffee table with rounded corners is not merely safer but also an investment that won’t shake apart after six months of being used as a trampoline. Deciding on darker colours or patterned rugs can also be a lifesaver, as it can hide the inevitable wear and tear apparent in a busy household. This has everything to do with being smart about your decisions today in order to avoid repairing or replacing things that might not have made it past their warranty years. ## **Storage-Friendly Solutions to Maximise Small Spaces** Clutter is the greatest stress, but being the one left to clean it up makes it even more stressful. The trick to having a stress-free home, however, is secret storage. This includes wanting to see bedside tables with high-sided drawers, bookshelves that go all the way to the top of the wall, and entry tables that allow room for the daily accumulation of bills and keys. Arranging zones with furniture helps contain the mess. Use a storage-laden sideboard to distinguish between the eating space and the play zone. When examining [**different floor plans**](https://edenbraehomes.com.au/resources/understanding-floorplans-and-personalisation-options), you begin to realise that some plans are conducive to storage. It’s essential to understand how the zones work to place furniture in areas where it is most useful. This is particularly important in rooms with unusual shapes, where you want to fill a specific space with furniture, rather than simply because it’s an odd-shaped room and you’re unsure what else to do. ## **How Understanding Your Floor Plan Enhances Furniture Effectiveness** ![smart furniture | kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Kitchen-Black-1200x800.png "Kitchen - Black - Beanstalk Mums") Have you ever picked up a great buffet, only to discover that it prevents people from getting to the [kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/)? It’s a common error that everyone makes once they get started on furniture Tetris, a game that everyone has mastered by the end of a first marriage or a first decorating adventure. Once you grasp the layout of your home, you can select pieces that fit without hindering you personally. With the different floor plans, you are able to identify areas known as dead zones, and these are perfect spots to place a slim-line storage unit or corner desk. This sort of planning makes sure that your furniture fits in with your lifestyle, much like ensuring there is enough space for the pushchair to come through the hallway and not obstruct it. It is all about being intentional with the use of one’s space and being certain that all items bought have their place within the house. ## **Budget-Friendly Tips for Single-Income Households** Arranging your home also does not have to happen all at once. In fact, going the target-furnish-or-marthone and then slowing down and going the slowing-furnish-or-marthone route might actually be very beneficial and cost-effective. You’ll start with the big-ticket stuff, such as your sofa, your beds, and your dining tables. These things will be your workhorse pieces. Blend the best wholesale purchases with second-hand finds or DIY projects. This allows you to lend your house character without spending the magazine-page price. Another expert tip is to use the same colour scheme. This will permit you to move furniture from one room to the other as and when you want. For instance, your dresser could begin in your bedroom but find its way to the lounge room years later and turn out to be a toy chest. The best way to be on top of budgeting is by breathing new life into your furniture. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Living-room.jpg "Living room - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Practical Room-by-Room Furniture Recommendations** Unclear where to begin? We can start by working with the areas that will have the greatest impact. In the living room, choose modular furniture for the sofa. As Your Ducks In A Row recommends, it’s perfect for busy families, allowing you to configure the pieces for different rooms. Include the coffee table with the top that can be lifted up to conceal remotes and colouring pages. Functional bedroom essentials may consist of a bed with an upholstered headboard for comfortable reading, but a gas lift bed is a lifesaver for the storage of seasonal clothing and bulky linens. For the kitchen or dining area, having a small space may be remedied with the aid of a gate leg or folding table, which remains compact for your everyday breakfast but stretches when relatives come for visits. Finally, in the entryway, a narrow bench with shoe storage spaces underneath prevents a sneaker mountain from occurring at the front door, maintaining a serene look at your entrance. ## **Conclusion** When all is said and done, your home should be your haven, not your source of stress. You can have a high-end-feeling space on a single-income budget by prioritising versatile, long-lasting, and storage-savvy pieces. This is all about being a bit more strategic: measuring twice, thinking about the double-duty potential of every item. Sourcing from a furniture wholesaler in Sydney helps you get value for money that is hard-earned. Take it one room at a time, and plan around your layout to see just how much easier life can be when your home starts working as hard as you do. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/smart-furniture-choices-that-can-make-family-life-easier/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/smart-furniture-choices-that-can-make-family-life-easier/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Gorgeous sexy sleepwear to buy online in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-sleepwear-to-buy-online-in-australia/) **Published:** May 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about sexy sleepwear was last updated in 2022.*** When it comes to sleepwear comfort is a high priority but there are times when your well-worn-but-oh-so-cosy Mickey Mouse pyjamas just won’t do. If you’re on the hunt for sexy sleepwear that looks the part and also meets your comfort needs, there is plenty of choice. Here is our list of gorgeous sexy sleepwear to buy online in Australia. ### [Oh La La Cheri Pink Floral Playsuit](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbodies-teddies%2fp%2foh-la-la-cheri-pink-floral-playsuit-%2fa44532g80190.html) Lovehoney makes it a breeze to buy sexy sleepwear no matter your body type. This cherry pink floral playsuit is both sexy and oh so comfy…you would want to wear it all day. The full coverage is great to hide flaws while showing off your curves. [![Oh La La Cheri Pink Floral Playsuit | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/80190_a44532_pink_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbodies-teddies%2fp%2foh-la-la-cheri-pink-floral-playsuit-%2fa44532g80190.html) ***Buy from:*** [*Lovehoney*](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2flingerie-sets%2fbodies-teddies%2fp%2foh-la-la-cheri-pink-floral-playsuit-%2fa44532g80190.html) ### [Belinda Satin Cami & Short Set](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39007&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.birdsnest.com.au%2Fbrands%2Fgingerlilly%2Fbelinda-satin-cami-short-set-gil-belinda-s20%23Pinkbird&LSNSUBSITE=LSNSUBSITE) This silky cami and short set from Birds Nest is perfect for all body types. If you’re looking for sexy sleepwear that’s comfy yet alluring, this is the one for you. The silky satin fabric is great for hot summer nights or everyday wear. [![Belinda Satin Cami & Short Set | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-o1e2ttt79p/images/stencil/500x659/products/103471/309995/GingerlillySS20_Shot_25_015__17985.1620186726.jpg?c=2)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39007&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.birdsnest.com.au%2Fbrands%2Fgingerlilly%2Fbelinda-satin-cami-short-set-gil-belinda-s20%23Pinkbird&LSNSUBSITE=LSNSUBSITE) ***Buy from:** [Birds Nest](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39007&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.birdsnest.com.au%2Fbrands%2Fgingerlilly%2Fbelinda-satin-cami-short-set-gil-belinda-s20%23Pinkbird&LSNSUBSITE=LSNSUBSITE)* ### [Eros Robe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/55525?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bendonlingerie.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fsleepwear-all%2Fproducts%2Fpleasure-state-eros-robe-sugar-p77-1373c) This stunning jewel-toned robe features a relaxed fit that is flattering yet oh-so-seductive. The super soft satin fabric and gorgeous details make this perfect for when you want to look like a queen in bed. [![Eros Robe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Eros-robe-640x800.jpg "Eros robe - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bendonlingerie.com.au/collections/sleepwear-all/products/pleasure-state-eros-robe-sugar-p77-1373c?utm_source=trello.com&utm_medium=affiliates&utm_content=Content&utm_campaign=Bendon+Lingerie+AU&cfclick=e039f80740274ac984823ecd820e97aa)Eros robe ***Buy from:*** [Bendon Lingerie](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/55525?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bendonlingerie.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fsleepwear-all%2Fproducts%2Fpleasure-state-eros-robe-sugar-p77-1373c) ### [Lovehoney Satin and Lace Plum Babydoll Set](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d32653) A pop of colour makes sexy sleepwear even more alluring. Lovehoney’s babydoll set in gorgeous plum ticks all the boxes. Comfy, plunging neck, luxurious and perfect for seducing or just lazing around the house in. The fit flatters all body types and the thigh slit and racer back adds extra cheekiness. [![Lovehoney Satin and Lace Plum Babydoll Set | Beanstalk Mums](https://d3f650ayx9w00n.cloudfront.net/940/57734-20.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d32653) ***Buy from:** [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d32653)* ### [Two-piece Relaxed Fit Satin Cami And Short Set](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fsleepwear%2ftwopiece-relaxed-fit-satin-cami-and-short-set--s%2f218522%2f977%2f) Sexy sleepwear doesn’t have to be over the top racy. Just look at this fabulous satin cami and short set from Adult Toy Megastore. The demure blush pink satin and black lace combo is seductive, but the full coverage and relaxed fit make it perfect for all-day lounging. [![Two-piece Relaxed Fit Satin Cami And Short Set | Sexy Sleepwear | Beanstalk Mums](https://atmsc.azureedge.net/prod-five/218522_0.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fsleepwear%2ftwopiece-relaxed-fit-satin-cami-and-short-set--s%2f218522%2f977%2f) ***Buy from:** [Adult Toy Megastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2flingerie%2fsleepwear%2ftwopiece-relaxed-fit-satin-cami-and-short-set--s%2f218522%2f977%2f)* ## Gorgeous sexy nightwear to buy online in Australia (cont.) ### [ASOS Satin Animal Jacquard PJ Set](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=37863&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.asos.com%2Fau%2Fasos-design%2Fasos-design-mix-and-match-satin-animal-jacquard-pyjama-shirt-in-dusty-rose%2Fprd%2F20847789%3Faffid%3D26502%26_cclid%3DGoogle_CjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26channelref%3Dproduct%2Bsearch%26mk%3Dabc%26ppcadref%3D12374925799%257c115839508697%257cpla-294682000766%26gclid%3DCjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26gclsrc%3Daw.ds) Have the comfiest sleep ever in this ASOS satin PJ set with subtle animal print. It’s a lightweight all-in-one for summer and great for loungewear. The plunging neckline and cheeky shorts make it sensuous and snuggly at the same time! [![ASOS Satin Animal Jacquard PJ Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Asos-satin-animal-jacquard-pj-set.avif "Asos satin animal jacquard pj set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=37863&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.asos.com%2Fau%2Fasos-design%2Fasos-design-mix-and-match-satin-animal-jacquard-pyjama-shirt-in-dusty-rose%2Fprd%2F20847789%3Faffid%3D26502%26_cclid%3DGoogle_CjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26channelref%3Dproduct%2Bsearch%26mk%3Dabc%26ppcadref%3D12374925799%257c115839508697%257cpla-294682000766%26gclid%3DCjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26gclsrc%3Daw.ds)Asos satin animal jacquard pj set ***Buy from:*** [*ASOS*](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=37863&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.asos.com%2Fau%2Fasos-design%2Fasos-design-mix-and-match-satin-animal-jacquard-pyjama-shirt-in-dusty-rose%2Fprd%2F20847789%3Faffid%3D26502%26_cclid%3DGoogle_CjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26channelref%3Dproduct%2Bsearch%26mk%3Dabc%26ppcadref%3D12374925799%257c115839508697%257cpla-294682000766%26gclid%3DCjwKCAjwj42UBhAAEiwACIhADmk9KMxovfpgo6ddWgc2paNUk31fkSP3AaE6jKIL7sZv4FHFh7QLahoCGroQAvD_BwE%26gclsrc%3Daw.ds) ### [Black Cropped Camisole with Shorts](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f232267%2fintimate-detail-black-cropped-camisole-with-shorts) Classic black and white, plunging neck, cropped bra top…we love everything about this cami set from Wild Secrets. Get ready to roar in the silky jersey fabric with delicate lace detailing and deep v-neck. This is sexy sleepwear at its most stunning. [![Black Cropped Cami Shorts | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://media.exciteonlineservices.com.au/products/STME/l2066stme/large_1.jpg?v=202205170534)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f232267%2fintimate-detail-black-cropped-camisole-with-shorts) ***Buy from:*** [*Wild Secrets*](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f232267%2fintimate-detail-black-cropped-camisole-with-shorts) ### [Tani Short Slip Nude](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/42884?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bravalingerie.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ftani-short-slip-nude%3F_pos%3D5%26_sid%3D8db00ee2d%26_ss%3Dr%26variant%3D40891508162722) For when you want to look extra sultry, there’s this slim nightgown from Brava D Cup & Up. Distract your lover with this sleepwear that reveals just the right amount of skin. The relaxed fit flatters all body types. [![Tani Short Slip Nude](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Tani-short-slip-nude-612x800.webp "Tani short slip nude - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/42884?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bravalingerie.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ftani-short-slip-nude%3F_pos%3D5%26_sid%3D8db00ee2d%26_ss%3Dr%26variant%3D40891508162722)Tani short slip nude ***Buy from:*** [Brava Lingerie](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/42884?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bravalingerie.com.au%2Fproducts%2Ftani-short-slip-nude%3F_pos%3D5%26_sid%3D8db00ee2d%26_ss%3Dr%26variant%3D40891508162722) ### [Siesta Chemise](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/55525?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bendonlingerie.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fchemise-bodysuits%2Fproducts%2Fbendon-siesta-chemise-fantasy-fuchsia-70-2083s) Strut your stuff in a sexy burgundy chemise that hugs your figure. This sizzling number is the next level in luxe loungewear, featuring a floral lace applique design, spaghetti straps and a deep V-neck to flaunt your assets. [![Siesta Chemise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Siesta-chemise-640x800.webp "Siesta chemise - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/55525?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bendonlingerie.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fchemise-bodysuits%2Fproducts%2Fbendon-siesta-chemise-fantasy-fuchsia-70-2083s)Siesta chemise ***Buy from:*** [Brava Lingerie](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/55525?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bendonlingerie.com.au%2Fcollections%2Fchemise-bodysuits%2Fproducts%2Fbendon-siesta-chemise-fantasy-fuchsia-70-2083s) ### [Love Parade Sleep Top and Thong](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f233620%2flove-parade-2-pce-sleep-top-with-lace-thong) Feeling sweet and flirty? We recommend the Love Parade sleep top and lace thong from Wild Secrets. The heart-printed fabric feels super comfy and the relaxed fit flatters all sizes and body types. The cheeky lace thong and plunging back add seduction to an otherwise full-coverage design. ![Sexy Sleepwear | Love Parade Sleep Top | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://media.exciteonlineservices.com.au/products/ESL/l2952esl/large_1.jpg?v=202202090936) ***Buy from:*** [*Wild Secrets*](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f233620%2flove-parade-2-pce-sleep-top-with-lace-thong) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Got your sleepwear sorted but need to update the undies drawer? Read this: [Sexy lingerie outfits you won’t feel a complete fool in](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sexy-lingerie-outfits/). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/sleepwear2.png "sleepwear2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-sleepwear-to-buy-online-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sexy-sleepwear-to-buy-online-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Shopping **Tags:** dating, nightwear, babydoll, pyjamas --- ### [Christmas earrings: Our pick of the cutest we could find](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-earrings/) **Published:** September 30, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Calling all festive fashion enthusiasts! ‘Tis the season to be jolly, and what better way to spread holiday cheer than by adorning your ears with some Christmas-themed bling? As a self-proclaimed connoisseur of all things quirky and sparkly, I embarked on a merry mission to hunt down the cutest, most delightful Christmas earrings that the internet has to offer. After countless hours of scrutinising, I’ve curated a collection of Christmas earrings that’ll make you the star of every gathering. From dangling snowmen to twinkling Christmas trees, this article is your one-stop guide to accessorising your ears with holiday spirit. ***Further reading: [20 Secret Santa gift ideas for under $50.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/secret-santa-gift-ideas/)*** ## Gingerbread men These Christmas earrings aren’t just cute, but they also look scrumptious! I have to say these are my absolute favourites. The design isn’t too flashy so you can easily match it to any outfit. Be careful not to drop them on the dessert table, though, someone might mistake them for real gingerbread man cookies! ![Gingerbread men | Christmas earrings](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h4d/h50/45382142754846.jpg)I found these at [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/VmgGj6) ## Reindeer jumpers I must say, wearing these red and glittery Christmas earrings feels like having a little holiday party by my ears! My daughter also has a pair of these and she wears them every Christmas Day. They’re charming and whimsical, the perfect companion for anyone who loves to spread cheer and smiles wherever they go. ![Reindeer jumpers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/image.png "image - Beanstalk Mums") I found these at [Shein](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fm.shein.com%2Fau%2F1pair-Christmas-Reindeer-Red-Sweater-Design-Earrings-For-Women-p-22500188-cat-1757.html%3FmallCode%3D1%26imgRatio%3D3-4%26showFeedbackRec%3D1) ## Candy canes Oh, how I adore these sweet candy cane Christmas earrings! They’re a delightful reminder of holiday treats. They bring a playful and sugary vibe to all the parties I go to every year. If you have a sweet tooth and love joyful accessories as much as I do, these are a holiday must-have! ![Candy canes | Christmas earrings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Candy_Canes-Christmas-earrings.png "Candy_Canes-Christmas-earrings - Beanstalk Mums") I found these at Etsy ## Green bows These lovely green bow earrings are like little Christmas presents for your ears! I love how they add a pop of colour and a dash of holiday spirit to any look. If I were to wear these lovely Christmas earrings, I’d pair them with a red and green outfit. But feel free to mix and match however you want! ![Green bows](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Green_bows.png "Green_bows - Beanstalk Mums") I found these at [Wish](https://www.wish.com/~/home-goods/christmas-earrings/product/634d500ed394d9f699cf9946?campaign_id=19817108764&retargeting=true&exclude_install=true&gclid=CjwKCAjw38SoBhB6EiwA8EQVLu9uyhT_mqwqtQqUpw6gHjEpZkBZZ57fUQCxewEoM0A8Z4xCWLAqWxoCOgAQAvD_BwE&hide_login_modal=true&source=browse_page&position=5&irclickid=2DaT2tRO8xyNR-S2C4QOe328UkFRpxVpcQ78T80&utm_source=Impact&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=singlemums99%40&utm_term=1253070&utm_content=&from_ad=Online%20Tracking%20Link&irgwc=1) ## Holographic Christmas trees These holographic Christmas tree earrings are a shimmering dream! They light up any room with their colourful sparkle, making you the centre of attention at every holiday gathering. Whether you wear them during the day or at night, these accessories are a cheery delight for those who love to shine and share the Christmas sparkle! ![Holographic Christmas trees | Christmas earrings](https://i.etsystatic.com/31928221/r/il/f201cb/3506889066/il_794xN.3506889066_8719.jpg) I found these at Etsy ## Christmas wreaths Who said Christmas wreaths only work as ornaments? Wearing these fab earrings will prove them wrong! Putting on these ear candies will feel like surrounding yourself with the warmth and joy of the holiday season. They whisper sweet tales of holiday gatherings and cheerful celebrations. For anyone who loves to carry the Christmas spirit with them, these are a charming pick, and I absolutely adore them! ![Christmas wreaths](https://assets.kogan.com/images/yuenzmall/YZM-TSN230915-17450627/1-81f2952f6b-86fd6356-e47a-4125-ab2c-88ba66f5a992.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=75&width=753) I found these at [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9g2Xj4) ## Cute koalas If you’ll be spending the holidays overseas, wearing these cute koala earrings is like carrying a slice of home wherever you go! Aside from bringing a touch of Australian charm to the season, they are also an adorable addition to any outfit. I find them irresistibly cute and perfect for anyone who loves a dash of wilderness in their wardrobe! ![Cute koalas | Christmas earrings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/image-1.png "image-1 - Beanstalk Mums") I found these at [Shein](https://fave.co/3Zl0aFy) ## Antler studs I’m enchanted by the subtle elegance of these antler studs! I bet you are, too! They’re a sophisticated nod to this cheery season, allowing you to carry the Christmas spirit with style. They’re ideal for those who prefer their holiday accessories to be chic and understated, yet full of festive charm! ![Antler studs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/dqhbyi1692854507907-600x800.webp "dqhbyi1692854507907 - Beanstalk Mums") I found these at [Light in the Box](https://www.lightinthebox.com/search?q=earrings&query_type=1 "Light in the Box") ## Jolly as f-ck I can’t help but chuckle at these bold and cheeky Jolly as f\*ck earrings! They’re a fun, irreverent way to express holiday cheer and are sure to be a conversation starter at any holiday gathering. Perfect for those with a sense of humour who love to spread joy in a unique way! ![Jolly as f-ck](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/P8wAAOSwc9hfkR8l/s-l960.webp) I found these at [Ebay](https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/154154750197?chn=ps&_ul=AU&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&siteid=15&campid=5338549815&customid=&toolid=10001) ## My final thoughts In a nutshell, Christmas earrings are the cheeky secret weapon for holiday cheer. From gingerbread men that could fool the cookie jar to reindeer jumpers that turn your ears into a party zone, they’re the accessory you never knew you needed. Candy canes? Sweet nostalgia on your lobes. Green bows? Instantly upgrade any outfit with a festive twist. Holographic Christmas trees? You’ll outshine the Christmas lights. Christmas wreaths? They’re like a warm holiday hug for your ears. Even if you’re jet-setting away, the cute koalas will make you feel right at home. Antler studs? Elegance meets reindeer chic. And for the Harry Potter fans, we’ve got earrings that’ll charm any wizard or witch. But wait, there’s more! If you’re feeling bold, go for the Jolly as f\*ck earrings – they’re the life of the party. So, let your ears join the festive fiesta and spread holiday giggles wherever you go. Merry Christmas, and may your ears be the talk of the town this season! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-earrings/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-earrings/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas --- ### [10 Indulgent sex toys to treat yourself this Valentine’s Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/10-indulgent-sex-toys-to-treat-yourself-this-valentines-day/) **Published:** October 31, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Who said Valentine’s Day was for couples only? Us single women can have just as much fun … independently. Valentine’s Day is all about luuurve. And there is nothing more important than loving YOURSELF in every way. For that reason, I’ve scoured the [best online adult shops](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/) and found some gorgeous sex toys to treat yourself this Valentine’s Day. Go on ladies, have some fun. ## 10 INDULGENT SEX TOYS TO TREAT YOURSELF THIS VALENTINE’S DAY ### [1. We-Vibe Jive App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/love-eggs-jiggle-balls/vibrating-love-eggs/p/we-vibe-jive-app-controlled-rechargeable-love-egg-vibrator/a38915g82227.html?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_content=trello.com&utm_campaign=59558&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=3cc747f53d984c7597d90903a3a0c9ef) Spoil yourself this Valentine’s Day with a sensual vibrating egg. The Love Egg features eight patterns of waves and pulses and 12 levels of intensity that you can easily adjust with a remote control (works from eight feet away). I used to love the Desire model until I discover this We-Vibe. 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And we all know that love comes in many different forms. We love our partners (if you have one, I don’t) but we also love our kids, our friends, our families, our pets and that huge bar of chocolate in the fridge … but most importantly we love ourselves. And if you don’t, it’s about time you started! So if you are lacking on the partner front, don’t let that stop you celebrating Valentine’s Day. Instead, shower yourself with love (and a little gift) to remind yourself how amazing you are. Get inspiration and ideas from my list of Valentine’s Day gifts to get for yourself. ## Valentine’s Day gifts to get for yourself because you bloody deserve it ## Breakfast in bed My favourite gift on this list of Valentines gifts to get yourself: breakfast in bed! It’s nice to wake up on Valentine’s Day to a tray of goodies prepared by someone else. But as a single mum, you can still have your romantic breakfast spread by giving yourself a foldable bed tray. 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If you haven’t noticed, the 15 ideas I’ve listed in this guide are things you will get for yourself or the house anyway. You shouldn’t have to wait for February 14 to give yourself the tender loving care you so deserve. But receiving something special on Valentine’s Day still feels good. Getting it delivered on this special day allows you to become a lot more excited instead of feeling lonely on Valentine’s. I’m sure you can think of more options for Valentines gifts to get yourself. The best thing about getting yourself a gift is that you’re sure to like it. (Except, in my case, skydiving, but at least I can finally cross it off my bucket list.) Extra points if you have your gift ordered and paid for ahead of Valentine’s Day. Not worrying about paying for it (and thinking you could’ve spent it on something else) allows you to truly indulge in your gift. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-gifts-get-yourself/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-gifts-get-yourself/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day **Tags:** Presents, self care, self love, valentine's --- ### [Microchipping pets: Everything you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/microchipping-and-pet-proofing/) **Published:** July 4, 2023 **Author:** Jess Guilfoyle **Content:** The panic of losing a pet is heartbreaking for pet owners and a traumatic experience for the lost animal. Yet hundreds of Aussie pets each year become homeless or end up in pounds, where it is estimated that up to 200,000 pets are euthanised yearly. To me, that thought is unbearable and is the reason that microchipping pets is essential. When I decided to microchip my beloved dog, Honey, I was initially unsure about the procedure. However, after researching and consulting with my vet, I realised how crucial it was for her safety. Seeing Honey’s chip being inserted was quick and painless, phew! The peace of mind that came with microchipping became evident when Honey accidentally slipped out of our backyard one day. She went missing for three long hours, but thanks to her microchip, we were quickly reunited. The joy and relief I felt cannot be overstated. By sharing my journey, I hope to highlight the benefits and ease any concerns you may have about microchipping your pets. 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Not fond of dogs and cats? Fret not, because you can also microchip horses, rabbits, birds, ferrets, tortoises, and snakes. ## The importance of getting your pet microchipped Admittedly, I was hesitant to have my dog, Honey, get microchipped. But after researching the pros and cons, I decided that the procedure offers far more benefits than risks. For starters, microchipping cats and dogs is mandatory here in Australia. All cats and dogs must be microchipped before a sale or adoption. It’s a prerequisite to your pet’s registration in the national pet database. In fact, failure to have your pet undergo the procedure may result in a penalty of up to $880. Yikes! Microchipping also improves the chances of finding lost pets. The vet can scan the microchip and contact the manufacturer to inform you of your furry friend’s whereabouts. And third, microchipping helps prevent overcrowding in rescue shelters. By ensuring that your pet does not end up in a shelter and contribute to its overcrowding, you are helping prevent euthanasia. ## The procedure for inserting the microchip ### Take your pet to the vet Microchipping is done as early as 8 weeks. Only a registered veterinarian or an authorised implanter who has received training can perform microchipping procedures. ### The vet implants the microchip The vet inserts the microchip into the loose skin between your pet’s shoulder blades using a special syringe. This is usually done in a few seconds and requires no surgery or anaesthesia. The procedure is relatively painless, and your beloved pet feels almost nothing. ### Perform a test scan After implanting the microchip, the vet should test if the microchip works as intended. The scan should reveal the unique PID number. ### Register your pet Make sure that the procedure is registered with the chip manufacturer. Provide complete and accurate details, as the benefits of microchipping rely on the information you give. If you’re worried about data privacy, rest assured that random persons cannot access the information you have shared with the manufacturer’s registry. They will also contact you only when your pet is found. ### Monitor your pet for adverse reactions to the microchip In rare cases, pets may react negatively to the microchip. Keep on the lookout for signs of inflammation or infection, and report any adverse reaction to the vet. ### Have the microchip scanned every year Although microchips last a lifetime, you want to have it scanned regularly to ensure it works properly. This also checks if the chip is in its original place. Sometimes, the microchip moves to another part of the body. This usually happens in animals that are really active or have loose skin. A microchip travelling is not a cause for alarm. ## What to do if you change address Two years ago, I made a temporary work-related move to Victoria and took my dog with me. The vet was at a conference then, but I easily found the manufacturer’s contact details in the microchip paperwork. I quickly identified the database Honey’s microchip is registered with and amended the details for free. While microchipping your cat or dog takes mere seconds, it is not a one-and-done deal. The microchip manufacturer can only reach you using your contact information. So, if you can’t be reached using your old contact details, your pet’s microchip is, well, practically useless. You also change the details in the registry when transferring your pet to a new owner. You don’t need to replace the microchip, but the contact details in the database have to be updated. Note that neither the vet nor the animal organisation can access our contact details on the database. It’s our responsibility as pet owners to reach out to the microchip manufacturer and update our pet’s records. ## How to know if your newly adopted pet is microchipped There’s a very great chance that your pet is already microchipped when you adopt it. After all, Australian laws mandate breeders and animal organisations to microchip all cats and dogs as early as 8 weeks. You will usually find these records in your pet’s paperwork. If you’re unsure whether your pet has been microchipped, head to your nearest vet clinic or animal welfare organisation to have your furry friend scanned. ## Final words on microchipping pets If you’re still thinking about whether you will microchip your cat or dog, I’m here to tell you it’s worth it. Microchipping offers a better chance to reunite with a missing pet, something every loving cat or dog owner will appreciate. But microchipping is more than just a reliable method to find your pet. It is also required by law of every Aussie fur parent. Although laws mandate all cats and dogs to be microchipped before getting sold or adopted, it is best if you still check with the vet to see if your pet still needs the procedure. Thankfully, this non-invasive procedure is completed in only a few seconds with virtually no risk to your beloved pet. Microchips last forever, and the only thing you have to do is ensure your contact information is always updated. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/microchipping-and-pet-proofing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/microchipping-and-pet-proofing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** pet safety, pet tags, new pet --- ### [6 Sensible tips to stop you worrying about your divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/stop-worrying-about-your-divorce/) **Published:** August 10, 2022 **Author:** Christine Weston **Content:** Like it or not, there’s a brutal truth about getting divorced that some people refuse to accept: You have no control over how your ex feels about the breakup or how they behave, and you cannot control all of the things that are changing in your life. Remember, breaking-up requires a [grieving process](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/). I see people in my capacity as a *divorce coach and mediator* who do not like the hand they have been dealt. Admittedly, for some, it’s a pretty rubbish hand, and if I were in their position, I too would want to throw it back and insist on a re-deal. Unfortunately, when at least one party has decided to call time on the relationship, a new hand of cards to work with is seldom an option. Generally speaking, it’s the people who’ve been dealt the shoddiest hand, who seem more able to quickly recognise they have limited options and focus their energy on what they have left to work with, rather than what they have lost. In stark contrast, there’s another type of person who struggles to move forward and doesn’t have the [*skills to overcome their overwhelm and anxiety*](https://www.divorceresource.com.au/resources/in-the-news/how-combat-overwhelm-and-anxiety-attacks)*.* Again, generally speaking, these people have choices. Their financial futures will change but still be relatively secure, they have their health, can spend time with their children, and although their ex may not be their most favourite person, with the healing of time there is a good chance their relationship will become ‘tolerable’. Even with all of these things stacked in their favour, this person carries a tremendous amount of stress and worry. Almost always, their circumstances are nowhere near as daunting as they imagined them to be. Until they learn the skills to stop worrying and start working towards creating their future, worry creates problems that do not need to exist. Paralysed by fear, they stall on making decisions, which in turn creates more issues for them. Perhaps there is something in the expression ‘spoilt for choice’, in that the luxury of choice might make decisions more difficult. What I notice most about this worrying type of person, (and I recognise it so clearly because it was me too), is that rather than focus on what they still have, they focus on what they are losing; namely, they focus on the loss of control in some form or other. You cannot retain control over all aspects of separation. Things must change. Even if you maintain the status quo, the other person’s behaviour often forces change and you will be affected by default. You cannot control the other person’s feelings or actions. If you resist this truth, you run the risk of running yourself into a bitter control freak trying to right the wrongs and claw back control. ## HOW TO STAY CALM DURING YOUR SEPARATION ### Determine what you can control When you find yourself worrying, take a step back from your circumstances and examine the things you do have control over. What could you change for the better if you applied yourself? You can’t control the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails. Sometimes, all that you have control over is your attitude. You can’t control someone else’s actions, but you can always control how you react. When you focus your energy on identifying and dealing with the things you can control, you’ll be more effective and ultimately happier. Once you identify what you can do, take the steps to put your plan into action. You will most likely find this also frees up a lot of your time. ### Focus your influence You can’t always force things to go your way or force other people to behave how you think they should, but you may be able to influence people and circumstances to some extent in your favour. So, while you can plan a good holiday itinerary, you can’t always make the travellers enjoy it. The best way to gain influence is to focus on changing *your* behaviour. Be a good role model. Set healthy boundaries for yourself, especially if you are a parent. Make time to seek out laughter and fun, especially when you are least feeling like it. When you have concerns about your ex’s choices, you might consider sharing your opinion, but only share it once. Your relationship has broken down, which is a fair indicator that you and your ex are not communicating very well, and you are perhaps the least likely person they want to take counsel from right now. If you do have the opportunity to share and they are willing to listen, when you have made your point, stop talking. Better still, unless there is a risk to you or another person, resist the urge to make your point in the first place. Focus your influence on healing yourself and providing support to your children if you are a parent. ### Identify your fears What are you afraid will happen? Ask yourself; what is it that I fear? Are you predicting a disastrous outcome? Do you doubt your ability to cope without your partner either financially, emotionally or as a parent? Try to the extend that thought; let’s say you are right to be fearful of inevitable negative outcomes, then what is the worst that could happen? Usually, the worst-case scenario isn’t as catastrophic as you might imagine. There’s a good chance you’re more resilient than you think. And, I am almost certain that your children will take their lead from you and they will surprise you with their ability to cope with change if you present a calm front. Sometimes we are so busy thinking things like, ‘I can’t cope if I have to sell the family home,’ that we don’t take the time to ask ourselves, ‘What will I do if I have to sell the family home?’ Perhaps there are alternatives you had not considered that might be better for you both emotionally and financially. List the options, get information and do your research about possible paths forward and the pros and cons. Yes! Believe it, there will be pros. Identifying the worst-case scenario helps you plan strategically. Identifying what can happen helps to accept that there may be undesirable outcomes but also that you have a plan to minimise the impact and the knowledge that you will survive. When you have a plan, you will be better able to put your energy into focussing on moving forward with your new life instead of getting stuck in bitterness, resentment or fear. ### Differentiate between ruminating and problem-solving Replaying negative conversations and scenarios in your head or imagining disastrous outcomes over and over again, isn’t helpful, but solving a problem is. Ask yourself whether your thought processes are productive. Are your thoughts actively working towards solving a problem? Are you trying to find alternatives and ways to increase your chances of success or are you just replaying the same story of gloom and doom and etching your pain deeper and deeper with every viewing? Try to keep your thinking focused on brainstorming and refining solutions. If you find yourself wasting energy ruminating and rerunning the same old movie in your head, you need to find a way to short circuit your thoughts; to switch channels and watch a different movie. Acknowledge that your thoughts aren’t helpful, and physically move to do something else, an activity you engage in to get your brain to shift its focus on to something more positive or productive. ### Create a plan to manage your stress We all know we should, but it’s so easy not to do the basics of self-care when we are consumed with worry; eating healthy meals, [exercising regularly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/), and [getting plenty of sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/). Do whatever it takes to manage your stress levels so that you can function more efficiently, make the decisions that need to be made and keep yourself future focussed. If you don’t, you can very quickly get yourself into a downward flat spin. Find healthy stress relievers like [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/), an enjoyable hobby or spending time with friends or family. Actively stop yourself from engaging in unhealthy coping activities like drinking too much or staying in bed during the day. Be aware that no one, just no one, is as interested in your divorce as you are and stop complaining to others. Every time you tell someone else of your woe, you are reinforcing it to yourself which only adds to your stress. Seriously, just stop it! It’s tedious, and if you persist, you run the risk of losing valuable supporters as they tire of the emotional drain that spending time with you and your constant complaining places on them. ### Develop healthy affirmations Find quotes and phrases that work for you to help remind you to either calm down or kick your own backside into action. Place them around your home, car, office and other places where they will act as constant reminders. I have three favourites. The first is what I remind myself when I feel worry creeping in: > *‘Like all things, both good and bad, this too shall pass.’* When I need to spur myself into action I rely on; > ‘*Don’t keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.’* And > *‘Life rewards action’.* ***Further resources: [100 Mantras for mums to help you make it through the day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Worrying-about-divorce-1.png "Worrying about divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/stop-worrying-about-your-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/stop-worrying-about-your-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Divorce **Tags:** divorce, separation, Australian divorce, life after divorce --- ### [Parenting through separation: Tips from someone who's been there](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parenting-through-separation/) **Published:** June 7, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Just being a mother can be hard. There’s no training, no rulebook, no practice runs. But navigating the murky waters of divorce is another challenge altogether. And I’m not talking settlements and spouse support. I’m talking about the children involved. How do we ensure their little lives are relatively unaffected? There’s no doubt about it … parenting through separation can be an emotional and mental minefield. Every situation is different. Each divorce has its own mixture of emotion and pain. Each child their own coping mechanisms. Each mother her own survival kit. And, as a mother, however hard you try, it’s natural to experience tidal waves of worry, guilt and doubt. But, as with everything, there is a bright side. According to [Kids Health](https://kidshealth.org/): > ‘Every divorce will affect the kids involved. And many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids also can come out of it better able to cope with stress. And many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.’ So how can we help our children whilst parenting through separation … and keep our sanity intact at the same time. ## 1. Beware of innocent ears It’s easy to become complacent about our children hearing the unpleasantries of divorce. Whether it’s arguments or a discussion over custody, they simply don’t need to hear it. Even if you’re having a good moan to a friend, make sure innocent ears aren’t in the vicinity. Hearing blame and negativity can cause [anxiety for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/). Witnessing discontent between the two people they love is very upsetting. ## 2. Remember routines and create new ones The [power of a good routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/good-routine/) in a child’s life is huge, especially when parenting through separation. Yet, with divorce come changes that tilt their little words off axis. [Living between two houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) can be complex but try to continue with as many routines as possible. As well as that, create new routines to help them feel stable and secure. And remember, as per [Help Guide](http://www.helpguide.org/): > ‘Maintaining routine also means continuing to observe rules, rewards and discipline with your children. Resist the temptation to spoil kids during a divorce by not enforcing limits or allowing them to break rules.’ ## 3. Don’t disapprove of dad Whether intentional or not, if you diss Dad, you are not doing yourself any favours. Whatever the reason for the separation, he’s still their Dad, and for this reason, you must show respect towards him. It can be extremely hard at times but you must allow your children to form their own opinions. Even be careful discussing your ex with a friend. You might be tempted to off-load your issues, but if your children are listening, it is you they will view negatively. When helping your children cope with divorce this is one of the most positive things you can do. ## 4. Put them in the picture While you must censor what your children hear, you must also talk to them. This is a top tip for parenting through separation. When you have decided to separate, [tell your children about your separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/). Plan how to do it sensitively and leave any bitterness and remorse at the door. Then keep them in the picture. Speak to them regularly and explain what’s happening. Give them a chance to talk and ask questions. They need as much preparation and guidance as you can give. Let them know, yes things are changing and will be different, but you have it under control. Most importantly, let them know it’s not their fault and that you love them. ## 5. Allow their feelings to flow When parenting through separation it’s important to encourage your children to address their emotions. They may try to hide them as they don’t want to make the situation worse. Whether it’s a heart-to-heart, a good rant or a shoulder to cry on, let them know their feelings are natural and it’s OK to express them. It’s all too easy for us to dismiss their feelings with phrases like ‘don’t be upset’ or there’s ‘no need to cry’. Allow them to display their feelings and be there for them. ## 6. Look after No.1 (that is you btw) It is a mothers instinct to protect her children, and parenting through separation will heighten this instinct. Yet, in order to protect and nurture we must be in a good place too. How can we encourage optimism if we are pessimistic? How can we raise our children’s spirits if we are down? Children will feed on their parents emotions and moods. We are their instinctive role models. For this reason, make sure you concentrate on yourself so you are better prepared to care for your children. ## 7. Reach for resources for parenting through separation With one in three marriages in Australia ending in divorce, there are a huge array of resources available to reach for. Therefore, if you find yourself struggling, help is at hand! There’s a great range of [books to help children cope with divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-brilliant-books-to-help-your-children-cope-with-separation-and-divorce/) aimed at all age groups. And the Internet will always deliver with age-appropriate websites. Try Kids Turn or [I Am A Child Of Divorce](http://iamachildofdivorce.com/). Or look outside the box and consider a [memory jar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/) or a [meditation/anti-anxiety app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/). ## 8. Love is all you need Children need to feel loved in order to thrive in all areas of life. Divorce can bring confusion to their little minds and the result can leave them questioning themselves and whether they are loved enough. Consequently, it is your job to put their minds at ease constantly. Tell them you love them in as many different ways as you can. Pop a note in their packed lunch box telling them you love them. Serve their dinner in a love heart design. Or, if they have a phone, text some love hearts. If the love is clear and unconditional they will feel stronger and cope better. ## 9. Bring out the actor within I’m not saying you should sugarcoat everything for your children. Parenting through separation requires honesty and respect. However there are times when a heartfelt smile and some happy vibes can go a long way … even if you don’t feel in the mood. At change-over or a school award ceremony, make sure you have your happy hat on. If it’s hard, try deep breathing or [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) to get you through. Remember, you don’t have to be openly hostile for them to sense bitter undercurrents. ## 10. Clear and consistent parenting Co-parenting can be difficult territory. Not just for the parents but for children too. As a result, getting it to run smoothly can take effort, patience and a lot of tongue biting. It’s important to establish a routine that works long-term for everybody. Children adapt easily to change if it’s controlled and realistic. Most importantly, establish rules with your ex early on and stick to them, even if he chooses not too. There are some fabulous [co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-apps-for-calm-and-controlled-parenting/) available that help with organisation and consistency. ## Final words: Parenting through separation Parenting through separation is a challenging journey that requires patience, understanding, and open communication. While the dissolution of a relationship can be emotionally difficult for both parents, the well-being and best interests of the children should always be at the forefront of your mind. Whatever your circumstance. Whether you are learning how to co-parent, [parallel parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/), or solo parent, you will find the strength to continue being the very best parent you can be. Try not to focus on what could have been. Instead, put your positive energy into creating a nurturing environment where your children can thrive. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parenting-through-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parenting-through-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** parenting, Children of divorce, co parenting, discipline, shared care, behaviour --- ### [Menopause: Signs and symptoms (and how to deal with them)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-symptoms/) **Published:** July 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Menopause is one challenging phase in our lives … to put it mildly! It’s the time when women officially bid adieu to their menstrual periods and step into a new chapter. For this reason, knowing what symptoms of menopause can be treated with supplements is super important. While hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has been the traditional option, I wanted to explore more natural and non-hormonal alternatives. It turns out there are some wonderfully life-enhancing supplements available to help alleviate menopausal symptoms without the potential risks that come with HRT. In this article, I list down various supplements for managing menopausal symptoms … because we all deserve to feel comfortable and happy in our bodies, whatever stage of life we are at. So, let’s explore the options available to ease the discomfort of menopause. ## **What symptoms of menopause can be treated with supplements?** There are plenty of ways supplements can help us navigate the changes that come with perimenopause and menopause. While many supplements take a one-size-fits-all approach, it’s important to listen to your own body and figure out what it needs. 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Factors like genetics, medical treatments (such as chemotherapy), or surgeries that remove the ovaries can also induce menopause. Premature or early menopause refers to menopause occurring before the age of 40. As the ovaries produce fewer hormones, menstrual cycles become irregular and eventually stop, marking the end of a woman’s reproductive years. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/1000012940-1066x800.jpg "1000012940 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **What is hormone therapy?** Hormone therapy (HT) is a way to help women manage the changes that come with menopause by replacing the hormones their bodies no longer produce. It’s commonly used to ease symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and vaginal dryness. HT comes in different forms, such as pills, patches, gels, and creams. Many women find that it greatly improves their quality of life. However, it’s important to talk with a healthcare provider about the potential risks and benefits, as HT isn’t the best option for everyone and may have side effects or increase the risk of some health issues. ## **Summary: Menopause management** Menopause is a pain in the bum. However, the right supplements can help manage the symptoms. It’s important to seek professional medical help when necessary. Remember, menopause may come with its share of challenges, but it’s also a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human body. Menopause happens to everyone assigned female at birth, yet how we experience menopause varies greatly. Years after menopause, you might even look back and take pride in your strength and adaptability. It may be difficult at first, but know that you’re not alone and that this change brings you closer to a new, empowered version of yourself. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-symptoms/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-symptoms/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping --- ### [Can Stress-Related Hair Loss Be Treated With Shampoo?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/can-stress-related-hair-loss-be-treated-with-shampoo/) **Published:** November 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Stress has a way of showing up where you least expect it—including your hairbrush and shower drain. It’s frustrating to notice more strands falling out daily, especially after a period of emotional ups and downs. [Hair loss](https://trybello.com/blogs/news/hair-loss-vs-balding-signs-treatment-for-regrowth) can be one of the most visible signs that your body’s been under pressure, and it often takes more than a quick fix to turn things around. For many, the search for a solution can feel endless, with dozens of shampoos promising miracles that rarely deliver. If you’ve found yourself wondering if a bottle can really make a difference, you’re in the right place for answers driven by real science and dermatologist insight. ## What Is Stress-Related Hair Loss? When daily stress or a life event becomes overwhelming, hair follicles can respond by moving into a resting phase. Telogen effluvium—this is the clinical term—leads to increased shedding across the scalp. Unlike some forms of hair loss that create patches, stress-related thinning tends to be diffuse, with hair density simply seeming lighter overall.​ - Telogen effluvium has a sudden onset, often weeks or months after the stressful period.​ - The process is usually temporary; once stress is addressed, hair tends to recover and regrow within several months. - Many experience heightened anxiety as the hair thins, making it even more difficult to manage daily pressures.​ It’s important to recognise that stress isn’t only emotional. Physical challenges, illness, or major transitions can trigger the same cycle. ## How Stress Triggers Hair Loss The body’s stress response is complex. It begins with increased production of cortisol—the hormone that prepares the body to deal with challenges. Elevated cortisol can disrupt the balance in scalp follicles. - More hair enters the “resting” phase, so fewer are actively growing at any time. - High cortisol may diminish nutrient delivery to the scalp, inhibiting new hair formation.​ - Long-term stress can trigger inflammatory cascades that weaken roots and slow regrowth. Beyond the scalp, stress affects overall health, so factors like poor diet, lack of sleep, and inactivity can amplify its impact. Many find that new hair feels fine, brittle, or slow to return, causing real distress. ## Can Shampoo Really Treat Stress-Related Hair Loss? ![hair loss](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-karola-g-7320791-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-7320791 - Beanstalk Mums") Dozens of brands now promise stronger hair, less shedding, and even regrowth—all by switching shampoo. Some claims are rooted in science, but most are exaggerated. Here’s what’s actually supported by clinical evidence: ## Where Shampoo Can Help - Formulas with caffeine or adenosine may boost follicle activity, leading to denser growth with consistent use.​ - Anti-inflammatory and antifungal ingredients such as ketoconazole or zinc pyrithione are useful for managing scalp health, an essential foundation for hair regrowth.​ - Antioxidants, including select botanical extracts, help shield scalp cells from “oxidative stress,” a known contributor to hair loss during emotional upheaval.​ ## Where Shampoo Falls Short - No shampoo can solve chronic [stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-deal-with-mum-anxiety/ "stress") or restore dead follicles.​ - Products that claim instant regrowth or a total solution are not supported by science. - Medical treatments, like minoxidil or prescription options, play an important role in persistent or severe shedding.​ Here’s a research-backed table outlining which ingredients work and how: | Ingredient | Action | Supported by Science | Typical Result | |---|---|---|---| | Caffeine | Boosts growth, reduces shedding | Yes | Thicker appearance, less loss | | Adenosine | Strengthens hair shaft | Yes | Silkier, stronger feel | | Ketoconazole | Strengthens the hair shaft | Yes | Calmer scalp, gradual gains | | Zinc Pyrithione | Combats flakes, calms irritation | Yes | Healthier scalp, less breakage | | Botanicals | Calm/soothe scalp | Mixed | Gentle care, modest support | ## Common Myths vs. Facts: Stress Hair Loss and Shampoo A flood of information online makes it hard to know what truly helps. The table below keeps things simple and debunks the most repeated claims. | Myth | Fact | |---|---| | Most shampoos can cure hair loss if used regularly | Stress-driven shedding always means permanent loss | | Only selected ingredients help; most shampoos simply cleanse​ | Most cases resolve as stress improves, hair regrows​ | | Expensive products equal better results | Ingredient science, not price, determines effectiveness​ | | ‘Natural’ automatically means safer or gentler | Only lab testing and tolerance confirm product safety​ | | Medication is always necessary for stress- related loss | Diet, routines, and topical care resolve most cases​ | ## Beyond Shampoo: Holistic Strategies for Recovery Supporting your hair’s resilience calls for a full-body approach. Here’s what experts advise, in addition to careful shampoo selection: - Nourish the body with protein, iron, vitamins A, C, and D, plus hydration.​ - Stress management through mindfulness, exercise, or professional support when needed.​ - Sleep hygiene helps natural repair processes, including hair cycles, stay on track. - Gentle scalp massages support blood flow and comfort without harming fragile, regrowing hairs.​ - Medical help is useful if shedding persists past six months or worries you. The return to thicker, fuller hair comes gradually. Some days bring more hope than others—persistence pays off. ## Introducing Kadura Solution ![hair loss](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-karola-g-5241044-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-5241044 - Beanstalk Mums") Finding real answers for hair health is tough with so many options out there. Kadura stands apart by focusing on ingredient transparency and the science behind every formula. The line offers shampoos crafted by dermatologists, using proven actives like caffeine and adenosine for better results over time. - Each formula ditches harsh chemicals in favour of soothing, gentle support perfect for anyone going through stress-related shedding.​ - Scalp-calming botanicals and carefully balanced surfactants mean even sensitive scalps find comfort and confidence. - Third-party batch testing ensures only effective, precisely measured ingredients reach your hair. Customers often share stories of less visible shedding, improved scalp comfort, and a renewed sense of control after using [Kadura’s shampoo for women’s hair loss](https://kadurabeauty.com.au/products/root-revival-shampoo-with-kakadu-plum-and-guarana "Kadura’s shampoo for women's hair loss") on a regular basis. Honest results, thoughtfully delivered—that’s the promise that keeps people coming back. ## Expert Advice: Dermatologists Weigh In Leading voices in dermatology remind us that hair growth rarely has a single solution:​ - Giving a new shampoo 2–3 months is important for a fair trial.​ - Caffeine, adenosine, and antifungal actives are the best-documented choices on shelves today.​ - Anxiety about hair loss itself can worsen the process, so support for mental well-being is always recommended. - Be careful of grand claims online—scientific research and clinical evidence are the best guides. ## Final Thoughts and Next Steps Stress doesn’t have to mean permanent loss. Treating scalp and hair kindly, supporting overall wellness, and making smart choices about shampoo help recovery happen at its own pace. A little patience, a little science, and a little kindness—these go a long way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/can-stress-related-hair-loss-be-treated-with-shampoo/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/can-stress-related-hair-loss-be-treated-with-shampoo/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Brain health: How single mums can stay on top of the game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/brain-health-how-single-mums-can-stay-on-top-of-the-game/) **Published:** April 30, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a single mum is no walk in the park. Irregular sleeping hours, finding quality child care and financial challenges all take a toll on us solo parents. If you have stopped working or dropped back to part time, you might feel your brain doesn’t get a lot of action and you don’t need to look after it as much. This is not the case! Brain health is essential for all mother’s as it helps us stay mentally sharp, manage stress, retain information, and model healthy behaviours for our children. In this article, I talk about the facts around having a healthy brain as a mum, alongside how to keep your brain in the game! ## Why is brain health so important for mothers? ## Mental clarity and focus There is no job in the world where you have to multitask like a mother. So, if you think your brain can take a break during motherhood, think again. Now is the time that you need absolute clarity and focus. The process of cooking dinner, changing a nappy AND helping with homework all at the same time requires a healthy, alert brain. And not just for the time it takes to do an average work day. Our mum-days require 12 hours+ of switched on brain power to get ourselves and our children through in one piece. ## Emotional regulation (mental health) As a mum, you are in charge of guiding your child through everyday situational and interpersonal challenges. Things can get frustrating, and depending on their stage of development and their mood, some days can be more intense than others. Children can be stubborn, defiant, sneaky, or combative. They will learn to argue, say no, disobey, and physically express their frustration. Other times, you can also feel left out of your social circle because of how much you perceive motherhood has consumed you. There are days that you a feel a little distant from your partner because of fatigue, work, household, and parenthood concerns all combined. When these things happen, it is our job as mums to stay level-headed, to continue being kind towards ourselves, and be rational about our next steps. It’s easy to become angry or to get carried away by our emotions. But, remember, your words, actions, and reactions can have a lasting effect on your child. You determine whether they learn something in a positive way or they walk from that situation with new fears and wounds. Ensuring your brain health will make it possible for you to regulate your emotions, to be more thoughtful with your words and actions, and to avoid making rash and emotional decisions. ## Memory and learning When we choose the right formula or supplements for our babies, we always consider, what will potentially help him to become smarter. We even study up on the nutrients that will develop their brains at a much better rate. We must also regard our own brains with the same thougtfulness. As a mum, you want to absorb and retain all the information that will help you raise your child in the best way possible. Take care of your brain so learning will come easy to you and you don’t have a lot of foggy mum brain moments. You are in an important position as your child’s primary provider, educator, carer, and protector. Take care of your cognitive health and sharpen your memory. Besides, you wouldn’t want to forget the amazing moments and milestones of your child as you both grow older. ## Modelling healthy behaviours Aside from making sure that your brain helps you function well as an individual, you also have to remember that your behaviours resulting from the state of your brain health is something that your children will observe and emulate. Aside from making sure that your brain helps you function well as an individual, your children will observe and emulate your behaviours resulting from the state of your brain health. Are you quick to anger, or do you become avoidant during stressful situations? Don’t be surprised if your kids eventually exhibit these behaviours. Are you someone who stays physically and socially active, and has a healthy habit of reading books during your free time? Then expect your kids to copy you. Both your brain-healthy habits and the benefits you glean from them are things that you want your children to take after you. Be a good role model to them so taking care of their brain health becomes a natural part of their daily habits. ## What life habits can I adopt to ensure my brain stays healthy ## Do regular exercise You might not [link exercise to brain health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/exercise-and-mental-health/), but it plays a crucial role. Exercise increases blood flow to the brain, which pushes oxygen and nutrients to brain cells. This helps with cognitive function and memory. Plus, it timulates neuroplasticity, which is the brain’s ability to change and adapt in response to new experiences … this also assists memory. Just think no more forgotten items on the way out the door! On top of that, exercise increases the production of BDNF, a protein that supports the growth and survival of brain cells. Higher levels of BDNF have been associated with improved cognitive function and a reduced risk of cognitive decline. So [make time for exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/) mums. It will make you feel good and make your life easier. ## Eat a healthy, balanced diet There is nothing wrong with the occasional Macca’s; we’ve all had days when we scarfed a huge burger in the quiet of our bedroom to fix our slump. It’s worth knowing that a good diet can improve brain health by balancing blood sugar levels, improving blood flow, and reducing inflammation. Alongside proper nutrition, incorporating some of the [best brain supplements](https://www.cogniultra.com/blogs/nutrition/best-supplements-for-brain-health "best brain supplements") can further support cognitive function, focus, and mental clarity. Are they enough reasons to swap the burger for the Buddha Bowl? Get the right balance of protein, carb, fat, and fibre intake to ensure healthy brain and bodily functions. Eat mostly direct sources of food. Unprocessed meat and fish, organic eggs, fresh vegetables and fruits, and whole grain-based carbs are excellent choices to make sure that you are feeding your brain right. Additionally, staying hydrated is essential for optimal cognitive performance. Consider incorporating nutrient-rich beverages like herbal teas, fresh fruit-infused water, or nourishing homemade broths. If you’re looking to support your well-being further, you might also explore various wellness practices, such as mindfulness meditation, regular exercise, and adequate sleep. You can also explore [Myers IV Vancouver](https://driphydration.com/coverage-areas/canada/vancouver/), or in any other location, which has gained attention for its potential benefits ## Take brain fuelling supplements Sometimes, even with the right calories and seemingly perfect meal plans, we still don’t get all the vitamins and amino acids we need for our brains. This is where brain supplements come in. So many local health companies have been developing and producing amazing supplements that can support our brain health. Supplements and superfoods such as B vitamins, theanine, omega-3, vitamin E, and ginkgo biloba are now affordable and readily available to us. My go-to is Kissed Earth’s Brain Elixir with potent, high-quality natural ingredients that boost your brain to improve mental clarity and focus. Pop it in a morning coffee or smoothie and away you go. [![Kissed Earth's Brain Elixir](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Screenshot-2023-05-01-at-7.31.01-am.png "Screenshot 2023-05-01 at 7.31.01 am - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=46496&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fkissedearth.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fbrain-elixir%3Fvariant%3D17021426303047) ## Be mentally active Your brain health is dependent on how you use it. Subjecting your brain to healthy processes and productive synapses encourages it to further process information and to avoid big stressors. Boost your brain health as a mum with activities that continue to develop your brain functions. Reading is always a good idea. It keeps your imagination and reasoning active. Whether you prefer self-development books or fiction, push yourself to consume literature during your free time. Brain games are also a great idea. Sudoku, chess, Wordle, Scrabble, and other games that require active thinking are a fantastic way to kick back and enjoy while you give your neurons a good workout. ## Get plenty of sleep Wonderfully, our brains remain active while we sleep. Only in a slightly different way. [Good sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/) sets the stage for our brain to form and maintain neural pathways and to clean out toxins that have built up in our brain while we were awake. Sleep is such an important tool and process for our brain and bodily health, daily. It affects every type of tissue and system in our bodies– from our brain, lungs, and heart to our metabolism, mood regulation, and immune function. Several sleep studies have proven that a chronic lack of sleep, or poor quality sleep, increases our risk for various disorders including hypertension, diabetes, and mental illnesses. ## Stay socially engaged And not only through social media! Mindless scrolling does not develop our interpersonal intelligence nor does it allow our brains to boost our communication and reasoning skills. As a mum, you need to socialise from time to time (with the right people!) to keep your brain healthy. Having a [good group of friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/importance-making-friends-motherhood/) gives you a healthy space to exchange ideas and engage in fun activities that, in-turn, boosts your serotonin. Meeting new people at a skill learning venue (language or painting lessons, anyone?) will also help you strengthen your memory and nurture your creativity. Now is the time to get social in order to exercise your brain and show up as your happiest and smartest self for your kids. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/brain-health-how-single-mums-can-stay-on-top-of-the-game/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/brain-health-how-single-mums-can-stay-on-top-of-the-game/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** exercise, brain health, sleep, nutrition, mental health --- ### [The Ultimate Guide to Fun Easter Activities for Adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-easter-activities-for-adults/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Who said having fun on Easter is only for kids? If your little one is spending the holiday with your co-parent this year, why not host an Easter party? Hunting for eggs isn’t just for kiddos; there are plenty of creative ideas to make it a blast for adults, too! A simple gathering with friends, a backyard dinner with friends and family, or a bunny-themed costume party will be super special with these fun Easter activities I’ve got in store! From fancy dress-ups to mocktails and silly dares, there are endless ways to spice things up! I hosted a masquerade brunch three years ago, and it was hands-down one of the most fun parties I’ve ever thrown! Now it’s time to relive some childhood nostalgia! ## **7 Fun Easter Activities for Adults** ## **1. Glow-in-the-Dark Easter Egg Hunt** Who says Easter egg hunts have to be during the day? A glow-in-the-dark egg hunt is an exciting way to keep the fun going after sunset. Use glow sticks inside plastic eggs or purchase pre-made glowing eggs online. Hand out flashlights, turn off the lights, and watch as your guests scramble to find the glowing treasures. Adding a prize of your choice for the winner will make the competition even more thrilling. It can be a one-hour massage gift certificate or a goody bag, just make sure to reward the winner! ## **2. Bunny Hop Relay Race** Gather your friends for a hilarious bunny hop relay race! Split into teams, and have each participant wear [bunny ears](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/easter-bunny-ears "bunny ears") while hopping to a designated point and back—no running allowed! To make it extra challenging, add obstacles like hula hoops to jump through or marbles to balance on a spoon. The first team to finish wins a special prize. This silly, energetic activity guarantees laughter and a workout disguised as fun. ![fun Easter activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/7aed3592-b953-4c73-ad1e-73845667b528-1066x800.jpg "7aed3592-b953-4c73-ad1e-73845667b528 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Easter Bottle Toss** Turn Easter into a bottle-tossing showdown! Arrange empty bottles in a triangle (like bowling pins) and assign different point values. Players take turns tossing small rings, trying to land them around the containers. To spice things up, use coloured drinks as prizes. Up the stakes by playing for sips of your favourite beverages. Whether you’re competing for candy, drinks, or bragging rights, this activity brings out everyone’s playful side. It’s perfect for those who love games with a competitive twist! ## **4. Dye & Sip Party (Plus Mini Games)** Here’s one I want to try this year! Combine creativity and mocktails with an Easter egg dye & sip party! Set up an art station with vibrant colours, metallic paints, and glitter. Give your guests hard-boiled eggs to adorn while sipping on themed drinks like pastel-coloured mocktails. Get artsy with intricate patterns or funny messages, then vote on the best masterpiece. As you craft, you can play mini-games like doing a dare every time someone makes a mess! ## **Fun Easter Activities for Adults (cont.)** ## **5. Making an Easter Basket** Why stop at just an egg hunt? Creating themed Easter baskets for your guests is a fantastic way to spice up the party. Consider making a “self-care” basket with scented candles and bath bombs. A “movie night” hamper with popcorn, candy, and a streaming service gift card is another great idea. For the foodie in your group, assemble a [gourmet Easter basket](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/easter-delight-hamper "gourmet Easter basket") filled with specialty cheeses, wines, and artisanal sweets. These baskets make for great prizes and add an extra layer of excitement to the event. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/2cdd2963-7543-47b2-9c52-0360b83f7e3c-1066x800.jpg "2cdd2963-7543-47b2-9c52-0360b83f7e3c - Beanstalk Mums") ## **6. Fancy Sunday Best Dress-Up** Encourage your guests to dress in their Easter Sunday best! Whether it’s pastel suits, floral dresses, or even full bunny costumes, dressing up adds an extra element of fun to the celebration. You can even give out an award for the most fabulous outfit. Whether they go elegant or over-the-top hilarious, having a dress code makes the event feel extra special. ## **7. Jelly Treats and Chocolate Delights** Easter celebration won’t be complete without delicious treats! Alongside your classic chocolate eggs, consider making a festive dessert like a bunny-shaped cake or homemade Easter cookies. If you want to get extra creative, try a DIY candy-making station where guests can dip treats in chocolate and add toppings like sprinkles, crushed cookies, or nuts. Or you can make them boozy for a little grown-up twist! This is an easy way to make sure everyone leaves with a sweet memory of the day! ![fun Easter activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/654fe742-5d99-4912-b8d1-f87e01b404c3-1066x800.jpg "654fe742-5d99-4912-b8d1-f87e01b404c3 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts: Festive and Fun Easter Ideas** There’s no use getting pouty if your kiddo won’t be with you this holiday. Turn this opportunity to [bond with friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/shower-your-friends-with-love-how-to-celebrate-friendship/ "bond with friends") and have some well-deserved fun! I promise that doing all the preparation for the party will take your mind off things! Easter isn’t just for kids, after all. With the right mix of creativity and planning, you can turn your celebration into an unforgettable experience. Fill those eggs with lottery tickets or goofy dares. Set the scene with festive decorations, and maybe even add a mimosa bar for good measure. Want to keep things interesting? Toss in some riddles, themed prizes, or a few prize-worthy challenges to spark a little friendly competition. And don’t forget the dress code—encourage your guests to show up in their best costumes for an extra layer of fun. No matter how you do it, the most important thing is to make it a day filled with laughter, good company, and just the right amount of mischief. Now, grab those eggs, pour yourself a drink, and get ready for an egg-cellent time. Happy Easter! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-easter-activities-for-adults/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-easter-activities-for-adults/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter **Tags:** Easter egg hunt, Easter bunny, Good Friday, Easter Monday, long weekend --- ### [5 Surprising facts about dividing assets after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-after-separation/) **Published:** September 18, 2023 **Author:** Belinda Eldridge **Content:** Like with many aspects of a marriage or partnership breakdown, when it comes to dividing assets after separation, it can be confusing. This isn’t helped by the many myths and assumptions that surround it. When dividing assets after separation, the first thing you need to do is *get the facts*. So many people who separate find themselves overwhelmed with well-meaning advice. This advice comes from close friends, family, and others who have separated or divorced. The critical thing to remember is that all separations are different. What worked for one separated couple might not be the best way forward for you and your family. My advice is to keep an open mind. It’s great to hear other people’s experiences because you can educate yourself and learn what *not to do*. But please don’t think that just because Penny from school pick-up used a kick-arse lawyer who screwed the pants off her ex, you must do this too. Huge mistakes can be made if you take non-expert advice. These mistakes might be costly and cause further conflict with your ex. Trust me, this is the last thing you want during your split. As a starting point, the following reveals the actuality around some of the most misinformed areas of your financial separation process. ## Facts about dividing assets after separation ## 1. You don’t need a lawyer to financially separate I can not stress this first point enough. The Hollywood movie phrase, ‘I’ll see you in court,’ is to blame for this misconception: The reality is, you *do not* need lawyers to separate or divorce. And the court is only required in the most complex cases where all other resolution fails. This is great news because not using lawyers is a less expensive way to separate, and you’ll have more money to divide. Can you and your ex-partner reach an agreement about parenting arrangements and/or your financial settlement? If so, you can formalise your agreement and make it legally binding by applying jointly to the [Family Court of Australia](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl) (“Family Court”) for consent orders. All of which can be done [without engaging a lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separating-doesnt-mean-need-lawyer/). The Family Court has to be satisfied that the agreement is just and equitable and/or in the best interests of the child/ren before it can make a consent order. They have specific methods to [divide assets in a family breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divide-assets-family-breakup/). Similarly, you can apply to the [Federal Court](https://www.fedcourt.gov.au/) for a divorce, either jointly with your ex-partner or on your own, and can do so without a lawyer. **Note:** Should you or your ex engage a lawyer, the other party will usually need a lawyer too. The result is two sets of lawyer fees, leaving a nasty dent in your asset pool. Don’t rush to hire lawyers. You may not need them. Think first about whether you can process your separation without them. Not only will it save money, but it might make your separation more amicable, too. ***Further reading: [Do I need a divorce lawyer for separation and divorce?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divorce-lawyer-separation/)*** ## 2. It doesn’t matter whose name assets are in Forget about the words: Mine and yours. As far as the law is concerned, everything within your marriage or partnership belongs to *both of you*. I get it! This is not the moment for ‘What’s mine is yours’. Especially as you are ready to split everything and walk away from your partner, however, it helps to start thinking this way. So, your car belongs to both of you. And his car … you get my drift. It’s yours too! It doesn’t matter in whose name assets are owned or debts are owed. Any assets owned or debts due by either party are assets and liabilities of the relationship. To this end, they must be considered and disclosed to the Family Court in a financial settlement. Don’t rush around the house, labelling what belongs. It’ll be a waste of time. Instead, work out what you both own and what it is worth. ## 3. All contributions are valued when dividing assets after separation Not only is this a common misconception, but it can often be a bone of contention. What is a contribution anyway? Let me explain. Most people consider a financial only. For this reason, it might interest you to know that *all* contributions made to the relationship or marriage are valued. Below, I list the Family Court of Australia contributions categories. You will see that some are more easily quantifiable than others, such as financial contributions. Whereas the non-financial contributions are harder to define. Having this knowledge when dividing assets after separation allows you to work towards a fair split sooner. ### Financial Contributions In Australian family law, financial contributions pertain to the monetary investments, such as: - Income - Savings - Assets brought into or acquired during a relationship. These financial inputs play a significant role in property division upon divorce or separation, ensuring a fair allocation of resources. ### Non-financial Contributions Non-financial contributions refer to the valuable, non-monetary efforts made in a relationship, such as: - Caregiving - Housework - Emotional support - Domestic responsibilities These contributions are considered when determining a fair distribution of assets and responsibilities after a relationship ends. ### Contributions as Homemaker or Parent Australian family law recognises the importance of homemaking and parenting roles. Contributions in these areas involve: - Creating a nurturing home environment - Raising and caring for children and ensuring their well-being These contributions are factored into property settlement and maintenance decisions. ## Surprising facts about dividing assets after separation (cont.) ## 4. Superannuation can be split during a financial settlement Next to the super implications of a property settlement. **Fun fact**: Each party’s superannuation balance is an asset that needs to be disclosed and considered in a financial settlement. Yes, as I mentioned earlier, in terms of a financial settlement, everything is owned by *both* you and your partner, even your superannuation. [Superannuation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/) balances can be split, and a portion can be transferred to the other party as part of a financial settlement. Nevertheless, superannuation must stay in the superannuation environment. For example, a husband can transfer a portion of his super to his wife as part of their property settlement. However, the wife cannot then withdraw her super balance in cash to use to fund a [property purchase](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-can-a-single-parent-buy-a-home/). These superannuation splitting laws apply to married or de facto couples in all States and Territories of Australia, except for de facto couples in Western Australia. To confirm, you and your ex-partner’s superannuation will be part of the asset pool to be split/shared if required. But remember, wherever it ends up, it must stay in a super account. ## 5. The current value of all assets and liabilities is required Keep reading, as my fifth and final point about dividing assets after separation is critical. If you are delaying your settlement, think again. The assets of the relationship are split when the financial settlement is completed. This can be a long time after the actual separation. Therefore, it is essential that the assets of the relationship are protected and preserved until the financial separation process is completed. The net asset pool must be valued when the financial settlement is lodged with the Family Court. The assets and liabilities of each party must be listed in the Application for Consent Orders at their current market value, being the market value when the application is lodged with the Family Court. **Note:** Often, couples are prepared to declare the value of their assets and liabilities at their separation date, but wish to keep their current financial position private (as of the date when their application is completed and lodged). However, the Family Court requires the current market value to be used, together with full and frank disclosure, so there is no getting around this. It is, therefore, advisable for couples to finalise their financial settlement as soon as is practicable after separation. Before making any significant financial decisions, be sure to understand what happens to [finances between separation and property settlement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finances-between-separation-and-property-settlement/). ## Final words: Facts about dividing assets after separation I have been through a separation with children and know how much there is to consider. It is understandable to feel confused and worried about what happens next. I suggest taking it slow and getting the facts. Next, you can decide on the best way forward for everyone involved. As I mentioned in my introduction, listen to advice from others, but don’t take it as gospel. While it might be correct and valid, it might not be suitable for you. There are experts who can help you and your ex to work through this difficult time. Mediators, [legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/), and lawyers are available. Many family law firms offer a free consultation in which you can get a basic understanding of a suitable path forward. Other experts will help you with decision-making and financial planning. I hope this article has provided you with some much-needed clarity and understanding. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-after-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-after-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** family court, property settlement, lawyer, super, contributions, assets, liabilities --- ### [6 Things I wish I’d done differently when I divorced](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/wish-done-differently-divorced/) **Published:** April 21, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If there is one life event we don’t pre-plan for, it’s divorce. The instructions got lost alongside the “how to parent” manual, leaving us flailing blindly through one of the most significant times of our lives. Challenging much. With my separation done and dusted many moons ago and my experience working full-time with single mums for the last five years, I have some advice for you. In fact, I have heaps! In this article, I’ve pinpointed the top six things I wish I’d done differently during this difficult period, in the hope of helping others to gain insight and learn from my mistakes. ## 6 Things I wish I’d done differently when I divorced ### I WISH I TOOK IT SLOWER Like many single mums, when my marriage finally ran its course, I couldn’t wait to get out. I had been living under a black cloud for years and was desperate to see the sunshine. However, once you actually split up, whether still living together or separately … take a breather. Getting to this point will have left you tired and emotionally drained, which is not a good headspace to start property settlements and parenting plans. We rushed our financial settlement through so we could “draw a line under it”. In doing this, we weren’t fully aware of the different options available to us for splitting assets and financial considerations moving forward. Here are the timelines you need to be aware of, as stated on [FamilyCourt.gov.au](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/property-and-finance/property-and-money-after-separation/): ***If you were married****, applications for property adjustment must be made within 12 months of your divorce becoming final.* ***If you were in a de facto relationship****, your applications for property adjustment must be made within 2 years of the breakdown of your de facto relationship.* So, if you are married, do your property settlement first in your own time, then divorce later. Even if you are de facto, you have a whole two years in which to finalise your financials. I am not saying you should wait that long, but don’t rush it. Allow yourself time to clear your head so you can work through the process with clarity and composure. ### I WISH I HAD GOT BETTER EDUCATED ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Study-single-mum-1-1200x800.jpg "Study single mum - Beanstalk Mums") Another reason to take your time is so that you can properly educate yourself before making any big, significant moves or decisions. I did not do this. Our separation was reasonably amicable, and we were able to find middle ground because we had the same views as to how we wanted to move forward, separately. While this is a good thing, it also meant we didn’t reach out for support and guidance, and ultimately weren’t properly informed about the options available to us. I will admit that the words “consent orders” never even came up in conversation. We each picked a lawyer who was recommended to us by mates and arranged a Financially Binding Agreement (FBA). Although that has worked for us, we could have hit a number of issues had things turned sour later. I shudder at the thought of how little we knew. My advice to you is to get yourself educated through a genuine source. This could be the afore-mentioned [FamilyCourt.gov.au](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/property-and-finance/property-and-money-after-separation/) website, a separation accountant, a family lawyer or a mediator. For further support, you can chat for free with either of our Expert Advisors on this website: Family law advice: [New Way Lawyers](https://www.newwaylawyers.com.au/) Financial separation advice: Divide – Simple Financial Separation ### I WISH I UNDERSTOOD THE IMPLICATIONS OF CHILD SUPPORT ![Paying bills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") If you have yet to get involved with [Child Support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/), take a moment to be grateful for your life without it. Yes, Child Support holds an important place in our society and helps to balance the cost of raising children for many separated couples. However, my advice to you is: Before you “sign up”, first stop and think about the implications. Without sharing too much of my personal story, I will tell you that my ex and I have been registered for child support for 9 years. In that time, it has caused me a world of worry, and I have never given or received a cent. It is not compulsory to register for child support when you separate. It is a myth that comes alongside the one about having to have your day in court. It is not for every separated couple and may cause you more hindrance than help. Before registering for child support, ask yourself these questions: - What actually is child support? - How would it work for us as a separated family? - What could happen as and when our circumstances change in the future? - Is dealing with child support going to put pressure on us as co-parents? For more thoughts around this, see: [8 Reasons why receiving child support might not be for me](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-child-support-might-not-be-right-for-you/). ## More things I wish I’d done differently when I divorced ### I WISH I WAS HONEST WITH OUR KIDS ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Beanstalk-single-mum-blog-features-2024-12-12t130412%20549.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") I cringe when I look back on the moment when we told our girls we were breaking up. It is not a moment I am proud of. We explained that we were separating, that it wasn’t their fault and that we both still loved them very much. So, we got some of it right anyway. But, we also gave them the impression it was kinda temporary, and we might get back together. Why did we do this? Because it was just too hard to be honest, and we were desperate not to upset them. Now in their teens, our eldest daughter has explained how confused she was at the time and how shocked she felt when we got divorced. I have apologised for the mess we made of telling them, and that I regret not having the guts to give them the whole truth. All I would say here is to be a better person than me. Be honest. They will thank you for it in the long run. For more advice around telling your children you are separating (because clearly, I am not the person to do this), see: [How do we tell our kids we are getting divorced?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/) ### I WISH I PUT MORE THOUGHT INTO THE FUTURE FOR OUR KIDS On my Facebook group, the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/), we have lots of questions asking what to include in a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/). This is a really sensible question, and one I didn’t give any thought to. As I say, we were amicable and completely uneducated about separation. Parenting plan? What’s that? For the most part, we managed without a parenting plan or consent orders, but there have been a few issues where having some pre-agreed guidelines would have been a godsend. As much as I love to brag about our good-natured breakup, we hit horrid conflict further into our co-parenting relationship around issues such as schooling and orthodontic work. My advice is that even if you are civil at the time of separation, make some form of parenting plan for your children’s future. Consider what may lie ahead for them in terms of schooling, college, moving home/area, medical issues and dentistry. If you can make decisions now that you document and stick to in the future, you are in for a smoother ride. ### I WISH I HAD TAKEN BETTER CARE OF MY MENTAL HEALTH This may sound cliché, and although this point is last on my list, it is super important. A family breakdown is incredibly stressful. Mine was relatively easy in comparison to most, but I came out of it drained and suffering from clinical depression, anxiety and addiction. More on coping with depression here: [How I manage my depression as a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/). I was your typical single mum holding everything together, putting on a brave face and watching my kids every second to make sure they were coping. On top of this, I was struggling financially, looking for work and dealing with a sense of failure and heartbreak. I had little support as my family lives on the other side of the world … but I fixed on a smile and kept going. And I made it through, but at great risk to my health. When your world feels as though it is falling apart, the last thing you feel like doing is heading to a yoga class and holding the downward dog position for three minutes. BUT it is one of the most valuable things you can do for yourself during separation. If you take care of your mental health, you will be much better placed to make sensible decisions based on clarity and reality. And most importantly, you will be a better mum at a time when your kids really need you. Life doesn’t stop when you separate. It is the beginning of a new way of life. Make sure you are strong and healthy so you can make the very most of it. ![6 Things I wish I’d done differently when I divorced | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/WIsh-done-differently-divorce.png "WIsh done differently divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/wish-done-differently-divorced/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/wish-done-differently-divorced/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Divorce **Tags:** separation, help, divorce support --- ### [Crucial tips for co parenting with a narcissistic ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/) **Published:** July 11, 2022 **Author:** Cherlyn Chong **Content:** Crucial tips for co-parenting with a narcissistic ex … Most people have absolutely no clue what it’s like to co-parent with a narcissistic ex-husband. They are the lucky ones. It’s definitely not a task for the faint of heart, and if it isn’t already difficult enough, there’s also the painful lack of support from disbelieving people who think the world of him. But it CAN be done. And not only that, but do this effectively, and you’ll truly be the mum that your kids will look up to and model their behaviour after. In this article, I’ll take you through suggestions and thought processes to help you navigate one of the hardest arts of all time … co-parenting with a narcissistic ex. ***Further reading: [Your ex is bad-mouthing you to the kids? Here’s what to do …](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bad-mouthing-to-kids/)*** ## THE FIRST TWO RULES OF CO PARENTING WITH A NARCISSISTIC EX There are two rules you must adhere to when co parenting with a narcissistic ex: - You must decide that you will no longer be subjected to his control - You must accept that you cannot co-parent with him The first rule cannot be stressed enough. A key reason why people fail is that they don’t determine that they have a goal to reach. Without committing to that mindset, people tend to engage in a lot of unnecessary pacifying and catering to manipulative behaviour that will only get worse with time. You must first determine that you will no longer be controlled, and then figure out the rest. The second rule seems counterproductive, but it’s simply the acceptance of reality. You can’t co-parent with a narcissist because the narcissist is not an emotionally intelligent partner who wants what’s best for everyone. He is his own person with his own agenda, and therefore, to preserve your sanity, you must put up rock-solid boundaries and change your behaviour in a way that serves YOU and the children, not him. You don’t co-parent with the narcissist; you simply share children with the narcissist. And with those two rules in mind, here’s how to navigate this tricky journey. ## Crucial tips for co-parenting with a narcissistic ex ### 1. GET THE BASICS DONE Hire a lawyer or other professional who is trained and experienced in [dark triad](https://bestpersonalitytests.com/dark-triad/) behaviour. Make sure a [Parenting Order](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) and any other legally enforceable agreements are put in place as soon as possible. This is a crucial step that too many people do not take seriously enough, until too late. Protect your children and do not delay. Getting the legal documents sorted out in black and white will give you much relief and leverage when your ex becomes difficult with the maintenance payments or with the children. Additionally, seek out legal counsel on what to expect if and when the ex decides to use the court system against you for his purposes. Being prepared can be one of the most effective tools in your arsenal right now … when you are co parenting with a narcissistic ex you may need them. ### 2. THE NARCISSIST DEALS IN ENERGY, SO NEVER GIVE HIM ANY People will tell you that there is no reasoning with the narcissist, and that’s true. However, what they usually miss out on is the reason why. The real reason is that narcissists deal in energy. They desire and crave for it. They are not interested in any sort of reasoning or logic. Both do not hold any weight in a narcissist’s world. You can’t win because of the very fact that you’re a logical, empathetic person. Their reality isn’t yours, and you’ll never fully understand it. You just have to accept it and redirect your energy elsewhere so that you can win in the long game. Accept that you and the children will be subjected to unfair, demeaning treatment that won’t make any sense at all. This doesn’t mean that you’re saying that this behaviour is OK, not at all, it’s understanding that there is a much bigger picture at stake here. Your children will likely be asked to relay distressing information or told untruths about you for no logical reason at all. This is a manipulation tactic known as triangulation. It’s done for the dual purposes of establishing control and creating conflict, leading to a reaction out of you (exactly what the narcissist wants) because it makes no sense to do this. The best way to be around your ex is to act like a robot. Be cold, unfeeling and as dull as a tin of metal. You can also visualise this as an energetic barrier; threats bounce off you while energy stays safe within you. In psychology terms, this is called [grey rocking](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/grey-rock-method-for-coparenting/). Minimise the face-to-face communication you have with the ex as well, and avoid talking to him on the phone if possible. An emotional voice tone and facial expression can be used against you, so be careful not to get tricked into meeting him, and ask friends or family to help out where possible. Set up a system where your only interaction is through email, text or a co-parenting app. And within that system, only talk about ‘business’, i.e. the children, their schedules, the mortgage, the loans, etc. Refuse to engage if the conversation becomes personal. There are co-parenting apps that allow you to add a third-party professional to your account. Meaning they can monitor your messages and pull up your ex on toxic behaviour. It might even encourage him to behave better in the first place. The best app I know for this is [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=). If you have to pass physical items or legal documents, one good way to minimise contact is to simply drop the items off in his mailbox or at his door when he is not in. Take a video as proof and a timestamp that you’ve dropped off the items, and send him a notification that you’ve done so. Better yet, send important documents through registered mail, so that he cannot claim that he didn’t get the mail because he’ll need to sign for it. If you react to their manipulations, you’ll supply the narcissist with fuel. You’re now a delightful source to draw energy from, and the abuse will get worse. So, whatever you do, you must protect your energy and deny the narcissist what he wants. ### 3. DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT Record any negative interactions with the narcissist frequently in an online journal or diary app that also dates the entry. Screenshot or save chat messages, email and other evidence of the narcissist’s behaviour right after you’ve experienced it. Install a recording app on your phone to record conversations where applicable, in accordance with the law where you live. Take pictures or video where possible as well. Save everything in a folder on your computer or phone with the date. Recording and documenting in such a manner will achieve two things when co parenting with a narcissistic ex: - Show others beyond a doubt that the narcissist’s toxic abuse is real, possibly to your children when they are old enough to comprehend such things - Being able to present substantial evidence in court should the need arise ## Crucial tips for co-parenting with a narcissistic ex (cont.) ### 4. ADOPT A MIND LIKE WATER It will pain you greatly to see the children being manipulated and, frequently in such cases, caught in the middle of your ex and his new partner. You might feel like a failure or feel powerless to prevent this. You might feel angry at how highly unfair everything is, and rightfully so. This is where adopting a mind like water will come in. Water doesn’t care that there are obstacles in front of it; it simply flows around it. Water doesn’t let anything stick to it; it moves forward no matter what. And you must do the same. Your real test will be when it comes to the children. You will dearly want to protect them and change what’s happening to them. You will want to speak out when the ex claims credit for their achievements. Remember, the ex wants you to engage. So, for the children’s sake, you must remain unshakable and maintain a quiet confidence that this will all pan out in the end. Respond, not react, by modelling behaviour for the children in positive ways. Focus on providing an environment where they feel safe, heard and validated. Allow them to see you at your strongest and praise them often. Of course, practice a great deal of self-care and [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) to bring you back to calm and a flow-like state. In time, your children will know which parent was the one who showed up for them and make their own conclusions. It can be hard to wait for them to reach this stage, but they will. Our kids are more intuitive than we realise. ### 5. REFRAIN FROM BADMOUTHING YOUR EX Sometimes this requires a Herculean effort, but no matter how much he might deserve it, do not badmouth your ex in front of the children. It will only backfire on you because it will hurt the child and supply your ex with ammunition to use against you later on. If you hear that the ex has made a belittling remark about you, simply change the topic to something lighter. If your child needs to talk about it, listen to what they have to say. You can even help your child reframe and understand their feelings better by being curious about what they think. Use phrases like ‘I see why you feel that way,’ ‘what does that mean to you?’ or ‘what do you think?’ to facilitate deeper thinking. All in all, you must understand that the battle cannot be won if you stoop to the same behaviour as your ex. Fighting fire with fire is useless here, so hold strong and persist. The narcissist will eventually lose interest in you and, by association, the children. You are unreliable as a consistent source of energy, and he will seek to obtain it somewhere else. ### 6. ALWAYS, ALWAYS GET HELP WHEN CO PARENTING WITH A NARCISSISTIC EX You won’t be able to do this alone. I repeat. You won’t be able to do this alone. You need an outlet to vent, to validate your emotions and just be normal for a while. And for that, you’ll need to be around a supportive community that understands. The kind of help you get needs to: - Ground you in reality - Be beneficial to you Only take advice from people who know exactly what it’s like, or from experts who specialise in dealing with the narcissistic behaviour. Be wary of friends who are well-meaning but just don’t get it. The rest is noise from people who don’t understand, likely causing you more distress. Surround yourself only with your tribe … your kind of people who will comfort you and validate your thoughts and feelings. If you are co-parenting with a narcissistic ex, it can be a long, bumpy road ahead, fraught with challenges that will test your limits. But again, hold firm, persist and deny the narcissist at every turn. Your patience and strength will pay off, and your family will be so much better for it. ### 7. STICK TO YOUR VALUES AND KNOW YOU CAN LOOK BACK AND BE PROUD There will be times when you feel like banging your head against a brick wall, or doing the same to your ex! These are frustrating times. Always remember your core values and stick to them. Having respect is really important. Even if your ex doesn’t show you respect, always show it to him, simply because it is the right thing to do. This way you can look back and know that in the midst of chaos, you stuck to your values and did what was right. This stage in your life will end, but you will always remember it. You want to look back and be proud of how you handled it. Not only that, your kids will be watching, and they will be proud of you for being the better person, however the other parent chooses to behave. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Coparenting-narc-ex-1.png "Coparenting narc ex - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** co parenting, narcissistic ex, narc, gray rock, mind like water --- ### [Divorce and children: Helping your kids with the changes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-and-children/) **Published:** March 20, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Divorce is a complex and emotional process that can be tough on children. This article discusses divorce and children, so you are fully armed to help them through this difficult time. Children may feel confused, scared, angry, or sad about the changes happening in their lives which they think they have no control over. As a parent, it’s essential to be there for them to provide support, both now and into the future. Here are some tips for helping your kids cope with the changes that come with divorce. ***Further reading: [Why every child needs a great support system.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/every-child-needs-great-support-system/)*** ## Keep routines and structure We all know that children thrive on routine and structure. In fact, adults do too! A good routine can provide stability and security during a time of upheaval. For this reason, try to maintain as much of their regular routine as possible, including: - Home routines such as meal time and bedtimes - Other activities like playgroup, school, and extracurricular activities - Relationships and time spent with friends and family outside the home The simple familiarity of the above will help them feel calm even when the ground is shifting beneath them. ***Further reading:*** [***Why routines help us and our children thrive.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/routines-help-children-thrive/) ## Be honest and age-appropriate It’s essential to be honest with your children about what’s happening and mindful of their age, understanding and emotional maturity. Explain your separation in an age-appropriate manner. This might include referring to other separated families that are part of your lives or using [books about separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childrens-books-divorce-separation/) to open the conversation. Most importantly, assure your children that both their parents still love them and that the divorce is not their fault. Oh, and be prepared to answer their questions the best way you know how. ## Encourage open communication Following on from the last point about talking to our kids, it can definitely help to encourage open communication … both ways. Let your children know it is OK to talk about their feelings and to express their emotions, however sad, angry or confused they might feel. Once they open up, you must be a good listener and validate their feelings, even if you disagree with them. Tell them it is OK to feel the way they do. Keep reassuring them that they are not alone and that you are there to support them and listen to them. ## Seek professional help if needed Divorce can be a traumatic experience for children. Don’t miss the red flags that your child is [not coping with your separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/child-struggling-separation-divorce/) and may need professional support. Such red flags include, but are not limited, to your child: - Struggling with emotions - Behaviour changes at home, child care, or school - Withdrawing from the world around them - Changes in sleep patterns - Lack of appetite If you notice any of the above or feel something is off, it might mean reaching outside the home for assistance. A therapist or counsellor could be the perfect person who is not mum, dad, or another family member invested in the separation. They can provide support and guidance for your child and help them develop coping skills for the future. ## Try to co-parent It is not always possible, but try working with your ex-partner to co-parent effectively. This means communicating clearly and respectfully and putting your children’s needs first. Co-parenting is complicated and involves many compromises, but it can ultimately provide your children with a more stable and positive environment. Create a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) or consent orders, so both parents (and the kids) know where they stand on everything from the day-to-day logistics to special occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, and school holidays. ## Avoid negative talk about your ex-partner Whether co-parenting, [parallel parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/) or solo parenting, it can be tempting to badmouth your ex-partner in front of your children. This is a huge no-no. It is harmful and confusing for children to hear a parent being bad-mouthed by anyone, especially the other parent. Remember, whatever happened in the past, that person is still their parent and a part of them, so by putting them down, your child may feel as though you are putting them down, too. They may also have been placed in the middle of your conflict, which is a very uncomfortable position for a child of divorce. Think before you speak to avoid negative talk or criticism of your ex-partner, and instead, focus on positive aspects of your relationship with your children. ## Help your children stay connected to their other parent Not only is it good not to put down the other parent, but you should go further and encourage your children to maintain a healthy relationship with their other parent, even if you are no longer together. Your children will thank you for this more than you know right now! Ways to be supportive of the connection with the other parent include: - Working with the other parent to make sure they can spend quality time with each of you - Being supportive of their time with the other parent - Let your child talk about their time spent with the other parent - Allow them to have photos and reminders of the other parent in their bedroom (possibly around the home) - Keep communication open with the other parent, even when your child is with you, allowing phone time, etc Only some of the above are possible, especially in high-conflict relationships or those with safety issues. However, if you try, it will help your child feel more secure and provide them with positive childhood memories. ## Provide consistency and predictability We’ve talked about keeping routines in place as much as possible. Also, try to provide as much consistency and predictability as possible in their worlds, as this can help your children feel secure and stable during a time of change. It can also help to ease the discomfort of possible [childhood anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/). This can include: - Consistent rules and consequences, - Predictable schedules and routines According to [Lakeside](https://lakesidelink.com/blog/importance-of-predictability/#:~:text=Predictability%20reduces%20stress%20because%20familiar,or%20around%20him%20or%20her.), children thrive on predictability. They say: *Predictability reduces stress because familiar patterns are calming to a child. Patterns do not require the child to wonder what is going to happen next or then to feel some level of anxiety in preparation for something unexpected to occur to or around him or her.* When you are considering divorce and children, there is never a time when kids need predictability and consistency in their lives more than now. ## Create new traditions, routines, and experiences While it’s essential to maintain some of the old routines and traditions, it’s also vital to create new ones that reflect your new single-parent family dynamic. Things like: - An annual family holiday or trip - New activities, like a new skate park; visit each week - A movie night - A different morning or bedtime routine - Showing your child how much you love them Be sure to make them fun for both you and your child. Not everything about a family separation is bad! Creating new routines can help your children adjust and create new positive memories. ## Take care of yourself Bottom of our list but one of the most important things to remember when dealing with divorce and children is to take care of yourself. This means both your physical and emotional health. It can be as simple as one or two self-care actions every day. They need not take long but will have a substantial positive impact. If you feel you cannot cope, please seek support. Book an appointment with your GP, call a local helpline or connect with a group supporting[ single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-single-mother/). You may not realise it, but by modelling healthy coping strategies and self-care, you set a positive example for your children. ***Further reading:*** [***107 Self-care ideas that cost you nothing.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) ## Conclusion: Divorce and children Divorce and separation is a challenging experience for everyone involved, especially for children. However, with the right tools and understanding, you can [parent through separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-through-separation/) so your children navigate the changes and emerge stronger on the other side with resilience and strength. Remember, every child copes with divorce differently and needs different forms of support. As a parent of a child of divorce, it is key to recognise that the impact of divorce on children may be felt for many years to come. With you as their guide, they will be just fine! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-and-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-and-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Kids and Separation **Tags:** Children of divorce --- ### [How to date with confidence and have fun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-with-confidence-and-have-fun/) **Published:** May 18, 2023 **Author:** Leah Sheppard **Content:** Dating is a tricky business; like trying to recreate a cake on Instagram, it has the potential for greatness, but often falls short of the dream. We want to date with confidence, but it all feels so nerve-racking. We get the courage to step back out there and try to find someone decent and caring to spend time with, but we end up with a bunch of strangers, who get waaay too familiar too fast and disappear at the slightest mention of ‘are we still meeting up tonight?’. Narcissists, bludgers and [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) – oh my! How are we supposed to find our Mark Darcy in a sea of Daniel Cleavers? And if we do find them, how do we stop ourselves from worrying they will hurt us as the last one did? Fear not, dear independent and empowered one! Dating doesn’t have to be a stressful endeavour full of wasted outfits and regret. You have the power to turn this ‘sitch’ into an opportunity for fun, excitement and the potential for longer-lasting love. All you need are the five R’s so you can date with confidence and have fun. ## How to date with confidence and have fun ### Recovery Have you ever tried going to the gym with the flu? Tried to clean the house with a hangover? Tried to help your kids with their homework when you’ve had zero sleep and an early start? It doesn’t feel the best, right? The same goes for relationships and the need to recover from past hurt. Going into a high-pressure situation like dating without coming from a position of strength means we don’t always make the best choices for ourselves long term, and instead choose the things that make us feel better in the moment. It also means we allow our fear of what happened to us in the past to cloud our view of potentially awesome people. If you want something to succeed, give it (and yourself) the best chance possible. You will know you are [ready to date](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ready-to-start-dating-again/) when you are prepared for the possibility that it might not work out. If not, do your homework first and get that recovery going! ### Respect ![Gift ideas for first date | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/gifts.jpg "Gift ideas for first date | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") In order to find the right person, respect is key – for ourselves, and for the other person. Respect is about knowing what you will and won’t accept going in, and sticking to it. It also means having realistic expectations of whoever we’re seeing, and what we hope to achieve by meeting them. Imagine expecting to find someone who is kind, caring, wears a suit, has a fat wallet, can cook, clean, build, won’t look at anyone else, has a flash car and a house in Byron Bay. Now imagine someone is expecting that of you; It’s A LOT of pressure. Don’t look for a saviour. Girl, you can manage just fine on your own! Instead, just understand that that person is just another ‘you’ looking to share part of their journey with someone. Date with confidence by paying for your own dinner, making your own way to (and from) dates and maintaining your power, but be open to new people and experiences! ### Relax Think of those times you’d go and hang out with your friend, get dinner, maybe some wine? You get to talk about all sorts of things, experience that new restaurant you’ve been wanting to go to, but you’re not too fussed if you don’t see them for a bit. This is EXACTLY the approach we should take with dating. Remember, you’re meeting someone new; you don’t know pretty much anything about them, and you need time to do that – so take the pressure off! If you really want to date with confidence, you could go so far as to prepare some [questions to ask on your first date!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/55-first-date-questions/) Often, we get caught up in what we hope someone will be, rather than who they are, and in doing so, we either get waaaaay too attached too early and scare them off, or we are bitterly disappointed they aren’t the person of our dreams. Dial the dreaming right down, and be present in the moment. It is just an opportunity to get to know someone more, and assuming there aren’t any complete red flags (i.e. they just made bail, and oops forgot their wallet on the way over), then relax into it. ## Final tips on how to date with confidence ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Dating-single-mothers.jpg "Dating single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Relish You are having a moment away from home where you don’t have to think about anything other than YOURSELF and WHAT YOU WANT! How cool is that! And as a complete bonus, it may include getting dressed up in something pretty, having a meal you didn’t have to cook yourself and spending some time with an adult person that just may be as awesome as you are. No kids, no housework, no grocery shopping; just you, a gorgeous, sexy, empowered woman looking to expand the portfolio of your amazing life. As a single mum, you will know that there are rarely opportunities to actually take a breather and enjoy the hell out of something for yourself, SO OWN IT! Relish that damn outing and swim in everything it has to offer you, partner or not! The end result of a date should always be enjoying the *moment*, whatever it may bring to you. ### Repeat As much as I would like to think that my annual trip to the gym would garner me the body of a Victoria’s Secret model, it needs ‘slightly’ more attempts than that. The same goes for dating. You are an individual in a world of more than 7.6 billion people, and I’m afraid to say that there may be one or two of them that won’t be the right fit for you. I know you hear the stories of a friend’s friend who met someone on Tinder, and they’re now married, etc., but that is the exception, NOT the rule. The reality is we are all unique, with different values, standards, desires and prioritising of punctuality. We need to understand that in such a big pool, there is bound to be a few misses along the way. Five bad dates in a row are not a sign from the universe, or an indication of love in general. [Dating is a numbers game](https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/head-games/201208/dating-why-it-really-is-numbers-game), and requires patience and persistence. That amazing someone is out there looking for you, too; just enjoy the process and don’t give up!!! ## My final word: How to date with confidence There you have it—your foolproof guide on how to date with confidence and have a blast! Remember, dating is not an Olympic event, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Embrace the awkward moments, laugh at your own jokes (even if no one else does), and always be yourself. Dating doesn’t have to be scary and disappointing. Just make sure you do the right preparation and have the right expectations going in. This is a time for new opportunities in your life, so own it and have fun. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-with-confidence-and-have-fun/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/how-to-date-with-confidence-and-have-fun/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating single mother, dating after divorce, dating tips, dating, single parent and dating, dating again, dating a single mum, single mum dating, dating after separation, dating single mum --- ### [Cheap yet life-changing Christmas gift ideas in 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/cheap-yet-life-changing-christmas-gift-ideas/) **Published:** October 4, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** With Christmas fast approaching, you may find yourself once again racking your brains for Christmas gift ideas for your friends and family. You want to get them something special. Something that shows you care. Something different … even a little out there. Don’t worry if your mind draws a blank. Whoever it is you are struggling to buy for, we have some great present ideas that won’t cost you the earth but could change a life, in a good way. These are gifts that show you have thought carefully about the lucky recipient. Not just a present for a moment’s enjoyment which gets flung to the side or used up in a day. Instead, these ideas will give your mates ways to change parts of their lives, for the better. They might help improve their bank balance, help them find love … or simply free up time and make their lives easy. Surely these make the best gifts of all! ***Further reading: [10 Beautiful, personalised Christmas gifts for kids. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/)*** ## The gift of financial freedom Who doesn’t want more money? If you have a friend who stresses about their financial situation, why not give them a resource to truly help them? [The Barefoot Investor](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/gVYV0) book is life-changing from the first chapter and a simple, understandable starting point for financial freedom. There are heaps of other brilliant finance books, including [The Richest Man In Babylon](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0451205367/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0451205367&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=250f9ba07f6b20240b11e37d7e75de85) and The Rules of Wealth. Just think: Your gift may have a positive impact on your friend’s financial future. The next round is on them. ## The gift of good health We all aspire to better health, but sometimes we need someone to kick-start the process. Be that person! Find a healthy challenge that your friend will like and sign them up. The [Healthy Mummy 28-Day Challenge](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f28-day-challenge-signup-2019%2f%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQjwjOrtBRCcARIsAEq4rW6-eTErMnbJkGr-12Pkv2VcQbjIjCRfl8fFZzI0BgFacQ2TbXC7jxoaAp7SEALw_wcB) is perfect for us busy mums and has a huge amount of extra free resources to benefit from. Why not take it a step further and join up too? Reaching goals is easier with another person so you will both benefit. The gift of health is a sign you really care, and lasts way longer than a box of chocolates. A brilliant life-changing Christmas gift idea. ## The gift of a new relationship OK, so it may be a tricky area, but some people need a gentle push in the right direction. If your friend needs to get out and meet people, give them a whirl on a decent dating app. [eHarmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) has a free sign-up but you could gift them a 3-month subscription to get them going. For many, ‘getting back out there’ is hard. So having the initial action taken out of their hands is a relief, and what do they have to lose, right? You never know, you might be buying a gift for an engagement party next. ## Life-changing Christmas gift ideas (cont.) ## The gift of self-improvement There’s always room for improvement in our lives, but rarely will we do anything about it unless someone makes it super-easy for us. There are heaps of personal development courses online to suit all lifestyles. Browse through Udemy and find the perfect course to give as a gift. Prices start from $5, and helpful reviews will ensure you don’t gift a dud. Try to choose one that is self-paced, so your friend can fit it into their life in such a way that works for them, and no excuses! Instead of giving a bottle of wine, which may provide instant gratification, give a course that will enhance their life long-term. Which one shows you really care? ## The gift of peace Peace and quiet in our fast-paced world is a rare gift … and one that you can easily give. Sign your friend up and pay a month on a meditation app. [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/buy/gift) allows you to gift a friend the value of your choice. Give them a trial of [Gaia](https://www.gaia.com/?utm_source=google+paid&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=gaia&utm_campaign=1-AUS-Brand-Gaia-Exact&utm_content=Gaia-Exact&ch=DimensionNotFound&gclid=CjwKCAiAiarfBRASEiwAw1tYvy5DqkiMAk-mqg-17EJ506XzHQeh-sAtN7rhcywTCpu5fOlAElD0QRoCS4EQAvD_BwE) (only 99c), so they can stream yoga and transformational videos. Or gift a book such as [Meditation Made Easy](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B000FC1V8I/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B000FC1V8I&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=cb127e44fc474278a1fcd26c88ac9e41%22%3eMeditation%20Made%20Easy%3c/a%3e%3cimg%20src=%22//ir-au.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=beanstalk0f-22&l=am2&o=36&a=B000FC1V8I%22%20width=%221%22%20height=%221%22%20border=%220%22%20alt=%22%22%20style=%22border:none%20!important;%20margin:0px%20!important;%22%20/%3e), which will teach them how to achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state. The gift of peace is truly golden. ## The gift of kitchen convenience Convenience equals an easier life. And shortcuts in the kitchen are welcomed with open arms. Treat your friend to a week of less shopping, less food prep and less cooking with the wonderful gift of a meal kit box. [EveryPlate](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) offers excellent value and great deals on first orders. Check out their websites to find the best specials available. Then organise to have this box of delights delivered to their doorstep, and you’ve just made your friends’ week easier, cheaper and tastier. You may even get an invite to dinner. Fingers-crossed. ## The gift of time Last on our list of cheap yet life-changing gift ideas: If there is one thing we all want more of in this crazy-busy world, it’s time. So gifting time to someone is really special. Organise some chores to be taken off your friend’s hands so they have more time for the activities they enjoy. You could do the chores yourself (or get your kids to do them!). Alternatively, head to [Groupon](https://www.groupon.com.au/vouchers/airtasker) and search for [Airtasker](https://www.airtasker.com/) coupons. They can hire someone to clean the house or tidy the garden while they relax or do whatever they please. You will be seriously in the good books for this perfect present. ## Final thoughts on cheap yet life-changing Christmas gift ideas We hope these ideas for cheap yet life-changing Christmas gift ideas have helped you think outside the box when gifting your friend or family member. Remember, gifts don’t have to be a physical ‘thing’. In fact, we all have so much stuff already. Sit quietly and think about the person you are buying for. What do they really want in their life that they don’t already have? How have they been feeling lately? How can you help them feel better or point their life in a direction they want to go in? It could be that one of our ideas is just the ticket. Or, they at least get you thinking on another track so you can find the absolutely perfect gift that means so much more than a bottle of wine or a box of chocolates. Happy shopping and happy life-changing. ***Further reading: [15 Christmas gift ideas for a newish boyfriend.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/cheap-yet-life-changing-christmas-gift-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/cheap-yet-life-changing-christmas-gift-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, gifts, friend --- ### [Solo travel with kids: 7 Ways to make it work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-strategies-solo-travel-with-kids/) **Published:** March 11, 2023 **Author:** Megan Maden **Content:** Today we’re discussing something near and dear to my heart: Solo travel with kids. Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Solo travel with kids? Are you crazy? That sounds like a recipe for disaster!” But as someone who travels A LOT with their kids (and survived to tell the tale), hear me out. Sure, there are challenges – from navigating airports with a stroller to finding kid-friendly activities – but there are also plenty of rewards. Travelling with kids is always exciting and brings a new adventure every day. So, if you’re considering taking the plunge and embarking on a solo trip with your kids, this article is for you. All my tips and advice are based on my experiences travelling with my two daughters from age two until their late teens. Now, it is no longer cool to holiday with mum! So buckle up, grab your passports, and let’s hit the road (or skies, or seas – you get the idea). ***Further reading: [Where to find holiday deals online with ways to save.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/holiday-deals-online/)*** ## GEAR UP FOR FLIGHTS If you’re flying with your little ones, it pays to be 100% prepared. This means packing everything you need for a fuss-free flight in your hand luggage, including: - Their favourite snacks and drinks - Entertainment in the form of tablets, phones, books, puzzles, and/or games - Comfort items such as their favourite cuddly toy or blanket - Medications for unexpected headaches, sore tummies, or travel sickness - A change of clothes (you never know!) - Pack plenty of diapers, wipes, formula, and baby food if you’re traveling with a baby. - Consider bringing a [lightweight travel stroller](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stroller-for-airplane-travel/) that you can easily fold and store in the overhead compartment (if the airline allows it) ***Further reading: [Light, compact travel strollers to buy in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/travel-strollers/)*** ## TRAVEL LIGHT Having just provided you with a long list of travel items, I will contradict myself and say to travel light. By this, I mean only take what you absolutely need. You will likely be carrying the entire family’s luggage, so you should keep the number of bags to a minimum. Limit the number of clothes and shoes to what’s required; layers are a good option, and one pair of shoes may be enough. You can share toiletries, and if laundry facilities are available at your destination, you can pack even less. ## GET THE LUGGAGE RIGHT Think carefully about what luggage you are allowed to take on each flight. Be sure to consider both size and weight. If your child is small enough to be travelling on your lap on the plane, they don’t get their own checked-in luggage allowance, so their things must be packed in your bag. If your children are older, get them a suitcase with wheels and encourage them to wheel it themselves. If your kids can’t or won’t carry their bags, then use an airport trolley, attach their bag to your suitcase, or pack them a smaller soft bag instead of a suitcase and it can sit on top of your suitcase so you can push them both together. If you avoid checked-in luggage for short journeys, it makes for a much easier trip. Instead, get a good quality carry-on luggage bag, and you will prevent a heap of waiting and queuing at both ends of your journey. Your children may like to carry one small carry-on bag, which is excellent as it means everything for their journey can be packed together, such as toys, games and snacks. For you, a backpack-style carry-on bag is a must! With a backpack, when travelling through airports or to a destination, your hands can help with and hold more essential things, like your kids’ hands or passports, tickets, money, shopping etc. ## PLAN AND BE PREPARED Choose a destination and accommodation that is child friendly. It will make things easier for you if there are exciting and engaging things for your kids to do. You may also meet other single-parent travellers you can connect with. Be organised regarding your travel insurance, documents, money and passports. Ideally, take a wallet to keep everything together and in order. Regarding travelling solo with kids, it pays to be extra safety conscience. Let a friend know where you are going and where you are staying during your time away. Ensure you always have your mobile phone and charger with you. A portable charger is great as your phone lets you stay connected from anywhere and is your best safety item. ## GET TRAVEL INSURANCE I always get travel insurance when travelling outside my home country, with or without kids. It makes sense to have the added protection and peace of mind should the unexpected crop up. When travelling with children, you never know what could happen, and even a minor accident or illness can quickly become a considerable expense without insurance coverage. Plus, if one of my kids gets sick or injured during our trip, it could mean a change of plans, extra costs, or even a trip back home. Travel insurance gives me peace of mind that I’m covered and my finances won’t take a hit if something goes wrong. My personal choice every time is [Covermore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/11003?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.covermore.com.au%2f). I have had to make a complex claim through with them and their level of service was very professional. ## GET INSPIRED FOR SINGLE MUM TRAVEL If your children are old enough to understand and get excited about travelling, talk to them before the trip about where you are going and how you will get there. This can help them know what to expect from the journey and get them excited about the trip. You can get inspired and motivated for your solo travel with kids by following single parent travellers on social media; read up, revel in and gain courage from their inspiring travel adventures. ## FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES When doing solo travel with kids, focus on the positives and make the most out of every experience. Sharing new experiences and creating lifelong memories with your kids is a priceless gift. Solo travel with kids can also allow you to bond with them in new ways and learn more about their interests and personalities. Try to approach each day with a positive attitude and an open mind, even when things don’t go to plan! Instead of dwelling on the challenges or setbacks, try to find the silver lining and make the most of every moment. Whether discovering a new favourite food or stumbling upon a hidden gem of a park, the joys of traveling with kids are often found in the small and unexpected moments. So now you see travelling solo with your kids is totally doable! So go on, book that trip and embrace the challenge knowing that the rewards are totally worth it! ## TAKE PHOTOS OF YOUR SOLO TRAVEL WITH KIDS It is too easy for single mums to miss perfect photo opportunities because we are too busy dealing with the practicalities of solo travel with kids. It is super important to get that camera or phone out and capture all the happy memories you are creating – and make sure you include yourself in the shots. Then, when you have the opportunity after the holiday, put together a photo book as a beautiful reminder of your holiday … and your fabulous achievement travelling with kids as a single parent. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-strategies-solo-travel-with-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-strategies-solo-travel-with-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [How to make positive change and live your best life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-positive-change/) **Published:** October 5, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Life can get crazy busy as a single mum. Just getting through the day-to-day is a challenge. Yet, for many of us there comes a time when we stop, take a breath and think ‘this is not enough for me’. If this is you, then you will love this podcast where I chat to the wonderful Willo Ford from Life Reimagined about making positive change and living your best life. Willo is a dedicated certified mindset and personal development coach who is passionate about helping women change their lives for the better. A single mother, who has transformed her own life, Willo believes ‘that its everyones birthright to have an abundant, loving and happy life’. And this is exactly what she helps people achieve every single day. In this highly-inspirational chat we discuss: - Where Willo discovered her drive and desire to succeed, and to ultimately help others - The signs to look that suggest you are ready for change or that you need change in your life - Limiting beliefs and how they can prevent you moving forward and making changes - How to approach self-worth to make it a positive aspect of your life - Tips to make the right decisions .. which will ultimately lead to positive change - Actions to take NOW to make change and boost your quality of life ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-positive-change/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-positive-change/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Podcast **Tags:** positive thinking, positive living, positve life, living posititvely --- ### [5 Reasons why you should stop weighing yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/why-you-should-stop-weighing-yourself/) **Published:** March 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As someone who has struggled with body image and weight for most of my life, I have come to realise that stepping on the scale regularly can negatively impact my mental health and overall well-being. Seeing a number that is not what I expected can send me spiralling into negative self-talk and feelings of shame and guilt. I have also learned that weight is not necessarily a good indicator of my overall health or fitness levels. In fact, two people who weigh the same may have very different body compositions, with one having more muscle and less fat than the other. This means that weight alone does not provide a complete picture of my health. If you are an obsessive weigher, here are some reasons to take a break from the scales and stop weighing yourself. ## 5 Reasons why you should stop weighing yourself ### 1. Weight is not an accurate measure of overall health Weight is not an accurate measure of overall health because it does not take into account other factors that contribute to our health and well-being. For instance, two individuals who weigh the same may have vastly different body compositions, with one having a higher proportion of muscle mass and the other having a higher proportion of body fat. Moreover, weight does not factor in other indicators of good health, such as: - Cardiovascular fitness - Blood pressure - Cholesterol levels - Mental well-being In fact, an unhealthy focus on weight loss can lead to restrictive diets, obsessive exercise, or other unhealthy behaviours that can be detrimental to our health and well-being in the long run. Even world-renowned weight loss programs such as WeightWatchers now focus on overall health as opposed to calorie counting and traditional weigh-ins. ### 2. Weighing ourselves can lead to negative emotions I know as much as the next person how horrible weighing ourselves can make us feel. This is because our weight can fluctuate daily, and we may not always see the number on the scale that we were hoping for. This can lead to feelings of guilt or desperation, particularly if we have a certain number in mind that we want to achieve. For many, our weight is tied to our self-esteem and body image, and seeing a higher number on the scale can reinforce negative self-talk and feelings of inadequacy. This emotional rollercoaster can harm our mental health and overall well-being and can lead to a negative cycle of disordered eating or overexercising to try to control our weight. ### 3. It can lead to an unhealthy relationship with food and exercise Weighing ourselves frequently can lead to an unhealthy relationship with food and exercise by reinforcing the idea that weight loss is the only indicator of success or progress. This can create an obsessive focus on the number on the scale, which can lead to restrictive diets, over-exercising, or other unhealthy behaviours. Seeing a higher number on the scale may lead to feelings of guilt or shame, which can trigger restrictive eating or skipping meals altogether. On the other hand, seeing a lower number may lead to a false sense of achievement, which can lead to overeating or bingeing. An unhealthy focus on weight can overshadow the enjoyment of physical activity, leading to over-exercising or engaging in exercise that we don’t enjoy, solely to burn calories. This can lead to burnout, injury, or other negative consequences. ### 4. Stop weighing yourself because it’s demotivating Another reason to stop weighing yourself is because it can be demotivating. Weight loss is not always a linear process, and there may be fluctuations in our weight due to factors including but not limited to: - Water retention - Hormonal changes - Menstrual cycle Seeing the number on the scale not budge, or worse, go up, despite our best efforts, can be discouraging and demotivating. An unhealthy fixation on weight loss can create an all-or-nothing mindset, where we feel like a failure if we don’t see the number on the scale move in the direction we want it to. This can create feelings of disappointment or hopelessness, which can make it difficult to stay motivated and committed to our health and fitness goals. Therefore, it’s important to focus on progress rather than perfection, and celebrate the small wins along the way. This point alone is a good reason to stop weighing yourself. ### 5. It encourages a narrow view of health and well-being Weighing ourselves frequently can encourage a narrow view of health and well-being because it reinforces the idea that weight is the most important measure of our overall health. This can create an unrealistic and limited definition of success and progress, which can be demotivating and lead to unhealthy behaviours. Focusing solely on weight can also overlook other important indicators of health, such as body composition, strength, endurance, and mental health. This narrow focus can create an unhealthy mindset where we believe that achieving a certain number on the scale is the only way to feel good about ourselves, which can lead to feelings of disappointment, frustration, or even humiliation if we don’t achieve our desired weight. An unhealthy fixation on weight can create an all-or-nothing mindset, where we believe that losing weight is the only way to achieve our health and fitness goals. This can lead to restrictive diets, over-exercising, or other unhealthy behaviours that may provide short-term results but are not sustainable in the long run. ## CONCLUSION: Why you should stop weighing yourself In conclusion, I have come to the realisation that weighing myself frequently is not a sustainable approach to my health and well-being. I have learned that weight is not an accurate measure of overall health and that an unhealthy fixation on weight can lead to negative emotions, an unhealthy relationship with food and exercise, and a narrow view of health and wellness. I have discovered that focusing solely on weight can create an unrealistic expectation of weight loss that is not always achievable or sustainable in the long run. Furthermore, an unhealthy fixation on weight can lead to unhealthy practices such as crash dieting, over-exercising, or other extreme measures that may provide short-term results but are not sustainable in the long run. Instead, I have learned that it’s important to adopt a more holistic approach to my health and well-being that focuses on sustainable habits and lifestyle changes. This includes engaging in regular physical activity that I enjoy, nourishing my body with a balanced diet that includes plenty of whole foods, and [practicing self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) and stress management techniques. By adopting a more holistic approach to my health and well-being, I can achieve sustainable results and maintain my health and fitness goals in the long run. I have come to understand that my worth is not determined by a number on the scale, and that true health and well-being are about so much more than just my weight. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/why-you-should-stop-weighing-yourself/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/why-you-should-stop-weighing-yourself/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** exercise, weight, weight loss, health, scales --- ### [The 8 best dating apps for people who hate dating apps 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-for-people-who-hate-dating-apps/) **Published:** June 9, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** So, you’re over your last relationship, you’ve enjoyed your single time and now you’re ready to [start dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ready-to-start-dating-again/), yay. The only thing is, the game has changed … big time. If you want to find your Mr Right or just some fun, you’re gonna have to brave the world of online dating … however much you hate the idea of it. Rather than looking at your phone with distaste, it is time embrace what is on offer (both with [dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/) and potential partners!). Follow our guide of the best dating apps for people who hate dating apps (updated for 2023), and you might find a whole world of fun that you never knew existed. ***Further reading: [How to choose the right online dating site for you.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sites-for-online-dating/)*** ## [eharmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) [eHarmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) is No.1 on our list of dating apps for people who hate dating apps for a lot of reasons. It’s THE app if you’re looking for marriage or serious long-term relationships. It’s also brilliant if you’re completely new to online dating because of the slow pace. You have to complete a 30-minute quiz with more than a hundred questions before you can even find a match. There are no in-your-face raunchy pics here and no lame pickup lines (mostly). While you can still have fun with matches if that’s what you’re into, eHarmony is mainly for people who are tired of hookups, playing games and endless swiping. eHarmony claims to use a model to match ‘couples based on features of compatibility found in thousands of successful relationships.’ [![eharmony](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Screen-Shot-2019-11-23-at-3.44.48-pm-1536x801.png)](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) ***Free version:** Ye*s ***Pros:** Great for the marriage-minded, easy to use for people new to online dating, profiles are packed with information, safe and secure matching, low chances of getting creepy messages* ***Cons:** Questionnaire can be long, no same-sex matching, only paid members can view photos of matches* ***If you hate dating apps, you will like this one because:** of the slow pace, safe environment and professional approach to finding The One* ## [Elite Singles](https://www.elitesingles.com.au/) Like eHarmony, Elite Singles is a dating app that’s great for anyone new to online dating. Elite’s thorough matching process involves a questionnaire that takes a few minutes to complete. Among other things, the quiz asks you how important it is that your match have certain personality traits, like being marriage-minded. You don’t have to trawl other users either, Elite chooses matches for you. The overall experience is very professional. As can be expected from a site where the typical user is aged 30+ with a college degree. But beware, it is a fairly pricey app. [![Elite Singles hate dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.23.46-pm.png)](https://www.elitesingles.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Comprehensive personality quiz, targeted for an older demographic (30+), verified profiles* ***Cons:** Expensive, you can’t view photos and send messages without paying* ***If you hate dating apps, you will like this one because** it is easy to use, the matching process is thorough and comprehensive, and the overall vibe is very professional* ## [Adult Friend Finder](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) Some women just want a good time with no strings attached. [Adult Friend Finder](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) is worth checking out if that’s your ultimate goal. Signing up is done in minutes and you can go straight to chatting up people and having fun. You can also choose the type of hookup you want (cybersex, swingers, threesomes). Just a warning: everything here is explicit. From the photos to the profiles to the messages. It’s definitely not for conservative folks, but it’s a great way to find a friend-with-benefits or casual sex. [![Adult Friend Finder](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/6d234c6d5dfcb87944c945604886d91e1c5aea57/0_0_1148_689/master/1148.jpg?width=620&quality=85&auto=format&fit=max&s=675d48e27f3dc642878071c3aeb75afa)](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Great app for someone who’s just looking for a hookup or friends with benefits. It’s definitely for the open-minded, not for conservative people.* ***Cons:** Free version has lots of pop-up ads, website layout looks shady*. ***If you hate dating apps, you will like this one because** it easily connects you with people who are also looking for hookups/a good time.* ## [Bumble](https://bumble.com/en-au/) If you hate dating apps because of the deluge of messages and you’re the type to make the first move. Bumble is the app for you. Bumble was created by a woman and designed to be empowering from the get go. It’s unique in that women have to message the men first. Men have 24 hours to respond or the match disappears. For women messaging other women, either one can respond first. Women who have used Bumble either love this matching process or don’t care for it. Some users reported that the number of matches is more manageable here compared to Tinder, and the message quality is higher. For those who have never used a dating app before and want to feel safe online while looking for Mr. Right, Bumble is a must-try. [![Bumble hate dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.27.12-pm.png)](https://bumble.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Empowers women to make the first move*. R*educes risk of receiving unwanted messages, easy to use even if you’ve never used a dating app before* ***Cons:** Profiles can be very brief and lack information for women to make the right decision* ***If you hate dating apps, you will like this one because** you can make the first move, it’s a safe place to meet men, and there’s a low chance of getting creepy messages*. ## [Passion](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION(opens%20in%20a%20new%20tab)) [Passion](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION(opens%20in%20a%20new%20tab)) is like a cleaned-up version of the popular Adult Friend Finder. It’s a laid-back place for naughty conversations and casual hookups with hotties in your area and around the world. It only takes a few minutes to sign up, and the site is very easy to use and navigate. You can connect with people via IM and chat as well as live webcam. The large membership base guarantees a match with someone who shares your, um, passions. Like other apps, it can be difficult to arrange an actual meet-up with people living in a remote area, but you should be fine if you’re in the city. Just watch out for the fake profiles. [![Passion](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/p-1156x800.jpg)](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Easy to use and navigate, access to IM and chats, unlimited live webcam* ***Cons:** Lots of fake profiles, desktop only, limited features on the free version* ***You will love this app if:** You hate x-rated dating apps and want naughty conversations in a laid-back environment.* ## [Zoosk](https://www.zoosk.com/) Zoosk attracts droves of Millennials like Tinder is, but not for the same reasons. A decade-old award-winning dating app with a clean, easy-to-use interface and behavioural matchmaking algorithm that works. We like the large number of users (40 million in 80 countries) and the options to promote your profile and improve match compatibility. Even if you’re new to online dating, the app is super easy to use and not intimidating at all. Account setup is a breeze if you already have a Facebook or Google account. No endless quizzes or tedious personality tests either, just answer a few basic questions and you’re all set. [![Zoosk hate dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/image-2-1200x549.png "image-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.zoosk.com/)***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Super easy to use, photo verification to avoid fake profiles, smart matching, large active membership* ***Cons:** Only paid members can message you* ***If you hate dating apps, you will like this one because** It’s user-friendly, safe (verification option), and has a large membership base*. ## Sugarbook If you hate traditional dating apps, Sugarbook gives you a completely different experience … the sugar daddy experience! This is the place where (mostly) young women can earn money or treats while chatting up men. In fact, girls with a university email can sign up for free and get a premium account. Sugar daddies or mummies, on the other hand, have to pay through the nose in exchange for the full experience. A free basic account lets you send a few messages, and that’s it. Try Sugarbook if you want to “build and negotiate your terms of relationship” with the app’s hundreds of thousands of ID-verified members. ![Sugarbook](https://miro.medium.com/max/4748/1%2Auwsqs6y_qMHkUHeiTCUbvA.png) ***Free version:** Yes (limited features)* ***Pros:** Large use base of ID-verified members, easy to use app, free premium account if you sign up with a university email* ***Cons:** Expensive for sugar daddies, basic account is very limited* ***You will love this app if:** You are looking for a different dating experience, specifically a sugar daddy relationship*. ## [Hinge](https://hinge.co/en-gb) If you’re a bit over the shallowness of other dates apps, it could be time to give Hinge a whirl. Hinge encourages users to create detailed and engaging profiles that showcase their personality. You can add prompts, photos, and personal info to go beyond just swiping based on looks. All of which is refreshing in the world of online dating. What’s cool is that you can like or comment on specific parts of someone’s profile. This leads to more genuine conversations and takes the focus of looks only. With a user-friendly interface and emphasis on authenticity, Hinge is a great choice for a more intentional dating experience. [![Hinge hate dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Hinge-1200x634.png "Hinge - Beanstalk Mums")](https://hinge.co/en-gb)***Free version:** Yes (limited features)* ***Pros:** They really push you to focus on the full profile, not just the pics* ***Cons:** Limited users, especially in regional areas* ***You will love this app if:** you’re more interested in a person’s values, as opposed to looks and surface-level interests*. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/datingapps1.png "datingapps1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-for-people-who-hate-dating-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-for-people-who-hate-dating-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, how to date, eharmony, adult friend finder, zoosk, bumble, rsvp, elite --- ### [How to recover financially after your divorce or separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/financially-recover-after-divorce/) **Published:** June 9, 2020 **Author:** Clarissa Caouette **Content:** In marriage, sometimes divorce is the best option. Whether the separation stemmed from infidelities, financial problems, or just falling out of love with each other, divorce is still worrying. If the divorce is due to financial problems in the marriage, then it can get pretty ugly. One of the first adjustments you’ll have to get acquainted with is living off one income again. This could be quite difficult if your spouse was the breadwinner in the family and you didn’t have to work, but it’s not impossible to do. You will just need to cut back on your expenses and be realistic with your finances. The lifestyle you had while you were married is more than likely not going to be the same lifestyle you will be able to continue after your divorce. The sooner you realise that, the faster you can financially move forward. If you’re currently going through a divorce or feel that your marriage is heading in that direction, don’t be afraid, and know that you don’t have to go it alone. This is indeed a stormy time, not only from a relationship point of view but also from a financial point of view. If you have experienced divorce and need a little help on how to financially recover, consider these tips. [![OurFamilyWizard has co-parenting tools for scheduling, messaging, document sharing, and more.](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/aus-300-250_c.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1314717&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### Downsize to a Smaller Home When you got married, you and your spouse bought this big, gorgeous house. It had multiple bedrooms, a “man cave,” and a backyard big enough to host an entire block party. Now that you’re divorced, you don’t need that big of a house. This is the perfect time for you to downsize and sell your home. Emotionally, it may be hard to give up the home that you spent so many happy years in, but given your newly acquired financial situation, it may not be feasible. With houses, mortgage, property taxes, repairs and other expenses occur that you may not be able to handle on your own. For the time being, it may be financially wiser to move into an apartment, where you’re paying rent, and all repairs will be handled by the apartment complex and not out of pocket. ### Start Your Own Business In your marriage, you may have had a spouse who said you never had to work. At the time, you had no problem being a stay-at-home wife and mother, but not working really isn’t an option anymore, so you have to get back into the workforce. Now, getting back into the workforce doesn’t necessarily mean getting up and heading to a 9-to-5 job … you can actually [start your own business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-a-single-mum-makes-a-brilliant-business-mum/). When you were married, you would always host these extravagant parties at your home and prepare the food yourself. You did all the decorations and everything else by yourself. Why not put those skills to work and start your own event planning business? ![Retail business single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Retail-business-single-mum.jpg "Retail business single mum - Beanstalk Mums") This is the time for you to get a fresh start in life, and what better way to [rebrand yourself and your company](https://www.shopify.com.au/domains) as a businesswoman in the event planning business. This will allow you to do things on your own terms and become your own breadwinner! Just because you were in a bad situation, that doesn’t mean that situation has to break you. ## Practical tips on how to recover financially after your divorce or separation ### Access Your Retirement Fund Early Did you know that a divorce is one of the few ways that you can get money out of your retirement account early without having to pay any early withdrawal fees? [Cashing your retirement funds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/) can be quite tricky, but it will definitely put you in a better financial situation. If you want to consider this as a financial option for you, don’t make any rash decisions. Be sure to seek the advice of a financial separation expert. ### Trade in Your Big Car for a Smaller Car The theory behind downsizing your home is the same as downsizing your car. When you’re married, there are either two incomes or one big one, which allows the family to have an extravagant car. After the divorce, the income level is down to one person, and the car that has all those fancy features may have to be traded in for something more financially feasible. The car might be really nice, and you hate to let it go, but you also have to look at it as starting new. If there’s really no true reason as to why you need such an expensive and lavish car, you really should consider trading it in for something more affordable for you. ***Further reading: [How to get back into shape after your divorce.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/after-your-divorce/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Recover-financially.png "Recover financially - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/financially-recover-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/financially-recover-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Money --- ### [Why parenting alone has made me the best version of myself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-parenting-alone-has-made-me-the-best-version-of-myself/) **Published:** May 25, 2020 **Author:** Naomi Korolew **Content:** When I chose to exit my marriage, my ex chose to exit the country. I was suddenly the [sole parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parenting/solo-parenting/) – and the sole provider for – my 15-month-old son. I still actually had a job at this time, albeit in London. We had returned to Australia on extended leave whilst I was still receiving a maternity leave payment from my corporate job for an oil major in the UK (yes, maternity leave is uber generous over there!). But as my ex flew back to London, I knew I didn’t want to follow suit. I had lived abroad for thirteen years, but I was Australian. My family were Australian, and my son would be raised in Australia. That part of the decision was easy, so I emailed my resignation, hung up my frequent flyer card and resolved to stay even if it meant parenting alone. The next bit of parenting alone was harder. Much, much harder. I needed to provide a source of income for us to survive and thrive. I tried a corporate role in Melbourne for a while – and was miserable. I woke at 5 am. My parents would take it in turns to arrive at 6 am to be there when my son woke and take him to childcare. I’d arrive in the office in Melbourne around 7 am, so that I could leave at 4 pm. The hour-long journey home to the Mornington Peninsula would take twice as long as it did in the mornings, and some days I’d be lucky to get to the child care centre to pick up my son before it closed at 6.30 pm. Then it was dinner, bath, stories, bed – for both of us. It was exhausting. I was existing, not living – and I missed my baby. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Beanstalk-single-mum-blog-features-2025-01-08t114138%20445.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") So, I considered my options and decided I could either outsource parenting to a live-in au pair. Or I could ditch my corporate career and find a new path. One that could sustain my little family and provide me with that elusive work-life balance everyone blogs about these days. I already knew that the most important thing to me was being the best parent I could be for my son. So, I quit. Quit before I had a plan. Quit before I had an alternative source of income. > *“It was hurting my heart and my health being away from my baby. Which meant that, whatever I did next had to be flexible and I had to be able to work from home.”* I’m nothing if not a pragmatist, so I sat down and I drew up two lists: things I was good at and things that I needed from a role in order to be happy. ## Why parenting alone has made me the best version of myself Then I took a good, hard look at the opportunities and industries in my local area. I read the local papers cover to cover, I read every shop hoarding, scanned every branded car, talked to as many people as I could and researched local industries. One thing that kept cropping up again and again was an advertisement to train as an authorised [Commonwealth Marriage Celebrant](https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/marriage/become-marriage-celebrant). I was already living on the beautiful Mornington Peninsula, which is known for its wineries, farm gates and beaches – and for its thriving wedding industry. And it’s only a one-hour drive to Victoria’s other top wedding destinations; Melbourne city, the Dandenongs and the Yarra Valley. On paper, the wedding industry was the answer and, having spoken at carbon conferences across America and Europe, I was no stranger to public speaking. But, being a celebrant? Really? ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/In-article-image-5.png "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") The trouble was I didn’t have a very high opinion of wedding celebrants. I had always thought of the ceremony as something to endure whilst an old lady in a twin set rambled on about love being as old as time, or as deep as the oceans. I wasn’t even that into my own wedding – let alone other people’s. It was definitely not my jam. And I definitely couldn’t put that on LinkedIn. Yet it literally ticked every box on both of my lists. So, eventually, I flipped it. Why wouldn’t I want to be a celebrant? I could be an awesome celebrant. I could change the way people get married. But it wasn’t just the LinkedIn announcement holding me back. My Dad, who to this very day could not even describe what my job was in the oil industry, was seriously unimpressed when I told him. And both my parents told me that I’d fail. Small business was hard. It was too risky, they said. The real barrier, however, was that – quite without realising it – I’d wrapped up my sense of self-worth with my career. The two had become inextricably linked. I was always proud of what I did. It seemed important. Which is similar to getting divorced in a way. I still felt a nagging sense of judgment. That choosing to go my own way and fly solo was somehow something to be ashamed of. Hell, I *was* ashamed of it for a while. ## Why parenting alone has made me the best version of myself (cont.) Decoupling my sense of self-worth from how I chose to earn money took time. Lots of time. A year, okay, more like two in all honesty. Just like reconciling myself with the label of “divorced single mother” took time. Time to realise that getting divorced was the best thing that ever happened to me. Time out to be the best god damn parent I could be for my boy. Time to realise that ditching my corporate career in favour of the wedding industry actually made me the happiest I had ever been at work. > *“I developed my own unique brand of authentic, cringe-free weddings, and I did it all whilst working at home with my son. And weddings were fun! It turns out that creating amazing memories for happy people is a pretty good gig. Plus, there’s always champagne.”* Then I started to notice a gap in the industry. Couples are expected to spend a fortune on their wedding, and no one was serving the couples who wanted an affordable, but still fabulous wedding. And, being a parent of a toddler, I noticed that engaged couples with kids were particularly affected by this, because parents have completely different financial priorities compared to young couples. So, I set about disrupting the wedding industry and launched a ground-breaking, all-inclusive, pop-up wedding company. We offer pop-up weddings and elopements that are easy to organise, beautiful and affordable – without sacrificing that luxe feel – for couples who don’t want to start their married life with a financial hangover. Importantly, we don’t just save people money. We save them time. Hundreds of hours of time. Which, as a solo parent, I value above all else. This not only makes me feel good – like I really am changing the way people choose to get married – but I have been able to grow my businesses to support my son and I. We come first. > *“The lifestyle I’ve created is all about us. We ride bikes or walk the dog to school. I don’t work between after school time and bedtime. We escape winter to explore a new country together for a month each year. Most importantly, we have an amazing relationship.”* Just last week, my son made me a video which can only be described as a love letter, thanking me for being the best mum he could ever wish for. It made me realise that parenting alone was the catalyst that made me the best version of myself – for both of us. ![Why parenting alone has made me the best version of myself | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Parenting-alone-best-version.png "Parenting alone best version - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-parenting-alone-has-made-me-the-best-version-of-myself/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-parenting-alone-has-made-me-the-best-version-of-myself/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Parenting **Tags:** single parenting, solo parenting, celebrant --- ### [Top Budget Planner Apps to Save Money in 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/) **Published:** May 31, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## Best money budget apps to help mums save money Many single mothers use their smartphones every day for various tasks. From checking emails to browsing social media to grocery shopping online, there are plenty of tasks to juggle on the go. However, you may not realise that there is a wealth of apps that you can leverage to help keep your family finances in check, too. Although budgeting may seem like another time-consuming chore, apps have made this task much easier and less stressful. Your financial health can now be controlled literally from the palm of your hand, so why not make the most of it? Of course, you can make a spreadsheet to see where your money is going. But there are already money budget apps that are free to download to make things more convenient. You can use an app rather than labour over paper and pencil. Here is what you need to know about personal budgeting apps for Australians in 2024, as well as the best ones on the market today. ## How a money budget app can help your personal spending ### Get an overview See an accurate picture of your finances. It’s difficult to know exactly where you’re money’s going unless you track it on a monthly basis. Apps like this not only track your spending it gives you insights into your financial habits and ways to improve them. For example, if you’re always living paycheck to paycheck, even if you’re earning enough, you can easily see why. You get to track your bills and memberships or automatically categorise your transactions. It’s like having a personal money manager right in your pocket. ### Minimise unnecessary expenses It can be an eye-opener to see last month’s or last year’s spending. Who knew your daily cup of coffee, weekly dinners, software dues, etc., could cost that much? It can help you identify areas where you should be cutting back, earning more, or saving more. ### Set savings goals With your finances all in one place, you can see how much money you have left over each period and direct that surplus towards your savings goals. Whether it’s a trip abroad, you’re saving for a house deposit or college savings for your children; a budgeting app makes it easier to get motivated to set aside money for your big plans. You get to set monthly budgets and money goals right on your smartphone. ### Automate your spending The beauty of budgeting and saving apps lies in automation. You don’t need to categorise line items, set up reminders/schedules, and compare multiple accounts manually. The app allows you to do this and more. If you’re used to pen and paper or Excel, an app can streamline the whole process. It’s easier to crunch the numbers and quickly get insights into your spending and saving habits. ### Get educated Many apps for this purpose come with financial literacy tools like extensive knowledge bases and access to professional financial advisors. They can help with both long-term and short-term/emergency needs, from choosing investments wisely to connecting you to credit counsellors – all within the app. ## What to look for in a money budget app Budgeting apps range from the bare bones to the sophisticated. What’s best for you depends on your goals and situation. Whether you want to pay and receive money, use it to see how you spend your money or plan for the future decide what app you need. With that said, here are important features to consider before choosing the best: ### Cost Many apps are free forever (like Mint and Humaniti), some offer a trial version, and some are fee-based. A free budgeting app with solid tracking features is probably enough for most people’s needs. However, don’t discount the fee-based options. Paying for an app may sound ridiculous if you’re struggling to manage your finances, but the cost is worth it if the app helps improve your situation. While you may need to pay for a subscription to unlock full functionality, a paid app gives more than an overview of your spending. Premium features will be worth the money manager expense when you see how these apps work. ### Ease of use Choose an app that’s easy to use and navigate, especially if you’re not tech-savvy. You should be able to access all the main features from the first page and connect easily with customer support or helpdesk. Likewise, you should get to enjoy it on your iPhone, Android, or web app. Some apps also double as payment apps. They access your financial accounts so you can automate paying your bills. ### Features Many free apps have a daily, weekly, or monthly planner, spending tracker, bill payment reminder, calendar, and bank/transaction syncing that should be adequate for beginner to intermediate users. You will also love a tracking and splitting feature for shared bills or group expenses. (Some allow you to link your bank account to the app so you can easily see where your money goes. Just make sure you’re using legit apps!) You should also receive notifications for every transaction. Find an app that allows you to see screenshots and learn how you’re using money. You may need to pay a subscription fee to unlock more. If you wish to go beyond expense tracking or setting budgets and money goals, you may need to subscribe to unlock premium features. These add-ons may vary, but some include tips/recommendations from financial experts, investment planning, and wealth management, which are available on the app. ### Customer support Having someone troubleshoot technical and other issues is essential, whether you’re using a free or paid app. Check out the reviews page on the app store to see how people rate the customer service for that company before you use the app. ### Security Check out the reviews page and the app’s main page to view the fine print about how they use your data and what to do in case of a security breach. Thoroughly read reviews before you download the app and/or sync your bank account. ## Budget planners to help you set up a budget Now that you have an idea of what to watch out for, here’s a list of money budget apps available to Australians to help achieve your financial dreams: ### Humaniti [Humaniti](https://www.humaniti.com/) is Australia’s answer to the popular personal finance app Mint. Like Mint, Humaniti lets you view all of your bank accounts and financial transactions in one place free of charge, but with an added bonus: you can earn cash each week by doing surveys. Members are rewarded when they answer a series of questions about a variety of topics. Each survey takes a few minutes to complete and is definitely worthwhile as it’s super easy, and the few dollars each week add up nicely if you keep at it. The Humaniti app makes personal finances effortless with navigation to manage and save, track and compare spending, property valuations, loyalty programs, superannuation balance and more from a single dashboard. It pulls up your transactions quickly and provides graphs for easy visual analysis. Overall, Humaniti compares very favourably along-side other budgeting and saving apps that collate all your resources in one place, with the great perk to proactively earn with the survey functionality. Also, when a member completes a survey, Humaniti donates an additional 10% to charity … LOVE this. [![Humaniti](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/Screenshot-2025-09-02-175127.png "Humaniti - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.humaniti.com/) ***Free?** Yes* ***Pros:** Free to use, complete view of all your finances, earn money when doing surveys* ***Cons:** The user interface could be improved, and the site collects a lot of personal and financial data. (Any personally identifiable information is deidentified, and no personal details are ever shared. Humaniti uses deidentified spending behaviour to qualify members for relevant surveys.)* ***You will love this app if:** You want to earn a bit of cash while tracking your finances.* ### Mint [Mint](https://www.mint.com/) is another app that syncs your accounts, allowing you to monitor your expenditures. You also have the option of manually inputting any cash transactions that you make. This means that jar of loose coins that you use to buy your morning coffee (which can cost you quite a lot over a year) is also factored into your overall budget. The app’s easy-to-use interface allows you to see which categories you are spending the most in and presents these in neat charts and graphs for you to digest. Mint even allows you to pay your bills through the app and lets you set savings goals. The biggest feature of Mint is its customised financial tips based on your spending habits, which can help you overcome poor money habits. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/image.png "image - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mint.intuit.com/) ***Free?** Yes* ***Pros:** Free app, solid features with personalised financial advice/recommendations* ***Cons:** Bill pay option discontinued, ads can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You are new to budgeting.* ### Simplifi by Quicken [Simplifi](https://www.quicken.com/simplifi/) by Quicken is a highly-rated money budget app with complete customisation. It lets you personalise your spending plan in real time based on how much money you have left. The app also tracks spending, uncovers savings (it finds subscriptions you don’t use or use infrequently), and gives a clear picture of your balance for the period. Simplifi also offers bank account syncing, spending watch lists, and other cash flow tools, plus best-in-class security to protect data and privacy. Backed by the Intuit and Quicken network, which connects to thousands of financial institutions, this app is perfect for those who want strong functionalities. [![money budget app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/image-1-1200x733.png "image-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.quicken.com/products/simplifi/) ***Free?** Free 30-day trial* ***Pros:** Highly customisable and easy to use and understand **Cons:** Some users complain of technical issues **You will love this app if** you need a streamlined tool to manage your spending.* ## Money budget apps to manage your spending (cont.) ### Personal Capital If you’re looking for an app that combines robust budgeting features with investment tracking, [Personal Capital](https://www.personalcapital.com/) may be right for you. This money budget app is mainly a paid investment tool with free functionalities to help you track cash spending. You can also connect your bank accounts, from checking to savings, as well as credit cards, loans and mortgages. What’s more, if you’re a keen investor, the net worth and portfolio tracker can be accessed on mobile and desktop. You can check your credit score and retirement readiness score, check for hidden fees, and chat with a dedicated financial advisor to help you with financial and retirement planning. This is the meat of the app and what you pay for monthly. Overall, a solid investment tool. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/image-2-450x800.png "image-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.personalcapital.com/) ***Free?*** *Yes* ***Pros:*** *Combines budgeting and wealth management with portfolio tracking* ***Cons:*** *Fee for investment tools* ***You will love this app if:*** *You are an investor or interested in growing your investments****.*** ### Goodbudget [Goodbudget](https://goodbudget.com/) is another envelope-based personal finance app that takes the pain out of handling your money. You can allocate your resources and track expenses, savings, cash and spending patterns. It’s a solid app overall, but a big downside is that while it links to your bank account, all it does is let you check the balance. This is great if you don’t like sharing your financial details and you mainly use cash. Not so great for people who rely on credit cards. [![money budget app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/image-3.png "image-3 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://goodbudget.com/) ***Free?** Yes, free for 10 regular and 10 annual envelopes* ***Pros:** Great cash management app that lets you roll over leftover cash into next month’s envelope* ***Cons:** No option to sync transactions and credit cards, even in the paid version* ***You will love this app if:** You’re a fan of the envelope system and use cash most of the time.* ### YNAB (You Need a Budget) Last on our list of apps: If you suck at allocating your money, the [YNAB](https://www.youneedabudget.com/) app has a good chance of changing your life. YNAB is focused mainly on helping people manage their financial resources. And for those who already do it, the app teaches you how to become better at allocating your money. YNAB’s number 1 rule is to “Give Every Dollar a Job,” meaning that each dollar should have a purpose. This helps restrain overspending while improving discipline. The app itself is easy to use and there are plenty of resources on the YNAB website to help you stick with your money goals. [![](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/oXR3Ux6pk9oxko4rJ7AnD8eo-k_m1cmSJoP1YX7x4_iif-DbeZBfS4pQKWYb4rEbtKk=w1141-h801-rw)](https://www.ynab.com/) ***Free?** Yes, free to try for 34 days* ***Pros:** Good customer support, very detailed spending tracker* ***Cons:** No retirement planning or bill payment features* ***You will love this app if:** You want an app that really helps you stick with your money goals.* ### PocketGuard [PocketGuard](https://pocketguard.com/) helps you determine whether you can afford to make certain purchases or not. The app syncs all of your bank accounts and requires you to identify all recurring bills and expenses. This information helps the app predict your ability to make future purchases. We’ve all felt that moment of panic when your kids have filled the trolley with things that you’re not sure you can afford. PocketGuard tells you how much spending room you have in your pocket so that you have more confidence at the checkout. [![money budget app](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/22_PmTnKkGXrY0t5JctY_KJ-ge0E8JJTaJ3asJnBBCrV7qwWxze6p-v248Ywhz0D7A=w1141-h801-rw)](https://pocketguard.com/) ***Free?** Yes* ***Pros:** Excellent tool, added features and customer support, track cash transactions with Pocketguard Plus* ***Cons:** Ads and email offers, no technical support via phone* ***You will love this app if:** You want to track both cash and bank transactions.* ### EveryDollar [EveryDollar](https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/everydollar) is an app that’s similar to YNAB but more intuitive and easier to use. The free version is basic and lets you enter money that comes in and goes out, categorise your items, set up bill payment reminders, and set savings goals. The premium version lets you connect to over 10,000 banks, connect your savings and investment accounts, receive spending insights, get smart tracking recommendations, connect with financial advisors and access reports. What sets EveryDollar apart from other similar apps is its uncomplicated zero-based budgeting, where your planned spending and savings are subtracted from your monthly income from the get-go. [![](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/DBzncq4Ok1uQy6PvpW0_Jqd9wSgAzuxlAJFb3yUrTcQ3RbGZpnA3807L-qBLSy54Z4I=w2560-h1440)](https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/everydollar) ***Free?** Yes (basic features)* ***Pros:** Complete spending tracking features, connect with financial advisors* ***Cons:** Premium version is pricier than similar apps* ***You will love this app if:** You need a detailed budgeting and spending tracking system to help you handle your financial resources.* ### Mvelopes – Recently rebranded to EveryDollar If you’re a little old school and you like the idea of putting money aside into different envelopes for your groceries or even your energy bills, then give EveryDollar a try. It translates this cash management process into an app form. Mvelopes joins your bank accounts together and groups your spending into different labelled envelopes. You then set limits on your spending for each category. There’s no reason why you should spend hours at night trying to manage your money for yourself. Using these apps, you can customise your budget planner and enjoy it on your smartphone. This means that you can spend less time worrying about money and more quality time with your little ones! [![money budget app](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/7E2mhY4qaWxi8a_kze33jgEY5mbIGHqwoXkOf9sQToGlrOGto-6kmZmlkHDPF4YoIQ=w1141-h801-rw)](https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/everydollar/mvelopeslt) ***Free?** Yes, 30-day free trial* ***Pros:** Basic and advanced tools* ***Cons:** Users report multiple bugs, the learning curve can be steep, doesn’t support tracking or management of investment accounts* ***You will love this app if:** You like the envelope system and a simple but full-featured app.* ## Frequently Asked Questions ## What is a budget? It is a financial plan that helps you achieve your financial goals by tracking your income and expenses within a specific time period, usually monthly. ## How can these apps help me with my finances? An app is a digital tool designed to assist you in managing your financial resources by tracking your **transactions** and providing insights into your spending habits. ## Why should I use a planner? A **planner** helps you visualize your **cash flow** and set financial goals, making it easier to track your expenses and savings. ## Where can I find a budgeting and savings app? You can download them from the **app store** on your device and choose from a variety of **tracker** and **money management** apps to choose from. ## How do I start managing my money with an app? Begin by creating a **monthly budget** planner on the app, linking your bank account, and categorizing your expenses to effectively manage your **money**. ## Is there a free trial for these apps? Many of these offer a **free trial** period for users to test their features before committing to a **subscription** or **in-app purchases**. ## What features should I look for in an app? Look for a budgeting app that includes **financial goals** tracking, expense categorization, **notification** reminders, and the ability to link **your savings account**. ## Can I find apps specifically for Australians in 2024? There are **apps for Australians in 2024** that cater to the specific financial needs of individuals living in **Australia** and offer tools for effective **money management**. ## Are there any totally free budgeting apps available? Yes. Mint and Humaniti are completely free. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Budget-Apps.png "Budget Apps - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** saving, budgeting, money --- ### [8 Reasons why a good routine can change your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/good-routine/) **Published:** October 25, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you, like me, have a lot of routine in your life, then you’ll understand why it is so damn effective. We often associate the need for routine with having young children. Let’s face it, raising our little ones without routine is chaotic. Yet, it’s not just about those early years. Routine can have a positive influence at any stage of this journey called life. If you are yet to be convinced, keep reading. I will outline how routine has changed my life and even made me a better person. ***Further reading: [20 Healthy habits for single parents to live a better life.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parents-healthy-habits/)*** ## WHY A GOOD ROUTINE CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE ### IT’S A LIFELINE FOR THE SUPER SCATTY I have put this at the top of the list because, even though I am a stickler for routine, I am naturally super scatty. Many friends mock me for the strict systems that rule my life, but the reality is that as a busy business owner/single mum, I absolutely need them. The alternative is mothering mayhem, and no one in the family wants that. Oh yes, knowing what to do and when is a faithful tool for forgetful folk such as myself. ### IT CAN HELP YOUR MENTAL HEALTH It’s true! Having a routine in your world can actually promote mental health. According to [The Therapy Group of NYC](https://nyctherapy.com/therapists-nyc-blog/the-mental-health-benefits-of-having-a-daily-routine/#:~:text=They%20help%20us%20cope%20with,symptoms%20of%20other%20mental%20disorders.): > *“They help us cope with change, create healthy habits, improve interpersonal relationships, and reduce stress. Studies have shown that daily routines have far-reaching mental health benefits, from alleviating bipolar disorder and preventing substance abuse to managing the symptoms of other mental disorders.”* Enough said. It’s time to get those routines in motion. ### RELAX INTO ROUTINES Routines can sound rather regimented. They bring to mind an army captain shouting orders unhygienically close to our faces. Home/work/life/kids routines are far from this. A routine can be as simple and calming as your child’s bath and bedtime story at the same time each evening. Furthermore, settling naturally into a routine will bring peace because, rather than repeating the thought process of deciding whether or not to bathe your child and at what time, you simply do it. All up it will create a more content and easier lifestyle for the whole family. ### YOU ARE MORE PRODUCTIVE Following on from the last point … If you free your mind of constant decision-making by setting and sticking to routines, it stands to reason that you will have more headspace for other things This can include creativity, productivity and assertiveness. All of which will allow you to function more proficiently on every level. Surely we all want this? ## EMPHASISING THE IMPORTANCE OF ROUTINE ### KIDS LOVE IT Routine is similar to discipline in that we think our children don’t like it, but actually, they thrive with it. The peeps at [Raising Children](https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/family-life/routines-rituals-relationships/family-routines#:~:text=Daily%20routines%20help%20family%20life,find%20time%20for%20enjoyable%20activities.) tell us that: > *“Routines help children feel safe, develop life skills and build healthy habits.”* So, if not for you, create some routines for the sake of your children. ### THEY PREVENT BURNOUT We discussed how routines promote a calmer lifestyle and free up grey matter, all of which has a positive impact on mental health. But effective routines around self-care can prevent parental (or any other kind of) burnout. Create routines that give you the break you deserve. Let’s revisit our kids’ bedtime. You are the master of your routines, meaning you make the rules. So, ensure your little ones are tucked up and asleep early to allow you time to unwind in the evening. ### ROUTINES CAN BROKEN Like rules, routines can be broken, and that is absolutely fine. In fact, it’s fun. Back to the bedtime routine … Letting your kids have a bath-free night and a movie before bed is very exciting because it’s a break from the norm. If you have school-aged children, think of the difference between term time and holidays. We can’t wait for the holidays to start so we can have a break from the routine. Yet, by the end of a long holiday, we become eager to return to the familiarity and comfort of old routines. ### THEY WILL HELP YOU LIVE THE LIFE YOU CHOOSE Even if you co-parent, so you have time without your children, or they are older and have their own lives, a routine is still a powerful tool to help you live the life you choose. [Entrepreneur](https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/340617#:~:text=Setting%20a%20daily%20routine%20creates,our%20goals%20and%20reduces%20procrastination.&text=The%20real%20power%20in%20routines,and%20make%20us%20more%20efficient.) says: > *“Setting a daily routine creates structure, helps us reach our goals and reduces procrastination. The real power in routines is the way they can help us build momentum, break bad habits, prioritise our lives and make us more efficient.”* Often, something as simple as going to bed at the same time each night or exercising three times a week can make a world of difference. After a while, your routine will become habitual, then as you reap the results, you’ll understand the power of the simple routine. ![Good routine | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Good-routine.png "Good routine - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/good-routine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/good-routine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Household **Tags:** routine, mental health, organise --- ### [A quick lesson in the fundamentals of family law](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/the-fundamentals-of-family-law/) **Published:** June 1, 2021 **Author:** Phillipa Kingswell **Content:** ***This article about family law was last updated in 2024.*** If you’re considering separation or divorce from your spouse or partner, you may find yourself heading into the unknown. It can be a scary, emotional and confusing time. Yet, as with everything, knowledge is power. And when it comes to family law, it’s important to know where you stand and what to expect. Reading this post about the fundamentals of family law is the perfect starting point. Allow us to help you understand the process, including what you need to do next, through to what the law says about the breakdown of a relationship. ## What to consider first when it comes to family law? ### DATE OF SEPARATION Ascertain the date of your separation. You have to be separated for at least twelve months before you can obtain a divorce. It is possible, however, to live together in the same home and still be regarded as separated. See: [Separated by living together: What you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separated-living-together/). ### THE ASSET POOL Start compiling a list of assets, liabilities and [superannuation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/). This is called an “asset pool” and will be important for the property settlement between you and your ex-spouse. You have one year from the date of your divorce to make an Application to the Court for a property settlement. If your de facto relationship breaks down, you have 2 years from the date of separation to commence court proceedings relating to a property settlement. ### PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS Parenting arrangements are the decisions made to co-parent your children after separation. These can be a verbal arrangement with your ex-partner, a formal written agreement such as a parenting plan or legally binding in the form of consent orders. ### CHILDREN SUPPORT Many ex-couples use Child Support to assist with the management of costs for their children. However, it is possible for separated couples to enter into their own legally binding agreements about exactly how much child support is to be paid by one parent to the other. Find out more about how Child Support works see: [The essential guide to Child Support for newly separated parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/). ## What if we can’t agree? If you can’t agree with each other on how to solve any or all of the above issues, the next step is mediation. Mediation involves you and your former spouse sitting down with an independent third person to attempt to resolve issues in dispute. This process does not necessarily require that you and your former spouse face each other in the same room. The mediator may move between you in separate rooms. It is a requirement of family law that mediation is attempted before you can bring your case before the court. You might have heard of this being called Family Dispute Resolution. However, attending mediation is not compulsory when the parties have reached an agreement and are applying for Consent Orders, nor is it compulsory in the case of family violence or if the matter is urgent. If mediation is unsuccessful, court proceedings are the next step. Find out more here: [What happens if my ex refuses mediation?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ex-refuses-mediation/) ## What does the law say about property settlements? The general principles for a court to settle financial disputes under the [*Family Law Act 1975*](http://www.comlaw.gov.au/Current/C2013C00639) are based on: ### ASSETS AND LIABILITIES Working out your assets and liabilities; that is, what you’ve got (including superannuation) and what you owe; and what they are worth. ### CONTRIBUTIONS Looking at the contributions made by both parties during the marriage or relationship including: - Direct financial contributions such as wage and salary earnings - Indirect financial contributions such as gifts and inheritances from families - Contributions to the welfare of the family, including any contribution made in the capacity of parent and homemaker ### FUTURE NEEDS The future needs of the parties having regard to things such as age, health, care of children, income and financial resources of the parties. [![OurFamilyWizard helps co-parents with conflict-free communication](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/300-x-250b.png)](https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/?utm_source=shareasale.com&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=link&utm_term=home&utm_content=tools&sscid=61k8_p1ekl) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Fundamentals-of-family-law.png "Fundamentals of family law - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/the-fundamentals-of-family-law/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/the-fundamentals-of-family-law/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** mediation, superannuation, family court, property settlement, family dispute resolution, super, consent orders --- ### [Help for single parents working full time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/help-for-single-parents-working-full-time/) **Published:** June 8, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Being a parent is a full-time job in itself. Add to this the pressures of parenting solo while trying to juggle a career, and you pretty much have to be a real-life superhero. We understand the challenges of trying to put food on the table as a single parent working full-time. In addition to sending you a virtual margarita (cheers!), we are here to offer some practical solutions. If you are feeling overwhelmed trying to balance it all, never fear. There *is* help for single parents working full-time. ## SUPPORT FOR SINGLE MUMS WITH FULL TIME JOBS ### Regular Paid Child Care Chances are, if you are working full-time, you will need some form of paid child care. The Australian government offers support for single parents working full-time with the Child Care Subsidy. The type of assistance you will receive does vary depending on your individual circumstances. Factors include things like the age of your children, hours per week required and family income. The Child Care Subsidy isn’t perfect, but it does make paying for child care that little bit easier. This can only be used for approved care such as long day care, family day care, outside school hours care, vacation care, in-home care and occasional care. You can use an online childcare finder like Toddle to help you find the most suitable childcare to suit you and your child’s needs. If you have school-aged children, investing in a part-time nanny could be a viable option. For some families, having someone to do the school drop-off and pick-up is enough to make their day easier. Even if you are working, you may still be entitled to the Family Tax Benefit. Read our [benefits guide for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) to learn more about your entitlements. ### Occasional Care for single parents working full time ![Single mum working from home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/woman-working-from-home-1200x800.jpg "woman-working-from-home - Beanstalk Mums") You can do some research on what care alternatives are available in your area. For example, some church groups and other organisations offer before and after-school care, as well as action-packed holiday programs. Finding a babysitter you can trust can be useful if you work at unusual times or on weekends. But try to book in early to avoid missing out. If you aren’t sure where to start, consider asking your child’s favourite day care worker if they are available after hours. Look for someone with good references, police clearance and first aid training. ## More help for single parents working full time ### Your own network of support By simply asking those in your trusted network, you may be surprised that people will often be happy to offer help to single mums working full time. Family will likely be your first point of call, and grandparents may be happy to spend the extra time with their grandkids. If you don’t have this option, your parenting connections could be a valuable resource. Carpooling and play dates could be an occasional lifesaver when you are in a pickle, or become a more regular arrangement. It could be just a lift to an after-school activity that makes a difference. When you have friends who understand your situation, they will usually be more than happy to assist. You can make it up to them by returning the favour and giving them a break when you do have a night off! Plus, networking with those around you could lead to some awesome new friends for yourself! Having trouble meeting people? The best way to make new mum and dad friends is through your kids. Hosting a party or playdate for your child will allow you to meet other parents. Put your number on the RSVP, and you might just make a lifelong connection. ### Household Assistance ![The ultimate guide to choosing the right hardware suppliers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Blog-features-43.jpg "Professional window cleaners - Beanstalk Mums") There is nothing wrong with admitting you are struggling with work, parenting and keeping your house in order. Depending on your budget, a cleaner and gardener could give you a much-needed respite. There are even ironing services available! Some parents find that just by having a cleaner come in fortnightly or monthly, it is enough to lighten the load. As your children get older, they will be able to help more around the house. This will teach them to be responsible. ***Further reading: [An easy guide to age appropriate chores for children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/)*** ### Flexible Work Options Popping your child in the baby carrier and taking them to work is probably not going to be the best option. But, this doesn’t mean your employer won’t be flexible in offering support for single parents working full-time. If you feel comfortable having this discussion with them, you might find a solution. This could be spending some time working from home, or altering start and finish times. Even just having an employer who understands you may need a day off when your kids are sick will go a long way. If flexibility in your workplace isn’t practical, perhaps your ex is in a different situation. If you do have an amicable relationship with the other parent, you may consider adjusting the care arrangement to suit your roster. Or, another option would be to consider a career change. You might be lucky enough to get a job with flexible work hours, which doesn’t require training. ***Further reading: [Should I return to study as a single mother?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/study-single-mum/)*** ## Practical tips for single parents working full time ### Take Care of Yourself ![Work from home with kids | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Working-from-home-with-kids.jpg "Working from home with kids - Beanstalk Mums") A healthy and happy mum will be a better mum. Don’t feel guilty for taking time to look after yourself. Book in for that haircut or manicure. Find a child-friendly pampering service if you need to. Read a good book on the train, attend a gym class. Gyms will often have a creche available. If you are feeling the pressure, don’t be afraid to reach out. There is emotional support available for single parents working full-time, and it is only a phone call away. If you are feeling overwhelmed, you can try these numbers: Online groups can offer you the support you need, day or night. The right group will give you other single parents to talk to in a positive, supportive environment. You will soon realise there are people in a similar situation and you are not alone. You can join thousands of other single mums on Facebook with the Beanstalk [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/). ***Further reading: [15 Brilliant charities that help single mothers.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/charities-help-single-mothers/)*** ### Be Organised This tip is really just to stop you from going crazy! Organisation is key to a smooth weekly schedule. Having a job that fits into school hours can really help with this. It could be as simple as meal prep or planning on the weekends (get the kids involved). And, having everyone’s outfits ready for the week. Depending on the ages of your children, you can get them to take ownership of certain tasks. This could mean them dressing themselves and following their own routine. Rushing around in the morning is only going to cause you unnecessary stress. Schedule some quality time with your kids each day. Our favourite time of day is dinner at the table, and a special bedtime story. ## The Last Word There is support for single parents working full time. This could be either physical help, such as picking up your kids from school, or emotional help where you have someone to talk to. So, throw away the parental guilt and remember you are doing a stellar job in raising your kids. Sometimes, the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” rings true. Your children will always remember you working hard to give them what they need. ***Further reading: [10 Things your kids will remember about you.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-things-kids-will-remember/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Single-parents-working-ful-time.png "Single parents working ful time - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/help-for-single-parents-working-full-time/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/help-for-single-parents-working-full-time/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career, Money **Tags:** single parent support, paid child care, babysitting, household assistance, self care, flexible work --- ### [Me time: 5 Reasons mum's should make it a priority](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/important-reasons-me-time-priority/) **Published:** March 30, 2023 **Author:** Prudence Henschke **Content:** Are you feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or just plain exhausted? Welcome to mum life! I feel you. And you know what always helps me when I feel burnt out? Me time. Yep, you heard me right. Even as a super busy mother, taking some quality time for myself is an absolute game-changer. And in this article, I (alongside some famous peeps) will convince you that “me time” should be a top priority in your life too. So sit back, relax, and prepare to be convinced about the importance of “me time” as a mum. ## To be a positive role model for your children > *“When I get up and workout, I’m working out just as much for my girls as I am for me, because I want them to see a mother who loves them dearly, who invests in them, but who also invests in herself. It’s just as much about letting them know as young women that it is OK to put yourself a little higher on your priority list*” – **Michelle Obama** Children learn by what they see. Suppose they see us eating leftovers while standing over the kitchen sink rather than sitting down to eat a healthy meal, attending parties when we are sick, rather than staying home to rest and over-scheduling our lives rather than leaving some space to ourselves. In that case, they are far more likely to think self-care is optional rather than necessary. ## ‘Me time’ to maintain your health > *“If you don’t take care of your health today, you will be forced to take care of your illness tomorrow.” –* **Deepak Chopra** It might seem like you don’t have enough hours in the day to get even half of your to-do list checked off. However, you can only put off taking care of yourself for so long. Our bodies are incredible. We put them under enormous pressure with stress, lack of sleep and less-than-perfect lifestyle choices. Think of those extra coffees and glasses of wine, and yet it battles on trying to maintain our optimal health. Be wary, though, as what might start as a niggle (like frequent colds, digestive issues, or other minor ailments) will become louder and louder until we listen. Don’t let a significant illness be what stops you and forces you to start taking care of yourself. ## To support your mental health > *“Women have to take the time to focus on our mental health – take time for self, for the spiritual, without feeling guilty or selfish. The world will see you, and treat you the way you treat yourself”* – **Beyonce** Self-care and self-love are connected. If we genuinely love and care about ourselves, we will make the time to care for our physical and [mental health](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/mental-health-resources-for-me). By showing ourselves some self-care and, in turn, self-love, we are mentally stronger to face life’s more considerable challenges. Self-care practices (like [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/), [yoga](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/) and rest) also put us in a calmer frame of mind, more able to deal with mum life. ## To serve your family and community > *“Taking good care of YOU, means the people in your life will receive the best of you rather than what’s left of you.”* – **Carl Bryan** The analogy of filling your cup is a common one in self-care. If you don’t do things to fill yourself up spiritually, emotionally, and physically you will end up empty. The world needs the happy, fulfilled, best version of you, not the tired, burnout, resentful version. Your family and the wider community benefit if you are at your best. This is why self-care is anything but selfish. ## ‘Me time’ makes us happy > *“The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters”* – **Audrey Hepburn** You are important. Your happiness is essential. Self-care can be done in many different ways. To me, it is doing anything that makes me happy. We have so many obligations and responsibilities as mums it’s easy to forget we are individuals who deserve to take time to do things that make us happy for no other reason than that. ## Conclusion: 5 Reasons why mums should make ‘me time’ a priority’ Well, fellow mums, there you have it. We’ve covered the importance of ‘me time’ and why it should be a top priority in our lives. Taking time for ourselves is not only beneficial for our mental and physical health, but it can also improve our relationships with others, and it quite simply, makes us happy. Let’s be honest, happy mum = happy family. I know that finding the time for ‘me time’ is problematic. But as busy mums, we are superheroes, right? So, let’s use our powers of multitasking and time management to make sure we carve out some time for ourselves each day. Whether reading a book, running, or just taking a long bath, find the time and DO IT! Remember, taking time for ourselves doesn’t make us bad mothers. In fact, it makes us better mothers. So, ditch the guilt and embrace the importance of ‘me time.’ Because let’s face it, a happy, relaxed, and rejuvenated mum is a force to be reckoned with. So go forth, fellow mums, and prioritise yourself. You deserve it (and your family will thank you for it). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/important-reasons-me-time-priority/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/important-reasons-me-time-priority/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** me time, importance of me time, having me time, tips on having me time --- ### [Father's Day ideas to help your child if dad's not around](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/fathers-day-ideas-help-child-dads-not-around/) **Published:** August 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There are times when we inwardly curse commercialised celebration days. For many single mums, Father’s Day is one such day. Is it just me, or does it seem to get bigger and bigger every year? There is nowhere to run and hide from it. I get it. It’s wonderful to be able to pay tribute to dad. But what on earth should we do when dad’s not around? Short of heading to the moon or hiding in a cave, Father’s Day is in our faces without fail, every year. The question is what can we do instead of celebrating dad if dad is AWOL or doesn’t warrant celebration? Here are some ideas to help you handle Father’s Day if dad is not around. ## Father’s Day ideas to help your child if dad’s not around ## Celebrate parents in general Families come in all shapes and sizes, which is a wonderful thing. But is your child aware of this? Even big, well-known brands are backwards in their advertising of stereotypical families. Your little one can be forgiven for thinking a two-parent male/female set-up is the only way to “do family”. All parents, in fact anyone who pays an important part in your child’s life, deserve to be celebrated. > **Conversation idea:** > > *“School calls it Father’s Day, but it’s about celebrating parents or anyone who cares for you. Have a think about who you’d like to celebrate instead.”* ## Celebrate another man Let’s fine tune it a bit here and stick to the male component of Father’s Day. Does your child have good male role model in their live? Perhaps an uncle, grandfather, a male friend or your partner? If so, put them in the spotlight. Pick a shining example of a man and celebrate him instead! > **Conversation idea:** > > *“I’ve got an idea, why don’t we celebrate Uncle Ben this Father’s Day because I know how much he loves you. So, when you’re making cards and gifts at school, make yours for Uncle Ben instead. What do you think?”* ***Further reading: [Finding a positive male role model for your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/).*** ## Grab the day for yourself So, we’ve talked about celebrating parents in general, or celebrating a special male … but what about celebrating mum? Lots of children with an absent dad, will naturally choose to celebrate their mum this Father’s Day … and who are we to say no?! I was brought up by a single dad who did the job of both parents, and he absolutely deserved every homemade card and macaroni necklace I made him. Allowing you children to show their appreciation for you is more important than you might think. Don’t be humble. Give them every opportunity to do it. > **Conversation idea:** > > *“You know, nothing makes me happier than receiving a home-made card from you and one of my favourite things in this world is being your mum. Why don’t we use the day to celebrate me being your mum instead?”* ## Have the ‘chat’ Father’s Day can bring up a lot of questions and emotions for children if dad is not a fixture in their life. Could this Father’s Day be the right time to open the conversation about where dad is and why he’s not here to celebrate Father’s Day. > ## Don’t bother with it Now this is one of my favourites. Just don’t celebrate it. As mentioned previously, I grew up without a mother. And this was waaaay back in the 70’s when single parent families were rare. Yet, I never look back on Mother’s Day and remember the trauma of getting through it without a mum. I just didn’t bother with it. If your child chooses to sit out Father’s Day, why not let them? Perhaps talk to their childcare or school and ask them to organise a different activity for your child while other students work on Father’s Day stuff? If your child doesn’t want to make it a “thing”, don’t make it one. > **Conversation idea:** > > *“You don’t have to do or make anything for Father’s Day if you don’t want to. It can be just another day. If you like, I can talk to school about anything you would like to be excluded from. I will support you.”* ## Run from it I add this option to the list because I have a friend who did literally run from Father’s Day one year! Yep, she took her two kids out of school for the week leading up to the dreaded day and went on holiday. Of course, I am not advocating taking your children out of school in term time. Nor am I suggesting that running from problems is the answer. Yet, it worked for my friend that year and it might work for you. Just taking your child out of their routine and away from the build-up and excitement of Father’s Day could be a solution if they (or you) are finding it particularly hard. > **Conversation idea:** > > *“You know what, I fancy a trip up the coast. What do you reckon? Would you like a few days off school? What was that? You’ve already packed …?!”* ## Final words: Getting through Father’s Day as a single mum In navigating the intricate journey of single motherhood, I’ve discovered that celebrating Father’s Day without dad’s presence can be both challenging and empowering. As fellow single mothers, we have the incredible capacity to fill the void, ensuring our children feel loved and cherished on this special day. These Father’s Day ideas aren’t just about finding alternatives; they’re about embracing the unique bond we share with our children. Through open conversations, we can help our kids understand that families come in all shapes and sizes, and the love we provide is more than enough. Remember, we are not alone on this journey. As single mothers, we are resilient and resourceful, capable of transforming what might seem like a gap into an opportunity for growth and connection. By embracing these Father’s Day ideas and adapting them to our unique situations, we’re teaching our children valuable life lessons about love, empathy, and the strength that can emerge from adversity. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/fathers-day-ideas-help-child-dads-not-around/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/fathers-day-ideas-help-child-dads-not-around/?share=x) - **Categories:** Father's Day **Tags:** father's day, absent dad, no dad --- ### [15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) **Published:** March 15, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With the Easter holidays fast approaching, Easter art could be just the ticket to keep your little ones entertained. And we’re not talking about the complex, disappointment-inducing projects that are doomed for disaster. I’m talking simple, easy, cheap Easter crafts that your children will love. There are heaps of ideas online ranging from dead easy to have-you-got-a-degree hard. But you can save your searching for the Easter egg hunt as we’ve combed the web to find you the best (and simplest) Easter craft projects in the world. So grab the glue and get crackin’ with these tried and tested Easter craft ideas. ***Further reading: [10 Free printable Easter colouring pages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/printable-easter-colouring-pages/).*** ## **Easter crafts your kids will love** ## **1. Felt bunny plushie** If your little ones love plushies, this project will not disappoint. This cute DIY Felt bunny is not only for toddlers but also for tweens and teens (basically kids of all ages!). It’s also a fun way to teach them how to sew. By She Saved ## **2. Stained glass Easter eggs** Easy, yet highly effective, these beautiful stained glass Easter eggs will look fabulous on your windows. Make sure the neighbours can see what a fabulously hands-on mum you are. [![Stained Glass Easter Eggs](https://www.adventure-in-a-box.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/stained-glass-easter-egg-suncatcher-craft-for-kids-1.jpg)](https://www.adventure-in-a-box.com/stained-glass-easter-egg-suncatchers/) By [Adventure in a Box](https://www.adventure-in-a-box.com/stained-glass-easter-egg-suncatchers/) ## **3. Footprint carrots** Love, love, love these footprint carrots. Why not do a few and make a carroty pathway along your art wall? Or write on the back and use it as Easter cards? [![Footprint carrots | Easter Crafts](https://cdn.craftymorning.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/footprint-carrots-kids-craft-easter.jpg)](https://www.craftymorning.com/footprint-carrot-easter-craft/) By [Crafty Morning](https://www.craftymorning.com/footprint-carrot-easter-craft/) ## **4. Painted Easter eggs** The ultimate kids’ Easter crafts idea .. painted eggs. It’s a fairly lengthy but straightforward process that will fill an Eastery afternoon. The end result will be worth the effort. [![Painted Easter Eggs](https://www.hellowonderful.co/ckfinder/userfiles/images/4-watercolor-easter-eggs.jpg)](https://www.hellowonderful.co/post/kid-made-watercolor-easter-eggs/) By [Hello Wonderful](https://www.hellowonderful.co/post/kid-made-watercolor-easter-eggs/) ## **5. Little photo bunnies** Absolutely the funniest Easter craft for kids. These little photo bunnies are a heap of fun to make and will have the recipients hopping with happiness. [![Little Photo Bunnies | Easter crafts](https://thrivinghomeblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/easter-craft.jpg)](https://thrivinghomeblog.com/easter-craft-idea/) By [Thriving Home](http://thrivinghomeblog.com/2014/03/easter-craft-idea/) ## **More Easter art ideas for kids** ## **6. Naturally dyed Easter eggs** Want Easter crafts that will not cost you next week’s budget? Try these naturally dyed Easter eggs! You can decorate them with different spring flowers and leaves you can find in your backyard or your neighbourhood. [![Naturally dyed Easter eggs](https://www.greenkidcrafts.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/naturally-dyed-easter-eggs.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=387394&u=1855502&m=40843&urllink=www.greenkidcrafts.com%2Fnaturally-dyed-easter-eggs%2F&afftrack=) By [Green Kid Crafts](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=387394&u=1855502&m=40843&urllink=www.greenkidcrafts.com%2Fnaturally-dyed-easter-eggs%2F&afftrack=) ## **7. Easter bonnets for beginners** Be panic-free and prepared for the Easter parade this year. Easter bonnet making is the iconic Easter craft for kids. Check out these eggs-tra special bonnet ideas. [![Easter bonnets for beginners | Easter crafts](https://images.prismic.io/netmums/c7c70a24b4fb07635b5a523053b6bf944afed3c9_shutterstock_375492634.jpg?auto=compress,format)](http://www.netmums.com/easter/how-to-make-an-easter-bonnet) By [MumsNet](http://www.netmums.com/easter/how-to-make-an-easter-bonnet) ## **8. Spring chick plant pot decoration** If your kids are tired of egg-themed Easter crafts, this spring chick plant pot decoration will blow their minds! This easy chick planter comes in bright colours and cute designs. Your little ones can also use it to collect their Easter candy! [![Spring chick plant pot decoration](https://www.redtedart.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Easy-chick-planter-diy.jpg)](https://www.redtedart.com/spring-chick-planter-diy/) By [Red Ted Art](https://www.redtedart.com/spring-chick-planter-diy/) ## **9. Easter bunny treat jars** Fill up jars with sweet Easter treats and decorate away. This one requires chalky paint, vinyl bunny stickers, ribbon/lace, and pint-sized mason jars. [![Easter Bunny Treat Jars | Easter crafts](https://www.happinessishomemade.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Easter-Bunny-Treat-Jars.jpg)](https://www.happinessishomemade.net/easter-bunny-treat-jars/) By [Happiness is Homemade](https://www.happinessishomemade.net/easter-bunny-treat-jars/) ## **10. Toilet roll Easter puppets** A seasonal craft activity can’t go by without a use for empty toilet rolls. Use yours this Easter to create these super-cute Easter puppets. [![Toilet roll Easter puppets](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Toilet-Paper-Roll-Bunny-Craft.jpg)](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/toilet-paper-roll-bunny/) By [The Best Ideas for Kid](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/toilet-paper-roll-bunny/) ## **Kids Easter crafts (cont.)** ## **11. Bunny party hats** Having an Easter party? Make these festive bunny hats with the kiddos. You’ll need pastel cardstock, permanent marker, glue dots and twine. [![Bunny Party Hats | Easter crafts](https://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/bunny-party-hats.png)](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2015/03/diy-bunny-party-hats.html/) By [House That Lars Built](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2015/03/diy-bunny-party-hats.html/) ## **12. Paper plate Easter bunny** The paper plate Easter bunny is an easy craft that toddlers and preschoolers will enjoy. The giant googly eyes turn up the cute meter to 11. [![Paper Plate Easter Bunny](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Easter-Craft-for-Toddlers-Paper-Plate-Easter-Bunny.jpg)](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/paper-plate-easter-bunny-craft/) By [The Best Idea for Kids](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/paper-plate-easter-bunny-craft/) ## **13. Mini popsicle stick chicks** How cute and colourful are these Popsicle stick chicks? This uses mini Popsicle sticks that are perfect for tiny hands. [![Mini popsicle stick chicks | Easter crafts](https://cdn.craftymorning.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/popsicle-stick-chick-easter-craft-for-kids.png)](https://www.craftymorning.com/mini-popsicle-stick-chick-craft-for-kids/) By [Crafty Morning](https://www.craftymorning.com/mini-popsicle-stick-chick-craft-for-kids/) ## **14. Cute and easy Easter basket craft** Let your little girl stand out during the Easter egg hunt with this dainty basket. It’s cute and easy to make. Plus, she will be so proud that she made it herself! [![Cute and easy Easter basket craft](https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-t-RlkRbpT_A/WpXFEKOzOmI/AAAAAAAAGpY/r4ShSl-A-XszaqKMfkPnMmb6g04zLkLNQCLcBGAs/s640/IMG_2757.JPG?imgmax=640)](https://www.thejoysharing.com/2018/02/cute-and-easy-easter-basket-craft.html) By [The Joy of Sharing](https://www.thejoysharing.com/2018/02/cute-and-easy-easter-basket-craft.html) ## **15. Easy yarn egg** Have some leftover yarn? Turn it into this colourful Easter decor. Kids will love wrapping the yarn around the egg-shaped cardboard pieces. [![Easy Yarn Egg | Easter crafts](https://www.fantasticfunandlearning.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Easy-Yarn-Egg-Craft-for-Easter...fun-and-easy-for-kids-to-make.-Great-for-Easter-parties-class-activities-and-large-group-gatherings.jpg)](https://www.fantasticfunandlearning.com/yarn-egg-easter-craft.html) By [Fantastic Fun and Learning](https://www.fantasticfunandlearning.com/yarn-egg-easter-craft.html) ## **Summary: 15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love** With Easter just around the corner, I know how exciting it is to get into the festive spirit with our little ones. I understand how single mums like us desire to create special memories with our kids, particularly during holidays like Easter. Aside from honing your children’s creativity (and keeping them entertained this holiday), these artsy ideas are perfect for spending quality time with them. Want to know what I love most about doing these Easter crafts every year? Seeing my kids take pride in their creations gives me that warm, fuzzy feeling inside. I can still remember how my daughters and I started with a simple egg decorating project. In the following years, we got more creative and tried DIY Easter baskets. We used recycled materials and colourful yarn to make each one personal. There was one time when we made Easter cards for family and friends. My youngest’s face would light up as she carefully wrote heartfelt messages and decorated each card with bunny drawings and colourful patterns. It was priceless. Remember, whether it’s painting eggs, crafting baskets, or making cards, embrace the mess and enjoy the moments with your little ones. And even if they’re old enough to make the crafts themselves, they’ll enjoy it more if you join in. Hugs, kisses, and Easter wishes from Beanstalk. For more Easter inspiration, see: [8 Easter cakes to delight your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-easter-cakes/) [21 Easter gifts for kids that have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) [12 Easy Easter party food ideas (perfect for bring a plate)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-easter-party-food-ideas/) [10 Easter gifts to buy online and send to your loved ones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter **Tags:** easter activities, kids easter crafts, easter entertainment for kids, easter fun activities for kids, easter art --- ### [Managing kids’ behaviour when they come home from dad’s house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/managing-kids-behaviour-come-home-dads-house/) **Published:** December 15, 2023 **Author:** Ariella Lew **Content:** Hi, I’m Ariella. I am a highly qualified paediatric nurse and the Director of Kids on Track Consultancy. I provide strategies for families around parenting, behaviour and sleep, toilet training, and everything in between. Following my work with separated families, here is my expert advice on calmly, practically and successfully managing kids behaviour when they come home from dad’s house. Moving between homes regularly would be unsettling for even the most well-adjusted adults. Children who need routine, stability and a sense of safety above all else. Frequently [moving across two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) is usually daunting and overwhelming, even when they don’t express it. Is it any wonder that your child acts up after visiting dad? Children worry about forgetting things in the move, needing access to all their possessions when they need or want them and having limited exposure to their other parent if something occurs. This reality needs to be validated and acknowledged for all children who live across two homes. The key is to show tremendous empathy, forward planning and insight to minimise the disruption felt by your child/ren. You must also create a smoother transition between homes, irrespective of how often the move occurs or how long the stay will be. Animosity between exes will play a part in the child’s experience of the transition from one home to the next. Always remember that every family dynamic is different, and each co-parenting case is different. However, there are some simple yet effective ways to help kids of all ages and stages ensure a smoother transition as they move from one home to another, regardless of the specific circumstances at play. Using both my experience in child behaviour and my experience working with separated families, here is my advice to successfully manage your child’s behaviour when they come home from dad’s house. ***Further reading: [How to deal with single mum separation anxiety.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/)*** ## Show empathy and validation for how your child feels Many parents have concerns about the change in temperament they see in their children upon return from a visit to their ex. While this can be difficult to parent through and manage, it is essential to understand where these emotions are coming from. They often come from a genuine desire that things were different. There’s a feeling of being displaced or unsettled, and a sadness that their time with their dad has finished. This can often be the case when dad is the parent that they spend less time with. No matter your feelings towards your ex, empathy for your child or children is vital in helping them settle in from one home to the next. Understanding that this transition is challenging will help you allow your children some grace as they adjust to your home again. Children may act out upon coming home from Dad’s. They might: - Test your boundaries - Intentionally break house rules - Use language or actions that they know will provoke you This is all a part of a child seeking safety and wanting reassurance from you, their parent. They want to feel safe despite the upheaval they feel from moving from one home where they have felt settled to a new environment. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Pexels-vlada-karpovich-4617295-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-vlada-karpovich-4617295 - Beanstalk Mums") Allow your child/ren the chance to talk to you about their feelings and ensure they know it is okay to tell you they are feeling sad/anxious/regretful, etc. Make it clear that you know they aren’t feeling their best when you see these behaviours. In addition, children may express through their words or behaviour that they miss their other parent. Validating your child’s feelings and reassuring them that they will see their other parent in a few days, or via FaceTime or phone in the meantime, will help your child feel less abandoned and reassured that both parents still love and care for them. ## Stay calm to manage behavioural issues after visitation Changes in children’s behaviour before and after parent visits may be normal, but that doesn’t mean your frustration is invalid. However, it’s crucial to remember that you are the adult in this situation. It’s already tricky for children to understand their feelings, let alone regulate them. As an adult, it is your responsibility to manage your emotions to keep things under control. You must recognise your tendencies to act or react in different situations. This way, you know what to do when the inevitable happens. Even if you’re angry at your child/ren’s sudden rebellious streak, stay calm and try to get to the bottom of things. Perhaps they are missing their dad. Maybe they are frustrated about your family set-up. It can also be something worse, like your ex directly influencing your child to feel that way towards you. What’s important is that you understand your kids are not acting out just because they want to make you feel bad. There’s always a deeper reason behind their behaviour. You need to know this so you know how to react. Sometimes, they act out because they sense your negativity. Children are known to be perfect mirrors of their parents. They reflect your exact emotions. Your kids know if you are cross with their dad, even if you don’t show it. So, you must stay calm and minimise negative emotions if your child acts up after visiting dad. ## Communication with the parent they have just left One of the issues that is a common cause for concern for children of all ages is how much and when they will be able to connect with and be involved with the parent they have just left. Some children get used to and are happy with the custody arrangement. Others want more. This can lead to foul moods, resentment and even tears when they return to their primary home. For older children who have devices, navigate this with behaviour agreements around how much [phone time they can have](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/). One way to do that is to monitor how much time is spent on the phone with dad. For younger ones, it can be helpful to set up an additional time between visits so that they can speak to them. One idea could be for dad to read a five-minute [bedtime story](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/) over the phone to your child when they are staying with you. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933084-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933084 - Beanstalk Mums")Pexels tatianasyrikova 3933084 Of course, putting a time limit on this conversation with their Dad may be necessary. This is especially if they expect you to set up the phone call, and this would cause you animosity or resentment. If this is the case, it could be worth considering if someone else can supervise during that time. This way, your child receives the connection they are missing. Whatever you decide, from open communication to no contact at all, your child must understand your arrangement. Explain to your child in practical terms what, when and how they can expect to speak to their Dad. So, you give your child a sense of control over their own situation. This can help them feel secure and connected to both parents, no matter whose house they are living in. Other ways to promote this connection can be to allow pictures of Dad by your child’s bed. You can also allow them to invite Dad to school events, etc., even if they don’t usually chat when at your home. ***Further reading: [How to communicate with an ex you can’t stand.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/)*** ## Involve your child in the problem-solving Mothers know best, of course, we do! But when it comes to dealing with changes in children’s behaviour before and after parent visits, it’s an excellent idea to involve your child in how you can get through as a family. Things you can ask from your child include: - A solution, or what they think both of you should do to solve the conflict - A reasonable timeframe, or how long it will take for things to calm down - Alternative solutions, or what you both will do when the first solution fails Your child will feel heard and respected because you’re not resorting to simply telling them to stop. Talking to them and adjusting your responses based on what they say will help your child feel empowered and in control. They will know you are willing to listen, and they are more likely to open up to you. Aside from having a solution to your present problem, you also get to teach your kids an essential life skill. It’s a win-win. They learn to manage their emotions, think creatively, and help them realise their abilities. Problem-solving allows them to adapt better to real-life problems when they grow up. These are just some benefits of involving them in solving conflicts. ## Create rituals around transition One way to help children understand that it’s time to move from one home to the next is to create consistent rituals. Routine allows children to learn through repetition that they can rely on consistent ‘signals’ to mark the move. This helps them adjust to the other parent’s home. Try finding a simple ritual you can commit to and follow each time you pick your child up from their father’s house. This would need to be something out of the ordinary. Choose a routine that only happens at the point of pick up from their other parent’s house. It could be: - Picking up takeaway dinner on the way home - Going through a drive-through for a treat - Or listening to a particular song in the car together This consistent action on the way back from Dad’s house will help to mark the transition for your child. It gives them closure as one home experience ends and another one begins. A second way to mark and assist your child’s transition between homes is to allow them downtime. For the first 30-45 minutes upon returning, allow them to be in their own space with an activity of their choice. Don’t expect them to jump back into the fast-paced life we all live! Set aside a time and space where you don’t bombard them with questions, conversations, or activities. It can help them process the transition and think through their time at their other parent’s home. It is much like processing through their school day before talking. ***Further reading: [8 Reasons why a good routine can change your life. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/good-routine/)*** ## Make a point of having family time Following some downtime, the sooner that you can do something as a family together, the better. This activity should include the whole family unit as it looks at your home (including pets)! The aim is to re-cement the bond and feelings of belonging associated with your home. Some ideas are: - Having a meal together, which your child helps to prepare - Having a reading session where everyone gets to choose a book (for younger children) - Playing a game that everyone enjoys - Having a movie night on the couch. Another idea is to also ensure that on that first night, each of your children who has just returned home spends some one-on-one time with you. This time can be spent doing what is already in the routine, such as having a bath or bedtime stories. Or, can be more of a ritual/treat, i.e. coming to the shops with you as a special outing. These acts of togetherness will likely help your child to feel safe, assured and settled in their new home environment more quickly. ## Make sure the practicalities run smoothly For many shared parenting families, the first few months of changeovers are complete chaos. There are bags of belongings everywhere, confusion over what to bring and what to leave, and high-conflict emotions bouncing off the walls. It is no wonder kids struggle and play up when you finally get them in the car and start driving. Not only are they sad to be leaving their dad. Forgetting something and the possible consequences of not having an item they need to worry about. The level of organisation by which changeover is executed directly correlates with your kids’ moods when you get them home. Some ways to make the changeover run smoothly when you collect them from dads are: - Make a list and share it with their dad so he can ensure everything is packed - Encourage their dad to have everything ready when you arrive. This way, there is no last-minute panic or confusion (which may lead to conflict). - Suggest that he contacts you before the changeover if he has questions about what to pack. This way, you can have everything organised in advance. - If not already being used, provide their dad with suitable bags or containers to move your kids’ stuff between homes ***Further reading: [7 Superb ideas for moving kids stuff during handover.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/)*** ## Make-up visual schedules and calendars Depending on the age of your child/ren, it can be hard for them to grasp when they are supposed to be with which parent and for how long. It is also something that parents with split custody arrangements work hard to keep track of as well. Therefore, it is helpful for children to have a way to reference and know with certainty when they will be moving next. This helps them feel more relaxed and alleviates anxiety about what is coming next. A visual schedule on the wall shows clearly which days the child will be with Mum and which days with Dad. It can be very helpful in easing anxiety about the unknown. Explaining to children what days they will be with who, who will be collecting them from school, when and who will be attending different school or life events, can help children feel more in control of their lives. ## Reach for professional help if you need it Of course, not everything can be solved at home. There are times when the problem is more than you can handle, and “keeping it in the family” will do more harm than good. When you feel no longer confident that you can solve your child’s behavioural issues, you may need to seek professional help. This can be a child behavioural therapist trained to help kids become [less impulsive and defiant](https://www.lumierechild.com/lumiere-childrens-therapy/signs-your-child-needs-behavioral-therapy). You can also enrol yourself (and possibly your ex?) in parenting training to manage your child’s behaviour. You and your child may also benefit from family mediation. This is not therapy. It is a short-term approach that allows parents and their children to discuss their conflicts before a third-party mediator. You can even do [child-inclusive mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/child-inclusive-mediation/), which allows your child to be heard and a more child-focused solution to be reached. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Pexels-kindelmedia-8550837-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-kindelmedia-8550837 - Beanstalk Mums") In extreme cases, you might need to take things to court. If you feel like your current parenting arrangement is harming your child emotionally and mentally, you can ask for legal support in [changing parenting orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/change-consent-orders/). You might also need to take your child to the GP if the arrangement is causing negative impacts on their health that you are unable to fix yourself. To cut things short, feel free to seek professional help when you need it. You’re not failing as a parent if you can’t solve problems on your own. Having a supportive village to raise your child will make parenting an easier job, especially for a single mum like you. ## Conclusion: Managing kids’ behaviour when they come home from dad’s house All the suggestions I have made in this article have been tried and tested with shared parenting families I have worked with where a child acts up after visiting dad. While some are surefire solutions, others work well for some families and not for others. Remember, every child, every parent and every situation is different. This means the dynamics of your own situation are unique. Often, the only way to know what will work is by trying different strategies and fine-tuning them By creating some of these rituals, children begin to feel a better sense of consistency when they move between homes. This is key to alleviating feelings of worry and being unsettled. Knowing that you are approachable, open and understanding of their relationship with their father will also help minimise their feelings of guilt at having had a nice time and not wanting to talk to you about it in case it makes you sad! But no matter what, if during the transition period, your child feels consistently loved, advocated for and supported by both parents, the turbulence that can be caused for everyone with the regular moves can be reduced. I hope these suggestions will help to minimise the stress in your family when your child comes home from dad’s house. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/managing-kids-behaviour-come-home-dads-house/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/managing-kids-behaviour-come-home-dads-house/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** co parenting, shared care, changeover, handover, between two homes --- ### [What should I do with my wedding ring now I'm divorced?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/what-to-do-with-my-wedding-ring-now-im-divorced/) **Published:** December 4, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you have a sparkling wedding ring you no longer wear now that you are separated? It is a shame to think of all those once-meaningful rings stashed away, never to see the light of day. At the same time, it’s hard to know what to do with your wedding ring if you’re divorced. It once symbolised something so special, yet now it could be associated with sadness, regret or anger. Plus, you might *like* your wedding ring as a piece of jewellery, but not what it represents. It’s a difficult decision, that’s for sure. Here are some suggestions to help you decide what to do with old wedding rings when you divorce. ## Donate your wedding ring to charity Donating your wedding ring to charity after divorce is a way to get rid of bad memories from a failed marriage and do some good while you’re at it. You can also get a [tax write-off](https://www.ato.gov.au/Individuals/Income-and-deductions/Deductions-you-can-claim/Other-deductions/Gifts-and-donations/) for your donation. Plus, supporting your favourite organisation with something that used to mean a lot to you feels great. ## Turn your wedding ring into a travel fund Going on a holiday is always a good idea. But after costly divorce proceedings, you might not have enough for a much-needed post-divorce trip. Here’s when your wedding ring will come in handy. Sell the ring and use the money to kick-start your savings or to boost your current holiday fund. Whether your wedding ring finances your dream vacation or just a night away in a nice hotel, you will get intangible and happy memories out of your marriage souvenir, alongside a sense of moving on. ## Sell it Selling a wedding ring makes financial sense for many newly single women and single mums. It can be scary to suddenly be the only breadwinner and [adjust to living on one income](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/adjust-to-change-of-income-when-separate/). Exchanging your ring for a wad of cash is a great way to create that emergency fund you’ve always wanted or the new couch you’ve been longing for. Try selling it online to get an idea of the value. Brand names usually go for big bucks on shops like eBay and Etsy. ## Use the stones to create a healing crystal grid If you’re into manifesting, you might like to create a crystal grid to help you through the healing process. This idea only works if your ring (engagement or wedding) boasts a crystal or two that you can have removed and use on the grid. A crystal grid is a spiritual practice involving arranging crystals in a specific geometric pattern to focus and amplify energy for a particular intention, such as healing or manifestation. You can buy a small crystal grid platform, or arrange the crystals on a surface in your home, ideally away from prying little hands. Plus, you’ll need a few more crystals to create the grid. Make sure you get ones that represent self-love, resilience and transformation. Don’t forget to check the calendar for the next full moon. You need Luna’s cleansing powers to purify this memento from bad energies. ***Further reading: [15 Powerful self-love crystals to enhance your life. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-love-crystals/)*** ## Hold a letting go ceremony How about holding a letting go ceremony to bid your final farewell to your wedding ring? You could keep it simple and head to a quiet place, wear something nice, and read a letter to the wind as you bid farewell to your marriage. Alternatively, you can invite everyone for a complete performance to commemorate this closure. One of my best friends turned hers into an elaborate Lord of the Rings recreation, complete with costumes and props. She even assigned me to recite, ‘Cast it into the fire! Destroy it!’ Unlike Isildur, though, she destroyed her precious ring as a symbol of new beginnings. Needless to say, her marriage ended on a bad note. ## Save your wedding ring for your kids Instead of selling your wedding ring or throwing it away, saving it for your kids is a great idea. When they’re older, they can decide how they feel about it and what they want to do with it. Like a wedding dress, this is an excellent way to recycle an emotionally charged item and pass on the good memories to someone you love. ## Chuck it It seems impulsive, but many women have chucked their wedding rings and said it’s the best thing they’ve ever done. Some people throw it in the trash or some field, others in the ocean or lake. It can be an excellent way to release your feelings. Throwing it away can be the right decision, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy. It can take years and years before you’re ready to do this, and that’s okay. And when you’re finally able to, it’s going to demonstrate your hard-earned resilience. ## Put it in a time capsule If you’re not keen on selling or chucking your wedding ring, you could hide it away in a time capsule. A time capsule is a sealed container filled with items that are representative of a particular period in time. They are usually buried or hidden with the intention of being unearthed or opened by future generations, providing a glimpse into the past. In this case, you could put your ring and other wedding paraphernalia in the capsule. Although you’ll never know if it will be discovered and by who, it’s nice to think that your past marriage has been encapsulated in time, even if it’s something you’d rather forget. ## Have it remodelled into something else Repurposing a wedding ring after a divorce is very popular. After all, it’s a nice piece of jewellery regardless of possible bad memories attached to it. [Jewellery remodelling](https://www.mdtdesign.com.au/ring-and-jewellery-remakes-remodelling-redesigning/) allows you to transform something tied to your past into a piece that reflects who you are now. Many women have turned their wedding or engagement rings into pendants and necklaces. You can also have it remade as earrings, an anklet, a bracelet, a hair ornament or whatever you fancy. One woman turned her wedding band into a pig, and another transformed it into a Monopoly piece! Nick Ireland from nickireland.com in the Brisbane CBD, says that you could always trade in your old engagement and wedding ring for something to reflect your new lease on life. And what better way to do that than an Argyle Pink Diamond Ring from [Nick Ireland’s Pink Diamond Rings](https://nickireland.com/argyle-pink-diamonds/)? ## Wear it on another finger Women who are still on good terms with their exes may keep their wedding ring after divorce, but wear it on a different finger or on the right hand. I love my wedding ring, which is actually an eternity ring, and I still wear it (on my right hand) ten years post-divorce. It’s also a safe option if you’re still processing your emotions and need time before deciding what to do with the ring. ## Give the wedding ring back to your ex Some women want to get rid of everything that reminds them of their marriage, including the wedding ring, so they return it to their exes. If it’s an heirloom piece that’s been in your ex’s family for generations, he’d probably want it back anyway! You can trade the ring for something of the same value, or let your lawyer handle it if the divorce is bitter or high-conflict. ## Store it safely while you decide A wedding ring is an emotional piece of jewellery that holds both good and bad memories of the marriage. It’s okay to keep wearing it. It’s also okay not to sell it or throw it away. But before you make a final decision, you must be truly ready. So take your time and heal. You can store it in a drawer, jewellery box, or a safe deposit box. One day, you’ll wake up with a sense of empowerment and know exactly what to do with it. And, in the meantime, you will know it is safe. ## Summary: What should I do with my wedding ring now that I’m divorced? Your wedding ring might be one of the last things on your mind during your separation. But you will remember it when the divorce is official – or someday when you open a forgotten box and find this souvenir of your marriage. You were meticulous when you chose your wedding ring. Regardless of its price, it holds special memories. But with your divorce, you simply can’t wear it as usual. You will ask, ‘What can I do with my old wedding ring?’ Of course, you can chuck your wedding ring. But you can also put it to good use. You can donate it to your favourite charity to benefit others. (As they say, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.) Or sell it to add money to your household funds or travel savings … think pina colada on a beach somewhere exotic! You can also repurpose your wedding ring. If you’re into manifestation, you can transform it into a crystal grid using the stones of your engagement or wedding ring. Or upcycle it into something else, such as a necklace or another type of ring. Another option if you adore the ring is to keep it and wear it on a different finger. One of my favourite suggestions is to stick it in a time capsule and leave it in the laps of the gods to be discovered by people of the future. Or you could give it back to your ex. (If it’s an heirloom piece, why not sell it back to his family? I mean, your former in-laws would think you’re an opportunistic B by ditching the divorce ring etiquette … but the operative word here is ‘former.’) Deciding what to do with your wedding ring after a divorce is tough. But no one’s stopping you from doing what you want with it. It is *your* wedding ring after all. ***So, you’ve got your wedding ring sorted, now what to do with the dress? Here are some ideas to make you giggle: [12 Hilarious things to do with your wedding dress when you divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-hilarious-things-to-do-with-your-wedding-dress-when-you-divorce/).*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/what-to-do-with-my-wedding-ring-now-im-divorced/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/what-to-do-with-my-wedding-ring-now-im-divorced/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** wedding ring, engagement ring, wedding jewellery --- ### [From Idea to Launch: Single Mum's Roadmap to Starting a Business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-starting-business/) **Published:** August 5, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** 8 years ago, my life took a turning point, and I became a single mom of two little kids. My life started to fall apart with the mental stress of managing a family all by myself while dealing with the financial stress of paying for the mortgage and other essentials. Even bringing the food to our table was taking a toll. A 9 to 5 corporate job while caring for my kids was crushing my mind. Hence, it ended up with me being fired. After years of struggles, I finally got control of my mind and life and emerged as a reputed entrepreneur in society. You can achieve it earlier if you learn how to do it. This blog post is a complete road map that can help struggling single mums start their businesses while making up enough time for their families. Let’s get started to learn with these functional guidelines. ## **How to Prepare Yourself for Starting a Business As a single mother, I truly understand your insecurities about missing your mother’s duties while spending ample time on starting a business. However, trust me, it is all worth it, and you are doing it for the sake of your family. Here is what you can do to get a relaxed mind toward your mum’s duties. ### ● **Get Over the Working-Mom-Guilt At the start of a business, entrepreneurs are dealing with a lot. From hiring human resources to getting the right logistics, there are a lot of things to do. Hence, you may not be able to spend as much time with your kids as the at-home mums do. However, it is not about how much time you are going to spend; it is the quality of the time. Use your limited time for bonding and crafting a healthy relationship with your kids to get over your working mum’s guilt. ### ● **Hire a Secure Childcare Let’s be honest. You are not going to be around your kids all the time. Hence, you need to ensure that your child is safe while you are concentrating on your business. The best and most secure childcare is with the other parent, who can efficiently take care of their kids. However, if the environment at the place of the other parent is not good, you can opt for a well-reputed childcare facility in your locality where your kids can have a good time after school. ### ● **Secure Your Mental Health Single motherhood brings a lot of challenges. From managing the daily chores to being the sole breadwinner of the family, single mothers’ struggles are never-ending. In this chaotic and demanding routine, they have a hard time dedicating some time to their mental and physical well-being. The puffy eyes or tired shoulders are not what a single mother deserves. As a single mother, I have always stressed managing a self-care routine to have a healthy environment. Therefore, dedicate some self-care time in your busy routine so you can refresh yourself for the upcoming tasks. ![Starting a Business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/IN-ARTICLE-images-33.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums")[Image by freepik](https://www.freepik.com/free-photo/portrait-professional-adult-woman-posing_6987879.htm#fromView=search&page=1&position=19&uuid=2f8eebcf-b1c3-4b41-842e-80a934d2be65) ## **How to Start a Business as a Single Mom** Once you are sure that your children are safe and secure in your physical absence, it is time to start your business. Here is the step-by-step guide for helping the enthusiastic single mums start their business. ### ● **Create a Business Plan The journey of every entrepreneur starts with crafting a realistic business plan that clarifies the path to gaining financial independence. In the simplest words, a business plan includes what and how you are going to do it by identifying the market gaps regarding your business and highlighting your potential to fill the gaps. Create a smart roadmap for your journey in the form of a business plan. Childcare, Motherhood blogs, pet care, or a small business, you start to get your business idea inspirations from here or from the internet to figure out what skills and interests you have to invest in a meaningful business. ### ● **Secure Funds for Business The crucial element of starting a business is to secure funding. Not everyone has enough capital to start their business. So, it is common to get funding from traditional lenders like banks or private lending companies like [Royace Stone Capital](https://www.roycestonecapital.com.au/). Many organisations provide special grants to single mothers who are planning to launch their businesses. You can present your business plan to the lenders to get enough funds to kick-start your business. ### ● **Launch Your Business You have got a business plan, secured your funding, and it is time to launch what you have dreamt of. It depends on the volume and requirements of your business and how much time it is going to take to establish and make your first sale. However, it is all mentioned in your business plan, and you have a timeline for every step. ### ● **Marketing A Business Marketing is an important part of business launch and growth. You have to tell the people about the existence of your high-quality products. The essential part of a marketing strategy is stressing the objectives of your business so people can know how your business can benefit them. Increase networking with the single-mom communities who will be more than happy to promote your business, and you may get your first clients from there. Moreover, you should also use conventional marketing channels like social media to market your business and reach your goals. ## **Final Words on Starting a Business as a Single Mum** In conclusion, [starting a business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/start-a-small-business-from-hobby/) as a single mother has two important aspects. The first one is where you prepare yourself for starting a business and get over the guilt and fear of failure, of having a work-life balance, while in the other, you start your journey as an entrepreneur and give a realistic appearance to your business idea. Set some big goals and set out on a risky journey to achieve them and gain your financial independence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-starting-business/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-starting-business/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Common Newborn Mistakes First-Time Parents Can Avoid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/common-newborn-mistakes-first-time-parents-can-avoid/) **Published:** January 15, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The first few weeks with a newborn feel like a blur of joy, exhaustion, and steep learning curves. Most new parents start this journey with a mix of excitement and a fair amount of nerves. It is normal to worry about doing things “wrong” or missing a vital step in those early days. While every baby is different, many first-time parents make similar newborn mistakes that can make an already challenging transition feel even harder. You do not need to be a perfect parent, but being aware of these common pitfalls can save you significant stress. ## Common Newborn Mistakes First-Time Parents Can Avoid ## Overcomplicating the Preparation Phase Many expectant parents spend hours scrolling through social media or wandering the aisles of baby stores, convinced they need every gadget on the shelf. The pressure to have a ‘picture-perfect’ nursery often leads to overspending on items that rarely get used. This clutter often adds more stress when you are trying to find what you actually need in the middle of the night. Instead of buying every high-tech swing or designer outfit, focus on the essentials that keep the baby safe and comfortable. A better approach is to refer to a reliable [newborn baby checklist](https://srchealth.com/blogs/news/newborn-checklist) to filter the must-haves from the marketing hype. You really only need a safe sleeping space, basic clothing, nappies, and feeding supplies to start. If you keep your setup simple, you spend less time managing ‘stuff’ and more time resting. You can always buy extra items later once you know your baby’s specific preferences. ## Misinterpreting Early Sleep Patterns New parents often expect their baby to fall into a predictable routine within the first week. It is a mistake to try to force a strict schedule on a newborn whose internal clock is not yet developed. Their sleep patterns are naturally erratic because their stomachs are small and they require frequent feeds to grow. Instead of fighting against the baby’s natural rhythm, try to follow their lead. Day-night confusion is very common in the beginning. You can help them distinguish between the two by keeping the house bright and noisy during the day and very dark and quiet during the night. Do not worry about ‘spoiling’ a newborn by letting them sleep when they are tired. The goal is to ensure they get enough rest, which in turn helps you get whatever sleep you can manage. ## Neglecting Your Own Support Network It is tempting to want to do everything yourself to prove you are a capable parent. However, isolation is one of the biggest mistakes you can make in the postpartum period. Many parents wait until they are at their breaking point before they ask for help. Refusing offers of meals, laundry help, or a few hours of childcare can lead to burnout very quickly. Building and utilising a [support network](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1871519220303668) is a sign of strength, not weakness. Whether it is your own parents, friends, or a local community group, having people to lean on makes a massive difference. If someone offers to bring over dinner or hold the baby while you shower, say yes. These small acts of kindness allow you to recover physically and mentally. Taking care of yourself is a vital part of taking care of your baby. ## Panicking Over Every Crying Baby Crying is the only way a newborn can communicate their needs. Many first-time parents feel a surge of panic every time they hear a [crying baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/infant-comfort-and-soothing-techniques-for-new-mums/), assuming that something is seriously wrong. This often leads to over-stimulating the infant by constantly switching between rocking, feeding, and changing positions, which can actually make the crying worse. Most of the time, the baby is just hungry, tired, or needs a nappy change. Sometimes they are simply overstimulated by the environment. Take a deep breath and work through a mental list of their basic needs one by one. If the baby is fed and dry but still unsettled, they might just need a calm, dark room and some gentle swaying. Staying calm yourself helps the baby regulate their own emotions. If you are genuinely worried about their health, a quick call to a GP (general practitioner) or child health nurse is better than spiralling into a panic. ![newborn mistakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/Image-2-1200x800.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Ignoring Your Own Recovery Mothers often focus 100% of their energy on the baby and forget that they are also healing from a major physical event. Skipping meals, ignoring physical pain, or pushing yourself to ‘get back to normal’ too quickly can delay your recovery. Your body needs rest and proper nutrition to heal and, if you are breastfeeding, to produce milk. Listen to your body. If you feel pain or extreme exhaustion, sit down and rest. Household chores can wait, and visitors can make their own tea. Prioritising your health is not selfish; it is necessary. A healthy, rested parent is much better equipped to handle the demands of a newborn than one who is running on empty. ## Conclusion: Common Newborn Mistakes First-Time Parents Can Avoid Parenthood is a series of adjustments. You will likely make mistakes, and that is perfectly okay. The key is to learn as you go and remain flexible. By simplifying your expectations and accepting help when it is offered, you remove much of the unnecessary pressure that clouds the early weeks. Focus on the basics, trust your instincts, and remember that this phase is temporary. You are doing a better job than you think, and with time, the chaos of the newborn stage will transform into a manageable, rewarding routine. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/common-newborn-mistakes-first-time-parents-can-avoid/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/common-newborn-mistakes-first-time-parents-can-avoid/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children --- ### [50+ Easy recipes for healthy after school snacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/) **Published:** October 6, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you have a child of school age, you will know how hungry they are at the end of the school day. They would eat ANYTHING. The worry is that if you don’t have something healthy and yummy ready to fill their little tummies, they’ll reach for the junk food. Nooooo. Instead, get organised with these easy recipes for healthy after school snacks, which can be made in advance or super fast. ## 50 Savoury and Healthy After School Snacks ## Kids’ Favourite Healthy After School Snacks ### Pizza Toast Serve up this easy pizza toast after school and watch it disappear. Only five ingredients. [![Pizza Toast ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/vidthumb/images/delish-kids-pizza-toast-gopher-02-1516806667.jpg)](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a57141/pizza-toast-recipe/) Recipe source: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a57141/pizza-toast-recipe/) ### Zucchini Slice Make zucchini more appetising with bacon and cheese. This comes together in 30 minutes. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Zucchini Slice](https://img.delicious.com.au/kg7KYaRv/del/2001/11/zucchini-slice-41918-2.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/zucchini-slice/eb7eed59-5f53-4f6f-bfb5-9b7e3f81a702) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/zucchini-slice/eb7eed59-5f53-4f6f-bfb5-9b7e3f81a702) ### Bread Cup Quiches Bread cup quiches are perfect when you’re feeling a little fancy but don’t have time to bake. Looks and tastes delicious. [![Bread Cup Quiches](https://cdn.donnahaycdn.com.au/images/content-images/bread-cup-quiches.jpg)](https://www.donnahay.com.au/recipes/lunch/bread-cup-quiches) Recipe source: [Donna Hay](https://www.donnahay.com.au/recipes/lunch/bread-cup-quiches) ### Zucchini Ham Patties This is a great way to sneak veggies into healthy after school snacks. Your kids will never know there’s zucchini in it. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Zucchini and Ham Patties](https://img.taste.com.au/waQDnHK1/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2017/01/greenie-zucchini-and-ham-potato-patties-119824-1.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/greenie-zucchini-ham-potato-patties/GPzIJq0o?r=quickeasy/7EJK3dHJ) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/greenie-zucchini-ham-potato-patties/GPzIJq0o?r=quickeasy/7EJK3dHJ) ### Tortilla Roll Up Lollipops Rollups are always yummy and fun to make. This one calls for wholemeal tortilla wraps, but you can sub wholemeal bread. [![Tortilla Rollup Lollipops](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Fun-and-healthy-kids-party-food-idea-cute-tortilla-roll-up-lollipops-with-edible-sticks-from-Eats-Amazing-UK.jpg)](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/fun-food-for-kids/creative-food-tutorials/party-food-idea-tortilla-roll-up-lollipops) Recipe source: [Eats Amazing](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/fun-food-for-kids/creative-food-tutorials/party-food-idea-tortilla-roll-up-lollipops) ### Crispy Mac and Cheese Muffins Here’s a spin on good old mac and cheese that’s perfect for snacking. Make it healthier by using whole wheat pasta and adding veggies. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Crispy Mac and Cheese Muffins ](https://img.taste.com.au/pOxxyEq6/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/crispy-mac-and-cheese-muffins-103157-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/crispy-mac-cheese-muffins/a1f8ac71-45a2-45bf-a353-fea196a12c75) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/crispy-mac-cheese-muffins/a1f8ac71-45a2-45bf-a353-fea196a12c75) ## Cheesy & Healthy After School Snacks ### Cheesy Broccoli Bites This is a genius way to get kids to eat broccoli. Even veggie haters will beg for more. Plus, they are perfect for the [freezer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/simple-freezer-tips-to-streamline-your-kitchen/). [![Cheesy Broccoli Bites ](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/broccoli-bites-from-super-healthy-kids-second-1200-745x630.jpg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/cheesy-broccoli-bites/) Recipe source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/cheesy-broccoli-bites/) ### Mini Spinach and Cheese Pizzas Pizza is always a hit. Make it healthier with spinach, whole wheat pita and ricotta cheese. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Mini Spinach and Cheese Pizzas ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/del.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/15/10/54f640832b929_-_mini-spinach-cheese-pizzas-mslo0511-xl.jpg?crop=1xw:1.0xh;center,top&resize=768:%2A)](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a15528/mini-spinach-cheese-pizzas-recipe-mslo0511/) Recipe source: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a15528/mini-spinach-cheese-pizzas-recipe-mslo0511/) ### Parmesan Ranch Mix This snack mix is so savoury and ready in just five minutes. We suggest making a big batch ahead of time. [![Parmesan Ranch Snack Mix ](https://www.averiecooks.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/parmeseanranch-9.jpg)](https://www.averiecooks.com/parmesan-ranch-snack-mix/) Recipe source: [Averie Cooks](https://www.averiecooks.com/parmesan-ranch-snack-mix/) ## Mum-friendly Healthy After School Snacks ### Baked Sweet Potato Chips Throw some sliced sweet potatoes in the oven with sea salt and olive oil and bake until crispy. It’s way better than store-bought chips. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Baked Sweet Potato Chips ](https://minimalistbaker.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Baked-Sweet-Potato-Chips-the-minimalist-baker.jpg)](https://minimalistbaker.com/baked-sweet-potato-chips/) Recipe source: [Minimalist Baker](https://minimalistbaker.com/baked-sweet-potato-chips/) ### Cauliflower Popcorn Cauliflower popcorn is yummy with garlic powder and Parmesan cheese. And it tastes like chicken nuggets. [![Cauliflower Popcorn ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/ghk.h-cdn.co/assets/16/07/1455741976-ghk-0316-cauliflower-popcorn.jpg)](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/food-recipes/healthy/a37151/cauliflower-popcorn-recipe/) Recipe source: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/food-recipes/healthy/a37151/cauliflower-popcorn-recipe/) ### Pizza Roll Ups Store-bought crescent rolls with spaghetti sauce are ready for snacking in 15 minutes. Used tinned sauce to save time. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Pizza Rollups](https://www.tasteofhome.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/exps12398_GB143373D01_03_5b_WEB-2-696x696.jpg)](http://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/pizza-roll-ups/) Recipe source: [Taste of Home](http://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/pizza-roll-ups/) ### Cheesy Quesadillas Make these quesadillas healthier with low-fat cheese and wholemeal tortillas. Top with a generous helping of salsa for extra nutrients. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Cheesy-quesadillas_exps_rdp_34760_md_p2_08_08_5b.jpg "Cheesy-quesadillas_exps_rdp_34760_md_p2_08_08_5b - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/cheesy-quesadillas/) Recipe source: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/cheesy-quesadillas/) ### Roasted Chickpeas This is def our new favourite healthy snack. Season chickpeas with spices/flavourings and pop them in the oven. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Roasted Chickpeas](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/barbecue-chickpeas-1-556x745.jpg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/kid-friendly-roasted-chickpeas-4-ways/) Recipe source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/kid-friendly-roasted-chickpeas-4-ways/) ### Ants on a Log This savoury variation of ants on a log comes with different toppings: guacamole, black beans, hummus, cheese and chickpeas. [![Ants on a Log](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Ants-on-a-log-peanut-butter-celery-img_6687-533x800.jpg "Ants-on-a-log-peanut-butter-celery-img_6687 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://healthyhappylife.com/ants-on-a-log/) Recipe source: [Healthy Happy Life](https://healthyhappylife.com/ants-on-a-log/) ## Healthy After School Snacks – Most Nutritious Picks ### Kale Chips Kale is surprisingly edible when made into yummy chips. Top with Parmesan and spices if the kids want more flavour. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Kale Chips ](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/AdobeStock_93388246-745x497.jpeg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/kale-chips/) Recipe source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/kale-chips/) ### Baked Zucchini Chips Here’s another chip recipe that makes for a kid-friendly, healthy after school snack. We recommend hummus for dipping. [![Baked Zucchini Chips](https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fjUFV5oQ0-I/T10wDGwbA4I/AAAAAAAABtI/Ldl7G_uwGyo/s400/zucchini+chips.jpg)](http://vittlesandbits.blogspot.com/2012/03/baked-zucchini-chips.html) Recipe source: [Vittles and Bits](http://vittlesandbits.blogspot.com/2012/03/baked-zucchini-chips.html) ### Tomato Basil Pinwheels Tomato basil pinwheels made with whole wheat tortilla, sun dried tomatoes and low fat cream cheese is ideal for summer snacking. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Sun Dried Tomato Pinwheels ](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Sun-Dried-Tomato-Basil-Pinwheels-4-496x745.jpg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/sun-dried-tomato-basil-pinwheels/) Recipe source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/sun-dried-tomato-basil-pinwheels/) ### Loaded Nachos These nachos are highly customisable based on what you have available. We suggest swapping sweet potatoes for chips if you want a healthier alternative. [![Loaded Nachos | Beanstalk Mums ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/clv.h-cdn.co/assets/16/52/1482871315-clx010117winnerdinners-04.jpg?crop=1.0xw:1xh;center,top&resize=480:%2A)](http://countryliving.com/food-drinks/recipes/a41067/friday-night-loaded-nachos/) Recipe source: [Country Living](http://countryliving.com/food-drinks/recipes/a41067/friday-night-loaded-nachos/) ### Baked Cucumber Chips Who knew cucumber makes such zesty chips? If you ask us, it’s the apple cider and sea salt combo that makes this one so mouth watering. ### [![Healthy After School Snacks | Baked Cucumber Chips | Beanstalk Mums ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/clv.h-cdn.co/assets/17/36/1504650028-cucumber-chips.jpg?crop=1.0xw:1xh;center,top&resize=480:%2A)](https://lowcarbyum.com/baked-cucumber-chips/) Recipe Source: [Low Carb Yum](https://lowcarbyum.com/baked-cucumber-chips/) ### Oven Chicken Fingers Oven baked chicken trumps fried chicken every time. Use skinless chicken breasts and load up on the spices. [![Oven Chicken Fingers | Beanstalk Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/clv.h-cdn.co/assets/17/04/1485229130-gallery-1468860820-clx0106cook011.jpg?crop=1.0xw:1xh;center,top&resize=980:%2A)](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/recipes/a1029/crispy-oven-chicken-fingers-3134/) Recipe source: [Country Living](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/recipes/a1029/crispy-oven-chicken-fingers-3134/) ### Avocado Sandwich Avocado sandwiches are so yummy and healthy, even toddlers love them. We like to use whole wheat bread and ghee for toasting. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Avocado Sandwich | Beanstalk Mums ](https://farm2.staticflickr.com/1664/24828966471_dd988ccfdb_o.jpg)](https://gkfooddiary.com/avocado-sandwich-recipe-for-toddlers-and-kids/) Recipe source: [GK Food Diary](https://gkfooddiary.com/avocado-sandwich-recipe-for-toddlers-and-kids/) ## Unique but Healthy After School Snacks ### Lunch Kebabs These sandwiches on sticks are portable, healthy and so easy to make. Our fave is the turkey, whole wheat bread and avocado one. [![Lunch Kebabs | Beanstalk Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/del.h-cdn.co/assets/17/34/1280x916/gallery-1503494563-screen-shot-2017-08-23-at-92221-am.png?resize=480:%2A)](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a52688/lunch-kebabs-recipe/) Recipe source: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a52688/lunch-kebabs-recipe/) ### Caprese Sandwich Another lovely summertime sandwich that’s a hit with kids. You can easily swap whole wheat for French bread. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Caprese Sandwich ](https://content.active.com/Assets/Active.com+Content+Site+Digital+Assets/Kids/Galleries/9+Healthy+Sandwich/Caprese.jpg)](https://www.activekids.com/parenting-and-family/articles/9-healthy-sandwich-recipes-for-kids/slide-3) Recipe source: [Active Kids](https://www.activekids.com/parenting-and-family/articles/9-healthy-sandwich-recipes-for-kids/slide-3) ### Easy Snack Wraps Wraps are versatile snacks that let you use any combination of protein and veggies. We love low fat cream cheese with olives and turkey. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Image-1.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [All Recipes](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/20735/easy-snack-wraps/) ## Healthy After School Snacks – Sweetest Picks ### Pumpkin Oat Cookies Pumpkin oat cookies are not just for Halloween. They’re great healthy after school snacks year round. [![Pumpkin Oat Cookies](https://img.kidspot.com.au/F7pjD416/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2015/03/3318-500678-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/pumpkin-oat-cookies/vif45xbb?r=collection/afterschoolsnacks&c=tib82nsi/After%20school%20snacks) Recipe source: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/pumpkin-oat-cookies/vif45xbb?r=collection/afterschoolsnacks&c=tib82nsi/After%20school%20snacks) ### Chocolate Banana Snack Bars Apricots, shredded coconut, pumpkin seeds and rolled outs make for some tasty and healthy snack bars. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Chocolate Banana Snack Bars](https://img.kidspot.com.au/pIJNkoEA/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2016/07/choc_banana_apricot_snack_bars_final-600475-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/choc-banana-apricot-snack-bars/cz51frxc?r=collection/afterschoolsnacks&c=tib82nsi/After%20school%20snacks) Recipe source: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/choc-banana-apricot-snack-bars/cz51frxc?r=collection/afterschoolsnacks&c=tib82nsi/After%20school%20snacks) ### Smoothie Bowls These smoothie bowls are heaven. You can use any fruit, just add Greek yogurt and mix in a blender. [![Smoothie Bowls ](https://hips.hearstapps.com/wdy.h-cdn.co/assets/16/05/768x726/gallery-1454443650-smoothie-bowls.jpg?resize=480:%2A)](https://www.womansday.com/food-recipes/food-drinks/recipes/a53598/smoothie-bowls/) Recipe source: [Woman’s Day](https://www.womansday.com/food-recipes/food-drinks/recipes/a53598/smoothie-bowls/) ### Banana Bread Don’t throw away over ripe bananas, they’re perfect for making this scrumptious banana bread. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Banana Bread ](https://cdn.donnahaycdn.com.au/images/content-images/banana_bread.jpg)](https://www.donnahay.com.au/recipes/for-the-kids/after-school-snacks/easiest-banana-bread) Recipe source: [Donna Hay](https://www.donnahay.com.au/recipes/for-the-kids/after-school-snacks/easiest-banana-bread) ## Easy Picks for Healthy After School Snacks ### Rainbow Fruit Skewers Colourful party food or just for snacking, these rainbow fruit kebabs are packed with vitamins and antioxidants. [![Rainbow Fruit Skewers](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/fruit-skewer-9fc3630.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/rainbow-fruit-skewers) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/rainbow-fruit-skewers) ### Baked Apple Chips Apple chips take an hour to make but are so worth it. It’s the perfect snack to satisfy sweet cravings. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Baked Apple Chips ](https://c2.staticflickr.com/8/7298/12870998695_4e547b341a_o.jpg)](https://thevietvegan.com/baked-apple-chips/) Recipe source: [The Viet Vegan](https://thevietvegan.com/baked-apple-chips/) ### Blueberry Yogurt Bites Trust us, make a large batch of these yogurt bites ahead of time so you won’t run out. They’re that delicious. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Blueberry-yogurt-protein-bites-499x800.jpg "Blueberry-yogurt-protein-bites - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [Kristen Duke](https://www.kristendukephotography.com/blueberry-yogurt-protein-bites/) ### Banana Yogurt Bites If your kids love bananas, here’s something super easy that they can make themselves. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Banana Yogurt Bites | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Frozen-Banana-Yoghurt-Bites-recipe-Simple-and-healthy-snack-idea-with-only-3-ingredients-easy-recipe-for-kids-from-Eats-Amazing-UK.jpg)](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/family-friendly-recipes/snack-ideas-recipes/easy-recipes-for-kids-frozen-banana-yoghurt-bites) Recipe source: [Eats Amazing](https://www.eatsamazing.co.uk/family-friendly-recipes/snack-ideas-recipes/easy-recipes-for-kids-frozen-banana-yoghurt-bites) ### Fruit Cracker Pizzas Spice up boring old crackers with cream cheese and your favourite fruits. Another child-friendly recipe that anyone can make. [![Fruit Cracker Pizzas | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.sunshineandhurricanes.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/ritz5.jpg)](https://www.sunshineandhurricanes.com/easy-fruit-and-cracker-pizzas/) Recipe source: [Sunshine and Hurricanes](https://www.sunshineandhurricanes.com/easy-fruit-and-cracker-pizzas/) ### Loaded Apple Nachos Here’s a hearty recipe when the kids want something filling. You can swap nuts and berries for chocolate chips to make it healthier. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Loaded Apple Nachos | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/These-Loaded-Apple-Nachos-are-so-easy-to-make-delicious-and-crisp-and-a-great-quick-dessert-3.jpg)](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/loaded-apple-nachos-recipe/) Recipe source: [Julie’s Eats and Treats](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/loaded-apple-nachos-recipe/) ### Apple Salsa A salsa of apples, strawberries, kiwi and orange is amazing to eat with chips or crackers. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Exps7355_mrr153791c09_17_3b.jpg "Exps7355_mrr153791c09_17_3b - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/apple-salsa-with-cinnamon-chips/) ## Sweet Tooth Picks: Healthy After School Snacks ### Choco Banana Energy Balls These choco banana energy balls are filled with nutrition and healthy sweetness. Great for snacking at home or outside. [![Choco Banana Energy Balls ](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/No-Bake-Chocolate-Banana-Energy-Bites-Main.jpg)](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/no-bake-chocolate-banana-energy-balls-recipe/) Recipe source: [Julie’s Eats and Treats](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/no-bake-chocolate-banana-energy-balls-recipe/) ### Dark Chocolate Almonds Craving something decadent but still healthy? Dark chocolate almonds are the answer. You can store this in the fridge for up to 4 weeks. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/How-to-make-dark-chocolate-sea-salt-almonds-3-473x800.jpg "How-to-make-dark-chocolate-sea-salt-almonds-3 - Beanstalk Mums") Recipe source: [Sally’s Baking Addiction](https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/healthier-treat-dark-chocolate-sea-salt-almonds/) ### Peanut Butter Granola Bars Peanut butter and rolled oats are a classic energy combo. One bar can tide a child over until dinner time. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Peanut Butter Granola Bars | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/No-Bake-Peanut-Butter-Honey-Granola-Bars-2.jpg)](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/peanut-butter-honey-no-bake-granola-bars/) Recipe source: [Julie’s Eats and Treats](https://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/peanut-butter-honey-no-bake-granola-bars/) ## Healthy After School Snacks with Fruits ### Strawberry Energy Balls Strawberries, peanut butter, seeds and rolled oats make for a great low calorie and low sugar snack. No need to bake! [![Strawberry Energy Balls | Beanstalk Mums ](https://brendid.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Strawberry-Enegy-Balls-from-Bren-Did-5-680x952.jpg)](https://brendid.com/strawberry-crispy-energy-balls-for-kids/) Recipe source: [Brendid](https://brendid.com/strawberry-crispy-energy-balls-for-kids/) ### Fruit and Nut Bars Here’s an easy to make trail mix that’s tasty and keeps for a long time. Go crazy with your favourite nuts and dried fruits. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Fruit and Nut Bars | Beanstalk Mums ](https://d1gh87f4j52fki.cloudfront.net/m/i/nutbarmain.jpg)](https://snack-girl.com/snack/fruit-and-nut-bar-recipe/) Recipe source: [Snack Girl](https://snack-girl.com/snack/fruit-and-nut-bar-recipe/) ### Avocado Truffles Truffles made from avocado? Even little kids will devour them. This one is dairy free and gluten free. [![Avocado Truffles | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.whattheforkfoodblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Avocado-Truffles-6-e1489503260942.jpg)](https://www.whattheforkfoodblog.com/2016/01/04/avocado-truffles/) Recipe source: [What the Fork](https://www.whattheforkfoodblog.com/2016/01/04/avocado-truffles/) ### Peanut Butter Energy Balls Here’s a fun recipe for kids and kids at heart. Peanut butter and dark chocolate are so yummy together. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Peanut Butter Energy Balls](https://fitfoodiefinds.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/balls-683x1024.jpeg)](https://fitfoodiefinds.com/video-peanut-butter-energy-balls/) Recipe source: [Fit Foodie Finds](https://fitfoodiefinds.com/video-peanut-butter-energy-balls/) ### Banana Blueberry Cookies Swap these banana blueberry cookies for your usual chocolate chip. It’s just as sweet but way healthier. [![Banana Blueberry Cookies | Beanstalk Mums ](https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/511dac8ee4b0adc428bf564e/1438389514136-XGBT2E5EA8V19A1VGOIZ/ke17ZwdGBToddI8pDm48kNoqIhga3CBnW5jc8jVyBgtZw-zPPgdn4jUwVcJE1ZvWQUxwkmyExglNqGp0IvTJZUJFbgE-7XRK3dMEBRBhUpx1g_1ZUTIIZl0KbtFCcBXq0po90NBiqagbYLZPOFOQ-P7fJuMjuBNWhm-pLaKgRWc/Gluten+Free+Banana+Blueberry+Cookies?format=750w)](https://www.tastingpage.com/cooking/clean-eating-banana-blueberry-cookies) Recipe source: [Tasting Page](https://www.tastingpage.com/cooking/clean-eating-banana-blueberry-cookies) ### Frozen Yogurt Bark This berry yogurt bark tastes as scrumptious as it looks. Perfect for holiday snacking. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Frozen Yogurt Bark | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.whattheforkfoodblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Berry-Swirl-Frozen-Yogurt-Bark-2.jpg)](https://celebratingsweets.com/berry-swirl-frozen-yogurt-bark/) Recipe source: [Celebrating Sweets](https://celebratingsweets.com/berry-swirl-frozen-yogurt-bark/) ### Baked Banana Chips More snacks for banana lovers! Simple baked banana chips are great eaten alone or with overnight oats. [![Baked Banana Chips ](https://diethood.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Baked-Bananas-Chips.jpg)](https://diethood.com/homemade-baked-banana-chips-recipe/) Recipe source: [Diet Hood](https://diethood.com/homemade-baked-banana-chips-recipe/) ### Tropical Orange Fruit Snacks Aren’t fruit snacks divine? This vitamin packed recipe uses natural fruit juice and honey. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Tropical Orange Fruit Snacks | Beanstalk Mums ](https://www.allergyfreealaska.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Tropical-Fruit-Snacks-Allergy-Free-Alaska1.jpg)](https://www.allergyfreealaska.com/tropical-orange-fruit-snacks/) Recipe source: [Allergy Free Alaska](https://www.allergyfreealaska.com/tropical-orange-fruit-snacks/) ### Honey Roasted Nuts and Fruit Fruit and nuts are even better roasted with honey. Healthy after school snacks that are cheap and take no time make. [![Honey Roasted Nuts and Fruit](https://img.sndimg.com/food/image/upload/c_thumb,q_80,w_562,h_316/v1/img/recipes/14/26/61/picH8dbBu.jpg)](https://www.food.com/recipe/honey-roasted-nuts-and-fruit-142661) Recipe source: [Food.com](https://www.food.com/recipe/honey-roasted-nuts-and-fruit-142661) ### Fruit and Nut Yogurt Adding yogurt to fruit and nuts kicks up the health bar a notch. Plus its tastier that way. [![Healthy After School Snacks | Fruit and Nut Yogurt](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-901820_10-3b54117.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/fruit-nut-yogurt) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/fruit-nut-yogurt) ### Instant Berry Yogurt Last but definitely not least on our list of healthy after school snacks — if your kids are craving ice cream, give them a bowl of berry yogurt. It’s sweet, filling and full of fibre. [![Instant Berry Yogurt | Beanstalk Mums ](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/recipe-image-legacy-id-1029452_10-563fda8.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/instant-frozen-berry-yogurt) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/instant-frozen-berry-yogurt) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School, Food **Tags:** food, eating --- ### [15 Handy printable meal planners you can download for free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/printable-meal-planners/) **Published:** January 5, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Grocery shopping is getting scary. Everything is so expensive, and feeding a family for a week is becoming a fine art. As a result, we need all the help we can get, and my latest dollar-saving discoveries are printable meal planners. Seriously, meal planning is a game-changer when you are on a tight budget and need to stretch your supermarket shop for a whole week, with no waste. Since carefully planning the family meals, I have found: - I only have to go to the supermarket once a week, which saves time and money on fuel and extra food (and once a week for the supermarket is quite enough for me, thank you) - I can do food prep at the weekend, which makes the weekdays mildly less hectic - By planning meals, we have a balanced diet. For us, this is meat twice a week, fish once, and high-protein vegetarian dishes for the rest of the week - If I’m clever with my planning, I cook food on weekdays that can be used for sandwiches or [packed lunches](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-work-packed-lunch-ideas/) the following day - Every food item on my shopping list is designated for a meal, so nothing is left to go off, I hate waste - Every dinner is covered, so there is less risk of reaching for the takeaway menu - When my kids ask what’s for dinner, I can tell them straight away and list the rest of the week too … win See my list of handy printable meal planners you can download for free. ## Handy printable meal planners you can download for free ### 1. Family Fresh Meals Grab this free printable meal planner from Family Fresh Meals to make weekly meal prep easier. This is my top pick because everything you need is included, like grocery lists, lunch box planner and even a pantry inventory. ![Fresh Family Meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2018-01-02-at-1.24.40-PM.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://www.familyfreshmeals.com/free-meal-plan-printables) for source. ### 2. Printable Crush Here’s a simple meal planner from Printable Crush that has a grocery list and a health tracker. You can easily track daily servings of fruit, veggies, protein, and water. It has a nice, fresh look too, don’t you think? ![Printable meal planners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-08-at-3.42.44-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://printablecrush.com/free-printable-weekly-meal-planner/) for source. ### 3. Freepik This is the meal plan I used when my girls were young. It’s a very simple one-sheet planner for each day of the week with a shopping list at the bottom … and lots of girlie colours and pics. ![Freepik meal planner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-08-at-3.44.22-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://www.freepik.com/free-vector/hand-drawn-cute-food-meal-planner-template_30362850.htm#query=meal%20planner&position=1&from_view=keyword) for source. ### 4. Easy cheesy vegetarian Easy Cheesy Vegetarian’s colourful meal planner is for mums who want to jot down meal ideas instead of full menus for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Perfect for when you’re still looking for inspo. ![Easy cheesy vegetarian](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/weekly-meal-planner-updated-preview-1.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://www.easycheesyvegetarian.com/free-weekly-meal-planner-printable/) for source. ### 5. Scratch to Basics Here is another simple meal planner for writing down ideas and notes for your weekly meals. Instead of racking your brain to come up with a meal on the very day, I follow this guide to keep stress levels down. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/meal-planning-template-breakfast-lunch-snacks-dinner-pink.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://www.scratchtobasics.com/meal-planning-templates/) for source. ## Free printable meal planner PDF ### 6. Canva printable meal planner Canva has loads of free printable meal planners for busy mums. I like this one that looks like a calendar and has space for breakfast, snacks, lunch, and dinner for each day of the week. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-08-at-4.00.48-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://partner.canva.com/EarqJP) for source. ### 7. Bake Play Smile One of my mates plans her meals waaay in advance, we always joke about it. This monthly dinner planner would be just the ticket for her. There are spaces to write down meal ideas for a full four weeks. ![Printable meal planner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Monthly-Dinner-Planner.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://bakeplaysmile.com/free-monthly-meal-planning-template/) for source. ### 8. Home & Hallow I like Home & Hallow’s weekly meal planner, which is very simple and minimalist. But the detailed grocery list is where it’s at, with boxes for different categories, from produce to household. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/weekly-meal-plan-791x1024-1-618x800.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://homeandhallow.com/printable-meal-planner-grocery-list/) for source. ### 9. Around my family table This meal planner combines a menu planner with a shopping list in one printable. I love the calendar layout for each day of the week. ![Printable meal planner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/montly.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://www.aroundmyfamilytable.com/monthly-and-weekly-menu-planners/) for source. ### 10. Blogger Mummy Blogger Mummy’s printable is another monthly meal planner for those who live for advanced prep. It has five weeks of boxes for you to jot down notes and ideas. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/meal-planner.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Click [here](https://bloggermummy.com/2020/02/07/monthly-meal-planner-free-download/) for source. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/printable-meal-planners/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/printable-meal-planners/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Food **Tags:** meal planning, grocery shopping, supermarket, recipes, food prep, dinner --- ### [Ensuring Safe Parenting: Understanding Supervised Visitation with Expert Child Custody Lawyers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-supervised-visitation-with-expert-child-custody-lawyers/) **Published:** September 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Supervised visitation can be an emotional and sometimes overwhelming process, especially for single mums navigating the Family Court system. At its core, supervised visitation is about balancing your child’s right to spend time with both parents while keeping them safe and emotionally secure. When there are risks—such as family violence, substance misuse, or mental health challenges—the court may order visits that happen under the watchful eye of an approved adult or at a children’s contact centre. With the support of expert child custody lawyers, you can better understand how the process works, what steps you need to take, and how to protect your child’s well-being every step of the way. ## Why Supervised Visitation May Be Ordered The Family Court in Australia always puts the best interests of the child first. Supervised visitation may be ordered when there are concerns about safety, such as: - Family or domestic violence - Substance misuse or untreated mental health issues - Risk of child abduction - Extended time apart that may have disrupted the parent–child bond For many mums, this decision can be both a relief and a challenge—knowing that your child is safe but also navigating the logistics and emotions of supervised time. [Expert child custody lawyers](https://melbournefamilylawyers.com.au/child-custody-lawyers) can help you prepare by gathering the right evidence to explain why supervised visits are necessary or, if the situation changes, why they may no longer be needed. ## How Supervised Visitation Works Supervised visitation in Australia can take place in a few ways: - **Children’s Contact Centres** – Services like those offered by **Relationships Australia** provide a neutral, safe space with trained supervisors present. - **Trusted Friends or Family** – If approved by the court, visits may happen with someone you and your child know and trust. - **Public Places** – Sometimes, visits occur in public spaces such as parks or play centres, provided a supervisor is always present. ![supervised visitation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051 - Beanstalk Mums") Supervisors keep a close eye on interactions and often provide feedback or written reports to the court. These reports may include notes about the parents’ behaviour, the child’s comfort level, and whether their physical and emotional needs were met during the visit. Your expert [child custody](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/7-perks-of-shared-custody/) lawyer can help you choose a safe, appropriate arrangement and explain how these reports can influence future court decisions. ## Costs of Supervised Visitation Costs can vary widely: - **Government-funded centres** – Often free or low-cost, but may have long waitlists. - **Private supervision services** – Charge hourly rates but usually offer more flexibility and shorter waiting times. - **Family or friends** – Usually no cost, though the court must approve the arrangement. If the expense is a concern, your lawyer can help you request that costs be shared fairly or adjusted based on financial circumstances. ## Moving Towards Unsupervised Visits Supervised visitation is typically a temporary arrangement. Courts look for signs that it’s safe to progress toward unsupervised time. This might include: - Completing parenting or anger management programs - Demonstrating stable and responsible behaviour - Receiving consistent positive feedback from supervisors - Seeing your child feel more comfortable and secure during visits Expert child custody lawyers can guide you through collecting documentation and applying to have the order updated when the time is right. ## Tips for Mums Managing Supervised Visits Supervised visitation can be tough on both you and your child. Here are a few practical tips that can help: - **Prepare your child gently** – Explain the situation in age-appropriate language to ease confusion or anxiety. - **Bring comfort items** – Snacks, toys, or books can make visits feel more familiar and less stressful. - **Keep routines consistent** – Maintaining nap times, meal times, and familiar patterns helps your child feel secure. - **Seek support** – Don’t hesitate to lean on friends, family, or support services like **Parentline** or **1800RESPECT** if you need emotional support. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-sora-shimazaki-5668772-1-1200x768.jpg "Pexels-sora-shimazaki-5668772 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Starting or Challenging a Supervised Visitation Order Whether you’re seeking supervised visits for safety reasons or trying to show that supervision is no longer needed, the process can be complex. Courts rely on strong, organised evidence such as police reports, intervention orders, psychological assessments, or documented improvements. Having expert child custody lawyers by your side ensures that your case is presented clearly and effectively, with your child’s safety and best interests as the top priority. ## The Role of Children’s Contact Centres Children’s contact centres, such as those run by Relationships Australia, provide a neutral and safe environment for changeovers and supervised time. They’re especially valuable in high-conflict situations, as they reduce stress and protect children from witnessing arguments or hostility. Your lawyer can help you understand how these centres work, assist with bookings, and explain how these visits fit into your long-term parenting arrangements. ## The Importance of Expert Legal Support Navigating supervised visitation is not just a legal matter—it’s deeply personal and emotional. Having the guidance of expert child custody lawyers means you’re not facing the process alone. They can help you: - Understand what the court expects - Choose safe and practical supervision options - Document progress to support future changes - Keep your child’s well-being front and centre Their support ensures you approach each step with clarity and confidence. Supervised visitation is a safeguard—one that allows your child to maintain a relationship with their other parent while ensuring they remain safe. Although the process can be challenging, it’s often just one step toward a more stable and positive future for your family. With the right combination of legal advice, emotional support, and practical strategies, you can navigate supervised visitation with strength and confidence—always keeping your child’s needs at the heart of every decision. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-supervised-visitation-with-expert-child-custody-lawyers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/understanding-supervised-visitation-with-expert-child-custody-lawyers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Separation, Kids and Separation --- ### [What is ghosting and how should we deal with it?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) **Published:** June 15, 2022 **Author:** Rebecca Reed **Content:** Ghosting has become quite the epidemic in modern dating, with many women in particular afflicted. In the age of online dating and disposable relationships, it is easy to meet potential partners and just as easy to move on to something new when it doesn’t work out. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [Signs that your man is breadcrumbing you and how to respond.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-man-is-breadcrumbing-you/)*** ## WHAT IS GHOSTING? When a person with whom we feel a connection disappears … the term ‘ghosting’ comes into play. It’s crazy that this is a thing now, but unfortunately, it is very common. A ghost is an apparition, appearing one minute and disappearing the next. Hence why the name is so appropriate to this phenomenon. Being ghosted may be as simple as having a conversation online, only to find out that our potential date has withdrawn communication and no longer responds. Perhaps they have ‘unmatched’ you on a dating app, with no explanation after initially expressing interest. ## WHEN CAN GHOSTING HAPPEN? It may happen after a first date or after weeks or months of dating. One minute we are in conversation, spending time, sharing experiences, and all of a sudden they are gone … nothing. ## YOUR FIRST REACTION It is normal to think that perhaps something has ‘happened’ to them. Maybe they have had a car accident, are stressed with work issues, perhaps their kids needed them … there are many reasons we can invent that could explain why they have suddenly disappeared, but most of the time, we will never know. It can be very easy to drive ourselves insane, overthinking about where we went wrong, what we could have done better, and what we possibly shouldn’t have said. Most of the time, it isn’t even about us. ## IT’S ABOUT THEM, NOT YOU Sometimes the person ghosting does so because they are too cowardly to have a conversation to say that they are not, or no longer interested. We may think it would be less painful if they could just correspond with an honest explanation, yet the person ghosting doesn’t often see it that way. Hurting others intentionally can often trigger feelings of guilt, and to avoid those unpleasant feelings, ghosting is an easy way out. Occasionally, they may sense that we are jumping ahead in the relationship, and if they are not as emotionally invested, ghosting is a viable option. ## How to deal with ghosting ### Don’t continue to send messages If texts have gone unanswered for 24 hours, stop sending them. Constantly checking in to see if they are ok, or trying to make the ghost feel guilt, doesn’t work. Your upset messages can have you labelled as another ‘crazy stalker’, which in their mind justifies their behaviour. If you are really struggling, download an [app to help you not contact him](https://www.bustle.com/articles/126930-4-apps-to-help-you-not-text-your-ex-because-sometimes-its-best-to-embrace)! ### Don’t waste your time seeking closure As much as you would like closure, 9 times out of 10, it doesn’t happen. On the rare occasion that you hear from them, do not respond. Giving validation to someone that it is OK to treat you this way is not the answer. You are worth so much more than accepting less than desired behaviour. Anyone who cannot have a rational conversation to communicate they are not interested is not worth chasing after or wanting a relationship with. ### Feel your feelings The first thing to do when ghosting happens to you is to feel your feelings. It is ok to acknowledge that you feel hurt – even if it’s only been a few weeks or a few conversations. It is natural to feel hurt, embarrassed, sad, rejected and not enough when ghosted. Ghosting is painful. We immediately think it is about us, something we have done, and we find that we blame ourselves. ### Heal yourself after being ghosted Ramp up your acts of self-care, indulge in the things that make you feel good. Take the time to surround yourself with family and friends, and get out and socialise. Dive into [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) and let the endorphins kick in. ### Unfollow them Unfollow them on social media, on every platform. Haunting them is not helpful for you; all it will do is hurt you more to watch their whereabouts. ### Turn it around Ask yourself how I can feel gratitude for this experience? Perhaps you are grateful that you didn’t invest more time with a person whose character is questionable. ### Learn from your ghosting experience What has it taught you? Reflect on what you can do differently in the next encounter or relationship. Has your awareness increased? You may not think so now, but this ghosting experience is an opportunity for you to learn and grow. It will make you stronger, more aware, and more mindful of others’ behaviour and actions. You will look back at this time and be thankful that it was not the relationship for you after all, and you were simply being redirected. Something bigger and better is on its way to you. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Ghosting.png "Ghosting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** relationships, dating, online dating, ghosting, breakups, relationship breakdown --- ### [How to rise above maddening single mum comments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/rise-above-single-mum-comments/) **Published:** February 4, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Do you find it hard to rise above infuriating single mum comments? Let’s face it, from the moment you tell people you are pregnant, you feel as though you are being judged for something. Anything. Either you are judging yourself or being judged by others. Add being a single mum to the mix, and there will be those maddening single mum comments to contend with. Everyone seems to have an opinion and advice that can be less than helpful. How do you rise above it? We’d like to recommend stomping your feet and throwing a tantrum worthy of a terrible two-year-old. But, instead, we will just say “breathe”. Or check out [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/), which has already been downloaded by 1.5k+ single mums who are loving life and not giving a sh-t about what other people think! ## HOW TO KEEP COOL AROUND INFURIATING SINGLE MOTHER COMMENTS ### The ‘I feel like a single mum’ comment Really? You do, well, that nicely. Oh, but wait, your husband is away for the weekend? Is he working late? Or, he’s addicted to Fortnite and hasn’t picked up a dishcloth in six months? Compare this to carrying the financial burden alone. The disciplining. The mopping up of spew. Dealing with teachers, bedtimes and birthday parties. Alone. Not quite the same thing, is it? Guess what, though, single mums have a secret. Because there are plenty of women who have left men who made them feel like they had an extra child. And, if this is the case, being a single mum can actually be easier. There’s no man flu, and there’s no washing of giant shirts. There are no whiskers in the basin and no pee on the toilet seat. So, maybe it is those women with the Fortnite-playing husbands who deserve the sympathy of single mums. Not the other way around. ### The ‘Your kids have no male role model’ comment There is no doubt that kids need [good male role models](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/). The keyword is ‘good’, and this isn’t always the case with fathers (or, admittedly, some mothers). This comment is irksome, especially when you are doing your best. Is it REALLY better to have a bad male role model than no male role model? To this, we say NO. When women are strong and independent, they teach their children a valuable lesson. Our daughters learn that anything is possible and that settling for the wrong person is not the answer. Our sons grow up respecting women, and this will see them grow into good men. Everyone is happier being raised in a calm home rather than a volatile one. It’s not like there are no men besides the ex around. Half the planet is male (OK, technically, there are more women, but you get the point). There are teachers, coaches and uncles for them to look up to. And, if the time comes when the single mama does find a new man, a man who treats her well, they will learn from that, too. ### The ‘How is the Love Life?’ comment There are quite a few variations to this one. > “Don’t worry you will find one soon” > > “Why are you still single?” > > “Can I set you up with my brother? He just got out of a serious relationship.” If you hear these comments enough, you might just want to pull one of those so-called fish out of the sea and slap the person across the face with it. Again, we do not condone violence. Not to stereotype, but there are three types of single mums. There’s the mum who is done. No more men, her life is full, and she is happy. Then, there’s the mum who isn’t quite ready to date yet, and she’s taking her time. She doesn’t need to be pressured. Finally, there is the mum who is looking for the right one. [Dating as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/) is hard, but she will get there. These types of comments can be frustrating, especially if you are already feeling lonely and unlucky in love. But look, as someone who was a long-time single mum and now married, I can shed some light on these comments. Some people just want to hear your dating stories. It’s excitement and adventures while they sip on cups of tea and watch movies in bed. Other people just want you to be happy and don’t understand that you can be happy on your own. Take your time when it comes to dating, and only do what you feel comfortable with. ### The ‘You’re lazy’ comment Ugh. This one is by far the worst. And a complete [single mum myth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/). There is nothing lazy about being a parent. Being a single parent is double the work. When you are trying to get overtired, cranky kids back to sleep at 2 am as you sit there crying, you wish you could be lazy. Then there is the finance. [Government support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) is there for those in need, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Trying to live on it alone is a struggle, and most mums in this situation have to make sacrifices in order to feed their kids. Between [family payments](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/individuals/subjects/payments-families) and, of course, the [child support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/), being lazy is a breeze, right? According to the haters, all this free cash pays for a high-flying lifestyle of champagne and diamond-coated cupcakes. Perhaps there is even a pet unicorn in your backyard. Of course, when the father has the kids, you must have so much spare time to ride said unicorn. (Insert maniacal laugh here.) Oh wait, but what about that painful electricity bill, which is being paid in instalments? And, the baked beans your kids just had for dinner because you needed petrol to get them to school? Most mums are just trying to get ahead, and we all do it our own way. Each situation is different, and some mums do it full-time, some mums work and some mums study. No matter what, there will be comments, but just remember you’re doing a good job! ### The “I don’t know how you do it” comment Somehow, it is difficult for those not living your life to comprehend how you ended up as a solo mama. While this comment could be taken either way, something is condescending about it. No one expects their relationship not to last. Some people who make these comments could end up a single mums at some point in their lives. They don’t know how you do it? Well, you do it because you have to. What choice is there? To not do it? Ok, so now let’s look at this one glass half full. After all, we are a positive bunch. People don’t know how you do it because you are amazing. Because you are strong and independent and parent like a boss. You are running your home solo with no other grown-up to fall back on. There’s no ‘just wait until your father gets home’. It’s more like ‘go to bed or I’m cancelling Christmas’. Yes, you do it because you have no choice. But, you also do it because you love your kids and wouldn’t have it any other way. ![Single mum comments | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Maddening-single-mum-comments.png "Maddening single mum comments - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/rise-above-single-mum-comments/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/rise-above-single-mum-comments/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** myths, empowerment, single mum comments, stigma --- ### [How to boost a child's health through gratitude journaling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/gratitude-journaling-boost-childs-health/) **Published:** May 3, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Along with social media’s popularity arose issues that our children encounter every day. Those challenges include depression, bullying, and screen addiction. Poor mental health is one of the largest issues facing our society today, with one in seven young people aged 4-17 experiencing a mental health problem in any given year. (“[Children and young people: statistics](https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/children-young-people-statistics)”) As a single mother, I understand the importance of nurturing my child’s physical and emotional well-being in every possible way. One powerful tool that has significantly impacted my child’s health and happiness is gratitude journaling. This practice helps children get in touch with their feelings and acknowledge them by writing them down. If this is the first time you have read about it, this article will tell you everything you need to know about gratitude journaling and how it can boost your child’s health. ![Boost child's health ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/81ced761-cd5a-4595-a14c-f566b017adf7_20240423_210908_0000-1067x800.jpg "81ced761-cd5a-4595-a14c-f566b017adf7_20240423_210908_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## What is gratitude journaling? Gratitude journaling is a practice in which individuals write down things they are thankful for in life. Its main goal is to focus on and express appreciation for life’s positive aspects. It involves writing down things one is grateful for each day and reflecting on positive experiences. ## Benefits of gratitude journaling on children I have witnessed firsthand the positive effects of gratitude in my son’s life. I remember one particularly challenging day when he was feeling frustrated. Instead of dwelling on the negative, we sat down together with his gratitude journal. We started listing things he was thankful for, from his favourite stuffed animal to the comforting warmth of his bed. I could see his mood shift with each entry. By the end of our session, he was smiling again. According to [Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/can-expressing-gratitude-improve-health), a positive mindset, fostered through gratitude practices, can enhance the body’s ability to fight off common ailments like the flu and cold. Also, in the research [Advances in Psychiatric Treatment](https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/advances-in-psychiatric-treatment/article/emotional-and-physical-health-benefits-of-expressive-writing/ED2976A61F5DE56B46F07A1CE9EA9F9F), it was found that expressive writing, such as journaling, can improve immune system functioning, decrease the risk of illness, and enhance overall emotional health in individuals who did it for 20 minutes per day on 3-5 occasions. Speaking of emotional health, gratitude journaling provides children with a safe space to express their feelings and reflect on the good things in their lives. Children need to develop resilience and gratitude as coping mechanisms in a world filled with distractions and pressures. By acknowledging and appreciating the positives, they can deal with life’s ups and downs with greater ease. Lauren, a single mother who runs a bakeshop near my workplace, expresses how much gratitude journaling helped her teenage daughter. She said her kid was devastated by the divorce and was always sick. As she was about to lose hope, the school counsellor recommended writing in a journal. Sure, there was reluctance and defiance at first, but nothing is impossible with a determined mama! ![Gratitude journaling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/c08d611f-7c7f-4794-a550-9f5b88b9bc54_20240423_211553_0000-1066x800.jpg "c08d611f-7c7f-4794-a550-9f5b88b9bc54_20240423_211553_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to boost your child’s health through gratitude journaling So, how did Lauren do it? She simply followed these steps. - **Introduce the concept:** Explain to your child what gratitude means in simple terms. Help them understand that it’s about noticing and appreciating the good things in life, no matter how small. - **Choose a journal**: Together, select a journal that your kid likes. It could be a colourful notebook or a plain notebook they can decorate. - **Set regular times:** Establish a routine for gratitude journaling, such as every morning or before bed. Consistency helps reinforce the habit. - **Encourage reflection:** Prompt your child to reflect on their day and think about moments, people, or things they are thankful for. Ask questions like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was something nice someone did for you?” - **Start small:** Initially, encourage your kid to list just one or two things they are grateful for each day. As they become more comfortable, they can add more entries. - **Lead by example:** Model gratitude by sharing your entries with your child. This will show them that gratitude journaling is beneficial for people of all ages. - **Celebrate achievements:** Acknowledge your child’s efforts and progress in gratitude journaling. Celebrate milestones, such as completing a week or a month of entries, with positive reinforcement or a simple reward. - **Be supportive:** If your child struggles to find things to be grateful for on a particular day, help them brainstorm or provide gentle prompts. - **Revisit entries:** Revisit past entries with your kid from time to time. Reflecting on what they were grateful for in the past can reinforce positive memories and highlight their progress. ***Further reading:***[***10 Fun ways to practise gratitude with your children.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/practice-gratitude-children/) ## Other ways to boost your child’s health In addition to gratitude journaling, there are other steps you can take to improve your child’s health and well-being. - **Adequate sleep is crucial:** According to their age, children should get the recommended hours of sleep each night. Sufficient sleep is crucial for their physical health, cognitive development, and emotional well-being. - **Support emotional health:** Create a supportive environment where your child feels comfortable expressing their emotions. Encourage open communication, validate their feelings, and provide reassurance during challenging times. ![Boost child's health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/43f0c854-d7ef-481a-9c8a-586a01e3d03a_20240425_141416_0000-1066x800.jpg "43f0c854-d7ef-481a-9c8a-586a01e3d03a_20240425_141416_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") - **Encourage outdoor activities:** Incorporate outdoor activities into your child’s routine, such as going for a walk in nature or playing at the playground. Outdoor play promotes physical fitness, stimulates creativity, and supports emotional regulation. - **Provide nutritious meals:** Ensure that your child eats a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Nutritious meals support overall health, growth, and development. - **Limit screen time:** Set limits on your child’s screen time, including television, computer, and mobile devices. Excessive screen time can impact both physical and emotional health as it interferes with sleep, physical activity, and social interactions. - **Practise mindfulness and relaxation:** Teach your child simple mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help them manage stress and promote emotional well-being. This could include deep breathing exercises, guided imagery, or progressive muscle relaxation. - **Lead by example:** Be a positive role model for your child by prioritising your own health and well-being. Demonstrate healthy habits, such as eating nutritious foods, staying active, managing stress effectively, and practising gratitude. ## Summary: Gratitude Journaling to Boost Child’s Health Gratitude journaling not only helped my son appreciate the good things in life but also improved his immune system. Now, he rarely gets sick, and whenever he is frustrated, he knows how to regulate his feelings without my help. So, I encourage every parent to incorporate this practice into their family’s routine. Remember, every child is unique, so it’s important to tailor the steps to your kid’s individual needs and preferences. Be flexible and open to adapting the practice to suit what your kids need and want. As they grow and develop, they may prefer approaching gratitude journaling in different ways. And for us mums, when the day is done, take the time out to connect with your own feelings. Think back to the details of your day—it’s often the little things, such as tucking your child up in bed, having that last cuddle, or remembering a funny story, that can help us unwind and settle back—until we do it all again the next day! ![Child gratitude doing gratitude journal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Gratitude-journaling-267x400.png "Gratitude journaling - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/gratitude-journaling-boost-childs-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/gratitude-journaling-boost-childs-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** raising happy kids, raising grateful kids, boosting your child's health and happiness --- ### [Simple steps to a DIY divorce in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/simple-steps-diy-divorce/) **Published:** August 25, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When we think of divorce we think of lawyers, big bucks and a long drawn-out process. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Getting a divorce, in many circumstances, is a lot easier than you may think. In fact, there is no reason why you can’t do it all yourself. And by doing so, it will save you time, money and leave you feeling super-empowered. In this podcast, I chat to Belinda Eldridge from Divide – Simple Financial Separation. Belinda, also a single mother, works with ex-couples to determine what financial structure will work best for them as 2 single parents co-parenting and then helps them agree on the action plan to implement the new structure as cost effectively as possible. She focuses on educating people through the divorce and separation process, which is exactly what this podcast is all about. We cover everything you need to know to [DIY your divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-divorce-in-australia/), including: - The exact criteria that makes you eligible for divorce - The importance of your separation date and how to record it - The pros and cons of applying for divorce on your own, or as a couple - How to use the [Commonwealth Court Portal](http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/how-do-i/divorce/apply-for-a-divorce/apply-for-divorce) to apply for your divorce - Divorce costs including concessions and comparable costs if you use lawyers - Mistakes you might make and how to avoid them - How and when to organise your financial settlement ### Listen here … ![Simple steps to a DIY divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Podcast-Divide-DIY-Divorce.png "Podcast - Divide (DIY Divorce) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/simple-steps-diy-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/simple-steps-diy-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Divorce **Tags:** DIY divorce, steps for a DIY divorce --- ### [Which contraception is right for me?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/which-contraception-is-right-for-me/) **Published:** February 25, 2020 **Author:** Kyra Howearth **Content:** With so many different contraception methods available, it can be difficult to know which one you should use. Let’s explore the different options, the benefits, risks and effectiveness, so you can make the best decision for you. ## Hormonal contraceptives ### Oral contraceptive pill The most common contraceptive is the oral contraceptive pill (OCP), also simply referred to as ‘the pill’. The OCP works by stopping you from ovulating so you can’t fall pregnant. Benefits of the OCP include a high effectiveness, and some women find the OCP clears their acne. However, there are risks with taking the OCP, such as nausea, weight gain, and an increased risk of stroke or blood clots. The OCP is an ideal contraceptive short term, but best not used for long periods of time. ### The progesterone-only pill (POP) The progesterone-only pill (POP), or mini-pill, is ideal for women who are smokers and women over 35 years old. It is similar to the OCP, however you need to take the POP at roughly the same time every day, so this is not a great option if you work irregular hours or are forgetful. The POP may also cause irregular vaginal bleeding. [![Lovehoney 15% off | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Lovehoney-until-Oct-300x250-1.jpg "Lovehoney until Oct 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/offers/beans10talk) ### Intra-uterine devices (IUDs) Intra-uterine devices (IUDs) are a set-and-forget type of contraception, which is helpful if you don’t want to remember to take a pill each day. IUDs can last for 5-10 years, so they are great if you want a long lasting and cost-effective contraceptive. There are two types available – hormone-releasing or copper IUDs. They are both extremely effective (over 99% effective) and easy to remove when needed. However, there may be some risks, such as the risk of an infection after the IUD is inserted, or the IUD may move out of place. They may also may your periods heavier, more painful, or cause breast soreness. ### Injections and implants Injections and implants are also increasingly common contraceptive options, and they are similar in how they work (releasing progesterone into your body to prevent ovulation). These options last less longer than IUDs – around 3 months for the injection and 3 years for implants. They are both highly effective (around 99% effectiveness). The contraceptive injection is beneficial as you only need to get the injection every 3 months, however it may cause unwanted side effects such as headaches, mood swings and weight gain. The injection is best not used for long periods of time as it can cause bone thinning, and it may make it difficult to conceive if you want to have a baby later down the track. Benefits of the implant include reducing acne and making periods lighter. However, some women find they experience unwanted side effects with having implants, such as depression, mood swings and more frequent vaginal bleeding. ## Barrier contraceptives Barrier methods of contraception include condoms (male and female condoms). Benefits include not messing with your hormones and protection from STIs. There are some risks though – condoms may break or come off. It can also be inconvenient to use a condom if you have a regular partner – you may decide to opt for a longer lasting contraceptive. ## Sterilisation A permanent contraceptive option is having your fallopian tubes tied or cut. This is generally 100% effective at preventing pregnancies, although there is a tiny chance you may fall pregnant again. However. it’s a decision not to be made lightly. Consider discussing with your GP about having your tubes cut. As it does involve minor surgery, there are risks that are involved with all minor surgeries, such as infections, accidental incision and recovery from anaesthesia. ## Finding the right contraception for you (cont.) ## Natural methods Fertility awareness, abstinence, withdrawal or a combination of these can work well as natural contraception methods. The idea is that you get to know when you are most fertile (the 5 days leading up to ovulation) and either abstain from intercourse on these days or your partner withdraws before ejaculation. When done properly, the fertility awareness method has a high rate of success. This involves taking your basal body temperature first thing every morning and checking your cervical mucus every day. Combining natural methods with barrier contraception is a safer option if you want to avoid pills/injections/IUDs, with no side effects, and the only risk is that you could fall pregnant. It’s best to seek training from a professional in natural family planning/fertility awareness methods to ensure the best success from this method. ## Emergency contraception In case of emergencies, such as condoms breaking and “accidents”, there are options! There is the ‘morning-after pill, available from chemists. Copper IUDs can also act as emergency contraception if inserted 5 days after conception. ![Which contraception is right for me? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Contraception.png "Contraception - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/which-contraception-is-right-for-me/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/which-contraception-is-right-for-me/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Health **Tags:** STD, STI, sex, contraceptives, safe sex, the pill, condoms, mirena, hormones --- ### [Why you should think about buying an investment property](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/buying-investment-property/) **Published:** April 13, 2023 **Author:** Daniel Noble **Content:** Are you wondering if buying an investment property is right for you? As someone who’s been around the block a few times when it comes to real estate, let me tell you that there are many reasons why investing in an investment property can be a fantastic decision for your financial future. An investment property is a piece of real estate purchased to generate income or profit through rental income, capital appreciation, or a combination of both. In this article, I talk you through the benefits of owning an investment property and help you understand why it can be a wise financial decision. ## Passive Income One of the main benefits of owning an investment property is the opportunity for you to earn passive income, specifically rental income. You can go two ways about it: - You can pay for your investment property in cash and earn your investment back through rental income - Or you can let your tenants practically help you out with your mortgage payments through their monthly rental payment By renting out your property, you generate a steady stream of income that can provide support and stability to your finances, and help you build long-term wealth. Considering the rental potential of your investment property can also influence your pick of the property. Do you want to rent out to families? Single young professionals? Small businesses? The right type of investment property will help you attract the tenant and rental income you want. ## Tax Benefits Maintaining your investment property will incur some expenses, inevitably. Don’t worry, one of the advantages of owning an investment property in Australia is that [our tax system supports property owners](https://www.forbes.com/advisor/au/property/tax-deductions-on-investment-property/). Getting an [investment property mortgage](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/investment-property-mortgages/) and owning an investment property can come with a number of tax benefits, including deductions for your mortgage interest, property taxes, repairs, maintenance, and more! These deductions can help reduce your taxable income and lessen the burden as EOFY approaches. ## Appreciation Real estate has historically and reliably appreciated over time, meaning that the value of your investment property WILL increase over time. Yes, there might be short-term drops in value but if you hang on in there with property, you’re on a winner. We all have heard of someone purchasing their home at a prime location for $128,000 when it was still being developed in ’94 and selling it for almost two million in 2021. Property value appreciation means you can expect a significant return on your investment if you decide to sell your property in the future. ## Increased equity From the moment you start paying your mortgage on your investment property, you build equity in your name. Equity can be estimated by computing the difference of your property’s current market value and your remaining loan balance for your mortgage. Your equity amount is also added to your individual net worth as it signifies your ownership of your property (paid and secured). Keep in mind that understanding equity and knowing how you want it to work for you will influence the way you plan your mortgage payments. This equity can be used as leverage in order to qualify for home equity loans and finance future investments or to improve your financial standing. Value appreciation also affects and increases your equity. ## Diversification Investing in an investment property can help diversify your investment portfolio and reduce your overall risk, protecting you from devastating losses and ensuring that a good chunk of your investments are always working for you. While you may feel confident with the way you handle and trade your stocks and currencies, spreading your investment across real estate options as well can provide your portfolio better stability. It also serves as assets that protect your wealth from risks that may result from both predictable and unpredictable market activity and downturns. This is all because real estate is generally less volatile than other types of investments, such as stocks and bonds. A pandemic or a brand scandal may sabotage some of your stocks, but real estate value is almost always on a steady incline. ## Inflation Hedge Real estate investment properties can serve as [an effective hedge against inflation](https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesrealestatecouncil/2021/09/28/is-real-estate-a-hedge-against-inflation/?sh=3616857119da). As inflation rises (and before you even think of making money off of your property), your fixed mortgage stays as it is, effectively giving you a growing discount as you are in the process of paying for your property. Also, as inflation increases property values, it logically follows that the income you can generate with your investment property can also increase in keeping pace with inflation and maintaining its value over time. When hunting for an investment property, you should also consider the idea of your property options being potential inflation hedges. Multiple-family properties (e.g. an apartment building with multiple studio units) will also be advantageous as these properties generate multiple income streams and allow you to increase rent yearly as necessary. Properties in prime locations that cater to business districts, university towns, or tourism hubs are also going to stay competitive even through the throes of inflation. ## Forced Appreciation With a little bit of thoughtful effort and investment, you have the capability to increase the value of your investment property through improvements and upgrades. This is also known as forced appreciation. Taking advantage of your property’s potential through this method can result in a significant return on investment if done correctly. Redesigning the home, beautifying the exterior through renovation, upgrading the roofing materials, modernising the water system, adding a balcony or another storey to your property, increasing curb appeal, or landscaping the lawn– these are ways you can catalyse your investment property’s value appreciation. When looking for an investment property, location and structure integrity will be your priorities. Depending on your willingness and passion for flipping a property and how you look at it, you could benefit from investing in simple but promising ‘blank canvasses’. Finding a simple or minimalist property can actually give you an affordable entry into owning an investment property that you can renovate and improve if you wish to increase its value through time and forced appreciation. ## Retirement Income So you have purchased a couple of investment properties in your 30-40s. And you are paying for it for the next 10-30 years. This will bear fruit for you more than you estimate, especially when it comes to [planning your retirement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/retirement-single-mum/). Owning an investment property can provide you a retirement home and/or a reliable source of income upon retirement. By purchasing an investment property early in your career and renting it out for many years, you can build up a significant amount of real estate equity and continue to generate sufficient passive income long after you’ve left the workforce. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/buying-investment-property/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/buying-investment-property/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Property **Tags:** investment, investment property, buying an investement property, tips on buying an investment property, top tips on investing --- ### [Ready to start dating again? - Tips to help you decide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-start-dating-again/) **Published:** June 28, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You never imagined you would be a single mum on the dating scene. It’s not what we ever think will happen when we have babies and start a family. But here you are. It may not be your first rodeo, but it’s not easier at all! Why? Because this time, dating decisions don’t just affect you, but your kids as well. This doesn’t mean you can’t put yourself back out there and start to be happy again (romantically). [Dating when you have children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-with-kids/) is both daunting and exciting. Another thing you might be worried about is the thought of getting intimate with someone new. I understand that it’s very possibly terrifying. I’ve had more than a few women confess that they even wonder if[ everything is still working as it should](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/its-been-so-long-since-the-last-time-is-it-all-still-working-down-there/)! I know you have a million questions on your mind. Questions such as, how do you know if you are ready to start dating again? When is the right time to get back out there? And what else should you consider when you are prepared to meet someone? Buckle up, Mama, because you’re about to find out! ## **How to know if you are ready to start dating again** ## **The right time will be different for everyone** It’s easy to feel the pressure of everyone else telling you “Just put yourself out there again” or the judgement of “You should just be focusing on your kids right now.” But when it comes to dating, only you can decide when the time is right. We all crave love, intimacy, and affection, but we each express these needs in our unique ways. If you want to enjoy casual relationships to fulfil your physical needs before seeking a long-term partner, that’s totally fine. If you’d rather wait for a serious relationship before getting involved, that’s your choice too. What you’re open to can change over time, so be kind to yourself. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012526-1066x800.jpg "1000012526 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Love yourself before you start dating again** One of the most important relationships you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. Know that you deserve your love just as much as anyone else does. I don’t mean this in the fluffy self-love bumper sticker way. Self-love comes through our actions too. This is your time to put yourself first. Show yourself love in every way that you can. Be kind to yourself, spoil yourself, buy yourself flowers, call on your girlfriends and build support around you. When we start by falling in love with who we are, we don’t ‘need’ someone else. We don’t need them to make us feel better about ourselves, we don’t need them to ‘complete’ us, we show up whole and knowing our worth. And that changes everything. ## **Remember, you’re still a catch!** You might be older and wiser than the last time you were dating, but you bring a lot to the table. Whoever ends up with you – and your kids – in their life is going to be one very lucky man or lady. Never doubt that being a single mum makes you great to date. ## **Learn from past relationships** Getting into a new relationship can feel scary. We worry that we’ll fall into the same patterns we did before, like falling for the wrong person again or not being able to let go of what we’re carrying from our previous relationships. Think about what went well and what didn’t, and notice any patterns or behaviours that caused problems. Let go of grudges and focus on what you learned instead of the hurt. Use the lessons from the past to build a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. ## **How to know when you are ready to date again after a breakup (cont.)** ## **Great relationships begin with ourselves** Rather than look at who the right person is and how to avoid ‘that type’ that you know you always fall for, look inward. You can ask these questions to help you decide. - What was it about you that attracted the wrong relationships in the past? - How can you change how you show up in a relationship to make things better? - Are you still holding onto anger or resentment, and what would it take to let go of it? When we work on ourselves, we attract different relationships. It’s important to remember this when considering if you are ready to start dating again. ![Ready to start dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012525-1066x800.jpg "1000012525 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Maintain your needs and boundaries** Take all the time that you need to start a new relationship. It’s easy to get caught in a whirlwind romance. But it’s important to take things at your own pace and do what you feel is right. When it comes to dating, it’s important to stay true to your values and what you’re looking for in a partner. Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or just casual dating, let your new potential partner know. Take the time to get to know someone before diving into anything serious. A new love should complement your life, not complicate it. ## **Balancing Dating and Parenting** Balancing dating and parenting can be tricky for single mums. Before you jump into a new relationship, make sure your children feel secure and understand that your dating life won’t negatively affect your time with them. Introduce new partners only when you feel the relationship is serious and stable. This approach has helped me in maintaining a healthy balance between my personal life and my responsibilities to my kid. Whoever you’re starting to date should understand your priorities and work with you. ## **Signs you’re ready to start dating again** It is a good sign if you no longer dwell on your last relationship and feel emotionally stable. When thoughts of love bring excitement rather than anxiety, it could mean that you, my fellow mum, are ready to get back out there. Dating after a breakup (especially a divorce) is never easy. For a long time, my life revolved around my kid and rebuilding our home. I didn’t know whether I was prepared to go back into the dating game, but slowly, things began to change. One day, I realised the thoughts of my ex no longer consumed me. Instead of bitterness, I felt a sense of closure and peace. My self-confidence started to return, and I enjoyed my own company. I found myself smiling more and daydreaming about a better relationship in the future. The real turning point was when I caught myself looking forward to social events rather than dreading them. I even started noticing people around me in a different light. These little signs were subtle, but they all pointed to one truth – I was ready to start dating again. ## **Summary: Are you ready for your next relationship?** When I finally decided to try dating again, I did it with a lot of self-awareness. Juggling dates and parenting wasn’t easy, but with clear boundaries and good communication, I made it work. I realised that being a single mum didn’t mean my love life had to be on hold forever. I just had to find the right balance and make sure my kid and I were ready for this new chapter. Remember, the most important relationship you have is with yourself, so give space for personal growth. Take time to heal. Don’t rush into anything that doesn’t feel right and date at your own pace. Your experiences have made you stronger and wiser, so trust your instincts. Whether you find love or simply enjoy the adventure of online dating, you deserve happiness and fulfilment. So be confident when you’re feeling ready for that first date again. The right person will appreciate all that you are, including the incredible mum you’ve become. ![How to know if you are ready to start dating again | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Ready-to-start-dating-again.png "Ready to start dating again - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-start-dating-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/ready-to-start-dating-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** online dating, intimacy, dating with kids, relationship --- ### [How to avoid energy bill shock this winter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/avoid-energy-bill-shock-this-winter/) **Published:** May 12, 2023 **Author:** Laura Crowden **Content:** Winter is well and truly here, and that means the heater gets cranked up, the electric blankets get switched on, and the dryer is on overdrive in an effort to stay on top of the mounting piles of laundry. Unfortunately, as the temperature plummets, our household energy consumption begins to skyrocket and the fact we tend to spend more time at home to keep warm during winter doesn’t help either. All this can quickly add up to one very expensive winter energy bill. There is nothing worse than the ‘bill shock’ that comes from a large energy bill, especially when you are juggling the increased cost of living on one income. Laura Crowden from energy expert’s iSelect has given us the low-down on how to keep your energy bills from spiralling out of control this winter. ## HOW TO AVOID ENERGY BILL SHOCK THIS WINTER ### CONFUSING ENERGY DISCOUNTS Ever signed up to an energy offer with an impressive discount only to be stung with a much higher bill than you were expecting? Well you’re not alone. A recent survey for iSelect found that 25% of Aussies have been caught out by conditional discounts, with over half of those caught out having to pay $50 or more extra. Many discounted energy offers – especially those you see advertised on TV – are conditional, which mean you need to meet certain criteria such as paying on time to receive the discount. For a busy single mum, it can be too easy to forget to pay your bill by the due date. If you are someone who often pays your bills late, you are probably going to be better off steering clear of pay-on-time discounts and instead opt for a plan with a guaranteed discount or lower ongoing rates without a discount. ### DON’T PAY THE LAZY TAX Unfortunately, most energy retailers put a lot more effort into attracting new customers than they do rewarding the loyalty of their existing customers. That means that customers who stay with the same provider can end up paying a ‘lazy tax’ because they don’t have time to negotiate a better deal. Most energy discounts also expire after a year or two, after which time you’ll most likely be rolled over onto a higher priced plan. Retailers are now required to notify you when your discount period expires and this should be your prompt to compare your options. If you’ve been on the same energy plan for more than two years, then chances are you are already paying more than you need to. ### SHOPPING AROUND IS WORTH THE HASSLE Okay, you probably already knew shopping around is a good idea. But you most likely haven’t gotten around to it. Why? Well when you are running a family on your own, you don’t have a lot of spare time. And you don’t want to spend what precious spare time you do have comparing energy providers. The good news is that it is often much easier (and quicker) than people think. And even better – it’s definitely worth the hassle! By using an energy comparison service like iSelect means only takes around 15-20 minutes to compare energy plans so can be snuck in between other tasks on your to-do list. And a recent survey of iSelect customers found that over half saved anywhere from $100 to $1000 a year off their bills. And who doesn’t love a little extra cash to help with those household essentials or give yourself a well-deserved treat. ### USE LESS ENERGY It’s not all about understanding your energy bills and getting the cheapest deal available. Yes, do that! But then take steps to use less energy this winter around your home. It will not only save you money but will reduce your carbon foot print. There are many ways to do this, including - Turn down your thermostat by just a few degrees and get used to a new slightly cooler home - Get into the habit of wearing an extra layer of clothing or a cozy blanket to stay warm - Only heat the rooms in your house that you use regularly - Use a programmable thermostat which will automatically adjust the temperature when you’re away or sleeping - Use energy-efficient light bulbs and turn out lights when not using them - Check for air leaks around windows, doors, and electrical outlets, then seal them to stop the heat escaping - Ensure your home is properly insulated – think attic, walls and floors - Close your curtains or blinds at night to help insulate your windows and keep the cold air out --- **iSelect energy disclaimer** *iSelect does not compare all energy providers or plans in the market. The availability of plans will change from time to time. Not all plans made available from iSelect providers are compared by iSelect and due to commercial arrangements or availability, not all products compared by iSelect will be available to all customers. Some plans and special offers are available only from iSelect’s call centre. Other plans are available only from iSelect’s website. Energy plans are available only for properties located in eligible areas of Victoria, New South Wales, South East Queensland, South Australia and ACT. [Click here](https://www.iselect.com.au/partners/) to view iSelect’s range of providers.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/avoid-energy-bill-shock-this-winter/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/avoid-energy-bill-shock-this-winter/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money, Winter **Tags:** utility bills, keeping warm, energy providers, iselect --- ### [Parenting 101: Complementary Co-parenting and why I love it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/complementary-co-parenting/) **Published:** June 1, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I am prepared to admit that when I became a parent, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. Then, to have to change gears and become a co-parent … well, let’s just say the verb ‘to fumble’ was prevalent in my life. But like all parents, I went with my instincts and found a way. In the process, I developed a new style of shared parenting, which worked wonders for my family. I call it complementary co-parenting. ## Our parenting setup My situation was this: My ex-husband and I cared for our young daughters with a [50/50 arrangement.](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) He (my ex) was a good, hands-on dad. Our girls effortlessly wrapped him around their little fingers. Their wish was his command. It was actually quite amusing in a sweet, non-condescending way. ## This is what happened The end result of this was that while they were with him, they had soooo much fun. Some may say, too much fun. (Co-parenting mothers are nodding knowingly right now.) They would go to his house and have [THE. TIME. OF. THEIR. LIVES](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/disney-dad/). And, yep, you’ve got it, they would return to me exhausted, full to the brim with junk food and with the believe that ‘ask means get’ and that’s that. But, I have to admit that ultimately .. they were happy. ## So, what is complementary co-parenting? What happens next is key to complementary co-parenting. I didn’t argue. I didn’t quibble. I didn’t start a fight (Lord knows I’ve had enough to last a lifetime). One thing I knew for sure was that there was NOTHING I could do to change his parenting style … and quite frankly, who was I to try? My children were happy. What more can a mother ask for? Instead, I made the decision to ‘complement’ his parenting style. By this, I mean when the girls came home exhausted, I provided downtime. When they’d had so many McDonalds, they were on first-name terms with the staff; I provided healthy, nourishing food. When they’d been living from one day to the next like mini rock stars, I provided routine. I knew their father’s[ parenting style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/) was not sustainable. I knew there were gaps, so I filled them. I completed the circle of parenting so that between my ex and I, we offered our children what they needed. They had wild times, but they also had calm times. They ate out, but they also learnt to cook and enjoy food at home. They were the original routine breakers, but they thrived from an evening story and set bedtime. They had chaos, yet they had balance. But most importantly, they had love—love from two parents who weren’t arguing. What better gift can we, as separated parents, give to our children than to make their lives easy, happy, and free of conflict? ![Parenting 101: dad dancing with child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/WhatisCo-Parenting-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## The road to complimentary co-parenting ## 1. Consult a Family Lawyer Drumroll, please, because here comes the complex part of co-parenting – the legal and technical stuff. I started with understanding my legal rights and responsibilities. Consulting a family lawyer gave me clarity on custody arrangements, child support, and visitation rights. If you haven’t started on one yet, a lawyer can also help you draft a co-parenting agreement. This document will ensure that you and your former partner are on the same page. ## 2. Engage in Mediation Separation and divorce can get really ugly. My ex and I had to go through a lot of disagreements before consulting a mediator. Trust me, you do not want to go through all that drama. Mediation helped us resolve disputes and make co-parenting decisions without the stress of court battles. This process helps us parents work through conflicts and focus on the best interests of our children. ## 3. Set Up a Consultation with a Co-Parenting Counselor After successfully resolving our conflicts, thanks to our ever-patient mediator, we scheduled an appointment with a co-parenting counsellor. A [co-parenting counsellor](https://www.choosingtherapy.com/co-parenting-counseling/) provides strategies and resources to improve your co-parenting relationship. I was impressed by how our counsellor gave tailored advice on communication techniques, conflict resolution, and establishing routines. A counsellor can also help co-parents create a parenting plan that aligns with their child’s needs—making [couples counselling](https://newvisionpsychology.com.au/couples-counselling-sydney/ "couples counselling") a valuable resource for navigating family dynamics. ![co-parenting counsellor - couple in disagreement with mediator](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/EngageinMediation-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Maintain Boundaries Maintaining clear and respectful boundaries is crucial for a successful and amicable co-parenting relationship. In my experience, this means setting rules for effective communication, respecting each other’s time, and keeping interactions focused on the children. We maintained healthy boundaries to prevent misunderstandings and reduce conflicts. ## 5. Follow a Structured Pathway Developing a structured pathway may sound complicated. But it’s basically creating a detailed plan with all the parental responsibilities, schedules, and protocols for handling common issues. This plan should be flexible enough to accommodate changes but detailed enough to provide consistency for your kids. Remember to regularly review and update this plan if needed. ## 6. Manage Emotions Effectively Managing emotions is one of the most challenging aspects of co-parenting, for me at least. But it’s essential for creating a positive environment for your kiddos. Find healthy ways to cope with stress, anger, or sadness, such as therapy, support groups, or self-care routines. Doing quick yoga sessions at home every day helped me stay focused and calm. Remember, your emotional well-being directly impacts your children, so taking care of yourself is also taking care of them. ## Summary: Why I love complimentary co-parenting Co-parenting is not competition; it is collaboration. And you don’t always have to pull together as parents to make this happen. As separated parents, it may not be possible. Instead, work with what you have, complement what your former partner is offering, and watch as your children thrive. I’m not saying complementary co-parenting is easy. I’ve bitten my tongue so many times I’m surprised it’s still intact. But somewhere along the way, in this messy thing called life, I know I got something right. And, as it turns out … it was one of the most important things that has given my children the greatest gift of all: happiness. ![Complementary co-parenting | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Complementary-coparenting.png "Complementary coparenting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/complementary-co-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/complementary-co-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** disney dad, shared care, parallel parenting, shared parenting, disneyland dad --- ### [The importance of making friends during motherhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/importance-making-friends-motherhood/) **Published:** March 30, 2023 **Author:** Alice Duff **Content:** Let’s talk about something super important – making friends during motherhood. Making friends as an adult can feel awkward and forced. You might also feel a tad embarrassed, thinking: “How have I got to this stage in my life and I don’t have enough friends?”. You are not alone. Many mothers friend themselves in the same position for a number of reasons, including old friendships no longer working, current mates ‘not getting’ you, or a messy separation where people you thought were [friends sided with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divorce-lost-friendships/). The reason is not important. Having good friends is! Motherhood can be amazing, but it can also be a rollercoaster of emotions and challenges. Having a tribe of supportive and understanding friends can make all the difference. Think about it – who else can you complain to about the joys of sleepless nights, the struggle of finding time for self-care, and the pressure to have a Pinterest-worthy birthday party for your toddler? Only your fellow mum friends will genuinely get it. And if you’re feeling a little nervous about putting yourself out there, remember – we’re all in this crazy mum journey together. So let’s embrace the importance of making friends during motherhood and support each other along the way. ## Emotional support Have you ever felt pressured by those around you to be happy because you’re now a mum? Sometimes, society makes you feel like you have no right to be sad *because* being a mother is supposed to be the best thing that’s ever happened in your life! The reality is mums may have baby blues, with one in seven mums experiencing postpartum depression. And no one understands this more than fellow mums. Having friends who’ve been there and experienced similar feelings will not just give you the emotional support you badly need. They can also shield you from other people who will try to invalidate your feelings. ## Practical help When you say you need help, some would misunderstand what kind of help you need. Actually, you don’t need someone to take over caring for your little one. Most of the time, what you need is someone who will wash the dishes, get the laundry done, and cook! Other mums totally get that. They’ve been there, so they know how hard it is to get up and do household chores when you’ve just given birth. Having someone who understands what kind of help you need (without you saying it) means everything. In addition, other mums have the practical know-how that you won’t learn from pregnancy and postpartum books. I mean, who can better demo how to baby wrap in one minute? ## People to laugh with When you become a mum, that’s when you finally understand mum jokes. And having friends who truly get what these jokes mean? Precious. Being a mum is super taxing especially when you take the role seriously. Sometimes, you just need to know that that your dinosaur toddler isn’t the only dinosaur toddler to ever exist, and that you’re not the only one who hasn’t showered in days. When you’re alone, these things can make you feel down. But when you look at it from the outside, most of these are actually pretty hilarious. Having someone to laugh about these moments with makes motherhood a lot better. Sometimes, you just need a friend who understands you don’t actually want to give your child away even when you joke about it. ## People to cry with Do you sometimes feel like you lost your personal identity when you became a mum? That now, you’re just your child’s mum? Or you might feel you’ve lost your freedom being the primary caregiver while everyone else’s (clue: dad) life goes on exactly as it was before the baby. That’s something that’s hard to explain to someone who hasn’t felt that way. Your mum friends would, they likely feel exactly the same. A good cry can sometimes be all you need, and friends who have been in your shoes can give you the empathy you need at this time. Having good friends during motherhood will give you people you can open up to, and this will lift the emotional load. ## Being social Us mums often wonder how we can [feel lonely when we are so busy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/busy-but-lonely/). Running around after your children all day does not constitute a social life. And, if you never socialise on your terms with your friends, you will not only feel isolated but it can affect your mental health and cause other problems, such as social anxiety. Good friends can provide a much-needed social outlet and help you feel connected to the world outside your home. Warning: If you have limited practice of socialising, you will lose your social skills and it can be hard to get back out there and mingle again. ## Getting perspective Being a new mum can also limit your worldview within your own experience. But the truth is, each pregnancy, each postpartum, and each motherhood journey is unique. Learning about the stories of your fellow mums will make you feel less alone and more empowered about your own experiences and journey. Having friends who share different perspectives will not just make you feel better but help you become more empathetic towards other mums as well. ## Self-care support from friends during motherhood Being a mum and running a household can be overwhelming. You are not alone if self-care is the least of your priorities. Not having a proper shower, enough sleep, [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/), or much needed “me” time can impact your mental and physical health. This makes it even harder to perform your mum duties. Having mum friends in the same boat as you means you can encourage each other to take time for self-care. You can even do it together so you hold each other accountable. For example, if you plan to take a 20-minute walk each day after school drop-off, you are likelier to skip it if you do it alone. But, if you have planned it with a friend, you will not want to disappoint them and feel more enthusiastic about doing it. Never underestimate the [importance of self-care](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/caring-for-your-mental-health). ## Stress relief You know those days when you are really stressed out and have no one to talk to about it? The stress goes round and round inside your head, worsening by the hour. Having a good friend on hand right now is essential! Whether you need to share your stresses and take advice, or you need to LET IT OUT, sharing how you feel with a friend who gets you will help you calm the farm and destress. Who needs stress balls when you have a damn good mate to talk to? ## Shared experiences Yes, each motherhood journey is different as each child is different, but there are bits and pieces that we can only share with other mums. Knowing you’re not the first and the last to experience what you’re going through at the moment can be helpful in making you feel better. You’ll learn that you’re not perfect, they’re not perfect … and that’s okay. Other mums’ “mistakes” can be your valuable lessons. Their successes can become your template. And you know that someday, you’d get to share your stories, too. That’s how mothers get the wisdom mothers are known for. Having friends during motherhood to tell you ‘it gets better’ could be exactly what you need right now. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/importance-making-friends-motherhood/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/importance-making-friends-motherhood/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** importance of making friends, friends during motherhood, friends and motherhood, having friends during motherhood --- ### [How to say NO to stress this Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/say-no-stress-christmas/) **Published:** December 17, 2020 **Author:** Peter Succar **Content:** For many people, the holidays aren’t a time of joy, excitement or relaxation. Instead, they’re a time of stress, anxiety and trying to ‘get it all in’. If you feel like you can’t wait for your holiday ‘vacation’ to be over so that you can take a real vacation, it’s time for an adjustment. Remember that YOU DO have a choice of how you perceive things. You can decide whether or not to let things stress you out or you can decide to deal with what you have control over in a calm manner, letting all those things you can’t control fall out of the picture. Aside from adjusting your frame of mind, there are a few things you can take advantage of that will help you de-stress. Here are a few tips on how you can say NO to stress this Christmas. ## HOW TO STAY CALM THIS CHRISTMAS ### Get a Whiff of Lavender Did you know that lavender offers calming benefits? Most people don’t realise this, but the scent of lavender actually promotes relaxation in the body and will help reduce stress and anxiety. There are many organic and pure lavender-enriched products available, so immersing yourself in this calming scent is easy. You can try using some pure organic lavender essential oils, but you can also include lavender in your daily bath and beauty routine with things like organic lavender deodorant, lavender shampoo and some indulgent lavender calming body lotion. However you choose to whiff this calming scent, it will work quite effectively to help you manage your stress and feel better as you go about the holidays. If it’s possible, try and take ten minutes or so each day to just relax, unwind and have some ‘you’ time. ### Drink Some Matcha Tea Another great beverage to try if you want to get a hold over your stress levels is matcha tea or elixirs. This amazing Japanese tea will help you on multiple fronts. First, it contains a small dose of caffeine, so it’ll provide a much needed boost of energy that can help you get through your day. Nothing will stress you out quite like having a long to-do list and hardly any energy to get it done. Second, matcha tea contains L-Theanine, which can have calming effects over the mind. This will help ease your anxiety and allow you to feel more in control. Finally, matcha tea is also a great source of antioxidants, which will help combat the free radical damage that stress and anxiety can cause. All up, matcha tea is a wonderful tool for a no stress Christmas. ### Fuel Up With Protein Speaking of energy, it’s important that you learn how to balance your nutrition to provide optimal energy. This means getting enough protein in with each meal and snack. Most mums do a great job of getting some protein with their main meals, but when it comes to snack time (and it will come) there’s a whole other challenge. In such cases, protein bars are one of the best options to turn to, especially if you opt for ones made of all natural and organic ingredients such as the Protein + Antioxidant Bars or the vegan-friendly plant protein balls. In addition to healthy doses of protein, bars such as these will help give your body all the raw materials it needs for tissue rebuilding as well as for optimising your energy level. ## How to say NO to stress this Christmas (cont.) ### Herbal Remedies If you need that little extra de-stressing, there are quite a few natural herbal remedies that can help. The most effective herbal remedies are the ones that infuse more than one of nature’s potent stress relief ingredients, not to just treat stress, but also the causes of stress. Consider for example the rescue remedy range; it mixes flowers such as Rock Rose, Impatiens, Clematis, Star of Bethlehem and Cherry Plum. Together, in just one remedy they help reduce panic, irritability, shock and promote overall calmness. Herbal remedies can even be something as simple as tea, such as calming organic chamomile tea or honey lavender stress relief tea. There are quite a few herbal remedies that can help, so you don’t need to go-it alone! If you need that extra help, as many of us do, you have quite a few options. ### Learn How to Say No to stress this Christmas Finally, remember that one of the leading causes of stress around the holidays is having too much on your plate. Learn to say NO – and stop feeling guilty about it. There is only one of you and you simply can’t be in two places at once. Say NO to obligations that just aren’t that important to you and that you don’t have time for. People will respect the fact that you’re busy and it won’t be as big of a deal as you likely believe it to be. Plan your calendar out ahead of time and write down all the main events you must attend that are either important to you or there is no getting out of. Then, be sure that you don’t double book yourself and schedule in some time each week to just relax and enjoy your own family at home. This is the key secret to a [happy and healthy Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/). Keep these tips in mind and start focusing on enjoying the holiday rather than running yourself into the ground with stress and anxiety. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## In need of Christmas gift ideas? Look no further … [25 Gift ideas for young girls (primary school age)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gift-ideas-young-girls/) [25 Gifts ideas for young boys (primary school age)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gift-ideas-young-boys/) [24 Gifts for teenage girls that have nothing to do with iPhones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teenage-girls-which-have-nothing-to-do-with-iphones/) [24 Gifts for teenage boys that have nothing to do with gaming](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/24-gifts-for-teenage-boys-that-have-nothing-to-with-gaming/) [The best gift hampers for delivery in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-gift-hampers-for-delivery-in-australia/) [50 Gift ideas for mum (sisters, aunties and friends)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-gift-ideas-for-mums-sisters-aunties-girlfriends/) [22 Homemade Christmas gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/) [12 Hilarious Christmas gift ideas for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/) [30 Cute little stocking stuffers for little girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cute-little-stocking-stuffers-for-little-girls/) [20 Cool little stocking fillers for little boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cool-stocking-fillers-for-little-boys/) [50 Christmas gift ideas for men under $50](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-christmas-gifts-ideas-men-under-50/) [10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/) [Cheap yet life-changing Christmas gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-life-changing-gifts-friends-family/) [15 Christmas gift ideas for a newish boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/) [17 Gift for teachers which they’ll actually really like](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/) [30+ Subscription boxes to gift friends and family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-subscription-boxes-in-australia/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Say-no-to-stress-this-Christmas.png "Say no to stress this Christmas - Beanstalk Mums") ![Say no to stress this Christmas | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Say-no-to-stress-this-Christmas-1.png "Say no to stress this Christmas - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/say-no-stress-christmas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/say-no-stress-christmas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, festive, Xmas --- ### [How to balance and enjoy your work mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-balance-enjoy-work-mum-life-2/) **Published:** April 18, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *7 March 2017* As single mum do you find it hard to balance your kids, your home responsibilities and your career? Kim Stone is a mum of two and the founder of Undercover Mum. She supports and mentors working mums so that they can experience their version of success at home and at work. She believes you CAN make time for everything that matters to you – including health, career, family, fun and more. We discuss getting out of work/life panic-mode, making the right choices, proven strategies to get organised, motivation and how to alleviate mummy guilt for a happier, well-balanced work/life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-balance-enjoy-work-mum-life-2/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-balance-enjoy-work-mum-life-2/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Career, Household **Tags:** balancing work and parenting, work life balance, working single mum, tips to balance and enjoy work --- ### [Warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/) **Published:** May 1, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Relationships can be a source of immense joy and fulfilment. However, if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, it can also be the source of emotional pain and distress. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse, but it often goes unnoticed or is dismissed as normal behaviour. If you are in a relationship that is causing you emotional pain, the first thing to know is: > *You are not alone, and it is not your fault.* Emotional abuse is not something you must endure, and it is crucial to recognise the warning signs to take the necessary steps to protect yourself. This article discusses the warning signs of emotional abuse in a relationship. We aim to provide you with the information you need to recognise the signs of emotional abuse, understand its impact, and take action to protect yourself and your well-being. Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness, respect and love … especially by the people you share your life with. ***Further reading: [Intervention orders (Australia): The facts in plain English.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/)*** ## How the abuse starts You have been single for some time and have been actively looking for a potential partner. You have the sudden and wonderful fortune of meeting him. He comes across as a sweet-natured person who buys you flowers, takes you on romantic dates and sends you confidence-boosting messages. For the first time in a long time, someone is paying attention to you and giving you the love that you have been craving. Everything seems to be moving fast, but at the time, it feels right. He’s now met your children and there is talk of moving in together and having babies. You’re caught up in the romantic undercurrent. Everything seems to be perfect. You would have no idea you were entering into an emotionally abusive relationship. ## The first signs of an emotionally abusive relationship Months later, the flowers and dates become less frequent, and the confidence-boosting text messages slowly morph into more possessive and jealous texts. He starts to question your routine and makes accusations based on what you wear or who you hang out with. And then there’s the name-calling and the control tactics. But every now and then, he takes a break and restarts the affection just to keep you questioning yourself. ## The cycle of abuse continues The cycle continues, and you’re drowning in it. He knows when and how to push your buttons and uses them as his weapon of choice. Sometimes he does these things in a very non-confronting way. You try to make excuses, after all, he’s never laid a hand on you. And the last thing you want is to [deal with a difficult breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-essential-steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/). From there, the cycle gains momentum. The self-doubt begins, and your friends notice you are different. But you start to make excuses for his behaviour and take fault in what is happening. ## ‘But he didn’t hit me’ It is easy to wrongfully assume that abuse in relationships is limited to just physical abuse. The [Centre for Relationship Abuse Awareness](http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/) defines an abusive relationship as: > *“A pattern of abusive and coercive behaviours used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual or physical. (This can include) threats, isolation and intimidation.”* There are enough case studies out there to prove that emotional abuse can be the start of a more dangerous outcome. And preventative measures for possible physical violence start here. ***Further reading: [How I shattered a dysfunctional generational cycle for the abuse of my daughter.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/dysfunctional-generational-cycle/)*** ## The bigger picture in an emotionally abusive relationship To give a clearer context of how abuse impacts women in Australia, it’s important to check out the statistics. According to the [Australian Bureau of Statistics](http://www.abs.gov.au/), 19.4% of Australian women have experienced some form of emotional violence from a male from 15 years onwards. From this 19.4%, 35.6% is committed by a male they know or are close to. Looking into these statistics further, at least one of these victims each week is either murdered by their abuser or has committed suicide. The report connected to these statistics is quite startling and worth reading to see where Australia currently sits in relation to abuse and violence. The other staggering statistic is that 51% of Australians surveyed believe that women can choose to walk away from an emotionally abusive relationship if they want to. If you feel that your relationship is close to the boundaries of being emotionally abusive, here are four signs to look out for. ## Warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship ### 1. Possessiveness An abuser in an emotionally abusive relationship has a desire to be in control of every aspect of their victim’s life, especially regarding their children. They are continuously checking on your location, activities, and companions. This may even include your children, especially within schooling and living arrangements. An abuser may choose to use a child as a pawn to manipulate and control your decisions. Failing to meet their expectations may cause them to become angry or aggressive towards you or your children. ### 2. Jealousy Because emotional abusers like control, they will do anything and everything to isolate you from other people (especially your children). Your abuser may start accusing you of behaviours, such as being unfaithful or flirting and may manipulate your children into believing him. He may find ways to isolate you from family or friends by being rude and causing rifts, or finding situations that avoid you and your children from socialising. These might be unexpected ‘emergencies’ or family outings and illnesses strategically planned around the time of an event. ### 3. Putting you down Emotional abusers will do what they can to put you down, either publicly or privately, by attacking your intelligence, looks, mental health or capabilities. They may manipulate your children to favour him over you through showering them with gifts, less discipline or encouraging them to believe that you are at fault in the broken relationship. ### 4. Threats Emotional abusers may possibly break items of value to you to watch your emotional reaction. They may threaten violence, court action or try to take full custody of the children, but in some cases, not actually follow through. They may also feed your fears and anxieties, saying things such as ‘no one else will want you.’ ### 5. Physical/sexual abuse Emotional abusers can be loving at times and violent or physically/sexually abusive at others. They may lock you out of your house, abandon you in a strange location, attack you with or without weapons, force you to have sex, or prevent you from getting basic needs and medical care. It can be difficult to stay upset and take action against the abuser because they may feel genuinely sorry for their behaviour. Abusers can be incredibly charming as well as disarming. But don’t be fooled; the cycle of abuse tends to continue if ignored. ### 6. Stalking and controlling behaviour Abusers are obsessed with power and control. They want to know where you are 24/7, what you are doing (online and off), and who you are talking to (they will call/text excessively during the day). It’s not uncommon for abusers to install hidden cameras and install monitoring software on your devices. They will also try to control your day-to-day activities, getting upset or violent when you don’t comply. When confronted, they will lie or downplay the incident. ### 7. Financial abuse Financial abuse can go hand in hand with emotional abuse, and is often related to an abuser’s controlling behaviour. An abuser will control your financial resources. Examples include: - Stealing your money (or your family and friends’ money) - Accessing your credit cards and bank accounts - Giving you an allowance instead of direct access to your finances - [Racking up debts ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-debt-help/) - Destroying your credit history - Controlling what kind of job you can hold. - Withholding money for basic needs Financial abuse can be subtle or extreme and threatening. ## Conclusion: Warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship Consider every emotionally abusive relationship is unique, the underlying signs are still similar. If you find you are experiencing emotional abuse (or any form of abuse), contact one of the following helplines below. These helplines will help you through the situation in terms of safety interventions, access to women’s shelters and support to overcome abuse: [Relationships Australia:](https://www.relationships.org.au/) 1300 364 277 [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/): 13 11 14 [DV Connect](http://www.dvconnect.org/): 1800 811 811 ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** narcissist, emotional abuse, abuse --- ### [10 Valentine's Day treats to make with the kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-treats-kids/) **Published:** October 21, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The best way I have of showing my kids that I love them is by spending quality time with them. So, if you are like us and like getting creative in the kitchen, why not spend Valentine’s Day cooking up a storm of love with your little ones? To get you in the mood, I’ve hunted down some scrumptious yet simple Valentine’s Day treats to make with the kids. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")## Sweet Valentine’s Day treats to make with the kids ### [Red Velvet Pancakes](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/red-velvet-pancakes-recipe/svmf35yu) Red velvet makes perfect Valentines day treats. Here’s a breakfast version the whole family will love: Heart-shaped red velvet pancakes. They look complex to make, but are really easy and very effective. [![Red Velvet Pancakes | Beanstalk Single Mums | Valentine's Day](https://img.kidspot.com.au/G54telRi/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2015/03/4290-501009-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/red-velvet-pancakes-recipe/svmf35yu) Get recipe here: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/red-velvet-pancakes-recipe/svmf35yu) ### [Fruit Skewers](https://bestfriendsforfrosting.com/fruit-skewers/) Looking for healthier Valentines day treats? I get it. These fruit skewers are tasty, nutritious and take no time to make. Great way to sneak in fruits for your kids. [![Valentines Day Treats | Fruit Skewers | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://bestfriendsforfrosting.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/fourth-of-july-dessert.jpg)](https://bestfriendsforfrosting.com/fruit-skewers/) Get recipe here: [Best Friends for Frosting](https://bestfriendsforfrosting.com/fruit-skewers/) ### [Confetti White Chocolate Popcorn](https://livelovetexas.com/valentine-popcorn-recipe/) Popcorn for Valentines day? Oh yes! This festive version is guaranteed to be a hit with kids and adults. We just adore the heart-shaped confetti sprinkles. [![White Chocolate Popcorn | Beanstalk Single Mums | Valentine's Day](https://livelovetexas.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Valentine-Popcorn-Recipe-4-734x1024.jpg)](https://livelovetexas.com/valentine-popcorn-recipe/) Get recipe here: [Live Love Texas](https://livelovetexas.com/valentine-popcorn-recipe/) ### [Strawberry Bliss Balls](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/strawberry-breakfast-bites/) Can you tell that I like to try and keep things healthy? Here’s another recipe that’s super easy and loaded with nutrition. Chances are, you already have the ingredients in your pantry: rolled oats, strawberries, maple syrup, coconut and seeds. [![Valentine's Day Treats | Strawberry Bliss Balls | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/strawberry-bliss-balls-20-1024x1024.jpg)](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/strawberry-breakfast-bites/) Get recipe here: [My Kids Lick the Bowl](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/strawberry-breakfast-bites/) ### [Raspberry Lemon Baked Doughnuts](https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/raspberry-lemon-baked-doughnuts/) Mmmm, doughnuts for Valentines day breakfast. This yummy treat gets a fruity, zesty twist with fresh raspberries and lemon zest. One of our favourites … for any time of the year. [![Raspberry Lemon Doughnuts | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/raspberry-doughnuts-on-rack.jpg)](https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/raspberry-lemon-baked-doughnuts/) Get recipe here: [Yummy Toddler Food](https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/raspberry-lemon-baked-doughnuts/) ### [Chocolate Covered Strawberry Cupcakes](https://www.lifeloveandsugar.com/chocolate-covered-strawberry-cupcakes/) If you have a little time to spare, these chocolate covered strawberry cupcakes are absolutely worth it. You get two Valentines day treats in one: a decadent chocolate cupcake and chocolate-covered strawberries. [![Valentines Day Treats | Chocolate Covered Strawberry Cupcakes | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.lifeloveandsugar.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Chocolate-Covered-Strawberry-Cupcakes4.jpg)](https://www.lifeloveandsugar.com/chocolate-covered-strawberry-cupcakes/) Get recipe here: [Life, Love and Sugar](https://www.lifeloveandsugar.com/chocolate-covered-strawberry-cupcakes/) ## Savoury Valentine’s Day treats for children ### [Mini Heart-Shaped Pizzas](https://sarahhearts.com/mini-heart-shaped-pizzas/) Pizza for breakfast is a Valentines day treat that my kids can’t get enough of. Minify the pizzas (use a handy heart-shaped cookie cutter) and customise your toppings. So much better than takeaway! [![Mini Heart Shaped Pizzas | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/474x/4f/4e/1e/4f4e1e9652c0d76fad3588375bfcdc7d.jpg)](https://sarahhearts.com/mini-heart-shaped-pizzas/) Get recipe here: [Sarah Heart](https://sarahhearts.com/mini-heart-shaped-pizzas/) ### [Valentine’s Day Roasted Potato Hearts](https://krollskorner.com/recipes/sides/valentines-day-roasted-potato-hearts/) Make dinner/brekkie/snack time extra special this Valentines day with heart-shaped roasted potatoes. Serve as a yummy side dish or the main event for the littles. [![Valentines Day Treats | Valentines Day Roasted Potato Hearts | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://krollskorner.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/valentineshearts3.jpg)](https://krollskorner.com/recipes/sides/valentines-day-roasted-potato-hearts/) Get recipe here: [Kroll’s Korner](https://krollskorner.com/recipes/sides/valentines-day-roasted-potato-hearts/) ### [Savoury Valentine’s Day Edibles](https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/food/recipes/20130120/savoury-valentines-day-edibles) This list is filled with savoury valentines day treats that are tasty and easy to make. If you’re in a rush, the classic egg in a basket (heart shaped, of course) is always a winner. [![Savoury Valentine's Day Edibles | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/sites/default/files/styles/large/public/field/image/straightR1.jpg?itok=iBWLgnJ6)](https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/food/recipes/20130120/savoury-valentines-day-edibles) Get recipe here: [Yummy Mummy Club](https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/food/recipes/20130120/savoury-valentines-day-edibles) ### [Valentine’s Party Tea Sandwiches](https://www.craftingafamily.com/valentines-party-tea-sandwich-recipes/) Just when you thought we’ve ran out of heart-shaped eatables … these sandwiches are perfect Valentines day treats at a lunch party. Egg salad, cream cheese, cucumber, avocado…the filling options are endless. [![Valentines Day Treats | Valentine's Party Tea Sandwiches | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.craftingafamily.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/tea-sandwiches-valentines-hearts-32.jpg)](https://www.craftingafamily.com/valentines-party-tea-sandwich-recipes/) Get recipe here: [Crafting a Family](https://www.craftingafamily.com/valentines-party-tea-sandwich-recipes/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-treats-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-treats-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day **Tags:** valentine's, love, food, snacks, treats --- ### [Ex won’t sign passport application for your child? Here's what to do.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/) **Published:** July 5, 2023 **Author:** Christine Weston **Content:** Your ex won’t sign passport application for your child? Here’s what to do … In most circumstances, it is reasonable for one parent to travel internationally with their child, particularly if they have family or cultural ties to the destination country. If there are no [Parenting Orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) in place, you don’t need the other parent’s consent to travel overseas with your child. However, in the interests of effective co-parenting, it’s generally best to discuss your travel plans with the other parent to avoid bad vibes, retaliation, or Recovery Orders for the urgent return of the child. Where Parenting Orders exist that do not specifically address travel, you must first get the other parent’s consent if you wish to travel overseas with your child. It’s important to understand the [legalities of taking your child on holiday if you are separated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/holidays-separated-family-legal/) before you book a ticket or pay for anything, because you could end up out of pocket if you need to cancel. ## Ex won’t sign passport application for our child. What can I do? ## Applying for a child’s passport when you are separated If your child doesn’t have a current passport, generally, the non-travelling parent will also need to sign the passport application. If there are Orders in place granting [Sole Parenting Responsibility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sole-parental-responsibility/) to one parent, including the authorisation of travel documents, then it may only require the signature of the person with Sole Parenting rights. It might otherwise be possible to have a passport issued with only one parent’s consent, but fair warning, it’s a long and challenging process. Here’s what to do if your ex won’t sign the passport application for your child. ## First steps if father won’t sign the passport Sometimes the other parent has legitimate concerns about child abduction and refuses to sign, but often it is more of a control issue. In these cases, try and talk with your ex to understand why they are refusing to sign your child’s passport application. They may have specific conditions they need addressed before consenting. Meeting their need to have some input into the travel arrangements, without overly compromising your plans, may turn out to be the fastest and most straightforward way to make progress. It can help to have these conversations in a facilitated mediation environment. If you choose this path, it is best to engage a mediator who is also a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP). I’ll explain why later. If you have exhausted all the cordial approaches and the other parent still refuses to give written consent for the passport application, you have two options. ## OPTION 1: Apply to Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade with a B-9 Form Ex won’t sign passport application for your child? Here is the first option … You can make a written request to the Approved Senior Officer of the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade to consider approving the child’s passport due to *‘special circumstances’* by submitting a B-9 Form. This is an [Application for an Australian travel document: Child without full parental consent or Australian Court Order permitting issue of a travel document](https://www.passports.gov.au/child-passport). In this form, you need to state if: - You have tried to contact the other parent - If the child is subject to any court orders - Give details of child support arrangements - Outline any contact between your child and the other parent You must also provide further information and attach evidence as defined in [subsection 11(2) of the Australian Passports Act 2005](http://www.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/apa2005261/s11.html) and [section 10 of the Australian Passports Determination 2015](https://www.legislation.gov.au/Details/F2015L01223). Special circumstances can include, but are not limited to: - Inability to contact a non-consenting parent for a reasonable period - Existence of a Family Violence Order against the non-consenting parent - Child is the subject of a Child Welfare Order Accompany your application with the following: - A copy of the letter sent to the other parent requesting their written consent for the child’s passport application - A certified copy of the child’s Full Birth Certificate - A copy of the travel itinerary and plane tickets, if you have already booked travel - A certified copy of the sealed Court Orders (if applicable) ## Reviewing and chance of success Chances of success are slim. Even when special circumstances are considered, there is no guarantee that an application will be approved. The delegate assessing the application can decide to: - Issue a passport; - Not issue a passport as special circumstances do not exist - Refuse to exercise their discretion because the matter should be dealt with by a court Of these possible outcomes, only one – a decision to refuse to issue a passport because special circumstances do not exist – is a reviewable decision. If a passport isn’t granted, the application fee is generally not refunded. Booking your travel before making the application to DFAT can be risky. A child passport application without full consent takes longer to process (generally six to eight weeks), and there is no guarantee that it will be approved. And, for more sobering news, usually, unless there are extreme circumstances like the death of your ex or they are missing, presumed dead, not contactable or medically incapable of providing consent, it is unlikely that your application will be successful. ## OPTION 2: Apply to the Family Court with a Section 60i Certificate Ex won’t sign passport application for your child? Here is the next option … You can apply to the Family Court for an order granting permission for the child to obtain a passport without the signature of the other parent. Most cases will require you to attempt mediation before making an application to the Court. And, you will need to provide the Court with a [Section 60i Certificate](https://www.divorceresource.com.au/resources/in-the-news/family-law-section-60i-certificate-what-it-and-who-needs-one) issued by the mediator to prove that you have attempted to resolve your issue before asking for the Court’s assistance. This certificate can only be issued by an FDRP, and that is why I recommend choosing an FDRP over a general mediator when trying to resolve parenting matters. Your application will include an Affidavit, stating all the relevant facts to support your case and a Minute of Orders asking the Court to grant an Order allowing just one parent to apply for, and be issued with, a passport for the child. The court process can be arduous and stressful. You do not want to risk foiling your chances with administrative or procedural errors. While it may be expensive, it’s advisable to get legal advice and assistance to draft your Initiating Application, Minute of Orders and to prepare and settle your affidavit. ## Reviewing and chance of success In reviewing your application, the Court’s most important consideration is what is in your child’s best interests. Factors the Court may explore when deciding if your proposed travel should be allowed might be: - The length of your stay outside the country - The effects on your children of not being able to spend time with the parent in Australia - Any special circumstances behind the request to travel, ie to receive specialised medical treatment - Any threats that may impact the children’s welfare in the proposed overseas environment, particularly where Australian Government travel warnings exist. - How satisfied is the Court that you will honour your promise to return to Australia (you should support your case with return airline tickets and itinerary if you have them) - The strength (or otherwise) of enduring ties between the departing parent and Australia, such as business interests, owning property, or family and close friends in the country - The strength of any motives a parent may have not to return, including demonstrated conflict between the parents, particularly over child-related issues - Any reasons the departing parent may have to divert their travels or remain abroad, including such things as the existence of property ownership, business interests, and family and other personal matters You stand a reasonable chance of success if you can satisfy the Court that your travel plans are genuine. ## Security bonds and taking children overseas In some circumstances, the Court may consider it appropriate to set conditions or require financial security to ensure the child comes back to Australia. The form a security bond takes will vary from case to case. It could be a monetary bond paid to, and held in trust by an agreed third party, or it may require the travelling parent to sign over an asset as security. If you travel overseas and fail to return your children to Australia, the security may be released to the non-travelling parent, enabling them to apply the funds towards bringing the child back to Australia and recovering them into their care. And if you do manage to get him to sign but don’t know who should hold your child’s passport, read this: [Who should have our child’s passports when we separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/who-have-childrens-passports-when-we-separate/). *The information in this article is general in nature and should not be considered as legal advice. You should seek the advice of a registered professional who will be able to appropriately assess your specific circumstances before offering their expert opinion.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation **Tags:** passport application, B-9 form, 60i form, international travel, travel plans --- ### [The truth about mum guilt and how to kiss it goodbye](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/) **Published:** April 19, 2023 **Author:** Marija Castellari **Content:** Think about your day so far … have you felt mum guilt for one reason or another? Maybe you forgot to give your child lunch money or pack their school hat? Here’s a fact for you … > *“96 percent of women feel guilt at least ONCE a day.”* Research shows all the time you spend feeling guilt would add up to 5 hours a week! That’s a lot of Netflix you could be enjoying instead! > ***“****Guilt is an emotion – a signal to you that you did or failed to do something that’s against your values.”* This is why it can be so hard to shake off … because it’s violating something that’s important to you. With all the demands you have as a single mum, there are bound to be times when you feel guilt. Plus, your kids are really good at helping you feel it too! They’ll say: “Mum, everyone’s got one and I want too!” or “Dad lets me do that”. (Arghhh!) You can also feel pre-emptive guilt, which can stop you from doing something because you anticipate feeling bad about something you might do in the future. ***Further reading: [30 Tattoos to celebrate being a single mum.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tattoos-for-single-mums/)*** ## WHY DO YOU FEEL MUM GUILT? Neuroscience research shows that guilt activates the parts of your brain that rewards you for feeling guilt! You often feel guilt after doing things that are pleasurable (like eating chocolate while hiding from your kids in the pantry or having that extra glass of wine), even though you’re trying to be healthy. Therefore, over time, you start associating guilt *with* pleasure. Guilt also helps you think before you act … so you might not do something you think is wrong because of the potential negative consequences for someone else. ## WOMEN FEEL MORE GUILT THAN MEN Women have been socialised to be people pleasers, to be perfect, and it influences how you think and behave. Reshma Saujani, author of *Brave, Not Perfect* says, ‘We’re taught to smile pretty, play it safe…’. Women can feel guilt when you don’t live up to this societal expectation. Feeling guilt is linked to higher levels of empathy and understanding another person’s perspective. Therefore, guilt depends on empathy and Neuroscientist, Simon Baron-Cohen says, > *“The female brain is predominately hard-wired for empathy. The male brain is predominately hard-wired for understanding and building systems.”* Is it starting to make sense why you feel guilt so often? You may be thinking that feeling guilt isn’t such a *bad* thing! However, it turns out it’s not the *best* thing to feel – there are downsides to guilt and they tend to be *worse* than the benefits. Research shows guilt can cause your creativity, productivity and concentration to suffer and it’s not the best way to motivate you to act better or feel better in the future. You tend to be self-critical when you feel guilt– and self-criticism is linked with less motivation and worse self-control. The tendency to feel guilt can also keep women stuck for a long time unnecessarily – especially for mums who’ve suffered post-natal depression. Mums may feel a sense of guilt (and shame) because they’re not coping with what should be a joyous time in their lives. Statistics reveal women are twice as likely to suffer depression than men. ## HOW TO DITCH THE MUM GUILT You might be thinking: Won’t I go on to do more terrible things and eventually become a serial killer if I don’t feel guilt? However, that’s not true. > *“Forgiveness, not guilt, increases accountability”* The good news is that no one (not even your child or your ex) can make you feel guilty. The fact is you talked yourself into guilt, so you can talk yourself out of it. Banishing guilt altogether would be almost impossible – just ask any Mum…there’s a reason the phrase ‘Mother’s Guilt’ was created! However, you can **let the guilt go** or **transform** it into something that serves you instead. ## THE 5 SECRETS TO LETTING GO MUM GUILT ### 1. Don’t Dwell on Your Mum Guilt If you dwell on your guilt, it can lead to feelings of shame. Here’s an example: You didn’t show up to your child’s class concert. Maybe you had the wrong date and now you’re feeling devastated. Your inner voice might say: > *“I’m hopeless’, ‘I’m a crappy Mum.”* You might feel so terrible that you can’t even apologise to your child. On the other hand, your inner voice who feels guilt might be thinking: > *“Damn, I feel terrible I missed the concert.”* You take responsibility and when you see your child you say: > *“I’m so sorry, I missed it – I made a mistake.”* (Rather than feeling shame, which is ‘I am a mistake’). Guilt is *‘I did something bad.’ –* you focus on your behaviour Shame is ‘*I am bad.’ –* you focus on yourself. When you feel the intense feeling of shame you start believing you are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. Shame disconnects you from your child, others and yourself. ### 2. Name It and Feel It! You feel awful you missed your child’s concert. Okay, give that feeling a name. Disappointed? Sad? Guilt? Connect with what you’re feeling and name that emotion. If you’re feeling guilt about something you did, say so: ‘I feel guilt because I didn’t go to the concert’. Whether you say it to yourself, to your family or friends, it doesn’t matter, as long as you recognise the feeling exists. Next, take a moment to notice where in your body you feel it. Research shows that people who are able to name their emotions, are generally happier, because they recognise their emotions, and then let them go. ### 3. Stop Magnifying It Let’s say you yelled at your child or you feel guilt that they never learnt a musical instrument, or you’re still holding onto the guilt of your separation. You might not be happy about some of your behaviours but you don’t get a life sentence for yelling at your child, missing your child’s concert or separating from your partner! Why beat yourself up for months or years of emotional pain? Your child is going to turn out great. What you can do instead is transform this guilt into a more useful emotion, which is regret. Why would you do that? Regret is when you feel bad about *what you did*. It helps you put a focus on the *behaviour*. It encourages you to act differently if you were given another chance and it allows you to benefit from your mistakes. You can ask yourself: ‘What can I learn from this?’ E.g. Maybe you’d like to be more organised (or maybe you’re doing the best you can). Maybe you’ve realised you’re stronger than you thought you were, and that in the future you’ll have an even better relationship.You can aspire to be the best version of yourself, but at the end of the day, you’re a fallible human being, and inevitably you will make mistakes despite your best intensions. You can transform your regret into [motivation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/get-motivated-instant/) to be more conscious about any future decisions you make. ### 4. Self-compassion and mum guilt Guilt alone won’t magically change things or reverse your mistake. There are no bonus points for feeling guilt; no one will love you more or admire you because you feel guilt. What will help? Researchers have found that being self-compassionate will help you to take personal responsibility. It will leave you more open to receive feedback and advice from others, and you’ll be more likely to learn from your experience. Wouldn’t self-compassion be a great thing to model for your child? Begin with self-kindness. Acknowledge your feelings, then talk to yourself the way you would talk to your child. You can say, ‘Hey, you made a mistake, you’re human, you’re ok. I love you no matter what. You’re going to get through this’. You’re better at fixing the mistakes you make when you recognise you did something wrong but still feel good enough about yourself to go and do something about it! ### 5. Make a decision Be clear on what’s important to you, practice saying, ‘No’ and set firm boundaries – it will help you take better care of yourself. Maybe you’ve told a friend you would call to catch up for a night out but you’re finding it hard to find a babysitter. Instead of feeling guilt and avoiding your friend, make a decision to call her: ‘Hey, sorry we haven’t caught up yet. I’ve been busy and I’m finding it hard to find a babysitter, but I’d love to see you. Can we set a date for next month’. Or, maybe you’ve been putting the catch up off because that friendship is not that important to you anymore (and that’s ok). Rather than feeling guilt, let your friend know you can’t make a commitment. You don’t even have to create a whole speech around why you can or can’t do something: > *‘No’ is a complete sentence.* It won’t be easy at first because you’ve been dealing with feelings of guilt since you were a child, but it is possible and it might feel awkward but the more you practice the more graceful you’ll be become. ## Final words on mum guilt If you’ve been holding on to feelings of guilt and shame for any reason, I would encourage you to talk to a life coach, counsellor or therapist because it is possible to move through those feelings. Keeping those feelings secret is what keeps you stuck. When you give a voice to your feelings, they can no longer have a hold on you, and you can be free to live with more happiness – isn’t that worthwhile? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** parenting, mum guilt, guilt, feeling guilty --- ### [Help your children live happily between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) **Published:** November 21, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In this article, I talk about how, as a shared parenting couple, you can help your children live happily between two homes. Of course, in a perfect world, co-parenting wouldn’t look like our own special screening of *The Shining*. Instead, we’d all sign the divorce papers, stick to our commitments, and rationally organise who would carpool to soccer on the weekend. Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case. One of the most challenging parts of a shared parenting arrangement is the complex logistics required when your children no longer live in one home, but share their time between two. I mean, kids have so much ‘stuff’ already! Where will it all live? And how will you get it from one house to the other at the right time? If you are new to this, my first advice is not to overthink it, as it will feel overwhelming. If you’re not new to this and still struggling, keep reading, as I have many tried and tested suggestions from years of shared parenting across two homes. The reality is that helping your children live happily between two homes can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be. Keeping things predictable, staying organised and communicating can turn the worst of shared parenting situations into a positive new beginning. ## Helping your children live happily between two homes ## Keep things predictable Children love surprising us. My personal favourite is when they stand over you at 5 am on a Sunday morning and yell, “I’m hungry!” – oh, the joys! You’d think that from their choice of entertainment, they, too, would love the unpredictability that comes with most situations. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Children feel more comfortable in places where they have familiar surroundings. Helping a child feel secure in a new house can be achieved with the help of a few favourite personal items (Mr Boo-Boo and the Unicorn princess night-light will suffice), and a special area dedicated to all things ‘kids’. Not only will this give your child a sense of belonging, but also allow you to keep all the Lego confined to one area – win/win! ## Set a firm routine between two homes Listen to any Supernanny episode, and you’ll hear the word ‘routine’ spoken so many times that you’ll begin to contemplate making it a drinking game. Children don’t like admitting it, but they absolutely thrive when they have a stable, predictable routine. Sit down with your former partner and agree on some key guidelines that you can apply to both houses. Regular meal times, homework and bedtimes might not sound as exciting as 5 am wake-up calls, but are easy things you can both do to reinforce expectations and [minimise behavioural issues](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/smart-strategies-to-discipline-your-children-whilst-co-parenting/). Finally, a calendar outlining when your child will be home (or away) can help them anticipate transitions and lessen any anxiety they might have about the situation. Having a definitive [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) that you both stick to can certainly help to create and maintain routines that work. ***Further reading: [Managing kids behaviour when they come home from dad’s house.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/managing-kids-behaviour-come-home-dads-house/)*** ## Pick the changeover time carefully When children are living in two homes, the inevitable changeover time can be emotional. Happy to see one parent, yet sad to leave another. It’s a lot for a little person to take on board. By strategically picking a good changeover time, you can alleviate a lot of stress. Evenings are not great as children get tired and emotional, as do we. A good option (age dependent) is picking a school day for changeover, then one parent drops off, and the other picks up. This way, there’s no physical handover, which can pull at the heartstrings. ## Create a ‘transition day’ routine Being the overdramatic mum that I am, my girls and I devised this “transition day” routine. The night before, we would sleep in my room and read bedtime stories we borrowed from the local library. Then, my daughters would wake up to waffles and hot chocolate with cream for breakfast. It helped that our changeover days fall on a Sunday. In the back of my head, I wanted to make lovely memories with them before they headed off to their dad’s place. Then, when they returned to my home, they could expect a nice, cosy dinner. I’m pretty sure my ex wouldn’t make them choose between two homes – but who knows? I have to make sure I have a fighting chance! But seriously, having a routine facilitates a smoother transition. It signals upcoming changes, so your kids know when they’re switching homes. It also gives them something to look forward to. ## Give lots of reassurance If having them divide their time between two homes is challenging for the parents, imagine all the stress the separation causes the kids. One day, you’re all together, living under one roof, then suddenly, poof! – They have to switch homes all the time. Understandably, your children will feel insecure about this new family setup, especially at first. Although it will be a difficult journey, you and your ex must make sure your children are constantly reminded of your unconditional love. While you don’t always see eye to eye – if you did, then you’d still be together, right? – It’s your duty to work together for the kids. You must both make your children feel that divorce doesn’t mean you love them any less. That you’re still one family, although you live in separate homes. I found that little things like asking them how they feel and gently squeezing their hands just before they set off to their dad’s make a massive impact in helping my kids adjust to this new situation. The last thing you need is for your kids to feel emotionally alone during these challenging times. ## Get organised between two homes School mornings are already hard enough, but attempting them when uniforms are still at Dad’s house can be an absolute disaster. Try putting a list somewhere visible so your children can get into the habit of packing their own things without your constant supervision. Another option is to minimise the number of items your child takes. A few sets of clothes, toiletries and some toys in both households not only make transitions less stressful but also enhance their sense of belonging in an unfamiliar place. And, for the bits that have to go back and forth between two homes, make sure they have an [easy way to pack everything up](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/). ## Helping your children live happily between two homes (cont.) ## Stick to child-centric decision making Did you consult your children when you filed and signed the divorce papers? My ex and I didn’t. While we thought of our kids all the time, we knew separating was ultimately best for our family. And we both still don’t regret it. But we also acknowledge that it’s our children who are most heavily affected by our decision to divorce. After all, it’s them who had to live between two homes. While it’s easier just to impose your rules and decisions as a mum, it will alienate your children from you. Instead, engage your kids in your decisions moving forward. Ask for their opinions. Allow them to help solve problems. You’d be surprised at the wisdom of children! ## Be as flexible as possible Older children often require more flexibility due to their growing number of commitments. This can make living between two homes more challenging. Extracurricular activities, a part-time job and friends all require time commitments that could fall on the days they are in your care. With young kids, it’s easy to make a plan and stick to it. As they get older, the planned stuff never works as well. More often than not, I make a delicious meal to welcome my girls back to our home after a week at dad’s, only to be told they are both out for the evening! Thank goodness for the freezer and my new flexible mindset. ## Communicate as best you can Communicating with your former partner can be one of the most stressful parts of helping your children live happily between two homes, but it doesn’t have to be. If your co-parenting strategy seems to lack verbal communication, consider using technology instead. [Co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-apps-for-calm-and-controlled-parenting/) make it possible to generate shared calendars and reminders. Use them to keep track of extracurricular activities, special events, and other commitments, so you’re both on the same page at all times. Or, if you’re not into the technological stuff, keep it really simple with a [communication book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/communication-book-for-co-parenting/). Whenever you meet in person, especially when being viewed by mini eyes, be respectful and polite. Remember your own values and stick to them, even if your ex is less than friendly. Hopefully, you can slowly begin to close the gap of tension and model positive behaviour for your children. ## Summary: Help your children live happily between two homes Co-parenting isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. And sometimes, even if your kids have been switching between two homes for some time, the setup remains challenging, if not outright difficult. In this article, I have listed some tips and tricks that have worked for my little family. I hope you found a couple of things you can apply to yours, too. Setting routines is essential for this arrangement to work. Routines offer stability, and – believe it or not – kids love knowing what to expect. Keeping things predictable gives children a sense of familiarity and lessens the stress of living in two homes. Careful timing is also crucial to help your kids adjust to the constant back and forth from one house to another. It can be as simple as picking a good changeover time or making moving more effortless. Finally, there’s you – the parents. Although you’re not together anymore, you must still cooperate for this co-parenting journey to succeed. Constant reassurance from both parents ensures the children don’t feel alone during this time. You must communicate and always think of what’s best for the kids. And you must both be flexible enough to accommodate changes in your routines. Ultimately, co-parenting is hard work, but also 100% doable. Using these tricks, you’ll soon get the hang of this phase. Oh, and one last thing: Stay calm. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** two homes, co parenting, routine, shared care, changeover --- ### [What's a condom? And other awkward questions.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-awkward-questions/) **Published:** November 20, 2023 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Answering kids’ awkward questions has been creating uncomfortable silences and red faces from parents since … let’s say FOREVER. I am sure it is part of the reason we insist on embarrassing them when they are old enough to finally grow a sense of shame. Kissing them in public, wearing socks and sandals in front of their friends and making lame jokes is all payback for those earlier years. No doubt most of you can relate to a situation where you have had to use some creativity and censorship in stringing together an acceptable answer for your child. Here are just a few awkward questions kids might ask. And I hope you are prepared with a response … because you may just be caught off guard when you least expect it. ## What is a condom? This opens up a whole other can of worms because if you aren’t careful, it will lead to even more awkward questions. And, you may have to explain the whole reproductive system in an afternoon. Can we just pretend a condom is a balloon? ## Why do you have wrinkles on your face? Nothing gets past our little observers’ curious eyes. So, how do you answer this question without showing that you are slightly hurt by it? When this topic came up at home, I was caught off guard. But after I composed myself, I told my son that these lines are something that appears on grown-ups’ faces as they age. I explained that wrinkles are like badges of honour, telling tales of countless smiles, a few worries, and a whole lot of life adventures. I also let him know that he will also get wrinkles when he becomes an adult. Thankfully, he was satisfied with my answer. Phew. ## Do you hate Daddy? This is one question many separated mums can relate to (as well as explaining an absent dad). Even on a day when my ex is being particularly difficult, I smile and tell them, ‘No, I don’t hate daddy – if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have you’. Hold. That. Smile. ## What’s wrong with having only cake for dinner? This question popped out on all types of desserts – cakes, doughnuts, ice cream, the whole lot. I simply told my little smarty pants that we couldn’t have anything sweet for dinner because they would give our tummies a boo-boo. I added that we can only have dessert after we finish our veggies. There was still a bit of resistance, but he gave up in the end. Mum – 1, Son – 0. ## What happens when we die? This is something all children think about at some point, especially if they know someone who has passed. If you aren’t religious, this question is particularly difficult, because ‘I don’t know’ or ‘nothing’ offers little comfort to a child. This is one question you should be prepared for, because it will come. ## What’s a condom? And other awkward questions (cont.) ## If you don’t like your job, why don’t you just quit? This is one of the awkward questions that we get for complaining about our jobs around them. Seriously, though, I didn’t realise I was talking about work a lot until my son asked me this. I give him this short answer – “Because we can’t buy your favourite food and toys if I quit my job.” He pondered for a long time, and this question didn’t come up ever again. Don’t worry, when they grow up, they’ll understand. ## Where can we get a baby? I suppose you could answer this and the condom question in the same sitting for a really interesting discussion. Depending on their age, a watered-down version of the truth is probably the easiest option. Telling them ‘Mummy has to grow a baby in her tummy’ is probably better than something creepy like ‘you go buy a doll baby from a special shop, and it magically comes to life in the night’. ## Can I have your credit card so I can buy toys? I can still remember how I failed to hold my laughter when these words came out of my little boy’s mouth. It was just too cute and funny. Kids begin to ask money-related questions once they become aware of how money works. You can answer this query by telling them that only grown-ups can use credit cards. Or you can tell them that you can get them one toy (emphasis on the “one”) using a credit card, but they have to earn it. ***Further reading: [How to teach your children about money.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-teach-your-children-about-money/)*** ## What is IVF? Children who hear about IVF from school or conversations might want to understand what it is and how it works. They might notice that some families are formed differently, such as having parents of the same gender, adopting children, or using reproductive technologies like IVF. They may ask questions as they try to make sense of these differences. You can answer this question something like this: “[IVF](https://www.ivf.com.au/treatments/fertility-treatments/ivf-treatment) is like helping seeds grow into plants, but for babies. Sometimes, couples who want a baby might need some help. The doctors take a tiny part from a mommy’s egg and a tiny part from a daddy’s seed. They put them together in a magic garden in a lab. Then, when the baby is ready, they plant it in the mommy’s tummy.” ## Awkward questions asked by a child (cont.) ## Why can’t I eat my boogers? As kids learn about stuff, they become curious. I mean, extremely curious, so they want to explore every single thing, especially when it comes to their bodies. My child got interested in his boogers (and whether he can eat them) when he was 4. Here’s a tried-and-tested answer (it worked for me). Explain that “boogers are like superheroes defending your nose from germs. Once they’ve done their job, it’s time for them to retire in a tissue, not on the snack list.” ## How do I get milk in my boobies? This is most likely to come from a child who likes to play with baby dolls. Breastfeeding is something we should all perceive as normal, so again, the best way to answer this question is with honesty. And, when they are older, you can always blame them for the sacrifices your body made in order to give them life. ## Why is that lady so fat? This question is made even more awkward when your child says it in a loud booming voice in earshot of the entire supermarket. If this happens to you, you can use it as a teaching moment to enforce the power of words and how easily people’s feelings can be hurt. ## Why is the sky blue? This falls into the category of all those questions you should know the answer to … but don’t. Actually … why is the blue? For these, there’s always the delay tactic of busying yourself with an inane task while you frantically think of a half-suitable answer. And if all else fails, admit defeat and do what every self-respecting parent does … Google it. That is … if they don’t beat you to it. ## Why do you tell me not to talk to strangers but then answer the phone when they call? Well, they kind of have a point with this one. What you can tell them is, “You’re right about that, and kids like you should never talk to strangers, whether on the phone or in person. But when you’re a grown-up like Mummy, talking to strangers sometimes can’t be helped.” Add a reassurance in the end, “Don’t worry, Mummy is being extra careful so the stranger can’t do anything bad.” You can even tell them that talking to people on the phone is part of your job. I’m sure a series of follow-up questions will come next, but you got this! ## Summary: Awkward questions that kids ask Kids come to a certain age when they want to know about anything and everything under the sun. This is a good thing! Yes, we have to answer all their questions (including the inappropriate ones). Sometimes they ask these awkward questions in public, and we just want the earth to swallow us whole. Most of the time, these inquiries come up while we’re busy with work, cooking, or doing the laundry, and it can be exhausting. But that’s where the fun and the challenges are. I love that my kids’ questions are so out of this world that I have to pause and think just to come up with an answer. It’s like a breath of fresh air in my hectic schedule. But whenever I don’t know how to respond (I’m only human, you know), I can always ask our friend, Google. I know you want to satisfy your little one’s curiosity as honestly as possible. You can do that! You can consider these questions as an opportunity to teach them a life lesson or two and instil good values in them. Good luck, and may your brain be switched on and in gear for the next awkward question. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-awkward-questions/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-awkward-questions/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** talking to kids, explaining --- ### [How to communicate with an ex you can't stand](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) **Published:** February 13, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Does the idea of amicably communicating with your ex have you laughing hysterically or head-banging into your pillow? You are not alone. One of the biggest challenges of shared parenting is being able to communicate with an ex you can’t stand Note: This article isn’t about criticising our exes. It’s about mastering communication with someone you don’t get along with, so you can make sound decisions about the welfare of your kids. I’m happy to say that after many turbulent years, I am almost in a state of un-wedded bliss when it comes to my relationship with my ex. We haven’t quite reached the stage of a shared cry but we occasionally crack a laugh. At times it’s very prickly, and the old gut-wrenching moments appear, but it’s become easier to have random chats about gardening as well as address complex parenting issues. So here are the golden questions: > - How can we communicate peacefully with our ex when wounds are still raw and emotions run high? > > - And how should we broach tricky topics which require both parties to dig deep and put differences aside? I’ve written this article based on years of trying, failing and succeeding to communicate effectively with my ex. I persevered because I had no choice, but also because I knew it would benefit our girls and give them the best possible childhood. As a single mother, I know you will agree with me that nothing is more important than that. ## **How to communicate with an ex you can’t stand** ## **Choose your topics and keep it short and sweet** Although we all have to face the big issues sooner or later, it makes sense to keep the topics as light as possible and avoid bulldozing your ex with your own inner battles. If you need to initiate a conversation, have a clear idea of the purpose. Let your ex have a turn, open up the lines of communication with questions and give them a fair crack by listening (while you regulate your breathing!) Keeping things brief and factual really helps. A final wrap-up is a good idea e.g. ‘Great that you’re ok with the trip. Thanks for agreeing to sign the letter.’ ## **Organise neutral ground meetings** Organising meetups might feel impossible at first. But once you’ve agreed on meeting face-to-face on neutral territory, it will make the discussions less hostile. You can meet somewhere quiet (and public) that’s located halfway, perhaps a coffee shop. During our first successful meeting, we had ground rules and focused on topics about the kids, and surprisingly, it worked. I had the urge to make side comments about some matters, but I stopped myself. Doing this turned those awkward conversations into something almost … civil. It was a very productive meetup, indeed. Take note, though, that we had to go through a lot of arguing and bickering before agreeing on where “neutral ground” was. ## **Be the best version of yourself** When you communicate with your ex, there is always room to be respectful and considerate, no matter how tempting it is to sink into a recrimination zone if you feel vulnerable. Of course, it takes time and practice to retract the claws, but baby steps towards acceptance and tolerance now will pay huge dividends in the future. Not only for you but for the precious people who will take cues from your behaviour and model you in their own personal relationships later on. Make it a policy to thank your ex for small things – because those words of gratitude and encouragement could lead to a more cooperative and involved parent. And make you feel better inside. ## **Try a communication book** Communicating with an ex you can’t stand doesn’t need to be done in person. If you are still in that phase where you cannot bear being in your ex’s presence, try the [communication book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/communication-book-for-co-parenting/). This worked wonders for a lot of single mums I know. Create a journal solely dedicated to exchanging parenting notes and reminders. Because believe me, these ex-husbands need a lot of reminding. Jot down schedules, important updates, and even concerns that you have about your children. And keep it nice light … the odd smiley face scrawl will do wonders here. ## **Take charge of your thoughts – and your reactions** Regular meditation will help calm you and restore a sense of balance. Gently steer your thoughts away from the negative and think happy. Only you can control your thoughts – and only you can control your responses. In the words of [Joyce Meyer:](https://www.google.com.au/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=Joyce+Meyer) > ‘You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind’. Remember, it takes two to have an argument. You can decide whether to engage or simply be powerfully silent. Keep the cat claw moves for acting classes or vent your frustrations in your active wear. ## **Let go of unrealistic expectations** Having been in a relationship with your ex, you will have some idea of what to expect. **Spoiler alert:** This is your secret weapon. You know this guy better than you care to admit and can predict his behaviour. For this reason, is your job not to set your expectations too high if you want to avoid disappointment. If you’re stuck, try flipping the situation. Just as you wouldn’t want your ex dictating your TV time at your place, it’s unfair to try to control their space. ## **Pick the right time to communicate** Choose your moments carefully when communicating with an ex you can’t stand. Getting the timing right can make the difference between a co-parenting catastrophe and a blinding success. Following my last example, if you need to discuss screen time, it is best not to broach the subject, having just prized your ten-year-old away from Grand Theft Auto while your ex fixates on footy from your former sofa. Instead, take a few deep breaths and save this particular chat for a time when your ex will be receptive and open to what you have to say. ## **Body language and the mirror** Consider your tone of voice and facial expressions when you communicate with your ex. It’s a good indicator of your natural responses and emotions. Likewise, observe those of the other party, as you may be able to take cues and gain an understanding of how he feels. Practice relaxing your facial muscles and shoulders so that the next time you open the door, your face looks less like botched Botox and projects the serene, self-assured and happy person that you are without him. ## **Get professional help to communicate with your ex** It’s ok to reach out for professional help. In fact, I would recommend it to anyone going through a relationship breakup even if it’s amicable. See your doctor or counsellor particularly if you feel that things are getting on top of you. Or join a [support group](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-single-parent-support-groups-you-may-not-know-about/), online or otherwise. There are many avenues for you to obtain mediation or [legal advice](http://www.australia.gov.au/information-and-services/family-and-community/relationships/getting-divorced) regarding financial or custodial matters. Remember to protect the most precious people, and this includes yourself first and foremost, as well as your children. ## **Bring in the technology** So, my ex and I, we’re not exactly besties, right? But we gotta play nice for our children. Thank goodness for technology, communicating with an ex you can’t stand face-to-face has become easier. You know, less shouting and more conversing. These shared parenting apps might not fix a bad breakup, but they sure make co-parenting a heck of a lot smoother. Think expense tracking, messaging, and shared calendars all in one place. I remember this one time when my ex and I couldn’t agree on our kids’ schedules. Instead of the usual heated argument, we sorted it out on the app’s chat feature. The impending fiery debates turned into civilised texts. That’s another crisis averted! ***Further reading: [12 Best co-parenting apps to keep the peace.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/)*** ## **Allow yourself a chance to heal** If you do end up in the war zone when you communicate with your ex, be kind to yourself afterwards, particularly if you have experienced high anxiety or feelings of anger. Even though I’m no athlete, many a spirited sprint has helped release all those stress hormones. (Practising to be a ballerina in my forties has also helped my state of grace). Reach out to your tribe – without recreating and thus reliving the drama. Opt instead for a hug, a cry or a laugh over a shared cuppa whilst you recap on what went well, what didn’t and where to get the best French pastries. ## **Summary: How to communicate with an ex you can’t stand** Whether you are newly separated or have been divorced for years, these are fresh (and effective) ways to communicate with an ex you can’t stand. My tips are crucial in making co-parenting work (without you losing your sanity). I understand that there are times when you are not in the mood to deal with your stubborn ex (you and me both, sister). These methods will help avoid unpleasant face-to-face encounters. Texts, emails, and parenting apps can become your new bestie. Even I, who is not a techie mum, became one to make it work. There are times when we’d still have to face the ex, but remember to keep the conversation brief and focused on the children. And try to keep your cool! How do I do it? I take deep breaths and think of my happy place (perhaps on a tropical beach). I also love doing certain things in writing. This way, we have a handy record of who said what. I get to share updates and issues about the kids without the need for back-and-forth banter. Most importantly, think about the kiddos. Remember that you’re doing this for them. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** parenting, communication, mediation, co parenting, shared care, body language --- ### [How to plan a fun, affordable kid's birthday party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/) **Published:** July 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As your child’s birthday looms, anticipation and excitement fill the air. In my experience, children start planning their parties about five months in advance! By the time the big day (complete with expectations) approaches, you may feel more party-pooper than party-planner. There’s no doubt about it, a kid’s birthday party can take it out of you … emotionally, physically and financially! If you’re a single mother, party time can be especially tough. Planning a party alone is twice the work. And to make it even more challenging, you probably only have half the time. So how do you ensure your child’s birthday bash goes off with a bang and is remembered for all the right reasons? Follow these simple planning steps for a spectacular shindig that is enjoyed by everyone, including you. ## How to plan a fun but cheap kid’s birthday party ### NO PRESSURE, NO EXPECTATIONS First things first: Get in the right headspace. And try to get your kids in it too. Remind yourself that this is a party. It should be fun. It is not a competition for ‘Best Party of the Year’. Find out what’s important to your child and work with that. If you promise your child the world, not only will you put too much pressure on yourself, but if you don’t deliver, the end result will be disappointment. Make sure you and your child have clear, realistic expectations that can be reached without a mummy meltdown. ### PARTY PLANNING IS A MUST I sound like a broken record when it comes to planning. I mention it in most of my blogs. But I can’t stress enough the importance of it. And do it early. Last-minute planning is like sweeping up leaves on a windy day. Pointless. Use a party planner template to make sure you have all elements covered leading up to the big event. Being organised will save you time and money. And will make for structured, stress-free, yet super-fun festivities. ![Kid's Birthday Party Planner Template](https://i.etsystatic.com/10237724/r/il/c67691/1197100864/il_794xN.1197100864_7myb.jpg) Stockist: [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/au/) ### THE BIRTHDAY BASH BUDGET It may be a once-a-year event, but the cost doesn’t have to be a financial shock. Budget in advance to alleviate money worries overshadowing the celebrations. Be as organised as setting up a bank account with automatic payments each week. As little $10 is enough. Or simply add extra party bits to your weekly shops leading up to the big day so you have a head start when the time comes. Your secret soiree stash will make party time a lot less painful on your bank account. For more about budgeting in general, see this podcast with MoneySmart: [Single mum budgeting: Why, how and the tools to use](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-budgeting/). ### INEXPENSIVE INVITATIONS Don’t waste your money on shop-bought invites. There is a never-ending selection of free invite templates on the Internet. Head over to [Greetings Island](http://www.greetingsisland.com/invitations) for invites for every occasion. Remember, our kids are so adept at computers now, so they might like to create their own invitations. PowerPoint is second-nature to most kids. Introduce them to the wonders of [Smilebox.com](http://www.smilebox.com/) where they can create personalised invites in minutes. ![Invites from Etsy | kids birthday party](https://i.etsystatic.com/9482568/r/il/c31679/1286371523/il_794xN.1286371523_4xqk.jpg) ### MANY HANDS MAKE LIGHT WORK When it comes to party planning, delegation is key. Even just having one friend or family member to help with the load can be a big help. Once you’ve planned what has to be done, assign some tasks to your handy helper/s. Make it clear what you need them to do and when. This only works if you choose people you can rely on; otherwise, it could be more of a hindrance than a help. ### SHARE THE DAY (AND THE COST) If your child has a friend with a similar birthday, consider doing a shared kid’s birthday party. There are heaps of advantages. Half the cost, half the work. Need I say more? Make sure you share with parents you get along with. And have a clear plan of action so everyone knows where they stand. For example, will there be one cake or two (one with both names is best) and does the theme work for both children? Will the [children’s birthday party venue](https://www.minitown.com.au/childrens-party-venue "children’s birthday party venu") be nearer you or will it be halfway between your homes to make travel costs fair? It’s a good idea to mark your child’s birthday separately too. Just a small special dinner at home, which is all about them. ## How to plan a fun but cheap kid’s birthday party: Bonus tips ### WHEN IT COMES TO THEME CHOICE If you’re getting ready to host your kid’s birthday party, give them the chance to choose their own theme, involve them in the preparations, and consider hiring [kids party entertainers](https://flybyfun.com.au/locations/kids-party-entertainment-sydney/ "kids party entertainers") to make the day extra special. Having the child express their likes and tastes will help craft an environment that reflects their preferences and interests. Plus, allowing them to decide the theme of their celebration helps build confidence and independence and makes it more likely that they’ll have a great time. For older kids who love fast-paced fun, an activity like [go karting in Melbourne](https://acekarts.com.au/) can be a brilliant birthday option that’s both exciting and memorable. ### KEEP YOUR KID’S BIRTHDAY PARTY SMALL AND SIMPLE … BUT VERY SPECIAL Please don’t feel pressured to invite your child’s entire class to their party. Yes, other people may do it. Perhaps they have the space and money. Good for them. Work out how many children will comfortably fit into your home (without trashing it) and let your child work with that number. The smaller the party, the simpler it will be. This will allow you to fine-tune the festivities for a better outcome. Explain to your child that quality time with good friends is better than chaos with the whole class. ### DIY DECORATIONS FOR YOUR KID’S BIRTHDAY PARTY No party is complete without a few decs. But there’s no need to get carried away. Dollar shop decorations are super-cheap. Or why not make your own? Now stay with me here. I can hear your laugh of mirth. Why on earth would you do that?! Well, if you take a quick peek at [Martha Stewart](http://www.marthastewart.com/274286/kids-party-decorations), there’s a great selection of really easy and effective ideas that will impress your guests. You can get your kids involved too. Giving them constructive, fun tasks on the lead-up to the party is a good way to channel over-excitement. ![Jungle welcome party sign | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/6snQZtv/il-1140x-N-1520785803-lxbp.png) ### PORTION UP THE PARTY FOOD Kid’s birthday party food is totally underappreciated. However much love and care are taken in preparation, it will be surveyed for a split second before being devoured. Kids will take a bite of this, a lick of that. Table manners? What are they? This is a party. Save time, money and heaps of mess but using cardboard food boxes. Pop a drink, a sandwich and lots of treats in each. You’ll find you won’t overdo the amount of food, and the kids will love it. Boxes can be purchased from Dollar Stores in lots of child-loving themes. ### HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT (EVEN IF IT’S SHOP BOUGHT) What’s a kid’s birthday party without a cake? The singing, the candles, the ‘make a wish’ moment. Yet these stars of the show get very little airtime. It will be briefly admired and immediately devoured. Don’t feel guilty for … dare I say it … getting a shop-bought one. Bakeries will make a personalised cake at a reasonable price. If you decide to don the apron and make it yourself, keep it simple. Try these [oh-so-easy birthday cakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-kids-birthday-cakes/) that are bound to impress. And remember to put a slice in the party bags to bulk them out. ### A PARTY BAG OF CHEAP AND CHEERFUL TRICKS Last on my list of tips when planning your kid’s birthday party are party bags! They are essential. Just remember the bags and content will barely last the journey home, so don’t waste time or money on them. Just use brown paper bags (which your child can decorate), pop in a slice of cake and some cheap, multipack items. Choose bulky items, like small packs of [Tiny Teddy](https://www.arnotts.com/brands/tiny-teddy#chocolate) biscuits. Oh, and stick in any prizes they win at the party. ## Final Thoughts: How to plan a fun but cheap kid’s birthday party So there you have it, 10 tips for a fun but cheap kid’s birthday party. To sum it up: Plan it, scale it, and simplify it. The more you stick to these simple guides, the easier the process will be. Remember it’s your day for a celebration too. You are marking another year of having your beautiful child in your world. We spend our lives letting our little ones know we love them, so don’t put too much pressure on this one single day. My advice: When the guests are gone, grab yourself a (big) slice of cake and give yourself a pat on the back. Trust me, you will truly deserve it. Oh, and if you’re feeling brave and thinking of a sleepover party, there are plenty of tips available here: [How to survive a sleepover party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/survive-sleepover-party/). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/1.png "1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Money, Birthdays **Tags:** birthday party, party planning, party budget --- ### [Why dating a single mum is every man's dream](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/why-dating-a-single-mum-is-every-mans-dream/) **Published:** May 19, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you lack confidence when dating as a single mum? This is entirely understandable and, yes, you are perfectly normal. Having been through the emotional challenges of a relationship breakdown, it’s not unusual to question what went wrong and even wonder what’s wrong with you. The answer is simple. Absolutely nothing! In fact, as a single mother, you have heaps to offer any man lucky enough to date you. And it’s this mindset that will make your dating experiences more enjoyable as you approach them with self-assurance and pride. So if you’re a single mum dating and want to know what makes you such a hot date, keep on reading. ## WHY DATING A SINGLE MUM IS EVERY MAN’S DREAM ### SINGLE MUMS DON’T EXPECT PERFECTION With a huge spectrum of chores on our daily to-do list, rarely do things go exactly to plan in Single Mum Land. And that’s OK. We expect the unexpected and are not easily phased. If a date doesn’t go to plan, no problem, we’ll take it in our stride and probably laugh about it. ### DATING A SINGLE MUM CAN BE THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT Dating a single mum can leave a man wanting more, more, more. With so many plates spinning, most single mums can only allocate a small percentage of time to their partners. This can serve to make the times spent together more enjoyable, stave off complacency and keep the relationship exciting for longer. ### SINGLE MUMS ARE CAPABLE AND INDEPENDENT Needy, we are not. Single mums are proudly self-sufficient. Even if we have gaps in our DIY to dinner menu skill set, we already have friends/family to help us out. We’re not looking for Mr Can You Fix My Leaking Pipe. Yet a little help is always appreciated. ### SINGLE MUMS MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY MOMENT Our lives are FULL ON. And mostly based around the beautiful little people in our world. So when we get the opportunity for fun and adult company, you can bet we’ll make the most of it. We’ll be happy for a few hours break … the rest of the date is a bonus. ### SINGLE MUMS MAKE BRILLIANT LOVERS Single mums know what they want when it comes to sex. Past experiences make them knowledgeable lovers. And now [they have their sexy back](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/getting-sexy-back-single-mum/)! We know what we need and are perceptive enough to satisfy our lucky lovers. And of course, we are highly trained at cuddles. ### SINGLE MUMS CARE SELFLESSLY AND DEVOTEDLY The single mother’s capacity for caring for others is unrivalled. We have big, kind hearts with the potential to cherish and nurture those close to us. But don’t mistake this for wanting a man to depend on us. And of course, we like these feelings to be reciprocated. [![Lovehoney special | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Lovehoney-until-Oct-300x250-1.jpg "Lovehoney until Oct 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/offers/beans10talk) ### SINGLE MUMS DON’T PLAY GAMES (NOT THE BORING ONES ANYWAY) Single mums are usually time poor. This means we don’t have time to play the ‘chase-me, chase-me’ dating games of our teens. We’ll make it clear if we’re interested and won’t waste time if we’re not. We’re all up for flirting and fun, but leading on is not our style. ### SINGLE MUMS ARE STRONG, INTERESTING WOMEN Most single mums have a library of experiences. Good, bad and everything in between. These make us the people we are today. We have a potent blend of strength, understanding and tolerance. And have a number of, often entertaining, anecdotes to throw into the mix. ### SINGLE MUMS KNOW WHAT THEY WANT Many single mums have reflected on what went wrong in past relationships and have the sense to learn from them. The end result is a clear criterion of what we want from a man (and what we don’t want). We size up our dates fairly fast, so we won’t be wasting anyone’s precious time, especially our own. ## WHY DATING A SINGLE MUM IS EVERY MAN’S DREAM ### SINGLE MUMS DON’T EXPECT (OR WANT) THE WORLD We’ve already been through our ‘happily ever phase’ and accepted that ours is maybe not a stereotypical fairy-tale ending. Men dating a single mum will find we have realistic priorities. These include [contentment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/), health, [financial independence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/) and happy, balanced children ### DATING A SINGLE MUM MAKES YOU YOUNG AT HEART With kids in the mix, a single mother’s inner child is never far from the surface. We’re familiar with current kids’ games, trends, films and local attractions, like theme parks and zoos. And when a date is happily accepted by our children, he can come and join the fun. ### SINGLE MUMS DON’T MESS WITH BIRTH CONTROL Most, but certainly not all, single mums are over the ‘having kids’ phase. We know how life-changing a baby bump is, especially an unplanned one. We respect and understand our bodies and will take necessary precautions to protect them. ![Why dating a single mum is every man's dream | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Dating-single-mum-every-mans-dream.png "Dating single mum every mans dream - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/why-dating-a-single-mum-is-every-mans-dream/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/why-dating-a-single-mum-is-every-mans-dream/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** relationships, online dating, date --- ### [12 Easy Easter party food ideas perfect for 'bring a plate'](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-party-food-ideas/) **Published:** February 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It’s Easter! People are gathering to celebrate the long weekend as we rack our brains for Easter party food to impress friends and family. If you have a few ‘bring a plate’ requests this year, you’re going to want some simple ideas of dishes to whack in the middle of the food table and impress the guests. And that’s where we come in. Check out our easy ‘bring a plate’ ideas for Easter party food. ## 12 Easy Easter party food ideas perfect for ‘bring a plate’ ### 1. [BUNNY FAIRY BREAD](https://www.hellowonderful.co/post/bunny-fairy-bread-cute-easter-treat-for-kids/) Cute Easter party food like this bunny fairy bread is always a hit with kids. And you need only four ingredients: bread, cream cheese, food colouring and sprinkles. [![Bunny Fairy Bread | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.hellowonderful.co/ckfinder/userfiles/images/3-bunny-fairy-bread-easter-treat-kids.jpg)](https://www.hellowonderful.co/post/bunny-fairy-bread-cute-easter-treat-for-kids/) Get recipe here: [Hello Wonderful](https://www.hellowonderful.co/post/bunny-fairy-bread-cute-easter-treat-for-kids/) ### 2. [PARMESAN BUNNY EARS](https://www.savvymom.ca/recipe/parmesan-bunny-ears/) Looking to serve up some savoury Easter party food? You can’t go wrong with some Parmesan bunny ears. Prep the night before so it’s ready to pop in the oven in the morning. Get recipe here: [Savvy Mom](https://www.savvymom.ca/recipe/parmesan-bunny-ears/) ### 3. [MARSHMALLOW BUNNY TAILS](https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/bunny-tails/) Marshmallow bunny tails are super fun to make with the littles. This sweet treat comes together in minutes with just three ingredients. [![Marshmallow Bunny Tails | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/Bunny-Tails-5.jpg)](https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/bunny-tails/) Get recipe here: [Two Peas and their Pod](https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/bunny-tails/) ### 4. [DEVILLED EGGS](https://www.jessicagavin.com/deviled-eggs/) Classic food like devilled eggs is perfect for bring-a-plate at Easter. If you have no clue how to use a piping bag, simply spoon the yolk mixture into the whites [![Easter Party Food | Devilled Eggs | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.jessicagavin.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/deviled-eggs-8-600x900.jpg)](https://www.jessicagavin.com/deviled-eggs/) Get recipe here: [Jessica Gavin](https://www.jessicagavin.com/deviled-eggs/) ## YUMMY EASTER SNACKS (CONT.) ### 5. [EASY DIPPED OREOS](https://www.momdoesreviews.com/2019/03/17/easy-dipped-spring-oreos-springfunonmdr/) These easy-dipped Oreos are one of our favourite Easter party foods. They’re oh-so-cute and yummy to boot. All you need is a few minutes to create the pastel beauties. [![Easy Dipped Oreos | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.momdoesreviews.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Dipped-Spring-Oreos-1.jpg)](https://www.momdoesreviews.com/2019/03/17/easy-dipped-spring-oreos-springfunonmdr/) Get recipe here: [Mom Does Reviews](https://www.momdoesreviews.com/2019/03/17/easy-dipped-spring-oreos-springfunonmdr/) ### 6. [BIRDS NEST CUPCAKES](https://www.chelseasmessyapron.com/easy-birds-nest-cupcakes/) If you’re looking for easy but festive Easter style delights, give these bird nest cupcakes a try. It takes less than an hour to make, and even less if you use store-bought frosting. [![Easter Party Food | Birds Nest Cupcakes | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.chelseasmessyapron.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Easy-Birds-Nest-Cupcakes1.jpg)](https://www.chelseasmessyapron.com/easy-birds-nest-cupcakes/) Get recipe here: [Chelsea’s Messy Apron](https://www.chelseasmessyapron.com/easy-birds-nest-cupcakes/) ### 7. [BACON ASPARAGUS BITES](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a19445358/bacon-asparagus-bites-recipe/) Here’s an Easter party food that will please both kids and adults: tasty bacon asparagus bites. Because bacon makes everything better. Get recipe here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a19445358/bacon-asparagus-bites-recipe/) ### 8. [EASTER FRUIT KABOBS](https://onelittleproject.com/easter-peeps-fruit-kabobs/) Serve up some healthy-ish Easter party food this year with colourful fruit kabobs. You can totally skip the marshmallow peeps to cut down on sugar. [![Easter Party Food | Easter Fruit Kabobs | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://onelittleproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/DSC_6357.jpg)](https://onelittleproject.com/easter-peeps-fruit-kabobs/) Get recipe here: [One Little Project](https://onelittleproject.com/easter-peeps-fruit-kabobs/) ## FOOD TO TAKE TO AN EASTER GATHERING ### 9. [EASTER EGG BLONDIES](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/a30875809/peanut-butter-and-candy-egg-blondies/) Peanut butter lovers are guaranteed to come back for seconds (and thirds) of these Easter egg blondies. A sweet and colourful Easter party food. [![Easter Party Food | Easter Egg Blondies | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/peanut-butter-candy-egg-blondies-1581444301.jpg)](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/a30875809/peanut-butter-and-candy-egg-blondies/) Get recipe here: [Country Living](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/a30875809/peanut-butter-and-candy-egg-blondies/) ### 10. [PULL APART PIGS IN A BLANKET](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a23460044/pull-apart-pigs-in-a-blanket-recipe/) Pigs in a blanket get the pull apart treatment with pizza dough. Trust us, the one hour and 25 minute-total prep time is definitely worth it. Easter snacks at their finest! [![Easter Party Food | Pull Apart Pigs in Blankets | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod/images/delish-pull-apart-pigs-in-a-blanket-still002-1538400380.jpg)](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a23460044/pull-apart-pigs-in-a-blanket-recipe/) Get recipe here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a23460044/pull-apart-pigs-in-a-blanket-recipe/) ### 11. [EASTER POPCORN](https://insidebrucrewlife.com/easter-popcorn/) Dress up regular popcorn with marshmallow, colourful sprinkles and candy eggs for the perfect Easter party food. Best to eat on the day you make it. [![Easter Popcorn | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://insidebrucrewlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Easter-Popcorn-5-1.jpg)](https://insidebrucrewlife.com/easter-popcorn/) Get recipe here: [Inside BruCrew Life](https://insidebrucrewlife.com/easter-popcorn/) ### 12. [EASY MINI CARROT CAKES](https://www.sugarsaltmagic.com/mini-carrot-cakes/) Think carrot cake is beyond your skill level? Have a go at these super-easy mini carrot cakes that are pretty difficult to mess up, we promise. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Mini-carrot-cakes-2feat-1000x1000-2-800x800.jpg "Mini-carrot-cakes-2feat-1000x1000 - Beanstalk Mums") Get recipe here: [Sugar Salt MAgic](https://www.sugarsaltmagic.com/mini-carrot-cakes/) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Get more fab Easter ideas here: [21 Easter gifts for kids which have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) [15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) [10 Easter gifts to buy online and send to your loved ones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-gifts-to-buy-online-get-delivered/) [6 Easy Easter cakes to delight your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-easter-cakes/) ![Easter party food | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Easter-party-food-1.png "Easter party food 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-party-food-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-party-food-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter, Food **Tags:** party food, long weekend, easter --- ### [How to cope with loneliness as a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) **Published:** June 1, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Most of the time, I would describe myself as happy and fulfilled in my role as a single parent. I live for the daily hugs, the butterfly kisses and the sweet just-before-bedtime snuggles. Coping with loneliness as a single parent is usually not an issue on my radar. I do not fit the [misguided stereotype of lonely single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/) who are pining for a new boyfriend or husband. Nor do I want to get back together with my ex. You won’t find me in bars frequented by commitment-phobic guys who almost exclusively “date” lonely single mothers. In fact, if you ask my family or friends, the term “lonely single mother” would never be used to describe me. But here’s a moment of honesty, just between you and me: At times, I *do* feel lonely. It creeps up on me some nights when my daughters have gone to bed, and there’s no one to chat to about my challenging work day. Or I see a gorgeous dress and think: that looks nice, but even if I splurge, where would I wear it? It even sneaks up on me during moments of joy – like when one of my daughters innocently says an unintended, hilariously dirty pun that you had to be there to appreciate, yet there is no one else there. Yes, single mums may feel lonely, too. Parenting is ideally a two-person gig, but not all mums are fortunate enough to have the support of social relationships. Worse, a lot of lonely single mums also find themselves grappling with financial worries and/or work demands. Is it any wonder the burden can feel too heavy, and we may sometimes feel lonely? Fortunately, after eight years (and counting!) into single motherhood, I’ve managed to build myself an arsenal for coping with the impact of loneliness as a single parent … and I am here today to share them with you. ***Further reading: [How to manage social anxiety and live again.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/social-anxiety/)*** ## Handling loneliness as a single parent ## Find a sense of belonging It might come as a surprise to realise that although you experience a lack of social connections, you are not alone. Just being aware of others out there in the same position is a comforting thought. And not only that, there are resources to reach out to these mums. Try our [Single Mum Vine FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/), where we focus on everything positive about single motherhood. It’s also worth looking up single mother groups in your area to help fill your social needs. Never underestimate the power of community. Being part of one can help you cope with feeling lonely as a single mum and improve your mental health. ***Further reading: [Why single mums can feel like the loneliest people on earth.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-single-mums-loneliest-people-on-earth/)*** ## Know your lonely moments You’ll be familiar with your “lonely moments”. For example, when your children go to dad’s house (that is, once you’ve revelled in the peace and quiet). It is common for single parents to experience [separation anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/) at this time. Being alone in your home might make you feel alone and unsafe. Prepare yourself by staying busy. You don’t need to clean the kitchen cupboards or organise the sock drawer. Just do something that positively engages your mind. Read, do some sport, practice self-care, call a friend, watch a movie. Dispelling feelings of loneliness at these tough times can help you cope with further feelings of desolation that are harder to cope with. ***Further reading: [How I manage my depression as a single mother.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/)*** ## Get to the canteen It’s a catch-22 situation when you’re feeling lonely but don’t have time to do anything about it. However, there is a pool of mums right on your doorstep, at your children’s school – if they are school-age, that is. There’s no need to head up the PTA. Consider offering to assist with canteen duties or classroom help at a time that suits you. You’ll meet other mothers, many of whom are also seeking companionship to support their mental health (and possibly their physical health as well). And there’s no doubt that your child will love you being a part of their world. ![kids school canteen - loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-8.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final tips for dealing with being alone as a single parent ## Nurture friendships This may seem like an obvious suggestion. Yet, as busy single mums, we can be forgiven for not making an effort to stay in contact with our friends. And the reality is, your friends are probably wrapped up in their own worlds, too. The result: A loss of contact. Sad, really, as there’s nothing like chatting with a friend to alleviate their mental health problems (a.k.a. the “lonely single mother” syndrome) caused by social isolation and loneliness. Work on a schedule with your close friends and family. Arrange a phone call every week or a coffee every month. If it’s planned, you have something to look forward to and are building barriers to help cope with the prevalence of loneliness. ### Master meditation Meditation allows you to be aware of yourself as you live your life and gives your headspace a break. It is an effective way to cope with the loneliness of single parenting by calmly accepting your thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations. It allows you to pinpoint what’s bringing you down at any given time, which means you can do something about it. It’s unfair to assume single mothers are lonely because they lack a romantic partner; it’s more complex than that. Anytime you feel unhappy or lonely, ask yourself, *Why am I feeling like this?* When you know what the problem is, you are one step closer to a solution. ***Further reading: [Meditation for mums (no it’s not a joke).](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/)*** # Frequently Asked Questions about handling isolation and loneliness ## 1. What is loneliness? Feelings of loneliness are a complex emotional response to perceived social isolation. Loneliness is a feeling of being alone and lacking social connection with others. ## 2. How does loneliness affect my mental health? Loneliness can have significant mental health consequences. When you feel lonely, it can lead to feelings of sadness, anxiety, and even depression. ## 3. What is the effect of loneliness on physical health? Chronic loneliness may also affect your body. Studies have shown that lonely people are prone to health issues such as high blood pressure, heart disease, and weakened immune systems. ## 4. How can I cope with feelings of loneliness? To reduce loneliness, it’s important to reach out to others, engage in activities you enjoy, and prioritise social relationships. ## 5. What are the effects of chronic loneliness? This not only impacts your emotional and mental health conditions, but it can also lead to physical issues over time if left unaddressed. ## 6. How can I reduce my feelings of loneliness? Various strategies exist for reducing loneliness, such as joining clubs or groups that share your interests, volunteering, and seeking support from friends, family, or mental health professionals. ## 7. Is there a difference between loneliness and social isolation? Loneliness and isolation are related concepts but differ slightly. Social isolation refers to being physically separated from others, while loneliness is the feeling of being emotionally disconnected. ## 8. How common is loneliness among older adults? Older people are more vulnerable to loneliness due to factors such as living alone, limited mobility, and the loss of friends or family members. Addressing loneliness in older adults is essential to improving their overall well-being and quality of life. ![Coping with loneliness | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Cope-with-loneliness.png "Cope with loneliness - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** lonliness, self care, social, feeling lonely, single parent groups, friendships, isolation, belonging --- ### [Best online shopping websites you'd love this Christmas (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/online-shopping-websites-great-deals-christmas/) **Published:** November 4, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Online shopping is the way to go this Christmas. Not only is it super easy, but it can save you lots of money, too. Thanks to advancements like [payment processing APIs](https://getpinch.com.au/features/payments-api-for-developers "payment processing APIs"), many online shopping websites offer a seamless checkout experience, along with regular sales, promotions, and even free delivery. It’s important to be savvy when shopping online to ensure you’re getting the best deals arriving at your doorstep at the right time, with no complications. Here are a few questions to ask yourself when browsing online superstores. ***Further reading: [Do you wish you could buy more for your kids this Christmas?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buy-more-for-your-kids-this-christmas/)*** ## Online shopping websites: What to look for before you buy ## Where is the e-commerce site based? Firstly, check you are shopping on a website based in the same country as you. If not, will they deliver to your location, and what is the timescale and cost? Also, if the site is overseas, check the currency and convert it to your own so you know exactly how much you are paying before you hit ‘buy’. ## What are the delivery details? Even if the website is based in the same country as you, check the ‘delivery page’ so you know how it all works. It might be that delivery is a set price or free over a certain spend. The top-notch shopping sites will also tell you how long it will take for delivery and dispatch. All this is worth knowing before you browse so you don’t get caught out with a huge delivery cost at the checkout, or your item doesn’t reach you in time. Worst. Thing. EVER. ## How do you return an item? You might be 100% sure your item is perfect when you buy it, but you just never know. Disappointment at the opening stage is common and needs to be followed up with a swift return. Before you buy, double-check the site features to see how returns work. For example, are they free, and can you return easily to a local post office, or do they charge and make it super complicated? Again, knowing this before you buy is worthwhile, as it will make you consider your purchase more carefully. ## What deals can I get? What we love most about shopping online is the deals and exclusive codes. They are often displayed really clearly on the website (think flashing banners in psychedelic colours) or along a banner at the top of the page. Check if the site offers free shipping. Some have a discount code to enter when you head to your shopping bag or at checkout. There are lots of savvy hacks for online Christmas shopping. Make sure you are all over them. ## What is customer service like? More often than not, word-of-mouth will tell us how good a shopping experience is. Simply listen to what people say about them. If you’re new to a website, click on the customer service page and see what kind of information they provide. Is it detailed yet concise and clear? Or limited and over-complicated. We also like websites that display their contact information loud and proud, phone number included, so you can make contact easily if you need to. ## Is there a review system? All good e-commerce sites should have a review system that allows you to read other people’s experiences with the products you are considering buying. Take the time to read the reviews. Make sure they are relevant to the product in question and not for a different product, as is sometimes the case. Also, we need to get a feel for whether they are genuine, as fake reviews (including ads!) are all around us; we just need to learn to see through them. Ok, lesson over! You are now ready to shop on the Internet in 2024 with our list of websites for your retail therapy for great deals this Christmas. Shop with confidence in the comfort of your own home. ***Further reading: [Where to buy alcohol online in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-alcohol-online-websites-and-discounts/?utm_source=facebookpage)*** ## Best Online Shopping Sites in Australia 2024 ## [Crazy Sales](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2f) Crazy Sales is a favourite shopping destination for Australian bargain hunters. They offer thousands of products in every imaginable category and sell everything from jewellery to musical instruments to novelties. Customers love the after-sales service, fast delivery and rewards program. You’ll love their range of activewear, handbags, and denim. Just don’t expect to find fashion’s biggest brands. The flash sales are also delightful. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/bb6333fbde99b31beb965f89675c578f9b255494f3d51c42e58ad050060ac6db?ts=1729360063)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2f) ## [Shein](https://fave.co/3RDLteP) Did you know that the hyper-popular online fashion shop for women’s apparel is also home to a wide range of household and garden items? Shein is not just one of the best online clothing stores. They also have everything from bedding to decor to cleaning supplies. What we love best about this shop is their frequent specials (honestly, there seems to be a deal for every day of the week) and huge markdowns during the sale season. Of course, Shein is not your destination if you’re shopping for designer clothes like Balenciaga and Stella McCartney. Sometimes it offers free delivery on orders. [![online shopping](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/b9058c5ce87fdad9dde62b54846b6f9fbff7f50b146fa322794910f92a7589a3?ts=1729359994)](https://fave.co/3RDLteP) ## [Payday Deals](https://paydaydeals.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Payday+Deals&cfclick=985f72fc4154418d89ed506055926f8a) Payday Deals is another discount retail paradise that is home to Australia’s best online offerings. They compile all the best internet deals in one place. Get deep discounts on a wide range of products, including homeware, gifts, pets and electronics. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/fe74b2f442933fa82acc8c190ec56fd29c7ef2c17af3dd71b60cb1dac11d04af?ts=1729359937)](https://paydaydeals.com.au/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Payday+Deals&cfclick=985f72fc4154418d89ed506055926f8a) ## [OZ Sale](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2f) Endless specials and half-price bargains make OZ Sale a top online destination for people on a budget. You can be sure you’re getting a good sale, at least price-wise. The entire website offers deals and more deals on men’s, women’s, baby and kids’ items, plus home, furniture, accessories and even beauty products. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/65a8f275d6e3bb4ba84318ef99982e29cb4a01c99e736cad8abe4c0233b6e73f?ts=1729359868)](https://www.ozsale.com.au/?sc=5&c=38&ca=commissionfactory&utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_content=&utm_campaign=59558&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=01206e7277264d9c844b8417f06e7401) ## [Ebay](https://www.ebay.com.au/?campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&ufes_redirect=true) The original e-commerce website is still the go-to place for auction lovers and people looking for one-of-a-kind, vintage and exclusive items. EBay Australia’s Business and Industrial category is a must if you’re in the market for farm equipment, heavy machinery and manufacturing products. Sometimes, you will bump against high-end luxury brands as well. In fact, I snagged myself a Bottega Veneta handbag and a Yves Saint Laurent sunglasses on it. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/effdc7a34f3f42fe4336e9d1827b9d7685ce1ae25701ad1304d95623a9ad67fd?ts=1729359799)](https://www.ebay.com.au/?campid=5338549815&toolid=10001&customid=&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=705-53470-19255-0&ufes_redirect=true) ## Best online stores for great deals this Christmas (cont.) ## [Bang Good](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/43831?Url=http%3a%2f%2fwww.banggood.com%2f) Bang Good is a one-stop eCommerce shop for everything you need, with thousands of products in categories that range from fashion to industrial and scientific, including carbon fibre and lab chemicals. The site scores highly on deliveries, payment options and 24/7 customer service. [![online shopping](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/61b578c25ac384b570aa806c83836ec537cdfd3f87afa3c04f6443a4b5aeca46?ts=1729357930)](https://au.banggood.com/en/?akmClientCountry=AU&utm_source=commissionfactory&utm_medium=aff&utm_content=59558&cfclick=75a0f98e38f34d00a82781d0dc398362&a=1730614072.9084) ## [Temu](https://fave.co/3YAJVUK) If you’re looking for a budget-friendly online shopping platform, Temu is definitely worth a visit! I’ve been using Temu throughout the year for well-priced kids’ clothes, and I can confidently say it’s a treasure trove for budget-friendly finds. The site offers a wide variety of affordable clothing options for children, along with a delightful selection of toys, home décor, and holiday gifts, making it an ideal one-stop shop for the festive season. With frequent discounts and promotions, you can find quality items without breaking the bank, which is especially helpful for busy mums looking to stretch their holiday budgets further. Plus, the user-friendly interface and fast shipping make shopping a breeze. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Screenshot-2024-11-03-172146.png "Screenshot 2024-11-03 172146 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3YAJVUK) ## [Costway](https://au.costway.com/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Referral&cfclick=0b6d9c2a7f7d431199a6a81a682de270) Speaking true to its brand philosophy to redefine the meaning of living, Costway provides a myriad of fresh homeware choices to consumers. From home tools and gear products to stylish furniture and DIY projects, this shop has you covered for versatile home living without breaking the bank. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/3c88c866ed028cfb9907509e844f0785c683db4d5aad44da8f1d3635938f5084?ts=1729357855)](https://au.costway.com/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Referral&cfclick=0b6d9c2a7f7d431199a6a81a682de270) ## [Mytopia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10966?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mytopia.com.au%2f) Mytopia is a fast-growing online store for home and lifestyle products. Some of their most popular categories are treadmills, sofas, solar panels, massage tables and electric bikes. The product selection is pretty extensive, and the site scores highly on customer service, delivery and quality (12-month warranty on most items). [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/27937823d59aca684ba78c6424168b35971224b58b2239e9c1f64e0b3cdb318b?ts=1729357794)](https://www.mytopia.com.au/?utm_source=commission&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=aeee1beeefc145ed80b632b70498f437) ## [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/?irclickid=1FTz3e0zYxyPT8XW1Uzkf1CLUkFW28ykZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online+Tracking+Link) Big W is an affordable shopping website for the whole family. They have everything you need, from party supplies to household cleaning products to kids’ toys from local and international brands. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/6cbe1c739ae7757778dd4b7435ee65a32a6ec8e5bd6d03c3e314b0d111f0b4a1?ts=1729357721)](https://www.bigw.com.au/?irclickid=1FTz3e0zYxyPT8XW1Uzkf1CLUkFW28ykZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online+Tracking+Link) ## [Light in the Box](https://www.lightinthebox.com/?utm_campaign=59558&litb_from=affiliate_cf&utm_source=cf&utm_medium=affiliate&cfclick=8466027bc7cb49768babded2f51994da) The direct-to-consumer online retailer Light in the Box is known for its affordable apparel, gadgets and home and garden products. Specials are featured on top of the page so you don’t miss out. Also check out their made-to-measure evening and wedding dresses and other customised items. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/815f05632d992bb67a703018f83d7d7523787e06bd16825dc11cedebf07432e2?ts=1729357641)](https://www.lightinthebox.com/?utm_campaign=59558&litb_from=affiliate_cf&utm_source=cf&utm_medium=affiliate&cfclick=8466027bc7cb49768babded2f51994da) ## More online shopping deal sites in Australia (cont.) ## [Amazon AU](https://www.amazon.com.au/?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkCode=ur2&linkId=1b24d8c43519ac871bf1adf48375b0f9&camp=247&creative=1211) Amazon has come a long way from its beginnings as an online bookstore in 1994 to becoming the world’s one-stop destination for almost anything. Now, you can buy anything you want from the world’s leading shopping website, including digital products like streaming music and movies. Amazon Australia is the nation’s second-largest online retailer, the first being Myer. It also carries lots of favourite Australian fashion brands such as Asos and Bondi, as well as international luxury fashion brands like Chloé, Acne Studios, Levi’s, and Calvin Klein. Amazon is probably your best bet aside from Net-a-Porter, Farfetch, Ssense, and Outnet if looking to shop for designer brands, including Gucci and Prada. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/d1cf1f58e0f323760422a920172a161fd2f9acc8085790f028a78105e3f0c677?ts=1729357572)](https://www.amazon.com.au/?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkCode=ur2&linkId=1b24d8c43519ac871bf1adf48375b0f9&camp=247&creative=1211) ## [Kogan](https://www.kogan.com/au/?clickid=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFW28WUZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_content=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFW28WUZRlQRU0&utm_medium=1253070&irmpname=singlemums99%40&utm_source=dgm&utm_term=&utm_campaign=) Kogan’s appeal lies in its variety of products on offer. It started in 2006 as an e-commerce platform selling mainly electronics before expanding to other categories. There’s a whole feature of televisions, home theatre systems and electronics prominently. [![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/5fe73a28235aeaf426d72428f9dc830256b5e69a69e895fafd3ecbc3f143dfbb?ts=1729357486)](https://www.kogan.com/au/?clickid=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFW28WUZRlQRU0&irgwc=1&utm_content=RJKXFF1KoxyPTNcX9oQhrxboUkFW28WUZRlQRU0&utm_medium=1253070&irmpname=singlemums99%40&utm_source=dgm&utm_term=&utm_campaign=) ## [DH Gate](https://www.dhgate.com/?f=bm|GSN|Brand|10737046309|108557047320|649502778131|kwd-3654617668||EN|dh-gate|c|&f=bm|GSN|Brand|10737046309|108557047320|649502778131|kwd-3654617668||EN|dh-gate|c|&gclid=Cj0KCQjw1OmoBhDXARIsAAAYGSEHhPGCYnjE1kyM7JgoGIiOPCwAjOg4iypi3TTrwlmmj2f8vFnHcloaArT9EALw_wcB) Head to DH Gate if you are looking for great deals on quality electronics, appliances, and home improvement products. The popular budget shopping website was originally set up for business-to-business (B2B) sales, so the more you buy, the more you can save. Check out their top-ranking category and flash deals to save big on popular and trending items. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/7d6600549e8829a325198409b6c87edc2cac4c549504c00d252c109311e5b499?ts=1729357342) ## Bargains Online Bargains Online is an online shopping website for all your household needs. Shop great deals on mattresses (from $209), furniture, outdoor, garden, kitchenware, kids toys, sports and more. Daily deals are featured prominently on their website to make sure you never miss out. We like their 30-day return policy on most products, fast delivery times and great customer support. ![online shopping website](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/d437ec3ed728228814d804fcc6d55063d87cead04f83bdee2da61ec852f0a52e?ts=1729357276) ## AliExpress Alibaba’s sister site for online retail, AliExpress, is a must for direct-from-supplier items with matching bargain prices. Both shoppers and sellers love the endless variety of items available (over 100 million) at AliExpress. If you’re a DIYer, foodie or fashionista, you’ll find all the essentials you need, plus fun, hard-to-find items. AliExpress is a must for Christmas shopping, but make sure to order well in advance due to long delivery times. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/a51026b5f8e9c34be80641330fb1f5d9e878d5366d90251bf9b01b3edf48cd8c?ts=1729357153) ## [My Deal](https://www.mydeal.com.au/?irclickid=1FTz3e0zYxyPT8XW1Uzkf1CLUkFW2%3A08ZRlQRU0&sharedid=&irpid=1253070&irgwc=1&utm_source=imp&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=singlemums99%40&utm_content=Online+Tracking+Link) My Deal is your ultimate online shopping destination for home and lifestyle. They have millions of products in their catalogue and a community that connects sellers with customers to make it super easy to find that elusive item you’re looking for. Don’t miss their Wine section–they have a huge selection of great brands for up to 75% off. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/90e0a9aa818d92e7bc2afd93a5b19c0fb7e016b7b9a5c6841ed646c3c752f3ca?ts=1729357060) ## [Harris Scarfe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/61178?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.harrisscarfe.com.au%2f) You’ve probably shopped for bed linen and kitchen appliances at Harris Scarfe. This retail giant has been around for more than 170 years and has 43 stores all over the country selling homewares, apparel, intimates, travel and outdoor items. Other things to love about this online shopping website are excellent customer service and a price match guarantee. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/97aa87d13535685a7423bf75183ab5660f0029fecfe218c5480fa7938a7a84f7?ts=1729356971) ## [Catch](https://www.catch.com.au/?utm_source=affiliates&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=6040&sv1=cf&svc=6040&cfclick=62df3291efd64fb6b4d7db1ca35770e6) Looking for the latest gear in tech, fashion and beauty, sports and even groceries? Catch a wide range of items from the brands you know and love at affordable deals (it’s massive!) here at Aussie’s everyday online marketplace, Catch. Every deal is fast and eager, with a Push notification feature to keep you in touch. Plus, all items in your cart come with a full warranty. ![online shopping websites](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/4deb4bd5c44dbc87609cd7c84e5006ed4784cd3c62c30cc07f5874764e7e6a4a?ts=1729356885) ## More of the best shopping destinations on the internet As the festive season draws near, it’s the perfect time to dive into the best stores online for your Christmas shopping. Whether you’re looking for designer fashion or trendy streetwear, online fashion boutiques like Dazie, Zimmermann, and Loewe have you covered for building your holiday wish list. With a mix of ready-to-wear pieces and stylish shoes, and accessories, you can easily elevate your holiday wardrobe. They offer must-have itemsthat you might find to strike the right balance between high fashion and practicality. For those wanting to shop with peace of mind, Everlane and Ganni deliver curated collections that cater to both Australian and international shoppers. Many of these sites also feature partner content showcasing their latest collections, and some even offer perks like free shipping or delivery on orders over a certain amount. Plus, with convenient click-and-collect options, your Christmas shopping just got easier. If you’re eyeing a one-stop shop, explore platforms that house designer brands like P.E. Nation and more, with accessories from over 700 brands. With so many options, you’ll find the perfect gifts for your loved ones – or a fabulous treat for yourself – this holiday season! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/online-shopping-websites-great-deals-christmas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/online-shopping-websites-great-deals-christmas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** online shopping, Xmas, christmas gifts, christmas presents, shopping online --- ### [Online Study Tips: How to Get More from Your eLearning Course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/online-study-tips-how-to-get-more-from-your-elearning-course/) **Published:** January 8, 2026 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Online study can be a real game-changer, especially if you’re juggling work, family, or a busy schedule. The flexibility of learning online is fantastic, but it comes with its own challenges — it’s easy to lose focus, fall behind, or feel like you’re tackling your course in a bubble with little support. The good news is that with the right habits in place, online learning can be much easier to manage — and also a lot more rewarding. It’s really about finding a system that fits your schedule, not reconfiguring your entire life just to study. Here’s how to squeeze more out of your online course and actually enjoy the process. ## **1. Start by Setting Up a Simple Study Routine** If you’re looking at [graduate diploma courses online](https://studyonline.uts.edu.au/online-courses/graduate-diploma), a routine will allow you to gently transition into the workload without feeling swamped. You don’t have to create a rigid study routine if you don’t want to. You just need a few consistent windows of time each week where you can sit down, get in the zone, and make some real progress. The key is to pick moments that will really work for you. It could be early in the morning, before the household is up or an hour after dinner. When study becomes part of your weekly rhythm, everything feels less like a big task and more like something you can easily manage. ## **2. Create a Study Space That Helps You Focus** ![online study](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-6894013-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-6894013 - Beanstalk Mums") While setting up a study space can feel a bit like [setting up a home office](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/affordable-home-office-essentials-for-mums/), you actually don’t need that much space to be a productive online student. Even a tiny corner of your lounge room or a spare bit of the dining table can work if it helps you shift into the right mindset. It’s mainly about having a place where you feel grounded, so that you’re not packing and unpacking everything every time you sit down. Keep your essentials in one place and try to remove whatever usually distracts you. A clean surface, good lighting and comfortable seating make a bigger difference than most people realise. Eventually, your brain will learn to associate the space with focusing, and it will be easier for you to get into study mode. There’s no need for anything fancy. It just needs to feel like a spot where you can breathe, sit down and get things done. ## **3. Break Your Learning into Small, Doable Steps** Online classes often release large modules at a time, which can seem daunting. This is why breaking everything into small tasks so you don’t get stuck staring at pages of readings without knowing where to start is a good idea. Focus on one lecture, one brief reading, or quiz at a time. Small wins add up faster than you’d imagine, and they save you from falling into the procrastination spiral of “I’ll do it later.” It will be much easier to keep on top of your course content this way, because you’ll build progress steadily instead of trying to tackle huge chunks all at once. It also helps you stay motivated, since each little task finished gives you a sense of movement rather than frustration. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-ivan-s-4458554-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ivan-s-4458554 - Beanstalk Mums") Need a few extra pointers on making your study load feel a little more accessible? Check out our other [tips on how to stay motivated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/get-motivated-instant/). ## **4. Use Your Course Forums and Support Channels** Lots of students are scared of posting on forums because they don’t want to disturb others or feel like they’re asking a stupid question. The reality is that these spaces are there for a purpose. Tutors respond faster than you’d expect, and other students often have the same questions. There’s no such thing as a stupid question. Participating in course forums and support channels makes online study less lonely, and you learn more when you’re part of the conversation instead of struggling to figure everything out alone. ## **5. Stay in Touch with Your Tutors** Your tutors are always there to help, so it makes sense to reach out periodically. A quick message asking for clarification or a bit of guidance is completely normal and can save you hours of confusion. Good programs expect you to stay in touch with your tutors, so you don’t have to feel like you’re bothering or burdening them. It’s part of what they’re there for. ![online study](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-9159413-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-9159413 - Beanstalk Mums") If you don’t understand an assignment, find yourself struggling with a concept, or start to feel a tad behind, it makes a massive difference if you check in early. Even a short reply with one or two clear pointers can give you enough direction to move forward. It feels a lot better than silently stressing on your own and hoping it will magically make sense later. ## **6. Use Digital Tools to Stay Organised** Online learning is significantly easier when your notes, assignments, and test dates all live in one place. Use [any tool that works for you](https://medium.com/tech-on-a-budget/the-ultimate-5-app-stack-that-organizes-your-entire-student-life-ade8f73ccc6f). It could be Google Calendar, Notion, a notes app or even a physical planner. The goal is to ensure that you always know what’s due next and which tasks you should prioritise. When everything’s visible, the workload feels smaller. It’s a small step that will make a world of difference. ## **7. Take Breaks Before You Burn Out** Studying at home can often lead to pushing through for too long because there’s no physical signal telling you to call it quits. You might keep reading or typing even when nothing’s sinking in. Short breaks actually improve your concentration much more than soldiering on and hoping for the best. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-olly-3784302-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3784302 - Beanstalk Mums") Take a few minutes to step away, drink water, stretch or take a short walk outside. Letting your mind reset allows you to return more focused and less frustrated. For most people, learning is better sustained in short, steady bursts than in one long stretch, so don’t feel guilty about taking time to pause. ## **8. Build a Study Habit You Can Realistically Maintain** Last but not least, it’s important to realise that on some weeks you’ll be super productive. On others, you may struggle to keep up. This is natural and nothing to stress over. What matters most is having a system that you can return to even after a busy patch. If your routine is flexible and realistic, you won’t fall off the wagon when life gets chaotic. ## **Final Thoughts: Online Study Tips** Online learning is most effective when you think of it as something you build into your life rather than something you squeeze in whenever you can. A few consistent habits, a schedule that you can truly commit to, and some reinforcement from tutors or classmates can turn the experience around. With time, you’ll get into a groove that works for you, and online learning will be something you can comfortably manage alongside all the other things happening in your life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/online-study-tips-how-to-get-more-from-your-elearning-course/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/online-study-tips-how-to-get-more-from-your-elearning-course/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [Best tween skin care products to buy in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tween-skin-care/) **Published:** January 8, 2026 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It is a sad day when our perfect-skinned cherubs start to get the odd blemish on their faces, especially when they are not yet teenagers. But sadly, it is part and parcel of growing up. All we can do as parents is supply them with good-quality tween skin care products and help get them into a healthy skin care regimen. I remember first noticing my daughter’s skin changing. Pores are enlarging and the an odd breakout. It seemed unfair that it was happening so young, but many of her friends were experiencing the same. “Perhaps it’s their hormones”, I would mull over with other mums, or “Maybe their diet”. The one thing I did know was that if she kept her skin clean and learned how to use skin care products correctly, it was going to help. And it did! We also learned that skincare isn’t just about what goes on their face. Supporting healthy skin from the inside can make a difference too, which is where supplements like [Essential Skin Food](https://www.dermspotlight.com/activatedyou-essential-skin-food-review) come in — an all-natural supplement designed to enhance cell turnover, deeply hydrate, and repair damage caused by environmental stressors, helping your skin stay youthful and healthy. ## Finding the right skin care product for your tween Finding the right skin care solution for your tween is about trial and error. You have to try a product for at least four-weeks to really know if it’s working or not. Having said that, don’t continue with a product if you notice a negative reaction on the skin. And, what works for one tween may not work for another, even with siblings. Different skin types require different treatments. In this article, I share some of the products that worked for my tweens, alongside recommendations from other mums who were searching for the perfect tween skin care products with me. ## Best tween skin care products to buy in Australia ## Sukin Teen Skin Cheeky Cleanser Definitely one of our household’s favourite products, Sukin Teen Skin Cheeky Cleanser kept my daughter’s skin hydrated and soft. Having been a tween myself a very, very long time ago, I know the horrors that come with having an oily face. That’s an ingredient for losing your self-confidence back in the day – and even more now, with social media in the mix? But that never became a problem for my daughter, and that’s thanks to this Cheeky Cleanser. Washing her face twice a day left her face moisturised without the annoying oiliness. The all-natural Cheeky Cleanser is Australia-made, cruelty free, and vegan-friendly are nice features, too! [![Sukin Teen Skin Cheeky Cleanser Combination Skin Types 125ml](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/sukin-400x400.jpg "sukin - Beanstalk Mums")](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/kjyQ3x) Where to Buy: [Woolworths](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/kjyQ3x) ### Petite Skin Co Tween skin care regime Alright, you can call me lazy, but I do love skincare kits! Getting a little help in choosing products that go together is huge for me. That’s why I love Petite Skin Co’s My First Skincare Routine Kit. This kit is great whether your tween is starting to struggle with some congestions, blackheads, or pimples, or you simply want them to establish good skincare habits. The products are super easy to use and they have great customer service, too! The skincare routine kit comes with a face cleansing foam, face moisturiser, face sunscreen, a buffer, and stickers that your tween can use on Petite Skin Co’s downloadable Good Skin Habits chart. [![Petite Skin Co My First Skincafe Routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/petite-skin-co-products-bathroom_1000x-400x400.jpg "petite-skin-co-products-bathroom_1000x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.petiteskinco.com/collections/skincare/products/pore-refining) Where to Buy: [Ceramide Skincare Set](https://amzn.to/3Fq4Owc "https://amzn.to/3Fq4Owc") ### Medik8 Gentle Cleanse One of the best friends I trust the most in the world recommended this cleanser to me. Now, Medik8 Gentle Cleanse is not specifically formulated for tween skin, but it is gentle enough to pass this mother’s test. Perfect consistency? Check. Removes makeup and gunk? Check. Cleanses well? Check! In fact, it’s great for all skin types, so it’s not just good for your tween, but your whole household as well! That’s time saved on shopping for skincare products, yay. Medik8 Gentle Cleanse is cruelty free and vegan, and contains AHA, hyaluronic acid (I’m a sucker for everything with hyaluronic acid!), and Vitamin B. [![Medik8 Gentle Cleanse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/gentle_cleanse_bottle_600x800_1400x_f1d30077-8e98-40b9-9656-5bf8d3d55a15-300x400.jpg "gentle_cleanse_bottle_600x800_1400x_f1d30077-8e98-40b9-9656-5bf8d3d55a15 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fmedik8-gentle-cleanse-150ml) Where to Buy: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fmedik8-gentle-cleanse-150ml) ### Thursday Plantation Tea Tree Acne Control Kit The tween to teenage years are crucial in developing our children’s self-esteem. We all know how brutal these years can be. And you and I know that there’s one enemy that every tween and teen that has cause major damage in many adults’ self-confidence: acne. Thursday Plantation Tea Tree Acne Control Kit is a three-step skin care formulated to keep your tween’s skin looking clean and healthy. If you, like me, were in the tea tree craze years ago, you already know that tea tree is a natural antibacterial that targets blackheads, whiteheads, and pimples. So, if your tween is already suffering from breakouts, or is starting to show signs, Thursday Plantation Tea Tree Acne Control Kit is a perfect solution. The Kit contains Tea Tree Face Wash for Acne as your tween’s cleanser, Tea Tree Medicated Gel for Acne as a targeted spot gel for those unwanted breakouts, and Tea Tree Face Cream for that lightweight hydration. [![Thursday Plantation Tea Tree Acne Control KitThursday Plantation Tea Tree Acne Control Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/tea-tree-400x400.jpg "tea-tree - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/NK5oWP) Where to Buy: [BigW](https://bigw.sjv.io/NK5oWP) ### Mebeme Gentle Duo If your tween is not yet showing signs of blemishes, lucky for you! It’s always still a great idea to start them with good skincare habits as soon as you can. What better way than with gentle and natural products? Mebeme Gentle Duo, a two-step routine that includes a cleanser and a moisturiser, is simple and suitable for your tweens’ normal to sensitive skin. It washes away easily without being harsh on the skin. Customers rave about the smell, too! And guess what? If your tween boy doesn’t like putting cream on his face, he can use the moisturiser on dry parts of his skin like his knees or elbows. [![MEBEME Gentle Duo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/MEBEME-400x400.jpg "MEBEME - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mebeme.com.au/products/gentle-duo?_pos=1&_sid=706cd13d0&_ss=r) Where to Buy: [MEBEME](https://www.mebeme.com.au/products/gentle-duo?_pos=1&_sid=706cd13d0&_ss=r) ### Effaclar Purifying Anti-Acne Face Wash Next on my tween skin care list is La Roche-Posay Effaclar Purifying Foaming Gel Anti-Acne Cleanser. I personally love it because it eliminates sebum and oil by gently cleansing and purifying the skin. I find this cleanser travel-friendly since it’s perfect for tweens, teens, and adults alike, provided, of course, that we’re all having excess oil problems at the same time. It’s a great option for your tweens who are starting to have acne problems. La Roche-Posay Effaclar Purifying Foaming Gel Anti-Acne Cleanser promises that you’d see results in just 25 days. Some users are reporting brighter skin in as early as 3 days. So one thing to keep in mind is to bring a moisturiser, since it strips away excess oil. [![La Roche-Posay Effaclar Purifying Foaming Gel Anti-Acne Cleanser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/effalcar.jpg "effalcar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43806&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chemistwarehouse.com.au%2Fbuy%2F78822%2Fla-roche-posay-effaclar-purifying-foaming-gel-anti-acne-cleanser-200ml) Where to Buy: [Clearasil Rapid Rescue Deep Treatment ](https://amzn.to/3Fnk78F "https://amzn.to/3Fnk78F") ### Vee Organics Three Step Routine Seeing the first signs of dryness, blackheads, or pimples on your tween’s skin? Vee Organics 3-Step Routine is safe for kids, tweens, and teens from 7 to 17 years old. It works on sensitive, oily, dry, normal, or combination skin. I know we have talked about Vee Organics before, and we still rave about it now. If you’re looking for natural and organic tween skin care that are also environmentally friendly, we highly recommend Vee Organics 3-Step Routine Bundle. The Routine Bundle includes a cleanser, exfoliant & moisturiser. It comes in the cutest pink or teal packaging that your tween would surely love. [![Vee Organics 3 Step Routine Bundle - Cleanser, Exfoliant & Moisturiser.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/vee-400x300.jpg "vee - Beanstalk Mums")](https://veeorganics.com/products/3-step-routine-bundle-cleanser-exfoliant-moisturiser?variant=40622916010181) Where to Buy: [Vee Organics](https://veeorganics.com/products/3-step-routine-bundle-cleanser-exfoliant-moisturiser?variant=40622916010181) ### Dermalogica Clear Start Breakout Kit Here’s another product that, although not specifically made for tweens, work for their young and sensitive skin as well. Having been a fan for years now, I trust Dermalogica Clear Start Breakout Clearing Skin Kit for myself and my kids. I remember when my daughter was just starting to feel the stress of being a tween. Between school, making friends, a boy she was crushing on, and all the junk food she was consuming, she started having breakouts. A friend recommended Dermalogica Clear Start Breakout Clearing Skin Kit and it worked like magic. Not only did it help clear my daughter’s blemishes, it also kickstarted her tween skin care routine. It’s been years since I gave her the kit to help her clear her breakouts, and she still goes back to it every time. Even I use it from time to time and I swear by it. This 3-piece Clear Start Breakout Clearing Skin Kit contains the foaming wash, clearing booster, and hydrating lotion to clear away your tween’s breakouts. [![Dermalogica Clear Start Breakout Clearing Skin Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/dermalogica-400x327.jpg "dermalogica - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fdermalogica-clear-start-breakout-clearing-skin-kit) Where to Buy: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fdermalogica-clear-start-breakout-clearing-skin-kit) ### Avène Tolerance Extremely Gentle Cleanser One of my friends has a son with a dry and sensitive skin. Having read the rave reviews of Avène Tolerance Extremely Gentle Cleanser online, she decided to get him to try it. And she never looked back! What she liked the most about the product is that it’s already moisturising. It effectively cleans her son’s skin without drying it. We know that some young boys don’t care about skincare, so a cleanser that also moisturises and hydrates the skin is definitely a great find. Avène Tolerance Extremely Gentle Cleanser is also fragrance-free, so if you’re looking for tween skin care products that’s formulated to reduce the risks of allergic reactions, you’re looking at the perfect product. [![Avène Tolerance Extremely Gentle Cleanser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Avene-400x400.jpg "Avene - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2favene-tolerance-extremely-gentle-cleanser-200ml) Where to Buy: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2favene-tolerance-extremely-gentle-cleanser-200ml) ### In B Tween Facewash In B Tween’s B Clean Facewash is specifically formulated for kids, tweens and teens, so you can never go wrong giving it your tween. I mean, kids as young as 6 and 7 have been using it and reporting great results. If you didn’t know, our kids start having blockages in their skin such as blackheads and whiteheads at the tender age of 6 or 7. Their skin is still super sensitive at this point, so we need to use only the most gentle products. We absolutely cannot use adult products on them! It’s great that In B Tween has made it a point to create products that specially cater to the needs of young kids. The B Clean Facewash is gentle yet effectively removes blockages on their skin. Since it works great on the skin of younger kids, it would definitely work on your tween’s! The B Clean Facewash is also natural, vegan, cruelty-free, and made in Australia. Don’t you wish we had these products when we were young? [![B Clean Face Wash](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/In-B-Tween-400x400.jpg "In-B-Tween - Beanstalk Mums")](https://inbtweenskincare.com.au/collections/face-body/products/b-clean-face-wash) Where to Buy: [In B Tween Skincare for Kids](https://inbtweenskincare.com.au/collections/face-body/products/b-clean-face-wash) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tween-skin-care/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tween-skin-care/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health, Shopping **Tags:** acne, spots, teen, pimple, hormone --- ### [How to deal with single mum separation anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/) **Published:** December 6, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes to co-parenting, there’s lots of advice out there. But many forget one crucial area: How do *you* cope while your kids are with their father? Separation anxiety is not exclusive to children, it’s a natural and raw emotion, and it hits some women hard. That is why, in this article, I discuss single mum separation anxiety. Firstly, it is perfectly normal. Maternal instinct is a dominating built-in mechanism. Mothers are *meant* to be with their children … nurturing, guiding and protecting them. Co-parenting rudely interrupts this natural cycle and is much more than an inconvenience. Depending on personal circumstances, it’s harder for some single mothers than for others, especially if you have concerns for your children while with their father. Unease for their well-being can intensify separation anxiety, making it almost unbearable. But even if your kids are happy with dad, premature bouts of empty nest syndrome are likely to make an unwelcome visit. So how can you temper the temptation to lock all the doors so they can’t leave? Having participated in shared parenting for many years, I’m keen to share my tips for dealing with separation anxiety as a single mother. ***Further reading: [Managing kids’ behaviour when they come home from dad’s house.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/managing-kids-behaviour-come-home-dads-house/)*** ## Stay calm and keep smiling Advice for [parenting through separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-through-separation/) rightly suggests we are open about our feelings and encourage our children to do the same. But be careful here. Our children mirror our emotions. If they see you are upset when they leave, it will make them upset too. If you are calm and happy at handover time, they will likely feel calm and happy too. This, in turn, will make the separation more manageable for you. Come on everyone: Hold that smile! ***Is handover hell for you? Read this:*** [***How to make changeovers when co-parenting a blinding success***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/change-overs-when-coparenting/)***.*** ## Establish a goodbye routine If you find the build-up to saying goodbye to your child difficult, it can help to establish a routine. This can be as simple as cuddling on the couch for ten minutes, enjoying afternoon tea together or tidying their bedroom. [Sticking to a routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/good-routine/) provides comfort and reassurance while you (and your child) mentally prepare for the goodbye. **Note:** I would always make sure our routine included lots of cuddles. It felt like I was fuelling up with cuddle power, which would see me through until they came home again. ## Keep busy … and have some fun Every cloud has a silver lining. In this case, having kid-free time allows you to catch up on other aspects of your life. Use your time wisely. Even having the opportunity to clean the house might make you feel good, but make sure you practice self-care also. Meet a friend for coffee, go to the cinema, do whatever makes you happy. The more you do, the less time you’ll have to miss your little ones. For many single mums (myself included), you’ll wonder how you ever managed without your kid-free time and will revel in it instead of dread it. ## Have a plan to avoid the doldrums Separation anxiety can sneak up unannounced. When my children go, I might feel elated that I have some space, only to deflate like a balloon a couple of hours later as the house is too quiet. Once in the doldrums, it can be hard to pull yourself out. So, the key here is to stop it happening in the first place. Think: - What will you do once they’ve gone? - How will you use your free time? - What chores would you like to get done before they return? - What time of day is most challenging for you, and how will you manage that? Make a plan to combat yearnings for your youngsters. And stick to it. It will safely navigate you away from miserable ‘missing you’ moments. ## Overcoming guilt and jealousy about missing kids with dad Parenting comes complete with all manner of guilt. Shared parenting comes with even more. [Single mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/) can ramp up when you have to hand over your kids to their father. This was never the plan for most of us, and we feel awful about it. Then, once they’ve gone, bring on the single mum jealousy. You start to resent that they are spending a perfectly wonderful Sunday with their dad and not with you. You become envious of them all being together, without you. Guilt and jealousy are all part of this co-parenting journey. However, these are self-generated emotions. This means you (and only you) have the power to stop them. Concentrate on what is within your control. Try the practical tips in this article to take your mind off what your kids are up to and make the most of your time without them. And focus on how you will enjoy your time with them when they come home. ## Don’t stop caring for your kids Even if our little ones aren’t with us, it doesn’t mean we stop caring for them. We are mums after all! Separation anxiety as a single mother can be eased by doing things for your children, ready for when they get home. The kind of things that help me manage my single mum loneliness include: - Cooking their favourite biscuits - Sorting their room - Shopping for a little surprise for them Maternal pursuits can bring comfort and consolation if your world seems a little empty. ## Keep in touch with them if you can Depending on your child’s age, keep in touch with them. Embrace technology and tell them they can call or message you anytime (if this is OK with their dad). It doesn’t hurt to send them the odd message or meme. Wish them a good time and let them know you’re OK because they may be worried about you. Don’t hound them or seem needy. Simply keep the airwaves open. Just knowing there’s a line of communication will cheer you up. ***If your kids are like mine, they’ll already have a favourite app, but if not, see:*** [***Best video calling apps to help with co-parenting.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/video-calling-apps/) ## Tips for single mums with empty nest anxiety OK, so your kids have yet to actually leave home! You have a while to prepare for that scenario. Having said that, when they are with dad, it is natural to get the single mum empty nest blues. Does your house seem quiet, deserted and soulless when it’s just you? I get it. Some easy ways to stop missing kids when they’re with dad and overcome your temporary empty nest syndrome include: - Have some background noise in the house … the radio, the TV, or crank up your favourite tunes on Spotify - Close the doors to your kid’s bedroom so you don’t look in and feel sad - Create a different, more adult vibe, yes … it’s time to light the candles - Invite friends and family over Don’t rattle around your home, missing your kids. Instead, change the energy and embrace your time at home, sans kids. ## Find out what they’ll be doing at Dad’s house If you have a reasonable relationship with their dad, find out what your children will be doing while they are with him. If they head off into the unknown, you can drive yourself mad wondering what they’re up to. Worrying about kids with dad is a pro pastime for us as shared parenting mums! If your children are too young to stay in touch with you independently, ask their dad to send you the odd photo. Some [co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-apps-for-calm-and-controlled-parenting/) allow you to download pictures to share between parents. Remember, it works both ways, so if you take photos for their dad while they’re with you, he’ll be more likely to do the same for you. ## Single mum missing kids’ bedtime routine When I first started co-parenting, missing my kid’s bedtime was one of the hardest parts. I felt lost getting into my bed without so much as a page from a storybook or a cuddle. For me, this was when the single mum loneliness really kicked in. How I managed: I created a new bedtime routine for when the kids were with dad. And, I’ll admit, I started to enjoy it. Bedtime routines are very personal, but find one that works for you. It might include a bath, a movie, self-pleasure, a soothing cup of chamomile, or any [stress relief exercises](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) that work for you. Remember, it will only be a few nights, and you’ll be back to frantic baths and chaotic bedtimes that run you ragged, but you secretly love. ## Manage your single mum separation anxiety Knowing how to manage separation anxiety as a single mum is essential. Signs that you’re not managing might include: - Not being about the shake the foreboding feeling the whole time your kids are at dad’s house - Feeling physically unwell due to your anxiety, think: nausea, stomach pains and headaches - Restlessness, irritability, trouble concentrating or sleeping - Trying to think of ways to stop them from going to their dad’s house If you are experiencing any of these feelings, please take action. A starting point is downloading and using an [anti-anxiety app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/anxiety-apps-adults/) and/or learning simple breathing exercises. If these don’t help, don’t be afraid to ask for help. You are not alone. What you are experiencing is perfectly natural. Speak to a friend, family member or even your GP. Help is there, and you are entitled to it. ## Summary: How to deal with single mum separation anxiety I hope these suggestions help you to deal with co-parent separation anxiety as a single mother. If you are new to [co-parenting](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/two-takes-depression/201203/the-dos-and-donts-co-parenting-well), it does get easier in many ways. Every situation is different, and only you can work out the best way through. It is tough the first time your kids go to dad’s house. You might feel like a feather floating in the wind with no real purpose. But, in time, you will better manage this feeling and may even come to enjoy your kid-free time. I know I did. Separation anxiety after divorce is a real thing for single mums who focus so much energy on helping their [children cope with living between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/), but often let the maintenance of their own emotions slide. Remember to plan both how you will say goodbye to your children (keep smiling) and what you will do during your time without them. You need to think both emotionally and practically. I’ve talked about how to fill your time with activities that will help you feel better, as well as tactics to cope with those horrid, anxious feelings. It’s interesting, as we often have mums posting on our [FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) because they are worried about how they will cope when their kids are with dad. I can remember feeling exactly the same. Yet, now it’s part and parcel of our lives, and everyone has got used to it. It is our new normal. And I’m not gonna lie. I love having time to refresh, recharge, and rediscover myself as a person in my kid-free time. I really hope you get to this point as well. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** co parenting, loneliness, shared care, lonely, missing kids, feeling down --- ### [15 Fun and Easy Valentine Craft Ideas for Kids to Enjoy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentine-craft-ideas-for-kids/) **Published:** January 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Love Day is just around the corner, and what better way to celebrate than with some fun and crafty activities for your little ones? This article is packed with adorable Valentine craft ideas for kids that are simple to make. It is also a perfect way to spend quality time with your children. Whether you’re looking for fun ways to keep your kids entertained or for creative ideas to make this Cupid’s Day extra special, these craft ideas will not disappoint. Before my nieces and nephews were cranky teenagers, I used to do simple Valentine activities with them. All I needed was a hot glue and we did DIY magic together! Just like them, your kids will love these fun Valentine’s Day crafts I’ve got in store. ***Need more Valentine’s Day ideas? See: [10 Valentine’s treats to make with the kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/valentines-day-treats-kids/)*** ## **15 Valentine Craft Ideas for Kids** ## **1. DIY Paper Heart Garlands** by [Green Mad House](https://thegreenmadhouse.com/diy/how-to-make-a-valentines-paper-heart-garland) Turn a pack of construction paper into beautiful garlands! Cut out hearts in various sizes and let your kids decorate them with tissue paper, markers, or even watercolour splashes. String them together with yarn or ribbon, and voila, you’ve got a festive decoration. ## **2. Toilet Paper Roll Love Bugs** Don’t throw away those empty toilet paper rolls just yet! You can turn them into adorable love bugs! Paint the rolls, add pipe cleaner antennae, and glue on some googly eyes. You can also get a template from [Twinkl](https://www.twinkl.com.au/resource/love-bug-cardboard-tube-craft-us-ac-1641015452). This is an easy Cupid’s Day craft that’s both fun and functional for motor skills development. ## **3. Salt Dough Keepsakes** by [Red Ted Art](https://www.redtedart.com/valentines-day-craft-salt-dough-heart-footprints/) Mix up some salt dough and let your little ones make handprint hearts or other creative shapes. Bake and paint them for a beautiful keepsake you can cherish forever. These make for a great gift for family members! ## **4. Handprint Heart Cards** by [The Best Ideas for Kids](https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/handprint-valentine/) Why not create Valentine cards with your child’s handprints? Use paint to form a heart with their little hands and add a sweet message. This craft project is a sentimental favourite that’s simple to make. ![valentine craft ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/1f3d3b1f-651c-4b89-8e01-1f710e270287-1066x800.jpg "1f3d3b1f-651c-4b89-8e01-1f710e270287 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Tissue Paper Heart Crafts** by [Toddler at Play](https://www.toddleratplay.com/2021/02/04/tissue-paper-heart-craft/) This heart art project is super quick to make! Just let the kiddos crinkle pieces of pink tissue paper, cut them into tiny squares, and glue them on heart-shaped cardboard. It’s easy for little hands and perfect for toddlers and preschoolers. ## **Valentine Crafts for Toddlers (cont.)** ## **6. Love Bird Paper Craft** by [Arty Crafty Kids](https://www.artycraftykids.com/craft/paper-plate-love-birds/) Create adorable love birds using construction paper and glue. This craft is simple enough for younger kids while still being fun for arty, crafty kids. Add some googly eyes for extra charm! ## **7. Pipe Cleaner Hearts** by [Activity Village](https://www.activityvillage.co.uk/pipe-cleaner-hearts) Your kids will need a bag of pipe cleaners for this fun craft. Twist them into heart shapes and string them onto a ribbon for a cute garland. It’s easy enough for toddlers, so they can join in by bending the pipe cleaners. ## **8. Printable Love Day Cards** by [Simple Everyday Mom](https://www.simpleeverydaymom.com/printable-valentines-cards/) If you have limited free time, print out free printable templates for Heart Day cards. Then, let your kids colour and decorate them. It’s a great way to keep things creative without too much mess. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/F252ccb3-b550-4028-9660-7608050d27b5-1067x800.jpg "F252ccb3-b550-4028-9660-7608050d27b5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **9. DIY Heart-Shaped Watercolour Art** by [Red Ted Art](https://www.redtedart.com/watercolors-for-kids-heart-valentines-cards/) Use watercolour paints to create beautiful, abstract heart shapes. Once dried, cut them out and frame them as a thoughtful art project. This one’s great for kids of all ages! ## **10. Paper Plate Love Bugs** by [Glued to my Crafts](https://www.gluedtomycraftsblog.com/2017/01/paper-plate-valentine-love-bug-kid-craft.html) Let the kids snip tissue paper into squares to get those cutting skills buzzing! Slather glue on a paper plate, stick on the tissue squares, then add wiggly eyes, a pom-pom nose, doily wings, and pipe cleaner antennas to bring your Love Bug to life. ## **Fun Valentine Crafts for Preschoolers** ## **11. Conversation Heart Magnets** by [At Home in Love](https://www.athomeinlove.com/diy-conversation-heart-magnets/) Grab some pastel clay, an alphabet roller stamp, red ink, a heart-shaped cookie cutter, magnets, and a hot glue gun and craft away! Roll the clay to about 1/4” thick and cut out adorable hearts with your cookie cutter. Then, stamp your favourite sayings into the hearts for a sweet and personal touch! ## **12. Tissue Paper Flowers** Craft a bouquet of tissue paper flowers as a thoughtful Cupid’s Day gift. These flowers are not only beautiful but also simple enough for little kids to make with just a bit of help. Plus, you get to keep them at the end! ## **13. DIY Heart-Shaped Sun Catchers** by [Learning and Exploring Through Play](https://www.learningandexploringthroughplay.com/2017/01/heart-suncatchers.html) Get your tissue paper or cellophane squares ready because it’s time to make adorable heart suncatchers. Simply cut out a heart shape from a card, laminate it with colourful squares, and stick the finished product onto a window for a stunning display of light and colour. Bonus tip: write your child’s name and date on the card for a sweet keepsake, but good luck sharing these, ’cause they’re too cute to give away! ## **14. Heart’s Day Paper Bag Puppets** Turn a plain paper bag into a Valentine’s puppet with some basic craft supplies like googly eyes, markers, and construction paper. Let your kids put on a puppet show afterwards! ## **15. Heart-Shaped Fingerprint Art** Use your child’s fingerprints to create a unique heart art project. Simply stamp their fingerprints in the shape of a heart and frame the finished product as a sweet keepsake. I promise it won’t take an hour to make! ## **Why These Crafts Are Perfect for Single Mums** ![valentine craft ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Beb63e3b-f80d-4c68-bbbc-cdb504730683-1067x800.jpg "Beb63e3b-f80d-4c68-bbbc-cdb504730683 - Beanstalk Mums") As a single mum, balancing parenting and everything else can be a challenge. These Valentine activities for kids are not only fun and easy, but they also help foster creativity and bonding time with your kids. Plus, they use materials you likely already have at home, so they are budget-friendly and stress-free. Finally, some of these adorable crafts help with fine motor skills. That’s hitting two birds with one stone! ## **Final Thoughts: Valentine’s Day Crafts for Kids** From printable heart templates to love bug crafts, these Valentine craft ideas for kids are perfect for creating lasting memories and spreading love this holiday. Whether you’re working with toddlers and preschoolers or arty crafty kids like mine these projects are sure to keep them entertained. So grab your scissors and some basic craft supplies, and let your little ones enjoy the magic of making something together. Make great memories. Happiness is homemade, after all! And if you struggle with Cupid’s crazy card-filled holiday check out my [Valentine’s Day Survival Guide for Single Mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-valentines-day-survival-guide-for-single-mothers/). Enjoy! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentine-craft-ideas-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentine-craft-ideas-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day **Tags:** love, Valentine's Day gifts, crafts, Valentine's gifts --- ### [10 Things your kids will remember about you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/10-things-kids-will-remember/) **Published:** November 20, 2023 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Do you ever worry about how your children will remember you when they are all grown up? Are you portraying yourself as the person you want them to mirror and respect? Or will you be remembered as a crazy woman who cooks, launders, nags and is obsessed with the occasional lie-in? Joking aside, the things your kids will remember about you are what will shape them into the type of adults they become. Your morals, values, actions and reactions are being watched and learned by your little ones every single day. Not only will this shape their future, but it will create the memory bank of Mum. I remember taking my young teen out of school to a weekly health appointment. Our routine was that I would sit in the adjacent cafe and work, and she would meet me there. I have an online business, which means I can work anywhere. This has allowed us to live flexible, travel-filled lives … but wherever we go, I’m always on my laptop. This particular day, when she walked into the cafe, I said: > ***“Your memory of me as a mum will be me glued to a laptop wherever we are.”*** To which she replied, without skipping a beat: > ***“No Mum, my memory will be of you always being there.”*** I bring this up because, if you are reading the article, you might be worried about how your child or children think about you and how they will remember you. And it’s likely it will be very different from how you think. This article reminds you that your children simplify their memories of mum. They don’t remember the complex things. Instead, they reminisce about the more superficial but equally special moments. Here are some of the things that your child might remember about you. ## 10 Things your kids will remember about you ## 1. Your quirky sayings I don’t know about you, but some weird and wonderful statements came out of my own parents’ mouths. I am still utterly confused by the saying ‘a wigwam for a goose’s bridal’. And, I was disappointed on many occasions when I heard the line ‘I’m going to see a man about a dog’ … which devastatingly never resulted in a new puppy. Yet, I am constantly coming out with quirky sayings myself, such as the old ‘stop carrying on like a pork chop’. (What does that even mean?) Or, ‘you don’t need sugar on your breakfast, you are already sweet enough’. Know that your funny little saying will stay with them forever, and they will likely use it with their own children. Think of them as verbal family heirlooms. ## 2. Your musical genius … or lack thereof You know the songs you blast while cooking dinner and the tunes you sing to in the car? These will be remembered by your little ones in the future, so make your song choices repetitive and your voice as loud and out of tune as possible. Then, there are the songs we all make up to make life a little more interesting. ‘You will, you will … eat it’ to the tune of We Will Rock You. My kids always get the giggles when I sing instead of speaking. I know one day they will appreciate the effort it takes to keep up with a beat while maintaining a conversation. ## 3. The superhero lifts from the car to the bed You know the one. And let’s face it, the ‘superhero lift from car to bed’ made bedtime way more exciting. Maybe your little one didn’t wake up on purpose just to experience it! (Or they were just really tired). The joy of being cradled in your arms, their very own supermum carrying them to safety, is a memory that will be etched in their minds forever. I often wish I could still take a nap in the car and get carried straight to bed! ## 4. Your special nicknames for them When I was a little girl, my dad used to call me a stinky nickname. I used to hate it, but now that I’m a grown-up, I realise that it was his term of endearment for me. I guess it’s hereditary because now I also give my son quirky (but cute) nicknames, too. As our kids grow up, there will come a phase (hello, teenage years) when they cringe at the thought of being called ‘Pumpkin Pie’ in front of their friends. But deep down, they know that it is your unique way of saying, ‘You’re my favourite human.’ ## 5. Kids will remember your advice When your child is facing a conflicting situation, or even if they have one of those [awkward questions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-awkward-questions/), your advice may very well just stick with them for life. When you tell your children, ‘you don’t have to be friends with everyone, but you do have to be friendly,’ it may help them be part of a team with conflicting personalities. Telling them ‘tomorrow is a new day and a new chance’ will teach them it’s never too late to make a change. But, most importantly, by offering your children an ear when they need it, they will always know they can come to you when they need to talk, regardless of whether they are 5 or 50. ## Things your kids will remember about you (cont.) ## 6. Those little white lies When Christmas comes around, and you are tightening the purse strings to afford an Xbox, knowing Santa will get all the credit. Of course, credit comes in the form of their squeals and smiles, but if you are allowed to tell a [white lie](http://www.boredpanda.com/lies-parents-tell-kids/) about Santa, who is to say you can’t ‘trick’ your kids in other ways. Example: It was a battlefield every night to get my son to brush his teeth, and for his own benefit, I invented tooth sticks. Paddle pop sticks, which *know* whether you have brushed your teeth or not when you put them in your mouth. Teeth brushing = success. When your kids grow up, they are sure to contemplate whether such things were real. ## 7. Kids will remember time spent together When you take your kids on holiday, you are creating lifelong memories. Many of us can’t always afford to go on trips, but there are ways you can still make these memories without leaving your suburb. Some days I tell my kids we are going on a secret adventure, and find a new park to explore or splash around at the beach. Or, going for a walk with them and exploring the neighbourhood while talking about what is on their mind. Even on a rainy day, making time to sit down with a jigsaw puzzle or watching a movie with your children is time spent together. It all comes into the category of the things your kids will remember about you. ## 8. Your sense of humour Your children will always remember the silly things you did to make them laugh. Whether intentionally or not. Like that time you accidentally used dishwashing detergent instead of olive oil. Or the time you accidentally walked into your car and chipped a tooth and laughed at yourself. Then there are the times when you write their name on a banana just so you can say, ‘there’s a banana there with your name on it’. Your kids might not remember every funny thing you say or do, but they will remember growing up in a house of laughter. ## 9. Your praise and encouragement My daughter used to love to tell stories, especially about stuff that happened at school. And boy, how she loved talking about them again and again (and again). Despite hearing her little adventures for the 50th time, I make sure to listen and respond as if I heard them for the first time. I encouraged her to narrate his tales as honestly as she could and praise her whenever appropriate. By doing these things, our kids will remember us as someone with whom they can be comfortable and be themselves. Someone who will not judge them for showing emotions or conveying their opinions. Someone who will cheer for them no matter how big or small their achievement is. ## 10. How much you love them Out of all the things kids remember, the most important is knowing you always loved them. It doesn’t take much; it could be your hugs, the words ‘I love you’ or the way you took care of them when they were sick. Knowing they are loved is one thing they will always cherish. ## Two bonus memories because I can’t stop at ten ## When you aren’t afraid to be embarrassed for them They will remember the time you rode the rollercoaster with them even though you were scared and screamed like a banshee. They will remember the time you climbed up the play equipment to get them down because they were scared. And, the times you joined in with them and went down the slippery slide. They will remember you dressing up for [Halloween](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/) and being the host of their [birthday parties](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/). They will remember those times you stopped being a grown-up and played like a kid. ## Mama’s kitchen The kitchen is the heart and soul of the home and the place where your family can share their day and connect with one another. One of the things kids will remember is their favourite meal growing up. Mine was tuna mornay and as easy as it sounds in theory .. I still cannot master it like my mum did. ## My summary of things your kids will remember about you I’m sure you know this by now – raising a kid (or two, or three) is not a walk in the park. And we are not perfect parents. We lose our temper and raise our voices at them, along with all the other parenting mishaps we deal with every day. Yes, we feel guilty for losing our cool sometimes (for me, most of the time). There are times when I’m too busy with work so I feed my kids takeaway for dinner. I’ve been known to forget to wash their school uniform and leave dirty dishes on the side for a day or two. Because of these moments, I fear that my kids might remember me as “the lazy mum who didn’t cook and made them live in squalor.” Sure they will remember how you shouted at them to get out of their bed every morning, along with all the other oopsies you made. But do you know what our kids will remember the most? It’s not the Instagram-perfect moments, but the messy, real ones. They will cherish and remember the fun times we spent with them. The valuable lessons we taught them. It’s the spontaneous dance parties, the epic fails in the kitchen, and the victory dances at their school events … all the quirky bits and pieces that make you “you.” Remember, the little things you do for them don’t go unnoticed. Most of our kids will grow up and become parents as well. And in their memories, your Mummy mishaps and imperfections will be their guide through the wild ride of parenthood. So embrace the messy times and let go of the guilt; and know that you’re damn good parent. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/10-things-kids-will-remember/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/10-things-kids-will-remember/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Children **Tags:** kids memory, childhood, motherhood, happy kids, being a good mum --- ### [Tips to get the most out of Boxing Day sales](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/make-most-boxing-day-sales/) **Published:** December 17, 2019 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** You might be experiencing more holiday cheer than cash after Christmas. Boxing Day is here, but do you feel more heft in your tummy than your wallet? At this point, sales from stores are popping up left and right. To get the most out of Boxing Day store promotions, read on for 10 tips you can follow. ## 10 Tips to get the most out of the Boxing Day sales ### 1. Do Your Research Going into a store on Boxing Day might not be the best idea if you want to maximise the value of your purchases. Be sure to check the shops before visiting. Many stores post their Boxing Day sales days before the date. Make a list of items you want to buy based on factors like discounts and your needs. Sites like [Cosier](https://cosier.co/) can provide you with ideas on the things you might need to buy, like a new vacuum cleaner. ### 2. Prepare for Boxing Day Many people know that Boxing Day immediately comes after Christmas Day. So, it’s wise not to spend all your Christmas bonuses preparing for that day. Otherwise, you might end up staying home, watching everyone else enjoying their Boxing Day shopping sprees. Instead, create a budget for both holidays. Use the envelope technique, wherein you keep cash for Christmas and Boxing Day. Otherwise, get a trusted friend or relative to keep your debit and credit cards first to ensure you don’t spend needlessly before the sales arrive. ### 3. Shop with a Friend It’s fun to have someone with you when you shop. Your friend (or relative) will also give you a sense of security, knowing that you won’t overspend while shopping. You can also use this occasion to work together to search for the items on your list. ### 4. Use Free Shipping If you’re shopping online for Boxing Day, consider buying items from retailers offering free shipping. Many stores provide minimal or free shipping costs in the hopes of gathering more customers. Deploy your holiday coupons for this day for maximum savings. In doing so, you can save on the purchase and the shipping in one swoop. This perk is also an excellent time to buy small items. Purchasing little things off the Internet might not be ideal at certain periods because of the shipping costs. With free shipping, you can pack all those things in packages without spending a cent on delivery fees. ### 5. Make a List of Your Needs and Wants Remember to prioritise your needs over your wants when going after those Boxing Day sales. It’s easy to get carried away with all the discounts and promotions around you. Stay away from aisles where you think you can buy the stuff you might not need. So, create a [shopping list](https://www.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/christmas-shopping-list) of things to buy for Boxing Day. For example, get a new dishwasher if your current device has given up on you. While you’re in the appliance section, maintain a straight path to your next destination. Try your best not to fall into the temptation of purchasing other items, like extra plates you might not use. ![Boxing Day sales | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/shutterstock_728013379.jpg "Boxing Day sales | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums")### 6. Hire a Babysitter Your children might be bundles of joy, but taking care of your kids while you’re shopping on Boxing Day might make you lose discounts from shops. Imagine this scenario: you’re trying to take advantage of an immediate sale that only lasts for a few minutes, but your child wants to go to the bathroom. Remember to hire a babysitter on Boxing Day, or ask one of the grandparents to take care of your children while you’re away. ### 7. Avoid Peak Hours It’s best to avoid peak or rush hours during your shopping trip. Otherwise, you might find it difficult to manoeuvre around shops. You’ll find yourself bumping shoulders with other people before you can grab the item on your shopping list. Try to go to malls and stores as early as possible. That way, you can start and finish soon, and have a high chance of buying the items on sale before other people do. ### 8. Grab Last-Minute Deals Contrary to waking up early in the morning to shop, you can also buy items before the store closes. Specific shops might offer more significant discounts to try and get rid of stocks before Boxing Day ends. Use this opportunity to save more money on this day. ### 9. Use Credit Card Rewards Points If you’ve been using your credit card a lot for the past year, chances are you’ve accumulated many points. You may use these reward points to pay for products and services at lower prices. ### 10. Shop after Boxing Day This may sound counterintuitive, but you can also wait for the day after Boxing Day to shop. Stores may still retain some promotions to reduce their inventories. At this point, other people should go back to their daily lives, and you’ll have significantly less competition as opposed to clearing your shopping list on Boxing Day itself. ## Final Thoughts Use these ten tips to help you get the most out of your Boxing Day shopping spree. Make this post your guide to ensure you gain excellent value from the purchases you make on this day! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/make-most-boxing-day-sales/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/make-most-boxing-day-sales/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** shopping, sales, Boxing Day --- ### [Build Self‑Worth In Kids With Easy Little Daily Habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/build-selfworth-in-kids-with-daily-habits/) **Published:** January 10, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… ## How to Help a Child With Low Self-Confidence (Without Pressure or Perfection) – Beanstalk Mums Podcast with Stella Beckett Watching your child doubt themself can be heartbreaking. If you’re a single mum who already feels stretched, seeing your once-confident child hesitate, cling to you or speak harshly about themselves can trigger worry and guilt. Many mothers know what they *don’t* want – to repeat their own upbringing or watch their children shrink – but they feel lost when it comes to concrete steps that build self‑worth in kids. The good news is that self-worth isn’t something kids are magically born with or without. It grows through consistent, gentle experiences. In this article, you’ll learn how to help a child with low self-confidence using simple daily habits. Drawing on insights from Stella Beckett, single mum and founder of *Diary Dolls*, we’ll explore why children struggle with confidence, how early experiences shape belief systems and, most importantly, what you can do today to help your child feel strong and secure. ![Stella Beckett with her dolls - help a child with low self-confidence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/Img_5584-1200x800.jpg "help a child with low self-confidence - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why Some Kids Struggle with Confidence Children aren’t immune to stress. Unpredictable home environments, parental anxiety, peer pressure and sensitive temperaments all affect self-esteem. Stella Beckett knows this first-hand. She grew up in “an unstable household” and carried anxiety and self-worth issues into adulthood. When she became a mother, she vowed her son would never feel the insecurity she did. Her experience is a reminder that low confidence in kids doesn’t stem from a lack of love. Often, parents simply aren’t sure how to create the safe, predictable environment children need to thrive. Kids are also impressionable. They absorb more from our behaviour than from our words. If they see adults judging themselves harshly or reacting with anger, they’re likely to internalise those patterns. Conversely, when children experience emotional safety, validation and consistent routines, their nervous systems settle and self-confidence begins to flourish. As Stella explains, young children are especially receptive to emotional imprinting through imagination and repetition. This means small moments matter more than big speeches. > ***“Confidence isn’t something children are born with or without — it grows through tiny, repeated experiences of feeling safe, seen, and capable.”*** ## How Early Experiences Shape Self-Belief From birth to around age seven, children spend much of their time in what neuroscientists call a theta brain-wave state, “where they’re really in their imagination, their creativity, they’re like sponges”. In this state, their subconscious beliefs – about whether the world is safe, whether they are enough and how to process emotions – are formed. This period is critical. “I learned that before the age of seven… children are essentially like sponges; they see the world through feeling rather than logic,” Stella explains. Even between seven and ten, kids continue to download lessons about self-worth because they learn through play and imagination, habits woven into playtime stick better than lectures. This insight led Stella to create *Diary Dolls*, soft dolls paired with stories and journals that build self‑worth in kids by teaching self-love, affirmation, and gratitude through role-play rather than instruction. ## Practical Habits to Build Self‑Worth in Kids at Home Building self-esteem doesn’t require hours of “deep talks” or expensive toys. It’s the small, daily habits – repeated consistently – that make the biggest difference. Below are simple practices you can start tonight. They’re especially helpful for mums juggling work, home and life on their own. #### Name the Feeling and Validate When children experience big emotions, many parents rush to fix the problem or dismiss it (“You’re fine, don’t worry”). Beckett urges mums to do the opposite. “Naming the feeling is really powerful… giving the child that acknowledgement” helps them feel understood. Try phrases like: - “That sounds really frustrating.” - “I can see you’re feeling unsure.” - “That seems hard. I’m here with you.” This validation calms the nervous system because your child knows she’s not alone. It also teaches her to identify emotions, a foundational step in emotional resilience. Resist the urge to solve the problem immediately. Instead, be present and listen. #### Regulate Yourself First Children “borrow our nervous system”. If we react with anger, panic, or dismissiveness, they absorb that energy. That’s why the first step in helping a child with low self-confidence is to check in with yourself. Beckett emphasises that “regulating yourself first is pivotal”. Take a breath, lower your voice and model self-compassion. If you make a mistake – snap or raise your voice – acknowledge it: “I was feeling overwhelmed and raised my voice; that wasn’t fair to you.” This shows children it’s okay to be imperfect and teaches them how to repair relationships. Youtube place holder – https://youtu.be/LHHvLPdMKQ4 #### Make Room for Micro-Practices Confidence grows through repetition. Beckett stresses the power of “really small micro-practices… that are so easy and fun and just come natural”. You don’t need 30-minute sessions; three to five minutes a day is enough when done consistently. Consider integrating the following habits: - **Daily check-ins.** At bedtime or during a quiet moment, ask your child: “What are you proud of today?” “What’s something you love about yourself?” Beckett credits short daily reflections – not long conversations – with strengthening her bond with her son and building his security. - **The Confidence Bowl.** Write or draw one thing your child did well, tried or felt proud of on a slip of paper and place it in a jar or bowl each evening. Over time, the bowl fills with evidence of her strengths. On tough days, she can pull out slips and remember her achievements. This simple ritual shifts focus from mistakes to growth. - **Gratitude on the go.** Instead of saving gratitude for bedtime, mention small joys as they happen: “I’m grateful for this sunny day,” or “I loved how you shared your toy.” This models positive self-talk throughout the day. - **Weekly wins wall.** At the end of each week, write down or draw things you and your child accomplished and stick them on a wall or fridge. Beckett points out that focusing on achievements grounds us in reality and calms the nervous system. Watching the wall fill up reinforces a sense of progress. #### Use Play-Based Tools Kids learn best through play and story. Beckett designed the *Diary Dolls* to meet children in their imaginative world. Each doll has an “emotional superpower”: an affirmation doll, a journaling doll and a gratitude doll, with more characters on the way. > ***“Children learn through play and repetition. When confidence*** > > ***becomes part of play, it becomes part of who they are.”*** The doll becomes a companion and safe space; the accompanying book guides children to express feelings, practice gratitude and speak kindly to themselves. Because these practices are delivered through play, children engage voluntarily and build habits without feeling like they’re in therapy. You can use any soft toy or puppet in a similar way. Give it a name, assign it a superpower (e.g., kindness or bravery) and create a simple story that reinforces the trait. Invite your child to help the toy practise its skill each day. When confidence becomes part of play, it becomes part of who they are. ### A 5-Minute Confidence Habit You Can Try Tonight to Build Self‑Worth in Kids One of the simplest practices Stella recommends is what she calls the **“Confidence Bowl.”** All you need is: - A small bowl or jar - Slips of paper Each evening (or a few times a week), invite your child to: 1. Write or draw one thing they did well, felt proud of, or tried 2. Place it in the bowl That’s it. No analysing or correcting. No pressure to be positive. Over time, this practice: - Reinforces positive self-talk - Helps children notice their strengths - Builds internal validation (not approval-seeking) And importantly — it works even on busy, emotionally full days.k with families and the neurodivergent community. ## Looking After Yourself as a Single Mum Helping your child feel confident starts with caring for yourself. Solo mothers often juggle work, home, finances and parenting, leaving little time for self-care. Beckett acknowledges this reality and recommends small, compassionate practices for mums: - **Celebrate your own wins.** Make a weekly list of what you achieved – even if it’s mundane. Beckett loves the idea of a “weekly check” that shifts focus from never-ending to-dos to accomplishments. Seeing progress on paper eases the sense of always falling behind. - **Set boundaries around stress.** If you feel your patience slipping, step into another room, take five deep breaths or splash your face with water. This quick reset helps you return to your child calmer and more present. - **Find your village.** Connect with other mums through support groups, school communities or online forums like Beanstalk Mums. Sharing experiences reduces isolation and provides new ideas. - **Be gentle with yourself.** Beckett reminds single mums that perfection isn’t required. “Your kids don’t want a perfect mum… they just want you”. Trust that showing up, trying and modelling self-kindness are enough ![Build Self‑Worth in Kids by playing with Diary Dolls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/01/Diary-dolls-64-1200x800.jpg "Build Self‑Worth in Kids - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Build Self‑Worth in Kids – Frequently Asked Questions **At what age does self-confidence develop in children?** Much of a child’s subconscious belief system forms before age seven, when they spend more time in a theta brain-wave state and absorb lessons through feelings and imagination. However, confidence continues to develop through the tween years. Habits that promote emotional safety and self-worth benefit children of all ages. **Can these habits help a child who feels anxious?** Yes. Naming feelings, breathing together and validating your child’s experience can ease anxiety by calming the nervous system. Play-based tools like dolls or puppets provide a safe way for anxious kids to explore emotions without pressure and build self‑worth in kids. **How long before I see a difference?** Consistency matters more than duration. Beckett emphasises that change comes from “small micro-practices” repeated daily. Many parents notice shifts in self-talk and resilience within a few weeks of regular practice. **Do these practices work for boys as well as girls?** Absolutely. Although the *Diary Dolls* are often given to girls, the habits – validating feelings, gratitude, confidence bowls – are gender-neutral. Boys also benefit from learning to name emotions and celebrate their efforts. **I’m exhausted and don’t have time. How can I start?** Begin with one tiny habit, like asking your child what she’s proud of each night. It takes less than two minutes. Once that feels natural, add another practice. Remember, regulating yourself first and modelling self-compassion are already powerful lessons. ## Build Self‑Worth in Kids a Conclusion Helping a child with low self-confidence doesn’t require grand gestures or perfect parenting. It’s about creating a home where feelings are named, mistakes are acknowledged, and small wins are celebrated. By regulating your own emotions, validating your child’s experiences and weaving micro-habits into playtime, you lay the foundation for lasting self-worth. Start small. Stay gentle. Keep showing up. You don’t have to do everything. You just have to do *something small — consistently.* And that is already enough. ## Links for this episode: 🧸 [**www.diarydolls.com**](https://www.diarydolls.com) – explore Diary Dolls if you’d like a playful, emotionally safe way to support your child’s confidence at home – each doll teaches confidence through story, imagination and gentle routines. 🪆 Find Stella on her socials @diarydolls\_ – [**FaceBook**](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100095165117121) & **[Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/diarydolls_/)** 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! 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Unfortunately, many single mothers who don’t qualify for Legal Aid but who don’t have the financial resources to fund a private lawyer may find themselves in a situation where they need to self-represent. While self-representing is not ideal. It is also not the end of the world, and many self-represented litigants can obtain successful court outcomes. If you have found yourself self-representing or you are considering self-representing in the family court, this article is for you. We give you our best tips and tricks on how to prepare legally and emotionally for family court. ## So, what is self-representing? Self-representing at court is when you prepare all the court documents, you draft all the correspondence, and you ultimately appear in court yourself instead of having a lawyer or a barrister do these things for you. ### 1. It’s perfectly normal to feel stressed, anxious about the future Whether you are applying for [sole parental responsibility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sole-parental-responsibility/), trying to get a passport form signed or anything in between, going to court can be stressful for the most seasoned advocate. Even if you do have a lawyer, feelings of anxiety and uncertainty are all perfectly normal. #Breathe. So, it’s very important to make sure that you are getting enough self-care. Think about the things that make you feel good and schedule them into your week. I know! I know! As a mum of 3 boys under 7 myself, mothers, we can put ourselves at the very bottom of the laundry and toy piles, BUT we really do have to prioritise our self-care. Whether it is exercise, speaking with a trusted friend, a daily meditation or yoga practice, or making an appointment to speak with a counsellor or psychologist. **Find the things or things that work for you and make them a priority!** Court is more like a marathon than a sprint. It can sometimes take many years for your matter to finalise, so you need to make sure that you are filling your cup and managing your emotions. which leads us to Tip 2. ### 2. Keep your children blissfully unaware of family court Our children are beautifully resilient; however, the children who experience negative outcomes after their parents’ separation are often the children who have been placed in the middle of their parents’ conflict. You are the adult, and you owe it to your children to ensure that they are protected from any conflict or details about your separation. More importantly, the Court will look very poorly upon parents who are not child-focused and who place their children in the middle of conflict. Most parents don’t knowingly or willingly do this, but it’s important to always keep this at the forefront of your mind. If you feel like you are struggling in this area, then reach out to a professional in your area to help you navigate how to best assist your children through this transition. ***Further reading:** [**The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.** ](https://coastallawyers.com.au/2022/04/27/the-way-we-talk-to-our-children-becomes-their-inter-voice/)* ### 3. You know your case best Don’t be put off if your ex-partner or co-parent has a fancy lawyer. The reality is, you know your case the best. You know the history of your relationship, your children, and your financial situation best. Use this knowledge to your advantage. The law is the law, so there is no reason why you can’t educate yourself on the law that is relevant to your matter. Which leads up to Tip 4, know the law and know the facts. ### 4. Focus on the Facts and know the law It can be extremely difficult, but the reality is that the court deals in facts and legal tests. For example, if you are seeking parenting orders, then you need to be focused on the legal test ‘the best interests of the child,” and how is the legal test determined? Well, you look to [section 60CC](http://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s60cc.html) of the *Family Law Act* 1975 (Cth), and you address your evidence to that test. You will be expected to know at the very minimum: - [The Family Law Act 1975 (Cth)](http://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/index.html#s60cc) - [The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (Family Law) Rules 2021 (Cth)](http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/num_reg/fcafcoalr2021202101197559/) You will also be expected to know the family court process and procedure. For example, if you are seeking interim orders, your affidavit will be limited to 10 pages and 5 annexures in accordance with the Rules (something you may not be aware of if you haven’t read the Rules or Legislation). Which leads us to the next Tip. ### 5. Read the Practice Directions The practice directions are guidelines issued by the family court itself and provide a wonderful resource for self-represented litigated. Some of the more common practice directions, which will provide you with a wonderful starting point when self-representing, are: [Central Practice Direction: Family Law Case Management](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd) This practice direction applies to all family law court matters. It provides a wonderful overview of the practice and procedures that must be followed, as well as the court events that you can expect your matter to go through. [Family Law Practice Direction – Divorce proceedings](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-divorce) Your go-to practice direction for all things divorce. The Court also publishes a very helpful DIY divorce kit. Divorce is probably one of the most common matters that people self-represent. [Family Law Practice Direction – National COVID-19 List](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-covid) If you have a COVID-related matter, then check out this practice direction [Family Law Practice Direction- Parenting Proceedings](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-parenting) This is the guiding practice direction for all things parenting. [Family Law Practice Direction Priority Pools under $500,000](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-ppp500?web=1&wdLOR=cE6969FB7-E9D6-4CC4-9E97-6647856D81B4) If your property pool is under $500,000, then certain courts are currently running a pilot program that may be relevant to your matter. [Family Law Practice Direction- Financial Proceedings](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-financial) If you need to bring a property matter before the court, then this is the practice direction you need to be aware of. Remember: Before you can start a matter in court, you need to comply with the pre-action procedures as found in Schedule 1 of the *Family Law Rules 2021 (Cth)* The court also publishes two helpful brochures in respect of the pre-action procedures, which you can find below. - [The pre-action procedures for parenting](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/pre-action-parenting) - [The pre-action procedures for Property](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/pre-action-financial) **You also need to be aware of your** [**disclosure obligations.**](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/duty-disclosure) ## Self-representing in the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (cont.) ### 6. Outsource part of your case You may not be able to afford a private lawyer to represent you for your entire case, but you may be able to engage a lawyer on a task-by-task basis. For example, many lawyers will assist you in settling your affidavit or response and make sure that you have included all the necessary information. Sometimes this is a good middle ground and can give you some confidence. Other lawyers offer payment plans or payment at the end of your property settlement. There is also litigation funding available, which is suitable for some people. At Coastal Lawyers, we offer a [Strategy Session ](https://coastallawyers.com.au/coastal-lawyers-strategy-session/)for a fixed fee. Many people book in Strategy Sessions to get information before they start down their self-representation path, so they feel a bit more confident about the process. And the good news is that we have clients in all different states, thanks to the beauty of technology. ### 7. Google is your best friend The good thing about family law is that it is Commonwealth law. This means that you can rely on resources from any state to assist you with your case. Many law firms and other organisations write very comprehensive articles on family law. Just be aware that in September 2021, the Family Law Rules were amended when the Federal Circuit Court and Family Court amalgamated, so make sure any reference to the Rules is to the 2021 rules. ### 8. Visit the Court Sometimes one of the biggest sources of anxiety is the unknown. If you have never set foot in court before, then make some time to take a visit there. Work out where you can park, have a test run of going through security and sit in court and listen to some other cases. Just seeing how the process works can help you feel more confident in your environment. ### 9. Bring back the palm cards Do you remember when you had to give a speech at school, and you had those little palm cards to remind you of your key points? Well, writing down your key points on a piece of paper is a great way to help ground you when you must speak in Court. If you feel that you get nervous when it’s your time to speak, realise that it’s normal. The court will expect you to be nervous, and sometimes a simple wriggle of your toes inside your shoes will help you feel more relaxed. As the saying goes, ‘speak even though your voice shakes’. ### 10. Get organised and get a diary Each time you go to court, you tend to get a shopping list of tasks and dates that must be undertaken before the next court date. It’s very important that you write these down and stick to them. Set yourself reminders for when things are due, so you remember to follow them up. You might also find you have thoughts randomly about your matter. If you carry with you a journal or diary of thoughts and events that happen, this will assist you greatly when it comes time to prepare your affidavit. Further reading: [How to write an affidavit for the family court.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-write-an-affidavit-for-family-court/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Spring-Style-Inspiration-8-7.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/self-representing-family-court/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/self-representing-family-court/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** family law, affidavit, lawyer, self represent --- ### [The positive impact of divorce on children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/) **Published:** February 23, 2021 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Divorce is often perceived as a failure. Yet, a great deal of strength is required. It is rarely the “easy way out”. When you have children, it becomes even more complex. While it is true that many children face difficulties through this transition, either [emotionally or behaviourally](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/), it is not all doom and gloom. Your daughter is not any more likely to be a crazy cat lady and your son a criminal just because their parents get divorced. It is all going to be OK, so take a few deep breaths and relax while we discuss the positive impact of divorce on children. ## THE POSITIVE IMPACT OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN ### It is better to live in two happy homes than one unhappy one Your separation may have been sudden and unexpected, or it may have been caused by years of unhappiness. Either way, if there is tension and arguing in the home, it is not a positive environment for a child. Even if you think you are concealing the problems, kids have an uncanny way of picking up on them. Instead, create [a parenting plan](https://inlawwetrust.com/developing-a-parenting-plan/) that comprises responsibilities and time-sharing with the help of a child custody lawyer. Sometimes, trying to save your children from a divorce can mean you sacrifice yourself and leave them feeling guilty. And, it does not necessarily mean they are happier for it. When children witness their parents being happy and confident in [two separate houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) it will help them feel positive about the situation. It will teach them that change can be for the better. For a child, routine, happiness, laughter and play are the best remedies for a parental breakup. ### It teaches your children the values and morals you want them to uphold You know the old saying, Actions speak louder than words? In this situation, showing your little ones that you won’t settle for being unhappy and are strong enough to start over will show them what you value and where your morals sit. It also says you can peacefully walk away from a bad situation; you don’t have to accept it at face value. People are allowed to come and go from your life as we all grow and change. Your partner should be your best friend, and you wouldn’t want your children replicating negative behaviour (either now or as an adult) because of how they see you treating your ‘friend’. ### It creates a bond between siblings One interesting outcome of divorce on children is a strong bond between siblings if they are lucky enough to have them. They are in it together, and no one understands a situation quite like someone else who is right there with you. My 5-year-old daughter has often stated adamantly she doesn’t want to stay with her father, but she always goes because she needs to look out for her older brother. If parents move on and new partners are introduced, siblings will support each other through the new transition. ## THE POSITIVE IMPACT OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN (CONT.) ### Your children have a chance to build relationships with both parents Family life can be busy, and with parents at conflict, it could be a full-time job avoiding one another. This, on top of work commitments and the daily juggle, can mean quality time with one or both parents is overlooked. When you are divorced, it can allow parents to spend more one time with your children and get to know them as individuals. If your children are in [share-cared](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-perks-of-shared-custody/), you can use your time without them to catch up on work/chores, meaning your time with them is more focused on them. For single mums doing it on their own, you will likely have an unbreakable connection with your children and feel like a lioness with your sense of protectiveness over your cubs. ### Your children will learn empathy for others When a child goes through a big life change, such as a divorce, it teaches them empathy for others. Eventually, they will understand their parents are only human, and nobody is perfect. They will learn that everyone is different and everyone feels pain. As an example, my 7-year-old son has a good friend at school whose parents have recently separated. He told me he asked his friend if he was OK and if he wanted to talk, as he knew what he was going through. While his little buddy wasn’t quite ready to chat over coffee and cake, my son proceeded to distract him with a game of soccer. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and this can be learnt from an early age. [![OurFamilyWizard helps co-parents with conflict-free communication](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/300-x-250b.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=224401&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ![Positive impact of divorce on children | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Positive-impact-of-divorce.png "Positive impact of divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** Children of divorce, divorce, children and separation, two homes, co parenting, coparenting --- ### [Stress relief for single mothers: 15 Unique calming tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) **Published:** November 30, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The life of a single mother is naturally busy. (Apologies if that’s a huge understatement.) There are so many balls to juggle. From providing clean undies for your kids to providing a roof over their heads, and everything in between. For this reason, stress relief for single mothers is not a luxury; it is a necessity. Stress can become such a familiar feeling that we consider it the norm. A standard part of the single-parent package. But this shouldn’t be the case. The impact of long-term or high-level stress can be extremely damaging. It can manifest with health issues, both mental and physical. In addition, [stress can affect our children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/), who feed from our emotions and moods. It’s one thing for me to feel stressed, but if my children feel it too, our household is like a collapsing pack of cards. Can you relate? But it doesn’t have to be like this. Stress *is* manageable. First, you can take preventive measures to stop stress before it comes knocking. You can also learn ways to manage stress when it starts to take over. In this article, I’m not talking about the standard stress tips we hear every day. I’m talking about unique ways to derail and disengage with stress that will work for busy single mums who are unable to take a three-day meditation course or pack our bags and head for a me-time break at a mountain spa. Are you ready? Now is the time to take your first steps along the super-chill, single mama pathway. ## Stress relief for single mothers: 15 Unique calming tips ## 1. Don’t dismiss discipline It’s easy to become lackadaisical about disciplining children when we’re busy, tired or overwhelmed. Yet, if you let your children opt out of their obedience obligations, you are not doing them, or yourself, any favours. Whether you are a shared parenting or a solo mum, get a firm hand on your kids’ conduct because if they are running you ragged, your life will be Stress Central. And, do it as early as possible. I know from experience that trying to *introduce* discipline is harder than starting early and enforcing good behaviour from the get-go. I have found that my children thrive within clear, fair boundaries and set routines. They learn self-control and understand acceptable behaviour. Consequently, this makes my life easier and less stressful. It’s a win-win. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-olly-3784302-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3784302 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Eliminate your time wasters A lot of stress is caused by a lack of time. Put simply: If you can [save time daily](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/time-saving-tips-mums/), your stress levels will plunge pleasantly. Contemplate any repetitive tasks you do on a daily basis. Are they taking more time than they should? Can you streamline them? **Example:** I used to be the world’s most disorganised grocery shopper. I never wrote a list, and meal planning was not in my vocabulary. The end result was about four trips to the supermarket every week. This was not only costly but a huge waste of time. The penny finally dropped while having coffee at a friend’s, where I saw and mocked at her detailed shopping list outlining meals for the week and what to buy. In a good-natured way, she explained her masterpiece lists may look a little OCD, but she made only one trip per week to the grocery store. I then did the maths and worked out I could save about three hours (yes, three hours!) per week if I followed her lead. So, she had the last laugh, but I eliminated a time waster and ultimately lessened my stress load. If you can save just ten minutes a day, six days a week, you have freed up an hour. Use your freed-up time wisely to create a less stressful world for you and your kids. ## 3. Find a natural stress-relieving supplement that works for you ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-jeshoots-com-147458-576834-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jeshoots-com-147458-576834 - Beanstalk Mums") You never know when your kids will get into trouble or when some meddlesome neighbourhood gossip might strike. Sometimes, getting a little help in managing stress doesn’t hurt. Thankfully, heaps of natural supplements on the market have proven effective in alleviating stress. In my case, I am particularly in love with chamomile when it comes to stress relief. I always ensure that I have a steady supply of loose-leaf teas and teabags in the pantry all year round. I also have a bottle of chamomile capsules in my handbag to help calm me down when I’m not at home. If you’re on the lookout for natural supplements for stress relief for single mums, I highly recommend chamomile. But if you’ve tried this grassy yet lightly fruity herb and it’s not your cup of tea, you can try the other [natural sleep remedies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/sleep-supplements/) in our exhaustive list. Just make sure you don’t get so reliant on natural supplements to relieve your stress that you stop reading at this step. ## 4. Know that guilt is a wasted emotion Many single mums carry guilt around with their baby wipes i.e. always. An undercurrent of guilt in your everyday life is a big contributor to stress. Whatever the circumstances that led you to your single mum status, they are in the past. [Psych Central](https://psychcentral.com/) suggests a number way to deal with guilt. These include accepting and moving on, as well as learning from our past behaviours. For me, the best way to deal with guilt is to try and be the best version of myself moving forward. We can’t change the past or other people’s behaviours. We can, however, change how we behave and react. Just knowing you are doing your best lowers the guilt-o-meter and therefore, your stress. ***Further reading: [The truth about mum guilt and how to kiss it goodbye.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/)*** ## 5. Consider No.1 (which is you BTW) Single mothers are selfless creatures. We put our children first, and that’s that. Yet, as the captain of the ship, if you’re not in good shape, your children will suffer. Think: - Are you getting enough sleep? - How often do you [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/)? - Do you allow yourself that [all-important ‘me-time’](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/important-reasons-me-time-priority/)? - What’s your diet like? - Are you drinking too much? All these factors are relevant to your well-being and directly affect your stress levels. Remember, this list is especially for single mothers to reduce levels, so I’m not suggesting a complete overhaul of your life. This is simply not possible. Yet, if you can improve in just one area, it will mitigate stress from your life and make you a [more content single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/). ## How single mums can feel less stressed (cont.) ## 6. Delegate age-appropriate tasks to your kids There’s nothing better than fresh laundry – but why is folding clothes the most boring thing on the planet? As a seasoned single mum, I can 100% say that most of my stresses come from the never-ending list of to-dos around the house. Especially if you have little kids, dishes need to be washed, and toys need to be returned to their proper places. ALL. THE. TIME. Seriously, it seems impossible to have a clean home. Believe it or not, [assigning chores to your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/) is an incredible stress buster. Sometimes, we mums think no one can do it better than us. Well, that’s true, but it’s also super stressful and counterproductive. The trick is to delegate the easy chores that they can do well and that don’t stress you out if not done 100% your way. Another bonus is that when you delegate work around the house, you don’t feel like a servant in your own home – ouch, memories! – and things are getting done. It’s not just an excellent stress relief for single mums. You’re also doing a great service for your children when you’re teaching them life skills. They learn to be responsible and better regulate their emotions by having them do chores. If you’re looking for resources on age-appropriate chores, [this article](https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Chores_and_Children-125.aspx) from the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry is one of my favourites. ## 7. Differentiate help from hindrance As a stressed single mum, you’ll get offers of help. Having a solid, reliable support system is an instant stress diffuser. Don’t get me wrong … this is great. But make sure it’s the right help. Think: - Who is genuinely helping you? - And, who is a hindrance? When I first became a single mum, I was so desperate for help that I let anyone in. It wasn’t until a few months later, when I was able to breathe, that I realised many of these people were actually negatively adding to my mental load. By all means, [connect with other single mums](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) and offer one another support, but only if they are lifting your spirits and genuinely helping you. While, of course, you are doing the same for them. ## 8. Try time blocking instead of multitasking Admittedly, I am not a fan of multitasking. It just never worked for me. I’m the type of person who needs to focus on one thing before I can move on to something else. That includes chores, activities with my kids, work, and everything else. My friends and I found that focusing this way is an excellent stress reliever. If you’re finding yourself multitasking, you’re probably also not finishing anything. Or, if you’ve finished something, you might discover that it’s been done half-heartedly, if not totally mindlessly. It’s not surprising that multi-tasking can cause us single mums to be overwhelmed and stressed. So, why not try time blocking instead? It’s a time management tactic that lets you divide your day into blocks. You’re dedicating that entire block to a single task. I recommend getting a planner journal if you’ve never tried time blocking before. You can download an Excel or Google Sheets organiser if you prefer digital. If you’re the type of mum who loves the scent of ink on paper, head over to the nearest bookshop to get your planner or notepad. ## 9. Stay connected to your kids Our children are definite contributors to our stress, yet they also have a magical way of calming us. However busy I am, if I take just ten minutes to throw a netball with my daughter, I feel better. Allow yourself to just ‘be’ with your kids. Let them take you into their superbly simplified worlds. Play a game with them. Do a handstand with them. Just spend time chatting to them. You may find out something you didn’t know. And they will love the undivided attention. Losing yourself in the Land of Dinosaurs (I mean kids) is actually very healing. It will make you forget your stresses for a while and clear your mind. ## 10. Declutter Confession time: I also had a Marie Kondo phase. The operative word is “also” because I know you’ve been there, too. *\*wink\** Following the first time I encountered her videos, I decluttered my home, box by box, room by room. With the help of my daughters, I purged our house of things that caused us bitterness and sadness. (Obviously, our wedding photos were part of the casualty.) Slowly but surely, we noticed that our house was beginning to feel happy again, filled with things that sparked joy in our lives. And although I have long passed my KonMari phase, I still value the things that the decluttering process has taught me. Decluttering gave me clarity and peace of mind. When I’m stressed, I recognise that something in the environment is distracting me, and I have the power to remove it. While you might think cleaning *is* the cause of stress and not a source of stress relief for single mums, hear me out. By decluttering, you make space in your life for what really matters. With a clear space, you get to see what’s important. Remember: The more you declutter, the less you have to tidy and clean! ## Stress relief for single mums (cont.) ## 12. Seek out financial sanctuary Money, and lack of it, is a constant stress contender in the single mother world. This is especially true for single mothers and solo mothers who have the [full financial burden of their kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/ex-pays-me-nothing/) on their shoulders. Although I can’t make money appear from thin air for you (if I could, I would), I do have some suggestions to alleviate some of the financial stress: - Take time to [understand your financial situation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/) - Are you receiving all [applicable benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/)? - Could you lower your spending? - What are your financial goals, and how can you reach them? Knowing where you stand financially and having a plan won’t make you rich overnight, but it will ease the stress, and that’s what we’re aiming for here. ## 11. Make a routine and stick to it I harp on about routines, and with good reason. A [productive routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/good-routine/), well followed, is super-efficient. Routines leave less room for things to go haywire because everyone knows where they stand, what happens next, and what their part in it is. You’ll get through the mundane tasks faster and more effectively. This, in turn, will free up time and energy for stress-relieving activities such as me-time, self-improvement and quality time with your children. Consider things like your ‘before school’ and ‘homework’ routines. Do they work? If not, change them. Both you and your kids will benefit from good routines to guide you through your days. ## 12. Keep in mind the bigger picture Your daily grind may be hard. But if you have clear goals for your future and a process in place to reach them, the little things are easier to cope with. Perhaps a particular day has been a disaster on the domestic front, but so what? You’re studying for a new career that will pay better and improve your domestic life, so all is well. I try hard not to dwell on the little things. Just the other day, I was cooking dinner and knocked the cooking oil off the shelf, the lid came off, and the oil made its merry way across my kitchen floor. As you can imagine, the clean-up was huge. But, instead of cursing myself and my bad luck, I scrubbed away while firmly focusing on the Bali holiday I was saving for. It is our long-term objectives that will see us through the everyday chaos. Stick reminders of your goals around your house. Write a mission statement and stick it on the fridge door. Over-ride the little stresses by driving towards your dreams. ## 14. Don’t look back in anger As a single mum, you will likely have been through some stressful circumstances. Replaying the past will manifest negative emotions, causing further stress. Instead, learn from your past and move on. Even if you feel you have been treated unfairly, you are unable to change what happened. Look to the future and make sure it’s the happiest it can be for you and your family. Focus on your quality of life, your goals and all the positive aspects of your world. ## 15. Jump on a trampoline! When all else fails … jump! I wanted to end on a light note, but seriously, jumping on a trampoline is not just for kids. It’s also excellent as a full-body workout, not to mention helping improve your agility and balance. And we know that exercise releases happy hormones. It’s a fun stress relief for single mums, and I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks so. There are tens of YouTube fitness videos on rebounding. Some of these specifically indicate stress relief or help with depression. Don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it! Plus, the kids absolutely love trampolines, so taking them to the trampoline park when you’re stressed is always a good idea. You get to bond with your children in a fun and healthy activity while getting relief from stress at the same time. ## Summary: Single mother stress relief Being a single mum is a walk in the park – the Jurassic Park! From looking for child support, keeping the home, and parenting your kids all on your own, over time, it’s no surprise that single mothers are more prone to psychological stress compared to married parents. That’s why stress relief for single mums is super important! First, there’s prioritising yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup, after all. This includes eating healthy, getting enough rest, and working out. (fancy a jump on the trampoline, anyone?) You can even try natural supplements like chamomile to help you calm down. Prioritising yourself also includes being kind to yourself by not letting mum-guilt and anger eat you alive. Then, there’s eliminating unnecessary things that affect you emotionally. This includes recognising things (and people) that waste your time from what’s essential, and decluttering your space for more clarity. If money is a source of your stress – as it is for many of us – it will also help if you review your current financial state and cut back on unnecessary expenses. In addition, you can do many things to manage your family better. Discipline, creating routines, giving age-appropriate chores, and practising time management through time blocking are just some things that can provide stress relief for single mums. As a mum, getting things done alone is easier than engaging the kids. But the truth is the opposite. Feeling like you’re the only one responsible for everything will only cause you more stress. Finally, pat yourself on the back. Being a single mum is for the strong. You’re doing a job for two all by yourself … and you’re doing well. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** dealing with anxiety, me time, self care, guilt, staying calm --- ### [Finding positive male role models for your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/) **Published:** July 13, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’re bringing up your children as a single mother, you may have concerns about the lack of positive male role models in their lives. This could be due to an elusive or [absent father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-to-explain-an-absent-father/), or a present father who is more “hindrance than hero” when it comes to leading by example. Children need a variety of role models in their little worlds. Strong, positive people who shape how they behave, how they view the world, the friendships they form and the decisions they make. What they learn from these folks will essentially become the values that guide them now and throughout their lives. While it’s crucial for kids to have positive male figures in their lives, some men struggle with emotional baggage that can hinder their ability to be that role model. If you or someone you know is dealing with challenges like [men with mommy issues](https://tantricacademy.com/mommy-issues-in-men/), it’s essential to address these issues head-on to become the strong, supportive figure your child needs. And it’s not just boys that need this positive paternal presence. A young girl’s experiences of interaction with men will create a deep-rooted perception of the opposite sex. They learn what to expect from them, how they treat women and an understanding of their role in society. Yes, as single mothers, we are perfectly capable of getting out there and kicking a ball. But if we really want our children to have a positive male role model, short of marrying (the sadly already taken) Prince William, what else can we do? ## FINDING POSITIVE MALE ROLE MODELS FOR YOUR CHILDREN ### REQUEST MALE TEACHERS For children in a female-dominated world, it’s refreshing to learn from a man. There is no doubt that men think (don’t get me started!) and teach differently. This not only creates a more diverse learning experience, but also identifies males in the caregiving, educational roles. ### CHECK OUT THE OTHER DADS ![positive male role models](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933060-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933060 - Beanstalk Mums") Well, not literally! But if your child has a friend with a dad you approve of, then foster the friendship. The more time your child can spend in a home with a positive father figure, the more they will naturally learn the comfortable role of a male within a family unit. ### CHOOSE SPORTS WITH MALE COACHES This is where men really excel, so make sure you take advantage of it. And it’s about so much more than the sport in question. Male coaches often teach passionately about teamwork, focus and resilience. These skills are essential in the tool kit of life, and will be taken far beyond the perimeter of the pitch. ### NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS WITH MALE RELATIVES Ok, so dad’s not doing his bit, but there may be uncles, cousins, grandfathers or stepfathers that can pick up the slack. Encourage these relationships with regular exposure and positive reinforcements. And try to step back to allow their rapport to develop without your well-meaning intervention. ## Finding positive male role models for your children (cont.) ### CONSIDER MALE HELP AROUND THE HOME Or in other words: hire a manny. Aka: A male nanny. They are all the rage in the States, and the rest of the world is catching on. So, if domestic help is a financial option for you, choosing a manny could be the perfect solution. A nanny, a role model and a lesson in equality around the home in one equal package. ### CREATE A MIXED SEX SOCIAL WORLD Look around you. Are all your friends female? If so, try (if possible) to create a more mixed social circle. No need to drag male strangers off the street. But you could nurture current male friendships. Allow your children to see healthy platonic companionship and understand that relationships with men don’t have to be intimate. ### HUNT DOWN MALE MENTORS FOR EXTRA-CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES Whatever your child’s interest, try to find a positive male mentor to assist them. Be it music, art, debating or anything in between. For males to be involved in activities that your budding enthusiast is passionate about will encourage a healthy understanding of equality and like-minded thinking between the sexes. ### DISCOVER LOCAL ROLE MODEL PROGRAMMES There are a number of programmes Australia-wide that offer male mentors to boys lacking a father figure. For example, [Lads need Dads](https://ladsneeddads.org/programmes/) organises charity events and adventure activities, allowing boys to mix with positive male role models, whilst raising awareness of single mother issues in their community. Hats off to this fabulous idea! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Positive-male-role-models.png "Positive male role models - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting, Children **Tags:** male teachers, uncles, male mentors, male mentor programs --- ### [How to celebrate Father's Day with an absent Dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/cope-fathers-day-absent-dad/) **Published:** August 29, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Father’s Day can be a tender time for families, especially when a dad isn’t actively present. But just because things are different doesn’t mean the day has to be difficult or uncomfortable. Even if your ex has stepped away from his role after the divorce, you’re never alone in making this day meaningful. There are simple, heartfelt ways to enjoy the occasion that can fill the day with joy rather than sorrow. No need to worry, Mum—I’ve gathered some easy, uplifting ideas to help you and your children create special memories this Father’s Day without any feelings of loss or sadness. ***Further reading: [Books to help kids deal with an absent dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/books-kids-absent-dad/).*** ## **How to deal with Father’s Day with an absent Dad** ## **Understanding your kid’s emotions** Father’s Day can be tough for kids without their dad around. Whether he’s just not there physically or is emotionally distant, this day might make that absence stand out even more. Your child might feel sad, confused, or even mad about it. It’s important to remind them that whatever they’re feeling is totally okay. Having a chat about it can really help them sort through it all. You could say something like, “I know it’s hard not having your dad here today. It’s okay to be sad or mad about it.” Letting them know their emotions are valid can make all the difference in helping them get through the day. ## **A different Father’s Day celebration** Just because your child’s biological father is not around doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate Father’s Day. It might just look a little different. One idea is to celebrate the other important men in your kid’s life. Whether it’s an uncle, grandpa, or a family friend who’s always been there, these relationships can be just as meaningful. You could plan a small get-together or do something special with these father figures. It helps your child see that even though their biological father isn’t around, they still have people who love and support them. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1000014154-1066x800.jpg "1000014154 - Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [Finding positive male role models for your children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-positive-male-role-models-children/)*** ## **Remembering the good times** Father’s Day can also be a time to reflect on the good times, if there are any. If your kid’s father was once a part of their life, talking about those good times might comfort them. Look through old photos together or share happy stories. It keeps their dad’s memory alive without focusing on his shortcomings. But if the past relationship was rocky or painful, be careful with these conversations. You might focus more on the idea that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s okay to feel hurt. Let your child know that their father’s absence isn’t their fault and that it’s okay to have complicated feelings about it. ## **Handling school events and social situations** School events around Father’s Day without a father can be difficult. Making Father’s Day cards or having father-child activities at school can be a stark reminder that their dad is not there. It’s a good idea to prepare your child and help them better understand these situations ahead of time. Have an honest talk with them before these events. You can say, “I know it’s tough when everyone else is making something for their dad. But we can find another way to celebrate that’s just for us.” You could plan something fun to do together after school or help them make a card for a different male role model in their life. It’s also helpful to inform their teachers that the children’s father has left. Most teachers will be understanding and might offer alternative activities. ## **Keeping the Mum pep talk going** Father’s Day is a great time to have those deeper conversations with your child about their dad. They might have questions or just want to talk more about why their dad isn’t around. It’s important to be honest, but also to keep things age-appropriate. If they ask why their dad isn’t here, you could say something like, “I don’t know all the reasons, but what matters is that you have people who love you very much.” This can help reassure them, even if they don’t have all the answers. It’s also helpful to let them know they’re not the only ones going through this. You could share stories about other kids who’ve grown up without their fathers and have done just fine. This can show them that while it’s tough, it doesn’t define who they are or what they can achieve. ![Father's Day absent Dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1000014343-1066x800.jpg "1000014343 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Create new traditions** One way to make Father’s Day easier is to create new traditions that are all about your family and the things you love to do together. This could be anything from a special outing to a relaxing day at home doing your favourite activities. The goal is to build positive memories around Father’s Day that aren’t tied to their dad’s absence. This will make Father’s Day a day that your child looks forward to, not one they dread. ***Further reading: [Father’s Day ideas to help your child if dad’s not around.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/fathers-day-ideas-help-child-dads-not-around/)*** ## **What about step-parents and new relationships?** If you are in a new relationship and there’s a step-parent involved, Father’s Day can be a good time to honour this new family. Let your child know that it’s okay to celebrate the father figures in their life such as their step-dad, uncle, or grandfather. But make sure you are mindful of their emotions about their father. They might be conflicted about honouring someone else in place of their dad. Keep the communication open, and you might say something like, “It’s okay to miss your dad and still appreciate the people who are here for you now.” ## **Wrapping it up: How to handle Father’s Day with an absent father** Celebrating without a dad on Father’s Day isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be a sad day. I’ve discovered that a little creativity and a lot of love can turn it into a joyous celebration for everyone. Whatever you plan to do, you have the power to make this day meaningful for your kiddo. And in doing so, you are showing them that while their dad’s absence is part of their life, it doesn’t define who they are or what their future will be like. Remember, no matter how frustrated you are that their daddy is MIA, never talk about the absent parent negatively (in front of your kids, at least). After all, he’s still your kids’ father. You are already doing an amazing job, Mum. This Father’s Day, take a moment to recognise you’re not just a mother. You’re everything your child needs to flourish, even when their dad is absent. ![Father's Day absent dad | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Fathers-Day-absent-dad.png "Fathers Day absent dad - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/cope-fathers-day-absent-dad/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/cope-fathers-day-absent-dad/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting, Father's Day **Tags:** father's day, absent dad --- ### [20 Cheap, healthy meals your kids will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-healthy-meals-your-kids-will-love/) **Published:** May 2, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When preparing meals for your family, there’s a lot to consider. Does it fulfil their nutritional needs? How much does it cost? How long does it take to prepare? Is it a [healthy choice your kids will like](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-tricks-to-inspire-your-kids-to-eat-healthily-by-choice/)? With so many requirements to meet, it’s not surprising we have limited repertoires when it comes to cheap, healthy meals. Yet with so many recipes at our fingertips, information overload can hamper our quest to find the recipes that really work. In a mission to make your life easier, we’ve compiled a list of super-easy meals you can rely on every time. And, if none of these take your fancy and you need some extra help, take a look at our list of [meal delivery services Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/), for a super easy way to feed the family. ## CHEAP, HEALTHY MEALS YOUR KIDS WILL LOVE ### 1. Pesto Chicken Pasta Looking for a kid-friendly pasta recipe that looks and tastes amazing? This one is right on the money. Make it even healthier with whole wheat fettuccine for extra protein and fibre, and grab a jar of pesto from the store to cut prep time in half. [![Cheap, healthy kids meals | Pesto Chicken Pasta | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.kidspot.com.au/VyMy2Kn2/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2017/02/238-503615-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/pesto-chicken-pasta-recipe/fcgewvbn) **Source: [Kidspot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/pesto-chicken-pasta-recipe/fcgewvbn)** ### 2. Tuna Patties These yummy tuna patties are on the table in just a few minutes. Tuna and jasmine rice are the main ingredients, but you can easily substitute regular rice and other fish or even [chicken and beef mince](https://mincerecipes.info/ground-beef-mince-recipes/). [![Fast Tuna Patties with Sweet Chilli Mayo | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/L8aURBS3/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/fast-tuna-patties-with-sweet-chilli-mayo-32997-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/fast-tuna-patties-sweet-chilli-mayo/66041d40-2c68-4577-ad5d-2abbe44d318b?r=recipes/kidsmains&c=978761d4-0529-4e29-9891-42e969c375b8/Kids%20mains) **Source: [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/fast-tuna-patties-sweet-chilli-mayo/66041d40-2c68-4577-ad5d-2abbe44d318b?r=recipes/kidsmains&c=978761d4-0529-4e29-9891-42e969c375b8/Kids%20mains)** ### 3. Chicken, Corn and Risoni Soup Nothing’s easier than this chicken, corn and risoni soup after a tiring day at school and work. It’s also great if your kids are sick and want comfort food. Use canned corn and rotisserie chicken if you’re pressed for time. [![Cheap, healthy kids meals |Chicken Corn and Risoni Soup | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/faZprJiX/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/chicken-corn-and-risoni-soup-85052-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/chicken-corn-risoni-soup-2/59f6155d-6a3a-495e-83ce-58ceb4bc889b) **Source: [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/chicken-corn-risoni-soup-2/59f6155d-6a3a-495e-83ce-58ceb4bc889b)** ### 4. Ham and Egg Pasta Even picky eaters will love this ham and egg pasta that comes together in no time. Grill the ham, cook pasta as usual, add eggs, milk, cheese, and you’re done. [![Ham and Egg Pasta | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/vre7YgVx/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/ham-and-egg-pasta-37940-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/ham-egg-pasta/c8327aeb-b690-4b8a-a3a0-6efd30316bee?r=recipes/kidsmains&c=978761d4-0529-4e29-9891-42e969c375b8/Kids%20mains) **Source: [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/ham-egg-pasta/c8327aeb-b690-4b8a-a3a0-6efd30316bee?r=recipes/kidsmains&c=978761d4-0529-4e29-9891-42e969c375b8/Kids%20mains)** ## CHEAP, HEALTHY MEALS (cont.) ### 5. Impossible Pie The impossible pie is the exact opposite of the name…it’s super easy, ready in half an hour (minus prep time), and costs under $10 for a family of four. Cheap, delicious, and healthy…the pie is filled with grated carrot and zucchini, corn kernels, peppers, and mushrooms. ![Impossible pie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Impossible-pie.jpg "Impossible pie - Beanstalk Mums") **Source: [Stay at Home Mum](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/impossible-pie/)** ### 6. Porcupine Mince Balls Tell your kids you’re having porcupine mince balls for dinner, and no, it’s not a prank. These are just regular meatballs rolled in rice that you can sneak grated veggies in. Go crazy and throw in carrots and zucchini…we promise your kids won’t notice. [![Porcupine Meat Balls | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Porcupine-meatballs-2-scaled.jpg)](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/porcupine-mince-balls/) **Source: [Stay at Home Mum](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/porcupine-mince-balls/)** ### 7. Lighter Fish Finger Sarnies Kids love anything breaded and deep-fried. You can serve up a reduced-calorie, fat and salt version with these lighter fish finger sarnies. The recipe calls for haddock loin or other plump white fish, but feel free to use whatever meat you have at home. [![Cheap, healthy kids meals | Lighter Fish Finger Sarnies | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/lighter-fish-finger-sarnies-edcd4c2.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/lighter-fish-finger-sarnies) **Source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/lighter-fish-finger-sarnies)** ### 8. Five Spice Salmon Tacos Serve these guilt-free salmon tacos for taco night and watch them disappear. Salmon fillets, cucumber, yoghurt, and five-spice powder are the main ingredients, but you can easily substitute whatever’s available. **Source: [Jamie Oliver](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/fish-recipes/five-spice-salmon-tacos/#6EpSJ4pq395GgAXz.97)** ## HEALTHY KID FRIENDLY DINNERS (CONT.) ### 9. Pineapple Fried Rice This pineapple fried rice recipe is the answer if you want to make something fast, cheap and healthy for the kids. Use frozen mixed veggies if you don’t have fresh, or use whatever you have on hand. Make it vegetarian by substituting eggs for the chicken sausage. [![Cheap, healthy kids meals | Pineapple Fried Rice | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.superhealthykids.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/SHK-Pineapple-Fried-Rice2-497x745.jpg)](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/pineapple-fried-rice/) **Source: [Super Healthy Kids](https://www.superhealthykids.com/recipes/pineapple-fried-rice/)** ### 10. Pizza Spaghetti Pizza spaghetti combines two kid favourites in a cheap, easy and healthy recipe. The meat sauce is lean beef mince, sausage links and turkey pepperoni with a sprinkling of fresh basil and parsley. Best of all, it’s ready in less than an hour. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Pizza-spaghetti_exps_hck18_37507_b03_07_1b.jpg "Pizza-spaghetti_exps_hck18_37507_b03_07_1b - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/pizza-spaghetti/) **Source: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/pizza-spaghetti/)** ### 11. Baked Chicken Dinner This simple baked chicken dinner is family-friendly and easy on the wallet. Chicken thighs (substitute chicken breast or rotisserie chicken if you like), potatoes, prosciutto and olives make up the bulk of this flavourful meal. [![Cheap, healthy kids meals | Baked Chicken Dinner | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/J4-YFUdf/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/baked-chicken-dinner-23802-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/baked-chicken-dinner/882027d0-d6ea-43f1-a443-95eafe7d8c4e) **Source:** [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/baked-chicken-dinner/882027d0-d6ea-43f1-a443-95eafe7d8c4e) ### 12. Creamy Curried Sausages Curry and children don’t usually mix, but this creamy curried sausage recipe is guaranteed to be a hit with everyone. The sausages and creamy sauce almost hide the taste of green beans. The curry is also very mild, and you can easily reduce the amount of spice that goes in. [![Creamy Curried Sausages | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.kidspot.com.au/bsSV2slV/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2015/03/creamy-curried-sausages-600148-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/creamy-curried-sausages-recipe/52fz3mqi?r=collection/easydinnerrecipes&c=arj2bqyn/Easy%20dinner%20recipes) **Source: [Kidspot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/creamy-curried-sausages-recipe/52fz3mqi?r=collection/easydinnerrecipes&c=arj2bqyn/Easy%20dinner%20recipes)** ### 13. Greek Pasta Bake Greek is one of the healthiest cuisines in the world, and this pasta dish, packed with lean meat and a variety of veggies, is no exception. Cover in more cheese if you want to hide the healthy stuff, and remember to taste as you go when whipping up the tomato sauce. By the way, this easy-peasy pasta recipe serves 8, so there will definitely be enough for seconds. [![Greek pasta bake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/greek-pasta-bake.jpg "greek pasta bake - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/contest-winning-greek-pasta-bake/) **Source: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/contest-winning-greek-pasta-bake/)** ### 14. Chicken, Pepper and Corn Stir-Fry Stir-frying is known as a healthy way to cook, since you use a tiny splash of oil and retain the crispness and nutrients of the veggies. This colourful chicken dish gets done in just 30 minutes, so it’s perfect when you don’t have a lot of time. Serve on a bed of hot rice for a full-on Asian deliciousness. [![Chicken pepper and corn stir fry | Healthy meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/chicken-pepper-and-corn-stir-fry.jpeg "chicken pepper and corn stir-fry - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/chicken-pepper-and-corn-stir-fry-3362501) **Source: [Food Network](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/chicken-pepper-and-corn-stir-fry-3362501)** ### 15. Pesto-Prosciutto Flatbread Turn your ordinary pizza night into a healthy pizza night with this quick and easy 20-minute flatbread recipe. Use store-bought pizza dough if you’re scrimped on time, or make it a family affair by making dough from scratch with the kids. You can even switch the toppings to… whatever you like! [![Pesto prosciutto flatbread](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/prosciutto-flatbread.jpg "prosciutto flatbread - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bhg.com/recipe/pesto-prosciutto-flatbread/) **Source: [Better Homes & Gardens](https://www.bhg.com/recipe/pesto-prosciutto-flatbread/)** ### 16. Pork and Kimchi Fried Rice Whether or not you or the kids are riding on the Korean wave, no one can resist this kimchi and gochujang fried rice. Admittedly, kimchi is a polarising flavour; some people find its smell and taste off-putting. But don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it. Kimchi is an excellent probiotic that will help your household maintain healthy digestion. [![Pork and kimchi fried rice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/pork-and-kimchi-fried-rice.jpg "pork and kimchi fried rice - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/250980/korean-pork-kimchi-fried-rice/) **Source: [EatingWell](https://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/250980/korean-pork-kimchi-fried-rice/)** ### 17. Omurice Continuing on our East Asian streak, have you tried omurice? Omurice – which comes from combining omelette and rice – is just that: ketchup rice stuffed in an omelette. If your kids are into Japanese anime or manga, they will defo thank you for making this. [![Omurice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/omurice-3OPTM.jpg "omurice-3OPTM - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pickledplum.com/omurice-japanese-omelet-recipe/) **Source: [Pickled Plum](https://pickledplum.com/omurice-japanese-omelet-recipe/)** ### 18. Sweetcorn, Squash and Spring Onion Ramen This colourful bowl is a hearty and healthy delight, perfect for a cozy, cold night. If you can’t find fresh egg noodles or are simply pressed for time, grab a package or two of instant ramen on the way home. Toss in leftover veggies from the fridge, and top with a boiled egg. Yum! [![Sweetcorn squash and spring onion ramen | Healthy meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Sweetcorn-squash-spring-onion-ramen.jpg "Sweetcorn-squash--spring-onion-ramen - Beanstalk Mums")](https://realfood.tesco.com/recipes/sweetcorn-squash-and-spring-onion-ramen.html) **Source: [Tesco Real Food](https://realfood.tesco.com/recipes/sweetcorn-squash-and-spring-onion-ramen.html)** ### 19. Teriyaki Tofu This simple dish is an excellent gateway to the amazing world of tofu. Tofu is incredibly cheap, and it’s easy to whisk teriyaki sauce from soy sauce, sugar, garlic powder, and onion powder. It’s always nice to have fresh tofu on hand, since it’s a pretty versatile ingredient. It works as a meat substitute and can be used as an extender in meatballs and patties, too. [![teriyaki tofu](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/teriyaki-tofu.jpg "teriyaki tofu - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.foodandwine.com/recipes/teriyaki-tofu) **Source: [Food & Wine](https://www.foodandwine.com/recipes/teriyaki-tofu)** ### 20. Pasta with Ham, Peas and Cream Finally, it’s Nigella Lawson’s recipe, so what could go wrong? This 5-ingredient carbonara riff is a perfect after-work/after-school meal that will surely impress kids and teens alike. The recipe is for 2 to 3 kids, so you’d have to double or triple the recipe if older kids or adults will be eating. Whip up a huge batch because everyone will be asking for seconds and thirds! [![Pasta with ham peas and cream | Healthy meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/pasta-with-ham-peas-and-cream-563b1f0d2fba1.jpg "pasta-with-ham-peas-and-cream-563b1f0d2fba1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.nigella.com/recipes/pasta-with-ham-peas-and-cream) **Source: [Nigella.com](https://www.nigella.com/recipes/pasta-with-ham-peas-and-cream)** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-healthy-meals-your-kids-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/cheap-healthy-meals-your-kids-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Money, Food **Tags:** healthy food, kids food, mealtime, budget meals --- ### [8 Easy Easter cakes to delight your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-cakes/) **Published:** February 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Whatever you’re planning this Easter, you can’t go wrong with a deliciously decadent cake. Make it with your kids as an Easter activity, devour it with friends … or stare at it proudly and share it on Instagram. It’s time to get in the cake-making mood with our list of easy Easter cakes to delight your kids. ### [1. Easy White Chocolate Easter Cake](https://bakeplaysmile.com/easy-white-chocolate-easter-cake/) First on our list of easy Easter cakes: What better way to celebrate Easter than this too-cute-for-words Easter bunny cake? It’s ready in 15 minutes, thanks to store-bought white chocolate mud cake. [![Easy white chocolate Easter cake](https://bakeplaysmile.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Easy-White-Chocolate-Easter-Cake-5.jpg)](https://bakeplaysmile.com/easy-white-chocolate-easter-cake/) Get recipe here: [Bake Play Smile](https://bakeplaysmile.com/easy-white-chocolate-easter-cake/) ### [2. Easter Nest Cake](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/easter-nest-cake) This showstopper looks complicated but is actually super easy to make … even kids can help. After baking the cake, it’s just a matter or arranging chocolate eggs on top. [![Easter Nest Cake | Easy Easter Cakes | Beanstalk Mums](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/easter-nest-cake-2d07ae3.jpg)](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/easter-nest-cake) Get recipe here: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/easter-nest-cake) ### [3. Easy Bunny Cupcakes](https://www.yourcupofcake.com/easy-bunny-cupcakes/) When your sweet tooth craves something bite-sized for Easter, try these easy bunny cupcakes. Save time by using cake mix. You can easily double the recipe if you’re having a party. [![Easy bunny cupcakes](https://www.yourcupofcake.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Bunny-Ear-Cupcakes-641x1024.jpg)](https://www.yourcupofcake.com/easy-bunny-cupcakes/) Get recipe here: [Your Cup of Cake](https://www.yourcupofcake.com/easy-bunny-cupcakes/) ### [4. Easter Polka Dot Cake](https://www.sugarhero.com/easter-polka-dot-cake/) How gorgeous is this polka dot cake? It’s fun and colourful but also understated enough to wow the adults. Perfect for tea and birthday parties! [![Easter Polka Dot Cake | From SugarHero.com](https://www.sugarhero.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/easter-polka-dot-cake-1-1.jpg)](https://www.sugarhero.com/easter-polka-dot-cake/) Get recipe here: [Sugar Hero](https://www.sugarhero.com/easter-polka-dot-cake/) ## 8 Easy Easter cakes to delight your kids (cont.) ### [5. Easter Lamb Cake](https://www.delish.com/uk/cooking/recipes/a35402909/easy-lamb-cake-recipe/) When it comes to easy Easter cakes, this adorable lamb cake is a guaranteed hit. The recipe uses cake mix and cool whip topping to save time, but you can make your own homemade frosting. [![Easy Easter Cakes | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/easter-lamb-cake-top-easy-healthy-dessert-design-for-cheap-party-decor-project.jpg "easter-lamb-cake-top-easy-healthy-dessert-design-for-cheap-party-decor-project - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.delish.com/uk/cooking/recipes/a35402909/easy-lamb-cake-recipe/) Get recipe here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/uk/cooking/recipes/a35402909/easy-lamb-cake-recipe/) ### [6. Robins Nest Cupcakes](https://www.tastesoflizzyt.com/robins-nest-cupcakes-recipe/) Our second cupcake recipe for Easter is a work of art. This requires basic baking and piping skills, and the rest is just decorating with chocolate sprinkles and mini eggs. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Robins-nest-cupcakes-1200-8-533x800.jpg "Robins-nest-cupcakes-1200-8 - Beanstalk Mums") Get recipe here: [Tastes of Lizzy T](https://www.tastesoflizzyt.com/robins-nest-cupcakes-recipe/) ### 7. [15-Minute Chocolate Overload Easter Cake](https://bakeplaysmile.com/cheats-15-minute-chocolate-overload-easter-cake/) Here’s another easy Easter cake that’s ready in 15 minutes. Again, the secret is store-bought mud cake and decorations. All you need to do is assemble everything. [![Easy Easter Cakes | Beanstalk Mums](https://bakeplaysmile.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/15-Minute-Chocolate-Overload-Easter-Cake-2.jpg)](https://bakeplaysmile.com/cheats-15-minute-chocolate-overload-easter-cake/) Get recipe here: [Bake Play Smile](https://bakeplaysmile.com/cheats-15-minute-chocolate-overload-easter-cake/) ### [8. Rainbow Cake](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheats-rainbow-cake/6znm2hu2) Last but not least for easy Easter cakes: This is the only cake on our list that requires you to make the decoration (chocolate shards), but spending the extra time is so worth it when you see the end result. This uses a Rainbow Cake from Coles, but feel free to DIY if you have time. [![Cheat’s Rainbow Cake | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.taste.com.au/ddaE03RP/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2019/01/cheats-rainbow-cake-146423-1.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheats-rainbow-cake/6znm2hu2) Get recipe here: [Taste.com.au](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/cheats-rainbow-cake/6znm2hu2) ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Get more fab Easter ideas here: [21 Easter gifts for kids which have nothing to do with chocolate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/) [15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Easter-Cakes1.jpg "Easter Cakes1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-cakes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easy-easter-cakes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter, Food **Tags:** baking, Good Friday, Easter Monday, long weekend, desserts --- ### [Brilliant time management tips for busy single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/) **Published:** June 7, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you were to Google the words ‘time management’, you would find heaps of search results about time management relating to work. Yet time management isn’t only important in the business world. It’s important in all areas of our lives … particularly for busy single mums. Do you have days when you simply don’t know where to start? Or you try to do everything at the same time and end up doing nothing at all? The spectrum upon which we single mothers live is huge. Our to-do list is wide-ranging. Forget simply organising the working day. We must be on top of our children’s schools, all over their homework, a step ahead of their activities, sports and social lives. With each day resolutely only allowing us 24 hours, we have to be the masters of time management. However, it’s not always that easy. As the number of tasks increases and you find yourself getting more exhausted, it can be hard to think straight and take actions that will simplify, streamline and de-stress your life. If you find yourself [washing dishes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-easy-tips-to-avoid-washing-up/) at ten o’clock at night while you struggle to remember if you ate breakfast that morning, it could mean your time management skills are in need of some fine-tuning. Here are our time management tips for busy single mums. ## Get a diary, a calendar or an app Get yourself tooled-up with something to record your tasks for each day. If you’re not into your devices, then a simple wall calendar or diary will suffice. Best of all, try a reminder app for your phone. Wherever you are, it will notify you of what needs doing and when. There are heaps of helpful free apps available. Try [Alarmed](https://itunes.apple.com/au/app/alarmed-reminders-+-timers/id371886784?mt=8) or [Remember The Milk](https://itunes.apple.com/au/app/remember-the-milk/id293561396?mt=8). ## Plan, plan, plan An often overlooked exercise, planning is essential in ensuring you make the very most out of every day. You should even plan a time to plan! Take ten minutes every evening to prepare for the following day. Run through the necessities and allocate them a time slot. Then work out what else you have time for and what can wait. It’s a great opportunity to assign a time slot of ‘you time’. Even just 15 minutes for a cup of tea and to make that all-important self-care happen. ## Limit the ‘yes’ word Single mothers are the masters of keeping everyone happy. Children, your boss, friends, family. Yet it is often at detriment to yourself. Stop and think before you commit to a new activity for your children, or those extra hours your boss needs from you. And if a friend asks you to look after their child, consider whether it’s practical before saying ‘yes’. If you say it all the time, people come to expect it of you and may take you for granted. Try saying ‘no’ occasionally and feel the pressure lift a little. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Pexels-vika-glitter-392079-1650092-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-vika-glitter-392079-1650092 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Expect the unexpected It’s all very well making a plan, but you must be flexible. When kids are involved, you can bet a high sum of money on your day spiralling out of control at some point. Have a contingency plan by allowing a slot of free time at the end of each day. You can use this to catch up on anything important you didn’t have time for. Or, if your day was a huge success and you got everything done, use the time to do something nice for yourself. Go on. You deserve it. ## Prioritise for pole position When planning, keep your priorities clear in your mind. What is most important to you personally? As a single mum, you’ll probably put your children at the top of the list, then maybe your work. Make sure your friends score a good spot, and please don’t demote yourself to the bottom of the list. If your priorities are well-defined, you will make quicker decisions and feel more satisfied at the end of each day. ## Outsource without guilt ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Pexels-darina-belonogova-7959652-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-darina-belonogova-7959652 - Beanstalk Mums") Outsourcing is not just a phrase for businesses. It’s also handy in the multi-faceted single-parent world. If there’s a task you’re just no good at or simply don’t have time for, then consider outsourcing it. For example, maybe you can’t sew. It takes you ages, and the result is unsatisfactory. So if a school dress needs mending, get a professional to do it. It may cost a little, but the time saved and the choice of swear words avoided will make it totally worthwhile. Think about what you can outsource and do it without guilt. ## Work out your time-wasters Think about any tasks that hamper your days and devise ways to streamline them. For example, if you find yourself at the supermarket more than twice a week, you could well be wasting your time. Plan your meals, write a list and do one big shop, or even better, change to [online grocery shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-grocery-shopping-tips/) instead. You will find that you save not only valuable time, but you’ll [save money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/save-money-groceries/) too. Think about all your chores that take longer than they realistically should, and formulate simple time-saving variations. A good way to do this is to practice minimalism and eliminate tasks and ‘things’ from your life that are no longer needed. ## Time management on your device As wonderful as computers, phones, and tablets are, they are also incredible time-wasters. We are often unwittingly drawn towards them to waste a happy half-hour doing, well … nothing much. Allocate times throughout the day to deal with emails, reply to texts and do anything web-related. If need be, turn off your devices at certain times. I have been guilty of many overcooked meals due to an enthusiastic text conversation at the wrong time! Don’t get sucked-in. Be strong! ## Final words: Time management for single mums Remember, time management is your superpower in the chaotic realm of single parenting. You are the conductor of this crazy symphony called Life, and you can dance to the beat of your own organised drum. As you juggle work, household chores, and your little ones’ demands, embracing the notion that you’re not alone in this whirlwind adventure is crucial. Sometimes, when all else fails, you can find solace that even the greatest superheroes have their own messy capes and spilled milk incidents. Now, go forth, fabulous single mums, armed with these time management tips and a sparkle in your eye. Life may throw curveballs your way, but you have the power to knock them out of the park. Keep being the superhero your children look up to, and remember to give yourself a well-deserved break now and then. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** time managment, reminder apps, daily planning, time management tips --- ### [10 Tips on how to survive Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** November 3, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It’s starting to feel a lot like Christmas as advertisers ramp up their campaigns and subject us to images of perfect families enjoying perfect festive celebrations. As a single parent, it’s not unusual to feel twinges of anxiety around this time. Christmas is sold commercially as “family time”, and if yours isn’t a stereotypical set-up, it’s not just the Christmas shopping that could be stressing you out. The pressure is on to ensure the important little people in your world have the best Christmas ever, and you probably wouldn’t mind having a little fun yourself. Those days of pondering whether to make or buy the mince pies are well and truly over as you deal with the logistics of [co-parenting at Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-co-parent/)[,](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-co-parent/) possible [money worries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/) and [good old guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-guilts-christmas/) if you fail to replicate the Christmas from the Aldi ad. Well, it’s time to ditch the unrealistic expectations and accept that your Christmas offering may be a little different from the norm, but it’ll be just as good. And as long as the presents are wrapped and the kids are happy, you will have pulled it off. Here are 10 super-simple tips to survive Christmas as a single mum. ***Further reading: [5 Tips to stop your narcissistic ex ruining Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stop-your-narcissistic-ex-ruining-christmas/).*** ## 10 Tips to survive Christmas as a single mum ## 1. Crystal clear communication If you’ve been having communication breakdowns with your children’s father, then now’s the time to get it sorted. Don’t allow room for error on this all-important day. Make plans well in advance. If it’s done verbally, then confirm it by text or email. And confirm it again a day or two before. Better still, include arrangements for Christmas in your [parenting plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/), as they will dictate what happens, eliminating possible confusion and the need to communicate. Less communication can mean fewer opportunities for disagreements. ***Further reading: [12 Suggestions for successfully sharing Christmas as a co-parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-co-parent/).*** ## 2. Spare your children the dreaded question Depending on the ages of your children, don’t ask them who they want to spend Christmas with. They’ll be crushed by the weight of indecision, guilt and worry that is not their burden. Unless your children are old enough to make sensible and stress-free choices, you make the decisions to ensure they have a happy and memorable day. Don’t be fooled here; our gorgeous kids will often say what they think we want to hear, rather than what they really want. (You can, of course, do this, but prepare for Christmas Day alone.) Christmas is too important to take that risk. I swear you’ll save major holiday-ruining disappointment. ## 3. Santa and his sat nav Younger children living between two homes can get understandably confused and upset regarding the arrival of Santa. Don’t brush off their concerns. Take time to explain that Santa knows exactly where all children are sleeping, even if there’s a last-minute change. You could even get technical with an app to organise for your child to get a [personalised message from Santa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/personalised-messages-from-santa/) … what will give them better peace of mind than a message from the man himself? Think ahead and don’t allow worry to infringe on their magical childhood moments. ![Enlist the help of some friendly elves](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-27.png "In article image 27 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to get through Christmas as a single mum (cont.) ## 4. Enlist the help of some friendly elves Christmas is a time of goodwill, so make sure you accept everything that comes your way. Older kids can help by wrapping presents for younger kids and decorating the house. Ask friends to grab you certain bits while they’re out Christmas shopping. And, if it’s possible, delegate some jobs to their dad. Make a list and remind him it’s a team effort. ## 5. Don’t blow your Christmas budget The family budget and the holidays seem to be archenemies, aren’t they? But with careful planning and determination, there are lots of ways to [have a cheap, yet cheerful Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/). Plan a budget for gifts and for the day itself, and stick to it. Draw your Christmas shopping money from the bank and keep it in a separate purse so you can track your spending. Shop online for Christmas presents and make the most of free delivery and price comparisons. The holidays are a death trap of impulse buys, so determine how much money you can afford to spend and lock that amount – no explanation and no apology. I remember my first Christmas as a single mum. To compensate for the heartache my kids went through, it meant the death of the family budget for January! Don’t get carried away buying heaps of luxurious food in an attempt to make the day perfect. Everyone will fill up on chocolates and mince pies anyway. Special meals don’t have to be expensive. In the end, what’s important is spending time together for Christmas dinner. ## 6. Get the gifts right Money may be tight, so don’t waste it on unwanted presents. Make sure your children make Christmas lists for Santa (or a wish list for the older ones). Get them to start a good six weeks in advance and leave it on the side for ideas as and when they think of them. It’ll be more precise, and you can get started on the Christmas shopping earlier. Make sure your kids have a clear understanding of the idea of gifting according to your means. Kids may even have visions of the grand items they want, so it’s important to set clear boundaries and expectations up front. Encourage them to openly discuss their feelings when they make decisions on gift-giving. You would probably hear a few moans and groans in the beginning, but it’s one way to reduce gift expenses. Remember, you don’t need to keep up with the Joneses and what everyone else is getting their kids for Christmas. Focus on your children and your budget, then buy accordingly. ## Tips to survive Christmas as a single mum continue ## 7. Create new family traditions If Christmas just doesn’t seem right anymore, initiate some [new festive traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-traditions-separated-families/) that you and your children can continue through the years. Create some new traditions to include activities you all want to allow you to spend those holiday minutes in order. Make a different snack for Rudolf, have a particular brekkie or watch a certain festive movie on Christmas Eve. Be guided by your kids and fall into sync with what they like to do at Christmas. But also, make sure you don’t give up your time in all kinds of activities that fit into your schedule. Have arrangements for younger kids and lots of downtime for older kids. New traditions are fun and will make your new-style Christmases more familiar, comfortable and easier to manage. ## 8. Spend the day with the kids … not in the kitchen Don’t get carried away with an elaborate meal plan for the big day. Let’s face it, we all fill up on naughty Christmas treats anyway. Keep it easy and cheat! Utilise the massive array of supermarket offerings such as pre-plated platters, ready-to-roast meats, and prepared veg and salads. Grocery shop online to ensure you stay within budget and avoid the crowds. Oh, and if you have guests coming, make sure they don’t turn up empty-handed. Your children would much rather you check out their new presents with them than watch you slaving over a stove for a meal they are too stuffed with chocolate to eat. ***Further reading: [What to do if you’re alone with your kids on Christmas Day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alone-with-your-kids-on-christmas-day/)*** ![Spend the day with the kids … not in the kitchen - survive Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/In-article-image-22.png "In article image 22 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 9. Capture Christmas as a single mum Make sure you get some really good photos of the day. Then frame one where everyone looks particularly happy and place it strategically in your home. It’ll be a constant reminder to your children (and you) that even though Christmas is different now, it’s still a fabulously fun day. ## 10. Merry Christmas to me When you’re done with the 9 ways for a single mum to survive the holidays, remember it’s your Christmas too. Use the day to chill out and relax a little. It’s important to step back and give yourself some much-needed TLC. It’s important for your children to see that the day’s not all about them. Arrange small gifts that they can give you so they feel the [spirit of giving](https://www.scholastic.com/parents/family-life/social-emotional-learning/social-skills-for-kids/get-giving-spirit.html) as well as receiving. And, if your children aren’t with you on Christmas Day, [make plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/alone-christmas-day/) so you don’t feel down. Arrange to see friends or family, get a volunteering gig or read a trashy novel to enjoy the peace and quiet. Give yourself some love and enjoy some quiet time. Personally, after going through so much, I made the active decision to never again allow my holidays to be sad. ## My final thoughts about Christmas as a single mum In the midst of the holiday hustle and bustle, remember this: once you become a single mum, you are already a superhero in your children’s eyes. Christmas may come with its unique set of challenges, but it’s also an opportunity to create beautiful memories and show your little ones the true meaning of love and resilience. Let go of the pressure to conform to unrealistic standards. Embrace the fact that your Christmas may look a bit different, but it will be just as special. Your crystal clear communication and thoughtful planning will help navigate the co-parenting maze, ensuring a smoother holiday season. Spare your children the burden of tough decisions, and let them revel in the magic of the day. Santa will find his way, and friendly elves (friends and family) can lend a hand. Stick to your budget, focus on meaningful gifts, and create new traditions that reflect your family’s uniqueness. Spend quality time with your children instead of slaving in the kitchen, and capture those precious moments. Remember, it’s your Christmas too. Take a moment to relax and appreciate your own spirit of giving. Whether your children are with you or not, cherish the holiday in your own way. This Christmas, celebrate the strength and love that define your family, and let the joy of the season fill your hearts. Merry Christmas! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas lists, christmas budget, co-parenting at Christmas, Christmas alone, Christmas traditions --- ### [10 Super cool bedroom ideas for young boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedroom-ideas-young-boys/) **Published:** May 29, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Looking to decorate your little boy’s bedroom? It’s gonna be fun as there are some really great design ideas out there, whatever your little man is into … and they don’t have to cost the earth. Get inspired with our list of cool bedroom ideas for little boys. ***Further reading: [7 Clever ideas to set up a shared bedroom for kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/shared-bedroom-for-kids/)*** ## 10 Cool bedroom ideas for young boys ### 1. The dinosaur age A dinosaur theme is always a winner if you’re looking for cool bedroom ideas for young boys. Dinosaurs may be extinct, but they never go out of style. Check out the entire Jurassic Park franchise and the recent movies if you’re starved for inspiration. The bedroom below is a breeze to copy. Pick two main colours to work with (here it’s green and brown) and coordinate your bedding and décor accordingly. Notice the matching patterns on the pillow cases, sheets and quilt. These are from Pottery Barn Kids, but you can find similar designs on Etsy and Amazon. The bulletin board and big dinosaur print on the accent wall are nice touches. If you have a white room and don’t want to paint anything, try a nice dark green trim to start with. Then go to town on the decor. Young boys love anything with dinosaur prints. Throw in some dino plushies, books, and lamp shades. ![Bedroom Ideas for Young Boys | Beanstalk Mums](https://assets.pkimgs.com/pkimgs/ab/images/dp/wcm/202011/0127/dino-art-c.jpg) Image source: [Pottery Barn Kids](https://www.potterybarnkids.com/) ### 2. Rockstar madness Young rock stars need a bedroom to match their cool personality. The room below is perfect for an older boy. The dark accent wall makes the marquee letters and string lights really stand out. A guitar is a no-brainer, but it can be any musical instrument that your child loves. Keyboards, a drum set, or even an old school LP player are all excellent choices. For the bedding, a classic plaid pattern or pin stripe adds interest but doesn’t distract from the décor above the bed. The big rug and furry chair in neutral shades complement the dark furniture and bed frame. For a younger boy, choose bold prints for the bedding and fun pillows shaped like instruments or musical notes. Add pops of colour here and there with rock star posters, hanging pennants, and bright rugs. One of the best things about the rock star theme is that it works with whatever furniture you have. ![Bedroom Ideas for Young Boys | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.mydesignweek.eu/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Rock-Star-10-amazing-music-themed-bedrooms-mydesignweek.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Home Design Lover](https://homedesignlover.com/bedroom-designs/music-themed-bedrooms/) ### 3. Underwater There are plenty of underwater bedroom ideas for young boys out there, from serene Nordic nautical to full-on Pirates of the Caribbean. We like this theme because it’s easy to pull off, no matter the budget. You’ll find an endless supply of underwater-themed merchandise online and in thrift shops, so choosing the right décor is just a matter of preference. The room below is just a regular bedroom with a giant underwater mural for the accent wall. You can get a similar look by painting the walls blue and using decals or seamless wallpaper…no artistic skills needed! This theme works with all types of furniture. You can use any bedding you like (we like simple white sheets and piped pillows). Go with shades of blue and aqua, and maybe throw in some warm rugs and accessories for contrast. Hang up nautical prints or an old ship’s wheel on the wall to complete the look. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Bedroom-1200x800.jpg "Bedroom - Beanstalk Mums") Image source: [Home Edit](https://www.homedit.com/give-your-bedroom-an-underwater-theme/) ### 4. The sports fan If your little guy is an athlete or into sports, he will love a sports-themed bedroom like this one. The main colours (cool blue with bits of warm orange and maroon here and there) pop because of the plain white walls, but a warm or neutral base would also look great. This room is all about the bedding. How adorable are those football and baseball-shaped pillows? And the quilt with the sporty appliques is just perfect. The fun prints on the walls also add charm. Instead of prints, try name decals or letters that spell out your kid’s name to really make it his own. The brown wooden bed frame ties the look together and offsets the cool colours of the room. If you have white or light-coloured furniture, choose bright red, brown or dark blue accents. Plaid or wide stripes and natural woven rugs would look fab as well. ![Bedroom Ideas for Young Boys | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.home-designing.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/red-white-and-blue-sporting-themed-boys-room.jpeg) Image source: [Home Designing](http://www.home-designing.com/2013/03/boys-room-designs-ideas/red-white-and-blue-sporting-themed-boys-room) ### 5. Intrepid explorer Adventure is out there, but you can bring it indoors with an explorer-themed bedroom for your kid. Like dinosaurs, this is one of those classic bedroom ideas for young boys. With the right décor and accessories, you can turn an ordinary room into a fun and comfy space that your little explorer will love. Intrepid explorers need maps, books, treasure chests and good company on their exciting adventures. A big map on the wall with an X to mark the treasure is the perfect focal point. A map or a poster of their favourite place in the world is also an excellent alternative. Use any colour scheme you want. We like a blue/orange or green/maroon combo that looks amazing on white or neutral walls. Decorate with animal plushies, wooden toy chests, and knick-knacks from all over the world to represent trophies from their travels. Then add vintage table lamps, woven rugs and baskets around the room. ![Adventurer theme | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.digsdigs.com/photos/2012/02/33-wonderful-boys-room-design-ideas-11.jpg) Image source: [Digs Digs](https://www.digsdigs.com/33-wonderful-boys-room-design-ideas/pictures/104335/) ## Bedroom themes for little boys (cont.) ### 6. Car crazy Car-themed bedrooms are great for both younger and older kids, but we suggest skipping the expensive car bed and custom furniture unless it’s in your budget. Kids tend to get tired of stuff pretty quickly and you don’t want to be stuck with useless merchandise when they move on to another obsession. To get this look for cheap, spend your money on car-themed bedding, prints, plushies and toys. A single accent piece over the bed, like a giant poster of a Porsche or the Batmobile, already creates a major effect. Add spotlights or hanging lanterns to light up the poster, and finish off with a fun, vibrant rug on the floor. You can get away with bold patterns and crazy accessories if the room is mostly white or neutral. Decals or a wallpaper mural of racing cars would be perfect for the accent wall. If the walls are already brightly coloured, tone down your anchor pieces accordingly. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Pexels-polesietoys-6138734.jpg "Pexels-polesietoys-6138734 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 7. Outta space Looking for outer space bedroom ideas for young boys? This room delivers with its space-themed furniture and a fantastic mural of alien planets. The clean lines on the Murphy bed and cabinets add to the sci-fi element, while the accessories (check out the space suit and space man on the wall) keep it fun and light. There are many variations on the outer space theme; your only limit is your imagination. The key is working with what you already have if you’re on a budget. Minimalist furniture looks best, but you can make this work even if you have an ornate bed. Giant space posters and space-themed wallpaper will do the trick, as well as glow-in-the-dark stars that you can stick to the walls and ceilings. Or get one of those revolving lamps that turn any room into a planetarium. Choose deep blue and fiery red/orange hues to complement white walls, or go all out and paint everything in midnight shades. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Space-room-1200x800.jpg "Space room - Beanstalk Mums") ### 8. Surf brother Boys who love sun, sea and sand won’t mind staying indoors when their bedroom looks like this. The big beach poster, the surfboard and the colours are throwbacks to summer holidays spent swimming and surfing. The cosy bed with the fluffy pillows and comfy quilt is a welcome sight after a long and tiring day. The shaggy rug is also inviting and perfect for napping or studying. Cool blue and green hues are fresh and soothing, and go great with warm white or neutral walls. Instead of a headboard, try a surfboard or a pair of crossed oars as a focal point above the bed. For younger kids, add sea animal plushies, star pillows and bedding with cute nautical patterns. We love the surf theme because it’s totally flexible and budget-friendly. Cheap but interesting décor (driftwood, nautical prints, white distressed paint) can instantly transform a space into a soothing beach sanctuary. ![Bedroom Ideas for Young Boys | Beanstalk Mums](https://umeandthekids.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/Teen-Boys-Bedroom-9.jpg) Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/442126888395374413/) ### 9. In the jungle A jungle-themed bedroom is a must for animal lovers. It’s one of the simplest and most affordable bedroom ideas for young boys. You can [DIY your décor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/) or buy it cheaply online and at thrift stores. Working with what you already have is the trick to achieving an amazing look that won’t break the bank. Get the look below with jungle print bedding, curtains, rugs and wallpaper. Instead of building a canopy, try hanging printed curtains around the bed. Add lots of animal plushies, and you’re done. The jungle theme works well with neutral walls and natural wood textures. A green accent wall with jungle decals is also nice if you’re feeling adventurous. For a minimalist jungle, keep the patterns subtle and focus on one or two bold colours. Choose a few dramatic accessories (like a huge tiger plushie on the bed or a tropical hammock hanging from the ceiling) to add interest. ![Bedroom Ideas for Young Boys | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.ikea.com/images/a-brown-and-green-jungle-safari-theme-childrens-bedroom-with-7ee55a6f3ca00c1606fdce0baeff8775.jpg?f=s) Image source: [Ikea](https://www.ikea.com/au/en/rooms/childrens-room/gallery/where-fantasy-and-reality-meet-pub5940ea61) ### 10. Pirates ahoy Pirates Ahoy is similar in style to the nautical and underwater themes. The look is easy to achieve and works with any budget. White and blue are classic colour combos, while wood and natural textures are perfect for décor and furnishings. The room below with its bunk beds is the perfect pirate’s quarters for siblings. The white walls and ceilings make a great backdrop for bright red and dark blue pirate-themed decorations. The tiny corner shelf is adorable and brilliant for displaying nautical knick-knacks. We suggest woven baskets or wooden chests/crates for storing bigger toys. If you’re a minimalist pirate, a neutral palette with black and white accents (a big black pirate flag would look cool above the bed) is classic and fun. Personalised touches can make up for the lack of colours. Try wooden letters on the walls, monogrammed pillows and treasure chests with your child’s name or initials. ![Pirate theme bedroom | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/25-cool-pirate-themed-kids-room-ideas-10.jpg "25-cool-pirate-themed-kids-room-ideas-10 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedroom-ideas-young-boys/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedroom-ideas-young-boys/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household **Tags:** decor, bedroom designs, bedroom themes, little boys --- ### [The Ultimate Kids Bedtime Routine (without Losing Your Mind)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/the-ultimate-kids-bedtime-routine/) **Published:** December 4, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’re anything like me, my kids bedtime routine is equal parts “aww, look at my sweet little one in their adorable pyjamas” and “why is this child negotiating like they’re at the UN summit?” For years, I thought other mums had bedtime sorted — you know, the ones who post photos of their kids peacefully cuddled up with a stuffed animal, while my kid was doing cartwheels at 9 pm. It took time (and a few teary evenings) to realise there’s no perfect way to help children wind down — only what works best for your family. And honestly? That realisation alone made our nights feel a little lighter. So let’s talk about the magical unicorn every mum craves: a routine that actually works. ## Why do kids get hyper before bed? ### They could be overtired? Tired kids should go straight to sleep… right? As much as parents want this to be true, overtired children are actually more likely to have a hard time falling asleep. Overtired kids also have problems listening, paying attention and following directions. For this reason, they are more likely to cause a ruckus when you attempt to whisk them off to bed. If your kid is overtired because he or she isn’t getting enough sleep at night, they’ll also be tired during the day, increasing the likelihood they will misbehave and refuse to listen when you tell them it’s time to sleep. This vicious cycle of chaotic kids’ bedtime can go on and on. ### Or overstimulated? Like kids who are too tired, overstimulated kids have a lot of trouble falling asleep. Overstimulation can come from many sources, but in this day and age, it’s usually electronics that are to blame. Mobile phones, computers, television screens and gaming consoles all emit blue light that stimulates the brain and tricks it into believing it’s still daytime. These devices are a no-no, especially before bed, as they can interfere with sleep-regulating and promoting hormones melatonin and serotonin. Another issue is too much physical activity or horseplay right before bed. This can make kids too wired to sleep. ***Further reading:*** ***[The ultimate guide to setting phone rules for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/)*** ### Causing havoc has become part of the routine. Routine is a powerful tool when it comes to kids’ bedtime. And this can go both ways. Kids who are used to going to bed at the same time each night without any fuss should fall asleep easily. But if your kids are used to getting away with causing chaos at bedtime, it will be harder for them to go to sleep when it’s time because they know that misbehaviour is part of the routine. Predictable, consistent schedules, be it after-school play or dinnertime, help children feel in control because they know exactly what to expect. Take that away, and things can quickly descend into bedlam. ### Their reptilian brain has taken over. Here’s an interesting theory of why kids get hyper before bed, and might explain why your kids bedtime routine is always a battle: Their reptilian brain has taken over. According to [Tiny Beans](https://tinybeans.com/3-reasons-why-your-kids-go-crazy-at-bedtime/): > *“They have utilised their daily allowance of mental capacity…Once they have been awake for a certain number of hours and/or they have expended a certain amount of energy, their consciousness is shut down by the body in order to preserve the functionality of the brain for later use. While they may have some tendencies of their former selves, they are not actually cognisant of their surroundings, and even less so of their actions.”* ### Too much daytime sleep Experts recommend that preschool children (3-5 years) get 10–13 hours of sleep and school-age children (6-12 years) get 9-12 hours. Many kids will get all their sleep hours at night, but some may need to nap during the day to make up the difference. Just like bedtime, sticking to a consistent nap schedule is best. However, if your kid sleeps too much during the day or naps too close to bedtime, they will have a hard time falling asleep at night. Establish routines to help kids avoid oversleeping during the day. ### Late-night food Hungry kids have a harder time falling asleep than kids who’ve had enough to eat. But that’s usually not the problem; it’s late-night snacking and snacking on sugary foods. Some kids go through a phase where they pretend to be hungry to put off bedtime as long as possible. If they do ask for a snack, make sure to give them small portions and [healthy snacks options](https://myserenitykids.com/blogs/news/18-healthy-snacks-for-toddlers "healthy snacks options") that promote sleep, like peanut butter, berries, eggs, milk and whole grains. Advice from [Riley’s Children](https://www.rileychildrens.org/connections/food-before-bed-what-to-offer-kids-and-when-to-hold-back) is: > *“I tell parents to offer a snack high in protein or fibre. Foods that are primarily simple carbs and sugar, such as pop tarts, will make blood sugar rise and then fall quickly, leaving a child hungry again within an hour or two.”* ![kids bedtime routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/In-article-images-2025-12-04t115551%20839.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## Kids bedtime routine for your child to sleep better A bedtime routine is simply a set of calm, predictable steps you repeat each night so your child knows when it’s time to go to sleep. Sounds simple, right? Except we all know real life involves lost plushies, dramatic brushing teeth protests, and surprise conversations about dinosaurs. But here’s the thing: research shows a consistent kids bedtime routine can actually help kids feel more settled, especially younger children who thrive on predictability. A predictable routine lets your child know “it’s time.” For us, this was life-changing. My daughter once needed stimulating activities until the literal moment she’d finally fall asleep. When we introduced a slow, structured rhythm, it felt like we both exhaled for the first time in years. The beauty? It doesn’t need to be fancy; it just needs to be clear, simple, and repeatable. In my house, our routine involves: - Dimming the lights - Warm bath (on the nights I’m not too tired, of course!) - Brushing their teeth - Quiet storytime — usually reading a book or a short bedtime story - A quick tidy of toys (30 seconds, max) - A little cuddle and goodnight These small steps created a rhythm that helps kids shift from “full of beans” to “okay, I might be ready to fall asleep now.” ## Routines that work for your child Designing a bedtime routine for your child really depends on your child’s age. Babies and toddlers need much shorter routines; school-age children may appreciate more independence. This means they’re ready to choose their own stuffed animal or pick the next chapter to read. My trick? Keep your kids bedtime routine flexible enough to feel human, but structured enough for them to count on. That little bit of predictability builds a real sense of security, which can help your child feel safe enough to drift off. And remember, you don’t need to fit everything in. A routine that works best for your family is the right one. ## Creating calm kids bedtime routines Experts, and every pediatric sleep resource I’ve ever frantically Googled, agree that a calm atmosphere is key. The hour before bed (yes, a full hour before bed) is where the magic starts. Things that help set the mood: - Dimming the lights - Keeping electronic devices out of sight (that blue light really does make it harder) - Soft music or a gentle lullaby - Light mindfulness and relaxation for us mums (AKA deep breathing so we don’t snap over missing pyjamas) For me, the moment we replaced after-dinner TV with quiet colouring, my daughter’s ability to get to sleep improved massively. ***More reading: [12 Bedtime books your kids will love.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/)*** ## Create a routine (without overthinking it) If you’re trying to create a bedtime routine from scratch, start with just 2–3 consistent steps. A warm bath, quick hygiene routine, and storytime are enough to begin resetting their sleep habits. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just needs to be predictable — a little routine that helps your little one recognise that the day will start winding down. ## Help your child sleep better. There are nights when even the best routines won’t help your kid drift off easily. Maybe they’re dealing with separation anxiety. Or they’re suddenly “not tired at all!” even though you watched them yawn a gazillion times. On nights like those, I’ve learned that gradual changes lead to better sleep. Shorten the routine. Sit beside their bed for a minute before you leave the room. Offer reassurance. Those tiny shifts still help them feel supported. And remember: if parenting teaches us anything, it’s that “works tonight” doesn’t always “work tomorrow.” You’re not alone in that. ## What makes a good kids bedtime routine A good bedtime routine includes: - A consistent wake-up time (yes, even on the weekend) - Calmer activities before bed - Light physical activity during the day - Clear boundaries and clear expectations - Allowing your child to bed before they become overtired When in doubt, make the bedtime routine simple. Consistency does most of the heavy lifting. Here’s what surprised me most: once our rhythm settled, my daughter’s well-being improved. She woke happier, coped better at school, and honestly, so did I. ## Toddler & preschoolers If you’re in the toddler or preschoolers stage, bless you — this age is adorable, but exhausting. For them, a sleep routine might look like: - Bath - Brushing teeth - Choosing pajamas - Short lullaby - One bedtime story - Quick tuck-in - Goodnight And yes, you will sometimes need to leave the room 47 times. Solidarity, mum. ***Further reading: [How to get your child to sleep in their own bed.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-get-your-child-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/)*** ## School-age children For school-age children, bedtime gets a little easier, and sometimes a little trickier. They’re more independent, but they’re also excellent at stalling. The trick is keeping it consistent, giving them choices, and reminding them why these routines matter. Something like: “Your body grows, and your brain gets stronger when you sleep better.” Honestly, that line alone helped my daughter cooperate more often than I expected. ## How to make kids bedtime routines last The dos and don’ts (yes, here are your dos and don’ts): **Do:** - Stick to roughly the same times - Use familiar steps - Keep your kid’s room cosy - Keep your kid’s cues predictable **Don’t:** - Introduce high-energy games before bed - Skip routine steps (kids remember… too well!) - Expect perfection - Assume they’re “too old” for comfort items Routine helps both of you breathe easier at the end of a long day. ## Final thoughts: The ultimate kids bedtime routine guide A bedtime routine isn’t just about sleep — it’s about connection, slowing down, and letting your child feel safe and loved. It’s also about helping your child fall asleep in a way that supports long-term healthy sleep and emotional well-being. Your nights won’t always be easy, but with a simple, consistent bedtime routine, they do become gentler. And you deserve gentle nights, mum. So here’s your reminder: you’re doing beautifully — and your best is more than enough. ![Kids bedtime routine | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Kids-bedtime-routine.png "Kids bedtime routine - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/the-ultimate-kids-bedtime-routine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/the-ultimate-kids-bedtime-routine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** sleep, bedtime, tired, bed --- ### [How to build your health with Chinese herbs and medicines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/chinese-herbs/) **Published:** May 25, 2023 **Author:** Nicole Chien **Content:** Every mum at some time has been guilty of reaching for a coffee, a chocolate bar or a sugary ‘energy’ drink just to get through the day. “And while occasionally this might not be a problem, there are healthy alternatives to sugary drinks and foods that are more natural and nutritional”, says Nicole Chien, leading nutritionist, and the woman behind bringing Taiwanese mega brand Taste for Life to Australia. Taste for Life offers postpartum meals and nutritional natural health products based on Chinese herbs and TCM. “One option is Taste for Life’s famous Fucoidan Ginseng drink, which helps build health and stamina with Chinese herbs,” says Nicole. Especially created to fight fatigue, enhance energy levels, concentration, immunity and strength, it has proved transformative for many, changing the way they feel and operate. “As any Mum knows, being a mum can be exhausting, and that goes double when you are a single mum, so any help with those things is always welcome, I know”, says Nicole. Taste for Life’s famous Fucoidan Ginseng drink is made using the best herbal ingredients. These include American Ginseng and concentrated Fucoidan, and Fammulina. Ginseng is a well-known herb used for centuries in Traditional Chinese Medicine. It’s valued for its ability to improve some illnesses, like diabetes, fatigue, anorexia, palpitations, shortness of breath and insomnia. Ginseng can also help alleviate digestive conditions, improve mental activity and enhance longevity. It’s also recommended for people with low Qi and coldness. Taste for Life’s famous Fucoidan Ginseng drink is additive-free and uses an exclusive patented extraction technology to get all the goodness out of these natural Chinese herbs. “The drink can be drunk on its own, added to smoothies, health drinks and sodas. For those with a sweet tooth, it works well in tea with a dash of honey,” says Nicole. “This drink is very easy for the body to access, so it works fast, helping to restore natural balance and bodily function. It can be taken long-term and helps strengthen and sustain the body. Even for those mums who are healthy eaters and exercise regularly, they will feel the benefits fast,” notes Nicole. But Taste for Life’s Health products don’t stop at their Ginseng Drink. There is a health and wellness soup that increases metabolism, builds collagen, improves Qi and energy and helps build bones and joints. “This really helps the runners and athletic mums out there, as well as mums who like to generally keep fit,” says Nicole. “Pregnancy can strip the mother of a lot of calcium and other nutrients, and this deficiency can go on for years, so it is important for mums to eat to restore these deficits”. Drink to your Health! “But it’s not only our Fucoidan Ginseng drink that will help restore the body”, says Nicole. There are other TFL health drinks that mums everywhere can enjoy, including a delicious Snow Fungus Drink, which contains collagen, dietary fibre and minerals to aid general health, and also to reduce the body’s absorption of sugar. Snow fungus has traditionally been used in Chinese medicine as a potent Jing and Qi tonic. It is believed to tonify the lungs, kidneys, heart, brain, and stomach, and acts as a powerful tonic for the immune system. Additionally, it helps to restore physical strength and give people a more youthful look, which is why it’s always popular with beauty editors and influencers! TFL has also created a special Herbal Care Drink which contains seven nutritious Chinese herbal ingredients to build sustenance and an Imperial Jujube Tea which is ready to drink – very convenient for busy mums. Imperial Jujube Tea has multiple benefits. “Any Chinese TCM practitioner and nutritionist will tell you about Jujube’s health benefits to the body. Jujube contains many minerals, such as magnesium, copper, manganese, as well as potassium, which improve osteoporosis and overall bone health. The vitamin C and the unsaturated fatty acids present in jujube fruit also have an anti-aging effect. It tastes delicious (with a hint of marshmallow) and is antioxidant-rich,” says Nicole. Two compounds that are found in jujube, called flavonoids and saponins, have also been shown in studies to increase sleep. Jujube fruit also helps to control spikes in blood sugar and reduce glycosylated haemoglobin in those with type 2 diabetes, which often marks poor blood sugar regulation. Alone, Jujube is not a cure-all for high blood sugar, but it is helpful in helping to regulate it. Perhaps the biggest benefit for all mums who still struggle with ‘baby brain’ postpartum is that the fruit in the tea has been shown to improve learning capacity and could even support brain growth. Taste for Life’s Imperial Jujube Tea really is a bonus for Mums looking to regain their health and energy and balance in life. ## Final words: Building your health with Chinese herbs and medicines “In Asian culture, the Mum is given as much emotional and practical support as their babies and children, which has better outcomes for all physically and mentally. I couldn’t be prouder to be part of this support team for mums in Australia, whatever background they come from. A growing number of non-Asian mums and Australian-born Asians are discovering for themselves the benefits of our products, our support and our way of thinking,” she said. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/chinese-herbs/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/chinese-herbs/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Last-Minute Christmas Shopping Made Easy for Solo Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/last-minute-christmas-shopping/) **Published:** December 10, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** If Christmas were a person, it would be the one who says, “We should catch up soon,” and then suddenly turns up at your door early, holding a to-do list. For many mums, especially those running the show solo, that’s exactly what December feels like. One minute you think you’ve got time, the next you’re doing last-minute Christmas shopping and wondering how it got so *big*, so quickly. In the weeks leading up to Christmas, not everyone gets to start buying gifts several weeks in advance — and that doesn’t mean you’ve missed the magic. This guide is here to help you plan, shop smart, and save time with realistic planning tips, budget-friendly gift ideas, and easy food solutions. ## Last-Minute Christmas Shopping: How to Save Time and Stress Here’s something we don’t say often enough: last-minute doesn’t mean careless. In fact, when done with intention, finishing your Christmas gift shopping later can reduce stress and help you focus on what really matters. This is where a little structure works in your favour, such as: - **Make a short, prioritised shopping list**: A clear shopping list keeps you focused. Write down who truly needs a gift, such as the kids, close family members, and teachers. Then, treat the rest as optional. - **Focus on essentials first**: Choose one meaningful Christmas gift per person rather than multiple small items. [Books from QBD Books](https://www.qbd.com.au/?cfclick=4074f79654db417d8c81ac32051c595e "Books from QBD Books"), [beauty favourites from Oz Hair and Beauty](https://www.ozhairandbeauty.com/?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Oz+Hair+and+Beauty&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=ebf9b6d41971457d9458123945bbd2fa "beauty favourites from Oz Hair and Beauty"), or a [ready-made hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/?cfclick=e13243874919409e9adf360c1a92fb52 "eady-made hamper from Gourmet Basket") are easy wins. - **Shop local and online strategically**: Pick up items while you’re already out, then finish the rest online. Fast checkout, reliable delivery, and products that arrive ready to wrap help you stay organised. Clear plans and smart decisions help you avoid overwhelm and save energy in the final stretch. Here are other [helpful tips on how to survive Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/ "helpful tips on how to survive Christmas as a single mum"). ## Time-Saving Tips for Holiday Preparations When time is short, the goal isn’t to do *more* — it’s to do things once, do them well, and move on. A few small shifts in how you prepare can free up surprising amounts of space in your head (and your calendar), such as: - **Prepare in batches where possible**: Wrap presents in one sitting, plan meals together, and do group errands. This kind of holiday organisation helps you stay ahead. - **Delegate tasks to family members**: Christmas is a shared event, not a solo performance. Asking for help protects your energy. - **Give kids age-appropriate jobs**: Let each kid bring plates to the table, decorate cookies, or help with wrapping. It builds confidence and keeps things fun. - **Use timers and loose schedules**: Set a 20-minute timer to stay focused — then stop when it ends. - **Choose retailers that save steps**: Fast checkout and reliable delivery matter more than endless choice. For example, stores like [QBD Books have thousands of educational books](https://www.qbd.com.au/childrens/education/?cfclick=00dea5a62098412391b74e360a161ec9 "QBD Books have thousands of educational books"), which can make gift-giving simple and meaningful. Good preparation helps create a stress-free holiday without doing more than necessary. ![last-minute christmas shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Last-minute-christmas-shopping.jpg "Last minute christmas shopping - Beanstalk Mums") ## Smart Strategies for Online Christmas Shopping Online shopping can be one of the biggest stress-reducers in the final lead-up to Christmas — as long as you shop with intention, not impulse. A few smart strategies can turn last-minute Christmas shopping into a calm, couch-based win. - **Plan orders around shipping timelines**: Check delivery cut-offs and order priority items first. - **Compare prices and check reviews**: A quick check helps avoid disappointment and wasted spend. - **Use express delivery or local pick-up**: Express shipping can be worth it for peace of mind. Local pick-up options are a lifesaver when timelines are tight and you want certainty. - **Shop by category to avoid fatigue**: Decide what you’re buying first (books, beauty, food, kids’ gifts) and stick to it. Fewer tabs, fewer decisions, less overwhelm. - **Rely on trusted sites**: Online retailers often offer budget bundles and ready-made gifts. [Oz Hair and Beauty offers beauty gifts](https://www.ozhairandbeauty.com/products/thalgo-hydrating-beauty-kit?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Oz+Hair+and+Beauty&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=2e349ba565434b11a093f2230a2584af "Oz Hair and Beauty offers beauty gifts") for every style and budget, while [Gourmet Basket provides polished gifts ready to give](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/shop/christmas-gift-hampers/dashers-delight-hamper/?cfclick=ce562a0bb32f494cabd76a86e7ce0f7b "Gourmet Basket provides polished gifts ready to give"). If you’re shopping online, it’s worth taking a moment to check [how to spot and avoid common Christmas scams before buying](https://adfconsumer.gov.au/holiday-shopping-online-how-to-spot-and-avoid-the-top-5-christmas-scams/#:~:text=Double%2DChecking%20Sources,Update%20Security%20Software "how to spot and avoid common Christmas scams before buying"). ## Budget-Friendly Gifts for Everyone on Your List Christmas generosity doesn’t have to come with a financial hangover. With a clear plan and a few clever choices, last-minute Christmas shopping can still feel thoughtful without tipping your budget into stress territory. Here’s how: - **Set a realistic per-person budget**: Decide what works for your finances, not what you think you should spend. - **Choose affordable, meaningful gifts**: A well-chosen book is one of the most dependable gifts around. [QBD Books is one of the best places to shop for thoughtful presents](https://www.qbd.com.au/childrens/junior-arts-crafts/?cfclick=0b0a5aee6aee42e48d79fefd3e08b370 "QBD Books is one of the best places to shop for thoughtful presents") across all ages. - **Add a simple DIY touch**: A handwritten note, homemade cookies, or cute wrapping paper adds meaning without extra cost. - **Use online deals and discounts**: [Oz Hair and Beauty regularly offers online deals](https://www.ozhairandbeauty.com/collections/sale?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Oz+Hair+and+Beauty&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=c8be1fb4db094ff6a06a347891feec0f "Oz Hair and Beauty regularly offers online deals") on popular products, making it easier to grab beauty gifts and stocking fillers at reduced prices. ## Last-Minute Christmas Shopping: Creative DIY Christmas Gifts in a Hurry DIY gifts don’t have to be time-consuming or Pinterest-level impressive to feel special. When done simply, they can be one of the easiest ways to bring warmth and intention into last-minute Christmas shopping. - **Keep handmade gifts simple**: Quality over complexity always wins. - **Use materials already at home**: Jars, boxes, ribbons, and items from the shelf can become special with a personal touch. - **Include a handwritten note**: A few words can turn a small item into a meaningful present. - **Combine DIY with store-bought items**: Pair a homemade item with something store-bought to save time. ## Organising Your Kitchen for Holiday Cooking Before you think about what’s on the menu, a small reset in the kitchen can make holiday cooking feel far more manageable. Here’s what you can do: - **Clear your countertops first**: You don’t need a deep clean. Just remove anything that doesn’t belong in the next few days. Open bench space makes prep faster and keeps overwhelm at bay. - **Keep tools and ingredients within easy reach**: Pull out the utensils, chopping boards, and pantry items you’ll use most. - **Plan two or three simple meals**: Choose dishes that can be prepared ahead, scaled easily, or adapted to suit different appetites. - **Store leftovers clearly and efficiently**: Label containers with contents and dates so nothing gets lost at the back of the fridge. Future-you will thank you. Good organisation helps you host with confidence — even if the menu is simple. ![last-minute christmas shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Last-minute-christmas-shopping-2.jpg "Last minute christmas shopping 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Last-Minute Christmas Shopping for Easy Meal Ideas When you’re balancing cooking with last-minute Christmas shopping, simple meals that come together quickly can take a huge amount of pressure off — without anyone feeling short-changed. - **Lean into “assembly meals”**: Think less cooking, more combining. Salads, wraps, pasta bowls, and share plates that you can put together rather than cook from scratch are a gift to yourself. - **Choose one-pot dishes where possible**: Slow cookers, sheet-pan bakes, and big pots of pasta or curry keep things streamlined. - **Go for crowd-pleasers with minimal prep**: Grazing boards are a holiday hero — cheeses, crackers, dips, chocolate, and fruit look impressive with very little effort. You can easily order these ready-made gourmet treats at Gourmet Basket. - **Use smart shortcuts without guilt**: Pre-chopped vegetables, ready-made salads, and rotisserie chickens are practical choices, not cheating. ## Managing Holiday Expectations and Family Traditions Christmas can quietly carry a lot of expectations — to do things a certain way or keep traditions exactly the same. It’s okay to step back and choose what fits your family now. - Focus on things and moments that actually matter. - Communicate realistic plans early. - Adapt traditions to suit your life now - Choose rest over overgiving ## Avoiding Last-Minute Holiday Stress Even with the best intentions, December has a way of throwing in a few curveballs. The key to avoiding last-minute holiday stress is flexibility. - Plan ahead with realistic goals - Stay flexible when things change. Plans will shift — and that’s okay. - Take short breaks to reset ## Enjoy a Meaningful Christmas, Even with Last Minute Christmas Shopping & Planning If you’ve made it this far (and you didn’t have to pause to rescue a snack or referee a disagreement), here’s a reminder worth keeping: shopping late for Christmas doesn’t cancel out the love and care you bring to your family. A few thoughtful gifts, simple food, and a plan that matches real life can still create a Christmas that feels warm, festive, and genuinely enjoyable. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/last-minute-christmas-shopping/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/last-minute-christmas-shopping/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, christmas shopping, last minute christmas shopping --- ### [50 Gifts for Dad for under $50](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/50-gifts-for-dad-for-under-50/) **Published:** July 21, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Men are notoriously hard to buy gifts for. But whether it’s a birthday, [Father’s Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/thoughts-from-a-single-dad-this-fathers-day/) or Christmas, it would be nice to surprise them with something they actually like, want or need. So, if you’re on a bit of a budget but need to find a gift for you or your kids to give Dad, this list of gifts for Dad for under $50 will surely have something that hits the spot. After all, anything is better than a slab of beer … isn’t it? Here is our list of ideas for gifts for Dad. ## 50 GIFTS FOR DADS FOR UNDER $50 ## Custom BBQ Branding Iron Name your steak and never end up with rare when you asked for well-done. Or play a joke with a funny message. With 52 interchangeable letters, the sky’s the limit for your steak-filled fun. A brilliant starting point on our ‘gifts for Dad’ list. ![Custom BBQ Branding Iron gifts for dad](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-custom-bbq-branding-iron-yellow-octopus-30764070474_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555145476) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## Dad’s Ice Cream Shovel The perfect gift for the ice cream-loving man. It can also be personalised with a custom text or quote. ![Dad's Ice Cream Shovel](https://i.etsystatic.com/6163523/r/il/3acc78/1694296823/il_794xN.1694296823_phe6.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## His Favourite Magazine Subscription Get Dad a subscription to his favourite magazine. From golf to fishing to cars, you’re bound to find something that tickles his fancy. Plus, all magazines are up to 73% off. [![Magazine Subscription ](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/33/89/xlarge/Mens-Health-Jan-2020.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) We found this at: [iSubscribe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) ## I Love Farting Mug Say it as it is with this cheeky ‘I love farting’ mug. Not only will it be perfect for the morning coffee, but it farts when you pick it up and farts when you put it down … so hours of fun to be had. ![I Love Farting Mug | Gifts for Dad](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/Yellow-Octopus-I-Love-Farting-Mug_2000x2000.jpg?v=1557464956) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## Fishing Keyring It’s understandable if you’re at a loss for what to get the dad who loves fishing. Some sort of lure or a bag of bait? Keep it simple with this cute little keyring. ![Fishing keyring ](https://i.etsystatic.com/12871578/r/il/525e57/3128943279/il_1140xN.3128943279_9ei4.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## Waterproof Bluetooth Speakers If Dad loves his music, then he’ll love this portable speaker, which we have to say looks way more expensive than it really is … always a bonus! ![Waterproof Bluetooth Speakers | Gifts for Dad](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hb8/h96/17202216239134.jpg) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/jvc-waterproof-bluetooth-speaker-blue-black/p/118483) ## Magic Chain Wine Bottle Holder Display your wine bottles in style with the magic chain wine bottle holder. A gravity-defying gift for the quirky Dad. [![Magic Chain WIne Bottle Holder](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/peleg-design-magic-chain-bottle-holder-peleg-design-yellow-octopus-312082923530_2000x2000.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jW5ED6) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/jW5ED6) ## Game of Thrones. A Song of Ice and Fire Series: Book 1 Seen the series (several times) but still not had enough? How about reading the book? They say the read is always better than the screen. [![Game of Thrones. A Song of Ice and Fire Series: Book 1 | Gifts for Dad ](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9780006479888/5454/a-game-of-thrones.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/7azBqQ) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/7azBqQ) ## Personalised Engraved Hammer Nothing says I love you than a personalised hammer. Have it engraved with a sweet phrase that will make him think of you each time he’s out there building something. ![Personalised Engraved Hammer](https://i.etsystatic.com/20034109/r/il/c21475/1987434535/il_794xN.1987434535_lyet.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## Waterproof Sports Earphones These slick, waterproof sports headphones can handle the toughest training regimen. Comes with built-in Bluetooth and mic for on-the-go calls and up to 8 hours of battery life. [![Waterproof Sports Earphones gifts for dad](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/haf/h2a/99824584654878.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/qzYG9Y) We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/qzYG9Y) ## Men’s Luxe Gown Gifts for Dad just got super comfy. This luxe dressing gown made of Egyptian cotton with a velour finish has side pockets and provides superior warmth. [![Men’s Luxe Gown](https://prodapi.bestandless.com.au/medias/zoom-1361274-03-001.jpg?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3wzNjY2NTZ8aW1hZ2UvanBlZ3xhR0psTDJnelpDOHhNREUzT1RFd01UQTJOVEkwTmk5NmIyOXRYekV6TmpFeU56UmZNRE5mTURBeExtcHdad3w4YzZmYTZkYWY2ZTY1ODQ3MTU0Yjg1MzAxOTY3ZmJkOGM2YTdiMTM0MjY3MzRiZTA0OTI2Y2RlMGM4ZTA4OWE5)](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/Vx7jkO) We found this at: [Best and Less](https://best-and-less.pxf.io/Vx7jkO) ## World’s Greatest Farter T-Shirt What can we say? This ‘World’s Greatest Farter’ t-shirt is an apt gift for any Dad! ![World's Greatest Farter T-shirt Gifts for Dad](https://i.etsystatic.com/13656922/r/il/f50404/1040856650/il_1140xN.1040856650_l0jn.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## Leather Flip Wallet If Dad’s current wallet is on its last legs, this little gem will make a great replacement. Made from soft calf leather, it’s the quintessential gift for Dad to keep his cash in order. [![Leather Flip Wallet ](https://myer-media.com.au/wcsstore/MyerCatalogAssetStore/images/40/409/3337/50/6/410562100/410562100_1_720x928.jpg)](https://redirect.viglink.com?key=37ce2aed9bf4200ffd45ea7d080c20c4&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.myer.com.au%2Fp%2Fflip-wallet-410562100) We found this at: [Myer](https://bit.ly/31MBuYq) ## Executive Pendulum Decision Maker A stylish spin on the pendulum desk ornament is the perfect present for the executive Dad. A brilliant choice on our gifts for Dad list. [![Pendulum Decision Maker | Gifts for Dad](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/38208/19473769/4/Executive%2BDecision%2BMaker.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/80268?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.special.com.au%2f) We found this at: Amazon ## Portable Bluetooth Speaker Get this waterproof Bluetooth speaker for the outdoorsy fathers in your life. The music never stops with 10 hours of battery life and four playback modes. Dad will love this functional and fashionable gift. [![Portable Bluetooth Speaker](https://i.ibb.co/JRk0HSW/lyllaf1620216006391.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14207?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lightinthebox.com%2fen%2fp%2ft-g-tg191-outdoor-speaker-wireless-bluetooth-portable-speaker-for-pc-laptop-mobile-phone-wireless-waterproof-bluetooth-speaker-outdoor-portable_p8598993.html%3fcurrency%3dAUD%26litb_from%3dpaid_adwords_shopping%26sku%3d1_45%26country_code%3dau%26utm_source%3dgoogle_shopping%26utm_medium%3dcpc%26adword_mt%3d%26adword_ct%3d457454515106%26adword_kw%3d%26adword_pos%3d%26adword_pl%3d%26adword_net%3du%26adword_tar%3d%26adw_src_id%3d7679541699_10863878148_105785715974_pla-863009657661%26gclid%3dCjwKCAiA3L6PBhBvEiwAINlJ9KG_xTkxGWmQ1tfHZsnhGCZs6i9PoaWMZTz_M3GQBdTNOhfyCjfRMBoCSbIQAvD_BwE) We found this at: Light in the Box ## Man Bouquets Give dad some flowers this Father’s Day. Beef jerky flowers, that is. This manly bouquet from Manly Man Co. comes in four yummy flavours: original, teriyaki, hot, and mixed. [![Man Bouquets | Gifts for Dad ](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/1762/4231/files/Flowers_Mug_Stump_1024_600x.jpg?v=1572375875)](https://manlymanco.com/) We found this at: [The Manly Man Co](https://manlymanco.com/products/flowers) ## More gifts for dad for under $50 ## Australian Craft Beer mixed 6 Pack If Dad’s a beer connoisseur, you can’t go far wrong with this craft beer tasting pack. With a selection of beers from Australian breweries, it’s a great opportunity to veer off VB and try something different. [![Australian Craft Beer Mixed 6 Pack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Picture1-4.png "Picture1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.beercartel.com.au/mixed-boutique-beer-6-pack/?cfclick=cacfa0d96ea949aaaacc46a7a986f8fe) We found this at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.beercartel.com.au%2fmixed-boutique-beer-6-pack%2f) ## Funny Dad Socks A bit of a joke, but quality crew socks for Father’s Day that will make him laugh and think of you. Eco-friendly and made of cotton blend that fits sock sizes 10-13. ![Funny Dad Socks | Gifts for Dad](https://i.etsystatic.com/7532280/r/il/446cef/1866506967/il_794xN.1866506967_138t.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## Where the Wild Dads Went For new dads or any father who’s ever felt like escaping their day-to-day (and who hasn’t?), this hilarious book makes a brilliant present. Written and illustrated in the style of Maurice Sendak’s classic, *Where the Wild Things Are*. ![Where the Wild Dads Went](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/B06XC561NM.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## Kodak Max Water Disposable Camera This is actually so cool, in every way. A single-use camera that is waterproof up to 50 feet and features a shock-proof rubber shell. [![Gifts for Dads | Kodak Max Water Disposable Camera ](https://www.camerahouse.com.au/media/catalog/product/8/0/8004707_1.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21198?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.camerahouse.com.au%2fkodak-suc-water-sport-27exp-consumables) We found this at: [Camera House](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21198?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.camerahouse.com.au%2fkodak-suc-water-sport-27exp-consumables) ## Bacon Air Freshener Ideal for the beach, the pub or around the house, Dad will love making a statement with these comfy slides/sandals, which come in various sizes. ![Bacon Air Freshener](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/archie-mcphee-bacon-air-freshener-yellow-octopus-30777403722_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555125934) We found this at: [Yellow Octopus](https://www.yellowoctopus.com.au/products/bacon-air-freshener) ## Levi’s Batwing Tee Brand labels are usually super-expensive, but not in this case. This trendy batwing Levi’s t-shirt comes in at a brilliant price. [![Levi's Batwing Tee](https://myer-media.com.au/wcsstore/MyerCatalogAssetStore/images/40/406/3454/500/7/305572060/305572060_1_720x928.jpg)](https://bit.ly/2MS8DhY) We found this at: [Myer](https://bit.ly/2MS8DhY) ## Australia’s most unbelievable true Stories This book will give Dad plenty of subject matter to impress friends and family. From the unknown, the forgotten, and the very, very surprising, these unbelievable yarns are sure to impress. [![Australia's Most Unbelievable True Stories | Gifts for Dad](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51LM7XEDCHL._SX324_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/australia-s-most-unbelievable-true-stories-jim-haynes/book/9781760632410.html) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/australia-s-most-unbelievable-true-stories-jim-haynes/book/9781760632410.html) ## Wall-mounted ring toss game This wall-mounted ring toss game is a must for Dad’s man cave. Toss the rings to get the most points and win up to 50 points with a single toss. ![Wall Mounted Ring Toss Game](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-TSRRIWXX_2000x2000.jpg) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## UrbanGreens Microherbs Windowsill Grow Kit If the Dad in question fancies himself as a bit of a green-fingered wiz, he’ll love this brilliant kit to grow his own herbs in just 10-15 days. Go on … give him his hunter/gatherer moment. [![Oyster Mushroom Grow Kit](https://www.biome.com.au/cdn/shop/products/urbangreens-microherbs-windowsill-grow-kit-9330768006794-garden-39145981083876.jpg?v=1665440644&width=713)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2f) We found this at: [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2f) ## Cards Against Humanity AU Edition Addictive, hilarious, inappropriate and nasty in a kinda funny way, this Cards Against Humanity game has an Aussie twist and will keep Dad and friends entertained for hours. ![Cards Against Humanity AU Edition Gifts for Dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Picture1-7.png "Picture1 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## 101 Pooping Puppies Jigsaw Puzzle Dog lovers will enjoy this hilarious 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle of cute puppies captured in mid-poop. Hang up this masterpiece in the bathroom when you’re done. ![100 Pooping Puppies Jigsaw Puzzle ](https://i.ibb.co/2nWB1qX/yellow-octopus-101-pooping-puppies-1000-piece-puzzle-1-900x.jpg) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## Dad Jokes: The Good, The Bad, and The Terrible Ah, the good old Dad jokes. All the funnier because they’re not very funny. But that doesn’t matter; they still make us laugh. Make sure he never runs out of material to entertain with this handy joke-filled book. [![Dad Jokes: The Good, The Bad, and The Terrible | Gifts for Dad](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/Yellow-Octopus-Dad-Jokes-Book-1_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555283058)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/BXGWeW) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/BXGWeW) ## Boganology Boardgame Does Dad have an inner bogan that needs to be released? In which case, this game is spot on. Hilariously, players can cash-in on child support and get extra Centrelink payments, as well as outrun the cops in thongs! We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/jeYjdn) ## Heated 2-IN-1 Shiatsu Foot and Back Massager This nifty heated foot and back massager not only soothes sore muscles but also stimulates blood flow and reduces tension. Just what Dad needs after a hard day at work. [![](https://assets.kogan.com/images/mightyape/MPE-35128615/1-4fe1d724b0-255127103.jpeg?width=768&height=512&auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=768%2C512&fit=bounds&quality=90)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Vx7jXR) We found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Vx7jXR) ## Dad Jokes Mug Sorry, we couldn’t help it! Get him a mug packed with emergency dad jokes for those times he can’t come up with one. ![Dad Jokes Mug Gifts for Dad](https://i.ibb.co/XpqpBZW/il-1140x-N-2724143613-cy2w.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ## OUR FINAL GIFTS FOR DADS FOR UNDER $50 ## Mad Millie Make Your Own Cheese Kit This is a brilliant first-time cheese-making kit for anyone looking to try their hand at something a bit different in the kitchen. Gives a special ‘Dad-twist’ to home-made pizzas. This is one of our favourites on our list of Father’s Day gifts. ### ![Mad Millie Make Your Own Cheese Kit | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/imake-mad-millie-make-your-own-cheese-kit-yellow-octopus-673181761546_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555171833) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ## Wood USB Docking Station For techie dads who tend to lose their devices, this wooden USB docking station is just the thing. It can charge up to five devices at the same time. ![Wood USB Docking Station](https://i.ibb.co/5Yc8Kb4/Screenshot-2022-07-17-183525.jpg) We found this at: My Deal ## Cheer and Beer Hamper As hampers go, this one is not too girly but full of surprises that every man will secretly love, including 3 Steinlager Beers, H&S Mill Pistachio & Cheddar Bites, a Whittaker’s Milk Chocolate & Coconut Slab and an assortment of Italian Chocolate Truffles. [![Cheer and beer hamper | Gifts for Dad ](https://www.macarthurbaskets.com.au/assets/full/1171.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macarthurbaskets.com.au%2fcheer-beer) We found this at: [Macarthur Baskets](https://www.macarthurbaskets.com.au/cheer-beer) ## Brilliant Basics Men’s Boot Slippers What Dad can possibly live without these classic boots to keep his feet toasty warm? Comes with a textured sole for indoor and outdoor adventures. [![Brilliant Basics Men's Boot Slippers](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h61/h6e/31663206891550.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/BXkAy9) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/blacksmith-men-s-leather-pull-on-boots-black/p/1515023-claret) ## Why a Daughter Needs a Dad Book Ready to make Dad cry this Father’s Day? Give him this book that honours the men who mean the most to us. [![Why a Daughter Needs a Dad Book](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/71EXb3VTusL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/BXnZZB) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/BXnZZB) ## Salty Life Board Shorts Surfy Dad, stylish Dad or simply Mr. Chilled Out Dad, these board shorts from Salty Life tick all the boxes when it comes to gifts for Dad. [![Salty Life Board Shorts | Gifts for Dad](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dwfc30a320/images/20320921/20320921-02-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fsalty-life-tempest-board-shorts%2F20320921-02.html) We found this at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fsalty-life-tempest-board-shorts%2F20320921-02.html) ## USB Book Light We couldn’t have a list of Father’s Day gifts without something for the bookworm Dad. This USB clip-on light has 9 brightness levels so he can easily see what he’s reading. [![USB Book Light](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9351095019912/1706/amber-book-light-rechargeable-black.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LXZj1o) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LXZj1o) ## Sports Dartboard Playing darts is a great way for Dad to chill and take a break from work. This one has a built-in cabinet to store drinks and other fun stuff. Dad will have hours of fun with his friends! [![Sports Dartboard | gifts for Dad](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h63/ha5/28603528445982.jpg)](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/formula-sports-round-wire-bristle-dartboard/p/6271770) We found this at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/formula-sports-round-wire-bristle-dartboard/p/6271770) ## Beer Caddy With Opener No more ripped cardboard carriers, this stylish 6-bottle wooden caddy is sturdy and has a built-in bottle opener. ![Beer Caddy with Opener | Dad present | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://media.cnn.com/api/v1/images/stellar/prod/220605223223-target-hammer-axe-wooden-beer-caddy.jpg?c=original) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/50-gifts-for-dad-for-under-50/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/50-gifts-for-dad-for-under-50/?share=x) - **Categories:** Father's Day, Shopping **Tags:** father's day, gifts for dad, presents for dad, what to buy Dad --- ### [The Best Low-Maintenance Pets for Children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/) **Published:** April 13, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** So, you want to get a pet for your kids, but if you’re a single mum juggling work, school runs, and the occasional “I left my homework at home” meltdown, you’re probably thinking if it’s the right decision. Yep, I feel you! As someone who caved in to the “Can we pleeeease get a pet?” chorus, I’ve been on the hunt for the best low-maintenance pets that won’t turn my already chaotic life upside down. Spoiler alert: they exist, and some are surprisingly adorable. This post is for every frazzled but loving pet parent out there who wants their little ones to enjoy the companionship of a pet without turning into a full-time zookeeper. Whether you’re in a small unit or just don’t want to groom anything more than your own eyebrows, I’ve got you covered. Here’s my round-up of [pets that are easy to take care of](https://petcurewell.com/easy-pets-to-take-care-of/ "pets that are easy to take care of"). ## **Top 10 Low-Maintenance Pets for Kids** ## **1. Guinea Pigs** ![Best Low-maintenance pets | Guinea pigs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Guinea-pig-792524_960_720.jpg "Guinea-pig-792524_960_720 - Beanstalk Mums") Guinea pigs are social animals and make a great pet for kids who want something to cuddle. They’re chatty, affectionate, and have minimal grooming needs if you choose short-haired breeds like the American or Abyssinian. They do need a well-ventilated cage and a mate (they hate being lonely), but otherwise, their basic needs mainly include fresh food, food and water top-ups, and the occasional dust bath to keep their fur looking fab. ***Average lifespan:** Up to 8 years with proper care* ***Average monthly cost:** $40 to $60* ***Where they live:** Escape-proof cage or enclosure with room for exercise and bedding made of paper/hardwood shavings* ***What they eat:** Guinea pig food, timothy hay, some fruits and veggies* ## **2. Hamster** ![hamster](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Hamster-1200x800.png "Hamster - Beanstalk Mums") If your kids stay up late, a hamster might just be their soulmate. These tiny creatures are the definition of a low-maintenance pet. They don’t need much space, and you’ll only need to clean the tank once a week and spot clean daily. Just be sure to invest in a good cage with tunnels or a wheel to keep them happy. They’re great beginner pets and are generally easy to handle with a bit of patience. **Average lifespan:** 2–3 years in captivity​ **Average monthly cost:** $15–$30 (food & bedding) **Where they live:** Spacious cage or tank (≈100×50 cm base) with deep bedding for burrowing​ **What they eat:** mainly [commercial hamster pellets](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/866166673/100g-syrian-hamster-pellet-free-food-mix "commercial hamster pellets") plus small servings of fresh veg/fruits and occasional protein (e.g. mealworms or egg) ## **3. Betta Fish** ![Best low-maintenance pets | Betta fish](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Betta-3494579_960_720.jpg "Betta-3494579_960_720 - Beanstalk Mums") The male betta fish is colourful, sassy, and ideal for apartment living. Unlike other saltwater fish, betta fish should be kept alone (they’re a bit territorial), making them one of the best low-maintenance pets for solo tanks. They eat pellet food, require stable water quality, and don’t need much in terms of gear. As long as the water’s clean and they get fed, they’re easy to keep happy and healthy. ***Average lifespan:** 3 to 5 years* ***Average monthly cost:** $25 to $50* ***Where they live:** Fish bowl (at least one quart) or aquarium tank (bigger is better) with filter, heater, lamp, toys, gravel and plants* ***What they eat:** Live fish food, dry food pellets* ## **Best Low-Maintenance Pets (cont.)** ## **4. Turtles** ![Turtles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/File_00000000a42051f7bbb7fe1140e4e7a5_conversation_id67efb72e-ce28-8010-92fb-603b8732ea0cmessage_idc4a89d17-b1cb-4f64-b0d7-73b3c3704121-1-1200x800.png "File_00000000a42051f7bbb7fe1140e4e7a5_conversation_id=67efb72e-ce28-8010-92fb-603b8732ea0cmessage_id=c4a89d17-b1cb-4f64-b0d7-73b3c3704121 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Turtles are the stoic grandpas of the pet world—quiet, low-energy, and relatively low-maintenance. They can live for decades, though, so this is a pet for the long haul. They’ll need a tank with UV lighting, a basking area, and proper filtration to maintain water quality, but once that’s sorted, they’re very easy to care for and fascinating to watch. ***Average lifespan:** Up to 50 years* ***Average monthly cost:** $40 to $120, depending on the breed* ***Where they live:** Indoor tank with water, filter, a sunning area and a special reptile lamp, or an outdoor enclosure near a pond* ***What they eat:** Special turtle food, meat, plants, raw fish, worms, shrimp, mosquito larvae and other water insects* ## **5. Leopard Gecko** ![best low-maintenance pets | leopard gecko](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Leopard-gecko-1200x800.png "Leopard gecko - Beanstalk Mums") Geckos like the crested or leopard gecko are small, don’t need much fuss, and come in pretty colours. They don’t require a ton of human interaction, making them a top pick for busy pet parents or kids who like to observe rather than snuggle. Their tanks don’t take up much space, and as long as you maintain the temperature and toss in some crickets, your kids have themselves a low-maintenance companion. ***Average lifespan:** 10–20 years (with proper care in captivity)* ***Average monthly cost:** $25–$60* ***Where they live:** Indoor tank with water, filter, a sunning area and a special reptile lamp, or an outdoor enclosure near a pond* ***What they eat:** Insectivorous; fed every other day on live insects (crickets, mealworms, roaches), with occasional fatty worms as treats​* ## **Best Low-Maintenance Pets (cont.)** ## **6. Sea Monkeys (Or Brine Shrimps)** ![sea monkeys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Brine-shrimp-1200x800.png "Brine shrimp - Beanstalk Mums") Yes, sea monkeys are still a thing! They’re quirky, fun, and genuinely low maintenance. These weird little creatures hatch from a packet, live in a small tank, and only need weekly feeding. They’re also great for young kids curious about how life forms work, they’re a good way to introduce pets without any major commitment. ***Average lifespan:** 1–2 years on average (some live up to 5 years)​* ***Average monthly cost:** Negligible (virtually maintenance-free; minimal food cost)​* ***Where they live:** Tiny aquarium (≈12 oz/0.35 L saltwater tank) kept at room temperature​* ***What they eat:** Filter-feeding brine shrimp; fed microalgae/yeast-based powdered food about once a week* ## **7. Hermit Crab** ![best low-maintenance pets | hermit crab](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/File_00000000d5c061f7afb78f007b7ea11e_conversation_id67efbaca-405c-8010-909e-5cc13deb853emessage_idaddc1ecc-f051-475f-9ee7-ea0ef9303b53-1200x800.png "File_00000000d5c061f7afb78f007b7ea11e_conversation_id=67efbaca-405c-8010-909e-5cc13deb853emessage_id=addc1ecc-f051-475f-9ee7-ea0ef9303b53 - Beanstalk Mums") The hermit crab is the quirky cousin of the pet world. They’re fun to watch as they outgrow shells and switch things up (like a tiny wardrobe change). They do best in groups, and while they don’t require much, they still need a humid habitat and sand to dig into. A bit more upkeep than you’d expect—but still counts as a low-maintenance pet, especially for older kids ready to take some responsibility. ***Average lifespan:** 10–15 years (with good care; can sometimes exceed 20)​* ***Average monthly cost:** $20 (food, substrate, water conditioner, etc.)​* ***Where they live:** Humid “crabitat” – a glass tank (≥10 gal per crab recommended) with sand/coconut substrate, kept warm (24–30 °C) and 70–80% humidity​*. *Fresh dechlorinated water and saltwater pools must be provided.​* ***What they eat:** Commercial pellets or powder, plus fruits/vegetables (e.g. apple, coconut)* ## **Best Low-Maintenance Pets (cont.)** ## **8. Corn Snake** ![corn snake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Corn-snake-1200x800.png "Corn snake - Beanstalk Mums") Corn snakes are a gentle snake breed and a great intro reptile. They’re non-venomous, don’t need a ton of space, and only eat once a week. Perfect for older kids who are cool with reptiles and want something unique. Their care requirements include a warm tank and a hidey spot, but otherwise, they’re a no-fuss pet with a calm personality. ***Average lifespan:** 10–15 years (many reach 15+; some up to ~20+ years)​​* ***Average monthly cost:** $10–$30 (primarily for frozen feeder mice and supplies)* ***Where they live:*** Secure vivarium (tank) long enough for the snake to stretch out (about 2/3 of its body length; often 20–40 gal). Must have a warm gradient, secure lid, and hiding spots​ ***What they eat:** Pre-killed mice (or appropriate-size rodents) every 1–2 weeks​* ## **9. Goldfish** ![goldfish | best low-maintenance pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Goldfish-1200x800.png "Goldfish - Beanstalk Mums") An oldie but a goodie, the humble goldfish is still a solid option. Choose freshwater fish and a decently sized tank, and you’re golden. They’ll need clean water, regular feeding, and the occasional vet check if they’re not looking their best. They are ideal pets for children just learning the ropes of pet care, and they’re pretty to boot! ***Average lifespan:** 5 to 10 years with proper care* ***Average monthly cost:** $6 to $25* ***Where they live:** Fish tank or aquarium with filter and enough room to support growth* ***What they eat:** Special goldfish flakes supplemented with live/frozen shrimp, daphnia and vegetable mix* ## **10. Greyhound (One of the Most Low-Maintenance Dog Breeds)** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/File_000000002ebc51f7802c4ddfef283ea2_conversation_id67efcaeb-a710-8010-ae65-e6607d737878message_idcf60c585-904b-40a6-b674-426deeec7599-1200x800.png "File_000000002ebc51f7802c4ddfef283ea2_conversation_id=67efcaeb-a710-8010-ae65-e6607d737878message_id=cf60c585-904b-40a6-b674-426deeec7599 - Beanstalk Mums") You’re [looking for a dog](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/) that’s chill and doesn’t need constant grooming? Look no further than the greyhound. Despite their racing background, these dogs are giant marshmallows who love a stroll around the block and long naps. As one of the most popular low-maintenance dog breeds, greyhounds are calm, affectionate, and need less exercise than many smaller, more hyper dog breeds. Just one daily walk and they’re done! ***Average lifespan:** 12–15 years* ***Average monthly cost:** $50–$90 (insects, veggies, plus lighting & substrate upkeep)* ***Where they live:** Large vivarium (~120×60×60 cm for an adult) with basking heat lamp and UVB light; semi-arid setup with decor for climbing and hiding​* ***What they eat:** Live insects (crickets, worms, roaches) daily (especially for juveniles) and a variety of fresh greens/vegetables regularly​* ## **Best Low-Maintenance Pets for Busy Mums Bonus Pick: Bearded Dragon** ![bearded dragon | Best low-maintenance pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Bearded-dragon-1200x800.png "Bearded dragon - Beanstalk Mums") Bearded dragons are laid-back little legends—perfect for kids who want a cool pet without too much fuss. These Aussie natives love to chill on warm rocks, munch on veggies and bugs, and even enjoy the occasional cuddle. They’re super easy to care for, don’t make a mess, and can live happily in a simple tank setup. Plus, with their dinosaur-like looks, they’re bound to be a hit with the whole family. Low effort, high charm! ***Average lifespan:** 10–15 years is common in captivity​* ***Average monthly cost:** $6 to $25* ***Where they live:** Fish tank or aquarium with filter and enough room to support growth* ***What they eat:** Special goldfish flakes supplemented with live/frozen shrimp, daphnia and vegetable mix* ## **Final Thoughts: Choosing the Best Low-Maintenance Pets for Kids** When it comes to choosing among the best pets, consider what works for your family’s energy, space, and routine. Whether it’s a snoozing greyhound, a curious hermit crab, or a splashy betta fish, there’s a pet on this list to suit every household. As a single mum, I know what it’s like to want to give your kids the world, without losing your mind in the process. So choosing a low-maintenance pet that doesn’t upend your routine can be the win you all need. Many of these pets require minimal upkeep, yet still offer the companionship and joy we all crave. Just remember: it’s best to do a little research, teach the kids what to expect, and pick a pet that’s not just cute, but one you can all realistically care for, because even the easiest pets to take care of need love and attention! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-low-maintenance-pets/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children, Household **Tags:** pets, animals --- ### [How Often Should You Really Apply Hair Moisturiser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-often-should-you-really-apply-hair-moisturiser/) **Published:** December 28, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Finding a routine that keeps your hair healthy without going overboard can feel like a bit of a juggling act. Some days your strands seem perfectly content, and on others they behave as though they have been wandering through a desert. And that is where a good [hair moisturiser](https://www.houseofnappies.com.au/beauty-personal-care/hair-care/hair-moisturisers/) comes in, offering support when your hair needs a little extra care. But how often should you be reaching for it? The answer is never as straightforward as people often hope, and it usually sits somewhere between personal preference and the way your hair naturally behaves. ## **How Your Hair Handles Moisture** Every head of hair is unique, so frequency largely depends on what your strands respond to. Curls and coils, for instance, often struggle to stay hydrated because natural oils have a longer journey to travel. Straight and [fine textures](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/) usually have an easier time, which means they may not need attention quite as often. Even two people with similar hair types can have completely different moisture needs, so paying attention to feel and behaviour is half the battle. Porosity often plays an influential role. High porosity hair absorbs products readily but loses moisture just as fast. People with this trait often find that regular top-ups keep their hair supple. Low porosity hair tends to be more resistant, so lighter formulas used sparingly usually work better. Once you know how your hair absorbs and holds onto hydration, choosing a regimen becomes far more intuitive. ## **Exploring Daily, Weekly And Flexible Moisture Routines** While no strict rule applies to everyone, a few guidelines can help you get started. Dry, curly, or textured hair often benefits from daily or near-daily refreshes, particularly if the climate or your lifestyle leans toward dryness. If your hair sits on the straighter or oilier side, a couple of applications each week usually does the trick. It is more about listening to your hair than sticking to a rigid timetable. Your daily habits also influence how often you need to moisturise. Regular heat styling, spending time in chlorinated pools, or frequent exposure to strong sunlight can gradually strip hydration. In those cases, stepping up your routine can prevent dryness from creeping in. If you rarely use heat and prefer a gentler approach, you might notice that less frequent moisturising feels more comfortable. ![hair moisturiser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Hair-loss.jpg "Hair loss - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Choosing Products That Match Your Routine And Needs** The type of product you use can make a noticeable difference in how often it should be applied. Lightweight sprays and milky leave-ins are ideal when you prefer a routine that fits comfortably into daily styling. Heavier creams and richer butters generally suit thicker or coarser textures and don’t usually require such frequent use. Many people also pick a combination of products, using a lighter option through the week and reserving thicker formulas for the ends or particularly dry patches. Some products are designed to seal in moisture after washing, while others are meant for small touch-ups between shampoo days. A glance at the ingredients list can guide you as well. Hydrating elements like aloe vera, glycerin, and plant oils usually offer reliable moisture, whereas heavier silicones can sometimes build up if used too often. Some experimentation may be necessary to find the right balance for your hair, as individual needs can vary with climate, styling habits, and texture. ## **Knowing When Your Routine Needs Adjustment** Both too much and too little moisture show up in ways that are often easy to spot if you know what to look for. When your hair feels heavy, slick, or clumps together without natural definition, it may be a sign that you are applying products more frequently than necessary. Conversely, if strands feel brittle, frizzy, or tangle unusually easily, your hair is likely in need of more hydration. Paying attention to these signals allows you to respond thoughtfully rather than guessing. Small, incremental adjustments from week to week, whether that is adding a bit more moisture, spacing out treatments, or switching protective styles, often make the biggest difference. These tweaks help you establish a routine that is balanced, practical, and genuinely supportive of your hair’s health, keeping it strong, manageable, and resilient without feeling forced or overwhelming. ![hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Hair-care.png "Hair care - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Keeping Your Routine Balanced And Flexible** Moisturising your hair does not need to be complicated or rigid. A simple starting point is to apply moisture after washing, then pay attention to how long your hair stays hydrated before it begins to feel dry again. That observation tells you far more than any fixed schedule. Some days call for a light refresh, others need very little at all. Protective styles can help extend the benefits, particularly when paired with friction-reducing habits like using satin pillowcases or soft hair ties. As your hair changes with seasons, styling, or length, your routine can shift with it. With time, these small adjustments create a rhythm that feels intuitive, easy to maintain, and genuinely supportive of healthy hair. ## **Takeaways** The best moisturising routine is the one that fits both your hair’s unique needs and your daily life. It is not about following a strict schedule but about paying attention to how your hair responds. By observing how it feels after washing, styling, or exposure to different weather conditions, you can adjust the amount and frequency of moisture to suit it perfectly. Small experiments and gentle tweaks over time will help you discover a pattern that keeps your strands soft, healthy, and manageable. When your routine works with your hair instead of against it, caring for it feels effortless, and your hair stays hydrated, comfortable, and resilient without ever feeling weighed down or overworked. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-often-should-you-really-apply-hair-moisturiser/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/how-often-should-you-really-apply-hair-moisturiser/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [10 Adult Advent Calendars We Love For You](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-adult-advent-calendars/) **Published:** November 5, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Who doesn’t love an Advent calendar? I mean, we were brought up to love them … from childhood right through to adulthood! Receiving a surprise gift each day makes the holiday much more exciting. I adore Christmas, and I know lots of adults who launch themselves into the festivities with gusto. And yes, we do get excited about the first of December and the much-anticipated Christmas countdown. So, what better way to mark it than with our very own Christmas calendar? Thanks to TikTok, Christmas calendars have seen a resurgence. But I’m not talking about your average Joe kids’ calendar. I mean the real deal. A calendar that gives generously with a gift you actually want …. EVERY SINGLE DAY for 24 days! Here, our associate shopping editor has curated ten brilliant advent calendars for the holidays. Our sources will have you jumping out of bed to open a door every morning between now and Christmas. So, grab your notepad and pen for these Christmas gift ideas and let the countdown begin. ***Further reading: [10 Christmas wreath ideas to welcome the Christmas season.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-wreath-ideas/)*** ## 10 Adult advent calendars for the Christmas lover in all of us ## 1. Lovehoney X Womanizer Sex Toy Advent Calendar First in our holiday-themed gift shopping, a naughty advent calendar features at the top of our wish list this year. This one, which is filled with 24 unique toys, is packed with toys and accessories to celebrate and spice up each day of the holiday month. There are three to choose from this year, one of which is specifically for couples, making it a great [gift for a boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/) or girlfriend. It’s a great way to enjoy with a partner or on your own. [![Lovehoney X Womanizer Sex Toy Advent Calendar](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/86765_a48821_purple_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=auto&qlt=80)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fsex-toy-kits%2fp%2flovehoney-indulge-sex-toy-advent-calendar-2024-12-piece%2fa48821g86765.html)Available at:[ Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fsex-toy-kits%2fp%2flovehoney-indulge-sex-toy-advent-calendar-2024-12-piece%2fa48821g86765.html) ## 2. Boozy Advent Calendars In this classic, you’ll find 25 cans of beer. Count down the days until Christmas with a new exciting beer advent calendar from Craft Cartel. This is the perfect calendar to give your favourite beer aficionado. Note: Even if you open the window at breakfast time, we don’t recommend you drink your beer then … even if you need something to pick you up. [![Boozy Advent Calendars](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/3f48e5106f99808e2400d183d6f58d439edfc4d1fc75cdc6d4277b3331e29280?ts=1729494200)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/36793?Url=https%3a%2f%2fcraftcartel.com.au%2fbeer-advent-calendar%2f)Available at: [Craft Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/36793?Url=https%3a%2f%2fcraftcartel.com.au%2fbeer-advent-calendar%2f) ## 3. Chocolate Advent Calendar We can’t get enough of these gourmet chocolate advent calendars! Look at that lovely box, which includes 12 different kinds of sweets. And the inside is even better: chocolates and other sweet treats like wafers! We know your tweens and teens would love this 12-day Christmas advent calendar. I mean, who wouldn’t? ![Chocolate Advent Calendar](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/da12260b03625bbedf47e699991997d972151890c9cc7492c932a8bc36903c83?ts=1729494444)Available at: Chocolate Box ## 4. For the Love of Flavour Tea Advent Calendar Gotta love a tea advent calendar. Our favourite tea calendar this year is definitely this delight from T2. It would make a [heartfelt gift for Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/75-brilliant-gift-ideas-for-mums/), who gets to celebrate the holidays with 24 yummy variants of English tea behind its compartés. You’ll want to stock up on Bonne Maman jams and crackers to pair with flavours like Christmas Breakfast! [![For the Love of Flavour Tea Advent Calendar](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/d5a8ec4767e96f11006909df687fc88a307882cd3a96083cd16c44a5f801c556?ts=1729344273)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ffor-the-love-of-flavour-tea-bag-24-day-advent-calendar-T145AK877.html)Available at: [T2](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ffor-the-love-of-flavour-tea-bag-24-day-advent-calendar-T145AK877.html) ## 5. Beauty advent calendar The ultimate beauty advent calendar is perfect for anyone who loves all things beauty. The limited edition advent calendar has everything for your beauty regimen. Endota has outdone itself this year with a box packed with 12 of the brand’s luxe beauty products. This little gift is a nice way to try samples before committing to full-size. [![Beauty advent calendar](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/9fb857b017f6dc83b6e50fd70a02d973e108a02bccb498677fb985547b8c6b00?ts=1729494853)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fendota-12-days-of-endota-advent-calendar-pack)Available at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fendota-12-days-of-endota-advent-calendar-pack) ## 6. Non-alcoholic drinks Here’s a great reason to celebrate for the 12 days leading up to Christmas … a non-alcoholic wine advent calendar tree! Here’s to the mums who don’t drink but still want to be in a celebratory mood. Think of it as your own personal Christmas cheers: a daily moment of flavour, surprise, and maybe even discovering your next favourite brew. [![Non-alcoholic drinks](https://beercartel.com.au/cdn/shop/files/non-alc-xmas-beer-advent-calendar-sansdrinks-sans-drinks-1193706659.webp?v=1758268321&width=1200)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbeercartel.com.au%2fproducts%2fnon-alc-xmas-beer-advent-calendar)Available at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbeercartel.com.au%2fproducts%2fnon-alc-xmas-beer-advent-calendar) ## 10 Adult calendars for grown-ups (cont.) ## 7. Fun in the Sun More goodies for beauty and skincare lovers! In the Sun luxury beauty advent calendar, you’ll find 24 different products from Cosmetic Capital. Aside from the cool packaging, it’s a fun way to save some money. It’s way cheaper when you shop advent calendars instead of individual pieces. [![Fun in the Sun adult advent calendars](https://www.cosmeticcapital.com.au/cdn/shop/files/New_Advent_4_ADV_04_Winter_Village_GIFT701_3.jpg?v=1730246243&width=823)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/38642?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cosmeticcapital.com.au%2fproducts%2fcosmetic-capital-giant-white-christmas-beauty-advent-calendar-2025-version-2)Available at: [Cosmetic Capital](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/38642?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cosmeticcapital.com.au%2fproducts%2fcosmetic-capital-giant-white-christmas-beauty-advent-calendar-2025-version-2) ## 8. F.R.I.E.N.D.S. This one’s perfect for fans of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. The advent calendar offers a trinket or a memento behind each door for you to relive your favourite TV show from the 90s. The calendar includes paper ornaments, recipe cards, and more. [![F.R.I.E.N.D.S.](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/39b432af043644aeb2d9ea02bd6c4efaeb9aaa56c604db92cafcba11cf2e9589?ts=1729497536)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2ffriends-the-official-advent-calendar-the-one-with-the-surprises%2fvarious%2f9781647222611%2f)Available at: [QBD Books](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2ffriends-the-official-advent-calendar-the-one-with-the-surprises%2fvarious%2f9781647222611%2f) ## 9. Bath bombs This advent calendar is packed with 12 days of Mad Beauty bath bombs to add a little fizzle to their baths. This calendar brings you that much-needed pampering before the Christmas chaos! [![Bath bombs](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/8155bb197f2072bcdc0e6a4a01e85d91b4282d852f3d67bb3f4a52d2101b393c?ts=1729498382)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fMad-Beauty-Mad-Beauty-Oh-Deer-Bath-Fizzers%2fs%2f7RenOprXRU_X3JfONaLgag%3fssf%3dfalse)Available at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fMad-Beauty-Mad-Beauty-Oh-Deer-Bath-Fizzers%2fs%2f7RenOprXRU_X3JfONaLgag%3fssf%3dfalse) ## **10. Puzzle** This one doesn’t feature 12 or 24 puzzle sets; this is a puzzle advent calendar filled with mini puzzles for a Harry Potter lover in your life. This little holiday gift is perfect for enthusiasts to add to their daily puzzle collection. Most importantly, it’s something the whole family can enjoy. [![Puzzle](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/309437070c79598576631ee936e571c4fe2a6704b1ff9e7c6056a77bc8b75f26?ts=1729496544)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fugears-harry-potter-advent-calendar-model-kit%23gallery-1)Available at: [CoolThings Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fugears-harry-potter-advent-calendar-model-kit%23gallery-1) ## Christmas shopping for adult Advent calendars In a world of adulting and grown-up responsibilities, these Christmas calendars also remind us adults that being a kid at heart is timeless. From steamy surprises to tea sips, they’re not just calendars. Whether it’s a Bokksu box, Bonne Maman’s mini bottles of jam, luxury candles, or a 24-pack advent calendar socks gift set, they’re daily doses of holiday cheer this time of the year. I like to think of them as daily happiness deliveries. So, whether you’re unwrapping adult toys or trying a new brew, pampering yourself or sprinkling some holiday magic, there’s a calendar with your name on it. This holiday season, let’s forget the adulting for a moment and embrace the kid within us, one quirky surprise at a time. No matter how old we get, these calendars remind us that the festive spirit lives on. Here’s to a joyful countdown to Christmas that makes us all feel like excited kids again! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-adult-advent-calendars/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-adult-advent-calendars/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, Xmas, christmas gifts, christmas presents, christmas countdown, gifts for couples, advent calendars --- ### [Moving in together when you both have kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/moving-in-together-kids/) **Published:** May 2, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** Moving in together when you both have kids. Taking the step of moving in together should never be an impulsive decision. If your guy also has kids, well, things just got even more complicated. Make no mistake, [blending two families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/blended-families-beautiful/) will test any relationship. If you have even the slightest doubts, please don’t go there. Your freedom and independence are about to take a back seat. And goodbye to special nights staying over at each other’s homes and spontaneous dates. This is going to need some serious adjustment! Let’s take a look at how you can blend your step-families and still keep your relationship as a top priority. ## Moving in together when you both have kids ### Have sleepovers and bring the kids! The process itself doesn’t have to happen in one or two days. Start slowly and get everyone used to the idea. You can test drive the idea and see how everyone gets along. Before making this massive commitment and rushing out to sign a lease on a rental property, start having sleepovers at each other’s houses – with the kids. ### Start familiarity and routine After the kids begin getting used to each other, and hopefully getting along like a house on fire, you can start leaving a change of clothes and a toothbrush for the kids at his house, and vice versa. Eventually, when the time feels right, you all might agree that it seems silly to have two homes. Now might be the time to consider letting one of the homes go, or to start looking for a new one to share as your new home. When this happens, familiarity and routine will already be partially established. ### Check in with your kids Even if this new chapter feels right for you, it doesn’t mean the kids will automatically be on board too. Whether the kids move in full-time or just on the week-ends, it’s important to understand how they are feeling with your man and his kids playing such a large part of your life – it might feel like an invasion. That is why it’s critical to have your kids get to know your partner so they feel comfortable and can [develop their own relationship with him](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-nurture-a-good-relationship-between-your-kids-and-your-new-partner/). ### Sharing time If your children are used to living with just you, it is likely that you all have a very close bond. Remember, they will not be used to ‘sharing’ mum, especially with a man and his kids. Make sure you save time just for you and your kids, the way it used to be. At the same time, your partner may have a hard time adjusting to the bond you share with your kids and may feel resentment. You could feel like you are being pulled in all directions! Having open and honest communication will help set new guidelines so you can work towards setting up a new family unit that everyone is comfortable with. There is no doubt this will take time to establish, so be patient and keep working at it. Your partner (and yourself) will need to adjust to having to take a back seat once in a while. ### If they move into your home If your new stepfamily is moving into your current home, it must be treated as though it’s just as much their home as it is yours. You need to make your new stepfamily feel as if they are not trespassing. Unless you make your home open and inviting for his kids, your partner may feel reluctant to put in the effort to make this work. On the other hand, it’s quite normal for your kids to feel invaded and pushed to the side, as if the new people are getting special treatment. It’s important you don’t forgo important previous links your kids have become used to. So just because your partner and his kids have moved in, make a point of maintaining the special things you and your kids have become used to. ### Territorial Instincts Compare your kids with a cat … bear with me here, I’ll explain. Kids also mark their territory by leaving clothes, socks, cups, toys, etc, scattered around the place. Kids’ bedrooms are an important part of their lives. Think about how a cat would react if you suddenly invited in a new puppy or kitten – they’ll go on the attack! Your kids are likely going to act in a hostile manner, protecting their territory, trying to dissuade your partner and his kids from moving in. Eventually, the situation will start to settle down, and they’ll hopefully become close friends. In this situation, even eventual buddies start off by acting in a hostile manner. ### Date Nights If you move in together when you both have kids, don’t neglect the special bond you have with your partner. It’s easy to fall into unhealthy habits. Remember to spice things up from time to time, the internet is a gold mine for new dating ideas in Australia. Call in a favour every now and then from a friend or family member to mind the kids … then get out and enjoy your kids-free time. ### Managing moving day Keep everything as easy as possible throughout the day and arrange the support you need. It may include [hiring a reputable company for a bond clean](https://planetmaids.com/) and/or getting friends or family to look after the kids during the main part of the move. Recently, when I moved house, I hired what I would describe as a [kid-friendly removalists company in Brisbane](http://www.brisbaneremovalists.com.au/). When I booked these guys, they made a special point of asking if we had kids. They then set up the kids’ rooms first and arranged their treasures to keep them occupied. We moved everything into the rest of the house. Doing it this way made a huge difference in helping the kids establish their own space. Shortly after moving in, explore your new neighbourhood. Scope out the local shops, sporting venues and other communities you or your kids may be able to join. Taking the enormous step in combining your families will require regular maintenance as your kids grow older and develop into various life stages. ![Moving in together when both have kids | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Moving-in-together-kids.png "Moving in together kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/moving-in-together-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/moving-in-together-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families, Relationships **Tags:** moving house, blended families, step kids, step mum, step family, living together --- ### [The top 10 comfort foods to get over a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-top-10-comfort-foods-to-get-over-a-breakup/) **Published:** August 28, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Relationship breakups suck. Yet, we all find ourselves there at one time or another. The best thing you can do is to be kind to yourself. Enjoy the things in life that make you feel good … including FOOD. In fact, it is a great excuse to indulge without guilt! To have you feeling better in no time, we have discovered and listed the top ten comfort foods to get you [over a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/). ## YUMMY SAVOURY FOODS TO GET YOU THROUGH A BREAKUP ### 1. MACARONI CHEESE (OR ANYTHING PASTA) Mac and cheese (or any pasta) is the go-to post-breakup meal, not just for Millennials. We get it. Mac and cheese is super tasty and takes no time to make, even if you live alone and only have a hot plate. All you need are two ingredients. Netflix optional. [![Macaroni cheese | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.momontimeout.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/homemade-baked-mac-and-cheese-733x1101.jpg)](https://www.momontimeout.com/best-homemade-baked-mac-and-cheese-recipe/) Our favourite recipe is: Best Homemade Baked Mac and Cheese from [Mom on Timeout](https://www.momontimeout.com/best-homemade-baked-mac-and-cheese-recipe/) ### 2. CHICKEN NOODLE SOUP Chicken noodle soup takes us back to that time when mum fussed over us because we were feeling poorly. It’s the ultimate comfort food that is delicious, hearty and great to eat when you have the sniffles, whether caused by a virus or breakup-related. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.inspiredtaste.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Easy-Chicken-Noodle-Soup-Recipe-1-1200.jpg)](https://www.inspiredtaste.net/37475/homemade-chicken-noodle-soup-recipe/) Our favourite recipe is: Homemade Chicken Noodle Soup from [Inspired Taste](https://www.inspiredtaste.net/37475/homemade-chicken-noodle-soup-recipe/) ### 3. PIZZA Ah, pizza. Good for eating whenever, but especially after getting your heart broken. Drown your sorrows in carbs, cheese and all the unhealthy toppings you want. Or better yet, make your own pizza at home with healthier ingredients. It’s a great distraction from the guy you’re obsessing over. [![Pizza | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/delish-homemade-pizza-horizontal-1542312378.png?crop=1.00xw:1.00xh;0,0&resize=768:%2A)](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a24893663/homemade-pizza-recipe/) Our favourite recipe is: Homemade Pizza from [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a24893663/homemade-pizza-recipe/) ### 4. GARLIC BREAD Down in the dumps? Let garlic bread be your saviour. Garlic bread is not just for eating with spaghetti; it’s perfect to munch on alone. Make your own garlic bread at home with whole wheat bread or a French loaf, fresh herbs and heaps of garlic. Add Parmesan cheese on top for extra decadence. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.ambitiouskitchen.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/garlicbread-4.jpg)](https://www.ambitiouskitchen.com/the-best-garlic-bread-recipe/) Our favourite recipe is: The Best Garlic Bread from [Ambitious Kitchen](https://www.ambitiouskitchen.com/the-best-garlic-bread-recipe/) ## SWEET COMFORT FOODS FOR A BROKEN HEART ### 5. ANYTHING CHOCOLATE Now we’re getting into chocolate territory, and that means endless deliciousness. Add wine, and you have a perfect post-breakup recipe. We love these rich and decadent chocolate cupcakes with a dash of Cabernet and marionberry frosting (feel free to substitute whatever fruit you have). [![Cup cakes | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://aclassictwist.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/chocolate-red-wine-cupcakes-4.jpg)](https://aclassictwist.com/chocolate-red-wine-cupcakes-with-marionberry-frosting/) Our favourite recipe is: Chocolate and Red Wine Cupcakes from [A Classic Twist](https://aclassictwist.com/chocolate-red-wine-cupcakes-with-marionberry-frosting/) ### 6. ICE CREAM Next on our list of comfort foods to get over a breakup: Any stressful situation calls for tubs of ice cream. Distract yourself from your woes by making it yourself. Don’t worry, it’s easier than you think. The ice cream maker does most of the work, and all you need to add are the ingredients. Go crazy and load up on toppings…chocolate, nuts, syrup, peanut butter cups…the sky’s the limit. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.lovefromtheoven.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/NM-Love-From-The-Oven-MM-Cupcake-Cones-2-19-510x765.jpg)](https://www.lovefromtheoven.com/deep-dark-delicious-chocolate-ice-cream/) Our favourite recipe is: Deep Dark Chocolate Ice Cream from [Love from the Oven](https://www.lovefromtheoven.com/deep-dark-delicious-chocolate-ice-cream/) ### 7. SMOOTHIES Toss your healthy smoothies out the window. You need something super decadent to soothe your heart and soul. We highly recommend the recipe below that is chocolaty, creamy and naturally sweet. Eat for dessert or in the middle of the night. We won’t judge. [![Smoothie | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://minimalistbaker.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/AMAZING-Banana-Split-Smoothie-10-minutes-8-ingredients-1-blender.-SO-easy-SO-healthly-and-DELICIOUS-vegan-smoothie-recipe-easy.jpg)](https://minimalistbaker.com/banana-split-smoothie/) Our favourite recipe is: Banana Split Smoothie from [Minimalist Baker](https://minimalistbaker.com/banana-split-smoothie/) ### 8. CHEESECAKE You deserve a slice (or four) of heaven after what you’ve been through. That’s why you need to make this cheesecake. It prob has 8 million calories, but who cares? It doesn’t require baking, it lets you practice your cake decorating skills, and it tastes as amazing as it looks, like a chocolate-covered marshmallow. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://food.fnr.sndimg.com/content/dam/images/food/fullset/2018/9/26/0/FNK_No-Bake-S'mores-Cheesecake_H2_s4x3.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.966.725.suffix/1537973086627.jpeg)](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/no-bake-smores-cheesecake-5421729) Our favourite recipe is: No-Bake S’mores Cheesecake from [Food Network](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/no-bake-smores-cheesecake-5421729) ### 9. ANYTHING YOUR EX DIDN’T LIKE Remember when you had to go easy on or give up certain foods because your ex hated them? Now that you’re single again, it’s time to indulge. Have a full course of all the foods your ex didn’t like. If he hated carbs, load up on pasta, sweets and fries. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://s23209.pcdn.co/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/IMG_3277-682x1024.jpg)](https://damndelicious.net/2012/06/21/garlic-cheese-fries/) Our favourite recipe is: Garlic Cheese Fries from [Damn Delicious](https://damndelicious.net/2012/06/21/garlic-cheese-fries/) ### 10. THE FOODS YOU ATE GROWING UP Your favourite foods growing up can take you back to a time when everything was simple and your heart unbroken. It’s comforting to know that no matter how much the world and your life change, some things will always stay the same, like the taste of a scrumptious chicken pot pie. [![Comfort Foods to Get Over a Breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/double-crust-chicken-pot-pie-5.jpg)](https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/double-crust-chicken-pot-pie/) Our favourite recipe is: Double Crust Chicken Pot Pie from [Sally’s Baking Addiction](https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/double-crust-chicken-pot-pie/) ![The top 10 comfort foods to get over a breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Food-for-a-breakup.png "Food for a breakup - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-top-10-comfort-foods-to-get-over-a-breakup/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-top-10-comfort-foods-to-get-over-a-breakup/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships, Food **Tags:** relationship, healing, split, breakdown --- ### [20 Simple ways to be a more content single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/) **Published:** January 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Who wouldn’t want to be a more content single mum? Bring on more contentment any day of the week, I say! Fun fact: The adjective for being content is “In a state of peaceful happiness.” Sounds blissful, doesn’t it? It’s something we all really want and spend a lot of time searching for. Yet, contentment comes from within. It is a personal thing and is different for everyone. You may be content with a peaceful evening to yourself or cheering on your kids at sports. Two completely different activities, both happy and fulfilling to different people. Contentment, like happiness, is scientifically proven to be contagious. So if you are content… your children will feel content too. Just think.. peaceful, happy children! What more could we ask for? The best bit is that it’s super easy to have a more content life. To get you started, I’ve made a list of 20 easy-peasy ways to be a more content single mum. Thank me later! ## 20 Ways to be a more content single mum ## 1. Let go of the need to be a perfect single mum (there’s no such thing) First things first, stop trying to be perfect. Not only is there no such thing as a perfect mum, but imagine what it would be like if we were all flawless … how boring! Once you give yourself a break and accept that being YOU is enough, you’ll unlock the gate to Contentment Castle. I learned pretty early that perfection as a mum was an impossible mission. I then embraced the hot mess single mum I really was, and everything felt easier, happier and waaay more fun. ## 2. Be with your children with no other distractions What is the most important job in your world? Correct answer (I hope): Being a mum. And ‘being a mum’ means being there for your kids over and above everything else. So, to find fulfilment and feel damn good, BE THAT MUM. This means spending quality time with your kids where you focus on them and only them. Not only will they adore your undivided attention, but you can fall unburdened into their world and just enjoy the small human/s you created. ## 3. Listen to feel-good music (preferably loudly … and dance) Did you know that music has a profound impact on our emotions and can evoke a wide range of feelings, including contentment? I’m sure you do. I mean, who doesn’t feel fab when they crank up their favourite tune? If you’ve had a hard day and your contentment levels are dwindling, put on some music and dance. My girls are older, and I don’t have to be alert for every sound. This means that I sometimes stick in my headphones with my ‘Uplift Me’ playlist while I cook dinner. I make it faster, enjoy the process, and I’m sure it tastes better, too. Your fav music = contentment. It’s that simple. ## 4. Live your dreams by working towards your goals Being a solo parent doesn’t mean you have to forget about your dreams. Yes, some of us might have to slow down with our life goals. Some of us might even have to set our ambitions aside for a little while to prioritise our children. Like me, when I had to give up a promotion years ago, because more workload meant I wouldn’t be able to pick my kids up from school on time. But remember that you can always get back on track. And it’s never too late to chase your dreams, no matter what age you’re in. As for me, I know I can get that promotion someday. I’m still aiming for it, slowly, one step at a time. And thinking about how I’ll achieve my goal someday keeps me grounded. ***Further reading: [Goal setting for success in six easy steps.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/goal-setting-for-success-in-six-easy-steps/)*** ## 5. Accept help and delegate where possible I know you can handle whatever life throws at you. But let’s face it, despite the satisfaction of accomplishing everything by yourself, it always feels good to have someone help you. Start by [teaching your little ones chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/) that require little effort, like putting their newly folded clothes in the closet. It will be hitting two birds with one stone – you’ll finish tasks faster and introduce simple chores to your kids. High five! Thankfully, mine can now do simple household chores like washing the dishes and setting the table. So I’m able to focus on more tedious tasks at home (plus I now have time to relax after cooking). Also, whenever one of my sisters comes to visit, I never decline any kind of help – especially if they’ll be staying for a couple of days. A simple offer to set the table will give you a few minutes of much-needed rest, so take it. ## 6. Have something to look forward to, however small Rewarding yourself for not only surviving the day but also doing it with flying colours – now this is another tick in the content single mum checklist. At the end of every day, I look forward to the time when both my kids are asleep. Only then can I watch my favourite Netflix series without someone shouting my name and asking me where their sock is (seriously, though, why can’t they find it and I could?!) You, too, can have something to look forward to. You can treat yourself to a spa or a movie once every month. Doing this will help you relax and replenish your energy so you can take better care of your little ones. ## 7. Seek escapism with a good book or a podcast We’ve all experienced the challenges that come with being a single mum, so it is important to find moments of escape (not literally, though). Whenever I get too overwhelmed by everything that I need to do – bills that need to be paid, clothes that need to be washed, or school projects that are almost due- I take a quick escape by reading a few pages from my favourite novel or listening to a fun podcast. Doing this allows me to recharge and face the world with a fresh perspective. Aside from helping me destress, it helps me get things done quickly. It is my little oasis of calm amidst life’s chaos. ## 8. Nourish yourself with healthy food Juggling parenthood by yourself often means neglecting personal well-being. I, too, used to be guilty of this (I still am, sometimes). Sometimes I forget to take my vitamins, or I get only a few hours of sleep. I’m aware that I should also take care of myself, and I do my best to do so, because I know that my children are depending on me. Aside from exercising regularly, I make a point to plan nutritious meals (both for my kids and me). This not only boosts my energy but also sets a positive example for my little ones. ## 9. Consider and be thankful for the good things in your life For me, this is the most crucial factor to being a content single mum – expressing gratitude for all of life’s blessings, no matter how small. I know it’s easier to whine, to be pessimistic, and to focus on life’s challenges. I mean, who doesn’t complain when things get tough, right?! But you know what? Once I started taking time to reflect on the positive side of things and appreciating them, I felt more content. I realised there are more good things in my life than bad. I have supportive friends, my kids love me, we get to eat three times every day, and most importantly, we are healthy. Stop and take time to think about the small things in your life that you are grateful for. ## 10. Don’t compare yourself to others or worry about what people think The world will never be void of people who are quick to judge. Sometimes they add unnecessary stress to our already complicated lives. If you are serious about being a content single mum, avoid comparing yourself to others and don’t let what people say affect you. I know, easier said than done. I also know from experience that it’s difficult to “un-hear” negative comments about your parenting style (In-laws, am I right?! \*wink). But dwelling on what others think does not help at all. Instead, accept and recognise that your parenting journey may be different from others, but it is also valid and valuable. Look in the mirror every morning and say, “I am not perfect, but I am a good mum.” This mantra helped me get through tough times; I hope it does the same for you. ## 11. Feel happy you’re a single mum I used to see being a single mum as a never-ending burden. But after years of being one, I realised that it’s more of a perk! I get to bond with my kids whenever I want to, and they confide their secrets with me (except spilling those tiny crushes – I just couldn’t get through those, lol). I think of single motherhood as a superpower instead of a limitation, because mums like us have more strength and resilience than any Avenger. Think about how free you are to make decisions that align with your values and priorities. That alone is an amazing trait! ## 12. Exercise as regularly as you can, doing something you ENJOY Before I had kids, I had an extensive workout routine. I [exercised](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) regularly, and fitness was one of my priorities. Committing to it was easy peasy. (I even had abs!) But since I became a mum, carving out time to even take a walk around our block has been quite a challenge. Despite the difficulty, I still try! I wake up at five in the morning and take a light jog or walk briskly to get coffee from the nearest cafe, and I love it! It’s “me time” and a workout in one! You too can try an activity that you love. Start with an easy one and commit to it. Think of it as an investment in your well-being so you can take on the daily challenges of single parenthood. ## 13. Watch TV that makes you laugh Single mum or not, laughter truly is the best medicine. Taking a break to watch TV shows that make you laugh is a powerful stress reliever. It can be a sitcom, a stand-up comedy special, or a light-hearted series. The shows do not need to be on TV either. They can be on your preferred streaming app if you want to watch while on the go. These moments of joy not only provide a mental escape but also contribute to your overall well-being. So, if you can, make it a regular part of your self-care routine. ## 14. Catch up regularly with good friends and close family When was the last time you enjoyed a hot cup of coffee with your friends? I know you got used to drinking coffee that’s been reheated in the microwave for the 9th time. (I can totally relate, sister). But every once in a while, you can schedule a coffee date to catch up with your pals. Now don’t tell me you don’t have time. You can make time for it! You can get a sitter or take your kids to a family member or friend who owes you a favour. If there’s no one available, you can bring the kids along. It will be a great opportunity for them to get to know their Mum’s buddies. If you have mum friends, they can bring their kiddos, too. It will be a coffee date and a playdate in one! ## 15. Get your financial situation in order, so you worry less about it Taking control of your financial situation is a powerful step towards peace of mind and contentment. Yes, you can indulge yourself with a well-deserved reward from time to time, but make sure you don’t overspend. I know it’s your hard-earned money, and it’s up to you how you spend it. Shopping for stuff might make you happy for a while, but will you feel the same after seeing your card’s billing statement? I don’t think so. Instead of buying plenty of petty things all at once, purchase one thing that you really want. Scott Pape’s “[Barefoot Investor](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0730324214/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0730324214&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=0b2acc6892ffb523a8676f6cdca82fdc)” offers practical advice on managing money, creating a budget, and building financial resilience. By understanding and organising your finances, you can worry less and have financial freedom. ## 16. Smile more (it’s scientifically proven to make you feel better) After I separated from my kids’ father, I smiled less. I became more serious and had this poker face on. Then I noticed that this habit began to resonate with the people around me, including my kids. My youngest would frown at the smallest issues, my oldest had fewer friends, and my neighbour would immediately turn around upon seeing me! In her defence, maybe I looked a little too grumpy at the time. I’m not telling you to force a smile when you don’t feel like it. I’m just saying that it never hurts to flash a grin from time to time, whether it’s at the mirror, your kiddo, or even your morning coffee. Trust me, it’s like a happiness workout, and the best part? No gym membership is required! ## 17. Don’t look back in anger; instead, look forward with positivity You may have had issues with your ex-husband (and you might still have), but life’s too short for that noise. Remember, he is still your children’s father. He may not be present all the time, but that’s on him. I’m not telling you to forgive him or forget about his wrongdoings, especially if they’re still pretty fresh. Instead of focusing on the negative things he has done or your differences, redirect your thoughts to how you can make co-parenting work. Focus on the road ahead (and most importantly, on your kids). Dwelling in anger is like carrying rocks in your backpack. Drop that baggage, my friend, and I promise you will feel much lighter. ***Further reading: [How to let go of hate and be a better co-parent.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/)*** ## 18. Ditch the guilt I get it – guilt has this sneaky way of creeping into our lives. This is true not only for single mums but also for all types of mothers. I guess that is just how we are. Here’s my two cents on that – it’s a wasted emotion. I’ve been down that guilt trip, blaming myself for not being a superhero 24/7. But you know what? Perfect moms only exist in fairy tales. So, [ditch the guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/), mumma. It’s unnecessary, and trust me, your kiddos won’t remember the small stumbles. Do you know what they will remember? That you were always there for them, and that’s what matters most. Now pass me the tissue \*sniff. ## 19. Boost your energy so you feel like you can take on the world Here’s another secret to being a content single mum – find what gives you a [boost of energy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/energy-boosting-secrets-tired-mums/). If it’s a power snack, make sure to stock plenty in your pantry. It could also be a goofy dance break, so make sure your playlist is prepared with the right music. If it’s a quick power nap (seriously, they work wonders), be sure to take it whenever you need to. For me, it’s a dance party in the living room (and a cup of coffee). This combo makes me feel like plugging into a cosmic energy source. Then I’m ready to take on the world again. ## 20. Reflect at the end of each day and give yourself a pat on the back This method is often taken for granted because of how hectic our daily schedules are. But it is one of the simplest and effective steps to becoming a content single mum. At the end of each day, take a moment to reflect and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. But what if you had a crazy and tiring day? Here’s the trick: rewind a bit. Think about those moments you handled like a boss and how you conquered the hurdles of that day. Just like how you still made it in time for your morning meeting even after dealing with an hour-long tantrum at home. Celebrate those victories, no matter how small. You’re doing a superhero-level job, and acknowledging it is like a daily dose of self-love. ## Summary: Simple ways to be a more content single mum Juggling a demanding job while raising a highly energetic kid (or two) by yourself can make life seem like a relentless rollercoaster. So I won’t blame you if, even after reading my “tried and tested” tips, achieving contentment may still seem like a dream. Believe me, it’s not, as long as you’re willing to make time and commit. Being a content single mum is a journey of self-discovery and resilience. Despite dealing with the demands of solo parenthood, from financial constraints and moody teenagers to the occasional outbursts with the ex, trust me, you can do it. Begin by embracing the simple practices above. At first, you can choose one that you believe is the easiest to achieve. And before you know it, you have ticked off all 20 of them! I know seeing your kids eat their favourite food and buying new stuff for them alone brings you enormous joy. I feel the same. Seeing our kids happy is more than enough for us. But remember, no matter how content you are, make time to pamper yourself or indulge in your favourite things. You are no robot. I know you feel like you can take on everything, but this Barbie also needs her “me time.” BOTTOMLINE – make time for yourself. You deserve it, after all! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** life improvement, happiness, contentment, me time, self care, happy --- ### [What’s inside ANO Cosmetics & Skin and why mums love it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/whats-inside-ano-cosmetics-skin-and-why-mums-love-it/) **Published:** December 19, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Tucked inside a beautifully restored 1870s heritage home in Victoria’s Goulburn Valley, ANO Cosmetics & Skin feels a little like a deep breath you didn’t realise you needed. With its ornate archways, sun-washed marble, and calm, unhurried atmosphere, it’s not the kind of clinic that overwhelms you the moment you walk in. For many mums, that’s the first reason it stands out. ANO Cosmetics & Skin isn’t about hype, quick fixes, or chasing the latest trend. It’s about thoughtful care that fits real life — school drop-offs, work meetings, mental load and all. And that’s exactly why so many mums quietly recommend it to each other. At its heart is a simple philosophy that resonates deeply with women who’ve spent years putting everyone else first: *Healthy skin first. Cosmetic confidence second.* ### **A calm, clinical alternative to “more is more”** When founder Olivia, a Registered Nurse, opened [ANO Cosmetics & Skin](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/), she imagined more than a treatment space. She wanted a clinic that felt clear, calm and genuinely attentive — one that mirrored the way real beauty evolves in everyday life: thoughtfully, gradually, and without exaggeration. Importantly, Olivia understood the mindset of regional clients. Many aren’t looking for “more.” They’re looking for better — better guidance, better education, and better long-term skin planning, delivered in an environment that feels professional but not intimidating. A place where you can ask questions, take a breath, and make decisions that feel aligned with your values and lifestyle. That’s part of why the clinic has become a destination for clients beyond Shepparton, drawing visitors from Albury, Bendigo, Melbourne’s northern suburbs, and further afield. Not because it promises dramatic change overnight — but because it offers something that can be difficult to find anywhere: clarity, structure, and steady care. What began as a one-room studio has grown into a team of seven — including dermal clinicians, Registered Nurses, and a dedicated Skin Check Nurse — all working within a care model that prioritises assessment before action. ### **Skin clarity over cosmetic flash** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/2025-05-31-533x800.webp "2025-05-31 - Beanstalk Mums") At ANO Cosmetics & Skin, conversations don’t begin with “what do you want done?” They begin with: “What does your skin actually need?” This is a subtle but significant shift. In a world where beauty can feel like a constant stream of solutions, products, and trends, ANO’s approach is refreshingly grounded. Clients are guided through a clinical skin assessment, and where appropriate, a dermatoscopic skin check may also be recommended to review moles, lesions, sun damage patterns, inflammation, or pigmentation that may require further medical attention rather than cosmetic treatment. That emphasis on careful screening matters, especially in Australia, where sun exposure is a real, lived part of most people’s skin history. ANO positions these checks as part of responsible care, and if something looks concerning, the focus is on appropriate referral rather than proceeding with unnecessary or unsuitable cosmetic interventions. As Olivia puts it: “People don’t always need a treatment. Sometimes they need clarity, education, or a structured plan — before anything else.” ### **The quiet power of a long-term plan** For many mums, time is the limiting factor. [Skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/smart-skincare-why-real-life-mums-love-skin-x-lulu/) becomes something you *want* to do, but rarely have space to do properly — and it’s easy to fall into the cycle of trying random products, stopping and starting routines, or feeling like you’re “behind” on what you should be doing. ANO’s model supports a different experience: one that reduces decision fatigue. Once the skin is assessed and the right pathway is agreed upon, clients can move into long-term treatment mapping that aims to support the skin steadily and sensibly. ![skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/2025-05-31-1-1200x800.webp "2025-05-31 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Depending on suitability and practitioner advice, this may include options such as: - [**Laser Genesis**](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/laser-genesis/) – often selected by clients seeking a more even-looking tone and clearer-looking complexion, with minimal downtime. - [**PicoGenesis**](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/picogenesis/) – a picosecond laser option commonly included in tailored plans to help improve the appearance of uneven-looking tone and visible pigmentation, with an emphasis on gradual, progressive change. - [**Skin Tag Removal**](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/skin-tag-removal/) – for those wanting conservative removal of small, common concerns, with appropriate aftercare guidance. - [**Tattoo Removal**](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/tattoo-removal/) – delivered with clinical assessment, staged planning, and a focus on supporting the skin through recovery. - [**DMK Enzyme Therapy**](https://anocosmeticsandskin.com.au/cosmelan-2/) – frequently selected by clients who want a structured program that prioritises skin conditioning and barrier support alongside in-clinic care. The key point isn’t the menu — it’s the mindset. ANO’s emphasis is on sequencing, skin integrity, and realistic pacing. For many women, that’s what makes the difference between a one-off appointment and a plan you can actually stick to. ### **Beauty without the noise** In a climate where many clinics lean on dramatic imagery and fast-turnaround promises, ANO Cosmetics & Skin champions something more understated: results that feel believable, balanced, and true to the person. Here, refinement isn’t about looking like someone else. It’s about supporting the version of you that already exists — just a little fresher, a little more even, a little more confident when you catch your reflection mid-school-run or before a work meeting. “Cosmetic refinement can elevate confidence,” Olivia says. “But strong skin sustains it. We build skin, not just treat it.” ### **ANO Cosmetics & Skin: Proving that regional can be refined** ANO doesn’t attempt to imitate big-city aesthetics. It quietly redefines them — and in doing so, it challenges an outdated assumption: that premium, clinically grounded care must come with a metropolitan postcode. Clients often describe the experience as calm, guided, and deeply personal — less transactional, more journey-led. And while its location may be regional, the philosophy is widely relevant: trusted aesthetic care is not about geography. It’s about integrity, education, and a clinician-led approach that respects both safety and subtlety. Because skin confidence doesn’t need a city address. It just needs the right guidance. If you’d like to learn more about the clinic’s approach, visit ANO Cosmetics & Skin. *General information only and not a substitute for personalised medical advice. Always consult a qualified health practitioner to determine what is appropriate for you. Individual experiences and outcomes vary.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/whats-inside-ano-cosmetics-skin-and-why-mums-love-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/whats-inside-ano-cosmetics-skin-and-why-mums-love-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Beauty --- ### [5 Women’s Health Conditions That Naturopathy Can Help With](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-womens-health-conditions-that-naturopathy-can-help-with/) **Published:** December 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you struggling with fertility, your energy levels, or metabolic health? Naturopathy could help you! Naturopathy, a holistic healthcare approach, considers your body as a whole to address your health concerns, looking for the root cause instead of treating the symptoms. Its practices have been used for generations and can be applied to areas of women’s health to improve your overall health and wellness, alongside treating areas of concern. In this article, we outline the 5 health conditions naturopathy can help with to help you decide if it is the right treatment method for you. ## 1. Hormonal and reproductive health These umbrella terms for women’s health cover anything from difficult periods to fertility support. Naturopathic doctors can help guide you through these concerns to improve your quality of life and achieve any conception goals. Typically, naturopathy can help with the following: - **Fertility support** – looking at hormone balance, egg and sperm health, thyroid function, nutrient status, and stress resilience to optimise emotional wellbeing and reproductive health to provide you with the best chances for conception. These treatments can be used alongside other medical treatments, too, like IVF. - **PMS& PMDD** – addressing the symptoms through herbal medicine, nutrition, and nervous system support to improve your sleep, restore balance, and build resilience to help you feel steadier, calmer, and in tune with your cycle - **Coming off hormonal birth control** – helping your body return to balance by replenishing nutrients, nourishing the liver, and strengthening ovarian function. Your lifestyle is looked at to help restore natural cycles - **Painful or irregular periods** – can be a sign of hormonal issues that naturopathy seeks to identify. Hormone metabolism, inflammation, and cramps are addressed with acupuncture, herbs, or nutrition to improve your cycles and increase regularity - **PCOS & Endometriosis** – can be addressed with nutrition, herbal medicine, acupuncture, and antioxidant support to guide you through these diagnoses and help improve your comfort and fertility - **Perimenopause & menopause** – can see natural changes including fatigue, sleep issues, hot flushes and mood shifts. Lifestyle strategies, herbal medicine, and evidence-based nutrition are used to ease symptoms and improve your heart, liver, and bone health ## 2. Pregnancy and postpartum care with naturopathy ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-leah-newhouse-50725-618923-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-leah-newhouse-50725-618923 - Beanstalk Mums") Naturopathy can help with every aspect of your pregnancy and postpartum journey, starting before conception to ensure your body is healthy and has the nutrients it needs for a successful pregnancy. Naturopathic care usually consists of: - **Preconception care** – addressing the nutrients, hormones, inflammation, and thyroid function in both partners to increase the chances of conception. Naturopathy helps to support gut repair, detoxification, and metabolic health to create a strong foundation for fertility, for those with PCOS, thyroid, or cycle concerns - **Pregnancy support** – is provided to guide you through the symptoms, replenishing your nutrients, aiding discomfort, and providing support to the immune and nervous systems. The goal is to nourish you and your baby for a healthy and calm [pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/) - **Labour preparation** – using acupuncture, herbs, and nutrients to reduce tension surrounding birth for a calmer experience, leaving you confident about the transition into motherhood - **Postpartum recovery** – uses restorative nutrition, iron, B-vitamins, and adaptogens to restore nutrition and support balance to ensure you and your baby are cared for - **Breastfeeding support** – aiding mothers struggling with milk supply or mastitis through natural remedies and nutritional therapy to enhance supply and relieve their discomfort ## 3. Skin and hair conditions ![naturopathy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-moose-photos-170195-1029896-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-moose-photos-170195-1029896 - Beanstalk Mums") Skin and hair conditions, including acne and hair loss, can reduce your confidence but could be a sign of underlying health conditions. Naturopathic doctors work with you to understand the root cause and provide treatment for the following: - **Acne** – can be hormonal or stress-related, and naturopathy seeks to understand the cause of your acne, looking past the skin to gut health, nervous system balance, and detox pathways. Stress resilience, herbal medicine, and targeted nutrition can help to tackle flare-ups and keep you calmer. - **Eczema or dermatitis** – can be linked to a hormonal imbalance that naturopathy can repair. Looking at nutrition, gut repair, and herbal support, you can reduce inflammation and strengthen the skin barrier for comfort and confidence - **Hair loss/thinning** – can be caused by stress, nutrient deficiency, or thyroid imbalance. Naturopathy seeks to understand the cause and implement lifestyle strategies, herbal therapies, and nutritional changes to address the cause ## 4. Energy and mood support through naturopathy ![naturopathy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-olly-3812745-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3812745 - Beanstalk Mums") Changes to your mood and energy levels can be a sign of underlying conditions, reducing your overall health and well-being. Naturopathy can help to address the following energy and mood concerns: - **Anxiety & stress** – can leave you depleted, so Naturopathy uses adaptogenic herbs, mindfulness, nutritional therapy, and nervous system support to restore resilience and calm. - **Mood swings** – can be a sign of hormonal changes that Naturopathy will seek to understand, using nervous system care, herbs, and nutrition to support stress resilience, gut health, and sleep to keep you more emotionally steady and grounded - **Fatigue & burnout** – can be a sign of adrenal depletion, nutrient deficiencies, or thyroid issues. Naturopathy uses holistic strategies and functional testing to restore lifestyle care, providing energy and mental clarity - **Sleep issues** – can impact hormones, immunity, and mood, so addressing the issue is essential. Naturopathy looks at melatonin imbalances and uses nutrition, herbal remedies, and calming routines to increase your sleep and provide balance to your life ## 5. Digestive health Digestive health issues can leave you with discomfort, pain, and reduced quality of life and confidence. Naturopathy looks to address the cause of digestive health concerns and provide greater comfort and support for the following: - **Food intolerances** – can make eating restrictive and stressful, but by identifying your triggers and addressing any underlying causes, like immune imbalance and gut inflammation, you can make eating less stressful. Elimination and repair strategies can see you reintroduce foods worry-free - **Bloating** – can be caused by more than food, including sluggish digestion, hormone, or microbiome imbalances. Naturopathy looks to identify the cause and use holistic strategies to restore balance, ease discomfort, and help you feel lighter and more comfortable - **IBS** – involves food sensitivities, stress, and microbiome disruption. Naturopathy looks to find the triggers for your IBS and use gut healing herbs, nutrition, and nervous system support to reduce bloating, pain, and irregular bowels ## Find a naturopathic clinic for your health concerns today While this is not an exhaustive list, it provides you with an understanding of the health concerns that Naturopathy can help to identify and treat, restoring your health and providing an improved quality of life. When looking for naturopathic doctors to help, we recommend checking out Floralia Wellness, who offer care and support for women with a variety of health concerns. Their [integrative women’s health practitioners](https://floraliawellness.com.au/pages/womens-health-clinic-perth) are ready and waiting to help you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-womens-health-conditions-that-naturopathy-can-help-with/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-womens-health-conditions-that-naturopathy-can-help-with/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [7 Essential Home Maintenance Tips to Properly Look After Your New House](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-essential-home-maintenance-tips/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Once you buy a new home, it’s natural to be excited to move in and start enjoying your home. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s worth making sure you’re being as smart as possible about it. Keeping a few home maintenance tips in mind going forward can be a great idea. It helps make sure [your new home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-home-improvements-on-a-single-mum-budget/) stays in an amazing shape. You’ll even help to avoid more than a few issues and repairs as time goes on. Thankfully, this shouldn’t have to take you nearly as much time and effort as you’d think. Focusing on the right areas could be more than enough to help with this, and there’s no reason why they shouldn’t pay off more and more as time goes on. Seven of these could have a significant impact moving forward. ### 1. Schedule HVAC Maintenance You’ll get quite a decent bit of use out of your HVAC unit throughout the year. As you’d expect, that puts a lot of strain on the system, and it’ll need a decent bit of TLC because of that. Make sure you schedule out a bit of maintenance to make sure your unit is in as great a condition as possible. While you may need to hire a professional for a lot of this, there are quite a few HVAC maintenance tasks you could do yourself. [Replacing the HVAC filter](https://smockhvac.com/blog/how-to-change-ac-filter-in-house/) is one of the more notable of these. It doesn’t take too long to do, and it makes sure your HVAC unit can run properly without risking a fire. ### 2. Get Started on Deep Cleaning ![home maintenance tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-karola-g-4239032-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-4239032 - Beanstalk Mums") While you’ll spend quite a bit of time cleaning your home every week, it doesn’t mean your house will be as spotless as you’d think. There could be dirt and dust hiding in more than a few areas. Deep cleaning your home a few times a year helps make sure these get the attention they deserve. There could be more than a bit involved in this, though. You’ll need to get behind and underneath your furniture and more than a few other areas. Then there’s cleaning the outside, which an [electric pressure washer](https://www.worx.com/lawn-garden/portable-power-cleaners/electric-pressure-washers.html) can help with. Put the effort into this at least once or twice a year. ### 3. Be On Your Toes for Electrical Issues The electricals and wiring in your home go through a significant amount of use as time goes on, and this will be relatively constant. There’ll even be times during the day, like in the evening when your family’s home, that the electrical system could be under a little strain. While this isn’t an issue straight away, it could cause a bit of wear and tear, which then poses the risk of electrical hazards. Be mindful of that going forward so you don’t have to worry about any outages or fire risks. Check the electricals regularly to keep them safe. ### 4. Look for & Fix Plumbing Issues Your plumbing will be the largest system in your home, and it’ll get a lot of wear and tear around your home. That results in a decent bit of damage as time goes on, especially if you don’t put too much time or effort into looking after your plumbing. Check it regularly to see if there are any signs of damage. If you do spot anything, even something small, it’s worth getting it fixed as quickly as possible. Smaller issues can turn into much larger ones faster than you’d expect, and these could be expensive to deal with. You’re better off getting them out of the way when they’re quick and easy to deal with. ### 5. Clear Out Your Gutters Your gutters play a whole lot more of a role in protecting your home than you’d think. They help make sure water flows away from your house instead of resting around it and causing damage. But, they’ll need to be working properly to do that. This can be an issue, as they can get clogged up with leaves and other debris during the year. If that happens, water isn’t going to drain out, and it’ll cause more and more issues with your gutters and house. [Clear out your gutters](https://articles.vafb.com/why-you-need-to-clean-your-gutters-and-how-to-do-it/) regularly to make sure that doesn’t happen. This shouldn’t have to take too long, and it’ll end up preventing more issues than you would’ve thought. ### 6. Test Your Alarms Nobody expects a fire or gas leak in their homes, but these can come up a lot more than you’d think. It’s why fire, gas, and carbon monoxide alarms are always worth investing in. Make sure you have a few of them around your home to make sure you’re as safe as possible. Don’t just install them and leave it at that, though. You’ll need to test them regularly to make sure they’re still working. Thankfully, this doesn’t need to be nearly as complicated as you might think. It only takes a few seconds, and it should just be a matter of pressing a specific button on the alarm. ### 7. Invest in Roof Maintenance Like your gutters, your roof can go through a lot of wear and tear during the year, especially during the winter and autumn months. This usually causes damage. Even when this damage is relatively minor, it’s worth making sure you take care of it as quickly as you can. There are more than a few reasons why that’s the case. One of the more obvious is that it makes sure your roof stays looking as nice as possible. Then there’s the fact that even minor damage gets worse and worse as time goes on. You’ll end up having a much larger problem to deal with before you know it, and you’ll end up needing to spend quite a bit of money on it. More than a few home maintenance tips can help you make sure your new house is in the best shape possible as time goes on. With how much they can help you avoid various repairs and issues, you’ve no reason not to put the time and effort into it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-essential-home-maintenance-tips/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/7-essential-home-maintenance-tips/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Is Investing in a Reliable Plumbing Service Worth It?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-investing-in-a-reliable-plumbing-service-worth-it/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Plumbing might not be the most glamorous part of home ownership, but trust me, it’s one of the most important. Most of us barely give those hidden pipes and fixtures a second thought… until something goes wrong. And when it does, it usually goes wrong in the middle of the night or when you’ve got guests over! That’s why it pays to think about your plumbing before disaster strikes. In this article, we’ll chat about why having a reliable plumbing service really matters, like investing in quality work instead of quick fixes that end up costing more in the long run. Because at the end of the day, good plumbing keeps everything flowing smoothly (literally and figuratively) and saves you a heap of stress, mess, and unexpected bills down the track. ## The Hidden Costs of Poor Plumbing Choices Plenty of homeowners try to cut costs by going for the cheapest, quickest plumbing fixes. But what seems like saving a few bucks upfront often turns into bigger bills later on. Using dodgy materials or hiring someone who doesn’t really know what they’re doing can lead to constant leaks, water damage, and even health risks if your water supply gets contaminated. ## The Benefits of Reliable Plumbing Services The utilisation of a professional and [reliable plumbing service](https://endpointplumbing.com.au/ "reliable plumbing service") has numerous perks. Certified plumbers bring proper know-how, experience, and the right tools to every job, big or small. They can spot problems you might miss, fix them properly the first time, and make sure everything meets local building codes and safety standards. It’s peace of mind that’s well worth it. Professional plumbers like [Dial Up Sydney](https://dialupplumbing.com.au/ "Dial Up Sydney") often back their work with guarantees, which really helps homeowners breathe easier. They can also share handy tips and a list of regular checks to help you stay on top of things and avoid plumbing emergencies down the track. ## Choosing Energy-Efficient Plumbing Solutions ![Reliable plumbing service](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/1000023902-1195x800.jpg "1000023902 - Beanstalk Mums") Quality plumbing has to be associated not only with the repairing and installing of the equipment but also with the energy-saving performance of those tools. The new water-saving fixtures, like low water toilets, water-conserving showerheads, tankless water heaters, etc., are the result of modern plumbing technologies that can make a house environmentally friendly and money-saving. ## The Importance of Regular Maintenance Keeping up with regular plumbing maintenance might sound like just another thing on the never-ending homeowner to-do list, but it’s honestly one of the smartest choices you can make to protect your home (and your wallet). Booking yearly check-ups with a trusted local plumber can save you from waking up to a flooded kitchen or a stubbornly clogged bathroom drain. These check-ups usually involve straightforward tasks, like checking pipes for sneaky leaks, cleaning out drains before they get blocked, and making sure your water pressure stays comfortable. My younger sister learned this the hard way; she once ignored a slow-draining sink for months, only to end up with water all over the floor just hours before her guests were due to arrive. Ever since, she’d kept up those annual appointments religiously, and her life has been so much calmer. ## Investing in Quality Materials Plumbing is concerned with the materials used. The higher the quality of materials used, the longer the plumbing system will perform effectively and prolong lives. While high-grade fittings, pipes, and apparatuses might be more upfront cheaper, on the other hand, they tend to prove cost-effective in the long run due to their resilience and quality. The positive aspect is that the quality of materials is strongly correlated with the longevity and good performance of a plumbing system. ## The Role of Technology in Modern Plumbing Technological advancements have really changed the game in plumbing. These days, homeowners can get smart water meters, leak detectors, and advanced water filtration systems installed. They’re not just about making life easier; they also help save water and keep it cleaner, which is great for both your wallet and the planet. ## Conclusion: Is Investing in a Reliable Plumbing Service Worth It? In the end, making smart plumbing choices really does add to your home’s comfort, safety, and value. If house owners are able to put the new material on the priority list, as well as professionals, a well-functioning plumbing system would be there for them to reckon with. It’s also worth remembering that a reliable plumbing service is not just a solution but also a partner in the treatment of the health and productivity of the home’s main subsystems. I learned this the hard way [when I first bought my place](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-guide-to-new-homeownership-opportunities-for-single-mums/ "when I first bought my place") as a single mum. I went with a cheap fix for a leaky pipe, thinking I’d saved a bit of money. A few months later, the same pipe burst right before school pick-up, flooding half the kitchen. After that, I found a local plumber I could really trust. It wasn’t just about repairs anymore; it was about peace of mind, knowing someone had my back when it mattered most. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-investing-in-a-reliable-plumbing-service-worth-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-investing-in-a-reliable-plumbing-service-worth-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Best Spring Activities for Kids:Fun, Simple, and Screen-Free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Spring can feel like a real breath of fresh air after long days of being cooped up inside. The warmer weather, lighter evenings, and bursts of colour are an invitation to slow down, step outside, and enjoy simple spring activities for kids that spark joy and connection. However, for single mums, finding time (and money) for fun outings with the kids can sometimes feel like another challenge on the already full to-do list. Fortunately, spring activities for kids don’t need to look Pinterest-perfect or come with a hefty price tag. Often, the best memories grow out of the simplest things: the laughter during a game, the mess of a hands-on craft, or the togetherness of a shared adventure. Consider incorporating [paintable wood blanks for crafts from Michelle’s aDOORable Creations](https://michelleadoorablecreations.com/collections/unfinished-wood-graphics) into your crafting activities to spark creativity and fun. Choosing screen-free, low-cost activities that invite presence and play can make this season one your children will remember with a smile—and one you can enjoy too. ## 1. Easy Spring Activities For Kids That Don’t Require a Screen I get it – it’s tempting to reach for the tablet or TV when you’re stretched thin, but some of the most rewarding moments come when we step away from screens. In fact, low-prep activities don’t just keep kids occupied—they invite creativity, movement, and connection, without the overwhelm of complicated setups. One of the most overlooked gifts of childhood is boredom. While it might feel uncomfortable at first, giving kids the space to “be bored” often sparks creativity — and introducing [STEAM toys](https://cherriebaby.com.au/collections/steam-toys) can help channel that imagination into hands-on learning and exploration. They’ll invent games, build stories, and see possibilities in the simplest of things. So, here are a few easy, no-tech spring activities for kids you can try, whether you’ve got a few minutes before dinner or a whole afternoon to fill: - **Bubble painting**: A bowl of soapy water, a few drops of food colouring, and some straws can turn into a magical art project. - **Chalk art**: The footpath or driveway becomes a canvas for endless possibilities. From hopscotch to sidewalk chalk murals, this encourages movement and expression. And the best part? It washes away with the next rain! - **Backyard scavenger hunt**: Write a short list of things to find—a smooth rock, a spring flower, something shaped like a heart. This simple scavenger hunt activity works just as well at the park. - **Printable activity sheets**: Printables are a lifesaver on busy days. From colouring-in pages to simple puzzles or spring-themed bingo, they’re quick to set up and give little ones a chance to practise fine motor skills while having fun. Ultimately, these fun spring activities are simple, affordable, and most importantly, meaningful. Because at the end of the day, your kids won’t remember whether the activity was perfectly executed. They’ll remember the laughter, the shared focus, and the joy of being together. ## 2. Outdoor Activities That Keep Them Curious And Active Spring is the perfect time to nudge kids outside gently. The sun lingers a little longer, the air feels lighter, and nature itself seems to invite exploration. For mums balancing so many responsibilities, it’s easy to feel pressured to plan elaborate outings. But the truth is, kids don’t need complicated schedules. They thrive on curiosity, movement, and the freedom to discover. So, encouraging simple outdoor play can spark that sense of wonder while giving you a chance to exhale. Here are a few ideas to have lots of fun: - **Nature scavenger hunt:** Search for a feather, a blossom, or three different colors of leaves. Noticing these small details is a fun way to spot the signs of spring. - **Puddle jumping**: On rainy spring days, throw on gumboots and head outside. The splashes, the squeals, and the inevitable muddy socks are part of the fun. - **Fairy houses**: Gather sticks, pebbles, and flowers to create a tiny fairy garden together. - **Obstacle courses**: Rope, chairs, and balls make a fun spring challenge. Let kids design part of it themselves—it’s a fantastic way to keep them moving. - **Outdoor games**: From tag to hide-and-seek, these are perfect activities for spring afternoons. After all, [outdoor games](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10506?Url=https%3a%2f%2fyardgames.com.au%2f) are a fun way to support your child’s motor activities. It’s more than okay if things get muddy, messy, or a little chaotic; that’s often where the magic happens. Those imperfect moments are the ones your kids will remember and retell with a grin years later. ![spring activities for kids nature walk with mum and child.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-josh-willink-11499-2701599-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-josh-willink-11499-2701599 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Nature Walks That Spark Wonder And Conversation Springtime offers endless opportunities for gentle discovery: the first flowers poking through, new bird songs, or the earthy smell after rain. For the little ones, these small details can feel magical when we take the time to notice them together. Think of nature walks not as “exercise” but as a connection. You don’t need a strict plan or long trail. The goal isn’t distance or pace, but presence. So, enjoy the spring weather and make your walks special by adding little touches: - **Spring sensory journals**: Encourage your preschooler to draw what they see in a notebook. - **Collect with care**: Collect petals and leaves for arts and crafts projects later. - **Spot the spring season**: Spot caterpillars, birds, or a rainbow after rain. These are wonderful spring-themed discoveries and a great way to [create a learning environment for toddlers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/creating-a-learning-environment-for-toddlers/). Not every outing needs a destination. Sometimes, the most meaningful moments come from slowing down and simply enjoying the spring air together. After all, these fun spring activities for kids are about creating space for conversation that might not happen in the rush of everyday life. ## 4. Rainy Day Spring Activities for Kids Using Things You Already Have Rainy days are perfect for slowing down, staying cosy indoors, and making space for creativity. The best part? You don’t need fancy supplies or expensive kits. Everyday items, such as egg cartons, scrap paper, cardboard boxes, and even mismatched socks, can become the foundation for hours of fun. Here are some spring-themed arts and crafts kids will love: - **DIY kites**: Lightweight frames and string make a fun way to welcome the first day of spring. - **Sock puppets**: Those lonely socks without a pair finally get a purpose. Add buttons, scraps of fabric, or markers, and suddenly you’ve got a puppet show. - **Recycled art collages**: Old magazines and cardboard create colorful kids art projects. - **Egg carton critters**: Turn cartons into a caterpillar, ladybug, or even start a container garden. - **Playdough creations**: Homemade playdough in different colors encourages sensory play and fine-motor skills. For extra variety, try spring bingo, spring worksheets, or even science activities like color-changing flowers. These screen-free, low-cost spring activities for kids are perfect when the weather keeps you indoors. ![Fun spring activities for kids at home – two young girls enjoying messy play in the kitchen with flour, laughter, and creative screen-free fun.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-polesietoys-4487868-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-polesietoys-4487868 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 5. Family Games That Bring Laughter To Any Spring Afternoon Sometimes, the perfect activity for kids of all ages doesn’t need special equipment or a big budget to create moments of family fun that bring everyone closer. A few classic games (with a twist of imagination) can turn an ordinary afternoon into something unforgettable. So, here are some easy indoor and outdoor games for children of all ages: - **Charades**: Act out animals, movies, or everyday activities. - **Hide-and-seek**: Works just as well indoors as outdoors. - **The floor is lava**: Scatter cushions or chalk marks as “safe spots.” - **Made-up games**: Encourage your kids to create their own rules, even if they don’t make sense. - **Educational activities**: Sneak in sight words or math practice for early learning. Get more ideas from [Toymate’s collection of educational games.](https://toymate.com.au/toys/education/games/?utm_source=Content&utm_medium=&utm_campaign=Commission+Factory&cfclick=4a369fa8603c4c31aaed7deb3570a6d7) Ultimately, what makes these spring activities for kids special isn’t the structure or the outcome, but the joy in the moment. Plus, laughter acts as the ultimate reset button—lifting moods, easing stress, and reminding everyone that togetherness matters more than perfection. ## 6. Planting And Growing Together, One Small Seed At A Time Gardening is a timeless hands-on experience that blends play, patience, and wonder. You don’t need a big backyard or fancy equipment; even a simple flower pot on the windowsill can become a little world of its own. It also makes a great sensory play opportunity for toddlers and preschoolers. Here are some easy ways to get started on your springtime garden: - **Windowsill herbs**: Little ones love snipping basil or parsley. - **Flower seeds**: Use recycled pots and watch them hatch into blossoms. - **Backyard veggie patch**: Plant cherry tomatoes or beans—it’s a fun spring activity to share. - **Garden sensory bin**: A tub of soil, toy tools, and pebbles makes a safe garden sensory bin for kids. - **Cute garden crafts**: Try a paper towel sprout experiment or build a fairy garden together. The beauty of gardening lies not in perfection, but in the process. It’s slow, sometimes messy, and always full of wonder — much like parenting itself. Each petal, each blossom, and each sprout is a way to teach resilience. ## Final Takeaway: Fun Spring Activities for Kids Spring doesn’t need to be filled with grand adventures or a packed calendar to feel meaningful. Often, it’s the smallest things—muddy hands, a rainbow after rain, or giggles during sensory play—that make the season shine. When we take the pressure off ourselves to “do it all,” we create space for connection. And connection is what our kids remember most: the laughter, the cuddles, the shared stories, and even the messy moments that become the best family tales. These small, everyday experiences are also some of the simplest ways to [build a better relationship with your child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/better-relationship-with-your-child/), showing them that your presence matters more than perfection. So this season, let it be about connection, not perfection. The favourite spring memories you make in the in-between moments are the ones that stay forever. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [10 Reasons not to get drunk this New Year's Eve](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/sober-new-years-eve/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** New Year’s Eve is the biggest party time of the year, and whether you are going out or staying in, alcohol is often a star feature. After all, what do five vodka chasers follow a celebration without a glass of champagne? But actually drinking heaps—especially on a night like New Year’s Eve—is not a good idea. Having drunk heavily for 25 years, long, messy years, I want to encourage you to change your mindset about New Year’s Eve (and celebrations as a whole). A sober New Year’s Eve doesn’t mean missing out. They don’t have to be booze-soaked to be fun—quite the opposite. If you’re making plans to welcome in 2026, here are my reasons not to get drunk on NYE. ## 10 Reasons not to get drunk this New Year’s Eve ## 1. You’ll remember it New Year’s Eve is significant. It’s the kind of night you want to remember for years to come … for all the right reasons. Getting intoxicated is not conducive to remembering things, and what you do remember, you might wish you had forgotten. I have lost count of the number of times I have peaked too early on New Year’s Eve and blacked out by midnight and the all-important countdown. It is likely you have prepared extensively for the night and spent lots of money, so don’t get so drunk that you can’t remember it. You may as well stay home, have an early night and save your money. ## 2. You’ll look better in the New Year’s Eve photos New Year’s Eve photos are the kind that keep cropping up as people reminisce on times gone by. You don’t want to look like a deranged zombie in them. And you don’t want to be the topic of conversation. > *“Oh look there’s \[NAME\]. She was absolutely wasted that night.”* Equally, you don’t want to be missing from photos. > *“Where’s \[NAME\]? I’m sure she was there that night. Oh that’s right … she was passed out on the couch with vomit down the side of her face”* Be fab in the photos by staying sober and looking hot, hot, hot. ![New Year's Eve](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-cottonbro-3171837-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-3171837 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. The 1st of January will be way better What are we celebrating on New Year’s Eve? The new year. It’s a fresh start, a new beginning, a time for resolutions and promises of success, prosperity and well-being. Getting blind drunk the night before it starts and waking up in the black hole of a horrific hangover is illogical. My hangovers were the three-day variety, so it would take until 3rd January to regroup and function again. I would feel like I was playing catch-up in a race that had barely started. Terrible for mindset and mental health. It doesn’t have to be this way. Leave the booze in the bottle and focus on having a brilliant 1st of January instead. ## 4. A sober New Year’s Eve means you’ll be healthier Give your body the gift of health by not drinking on New Year’s Eve. And please don’t think that one night of abstaining won’t make any difference. It will. According to [Aspen Ridge Recovery](https://www.aspenridgerecoverycenters.com/how-much-alcohol-is-too-much-in-one-night/#:~:text=The%20National%20Institute%20on%20Alcohol,liver%20and%20other%20chronic%20diseases.): > *“The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) stipulates that even one episode of binge drinking can compromise the immune system’s function and lead to acute pancreatitis.”* Do you really want to start 2023 with damage to your immune system and pancreas? ## 5. You won’t embarrass yourself I still cringe when I think of my drunken behaviour. It was always so much worse on New Year’s Eve because of the copious amounts of flavoured ethanol I would funnel into my system. And I tell you, people don’t forget NYE behaviour like they might on other nights. One of my most mortifying moments was falling on top of a friend on the dance floor and breaking her arm. Something like that isn’t forgotten in a hurry, and New Year’s Day in an emergency with a hangover in last night’s clothes is the stuff of horror movies. ## 6. A sober New Year’s Eve means no apologies needed the following day There is nothing worse than those humble, humiliating apologies for your behaviour the night before. For me, the worst part was that I usually couldn’t remember what I did. In some respects, this might have been a good thing, as the reality was too mortifying. Don’t allow your first messages and phone calls of the new year to be grovelling apologies. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-karola-g-5725975-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-5725975 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 7. There is less help at hand If you drink too much and something goes wrong (and it can), the emergency services are already stretched and may not be able to get to you quickly. To give you an idea, [The Age](https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/new-years-busiest-time-of-year-for-paramedics-20151228-glvr7w.html) reported: > *“On New Year’s Day Ambulance Victoria paramedics were sent out to almost 1800 cases, almost 20 percent more than the daily average of about 1500 calls.”* Common incidents linked to alcohol overindulgence include drink-driving accidents, injuries, assaults, domestic violence, and loss of consciousness. Avoid letting any of these derail your celebrations — because needing a [DUI lawyer](https://www.christophersheen.com.au/traffic-offence-lawyer/drink-driving-lawyer "DUI lawyer") is the last thing anyone wants after a night out. ## 8. A sober New Year’s Eve sets the tone for 2026 You could skip the party or go to the party and skip the alcohol, get a good sleep and wake up bright and breezy on the first day of 2026. Get up early and watch the sun rise on a brand new year, or have a lazy lie-in. There is something meaningful about how we spend New Year’s Day. Start as you mean to go on by doing something you love or simply being kind to yourself. Secretly, I love the smug feeling of waking up hangover-free on the 1st of January and get a pompous pleasure from imagining all the hungover people all over the world suffering while I am as fresh as a daisy. ## 9. You can drive after the New Year’s Eve party One of the things I love most about not drinking is being about to drive everywhere. Meaning I can arrive when I want, leave when I want, and hide in my car for an hour if all the drunk people are annoying me. This is a real winner on NYE when taxis and ride-shares are either unavailable or triple the price and a three-hour wait. I often find myself ferrying friends around and helping out with my oh-so-sensible driving hat on. It’s a return of thanks for all the times they have scraped me up off the floor or held my ponytail while I chug into a toilet bowl. ## 10. Your kids won’t see you in a state Do it for your kids! Don’t let them see you get wasted at any time of the year. If they see you drinking heavily on NYE, they grow up thinking it is the societal norm to drink heavily on celebratory occasions. Instead, role model to them what a healthy NYE celebration looks like. You can still party, but instead of booze, make some [yummy non-alcoholic cocktails](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mocktails/). Then wake up and do something fun together on New Year’s Day. Be a shining example of how to genuinely celebrate the New Year, minus the moonshine. Further reading: [10 Ideas to celebrate New Year’s Eve with your kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/celebrate-new-years-eve-with-kids/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/sober-new-years-eve/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/sober-new-years-eve/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal **Tags:** NYE, new years eve, party, alcohol free --- ### [7 Smart Tech Features for Your New Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/7-smart-tech-features-for-your-new-home/) **Published:** December 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Building a new home is exciting, and it comes with a lot of choices. While some are straightforward, others may require more thought about what makes sense once you’re living there. The latest smart technology can make life easier with the benefits it offers, including energy savings, customisability, and automation. Here are seven standout smart home innovations to consider for your new build. ## 1. Voice Assistants Controlling activities with the sound of your voice is a popular smart feature. For example, you can switch on the oven or other appliances connected to this type of device. Older people and those who are busy may find these activities convenient and helpful in simplifying specific tasks. The most sought-after ones have differences in capabilities, so doing your homework before deciding on which one to use in your new home is generally a good idea. Setup is typically fast, with pairing to your TV or a home appliance being straightforward. ## 2. Automated Security ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-jakubzerdzicki-26597080-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jakubzerdzicki-26597080 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by jakub zerdzicki from pexels](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/smart-home-cctv-camera-hub-26597080/ "photo by jakub zerdzicki from pexels") Home security systems help you protect loved ones and valuables in your new home. A smart video doorbell is one common feature, and another is an indoor security camera. Being able to access and control the system remotely means you can keep an eye on the property even when you’re not there. For example, you can configure the system to send alerts to your smartphone in real-time if [suspicious activity](https://www.news.com.au/national/crime/finder-survey-says-9-per-cent-of-aussies-hit-with-property-crime-in-12-months/news-story/5bc04185f70b30830cab9624e6e47169) is detected. That increases peace of mind by increasing the protection of the beautiful home that you’ve designed. ## 3. Smart Kitchen Appliances Fridges, ovens, air fryers, and dishwashers are just a few of the many smart appliances available in the kitchen. These modern devices typically come with WiFi capability for easy pairing with your phone. That can make cooking and cleaning easier, as well as impress those who come to visit your newly built home. Automating part of these processes can make tasks more efficient, saving you time in an already busy day. Some smart devices have more programming options than others and work faster than others. Certain appliances also work with voice assistants, which we discussed earlier. ## 4. Robot Vacuums When you move in, the home will be pristine, and you want to[ keep it clean](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/winter-cleaning-tips-how-to-keep-your-home-organised/) once all the furniture is in place. While you could manually do so, vacuuming isn’t the most exciting activity for many people, and the chore can be physically draining for some. Thankfully, keeping the floors looking their best is easier with robot vacuums. There are affordable options that are simple to use. Collecting dust and pet hair with ease, this vacuum. It could be one that you want in your smart home device collection. ## 5. Smart Toilet Your gorgeous new house deserves well-built products. That applies to everything from the kitchen tile to the [Deskup Nuvo S1](https://www.deskup.com.au/smart-toilet) in your spa-like bathroom. This premium toilet features a radar sensor for hands-free lid operation, instant seat and water heating, a dual-pump flush system, and UV sterilisation. It also has self-cleaning nozzles to save you time on cleaning day. Adding luxury, hygiene, and convenience to your home with a smart toilet makes sense for a new home build. Making it part of a high-tech bathroom improves the comfort of the house. ![smart tech features](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-binyaminmellish-186077-1173x800.jpg "Pexels-binyaminmellish-186077 - Beanstalk Mums")[photo by binyamin mellish from pexels](https://www.%20Pexels.%20Com/photo/blue-and-gray-concrete-house-with-attic-during-twilight-186077/) ## 6. WiFi-Enabled Garage Door Opener A smart garage door opener lets you monitor and control your garage door remotely via smartphone or voice command. When paired with professional [automatic gate installation](https://www.autogatessydney.com.au/), it helps create a fully connected and secure entry system for your home. This feature for modern homes is convenient, as you can check whether you closed the door in real-time, so you’ll never worry again about whether you accidentally left it open. Get notified when the door opens unexpectedly, and open or close it from anywhere using an app. Some of these smart openers also have cameras for you to watch live video or record, ensuring you always know who enters or leaves. A device like this one adds security to a new home build. ## 7. Smart Climate Control Intelligent thermostats can learn your preferences and adjust the temperature accordingly. That’s what we call smart. That leads to a more comfortable living space and can also reduce energy use. You might set up the home with a zoned system that has room-specific climate control. There are also air quality sensors that track humidity and alert you to air that is less clean, such as when VOCs (volatile organic compounds) are present. Some smart thermostats also react to local weather forecasts, adjusting ahead to a period of particularly cold or warm weather. ## Other Smart Features The list above has the most popular smart tech options for the home. Lesser-known but still valuable smart home appliances include washers, dryers, coffee makers, and microwaves. The right ones for you depend on your routines, what features you’re looking to improve around the home, your budget, and whether the device includes a warranty for buyer protection. You may connect several devices and integrate them into a hub within your house for easy use. ## Conclusion: 7 Examples of Smart Tech Features for the Home There’s a lot that goes into building a new home. You’re setting up your living space to be convenient and comfortable when you add smart tech, from the security system to the thermostat, vacuum, and modern toilet. You can also enjoy energy savings with many of these devices. They can also add a feeling of luxury to your time spent in the home. Plus, over the long term, smart home devices can help maintain the home’s property value. It will also be attractive to buyers in the future due to its modern integrations. Smart technology is much more accessible than it used to be, and we love seeing how you can customise it to your home, based on your preferences and those of the others who live there. That helps you fully enjoy the property that you’ve put so much effort into building. Automation can improve your lifestyle, as you’ll soon find out, and the space will become one that you look forward to being in, whenever you can. Congratulations on your new home, and may you have many wonderful times there! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/7-smart-tech-features-for-your-new-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/7-smart-tech-features-for-your-new-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [3 Surprising Ways to Elevate Small Business Branding](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/3-surprising-ways-to-elevate-small-business-branding/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the vast majority of business establishments have [fewer than 20 employees](https://www.census.gov/topics/business-economy/small-business.html), and as a whole, U.S. small businesses employ [about 59 million people](https://advocacy.sba.gov/2024/07/23/advocacy-releases-up-to-date-small-business-data-in-comprehensive-publication/). For these companies, standing out is crucial to survival and growth. A recent HubSpot survey found that 68 per cent of consumers say a consistent brand increases their trust, yet many owners believe branding is too expensive to tackle right now. If shrinking budgets and marketing overwhelm sound familiar, this guide is for you. Below are three tech-forward, affordable branding tactics — approaches a [Sydney branding agency](https://abnormal.au/branding-agency-sydney) might recommend — grounded in authenticity and supported by AI. You can implement them in under seven days to make a significant impact. ## **Tip 1: Craft an Authentic Brand Identity** Authenticity is not a buzzword; it is a conversion lever. Salesforce’s 2023 “Small & Medium Business Trends Report” notes that 88 per cent of consumers buy from brands they perceive as authentic. Before you touch logos or hashtags, you must nail down the core of who you are. ### **Quick Identity Checklist** Before designing anything, ensure these foundational elements are clearly defined: - Mission, Vision, Values - Primary customer personas (pain points, aspirations) - Unique Selling Proposition (USP) & brand voice ### **15-Minute “North Star” Workshop** Answer these five questions with your team (or solo if you are a solopreneur): - What change do we want to see in our customers’ lives or business? - Why do we exist beyond profit? - Which three adjectives must customers use to describe us in five years? - What emotional payoff does our product/service deliver? - Where will we never compromise? Compile the answers into a one-page Brand North Star document. This single sheet will steer copywriting, design decisions, and even product names, saving costly “re-do” cycles later. **Pro move:** Post the North Star where every employee and contractor can see it daily. ### **Identity Example in Action** Outdoor-gear startup Weston Store doubled email click-through rates after weaving its core mission into its content. The mission, “keep every adventurer warm, anywhere,” was integrated into product pages, imagery, and even product names. This authentic messaging turned a commodity product into a community-building story. | **Key Insight:** Your Brand North Star isn’t just a mission statement. It’s a practical tool that guides every decision, from copywriting to product design, ensuring profitable consistency. | |---| ## **Tip 2: Elevate Your Visual Branding with AI-Powered Design** People remember up to 65 per cent of visual information three days later, compared with only 10 per cent of written text. A cohesive visual system tells your story before a single word is read, and no design degree is required to create one. ### **Cohesive Look Fundamentals** Start by establishing these key elements for a unified brand appearance: - Core colour palette (3–5 colours) - Consistent typography hierarchy - Logo-placement rules & clear-space guide - Branded templates for social posts, proposals, and slide decks ### **Budget-Friendly AI Tools** Several accessible AI tools can help you build a professional brand kit: - Canva Brand Kit to auto-apply fonts and colours across every asset - Adobe Express with Generative Fill for instantly on-brand hero images - LogoAI or Looka for a quick logo refresh based on uploaded mood boards This consistency should extend to physical locations as well. For brick-and-mortar businesses, dimensional signage can translate your digital aesthetic into a real-world experience. A professional look can be achieved with options like [Signs.inc’s eye-catching custom metal signs](https://signs.inc/pages/custom-metal-signs), which add a premium feel that reinforces brand credibility. ### **Mini-Case Spotlight: Thanks** When business-gifting app Thnks updated its entire visual kit using Canva’s Brand Controls and a refreshed sign, website dwell time rose 18 per cent. Inbound partnership inquiries also spiked 22 per cent within two months, showing that polished, consistent visuals build credibility. ### **Quick-Start Checklist** - Upload your logo to Canva and generate a colour palette. - Create three reusable social-media templates (quote, promo, video cover). - Store every asset in a shared “Brand Kit” folder to keep freelancers aligned. | **Pro Tip:** Leverage AI design tools to create a polished, cohesive visual brand in hours, not weeks. This consistency builds instant credibility and trust, leveling the playing field with larger competitors. | |---| ## **Tip 3: Automate & Amplify Your Brand Story on Social Media** A Forbes/Buffer study shows brands that post three times per week enjoy two times higher engagement than sporadic posters. Consistency is king, but few have hours to draft, design, and schedule daily content. This is where automation and AI can lighten the load. ### **Automation Benefits** Using automation provides several key advantages for your brand: - Always-on presence, even when you are off the clock - Data-backed scheduling decisions - Personalisation at scale (dynamic captions, tailored CTAs) ### **Recommended Tool Stack** To get started, consider this powerful yet user-friendly combination of tools: - Salesforce Starter Suite for end-to-end customer journeys - Buffer or Hootsuite for scheduling and analytics - ChatGPT or Canva Magic Write for AI caption and hashtag generation ### **30-Minute Action Plan** - Draft one core story, such as how a customer saved money using your product. - Spin it into five formats: IG Reel, LinkedIn post, Story, blog teaser, and email. - Load into Buffer and stagger the releases over two weeks. - Track three metrics: reach, saves, and link clicks. Iterate on the top performer. ### **UGC & Personalisation Twist** Prompt customers to share photos with your product for a chance to be featured. For instance, tech firms can mail [Custom Sock Lab’s custom-branded crew socks](https://customsocklab.com/products/custom-cotton-athletic-socks/) to event attendees. They can then repost user photos wearing the socks, which is an easy, on-brand way to fill your content calendar. | **Key Insight:** The goal of [social media](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/social-media-positively-after-separation/ "social media") automation isn’t just to post more. It’s to build a consistent, ‘always-on’ brand presence that engages customers even when you’re focused on other business areas. | |---| ## **Making It Happen** You just absorbed three actionable, budget-friendly branding strategies. These tips will help you build a stronger, more memorable brand presence in the market. - Anchor everything in an authentic Brand North Star. - Use AI tools to create scroll-stopping visuals. - Automate storytelling so your brand voice never sleeps. Pick one tactic and deploy it this week because momentum beats perfection. Your future loyal customers are already watching. It is time to show them a brand worth remembering. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/3-surprising-ways-to-elevate-small-business-branding/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/3-surprising-ways-to-elevate-small-business-branding/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [5 Key Considerations for Buying a Family Car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-key-considerations-for-buying-a-family-car/) **Published:** December 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your family car has to be lots of different things all at the same time. It needs to have enough space and safety features to be able to transport your family around safely and comfortably. It also needs to be able to accommodate all of the luggage and accessories that are part and parcel of a typical family journey in your car. These are just some of the key considerations that need to be at the front of your mind when you put in a search term like [used Volkswagen dealer Austin TX](https://www.onioncreekvw.com/searchused.aspx?utm_source=outreachz&utm_medium=backlink&utm_campaign=november25+backlink+Bean+Stalk+Mums) to find a vehicle that matches your needs. Here’s a look at the main points to consider when carrying out a search for the family car that best suits your needs and budget. ## Your search should always begin with a budget There always needs to be a decent dose of financial realism to rein in your spending ambitions. Naturally enough, you want a car that meets all of your family’s needs, but it’s also nice to be able to own a vehicle that looks good and is even fun to drive. In search of fulfilment on all of these terms, it’s far too easy to let temptation overrule financial common sense. It always pays to be disciplined about what you can realistically afford to pay outright for a car, or have an affordable monthly figure in mind if you are going to be financing your purchase. Budgeting is an integral aspect of family life. You have to set limits and know what you can afford when it comes to everyday purchases like shopping for groceries. The same rules of engagement apply when it comes to a major financial outlay like buying a car. Make sure you have a clear idea of what you can comfortably afford to pay for a family car (even a [second-hand one](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/)). That outright or monthly figure will then be your guide to help with your search criteria. ![family car](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-rdne-6182656-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-6182656 - Beanstalk Mums") Once you start narrowing down your options and only looking at family cars you can afford, it will make the search process easier, and it will help keep your family finances in good shape. ## Work out how much space you need If you end up with a family car that’s too small, it can be hugely frustrating and inconvenient, especially if it hinders your family’s plans and movements on a regular basis. Sit down and work out exactly how many people are likely to be travelling in the car on a typical journey. Also, calculate how much cargo space you will need to carry everything onboard that you need for a typical trip. Ultimately, you don’t want any of your family to feel cramped or uncomfortable while travelling. You also don’t want to compromise on safety. That means you have enough storage room to keep everything safe and secure in the back. Some vehicles offer good flexibility with split rear-folding seats, for instance. This level of versatility could be really useful and give you more transportation options. ## Think about body style Another key consideration is body style. Not surprisingly, a minivan is often considered to be the default option for many families. It is the quintessential body style that tends to give you a good range of seating and transportation options. However, that’s not always the required solution. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-yankrukov-8429825-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yankrukov-8429825 - Beanstalk Mums") It could be that an SUV or even a compact midsize works best for your specific needs. The best thing to do is check out a few different styles and see which they align with what you think you will need on a regular basis. You will quickly find that there are pros and cons to each option. Weigh these up and choose a body style that has the least amount of compromises for you. ## Check out the features Although you might be attracted to the idea of a great infotainment system, for example, it would be wise to prioritise key features like a [LATCH](https://thecarseatlady.com/the-latch-system/) system if you are going to be ferrying young kids around. Other notable features that could be helpful to you include a rearview camera that makes reversing into spaces easier, especially when there are many distractions inside the car. It can also make life a lot easier when you have a feature like a hands-free power liftgate. You will likely have your hands full at this point, so being able to load and unload without manually opening the trunk could be a valuable feature to have. Make a list of potential must-have features, and this will help narrow down your vehicle search options. ## Safety should always be a top priority At the end of the day, your top priority is to keep your precious cargo as safe as possible during your journey. Keeping your family safe means choosing a model that has a proven level of safety standards that help you achieve that aim. It’s easy to check out the official safety ratings of any make and model. Preferably, you will want to choose a family car that scores heavily on that front. Choosing a vehicle that has been awarded a 5-star overall safety rating by NHTSA would be a good benchmark to aspire to. It is fair to say that most modern vehicles adhere to a certain standard of safety. However, when it comes to keeping your family safe, there is no room for compromise or half measures, so make this a top priority. If you follow these key requirements during your car search process, it will help you to find a family car that is closest to your budget, size, flexibility, and safety requirements. Once you have a few models in mind for your shortlist, it’s a good idea to arrange a test drive. This will give you the chance to put the vehicle through its paces and see how it meets your family’s needs. Having drawn up a shortlist and arranged a test drive, you will then be in a position to buy a family car that aligns perfectly with your requirements. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-key-considerations-for-buying-a-family-car/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-key-considerations-for-buying-a-family-car/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Infant Comfort and Soothing Techniques for New Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/infant-comfort-and-soothing-techniques-for-new-mums/) **Published:** December 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The first weeks with a newborn bring a mix of snuggly sweetness and utter chaos. There are sleepy stretches of cuddles, little bouts of calm, and then moments that feel never-ending and all-consuming. Many parents imagine the tough parts will revolve around feeding or settling into a routine. Yet, one of the wildest experiences is when a baby cries and cries with no obvious explanation. When the crying lasts for hours, grows louder as the day goes on or appears at roughly the same time each afternoon or evening, parents often begin wondering whether wind, discomfort or digestive sensitivity might be part of the picture. It’s during this time that many families search the internet at 2 am, looking for reassurance, looking for answers, and often coming across discussions of soothing strategies, feeding adjustments, and products such as [colic drops](https://infantsfriend.com.au/). But the real question most parents want answered is much simpler: why does my baby seem so uncomfortable, and what can I do to help? Take a supportive, grounded look at why newborns experience digestive unrest, what parents can try at home, and how to approach those long evenings that feel like they will never end. ## Why Babies Experience Digestive Discomfort Newborn digestion is still in its early stages of development. Muscles that move milk through the digestive tract are still learning. Gas becomes trapped more easily. Feeding technique takes time to refine, whether through breastfeeding or bottle feeding. Even slight changes, like gulping too much air or feeding too quickly, can create a cycle of discomfort. Other common contributors include: - The immaturity of the gut microbiome - Sensitivity to positioning during and after feeds - A very normal lack of coordination between swallowing and breathing - Growth spurts that alter hunger and feeding pace - Milk pooling in the stomach when babies lie flat too soon It’s often a combination rather than a single cause. And because babies can’t shift themselves, burp on command or adjust their posture, they rely entirely on gentle parental support to ease discomfort. ## Reading a Baby’s Signals ![infant comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-rdne-6849447-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-6849447 - Beanstalk Mums") Crying is a baby’s only form of communication, which makes it hard to interpret. But with time, many parents learn the difference between a hunger cry, an overtired cry and a cry that stems from physical discomfort. Digestive discomfort is often accompanied by: - Pulling legs toward the tummy - Arching the back - Straining or grizzling during feeds - Excessive wind - Crying escalates in the late afternoon or evening - Difficulty settling, even when held None of these signs point definitively to colic or wind; they simply suggest that the baby needs help releasing trapped air or finding a more comfortable position. ## Supporting Babies Through Settling Techniques Parents often discover a handful of techniques that work reliably for their little one, even if those techniques differ from what works for another family. A few gentle practices include: Holding positions - The upright hold on a parent’s chest after a feed - The “colic carry,” where the baby lies tummy-down across the forearm - A deep cuddle hold that encourages warmth and relaxation Movement - Slow pacing around the room - Rocking in a chair - Rhythmic swaying while soft music plays Environmental cues - Dimmed lights - A quiet space with low stimulation - White noise or soft humming These strategies don’t fix the underlying digestive challenge, but they help babies ride the wave of discomfort more calmly. ## Feeding Adjustments That Can Help ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-3875130-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-3875130 - Beanstalk Mums") Sometimes, small tweaks during feeding make a big difference. This includes: - Offering breaks during feeds to allow gentle burping - Keeping the baby upright for a while after feeding - Checking the bottle teat flow to ensure it isn’t too fast - Burping in different positions until one proves effective Breastfeeding parents may also experiment with adjusting latch technique, expressing slightly before feeding to reduce forceful letdown or seeking the guidance of a lactation consultant if feeding feels consistently difficult. ## When Parents Need Reassurance What makes newborn fussiness especially challenging is that it often peaks in the late afternoon and evening, which, of course, is a time when parents are tired, hungry or even dealing with their older children. Confidence dips easily. Doubts creep in. The quiet parts of the day don’t always compensate emotionally for the hours that feel overwhelming. But it’s important to remember that fussiness in the early months is incredibly common. Most babies experience phases of wind and discomfort, and most settle as their digestion matures. The goal isn’t to find a miracle fix, but to assemble a toolkit of strategies that support both parent and child. ## Products and Approaches That Some Parents Explore Alongside soothing techniques, some parents consider remedies that support settling or digestion. Families share experiences with warm baths, gentle tummy massage, bicycle legs and drops designed to soothe windy tummies or help with settling. If exploring any product, it’s wise to follow age guidelines, use only as directed and check suitability for babies who are premature or have underlying conditions. Parents also often speak with their GP, child health nurse or midwife to get tailored guidance—especially when fussiness seems extreme or persistent. ## Taking Care of Yourself During Difficult Phases ![infant comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-mart-production-7491269-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-7491269 - Beanstalk Mums") The emotional load of caring for a distressed baby is heavier than many people realise. While newborns are tiny, the impact on parents is anything but. Long evenings filled with crying can leave even the calmest person feeling anxious or inadequate. Looking after your own wellbeing makes a genuine difference. This might involve: - Asking a partner, family member or friend to take over for a short break - Stepping outside for a few deep breaths - Eating something nourishing, even if it’s simple - Accepting help with chores to reduce the daily burden - Remembering that fussiness is a phase, not a reflection of your ability No parent is meant to navigate [newborn life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/newborn-essentials/) alone. The strongest families are often the ones willing to share the load. ## When To Seek Medical Advice Most unsettled behaviour falls within the normal spectrum of newborn development. However, it’s sensible to reach out for professional advice if: - Baby is inconsolable for very long periods - Feeding becomes difficult or less frequent - There are changes in nappies (very few wet nappies, unusual stools) - Fever, vomiting or lethargy appear - Your intuition tells you something feels different Trusting your instincts matters. A quick check with a health professional is never wasted. ## Final Thoughts: Infant Comfort and Soothing Techniques for New Mums Newborn discomfort is a complex experience, both for babies and for the adults who love them. It tests patience, confidence and endurance. Yet it also offers moments of closeness that shape early bonding. With time, babies grow into their bodies, feeding becomes smoother, and the long crying stretches fade. Parents don’t need perfection to get through this period; they need reassurance, practical tools and moments of rest. And with each week that passes, most babies find their rhythm, leaving their families with a sense of strength, understanding and hard-earned calm. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/infant-comfort-and-soothing-techniques-for-new-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/infant-comfort-and-soothing-techniques-for-new-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [What Parents Should Know About Home Energy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-parents-should-know-about-home-energy/) **Published:** December 12, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Let’s be honest — running a household is a lot, but you’re doing better than you think. Between school reminders, dinner prep, the laundry that somehow multiplies overnight, kids’ activities and the weekend juggle, you’re still creating a home that feels warm, comfortable and safe. And beneath all that beautifully organised chaos sits the quiet machinery keeping life humming along: the heating, hot water, cooking, and those everyday comforts your family relies on — often without even realising you’re the one making it all look effortless. Energy supply rarely gets much attention unless something interrupts it. Yet, for households with young children, steady and reliable home energy plays a surprisingly large role in household calm. From bath time routines to early-morning porridge to keeping a room warm during winter sniffle season, the type of energy a home relies on affects day-to-day rhythms. It’s why many parents eventually find themselves researching [gas companies](https://www.supagas.com.au/), or trying to understand which options are safe, practical and suited to the flow of family life. This article isn’t about choosing one type of energy over another. Instead, it explores how home energy interacts with real family routines, what parents often overlook when planning or managing a home, and simple ways to make household systems work more smoothly in the long run. ## What Home Energy Reliability Means When you’re raising children, the margin for unexpected disruptions shrinks quickly. A cold shower on a school morning throws off the entire day. A cooktop that won’t light turns dinner into a scramble. A heater that flickers out mid-winter becomes more than an inconvenience; it becomes a comfort issue that affects sleep, health and general mood. Reliable energy means: - Hot water when you need it, especially during the dinner-bath-bed rush - A warm house before school in the colder months - A [functioning kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/ "functioning kitchen") when you’re juggling homework and meal prep - Predictable bills that don’t produce monthly surprises - Systems that run safely and quietly in the background A reliable supply often goes unnoticed, which is exactly how it should be. But achieving that reliability doesn’t happen automatically. House design, appliance efficiency and storage arrangements all influence how smoothly energy flows through the home. ![home energy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-tonysamia-10861549-1200x798.jpg "Pexels-tonysamia-10861549 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Understanding How Home Energy Fits Into Family Routines Every family household has its own rhythm, and the energy system ends up reflecting that rhythm. A home with teenagers may have long evening showers and late-night heating needs. Families with newborns often run more loads of laundry and rely heavily on warm, consistent air temperatures. During school holidays, outdoor cooking and additional showers may increase demand without anyone realising it. Mapping out your household’s typical energy use can give surprising insight into what type of supply arrangement makes sense. Patterns to look for include: - The busiest times of day for hot water - How often heating or cooling run in the background - Whether cooking is frequent and varied or quick and minimal - Seasonal changes in usage - Whether outdoor spaces are used regularly for meals or entertaining Noticing these patterns can prevent future problems. An energy system that works beautifully for a couple may struggle once a baby arrives, or once older children take over the bathroom schedule. ## Safety Considerations Parents Often Overlook Homes with children bring specific safety concerns, and energy systems are no exception. Parents commonly focus on outlet covers, stair gates and window locks, but forget to consider the quieter risks that come from ageing appliances or poorly maintained systems. Key areas to stay mindful of: - Ventilation around heating appliances - Yearly servicing of older systems, particularly those that warm bedrooms or living rooms - Ensuring outdoor cylinders, if present, are secured and placed away from play spaces - Signs of leaks, unusual odours or inconsistent appliance performance - Clear pathways for emergency shutdowns if needed Good maintenance doesn’t have to be complicated. A yearly check-in, ideally timed before winter, can keep the home’s systems running smoothly. ## Incorporating Energy Planning Into Home Design If you’re renovating or planning changes to your home, this is a perfect moment to reconsider how energy flows through the space. Thoughtful placement of appliances and service areas can make a home safer and easier to manage. Parents often appreciate designs that: - Keep service zones tucked out of view but still easy to access - Allow for quiet operation around sleeping children - Reduce clutter in busy family spaces - Support energy-efficient appliances that lower bills over time Even modest layout adjustments can lead to easier routines. Relocating a hot water system, adjusting kitchen ventilation or improving insulation can transform everyday comfort without dramatic renovation. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-stephane-adou-mr_adou-225423229-15230255-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-stephane-adou-mr_adou-225423229-15230255 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Cost Factor: Making Bills More Predictable Families work hard to stretch budgets in practical ways. Energy bills, however, often feel less predictable because usage changes constantly depending on weather, routines, new appliances or school schedules. A few habits help stabilise costs: - Tracking seasonal usage to anticipate higher consumption months - Using timers or thermostats to avoid accidental overnight heating - Choosing efficient appliances when replacements are needed - Fixing minor leaks or draughts that steadily waste energy - Planning ahead for winter, when heating spikes without much warning Being proactive offers more control, and that sense of control supports calmer household management. ## Why Home Energy Is Part of the Bigger Parenting Picture Raising a family means constantly managing potential stressors so daily life runs as smoothly as possible. When the behind-the-scenes systems are reliable, you gain more mental bandwidth for everything else: school, work, relationships and the general swirl of family commitments. Energy supply is rarely discussed in parenting circles, yet it shapes so much of the home environment. Warmth, light, hygiene, meal prep and safety are deeply connected to how energy is delivered and maintained. A well-functioning home system supports: - Predictable routines - Fewer disruptions - Less emotional load for mum or the primary caregiver - A safer and more comfortable living environment for children It isn’t about choosing one fuel type over another; it’s about understanding your household, noticing what stresses you out, and making changes that lighten your load. ## Final Thoughts: What Parents Should Know About Home Energy Parents already juggle enough without unexpected household surprises. By understanding how energy systems fit into daily routines, families can create smoother, more comfortable homes that support the knocks and bumps of childhood. Whether you’re reviewing usage, planning a renovation or simply wanting fewer surprises in winter, a little attention to how your home is powered can make a major difference. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-parents-should-know-about-home-energy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-parents-should-know-about-home-energy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How To Explain An Absent Father: A Simple Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-to-explain-an-absent-father/) **Published:** December 10, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Listen here… Explaining an absent father is one of the hardest emotional tasks a single mum may face — especially when the questions come suddenly, or far earlier than expected. In this heartfelt episode of *Beanstalk Mums Real Talk*, we spoke with Lara Owers, single mum and author of *Mummy, Me & Our Family*, whose own son’s innocent question sparked the creation of a powerful tool for families with no father in the picture. In this article, we’ll walk through Lara’s story, the emotional weight many mums carry, and practical, compassionate ways to explain an absent father to children of all ages. You’ll also learn how to anchor into your strengths as a mum, build a nurturing village, and guide your child’s understanding with honesty and love. ## Why Explaining an Absent Father Feels So Heavy For many mums, the absence of a father isn’t just a fact — it’s a wound, a worry, a “how will I say this without hurting them?” moment. When Lara’s two-year-old son watched Bluey and asked, “Presley… dad?”, she felt the familiar panic so many mums know well: ***Ho*w do I explain an absent father to a toddler who can barely form sentences?** Her instinctive response — “It’s just Mummy. Some families just have mums” — was simple, loving, and enough for that moment. But it also set off a wave of emotions, phone calls to her family, and eventually the birth of her book. This story reminds us of something crucial: ***You don’t need the perfect script. You only need honesty, safety, and love.*** ## Lara’s Story: From NICU, to Single Motherhood, to Becoming an Author Before the book, Lara’s life looked like so many single mums’ lives: early mornings, daycare drop-offs, racing between work and home, and trying to hold everything together. But her journey has been shaped by extraordinary challenges: premature birth, isolation during COVID, and raising her son without any involvement from his father. She started with nothing — a newborn in NICU, five hours from home — and built her life from the ground up. Every step of her journey reveals resilience, reflection, and a deep commitment to giving her son the childhood he deserves. ## How to Gently Explain an Absent Father to Your Child Below are the key principles reflected in Lara’s experience and in the lived reality of many single mums navigating this tender conversation. ### 1. Keep It Age-Appropriate — Simple Is Safe Children ask because they’re connecting dots, not because they need a full emotional download. Lara’s first instinct was exactly right for a toddler: > *“Some families have mums, some have dads, some have both. Our family is you and me.”* This keeps things truthful without oversharing or creating fear. As they grow, the language can evolve. #### **For toddlers:** - “Your family is you and Mum.” - “Everyone’s family looks different.” #### **For preschoolers:** - “Your dad doesn’t live with us, but you are very loved.” #### **For school-aged kids:** - “Your dad isn’t part of our daily life, and that’s his choice. What matters is the people who show up for you.” #### **For tweens:** Add nuance only when they’re ready: “Adults make complicated choices, but you’re not responsible for them.” ### **2. Focus on Who *Is* There, Not Who Isn’t** Lara beautifully captures this: > *“Who needs a dad when you have an Aunt Bear?”* > – Lara Owers Her book illustrates the richness of a “one-parent + village” family, ending with a page full of family members surrounding her son. Children don’t measure family by structure — they measure it by presence, warmth, and safety. Help your child name their village: - Mum - Nan or Pop - Aunties or uncles - Close family friends - Teachers - Coaches - Your dog (yes, pets count!) Ask: **“Who is in our family?”** Their answers will surprise you — and reassure you. **See the full episode with Lara on YouTube**: ***[No Dad? How One Mum Built a Village](https://youtu.be/XoQP85UrKBs?si=K2SKteP-0ImL37cL)*** ### **3. If You Carry Guilt, You’re Not Alone (And You’re Not Failing)** Lara admits she has not completely moved past the guilt — and that honesty helps other mums feel normal. > *“I overcompensate massively… there’s a lot of weight to carry.”* > – Lara But therapy, reframing, and a supportive family helped her see the truth: Her son is better off in a peaceful, loving home with one parent than a chaotic home with two. If guilt shows up for you: - Name it - Challenge it - Reframe it: **“My child is not missing out — they are surrounded by love.”** And suppose you’re feeling stuck in the heavy emotional load of doing this alone. In that case, our episode on **Emotional Restoration for Single Mums** offers grounded tools for shifting from overwhelm back into steadiness. ***Read or listen here**: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/emotional-restoration-for-single-mums* ### 4. Use Tools, Books & Stories to Support the Conversation Books can create emotional safety and make complex topics easier to digest. Lara’s book is simple on purpose — children need warmth and clarity, not complicated explanations. Children’s literature normalises their experience, showing families with: - One parent - Two mums - Just grandparents - Blended siblings - Or built through donor conception It gives them language before they have emotional processing skills. *See our list of children’s books for single-parent families* in “***[Explain An Absent Dad With Simple Books For Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/books-kids-absent-dad/ "10 Books to help kid’s deal with an absent dad")***“ [![Mummy, me and our family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Book-cover.png "Book cover - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/aOaZPQ) ### **5. Allow Others to Step Into Supportive Roles** One of the strongest themes in Lara’s story is the power of letting others help: > *“His uncle can show up… his poppy can show up… my partner can show up.”* > – Lara Kids thrive when multiple adults invest in them. It’s not a replacement — it’s reinforcement. Let people in: - Family - Friends - Community - Daycare educators - Teachers - Sporting role models - Your support network Letting others contribute strengthens your child’s world, not weakens your role. ### **6. Remember: You Are Allowed to Overcompensate** And why shouldn’t you? As Elle beautifully said during the interview: > **“No one ever died from having an over-doting mother.”** > – Elle Sitek The absence of one parent doesn’t mean children receive half the love. With one deeply engaged parent, many children grow up more secure, more emotionally aware, and more resilient than their peers. ## How to Stay Grounded When Raising a Child Without Another Parent Life without a co-parent is big, heavy, and relentless. Lara keeps herself anchored through: #### Reframing - Parenting is a process, not a performance. - You’re allowed to not have it all figured out. #### Daily grounding - Eat properly - Drink water - Move your body - Sleep where possible #### Permission to feel it all - Some days you’re angry. - Other days you’re sad. - And some days you’re unstoppable. All of it is normal. ## FAQ: How Do I Explain an Absent Father? ### 1. How do I explain an absent father to a toddler? Keep it gentle and simple: **“Our family is you and me. Some families have dads, some don’t.”** ### 2. Should I tell the truth? Yes, but only the truth they are developmentally able to hold. ### 3. What if the father left by choice? You can say: **“Your dad isn’t part of our life, but you are so loved by the people around you.”** Save the nuance for later years. ### 4. Will my child be hurt by not having a dad? Not if they are surrounded by supportive adults and secure attachment. Presence matters more than titles. ### 5. What if I get upset when they ask? It’s okay — you’re human. You can return to the conversation later with more calm. ## Conclusion and a Tiny Tool If you’ve wondered how to explain an absent father, felt the guilt rise in your throat, or worried that you’re not enough — please hear this: ***You are doing better than you think.*** Your child sees who shows up. They feel loved because *you* love them. They feel safe because *you* built the safety. Lara’s tiny tool: **“Take a breath, drink some water, and ask your child: Who is your family?”** Their answer will tell you everything you need to know. **If this article helped you, please share your story in the comments, join our newsletter, or come connect with other mums in [The Single Mum Vine FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). You don’t have to do this alone.** --- ## Links for this episode: 📖 **[Buy Lara’s book](https://dymocks-australia.pxf.io/aOaZPQ):** https://www.dymocks.com.au/mummy-me-and-our-family-by-lara-owers-9781035892709 – *A gentle, beautifully simple story for little ones navigating father absence.* 📸 **[Follow Lara on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lara_owers/):** – A lovely place for mums to feel seen, understood, and connected to another woman walking a similar path. 👩‍👧‍👦 **[Join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** — It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🧙🏼‍♀️ **[Download your life hacks](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts):** – Practical cheat-sheets, emotional reset tools, money-saving guides and bite-sized parenting supports — all created with single mums in mind. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. 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In fact, every single mum I know has a special knack for creating moments that matter — even when the budget’s tight, the kids are wired, and the countdown hits 9 pm instead of 12. If you’re craving a celebration that doesn’t require 47 steps of preparation, then you’re in the right place! Whether you’re watching a movie together or dancing to a favourite playlist, there are so many clever ideas to celebrate New Year’s without the pressure. In this guide, we’ve pulled together fun ideas and family-friendly activities that support your energy, your budget, and your reality. ## **New Year Celebrations: Fun Ideas and Traditions** When it comes to New Year celebrations, sometimes the simplest idea turns into the one your family remembers most. Whether you’re celebrating with the kids, a few friends, or enjoying a quiet evening to yourself, a little creativity goes a long way. Here are some easy, joy-sparking ideas to try as you make your way into the new year: - **Keep it cosy at home**: A movie night or a backyard balloon countdown is a simple, fun way to welcome 2026. Add a fun snack or two for good measure. - **Start a small tradition**: It can be a yearly photo, a handwritten wish, or a gratitude jar. These small rituals often become something your little family looks forward to every year. - **Try an intention-setting ritual**: Light a candle, choose a guiding word, or jot down your gentle resolutions. - **Make a midnight toast**: Once the kids are out cold, a [curated craft-beer pack from Beer Cartel](https://beercartel.com.au/products/mixed-boutique-beer-6-pack?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=46345f4d3ba3417196c7a0a8cc96d70a "curated craft-beer pack from Beer Cartel") is a lovely adult treat. No need to stop at multiple stores for the right drink. - **Dress up just for you**: Whether you’re hosting or lounging at home, [a fresh look from Hello Molly](https://www.hellomolly.com.au/collections/jumpsuits?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=59558&utm_campaign=Text+Link&cfclick=4d4f17a4b3ae466da924a4577e5d5bd0 "a fresh look from Hello Molly") can make the night feel instantly more festive. ## **Family-Friendly New Year Activities** When you’re celebrating with kids, New Year’s Eve becomes less about staying up late and more about creating memories. But only the fun, joy-filled kind that don’t require a late-night sugar crash. These NYE activities are easy to pull together and enjoyable for kids of all ages (including the grown-up ones). - **Game night or movie marathon**: Dust off the board games, line up everyone’s favourite films, or let each child choose one activity for the evening. - **Create DIY countdown bags**: Fill small bags with treats or fun tasks leading up to “midnight.” [Big W is perfect for grabbing affordable craft supplies](https://www.bigw.com.au/school-office-art-supplies/c/6531106?irclickid=wzzQc41bVxycTdV0FmT43xgFUkpTo3QOUR8GRQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link "Big W is perfect for grabbing affordable craft supplies"), so you can bring them all to life. - **Try safe, sparkly alternatives to fireworks**: Try glow sticks, bubble machines, and [confetti poppers from Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/confetti-twist-party-popper-40cm/p/9900833615?irclickid=wzzQc41bVxycTdV0FmT43xgFUkpTo3X%3AUR8GRQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link "confetti poppers from Big W"). They offer all the excitement of fireworks without the noise or stress. - **Head outdoors for an adventure**: A twilight walk, beach picnic, or local holiday event adds a little magic to the evening. For even more fun and meaningful ways to celebrate New Year’s Eve with your kids, [take a look at our full guide here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/celebrate-new-years-eve-with-kids/ "take a look at our full guide here"). ![new year celebrations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/New-year-celebrations-1.jpg "New year celebrations 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Budget-Friendly Ways to Celebrate the New Year** Some of the most memorable New Year moments are the ones made with creativity, community, and thoughtful budgeting. Here are some low-stress, high-heart ideas to keep your celebration joyful and doable. - **Host a simple potluck**: Ask each family member or friend to bring a plate. It’s a relaxed way to celebrate without carrying the whole party yourself. - **DIY the décor and treats**: [Fairy lights, balloons, or paper garlands from Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/collection/new-years-eve?irclickid=wzzQc41bVxycTdV0FmT43xgFUkpToyTWUR8GRQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link "Fairy lights, balloons, or paper garlands from Big W") can quickly decorate your space. You can also involve the kids in the process for added fun! - **Freshen up your outfit affordably**: [Hello Molly’s sale section](https://www.hellomolly.com.au/collections/promo80?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=59558&utm_campaign=Text+Link&cfclick=48e0c81bc3d545a39a6650a4da2d6878 "Hello Molly’s sale section") has stylish pieces that look party-ready but stay within budget. - **Choose free entertainment**: A beach sunset, backyard picnic, or watching the city fireworks on TV lets you celebrate New Year’s Eve without stretching your budget. Celebrating the new year doesn’t have to stretch your limits, financially or emotionally. With a few thoughtful choices, you can create a night that feels joyful and completely doable. ## **Planning a Memorable New Year Celebrations** Planning your New Year’s Eve party doesn’t have to feel wild or overwhelming. With a little structure (and a lot of grace), you can host a fun, low-pressure evening even if you’re juggling work, parenting, and end-of-year fatigue. So, here are some tips on how to keep things simple and enjoyable: - **Start with a theme**: A loose theme like glitter, disco, or cosy chic helps narrow decisions and adds instant atmosphere. - **Keep the menu simple and satisfying**: Grazing boards, dips, and easy finger foods are perfect. Pair them with [ginger beers from Beer Cartel](https://beercartel.com.au/products/ginger-beer-mixed-pack?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=6d5ae62592b34efaae7b2da34e8a7410 "ginger beers from Beer Cartel"), so the adults can let loose a little and have fun. - **Plan a few all-ages activities**: A DIY photo booth, favourite music playlist, or simple game can keep everyone engaged at different times throughout the evening. ## **Hosting a Stress-Free New Year Gathering** When it comes to New Year celebrations, “stress-free” might sound like a fantasy. But with a few gentle tweaks, your NYE gathering can feel surprisingly light and manageable. There are plenty of ways to make the evening easier, such as: - **Plan ahead and keep them simple**: A short menu, a couple of easy activities, and a relaxed mindset are enough. - **Let people help**: Ask friends or family to bring a plate, set up an activity, or help tidy as they go - **Choose tableware that makes life easier**: Disposable cups or [recyclable plates from Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/roaring-new-year-small-paper-plates-pack-of-8-/p/9900834321?irclickid=wzzQc41bVxycTdV0FmT43xgFUkpToUz3UR8GRQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link "recyclable plates from Big W") mean fewer dishes and more breathing room at the end of the night. - **Pre-order drinks**: A delivery of [non-alcoholic beers from Beer Cartel](https://beercartel.com.au/products/alcohol-free-mixed-12-pack?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=59558&cfclick=5837d681c96b4b478613820a108d1d68 "non-alcoholic beers from Beer Cartel") removes the last-minute dash to the bottle store. Plus, it also keeps things safe for everyone driving home. - **Keep expectations flexible**: Kids tire earlier, plans shift, and conversation flows in unexpected directions. Let the night unfold naturally. ## **Creative DIY Decorations for NYE** DIY touches make your New Year celebrations feel warm, personal, and budget-friendly. So, here are a few ideas that look impressive without draining time or money. - **Make a DIY balloon garland**: Using tapes, strings, and [balloon packs from Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/glittering-new-year-happy-new-year-balloons-pack-of-8-/p/9900835474?irclickid=wzzQc41bVxycTdV0FmT43xgFUkpToU32UR8GRQ0&irgwc=1&afsrc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Online%20Tracking%20Link "balloon packs from Big W"), you can build a festive backdrop in under an hour. - **Set up a handmade photo booth**: Hang a sheet, add props, and let the kids show off their creative sides. - **Reuse Christmas lights**: They add instant sparkle without extra spending. - **Create DIY intention cards or a wish board**: Encourage everyone to jot down a hope or plan; a sweet way to start 2026. ![new year celebrations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/New-year-celebrations-2.jpg "New year celebrations 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Unique Traditions Around the World** [Exploring global New Year traditions](https://www.afar.com/magazine/new-years-traditions-from-around-the-world "Exploring global New Year traditions") is a fun, meaningful way to celebrate and teach your kids about different cultures. - **Eat 12 grapes at midnight** **(Spain)**: At midnight, people eat one grape per chime for 12 months of fortune. Simple, playful, and great for kids. - **Jump off a chair** **(Denmark)**: Danes literally leap into January by jumping off a chair at midnight. - **Wear white for peace** **(Brazil)**: White outfits represent harmony and protection for the year ahead. It’s also a beautiful excuse to browse [Hello Molly’s white dress collection](https://www.hellomolly.com.au/collections/white-dresses?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_content=59558&utm_campaign=Text+Link&cfclick=851170cd80844821a13c1a52611b17a0 "Hello Molly’s white dress collection") and snag a cute pair! You can also make it a learning moment by looking up photos online, watching short clips, or letting the kids choose which tradition to try. ## **New Year Celebrations: Bringing It All Together** As you wrap up your New Year celebrations, remember this: it doesn’t have to be fancy, flawless, or Instagram-worthy to be meaningful. If you and the kids had fun and the night didn’t end in complete chaos, that’s a win worth celebrating. Here’s to stepping into 2026 with a little sparkle, a lot of resilience, and the confidence to celebrate in whatever way feels right for you. Happy New Year, and cheers to doing it *your* way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/new-year-celebrations-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/new-year-celebrations-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life **Tags:** new year, new year celebrations, fun ideas --- ### [4 Unbelievable Gifts Knitters Secretly Crave](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/4-unbelievable-gifts-knitters-secretly-crave/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ask any seasoned yarn-lover, and they will tell you that friends and family tend to repeat the same presents. A ball of merino here or a pair of novelty needles there are thoughtful, but don’t always solve everyday issues. Knitters often face challenges like cramped hands or cluttered project bags that standard gifts don’t address. If you’re hunting for a gift that blends practicality with a genuine “wow” factor, you’re in the right place. According to a 2024 survey, [53% of knitters knit every single day](https://craftindustryalliance.org/the-size-of-the-yarn-market-yarn-consumer-survey-results-2024/), making their comfort and efficiency a top priority. Below, we break down four unique ideas that solve real-world problems for the dedicated crafter in your life. ## **Gift #1 – Interchangeable Needle Set** Single-size needles pile up fast, especially when a pattern’s gauge changes mid-project. A HiyaHiya Interchangeable Needle Set swaps that chaos for an elegant, compact solution. High-quality stainless-steel tips screw into flexible cables, covering the most popular sizes without the bulk. Most non-knitters think of needles as fixed tools, so an interchangeable kit feels like a specialised multi-tool for yarn. The real magic is in the smooth joins where the needle tip meets the cable, preventing delicate yarns from snagging. For those seeking elegant storage, the [Thread and Maple’s practical gifts for knitters](https://www.threadandmaple.com/collections/gifts-for-knitters) collection includes specialised organisers designed to protect these valuable tools. This type of set offers several key advantages. One palm-sized case can replace an entire drawer of straight needles, and the cables coil neatly for travel. Crafters can also add shorter tips or longer cables later instead of buying a whole new set for a specific project. | **Key Insight:** An interchangeable needle set doesn’t just save space; it transforms a cluttered collection into a single, efficient, and travel-ready tool kit for consistent, snag-free results. | |---| ![knitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-markusspiske-105480-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-markusspiske-105480 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Gift #2 – Freestanding Electric Fireplace** Knitters often seek out coziness, which is why a freestanding electric fireplace is an unexpectedly perfect gift. Placing one beside a favourite armchair creates an instant crafting nook with a flickering flame effect. This can be done without needing any venting or costly renovation, making it ideal for any space. Few gift-givers think of a heater when brainstorming knitting accessories, yet knitters spend hours sitting still. A good supplemental heat source prevents stiff fingers while the gentle flame effect adds a comforting ambience. This is particularly appreciated during cooler months when hands are more prone to feeling cold. Modern units offer multiple benefits. An adjustable thermostat warms the immediate seating zone without overheating the whole house, and cool-touch sides are safer around yarn and pets. These devices are also emission-free and plug into any standard outlet. | **Pro Tip:** Gift a freestanding electric fireplace to create an instant ‘knitting nook.’ It provides targeted warmth for stiff fingers and cozy ambiance, elevating their crafting time without costly renovation. | |---| ## **Gift #3 – Vibration Plate for Better Circulation** Long knitting sessions can lead to stiff calves, sore feet, and tingling hands. A compact vibration plate, usually marketed to fitness enthusiasts, can help by improving blood flow. Just 10 minutes a day can make a significant difference for someone who sits for long periods. Repetitive hand motions coupled with hours of sitting can increase the risk of numbness and swelling. Short sessions of whole-body vibration can aid muscle recovery and boost circulation, counteracting the effects of a sedentary hobby. This simple tool supports a knitter’s physical well-being. The health advantages for a crafter are clear. It helps reduce leg and hand stiffness, requires a minimal time commitment, and is multi-task friendly. A user can easily read charts or scroll through pattern notes while the plate is running. | **Important:** A vibration plate can be a game-changer for circulation, but always advise the recipient to consult a physician before use, especially if they have pre-existing health conditions or are pregnant. | |---| ## **Gift #4 – Custom Leather Labels for Handmade Knits** ![knitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-surene-palvie-1075224-2767653-871x800.jpg "Pexels-surene-palvie-1075224-2767653 - Beanstalk Mums") Nothing elevates a finished object faster than a chic label stitched into the brim of a hat or hem of a sweater. Custom leather tags engraved with a name, logo, or care symbols add boutique polish. This small detail makes a handmade item feel even more special and professional. Many knitters obsess over the perfect yarn and pattern, but overlook the final presentation. A set of personalised labels allows them to turn their gifts or online listings into signature pieces. This simple addition helps them brand their work without changing a single stitch. These labels offer several distinct benefits. They add a professional feel, are durable enough for gentle washing, and are relatively low-cost to try out. Many sellers offer small sample packs to test designs before committing to a larger order. | **Pro Tip:** When gifting custom leather labels, ensure they have pre-punched holes. This small detail saves the knitter from struggling to stitch through thick material, making the finishing process a joy. | |---| ## **Get The Perfect Gift** Ready to ditch the predictable presents? Choosing a [thoughtful gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-gifts-for-mums-that-make-her-feel-truly-special/ "thoughtful gift") that addresses a real need can transform countless cozy evenings of knitting. By looking beyond yarn, you can provide a tool that enhances comfort, improves organisation, or adds a professional touch to their beloved craft. | **Author Profile:** Thread & Maple is the leading supplier of artisan-crafted leather bags and organisational carriers for knitters, crocheters, and fibre artists, with accessories that beautifully complement their core collection. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/4-unbelievable-gifts-knitters-secretly-crave/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/4-unbelievable-gifts-knitters-secretly-crave/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [3 Surprising Ways to Save on Tech Purchases](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/3-surprising-ways-to-save-on-tech-purchases/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Smartphones now average more than $1,000, laptops creep toward two grand, and tablets cost as much as last year’s flagship phones. Technology sticker-shock is a real phenomenon, yet many shoppers still manage to upgrade their tech purchases for far less than retail. By the end of this guide, you’ll know three proven tactics to keep more cash in your pocket. We will cover how to buy smart, the value of refurbished gear, and how to leverage rewards. Adopting even one of these strategies could save you hundreds on your next device. ## **1. Buy Smart & Compare Prices** The first step to saving money is knowing what you need and where to look for the best price. According to AARP, shoppers who [comparison-shop across at least three vendors](https://www.aarp.org/money/personal-finance/comparison-shopping/) save an average of 17%. ### **Identify Needs vs. Wants** Don’t pay for specs you’ll never use. Before you start shopping, ask yourself a few key questions to clarify your requirements: - What performance do I truly need for my day-to-day tasks? - How long do I expect this device to last? - Could a mid-tier model handle 90% of my workflow? ### **Set a Realistic Budget** Use a budgeting app or a simple spreadsheet to carve out a firm spending ceiling before the impulse to upgrade hits. Knowing your absolute maximum spend prevents you from being upsold on features you don’t need. ### **Track Sales Cycles** Timing your purchase can lead to significant savings. Keep an eye on major sales events throughout the year, including: - Back-to-school sales in late July and August - Black Friday and Cyber Monday in November - Amazon Prime Day in mid-summer - Manufacturers clear out just after new models are launched ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-negativespace-34577-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-negativespace-34577 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Use Price-Comparison & Alert Tools** Automated tools can do the hard work of tracking prices for you. Look for browser extensions and websites that compare prices across multiple retailers and automatically apply coupon codes at checkout. | **Pro Tip:** Don’t just compare prices manually. Use browser extensions and alert tools to automate the process, ensuring you never miss a price drop or coupon. | |---| ## **2. Choose Refurbished, Second-Hand, or Trade-In Deals** Buying brand-new isn’t the only path to reliable tech. Refurbished and certified pre-owned gear often delivers 30–50% savings with surprisingly solid warranties, making it an excellent choice for the savvy buyer. ### **What “Certified Refurbished” Really Means** These are not simply used devices. According to Consumer Reports, [certified refurbished products go through rigorous factory testing](https://www.consumerreports.org/shopping/how-to-be-a-smarter-shopper-right-now/), part replacement, and deep cleaning before being re-boxed. Many come with guarantees, and some manufacturers even provide a fresh battery and a full one-year warranty. ### **Trusted Places to Shop** When looking for refurbished tech, it’s crucial to buy from a reputable source. Many manufacturers have their own refurbished stores, and dedicated marketplaces offer a wide selection. For instance, you can find wallet-friendly Dell and Lenovo models fully tested to corporate off-lease standards in collections like [PCLiquidations’ certified refurbished laptops](https://www.pcliquidations.com/refurbished-laptops). Other popular options include marketplaces like BackMarket and Amazon Renewed. ### **Evaluate Trade-In Programs** Most major electronics brands, retailers, and mobile carriers will give you credit for your old hardware. Before you commit, be sure to compare quotes from multiple sources, as trade-in values can sometimes differ significantly for the exact same device. ### **DIY Fix or Upgrade vs. Replace** Sometimes, the most cost-effective solution is to improve what you already have. A simple RAM upgrade or an SSD swap can breathe years of new life into an aging laptop, saving you far more than the cost of a brand-new machine. | **Key Insight:** “Certified Refurbished” isn’t just “used.” These devices undergo rigorous factory testing and often include warranties, offering new-like reliability for a fraction of the cost. | |---| ## **3. Leverage Rewards, Cash-Back & Financing Tools** Layering cash-back offers with existing sale prices can turn a good deal into a great one. This strategy stretches your budget even further without requiring extra effort. ### **Credit-Card Cash-Back & Rotating Categories** Data shows that [many credit cards offer 2-5% cash back](https://electronicpaymentscoalition.org/2024/04/30/new-study-data-shows-credit-card-rewards-are-a-lifeline-for-working-class-americans/) on purchases, with some featuring rotating quarterly categories that focus on electronics. Using the right card for your tech purchase could shave immediate dollars off your final price. ### **Browser Extensions & Coupon Aggregators** Install a browser extension that automatically searches for and applies promo codes at checkout. These tools can sniff out hidden discounts you might have missed, saving you money with a single click. ![tech purchases](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-asphotography-230544-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-asphotography-230544 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Consider Interest-Free Financing** Many retailers offer “Pay in 4” or similar short-term, interest-free financing options. This allows you to split a large purchase into smaller, more manageable payments without incurring fees, as long as you pay on time. #### **Watch Out for Deferred-Interest Traps** Always read the fine print on “12-month same as cash” offers. Many of these deals will back-charge all accumulated interest if your balance isn’t paid in full by the deadline. | **Important:** Be cautious with “interest-free” offers. Many will back-charge all accumulated interest if the balance isn’t fully paid by the deadline, turning your deal into debt. | |---| ## **Rapid-Fire Bonus Tips** Here are a few more quick ideas to maximise your savings: - Cancel unused cloud-storage or streaming subscriptions to free up monthly cash. - Sell or responsibly recycle old devices for cash or store credit. - Negotiate with your mobile carrier – loyalty departments can often shave 10-15% off monthly plans. ## **FAQ** #### **Is refurbished tech reliable?** Yes, certified refurbishment programs from reputable sellers include thorough hardware testing and often include warranties. This makes them nearly as dependable as new devices. #### **How do price-match guarantees work?** Most major retailers will match a competitor’s lower advertised price on an identical item, usually within 14 days of purchase. Always save your receipts and take screenshots of the lower price. #### **What’s the safest way to buy used phones?** When buying from a private seller, try to meet in a public place like a [car dealership](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-single-mum-guide-to-buying-a-second-hand-car/ "car dealership"). There, you can confirm the phone’s IMEI isn’t blacklisted before finalising the purchase. ## **Your Next Steps** Now that you have these strategies, it’s time to put them into practice. - Choose one strategy from this guide: comparison shopping, refurbished hunting, or rewards stacking, and set it up today. - Bookmark this article for your next upgrade cycle. - Share this post with a friend so they can start stretching their tech budget, too! | **Author Profile:** PCLiquidations is the leading online retailer of quality refurbished technology for businesses, schools, government organizations, and home users. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/3-surprising-ways-to-save-on-tech-purchases/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/3-surprising-ways-to-save-on-tech-purchases/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [Imagination Activities for Kids [3 Easy Ideas]](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/imagination-activities-for-kids-3-easy-ideas/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Centres that intentionally cultivate imaginative play see measurable benefits, including higher enrollment waitlists and stronger parent satisfaction scores. According to educational research, [play-based learning is directly linked to the development of 21st-century skills](https://ies.ed.gov/ncee/rel/Products/Region/northeast/Blog/100779), including collaboration and creative innovation. In a competitive landscape, creating an environment that nurtures creativity is a strategic advantage. A National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC) survey found that 78% of parents rank a “creative environment” in their top three criteria when choosing a program. Below are three research-backed, operationally realistic tactics you can deploy to foster imagination. These strategies will help strengthen your centre’s reputation and support key learning outcomes. ## **How Imagination Fuels Key Developmental Milestones** Investing in imaginative play directly supports critical areas of child development, contributing to overall well-being. The American Academy of Pediatrics states that play is essential because it contributes to the [cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children](https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/119/1/182/70699). This type of play builds foundational life skills in a way that is both engaging and effective. Furthermore, research confirms that [imaginative play helps children develop a larger vocabulary, delay impulses, and foster concentration](https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/ED222186.pdf) through role-taking. The core benefits include: - Enhanced cognitive flexibility allows children to generate multiple solutions to a single problem. - Significant language growth, with imaginative scenarios prompting more complex sentence structures. - Improved social-emotional learning as children navigate roles and rules through cooperative storytelling. - Stronger problem-solving skills developed through pretend scenario planning and execution. ## **1. Stock Open-Ended Play Materials** Loose-part environments, filled with materials that can be used in countless ways, are a powerful catalyst for creativity. Research shows that these zones can drive a significant jump in divergent-thinking scores compared to areas with fixed equipment. For multi-child settings, this provides a quantifiable win you can present to boards and licensing inspectors. ### **Action Steps for Centres** To effectively implement this strategy, consider the following operational steps: - **Audit Existing Inventory:** Systematically review your current materials. Differentiate between items with a single use, like a puzzle, and those with infinite possibilities, such as scarves, cardboard tubes, and blocks. - **Create Rotating Bins:** To maintain novelty without impacting your budget, swap the contents of play bins every two weeks. This simple rotation keeps children engaged and consistently challenged. - **Implement Clear Storage Systems:** Use labels and colour-coding for storage. When children can self-sort materials, it frees up staff for more direct engagement with the children. ### **Material & Equipment Ideas** To get started, focus on versatile items that encourage group participation and creative expression: - Loose-part playground bundles that come in pre-sorted kits with grip-friendly crates. - Modular foam block sets are sized appropriately for collaborative group builds. - Durable, child-safe costumes like [Medieval Collectibles’ armour costumes for kids](https://www.medievalcollectibles.com/product-category/armour/) and adults, which can transform any corner into a castle while withstanding daily use. | **Pro Tip:** Regularly rotating open-ended materials is a budget-friendly way to maintain novelty, keeping children consistently challenged and engaged without requiring constant new purchases. | |---| ## **2. Build Themed Pretend-Play Zones** Dedicated and rotating dramatic-play settings can have a profound impact on social development. One study found that classrooms that rotated these themed zones saw a 40% increase in cooperative language episodes within just four weeks. This demonstrates a direct link between environment and social skill-building. ![imagination activities for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-cottonbro-3662667-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-3662667 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Action Steps for Centres** Here is how your centre can create and manage these dynamic play areas: - **Choose a Monthly Theme:** Align your theme with the current curriculum, seasons, or student interests. Examples include “Community Helpers,” “Under the Sea,” or “Space Exploration.” - **Empower Staff in Creation:** Involve your team in co-creating a prop wish list for each theme. Giving them ownership in the process leads to better upkeep and more creative implementation. - **Showcase Your Program:** Promote the current theme in parent newsletters and on social media feeds. This highlights your program’s commitment to dynamic learning experiences. ### **Material & Equipment Ideas** Focus on large, durable pieces that anchor a theme and invite interaction: - A fire-truck climber complete with moveable steering wheels and gauges. - A versatile market stand structure that can function as a market, a ticket booth, or a space station control panel. | **Key Insight:** Rotating dramatic-play themes is directly linked to social skill-building, with studies showing it can increase cooperative language episodes among children by up to 40%. | |---| ## **3. Maximise Outdoor Free-Play Time** The outdoors provides a unique canvas for the imagination. An influential study found that outdoor free play generates imaginative storylines that are 33% richer and more complex than those created indoors. The open space and natural elements encourage bigger, more expansive thinking. ### **Action Steps for Centres** Incorporate these practices to make the most of your outdoor spaces: - **Schedule “Open Yard” Blocks:** Bookend each day with 30-minute blocks dedicated to unstructured outdoor time, separate from standard recess, to encourage self-directed play. - **Stock Portable Prop Carts:** Make imaginative play easy to transport outside with carts filled with items like scarves, large chalk, and capes to boost narrative play. - **Protect Carry-Over Creativity:** Adopt a policy that limits screen time for at least 30 minutes before and after outdoor sessions to ensure the creative benefits are fully realised. ### **Material & Equipment Ideas** Look for commercial-grade equipment designed for safety, durability, and imaginative engagement: - Commercial shade structures that allow for UV-safe, all-day play. - Lockable outdoor storage sheds that can roll props and materials directly to the yard. - Durable, commercial-grade structures like [WillyGoat’s safe playground equipment](https://willygoat.com/collections/playground-equipment), which includes nature-themed climbers and musical play panels that turn any playground into an imagination catalyst. | **Key Insight:** Outdoor play significantly enhances cognitive development. Research shows children’s imaginative storylines are 33% richer and more complex when created in an outdoor environment. | |---| ## **The Bottom Line: Imagination Activities for Kids** Investing in environments that foster imagination provides tangible returns for any early learning centre. By focusing on open-ended materials, themed play zones, and outdoor creativity, you directly support key developmental benchmarks. This strengthens your educational program and enhances your brand. These enhancements are not just expenses but strategic investments in your centre’s competitive edge. They provide a compelling story for parents and boards, demonstrating a commitment to quality, safety, and superior learning outcomes. Ultimately, a creative environment helps keep your enrollment pipeline full and solidifies your reputation as a leader in child development. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/imagination-activities-for-kids-3-easy-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/imagination-activities-for-kids-3-easy-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [3 Proven Ways to Simplify Home Comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/3-proven-ways-to-simplify-home-comfort/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Visual clutter competes for your brain’s attention, which can impact your well-being. Research shows that high levels of the [stress hormone cortisol were found in mothers](https://www.weforum.org/stories/2019/02/time-for-a-kondo-clean-out-heres-what-clutter-does-to-your-brain-and-body/) living in disorganised home environments. This constant visual noise can sap your focus and drain your energy. Beyond personal stress, a cluttered space can also [cause tension among family members](https://healthyhomes.media.uconn.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/1344/2022/02/HealthyHomes_HealthyKids.pdf) and increase safety risks. The good news is that a focused weekend is often all it takes to reclaim a sense of calm and boost your overall home comfort. Follow these three ways to make your home feel lighter and easier to maintain. ## **WAY #1 – Reset Your Mindset & Prep for Success** ### **Clear the mental clutter first** Before you lift a single box, take a moment to define your goals. This mental preparation is crucial for staying motivated when you’re faced with tough decisions about what to keep. - Ask yourself: What would a calmer space let me do more of? - Which rooms create the most daily friction? - What’s one feeling I want my home to evoke on Sunday night? ### **Build a simple checklist** A clear plan prevents you from feeling overwhelmed by the process. Create a straightforward checklist to guide your efforts and track your progress as you move through each room. - List the rooms to tackle, ranked by how much stress they cause. - Define your categories: donation, recycling, and trash. - Prepare a “maybe” box with a 30-day revisit date for items you’re unsure about. ### **Stock your weekend toolkit** Having the right supplies on hand means you won’t have to interrupt your workflow. Gather these essentials before you begin to maintain your momentum from start to finish. - Cardboard boxes and heavy-duty donation bags. - Masking tape and a marker for quick, clear labels. - Comfortable work gloves, especially if you’re purging a cold garage or basement. | **Key Insight:** A clear plan prevents overwhelm. Taking time to define your goals and gather supplies beforehand is the secret to staying motivated and making decisive choices when the real work begins. | |---| ## **WAY #2 – The Rapid Room-by-Room Declutter** ![home comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-pixabay-271624-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-271624 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Use the four-step “Empty, Sort, Plan, Put Away” method for each space. This systematic approach ensures you evaluate every item and make intentional choices about what belongs in your home. ### **Step 1: Empty** Remove everything from a single closet, drawer, or shelf. Starting with a blank slate forces you to see what you actually own, making it easier to decide what truly deserves to come back. ### **Step 2: Sort** With the space cleared, create three distinct piles for your items: keep, donate, and discard. Be decisive and work quickly to avoid second-guessing your initial instincts and losing momentum. ### **Step 3: Plan** Before returning anything, decide where the “keep” items will live. A multi-functional piece like [Koala’s comfy sofa bed can add hidden storage](https://au.koala.com/collections/sofa-beds) and free up space, eliminating the need for extra furniture. This is the perfect time to optimise your layout. ### **Step 4: Put Away** Return only the essentials to their newly designated homes. Everything should be easy to see, access, and put away. Enjoy the feeling of a clean, organised, and functional space. | **Pro Tip:** During the sorting step, speed is your friend. Avoid overthinking and trust your gut. If an item causes hesitation, use your ‘maybe’ box and keep the momentum going. Decisiveness is key. | |---| ## **WAY #3 – Plan, Organise & Maintain Systems** Decluttering is an event, but organising is a system. Once the excess is gone, create simple systems to keep your home comfortable and clear for the long haul. ### **Plan the system** Map out where items belong before you shop for any storage solutions. A simple sketch is often all you need to create a logical flow, preventing you from buying containers that don’t fit. ### **Source simple accessories** Choose versatile organising tools that can adapt as your needs change. Focus on items that improve visibility and make things easy to find and put back. - Clear shoe boxes are excellent for multipurpose storage in closets and pantries. - Drawer dividers can bring order to chaotic kitchen utensil or sock drawers. - Under-bed totes are perfect for stashing seasonal items out of sight but within reach. ### **Maintain with tiny habits** A lasting organisation is built on small, consistent actions. Integrate tiny habits into your daily routines to prevent clutter from creeping back in and undoing your hard work. - Perform a 10-minute nightly reset to quickly tidy surfaces. - Follow the one-in-one-out rule for new purchases like clothes and décor. - Do a Sunday evening surface sweep to start the week fresh. | **Key Insight:** Decluttering is a project, but organization is a lifelong practice. The real secret to a calm home isn’t the initial purge, but the simple, consistent daily habits you build to maintain clarity. | |---| ## **Mini-FAQ** ### **How long should each room take?** [Small spaces](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/ "Small spaces") like a bathroom should take about 45 minutes. Plan for around 90 minutes for bedrooms and up to two hours for a kitchen, depending on its size and complexity. ### **What’s the difference between decluttering and uncluttering?** Decluttering is the initial process of removing excess items. Uncluttering is the ongoing maintenance required to keep the space in its clear, organised state for the long term. ### **Won’t an “empty” look feel cold?** Not at all, as you can add warmth without adding clutter by using textures. Incorporate soft throws, healthy plants, and warm, layered lighting to make the space feel inviting. ### **Can I really finish in one weekend?** Yes, it is possible if you stay focused on high-impact zones. Stick to your time blocks and follow your checklist. The goal is significant progress, not perfection. ## **The Path Forward** A mindset shift, rapid decluttering, and smart systems are the keys to effortless home comfort. Prepare your supplies, commit to the process, and enjoy a calmer, more simplified space. | **Author Profile:** Koala is a leading online furniture brand creating better furniture experiences for modern homes across Australia, Japan, and the United States. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/3-proven-ways-to-simplify-home-comfort/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/3-proven-ways-to-simplify-home-comfort/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Home Decor Ideas for Single Mums [3 Easy Options]](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-decor-ideas-for-single-mums-3-easy-options/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Between toys on the floor and dinner in the oven, weekends can disappear in a flash when you’re the only adult in the room. The great news is that a quick, confidence-boosting makeover doesn’t have to drain your budget or your energy. These renter-friendly home decor ideas from Dundee Deco can be finished in a single afternoon. ## **1. Independent-Living Reality Check** Single-parent households are a significant part of modern family life. In 2022, [80% of one-parent family groups](https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2022/americas-families-and-living-arrangements.html) were maintained by a mother. With more women taking charge of their homes, [owning 58% of homes held by unmarried Americans](https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/06/12/single-women-own-more-homes-than-single-men-in-the-us-but-that-edge-is-narrowing/) in 2022, finding decor solutions that fit their unique constraints is more important than ever. Before you start your project, run through this quick checklist. | Constraint | What It Means for Décor | |---|---| | **Minimal Tools** | Scissors, craft knife, level, plastic smoother. No power tools needed. | | **Landlord-Friendly** | Zero nails or permanent adhesives. | | **Kid-Proofing** | Wipe-clean finishes and low-VOC materials. | | **Time** | One Saturday afternoon per wall, or less. | **Measure First:** Calculate the height × width of each wall, subtract windows and doors, then add 10% for trim errors. ## **2. Fast Décor Fix #1 – Peel-and-Stick Wallpaper** ### **What Is It?** This product is a removable and reusable vinyl that comes with a pre-applied adhesive, much like a giant sticker for your wall. It eliminates the need for glue buckets and avoids strong fumes, making it a landlord-friendly option. Numerous online demos can show you how to install it in minutes. ### **Pros & Cons Snapshot** | Pros | Cons | |---|---| | Instant pattern & colour | Not always breathable; can trap moisture | | Removes cleanly from most eggshell paints | May stretch if tugged | | Budget-friendly rolls | Seam alignment takes patience | ### **Dundee Deco Match-Up** While generic rolls work well for simple accent stripes, Dundee Deco’s tiles cover more area and feature an embossed texture that conceals minor wall imperfections. The wider tile panels also mean fewer seams to align, simplifying the installation process. This makes for a smoother, more professional-looking finish. | **Pro Tip:** To ensure a clean, damage-free removal, gently warm each corner with a hairdryer for five seconds before slowly peeling the wallpaper away at a 45-degree angle. This helps release the adhesive without a fuss. | |---| ## **3. Fast Décor Fix #2 – 3D Wall Panels** ![home decor ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-fotios-photos-1090638-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-fotios-photos-1090638 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **What Are They & Where They Shine** These are lightweight foam, PVC, or fibre tiles from Dundee Deco that add depth to a room with designs like faux brick, waves, or geometric cubes. They are ideal for creating a feature wall behind a sofa or as a temporary backdrop for a home office. This makes them a versatile choice for dynamic living spaces. ### **Pros & Cons Snapshot** | Pros | Cons | |---|---| | Dramatic texture in minutes | Slight learning curve on seam filling | | Paint-ready surfaces | Thicker panels protrude; watch for toddler head-bonks | | Sound-dampening bonus | Slightly pricier than flat wallpaper | ### **Dundee Deco Match-Up** The panel locks together with hidden seams, and its matte PVC surface resists marks. The high-density materials used across [Dundee Deco’s textured wall paneling](https://dundeedeco.com/product-category/wall-panels/) range offer a durable solution that stands up to family life far better than softer foam alternatives. | **Key Insight:** Beyond visual texture, 3D wall panels offer a practical sound-dampening effect. This makes them an excellent choice for creating a quieter home office or reducing noise transfer in shared living spaces. | |---| ## **4. Fast Décor Fix #3 – Self-Adhesive Backsplash Tiles** ### **Kitchen Wow in an Hour** Made from PVC, these “tiles” effectively mimic ceramic without the hassle of grout. The application process is simple: just peel, stick, and trim around sockets with a pair of scissors. This makes for a quick and impressive [kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/ "kitchen") upgrade. ### **Pros & Cons Snapshot** | Pros | Cons | |---|---| | Steam- & splash-resistant | Not suitable for direct-heat zones | | No grout = no scrubbing | Gloss surfaces show fingerprints | | Trim with scissors | Limited to small formats (4″x4″, 12″x12″) | | **Important:** For kitchen safety, never install self-adhesive tiles in direct-heat zones. Always maintain at least a 2-inch gap from hob burners or protect the wall with a tempered-glass splash guard. | |---| ## **5. All-In-One Comparison Table** | Criteria | Peel-&-Stick Wallpaper | 3D Wall Panels | Backsplash Tiles | |---|---|---|---| | Install Time\* | 60 min | 40–45 min | 45–60 min | | Kid-Safe? | ✔️ Low-VOC | ✔️ Wipe-clean | ✔️ Splash-proof | | DIY Difficulty | ⭐⭐ | ⭐⭐ | ⭐ | *\*Per 30 sq ft area; times based on one person.* | **Key Insight:** The small price premium for Dundee Deco products often translates to significant gains in durability and safety, making it a smart long-term investment for a busy family home where wear and tear is common. | |---| ## **7. Frequently Asked Questions** ### **Will this damage rental paint?** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-kamo11235-667838-1156x800.jpg "Pexels-kamo11235-667838 - Beanstalk Mums") Most peel-and-stick products use low-tack adhesives designed for safe removal. Test a small patch on an inconspicuous area for 24 hours first. Gently warming the material with a hairdryer can help ensure a clean removal. ### **How do I hide panel seams?** For wallpaper, overlap edges slightly and then use a seam roller to press them flat. For 3D panels, you can fill any small gaps with paintable caulk for a seamless finish before painting. ### **Can I paint over Dundee Deco panels later?** Yes, the PVC panels are designed to be paintable. Lightly sand any glossy surfaces, apply a quality latex primer, and then you can use your preferred interior paint to match your decor. ### **What are the best cleaning tips for these walls?** For PVC surfaces, alcohol-free baby wipes are effective for daily cleaning. For tougher marks like crayon, apply a paste of baking soda and water, let it sit for a minute, and then gently wipe it away. ## **The Path Forward** If you’re on a tight budget, start with peel-and-stick wallpaper for an instant splash of colour. If you need a professional-looking backdrop for video calls, 3D wall panels add texture without mess. For a kitchen refresh that can handle daily messes, self-adhesive backsplash tiles are the clear winner. Each option offers a simple way to reclaim your space and make your home feel more like your own. A small change can make a huge difference in creating a sanctuary for you and your family. Happy decorating! | **Author Profile:** Dundee Deco is the leading manufacturer and online retailer of decorative wall panels, wallpaper borders, and ceiling tiles for homeowners and businesses seeking affordable DIY home transformation solutions. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-decor-ideas-for-single-mums-3-easy-options/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-decor-ideas-for-single-mums-3-easy-options/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [3 Essential Baby Health Tips for Monitoring at Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-essential-baby-health-tips-for-monitoring-at-home/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Global perinatal mortality has dropped steadily, yet millions of stillbirths still occur each year, with [stillbirth affecting 1 in 175 pregnancies in the United States](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38976790/). Many of these are potentially avoidable with timely fetal surveillance and practical baby health tips that support early intervention. As front-line obstetric clinicians, we stand at the intersection of technology and assessment, translating signals into actionable care plans. The three tips below distil the latest guidance into a quick-read refresher for immediate application. ## **Tip #1 – Maternal Fetal Kick Counts: Low-Tech, High-Value Surveillance** ### **What Are Kick Counts and Why Do They Matter?** Fetal movement reflects intact neuromuscular function and adequate oxygenation. Hypoxemia typically leads to a reduction in gross body movement long before heart-rate changes appear. Daily maternal assessment of fetal activity can reduce stillbirth by facilitating earlier evaluation. ### **When to Start and How to Instruct Patients** Clinicians should advise patients to begin routine counting at 28 weeks’ gestation. This can be as early as 24 weeks for high-risk [pregnancies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/ "pregnancies") involving diabetes or growth-restricted fetuses. Two common approaches include: - **“Count-to-10” Method:** Record the time needed to feel ten movements. A normal result is two hours or less. - **Fixed-Time Method:** Count movements for a 60-minute period. A normal result is ten or more kicks. Providing an illustrated handout that shows comfortable positions, such as left lateral recumbent or semi-Fowler’s, can significantly improve compliance. ### **Normal vs. Concerning Patterns** While most healthy fetuses exceed ten movements in under an hour, concerning patterns that require further evaluation include: - Fewer than 10 movements in a two-hour period. - A noticeable downward trend from the patient’s personalised baseline. - Complete cessation of movement for 12 hours. ### **Troubleshooting Low Counts** Advise patients to eat or drink something cold, change their position, and try counting again for one hour. If the criteria for normal movement are still not met, they should proceed to a same-day non-stress test (NST) or biophysical profile. | **Pro Tip:** Instruct patients with low kick counts to re-count after eating/drinking something cold. If still low, they must proceed immediately for a same-day NST or biophysical profile. | |---| ## **Tip #2 – Electronic / External Fetal Monitoring (EFM, NST, CTG)** By 1997, electronic fetal monitoring was utilised in [83.3% of live births in the United States](https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr47/nvs47_18.pdf), making it a ubiquitous tool in obstetrics. While a Cochrane review found [continuous EFM did not significantly reduce perinatal death](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25811127/), it did show a significant decrease in neonatal seizures, highlighting its role in specific clinical scenarios. ### **Interpretation Fundamentals for Front-Line Staff** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-daniel-reche-718241-1556673-1200x761.jpg "Pexels-daniel-reche-718241-1556673 - Beanstalk Mums") - **Baseline Rate:** Normal is 110–160 bpm. Rates below 110 bpm signify bradycardia, while rates above 160 bpm indicate tachycardia. - **Variability:** Moderate variability (6–25 bpm) is reassuring. Absent or marked variability warrants immediate evaluation. - **Accelerations:** An increase of ≥15 bpm above baseline for ≥15 seconds after 32 weeks is considered reactive and reassuring. - **Decelerations:** Early decelerations are often benign. Variable decelerations may indicate cord compression, and late decelerations suggest potential utero-placental insufficiency. ### **Equipment Integrity: Why Cables & Sensors Matter** Signal artefact is a leading cause of unnecessary intra-partum intervention. Degraded Doppler crystals or frayed conductors can mimic late decelerations or reduce variability, leading to misinterpretation. One audit found 12% of unscheduled cesarean deliveries for “non-reassuring FHR” were linked to hardware faults. Using reliable, compatible equipment is crucial; for instance, ensuring your unit has the right [fetal monitor cables from Cables and Sensors](https://www.cablesandsensors.com/collections/fetal) can prevent delays during emergent traces. ### **Escalation Protocols for Abnormal Tracings** For abnormal tracings, immediate intrauterine resuscitation is key, including maternal repositioning and administering oxygen. Reassess within 10 minutes; persistent late or variable decelerations after these interventions mandate an immediate obstetric review and preparation for potential operative delivery. | **Important:** Don’t underestimate signal issues. One study found 12% of emergency C-sections for “non-reassuring FHR” were linked to hardware faults, not actual fetal distress. Regularly audit and replace worn transducer cables. | |---| ## **Tip #3 – Routine Prenatal Check-ups & Risk-Based Surveillance** ### **Standard Visit Schedule & Core Assessments** The standard prenatal visit schedule is every four weeks until 28 weeks, then every two weeks until 36 weeks, and weekly thereafter. Each visit should include recording vitals, weight gain, fundal height, fetal heart tones, and urinalysis. An anatomy ultrasound is standard at 18–22 weeks, with others performed as indicated. ### **Identifying High-Risk Scenarios** Conditions like preeclampsia, uncontrolled gestational diabetes, or multiple gestations warrant more frequent assessments. Typical escalations include twice-weekly NSTs plus an amniotic fluid index. This may also include growth scans every 3–4 weeks and early anesthesiology consults. ### **Communicating the “Why” to Patients** Patient engagement improves when they understand the rationale behind surveillance. For example, explain that checking their blood pressure and the baby’s size can signal stress on the placenta. Detecting changes early gives clinicians options to protect the baby’s oxygen supply. ### **Integrating Lifestyle Counselling for Optimal Monitoring Accuracy** Encourage moderate exercise to improve baseline variability and adequate iron intake to reduce fetal tachycardia from anemia. Also, promote smoking cessation to minimise chronic hypoxia. Documenting this counselling is essential for meeting quality-of-care metrics. | **Key Insight:** Patient engagement is key to effective surveillance. Explaining the “why” behind each check, such as how blood pressure relates to placental health, transforms patient compliance into an active partnership. | |---| ## **Putting It All Together: Baby Health Tips for Monitoring at Home** Consistent fetal well-being surveillance rests on three pillars: maternal kick counts, accurate electronic monitoring, and risk-calibrated prenatal visits. Each pillar succeeds only when clinicians marry evidence-based interpretation with clear patient education and reliable hardware. Auditing your unit’s sensor cables and updating patient handouts are small changes that can translate into healthier newborns and calmer delivery suites. | **Author Profile:** Cables and Sensors is the leading manufacturer and distributor of compatible patient monitor accessories for healthcare facilities worldwide. | |---| ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-essential-baby-health-tips-for-monitoring-at-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-essential-baby-health-tips-for-monitoring-at-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [3 Proven Wellness Hacks Single Mums Need](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/3-proven-wellness-hacks-single-mums-need/) **Published:** December 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Nearly one-quarter of households in the UK and the US are headed by a single parent, with mums leading over 80% of them. This unique role often comes with significant pressure, as research shows [single mothers are more than three times as likely](https://www.brookings.edu/articles/single-mothers-experience-high-rates-of-psychological-distress-the-safety-net-can-help/) to experience severe psychological distress compared to married mothers. When you’re juggling everything, carving out time for yourself can feel impossible. The good news is that you don’t need hours for self-care. Micro-wellness, the art of stacking tiny, evidence-backed habits, can lift your mood and resilience. Below are three low-cost tactics that fit into an already packed day. ## **Why Micro-Wellness Works** Think of wellness like compound interest, where small, consistent deposits pay big dividends over time. This principle can apply to many areas, from mental health practices to simplifying daily logistics. Even small upgrades, such as finding a signature scent like [Sensa Beauty’s sensual JPG Le Beau for a confidence boost](https://sensabeauty.com/products/jpg-le-beau-edt) or streamlining personal care with items like a [suction-free menstrual disc from nixit](https://nixit.com/products/nixit-menstrual-disc), reduce daily decision fatigue. Brief, regular stress-relief practices are more effective at dampening the “fight-or-flight” hormone, cortisol, than occasional marathon self-care days. It is consistency, not perfection, that remodels the nervous system for calm and resilience. | **Key Insight:** Consistency, not perfection, remodels your nervous system for calm. Brief, regular stress-relief practices are more effective at building long-term resilience than occasional, marathon self-care days. | |---| ## **Tip #1: Ten Minutes of Outside Time** Recent studies found that spending just 10 minutes in a green space can lower cortisol levels by up to 16%. Fresh air also boosts vitamin D, which is essential for supporting immunity and regulating mood. You don’t need a grand expedition; small moments count. Here’s how to fit it in: - Take a brisk sunrise stroller loop around the block before the day’s emails begin. - Do a few simple stretches in the backyard while the kids are busy with chalk masterpieces. - Turn your lunch break into a park circuit—you can even use a park bench for step-ups or tricep dips. To get started, simply rate your mood in your phone notes before and after each brief outing. After seven days, compare your average and notice the difference. ## **Tip #2: Snack-Size Exercise Bursts** The World Health Organisation notes that 150 minutes of moderate movement per week can cut the risk of anxiety by 30%. That sounds like a lot, but when broken into five-minute “exercise snacks,” it becomes manageable. These quick bursts of activity get your heart rate up and release mood-boosting endorphins. Try these time-smart options: - Stream two five-minute HIIT videos on your phone while the pasta boils for dinner. - Incorporate “laundry lunges” into your chores by doing a lunge after every folded item. - Do 15 “stroller squats” while waiting for the traffic light to turn green on your walk. A simple resistance band costs less than £10/$10 and can easily slip into any tote for a workout on the go. As a safety note, always consult your GP if you’re new to [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-tips-single-mums/ "exercise"), especially postpartum. | **Important:** Always consult your GP if you’re new to exercise, especially during the postpartum period. Your safety is the top priority when starting any new routine. | |---| ## **Tip #3: A Three-Minute Journaling Reset** ![Peaceful evening journaling session with tea under a warm desk lamp. | wellness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Peaceful-evening-journaling-session-with-tea-under-warm-desk-lamp-1200x800.jpg "Peaceful-evening-journaling-session-with-tea-under-warm-desk-lamp - Beanstalk Mums") Expressive writing has been shown to lower depressive symptoms in as little as four weeks. The act of writing helps to declutter your mental to-do list and allows you to capture the small wins of the day. It’s a powerful tool for processing thoughts and emotions. A simple way to start: - Set a three-minute timer on your phone after the kids are in bed. - First, “dump” any lingering worries or tasks by jotting them down or using a voice recorder. - Next, practice gratitude by noting one thing that went right today, no matter how small it seems. You can use apps like Google Keep for a paper-free experience or a simple notebook for a more tactile comfort. Try journaling while your children have their wind-down reading time, as it’s a great way to model reflective habits. | **Pro Tip:** Try journaling while your children have their wind-down reading time. It’s an excellent way to model reflective habits and claim a moment of calm for yourself. | |---| ## **Bonus: Build Your Support Network** Feeling isolated is a common challenge, underscored by data showing that [approximately 12% of single mothers](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12910340/) have suffered a recent depressive episode. Reaching out to support networks can make a world of difference. Organisations like Gingerbread in the UK, along with countless dedicated Facebook groups, offer a community of peers who understand. Local council playgroups are also often welcoming to single mums. Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. | **Key Insight:** Reaching out for support isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a powerful act of strength and a vital tool for building resilience on your journey. | |---| ## **Your Next Steps** Remember that small, steady habits always beat rare grand gestures when it comes to long-term well-being. Choose just one tip from this list and schedule it into your calendar for tonight. Every micro-moment of self-care you claim strengthens not just you, but the family you lead with so much love. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/3-proven-wellness-hacks-single-mums-need/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/3-proven-wellness-hacks-single-mums-need/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Health, Self Care --- ### [How to Keep Your Home Cool Without Blowing Your Energy Bill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-your-home-cool-without-blowing-your-energy-bill/) **Published:** January 31, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Keeping your home cool during hot weather can be a challenge, especially when you’re trying to avoid skyrocketing energy bills. While [air conditioning](https://www.fujitsugeneral.com.au/ "air conditioning") is a common solution, relying on it too much can lead to high costs and energy consumption. Fortunately, there are several cost-effective and energy-efficient ways to maintain a comfortable indoor temperature without overusing your cooling system. By combining smart habits with strategic home improvements, you can keep your home cool and comfortable while staying within budget. Here are some practical tips to help you beat the heat without draining your wallet. ## **How to Keep Your Home Cool Without Blowing Your Energy Bill** ## **Optimise Natural Ventilation** One of the easiest ways to cool your home without using excessive energy is by taking advantage of natural ventilation. Proper airflow can significantly reduce indoor temperatures and improve air circulation. ### **Tips for maximising ventilation:** - Open windows and doors during the cooler parts of the day, such as early morning and late evening, to allow fresh air in. - Create cross-ventilation by opening windows on opposite sides of your home to encourage airflow. - Use exhaust fans in the kitchen and bathroom to remove hot air and reduce humidity. - By strategically using ventilation, you can reduce your reliance on artificial cooling methods. ## **Block Out the Sun** [Sunlight streaming](https://www.quora.com/Is-sunlight-through-a-window-direct-sunlight) through windows can quickly heat up your home, making it harder to maintain a cool temperature. Blocking the sun’s rays effectively can make a big difference in keeping your home comfortable. ### **Ways to reduce heat from the sun:** - Install blackout curtains or blinds to prevent direct sunlight from entering your home. - Use reflective window films to reduce heat gain while maintaining natural light. - Add external shadings such as awnings, shutters, or work with [pergola builders](https://justquality.com.au/sa/pergolas-adelaide/) to protect windows and doors from direct sunlight. By limiting heat exposure, you can reduce the need for additional cooling. ## **Use Ceiling and Portable Fans** Fans are an energy-efficient alternative to air conditioning and can help circulate cool air throughout your home. They use significantly less electricity and can make a room feel more comfortable without drastically lowering the temperature. ### **Best practices for using fans:** - Set ceiling fans to rotate counterclockwise in summer to create a cooling breeze. - Place portable fans near windows to pull in cooler air during the evening. - Use box fans in doorways to distribute cool air from one room to another. Fans help create airflow and enhance the effectiveness of other cooling methods. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/29deaea8-aab9-448d-9d1b-7c62521054da-1066x800.jpg "29deaea8-aab9-448d-9d1b-7c62521054da - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Improve Home Insulation** Proper insulation isn’t just for keeping your home warm in winter—it also helps keep the heat out during the summer months. A well-insulated home retains cool air longer and prevents heat from seeping inside. ### **Insulation upgrades to consider:** - Add insulation to your attic to prevent heat from rising and accumulating in living spaces. - Seal gaps and cracks around windows and doors to prevent warm air from entering. - Insulate walls with energy-efficient materials to reduce heat transfer. Investing in insulation improvements can provide long-term savings on cooling costs. ## **Switch to Energy-Efficient Appliances** Household appliances can contribute to indoor heat, making your home warmer than necessary. [Upgrading to energy-efficient models](https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/impact-using-energy-efficient-appliances-your-homes-energy-miranda/) can reduce heat emissions and lower electricity consumption. ### **Appliance changes to make:** - Use LED light bulbs, which generate less heat compared to traditional incandescent bulbs. - Avoid using ovens and stoves during the hottest part of the day; opt for microwaves or outdoor grilling instead. - Unplug devices that are not in use, as electronics can generate heat even when turned off. Being mindful of appliance usage can help maintain a cooler indoor environment. ## **Incorporate Cooling-Friendly Landscaping** The right landscaping choices can contribute to a cooler home by providing natural shade and reducing heat absorption. Strategically placed trees and plants can block heat and keep your surroundings cooler. ### **Landscaping ideas for cooling:** - Plant shade trees around your home to block sunlight from hitting walls and windows. Consulting an experienced [arborist in Melbourne](https://www.travstrees.com.au/) can help you choose and maintain shade trees that not only cool your home naturally but also enhance your garden’s aesthetic. - Use heat-resistant ground cover materials to reduce heat reflection around your property. - Install pergolas or trellises with climbing plants to create natural shade over patios and windows. - Place [large aesthetic outdoor planters from The Blissful Place](https://theblissfulplace.com/collections/large-outdoor-planters) strategically around sun-exposed areas to provide additional shade. Landscaping adjustments can provide a long-term, low-maintenance cooling solution. Keeping your home cool without driving up your energy bill is achievable with smart strategies and mindful choices. By implementing natural cooling techniques, improving insulation, and using energy-efficient appliances, you can enjoy a comfortable indoor environment without high costs. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-your-home-cool-without-blowing-your-energy-bill/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-your-home-cool-without-blowing-your-energy-bill/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Home Energy Efficiency: Smart Ways to Save Money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-energy-efficiency/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As mums, we’re always finding clever ways to stretch our budget and care for our families, and home energy efficiency is one of the most rewarding ways to do both. This guide includes practical, family-friendly ways to boost your home’s energy efficiency. You’ll find simple changes and bigger upgrades — without the stress or a huge price tag. ## 1. Upgrade Your Lighting For Better Home Energy Efficiency Lighting might seem like a small thing, but it’s one of the easiest home energy efficiency upgrades you can make. Switching to LED bulbs allows you to use [75% less energy than you normally do](https://www.energy.gov.au/households/lighting). Plus, it lasts 5-10 times longer than traditional bulbs. LED lights also produce less heat than old-style bulbs, which waste energy as heat. This helps keep your home cooler and reduces strain on air conditioning — perfect for warm Aussie summers. If you can, make the most of natural light too. Open blinds during the day and switch off unnecessary lights to reduce home energy use even further. Every little change helps! If you’re looking for simpler ways to stay cool while saving power, read our guide on[ how to keep your home cool without blowing your energy bill](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-your-home-cool-without-blowing-your-energy-bill/). ## 2. Keep Cosy (or Cool) with Better Home Insulation Good insulation is like giving your home a comfy jumper; it helps you stay warm in winter and cool in summer. It’s one of the best home insulation tips for creating year-round comfort while cutting down on energy costs. Upgrading your insulation can help improve indoor air quality by reducing the entry of external pollutants, allergens, and outdoor noise. You can also enjoy other important benefits, such as: - Providing better soundproofing - Reducing the penetration of dust, pollen, and other airborne particles - Promoting a healthier and more comfortable living space. Proper insulation includes weatherstripping, investing in energy-efficient windows, and installing layered blinds. ![home energy efficiency](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Home-energy-efficiency.jpg "Home energy efficiency - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Seal Air Leaks and Stop Energy from Sneaking Away If your home feels drafty, chances are your energy (and money) is escaping too. Sealing air leaks is a simple, eco-friendly home improvement that makes a noticeable difference. Check around windows, doors, and vents for gaps — a bit of caulking or foam sealing can go a long way. By sealing leaks, your heating and cooling systems won’t have to work overtime, which means you’ll reduce your home energy use and your carbon footprint. It’s a small job that delivers big results for both your comfort and the planet. ## 4. Upgrade to Energy-Efficient Appliances We all rely on our appliances daily — from washing endless school uniforms to keeping the fridge stocked. So, choosing energy-efficient appliances can help lower your bills while giving you peace of mind that your home is running smarter. When buying new appliances, look for the Energy Star label. These products use less power but deliver the same or better performance than standard ones. They also meet strict energy standards and use smart controls, improved insulation, and energy-saving modes. Think of it as a smart investment that helps your family and the planet. ## 5. Get Smart with a Thermostat Installing a smart thermostat is one of the most practical home energy efficiency solutions available today. These clever devices automatically adjust your heating and cooling based on your schedule, keeping your home comfy while avoiding wasted energy. You can also enjoy other benefits, such as: - Getting insights and reports on your energy usage - Track and analyse your energy use patterns. - Remotely controlled and programmed via mobile apps, so you can adjust your home’s temperature settings even when you’re away. Smart thermostats prevent unnecessary energy use and reduce wasteful heating and cooling cycles. ## 6. Home Energy Efficiency with Solar Power If you’re ready for a bigger step, solar panels are a great eco-friendly upgrade, too. They cut your reliance on the grid and protect you from rising power prices, especially when paired with a [residential solar battery from Sunrun](https://www.sunrun.com/solar-battery-storage) that stores excess energy for use when the sun isn’t shining. Plus, solar power creates clean, renewable energy that benefits your home and the planet Some states even offer rebates or incentives for solar installation — making it more affordable than you might think. Once installed, your panels quietly get to work, lowering your bills and your carbon footprint day after day. Lastly, by upgrading to solar panels, you actively contribute to reducing greenhouse gas emissions and combating climate change. It’s a powerful investment in a healthier, brighter future for your children, and a world they can grow into with pride. Thinking about taking the next step? We’ve put together a helpful guide on[ the benefits of solar energy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-benefits-of-solar-energy/) to make your decision easier and help you feel confident in your choice. ![home energy efficiency](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Home-energy-efficiency-2.jpg "Home energy efficiency 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Home Energy Efficiency: Creating A Brighter Future For Your Family Home energy efficiency isn’t just about technology — it’s about creating a home that works *for you*. From simple lighting swaps to solar energy, every upgrade helps you save money, live more comfortably, and make a positive difference for the planet. Remember, there’s no need to do everything at once. Start small, build momentum, and celebrate each step forward. Because every bit of energy saved is more money in your pocket — and another step toward a brighter, more sustainable future for you and your family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-energy-efficiency/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-energy-efficiency/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** household, home energy efficiency --- ### [15 Cheap home improvements on a single mum budget](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-home-improvements-on-a-single-mum-budget/) **Published:** December 6, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When you’re raising kids on your own, keeping the house looking fresh can slip way down the priority list. But cheap home improvements don’t have to be stressful, complicated or expensive. With a few clever tweaks, you can make meaningful changes that fit a single mum budget and still make your home feel warm, cosy and uniquely yours. Whether you’re [teaching yourself some simple DIY](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/ "teaching yourself some simple DIY") tricks or finding smart ways to cut costs on bigger home improvement projects, there are plenty of budget-friendly ideas that make a difference. Below are 15 cheap home improvements to brighten up your space without breaking the bank. ***Further reading: [7 Tips to transform your bedroom from cold to cosy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-key-elements-to-transform-your-bedroom/)***. ## Cheap home improvements on a single mum budget ### Cheap home improvements to brighten up the entrance The front door is the first thing you and your guests see when they walk in, so it’s the perfect place to start. A fresh coat of paint, new house numbers, or a leafy plant on each side of the door can instantly upgrade the vibe—no big spend required. ### Cheap home improvements with new curtains or blinds [New blinds or curtains](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/blinds-and-shutters/) make for easy, inexpensive home improvement. They are the perfect way to freshen up any room. For enhanced privacy and protection, [security shutters in Melbourne](https://www.titanshutters.com.au/roller-shutters/security-shutters/) are an excellent choice, offering both style and functionality while securing your home from external threats. Go online and check out the sales. Measure up and get some quotes. Unlined curtains will be cheaper, and plain fabric is usually cheaper than patterned. If your windows are a standard size, buy ready-made to save heaps. You can also go for some blockout blinds, as the limited light can help you to make your home more cosy. Remember, it’s [subtle styling that works wonders](https://www.mydirectblinds.com.au/choose/blockout-blinds/). ### Add a stair runner ![cheap home improvements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-curtis-adams-1694007-12700466-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-curtis-adams-1694007-12700466 - Beanstalk Mums") Old carpeted stairs tend to show their age—especially with little feet running up and down all day. After stripping old carpet, sand and paint the timber underneath, then finish with a hard-wearing stair runner to protect against everyday chaos. ### Change your handles and knobs It’s amazing how many small details can transform a room. Swapping out cabinet handles, drawer pulls, or knobs is a cheap home improvement that takes minutes but looks like a mini-renovation. ### Update your storage systems If your home feels cluttered, upgrading your storage can be a low-cost game changer. Sliding doors, modular shelving, open wooden shelves, woven baskets and simple organisers all help maximise space—especially in small rooms common in single-mum households. ### Add some greenery Indoor plants add colour, purify the air and bring life into your space. Just make sure to choose plants suited to your home’s light and climate. Always check whether plants are safe for kids and pets. ### Cheap home improvements for your bedroom: new bed covers If DIY isn’t your thing, this is the easiest, cheapest home improvement ever. Fresh bedding can completely transform your bedroom without lifting a hammer. ![cheap home improvements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-pixabay-164595-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-164595 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Change your lamp shades Replacing your lamp shade is an effortless way to revamp the overall look of a room. A different colour, shape, or size can diffuse light, reduce glare, and direct light in a brand-new way without completely replacing your lamps. When buying new lamp shades, get the right fitting size. You can, of course, find [electrical connectors](https://www.racklink.com.au/connectors/ "electrical connectors") or an adapter if your fitting is wrong, but that’s an additional expense. If you’re artistic, you can defo DIY your lamp shades by sewing them yourself or spray-painting over the existing fabric to change the colour. Just resist overdoing it with the spray paint so the fabric remains opaque. ## More cheap home improvement ideas that won’t break the bank ### Paint your cabinets (a classic cheap home improvement) A fresh coat of paint is one of the most affordable and cheap home improvements. Painting can also sufficiently hide your child’s “artworks” (a.k.a. scribbles), which inevitably happen at some point. Before you paint your cabinets, unscrew pulls, knobs, and hinges, peel off stickers or wallpaper, sand if necessary, remove dust, and prime. You may also have to use putty to even out rough surfaces. If you have a bigger budget, get an all-in-one paint, so you don’t need to prime. Also, use a roller instead of a brush for a more even coat. ### Put up some new pictures A family photograph, your child’s art, preserved foliage, or a print you found on Etsy can breathe life into your wall or bookshelf. Pictures can also add personality to your home, making it truly yours. You have a couple of options when hanging pictures on a wall, each with pros and cons. The more secure option is drilling, but you’d have to cover the holes if you want to move your pictures. On the other hand, you can use adhesive, which is no-drill and almost invisible, but it can peel off the paint one day and is not as secure. For many, it can be hard to know where to start when choosing art. As a starting point, head to [Printivart ](https://www.printivart.com.au/)and scroll through their collection to see what you like and what will work with your home decor and style. ### Cheap home improvements with new light switch plates ![cheap home improvements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-pixabay-271624-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-271624 - Beanstalk Mums") Who knew something as basic as a light switch plate could refresh a room and be a winner for cheap home improvements? Yet, whether we realise it or not, we always touch light switch plates. So naturally, they will be dirty and grimy through the years. Did you know that you can buy decorative light switch covers now? Yes! Today, they come in many designs: cute, girly, cars, punk, and even handmade, artsy patterns. Now, even your light switch plate can be a topic of discussion. Additionally, you can make your child select their favourite design for their bedroom. It can help them remember to switch the lights off when not in use. There are heaps of budget-friendly options available online to fit their personality. ### Change your splashback Give your kitchen a makeover by simply replacing the splashback. Splash backs protect your kitchen walls from grime and condensation. They give any sad kitchen that fresh touch-up and make cleaning more manageable. For mums on a tight budget, tiles, acrylic, and stainless steel are the most economical options. Lightweight, thin, and with self-adhesive backings, acrylic splashbacks are easiest to install by yourself. On the other end of the price spectrum, glass is more expensive but, depending on quality, can last indefinitely. So, consider this if you’re concerned about replacing your splashback in the future. ### Cheap home improvements by changing your room layout Whether you’ve already outgrown your current floor plan or need to repurpose a room for additional living space, the cheapest way to flip your home is to move your furniture around. After all, you already have everything you need. You require only your inner architect and, of course, muscles to push/pull things from one area to another. When changing the layout of your room, keep mobility and safety in mind. Consider using a [compact loveseat from Home Reserve](https://www.homereserve.com/products/loveseat) instead of a full-sized sofa to create more open space, especially in smaller rooms or apartments. Keep breakable stuff away from where a running toddler can knock it down. Also, ensure nobody has to cross an entire obstacle course to reach another area, especially entrances and exits. ### Tidy your garden ![cheap home improvements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Pexels-karola-g-4750270-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-4750270 - Beanstalk Mums") Don’t forget the garden when it comes to cheap home improvements. Beautiful, lush flora can have a calming and refreshing effect on you, your kids, and anyone who sees it. But it’s easy to overlook your garden, especially for a single mum who works outside the home for most of the daylight. When planning your garden, choose more low-maintenance plants. For example, lavender, thyme, and agave are beautiful yet undemanding plants you might want to consider. If you don’t have time to maintain your garden, there are a couple of things you can do more regularly. As you pass, remove dry flowers and leaves along the way. Leave dried leaves on the soil under your plants to become organic fertiliser. You can also participate in “No Mow” campaigns for the bees to thrive, so you have every excuse to keep your garden wild! ### Paint a room or just one wall Nothing says “change” more than new paint. Whether it’s a fresh coat of the existing hue or a completely new colour, repainting a room gives that much-needed facelift. Not keen on repainting the whole room? Many homeowners and decorators paint an accent wall instead, which becomes the room’s focal point. The general rule for an accent wall is that it can be a few shades lighter or darker than the rest of the walls, as long as it’s a complementary colour. If you can’t find a suitable wall, ceilings are often underutilised. Finally, consider getting non-toxic, water-based paint if you have a baby or a little kid at home. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-home-improvements-on-a-single-mum-budget/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/cheap-home-improvements-on-a-single-mum-budget/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** home improvement, diy, decorating --- ### [Ultimate Guide to the Best Solo Date Ideas: Self-Love Edition](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/solo-date-ideas/) **Published:** January 22, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Ever felt like you’re running on empty, trying to balance everything as a single mum? We’re always ready to put our kids’ needs first (and there’s nothing wrong with that). But it’s time to put yourself first, even just for a day. The most important relationship in your life is with yourself. Treat yourself to these great solo date ideas to boost your mood and recharge your batteries. This article is packed with tips and fun me-time ideas designed to inspire self-care and self-love, and maybe even discover a new favourite pastime. As someone who’s embraced the joys of self-dates, I can promise you, that this is the ultimate starter guide for spending time alone for some self-lovin’. Let’s get right to it! ## **Fun Solo Date Ideas for Self-Care** ## **1. DIY Spa Day** When was the last time you truly pampered yourself? If you’ve never had a “me-time” date before, a DIY spa day is the perfect first date idea. Light a candle, slap on a face mask, and queue your favourite tunes. There is something so satisfying about getting your self-care session done at home, and it doesn’t need to cost a fortune—bonus points for a soak in a warm bubble bath. Oh, just the thought of it Self-care isn’t only about relaxation, but it’s also about making time to unwind and show yourself some love. Whether it’s painting your nails or giving yourself a foot scrub, this date is all about you. ## **2. Spend the Day at a Museum or Gallery** There’s something magical about wandering through a museum or art gallery at your own pace. Take your time to explore the exhibits, and let yourself get inspired by the stories and creativity around you. You’ll feel like you have travelled to another world. The best part is, you don’t need to rely on someone else’s schedule. ## **3. Cook a Fancy Meal for One** Who says you need someone else to enjoy fine dining? Plan your menu, grab some fresh ingredients, and cook a delicious meal for one. This is the ultimate way to practice self-love and discover if you are passionate about cooking. If you are feeling adventurous, why not try a baking or cooking class? It’s a fun way to learn new things and might even become your new pastime. ## **4. Get a New Hobby** Speaking of hobbies, why not dive into something new? From painting to pottery or even photography, trying a new pastime is an excellent way to practice personal growth and creativity. There’s something about learning a new skill that sparks confidence and gives you a little extra pep in your step. I know that at first, it may seem like an additional task to your never-ending checklist. However, it does not need to take up a huge chunk of your schedule. Just a few minutes daily will do. Once you get your groove with this solo-date activity, you will realise how it brings a lot of joy to your routine. ![solo date ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/B4a443f5-167d-4845-96dc-6a9d4927fdef-1-1067x800.jpg "B4a443f5-167d-4845-96dc-6a9d4927fdef - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Treat Yourself to a Movie Night** Plan a solo date night at home with all your favourite snacks and a movie you have been dying to watch. Build a cosy fort in your living room, grab a blanket, and press play. Sometimes it’s the simplest things that make you feel recharged. This is also a great idea for when you want to disconnect and indulge in some alone time. ## **Free Solo Date Ideas (cont.)** ## **6. Go on a Hike** Ready for your solo adventure? Hiking is the perfect way to reconnect with nature and clear your mind. Pick a trail you have never explored and enjoy the peace of spending quality time with yourself. Whether it’s a short trek or an all-day trek, the confidence boost you will feel after tackling it will be unmatched. ## **7. Morning Stroll and Coffee Break** Sometimes it’s the simplest solo date ideas that bring the most joy. Picture this: a Saturday morning stroll through your local park followed by a steaming cup of coffee at a cosy café. Brewing [premium aromatic coffee from Bones Coffee Company](https://www.bonescoffee.com/) at home can also elevate your morning ritual into something truly special. It’s a great way to get to know yourself and start the day on a peaceful note. Taking in nature while sipping on your favourite drink might feel like you are in a rom-com, but guess what? You’re the star of this story! ![solo date ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/3fdc0c66-543c-4321-a7bd-049b4092c7a2-1066x800.jpg "3fdc0c66-543c-4321-a7bd-049b4092c7a2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **8. Try Yoga or Meditation** Yoga and meditation are fantastic ways to relax and practise self-care. Attend a local class or try a session at home. You can find plenty of mum-friendly practice videos online. Either way, this date is all about connecting with your body and mind. When I started doing yoga, I thought it was just a form of workout. But as time went by, I found out that it’s also a way to unwind and meditate. ***Further reading: [20 Simple ways to be more content single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/)*** ## **9. Bookstore Browsing and Reading Nook** If you are a book lover, spend a solo date browsing your favourite bookstore. Pick up a new title that excites you, then find a quiet spot to dive into it. There’s nothing like getting lost in a story while spending quality time with yourself. Bonus points if you treat yourself to a fancy bookmark or journal for added inspiration. ## **10. Take Yourself Out for Dinner** Yes, a table for one can be a delightful experience! Dress in your favourite outfit, choose a restaurant you’ve always wanted to try and indulge in a meal you love. Getting comfortable by yourself at a restaurant will make you feel like you are truly celebrating the most important relationship in your life—your relationship with yourself. ***Further reading: [Coping with lack of intimacy when you’re single.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/lack-of-intimacy-single/)*** ![solo date ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Feb97286-5e3b-4447-ac4f-afa672be7381-1066x800.jpg "Feb97286-5e3b-4447-ac4f-afa672be7381 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts: Solo Date Ideas** I’ll never forget my first “me-time” date. It was a lovely Saturday morning, and I decided to take a stroll by the Yarra River. I’d set aside the day just for me, something I rarely did as a single mum. With my favourite tunes playing, I wandered through the markets, bought a small bouquet (for myself!), got a 30-minute massage, and ended the day with a hot chocolate at home. It wasn’t extravagant, but it made me realise how much joy comes from showing yourself some love. Going on solo dates is a way to boost your confidence, recharge your energy, and nurture your personal growth. Remember the perfect solo date doesn’t have to be extravagant, as long as you get your dose of happiness and calm. So go ahead, and make time for a self-date right away. You’ll feel like you have unlocked the ultimate self-care starter pack. Before you know it, you are getting ready for your next solo date! ![Solo date | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Solo-date-ideas.png "Solo date ideas - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/solo-date-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/solo-date-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Dating **Tags:** dating, date, going out alone --- ### [24 Unique gift ideas for everyone on your list](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/cheap-life-changing-gifts-friends-family/) **Published:** April 4, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Tired of gift guides telling you about unique gift ideas only to end up with a list of generic presents? I’ve definitely struggled, spending hours searching for something that isn’t just another common item, but actually shows I’ve put some thought into it. Whether for a family member who has everything or a close friend who deserves something truly special, you want the gift to be memorable and personal. Your search is over! I only picked the best products for my list of extra-special gifts. It’s packed with thoughtful options for every personality, so you can finally find something that stands out and makes a real impact. Let’s explore the perfect pick that will show how much you care! ## **24 Unique Gift Ideas** ## **1. Top editor pick: Multi-Tasking Moisturiser** Let’s start our list with a skincare product! Because, let’s face it, we’re not getting any younger! So, we need to take care of our skin now more than ever. This sleep mask from Sephora is my personal favourite because it actually works! [![Multi-Tasking Moisturiser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Multi-tasking-moisturiser.webp "Multi-tasking moisturiser - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fphilosophy-hope-in-a-jar-day-smooth-glow-multi-tasking-moisturiser-60ml)Multi tasking moisturiser I found this at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fphilosophy-hope-in-a-jar-day-smooth-glow-multi-tasking-moisturiser-60ml) ## **2. For the Potterhead bestie: Harry Potter coaster book** Potterheads make some noise because here comes the ultimate coffee book fresh from Hogwarts! This book comes with five coasters representing each House. Drinking their cup of joe will never be the same! [![Harry Potter coaster book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1ff7d88e-67c0-4fc3-bc73-1b3df9e91b08.jpg "Harry Potter coaster book - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fharry-potter-hogwarts-coaster-book) I found this at: [Cool Things](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fharry-potter-hogwarts-coaster-book) ## **3. Perfect gift for anyone: Cotton Square Pillow** This might be one of the safest picks on my list. You can give it to anyone, whatever their personality, likes, and dislikes are! Just cover it with a personalised pillowcase of their face, their pet, or the thing they love the most, and voila! An instant customised present. I’m sure they will truly appreciate the effort you’ve put into it. Plus, this home decor piece is both thoughtful and practical! [![Cotton Square Pillow](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Living-european-cotton-square-pillow.jpg "Living european cotton square pillow - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/RGvZ42)Living european cotton square pillow I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/RGvZ42) ## **4. Ready-made meals subscription** Treat your friend to a week of less shopping, less food prep and less cooking with the wonderful gift of a meal kit box. Soulara offers great deals on first orders. Get this box of delights delivered to their doorstep, and you’ve just made your friend’s week ahead easier, cheaper and tastier. You may even get an invite to dinner. [![Ready-made meals subscription](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Ccde8166-378d-4048-b2d6-65e5061b7d9b.jpg "Ccde8166-378d-4048-b2d6-65e5061b7d9b - Beanstalk Mums")](https://soulara.pxf.io/jWza2a) I found this at: Soulara ## **5. 100 Movies Popcorn Bucket List** This will make a perfect gift for the person who’s always undecided on which flicks to watch. They’ll love the thrill of picking a popcorn kernel and finding out which movie they’ll be watching. [![100 Movies popcorn bucket list | unique gift ideas](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/47733/movie-popcorn-bucket-list-100-movies-12387592_00.jpg?v=1728972079&imgclass=dealpageimage)](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxqALJ) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxqALJ) ## **6. Most useful gift: Neck and back massager** A neck and back massager like this one from Kogan is a perfect present for a friend or family member who loves to relax. This device can be worn around the neck and provides much-needed relief from stress and tension, making it useful for anyone needing a little self-care. It comes with a heat therapy feature and a built-in timer for more efficient relaxation. [![Neck and back massager](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/9663e102-ba10-494b-afd2-684e971d820f.jpg "9663e102-ba10-494b-afd2-684e971d820f - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DyK7Xa) I found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DyK7Xa) ## **7. Best gadget pick: Portable printer** This mini printer is a cool gift for photography lovers. It’s small and portable and offers on-the-go photo printing via Bluetooth, so it’s perfect for capturing memories. Whether they’re at a party or travelling, this portable device is a cool and fun gift. [![Portable printer | unique gift ideas](https://assets.kogan.com/files/product/2023/BNDL_KHXMMIPOPHPR20/BNDL-KHXMMIPOPHPR40_Hero_2.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Qjy7mx) I found this at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Qjy7mx) ## **8. Perfect for ladies: Soy Candle** Candles are the best gift when you want to give her something that brings comfort when she’s winding down after an exhausting day or having a “me time” night. [![Large Soy Candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Large-soy-candle.jpg "Large soy candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxqALJ)Large soy candle Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/VxqALJ) ## **Unique gifts for the person who has everything (cont.)** ## **9. Digital picture frame** Surprise your loved one with a digital picture frame that’s perfect for displaying endless memories. This modern twist on a classic present makes it easy to keep their favourite moments in sight. [![Digital picture frame | unique gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/F7f9f755-f345-44e7-895d-095113e75acd.jpg "F7f9f755-f345-44e7-895d-095113e75acd - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/raQY6y) I found this at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/raQY6y) ## **10. The Barefoot Investor book** Who doesn’t want more money? If you have a friend who is stressed about their financial situation, why not give them gifts that’ll truly help them? The Barefoot Investor book is life-changing from the first chapter and a simple, understandable starting point for financial freedom. Or there are heaps of other brilliant finance books, including “The Millionaire Next Door” and “Your Money or Your Life.” Just think: Your gift may have a positive impact on your friend’s financial future. The next round is on them. [![The Barefoot Investor book](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/900/9780730397533/3309/the-barefoot-investor.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-barefoot-investor-classic-edition%2fscott-pape%2f9780730397533%2f) I found this at: [QBD](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-barefoot-investor-classic-edition%2fscott-pape%2f9780730397533%2f) ## **11. Best housewarming gift: Terrarium kit** A hanging terrarium is a great gift for plant lovers or anyone looking to spruce up their home ornament. It’s easy to maintain, and they can personalise it with their favourite plants. What I love most about this ornament is the 360-degree view! [![Terrarium kit | unique gift ideas](https://www.spotlightstores.com/medias/productHero-SPOTWF-BP80601311-clear.jpg?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3wxMjQyMXxpbWFnZS9qcGVnfGltYWdlcy9oNWEvaDI0LzE1OTIxNTMxOTQ0OTkwL3Byb2R1Y3RIZXJvX1NQT1RXRl9CUDgwNjAxMzExLWNsZWFyLmpwZ3xiNDcwNTgxNjRiOTRmYTAxMTg4MjRiN2U0Zjc3YmM0ODlhZDgzMTUxMjcyNzg3ODZmN2RiOWViYzIzN2IyMTg1)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fhome-decor%2fhome-decorating%2fvases%2fglass-vases%2fhanging-terrarium-iii%2fBP80601311-clear) I found this at: [Spotlight](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fhome-decor%2fhome-decorating%2fvases%2fglass-vases%2fhanging-terrarium-iii%2fBP80601311-clear) ***Further reading:** [Cool homeware gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/homeware-gift-ideas/)* ## **12. Aimex 8-Stage water filter dispenser** Next on my list is a useful gift for health-conscious individuals. A water filter pitcher is perfect for ensuring fresh, clean water at home. It’s both practical and a great way to show you care about their well-being. [![Aimex 8-Stage water filter dispenser](https://assets.kogan.com/images/ozismartaustrali/OSM-20LWITH3/1-a579dd148f-benchtop-water-purifier-dispenser-tap-water-filter-jug-alkaline-ceramic-charcoal.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=1200.0%2C800.0&dpr=1.0&enable=upscale&fit=bounds&height=800&quality=90&width=1200)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/qz4Ybj) I found this at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/qz4Ybj) ## **Best unique gifts (cont.)** ## **13. Impressionist notecard set** Perfect for a friend who loves to write, these Impressionist-themed notecards are an excellent gift for adding an artistic touch to letters and notes. This set contains notecards with art from famous artists such as Monet, Degas, Renoir and Van Gogh. [![Impressionist notecard set | unique gift ideas](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/44311/12pc-lantern-studios-impressionists-note-card-envelope-office-stationery-set-11791915_00.jpg?v=1722529676991&imgclass=dealpageimage)](https://bigw.sjv.io/LKbRa3) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/LKbRa3) ## **14. Gift box of bestsellers: Spa experience gift set** Give the person who seems to have everything with the gift of relaxation with a luxurious rejuvenating pamper hamper. Whether they use it for self-care Sundays or special occasions, this fabulous gift will surely surprise and delight. Complete with all the essentials for a pampering session at home, it’s the perfect present for anyone in need of some “me time.” [![Spa experience gift set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Arome-ambiance-spa-home-calm-de-stress-balance-set.webp "Arome ambiance spa home calm de-stress balance set - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PO3mjM)Arome ambiance spa home calm de stress balance set I found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/PO3mjM) ## **15. Cosy weighted blanket** With the hustle and bustle of today’s hectic world, we rarely come by things that actually provide comfort. A cosy blanket is a functional gift that’s perfect for helping your giftee relax. It mimics a comforting hug and is great for stress relief. [![Cosy weighted blanket](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Cosy-weighted-blanket.webp "Cosy weighted blanket - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FGiselle-Bedding-Giselle-Weighted-Blanket-Adult-9KG-Grey%2Fs%2FGj7rAZJrGUWvHIBT5sUeHQ%3Fssf%3Dfalse)Cosy weighted blanket I found this at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FGiselle-Bedding-Giselle-Weighted-Blanket-Adult-9KG-Grey%2Fs%2FGj7rAZJrGUWvHIBT5sUeHQ%3Fssf%3Dfalse) ## **16. Multi-functional cube calendar** Don’t you just love things that have multiple functions? This cube calendar works as an alarm clock, thermometer, and timer in one. It is a one-of-a-kind present idea for anyone who loves staying organised. [![Multi-functional cube calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/9ad9ad5c-d547-430c-8c4a-8e947fb8dc2d.jpg "9ad9ad5c-d547-430c-8c4a-8e947fb8dc2d - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Vxm7ra) I found this at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Vxm7ra) ## **17. Sleeping bag for outdoor lovers** If your giftee enjoys camping or outdoor adventures, a comfortable sleeping bag made from recycled materials is a thoughtful and practical choice. This gift keeps them warm during chilly nights under the stars, ensuring a comfortable and eco-friendly camping experience. [![Sleeping bag for outdoor lovers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Synthetic-sleeping-bag-800x800.jpg "Synthetic sleeping bag - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/gO1YzO)Synthetic sleeping bag I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/gO1YzO) ## **Unexpected gifts (cont.)** ## **18. Gag golf balls** Looking for a fun way to prank your golf-obsessed friend? This hilarious golf ball pack is the ultimate gift! It comes with 4 types of balls – the Exploder that poofs into a cloud of powder, the Jetstreamer that launches a trail of ribbon, the Phantom that turns into mist on impact, and the Unputtaball that jumps, baulks, skids and gyrates when putted. These are guaranteed to shake up a boring day on the green. [![Gag golf balls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Af8812f6-8ca8-4f1d-b25e-91a1da693927.jpg "Af8812f6-8ca8-4f1d-b25e-91a1da693927 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fawesome-foursome-golf-pack.html) I found this at: [Cool Things](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fawesome-foursome-golf-pack.html) ## **19. Virtual reality glasses** Ready to blow someone’s mind with the gift of virtual reality? The Virtual Reality Glasses will let them explore new worlds right from their couch! Compatible with most smartphones, these glasses work with tons of VR apps, offer adjustable lens focus for crystal-clear views, and even come with a handy microfiber cloth. They can chase bulls in Spain or swim with sharks in the comfort of their home! [![Virtual Reality Glasses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Virtual-reality-glasses.jpg "Virtual reality glasses - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/GKzRjn)Virtual reality glasses I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/GKzRjn) ## **20. For long-distance travellers: Insulated water bottle** For a friend who loves to travel, keep their drinks at the perfect temperature with this insulated bottle! Its double-wall vacuum insulation keeps beverages hot or cold for hours, while the magnetic cap stays out of the way when sipping. Leak-proof and lightweight, this bottle is a must-have for on-the-go hydration. Plus, it’s dishwasher-safe and free of BPA, BPS, and BPF. [![Double Wall Insulated Stainless Steel Water Bottle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Double-wall-insulated-stainless-steel-water-bottle-800x800.jpg "Double wall insulated stainless steel water bottle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/XmD2xG)Double wall insulated stainless steel water bottle I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/XmD2xG) ## **21. Personalised mug** This mug is perfect for gifting someone who loves to relive their favourite moments while sipping their morning brew! You can choose between a double-sided design with one or two of their favourite images, or a special message in the font of your choice, [![Personalised mug | unique gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1a6b97ca-5de0-4921-b32a-768493414f29.jpg "1a6b97ca-5de0-4921-b32a-768493414f29 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4ifsxOC) I found this at: [Not On The High Street](https://fave.co/4ifsxOC) ## **22. Top splurge pick: Trendy tote bag** A tote bag is a must-have accessory for ladies that’s both practical and stylish. This roomy bag will hold everything she needs, from her phone to her yoga mat. If you don’t know what colour she likes, choose a neutral shade to be sure! [![Trendy tote bag](https://images.urbndata.com/is/image/Anthropologie/67355149_260_b?$a15-pdp-detail-shot$&fit=constrain&fmt=webp&qlt=80&wid=640)](https://fave.co/4fOdNVf) Available at:[Anthropologie](https://fave.co/4fOdNVf) ## **23. Chocolate bouquet** Give the gift of delicious indulgence with this stunning chocolate bouquet! Packed with 30 creamy milk chocolate stars and 4 festive Christmas baubles, this treat is as beautiful as it is tasty. It comes in a glossy gold gift box, all wrapped up with a ribbon and a personalised card for that extra touch. Perfect for sharing (or not!), it’s the ultimate sweet surprise for any chocolate lover who deserves a little luxury this season! [![Chocolate bouquet | unique gift ideas](https://www.macarthurbaskets.com.au/assets/full/1101.jpg?20200714030510)](https://fave.co/3ZvsBCv) I found this at: [Macarthur baskets](https://fave.co/3ZvsBCv) ## **24. Chic tropical vase** Give their space a splash of tropical charm with the Ombre Home Palm Cove Vase I! This bottle-shaped stunner brings laid-back coastal vibes with its sleek design and soothing natural tones. I love how the playful handle gives it a little extra flair, so it’ll turn heads whether it’s filled with flowers or sitting solo. It’s simple but adds a beachy elegance to any tabletop, shelf, or mantel that needs a little extra charm! [![Chic tropical vase](https://www.spotlightstores.com/medias/productHero-SPOTWF-BP80631202-natural.jpg?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3wyMzk0MnxpbWFnZS9qcGVnfGltYWdlcy9oMTMvaGZiLzE2NjQ4NjAzMzM2NzM0L3Byb2R1Y3RIZXJvX1NQT1RXRl9CUDgwNjMxMjAyLW5hdHVyYWwuanBnfGQyZWY1NjY5OWU4NzcxZjkwZWQ0ZmMzOGQ3MjNhYWYxZDM4ZWQxZTg0M2E2NWUxZGFjZDQ5ZjhmNjZmNjQ1Zjg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fhome-decor%2fhome-decorating%2fvases%2fceramic-vases%2fombre-home-palm-cove-vase-i%2fBP80631202-natural) I found this at: [Spotli](https://www.spotlightstores.com/home-decor/home-decorating/vases/ceramic-vases/ombre-home-palm-cove-vase-i/BP80631202-natural)[ght ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fhome-decor%2fhome-decorating%2fvases%2fceramic-vases%2fombre-home-palm-cove-vase-i%2fBP80631202-natural) ## **Summary: Unique Gifts (Aside from Gift cards)** If you’re trying to find the best gift for a special someone, the key is knowing their heart. A little touch of personalisation also goes a long way! If you want to splurge a little on your present, you can, too! But never spend more than your budget. Because at the end of the day, what matters most is the thought and effort you put into the present. And I’m sure he or she will appreciate that. Whether they’re a techie, a home decor enthusiast, or someone who simply enjoys a relaxing night in, you’ll surely find something from my list above. From splurge-worthy massagers to eco-friendly water filters, these one-of-a-kind gifts will leave everyone on your list feeling appreciated and delighted. So, go ahead and give the gift that keeps on giving! If you need to get a present for the younger generation, these articles should help. [24 Gifts for teenage boys that have nothing to do with gaming](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/24-gifts-for-teenage-boys-that-have-nothing-to-with-gaming/) [24 Gifts for teenage girls that have nothing to do with iPhones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teenage-girls-which-have-nothing-to-do-with-iphones/) ![Cheap, unusual, life-changing gifts | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Cheap-life-changing-gifts.png "Cheap life changing gifts - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/cheap-life-changing-gifts-friends-family/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/cheap-life-changing-gifts-friends-family/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping **Tags:** Presents, birthday, thank you, get well --- ### [10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/) **Published:** December 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Christmas gifts are one thing that adults and kids get most excited about. Whether you are celebrating your child’s first Christmas, looking for a new Christmas tradition, or simply want to give your child something special, this Christmas gifts for kids list is sure to delight. Kids never seem to grow out of these personalised presents. My teenage daughters still get such pleasure from unpacking the decorations with their names on them every year. I have no doubt they will be passed through the generations … and that, in turn, makes me smile. Personalised gifts seem to stand the test of time. They are extra special as they are made “just for you” – even toys from the toddler years would have a special place in their memory capsule. And no one loves “just for you” gifts as much as our kids! So, what might your child enjoy this Christmas and for many to come? ## Personalised presents: how to choose the best gifts for Christmas Picking the ultimate personalised presents for Christmas can be a delightful challenge in any stage of parenting, especially when considering the diverse interests of kids who love different activities. To guide your shopping for babes who can barely walk, take a look at popular sensory toys that stimulate imagination and fine motor skills, such as blocks and shapes. For toddlers, baby toys like musical soft animals or dolls in vibrant pink can be both adorable and interactive. For older kids, consider popular toys that encourage creativity, such as a blanket for building forts or a wheel for their active play. One thing you must make sure is the toys are made of safe materials. If you’re shopping for teens or tweens, think about experiences that will make lasting memories. A trip to the beach or a bucket list adventure can be just as meaningful as any physical gift. Look for items that are not only fun but also educational, such as interactive books or games that challenge their hand-eye coordination. You can even gift them their own coffee kit or a handful of Starbucks gift cheques. Ultimately, the name of the game is to balance fun with learning, ensuring there’s something for kids of all ages to enjoy. Here, we’ve put together many different personalised Christmas gifts you can get online. Get some ideas from our list of beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids to keep even when they get bigger. (We get a commission when you buy through our links.) ## 10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gift ideas for kids to keep forever ## 1. Pillowcase If your child is too excited to sleep on Christmas Eve, try luring them into bed with this cute pillow case. It’s too special to use for one night only. We reckon it’s a nice touch for the whole of December and makes a festive change from the norm. As they grow, they will appreciate practical presents like this. [![Pillow case/Christmas gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Personalised-pillow-case-1200x764.jpg "Personalised-pillow-case - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Make-Memories-Pillowcase-Personalized/dp/B08KHSWGDG/?th=1)Personalised pillow caseAvailable at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Make-Memories-Pillowcase-Personalized/dp/B08KHSWGDG/?th=1) ## 2. Serving tray Getting it right for Santa and his reindeer when they finally arrive at your place is super important. Help your child get organised with this lovingly crafted Santa Treat Tray. He can set up cookies and milk for Santa, and a carrot for reindeer, plus a sweet note with your child’s name. You can even make your little ones get creative by painting on it. [![Serving tray](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Serving-tray-1121x800.jpg "Serving-tray - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Personalized-Charcuterie-Wedding-Anniversary-Christmas/dp/B0CJG2J2N1/)Serving trayAvailable at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Personalized-Charcuterie-Wedding-Anniversary-Christmas/dp/B0CJG2J2N1/) ## 3. Baby bodysuit Tiny tots can rock Christmas in fashion with a cute personalised bodysuit. Admittedly, they won’t be able to wear it next year but it’s perfect for a younger sibling or for them to check out each Christmas and wonder how they were ever that tiny. Certainly something for mum to go all gooey over every Christmas. Select from many colours and designs from their digital kit. [![Baby bodysuit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Baby-bodysuit-618x800.jpg "Baby-bodysuit - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Custom-Onesie%C2%A9-Bodysuit-Personalized-Onesie/dp/B09M836DPF/)Baby bodysuit Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Custom-Onesie%C2%A9-Bodysuit-Personalized-Onesie/dp/B09M836DPF/) ## 4. Christmas mug Give your child a magical Christmas with a personalised mug. As far as personalised Christmas gifts for kids go, this one is a winner and guaranteed to be cherished for years, or at least until it breaks. [![Christmas Mug](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Christmas-mug-1-846x800.jpg "Christmas mug - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Make-Memories-Personalized-Characters/dp/B09JL81L9X/)Christmas mug Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Make-Memories-Personalized-Characters/dp/B09JL81L9X/) ## 5. Christmas jigsaw puzzle This personalised jigsaw puzzle is one of the best toys you give your kids. It is a fun activity for the whole family on Christmas morning. The puzzle pieces are big enough for little hands. Just think, it might keep them quiet and calm for a small part of the day … well that’s the hope. [![Christmas jigsaw puzzle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Personalised-jigsaw-puzzle-824x800.jpg "Personalised-jigsaw-puzzle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Puzzles-ATOOZ-Personalized-Halloween-Festival/dp/B08WXCTQ5W/)Personalised jigsaw puzzle Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Puzzles-ATOOZ-Personalized-Halloween-Festival/dp/B08WXCTQ5W/) ## Personalised Christmas gifts for kids (cont.) ## 6. First Christmas dinner bib Our list of personalised Christmas gifts for kids wouldn’t be complete without something for the little ones. This bib celebrates baby’s first Christmas with the fam, whilst having the added benefit of keeping their clothes clean. [![Christmas Baby Cotton Bibs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Christmas-baby-cotton-bibs.jpg "Christmas baby cotton bibs - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Christmas-Drooling-Feeding-Buttons-Absorbable/dp/B0B5YRKHJ7/?th=1)Christmas baby cotton bibs Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Christmas-Drooling-Feeding-Buttons-Absorbable/dp/B0B5YRKHJ7/?th=1) ## 7. Sibling tshirts If you love matching outfits for Christmas, these sibling tshirts from Bright Star Kids are right on the money. The shirt can be personalised with their name and favourite colour. We love this particular cheeky design. You can also get a parent version to match, so you can easily find each other in the crowd. Sometimes, stores will also carry customisable dress, so if you want something more dressy for your daughter, go for it! [![Sibling tshirts](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/859866fc24c3a3dd9db01042d1b02e4b3504829a4584a9bf6e1cc26e6d621387?ts=1729383721)](https://www.amazon.com/Brother-T-Shirts-Siblings-Personalized-Matching/dp/B0B6LYT39R/)Available at: [Amazon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64098?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.brightstarkids.com.au%2fkids-tshirt.html) ## 8. Santa’s sack Your kids will love this gorgeous Santa sack that can hold loads of Christmas presents. Made from high-quality thick fabric, it will stand the test of time as perfect for older kids, and adults too. Pick a bag that’s big enough to hold stuff they love like balls and plush toys. [![Deluxe Personalised Santa Sacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Deluxe-personalised-santa-sacks-800x800.jpg "Deluxe personalised santa sacks - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOnjbx)Deluxe personalised santa sacks Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOnjbx) ## 9. Santa stop here sign It wouldn’t be Christmas without the Santa Stop Here sign and this one is extra special because it’s personalised … ensuring absolutely no confusion when the big man stops by on Christmas Eve. There are heaps of cool designs to cool from. [![Santa stop here sign](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Santa-please-stop-here-559x800.jpg "Santa please stop here - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/GiftsForYouNow-Santa-Please-Personalized-Magnetic/dp/B07D6VF8PC/)Santa please stop here Available at: [Amazon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64098?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.brightstarkids.com.au%2fsanta-stop-here-sign.html) ## 10. Christmas star ornament Our last personalised Christmas gift for kids makes the most wonderful time of the year even better. The Christmas ornament that goes on top of the tree has your kid’s picture. Made from solid pine wood with a beautiful smooth finish, your kid will treasures this for years to come. [![Personalized Photo Christmas Ornament](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Personalized-photo-christmas-ornament-800x800.jpg "Personalized photo christmas ornament - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.amazon.com/Bemaystar-Personalized-Christmas-Double-Sided-Decorations/dp/B0CJDZGTCZ/)Personalized photo christmas ornamentAvailable at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Bemaystar-Personalized-Christmas-Double-Sided-Decorations/dp/B0CJDZGTCZ/) ## Final thoughts on personalised Christmas gifts for kids In conclusion, the magic of Christmas is beautifully encapsulated in the timeless charm of personalised gifts for kids. These cherished treasures, adorned with names and sentiments, hold a special place in our hearts. From the excitement of a child’s first Christmas to the wonder that spans generations, personalised presents endure as cherished mementos of the holiday season. As we embark on another holiday season, let us not underestimate the significance of personalised Christmas gifts. They bring a sense of awe, togetherness, and anticipation to the festivities. These handpicked treasures will stand the test of time, passing down the joy of Christmas to future generations, and in doing so, they remind us that the true magic of the season lies in the love we share and the memories we create. So, embrace the spirit of giving, and consider the gift of personalised enchantment for your child this Christmas and for many to come. Check out our Christmas stocking articles if you are struggling with ideas for those: Christmas [Stocking Fillers for Girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/stocking-fillers-for-girls/) & [for Boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-stocking-fillers-for-boys/) 🙂 ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** festive, gifts for kids, Xmas, Christmas traditions, first christmas --- ### [Best Advent Calendars For Kids (Bluey, LEGO, And more!)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/best-advent-calendars-for-kids/) **Published:** November 4, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The festive season is right around the corner, and what better way to build our kiddos’ excitement than with an Advent calendar? Growing up, I remember my mum’s DIY Advent calendar. It was simple, but the joy my siblings and I felt while opening each little door was priceless. The tiny chocolates and little trinkets all felt like treasure! In this guide, I’m uncovering the best Advent calendars for kids. Whether your little ones are LEGO fans, love a bit of holiday chocolate, or can’t get enough of their favourite characters like Marvel superheroes or Elsa from Frozen, this list has got you covered. ## **Best Advent Calendars for Kids** ## **1. LEGO Advent calendar** The LEGO City and LEGO Harry Potter Advent calendar is a classic that adds a touch of imaginative play to the holidays. Kids who love LEGO will be thrilled to open 24 doors, revealing holiday-themed mini-builds, figurines, and accessories! This advent calendar comes packed with charm and LEGO bricks that kids can reuse to create holiday scenes beyond Christmas. [![LEGO Harry Potter TM Advent Calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Lego-harry-potter-tm-advent-calendar.jpg "Lego harry potter tm advent calendar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/bOAjOM)Lego harry potter tm advent calendar Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/bOAjOM) ## **2. Hey Clay Advent calendar (Better than Play-Doh)** My next pick, the Hey Clay Advent calendar, is perfect for toddlers and younger kids. This advent calendar includes 24 non-sticky, nontoxic, and stain-free clay for a safer playtime! Behind the first door is a shaping tool they can use to create clay sculptures while waiting for Christmas day. [![Hey Clay Advent Calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Hey-clay-advent-calendar.webp "Hey clay advent calendar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/yqd4qG)Hey clay advent calendar Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/yqd4qG) ## **3. Minecraft Advent calendar** This calendar is ideal for kids obsessed with the world of blocks and creepers. Featuring 24 surprise toys, including mini-figures and pixelated accessories, it’s a must-have for any Minecraft fan. Behind each of the 24 doors, your kids will uncover bite-size builds, activity books, hilarious jokes, and fun challenges that will make the 24 days before Christmas extra special. [![Minecraft Advent calendar | Advent calendar for kids](https://www.booktopia.com.au/covers/big/9780008620110/7615/minecraft-advent-calendar-book-collection.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/minecraft-advent-calendar-book-collection-mojang-ab/book/9780008620110.html) Available at: [Booktopia](https://www.booktopia.com.au/minecraft-advent-calendar-book-collection-mojang-ab/book/9780008620110.html) ## **4. Lindt chocolate Advent calendar** The Lindt chocolate Advent calendar is a timeless favourite by kids and adults. It comes with mini chocolate-filled teddy figures in a variety of milk, hazelnut and double milk chocolate flavours. Just looking at the adorable assortment of teddy chocolates makes my mouth water! [![Lindt chocolate Advent calendar](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hc6/hdd/32944070230046.jpg)](http://bigw.sjv.io/RGPELy) Available at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/RGPELy) ## **5. Bluey Advent calendar** My list of Advent calendars for kids will not be complete without Bluey! It’s packed with mini colouring and storybooks that will bring a smile to fans of all ages. Each activity book is the perfect way for little kids to enjoy the festive season with their favourite pup. [![Bluey Advent calendar | Advent calendar for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/01a9ab46-ff55-4625-87c2-4764168b8d4c-1067x800.jpg "01a9ab46-ff55-4625-87c2-4764168b8d4c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/MA6RD2) Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/MA6RD2 "Kogan.com") ## **Christmas countdown calendars for kids (cont.)** ## **6. Star Wars Funko Pop Advent calendar** For kids (and big kids!) who adore collecting, the Funko Pop Advent calendar features 24 favourite Star Wars characters. Each day, kids can reveal a new Pocket Pop! Vinyl that they can add to their collection. [![Star Wars Funko Pop Advent calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/3aba804c-6cf5-4393-a0df-a08a68ac00ed.jpg "3aba804c-6cf5-4393-a0df-a08a68ac00ed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/BnZRKW) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/BnZRKW) ## **7. Disney Princess Advent calendar** The Disney Princess advent calendar is a dream come true for kids who adore fairy tales and magical worlds. Each day reveals a new princess-inspired colouring book. It also comes with one extra-large book that they can read during Christmas Eve. [![Disney Princess Advent calendar for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/0ff595d5-61b6-4967-87ab-b92f86166126.jpg "0ff595d5-61b6-4967-87ab-b92f86166126 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/2axVja) Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/2axVja) ## **8. Fidget Toys Advent calendar** For kids who enjoy sensory play, the fidget toys advent calendar offers 24 mornings of satisfying squishy, poppable fun! Behind each door is a new toy that’s perfect for keeping little hands busy throughout the season. These stress-relief squishies will surely entertain and keep kids excited for Christmas. [![Fidget Toys Advent calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/4bdd62a3-2476-45e0-86f9-a2b96814a534.jpg "4bdd62a3-2476-45e0-86f9-a2b96814a534 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://bigw.sjv.io/09Qz2L) Available at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/09Qz2L) ## **9. Usborne Storybook Advent calendar** If your kid loves to read, this is the perfect pre-Christmas gift! Each day reveals a beautifully illustrated story, bringing tales of princes, princesses, elves, and more to life. From favourites like The 12 Days of Christmas to the timeless Nativity, every story is a holiday delight. By Christmas Eve, kids will have a mini library of 24 enchanting books they’ll cherish for years. [![Usborne Storybook Advent calendar for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Adf50a7b-3d15-4c0b-bdd4-d88dffea3293-1067x800.jpg "Adf50a7b-3d15-4c0b-bdd4-d88dffea3293 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/e1VkrX) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/e1VkrX) ## **10. Fisher-Price Little People Advent calendar** The Fisher-Price Little People Advent calendar is a wonderful option for toddlers and young kids. The adorable action figures and holiday-themed accessories guarantee a toddler-friendly Advent experience. [![Fisher-Price Little People Advent calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/2a9c4ba9-0c7b-4c4f-9d5d-6ccdc53949b1.jpg "2a9c4ba9-0c7b-4c4f-9d5d-6ccdc53949b1 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://bigw.sjv.io/Z6bEqW) Available at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/Z6bEqW) ## **11. Pokémon Advent calendar** My second last pick is a fantastic treat for Pokémon fans, young and old. They’ll get 24 action figures, including favourites like Pikachu and Charmander. This calendar turns each day into an exciting hunt for rare surprises leading up to Christmas Day. Gotta catch ’em all this season! [![Pokemon Christmas Advent Calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Pokemon-christmas-advent-calendar.webp "Pokemon christmas advent calendar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qzbOAN)Pokemon christmas advent calendar Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/qzbOAN) ## **12. Micromallows plush Advent calendar** Make your kiddo’s December squishy and bright with the Micromallows 24-day Holiday Advent calendar! It contains 24 of the tiniest, snuggliest Squishmallows yet, including exclusive buddies like Humphrey the Hamster in a Santa Hat and Lilah the Koala with a cosy scarf! At just 2.5 inches, these micro plushes are bursting with holiday cheer and are perfect for kiddie collectors. [![Micromallows Holiday Advent Calendar 24 Pieces](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Micromallows-holiday-advent-calendar-24-pieces.jpg "Micromallows holiday advent calendar 24 pieces - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOBJz3)Micromallows holiday advent calendar 24 pieces Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOBJz3) ## **Conclusion: 24 days of Christmas calendars** Advent calendar sets come with special gemstones that they get to enjoy during Christmas and beyond. Whether your child is into LEGO Star Wars, chocolates, plush toys, or science experiments, there’s a calendar to make the countdown to Christmas extra special. Last year, I decided to place my kids’s Advent calendar under the Christmas tree. Every morning, they would race to the tree to find out what’s in store for that day! It definitely made the holidays more festive and magical! Happy holidays! ***Further reading: [Adult advent calendars we love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-adult-advent-calendars/#google_vignette)*** ![advent calendars between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Advent-calendars-between-two-homes-2.png "Advent calendars between two homes 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/best-advent-calendars-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/best-advent-calendars-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, festive, co-parenting at Christmas --- ### [15 Christmas gift ideas for a newish boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/) **Published:** October 10, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you in the midst of new love? It’s an amazing feeling. But with Christmas coming, you might be wondering ‘what’s the go here?’. Should you get him a present, or will that look too serious? Will he get you one? Suddenly that amazing feeling sinks as you seriously don’t want to stuff this up. Our view: It’s Christmas so get him something! Keep it easy and fun … and a little bit cheeky, whilst showing him that you care. Here are some gifts ideas for a newish boyfriend. ## Gift ideas for a newish boyfriend ## 1. Congrats On Being My Boyfriend mug When it comes to gift ideas for boyfriends, a simple mug with a funny, heartfelt message is always a winner. This one from Etsy is on point and great for couples who met online. [![Novelty Mug Congrats On Being My Boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Novelty-mug-congrats-on-being-my-boyfriend-800x800.jpg "Novelty mug congrats on being my boyfriend - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/APJnJo)Novelty mug congrats on being my boyfriend We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/APJnJo) ## 2. How to live with huge penis book It’s a tough life for men with a giant package. Even if your guy is an average Joe, he’ll love this self-help parody book filled with hilarious advice, affirmations and quotes for the well-endowed. [![How to Live with a Huge Penis book](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41aTjQc11vL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LG4VY) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LG4VY) ## 3. Pornburger cookbook What’s better than a burger cookbook? Burgers and innuendos! This one has 80 yummy recipes, drool-worthy photos and spicy descriptions of every burger imaginable. [![Pornburger Cookbook | gift ideas for boyfriend](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/brumby-sunstate-pornburger-hot-buns-juicy-beefcakes-cookbook-yellow-octopus-30801355530_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555168610)](https://www.qbd.com.au/pornburger-hot-buns-and-juicy-beefcakes/mathew-ramsey/9781743367438/) We found this at: [QBD Books](https://www.qbd.com.au/pornburger-hot-buns-and-juicy-beefcakes/mathew-ramsey/9781743367438/) ## 4. Nodding balloon dashboard bottlehead toy This nodding balloon dashboard is perfect for men who want to keep it cool while traveling on wheels. [![Car Dashboard Decor Nodding Balloon](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Car-dashboard-decor-nodding-balloon.webp "Car dashboard decor nodding balloon - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/LKbObM)Car dashboard decor nodding balloonWe found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/LKbObM) ## 5. Custom BBQ brandishing iron Meat lovers absolutely need this custom BBQ iron to brand those mouthwatering steaks. Comes with 52 interchangeable letters to create a personalised message. ![Custom BBQ Branding Iron | gift ideas for boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Davis-waddell-maverick-custom-bbq-branding-iron-set-800x800.jpg "Davis waddell maverick custom bbq branding iron set - Beanstalk Mums")Davis waddell maverick custom bbq branding iron set We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOB9BL) ## Gift ideas for your boyfriend (cont.) ## 6. 30 Nights of hot sex kinky calendar Struggling for a saucy inspiration on a night in? Lovehoney has a 30-night hot sex kinky calendar for a wide range of flirtatious activities for both him and her in the bedroom **—** and beyond. [![30 Nights of Hot Sex Kinky Calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/30-nights-of-hot-sex-kinky-calendar.avif "30 nights of hot sex kinky calendar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2flubes-essentials%2fsexy-gifts-games%2fgifts%2fp%2flovehoney-oh-30-nights-of-hot-sex-kinky-calendar%2f65303.html)30 nights of hot sex kinky calendar We found this at: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2flubes-essentials%2fsexy-gifts-games%2fgifts%2fp%2flovehoney-oh-30-nights-of-hot-sex-kinky-calendar%2f65303.html) ## 7. DIY beer brewing kit Brewing your own beer has never been easier. This DIY kit has everything your boyfriend needs (including brewing equipment) to craft 23 liters of amazing beer. [![Coopers DIY Beer Brew Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Coopers-diy-beer-brew-kit.jpg "Coopers diy beer brew kit - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/x9dxyA)Coopers diy beer brew kit We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/x9dxyA) ## 8. Wooden bottle caddy Home-brewed craft beer deserves better than a cardboard carrying box. This timber caddy with a bottle opener is just perfect all those romantic picnics he is planning to take you on. [![Wooden Bottle Caddy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Wooden-bottle-caddy-800x800.jpg "Wooden bottle caddy - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/jeoQEn)Wooden bottle caddy We found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/jeoQEn) ## 9. The Element of Humour Mug When you’ve ran out of clever gift ideas for your boyfriend, this mug is a good backup. It’s a cute and heartfelt way to show your appreciation without being too serious. [![The Element of Humour Mug](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Humor-mug-800x800.jpg "Humor mug - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coolthings.com.au%2Fthe-element-of-humour-mug)Humor mug We found this at: [Coolthings Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.coolthings.com.au%2Fthe-element-of-humour-mug) ## Different gift ideas for your boyfriend (cont.) ## 10. Thanks for all the orgasms key ring This totally appropriate inappropriate gift will give him a chuckle. It’s a simple key ring will make him chuckle and puff his chest out every time he sees it, as well as remind him of you. [![Thanks for All the Orgasms Key Ring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Thanks-for-all-the-orgasms-key-ring.webp "Thanks for all the orgasms key ring - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/yqdjDD)Thanks for all the orgasms key ring We found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/yqdjDD) ## 11. Dress up as Mrs. Christmas for him Give him a Christmas gift that he won’t forget … dress up as Mrs. Christmas in this racy bikini that leaves little to the imagination. Go show him what naughty really is. [![Dress up as Mrs. Christmas for him | gift ideas for boyfriend](https://media.lovehoneyassets.com/i/lovehoney/82470_a45830_red_regular_000?$primary$&h=1260&w=945&fmt=jpeg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsexy-lingerie%2fsexy-costumes%2ffantasy-roleplay-costumes%2fp%2flovehoney-santa-honey-red-longline-bra-set%2fa45830g82469.html) We found this at: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d17076) ## 12. Face butt towel Make him laugh with the funny yet functional towel. Great for the beach, gym or just around the house. [![ Face Butt Towel ](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61irkWlilYL._SL1000_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07DDYZR49/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07DDYZR49&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=8f7408f830398352c3dfe4e40707a0a1) We found this at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07DDYZR49/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07DDYZR49&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=8f7408f830398352c3dfe4e40707a0a1) [](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07DDYZR49/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07DDYZR49&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=8f7408f830398352c3dfe4e40707a0a1) ## 13. Soy candle Up for a sultry holiday night? This scented eco-friendly soy wax candle will tell exactly what you want from your man and your man wants from you…infused in five different aromatic scents. [![Soy candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Soy-candle-600x800.webp "Soy candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/1504944253/light-me-when-you-want-a-bj-valentines?ref=sold_out_ad-1&pro=1&plkey=56a7619e43d5207d782e145bd4af69179afb0b00%3a1504944253&cfclick=407513bc65e348d78433700db5fa4da8&source=aw&zanpid=10781_1696433837_5aa80c6cdfc38c72ab982163eee5a7bd&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=affiliate_window&utm_campaign=au_buyer&utm_content=348679&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=348679&awc=10781_1696433837_5aa80c6cdfc38c72ab982163eee5a7bd)Soy candle We found this at: [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/1504944253/light-me-when-you-want-a-bj-valentines?ref=sold_out_ad-1&pro=1&plkey=56a7619e43d5207d782e145bd4af69179afb0b00%3a1504944253&cfclick=407513bc65e348d78433700db5fa4da8&source=aw&zanpid=10781_1696433837_5aa80c6cdfc38c72ab982163eee5a7bd&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=affiliate_window&utm_campaign=au_buyer&utm_content=348679&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=348679&awc=10781_1696433837_5aa80c6cdfc38c72ab982163eee5a7bd) ## 14. Funny Boxer Panties Here’s another cheeky gift idea for the newish boyfriend … a boxer brief set to remind him that he’s your man. Made from cotton and vinyl, it’s printed with permanent ink that doesn’t peel or wash off. [![Men's Funny Boxer Panties](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Mens-funny-boxer-panties.webp "Mens funny boxer panties - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/559yRn)Mens funny boxer panties We found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/559yRn) ## 15. Lets F\*ck Dice Game Looking for an exciting way to spice up your sex life? These 5-sex dice excite players with fun naughty foreplay activities to try out…so no sexy time (with your man) will ever be a bore again. [![Lets F*ck Dice Game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Dice.jpeg "Dice - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2Fsex-toys%2Fadult-games%2Fadult-games%2Flets-fck-dice-game%2F94613%2F764%2F)Dice We found this at: [ATMS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2Fsex-toys%2Fadult-games%2Fadult-games%2Flets-fck-dice-game%2F94613%2F764%2F) ## Conclusion: Christmas gift ideas for a newish boyfriend Even if you don’t buy a gift for your new man this Christmas, we hope this article has given you some entertainment! It can be hard to know whether to buy someone a present if the relationship new. Our advice, if you are in two-minds is to make the purchase! Especially if you pick something light-hearted and fun. Anything that will bring a few extra laughs to the festive season has got to be worth it. Wishing you a wonderful Christmas with your newish boyfriend. We hope it is the first of many. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, Xmas --- ### [Gifts for Teenage Girls: Cool Ideas They’ll Actually Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teenage-girls/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ever feel like choosing gifts for teenage girls is a whole new level of mystery? When they were little, the options were endless — sparkles, dolls, craft kits, easy wins. But once the teenage years arrived, suddenly it’s all iPhones, group chats, and the occasional eye-roll when you ask what they want. The good news? Once you start looking, there are so many thoughtful, fun, and genuinely cool options out there — things they’ll love, use, and maybe even brag about to their friends. Here’s a hand-picked list of gifts for teenage girls that might just tempt them off their screens… even if only for a little while. ## Gifts for teenage girls ## Skincare Essentials Starter Kit First on our list of gifts for teenage girls: Pamper your teenager’s skin with the Skincare Essentials Starter Kit. Suited for all skin types and delivers visible results while respecting your skin’s natural balance. 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[![What Do You Meme Board Game](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61NhJNMa44L._SL1200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B01MRG7T0D/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B01MRG7T0D&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=c27de38ad3a0870694a5957aaf82892b) Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B01MRG7T0D/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B01MRG7T0D&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=c27de38ad3a0870694a5957aaf82892b) ## Slogan Hoodie For the young traveller who wants something practical, this graphic hoodie fits the bill. It’s stylish, retro and available in six colours. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Opera-Snapshot_2023-09-22_055504_au.shein_.com_.png.webp "Opera-Snapshot_2023-09-22_055504_au.shein_.com_.png - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/45WgCi2)Available at: [Shein](https://fave.co/45WgCi2) ## The Perks of Being a Wallflower Being a teenager is hard and sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone. This bestselling book is a totally awesome and relatable read. [![The Perks of Being a Wallflower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/the-perks-of-being-a-wallflower.jpg.webp "the-perks-of-being-a-wallflower.jpg - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/EK23Ke) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/EK23Ke) ***Further reading: [How to encourage your teen to read a book.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/encourage-teen-to-read-a-book/)*** ## Gifts for teenage girls (cont.) ## Self Tan Starter Kit Your teen can be a bronzed babe in the comfort of your home with a complete self-tan starter kit. Get a salon-quality tan with the St. Tropez kit that comes with a tinted mousse and velvet applicator. [![Self Tan Starter Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1-6-916x800.jpg "1-6 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fminetan-bronze-babe-personal-spray-tan-kit-black)Available at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fminetan-bronze-babe-personal-spray-tan-kit-black) ## Schylling Squish N Flow Lava Lamp A lava lamps adds 60s hippie chic and instant glam to any room. This lamp ups the chill factor on our list of gifts for teenage girls! [![Schylling Squish N Flow Lava Lamp](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/1-424f8a18bc-schylling_squish_n_flow_lava_lamp.webp "1-424f8a18bc-schylling_squish_n_flow_lava_lamp - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/556oxL)1 424f8a18bc schylling squish n flow lava lamp Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/556oxL) ## Mad Millie Coconut Yoghurt Kit Mad Millie Coconut Yoghurt Kit is perfect for the budding chef. Make yummy and healthy coconut yoghurt at home with this fun beginner kit that’s guaranteed to please the palate. [![Mad Millie Coconut Yoghurt Kit | gifts for teenage girls](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-mad-millie-coconut-yoghurt-kit-4_2000x2000.jpg?v=1589512135)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxE703) Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxE703) ## Mullaloo Round towel Relax on the beach and soak up the sun on a beach towel in floral print. We love the pretty pattern that stands out from the crowd. [![Mullaloo Round Towel](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dw7e3d9159/images/20327447/20327447-01-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fkaiami-mullaloo-round-towel%2F20327447-01.html) Available at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fkaiami-mullaloo-round-towel%2F20327447-01.html) ## White Howlite Key Charm Keyrings and key charms never looked this fancy. Your girl will absolutely adore the White howlite is linked to calmness, tranquility, and memory. 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Made with soy and packed with lavender buds, rose, vanilla, and lemon. Smells wonderful too! [![Anxiety Relief Handmade Scented Candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/1-8dfd83e26b-scented_candle_small_bowl_p.webp "1-8dfd83e26b-scented_candle_small_bowl_p - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Qjo7xA)1 8dfd83e26b scented candle small bowl p Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Qjo7xA) ## GHD Max Wide Plate Hair Straightener The GHD Max Wide Plate Hair Straightener should be in every teenager’s beauty arsenal. Easily tame frizz and create gorgeous Insta-worthy looks without harming your hair. 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[![The Teenager's Guide to Life, the Universe and Being Awesome | gifts for teenage girls](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51MklmyzrNL._SX324_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x9qyxx) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x9qyxx) ## Comfy pyjama set For when your teen wants to sleep in something more casual than tailored jammies, this comfy and cute pyjama set is just the thing. Also perfect for chilling on the couch. [![Comfy Pyjama Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-09-22_060428_au.shein_.com_-630x800.png "Opera-Snapshot_2023-09-22_060428_au.shein_.com_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3Pr4w9B) Available at: [Shein](https://fave.co/3Pr4w9B) ## Dream Catcher Kit A crafty gift for your crafty teen, this kit makes it super easy to create a magical dream catcher. If you can tie a knot (the label says), you can macrame! [![Dream Catcher Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/1-3fa953dcbe-s-l1600.webp "1-3fa953dcbe-s-l1600 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxE7jE)1 3fa953dcbe s l1600 Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxE7jE) ## Sukin Naturals Blemish Control Kit The Sukin Blemish kit has all you need to banish zits and keep teenage skin healthy and glowing. Includes face wash, spot treatment gel, toner and oil free moisturiser. [![Sukin Naturals Blemish Control Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/16455310278686-800x800.jpg "16455310278686 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/k0OjJ0) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/k0OjJ0) ## Ionmax Serene Ultrasonic Aroma Diffuser Give your teenager the gift of aromatherapy with Minihomy Smart WIFI Ultrasonic Aroma Essential Oil Diffuser. It also functions as a humidifier and nightlight. We love the minimalist while and wood exterior that looks great in any room. [![Ionmax Serene Ultrasonic Aroma Diffuser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Ionmax-serene-ultrasonic-aroma-diffuser.webp "Ionmax serene ultrasonic aroma diffuser - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.kogan.com/au/buy/elite-electronics-ionmax-serene-ultrasonic-aroma-diffuser-ion138-white-ion138/)Ionmax serene ultrasonic aroma diffuser Available at: [Kogan.com](https://www.kogan.com/au/buy/elite-electronics-ionmax-serene-ultrasonic-aroma-diffuser-ion138-white-ion138/) ## Windowsill Tin Herbs Mix For teens who love plants and everything to do with gardening, a kitchen herbs kit makes the perfect gift. This one comes with herb seeds, soil, tray, wooden labels, and instructions. [![Windowsill Tin Herbs Mix](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Boutique-garden-windowsill-tin-herbs-mix-800x800.jpg "Boutique garden windowsill tin herbs mix - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/mgMYGO)Boutique garden windowsill tin herbs mix Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/mgMYGO) ## Smart Watch A smartwatch with call and text, SOS, workout, heart rate, sleep tracker, fall detection and swim-proof feaures? Sounds like the perfect gift for teenage girls. [![Smart Watch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Samsung-galaxy-fit-3-800x800.jpg "Samsung galaxy fit 3 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/N9Z7v2)Samsung galaxy fit 3 Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/N9Z7v2) ## Ice Cream Maker Make healthy eating easier with a frozen dessert slash salad maker. It makes enough frozen treats for your teen and her friends. [![Ice Cream Maker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1-1263843e18-tsdm326_4-800x800.jpg "1-1263843e18-tsdm326_4 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dicksmith.com.au/da/buy/panatech-2-in-1-frozen-fruit-dessert-maker-electric-salad-maker-food-chopper-shredder-t-sdm326-wht/) Available at: [Dick Smith](https://www.dicksmith.com.au/da/buy/panatech-2-in-1-frozen-fruit-dessert-maker-electric-salad-maker-food-chopper-shredder-t-sdm326-wht/) ## Dachshund Dog Ring Holder Keep rings and trinkets organised in this adorable dachshund dog ring holder. This ring holder is easy to clean and makes for a perfect gift to any family, co-worker, or friend. [![Dachshund Dog Ring Holder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Umbra-dachsie-ring-holder.webp "Umbra dachsie ring holder - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Qjo7v3)Umbra dachsie ring holder Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Qjo7v3) ## Flamingo Pool Float A flamingo pool float is a summer must-have whether your teen is at a beach party or chilling by the pool. [![Flamingo Pool Float](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Giant-inflatable-pink-flamingo-pool-float.webp "Giant inflatable pink flamingo pool float - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/GKe74L)Giant inflatable pink flamingo pool float Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/GKe74L) ## Svetlana Bracelet Anything that empowers is a wonderful gift for a teenage girl. Give her the Svetlana Bracelet to celebrate her uniqueness. [![Svetlana Bracelet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Svetlana-bracelet.webp "Svetlana bracelet - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oeg7Zn)Svetlana braceletAvailable at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oeg7Zn) ## Final thoughts on gifts for teenage girls Finding the perfect gifts for teenage girls can be a challenging task, especially when they are seemingly glued to their iPhones. However, as our carefully curated list demonstrates, there are plenty of thoughtful and engaging options that can captivate their interests beyond the digital realm. From skincare and board games to literature that speaks to the teenage experience, we’ve presented a diverse range of gift ideas to keep them entertained, inspired, and grounded. Whether it’s pampering themselves with the Vanity Planet Facial Cleansing System, laughing with friends over the What Do You Meme? board game, or finding solace and understanding in “The Perks of Being a Wallflower,” there’s something here for every teenage girl. We’ve also included gifts that promote creativity, self-care, and empowerment, such as the Dream Catcher Kit, the Anxiety Relief Candle, and the ‘I am Enough’ morse code Bracelet, ensuring that your gift will leave a lasting impact. So, while iPhones may dominate their daily lives, these thoughtful alternatives offer a chance to disconnect from screens and connect with the joys of the physical world, making for memorable and meaningful gifts for teenage girls. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teenage-girls/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-for-teenage-girls/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, teenagers, gifts for teenagers, gifts for girls, birthday --- ### [Best Christmas gifts for mums to give themselves](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-mums-to-give-themselves/) **Published:** December 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Christmas is a hectic time for mums as we go above and beyond to make sure our children have the perfect day. But what about us? I definitely feel I deserve a reward come Christmas Day. No excuses needed! So, even if you have to buy yourself the present (which is often best as you get exactly what you want!) make sure you have something to open and enjoy when the big day arrives. Here are five reasons why us mums should buy ourselves gifts this Christmas, just in case you need convincing: - It’s important for our children to see us treating ourselves with love, kindness and generosity. They will model this behaviour and know they are worthy of treating themselves well, now and into adulthood. - If you buy a gift and ask your child to wrap it and give it to you on Christmas Day, they will experience the thrill of giving (not just receiving!). It will also make them realise that Christmas is not all about them getting gifts, but other people too. - It will give you something to look forward to on Christmas Day and we all need something to look forward to. - You have worked bloody hard to make this Christmas the best it can be for your family … that deserves a hell of a reward. If you’re stuck for ideas, see our list of Christmas gifts for mums to buy themselves. Can’t find anything that takes your fancy on this list? See:[ 75+ Brilliant gift ideas for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/75-brilliant-gift-ideas-for-mums/). ## Best Christmas gifts for mums ## **1. Personalised bracelet with gift box** What mum doesn’t love the sweet smell of new jewellery? I’ve been eyeing this personalised padlock bracelet by Hurley Burley for a while now. It looks classic and elegant, plus you can get your initials engraved on it! The fancy ribbon on the gift box is also a nice touch. 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[![Cosy Pyjamas | Christmas gifts for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000015578.jpg "Cosy pyjamas - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fpersonalised-body-woven-sleep-set%2F6338361-03.html) I found this at: [Cotton On](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fpersonalised-body-woven-sleep-set%2F6338361-03.html) ## **4. Herbal Tea with delicious fudge biscuits and popcorn brittle** Let’s elevate our gift guide, shall we?! My next pick is this relaxing Herbal Tea with delicious fudge biscuits and popcorn brittle! This is the perfect gift if you love brewing tea for your guests or yourself! This set comes with a Hug Me Mug and sweets that will satisfy your palate. Now that’s one way to spoil yourself! [![Herbal Tea Hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Herbal-tea-hamper.webp "Herbal tea hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Fherbal-tea-hamper%2F)Herbal tea hamper I found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgifts-for-her%2Fherbal-tea-hamper%2F) ## **5. Tote bag** When was the last time you bought a bag for yourself? Well, mumma, now’s the perfect time! I know you’ve been setting your wants aside for the kids, but you also deserve the perfect Christmas gift. This chic roomy tote will hold everything you need, from your phone to your yoga mat. [![Calvin Klein Women's Tote Bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Calvin-klein-womens-tote-bag.jpg "Calvin klein womens tote bag - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FCalvin-Klein-Calvin-Klein-Women-s-Tote-Bag-Black-White%2Fs%2FgSZjkCW77kiFEQgSxNErhw%3Fssf%3Dfalse)Calvin klein womens tote bag I found this at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FCalvin-Klein-Calvin-Klein-Women-s-Tote-Bag-Black-White%2Fs%2FgSZjkCW77kiFEQgSxNErhw%3Fssf%3Dfalse) ## **Ultimate gift guide for mums (cont.)** ## **6. Beauty sleep essential: Night Multi-rejuvenating Serum-in-cream** My list of gifts for us mums won’t be complete without a skincare product! Because let’s face it, we’re not getting any younger! So we need to take care of our skin now more than ever. And you deserve to be pampered, Mama! This sleep mask from Sephora is my personal favourite because it actually works! [![Night Multi-rejuvenating Serum-in-cream](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Night-multi-rejuvenating-serum-in-cream.webp "Night multi-rejuvenating serum-in-cream - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fphilosophy-ultimate-miracle-worker-night-multi-rejuvenating-serum-in-cream-60ml)Night multi rejuvenating serum in cream I found this at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fphilosophy-ultimate-miracle-worker-night-multi-rejuvenating-serum-in-cream-60ml) ## **7. UGG slippers** If you’re like me who had these fancy slippers in her shopping cart since forever, it’s time to click that Checkout button! They may be a little pricey, but with their sheepskin wool lining, you know they’re made to last. [![UGG slippers | Christmas gifts for mums](https://theuggshop.com.au/cdn/shop/files/Untitleddesign-2024-11-22T172717.630_330x.progressive.png.jpg?v=1732256847)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79760?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftheuggshop.com.au%2fcollections%2fwomens-ugg-shoes%2fproducts%2feverau-croft) I found this at: [UGG](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/79760?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftheuggshop.com.au%2fcollections%2fwomens-ugg-shoes%2fproducts%2feverau-croft) ## **8. Jo Malone hair perfume** Treat yourself to a little luxury with Jo Malone’s English Pear and Freesia Hair mist. This lightweight spray is packed with Argan Oil and Pro Vitamin B to make your hair soft, shiny, and free from frizz! Perfect for busy mums who want manageable, gorgeous locks. [![Jo Malone hair perfume](https://www.lookfantastic.com/images?url=https://static.thcdn.com/productimg/original/12204104-5575134385587524.jpg&format=webp&auto=avif&width=820&height=820&fit=cover)](https://fave.co/49hpCRb) I found this at: [LOOKFANTASTIC](https://fave.co/49hpCRb) ## **9. Silk pillowcase** Don’t you just love the feel of silk on your skin?! It feels so soothing and I get so relaxed I forget about my worries and just start snoring! If you can totally relate, it’s time to get yourself a new silk pillowcase – or two! I like this one that’s made from 100% high-quality mulberry silk, plus there are plenty of colours to choose from. [![Royal Comfort Mulberry Soft Silk Luxurious Hypoallergenic Pillowcase](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Royal-comfort-mulberry-soft-silk-luxurious-hypoallergenic-pillowcase.webp "Royal comfort mulberry soft silk luxurious hypoallergenic pillowcase - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FRoyal-Comfort-Royal-Comfort-Mulberry-Soft-Silk-Luxurious-Hypoallergenic-Pillowcase-Twin-Pack-Silver-Standard%2Fs%2FSXqQdPUd5USjuvcwOGltAA%3Fssf%3Dfalse)Royal comfort mulberry soft silk luxurious hypoallergenic pillowcase I found this at: [OZSALE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozsale.com.au%2Fproduct%2FRoyal-Comfort-Royal-Comfort-Mulberry-Soft-Silk-Luxurious-Hypoallergenic-Pillowcase-Twin-Pack-Silver-Standard%2Fs%2FSXqQdPUd5USjuvcwOGltAA%3Fssf%3Dfalse) ## **10. Eye mask** This cucumber eye mask is a quick fix that will make your tired eyes feel refreshed and rejuvenated. It’s a mini spa treatment you’ll appreciate, perfect for those moments when you need to unwind and brighten up your day! [![Eye mask](https://image-optimizer-reg.production.sephora-asia.net/images/article_images/default_2_Article_3378872234760-Sephora-Collection-Eye-Masks-Blueberry-Model_8ec05280619a287dc43532c477321aca8e9b15bf_1715084476976.jpg)](https://fave.co/4e8L1Nn) I found this: [Sephora](https://fave.co/4e8L1Nn) ## **Best gifts for mums (cont.)** ## **11. Aesop facial cleanser** Give your skin a little love with Aesop’s Parsley Seed gel cleanser! This is their first gel cleanser, and it’s packed with goodness like Lactic Acid for gentle exfoliation and Jojoba Oil to help balance your skin. It’s a great pick-me-up for mums who want a simple but effective self-care routine! [![Aesop facial cleanser | Christmas gifts for mums](https://www.aesop.com/u1nb1km7t5q7/LL8pUKUiuq1n8mKKpLdbb/b41e1d77b6dfeca7632d6677ee232fcb/Aesop-SkinParsley-Seed-Facial-Cleanser-100mL-large.png)](https://fave.co/3OzmEhC) I found this at: [LOOKFANTASTIC](https://fave.co/3OzmEhC) ## **12. Insulated travel tumbler** This 2-in-1 cup is just what you need to hydrate for those busy days! With a splash-resistant lid and a removable straw, you can choose to sip or swig while keeping your drink colder for longer, thanks to double-wall insulation. It’s super easy to clean. The lid is dishwasher-safe, and the cup’s easy to hand wash. [![Owala insulated travel tumbler](https://assets.kogan.com/images/acosecommerce/ACS-8049031413935/4-54760d0512-57_6001803f-1350-4cb8-bd74-0e5352fe1872.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oerj0Q) I found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/Oerj0Q) ## **13. Chocolate Hamper** Ever heard of Gourmet Basket? They’re known for their fancy but budget-friendly gift sets. And it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s Day to get a chocolate basket. This fancy hamper is filled with scrumptious Italian caramel and choco truffles. I would love to have this on my Christmas spread, won’t you!? [![Luxury Chocolate Hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Luxury-chocolate-hamper.jpg "Luxury chocolate hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgourmet-food-and-wine%2Fluxury-champagne-and-chocolate-indulgence%2F)Luxury chocolate hamper I found this at: [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fgourmetbasket.com.au%2Fshop%2Fgourmet-food-and-wine%2Fluxury-champagne-and-chocolate-indulgence%2F) ## **14. Fragrance mist** Why not get a new scent for the holidays? This fragrance mist collection from MCoBeauty is super affordable. I like the no. 3 scent in particular as it smells like a combination of sweet blossom, dragon fruit, and lychee. [![MCoBeauty Fragrance Mist No.3](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Mcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no%203-800x800.webp "Mcobeauty fragrance mist no 3 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fmcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no-3-dragonfruit-jasmine-90ml)Mcobeauty fragrance mist no 3 I found this at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2Fproducts%2Fmcobeauty-fragrance-mist-no-3-dragonfruit-jasmine-90ml) ## **15. Beaded lilac fascinator headband** You can never be too old for sparkly accessories, especially if it’s as gorgeous as this sequin headband! What I love about it is it spices up my outfit without being too flashy. [![Beaded lilac fascinator headband](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Beaded-lilac-fascinator-headband.webp "Beaded lilac fascinator headband - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/EEoZrn)Beaded lilac fascinator headband I found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/EEoZrn) ***Further reading: Christmas earrings: [Our pick of the cutest we could find.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-earrings/)*** ## **Final words: Gift ideas for mums** You can also pick gifts for fellow mums or your Mum from my list above. Remember, it’s not about finding the most expensive gift, it’s about showing your mum how much you appreciate everything she does. One of the best gifts I gave my mum was a personalised bracelet with her birthstone. She still wears it daily and says it reminds her of how much we love her. I hope you found the perfect Christmas gift that you deserve. I know most of us have a lot on our plate, so we can only find an excuse to spend a little more this time of the year. So, this holiday season, let’s make a pact to remember the amazing mothers we are and gift ourselves the love, care, and attention we deserve. So go ahead, find the perfect gift and splurge a little! You earned it more than anyone! Merry Christmas, fellow mums, and may your self-gifts bring you much happiness. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-mums-to-give-themselves/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-mums-to-give-themselves/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** festive, Xmas, gift, present, treat --- ### [22 Homemade Christmas gift ideas that are easy to make](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/) **Published:** September 12, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There’s a lot to be said for a beautiful homemade gift. Especially this coming Christmas when the cost of living is exceptionally high and budgets are tighter than ever. Not only do homemade gifts make thoughtful presents, but they can be cheap and a great ‘quality time’ project to do with your kids. The trick to homemade Christmas gifts is to keep them super simple to minimise disaster and maximise the fun of making them. It’s a good idea to check out [party shops](https://ilovethisshop.com.au/), where you can find different materials for creating or decorating your gifts at reasonable prices. After all, the whole idea is to keep the costs down this Christmas. If you’re thinking of DIY-ing your present giving this year, here are 22 homemade Christmas gifts that are easy to make. ***Further reading: [15+ Shopping website for great deals this Christmas.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-shopping-websites-great-deals-christmas/)*** ## Edible homemade Christmas gifts ideas ## 1. Double chocolate brownie jar First on our list of homemade gifts idea: Foodies will love this DIY brownie jar that looks and tastes amazing. They are also a breeze to make and look look really effective. [![ Double chocolate brownie jar | homemade Christmas gifts](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/a8/3d/61/a83d61eedca5a82dc77bc1fdc1e320be.jpg)](https://roomfortuesday.com/double-chocolate-brownie-jar/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Mason jar, flour, salt, brown sugar, granulated sugar, cocoa, semisweet chocolate chips, white chocolate chips, chopped nuts.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Super easy … just layer the ingredients in the jar, no cooking needed! Get full details from: [Room for Tuesday](https://roomfortuesday.com/double-chocolate-brownie-jar/).* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Foodies with a sweet tooth.* ## 2. Parmesan thyme crackers These Parmesan thyme crackers are way easier to make than you would think. If you’re feeling adventurous, you could make some chutney to accompany them. [![Parmesan thyme crackers ](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/bc/06/4f/bc064f06c93672c868c15702399c77b5.jpg)](https://www.westoftheloop.com/2016/12/06/edible-gifting-parmesan-thyme-crackers/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Flour, baking powder, salt, cayenne pepper, unsalted butter, Parmigiano Reggiano, fresh thyme.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy, the crackers come together in less than an hour. Get full details from: [West of the Loop](https://www.westoftheloop.com/2016/12/06/edible-gifting-parmesan-thyme-crackers/).* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Your cheese and biscuit lover.* ## 3. Flavoured sugars Add a little something extra to regular sugar and turn it into a festive gift that your friends will love. [![Flavoured sugars | homemade Christmas gifts](https://hips.hearstapps.com/ame-prod-goodhousekeeping-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/main/embedded/5762/2Z-Flavoured-Sugars-de.jpg)](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/food/recipes/a535762/flavoured-sugars-recipe/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Unwaxed orange and lemon, caster sugar, dried lavender flowers, cinnamon, cloves.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy, just mix the flowers, spices and ground orange/lemon into the sugar. Get full details from: [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/food/recipes/a535762/flavoured-sugars-recipe/).* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Anyone with a sweet tooth who likes a gift with a twist.* ## 4. Friendship soup mix We have to say, this is one of the best ideas on this list and possibly one of the easiest gifts to make. We’ve made this with different ingredients to the below suggestion and it was just as good. [![Friendship soup mix ](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/23/f0/c5/23f0c53377fabafbe854857ed90f88e0.jpg)](https://www.ohmy-creative.com/holiday-crafts/christmas/soup-in-a-jar-gift/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Quart jar with lid, beef bouillon granules, dried minced onion, dried parsley, uncooked wild rice, uncooked long grain white or brown rice, dried green split peas, dried lentils, elbow macaroni, tri-coloured rotini pasta, card stock, ribbon, twine or string, gift bow.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Super easy. Layer each ingredient in the jar, seal and decorate with ribbon and a festive tag. Get full details from: [Oh My Creative](https://www.ohmy-creative.com/holiday-crafts/christmas/soup-in-a-jar-gift/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Friends, elderly relatives or people or need some help in the kitchen.* ## DIY gift idea for around the home ## 5. Hot cocoa bar in a box Here’s one of our most popular homemade Christmas gift ideas: a basket of holiday sweetness in the form of hot cocoa. Who can resist? [![Hot cocoa bar in a box | homemade Christmas gifts](https://anightowlblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/Hot-Cocoa-Bar-in-a-Box-1.jpg)](https://www.anightowlblog.com/hot-cocoa-bar-box-gift-idea/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Decorative basket, basket filler, chalkboard tag, mason jar mugs with lid, plaid ribbon, hot cocoa toppings (crushed candy canes, marshmallows, mini M&Ms), hot cocoa mix.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. After filling the mugs with cocoa and cocoa toppings, decorate the basket however you like. Get full details from: [A Night Owl](https://www.anightowlblog.com/hot-cocoa-bar-box-gift-idea/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Doesn’t everyone love a hot chocolate?* ## 6. Christmas engraved cookies This rolling pin takes Christmas cookies to another level. Perfect as a hostess gift or for when you want to impress. [![Christmas engraved cookies ](https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/z~MAAOSwOWde6ZoV/s-l1600.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/EEoZM4) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/EEoZM4) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Christmas rolling pin from [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/EEoZM4) and your favourite cookie recipe.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. Make your dough as usual and use the rolling pin to create designs.* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Perfect for kids stocking gifts and school teachers.* ## 7. Photo love heart wall hanging Nothing beats this photo heart wall hanging for a Christmas gift. It looks like it takes hours to make, but it’s actually very easy, and if we can do it, you can too! [![Photo love heart wall hanging | homemade Christmas gifts](https://www.itsalwaysautumn.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/heart-photo-display.jpg)](https://www.itsalwaysautumn.com/diy-heart-photo-display-perfect-instagram-photos.html) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Photo frame, printed photos, poster board and image editing program (if you want the photos to look uniform).* ***How easy is this present to make?** Medium easy. You’ll need to get your photos printed at roughly the same size for a uniform look. You might also want to edit them before printing. Get full details from: [It’s Always Autumn](https://www.itsalwaysautumn.com/diy-heart-photo-display-perfect-instagram-photos.html)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Mums, friends and anyone who loves a DIY gift from the heart.* ## 8. Wine glass charms The kids can help you make these cute wine glass charms. Pro tip: Use crystals or jewel stickers if you hate glitter. [![Wine glass charms ](https://happyhooligans.ca/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/Glittered-Clothespin-Wine-Charms-for-Kids-to-Make-for-Mom-Happy-Hooligans-.jpg)](https://happyhooligans.ca/glittered-clothespin-wine-charms-kids-make/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Wooden clothespins, liquid watercolours or acrylic craft paint, white glue, glitter, craft varnish, paint brushes* ***How easy is this present to make?** This is really easy even if you’re not into crafts. Just paint the clothespins with your favourite colours, coat in glue, add glitter or crystals and seal with varnish. Get full details from: [Happy Hooligans](https://happyhooligans.ca/glittered-clothespin-wine-charms-kids-make/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Kids, parents, family* ## 9. You rock picture frame Are you out of homemade Christmas gift ideas for the men in your life? This rock picture frame is the answer. [![You rock picture frame | homemade Christmas gifts](https://dollarstorecrafts.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/DIY-Rock-Accent-Frame-580x580.jpg)](https://dollarstorecrafts.com/2013/11/tutorial-rock-accented-home-decor/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Frame, paint, polished rocks, super glue.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy peasy. Simply glue the stones to the frame and add your favourite photo. Get full details from: [Dollar Store Crafts](https://dollarstorecrafts.com/2013/11/tutorial-rock-accented-home-decor/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Anyone who loves outdoorsy décor.* ## 10. Teacup candle Your friend will cosy up to this lovely tea cup candle scented with their favourite essential oils. These are cheap and easy to make but look super professional. One of the best EVER homemade Christmas gift ideas! [![Teacup candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Teacup-candle-901x800.webp "Teacup candle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.countryfile.com/how-to/crafts/teacup-candles)Teacup candle ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Saucepan, tea cup and saucer, wooden or metal skewer, wax wick, wick holder, paraffin wax, dried petals, cinnamon, essential oils for scent.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Medium. There are step by step instructions and photos to guide you even if you’ve never made a candle before. Get full details from: [Country File](https://www.countryfile.com/how-to/crafts/teacup-candles/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Friends, neighbours, teachers … anyone!* ## 11. Handcrafted Christmas decorations Have a blast creating your own decorations this holiday season. Besides being unique, you and your kids can customise each one to make it extra special. [![Handcrafted Christmas decorations | homemade Christmas gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Christmas-diy-ornaments-800x800.jpg "Christmas diy ornaments - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/09LdVV)Christmas diy ornaments Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/09LdVV) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** [Plaster Christmas ornament kit](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/71507?Url=https%3a%2f%2friotstores.com.au%2fproducts%2fart-star-paint-your-own-plaster-christmas-ornaments-kit-makes-10) from Riot Art & Craft, twine or ribbon for hanging.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. Gather the kids and have a fun time painting and personalising the ornaments.* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Grandparents, teachers, and great for family/friends overseas as they are cheap and easy to post.* ## 12. Seasonal succulents Is there anything cuter than these seasonal succulents? We don’t think so. And it comes together in just a few minutes! We used jars and pots from local charity shops to keep them unique and super cheap. [![Seasonal succulents ](https://www.happygoluckyblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Holiday-Succulents.jpg)](https://www.happygoluckyblog.com/holiday-succulents/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Glass jars or candle holders, chalkboard tags, clothespins, succulents.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy … takes less than 15 minutes to make. Get full details from: [Happy Go Lucky](https://www.happygoluckyblog.com/holiday-succulents/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Green thumbs and plant lovers … of a friend with a new pad.* ## DIY presents to pamper your loved ones at Christmas ## 13. Candle making kit Want to make personalised candle gifts for the holiday? This kit is exactly what you need. It comes with enough materials to make eight lovely projects. [![Candle making kit | homemade Christmas gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Candle-making-kit.webp "Candle making kit - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/K0nZQx)Candle making kit Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/K0nZQx) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Candle making kit from [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/K0nZQx).* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. Everything you need is in the box, including candle moulds, soy wax, wicks, lavender fragrance, and instruction book.* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Teachers, family and friends!* ## 14. Lush bath bombs If you want to make your own bath bombs to give as gifts, this is the recipe you’re looking for. It’s fairly simple and there’s a video tutorial you can follow. [![Lush bath bombs ](https://diyprojectsforteens.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/bath-bomb-455x1024.jpg)](https://diyprojectsforteens.com/diy-bath-bombs-recipe/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Baking soda, citric acid, Epsom salts, water, essential oil, olive oil, food colouring, bowl, whisk, jar and bath bomb mould.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Medium. For teen years and above ideally. Get full details from: [DIY Projects for Teens](https://diyprojectsforteens.com/diy-bath-bombs-recipe/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Stressed out mums, parents and friends.* ## 15. Luxurious sugar body scrub Here’s one of our favourite homemade Christmas gift ideas that’s easy, practical and sure to please: a luxurious, all-natural body scrub made with just three ingredients. ![Luxurious sugar body scrub | homemade Christmas gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Luxurious-sugar-scrub.jpg "Luxurious sugar scrub - Beanstalk Mums")Luxurious sugar scrub Available at: [Wellness Mama](https://wellnessmama.com/3628/sugar-scrub/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:*** Granulated sugar, olive oil or coconut oil, favourite essential oils, small mason jar. ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy, just mix everything together and fill the mason jar. Add a bow and tag and you’re done. Get full details from: [Wellness Mama](https://wellnessmama.com/3628/sugar-scrub/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:*** Mums, family, friends and great stocking gift for teenage girls. ## 16. Personalised lip balms Get this amazing lip balm kit and make your loved-one some beautiful balms. We won’t judge if you decide to keep the odd one for yourself though. [![Personalised lip balms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Make-your-own-lip-balm-strawberries-and-cream.webp "Make your own lip balm strawberries and cream - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/kOBoxd)Make your own lip balm strawberries and cream Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/kOBoxd "Kogan.com") ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Lip balm kit from [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/kOBoxd).* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. The box has everything you need to make 5 different kinds of lip balm.* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Everyone loves a lip balm, especially if it’s made by you.* ## More homemade Christmas gift ideas that are easy to make ## 17. DIY lavender clay mask There’s no better gift than a clay mask gift that you made yourself. We found this a bit tricky to make as it requires a lot of ingredients and tools, but great if you’re good at this kind of stuff and like a challenge. [![DIY lavender clay mask | homemade Christmas gifts](https://www.soapqueen.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Lavender-Clay-Mask-DIY.jpg)](https://www.soapqueen.com/bath-and-body-tutorials/diy-lavender-clay-face-mask/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** 8 ounce jars, distilled water, argan oil, avocado oil, emulsifying wax, BTMS-50 conditioning wax, Kaolin clay, purple Brazilian clay, lavender essential oil, evening primrose extract, optiphen, clay mask template* ***How easy is this present to make?** Medium and you’ll have to hunt around for some of the ingredients. Definitely worth the effort though. Get full details from: [Soap Queen](https://www.soapqueen.com/bath-and-body-tutorials/diy-lavender-clay-face-mask/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Teens, parents, friends, beauty product lovers.* ## 18. Snowman chocolate bars We made these snowman chocolate bars for teachers as they are easy to make, original and cheap. Buy the bars at your local supermarket when they are on special. [![Snowman chocolate bars ](https://cdn1.thegraciouswife.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/Snowman-Candy-Bars-13.jpg)](https://www.thegraciouswife.com/snowman-candy-bars/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Flat chocolate bars, white paper, orange paper, yarn, tape, scissors, glue, markers* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. This one also makes a great family project. Get full details from: [The Gracious Wife](https://www.thegraciouswife.com/snowman-candy-bars/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Kids, teens, teachers, neighbours.* ## 19. Personalised Christmas coupons Nothing says “unique gift” better than personalised Christmas coupons. You can write anything you want on the template and give them away to family and friends. [![Personalised Christmas coupons](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Coupon-book-hero-640x800.jpg "Xrddaf_dkqykvu86j911275931255531135t24032617 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://lifeasmom.com/make-a-tear-out-coupon-book/)Xrddaf dkqykvu86j911275931255531135t24032617 ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Marker, blank coupons printed on copy paper*, *card stock, scissors, and a printer.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. This festive template is fully editable so you can personalise them however you want.* *Get full details from:* [Life as a Mom](https://lifeasmom.com/make-a-tear-out-coupon-book/) ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Significant others, friends, parents, siblings.* ## 20. Make your own Christmas crackers Did you know that you can make your own Christmas crackers? Just add your own special treats inside. This is perfect for DIYers. [![Make your own Christmas crackers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Make-your-own-christmas-crackers.webp "Make your own christmas crackers - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/entertaining/articles/make-own-christmas-crackers/pcml0rpn)Make your own christmas crackers Available at: Etsy ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Trinkets*, *jokes, Bonbon snaps*, *cardboard rolls*, Christmas paper, *ribbon, paper hats*, *and double-sided tape.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy.* *Get full details from:* [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/entertaining/articles/make-own-christmas-crackers/pcml0rpn) ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** The perfect gift to take if you have been invited for a Christmas meal.* ## 21. Wooden bead key chains When it comes to homemade Christmas gift ideas, we love these boho wooden bead chains in pastel colours and we’re sure your friends will love them too. [![Wooden bead key chains | homemade Christmas gifts](https://thesweetestoccasion.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/DIY-Wooden-Bead-Key-Fob-600x902.jpg)](https://thesweetestoccasion.com/2015/07/diy-wooden-bead-keychain/) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** Leather or suede cording, wooden beads, scissors, paint or stain, key rings.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy. Another fun project that you can do with the kids. Get full details from: [The Sweetest Occasion](https://thesweetestoccasion.com/2015/07/diy-wooden-bead-keychain/)* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Kids, teens, teachers, neighbours and great stocking gifts.* ## 22. Still Spirits Air Still & Mad Millie Limoncello Kit Some people like to gift this gin making kit to their gin-drinking friend or family member but we like to go one step further and actually make it for them. Lovingly made gin makes a thoughtful gift. [![Still Spirits Air Still & Mad Millie Limoncello Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Still-spirits-air-still-mad-millie-limoncello-kit.webp "Still spirits air still mad millie limoncello kit - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/2axWEQ)Still spirits air still mad millie limoncello kit Available at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/2axWEQ) ***What you need to make this DIY gift:** [Still Spirits Air Still & Mad Millie Limoncello Kit](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/2axWEQ)* *from Kogan.* ***How easy is this present to make?** Easy.* ***Who would love to receive this homemade Christmas gift:** Gin lovers!* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Presents, festive, Xmas, DIY gifts --- ### [Hilarious And Clever Christmas Gifts For Your Ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/) **Published:** November 6, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Christmas shopping for an ex, ever been there? If you’re on good terms with him, why not throw a little gift his way? After all, ’tis the season for good cheer (and maybe a cheeky laugh). The holidays are a great time to try something new or hand out the olive branch with a thoughtful gesture of goodwill. The best bit is … you can have a playful dig at the same time. Especially if you give him something from my list of amusing Christmas gifts for your ex! Heads up, though, some of these ideas might not be kid-friendly, so be sure to time the gift opening carefully. You don’t want any little ones asking awkward questions! But if you get it right, you’re guaranteed a few laughs and, who knows, maybe a raised eyebrow or two! If you want to buy your ex something a little more toned down, see this list of [Christmas gifts for men for under $50](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-christmas-gifts-ideas-men-under-50/). ***Further reading: [10 Tips to Survive Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/).*** ## **12 Hilarious Christmas gifts for your ex 2024** ## **1. 100 Un-beer-able Dad jokes** First on my list of funny Yuletide gifts for your ex is something that will make him more unbearable – a deck of corny jokes! It’s a nice gift for the humourous ex. [![100 Un-beer-able Dad jokes | Christmas gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Dad-jokes-card-game.jpg "Dad jokes card game - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/RGv6dv)Dad jokes card game I found these at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/RGv6dv) ## **2. Funny graphic t-shirt** If your ex-partner is the grumpiest bloke you know, you’ve found the gift for him! This “I Never Dreamed That One Day I’d Become a Grumpy Old Man, But Here I Am Killing It” tee is perfect for when he’s whingeing about the footy or having a go at the neighbours for being too loud. [![Funny graphic t-shirt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/19536d50-66a7-4347-89b7-b65492b122ea.jpg "19536d50-66a7-4347-89b7-b65492b122ea - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14207?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lightinthebox.com%2fen%2fp%2fhighland-cow-are-you-pooping-funny-tin-signs-bathroom-wall-decor_p13764802.html%3fenrd%3d1) I found this at: [Light in the Box](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14207?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lightinthebox.com%2fen%2fp%2fhighland-cow-are-you-pooping-funny-tin-signs-bathroom-wall-decor_p13764802.html%3fenrd%3d1) ## **3. Blah blah button** There would be something highly amusing about giving this gift to my ex-husband. For all the moans and rants we’ve both had in the past, it’s all just blah blah now. [![Blah blah button | Christmas gifts for your ex](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/mdi-the-blah-blah-button-lights-sound-yellow-octopus-845666287626_2000x2000_495581c7-a2a2-4340-80bd-2a45d6f45476_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555244657)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/P0VZBj) I found this at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/P0VZBj) ## **4. Pornburger: Hot buns and juicy beefcakes cookbook** If your ex loves his burgers and his porn, this is the perfect present. You might leave him wondering how he let you slip away! Not that you want him back, though! [![Pornburger: Hot buns & juicy beefcakes cookbook](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/brumby-sunstate-pornburger-hot-buns-juicy-beefcakes-cookbook-yellow-octopus-30801355530_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555168610)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vny1qN) I found this at:[ Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vny1qN) ## **5. Emergency meal transport lunch bag** This “Human Organ Emergency Transplant” lunchbox is the cheekiest gift I’ve seen this year! If you want to make him laugh, or cringe, or just remind him you’re still winning the gift-giving game, this lunchbox will not disappoint. Plus, he’ll never lose his lunch again, unlike, well… you! LOL! [![Emergency meal transport lunch bag | Christmas gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/91630608-b121-4bdf-a2e7-0b31995f2b29.jpg "91630608-b121-4bdf-a2e7-0b31995f2b29 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2femergency-meal-transport-lunch-bag) I found this at: [CoolThings Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2femergency-meal-transport-lunch-bag) ## **6. Six-pack Australian craft beer** If your ex-partner is a beer connoisseur or just enjoys cracking open a cold one, this variety pack will make him raise a glass. This isn’t your standard Corona and Heineken combo. I’m talking six top-notch, hand-picked beers from different Australian breweries. [![Six-pack Australian craft beer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Six-pack-australian-craft-beer.webp "Six-pack australian craft beer - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fbeercartel.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fmixed-boutique-beer-6-pack)Six pack australian craft beer I found this at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fbeercartel.com.au%2Fproducts%2Fmixed-boutique-beer-6-pack) ## **Best gifts for your ex after divorce (cont.)** ## **7. Old fart novelty socks** I couldn’t stop laughing when I found these novelty ‘old fart’ socks. A brilliant gift for your ex if he’s touchy about his age. [![Old fart novelty socks | Christmas gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/8e2f0eb2-dd5d-43e6-8d08-ad3062175236.jpg "8e2f0eb2-dd5d-43e6-8d08-ad3062175236 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2ffeet-speak-socks-old-fart) I found this at: [CoolThings Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2ffeet-speak-socks-old-fart) ## **8. Astronaut Bluetooth speaker** This super cute astronaut Bluetooth speaker will make an awesome desk decor for your ex-partner. Along with the gift, include a witty message like “Here’s something cool for your space… because I’m no longer in it!” [![Astronaut Bluetooth speaker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Ecb7b452-2b86-4ddd-88ab-160924a494d9.jpg "Ecb7b452-2b86-4ddd-88ab-160924a494d9 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1v0GQ) I found this at: [Kogan](http://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1v0GQ) ## **9. Aromatherapy Candles: A Reminder to Relax** Give your ex a subtle hint to relax with aromatherapy candles. This calming candle will remind them to take a breath and unwind when things get heated. With an amazing blend of soothing essential oils, it’ll create the perfect chill-out vibe they’ll adore. It’s a lighthearted yet thoughtful gift that says, “Take it easy!” [![Aromatherapy Candles Scented Gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Aromatherapy-candles-scented-gift.webp "Aromatherapy candles scented gift - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/BnZ2JW)Aromatherapy candles scented giftI found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/BnZ2JW) ## **Humourous gift ideas to buy your ex** ## **10. How it works: The dad book** This is the only book your ex-spouse needs to read this year. It’s filled with humourous truths and sayings about the challenges of fatherhood (with retro illustrations to boot). [![How it works: The dad book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/How-it-works-the-dad.webp "How it works the dad - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9L5JDj)How it works the dad I found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/9L5JDj) ## **11. Pug in a Mug tea infuser** If your ex-partner is into brewing tea, he will be happy with this Pug in a Mug infuser! This adorable silicone pup is here to make tea time extra fun. [![Pug in a Mug tea infuser | Christmas gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/D7381adb-939e-4342-ace7-254da5686444.jpg "D7381adb-939e-4342-ace7-254da5686444 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fpug-in-a-mug-tea-infuser.html) I found this at: [CoolThings Australia](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fpug-in-a-mug-tea-infuser.html) ## **12. 5-Second rule game** My ex would get hours of pleasure playing this game with his mates. If it’s the kind of thing your ex is into, make him smile with this fun Yuletide gift. [![5-Second rule game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/5-second-rule-uncensored-question-version-2-800x800.jpg "5 second rule uncensored question version 2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9L5JD0)5 second rule uncensored question version 2 I found this at:[ Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9L5JD0) ## **13. How to Adult: The Ultimate Guide for Your Ex** This Christmas, give your ex a little nudge in the right direction with *How to Adult*—the lighthearted, high-quality guide to growing up! It’s like giving them a portable mentor to finally tackle budgeting, cooking, and basic adulting skills (that maybe they never quite mastered). Whether they’re still clueless or just need a laugh, this book is a great gift that communicates mutual appreciation for what’s past, with a sprinkle of humour. It’s suitable, it’s funny, and it’s the ultimate goodbye gift that says, “You’ve got this… probably.” [![How to Adult Book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/How-to-adult.jpg "How to adult - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.qbd.com.au%2Fhow-to-adult%2Fstephen-wildish%2F9781529102536%2F)How to adult I found this at: [QBD](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.qbd.com.au%2Fhow-to-adult%2Fstephen-wildish%2F9781529102536%2F) ## **14. Devanti aroma diffuser** Help your ex-spouse relax and rejuvenate before you send him the kids with this stylish diffuser. After a day of pampering, Mr. Grumpy will surely be ready for co-parenting tasks! What a thoughtful gift, am I right?! Wink! [![Devanti aroma diffuser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/11be104b-6e2e-4532-95f9-efe1132ef38a.jpg "11be104b-6e2e-4532-95f9-efe1132ef38a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/POjQDX) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/POjQDX) ## **15. Unique wall art** Liven up his bland bathroom with this amusing wall decor! It will send him laughing every time he goes to the loo! [![Unique wall art ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Black-and-white-alpaca-natural-wood-frame-canvas.webp "Black and white alpaca natural wood frame canvas - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1VAWD)Black and white alpaca natural wood frame canvas I found this at: [Kogan.com](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/e1VAWD) ## **Final words: Christmas gifts for your ex** In the spirit of Yuletide merriment and ex-tended goodwill, why not spread some laughter this Christmas with a humorous gift for your ex? As the saying goes, ‘Tis the season to be jolly, and what better way to achieve that than by sharing a chuckle or two? Last year, I sent him a quirky shirt that said, “World’s Okayest Ex,” and we both had a good laugh over it. So, if you are feeling a little mischievous this holiday season, don’t hesitate to embrace the Christmas spirit and indulge in some extraordinary gift-giving. Just make sure you pick the right moment, avoiding any awkward encounters with innocent bystanders. Who said breaking up couldn’t be a laughing matter? So, if you’re looking for the perfect way to say “Merry Christmas” without any drama, these hilarious and clever gift ideas are sure to do the trick. After all, who says ex-gifts can’t come with a smile and a bit of holiday spirit? Happy holidays, and may your Christmas be filled with laughter and joy! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Presents, gifts for dad, gifts for the ex, Xmas, gifts for men --- ### [Quiet Children: Supporting an Introverted Kid in an Extroverted World](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/supporting-an-introverted-kid-in-an-extroverted-world/) **Published:** November 27, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Not all children are loud, gregarious, or quick to speak in a crowd. Some are watchers, thinkers, and quiet explorers. In a world that often equates volume with confidence and participation with worth, an introverted kid can be misunderstood, overlooked, or pressured to become someone they are not. But a quiet child is not anything to be worried about. They are simply wired differently, and gloriously so. Let’s discuss how we can celebrate introverted children while equipping parents with thoughtful, practical ways to support them. ## Understanding Temperament: Introversion vs. Shyness First, let’s clear up a common misconception: introversion is not shyness. Introversion is a temperament. It’s about energy. Introverted kids feel replenished by solitude and drained by prolonged social interaction, even if they enjoy people. They prefer meaningful conversations over small talk and one-on-one play over group chaos. There’s nothing fearful about it. It’s simply how they’re wired. Shyness, on the other hand, is rooted in fear, often a fear of being judged or embarrassed. A shy child might want to join in but freeze [due to anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/15-books-to-help-kids-with-anxiety-worry-and-stress/). They may worry about saying the wrong thing or being laughed at. Understanding which one you’re seeing in your child can be difficult to differentiate from the other. If your child is content being quiet, shows comfort in familiar settings, and expresses themselves confidently at home, they’re likely introverted and not shy. And knowing the difference helps guide your next steps. ## The Strengths of a Quiet Nature In a culture that glorifies [“big” personalities](http://www.greatfun4kidsblog.com/2011/02/big-personalities.html), it’s easy to overlook the quiet power of introversion. But these kids have incredible strengths. Their attention to detail makes them brilliant observers. They think deeply. Give them time, and they’ll return with insights that surprise you. Children who are quiet by nature tend to ask profound questions and really think about the answers you give them. Introverted children have fewer friendships, but they run deep. They listen, empathise, and offer loyalty that’s unwavering. When they speak, it’s usually thoughtful. When they love, it’s fierce. ## Is It Personality, or Is Something Else Going On? While some children are naturally quieter than others, that doesn’t mean that silence always has a positive effect. There are many different types of silence, and some types of silence may have an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. If your child consistently has trouble being heard, is reluctant to speak in casual environments, or becomes stressed when communication is required, then perhaps there’s more to it than a natural temperament. Does your child become frustrated when trying to communicate? Do they appear unsure of how to start conversations or answer questions directly? Do not turn your quiet child into a study subject, but as a parent, you need to identify if there are patterns and be attentive to potential difficulties your child may experience when communicating. Sometimes a child’s silence is because of difficulty communicating verbally or interpreting nonverbal communication. At this point, early support can be very helpful. [Speech therapy](https://eastsidespeech.com.au/) isn’t limited to children who have difficulty pronouncing words. Speech therapy can also assist children in developing their ability to “find” their voice (both figuratively and literally) and develop the confidence and skills needed to communicate within their environment. ![introverted kid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Image-4.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Providing a Safe Space: Supporting Your Introverted Child at Home Your home should be a safe place for your child to be, not a place where they feel forced to perform. All children need [time to recharge](https://www.mother.ly/parenting/quiet-time-for-kids/) after school, attending parties, or after family gatherings. Honor that need for quiet time by scheduling quiet time for your child. Allow your child to withdraw from social interactions without feeling guilty. Offer quiet activities such as reading, drawing, or just allowing them to daydream. Don’t feel obligated to fill every moment of silence. Many parents feel compelled to ask a million questions after school, but most of the time, a quiet ride home and a snack will allow your child to reconnect with you. Leave space for your child to initiate contact when they feel ready. Provide alternative ways for your child to express themselves beyond verbal communication. Some children who prefer quiet time enjoy writing, drawing, or acting out thoughts with toys. Both of these are valid forms of self-expression and reflection. Lastly, validate your child’s personality by praising their unique characteristics. ## Gentle Ways to Stretch Their Comfort Zone (Without Pushing) Introverted children react better to gentle nudges, not persistent pushes. Instead of insisting they join the group immediately, consider one-on-one playdates with a familiar friend. Smaller social settings often feel safer and more enjoyable. [Prepare them for new situations](https://www.happilyfamily.com/5-strategies-to-help-a-child-through-a-big-change/) ahead of time. Walk through what will happen at a birthday party. Roleplay greetings or asking for help. Let them know it’s okay to take breaks during social events. Encourage participation in structured activities they’re interested in, music, art, coding, martial arts, where interaction is present but not overwhelming. Let them build confidence at their own pace, and celebrate effort over outcome. Always give them an exit plan. Knowing they can say “I need a break” gives them a sense of control. ## Partnering with Their “Village”: Teachers, Coaches, and Family Your child doesn’t exist in a bubble. Helping others understand and support their introversion makes a big difference. Start with teachers. Let them know your child may take time to warm up, prefers small group work, or might not speak in front of the class right away. Ask how [participation](https://medium.com/@evabatsarii/the-importance-of-childrens-participation-in-community-activities-96e2f078466f) is measured and whether alternative ways of engagement are accepted. Coaches and instructors should know that yelling or spotlighting may shut your child down rather than motivate. A quiet nod or encouraging smile goes a long way. With family, especially well-meaning relatives who say things like, “Why so quiet?” or “Speak up!” — be an advocate. Gently explain, “He’s taking it all in. He’ll join when he’s ready.” You set the tone for how your child is understood and treated. ## When to Seek Extra Support: Listening to Your Instincts Parents know their children in ways professionals never will. If something feels off, pay attention. Trusting your instincts and being proactive is what is important. It means reaching out, asking questions, and exploring support options without shame or stigma. Your role isn’t to change your quiet child into something they are not, but to make sure they feel safe stepping into a noisy world, in their own way, at their own pace. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/supporting-an-introverted-kid-in-an-extroverted-world/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/supporting-an-introverted-kid-in-an-extroverted-world/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Signs of Teen Substance Abuse: How to Spot the 10 Red Flags](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/signs-of-teen-substance-abuse/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When it comes to raising teenagers, few questions feel as heavy as “Is my teen taking drugs?” Recognising the signs of teen substance abuse early can make all the difference in helping your child before things escalate. It’s a confronting thought, but turning away from it won’t make it go away. And one of the worst mistakes you can make when parenting a teen is to hide your head in the sand when it comes to drugs. According to the [Australian Institute of Health and Welfare](https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/children-youth/young-people-alcohol-smoking-drugs): “*The use of illicit drugs remains highest among young people. In a 2023 study, it was noted that there was an increase in the number of young people aged 14-17 who had used an illicit drug in their lifetime, from 13.4% in 2019 to 18.8% in 2022–2023*.” That statistic can feel overwhelming. However, it’s important to know the facts, get educated, and hope that you never need what you learn. In this article, we’ll take you through the early signs of substance abuse in teenagers, how parents can recognise teen behaviour changes, and what to do if you think your child may be using drugs. ## 10 Warning Signs of Teen Substance Abuse Every Parent Should Know If your teen is struggling with substance use, seeking professional help early is crucial. Accessing a trusted rehab in Melbourne can provide structured support, therapeutic guidance, and a safe environment for recovery. Here are some of the most common warning signs of drug use in teens and what they may look like day to day. ## 1. Sudden Changes in Habits or Behaviour One of the first things that parents notice in a teen taking drugs is changes in habits and behaviour. For example, suddenly changing their friends or joining a new group (that maybe you don’t approve of), staying out late, frequent moodiness, depression, anger, and lying. They may also get upset and invent stories when confronted about their actions. While mood swings are common during adolescence, drastic or persistent changes may signal something deeper. ## 2. Changes in Appearance If your teen is taking drugs, you may notice intentional or unintentional changes in their appearance. You might notice a decline in personal hygiene and/or grooming, such as greasy or unwashed hair and bloodshot eyes. Some teens may experiment with different styles of fashion, piercings, and tattoos as they try to fit in with a new crowd of people. ## 3. Irresponsible or Risky Behaviour Since risk assessment is pretty much non-existent in a teenage brain, it is hard to know if they are being naturally lackadaisical or if something more sinister is occurring. Teen brains are wired for experimentation, but drugs and alcohol can impair their judgment and self-control further, causing irresponsible behaviour. Skipping classes, absenteeism, and poor grades at school can all be signs of teen substance abuse. Your teen may also have difficulties socially due to aggression and hostility. ![signs of teen substance abuse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Signs-of-teen-substance-abuse-1.jpg "Signs of teen substance abuse 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Stealing or Lying — Behavioural Signs of Teen Substance Abuse Supporting a drug habit can be expensive. That’s why teenagers may start stealing money or other items to fund their use of drugs. So, watch out if teachers, classmates, and neighbours report missing items or multiple thefts. Also check for missing jewellery and expensive electronics (these could have been pawned) in the house. This can be one of the most confronting signs, but remember, it’s a behaviour driven by addiction, not a reflection of your teen’s character. ## 5. Asking for More Money It’s normal for teens to ask their parents for extra cash from time to time. However, if this is a sudden or increasing occurrence and you don’t know where the money is going, your teen may be asking for money to buy drugs. Combined with other red flags, this may point to teen drug use. ## 6. Withdrawing from Family and Friends Is your teen frequently absent from family gatherings? Maybe they’ve stopped talking to you about their personal life or stopped asking you for advice? If they are suddenly withdrawing from parents, siblings, and family members, it may be more than the usual moodiness or teenage desire to be left alone. Instead of hanging out with you, they may be spending their time with friends who take drugs. Substance use can isolate teens — not because they don’t love their family, but because they may feel ashamed, anxious, or afraid of being found out. For some families, learning about available [addiction rehab](https://lighthousebhsolutions.com/location/zanesville-addiction-treatment/ "addiction rehab") options can be the first step toward healing and rebuilding trust. Professional treatment programs provide a safe, structured space where teens can recover while families receive guidance on how to support them through the process. Keeping communication open and judgment-free can help bridge that distance. ## 7. Sneaky or Secretive Behaviour Drug use can make teens extremely defensive and protective of their privacy. You may notice them locking doors, sneaking out at night, and avoiding eye contact. When your outgoing teen suddenly becomes sneaky and secretive (or an introverted teen crawls even further into their shell) and gets angry and even abusive when questioned, it may be time to take a closer look. Try gentle curiosity rather than confrontation, since this encourages honesty and keeps trust alive. ## 8. Finding Drug Paraphernalia in their Room One of the most common telltale signs of teen substance abuse is drug paraphernalia in their room. These can include, but are not limited to: - Syringes - Rolling papers - Pipes - Rags - Paper bags - Prescription/OTC drug containers - Inhalant products Also look for room sprays/perfumes that mask the smell of smoke and chemicals, eye drops to hide bloodshot eyes, and gum/breath mints to cover up alcohol. ![signs of teen substance abuse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Signs-of-teen-substance-abuse-2.jpg "Signs of teen substance abuse 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 9. Obvious Physical Changes When under the influence, your teen may show physical changes or symptoms, such as: - Dilated pupils - Bloodshot eyes - Track marks on arms - Trembling or unsteady movement - Extreme tiredness or changes in appetite When not actually under the influence, they may just appear tired and lacklustre with dark bags under their eyes. Unexplained weight loss or weight gain are also possible indicators that they are dabbling in something they shouldn’t have. ## 10. Lack of Motivation or Loss of Interest Substance use can drain energy and dull motivation, making even simple tasks feel impossible. Some of the signs of teen substance abuse include: - Loss of motivation or interest - Emotional instability - Inability to focus Teens taking drugs usually lose interest in school activities, hobbies they usually love, and socialising. Additionally, if you often get complaints from teachers about truancy and difficult behaviour, drug use may also be the culprit. ## What to Do If You See the Signs of Teen Substance Abuse Realising your child might be using drugs can feel terrifying, but you don’t have to face it alone. Here’s what helps: - **Stay calm and compassionate.** Your response sets the tone. Listen before lecturing. - **Have an honest conversation.** Use “I” statements (“I’ve noticed you seem different lately”) instead of accusations. - **Reach out for professional help.** Counsellors, GPs, or [teen substance abuse prevention programs](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/drugs-teenagers-parenting#if-you-suspect-your-child-is-taking-drugs) can guide you. - **Lean on your support network.** Whether it’s other single mums, trusted friends, or online communities — you deserve support too. If you’re looking for more guidance on connecting with and understanding your teenager, check out these [tips and tricks to help you navigate the teen years](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/tips-and-tricks-to-help-you-navigate-the-teen-years/). ## Signs of Teen Substance Abuse: Is My Teen Taking Drugs? Watching your teen struggle with drugs is gut-wrenching; there’s no sugar-coating it. As a single mum, I’ve felt the fear, the helplessness, and the guilt. You wonder if you missed a sign, if you were too busy, too strict, or too lenient. But here’s what I’ve learned: blame doesn’t help anyone. What helps is staying present, staying calm (even when you’re falling apart inside), and showing up with love and boundaries, over and over again. You don’t need to be the perfect parent. Some days will feel impossible, and others will give you a little sliver of hope. Just hold onto that. Reach out for support, whether it’s from other mums, professionals, or mates who get it. You’re not alone in this. And neither is your teen. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/signs-of-teen-substance-abuse/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/signs-of-teen-substance-abuse/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** addiction, drugs, teenager, addict, teens, signs of teen substance abuse --- ### [The best gift hampers for delivery in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/the-best-gift-hampers-for-delivery-in-australia/) **Published:** November 24, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you want to send a gift to a friend, family member, or colleague, but are stuck for ideas? Well, look no further than a gift hamper. There is no easier way to send a present! Gift hampers cater to a whole range of tastes – foodies, wine lovers, beer geeks, or pamper peeps – and a gorgeous gift basket is sure to delight. Here is our list of the best gift hampers for delivery in Australia. ## The best gift hampers for delivery in Australia ## [Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2f) Gift hampers from Gourmet Basket are perfect for gifting (to others and yourself) during quarantine. The company has been around since 1998 and has shipped over 100,000 gifts. Every gift hamper purchase comes with a 100% money back “happiness” guarantee, and you can choose to donate 10% of each hamper to your favourite charity. Every basket is carefully curated and filled with scrumptious items guaranteed to please the pickiest palates. We love the Perfect Pantry hamper that has everything you need for a housewarming party or just because. Includes three types of premium alcohol, storage canisters and labels, gourmet crackers with sesame seeds, dark chocolate liquorice, a cotton tea towel, and a diffuser flower. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Perfect-Pantry-Home-Hamper-914x800.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Hamper types:*** *Corporate, settlement, team and office, pamper, teacher, luxury, cooking, kitchen and baking, Australiana, international, special occasion* ***Payment options:*** *Credit cards, Zip Pay, Afterpay, PayPal, EFT payments* ***Delivery details:*** *Australia-wide delivery, starting at $14.95 for Sydney orders* ***Why we like these gift hampers:*** *Gourmet gift hampers and 100% money-back guarantee on every basket.* ## [Edible Blooms](https://fave.co/3LD2GS1) Edible Blooms is our top choice whenever we need a gift hamper that’s different and unexpected. It’s a simple but genius idea. Instead of sending flowers that die within the week, send an edible bouquet! The Lindt Chocolate Bouquet is one of their bestsellers and recommended for the chocoholics in your life. Contains 40 pieces of mixed Lindt Lindor balls in a pretty pastel arrangement (you can add a personalised note to make it more special). Each Edible Bloom gift hamper comes packaged in a delivery box with cellophane and ice packs to make sure the candy is safe and intact during transit. [![Edible Blooms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/98502.jpg "98502 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3LD2GS1) ***Hamper types:** Chocolate bouquets, fruit and doughnuts bouquets, flowers and plants, pamper, beer and wine, cheese, special occasion hampers* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** Free standard delivery over $120.00, Australia-wide shipping* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** Personalised edible gifts for the people in your life who love an unexpected surprise.* ## [iSubscribe](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) Yes, iSubscribe doesn’t only carry magazines; you can also find boxes for everyone. We love that iSubscribe has many choices for everyone, like a one-stop gift shop. Find craft materials, beauty products, food, tea, coffee, chocolate, books, seeds, and many other kinds of boxes that every kid, man, and woman in your life will love. Choose from over 100 kinds of hampers for as low as $11/month for a sticker subscription. You can also sort the boxes by popularity, price, or name. There’s literally something for everyone… even your pets! [![iSubscribe | hampers Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/The-Change-Box-Jun-2017.jpg "The-Change-Box-Jun-2017 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2f) ***Hamper types:** Craft, beauty, tea, coffee, books, liquor, recipe kits and others* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Afterpay*, *digital wallets* ***Delivery details:** All prices listed on isubscribe include delivery and handling charges.* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** Everything for kids, men and women, from socks to stickers* ## [Charity Hampers](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2f) Charity Hampers is a little bit different from your usual hamper delivery store. When you purchase a hamper, 10% of the purchase price goes to the charity of your choice at the end of the financial year. The name of the charity appears on the gift card that is attached to your hamper, and your receipt shows the donation amount. You’re essentially giving a gift to your recipient and your favourite charity–the perfect feel-good present. They have a wide variety of hampers for every occasion. Sort by price, occasion, and gender to easily find what you want. We like their 100% satisfaction guarantee that replaces a damaged basket or gives you a refund if they can’t resolve the problem. [![Charity Hampers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Sweet_Treats-2-scaled-1-600x525-1.jpg "Sweet_Treats-2-scaled-1-600x525-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2f) ***Hamper types:** Special occasion, corporate, specialty, food and wine hampers* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, PayPal, Afterpay*, *Zip, Google Pay, Apple Pay, EFT* ***Delivery details:** Starts from $14.95 in the Sydney Metro* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** 10% of the purchase price is sent to your selected charity, 100% satisfaction guarantee* ## Gift basket to Australia ## [Interflora](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/35555?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.interflora.com.au%2ftype%2fhampers) For people who love flowers and tasty edibles, there’s Interflora gift hampers. They have flowers-only gifts, flowers and edibles, and mixed hampers for any occasion. Some hampers are available in two sizes. Choose premium to bump up the size and content of your hamper—perfect for gifting to families and groups. The Simply Delicious hamper is a great savoury treat for everyday and special celebrations. Contains wafer crackers, pretzels, organic spicy salsa, caramelised onion bites, salsa peanuts, and organic olives. Comes wrapped in a beautiful box with mesh wrap and ribbon. Add extras (balloons, wine, chocolate, soft toy and flowers) to make your gift even more impressive. [![best gift hampers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Gsddyzu0qqysshr5okvv.webp "Gsddyzu0qqysshr5okvv - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/35555?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.interflora.com.au%2ftype%2fhampers)***Hamper types:** Gift baskets, food and wine, special occasion* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, Zip Pay, Afterpay* ***Delivery details:** $13 standard shipping Australia-wide* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** Flowers and edible treats in one hamper.* ## [Brewquets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62908?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbrewquets.com.au%2f) Brewquets is our shopping destination for the ultimate alcoholic gift hampers. It’s the beer equivalent of flowers and guaranteed to please husbands, dads, boyfriends, and bros. Give the gift of beer and say thank you, sorry, happy birthday or congrats. They also have beer hampers for staff at Christmas. You really can’t go wrong no matter the occasion. Their bestselling Big Brewquet contains six Australian craft beers, a blade bottle opener, a beer glass, and a personalised gift card. Add gourmet beef jerky and deluxe Wondersnack nuts for only $15. Most hampers are available for delivery with express or preferred day to make sure your gift arrives on time. [![Brewquets](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0945/9142/products/Big_Brewquets_No_Snacks_800x800_860ee934-f458-44d3-a28a-c5d9112b35d4_2048x.jpg?v=1584739325)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62908?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbrewquets.com.au%2f) ***Hamper types:** Beer, wine, cider, special occasion gifts* ***Payment options:** Credit cards, Zip Pay* ***Delivery details:** Flat rate Australia-wide shipping at $10 per case to NSW/ACT and $15 per case to all other states* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** Tasty and reasonably-priced alcoholic hampers for any occasion.* ## Final words on gift hampers Australia The world of gift hampers in Australia is diverse, catering to a wide range of tastes and occasions. Whether you’re celebrating a special event, expressing your appreciation, or simply surprising a loved one, these carefully curated hampers offer a fantastic way to convey your sentiments. From the gourmet delights of Gourmet Basket to the sweet and unexpected Edible Blooms, there’s a hamper for everyone. iSubscribe brings a unique twist with subscription boxes that cater to a variety of interests, while Charity Hampers add a feel-good touch by giving back to your chosen charity. Macarthur Baskets impresses with its extensive selection of wine and candy gifts, while Hamper Emporium delivers luxury and customisation for those seeking top-tier hampers. Interflora combines flowers and edibles for a perfect blend of beauty and taste. For the beer enthusiasts, Brewquets offers the ultimate alcoholic gift hampers, making it easy to toast to any occasion. With these fantastic options, you can find the perfect gift hamper to convey your warmest wishes and create memorable moments in Australia. Explore these choices, and you’re sure to find the ideal gift to brighten someone’s day. ***Want a hamper gift that just keeps giving? Check out this article: [30+ Subscription boxes to gift friends and family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-subscription-boxes-in-australia/).*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/hampers3.png "hampers3 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/the-best-gift-hampers-for-delivery-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/the-best-gift-hampers-for-delivery-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Father's Day, Easter, Christmas, Birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Food, Shopping **Tags:** send a gift, postal gifts, Presents, gifts, subscription box --- ### [Emotional Restoration for Single Mums: Build a Better Future](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/emotional-restoration-for-single-mums/) **Published:** November 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## Listen here… Life as a single mum can be exhilarating, exhausting, and everything in between. When the overwhelm hits hard and you feel like you’re barely holding things together, it’s easy to start believing there’s something wrong with you. But as counsellor and fellow single mum Elle Sitek shared in this episode of the *Beanstalk Real‑Talk* podcast, emotional restoration for single mums is not about fixing yourself – it’s about gently reclaiming your emotional balance and remembering who you are. In this post, we unpack the key points from that conversation and provide you with a roadmap to transition from survival mode to calm connection. You’ll hear stories of lived experience, learn how to recognise the early signs of emotional overload, discover practical tools for emotional regulation and find hope for the days when everything feels like too much. ## Breaking the Silence: Recognising Overwhelm and Shame Many mums don’t seek help until they’ve hit rock bottom. As Elle explained, women often describe a cocktail of exhaustion, shame and relief when they finally admit that they can’t keep living like this. The shame comes from feeling like they should be coping; the relief comes from finally speaking the truth. If you recognise yourself in that description, know that you are not alone. Overwhelm is not a personal failure – it’s a sign that you’ve been carrying too much for too long. ## Why We Stay in Survival Mode Society tells mums they must handle everything alone, and that any form of rest is laziness. Cultural conditioning and chronic stress loops make it hard for single mums to ask for help, so rest is often misinterpreted as weakness. Many of us function in survival mode for years because we fear that if we stop even for a second, everything will collapse. Recognising this pattern is the first step towards emotional restoration. It enables you to shift from self-blame to self-compassion. ## Elle’s Own Wake‑Up Call Elle openly shared that she, too, reached a breaking point. At her lowest, she believed her daughter would be better off without her. A vivid dream of her little girl crying out for her became the catalyst for change. That moment taught her that emotional restoration for single mums doesn’t begin with external solutions – it starts with the courage to admit you need support and the decision to take small steps towards healing. ## Listening to Your Nervous System: Early Warning Signs Emotional overload often sneaks up gradually. You might notice small shifts before a full‑blown crash. Here are some early signs that your nervous system is begging for a reset: - **Forgetfulness:** You keep misplacing items, missing appointments or forgetting basic tasks. - **Irritability:** Minor frustrations spark outsized reactions, and you find yourself snapping at your kids or yourself. - **Physical tension:** Jaw clenching, tight shoulders, or chronic headaches may be telling you something. - **Sleep disruptions:** Waking wired at 3 a.m. or falling into bed exhausted but unable to switch off. - **Emotional numbness:** Feeling detached or “checked out” can be just as much of a red flag as feeling angry or teary. Noticing these signs early gives you the chance to intervene with self‑care and support before burnout forces you to stop. If you’re experiencing persistent physical symptoms such as tummy aches, nausea or fatigue, it’s also wise to consult your GP or a health professional to rule out underlying medical issues. ## Emotional Restoration for Single Mums – Practical Tools Once you’ve recognised that your body and mind are running on empty, the next step is to find ways to reset. In the podcast, Elle offered a variety of grounding techniques that are simple enough to use in the middle of chaos. Here are some favourites: #### The 5‑4‑3‑2‑1 Sensory Check‑In When panic rises or you feel disconnected, this exercise brings you back to the present moment. Take a deep breath and name: - **5 things you can see** – look around and notice colours, shapes or light. - **4 things you can touch** – feel the fabric of your clothes, the texture of your chair or the warmth of your tea. - **3 things you can hear** – tune in to distant traffic, birdsong or the hum of the fridge. - **2 things you can smell** – perhaps coffee brewing or fresh laundry. - **1 thing you can taste** – maybe the remnants of breakfast or a mint. This quick check‑in grounds your senses and sends a signal to your nervous system that you are safe. #### Hand‑On‑Heart Breathing Elle describes calm not as controlling life but as regulating ourselves. One of her favourite strategies is a hand‑on‑heart pause: place your hand over your heart, take three slow breaths, and ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Allow the answer to be gentle – perhaps a glass of water, a stretch, or simply sitting down for a moment. Then take one small action to meet that need. This practice is the cornerstone of emotional restoration for single mums, and it works because it reconnects you to your inner wisdom and counters the urge to push through at all costs. #### The Letterbox Dash (Yes, Really!) Sometimes you need to physically move to burn off adrenaline. Elle recommended doing something unexpected, like running to your letterbox and back, or shaking out your limbs to discharge pent‑up energy. Don’t worry about how it looks – your body will thank you for it. #### Create Micro‑Moments of Calm You don’t need hours of alone time (though wouldn’t that be nice?). Look for opportunities to turn mundane tasks into grounding practices. When the kettle boils, take a moment to breathe deeply. At a red traffic light, do a mini check‑in. These small acts accumulate and help you stay regulated throughout the day. ### Watch Emotional Restoration for Single Mums Podcast on YouTube ## Letting Go of Guilt: Reframing Your Inner Critic So many mums feel guilty for slowing down, resting or asking for help. Elle emphasised that guilt is simply a signal – it shows you care, but it doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. To discern between helpful and harmful guilt: - **Useful guilt** leads to action. If you snapped at your child, the guilt nudges you to apologise and repair. - **Unhelpful guilt** loops with shame and drains your energy without offering a way forward. It sounds like “I’m a bad mum” or “I should do more,” without any clear solution. When unhelpful guilt shows up, try switching “I should” to “I choose.” For example, instead of “I should bake muffins for the school fundraiser,” say, “I choose to buy store‑bought muffins this time because my energy is limited.” This shift moves you from a place of pressure to a place of conscious choice. Over time, it rewires your self‑talk towards compassion. ## Rediscovering You: Reconnecting With Yourself and Others During the podcast, Elle encouraged mums to remember who they are beyond the never‑ending to‑do list. Emotional restoration for single mums isn’t just about feeling less overwhelmed; it’s about rekindling a sense of self. Here’s how: #### Start a Tiny Reflection Ritual Each evening, ask yourself three questions and jot down your answers: - **What drained me today?** Identifying energy drains helps you set boundaries tomorrow. - **What filled me up, even a little?** Notice small joys – a hug from your child, a warm cuppa or a good song on the radio. - **What do I need tomorrow – more or less of?** This might be more sleep, less scrolling, more connection or less rushing. This practice builds self‑awareness and helps you make small adjustments that lead to big shifts over time. #### Revisit Old Joys (and Try New Ones) What made you lose track of time before kids? Reading novels, painting, dancing to your favourite song? Bringing those activities back in small, realistic doses reminds you of the person you are beyond motherhood. If you feel stuck, try something new: consider a short online art class, journaling, or learning to knit. The goal is not productivity – it’s pleasure and reconnection. #### Finding Your People Isolation intensifies emotional overwhelm. Even one safe, understanding friend can make a huge difference. Consider joining our **[Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** community or signing up for a local support group. Virtual communities can also offer 24/7 companionship. Emotional restoration for single mums leans into reciprocal vulnerability – share a tiny truth and invite someone to meet you there. Real connections act as an anchor when everything else feels unsteady. ## Emotional Restoration for Single Mums Getting Extra Support It’s easy to tell yourself you can’t seek help because you don’t have enough money or time or because your children “come first.” Elle gently challenges these excuses. She reminds us that our well-being is the foundation for our kids’ well-being – when you feel supported and regulated, your children benefit too. Instead of saying “I can’t afford it” or “I don’t have time,” try asking “What’s one small step I can take today to feel better?” To make that first step accessible, Elle offers a **[super‑affordable and self‑paced Emotional Recovery course](https://singlemamaway.systeme.io/c0b4cdd0)**. This short program teaches you core nervous‑system tools and mindset shifts. You can work through it at your own pace, from your phone, and it costs less than a weekly takeaway. For mums who want personalised guidance, **[one‑on‑one counselling sessions](https://singlemamaway.com/product-category/counselling-services/)** are available. These sessions dive deeper into your unique story and help you unpack the beliefs and patterns keeping you stuck. If you’re ready for a more structured transformation, Elle also offers **[4‑ and 6‑week coaching programs](https://singlemamaway.com/product-category/coaching/)** that blend education, accountability and practical tools. These packages help you rebuild confidence, set healthy boundaries and design a life that feels good. Professional support doesn’t have to be out of reach. There are sliding‑scale services, community programs and payment plans for counselling. There’s a free peer community available through the [**Single Mum Vine**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) group, where you can ask questions and share experiences. What matters most is that you don’t let a lack of time or funds stop you from seeking the support you deserve. ### Tiny Emotional Reset for Busy Mums Here’s a one‑minute exercise you can do anytime. It’s simple yet profoundly grounding: > **Pause:** Sit down if possible, place your hand over your heart and take three slow breaths. > > **Ask:** “What do I need right now – not what should I be doing?” Listen to your body’s answer without judgement. > > **Act:** Write down one small thing you can do to meet that need. It could be going to bed 15 minutes earlier, drinking water, sending a voice note to a friend or stepping outside for fresh air. This micro‑reset introduces you to the core of emotional restoration single mum work: responding to yourself with kindness and commitment. When repeated daily, it rewires your nervous system to expect care instead of constant output. ## Emotional Restoration for Single Mums FAQ ### What does “emotional restoration for single mums” really mean? Emotional restoration refers to the process of replenishing your emotional energy, healing from stress and trauma and regaining a sense of inner calm. For single mums, it’s about moving from survival mode to a place where you feel grounded, connected and capable again. It involves recognising your needs, regulating your nervous system and building supportive relationships. ### How can I find emotional support as a single mum? Support can come from many places: friends, family, other single mums, counsellors, coaches or online communities. Start by telling one trusted person how you’re feeling. Join our **[Single Mum Vine Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** for a safe space to share and ask questions. If you need professional guidance, consider counselling through your GP or an online platform. ### What are some simple ways to practise emotional restoration for single mums? Small, regular rituals make a big difference. Try the hand‑on‑heart breathing or sensory check‑in above. Keep a journal and answer the daily reflection questions. Listen to your favourite song and dance, no matter how awkward it feels. Choose one night per week to go to bed early. These small acts send a message to your brain that you matter. ### When should I seek professional help? If you’re experiencing persistent anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts or if your daily functioning is impacted (e.g. not eating, sleeping or caring for your kids), please reach out to a mental‑health professional. There is no shame in asking for help. In Australia, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support), Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 for immediate support. If you are in danger, call emergency services on 000. ## Bringing It All Together Emotional restoration for single mums doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a journey of small, brave choices: choosing to notice your needs, to ask for help, to let go of unhelpful guilt and to reconnect with the things that bring you joy. Elle’s story is a testament to the fact that profound change can come from tiny steps. Remember that you deserve support and rest, no matter what society says about single mums. As you practise the tools above, you’ll begin to move from overwhelm to a place of calm, clarity and connection. If this article resonated with you, please share your thoughts in the comments below, **[sign up for our free newsletter](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts "About Beanstalk Mums – Your Reliable Single Mother Life Line")** or join our **[Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine)** community to connect with other mums on a similar path. You might also enjoy reading our posts on **[Rebuilding After Burnout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/rebuilding-after-burnout/)** and **[Navigating Conflict and Co‑Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/navigating-conflict-and-co-parenting-strategies-for-better-outcomes/)** (placeholders) for more practical wisdom. --- ## Links for this episode: 🌸 Learn more about Elle → **<https://singlemamaway.com/support-for-single-mums-start-here>** ✨ Explore the Reset & Reflect emotional recovery course → **<https://singlemamaway.systeme.io/c0b4cdd0>** 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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Counsellor and parent coach Sarah Florenze shares lived-experience wisdom and simple tools to help overwhelmed mums steady themselves, calm anxious kids, and swap the pressure of perfect parenting for connection and growth. ## **Sarah’s story: lived experience, real tools Sarah began as a primary school teacher, later completing a Master’s in Counselling and Psychotherapy while parenting two young kids. She’s open about growing up with anxiety and how that fuels her compassion and practical approach today. Her work blends therapy with parent coaching (informed by conscious-parenting principles) to support families in everyday moments that matter most. ## **Perfection vs connection (and why mindset matters)** - **Perfectionism is a protection strategy.** It often hides fear of failure, criticism or a need for control. When we feel unsafe or unsure what to do, many of us tighten our grip. - **Swap “perfect” for “present.”** Sarah’s mantra: *We’re not aiming for perfection; we’re aiming for connection.* Small, steady moments of attunement beat flawless lunchboxes or colour-coded routines. - **Notice your activations.** If your child’s behaviour sets something off in you, that’s information. Get curious, then respond instead of reacting. - **See your child “as is.”** They’re not a reflection of you; they’re a whole person with their own temperament, needs and timing. ## The Truth About Perfect Parenting & Ways to Calm Anxious Kids (Continued) ## **Signs your child may need extra support Consider reaching out for help if worries or big feelings are: - **Persistent** over weeks (not just a rough day) - **Interfering** with sleep, school or appetite - **Intense** (frequent meltdowns or distress hard to settle) - **Physical** (ongoing tummy aches, nausea, fatigue) First, check in with your **GP** to rule out medical issues. If needed, add a mental-health professional (counsellor, psychologist) for deeper emotional patterns, or a **parent coach** for day-to-day strategies that reduce stress at home. ## **Counselling vs parent coaching (quick guide) - **Counselling/Therapy:** Registered professional; explores deeper emotional patterns, past experiences and mental-health concerns; evidence-informed treatment and support. - **Parent Coaching:** Pragmatic, present-focused strategies; builds routines, scripts and tools for daily challenges; reduces stress and improves the parent-child dynamic. Many families benefit from **both** at different times. ## **Tiny Tool #1: The Night-Walk Star Chat (10 minutes) A soothing ritual to calm anxious kids (and you). - **Step outside** after dark with a small torch and a warm drink. - **Look up together** and ask: *“What felt OK today?” “What brought you joy?”* - **Keep it light**, unrushed and screen-free. This unusual, yet simple ritual signals safety and helps the body downshift before bed. ## **Tiny Tool #2: The 20-Minute “Child-Led” Time Do this **daily if you can** (or **3× per week**): - **Schedule it:** “In an hour, I’m all yours for 20 minutes—what shall we do?” - **Let them choose:** Trains, drawing, Bluey cuddles, nail-painting—no corrections. - **Be all in:** Put your phone in another room and follow their lead. - **End with warmth:** “I loved that time with you.” Consistency builds connection, confidence and calm. ## **Gentle reframes to Calm Anxious Kids** - “Big feelings aren’t bad feelings. They’re messages.” - “Mistakes are learning in disguise.” - “I don’t have to fix this perfectly. I can be with it, kindly.” - “Calm is contagious—starting with me.” --- ## **Links for this episode:** 🌸 **[Keep Growing Counselling](https://www.keepgrowingcounselling.com.au/)** — Explore the work of Sarah Florenze 👶 [**Triple P – Positive Parenting Program** ](https://www.triplep-parenting.net.au/au/triple-p/)(free/low-cost options in many areas). 📖 [**What Happens to Our Kids When We Fail to Grow Up?**](https://www.maggiehamilton.org/new-book) – Book by Maggie Hamilton. ✨ [**Raising Children Network** ](https://raisingchildren.net.au/toddlers/health-daily-care/mental-health/anxiety-in-children)(Australian, evidence-based guides for anxiety at every age). 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! ## **Helplines (Australia)** - **[Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/about/contact-us):** 13 11 14 (available 24/7 for crisis support). If life is in danger, call **000**. - **[Beyond Blue](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/partners/beyondblue):** 1300 22 4636 (24/7 mental health support via phone, web chat**,** and email). - **[Kids Helpline](https://kidshelpline.com.au):** 1800 55 1800 (24/7 for kids/teens/parents). ❤️ **Care note:** This article is general information, not medical advice. Please seek professional guidance for your situation. ## **Ready to try one thing today? Tonight, do the **Night-Walk Star Chat** or 20 minutes of **child-led** play. Breathe slower than your child, keep your tone warm, and end with, *“Thank you for sharing that with me.”* Calm is a practice—not a personality. ***If this helped, share it with a mum who needs a softer day.*** Want more gentle support to calm anxious kids and care for yourself? Join our community and try a mini tool from our [**“You’ve Got This” e-course.**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Calm Anxious Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/truth-about-perfect-parenting-ways-to-calm-anxious-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/truth-about-perfect-parenting-ways-to-calm-anxious-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast **Tags:** parenting, anxiety, Calm Anxious Kids, children, soothing, perfection --- ### [Online Christmas Shopping: Clever Ways to Save Big This Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/money-saving-online-christmas-shopping/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Online Christmas shopping has become the unofficial sport of December — especially for mums who don’t have the time, energy, or desire to drag kids through crowded shopping centres while carols play at a volume no human asked for. The beauty of doing your Christmas buying online is that it gives you room to breathe, compare, plan, and actually enjoy the process instead of sweating your way through packed aisles. And with the right tricks up your sleeve, you can score better prices, avoid overwhelm, and feel like the savvy queen you are. Below is your guide to making online Christmas shopping easier, cheaper, and far more joyful. ## Why Online Christmas Shopping Is a Mum’s Secret Superpower Christmas shopping traditionally meant loading up the car, wrestling for a parking spot, dodging sales staff, and herding children while whispering “please behave” through clenched teeth. Online Christmas shopping, however, flips the script entirely. You can shop at 10 pm in your comfiest pyjamas, with no queues, no pressure, and no judgement about how much chocolate you’ve eaten. Here’s why mums adore it: ### Easier Price Comparison for Online Christmas Shopping Gone are the days of visiting five different stores to compare prices. Google now does it for you in seconds. Type in the gift, tap “Shopping,” and you’ll instantly see the price, shipping cost, and availability across multiple retailers. It’s the most stress-free way to avoid paying more than you need to. ### More Stock and Better Variety Online retailers pull their stock from giant warehouses, which means fewer empty shelves and a bigger range to choose from. Instead of driving across town to hunt down a specific toy or gadget, you can find it online and have it shipped straight to your door. ### Exclusive Online Specials and Discounts Retailers want you to shop online — so they lure you in with juicy digital-only deals. These include: - online-only discount codes - bundle offers - surprise promos - loyalty benefits When you find something in-store, it’s absolutely worth checking online to see if you can grab it cheaper. ### No Pushy Salespeople (Bless) Sometimes you just don’t have the energy for a forced “Hello! How’s your day going?” followed by a persuasive pitch. Online Christmas shopping lets you browse at your own pace, in silence, with nobody trying to upsell you to a deluxe bundle you never needed. ### Online Christmas Shopping Offers Unmatched Convenience No parking dramas, no crowds. No screaming toddlers (unless they’re yours, in which case snacks solve everything)—just a smooth shopping experience from start to finish — most with free or low-cost delivery. ![Online Christmas Shopping: Clever Ways to Save Big This Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/In-article-images-2025-11-23t142809%20311.jpg "Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## Money-Saving Hacks for Online Christmas Shopping You’re already saving time and sanity — now let’s save you money too. ### 1. Use the “Shopping Cart Tease” Trick One of the cheekiest hacks in online Christmas shopping: Add an item to your cart, stay logged in… and walk away. Retailers hate abandoned carts. Many will email you a discount code or a special offer to tempt you back. It doesn’t always happen, but when it does, it’s delicious. ### 2. Grab a Free Amazon Prime Trial [Amazon Prime](https://amzn.to/2KvjTf9) gives you: - super-fast shipping - free delivery - access to Prime deals - bonus ebooks, games, and shows And the best bit? The free 30-day trial. Time it perfectly for your Christmas shopping period, enjoy the perks, and cancel before the month ends if it’s not for you. ### 3. Use the Honey App to Find Hidden Discounts [Honey is one of the best tools](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/honey-automatic-coupons-r/bmnlcjabgnpnenekpadlanbbkooimhnj?hl=en-GB) for online Christmas shopping because it: - finds lower prices for the same item - alerts you when a similar product is cheaper - automatically applies coupon codes at checkout It does the mental load so you don’t have to. ### 4. Read the Product Reviews (Properly) A five-star average means nothing if the reviews are from 2018. Always check: - recent reviews - detailed comments - feedback on delivery and returns - signs of fake reviews Use tools like **[Fakefind.ai](https://fakefind.ai/)** to help you avoid dodgy sellers and misleading ratings. ### 5. Clear Your Browser History Before Going Online Christmas Shopping Yes, it’s spooky… but prices can increase if a website notices you’ve been viewing the same item repeatedly. Clearing your browsing history or shopping in “incognito mode” helps you appear as a brand-new customer, preventing price hikes. A little dramatic? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. ### 6. Keep an Eye on Amazon Lightning Deals If you’re an Amazon Prime member, you get early access to Lightning Deals — short-term, heavily discounted items that sell out fast. You can also “Watch the Deal” and get notified before it goes live. Perfect for snapping up bargains before the rest of the world realises. ### 7. Pay Safely and Protect Yourself Avoid using your debit card for online Christmas shopping. Here’s why: - Debit cards offer less protection if something goes wrong. - Credit cards often include purchase protection. - [PayPal adds another layer of security](https://www.paypal.com/au/webapps/mpp/faster-and-safer-way-to-buy-and-sell2?gclid=Cj0KCQiA_s7fBRDrARIsAGEvF8Qb2_2Fg2ZbvcoCv01jmQU3BuX64iHxazOzi3hpz_GIiVCt6_eFtAoaAkldEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds) without exposing your card details. - Using a dedicated “online only” card helps keep your savings safe. Online gift buying should be fun, not financially risky. ![Why Online Christmas Shopping Is a Mum’s Secret Superpower](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/In-article-images-2025-11-23t142707%20611.jpg "Beanstalk mums article - Beanstalk Mums") ## Extra Clever Tips for Stress-Free Online Christmas Shopping Because every little bit helps. ### 8. Sign Up for Store Newsletters (Then Unsubscribe Later) Retailers often give a first-time sign-up discount code. Grab the deal, make your purchase, and feel free to unsubscribe afterwards. ### 9. Use Price Trackers Websites and apps like CamelCamelCamel and PriceHipster show a product’s price history, so you know whether you’re buying at the best time — or whether you should wait a little longer. ### 10. Check Delivery Dates Early Nothing stings quite like a package arriving on the *27th*. Trust me, I’ve been there. When doing online Christmas shopping, always check: - estimated delivery - dispatch times - seller location - Christmas cut-off dates Order early, avoid heartbreak. ### 11. Don’t Forget Cashback Sites Cashback platforms reward you for simply clicking through their links before you shop. It might only be a few dollars each time, but it really adds up in December. ### 12. Keep a Running List of What You’ve Bought Because we’ve all forgotten we purchased something online at 11 pm and ended up double-buying. A simple note on your phone keeps the whole thing tidy and budget-friendly. ## Make Online Christmas Shopping Your New Holiday Tradition With the right approach, online Christmas shopping becomes less of a chore and more of a clever mum superpower — saving you time, money, and mental load. You get the best prices, the biggest selection, and the freedom to choose gifts in a calm, comfy environment (bonus points if you’re doing it with a cuppa and a quiet house). This year, give yourself the gift of ease. You deserve it. ## In need of Christmas gift ideas? Look no further … [25 Gift ideas for young girls (primary school age)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gift-ideas-young-girls/) [25 Gifts ideas for young boys (primary school age)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-young-boys/) [Gifts for Teenage Girls: Cool Ideas They’ll Actually Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teenage-girls-which-have-nothing-to-do-with-iphones/) [More Excellent Gift Ideas For Teenage Boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/24-gifts-for-teenage-boys-that-have-nothing-to-with-gaming/) [The best gift hampers for delivery in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-gift-hampers-for-delivery-in-australia/) [75+ Brilliant gift ideas for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/75-brilliant-gift-ideas-for-mums/) [22 Homemade Christmas gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/) [12 Hilarious Christmas gift ideas for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-christmas-gifts-for-your-ex/) [30 Cute little stocking stuffers for little girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cute-little-stocking-stuffers-for-little-girls/) [Christmas Stocking Fillers for Boys: Gifts To Make Them Happy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-cool-stocking-fillers-for-little-boys/ "Awesome Christmas Stocking Fillers For Boys") [50 Christmas gift ideas for men under $50](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/50-gifts-for-dad-for-under-50/) [10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/) [Cheap yet life-changing Christmas gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-life-changing-gifts-friends-family/) [15 Christmas gift ideas for a newish boyfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-gift-ideas-for-a-newish-boyfriend/) [17 Gift for teachers which they’ll actually really like](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teachers-which-theyll-actually-really-like/) [30+ Subscription boxes to gift friends and family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/30-subscription-boxes-in-australia/) [![online Christmas shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Money-saving-hacks-Christmas-shopping-2.png "Money saving hacks Christmas shopping 2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://au.pinterest.com/BeanstalkSingleMums) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/money-saving-online-christmas-shopping/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/money-saving-online-christmas-shopping/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, buying gifts, amazon, returns, paypal, secure shopping, honey, fakespot --- ### [How much are divorce costs in Australia?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-much-does-a-divorce-costs/) **Published:** November 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It’s a simple question, with a reasonably simple answer. How much are divorce costs in Australia? Firstly, and for anyone new to the separation process, you need to know that your divorce is a separate process from your [Financial Settlement/Separation](https://www.turnbullhill.com.au/services/family-de-facto-law/family-law-separation-agreements/). Here is an explanation of both. > *Financial Settlement (also referred to as Property Settlement) is the division of couple’s combined Net Assets (Net Assets are Total Assets such as real estate, cards less liabilities such as mortgages, loans, credit card debts).* > > *Divorce is an order by a court that officially ends a marriage. Financial/property settlement, parenting orders and child support are not part of the divorce application.* This means that your Financial Settlement is the more complex and costlier of the two matters. Divorce, in most cases, is straightforward. Here is everything you need to know regarding divorce fees in Australia. ## How Are Divorce Costs in Australia? When you get divorced, you are required to pay a divorce filing fee. As of July 2023, the cost of a divorce in Australia is $1060; however, you may be eligible for a reduced fee of $350 if you hold a concession card or if paying the full fee results in financial hardship. ## Am I Entitled to Apply for Reduced Divorce Costs? To apply for the reduced divorce fee, you will need to fit into one of the following criteria: > *You hold any of the following cards issued by the Department of Human Services: health care card, pensioner concession card, Commonwealth seniors health card or any other card issued by the Department of Human Services or the Department of Veterans’ Affairs that certifies your entitlement to Commonwealth health concessions, or* > *You have been granted Legal Aid, or* > *You are receiving youth allowance, Austudy or ABSTUDY payments, orYou are aged 18 or under or an inmate of a prison or otherwise legally detained in a public institution.* ## What If None Of The Above Apply To Me, but I can’t Afford The Divorce Costs If none of the points above apply to you, but paying the full divorce fee would cause you financial hardship, you may still be eligible for the reduced fee. You can take a three-part test (as part of your divorce application or via the link further on in this article) to assess whether the fee should be reduced. The test will assess your: - Income - Day-to-day living expenses - Liabilities and assets - If you meet the requirements of each of the three parts of the test a reduction in your divorce fee will be granted. ## How Do I Apply for Divorce Costs Reduction? To apply for a reduction of divorce fee, complete one of the forms and provide supporting evidence of eligibility. If you are applying for a reduction of divorce fee for one of the general reasons listed above, i.e. as a concession card holder, complete this form: [Application for reduction of payment of divorce or decree nullity –](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/forms/app-reduction-divorce-nullity-gen)[ general](http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/forms-and-fees/court-forms/form-topics/Family+Law/form-application-reduction-divorce-decree-of-nullity-general) If you are applying for a reduction of divorce fees because of financial hardship, complete this form: [Application for reduction of payment of divorce or decree nullity – financial hardship](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/forms/app-reduction-divorce-nullity-fin) ![divorce costs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-karola-g-7876051-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-7876051 - Beanstalk Mums") ## I Meet The Requirements for A Divorce Fee Application, But My Ex Doesn’t If you are applying for divorce together and meet the requirements for a reduced divorce fee, but your ex-partner does not, the full fee for the divorce will apply. All applicants must meet the requirements. ## Which is Cheaper Between A Sole Divorce or A Joint Divorce? Whether you do a [sole divorce or a joint divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/difference-between-sole-and-joint-divorce/), the cost of the divorce is the same. As noted above, all applicants must meet the requirements for a reduced divorce fee; therefore, applying as a sole applicant may be cheaper if only one of you meets the requirements. However, the process for applying for a sole divorce is different and requires serving papers from one of you to the other. ## What Does a Fee Reduction Cover? The fee reduction applies only to the divorce filing fee. It does not cover court fees or any other services related to your divorce application. ## Does GST Apply to Court Fees? No, GST does not apply to divorce fees. ## When Do I Need to Pay for My Divorce? Payment for a divorce is required at the time of application. ## How Can I Pay For My Divorce? Payment can be made with your online application via the website of the [Federal Circuit and Family Court (FCFCA)](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/) using a Visa or Mastercard credit/debit card. ## Get Started With Your Divorce Application We have answered your question: How much does a divorce cost? Now you may be ready to apply. The easiest way to apply for a divorce is online via the website of the [Federal Circuit and Family Court (FCFCA)](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/). Register and start your divorce application here. [Divorce – I want to apply.](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/apply) This article covers everything you need to know about ‘How much does a divorce cost’. If you have more questions about your divorce, read this article, which covers all other areas of applying for a divorce: [How to get a divorce in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-divorce-in-australia/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-much-does-a-divorce-costs/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-much-does-a-divorce-costs/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** divorce, divorce fees, divorce cost, divorce application, reduced divorce fee --- ### [More Excellent Gift Ideas For Teenage Boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-teenage-boys/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ever found yourself staring at a blank gift list, thinking, *“What on earth do teenage boys even like these days?”* Don’t worry — you’re in very good company. Choosing the right **gift ideas for teenage boys** can feel like trying to decode a language no one has officially translated yet. So we’ve done the digging for you and pulled together a collection of genuinely cool gifts they’ll actually appreciate. From clever tech and fun outdoor gear to practical bits that help them stay organised (or at least pretend to be), this list covers all the bases. Whatever your teen is into, these thoughtful picks will spark inspiration… and might even earn you a rare smile or a surprise hug. Or, if you have a teenage girl to buy for, try: [24 Gifts for teenage girls that have nothing to do with iphones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teenage-girls-which-have-nothing-to-do-with-iphones/). ## Pop Up Tent First on our list of gifts for teenage boys is an awesome pop-up tent for him and his buddies. It can fit three people comfortably and is super easy to set up. ![Three person pop up tent | gift ideas teenage boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/16510590550046-800x800.jpg "16510590550046 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Oryn7Z) ## Vitamins as gift ideas for teenage boys Boost your teen’s immunity with a vitamin supplement to help him stay on top his game everyday. Make sure he is well-equipped to tackle these challenging teenage years. [![Herbal Supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/88.jpg "88 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://iherb.prf.hn/l/ZYNa3wY) Available at: [iHerb](https://iherb.prf.hn/l/ZYNa3wY) ## Funny Toilet Book Don’t let your teen waste time on the loo while they poo. Give them a copy of this book so they’ll never run out of things to do. [![Funny Toilet Book | gift ideas teenage boys](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/3179s9RROTL._SY498_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/rnbqPv) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/rnbqPv) ## Night Light Give your Star Wars fan a super cool colour-changing nightlight that will geek up their bedroom. Choose from 3 iconic scenes: Death Star, Millenium Falcon, or R2D2. [![Night Light](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61OP7xfQSyL._AC_SX466_.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/12475?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.crazysales.com.au%2fonline-3-pattern-16-colors-3d-star-wars-night-light-star-wars-3d-lamp-birthday-gifts-for-star-wars-fans-262335.html) Available at: [Fantastic Furniture](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66364?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.fantasticfurniture.com.au%2fCategories%2fPromotional%2fNew-Arrivals%2fStar-Wars-Lamp-Shade%2fp%2fSTWLAMSHAOOOOOOMUL) ## Basketball Stand This freestanding basketball stand with an adjustable pole is all about convenience. Your teen can now practice his shots anywhere in your own home. [![Basketball Stand | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h87/hda/13581401260062.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/kjb1qL) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kjb1qL) ## Wallet You can’t go wrong buying a teen boy a place to stash his cash. The cooler the wallet, the better. Think of popular brands like Quicksilver, Nike and Billabong. [![Wallet](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dw372bf3f7/images/20285415/20285415-03-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-dimension-wallet%2F20285415-03.html) Available at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fbillabong-dimension-wallet%2F20285415-03.html) ## Personalised Keyring A key holder this stylish will instantly turn your teen into a responsible adult. Or not, but hopefully he never loses his keys again. ![Personalised Keyring | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/assets/full/COLW122-BLACK.jpg?20220328154950) Available at: Gifts Australia ## Beanie For winter and cooler evenings, teens boys love to keep themselves warm with a stylish beanie. Don’t go too expensive as they are easily lost! [![Beanie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/ABYHA00325-BLK-1-640x800.jpg "ABYHA00325-BLK-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/65605?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.sds.com.au%2farch-patch-beanie%2fABYHA00325.html%3fdwvar_ABYHA00325_color%3dBLK%26dwvar_ABYHA00325_size%3d1SZ%26cgid%3d%23q%3dbeanie%26lang%3den_AU%26start%3d1) Available at: [Surf Dive n Ski](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/65605?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.sds.com.au%2farch-patch-beanie%2fABYHA00325.html%3fdwvar_ABYHA00325_color%3dBLK%26dwvar_ABYHA00325_size%3d1SZ%26cgid%3d%23q%3dbeanie%26lang%3den_AU%26start%3d1) ## Gifts ideas for teenage boys (cont.) ## Punching Bag We love punching bag kits that come complete with gloves and removable chains. Great for teens who are into martial arts, boxing or general fitness training. [![Punching Bag | gift ideas teenage boys](https://li0.rightinthebox.com/images/640x640/202009/dlvf1599726069781.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/556do3) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/556do3) ## Air Pods Our list of gift ideas for teenage boys won’t be complete without air pods. Get this trendy pair as a backup or replacement for their iPhone pods. [![Air Pods ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71NTi82uBEL._AC_SL1500_.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DVeEmo) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/DVeEmo) ## Festival Survival Kit Absolute genius! This festival survival kit comes with a bottle opener and torch combo, spork, earplugs and waterproof poncho. Your teen will be super-ready for their next fest. [![Festival Survival Kit | gift ideas teenage boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/1-8dbd86cc80-wf2fsk01-1000a.webp "1-8dbd86cc80-wf2fsk01-1000a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ZQYXgz) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/ZQYXgz) ## Electric razor Now your teen can shave like a man. Make sure he has the right tool for the job by gifting him a good quality electric razor. [![Shaver](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/011867_4-653x800.png "011867_4 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fseries-7-wet--and-dry-electric-shaver-with-precision-trimmer-head--and-clean--and-charge-station-011867.html%3fcgid%3dall-electric-shavers) Available at: [Shaver Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fseries-7-wet--and-dry-electric-shaver-with-precision-trimmer-head--and-clean--and-charge-station-011867.html%3fcgid%3dall-electric-shavers) ## Wireless Bluetooth Speaker Get the party started anywhere with this stylish bluetooth speaker. Comes with manual voice control and 360-degre stereo surround sound. [![Wireless Bluetooth Speaker | gift ideas teenage boys](https://assets.kogan.com/images/supperstore/SRE-SRE-CT0900-Blue/1-ac3139e645-x0hxzkg.png)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/5bZJo2) Available at: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/5bZJo2) ## More gift ideas for teenage boys ## Grooming Kit They might not want to admit it but even teen boys like to look after their skin. Save them the embarrassment of buying it themselves with a kit containing everything they need. [![Grooming Kit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/45382566772766-800x800.jpg "45382566772766 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/LKVL7L) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/LKVL7L) ## Gaming Chair A gaming chair that lights up? With headrest speakers in 2.0 stereo sound? And it’s a rocker? Your teen will absolutely love this. The perfect chair to take gaming to the next level. [![Gaming Chair | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h26/hce/31189592637470.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/DVvkXy) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/DVvkXy) ## Lava Lamp You can’t go wrong with a traditional lava lamp and we’re sure your teen boy will love it too. It adds instant style to any room. [![Lava Lamp](https://assets.kogan.com/images/professorplum/PPM-2163938197553/1-4b027c4094-image_1b40da66-d93c-417f-9c32-74196be10e75.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/Qjo97M) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/Qjo97M) ## A thrill experience Give your teen the gift of adventure. What teenage boy wouldn’t want to fly a plane, experience a helicopter ride or do a skydive. Bragging rights for years to come! [![Skydiving | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.everythingaustralia.com/resources/cache/958x510/1/categories/Skydiving-Australia.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84747?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thrillexperiences.com.au%2fsearch%2fskydive%2f) Available at: [Thrill Experiences](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84747?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thrillexperiences.com.au%2fsearch%2fskydive%2f) ## Gifts ideas for teenage boys (cont.) ## Toy Car Building Set Just because he’s a teen now doesn’t mean he has to let go of his love for toy cars. Support his hobbies while also helping him develop creative thinking and problem solving skills with a Lego set. [![Toy Car Building Set](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/42138_alt1-1067x800.webp "42138_alt1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=46079&murl=https://www.lego.com/en-au/product/ford-mustang-shelby-gt500-42138) Available at: [Lego](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=46079&murl=https://www.lego.com/en-au/product/ford-mustang-shelby-gt500-42138) ## Digital Watch Every teen needs a digital watch that’s made for adventure. We particularly like this rugged and basic watch from Fila that has a stopwatch and is water resistant up to 50m. [![Digital Watch | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/ha3/h12/30228214415390.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/2rvWxD) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/2rvWxD) ## Spud Gun A potato zapper gun completes our list of gifts for teenage boys. This a great alternative to the Super Soaker as it shoots both water and potato pellets to dominate enemies in a spud war. [![Spud Gun](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-die-cast-spud-gun-potato-shooter-2_2000x2000.jpg?v=1583807941)](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOeKYn) Available at: [Big W Marketplace](https://bigw.sjv.io/kOeKYn) ## Tackle Box Teens who love fishing need their very own tackle box. The Jarvis Walker kit contains 125 pieces, including hooks, lures, and swivels designed to catch flathead. [![Tackle Box | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hbd/h87/11345763958814.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/QOM6BY) Available at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/QOM6BY) ## Our final pick of gift ideas for teenage boys ## Remote Control Drone Looking for a drone for your teenager? We love this beginner-friendly rig that has a 4K camera, WiFi connectivity, and easy-to-use controls. [![Remote Control Drone - gift ideas for teenage boys](https://i.ibb.co/1mSQ1c8/2.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxEk1a) Available at: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VxEk1a) ## Duffel Bag A sporty bag that’s spacious and stylish is a must for active teens who travel. We like this one from Nike that has heaps of pockets for easy organisation. And it’s made from 665% recycled material. [![Duffel Bag | gift ideas teenage boys](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dwc7ea02e5/images/20329656/20329656-01-BK-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fnike-brasilia-9.5-duffle-bag%2F20329656-01.html) Available at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fnike-brasilia-9.5-duffle-bag%2F20329656-01.html) ## New Beddings Instantly upgrade your teen’s room with a cool bedding set, like this gamer controller quilt cover set. Choose a colourful design that does not fade easily, and the microfiber material is super soft to the touch. [![New Beddings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/gamer-controller-quilt-cover-set-single-double-queen-gaming-playstation-xbox-9795305_00.webp "gamer-controller-quilt-cover-set-single-double-queen-gaming-playstation-xbox-9795305_00 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/zxEKJe) Available at: [Big W Marketplace](https://bigw.sjv.io/zxEKJe) ## Final words: Gift ideas for teenage boys In the quest to find the perfect gifts for teenage boys, we’ve embarked on a journey filled with creativity and practicality. The year 2023 has brought about a digital revolution, and our list reflects this with technological marvels like Air Pods, Bluetooth speakers, and digital watches. But we also recognize the importance of balance, encouraging outdoor activities with items like pop-up tents, basketball stands, and tackle boxes. Teens are often in need of some organisation, and our selection of wallets, grooming kits, and duffel bags serves as a nod to their growing responsibilities. We even offer a touch of nostalgia with a traditional lava lamp that can add flair to their rooms. Furthermore, we’ve explored the world of experiences, allowing you to gift them adventures and bragging rights they’ll cherish for years. From flying a plane to skydiving, the possibilities are endless. In the end, this diverse list of gifts for teenage boys is not just about the items themselves, but the thought and care you put into choosing something that resonates with their unique interests and passions. So, whether it’s a digital gadget, sports equipment, or an exciting experience, these gifts are sure to earn you a grateful smile, or even that elusive teenage hug. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-teenage-boys/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-for-teenage-boys/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, teenagers, gift ideas, birthday, Xmas --- ### [Christmas Stocking Fillers for Boys: Gifts To Make Them Happy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-stocking-fillers-for-boys/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Christmas morning is magical, but what makes it more exciting are the great stocking stuffers tucked inside each sock. But if your kids love a lot of cartoon characters and are into almost everything, choosing gifts can turn into a challenge. Not anymore, my fellow mum! I feel you and I’ve been there, so I made a list of stocking fillers for boys that work for kids of all ages. Whether you’re shopping for tween boys, young kids, or teens and young adults, this list of stocking stuffers has plenty of options for kids who can’t get enough of fun surprises. ***Further reading: [10 Practical gifts ideas for kids that they won’t find boring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/practical-gift-ideas-for-kids/)*** ## **15 Christmas stocking stuffer ideas** ## **1. LEGO action figure** Nothing screams Christmas gifts like a pack of LEGO. Boys of all ages can’t get enough of these bricks that fuel imagination. Whether your little one is “The Mandalorian” or a “Star Wars” fan in general, there’s a LEGO for them. Plus, they’re small enough to fit in any stocking! [![LEGO action figure | stocking fillers for boys](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/48517/lego-76259-dc-comics-super-heroes-batman-construction-figure-11607657_00.jpg?v=tUcKM1721669644&imgclass=dealpageimage)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/bOaYdm) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/bOaYdm) ## **2. Kanoodle puzzle** Kanoodle is a portable puzzle cube that will give boys hours of fun. They will love the challenge of trying to solve this wacky 3D puzzle that’s just the right size to fit in a stocking. It’s perfect for big and little kids alike, giving them something fun and brainy to play with after opening presents. [![Kanoodle puzzle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/76c21441-5e42-4436-91f0-def860ad90c9.jpg "76c21441-5e42-4436-91f0-def860ad90c9 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Oer7AK) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/Oer7AK) ## **3. Glow-in-the-dark art studio** If you are looking for a fun, creative gift for your little artist, the Glow Art Studio from Crayola is the perfect pick! Nothing amazes kids more than toys that glow in the dark! With a cool Light Wand, kids can draw on a glow-in-the-dark canvas that magically fades, letting them create endless masterpieces. It’s a gift that’ll keep them entertained for hours! [![Glow-in-the-dark art studio | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Ebc241ee-df66-41a0-b31b-e4c36efdd731.jpg "Ebc241ee-df66-41a0-b31b-e4c36efdd731 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/vPNYdW) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/vPNYdW) ## **4. Waboba moon ball** For boys who love a bit of action, the Waboba moon ball is the perfect stocking stuffer. It bounces to the moon and back. Well, almost. This fast-paced ball is a blast to play with indoors or out. Boys will love seeing how high they can make it bounce! [![Waboba moon ball](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/B39baf7f-e37e-4a36-9207-85ca84860db8.jpg "B39baf7f-e37e-4a36-9207-85ca84860db8 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/4GPXVL)I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/4GPXVL) ## **5. Bluetooth shower speaker** Next on my list of stocking stuffers is a Bluetooth shower speaker for the music-loving boys. This nifty gadget is easy to install and can turn any bathtime into a mini-concert. It’s a fun way to let kids listen to their favourite tunes while splashing around in the tub. [![Bluetooth shower speaker  | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/3564b85f-2a6c-414f-b662-c9508fd06ca2.jpg "3564b85f-2a6c-414f-b662-c9508fd06ca2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/N9k7aP) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/N9k7aP) ## **Best gifts for little boys on Christmas morning (cont.)** ## **6. Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza card game** Boys love fast-paced card games, and Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza is as wild as it sounds. This game is easy to play and super fun, making it a perfect stocking stuffer for tweens and teens. It’s small, wacky, and will definitely bring out the laughs. Plus, it’s like UNO but even more chaotic, exactly what kids want to play after tearing open their gifts. [![Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza card game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/24a05c7e-9cc0-4623-9c2a-53d4edbd9d87.jpg "24a05c7e-9cc0-4623-9c2a-53d4edbd9d87 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/K0j75v) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/K0j75v) ## **7. Dinosaur headband** Why not surprise the boys with a fun dino headlamp in their stockings? This silly accessory makes a great stocking stuffer for kids who love pretending to be a T-Rex or raptor. Kids will love wearing it around the house throughout the holiday, and it’s adjustable too! [![Dinosaur headband | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/46d75248-4ef4-41dd-b4b3-2cf2837596a5.jpg "46d75248-4ef4-41dd-b4b3-2cf2837596a5 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/mO5Ydy) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/mO5Ydy) ## **8. Rainbow 3D pin art board toy** The Rainbow pin art board toy is something both kids and adults will enjoy! This is one of the most unique and fun fidget toys I’ve seen so far. This cool sensory toy lets your child create awesome handprint sculptures or funky shapes by pressing them into colourful pins. It’s perfect for imaginative play and helps with fine motor skills. [![Rainbow 3D pin art board toy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/3cf7f598-409e-4e80-b262-875405af24eb.jpg "3cf7f598-409e-4e80-b262-875405af24eb - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/09W6aN) I found this at: [Big W Marketplace](https://bigw.sjv.io/09W6aN) ## **9. Bath bombs** Who says bath bombs are just for girls? Boys will love bath bombs too, especially ones that come with cool themes like superheroes or outer space. Bath bombs make bathtime more fun, turning the water into colourful swirls. It’s a great stocking stuffer idea for younger boys and tweens who still enjoy splashing around in the tub. [![Bath bombs | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Dff013f4-13d1-4a39-9145-b61100d9f23b.jpg "Dff013f4-13d1-4a39-9145-b61100d9f23b - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/qz4Ydq) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/qz4Ydq) ## **Gift ideas for stocking fillers (cont).** ## **10. LED bike lights** Teen boys who love riding their bikes will be thrilled to find LED bike lights in their stockings. These lights are easy to install and make riding at night safer and way cooler. [![LED bike lights](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1ec5efb6-cabe-445a-8bec-6b18ac402f97.jpg "1ec5efb6-cabe-445a-8bec-6b18ac402f97 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/DyK7xG) I found this at: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/DyK7xG) ## **11. UNO card game** Now, older kids can play the classic game of matching cards that everyone loves. Multiple levels for different ages! [![UNO card game | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/C5c5dbc0-9032-416d-be01-7c901b4c2f19.jpg "C5c5dbc0-9032-416d-be01-7c901b4c2f19 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/kjdmDd) We found this at:[ Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/kjdmDd) ## **12. Astronaut pencil sharpener** Let them blast off to sharper pencils with this Astronaut pencil sharpener. It’s perfect for space lovers of all ages! They can simply pop their pencil into the helmet, give the crank a twist, and watch this little astronaut bring their pencil to a precise point. With a handy pull-out tray for easy clean-up and adjustable sharpening settings, it’s practical fun that’s out of this world! [![Astronaut pencil sharpener](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Bf2003a0-01aa-4793-98ef-559a26f5e61c.jpg "Bf2003a0-01aa-4793-98ef-559a26f5e61c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fastronaut-pencil-sharpener) I found this at: [Cool Things](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/83731?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.coolthings.com.au%2fastronaut-pencil-sharpener) ## **13. Washable crayons** Make bath time a blast with these 8pc Bath Time washable crayons! Perfect for little artists aged 3 and up, these non-toxic crayons let kids draw on the tub and tiles. And don’t worry, everything easily washes off, making clean-up a breeze! With a fun sponge included, younger kids will be entertained for hours while you enjoy some extra peace and quiet. [![Washable crayons | stocking fillers for boys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/15c9b81e-b2f4-48d9-9bb1-751f0069eb75.jpg "15c9b81e-b2f4-48d9-9bb1-751f0069eb75 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/LKX7kV) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/LKX7kV) ## **14. Temporary tattoo kit** The Zimpli Doodle ‘N’ Dip Draw & Float tattoo kit is perfect for kids 8 and up. They can draw while playing in the water, and then watch their designs magically come to life. This set makes a great activity for parties or everyday play that’ll keep them entertained for hours! [![Temporary tattoo kit](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/44311/zimpli-doodle-n-dip-draw-float-temporary-tattoo-steam-toy-kit-kids-family-8-12263328_00.jpg?v=1721107642148&imgclass=dealpageimage)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/DyK7x5) I found this at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/DyK7x5) ## **Conclusion: Best Christmas stocking fillers for boys** This year, make sure every boy on your list has a blast when they reach into their stockings on Christmas morning. After years of struggling to find cool stocking stuffers for boys, I have finally completed this list. Lesson learned – it’s all about variety, fun, and a bit of surprise. From fun card games to glow-in-the-dark art supplies, these stocking filler ideas will put a smile on every kiddo’s face. Just remember, the best gifts aren’t always the biggest. Sometimes, even the smallest things can create the most memorable moments! Happy holidays! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-stocking-fillers-for-boys/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-stocking-fillers-for-boys/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Merry Christmas, stocking stuffers, gifts or boys, stocking ideas, stockings for boys --- ### [How to Restore, Rejuvenate, and Recapture Your Best Self](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-rejuvenate-and-recapture/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** If motherhood came with a report card, it would read: “Shows exceptional resilience. Needs more breaks. Should stop trying to do everything in record *time*.” And truly, the only *class* we’re all enrolled in is the one where life keeps adding new chapters before we’ve finished the last. Some days, simply getting through the *run* of activities is a full-body *challenge*. But here’s the *thing*: even the most capable people need room to restore, rejuvenate, and recapture their inner balance. The [**“You’ve Got This” eCourse**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) offers that. High on heart, low on pressure — it’s a gentle, supportive way to reconnect with your own sense of strength while keeping life’s chaos in check. ## Regain Balance and Confidence with the “You’ve Got This” eCourse Finding balance doesn’t mean overhauling your life; it starts with small, steady steps. The *“You’ve Got This” eCourse* is a self-paced, step-by-step journey that helps you rebuild confidence, find calm, and rediscover joy. Designed for busy mums, it’s flexible enough to fit into your time, whether that’s during nap time, after sleep, or in a quiet place just for you. Each lesson is short, practical, and deeply restorative. So, here’s what makes it personal and powerful: - **Real-world strategies**: Learn tools that work in the chaos of real life, not just theory. - **Mindset healing**: Gently shift from self-doubt to self-belief with guided reflections and affirmations. - **Expert-led guidance**: Benefit from the wisdom of professionals who understand single motherhood from both research and lived experience. - **Community connection**: Join a supportive network of mums walking a similar path. This is a space where you’re seen, heard, and never judged. This course helps you restore, rejuvenate, and recapture balance and confidence at your own pace — so you can feel grounded, capable, and ready to take on what’s next. ## Why “Restore, Rejuvenate, and Recapture” Matters for Single Mums As a single mum, you give endlessly: to your kids, your home, your work. But somewhere in the mix, your own needs get lost. It’s no wonder stress, fatigue, or that “*who even am I anymore?*” moment appears. That’s where “Restore, Rejuvenate, and Recapture” comes in — not just as words, but as a roadmap for renewal: - **Restore**: Reclaim your energy, calm, and balance. - **Rejuvenate**: Refill your cup and rediscover what makes you feel alive. - **Recapture**: Reconnect with the confident woman within. The *“You’ve Got This” eCourse* guides you through each stage with empathy and real-world tools. It’s about coming home to yourself, gently, confidently, and without guilt. ![restore, rejuvenate, and recapture](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Restore-rejuvenate-and-recapture-1.jpg "Restore rejuvenate and recapture 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Restore Your Energy, Calm, and Confidence Through Guided Healing When you’re doing it all alone, pausing can feel impossible. But slowing down is where restoration begins. This course gently shows you how to rest, recharge, and rebuild your energy with small, achievable steps. Inside, you’ll discover tools to ease emotional fatigue and stress, such as: - Guided reflections to process feelings and reconnect with your soul. - Boundary-setting to protect your energy and emotional health. - Breathing and grounding techniques to quiet racing thoughts. - Mindful journalling to recover perspective and peace. You’ll also build [small, doable routines that recharge both body and mind](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-mental-and-emotional-health/ "small, doable routines that recharge both body and mind"), such as: - Morning stretch or sunlight to wake up your body and imagination. - A mindful tea break to simply rest and breathe. - Less online activity and more “me” time. - A nightly ritual to ease into sleep, such as soft music, journaling, or a relaxing activity. Each restorative habit is simple yet powerful. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup, and this course helps refill it with calm, clarity, and renewed confidence. ## Rest & Rejuvenate Your Mind, Body, and Spirit After everything you’ve carried, you deserve to feel light again, to wake up clear, grounded, and full of energy. The *“You’ve Got This” eCourse* is your gentle companion to heal your body, mind, and soul with expert support and self-care. After all, rejuvenation isn’t about perfection; it’s about small shifts that bring healing and hope. With this course, you’ll learn to nurture your whole self through helpful activities, such as: - Mindset coaching to quiet self-doubt and spark confidence from within. - Wellness guidance and activities that fit real life, such as better sleeping habits, nourishing meals, & seeking healthy living. - Self-care prompts that remind you to pause, breathe, and treat yourself with the same kindness you give others. - Mini movement and mindfulness moments to lift your mood and ease stress in minutes. Each module leaves you feeling lighter and more connected to who you are. ## Recapture Your Inner Strength and Motivation There comes a moment when you want to do more than just cope. Sometimes, you want to create something new, to feel inspired again. The *“You’ve Got This” eCourse* helps you recapture that spark and move forward with confidence. With this, you’ll learn how to: - Set goals that reflect who you are now. - Rebuild self-belief to fight self-doubt and take control. - Move forward after challenges with courage. - Celebrate progress, not perfection — because every small thing counts. You already have what it takes! This course simply helps you see it again and believe it deeply. ![restore, rejuvenate, and recapture](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Restore-rejuvenate-and-recapture-2.jpg "Restore rejuvenate and recapture 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Restore, Rejuvenate, and Recapture: Inside the “You’ve Got This” Program The “You’ve Got This” eCourse is a unique, self-paced journey created specifically for single mums. It’s designed to help you restore, rejuvenate, and recapture your balance with practical tools, guided reflections, and real-world support. Additionally, the program’s flexible design makes it easy to fit into your schedule: - Short, actionable lessons you can complete in no time. - Printable worksheets to help you reflect and stay on track. - Self-paced learning so you can move forward at your own rhythm. - A [supportive online community of mums](https://www.facebook.com/beanstalkmums/ "supportive online community of mums") who get it because they’ve been there too. Each module helps you take another step toward balance, joy, and independence. Explore how this program helps you restore, rejuvenate, and recapture every part of your life. ## Restore, Rejuvenate, and Recapture Your Passion for Life Motherhood on your own takes courage, grit, and endless love. But you deserve more than just getting through the day — you deserve to feel energised, joyful, and proud of your life. The *“You’ve Got This” eCourse* is for people who want to experience growth, restore calm, and achieve rejuvenation. You’ll rediscover what makes you feel fulfilled, not as someone’s mum, but as *you*. If you’re ready to take this restorative step — to rest, recover, and rise stronger — this is your time. Join the [***“You’ve Got This” eCourse***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/ "“You’ve Got This” eCourse") today! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-rejuvenate-and-recapture/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/restore-rejuvenate-and-recapture/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** self care, restore rejuvenate recapture, you've got this --- ### [Short Last-Minute Getaways: Simple Ways for Mums to Relax](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/short-last-minute-getaways/) **Published:** November 23, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Ever had one of those moments where you look around and think, *“If I don’t get out of this house, I might actually start talking back to the washing machine?”* You’re not alone — and that’s precisely why short last-minute getaways can feel like pure magic. They’re simple, cheeky little escapes that don’t require spreadsheets, savings accounts, or twenty-step packing lists. Just a quick breather that gives your mind a reset, your shoulders a drop, and your spark a chance to come back to life. Whether it’s a weekend holiday or a fun family trip along the Australian coast, these mini adventures can restore your energy and remind you that taking care of yourself is essential. With practical travel tips and stress-free planning strategies, you can enjoy a relaxing vacation — even on a busy schedule. ## Short Last-Minute Getaways: Quick Escapes for Busy Single Mums When life feels like an endless juggle of work, parenting, and everything in between, sometimes the best way to reset is to step away. Short last-minute getaways are perfect for single parents because they take little planning but offer a big refresh. A simple change of destination can lift your mood and remind you that you deserve a holiday that fits your budget and lifestyle. So, here are a few easy ideas to get you inspired: - **Spontaneous weekend travel:** Try a quick coastal trip or a countryside drive to relax without the long to-do list. - **Low-effort locations:** Look for destinations within two hours of home. Think local beaches, national parks, or small Australian towns with cosy accommodation and good coffee. - **Family-friendly breaks:** Book a solo night with a good book or take the kids on a simple day tour to a zoo. These short getaways don’t just fit your schedule; they fill your cup and give you a chance to relax before heading back home. ## Affordable Adventure Trips Close to Home Not every holiday needs a plane flight or a luxury resort. Some of the best short last-minute getaways are right on your doorstep. For single mums, these trips offer the perfect balance: minimal planning, maximum relaxation. Here are some easy, budget-friendly ideas close to home: - **Coastal or country escapes:** Take a short drive to a beach, lake, or regional town where you can slow down and explore the outdoors. - **Free or low-cost activities:** Local markets and picnics are easy ways to make family holidays memorable without stretching your wallet. - **Smart budgeting hacks:** Use deal apps and travel websites to score package deals that include meals or transfers. Travelling off-peak can also help you find great deals within your budget. No long drives, no pricey flights — just simple, soul-lifting getaways that remind you rest doesn’t have to cost a fortune. ![short last-minute getaways](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Short-last-minute-getaways-1.jpg "Short last-minute getaways 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Family-Friendly Destinations for a Quick Break If a solo escape isn’t on the cards right now, short last-minute getaways can still be a wonderful way to reconnect and relax together. The key is finding family-friendly destinations that keep the kids entertained while giving you a moment to breathe. So, here are a few ideas that work beautifully for single mum travel: - **Child-friendly short trips:** Visit a local zoo or theme park where the kids can enjoy activities while you unwind with a drink in hand. - **Kid-approved activities that let mum rest:** Look for spots with safe swimming areas, on-site play zones, or shaded outdoor spaces. - **Safety tips for spontaneous travel:** Pack snacks, a small first-aid kit, and share your plans with a friend or companion. Choose well-reviewed accommodation close to amenities and airports to make travel smoother. These quick family holidays prove that you don’t need to fly overseas to make memories with your whole family. Sometimes, joy is just a short drive away. ## Stress-Free Planning Tips for Last-Minute Travel Planning a trip doesn’t have to mean hours of scrolling or a mountain of stress. With a bit of planning and a few smart travel tips, you can turn short last-minute getaways into something easy and enjoyable. Here are a few ways to plan your next holiday without the chaos: - **Quick checklist:** Focus on the essentials, such as comfortable clothes, snacks, chargers, and toiletries. Add a few extras for the kids, and you’re ready to go. - **Time-saving tools:** Use websites or apps that offer discount deals for last-minute package holidays or accommodation. - **Set realistic timeframes:** You don’t need days to plan. With focus and flexibility, you can book, pack, and head out the door in under an hour. For more travelling hacks, check out our guide on [how to make your family trips easy and stress-free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/holiday-travel-tips-make-family-trips-easy-and-stress-free/ "how to make your family trips easy and stress-free"). ## Packing Hacks for Short Getaways Packing shouldn’t feel like a puzzle. The best short last-minute getaways are all about ease — grabbing what you need, tossing it in a bag, and heading out the door. A little organisation goes a long way in making your travel feel achievable and stress-free. Here are a few packing tips to keep things light and easy: - **Minimalist essentials:** Choose mix-and-match outfits and pack light layers that suit any weather. One good pair of shoes can take you anywhere. - **Quick organisation:** Use small packing cubes or zip bags to separate clothes, toiletries, and your child’s essentials. If you’re travelling with many little ones, give each kid a small backpack for their activities. - **Smart tools for effortless travel:** Roll your clothes to save space, pack reusable toiletry bottles, and keep a small “go bag” ready for your next adventure. When everything has its place, you spend less time packing and more time enjoying your holiday. ## Short Last-Minute Getaways: Travel Safety Tips for Spontaneous Trips Even the most spontaneous last-minute getaways feel better when you’re safe and ready. A few simple precautions can make your trip smoother and give you confidence, especially when travelling as a single mum. Here are some [tips to ensure peace of mind while travelling](https://www.smartraveller.gov.au/before-you-go/who-you-are/women "tips to ensure peace of mind while travelling"): - **Plan just enough:** Let a friend or family member know your itinerary and when you’ll be back home. Share your accommodation details or location through a trusted app. - **Health and security basics:** Carry any essential medical items, plus a portable charger and reusable water bottle. Keep ID copies backed up online and double-check airline or resort safety policies. - **Prepare for the unexpected:** Check your car before driving, note emergency numbers, and choose kid-friendly destinations with good reviews. A little preparation keeps the holiday calm and enjoyable. A stress-free mindset makes every getaway safer, so you can relax knowing you’ve covered everything you need. ![short last-minute getaways](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Short-last-minute-getaways-2.jpg "Short last-minute getaways 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Self-Care Retreats for Busy Mums Sometimes, the best company is your own. You deserve a holiday that helps you recharge, breathe, and reconnect with yourself away from the noise of daily life. You don’t need to go far or spend a fortune to feel restored; even a single night in the right destination can make a world of difference. Here are some ideas to turn travel into true self-care: - **Wellness retreats and workshops:** Try a local yoga weekend, a spa day, or a women’s retreat that offers package deals including meals, meditation, or massage. - **Solo travel for rest and rejuvenation:** Book a cosy Airbnb by the beach, enjoy long walks in nature, or spend a day in a quiet country town exploring at your own pace. - **Keep it local and light:** Look for retreats or peaceful spots within an hour or two of home — minimal travel, maximum calm. Taking time for yourself isn’t indulgent; it’s how you refill your energy so you can take care of everything else. Check out our list of [budget-friendly ideas for solo travelling this year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/ "budget-friendly ideas for solo travelling this year"). ## How to Make the Most of a Mini Vacation When you finally carve out time for a break, even a short one, it’s worth making every moment count. Short last-minute getaways aren’t about doing it all — they’re about slowing down, soaking it in, and remembering that travelling as a single parent can be both empowering and enjoyable. Here’s how to make your mini holiday feel bigger than it is: - **Plan a mix of downtime and fun:** Balance quiet moments (like reading or a drink by the pool) with light activities like theme parks or a family cruise. Many resorts also offer tours or childcare, so you get a true chance to relax. - **Focus on real rest:** Turn off notifications, pack lightly, and don’t be afraid to book that extra night or meal — it might be exactly what you need. - **Stay mindful and present:** Notice the small surprises — the sound of water, the warmth of the sun, your child’s laughter. These simple moments become memories you’ll cherish back home. ## Recharging Your Mind and Body with Short Last-Minute Getaways The truth is, you don’t need weeks away or a perfect plan to feel renewed. Sometimes, the smallest short last-minute getaways have the biggest impact — a single night of quiet, a few hours in nature, or a simple change of scenery that reminds you who you are beyond the daily juggle. You deserve rest. You deserve joy. And you deserve moments that are yours alone — because when you care for yourself, everything else flows a little easier. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/short-last-minute-getaways/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/short-last-minute-getaways/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** travel, getaway, short last-minute getaways --- ### [8 Golden rules to lower conflict when talking to your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/lower-conflict-when-talking-to-your-ex/) **Published:** July 20, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Divorce is a life-altering experience that often leaves us grappling with a whirlwind of emotions. Amidst the turmoil, finding a way to communicate with our ex-partners without constant conflict can seem impossible. As a divorced woman who has traversed the rocky terrain of post-divorce communication, I understand firsthand the complexities and frustrations of engaging with an ex. However, through trial and error, I have discovered some golden rules that have significantly lowered the level of conflict in my conversations with my ex. Now, I want to share these insights with other women facing similar hurdles. In this article, I delve into practical strategies and techniques to help you navigate conversations with your ex more peacefully and productively. These golden rules are rooted in empathy, patience, and effective communication, offering you a roadmap to transform the dynamics of your interactions. By embracing these guidelines, you can reduce conflict and cultivate a healthier post-divorce relationship, whether it involves co-parenting, resolving financial matters, or simply finding closure. Divorces can be emotionally draining, but building a foundation of respect and understanding is possible, even after the dissolution of a romantic partnership. Join me as we explore the golden rules that have helped me and countless other women foster more peaceful and amicable dialogues with our exes. ## Know your intentions before engaging As with any important communication endeavour, intent sets the tone and direction of the dialogue. When communicating with your ex, focus on what you want to achieve or resolve. It’s understandably hard to talk to someone who might be a strong emotional trigger, be it of anguish or stress. Nobody said it would be easy to fight against getting carried away by your trauma and emotions. This is when your conscious decision to anchor your conversation on your intent comes in. Try your best not to veer off your purpose of talking with your ex. If you want to ask him if he could accompany your kid on the school trip, don’t start an argument about him never remembering the teacher’s name. If you want to talk to him about finalising the sale of your house, you don’t need to vex yourself further by asking him if he’s dating someone new, no matter how tempting it is. Allowing yourself to be distracted will just make your communication attempts counter-productive or, worse, destructive, Keep calm when you speak with your ex. Stay clear and centered on what you want to accomplish. ## Pick your battles It could be that your ex is setting out to make your life hard. If he is the type to try and say things that will provoke you, then you have to put your blinders on. You will gain nothing from entertaining everything he’s throwing at you. You will be wasting your time trying to counter his points or proving him wrong. Let’s say you want to call your ex to remind of the time you’ll be picking your child up from his place. If he answers the phone with a nasty attitude, or if he tries to tell you to just text instead since he does not want to answer the phone, don’t give in to the urge of sending a screaming voicemail. It’s not worth your energy. When he sinks low, stay high. This will help prevent unnecessary and blown-out conflicts with your ex. No matter how much you want to wring his neck. ***Further reading: [How to talk to an ex you can’t stand.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/)*** ## Practice active listening After years of a marriage in decline, you and your ex may already have been used to the dynamic of mindless listening to each other. Choosing to consciously participate in a conversation and employing active listening can transform your relationship from awful spouses to amazing co-parents. How do you [practice active listening](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-active-listening-3024343)? Show that you are listening. Acknowledge what he is saying, even if it’s just saying, “Okay”, “Uh huh”, or “Yes”. Confirm your comprehension of what he’s saying by giving a summary of what he told you back to him. For example, “You’re going to make it to his recital today and you would like me to meet you at the school entrance so we can get our seats together, is that right?” is a great way to engage with your ex’s request. Defer judgment, especially of the harsh and negative kind before he even finishes what he is trying to say. Respond to his questions only after fully understanding the full context of their question. It might feel like an awkward change at first, especially if you have been so used to being snarky or trying to find faults with each other during your marriage and divorce. But trust me, talking to your ex will be a less torturous affair when you start practising active communication. ## Watch your body language You might finally be able to speak calmly to your ex, but your arms are crossed all the time. Or maybe you don’t like facing him completely because being seen with him embarrasses you or annoys the ish out of you. This can trigger unpleasant thoughts in your ex as your body language betrays your actual feelings towards him. I am not telling you to lie or to act as if you’re trying to rival Cate Blanchett’s career, but you will need to make some ‘temporary’ adjustments to help make the mood conducive to dialogue. Maintain an open stance and confident posture to lower conflict when talking to your ex. Provide eye contact especially when either of you is making an important point. Try to mirror your ex for a bit when you are listening to them speak. These adjustments will help your ex (and other people!) see you as someone agreeable and attentive. ## Use ‘I’ statements “You never try to help our kid with her homework!”, “You like ignoring everything that I tell you!” No matter how true they are, these statements are attacks. These indicate your constant disappointment, absolute distrust, and heavy judgment. This type of “you” statements blocks any possibility for reason and tries to establish accusation as fact. It would be much better for your relationship as exes if you only speak on your behalf and experience. “I can see that our kid struggles doing her homework, I would appreciate it if you could spend more effort assisting her”, “I felt ignored when I shared this with you in the past” would be so much better in opening up and starting a dialogue, especially about difficult subjects. ## Show empathy and understanding Being kind towards your ex is a challenge like no other. I mean how can you try to be nice to the one person who crushed your soul? By working from a better place of empathy. Possibly you don’t like your nosy neighbour but you are able to empathise with her as a fellow single mum. That’s something you can also try to lower conflict when talking to your ex I understand that the sound of your ex’s breath can arouse homicidal thoughts in your head. But next time you talk to him, try to not see him as the severed extension of you whom you despise. Regard him just as a person who is flawed and is trying. This can help you listen to him with less judgment and truly understand his predicament. ## Be prepared to meet halfway I know, I know, you’re no longer married. Why do I need to meet this bastard halfway then, you might ask. Yet this is super important to lower conflict when talking to your ex Sometimes, our exes cannot meet our expectations or fulfil our requests. And while tales of our exes’ incompetency are indulgent fodder for another day, it is not right to hold other people (including our exes) to impossible or extremely specific standards. Calm and intentional speaking and showing open body language won’t serve their purpose if you are rigid regarding imperfections, urgent changes, and opposition. When reasonable, agreements can be adjusted to accommodate each other’s capacities and limitations. ## Take breaks Stop spending full afternoons engaging with your ex on your phone. Yes, I said it, stop aimlessly chatting with your ex for hours on end. Chances are, over extended periods of time, something will be phrased badly for the other party to also react badly to. To avoid breeding contempt towards your ex, put a pause on the conversation if you no longer sense that you are achieving what you intended to during that exchange. Even if it’s a simple “Oh, I’ll talk to you again later, I need to check my laundry”, you are allowing both you and your ex to take a step back, cool down from any narrowly-avoided conflict, remember what needs to be resolved, and mentally refuel on that good and emphatic energy. ## My final thoughts: Golden rules to lower conflict when talking to your ex Divorce doesn’t have to be the death sentence for everything you share with your ex, not especially healthy co-parenthood and good communication. By learning and adapting my golden rules to lower conflict when talking to your ex, you will be able to apply the important things to improve your communication every time you enter a conversation with him. Stay focused and level-headed. Don’t let emotions get the best of you, and try to keep every dialogue purposeful, productive, and well-planned. Truly listen and let your ex know what you’ve understood from him, ensuring that you are both on the same page before you give your feedback. Practise empathy and kindness, and be less judgmental. Avoid recklessly accusing him or projecting the same grudges again and again with those “I” statements. Know how to take a break when the conversation is about to careen down the path of discord. It is possible and beneficial to lower conflict when talking to your ex, as you pursue a better co-parenting partnership and friendship with him. Improving the way you engage with your ex is really within your control and capability. The sooner you realise the lightness and peace this improvement can bring, the better it is for your healing and for your daily life as a single mum. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/lower-conflict-when-talking-to-your-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/lower-conflict-when-talking-to-your-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** talking to ex, ex partner, argument --- ### [Suggestions to keep your breakup civilised for your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/4-ways-to-keep-your-break-up-civilised-for-your-children/) **Published:** April 18, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Nobody likes break-ups, they are messy and heartbreaking, but sometimes they are necessary. If your relationship is no longer working, or one of you is no longer happy in the relationship, then the best thing to do is break-up. The question is: How do you keep your breakup civilised for your children? Break-ups can be difficult, especially if there are children involved. If you and your partner have children together then you need to think about them too during this time. In many cases, [staying together for the kids is not the right thing to do](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-staying-together-for-the-kids-may-not-be-the-best-thing-to-do/). Having a toxic relationship can be more harmful than separating for your children. So, if you are thinking about breaking up with your significant other, here is everything you need to know about how to keep your break-up civilised for the sake of your kid’s. ## Communicate openly and honestly After deciding that parting ways would be the best decision for both of you, you should make a conscious decision and conscientious effort to communicate your pain, fears, and needs moving forward. Honestly, it’s not an option, it is the only choice for both of you if you wish to keep your breakup as civilised as possible in front of the kids. Communicating with each other privately will also help you avoid letting your pain and frustrations spill over onto your children. I understand, even months after, it might still be gut-wrenching to know that the love of your life is now willing to move on from you, but your children don’t have to share those feelings. Direct your thoughts and plans to the person who needs to hear them and share the responsibility of making decisions– your ex and no one else. Having open and honest communication with your ex will also help you both transition onto a path of civil and responsible co-parenting as soon and as smoothly as possible. ## Get professional support Of course neither of you are perfect, and there are countless times that both of you would much prefer to just go at each other’s necks for a battle to the death. When communicating and compromising becomes too challenging for your pride or your circumstances, I suggest that you accept professional support. Think of it as creating your new “relationship” with your ex/co-parent, minus the emotional rehashing and aloneness, plus the rational and unbiased help. [Relationship counselling](https://www.energeticsinstitute.com.au/couples-counselling/) can facilitate your communication in a private and safe environment, where both of you will be guided in processing the grief over your breakup, making decisions about your new co-parenting situation, and re-prioritising a healthy and civilised relationship for the sake of your children. ## Keep your emotions in check There will be days when the fury and the devastation will knock you down on your knees. Or maybe the feeling of betrayal will surge on a random Tuesday and have you wanting to practice your son’s baseball bat on your ex’s windshield. While these are very normal feelings and waves of overwhelming emotions can come from time to time for the next several months, you have the responsibility to rise above yourself and think of your children. Kids are very perceptive and receptive. Allowing your children to see you in a screaming match with your ex, or bawling while helping your ex pack their belongings can subject your kids to feelings of helplessness, guilt, confusion, and can even cause anxiety, depression, and trauma for them. Your children’s overall health and wellness should be a priority. When you are feeling overwhelmed and you feel like lashing out or letting go, decide if it’s worth it, if it’s necessary, or, if worse comes to worst, are you out of your kid’s earshot? ## Maintain a routine A civilised breakup is proven by the way you help your children remain stable and supported. Children need structure in their everyday, as they are learning to navigate life, amidst huge changes within and without. A lot of changes and adjustments in supporting the kids may be required as you eventually deal with the circumstances of your breakup. Do not take your next steps for re-planning and scheduling lightly. Leaving the succeeding days and months loosely to fate and chance can make your children feel abandoned, out-of-place, and less worthy. Rain, shine, or divorce, your kids still need regular rugby practice, your attendance at their recitals, Saturday trips to the shops, quarterly visits to their grandparents, weekly movie nights, and whatever they count on to keep them happy and healthy. ## Respect your ex partner At least in front of your kids. I know some of you may still struggle even after YEARS when it comes to respecting someone who broke your heart, or worse, betrayed and humiliated you. And while we can all argue all day about people deserving second chances or being irrevocably flawed, outside your relationship with your ex, they are still your children’s parent, authority figure, and primary role model. Keep your grudges, anger, or disgust to yourself, or strictly between the two of you, with utmost confidentiality. Whatever precipitated the breakup, your kids do not need to be involved. The only thing your children need from both of you is to see and feel that they are being raised, supported and loved by two kind, respectful, and agreeable parents. Try your best to maintain a respectful and positive attitude towards your ex, especially when speaking and acting in front of your children. ## Co-parent effectively Once you’ve gotten the children’s new routine schedule down to a science post-breakup, adhere strictly to your agreed terms regardless of how you feel about your ex on some days, and be reliable for each other as co-parents. Do not try to sneak in spontaneous pettiness towards your ex, or passive- aggressive fighting over your children in the hopes of them favouring one parent over the other. Throw all negativity out of the window, and work as a team in making sure that your kids’ quality of life is maintained between your two homes. Try your best to be present together for your kids on special days, and communicate with each other regularly to make sure that you both stay aligned with your child-rearing approach and decisions. This way you also maintain cosistency in fulfilling your children’s needs as they grow up. In your case, a successful civilised breakup’s proof is in your co-parenting pudding. Start working on having a great co-parenting relationship and strategy so you can stay successful in raising healthy and well-adjusted kids. ## Conclusion: Suggestions to keep your breakup civilised for your children Going through a breakup can be challenging, but it can be even more challenging when children are involved. It is really important to keep your breakup civilised for your children. By following the guidelines set out in this article, you can help ensure that your children feel safe and secure during this difficult time, and that they come out of the experience feeling loved and supported by both parents. Remember that how you handle your breakup can have a significant impact on your [children’s emotional wellbeing](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/319386681_Emotional_Divorce_Child's_Well-Being). And, by prioritising their needs, you can help them navigate the transition peacefully and securely. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/4-ways-to-keep-your-break-up-civilised-for-your-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/4-ways-to-keep-your-break-up-civilised-for-your-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** Children of divorce, separation, break up --- ### [The Power of Mediation in Property Division Post-Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/) **Published:** May 4, 2024 **Author:** Dianne Loveday **Content:** Experiencing a relationship separation can be an incredibly challenging and emotional time. Not only are you grappling with the personal impact, but you also find yourself needing to navigate the complex process of asset and property division – a task that can feel overwhelming. However, through the support of mediation, you can streamline this process and find clarity amidst the complexity. ## Understanding Property Division Property and assets may be divided between you and your partner through various methods: - Private agreements (not legally binding) - Using solicitors to negotiate a settlement on your behalf, then having the documents formalised by the court (6 -12 + months) - - Going to court and having a Judge issue a Court Order (2 – 3 + years) - Reaching an agreement with a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP), also known as a Family Law Mediator. Then, have your agreement formalised. (3-4 months) - Using solicitor-assisted Family Law Dispute Resolution (mediation where you both have your lawyers present and a Family Law Mediator) - Collaborative Law. (a meeting where lawyers, accountants, and mental health professionals all work with you and your former partner to negotiate a settlement). (This is not a comprehensive list; these are some of the primary options) ## Navigating Financial Separation The division of finances, both assets and liabilities, is often a complex and nuanced process. It is strongly advised that you seek professional advice to fully understand your position. A **[Family Dispute Resolutions Mediator](https://baysidemediation.com.au/get-in-touch/)** can provide invaluable guidance in this regard. It’s important to note that mediating before taking a Financial Settlement through the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia is now mandatory. You may also require legal advice. An FDR Mediator can offer impartial support and information to help you make the best decisions for you and your family. It’s a common misconception that a formal agreement is unnecessary if the separation is amicable. However, under Australian Family Law, a couple remains financially connected until they have a formalised agreement. An FDR mediator can clarify all your options. If you go through the court, it is a Judge’s job to make a decision about the division of your property, finances, and debt. This is neither simple nor straightforward, and discretion plays a large part. To comply with the requirements of the Family Law Act, you must provide complete and frank disclosure of all assets, liabilities, and entitlements. ![Family Dispute Resolution practitioner/Family Law Mediation /Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/IN-ARTICLE-images.jpg "Family Dispute Resolution practitioner/Family Law Mediator - Beanstalk Mums") ## Separation and your FDRP Your Family Dispute Resolutions Practitioner cannot give legal advice. However, they can help guide you through the Family Law process. An FDRP ensures that any agreement reached complies with the Family Law Act. Asking the right questions and listening to your story will help you find the right solutions for your situation. If you have children, they will always keep the best interests of children at the forefront of negotiations. The Courts are always an option if FDR Mediation fails. However, it can take more than two years to get to a final hearing. Your first appearance at court is with a Registrar of the Court. They will check that all the Pre-Action procedures have been met. This includes attempting mediation and making a genuine effort in mediation. There can be financial consequences for those individuals who do not make a genuine effort. It is also conceivable that you will not get a first trial date for 18 months or more once you have started Court proceedings. The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia expect couples undergoing separation to make every effort to resolve their issues without appearing before a Judge. ## When should we divide our property & finances? You do not have to be divorced or separated before you divide your property. However, it helps if you have [gone through the worst of the emotional upheaval](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parenting-through-separation/) of separation. As well as make some arrangements for your children. There are time restrictions for applying to court, which differ depending on your relationship. For divorced couples, you must apply to the court for a property settlement within 12 months of your divorce. Unless there are special circumstances. For de facto couples, applications regarding maintenance and property must be lodged within two years of the relationship ending. De facto includes: - Couples who have lived together in a domestic relationship for two years or more - Have a child born of the relationship - One of the parties has made such a substantial contribution that if the court did not make an order, it would be unjust - A registered relationship ## The Four Guiding Principles of Property Settlement 1\. **What are the assets and liabilities?** The general assumption is any assets and/or liability acquired during the relationship are joint property. This includes wages, super, property, equity, personal belongings, and businesses. 2\. **How are contributions determined?** As a rule, financial and non-financial contributions are weighted equally. A party cannot be disadvantaged because they stayed home with children or did not earn the same as the other party. 3\. **What are future needs and the issues that impact them?** This looks at whether and how someone within the relationship will be more greatly disadvantaged by the breakdown of the relationship. This includes earning capacity, age, health, and who cares for the children. 4\. **Is the agreement just and equitable?** Any agreement reached must satisfy the Family Court’s requirements for justness and equitability. If your agreement is deemed not to be just and equitable, the court may not formalise it. Most people have never had experience with the Law or Family Law when they find themselves looking for ways to finalise their separation and divorce. Researching your options, educating yourself about the many ways to resolve your Family Law disputes and understanding your rights under the Act is important. This is where an experienced private Family Dispute Resolution practitioner can be invaluable. The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia website is a good place to start [www.fcfcoa.gov.au](http://www.fcfcoa.gov.au) ## Empowering Your Separation: Conclusion on Simplifying Property Division In conclusion, amidst the complexities of relationship breakdowns, navigating property division can seem daunting. However, with the guidance of professionals and the option of mediation, there’s a clear path forward. By understanding your options, seeking expert advice, and embracing the mediation process, you can simplify the journey towards a fair and equitable resolution. Remember, you’re not alone on this path, and there are resources and support available to help you navigate this challenging time with clarity and confidence. **A Family Dispute Resolution practitioner (Family Law Mediator) will also provide support, guidance, and information to help direct you to the best solutions for your family.** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement --- ### [Understanding finances between separation and property settlement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/finances-between-separation-and-property-settlement/) **Published:** April 24, 2023 **Author:** Ella Hickman **Content:** When you separate from your partner, finances can be a point of contention. Especially if you’ve been used to pooling all your income and paying bills and debts from one joint pot. Understanding how to organise your finances between separation and property settlement is crucial to saving money and conflict now and in the future. Ella Hickman from [Hickman Family Lawyers in Perth](https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au/) answers this common question for us. ## What Is A Property Settlement? A property settlement is an agreement reached by two partners or a judgement ruled by the Court, detailing how assets will be split in a divorce or separation. Whether you are married or were in a de facto relationship, the same rules apply. In the past, certain laws pertaining to the splitting of superannuation for de facto couples differed in WA, but since 28 September 2022, [these laws](https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au/changes-to-splitting-superannuation-for-de-facto-couples-wa/) have been brought into line with the rest of Australia. A property settlement is formalised either by applying to the Court for a consent order, or by drawing up a Binding Financial Agreement. Understanding this is the first step to managing finances between separation and property settlement. ## What counts as property? Anything of value owned by both partners will count as property. It includes cash in the bank and cryptocurrencies, the family home and any other properties, vehicles, household items, jewellery, artworks, businesses, investments, insurance policies, inheritances and superannuation. Property is not just your assets, though – it also includes all debt, such as your mortgage, personal loans and credit card debt. All these can form part of the asset pool, regardless of whose name they are registered in. ## Why do we need a property settlement? There may not be an automatic right to a property settlement, except in rare cases where the relationship or marriage lasted for a very short time. In the vast majority of marriages or de facto relationships, the law requires a property settlement to be reached when the relationship has ended. The law urges couples to agree on how to split their assets without going to Family Court. Court procedures can be lengthy, costly, and stressful for the entire family. They may also result in a judgment that neither partner is happy with. The law demands that the property settlement be fair and just for both parties. That does not mean, however, that everything will be split straight down the middle. If the Court finds that the property settlement is not fair and just, it may reject it even if it was mutually agreed upon by both parties. Partners can enter into negotiations on their property settlement when the mandatory 12-month separation period starts or as soon as your de facto relationship ends. You do not have to wait until you are legally divorced before agreeing to a property settlement. It is vital to reach a property settlement as soon as possible. The law values the assets at the time of the proceedings and not at the time of separation. In real terms, this means that any future additional asset acquired by either partner after separation can also be included in the asset pool. ## How do we deal with our debts and assets between separation and property settlement? The period of organising finances between separation and property settlement can be tricky for many divorcing or separating couples. They often find their finances stretched to the limit by having to support two separate households. Their earnings remain the same or can even be reduced as they cut back hours at work to deal with the life admin that comes with a divorce. You both need to discuss and come to an arrangement on how you can access funds to meet your own living expenses. If you had joint bank accounts, the first thing you need to consider, is closing them and setting up individual bank accounts instead. You would also need to agree on who pays for what expense or debt until the final property settlement is reached. If you cannot agree, there may be a need to apply to the Court for liabilities to be paid, or for spousal maintenance to be paid to one partner to cover their living expenses. Under Australian Family Law, both spouses/partners are legally obliged to support each other. This obligation arises when one party is unable to reasonably sustain themselves. The basic considerations here are the receiver’s needs and the payer’s ability to pay. Another option of speeding up the property settlement agreement is to draw up a [Binding Financial Agreement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/binding-financial-agreements-consent-orders/). This does not need the Court’s approval, but both parties should obtain independent and separate legal advice when drawing up a BFA. If you cannot agree on the terms of your property settlement, you will have to apply to the Court to make the final ruling. ## I’m worried my ex will spend our money or sell our assets before we come to an agreement. What can I do? Seek legal advice urgently. The longer the property settlement takes to finalise, the greater the risk. Generally, you would need to apply to the Court for an injunction to prevent your ex from disposing of any asset before finalising your property settlement. The splitting of assets can lead to many complications, particularly in a highly contested divorce or separation. Obtaining legal and financial advice can be very helpful and put your mind at ease when it comes to dealing with your assets between separation and property settlement. ## Can we finalise our property settlement before we finalise our divorce? Married couples can finalise their property settlements before finalising their divorce. While de facto couples have up to 24 months from the date of their separation to finalise their property settlement. Many family lawyers will advise their clients to complete their property settlement as soon as possible following a separation. This process is completely separate to the legal process of finalising your divorce. ![Finances between separation and property settlement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Finances-between-separation-and-property-settlement-1.png "Finances between separation and property settlement - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/finances-between-separation-and-property-settlement/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/finances-between-separation-and-property-settlement/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** financial separation, debt, property settlement, assets, asset pool --- ### [Entitlements for non-working parents in a property settlement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/entitlements-non-working-parents-property-settlement/) **Published:** April 21, 2022 **Author:** Ella Hickman **Content:** When it comes to divorce, if you’re a non-working parent you might have concerns about what sort of entitlements you could expect, given that non-working parents are often not contributing financially to the household. However, it’s important to remember that the family Court will consider both financial and non-financial contributions when working out fair entitlements when a couple separates. Ella Hickman from Hickman Family Lawyers in Perth has put together what you need to know about entitlements for non-working parents in a property settlement in Australia. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")**Further reading: [Super and divorce: Here’s what you need to know.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/)** ## Working Out Entitlements in a Divorce Separating couples should be encouraged to reach an amicable property settlement to suit their needs without having to go to Family Court. Sometimes that is not possible and going to Court becomes unavoidable. There are three main things the Courts consider when working out entitlements in a divorce: - Property settlement - Spousal maintenance - Child support (although this is mainly regulated by the Child Support Agency) Each issue has its own complexities usually requiring professional legal and financial advice in order to reach a fair, just, and hopefully amicable settlement. ## The Property Settlement Process Property is defined as all assets and debts owned by the couple, regardless of in whose names they are registered. These may include, the family home, various other properties, cash on hand, bank accounts, businesses, investments, vehicles, superannuation and all debt such as mortgage, personal loans, and credit card. Australian Family Law usually applies a five-step process in the splitting of assets and liabilities as part of a property settlement. - Decide whether there should be a property settlement in the first place - Identify and evaluate the entire property pool - Assess all financial and non-financial contributions made by each spouse - Consider the future needs of each person, and establish whether one spouse should get an adjustment of the asset pool in their favour - Ensure that the overall property settlement is just and equitable It is important to note that the Courts consider parenting and homemaker contributions and non-financial contributions, to be equally important as the financial contributions. Parenting and homemaker contributions include raising and caring for children and looking after the home (for example, things like cooking, cleaning and washing). Non-financial contributions are things like home renovations that have increased the value of the property, all of which have allowed the other spouse to work and earn money to care for the family. For the adjustment process, the Courts will consider (amongst other things) who is responsible for the primary care of the children, and if there is a disparity in current or potential earning capacity between the two parties. This adjustment process is often what “benefits” a non-working parent more, as the Court may give an adjustment in recognition that the non-working parent has been out of the workforce for a long time, will find it hard to work full time (or work at all) while they care for the children, and will not be able to support themselves as well as the working parent. ## Child Support Entitlements Under Australian Family Law, both parents are responsible for the financial support of their children to provide them a reasonable lifestyle. Child support expenses are managed by the Child Support Agency. When calculating child support entitlements to the parent caring for the children, certain criteria are usually considered. These will often include: - The age and costs of the children - The income of both parents - The earning capacity of both parents - The time each parent may spend with the children ## Spousal Maintenance Entitlements It may come as a surprise that in a divorce, both partners are legally obliged to support each other as far as reasonably possible, no matter what circumstances led to the divorce. That however, may not automatically entitle one to spousal maintenance, as certain criteria still need to be met. This can be an extremely complicated affair and professional legal and financial advice is strongly recommended. If one partner is unable to sustain themselves within reason, and the other partner has the income capacity to pay spousal maintenance, the Court may consider an application for spousal maintenance. Often, a non-working parent, who has perhaps been the homemaker and main child carer at home, may find themselves unable to easily find employment and earn a living, especially if they have been away from the workforce for a long period of time. Such circumstances will often make them eligible to apply for spousal maintenance as part of their divorce settlement process. There is no set formula to calculate the amount of spousal maintenance one could expect, as each case is different. However, in simple terms, if your ex is the main earner in the household, and you can demonstrate a need, the Court will assess your ex’s capacity to pay you spousal maintenance to assist with your living expenses. If the couple cannot reach an agreement on the amount of spousal maintenance to be paid on their own, both parties will need to present a detailed budget of all their incomes and living expenses to the Court, for a Judge or Magistrate to make a final decision. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Non-working-parents-property-settlement.png "Non working parents property settlement - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/entitlements-non-working-parents-property-settlement/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/entitlements-non-working-parents-property-settlement/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** property settlement, financial settlement, financial split --- ### [Court considerations when dividing assets during divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-during-divorce/) **Published:** March 31, 2023 **Author:** Jillian Zhang **Content:** Going through a divorce is already difficult enough, let alone deciding how to divide up combined assets. There is no particular formula for the division of assets. Rather, the Court will undergo several steps and investigate various factors when dividing assets during a divorce. It is not necessary for a property settlement to go through court. However, many separating couples are unable to reach an agreement regarding the division of their assets. This is understandable since financial separations can be complex and final decisions will impact all members of the family now and in the future. Understanding family court considerations when dividing assets during divorce is the first step to making educated decisions regarding property settlement. In this article we explain what those considerations are, whether the matter is settled in or out of court. ## REACHING A DECISION OUTSIDE THE FAMILY COURT Couples do not have to go through the Court to determine the division of their assets if they can come to a mutual agreement themselves which they will both abide by. To do this, a couple can decide to: - Sit down together in an informal setting and agree on the division of their assets - Work with an accountant who will consider tax implications when dividing assets - Engage with a financial planner who will help split the assets in a way which reduces losses due to the liquidation of valuable assets - Hire individual attorneys to represent each individual and their interests when in mediation ## FAMILY COURT HELP WHEN DIVIDING ASSETS DURING DIVORCE Should none of these methods work, a couple can seek assistance from the Court. Couples entering this process should understand that there is [no specific formula for the division of assets](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/fp/overview#:~:text=How%20does%20the%20Court%20decide,may%20progress%20to%20a%20hearing.), and the assets are not always equally split between both parties. Rather, the Court will make decisions based on each case. To begin this process, both parties should openly identify all of their assets, both prior to and throughout the marriage. This may include each individual’s income or earning capacity, savings accounts, real property, personal property, the value of vehicles, insurance policies, retirement or superannuation accounts, owned or invested in businesses, and independent investments. The court will consider various factors when dividing a couple’s identified assets, including: - Each person’s earning potential - The non-monetary contributions made by each individual, which includes homemaking and childcare contributions - Financial contributions, which includes investments or monies from a trust fund - Ongoing childcare and education for any involved children of the marriage - Involved children’s extracurricular activities, which includes music, sports, art and any other clubs which children of the marriage are participating in - The medical needs and costs of both parties and their involved children - Any debts that either spouse may have which need to be settled from the asset pool - The sale of any real property that may be available for distribution between both parties - The value of any past bonuses, along with the possibility of parties receiving future bonuses - Assets of a jointly owned business - Any extraordinary contributions/gifts which were made to the marriage by one partner or a partner’s family, including any inheritances - Individually held property and assets prior to the marriage (however, the longer the marriage lasted, the lesser the emphasis placed on previous separate ownership) - The future needs of each spouse, with a focus on the individual who will be the primary caretaker of any involved children, and the lesser financially able individual As outlined, the Court will consider many factors when dividing the financial assets of a couple who are undergoing a divorce. It should be noted that the couple may not have a significant influence over which factors the Court believes are most or least important. For this reason, it is recommended that a couple try to work together before seeking the assistance of the Court, as they will have more control and endure more flexibility when determining the division of their assets. ## Conclusion: Court considerations when dividing assets during divorce Dividing assets during a divorce can be a complex and emotionally charged process. However, understanding the court considerations can help both parties reach a fair and equitable settlement. While [dividing assets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dividing-assets-after-separation/) may be challenging, a clear understanding of the legal framework can help couples navigate the process more efficiently and achieve a more satisfactory outcome. It is essential for those going through a divorce to work with experienced legal professionals who can guide them through this process and help them achieve a settlement that is both fair and equitable. ![Dividing assets during divorce pin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Dividing-assets-during-divorce-pin.png "Dividing assets during divorce pin - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-during-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-during-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** financial separation, family court, property settlement, asset pool --- ### [Binding Financial Agreements and Consent Orders: What's Which?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/binding-financial-agreements-consent-orders/) **Published:** July 21, 2022 **Author:** Shane Neagle **Content:** When a married or de facto couple have separated and they want to formalise property and/or spousal maintenance agreements without having to go through the Courts, they can do this by entering into a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) or by making an application to the Court for Consent Orders. A BFA can also be used to reach an agreement before a relationship starts (which is known in some countries as a prenup) or even during the relationship, as to how assets will be divided in the future. If parenting arrangements need to be formalised, this cannot be done in a BFA. Any arrangement reached between you and your former partner or spouse can be set out in Consent Orders. In this article, we explore the characteristics of a BFA and Consent Orders, the differences between each of these options as well as when they might be appropriate. ## What is a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA)? A BFA is a contract between you and your spouse or partner that can cover issues to do with property and/or spousal maintenance agreements. It is a way for couples to keep their matter out of Court, especially given that a Court will not review or consider a BFA. By entering into this type of financial agreement, you have control, rather than a Court deciding how the assets, liabilities, superannuation and financial resources of the relationship will be divided, as well as making decisions regarding spousal maintenance (if any). It also means that a Court will not assess whether the BFA is just and equitable according to family law, unless Court proceedings are commenced to enforce or set aside the BFA. There are limited circumstance in which a Court will set aside a BFA, one commonly being where the other person has hidden assets or lied about their value or otherwise where there has been a fraud. It is also important to note that anyone entering into a BFA should obtain separate legal advice on how the BFA will impact you, in addition to the advantages and disadvantages of entering into this type of agreement. In circumstances where a BFA is being used before the relationship starts or during it, it would cover the financial arrangements that you and your partner or spouse want if your relationship ends. In these instances, a BFA can assist to protect assets that you want to retain for either yourself or your children from a previous relationship. Of course, it can often be difficult to have these discussions with your partner or spouse, so it’s important to approach the subject carefully so as to not cause harm or place strain on your relationship. If you wish to enter into a BFA before or during a relationship, it is important to note that challenges may arise in the future from this type of agreement being made, which can include: - Possible difficulties arising for the party with less financial resources to get out of this contract if they suffer any unforeseen financial hardship in the future, particularly where there are no children involved. - It can be difficult for the financially stronger party, attempting to protect their interests or assets, if children are born following the initial drafting of a BFA, which will mean you may need to consider that a BFA may need to be terminated and new BFA entered into. Otherwise, there is at risk of it being set aside by a Court due to the children being considered a change in circumstances. In circumstances where the terms of the BFA have not been complied with, the party seeking to enforce the BFA can apply to the Court. ## What are Consent Orders? An Application for Consent Orders is a means by which a former couple, having reached an agreement about parenting arrangements, financial and/or property settlements, and/or spousal maintenance, can make an application to the Court to formalise their agreement into Court Orders. Unlike a BFA, an Application for Consent Orders requires parties to complete a Court form and prepare a document setting out the Orders they want the Court to make. The Court form includes: - All the financial information of the parties, enabling the Court to determine if the orders are just and equitable. - The parenting arrangements proposed by the parties and including details of the child. Additional information will also need to be filed regarding any allegations of child abuse, family violence and risk. This is to allow the Court to determine if the arrangement is in the best interests of the Child or Children. If a Court requires further clarification about the Orders, they will go back to the parties with specific questions so that they can be satisfied that the Orders are appropriate before signing off on them. For property / financial matters, the application for Consent Orders must be made within either: - One (1) year, for married couples, from the date of a divorce order being made final; or - Two (2) years, for de facto couples, from the date of separation. If you are out of time, you will have to make a special application to the Court for what is called leave to proceed out of time. This is a costly and time consuming process. There is no guarantee that this application will be granted by the Court and the result may be that you have no entitlement to a property settlement and/or spousal maintenance. ## How do you know which document is right for your situation? As can be seen from the above, each document has its own characteristics that make it suitable in different circumstances. It is suggested that you obtain legal advice prior to formalising any agreement reached to ensure that: - your rights are properly protected; - you are not entering into an agreement that is detrimental to you; and - you are formalising your agreement in the most efficient and effective manner. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Disclaimer: The content of this article is intended as a general guide to the subject matter. For specific legal advice about your individual circumstances, please contact our experienced lawyer*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Binding-financial-agreements-consent-orders.png "Binding financial agreements consent orders - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/binding-financial-agreements-consent-orders/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/binding-financial-agreements-consent-orders/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** divorce, financial separation, family court, property settlement --- ### [Using a third party for changeover with shared parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/third-party-changeover/) **Published:** September 18, 2023 **Author:** Adam Levine **Content:** Separating from a partner is stressful, but when the separation is less than amicable or the result of abuse, then it becomes even more challenging for everyone involved. Add kids into the mix, and it can be a minefield of emotion, resentment, and complex logistical planning. In those early days of separation, while you iron out the creases of how to co-parent and stay present as parents for your kids, you might consider using a third party for changeover when it comes to the parenting of your children. ## Why choose a third party for changeover? Using a third party is a way of neutralising the experience of changeover, so that any conflict, trauma or stress might be minimised, particularly for your children. You can either opt to use an official independent third party, such as a neutral venue like Relationships Australia, or to ask a trusted friend or relative to be the third party present for the changeover. Most commonly, a third party is used for changeover when the parents aren’t able to be in each other’s presence – whether that’s because it is unsafe for them, they feel overly emotional, hurt, scared, or even in denial that they should have to share their children with the other parent. The truth is, if there’s a court order in place saying that the child or children are to spend time with the other parent, then changeover needs to happen, whether you’re happy about it or not. In those early days of separation, or whether you’ve gone well past that, it’s especially important to abide by any legal requirements. Using a third party for changeover can help neutralise any animosity, avoid confrontation, and most importantly, make it less stressful and scary for the children involved. A changeover may be non-court based, and the result of an agreement between the parents reached at a mediation or an informal agreement. Or it might be court based and imposed by a judicial officer, usually at the recommendation of an independent children’s lawyer. Handover arrangements might also be the result of negotiations between the parties and their lawyers, as a way to avoid a full-blown interim hearing. ## Where does a third party changeover happen? Choosing the right location is a big factor in getting this kind of changeover to work properly. If you decide to use a contact centre, there’s usually a cost involved. Organisations like [Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/) charge less than private contact centres, but the wait times for a regular booking that fits in with when changeover is to occur, can be a lot longer. If you choose to use a friend or a relative, then they might agree to host the changeover in their home, a park, or even somewhere like a McDonalds car park – a place with a play area and CCTV. Ideally, choose a place where your child will be comfortable and where there are welcome distractions. ## How does a third party changeover work? Usually one parent arrives first, around 10-15 minutes before the other parent is due to arrive, to ensure there’s enough time to settle the child and minimise any anxiety. Once the child has settled, the first parent leaves, and the child will stay with the trusted third party until the other parent arrives. Again, there might be a bit of time required for the child to settle and be happy about leaving with the other parent. The third party is effectively a safe person for the child, and someone who is trusted by both parents, whether it’s someone they know, or someone in a position of trust at a contact centre. ## How to choose the right person for your changeover? If you decide to use a friend or family member as your trusted third party, think carefully about who you choose. Ideally they’ll be someone who is known and trusted by your children, and who can be calm and impartial, despite what they might hear from either party. Having someone trusted there, like a grandparent or aunty, can often diffuse the situation, and make it less likely for parents to say the wrong thing in front of children at handover time. When it comes to confirming arrangements, use written communication like text messages and emails, and try to avoid phone calls between parents where things can get confrontational. ## Make the changeover work Most commonly these kinds of co-parenting changeover relationships are happening with young children, from infants up to upper primary school, so as a parent it helps to think ahead about how you can make things easy for the kids. For example, make sure they have a backpack with clean clothes, their favourite toys and school work. Always be sure to return clothes after they’ve been laundered, rather than sending kids back with a bag full of dirty washing, and hopefully the other parent will do the same. It’s also helpful to include snacks and a drink, especially if the other parent might be taking the child out for the day. It makes things as straightforward as possible for the child, and removes unnecessary points of friction. ***Further reading: [7 Superb ideas for moving kids stuff during handover.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/)*** ## Third party changeover: A short-term solution Ultimately, using a third party for changeover should only ever be a short-term solution. Long-term, you need to work together to improve communication, and with the help of a family therapist or counsellor, or by participating in a co-parenting course, to get to the point where you can hand over the children in a safe and civil manner one-on-one, hopefully showing your child you are both a united front. If in doubt, speak to your [family lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-choose-the-right-lawyer-for-your-family-law-case/) about the long-term plan you’re working towards, and remember, it’s about making things as calm, safe and respectful as possible for your children. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/third-party-changeover/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/third-party-changeover/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** handover, shared parenting, co-parenting, between homes, contact centre --- ### [Helping Your Children Deal with a Narcissistic Father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/narcissistic-father/) **Published:** May 2, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** It is one thing to [co-parent with a narcissistic ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/). It is another thing to protect your children from his manipulations while trying your best to help them grow up with some semblance of a father. As women who have loved scornful, vindictive men, we certainly have one of the most challenging jobs known to humanity. It can be a roller coaster of a ride, requiring us to balance and calculate almost every move we make around the narcissist and to always, always be the better parent, no matter how unfair or cruel the situation might be. But there IS light. There IS hope. Follow these steps to help your kids cope with a narcissistic father. ## How to help your kids cope with a narcissistic father ## Understand why this is so important First, we need to understand the vital importance of why we must shield the children. It is easy to feel like running away or to offload the burden on someone else. Maybe even beg the narcissist back, if only to stop his hurtful actions for a little while. You will never do this, of course, but the thoughts are incredibly enticing. This is why we must constantly remember our mission as THE parent: The one who is actually there, the one who is consistent, reliable, loving, and unconditionally, positively affirming. Our children, if subjected to the unrelenting control of the narcissist, will become either narcissists themselves or bear the pain of codependency for decades. Not to mention a whole host of psychological problems like depression, anxiety, bulimia, anorexia, low self-worth and perfectionism. You are the only one who can prevent this from becoming a reality. Fear not, as you are not alone. There has never been a mother who did not become stronger, wiser, and tougher after succeeding in this journey. ![cope with a narcissistic father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-2-2.png "Untitled-design-2-2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Take care of your sanity first Many mothers who are still in their toxic relationships tend to give into their compelling urges to fulfil their narcissist’s insatiable demands. This provides fuel for the narcissist, and these mothers then become a reliable source of energy for them. Because so much is taken from these mothers, their energy, time, and emotional resources become depleted, leaving little for anything else. Exhausted, they can shut down, resulting in disconnection and unconscious withdrawal of love for their children. This may even have been you. But you must determine that you will no longer be this person again. So always seek to fulfil your needs before anyone else’s, including the children. In case of an emergency on a plane, you are instructed to put on your oxygen mask first before attending to your child. After all, you’re of no use to anyone if you are unconscious. So, put on the oxygen mask first. Treat yourself to yoga classes, meditation, and general self-care. Be kind to yourself and always acknowledge that you’re doing your very best. You will likely feel angry when trying to help your kids cope with a narcissistic father. This is something you will need to resolve. Speak to an expert who can help you move forward swiftly and effectively. Surround yourself with compassionate people who know exactly how you feel. Learn to control your emotions before they control you. ## Cater to your children’s sense of security, comfort and identity When there is a break or divorce between two parents, the very first thought that comes to a child’s mind is, ‘What’s going to happen to me?’. When it’s a divorce with a narcissistic ex-husband, that thought soon gets changed to ‘Why doesn’t Daddy love me?’. This is a key thing you must cater to. The love that comes from you needs to be unconditional and reliable and also needs to fill the gap that Daddy left. The children need to be continuously reminded that there is a parent who loves them no matter what grades they get in school or how well they excel at extracurricular activities. Be quick to give positive affirmations for things that they do well in and comfort for things that they beat themselves up on. Reframing is a useful way of changing a negative into a positive, such as: > *‘It’s OK. Everyone makes mistakes. What do you think you learnt from it?’* > > *‘Don’t worry, Mummy isn’t mad. But what do you think we can do to prevent this from happening again?’* > > *‘Hey, why don’t you be my number one helper so we can get things done together? That way, we won’t take so long to have breakfast and won’t be late for school.’* Allowing children to navigate their way through shame, guilt, anger, or sadness helps give them a voice and the confidence needed to make their own decisions away from the controlling environment of their father. Encouraging questions will help them develop their curiosity in a healthy manner. Similarly, allow them to form their own way of processing the breakup, which might be very different from yours. This is because their perception of the relationship might be different, meaning they have contrasting thoughts and feelings about it, despite how alien it might seem to you. To help your kids cope with a narcissistic father, you can say things like: > *‘I appreciate that you brought that up. How do you feel about that?’* > > *‘So, what does Daddy’s new girlfriend being in his life mean to you?’* > > *‘I understand that you feel that way. Do you think this will affect you when you’re at school?’* ## How to help your kids cope with a narcissistic father (cont.) ## Control your understandable anger Remember that anger is by far the most damaging emotion, and the real victims of it are your children. So, whenever you can, try to see it from your children’s point of view. If you feel like bad-mouthing your ex or taking spiteful action against him, think about what it might mean to your children. No matter how the narcissist might deserve it, the children do not deserve to be in the middle of a vicious tug-of-war between their parents. They already have one angry parent, and they do not need another. This is where the work on yourself will matter most. Your children will likely have been subjected to abusive behaviour that will infuriate you and will make them question their self-worth. For this reason, focus on preventing and rebuilding positive experiences so that the children’s suffering is minimal. You can solidify their sense of identity by assigning individual tasks to them, special little jobs that they can take pride in. This also shows that you trust them. Taking over the roles of two parents in this manner and staying calm at the same time is a big ask of someone who is already going through a double heartbreak—one from your ex and another from seeing the children upset—but hang in there, for the journey will be worth it. ## Observe and have a contingency plan You’re the only one who knows what he’s really like underneath the mask he presents to everyone else. Mothers who suffer are mothers who do not take advantage of that knowledge. Understand that manipulations are usually done with a single aim—to draw fuel. The narcissist seeks such fuel in the form of positive attention or a negative reaction, and the children will be the easiest targets. He will anger, upset, and guilt the children to keep them as a dependable source of energy. He might pit two or all the children against one another or favour one unfairly over the other. In a tactic known as triangulation, he might use the children to relay distressing news and plans to you or twist your words to make them think that Mummy does not love them. For this reason, you must formulate a plan, preferably with a [therapist or a similar expert](http://singlemamaway.com.au), on how to prevent or counter the effects of such manipulations. For your kids to cope with a narcissistic father, help them to recognise emotional abuse by having an honest and straightforward discussion with them. Present everything as fact, and let them know that their feelings and experiences are real and important. ## Limit communications Oh, if only you could completely cut that narcissistic ex off your and your children’s lives, right? If things were different – a.k.a. you can survive without having to co-parent – everything would be easier. One thing I’m still ashamed to admit was that I allowed myself and my kids to continue suffering from their self-centred father for some months after the separation. Although I had the hunch he was not going to take accountability for the fallout of our marriage, I hoped he would change in order for our new setup to work. Thankfully, I snapped out of my delusions early on. The kids and I couldn’t change him during the marriage. And I expected to change him when we’re divorced? As soon as I caught on with what he was doing, I started avoiding face-to-face interactions. Part of this was because I didn’t want to give him opportunities to embarrass me before the kids. More importantly, I wanted him to know he did not have control over me. Instead, I limited our communication to emails and text messages – absolutely no calls. I also stopped replying at once. At first, I would wait for 30 minutes, then a few hours later. I also limited my communication with him. I answered only what was being asked and stopped volunteering information, comments, and suggestions. If a face-to-face meeting was unavoidable, I made sure to keep it as short as possible. No small talks. These angered him, obviously, but I ignored it as much as I could. It took a lot of resolve to keep going. (I’m lucky nothing came out of his verbal threats.) If there’s one good thing that came out of this, it is that my children learned that they can set boundaries. As their mum, you have to model that they don’t have to keep in touch with abusive people. You must show them they don’t need to have a relationship with people who hurt and disrespect them – even if that is their father. ![cope with a narcissistic father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-5-1.png "Untitled-design-5-1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Control what you can control Finally, remember that although it seems like you are completely powerless, you’re not. Yes, you can’t control your narcissistic ex. You can’t control that there’s a court order that gives him the right over the kids. But if there’s one thing that you have control over, that is yourself. You have control over your boundaries. Know exactly what you consider acceptable and communicate these with your ex. Set clear boundaries and be firm. You don’t like his snide remarks about you in front of the kids? Yes, call him out right then and there. Most of the time, beneath the mask of overconfidence, lies an insecure person who can’t handle any criticism. When it comes to your boundaries, you don’t have to be the “bigger person” and let even the tiniest violations slide. As you know by now, a narcissist will test how much they can evade. When you turn a blind eye to small violations, soon, he will be crossing bigger lines. You have control over your reactions. It’s up to you how much power you want your kids’ narcissistic father to have over you. Keep in mind that they love seeing your emotions flaring up, so stay calm. Being emotionally distant disarms him. If he can’t elicit a reaction, he will see he can’t manipulate you. Lastly, you have control over what you want to do with the documentation of his abusive behaviour. You can bring these records to court as legal evidence when necessary. ## Final points to help your kids cope with a narcissistic father Co-parenting with a narcissist may be challenging and, at times, outright distressing. If you think by finalising the divorce, you got away from his self-centred behaviour, he’s going to make sure you don’t think that way for long. However, you’re strong! And you have what it takes to support your children, too. Unfortunately, magically turning your ex-husband into a better person is not an option. Yet you can remind yourself that the narcissist isn’t your life and that neither you nor the children revolve around him anymore. It can be incredibly freeing to know that he can never again control you without your permission. Take comfort in the thought that whatever you do now will have a profoundly positive effect on your children whilst teaching them to navigate one of the most difficult personality traits they will encounter in their lives. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/narcissistic-father/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/narcissistic-father/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** narc, toxic dad, narcissistic, co-parent, parenting support --- ### [Can you still be a family after separation or divorce?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/family-after-separation-divorce/) **Published:** February 3, 2021 **Author:** Sallyanne Hartnell **Content:** If you have kids, you are bound together even if your relationship dissolves or breaks down irretrievably. The question is: > ***“If you’re no longer living with your kid’s other parent, is it still possible to be a family?”*** From where I stand, 14 years after separating from the father of my two kids, I know this is possible. My family is living proof. We share family meals together for birthdays, breakfast together on Christmas Day, attend school and sporting events together, and check in with one another regularly. And not only about our kids, but about life in general as well as our extended families and shared friends. We’ve even been on holiday together. Does that mean it’s easy? And is it possible or even desirable for every separated family? That would be a bl@@dy great big NO, to both! And if I’m totally honest, there have been a handful of days where I wish we’d chosen otherwise. But it *is* possible if both you and your ex are open to trying. Here are the important things that have supported my family to remain “a family” after our divorce. ## CAN YOU STILL BE A FAMILY AFTER SEPARATION OR DIVORCE? ### THE FAMILY COMES FIRST By this I mean you continue to honour your family unit. You, your ex-partner/co-parent and your kids as a unit. You’re ALL on the same team, you just live in different places and share time and space differently. For special events such as birthdays, Christmas, school concerts, sporting events, the family gets the first invitation. Always. This has meant, at times, some sticky conversations with new partners (mine included) and with others who think our commitment to maintaining our “family” is strange. Be mindful of those who would rather fuel the disconnect than support something that challenges their own view of what a “family” looks like. In the early days, your kids are going to crave and need stability. Honour this as a family by doing important things and attending important events together. ### SHARE TIME TOGETHER As well as the bigger events, share time together as a family regularly. Once a month, share a meal together. If you need to keep it short and sweet, make it coffee and cake, or an ice-cream rather than a full dinner. It’s also easier in a neutral space such as a restaurant or café, rather than at home, but absolutely do home if you can. We often share a coffee and a catch-up chat at hand over. This allows our kids to see that we are still friendly and on the same team as co-parents. It also shows we genuinely care about each other and can share space without angst. If you can’t quite manage a shared meal, an hour’s play date in the park, bike ride together or a walk with the dog works well too. If there’s a special sporting event or movie you would all enjoy, go together. A movie is a great family option if you’d rather not share space with your ex for long. It’s dark. You don’t have to talk about anything other than who wants popcorn, and your kids still get a positive experience of family time. ## Can you still be a family after separation or divorce? (cont.) ### BE A UNITED FORCE Choose to be a united force, a team for your kids. Be on the same page. Share and show up with the same values you wanted to instil in your kids when you were together. School: Be there as a co-parenting team for first/last days, special assemblies or awards, meetings with teachers and especially if problems arise. [Homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/) and [screen time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/9-ways-to-cut-back-on-family-screen-time/): These are issues that can divide parents, whether together or divorced. Don’t allow your kids to play you off against one another. Now is not the time to be the “best” parent; it’s not about winning your kids’ love. It’s about being a united team and offering them stability and certainty when they are experiencing so much change. Extra-curricular activities: Being there to cheer your kids on at their sporting or music events sends them a powerful message that you are united in your love and support for them. Even though your intimate relationship has changed, you are still their biggest cheerleaders. Social activities: If you have teenagers, ensure the lines of communication are open between the two of you and with your teen. This is vital to their safety and will help them to make sensible decisions. Being a united force really boils down to: - Sharing the same values as co-parents, and - [Open communication](https://www.reflectcoaching.com.au/reflectblog/2019/8/30/communicating-with-your-ex-how-to-keep-it-calm) about what your kids are doing, where, how and with whom they are spending their time. ### KEEP YOUR PRIVATE STUFF PRIVATE Whether that’s what you’re arguing about with your ex, or your new partner, or what your MIL thinks or feels about you, keep it to yourself. Don’t share it with your kids. Your relationship with your ex ended for good reasons. Conflict will arise, things will come up, buttons will be pushed, and tempers will flare. However, be mindful not to bring it up in front of the kids. Allow your children to have a relationship with your ex (and your ex MIL) that isn’t filled with the adult conflict. Remember, they are a part of both of you. Openly sharing your adult conflict in front of them forces them to choose sides … which is like asking them to choose only one half of themselves. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Every relationship, every marriage, every family is different. Everyone’s triggers, fears, struggles and reasons for ending their relationship are different. This is *not* a one-sized fits all solution, but this is how we did it. It is how we remained a “family” albeit one that looked a whole lot different to what we’d hoped and dreamed it would – and this is how I coach and support my clients to do it. You don’t have to be best friends with your ex. Even so, sharing time as a family shows your kids that *they* are important to *both* of you. And that, as the grown-ups, you’re willing to hold a space with grace so they can share time with both of you. In fact, shows them that they are more important to you than any conflict or disagreement between you and your ex. As Esther Perel says: > *“Divorce is not the end of a family; it’s a reorganisation.”* As co-parents *YOU* get to choose how you most want that reorganisation to look. ![Can family still be family after divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Separated-family.png "Separated family - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/family-after-separation-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/family-after-separation-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** family, get with ex, helping kids --- ### [What is child inclusive mediation and should we do it?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/child-inclusive-mediation/) **Published:** July 25, 2022 **Author:** Donna Cameron **Content:** We all know that separation is extremely difficult. You have all your emotions running wild, the tears won’t stop, you can’t eat or sleep, you may have to work out where to live, how to pay all the bills alone and how to be alone. You have to rebuild your life, when all you want to do is hide under the doona cover, watch Netflix and pretend the world hasn’t changed. But, instead of being able to do what you want, at this hardest time of your life, you also have to make decisions related to the biggest ticket item in your whole world, the little loves of your life, the one thing that makes you smile and no its not chocolate … it’s your children. What is going to happen with your children? Who are they going to live with? What periods of time are they going to spend with their other parent? Will they be safe? What will happen if they miss you and want to come home early? What will YOU do without them? In an ideal world, we would allow ourselves time to go through the [grief and loss cycle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/) before we make such important decisions related to our children, because unfortunately when our emotions are all over the place, we sometimes don’t make the best or the right decisions. I have seen parents who do have the best wishes for their children, and understand that their children need and deserve a relationship with both parents, but in these early stages of grief and loss. They can be so fearful of losing yet another thing from their lives, that these rational thoughts disappear and the ‘fight’ for the children starts. As soon as this ‘fight’ starts, the little people that you are ‘fighting’ for are forgotten about. Whether you like it or not, the game of winning begins. We as parents start putting our own needs first and these little people, our children, and their wants and needs get forgotten. This may be very difficult to read for some parents, because I know this will not be your intent and I know that you will think you are doing the right thing for your little ones. I know this because I see clients like you every week. It is not intentional, it is emotional. Our emotions cause us to be different people and make decisions that years later we will finally see were emotional decisions and maybe not the best for our children. So, what do we do about it? How can we, as parents make sure the decisions we make for our children will be the best ones? How can we make our [breakup civilised for our children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/4-ways-to-keep-your-break-up-civilised-for-your-children/)? How do we put our own emotions on the back-burner for a second, so that our children will not be sitting on a Psychologist’s Couch in years to come blaming us for their issues! The answer is, we let them use their voice! ## WHAT IS CHILD INCLUSIVE MEDIATION Child Inclusive Mediation is the only process we have in Australia that allows your child’s voice to be heard in a non- judicial way. It is the only time that you will have an expert in this field talking to you and working with your whole family to develop the best parenting plan for your situation. ### OR THERE IS FAMILY COURT The only other time you will have an expert working with your family would be in the dreaded Family Court report process, which if any of you have been through will understand the stress related to this. A complete stranger assessing you, your ex-partner and your children and then writing their opinions in a report. Which to the Court will usually be the recommendations they will then Order for your family. So, if you have a report writer who doesn’t understand you or believe you and your concerns, then you will feel like you have lost your power as a parent and a parenting schedule will be decided by a third party, a Judge, and this may not be the best for your children. ## WHAT IS THE PROCESS FOR CHILD INCLUSIVE MEDIATION? ### A family mediation session Child Inclusive Mediation involves a session for you, your ex-partner and your children with an expert in this field. They are usually a mutual professional that neither you or your ex- partner has had contact with before. They will meet with you and your partner in individual sessions that usually go for about an hour. They will listen and let you talk about the separation, your children, any concerns you have regarding the other parents care of the children and most importantly the schedule of time that they feel is best for the children. The expert will listen for any emotions behind the proposed schedule and in a delicate way can offer suggestions of other schedules that may also work for your family. They keep these sessions focused on the children while still allowing you to provide the important background information. ### A child-only mediation session Once the parental sessions have occurred, the children are then invited in for a session. This session is in no way set up to create stress on your child or to make them feel like they have to choose between their parents. It is an opportunity for the expert to spend time with your children to develop an opinion of possible parenting schedules. In all my years of providing this service I always have happy children when they leave their sessions and they are usually laughing at me because they beat me at UNO! A child leaving a session provided by a good expert will feel like they have just had a chat and a play. They will feel empowered as they have had the opportunity to speak their mind and talk about their feelings. It must be understood that in this process, as important as your child’s voice is, that you are still the parent and sometimes what they think they want will not be an appropriate or a practical solution, so don’t be fearful that the expert will not identify this. I have had children talk to me about their ideal schedule being one night at mums, one night at dads, one night at mums, one night at dads and so on for the whole week. Of course, this is not going to be practical or even a good idea for the child but what this information told me was this child’s wishes to have both parents in their life. ### After the interview process Once the interview process is complete, the next step and the best step in my opinion is that now when you go to your Mediation session where you have a mediator and maybe a lawyer or a support person, you also have us, your expert at this session. We are there in the room to bring the voice of your child. Your children never attend this session we do this for them. We talk to you together or if you have chosen to mediate in separate rooms, separately and for this first part of mediation, you get to hear what your children are wanting and our opinion on how this can occur for your family. You basically get without spending the ridiculous amount of money on lawyers, Court fees and the $5000+ prize tag from a family report, the information in a verbal way which you can discuss with the expert. ## WHAT WE MAY TALK TO YOU ABOUT IN FUTURE MEDIATION SESSIONS - Developmental stages of your child and why certain schedules are not recommended for certain ages - If you rush to a 50/50 schedule for a baby why and how this will affect their attachment in the future. - For the older child, too many [transitions between the parent’s houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) will cause stress in their lives and be annoying for them. - Any potential risks for the future of plans you have presented to us The best thing about all of this is that we are all just talking. This is a mediation process, this is not a written Court document that you cannot throw away. You can listen to our opinions and our recommendations and you don’t have to agree with us. You are protected under the Mediation process that information presented in this meeting cannot be used in Court and another hidden benefit is if this does head to Court you have an idea of what recommendation might be written in your family report. Your expert then leaves, and you stay with your mediator and hopefully [develop a parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) that works for everyone. ## WHY CHILDREN NEED TO BE HEARD IN A SEPARATION Times have changed. Years ago, I would have been against children being so involved in this process but we have to adapt to the times. The way I parented my 15-year old and her personality is very different to my 5-year old. We have created a generation of children who are very aware of their surroundings, they know you are fighting about them and they want to be involved, heck these kids would show up to Court and speak to the Judge if they could! They have a voice and it needs to be heard. ## SHOULD YOU CONSIDER CHILD INCLUSIVE MEDIATION So, if you are recently separated and unsure how to develop your parenting plan and you are on your way to mediation, or if your children are getting older and you need to review your parenting plan, please consider Child Inclusive Mediation. In the majority of the cases I have worked on, our couples have reached agreement on parenting plans and or consent orders. This process can work for all ages as even with our younger children having the voice of the expert can be priceless. It can save your time, money and energy. It can stop the ‘fight’, the negative emotions and allow you to start moving forward to your new future with happy healthy children. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Spring-Style-Inspiration-2.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/child-inclusive-mediation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/child-inclusive-mediation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** mediation, child inclusive mediation --- ### [What is legal aid and can I get it for my family law case?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/) **Published:** March 13, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about legal aid for my family law case was last updated in 2022.*** When you go through a separation, the hope is that you can keep it civil and [avoid lawyers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/yes-can-divorce-without-seeing-lawyer/) and the Family Court. However, this is not always the case. If you do need to lawyer it can be very expensive, and you may not have the funds available to pay. In this case, Legal Aid could be available to you. Here is everything you need to know about Legal Aid. ## WHAT IS LEGAL AID AND CAN I GET IT FOR MY FAMILY LAW CASE? ### WHAT IS LEGAL AID? Legal Aid is free legal assistance provided by the government. It is designed to provide access to justice for low to middle income people who are unable to afford or access it otherwise. There is a legal aid commission in every state and territory in Australia. ### WHAT TYPE OF CASES DOES LEGAL AID COVER? Legal Aid covers a range of cases, including: - Family law - Criminal law - Immigration - Landlord/tenant matters - Civil cases ### WHAT KIND OF LEGAL ASSISTANCE CAN I GET Legal Aid commissions offer access to a range of services, including: - Financial assistance - Duty lawyer services - Education programs - Telephone legal advice - Brochures ### HOW DO I KNOW IF I QUALIFY FOR LEGAL AID? To be eligible for a grant of legal assistance for legal representation you need to show you cannot afford legal costs but you have a problem that is serious enough to warrant them, as well as proof that you live in the same state or territory as the Legal Aid Commission you are applying to. This is done by means testing and other criteria, which varies between states and territories. As a general rule the means test includes an assessment of the assets and income of each applicant for Legal Aid. The results of the means test will determine whether the applicant is: - Is applicable for legal assistance - Is application for a financial contribution to support legal assistance - Not application for legal assistance ### CONFLICT OF INTEREST WITH LEGAL ASSISTANCE If you are successful in your application for legal assistance, you will have a lawyer assigned to your case to represent you, however there could be a conflict of interest or a ‘legal conflict’. This can occur if the lawyer is: - Already representing the other party in your matter - Acting against a former client in a related matter - Acting with a personal interest in the case Should any of the above situations arise, usually a grant will be provided for a private lawyer to represent you. ### WHAT IF I NEED URGENT LEGAL SUPPORT? If your situation is an emergency and you need legal assistance urgently, you may be able to apply for funded legal assistance over the phone, via a solicitor. Please refer the specifics for your state or territory. ### CAN I APPEAL A DECISION OF REFUSAL OF LEGAL AID? It is possible that Legal Aid is refused if you do not meet requirements and/or failed the means test. If this happens, you will be told why in a letter and you may have the right to appeal the decision within set time limits. These varies between states, territories and individual applications. If you choose to appeal the decision of refusal, here are some actions to consider: - Contact your lawyer or other professionals assisting with your application and ask them to provide a letter of support against the decision - Include any information that you had previously omitted from your application - Include any new information or change of circumstance that may affect the appeal and final decision - Make note of your next court dates and what they are for ### WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE? If you need further information or would like to apply for legal assistance, visit the Legal Aid Commission for your state or territory here: [Legal Aid ACT](http://www.legalaidact.org.au/) [Legal Aid NSW](http://www.legalaid.nsw.gov.au/get-legal-help) [Northern Territory Legal Aid Commission](https://www.legalaid.nt.gov.au/) [Legal Aid Queensland](http://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home) [Legal Services Commission of South Australia](http://www.lsc.sa.gov.au/cb_pages/legal_help.php) [Legal Aid Tasmania](https://www.legalaid.tas.gov.au/need-help/?) [Victoria Legal Aid](https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/get-legal-services-and-advice) [Legal Aid WA](https://www.legalaid.wa.gov.au/) ### WHAT IF I DON’T QUALIFY BUT STILL NEED SUPPORT If you do not qualify for Legal Aid or you need support with a legal matter which is not covered by Legal Aid, you can contact a Community Legal Centre (CLC). There are almost 200 CLC’s across Australia providing free legal support in many areas of law, including Family Law and Family Violence. Find your nearest CLC [here](http://www.naclc.org.au/). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/2.png "2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** legal aid, legal assistance, legal costs, court costs --- ### [Just because you’re separating, doesn’t mean you need a lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/separating-doesnt-mean-need-lawyer/) **Published:** June 24, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Your family breakup will have been an unexpected twist in your life plan. No-one finds a partner and has kids, knowing that separation is on the cards. So, when it happens, we have absolutely no idea what we are doing. And the immediate reaction is to find a lawyer in the hope that they will sort everything out on our behalf. But stop! It is very possible that you will not need a lawyer for your separation, especially if you are still amicable with your ex-partner. Getting separated is primarily an administrative and financial process, rather than a legal one. And it has been known for lawyers to aggravate and lengthen the process, as well as create unnecessary costs. > *And, in case you’re wondering who I am …* > > *I’m Lucy, a single mum and the founder of the website you are on. I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums. You can get more in-depth, personalised support from my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://ecourse.beanstalkmums.com.au/), which has already been downloaded by 2k+ single mums from around the world.* ## Stop! Just because you’re separating, doesn’t mean you need a lawyer Before I continue I will point out that I am not anti-lawyer. I work with many incredible lawyers who I have the upmost respect for. Lawyers have a valid place in the separation process in some cases. But if you can avoid communicating with the man you once loved and had kids with through a total stranger, would that not be a better solution? Here is what you need to know if you are considering using a lawyer for your separation. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Divide_banner_2.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ### FOCUS ON YOUR OWN SITUATION As mentioned, you didn’t plan this, hence you have no idea how to proceed, especially whilst you are dealing with your own emotions and your children. First response: Turn to a friend who has ‘been through it’ and is already texting you her lawyer’s number. Yet, although your friend has also separated, her situation could be entirely different, in which case, it needs to be handled entirely differently. Be wary of well-meaning advice from friends, family and online social spaces. Take on board what people say and then recalibrate and think about what will work for you. In many cases, a lawyer is not the next step. ### SO, WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP? Before you start using dramatic phrases such as ‘you’ll be hearing from my lawyer’ or ‘I’ll see you in court’, the best result is that you never make it that far. Here are your options: - You and your ex have agreed on financial and parenting arrangements. Great! Get an expert to run their eyes over it and organise consent orders to be reviewed and stamped by the Family Court. This doesn’t have to be a lawyer. Instead, use an accountant who specialises in financial separation and will with work with both you and your ex to get the formalities in place, we recommend Divide – Simple Financial Separation. - You and your ex are reasonably amicable but are struggling to agree on some issues, meaning you can’t move forward. If this is you, book some mediation. You can use a free government service such as [Relationships Australia](https://www.relationships.org.au/) or a private mediator. A mediator will help you to resolve these issues, once resolved, you can move to the point above. - If mediation does not work for you and your ex, then you may have to consider using lawyers, and the possibility of a visit to the Family Court. ## WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HIRING A LAWYER The thought of trying to work things through with your ex-partner may seem as appealing as jumping off a cliff, however it is 100% the best way forward. Whether you need some mediation sessions, or not, resolving issues without a lawyer is way more favourable, here is why. ### YOU WILL NEED TO HIRE (AND PAY) FOR A LAWYER EACH What many people don’t realise is that when you use a lawyer for your separation, you need to hire one each. This means there will be two lawyer bills to pay from your joint asset pool and in some cases two (possibly hefty) retainers. Lawyers can also charge per action i.e. phone call, email, letter etc and these rates can be staggering, especially if you are already concerned about your financial future. Having said this, many lawyers now offer fixed costs and payment plans. ### A LAWYER WILL FIGHT YOUR CORNER This is what lawyers do … they represent you and play the game to try and get what you want. And this is perfect, right? Wrong. Have you considered that it will create further friction in an already delicate relationship between you and your ex. Scary lawyer letters written on your behalf and referring to you formally as Mrs (Surname) will create even more distance between you and the man with whom you once shared your life and now need to co-parent with. Is this really the way forward you were looking for? And don’t forget your lawyer cannot guarantee an outcome but they will charge you to try. ### HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT CO-PARENTING? It is understandable that you are all-consumed in the moment when you are separating. It is hard to see past the end of the day, let alone think about the long-term future. If you are planning to [co-parent with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/), then you should be laying firm foundations for a solid co-parenting relationship in which your kids can thrive. If your separation is a bloody battle of lawyer correspondence and costs that you both resent, or worse still, ends up in the Family Court, it will be hard to circle back and work together as co-parents. The people who suffer the most from this are your children. What happens now will affect them for years to come. ### COURT IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER TO YOUR PRAYERS Many ex couples try everything but are still unable to reach a resolution, even with lawyers, and the only option left is Family Court. If your case were to end-up in court, the costs can rocket sky-high. You may be eligible for [Legal Aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/), but if you are not, be prepared for the possibility of losing everything in your asset pool, plus more. Also, remember that a Family Court will listen to both sides of an argument and decide based on what they think is in the best interests of your child. It will not necessarily go the way you want, and it is ultimately a total stranger deciding the future for you and your children. ### NOT ALL LAWYERS ARE EQUAL If you do need a lawyer, make sure you take the time to [find the right lawyer for you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-choose-the-right-lawyer-for-your-family-law-case/). Arrange a ‘no cost’ chat with them to see if they are the right fit and make sure you feel listened to and understood. Consider whether their values align with yours and make sure they don’t overwhelm you with ‘law talk’. Always ask about fees which should be presented to you clearly. Oh, and steer away from a lawyer who promises you outcomes … they are lawyers, not miracle workers. Checkout our [Separation Support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/) page for lawyers in your area. [![OurFamilyWizard helps co-parents with conflict-free communication](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/300-x-250b.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=224401&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Just-because-youre-separating.png "Just because you're separating - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/separating-doesnt-mean-need-lawyer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/separating-doesnt-mean-need-lawyer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Property Settlement **Tags:** divorce, financial separation, family law, lawyer, do I need a lawyer --- ### [Navigating Family Law: Resources and Support Services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigating-family-law-resources-and-support-services/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Your family breakup will have been an unexpected twist in your life plan. No one finds a partner and has kids, knowing that separation or divorce is on the cards. So, when it happens, we have absolutely no idea what we are doing. And the immediate reaction is to find a lawyer in the hope that they will sort everything out on our behalf. But stop! It is very possible that you will not need legal services for your separation, especially if you are still amicable with your ex-partner. Getting divorced is primarily an administrative and financial process rather than a legal one. And it has been known for lawyers to aggravate and lengthen the process, as well as create unnecessary costs. > *And, in case you’re wondering who I am …* > > *I’m Lucy, a single mum and the founder of the website you are on. I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums. You can get more in-depth, personalised support from my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/), which has already been downloaded by 2k+ single mums from around the world.* ## What you need to know about hiring a lawyer for family law services The thought of trying to work things through with your ex-partner may seem as appealing as jumping off a cliff. However, it is 100% the best way forward. Whether you need some mediation sessions or not, resolving issues without a lawyer is way more favourable. Here are important family law matters you need to consider. ### You will need to hire (and pay) for a lawyer each What many people don’t realise is that when you use a lawyer for your separation, you need to hire one each. This means there will be two lawyer bills to pay from your joint asset pool and, in some cases, two (possibly hefty) retainers. Lawyers can also charge per action, i.e. phone call, email, letter, etc, and these rates can be staggering, especially if you are already concerned about your financial future. Having said this, many lawyers now offer fixed costs and payment plans. (Of course, if a pro bono lawyer can help and give you legal representation, great!) ### A lawyer will fight your corner This is what lawyers do … they represent you and play the game to try and get what you want. And this is perfect, right? Well, not always. Instead, it might create further friction in an already delicate relationship between you and your ex. Scary lawyer letters written on your behalf and referring to you formally as Mrs (Surname) will create even more distance between you and the man with whom you once shared your life and now need to co-parent with. Is this really the way forward you were looking for? And don’t forget your lawyer cannot guarantee an outcome, but they will charge you for just trying. The worst thing is for a couple to fail to resolve their family law disputes after pouring all that money. ### Have you thought about co-parenting? It is understandable that you are all consumed at the moment during divorce proceedings. It is hard to see past the end of the day, let alone think about the long-term future. If you are planning to [co-parent with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/), then you should be laying firm foundations for a solid co-parenting relationship in which your kids can thrive. If your separation is a bloody battle of lawyer correspondence and costs that you both resent or worse still, ends up in Family Court proceedings, it will be hard to circle back and work together as co-parents. The people who suffer the most from this are your children. What happens now will affect them for years to come. ![family law services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Untitled-design-10.png "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Court is not always the answer to your prayers Many ex-couples try everything but are still unable to reach a resolution, even with lawyers, and the only option left is Family Court. If your case were to end up in court, the costs could rocket sky-high. You may be eligible for[ National Legal Aid](https://www.nationallegalaid.org/). But if you are not, be prepared for the possibility of losing everything in your asset pool, plus more. Also, remember that Australia’s Family Court will listen to both sides of an argument and decide based on what they think is in the best interests of your child. It will not necessarily go the way you want, and it is ultimately a total stranger deciding the future for you and your children. ### Not all lawyers are equal If you do need a lawyer, make sure you take the time to [find the right lawyer for you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-choose-the-right-lawyer-for-your-family-law-case/). Arrange a ‘no cost’ chat with them to see if they are the right fit and make sure you feel listened to and understood. Consider whether their values align with yours, and make sure they don’t overwhelm you with ‘law talk’. Reputable [Townsville lawyers](https://www.rapidlegal.com.au/) will communicate clearly and ensure their fees are transparent from the outset. Oh, and steer away from a lawyer who promises you outcomes … they are lawyers, not miracle workers. ## Stop! Just because you’re splitting doesn’t mean you need a lawyer Before I continue, I will point out that I am not anti-lawyer. I work with many incredible lawyers who I have the upmost respect for. Lawyers have a valid place in the separation process in some cases. But if you can avoid communicating with the person you once loved and had kids with through a total stranger, would that not be a better solution? Here is what you need to know if you are considering using a lawyer for your separation. ## Focus on your own situation As mentioned, you didn’t plan this. Hence you have no idea how to proceed, especially whilst you are dealing with your own emotions and your children. First response: Turn to a friend who has ‘been through it’ and is already texting you her lawyer’s number. Yet, although your friend has also split, her situation could be entirely different. Your friend can provide advice and assistance, but that doesn’t mean it applies to you. Be wary of well-meaning advice from friends – including family and online social spaces. Take on board what people say, and then recalibrate and think about what will work for you. In many cases, a lawyer is not the next step. ![family law services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Untitled-design-11.png "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## So, what is the next step? Alternatives to traditional family law services Before you start using dramatic phrases such as ‘you’ll be hearing from my lawyer’ or ‘I’ll see you in court’, the best result is resolving issues without going to court. In cases where the family law system need not be involved, here are your options: ### Commonwealth Courts and E-Filing Commonwealth Courts and E-Filing offer a range of services that can help with Family Court of Australia matters. Information and services are available on the Commonwealth Courts Portal website, run by the attorney general’s department. This includes resources for navigating parenting and property issues, as well as technology to suggest a split. Independent children’s lawyers and duty lawyers can also provide assistance. For those in need of immediate support, the advice line is a national telephone service offering legal and social advice. ### Family Relationship Advice Line: The Family Relationship Advice Line on 1800 050 321 is your go-to source for all things family-related, from family law issues to arrangements for children and young people. Not only do they provide legal assistance, but they also offer free support services to people affected by family violence. Open Monday to Friday, the Australian Family Law Services and Support hotline is a lifesaver for anyone in need of help with domestic and family violence. They have a team of specialist family lawyers who provide free legal and family advice. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by your family situation, don’t hesitate to give them a call. (You can call the hotline from 8 am to 8 pm on weekdays and from 10 am to 4 pm on Saturdays. It’s available throughout Australia.) ### Amica Need legal advice or assistance with family relationship issues? Look no further than Amica’s 1300 hotline. They provide law services and support fact sheets to help guide you through the Family Court of Western Australia process. Whether you need to visit the family court or are seeking information to help on arrangements for children after separation, Amica has the service that helps. They are also available to family members and friends who may need assistance. Information and social support services are readily available through this organisation, a free service available to all. Accessible in every state and territory, Amica uses artificial intelligence to be your go-to for all things legal help. ### Family Advocacy and Support Service FASS is here to help with all your family relationship issues, whether you’re navigating the Family Court of Western Australia or just in need of some guidance. It’s a free service developed by National Legal Aid and supported by State and Territory Legal Aid Commissions. Don’t let family issues overwhelm you – there are plenty of resources and support available. Whether you need information about family law services and support or just want to talk to a friendly organisation about your situation, FASS is here for you. ### Mediation: [Family dispute resolution and mediation](https://www.familylawyersdw.com.au/mediation-family-dispute/) is like having a referee in the middle of a boxing match between a separated couple. Only, instead of throwing punches, they help the couple come to a resolution on things like who gets the flat-screen TV, who gets stuck with the bratty kids on weekends, and who has to keep paying for that fancy gym membership. Not only is it a more peaceful and wallet-friendly option than ducking it out in court, but it also lets the couple call the shots on how things get settled. ### Collaborative Law: In the world of collaborative law, every player brings their own legal representative to the party. But they all decide to put their big boy pants on and work together like grown-ups to sort out their differences without causing a courtroom showdown. It’s like a fancy dance where everyone sits around a table and tries to hammer out a deal that makes everyone happy. This approach is all about finding solutions instead of getting into a messy legal brawl, with the goal of keeping the peace and avoiding unnecessary drama. ### Arbitration: Arbitration is like a turbocharged version of Judge Judy where an arbitrator, basically a legal ninja, settles the beef between two parties and whatever decision they make is final. It’s a fast and furious alternative to going to court, giving the parties more say in who plays referee and when the whole shebang goes down. ### Family Relationship Centres (FRCs): FRCs are basically like relationship superheroes, swooping in to save the day when couples are at each other’s throats. These centres offer all sorts of services to help sort out family drama, minus the federal circuit and family court. They can assist parents in developing a parenting plan for their children. And the best part? They won’t break the bank, with many services being totally free. So next time you’re ready to strangle your (former) significant other, just remember there’s a safe space to hash it out. ### Do-It-Yourself (DIY) Separation Agreements: Who needs expensive lawyers or court battles when you can hammer out your own separation agreement? With resources and templates on family relationships online, you can DIY your way through this process. This approach not only saves you money but also gives you complete autonomy over the terms of your separation. Just make sure both parties are well-versed in their legal rights and parenting responsibilities to ensure a fair and binding agreement. Each of these alternatives offers different advantages and may be more suitable to your situation. It’s often advisable to seek initial free legal advice to determine the best approach to establish parenting arrangements after separation. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigating-family-law-resources-and-support-services/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/navigating-family-law-resources-and-support-services/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** divorce, legal help, splitting up, Law services --- ### [The role of family mediation in high conflict separations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-mediation-high-conflict-separations/) **Published:** April 20, 2023 **Author:** Lisanne Iriks **Content:** Divorce isn’t easy for anyone, but when you’re dealing with a high conflict situation it’s even more difficult. As a Conflict Resolution and Mediation expert it’s my job to guide parents through the process, and achieve the best possible outcomes in mediation for you and your children. After separation a lot of people feel emotional, scared and anxious about the future. You don’t know what’s going to happen with the care of your children and you don’t know what will happen financially. That uncertainty creates fear, especially when you’re in high conflict with your ex and know it’s not going to be an easy process to reach agreements. Here’s some insights into the mediation process and some tips on how to prepare for mediation. ## The role of family mediation in high conflict separations When you contact a mediator the first thing that happens is a private intake session. You’ll have time with the mediator to tell your side of the story and everything that concerns you. Even if your ex is the one who contacts the mediator first, you’ll still get a private conversation. It’s also important to know that for a good mediator, it’s not important which person contacts them first. A mediator is a neutral party, there to support you both. ## What do you need for your intake session? All that’s required is for you to tell your story. If there’s any court orders in place please bring them, and if you want to deal with your financial separation bring a list of your assets and liabilities. If you don’t have that yet, don’t worry. You have plenty of time to get organised between your intake session and the joint mediation session. The intake session is also for the mediator to assess the situation. If there’s been domestic violence or the children are at risk the mediator needs to know. If you don’t want to sit in a room with your ex-partner please speak to your mediator about this. Mediation is not a process to traumatise people further. There are many different ways to facilitate a mediation session. I prefer my clients speak to each other, as they’re going to be parents together for the rest of their lives, but only if that isn’t counterproductive. If you feel uncomfortable, that’s ok. To be honest, nobody likes mediation and I am fully aware that visiting me won’t be the highlight of your week. But, I want to make it as comfortable as possible for you. So please tell your mediator if your ex makes you feel scared or anxious. After the intake sessions there will be a joint mediation session if your situation is suitable for mediation. The joint session will be conducted in a way that works for your situation, based on the mediator’s assessment from the intake sessions. If you come to agreements in mediation the mediator will type up the agreements and send them to you. Listen to my podcast episode: [Why making agreements with your ex and writing them down is so important](https://www.buzzsprout.com/1073029/9238499) ## What are the different styles of mediation? ### Face-to-face mediation You will sit in a room together and discuss the issues, as you try to find resolutions and make agreements. ### Shuttle mediation You’re in different rooms and the mediator goes between rooms. The mediator will relay to both of you what you’ve said and will facilitate discussions which hopefully lead to an outcome you can both live with. ### Mediation via Zoom shuttle or face-to-face Doing sessions via Zoom can feel safer. You’re not sitting next to your ex, but you are talking to them. You can also turn your screen or sound off if you need to. Plus the mediator can separate you into virtual breakout rooms easily. ### Phone mediation Personally I’m not a fan of phone mediation as I can’t see people and body language is something I rely on heavily on as a mediator. If there is no other option because of where people live, I will do it. ### Lawyer assisted mediation If you feel scared, aren’t confident negotiating alone, or your situation is very complex then lawyer assisted mediation can help. It is more costly, but can really help if you get the right lawyers involved. It doesn’t mean you don’t have to talk to your ex, but you will have someone on your side as the mediator is neutral. A lot of people misunderstand mediation, because they think it means you have to sit in a room with your ex and that’s simply not the case. Mediation is often stressful for people but as a mediator I do my best to make it as easy as possible for my clients. Family mediation in high conflict separations is particularly helpful when assisted by a lawyer. I also recommend my clients prepare for mediation by: - **Having support:** Get someone to drop you off and pick you up. Someone that can lift you up and support you. - **Get help:** Work with a counsellor or coach to get stronger and clearer. Work on your triggers. When you disable the buttons, there’s no longer any buttons to push. - **Get advice:** Information is power. Understand what a court would decide roughly in relation to your children and your financial settlement. This can be empowering or a reality check. ## Conclusion: The role of family mediation in high conflict separations Mediation is an opportunity to create the best possible outcome without anyone forcibly making a decision for you. When you understand what could come next if you don’t agree in mediation then you can also negotiate much more effectively. My advice is try and work out your best case scenario before you come to mediation. And please share that with your mediator in your private session. That way they can play devil’s advocate and test your scenario based on their experience. That will help you prepare for the mediation session. [Being prepared for mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-tips-to-get-the-very-most-out-of-your-mediation-process/) is powerful and will ultimately help you gain the best possible outcome for you and your family. Come prepared, have an open mind, and trust your mediator and you’ll be sure to make the right decisions for your family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-mediation-high-conflict-separations/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-mediation-high-conflict-separations/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Splitting up --- ### [Do I need a divorce lawyer for separation and divorce?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyer-separation/) **Published:** October 31, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** No one prepares us for separation or divorce. We are in denial until it happens and most people (myself included) think we must hire a divorce lawyer straight away. I blame it on the movies with the warring couples screaming “I’ll see you in court” before they storm out of the house, slamming doors firmly behind them. The reality is that if you separate you probably won’t need to go to court and you might not even need a divorce lawyer. This is good news. It’s important to know this because both are very expensive and if you can avoid them it will make your separation cheaper and more amicable. This, in turn, paves the way for you and your ex to be better co-parents to your kids, which is the No.1 goal for most of us. I have been divorced for ten years and at the time of separation had no idea that it was possible without a lawyer. Since then I have worked in the single parent industry for eight years alongside divorce lawyers, financial separation specialists, mediators and thousands of single mums. I have learned a lot and although I can’t go back and do my own divorce differently, I can educate others so you know whether or not you need a divorce lawyer for your separation. ## THE SHORT ANSWER I go into more detail next, but the short answer here is that you don’t need to hire a lawyer when you separate or divorce. Every family separation is unique so it might be that your mate who separated used a lawyer but that doesn’t mean you need to. My ex and I used lawyers but looking back with the knowledge I have now, we didn’t need them as we were amicable and knew exactly how/what we wanted to separate. Using lawyers was a waste of money from our asset pool. ## YOU ALWAYS NEED TWO DIVORCE LAWYERS I had no idea when we separated that my ex and I both had to hire separate lawyers. We even met together with one lawyer who drew up our Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) based on our wishes and were told after that one of us needed a separate lawyer to look over it … at huge expense. I understand this is necessary for couples in dispute, but we weren’t so it was overkill. It even caused some conflict with lawyers pushing us to do things we hadn’t agreed on when we discussed the matter together. Be aware: If your ex hires a lawyer, you will either need one too or have to [learn to self-represent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-representing-family-court/) which can be hard if you do not know the legal system. ## COURT BINDING DOCUMENTS WITHOUT FAMILY COURT So you want your property settlement or consent orders for the care of your children legally stamped? That’s understandable but you can do this without divorce lawyers or family court. If I had my time again (which I am glad I don’t … one separation was quite enough), I would use a specialist separation accountant. Here on Beanstalk and in our group the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine), we work with Divide – Simple Financial Separation. They will work with both you and your ex to reach an agreement and have your orders approved by the Family Court, without using lawyers. Another option for couples with some legal knowledge and time on their hands is to DIY their separation. Consent order applications can be filed online through the [Commonwealth Courts Portal](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/forms/app-consent-kit#:~:text=An%20Application%20for%20Consent%20Orders,filing%20at%20a%20court%20registry.). If you do this, I advise you to get a professional to check the application before submitting it so you have more chance of it being successful and not having to go through the process again … more money, more time. ## MEDIATION INSTEAD OF A FAMILY LAWYER If you and your ex are struggling to reach agreements about important matters such as caring for your children and splitting assets, you might think the next step is to hire a family lawyer each. And in some cases, it is. However, I urge you to consider hiring a mediator first. The difference is this: - Lawyers will take over all communication between you and your ex which will now flow through four people (you, your ex, and two lawyers) by letter or email. For some couples, this helps. For other couples, it slows and aggravates an already high-conflict situation. It is also expensive. - Family mediators will encourage you and your ex to continue to communicate but will facilitate it from a neutral standpoint to help you reach agreements. Mediation can be free or discounted (try [Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/)) and the cost is shared between you and your ex. Which sounds better? I’m not saying mediation is the right alternative to lawyers for everyone but it is an option that you need to know is available to you. **Note:** If you try mediation, it helps to get legal advice before to educate yourself on what is reasonable and fair, and what might happen if mediation fails and your matter ends up in the family law system. Depending on your financial situation [legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/) may be available to you. ## GET LEGAL ADVICE WITHOUT HIRING A LAWYER Leading on from the above point, you can get legal advice without hiring lawyers for your separation. Many family law practices offer a free call/consultation where you can discuss your personal situation and receive guidance on the best way forward. The session will be short but it might provide enough information for your next steps. I booked one appointment with a family lawyer at my local [Community Legal Centre](https://clcs.org.au/) which was brilliant and free, although I did make a small donation. These centres are all over Australia and excellent if you need one-off legal support. ## DON’T HIRE A DIVORCE LAWYER FOR YOUR DIVORCE One of the biggest myths on this topic is that you need to hire a lawyer for your divorce. Firstly, separation and divorce are different. Separation is the tricky one. It is all about property settlement and the care of your children. [Divorce is an administrative procedure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-divorce-in-australia/) that can be done online in about 30-minutes when you have been officially separated for at least one year and one-day. **Note:** This can take longer if you are entering a sole divorce application or your ex has gone awol. Only hire a lawyer for your divorce if you have money to burn or are unable to complete an online form. I honestly didn’t know all this stuff when my ex-husband and I split. ## YOU MIGHT NEED A DIVORCE LAWYER I’ve pointed out reasons not to use a family lawyer but they have an important role in many separations Use a family lawyer if: - Conflict is too high for mediation or one party won’t agree to it - You have tried mediation and failed - Domestic violence is present (emotional or physical) - Child custody is complex - Estate/property matters are complex ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyer-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyer-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Divorce **Tags:** divorce, family law, how to prepare for mediation, mediator, legal, consent --- ### [Family court methods to divide assets in a family breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divide-assets-family-breakup/) **Published:** March 31, 2023 **Author:** Jillian Zhang **Content:** When trying to divide up assets after a divorce or relationship breakdown, things can get a little murky. For this reason, the Family Court has developed effective methods to deal with the apportioning of assets after a breakup occurs. We recommend familiarising yourself with best practices before you start the who-get’s-what negotiations. Knowing what the court will and won’t accept can not only help guide you, but it will give you a framework to begin the financial separation process. There are two ways that a property settlement can be decided. They are: - Outside of court - By the courts Note: Even if your property settlement is decided outside of court, it must still meet certain requirements to make it a legal document. Here we explain the family court methods to divide assets in a family breakup. ## How are property settlements decided outside of Court? The parties of a divorce or separation can reach an agreement on the distribution of assets via different means. For example, a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) may be made by both parties without having to go to Court. However, there are several requirements for a financial agreement to become binding, as listed by [The Family Law Act 1975](https://www.legislation.gov.au/Details/C2019C00101). For instance, each party must have obtained independent legal advice. Consent orders may also be agreed upon. A consent order is binding, and is issued by the Court based on an agreement that both parties have drawn up and have given their consent to. A consent order could secure finalising your property matter and prevent future claims. It should be noted that if the parties were married and have applied for divorce, they must commence court proceedings for property settlement, either by consent or not, within 12 months of their divorce being effective. In the case of de facto relationships, property settlement must occur within 2 years of separation. Parties may also choose to separate but not file for divorce until years later. However, when a Court is deciding on the distribution of assets, they will only value the assets at the time of Court action, not the earlier time of separation, possibly creating significant surprises for the parties. ## How are property settlements decided by the Courts? The Court will undergo a range of steps to decide on the distribution of assets. ### Step 1: Identify the pool of assets After separation occurs, it is mandatory that both parties declare all of their assets and liabilities, whether they are held in joint names, individually or in any form of trust. This includes both assets acquired during the relationship and assets owned prior to the relationship. All assets must be declared, as hiding assets can have serious consequences. ### Step 2: Assess contributions made by each party The Court will examine all direct financial contributions including salary and investments, along with indirect contributions including inheritance or gifts. They will also assess non-financial contributions including child rearing and full-time home support. Generally, the Court will view both financial and non-financial contributions as equal. Although assets which were owned prior to the relationship will be given a greater weight earlier in the timeline, whilst not a definitive rule, after approximately 10 years these assets will be treated equally with assets which were acquired during the relationship. ### Step 3: Account for future needs Here, the Court may consider things such as the restriction on earning capacity, age and health, along with ongoing child support. Within this, a 50:50 split is not an expected outcome, as there are many individually assessed factors which will be considered. ### Step 4: Just and equitable? In the final stage, the Court will judge whether the outcome is just and equitable to the needs of both involved parties, along with any involved children. It should be noted that superannuation will also be assessed, however limits apply as it is an asset that must be retained as superannuation until retirement age. ## Conclusion: Family court methods to divide assets in a family breakup In conclusion, all assets held prior to or acquired throughout a relationship will go into the asset pool, whether they are in single or joint names. Financial and [non-financial contributions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/entitlements-non-working-parents-property-settlement/) will be treated impartially. Family courts have a variety of methods to determine how assets should be distributed. They are in place to ensure that both parties receive a fair and equitable distribution of assets, while also considering the needs of the children involved. It is important for individuals going through a family breakup to seek the advice of a qualified family lawyer who can guide them through the legal process and help them navigate the complexities of asset division. With the proper guidance and support, it is possible to emerge from a family breakup with a fair and just outcome that allows both parties to move forward with their lives. ![Divide assets in a family breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Spring-Style-Inspiration-3.png "Spring Style Inspiration (3) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divide-assets-family-breakup/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divide-assets-family-breakup/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Property Settlement **Tags:** property settlement, financial settlement, asset pool --- ### [A Guide to Family Dispute Resolution Mediation Services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/a-guide-to-family-dispute-resolution-mediation-services/) **Published:** June 18, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Family law issues are often emotional and difficult. They often leave family members feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, and unable to resolve the situation on their own. Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) Mediation is a valuable tool in helping separated families navigate difficult situations in a constructive and dignified manner. In this guide, we will explore the principles and processes of FDR Mediation. We will outline how it can effectively address conflicts within families and promote positive communication and understanding. FDR Mediation may provide a safe and neutral space for all parties involved to express their concerns, listen to each other’s perspectives, and work towards finding mutually agreeable solutions. By understanding the benefits and procedures of this process, families can move towards settling their conflicts in a [collaborative](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/) and respectful manner, ultimately fostering stronger relationships and long-term stability. ## Starting the mediation process: You may contact [Bayside Mediation](https://baysidemediation.com.au) to learn about the legal aid services offered, discuss your specific situation with one of our experienced and accredited Family Dispute Resolution practitioners, and make an appointment for your intake interview. The Family Law Act requires one party to the separation to initiate mediation. The mediator then invites the other party into the process. You don’t have to have your former partner’s agreement when choosing your negotiator. ## Family Mediation Intake Interview: ### Intake and Assessment The first stage of the process involves gathering information about the parties involved in the dispute, assessing the nature and complexity of the issues in dispute, and determining the appropriate approach to negotiate the conflict. The mediator you contact at Bayside Mediation will work with you to complete your matter. Each party must meet with the intermediary individually before booking a joint session. During this intake interview, the arbitrator will listen to your side of the story and will help you clarify the issues in dispute and the steps you need to take to develop possible solutions. This may include: - Go through the history of the relationship to help the mediator assess whether the FDR process is safe and appropriate. - Provide you with information on the process and explain the relevant family law principles that will impact your decisions. - Help you to make a to-do list to prepare for mediation adequately. - Suggest appropriate referrals for emotional support, legal advice, counselling, income support or other assistance. ![fdr mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Untitled-design-7.png "Untitled design (7) - Beanstalk Mums")### Education and Preparation In this stage, the parties are provided with information about the FDR process, their rights and responsibilities, and the options available to them for resolving their dispute. Both parties are encouraged to engage in individual or joint preparation to ensure they are fully informed and ready to participate effectively in the process. After your intake interview, the intermediary will contact the other party and invite them to join the process. Mediation is mandatory for all children’s and financial matters (with some exceptions related to safety). Should a party refuse to attend or not make a genuine effort in mediation, the in-between may issue an s60(I) certificate, which allows you to commence Court proceedings. You can use a s60I Certificate stating non-attendance or non-genuine effort to seek a costs order against your ex. Only practitioners registered with the Attorney General’s Office can issue s60I certificates. So, make sure that you choose a registered intermediary, in case your mediation fails. ### First Session Facilitated Negotiation: The core of the process involves facilitated negotiations between the parties, with the assistance of a neutral third party (such as a mediator or counsellor). The facilitator helps the parties clarify their interests, communicate effectively, and work towards reaching a mutually acceptable understanding. At the first session, the mediator: - explains the rules, such as confidentiality requirements, speaking respectfully, not interrupting each other, etc. - encourages you to consider each other’s point of view, help you explore options and reality test whether these options are workable or realistic. - encourages you to focus on your child in all negotiations and help you work out an agreement that takes into account everybody’s needs - may also call a private session at any time. You may be in the same room the entire session, or you may ask to have private time with the mediator at any stage of the process. - works with you to produce a parenting plan and/or, in principle, financial agreement regarding your assets and liabilities. Bayside Mediation can also help to make your settlement legally binding. ### Subsequent Sessions: Many government-funded mediation services only offer 2-hour FDR sessions, so it is highly likely that you will need more than one session to settle all your issues. Bayside Mediation offers sessions of up to four hours in duration and works to facilitate your dispute as quickly as possible. However, it is not unusual for a mediated agreement to take more than one session to complete. Especially so if we are dealing with both children’s matters and financial matters after separation and divorce. Parenting matters are usually dealt with first. ### Agreement and Implementation If the parties reach a resolution through negotiation, the parties formalise and sign a written contract. The parties are then supported in implementing the settlement and addressing any issues arising during the implementation process. ## Parenting Plans: Once you have reached an agreement regarding parenting matters in mediation, you should have a signed and dated understanding, which will constitute your Parenting Plan. Whilst not legally binding, an existing signed plan may be produced as evidence of the parties’ intention at the time they entered into it. Judges and registrars often consider such plans in any future parenting orders they make. ## Agreements and Consent or Family Court Orders: Parenting agreements reached in conflict resolution are not legally binding. They are similar to a ‘Heads of Agreement’ produced by lawyers. However, both parties honour over 85% of FDR-mediated contracts. If required, Consent Orders through the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia formalise agreements reached in mediation (both parenting and financial). If either party breaches their Consent Orders, court proceedings can be instituted to enforce them. ### 60(I) Certificates in mediation: If the parties cannot reach an agreement, the FDR Practitioner may issue the s60(I) certificate, which allows the matter to proceed to a court case. The FDRP must indicate why the certificate was issued. This can be for a variety of reasons, including if a party refuses to attend mediation or does attend but does not make an effort to resolve disputes. A judge can order the matter back to mediation or award costs to the party who did not act in good faith. ![family dispute resolution](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/Untitled-design-6.png "Untitled-design-6 - Beanstalk Mums")## Review and Follow-Up: After implementing the agreement, the parties have the opportunity to review its effectiveness and address any lingering issues or concerns. Follow-up sessions may be scheduled to ensure that the agreement remains viable over time. Overall, the goal of dispute resolution is to empower the parties to mediate their conflicts constructively and cooperatively, while also preserving important relationships and minimising the negative impact of the dispute on all involved. ## What happens if Family Dispute Resolution services are unsuccessful? FDR is a crucial step in settling conflicts within families before resorting to legal action. If it is unsuccessful, parties may need to apply to the court for a resolution. In case of family violence, parties may skip the process and go directly to the family law court for parenting orders. However, if parties have not made a genuine effort to resolve the dispute through FDR, they will need to obtain a Section 60i certificate before applying to the court. Organisations like Relationships Australia NSW provide accredited services to help families resolve their family law disputes through mediation or FDR. It’s important to remember that not all disputes can be resolved outside the court. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed during the resolution process. ## How do I find a practitioner? Practitioners can assist in resolving family conflicts and disputes without going to court. If you are in Australia, you can find an accredited practitioner by contacting your local family relationship centre or Family Relationships Australia NSW. These centres offer services and can help you navigate the Australian family law system. The practitioner will work with you to resolve the dispute and may provide a section 60i certificate if you make a genuine effort to resolve the issue. If mediation or FDR fails, you may need to apply for court for parenting orders. It’s important to remember that family law court takes family violence seriouslyt. The safety of all involved parties is a top priority. Family problems often arise due to a relationship breakdown and can be emotionally taxing for all involved. Mediation for helping separated couples and families can be a useful tool to come to an agreement. Working with an accredited practitioner can help you achieve a resolution that is fair and just for everyone. Remember, Australia requires you to attend FDR before applying to a family law court. This is a special type of mediation designed to help families resolve disagreements in a peaceful and amicable way. ## Contact us If you have any enquiries or wish to speak to a qualified FDR mediator about your situation, do not hesitate to phone Bayside Mediation on 03 9553 6491. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/a-guide-to-family-dispute-resolution-mediation-services/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/a-guide-to-family-dispute-resolution-mediation-services/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law --- ### [6 Things that can go wrong if you don't write a will](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/6-things-that-can-go-wrong-if-you-dont-write-a-will/) **Published:** June 24, 2020 **Author:** Nadia MacLeod **Content:** A will is a legal document that explains how you wish to distribute your assets after you die. We all know we should have one, but it’s one of those things that’s easy to ignore. Wills are also a little bit scary – nobody wants to think about their demise, let alone what happens afterwards! Completing a valid will is the best thing you can do to ensure your loved ones are sufficiently provided for and that your estate is handled according to your wishes. As with all legal documents, a will should be crystal clear in outlining what you want. It should also be valid and up to date. You will need to appoint an executor such as a family member, friend or solicitor, and they will hold a copy of the will, so it’s important to make sure they have the most recent copy when you make any changes. You also need to make sure that more than one other person is aware of who holds your will – especially in blended families or second marriages – as this ensures the most recent copy is produced when you pass away, rather than an outdated copy or no copy at all. If no copy can be found, the courts will determine how the estate will be distributed. So, if you’ve decided to draft a will, it’s important to work with an experienced attorney to guide you through the process. As a legal document, a will has formalities that need to be observed in order to be valid and binding. Otherwise, it produces no legal effect. That’s why with a lawyer by your side, you can ensure your will is drafted with the formalities required by your state laws. But despite the importance of a will, many people are still hesitant about the idea of writing one for themselves. As a result, several terrible things can happen if you fail to prepare a will. There are six things that can go wrong if you don’t write a will. ## 6 Things that can go wrong if you do not write a will ### You will not have the power to determine who gets your belongings The whole point of a will is to decide who gets your assets and belongings. Many people don’t have a will because they ‘didn’t get around to it’ or think they don’t need one because they’re young or healthy. If you pass away without a will, you’ll be considered ‘intestate’ and a court will distribute your assets. Having no valid will also means you have no power or voice because even if you have told someone what your wishes are, these may not be taken into consideration. For example: > *Sally was suffering from cancer and told her adult children that she wanted them to inherit her home and valuable belongings after she passed away. She was insistent upon this because she had remarried two years ago.* > > *Unfortunately, Sally did not get the chance to make a valid, legal will in time and despite the children explaining the situation in court, all of Sally’s assets were distributed solely to her new husband as he was considered next of kin!* In Australia, most states will pass 100% of your assets to your spouse if you are considered intestate, despite the age of your children or whether your spouse is their parent. If you have no living spouse, all of your assets will pass to your children. Succession laws state that the order of next of kin is generally as follows: - Spouse - Child(ren) - Parent(s) - Sibling(s) or their children - Grandparent(s) - Aunty(ies) and Uncle(s) or their children. This may vary state-to-state though, so it’s worth checking your own state’s laws (or don’t take the risk at all and just ensure you have a will!). If you don’t have any living relatives, the state will receive your assets. Hence, if you want to spare your surviving family from the hassle associated with intestate succession, you should write a will with the help of an attorney. When you have a will, the administration of your estate will not be governed by your state’s intestate laws. Instead, your last will and testament will be the basis for the distribution of the estate as intended. But before that, your will may have to undergo probate before your assets will be transferred to your designated beneficiaries. For example, if you die in [WA](https://www.probateaustralia.com.au/guides/a-complete-guide-to-probate-and-letters-of-administration-in-wa/) or wherever you may be located, a Grant of Probate will be filed to validate your will and legally appoint a certain person to administer your estate and carry out your express wishes. On the other hand, Letters for Administration will be filed if you have a will but you fail to name an executor. Although it can be a lengthy and time-consuming process, probating a will may be a much better option if you want your estate to go to the people you want to inherit them. ## You won’t be sure your kids will get your assets, even if you’re separated from your spouse As mentioned above, there is a hierarchy of succession that determines who receives your belongings if you don’t have a will (are intestate). If you’ve left your spouse, they can still have 100% claim to your assets if you don’t have a will or your will isn’t valid, so it’s vitally important to ensure a valid will exists and is in safe hands if you want to ensure your children or step-children are provided for. [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/44128)](https://www.lifereader.com/) ## You’ll have no way of ensuring your ex can’t claim your estate Did you know your ex can claim on your estate even if you have been separated (but not divorced) from them for a while (and maybe even moved on with a new partner)? It’s true because even though you’re separated, your ex-partner is still your spouse in the eyes of the law until the marriage is dissolved through a divorce. If you were in the position of being legally married to one partner (while separated) and living with a [defacto partner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-should-i-know-about-de-facto/), then things can become extremely complicated if you don’t have a valid and current will. Without a will, your current defacto spouse and your ex would each have 50% claim to your estate, even if you have children (and your children may not be entitled to a claim on your estate depending upon the Australian state you live in). It is important to understand that any pre-existing will is not revoked because of a separation, however your will may become null and void, in some states, upon divorce. If you divorce your ex and marry your de-facto partner, your existing will becomes obsolete and if you don’t make a new will, your new husband or wife will receive 100% of your assets under an intestate arrangement. Sometimes a couple may have an existing [binding financial arrangement](https://peacefulpath.com.au/) in place, which determines the division of assets upon separation of parties. A binding financial arrangement may prohibit a spouse’s claim on your legal estate, but this will depend on how the agreement is written and whether it was properly executed. ## 6 Things that can go wrong if you do not write a will (cont.) ### Your estate may go to someone you don’t want If you have no living spouse, children or parents, your estate will go to whoever is the next living relative on the list of succession, mentioned above. This may not suit you if you have an estranged sibling or similar whom you don’t want to share in your estate. A valid will ensures your hard-earned assets fall into the right hands. ### It might make things more difficult for your family in their time of grief It is hard enough for people to deal with the loss of a loved one, without the added stress of finding there is no will. Your estate may end up in the wrong hands, and your affairs may be administered by someone you don’t trust or even know. Your loved ones will also need to go through a long and annoying legal process if they want to apply for letters of administration, claim your assets or contest decisions. ### If you don’t write a will it may cost your loved ones money Without a will, a court will have to decide where your estate will end up. This means that all the legal costs associated with this process will come out of your estate, reducing the amount your beneficiaries will receive. As you can see, it is very important to have a valid, legal will, as this will save your loved ones a huge amount of hassle and heartbreak. Even if you have a will, you should review it regularly with every life event to ensure it’s still relevant and in line with what you want. Even though nobody really wants to face it, making a will is such an important and easy thing to do. You don’t even have to visit a solicitor because there are many online options available, so don’t put it off any longer – get started today. ![6 Things that can go wrong if you do not write a will | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Write-a-will.png "Write a will - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/6-things-that-can-go-wrong-if-you-dont-write-a-will/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/6-things-that-can-go-wrong-if-you-dont-write-a-will/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** power of attorney, legal, testament, executor --- ### [Joint and sole application for divorce: What is the difference?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/difference-between-sole-and-joint-divorce/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Applying for a divorce is the easy part of a separation … that is, depending on whether you file a Joint Application or Sole Application. Really, whether you go through it together with your future former spouse or all by yourself dictates how hard or easy your divorce is going to be. If you’re wondering about the difference between joint and sole application for divorce in Australia, here is how they both work. ## Joint application for divorce In family law, a joint divorce application is completed by both you and your spouse before an authorised witness. It simply requires you to wait a minimum period of 12 months from your separation and complete an online application at the [Family Court](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/separation-and-divorce/divorce/divorce) website, which you return/file with a copy of your marriage certificate and filing fee. (If you are experiencing financial hardships, you can avail yourself of reduced fees.) If you file a joint divorce, you or your partner will not need to attend divorce proceedings. So long as all necessary information is provided, the divorce will be granted around two months from the filing date. You will receive notification by mail. You can also check online if your divorce order is already in the Commonwealth Courts Portal. If a joint application is possible, it is preferable in terms of ease. ![sole application for divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/in-article-image-2.png "in article image (2) - Beanstalk Mums") ## Sole application for divorce Your other option is to file a Sole Application for divorce. Here, one spouse files for divorce, but this is more complicated. You may need to file an application for divorce without your husband because: - Your spouse does not want to get divorced - You are unable to work with your partner on a joint divorce application - You are unable to locate your ex You can complete Sole Application forms online at the [Family Court](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/separation-and-divorce/divorce/divorce) website. However, you are required to serve the application to your spouse so he is notified of the upcoming divorce hearing. Here are your questions answered. ### How do I serve documents for a sole divorce application? When you complete your Sole Application for divorce online, you will be provided with documents that your spouse is required to receive, read and sign. This is done by ‘[service of documents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/serving-divorce-papers/)’. Documents must be: - Served at least 28 days before the hearing date (if your former spouse is in Australia) - Served at least 28 days before the hearing date (if your partner is overseas) - Delivered by hand or by post - If delivered by hand, it must be someone other than yourself, possibly a friend, relative or Process Server. It is absolutely necessary to serve these documents, as they require your spouse’s signature. If you’re considering service by post, you must be 100% sure that your husband will sign it. ### But I don’t know where my husband lives to serve him divorce papers Obviously, if you don’t know his whereabouts, you will be unable to serve documents to him. In this case, you must first prove you have tried to locate your spouse using the below methods, all of which must be recorded in an Affidavit: - Try his last known address - Ask his family and friends - Ask at his place of employment - Place notices in newspapers - Anything else to prove you have tried to find him You are then able to apply for either: - A substituted service, i.e. serve the documents to another person who can pass them to your husband - An order to dispense with service It may be necessary to request permission from the court to post a photo of your spouse in public places or notices in the local newspaper. For more information about how the service of documents works, or if you are having problems, watch this video: ### What happens when he receives the application? When your spouse receives the Application: - Your ex-husband will be required to sign the Acknowledgement of Service form to confirm he has received it - Then you must sign an Affidavit of Proof of Signature to verify his signature - Finally, the person who served the documents must sign an Affidavit of Service with service details, i.e. time, date and location. Once you have obtained all these documents, you must be able to file them to the Court before the hearing date. ### What if my husband refuses to sign? If your stubborn spouse refuses to sign the acknowledgment of the application, you will have to use a Process Server (provided with a photo of your partner) to deliver the documents. The Process Server will then sign the Affidavit to say your spouse has received the documents. ### Do we need to attend a court hearing for a sole divorce application? The applicant will be required to attend court for the hearing for your Sole Divorce application if you and your husband have a child 18 years and under. You might have to provide evidence, especially if one party is fighting for child custody. Your ex-partner will only be required to attend the court hearing if he opposes the divorce, even if you have children under 18. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/in-article-image-1.png "in article image (1) - Beanstalk Mums") ### What if I am unable to make it to court? If you cannot get to court to attend the hearing in person, you can ask to appear by telephone using the [Telephone/Video link attendance request form](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/forms-and-fees/court-forms/form-topics/family+law/telephone-video-attendance-request). For more detailed information on the Australian divorce process, seek legal assistance from your solicitor or lawyer. ## Conclusion to the divorce application process In conclusion, whether you opt for a joint or sole application for divorce in Australia depends on your personal circumstances and the relationship with your ex-spouse. A joint application is the simpler, more straightforward option, as it avoids the need for court appearances and ensures both parties are on the same page. On the other hand, a sole application is necessary if your spouse is unwilling to cooperate or cannot be located. Still, it involves more steps, including the service of documents and possibly attending a court hearing. Regardless of your chosen path, understanding the differences between these applications ensures that you are better prepared for the process. For further guidance, consider seeking legal advice to ensure everything proceeds smoothly. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/difference-between-sole-and-joint-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/difference-between-sole-and-joint-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** family court, affidavit, service of documents, process server, attending court --- ### [Why Single Mums Are the Remarkable Superheroes of Today](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-single-mums-are-super-heroes/) **Published:** September 27, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Let’s be honest. The life of a single mum can be peppered with self-doubt. Constantly worrying if you’re a good mum or not. Whether you’re doing everything right, it saps your strength. Sort of like Superman’s Kryptonite. Sort of like superheroes. Just the other day, I was chatting to a close friend and single parent to her grown-up son. She admitted that, even now, she still has uncertainties. So, one day, whilst crying into her proverbial milk, she asked her son about the [memories he had taken from childhood to adulthood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-things-kids-will-remember/). He said: > “Mom, you’ve always been the strongest person I know. You had some kind of super-power to keep it all together. You’re a single mom and I don’t know how you managed it.” She’d never thought of it that way. To her, parenting didn’t seem like a sacrifice, but it was hard. But, to him, she was some kind of cape-wearing, leap-off-tall-buildings, watch-me-run-in-my-tights superhero. So on days when you feel like the bills are piling up as fast as [the dishes ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-easy-tips-to-avoid-washing-up/)in the sink, when the need to cut the grass in the back yard is competing with fixing the broken kitchen tap, and your child has just woken you up ten minutes after you fell asleep, remember who you are … a superhero. ## Single mothers are selfless. One thing that makes us in awe of our favourite superheroes is that they are selfless. Or at least they do selfless things with no or little recognition, even if they 100% deserve it. Single parents are precisely that. Without another parent to take on the job, single mums will forego their personal desires for their family’s needs. Be it a shower, a pedicure, or a much-needed massage, they’ll pass to attend their child’s school event. I always feel heaps of pride at the memory of my mum, who, after spending hours in the emergency room because of neck pain, still showed up to my talent show. Seeing her sitting in the fifteenth row in her neck brace yet happily cheering me on remains a core childhood memory. That’s a mother’s unconditional love, ladies and gentlemen. ## Single mums are crazy fast at switching roles. From medic to chef, household assistant to family bookkeeper, handyman to gardener, librarian, homework helper, and chief breadwinner – children of single mums simultaneously have it all in one person. Sometimes, all in one day! Motherhood is like that, and single mums are dedicated to creating a home where their children can grow and thrive. So, they’ll tackle whatever role the job requires to keep the family afloat. And sometimes with a spin of a cape, depending on their mood, of course. ![single mums are super heroes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/in-article-image-6-1.png "in article image (6) - Beanstalk Mums") ## Single mothers are super strong and courageous. No one knows the struggles life will throw our way. But for single mums who have no partner to lean on, it takes an extra measure of strength and courage to face the day. (And sometimes the long nights spent nursing a child sick with a 103-degree fever.) When there’s no other parenting figure to make split-second decisions about the child’s well-being, she has to juggle the work of two … and so she does. Somehow, single mums dig deep daily and find the resolution to deal with a cut lip from falling off the swing, the water bill coming due sooner than the pay cheque arrives, and what to make for dinner. (Don’t forget the lunch bag, either!) Then, there’s the next school party, and, speaking of parties, the birthday party looming around the corner. The list never ends, but single mums meet it head-on in order to give their children everything they need. ## Single mums have the power of stretch. Whether it’s dollars, time, resources, or sleep, single mums must do more with less. [Scary H](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/)alloween costumes created from what’s lying around the house or hidden in the closet. Nutritious dinners made with joy and love and persistent coupon-clipping. Groceries shopping tricks that save those dollars. A few extra minutes of reading bedtime stories at night found because a single mum was willing to get creative with [time management](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/). Whatever restrictions a single mum is up against, she will find a way to make it work. They say you can’t pour from an empty cup, but her cup doesn’t seem to empty. When it comes to her kids, you literally can’t exhaust her. There’s always one more thing she can give. ## Single mothers create families with superhero kids. The stigma or [social expectation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/) is that children growing up isolated from their dad will find their way to trouble in some form, be it pregnancy, poverty or crime. But when you have to fight against the odds to succeed, that survival creates strong ties. Homes run by single mums find everyone relying on each other in order to keep life humming along. Just like any team, these families end up strongly tied to each other, as well as fiercely independent. Slate Magazine agrees. It recently ran an [article stating](http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/01/single_moms_are_better_kids_raised_by_single_mothers_are_sturdier.html) that, in our over-indulgent society, being raised in single motherhood has distinct advantages. After all, when you only have each other as your emotional support system, you’re bound to have that kind of bond. ![single mums are super heroes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-42.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## Single mums need help, too. They say it takes a village to raise a child. But being moms and dads all at the same time, it can feel like you’re carrying the responsibility of the whole village on your shoulders. Handling the finances, deciding to take your daughter to the hospital, going to school and sporting events, doing childcare, and minding the house chores all by yourself, the reality of single parenthood can terrify others. And it is terrifying, yet we still do it. Of course, we’re mums. But, hey, don’t be scared to seek help. Maybe you don’t recognise them, but there are people willing to take on a bit of your burdens. Remember, just like in the comic books and movies, even heroes need a sidekick. ## Most of all, single mothers inspire us. And that’s the true hallmark of any superhero. Single mums take difficult situations they didn’t choose and turn them into good. They take on their weaknesses and turn them into strengths. They act selflessly in order to defend and protect those around them. Their resilience makes them stand up even if their legs hurt and they couldn’t walk. And they do so with a KA-POW! BAM! force that defies all the odds and always, yes, *always*, saves the day. ## In Conclusion, Single Mums Are True Superheroes They handle the endless demands, face fears head-on, and take deep breaths when life gets overwhelming. They do it all with the dedication that defies the usual equation of time and energy, always putting their child’s needs first. So, on those days when it feels like you’ll never catch a break, remember: you’re not just managing—you’re inspiring. Your strength, love, and resilience will be the legacy your child carries with them long after the car seat is outgrown and the living room has quieted. You are, and always will be, their superhero. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-single-mums-are-super-heroes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-single-mums-are-super-heroes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** single parenting, encouragement, multi-tasking, empowerment, inspiration --- ### [My ex pays me nothing but I've found peace with it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/ex-pays-me-nothing/) **Published:** November 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When it comes to shared parenting, the biggest bone of contention for most separated couples is money. Unfortunately, not everyone plays fair, and the injustice can eat away at you. For this reason, I’d like to share some of my story about how my ex pays me nothing, but after many years, I am at peace with it. This article will help if you are a mum who has your child or children full time or most of the time, and their dad doesn’t pay towards their upbringing. I’ll talk about: - The circumstances in which this can happen (you might identify with one of them) - How to manage your mindset and not go batshit crazy with bitterness when left with the total financial burden for your kids, most likely while your ex lives the good life - Suggestions to encourage your ex to pay up (I don’t dwell on this, if they’re not paying now, it’s unlikely they will start) I’m not going to be bagging my ex or your ex. Instead, I want you to spend less time fantasising over how to slash his tyres and refocus so you live a happier life … even if you are paying for everything. ## Your ex pays you nothing, how can that even happen? Every family breakup is different. Therefore, each set of circumstances are unique. Consequently, there are many ways single mums find themselves with full financial responsibility for their children. Here are just a few. ### The father has gone AWOL Basically, your ex has pissed off. It’s easy to live off-grid if you choose. And your ex may have made that choice so he can renege on his financial duties as a parent. Although Child Support does attempt to track down payment-owing parents, this is not their focus. Finding your ex is the first step in a long, drawn-out process to get some of what you are owed. If this is you, try these options to find your ex: - Online searches and social media - Mutual contacts - Get legal support - Through a private investigator - Through records and authorities Have you tried all these with no luck? Keep reading to learn how to find peace if your ex pays you nothing. ### The father is in prison Even if your ex is behind bars, he is still meant to pay you Child Support. But don’t get too excited. Child Support is income-based and they will only pay if their income exceeds a certain amount. This amount will not be reached on a prison wage. ### You have taken full financial responsibility as part of a sole parental order If you have sole parental responsibility for your children, it does not necessarily mean you are solely responsible for covering all expenses related to the children. Sole parental responsibility primarily pertains to decision-making authority regarding significant aspects of the child’s life, such as education, health, and religious upbringing. Although it doesn’t automatically dictate financial responsibility, you may have requested it for one of the following reasons: - You have concerns about the father’s willingness or ability to contribute - It is in the child’s best interests that you manage the financials - You would prefer to take control of financial matters and decisions - There is a safety issue with the father and you need to cut him out of your lives Even if you have arranged for sole parental responsibility with total financial obligation, it is still hard mentally and practically to bear the brunt of these costs. ### The father is unemployed Okay, so dad is out of work? Or at least he claims he is. If the father of your child doesn’t work or doesn’t earn the threshold amount to pay Child Support, he is off Scott-free. And forget the cash-in-hand wage you know he’s getting. It means nothing if it’s not through the books. Grrrr. ### The father is self-employed Surely he’d still pay if he’s self-employed? Think again. There are thousands of mothers coughing up full financial expenses for their kids while their ex earns more than them and pays them nothing … in plain sight. Yes, as a self-employed guy who states his wages as he wishes, it’s easy (and legal!) to keep them conveniently under the Child Support threshold. Meaning, he can earn plenty and not pay you a red cent. Grrrr again. ## Suggestions to get your ex to pay up As mentioned, I’m not dwelling on this point. If you’re reading this article, you’ve likely tried everything to get your ex to pay you. Just in case though, here are some ideas. - **Request a manual change of assessment (COA) with Child Support:** You can complete a COA form if your exes reported taxable income is not showing the whole picture. For example, he is self-employed and declaring low earnings, while you are employed and showing actual wages. If successful, Child Support will adjust payments for a fair and correct outcome. - **Report Child Support fraud:** If you honestly feel your ex is playing the Child Support system (and you), you can report it to Services Australia via this [online report fraud form](https://processing.csa.gov.au/report-fraud/form.aspx). - **Get Child Support to collect the money:** If you are registered with Child Support, remember that you can leave the delightful job of collecting the money to the government if your ex won’t pay you directly. - **Income fraud:** If your ex puts in dodgy income amounts that affect your payments, you can report it via the ATO with this [online tip-off form](https://www.ato.gov.au/tipoffform/#LandingPage). - **Try guilting him into paying:** Keep a list of the kid’s expenses from food through to school excursions and beyond. Email it to him weekly and ask him to make what he feels is a fair contribution. Keep pushing and he might break and decide it is only fair to help you out. - **Cash-in on his cash:** If your is getting cash in hand, ask him to give you some of that cash. Say you understand he might not want to report it, and you are happy if he pays you in cash the recommended amount stated via Child Support. Check this [online calculator](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/online-estimators?context=64107#childsupport) to get a rough idea of what he might owe you weekly. - **Talk to him:** Try to have a calm and open conversation with your ex about the importance of Child Support. Sometimes, simply explaining the needs of your child and his financial responsibilities can lead to a voluntary agreement. (Long shot, I know.) - **Suggest he pays directly:** Many men can’t stand giving money to their exes, even though the money is used for their kids. If they won’t give anything to you, perhaps you can convince them to pay bills directly to the debtor. For example, rather than pay you Child Support, they could pay directly for extracurricular activities to the supplier. Meaning, he doesn’t give anything to you but is paying for something. - **Embrace his Disney Dad side:** Many exes who are still involved in their kid’s lives won’t contribute to their upbringing but love to splash the cash to make themselves more popular than mum. This is known as a [Disney Dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/disney-dad/). You can work this to your advantage by getting your kids to ask dad for the big ticket items. For example, my girls wanted a trampoline. I couldn’t afford it. So I asked them to ask their dad, and (this is key), to ensure they told him that mum said ‘no’. I knew in his desire to trump me in the parenting stakes that he would say yes. The result: They got their trampoline and I didn’t have to pay. Try it! - **Get legal support:** Of course, you can always go legal if you’re still spewing about not getting any money. Note: this can be counterproductive because it will cost you. If you are eligible for [legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/), it might be worth a go. ***Further reading: [The essential guide to Child Support for beginners.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/)*** ## How to find peace if your ex pays you nothing Okay, so you’re getting nothing from the father of your kids and your purse strings are under pressure? You don’t want to begrudge him or feel bitter as it’s messing with your happy vibe? Here are my suggestions to find peace: ## Know what you can and can’t control This is top of my list of suggestions because it is one of the best ways to handle your current situation. I’m gonna start with this poem/mantra/prayer: > ***Give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change*** > > **The strength to change the things I can** > > ***And the wisdom to know the difference*** Basically, you can’t change or control how your ex behaves. But you *do* have control over how you react to it. Once you accept this, you can let go of the desperate need for him to be a better person and pay up. The fact is: You can’t make him do something he doesn’t want to do, however morally wrong his behaviour is. Instead, focus on yourself. Use the energy you were wasting trying to change another person to improve your own actions, behaviour and inner thoughts. Think: - What can I do to help *myself* through this? - What will make *me* feel better? - How can I foster a more positive thought process? ## Be damn proud Just as important as my first point … You should be bloody proud of yourself. My girls are older now but I look back at how I handled my financial responsibilities single-handedly, and I glow with pride. If you struggle with feeling proud, do this: - Take a moment to stop what you are doing and look around you. - What can you see? - If you are at home, know that you have paid for the roof over your head, everything around you, and the food you will eat at your next meal. If your kids are nearby, look at them. You have paid for the clothes they are wearing, and you are the reason they are happy and healthy. You are entitled to feel proud of yourself every moment of every day for the big things and the little things that we take for granted. Make pride a regular emotion you own and feel once a day, at the very least. ***Further reading: [Why being a single mum makes me so damn proud.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-being-a-single-mum-makes-me-so-damn-proud/)*** ## Change the narrative Changing your narrative starts with changing what you say to yourself. It might be that your current narrative includes this kind of wording: > ***My ex is an arsehole*** > > ***It’s not fair that I have to pay for everything*** > > ***This situation is a disaster*** However, this negative self-talk fuels the fire of your frustration. Instead, change your narrative to things like: > ***My ex makes his own choices, which he has to live with*** > > ***I am a strong, capable mum providing single-handedly for my children*** > > ***I have made the very best out of a challenging situation and for that, I am proud*** Do you want to feel bitter and hard done by? Or confident, capable and happy? Only you can change your own story. ## Tell people So, you’re ramping up your positive self-talk? Why keep it in? It’s time to share your positive thoughts. I know money is a sensitive topic. I don’t share my private finances with just anyone, but I’m not afraid to tell people that I am financially responsible for my children. My most common line is: > ***I’ve never received a cent in child support, but that’s his issue, not mine.*** Then I’ll move on swiftly, leaving people with the knowledge that I’m a kick-arse alpha mum providing big time for my kids. After all, it is the truth. **Note:** The point of telling people is not to have a whinge and further manifest the issue, so be careful that doesn’t happen. We are being honest, proud and factual. ## Be honest with your kids While we’re on the topic of honesty and sharing, let’s talk about what to tell the kids. It’s important to remember that each child and situation is different. Moreover, the kind of information we share with them is dependent on age, maturity and personality. We should share facts in an age-appropriate manner *without* (and this is essential) putting down their dad. Your children need to know why you can’t afford the same items that their friends have. And the main reason for this is because you are living on one income with no contribution from their dad. **Note:** Bear in mind that money talk can worry kids. They might feel concerned that there isn’t enough or worry that you are stressed about it. Young kids deserve to live without money anxieties. On the other hand, if your children are slightly older and want a particular costly item you can’t afford, explain to them why. But keep it clean. For example, instead of saying: > ***Well, if your dickhead of a dad put his hand in his pocket and paid for anything, you might be able to have it.*** Try: > ***As you know, I pay for everything myself, and for that reason, I’m gonna have to say no.*** Children (even young children) join the dots and work it out for themselves. Which leads me to my next point. ## Have faith in your kids ability to see things as they are Trust that your children will work out the truth sooner than you think. When difficult moments arise and you can’t afford to buy them something they want, tell them why. Other than that, sit back and know the penny will eventually drop. They’ll see different family dynamics and compare them to their own. It will become apparent to them who is supporting them financially, and also, who is not. While they might not be able to get the latest iPhone, they will know everything they do get comes from you. Knowing their mum is a supermum who provides for them *on her own* is a fact that will stay with them forever. ## Be a great role model Yes, being the sole provider for your family might be a struggle, but you are doing some kick-ass role modelling for your kids. Here are just some of the messages you are (possibly unknowingly) passing on to them: - It doesn’t matter how hard life is, we can thrive in the face of adversity - Life is not always fair but everything is surmountable - The appalling actions of one person can not impact us if we don’t allow it to - The sacrifices mum makes to provide for us shows the strength and resilience of humans - Mum loves us to the moon and back a million times ## Rise above it I love the term: Rise above it. It works perfectly when your ex pays nothing towards the upbringing of your kids. The scenario is simple: He pays for nothing and you pay for everything. Who is the better person here? 100% you. Don’t lower yourself to the level of a man who thinks it’s okay to renege on his financial responsibilities to his own children. Instead, rise above the drama, the excuses, the disappointment and the sheer frustration of it. Take yourself to a place of peace. ## The payment would be minimal and cause more stress than it’s worth If your ex doesn’t want to pay you anything for raising his kids, he’ll make sure that any payments through Child Support are dismal. I have heard of single mums whose exes are expected to pay less than a dollar a week! Even if you are owed more than this, it likely won’t make a massive difference to your financial situation. For this reason, weigh up whether the money is worth it or not. Just think, if you take no money, you owe him absolutely nothing. And, there are advantages to being financially estranged from your ex. Is the amount of money you might have got really worth the fight it takes to get it and the ongoing dialogue about money that you may need to have with him? Change your mindset to know your life is easier in many ways without the drama that would come with his money. ## You don’t need him Don’t live with the thought process that you *need* something from your ex. If he’s not been paying, and you and your children are still functioning, this is proof that you don’t need him. It also confirms how damn capable you are of doing life ON. YOUR. OWN. For many ex-couples, there was once a time when you relied heavily on one another, believing you needed each other to tackle life. **Reality check:** You do not need your ex anymore. Not emotionally, not practically, and not financially. See how far you have come, you strong, amazing, independent mum. ## You’re not alone Knowing you are not the only mum in the world doing it completely alone is a comforting thought. There are heaps of single mothers who are 100% responsible for the financial upbringing of their children. Situations vary. For some, the children’s dad is no longer on the scene. For others, he still plays a part in their children’s life. In both cases, they pay nothing towards the day-to-day expenses of their children. It is more common than you may think. Out of all my single mum friends, two have an ex who contributes. Reach out to other single mums in a similar situation, not to ex-bash (however tempting). Rather, share ideas on how to manage on one income and, of course, to give one another a pat on the back. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/ex-pays-me-nothing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/ex-pays-me-nothing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Shared parenting --- ### [Find inner peace: 100 Powerful mantras for meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/100-mantras-for-mums/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you spend your days trying to remain calm and content against the odds of your crazy single mum life? Does your to-do list never seem to end, and finding a moment of peace seems impossible? If so, you are not alone. The question is: How do you continue the juggle without missing a beat and always be the coolest mum in school? Enter the mighty mantra practice. A mantra is a word or phrase repeated during meditation to help focus the mind and promote meditative relaxation. Mantras may sound simple, but they [help in reducing anxiety](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1876382018304591?utm_source=perplexity) and depression. Whether you’re reciting “om” in the quiet of dawn or whispering a soothing mantra when you’re feeling frustrated, we have mantras for every type of mum! Know about mantras, find one that suits you, and own it! Further reading:[ How to get motivated in an instant.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/get-motivated-instant/) ## **Positive affirmations for your mind and body** - Around me and within me, I find stillness - Be bold - Be gentle with yourself; you’re doing the best you can - Being and enjoying, not wishing and wanting - By allowing myself to be happy, I inspire others to be happy as well - Change is the only constant, and I will move through this with grace and ease - Creating a new life is an exciting opportunity - Creative energy surges through me and leads me to new and brilliant ideas - Do what you can; let the rest go - Enjoy it because it’s happening - Even though I feel overwhelmed, I can still do this - Every part of childhood is a phase - Every single person on the planet feels lonely sometimes - Everything is happening as it should be - Everything will be ok - Exhale the bullshit - Gratitude is my attitude - Happiness is my choice. - Head up, open heart to better days ahead - I accept and embrace all experiences, even unpleasant ones - I accept myself deeply and completely - I am a blessing to my children. - I am a good parent, and I love my children - I am a good person with a lot to offer - I am a powerhouse. I am indestructible - I am a strong and independent woman, and I don’t need a man to complete my life. - I am a work in progress and constantly improving - I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends. - I am doing a great job - I am doing an amazing job ## **More examples of mantras for anxiety** - I choose calm over anxiety - I am doing my best, and that is enough - I am doing the best that I can for my children, and that is enough. - I am doing this because I love my children - I am enough - I am fully capable of being alone right now, and I’m okay with it - I am grateful for my ability to create life - I am grateful for this time to rest - I am grounded in the experience of the present moment. - I am learning to be a better mother with each new day - I am my child’s lifelong teacher - I am my own superhero - I am open to the lessons my children teach me - I am perfectly imperfect - I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions. - I am the best mum my kids have ![](https://i.etsystatic.com/13780975/r/il/7182af/1645221638/il_794xN.1645221638_3i5u.jpg) Image:[ My Yoga Lifestyle](https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/635917732/2019-my-daily-mantra-cards-yogi-deck?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=mantra+cards&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&organic_search_click=1) ## **More meditation mantras for mindfulness** - I am your mumma. Hear me roar - I breathe in peace and exhale stress - I can - I can and I will - I can totally do this - I can trust my maternal intuition. - I choose this life - I choose to be proud of myself - I give myself permission to let go of what no longer serves me - I have an opportunity now to create the life I want - I have control over how I feel, and I choose to feel at peace - I have the courage to keep going - I have the power to create change - I live in the present and am confident of the future - I observe my thoughts and actions without judging them. - I set the tone - I will care for myself as I care for my children - I will not feel guilty. I am doing my best - I will stay calm and carry on ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-24.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Simple but powerful mantras for mums to help you meditate** - I will take care of myself in order to be a good mother - I will wake up to the good in my life - If it makes for a good story, it’s worth doing - It will get done eventually - It’s 5 o’clock somewhere - It’s just a phase - It’s okay to ask for help - Just breathe… - Just keep swimming - Let it go - Let them be a little - Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful - Life is happening at this moment - My child is loved, safe, and healthy - My children will understand one day - My heart is healing - My mind is calm, and my body is relaxed - One step at a time - Only I can give my children a happy mother - Only love today ## **Well OK… Just a few more…** - Peace is within my reach. - Positive mind, positive vibes, positive life - That was then, this is now - There is always something to be thankful for - There is peace and love in my home even amongst the chaos - There’s no way to be a perfect mother and there are a million ways to be a good one - This is the moment of my motherhood - This, too, shall pass - Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it - Today, I begin anew - Today, I will move at a child’s pace - Today, I will notice the positive aspects of motherhood - Trust the process - Trust the voice within - With every breath out, I release stress from my body ![Chanting a mantra out loud](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-25.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **FAQs** ## **What is a mantra, and how is it used in meditation?** The literal meaning of a mantra is a word or phrase, often in Sanskrit, that is repeated during meditation to help focus the mind and achieve a state of meditative relaxation. By chanting or silently reciting a mantra, one can deepen their meditation practice and cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives. ## **Can you explain the significance of chanting Om in meditation?** Om, also spelled as “OM”, is a sacred syllable that represents the sound of the universe in Hindu and Buddhist traditions. Chanting Om during meditation can help align the mind and body, bringing you inner peace and tranquillity. ## **What are the benefits of using mantras in meditation?** Mantras have healing power and can help reduce stress, anxiety, and promote a sense of inner serenity. Different types of mantras serve various purposes, from mantras for anxiety to mantras for overall well-being. ## **How do mantras differ from other forms of meditation?** Mantra-based meditation involves repeating a specific mantra throughout the practice. While other forms of meditation may focus on the breath, body sensations, or mindfulness. Mantras help you focus your mind and reach a deeper, more aware state of meditation. ## **What are some commonly used traditional Sanskrit mantras?** Traditional Sanskrit mantras are an essential part of Hindu rituals, meditation, and spiritual practices. Here are some commonly used ones: - Om (Aum) – It is considered the most sacred mantra in Hinduism. It symbolises the essence of the universe. - Gayatri Mantra - Maha Mrityunjaya Mantra ## **Benefits of mantra meditation** If you haven’t already, start making use of mantras in your daily routine or during meditation practice. Chant your chosen mantra while taking deep breaths. You can even play some meditation music for a more serene atmosphere. Even simple mantras will work wonders for your well-being. You don’t need to learn the Sanskrit or memorise some Buddhist mantras. No yoga teacher is needed as well, especially when you’re living on a budget. Chanting a mantra out loud, whether it’s a single syllable “Om” or a more complex phrase, connects you to the timeless sound of the universe. They may seem simple, but they have a healing power. Mantras can help quiet the noise of daily life and bring clarity to your thoughts. Whenever I chant my personal mantra, the rhythmic repetition creates a meditative state that allows me to find a deep sense of tranquillity. Each chant becomes a way to relax and be mindful. I do mantra chanting whenever my mind feels cluttered, and I can’t get anything done. Want to know the secret? The key is to stick with it and stay open to the process. Let mantra-based meditation guide you toward a more peaceful and centred life. Now, chant after me, “om..” ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/100-mantras-for-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/100-mantras-for-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** mantras, affirmations, self love, quotes, sayings --- ### [How to Reset Sleep Schedule: Tips on Restoring Your Natural Rhythm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-reset-sleep-schedule-tips-on-restoring-your-natural-rhythm/) **Published:** October 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Struggling with late nights, groggy mornings, or an irregular sleep pattern? You’re not alone. Many people wonder how to reset sleep schedule after disruptions caused by stress, travel, night shifts, or inconsistent routines. The good news is that with the right approach, you can retrain your body to fall asleep and wake up at consistent times—unlocking better energy, focus, and long-term health. To make the process smoother, some people use calming tools like a [sleep sound machine](https://momcozy.com/collections/baby-sound-machine) to create a relaxing environment that encourages rest. Combined with strategies like adjusting light exposure, improving sleep hygiene, and crafting evening rituals, you can effectively reset your internal clock and restore balance to your days. ## **Understanding the Importance of a Consistent Sleep Schedule** A consistent sleep schedule does more than make mornings easier—it impacts nearly every system in your body. By keeping regular sleep and wake times, you reinforce your circadian rhythm, also known as your body’s internal clock. This natural rhythm tells your body when to feel sleepy and when to be alert, helping sleep come more easily and naturally. ## **Why Consistency Matters** - **Easier Sleep Onset** – Going to bed at the same time trains your brain to release melatonin, the hormone that signals it’s time to rest. - **Natural Wakefulness** – Consistent wake times help you rise feeling refreshed, often without needing an alarm. - **Reduced “Social Jet Lag”** – Irregular sleep patterns can mimic the grogginess of jet lag, even if you never leave home. ## **Health Benefits of a Stable Schedule** - **Supports Brain Function** – Regular sleep helps with memory consolidation, learning, and decision-making. - **Balances Hormones** – Key hormones like melatonin (for sleep) and cortisol (for energy) stay in sync. - **Boosts Metabolism** – Consistent rest supports healthy digestion and weight management. - **Strengthens Immunity** – Quality sleep improves your body’s ability to fight off illness. ## **Risks of Irregular Sleep** - **Short-Term Effects** – Fatigue, irritability, mood swings, and trouble concentrating. - **Long-Term Risks** – Increased likelihood of obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and mental health struggles. ## **The Science of Your Body Clock** Your body runs on a 24-hour internal rhythm called the circadian clock. This biological timer is influenced by external cues like light, food, and activity. When you stay up too late, use screens before bed, or sleep at inconsistent times, your circadian rhythm gets out of sync, making it harder to fall asleep and wake naturally. By resetting your schedule, you’re essentially realigning your body clock with environmental signals. This process may take days or weeks, but consistency is key. ## **Choosing Your Method: Gradual Shift vs. Reset** When learning how to reset sleep schedule, you’ll want to pick an approach that suits your lifestyle: - **Gradual Shift** – Adjust your bedtime and wake-up time by 15–30 minutes every night until you reach your target. This method works well if you have flexibility and want a smoother transition. - **Full Reset** – Stay awake until your desired bedtime and wake up at your goal time the next morning. Though tougher initially, this can quickly realign your sleep cycle, especially after jet lag. Whichever method you choose, the most important factor is sticking to your new schedule consistently, even on weekends. ## **Harnessing the Power of Light** Light is the strongest influence on your circadian rhythm. To reset your schedule: - **Morning Light Exposure** – Step outside for 10–30 minutes of natural light shortly after waking. This signals your brain to stop producing melatonin, the sleep hormone, and helps anchor your wake time. - **Evening Light Control** – Limit exposure to blue light from screens at least an hour before bed. Dim household lighting to signal to your body that it’s time to wind down. - **Consistent Wake Time** – No matter how tired you feel, waking up at the same time each day keeps your body clock aligned. If natural sunlight isn’t available, light therapy lamps can mimic daylight to reinforce your schedule. ![reset sleep schedule](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-olly-3768582-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3768582 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Optimising Your Environment and Diet** Your sleep environment and diet play a huge role in how easily you can fall asleep and stay asleep. - **Bedroom Environment** – Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet. Blackout curtains, a supportive mattress, and a sleep sound machine can help minimise disruptions. - **Diet Adjustments** – Avoid caffeine and heavy meals in the late afternoon and evening. Instead, opt for sleep-friendly snacks like bananas, almonds, or warm milk. - **Physical Activity** – Exercise during the day promotes better sleep, but avoid vigorous workouts too close to bedtime. By aligning your habits with your sleep goals, you set the stage for a successful reset. ## **Crafting a Soothing Evening Ritual** A bedtime routine signals to your body that it’s time to relax. To prepare for restful sleep: - Take a warm shower or bath to lower body temperature. - Read a book, meditate, or practice light stretches. - Use calming sounds, such as white noise or gentle rain, through a sleep sound machine. - Keep screens away to prevent melatonin suppression. Consistency is key—by repeating the same rituals nightly, you condition your brain to associate them with sleep. ## **Troubleshooting Common Setbacks** Resetting your sleep schedule isn’t always smooth. Here’s how to manage obstacles: - **Can’t fall asleep at the new bedtime?** – Try relaxation techniques like deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation. - **Wake up during the night?** – Avoid clock-watching. Instead, use calming sounds or gentle stretches to ease back into sleep. - **Weekend slip-ups?** – Stick to your wake-up time even if bedtime shifts slightly. Oversleeping can undo progress. - **Jet lag or night shifts?** – Use light exposure and consistent routines to help your body adjust faster. Patience is crucial. It can take up to two weeks for your body to fully adapt to a new schedule. ## **The Long-Term Rewards of a Balanced Schedule** Once you’ve reset your sleep schedule, maintaining it pays off in countless ways: - More energy and focus throughout the day - Improved mood and emotional regulation - Better immune function to fight illness - Enhanced productivity and learning capacity - Lower risk of chronic health conditions [Good sleep hygiene](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-improve-sleep-quality/ "Good sleep hygiene") isn’t just about rest—it’s a cornerstone of overall wellness. By mastering how to reset sleep schedule and sticking with it, you’re investing in long-term health and vitality. ## **Final Thoughts** Learning how to reset sleep schedule can feel overwhelming at first, but with the right mix of strategies—light exposure, environment adjustments, evening rituals, and consistent wake times—you can realign your body clock. Tools like a sleep sound machine add extra support by creating a calming environment that makes sleep come naturally. The process requires patience and consistency, but the reward is a stable, healthy routine that leaves you feeling refreshed every day. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-reset-sleep-schedule-tips-on-restoring-your-natural-rhythm/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-reset-sleep-schedule-tips-on-restoring-your-natural-rhythm/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Why single parent support groups will enlighten your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/) **Published:** November 24, 2023 **Author:** Lauren Hall **Content:** Many years ago, when I separated from my ex, I went through various emotions: - Fear before leaving - Liberation when I first left - Isolation when the dust settled I would have done anything to stumble across some single parent support groups. Until a couple of years ago, I felt like I was walking through an empty desert where no one understood me. Most people within my circle were either dating, single without kids, or married with kids. This made things particularly hard during my ‘isolation days’. Don’t get me wrong, my life was (and still is) great, but I had days where I desperately craved support from people who were in a similar situation to me, that understood me and reminded me that I wasn’t alone. Basically, [I needed friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/). I spent lots of time searching for a support group that worked for me. I needed a happy place where I felt supported and uplifted. And I didn’t want to dwell on the negative parts of single motherhood and hear about other people’s arguments with their exes. But I couldn’t find anything. In the end, I created my own group: [The Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/). It felt crazy to have created a group just because I needed it. But, it turned out I wasn’t alone in my desire for a positive single mum space. The group grew fast! For myself and many other single mums, there was a sense of relief and comfort in knowing we could connect with like-minded women who understood each other, allowing us to provide support and wisdom to one another. And, of course, we could have a bit of a laugh along the way. Being part of the group changed my life for the better. It gave meaning and comradery to my single mum life. I wanted to know if other members felt the same so I surveyed single mothers in the group from multiple social, economic, relational, and career backgrounds. I wanted to see what they looked for in a single mother space and how their experiences as single parents had changed since joining the Facebook group. Based on responses, personal experiences, and research from the resources, here are some excellent reasons to consider joining a single parent resource group. ## You can actually find and make new friends Single mother support groups are great for socialising and finding people who understand your journey. After all, they’ve actually been there and done that. There’s a lot of common ground. No one else can understand why you allow your kids screentime and/or junk food. Or why you need that much coffee. Or why you have a love-hate relationship with the idea of sending your kids to their dad over the weekend. It simply feels good to be around people who you know will support you. ## Get great advice from single parent support groups I believe experience and wisdom have terrific weight and value. As a single parent, I appreciate connecting with other single parents who have gone through similar experiences. Because let’s face it, some weeks the money is tight, the alone time is rare, the kids are being pains in the backside and it feels like everything is stacking up at a rapid rate. There is no doubt about it: No-one can provide better advice than those who have been there and done that. Only another single mum can really understand how the buck stops with us. This means the advice they offer will be bang on topic and genuinely helpful. ## You can share your fails and know other mums have done worse! It’s impossible to become a perfect parent, especially with your struggles as a single mum. So many real-life stories show you that making mistakes is normal. But don’t you simply feel at peace knowing you’re not the worst mum out there? Parents – single or not – are humans and are allowed to screw up. Single mother support groups are proof that there are sillier, funnier, and downright worse mum-ents than you’ve ever had. At least you didn’t put [beer](https://www.today.com/parents/14-real-life-bad-moms-confess-their-most-hilarious-parent-t101216) into your kids’ pancakes! ## They are safe spaces where you can share Life happens, situations happen, and there are usually tough times along the way. There are moments when single parents experience complex family, personal and/or financial issues. It can be daunting and distressing to air such matters to someone who doesn’t understand the situation. Depending on the nature of the support group, individuals going through these situations can seek essential advice anonymously and get referrals to necessary support from others who have gone through similar experiences. Single parent support groups can provide a stepping stone to get support, when you might be to scared to ask elsewhere. ## Single mother support groups are non-judgemental Through the survey, many single mothers felt more confident in their parenting ability after joining a support group. It’s pretty empowering to see the change in someone when others are willing to reach out and provide praise and support where needed. Single parents appreciate being told they are doing okay and providing the best they can for their children. They have faced enough judgment and issues, so the last thing they need is to be made to believe that their status has negative connotations. Thankfully, as more support groups develop, the amount of positive support for single parents is rising. ## Discover resources for your single mum journey Let’s face it, the internet is overrun with resources for, well, pretty much anything you need. You can even find a course to teach you laugh more! The problem being: How do we know what works? And, more specifically, how do we know what works for single parents? Single parent support groups are filled with everything you need to navigate single parenthood. Think: - Cleaning tips - Make-ahead recipes - Ideas for science projects - Part-time earning opportunities - What dating apps to avoid like the plague The best thing about these groups is that mums (and dads) are very willing to share what they know to make others’ lives easier. No need to experiment and waste time with resources that don’t deliver because there are already tried and proven strategies available. ## Feel less lonely amongst like-minded single parents It wasn’t surprising the number of single mothers admitted to feeling isolated before joining a single parent support group. Nearly every single mother surveyed selected this option. Equally as unsurprising was that they felt less isolated once having joined the group. Interestingly, the unanimous opinion was that you had to participate in the group to feel as if you belonged. Simply scrolling and not joining in can make you feel on the outta and therefore even more disconnected. The message here is simple: Get chatting. Post, comment and participate whenever you can. ## You will cope better if you are part of a single mum support group Single parenting can be a demanding and stressful experience, and it’s not always easy to know how to manage the challenges that come with it. Joining a single parent support group can provide a valuable opportunity to learn from the experiences of others facing similar challenges. This, in turn, will help you develop better coping skills and provide practical strategies for managing the challenges of single parenthood. In a support group, you may be able to share your own experiences and hear from others who have faced similar situations. This can help you gain new insights and perspectives on how to approach the challenges you are facing. ## You can celebrate milestones with people who understand the importance of them We already know that people love to help more than we give them credit for. Another plus point for humanity is that we actually love to cheer on others. Single mother support groups have people who experienced and survived the struggles and challenges you’re facing. From successfully cutting your kids’ bangs yourself to finally moving on from bitterness to getting even the slightest raise, you will find people who will be happy for you. Without a doubt, the most popular posts on my group are the ones with a single mum and her kids standing next to the ‘Sold’ sign of the new home they have bought. We love to see a single mother sister finally get her forever home, and trip over one another to comment and congratulate! Yes, these groups are the place to find many cheerleaders and advocates – you need that on this journey. ## Being in a group can lower stress levels Research has shown that social support can be an effective way to reduce stress levels. In fact, a study published in the [Journal of Health Psychology](https://journals.sagepub.com/home/hpq) found that: > ***“Social support can buffer the adverse effects of stress and improve mental health outcomes. This means having a supportive network of people around you can help you manage stress better and reduce its negative impact on your overall well-being.“*** When you join a single parent support group, you are surrounded by people who understand what you are going through and can provide empathy, validation, and encouragement. This, in turn, will [lower your stress levels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) and make you feel calmer in your everyday life. ## Have a good laugh on single parent support groups We all know children are funny. If and whenever you need a good chuckle, you’re guaranteed to find funny stories in parenting circles, including single mother support groups. And it’s not just the kids! Us mums are just as capable of sharing hilarious mishaps and moments to contribute to the literature of hilarious parenting fails. Not a day passes when I don’t have a funny meme I can totally relate to pop up on my feed. That small smile and inward chuckle is enough to lighten my mood. I then love to share it with a few chosen friends to brighten their day. Have a laugh and pass it on. ## You will experience unexpected acts of kindness Being a single parent can be very isolating. But it’s heartwarming to know some people will go out of their way to help, offer support, and give helpful advice. Sometimes, it’s hard for us to seek help – fearing others discovering our struggles and imperfections. Or we feel we’re inconveniencing others. But a [Stanford research](https://news.stanford.edu/2022/09/08/asking-help-hard-people-want-help-realize/) found that people love to help more than we think. On the [Single Mum Vine FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) we see extraordinary acts of kindness every week. From mums giving away clothes, toys and furniture. Often a mum will have spare show or concert ticket and invite another mum. And then there’s the general support and encouragement – our members will take hours out of their busy days to help and uplift other mums. If you open up and ask, many people will step up to happily assist you. It’s very wholesome and shows a lot of hope for humanity. ## Summary: Why single mum support groups will enlighten your life Being a single mum is incredibly hard. In this culture of individualism and social isolation, surrounding yourself with like-minded people who share your experiences can be the key to making the challenges more bearable. You don’t abandon your friends who are unmarried, child-free, and happily married, of course. But also, participating in a single parent support group has heaps of benefits. The [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) and similar single mother support groups are great places to find support, help, and resources you need. You will get to socialise with people who won’t judge you for your parenting fails … especially because others have failed worse than you! These people will celebrate your and your children’s tiniest milestones and be amused at your parenting stories. They help you cope with significant life changes, making you less lonely and reducing stress. If you’re already a pro in single parenthood, don’t snub the good ol’ support group. Here, you can share and help the new and struggling mums to make their journeys more bearable. That’s another reason why I felt I needed to create The Single Mum Vine: We need to help the young single mums who can learn from our experiences. As [Thomas Merton](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Merton) said: > ***“We are not all weak in the same spots, and so we supplement and complete one another, each one making up in himself for the lack in another.”*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/single-parent-support-groups-will-enlighten-life/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** support, community, friends, help --- ### [How to know if a friendship is not serving you anymore](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friendship-is-not-serving/) **Published:** October 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Have you ever found yourself sipping coffee with a friend, laughter ringing hollow and conversation feeling forced? It could be that this particular friendship is not serving you anymore. I liken it to an outfit I’ve outgrown, comfortable in the past but now constricting. We invest so much in relationships that it’s easy to overlook when they turn toxic, stagnant, or unrewarding. That aha moment led me on a journey of self-discovery, where I learned to differentiate between friendships that uplift and those that drain. Admitting that a friendship might have served its purpose in a world that champions’ connections can be tough. We’re told to weather the storms, but what if the storm is the friendship itself? This isn’t about casting blame; it’s about acknowledging the dynamic and making choices for personal growth. In this article, I explore the signs of a friendship that has run its course. I hope it helps you make sense of your feelings when a friendship is flagging. ***Further reading: [8 Best friend-finder apps in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/)*** ## **Negative energy** Have you ever found yourself becoming too critical, complaining a lot, stressed, restless, or simply feeling constantly negative after meeting or talking with certain friends? Well, you might want to rethink the people you’re surrounding yourself with. While it’s not normal to be positive all the time, every time, it’s also very unhealthy to be in constant communication with negative people. Anger, complaining, gossiping, judging, negative self-talk, sadness, and other negative energies that others project have adverse effects on your mood, emotions, and health. If you think you have friends who do not serve you because of too much negativity, you might want to take a step back. Sometimes, the negativity is just a phase and will eventually sizzle out, so don’t kick your friend out of your life just yet. But if the negative energy persists, I highly recommend reviewing your social circle. ## **Different values** If you were ever in a romantic relationship with someone whose values are in complete conflict with yours – the operative word here is “complete” – I bet my bottom dollar you have already broken up. Or if you’re still together, you’re a bit unhappy with all the compromising. Any relationship is less complicated when both parties share a similar moral code. I’m not saying you should only be friends with people who are exactly like you. That’s not just boring; that’s weird! But imagine trying to live a healthier lifestyle, and your friends smoke and party all the time. Or, imagine being friends with someone with completely opposite political beliefs. All that conflict will most likely lead to endless arguments, and, worse, a loss of respect – for your friends or for yourself. When you find yourself asking why you’re always standing back or starting to doubt your value system, you’ve identified that this friendship is not serving you. ## **Lack of mutual effort** Ever felt like you’re the one doing all the work to keep the friendship going? Sending the texts, making the calls, and planning the hangouts? If that rings a bell, it’s a hint that your friendship might be a tad one-sided. I’ve been in that boat and decided to put it to the test. I challenged myself to stop being the one to check in with a certain friend, just to see if she’d notice and maybe take the reins for a change. Can you believe it took her more than three months to get in touch? That little experiment opened my eyes. I wasn’t quite ready to kick her out of my friend group, but I did realise I should ease up on the effort. Our friendship naturally shifted to occasional texts every few months. This switch-up actually gives me more time to hang out with friends who are all about actively staying connected. ## **Constant criticism** It is normal for friends to be honest and give constructive criticism. (Like when they tell you it’s probably not a good idea to date Peter because he just got divorced last week.) However, if these constant criticisms become a pattern, you should reevaluate your friendship. If they constantly insult or cut you off in front of other people, they’re inconsiderate and rude. If they’re quick to judge your life choices or parenting style, you might need to find a new set of friends who won’t make you feel like a failure. While criticisms are not inherently a bad thing – they should help you grow and be better – the never-ending disapproval and fault-finding from friends who do not serve you can be toxic. I’ve been there, and trust me, you don’t need such negativity in your life. ## **Feeling used** I get it. We are all users when it comes to relationships. After all, a relationship is a transaction. If you think about it, we forge bonds with people who benefit us somehow. They make you feel safe in the neighbourhood? They have made your new workplace less intimidating? They boost your confidence and mood with their support and sense of humour? The difference is that, if a friendship is not serving you, your mate will abandon you after getting what they need. Often, they already have a motive from the get-go – to use you as a stepping stone from something yet out of their reach. Once they get it, you don’t serve any purpose anymore. (Or they may keep you around, just in case.) I am childhood friends with the most popular girl back in high school. Naturally, many boys and girls wanted to be friends with me to get to her. At first, I accommodated everyone because they were nice. But as I grew and saw through their true intentions – having been tossed aside or, sometimes, intentionally ignored once they’ve made their way into my friend’s circle – I decided they were not true friends. (Good thing my childhood friend is not like that, and we’re still close friends.) Remember, friendship is a give-and-take process. If you give and give while all your friend does is take and take, this is not a mutually beneficial relationship. ## **Constant drama** We all need a little drama in our lives occasionally. But if your friendship seems like a soap opera with its endless cycles of conflicts, it’s not healthy. No friendship is perfect. But if a friendship is not serving you, emotions are always intense. It’s emotionally and mentally draining when there are always tears, quarrelling, and hurt feelings. Even when you communicate and apologise to each other, the drama happens over and over again. Remember, life is already hard as it is. Especially as single mums, we already have too many responsibilities on our shoulders. Friends must be there to share the ups and downs, not to add unnecessary drama to one another’s lives. ## **Lack of trust** I was once very open about my problems with any of my close friends. Whether dealing with heartbreaks, family issues, or struggling at work, I would voice them out to the people I trust*.* But this changed when this particular friend broke my trust. This was a person I thought I could trust. They told the person I was talking about everything I told them in confidence! Violating the rule of trust too often is a [red flag in any relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/toxic-friendship/). It’s OK if a friend accidentally slips up and reveals your secret to other friends. But if they are not even bothered constantly divulging things you told them out of trust, then this friendship is not serving you, and it might be time to let them go. ## **That gut feeling** You know when you have this heavy, nagging, unexplainable feeling that something will be a disaster? When it comes to any relationship, including your friendship, you’re better off trusting your intuition. Although [gut feeling](https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trust-your-gut) can be inaccurate – in fact, it can be misguided and subject to inherent biases a lot of times – intuition can also be very helpful. When your inner alarm bells are ringing around a person, that’s your survival instincts protecting you from potential harm. Friends are people that should make you feel comfortable. If you feel something is off or uncomfortable, you should take a step back and look at things objectively. There might be something you’re not seeing in close proximity. ## **Final thoughts: How to know if a friendship is not serving you anymore** I hope you have learned a thing or two from my past friendship experiences. If there’s one takeaway that I should live by is that when friends do not serve you anymore, it’s okay. We have to understand that outgrowing friendships is a common life experience. In navigating these realms of connection and disconnection, we learn that friendships, like life itself, are transient and transformative. We must be attuned to the ebb and flow of these relationships, understanding that their value lies not just in how long they are, but in the lessons they teach us along the way. As we bid adieu to friends who do not serve us, we make space for new connections that align with our evolving selves. In the symphony of life, each friendship contributes a unique note, and as the composition shifts, we find harmony in both letting go and embracing what’s to come. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friendship-is-not-serving/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friendship-is-not-serving/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** social, friends, mates --- ### [TrustedHouseSitters: A Breakthrough for Single Mums Who Love Travel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/the-ultimate-guide-to-trustedhousesitters-a-game-changer-for-single-mums/) **Published:** March 13, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** Being a single mum comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to travelling. Whether you’re planning a much-needed solo getaway, a family vacation with your little ones, or a work-related trip, one major concern always lingers—who will take care of your home and pets while you’re away? This Guide to TrustedHouseSitters will answer all your concerns. In this guide, we’ll explore **how [TrustedHouseSitters](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1) can benefit single mums**, ensuring peace of mind while they travel. [![TrustedHouseSitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Ths-owners-1-vacation-pet-sitting-1080x1080-1-799x800.png "Ths-owners-1-vacation-pet-sitting-1080x1080 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1) ## **What is TrustedHouseSitters?** TrustedHouseSitters is a **global platform** that connects pet owners with verified house sitters who provide pet and home care **in exchange for free accommodation**. They are not like traditional pet-sitting services, which cost a lot. They offer a membership-based service, allowing homeowners to find **trustworthy sitters who genuinely love pets and travel**. For single mums, this means: - **Affordable Travel** – Enjoy your vacation without worrying about expensive pet boarding or hiring house sitters. - **Reliable Home & Pet Care** – Your furry friends stay comfortable **in their home environment** while you’re away. ## **Why Should Single Mums Consider TrustedHouseSitters?** ### **1. Cost-Effective Travel Solution** Hiring a pet sitter or using a boarding facility can be expensive. With **[TrustedHouseSitters](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1)**, you only pay a membership fee and gain access to **experienced, verified sitters** who will care for your pets for free. ### **2. Safety & Trustworthiness** Leaving your home in someone else’s hands is a big decision. They ensure that all sitters are: - **ID-verified** - **Reviewed by other pet owners** - **Background-checked** You can easily communicate with them before confirming, ensuring you find **someone you feel comfortable with**. ### **3. Stress-Free Planning** For single mums, planning a trip is already a huge task. They make finding a sitter **quick and simple**, giving you one less thing to worry about. ### **4. Keeping Pets Happy at Home** Pets thrive in **familiar environments**. With a house sitter, your pets won’t have to endure the stress of being moved to a **kennel or a stranger’s home**. They stay happy and relaxed in their usual routine. ### **5. Gaining a Supportive Community** TrustedHouseSitters isn’t just about home and pet care—it’s a **community of like-minded travelers** who love animals. Many single mums have found **friendships and support networks** through this platform. ## **How It Works: Step-by-Step Guide for Single Mums** ### **Step 1: Sign Up & Create a Listing** - Head over to **[TrustedHouseSitters.com](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1)** and sign up. - Create a **detailed listing** about your home, pets, and the responsibilities expected of the sitter. ### **Step 2: Browse & Connect with Sitters** - View **sitter profiles**, read reviews, and check references. - Communicate with potential sitters via the platform’s **secure messaging system**. ### **Step 3: Choose the Right Sitter** - Confirm the best sitter based on **reviews, experience, and communication**. - Arrange a **video call** or meeting beforehand to build trust. ### **Step 4: Enjoy Your Trip with Peace of Mind** - While you travel, your home and pets are in **safe hands**. - Stay in touch with your sitter through **updates and check-ins**. ## **How to Get the Most Out of TrustedHouseSitters** - **Be Detailed in Your Listing** – Provide information about your home, pets, and sitter expectations. - **Read Reviews & Ratings** – Always check feedback from other pet owners before choosing a sitter. - **Have a Backup Plan** – While they are reliable, always have a local friend or neighbour on standby just in case. - **Communicate Clearly** – Set expectations and make sure your sitter understands their responsibilities before confirming. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Ths-earlyret-gottimetravel-1080x1080-1-799x800.png "Ths-earlyret-gottimetravel-1080x1080 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1) ## **FAQ: TrustedHouseSitters for Single Mums** ### **Q: Is TrustedHouseSitters safe for single mums?** Yes! TrustedHouseSitters **verifies all sitters** through background checks, reviews, and ID verification. You can also communicate with sitters beforehand and choose someone you trust. ### **Q: How does TrustedHouseSitters compare to pet boarding?** TrustedHouseSitters allows your pets to **stay at home**, reducing stress and maintaining their routine, unlike boarding facilities where pets may feel anxious. ### **Q: What are the costs of TrustedHouseSitters membership?** The platform operates on a **membership model**, making it a cost-effective alternative to hiring professional pet sitters. You pay a flat annual fee instead of per-night boarding costs. ### **Q: How do I ensure my home is safe with a house sitter?** Before confirming a sitter, check **reviews, references, and background checks**. Arrange a **video chat** and discuss clear house rules. ## **Final Thoughts: Is TrustedHouseSitters Right for You?** If you’re a **single mum who loves to travel** but struggles with **pet care and home security**, **[TrustedHouseSitters](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1)** is a **game-changer**. It provides a[ **stress-free, affordable, and trustworthy**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-single-parent-holiday/) way to ensure your home and pets are well cared for while you’re away. By joining the platform, you’ll not only gain access to a **worldwide network of sitters** but also embrace a **travel-friendly lifestyle** without the usual worries. **Sign up today and start planning your next trip with confidence!** #### [Join TrustedHouseSitters Now](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Ths-sitters-3-wowlocations-1080x1080-1-799x800.png "Ths-sitters-3-wowlocations-1080x1080 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://trustedhousesitters.pxf.io/Z6NnY1) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/the-ultimate-guide-to-trustedhousesitters-a-game-changer-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/the-ultimate-guide-to-trustedhousesitters-a-game-changer-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel, Reviews --- ### [How Single Mums Can Build a Profitable Shopify Store 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-single-mums-can-build-a-profitable-shopify-store/) **Published:** February 28, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** Being a single mum is one of the hardest and most rewarding jobs in the world. You’re managing a household, caring for your little ones, and somehow finding time for yourself, too. But let’s be honest—financial stability makes everything a little easier. The challenge? Finding a way to earn money that’s **flexible** enough to fit your life while still bringing in **consistent income**. That’s where a profitable **[Shopify](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY)** store comes in—a beginner-friendly platform that allows you to build an online business without a big investment or technical skills. This guide will walk you through the **simple, practical steps** to launch a Shopify store while balancing motherhood. Let’s dive in! ## **1. Why Shopify is Perfect for Single Mums** Shopify makes it possible to run a **profitable online business** from anywhere—even with a baby on your hip! Here’s why it’s a great option for mums: - **Low startup costs:** No need to rent a space or buy inventory upfront. - **User-friendly platform:** You don’t need coding or design skills. - **Flexible schedule:** Work on your store whenever it fits into your day. - **Multiple income streams:** You can sell physical products, digital downloads, dropshipping items, or print-on-demand designs. Shopify gives you the freedom to create **[financial independence](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/unlock-financial-literacy-empower-your-future/ "Financial Independence")** while still having quality time with your kids. [![Build a Profitable Shopify Store](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Affiliate-asset-refresh-1141-standard-evergreen-multi-english-switch-to-shopify-static-300x2502x.png "Affiliate asset refresh - 1141 - standard - evergreen - multi - english - switch to shopify - static - 300x2502x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) ## **2. How to Choose a Profitable Shopify Store Niche** Finding the right niche is key to success. Here’s how to pick a product category that sells: - **Follow your passion:** What do you love? Selling products you genuinely care about makes the process more fun. (Think: baby essentials, self-care products, or home organization tools.) - **Check market demand:** Use **Google Trends** or Shopify’s trending product lists to see what’s popular. - **Analyze competitors:** Find a way to stand out from similar stores. Maybe it’s a unique product, better pricing, or excellent customer service. - **Use keyword research tools:** Free tools like **Ubersuggest** or **[AnswerThePublic](https://answerthepublic.com/)** can help you discover trending searches in your niche. Picking a niche that **excites you and has demand** will set you up for long-term success. ## **3. Setting Up Your **Profitable** Shopify Store (Step-by-Step)** You can launch your store **in just a few simple steps**—even if you only have an hour a day to work on it! **Step 1:** Sign up for **[Shopify’s free trial ](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) Step 2:** Choose a mobile-friendly theme that matches your brand. **Step 3:** Add essential pages (About Us, Contact, FAQs, Refund Policy). **Step 4:** Optimize for SEO: i) Use keywords in product descriptions. ii) Write engaging meta descriptions. iii) Start a simple blog to bring in organic traffic. It doesn’t have to be perfect at first—just[**get started**](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) and improve along the way. For businesses looking to scale, partnering with a [Google Ads agency in Perth](https://www.yikesmarketing.com.au/ "Google Ads agency in Perth") can drive measurable growth and success. ## **4. Time-Saving Tips for Busy Mums** Running a business while raising kids is no joke! Here are some **life-saving hacks** to stay productive: - **Use automation:** Shopify has built-in tools for **abandoned cart emails** and auto-responses. - **Batch content creation:** Plan & schedule social media posts in advance using **Canva** and **Buffer**. - **Outsource small tasks:** Hire freelancers from **Fiverr** or **Upwork** for design and admin work. - **Streamline customer service:** Set up a **chatbot** or pre-written replies for FAQs. The key is to **work smarter, not harder**, so you have more time for what matters—your kids! [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Affiliate-asset-refresh-1141-standard-evergreen-multi-english-get-started-static-300x2502x.png "Affiliate asset refresh - 1141 - standard - evergreen - multi - english - get started - static - 300x2502x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) ## **5. How to Market Your **Profitable Shopify Store** for Free** You **don’t need a big budget** to attract customers! These free strategies can help you grow: - **Social media:** Share your products on Pinterest, Instagram, and TikTok. - **Blogging:** Write helpful posts related to your niche (e.g., “Best Baby Essentials for New Mums”). - **Facebook Groups:** Join mum communities and offer **value first** before sharing your store. - **Affiliate marketing:** Reach out to **influencers** who can promote your products. - **Email marketing:** Build an email list and send special offers to customers. Consistency is **more important** than perfection. Even **15–30 minutes a day** can make a difference. ## **6. Real Stories: Single Mums Who Made It With a Shopify Store** You’re not alone on this journey! Here are some **inspiring success stories**: - **Sarah**, a mum of two, started a handmade **baby clothing store** on Shopify. With **Instagram marketing**, she turned it into a six-figure business. - **Maria**, a single mum of three, launched a **dropshipping store** selling kitchen gadgets. Within six months, she was making **$5,000/month in passive income**. The best part? They did this **while raising their kids**, proving that it’s 100% possible for you too! ## **7. Your Next Steps (Let’s Get Started!)** Starting a Shopify store could be the **game-changer** you’ve been looking for. If you’re ready to take the first step: - **Sign up for [Shopify’s free trial](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) today!** - **Download your [Free Shopify Setup Checklist](https://acrobat.adobe.com/id/urn:aaid:sc:US:2a5cc692-0ddf-4a9f-ad31-4dbe826a2551)** to stay on track. - **Join online communities** for support, motivation, and tips from other mumpreneurs. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Shopify-launch-your-online-store-today-start-free-trial-300x250-1.png "Shopify launch your online store today - start free trial 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shopify.pxf.io/aOW0XY) You’ve got this! With **dedication, the right niche, and smart marketing**, you can **build a profitable Shopify store.** Your very own online business while being the amazing mum you are. Best of Luck! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-single-mums-can-build-a-profitable-shopify-store/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-single-mums-can-build-a-profitable-shopify-store/?share=x) - **Categories:** Reviews **Tags:** business mum, business plan, business idea, shopify, online store, side hussle --- ### [How to add oomph to your sex life when you're single](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/sex-life-single/) **Published:** February 10, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Today we are coming to you with a super empowering chat about how to have a great sex life even if you’re single. There are so many reasons to bask in the warmth of your own self-love … but meeting your own sexual needs, without a partner, is the ultimate. Don’t worry if you’re not sure where to start. In this podcast I chat to [Chantelle Otten](https://chantelleotten.com/) about the joys of self-pleasure for the single mum … and all that may entail. Chantelle is the Director of the Australian Institute of Sexology and Sexual Medicine, Australia’s largest sexology clinic. She is also an ambassador and resident Sexologist for [Lovehoney](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/offers/beans10talk), the sexual happiness people and the number one pureplay adult retailer in Australia. We talk candidly about everything you need to know about self-pleasure, whether you’re a newbie or you’re looking for some next level self-loving. And just a heads-up: If you click through to [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2faff%2fAFFLH15.html%3fsrc%3dafflh15) from this website you will receive 15% off your order ($60 or above), yay. ## How to add oomph to your sex life when you’re single Listen to Chantelle and I discuss: - The benefits of regular and satisfying self-pleasure (this may surprise you) - Chantelle’s top tips to get started with your sensual self-pleasure journey - Sex toys: For the novice and something new and exciting to extend your collection - How (as a busy single mum) you can find time for self-pleasure in the bedroom (or bathroom?) - The confidence factor: How to build it and give yourself the confidence and permission to explore [![Single mother ecourse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-rectangle-960x800.png "ecourse rectangle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ![How to add oomph to your sex life when you're single | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest | Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Podcast-Lovehoney.png "Podcast - Lovehoney - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/sex-life-single/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/sex-life-single/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Sex **Tags:** self love, sex toys, masturbation, self pleasure, vibrator, lovehoney --- ### [Expert tips to save time and money in the kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-time-money-kitchen/) **Published:** June 8, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I love cooking but I don’t like the amount of money I spend on food and wish I could streamline to spend less time in the kitchen. If you feel the same, then you are right where you need to be for expert tips to save time and money in kitchen whilst making yummy food your family will *love*. Enter … the one, the only: Kim McCosker, founder of [4 Ingredients](https://www.4ingredients.com.au/). No longer just a cookbook series, 4 Ingredients is now a formidable Australian publishing house. It owns the rights to 37 cookbooks and is one of the most recognised and trusted food brands in Australia, with a reported 1 in 7 homes owning a 4 Ingredients cookbook! With global sales nearing 9 million copies, two Foxtel TV-series, even more cookbooks in the works and national Ambassador roles for IGA, BETTA Home Living and Coeliac Australia, Kim *still* made time to chat to me about this popular topic. Kim shares her magic with us through super-clever kitchen tricks amid much fun and laughter in this throughly enjoyable podcast. ***Further reading: [6 Great meal planning apps for families.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-planning-apps/)*** ## Expert tips to save time and money in the kitchen Listen to Kim and I chat about: - The wonders of the 4 Ingredients method and why it’s so popular - Menu planning and other time saving tips - Kim’s top money saving tips for the kitchen - The best herbs and spices to fill your cupboards - Kim’s absolute favourite recipes from her repertoire of millions - Various other handy tips including how to make cake with champagne and knowing a tasty strawberry when you see one ### Listen here … [![Single mother ecourse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-rectangle.png "ecourse rectangle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ![Save time and money in the kitchen | Beanstalk Mums Podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Podcast-4-Ingredients.png "Podcast - 4 Ingredients - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-time-money-kitchen/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-time-money-kitchen/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Household, Money **Tags:** budgeting, cooking, recipes, meals, ingredients --- ### [Empower Your Financial Journey: Unlock Financial Success with Capability](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/empower-your-financial-journey-unlock-financial-success-with-capability/) **Published:** January 10, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… Becoming Financially Capable: The Key to Your Financial Success As we step into 2025, many of us are thinking about fresh starts and setting goals. For single mums like me, one area that often comes to mind is our finances. That’s why I was thrilled to sit down with Jane Monica-Jones, a financial therapist and co-founder of the Financial Wellbeing Co., for a conversation on the emotional aspects of money, overcoming financial stress, and success building capability with our finances. ## Who Is Jane Monica-Jones? Jane Monica-Jones is a trailblazer in financial therapy. Blending psychological insight with financial expertise to help people overcome emotional blocks around money. As one of Australia’s first financial therapists, she understands the unique pressures single mums face, offering compassionate guidance that goes beyond traditional financial advice. She’s also the author of *The Billionaire Buddha*, a powerful exploration of finding financial peace and balance, and a passionate advocate for financial literacy. Through her innovative Capabilite platform, Jane empowers individuals to rebuild their financial lives with confidence, focusing on accessible tools and emotional wellbeing. Her work resonates deeply with single mums, providing not just practical support, but hope for a brighter, more stable future. ## Why Financial Capability Matters in Financial Success I’ve learned through my own journey that being financially literate is just the beginning. To truly achieve financial wellbeing, we need to be capable with money. Making decisions and taking actions that align with our goals and values. Jane shared how financial capability is about understanding not only the practical side of finances but also addressing the emotional and psychological blocks that might hold us back. ## The Emotional Side of Money Jane opened up about how financial stress can affect our nervous systems, especially as single mums. She explained how feelings of financial insecurity can trigger a “freeze” response, making it difficult to take proactive steps. I could relate to this; money worries have a way of creeping into every part of life, from how we parent to how we care for ourselves. But Jane reassured me that these challenges can be overcome. She introduced the concept of separating our financial struggles from our sense of self-worth, a shift that can lead to empowerment and clarity. ## Practical Tips to Build Financial Success Here are some actionable strategies Jane and I discussed: - **Set Clear Goals**: Break your financial goals into small, manageable steps. This prevents overwhelm and creates a clear path forward. - **Understand Your Triggers**: Reflect on past experiences and identify what might cause financial stress or sabotage. - **Invest in Resources**: Jane’s Capabilite platform offers courses, mindfulness exercises, and tools to help mums like us grow financial skills at our own pace. - **Practice Empathy**: Be kind to yourself. Financial wellbeing is a journey, not a destination. ## Inspiring Stories from the Podcast During our chat, Jane shared a powerful example of a client who overcame financial trauma through therapy and education. It was inspiring to hear how this person turned their life around, proving that change is possible with the right support and resources. ## A Special Giveaway To help kickstart your financial wellbeing journey, Jane is generously offering three financial therapy packages and ten financial wellbeing diaries to Beanstalk members who sign up through the unique link in this podcast episode. This is a fantastic opportunity to dive deep into your financial habits and start 2025 with a fresh perspective. **That’s new annual subscribers to *Capabilite.com* will go into the draw to win:** - Financial Therapy Packages – 4 x Sessions with Jane Monica-Jones valued $650 (3 packages to be won) - Financial Wellbeing Resource – Choose from either Financial Wellbeing Diary, Money Bubble Cards or Money Mental Health Cards (10 to be won) - *Offer ends 20 February 2025* ## Take the First Step to Financial Success If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by your finances, remember that you’re not alone. By focusing on building financial capability, we can create a stable foundation not just for ourselves, but for our children too. Explore the resources on the [Capabilite platform](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2) and consider reaching out for professional support if you need it. You deserve to feel empowered and confident about your financial future. Let’s make this year the one where we take control of our finances and thrive. Together, we can achieve so much more. --- ## Links for this episode: ✨ [**https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2**](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2) — Use this link to get access to over 150 financial literacy courses on *Capabilite.com* and go into the draw to win one of these amazing prizes and achieve your financial success: - Financial Therapy Packages – 4 x Sessions with Jane Monica-Jones valued $650 (3 packages to be won) - Financial Wellbeing Resource – Choose from either Financial Wellbeing Diary, Money Bubble Cards or Money Mental Health Cards (10 to be won) - *Offer ends 20 February 2025* 🌸 [**https://www.janemonicajones.com/**](https://www.janemonicajones.com/) — Learn more about Jane Monica-Jones here. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! 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When most expectant mums start preparing for their maternity leave, they often focus on planning for the baby’s arrival. Things like buying cots, prams, adorable baby clothes, and a myriad of other necessities. However, when you’re a solo mum, there’s an added layer of responsibility. Beyond the baby essentials, it’s helpful to dedicate time to carefully planning your finances to ensure a comfortable and worry-free maternity leave. Whether you’re already pregnant or just contemplating the idea of becoming a mother on your own, it’s never too early to start organising your finances. Here, I’ll guide you through useful steps to assist you in preparing financially for maternity leave as a solo mum. ***Further reading: [Support for going through pregnancy alone.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/)*** ## Evaluating your current finances to plan for maternity leave Ideally you should know the ins and outs of your own financial situation. However, the reality is that most people don’t spend time planning, budgeting and keeping track of their finances. In order to make a detailed plan for your maternity leave you need to know about your income needs. Think about where your income will come from and what your regular expenses are. ### Decide on Your Maternity Leave Duration Begin by contemplating the length of your maternity leave. How much time do you want to spend with your newborn? Most mums want to spend as much time as possible at home with their baby. Twelve months maternity leave is a common length but you could take six months or up to two years. How long you take may depend on the next point. ### Determine Your Income Needs While your current income is most likely sufficient to cover your expenses, assess whether your income will change during this period. Consider where your income will come from during your maternity leave. Check if your employment contract offers paid maternity leave and the duration of this leave. If your employer permits, you may request to take your maternity leave payments at half pay. This will effectively doubling the length of your leave. However, this option will also halve your income for this period but it may still be enough for you to live on. If you have been in your job for a significant amount of time you may also have other leave entitlements you can access such as annual leave or long service leave. You may also be able to take these leave entitlements at half pay. ### Explore Government Assistance Programs for Solo Mums Research the various government assistance programs available for single mothers. Read up on the [Parental Leave Pay](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/parental-leave-pay-for-child-born-or-adopted-from-1-july-2023) scheme from Centrelink, so you are aware of the of: - The eligibility requirements - Payment amounts - The process and requirements for applying You may be eligible for additional benefits, such as: - Family Tax Benefit A and B - Child Care Subsidy - Parenting Payment. These programs can provide [significant financial relief](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) for you once your baby is born. If you are eligible for any additional payments, you can check how much you may receive by using one of [Centrelink’s Online Estimators](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/online-estimators?context=64107#paymentandservicefinder). You can play around with the figures. Try different income amounts if that helps you to plan how to manage your income before you make any decisions. Planning is key to ensure you can take the amount of time you desire with your precious baby. ### Factor in Child Support Payments If you are not a solo mum by choice, you may be entitled to child support payments from the father of your baby. However, the calculation for these payments won’t happen until after your baby is born, and all the necessary paperwork is submitted. This can add a layer of complexity to your financial planning for maternity leave on a solo income since you won’t have a clear picture of how much this additional income will be. ### Know Your Current Monthly Expenses Create a detailed budget of your existing monthly expenses. It’s helpful to categorise expenses such as fixed versus variable and essential versus non-essential ones. Once you have this list, it’s an excellent opportunity to review and identify areas where you can cut back or reduce spending. This not only aids in maternity leave planning but is also a prudent financial practice that we should all do more often. Keep in mind that there may be some expenses associated with work that you won’t have once you take leave. These could include transport, parking, lunches, and supplies. But these will be replaced with other expenses and could include nappies, baby food and other baby needs. When I last went on maternity leave, I was fortunate to have an employer with very generous leave conditions. I had the privilege of enjoying 14 weeks of paid maternity leave. Due to my years of service, I was eligible to use 10 weeks of long service leave. Plus, had accumulated approximately another 10 weeks of annual leave. My employer agreed to allow me to take all of this leave at half pay. I carefully evaluated my income requirements and expenses. This allowed me to determine that, with my Parenting Payment entitlement, I could comfortably manage on half pay. Doing this financial planning enabled me to extend my maternity leave to an impressive 16 months of paid leave before returning to work. The extra time at home was invaluable, especially as my daughter faced some health challenges. Knowing that our finances were secure during this period alleviated a significant source of stress. ### Evaluate Your Savings Do you have savings reserved for unexpected circumstances? Even a modest amount of savings can prove invaluable for essential purchases or extending your maternity leave slightly. While it’s best not to touch savings earmarked for specific purposes, having a small buffer can offer peace of mind. If you’ve built up substantial savings, you might have plan to use a portion to support your solo mum maternity leave. ### Create a Comprehensive Budget Now that you have gathered all your information, create a budget. This helps you assess your financial security during maternity leave. If you’ve never made a budget before, it’s simpler than it sounds. Choose a period, ideally monthly, list your income sources, and total them. Then, list your expenses and total them. Review the figures to see if they align with your comfort level. If your income exceeds your expenses, your budget is in the positive, and you’re on track. If there’s a shortfall, don’t fret; solutions are available. ***Further reading: [Personal finance apps to budget your spending.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/personal-finance-apps-budget-spending/)*** ### Reduce Your Expenses Cutting expenses not only readies you for potential income reductions during maternity leave but also boosts your savings for unexpected costs. It’s a proactive step that ensures financial resilience during this period. With your projected maternity leave income and expenses in mind, identify areas where you can reduce costs. Evaluate insurance policies, phone plans, and utility services, and explore options to renegotiate rates or switch providers. This can yield substantial savings. If you hold professional memberships or subscriptions related to your job, inquire about temporarily suspending them during your maternity leave as a way to trim expenses. As I was preparing financially for maternity leave as a solo mum, I decided to trim down on unnecessary expenses. I took a close look at my budget and made some smart changes. I cancelled subscriptions I no longer used. I adjusted my phone plan, which saved me a cool $25 per month. And I shopped around for better insurance policies. Thanks to these efforts, I managed to reduce my car insurance by $300 annually. It took a bit of effort to set everything up, but the long-term benefits have been undeniable. I have continued to monitor and adjust these expenses, so I continue to enjoy these savings. ### Plan Ahead for Your Financial Obligations Even after trimming expenses, you’ll still have your regular bills to take care of. The key is to avoid finding yourself in a tight spot where you can’t meet your financial obligations. Here’s a simple method: calculate your monthly expenses and divide this by your pay period. Then, set up a dedicated ‘expenses account’ and deposit that calculated amount every time you receive your pay. This ensures you always have enough to cover your bills across the year. This approach mirrors how I handle my household bills. I implemented this system before the arrival of my first child, and it’s been my go-to ever since. Rarely have I encountered a situation where there wasn’t sufficient funds in that account to meet my financial commitments. ## Saving tips for solo mums on maternity leave While on maternity leave, [saving money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/) is crucial, especially for solo mums. Here are practical tips to help you manage your finances effectively: ### Start a Savings Plan If you’ve managed to trim your expenses while still employed, consider directing the saved amount into a dedicated savings account. If you have a mortgage, adding your savings to your mortgage account can increase your savings as it reduces the amount of interest you pay each month. That’s a win-win situation, though also make sure you can redraw the funds if you need them. Adjusting to a lower income during maternity leave becomes easier when you’ve already started building your savings. This reserve can prove invaluable for significant purchases or unexpected expenses. ### Start a Baby Gift Registry Babies can incur significant expenses due to essential large purchases. Initiating a baby gift registry with a baby store is a savvy strategy to cut down on your expenses. Friends and family often enjoy contributing to a registry, guaranteeing you receive the items you truly require. This approach helps you steer clear of amassing an array of less practical gifts, while relieving some financial pressures from you. ### Smart Shopping for Baby Essentials Keep an eye out for sales, discounts, and promotions on baby necessities. Buying items in bulk during sales can yield even more significant savings. However, exercise caution not to go overboard when purchasing items during pregnancy. You want to avoid spending your hard-earned cash on things you might not end up using. ### Accept Hand-Me-Downs If you have friends for family who have finished with baby items they will often offer to hand them down to you. Accept items that you will find useful as it can be a huge money saver. I was fortunate to have a friend who loaned me her baby capsule when she was done with it. And, another family friend offered me a baby cot they no longer needed. This was a huge relief as it saved me from worrying about two significant expenses. What made it even more perfect was that my son was born 14 weeks premature, and I hadn’t had a chance to shop for these essentials. Borrowing them was a lifesaver. When we were done using these items, I returned them, and they went on to benefit the original owners’ families once again. ### Buy Pre-loved Baby Goods Many baby items are lightly used and available at a fraction of the cost on platforms like: - Marketplace - Gumtree - eBay - Local parenting groups. Ensure safety by thoroughly checking items before purchase, especially cots, car seats and prams. ### Embrace Eco-Friendly Practices Choosing eco-friendly options not only saves money but also benefits the environment. There are several ways to adopt eco-friendly practices when preparing for your baby’s arrival. Join the reusable nappy revolution by investing in modern cloth nappies. While there’s an initial expense, their reusability significantly reduces long-term costs, a valuable asset for a solo mum’s budget. It also reduces landfill. Breastfeeding is another eco-friendly and budget-friendly choice for single mums. Formula is a good and safe alternative, but its costs can add up over time. If you encounter difficulties with breastfeeding, seek free support from sources such as: - Your local maternal and child health service - The maternity hospital where you gave birth - Your local [Australian Breastfeeding Association](https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/) group. ### Prepare Homemade Baby Food Consider making your baby’s food at home. It’s not only healthier but also more budget-friendly than buying pre-packaged baby food. You can puree and freeze fruits and vegetables in advance. It’s a great way to ensure a steady supply of nutritious meals for your little one. ## Boosting your maternity leave income While cutting expenses is essential during maternity leave, increasing your income can significantly alleviate financial stress. ### Explore Work-from-Home Opportunities Consider investigating [work-from-home options](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mums-extra-money-from-home/) or freelance opportunities that allow you to earn while taking care of your baby. These jobs offer flexibility and can be a valuable supplement to your finances during maternity leave. You can begin exploring these possibilities while still pregnant, incorporating them into your maternity leave financial planning. However, if you’re receiving Parental Leave Pay from Centrelink, it’s essential to confirm whether taking on additional work is permissible while you’re in receipt of payments. Be sure to clarify this before accepting any work offers. When I was on maternity leave, I started my own online business. There are some costs associated with starting a business, especially with a retail focus. However, it became another income source while being a solo mum. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but it can lead to a new career for some mums. It also gives you more flexibility around your work hours for the long term. ### Maximise Your Tax Benefits Look into tax credits and deductions available to single parents. Consult with a tax professional to ensure you’re taking advantage of all available tax benefits. Every person’s situation is different so it’s important to have your own circumstances assessed. Also note that you may not notice a difference in your income until you complete your tax return and get a refund. ### Sell Preloved Baby Items After your baby outgrows items, consider reselling them to recoup some funds for future needs. Selling second-hand items is both cost-effective and eco-friendly. I have a love for buying and selling online, so my kids grew up with lots of preloved goods. I became a savvy buyer, buying many second-hand brand name items that I would then resell later. Sometimes I even made a profit on the items when I resold them. I estimate that I broke-even clothing my son for the first 4 years of his life! And he was the best dressed kid in town. ***Further reading: [Sell used clothes online in Australia: How and where.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sell-used-clothes-online-australia/)*** ## Preparing for your maternity leave as a solo mum will ensure you are financially secure Incorporating these additional income management tips and cost-saving strategies as you are preparing financially for maternity leave as a solo mum can significantly enhance your financial stability during this crucial period. Remember that while financial planning is necessary, it’s also essential to enjoy this special time with your newborn without undue stress. With careful preparation and resourcefulness, you can navigate solo motherhood and maternity leave with confidence, ensuring a bright future for both you and your precious baby. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/preparing-financially-maternity-leave/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/preparing-financially-maternity-leave/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting, Money **Tags:** benefits --- ### ['Need to know facts' about getting pregnant with a sperm donor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/pregnant-sperm-donor/) **Published:** October 30, 2023 **Author:** Lisa Ransome **Content:** So, you have made the decision to have a child on your own, and now need to figure out where to start and how to find a sperm donor. This article cover the ‘need to know’ facts about getting pregnant with a sperm donor. ## How to find a sperm donor and then conceive There are 3 ways to find a sperm donor: - Someone you know – friend, partner of a friend - Someone you “know” – met through a friend of a friend, on an online donor-recipient matching group or website - Fertility Clinic Donor (CRSD) There are 4 ways to be able to conceive with a donor: - Intercourse - Home insemination - Donor Intrauterine Insemination (IUI/DI) - Donor In Vitro Fertilisation (D-IVF) Each of these options comes with pros and cons, risks and benefits, so let’s explore the options in more detail to help with decision making. ## Someone you know If you plan to get pregnant with a sperm donor you might decide to approach a friend, partner of a friend or an ex-partner (depending on the relationship with them). Alternatively, they may know you are planning to conceive with a donor, and offer to be a donor for you. Options for conception include all the above listed. **Pros** to having a pre-existing relationship with your potential donor include, being able to have the person in your child’s life from the start, and to be able to build a relationship with them from the very beginning. **Cons** to having a pre-existing relationship with your potential donor may include, the person wanting more of a role than you are comfortable with (e.g., wishing to co-parent) or overstepping boundaries established. There may also be limits to knowing if they have donated to other recipients, or their wish donate to others, and some potential donors may not be willing to engage in pre-screening for genetic carrier status, or infection status. ## Someone you have recently met More people who get pregnant with a sperm donor meet potential donors through friends, or through online donor linking groups (social media etc.). There are many groups created online with the single purpose of linking potential recipients with potential donors. If you make the decision to connect with a potential donor through a group, or through a friend or family member the options for conception include all the above listed. **Pros** to a newly established known donor relationship, are similar to those of a pre-establish relationship, it provides an opportunity to be able to build a relationship between your child and their donor from the very start, and provide your child, with information of family background and information about the donor. **Cons** to a newly established known donor relationship, again are largely like those listed above for long term established relationship, including not knowing how many other families they have donated to, overstepping boundaries or relationship lines, and not wishing to complete pre-screening for carrier or infectious disease. Further concerns which may arise include not being able to obtain a clear history of mental and physical health, family background or overt deceit from the potential donor around this. And, while rare, there has been cased of potential donors met through online systems pressuring women to engage in “natural insemination” (i.e., intercourse) or being assaulted at meet-ups ## Fertility Clinic Donor (CRSD) Another way to get pregnant with a sperm donor is through a fertility clinic. It is known as a clinic recruited sperm donor (CRSD). These men have actively come to a fertility clinic either in response to advertising they have seen for donors, or through work of mouth through friends or family who may have used a donor and they are wanting to have an impact on another family. Some men also choose to donate, as they may have needed an egg donor to have their own children. **Pros** to donors through a clinic, is they have been thoroughly screened for genetic carrier status and infectious disease, sperm has completed quarantine periods. The men who have donated have complete formalised counselling with a registered ANZICA Fertility Counsellor, and there are strict family limits in place (maximum of 5-10 families depending on the state), and when accessing CRSD all information is held at a central data base and point, increasing oversight. **Cons** to CRSD is they remain de-identified until your child reaches the age of 18, or unless you both agree to disclosure by mutual consent prior to this time. Information provided by the clinic, indicates the medical history of the person and their family, but can often be limited on what their personality and values in life are. ## Home-based versus clinic conception ## Home-based conception If you have decided to proceed with a home-based conception, it is beneficial to consider having some form of contract written out about the role the donor will or won’t have in a child’s life. While there are limitations to this within the legal system, it provides a framework for how you plan to navigate moving forward. It is also worth investing in health screening for both parties prior to commencing, and reducing risks where you possibly can. With regards to home-based insemination and conception, clinic donors are not a choice. ## Clinic-based conception If you make the decision to come to a clinic, you can either request to access a CRSD, or you can undertake treatment with a known donor. However you proceed, you will need to complete 2 sessions of counselling with the clinics ANZICA Fertility Counsellor. These sessions are to review supports, plans for treatment, concerns around mental health, and provide you with education regarding the donor registers and system in your state or territory. If you use a CRSD, they will also have had 2 sessions of counselling. If you know your donor, they will also complete 2 sessions of counselling, and you will complete a third session where you are both present, to discuss navigation of the future, boundaries and ensure you are both on a similar page with regards to contact, support and planning for support of children (and the resulting adults!). Counselling is not there to “rule you in or out” of treatment, but a space to discuss and reflect on moving forward with treatment as a single woman using donor sperm, whether you know your donor or not. If you use a known donor through a clinic, once they have provided their sperm, it will need to be quarantined for 3 months prior to being able to commence your treatment cycles. All donor conceived births are registered with the clinic, the state donor registers, and notifications through to the local birth deaths and marriages for notation on the birth certificate. ## Facts and considerations before using a donor - Donors are NOT paid – they are provided with compensation, typically around $35 per sample provided to a clinic - It is ILLEGAL to pay a donor for their sperm - CRSD are all screened - If you come through a clinic with a known donor, they will be screened for genetic carrier status and infectious disease – as the recipient this is pain by you - ALL parties in a donor arrangement will need to complete counselling for treatment through a clinic - If you are not using a clinic, seeking legal advice from a lawyer experienced in donor law is strongly encouraged to ensure you understand the legal implications of donor conception, and consider drawing up a contract (these also have limitations) see <https://sarahjefford.com/> for more information on this - If you are unsure about how to proceed, and what is going to be best in your circumstances, do consider speaking to a mental health professional independently with regards to your choices or options and help you make an informed decision. - Ensure whoever you speak with is registered as a mental health professional with the Australian and New Zealand Infertility Counsellors Association (ANZICA) ## In conclusion: Getting pregnant with a sperm donor Embarking on the journey to parenthood with a sperm donor is a significant decision that requires careful consideration and planning. Armed with the need-to-know facts outlined in this article, prospective parents can navigate this process with confidence and awareness. Understanding the legal and medical aspects of sperm donation, along with the emotional and ethical dimensions, is crucial. Equally important is selecting a reputable sperm bank or donor, as well as seeking professional guidance when necessary. Open and honest communication between partners, if applicable, and a support network can alleviate some of the challenges that may arise during this unique path to parenthood. Ultimately, the decision to use a sperm donor is a personal one, and each journey is as distinct as the individuals embarking on it. With the right information and support, prospective parents can embark on this exciting and meaningful adventure with the knowledge and resources needed to make informed choices and create the loving family they desire. ***Further reading: [Support for going through pregnancy alone.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/pregnant-sperm-donor/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/pregnant-sperm-donor/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting **Tags:** IVF, IUI, fertility clinic donor, CRSD --- ### [Fertility options for single women doing motherhood alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/fertility-options-for-single-women/) **Published:** September 16, 2023 **Author:** Alisha Burns **Content:** As a single woman embarking on the incredible journey of motherhood alone, I understand the unique set of challenges and joys that come with this path. In today’s world, fertility options for single women have expanded, offering a multitude of choices and opportunities to build a family on our own terms. In this article, we will explore the empowering landscape of fertility options available to single women. ***Further reading: [Support for going through pregnancy alone.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/)*** ## The first steps If you’re a single mother who feels like you would like to have more children and are considering expanding your family using donor sperm, I have one piece of advice for you … Go to your GP and get a referral for a fertility specialist. An initial appointment and a few simple blood tests will quickly let you know what your options are and whether you have the luxury of time; that you should be doing something now to protect your options for the future (such as freezing your eggs); or that you need to take action now. So assuming your fertility results are positive, what are your options if you want to have children via donor conception? ## Options to have children via donor conception ### ID release donor In Australia it’s illegal to be an anonymous donor. To protect any resulting children all donors need to be identifiable when a child turns 18. It is super important for the children to be able to find and connect with the donor if that’s something they want to d. It helps prevent the trauma experienced by previous generations who, after finding out they are donor conceived, had no way to find out anything about their genetics or who they are as a person. All fertility clinic recruited donors, local or international, will be “ID release donors”. With a clinic recruited donor you generally have a list to chose from (some clinics have developed apps to view all donors) with basic demographic information (eye and hair colour, height, ethnicity, etc), full medical history and if you’re lucky, a toddler photo and some personal answers to a list of questions. All donors are screened and cannot be paid for their donation to ensure it is an altruistic act. ### Known donor A known donor is usually a friend or someone in your expanded social circle that agrees to be your donor. While a known donor has benefits over ID release, it also comes with unique legal challenges. Make sure you do your research and really think through the sort of relationship you would want with the donor in the future. ### Recruited known donor A recruited donor is someone you meet and get to know before they become your donor, but not someone you had any relationship with prior. These donors are commonly found through apps, forums or Facebook groups. There is no regulation or screening of these donors. This means it can be a great option financially and to allow a relationship with the donor for your child, you need to embark on this path with caution. There are some genuinely nice men who want to help women have a family, but be on the lookout for red flags, such as: - Someone pressuring you to be your donor - Anyone with too many donations (each state has a family limit for clinic recruited donors between 5 and 10 for context) - Someone insisting on natural insemination (conceiving via sex is not a donation and has very different legal and financial implications – DO NOT DO THIS!). ***Further reading: [Need to know facts about getting pregnant with a sperm donor.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pregnant-sperm-donor/?utm_source=facebookpage)*** ## Get legal advice with fertility options for single women If you opt for a form of known donor make sure you have a lot of open and honest conversation before committing to anything. And, if possible get legal advice and a contract drawn up by a lawyer who specialises in donor agreements. You’ll want to address all of the hard questions early on so you don’t have any nasty surprises as the children get older such as: - What happens if you or the donor gets into another relationship - What happens if you want to move - How much the donor will be in your children’s life - How the donor will be referred to - How public you’ll be with who the donor is - Access to donor siblings - What happens if you pass away Once you have selected which avenue you are taking for a donor there are three main options for conception (assuming fertility wise you have no issues). ## Main options for conception ### AI – Artificial insemination (AKA the turkey baster method) This is usually done at home or a hotel, and involves inserting the fresh donation yourself via syringe. You would usually do a few inseminations over a couple of days, at the right time in your cycle, which you’d identify via ovulation tracking strips you can buy from the supermarket. This is the closest thing to having sex and has similar success rates. Some women are lucky enough to be successful first time, some take a few months, and some will end up going for professional fertility treatment. Some fertility clinics even offer this service with their recruited donors for woman who are looking to conceive as naturally as possible. ### IUI – Intrauterine Insemination This is performed at a fertility clinic. Your cycle will be closely tracked and when it’s determined you are ovulating your fertility specialist will insert the sperm directly into your uterus via a small tube that goes through the opening of your cervix. You’re awake for the procedure, it’s a little uncomfortable, you’ll have the urge to put your legs up the wall afterwards to help with gravity, but it’s generally over and done with in a few minutes. There’s also the option to have fertility medication to help your follicles (eggs) grow and develop if needed for a better chance of success. However, if you respond too well your cycle may be cancelled as they won’t proceed if there’s a likelihood of multiples. A lot of women with no known fertility issues will have success with IUI. If you don’t have success after two rounds then you should become eligible for the [Medicare rebate if you move to IVF](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/medicare-services-for-conceiving-pregnancy-and-birth?context=60092). ### IVF – In vitro fertilisation This is the big guns. It is usually recommended if you are: - Older than 35 - Have known fertility issues - Are confident you want siblings. In this process you are creating embryos which will then be transferred to hopefully make a baby. You’ll be administering hormones, usually in the form of multiple injections a day. Your fertility specialist will monitor you very closely via internal scans (commonly known as “dildo cam” or “Wanda”). When your body looks like your follicles/eggs are ready you will undergo egg collection, where the specialist removes any eggs from your ovaries under general anaesthetic. The eggs are then fertilised with the donor sperm (known or clinic recruited). Then, any that turn into a blastocyst (still normally dividing and progressing embryos at day 5/6) will be either transferred back into your uterus (similar to IUI) or frozen to be transferred later. There is also a form of IVF called ICSI. This means the embryologist injects one individual sperm into the egg, rather than letting the sperm and egg get together on their own in the petri dish. ## Have counselling If you have children from a previous relationship you’ll also want to think through how the family dynamic will work. This includes how you’ll explain to your children that some children have a parent who doesn’t live with them and some have a donor. Everyone who conceives through a clinic needs to complete mandatory counselling to help them process the unique challenges that comes with donor conception. It’s a really great idea to get specialised counselling before embarking on this journey even if you are using a known donor at home. ***Further reading: [Preparing financially for maternity leave as a solo mum.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/preparing-financially-maternity-leave/)*** ## Final words: Fertility options for single women doing motherhood alone Unfortunately there are no guarantees with any form of fertility treatment. Some women have success with AI at home, some won’t have success after multiple rounds of IVF and will need to explore other options such as donor eggs, embryos, surrogacy or expanding their family via fostering. It can be a hard road for some women. Ensuring you have a good support system in place to help you navigate the emotional rollercoaster that comes with this journey, as well as the multiple appointments, is really important. ***Further reading: [What are the guiding principles for egg donation in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/egg-donations-australia/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/fertility-options-for-single-women/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/fertility-options-for-single-women/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting **Tags:** IVF, donor, IUI, fertility, AI --- ### [Best video calling apps to help with co-parenting (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/video-calling-apps/) **Published:** January 25, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** In most family breakups, shared care arrangements for children become the norm. This means your kids will [live between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) and spend time away from the other parent. It’s hard for them. And it’s hard for the parent who is not with them. The solution: Video calling apps. Luckily there are plenty to choose from and most of them are completely free or have a free option that is enough for this purpose. But which video chat app is best for you and your family? In this article we provide a list of the most popular video calling apps, alongside what they offer, why we like them, who they would suit and pros/cons. We’ve also recently updated the article to include handy tips to ensure your children’s video calls with dad are a success. Because, those of us who have co-parented for what feels like a million years (aka: me) know that video calls can go downhill fast if both co-parents are not committed to make them happen on time and to make them a pleasant experience. So keep reading and find out everything you need to know to keep your separated family communicating in a way that works for everyone. ## **Best video calling apps for co-parented kids in 2024** ## **Facetime** [Facetime](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/facetime/id1110145091) is the number one video calling app for iOS users. It’s pre-installed in iPhones, it’s free, and works great most of the time if you have a strong connection. Facetime lets you online chat with up to 32 people from anywhere in the world over cellular data, but it works best for one-on-one calls or a small group. Probably the best thing about Facetime is the HD quality video calls (up to 1080p on Macs). The image is crystal clear compared to similar apps, especially if you have a strong WiFi connection. And even if Facetime isn’t running, you still receive incoming calls without opening the app. [![Facetime | video calling apps](https://support.apple.com/library/content/dam/edam/applecare/images/en_US/iOS/ios13-ipad-pro-iphone-xs-facetime-hero.jpg)](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/facetime/id1110145091) ***Available via:** Apple* ***Cost:** Free over Wifi* ***Pros:** Easy to use, invite up to 32 people, lots of fun features, high definition video* ***Cons:** Requires an Apple device, works best for one-to-one calls* ***You will love this app if:** You’re an iOS user who wants an easy-to-use app to check in on kids, parents and grandparents* ## **Bunch** Next on our list of video calling apps: [Bunch](https://bunch.live/) combines video chatting with games and Snapchat-like filters to make virtual huddles a fun experience. The user interface pops with colour and there’s a lot of filters/animations that you can use to customise your screen. The games are fun and range from easy peasy to super difficult. There’s a drawing game similar to Pictionary, a billiards game and a trivia game. You can also play third party games like Fortnite, Roblox and Minecraft. Pro tip: Installing the games on your first go can eat up a lot of time. Skip this process if you only want straight video online chat. [![Bunch](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/faT_sX7J6b0apey_S6GQqGxLlSL5t6ZK8wk1P6YZQJ2c9QB9vdKVyuIxOX6cwsMEMjs=w1208-h805-rw)](https://bunch.live/) ***Available via:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Fun games and video chat for the younger crowd* ***Cons:** Installing games can take a while* ***You will love this app if:** You’re a gamer or you have kids who love games* ## **Airtime (now Cantina)** Ever wanted to share a cool video with your friend while you’re on video chat? [Airtime](https://www.airtime.com/) lets you do that and more. You can chat and watch movies, TV shows and YouTube, listen to music and share photos. Plus, you can create private rooms and party rooms for different people, as well as customising your screen with animated stickers. Airtime lets you chat with up to 10 people at the same time. It’s a fun way to connect with friends and family during isolation, but not ideal for younger kids without supervision. Overall, the app is easy to use and set up, and it’s completely free. Just remember that the app collects a ton of information about you based on what you share with others. All up, a good choice on our list of video calling apps. [![Airtime | video calling apps](https://is3-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Purple113/v4/fe/a6/b9/fea6b9dd-56b4-adf9-2e59-6d8f9d6ae0bd/pr_source.png/300x0w.jpg)](https://www.airtime.com/) ***Available via:** Android, Apple* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Fun, easy to use and set up, great for teens and young adults* ***Cons:** Not ideal for young kids, privacy policy could be improved* ***You will love this app if:** You have teens and young adults who want a fun video chat tool* ## **WhatsApp** We – I mean us and two billion active monthly users – think [WhatsApp](https://www.whatsapp.com) is one of the best video calling apps to help with co-parenting. It’s free to use with mobile data or Wi-Fi, user-friendly, and safe. The chat is very reliable, and you can use it to share different kinds of files. It’s also easy to create a group chat with over a thousand members with the community feature. The downside is that it’s owned by Meta, so if you have an issue with the company’s data collection and monetisation, you might be turned off. If you’re okay with that, definitely give WhatsApp a go. [![WhatsApp](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Opera-Snapshot_2024-01-23_074927_www.whatsapp.com_-1200x576.png "Opera-Snapshot_2024-01-23_074927_www.whatsapp.com_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.whatsapp.com) ***Available via:** Android and* *iOS* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Sending messages and media and making voice and video calls are free* ***Cons:** There were various security flaws previously, but those had been resolved.* ***You will love this app if:** you want something more feature-friendly than Messenger* ## **Zoom** You’ve probably used [Zoom](https://zoom.us/download) for work. It’s one of the best video call apps for large teams and families–you can invite up to a hundred people for meetings and classes. It is the go-to video app for many professionals working from home. If you’re a co-parent with lots of kids, Zoom is perfect for connecting with multiple family members at the same time. Setting up Zoom is easy if you already know your how to use Skype and similar apps. Plus, you can customise your screen with fun backgrounds, effects and the popular grid layout. [![Zoom | video calling apps](https://is3-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Purple123/v4/b5/3d/9e/b53d9e91-6ce7-acc6-20d8-d822544ce364/pr_source.png/300x0w.jpg)](https://zoom.us/download) ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** Free version available, premium version starts from $149.90/year/license* ***Pros:** Invite up to 300 people (paid version), screen sharing, record meetings* ***Cons:** App can be hard to use and navigate in the beginning, free 40-minute call limit can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You work from home or you’re already familiar with video conferencing tools* ## **Skype** [Skype’s](https://www.skype.com/en/) massive user base and brand recognition are hard to beat when it comes to video call apps. Nifty features like a clean layout that’s easy to navigate, multimedia-sharing, video call recording, live captions, call translate and end-to-end encrypted messaging make it a great app for separated families to connect with each other. It’s also free and lets you invite up to 50 users for a meeting. Just a note for iOS users: currently you can’t run Skype in the background to receive incoming calls (might change in the future with an iOS update). [![Skype](https://secure.skypeassets.com/content/dam/scom/home-new/33grid-holiday-edition.png)](https://www.skype.com/en/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:*** *Free option, paid version starts at $6.99/month* ***Pros:*** *Feature-packed, easy to use, good sound and image quality* ***Cons:*** *Not the best video call app for iOS users* ***You will love this app if:*** *You are new to video call apps or you already use Skype to connect with co-workers and family* ## **Discord** You’ve probably first heard of [Discord](https://discord.com) from your favourite streamers on YouTube or Twitch. Or maybe you’re already part of a cause-oriented Discord community. If you haven’t heard of it before, Discord is an easy-to-use tool for instant messaging, voice calls, video calls/chats, file transfer and more. It works on mobile, desktop, and even gaming consoles, so you can reach your little community – that is, your ex and maybe your kids – whichever device they’re on. [![Discord | video calling apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Opera-Snapshot_2024-01-23_055112_discord.com_-1200x393.png "Opera-Snapshot_2024-01-23_055112_discord.com_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://discord.com)***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** Free to use* *(but you can also opt for premium extras)* ***Pros:** A free user can create up to 100 servers, while a paid subscriber can go up to 200*. *You can host up to 25 people on a video call whiles there’s no limit for voice calls.* ***Cons:** No integration with third-party calendars, which can be useful when co-parenting* ***You will love this app if:** You are a professional or business owner who wants to monetize videos or online lessons* ## **Google Chat and Google Meet** If you’re already using Gmail (and who isn’t), give [Google Chat](https://chat.google.com/) and [Google Meet](https://meet.google.com/) a try. I promise they’re one of the best video calling apps to help with co-parenting. They are accessible on desktop and phone and easy to use even if you’re new to video conferencing. Google Chat lets you send DMs and create group chats. You will need to install Google Meet to start video conferencing. Then, you can just go to your Gmail account, find the chat function, create a meeting link, and send the link to everyone in your family GC! There’s screen-sharing options, so your kids can show you their pictures and videos. It can also host up to 100 participants, allowing your extended family to join. While not perfect, Google Chat and Google Meet are extremely easy to use even for the tech-averse, and you can start chatting with family, friends or colleagues in seconds. [![Google Meet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/unnamed-899x800.webp "unnamed - Beanstalk Mums")](meet.google.com) ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Website* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Easy to use and accessible for Gmail users* ***Cons:** No grid layout, users report connectivity issues, you can get randomly dropped from large group chats* ***You will love this app if:** You already have a Gmail account and want an accessible video call app* ## **Whereby** Last but not least on our list of video calling apps: [Whereby](https://whereby.com/) is a professional collaboration tool that lets you set up meetings with team members easily. It’s geared towards professionals and businesses instead of families, with highly-rated audio calls, video conferencing and muting features. The app also supports polls, scheduling and annotations. One of Whereby’s best features is that guests don’t need to download or sign in. They can connect right away and start chatting. Whereby is an excellent communication tool if you mostly use a laptop or desktop. [![Whereby | video calling apps](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/y5YQwncUFZZR0PAbtjyETE0tPC4c8lcIqVJ-vIF6YOQqZh1dSNT40T1rScfBepLOQgs=w1208-h805-rw)](https://whereby.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android, Website* ***Cost:** Free option (limited functionality), paid version starts at $6.99/month* ***Pros:** Easy to use, guests don’t need to download or install software, video conferencing is done via web browser* ***Cons:** No app version, can join other groups/calls by mistake* ***You will love this app if:** You are a co-parent who runs a small business or a professional connecting with clients and partners* ## **Tips to make video calls between co-parented children a blinding success** ### **Make sure everyone knows the time/schedule for the video call** There’s nothing more anxiety-inducing than logging in your group chat for your scheduled video call and discovering you’re the only one there. Equally, there is nothing more annoying than getting on the call with your kids, to find that their dad isn’t there. To prevent this happening and avoid the negative emotions that come with it (as well as the confusion and upset it will cause your little ones) be sure to have a clear schedule with your ex as to when video calling will take place. It might be that call times are outlined in your [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) or consent orders. If you have a verbal agreement be sure to confirm by text or email so you have a thread to rely on if things go wrong. As is often the way with technology, our eldest had the best idea and recommended using an in-app calendar. Some video calling apps to help with co-parenting come with shared third-party calendar integration. Lucky we have someone in the family to keep us organised! ### **Send a reminder to your ex (and your kids if you can) an hour before the call** Of course, even with the calendar, there are times when someone just forgets the call. Once, my ex and the kids completely missed our call because they were too engrossed with, guess what – washing the car! Sending a reminder to everyone an hour before the call is a necessary hassle. But if you’re uncomfortable being the one to send these reminders – who knows who will \*jokingly\* call you a nagger – there are platforms that send email reminders. Calendar apps can also show notifications so there’s no excuse to miss your scheduled family chats. ### **Expect delay, glitches or other complications** As much as we love technology, it can let us down. Particularly with video calling. We have had many ruined calls because the app is glitching, as well as many laughs when it freezes when dad is pulling a face like gorilla … and not even intentionally! Be prepared for this to happen, and know your strategy. We would always have a backup video calling app to try first. However, if this didn’t work either, we’d assume if was a WIFI issue and do a voice call instead as these use less data. If you have more than one child, put the voice call on speaker so everyone can join in. ### **Help your kids get in the right mindset for the video call** If your children are in your home and are making the video call to their dad, you have more control than you realise to ensure the call goes well. Firstly, remind your kids about the upcoming call several times – the day before, a couple of hours before, an hour before and then 10 minutes before. While reminding them, ask them what they plan to talk to dad about and help them with ideas if they can’t think of anything. When the call time comes around, make sure they are in a comfortable, quiet environment where they can hear and see their dad clearly. Note: I get that these calls can feel like an inconvenience and the last thing you want is your exes voice booming across your living room, but don’t let on to your kids. They need to feel supported in their communication with dad, and you are in-charge of making that happen. ### **Include extended family in the video call when possible** Sometimes, especially in the beginning, it can be awkward to be in a video call with your ex. Break the ice by allowing your extended family in the call. It’s also a great thing for the kids. The divorce might have separated their immediate family but they still have their beloved grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Having them in the video call will not only make you and your ex more comfortable – it can also be a nice virtual family reunion. And, who knows, maybe your former mother-in-law misses you! If you plan to include many people from different parts of the world into your family video call, some of the best video calling apps to help with co-parenting will be those that allow a large number of participants. ### **If you are missing your kids, hide it while on the video calling app** Children are extremely sensitive especially to the feelings of their parents. If they sense you’re sad that they’re with the other parent, they will feel it. They will feel sad, too. You don’t want to be the parent ruining their stint with their dad. Video calling apps are not perfect, and here’s how you can use their imperfections to your advantage: - Lags and glitches can be used as opportunities to take a breather - If your voice cracks, you can say there’s a little issue with the mic - You can turn off the camera for a moment as you gather yourself together Another tip to get through a highly emotional video call, is to get your children talking. Choose a topic you know they love and leave the chatting to them. Just HOLD THAT SMILE. ## **Summary: Best video calling apps to help with co-parenting** No one was sure how to make long-distance relationships work … until video chat came. Thanks to video calls, LDRs, remote work, divorce, and shared parenting have become infinitely easier. Sometimes you wonder how it was possible to successfully co-parent without this technology. I’m also sometimes jealous that my kids have this to communicate consistently and maintain a good relationship with their dad – something I did not have growing up coming from divorced parents. So what’s the best video calling apps to help with co-parenting? Well, it depends on what your family needs. Do you need screen-sharing capabilities? Third-party calendar integration? A video calling service that come with games? Or just the basic stuff? Free or paid? Alongside finding the best video calling apps to help with co-parenting, making this practice pleasant for all parties is also important. Missing scheduled video calls, just like real-life appointments, is not just annoying but also disrespectful. That’s why everyone has to be committed to this strategy. Setting a shared calendar, sending our reminders before the scheduled call, and making room for technical difficulties are useful to make sure everything is in place. You might also have to prepare your children for the call, involve other members of your family to make things more comfortable, and prevent your negative emotions from showing during the call. These can help ensure your communication lines are smooth even amidst the separation. I hope that my ideas and list of top video calling apps will make your shared parenting a little easier. Remember, like everything, this is just a phase because soon your children will be old enough to make their own contact with dad, and you can breath a sigh of relief that the video app calling days are well and truly over. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/video-calling-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/video-calling-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** webcam, video calling, video chat, zoom, video group calling --- ### [How to relocate interstate as a co-parent: Relocation after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-relocate-interstate-as-a-coparent/) **Published:** July 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Moving to a new place after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially since there are legal considerations to work through. But after careful planning and open communication with your ex, it can be a smooth journey for you and your kids. Whether you’re moving for a job, to be near family, or just for a change, it’s important to focus on your children’s needs and keep a good relationship with your co-parent. This means understanding any legal steps you need to take, updating your parenting plans, and staying in touch with your co-parent. In this guide, I will offer practical advice and tips to help you relocate as a co-parent. ## **How to relocate interstate as a co-parent** ## **Am I allowed to move my child without the father’s permission?** If you are planning to move away, even if there are current Parenting Orders in place, if possible you should discuss the idea with your former partner. This will allow you to explore options as to how a relocation might work and whether they would agree or disagree with the relocation. Note: There is no maximum distance that dictates how far your children are permitted to live from their Dad Prior to any relocation you should either obtain the consent of the other parent or seek the permission of the[ Family Court](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/home) or[ Federal Circuit Court of Australia](http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/home). ## **If your ex agrees to the relocation** If your former partner allows you to move your children, cheers, mate! Now, you both need to apply to the Family Court requesting the Court to make[ Parenting Orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) by consent. These will permit your kiddos to move to a new place and include Orders for time the children will spend with the other parent i.e. during the school term, school holidays and significant calendar events. There may be provision for that time to occur in the children’s previous city/state of residence and/or the new city/state of residence, as well as regular Skype/FaceTime and telephone communication. Alternatively, you and your ex may choose to enter into a Parenting Plan under the Family Law Act reflecting the agreement reached. Note that unlike Parenting Orders made by the Court, a Parenting Plan is unenforceable. Further reading:[ Are your kids flying alone? Don’t panic and read this.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-flying-alone/) ## **If your ex does not agree to the relocation** If your ex does not agree to your kids’ relocation, you may seek help from a Family Dispute Resolution (“FDR”) Practitioner. They can then invite your former partner to attend a mediation to reach an agreement regarding your relocation. If you reach an agreement, it can be implemented through Consent Orders (or a Parenting Plan). If you didn’t agree, the FDR Practitioner can issue a certificate as required by the Family Law Act stating that one of these conditions occurred: - Mediation was attempted and was not successful - Your party refused to attend the mediation - The matter was otherwise unsuitable for mediation ![Relocate interstate as a co-parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/5ee4c6bc-b454-4cf1-ac47-501e477682d5_20240726_135121_0000-1066x800.jpg "5ee4c6bc-b454-4cf1-ac47-501e477682d5_20240726_135121_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to move to another State as a co-parent (cont.)** ## **Getting a court order for your relocation** This certificate is generally required by the Family Court or Federal Circuit Court before you can apply for parenting orders. This includes orders seeking the relocation of your children. If legal action starts, you can still settle the matter by reaching an agreement and asking for the Court’s approval. Whether the Court needs to decide on the children’s relocation or you and your ex-partner come to an agreement, the Court’s top priority will always be the children’s best interests. You don’t need to make a strong argument for moving, but the Court will compare your proposal with your ex’s. They will then decide which plan is better for the kids. You might also consider moving while leaving the children with your former spouse. But make sure that this is in the best interests of the children. Consider these factors: - The ages and wishes of the kids - If they are settled in school - Have established friendship groups - And are otherwise progressing well ## **Moving children because of violence or child abuse** When moving due to violence, your children’s safety comes first. In Australia, there are protections in place to help you. Seek legal advice right away to understand your options and consider getting a Family Violence Intervention Order. Make sure you have a safe plan for the move and keep things as stable as possible for your kids. Remember, support services are available to help you through this challenging time. ## **What happens if a parent relocates with children without the consent of the other parent or a relocation order from the Court?** If you do this, the other parent can bring an application in the Family Court or Federal Circuit Court for orders to locate and/or recover the children and return them to their previous residence and possibly into the primary care of that other parent. This situation can be really tough on the kids, and it might also put you at a disadvantage in court. The judge could see your actions as not considering your children’s right to maintain strong relationships with both parents. Basically, it could make it much harder for you to convince the court that moving is actually best for the children. ## **Take a child-focused approach to your move** When talking with your ex, whether it’s directly, through mediation, or even in court, focus on what’s best for the kids. This means showing that you’re committed to supporting their relationship with the other parent, especially since you’re moving. The court will likely want to see that you’re prepared and willing to handle the challenges of maintaining a strong parent-child relationship despite the distance. ## **Summary: How to relocate with kids** When I moved to our new home with my kids post-divorce, my ex and I had to have some tough conversations about how we’d handle the distance. We knew it would be a big change, especially for our children, who were used to seeing both of us regularly. We decided to focus on making the transition as smooth as possible. it was also crucial to set up a schedule for visits and regular video calls. This way, our kids could stay connected with both of us. It wasn’t always easy—there were times when my kids missed their dad. One thing that really helped was keeping the lines of communication open. We discussed any concerns or changes in our child’s routine and worked together to support them through the transition. It was a learning experience for all of us, but in the end, it was about putting our child’s well-being first and finding a new normal that worked for everyone. ***Disclaimer:*** This article is intended to be a guide only and does not in any way constitute legal advice, which would be dependent upon individual circumstances. If you are looking to move to another state as a co-parent, please seek advice from a Family Lawyer. ![How to move interstate as a co-parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Moving-interestate-as-a-coparent.png "Moving interestate as a coparent - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-relocate-interstate-as-a-coparent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-relocate-interstate-as-a-coparent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** relocation, moving, recovery order, relocation order --- ### [Why you need a communication book for co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/communication-book-for-co-parenting/) **Published:** July 19, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In my experience, there are three main things you must focus on to be a good co-parent, other than your children. These are respect for the other parent, communication and organisation. All three of these can be brought into play by using a communication book for co-parenting. A communication book (also called a handover book) is a book used by co-parents to share information about their children when they [move from one home to another](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/). Many co-parents use a communication book by choice. In some cases, a communication book for co-parenting is ordered by the Family Court. Here are six reasons why to use a communication book for co-parenting. ## It will help you leave emotions at the door To co-parent successfully, separating your feelings about your ex from your role of raising your children is essential. This is easier said than done! When you communicate face-to-face or via telephone, emotions are conveyed (often accidentally) by a tone of voice or body language. Sticking to the written word, whether a [co-parenting app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2019/), email or a handover book, makes for more effective and peaceful communication. ## A communication book for co-parenting is old school Talking of emails and apps, there are many ways to liaise with your ex through the written word. However, a book can be more personal. It also means you receive all the information at handover time, instead of sending and receiving emails or messages at any time of the day or night. Another advantage is that your children can join in if they like. Writing their own messages or drawing pictures allows their voices to be heard and lightens the mood. ## It can resolve arguments (before they start) A handover book can be a godsend if your relationship is still volatile and an argument can spring up from the most innocent chat. It can be a valuable reference if your ex complains that he didn’t know Little Johnny fell and hit his head last week. If you wrote it in the book, you can cut the argument short before it starts. Anything that can diffuse an argument will make you better co-parents. ## A communication book for co-parenting can be used in court Like emails, apps and even social media posts, anything written in a communication book for co-parenting can be used as [evidence in a family law case](https://www.alrc.gov.au/publication/uniform-evidence-law-alrc-report-102/20-matters-outside-the-uniform-evidence-acts/family-law-proceedings/). This makes it an extremely valuable reference. In addition, just knowing what is written could be scrutinised at some point makes both parents behave better. Using ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and being respectful to each other can go a long way in a co-parenting relationship. ## It’s private and secure communications Using a physical communications book provides security and reassurance for co-parents who wish to maintain a private space for their discussions and sensitive information. Unlike electronic platforms that may be susceptible to hacking or unauthorised access, a communications book remains in possession of the parents, reducing the risk of information leaks. Confidentiality assurance might allow you and your ex to express your thoughts and concerns more candidly, potentially leading to more productive and respectful communication. Ultimately, the confidential nature of the communications book supports a healthier co-parenting dynamic, where both parents can work together for the well-being of their children without unnecessary external interference. ## It will help you stick to the pleasantries Using a communication book for all practical matters, you can concentrate on being civil and respectful at handover. Rather than starting a conversation about why Little Johnny had a day off school on Tuesday, which might ignite an argument, write it in the book. Instead, ask each other how the week has been, tell them they look well … and keep smiling. ## It demonstrates cooperation to your children Being a good co-parent is an excellent way to role model what a healthy, low-conflict relationship can look like to your children. Using a communication book for co-parenting indicates that you respect each other as co-parents. It shows you take time to share information and to listen to one another. If your children know their separated parents are working together peacefully to raise them, they will feel safe and happy … which can only be good. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/communication-book-for-co-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/communication-book-for-co-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** co parenting, communication with ex, communication book, handover book, co-parenting tools --- ### [How to be a collaborative co-parent (and encourage your ex to do the same)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/) **Published:** December 2, 2023 **Author:** Gabriella Pomare **Content:** You are probably reading this because you have recently separated and are starting out on your co-parenting journey wondering “where to from here?”. It’s complicated. But it doesn’t have to be. Which is why, in this article, we discuss collaborative co-parenting. Can ex-lovers or ex-spouses ever really transition to be collaborative co-parents? Can we retrain our brains to view our ex in a different light and shift the way we include them in our decision making process? There is little doubt that the end of a relationship is an incredibly distressing and emotional time. You will go through a whirlwind of feelings, from sadness, to anger, to guilt, to regret and even a desire to go back to the way things were. The biggest challenge is how to move forward when you have children and give yourself the space to work through the rollercoaster of feelings when you still need to communicate with and see your former partner. - How do you shift your mindset from couple to co-parents - And, how do you work out the ins and outs of communicating effectively together, despite the anger or hurt? ## The good part of collaborative co-parenting The best part about working together and encouraging your ex to be collaborative co-parents, is that you are shielding your children from what can often be a very scary and confusing time for them. By shifting your way of thinking and encouraging your ex to jump on board the collaborative co-parenting journey – you are providing your children with the gifts of safety and security and encouraging them to grow into strong and resilient children and adults. Separation is not the end – it is the beginning of a new journey providing you with the foundation to recreate a new version of ‘family’ with your own rules. ## What is a Collaborative Co-Parent? If you are ending, or have ended your marriage or relationship, and have children, you are probably lying in bed at night wondering: > ***“What happens now?”*** > > ***“How do we both raise the kids”*** > > ***“This feels complicated”.*** The road ahead seems daunting because separation brings trauma, stressors and challenges which make it difficult to see forward and into the future. Following your separation, its time for you as parents to take responsibility for your children’s wellbeing, and make joint decisions which will promote a healthy and happy development away from the trauma of divorce or separation. It is important to remember, although your family unit is no longer the same, **it is still a family**. Acknowledging this and putting your children’s needs ahead of anger and conflict will allow you to co-parent in a more effective way. ## My five top tips to work as collaborative co-parents ### 1. Manage your emotions and the impact of separation away from your children There is little doubt that the breakdown of a relationship requires a healing process – whether it be grief, anger, loss, confusion. It will take time to find yourself, re-establish a level of normality, find purpose, and navigate your new life as a separated parent. The worst thing you can do is burden your children with your grief causing them unnecessary stress and confusion. As hard as it seems – try your best to keep tears behind closed doors and anger out of sight or hearing distance. The way you tell your children about your separation is really the first step to a healthy co-parenting relationship moving forward and encourages your children to have a healthy relationship with each of their parents. ### 2. Effective communication is everything I have recently released a free E-Book which walks parents though my four pillars to effective communication; listen, pause, reflect and then respond. As set out in my E-Book: > ***“Learning to effectively communicate and have positive dialogue is often the first step. By implementing tools to set boundaries around your communication, what seems difficult at the start, will become second nature in no time*”.** Take it from me – this doesn’t happen overnight. Communicating with an ex is tough – and seems impossible in the first few days, weeks, months and even, I would say years. But you will get there, and it will become easier – and trust me, your kids will thank you for protecting them from the conflict and exemplifying for them what healthy communication looks like. ### 3. Set and respect boundaries Remember that with the right rules and tools in place, as separated parents you can coexist (and hopefully even get on!). By implementing a set of agreed rules and appropriate boundaries around your co-parenting relationship, you are giving your children the gift of safety, security and stability following separation. It is important in the early days to set boundaries around what issue requires what type of communication. If it’s urgent (think broken bones or emergency room type stuff) a phone call is always best. If it’s to discuss a change to parenting arrangements, routine, or your child’s development, an email might be best. And if it’s to do with day to day issues including ballet shoes being left at the other house, or an upcoming school play – a text message is likely to do the trick. ### 4. Be flexible when reaching post separation parenting arrangements Your schedule or routine needs to work best for your kids – not you. Whilst we all have an idea of what is ‘fair’ – I recommend modelling an arrangement for an interim period to see how it works and then building up/down from there. For example, if your children aren’t use to spending great amounts of overnight time with their other parent, try starting with one overnight a week for a month or so, and adding from there depending on your children’s ages, stages of development and the practical realities of things like school drop offs and pick ups, extra curricular activities and the like. School holidays are a great opportunity to extend flexibility and share time in greater amounts to allow both parents to travel with kids. ### 5. Preach love and don’t denigrate The worst thing for kids is to be in a room where family members or friends are talking about how terrible their other parent is and hearing about all the things they have done wrong. Children shouldn’t feel the need to align themselves with one parent over another. The best thing for kids is to hear each of their parents praise the other parent (where due) and have each parent encouraging of the time that child will spend with each of their parents. Imagine how nice it would be for your child to wake up and hear *“Today is going to be great – you are heading over to dad’s”* or *“I’ll miss you but the weekend with dad is going to be so much fun”.* ## Further support with collaborative co-parenting To assist in working on your co-parenting communication and to pick up some important tools and tricks – take a read of my E-Book *“[Communication is Everything](https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au/download-my-e-book)”.* It’s free and bound to assist with challenges that you face along the co-parenting journey. ***Further reading: [7 Suburb ideas for moving kids stuff during handover.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/collaborative-co-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting --- ### [20 Best kids Halloween costume ideas 2024 (With DIY picks)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Halloween is just around the corner, and the excitement of trick-or-treating is creeping up fast! If you’re anything like most parents, you’re probably on the hunt for some last-minute costume inspiration that won’t take hours to pull off. Don’t hit the panic button just yet, as help is at hand. Whether your little one is going through their Avenger (or Disney princess) phase or just wants something spooky yet simple, we’ve got you covered. We’ve hunted down some simple yet suitably scary kids Halloween costumes that are easy to make and perfect for terrorising the neighbours. ## **Think practical with your Halloween costume ideas.** As wonderful as these costumes are, it is worth thinking about the practicalities. What will your child be doing in their costume? If they will be at school all day, make sure they won’t be too hot or cold and that they can sit and move around easily. For trick or treating, keep it bright (dark is dangerous at night) and not too long so there are no tripping-over accidents. If they want it sparkly, go ahead and cover it with glitters or sequins. Can you get another wear out of the costume? Definitely! A reusable costume will save you a whole lot of time and money. Maybe use it for another Halloween for a younger sibling or adapt it to a [book week outfit.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/) ## **20 Really easy kids Halloween costume ideas 2024** ## **1. Edward Scissorhands** We love this Edwards Scissorhands costume, which looks perfect on this little guy; he really is a mini Johnny Depp. You can keep it simple by using paint or white-out on old black clothes instead of silver buckles and belts. ![kids Halloween costumes | Edward Scissorhands costume ](https://hative.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/super-cool-costume-ideas/25-edward-scissorhands-costume-for-kids.jpg) Source: [Buzzfeed](https://www.buzzfeed.com/gabbynoone/23-kids-who-are-totally-nailing-this-halloween-thing) ## **2. Mummies** This is one of the easiest costumes on our list. Cut a white sheet into strips, dress your kids in all black and wrap the sheets around the limbs. Make sure to leave space so they can take off their pants if they need to go to the loo. ![Mummies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-5.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Red Ted Art](https://www.redtedart.com/halloween-costumes-kids-can-make-mummies/) ## **3. Best DIY pick: Ghost** We have another super easy costume here that uses a white sheet. Cut the sheet into a rectangle shape (drape over your child to check for fit), and make holes for the eyes and mouth with scissors or a black marker to draw them. And voila! Your kiddo’s ghost look is ready! ![Ghost | kids Halloween costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/ec/21/67/ec21675b4aae555a1ad5bc3e31c4469f.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/799318633836575868/) ## **4. Wicked witch** Turn your little girl into a cute witch in minutes. You will need a witch hat (cardboard, felt or fabric), an all-black outfit, hot glue, and a broom. If you’re crafty, you can make the hat yourself to save a trip to the store. ![Witch](https://hgtvhome.sndimg.com/content/dam/images/hgtv/fullset/2013/5/28/1/original_Marian-Parsons-Halloween-witch-costume-beauty3_3x4.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.616.822.suffix/1400980503033.jpeg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/162481499029540777/?lp=true) ## **5. Vampire** Costumes don’t get easier than this. Grab some black pants and a long-sleeved top, then stick on a store-bought vampire cape costume. Even tweens can do a vampire dress-up without looking silly! If you can get your hands on some fake fangs, that would be better! ![Vampire | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Untitled-design-1200x800.png "Untitled design - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ Sitters](https://www.sitters.co.uk/blog/30-best-toddler-halloween-costume-ideas.aspx) ## **Easy Halloween costumes for toddlers (cont.)** ## **6. Spiderman** Who says putting together a DIY Spidey costume is difficult? We found one that doesn’t require sewing skills! All you need is an old red shirt and blue long-sleeved pyjamas, a black Sharpie or fabric marker, scissors, and spray adhesive. ![Spiderman](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/734d3b7a-f048-4f48-b29d-59b9d7829915.jpg "734d3b7a-f048-4f48-b29d-59b9d7829915 - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Four Plus an Angel](https://fourplusanangel.com/2011/05/make-a-spiderman-costume/) ## **7. 404 Error Costume Not Found** Grab a sharpie and an old sweatshirt and whip up this costume in minutes…perfect for busy parents! Make sure the sweatshirt or top is light-coloured to make the words pop. You can even pair it with sweatpants! ![Error 404 Costume Not Found | kids Halloween Costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/236x/65/1f/80/651f802d2f453fe8be19393de0ef6237.jpg) Source: [Costume Works](http://www.costume-works.com/error_404.html) ## **8. Ariel** Halloween will not be complete without a costume from under the sea. This mermaid costume is super easy to make, but the finished product looks elegant. Then throw in a red wig for a complete Ariel look! ![Ariel](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/ef/d9/69/efd969e74f462b410d2d21e30ee12f42.jpg) Source:[ Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/20969954510388380/) ## **9. Day of the Dead skeleton costume** You’ll just need a few simple supplies with this costume! Start with black leggings and a long-sleeve shirt, then use fabric paint or felt to add colourful skeleton designs. Don’t forget to include the bright flowers and intricate patterns that symbolise this festive holiday! For the mask, you can paint a sugar skull design on a plain white mask or use face paint. ![Day of the Dead skeleton costume | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/de199b46-a356-4ca1-94ca-cda53c8af3bc-1066x800.jpg "de199b46-a356-4ca1-94ca-cda53c8af3bc - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Good Sammy](https://goodsammy.com.au/blog/five-spooktacular-diy-halloween-costumes/) ## **Spooky toddler Halloween costumes (cont.)** ## **10. Chucky** We just love this Chucky costume that takes no time to make. It’s just overalls over a colourful striped sweater plus a fake knife. Add some fake blood and scars on the face with face paint or makeup for a chilly effect. ![Chucky ](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/d2/09/31/d20931213603232d3883df4d3d6fbcbd.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/470485492306047977/) ## **11. Circus clown** Start with oversized, bright clothes like a baggy shirt and pants. Add some fun with mismatched socks and suspenders. Use face paint to create a classic clown face. Make a big smile, rosy cheeks, and a red nose (a pom-pom works great!). Top it off with a crazy wig or colourful hat, and don’t forget big shoes! ![Circus clown | Kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/6028c34a-9ed8-4e96-82ef-3843f0242a6e-1066x800.jpg "6028c34a-9ed8-4e96-82ef-3843f0242a6e - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/570198002823031917/) ## **12. Werewolf** Our list of easy Halloween costume ideas for kids won’t be complete without the werewolf. This one is just a plaid shirt, old jeans, fake fur and fabric glue. Don’t forget to stick on the tail in the back and finish up with face paint. ![Werewolf](https://www.thehappyscraps.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/diy-werewolf-halloween-costume.jpg) Source:[ The Happy Scraps](https://www.thehappyscraps.com/2017/10/diy-werewolf-halloween-costume.html) ## **Non-DIY Halloween costumes for kids** Not all mums have got the time to craft their kids’ costumes. If you’re doing some costume shopping at the last minute, you’ll love our budget-friendly picks below! ## **13. Minions** The Minions Unisex costume lets you become a mischievous Minion in no time! This yellow-and-blue jumpsuit features easy hook-and-loop closures, so you’ll be party-ready in a snap. This costume comes with iconic EVA plastic goggles and a comfy elastic strap. This costume guarantees fun, and maybe a banana or two! [![Minions | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-2.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/9g4xX4) We found this at: [MyDeal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/9g4xX4) ## **14. Avenger pick: Captain Marvel** Unleash your kiddo’s inner superhero with this Captain Marvel Deluxe Hero Suit! This glittery, tutu-twirling costume is perfect for kids around 4-6. We love the gold accents and a tulle underlay for extra flair. The attached belt and sparkling red headband with a gold star complete the look. Shoes not included, but who needs ‘em when you’re flying high as Disney’s latest Avenger? [![Captain Marvel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/22bb4ee6-63f8-4125-8e22-5bc55359108e.jpg "22bb4ee6-63f8-4125-8e22-5bc55359108e - Beanstalk Mums")](bigw.sjv.io/xkVX4y) We found this at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/xkVX4y) ## **15. Pirate** If your little one is into pirates lately, let them sail the seven seas in this Skull and Crossbones pirate costume. The velour vest and jagged sleeves will give them that rugged, ship-ready look, while the satin belt with a big gold buckle adds some Captain Jack Sparrow swagger. The tricorn hat, with its bold skull and crossbones, will make them feel like a true buccaneer without the actual seasickness! Arrr! [![Pirate | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-3.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/jrxDqM) We found this at: [MyDeal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/jrxDqM) ## **16. Pumpkin** The orange pumpkin getup is perfect for kids of all ages. It’s the safest and most easily available costume during this time of year! It works for both boys and girls. You don’t have to spend a lot on it, too! [![Pumpkin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](https://amzn.to/3ZE9mH9) We found this at: [Amazon](https://amzn.to/3ZE9mH9) ## **More Halloween disguises for kids** ## **17. Super Mario Bros Luigi** If your kid is a big fan of Super Mario, they’ll get excited to wear this for trick-or-treat! Featuring Luigi’s iconic green hat, blue overalls, and signature moustache, your child will be ready to save the Mushroom Kingdom (or at least the candy stash). We love that it’s easy to slip on and comfy enough for all-night adventures. [![Super Mario Bros Luigi | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-1.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/B0me4B) We found this at: [MyDeal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/B0me4B) ## **18. Barbie astronaut** Let your little one level up their Halloween game with this Barbie astronaut costume! If your little one has ever dreamed of exploring the stars, this shiny spacesuit, complete with pink accents and a NASA badge, will make them feel like they’re ready for takeoff. Your kid will definitely feel unstoppable in this. You can even add on gloves for a complete disguise! [![Barbie astronaut](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Barbie-astronaut-800x800.jpg "Barbie astronaut - Beanstalk Mums")](bigw.sjv.io/R5gYvv) We found this at: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/R5gYvv) ## **19. Ghostbusters Slimer** The Ghostbuster Slimer costume is a gooey green blast from the past! This movie character outfit is super easy to wear, comfy, and perfect for running around collecting candy. Your kiddo will love transforming into the wacky ghost from the classic Ghostbusters movie, and it’s sure to be a hit with friends. Get ready for some slimy, spooky fun this Halloween—no ghost-busting required! [![Ghostbusters Slimer | kids Halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/d8121267-87be-41ae-bcd5-8b2207d1def7.jpg "d8121267-87be-41ae-bcd5-8b2207d1def7 - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/OrVo7K) We found this at: [MyDeal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/OrVo7K) ## **20. Wednesday Addams** Since the Netflix series Wednesday became a hit, girl trick-or-treaters wanted to remake the protagonist’s black collared shirt. If your little lady wants to dress like Wednesday, this pretty yet gothic tulle skirt with puffy sleeves won’t disappoint. [![Wednesday Addams](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-4.jpeg "image - Beanstalk Mums")](mydeal.sjv.io/EKrGDn) We found this at: [MyDeal](http://mydeal.sjv.io/EKrGDn) For more ideas on how to make Halloween easy, read: [Halloween Made Easy in five simple steps.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/halloween-made-easy-in-5-simple-steps/) ## **Summary: Kids costumes for Halloween** When it comes to easy kids’ Halloween disguises, the goal is to keep things fun and hassle-free. Whether it’s a DIY ghost made with an old sheet, a homemade furry monster jumpsuit, or a Princess Peach gown straight from the store, the options are endless and stress-free. Look for costumes that are comfy and simple to wear, and allow your little one to dash from door to door collecting treats. Remember, you don’t need fancy store-bought costumes to make Halloween magical. Sometimes, a little creativity and a few household items can go a long way! The best part is letting your kids pick something that makes them excited to jump into spooky season. Pay attention to your kid’s latest favourite TV shows to add a personal touch. It will be fun if you also grab a costume and go with your kiddos! So, grab those capes, masks, and broomsticks, and let the fun begin! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Halloween **Tags:** halloween, costumes, treat or treating, dressing up --- ### [Our review of the Homer early learning program 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/homer-early-learning-review/) **Published:** July 24, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With so many education apps out there (a quick Google search tells me that there’s over 455,000 in the App Store!), it’s hard to know which one is going to work for your kid. More importantly, which ones are worth the money. I want to share my experience with our favourite app and our go-to learning companion, HOMER. [HOMER](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) is an amazing learning app that has become a game-changer for my little one. This award-winning, expert-designed app is like having a personal tutor and an adventure-packed playdate rolled into one. So grab a cup of coffee and let’s dive into the wonderful world of HOMER! ## Discovering the HOMER magic As a parent, I’m always on the lookout for engaging and educational activities that my child can enjoy. When I stumbled upon the HOMER app, I was immediately drawn in by its vibrant interface and the promise of personalised learning. It didn’t take long for my kiddo to fall head over heels for it too! There are tons of educational games in the app, like a fun learn-to-count game featuring pepperoni pizza. There are also more creative sections, like songs and drawing, that still feature a learning angle. I’ll usually tell Peyton to start in the reading or math section, and then when he’s done 5-10 minutes of that, he can play in the songs section (“Princess Skateboarder” is his favourite!). I’m so glad Peyton seems to be liking the HOMER app so far. It captures his imagination while fostering essential skills. ## Getting set up on the HOMER app The first thing that happens when you create a profile is a quiz that asks about your child’s current learning level, and I was surprised how accurate it was. The activities that it suggested based on the quiz were the same types of things he was also learning in kindergarten, so he can sharpen his skills outside of school. From selecting their age and preferred topics to tracking progress, HOMER has all the things I was looking for. You also get up to 4 profiles per subscription, which is perfect for families with multiple littles. We haven’t used it long enough to see if the app will serve more challenging games to match his growing skill level, but HOMER does say that it grows with your child. ## It’s a treasure trove of fun and learning HOMER offers a diverse range of interactive stories, games, and activities that cover [various subjects](https://homer.i8epma.net/k0WORv), from reading and math to emotions and creativity. The app says it has over 1,000 activities and I believe it, because he’s always playing something new! ## I love parent-friendly features As a parent, I appreciate the thoughtfulness that went into designing the HOMER app. The parent dashboard (called Activity Insights) has become my go-to hub for monitoring Peyton’s progress. I can see how much time he spends on each subject, and it even shows me which activities are his favourites! It provides detailed insights into my child’s learning journey, highlighting areas of strength and areas that may need more focus. I love that HOMER also offers suggestions for things to do together in real life, helping me extend his learning beyond the app. When you sign up for texts and emails, they send you really cute printables with fun offline activities. [![HOMER early learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/HOMER_Homescreen_2208x1242-1200x675.png "HOMER_Homescreen_2208x1242 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr)## HOMER actually works! The true test of any educational app is the impact it has on a child’s development. I’m thrilled to say that HOMER has exceeded my expectations. I’ve noticed that Peyton’s skills are more fluent; his vocabulary has expanded, his love for reading and eagerness to read has improved, and he’s a little less apprehensive about school. Beyond the academic benefits, I’ve noticed a boost in his creativity and critical thinking skills. HOMER has truly become a catalyst for his growth and love for learning. ## Safety First One concern we all have as parents is the safety of our children when using apps. With HOMER, I can rest easy. The app ensures a safe and ad-free environment, shielding my child from unwanted content or distracting advertisements. I was a bit nervous at first, because usually I like to screen his content, watch it myself first to make sure it’s okay for him. On HOMER, there is too much content for me to vet. But I have yet to hear anything I wouldn’t want Peyton interacting with; the content all seems age-appropriate, engaging and lighthearted. They have cute animal characters featured in the activities as well to keep things fun and friendly. It’s a relief knowing that Peyton can explore and learn without stumbling upon anything inappropriate. To me, that is what makes the cost worth it. It’s just $5 a month and paying a small amount for an ad-free experience is worth the peace of mind. If you get on their email list, they occasionally have great sales—that’s how I got one year for a big discount. If you’re not sure, you can try it for free; they stand by their product so much that they often have free trials, some as long as 30 days! ## My final thoughts as a user In a world full of digital distractions, finding an app that strikes the perfect balance between education and entertainment can be challenging. HOMER has become our family’s go-to learning companion, sparking curiosity, fostering essential skills, and turning learning into an adventure. With its personalised approach, huge content library, and parent-friendly features, HOMER has truly been an invaluable tool in my child’s educational journey. So, if you’re looking to make learning fun and engaging for your little one, I wholeheartedly recommend [giving HOMER a try](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr). Learning should be a joyous journey filled with exploration and discovery. And with the HOMER app, you can unlock a world of fun and learning for your child right at your fingertips and in your pocket. Happy learning! ***Further reading: [25 Free educational websites to support your kids learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-educational-websites/).*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/homer-early-learning-review/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/homer-early-learning-review/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** early learning, online learning, educational resource --- ### [Helping your child with homework: 8 Ideas that actually work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/helping-child-homework/) **Published:** July 17, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Ah, the joys of homework! As a seasoned mum who has weathered countless maths meltdowns and essay-induced tears, I understand the struggle of helping your child with homework. It’s like embarking on an epic quest, armed with nothing but a sharpened pencil and an unwavering determination to conquer the mysterious realm of quadratic equations and spelling quizzes. Having seen two children through their school years, I’d now love to share my hard-earned wisdom and battle-tested strategies. In this article, I will unveil eight ideas that have actually worked in my ongoing mission to survive homework time with my sanity intact. Let’s talk about helping your child with homework to make it less chaotic, more manageable, and calmer for the whole household. ## Create a homework haven First thing first, set up a dedicated space that’s just for homework. It has to be a pleasant, distraction-free, organised space with room for just the right amount of clutter to help your kid focus on their lessons. Think neutral tones to create a calming effect, with a pop of colour to add life to the space. Neatly labelled storage, stocked school supplies, and lighting with glare protection are homework station staples. If you have the budget, consider investing in a height-adjustable desk that allows your child to stand now and then. Studies show that standing desks don’t just increase productivity. More importantly, they’re good for your kid’s posture and overall health. They’re already sitting a lot in school, so offering a sit-stand workstation can help enhance their wellbeing. Lastly, don’t forget the temperature! A quick Google search reveals that the perfect temperature for productivity is 22 degrees Celsius. Too hot or too cold can decrease your child’s ability to absorb information. Regulate the temperature in their homework station for optimal results. ## Listen to music (it can help) When I was a kid, my mum heard through the grapevine that classical music would make me smart. So, she had me listen to Mozart and Brahms on repeat when I studied. (I wonder if it helped.) Today, our kids have heaps more options. Aside from classical music, ambient, instrumental rock, jazz, and nature sounds have also been found to [help with concentration](https://www.theguardian.com/education/2016/aug/20/does-music-really-help-you-concentrate). The effect of different genres is different from person to person, so experiment with which types of music work best for your kid. Fortunately, you can easily find hours-long study music on YouTube and Spotify. Since you can’t control which types of sounds will help your child concentrate and think, one thing you should pay attention to is the loudness. The rule is to keep it at a background volume. Too loud and your child can be distracted, countering the benefits of listening to music. ## Take yoga breaks All work and no play make studying boring. Study breaks are crucial to refresh and rejuvenate your kid’s mind, and yoga is a superb solution to counter mental and physical fatigue. My kids were pretty late to practising yoga; my eldest only started when she was a senior. But even in that short time, I have noticed the benefits of this ancient practice to their grades. Their concentration increased while they remained relaxed. My youngest swore by the eye exercises she did between reading or staring at the computer screen to help with her vision and reduce her headaches. More importantly, yoga improves sleep, which is vital for every student. It’s not just yoga, though. In general, [working out helps boost your child’s mood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/exercise-and-mental-health/) and increase their motivation to study. So, if they’re not into yoga (yet), doing stretches or light cardio for a few minutes are excellent alternatives for study breaks. ## Make it a game As a mum, I have always refused to make my daughters compete with each other academically. But I recognise that they both enjoyed gamifying their studies in entirely different ways. Between the two of them, my eldest was more competitive and highly motivated with rewards. At the beginning of the term, we agreed on a target grade and reasonable reward she wanted. She would get her small reward when she reached her target grade at the end of the term. Looking back, I believe the system helped teach her about having goals and working hard to get them. My youngest, on the other hand, grew up with video games and enjoyed the idea of “levelling up.” We set up a system where she started out as an “Apprentice.” She could only advance to the next level upon completing her tasks until she reached “Master.” Personally, I like this system better, since she competed only with herself. There are heaps of ways you can turn homework into a game. But don’t overdo it with the rewards that your kid is only motivated by external gains. ## Switch roles (let your child teach you) Another simple yet important thing I’ve found seeing through my children’s school years is that asking, “What did you learn today?” at the end of the day makes all the difference. It made my kids excited to share their lessons. I would often probe them with why’s and how’s to subtly push them to challenge their knowledge. Even now that my daughters are older, they still excitedly share new things they have discovered from others or on their own. Not only does teaching demonstrate how much they know, but more importantly, how deeply they understand the subject. As [Seneca](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seneca_the_Younger) said, “When we teach, we learn.” ## Helping your child with homework (cont.) ## Offer rewards and incentives When I was in grade school, my mum would buy my favourite glazed donut when I got a majority of A’s and no grades less than B- in my report card. As my interests changed in high school, my reward became craft supplies. I have briefly touched on this strategy earlier. Rewards and incentives motivate children to do their best in school. Rewards, especially those given immediately, teach kids to do more of what they can get something out of. Note that the reward doesn’t have to be money or toys. It can be praise, a high-five, or a special meal to celebrate their accomplishments. You can also reward them with great memories by doing activities they enjoy. Remember, you don’t want your child to only work hard because of the promise of a gift. ***Further reading: [8 Fab rewards charts to help kids reach their goals.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reward-charts-kids/)*** ## Incorporate real world connections One of my favourite ways to help my kids with homework was taking them to the grocery. For a lesson in practical maths, we would find the most value for our buck based on different criteria like volume or weight. For a health lesson, we would check ingredient lists and nutrition labels. Everything your children study in school are connected to the real world. After all, our kids don’t study just for the sake of schooling. The end-result should be that they can navigate the real world effectively and become productive citizens using what they have learned in school. There must be something in lakes, mountains, a trip to the city, riding public transportation, and meeting other people that they can connect to their schoolwork. Cooking, eating, and washing the dishes also carry valuable lessons in maths, sciences, language – everything! Incorporating the real world in their lessons is not just a fun strategy with homework but also allows them to see the big picture of education. ## Celebrate the wins Finally, remember to celebrate! Studying is hard work; every accomplishment is a step toward your child’s goals. Whether big or small, show appreciation for your kid’s efforts by giving them something special. Celebrations don’t have to be huge. As I mentioned before, it was a glazed donut for little me. You can bake a cake, take them to the movies, or go to the beach. Don’t snub the impact of heartfelt praise, a kiss, or a big hug to show appreciation for your kid’s hard work. In addition, be mindful not to let them think they are only worth celebrating when they are at the top. I love this line a mum said to her overachieving kid in a Korean drama I saw a few years back: > *“I-jun, I’m so proud that you won the prize. But we would be still doing this even if you hadn’t. What we’re celebrating is the fact that you worked hard. To me, that’s more important than the prize itself.”* > > Yeo Hwa-Jung, Hometown Cha-Cha-Cha ## Final words: Helping your child with homework Oh, all the things a single mum has to do! You’re juggling home and child support duties while also having to find ways to help your kid with homework. Elementary and high school was such a long time ago. If you haven’t been to school for some time, helping your kid with schoolwork may seem daunting. But it shouldn’t be scary! In this article, I have outlined several strategies that worked for me and my daughters. From setting up an environment conducive to studying to celebrating accomplishments, these strategies are incredibly simple yet effective in helping your child with homework. You can adopt these tried-and-proven strategies to ensure you’re giving your kid the best chance to do well with their studies. Good luck! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/helping-child-homework/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/helping-child-homework/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** education, study, school --- ### [The lowdown on introducing your new man to your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/the-lowdown-on-introducing-your-new-man-to-your-kids/) **Published:** August 17, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Dating as a single mum can be confusing and awkward at the best of times, but when you have kids it is a whole other ball game. Introducing your new man to your kids if just one part of this dating with kids lark. Is it too soon? Can they handle it? Can *he* handle it? Will I just damage everyone’s emotions so badly they will need therapy when they grow up? Introducing your new man to your kids doesn’t need to be quite so daunting. In fact, if you are careful it can be relatively drama free. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") **Further reading: [What nobody tells you about dating with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-with-kids/).** ## Where is the Relationship Headed? The first step is deciphering whether your relationship is ready for the big ‘meet’. There is no specific timeframe, it is more to do with how you both feel as a couple. Think about your dating style and your compatibility. Honestly. Are you both ready to settle down or is casual more your style? If either of you isn’t serious about seeing where things go, there is no point in throwing your kids into the messy dating mix. Ignore the butterflies in your stomach and go with your head. But, if it feels right, it feels right and after having that ‘grown-up relationship discussion’ it is worth taking the next step, kids in tow. Because, if your relationship has any future, your children come with you as a non-negotiable package. If there is no connection between them and your partner it is good to know if there is a potential relationship deal breaker. ## Before you introduce your new man to your kids Introducing your new man to your kids as a friend will help relieve some of the pressure and make it a more relaxed encounter, especially when your relationship is fairly new. If you have been dating for quite some time you may have already mentioned him to your children. Or, you may like to discuss the boyfriend status prior to the meeting. You know your kids, and what they are going to be comfortable with. But, he doesn’t know your kids so giving him a run down of their personalities and interests before he meets them will make it easier for him to interact with them. ## Where to introduce someone new to your child When introducing your new man to your kids, the location depends on the age of your children and whether he is a father himself or not. If he has kids of similar ages, a play date at a play café is one stress-free option. The best first meeting is something casual, in an open setting. Rather than a sit down, serious face to face meeting – [do something fun](http://madamenoire.com/564959/dating-with-children-12-family-friendly-first-date-ideas/) the kids will enjoy, and your new man can be part of. Kicking a ball on the oval, visiting the Botanic Gardens, a movie or a day at the beach are a few suggestions. If your children are anything like mine, something active is always a good option as they don’t have time to get restless and bored. Trying to sit them down quietly at a restaurant for a lunch with a new ‘friend’ would be kind of torturous. So, save the fine dining for your romantic evenings together and opt for remote controlled car races in the park instead. ## After the meeting Let’s assume your first family date went smoothly and it is time to sit down with your kids and have a recap of the day. Keep the conversation casual and gauge how they feel. One point you may need to clarify is that your new man is not a replacement for their dad. Take the relationship slow, giving him and your children a chance to get to know each other organically, without any pressure. **Further reading: [How to nurture a good relationship between your kids and your new partner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-nurture-a-good-relationship-between-your-kids-and-your-new-partner/).** ![Introduce new man to kids | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/New-man-to-kids.png "New man to kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/the-lowdown-on-introducing-your-new-man-to-your-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/the-lowdown-on-introducing-your-new-man-to-your-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families, Relationships **Tags:** blended families, dating with kids, kids and boyfriend, introducing kids to man --- ### [How your kids and your new partner can have a good relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/how-to-nurture-a-good-relationship-between-your-kids-and-your-new-partner/) **Published:** August 18, 2020 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** So, you’ve been single for a while. You’ve navigated the bumpy road of separation, and have been rockin’ it as a savvy solo mum. But…wait. You’ve met someone. Your new partner is a keeper and you[ introduce him to your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-lowdown-on-introducing-your-new-man-to-your-kids/). The routine and dynamic you have created since singledom is set to change. The ‘you’ is starting to look a bit more like ‘us’, and fitting this other person into your children’s lives can be a new challenge. Nurturing a good relationship between your kids and your new partner is more important than you think. Especially if he is in for the long haul. Once the shiny novelty of a new faux Daddy has worn off, there has to be a stronger connection to replace it. ## How to Nurture a Good Relationship Between your Kids and Your New Partner ### He’s Taking Mummy Away From Us Depending on the ages and stages of your kids, they are probably used to being the centre of your universe. Some children may feel as though they now have to “share” your time with someone else, and this can be difficult. The best way to nurture a good relationship between your kids and your new partner starts from day one. Spending time together as a group will help to forge that bond. New, shared experiences such as watching a play, a visit to a fun park, or a trip away will give them happy memories and something to reflect on. In addition to the “one off”s, it’s the small stuff that matters. When he gets involved in their [homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/), watches them play sport, or takes them to the park it will show the kids he genuinely cares. Not ‘I care because I want a photo showing I care’, but ‘I care for REAL’. ### You’re NOT My Dad! No. He’s not their dad, and that’s OK. Your kids may be loyal to the other parent, and this is completely normal. You and your new partner can offer the kids reassurance that he isn’t trying to replace Daddy. If your relationship with your ex is amicable, he may even support this by reassuring the children that Mummy moving on is a positive step. While children need boundaries and you would expect they would treat any of your friends politely, you shouldn’t push too hard. The next point may be obvious but I’ll reinforce it.[ Expecting good manners](https://www.parents.com/kids/development/social/25-manners-kids-should-know/) such as a ‘”please” and “thank you”, is a bit different to demanding ‘GIVE HIM A HUG! CALL HIM DAD! CHANGE YOUR LAST NAME TO HIS’. Let your kids dictate what they feel comfortable with. Nurturing the new relationship between your kids and your partner means not making him the “bad guy”. While every household is different, the parent generally works better as the disciplinarian. Inviting some new guy to suddenly be in charge will go about as well as letting a bull loose in a china shop. It will be emotional destruction and your kids and your partner will likely feel resentment for each other, and for you. That’s not to say that he shouldn’t be treated with respect. Just that “PUT THAT DOWN”or “I’M CANCELLING CHRISTMAS!” should be your words not his. [![](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/11783-848610)](https://imp.i339540.net/c/1253070/848610/11783) ![](//imp.pxf.io/i/1253070/848610/11783)### Time is Your Best Commodity Mums often feel like they are being stretched in 100 directions at once. You have to be a [time management](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/time-saving-tips-mums/) extraordinaire just to get through the demands of a Monday. When you have a new special person in your life, you will need to include some couple time in your schedule. While Mr. Right will have to be prepared to fit into your family routine, your relationship needs care too. Balancing one-on-one time with your kids, one-on-one time with your partner, AND time together as a family is a balancing act which isn’t as hard as it sounds. If everyone is feeling secure in the situation it will reduce the likelihood of any bitterness. Take things slowly, and be open with your kids and your new partner. It may take some trial and error but your unique situation and mix of personalities will determine just how it will work. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-400x4.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") When you nurture the relationship between your children and your new partner, they will be invested in the arrangement. If things don’t work out it will be hard for them too, so make sure you and your new partner are on the same page before making any big moves. If he has kids too it can be slightly more complicated. But, embracing the chaos, being patient, and not sweating the small stuff will go a long way in maintaining your sanity. Remember, it is OK to move on and while there may be an adjustment period, for the right person it will be worth it. Adding a new adult into their lives can give them someone else to confide in, to share memories with, and to hug goodnight. ![Relationship between kids and new partner | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/How-to-nurture-a-good-relationship.png "How to nurture a good relationship - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/how-to-nurture-a-good-relationship-between-your-kids-and-your-new-partner/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/how-to-nurture-a-good-relationship-between-your-kids-and-your-new-partner/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families, Children **Tags:** blended families, new partner, stepdad, step children --- ### [Prepping for a Sale? The One Weekend Project That Boosts Curb Appeal More Than New Flowers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-one-weekend-project-that-boosts-curb-appeal-more-than-new-flowers/) **Published:** September 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When buyers pull up to a house, they notice the obvious: a green lawn, trimmed shrubs, maybe a few pots spilling over with flowers. Nice touches, sure. But flowers don’t last. One hot week, and they’re gone. One skipped watering, and they droop. And deep down, you probably know buyers aren’t falling in love with the plants—they’re falling in love with the house itself. That’s where the real focus should be. If you really want to boost curb appeal before putting your house on the market, there’s a different weekend project that works harder than any flower bed. It won’t win style points for glamour, but it will completely change how your home looks from the street. The secret? Washing the exterior. ## Why Clean Surfaces Outperform Petals [Curb appeal](https://www.bhg.com/home-improvement/exteriors/curb-appeal/ways-to-add-curb-appeal/) does not begin with colour—it begins with clarity. Buyers notice lines, shapes, and the way materials interact long before they consciously register flowers. A clean exterior sharpens those architectural details. When mildew creeps across brickwork or grime dulls the siding, even the most carefully arranged flower boxes fight for attention. Washing away that film restores definition in a way flowers never can. Trim suddenly looks sharp, gutters melt back into the roofline, and steps reveal their natural tone. Cleanliness reframes the entire house, presenting structure before decoration. ## Beyond Just Walls and Windows Algae, soot, pollen, and dust create layers that flatten colour and hide texture. A wooden deck that has turned powdery grey can look rich and inviting again under bare feet. A brick path regains its contrast—the warm clay against sharp lines of mortar. A fence loses its streaks and stands crisp against the landscape. These details accumulate, weaving together a home that feels cared for from every angle. And it is that cared-for feeling buyers look for. ## Why Expertise Matters It is tempting to see house washing as a matter of pointing water at surfaces. Yet the truth is more nuanced. Too much pressure can scar siding. The wrong detergent can stain or strip finishes. Even concrete is not immune—push too hard, and you can etch permanent marks. This is where [House Washing](https://www.housewashingexperts.com.au/) experts earn their keep. They know which surfaces need a gentle hand and which can withstand stronger treatment. They choose detergents that remove mildew safely without damaging paint or wood. For a homeowner aiming to maximise value, that expertise is not a luxury. It’s insurance against expensive mistakes. ![curb appeal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-matreding-13356386-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-matreding-13356386 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Design Philosophy Behind Clean Lines Good design is not just about what you add. It’s about what you subtract. By removing what time and weather have layered on, washing returns a home to its original proportions and palette. Think of it as visual editing. The door hardware suddenly looks intentional. Window boxes appear balanced rather than cluttered. The roofline flows more gracefully against the sky. You are not decorating—you are revealing. And in many ways, that is the purest form of design. ## The Sensory Effect There’s something almost tangible about a freshly washed house. Light reflects differently off clean surfaces. Colours seem truer, lines sharper. Even the air feels fresher when mildew and pollen are rinsed away. For buyers, these subtle sensory cues build trust. A [clean](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/winter-cleaning-tips-how-to-keep-your-home-organised/) home whispers diligence. It suggests that if the visible surfaces are maintained, the hidden systems—plumbing, wiring, insulation—are likely cared for as well. Flowers can charm for a moment. Cleanliness reassures for the long haul. ## The Psychology of First Impressions Buying a home is not purely rational. It’s emotional. Buyers are not just evaluating square footage; they are imagining themselves inside the space. Anything that signals neglect disrupts that vision. A stained driveway whispers “work ahead.” Moss on siding hints at maintenance they’d rather not tackle. By contrast, a washed exterior clears mental space. Buyers can picture evenings on the porch or holidays around the table instead of tallying future costs. That freedom to dream is what sells homes. It is a small adjustment with an outsized psychological payoff. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-pixabay-259593-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-259593 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How It Enhances Other Efforts None of this is to say flowers, mulch, or painted trim are unnecessary. They matter. But without a clean foundation, those efforts fall flat. Flowers appear brighter when set against a washed backdrop. Fresh paint looks deliberate rather than desperate. Even the simplest furnishing—a lantern at the door, a bench under a tree—gains quiet elegance when framed by clarity. Washing doesn’t compete with decorative touches. It elevates them. ## Investment Value That Speaks for Itself Every homeowner weighs the same question before selling: how much should I spend, and where will it make the [biggest impact](https://www.palmparadiserealty.com/blog/should-you-renovate-or-update-before-selling-your-home/)? Washing ranks high because it is relatively inexpensive and universally appreciated. Paint choices are subjective. Flower colours divide opinions. But no one dislikes a clean house. That universality is its strength. And because it can be completed quickly, the return on investment is almost immediate. ## Timing Is Everything Unlike planting, washing is not bound by seasons. You can schedule it when it best serves the sale. The smartest time? Just before photographs are taken for the listing. Those images live online, where first impressions form long before buyers ever pull into the driveway. Even if months pass before the right offer comes along, the effects linger. Dirt returns slowly, and touch-ups are minor compared to the initial transformation. Washing is one of those projects that pays dividends well beyond the weekend it requires. ## Closing Thought: The One Weekend Project That Boosts Curb Appeal More Than New Flowers Preparing a home for sale is not about piling on new things. It is about stripping away the distractions so what matters most—the structure, the proportions, the design—can speak clearly. Washing your home’s exterior is the simplest way to achieve that. It is immediate, it is cost-effective, and it works in harmony with every other improvement you make. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-one-weekend-project-that-boosts-curb-appeal-more-than-new-flowers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-one-weekend-project-that-boosts-curb-appeal-more-than-new-flowers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Cut the Chaos: Smart Outdoor Spill Cleanup with a Wet Dry Vacuum Cleaner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-outdoor-spill-cleanup-with-a-wet-dry-vacuum-cleaner/) **Published:** October 1, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Outdoor gatherings are great—until a glass tips and sticky soda snakes across the deck, or greasy drops make pavers treacherous. Left alone, spills become slip hazards, attract ants and wasps, and contaminate food‑contact areas. Many hosts also struggle with what to do first (clean, sanitise, or disinfect?), as well as how to manage cords, batteries, and wastewater safely when the action moves outside. The goal of this guide is simple: give you a practical, food‑safe, and quick way to restore order. A [wet dry vacuum cleaner](https://au.roborock.com/pages/wet-dry-vacuum) can be a shortcut to speed, but only when you use it correctly and finish with the right hygiene steps. ## **A quick brand snapshot: What to look for in a wet dry vacuum cleaner** When evaluating any wet dry vacuum cleaner, check for edge reach (to grab sticky lines along skirting or deck boards), self‑cleaning and hot‑air drying of rollers (so you don’t re‑spread odors), adaptive dirt sensing (to auto‑boost where needed), and clear specs for battery runtime and tank sizes. Many recent wet–dry models—including options from Roborock—illustrate these practical features well, with edge cleaning down to under a millimetre, self‑clean and dry cycles for hygiene between uses, and smart sensors that modulate water and suction so you can focus on guests, not the mess. ## **Clean → then sanitise (and when to disinfect)** Cleaning removes visible soil and sticky residues; sanitising reduces germs on food‑contact surfaces to safe levels; disinfecting targets a broader range of microbes on hard, non‑porous, non‑food‑contact surfaces. Always clean first—sanitisers and disinfectants work best on pre‑cleaned surfaces. At a party, that usually means: pick up liquids/solids, wash the area with detergent or your machine’s solution, rinse if needed, then sanitise tables and prep zones—reserve disinfection for higher‑risk messes (e.g., raw‑meat juices) or non‑food‑contact fixtures per product labels. ## **Pre‑event setup: people, gear, and safe power** ![wet dry vacuum cleaner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Image-1-634x800.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") **Assign roles and stage a kit.** Nominate one person for “[spill duty.](https://nextcurious.com/electronics/household/can-a-robot-vacuum-replace-manual-mopping-a-reality-check/)” Stock microfiber towels, absorbent paper or granules, a broom and dustpan, food‑safe sanitiser, heavy‑duty bags, and (if you plan to use one) your wet–dry unit with spare solution and a charged battery. **Power and battery basics.** Keep cord‑and‑plug equipment away from standing water and, outdoors, use outlets protected by GFCI. Battery units reduce trip hazards but still require manufacturer-approved charging, clear airflow during charging, and storage in a cool, dry environment. If a pack looks damaged or overheats, stop using it and follow your local disposal guidance. ## **Triage the spill before you act.** **Low‑sugar liquids** (water, seltzer, light beer): remove bulk liquid, clean the area, and sanitize only if there’s food contact. **Sugary or acidic drinks** (soda, juice, wine): these leave sticky films and attract insects—clean thoroughly, then sanitize food‑contact surfaces and let the label’s contact time elapse. **Food solids and grease** (dressings, meat juices): scrape solids first; clean with detergent—Disinfect non‑food‑contact spots only when appropriate and allowed by the label. **Mixed hazards** (broken glass + liquid): wear shoes and gloves; sweep shards into a rigid container or use tongs—never bare hands—then handle the liquid as above. ## **Where a wet dry vacuum cleaner fits (and its limits)** A wet dry vacuum cleaner is ideal for fast liquid pickup, edge work, and removing sticky films when paired with an appropriate solution. Use only on hard, non‑porous surfaces as specified by the manufacturer. Avoid corded tools in pooled water; if you must use a cord, ensure proper outdoor rating and GFCI protection. For battery units, treat charging like any lithium‑ion device: use the supplied charger, avoid heat sources, and don’t charge unattended. ### **Capacity, runtime, and hygiene** Plan around clean and dirty tank sizes and the runtime you’ll actually get. Features that matter at a busy event include auto‑dispensing of [cleaning solution](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/) (so the right dilution reaches the floor), smart dirt sensing (so the machine boosts only when needed), and self‑cleaning + hot‑air drying (so rollers don’t smell or re‑contaminate surfaces). Mid‑session hygiene is as simple as running a quick self‑clean and resuming service. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Image.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Step‑by‑step playbooks** ### **Sticky drink on timber decking** 1. Block off the area. 2. Use the wet–dry unit to lift liquid and residue. 3. Wipe rails or benches nearby; sanitise food‑contact surfaces and let them air‑dry to meet contact time. ### **Greasy food on pavers** 1. Scrape solids into the bin. 2. Clean with detergent (or your machine’s solution system). 3. Disinfect non‑food‑contact paver spots only if appropriate and permitted by the product label; rinse if directed. ### **Broken glass + spilled wine** 1. Gloves on; sweep shards into a rigid, puncture‑resistant container. 2. Vacuum residual droplets. 3. Clean stains; sanitise serving surfaces. ### **Child‑safe beverage station wipe‑down** 1. Clean sticky rings and drips. 2. Sanitise the table; allow full contact time before replacing cups. ## **Wastewater and storm drains: do it right** Don’t pour dirty or soapy water into storm drains; in many cities, those drains send runoff untreated to local waterways. Empty tanks into an appropriate indoor drain (sink or toilet) per local rules, or follow your municipality’s guidance for directing wash water to a landscaped area where allowed. Keep solids out of drains and bag them for disposal. ## **Electrical and battery safety, outdoors** - **Cords & water:** Keep connections off wet ground; use outdoor‑rated cords and GFCI‑protected outlets. Arrange routes to avoid trip hazards. - **Charging:** Use only the manufacturer’s charger; keep batteries on a hard, non‑flammable surface with space to breathe. Don’t leave devices charging unattended overnight. - **Storage & disposal:** If a pack swells, smells, or gets unusually hot, isolate it on a non‑combustible surface and contact local recycling or fire services for next steps. ## **Quick comparison** | **Cleanup method** | **Best for** | **Pros** | **Watch‑outs** | |---|---|---|---| | Absorbent + towels | Small drips, oil spots | No power needed; cheap | Slow on sticky films; more bagged waste | | Mop & bucket | Large flat areas | Easy to rinse; simple sanitizer step | Pushes dirty water; slippery while wet | | Wet–dry vacuum | Liquids, sticky films, edges | Fast bulk pickup; strong edge reach; self‑clean cycles on many models | Easy to rinse; simple sanitiser step | ## **Conclusion** Outdoor entertaining doesn’t have to stall for every spill. Triage the mess, clean first, and sanitise wherever food is served. Use a wet dry vacuum cleaner where it’s safe and intended to speed bulk removal, and keep cords, chargers, and batteries compliant with outdoor basics. Modern wet–dry designs streamline edge work, solution dosing, and post‑use hygiene so you can reset the space quickly and get back to the fun. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-outdoor-spill-cleanup-with-a-wet-dry-vacuum-cleaner/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-outdoor-spill-cleanup-with-a-wet-dry-vacuum-cleaner/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Does Your Land Cruiser Need an Aftermarket Towing Mirror? A Family-Friendly Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/does-your-land-cruiser-need-an-aftermarket-towing-mirror/) **Published:** August 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a single mum means you have to wear the car expert hat sometimes. You might think you don’t need certain car accessories (like a towing mirror, for instance), so we put together this article to bring light to that. A big reason for owning a Land Cruiser in Australia is that you intend to tow something. It can be a work trailer, a fishing boat, or a caravan. The power and reliability of your Land Cruiser make it suitable for towing. However, are you using the right towing mirrors? Shall you change the factory side mirrors with an aftermarket towing mirror unit? You need to think of these factors carefully before taking your car on an outdoor trip. ## **Australian law about towing mirrors** According to the Australian Design Rules (ADR) and state road authorities, if the caravan or trailer is wider than your vehicle, you have to fit towing mirrors giving you a clear view of both sides of the trailer to the rear corners. You should be able to view 20 metres behind you. The view should cover 4 metres out from each side of the car. In most cases, factory mirrors fall short. That is why several Land Cruiser users buy aftermarket towing mirrors. You may face penalties for using non-compliant models. So, check the suitability of a model before buying. And here’s where the family angle sneaks in—rules are rules, but the bigger story? Peace of mind. When kids are asking, “Are we there yet?” from the back seat, you don’t want your head full of blind-spot worries. ## **Are the standard car mirrors good for outdoor towing?** The 200 and 300 Series Land Cruisers are equipped with power-adjustable and large side mirrors with features like camera systems and blind spot detection. However, these advanced [Land Cruiser towing mirrors](https://brixton4x4.com.au/collections/towing-mirrors) might not suffice when it comes to wide trailer towing, like 22-foot vans or off-road campers. Yes, they look fancy. Yes, they’re clever. But once you hook up something wider than your fridge at home, those mirrors shrink fast. Like trying to watch your child’s soccer game through a crack in the fence—you see bits, not the whole picture. ## **Reasons why aftermarket towing mirrors are better?** The aftermarket towing mirrors offer extended reach, offering a broader field of view. The models can pivot or slide outwards while towing and retract when not in use. It is useful in various scenarios, including congested city roads. These mirrors offer better visibility with dual mirror sections. There is a large flat mirror for regular rear view, and you also get a convex mirror to improve lane monitoring and reduce blind spots. The aftermarket towing mirrors ensure legal compliance, along with offering custom fits for Land Cruisers for the 70, 200, and 300 series. But here’s the hidden bonus: confidence. Because towing isn’t just mechanics—it’s nerves. You relax when you see more. And when you relax, the drive stops feeling like a battle and starts feeling manageable. ## **Types of aftermarket towing mirrors for Land Cruisers** Here are the common options for aftermarket towing mirrors: - **Permanent replacement mirrors** are popular with tourers and regular towers. These mirrors are sleek and integrated and instantly ready. However, these mirrors need time to install and are expensive as well. - **Custom mount extendable mirrors** are particularly made for the 70/79 series, improving everyday driving and towing. These mirrors are heavy but off-road friendly and more rugged. - **Clip-on mirror models** are removable and affordable. You can attach these to the existing mirrors. These mirrors are easy to fit but have limited visibility and are not ADR compliant. They are a good choice for infrequent towers. Permanent looks good, sure. Extendables are tough. Clip-ons? Cheap lifesavers. Don’t discount them—sometimes “good enough” is exactly what you need for that one-time trip to IKEA or a quick move across town. ## **Everyday Family Uses for Towing Mirrors** Not every tow is a big adventure. Sometimes it’s just everyday life. The extra soccer gear. The move into a new rental. A second-hand couch you couldn’t say no to. Mirrors aren’t glamorous here, but they’re the quiet helper. Less “oh no” when you change lanes. ## **Building Confidence as a First-Time Tower** First-time towers know this feeling—the sweaty palms, the over-checking, the doubt. Add kids in the back asking for snacks? Double stress. Aftermarket mirrors don’t make you a pro overnight, but they lower the noise in your head. They make the trailer feel less like a mystery tail and more like part of your car. ## **Budget-Friendly Solutions** Big spend isn’t always possible. And honestly? It’s not always needed. - Clip-ons → for the “I just need it once” moments. - Hire → because not everything needs to be bought. - Second-hand → plenty of families upgrade, leaving bargains behind. Cheap can still be safe. Safe is the point. ## **Safety on Family Trips** Road trip. Car stacked with snacks, kids bickering about who gets the window seat. Trailer hitched. The highway ahead. The right mirrors mean one less worry. You see more, you stress less. ## **Teaching Kids by Example** Strange thing happens when you tow confidently—your kids watch. They see you problem-solve. They see you manage. They file it away. Independence isn’t always taught with lectures; sometimes it’s taught with towing mirrors. ## **Summing it up** Measure the trailer carefully. In case the trailer is wider than the car, there is a definite need for an aftermarket towing mirror. It is not only important for legal compliance, but also for the driver’s comfort and safety. Check out websites like Brixton4x4.com.au to find some suitable Land Cruiser towing mirror models. And remember: this isn’t just “car talk.” It’s about life being smoother. Less stress on the road. More freedom to move things, to travel, to go without calling for backup. The right mirror is a small tool—but for families, it’s a quiet kind of power. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/does-your-land-cruiser-need-an-aftermarket-towing-mirror/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/does-your-land-cruiser-need-an-aftermarket-towing-mirror/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [15 Spooky and easy Halloween craft ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Can you believe it’s that time of year again? Halloween is lurking around the corner, and I can practically hear the little witches and wizards getting excited. But what if they are no longer into gluing cotton balls onto white paper? Sure, there are 70 easy Halloween crafts you can choose from. But that will take time to browse through! Fear not, because I’ve trimmed them down to 15 super-easy Halloween craft ideas that’ll make you the spookiest superstar parent on the block. So grab your broomstick (or a cup of pumpkin spice latte – your choice), and let’s dive into these enchantingly simple crafts. No spells, wands, or crafting expertise are needed – just a dollop of creativity and a whole lot of fun. Let’s get crafty! ## **15 Simple Halloween crafts for kids** ## **1. Scissor skill pumpkin craft** This cute pumpkin is first on my list of DIY ideas. If making jack-o-lanterns has gotten too old for your kids, this easy pumpkin craft should do the trick! It’s a fun way to improve your child’s scissor skills and practise cutting along a straight line. Printable step-by-step instructions are included. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/ab1e8dd1-0cb8-4d84-a6cd-188e5d9f3760-1.jpg "ab1e8dd1-0cb8-4d84-a6cd-188e5d9f3760 - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Nurture Store](https://nurturestore.co.uk/easy-pumpkin-craft-scissor-skills) ## **2. Halloween paper bat craft** Make this eery 3D paper bat decoration with your kids this Halloween to proudly display on the mantelpiece. A printable bat template is included for tracing onto cardstock. You’ll also need acrylic paints and brushes. If you want to do it from scratch, you can, too! Just grab a few sheets of black paper and you’re good to go! ![Halloween paper bat craft](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/ad254d01-4fae-4313-9d90-b9fb58ec586d.jpg "ad254d01-4fae-4313-9d90-b9fb58ec586d - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Projects with Kids](https://www.projectswithkids.com/halloween-art-project-3d-paper-bats/) ## **3. Craft stick spider webs** Many fun Halloween craft ideas like these craft stick spiderwebs make for great decor as well. This one is super easy to make with craft or popsicle sticks, yarn and fake spiders. Each spiderweb takes only a few minutes including painting and gluing time. ![Craft stick spider webs | Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/48b6246a-fb5d-4d92-9afa-6a8efe24da0b.jpg "48b6246a-fb5d-4d92-9afa-6a8efe24da0b - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Buggy and Buddy](https://buggyandbuddy.com/popsicle-stick-and-yarn-spiderweb-craft-for-kids/) ## **4. Monster headbands** We love wearable Halloween craft ideas. This monster headband craft is fun, and colourful and takes no time to make. Kids will have a blast coming up with their own monster designs and they are perfect for[ trick or treating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-ways-to-stay-safe-trick-or-treating/). [![Monster Headbands](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/18/08/b6/1808b67ac076aa7be02313488c535d58.jpg)](https://www.fantasticfunandlearning.com/headband-monster-craft-kids.html) Source: [Fantastic Fun and Learning](https://www.fantasticfunandlearning.com/headband-monster-craft-kids.html) ## **5. Halloween-themed puppets (Free printable crafts)** Spooky ghosts on your hand? Why not!? I’m sure your kids would love to make these adorable puppets. Have your kids bring out their crayons to make the puppets more personal result. ![Halloween-themed puppets | Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/439bd081-357d-4df9-927d-0233cb4c5726-1.jpg "439bd081-357d-4df9-927d-0233cb4c5726 - Beanstalk Mums") Source [Pinterest](https://au.pinterest.com/pin/440649144803660208/) ## **Spooky but fun Halloween art for kids** ## **6. Spider handprint art** My entry for handprint crafts is this [spider handprint art](https://www.learningandexploringthroughplay.com/2015/02/spider-handprints.html)! Just dip your kiddo’s hands into the paint (make sure it’s washable!), and get crafting! This makes a great Halloween activity as it will surely be fun for the kids. While they’re busy with it, you can do some cooking or prepare treats for trick-or-treaters! [![Spider handprint art](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/2b0e9258-27bf-4e97-9b90-8e764ba7315e.jpg "2b0e9258-27bf-4e97-9b90-8e764ba7315e - Beanstalk Mums")](bigw.sjv.io/nLrB57) Get materials here: [Big W](http://bigw.sjv.io/nLrB57) ## **7. Paint splat witches cauldron** Are you in the mood for fabulous and witchy Halloween craft ideas? The paint splat witches cauldron craft is perfect. The marbling technique with craft paint is pure genius, easy enough for small kids, and can also be used for other crafts. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/2aa45233-8410-4330-8c49-33b4e2977097-1.jpg "2aa45233-8410-4330-8c49-33b4e2977097 - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ Glued to My Crafts](https://www.gluedtomycraftsblog.com/2018/09/paint-splat-witchs-cauldron.html) ## **8. Fluffy pumpkin Halloween slime** Why buy slime when you can make your own? This pumpkin-themed slime is perfect for toddlers this Halloween. And most of the materials can be found in your pantry already. Easy and cheap! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/3b7fcca0-f097-448c-9192-1d21b5608016-1.jpg "3b7fcca0-f097-448c-9192-1d21b5608016 - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ I Heart Arts and Crafts](https://www.iheartartsncrafts.com/fluffy-pumpkin-slime/) ## **9. Construction paper owls** Halloween craft ideas for older kids like these colourful construction paper owls are excellent for decorating. Younger kids can still join in on the fun but may need help cutting out triangles and other shapes. It’s perfect for kids of all ages! ![Construction paper owls | Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/cc56a51d-0561-45ed-910b-3b3a81594c8e.jpg "cc56a51d-0561-45ed-910b-3b3a81594c8e - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ Splish Splash Splatter Art](http://splishsplashsplatterart.blogspot.com/2011/10/construction-paper-owls.html) ## **10. Yarn-wrapped mummy craft** How adorable is this yarn-wrapped mummy? Instead of using a toilet paper roll as gauze, grab some unused yarn from Nana’s sewing kit! This creepy Halloween art is not only fun to make and great for decorating, but it also improves younger kids’ fine motor skills. ![Yarn-wrapped mummy craft](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/9f1b8b04-aa63-468e-b8e3-5af36324f4a3-2.jpg "9f1b8b04-aa63-468e-b8e3-5af36324f4a3 - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ I Heart Crafty Things](https://iheartcraftythings.com/yarn-wrapped-mummy-craft.html) ## **Best Halloween crafts for kids (cont.)** ## **11. Paper plate spider craft** Googly eyes make these paper plate spiders totally cute and perfect for decorating the entryway. They are also super easy to make using paper plates, acrylic paints and chenille stems or pipe cleaners. I suggest you use glue if you think staple wires are too sharp for your little artists. ![Paper plate spider craft | Halloween craft ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/4eafd070-e816-4803-9bf1-dcc20a3f70d4.jpg "4eafd070-e816-4803-9bf1-dcc20a3f70d4 - Beanstalk Mums") Source:[ I Heart Crafty Things](https://iheartcraftythings.com/paper-plate-spiders.html) ## **12. Black cat cut-outs** If you need a quick, mess-free way to decorate, these black cat cut-outs are the perfect Halloween activity! Whether your kids get a little too excited or you need last-minute décor, these cut-outs add texture to your space without any hassle. Just tape them up, and voilà, instant eerie vibes! ![Black cat cut-outs](https://canary.contestimg.wish.com/api/webimage/60e8102e2b4dc18785267914-3-large.jpg) Get cutting dies at: [Wish ](https://www.wish.com/search/black+cat+craft/product/60e8102e2b4dc18785267914?source=search&position=0) ## **13. Jack-O-Lantern face masks** Here’s one your kiddos can wear to a Halloween party! Both toddlers and preschoolers will have fun making these, as they’re super easy to do! It can also work as a Halloween costume, so that’s hitting two birds! ![Jack-O-Lantern face masks | Halloween craft ideas](https://content.instructables.com/F7A/AOVV/KUMO1SNF/F7AAOVVKUMO1SNF.jpg?auto=webp&frame=1&width=514&height=1024&fit=bounds&md=MjAyMS0xMC0xMSAwOTozNDoxOS4w) Source: [Instructables](https://www.instructables.com/Jack-Lantern-Face-Mask/) ## **14. Ghost crafts** Need a fun addition to your garden? It’s one way to make the kids help you decorate your pots. All you need are white pots and black markers or black paint. But if you and the little ones feel a little creative, you can add more accessories like bows or shiny gems! If you only have coloured pots, cover them with white paper and do your magic! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/a277afde-d946-4011-8bec-c705420c051c-1.jpg "a277afde-d946-4011-8bec-c705420c051c - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://ph.pinterest.com/pin/539095017869383678/) ## **15. Toilet paper roll mummy (No gauze needed)** Last on our list of fun Halloween crafts is this budget-friendly mummy. What I love about this fun craft idea is all you need is a roll of tissue paper! If your kids are not into mummies, you can create toilet paper roll monsters instead. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/f556adb6-7a0b-4309-b5a4-93bf1e4f7763-1.jpg "f556adb6-7a0b-4309-b5a4-93bf1e4f7763 - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Glue Sticks and Gum Drops](https://gluesticksgumdrops.com/toilet-paper-roll-mummy-craft/) ## **Final thoughts: Make Halloween craft ideas simple!** As October 31 approaches, you’ll find that the best ideas are often the simplest! Whether creating ghostly garlands or painting mini pumpkins, kids love making these fun projects that spark their imagination and get them into the Halloween spirit. Plus, these crafts aren’t just for fun; they double as festive decorations and even as a keepsake to remember the holiday by. So, grab those scissors and glue sticks and let your little ones get creative. After all, there’s no better way to enjoy Halloween than by spending time together and letting your kids’ creativity run wild! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** trick or treating --- ### [Family home guarantee scheme for first home buyer single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/the-home-guarantee-scheme/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Sarah McLaughlin **Content:** ## Single Mum First Home Buyer Home Guarantee Scheme The Australian Government offers the Family Home Guarantee scheme as a way to support single parents in purchasing a house. Which means a smaller deposit is required to buy a home sooner. Paying rent and supporting a family on a single income can make it very difficult to save a large deposit. This Australian Government initiative is helpful in making the dream of living in your own home a reality much sooner than maybe previously thought. In this article, [Sarah McLaughlin](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin), Beanstalk Mums, recommended lending expert breaks down the whats and hows of helping you into your own home. Even if you are on a single mum income. **[Further reading: The ultimate guide to buying a house in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buying-a-house/)** ## What is a Home Guarantee Scheme A home guarantee scheme is designed to support eligible home buyers, including single mums, in purchasing their first home. It provides a safety net for these buyers by offering a guarantee to lenders against potential defaults on home loans. This scheme aims to alleviate financial stress and facilitate the process of homeownership for those who may not meet traditional lending criteria. The scheme serves as a form of protection for both lenders and borrowers. For [single mums looking to enter the property market,](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/how-can-a-single-parent-buy-a-home/) the home guarantee scheme can be a lifeline, offering a pathway to homeownership that may otherwise seem out of reach. By providing this support, the government aims to promote housing affordability and increase the rate of homeownership among Australians. Pivotal in empowering single mums to navigate the complexities of the housing market and fulfil their dream of owning a home. The scheme not only supports these individuals financially but also instils confidence and stability in their housing situation. By understanding the intricacies of the scheme, single mums can make informed decisions regarding their home purchase, ensuring a secure future for themselves and their families. ## How Does It Work? The program operates by offering a guarantee to lenders, allowing eligible home buyers, including single mums, to secure a home loan with a smaller deposit. The process typically involves applying for the scheme through an approved provider like Housing Australia and meeting specific eligibility criteria. Once approved, the scheme provides a level of assurance to lenders, enabling borrowers to access home loans with more favourable terms than they might otherwise obtain. The scheme encompasses various aspects, including eligibility requirements, coverage provided, and limitations and exclusions. To qualify for the scheme, applicants must meet specific criteria set by the Australian government, such as being a first-home buyer or previous homeowner with at least one dependent. Understanding these requirements is crucial for single mums considering utilizing the scheme to purchase their family home. By streamlining the home-buying process for single mums, the financial barriers often associated with homeownership are reduced. Allowing for a smaller deposit, the scheme enables these individuals to enter the property market sooner and with greater ease. Additionally, the peace of mind offered by the scheme safeguards single mums against unexpected costs and provides a sense of security as they embark on their homeownership journey. ![the home guarantee scheme](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-31.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## What Are The Benefits of Family Home Guarantee? There are numerous benefits to single mums and other eligible home buyers. Firstly, it provides peace of mind by mitigating the risks associated with purchasing a house. Particularly for those with limited financial resources. Secondly, the scheme protects borrowers against unforeseen costs, such as repairs or maintenance, helping to maintain financial stability over the long term. Lastly, by facilitating home ownership, the scheme can contribute to an increase in property value. This benefits both individual homeowners and the broader housing market. For single mums, in particular, the home guarantee represents an invaluable opportunity to establish a stable and secure living environment. By leveraging the benefits of the scheme, mums can achieve the dream of homeownership. As well as enjoy the financial and emotional rewards that come with it. Furthermore, as property values appreciate over time, single mums stand to build wealth and secure their financial future through smart investments in real estate. ## What is the Eligibility Criteria for a Government Guarantee? To qualify for the Government Guarantee, including the Regional First Home Buyer Guarantee, several eligibility criteria apply. First and foremost, applicants must be first-home buyers. That is those who do not currently own a home but may have owned a previous home. For single parents or legal guardians with at least one dependent child, the scheme aims to support eligible individuals in securing a home loan agreement. A Notice of Assessment is required, and the property must be located in Australia, including in a regional area. Additionally, the loan offer must include a deposit for a home loan. Plus, the buyer should have a home loan agreement that may benefit from waived Lender’s Mortgage Insurance. In a nutshell; · applying as an individual; · a single parent or single legal guardian of at least one dependent; · an Australian Citizen or permanent resident at the time you apply; · at least 18 years of age; · earning no more than $125,000 annually (as shown on your Tax Return); · intending to live on the property being purchased; · not currently the owner of any property. · need a deposit of as little as 2% of the property value; · have a good credit history and ability to make repayments on the home loan; Location of property in Australia ## Considerations Before Purchasing with a Home Guarantee Scheme Before committing to a home loan, it’s essential for single mums to carefully consider various factors. Understanding the terms and conditions of the scheme is crucial to ensure transparency and avoid any surprises down the line. Additionally, comparing coverage options and pricing from different providers can help single mums choose the most suitable scheme for their needs and budget. Single mums should also take into account their specific requirements and financial capabilities when evaluating the home guarantee appropriateness. By conducting thorough research and seeking advice from housing experts, financial advisors, or a [trusted Sydney property lawyer](https://rslawgroup.au/property-law-sydney/), you can make more informed decisions before buying. Mums can make informed decisions that align with their long-term housing goals. Navigating the complexities of the housing market as a single mum can be challenging. Yet, with the right information and guidance, it is possible to make sound decisions that lead to successful homeownership. By delving deep into the terms and conditions, mums can protect themselves against hidden pitfalls and ensure a smooth home-buying process. Considering the long-term implications of their choices and seeking professional assistance when needed, single mums can confidently embark on the journey towards owning their own home. ## Conclusion of Single Mum First Home Guarantee In conclusion, the family home guarantee offers a valuable opportunity for single mums to achieve their dream of homeownership with greater ease and financial security. By providing a safety net for eligible home buyers. Facilitating access to home loans with reduced deposit requirements, the scheme plays a crucial role in promoting housing affordability and stability. Single mums considering purchasing a home through the scheme should carefully weigh the outlined benefits and considerations. In order to make informed decisions that enhance their housing prospects. Securing a brighter future for themselves and their families. ## More information Would you like to know more, discover your borrowing power or get pre-approval? [Please book a call back here with Sarah McLaughlin from Liberty Loans](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin#book-a-call-back). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/the-home-guarantee-scheme/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/the-home-guarantee-scheme/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** buy a home, loans, home ownership, government support --- ### [Renting with pets: A guide for tenants in rental properties 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/renting-with-pets-what-you-need-to-know/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Finding a rented dwelling can be tricky at the best of times, but throw a furry friend or two into the mix, and it can feel like you’re chasing your tail. You love your pet, but it sometimes seems like landlords and rental agencies see your animal as a deal-breaker. But don’t despair just yet! Renting with pets is entirely possible. It just takes a bit of patience, strategy, and maybe a little bit of puppy eyes (from both you and your furry friend). In this guide, I’ll list down tips to keep a pet and live in your dream apartment. I’ll add some tips to make sure you and your four-legged friend can live happily ever after. ## **Are there a lot of pet-friendly rentals in Australia?** Australia has one of the highest rates of pet ownership in the world. According to the RSPCA, around 62% of households in Australia have pets, yet many renters struggle to find pet-friendly properties. Despite the increasing love for pets, the rental market hasn’t fully caught up. Landlords are often hesitant to allow animals due to concerns over damage, noise, or general upkeep. Recent changes in tenancy laws across Australia are making it easier for renters with animals to find a home. ### **Changes in pet-friendly tenancy laws** The laws vary by state, but overall, there’s a movement toward giving animal owners more rights. - **Victoria**: The state has led the way with a landmark reform. Since 2020, proprietors in Victoria can’t unreasonably [refuse a pet](https://www.vcat.vic.gov.au/news/new-laws-about-pets-rental-properties). If a landlord objects, they need to apply to VCAT (Victorian Civil and Administrative Tribunal) to prove why they should be allowed to say no. - **ACT**: Canberra has rules similar to those of Victoria. Lessors can’t unreasonably deny a tenant’s request to keep a [pet on rental premises](https://www.rspca-act.org.au/pet-policy-faqs-owners-corporations-unit-plans) without seeking approval from the ACT Civil and Administrative Tribunal (ACAT). - **NSW has its own rules concerning pets in rentals.** It’s not as pet-friendly as Victoria, but owners still have to be transparent about the pet at the rental space. Tenants can negotiate and include a “pet clause” in their agreement. - **QLD**: As of late 2022, new rental laws in Queensland allow [tenants to request pets](https://www.yourinvestmentpropertymag.com.au/news/queensland-new-rental-laws-on-pets), and landlords must respond within 14 days. While they can still refuse, they have to provide a legitimate reason. These changes offer some wiggle room for pet owners, but the reality is, that it’s still up to the property owner to keep your fur baby. So how can you boost your chances? ## **Tips for renting with pets in 2024** ## **Applying for a property for you and your fur baby** Not all properties for rent are suitable for pets. Sometimes the home you want to live in won’t be the best for your pet because of a lack of amenities. Find a space that can humanely accommodate the pet. For example, a two-bedroom apartment in the inner city might not be the ideal home for a Border Collie or Golden Retriever as large breeds of dogs need high levels of exercise and space to run and play. This property may be unsuitable for keeping the pet. It might be better suited to a household with a cat or a smaller animal. ![Renting with pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/1000013900-1066x800.jpg "1000013900 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Ask for approval to keep a pet** Tenants may request to keep a pet with their lessor. The approval should be in written form. Start by checking your tenancy agreement. Some might already have clauses about pets, while others could be silent on the matter. When you reach out, tell them what type of pet you own. Explain politely why you want a pet, whether it’s for companionship, security, or other reasons. It helps to offer some reasonable conditions upfront, like agreeing to cover any potential damage or committing to regular cleaning to keep the property in good shape. You might also suggest a pet interview or trial period to show you’re serious about being a responsible pet owner. Take note that the proprietor must respond to your request within 14 days. Your request is automatically approved if there is no response within the said time frame. However, if you want to keep a working dog, the owner’s approval is unnecessary. ### **What if the owner refuses a tenant’s request?** The good news is that tenants applying to keep a pet in rental premises can no longer have their request denied without approved reasons for the refusal, and a reliable [strata management company](https://www.stratadata.com.au/) can help ensure these rules are properly followed. Your request can still be denied based on legal requirements stated in the Residential Tenancies Act (e.g. keeping the pet would contravene by-law regulations). Another example is if your pet is venomous. If the property owner’s reasons for the refusal did not comply with the law, the request is considered approved. ## **What is a Renting with Pets Fact Sheet?** This fact sheet is a handy guide for animal owners looking to rent. It explains how to ask landlords about pets, what to include in your lease, and tips for keeping your place pet-friendly. With advice on pet deposits and keeping neighbours happy, it’s a great resource for making renting with animal companions easier. ## **Write a resume for your pet application** Think of this as your furry buddy’s LinkedIn profile. It can highlight your pet’s personality, training, and overall behaviour. A well-prepared resume shows you’re responsible and gives the landlord peace of mind. Owners want to feel that not only their tenants, but their tenant’s animal companions, will look after the property and treat it with respect. Include the following: - Type of pet and nature - Age - Temperament - Vaccination history - Any training - References for your pet or other animal can help strengthen your case for keeping the pet at the rental. If yours is not the type of pet ordinarily kept inside, the property owner might ask for the pet to be kept outside of the rental premises. Also, consider speaking to your veterinarian and asking them to vouch for your animal’s good behaviour. Just like a job interview, the next step is an interview. First impressions are important, so consider introducing your pet to the property manager. ## **Pay a rental bond or insurance** While not legally required in all states, offering a pet bond or extra security deposit can sweeten the deal. It shows you’re serious about covering any potential damage. Some states, like Victoria, no longer allow specific bonds, but it doesn’t hurt to offer extra rent or insurance that covers property damage caused by a pet. It’s all about making the landlord feel safe. Western Australia is the only state where bonds can be charged, however, they are not compulsory. The bond must be no more than $260, unless the weekly rent is more than $1200 per week, according to [WA’s Department of Commerce](https://www.commerce.wa.gov.au/consumer-protection/renting-home). If you have an assistance dog, you cannot be charged with said bond. ![Renting with pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/1000013901-1-1066x800.jpg "1000013901 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Introduce your furry companion** A meet-and-greet can go a long way if the owner is local and willing. Let them meet your well-behaved cat or dog in a controlled environment. They may be more inclined to say yes when they see how calm and friendly your animal is. ## **Offer more rent** Consider offering a landlord more than the advertised rent to expedite the pet approval. If you can afford to pay more, the extra rental income may help the owner protect their property from perceived risks accompanied by keeping the pet. ## **Keep it clean** One of the common concerns about renting to pet owners is cleanliness. They shed fur and can bring mess inside from the backyard. By offering to deep clean carpets and deodorise the property when you leave, you are minimising the associated risks with renting to pet owners. Actions that show you’re willing to go above and beyond to keep the premises clean and [pass property inspections](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/) will be well-received by landlords. The property owner may also ask you to shoulder damages incurred by the approved pet at the end of the tenancy. ## **Prove yourself (and your animal)** If you’ve successfully rented a property with your pets previously, providing contact details of your former property manager to prospective new landlords could help convince them you’d make a good tenant. If the property manager for new rentals is still not convinced, you may like to suggest a rental trial. This could be a short lease period where you can prove to your landlord that you are a responsible fur-mum. ## **How to keep a pet in a rental property (cont.)** ## **Get it in writing** Once you’re successful in finding a pet-friendly property for rent, get it in writing. Your rental agreement should specifically state that you are allowed to keep pets. This provides some reassurance if the unforeseen were to occur, or circumstances change. ## **Be honest when renting with pets** Honesty is the best policy. Tenants should communicate openly and honestly with their lessor about pets and not keep a pet without their permission. While a Terri Scheer landlord insurance policy covers lessors for pet damage by pets not listed on the rental agreement, this practice gives animal owners a bad name. Plus, it can make property managers even more reluctant to accept pets in the future. A tenant caught disobeying a ‘no pets are allowed’ rule is unlikely to get a good future reference and could be blacklisted by the lessor from any of their future listings. ## **Summary: How to keep a pet in a rented room or apartment** Bringing your furry companion into a private rental property can be smooth if you’re prepared. If your pet is allowed inside, make sure you know the rope. Check for any pet-related rules. You’ve got your rights and responsibilities, like making sure your pet is well-behaved and doesn’t wreck the place. If you have multiple pets, check local council laws as some limit the number of animals allowed to be kept at the premises. If your pet causes damage, it’s usually on you to fix things up. Always get approval to keep the pet upfront, so there are no surprises later. By keeping your landlord in the loop and looking after the property, you can enjoy a happy home for you and your furry buddy without any hiccups. ![Renting with pets: Everything you need to know | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Renting-with-pets.png "Renting with pets - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/renting-with-pets-what-you-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/renting-with-pets-what-you-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** renting, renting with pets, pets, landlords --- ### [20 Really low budget meals if you're feeling the pinch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/low-budget-meals/) **Published:** April 4, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** ***This article about low-budget meals was last updated in 2024.*** It doesn’t matter how much you [struggle with money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/); you still have to feed your family. But, when funds are low, it can be a real challenge. You need to keep the costs down while still producing something yummy and nutritious … and get the thumbs up from your kids. We get it. It’s hard. For this reason, we’ve put together a list of really low-budget meals if you’re feeling the pinch. ## 20 Really low budget meals for if you’re feeling the pinch ## 1. [One Pot Sausage Bolognese](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pot-sausage-bolognese/da9157d8-bfe8-47d6-ac7c-45c1169076e6?r=recipes/top50budgetmeals&c=tYovQ88l/Top%2050%20budget%20meals) This one-pot sausage bolognese is one of our fave low-budget meals. It’s cheap, filling, and easy to prepare even if you’re in a rush (it’s on the table in 30 minutes). [![One Pot Sausage Bolognese | low budget meals](https://img.taste.com.au/qPz9VG3Z/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2016/11/one-pot-sausage-bolognese-89280-1.jpeg "One-pot sausage bolognese")](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pot-sausage-bolognese/da9157d8-bfe8-47d6-ac7c-45c1169076e6?r=recipes/top50budgetmeals&c=tYovQ88l/Top%2050%20budget%20meals) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pot-sausage-bolognese/da9157d8-bfe8-47d6-ac7c-45c1169076e6?r=recipes/top50budgetmeals&c=tYovQ88l/Top%2050%20budget%20meals) ## 2. [Veggie Packed BBQ Meatloaf](https://celebratehealth.com.au/recipe/veggie-packed-bbq-meatloaf/) Next time you’re craving meat, try this veggie-packed spin on the dinner staple. The zucchini, carrots, pumpkin, and extra lean mince make it healthier and more flavourful. [![Veggie Packed BBQ Meatloaf](https://res.cloudinary.com/rock-agency/image/fetch/w_700,c_fill,g_auto,f_auto/https://celebratehealth.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/veg2.png)](https://celebratehealth.com.au/recipe/veggie-packed-bbq-meatloaf/) Recipe Source: [Celebrate Health](https://celebratehealth.com.au/recipe/veggie-packed-bbq-meatloaf/) ## 3. [Creamy Tuna Mornay](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/creamy-tuna-mornay-recipe/ornof6of?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) This meal is perfect if you have kids who are not fond of vegetables. It has carrots, celery, and capsicum, but we bet they will not even notice because of the cheesy goodness! [![Creamy Tuna Mornay | low budget meals](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/WZYp9IuE/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/03/creamy-tuna-mornay-950691-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/creamy-tuna-mornay-recipe/ornof6of?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) Recipe Source: [Australia’s Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/creamy-tuna-mornay-recipe/ornof6of?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) ## 4. [Baked Cheesy Meatballs](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/baked-cheesy-meatballs-recipe/uyn09wuo) We absolutely love cheesy, filling, low-budget meals. This kid-friendly meatball recipe comes together in half an hour and costs next to nothing. [![Baked Cheesy Meatballs](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/V5eyvZf-/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/01/baked-cheesy-meatballs-recipe-523175-1.jpg "Baked Cheesy Meatballs")](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/baked-cheesy-meatballs-recipe/uyn09wuo) Recipe source: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/baked-cheesy-meatballs-recipe/uyn09wuo) ## 5. [Mexican Quinoa](https://www.freebiefindingmom.com/healthy-frozen-meals-mexican-quinoa/) Get ready to salsa your way into a fiesta of flavour with this zesty Mexican Quinoa! Packed with colourful veggies, spicy jalapeños, and protein-rich black beans, it’s a fiesta in a bowl. Simply cook quinoa, mix in your favourite Tex-Mex ingredients, and voila! It’s one of my go-to low-budget meals that’s as nutritious as it is delicious. [![Mexican Quinoa | low budget meals](https://www.freebiefindingmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/HealthyFrozenMealsMexicanQuinoaDish2.jpg)](https://www.freebiefindingmom.com/healthy-frozen-meals-mexican-quinoa/) Recipe source: [Freebie Finding Mom](https://www.freebiefindingmom.com/healthy-frozen-meals-mexican-quinoa/) ## 6. [Cauliflower Mac N’ Cheese](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/g4287/cheap-dinner-ideas/?slide=2) If you want a cheap, tasty dish that’s easy to make and tastier than any boxed mix, sneak in some cauliflower in the mac and cheese for dinner tonight (we promise the kids won’t notice). [![Cauliflower Mac and Cheese](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/easter-side-dishes-cauliflower-mac-and-cheese-1581543846.jpg?crop=1xw:1xh;center,top&resize=480:%2A "easter side dishes cauliflower mac and cheese")](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/g4287/cheap-dinner-ideas/?slide=2) Recipe source: [Country Living](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/g4287/cheap-dinner-ideas/?slide=2) ## 7. [French Bread Pizza](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a11640/french-bread-pizzas/) Say bonjour to the ultimate pizza hack! French bread pizza is the epitome of comfort food that meets convenience. Just grab a baguette, slather it with marinara sauce, sprinkle on your favourite toppings, and bake until bubbly and golden. It’s quick, it’s budget-friendly, and it’s customisable—perfect for a casual dinner or midnight snack. [![French Bread Pizza | low budget meals](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod/images/french-bread-pizza-1-64429ecab125e.jpg)](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a11640/french-bread-pizzas/) Recipe source: [The Pioneer Woman](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a11640/french-bread-pizzas/) ## 8. [Veggie Filled Bolognaise Sauce](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/veggie-filled-bolognaise-sauce/) Here’s another easy, low-budget meal that lets you sneak in veggies without disappointing your children. Spaghetti just got healthier with finely chopped mushrooms, zucchini, and celery. [![Veggie Filled Bolognaise Sauce](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/veggie-filled-bolognaise-sauce.jpg)](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/veggie-filled-bolognaise-sauce/) Recipe source: [Stay at Home Mum](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/veggie-filled-bolognaise-sauce/) ## Super cheap meal ideas to feed your family ## 9. [Cheeseburger Casserole](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a42721991/cheeseburger-casserole-recipe/) Craving the classic taste of a juicy cheeseburger without the fuss (and on a budget)? Say cheese because this cheeseburger casserole has got you covered! Layered with savoury ground beef, melty cheese, and golden tater tots, it’s a comforting twist on a beloved favourite. Bake it up and watch your kiddos flock to the table. This flavour-packed low-budget meal will satisfy even the pickiest eaters! [![Cheeseburger Casserole | low budget meals](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod/images/cheeseburger-casserole-recipe-3-64495dbe9c58a.jpg)](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a42721991/cheeseburger-casserole-recipe/) Recipe source: [The Pioneer Woman](https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a42721991/cheeseburger-casserole-recipe/) ## 10. [Easy Baked Bean Cottage Pie](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/easy-baked-bean-cottage-pie-recipe/4yuox0l3) Bean dishes are some of the healthiest, low-budget meals you can make. Even bean-haters will love you if you make this tasty spin on cottage pie for dinner tonight. [![Easy Baked Bean Cottage Pie](https://img.taste.com.au/ecQQUV8_/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2019/02/easy-baked-bean-cottage-pie-146823-2.jpg "Easy baked bean cottage pie")](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/easy-baked-bean-cottage-pie-recipe/4yuox0l3) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/easy-baked-bean-cottage-pie-recipe/4yuox0l3) ## 11. [Spiced Veggie Rice with Poached Eggs](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/eggs-recipes/spiced-veggie-rice-with-poached-eggs/) Jamie Oliver’s spiced veggie rice is not only cheap and yummy but also a dish you can serve all day. It takes less than an hour to make and is packed with flavour, nutrition, and texture. [![Spiced Veggie Rice with Poached Eggs | low budget meals](https://img.jamieoliver.com/jamieoliver/recipe-database/EBSAaHRmae893v5So8sNQ8.jpg?tr=w-800,h-1066)](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/eggs-recipes/spiced-veggie-rice-with-poached-eggs/) Recipe source: [Jamie Oliver](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/eggs-recipes/spiced-veggie-rice-with-poached-eggs/) ## 12. [Cheesy Ham Broccoli Pasta](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cheesy-ham-broccoli-pasta) This affordable and super easy comfort meal gets a nutrition boost from broccoli florets. If you don’t want to scare away the kids, cut the broccoli into really tiny pieces. [![Cheesy Ham & Broccoli Pasta](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/cheesy-ham-and-broccoli-pasta-a54514e.jpg?quality=90&resize=440,400 "Cheesy ham & broccoli pasta")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cheesy-ham-broccoli-pasta) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/cheesy-ham-broccoli-pasta) ## 13. [One Cup Quiche](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-cup-quiche-recipe/5o3w5pbj) One cup of low-budget meals should be in every mum’s recipe box. Make this easy quiche with pantry staples in no time at all. Throw in your favourite shredded veggies for a healthier dish. [![One-Cup Quiche | low budget meals](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/x_Ah-QEP/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/01/one-cup-quiche-recipe-521500-1.jpg "One-Cup Quiche")](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-cup-quiche-recipe/5o3w5pbj) Recipe source: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-cup-quiche-recipe/5o3w5pbj) ## 14. [Vegetable Soup](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/vegetable-soup-recipe/wct74ja5) Vegetable soup is perfect when the days are cold, and you want something hearty and full of flavour. Serve with chicken or meat or enjoy it on its own. It also makes a great lunchbox soup. [![Vegetable Soup](https://img.kidspot.com.au/RMHl1yiV/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2015/03/3533-500753-1.jpg "Vegetable soup")](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/vegetable-soup-recipe/wct74ja5) Recipe source: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/vegetable-soup-recipe/wct74ja5) ## Really low-budget meals (cont.) ## 15. [Slow Cooker Tater Tot Casserole](https://damndelicious.net/2017/02/25/slow-cooker-tater-tot-casserole/) Let your slow cooker do the heavy lifting with this tater-tot masterpiece! Simply toss in layers of crispy tater tots, seasoned ground beef, and creamy cheese sauce, then set it and forget it. Hours later, you’ll be rewarded with a bubbling hot dish that’s as cozy as it is comforting. It’s the ultimate comfort food with minimal effort—perfect for busy weeknights or lazy Sundays. [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Web-article-images-1.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums")](https://damndelicious.net/2017/02/25/slow-cooker-tater-tot-casserole/) Recipe source: [Damn Delicious](https://damndelicious.net/2017/02/25/slow-cooker-tater-tot-casserole/) ## 16. [Peanut Butter Chicken](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-chicken) Low-budget meals like this peanut butter chicken freeze well and make excellent brown bag lunches. The spice is just right, and the taste is a crowd-pleaser. [![Peanut Butter Chicken](https://images.immediate.co.uk/production/volatile/sites/30/2020/08/peanut-butter-chicken-37f339a.jpg?quality=90&resize=440,400 "Peanut butter chicken")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-chicken) Recipe source: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-chicken) ## 17. [3-Ingredient Pulled Pork](https://www.tablespoon.com/recipes/3-ingredient-pulled-pork/97ce3e03-1178-416c-8073-e1e37987e060) This tasty, low-budget pulled pork recipe requires only three ingredients. It is cooked in the slow cooker for six hours and served on hamburger buns. [![3-Ingredient Pulled Pork | low budget meals](https://images-gmi-pmc.edge-generalmills.com/1d133360-1e81-4824-955c-e534b711778d.jpg)](https://www.tablespoon.com/recipes/3-ingredient-pulled-pork/97ce3e03-1178-416c-8073-e1e37987e060) Recipe source: [Table Spoon](https://www.tablespoon.com/recipes/3-ingredient-pulled-pork/97ce3e03-1178-416c-8073-e1e37987e060) ## 18. [One-Pan Garlic Butter Chicken with Mushrooms](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-pan-garlic-butter-chicken-mushrooms-recipe/qxqs39l9?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) Chicken and mushrooms smothered in butter and garlic? What could be better than that? This low-budget meal will be a guaranteed hit for the whole family. Plus, it takes 30 minutes to prepare and cook! [![One-Pan Garlic Butter Chicken with Mushrooms](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/CZp-fwj7/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/07/one-pan-garlic-butter-chicken-with-mushrooms-952868-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-pan-garlic-butter-chicken-mushrooms-recipe/qxqs39l9?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) Recipe source: [Australia’s Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/one-pan-garlic-butter-chicken-mushrooms-recipe/qxqs39l9?r=budget/hek2k6x4&h=budget) ## 19. [One Pan Greek Risoni Tuna](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pan-greek-risoni-tuna-recipe/hfgtk5oy) Take a break from meat dinners with this easy and healthy one-pan Greek risoni. It comes together in less than an hour with ingredients that you already have in your pantry. [![One-pan Greek Risoni with Tuna | low budget meals](https://img.taste.com.au/TEpuZ7Ix/w720-h480-cfill-q80/taste/2020/04/one-pan-greek-risoni-with-tuna-160577-1.jpg "One-pan Greek risoni with tuna")](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pan-greek-risoni-tuna-recipe/hfgtk5oy) Recipe source: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/one-pan-greek-risoni-tuna-recipe/hfgtk5oy) ## 20. [Cheesy Potato Zucchini Bake](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/cheesy-potato-zucchini-bake-recipe/65axnkf6?r=budget/rrw4mnyd&h=budget) Make low-budget meals like this cheesy potato and bake them healthier with veggies. The three cheese mix perfectly masks the zucchini taste to please picky eaters. [![Cheesy Potato and Zucchini Bake](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/pBUYhUK1/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2019/08/cheesy-potato-zucchini-bake-953771-1.jpg "Cheesy Potato and Zucchini Bake")](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/cheesy-potato-zucchini-bake-recipe/65axnkf6?r=budget/rrw4mnyd&h=budget) Recipe source: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/cheesy-potato-zucchini-bake-recipe/65axnkf6?r=budget/rrw4mnyd&h=budget) ## Summary: Yummy low-budget meals for your family Providing our kids with proper nourishment on a budget can feel like a daunting task. One big hurdle for me is the idea that eating healthy has to cost a lot. Plus, finding the time to plan and cook wholesome meals from scratch isn’t always easy, especially with a busy schedule. Then, there’s the challenge of finding affordable ingredients. Depending on where you live, getting your hands on budget-friendly staples and fresh produce might not be as straightforward. Limited access to affordable groceries can make it tough for families trying to eat well without spending a fortune. And let’s not forget the pressure to make every penny count. Fresh fruits, veggies, and lean meats are sometimes pricier compared to cheaper, processed alternatives. Sometimes, we feel like the only option is to go for cheap, calorie-packed foods that aren’t exactly filled with nutrients. But there are plenty of tricks and tips to help you overcome these challenges. Start with our list of low-budget meals, and use them to whip up scrumptious but nutritious dishes that won’t break the bank. You can also plan meals and buy in bulk to get creative with leftovers. It also helps to explore budget-friendly protein sources like beans and lentils. With a little planning and a lot of love, you can serve up delicious low-budget meals that will nourish both body and soul. Happy cooking! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/meals3.png "meals3 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/low-budget-meals/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/low-budget-meals/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Food **Tags:** budget, food, kitchen, dinner --- ### [4 Mistakes You Need to Avoid When Planning Your Child’s Birthday Party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mistakes-to-avoid-when-planning-your-childs-birthday-party/) **Published:** October 1, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Let’s be real — planning your child’s birthday party can feel a bit like juggling while blindfolded. You’ve got a guest list to manage, food to organise, decorations to hang, and entertainment to line up, all while bracing yourself for the very real possibility of a sugar-fuelled meltdown. It’s exciting, but also exhausting, especially if it’s your first time stepping into the world of kids’ parties. New parents often stumble into the same traps — and honestly, who can blame them? There’s no handbook for throwing the “perfect” birthday party, and trial-and-error is part of the parenting package. That said, learning from other people’s slip-ups can save you a lot of stress (and money). ## 4 Mistakes You Need to Avoid When Planning Your Child’s Birthday Party I’ll never forget the year I decided to invite half my daughter’s class to her birthday party. At the time, I thought I was doing the “right” thing — the more, the merrier, right? But as a single mum trying to juggle food, decorations, and making sure no child was left out, it quickly turned into chaos. Kids were running in all directions. I barely got a chance to sit with my girl, and by the end of the day, both of us were more exhausted than happy. That experience taught me something important: bigger doesn’t always mean better. It’s not about hosting the perfect party with a massive guest list; it’s about creating a space where your child feels celebrated and you can actually enjoy the day too. To make the day smoother, more memorable, and way less overwhelming, here are four mistakes you’ll want to avoid when planning your child’s birthday party. ### Inviting Too Many Guests It’s tempting to invite your child’s entire class, but too many guests can lead to chaos. That said, there is no ‘perfect’ number of guests for a birthday party. Consider the party space capacity and your child’s comfort level when creating a guest list. ![child's birthday party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-vlada-karpovich-7099924-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-vlada-karpovich-7099924 - Beanstalk Mums") But who makes the cut? The best thing you can do is sit down with your child. Figure out who their real friends are and who they want to spend the most time with. Moreover, with too many guests, your child may not truly enjoy the experience. As an over-tired parent, it is easier to manage a birthday party with fewer guests. And disciplining other parents’ children is neither fun for you nor for the kids. In short, fewer children equals less stress. ### Not Having a Budget Children’s birthday parties can cost a fortune. Between buying decorations and arranging party favours, it is easy to get carried away. Always, *always* set a budget and stick to it. Decide how much you can realistically spend and then allocate funds to different categories, such as: - Invitations - Decorations - Food - Entertainment, such as games - Party favors Save money and leverage DIY efforts wherever you can. For instance, you can buy party supplies like balloons, candles, and banners from a [party shop](https://ilovethisshop.com.au/collections/party-decorations-supplies) right after the holidays. Remember, a great party doesn’t have to be expensive — it just needs some creative planning and attention to detail. ### Over-complicating the Activities This is where many parents go wrong. Having fun and engaging activities at your child’s birthday is important (how else are kids going to channel their energies?), but too many structured games can overwhelm young children. Keep activities simple. Some examples include: - Cake decorating - Mask-making station - DIY bracelet booth - Musical chairs - Pass the parcel - [Simon says](https://www.bbc.co.uk/tiny-happy-people/articles/z92thcw) You can also coordinate activities with the theme of the birthday party. For instance, a scavenger hunt-themed birthday party where children look for hidden clues and items is always a hit. In short, make the party about the kids, not their parents. ### Overlooking Safety Considerations If you’re thinking, *How can balloons be harmful?* You are in for a surprise. Following [safety considerations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/plan-memorable-celebrations-using-safe-and-fun-party-essentials/) is important. If you’re using a cylinder or canister for filling helium balloons, make sure it is secured upright and placed in an open, well-ventilated space. Consult with parents about any food allergies or dietary restrictions. And of course, prepare for any emergencies. Keep your phone charged and keep a first-aid kit handy with all the necessary supplies. ## Conclusion: Planning Your Child’s Birthday Party At the end of the day, your child’s birthday party doesn’t need to be picture-perfect — it just needs to be fun, safe, and memorable. By avoiding these common mistakes, you’ll save yourself unnecessary stress and give your little one a celebration they’ll truly enjoy. Keep the guest list manageable, set a realistic budget, plan simple activities, and always keep safety at the forefront of your mind. Remember, kids don’t care if the cake is Instagram-worthy or if the balloons match the theme — they care about having fun with their friends and feeling special. So, if you’re planning your child’s birthday party, focus on what matters most: creating happy memories, not ticking every box. With a little preparation and a flexible mindset, you’ll pull off a celebration that feels joyful instead of stressful — and maybe even get to enjoy it yourself! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mistakes-to-avoid-when-planning-your-childs-birthday-party/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mistakes-to-avoid-when-planning-your-childs-birthday-party/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Birthdays --- ### [Why Your Living Room Never Feels Spacious Enough (And How to Fix It)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-your-living-room-never-feels-spacious-enough-and-how-to-fix-it/) **Published:** September 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You tidy up, rearrange your furniture, maybe even roll out a bigger rug — but somehow your living room still feels cramped. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. For many of us, the living room is the heart of the home — it’s where we curl up with a book, binge a series, or welcome friends for a cuppa. But when the space feels cluttered or boxed in by bulky furniture, it can be hard to truly relax. The good news is you don’t need to knock down walls or pack up and move house to create breathing room. Small, intentional changes can make a big difference. Choosing versatile furniture that adapts to your life — like a [Lifely modular sofa bed](https://lifely.com.au/products/cushie-modular-sofa-bed) — is one of the easiest wins. Add in a few simple layout tweaks, and suddenly your living room feels open, inviting, and ready for both quiet nights and lively gatherings. ## **The Illusion of Space** Often, the problem isn’t square footage, but how the space is used. I realised this when I moved into a place with a decent-sized lounge, yet it always felt cramped. The bulky armchairs I’d held onto for years blocked the windows, and my dark curtains made the room feel even smaller. Once I swapped them for lighter pieces and rearranged the layout, the difference was incredible — suddenly the space felt open and airy. Large, heavy furniture can overwhelm a room, while poor layout blocks natural flow. Even décor choices like dark colours, heavy curtains, or cluttered shelving can make a perfectly decent room feel restricted. Understanding how space works — and how to manipulate it — is the first step to making your living room feel bigger and more inviting. ## **Common Mistakes That Shrink a Room** Here are a few traps many people fall into without realising: - **Oversized sofas and chairs:** They dominate the room and limit movement. - **Too much furniture:** Filling every corner leaves no breathing space. - **Poor lighting:** Dark corners and heavy drapes create a closed-in feel. - **Low-placed or bulky décor:** Items like oversized coffee tables or crowded shelving units add visual weight. Once you spot these mistakes, it’s easier to make changes that free up your space. ![living room](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-vika-glitter-392079-1648776-1191x800.jpg "Pexels-vika-glitter-392079-1648776 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to Create the Feeling of Openness** ### **1. Choose Multi-Functional Furniture** Versatility is key in [smaller living rooms](https://www.bhg.com/decorating/small-spaces/strategies/living-room-ideas/). Modular pieces that can be rearranged or converted free you from rigid layouts. Sofa beds, nesting tables, or ottomans with storage give you flexibility without crowding the room. ### **2. Lighten the Palette** Lighter colours reflect natural light and create the illusion of [more space](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/ "more space"). Soft neutrals on walls and larger furniture pieces, paired with brighter accents, instantly lift a room’s atmosphere. ### **3. Think Vertical** When floor space is limited, use height. Tall shelving units, [wall-mounted lighting](https://nookcollections.com.au/collections/indoor-wall-lights "wall-mounted lighting"), and hanging plants draw the eye upward, making the room feel larger. ### **4. Use Mirrors Strategically** Mirrors bounce light and create the impression of depth. A large mirror opposite a window can double the natural light and make the room feel twice as big. ### **5. Keep Pathways Clear** Even the most stylish living room feels cramped if you have to weave around furniture to cross it. Arrange seating and tables to allow easy flow through the space. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-fotoaibe-1571471-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-fotoaibe-1571471 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Everyday Examples of Smarter Choices** - Hosting friends? A modular sofa can expand for extra seating, then be pulled apart for more room the next day. - Need a guest bed but don’t want to sacrifice space? A sofa bed gives you both without crowding the room. - Too much clutter? [Storage ottomans](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y70rptXa3es) and sleek shelving reduce mess while keeping things accessible. These choices aren’t just about saving space — they’re about making your living room work harder for you. ## **The Role of Lifestyle in Design** Your living room should reflect the way you actually live, not just how a showroom styles it. I learned this the hard way when I bought a beautiful sofa that looked perfect in the store, but completely swallowed up my small lounge. Hosting friends felt awkward, and quiet nights in were anything but relaxing. Once I swapped it for a more versatile piece, the whole space opened up and finally felt like mine. If you often host gatherings, seating and flow matter most. If you love quiet nights in, comfort and flexibility will be your priority. The right furniture adapts to your lifestyle, not the other way around. ## **A More Spacious Future** Making your living room feel larger doesn’t always require major renovations or a complete makeover. In fact, it’s often the small, thoughtful changes that have the biggest impact. By avoiding common mistakes — like overcrowding with oversized furniture or overlooking smart storage — and instead choosing versatile, space-smart pieces, you can breathe new life into even the most cramped lounge. Think of your living room as more than just a place to sit; it’s the hub of your home, where you relax, recharge, and connect with the people who matter most. With furniture that adapts to your needs, such as a modular sofa bed, you’ll find the room becomes more flexible, more welcoming, and far easier to enjoy. With just a little planning and the right choices, your living room can finally transform into the comfortable, adaptable, and uncluttered space you’ve always imagined. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-your-living-room-never-feels-spacious-enough-and-how-to-fix-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-your-living-room-never-feels-spacious-enough-and-how-to-fix-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Beginners DIY: 6 Tips if you're new to home improvement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/) **Published:** February 20, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Let’s face it, starting out with beginners DIY can be a bit intimidating, especially for those of us who haven’t spent a lot of time with power tools. I mean, who hasn’t had nightmares about accidentally drilling a hole in their hand instead of the wall? No? Just me? But fear not, ladies! DIY is a great way to tap into your inner creativity and take charge of your living space. Plus, let’s be real, sometimes we just want to show off that we too can fix things. And let’s not forget the satisfaction that comes with completing a DIY project. It’s definitely worthy of a tiny victory dance every time you walk by that newly painted room or perfectly hung picture. Now, I know what you’re thinking: > *“But what if I mess it up?”* Don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world. Worst case scenario, you’ll have a funny story to tell at your next girls’ night. So, grab your hammer, your measuring tape, and your best power tool puns (because let’s be honest, there are many), and let’s get to work! Here are 6 beginners DIY tips if you’re new to home improvement. ## Beginners DIY: 6 Tips if you’re new to home improvement ### 1. Start small and work your way up It’s important to not bite off more than you can chew. Start with a small project like repainting a room or replacing a light fixture. This will help build your confidence and allow you to learn the basics before moving onto more complex projects. Plus, there’s nothing more satisfying than completing a DIY project and seeing the results of your hard work! ### 2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help It’s okay to not know everything, especially when it comes to beginners DIY. When you’re just starting out, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Whether it’s from a friend or a professional, seeking guidance can save you time, money, and potential mistakes. Besides, who doesn’t love a little company and a good laugh while working on a project? ### 3. Invest in the right tools for beginners DIY There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to complete a project with the wrong tools. As a beginner, you don’t need to buy every tool on the shelf, but investing in the right ones can make all the difference. A few essential tools to start with are a hammer, screwdriver set, pliers, tape measure, and level. As you tackle more projects, you can slowly build up your tool collection. ***Further reading: [What to put in your tool box if you’ve never had one before.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-to-put-in-your-tool-box/)*** ### 4. Do your research and plan ahead Before starting any project, make sure you do your research and plan ahead. This will help prevent mistakes and make the project go smoother. Watch some tutorials or read DIY blogs for inspiration and step-by-step instructions. Make a list of materials you’ll need and set a realistic timeline for completion. And remember, it’s always better to overestimate how long a project will take than to underestimate and feel rushed. ### 5. Don’t be afraid to get creative DIY is all about creativity and putting your own spin on things. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box and personalise your projects. If you’re painting a room, consider adding an accent wall or stencilling a design. If you’re building a piece of furniture, try using unique materials or adding a pop of colour. The sky’s the limit when it comes to DIY! ### 6. Have fun and don’t take yourself too seriously Last but not least, have fun and don’t take yourself too seriously. DIY can be frustrating at times, but it’s important to remember that mistakes happen and it’s all part of the learning process. Laugh at yourself, enjoy the journey, and don’t forget to celebrate your victories (no matter how small they may be). After all, there’s nothing more empowering than being able to say “I did that!” ## FINAL WORDS ABOUT BEGINNERS DIY In conclusion, household DIY doesn’t have to be scary, and women can absolutely rock it! With these six tips and a little bit of humour, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a DIY diva. Start small, invest in the right tools, and don’t be afraid to get creative. Remember to plan ahead, ask for help when needed, and most importantly, have fun! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** home improvement, diy, do it yourself, renovation, home repairs --- ### [What is Effective Family Dispute Resolution and Mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/family-dispute-resolution-and-mediation/) **Published:** May 30, 2024 **Author:** Dianne Loveday **Content:** **Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)** is a form of Alternative Dispute Resolution (mediation). Mediation is used at all levels of society to resolve conflict and disputes. You may have heard of The Dispute Settlement Centre, for example, which helps people resolve issues arising from neighbourhood disagreements for example. The goal of FDR, however, is to help separating couples reach their agreements in relation to family law matters without using the family law court system. FDR is conducted by Family Dispute Resolution practitioners (FDRPs), who are accredited mediators specialising in Family Law. Many also have tertiary qualifications in complementary disciplines, such as psychology or law, or have experience working in the Justice System. Practitioners are registered with the Attorney General’s Office of Australia. In addition, many experienced practitioners have undertaken specialist postgraduate training in Conflict Management and Early Childhood Development and are accredited via the National Mediator Accreditation System – NMAS. The Federal Circuit and Family Courts of Australia require separating couples to go to family dispute resolution prior to initiating court proceedings in both children’s and financial matters. FDR enables separating couples to engage in a process that provides a practical, non-adversarial approach to resolving Family Law disputes. This can include, but is not limited to, parenting arrangements (custody) for children and financial and property settlements. Formalising a separation agreement, resolving a will or estate dispute or any family law issue that would benefit from neutral third-party facilitation of the negotiations. In the family dispute resolution process, the FDR Mediator assumes a crucial role. They act as a neutral, impartial third party, not representing either client in the dispute. However, they are required to actively advocate for the best interests of any children impacted by the separation. It’s important to note that FDRPs do not give legal advice, take sides, make rulings, or determine the outcome of the dispute. They can facilitate discussions, provide information and offer alternative solutions to parenting arrangements and other family law matters. In addition to providing information, they also provide support and guidance. Assisting the parties in negotiating and communicating with each other more effectively. The ultimate goal is to foster a healthy co-parenting relationship, ensuring the best possible outcome for all parties involved, especially the children of the relationship. ## Use family dispute resolution. FDR is a process based on non-adversarial communication and negotiation. It aims to help parties reach an agreement without the need for court intervention and often with minimal input from solicitors. It involves specific methods and techniques designed to facilitate productive discussions and constructive problem-solving. These may include active listening, reframing issues, managing emotions, exploring underlying interests, and generating creative solutions. FDR practitioners are trained mediators who guide the process, taking the place of two solicitors and helping parties identify their common goals and interests. This may involve overcoming emotional difficulties and shifting the motivation to move forward using a child-focused, non-adversarial lens. The aim of family dispute resolution is to explore all the available options and encourage the parties to focus on ways to achieve their desired goals without going to court. In FDR, the process is designed for clients, not the court system or lawyers. The mediator provides support and information about the Australian Family Law Act. This way each party can make informed decisions about their concerns and issues. The goal is to reach an agreement that is acceptable to both sides, and that complies with the Family Law Act. ![Unhappy couple prior to FDR mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/10.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog article advice - Beanstalk Mums") The mediator encourages each party to state their point of view in a safe and managed way. They further provide information and guidance so that each party has the tools needed to have those conversations. FDRPs do not act as Judges, and they make no rulings; instead, they encourage the parties to make their own agreements. Agreements reached in this way are more likely to be adhered to. At [Bayside Mediation](https://baysidemediation.com.au/about-us/), we provide a safe, supported space at our family relationship centre. Here, separating couples can have difficult conversations. Those conversations can also be managed via videoconferencing or shuttle mediation, where the parties are in separate rooms. Importantly, Family Dispute Resolution is entirely confidential. Thus, it is an opportunity to have your story heard without the worry of having the information weaponised against you in any way. FDR is also offered through family relationship centres and can also include discussions on legal aid options for those who qualify. FDR mediators are also impartial and do not take sides. Taking sides is what lawyers are required to do; FDR is a non-adversarial option. However, in accordance with the recent changes to the Family Law Act, we are required to advocate for the best interests of the children in the relationship. An important exception to confidentiality is any admissions made relating to children being at risk. It is important to know we’re mandatory reporters. With this exception, nothing said in Family Dispute Resolution can be used as evidence in court. ## Your family resolution practitioner: The Attorney General’s Department once required that only those people who had a prerequisite degree in either law, psychology or social work were eligible to receive a Graduate Diploma in Family Dispute Resolution. These days, there is no such requirement. As such there are many FDR practitioners currently practising who do not have a tertiary qualification. All the practitioners at [Bayside Mediation](https://baysidemediation.com.au/about-us/) have tertiary qualifications. Ensuring that you are being guided through this challenging life transition by an accredited Family Dispute Resolution practitioner with the qualifications and life skills needed to be effective and to help. It is important to reiterate that an FDR practitioner is an independent person who helps parties come to an agreement. This individual is trained to facilitate communication and assist in resolving disputes in a fair and impartial manner. The FDR practitioner does not take sides or make decisions for the people involved. Instead, he/she supports them in finding their own mutually acceptable solutions. ## Cost of family dispute resolution: 1\. There are three primary providers of Family Dispute Resolution Services: government-funded providers, lawyers/barristers, and private practitioners. The government-funded services charge a sliding scale depending on the client’s income, and these fees can range from $0 to approximately $300 per hour. Lawyers/barristers often charge their usual fee, and private FDR mediators generally charge an hourly fee per client. 2\. Family dispute resolution is charged to both clients, i.e., an amount per hour per client, even when you are both present. 3\. Private practitioner fees vary depending on the skill level, qualifications, and experience of the FDR Mediator 4\. Non-lawyer FDR Mediators generally charge considerably less than lawyers, even those lawyers acting in the capacity of a mediator. It is generally accepted that family dispute resolution will cost clients many thousands of dollars less than engaging a solicitor or going to Court. 5\. Private family dispute resolution will generally conclude a matter within weeks. Whereas engaging a government organisation or solicitors can mean a matter will take months and, in many cases, years to conclude. 6\. There is also the emotional cost of not meditating. Months or years of fighting your former partner in court can take a heavy toll on you and your children. This is why many opt to try family dispute resolution first. ![Reach agreement through FDR mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/9.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog article advice - Beanstalk Mums") ## How family dispute resolution works. 1. Family dispute resolution is confidential. Your FDR Mediator cannot discuss any part of your story with anyone without your permission. This includes your solicitor, your former partner, or the tax department. 2. FDR Mediators cannot be called to give evidence on your behalf and do not advocate for you. 3. Your FDR mediator is impartial. Even though one party to the dispute initiates family dispute resolution, the FDR mediator does not act for either party. 4. FDR Mediators are required by law to act in the best interest of any children in the relationship. 5. The FDR mediator issues the 60(I) Certificate, which allows a matter to proceed to Court. 6. The FDR mediator will indicate on the 60(I) certificate whether both parties made a genuine effort to resolve the dispute. If one party refuses to attend family dispute resolution, a cost order is to be made on the non-compliant party. 7. The Family Law Act provides for costs to be awarded if a person does not make a genuine effort or refuses to attend. 8. Any document produced through family dispute resolution can be formalised into a Binding Financial Agreement or Consent Orders. 9. A signed recent Parenting Plan may overrule an existing Court Order in some circumstances and can be used to amend or review existing orders. 10. Such a plan may also be produced as evidence in court and relied upon as the basis for future orders, including parenting orders. 11. Any information (other than the Parenting Plan) obtained through family dispute resolution cannot be used in Court proceedings. 12. Clients are legally required to attend Family Dispute Resolution, and a letter can be provided for employers. 13. Clients with existing Intervention Orders (in Victoria) can generally attend family dispute resolution ## What happens after dispute resolution After a Parenting Plan has been negotiated through mediation, it is important for all parties involved to continue communicating and working towards rebuilding trust and understanding. Establishing clear boundaries and guidelines for future conflicts and developing a plan for how to address any future disagreements in a respectful and constructive manner may be helpful. This may include scheduling a review of your existing Parenting Plan; family mediation is not a once-off process. FDR can be an ongoing part of your family’s dispute-resolution process. It may also be beneficial to seek ongoing support or family counselling to help process any lingering emotions or to address any underlying issues that may have contributed to the dispute. It is important to remember that conflicts are a normal part of family dynamics. By learning how to effectively address and resolve them, relationships can be strengthened, and family bonds can be preserved. If your agreement concerns a financial settlement, it will need to be accepted and formalised by the FCFCOA to be made legally binding. There are two ways to formalise an agreement reached regarding financial matters: Consent Orders or a Binding Financial Agreement. Your FDR mediator will be able to guide you as to which process is best for you. ## What if family dispute resolution is unsuccessful When family dispute resolution doesn’t yield a satisfactory resolution, your dispute resolution practitioner can give you a 60(I) certificate. This certificate enables you to initiate court proceedings in the Federal Circuit and Family Courts of Australia. However, there are other options available to families to try and resolve their disputes without going through the court process. This can include seeking support from family relationships online resources and contacting the family relationship advice line. Or attending parenting and or family violence training and support groups. You can also try Family Group Conferencing and Parental Coordination. For **Aboriginal and Torres strait islander** families, a specific type of mediation may be required, such as Group Family Conferencing. It’s important to explore all avenues before resorting to litigation. For families experiencing **domestic and family violence**, it’s crucial to seek support from specialised services to ensure everyone’s safety and well-being. Most states allow for mediation under the Family Law Act to help parents resolve parenting contact issues. Even where a Family Violence Order or Domestic Violence Order has been issued. In the state of Victoria, a mediated parenting plan can override child access restrictions listed on an IVO (Intervention Order). It’s important to remember that dispute resolution may not always be successful. Yet, there is an obligation to try FDR before taking your matter to court. It is your FDR mediator who is required by law to determine if it is suitable or not. ## Dispute resolution is not appropriate when Family Dispute Resolution, or any form of negotiation, may not be suitable in matters involving extreme family violence. To what extent it is not suitable, it is often at the discretion of the party involved, in consultation with your mediator. FDR mediators are required to provide a safe and managed space for separated couples to conduct difficult conversations. If the space or type of mediation offered is what a person needs to feel safe and supported. Eg. such as video conferencing or shuttle mediation. Then, it can proceed. However, it may not be appropriate when there are mental health issues or any situation where a person is not in a position to make informed decisions. Your mediator will conduct a comprehensive intake interview with both parties. Then, help determine if it is suitable or not at the beginning of the FDR service. ## Find a family dispute resolution practitioner. If you wish to speak to a qualified FDR mediator about your situation. Or would like to obtain information about family dispute resolution, please do not hesitate to phone Bayside Mediation on 03 9553 6491. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/family-dispute-resolution-and-mediation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/family-dispute-resolution-and-mediation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life **Tags:** separation and divorce, mediation, how to prepare for mediation, FDRP, Bayside Mediation --- ### [How to get your confidence back in bed (even if it’s been a while)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/get-confidence-back-in-bed/) **Published:** January 27, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you need to get your confidence back in bed? So you’ve found a man and you’re ready to take things to the next level. Whoo hoo, good for you. But it’s been such a long time since you last had sex, especially with someone new who you really want to impress. Perhaps you’ve put on a few pounds or are feeling old. Maybe you’re seriously wondering if [it’s all still working down there](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/its-been-so-long-since-the-last-time-is-it-all-still-working-down-there/). Well, I am here to tell you that you are one sexy mumma. Having sex is a bit like riding a bike, you never forget. And once the pedals are turning and you feel the cool wind in your hair, you’ll wonder why you waited so long. **Note:** In case you are wondering how I know this: I went 12 long, dry years without so much as sexy smooch. I honestly thought I’d never have a sex again, had forgotten what it felt like and didn’t really care. Then, I met my sexy someone who provocatively prized open my dormant desirability, and bang, I was back in the game again. This could be you! So, to get you from ‘turn off the lights and wait till I’m under the covers’ to ‘let’s try a new position’, here are my tips to get your confidence back in bed. ## How to get your confidence back in bed ## Don’t compare: You are beautiful This is a really important first step to get your confidence back in bed. Stop worrying if you measure up. Focus on yourself and the wonderful person you are. Here are two facts you need to know. - You will never be like the women you see on TV/social media etc. They are caked in make-up, airbrushed or filtered. - You will never be like your younger self. But that’s ok. Older means more self-aware, experienced and super-sexy. In fact, many women believe [sex as they get older](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sex-over-40-just-gets-better-and-better-heres-why/) is the best it’s ever been. ## Make sure you are totally relaxed If there is one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the key to getting a woman’s confidence back in bed begins with creating a cozy atmosphere. To make you and your man at ease, choose a familiar setting, be it your own space or his. If possible, wait until the kids are fast asleep or are not at home. I know it’s been a while already, but don’t rush things and just go with the flow. A glass of wine can help set the tone and make both of you feel relaxed. You can also listen to some romantic songs for a sexier mood. Just remember not to drink too much, you don’t want to get all sleepy before the excitement even starts! Avoid overthinking – just embrace the moment and let your inner sex goddess unfold naturally. ## Get some sexy undies to get your confidence back in bed If you’ve been in mum mode for the last few years and living in Target bras (not knocking, love my Target bras) you’ll be amazed at the difference some [sexy underwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-sexy-underwear-online-discounts/) makes. Don’t stress if you feel a little bashful, you can buy online, there is so much choice and it doesn’t have to cost the earth. Your man will love you for it and will be turned on that you’ve made the effort for him. Sexy underwear will make you feel like a million dollars, which btw, you are. [![Get your confidence back in bed | Sexy undies](https://d3f650ayx9w00n.cloudfront.net/940/66830-000.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d36208)Stockist: [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d36208) ## Remember: He chose you If you find yourself lacking in confidence any time before, during or after you have sex with your new partner, remember this: HE CHOSE YOU. He wants to get intimate with YOU. He wants to take things to the next level with YOU. You are enough. You are what he wants. Enjoy feeling special and wanted. It will make you feel all the sexier. Remember this if you are struggling to get your confidence back in bed. ## It could be your last hoorah If you’re at the crossroads of menopause, consider this a golden opportunity. This could be your last chance to savour uninhibited intimacy, so why not make it unforgettable? I’m not telling you to do positions that your body can no longer handle – you will only end up with excruciating body pain the next morning. I know that our bodies can no longer perform the way they used to, we all still have a few kinky moves up our sleeves. So don’t be shy to kick it up a notch. If you ask me though, being at “that” age doesn’t have to signal the end of your sex life. Don’t let the potential changes in libido during menopause be a roadblock. Age is just a number, and you are still as sexy as you were 20 years ago. ## Go sex toy shopping You don’t have to go it alone in the bedroom. Grab yourself a few sex toys to enhance the experience for both of you. If nothing else, they will give you a giggle and lighten the mood. A good idea is to keep them hidden unless needed. It might be too soon to produce a life-like 9-inch dildo, but they will come in useful further down the line if you need to liven things up a bit, or you want to [have some sexy fun by yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/). [![Fifty Shades Of Grey Handcuffs](https://atmsc.azureedge.net/prod-five/175348_0.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fbrand%2ffifty-shades-of-grey%2ffifty-shades-of-grey-totally-his-handcuffs%2f175348%2f422%2f) 5o Shades of Grey Handcuffs: Stockist: [The Adult Megastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fbrand%2ffifty-shades-of-grey%2ffifty-shades-of-grey-totally-his-handcuffs%2f175348%2f422%2f) ## Show him what you like Now this is important and a mistake we all make … You might be so desperate to set a good first impression that you forget to get pleasure from the experience. Never forget that sex is about pleasure for BOTH. Your man will love it if you have the confidence to show him what you like, and it will make his job much easier! Be the woman in control, the woman who knows her body, her sexuality and what she likes. Honestly, BIG turn-on for a guy … and of course you’ll be completely satisfied. ## Give yourself self-pleasure In other words, masturbate. You may be surprised to know that masturbation actually makes you better at sex, which will help you get your confidence back in bed. The reason for this is because it teaches you what you like and don’t like, improves sexual awareness, as well as making you feel more comfortable in your own skin. Plus, frequent masturbation reduces the risk of infection, which is common if you are having sex for the first time in a while. ***Not convinced yet? Read this: [The positive impacts of using a vibrator.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/using-a-vibrator/)*** You can get a myriad of vibrators online, from the crazy to the discreet. Shops such as [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2f) and [adultshop.com](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34726?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.adultshop.com.au%2f%3fgclid%3dCj0KCQjwxYLoBRCxARIsAEf16-v6z6y8n_aVwIHAz3_tM_Zdfzgk1_BbYzzwG1C1xzcou_7Mw4G1F5caAn-tEALw_wcB) have everything you need, and then some. Enjoy! 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This is a proven method to boost your confidence back in bed. Sex is as natural as the sunrise, and you, my friend, are not an exemption. You are a woman with needs and desires, and you have the right to revel in sexual pleasure whenever you want to. I know how easy it is to slip into the dedicated single mum role that we forget about our needs as a woman (I’ve been there). There was a time when I was too busy with juggling work and raising my kids so I didn’t have time to date. But once I jumped back into the ocean, I felt more alive! ## Practice makes perfect People always talk about that ‘incredible first time’. But in reality, the first time can be a little clunky and disjointed. You might both be nervous and unsure of each other. It takes time to get to know each other’s bodies and what you both like. The truth is that sex can get better and better with the same person as you bond and learn about each other. Knowing another person intimately on a sexual level is an incredible feeling and one that you deserve. ## Summary: How to get your confidence back in bed (even if it’s been a while) That truth here is that getting your confidence back in bed goes a long way. The benefits of a happy sex life do not end in the bedroom, they also result in a harmonious and successful relationship … as well as improved mental and physical health. I know you have been wearing that mum cape for a long time, but as Justin Timberlake said, it’s about damn time you bring your sexy back! So what if it’s been a while? My tips above will help you get your groove back. Even I, consult this list for tips now and then. Remember, it’s not only you who feels awkward after years of not having sex. Every woman (single mum or not) experiences this at least once in her lifetime. So don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Also, don’t just focus on getting your man satisfied, make sure you enjoy yourself, too! Now, time to check out that sexy lingerie that’s been in your shopping cart for ages. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/get-confidence-back-in-bed/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/get-confidence-back-in-bed/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** sex, self love, sex toys, sexual confidence, bedsheets, masturbation, lingerie, underwear --- ### [12 Essential (and unusual) steps to survive a relationship breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/) **Published:** December 4, 2023 **Author:** Leah Sheppard **Content:** Words can’t adequately express the pain of a relationship breakup with someone you love, especially when that loved one chooses to leave. Some of the uncomfortable emotions include: - Pain - Regret - Anger - Grief - Disappointment - Shame There’s a gaping hole in your stomach at the thought of [being alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) again, not to mention the fear that it may be forever. Of course, during all the turmoil, the one person you would normally go to for support, is the one that caused it in the first place. When your emotions are in survival-mode, it’s hard to know how to make it better because you need to heal … not only for yourself, but for your little ones, especially if they had become attached to your partner. For this reason, making the right moves towards your recovery will help clear the emotional fog and give you the strength to power on through. My essential (possibly unusual suggestions) will give you clarity and confidence in your journey back to empowerment, following a relationship breakup. ## How to get through your breakup ## 1. Isolate the ‘breakup’ wound We’d all love to do a 3-month ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ getaway, or move out to a new pad but the reality is we don’t always have the time, money and support to escape our situation; especially when our finances may have just halved! Instead, look to *create* a safe environment wherever you are, and treat your breakup like you would a physical injury. Put yourself in a physically and emotionally safe environment that will allow you to recover better and surround yourself with positive energy and people. This is vitally important and allows for time and space to get our thoughts in line for what to do next. This stage may also mean seeking professional medical or psychological help, and by all means, follow this up if you feel you need it. Your GP might not be your first port of call after a breakup, but they can refer you to someone and, in some cases, offer a mental health plan. ## 2. Try hypnotherapy to reframe your mindset Hypnotherapy is a method that uses repetitive words and mental images to help you get into a state of deep relaxation and improve your focus. All of these must be done by a trained professional, of course. With all the stress you’re dealing with while trying to get on with your life, think of every session as a mental spa day. I know how the journey post-divorce can be a rollercoaster. With hypnotherapy, you can find inner peace and build a positive mindset. If you’re willing to try it, you can look for a hypnotherapist or certified hypnotist near you or ask your friends. ## 3. Build a breakup garden If you have no idea what a breakup garden is and this is the first time hearing (or reading) about one, let me tell you: A breakup garden is a patch of plant paradise that helps you through the post-breakup chaos. To make one, just grab some flowers and plants that can bounce back from anything, toss in some rocks (symbolising the hurdles you’ll conquer), and paint it with colours that scream ‘I’m thriving!’ Water it with love, and voila, you’ve got a living, breathing breakup survival kit. Don’t worry if you don’t have an actual garden. You can make a mini breakup garden in a pot on your windowsill or anywhere with lots of natural light in your house. Taking care of my little green babies and witnessing them bloom into gorgeous flowers helped me forget about my heartaches. Nurturing them kept me busy. Whenever I am in my garden, I’m in my sanctuary. It was like I was rebuilding myself through those tiny seeds. It wasn’t easy, though. There were times when I either put too much water or forgot to water them. But these obstacles made me push myself to do better because I know those plants are relying on me. So even if you haven’t tried building a garden before, with the right mindset, you can do it too! ## 4. Do not get into the habit of stalking your ex You want to know how your ex is doing – that’s totally normal after a relationship breakup. But that doesn’t mean you have to do something about it. So stop those fingers from checking his social media account! Because if you do this and things get nasty, it will only add to your problems. Stalking can put you in jail. Nope, I’m not kidding. What you thought were harmless messages can be used as pieces of evidence for harassment, even if it’s just online. Trust me, telling the law enforcement officers (and your furious mum) how you got there will be the worst embarrassment of your life. Whenever you get the urge to stalk your ex, distract yourself. Go to your breakup garden and divert your attention to your plants, or go out for a walk with some uplifting music blasting through the headphones. It will take a lot of willpower, but it is one of the most important (and sometimes hardest) rules to follow after a breakup. ***Further reading: [5 Good reasons not to stalk your ex.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/5-reasons-not-stalk-ex/)*** ## 5. Engage in laughter therapy Laughter is the best medicine – I know, too cliche, but it’s true! Allowing yourself to enjoy a good laugh (or two) while going through a relationship breakup helps! It’s an antidote that has been tried and tested by yours truly. Thankfully, I have a great best friend who is an expert in making me laugh. She would say negative things about my ex (in a funny manner, of course), and I would instantly feel better. I know I can’t always rely on my buddies, though. So I add as many funny and feel-good movies to my Netflix watchlist and play them whenever I feel down. Sometimes, when the flick is not PG-13, I ask my kid to watch with me, which makes it even better! ## 6. Take stock of what you’ve got (practice gratitude) We’ve all seen a glittery ‘Gratitude’ plastered on mugs and calendars, but it’s hard to see the value in the word when we’re in a lot of pain. Yes, it is about being thankful for what you have, but the essence of the word goes a lot deeper. From a psychological point of view, ‘Gratitude’ is about resources, and letting that ‘fight or flight’ part of your brain know that you have enough to survive on. Acknowledging your resources, and knowing that you have air, shelter, family, and money, helps your brain not to panic and allows you to think from a position of strength, not scarcity. ## 7. Create a breakup capsule Who said only teenagers can bury time capsules under a special tree? You can, too! Creating one is a simple yet effective way to heal after a relationship breakup. After we separated, I gathered mementos from the relationship and put them inside a box. Putting together significant stuff from all those years made me laugh and cry. And as I sealed the box, it also felt like I was officially cutting myself from all my connections to him. I did not bury the box (I didn’t own a shovel at the time, lol), but kept it with other boxes in the basement. I promised not to open it until I’d moved on. Fast forward a few years later, opening it was a funny and heartwarming reminder of how much I’d grown and survived the breakup rollercoaster. ## 8. Get new bedding! Now here’s a fun but meditative way to survive a relationship breakup – shopping for new decor or bedding (particularly the bedding). This is especially handy if seeing your bed keeps reminding you of the sexual shenanigans you had with your ex. Take this opportunity to redecorate the house (or just your bedroom) and eliminate all the bad jujus that he-who-must-not-be-named left. You can also rearrange the furniture and paint the walls with a new shade. If you want to do some serious rearranging, check out feng shui websites and social media accounts. You want everything facing the right direction for healing, moving on and ideally forgetting the name of your ex within a month. ## 9. Release emotions safely Talking about our feelings is key to our recovery, but HOW we do that is incredibly important. We often think that offloading to every friend for hours on end, or posting (READ: ‘Ranting’) on Facebook will make it better, but it’s just venting without recovery. What you are feeling is genuine pain, and what you need to do is find a genuine avenue to release it. Finding a psychologist or coach is ideal as they have the right tools and practices to help. Friends and family can also help in these situations provided you talk to someone who is open to helping and understands the depth and repetition that’s required to be an active listener. ## 10. Buckle up for the turbulence of your relationship breakup There will be days when you feel sad; when you feel amazing; when you miss your ex, and perhaps days when you’ll want to run them over. Such is the life cycle of the neurochemicals coursing through your brain after a breakup as the oldest part of your brain tries to make sense of tragedy. Understand that during these first few weeks your mind will feel all over the place, but with the right ‘infrastructure’ in place, you’ll be able to navigate it better. Among other coaching tools, [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) and [mantras](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) are actually really great ways to help get your mind right. Like walking over the same track on a field of grass, meditating & mantras help reinforce positive thinking in your brain pathways making them stronger. They also help calm the stress hormone ([cortisol](https://www.yourhormones.info/hormones/cortisol/)) to make you feel better and think clearly. ## 11. Have a breakup party Your breakup party doesn’t need to be extravagant, as long as the most significant people in your life are there. If you’re worried about the budget, you don’t have to splurge for this. You can just prepare a simple dinner at home and invite your closest friends and family. Some of them might even chip in! This is not just any party, but it will also mark the end of a chapter in your life. Think of it as a celebration of your new found freedom. You can even have theme for the party – “To new beginnings,” or “Single ladies rule!” You could go crazy and set up a karaoke machine and get ready to belt out “Since You’ve Been Gone.” This event will not only show your ex that you’re doing fine, but it’s also a way for you to get closure officially. Plus, it’s a great way of letting your friends know you are back in action and available for any social events they organise in the future. ***Further reading: [Should I have a divorce party?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/should-i-have-divorce-party/)*** ## 12. Time doesn’t heal; Practice does! It’s all very well thinking about these ideals, but unless we put them into practice they don’t provide any benefit. Most people think that as long as enough time goes past, we won’t feel like this any more – it’s only half true. The reason we don’t feel pain from the past is that the neurochemicals that caused it are no longer there, and the best way to get rid of them is to deal with them. Get yourself safe, release what you’re feeling, take stock of what you already have, and deal with the emotions as they come. Rinse and repeat for as long as you need to, and along with the right support, you’ll feel better in no time. ## Summary: How to survive a relationship breakup Going through a relationship breakup can be a challenging and emotionally taxing experience. But there are essential steps that can help you survive and become stronger on the other side. Yes, some may be a little unusual but, believe me, they work! They helped me get through the darkest moments of my breakup journey. My personal favourite was the breakup garden. It was more of a “dirt therapy,” but despite the mess, gardening was a super effective way to keep my mind off “unnecessary thoughts.” You don’t have to do them all at once, though. You can try one step at a time. Choose which one you think is the easiest and start from there. The most important thing is to have fun while doing them. Just enjoy yourself and you won’t even know you finished one step already! Remember, allowing yourself to feel the pain and process your emotions is crucial. Aside from doing the steps above, you may also need to seek support from friends and family or professional help. Focus on [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) and self-compassion can help you heal and regain control over your life. As horrible as a relationship breakup is, try to learn from the experience and use it as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. By following these essential steps, you can survive a breakup and emerge from it as a stronger and more resilient person. ***Further reading: [7 Reasons why it’s fabulous to be single.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/fabulous-to-be-single/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** breakup, relationship, being dumped --- ### [I love you, I want to be with you, but I can't share a bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/cant-share-a-bed/) **Published:** October 19, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I’ve been married. I’m divorced. And I’m lucky enough to have fallen in love again. I love the guy. I really do. But, however hard I try, I can’t share a bed with him. It’s a taboo topic. Surely, if you’re bang in love (and banging), sharing a bed is normal. And if you don’t, your relationship must be flawed. Yet, I know I’m not alone … well, apart from when I’m in bed at night which I absolutely love. There are lots of women who have found Mr Right. They are committed couples. Some even married. But they have separate bedrooms. At the very least, separate beds. And I get it! In this article, I talk about: - Reasons couples might choose to sleep separately - Why it doesn’t mean they’re not committed (quite the opposite actually) - How sleeping separately can help a relationship - How to broach the topic if you can’t share a bed with your partner ## Reasons couples might choose to sleep separately Every relationship is unique and we all have personal (sometimes strange) sleeping habits. For this reason, there are heaps of reasons couples might choose to sleep separately. Below are ten good reasons that come to mind when I think of sharing my bed. But the truth is, you don’t need a reason. If sleeping together as a couple doesn’t work for you, don’t do it. It doesn’t mean you don’t love one another and don’t have a great sex life. It just means you don’t want to lie comatose in a three-metre square space for eight hours and wake up breathing dog breath on one another. ### I’m so over sharing my bed I’ve been a party animal and shared beds with unknowns. I’ve been married and shared a bed with my husband. I’ve been a single mum and my kids decided that, you guessed it, they would share my bed with me. Surely, at this point in my life, I am entitled to have a bed all to myself? I am a veteran bed sharer. Now retired. ### He snores, you snore, I snore (do I?!) This comes up on our [FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) *a lot.* It has to be the main reason couples choose to sleep apart. Have you noticed that snoring wasn’t a problem in our younger years, but it is now? There’s a reason for that. It is because as we age, our tongues and airway muscles weaken, which can cause snoring. If you have a snoring partner, I don’t have to tell you how annoying it is. But it’s not just irritating. According to [The Sleep Foundation](https://snoremd.com.au/21-facts-about-snoring/#:~:text=Over%20time%2C%20snorers%20are%20at,itself%20can%20also%20cause%20obesity.): *“95% of snorers disrupt their partner’s sleep. The average snorer’s partner loses more than an hour of sleep every night. This illustrates that snoring is not just a problem for the snorer but for others as well – and the implications include negative impacts on their focus, mood, performance, libido, and general health, not to mention causing resentment and conflict within the relationship.”* Enough said. ### The fart issue Alongside snoring comes the flatulence. Dear lord! And it’s not just him. As I approach 50, I already have my fair share of bloating. The last thing I want is to hold in gas and allow extra air to be stored in my intestines and stomach. It needs to come out. I guess I’m just more comfortable expending excess air alone, while avoiding the firing line of others. ### He hogs the covers Couples who sleep separately have the luxury of hogging the bed covers without reprimand. I don’t want to wake in the night with a 5-square-inch piece of cover to warm my ever-increasing size. Neither do I want to wake up in the morning to my partner complaining that I hogged the covers (of course, I never do). I’m with the Germans here who have two doonas (duvets). So one each, even when sharing a bed. ### I’m menopausal and bloody hot Let’s talk about menopausal night sweats (which also happen during perimenopause). Night sweats can occur for many years; you will want to be alone when they do. Body heat from a human in close proximity is no friend to hot flashes. When night sweats hit, I throw off the covers, turn on the fan, grab an ice pack from the freezer, and moan for a bit. All of which is more comfortably done alone. ***Further reading: [What menopause symptoms can be treated with supplements?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-menopause-symptoms/)*** ### My kids are in the other room If you have re-partnered while your (or his) kids are still young, you might also have little people sleeping in the house. I can’t share a bed with another man in this situation. It can confuse the kids, and you never know when you might be disturbed. Or, as often happens, have another body in the bed. It just never felt right and I would insist on sleeping separately. ### We have different schedules My current partner starts work at 6am, meaning he gets up at 4.30am, eeck. Whereas I stagger to my work-from-home desk at about 9am. The difference in these morning start times affects going to bed as well. He goes to bed early. I go to bed late. This means we have no quality time in bed. We literally sleep there together. For this reason, there is little to lose if we choose to sleep apart. ### I’m a light sleeper I remember the days I’d sleep anywhere. Not so anymore. I need all the stars to align for a good night’s sleep. Complete darkness, absolute silence, the perfect temperate, the right headspace, and the pillows positioned just so. We light sleepers can’t share a bed in case we upset the balance. ***Further reading: [7 Secrets for a damn good nights sleep.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/)*** ### I don’t feel sexy in my curlers and hairnet Once I’ve slathered on my night cream and put in my mouthguard (for grinding), I ain’t feeling sexy. Nowadays, going to bed has a particular ritual, and it doesn’t involve a slinky nightie. And, if I’m concerned about how I look when I *go* to bed, the morning is a whole other issue. For me, sleepy, groggy mornings are alone time. Ideally, I don’t want to be seen by anyone until after my first coffee. ### Sleepwalking, talking, and fidgeting I once woke up to a partner sitting upright in bed reciting the contents of his work store cupboard. It was the final straw for me. Not only is it annoying but it’s damn-right creepy. People do all sorts of things in their sleep. Talking bollocks to sharing their deepest secrets you don’t want to be party to. Shouting, screaming, flailing around. Twitching or fidgeting all night. I’m not a great fan of this behaviour during the day. When it happens at night it’s a determining reason why I can’t share a bed. Plus, I don’t want a spectator if *I* start doing this stuff in my sleep. ## Why sleeping apart doesn’t mean you’re not committed It’s interesting to know that it hasn’t always been a ‘thing’ for couples to sleep together. In the Victorian era, it was considered unhygienic and disgusting to share a bed, therefore couples would sleep separately. That was unless they couldn’t afford it, in which cases they would grin and bear the same mattress together. We’d still be sleeping peacefully in our own spaces now if it wasn’t for the sexual revolution of the 1960s which brought about the belief that couples ‘should’ sleep together. It really doesn’t matter if you’re a clean-freak Victorian or a sex-loving 60s hippy, sleeping together is way down the list of what it means to be in a [committed relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/green-flags-good-relationship/). A committed relationship includes things such as: - Being open and honest with one another - Respecting and listening to one another - Working through problems together - Planning a future together For an increasing number of couples, sleep arrangements don’t feature on this list. And if it does, it’s near the bottom or on the other side of the page. My partner snores like a trooper and I’m a light sleeper who loves my own bed space for all the reasons listed above. When I broached him about sleeping separately, he was super supportive. It wasn’t what he wanted (he could sleep through a jet plane low-flying over the bed). But he got it. He gives me his bed when I sleep over and he sleeps in the spare room. For me, this is a sign of someone who is committed to a relationship with the aim of making it work long-term. Choosing to sleep separately signifies that a couple can shy from the norm and make practical decisions which helps them function and feel better. It shows confidence in their love for one another. Their commitment does not need to be proved by countless fidgety, flatulence-filled sleepless nights together. Megan Kozak and the team at [Lighthouse Relationships](https://www.lighthouserelationships.com.au/) share great advice for couples who can’t share a bed: “*The key in making sleeping separately a healthy habit for a relationship is ensuring that the couple maintain rituals of connection with each other, like a goodnight kiss, sharing about the day, or enjoying time together reading, watching something or talking. Separate beds do not need to result in less connection – often the connection just needs to be a little more intentional.*“ ## How sleeping separately can actually help a relationship Besides the obvious (better sleep and waking refreshed, ready to take on the day ahead), sleeping separately has many benefits. Bayu Prihandito from [Life Architekture](https://lifearchitekture.com) points out: “*When couples sleep separately occasionally, it can create a sense of anticipation and excitement for the times they do share a bed or intimate moments. It creates opportunities for more intentional and quality time together, making moments of connection and intimacy more meaningful.*“ I have found sleeping separately boosts my sexual desire and that of my partner. We no longer associate being in bed together as a time of sweaty, sheet-pulling slumber. Instead, it’s a place of intimacy and sexual enjoyment. We sometimes fall asleep cuddled in each other’s arms while in bed, and we love those moments. They are especially nice when one of us wakes and slinks off to another bed, leaving us both free to get some serious sleep. ## Are you thinking of sleeping separately? If you’re in a good relationship but can’t share a bed, I urge you to discuss this with your partner. Highlight the many benefits of *not* sharing a bed as outlined in this article. Point out how they can improve your mental and physical health, lifestyle, and relationship. Tell your partner that although you can’t share a bed with them, you still totally love them. Because, when you seriously think about it, there is no correlation between bed sharing and loving. Your aim is to make bed time together more enjoyable when it does happen. Remember, sleeping apart is not a sign of a flawed relationship. Instead, it signifies a relationship in which you are both confident and comfortable enough to make decisions that benefit you as humans and as a couple. **Oh, and one more tip:** If you’re going to eat toast in bed together, do it in *their* bed. There is nothing worse than breadcrumbs on the sheets. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/cant-share-a-bed/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/cant-share-a-bed/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** sleeping apart, sleeping separately, sleep habits, separate beds, separate rooms --- ### [Get genuine online dating advice you won’t have seen elsewhere](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-genuine-advice/) **Published:** February 4, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I’m the kind of person who likes to research before I start a mission. For this reason, before I made my midlife foray into the dating world, I read many articles with online dating tips. I found most articles to be identical and packed with, well, common sense. Don’t get me wrong, common sense is hugely important when you date, but I’m an adult, I don’t need to be reminded to use it. I needed some golden advice to prevent me from making rookie mistakes and save me the drama of learning the hard way. Ultimately, I did learn the hard way and made lots (I mean LOTS) of mistakes. But don’t they say that experienced-based learning is the best? Now, as a seasoned online dater (who is happily dating one of my online dates), I’m ready to share the lessons I learned in the form of valuable, genuine advice about online dating that you won’t find anywhere else. ***Further reading: [10 Best dating apps for absolute beginners.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/)*** ## **Genuine online dating advice you won’t have seen elsewhere** ## **Do an online dating test run** If you are entirely new to online dating, you’ll likely find it daunting, overwhelming, intimidating, invasive … and a million other uncomfortable emotions. You are marketing yourself online to a world of complete strangers! It feels so wrong! Many women I know try online dating for a couple of days and then run screaming for the hills, vowing NEVER to do it again. And sadly, many don’t. This is likely to be your first reaction too. For this reason, my advice is to plan a short test run. [Pick an online dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/), sign up, create a profile, and give it a whirl. But know (and this is key) that it will only be for two or three weeks. Then, stick to your plan and come off the app. Honestly, online dating is so all-encompassing, you’ll be ready for a break (whether you realise it or not). You can then take stock of your experience. Think: - How did online dating make me feel? - Now I know what it’s like, how can I make this a good experience for me? - What did I learn from my dating test run? - Are my dating expectations different now I know what it’s like out there? - What could I do differently and better? - Was the app I used right for me or should I try another one? Yes, you can stay online and work through these questions, but you really need space and time to speculate on your experience. By doing this, when you start online dating for real, you’ll be better prepared, knowledgeable, and in the right headspace. Give yourself the best chance with online dating by planning a test run and learning from it before going in for the kill … as it were! ## **Set a time limit for your online dating** So, you’ve done your test run, and armed with your new-found knowledge and marginally thicker skin, you have settled in for the long haul. Or have you? You will have learned a lot from your test run but online dating is still challenging. It is also extremely time-consuming and exhausting. Not just practically, but emotionally too. You are trying to think of witty things to say in your messages while deciphering what other people mean in theirs. Worrying if you came on too strong to the guy you like or that he might be married, a nutter, or a crypto scammer in North Korea. The excruciating first dates. The let-downs and having to let people down. The countless discussions with friends dissecting messages, dates, or the meaning of a particular emoji. While online dating can be fun, it can also be a total mind screw. Which is why I suggest you have a time limit. I did this purely by chance. I started dating in May and was going overseas for a few months in October. This meant that whether I met someone or not, I would be app-free by October. My plan not only saved me from the eternal Tinder spotlight but also amped up my online enthusiasm. Instead of drifting into 2050 and earning a dating app long-service award, I was driven to give it my all in the time I had. Why not try this yourself? **Think:** I’ll give this until Christmas or until my next holiday and then take a break and re-assess. It will make the task ahead less daunting and more enjoyable. ## **Don’t do it half heartedly** Leading nicely on from my last point, you’re either in this dating game or not. Swaying uncertainly in the middle ground won’t get you results. This is one of the best pieces of advice a friend gave me. I told him I wanted to start online dating but was worried a past boyfriend might see my profile and how I could keep myself partially hidden online. My friend said, ‘You’ve just gotta go for it. Get yourself out there and be seen by as many people as possible’. He said, ‘You’re either in it or you’re not’. And he was right. Own your decision to get out there and find a partner. Don’t be embarrassed. Instead, be authentic, proud and honest with potential matches. Don’t act like your mates have forced you onto the app and you don’t really want to be there (which sooo many people do). Instead, tell people why you’re there … that you’re looking for love, a relationship, a [friend with benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/), or whatever you are searching for. I’d say 80% of the guys I met online were negative, unenthusiastic and a little embarrassed about being on an app. I believe many women come across this way too. Be the one person who makes the most of their online experience and give it everything you’ve got while on the app. Not only will this make for a more enjoyable adventure but you’ll get good results too. **Note:** Most dating apps allow you to block your phone contacts and certain people from seeing you online. You can also use a mode that only allows people to see you if you swipe right on their profile first. This is helpful if there is a particular person you want to avoid crossing paths with online. ## **Set boundaries for yourself** While I’m telling you to jump in with both feet and go for it (advice I stick by), you must also have some boundaries/rules to ensure you are not consumed whole by online dating. **Warning:** As a woman on a dating app, you’re gonna be popular. You will not be short of messages. Being English and a mum, manners are of enormous importance to me. Therefore, whenever I received a message, it was only right to respond, and to do so promptly. And, I do still believe this is important … but not at the peril of the rest of your life. I found myself messaging guys first thing in the morning, last thing at night, on the toilet at work, cooking dinner, and everywhere in between. My solution, which I am now sharing with you, is to have set times in which you message. I allowed myself 15 minutes with my morning coffee and wouldn’t look at the apps until 4pm. **True story:** I broke this rule for the guy I am now seeing. His messages had me hooked at morning coffee and we texted all day long. Rules are made to be broken, and broken rules could be a sign of something special happening. Set online dating boundaries that work for you. It might be setting active times to chat, like the example I gave. Or, it could be other things, such as not wasting your time on a guy who takes over 12 hours to respond or only allowing yourself a certain number of dates each week. ## **Take a little time with each profile** When I online date, I believe everyone deserves a little of my time. It’s so easy to swipe at the speed of light based on one profile photo … but I strongly urge you not to. Think of it this way**:** You probably put a lot of time and effort into your profile. You may have agonised over which photo to put at the top, spent hours getting the wording just right, and carefully picked several photos to give a feel of who you really are. So, how would you feel if someone made a decision about you in a split second based on just one photo? Even if you’re on a popular app (unless you live in a busy city or move around a lot), you will run out of matches eventually. So why not take your time? Click through and discover a little more about your potential matches before swiping. Their profile pic might not do it for you, but your interest might be piqued when you check out the other photos and see what they’ve written. Give each profile a little time and respect, the same way you would like people to treat yours. ## **Use average profile photos** When I think of profile photos, I use the same thought process as when viewing a potential new home to buy or rent. You check out the photos online and the place looks great. Big rooms, sweeping views. Yet, when you see it in real life, it’s smaller, darker and more poky. It’s a let-down. The same goes for your profile pic. Don’t post photos of that one time you had a professional makeup sess five years ago because that is what you date will expect when they meet you. And unless you’re planning on losing five years and having professional makeup done before every date, he’s going to be disappointed. Instead, post photos that look like you, with and without makeup. It’s hard to get a perspective on your own photos. I asked a friend and was surprised when she told me which pics to take down as they didn’t look like me. Ideally, you want to look even better than your photos when you meet, so use just above average photos that depict the real you. ## **Don’t focus on the interests** Another profile-focused tip is about ‘interests’. Dating apps brag about their algorithms that carefully match you with potential partners but the truth is that you are matched on two main things: - Location, - and interests. Yes, location is super important. But how important really are the interests? App profiles are designed to show interests as one of the most important features of your possible match. They simplify who we are as humans and the matching process in the hope that we might think: ‘Oooh he’s hot and he also likes Japanese food and hot yoga … that’s it, we are made for each other.’ It also works the other way. You might see someone who takes your fancy and see he’s into golf and car racing, so swipe left (that means not interested btw). Please. Don’t. Do. This. Honestly, do interests matter all that much? I actually like my partner to have different interests to me so we can enjoy time apart as well as together. For example, my current guy loves playing pool, a game I have no interest in. And that’s cool, he plays in his pool comp and I do my stuff. While interests are, well, interesting. They are not the be-all and end-all. They should not be a reason not to give someone a go. That is, unless their interests are dangerous, scary or illegal … if so, you have my permission to swipe left. ## **Keep your communication on the app** Ok, someone has caught your eye, and they like you too. We have a match! Next: To start communicating. I urge you to stay on the app to do this. About 90% of the guys I messaged in-app asked for my phone number. And, in my early virgin-dating-app days, I gave it out … and learned the hard way. **Note to self and readers:** With one simple phone number, you can be stalked. And will be. One guy I gave my number to stalked me while talking to him on the phone, telling me what he found out about me online as he found it – including where I worked, my ABN, the sex of my kids. That’s how easy it is. I felt violated. After this and a few other horrible experiences, I changed tactics. If a guy asked for my number, I would say no and explain I’d rather communicate through the app. Their reaction to this would vary and ultimately serve as valuable insight into the kind of person they were. Some would be kind, say they understood and carry on chatting (green flag). Others would complain or abuse me (red flag). Try it. Not only will it keep you safe, but you’ll get the measure of the man super fast. ## **Meet them ASAP** A common mistake when dating online is staying safely tucked away behind your screen and procrastinating about meeting people. I get it. First dates are unbelievably hard. We are not simply outside our comfort zone; we are rocket-launched out of it and into Planet Awkward. It is normal to feel this way. However, it doesn’t matter how many messages you send one another, you will only know if there is a spark once you meet. Therefore, you might waste hours texting a fella only to meet up and decide he ain’t the one. Several times, I’d build a great digital rapport with someone, only to meet and for the virtual bubble to burst instantly. Pop. Likewise, some people don’t come across well online, but you might really enjoy their company in-person. How will you know if you don’t get off your arse and go? If you think there is even a hint that this guy might be the one, arrange to meet as soon as possible. It is the *only* way to know if you might hit it off. ***Further reading: [Does there have to be a spark on a first date?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/spark-on-first-date/)*** ## **Use the video feature** I use a fairly wide search radius and that’s not because I’m desperate, I promise. It’s because I wouldn’t mind meeting a guy who lives a few hours from me. The problem is that it’s a long way to go for a first date which will likely come to nothing. In these cases, I take advantage of the video feature, which you will find on most apps. I mean, weren’t we all doing this during COVID-19, and yet it feels all weird again now. However, I urge you to use video calls rather than driving 100 km for a first date or waiting two weeks when you are both available to meet in person. One ten-minute video and you know where you stand. Yes, it’s worth a meet. Or: Next! **Word of warning:** We women check the lighting and position ourselves to look our best during these calls. Guys don’t, and the camera isn’t flattering. I didn’t fancy a single person during a video call, but the guy I am going out with is one of them. It’s a long story, but it proves that having a video call can work. ## **Date sober** OK, so this one may have been mentioned before. But it’s so important that I can’t share my online dating advice without mentioning it. Let’s start with information from [Medical News Today](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321255) which proves that: “***Even a single alcoholic drink can impair our ability to make decisions, though we’re not aware of it. Importantly, because our motor control appears unaffected by alcohol, we’re likely to proceed with certain physical actions, under the illusion that we’re making the right choice.***“ Add to this the nerve-calming wine you necked before leaving home, and your brain is not where you need it to be for date No.1. Instead, you need all your senses to be in top-notch condition and on high alert. You want to pick up all the signals he’s giving off and process them accurately and correctly so that you have complete clarity about your date when you leave. Alcohol will stop this from happening. Like the ‘phone number’ point above, tell a guy you would rather meet for coffee because you don’t drink on the first date, then sit back and study his reaction. Does he respect your decision and take you up on the coffee? Or can’t he handle a first date without a drink? You’ll get the measure of him fast enough. ## **Enjoy your dates, even if they don’t go to plan** Right, you’re on your first (sober) date. You’ve checked his profile photo so you recognise him and … Could that be him? But he looks so different from his pic. Hold on, he has a high-pitched voice that didn’t come across in his hilarious text messages. Eeek, I just don’t fancy this guy. Now what? I’ll tell you: You keep going. So what if you don’t fancy him. You’ve committed to spending the next hour or so with him, and you’ll never get that hour of your life back … so make the most of it. I made a point of taking something from every date I went on (even if it wasn’t the waft of sexual chemistry I was hoping for). It could be handy advice, useful information, or a funny story to make my friends laugh. In my last bout of online dating, I met a refuse disposal guy who told me whether they actually check our bin contents, a stock-broker who told me how to play the sharemarket, and I did a whole first date with my flies undone – a funny story to share time and time again. First dates don’t have to go exactly as you hope for them to be fun and enjoyable. Make the most of meeting someone new, even if you never see them again, and curse them for not being the hottie you had hoped for. ***Further reading: [55 First date questions to break the ice.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/55-first-date-questions/)*** ## **Be you** Something about the nature of online dating allows us to present ourselves as how we want to appear and not necessarily as who we really are. It starts when you [set up your profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/). It is only natural to want to come across as quite the catch. You might add some interests you’re not interested in because you think they make you look good. Or upload a rare photo of the one time in your life you went water skiing, even though you have never done any water sports before or since. It’s not actually lying, but you are presenting a distorted version of the real you. And, it is possible to get through a whole first date being that cool, water-ski-loving, crazy, fun chick. You might even be able to keep it going for a couple more dates. But it will be exhausting. Instead, be you. Being genuine, honest and authentic will make your dating experience much more enjoyable. You’ll attract people who are right for you, and you’ll be matched with the right people. It will also save you a lot of time, as you’ll be more likely to hit it off sooner. Remember that you are enough. ## **Everyone is in the same boat** As much as you might feel like an alien in a new alien world when you first start online dating, it helps to remember that you already have something in common with every single person … you are all looking for someone via an app. I’m not saying that you and everyone else on the app are kindred spirits, but it’s fair to say that everyone is in the same boat. Thinking this way is a game-changer. I found it made me more open-minded and kinder. You might feel like laughing at some honest words on a profile or think someone looks a bit of a dick in his photo. But pull yourself up on it. They are simply trying to display an honest, if slightly polished, version of themselves, the same as you are. Most people you engage with on the app likely feel as awkward and nervous as you do, so cut them some slack. ## **Be kind** Sticking with the theme of the last point, I want to remind you to be kind. Ok, his chat-up lines are laughable and his compliments make you cringe but he’s doing his best. He might be out of practice, have low self-esteem, or, like you, is getting used to the concept of chatting with strangers. And, if you don’t think he’s for you, don’t string him along. Tell him. I don’t care if [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/), shelving, simmering and icing are all new ‘things’ people do online. They are not things that decent people do. In everything you do with online dating, think: ‘Am I treating people the way I want to be treated?’ and use this as your guide. This might seem obvious, but many people overlook the value of kindness … and it goes a long way in the dating world. ## **Make a list** **(yes, this is really my online dating advice)** To the hilarity of my friends, I found it helpful to list the dates I went on. Why? I was going on so many dates that they all started to merge. I couldn’t remember each one, and reflecting on your dates is essential to learning and moving forward. My list was simple: - Name - Where we met - One thing that would remind me of the date Making a list is maybe just for the dating geeks like me, but I found it helpful to keep a simple record which meant I could, not so much reminisce, but at least remember my dating adventures. I used my list to see that it took 18 dates to meet the guy I am now seeing. That’s 18 awkward first dates to get a spark. If you’re still waiting for your spark, keep going, as it can take a while. ## **Keep going, it’s a numbers game** As mentioned in the previous point, my last round of online dating lasted three months and I went on 18 dates. That’s 4-5 dates a week! I realise this sounds like a lot but online dating is best treated as a methodical numbers game. The more people you go out and meet, the more likely you are to hit gold. I once did four dates in one weekend (it would have five but the last one cancelled as the surf was up!). None produced so much as a second date and I’ll admit I felt a little deflated but I kept going because that’s how you find what you’re looking for. I know we want dating to be romantic but the truth is that online dating is more systematic than steamy. That is until you find someone who floats your boat which is when you can go from logical to loved-up. ## **Have a dating support mate** Last on my list of online dating advice. While you should not share your dating stories with everyone, it is important to have a select few, or at least one friend, you can talk to about them. When I very first started online dating, I was so nervous about first dates that I felt physically sick. I even cancelled a few at the last minute as I couldn’t bring myself to go through what felt like a traumatic experience. After explaining this to my good guy friend, he started talking me through my dates. He’d chat with me during the car journey to the date venue, and I’d have my headphones in with his encouraging words until about 30 seconds before greeting my date. Then, as soon as I was done, I’d dial his number for a debrief. Luckily, he no longer has to do this, but I will never forget his support which gave me the confidence I now have to date so easily. Think who you have in your life who would be perfect for this role. Ideally, they will be someone who: - Is also online dating, or who has had experience with it - Has your best interests at heart - Can have a laugh with you - Can comfort you if something goes wrong - Will be on standby for your first and second dates - Respects your privacy and doesn’t share what you tell them with other people And remember, once you’ve removed your own learner plates, you can help other people in this way. Similar to how I am helping you with this article. ## **Summary: Genuine online dating advice you won’t get elsewhere** I hope my online dating advice in this article has given you a fresh perspective if you’re considering an app. In 2022, 366 million people worldwide had a whirl on a dating app *(Source:* [*Cloudwards*](https://www.cloudwards.net/online-dating-statistics/#:~:text=It%20is%20estimated%20that%20there,Does%20Online%20Dating%20Work%3F)*)*! So when I say you are not alone, I seriously mean it. It’s funny how we all whinge about online dating, yet so many of us do it. That is because it can be a fun, easy way to meet new people and there are many success stories, sadly drowned out by the horror stories. I urge you to give some of my ideas a go. Whether you do a little test run, keep a record of your dates, or set a time limit for your dating experience, these simple ideas can relieve the pressure and create a better mindset for tackling Tinder or whatever app you choose. Most importantly, be kind and respectful. This means giving each profile more than a millisecond of your time and not laughing at corny jokes and chat-up lines (unless they’re your own). Always be mindful because everyone is nervous and trying to put their best foot forward without looking desperate. So, grab yourself a dating support mate and build an authentic profile about the wonderful person you are. Happy dating everyone, and remember, if I did four first dates in one weekend, you can too! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-genuine-advice/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-genuine-advice/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating --- ### [Decode a man’s online dating profile before the first date](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/decoding-online-dating-profile/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’ve been wanting to meet someone, you won’t only find them on WhatsApp or Instagram. You can also find your potential Mr Right through online dating. If you’re new to this, trust me; I’ve seen how dating someone you met online can actually lead to romantic success. But the million-dollar question is: how do you decode an [online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2/) profile? Yes, you have to pay close attention to certain details. And let’s face it, finding the time (and energy) to swipe through profiles between making dinner and helping with homework can feel like an Olympic event. Don’t worry! I’m here, so you don’t have to do a lot of trial and error. I wrote this guide based on experiences so you can spend less time scratching your head and more time finding someone worth your attention. So grab a cup of coffee and read on! [![eHarmony Discount Code | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/eharmony_box_Dec_20-400x333.png "eharmony_box_Dec_20 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) ## **Dating Life 101: Decipher a guy’s online dating profile** In traditional dating, it’s a rule of thumb to go on at least a few dates before knowing everything about them. However, online [dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/) let you know him by looking through his profile. Is he “laid-back,” or does that mean he’s perpetually late? Does “adventurous” mean hiking trips or binge-watching Netflix in bed? Paying close attention to these details will help you decipher who he really is. ## **His Username** A guy’s user ID on a dating site can offer subtle clues about his personality before you even exchange a message. Often, usernames are meant to stand out, but they can also reflect a lot about how he sees himself or what he’s looking for. If it’s something playful like “AdventureGuy,” he might be trying to show off his fun, spontaneous side. A more straightforward Bumble handle like “JohnSmithNYC” could mean he’s serious about getting to know someone and isn’t into games. But be wary of overly suggestive or immature usernames—they may hint at less genuine intentions. While a user ID is just the tip of the iceberg, it means something more. It’s the first impression before you dig deeper into his profile. ## **His profile picture (and selfies)** One photo can say things about his personality. The classic mirror selfie might suggest he’s into his looks, but maybe just lacks a better photographer. Group photos? He might be social, but now you’re left playing “Where’s Waldo” trying to figure out which one he is. Maybe he’s fun in a good way, but it could also suggest he’s a bit of a follower. A guy with sunglasses in every shot means he’s either mysterious, insecure or just hiding something! The outdoorsy hiking photo could mean he’s genuinely adventurous, or just trying to impress. Photos that show pets are bonus points. He’s either an animal lover or knows pets score likes. And then there are the gym shots, flexing those muscles—confidence or maybe a bit of vanity? When it comes to finding meaning behind his profile pic, remember that sometimes what he’s trying to show might not be the full story! One image isn’t enough to assess his personality. So it would be good to browse more photos in his account. ## **What he says vs. what he means** A guy might present himself in a certain way to stand out, but his words might tell another story if you know how the meaning behind them. - **“I’m looking for someone fun”:** Fun is great, but fun can also be vague. What does he mean by fun? Does he want someone spontaneous, or is he avoiding anything serious? As a single mom, you’re probably looking for a balance between fun and stability, so make sure to dig deeper if things seem too carefree. - **“No drama”:** If a man mentions this, it might be a sign he’s dealt with difficult relationships in the past, or he’s trying to make it clear that he’s not interested in dealing with complicated situations. But life as a single mum can be messy sometimes, kids get sick, and work is demanding. So you’ll need someone who can handle real life, not someone looking for a drama-free fairy tale. ## **Decode an online dating profile without a private dating coach** ## **Red flags to watch for** Going over a guy’s account can tell a lot. It gives you an early warning about potential red flags. Here’s what to look for: - **Vague descriptions:** If his profile doesn’t say much about who he is, he might be hiding something or not taking things seriously. A lack of effort in his profile could reflect a lack of effort in a relationship. - **Too much focus on looks:** If every other line is about how attractive he thinks you are (or he is), he might be more interested in appearances than building a connection. This is a big no-no if you’re looking for someone who values more than just surface-level attraction. - **Overly negative:** If he likes to share and complain about “crazy exes” or what he doesn’t want in a relationship, he might not be over his past or is still carrying baggage. It’s a big no if he’s more focused on what he doesn’t want than what he’s looking for. ![Online dating profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/1000014061-1066x800.jpg "1000014061 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **His hobbies – Does it show his authentic self?** Hobbies can tell you a lot about a person, but dudes often put up a front to look more appealing. Before going on a first date with someone you met online, pay attention to how his interests align with your life. - **“I love to travel”:** We’ve all seen this one. Sure, travel is great, but is this guy looking to jet-set around the world every other weekend? If you’re balancing work and kids, your idea of travel might be a weekend getaway, not hopping across Europe at a moment’s notice. - **“Fitness fanatic”:** If he’s constantly at the gym, it could be a healthy habit, or he might expect you to join in. Can you fit gym sessions between packing lunches and school runs? Maybe, maybe not. - **“Netflix and chill”:** This one’s tricky. Is he really into quality couch time, or is he using the phrase as code for something else? You probably know the answer, but make sure you’re both on the same page! ## **His bio** I also found that checking his bio helps a lot. A misogynistic bio means he probably doesn’t respect women or believes in outdated stereotypes. When you encounter one of these, you know what to do, hit that unmatch button immediately! He might already have kids, be open to the idea, or be completely against it. Know if he’s looking for a relationship with a fellow single parent. Dating with children can be challenging, but there are plenty of single dads who understand and respect your family dynamic. Did you know that we, as single mothers, make [fabulous dates](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-dating-a-single-mum-is-every-mans-dream/). But if first impressions raise your eyebrow, trust your instincts and click next! ## **Summary: The secret behind a man’s online dating profile** Deciphering a guy’s online dating account can really help you figure out what he’s looking for—whether it’s to meet someone for a serious relationship or just a hookup. Men often give little clues about their intentions, so take the time to read carefully. If he talks about values, life goals, or meaningful dating experiences, he’s probably looking for something serious. But if his profile focuses on fun and physical attraction, that could be a sign he’s more into casual connections. These little indicators can save you time and help you find someone on the same page as you. And watch out for those negative remarks about ex-girlfriends! Whether you’re after a long-term relationship or something casual, knowing what to look for in a profile will make you find the right guy. Finally, it helps to know what you want. Do you want someone witty? Are you not looking for anything serious? You should be able to feel comfortable during your first date; if not, walk away. ![The essential guide to decoding a man's online dating profile | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Decoding-a-guys-online-dating-profile.png "Decoding a guys online dating profile - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/decoding-online-dating-profile/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/decoding-online-dating-profile/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** online dating, dating profile, username, profile picture --- ### [10 Best dating apps for absolute beginners in Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/) **Published:** December 7, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are new to online dating, I’m going to say “welcome” (in a nice cheery, positive voice) as I begin this article on the best dating apps for absolute beginners. For all the terrible stories and [myths around online dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/), they do serve a purpose and I know several people who have found love, happiness, damn good sex and even marriage from them. The most important step in “getting it right” is choosing the right app for you because each app covers different parts of the many dating scenes, has various features, safety options and pricing tiers (some are free, check out [Online dating apps: Paid vs free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/)). To help you make an educated choice about which app is your perfect entry point to the weird, wild and sometimes wonderful world of online dating, here is our pick of the best dating apps for beginners. ***As an additional extra, we’ve included a new section in this article with dating app tips for newbies. Here you’ll find genuine tips from app users to help you get started on the right foot, have a more enjoyable experience and to find who you’re looking for faster.*** Also, take a look at these article which will help you on your merry way: [10 Online dating mistakes every single mum should avoid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-dating-mistakes/) [The essential guide to decode a man’s online dating profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/decoding-online-dating-profile/) ## Best dating apps for absolute beginners ## eHarmony [eHarmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) is the place to be if you’re looking for a serious relationship. It’s an excellent choice when it comes to dating apps for beginners who are tired of casual flings and hookups. eHarmony matches singles based on interests and dimensions of compatibility based on a long questionnaire that you answer on sign-up. This combined with the verification process makes matching safe and secure and reduces catfishing. The service lets you view matches for free, but you’ll need to pay to use the full features. The money-back guarantee is one upside and refunds your money if for some reason you are not satisfied after communicating with at least five members. [![eHarmony | dating apps beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/eharmony.jpg "eharmony - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Very in-depth profiles, safe and secure matching, money-back guarantee* ***Cons:** Only paid members can view photos of matches, you have to pay to unlock full features* ***You will love this app if:** You are an online dating beginner looking for marriage or a serious relationship* ## Bumble [Bumble](https://bumble.com/) is like Tinder’s twin but with a twist. It’s a women-empowering approach that requires you to message first is unique and appeals to the bolder crowd. If the guy doesn’t reply within 24 hours, he forfeits potential dates. This encourages contact but may put off people who like to take their time before committing to a message. Expect a lot of confident (and overly confident) men in the Bumble dating pool. As an online dating app for beginners, it’s a fun and empowering way for ladies to meet potential dates. [![Bumble](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/G8bvqcWFcO-umC05l-Wab8nmulU3YvoXpXcv3LWR3L8bAaGJMJjcSAL8ibIyk_EwJtA=w1405-h788)](https://bumble.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Reduced chances of getting unwanted messages, easy to use* ***Cons:** Profiles are not very detailed, high rate of overly confident men* ***You will love this app if:** You are confident and like to make the first move* ## Passion [Passion](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) might not be an obvious choice among all the other dating apps for beginners, but it’s a great way to find a more casual set-up without enduring the endless nude pics. It is like the PC cousin of Adult Friend Finder, where you get the excitement of hooking up with strangers but without being x-rated. The environment is pretty chill and beginners can flirt and seduce to their heart’s content. You can meet up with members in your area or start a steamy casual relationship with people from all over the world. [![Passion | dating apps beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/p-1156x800.jpg)](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Easy to use, access to IM and chats, unlimited live webcam* ***Cons:** No mobile app, basic version is very limited, lots of fake profiles* ***You will love this app if:** You want steamy conversations without the endless parade of nudes* ## The League [The League](https://www.theleague.com/#are-you-in) is one of the best dating apps for beginners with high standards. First, there’s an application process to get into the dating pool as well as a waiting list. You need to provide your LinkedIn profile, job title and education details and wait for approval (you can pay a fee to get approved faster). Some members say that most of the profiles they see on the League are also on Tinder and other less selective apps, so don’t be too disappointed if you’re not accepted. The League is one of those exclusive online dating apps beginners who are picky will enjoy, but can be a huge turnoff for others. [![The League ](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/vM5XXWCnLOyZujR2tcq2zhYwwDdkZ6v5HYtozkARmF4IH1CqHnKfSK7D9icPffCvnxJi=w1405-h788)](https://www.theleague.com/#are-you-in) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Designed for singles with high standards who value career and education, very selective, safe and secure matching* ***Cons:** Expensive, long wait list* ***You will love this app if:** You are very picky and have high standards* ## Feeld [Feeld](https://feeld.co/) promotes a fresher and bolder approach to online dating. It encourages members to look beyond sexuality and gender stereotypes. If you are seeking to explore or are longing to step out of your comfort zone, this dating app is tailored just for you. The Feeld community promotes different types of connection, including polyamory – a non-monogamous relationship (either sexual or romantic) with multiple partners, regardless of gender identity. Feeld is the best dating app for singles looking to have fun. But if you are looking for a monogamous partner, you might want to look somewhere else. To make a connection, simply like a profile. Once they like you back, you can start chatting. [![Feeld | dating apps beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/image-1-1200x519.png "image-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://feeld.co/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Gender and sexuality inclusive* ***Cons:** Not ideal for those looking* for a monogamous relationship ***You will love this app if:** You* *want to try something new and explore different relationship setups.* ## Coffee Meets Bagel [Coffee Meets Bagel](https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/) is one of the best online dating apps for beginners who need extra help setting up an account and meeting people. For dating pros, however, all the bells and whistles can make the experience a tad confusing. CMB sends curated daily matches (called bagels) to your inbox every day and you have 24 hours to like or pass. Some days you’ll get multiple matches but on others only one. If you prefer to connect with someone instead of relying on daily matches, you need to spend money on ‘beans,’ the app currency. This can quickly get expensive if you hate waiting for matches and messages. [![Coffee Meets Bagel](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/VKpGIci9-mHK-fw9QIH98r9f1EcX6E_hEuLMYKN5atnsgR9ylV-xGg0OKBEa36WBp_4=w1195-h794)](https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Curated daily matches based on specific interests and personality* ***Cons:** Can get expensive if you want to connect with members not in your match list, too many features* ***You will love this app if:** You like to take your time before jumping into a relationship* ## Hinge [Hinge](https://hinge.co/en-gb) is perfect for those who are into deeper personal connections and want more than just swiping and chatting online. Most of its previous users found love and got into serious relationships. Hinge stands by its tagline “the dating app designed to be deleted.” What we love most about Hinge is its straightforward and user-friendly interface. Every user is required to verify their mobile numbers so encountering a scammer is less likely. You can also send messages for free. [![Hinge | dating apps beginners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/image-2-1200x532.png "image-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://hinge.co/en-gb) ***Free version:** Yes* **Pros:** *Lower rates compared to other apps*, *Free one-month trial* ***Cons:*** *Unresponsive customer support, repeating users appear even if you skipped them before* ***You will love this app if:*** *You want more decent conversations* ## OK Cupid [OK Cupid](https://www.okcupid.com/) is one of the original online dating sites and the desktop version was a big hit back in the day. It has been reskinned to appeal to a younger generation a la Tinder, but it still attracts singles of all ages who are new to dating apps or want to get back on the market. The in-depth survey and personality profile are unique and a big plus for people who want to get to know their matches better, but the app interface is a bit outdated and cluttered. Still, OK Cupid is a great online dating app for beginners who are more into a potential mate’s personality than their physical appearance. [![OK Cupid ](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/yihnpQKH8xhcZYGcE7FLY5s5uV0JrObfutHTVt6991yZBQpwxZCo8jmm9dd5gnJTknI=w1195-h794)](https://www.okcupid.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Free to view profiles and send messages, in-depth profiles* ***Cons:** Anyone can message you, you can’t see who likes you without paying* ***You will love this app if:** You prefer in-depth information about potential matches* ## Sugarbook If you’re a beginner who’s into sugar daddy relationships, Sugarbook is the dating app for you. You can sign up as a sugar baby (the one who gets treats in exchange for sexual favours) or a sugar daddy/mummy (the one who pays for the treats and expensive membership). A free Sugarbook account lets you browse the member list and send a limited number of messages. However, people with a university email can sign up for a free premium account. We like that all members are ID verified to reduce the number of fake profiles. [![Sugarbook | dating apps beginners](https://miro.medium.com/max/4748/1%2Auwsqs6y_qMHkUHeiTCUbvA.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69445?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsugarbook.com%2f) ***Free version:** Yes (limited features)* ***Pros:** ID-verified members, easy-to-use app, fun filters, free premium account if you sign up with a university email* ***Cons:** Expensive for sugar daddies/mummies, you need to pay to send unlimited messages* ***You will love this app if:** You are a dating app beginner who is into sugar daddy-sugar baby relationships* ## Tinder [Tinder](https://tinder.com/?lang=en) is one of the most popular online dating sites for beginners and veterans alike. It’s easy to use and offers something for everyone, whether you’re looking for a casual date, hookup or a serious relationship. While definitely not the first choice for the marriage-minded, Tinder can be a lot of fun and it’s a great way to get your feet wet and see what online dating has to offer. The lack of detailed profiles can make decision-making difficult, but Tinder is all about the spur of the moment. You’ll need to swipe right a lot of times though before clicking with someone special. [![Tinder](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/rDePBW7Jrlg64IQi_6vDUgXjewuQZLOgkxPEbmDBBDrrPq0hmXwrVte_1ZcRUkP_2Vc=w1195-h794)](https://tinder.com/?lang=en) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Easy to use, fun and simple matching system* ***Cons:** Lots of people looking for casual hookups* ***You will love this app if:** You’re looking for something fun and casual* ## Dating app tips for newbies Getting into the world of online dating is thrilling, but also scary, so it’s important to get it right from the start. This will save you time and help you get only potential partners that are compatible with you. Even if you have subscribed to the best dating apps for first-timers, if you’re not utilising them properly, it will take you a long time to find your perfect match. Whether you’re looking for a hookup or “the one,” here are ideas you can try to make your experience more fun and hassle-free. ### **Be genuine** Present your authentic self on your profile. Being genuine helps attract matches who appreciate you for who you truly are, making meaningful connections more likely. It also saves you a lot of time and energy … trying to come across as different to who you really are is exhausting! ### **Prioritise your safety** Dating apps are designed so you can browse and chat with complete strangers while keeping your privacy intact. Don’t share any private details until you’ve met someone and feel comfortable. That includes your phone number. People can find out a lot about you from one phone number. ***Further reading: [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/)*** ### **Set realistic expectations** Understand that not every interaction will lead to a long-term relationship. If your standards are too high and unrealistic, you won’t land yourself a man! So always keep an open mind and be prepared for a mix of experiences. ### **Never send money** Scammers are all over dating apps. There even is a documentary made about a real-life dating app con artist (hello, Tinder Swindler). So never send money even if they say it’s for an emergency. Oh and if they mention crypto … run. ### **Choose quality over quantity** Instead of focusing on the number of matches, prioritise quality connections. No matter how many matches you create, they’re useless if they don’t have substance. Invest time in getting to know someone before deciding if they’re a good fit for you (and your kids). ### **Communication is key** Be clear about your intentions and expectations, and encourage open dialogue with your matches. This will make sure you and your match are on the same page. If someone doesn’t come across well while messaging, it might be that they are better at face-to-face communication. ### **Public first meet-ups** When deciding to meet in person, choose public places for safety. Inform a friend or family member about your plans and keep your phone charged. Trust your instincts and don’t keep your guard down too soon. ***For an extra level of safety see: [14 Clever personal safety apps for single mums.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/14-clever-personal-safety-apps-for-single-mums/)*** ### **Take breaks when needed** Dating apps can be overwhelming. It’s okay to take breaks when needed to focus on yourself and your family. Balance is key in navigating the dating world as a single mum. ***Further reading: [10 Warning signs that you need to take a break from online dating. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/break-from-online-dating/)*** ## **Summary: Best dating apps for beginners in Australia** Cheers to being brave and putting yourself back out there! It’s not an easy thing to do. I know because it took me two years to muster up the courage to [create my first online dating app profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/). Thanks to my friends who endlessly pestered me into doing it. The first few tries weren’t a success, but the tips above helped me find my current partner (we’ve been together for three years now!). There are plenty of fish in the sea. But make sure you don’t jump the gun too soon. You don’t want to make the same mistake twice, or more! Whether you’re on the app for that long overdue rebound sex or just want someone to talk to – just remember to go with the flow and have fun (while being careful, of course!). Believe it or not, dating apps are not all about one-night stands and flings. With the right app, you can find authentic souls like you who are looking for love, a relationship, and everything in between. Happy swiping! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-beginners/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, dating apps, eharmony, rsvp, tinder --- ### [10 Online dating mistakes we don't want you to make](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/10-online-dating-mistakes/) **Published:** November 1, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** At some stage in the life cycle of a single mum you may consider dating again. Perhaps you’re on the hunt for Mr Right, or just Mr Let’s Be Friends And See What Happens. Either way, you’re going to discover the rules have changed. Online dating is all the rage. And it comes with a heap of benefits that make dating streamlined, time efficient and well, rather like shopping for a couch. It may be a new concept to you, but an increasing number of singletons looking love, friendship or a one-night-stand are now turning to it. In fact, according to a recent report from [IBISWorld](https://www.accc.gov.au/system/files/927_ICPEN%20Dating%20Industry%20Report_D09.pdf), approximately 4.6 million Australian’s utilise online dating services. Yet with this fairly new phenomenon, comes a [myriad of dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/top-10-dating-apps/), as well as a whole new set of rules and [online dating myths](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/). For this reason, you’d do well to make yourself familiar with them before you pass go. ## Online dating mistakes for single mum’s to avoid ### 1. Posting your best photo, or your worst You’ll be tempted to post your very best photo (you know the one taken years ago at a photo shoot?). Big mistake. While you might gain interest, you’ll set yourself up for failure if you eventually meet. Use recent photos that show the real you and try to portray your personality with them. For example, if you like sports, show some of you in action. And keep your worst photos for your passport. They have no place on online dating sites. ### 2. Making your profile too long, short, boring or needy You can learn a bit about yourself when you write your profile. But don’t get carried away. Consider how what you have written will impact the reader. A full profile is great. But too much information can bore. Remember, a little mystery can go a long way. And, although it’s good to be clear about what you want from a potential partner, be careful not to come across as needy. Don’t forget you’re writing a profile, not a wish list. ### 3. Rebranding yourself (unrealistically) Presenting yourself online may be a new concept. You have the opportunity to portray yourself exactly as you choose. To almost, well, rebrand yourself. Perhaps you’re not a spiritual person, yet you fancy yourself as one. Don’t be tempted to say what you want to be, instead of what you are. In the long run you will come across as dishonest. Plus, you’ll waste your valuable time on unsuitable candidates. ### 4. Forgetting to use your spell check Spell check is a brilliant tool which we all rely on. So there’s no excuses for spelling mistakes and bad grammar in your profile. It gives two negative impressions: - That you’re not too bright - You can’t be bothered Neither will help your cause. Would you be put off by a profile full of language lapses and punctuation imperfections? Probably. You can always get a friend to check your wording before you go live. ### 5. Overthinking and overanalysing I understand that you want to present yourself in the best possible way. However, if you start overanalysing situations, you’ll end up falling into the pits of online dating mistakes. Seriously, things are a lot simpler than what you make them out to be. Don’t let your anxious brain run the gamut. Take it at face value and nothing more. You can’t control how someone reacts, anyway. Therefore, there’s no use in second-guessing or mincing words. All you can do is put the “real” you out there and say what you want. ## 10 Online dating mistakes single mums should avoid (cont.) ### 6. Too much (or not enough) focus on children We know to be very careful when dishing out details on our kids. There is simply no need for them to feature in your photos, but your profile is a different matter. Don’t omit to mention your little ones, after all, most people on the dating circuit second-time-round will have them. At the same time, there’s no need to overdo the details. We all love and adore our kids. Don’t harp on about it. The main focus is you. Make sure you get the balance right. ### 7. Sending generic messages Online dating is not easy. You can’t get by sending generic messages like “hi” or “what’s up.” If you think otherwise, then you’re most definitely committing one of the biggest online dating mistakes. Although online dating is numbers game, try not to let it show that you feel that way. Start a conversation by asking real questions that gauge who they are. Base your questions on the information he has provided in his profile to show you are paying attention and are genuinely interested in him. Get out of the non-committal dialogues and have a soulful and intellectual conversation with unique questions that you’ve not asked anyone else. ### 8. Expecting a miracle Online dating may be the fastest way to find a partner, but it’s not an instant fix. It still takes energy, input and time. Luckily, most of it can be done from the safety of your kitchen table. If you don’t find Mr Right in the first month or you have a few unsuccessful dates, don’t be downhearted. Keep going. Learn from your mistakes. And maybe amend your profile or update your photos to target more suitable matches. ### 9. Focusing on the past, not the future As single mothers, most of us are healing from a relationship break-down. Naturally this will have left a residue of negativity. But, try not to focus on it. You may find yourself combing profiles looking for signs of the less attractive attributes of your ex. When you should be focusing on the positive particulars of a potential partner. This is a new start. Make sure you’re in the right headspace to enjoy it. ### 10. Not paying for an app When there’s a choice between f[ree and fee-paying dating sites](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/), it’s natural to opt for the no cost option. However, pay sites generally attract people who are serious about finding a partner. They also offer a little more privacy with your profile. This could be more suited to [single mums dating,](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/) who don’t want their particulars plastered over the web. And yes, it may be shallow, but generally guys who will pay for a site, have a bit of cash to splash. ## Two more bonus points because we really want to help you avoid online dating mistakes ### Stalking ( need I say more) Last on our list of online dating mistakes … Remember, there’s going to be a few disappointments along the way. It seems to be OK with online dating to just drop-out of a conversation, no explanation needed (this is termed as: [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/)). Not only does this seem rude, but it can leave you questioning where you went wrong. It’s especially hard if you liked the guy in question. You can reattempt a connection, but don’t overdo it. Stalking is not cool. Accept that you barely knew him and move on with your head held high. ### Waiting for someone else to make the first move Many single mums today come from an era of dating when traditionally the man made the first move. There’s been a big shift since then. And, if you wait around for chivalry, you may be waiting a long time. It’s totally accepted for women to make the first move, and it’s also quite empowering. So don’t sit hoping for suitors to come your way. [Decode their profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/decoding-online-dating-profile/), then get busy sending winks, kisses and icebreakers to whoever takes your fancy. Waiting for the guy to make the first move is one of the biggest online dating mistakes you can make. ## To close: Online dating mistakes we don’t want you to make Single mums, we can tell you right now that these online dating strategies work — we’ve tried them out ourselves. Yes, online dating is all the rage. They bring fun and excitement into our jaded (and limited) real-world romances. That’s why there are over 8,000 dating sites with more than 350 million users actively seeking out new people to meet. However, the key to having a successful dating life online and avoiding awkward dates is not downloading another app … and then another. It’s making every “swipe” count by sidestepping these online dating mistakes. So please, do yourself a favour and just be your true self, keep your expectations in check and be very clear about what you want. Believe it or not, creating authentic connections is what attracts your love match potentials and ultimately gets you to delete the app. By taking the driver’s seat, a fulfilling online dating life is headed your way … with a Mr Right who is more than interested in getting to know you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/10-online-dating-mistakes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/10-online-dating-mistakes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** how to date, profile photos, online dating profiles --- ### [Dating Single Mothers: How to Build Healthy, Respectful Relationships](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-single-mothers-how-to-build-healthy-respectful-relationships/) **Published:** August 1, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** So you’ve met a nice lady at Woolworths, and you’re dying to ask her out. But wait, you learned that she’s a single mum. What do you do? No need to panic. Dating single mothers isn’t as complicated and mind-boggling as you think. In fact, it can be the most rewarding and meaningful connection you’ve ever built. But let’s be real; it comes with a few challenges and extra layers of reality. As someone who became a single mum after a messy divorce, I’ve dipped my toes back into the dating world with mixed results. From late-night conversations interrupted by toddler tantrums to guys who freak out at the mention of “potty training,” I’ve seen it all. But I’ve also met kind, respectful people who understand that yes, I have a child, and yes, I’m still attractive, fun, and looking for love like anyone else. So if you’re thinking you’d like to date a solo mama, here’s the honest lowdown without the sugarcoating. ## Tips When Dating Single Mothers ## Want to Date a Single Mum? Be Ready for a Mature Relationship When you go out with a single mother, you’re not just signing up for dinner and weekends away (although those are still lovely when they happen). You’re stepping into something that demands patience and yes, maturity. A single mother has already faced some of life’s biggest curveballs, like divorce or becoming a single mama unexpectedly. We’ve learned to balance parenting responsibilities, work, and mental health without flinching. So if you’re looking for a casual fling, this might not be the right match. But if you’re after a real partnership, buckle up. ## Her Child Is a Priority, Always If you’re trying to go out with a single mother, remember this: no matter how cute or charming you are, you will never come before her child. And honestly, that’s how it should be. A single mum has a little human relying on her. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to spend time with you; it means you’ll need to be flexible, understanding, and probably okay with spontaneous cancellations when childcare falls through. ## Leave the Judgment at the Door Yes, we come with baggage. We’ve got exes, [co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/ "co-parenting") schedules, and we’re probably struggling financially. But the truth is, so do most people; you’re just more likely to see ours first-hand. If you want to go out with a single mother, do it with compassion and without judgment. Yes, we get lonely sometimes, but we’re not looking for someone to complete or “fix” us. We’re looking for someone to be a safe space. We want a supportive, stable partner who listens and sees us for all we are, past and present. ![dating single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7234322-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-7234322 - Beanstalk Mums") ## We Don’t Have Time for Games Seriously and literally, we don’t have time. Between bedtime stories and grocery runs, our time and energy are stretched thin. That means if we’ve carved out a few hours to hang out, it’s not just for fun, but because we see a potential partner. We’re not ghosting you because we’re flaky. We’re just possibly juggling a sick kid, a work deadline, and a forgotten science project all in the same afternoon. A little patience (and maybe a check-in text) goes a long way. ## Be Upfront About What You Want This one’s a biggie. If you’re unsure whether you want something long-term, say so. If you’re ready to commit, say that too! But don’t pretend to be ready for a relationship with a single mama just to see where it goes. We’ve already had enough people walk away once things got real. We can handle the truth; we’ve had to. So be honest, be upfront, and save everyone the heartache. ## Understand That We’re Not Looking for a Parent for Our Kid Unless the relationship is serious and long-standing, you’re not stepping into a parent role. That means bonding with her kid isn’t expected, at least not at first. Many single mamas keep that part of their life separate until trust has been built. So don’t assume you’ll meet her children right away, or that you’re suddenly part of the family unit. Take it slow, and let her lead the way. ![dating single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-jep-gambardella-5083568-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jep-gambardella-5083568 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Expect Emotional Depth When Dating Single Mothers A single parent often carries more emotional layers than someone without that experience. We’ve gone through heartache, marriage, breakups, and big life changes. If you’re looking to date a single mum, expect conversations that are deeper and more real. We’re not looking to impress but to connect with a partner. And if you’re open to it, that bond can become something truly beautiful. ## Reliability Is Sexy Forget fancy gifts and Instagram-worthy dates. Want to really wow a single mum? Be reliable. Text when you say you will. Show up on time. Offer help when she’s clearly drowning. In the world of romance, consistency beats grand gestures every time, especially when you’re juggling schedules, school runs, and life admin. Reliability shows you’re ready for a partnership, not just a good time. ## Sex Might Look Different When Dating Single Mothers Let’s talk about sex, because yes, single mums still have it, want it, and enjoy it. But again, it may not be the spontaneous, middle-of-the-night kind you’re used to. Bedtime routines, shared walls, and co-sleeping toddlers can all get in the way. But when it does happen, it’s often more meaningful. We value trust, comfort, and feeling emotionally safe. ## We’re Worth the Effort Dating single mothers can feel complex, sure. But it’s also incredibly rewarding. You’re with someone who knows how to love fiercely, commit deeply, and juggle life with strength and grace. Many single mothers have built their own lives from the ground up. We’re not looking for a rescue; we’re looking for someone to build with. If you can show up, be kind, and hold space for our world, we’ll make room for you in it. ## Final Thoughts: Dating Single Mothers After my [divorce](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/apply "divorce"), I wasn’t sure I’d ever feel desirable, connected, or emotionally safe again. But the truth is, dating as a single mum has taught me more about love than anything else. If you decide to date someone like me, know that you’re getting someone strong, layered, and full of love to give. We’re not a “project” or a “challenge.” We’re just people. Parents, yes, but also girlfriends, dreamers, and believers in love. So if you want to date us, don’t be scared. Be kind. Be real. And remember, some of the best love stories start with a bit of chaos and a whole lot of heart. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-single-mothers-how-to-build-healthy-respectful-relationships/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-single-mothers-how-to-build-healthy-respectful-relationships/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating, Relationships --- ### [Lawyers in Sunshine Coast: Choose Right Legal Representation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/lawyers-in-sunshine-coast-legal-representation/) **Published:** October 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The Sunshine Coast is known for its beautiful beaches and vibrant communities. But did you know it also boasts a wide range of local services, including an array of experienced legal professionals? Whether dealing with family issues, personal injury claims, business disputes, or estate planning, finding the right lawyers in Sunshine Coast can make all the difference. Choosing legal representation that aligns with your needs, budget, and location can significantly impact the outcome of your case and your overall experience. In this article, we’ll explore the types of lawyers in Sunshine Coast. The key areas of law they specialise in, and tips for selecting the best lawyer to support your legal needs. ## **Types of Lawyers in Sunshine Coast The Sunshine Coast is home to a diverse range of legal professionals, each specialising in various fields. Understanding the different types of lawyers in Sunshine Coast will help you find one that suits your specific needs. Some of the most common types of lawyers include: 1. **Family Lawyers** Family law encompasses issues like divorce, child custody, property settlements, and spousal maintenance. [Lawyers in Sunshine Coast](https://www.wrg.com.au/sunshine-coast-lawyers/) who specialise in family law can provide expert guidance and support throughout the process, helping clients reach fair and equitable resolutions during often challenging times. Family lawyers handle mediation and negotiations to help families avoid lengthy and costly court proceedings. 2. **Criminal Lawyers** If you are facing criminal charges, finding a reputable criminal lawyer is essential. Criminal lawyers in Sunshine Coast defend clients against charges ranging from minor offences to serious crimes. They can assist with preparing defence strategies, negotiating plea deals, and representing clients in court. With expertise in Queensland criminal law, they help protect clients’ rights and work towards favourable outcomes. 3. **Personal Injury Lawyers** For individuals who have suffered injuries due to accidents, personal injury lawyers can provide invaluable assistance. These lawyers in Sunshine Coast focus on claims arising from accidents, workplace injuries, medical negligence, and other incidents where compensation is sought for physical, emotional, and financial damages. Personal injury lawyers help clients navigate the often-complex insurance claims process and seek fair compensation. 4. **Property and Conveyancing Lawyers** Property lawyers handle legal matters related to real estate, including buying, selling, leasing, and property disputes. If you are purchasing or selling property, engaging a property lawyer in Sunshine Coast can ensure a smooth transaction. They conduct due diligence, prepare and review contracts, and handle any legal issues that may arise during the property transfer process. 5. **Commercial and Business Lawyers** Businesses of all sizes can benefit from the services of commercial and business lawyers. These lawyers in Sunshine Coast help with contract drafting, mergers and acquisitions, intellectual property, and employment law. Whether you’re a small business owner or part of a large corporation, having a business lawyer to navigate the legalities of business transactions and disputes can help ensure smooth operations and protect your interests. 6. **Wills and Estate Lawyers** Estate planning is a crucial part of securing your family’s future. Wills and estate lawyers specialise in drafting wills, setting up trusts, and managing estates. These lawyers in Sunshine Coast assist clients with probate, will disputes, and succession planning, ensuring that their clients’ assets are distributed according to their wishes. ## **Key Qualities to Look for in Sunshine Coast Lawyers Selecting the right lawyer can make all the difference in your case. Here are some essential qualities to look for when choosing [****lawyers in Sunshine Coast****](https://www.gotocourt.com.au/qld/sunshine-coast-lawyers/criminal/): 1. **Experience and Specialisation:** Look for a lawyer with experience in the specific area of law related to your case. Specialised knowledge and years of practice will equip your lawyer to handle the unique challenges of your legal issue effectively. 2. **Local Knowledge**: Lawyers familiar with the Sunshine Coast region and Queensland law can offer insights into local regulations, court systems, and precedents that may impact your case. A lawyer with local expertise may also have connections with other professionals and resources within the area. 3. **Strong Communication Skills**: Clear and timely communication is essential for a smooth attorney-client relationship. Good lawyers keep their clients informed, explaining complex legal issues in a way that is easy to understand. The best lawyers in Sunshine Coast are not only knowledgeable but also accessible and responsive to client needs. 4. **Transparency with Fees**: Legal fees can be a significant concern for many clients. Look for lawyers in Sunshine Coast who are upfront about their fee structures. Many firms offer free initial consultations, which can help you gauge the lawyer’s approach and discuss costs before committing to representation. 5. **Good Reputation**: Researching a lawyer’s reputation can provide insight into their expertise and reliability. Reading client testimonial reviews and checking their standing with the Queensland Law Society can be helpful. Reputable lawyers in Sunshine Coast will likely have positive feedback from previous clients and a solid record of successful cases. If you’ve recently been involved in a traffic accident in Brisbane, contacting [**car accident lawyers in Brisbane**](https://www.murphys-law.com.au/compensation/car-accident-lawyer-brisbane/ "car accident lawyers in Brisbane") can help ensure you receive the necessary legal guidance and support for your case. ![lawyers in Sunshine Coast injury claims](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-50.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog articles for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **When Do You Need a Lawyer? While some legal matters may be straightforward and manageable without legal assistance, others require the expertise of lawyers in Sunshine Coast. Here are some common situations where hiring a lawyer can be beneficial: - **Facing Criminal Charges**: If you’re charged with a criminal offence, a criminal lawyer will work to protect your rights and build a strong defence. - **[Divorce and Custody Disputes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/donts-of-separation-and-divorce/)**: Family lawyers can help ensure that property and custody arrangements are handled fairly and in accordance with Queensland family law. - **Personal Injury Claims**: If you’re injured in an accident, a personal injury lawyer can assist in securing compensation for your medical expenses, lost wages, and other damages. - **Property Transactions**: A property lawyer is invaluable when buying or selling property, as they handle contracts, title searches, and any legal issues that may arise. - **Business Contracts**: Commercial lawyers are essential for drafting and reviewing contracts, ensuring your business interests are protected. - **Will and Estate Planning**: Wills and estate lawyers ensure that your assets are distributed according to your wishes, avoiding potential disputes among family members. ## **How to Find the Best Lawyers in Sunshine Coast 1. **Research Online**: Many lawyers in Sunshine Coast have websites where you can find information about their practice areas, experience, and client testimonials. Websites like the Queensland Law Society provide directories of licensed lawyers, helping you verify credentials and find reputable professionals. 2. **Ask for Referrals**: If you know someone who has dealt with a similar legal issue, ask for their recommendations. Personal referrals can be a reliable way to find a trustworthy lawyer. 3. **Consult Multiple Lawyers**: Take advantage of free consultations offered by many law firms. Meeting with multiple lawyers allows you to compare their approaches, get a sense of their personalities, and assess who might be the best fit for your case. 4. **Check Online Reviews and Testimonials**: Reading reviews on independent websites like Google Reviews or legal directories can give you an idea of the lawyer’s reputation and client satisfaction. ## **Conclusion** Finding the right lawyers in Sunshine Coast is essential for anyone facing a legal issue, whether related to family matters, business disputes, or personal injury. With various legal professionals available, it’s important to identify your specific needs and choose a lawyer with the expertise, local knowledge, and communication skills to handle your case effectively. By doing thorough research, checking reviews, and consulting with potential candidates, you can ensure you’re well-equipped with the right legal support for your situation. Whether you’re dealing with a complex legal matter or seeking peace of mind with estate planning, lawyers in Sunshine Coast are available to help you navigate your legal challenges and protect your rights. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/lawyers-in-sunshine-coast-legal-representation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/lawyers-in-sunshine-coast-legal-representation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation, Divorce --- ### [9 Effective ways to ease separation anxiety in children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/effective-ways-to-ease-separation-anxiety-in-children/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** When my three-year-old daughter first started daycare this year, I witnessed firsthand just how hard separation anxiety in children can be. My heart broke each time she would cry or cling when I dropped her off at the unfamiliar child care centre. Saying goodbye was a tearful struggle for the two of us, as I always wondered whether this would develop into something much worse. After all, separation anxiety may affect the confidence of my baby. A family breakup is an anxious time for any parent. You’re struggling with your own personal pain and sadness when a relationship ends. But you are not alone. Your child experiences everything too, but often, without the language and emotional skills necessary to express and handle things. Kids feel the changes deeply, even if they can’t always say what’s wrong. They might feel shock, confusion, anger, sadness, or even relief, depending on the situation. This can manifest in difficulties adjusting to separation. It can be a disturbing period for children who can’t do anything about a stressful situation they didn’t ask for. For young children, it’s especially tough because they rely on routine and security. When their world shifts, they need extra support. ## What is separation anxiety disorder? [Separation anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/ "Separation anxiety") is a normal developmental phase where children feel upset or fearful when separated from their caregivers. Starting between 6 months and 3 years, it’s common in younger kids and usually improves as they grow older and feel more secure. What’s known as [separation anxiety disorder](https://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/topic/default?id=separation-anxiety-disorder-in-children-90-P02582 "separation anxiety disorder"), on the other hand, is more intense and persistent. Also called social phobia, SAD interferes with a child’s daily life and may cause severe distress or physical symptoms, such as nausea or vomiting. If the anxiety persists beyond what’s typical for their age or becomes debilitating, it’s important to seek professional help. If your child is starting to show signs of sepanx, here are tips to help avoid intense separation anxiety in your kids during the transition you can practise on a daily basis. ## 9 Tips to ease separation anxiety in children ## 1. Your first priority is your well-being. It’s not easy facing single parenthood when you are stressed and emotionally vulnerable. Parents or carers tend to put our kids over our own needs. But your self-care is all about modelling emotional intelligence. You are showing you have resilience, even when you suffer. [Lay off the alcohol](https://discoverhealthgroup.com/treatment/alcohol-addiction-treatment/ "Lay off the alcohol"), increase your exercise, get a massage, be informed with good legal advice and let go of negative friendships. Get counselling support if you need a safe space to explore your overwhelm. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. ## 2. Remember to breathe. Many times, the guilt of leaving your child becomes overwhelming. To manage a moment of emotional overload, slow down your breath rate. Your heart rate will reduce, as will your thought rate and your stress levels. Settle into a regular, steady breath rate and get your pulse rate down well below 90 beats per minute. Use your smart phone to measure your pulse. Give yourself time to resettle and be still together with your child while you calm down. ## 3. Kids of any age are not ‘acting out’. They are reaching out for your understanding and reassurance. You are their safety zone and security blanket. Kids want to love and feel connected to both their parents, regardless of prior conflicts. When one or both parents are angry, they can be unsure if they can openly show this. Some kids will feel responsible for the parent who moved out of the family home, worried about how they are going. Your child’s clinginess or tantrums aren’t about being difficult. They’re looking for reassurance and understanding. Give your child love and understanding amidst this difficult time. Be their safe place, even when it’s hard. ![separation anxiety in children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/In-article-image-4.png "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Young children are often overwhelmed and confused. Your child might feel as if their world is no longer reliable. The absence of familiar faces, being in a new place, having new rituals. Some changes are likely and often short term: - changes to sleep and eating; - being clingy, unsettled and more demanding; - acting out with anger or aggression towards one parent; and, - regressing to younger age behaviours. They can’t tell you how they feel, so you need to look and listen with care. Your comfort will help them move through this distress, get used to the different life, and feel secure again. ## 5. School age children can tell you more about their feelings. 5. Make time to tell stories, listen and be together. Active listening is an important skill to use. Help your preschool and school age child name emotions and recognise what they are feeling to help reduce frustration. Remember you are not telling your child what they are feeling. You are helping them understand more about their emotional experience. ## How to help children with separation anxiety during divorce ## 6. Teens have strong opinions about family life. 6. Teenagers will want time to explore the morality and consequences of family changes. Their stresses are often about the disruption to their sense of security, study stresses, and the impact in their social and relationship networks. As they assert their independence, they may become more likely to challenge your decision to separate and be angry and hurt about the failure of family life. Listen with empathy and validate their feelings. Pay full attention to body language, facial expressions and gestures. Take what your child is saying seriously and try not to judge or criticise him/her. For any child adjusting to separation, but especially teens, [child inclusive mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/child-inclusive-mediation/ "child inclusive mediation") is a great way for them to have a voice in the separation process. ## 7. Emotional moments are opportunities for intimacy. 7. Don’t reject your kid’s negative emotions, such as anger, resentment or jealousy. Instead accept their emotions and encourage your child to explore these with you. These moments are opportunities to build a connection and to teach your child skills to soothe themselves. When you promise them you’ll be back, be reliable. Practice being apart. Regularly spend time apart where they’re with someone else. Be consistent with your parenting values. Set limits on inappropriate behaviour and help them problem-solve one step at a time towards behaviours that you see as reasonable. ![separation anxiety in children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/In-article-image-5.png "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 8. Play smart and stay fair. 8. Support their relationship with their other parent and make sure handovers are neutral times. Accept there will be differences in their two new homes. Things will not return to what they had been used to. Still, keep your routines as predictable and structured as you can, even if the other parent doesn’t. Work out how you can both attend sports and extra-curricular activities respectfully. Don’t quiz the kids or let them be conduits for information, messages or problems. Drop the fantasy that one day you’ll tell them what really happened, and that they will take your side. ## 9. Don’t be shy to seek help. 9. But start with your needs first. If you are managing your moods, worries and difficult decisions well, you will be able to guide and lead your kid’s adjustment needs. If you are really concerned about your child adjusting to separation, don’t hesitate to seek counselling together, so that you are supporting your child. ## Conclusion: How to help your child overcome separation anxiety Separation is hard on everyone, but with love and patience, your child will find their way through. I know because I’ve seen it with my own toddler. Those early weeks at day care were full of tears (for both of us), but slowly, she started to settle. Now, she loves her friends and teachers and comes home bursting with stories about her day. She’s learned to enjoy being with people other than her family members, and I’ve learned that our kids are far more resilient than we give them credit for. Take it one step at a time, and don’t forget to lean on your own support system. As single mums, we’re stronger than we think. And so are our kids. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/effective-ways-to-ease-separation-anxiety-in-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/effective-ways-to-ease-separation-anxiety-in-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** Children of divorce, family breakup, behaviour, help children, acting out --- ### [Relocating After Divorce? What You Need to Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/relocating-after-divorce/) **Published:** May 27, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Thinking about relocating after divorce? There is definitely a lot to consider. If you have no idea where to begin (which is totally okay), we are here to help. Wanting to move away with the children can be overwhelming, especially when there’s a former spouse in the picture. Maybe you’re considering a fresh start across Australia, closer to family or new job opportunities. But if you share parenting responsibilities, it’s not as easy as packing up and heading off. This article will help you understand what Australian family law says about relocation after divorce or separation. We’ll look at legal requirements and how to handle it if your former partner doesn’t agree. If you’re separating and co-parenting and need clarity on your rights, this guide is worth reading. ## Relocating After Divorce and the Role of Family Law in Australia If you want to move to a different state or even just a few suburbs over, and it affects current parenting arrangements, you may need to take legal steps before packing those boxes. Under the Family Law Act 1975, any major move that changes your child’s relationship with the other parent requires the court’s approval. The court must consider your child’s best interests. This means you’ll need to show how the move will benefit them, not just you. ## What Is a Relocation Order and When Do You Need One? A relocation order is a court order that allows one parent to move with the kids, especially when the other parent doesn’t agree. If there’s no mutual agreement and your move would impact custody schedules or the routine with the child’s other parent, it’s a formal step you’ll need to take. ## Relocating After Divorce Without Telling the Other Parent If there’s a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/ "parenting plan") or parenting order in place, both parents need to agree before their kid/s can move somewhere else. Trying to move your children without the other parent’s consent has serious consequences, including being ordered to have the child returned. And we don’t want that. Even without a court order, the family court can step in if a parent moves without the other’s agreement. In areas of family law like this, getting advice from an experienced family lawyer can save you a lot of stress. ![relocating after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-ivan-samkov-8963084-1176x800.jpg "Pexels-ivan-samkov-8963084 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Reach an Agreement Without Going to Court If you and your ex are on relatively good terms, you may be able to avoid court altogether. Using family dispute resolution can help you reach an agreement that works for both of you. It’s a structured way to discuss your plans to move, with the focus on the best interests of the child. After deciding on things, you can formalise it through a consent order, which the court can make legally binding. This way, everyone knows where they stand, and you’ve got peace of mind before the moving truck rolls in. ## What Happens If Your Former Partner Opposes the Move? It’s not unusual for one parent to oppose the relocation, especially if they’re worried about losing time with the kids. When parents cannot agree, you may have to apply to the court for a relocation order. This isn’t a quick or easy process, but it may be necessary. The court must consider a bunch of things, like how your move might affect your child’s relationship with both parents, their schooling, support networks, and your ability to earn a living. The best interests of your children are always top priority. ## Parenting Orders and What They Mean for Moving House If a parenting order has been made, both parents have to stick to what it says. That covers things like where your child lives and how they spend time with each parent. A big move to a new location could breach that order. Even if you’re just moving house within the same city, it’s worth checking if your move would disrupt the existing parenting arrangements. In some cases, you’ll need the other parent’s OK, or even the court’s. ## Parenting Arrangements and Relocating After Divorce When you’re relocating with your kids, your existing arrangements need to be reviewed. This is especially true when the relocation after divorce takes the kids far from their current school, friends, or the other parent. You and your former partner may need to look at new custody schedules, alternative school holiday plans, or the possibility of setting up more video calls. The goal is to maintain a meaningful relationship with both parents, even after moving to a new area. ![relocating after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-ivan-samkov-4784042-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ivan-samkov-4784042 - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Court May Grant a Relocation Order, But Not Always You might feel strongly that the move may give your kids better opportunities or stability, but the court may not agree. When deciding whether to make orders, the judge looks at many factors: your reasons for moving, the practicality of the new location, and how the move affects the child’s day-to-day life. Even when there has been family violence or mental health problems involved, the court still evaluates the situation based on the children’s best interests. That’s why you need solid legal advice and evidence to back up your case. ## Dispute Resolution and Court Intervention Before heading to court, most parents are required to attend a dispute resolution session. It’s a chance to reach a compromise before things escalate. In many cases, this step can help avoid lengthy (and costly) legal battles. If conflict resolution fails and you cannot agree, the family law courts can step in to make orders. Whether you’re the parent who wants to move somewhere else or the parent who opposes the relocation, the process can be emotionally and financially draining. Again, and I can’t stress this enough, getting legal advice early is key. ## Final Thoughts: Relocating After Divorce After [applying for her divorce](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/hdi/apply-for-divorce), my friend Lena wanted a fresh start for herself and her daughter, so they moved closer to her parents. It wasn’t an easy decision—Lena was worried about how it might affect her daughter’s bond with her dad. But they worked out a plan through mediation. While it took some adjustment, they made it work. Her daughter sees him regularly, and having support nearby has made a huge difference for both of them. After separating, it’s completely understandable to want a fresh start or to live closer to your support network. But under Australian family law, relocating after divorce involves both parents’ decision. A well-thought-out plan that focuses on your kids’ best interests is your best bet. Make sure you understand your obligations under the Family Law Act. Speak to your family lawyer and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Most importantly, avoid rushing into a move that could trigger a legal headache. ![Can I relocate with my children away from their dad | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Relocation-orders.png "Relocation orders - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/relocating-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/relocating-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** domestic violence, family court, dv, recovery order, relocation application --- ### [Staying Friends With Your Ex - How To Keep It Civil](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/stay-friends-with-your-ex-after-divorce/) **Published:** February 14, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Breaking up is hard enough, but what about trying to be friends afterwards? Some say it’s mature; others say it’s a disaster waiting to happen. If you’ve found yourself wondering whether becoming friends with your ex is a good idea, you are not alone. This is one of those tricky situations that many cases can handle differently—there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. As a single mum, I know firsthand how dramatic an ex can make life, especially when kids are involved. I’ve tried the whole friends with your ex thing, and let’s just say… it’s complicated. But is it always a bad idea? That depends. This article will help you make sense of whether you should maintain a friendship with an ex and when it’s best to just take a breather and move on. ## **Can You Really Be Friends with Your Ex?** Some people swear by it—we’re just friends, they say, and claim it’s all platonic. But is that really true, or just something we tell ourselves to ease the heartbreak? The reality is that whether you can maintain a friendship with your ex depends on a few key factors. If there’s unresolved emotion, if one party is still secretly hoping for a romantic rekindling, or if the [breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/) was messy, trying to stay amicable is going to be a challenge. However, if both of you have genuinely moved on, a platonic friendship might just work. ## **Why Taking a Break After a Breakup Is Vital** One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is rushing into friendship too soon. It’s tempting to stay in each other’s lives, but you are still in limbo—not quite together, not quite apart. Taking a break gives you time to grieve the relationship, gain clarity, and focus on your personal growth. If you’re trying to force a friendship immediately, it may actually slow down your healing. Take some time and contemplate before deciding if friendship is even possible. ## **Setting Clear Boundaries with an Ex** If you decide to remain friends, clear boundaries are priority number one. Without them, you risk falling back into old romantic relationship patterns. Are you comfortable with your ex (or maybe too comfortable)? Can you become buddies without slipping back into intimate conversations or physical intimacy? Be honest with yourself about what you can handle, and don’t make exceptions just because you are feeling nostalgic. ## **When Friendship Becomes a Sticky Situation** Even with the best intentions, friendship with an ex can get murky. Maybe you start regularly texting, or maybe you rely on them for moral support. Next thing you know, you are in a weird emotional limbo—not together, but still dependent on each other’s presence. If you find yourself struggling to move forward or feeling anxiety about your new life, that’s a sign that the friendship isn’t working. Sometimes, the healthiest thing is to step away. ## **How a New Partner Changes Everything** What happens when a new partner enters the picture? Even if you and your ex are genuinely just close friends, your new relationship can change the dynamic. Would you be okay with your new partner being close friends with their ex? If not, it’s worth considering how becoming friends with your ex might affect your future relationship. Don’t expect your new man to accept this setup immediately. Remember, making space for your new relationship is essential. ![friends with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/3a824271-0114-487e-b24a-514f4b139ccb.jpg "3a824271-0114-487e-b24a-514f4b139ccb - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Being Friends with Your Ex (cont.)** ## **Social Media: A Blessing or a Curse?** One of the hardest parts of post-breakup life is deciding what to do about social media. Should you unfollow, block, or stay connected? Seeing your ex move on can reopen old wounds, especially if they seem to be thriving while you are still healing from the breakup. If scrolling through their posts feels like rubbing salt in your wound, it might be time to mute or remove them for your own peace of mind. ## **Are You Really Just Friends, or Is There Still Romantic Tension?** Here’s a tough question—if your ex may call you late at night if you still have deep, intimate talks, or if you’d drop everything to help them, is this truly a platonic friendship? It’s important to recognise when a friendship is actually a disguised romantic relationship. If there’s still romantic tension, then friendship might be doing more harm than good. ## **Should You Consider Therapy?** If your friendship is causing more emotional distress than happiness, talking to a professional might be a game-changer. A [therapist](https://singlemamaway.com/) can help you navigate post-breakup feelings, offer insight on whether staying friends is healthy for you, and help you set boundaries. Sometimes, seeking help is the best step toward true healing. ## **Learning to Prioritise Yourself** Above all, priority number one is your well-being. Are you trying to be friends because it truly benefits you or because you don’t want to let go? Focusing on yourself, your personal growth, and what makes you genuinely happy is crucial. You won’t regret choosing your own happiness over a friendship that drains you. ## **When It’s Time to Walk Away** In many cases, it’s okay to accept that being friends with your ex just isn’t working. It doesn’t mean you are bitter or immature. It just means you are choosing what’s best for you. If your friendship with your ex is bringing more confusion than clarity, causing anxiety, or keeping you from fully moving on, then it’s okay to step away. Walking away from an ex doesn’t mean you are walking away from growth. It just means you are making space for something better. ## **Conclusion: Choosing What’s Best for You (and Your Kids)** As a single mum, I’ve learned that I need to prioritise myself and my child over a past [relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/family-after-separation-divorce/#google_vignette). If staying friends with an ex keeps me stuck in the past, then it’s not worth it. Whether you choose to remain friends or not, what matters is that you are making the best decision for yourself. Your friendship should never come at the cost of your own well-being. So, take your time and remember—it’s okay to move on. Sometimes, the best friendship you can build after a breakup is the one you create with yourself. ![Is it possible to stay friends with your ex after divorce? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Stay-friends-with-your-ex.png "Stay friends with your ex - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/stay-friends-with-your-ex-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/stay-friends-with-your-ex-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Shared parenting **Tags:** communication, ex partner, amicable, mates --- ### [Lifting the Veil on 10 Popular Myths About Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/myths-about-divorce/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’ve ever whispered “I think I want a divorce” and immediately been hit with a barrage of unsolicited advice, horror stories, and straight-up myths, I feel you. As a single mum of two daughters who’s walked (well, sometimes crawled) through the divorce process myself, I know how confusing and emotionally exhausting it can be, especially when you’re trying to untangle fact from fiction. So, let’s debunk some of the most common myths about divorce and finally get some clarity. Whether you’re considering divorce, already knee-deep in paperwork, or just wondering what a property settlement actually means under Australian family law, this one’s for you. ## **Debunking Misconceptions and Myths About Divorce** There’s a lot to consider when it comes to divorce, and two of the biggest issues are property settlement and child custody. Unfortunately, these areas are also surrounded by stubborn myths. Let’s clear the air and bust some of the most common misconceptions. ## **Myths About Divorce and Property Settlement** ## **\#1: The House Always Goes to the Wife** Here’s the deal: property settlement in Australia is not about who gets the house. The family law system takes into account the entire property pool, which includes the home, savings, super, debts, and sometimes even inheritance. Family lawyers consider both financial and non-financial contributions, and let me tell you, raising kids and managing the household count, whether you were the breadwinner or the bedtime story queen, your input matters. ## **\#2: Everything is Split 50/50** Nope. Property settlements do not always mean slicing the pie down the middle. The court uses a process to determine what’s just and equitable. This involves assessing assets, liabilities and financial resources, then evaluating both parties’ income-earning potential and non-monetary contributions (hello, stay-at-home parents!). Superannuation splitting, spousal maintenance, and tax implications are also considered. So yeah, it’s a bit more complex than “he gets half, I get half.” ![myths about divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-7876051 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **\#3: You Can Finalise Everything in One Go** Unfortunately, the divorce process and the [division of assets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-after-separation/ "division of assets") are two separate things. You can finalise your property settlement before or after the actual divorce is granted. But once you’re divorced, you’ve only got 12 months to sort out property, so don’t leave it hanging. And yes, even if you’ve reached an agreement verbally, it’s not binding until it’s formalised by the Family Court or through a binding financial agreement. ## **Myths About Divorce and Family Law** ## **\#1: You Need to Prove Someone Did Something Wrong** This myth drives me mad. Australia operates under a no-fault divorce system. That means when you apply for a divorce, you don’t need to prove that your ex cheated, lied, or became a professional couch potato. You just need to show that the relationship broke down irretrievably, and you’ve been separated for 12 months. You can even live under one roof and still be considered separated. This was my reality for a while (and let’s just say, it was not a sitcom situation). ## **#2: De Facto Relationships Don’t Count** Another common misconception. Under the [Family Law Act](https://www.legislation.gov.au/C2004A00275/2019-03-10/text), de facto couples (including same-sex partners) generally have the same rights and obligations as married couples when it comes to property division and parenting arrangements, provided you lived together for at least two years, had a child together, or made substantial contributions. I’ve got a close friend who learned this the hard way. Don’t assume your de facto relationship means you can skip the legal formalities. ## **\#3: You Don’t Need Legal Advice If Things Are Amicable With Your Former Partner** If you take one thing from this post, take this: always get independent [legal advice](https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/) to ensure your agreement is legally binding. Even if things are amicable, even if your former partner seems reasonable, even if you “just want it over.” Not doing so can lead to costly mistakes, especially if one of you decides to challenge the agreement down the line. I’ve seen it happen, and trust me, it’s not pretty. ## **Myths About Divorce, Child Custody, and Finances** ## **\#1: Custody of the Kids Automatically Favours the Mum** Under [Australian family law](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl), there’s no such thing as automatic custody. In fact, the term “custody” is outdated. It’s now called parental responsibility and parenting arrangements. The focus is on the best interests of the child, which considers things like the child’s relationship with each parent, safety, and stability. Time with each parent is determined on a case-by-case basis, and co-parenting is strongly encouraged. One of the toughest lessons I learned? The child’s best interest might not always match what you think is fair. ## **\#2: You Can Do It All Without Help From Experienced Family Lawyers** ![myths about divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8111865-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8111865 - Beanstalk Mums") While you can navigate separation and divorce solo, getting help from experienced family lawyers or a reputable law group can make all the world of difference. They’ll help you make informed decisions and ensure your interests are protected, especially when you’re juggling school runs, bills, and endless questions from your kids. And if you’re worried about cost, some firms offer free initial consults or fixed-fee services. ## **\#3: Verbal Agreements Are Good Enough** I used to think, “We’re both grown-ups, we can shake on it.” But if your ex-partner changes their mind, or forgets what was said. It can get messy fast. A binding financial agreement or parenting orders will save you headaches (and court dates) down the track. Remember, even amicably separated couples in Australia can benefit from putting things in writing. Because life happens, and so do new partners, job changes, and unexpected drama. ## **\#4: Only Financial Contributions Matter** This is a biggie for mums. Raising the kids, supporting your ex-partner with their career, and managing the household are all non-financial contributions that absolutely factor into property settlements. The [Family Court](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/) values unpaid labour, especially when it keeps the wheels turning during the relationship. So whether you brought home the bacon or brought home the kids, your efforts count. ## **Final Thoughts: Myths About Divorce** If you’re navigating divorce and separation, I see you. I’ve been the teary mum filling out forms during naptime. I’ve panicked about property settlement and second-guessed my every decision. But learning the facts and letting go of the myths about divorce gave me the clarity and confidence to move forward and build a new life for me and my girls. The truth is, every case is different, and the best thing you can do is get support, stay informed, and don’t let the common divorce myths mess with your head. You’ve got this, Mama. ![Separation myths that are complete bullsh*t | Beanstalk Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Spring-Style-Inspiration-9-3.png "Spring Style Inspiration (9) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/myths-about-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/myths-about-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** divorce, financial separation, family law, superannuation, de facto, financial assets, property settlement --- ### [Relax, Recharge, Repeat: The Ultimate At-Home Spa Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/relax-recharge-repeat-the-ultimate-at-home-spa-guide/) **Published:** March 20, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Life can get overwhelming, and sometimes the best way to reset is by indulging in a little self-care. While a trip to the spa sounds amazing, it’s not always practical. The good news? You can create an equally luxurious experience in the comfort of your own home. Simply set the mood, slip into cosy [bath robes](https://www.adairs.com.au/bathroom/bath-robes/), and prepare for the ultimate relaxation session. This guide will walk you through the essentials of an at-home spa day, helping you unwind without stepping outside. Whether you need a quick refresh or a full-body reset, these steps will ensure you get the relaxation you deserve. ## Set the Scene: Create a Spa-Like Atmosphere The true spa experience begins with ambience. The surroundings are expected to inspire relaxation and tranquillity. Get rid of any clutter in your space that will tend to cause peace of mind. When any peculiarities or unwanted noises in the room are addressed accordingly, creating the perfect environment that you have long craved will become easier. With the lights darkened or candles flaring with the softest of ambient light, you will find an atmosphere begotten with warmth and tranquillity. Aromatherapy in creating mood is another necessity for setting the ambience. Use lavender, eucalyptus, or chamomile to enhance the mood of your home with a spa essence. These can be diffused or combined in your bath or dropped directly onto the wrist for a minimum effect. Altogether with a good music track – whether an orchestra, nature sounds, or white noise – these would further enhance the relaxation vibe. ## Dress the Part: Comfort is Key Among the easiest avenues to pool the spa parameters into place is through dressing comfortably. Cashmere and fluffy robes in your closet, in winter and summer versions, are exactly what you need: stripes, plain colours, or floral designs. For enhanced warmth, have a robe produced in thick cotton fabric. If cotton is not available, microfiber robes still offer luxurious pampering. For relaxation with a touch of opulence, make a habit of wearing pretty slippers and a headband to keep your hair out of your face. ## Begin with a Warm Soak or Shower A warm bath or shower is the perfect way to start your spa day. Infusing your bath with [essential oils](https://www.healthline.com/health/essential-oils-in-bath) or bath salts helps to relax your muscles and calm your mind. Add some rose petals or citrus slices; this would enhance your visual pleasure as well as sensory pleasure. If you do not own a bathtub, hanging eucalyptus leaves near the showerhead will do the trick. Body scrubs after bathing can leave your skin refreshed. Gently exfoliate using a sugar or coffee scrub to slough off dead skin and promote circulation. Steam can provide a good penetration of your pores and help detoxify your skin. You can do it simply by laying back in a bath or wrapping yourself in warm towels. ## Pamper Your Hands and Feet ![spa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Spa-in-article-2-1200x671.png "Spa in-article 2 - Beanstalk Mums")*source stockcake* Your hands and feet work hard every day, so they deserve some pampering during your spa-at-home days. It should be seriously considered if starting any kind of at-home spa session by soaking your feet in warm water infused with Epsom salts, which help to soothe tired muscles and soften the skin. If you have a foot bath, doing this would be wonderful! Just 10-15 minutes of soaking leaves a real refreshment on the feet. So, now it would be the time to use a gentle exfoliator to buff away those dead, flaky skin cells. Try the sugar scrub or coffee scrub. Next, put on a rich moisturiser or foot cream. Spend some time massaging the rich cream into the feet to give sweet relaxation. Afterwards, put on a pair of flannel-type socks, rolling them over the ankles a bit. Go ahead and acquiesce to your deepening relaxation as your skin soaks up the nourishment. Perform the same hand spa ritual: apply an exfoliant and then a heavy coat of moisturiser for soaking in the hydration. ## Hydrate and Nourish from Within [Keeping hydrated](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/water/art-20044256) is essential to achieving that healthy glow, while outside we pampered ourselves in true style. Sipping infused water with lemon, cucumber, or mint sounds like a refreshing idea plus extra health benefits. While herbal teas like chamomile or green tea will surely relax, and calm the mind and body, the whole experience goes hand in hand with munching on healthy snacks. Opt for something light and healthy, like nuts, berries, or dark chocolate, that can help curb your craving without weighing your stomach down too much. Antioxidant-rich fresh fruits can, however, also work to revitalise your skin from within. These little mindful choices count and only add to the rejuvenating factor for your at-home spa day. ## End with a Mindful Moment ![spa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Spa-in-article-1-800x800.png "Spa in-article 1 - Beanstalk Mums")*source stockcake* The last thing you want to do while getting out of your spa experience is throw in a little time for being mindful and relaxing your mental state. Allowing your mind to de-stress through meditation or deep breathing would be beneficial; even 5-10 minutes of focused breathing could significantly upgrade how you feel. In the alternative, you could reflect through journaling, and clear mental space by writing down some positive affirmations or a gratitude list – that would be one great way to leave that session on a positive note. Stretching your body a little or practising some easy yoga is highly recommended for finishing off your [relaxation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/tips-for-mum-to-unwind/ "relaxation") routine. This will loosen up your muscles and make you feel lighter and more refreshed afterwards. Take this time to appreciate the present moment, think about your self-care, and cherish the invigorating feeling. ## Make It a Habit An at-home spa day isn’t just a one-time indulgence—it can be a regular part of your self-care routine. Whether you dedicate an entire day or just an hour to unwind, these simple steps can help you feel refreshed and rejuvenated. The key is to make relaxation a habit, allowing yourself to reset both physically and mentally. So, next time life gets a little hectic, remember to relax, recharge, and repeat! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/relax-recharge-repeat-the-ultimate-at-home-spa-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/relax-recharge-repeat-the-ultimate-at-home-spa-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Healing --- ### [Single Mothers Club: How to Beat Loneliness This Awareness Week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-single-mothers-club-how-to-beat-loneliness-this-awareness-week/) **Published:** August 2, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Loneliness Awareness Week is here, and as a single mother, this is a topic that hits close to home. Loneliness is a normal human emotion; it’s a signal that we need connection. In the chaos of nappies, night feeds, and work deadlines, loneliness can quietly creep in, no matter how busy we are. That’s what the single mothers club is here for! I remember standing in my kitchen one night in 2023, washing dishes in silence while my little one slept. The house was still, but in my chest, a quiet ache pulsed. I wasn’t sad exactly, just… disconnected. I missed adult company; I missed being seen by friends and family members. That’s when I realised how loneliness can often show up not just in empty rooms, but even when we’re surrounded by noise and responsibility. This blog is for every mama who’s ever felt that ache, and for all of us trying to make sense of loneliness for our well-being. ## Understanding Loneliness in Parenthood Being a mother is full-on. Between school runs, childcare, work, and laundry that seem to multiply overnight, there’s little opportunity for true connection. You can feel the loneliest even when surrounded by adorable tiny humans. You might feel lonely even when you’re never technically alone, and that’s completely normal. When we’re not around other adults who truly get it, social isolation and loneliness can sneak in. It’s important to recognise that feeling this way isn’t a sign that something is wrong, but a signal that we need to reconnect. ## Why Loneliness Awareness Week Matters for Mums Loneliness Awareness Week exists to normalise talking openly about loneliness. This matters deeply for mothers, because so many of us feel ashamed to admit we’re struggling. We tell ourselves we “should” be grateful or busy enough not to be lonely, but loneliness can lead to serious mental health struggles. By shining a light on this issue during Loneliness Awareness Week, we remind mothers that it’s okay to not feel okay. We support one another by being real. Organisations like [Marmalade Trust](https://www.marmaladetrust.org/) are working hard to help us realise that loneliness is a normal human emotion; something to talk about, not hide. ## What Loneliness Really Feels Like for Mums For me, loneliness often looks like scrolling my phone at 10 pm, wishing I had someone to debrief the day with. Or dreading weekends because there’s no grown-up chat at playdates. It can feel overwhelming, like there’s a disconnect between who I was before becoming a mother and who I am now. Sometimes, I feel invisible, especially during times of social isolation. I experienced loneliness most when I was on maternity leave, isolated from my old routine and my friends. The lack of social contact and adult conversations chipped away at my confidence and mental health. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-6029184-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-6029184 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why Feelings of Loneliness Can Be Dangerous if Left Unchecked When loneliness is left unchecked, it hurts our hearts and affects our bodies. [Research](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9636084/) shows it can lead to mental and physical health issues like heart disease, cognitive decline, dementia, and even early death. That’s heavy stuff. As a mother, it’s easy to put your needs last. But understanding that loneliness can lead to real harm makes it clear: we need to care for ourselves, too. We wouldn’t ignore a cough in our kids, so why ignore our own mental health problem? Related article: [107 Free and easy self-care ideas: Boost your mental and physical wellbeing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/ "107 Free and easy self-care ideas: Boost your mental and physical wellbeing") ## You’re Not the Only Lonely Mum – The Single Mothers Club If you’re lonely, you’re not alone, Mama. Many people can experience loneliness, and single mothers are among the most at risk. [One survey in 2023](https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/community-life-survey-202324-annual-publication/community-life-survey-202324-loneliness-and-support-networks--2) revealed that people in the UK felt lonelier than ever, especially after the pandemic. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mummy or juggling work and childcare, feeling lonely and isolated can sneak up on you. Know this: your feelings are valid. And there’s nothing wrong with seeking support, whether that’s from a support group, your GP, or a local organisation. ## How to Combat Social Isolation as a Single Mother First step? Acknowledge it. Then, make the first move. I started with a local library baby rhyme time, even though it felt awkward at first. Later, I joined a single mothers club through Nextdoor, and suddenly I wasn’t so alone in the park anymore. Loneliness and social isolation are powerful, but so is connection. Try getting involved in community groups, volunteering with a local organisation, or saying yes to that coffee invite. Spending time with others, especially people in a similar position, helps us feel less alone. ## The Single Mothers Club: The Role of Community in Easing Loneliness The neighbourhood I live in now has a fantastic community engagement program. It took courage, but once I started chatting with other mothers at the local market, my feelings of loneliness eased. Don’t underestimate the power of simply saying “hi.” The more we interact, the more we build that sense of belonging that keeps loneliness at bay. And local social networking platforms make connecting with your neighbourhood so much easier. ![The single mothers club](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/1000024256-1200x800.jpg "1000024256 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Creating Safe Spaces for Honest Conversation Sometimes we need a safe space just to say, “I’m not okay.” That’s why I created a WhatsApp group for the single mothers club in my area. It’s where we share wins, vent frustrations, and plan wine-and-chocolate nights. Creating or joining a support group can be a game-changer. When you’re lonely, having people who get it can feel like fresh air after weeks indoors. Empathy, compassionate listening, and knowing someone else gets it makes all the difference. ## Loneliness Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing Here’s the truth: loneliness can often show up even when everything looks “fine.” Having a full calendar doesn’t equal a full heart. And being lonely doesn’t mean you’re doing a bad parenting job. We need to normalise talking about the quiet moments of isolation. Let’s be honest about the challenges so we can better support each other. After all, the strongest mamas are often the ones who admit when they’re struggling and reach out for help. ## The Single Mothers Club: Building Long-Term Social Connections Start small. Invite a neighbour over for tea. Sign up for a pottery class. Go to the local mothers’ group even if you’re nervous. These moments add up to strong social connections, the kind that feel less lonely and make life richer. We are biologically wired to connect. Let’s stop waiting for someone else to reach out. Be proactive. Little steps like saying hello, spending time outside, or helping someone with their pram can shift your whole day. Social needs matter, yours included. ## Final Thoughts: The Single Mothers Club Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. Especially in parenthood, where giving everything can sometimes leave your cup empty. During Loneliness Awareness Week, let’s remind each other: it’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to reach out. It’s okay to say, “Hey, I need someone.” Last bit of advice from the single mothers club – being a mother is hard. Being a lonely one is even harder. But you don’t have to stay there. The first step might just be a conversation, a wave to a neighbour, or reading a blog like this. Together, we can help each other feel more connected, more seen, and a lot less alone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-single-mothers-club-how-to-beat-loneliness-this-awareness-week/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-single-mothers-club-how-to-beat-loneliness-this-awareness-week/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking --- ### [What Are The Psychological Effects Of Being A Single Mother?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/psychological-effects-of-being-a-single-mother/) **Published:** February 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When I became a single mother, I realised that it comes with an immense set of challenges—mentally, emotionally, and physically. It’s a role that requires resilience, patience, and a constant balancing act. Many single mothers struggle with feelings of guilt, exhaustion, and anxiety due to the demands of parenting alone. However, while the effects of being a single parent can take a toll, single motherhood also makes us stronger and more flexible. If you’ve ever wondered how to cope with these challenges, you’re not alone. In this article, we will talk about the psychological effects of being a single mother. I’ll also provide tips on how to cope with parenting stress with which we are all familiar. ## **The Psychological Effects Of Being A Single Mother** No matter how busy we are, we have to take the psychological effects of being a single mother seriously. The stressors of financial strain, lack of support, and emotional burden can cause your overall well-being to decline. Here are the effects to watch out for and how to manage them. ## **1. Chronic Stress** The responsibility of raising a child alone can be overwhelming. We have to juggle household chores, financial planning, work, and childcare. Without another parent to share the load, the pressure can exacerbate feelings of stress and anxiety. Balancing work and children’s needs leaves little time for self-care. The constant state of being “on” can take a toll on our emotional health, making burnout a real concern for many single mothers. Over time, I have learned that a strong support network can help reduce these pressures and create a healthier environment for me and my kids. ## **2. Financial Strain** Financial stress is one of the single mum’s biggest hurdles. Without a second income, managing household expenses, childcare, and daily necessities can be a constant stressor. We often face tough choices—working long hours to make ends meet while still trying to be present for our kids. Many single mums experience feelings of hopelessness when they feel like they can’t provide enough. If you can relate to this, look for flexible work options or government assistance programs to help ease the load. Seeking financial guidance or support groups can help single mums feel less alone in their struggles. ## **3. Struggling with Low Self-Esteem and Guilt** Feelings of guilt are common among single mums. The societal stigma surrounding single-parent households can make us feel like we are not doing enough. [Guilt can stem from](https://singlemamaway.com/product/you-are-enough-a-guide-to-combat-mothers-guilt/) not having enough time, not providing enough financially, or simply not being able to offer the ideal two-parent setting. Remember, your best is enough, and showing love and consistency to your child outweighs any expectations from society. ## **4. Feelings of Loneliness and Isolation Due to Lack of Support System** Many single mothers face [feelings of loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/coping-loneliness-single-parent/ "feelings of loneliness") due to limited social interactions. The demands of parenting often leave little time for friendship or dating. Without a solid support network, feelings of isolation can worsen mental health challenges. Seek emotional support from other single mothers, families, or community groups like the [Beanstalk Single Mum Vine Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/) to feel connected. Shared experiences provide encouragement and reduce feelings of loneliness. ![psychological effects of being a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/6f0077f9-b4ad-40ec-aa0f-251140ed45b5-1066x800.jpg "6f0077f9-b4ad-40ec-aa0f-251140ed45b5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Anxiety and Depression Due to the Weight of Responsibility** The stress of single parenting can lead to exhaustion and parental burnout. Single mums often juggle multiple roles—parent, provider, caregiver, and sometimes even teacher. We want to meet our children’s needs while managing personal responsibilities. This emotional burden can lead to depressive symptoms. To combat these feelings, make time for yourself, even in small moments, and focus on your resilience. This will create a better balance. Remember, learning to [ask for help](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/ "ask for help") when needed is a sign of strength, not weakness. ## **6. The Pressure of Being the Sole Decision-Maker** The responsibility of making all decisions alone can feel overwhelming. Single mothers often feel pressure to get every choice right—from schooling to discipline, from financial planning to medical decisions. Having a support network in place, whether through friends, family, or parenting groups, can help single mothers like us to feel less alone in decision-making. Sometimes, simply having someone to talk things through with can reduce stress and provide clarity. ## **The Impact on Children: Understanding Your Child’s Emotional Needs** Kids in single-parent households may experience the emotional effects of not having another parent present. They may have questions, express frustration, or struggle with feelings of confusion. So how do you create a strong, stable foundation for your kids? Give them emotional support. Being open about emotions and reassuring your children that they are loved and supported helps build a healthier parent-child relationship. ## **How to Build Resilience and Empower Yourself** [Resilience is key to overcoming the hardships](https://singlemamaway.com/emotional-resilience-how-to-thrive-as-a-single-mum/) faced by single mothers. While single parenting comes with unique challenges, it also fosters incredible strength. Single mothers often develop strong problem-solving skills, independence, and adaptability. Embracing single motherhood as an opportunity for growth can create a brighter future. Focus on your personal goals, build a support network, and practise self-compassion. This will empower you to overcome obstacles along the way. ## **Seeking Help: The Importance of a Strong Support System** One of the most important aspects of managing single motherhood is having a solid support network. Whether it’s family, friends, or community resources, social support can make a significant difference in mental well-being. Support groups specifically designed for single mothers can offer shared experiences, encouragement, and valuable parenting advice. ## **Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone in This Journey** Many single mothers feel stuck in survival mode, constantly prioritising their child’s emotional and physical needs over their own. However, taking care of your emotional health is also essential. There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for our kids. But remember that you are only human – someone who makes mistakes and needs enough rest to function properly. Seeking therapy, engaging in stress-relieving activities, or simply taking moments to breathe can positively impact your mental well-being. Solo parenting is undoubtedly challenging, but it also shapes incredibly resilient and strong women. The effects of being a single parent, both psychological and emotional, are real; but they don’t define you. While the struggle is significant, the love, dedication, and commitment you give to your child are immeasurable. Take care of your well-being, seek support, and embrace self-care to help lessen the burden. Remember, you are not alone. There is a community of single mothers who understand, support and uplift one another. You are doing an incredible job, and your strength does not go unnoticed. Stay kind to yourself, and know that brighter days are ahead. ![Loneliness single parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/loneliness2.png "loneliness2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/psychological-effects-of-being-a-single-mother/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/psychological-effects-of-being-a-single-mother/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Healing **Tags:** support, lonely, isolated, sad, depressed, friends --- ### [Embrace Change in your Life for a Powerful Fresh Start](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/embrace-change-in-your-life-for-a-powerful-fresh-start/) **Published:** August 30, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Don’t you just love spring? This season always stirs something in me! I guess it’s the flowers blooming where there used to be bare branches, or the quiet nudge that it’s time to clear out the old and make space for the new. As single mums, trying to embrace change can feel like being asked to dance in shoes that don’t quite fit. It’s awkward. Sometimes painful. And yet, so often, it’s where the growth happens. This season, I’m learning not to fight change but to hold its hand, even when I don’t know where it’s leading. Change and growth really do go hand in hand, and when we choose to embrace change in our lives, something shifts in the best way. ## What does it look like to embrace change as a mum Embracing change doesn’t usually look graceful. I’ve learned that the hard way. It looks like holding back tears in the pantry while your toddler is having a tantrum. It’s adjusting bedtime routines after a move. It’s saying goodbye to the version of motherhood you thought you’d have. But it’s also saying yes to what’s next, even when it’s different. Even when it’s hard. Change is inevitable, and motherhood has taught me that resisting change only makes it heavier to carry. When we embrace change, we become resilient and open ourselves up to new possibilities we might not have imagined. To embrace change as a mum is messy, brave, and ordinary all at once, and that’s precisely where growth and learning start to take root. ## Small ways to stay grounded through big changes We don’t always get to choose the process of change when our life shifts, but we can choose how we steady ourselves in it. Here are a few small anchors that have helped me navigate change: - [A morning ritual](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/self-love-rituals-for-valentines/) (even if it’s just one quiet but strong cup of coffee before the kids wake up) - A gratitude journal where I jot down small victories along the way - Journaling through uncomfortable thoughts and feelings - Walking barefoot on the grass as a reminder to stay grounded These tiny acts don’t stop the waves, but they help me build resilience by teaching me to stay present. Change may feel overwhelming, but with simple practices, we can create a positive outlook and see the world in a new light. ## Helping our kids embrace change gently Children feel change too, even if they don’t always have the words for it. And as mums, we often carry the weight of their emotions alongside our own. Here are some of the things that have helped us during huge life changes: - [Creating simple, familiar rituals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/family-rituals-to-strengthen-bonds/) (like a bedtime story that never changes) - Naming the feelings together (“It’s okay to miss the old house.”) - Keeping routines soft but steady - Reminding them: “We’re in this together. You’re safe.” Helping kids accept change takes patience, but it’s also an opportunity for growth for the whole family. Our kiddos learn adaptability when they see us model it, and they gain a deeper understanding of resilience by watching how we embrace challenges. ![Embrace change and embrace happy life - mother playing with child in the garden](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-creationhill-1261909-1200x800.jpg "embrace change in your life for a Powerful Fresh Start - Beanstalk Mums") ## The importance of embracing change and clear goals So, what is the importance of embracing change? For one, it isn’t just about surviving hard times, but about welcoming change as a catalyst for personal growth and development. Change means letting go of what no longer serves us. Yes, change can feel like stepping outside your comfort zone and into the unknown, but it’s also a chance to reframe the story we tell ourselves. When we embrace change, we open up new opportunities for self-discovery and personal growth. And in this ever-evolving world, that adaptability is the boost we need to keep moving toward our best life. ## Letting go and leaning into the new Change often begins with loss, even if it’s a “good” change. Letting go of *what* *was* can hurt. But sometimes, we have to put down what no longer serves us so we can make space for new beginnings. For me, letting go looked like: - Saying goodbye to a job that drained me - Allowing myself to feel a setback without labelling it as failure - Letting go of limiting beliefs about what my future had to look like And leaning in? It’s choosing to believe that something good might still be ahead, even if I can’t see it yet. That outlook on life is what turns change positively into a transformative journey of self-discovery. ## 5 tips for embracing change instead of fearing it Here are 5 tips that have made the biggest difference for me: 1. **Reframe resistance to change.** Instead of fearing it, remind yourself that change brings new opportunities. 2. **Set clear goals.** Even a specific goal, like “I’ll try one new routine this week,” gives direction. 3. **Celebrate small victories.** Every step counts when working toward personal and professional growth. 4. **Practice continuous learning.** Whether it’s learning a new skill or simply reflecting in a gratitude journal, lifelong learning helps us grow. 5. **Stay open to new situations.** A willingness to adapt makes unforeseen challenges feel less daunting. But hey, these aren’t quick fixes, just actionable steps that open the door to positive transformation. And if you’d love even more practical tools to make change feel lighter, you’ll find them inside the [Single Mum Hack’s Vault](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts). ## Embrace change one step at a time If you’re facing a season of change right now — whether big or small — you don’t need to figure it all out at once. Start with one small step. Embracing change doesn’t mean liking it. It means choosing not to stay stuck. It means trusting that even in uncertainty, you are still the anchor your children need. When we accept change as part of life, we give ourselves the grace to see it as an opportunity for self-improvement, not a punishment. ## What change often teaches us Most of the time, change teaches us that impermanence is the only constant. While it can feel scary, impermanence also brings with it new possibilities, space for new growth, and a deeper sense of who we are becoming. The willingness to adapt throughout the process of change is what helps us find change positively influencing our outlook on life. Remember, we can’t make a change overnight, so let’s embrace change in our lives as an opportunity for self-improvement. ## Final thoughts: Embrace changes and a growth mindset Change is necessary, and yes, it brings both loss and possibility; but it also reminds us that growth often begins in the unknown. As mums, embracing change as an opportunity gives us adaptability and resilience to overcome challenges, even when the path feels uncertain. Welcoming change opens the door to new opportunities and growth and development, while the impermanence of life invites us to create a positive, transformative outlook. When I first became a single mum, I thought I had to have it all figured out straight away. But for weeks, everything felt messy and uncertain. One night, I was staring at the budget and wondering how I’d make it work. It felt overwhelming, but I told myself to just focus on the next right step — one bill paid, one day at a time. Slowly, things started to shift. I got better at asking for help and permitting myself to rest without guilt. That’s what I’ve learned about change — even uncomfortable thoughts and feelings can become a catalyst for personal development when we cultivate resilience and allow ourselves to sit with them. It’s not about doing everything at once. It’s about small, quiet steps that build strength. And before you know it, you look back and realise you’ve grown through it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/embrace-change-in-your-life-for-a-powerful-fresh-start/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/embrace-change-in-your-life-for-a-powerful-fresh-start/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking --- ### [Explore Volunteering Its Good For Improved Mental Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/volunteering/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Volunteering doesn’t just make a difference in others’ lives. It can transform your own, too. In this article, we’ll dive into the powerful mental health benefits of volunteering. We’ll explore how giving back to your community can give you a sense of purpose, reduce stress, and bring immense pleasure to your life. Whether you’re looking for ways to feel happier, make new friends, or find a sense of pride and identity, this guide will help you discover how a little time volunteering can deliver big rewards. Let’s explore why lending a hand can put a smile on your face and bring a little extra joy to your life. ## **How volunteering helps mental health** ## **1. Mental health benefits of volunteering** The impacts of volunteering go beyond the deed itself. When you lend a hand, you feel a sense of accomplishment that can brighten your life. It can reduce feelings of depression and anxiety, giving you a more positive view of your life and future. A [Mayo Clinic research](https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/3-health-benefits-of-volunteering) shows that helping others helps counteract anxiety by focusing your mind on meaningful work rather than daily worries. For single mums, keeping mental health challenges in check is a regular struggle. Volunteering allows you to address these mental health concerns by finding purpose in small acts of kindness. ## **2. It is good for your mind and body** Volunteering has physical health benefits as well. When you engage in community service, your hormones and brain activity shift, helping you relax. This can lower your blood pressure, improve physical health, and make you feel happier and healthier overall. For single mums like us who are not getting enough social interaction, volunteering connects you to others. It offers a chance to meet new friends. It’s also a way to counter the stigma of feeling isolated while enhancing your overall health. ![volunteering](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/F19f73e8-99b1-4e14-9bd0-252037182db3-1067x800.jpg "F19f73e8-99b1-4e14-9bd0-252037182db3 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Volunteering connects you to others** One of the best perks of volunteering is the way it brings you closer to others. You’re joining a group of people who care about the same things and want to make a difference. This can help you make new friends and build a solid support network. Helping out gives you a chance to meet people from different walks of life. It can be your energising escape from daily mummy routines. You can help at a local food bank, a soup kitchen or even a museum docent program. You have plenty of opportunities to make friends while doing good. ## **4. It can help advance your career** Beyond mental health, volunteering can also help you advance your career. You get to enhance your résumé through the experience you gain by working in various areas. It’s one way to explore different kinds of work and find your strengths. If you are a shy type of employee, this kind of work can also help build your self-confidence. That’s hitting two birds with one stone! ## **5. It gives you a sense of purpose and fulfilment** When you contribute to something larger than yourself, you feel a sense of pride and identity. This feeling reduces depression and helps you feel more content in life. By volunteering, you create a meaningful connection to the community. Whether delivering meals to seniors or supporting a local health organization, it brings immense pleasure and helps you feel valued and accomplished. ## **6. It helps you learn new skills** Volunteering is a great way to learn new things in a low-pressure environment. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities that help you grow and expand your knowledge. You can learn about healthcare, community work, or even animal care. With your newly-found skills, you can boost your self-confidence and gain a sense of accomplishment. These skills can be incredibly valuable, especially if you have potential career prospects. ## **7. It connects you to the community** Volunteering is one of the most powerful ways to connect and give back to your community. When you lend a helping hand, you’re part of a team working toward a common goal. This sense of connection can be life-changing. Knowing you’re part of something bigger and that you’re not alone in your efforts can offer immense relief from everyday struggles. It feels good to know you’re building a stronger community and a better place for your children. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/7660e870-13e0-48b6-aeb2-0504e8957afb-1-1066x800.jpg "7660e870-13e0-48b6-aeb2-0504e8957afb - Beanstalk Mums") ## **8. It helps reduce stress** So, how does volunteering help reduce stress? When you’re busy lending a hand, it takes your mind off your worries and provides a positive view of your life. Studies in the U.S. have shown that volunteering can reduce anxiety and improve mental well-being. When you feel like drowning in the daily challenges of raising kids, helping out can be a distraction. Giving back to others is a fulfilling way to counteract the effects of stress and improve your overall mental health. When it all feels overwhelming, remember there are communities and people ready to support you. Reach out to pages like [Single Mama Way](https://singlemamaway.com), where you’ll find fellow single mum counsellors who understand what you’re going through. They offer counselling and guidance to help you regain control and find joy in life again. ***Further reading: [10 Calming Tips for Single Mothers.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/)*** ## **FAQs** ## **What types of volunteering are good for your mental health?** From helping in a community garden, working with animals, or supporting local seniors to working remotely via phone or computer, countless types of volunteering benefit your mental health. Choose volunteer work that aligns with your interests. If you don’t have much spare time, there are flexible opportunities where you can render a few hours per week. This way, volunteering feels less like a task on your to-do list and more like a fulfilling experience that prevents mental health conditions. ## **How much time should you spend volunteering?** The time you dedicate to lending a hand is entirely up to you. Research has shown that around 100 hours per year, or about two hours per week, can deliver significant mental health benefits. But even an hour here and there can make a positive impact. I know how difficult it is for us single mums to balance time, so start small if needed. Even lending a hand for one hour a week can help you feel accomplished and connected. Volunteering is a great way to make a difference without feeling overwhelmed by time commitments. ## **Wrapping it up: How volunteering helps mental health** Volunteering is more than just giving back. It’s a way to improve your mental health and create a meaningful connection with your community. It helps you reduce anxiety, gain new skills, and find meaning and identity. I remember when I first volunteered at a local animal shelter. Honestly, I thought it’d just be a nice thing to do for the community, but it turned out to be a major mental boost for me. I met people who became close friends, learned to care for animals, and came out feeling more connected and content. Even if you only volunteer a couple of hours here and there, it’s amazing how much happiness it can add to your life. The joy you get from volunteering is real, it makes everything a bit richer. Give it a shot; you might be surprised! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/volunteering/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/volunteering/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career, Health **Tags:** career, charity, work, op shop, volunteer --- ### [Helpful Tips to Keep Your Porcelain Veneers Looking Flawless](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-to-keep-your-porcelain-veneers-flawless/) **Published:** July 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Some people are pretty insecure about their smiles because they suffer from certain dental problems. Whether misaligned or discoloured teeth, it could affect one’s self-esteem and even affect how you can connect with people. Fortunately, [porcelain veneers](https://adawn.me/services/veneers/) are one of the best advancements in dentistry that help individuals achieve the best smile there is. Even if they’re known for their durability, maintenance and TLC are a must. Today’s article will guide you on how to care for your porcelain veneers to keep them looking flawless. ***Further reading: [The ABCs of Kid-Friendly Dental Care: Tips for a Bright Smile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-abcs-of-kid-friendly-dental-care-tips-for-bright-smile/)*** ## **The importance of a solid foundation: daily oral hygiene practices.** The first step is a no-brainer: practice your oral hygiene. This means brushing, flossing, and rinsing with mouthwash are a must. The core of self-care is the basics, and unfortunately, a lot of people take this for granted. Brushing your teeth at least twice a day is a must. It is equally important to choose the right brush for this. Soft-bristled ones are ideal paired with non-abrasive toothpaste. Keep an eye out for non-abrasive brands, as their counterparts could scratch your veneers. Remember, porcelain veneers are made of ceramic materials, and although they’re known for their durability, their lustre could still diminish over time. While we’re at it, ditch whitening toothpastes since their whitening agents can damage your porcelain. If you want to **achieve whiter teeth**, consider setting up a dental appointment with your dentist, who can recommend the best procedures for you. Many dentists also suggest using electric toothbrushes with soft brush heads; just make sure not to use too much pressure when brushing, since it could not only scratch the porcelain’s surface, but it could also hurt your gums. Porcelain veneers are resistant to decay, but that doesn’t mean you should abandon flossing your teeth. Your gums and the underlying natural tooth structure are still susceptible to plaque buildup, which makes it all the more important to practice flossing diligently. By doing so, you help remove food particles that are stuck in between these crevices and along the gumline. These areas are difficult to reach by brushing alone. ## **Protect your investment: steer clear of stains and damage.** On top of being resistant to tooth decay, porcelain veneers are also incredibly stain-resistant compared to your natural teeth. Take note of the word “resistant.” This means they’re not immune to damage or discolouration. With that said, it’s crucial to be mindful of your habits and the food you consume that could compromise your veneers’ appearance and integrity. First things first: avoid biting directly into hard foods like nuts, candies, and, yes, even ice. Durable as they are, your veneers can still get chipped or cracked like your natural teeth. It’s also advisable not to use your teeth to open things. Whether it be packages or cutting tape, these could also cause damage. Lay off smoking if you want to achieve the longevity of your porcelain veneers. Not only is smoking harmful to your lungs, but tobacco also stains and harms your gums. ## **Regular dental checkups are a must for professional maintenance.** Finally, the culmination of all your efforts will be verified by your dentist during your biannual dental appointments. Admittedly, there’s only so much you can do with these oral hygiene practices, like brushing and flossing, because there are areas that cannot be reached. This is where your dentist comes in. They can offer professional cleaning services to ensure that there is no plaque buildup or any problems. Professional cleanings are usually done twice a year, or whatever your dentist recommends, because depending on your oral condition, your dentist may require you to come in more than usual. If you’re having your teeth cleaned somewhere else and not by your regular dentist, make sure to tell your dental hygienist that you have veneers so they can adjust their cleaning methods and avoid abrasive polishes. During dental checkups, your dentist would also take the time to examine the condition of your veneers. Spotting possible issues early on is crucial to stop them from escalating to bigger problems that could lead to costly repairs. Just think of these dental appointments as routine visits so you can enjoy your porcelain veneers for many years to come. *(This article was created for Beanstalk Mums by [Mums to Go](https://www.mumsonthego.com.au).)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-to-keep-your-porcelain-veneers-flawless/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-to-keep-your-porcelain-veneers-flawless/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** beauty, teeth, dental care, selfcare --- ### [Mindful Eating for Busy Mums: Easy Ways to Feel Energised](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/mindful-eating-for-busy-mums/) **Published:** October 1, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Mindful eating for busy mums often feels like a dream. Between school drop-offs, work deadlines, and endless household tasks, meals can become an afterthought. Maybe you grab whatever’s quick, finish everything your child leaves behind, or starve yourself until you can finally sit down. Sometimes you rush through food on autopilot, ignoring your body’s signals and relying on coffee or sugar to push through the chaos. The good news? You don’t need a strict diet or a complete lifestyle overhaul to feel better. With just a few mindful tweaks, you can eat in a way that fuels your body, supports digestion, and helps you feel calmer and more present throughout the day. Importantly, mindful eating for busy mums isn’t about rules or restriction. Instead, it’s about cultivating a healthy relationship with food and building sustainable habits that fit into motherhood. For some mums, it’s as simple as meal prepping, paying attention to hunger and fullness cues, or savouring one flavour at a time. For others, structured programs like WeightWatchers can provide flexible support, recipes, and tools. As a result, these resources help make sustainable changes without added stress. Think of it as nourishing your body and embracing practices that support your well-being in everyday life. And if you’re menopausal, you might find weight loss goals feel even harder to reach—but that’s perfectly okay, because [WeightWatchers has specifically designed programs to support women through menopause](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/kOqn73), helping you feel your best without added pressure. ## Mindful Eating for Busy Mums: Where to Start So, where do you begin with mindful eating for busy mums when life already feels so full? The first step is to let go of perfection. [Mindful eating](https://nutritionsource.hsph.harvard.edu/mindful-eating/ "Mindful eating") is simply about noticing what, how, and why you eat. Then, it’s making food choices that satisfy your body instead of draining it. It’s not a new diet or a rigid rulebook. Rather, it’s practising mindfulness at the table: asking, *Am I truly hungry or just tired?* It’s learning to listen to your hunger signals, savour texture and flavour, and chew calmly so your digestion feels supported. At the same time, it’s giving yourself permission to enjoy your food, connect with your body, and embrace nourishment as self-care. You can start small. For example, sit down for your morning coffee instead of drinking it while rushing. Put your fork down between bites. Or take a mindful pause, even taking a few deep breaths before lunch. These little signals give you an opportunity to become aware of hunger and satisfaction. Over time, these mindful eating habits nurture a sense of balance and a more intuitive relationship with food. ![mindful eating for busy moms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Mindful-eating-for-busy-mums-1.jpg "Mindful eating for busy mums 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Quick Mindful Eating for Busy Mums on the Go When life feels non-stop, mindful eating for busy mums can seem like a challenge. However, even in short episodes throughout the day, simple mindful eating practices can become powerful tools. So, here are a few quick ideas: - **Pause before your first bite**: Take a deep breath and ask, *Am I hungry?* This small act of paying attention prevents mindless feeding. It also sets a calm tone for the meal. - **Savour one flavour at a time**: Notice the texture, aroma, or temperature — maybe the crisp plate of veggies, the comforting warmth of soup, or the sweetness of fruit. As a result, you enjoy food more fully and satisfy your senses. - **Put your device aside at mealtimes**: Even if you can’t linger, removing distractions lets you listen to your body. In turn, you practice eating calmly. - **Check your fullness midway**: Halfway through a meal, tune into hunger and fullness cues. Ask, *Am I still hungry, or am I satisfied?* This mindfulness can prevent overeating before it starts. - **Use supportive tools**: Apps like [WeightWatchers](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/XmePz3) help you track meals, recognise hunger signals, and stay mindful of nutrition without judgment. In addition, WeightWatchers highlights ZeroPoint® foods to make eating simpler. - **Turn snacks into mini check-ins**: Before grabbing a snack, recognise if you’re hungry, stressed, or just need comfort. Then, choose what genuinely satisfies — almonds, fruit, yoghurt, or simply a breather. Ultimately, these mindful eating habits for busy mums aren’t about restriction. Instead, they’re about helping you listen, enjoy, and embrace small changes that make eating feel more nourishing and less stressful. ## Daily Mindful Eating for Busy Mums to Feel Energised If you often feel drained by mid-afternoon, you’re not alone. The good news is that daily mindful eating for busy mums to feel energised is both practical and powerful. These habits give you steady nourishment without rigid diets. Try these swaps to support your well-being and body’s nutrition: - **Swap sugary cereals for oats with fruit and nuts**: A slow energy release prevents the cycle of energy crashes. - **Trade soft drinks for water with lemon**: Hydration helps focus and digestion while lowering stress on the body. - **Choose whole grains instead of refined carbs**: You’ll feel more satisfaction and less rush to overeat. - **Reach for protein-rich snacks**: Eggs, hummus, or yoghurt satisfy hunger and support nourishment throughout the day. - **Cook with supportive recipes**: The [WeightWatchers healthy recipe library](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/7aNA35) offers delicious and healthy recipes that help you lose weight while still featuring the foods you love. Learn more about [healthy weight loss tips here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-balancing-self-care-weight-loss/ "healthy weight loss tips here"). - **Don’t forget vitamins**: Sometimes, [reframing vitamins as more than just pills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-i-stopped-thinking-of-vitamins-as-just-pills/) can be part of a balanced approach to energy and self-care. Over time, you’ll recognise how even tiny changes nourish your body, satisfy hunger signals, and strengthen your relationship with food. ![mindful eating for busy mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Mindful-eating-for-busy-mums-2.jpg "Mindful eating for busy mums 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Gentle Mindful Eating for Busy Mums When You’re Tired Motherhood is demanding, and some days exhaustion hits hard. That’s when gentle mindful eating for busy mums becomes essential. Instead of ignoring your body’s needs or eating mindlessly, embrace compassion and choose simple nourishment. - **Prep easy, nutritious options ahead of time**: Chopped veggies, fruit, or cooked grains give tired mamas quick, healthy eating choices without extra effort. - **Listen to hunger signals**: Ask, *Am I hungry or just feeling emotion like stress or fatigue?* This awareness helps you respond with kindness instead of overeating. - **Choose comfort that sustains**: Combine familiar comfort foods with nourishment: toast with avocado, chocolate with almonds. This satisfies both hunger and emotions. - **Let food support your mental health**: Slowing down, savouring bites, and practising mindfulness with food can feel like meditation. It reduces stress, supports digestion, and helps you connect with your body. On heavier days, the [WeightWatchers workshops](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/zxVQZG) provide a strong support system with coach-led sessions and community encouragement. Ultimately, gentle mindful eating is about feeding your body and emotions calmly. It’s about recognising signals and nourishing your body in ways that support resilience. ## Mindful Eating for Busy Mums: Tips for Sustainable Family Routines Mindful eating for busy mums can also reshape how your whole household approaches food. Building sustainable family routines makes mindful eating easier and less stressful for everyone. - **Make mealtimes simple**: Even 15 minutes together strengthens connection and models healthy eating for toddlers and older kids. - **Offer variety, not perfection**: Show that all food has a place, making sustainable nutrition less stressful. - **Involve kids in feeding rituals**: Letting a child plate veggies or help an adult cook creates powerful moments. These experiences nurture curiosity and satisfaction. ### **FAQ: How can I practise mindful eating if I barely have time to sit down?** Even in the busiest episodes of your day, practising mindfulness can help. Try calmly taking a few deep breaths before a meal or enjoying your food without a device. These micro-habits give you an opportunity to pay attention to hunger signals, recognise satisfaction, and nourish your body without stress. And if you’d like more structured support, [WeightWatchers](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/9LDQAQ) offers flexible, coach-led guidance. They help busy mums stay consistent without overwhelm. ## Final Takeaway: Mindful Eating Made Simple Mindful eating for busy mums doesn’t have to be perfect. It’s about becoming aware, listening to your body’s signals, and making sustainable choices that nourish your body and calm your emotions. Even a few mindful eating habits — like savouring bites, focusing on food choices, and feeding your body with nutritious meals — can bring more balance and satisfaction into your motherhood journey. If you’d like extra support, programs like [WeightWatchers](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/YRa5Er) can provide flexible tools, recipes, and structure. It’s a powerful tool to help busy mums cultivate a healthy relationship with food. Think of it as helping you embrace nourishment with less stress, not another rigid diet. You deserve nourishment, well-being, and energy. Mindful eating for busy mums — whether through intuitive eating for moms, paying attention to hunger and fullness cues, or practising mindfulness with every plate — gives you an opportunity to calmly connect with your body, enjoy your food, and embrace feeding yourself with confidence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/mindful-eating-for-busy-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/mindful-eating-for-busy-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** healthy eating, mindful eating for busy moms, weight watchers, mindful eating --- ### [How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home: The Ultimate Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-treat-an-asthma-attack-at-home-the-ultimate-guide/) **Published:** April 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Growing up with hay fever since childhood, I know how worrying it can be for parents to think about their child possibly developing asthma. My daughter hasn’t shown signs of asthma yet, thankfully, but I want to be prepared … just in case. If you’re like me, whether it’s to manage your asthma or your kids’, here’s how to treat an asthma attack at home. As scary as it is, asthma can be managed well with the right information and tools, and as single mums, preparation is one of the best things we can give our children. This guide is written to support other mothers like me, especially those managing things on their own. I hope it reassures you that you’re not alone. One thing’s for sure: you are more than capable of handling this. ## What Is Asthma? Asthma is a condition that affects the airways in the lungs. When someone has asthma, their airways become inflamed and narrowed. This inflammation makes it difficult to breathe. The condition often begins in childhood and can vary in severity. Untreated or uncontrolled asthma can progress into deeper issues with lung function, so it’s important that you know how to improve asthma control and manage symptoms. So far, there is no way to prevent the development of asthma, but as I said before, it can be managed. ### How Do You Know If Your Child Has Asthma? Asthma symptoms may not be the same for every child, but the most common signs include: - Frequent coughing, especially at night or after physical activity - A whistling or wheezing sound when breathing - Shortness of breath or rapid breathing - Complaints of chest tightness or discomfort - Coughing or wheezing after laughing, crying, or running These symptoms can sometimes be mistaken for a cold or allergy, so it is important to consult a GP or paediatrician for a proper diagnosis. ### Common Triggers of Asthma in Australia Several environmental factors can cause an asthma attack in children and adults. In Australia, the most common include: - Pollen (especially during spring) - Dust mites - Cold or dry air - Viral infections such as the flu - Physical activity or exercise - Smoke (from bushfires, wood heaters, or cigarettes) - Mould - Pet dander Understanding the things that can trigger asthma may help prevent asthma attacks. Additionally, some common allergens in food, like peanuts, tree nuts, shellfish, milk, and eggs have been found to also trigger asthma attacks, although rarely. Still, you would want to keep a close on eye on your child when eating known allergens. [***Further Reading: 5 Things You Should Consider Before Getting a Family Dog***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/consider-before-getting-dog/) ![how to treat an asthma attack at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-72.png "In article image 72 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Signs of an Asthma Flare-Up An asthma flare-up (also known as an asthma attack) occurs when symptoms suddenly become worse. Common symptoms to watch for include: - Increased coughing, wheezing, or shortness of breath - Difficulty speaking in full sentences - Breathing that becomes faster or seems harder than usual - Skin sucking in around the ribs or neck when breathing - Pale appearance or blue lips and fingertips (this is a medical emergency) Recognising these signs early can make a significant difference in your child’s safety and recovery. ## How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home: First Aid for an Asthma Attack If your child has been diagnosed with asthma and is experiencing a flare-up, the following steps from [Better Help](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/asthma-emergency-first-aid#signs-that-you-need-to-use-asthma-first-aid) can help manage the situation at home: ### Follow the 4 x 4 x 4 Rule 1. Help your child sit upright and try to keep them calm. 2. Give 4 puffs of their reliever medication (such as Ventolin), using a spacer. Shake the puffer before each puff. 3. After each puff, your child should take 4 breaths through the spacer. 4. Wait 4 minutes. If there is no improvement, repeat the steps. If symptoms of asthma are still present or you suspect a severe asthma attack after the second round, call 000 immediately. ### How to Keep Your Child Calm Staying calm is crucial during an asthma flare-up. Children can become frightened when they struggle to breathe after exposure to an asthma trigger, which may make it impossible to stop an asthma attack. Here are some ways to help your child remain calm: 1. Use a soft and reassuring tone of voice. 2. Hold their hand or gently comfort them through touch. 3. Encourage slow breathing. You can ask them to blow out “imaginary candles” or breathe along with you. 4. Try distraction techniques such as singing a quiet song or telling a story. As a mum, you have to remember that children often mirror the emotional state of the adults around them. Even if you feel anxious, doing your best to remain composed will help your child feel safer. If your child does not have an asthma diagnosis but shows serious signs like blue lips or struggles to breathe, seek medical attention immediately. It is always better to act quickly and have professionals rule out asthma than wait too long. ![how to treat an asthma attack at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-75.png "In article image 75 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home: Asthma Treatment at Home If your child is diagnosed with asthma, make sure you have these handy tools in handy to help reduce their symptoms: 1. Reliever asthma medication (e.g., Ventolin) 2. Spacer device for effective use of the puffer or rescue inhaler as the first line of defence 3. An Asthma Action Plan, written by your child’s doctor. This treatment plan explains what to do daily and during a flare-up. 4. Trigger diary, to track what causes your child’s symptoms 5. Regular GP or paediatric appointments to review medication and symptoms 6. A clean, dust-reduced environment at home; washing bedding regularly and vacuuming with a HEPA filter may help 7. Consider an air purifier or dehumidifier if needed Also, as your child grows older, involve them in learning how to use their medication and recognise their own symptoms. Knowledge builds confidence and safety. ## How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home: Are There Natural Remedies to Improve Asthma Symptoms? Many people with asthma, myself included, have at some point wondered if there are natural asthma remedies, something beyond the puffers and prescriptions. While the idea of healing through herbs, diets, or breathing techniques can be appealing, it’s important to understand where these home remedies for asthma fit. Although they may also help improve symptoms, [natural remedies for asthma](https://allergyasthmanetwork.org/what-is-asthma/natural-asthma-treatments/) shouldn’t replace your prescribed asthma medications. That’s the bottom line. But some can work alongside your treatment plan and possibly improve how you feel day to day. Breathing exercises for asthma, for instance, can help regulate how we breathe when things feel tight or panicked. Techniques like the Buteyko method or diaphragmatic breathing are used by some to reduce symptom severity, though results can vary. Yoga, with its mix of breathwork and gentle movement, has also shown promise. Personally, I find that even a short, quiet session on the mat can make a difference in how my chest feels. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-73.png "In article image 73 - Beanstalk Mums") Other approaches like acupuncture have had mixed results in studies, but some people report a genuine improvement in their symptoms and overall quality of life. Massage therapy, especially in children, can help lower stress levels, which are known asthma triggers. Diet also plays a role. Eating a Mediterranean-style or plant-rich diet may support lung health, thanks to its anti-inflammatory properties. I’ve noticed that when I eat more whole foods and fewer processed ones, I breathe easier (though that’s just my experience). Regular, manageable exercise and keeping a healthy weight also support long-term asthma control. When done carefully, and with the right medications on hand, physical activity strengthens the lungs and can even build confidence in managing asthma. Smoking cessation is another critical piece for asthma patients. Quitting smoking (and avoiding secondhand smoke) is non-negotiable if you want to give your lungs the best chance. There are also newer options like virtual asthma coaching, which offers tailored support and guidance, especially helpful for those of us trying to juggle life, kids, work … and asthma. ## How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home: “Natural” Remedies That said, many popular “natural” remedies, like essential oils or oral magnesium supplements, don’t hold up under scrutiny. Some can even be harmful. Essential oils, for example, can trigger an asthma attack rather than ease one. Herbal products and supplements often lack solid evidence and, worse, aren’t well regulated. What’s on the label might not match what’s in the bottle. In the end, the best tip on how to treat an asthma attack at home is sticking with proven treatments, while staying open to supportive therapies. If you’re curious about trying something new, have a conversation with your GP or respiratory specialist. It’s your body and your breath, and you deserve both safety and support in finding what works for you. ## Final Thoughts: How to Treat an Asthma Attack at Home Caring for a child with asthma on your own can feel overwhelming at times. It may bring late-night worries, school absences, and moments of fear. But the right knowledge, preparation, and tools can help you manage your asthma at home. You don’t have to feel powerless. You are not alone in this. Many Australian mums are navigating asthma with their children. GPs, schools, and asthma support groups can provide information on how to treat an asthma attack at home. Most importantly, believe in your ability to care for your child. You’ve already proven your strength in countless ways. With the right mindset and clear action steps, asthma doesn’t have to take over your life. Living with asthma can simply become one of the things you and your child learn to manage together. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-treat-an-asthma-attack-at-home-the-ultimate-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-treat-an-asthma-attack-at-home-the-ultimate-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [How to Start a Mind-Body Wellness Loop When You're Exhausted](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-start-a-mind-body-wellness-loop/) **Published:** August 9, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When your body feels good, your mind will tend to follow – and, equally, when your mindset is on point, you’re more likely to reap the benefits of healthy choices and positive energy. That’s the beauty of the mind-body wellness connection – but, especially for busy mums trying to keep a lot of plates spinning, it is easy to slip into survival mode, where wellness doesn’t totally vacate the area but does take a back seat. When this happens, the good news is that you don’t need a complete overhaul: by understanding how your mental and physical health support one another, you can create a positive feedback loop. This wellness cycle works for rather than against you. ## The Mind-Body Wellness Loop: What it is and why it matters Your mental and physical health are like two sides of the same coin. Movement boosts mood, good sleep increases resilience, and a calm mind leads to better decisions on food, exercise, and other key considerations. This is known as the virtuous circle, where one positive choice feeds another. A vicious circle arises when you are burned out or overwhelmed, and it goes the other way. Stress leads to skipped meals or comfort food, which leads to less energy and more difficulty getting up and going. It is important to learn how to stop a downward spiral and to get things moving in the right direction again. ![mind-body wellness loop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Footprints-1310332_1280-1200x793.jpg "Footprints-1310332_1280 - Beanstalk Mums")[pixabay cc0 licence](https://pixabay.%20Com/photos/footprints-gold-step-1310332/) ## Start small: The power of tiny habits When you’re stuck in a rut, it can feel like you need big changes – but a complete lifestyle change is both hard to achieve and not the point. Instead, it is entirely reasonable to start small: in fact, start tiny. Take a few minutes of fresh air in the morning, drink a single glass of water before your coffee, and stretch out while the kettle boils. They’re small actions, and they may not seem like much, but they work as a mood shift and help move your self-perception. Some people recommend habit stacking, which involves pairing a new habit with something you already do. Maybe you do five squats while you brush your teeth, as you’re already pinned in place. Or you can take three deep breaths before starting the car. These micro-habits are designed to build momentum. It’s infinitely preferable to going all-in right away and burning out if you don’t immediately feel better. ## Moving to clear the mind: Exercise as a mental reset Movement is one of the most powerful and essential tools for mental clarity. You don’t need to run long distances or even join a gym to benefit. A walk around the block listening to a podcast, or a ten-minute dance routine with the kids, or even just a few stretches between chores, can make a big difference, and all are valuable ways to get yourself moving. Yoga is particularly beneficial in this regard. It helps you to reconnect with your body and calm your busy mind all at once. Also, the bar to entry is low: you don’t need to be especially fit or flexible; just have a little space, a couple of [yoga mats](https://www.ezymats.com.au/product-category/yoga-mats/), and a soft surface. Having those accoutrements creates a mental cue that says “Time for yoga!”. It can be sun salutations or even just lying down in stillness; the key is the movement to get there, which helps you to reset and refocus. ## Fuelling the Mind-Body Wellness Cycle: Nutrition and rest Wellness is a holistic concept: it’s about more than just what you do. It’s also important to consider how you restore. [Relaxation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/relax-recharge-repeat-the-ultimate-at-home-spa-guide/), hydration, and nourishment are quiet underpinnings of the mind-body loop. They’re also among the things that can start the slide when things get hectic. One patchy night of sleep or a missed breakfast can pull at a loose thread, so this is when you get in there and snip it. Again, we’re talking about small steps to begin with. Keep a water bottle visible on the kitchen counter. Choose one veggie that you can sneak into lunch – a bit of onion is a good idea. Go to bed 15 minutes earlier than usual. The small wins add up. And remember, rest isn’t a nice little extra; it is an essential. A well-rested brain makes clearer decisions and has more bandwidth for dealing with stuff. Even a decent night’s sleep can be enough to move the loop back in motion – in the right direction. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-elly-fairytale-3823076-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-elly-fairytale-3823076 - Beanstalk Mums") ## When you fall off: Bouncing back with compassion The problem with an all-or-nothing approach to wellness is that “all” is just about impossible to maintain, so there are going to be spells of “nothing”. And life happens, so you can’t treat any wobbles as being the end of the world. Sometimes there are demands on your time. Sometimes you need to be there for someone else. If that draws you away from a routine for a day, it’s normal. Don’t treat yourself like a failure when this happens. Think how you would speak to a friend who’d fallen off the wellness wagon. Would you say “you’ve ruined everything, might as well give up”? Hopefully not: more likely, you’d say “It’s OK, it happens, just start again tomorrow”. It has the advantage of being good advice, so apply it to yourself. Don’t withhold the compassion that you’d have in spades for another person. Progress is not a road that always runs in the same direction. Sometimes there will be reverses. Accept this, head back towards your goal, and bank the experience for a later date. Because it won’t be the last time you have a setback, hopefully, next time you’ll bear it with even more equanimity. You deserve to feel good, and you’re not meant to run on fumes. When your mind and body are working in sync, you will feel stronger, calmer, and more connected to yourself and your family. That’s not just good for you; it’s good for everyone around you (and if that’s what it takes to get you to buy in, then that’s what it takes!). Most importantly of all, it doesn’t demand big, dramatic changes. Just one little choice at a time, building a loop that will lift you up again and again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-start-a-mind-body-wellness-loop/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-start-a-mind-body-wellness-loop/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Celebrate Women's Health Month With the Best Gluten-Free Recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/celebrate-womens-health-month-with-the-best-gluten-free-recipes/) **Published:** April 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** May is Women’s Health Month! A gentle nudge for us to pause, breathe, and remember that our health matters too. Yes, yours. The woman who’s always putting herself last on the list, who juggles the house, the bills, the school runs, the fevers, the tantrums, and everything in between. As single mums, we carry so much. And often, looking after ourselves comes with guilt or lands in the “next time” pile. But here’s a reminder: you can’t pour from an empty cup. This month is your permission slip to refill it. And because May is also Coeliac Awareness Month, I thought it was the perfect time to share some gorgeous gluten-free recipes that are easy, kid-friendly, and gut-loving. Whether you’re gluten-intolerant, coeliac, or just curious about how your body feels without it, there’s no better time to give it a go. ## What Is the Purpose of Women’s Health Month? Women’s Health Awareness Month is about one powerful idea: you matter. Not just your ability to keep tiny humans alive, stretch the grocery budget until payday, and educate your kids, but you, as a whole, vibrant, complicated woman with a body that deserves care and attention. This month is about shining a light on the health issues that affect women the most — and making sure we treat our well-being as a priority, not a luxury. Many women face increased risk of developing conditions like cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, diabetes, and obesity, especially as we move through perimenopause and midlife. Others may struggle with an undiagnosed disorder, ongoing infection, [mental health challenges](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/exercise-and-mental-health/), or being diagnosed with breast cancer, one of the most common cancers among women. ### Important Health Screenings for Women’s Health Month It’s crucial that we make time for checkups because the earlier we identify an issue, the better the outcome. Consider this your loving push to book that appointment and health screenings you’ve been avoiding. Whether it’s for your heart, hormones, or pelvic health, prevention is better than cure. Here are a few important health checks to consider booking in this month: - Pap smear and HPV screening (to check for risk of cervical cancer) - Breast check or mammogram (especially if you’re over 40 or have a family history of breast cancer) - Skin check - Iron levels and vitamin D - Thyroid function test - Mental health check-in (chat with your health care provider about anxiety, depression, or simply feeling “not quite right”) - STI screening (because safe is sexy, no matter your age or relationship status) - Bone density test (especially for women in midlife or at risk of osteoporosis) - Cardiovascular and blood pressure screening (especially important as heart disease remains a top killer among women) Think of it like preventive care for your car — ugh, I normally hate this analogy! — Except this is your body. It’s a heck of a lot more precious, so take care of it. ![What Is the Purpose of Women’s Health Month?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-30.png "In article image 30 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why May is Also the Perfect Time to Try Gluten-Free Coeliac disease is a serious autoimmune condition that affects 1 in 70 Australians. But 4 out of 5 people don’t even know they have this serious health condition. For many women, coeliac disease or gluten sensitivity can show up as common health issues like chronic bloating, fatigue, skin irritation, or even unexplained fertility issues that can impact the ability to become pregnant. Going gluten-free might sound like a wellness trend. But if you frequently suffer from bloating, digestive discomfort, or mood swings, a gluten-free diet might help you tune into what your body really needs. It doesn’t mean giving up joy or flavour (I’ll prove that with the recipes I’ve got coming!). It just means slowing down and noticing how food affects your body, physically and emotionally. Even if you’re not coeliac, trying a gluten-free lifestyle can be a worthwhile experiment in mindfulness and nourishment. It can reduce inflammation, ease gut discomfort, and help you reconnect with how food actually makes you feel. It’s one small tip that could make a big difference in your overall health. And let’s be honest: when your belly feels better, everything else feels a little lighter too. Along with physical activity, vaccinations, and regular full-body checkups, here are some gluten-free recipes to try for Women’s Health Month 2025. ## Gluten-Free Recipes to Try for Women’s Health Month #### Mashed Red Potatoes First off, potatoes! Who doesn’t love potatoes? This recipe for mashed potatoes is so easy, so filling, and so cheap to make. You don’t need to buy gluten-free ingredients; you probably already have the ingredients in your pantry. [![Mashed Red Potatoes Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Mashed-red-potatoes.png "Mashed red potatoes - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/garlic-mashed-red-potatoes/) We got this from: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/garlic-mashed-red-potatoes/) #### Garlic Hummus If you and your kids love hummus, you’ll be glad to know it’s naturally gluten-free. It’s also absolutely perfect for lunchboxes or afternoon snacks. This recipe is smooth, creamy, and packed with flavour. [![Garlic Hummus](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-31.png "In article image 31 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/256571/garlic-hummus/) We found this from: [Eating Well](https://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/256571/garlic-hummus/) #### Mashed Cauliflower Cauliflower has become a bit of a kitchen hero lately, and this mashed version is proof that healthy and comforting can go hand-in-hand. It’s low-carb, gluten-free, and surprisingly satisfying! [![Mashed Cauliflower Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Mashed-cauliflower.png "Mashed cauliflower - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a50786/best-mashed-cauliflower-recipe/) We found this from: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a50786/best-mashed-cauliflower-recipe/) #### Creamy Dairy Free Potato Soup Yes, it’s our second potato recipe. But can you blame us? This creamy soup is warm, hearty, and totally dairy- and gluten-free. Perfect for chilly evenings or meal prep Sundays. [![Creamy Dairy Free Potato Soup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Creamy-potato-soup.png "Creamy potato soup - Beanstalk Mums")](https://theprettybee.com/creamy-dairy-free-potato-ham-soup/) We found this from: [The Pretty Bee](https://theprettybee.com/creamy-dairy-free-potato-ham-soup/) #### Chicken Soup Every mum knows the healing powers of chicken soup. This version is naturally gluten-free and feels like a hug in a bowl. It’s just like grandma used to make (with a little modern twist!). [![Chicken Soup Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Chicken-soup.png "Chicken soup - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.fearlessdining.com/grandmas-homemade-chicken-soup/) We found this from: [Fearless Dining](https://www.fearlessdining.com/grandmas-homemade-chicken-soup/) #### Cornbread This gluten-free cornbread has stood the test of time. It’s golden, fluffy, and the perfect side dish for soups, stews, or a cheeky butter-and-honey treat. [![Cornbread](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Cornbread-skillet.png "Cornbread skillet - Beanstalk Mums")](https://glutenfreerecipebox.com/gluten-free-cornbread-skillet/) We found this from: [Carla’s Gluten Free Recipe Box](https://glutenfreerecipebox.com/gluten-free-cornbread-skillet/) ## Gluten-Free Breakfast Recipes for Women’s Health Month #### Avocado and Strawberry Smoothie Smoothies are as refreshing as they are beautiful. This creamy avocado meets sweet strawberries in a blend that is perfect for busy mornings, especially during Women’s Health Month, when nourishing choices matter most. By the way, all fruits are naturally gluten-free! [![Avocado and Strawberry Smoothie Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-32.png "In article image 32 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/avocado-strawberry-smoothie) We got this from: [Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/avocado-strawberry-smoothie) #### Vegan Banana Blueberry Baked Oatmeal Oats aren’t naturally gluten-free, but if you manage to get your hands on gluten-free ones, this recipe is naturally sweet, hearty, and perfect for breakfast meal prep. Just heat and eat. [![Vegan Banana Blueberry Baked Oatmeal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Baked-banana-blueberry-oats.png "Baked banana blueberry oats - Beanstalk Mums")](https://theprettybee.com/banana-blueberry-baked-oatmeal/) We got this from: [The Pretty Bee](https://theprettybee.com/banana-blueberry-baked-oatmeal/) #### Bacon and Vegetable Quiche Who says quiche needs a crust? This crustless wonder is loaded with veggies and bacon — perfect for brekkie or a brunch treat. [![Bacon and Vegetable Quiche Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Quiche.png "Quiche - Beanstalk Mums")](https://celiacmama.com/bacon-and-vegetable-quiche-gluten-free-dairy-free/) We got this from: [Celiac Mama](https://celiacmama.com/bacon-and-vegetable-quiche-gluten-free-dairy-free/) #### Baked Blueberry Pancake Bread This one is a winner for pancake lovers. Bake once, slice all week. It’s a time-saver *and* a crowd-pleaser. [![Baked Blueberry Pancake Bread](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Baked-blueberry-pancake.png "Baked blueberry pancake - Beanstalk Mums")](https://celiacmama.com/baked-blueberry-pancakes-gluten-free/) We got this from: [Celiac Mama](https://celiacmama.com/baked-blueberry-pancakes-gluten-free/) #### Ham, Egg and Cheese Roll-ups These roll-ups are as easy as they sound and make a great protein-packed breakfast on-the-go. Kids will love them too! [![Ham, Egg and Cheese Roll-ups Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Ham-egg-and-cheese-rollups.png "Ham egg and cheese rollups - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a51155/ham-egg-cheese-roll-ups-recipe/) We got this from: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a51155/ham-egg-cheese-roll-ups-recipe/) ## Best Gluten-Free Recipes for Women’s Health Month #### Baked Meatballs These meatballs are juicy, flavourful, and totally gluten-free. Serve with rice or veggie noodles for a quick dinner win. [![Baked Meatballs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Baked-meatballs.png "Baked meatballs - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/baked-meatballs/) We got this from: [My Kids Lick the Bowl](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/baked-meatballs/) #### Chicken Tenders Chicken tenders are a staple in most households. This version is crispy, golden, and super easy to whip up. [![Chicken Tenders Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Chicken-tenders.png "Chicken tenders - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/gluten-free-chicken-tenders/) We got this from: [Mama Knows Gluten Free](https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/gluten-free-chicken-tenders/) #### Tuna Casserole Comfort food alert! This gluten-free tuna casserole is creamy, filling, and full of that old-school nostalgia. [![Tuna Casserole](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-33.png "In article image 33 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://theglutenfreekids.com/gluten-free-tuna-casserole/) We got this from: [The Gluten Free Kids](https://theglutenfreekids.com/gluten-free-tuna-casserole/) #### Chicken Teriyaki Enjoy all the sticky, sweet goodness of teriyaki chicken without the gluten. Pair with rice or steamed veggies for a delicious dinner. [![Chicken Teriyaki Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Chicken-teriyaki.png "Chicken teriyaki - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.glutenfreepalate.com/gluten-free-teriyaki-chicken/) We got this from: [Gluten Free Palate](https://www.glutenfreepalate.com/gluten-free-teriyaki-chicken/) #### Sweet and Sour Chicken This one hits that perfect balance of tangy and sweet. Your kids won’t believe it’s gluten-free! [![Sweet and Sour Chicken](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Sweet-and-sour-chicken.png "Sweet and sour chicken - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.glutenfreepalate.com/gluten-free-sweet-and-sour-chicken-16-ingredients/) We got this from: [Gluten Free Palate](https://www.glutenfreepalate.com/gluten-free-sweet-and-sour-chicken-16-ingredients/) ## Yummy Gluten-Free Snacks for Women’s Health Month #### Popcorn! Popcorn is naturally gluten-free, cheap, and endlessly customisable. You can add any topping you want (as long as it’s gluten-free, of course). [![popcorn Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Popcorn.png "Popcorn - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/microwave-popcorn/) We got this from: [My Kids Lick the Bowl](https://mykidslickthebowl.com/microwave-popcorn/) #### Chocolate Ice Cream You don’t need fancy gadgets for this one. Just some simple ingredients and a sweet tooth. This recipe is creamy, chocolatey, and gluten-free magic in a bowl. [![Chocolate Ice Cream](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Chocolate-ice-cream.png "Chocolate ice cream - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/easy-chocolate-ice-cream/) We got this from: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/easy-chocolate-ice-cream/) #### Pop Tarts I don’t know about you, but pop tarts are a must in my household. Isn’t it nice to know that you can make a healthier and more nutritious version that you and your kids will enjoy? I love that this recipe has a dairy-free option too. [![Pop Tarts Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Pop-tarts.png "Pop tarts - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/gluten-free-pop-tarts/) We got this from: [Mama Knows Gluten Free](https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/gluten-free-pop-tarts/) #### Chocolate Cake Gluten-free chocolate cake that actually tastes like cake? Yes, please! [![Chocolate Cake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Chocolate-cake.png "Chocolate cake - Beanstalk Mums")](https://theglutenfreekids.com/gluten-free-chocolate-cake/) We got this from: [The Gluten-free Kids](https://theglutenfreekids.com/gluten-free-chocolate-cake/) #### Peanut Butter Cookies I’m obsessed with this 3-ingredient cookie recipe. It’s simple, delicious, and totally doable even on the busiest days. [![Peanut Butter Cookies Women's Health Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Peanut-butter-cookies.png "Peanut butter cookies - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-cookies) We got this from: [Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/peanut-butter-cookies) ## Final Thoughts This May, let’s empower women to make their health a priority. We deserve real support, including counselling when we need it, and above all, access to quality healthcare without judgment. Eating healthy and nutritious meals is one of the ways to celebrate good health. Let’s raise a gluten-free toast to our health, strength, and right to feel good in our bodies and have a healthy life. Here are my favourite recipes for you to try this Women’s Health Month. You’ll find that it’s not so challenging to go gluten-free, after all. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/celebrate-womens-health-month-with-the-best-gluten-free-recipes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/celebrate-womens-health-month-with-the-best-gluten-free-recipes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Spring cleaning your life: Find calm in the chaos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/spring-cleaning-your-life-find-calm-in-the-chaos/) **Published:** August 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *Spring cleaning your life –* what does it really mean? When I think of a spring clean, I don’t just picture dusting skirting boards or opening the windows to let the breeze in (though that feels good too). For me, it’s the perfect time to pause, look around at the things that no longer serve me, and ask myself: what do I actually want to carry forward? As a single mum, my version of “refresh” doesn’t look Pinterest-perfect. It’s not a well-organised wardrobe or a pristine pantry. It’s more like decluttering the bottom of my handbag or finally deleting those emails I’ll never read. Slowly but surely, I’ve learned that to spring clean your life means taking small, intentional steps that bring a sense of lightness. This year, I’ve realised that when I take time to spring clean my mind as much as my home, I feel calmer, clearer, and more present in my daily life. So here are some of my favourite ways to realign. ## Spring cleaning your life, starting with your goals Think of this season as a gentle invitation to sweep away old expectations. Those “shoulds” that no longer fit? It’s time to set them free. Imagine opening the windows not just in your home, but in your head; letting stale air out so that new energy can come in. Your goals don’t have to be grand. It could be one simple intention, like adding five minutes of meditation to your morning or setting aside space for journaling at night. My first piece of advice – by focusing on what truly brings you joy, you’ll be getting rid of what’s heavy and making space for what’s important. ## Simple upskilling tools that fit your real life Upskilling doesn’t need to feel like another job on your never-ending project list. I’ve learned that there’s no need to overload my to-do list—I only had to find tools that fit my current needs. - Short courses on platforms like [Coursera](https://imp.i384100.net/LXZ5v3 "Coursera") or LinkedIn Learning - Podcasts you can listen to while folding laundry - A language app to dip into during school pickup waits - Bite-sized YouTube tutorials that fit into a coffee break Small, steady steps count. Even just five minutes a day can give you that sense of accomplishment and a little boost of confidence. ## Letting go of mental clutter through learning One great way to quiet negative thoughts is by inviting something new in. Learning a fresh skill or hobby can feel like a soft cleanse for the brain—a gentle reminder that growth is still possible. Think of it as getting rid of stale worries by picking up something that makes you curious. It might be a local art class or a weekend workshop that helps you reconnect with your spark. All you need to do is have a great time by choosing what feels light and nourishing. ![spring cleaning your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-mattycphoto-1062280-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mattycphoto-1062280 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Tools and apps that refresh your mind, body, and career Growth isn’t just about work. It’s also about how you breathe at the end of the day. These gentle tools helped me a lot: - Notion or Trello to get organised and keep overwhelm at bay - Blinkist for bite-sized book summaries when you’re too tired to read - Journaling prompts for a quick brain dump before bed - Insight Timer or Calm for guided meditation - A gentle workout or walk to move your body and release stress and anxiety Even tiny rituals can bring clarity, confidence, and enjoyment back into your daily routine. ## Declutter your digital life Your phone and laptop need a spring clean too. Try: - Clearing out your inbox (and hitting unsubscribe on emails you don’t need to receive marketing from) - Unfollow accounts you follow that don’t resonate positivity - Muting the constant notification buzz that leaves you drained - Doing a mini digital detox—even for just one evening a week ## Spring cleaning your life by reassessing your routines and old habits This is the perfect time to look at your old habits and see if they still fit. Maybe your exercise routine is feeling more like a chore than a joy. Or maybe that 10 p.m. scroll through your feed is leaving you flat instead of lifted. Find out which habits make you happy, and which no longer serve you. Once you see things clearly, you can create new routines that better match your season of life. ## Spring cleaning your life by clearing space for mindfulness and meditation Life moves so fast that it’s easy to get stuck in autopilot. Setting aside even five minutes to sit still, breathe deeply, and check in with yourself is one of the simplest steps to help create mental space. Mindfulness is all about slowing down enough to notice. Whether it’s through meditation, a cup of tea on the back step, or a quiet journal entry, these pauses are what reinvigorate us. ## Declutter the people in your circle Sometimes, it’s not things that drain you—it’s the people in your circle. Take a gentle look at your relationships. Do they encourage and inspire you, or weigh you down? It’s okay to delegate your energy wisely. Let go of connections that you no longer need. Surround yourself with people who align with your values and genuinely make you happy. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-kevin-malik-9032110-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-kevin-malik-9032110 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Spruce up your space for new energy and new routines Even small changes in your physical environment can reinvigorate your mood. Light a candle, shift the furniture, or spruce up one corner of your home that’s been forgotten. You don’t need a pristine house—just a space that reflects you. Creating an environment that feels warm and alive can help your spirit bloom. You can even join your kids in these *[Fun spring activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-spring-activities-for-kids/ "Fun spring activities for your kids").* ## Prioritise self-care as part of your reset Finally, remember that self-care isn’t selfish. It’s the foundation that allows everything else to flow. Think of it as the anchor in your daily routine—whether that’s a walk or enjoying a cup of coffee. By choosing to prioritise yourself, you’re saying “yes” to showing up with more presence and joy for your family. And that feels good. ## Final thoughts: Spring cleaning your life Spring cleaning your life doesn’t only mean getting rid of dusty shelves or messy drawers. It’s about gently letting go of what no longer serves you, so you can make room for what’s important. That might look like trimming back your inbox or rethinking your existing routines and creating new ones that truly align with your energy. Remember, Mum: this isn’t about achieving a spotless home or a flawless calendar. It’s about finding clarity, renewal, and small rituals that encourage and inspire you. A spring clean is really about saying “yes” to yourself—your growth, your peace, and your joy. Take it slow, celebrate the small wins, and enjoy your season of growth. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/spring-cleaning-your-life-find-calm-in-the-chaos/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/spring-cleaning-your-life-find-calm-in-the-chaos/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing --- ### [Reclaim Your Look: Free Way To Rebuild Confidence After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/reclaim-your-look-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The aftermath of a divorce can feel like a whirlwind, especially when you’re juggling everything solo. Between school lunches, late-night laundry, and keeping it all together for the kids, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself. Suddenly, you’re in this new chapter, and you’re not quite sure what it means for your reflection, your wardrobe, or your sense of self. But taking small steps to rebuild confidence after divorce, like slipping into something that makes you feel good or finally getting that haircut you’ve been putting off, can do wonders. Reclaiming your style isn’t about impressing anyone else. It’s about remembering who you are beneath the chaos. You’ve been holding it all together for everyone else; now it’s your turn. You deserve to feel strong, beautiful, and completely yourself again. Rebuilding doesn’t have to be big and dramatic. Sometimes, it starts with a little mascara, a favourite outfit, and the decision to put you back on the list. ## The First Steps to Rebuild Confidence After Divorce The post-divorce wardrobe starts with a few staples. Although tempting, this isn’t an invitation for a reckless shopping spree. But, replacing the part of your wardrobe that feels plain with a little more daring substitutes is a great way to kickstart your [self-care journey](https://www.healthline.com/health/self-care-is-not-just-treating-yourself#:~:text=Instead%2C%20self%2Dcare%20means%20prioritizing,that%20feel%20meaningful%20and%20nourishing.) after divorce. Now, there’s going to be at least one piece tucked at the back of the wardrobe that still feels true. And these pieces matter, especially when everything else feels unsteady. Again, the idea isn’t to throw everything out in some symbolic purge. It’s to quietly reselect what stays. ## Hair Isn’t Just Hair Changing your hair after a breakup might be a cliché, but there’s science behind why it feels right. Hair is identity. It holds memories. And letting go of length or switching colour can feel like shedding skin. Even just booking the appointment reminds the body that it’s being looked after. That kind of small, practical maintenance works deeper than we care to admit. A scalp massage at the basin and a new fringe are there to remind you that there are many joys ahead of you to look forward to. ## Play With Makeup Again Makeup after divorce can feel strange. Maybe you stopped bothering during the hard parts. Maybe you always kept it minimal for someone else’s comfort. But now there’s room to re-learn what feels fun. Maybe this is the part of your life where you can explore what kind of eyeliner shade is the best or[how to preserve eyelash extensions](https://www.lashblossom.com.au/post/6-secrets-to-making-your-eyelash-extensions-last-longer) after getting your lashes done with your friends. Or, if you want to take a break from all that, you can explore what life would feel like without your signature lipstick or mascara. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-jan-krnc-268225-840810-1200x662.jpg "Pexels-jan-krnc-268225-840810 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Rebuild Confidence After Divorce by Rediscovering Your Colour Story Over time, people tend to drift into palettes that aren’t entirely theirs. That’s because their vision is shaped by work dress codes, practical choices, or even past partners’ preferences. But colour holds emotion. Wearing tones that light up your face or feel exciting against the skin can shift your whole day. So, be a little bold and daring and just introduce one or two shades that feel brave or honest. Wear a pink sweater, or opt for a 90s style patterned blouse – you’ll only see the cool kids wearing these. ## Take Yourself Shopping Like You’d Take a Friend One of the hardest things post-divorce is treating yourself kindly. Guilt shows up. You second-guess every purchase, every indulgence. But if a close friend had just survived what you did, you’d spoil her a little. You’d insist she try on the jeans that look so good on her bum. You’d make her buy the earrings, even if they were a bit too much for the office. Do that for yourself. Not recklessly, of course. But generously. You’re allowed to look in the mirror and feel pleased again. ## Footwear That Supports It’s tempting to gravitate towards extremes. The sweet spot lies in between. Sometimes, all you need is a great boot, a beautifully structured sandal, and a crisp white trainer with structure. These kinds of shoes carry you forward without punishing your feet for the journey. You deserve footwear that holds you steady and lets you move freely. There’s freedom in walking confidently without thinking about every step. That’s the goal. ## Stop Dressing for the Ghost ![rebuild confidence after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-olenagoldman-1496610-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-olenagoldman-1496610 - Beanstalk Mums") Sometimes people keep dressing for a version of themselves that doesn’t exist anymore. Or for someone else’s gaze. Maybe it was a partner who liked you best in black. Or someone who made offhand comments when you wore something bold. Even when they’re gone, those voices can linger in the wardrobe. Silencing them is a slow process. It starts with trying something unexpected. A pattern that makes you smile. A cut you always admired but didn’t think you could pull off. There’s no one to dress for now but you. ## Rebuild Confidence After Divorce: The Takeaway Rebuilding your confidence after the divorce is no small task, especially when you’re doing it while raising kids, managing the day-to-day chaos, and trying to hold yourself together. Some days you feel like you’ve got this. Other days? Not so much. It’s a rollercoaster, and that’s okay. The truth is, even in the hardest moments, you can still create little things to look forward to—a solo coffee at your favourite café, a night in with your favourite show, or just a few minutes of peace once the kids are in bed. To rebuild confidence after divorce, you do not need a significant, dramatic reinvention. It’s in the small wins, the quiet strength, and the way you keep showing up. Step by step, you’ll move forward. And you won’t just survive this, you’ll learn how to thrive, find joy in your own company, and rebuild a life that feels genuinely yours. You’ve got this, Mum. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/reclaim-your-look-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/reclaim-your-look-to-rebuild-confidence-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** confident single parent, self love, grooming, self confidence, fashion, self-care, haircare --- ### [Guide To Confidence After Divorce: Growth, Hope & New Life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/guide-to-confidence-after-divorce-growth-hope-new-life/) **Published:** September 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Going through a divorce takes courage, and it can leave you questioning everything — your self-esteem, your identity, even your ability to trust yourself. Many mums feel as though they weren’t good enough or fear they’ll never feel confident again. You are not alone, Mama. Confidence after divorce isn’t gone — it’s just waiting for you to rediscover it. With gentle steps and a little self-kindness, you can regain your self-esteem and see this chapter as the start of something new. ## Why does confidence after divorce feel hard to rebuild Divorce often shakes every corner of your world. It isn’t just about paperwork or splitting from an ex-spouse or ex-husband, but about changing how you see yourself. Lisa, a single mum of 5 years, said the emotional toll of grief and uncertainty chipped away at her self-worth, leaving her with low self-esteem and constant self-criticism. It’s normal to go through shifts in identity — figuring out who you are without the ‘partner’ label can feel like starting fresh. Plus, societal pressure and toxicity from outside opinions can make you feel ashamed for struggling. Getting your confidence back is challenging, but recognising these hurdles is the first step! When you can grieve what was, while also accepting this as the next chapter, you’re already moving forward. ## Small wins that boost confidence after divorce Through the years, I realised that confidence builds slowly in the little things you accomplish each day. I learned to set small, realistic goals that remind me of my strengths. I followed a routine, finished a work task I’ve been putting off, and started smiling at my reflection after a tough week. These milestones may feel insignificant, but they’re an excellent way to boost your self-esteem. Each small goal you achieve is proof of how you can positively change your life. With time, those moments bolster your self-belief and empower you to take ownership of your future. ## Gentle practices to restore confidence after divorce There are many gentle ways to reclaim your confidence after divorce. Journaling and positive self-talk are powerful tools to beat self-doubt and remind you of your positive traits. Learning a new skill or hobby, such as painting, or simply trying new things, means you can adapt and grow. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Banner-3-1200x675.jpg "Banner 3 - Beanstalk Mums") Mindful self-care also matters. Moving your body, even with a short walk that gets your endorphins flowing, helps boost your well-being. Healthy food, proper rest, and choosing small rituals that make you feel good all strengthen your mental health. For budget-friendly ideas, see our guide to affordable[ self-care rituals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/affordable-self-care-rituals/). Don’t be afraid to seek professional support. A therapist or support group can give you a safe space to explore feelings, mental load relief, and create achievable goals for rebuilding self-esteem. ## Confidence after divorce: Learning to trust yourself again One of the hardest parts of my divorce recovery is trusting myself after years of second-guessing. To rebuild self-esteem, start with small decisions. What to cook for dinner, how to spend a free hour, whether to say no to something that doesn’t serve me — each choice built my self-confidence. Over time, these steps to reclaim my voice made me feel empowered and confident after the divorce. It also helped me embrace independence, to reclaim my right to live on my terms, and to notice how far I’ve come since starting a new chapter of life. ## How community support builds confidence after divorce I know that we’re used to doing things ourselves, but know this — a strong support system is vital in regaining confidence. Surround yourself with people who remind you of your strength and positivity. Friends who encourage rather than criticise, and a support group where other mums share their stories, can remind you you’re not alone. Professional help also plays a role. Therapy for single mums, or community resources focused on separation and divorce, help manage self-doubt and strengthen your self-esteem. See our guide to [therapy for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/single-mama-way/) for practical next steps. ![confidence after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Banner-2-1200x675.jpg "Banner 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Finding strength in small steps It’s easy to focus on the big picture, but it is really about small steps. Paying a bill on time, turning up for a school event, or volunteering in your community are all ways to rebuild confidence and feel accomplished. These milestones show that you’re starting a new chapter, not ending one. Each act of self-trust, no matter how small, is a reminder of your strength and resilience. ## Rebuilding confidence after divorce with self-compassion The most important step to regain confidence after divorce is learning to treat yourself with compassion. This means recognising when self-criticism creeps in and gently replacing it with kindness. Accept that setbacks will happen — they’re not signs of failure, but stepping stones. Put yourself first, embrace your needs, and remember: your journey is unique. ## Rebuilding sensuality: Getting to know your body again My final tip for the road? Getting to know your body again is another way to get your confidence back. Exploring your sensual side can also empower you to reconnect with your body. Rediscovering pleasure through trusted brands like [*Lovehoney*](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fsex-toys%2fvibrators%2fclitoral-vibrators%2fp%2fwe-vibe-sync-o-remote-and-app-controlled-rechargeable-couples-vibrator%2fa48466g86304.html) is one positive way to boost your confidence and well-being. ### FAQ **Q: How long does it take to rebuild confidence after a divorce?** A: There’s no set timeline. With realistic goals and consistent small steps, most mums find that regaining confidence and self-esteem after divorce becomes easier over time. ## Conclusion Confidence after divorce is not about being perfect; it’s about resilience, positivity, and embracing the next chapter of life with courage. By setting small goals, celebrating progress, and leaning on a supportive community, you’ll slowly rebuild your self-esteem and self-confidence. This phase of your life is not about starting over but about embarking on a new and transformative journey. Rebuild your confidence after divorce step by step, and remember: you’re not alone in this. *If things feel heavy, reach out to [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) or local [divorce-specific Australian services.](https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/guide-to-confidence-after-divorce-growth-hope-new-life/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/guide-to-confidence-after-divorce-growth-hope-new-life/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Healing --- ### [Sisterhood Stories: Why I Love the Beanstalk Community](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/sisterhood-stories-beanstalk-community/) **Published:** February 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Two years ago, I stumbled upon *[Beanstalk Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/1724953714447438)* on Facebook, and joined Beanstalk Mums soon after. At that time, I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and searching for a place where I could just *be …* without judgment, without expectations. Although I’m more active on the blog than on Facebook, what I found was more than just an online group. It was a lifeline. Their sisterhood stories built a community of mums from all walks of life who understood, uplifted, and empowered each other. In this safe space, we share everything: the highs, the lows, the hilarious, and the heartbreaking. I’ve made real friends here, sisters who have walked beside me through the chaos of single motherhood. But I’m not the only one. *Beanstalk Mums* has provided many other single mums strength, friendship, and even joy. As we celebrate Women’s History Month this month and International Women’s Day on March 8th, let me share the sisterhood stories that make me love this community. ## My Beanstalk Mums Story of Sisterhood When I first joined *[Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au)*, I never expected to become one of its blog writers. But here I am, sharing my thoughts, lessons, and experiences with thousands of other single mums. Writing for the website has taught me so much. Not just about storytelling, but also about parenting, self-growth, and resilience. There are so many things I didn’t know yet as a mum, and through researching and writing, I’ve learned alongside this community. Beyond the blog, I find the Facebook group to be an invaluable resource (even if I only visit that social media once a month). It’s a space where advice flows freely, where struggles are met with encouragement, and where humour is never in short supply. Some of the funniest parenting moments I’ve ever read have come from fellow single mums in this group. Even though I haven’t personally seen even 1% of the 25,000-strong members, I still feel like these women are my sisters. ![sisterhood stories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-27.png "In article image 27 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Sisterhood Stories in the Beanstalk Community: Liz Liz (not her real name) became a single mum later in life. At 57, with her youngest finally out of the house, she expected a sense of relief. Instead, she felt lost. Her marriage had ended years before, and now, she wasn’t sure where she fit anymore. She first found helpful content on the *Beanstalk Mums* website before she became active on the Facebook group. “This group reminded me that life isn’t over just because one chapter closes,” Liz shared. “I’ve met women and girls here who encourage me to try new things, travel, focus on self-development, and even get back into dating. Through this online community, I feel like I don’t miss my old life. I’ve found my people.” Liz was able to grow her virtual friendships outside the Internet. She has an intact inner circle with whom she bonds and communicates with constantly. Still, she makes it a point to participate in threads in the group and happily share life lessons and encouragement, proving that single motherhood is a lifelong journey … one we don’t have to walk alone. ## Stories of Sisterhood: Coral Coral (not her real name), 44, said goodbye to an emotionally abusive relationship with nothing but a suitcase and her kids. She had no family support, no job, and no idea where to start. She found [*Beanstalk Mums*](https://www.instagram.com/beanstalksinglemums/)[ on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/beanstalksinglemums/) in the middle of a panic attack, desperately searching online for support. “I was met with warmth, kindness, and actual resources,” she recalled. “Women in the group helped me find housing, legal advice, and even a second-hand pram when mine broke. My virtual sisters have saved me a lot of times. But more than that, they give me hope.” Today, Coral is thriving. She’s working, her kids are happy, and she pays it forward by supporting new virtual sisters who feel as lost as she once did. ![sisterhood stories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-29.png "In article image 29 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Stories of Sisterhood: Priya Priya (not her real name), 29, moved to Australia in 2023 with her toddler after the dad went to the store for milk one evening and never came back. Isolated from family, she struggled with loneliness and culture shock. She found *Beanstalk Single Mums* community on IG first, and she was hooked from the first word. “This group became my village,” she said. “I found female friends who understood my struggles, who showed up for me when I needed support, even if it was just through a message at 2 AM. I even have older friends who took on the role of a parent or grandmother. I never feel alone anymore. Plus, I now know learned lots of yummy recipes my daughter loves.” Priya now actively participates in Beanstalk Single Mums meetups in her area. She believes that this community can change the world for another woman as it did hers. ## Final Thoughts: Sisterhood Stories in Beanstalk Mums *Beanstalk Single Mums* is more than an online community. It’s a reminder that single motherhood doesn’t have to be lonely. Whether it’s offering advice, sharing a laugh, or simply holding space for each other, we show up. You have people who lift you up. And that’s the magic of this sisterhood. I hope these sisterhood stories inspired you to join us. If you’re a single mum looking for connection, encouragement, or just a place to belong, yes, you can sit with us. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/sisterhood-stories-beanstalk-community/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/sisterhood-stories-beanstalk-community/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship --- ### [Friend Finder: The Best Apps to Make Friends 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friend-finder-apps/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There are many reasons why, as an adult, you might need to make new friends. That’s where friendship, otherwise known as Friend Finder apps, come to the rescue! I am a single mum of two teenage daughters. I lost some of my friends when I divorced, and life has been so hectic for the last ten years that I’ve not had time for a social life or to find new friends. Now, as my girls are becoming more independent, I’d love to find new friends with whom I can enjoy the next phase of my life. In this guide, I’ll be listing the best apps for creating new friendships, all with single mums in mind. Whether you want to make real-life connections or start chatting online, my picks will make it so much easier to find your next besties. Let’s make finding your tribe fun and stress-free! Further reading:[ The science of friendship: Proven strategies for making friends.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/science-friendship-making-friends/) ## **What to think about before choosing a friend finder app** ## **Check the stats for the app** It took me a while to realise that, in general, friend-finder apps are less populated than dating apps. They are also more area-specific. For example, some only service urban areas while others are worldwide. Don’t make the same mistake as me and join an app that doesn’t cover where you live. I seriously felt like Billy No Mates until I noticed my error. Also, being in a regional area didn’t help my cause. Join one that has lots of people to choose from in your area by checking the stats and demographics. Check reviews (such as this) alongside the all-important app features. ## **Is the app free or paid, and how much?** Like all apps nowadays, you will find that friendship apps come in free and paid varieties that feature a free trial. If you are serious about making new friends, I recommend you go paid. Even better go on a pay-only app so you know that everyone else there is serious about their mission for a mate. But stick within your budget and play around with free apps before you commit to purchase. ## **My favourite friend finder apps** ## **1.[ Peanut](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1695511&u=1855502&m=105348&urllink=&afftrack=)** For mums, especially single mums, who work at home and find it hard to connect with other mums,[ Peanut](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1695511&u=1855502&m=105348&urllink=&afftrack=) is a brilliant app. It’s like Tinder (complete with the swiping system) but for mothers and pregnant women who want to mingle and socialise. It was the first friend finder app I tried and is still my favourite, mainly because of the user base of lots of lovely mums but it’s super easy to use too, which is a green tick for me. **Free version:** Free, with in-app purchases **Demographics of Peanut:** Female ages 25-34 **I’ve included Peanut in this list because:** It’s a safe space for mums and mums-to-be where we are all facing similar challenges making friends **What I didn’t like:** Like all apps, fewer members in smaller areas [![Peanut | friend finder apps](https://i.ibb.co/M9TSQXj/2.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1695511&u=1855502&m=105348&urllink=&afftrack=) ## **2.[ Clic](https://theclicapp.com/)** I’ve looked at several friend finder apps and another that I recommend is Clic a new social networking app for Aussies to make friends and meet people in their area. It only takes a few minutes to sign up and start chatting. You can use your existing Facebook or Instagram account, or your Apple ID if you don’t have social media. I made sure to complete my bio and the interests section to get more accurate matches. For example, if you’re after a travel or workout buddy, make sure to include that. **Free version:** Free with in-app purchase **Demographics of Clic:** It’s all Aussies, 17+ **I’ve included Clic in this list because:** Easy sign up and navigation, good user reviews **What I didn’t like:** Not available in all areas of Australia, some users report bugs ![Clic](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Strap1@2x-min-1024x875-1-936x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## **3.[ Bumble BFF](https://bumble.com/bff)** I’d previously used Bumble for dating so I was super excited to try Bumble BFF. It has good reviews so I thought, why the hell not? I was trying out multiple friend finder apps to see which one fit my goals best, and this one seemed like a winner. Sign-up is easy and there were lots of potential BFFs in my area (it’s a fairly large city so the number of matches wasn’t the problem) who shared many of my interests. Surprisingly, however, I didn’t end up connecting much with those I matched with. Don’t let my experience put you off though, your experience might be different! **Free version:** Yes **Demographics of Bumble BFF:** Majority male, 26 years old on average **I’ve included Bumble BFF in this list because:** If you’ve used Bumble it’s easy to jump into Bumble BFF and hunt for mates straight away **What I didn’t like:** I feel the app is more committed to the dating side of its offering which is what most people use it for. [![Bumble BFF | friend finder apps](https://i.ibb.co/5Y1dbMj/1.jpg)](https://bumble.com/bff) ## **4.[ Yubo](https://www.yubo.live/ " Yubo")** If you’re into live streaming and video calls, Yubo might just be the app for you. It’s an app designed to connect with people IRL or online through interactive features like live video and shared interests. What makes it unique is its focus on helping users find like-minded individuals. If you’re a single mum who finds it hard to meet people due to a busy schedule, this app’s flexible chatting and swipe-based features can make connecting with others a breeze. **Free version:** Yes **Demographics of Yubo:** Gen Zs (Ages 13 to 25) **I’ve included Yubo in this list because:** It has a verification system to help ensure that users are who they claim to be **What I didn’t like:** Explicit or inappropriate content during live streams or chats ![Yubo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Image-1200x533.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5.[ NextDoor](https://au.nextdoor.com/)** I like this app because I was able to communicate quickly with people nearest me during the lockdown and pandemic. A real life-saver when keeping up with community quarantine news! I highly recommend this app if you’re new to town and want to get to know your neighbourhood. It’s also great if you are promoting your business or looking for clients. My town is pretty big so I had no problems, but I can see how it may be difficult to connect if you live in a remote, rural or small area. **Free version:** Free **Demographics of Next Door:** Male and female ages 25-34 years old in the US, Canada, France, Australia, and UK **I’ve included Next Door in this list because:** Next Door is great for individuals who want to get involved in the community and businesses looking for clients. **What I didn’t like:** Can be difficult to network if you live in a remote area [![NextDoor | Friend finder apps](https://ndmulti.wpenginepowered.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/events-crop-810x456.jpg)](https://au.nextdoor.com/) ## **10 Best friendship apps (cont.)** ## **6.[ Stitch](https://www.stitch.net/)** Stitch is a social companionship/networking app that connects adults aged 50 and over. I recommended the Stitch app to my friend who’s an older adult when she moved to a new area last year. She thought it was a sewing app at first which was hilarious but eventually gave it a go as a means to make new friends and find local activities she enjoyed (not sewing!). My friend did mention that she got hit on by some members, but it wasn’t a serious issue. That said, feel free to use Stitch to find a date if that’s your goal! **Free version:** Yes **Demographics of Stitch:** 50s and over **I’ve included Stitch in this list because:** It’s an exclusive app for the over 50 and has a good focus on local activities and events where you can socialise as a group **What I didn’t like:** Few members and activities in smaller areas [![Stitch ](https://www.stitch.net/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/stitch_macbook_grey_bg-padjjqg34op3s4xxtnsq93hyyzvw44lp0ldxe1o52w.jpg)](https://www.stitch.net/) ## **7. [LMK](https://www.lmk.chat/ "LMK")** Short for “Let Me Know,” LMK is a casual app for chatting and making friends online. You can send messages or join group discussions based on shared topics, making it an easy way to find friends or expand your social life. This app is especially handy if you want to connect without the formality of a traditional friendship app. Whether you’re into casual chats or deeper conversations, LMK offers a laid-back way to make new friendships. **Free version:** Yes **Demographics:** Young adults **I’ve included it in this list because:** It offers various ways to interact, including chatrooms, audio rooms, and community feeds **What I didn’t like:** Older adults may find the environment less suitable for their social needs due to its focus on a younger demographic. ![LMK | Friend finder apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/90e85b8a-02e0-4f11-a8ce-b7b20923c7d5-1066x800.jpg "90e85b8a-02e0-4f11-a8ce-b7b20923c7d5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **8. App for finding events near you: [ MeetUp](https://www.meetup.com/)** Another way I have used to meet new people and make friends is MeetUp. Sign-up is free and quick (you can use your SM account) and you can immediately find meetups or events near you. You can filter by category, calendar, or group. This last one is pretty handy when you are a member of an FB group for example that you want to connect with in your new location. You simply click “Join” when you find the meetup you want. Oh, and make sure to add a photo to your profile. I was initially declined when I tried to join a hiking group because I had no photo. **Free version:** Yes **Demographics:** Almost perfect balance of men and women, 34 and under **I’ve included it in this list because:** It’s fairly well-known with a large user base **What I didn’t like:** There’s a fee if you want to be a host or start your own Meetup, few activities in some areas [![MeetUp](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/Q5j38nh8wrmENwFrvEf3ETtn7wTz7B8-assBKv78nGIHn9H0KZ4bMi9jCEWzQWD0Hb0=w2560-h1440)](https://www.meetup.com/) ## **9. [Hey! Vina](https://www.heyvina.com/)** With Hey! VINA, creating a profile is a breeze. You can sync with Facebook or Instagram, snap a cute pic, and dive into fun quizzes that match you with like-minded gals. Think Tinder for BFFs, but way friendlier. I loved joining interest-based communities and planning meetups, though I’ll admit, VIP perks like seeing who swiped right are tempting! **Free version:** Yes (Basic features only) **Demographics of Hey! Vina:** Women usually under 30 years old **What I didn’t like:** Limited features in the free version ![Hey! Vina | Friend finder apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/7badd979-90ec-418d-a18e-57ab4286620a-1066x800.jpg "7badd979-90ec-418d-a18e-57ab4286620a - Beanstalk Mums") ## **10. [Wink](https://www.getwinkapp.com/ "Wink")** Wink is like Tinder, but strictly platonic, making it a fun and easy way to meet new people. The app’s swiping system lets you swipe right if you’re interested or swipe left to move on. It’s a low-pressure way to meet like-minded people based on shared interests in your bio. What makes Wink unique is its live video and chat features, so you can get to know people beyond their profiles. This is a great way to quickly vibe-check potential friends and see if they’re your kind of people from the get-go. **Free version:** Yes **Demographics of Wink:** 18+ **What I didn’t like:** Some users have mentioned concerns about inappropriate content and sketchy behaviour, likely due to the app’s open setup and not having strong age checks in place. ![Wink](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Image-2-1200x564.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums")Image ## **Bonus pick: [ Lex](https://apps.apple.com/au/app/lex-queer-friends-dating/id1436964232)** Lex started as a dating app and quickly evolved into a social networking platform to connect members of the community. My friend who is a member of the LGBTQQIA+ community met a workout buddy through Lex. It’s super easy to find local LGBTQ+ events here, too, especially in cities. She was also very happy that she could use Lex to find a date if she wanted… I am waiting for lots of exciting gossip from her. **Free version:** Yes **Demographics of Lex:** LGBTQIA+ community aged 20-37 **I’ve included Lex in this list because:** Free social networking app and safe space for the LGBTQIA+ community **What I didn’t like:** No matching system, few members in some areas [![Lex ](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/Ic0wk4Kx0LDJB5LI45lE2sy4LVD8zUZbAsq0BMrS6mdccRkn7yWjRmv13yYbRHxN1Gc=w2560-h1440)](https://apps.apple.com/au/app/lex-queer-friends-dating/id1436964232) ## **My final thoughts on friend finder apps** Finally, don’t underestimate traditional social networking apps like TikTok and Snapchat if you’re looking to expand your network. I’ve also made new virtual friendships through these platforms. You can join mum-centric groups if you’re seeking camaraderie or follow family-friendly influencers on these platforms to befriend mummies with similar interests and build your network. Remember, behind every profile is a person with a unique story and the desire to connect. So, go forth, open those virtual doors, and who knows, your future best friend might just be a tap away! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friend-finder-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/friend-finder-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** mates, friendship, find friends, tribe --- ### [Best Social Platforms to Make Friends in 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/best-social-platforms-to-make-friends/) **Published:** March 27, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Have you noticed how challenging it is for everyone to find new friends? Especially in these post-pandemic, chronically online times, we have to rely on our smartphone apps to make friends. Whether you’re in for a romantic, platonic, or business relationship or simply finding like-minded people, here are the best social platforms to make friends in 2025. (Note: Unlike today’s most popular social media platforms like TikTok, where you may earn money, the platforms listed here do not feature monetisation or affiliate programs. If you’re more interested in making extra income, you might find [this article](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/mums-extra-money-from-home/) helpful.) ## Best Social Platforms That Help You Connect with Others and Grow Your Friends List ### Social Platforms to Make Friends – Dating and Romantic Connections ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-58.png "In article image 58 - Beanstalk Mums") #### [Bumble Date](https://bumble.com/date/) Bumble is all about connection. Women make the first move, which can feel like a relief when navigating the online dating world. It’s also great for those who want to take their time getting to know someone without the usual pressure. A mum friend of mine met her now-partner on Bumble after swearing off dating for years. They started as friends and, well, now they share school drop-offs. #### [Tinder](https://bumble.com/date/) This app has a reputation for being a bit fast-paced, but it’s all about how you use it. You can find serious relationships, casual connections, and even new friends. One of my closest friends met her husband here. She swiped right on someone she thought was cute, but they ended up bonding over single parenting struggles instead. Five years later, they’re still inseparable. Who knows? Maybe you can be the next success story, too. #### [Skout](https://www.skout.com/en/) Skout is a location-based app where you can meet people nearby, whether for friendship, dating, or networking. If you’re open to different kinds of connections, this is a good one. You can meet a new person every single time. #### [Wink](https://www.getwinkapp.com) Wink is a lesser-known but growing app that helps you meet new people by swiping through profiles and sending friend requests. It’s a fun, casual way to expand your social circle. A mum at my little one’s daycare swears by it. She says it’s less intimidating than traditional dating apps and great for making new friends when you’re feeling isolated. ### Social Platforms to Make Friends – Social Connections and Friendship Apps ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-57.png "In article image 57 - Beanstalk Mums") #### [Bumble BFF](https://bumble.com/en/bff) The popular dating app has siblings that are great apps to make new friends. It’s like Tinder for friends. Bumble BFF is one of today’s best friendship apps, and is especially helpful if you’ve moved to a new city and find potential friends. Just like its older sibling, simply swipe right if you think you’re a match and swipe left to pass. #### [Friender](https://beta.friender.io) Instead of just browsing profiles, Friender matches you based on shared interests. If you’ve ever wished for an app that connects you with someone who also loves early morning walks or binge-watching crime documentaries, this is it. If you’re looking for fellow dog owners, download this. #### [LMK](https://www.lmk.chat) LMK is a talk-based social app where you chat with people with similar interests. It’s a great way to connect without the pressure of meeting face-to-face right away. Maybe you can find a supportive group of women who share your love for travel and wine (even if only in theory, because of kids). #### [Peanut](https://www.peanut-app.io) Peanut is basically Bumble for mums, minus the awkward pick-up lines. It’s a friendship app designed to connect with fellow women, especially mums, during this crazy journey called motherhood. If you’ve ever struggled with making mum friends at the playground, this app makes it easier. Maybe you’ll find another sleep-deprived mum who understands your obsession with coffee here. #### [Vina](https://www.heyvina.com) Like Peanut, this app is specifically for women. Vina is all about female friendships. It matches you with women who have similar interests, whether you’re looking for a brunch buddy, a travel partner, or just someone to chat with. During her fertility struggles last year, my cousin used this platform to find other women who would understand her. She now has a solid group of friends who get her through the toughest days. Oh, and this app has compatibility quizzes to help you gauge whether your and your potential friend’s personalities and values would resonate with each other. #### [Yubo](https://www.yubo.live) Yubo is a fast-growing social media app specially designed for Gen Zs to grow their network. The minimum age to join is 13 years old. Those above 18 years old can also join but in separate communities. Although I don’t personally know mums that have accounts on Yubo, me and my friends agree that kids seem safe due to their protection measures. ## Best Social Platforms to Make Friends (cont.) ### Social Platforms to Make Friends – Local and Community-Based Connections ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-55.png "In article image 55 - Beanstalk Mums") #### [Meetup](https://www.meetup.com/apps/) Meetup is one of the best platforms for in-person, well, meetups. You can find groups for anything: book clubs, hiking groups, business networking, and even single-parent support groups. I once joined a Meetup group for mums who love coffee, and let’s just say it turned into a regular thing. #### [Nextdoor](https://nextdoor.com) Nextdoor is a community-based platform where neighbours connect. It’s great for local recommendations, event updates, and meeting people in your area. I once posted asking if anyone had a second-hand bike for sale and ended up making a new friend who invited me to a local parents’ group. ## Best Social Platforms to Connect with Like-minded Individuals (cont.) ### Social Platforms to Make Friends – Hobbies and Networking ![social platforms to make friends ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-56.png "In article image 56 - Beanstalk Mums") #### [Atleto](https://www.atletosports.com) Atleto is perfect if you want to connect through sports and fitness. Whether you need a running buddy or a social netball team, this app helps you find like-minded people. My sister used it to start a casual mums’ tennis group. More chatting than playing, but it was a win nonetheless. #### [Bumble Bizz](https://bumble.com/bizz) The third sibling of the Bumble family, Bizz, is exactly like the two others … but for networking. Using the all-familiar algorithm, meet potential business partners, clients, employers, and employees that match with you. What the Beanstalk Mums team loves about the Bumble app is the company’s commitment to always putting women first all the time. ### Social Platforms to Make Friends – Meta and X (formerly Twitter) Alternatives ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-59.png "In article image 59 - Beanstalk Mums") #### [Bluesky](https://bsky.app) If you prefer microblogging but want out of X, head on to Bluesky, the fastest-growing social networking app today with 33 million users (and still growing). Unlike X, which controls your feed, Bluesky lets you filter what you want to see. Oh, and Bluesky is owned by a former Twitter CEO, so everything about it feels like home. #### [Mastodon](http://mastodon.social) Another worthy alternative is Mastodon. It’s an open-source social media app that lets you connect with people from different communities. Some say it’s an alternative to X, but for me, it’s to Facebook. It’s kind of similar to Reddit, except you and the people you meet don’t have to be anonymous. I also find people here to be generally nicer and more supportive compared to other social networks. A lot less noise, too. At least so far. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/best-social-platforms-to-make-friends/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/best-social-platforms-to-make-friends/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** dating, friendship, friend apps, social platforms --- ### [Affordable Self-Care Rituals That Make a Difference](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/affordable-self-care-rituals/) **Published:** September 26, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Mums are often the last to pause, rest, or breathe — especially when you’re navigating the demands of solo parenting. But caring for yourself doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. Affordable self-care rituals are small, everyday practices that fit into daily life, helping reduce stress, lift energy, and remind you that your wellbeing matters just as much as everyone else’s. Self-care isn’t about indulgence or luxury; it’s about sustainability — for your mind, body, and spirit. For single mums, especially, it can be the difference between running on empty and finding a pocket of peace in the middle of chaos. Whether it’s a five-minute morning routine before the school run or a basket filled with comforting treats from [Charity Hampers](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2f), these affordable self-care rituals are designed to promote balance without straining your finances. And the best part? You’ll also feel good knowing that 10% of every purchase is donated to a charity of your choice, adding a layer of kindness to your self-care. ## Why Self-Care Matters For Single Mums Life as a single mum can feel like a constant balancing act — work deadlines, school runs, bills to juggle, and the endless to-do list that never really ends. In the middle of it all, it’s easy to push your own needs to the bottom of the pile. But here’s the truth: self-care doesn’t need to be complicated. It’s fuel for your mental and physical health. When the days are long and stressful, the effects show up in your physical health too — from low energy and high cortisol to elevated blood pressure and even increased risk of heart disease. That’s why weaving in affordable self-care rituals is so important. Small rituals like taking a breath, doing gentle exercise, or journaling your thoughts can improve resilience and lower stress levels. Simple treats can also make self-care feel more achievable. [A thoughtfully curated hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fgourmet-food-and-wine%2fboxed-treats%2f) gives mums ready-made moments of calm — from nourishing teas to pampering spa products. These little luxuries don’t just save time; they also create reminders that your wellbeing deserves attention. Caring for yourself also models healthy habits for your kids. By mindfully taking breaks, expressing gratitude, and showing balance, you teach them that taking care of well-being is part of everyday life. If the weight of responsibilities feels too heavy, [exploring tools for mental load relief](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/anxiety-apps-adults/) can make space for more calm and clarity in your day. ![Single mum and child enjoying affordable self-care rituals with face masks at home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-elly-fairytale-6202244-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-elly-fairytale-6202244 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Simple, Affordable Self-care Rituals You Can Start Today Sometimes self-care feels out of reach because it’s framed as a spa day or weekend getaway. But there are many simple ways to incorporate self-care into the little spaces of your daily life. Here are a few affordable self-care rituals you can start right now. ### Morning Grounding Practices How you begin your day sets the tone. A few intentional minutes can make all the difference. - **Stretch it out**: A gentle stretch or exercise routine helps regulate energy and relieve tension. - **Mindful cuppa**: Instead of rushing, take one sip mindfully. Notice the warmth, comfort, and calm. 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Or you could elevate the moment with the [Divine Love Hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fgifts-for-her%2fdivine-love-hamper%2f), filled with soothing scents and thoughtful treats to ignite the senses. - **Screen-free unwind**: Instead of scrolling, read, watch your favourite movie, or simply don’t check your phone for half an hour before bed. Check out our guide on thoughtful [self-care gifts for mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-gifts-for-mums-that-make-her-feel-truly-special/), with ideas that bring comfort, joy, and a little extra sparkle to everyday life. ## Budget-Friendly and Affordable Self-Care Rituals That Go Beyond The Basics Self-care doesn’t have to mean solitude. Sometimes the best self-care ideas are community-driven and deeply supportive. - **Swap babysitting**: Partner with another mum. Even a short break can relieve stress and give you time to unwind. - **Community events to attend**: Local councils often run free or low-cost activities — from exercise groups to cozy book clubs. These build connections while caring for yourself. - **DIY spa at home**: A bath with Epsom salts or a nourishing milk bath from [Gourmet Basket’s Bath Brew Relaxation](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fgifts-for-her%2fbath-brew-relaxation%2f) hamper can easily soothe your stress away. - **Affordable treats with purpose**: Thoughtful, budget-friendly indulgences — like a [food hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2ffavourite%2fgourmet-food-gift-baskets%2f) — can add that spark of joy to an ordinary day. - **Support circles**: Online or local mum groups help you feel less alone while building resilience together. ## Self-care Practices That Reduce Stress Stressful days are unavoidable, but there are affordable self-care rituals that genuinely reduce stress and encourage calm: - **Meditation apps** – There are a lot of free, guided mindfulness sessions that help regulate cortisol and improve focus. Even five minutes can make a difference. - **Herbal teas** – Chamomile or peppermint aren’t just soothing; [studies show they may ease health issues](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11109927/) like insomnia and aid relaxation. Or you could make tea time feel extra special with the [Indulge Tea Hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2fherbal-tea-hamper%2f), thoughtfully curated for moments of calm. - **Aromatherapy evening** – A few drops of essential oil or a whiff of a scented soy candle can turn an evening into an aromatherapy ritual that relaxes both body and mind. - **Progressive muscle relaxation** – Tense and release muscle groups to relieve built-up stress and lower blood pressure. If you’re rebuilding after a change, [our guide on confidence after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/) shares self-care strategies to strengthen resilience and restore emotional well-being. ![Affordable self-care rituals with a mindful tea break for calm and relaxation.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5421537-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5421537 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Making Self-Care Stick When Life Feels Overwhelming Even the best self-care strategies can fall away in busy seasons. Here are ways to incorporate self-care into your life when things feel heavy. - **Start small**: Five minutes of breathing deeply, exercise, or sipping tea mindfully can lower stress and regulate blood pressure. - **Set an alarm**: Use your phone’s alarm as a reminder to pause, breathe, and re-centre. - **Involve your kids**: Invite them to walk, stretch, or hydrate with you. It teaches healthy wellness habits. - **Release guilt**: Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s how you preserve your energy for others. As one psychologist put it, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” - **Lean on joy**: Whether it’s a [Heart & Mind hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2fheart-mind-hamper%2f), a call with a friend, or watching your favourite movie, small rituals can regulate stress hormones and lower cortisol. ## Ethical And Sustainable Self-Care Choices Self-care is even more meaningful when it’s ethical and sustainable. - **Eco-friendly swaps**: Reusable bottles, cloth bags, and natural cleaners are simple ways to nurture the planet. - **Support local**: Choosing Australian-made products not only cares for you but also strengthens the community. - **Nature as nurture**: Free activities like walking barefoot, gardening, or sitting under a tree support both mental health and physical health. - **Mindful purchases**: Wrap yourself in aromatic and eco-friendly comfort with the [Organic Pamper Hamper from Gourmet Basket](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2forganic-pamper-hamper%2f)[.](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/) - **DIY rituals**: Craft your own scrubs or brew herbal teas — affordable, sustainable, and soothing for long-term mental health. ## Affordable Self-Care Rituals: Small Steps, Big Impact Self-care doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. The most effective self-care practices are often the simplest — a deep breath, a stretch, or writing down your gratitude. Try to start small. One gentle ritual today can grow into a self-care routine that supports your confidence, calm, and strength. Over time, these habits protect you from long-term health issues and create resilience that helps regulate stress in everyday life. 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Simple Start For Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/spocket-dropshipping-what-is-it-simple-start-for-mums/) **Published:** May 5, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** In the dynamic world of e-commerce, dropshipping has emerged as a popular business model, allowing entrepreneurs to sell products without holding inventory. For those wondering…”dropshipping what is it?” and “How does it work in practice?”, one platform gaining significant traction among online retailers is Spocket. Renowned for its seamless integration with major e-commerce platforms and a vast network of suppliers, Spocket offers a comprehensive solution for those looking to venture into or scale their dropshipping businesses. ## What Exactly Is Spocket? If you’re a busy mum looking for a flexible income stream, Spocket might be worth exploring. [Spocket is a dropshipping platform](https://get.spocket.co/obwb4bwjilvc) that connects you with a wide range of reliable suppliers, mainly based in the US and Europe. That means better shipping times, more reliable service, and happier customers. So, dropshipping what is it? It’s a way to run an online store without keeping stock. You only purchase a product after a customer buys it. Spocket helps make this process smooth and professional. ## Why Mums Love Spocket Many mums are turning to dropshipping because it fits around school runs, appointments, and all the other daily responsibilities. Here’s why Spocket stands out: - **Quick Shipping Times:** Products are sourced from local suppliers in the US and EU. That means your customers aren’t waiting weeks for delivery. - **Branded Invoicing:** You can make your store look polished by adding your logo to customer invoices. - **Easy Integration:** Spocket works seamlessly with platforms like Shopify, WooCommerce, Wix, and BigCommerce. - **Real-Time Updates:** No more worrying about selling out-of-stock products—Spocket updates inventory in real-time. These features are especially helpful for mums who want a simple start, with fewer tech headaches. ## Dropshipping What Is It and How Does It Work? The phrase “dropshipping what is it” comes up often—and for good reason. Many people have heard of it, but don’t fully understand how it works. Here’s a simple explanation: 1. You choose products to sell through your online store. 2. A customer buys a product from your store. 3. You order the product from the supplier via Spocket. 4. The supplier ships the item directly to your customer. You never handle the product yourself. No need for extra storage space, or big upfront investment. It’s a business model that keeps things lean and manageable. ## Key Features That Set Spocket Apart Here are some of the standout features mums appreciate: #### 1. **Wide Range of Quality Products** Spocket vets its suppliers, so you’re only dealing with businesses that offer high-quality goods. That means fewer returns and happier customers. #### 2. **Automated Order Fulfilment** Once someone buys something from your shop, the rest is mostly hands-off. Spocket automatically processes the order and sends it to your customer. [![Sproket Dropshipping What Is It?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-images-94.jpg "Sproket Side Hustle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://get.spocket.co/obwb4bwjilvc)### Sproket Dropshipping What Is It? (cont…) #### 3. **Branded Touchpoints** Professionalism matters. Spocket allows you to add your own branding to invoices, giving your store a more established feel. #### 4. **Affordable and Scalable** You can start small and scale as you grow. Whether you’re looking to earn a bit extra or build a bigger business, Spocket has the tools to help. ## A Real-Life Win: Mum’s Success Story Let’s look at a real example. One single mum decided to try Spocket with her Shopify store, selling home and lifestyle products. By focusing on US-based suppliers, she managed to cut delivery times in half. Her store looked more professional thanks to branded invoicing. Within three months, her sales increased by 40%. That’s the power of choosing the right tools—and the right approach. ## Getting Started with Spocket (It’s Easier Than You Think) Feeling ready to dip your toes into dropshipping? Here’s a quick guide: 1. **Create Your Account:** Visit Spocket’s website and sign up. 2. **Connect Your Store:** Link it with your preferred e-commerce platform. 3. **Browse Products:** Choose items that suit your niche or interest. 4. **Edit Listings:** Update product names, images, and descriptions to match your brand. 5. **Publish and Promote:** Launch your store and share it with your community, friends, and on social media. It’s really that simple. Plus, Spocket’s user interface is beginner-friendly and intuitive. ## Looking for a Discount? We know every dollar counts. That’s why we’ve added Spocket to our [Discount Directory for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dropshipping-for-single-mums-25-off-spocket/). You can access **25% off** your Spocket subscription as part of our exclusive offers. This offer helps you start strong and stay budget-savvy. ## Read More: A Detailed Review of Spocket If you’re still on the fence and want more details, check out our [in-depth review of Spocket](https://www.cloudways.com/blog/spocket-review). It covers all the must-knows from a single mum’s point of view. ## Final Thoughts: Dropshipping What Is It? It’s a Game Changer If you’ve ever asked, “Dropshipping what is it?”, now you know—it’s a business model that lets you run an online store from your kitchen table. And platforms like Spocket make it even more accessible for mums. With low start-up costs, no need for storage, and automated tools, you can build something meaningful that fits around your life, not the other way around. So, if you’re ready to start something new or grow what you’ve already begun, Spocket could be your next best step. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/spocket-dropshipping-what-is-it-simple-start-for-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/spocket-dropshipping-what-is-it-simple-start-for-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Reviews --- ### [How Can Mums Smash Their Wealth Goals With Cryptocurrency](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-can-mums-smash-their-wealth-goals-with-cryptocurrency/) **Published:** May 5, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** For many single mums, managing household budgets, saving for the future, and building financial independence can feel overwhelming. But there’s a financial tool offering exciting potential: cryptocurrency. While it might sound technical or intimidating, platforms like [Gemini](https://gemini.sjv.io/c/1253070/2794796/11829) are making it simple, secure, and beginner-friendly. This guide is designed just for you—to help you understand how cryptocurrency works and how you can use Gemini to start investing safely and wisely. ## Why Cryptocurrency Could Work for You Investing in cryptocurrency isn’t just for finance experts. Here’s why more mums are giving it a go: - **Start small**: Even $5 is enough to begin. - **Flexible timing**: Buy and sell when it suits you. - **Growth potential**: Coins like Bitcoin and Ethereum have climbed in value — and these days, you can even [borrow against your BTC](https://www.vield.io/bitcoin-backed-loans "borrow against your BTC"). - **Extra savings method**: Go beyond your super or a rainy-day fund. - **Earn while you hold**: Some coins offer interest. Used wisely, cryptocurrency can be a steady way to build your financial future. ## Why Gemini Stands Out If you’re a busy mum wanting a safe and easy option, Gemini is worth a look. Here’s why: - **Fully licensed**: It’s trusted and follows strict safety rules. - **Simple to use**: Many first-time users find it very easy. - **Earn interest**: Gemini Earn helps you grow your balance. - **App access**: Check and manage your account on the go. - **Learn as you go**: Gemini’s tools boost your confidence. ## Getting Started with Cryptocurrency on Gemini You don’t need a finance degree to begin. Here’s a quick guide: 1. [Create a free Gemini account](https://gemini.sjv.io/c/1253070/2794796/11829). 2. Secure your profile by verifying your identity. 3. Add funds with a debit card or bank transfer. 4. Choose your first coin—many start with Bitcoin, Ethereum, or stablecoins. 5. Set up auto-invest to build over time. 6. Use Gemini Earn to collect interest on your crypto. This can be done in just minutes. ## Make It Work With Your Busy Life We know how full your days are. Here are ways to save time: - **Automate it**: Set up recurring buys. - **Use alerts**: Get notified when prices move. - **Stick to your budget**: Invest only what you’re comfortable with. - **Spread your choices**: Try a few different coins. - **Keep learning**: Read a short blog each week. These little steps can lead to big gains. ![cryptocurrency for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-images-95.jpg "In-article images 95 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Stay Safe While Investing in Cryptocurrency Safety matters. Here are smart ways to protect your money: - **Use two-factor authentication** for added security. - **Create strong, unique passwords**. - **Keep your details private**, even with friends. - **Consider a hardware wallet** for long-term savings. - **Be alert for scams**—if it feels off, don’t risk it. You don’t need to feel afraid—just be cautious and informed. ## Mums Making It Work With Crypto Real single mums are already seeing results from cryptocurrency: One mum in our community started with $20 a month in Bitcoin. After three years, her investment grew steadily. Now she uses it to support her child’s school costs. Another mum put some of her tax refund into Ethereum. With Gemini Earn, she earns interest and is building a savings buffer. These aren’t quick wins—but steady steps taken with care. ## Tips for Single Mums Starting Out If this is your first time looking into cryptocurrency, keep these tips in mind: - **Start small**—you don’t need much to begin. - **Stay open**—ask questions and keep learning. - **Play the long game**—avoid the hype and stay steady. - **Stick to your plan**—trust your choices. - **Be proud**—you’re taking control of your future. Want to stretch your dollar further? Visit our [Discount Directory for Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/) for savings on everyday essentials. ## Take Your First Step With Cryptocurrency You’ve got what it takes. Cryptocurrency might be the financial step that helps you feel more in control. With Gemini, you’re never alone. Here’s how to get started: - [Create your free Gemini account](https://gemini.sjv.io/c/1253070/2794796/11829). - Choose one coin to explore—Bitcoin and Ethereum are great starts. - Decide on a budget you can stick with. - Reinvest any interest earned with Gemini Earn. - Check in monthly—slow and steady works. With the right support and simple tools, cryptocurrency can become a helpful part of your money journey. Whether it’s for your children, a home, or peace of mind, this could be a strong next step. Want more ideas like this? [Subscribe](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalksinglemums) to our newsletter or explore more supportive articles for single mums at [Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-can-mums-smash-their-wealth-goals-with-cryptocurrency/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/how-can-mums-smash-their-wealth-goals-with-cryptocurrency/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Reviews **Tags:** money, side hustle, financial independance --- ### [Digital Assets Made Easy: Unlock Your Creative Side with Envato](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/digital-assets-made-easy-unlock-your-creative-side-with-envato/) **Published:** May 5, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** Being a single mum often means juggling everything—raising kids, running a household, working, and still trying to hold onto your dreams. It’s a big ask, and often, your creativity is the first thing to slip. But here’s a gentle reminder: your ideas matter and deserve space to grow. If you’ve been dreaming about starting a business, launching a blog, or simply adding a creative touch to a passion project, digital assets could be the missing piece. And thanks to platforms like [Envato Market](https://1.envato.market/dOeWNy) and [Envato Placeit](http://1.envato.market/RGKrgy), you don’t have to do it alone. ## Discover Envato Market: A Digital Assets Treasure Trove Envato Market is an online marketplace packed with thousands of digital assets designed to make your life easier and your creative projects look amazing. Whether you’re launching a blog, boosting your social media, creating content for your freelance clients, or setting up a small business, Envato Market offers tools that save you time and stress. Here’s a peek at what you can find: **Stock Photos and Video Templates** – Add visual magic to your content instantly. **Website Themes** – Professional WordPress themes that are easy to customise. **Logos and Branding Kits** – Create a brand identity without hiring a designer. **Social Media Templates** – Make your Instagram or Facebook shine with no fuss. **Presentation Tools** – Design beautiful slide decks for your business or clients. ## Why Envato Market is a Game-Changer for Mums Envato Market is an online treasure trove filled with thousands of digital assets. Whether you’re creating content for a new side hustle, refreshing your social media, or building a brand from scratch, there’s something to help. Here’s why so many mums love using it: #### 1. **It Saves You Time** Let’s be honest—your time is already stretched thin. With Envato Market’s digital assets, there’s no need to start from scratch. You’ll find pre-designed templates for just about everything. That means less time designing and more time doing the things that matter most. #### 2. **It Saves You Money** Hiring a graphic designer or web developer can be expensive. Digital assets from Envato Market are budget-friendly, with one-time purchases or affordable packages. For single mums trying to make smart financial choices, it’s a practical solution. #### 3. **It Sparks Creativity** Even if you don’t see yourself as the creative type, using digital assets can unlock that spark. They offer structure without limits—giving you a polished starting point while still letting you personalise your project. #### 4. **It Helps You Show Up Professionally** Whether you’re freelancing, starting a small biz, or building a personal brand, showing up well matters. With high-quality digital assets at your fingertips, you can create a cohesive, confident presence that reflects your values and strengths. **Looking for more inspiration to kick off your business dreams?** Check out our [guide to single mums in business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/) for ideas, motivation, and practical steps to help you grow something amazing—on your terms. ![digital assets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-images-96.jpg "Digital Assets for creativity - Beanstalk Mums") ## Real-Life Ways Mums Are Using Digital Assets Need some inspiration? Here are just a few ways single mums are winning with Envato Market: #### **Starting a Blog or Website** Digital assets like WordPress themes, icons, and navigation menus help you build a beautiful, user-friendly site—no coding needed. Pick a theme that suits your style, customise it, and go live in a day. #### **Launching a Small Business** From logos and social media templates to packaging and marketing flyers, you can build a brand that’s both professional and uniquely yours. Digital assets let you do this quickly and without needing a graphic design degree. #### **Freelancing** Presenting yourself professionally as a freelancer is key. Use digital assets like proposal templates, CV designs, and branding kits to make your work stand out—and land more clients. #### **Creating Social Media Content** You don’t need hours to make scroll-stopping content. Use Envato Market’s pre-made templates for Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube to keep your feeds looking polished and consistent. #### **Making Personal Projects Shine** Birthday invites, printable wall art, event flyers, or even a vision board—whatever you’re dreaming up, digital assets can help bring it to life beautifully and effortlessly. ## How to Get Started Using Digital Assets in Envato Market Getting started is easy—even if you’ve never worked with digital assets before. Here’s how: 1. **Visit Envato Market** – Head to [Envato Market](https://1.envato.market/dOeWNy) and create your free account. 2. **Browse** – Explore categories like business branding, blog themes, social media kits, or presentations. 3. **Purchase Your Digital Assets** – Pick the ones that suit your project and download them. 4. **Customise** – Use tools like Canva or WordPress to tweak your assets to match your vision. 5. **Launch** – Whether it’s a blog, side hustle, or something just for fun—you’re ready to go! ## Common Concerns (And Reassuring Answers) **“I’m not techy at all.”** You don’t have to be! Most digital assets come with step-by-step instructions. Many can be used with free or user-friendly tools like Canva, which is perfect for beginners. **“Is it going to cost me heaps?”** Nope. Envato Market has affordable one-off pricing, and even offers free digital assets each month. It’s perfect for mums on a tight budget. **“Will this really save me time?”** Yes! That’s the whole point. Instead of trying to DIY everything from scratch, digital assets give you a strong starting point so you can get more done with less stress. ## Bonus Tip: Try Envato Placeit Too! If you’re after *super simple* design tools, check out [Envato Placeit](https://placeit.net/). It’s a sister platform to Envato Market that lets you edit templates directly in your browser—perfect for mums who want quick, no-fuss design. Think logos, YouTube intros, T-shirt designs, Instagram posts—you name it. Placeit is ideal if you want the same ease of digital assets but with even fewer steps. ## Final Thoughts: Your Ideas Deserve to Shine Mama, you don’t need to be a designer, tech expert, or marketing pro to bring your ideas to life. With the help of digital assets from Envato Market, you can create something powerful, beautiful, and uniquely *you,* in far less time and with far less stress. So whether you’re dreaming of launching that biz, adding some flair to your freelancing, or simply playing with a passion project, now’s the time. Visit Envato Market and unlock your creative side—because you’re capable of incredible things. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Market-2024-htmltemplates-900x250-1.gif "Digital Assets for creativity - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/digital-assets-made-easy-unlock-your-creative-side-with-envato/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/reviews-guides/digital-assets-made-easy-unlock-your-creative-side-with-envato/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career, Reviews --- ### [Finding Love Again: Dating Advice for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/finding-love-again-dating-advice-for-single-mums/) **Published:** February 10, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… Starting over after a divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when re-entering the dating world. For single mums, balancing self-care, parenting, and the pursuit of love is no small task. But with empowering dating advice for single mums, you can overcome obstacles, rebuild confidence, and take thoughtful steps toward finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship. In this *Beanstalk Mums Podcast* episode, Laurie Gerber, a seasoned life and relationship coach, shares invaluable insights tailored to single mothers ready to embrace love again. Laurie has appeared on the Today Show, Dr, Phil, MTV and A & E and been the resident love expert at Match, Zoosk, Jdate, and many more. She has been presenting to and coaching individuals, couples, and groups with a wide range of partners including: the dating sites above, General Assembly, She Tribe, BeSocialChange, IvyConnect, Ellevate, and many more. She has appeared on television shows, podcasts, radio shows, and all over the internet. Check out “The Secret-Free Diet”, her TedX talk on the power of truth-telling. Here’s a look at Laurie’s key strategies and empowering advice. ## Starting with You: The Divorce Detox Before venturing into the dating scene, Laurie stresses the importance of self-work through a “divorce detox.” This involves: - Acknowledging lingering attachments to your ex. - Clearing physical and mental spaces of their presence. - Setting firm boundaries. - Processing grief and anger. - Prioritising self-care. This foundational work ensures you’re emotionally ready for a fresh start. ## Navigating Modern Dating The dating landscape has shifted dramatically, especially with the rise of online platforms. Dating advice for single mums navigating the digital space includes: - Approaching dating platforms with a clear purpose. - Setting boundaries to avoid time-wasting matches. - Using video chats as a quick, effective screening tool before meeting in person. Laurie emphasises that successful dating starts with clarity. Define what you want in a partner—practical traits, emotional needs, and chemistry—and stick to your standards. She also highlights the value of using video chats as a pre-screening tool, saving time and energy before meeting potential partners in person. ## The Three-Date Strategy Laurie’s structured approach to dating involves evaluating compatibility through the “Three H’s”: 1. **Head** – Practical alignment in life goals and values. 2. **Heart** – Emotional connection and shared empathy. 3. **Hoo-ha** – Chemistry and attraction. If a potential partner doesn’t rate at least 8 out of 10 in all areas, it’s best to move on. ## The Power of Community Dating advice for single mums often overlooks the value of a supportive community. For single mums, dating can feel isolating. Laurie underscores the importance of being part of a supportive community where women can share experiences, seek advice, and hold each other accountable. This collective encouragement makes the journey less intimidating and more rewarding. ## Building Confidence and Clarity Re-entering the dating world often demands a mindset shift. Laurie suggests starting with self-reflection—understanding your desires and recognising your worth. Start small. attend social gatherings, practice online dating, and stay open to opportunities. Remember, the most empowering dating advice for single mums is to prioritise self-love and clarity. By focusing on what you truly desire, you’ll attract the kind of relationship that complements your growth and happiness. Single mums model resilience and empowerment, and this strength can extend to finding a fulfilling relationship. ## Closing Thoughts on Dating Advice for Single Mums Re-entering the dating world as a single mum may seem intimidating, but it’s also an opportunity to rediscover yourself and build something meaningful. With a clear strategy, a supportive community, and practical dating advice for single mums, your journey to finding love can be as empowering as it is exciting. ## Ready to Take the Leap? Laurie’s free webinar, “**3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments**“, offers an excellent starting point. It’s packed with practical advice to help single mums approach dating with confidence, purpose, and an open heart. During this webinar, you’ll learn: ✓ How to be ready to date with intention in 30 days or less ✓ The #1 strategy for finding a compatible partner without the heartbreak of repeated disappointment ✓ Essential tips for effective communication, even about those tricky, awkward topics ✓ PLUS: The key to finding your soulmate in fewer dates! **REGISTER HERE**: [www.lauriegerber.com/webinar](http://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar) As Laurie beautifully puts it, “Love is foundational to life success.” With the right strategies and a supportive community, finding a partner who truly complements your journey is within reach! --- ## Links for this episode: 🌸 **“[3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments](http://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar)“** – For more of Laurie’s expert dating advice, join her FREE webinar. ✨ **<https://lauriegerber.com>** — Laurie Gerber is an expert in the field of life and relationship coaching with over 20 years of experience coaching thousands of individuals and couples. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Ready to explore love again? The Beanstalk Mums community is here to cheer you on every step of the way! 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Have you got a love story to share? Drop us a voice message on our widget and who knows we might share your story on the next episode! 📰 **[subscribepage.io/beanstalksinglemums](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalksinglemums)** – Subscribe to our fortnightly newsletter. Get our newest articles delivered straight to your inbox, together with the latest podcast notes, discount deals procured just for you, highlights of service businesses that share our and tools to help you thrive. --- You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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In this episode of the *Beanstalk Mums – Real Talk for Single Mums* podcast, host **Elle Sitek** sits down with coach and single mum **Sasha Eburne** to talk about rebuilding after burnout, balance and creating a business on your own terms. [The Beanstalk podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/podcast/) prides itself on being a supportive space for single mothers, covering everything from separation and co‑parenting to careers and wellbeing. This conversation continues that tradition with down‑to‑earth advice that will resonate with any mum juggling too many responsibilities. ## Sasha’s story: from career burnout to virtual assistant CEO Sasha spent **25 years** climbing the corporate ladder in hospitality and events. In **2019,** she decided to become a solo mum, but shortly after her daughter was born, the COVID‑19 pandemic wiped out her industry. With her long‑term career gone and a new baby at home, Sasha felt lost. A chance coffee with a former colleague introduced her to the virtual‑assistant world. She started freelancing, loved the flexibility and within a few months realised she had stumbled on a business model that could help other women too. Five years on, she runs her own VA agency and coaches mums to ditch the nine-to-five, step into the CEO role and build businesses that fit around family life. The path wasn’t always smooth. Sasha openly admits to hitting burnout: working around her daughter’s sleep, trying to be “super‑mum” and keeping a house running left little time for her own needs. Her rebuilding after burnout recovery has shaped the gentle, practical approach she now teaches. ## Why asking for help while rebuilding after burnout is a superpower. One of the biggest lessons Sasha learned was that **asking for help is not a weakness**. Research on parental burnout shows that support gaps and the relentless “mental load” of remembering appointments, meals and everyone’s emotional needs are major contributors to exhaustion. Unsurprisingly, many single mums feel they must do it all. In reality, seeking support is a sign of insight and strength. Sasha recommends: - **Start small.** Ask a fellow mum to swap school pick‑ups, or trade babysitting for laundry folding. You’d be surprised how many people are happy to help once you make the first move. - **Outsource where you can.** Hiring a cleaner or using a laundry service frees up precious weekend time. Even on a tight budget, swapping chores with a friend can have the same effect. - **Embrace community.** Join supportive online spaces like the [Single Mum Vine Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) or local playgroups. Studies show that strengthening social connections helps parents cope with burnout. - **Drop the guilt.** Remember that sharing the mental load and asking for help benefits your children. A rested, happy mum creates a calmer home environment. ## Spotting burnout before it hits Burnout doesn’t always arrive with flashing lights. [According to health experts](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/work/burnout), early signs include **emotional numbness, loss of patience, headaches and sleep** **disturbances**. Sasha suggests mums check in with themselves regularly: - Do you ever get time alone? If you can’t remember the last time you did something just for you, you may be close to burnout. - Is your to‑do list never-ending? Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations drive parental stress. When the list feels overwhelming, pick **two or three tasks** and accept that the rest can wait. - How’s your self‑talk? Ask yourself when you first started believing you had to be everything to everyone. Often, this narrative stems from childhood messaging and doesn’t reflect who you are today. ## Rebuilding after burnout: practical strategies Getting back on your feet after exhaustion means doing less, not more. Here are some of Sasha’s favourite strategies for rebuilding after burnout: - **Redefine your relationship with time.** The housework will never be “finished.” Focus on what truly matters and let go of the rest. As Sasha points out, doing two things consistently every day adds up to hundreds of accomplishments over a year. - **Use reflection as a tool.** At the end of each day, celebrate what you achieved rather than berating yourself for incomplete tasks. This shift from scarcity to abundance builds confidence and motivation. - **Set boundaries and negotiate.** Politely tell clients or family members when you’re available and suggest alternatives rather than saying yes on impulse. Experts emphasise that delegating tasks and refusing extra commitments are key steps in preventing burnout. - **Build a routine that suits your family.** Sasha rejects the idea that work must happen between 9 am and 5 pm. She plans client calls while her daughter is at school and completes creative tasks after bedtime. Working at night or on weekends gives her the freedom to travel or take Tuesday afternoons off without guilt. - **Include your children.** Instead of separating “work life” and “mum life,” Sasha involves her six‑year‑old daughter in age‑appropriate ways. Her daughter attends retreats, celebrates clients’ wins and sees firsthand how her mum’s business helps other families. Not only does this reduce mum guilt, but it also teaches children that work can be meaningful and fun. ## Mindset shifts for lasting resilience. Rebuilding after burnout isn’t just practical – it’s deeply mental. Sasha encourages mums to: - **Get comfortable being uncomfortable.** Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Remember how awkward learning to drive was? Now you do it without thinking. The same applies to public speaking, building a business or asking for help. - **Question your labels.** Are you *really* “introverted” or have you been told that? Give yourself permission to try new things and see how you feel. - **Write or draw your dream life.** When money, time and limiting beliefs aren’t factors, what does your ideal day look like? Getting those visions onto paper makes them more tangible and helps you take the first small step. - **Practice self‑care unapologetically.** Self‑care isn’t selfish – it’s essential. When you’re exhausted, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritising sleep, rest and hobbies will make you a better parent, partner and professional. ## You are not alone – find your community. Whether you’re launching a business or simply navigating the daily juggle, community is vital. Sasha suggests joining groups where women genuinely support each other rather than compete. [The Vine Single Mum community on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) and the podcast’s new **voice‑message widget** are great places to start. If no one is talking, be the first to say hi – you’ll likely find dozens of mums waiting for someone else to break the ice. ## Watch or listen to the full episode: Rebuilding After Burnout: Advice That Will Change Your Life. To hear Sasha’s full story and all her gentle, practical advice on rebuilding after burnout, listen to the podcast on your favourite platform or watch on YouTube. Don’t forget to **subscribe**, **leave a review** and **share** the episode with other mums who might benefit from it. Let this conversation remind you that your journey is unique. Burnout isn’t a permanent state – with the right mindset, boundaries and support, you can rebuild a life and business that feels like home. --- ## Links for this episode: 🌸 Connect with Sasha on [**Instagram** ](https://www.instagram.com/sashaeburne__/)or find her on [**FaceBook**](https://www.facebook.com/sashaeburne) ✨ ***[FROM IDEA TO INCOME GUIDE](https://programmes.sashaeburnecoaching.com/idea-to-income-guide/)*** — Download Sasha’s free *Idea to Income Guide* and take your first step toward building a business that truly fits your life. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://www.youtube.com/@BeanstalkSingleMums>** — We’re now on YouTube — watch me be super awkward so you don’t have to be (and grab some single-mum wisdom while you’re there! You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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Yet, according to [Ella Hickman, an experienced family lawyer](https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au/about/), embracing this change can become an empowering step towards building a stronger and more fulfilling future. With her compassionate yet practical approach, Ella supports mums in transforming confusion and fear into clarity, confidence, and strength. ## How Legal Clarity Helps Achieve Freedom After Separation Freedom after separation is greatly enhanced by gaining legal clarity early in the process. By addressing urgent matters promptly—such as physical safety, housing stability, and financial security—mums can significantly reduce stress and regain a sense of control over their lives. Ella advises single mums to seek professional legal guidance as soon as possible to clearly outline practical steps and achievable goals. Legal clarity entails having realistic plans in place for key issues, including financial management, living arrangements, and child custody. This structure provides single mums with confidence, enabling them to make informed decisions rather than feeling trapped by uncertainty. For instance, understanding the legal realities around property settlements and ongoing financial obligations helps mums plan accurately for their future. ## Why Mediation Can Be Essential for Freedom After Separation Choosing mediation over lengthy court battles can be crucial for maintaining emotional well-being and ensuring freedom after separation. Ella strongly recommends mediation because it allows both parties more control over outcomes, promotes cooperative decision-making, and typically offers faster and more cost-effective solutions. Mediation empowers single mums by providing flexibility and fostering creative problem-solving to address parenting arrangements and financial agreements effectively. Mediation is also widely accessible thanks to government-subsidised options, ensuring all mums, regardless of their financial situation, can obtain valuable legal support. Ella emphasises that mediation is not about convincing the other party to agree with all demands; instead, it’s about finding realistic and mutually acceptable compromises. ## Practical Considerations for Achieving Freedom After Separation Creating clear and realistic parenting arrangements is central to achieving freedom after separation. Ella highlights that rigid expectations, like assuming a default 50/50 custody arrangement, aren’t always practical or beneficial for every family. Instead, she advises mums to prioritise arrangements that genuinely reflect their family’s unique needs, focusing foremost on the safety and emotional stability of the children. Ella recommends formalising these arrangements through parenting orders. Formal court orders can be essential for ensuring that agreements are followed and that both parents remain accountable. While court involvement may seem daunting, it often provides necessary structure and peace of mind. In situations involving a difficult or uncooperative ex-partner, clear communication becomes especially crucial. Ella suggests encouraging the other parent to seek independent legal advice, as this can offer a reality check and make interactions less adversarial. If challenges persist, formal court orders or mediated agreements can provide enforceable solutions, ensuring boundaries and expectations are. ## Building a Support Network for Freedom After Separation Another key element Ella highlights for achieving freedom after separation is building a comprehensive support network. Legal advice is only one part of the broader picture. Emotional and practical support from professional counsellors, psychologists, accountants, and financial planners plays a vital role in helping single mums thrive after separation. Seeking emotional support from professionals can significantly boost resilience and mental health, empowering mums to navigate their new life positively. Practical guidance from financial advisors or accountants helps mums gain clarity around budgets, property settlements, and future planning. This holistic approach ensures that single mums have robust, all-encompassing support during the transition. For single mothers seeking practical advice, the article “[Financial Planning For Single Mothers: How to Take Control](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/financial-planning-for-single-mothers/)” on Beanstalk Mums provides valuable insights into achieving financial stability and independence after separation. ## Rediscovering Personal Growth and Self-Care Ella Hickman often sees her clients grow and flourish significantly after navigating the complexities of separation and divorce. Freedom after separation isn’t just about resolving legal issues—it’s about rediscovering your identity, potential, and passions. Ella encourages single mums to embrace this opportunity for self-care and personal growth, finding new interests, and building confidence in their newfound independence. ## Embracing a New Chapter Separation, although challenging, ultimately opens the door to new beginnings and happier, more fulfilling lives. Ella’s message is one of empowerment. Single mums can and do thrive after separation when equipped with realistic expectations, clear legal guidance, and a strong, holistic support system. Embracing freedom after separation means choosing clarity over confusion, structure over uncertainty, and resilience over fear. Remember, you’re not alone. With the right guidance, support network, and mindset, your journey towards freedom after separation can become your greatest chapter yet. --- ## Links for this episode: If you’re a mum considering separation or divorce but don’t have the means for a private lawyer, these resources are here to support you. 🆓 **[Legal Aid Commissions](https://nationallegalaid.org.au/)** – Each state and territory offers a Legal Aid Commission. They provide **free legal advice**, assistance with court documents, and representation in family law matters—especially if you’re on a lower income. 🆓 **[Community Legal Centres (CLCs)](https://clcs.org.au/)** – Community legal centres offer **free family law guidance**, cover separation and domestic violence, and often assist when Legal Aid isn’t suitable. There are nearly 200 across Australia, including specialist services like Redfern and Kingsford Legal Centres in NSW. 🆓 Family Relationship Advice Line -This national helpline (**1800 050 321**) refers callers to legal, financial, and mediation services. They can help you explore all available free options. 🆓 [**Women’s Legal Services**](https://www.wlsnsw.org.au/contact-us/) – Offers free, confidential legal advice and tailored support, especially for mums experiencing separation or domestic violence. ✨ **[https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au](https://hickmanfamilylawyers.com.au/about/)** — Learn more about Ella Hickman Family Lawyers. Expert guidance and compassionate legal support tailored specifically for single mums navigating separation. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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Enter the concept of new homeownership opportunities – ‘mommune’ living—where single mums come together to co-purchase homes, cohabitate, and create a thriving, connected lifestyle. In this episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, we chat with [Sarah McLaughlin from Liberty Loans](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin), an expert in property financing, about how single mums can embrace communal living and build their own modern-day village. ## **Why More Single Mums Are Choosing Communal Living** Raising children solo comes with unique challenges, and many single mums are now exploring alternative living arrangements that offer both financial relief and emotional support. The idea of a ‘mommune’ is gaining traction as more mums realise the benefits of pooling resources, sharing childcare, and creating a strong, built-in support system. Sarah shares that communal living allows single mums to: - Reduce housing costs by splitting mortgage or rental payments - Share responsibilities like cooking, childcare, and school runs - Combat loneliness by fostering daily connection and emotional support - Provide children with a family-like environment filled with stability and friendship ## **Overcoming the Hurdles of Co-Buying a Home** While the idea of co-purchasing a home is exciting, there are practical and legal considerations. Sarah provides expert insight into the process of buying a property with friends or family, including: - **Legal agreements:** Setting clear expectations around finances, responsibilities, and exit strategies. - **Financial planning:** Ensuring all parties have aligned budgets and understand the long-term commitment. - **Loan structures:** Exploring different mortgage options suited for joint ownership. - **Conflict resolution:** Establishing communication strategies to navigate disagreements. Sarah emphasises the importance of seeking legal and financial advice before committing to a shared property, ensuring all parties are protected and on the same page. ## **How to Find Your Tribe** Not sure where to start? Sarah suggests these steps for single mums looking to explore communal living: 1. **Connect with Like-Minded Mums** – Join online groups or local meetups where single mums discuss co-living opportunities. 2. **Have Honest Conversations** – Set clear expectations, from financial contributions to house rules, before making any commitments. 3. **Consider Short-Term Trials** – Before buying a home together, try a house-sharing arrangement to see if it’s the right fit. 4. **Get Professional Guidance** – Speak with mortgage brokers, property advisors, and legal experts to ensure a smooth process. ## **Final Thoughts** Single motherhood doesn’t have to mean going it alone. By embracing communal living, single mums can create stronger, more financially secure lives for themselves and their children. If you’re looking for a way to share the load while building deep, lasting connections, co-living might be the perfect solution. Want to learn more? Listen to the full episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast with Sarah McLaughlin! --- ## Links for this episode: 💰 [**Liberty Financial**](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin) – Learn more about flexible lending options for co-buying a home. ⚖️ **[Australian Property Laws on Co-Ownership](https://www.legislation.gov.au/)** – Understand the legalities of joint homeownership in Australia. 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 [**Join The Single Mum Vine**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) – A supportive online space for single mums to share experiences and find like-minded mums. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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But what happens when you and your ex decide to keep living together—for the sake of your children? This was Heather’s reality. After 14 years together, she and her husband separated in October 2021. But instead of going their separate ways, they chose to stay co-parenting under one roof for another 3.5 years, prioritising their children’s stability. Was it easy? Not at all. But was it worth it? Heather believes so. Here, she shares the realities of co-parenting while still living together—what worked, what didn’t, and what she wishes she’d known beforehand. ## Listen here… ## **Why stay under one roof after separating?** For Heather, the decision to continue living with her ex-husband was driven by a deep desire to provide stability for their young children. With their kids aged between 3 and 7 at the time of separation, they didn’t even notice anything had changed for over a year. The familiarity of home life remained intact, and that alone made the transition easier for the whole family. “We were already sleeping in separate bedrooms before we officially separated,” Heather explains. “So, the shift wasn’t as drastic as it might have been otherwise.” But staying under one roof wasn’t just about the children—it also gave Heather and her ex time to figure out their next steps without rushing into decisions. ## **The unexpected benefits of co-parenting under one roof** While many people assume living with an ex would be a nightmare, Heather discovered some surprising positives: ✅ **Stability for the children** – Their day-to-day routine remained the same, with both parents still present. ✅ **Time to plan the future** – No pressure to immediately move out or find alternative housing. ✅ **Improved communication** – Without the immediate separation, they were able to work on their co-parenting dynamic. ✅ **Financial benefits** – Shared expenses meant they could both adjust to single-parent finances gradually. “Looking back, I can see that it gave us a foundation to build a strong co-parenting relationship,” Heather shares. “It allowed us to separate emotionally without the immediate stress of logistics.” ## **The biggest challenges of living with an ex** Of course, it wasn’t all smooth sailing. 💔 **Delayed emotional processing** – Living together meant postponing some of the grieving process until they finally moved into separate homes. 💔 **Boundaries were tricky** – Figuring out personal space and independence while still cohabiting was an ongoing challenge. 💔 **Moving on was complicated** – Heather began dating 18 months after their separation but had to set clear boundaries about their shared home. “There were definitely moments of frustration,” Heather admits. “We had to work hard on emotional regulation and communication to make it work.” ## **Practical tips for making it work** If you’re considering co-parenting under one roof post-separation, here are some lessons from Heather’s experience: 🔹 **Set clear ground rules** – No bringing new partners into the shared home, and maintain mutual respect. 🔹 **Use a shared calendar** – A Google calendar helped them stay organised with parenting schedules and commitments. 🔹 **Keep emotions out of logistics** – When discussing practical matters, they focused on facts, not feelings. 🔹 **Have a support system outside of mutual friends** – Heather found it crucial to lean on people outside their shared social circle. ## **The transition to a ‘nesting’ arrangement** Eventually, Heather and her ex made the transition to living separately. They opted for a ‘nesting’ arrangement—where the children stay in one home, and the parents take turns living there. Ironically, she found this even more challenging than living together. “Not seeing my kids daily was the toughest adjustment,” she shares. “I had to reframe my mindset and focus on quality time over quantity.” ## **Heather’s advice for single mums in a similar situation** Would Heather recommend this arrangement to other single mums? The answer is—it depends. “If you and your ex can communicate well and prioritise your children’s needs above all else, it can work,” she says. “But you need to set boundaries and have an exit plan.” For Heather, the biggest takeaway was the importance of personal growth. She prioritised therapy, friendships, and rediscovering herself before diving into a new relationship. “I wanted to be a whole person before bringing someone else into my life,” she says. “That’s been the most empowering part of this journey.” ## **Final thoughts on co-parenting under one roof** Co-parenting under one roof isn’t for everyone. It requires emotional maturity, clear communication, and a shared commitment to prioritising the children. But for Heather, it was the right choice at the time. Would you ever consider living with your ex after separating? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments! --- ## Links for this episode: 🎧 [**Listen to Maggie’s inspiring journey here.**](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/e/thriving-as-a-single-mum-maggies-journey-from-overwhelm-to-empowerment/) If you want to hear from another single mum who has faced the overwhelm and come out stronger, this episode is for you. Maggie’s story is a powerful reminder that empowerment and confidence are within reach. 💛 [**https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere**](https://calendly.com/singlemamaway/starthere) – If you’re struggling emotionally with separation, co-parenting, or finding your way forward, you’re not alone. Book a nurturing call with Single Mama Way to help you process your feelings, regain confidence, and create a path that feels right. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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Give him something to do. But the million-dollar question is, what age-appropriate chores can I give him? You’re in the right place, Mama. In this practical guide, I will walk you through the best developmentally appropriate chores for children. I have prepared a list of age-appropriate chores and tips for motivating them (especially younger kids). Why read on? Because teaching chores around the home means raising independent, capable humans who can handle life like pros. ## **Household Chores by Age: What Can Your Child Really Do?** You may think kids can’t do much, but children are capable of accomplishing more than we give them credit for. Simple chores like putting toys away or learning how to clean the bathroom (when they’re a bit older) help build confidence and essential life skills. An age-appropriate chore encourages kids to take ownership. ## **Chore Ideas for Different Ages and Stages** When I first asked my then 5-year-old to “help mummy with the laundry,” I didn’t expect much more than him wearing a sock on his head. But fast forward a year, and now he’s putting his own clothes away, organising his bookshelf, and reminding me when it’s vacuum day. It turns out, kids’ chores can be enjoyable for them when age-appropriate! ## **Our List of Age-Appropriate Chores** Whether it’s sweeping, sorting socks, or even helping wash the car, there’s a way for children of all ages to get involved. Our list of chores is sorted by age to make it super flexible for your family. ## **Ages 2 and 3 (Toddlers): Fun Chores Around the House** Yes, even your cheeky toddler can help! Kids can start helping with chores even before preschool age. During this period, children love copying adults, so it’s the perfect time to start small. Let them put away toys, toss clothes into the laundry basket, or “wipe” the table. These tasks at a younger age help build routines that stick. - Put toys in bins - Wipe up spills with help - Put dirty clothes in the hamper - Help feed pets (with supervision) - Dust low surfaces with a sock or cloth ## **Ages 4 and 5 (Preschoolers)** ![age-appropriate chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-kampus-7414385-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-kampus-7414385 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Preschoolers love a sense of importance. Give your child a specific chore, like setting the table or feeding the pet. Add a playful element (like a sticker chart or chore cards) and watch them go. - Make their bed (not perfectly!) - Help set the table - Water plants - Match socks from the laundry - Put away clean utensils (non-sharp) ## **Ages 6 and 7 (The Best Time to Start Learning Independence)** Once your kids hit the ages of 6 and 7, they’re more than ready for new challenges. This is the time to introduce a more structured chore chart or even tie pocket money to tasks. Think of tasks like unloading the dishwasher or tidying their room. - Clear their dishes from the table - Fold small laundry items (like towels) - Sweep small areas - Feed pets independently - Help pack their school bag/lunch ## **Age-Appropriate Chores for Ages 8 to 10 (Tweens)** - Take out the rubbish - Vacuum small areas - Load and unload the dishwasher - Cook a simple meal (like toast or cereal) - Wipe down bathroom sinks and counters ## ****Age-Appropriate Chor**es for Ages 11 and 13 (Middle School)** - Do their own laundry - Cook simple meals - Clean bathrooms more thoroughly - Mow the lawn (if safe) - Watch younger siblings briefly (depending on maturity) ## **Ages 14+ (Teens)** - Grocery shop with a list - Prepare full meals - Clean the whole house - Deep clean appliances (oven, fridge) - Help with budgeting or planning weekly meals ## **Age-Appropriate Chores for Children FAQs** ## **1. How to Create an Effective Age-Appropriate Chore List for Kids** ![age-appropriate chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-cottonbro-3992206-1-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-3992206 1 - Beanstalk Mums") A chore list can either be a brilliant motivator or a total flop. After a gajillion tries, I’ve learned that the secret lies in how you present it. Make it colourful, clear, and realistic. A weekly chore list keeps things manageable and gives everyone a sense of routine. Add your free printable chore chart to the fridge and give your child some input. Ownership = motivation! These chores help children build self-discipline and pride. ## **2. Teaching Kids to Do Chores Without a Fuss** If you’re wondering how to get kids to do chores without the moaning, you’re not alone. Start by making chores around the house a normal part of life. Let them see you doing your part. Use praise, consistency, and small rewards. It’s a system that works because children learn best when they see that they can contribute to the household. ## **3. Pocket Money and Chores: Should You Link Them?** Ah, the great pocket money debate! Some parents swear by it, while others prefer chores to be part of being in a family. Both can work. If you do choose to link them, make sure to separate daily chores from paid extras, like doing a sibling’s chore or watering the plants. That way, kids learn both responsibility and the value of money. ## **4. What are the Best Ideas for Encouraging Children to Stick With the Chore Chart?** Your kids may start strong and fade fast. When this happens, try to mix it up. Try adding new chores such as taking out the rubbish, sweeping the floor, or wiping surfaces. You can also make it social. Schedule chores at the same time as their sibling, so it can turn into bonding time. ## **5. How Do Age-Appropriate Chores Help Kids Learn Lifelong Skills?** Believe it or not, when children help with household tasks, they’re learning far more than how to scrub. They’re developing life skills, growing their ability to follow instructions, and boosting confidence. From toddlers to teenage years, chores can help kids continue learning, adapting, and thriving. It’s all part of raising children to become independent and capable citizens. ## **6. Where Can I Download a Free Printable?** There are plenty of available resources online. Some of my favourite chore lists for kids by age are from [Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/blog/chores-for-kids-by-age/?srsltid=AfmBOoo03rK6HvPdpGNsqKUTGnlkTgxNKUt9PdhzoYu9X8VRtohCoZWA) and [Twinkl](https://www.twinkl.com.au/resource/age-appropriate-chores-t-p-2791). ## **Final Thoughts: What Are Age-appropriate Chores for Kids** What’s the bottom line? When introducing age-appropriate chores and responsibilities to your kids, focus on teaching them how to function in the world. Simple tasks and chores help children develop responsibility, problem-solving, and teamwork. I’ll never forget the pride on my son’s face when he managed to clear the dishes from the table. He even asked, “Do I get extra pocket money for that?” While I didn’t fork over the cash, I did give him the biggest hug and reminded him how awesome he is. So, remember that every child can start somewhere, whether you’re assigning a task to your toddler, giving your older kids more challenging chores, or you just want your kids to learn the ropes. Make chores part of everyday life, and watch your kids thrive. And [remember to thank them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/practice-gratitude-children/ "remember to thank them") (whether with money or not). We all like to know we are appreciated. ![Age appropriate chores for children | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Age-appropriate-chores.png "Age appropriate chores - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children, Household **Tags:** pocket money, chores, kids jobs, chores for kids --- ### [Talking Safety with Kids: Everyday Chats that Matter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/talking-safety-with-kids-everyday-chats-that-matter/) **Published:** October 14, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Parents juggle a lot, and long, formal “safety talks” rarely fit into busy days. What works better is simple, steady conversation woven into school runs, story time, and snack breaks. These small chats build trust, teach children to speak up, and make safety feel like part of normal life, not a scary subject. Families often see providers listed as guardian childcare or guardian daycare during the search process, but the most important thing is a culture of listening and everyday safety habits that children can understand. A good way to see what strong practice looks like is to review a provider’s public commitments. For example, you can explore [Guardian Childcare safety](https://www.guardian.edu.au/practical-information/child-safe-organisation/) to understand the kinds of policies and daily routines any quality service should demonstrate. Use what you learn as a checklist when comparing centres and as talking points with your child at home. ## **Why everyday chats beat big lectures** Short, frequent conversations match how young children learn. Attention spans are limited, often just a few minutes per year of age, so a ten-minute chat at breakfast will stick better than a single long lecture after dinner. Every day moments also feel low-pressure. When children aren’t “on the spot,” they are more likely to share how they felt at recess, who they played with, or why a game didn’t feel right. Over time, these bite-sized talks create a steady rhythm that children trust. Try thinking in themes rather than rules. Instead of saying “Never talk to strangers,” ask, “Who are safe grown-ups at school you can go to if something worries you?” This approach nudges problem-solving and invites children to explain their thinking, which builds confidence as well as caution. ## **What to say: simple, age-right language** Young children don’t need complex detail. They need clear language and reassurance that adults will help. A helpful pattern is “ask–tell–ask”: 1. **Ask:** “How did you feel when the game got rough?” 2. **Tell:** “If someone pushes, you can say ‘[Stop, I don’t like that](https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/consent-at-every-age)’ and move away.” 3. **Ask again:** “Who could you tell if it happens tomorrow?” Keep the tone calm and curious. When a child shares even a small concern, “Someone pushed me in line”, acknowledge it: “Thank you for telling me. That sounds upsetting.” This signals that their feelings matter and that they can come to you again. ![safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-goumbik-296308-1160x800.jpg "Pexels-goumbik-296308 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Where to talk: use everyday moments** Parents often underestimate how much “in-between time” a day contains. These small windows are perfect for light check-ins: 1. **In the car:** “What was the best part of your day? Was there anything that didn’t feel safe?” 2. **Bedtime stories:** Pause to ask how a character made a safe choice, or what the child would do differently. 3. **Meal prep:** “Name one thing that felt good today and one thing that felt tricky.” 4. **Walking together:** Point out safe places in your neighbourhood, like a trusted neighbour’s home or the local library, and discuss how to ask for help. Consistency matters more than length. Two minutes, repeated often, beat twenty minutes once a month. ## **How to listen, build voice, not fear** Children learn to speak up when adults make space to listen. Try to avoid jumping straight to solutions. First, reflect back on what you heard (“You didn’t like being left out of the game”), then problem-solve together (“What could we try tomorrow?”). This builds agency. It also lowers anxiety, because safety becomes about care and choices, not about scary scenarios. If your child raises something worrying, take a breath. Start with reassurance “You did the right thing telling me”, then explain the next step in simple terms. Calm responses reduce the chance that a child will shut down or feel responsible for what happened. ## **Partnering with your centre for consistent messages** Children thrive when the adults around them share the same safety language. Ask your service what everyday practices they use to protect children, and mirror those ideas at home. Features to look for include secure sign-in, clear visitor procedures, rooms set up for easy supervision, and team training in child protection and incident response. Many high-quality centres also limit personal devices in learning spaces, run regular evacuation drills, and use double-gated entries or PIN-protected doors to manage access. When families know the everyday routines used in care, they can reinforce them with matching language: “At kindy, you tell a teacher if a game feels rough; at the park, tell me straight away.” This alignment helps children feel safe across settings. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-shotpot-7705705-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shotpot-7705705 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Practical, parent-ready tips** Use these simple habits to make small chats count: 1. **Keep it brief:** A few minutes is enough for most ages. 2. **Use** [**open questions**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open-ended_question)**:** “What made you feel proud today?” invites more than “Was your day good?” 3. **Rehearse phrases:** Practise “Stop. I don’t like that,” and “I need help,” so they become automatic. 4. **Model safe choices:** Buckle up, wait for the green man, and explain your reasoning out loud. 5. **Repeat naturally:** Revisit key messages over time, tied to daily routines rather than one-off talks. ## **Checking a provider’s safety culture** When comparing services, look beyond the brochure. An embedded safety culture is visible in everyday practice: 1. **People:** All educators have current background checks, receive ongoing child-safety training, and know how to report concerns quickly. 2. **Places:** Rooms and [outdoor areas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-outdoor-spill-cleanup-with-a-wet-dry-vacuum-cleaner/) are set up for visibility and age-appropriate play; hazards are checked daily. 3. **Policies in action:** Sign-in is consistent, visitors are escorted, and incident responses are explained clearly to families. 4. **Voice:** Children are encouraged to speak up, and families are invited to share concerns without fear of judgment. Guardian Childcare publicly outlines many of these everyday measures, which can help families understand the standards to expect from any quality provider. Use published commitments as a benchmark and ask centres to show you how those commitments look during a tour. ## **The Bigger Picture** Talking about safety with kids is less about teaching rules and more about shaping a culture of openness. Children should feel that they can always raise their voice, no matter the situation. By taking small opportunities each day, parents send a powerful message: “Your safety and your feelings matter.” When families keep the lines of communication open, children learn not only how to stay safe but also how to trust themselves and the adults around them. These conversations may seem simple, but they form the building blocks of lifelong confidence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/talking-safety-with-kids-everyday-chats-that-matter/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/talking-safety-with-kids-everyday-chats-that-matter/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [A Single Mum's Ultimate Guide to Stress-Free Child Handover](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/stress-free-child-handover/) **Published:** February 22, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Handing over the kids between homes after a separation? Yeah, it’s not always easy. Emotions can run high, and I’m sure you already know that sometimes the tension is thick enough to cut with a knife. But here’s the thing: a well-planned stress-free child handover can make all the difference. We all want our children to feel safe, secure and loved, no matter which home they’re heading to. As parents, we may have our differences, but one thing we can agree on is that our child’s well-being comes first. In this guide, I’ll share some practical, real-world tips to make the handover as smooth and stress-free as possible. Whether it’s setting clear expectations or just keeping things calm, a little planning goes a long way. Let’s make this process easier, not just for us but, most importantly, for our kids. ## **Co-Parenting Tips for an Amicable Handover** ## **Why a Smooth Child Handover Matters** A handover is more than just dropping off and picking up your children. Over the years, I’ve learned that the transition between homes should be as seamless as possible. Our kids need to feel secure, and a well-thought-out [changeover ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/change-overs-when-coparenting/)makes it easier for all of us. Older children may be seen having more difficulty if they feel like they are caught in the middle. Encourage them to speak openly about any concerns and work together to make the move from one house to the other feel less disruptive. A poorly handled exchange can complicate emotions and stress out your child. By being organised and considerate, your children will know they are loved and supported in both homes. ## **Choosing the Right Location** Where you meet for the handover plays a big role in keeping things stress-free. Some parents are comfortable swapping at each other’s homes, while others find a neutral spot—like a park or the school pickup area—works better. I’ve seen that choosing the right place can set the tone for the whole exchange. If there is tension, having a trusted friend there can help keep things smooth and neutral. The goal is to make the handoff smooth for the kids, so finding a location that works for everyone is worth the extra thought and effort. ## **Keeping Communication Clear and Polite** Handing off the kids between parents can be a stressful moment, but being polite makes a world of difference. I’ve found that even something as simple as a friendly “Hey, how’s your day?” can set the right tone. Exchanging pleasantries, keeping texts short and clear avoids unnecessary confusion, and showing a bit of flexibility helps things go more smoothly. Even if there are issues beneath the surface, keeping things civil reassures the kids that, despite the separation, their parents can still work together. It’s not always easy, but a little effort in communication goes a long way. ## **Planning Ahead** Children get older, and their needs change, so, we parents should always plan ahead. If you are like me who tends to forget stuff, creating a list helps! Organise all the items they need to move in advance to avoid last-minute stress. That includes their clothing, school bags, swimming gear, or even a musical instrument Helping with bags and making sure they have all their belongings lessens unnecessary frustration. ![Stress-Free Child Handover](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/2035d93e-8b8c-40e6-a8af-9a1ead30551b-1066x800.jpg "2035d93e-8b8c-40e6-a8af-9a1ead30551b - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Stress-Free Child Handover Between Different Homes (cont.)** ## **What If My Child Struggles With the Arrangement?** [Moving between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) is stressful enough for children. So the last thing they need is extra tension. I’ve learned that my child knows and picks up on everything. If they sense conflict or stress during handovers, they might develop anxiety. That is the last thing we want, Mama. Being civil demonstrates to your child that even though they have separated parents, Mum and Dad are still respectful to one another. Support your child emotionally by reassuring them from time to time, even amid these big changes. ## **The Role of a Third Party** In high-conflict situations, involving a third party can help reduce stress. This could be a trusted family member, a mutual friend, or a professional service if you prefer. If there was a history of abuse or undesirable behaviour, use a solicitor’s office or a family-friendly location. ## **Understanding Family Law Aspects of Handovers** Family law in Australia provides guidance on handover arrangements to ensure the children’s well-being remains the priority. If there are concerns regarding safety or one parent is not complying with the agreement, a lawyer can assist you in making informed decisions. If you need to change arrangements, legal assistance is also a good idea. ## **Keeping Emotions in Check During Handover** Handovers can be a source of anxiety for all involved, especially if there’s lingering tension between you and your former spouse. Running late or forgetting essential items like school bags or clothing can add unnecessary stress to an already emotional situation. Even if you arrive late or are feeling frustrated, staying calm is crucial. Dropping your child off with a smile and a reassuring word can help them feel more at ease during the handoff. Immediately contact the other parent ahead of time if there’s an unavoidable delay. At the same time, life happens—your ex might be running late, or your child might forget a musical instrument. A little understanding and compromise can make co-parenting easier. ## **Handling Conflict with Maturity** Arguments during the transfer between two homes only make things harder for everyone. If disagreements arise, keep them away from your child and address them later through proper channels or legal guidance. The goal is to reduce stress and show your kid that Mum and Dad are still a team when it comes to their well-being. Your child will benefit from seeing that, despite living in different homes, they have a stable and supportive family structure. ## **Final Thoughts** Doing a stress-free child handover takes effort and buckets of patience. Children may struggle with transferring from one house to another, especially in the early days of separation. Encourage them by keeping things predictable and civil. Even young children benefit from knowing what to expect, so let them know ahead of time when and where handovers will happen. From choosing the right handover location to keeping things amicable, every step you take toward a positive transition benefits your kids. I’ve been through the ups and downs of handovers myself, and I know that while it may not always be ideal, being respectful makes all the difference. Focus on what’s best for your child, and the rest will fall into place. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that you’re not alone. There are plenty of resources, [support networks](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine), and legal options available if you need them. With patience and a bit of planning, handoffs can become less of a headache and more of a simple, manageable routine. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/stress-free-child-handover/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/stress-free-child-handover/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** Children of divorce, two homes, shared care, coparenting, living between two homes, changing houses --- ### [Family Rituals to Strengthen Love, Security, and Joy at Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/family-rituals-to-strengthen-bonds/) **Published:** August 30, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Modern family life can move at a dizzying pace. For solo mums, raising children often means juggling work, household responsibilities, and parenting alone. This can leave little room for connection. But the importance of family isn’t found in doing more. It’s found in pausing together, even in small ways, such as practicing family rituals. A family ritual is often the smallest and simplest gesture that leaves the deepest imprint on our children. Think of it as an anchor in the busyness. They’re less about adding pressure and more about creating small, repeatable ways to reconnect Unlike a routine, which gets you through the day, a ritual invites you to slow down and connect. These little touchpoints create a sense of security and belonging, helping children feel safe, seen, and loved. Let’s explore how family rituals can offer stability, joy, and continuity as your children grow. Learn how creating family rituals can be the simplest way to strengthen family bonds. ## Why Family Rituals Matter More Than Everyday Routines A routine is about efficiency: brushing teeth, packing lunch, getting kids to bed. A ritual transforms those same moments into opportunities for connection. Reading a bedtime story becomes more than winding down; it becomes a bedtime ritual your child cherishes. Family rituals also provide grounding for solo-parent households. In fact, the [APA’s *Journal of Family Psychology*](https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2002/12/rituals) reports that family rituals strengthen communication. They also improve family relationships and create a sense of belonging. As one mum reflected: *“Our rituals remind us that even when life is unpredictable, our love is steady.”* Rituals give children continuity and a sense of security, especially when life feels uncertain. They are not about perfection; they’re about presence. ![Solo mum and daughter sharing a playful family ritual at home, combining exercise and quality time together.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4473612-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4473612 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Simple Daily Family Rituals To Reconnect With Your Kids Daily rituals don’t add more to your plate; they help you notice what’s already there. Here are gentle ways to build connection in everyday family life: - **Morning hugs before the rush:** Begin the day with warmth and presence. Take 20 seconds to hold your child close before school or childcare. It sets the tone for the day and tells them: you’re safe, you’re loved, and you matter. - **Dinner together check-ins:** Share “one good thing” at the table. Taking turns helps children feel heard. - **Reading a bedtime story:** [Read bedtime books with your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/). This is a simple bedtime ritual that signals safety and closeness. - **Shared chores with a twist:** Folding laundry side by side while chatting, or turning clean-up into a short dance party. It’s not about the task, it’s about the togetherness. - **Afternoon tea rituals**: Even fruit and crackers after school can work. Sitting down together, with phones away, gives kids space to decompress and share. - **Goodnight mantra**: Saying the same words every night (“I love you, I see you, I’m proud of you”) can become a grounding ritual your child carries with them for life. These small rituals provide meaningful time and help children feel secure. They remind us that connection isn’t found in grand gestures, but in ordinary rhythms that build family bonds across generations. ## Our Favourite Sunday Rituals To Slow Down And Bond You don’t have to stop at the small daily moments. Once you’ve found little touchpoints that help you reconnect, you can extend that same spirit into weekly rhythms. Sundays offer the perfect chance to exhale and come together before a new week begins. They set the tone for the days ahead. Plus, they also give everyone space to simply enjoy being together. Try low-pressure rituals like: - **No-tech mornings:** Sit down for breakfast without screens, enjoying each other’s company. - **“Silly breakfast” tradition:** Pancakes shaped like animals or cereal picnics on the floor. Rituals like these create lasting memories. - **Nature walks:** Moving slowly through green spaces builds calm and gives you time to connect. - **Family journaling:** Take ten minutes to draw or write together. Each different family member can choose the theme. - **Movie night:** A simple ritual that feels special, especially when kids get to take turns picking the film. Not every week will be calm, and that’s okay. Family rituals might bend with the chaos, but they don’t break. What matters is consistency, not perfection. ## How To Start New Family Rituals As A Solo Mum For solo mums, starting new rituals can feel empowering—a way to build family connections and shape your own story. You get to decide what your family rituals look like, and they don’t have to look like anyone else’s. So, here are some practical ways to begin: - **Start small:** Choose one moment, like Saturday breakfast or nightly goodnight hugs. - **Involve your kids:** Let them suggest rituals together, from inventing a handshake to choosing a bedtime song. - **Lean on what you already do:** If you always grab hot chocolate after sports, name it as *your thing*. - **Let it feel messy and honest**: Real life is noisy and unpredictable. Some days the pancakes burn. Other days, the ‘family walk’ turns into a meltdown halfway down the street. That doesn’t make the ritual a failure; it makes it real. - **Stay flexible:** Kids grow, seasons change, and life happens. Allow rituals to shift and evolve with you, rather than clinging to what no longer fits. Creating family rituals isn’t about matching someone else’s Pinterest board. It’s about shaping a safe rhythm for your children, one family ritual at a time. ![Mother and daughter reading a bedtime story, showing family rituals that strengthen bonds and help children feel safe.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-rdne-10566125-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-rdne-10566125 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Family Rituals That Grow With Your Children Your family’s rituals might look different over time, and that’s exactly how it should be. Rituals provide continuity while evolving with each stage of raising children: - **Toddlers:** Silly bath songs, clapping hands after brushing teeth, bedtime cuddles. - **Primary-age kids:** Weekly “kid picks dinner” night, board games, or [bonding through shared chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/). - **Teens:** Evening walks, check-in chats, or sharing hot chocolate before they go to sleep. Even when kids act like they’ve outgrown rituals, the love behind them still matters. These moments build identity and a sense of belonging. They carry into adulthood. Family rituals give every family the chance to cherish ordinary time together as a family. They create a sense of stability during times of stress and show children across generations that love is steady, even when life changes. ## Final Takeaway: Building Bonds That Last A Lifetime Family rituals don’t need to be Pinterest-worthy to be powerful. They’re not about matching pyjamas, elaborate craft projects, or perfectly staged meals (unless that’s what you genuinely love). What makes them meaningful isn’t how polished they look—it’s how consistently they help us feel seen, safe, and loved. So this week, you can set aside time every day to do one small ritual. Light a candle at dinner, share a silly breakfast, do game nights, or take turns naming what you’re grateful for. These moments might feel ordinary. But they are powerful ways to spend time together and strengthen family values that matter. Over time, these rituals become part of each family member’s story. They are the touchpoints that remind children of love, connection, and the family values that make them feel safe. Whether it’s a birthday tradition, a silly breakfast, or simply spending time together, these small rituals quietly weave a strong, beautiful family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/family-rituals-to-strengthen-bonds/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/family-rituals-to-strengthen-bonds/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** family rituals, strengthen family bonds, children’s activities, quality time --- ### [8 Useful tips for preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/tips-for-preparing-your-child-for-school/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Education is a huge part of raising children, and traditional schools can help develop different skills. Preparing your child for school in public or co-ed private schools can be daunting for parents, especially if they go to their first day of preschool or kindergarten. It’s not just about getting them to choose a school bag or ensuring they have the right supplies like crayons and coloured pencils. You must also give your child the proper mindset for how school works so they can take full advantage of this important opportunity to learn and grow. Whether your child is set for schooling or you’re just testing if it’s the [right setup for you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/alternative-education/), here are useful tips for starting school with your child. ## 8 Tips to prepare your child for school ## 1. Get the basics covered First things first. Schools would expect that your kids already have basic skills when they come in. Practice doing up laces or buckles and wearing shoes for a few days to get them accustomed to what a child wears in school. Get a lunchbox and do picnic lunch at home or in the park to get them excited and enthusiastic about recess. Ensure they are adequately potty trained and know how to express when they need to go to the toilet. Basic things like these can help them cope and have fun at school. ![Get the basics covered preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-20.png "In article image 20 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Talk about the new teacher [The new teacher](https://www.forbes.com/sites/taliamilgromelcott/2021/05/07/this-teacher-appreciation-week-teachers-tell-us-three-things-they-need/?sh=642fdcb94573) in the new school may not just be another adult. In fact, many schools are hiring teachers that specialise in a particular subject like art or music. Teachers with expertise in a specific area can help your child learn more about their chosen subjects and also show them how to study for tests on those subjects. The child’s teacher will be invaluable for parents as they prepare kids for school. Check out your school district to see if they have an expert teacher program and encourage other parents to use it when talking about preparing kids for primary school. Aside from the teacher, talk to your child about school officials. I found a nice old book about starting school in our community library to introduce my daughters to the school master, the librarian, the guidance counsellor, the bus driver, and other staff. This book helped them recognise other authorities who they can count on while in school. ![Talk about the new teacher preparing your children for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-23.png "In article image 23 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Talk about homework A child starting school is going to be assigned homework while in school. If your kids are going to school, you should make sure they understand what that means. Kids need help to learn how to work hard and properly organise their time so they can get everything done for their first year of school. Even when it means doing homework over breaks or on weekends. You should help them find a balance between spending time with friends and completing their work, but it is ultimately up to them. Teaching kids how to manage their time will be a major benefit as they grow up … no matter what they end up pursuing in life. ![Talk about homework preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-19.png "In article image 19 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. When to do homework Schedule regular homework times – and stick to them. When should kids do their homework? It’s important that they learn to manage their time and develop a sense of responsibility by doing their work at designated times each day. Consistency is crucial to help your kids adjust to school and their new routine. Don’t hover – but be [available when needed](https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/22/well/family/how-to-help-your-child-study.html). While it can be tempting to hover over your kids while they complete their assignments, don’t give in to that temptation. ![When to do homework preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-15.png "In article image 15 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to support your child for their first day of school (cont.) ## 5. Give them snacks to munch on When you’re on-the-go and you can’t find a healthy snack for your kids, head to your local convenience store. Energy bars make a great on-the-go after-school snack, and they don’t contain as much sugar as many cereals and crackers. To up their nutrition even more, try mixing in some dried fruit or unsalted nuts into their morning snack before they head out to school. Yoghurt or fruit in easy-to-open cups or packets are also good options. It’s nice if you can get your child to to pick a lunch box and drink bottle they like to help them get excited for recess and lunch. Ask your child what else they need to take to school to help them adjust. (My youngest daughter took her Sailormoon wand for the whole first month.) After all, having new things for starting school is a huge deal. ![Give them snacks to munch on preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-22.png "In article image 22 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 6. Try and get there early No matter how much traffic you think there will be, it’s always better to get to school a little early. Make sure your kids know where they’re going and what time they have to be there. Most schools require that students arrive 10 minutes before class starts. Bring backpacks with everything they need for their day and remind them of any major assignments due or events coming up. So, it’s important that your kids get regular sleep. It’s a good idea to visit the school with your child before the start of the new school year. This can help your child feel the school environment. Check out the child’s classroom, the cafeteria, the play area, the toilets. Your child might find it easier to navigate the school alone on the [first day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/5-first-day-of-school-traditions-your-kids-will-love/) when they’ve been there before. Doing this days or weeks before school starts sends your child the positive message that school is exciting. ## 7. What to do if they are scared It’s natural for kids who are starting primary school life for the first time to feel scared or have a meltdown. These feelings are completely normal, especially if your child has never been separated from you before. If they’re having trouble coping with anxiety or fear, it’s best to stay calm and supportive. Also, letting your child know that they don’t have to go to the ‘big school’ if they’re feeling worried or sad is important. Just make sure their teachers know why. And if you notice they’re consistently tired after school, ask them what’s happening. ![What to do if they are scared preparing your child for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-17.png "In article image 17 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 8. Have encouraging words When you talk to your kids about school, emphasise how great an opportunity it is. Let them know that you’re proud of them. Letting kids know that their parents believe in them goes a long way and [helps motivate them](https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2021/01/26/the-road-to-success-is-paved-with-motivation/?sh=7c60d8382958). Kids will always try to impress you, so give positive feedback whenever they do something impressive. It will encourage good behaviour, especially when they feel anxious. ## Conclusion: Tips to get your child ready for school Preparing your child for starting school is more than new school shoes and school uniforms. It’s about setting them up for success with confidence, resilience, and a sense of adventure. Celebrate the small victories (e.g. tying their shoelaces on their own or remembering to raise their hand in class). Be there to listen to their stories, no matter how big or small, and let them know you’re their biggest cheerleader. The first day of school is a milestone for both of you. Embrace it with a heart full of hope and excitement for all the wonderful memories yet to be made, and if you’re considering education options, choosing a [local Catholic school](https://www.ceont.catholic.edu.au/catholic-schools/) can provide a supportive environment grounded in both learning and values. You’ve got this, and so do they. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/tips-for-preparing-your-child-for-school/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/tips-for-preparing-your-child-for-school/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education --- ### [5 First Day of School Traditions Your Kids Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/5-first-day-of-school-traditions-your-kids-will-love/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The first day of school isn’t just any date on the calendar; it’s a new chapter that opens doors to excitement, anticipation, and a touch of nerves. To the kids, this is a new beginning with friends and adventures awaiting them. It’s a chance for the parents to make an ordinary day special. Traditions have a magical way of easing first-day jitters while building lifelong memories. Here are five first-day-of-school traditions your kids will love and cherish the memories for years. ## Themed Breakfast Bonanza Start the morning with a themed breakfast that caters to your child’s favourite items: pancakes cut as their favourite animal or a plate decorated with their school colours. [Fun breakfasts](https://www.tasteofhome.com/collection/fun-breakfast-ideas-for-kids/?srsltid=AfmBOoqM_ZTCSMlYSjm_JwH6p7_sPl3CiKpml1P06P1cQ4k6tsSllFrP) get the kids excited about the day. Use cookie cutters, colourful sprinkles, or fresh fruit to create edible masterpieces. For a more inspirational act, place a note of encouragement beside the plate. It could be a handwritten car or a printed quote about success and learning, which will drive home feelings of confidence and positivity. ## Back-to-School Photoshoot You can have your child hold a sign or use props, such as chalkboards, with the grade they’re entering. Even photo props listing their favourite things this year make great keepsakes and an excellent way to track your child’s growth and interests. Find a special place in front of the door, garden, or a nearby park for a photo every morning. The children like to help pick outfits and themes reflecting their personalities. This routine will be more than just taking a photo; it will create real bonding moments as you share the anticipation of starting school together. ## Personalised First-Day Gifts You could make the first day of school even more special by giving your child something meaningful. A personalised present is a unique touch, like a backpack with initials, a specially made pencil case, or a water bottle in their favourite colour. These things are helpful and let your kids know that their individuality means something. Having something made just for them is a great way to build up your child’s excitement for a new year. You can even find [first day of school](https://elkwooddesigns.com/blogs/news/quick-tips-for-a-successful-first-day-of-school) tips online, enabling you to come up with ideas on how and where to acquire suitable, personalised gifts. Make this tradition remarkable with DIY crafts or other options on a budget. ![first day of school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-63.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Memory-Making After-School Activity Once the [school day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/getting-your-kids-to-school-on-time/) is over, do something fun to celebrate. Focus on activities your child loves, such as going to an ice cream shop or chilling with a family movie night with their favourite film. Give them something to look forward to and an opportunity to unwind after an exciting day. Let the children share their experiences on their first day. Make them narrate all they had learned, who they had met, and what they were looking forward to by asking open-ended questions, which build communication and instil confidence that their experiences are valued and worth noting. ## First-Day Journal Entry Encourage your child to write about their day, noting thoughts, feelings, and anything unique. Younger children may wish to draw pictures or dictate what they have to say as they write. This allows the child to process the emotions and provides them with a personal time capsule to go through at some point in the years ahead. To make journaling more enjoyable for our child, allow them to choose a journal that reflects their personality or one they can decorate themselves. You can include questions like, ‘What was the best part of your day?’ or ‘What is the thing you are looking most forward to this year?’ Journaling is a fabulous moment to bond with your kid and reflect on daily activities. ## Endnote The first day of school is an essential phase for a child, making their educational path. This means it needs to be well-planned and unforgettable for years. Focus on common traditions such as preparing a themed breakfast, a photoshoot, and personalised presents. In every way, show the kid that you value them and are always available to offer support in their transition to the new school year. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/5-first-day-of-school-traditions-your-kids-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/5-first-day-of-school-traditions-your-kids-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** first day of school, traditions --- ### [Instil a Love of Reading in Your Kids During Book Week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/instil-a-love-of-reading-in-your-kids-during-book-week/) **Published:** August 1, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There’s something magical about when your little one reaches for a book instead of a toy. As a single mum, I’ve spent the past decade juggling deadlines with dinnertime, always carving out a slice of the day for story time. During Book Week, I’m reminded of how my love for reading has shaped my daughters’ imagination and our bond. From snuggling during a bedtime story to laughing at silly rhymes, reading to your child really transforms your home into a little universe of princesses, dinosaurs, and more princesses. It’s in these small, precious moments that we spark the love of reading in your kids, and lay the groundwork for lifelong curiosity, compassion, and confidence. ## Instil a Love of Reading in Your Kids During Book Week ## Literacy Begins at Home: Why Early Childhood Matters Early childhood is a critical period for brain development, making it the perfect time to foster language skills and build the habit of reading. Whether it’s picture books for your kid or interactive books with flaps and textures, I learned that the key is to make reading engaging from an early age. When children see you reading, they naturally want to imitate your behaviour. We’re not only learning about letters and sounds, but we also help them understand stories, use their imagination, and learn to see the world through someone else’s eyes. No costume for book week yet? Our ideas for [Easy Book Week Costumes You Can Make at Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/ "Easy Book Week Costumes You Can Make at Home") will blow your mind! ## Make Reading a Daily Routine, Not a Chore Kids really do well with routine. If you slot reading into everyday moments, like after dinner or right before bed, it starts to feel like just another fun part of the day, not a chore. Set up a comfy little reading spot with some cushions and fairy lights, and before long, your little one will be begging for story time. Even just 10 minutes a day can go a long way. *Book Tip:* *“[Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site](https://www.booktopia.com.au/goodnight-goodnight-construction-site-sherri-duskey-rinker/book/9781452111735.html)”* is a sweet way to wind down the night with your vehicle-loving toddler. ## Let Your Child Choose: Encouraging Independence and Love for Reading in Your Kids Through Books Allowing children to pick their own reading materials, from graphic novels to non-fiction animal books, gives them a sense of ownership and pride. It also helps them learn to love books that resonate with their personality. Remember, every child is different. What sparks one may bore another. The goal is to make reading feel pleasurable, not prescribed. *Book Tip:* Try the *“[Little People, Big Dreams](https://www.booktopia.com.au/helen-keller-little-people-big-dreams--maria-isabel-sanchez-vegara/book/9780711259522.html "Little People, Big Dreams")”* series to inspire and empower kids with real-life stories. ## Visit Your Local Library or Bookstore for Variety and Fun Nothing beats a good wander through your local library or bookstore. The scent of new pages, the hushed excitement, the cheerful librarian ready with recommendations, it all adds up to a fun and enriching experience. Visit your local branch regularly to expose your child to a variety of books, from new releases to timeless classics. *Book Tip:* *“[Possum Magic](https://www.booktopia.com.au/possum-magic-40th-anniversary-edition--mem-fox/book/9781761294587.html "Possum Magic")”* by Mem Fox, an Australian treasure, is a must-read you’ll both cherish. ## My Top Tip on Instilling a Love of Reading in Your Kids: Using Voices, Faces, and Gestures During Story Time ![love of reading in your kids during book week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-toulouse-3457273-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-toulouse-3457273 - Beanstalk Mums") Want to really make reading sparkle? Get theatrical. Try using different voices for characters, facial expressions, or even acting out scenes. This helps with comprehension, holds your kid’s attention, and turns reading together into a performance you both look forward to. It’s also a great way to get their little brains ticking, like when they start guessing what the characters might do next. *Book Tip:* *“[The Gruffalo](https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-gruffalo-25th-anniversary-edition-julia-donaldson/book/9781035028399.html "The Gruffalo")”* by Julia Donaldson is brilliant for building drama with voice acting. ## Encourage Your Child by Making Books Accessible To encourage your child, books should be accessible. Keep them on low shelves, in baskets, or even in the car for impromptu reads. When children see reading as something that’s always within reach, not just a school thing, they’re more likely to enjoy reading for themselves. You can instil a love of reading in your kids simply by making books feel like a normal, everyday part of home life. *Book Tip:* Board books like *“[That’s Not My Koala](https://www.booktopia.com.au/that-s-not-my-koala-fiona-watt/book/9781474945561.html "That’s Not My Koala")”* are great for tiny hands and busy minds. ## Create a Bond Through Reading Fun Activities Take reading beyond the book by getting a bit hands-on—make a fun craft from the story, cook a recipe that pops up in the book, or draw your favourite scene together. It helps the story stick, makes it feel more real, and turns reading time into even more playful memories. *Book Tip:* Read *“[The Very Hungry Caterpillar](https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-very-hungry-caterpillar-eric-carle/book/9780140569322.html "The Very Hungry Caterpillar")”* then help your toddler create a fruit collage from the story. ## Raising a Lifelong Reader: A Gift Beyond Academics Helping your kid fall in love with books isn’t about chasing top marks—it’s about raising a curious, kind, and resilient little human. A lifelong reader is someone who questions things, dreams big, and sees the world from different angles. As a mum, I know these story-filled moments we share now will shape how my daughter thinks, feels, and connects with others down the track. *Book Tip:* *“[The Paper Bag Princess](https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-paper-bag-princess-40th-anniversary-edition-robert-munsch/book/9781760974602.html)”* by Robert Munsch flips the fairytale script and encourages critical thought and independence. ## Final Thoughts: Instil a Love of Reading in Your Kids During Book Week As mums, we’re always looking for ways to juggle it all—but honestly, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is just curl up with your kid and a good story. When you make reading a daily habit, you’re not just helping with school stuff. You’re creating memories, growing their empathy, and giving them a way to make sense of the world—one page at a time. So head to the nearest library, select books that align with their interests, and remember: it’s never too early (or too late) to nurture a love for reading in your kids. Happy Book Week, and happy reading! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/instil-a-love-of-reading-in-your-kids-during-book-week/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/instil-a-love-of-reading-in-your-kids-during-book-week/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children --- ### [I Let My Kids Control the Budget! Here’s What Happened](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/i-let-my-kids-control-the-budget/) **Published:** July 25, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** *By a very trusting (and slightly nervous) single mum* They say kids need to learn about money early. I just didn’t think I’d be learning *from* them. Last week, I handed over the family budget to my three little CFOs, ages 5, 8, and 11, and gave them full control of what we spent for six days. Groceries, entertainment, even the dreaded petrol station snack run. I figured I’d either uncover a new approach to parenting or find myself living off baked beans and bubblegum. Spoiler alert: both happened. Here’s what went down, and what I learnt. ### **Day 1: Snacks First, Questions Never** We kicked off with [groceries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/). I usually budget $220 for the week, but the kids had… different priorities. Our trolley by aisle three: - 4 boxes of Coco Pops - 3 bags of party mix - 2 tubs of ice cream - 1 cucumber (because “we need a vegetable, Mum”) When I gently reminded them that we’d need things like *actual* meals, my 5-year-old pointed out, “Ice cream is made of milk. Milk is healthy.” Hard to argue with that logic. We got a few looks at the checkout. One older lady gave me a knowing nod, equal parts sympathy and “been there.” I felt seen. ### **Day 2: “Do We *Need* Power, Mum?”** By Tuesday, my eldest had taken the reins. He reviewed my monthly expenses like a tiny accountant with a vendetta. “Why do we pay this much for electricity?” “Do we need two streaming services?” “Petrol is expensive, can’t you just ride a bike?” He even suggested we cancel my gym membership: “You already lift heavy things. Like laundry.” Brutal. But… kind of fair? At one point, he asked if we *really* needed fruit. “We’ve got vitamins in the multivitamins, Mum.” Send help. ### **Day 4: Buyer’s Remorse Hits Fast (and Loudly)** Midweek, they decided we’d order takeaway. Everyone voted for sushi… until it arrived. Miss 8 took one bite and declared it “weird fish jelly,” then refused to eat anything but soy sauce packets. Mr. 5 cried because the rice was “not like the sticky kind from the servo.” Total cost: $49 Satisfaction: 1/10 Lesson: Letting small humans make big decisions = unpredictable dining experiences. At this point, I started googling “how to return food when your kids are the problem.” No luck. But I did bookmark this thing called Ajust, a tool that helps you complain about wrong food orders. Didn’t use it here, obviously. But it’s now on standby. ![kids control the budget](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-freestockpro-12955547-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-freestockpro-12955547 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Day 5: Surprisingly Sensible** By now, they were getting it. Sort of. When we ran out of bread, I suggested a quick shop. My daughter asked, “Can’t we just have wraps instead? We still have wraps.” I nearly cried. That’s my girl. Later that day, she gave me a serious look and said, “I think we need a list before we go to the shops next time.” She even offered to write it. Granted, it was mostly “ice cream” and “dog we can’t afford,” but we’re making progress. ### **Day 6: The Reckoning** At the end of the week, we added up our spending. We’d gone $63 over budget, mostly on snacks and one regrettable remote-control car that broke in under 10 minutes. But we’d also skipped a few impulse buys. We meal-planned more thoughtfully (eventually). And the kids genuinely started asking whether something was “worth it.” My eldest even googled “unit pricing” at one point. Who is this child, and what has he done with my cereal hoarder? Turns out, letting them manage the money wasn’t a total disaster; it was an education. For *them* and for me. ### **What I Took Away (Besides a Sugar Hangover)** - Kids understand more than we think, especially when you let them in on the “why” behind decisions. - Giving them responsibility made them feel grown-up… and showed me how I can loosen the reins (just a little). - I *really* need an easier way to deal with refund dramas when things inevitably go wrong. That last one came up a lot this week: two late deliveries, one missing item, and a very broken toy that cost way more than it should’ve. Instead of going full Karen chasing refunds, I tried the [Ajust refund and returns tool](https://ajust.com.au/?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=beanstalk-mums) that I discovered from Day 4’s sushi ordeal. It surprisingly worked, one quick case filed and refund sorted. I didn’t even need to “speak to the manager.” Now *that’s* a parenting hack. ### **Would I do it again?** Absolutely. But next time, I’m hiding the Uber Eats app. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/i-let-my-kids-control-the-budget/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/i-let-my-kids-control-the-budget/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** budgeting, money, parenting support --- ### [How to Teach Kids About Money (Without the Lectures!)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-teach-kids-about-money/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Wondering how to teach kids about money without making it boring for them or overwhelming for you? Grab a cuppa and read on. If there’s one life skill I wish I learned younger, it’s how to manage money. As a single mum raising two cheeky yet curious little humans, I’ve come to realise that teaching kids about money doesn’t have to be a full-blown economics lesson; it can be part of everyday family life. From using a coin bank to letting my eldest help with the electricity bill, I’ve picked up some surprisingly simple tips for teaching kids that actually stick. ## **How to Teach Kids About Money (The Basics)** ## **The Right Age for Kids to Learn About Money** There’s no perfect age and stage, but I started when my eldest was four. Kids are curious from an early age and pick up on financial situations quicker than we think. If they can ask, “Why do we need money to pay for ice cream?”—they’re ready to learn about money. The trick is to match your approach to their age, just like you would with chores or bedtime routines. ## **Financial Literacy Through the Power of Pocket Money** Giving my girls [pocket money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/) was a game-changer. It gives kids their own little economy to manage. I started with $2 a week, and we had chats about what they could use the money for and what they should save. It’s one of the most hands-on ways to teach kids real-life money lessons. Bonus: It helps reduce those mid-aisle meltdowns over toys at Kmart. ## **How to Teach Kids About Money (The Specifics)** ## **Spending Habits: Teaching Needs and Wants** I still hear, “But I need this toy!” Cue deep breath. One way to teach them about needs and wants is by letting them decide how to spend their own money. If they blow it all on lollies and have nothing left for the toy they really wanted, that’s a lesson learned. Trust me, natural consequences are better than lectures. ## **Money Management: Giving Kids a Budget** Absolutely. A simple budget can be as easy as three jars: spending, savings, and giving. My kids love decorating their jars, and it helps them visualise how money goes and how money grows over time. They now set savings goals for things they actually care about, like a scooter or a birthday gift for a friend. ## **How to Teach Kids About Money (The Big Leagues)** I keep it age-appropriate but honest. When I recently switched power companies, I showed my daughter the electricity bill and explained how we make money decisions based on our financial situation or needs. We also talk about how credit cards aren’t “free money.” These conversations build their financial literacy bit by bit and help them understand how money works in the real world. ## **FAQs: How to Teach Kids About Money** ![How to do pocket money for your kids the right way | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Pocket-money-the-right-way-1200x630.jpg "How to do pocket money for your kids the right way | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Can Chores Teach Financial Responsibility?** Yes, but with a twist. We don’t pay for every task (some are just part of helping the family), but we do offer bonuses for extra jobs like washing the car or weeding the garden. It teaches that money comes from effort, aka hard-earned, and that there’s a link between work and reward. Plus, they start appreciating the value of their coin collection. ## **How Can You Make Budgeting Fun for Kids?** Turn it into a challenge. We’ve had “$5 snack shop” days where they have to plan a budget and stick to it at the shops. Or I’ll offer to match their savings if they reach a target. Not only does it teach money management, but it’s a sneaky way to build their planning and budgeting skills, too. And they genuinely love the feeling of control. ## **Do Kids Need to See How Money Is Used?** Definitely. Seeing me tap my card doesn’t teach much. So we use coins and notes for things like the Sunday markets or school canteen. It’s a concrete way for them to see money go, and to feel it disappear if they spend too quickly. It’s also a great lead-in to explaining spending and saving choices. ## **What’s a Good Way to Get Kids Involved with Family Finances?** Nothing fancy, just invite them in. Ask them to help compare prices at the supermarket or choose between eating out or a pizza night at home. These small moments help kids get involved, understand things money can buy (and can’t!), and build a healthy relationship with money early on. You can also enrol them in [Capabilite Financial Wellbeing Courses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/capabilite-for-financial-literacy/ "Capabilite Financial Wellbeing Courses"). ## **Should Older Children Use a Money App?** ![how to teach kids about money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-cottonbro-7118205-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-7118205 - Beanstalk Mums") Once they’re confident with cash, a money app can help older children manage their allowance digitally. Apps like [Spriggy](https://www.spriggy.com.au/?srsltid=AfmBOoqM1R5AN21yT_ucvkle-eXb92mSliJ9G4DgPsj0lJUkhk9P_xEj) or ZAAP let you track spending habits together and teach smart financial habits in a modern way. Just be sure they understand it’s real money, not game points. ## **What Happens When They Get Their First Job?** That’s a proud moment. With my teen’s first job, we talked about budgeting, savings goals, and how to manage their money wisely. We even discussed financial advice for long-term things like super and tax. I try to avoid being overbearing, but I do throw in the odd “Don’t blow your whole pay at the shops!” now and then. ## **Quick Tips to Encourage Smart Money Habits in Kids** - Encourage your kids to split money into save/spend/give - Get a piggy bank going - Let them make some small mistakes - Always talk about money openly - Use real-life examples when possible - Show them how to budget, not just tell them - Model good money habits yourself - Celebrate their financial success, even the tiny wins ## **Final Thoughts: How to Teach Kids About Money** At the end of the day, my goal wasn’t to raise tiny accountants; it’s to help my girls grow up with confidence in how they manage money. You can make use of whatever suits you and your kids best. It can be through a piggy bank, a budgeting app, or chats during dinner. There are plenty of tips for teaching kids that don’t require a finance degree. Just start small, be honest, and let them get involved in your everyday family life. The more you teach kids about money now, the better prepared they’ll be later in life. And honestly? That’s one lesson that will always be worth the investment. ![how to teach kids about money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/money3.png "money3 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-teach-kids-about-money/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-teach-kids-about-money/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** pocket money, children and money, money, kids savings --- ### [5 Tips to find reliable babysitters for your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-find-reliable-babysitters/) **Published:** July 29, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Wouldn’t it be nice to call on Mary Poppins or the Babysitter Club to look after our precious cherubs? Unfortunately, with the age of social media and the perception that ‘millennial babysitters’ are distracted and neglectful, it’s easy to get anxious about it all. Trying to find reliable babysitters and leaving our little people with strangers can seem daunting as a single mother. Being the main (and only) decision-maker, you may feel overwhelmed. Choosing the perfect babysitter involves research, interviewing, and trust in our mothering instincts. But fear not! With careful planning and considering the six tips below, any anxiety can be reduced. Although we might not be able to obtain a Mary Poppins, we can still find someone to care for our children the way they deserve. ## 5 Tips to find reliable babysitters for your children ### 1. Be clear about what you want in a babysitter Before the search begins, know precisely what you want and expect from a babysitter. Clear guidelines keep you focused throughout the exercise. Writing guidelines down also prevents you from making rash decisions when stress and anxiety kick in! Consider writing down your babysitter requirements in the following headings: - Personal qualities - Age range - Experience - References - Budget - Expectations - Personal values - Beliefs ### 2. Check for babysitter credentials In Australia, there are several credentials that you can check when hiring a babysitter to ensure they are qualified and safe to look after your children. Here are some ways to check for babysitter credentials: - **Working with Children Check (WWCC):** This is a mandatory check for anyone who works with children in Australia. A national criminal history check assesses a person’s suitability to work with children. You can check if a babysitter has a valid WWCC by contacting the relevant government agency in your state or territory. - **First Aid and CPR certification:** It’s vital to ensure that your babysitter has current First Aid and CPR certification—ideally from accredited [first aid courses](https://thefirstaidschool.com.au/ "first aid courses")—as this can be crucial in case of an emergency. You can ask to see their certification or check with the organisation that provided the training. - **Police check:** Besides the WWCC, you can request a police check for the babysitter to ensure they have no criminal history. You can obtain a police check by contacting the Australian Federal Police or the police agency in the state or territory where the babysitter resides. - **References and experience:** Ask the babysitter for references from previous clients and follow up with them to understand their expertise and professionalism. You can also ask the babysitter for their resume or a summary of their qualifications and experience. - **Online reviews:** Check online reviews on websites such as Google, Facebook, or childcare-related directories to see what other parents have said about the babysitter. This can give you an idea of the babysitter’s reliability and professionalism. - **Check for babysitter references:** It’s important to ask for references and follow up on them. Contacting the references will help you gain insight into the babysitter’s reliability, trustworthiness, and ability to care for children. This is especially important if you are considering hiring [teenage babysitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/teenage-babysitters/). ### 3. Consider your children’s strengths and weaknesses The same babysitters might only be the right fit for some kids. Take time to consider the type of person your child would flourish with. Ideally, someone who can help with their other interests and developments. Think: > *A more academic babysitter could help your child with homework or assignments.* > > *A sitter that is quite active might play sports out in the yard if your child is more high-energy.* Although it’s not necessarily a requirement, it’s a great way to get bang for your buck. ![find reliable babysitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-olly-755049-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-755049 - Beanstalk Mums")Photo by andrea piacquadio from pexels ### 4. Top tip on how to find reliable babysitters: Arrange a meet-up Arrange to meet your children’s potential babysitter at a park or public area and see how well they connect and interact with your children. Think: > *Is there an immediate positive connection?* > > *Can your potential babysitter show confidence and authority over your children?* This is a great way to check their appearance, punctuality, organisation, attitude, and any other requirements you may have. Plus, it is a safe way to meet the potential babysitter without further commitment if things don’t work out. If they are unwilling to do this, don’t feel guilty about moving on to another potential sitter. I would suggest doing this after you have seen their credentials and references. If your child has a disability, it may be worth your while contacting relevant disability organisations to see if your child is eligible for some funded care time. You may also ask an [NDIS support coordination provider](https://myintegra.com.au/support-coordination/) to understand your child’s NDIS plan coverage and connect you to various childcare services available in their network. Although it’s not precisely ‘babysitting time,’ it gives you a break and allows your child to connect with someone who understands their condition. ### 5. Trust your (fiercely protective single mother) gut Our last tip on how to find reliable babysitters, your single mother intuition is powerful. Trust your gut when looking for babysitters. Credentials and experience mean nothing if there is something that ‘doesn’t seem right’ about them. Don’t be afraid to say no. A single mother’s gut is usually the strongest guide during the search. ## Conclusion: How to find reliable babysitters for your children That caps off our tips on how to find reliable babysitters. I know it can be a challenging and overwhelming task for parents. However, it is crucial to ensure that the person who will be taking care of your child is trustworthy, experienced, and qualified. By utilising various resources such as word-of-mouth recommendations, online platforms, and background checks, you will feel more confident in their choice of babysitter. Additionally, open and honest communication with the potential sitter about expectations and responsibilities can create a positive and safe environment for both the child and the caregiver. Overall, taking the time to thoroughly vet and select a babysitter can provide peace of mind and allow parents to enjoy their time away from their children with confidence. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-find-reliable-babysitters/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-find-reliable-babysitters/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** babysitter, nanny, au pair, child care --- ### [Building a Better Relationship with Your Child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/better-relationship-with-your-child/) **Published:** January 29, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** If you’re like me, being a mum has made you look back and evaluate your relationship with your own parents. After all, the parent-child relationship you shared with the people who raised you [shaped who you turned out to be](https://www.yourpsychologist.net.au/how-does-relationships-with-parents-affect-future-relationships#:~:text=One+way+that+the+relationship,with+others%2C+including+romantic+partners.): the way you communicate, your attachment styles, and your expectations for support. These things make you realise the need to build a better relationship with your child. As a first-time mum, one of my fears is this current phenomenon where children go no contact with their parents. To be honest, I don’t even want to imagine my daughter growing up and not talking to me anymore. Whether this is also one of your new unlocked fears as a parent or just want to raise a happy, healthy human, here are the kinds of actions that can cultivate thriving relationships with them at any stage of their life. ## How to build a better relationship with your child ## Spend quality time together It might not seem like it for new mums, but childhood is fleeting. One moment, you are half-awake in the middle of the night nursing that little bub; the next, they don’t want to have anything to do with you. This is the only time we parents have to set their foundations. Raising children is hard. But even if you’re busy with work and chores, try to set aside time to do fun things with your little one. You don’t have to go to outings and vacations all the time. Read books, play at the park, tend to the garden, listen to songs, watch Netflix, cook, eat together. The key is to be fully present, physically and emotionally. Try to spend one-on-one time with your child. When you are with your kid, put down that phone. Listen to your child and be responsive. Make sure they know that you enjoy this moment with your child. What your child needs the most is you. ## Share stories from your own life to build trust I was raised by a grandma who’s the greatest storyteller ever. She had a “when I/your dad/your aunt was your age” story related to whatever I was going through. Sharing her stories made me connect to her, and it’s something that I now love doing with my child. It can be hard to open up to your kid about your own life. For any adult to admit to things you are not proud of — in age-appropriate ways, of course — requires courage and honesty. But you become more relatable, and your child learns to trust you more. After all, what you’re admitting is that you’re not perfect, and they, too, don’t have to be. ## Show interest in their interests Another important way for children to desire positive relationships with parents and carers is to show interest in the things your child loves. Whether it’s arts, sports, or academics, it means a lot that parents take their children’s interests seriously. Who knows, you may also enjoy the things they love. Even if you can’t always show up at their school events because of other stuff you have to attend, you can talk about it over dinner. Doing so doubles as spending quality time together. It’s hitting two birds with one stone. You can also give them gifts related to their hobbies and interests. What’s important is your kid sees that you are actually paying attention. ![How to build a better relationship with your child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-8-1.png "In article image 8 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to build a better relationship with your child (cont.) ## Apologise when you’re wrong Sorry seems to be the hardest word for many parents, but it’s crucial if you want to build a stronger bond with your child in any phase of their life. The truth is, a lot of time, we don’t know what we’re doing. We make mistakes and admitting them demonstrates accountability and humility to your child. More importantly, it validates your child’s feelings. This is beneficial in helping them express their emotions, gives your child confidence, and makes them feel more connected to you. Last Christmas, my three-year-old profusely refused to greet and hug a relative during our vacation. I got a little angry and said that her behaviour was disrespectful. But I soon remembered how I have always told her that she doesn’t have to do things that cause her discomfort. I felt ashamed of myself and quickly apologised to my daughter. It’s hard but completely necessary. And when they become adults, you can also apologise for parenting mistakes. ## Show up Have you noticed that your kid performs better in school presentations when you are in the audience? Many of my mum friends say so. That’s the power of showing up. For kids, showing up is love expressed in actions. It doesn’t just help with their self-esteem; it tells your child that they can rely on you for support. For some mums, it might be harder to show up all the time. Especially so if you have a job or you have multiple children that need your attention. But trust me, the memory of you being a reliable mum sticks with them throughout their life. ## Avoid comparing them to their siblings or peers Comparison is indeed the thief of joy. Comparing your child to other people, even within families, is damaging in many ways. Every kid is different — their behaviours, their growth rate, their interests and skills, and even their dreams. Comparison results in kids who feel like they’re not good enough for who they are. They might feel like their value depends on how they fare against other people, turning them competitive or giving up entirely. Also, it can place unrealistic expectations on them, especially if your child is the one doing better. It’s not wrong to have high expectations consistent with their interests and skills. But don’t make them feel like they have to compete with others for your approval. ## How to build a better relationship with your teenage child ## Respect their need for privacy The teen years are notorious for being secretive but it’s part of child development and their journey to adulthood. Because most of us went through this phase, we parents must be the first to understand our teenagers. They are building their identity and going through a confusing period. They’re also building their independence and learning how to handle emotions. Interacting with your child with respect helps in raising caring adults. Remember, this little person most needs warmth and encouragement from you. Listen to what your child wants and respectfully find ways to meet in the middle. Don’t scour through their phone. Don’t read their journal. Give them their own room, or if that’s not possible, at least their own bed and closet. And, for heaven’s sake, don’t take away their bedroom door! ## Give them more responsibility Allowing your child to take on responsibilities is necessary to improve your relationship. You are teaching them independence and a sense of obligation. Whether it’s making them do their laundry, letting them manage their finances, or encouraging them to get a part-time job, you help your child learn important life skills. Hold them accountable. Moreover, responsibilities tell them that you trust them, which can boost their self-esteem. For example, let your child take the lead in planning your activities for a holiday. This shows your child that you trust in their abilities and judgment. Hopefully, this helps them be empowered to step up in the face of challenges. Moreover, this can be an opportunity to teach them about considering the well-being of others in their decision-making. ## Set boundaries about technology respectfully If you do decide to give your child a phone or a [laptop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/student-laptop/), it’s equally important that you set boundaries. It’s a big and scary leap for parents, especially knowing all the dangers of the internet. Beanstalk Mums has a [guide to setting phone rules](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/), if you’re interested. Anyway, the operative word here is “respectfully”. Your teen is in a rebellious phase, so be calm when you communicate the boundaries you have set. Inform them of the apps and parental controls you are setting up. Let them understand that you are only setting these limits for their own protection. ![How to build a better relationship with your teenage child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-7-1.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to build a better relationship with your adult child ## Treat them as equals in discussions They say that motherhood doesn’t end when your child is an adult. But it’s important for us mums to understand that our older kids are their own persons. Now, their opinions are equally valid. No more “Because I said so” and “I’m still your mum.” That’s not just because they have turned 18. They have gone through different phases of life and experienced many things. They have lived life and gained wisdom. This time, try to understand the world through their eyes. Who knows, hearing their views can be a great tool for self-reflection. ## Offer help without making them feel obligated If they don’t follow your advice, it’s okay. Don’t sulk and make your child feel guilty for not accepting your help. They have their own way of doing things now. It’s time you trust that you have built strong foundations and values, enabling your child to make decisions and solve problems. If you have had a healthy relationship with your child growing up, I swear they are grateful for the fact that you have offered. ## Express pride in who they have become Now that I’m a mum myself, it gives me unexplainable joy when my own parents appreciate the person that I am. I’m fortunate that my mum and dad are both affectionate and expressive people. Hearing from their own lips that they think I’ve done well and that they are proud of me gives me confidence and drive. This is something that every child has to hear from their parents. No matter what they achieve. No matter what they have. Tell your child that you are proud not necessarily of their financial successes but of their character and values. Let them know that they are seen. ![How to build a better relationship with your adult child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-6-1.png "In article image 6 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final thoughts: Building a better relationship with your child To nurture relationships with your children is not about being the perfect parent. Let’s face it, none of us are. It’s about being present, kind, and willing to grow alongside them. The journey of parenthood is as much about raising your child as it is about learning from them. Whether you’re cuddling your newborn, navigating the rollercoaster of the teenage years, or offering support to your adult child, the love, trust, and connection you build will always matter. Remember, the experiences of young people shape their future. And while no relationship is without its bumps, it’s never too late to strengthen the bond with your child. With patience, honesty, and lots of love, you can create a strong relationship that stands the test of time — one that both you and your child will cherish forever. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/better-relationship-with-your-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/better-relationship-with-your-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children --- ### [Amicable Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/co-parenting-when-your-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** So, your ex has a new partner. Maybe they’ve even had the new lady meet your child, or you’ve seen cosy photos pop up on social media. Navigating co-parenting when your ex has a new girlfriend can bring out a ton of emotions, even if you have already moved on from the split. I remember one year after the divorce, I heard my ex had started dating again. It hit hard, not because I wanted him back (definitely not), but because suddenly someone else was part of my girls’ lives. A person I hadn’t chosen, who might be there during bedtime stories or birthday parties. I became protective, unsure, and even a little jealous, and it’s completely normal. But it doesn’t have to cause havoc or control your co-parenting relationship. Here’s how I (mostly) kept my cool and learned to navigate this tricky dynamic with some grace, and how you can, too. ## **Tips on Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend** ## **1. Don’t Panic When Your Ex Met Someone New** Finding out your ex met a new person may seem like a punch to the gut, even if the separation was ages ago. It’s natural to wonder how this new person might affect your child or get involved with your carefully managed parenting plan. But before spiralling, take a breath. It doesn’t mean your role as a mum is being replaced. It just means the family dynamic is shifting, and like all things in parenting, we adapt. ## **2. Let Yourself Be Mad (But Don’t Unleash It)** When my ex introduced his new partner, I was overwhelmed with a rollercoaster of emotions – jealousy, frustration, and even resentment. But I knew venting to him wouldn’t help. So I ranted to a friend, cried into my pillow, and even spoke to a therapist. Letting yourself feel those things is human. Just don’t let those emotions dictate your decisions or affect your kid’s sense of stability. ## **3. Set Boundaries Early (and Stick to Them)** Boundaries are everything. Talk about when it’s appropriate to introduce a new partner to your child, and what kind of involvement that person should have. You are not being controlling; you are creating a respectful co-parenting relationship. Make an agreement about sleepovers, introductions, and what happens during parenting time. Having clear rules reduces drama down the line. ![co-parenting when your ex has a new girlfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-elly-fairytale-4543643-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-elly-fairytale-4543643 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Try to Accept Your Ex’s New Partner (Even When It’s Hard)** Trust me, I wanted to. I imagined this new woman trying to replace me or overstepping boundaries. But most of the time, they’re just trying to figure it out too. Give them the benefit of the doubt, unless they’re being truly disrespectful or hurtful. If they’re kind to your child, that’s a positive. Being civil (even if you don’t become mates) helps maintain an amicable co-parenting arrangement. ## **Child-Focused Tips on Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend** ## **1. Focus on What’s Best for Your Child** You might not like the new girlfriend, but if your child does, that matters. I had to remind myself that my kids’ happiness and security came first, even if that meant watching them spend time together. If they feel loved and safe, that’s a win. Don’t let personal emotions cloud what’s best for your little one. ## **2. Co-Parenting Relationship When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend: Make it About the Kids, Not the Drama** When your ex-partner has a new lady, every conversation can turn into a dig or a debate. Try to keep all chats centred on your child. Use a co-parenting app if needed to keep things structured and less emotional. It helped me stop reacting in the heat of the moment and stick to the facts, no sarcasm, no guilt trips, just the logistics of raising a human. ## **3. Avoid Comparing Parenting Styles (Even When It’s Hard)** Maybe your ex-spouse’s girlfriend lets the kids stay up too late or gives them treats you’d never allow. That’s frustrating, for sure. But unless it’s harmful or violates your parenting plan, pick your battles. It’s one way to keep an amicable relationship with your ex. I had to learn not to dictate what happened during his parenting time unless it crossed a line. Letting go of the small stuff gave me peace (and fewer grey hairs). ## **Bonus Tips on Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend** ![co-parenting when your ex has a new girlfriend](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Co-parenting-when-your-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend-in-image-1198x800.jpg "Co-parenting when your ex has a new girlfriend in-image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **1. Your Opinion Still Matters — Don’t Shrink** Even if your ex has moved on, you’re still your kid’s parent, and your opinion counts. If you are uncomfortable or notice something that truly concerns you, communicate it calmly. I once noticed my youngest is acting anxious after weekends with their dad’s girlfriend, and I brought it up. It wasn’t easy, but it led to some much-needed changes. ## **2. Don’t Let Social Media Fuel the Fire** Seeing your ex and their new partner posting happy snaps with your child can sting. I unfollowed my ex-husband and muted his new partner. Not because I was being petty, but because I needed space to cope. Embrace the fact that someone is a new part of your ex’s life, but protect your peace. What you don’t see can’t hurt you, and it doesn’t mean you care less. ## **3. It’s Okay to Talk to Someone and Ask for Help** Last on my list of co-parenting tips: it’s okay to ask for help. Being a single mum trying to juggle it all is no small feat. If you’re struggling, lean on your village. That could be a friend, a therapy session, or even a co-parenting support group. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it makes you wise. ## **Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend: A Real Story** Mica and Tom had been separated parents for nearly three years when Tom introduced his new girlfriend, Lily. At first, Mica was upset, mostly because she’d never been given a heads-up about the situation. But over time, she noticed something: her daughter came home from Lily’s place smiling, with stories about baking cookies and doing crafts. Slowly, Mica realised that Lily wasn’t a threat, but a bonus adult who cared. It wasn’t easy, but by putting her daughter first, Mica found peace and even managed to thank Lily at her child’s birthday party one year later. ***Related podcast: [What to do if a parent breaches court orders.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parent-breaches-court-orders/)*** ## **Final Thoughts: Co-Parenting When Your Ex Has a New Girlfriend** Your ex’s new partner doesn’t change your role as a parent. You’re still just as important in your kid’s life. It’s crucial to set and maintain clear boundaries early on, and do so calmly to avoid unnecessary conflict. Always consider your children’s well-being when making decisions. Try not to feed into the drama. Instead, focus on building and maintaining a healthy [co-parenting](https://www.relationshipsnsw.org.au/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/ "co-parenting") relationship. Tools like a co-parenting app can help keep things neutral, structured, and less emotionally charged. It can be difficult at first, but things will become easier over time. You’ve got this, mum. Co-parenting is messy, no doubt. But with a little grace, clear rules, and your daily dose of caffeine, it is possible. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/co-parenting-when-your-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/co-parenting-when-your-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families **Tags:** new partner, new girlfriend --- ### [World Environment Day: Simple Ways To Beat Plastic Pollution](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/world-environment-day-for-kids/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Celebrating World Environment Day for kids is a valuable opportunity to teach our children about caring for the planet they will one day inherit. For single mothers like you and me, it’s also a chance to turn everyday parenting into powerful, purpose-driven learning. While raising children alone comes with unique challenges, our unique situation also allows us to shape their values in meaningful ways. On June 5, 2025, the world will come together to observe World Environment Day. It’s the perfect moment for our children to take part in small, practical actions that make a big difference, starting in our homes, neighbourhoods, and communities. ***Further reading: [Clean Up Australia Day: Amazing Ways to Involve Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/clean-up-australia-day/)*** ## Teaching Children About World Environment Day 2025 World Environment Day was established by the United Nations in 1972 and is celebrated annually on June 5. It has since become one of the most significant global platforms for environmental outreach, involving millions of people across over 150 countries starting in 1973. Each year, World Environment Day focuses on a different theme. In 2025, the UN set the specific theme to “Ending Plastic Pollution.” Plastic pollution is a critical issue affecting our oceans, wildlife, food systems, and even human health. Plastic waste has become one of the most pressing environmental concerns of our time. But the good news is that everyone, including families, can take action. To learn more about this global event, [visit the World Environment Day website](https://www.worldenvironmentday.global). ![World Environment Day for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-8.png "In article image 8 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Commemorate World Environment Day with Children as a Single Mum Here are several practical and age-appropriate actions you can take to mark this day with your children while instilling eco-conscious habits. ### Nature Walk and Clean-Up Take your child on a walk through a local park, beach, or nature reserve and collect litter along the way. This not only cleans the area but also teaches children about the impact of pollution on local ecosystems. ### Plastic-Free Picnic Organise a simple picnic using reusable containers, cutlery, and cloth napkins. Involve your child in preparing the food and packing the items. It’s a fun way to show how simple everyday choices can reduce waste and promote conservation. ### Story Time with Nature Books Choose age-appropriate resources to help kids learn about nature, animals, biodiversity, and the environment. Some excellent picture books focus on ocean pollution or the life cycle of plastics. Primary school kids love animals, so definitely look for books on marine life. Reading together can open conversations about responsibility and care for the Earth. You can also download worksheets to accompany your books for added activities. ### Recycling Craft Projects Use recyclable materials, such as bottles, cardboard, or fabric scraps, to create crafts or toys. Children love being hands-on, and this activity can help them understand the concept of reusing and repurposing rubbish. This help plant the seeds of restoration in their young minds. ### Visit a Local Farmers’ Market Introduce your child to the idea of reducing packaging waste by shopping at a farmers’ market. Bring your own bags and containers, and talk about where food comes from and why buying local matters for sustainable development. ## World Environment Day for Kids (cont.) ### Watch an Educational Documentary Together For slightly older children, a short documentary or educational video that highlight pollution and other environmental issues can be an eye-opener. Choose age-appropriate content and discuss it afterward to reinforce learning. Thankfully, there are heaps of kid-friendly documentaries on how non-biodegradable materials contribute to climate change and the harm they pose on the habitats of other animal species. ### Create a “No Plastic” Challenge at Home Try going a day (or even just a few hours) without using single-use plastic. Turn it into a fun challenge for your child. Use this as a springboard to raise awareness and action, and discuss alternatives and new habits. ### Make Reusable Items Together Simple projects like decorating canvas shopping bags or making beeswax wraps can be enjoyable for kids and useful for your household. These items help replace plastic bags and cling wrap. There are heaps of free videos on YouTube for this! ### Start a Mini Herb Garden Use old containers as planters to grow herbs or small vegetables. It’s a great way to teach sustainability, patience, and care for living things. Plus, it reduces the need for plastic-packaged produce. Through this, you can also teach them how to save water. ### Join a Community Event Check if your local government or community groups is hosting any World Environment Day initiatives or festivals. Many events welcome families and offer child-friendly experiences that highlight the importance of protecting nature, such as storytelling, gardening sessions, scavenger hunts, or art, poster or slogan workshops. If feasible, your family can also pledge or donate to Australian ecological organisations. ![World Environment Day for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-7.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Beating Plastic Pollution Beyond World Environment Day Celebration While World Environment Day serves as an annual reminder, the effort to reduce plastic pollution is ongoing. Here are a few sustainable habits single mums can adopt and model for our children year-round: - Switch to reusable shopping bags, bottles, and containers. - Choose unpackaged or minimally packaged food when possible. - Buy second-hand toys and clothes to reduce plastic waste. - Support businesses with eco-conscious practices. - Encourage schools and childcare centres to reduce plastic use. - Involve your child in sorting recycling and composting at home. - Promote water conservation at home. Teaching our children to respect and protect the environment doesn’t require grand gestures. It begins with consistent, mindful actions in everyday life. ***Further reading: [9 Earth Month Activities for a Better Planet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/9-earth-month-activities/)*** ## Conclusion: Celebrating World Environment Day with Kids As single mothers, we are not only caregivers; we are role models. Doing World Environment Day activities with your child offers more than a fun activity, with the help of these fantastic resources. It’s an opportunity to plant seeds of actionable environmental responsibility that can grow for a lifetime. By taking small steps to reduce plastic pollution and involving our children in these efforts, we are helping to create a cleaner, healthier world for the future generations — one home, one habit, and one child at a time. Let this 5 June 2025 be a starting point for long-term change, both in our families and in our communities. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/world-environment-day-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/world-environment-day-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Bali Adventure: The Best Family-Friendly Villas In Seminyak](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/family-friendly-villas-in-seminyak/) **Published:** April 3, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you dreaming about a relaxing, yet adventure-packed holiday with your little tribe? [Family-friendly villas in Seminyak](https://www.villa-bali.com/en-au/find/seminyak "Family-friendly villas in Seminyak"), in the heart of Bali, have everything you could wish for: beautiful beaches, fantastic food, and luxury villas that are perfect for single mums like us. I recently booked a beautiful 3-bedroom villa in Seminyak, complete with a private swimming pool (and yes, a safety fence!). The kids were ecstatic, I enjoyed a bit of luxury, and everyone came home smiling. In this post, I’ll share the best tips on booking the perfect villa, making your family vacation in Seminyak stress-free and unforgettable. ## **Why Seminyak Villas Are Perfect for Family Vacations** Seminyak villas offer everything a single mum could ask for—a private swimming pool, spacious bedrooms, and proximity to Seminyak Beach. During my stay, the villa rental was luxurious yet incredibly practical, allowing me to relax while keeping an eye on the kids. Choosing a villa in Seminyak also placed us close to all the action but still far enough away for peace and quiet. Our villa was minutes from Seminyak Beach and vibrant cafés, so eating out was a breeze. ## **Family-Friendly Amenities in Seminyak Villas** When looking for family-friendly villas in Seminyak, always check if they offer amenities like a pool fence or babysitting services. Our villa came equipped with a secure private pool and even a private chef option, which was a godsend after busy days out exploring Bali with energetic kids. These thoughtful touches truly set the best villas apart. Since we had the villa to ourselves, bedtime routines were a breeze—something any mum can appreciate when managing the little ones solo. It felt more like home than just a holiday rental. ## **Exploring Seminyak Beach from Your Villa** One of the biggest highlights of our villa rental was its proximity to Seminyak Beach. It was just a short walk away, making spontaneous beach trips with the kids easy and stress-free. The kids loved building sandcastles at Double Six Beach, while I enjoyed soaking up the sun and finally getting through my book. Seminyak Beach is also surrounded by fantastic restaurants and kid-friendly cafés, perfect for grabbing a quick bite or enjoying a sunset dinner. The central Seminyak location of our villa meant we never had to travel far to experience the best of Bali. ## **Best Villas in Seminyak for Single Mums** Finding a villa that’s suitable for single mums can seem overwhelming, but there are plenty of options designed specifically with families in mind. Our villa had three spacious bedrooms, giving everyone their own space and making bedtime battles a thing of the past. I loved that our villa provided easy access to local amenities and Seminyak Village, a great spot for some retail therapy, while the kids enjoyed an ice cream. Staying in the heart of Seminyak allowed me to balance relaxation with adventure effortlessly. ## **What Makes a Private Villa Practical** If your budget allows, staying in a private villa is incredibly practical for single-parent families. The private swimming pool was a massive hit with my kids—they spent hours splashing around while I relaxed poolside. And because our villa was entirely private, I didn’t have to stress about keeping the noise down. Having the villa rental entirely to ourselves also meant meal times were flexible, which is essential when travelling with kids. Whether cooking ourselves or enjoying a meal prepared by a private chef, everything was straightforward and stress-free. ![family-friendly villas in Seminyak](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Beachfront_villa_seminyak-1200x800.jpg "Beachfront_villa_seminyak - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Bali Family Villas (cont.)** ## **Choosing the Best Seminyak Locations** When booking your villa in Seminyak, location is key. We stayed near Jalan Raya Seminyak, which put us right at the heart of the action. Being close to vibrant markets, the Seminyak Square Shopping Mall, and excellent eateries meant we could easily explore without endless car trips. Choosing the best Seminyak locations means less stress and more fun. Our villa was strategically positioned, making daily outings convenient and manageable, even with little ones in tow. ## **Bedroom Villas with a Private Pool: Essential for Family Holidays** A villa with a private pool was a non-negotiable for me, and Seminyak villas certainly delivered. The private swimming pool at our villa provided endless entertainment for the kids and relaxation for me. Pool fences were readily available, giving me peace of mind as the kids splashed about. Having a pool right outside our bedroom villa made our holiday feel truly luxurious and personal. No crowded pools or struggling to keep an eye on multiple children at once—just pure relaxation and enjoyment. ## **Finding the Best Price for Your Holiday Villa Rental in Bali** To get the best price guaranteed for your Seminyak villa rental, planning and booking early is key. Using Bali Villa Finder, I secured a beautiful private villa at a surprisingly affordable rate. Booking directly through their platform also meant no hidden surprises or fees. Knowing I got a great deal allowed me to splurge a little more on activities and dining out, making our family [vacation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/ "vacation") feel even more special. Definitely worth the effort of planning ahead! ## **Family Adventures Near Your Bali Villa** Staying at a centrally located Seminyak villa makes it super easy to plan family adventures around Bali. Whether you’re heading to the beach or taking time out at one of the many [healing retreats Bali](https://escapehaven.com/healing-retreat-bali/ "healing retreats Bali") is famous for, you’ll find there’s always something new to experience. ## **Why Single Mums Should Choose Family Villas in Seminyak** Seminyak villas cater perfectly to the needs of single mums looking for a blend of relaxation and adventure. The villa I chose provided a safe, spacious environment ideal for kids, with amenities that made life easier for me. It’s rare to find holiday options that genuinely cater to single-parent families, but villas in Seminyak offer exactly that. Our stay felt tailor-made for our needs, so we got to enjoy every moment. ## **Final Thoughts: Family-Friendly Villas in Seminyak** Our Bali family holiday was one of my kids’ core memories. We had easy access to the beach, but I didn’t have to worry about my little ones’ safety because it was a secure property. One evening, after a fun-filled day at Double Six Beach, we had a spontaneous pizza party by our private pool—something simple but memorable. Remember, you don’t need to rent a large private villa for your stay in Bali. There are plenty of affordable Seminyak family villas that are actually safe, too! Booking through a reliable website like Bali Villa Finder simplified everything, giving me the confidence to travel solo with kids. Seminyak is one of the ultimate destinations for your next family adventure in Bali. Trust me, your kids—and you—will never forget it! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/family-friendly-villas-in-seminyak/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/family-friendly-villas-in-seminyak/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [Family Foodie Adventures: Discovering Bahamian Cuisine Together](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/discovering-bahamian-cuisine/) **Published:** December 29, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** A family holiday to the Bahamas? Ah! Doesn’t that sound like heaven? Days spent on blue, wavy seas on a luxury cruise ship with the people you love. Then, roaming the islands together, enjoying a new culture and Bahamian cuisine. When you [board a cruise from Fort Lauderdale](https://www.celebritycruises.com/ports/fort-lauderdale), you have no idea what an adventure awaits you! However, no matter how much pleasure you gain from sightseeing, discovering Bahamian cuisine is something else! After all, food is a global language of love and connection, and the Bahamas offers visitors a truly unparalleled culinary experience. Get ready with your family to enjoy the friendly hospitality of the Bahamas. Be prepared to be amazed by the colourful tastes of the Bahamian food. ## **Explore the Exotic Essence of Bahamian Cuisine Bahamian cuisine truly reflects the region’s long history. Did you know that Bahamian cuisine combines distinctive Caribbean, European, and African flavours to create something new? The end product is a blend of tropical fruits, fresh seafood, and various spices that make an unforgettable experience! When you visit the place with your family, be prepared to be a bold eater! After all, the [food culture](https://www.chefspencil.com/top-25-foods-in-the-bahamas/) here is more like touring a festival than sitting primarily on a formal dinner. Now, let’s look at the items you couldn’t miss during [this memorable holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/holiday-deals-online/). ## **10 Must-Try Bahamian Dishes ### **1. Conch Salad If you’re in the Bahamas, never even think about leaving without trying conch salad at least once! The main ingredients are diced conch, chopped tomatoes, onion, and additional items such as peppers. A marinade of lime, lemon, and orange juice is used during its preparation, and even though the Conch is somewhat “cooked” by the marinade, your conch salad will be largely raw. ### **2. Steamed Crawfish Share the exotic steamed crawfish dish with your family during a joyful dinner after a long day of travelling around! Crawfish are rather fierce-looking lobster-like seafood that goes by a variety of names. A must-try Bahamian delicacy, these delicious pieces of sweet, meaty crustacean can be prepared in various ways. However, in the Bahamas, steamed crawfish are offered with tropical fruit salad and lime juice to compliment the saltiness of the crawfish. ### **3. Baked Crab We promise you try this just once, and your entire family will get hooked! You might be thinking, what’s so new about baked crab? That’s because you haven’t tried it in Bahama yet! The crab is cooked within the shell before being taken out and dressed with various spices, and then the prepared food is crammed back into the shell and served hot. ![Bahamian Cuisine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-67.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### **4. Grits This is such a staple on the island, a simple dish of cooked cornmeal. There are countless ways to season and spruce up this dish, so every time you order it in a new restaurant during your travels, it will taste a little different! This traditional dish, which has a delicate yellow-white hue, is made by combining cornmeal and milk, then constantly stirred after adding butter, cream, cheese, and salt. Grits are seasoned with paprika, garlic, and cayenne pepper and can be a bit hot, so be ready for that burn! The meal is served with broiled shrimp, bacon, or sausage on the side to make it even more mouth-watering. ### **5. Stewed Fish Made with fresh local seafood, such as snapper or conch, the Bahamian stewed fish dish is simply perfect! Local herbs, such as thyme, onion, potato, carrot, and celery, are the common ingredients, along with a little tomato paste. The best way to have Bahamian stewed fish is with a cool bottle of local beverage such as Kalik (for the adults) or a thick slice of buttered Johnny cake. ### **6. Cracked Conch The cracked conch dish is just as popular among touring families as conch salad! Cracked conch is prepared by tenderizing the conch flesh with a mallet before seasoning, coating it in batter or breadcrumbs, and then frying it. In most places, it is served with Old Sour sauce as a dip for the savoury chunks of perfectly cooked conch. ### **7. Souse This well-known Bahamian meal can be exotic for your family, but you are on holiday, so why not try something new? Souse stew uses common ingredients like onions, lime juice, peppers, potatoes, and bay leaves, but the meat is tricky! The meat ranges from chicken or sheep’s tongue to pig’s feet or oxtail. This is such a savoury dish, so never say no before trying it! ### **8. Rum Cake No family dinner is complete without dessert, and a slice of Rum cake is just what the tourists like! The rum cake is prepared with hand-blended rum, and vanilla gives this deliciously light buttery cake the right flavour. This is simply ideal for anybody with a sweet tooth; what’s more, it comes in multiple flavours, including pineapple, banana, and coconut. ### **9. Johnny Cake Johnny cakes are prepared with only a few common ingredients like milk, butter, sugar, and flour, and it’s a great alternative to rum cake if you want something simpler for the children! They are also often served during breakfast, cut in large slices, and even though you can eat the cake without adding anything else, spreading some butter or jam on top makes it more delicious! ### **10. Guava Duff Try it just once, and you will forever remember its taste! The rum sauce poured over the dessert before it is served is the key to making this chopped guava cake perfect. Well, yes, it is not for small children, but you can always order some Johnny cake for them while you eat a finger-licking slice of this cake! Well, that’s our special list of 10 [foods you can’t miss in the Bahamas](https://www.theflavorvortex.com/international-cooking-food-from-the-bahamas/), but you can always pack some storable items to return home! Why not stock up on local items like guava jam, pure coconut oil, or Bahamian spicy sauce to bring some of the Bahamas with you? Visit a local market such as Potter’s Cay Dock or the Nassau Straw Market to buy distinctive Bahamian spices and sauces. After you return, you can also gift those items to friends or try cooking Bahamian dishes at home with real Bahamian ingredients! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/discovering-bahamian-cuisine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/discovering-bahamian-cuisine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** food, holiday, travel, cruise --- ### [Get a Child's Passport After Divorce: What You Need to Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/childs-passport-after-divorce/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Picture this: you’ve finally saved enough for that dream holiday with your little one. You start planning, booking flights, and picturing the joy on their face. Then, it hits you—your child doesn’t have a passport! Worse still, you’re separated from their other parent, and what should be a straightforward application turns into a paperwork maze. Suddenly, obtaining a child’s passport after divorce means navigating court orders, legal hurdles, and endless forms. acquire Sounds relatable? You’re not alone. I remember when I first had to apply for my kid’s passport after separating from my ex. Between gathering documents and understanding the legal jargon, it felt like a never-ending maze. I managed to get through it with patience and the right information—and so can you! In this guide, I will walk you through everything you need to know—from requirements to special circumstances and court orders—so you can move forward with clarity and confidence. ## **Understanding Parental Responsibility and Consent** When applying for an Australian passport for your child, parental responsibility plays a big role. It means that both parents usually need to provide signed consent unless one has sole parental responsibility. This ensures both parents have a say in whether the child will be taken outside Australia. If one parent refuses, things can get complicated. My colleague once had to chase her ex for weeks just to get his signature on the [child passport application](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/). If you’re in a similar boat, you might need legal counsel or an application to the court to move forward. Thankfully, options exist for cases where consent is withheld. ## **What Happens If the Other Parent Refuses to Consent? Can One Parent Apply for a Child’s Passport?** What if you can’t go to the other parent and ask, or he refuses to sign? Can you get your little one’s passport without the consent of your ex? This is a common challenge for separated or divorced parents. If your ex refuses to give their consent, the passport application will likely be rejected unless you obtain a court order. If your ex won’t take parental responsibility or give their permission, don’t be swayed, mumma. You still have options. The Department of Foreign Affairs allows a passport to be issued without consent in exceptional circumstances. These could include domestic violence, abandonment, or legal barriers. You can make an application to the [Family Court of Australia](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/ "Family Court of Australia") to override the need for the other parent’s agreement. The Family Court can determine whether a passport can be issued based on the kid’s best interests. If there is a history of family violence or if your co-parent is intentionally blocking travel without reason, the court may allow you to apply without their permission. Legal counsel is often necessary in these situations, so be prepared. ## **What If I Can’t Contact the Other Parent?** If your ex is missing, living outside Australia, or completely out of contact, you can apply for an administrative application to an approved senior officer at the Australian Passport Office. You’ll need to provide evidence, such as: - Police reports stating the other parent’s whereabouts are unknown - Affidavit statements from government agencies - Proof of no contact for an extended period An approved senior officer may issue a passport in these cases if they believe the circumstances justify it. ## **Do I Need a Court Order to Get a Passport for my Child After Separation or Divorce?** A court order from an Australian court can legally override the need for necessary consent if the other parent refuses or is unavailable. The judge will consider factors like your kid’s safety, relationships with both parents, and whether international travel is in their best interests. ## **What Are Special Circumstances for Issuing of a Passport?** The Australian Passports Act 2005 allows a passport to be issued under special circumstances. The Department of Foreign Affairs allows an administrative application to an approved senior officer of the department who may issue a passport under specific conditions. - If the other parent is missing or deceased - Family violence orders preventing contact with the other parent - Evidence that the other parent has abandoned the child - A court order stating one parent has sole custody - The child needs to travel internationally for urgent medical treatment It’s essential to provide evidence to support your case, such as police reports, parenting orders, or an Australian court order. In cases where a child welfare order is in place, additional legal steps may be required to prove that obtaining a passport is in the best interests of your little one. If special circumstances don’t exist, you’ll likely need to obtain your ex-spouse’s permission or go through the Family Court of Australia. ## **How to Apply for a Child’s Passport After Divorce (cont.)** ## **What If I Share Parental Responsibility?** Parental responsibility for the child means that both parents must generally agree on major decisions, including travel. Even if you have primary care, you still need the other parent’s written consent to a passport application. However, if the Court has granted you sole parental responsibility, you can apply for a passport for your child without the other parent’s permission. ## **What If I Fear My Child Will Be Taken Overseas Without My Permission?** If you worry that your child’s other parent might attempt to travel overseas with them without your permission, you can apply for a court order to prevent a passport from being issued. This is particularly important in cases of international child abduction. An officer may issue a passport if all legal requirements are met, but you can request that the Department of Foreign Affairs be notified of any applications concerning your child. ![child's passport after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/2eaa2626-ae03-4888-8f88-54c3b1e378d1-1066x800.jpg "2eaa2626-ae03-4888-8f88-54c3b1e378d1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Much is the Passport Application Fee for a Child?** A valid passport for a child under the age of 18 has an application fee of around $160–$180. This can vary depending on processing times and additional services. If you’re applying under special circumstances, legal costs and court order fees may apply, so it’s best to seek legal advice before proceeding. ## **How Long Does It Take to Get a Passport for a Child?** The standard passport application process takes 3–6 weeks, but if you need it urgently, an expedited processing fee can speed things up. But, if your case involves court orders, missing consent, or other legal issues, it may take several months to resolve. ## **Can a Valid Passport Be Issued Without Parental Consent?** Yes, but only in specific circumstances. The Minister for Foreign Affairs or a senior officer of the department may approve an application if it’s deemed necessary. If you can’t obtain the other parent’s consent, you’ll need to prove special circumstances or apply for a court order to proceed. ## **Final Thoughts: Obtaining a Child’s Passport After Divorce** In Australia, both parents generally have parental responsibility for the child, meaning that full consent is required from both to issue a passport. I know how frustrating it can be to jump through legal hoops just to obtain a passport for your child. When I first tried to get one for my son, I had no idea that my ex’s written consent was required. It turned into a months-long process involving emails, legal documents, and stressful negotiations. But once I knew my rights and followed the proper steps, everything fell into place. If you want your child to travel internationally and you’re facing similar roadblocks, remember, knowledge is power. Whether you’re dealing with a difficult ex, legal barriers, or missing documents, there’s always a way forward. Take it one step at a time, seek legal advice if needed, and soon enough, you and your child will be ready to travel overseas together, without the unnecessary stress! Hang in there, Mum! ![Who should have our children’s passports when we separate? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Childrens-passports-when-separate.png "Childrens passports when separate - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/childs-passport-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/childs-passport-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Travel **Tags:** overseas travel, consent for travel, travel with kids, child alert request, family law watch list --- ### [The Snack Mistake That’s Quietly Sabotaging Your Energy Levels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-snack-mistake-thats-quietly-sabotaging-your-energy-levels/) **Published:** July 18, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You know that drained feeling that hits in the late morning or sometimes after lunch? Your brain slows down, your concentration slips, and your body just feels flat. The quick fix? Most people grab a snack — and often reach for something convenient, like [protein bars](https://kissedearth.com.au/collections/protein-bars), thinking they’ll help power through the slump. But the truth is, a lot of these popular snacks are doing the exact opposite of what you’re hoping for. They might seem healthy on the surface, but they’re often packed with sugar and low on the nutrients that actually support steady energy. That sugar rush gives you a short boost, but what comes next is the crash, and it hits harder than you think. ## Why Your Energy Keeps Crashing Snacks that are high in [refined sugar](https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/refined-sugar) or simple carbs but low in fibre and protein can cause your blood sugar to spike quickly. And just as quickly as it goes up, it drops, taking your energy, focus, and mood with it. Many snack options marketed as healthy are more about taste and shelf appeal than actual nourishment. The result is a short burst of energy followed by a bigger crash, leaving you more tired than before you ate. ## Signs Your Snacks Are Holding You Back Not all snacks are bad, but the wrong kind at the wrong time can sabotage your productivity and mood. Here are some common signs your snack isn’t doing you any favours: - You feel sluggish or sleepy soon after eating - You get hungry again within 30–60 minutes - You find it harder to concentrate or stay focused - You feel a dip in mood or energy, especially in the afternoon These dips often go unnoticed or get blamed on other things — a rough night’s sleep, a stressful day — but your snack habits could be the underlying issue. ## What Makes a Snack Genuinely Energising? The goal of a good snack is simple: to keep you feeling steady, full, and focused between [meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/low-budget-meals/ "meals"). That means choosing foods that support blood sugar stability and offer a mix of nutrients. Here’s what to look for in a solid snack: ### A balance of macronutrients The best snacks have protein, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates. This combination helps slow digestion and gives you longer-lasting energy. ### Minimal added sugar Read the label — if sugar is one of the first ingredients, it’s likely to leave you feeling worse, not better. Aim for less than 6 grams of added sugar. ![snack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-koolshooters-6977372-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-koolshooters-6977372 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Whole, recognisable ingredients If it reads like something from a chemistry set, skip it. Stick to real food — think oats, seeds, fruit, nuts, and plain dairy. ### Enough protein and fibre These help you stay full and reduce cravings. Look for 5 grams or more of protein, and at least a few grams of fibre per serve. ## Smart Snack Ideas That Actually Work If you’re trying to stay energised and avoid the 3 pm crash, here are some better snack options you can turn to: - Greek yoghurt with berries and seeds – Full of protein and fibre, with a little natural sweetness. - Wholegrain toast with avocado – Good fats and slow-burning carbs to keep you going. - Carrot sticks with hummus – Crunchy, satisfying, and packed with fibre. - Apple slices with peanut butter – A solid mix of carbs, fat, and protein. - Boiled eggs with a handful of almonds – Portable and filling without added sugar. The key is planning ahead, because when you’re already tired and hungry, that’s when the worst snack decisions happen. ## Don’t Just Snack Less — Snack Better [Snacking](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z_N6GxBaICw&vl=fr) isn’t the enemy. In fact, the right snack can help maintain energy, improve your mood, and support better decision-making throughout the day. But it has to be the right snack — something that fuels your body rather than spiking your sugar and dragging you down an hour later. If your current habits leave you feeling flat, consider whether your snacks are helping or hindering. A few smart swaps and a bit of label reading can make a noticeable difference. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-snack-mistake-thats-quietly-sabotaging-your-energy-levels/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-snack-mistake-thats-quietly-sabotaging-your-energy-levels/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Food --- ### [The Simple Mistake That’s Making Lawn Care Take Twice as Long](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-simple-mistake-thats-making-lawn-care-take-twice-as-long/) **Published:** August 28, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You’ve got the mower out, the sun is shining, and you’re ready to tackle the yard. A couple of hours later, though, you’re sweating, your arms are sore, and the grass still doesn’t look the way you’d hoped. If maintaining a neat lawn always feels like double the effort it should be, chances are you’re making one common mistake. It’s not always about the size of your yard — sometimes it’s the tools and techniques that hold you back. For instance, when you [buy lawn mowers online](https://sydneytools.com.au/category/outdoor/lawn-mowers), it’s easy to overlook how much difference the right style of mower can make to your lawn care routine. ## **The Lawn Care Mistake: Working Against the Grass** One of the most common mistakes homeowners make when it comes to lawn care is not neglect, but unintentionally working against the natural growth cycle of the grass. This often happens in a few ways: [mowing the lawn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/guide-lawn-mowing/) too short in an effort to keep it neat for longer, cutting it at the wrong times of day or during unsuitable weather conditions, or relying on equipment that isn’t properly adjusted for the size and type of yard. Each of these missteps may seem minor, but together they place unnecessary stress on the grass. Although grass is naturally resilient, repeated stress weakens its ability to grow evenly, leaving thin or patchy areas across the lawn. The result is not only an uneven appearance but also faster regrowth, which means you end up mowing more frequently and working harder to maintain it. By aligning your mowing habits with the grass’s natural rhythm, you can achieve a healthier, thicker lawn with less effort over time. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-magda-ehlers-pexels-4162009-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-magda-ehlers-pexels-4162009 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why Cutting Too Short Backfires** It’s tempting to scalp the grass so you can go longer between cuts, but this actually makes your job harder in the long run. Short grass exposes the soil to more sunlight, which encourages weeds to spread. It also weakens the root system, making the [lawn patchy](https://www.bhg.com/gardening/yard/lawn-care/repair-the-lawn/) and thin. Instead, aim to cut no more than one-third of the blade height each time. The grass will grow thicker, which naturally shades out weeds and reduces maintenance. ## **Dull Blades = Double the Effort** Even the highest-quality lawnmower can lose its effectiveness if the blades are not properly maintained. When blades become dull, they no longer slice cleanly through the grass; instead, they rip and tear at each blade of grass, leaving frayed and uneven edges behind. These ragged cuts not only give the lawn a rough, untidy appearance but also cause the tips of the grass to turn brown more quickly, creating a patchy look across the yard. A lawn in this condition often appears as though it needs mowing again sooner than it actually does, leading many people to repeat the task more often than necessary. This cycle doubles the amount of effort required without producing better results. Fortunately, the solution is simple: sharpening your mower blades at the start of each mowing season—or more frequently if you mow often—ensures clean cuts, healthier grass, and a consistently neat finish. With sharp blades, you’ll spend less time mowing and enjoy a lawn that stays greener and more attractive between cuts. ## **The Lawn Care Timing Trick That Saves Hours** Many people assume that tackling the lawn in the middle of the day, when the sun is high and the ground is dry, is the most efficient approach. In reality, mowing at midday often does more harm than good. The intense heat puts added stress on the grass, making it more prone to tearing rather than cutting cleanly, which can leave the lawn looking patchy and uneven. The combination of hot temperatures and direct sunlight can also cause moisture loss in the blades of grass, weakening their recovery after mowing. A far better approach is to mow either in the early morning, once any dew has evaporated, or in the late afternoon, when the sun is less harsh and temperatures are more moderate. These times not only allow the grass to recover more quickly but also make the task more comfortable for you, reducing fatigue and the risk of overheating. By choosing the right time of day, you’ll find the mowing process smoother, the results longer-lasting, and the overall effort required much less. ![lawn care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-magda-ehlers-pexels-4162011-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-magda-ehlers-pexels-4162011 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Choose the Right Mower for the Job** Every yard is different. A flat, open lawn may be fine with a push mower, while a large or sloped yard might call for a self-propelled or ride-on model. Electric and battery-powered mowers are perfect for reducing noise and maintenance, while petrol models handle heavier work. Choosing the wrong mower means more passes, more energy, and more time wasted. ## **Smarter Lawn Care Habits** Getting lawn care right is less about working harder and more about working smarter. Here are some quick adjustments that can save hours of effort over a season: - **Stick to a schedule**: [Mowing weekly](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJF6gVAbqJ8) during peak growth seasons keeps grass manageable. - **Alternate mowing patterns**: Switching directions each time prevents ruts and uneven growth. - **Feed and water consistently**: Healthy grass is easier to maintain and grows evenly. - **Invest in the right tool**: A mower suited to your yard’s size and terrain is worth the upfront cost, especially when stored properly in a [nice garden shed](https://easyshed.com.au/collections/garden-sheds "nice garden shed") to keep it in top condition. ## **A Lawn That Practically Maintains Itself** The secret to cutting your lawn care time in half isn’t complicated. Keep the grass at the right height, sharpen your blades, mow at the right time of day, and match your mower to your lawn. By correcting this one simple mistake — working against the grass instead of with it — you’ll spend less time pushing the mower and more time enjoying a lush, even lawn. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-simple-mistake-thats-making-lawn-care-take-twice-as-long/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-simple-mistake-thats-making-lawn-care-take-twice-as-long/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Super Easy Winter Wellness Activities to Boost Your Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/super-easy-winter-wellness-activities-to-boost-your-health/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As the frosty mornings roll in and the sun sets earlier each day, many of us start feeling the effects of the colder weather. This means fatigue, cravings for comfort food, and the challenge of keeping our little ones entertained indoors. But winter doesn’t have to feel heavy. With the right winter wellness activities, we can turn these chilly months into a season of connection, energy, and vibrant wellbeing… for both ourselves and our children. As a single mum to a curious and endlessly energetic three-year-old, I know firsthand how the winter season can throw off routines, moods, and even health. That’s why I’m passionate about finding creative, budget-friendly ways to prioritise physical and mental health, especially when the shorter days seem to zap our motivation. ## What is Winter Wellness and Why is it Important? Winter wellness activities are all about caring for your physical, emotional, and mental well-being during the colder months. It’s about being proactive—focusing on healthy habits that reinforce resilience, connection, and comfort in a season that can feel isolating and draining. ## How Does Winter Affect Our Health? With the shorter days, less sunlight can lead to dips in vitamin D and serotonin—both vital for mood regulation and immune strength. The colder weather often keeps us inside, reducing physical activity and increasing feelings of sluggishness or sadness. ## Common Winter Health Challenges - **Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)**: A type of depression triggered by reduced sunlight, often leaving you tired, low, and unmotivated. - **Weakened Immunity**: Cold and flu season is real, especially for little ones in daycare or school. - **Increased Screen Time**: With fewer outdoor options, both kids and adults can fall into the trap of too much digital time. - **Comfort Food Cravings**: We tend to crave high-carb, sugary foods which offer temporary comfort but may zap long-term energy. Add that to a sedentary lifestyle. - **Disrupted Routine**: School holidays, weather interruptions, and earlier sunsets can throw off bedtime, eating, and activity schedules. - **Rising Financial Stressors and Mental Load**: [Heating bills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/avoid-energy-bill-shock-this-winter/), end-of-year expenses, and holiday obligations can increase anxiety and burnout, especially for single parents. ## Why Should We Focus on Wellness During Winter? By being mindful of our choices and creating a realistic winter wellness challenge, we prioritise our health and our children’s development. Incorporating winter wellness activities into our routine makes it even more meaningful—an opportunity to cultivate healthy habits, emotional regulation, and resilience while making wellness a shared experience. ## Winter Wellness Activities: Staying Physically Active ### Indoor Workouts - **Dance parties with your kids (think “Frozen” sing-alongs)**. A fun way to get your heart rate up and share a laugh with your child. - **YouTube yoga or Pilates**. Great for grounding your body and calming your mind—many are free and beginner-friendly. - **Indoor step count challenges**. Use your phone or watch to track steps while pacing during chores or playtime to up the endorphins without much effort. - **Bingo-style fitness games for kids**. Turn exercise into a game to keep little ones engaged and moving indoors. ### Safe and Fun Outdoor Activities - **Walk outside after school drop-off.** Even 15 minutes of brisk walking helps clear your head and boosts your energy. - **Explore local nature trails or playgrounds.** Fresh air and movement help regulate sleep and improve mood for both you and your child. - **Go on a winter-themed scavenger hunt.** Make a list: pinecones, birds, puddles—then explore together. - **Visit open farms or markets on sunny weekends.** Low-pressure outings with plenty of room to move and opportunities to learn. ### Simple Home Exercises - **Stair climbs during laundry time.** Find activities that get your steps in while doing chores—it’s multitasking at its healthiest. - **10-minute HIIT circuits.** Short bursts of high-intensity movement can lift your mood and metabolism. - **Stretching sessions with a warm drink afterward.** A simple way to wind down in the evening or ease tension after a long day. - **Kid-friendly yoga like “Cosmic Kids Yoga”.** Imaginative storytelling meets movement—perfect for restless toddlers. [Click here to access their YouTube channel!](https://www.youtube.com/user/CosmicKidsYoga) ![Winter Wellness Activities: Staying Physically Active](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-10.png "In article image 10 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Winter Wellness Activities: Nutritional Choices ### Nutritious Winter Food - **Sweet potatoes, spinach, pumpkin, and citrus fruits.** High in vitamins A and C, these foods support immunity and skin health. - **Bone broths and lentil stews.** Comforting, nourishing, and easy to batch-cook for busy weeks. - **Oats topped with chia seeds and nuts.** A warm, fibre-rich breakfast that keeps you and your child full for longer. ### Winter Hydration - **Warm water with lemon and ginger.** Boosts digestion and keeps hydration levels up with a cosy twist. - **Herbal teas.** Chamomile, rooibos, or peppermint are caffeine-free options safe for most mums and older kids. - **Setting a reminder to sip throughout the day.** Use alarms or apps to build the habit. - **Giving your kids cute water bottles with fruit infusers.** Makes hydration fun and encourages independence. ### Easy Recipes for Healthy Winter Meals - **Chicken and veggie soup (can double as a slow-cooker meal).** Hearty, easy to prepare, and perfect for leftovers. Looking for more soup recipes for winter? We have compiled the best ones for you [here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/foods-to-keep-you-warm-this-winter/)! - **Hidden-veggie pasta sauces.** Sneak in carrots, zucchini, and spinach without fuss. - **DIY gingerbread cookies with less sugar.** A fun bonding activity and a healthier treat option. - **Baked apples with cinnamon.** Naturally sweet and comforting without the refined sugar overload. [Click here for other easy winter desserts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/easy-winter-desserts/)! ![Winter Wellness Activities: Nutritional Choices](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-11.png "In article image 11 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Winter Wellness Activities: Mindfulness and Mental Health ### Mindfulness Practices - **5-minute breathing and relaxation exercises during nap time.** Helps ground you and calm your nervous system in between tasks. - **Gratitude journaling with prompts.** Shifts your mindset from stress to appreciation, even on tough days. - **Drawing or colouring with your children.** Calms overstimulated minds and nurtures quiet bonding. - **Quiet candle-lit reflection.** A hygge-inspired moment of stillness that brings peace in the chaos. ### Fighting Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) - **Use a SAD lamp or wake-up light.** Mimics natural sunlight to help regulate sleep and mood. - **Spend time outdoors in the morning.** Morning light exposure helps reset your body clock and energises your day. - **Add mood-boosting foods and omega-3s to your diet.** Think salmon, flaxseeds, or walnuts for natural support. - **Create a routine to reduce mental fatigue.** Predictability brings stability, especially for young children. ### Activities to Help Boost Your Mood During Winter - **Warm bubble baths.** Relax tense muscles and give yourself 20 minutes of quiet. - **Starting a new hobby with your child.** Try baking, beginner crochet, or painting to spark joy. - **Listening to music while decluttering.** Move your body and clear your space—it’s a mental reset. - **Laughing together—watch a winter comedy or share a funny video call with family.** Laughter is truly healing—and it’s free. ## Winter Wellness Activities: Social Connections ### Fun Group Activities to Consider - **Family movie nights with friends (rotate hosting).** Builds community and gives everyone a chance to relax together. - **Community centre playgroups.** Structured play and socialising for kids—and adult conversation for you. - **Winter wellness challenge with mum friends.** Share simple goals and cheer each other on a weekly basis. - **Host a holiday-related potluck or craft session.** Affordable, meaningful, and filled with memory-making. ### Fostering Relationships During the Winter Months - **Organise a newsletter or WhatsApp group with local mums.** Share tips, invite each other to events, and keep spirits up. - **Plan weekly check-ins with a friend**. A 10-minute phone call can shift your whole day. - **Create a shared worksheet for family winter goals.** Turn wellness into a fun family project with everyone involved. ### Online Communities to Join for Support - **Facebook or LinkedIn groups for mums or single parents.** Ask questions, vent, or simply feel less alone. - **Local council parenting forums.** Great for finding free local events or support programs. - **Mums-only wellness challenges.** A judgment-free zone to grow healthier habits together. ![Winter Wellness Activities: Social Connections](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-12.png "In article image 12 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Winter Wellness Activities: Self-care Routines ### Creating a Cozy Home Environment - **Add soft lighting and blankets.** Create a haven that feels restful and welcoming. - **Light a scented candle (lavender or vanilla).** Engage your senses and ease tension at the end of the day. - **Keep a corner for quiet reading.** Even five minutes of “me time” helps regulate your mood. - **Play gentle background music during the evening wind-down.** Signals to everyone that it’s time to relax. ### Simple Self-Care Routines to Try - **Weekly hair or face masks.** Small rituals that remind you you’re worth the effort. - **Scheduling a solo walk.** A short break around the neighbourhood can refuel your patience and perspective. - **Reading a book while your child naps.** Reconnect with yourself through something you enjoy. - **Ordering a subscription box just for you.** Monthly treats (tea, skincare, books) that feel like self-love in a parcel. ### Journaling for Reflection and Growth - **Gratitude entries at bedtime.** Even just three things you’re thankful for can shift your mindset. - **Writing your “highs and lows” for the week.** Helps track patterns and honour both joy and struggle. - **Listing your intentions for the next day.** Clarifies focus and lowers stress. - **Including your kids by asking what made them smile today.** Fosters emotional literacy and family connection. ![Winter Wellness Activities: Self-care Routines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-9.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Winter Wellness Activities: Staying Motivated ### What Strategies Help Maintain Your Wellness Goals? - **Set mini goals (drink 6 cups of water, walk for 10 minutes)**. Bite-sized wins keep momentum going without overwhelm. - **Use bingo or step count trackers**. Visual motivation can help the whole family stay engaged. - **Celebrate small wins with a self-reward.** Treat yourself to a hot drink, an episode of your show, or a moment of peace. ### Setting Realistic Expectations for Yourself - **Let go of perfection—some days, surviving is thriving.** Embrace flexibility, especially when energy is low. - **Adjust your standards during chilly months.** Fewer commitments, slower mornings, and more grace. - **Let go of guilt around screen time if it gives you a break.** Survival mode is sometimes the kindest choice. - **Plan meals or outings within your budget and energy levels.** Small and simple can still be meaningful. ### The Role of Accountability Play in Staying Healthy - **Share your goals with another mum.** It helps to know someone’s cheering you on. - **Join a group or workplace wellness challenge.** External motivation can keep you consistent. - **Text a friend weekly to check in.** A little connection goes a long way in staying aligned. ## Conclusion: Easy Winter Wellness Activities to Boost Your Health This winter season, I invite you to approach your family’s wellness as a gentle, empowering journey, not another pressure-filled to-do list. Whether it’s sipping tea together after a walk, starting a wellness challenge, or simply cuddling under the doona watching your favourite movie, these moments matter. At work, you can support corporate wellness programs that encourage staff wellbeing. Develop inclusive company-wide programs that encourage everyone in the workplace to stay active. You can also have wellness challenges designed to cater beyond mental and physical health, such as financial wellness or random acts of kindness challenge and professional development programs. This will help improve the work environment as well as strengthen teamwork. We don’t have to do it all. We just have to find joy, one cozy, mindful, and health-filled step at a time. Soon, you’ll see these small actions snowball. Let’s make this a season of warmth, connection, and strength—for us and our little ones. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/super-easy-winter-wellness-activities-to-boost-your-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/super-easy-winter-wellness-activities-to-boost-your-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Winter --- ### [Laser-Cut Halloween Fun: 10 Creative Projects for Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/laser-cut-halloween-fun/) **Published:** October 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Halloween is a time of magic, mystery, and creativity, making it the perfect opportunity for kids to unleash their imaginations and get crafty. Laser-cut technology offers a modern twist to traditional Halloween crafts, allowing children to create intricate and personalized decorations that are sure to impress. In this article, we will explore ten fun and spooky laser-cut Halloween projects perfect for kids of all ages. From eerie decorations to playful costumes, these projects will inspire creativity, foster artistic skills, and bring a touch of magic to the Halloween season. **Further reading:** [20 Easy Halloween Food Recipies and Treats](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-food-that-is-spookily-simple/) ## **1. Haunted House Luminary Transform a simple piece of wood or acrylic into a spooky haunted house luminary using [laser cutting](https://omtechlaser.com/collections/omtech-laser-engraving-cutting-and-marking-machines) technology. Cut out intricate designs of ghosts, bats, and pumpkins to create a shadowy effect when illuminated from within. This project is perfect for adding a touch of eerie ambience to your Halloween decor. ## **2. Laser-cut Ghostly Garland** Create a ghostly garland by laser cutting ghost shapes from white paper or cardstock. String the ghosts together with twine to make a whimsical and spooky decoration that can be hung across doorways, windows, or mantels. Kids can have fun drawing faces on the ghosts to give each one a unique personality. ## **3. Pumpkin Patch Puzzle Design a laser-cut pumpkin patch puzzle where kids can piece together different shapes to create a jack-o’-lantern. Cut out pumpkin pieces with varying features, such as eyes, noses, and mouths, allowing children to mix and match to create their custom pumpkins. This project is both fun and educational, promoting spatial awareness and problem-solving skills. ## **4. Witchy Window Clings Craft witchy window clings by laser cutting spooky silhouettes of witches, black cats, and cauldrons out of coloured vinyl or static cling material. Kids can stick these designs to windows, mirrors, or glass doors to add a touch of Halloween magic to their surroundings. Encourage children to get creative with different shapes and colours for a personalized touch. ## **5. Creepy Crawly Masks Design laser-cut masks inspired by creepy crawlies such as spiders, bats, or insects. Kids can decorate the masks with paint, glitter, or markers to bring their spooky creatures to life. These masks are perfect for Halloween costume parties or imaginative play, allowing children to transform into their favourite Halloween characters. ## **6. Spider Web Coasters Cut out intricate spider web designs on wooden or acrylic coasters using laser cutting technology. Kids can paint the coasters in Halloween colours and add small plastic spiders for a creepy touch. These spider web coasters are both practical and decorative, making them a fun addition to any Halloween gathering. ![Laser-cut masks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-49.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog articles for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums")## **7. Laser-Cut Bat Mobile** Create a laser-cut bat mobile by cutting out bat shapes from black cardstock or felt. Hang the bats from a circular frame or branch using a fishing line to create a spooky mobile that gently sways in the breeze. This project is a great way to add a touch of Halloween whimsy to any room. ## **8. Spooky Treat Boxes Design laser-cut treat boxes in the shape of coffins, pumpkins, or ghosts. Kids can assemble the boxes and fill them with Halloween treats to give to friends and family. These spooky treat boxes are not only fun to make but also make for a delightful Halloween gift that is sure to impress. ## **9. Skeleton Puzzle Create a laser-cut skeleton puzzle where kids can assemble the bones to form a complete skeleton. Cut out individual bones with interlocking pieces to challenge children’s problem-solving skills and spatial reasoning. This interactive project is both educational and entertaining, making learning about anatomy fun and engaging. ## **10. Halloween Lanterns Design laser-cut lanterns featuring Halloween motifs such as witches, ghosts, or pumpkins. Kids can assemble the lanterns by folding and securing the cut-out pieces; then place LED tea lights inside to create a warm and spooky glow. These lanterns make charming decorations that can be displayed indoors or outdoors during Halloween festivities. For more laser engraving and cutting ideas, please read [this article](https://omtechlaser.com/blogs/diy-ideas/halloween-laser-engraving-ideas). ## **Tips for Engaging Kids in Laser-Cut Halloween Projects - **Encourage Creativity**: Allow kids to experiment with different materials, colours, and designs to personalize their Halloween projects and express their creativity. - **Supervise Safely**: Ensure that children are supervised when using laser cutting machines or sharp tools to prevent accidents and promote safe crafting practices. - **Celebrate Achievements**: Celebrate kids’ accomplishments by displaying their completed projects around the home or hosting a Halloween-themed showcase for friends and family. - **Incorporate Learning**: Integrate educational elements into the projects, such as discussing the history of Halloween traditions or exploring the science behind laser cutting technology. - **Have Fun**: Most importantly, encourage kids to have fun and enjoy the process of creating spooky and spectacular Halloween crafts that they can be proud of. ## **Conclusion to Laser-cut Creations** Laser-cut Halloween projects offer a unique and exciting way for kids to explore their creativity, develop artistic skills, and celebrate the season’s magic. By engaging in hands-on crafting activities that incorporate laser-cutting technology, children can bring their Halloween visions to life in a fun and interactive way. From eerie decorations to playful costumes, these ten creative projects will inspire young minds and spark their imagination during the Halloween season. Embrace the spirit of Halloween with these spooky and spectacular laser-cut projects that will delight kids and add a touch of magic to your celebrations. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/laser-cut-halloween-fun/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/laser-cut-halloween-fun/?share=x) - **Categories:** Halloween **Tags:** halloween craft --- ### [No Father? Beautiful Father's Day Ideas for Single Mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/no-father-beautiful-fathers-day-ideas-for-single-mothers/) **Published:** August 21, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Father’s Day can be a bit of a curveball when you’re a single mum. For some of us, it’s a day that stirs up happy memories, while for others, it’s a bittersweet (and sometimes painful) reminder of the absence of a father in our kids’ lives. If you’re one of many amazing single mothers around the world, you might be navigating solo parenting, a blended family, or something in between. Whatever your situation, this piece is here to help you find Father’s Day ideas to celebrate, nurture connections, and create moments that feel right for your family, without adding overwhelm or unrealistic expectations. I still remember the first Father’s Day after my ex-husband and I split, my little ones wanted desperately to make a card for Dad, but he was never in the picture that year. We ended up spending the day at the rooftop instead, honouring their granddad and sharing stories about the good times. ## How to navigate Father’s Day with an absent dad Father’s Day can look a little different when Dad’s not around—maybe he lives far away, maybe work keeps him busy, or maybe he’s just not as involved right now. But that doesn’t mean your kids miss out. You can still celebrate positive male role models in their world, like a granddad, uncle, or even a close family friend. A simple storytime, digging out old family photos, or sharing a special meal together can help kids feel connected and loved. And if your ex is part of the picture, incorporating something as simple as helping the kids make a homemade card to take to his place can keep things positive. Don’t just focus on filling a gap, but on making the day together memorable in your own way. ## Father’s Day ideas that work for solo or blended families ![Father's Day ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-vlada-karpovich-4617316-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-vlada-karpovich-4617316 - Beanstalk Mums") Father’s Day in a [blended family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/blended-families-beautiful/ "blended family") can look a little different, and that’s perfectly okay. You can create new traditions that work for everyone. Maybe it’s a big breakfast where step-kids and biological kids all pitch in, or a relaxed afternoon doing something Dad loves, like fishing or a backyard BBQ. The heart of it is showing appreciation and making space for every child to feel included, so Dad gets celebrated in a way that reflects the whole, beautiful mix of your family. ## Simple ways to celebrate Dad when you’re doing it all Being a single mum means you often wear both hats. But celebrating Dad doesn’t have to be an epic production. Little gestures can carry big meaning. - Put together a quick photo collage of special memories - Treat him to breakfast in bed with the kids as helpers - Record a fun “Happy Father’s Day” video message - Print out a card that the kids can decorate in minutes - [Order a small gift online](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/collections/fathers-day-gifts "Order a small gift onlin") to save time and stress - Celebrate yourself (or another role model) if Dad’s not in the picture ## Fun and meaningful Father’s Day ideas kids can help plan Kids love to be part of the action, and they’ll have a good time when they can contribute. Get them involved with Father’s Day ideas they’ll be proud to share. - Make homemade handprint cards or a crafty keepsake - Create a “coupon book” full of hugs, chores, or fun activities - Bake Dad’s favourite cake, biscuits, or slice together - Work on a DIY storybook about their favourite happy memories with Dad or a role model - Draw or paint pictures of happy times with family - Plan a simple backyard picnic or walk that they can help organise Even if you’re juggling work and parenting, these projects can keep the kids occupied while building their confidence. ## Homemade gift ideas that feel personal and thoughtful Not every gift has to come from the shops (especially when they’re overpriced). You don’t need to spend a fortune on a gift to feel special. Simple, heartfelt Father’s Day ideas made at home often carry the most meaning. - Design a custom mug or T-shirt with the kids’ artwork - Create a photo book of family memories - Frame a drawing or painting that the kids are proud of - Put together a “memory jar” filled with notes of love and appreciation - Plan a cosy movie night at home as a gift of time together ## Making the day special without the pressure ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-lgh_9-324057-1005803-1167x800.jpg "Pexels-lgh_9-324057-1005803 - Beanstalk Mums") I understand how easy it is to get caught up in making Father’s Day perfect, but that can quickly depress and overwhelm you and the kids. Keep it manageable by setting realistic expectations. If you can’t celebrate on the actual day, choose another time that works and focus on enjoying it. The aim isn’t to outdo anyone, but to nurture moments of joy and connection. Whether it’s a simple bath for some well-deserved mum’s self-care while the kids play, or sharing a meal in your favourite spot, it’s about creating calm, happy spaces rather than ticking boxes. ## Navigating emotions on Father’s Day as a single mum This day can stir up all sorts of feelings, from gratitude to grief, from frustration to relief. Maybe it’s heartbreaking to see your child feel lonely, or maybe you’re still processing an abusive past. All of these feelings are valid. If your kids ask tricky questions, “*Why don’t I have a dad*?” answer honestly but gently, using age-appropriate language. You might talk about different family shapes, including single mums, blended families, and single mums who’ve built beautiful lives without a father present. Don’t forget your own self-care: a bath, a walk, or even a chat with a sibling or friend can help ground you. You’re not alone in this. ## Final Thoughts: Father’s Day ideas for single mothers There’s no one “right” way to spend Father’s Day as a single mum. You might celebrate Father’s Day with your ex, with your kids’ grandfather, or spend time creating your own traditions entirely. You might blend it into Mother’s and Father’s Day celebrations, or keep it low-key. Whatever you choose, remember this – showing love, care, and effort in your own way is more than enough. You’re doing enough, Mama. You’re doing beautifully. And you’re never alone in this. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/no-father-beautiful-fathers-day-ideas-for-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/fathers-day/no-father-beautiful-fathers-day-ideas-for-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal, Father's Day --- ### [How mums can prepare financially for Christmas right now](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mums-can-prepare-financially-christmas-right-now/) **Published:** August 25, 2025 **Author:** Bessie Hassan **Content:** How mums can prepare financially for Christmas right now. Being a single parent can have its challenges at any time of the year, but in the lead-up to the school holidays and the festive season, those challenges can seem amplified. From keeping the kids entertained and finding the *right* balance of screen time to gift buying and interstate trips, there are plenty of expenses to tackle … both before and during the holiday period. To remain in control of your finances (and your sanity) during the festive season and to[ avoid a Christmas meltdown](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/avoid-meltdown-christmas/), we’ve put together the following money-saving tips that will steer you in the right direction. ***Further reading: [Co-parenting at Christmas: How to make it work.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-at-christmas-how-to-make-it-work/?utm_source=facebookpage)*** ## How mums can prepare financially for Christmas right now ## Use budgeting apps There are so many budgeting apps at your disposal that can help you save money before the festive period begins. Whether it’s a joint expenditure app like [Splitwise](https://www.splitwise.com/) or a budget management app like Pocketbook, do some research to see what apps can help you improve your money management habits. Use these apps to set yourself a savings goal and a detailed budget plan to put yourself in good standing before the holidays. ## Suggest a Secret Santa or capped gift buying Having a single income can make present buying seem like a nightmare come the holiday period, but you can make things easier by setting yourself a budget per person. Jot down a list of the people you’re buying for and give yourself a budget per person so that you’re not tempted to overspend. It’s also a good idea to think about what you want to buy for them *before* you hit the shops. That way, you won’t be swayed by any promotions or specials you see in store. ***Download our super simple [Christmas Budget Sheet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Christmas-Budget.pdf) to get a measure on your festive spending.*** Secret Santa is another cost-effective way to give gifts during the holidays. This means you’re only responsible for buying a gift for one family member, which can significantly cut costs. Plus, they’ll be happy to receive a quality gift rather than several separate ones. ## Create a contingency fund For peace of mind and a peaceful Christmas, consider creating a contingency fund for unexpected expenses during the holiday season. While meticulous budgeting is essential, unforeseen situations can arise, such as a sudden car repair or a medical expense. Even with careful budgeting, unexpected costs such as a sudden [car repair](https://www.natradautocare.com.au/) can arise, so it’s wise to set aside a small contingency fund specifically for emergencies to keep your holiday plans on track. Having a small contingency fund set aside specifically for these surprises can prevent them from derailing your entire holiday budget. It provides financial security and peace of mind, ensuring that even unexpected challenges won’t compromise the joy and festivities of the season. A contingency fund is a smart and responsible way to safeguard your finances and make sure your holiday celebrations remain merry and stress-free. ## Watch your plastic spending to prepare financially for Christmas It might be tempting to put the bulk of your expenses on your credit card during the holidays, but this is definitely something that you should avoid. Putting everything on credit could see you clocking up an excessive interest bill, which could be difficult to repay. If you have several credit cards, think about opting for a balance transfer credit card ahead of the spending frenzy. A 0% balance transfer card means you’ll pay no interest for a given period of time, which [gives you some breathing space](https://www.finder.com.au/what-is-a-balance-transfer) when paying back your plastic debt. However, just make sure you pay down as much of the debt as you can during the interest-free period; otherwise, you’ll be stuck paying off your balance at a much higher interest rate once the promotional period ends. ## Use reward points If you’ve been religiously using your loyalty cards with every shop throughout the year, Christmas is the perfect time to reap the rewards. Head into your Flybuys or Everyday Rewards accounts and check out your balance. You might have a nice surprise that will reduce the cost of food and/or gifts this year. Basically, don’t buy anything you can use your points for, so get organised and see what’s available to you nice and early. ***Further reading: [10 Adult advent calendars for the Christmas lover in all of us.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-adult-advent-calendars/)*** ## Take advantage of early sales Taking advantage of early sales and deals in September and the months leading up to December is a great way to prepare financially for Christmas Many retailers offer significant discounts on holiday-related items such as decorations, wrapping paper, and even some gifts well before the holiday season begins. By keeping a keen eye on these early promotions, savvy shoppers can save a substantial amount of money and alleviate the financial strain that often accompanies last-minute shopping. This proactive approach not only helps in budget management but also ensures a stress-free and enjoyable holiday experience, allowing families to focus on the true spirit of the season. ## How to prepare early for Christmas ## Get savvy with online shopping Online shopping really is the way to go. Not only is it much easier than hitting the shops at Christmas, but there are heaps of choices and it’s often less expensive. However, knowing where to shop is key. Most stores have great incentives such as free shipping, percentage savings and even gift wrapping. Yay. ## Rethink your child care costs Unless you’re lucky enough to get time off work, you’ll likely need to fork out for childcare costs during the school holidays. These costs can make a huge dent in your savings, so if you can, try to think of alternatives. Whether it’s asking your parents or neighbours to look after the kids for a couple of days per week or organising for them to stay at a friend’s place, there are ways to get around this cost. ![prepare financially for Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Pexels-yankrukov-6210138-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yankrukov-6210138 - Beanstalk Mums") Asking you to prepare financially for Christmas now may seem daunting, but if you do a little groundwork early, you’ll put yourself in good standing for the festive season. Whether it’s downloading a budgeting app, pulling back on the plastic spending or finding new ways to earn reward points, there are many ways that you can prepare yourself for the holidays while keeping the littles ones happy too. ## Sell unwanted items Selling unwanted items is a great strategy to boost your Christmas budget. It’s a win-win solution that not only helps you declutter your home but also generates extra cash. Start by identifying items you no longer need or use, whether it’s clothing, electronics, furniture, or collectibles. You can sell these through various platforms like online marketplaces, garage sales, or consignment shops. The funds you raise can be directed towards your holiday expenses, helping you afford gifts, decorations, or even a special holiday treat without straining your regular budget. It’s an eco-friendly and financially savvy way to make your Christmas season more enjoyable. ## Final words: How to prepare financially for Christmas right now Preparing financially for Christmas in September, or even earlier, is a strategic move that can bring immense relief and joy during the holiday season. By implementing the practical tips outlined in this article, you can navigate the festivities with confidence and financial stability. Starting with the use of budgeting apps and setting clear savings goals lays a strong foundation. Establishing a well-thought-out gift-buying plan, whether through Secret Santa arrangements or strict per-person budgets, ensures responsible spending without sacrificing the spirit of giving. Managing credit card usage wisely, exploring reward points, and taking advantage of online shopping discounts are additional steps that can help stretch your budget further. Plus, reevaluating child care costs and finding cost-effective alternatives can save significant funds. Remember, a contingency fund acts as a safety net, shielding your holiday budget from unexpected expenses. Finally, selling unused items is a proactive way to increase your Christmas fund while decluttering your living space. By embracing these financial strategies early on, you can embrace the holiday season with enthusiasm and peace of mind, focusing on what truly matters – creating cherished memories with loved ones. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Prepare-financially-for-Christmas-1.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ![](//swagbucks.7eer.net/i/1253070/160885/799)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mums-can-prepare-financially-christmas-right-now/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mums-can-prepare-financially-christmas-right-now/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** saving, Christmas, christmas budget, Xmas, silly season --- ### [Stylish Patio Layouts for a Cozy Outdoor Retreat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/stylish-patio-layouts/) **Published:** January 6, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When the days get longer and the evenings get warmer, there are very few things better than spending time outside, enjoying a delicious meal with friends and family, and experiencing everything Mother Nature has to offer. A beautifully designed and stylish patio area will turn your home into the ultimate entertainment space. While there may be plenty to consider when designing and building your dream patio area and vital decisions to make before you can [buy outdoor and patio furniture](https://www.adairs.com.au/furniture/outdoor-furniture/), creating the perfect outdoor entertainment space will instantly transform how you experience and enjoy your home. ## Things to Consider Before jumping into designing and building your dream patio space, there are a number of key factors worth considering to ensure you create a stylish and functional space you love and enjoy for years to come. ### Stone vs. Wood One of the biggest decisions you will need to make before building an outdoor patio is whether to use natural stone or wood as the base of your design. Natural stone paving offers a timeless style that has been a popular favourite for decades. It guarantees visual interest, as each natural stone has its own unique set of features and appearance. The beauty of stone is that it ages well over time, stands up very well to the environmental elements, and looks fantastic regardless of the weather outside. It works with a wide variety of home styles and furniture, allowing you to switch up your planting and garden furniture as often as you like without having to worry about whether your overall design will complement or clash. In comparison, [wooden patio designs](https://www.thespruce.com/small-deck-ideas-7112834) are ideal for bringing a stunning organic and natural aesthetic to your space. If you are after the appearance of wood but are concerned about the maintenance and fragility that come with wooden structures exposed to natural elements, wood-effect porcelain paving may be the answer you are looking for. It offers all the same benefits of innovative paving, including being waterproof, slip-resistant, stain-resistant, frost-resistant, hard-wearing, scratch-resistant, and strong while maintaining natural wood’s beautiful and stylish appearance. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-images-72.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Patio Zones Dividing your outdoor space into segmented zones will create a multi-functional area that your entire family can enjoy separately or together. Some homeowners get carried away with the idea that they need to pave their entire garden space for maximum functionality, but this isn’t always the best option. Instead, select a portion of your back garden to remain grassed. Not only does it provide space for your children to play outside, but the natural element perfectly complements the paved patio and provides extended practicality. The remaining area can be paved with your chosen material, creating space for outdoor entertainment or simply bathing in the sunshine. ### Your Home’s Personality In order to ensure continuity and cohesion between your home and outdoor spaces, it is crucial to choose patio styles that are a reflection of your home and family life. Every house has a unique personality, and the design decisions you make when creating your dream patio space should echo it. If your home is warm, cozy, and comfortable, selecting cold and dull modern grey slabs to recreate a contemporary patio design will make it look disjointed and out of place. Choose ideas that feel natural to you and complement your personal style. ## Design Ideas Transforming your outdoor space into a stylish and functional patio is a fantastic way to enhance your home’s overall enjoyment while adding significant value to your property. ### Bohemian Paradise Explore your fun and creative side by [infusing your patio space](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/interior-design-trends/) with the unique, eclectic charm of Bohemian style. Mix and match colourful and earthy shades and fun patterns through layered textiles like rugs, throw blankets, and scatter cushions for an incredibly cozy and inviting feel. Complete your design with rustic hanging lamps, bright and bold fringed poufs, and plenty of low-maintenance hanging plants to bring the grounded and natural charm of this timeless style to life. ![stylish patio](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-images-73.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Coastal Oasis Whether you live by the ocean or simply enjoy the peaceful and relaxed nature of seaside towns, transforming your patio into a coastal oasis will provide you with a tranquil slice of paradise in the comfort of your own home. Incorporate peaceful shades of blue and white into your furniture and decor pieces, including nautical accents and finishes like rope details and driftwood. If you are lucky enough to have the ocean nearby, select sturdy, weather-resistant materials that can withstand the salty sea breeze. ### Meditteranean Escape Instantly transport yourself to the sun-drenched shores and rolling hills of the Mediterranean with an outdoor patio space inspired by the region’s timeless beauty. Choose a colour palette filled with warm, earthy tones, such as olive green, mustard yellow, burnt orange, and deep reds. Dot a variety of [terracotta pots filled with your favourite herbs](https://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/shopping-storing/herbs-spices/easiest-herbs-to-grow) and small flowers and complete the space with a showstopping centre focal point like a large tiled mosaic table and benches or a small garden fountain. ### Family-Friendly If you enjoy regularly hosting your friends and family, creating the perfect patio area for social gatherings will only amplify your next event. Choose durable and easy-to-clean furniture and materials that can withstand the perils of food and drink. Designate sections for dining, play, and lounging to allow everyone to enjoy the space together while doing exactly what they want to do. Should space allow, include features like a small outdoor kitchen and bar area and plenty of cozy seating to turn your patio into the ultimate entertainment space for your family to enjoy throughout the year. Install a built-in barbeque or small pizza oven, include a bar cart or outdoor refrigerator for drinks and snack foods, and finish the space with string lights or a fire pit. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/stylish-patio-layouts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/stylish-patio-layouts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property --- ### [Unlock Financial Literacy: Empower Your Future](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/unlock-financial-literacy-empower-your-future/) **Published:** November 12, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## The Importance of Financial Wellbeing and Literacy for Single Mums As single mums, we wear many hats—caregiver, provider, role model. And with so many responsibilities, it’s easy for financial well-being to slip to the bottom of the priority list. Yet, taking control of our finances is one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves and our families. Financial literacy isn’t just about numbers; it’s about having the confidence to make informed decisions, plan for the future, and create a sense of security. ## **Why Financial Wellbeing Matters Financial well-being is about more than just having enough money to pay the bills. It’s about understanding how to manage your income, savings, and debt in a way that gives you peace of mind. When you’re financially well, you can handle unexpected expenses, provide for your children’s needs, and even plan for future goals, like education or homeownership. It reduces stress, increases your confidence, and sets a positive example for your children. For single mums, who often juggle everything alone, the stakes are even higher. Without a second income to fall back on, being financially literate can mean the difference between just getting by and thriving. **Further Reading**: *[How To Rebuild Your Savings After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rebuild-your-savings/)* [![Financial Literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Image-2.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2) ## **The Power of Financial Literacy Financial literacy is about knowing how money works and how to make it work for you. Unfortunately, many of us weren’t taught these skills growing up. Learning how to budget effectively, manage debt, save for the future, and invest wisely can seem intimidating, but the benefits are profound. When you understand how to manage your finances, you’re able to make smarter choices—whether it’s negotiating a better deal, reducing unnecessary expenses, or building a safety net. But where do you begin? ## **Capabilite: Your Partner in Financial Empowerment We are excited to announce that members of Beanstalk can now access the **[financial wellbeing learning platform *Capabilite*,](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2)** created by Financial Therapist Jane Monica-Jones and Co-Founder of Financial Wellbeing Co (FWC). Jane shares, “We at the FWC believe that financial literacy is the foundation for financial wellbeing; that’s why we created the Capabilite, a learning platform designed to provide accessible, easy-to-understand courses that guide you through every aspect of personal finance. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to enhance your skills, *Capabilite* is a supportive space on-demand 24/7, where you can learn at your own pace. - **Budgeting Basics**: Learn how to create a realistic budget that fits your unique needs. - **Debt Management**: Get strategies to reduce and manage debt so you can focus on building your future. - **Savings**: Understand the importance of saving and how to grow your wealth over time. - **Financial Planning**: Set long-term goals for yourself and your family, and create a roadmap to achieve them. Our platform is perfect for busy mums because you can learn at your convenience, fitting lessons around your schedule. Plus, you’ll join a community of like-minded women all working toward the same goal: financial independence. ## **Take the First Step to Financial Literacy** Financial freedom starts with knowledge, and it’s never too late to start learning. By prioritising your financial well-being, you’re not only investing in your future but also setting a powerful example for your children. You’ll show them the importance of taking control of their lives and making informed decisions. **[Sign up today](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2)** and take the first step toward financial empowerment! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/unlock-financial-literacy-empower-your-future/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/unlock-financial-literacy-empower-your-future/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [How to Actually Survive Financially As A Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** August 15, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are a single mum, you already know our strongest feat — balancing parenting, work, bills, and the emotional load of doing it all on your own. Many wonder how you survive financially as a single mum, and honestly, sometimes it’s hard to explain even to yourself. Surviving financially as a single mum can feel like a never-ending uphill climb. I’ve been there. When I became a single parent, I had zero clue how I’d cover the rent, let alone buy school shoes or birthday presents for my girls. But slowly, I started to piece together a plan. With a budget, a few clever side hustles, and a whole lot of learning, I began to take control of my finances. This is a practical guide from one single mother to another. If you’re feeling stuck, low on savings, and wondering how to survive, this one’s for you. ## How to Survive Financially as a Single Mum: Practical Tips That Help ## 1. Know Your Numbers: Start With a Single Mum Budget The first step in surviving financially as a single mum is knowing exactly where your money goes. I was shocked when I added up how much I spent on takeaways and last-minute Woollies runs. Sit down and go through your bank account. Create a realistic budget that covers rent, utility bills, groceries, and transport. Don’t forget irregular expenses like [car insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/taking-a-road-trip-car-insurance-explained/) or birthdays. Once I had a clearer picture, I knew where I could cut back, and I even managed to set aside money for an emergency fund. ## 2. Tap Into Financial Support for Single Mums You’re not alone. There’s financial help out there, especially for low-income families. When I was unable to work full-time due to a lack of childcare, I applied for [Centrelink payments](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/centrelink?context=1) and the Single Parenting Payment. There are also other forms of financial support available—rent assistance, childcare subsidies, and school fee relief. Reach out to a financial advisor or your local council. Sometimes you just need to know what to ask for to get the help you deserve. ![survive financially as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-shvets-production-7176319-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shvets-production-7176319 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Find a Side Hustle on Online Platforms That Works Around Parenting When I needed extra money but couldn’t take on a 9-to-5 job, I turned to a side hustle. My passion for crafting became my little Etsy store, which I ran in the evenings after the kids were asleep. Even if crafting’s not your thing, there are online platforms for tutoring, freelance work, or even selling second-hand goods. You only need a few hours a week to build a portfolio and bring in some additional cash. ## 4. My Fave Tip to Survive Financially as a Single Mum: Budget Like a Boss I used to avoid my finances like the COVID-19 virus. But being a single parent meant I had to grow up fast. A solid budget gave me something I could rely on, especially when my cash flow got tight. Use free budget apps or just a spreadsheet. I include everything, right down to kids’ haircuts and school photo days. When you track your spending regularly, it’s easier to spot leaks and stay on top of your financial situation. ## 5. Prioritise Needs Over Wants (Even When It’s Hard) As a single mum, saying “no” to things, birthday parties, new toys, dinners out, is one of the hardest parts. But to survive financially, I had to prioritise. Now, we still have fun, but we do it on the cheap: free events, park picnics, and second-hand treasures from the op shop. I’ve learned that kids don’t remember what you spent. What they remember is the time you get to spend with them; as the younger generations would say, the “core memories.” ## Bonus Tips: How to Survive Financially as a Single Mum ## Get Smart with Credit and Loans If you are a single mother, chances are you’ve had to rely on credit cards or loans at some point. I’ve been there too, and the stress of repayments can feel like a weight on your shoulders. If you’re stuck in debt, talk to a financial advisor or your bank about options like [personal money loans](https://www.accreditloan.com/) to consolidate, reduce interest, or pause payments temporarily. Be honest about your financial difficulties. There’s no shame in asking for a hand when you’re doing it all on your own. ## Accept Help (And Ditch the Guilt) This one’s big. I used to feel embarrassed asking for help from friends, family, or my ex-partner. But you are a single person doing the job of two. Accepting help isn’t a weakness but a smart survival move. Whether it’s a friend offering to babysit, your parents giving a lump sum, or your ex paying alimony, take what’s offered. Every bit of support lets you catch your breath, and that’s essential when you’re trying to survive financially as a single mum. ## FAQs: How to Survive Financially as a Single Mum ## 1. How do I Maximise What I’ve Got Even If It’s Not Much? One of my biggest mindset shifts was learning to work with what I had. On a low income, I had to get creative. I changed utility providers, negotiated with my landlord, and shopped smarter. Meal planning and batch cooking also helped stretch my budget. I even sold a few unused items online for extra cash and put the earnings into our savings. I came to realise that little wins count when you’re living off one income. ![survive financially as single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-davidpeterson-4359064-892x800.jpg "Pexels-davidpeterson-4359064 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. How Do I Make Room for Savings? When I first started saving, I could only manage $10 a week. But over time, I built a small emergency fund, and that gave me so much peace of mind. Now, I try to set aside whatever I can, even if it’s just spare change. Automate your savings if possible. That way, the money’s gone before you can spend it. Even small contributions add up, and they’re a lifesaver when unexpected costs pop up (like that sudden school camp or broken laptop). ## 3. Can I Rebuild My Career on My Terms and Still Survive Financially as a Single Mum? After getting divorced, I had to leave my old job. But over time, I found a part-time role that worked with my childcare schedule. Eventually, that turned into a full-time opportunity. If you’re looking to earn more, consider upskilling or looking for a new job that fits around your kids. There are online courses, free webinars, and even podcasts tailored to working mums. Don’t be afraid to aim high, as your circumstances don’t define your potential. ## Final Thoughts: How Do Single Mothers Survive Financially? If you’re a single mother staring down the bills and wondering how you’ll get through another week, I see you. It’s not easy, and the emotional toll can weigh heavier than the financial issues. But I promise you, there’s hope. Little steps matter. A better budget, a well-timed part-time job, or a simple conversation with a financial advisor can spark real change. I’ve made it work with late nights, mismatched socks, and coffee-fuelled spreadsheets, and you can too. You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to keep going. Because you’re a single parent, and that already makes you incredibly strong. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [The Rising Cost of Living in 2025: Everything You Need to Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rising-cost-of-living/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** The cost of everyday essentials has crept up again. For single-income families like ours who live on a tight budget, this rising cost of living feels like a punch to the wallet. We need to stretch our paychecks and pay rent while trying to keep the fridge stocked. It’s no wonder so many of us are feeling the pressure. I went out for a grocery run today and was caught off guard by the prices! I only bought milk, bread, sugar, yoghurt, and a tray of eggs, but somehow my total was higher than usual. And don’t even get me started on the power bill last month! Outrageous doesn’t even begin to cover it. If you’ve also found yourself holding your breath at the checkout, there are ways to stay ahead. This guide is packed with practical tips to hopefully ease a bit of the pressure on your day-to-day spending. Let’s dive in. ## **FAQs about the Cost to Live in Australia in 2025** The Australian Bureau of Statistics regularly releases updates to selected living cost indices, and the media is constantly buzzing about inflation. The rising cost of living is something almost every household feels right now. But just because everything costs more doesn’t always mean we’re living better. ## **What Is the Difference between Cost of Living and Standard of Living?** The cost of living refers to how much you need to get by, such as rent, groceries, and bills. This year, we’re seeing a higher cost of living due to ongoing inflation, increased interest rates, and global factors such as supply chain disruptions. Throw in mortgage repayments rising thanks to a stubbornly high cash rate, and it’s no surprise that many Australians are struggling to make ends meet. The standard of living is how comfortable or enjoyable life is. Are you getting time off? Understanding the difference between what things cost and how you actually live can help you feel a little less stressed about that next power bill. ## **How Much Has the Cost of Living in Australia Increased Since 2024?** ![rising cost of living](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-cristian-rojas-8446845-2-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-cristian-rojas-8446845 - Beanstalk Mums") According to the [Australian Bureau of Statistics](https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/cpi-rose-02-september-2024-quarter?utm_source=chatgpt.com), the cost of living in Australia jumped sharply between 2024 and 2025. The CPI rose again in the September 2024 quarter, mainly due to increases in utility costs, mortgage interest charges, and the price of petrol. The average cost of living for a typical employee household is now significantly higher than it was in 2023, adding more pressure on household budgets. ## **How Does the Consumer Price Index (CPI) Affect the Rising Cost of Living?** The consumer price index (CPI) tracks the price index of everyday goods and services, including groceries, rent, and utility bills. It’s a key way economists measure inflation. If the CPI goes up, that’s a sign the cost of essentials is climbing, and that’s exactly what’s been happening. In the [June 2024 data](https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/cpi-rose-10-june-2024-quarter?utm_source=chatgpt.com), the CPI saw another bump, pointing to ongoing rising inflation in Australia. ## **Why Interest Rates and Mortgage Costs Keep Rising** The Reserve Bank of Australia has been raising interest rates to try and slow down inflation, but it’s making life tougher for anyone with a mortgage, especially on a variable rate. Mortgage interest charges have been one of the biggest contributors to the cost of living hike in the past year. For single mums with a home loan, the rising costs can feel relentless, and budgeting around them is no easy task. ## **Is Rent in Australia Also Going Up?** ![rising cost of living](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5900184-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-5900184 - Beanstalk Mums") Yes, rent in Australia continues to climb. The housing market remains tight, and housing affordability is a growing concern. For those not paying a mortgage, housing costs are still painful. ## **What’s the Role of Inflation in the Rising Cost of Living?** Inflation is what happens when prices rise across the board, reducing the purchasing power of your income. It’s one of the core drivers of the cost of living increases we’re seeing. Global factors, like Russia’s invasion of Ukraine and lingering supply chain issues, have contributed to rising food, fuel, and utility prices. And unfortunately, rising inflation doesn’t look to be easing anytime soon. ## **Average Cost of Living: What Are We Paying Now?** Let’s talk real numbers. The average cost of living for a small household in 2025 now includes utility bills upwards of $300 a month, weekly grocery costs nearing $200, and childcare fees that continue to rise despite some subsidy support from the Australian government. That’s the reason why the current cost of living continues to bite, especially for families living on a single income. ## **How Does Wage Growth Stack Up Against the Rising Cost of Living?** Here’s the kicker: wage growth hasn’t kept pace with rising cost of living pressures. While some industries have seen modest increases in income, most households are still finding it harder to stretch their paycheques across the month. The CPI keeps climbing, but wages? Not so much. This gap is a key reason why so many people are facing financial hardship right now. ## **What Can You Do to Cope with the Rising Cost of Living?** The silver lining is, you’re not powerless. Here are five easy steps to help you stay on top of the cost of living without sacrificing your sanity. ### **1. Track Every Dollar** It doesn’t have to be fancy. Just jot down what’s coming in and what’s going out, like rent, groceries, school stuff, the lot. Apps like [MoneySmart’s Budget Planner](https://moneysmart.gov.au/budgeting/budget-planner) or even a notebook can help. Once you see where your money’s going, it’s easier to spot what can be trimmed. ### **2. Shop Smart and Plan Ahead** Write out what you’re cooking for the week and shop with a list. How to [save money on groceries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/save-money-on-groceries/)? Look for specials, buy in bulk when it makes sense, and consider swapping to home-brand items (they’re often just as good!). ![rising cost of living](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-3872406-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-3872406 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **3. Claim What You’re Entitled To** Check what support you’re eligible for, such as Centrelink payments, childcare subsidies, rent assistance, or energy bill relief. Services Australia and your local council are good places to start. ### **4. Cut Back Without Missing Out** Entertainment doesn’t have to cost a fortune. Free local events, library storytimes, beach days, or movie nights at home can still be fun. ### **5. Build a Rainy Day Buffer (Slowly)** Even if it’s just $5 a week, tuck something away when you can. Use a separate account so you’re not tempted to touch it. That little cushion can be a lifesaver when the unexpected pops up. ## **Final Thoughts: The Rising Cost of Living in Australia** I know how exhausting it is trying to do it all when living cost pressures feel like they’re coming from every direction. I see you, Mama. Budgeting apps, cost-sharing arrangements, and utility comparison tools can all help. Some banks even offer relief on mortgage payments or switch you to a better variable rate. If you’re struggling to make ends meet, reach out to local support networks. Sometimes even a small change, like meal prepping or reviewing your energy plan, can make a difference. You’re not alone in this. Many of us are walking this same tightrope, juggling rising mortgage bills, childcare, and the ever-changing cost of essentials. Be kind to yourself, and remember, even small wins count. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Cost-of-living.png "Cost of living - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rising-cost-of-living/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rising-cost-of-living/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** saving, budget, money, finance --- ### [Maximising Kitchen Space: Under-Bench Fridges Benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/) **Published:** October 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In today’s fast-paced food scene, every inch of kitchen space counts. Whether you’re running a bustling restaurant, cosy café or busy catering business, finding the right setup can make all the difference. That’s where under-bench fridges come in — clever, space-saving solutions that help you stay organised and efficient without compromising on food safety or performance. Commercial refrigeration has come a long way. While walk-in coolers and large upright units still have their place, they can quickly eat up valuable space. Under-bench options, on the other hand, tuck neatly beneath prep areas — keeping ingredients close at hand and your kitchen workflow running smoothly. ## The Under-Bench Fridge Revolution: Making Every Square Metre Count In commercial kitchens, every square metre matters — space equals productivity and profit. Traditional refrigeration can hog valuable real estate, leaving awkward gaps and wasted corners. Under-bench fridges flip that on its head, turning unused space beneath prep areas into handy chilled storage. By sliding neatly under your counters, these clever units make the most of both horizontal and vertical space. You’ll have ingredients within arm’s reach, a smoother workflow, and more room for staff and equipment to move freely. More and more kitchen planners are embracing built-in refrigeration that blends seamlessly with other essentials. It’s a smart, flexible setup that adapts as menus or seasons change — ideal for modern venues that need to stay nimble and efficient. ## Workflow Enhancement: Bringing Under-Bench Fridges into the Action A smooth kitchen workflow comes down to one thing — keeping movement to a minimum and productivity at its peak. In many kitchens, chefs waste precious time darting between prep benches and distant fridges. That’s where under-bench fridges change the game — keeping chilled ingredients right where the action happens. It’s not just about convenience. Having everything within arm’s reach boosts speed, focus, and consistency, especially when service is in full swing. Less time chasing ingredients means more time perfecting each dish. ![under-bench fridges](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-anabella-castro-3934663-6264406-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-anabella-castro-3934663-6264406 - Beanstalk Mums") Many modern kitchens now use a “zone” layout — with specific areas for prep, cooking, or plating. Under-bench refrigeration fits perfectly into this setup, creating compact workstations that are efficient, hygienic, and tailored to each task. There’s also a hidden bonus: comfort. Reducing the need to walk back and forth cuts down on fatigue and strain, helping chefs stay focused and comfortable through even the busiest shifts. It’s a simple switch that pays off in both performance and well-being. ## Food Safety Excellence: Temperature Control Where It Matters Food safety rules keep getting stricter, especially when it comes to consistent temperature control from storage to serving. Traditional setups often mean food spends time out of the fridge during prep — small temperature dips that can quickly add up to bigger risks. [Under-bench fridges](https://artisanfoodequipment.com.au/for-sale/fridges/under-bench-fridges/) solve that by keeping ingredients chilled and safe right where they’re used. Many models now include digital displays, alerts, and smart temperature monitoring, so chefs can easily keep tabs on conditions and act before problems arise. Because they’re compact, under-bench units also hold temperature more evenly than large fridges. They cool down faster, recover quickly after the door’s opened, and are perfect for delicate ingredients that need steady conditions to stay fresh. The best professional models go even further, using advanced insulation and energy-efficient tech to maintain multiple temperature zones in one sleek system. The result? Fewer bulky units, lower energy use, and total confidence that every ingredient stays at its best. ## Versatility and Customisation: Accommodating Specialised Requirements Today’s food service industry is all about flexibility — and your equipment should keep up. Instead of forcing kitchens to adapt to bulky, one-size-fits-all units, under-bench fridges now offer custom options to suit how each team works. Door design alone can make a big difference. Choose solid stainless steel for top-notch energy efficiency, glass doors for quick visual checks without letting the cold escape, or a combo of both for the best of both worlds. ![under-bench fridges](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Under-bench-1200x800.jpg "Under-bench - Beanstalk Mums") Inside, things are just as adaptable. Adjustable shelving makes it easy to store everything from bulk containers to delicate ingredients, and many newer models let you reconfigure layouts in seconds — perfect for changing menus, seasonal produce, or catering gigs. And if you’re looking for a little luxury, modern under-bench fridges have that covered too. Features like humidity control, LED lighting, and smart inventory systems bring high-end functionality to compact spaces — proving that small doesn’t mean simple. ## Energy efficiency and running costs of under-bench fridges With power prices climbing and sustainability front of mind, energy efficiency is now a must for any modern kitchen. Today’s under-bench fridges use smart tech to keep food perfectly chilled while using far less energy than older models. Variable-speed compressors automatically adjust cooling power to match demand — saving energy during quieter hours and ramping up only when needed. Add in LED lighting (which gives great visibility with minimal heat output), and you’ve got a fridge that’s both eco-friendly and cost-effective. Most premium models are Energy Star certified too, giving operators peace of mind that their investment meets strict efficiency standards — and may even qualify for rebates or tax perks. ## Installation and setup of under-bench fridges Installing under-bench refrigeration isn’t just about sliding it under the counter. Layout, ventilation, and electrical setup all matter for long-term performance. Professional installation ensures your unit runs efficiently and complies with local building and health regulations. Good airflow is key since these compact fridges need space to release heat. The latest designs feature quiet, high-performance fans and efficient heat exchange systems that keep things cool without disrupting kitchen chatter. Electrical needs can differ depending on features and size, so working with a licensed electrician is the safest way to ensure reliable operation and easy maintenance down the track. ## Getting the most from your investment Adding under-bench refrigeration is one of the smartest ways to boost efficiency, safety, and space in a busy kitchen. By keeping chilled storage close to where food’s prepared, you’ll cut wasted steps and streamline workflow — all while protecting ingredient quality. The key is choosing the right units for your kitchen’s needs and making sure they’re properly integrated. Consulting an expert before you buy can help you find the best setup for your space and budget. While quality units come at a cost, they pay for themselves through better performance, lower energy bills, and a smoother, more productive [kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/expert-tips-time-money-kitchen/). In today’s tight, high-pressure environments, under-bench fridges are a simple way to make every square metre — and every dollar — work harder. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/maximising-kitchen-space-under-bench-fridges-benefits/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Is Driving Barefoot Actually Against the Law in Australia?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-driving-barefoot-actually-against-the-law-in-australia/) **Published:** September 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Picture this: it’s Monday morning, your coffee is in hand, kids are still half-asleep and strapped in, and shoes are still missing from the equation. Do you dash off barefoot or take the extra minute to put them on? Have you thought about whether driving barefoot is actually legal here in Australia? It’s one of those small, seemingly irrelevant things, but it can make you pause, especially when juggling school drop-offs, groceries, and the chaos of everyday life. It’s easy to see why this question is often asked: [Is it illegal to drive barefoot](https://www.right2drive.com.au/articles/is-it-illegal-to-drive-barefoot-in-australia) in Australia? On some days, slipping on shoes feels impossible, and barefoot driving seems like a harmless shortcut. However, there is that nagging thought at the back of the mind. You get plagued with thoughts of whether this choice will land you in trouble or, worse, put your family at risk. This post aims to break down what the laws say clearly. We will also share some tips that keep busy mums safe on the road, minus the extra trouble in the mornings. ## Understanding Traffic Laws [Traffic laws in Australia](https://www.ntc.gov.au/laws-and-regulations/australian-road-rules) are there for a reason: keeping everyone safe on the road. They cover speed limits, road rules, and even car maintenance. But here’s the thing: the law isn’t as strict as you might think when it comes to footwear. Each state and territory has slight differences, but the main message is simple: you must always control your car. In other words, the law doesn’t technically forbid driving barefoot, whether your little one just stomped mud all over your shoes or you’re running late from school drop-off. The emphasis is on safety and control. ## Barefoot Driving: Legal or Not? The good news is that driving barefoot is not illegal anywhere in Australia. There isn’t a rule that says you must wear shoes while behind the wheel. What matters is that you can operate your car safely. That said, being barefoot does place more responsibility on you. Slip-ups or literal slips can happen if your foot slides on the pedal. So, while the law allows it, it’s still a choice with consequences if things go wrong. ## Safety Considerations Think about it: shoes give grip and protect your feet. Driving barefoot removes that little barrier. Wet pedals, sweaty feet, or a sudden emergency stop could become a minor disaster if your foot slips. And let’s be honest, accidents aren’t the only worry. Imagine stepping on a hot pedal in summer or brushing against the gear stick. Shoes save you from minor injuries that could really ruin your day. So, barefoot may feel freeing, but it isn’t risk-free. ![driving barefoot](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-peterfazekas-1386649-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-peterfazekas-1386649 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Expert Opinions and Recommendations Driving instructors and safety experts usually advise against going shoeless. Lightweight, flexible shoes are ideal; they let you move quickly and give you traction. Heavy boots or high heels? Not so much. Some mums I know even keep a spare pair of sneakers in the car. A quick swap at the [school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/10-back-to-school-tips-for-separated-and-divorced-parents/) run eliminates the risk of slipping, and you still get that barefoot comfort at home. Little hacks like these make daily life easier while keeping safety in check. ## Public Perception Opinions on barefoot driving are all over the place. Some people think it’s perfectly fine, while others cringe. A lot of the debate online comes down to culture, habits, and personal comfort. At the end of the day, most people’s genuine concern is control. Can you react fast enough if something unexpected happens on the road? That’s what matters, not whether your feet are technically clad. ## Insurance Implications Most insurance policies won’t penalise you for barefoot driving. But there’s a catch. If an accident happens and the insurer believes a lack of proper footwear contributed, it could complicate a claim. The key takeaway? Be responsible. Make sure your driving is steady, deliberate, and safe—whatever’s on your feet. ## Conclusion: Is Driving Barefoot Actually Against the Law in Australia? So, is driving barefoot illegal in Australia? Nope. But is it always wise? That’s a different story. Shoes give you grip, protection, and confidence—things that can make all the difference if something unexpected happens on the road. Here’s a handy tip for busy mums: stash a comfy, easy-to-wear pair of shoes in the car. That way, even leaving the house barefoot, you can slip on something safe when you’re at the wheel. This simple change can lower stress and keep you in control without adding extra hassle to your day. At the end of the day, the law might give you some leeway, but being prepared is what protects your peace of mind. And any mum knows—peace of mind is gold, especially with school runs, errands, and everything else life throws your way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-driving-barefoot-actually-against-the-law-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/is-driving-barefoot-actually-against-the-law-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Travel --- ### [How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-warm-in-winter-without-heater/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As a single mum raising a lively three-year-old, I understand the struggles of how to keep warm in winter without heater, especially when the winter months hit hard and the heating costs soar. June brings colder nights and higher electricity bills, and using a heater around the clock just isn’t realistic for many of us. If you’ve been wondering the same, this article is for you. These easy ways will help you stay cozy indoors, reduce your heating bill, and still make your home feel toasty. Whether you’re working from home, wrangling toddlers, or just trying to stay snug without a central heating system, these practical tips can make a real difference. ***Further Reading: [How to avoid energy bill shock this winter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/avoid-energy-bill-shock-this-winter/)*** ## How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater ## Close off unused rooms A great way to stay warm without a heating system is by containing the warm air to one room. Keep bedroom doors shut during the day and avoid leaving any door open. This simple trick helps to keep the heat where you need it, minimising heat loss throughout your home. ## Layer your clothing smartly Your first line of defence in keeping your body warm is what you wear. Thermal undergarments, flannel pyjamas, scarves, and even gloves can help you stay warm without having to turn on the heater. I always keep a thick jumper and warm slipper socks handy to keep my feet warm around the house. ## Use rugs to trap heat Hard floors may look stylish, but they steal warmth fast. Adding a rug—even a small one—on tile or timber floors will help to warm your home and keep your feet from freezing. It’s one of the most affordable ways to keep your home warm in winter. ## Insulate your windows and doors Insulating your home can be as simple as using bubble wrap or plastic film on windows and weather strips under doors. These hacks avoid heat loss and retain heat, making your rooms feel warmer without the need for a space heater or other source of heat. ## Invest in thermal curtains Thermal or blackout curtain panels can keep the warm air in and the cold weather out. Open them during sunny hours, then close them at dusk to stop heat escaping. This easy change can drastically reduce heating costs and help you keep warm without using extra electricity. ![How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-18.png "In article image 18 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater (cont.) ## Drink warm beverages often A steady supply of warm drinks like tea, coffee, or hot water with ginger or lemon is a soothing way to stay warm. On cold days, sipping from a warm mug helps keep your body warm and lifts your spirits too. ## Hot water bottles are gold A hot water bottle is a low-cost miracle during colder months. Place it under the blanket at night or tuck it near your back when sitting. If you don’t have one, a tightly sealed boiling water bottle wrapped in a towel does the trick. ## Heated throws or electric blankets When used sparingly, a heated throw or electric blanket can keep you warm for hours using less power than a gas heating system or reverse-cycle unit. Use an electric blanket to pre-warm your bed, then switch it off when you sleep. [Check out affordable electric blankets on Best Deals AU](https://www.bestdealsau.com/electric-blanket-queen-size)! ## Block draughts Even the smallest gap can let cold air conditioning-like breezes in. Use door snakes or rolled towels to prevent heat loss under doors. This helps keep your home warm and reduces the temptation to reach for the heater. ## Layer your bedding Thicker quilts, flannel sheets, and fleece blankets all contribute to better warmth at night. The trick is in the layers—each one helps retain heat and keep you warm without a costly heating system. ## How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater (cont.) ## Cook warm meals at home Cooking warms both body and room. A bubbling pot of stew or a tray of baked veg not only provides a nourishing meal but also releases hot air into your kitchen, helping you stay warm during the meal prep and beyond. ## Move around frequently When you’re cold, it’s tempting to stay curled up. But light movement—tidying up, dancing with your toddler, or even marching in place—will raise your body temperature and help warm your core. A little activity goes a long way in keeping your and your child’s bodies warm. ## Keep your feet warm Never underestimate the power of warm feet. I always warm my feet with fuzzy slipper socks or even wool insoles in my house shoes. Cold toes are often the first sign that you’re losing body heat, so look after them! ## Sleep in one room Sleeping in the warmest room without drafts can help you keep your family warm without needing a central heating system. Sharing a bed with your little one (on the coldest days) safely can also make use of shared body heat. ## Reverse your ceiling fan Yes, use a ceiling fan in winter! If it has a reverse switch, set it to spin clockwise on low. This will push the warm air trapped near the ceiling back down, helping to heat better and keep your room warm in winter. ![How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-17.png "In article image 17 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater (cont.) ## Take warm showers before bed A hot shower boosts your body temperature before tucking in, making it easier to stay toasty under your covers. It’s a perfect nighttime ritual to stay comfortable with no need for a heating system. ## Use door snakes or rolled towels This old-school trick is still one of the best hacks to keep a room warm. A simple rolled towel can stop heat from slipping away and help to keep the warm air circulating. ## Snuggle under layers during the day Even if you’re just watching TV or working from home, layering with throws and doonas is one of the cosiest ways to warm up. Keep them close to your desk or sofa so you can stay comfortable on cold days. ## Let in the sun during the day The sun is the cheapest source of heat around. Let it shine in during the day to help warm your space naturally. Once the sun goes down, shut everything tight to retain heat. ## Focus on hands and feet These extremities lose body heat fast. Keep them covered with gloves, socks, or even fingerless gloves when typing. Hands and feet that are warm tell the brain you’re still warm this winter even if the room is still a little chilly. ## Conclusion: How To Keep Warm in Winter Without Heater Learning how to keep your home warm without heater can seem overwhelming at first, especially if you’re juggling parenting, work, and a tight budget. But there are many ways to warm your space and help you be warm that don’t rely on expensive electricity or gas. From sipping warm drinks to layering up and plugging drafts, each small step adds up. These tips to keep your family warm this winter are all about comfort, creativity, and care—values we single mums already live by every day. So pull on those slippers, cuddle up with your little one, and let these hacks keep you warm, minus the worries of high electric bills. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-warm-in-winter-without-heater/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-keep-warm-in-winter-without-heater/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Why Some Backyards Look Stylish While Others Look Thrown Together](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-some-backyards-look-stylish-while-others-look-thrown-together/) **Published:** September 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** We’ve all seen it — some backyards feel like an extension of the home, seamlessly blending comfort, style, and functionality, while others look more like a mismatched collection of odds and ends. What makes the difference? It often comes down to intentional choices rather than budget or space. One of the biggest style markers is furniture. A thoughtfully chosen dining set, for instance, makes a huge difference. Investing in pieces like [designer outdoor dining chairs Australia](https://www.spacefurniture.com.au/collections/outdoor-dining-chairs) can instantly elevate a space, creating a sense of cohesion and polish. In contrast, mixing random, weather-worn items can make even a large backyard look cluttered and unfinished. The good news is, you don’t need to completely renovate to create a backyard that feels stylish. A few simple decisions about layout, colour, and key pieces can transform the atmosphere of your outdoor space. ## **Start with a Plan** Stylish outdoor areas rarely happen by accident. Before adding furniture or plants, think about how you’ll actually use the space day to day. Do you plan to host dinner parties under the stars, relax with a book on a Sunday afternoon, or let the kids run around while you keep an eye on them? When I first set up my backyard, I made the mistake of buying bits and pieces I liked without a plan — the result was clutter, not comfort. Defining the purpose first will guide your choices and stop your backyard from becoming a catch-all. ## **Create Zones** Breaking your backyard into clear, functional areas makes even small spaces feel thoughtful and intentional. A defined dining area, a cosy lounge spot, and a corner for greenery or a fire pit all work together to create a natural flow — something a skilled [landscaping company](https://www.habitatlandscape.com.au/ "landscaping company") can design to make your space feel intentional rather than “thrown together.” When I first rearranged my backyard, I used an outdoor rug to anchor the dining table and some potted plants to frame the lounge chairs. Suddenly, it felt like we had different ‘rooms’ outdoors, each with its own purpose, which made the whole space feel bigger and more usable. ## **Choose Quality Over Quantity** It’s tempting to fill your outdoor area with lots of bits and pieces, but less is usually more. Two or three well-chosen, durable pieces will always outshine a collection of [mismatched furniture](https://www.homesandgardens.com/interior-design/why-you-should-stop-matching-your-furniture). Quality materials like timber, rattan, or weather-resistant metal not only look better but also last longer in the elements. I once bought a stack of cheap chairs for gatherings, and within a year, most had cracked or faded. Switching to fewer, sturdier pieces transformed the space — not only did it look more stylish, but I no longer had to replace things constantly. Investing upfront really pays off. ![backyards](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Pexels-marianne-67058-238377-1200x708.jpg "Pexels-marianne-67058-238377 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Cohesive Colour Choices** Colour is what ties your whole outdoor space together. Whether you prefer calming neutrals, bold pops of colour, or natural wood finishes, sticking to a consistent palette creates harmony. It helps different elements — from cushions to plant pots — feel like they belong. When I first styled my patio, I made the mistake of mixing too many colours and patterns, and it felt chaotic rather than inviting. Once I pared it back to soft greys and natural tones with a splash of greenery, everything clicked. Suddenly, the space felt cohesive, relaxed, and much more like a place I wanted to spend time in. ## **Lighting Sets the Mood** Good lighting is one of those details that’s easy to overlook but makes all the difference. Soft fairy lights strung overhead, lanterns on an [outdoor table](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-commercial-outdoor-tables-that-we-love/), or subtle garden lighting tucked into corners can instantly transform your backyard into an inviting space. It’s not just about being able to see at night — it’s about creating an atmosphere that feels warm and welcoming. Lighting adds ambience, highlights your favourite features, and turns even the simplest evening outdoors into something memorable. With the right glow, your backyard can feel magical long after the sun goes down. ## **Greenery Adds Life** Plants bring more than beauty; they breathe life into an outdoor space. A mix of planters, garden beds, and hanging pots adds depth, colour, and softness that balances out hard furniture lines. Greenery can frame your seating areas, create privacy, and even give your backyard that lush, retreat-like feel. The best part is that it doesn’t take much — even a few well-chosen pots placed thoughtfully around your space can shift the whole atmosphere. What was once plain or bare suddenly feels more welcoming, relaxed, and connected to nature, making your backyard a place you’ll want to linger in. ## **Keep It Comfortable** Style is wonderful, but comfort is what makes you stay. Outdoor cushions, throws, and weather-friendly rugs don’t just add colour and texture; they invite you to sink in and relax. When your backyard feels cosy, it naturally becomes an extension of your home — somewhere you actually want to spend time rather than just admire from a distance. Comfort encourages guests to linger longer, makes family time more enjoyable, and ensures the space works for you every day. By layering in warmth and softness, you transform your backyard from simply styled to genuinely lived-in and loved. ## **The Balance Between Personal and Practical Backyards** Finally, add details that reflect your personality. A bold umbrella, patterned cushions, or artwork designed for outdoor walls can make your backyard feel unique without overwhelming the space. The trick is to balance those personal touches with practical choices, so the area stays both stylish and usable. A [stylish backyard](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsdMKWfH000) isn’t about chasing perfection. It’s about making thoughtful choices that create a space where everything feels like it belongs. With a few deliberate updates — and a focus on quality, comfort, and cohesion — you can take your outdoor area from “thrown together” to effortlessly stylish. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-some-backyards-look-stylish-while-others-look-thrown-together/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-some-backyards-look-stylish-while-others-look-thrown-together/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Best High-Paying Jobs With Flexible Hours For Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/) **Published:** April 13, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Jobs with flexible hours — aren’t they a dream come true for single mums like us? Because let’s face it, being a single parent isn’t easy. You’re juggling parenting responsibilities, the household, and your career, often all at once. I’ve been there myself, scouring the internet late at night for flexible work arrangements so I can provide for my little ones without sacrificing precious moments with them. That’s why I’m thrilled to share this list of the top jobs for single mamas. If you’re seeking flexibility, remote work options, and a steady income, you’ll find plenty of inspiration here. These career options are really achievable (believe me!). They will let you create a flexible schedule around daycare pickups, your child’s school events, and those unexpected sick days. Ready to explore your next career move? Let’s dive in! ## **Top Jobs with Flexible Hours for Single Parents** ## **Work-From-Home Pick: Virtual Assistant (VA) Role** ![Work-From-Home Pick: Virtual Assistant (VA) Role | jobs with flexible hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Virtual_assi_stant-1200x800.png "Virtual_assi_stant - Beanstalk Mums") As a VA, you’ll enjoy the perfect mix of administrative support and flexibility. Tasks typically include managing emails, scheduling appointments, and sometimes even recruitment tasks, all done remotely. I tried my hand as a VA early in my single-parent journey and loved how easily it fit around my parenting schedule. The average salary for VA roles is competitive. So it’s a reliable choice if you’re looking to start earning quickly. It also offers plenty of room for growth. Many single mamas have built successful careers specialising in different industries. ## **Graphic Designer (One of the Most Flexible Jobs)** Have an eye for design? Then becoming a graphic designer is for you! It offers flexibility, creativity, and, of course, the opportunity to work remotely. Graphic design lets you work from home entirely, which means more time spent with your kiddos and less commuting. Marketing agencies and even nonprofit organisations often need graphic designers. If you’re new to graphic design, [online courses](https://www.udemy.com/topic/graphic-design/) or a diploma can help you get certified and start earning a competitive salary quickly. ## **Bookkeeper** Bookkeeping is an excellent career option if you love numbers and organisational tasks. It’s home-based and offers financial stability, so there are many opportunities for permanent positions. Plus, the pay is competitive! Flexible jobs in bookkeeping often include opportunities to work remotely, so you’ll get work-life balance (hurrah!). Getting started usually involves online courses to specialise and gain experience. Yes, I know that at the beginning it may seem like a lot of effort, but these can significantly boost your job search success. ## **Data Entry Jobs** Data entry is one of the most straightforward remote work options I know. It’s perfect if you’re just [returning to the workforce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/return-work-cant-find-work/). It requires minimal previous work experience and can easily be done part-time, fitting around your childcare duties. The salary might start modestly, but with experience, data entry jobs can lead to administrative support or virtual assistant roles. That means bigger income potential! For many job seekers, this role is the perfect stepping stone to landing that dream work-from-home gig. ## **Part-time Jobs With Flexible Hours (cont.)** ## **Freelance Writing** If you enjoy telling your kids made-up stories, now’s the time to put those creative muscles to work! Now you reach an audience bigger than just your little listeners! From blogging to creating web content, writers enjoy a flexible schedule. It also allows you to work from anywhere, providing flexibility around parent-teacher meetings and grocery shopping. The salary varies greatly, but there’s significant room for growth, especially if you specialise in a niche. ## **Childcare Provider** ![Childcare Provider | jobs with flexible hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Chilcare-provider-1200x800.png "Chilcare provider - Beanstalk Mums") Offering childcare services at your own home? Why the heck not?! It’s a clever solution for juggling work and parenting, especially handy when you’ve got little ones running around! This role is family-friendly by nature. You’ll provide care on-site, so you get to earn and save on the cost of separate daycare arrangements. How practical is that? Just make sure you check the necessary certifications required in various locations, as regulations can differ across Australia. ## **Online Project Management** Project management is a high-paying and rewarding job suitable for single mamas with organisational skills. Managing your team, multi-tasking, and hitting deadlines can all be done from your couch (or favourite café). These roles often have competitive pay and plenty of job openings across various industries. Courses like these can boost your skills and make you stand out to employers, helping you land that remote job even faster. ## **Flexible Work for Single Mums (cont.)** ## **Technician Roles** Who said mummies can’t be tech-savvy?! Remote technician jobs are becoming increasingly popular. If you’re a techy gal, this job allows you to work from home while providing essential tech support to businesses or individuals. These positions usually offer competitive salaries and the flexibility to manage your hours and remote work arrangements effectively. Online training courses are widely available to get certified and enter this booming job market. ## **Beauty Industry: Freelance Makeup Artist** ![Beauty Industry: Freelance Makeup Artist | Jobs with flexible hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Makeup_artist-1200x800.png "Makeup_artist - Beanstalk Mums") If you’re creative and love getting dolled up, freelance makeup artistry offers excellent, [flexible work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/negotiate-flexible-work-arrangements/) options. You can set your own schedule, accept job offers according to your availability, and provide services from home or travel to clients. The beauty industry is booming right now, which means more jobs, stable income, and plenty of opportunities to get creative. If you’re a single mama like me, you’ll love how it lets you balance work and family without giving up your passion. ## **Transcriptionists** Transcription work is a fantastic option if you’re a single mama looking for something simple you can do from home. It lets you pick your hours, fitting perfectly around nap times, school runs, or those endless errands! Loads of companies need help turning meetings, webinars, or videos into written content, so there’s always demand. Pay depends a bit on how fast and experienced you are, but you’ll definitely get a stable income, plus the flexibility we mamas need! If you’re after an easy, reliable job you can do in your PJs, transcription is definitely worth a try! ## **Final Thoughts: Jobs with Flexible Hours for Single Mothers** I’ve experienced firsthand just how tricky it can be to find a job that ticks all the boxes—flexible schedule, steady income, and something I actually enjoy. Thankfully, the job landscape has changed a lot. It opened up more flexible career paths for mums like us. We can choose to work as a virtual assistant, bookkeeper, project manager, or even as a technician. There’s definitely something out there that will fit perfectly into your busy life. These roles let you earn a good income while staying present for those special, everyday moments with your kiddos. No more missing school plays or soccer games! Believe me, finding the right career can completely change your experience as a single parent. What seemed overwhelming at first became a source of hope and confidence. It may seem cliche, but you’ve got this, mama. Here’s to finding your new job and thriving every step of the way! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/7jobs1.png "7jobs1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** flexible jobs, flexible work hours, employment, finding work --- ### [7 Best eco friendly cleaning products to buy in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-eco-friendly-cleaning-products/) **Published:** July 18, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a single mum, I’ve become a bit of a ninja when it comes to juggling chores, parenting, and keeping my house from looking like a tornado rolled through it. But I’ve also become more conscious about what I’m using around the house, especially with little feet (and paws!) running across the floors. That’s when I started digging into the best eco friendly cleaning products available here in Australia. I wanted something that worked and wouldn’t leave behind harsh chemicals or overpowering scents. After testing a few (some brilliant, some… not so much), I finally found a handful of standouts that actually get the job done without harming the planet. If you’re on a mission to keep your home sparkling while staying kind to the environment, this list is for you. From kitchen sprays to laundry liquids, here are the best eco friendly cleaning products I’ve personally come to trust. ***Further reading: [Eco friendly laundry detergents that are safe for the environment.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-laundry-detergents/)*** ## What are the benefits of using the best eco friendly cleaning products? ### The best eco friendly cleaning products are good for your family The best eco friendly cleaning products are free from toxic ingredients and are kinder to your skin and body. Many are vegan, organic and completely plant-based. ### The best eco friendly cleaning products are good for your pets Harsh chemicals in cleaning products can be harmful to your fur-babies. Eco friendly cleaning products are gentle and won’t cause irritation or adverse reactions. ### The best eco friendly cleaning products are good for the earth Less harmful chemicals and recyclable packaging mean less waste and a reduced carbon footprint. By using green cleaners, you help keep our waterways clean, reduce indoor air pollution, and reduce landfill waste. ## What should I look for when choosing best eco friendly cleaning products? Manufacturers have drastically improved the quality of eco friendly cleaning products over the years. When buying cleaners, check for these: ### No toxic chemicals Check the label carefully for ingredients and certifications. The best eco friendly cleaners contain biodegrable ingredients and no toxic chemicals. ### Plant-based Many cleaning products have plant-based ingredients that are infinitely gentler on the skin and the environment than man-made chemicals. ### No single-use plastic Single-use plastic chokes our landfills for centuries. Choose cleaners that use recyclable packaging, or even better, plastic-free containers. ### Refillable Refillable cleaner containers are genius. When you’re out, you just ship it back to the company to be refilled instead of buying another. ## Brilliant eco friendly cleaning products to buy in Australia ## [KOH](https://koh.com/collections/) An eco friendly cleaning product is one that pulls double and even triple duty. Koh delivers with their cult universal cleaner that keeps your whole house spic and span, from kitchen to bedroom, including those needing [office cleaning services](https://www.beemcleaners.com.au/). This one ticks all the boxes: vegan, cruelty-free, eco-certified, refillable, and allergy and asthma-friendly. ![Koh | best eco friendly cleaning products](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Koh.jpg "Koh - Beanstalk Mums") ***We found this at:** [Koh](https://koh.com/collections/ "Koh")* ***What we like most about these products:** 30-day money-back guarantee, great for people with allergies or asthma, best for light to medium cleaning.* ## [KOALA ECO](https://koala.eco/) A plant-based multipurpose cleaning product that cuts through grime effortlessly? You better believe it. Koala Eco’s bathroom cleaner is as eco friendly as it gets. All ingredients are plant-based: eucalyptus, biodegradable alcohol, vinegar, solubilisers, and surfactants. ![Koala Eco](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Koala-eco.jpg "Koala eco - Beanstalk Mums") ***We found this at: [Koala Eco](https://koala.eco/ "Koala Eco")*** ***What we like most about these products:** Completely plant-based multipurpose cleaner.* ## [THE BOTANICAL LIFE CO (BIOME)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fbathroom-cleaning-products%2f23402-botanical-life-co-super-scrub-clean-paste-350g-797776502424.html) Here’s a tough bathroom cleaner that’s all natural. Made from pure coconut oil and bicarbonate of soda, The Botanical Life Co’s multipurpose cleaning paste won’t scratch surfaces and smells divine. Ideal for bathrooms and cleaning grout, tiles and scuff marks. [![Best eco friendly cleaning products | The Botanical Life Super Scrub Cream Paste](https://i.ibb.co/chw8wfF/euclove-kitchen-cleaner-500ml.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fbathroom-cleaning-products%2f23402-botanical-life-co-super-scrub-clean-paste-350g-797776502424.html) ***We found this at:** [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fbathroom-cleaning-products%2f23402-botanical-life-co-super-scrub-clean-paste-350g-797776502424.html)* ***What we like most about these products:** Tough on dirt without scratching surfaces.* ## [EUCLOVE](https://www.floraandfauna.com.au/ "EUCLOVE") Euclove’s all-purpose surface cleaner is made from 100% natural, plant-based ingredients. It’s also refillable, cruelty-free and grey water/septic safe. But what we like best is the smell: the unique blend of essential oils is like a trip to the spa. ***We found this at:** [Flora & Fauna](https://www.floraandfauna.com.au/ "Flora & Fauna")* ***What we like most about these products:** Aromatic and effective kitchen cleaner.* ## [RESPARKLE](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2fnatural-kitchen-bathroom-cleani%2f235718%2fresparkle-natural-all-purpose-cleaning-kit.html) Resparkle’s award-winning all-purpose cleaning kit is a fan favourite, and we can see why. It has everything you need to clean your home safely and sustainably: plant-based ingredients, reusable bottle, concentrate refills and a copper scrubber that won’t scratch surfaces. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Resparkle.jpg "Resparkle - Beanstalk Mums") ***We found this at:** [Nourished Life](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/10778?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.nourishedlife.com.au%2fnatural-kitchen-bathroom-cleani%2f235718%2fresparkle-natural-all-purpose-cleaning-kit.html)* ***What we like most about these products:** Award-winning complete cleaning kit, non-corrosive.* ## [ABODE](https://www.floraandfauna.com.au/ "ABODE") Abode’s multipurpose surface spray compares to traditional cleaners when it comes to cutting dirt and grease, but without all the nasty chemicals. Another great thing about Abode is that you can save money by buying in bulk. They have 5-litre and 5-kg options for the most popular products. ***We found this at:** [Flora & Fauna](https://www.floraandfauna.com.au/ "Flora & Fauna")* ***What we like most about these products:** Affordable bulk options.* ***Further reading: [Eco friendly disposable nappies: The best and cheapest in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-disposable-nappies/)*** ## Final Thoughts: Best eco friendly cleaning products Switching to eco friendly cleaning products doesn’t mean sacrificing a sparkling clean home; it’s quite the opposite. Since making the change, I’ve found products that are tough on grime but gentle on my family’s health and the environment. It feels good knowing I’m reducing our exposure to harsh chemicals and cutting down on waste, all while supporting brands that actually care. Whether you’re a busy parent like me or simply trying to make more sustainable choices, these best eco friendly cleaning products are a great place to start. They’re readily available in Australia, smell amazing (without being overpowering), and most importantly, they work. Small swaps really do add up, and even the tiniest change in your cleaning routine can make a big difference over time. So go on, give one or two a try—you might be surprised at how easy and satisfying going green can be. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/cleaning1.png "cleaning1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-eco-friendly-cleaning-products/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-eco-friendly-cleaning-products/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping **Tags:** housework, laundry, cleaner --- ### [How to Cook Tasty Meals with Less Oil: Tips and Recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/how-to-cook-tasty-meals-with-less-oil-tips-and-recipes/) **Published:** May 16, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** God, I used to be terrible with oil. Like, embarrassingly bad. My roommates in college called me “the fryer” because everything I made was swimming in the stuff. Then my doctor gave me The Talk about my cholesterol numbers. Yikes. So I spent the last few years figuring out how to make food that doesn’t taste like cardboard without drowning it in oil. Here’s what I’ve learned the hard way. The good news? You can still eat delicious food. Fancy restaurant kitchens have been using gadgets like those[Frylow models](https://savefryoil.com/aus/frylow/products/) for ages. I can’t afford those, but I’ve stolen plenty of their tricks. ## **Why Oil Matters (And Why Using Less Is Smart)** Oil isn’t just about stopping food from sticking. It spreads flavours around, wakes up spices, and creates that gorgeous browning we all love. But man, it adds up fast. The cooking oil industry is massive – like[ $253.75 billion by 2030](https://www.grandviewresearch.com/industry-analysis/cooking-oil-market-report), massive. Crazy, right? Between more people on the planet and our addiction to processed junk, we’re practically swimming in the stuff. But here’s the thing – cutting back isn’t just about your waistline. The palm oil in your pantry might be linked to rainforests getting bulldozed. Not cool. Using less oil is actually one small way to flip off the companies destroying habitats. ## **Kitchen Hacks That Actually Work** I tried all those Pinterest “use applesauce instead of oil!” tricks. Some were disasters. Some were surprisingly good. Here’s what actually worked in my real, messy kitchen: ### **1. Kitchen Gear That Changed My Game** #### **Good Pans (Finally)** My mom gave me her old ceramic pan last Christmas, and holy cow. Game-changer. I went from using glugs of oil to literally just wiping the surface with an oily paper towel. Ditching my cheap scratched-up Teflon pans was smart anyway because of that[PFOA](https://www.cancer.org/cancer/risk-prevention/chemicals/teflon-and-perfluorooctanoic-acid-pfoa.html) business. That stuff is scary. When you’re shopping, grab a pan that can take some heat – those super-cheap ones from Amazon need way more oil. And don’t sleep on cast iron. My grandma’s skillet is basically non-stick after 50 years of use. #### **Air Fryer (Worth the Counter Space)** I resisted getting one forever because my kitchen is tiny. But after my buddy made me the crispiest wings I’ve ever had with just a spray of oil, I caved. Look for one with at least 1700 watts, or your food will take forever. And get one with good air circulation so you don’t have to babysit it. #### **Pressure Cooker (Not Just for Grandmas)** Mine is a cheap one from Target, but it’s fantastic for beans and tough meat. The sealed environment keeps everything juicy without needing to add fat. ### **2. Cooking Methods That Changed My Life** #### **Poaching (Trust Me, It’s Not Boring)** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-shkrabaanthony-4397277-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shkrabaanthony-4397277 - Beanstalk Mums") Chicken breasts used to be my nemesis – always dry and terrible. Then I started poaching them in broth with some herbs and lemon slices. Now they’re ridiculous – juicy and packed with flavour. #### **Steam-Roasting (My Secret Weapon)** I stumbled across this trick when I ran out of oil mid-recipe. Start with a hot oven to get some browning, then add a splash of liquid to create steam. Works like magic on veggies and cheap cuts of meat. My lazy version: Heat oven stupid hot (450°F), use whatever baking dish is clean, add a splash of wine or broth halfway through. Your Brussels sprouts will never be the same. #### **Dry Rubs (Better Than Marinades)** I’ve become that annoying person with jars of spice mixes. But they’re SO GOOD. Just salt, spices, and maybe a little brown sugar. Rub it on meat, let it sit, and the flavours go deeper than marinades ever could. For chicken thighs, I do about an hour on the counter. For a pork shoulder, overnight in the fridge. The salt pulls moisture out, then it goes back in, taking all those flavours with it. Science! ### **3. Flavour Tricks That Fool Your Mouth** When I first started cutting back on oil, everything tasted flat. Then I discovered these tricks: #### **Flavour Bombs** Reduced broths, citrus zest, splash of vinegar – these things wake up your taste buds. Last night I boiled down some chicken broth until it was almost syrupy, then used a spoonful to finish a vegetable soup. My boyfriend asked if I’d added cream. #### **Secret Purées** Nobody needs to know there’s cauliflower in your “creamy” sauce. Or white beans. Or squash. These things add body without grease. I keep frozen cubes of puréed veggies to throw into everything from pasta sauce to soup. Match flavours that make sense – neutral stuff like cauliflower works anywhere, but roasted red pepper purée has a strong personality. #### **Umami Boosters** My pantry is full of “cheating ingredients” now. Dried mushrooms, miso paste, fish sauce, nutritional yeast – a tiny bit of these makes everything taste richer. Your brain thinks “fat” but it’s actually just savoury goodness. ## **Real-Life Meals With Less Oil That I Make All The Time** I’m not a chef, but these are my go-to recipes that even my oil-loving dad enjoys: ### **No-Oil Grain Bowl That Doesn’t Suck** - Toast farro in a dry pan until it smells nutty (watch it – burns fast!) - Cook it in vegetable broth instead of plain water - For veggies, heat the pan FIRST, then add a tiny drizzle of oil (like, 1/4 teaspoon), then splash in broth when things start to stick - My favourite dressing: mix Greek yogurt, a spoonful of tahini, lemon juice, minced garlic, and whatever herbs aren’t wilted in the fridge. Uses way less oil than normal dressing, but tastes ridiculously creamy ### **Actually-Crispy Baked Chicken** ![meals with less oil](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-tim-douglas-6210947-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tim-douglas-6210947 - Beanstalk Mums") I make this weekly: - Pat bone-in, skin-on chicken pieces super dry with paper towels - Season aggressively with salt and whatever herbs you like - Put it skin-side up in a HOT cast iron (seriously, get it smoking first) - After about 15 minutes, turn the oven down to 375°F and splash in some wine or broth - The skin gets crazy crispy using its own fat, and the meat stays super juicy ### **Better-Than-Takeout Stir Fry** My stir-fries used to be oil slicks. Now they’re better: - Cut everything the same size so it cooks evenly - Get your pan SCREAMING hot (water drops should dance) - Use literally one teaspoon of high-heat oil - Cook meat in small batches (overcrowding = steaming) - Pull the meat out, then add the veggies in order of cooking time - Make a little space for garlic and ginger - Thicken the sauce with cornstarch so it clings to everything This approach uses barely any oil, but the texture is better than my old greasy disasters. Need more healthy but budget-friendly recipes? Check these [20 Cheap meal ideas to feed your family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/20-cheap-meal-ideas-to-feed-your-family/). ## **The Weird Bonus** The funny thing? Cutting back on oil made me a better cook. I had to learn actual techniques instead of drowning everything in fat. Now I taste more flavours because they’re not all coated in grease. Whether you’re trying to drop a few pounds, fix your bloodwork, or just not waste expensive oil, these tricks make cooking better, not sadder. Promise. ## **Stuff People Ask Me** ### **“How many calories does this actually save?”** A lot. One tablespoon of oil has about 120 calories. If you’re using a quarter cup in a recipe (pretty common), that’s 480 calories. Cut that by 75% and you’ve knocked out 360 calories without changing anything else. ### **“But isn’t fat good for you?”** Some is! Cutting refined oils might help with inflammation and insulin issues. But keep eating avocados, nuts, and olives – your body needs those fats for hormones and absorbing certain vitamins. ### **“Can restaurants do this without customers freaking out?”** Totally. The smart ones start small, cutting 15-20% across all recipes, then gradually reduce more. Fancy places have slashed oil use by 30-50% over a few months, and nobody complained because the food still tastes good. ### **“What about the environment?”** Less oil means less packaging waste, lower shipping emissions, and maybe a tiny blow against deforestation from palm oil plantations. Not gonna save the world, but every little bit helps, right? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/how-to-cook-tasty-meals-with-less-oil-tips-and-recipes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/how-to-cook-tasty-meals-with-less-oil-tips-and-recipes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food --- ### [Cooking for one: Tips to make it delectable & fun](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/6-tips-when-cooking-for-one/) **Published:** March 28, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a single mother, you’re possibly more focused on baking for a brood than cooking for one. Yet, if the kids are with their dad, it could be just you who needs feeding. Do you ever find yourself standing flummoxed in your kitchen thinking, ‘What the hell shall I cook’? Having mastered the skill of feeding many mouths, it requires a different, possibly daunting, dexterity to create a balanced meal for one. All too often, the effort outweighs the end result, and it’s easier not to bother. After all, it is so easy to pour cereal into a bowl and add milk. Stop! Before you opt for toast or a bag of chips, think of the opportunity you’re missing. Now is your chance to cook and eat foods that you love, instead of those based on the likes and dislikes of your children. What do you love cooking and eating? Think about it, because now is the time to enjoy it. In this article, I take you through some tips to make cooking for one easy and enjoyable. ## **6 Helpful tips when cooking for one** ## **1. Go with what you love** Ok, mums, now is the time to eat your favourite grub! I love chilli but I never add it to our family meals, even a chilli con carne, because, you guessed it, the kids don’t like it. For this reason, I like to cook feisty, hot dishes when I’m cooking for myself. I even sprinkle chilli flakes on top of my steak. Alongside cooking your fave dishes, think about how you will cook. When I have my kids, I cook in bulk and do lots of tray-bakes. Consequently, I now find this kind of cooking very boring. I think I could make a tray-bake with my eyes closed. If it’s only my mouth to feed, I like to try different cooking methods that are better suited for one person. For example, I will dig out my toaster oven, electric grill or mini slow cooker. And if you’re looking for extra support (and a little inspiration), Weight Watchers is a great way to stay on track with healthy meals without the stress of planning everything yourself. Their meal ideas are realistic for busy mums, and the best part? If you’re reading this and **[sign up here, you get 60% off their core membership](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/c/1253070/2854007/24408)**—so it’s a perfect time to give it a go. Who says eating well has to be a chore? Once you are cooking what you love, how you love it, try and enjoy the process. Make it an act of self-love by blocking out the worries of the day while you focus on the food you are making, which will give you pleasure and nourish your body. ## **2. Utilise the deli at your local supermarket** Delis are fantastic if you need just a few slices of cold cuts, a small block of cheese, or a single-serve salad. If you’re lucky to have a small local deli in the neighbourhood, that’s awesome. But don’t snub the supermarket’s deli section, especially if you’re short on time. Supermarket delis offer a variety of ready-to-eat options. The better stocked, not only have cold choices, but a selection of hot grub like roast meats, potatoes, hot chips and more. So if your meal for one calls for just 25 grams of ham or fetta, head to the deli and buy what you need to avoid waste. ## **3. Build a repertoire of recipes of one** As mums, we’ve been so used to cooking for the whole gang that cooking for one can be intimidating. Today, there’s no need to experiment, since we can find the exact ingredients and directions of practically any single-serve dish with a few taps on our smartphones. Unless you’re okay with having smoothies and oatmeal for the rest of your alone time, it’s nice to build an arsenal of your favourite dishes that’s just enough for yourself. Not to snark on meal preppers – I am one on ordinary days – but if you don’t fancy the idea of cooking a big batch and eating the same thing over and over again, there are thousands of recipes for one you can find online. You’d find pasta, rice meals, and steak recipes for one. There are even single-serve chocolate chip cookies! Yum. I personally find the recipes on [One Dish Kitchen](https://onedishkitchen.com) simply scrumptious, but [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/collections/cooking-for-1-or-2) also features heaps of meal ideas for one. I like saving the recipes on my phone, but I find it more convenient to print them out and add them to my separate folder for solo meals. ## **Cooking for one (cont.)** ## **4. Cook, freeze and enjoy again and again** As I’ve mentioned, I am ordinarily a huge meal prepper. I’m the type who doesn’t get tired of eating my favourites day after day. Even if I’m cooking for myself, having freezer meals ensures I don’t starve when I’m too tired, sleepy, or engrossed in the drama I’m binge-watching. So your recipe is for six people? No need to recalculate and cook less. Make the whole dish and freeze it, so you can enjoy it another time. Obviously, [utilising your freezer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/simple-freezer-tips-to-streamline-your-kitchen/) is the first rule when cooking for one. I like making days’ worth of a meal and freezing them in single-serve containers. This eliminates spoilage since I only take a serving out to reheat and keep the rest frozen. A reminder: Although you can make ahead and freeze tens of thousands of meals, some ingredients don’t freeze well. These ingredients include mayo, lettuce, and cucumber, so it’s wise if you don’t make and freeze the salad! ## **5. Discover the world of mug meals** Oh, the magical world of mug meals! They’re lifesavers when you’re cooking for one. If you haven’t Googled them yet, mug meals are, well, meals in a mug. You literally dump all of your ingredients in a mug and cook your meal in the oven, microwave, or steamer. Think ramekins, but mugs. That means two things: 1) You get a single-serve meal, 2) without so many pans and utensils to wash later. You can make lots of desserts like cakes, cinnamon rolls, flans, puddings, oatmeal, crème brûlée, and more. But although mug desserts are very popular, you can also make eggs, pasta, rice meals (risotto, anyone?), soup, and even bread! The best thing about mug meals, in my opinion? They’re super easy to take everywhere. You can eat your meal in bed or even while standing, no problem. ## **6. Remember you are worth it** It’s common for mums to put their kids’ needs first before their own. This is why indulging in this rare moment when the kids are away is important. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying this time you have all to yourself. A little self-care doesn’t diminish the love you have for your children. Once in a while, it’s also important to treat yourself with the love and care that you’re always giving to others. Making a fancy meal for yourself is an incredible way to include self-care in your everyday life, or at least that night when the kids are with their dad. Turn down the lights, turn up your favourite lo-fi playlist, and light a few candles on the countertop. You deserve it. ## **Summary: Cooking for one** We mums are so used to making big batches of meals for the whole family to share that cooking for one might sound intimidating, if not unworthy of all the dirty pans. But it’s possible to make cooking for yourself fun and hassle-free with the hacks I’ve listed in this article. Prepping a big batch that you can freeze and eat for the rest of the week is just one trick. Channel your inner Masterchef by experimenting with new ingredients to create different meals. Get small amounts of fixings from the deli. In times when you can’t be bothered, check out what you can cook in a mug (you won’t believe how easy it is). Try new recipes you found online. This time is also a fantastic opportunity to find new recipes to include in your repertoire. I’m sure there are tens of thousands of recipes you haven’t tried before. Whipping up a single batch ensures you won’t waste your hard-earned resources on meals your kids won’t like. So, while you might think making a meal for yourself is futile, remember you’re worth it. You’ve been making meals for everyone else, considering others’ likes and dislikes. Cooking is love made visible, and you, too, deserve all of that love. And I mean, it’s not every day you’re allowed to splash brandy into the pasta sauce, right? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/6-tips-when-cooking-for-one/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/6-tips-when-cooking-for-one/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food **Tags:** cooking, easy meals, eating alone --- ### [Financial Programs For Single Mothers: Your Reliable Money Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/financial-programs-for-single-mothers-your-reliable-money-guide/) **Published:** August 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being a solo mum is no easy road. Juggling household chores, work (if you’re lucky enough to find flexible hours), and the constant worry about bills can feel like running a never-ending marathon. As a single mum of two beautiful daughters, I’ve learned firsthand what it means to live with the constant pressure of stretching a dollar to cover housing, school lunches, and unexpected costs like a broken washing machine or medical appointments. Thank goodness for financial programs for single mothers. There were moments I’d sit on the couch, kids finally asleep, wondering how I’d manage the following week’s budget, let alone plan for the future. It took time, but I’ve slowly found bits of support, helpful services, and some financial help that, when you piece them together, really do ease the load. If you’re navigating this journey too, this guide is for you, and every single mama looking for a little more stability and a little less stress. ## Financial Programs for Single Mothers ## 1. Understanding Centrelink Income Support for Single Parents One of the key forms of financial aid assistance available to solo parents in Australia is through Centrelink. If you’re eligible, you might receive the Parenting Payment, designed for those whose youngest child is 14 or younger. Your payment amount will vary depending on how much you earn, your assets, and your child’s age. Many single households depend on this to cover basic needs like housing, bills, groceries, and school costs. It’s a lifesaver, but navigating it can be confusing. You can check your eligibility on the [Services Australia website](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/), where there’s a guide to help you apply. ## 2. How to be Eligible and Apply for Child Support Services [Child support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/why-child-support-might-not-be-right-for-you/ "Child support") can provide a much-needed buffer when you’re a solo mum. The government provides aid through Services Australia to help determine fair child support payments based on each guardian’s income and care percentage. This isn’t always straightforward, though, as emotions and legalities can complicate things, but it’s important in ensuring your child is financially supported. You can opt for a private collection or have the organisation handle the payments directly. ## 3. Home Financial Programs for Single Mothers: Housing Support and Rent Assistance Renting in cities like Sydney or Melbourne is increasingly difficult for single households. If you’re struggling with housing, you might be eligible for rent assistance, a payment that helps cover rental costs. Housing services can also help solo mothers, including emergency aid if you’re facing eviction. Reach out early, as the sooner you apply, the more options you’ll have. ![financial programs for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-miles-7654007-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-miles-7654007 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Managing a Budget as a Single Parent Creating a realistic budget as a solo mum isn’t easy, but it’s the foundation of staying afloat. Start by listing all your payments, bills, and expenses, then break them into essentials vs non-essentials. Use the budget tools available on the government’s [MoneySmart website](https://moneysmart.gov.au/). They’re tailored for parents and include savings tips, debt management, and calculators. Sticking to a plan helped me reduce unnecessary costs and actually start saving a little, even if just for emergencies. ## 5. Additional [Financial Support for Education Costs](https://my.gov.au/en/services/work/managing-the-cost-of-living/managing-household-costs/help-with-education-costs) School can be expensive, from uniforms, books, to excursions. I was devastated whenever there were school outings that my daughters couldn’t attend because money was tight. Thankfully, many states offer financial aid for eligible single-income families, like [Saver Plus, which matches your savings, dollar for dollar, up to $500!](https://www.bsl.org.au/services/saving-and-managing-money/saver-plus/) Check with your kid’s school or the local government about textbook and uniform schemes, or discounts for low-income earners. There are also scholarships for children of single parents, which can assist with fees or even tutoring. Every dollar helps, especially when you’re raising children on a single income. ## FAQs: Financial Programs for Single Mothers ## 1. How Do I Access Child Care Subsidies and Rebates? Child care is often a major barrier to returning to work or study. Luckily, the [Child Care Subsidy (CCS)](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/child-care-subsidy) can dramatically reduce costs for eligible solo households. Your payment is calculated based on income, work/study hours, and the type of care. Many single mums I know wouldn’t be able to work at all without it; it’s an invaluable help in building a better future. ## 2. Are There Practical Loan and Advance Payment Options? If you’re facing a sudden cost, like car repairs or medical bills, you might be able to access a [Centrelink](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/centrelink?context=1) advance payment or a no-interest loan through community services. These loans often don’t require repayment right away, and they’re a far better alternative to payday lenders. They offer a little breathing room when life throws a curveball. I’ve used this once when our fridge died; it was a relief not to go into deeper debt. ## 3. Are There Emergency Parenting Assistance Programs for Single Mothers in Crisis? Hardship can hit suddenly — a job loss, health crisis, or housing issue. If you’re in an emergency, there are services like food banks, utility support payments, and short-term accommodation aid. Charities such as [The Salvation Army](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/), [Vinnies](https://www.vinnies.org.au/), and local churches can provide essentials when you need them most. Don’t be afraid to reach out; there’s no shame in asking for help when things get tough. ## Bonus Tips: Financial Programs for Single Mothers ## Knowing Your Rights as a Single Parent Being a single parent also means knowing your rights around child support, housing, and workplace flexibility. Whether you’re on a pension or returning to part-time work, knowing what you’re entitled to can help secure your family’s future. Websites like [Fair Work Ombudsman](https://www.fairwork.gov.au/) are good places to start. It’s comforting to know that there’s a policy and a payment scheme for almost every circumstance. ## Building a Sustainable Future Beyond the Hardship Even in the toughest times, there’s hope. I’ve found that with the right support, it’s possible to not just survive, but to improve our quality of life. From accessing child care subsidies to eventually re-entering full-time work, every small win gave me confidence. Connect with other single mums online via [Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.facebook.com/beanstalkmums) or through local community centres. Sharing practical advice and experiences makes the load a little lighter, because sometimes, that’s all you need to keep going. ## Final Thoughts: Financial Programs for Single Mothers Being a single mum in Australia comes with more hardship than most people see. But with the right tools and resources (plus a bit of stubborn resilience), you can weather the storm, Mama. Whether you’re just starting on your own or you’ve been in the trenches for a while, it’s okay to admit that things can feel overwhelming. The good news is there’s help out there, from rental aid to child care subsidies, income help, and more. This guide is here to walk you through what’s available. Most importantly, remember that you’re doing better than you think. You’re not alone, and we’re in this together. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/financial-programs-for-single-mothers-your-reliable-money-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/financial-programs-for-single-mothers-your-reliable-money-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Money --- ### [Creating a Clean Home with the Right Products and Services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/creating-a-clean-home-with-the-right-products-and-services/) **Published:** October 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Life is busy! But a clean home isn’t just about looking good; it’s about a happier, healthier family. Imagine a space free of dust and bad smells – that’s the simple joy of a clean home. A tidy space can actually make your family feel better, and even boost everyone’s mood. The secret? Using the right [hygiene products and services](https://hospeco.au/). They’re key to creating a clean and healthy retreat. Let’s explore how they can change your home and family life. ## **1. The Benefits of a Clean Home** Why bother with all the cleaning? Here’s what you get: - **Improved health and hygiene**: Fewer germs mean fewer sick days for everyone. A cleaner home can help prevent the spread of colds and flu, especially during the colder months. - **Reduced allergens and germs**: Lower the dust and dander, and breathe easier, with less risk of allergies. By controlling the presence of mould and bacteria, you’ll also reduce the likelihood of respiratory issues. - **Enhanced comfort and productivity**: It’s easier to focus (or just chill) in a clean space. Some studies even say tidiness sparks creativity! A clean home allows for clearer thinking and reduces mental clutter. - **A positive environment for family bonding**: A clean, cozy home just feels more welcoming for family time. It’s easier to relax, connect, and spend quality time with your loved ones in a space that is organised and inviting. ## **2. Essential Hygiene Products for a Clean Home** Building your cleaning arsenal? Start with these: - **Cleaning supplies for different areas**: Kitchens need degreasers, bathrooms want tile cleaners, and living rooms love dusting spray. Use the right tool for the job! Specialised products make cleaning quicker and more effective. - **Disinfectants, cleaners, and sanitisers**: Here’s the breakdown. Cleaners remove grime, disinfectants kill germs, and sanitisers make germs safer. Got it? Use each product in its place for maximum benefit. - **Personal hygiene products**: Stock up on hand sanitiser, toilet seat covers (especially for guests!), and air fresheners to feel refreshed. These items not only enhance cleanliness but also contribute to the overall atmosphere in your home. - **Eco-friendly options**: Try plant-based cleaners and reusable cloths – better for the planet, and maybe even your skin! Eco-conscious products are not only better for the environment but can also help reduce exposure to harsh chemicals. - **Disposable hygiene items**: Wipes, gloves, and cloths make for super-quick cleanups and stop germs from spreading. They’re a must-have for families with young kids or anyone prone to quick messes. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-olly-3768910-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3768910 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Hygiene Services to Complement Your Efforts** Sometimes, you need a little help… - **Professional cleaning services**: Overwhelmed? Short on time? Pros can handle regular cleaning or a one-time deep dive. Whether it’s a one-time service or ongoing support, hiring experts takes the pressure off and ensures a thorough clean. - **Deep cleaning services**: Carpets, upholstery, and grout can get nasty. Consider professional deep cleaning to blast out dirt and allergens. A deep clean can eliminate built-up grime in hard-to-reach areas and refresh your home. - **Restocking and refilling services**: Never run out of the essentials! Subscription boxes for [cleaning supplies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/best-eco-friendly-cleaning-products/) are an efficient solution. Many providers offer subscription services that will deliver your favourite products to your doorstep on a regular basis. - **Air quality and sanitisation services**: Improve the air you breathe with purifiers or professional duct cleaning. A must for allergy sufferers. Clean air improves overall well-being, especially for those with asthma or respiratory conditions. - **Waste management services**: Don’t just toss used wipes! Look into recycling or special disposal for hygiene products. Proper disposal ensures that you’re not contributing to harmful waste and helps the environment. ## **4. How to Choose the Right Hygiene Products and Services** Here’s what to consider when shopping around: - **Considerations for families**: Non-toxic options are key, especially with kids and fur-babies. Read the labels and make sure they are easy to use. You don’t want anything harmful in your home! - **Matching products to the specific needs of your home**: Spills happen, pets shed, and allergies flare. Choose the right stuff to tackle your home’s unique challenges. Every home has its own needs, so customise your cleaning tools and products accordingly. - **Local vs. online providers**: Read online and local reviews to find great options. Find a good deal and what is most convenient for you! Some people prefer shopping locally to support small businesses, while others enjoy the convenience of ordering online. ![clean home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-cottonbro-4108790-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-4108790 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Tips for Maintaining a Clean Home Regularly** The key: Don’t stop! - **Establishing a cleaning routine**: Set a consistent schedule – daily, weekly, monthly. Even a quick tidy-up makes a big difference! A routine ensures you’re always on top of messes before they accumulate. - **The importance of using hygiene products correctly**: Read the directions! Use the right amount, and you’ll get better results. Overuse of products can be wasteful and may not improve cleaning results. - **How to teach kids and family members to maintain cleanliness**: Get everyone involved! Assign chores that fit their age, make it a team effort, and try to have some fun! When everyone contributes, maintaining cleanliness becomes a shared responsibility. ## **Conclusion: Creating a Clean Home with the Right Products and Services** Think of a clean home as an investment in your family’s health, happiness, and how you all feel. With the right hygiene products and services and a little consistency, you’ll create a healthier, happier place for everyone. Not only does a clean home boost your well-being, but it also helps you feel more organised and at peace. Eager to change your home? Head out and find companies that will provide the best local and online product and service options for your home! Start today for a cleaner, more comfortable family environment. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/creating-a-clean-home-with-the-right-products-and-services/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/creating-a-clean-home-with-the-right-products-and-services/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Single mum's business: How to start a side hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being a single mum is no easy feat. Between parenting duties, managing finances, and trying to find precious time for yourself, the idea of starting a business can seem like a lot of work. But what if I told you it’s not only possible but could also be the key to achieving balance, financial freedom, and personal growth? In this blog, I’ll walk you through the ultimate survival guide for single mothers looking to start their business in 2025. Whether you’re looking for a side hustle or a full-time business, this roadmap is tailored to empower and equip solo mamas with effective techniques to thrive. You’ll be one of the most successful mums in business in no time! ## **Mums in business survival guide** ## **1. Starting a business as a single mum: Where to begin** Launching a business can be daunting, but for single mummies, it’s essential to first identify a strong starting point. Brainstorm your skills and interests—think about what you’re good at and what excites you. From crafting to becoming a VA (virtual assistant), your skills can be a launching pad for success. It’s important to have clarity on your business idea. A solid objective will help you stay focused, even when juggling motherhood and entrepreneurial duties. This initial clarity ensures your business fits around your life, not the other way around. ## **2. Find the perfect side hustle** If this is your first time doing this, a side hustle can be the best starting point. They’re less risky than diving straight into a full-time business and allow you to earn extra income without quitting your regular job or losing time for picking up the kids. Selling homebaked goodies, doing freelance graphic design, or even podcasting are great options. Side hustles also enable flexibility. You can dedicate as much or as little time as your schedule allows while still being there for your kids. Remember, the goal is to build financial security and work-life balance. ***Further reading: [21 Ways for single mums to make money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/mums-extra-money-from-home/)*** ## **3. Create a business plan** Every entrepreneur needs a business plan. For solo mamas like us, this means prioritising your time and resources. Get organised by setting aside small blocks of time to focus on business-related tasks. Tools like digital calendars and task organisers are your best friend. A strong business strategy doesn’t need to be complicated. Start with small, manageable goals. For example, aim to earn an income that covers your mortgage or extra money for kids’ activities. Completing these goals will make you more confident to move forward. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/D539c8d5-ce55-4839-b17f-464256c90657-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Build your network** You don’t have to do this alone. Tap into networks like the Thrive Tribe or connect with mentors who understand the challenges of solo parenthood. A network will help you uncover opportunities and avoid common pitfalls. Julia Hasche, a speaker and advocate for single mothers, often shares invaluable advice on navigating life as a single parent. These communities provide moral support while connecting you to like-minded entrepreneurs. You can also find free-of-charge resources like podcasts or local meetups to support your journey. ## **5. Marketing strategies to manage your business** Marketing is essential for any small business. Social media platforms are a cost-effective way to get started. You can share your journey as a single mum-turned-entrepreneur, it’s a story that resonates with many. If you’re new to marketing, start with simple strategies like uploading engaging blog posts or creating eye-catching visuals. As you grow, you can hire professionals or invest in subscription services to take your marketing to the next level. Using tools will help you stay organised while still being present for your kids. Tools like Canva for graphics, accounting software to track finances, and social media schedulers to automate your posts. ## **Running a business as a single mother (cont.)** ## **6. Work-life balance** Running a business from home requires careful balance. Set boundaries between work and parenting, and don’t be afraid to prioritise self-care. It’s crucial to relax and recharge so you can dedicate your best energy to both roles. Involve your kids when possible. For example, if you’re making crafts for an Etsy store, let them help with simple tasks. This not only lightens your load but also teaches them valuable skills. ![Work-life balance | Mums in business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/A5d8450e-092c-49b9-abe0-f2dd93a046dd-1066x800.jpg "A5d8450e-092c-49b9-abe0-f2dd93a046dd - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Creating financial independence** One of my biggest motivations for finding a side gig is having financial independence. A small business can provide the extra income you need to cover essentials like your mortgage or unexpected expenses. Financially, it’s important to plan ahead. Save for rainy days, avoid unnecessary risks, and always have a backup strategy. A financially stable business can significantly reduce the stress of solo parenting. ## **8. Platforms and business ideas** There are plenty of business opportunities that fit our unique circumstances and flexible schedules. If you love cooking, a home-based catering service for events or meal prep could be your calling. If you’re a mama who enjoys sharing stories or expertise, blogging is a fantastic way to earn through ads and sponsorships. Got a knack for creativity? Start a party planning business, organizing fun, themed kids’ parties without needing a big budget. For tech-savvy mums, being a virtual assistant to businesses remotely is another great option with flexible hours. If you’re into crafts or have products to sell, Etsy and [Shopify](https://www.shopify.com/blog/home-business) can help you run your online store. Plus, programs like Global Sisters are there to support single mums with resources and guidance to turn their ideas into thriving businesses. ![mums in business](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/F32f8810-2562-449c-b96d-681a8d26a83f-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts** I became a single mum after a tough divorce, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to juggle everything. But becoming a business owner was one of the best decisions I ever made. It gave me financial security, flexibility, and a sense of purpose beyond parenting. I’ll never forget the day I launched my little online shop. I was nervous and unsure, but I kept thinking about the things in my life I wanted to change. Now, years later, I’ve built a thriving small business that fits around my kids and enables me to prioritise their needs without sacrificing my dreams. If you’re a single mama wondering if you can do it, you absolutely can! With the right tools, mindset, and support, you can be a successful mum entrepreneur. ![Why a single mum makes a brilliant business mum | Beanstalk Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Spring-Style-Inspiration-9.png "Spring Style Inspiration (9) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** business mum, business owner, mumpreneur, organisation, perseverance, sole earners, self-employed, flexible work hours --- ### [Can You Really Feel a Spark on the First Date?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/spark-on-the-first-date/) **Published:** January 23, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** We’ve all heard it before: “You’ll know right away when it’s right.” The idea of an instant spark on the first date has been romanticised in books, movies, social media, and love stories shared by friends. But let’s be honest, how often do fireworks really go off when you first meet someone? In this article, we will talk about the myth of the first date spark and explore how chemistry, connection, and realistic expectations can help you find a long-term relationship. That is if you are looking for one. Let’s get right to it! ## **Spark on the First Date: Tips for the Hopeless Romantic** ## **Do You Really Need to Feel a Spark Right Away?** The short answer? Not always. While it’s tempting to look for a spark on the first date, there’s a difference between fleeting attraction and the building blocks of a meaningful connection. The “spark” you think you are chasing may also be more about anxiety and excitement than compatibility. I’ve been on dates where the immediate charm fizzled out faster than a wet matchstick. Conversely, some of the strongest relationships in my life started with slow burns. If you are anxious about not experiencing “the spark” immediately, don’t panic. Good things take time. ## **Why “Chemistry” Isn’t Always Reliable** The bad news is: that the intense attraction you experience when you meet someone and you instantly click can sometimes be misleading. This “spark” often has more to do with biology than compatibility. Instead of focusing on fleeting feelings, think about the quality of your interactions. Do they listen? Are they kind? Will they accept your kids? Can you imagine having meaningful conversations beyond the first date? Chemistry can grow when the foundation is solid. ## **First Dates: A Marathon, Not a Sprint** If you’ve been conditioned to expect pyrotechnics on the first date, it’s time to reset your expectations. Here’s the thing: lasting relationships rarely start with a Hollywood-style meet-cute. Think of dating as joining a marathon. Pace yourself, spend some quality time while getting to know each other, and cherish each moment. Think of it as building a strong bond rather than chasing a fleeting flame. ![spark on the first date](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/97e1e886-0147-4a45-b1c6-47c2604dfb8d-1066x800.jpg "97e1e886-0147-4a45-b1c6-47c2604dfb8d - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to Handle Nervousness and Anxious Thoughts** Feeling nervous before a date is completely normal. I still get butterflies when meeting someone new! Instead of letting anxiety take over, shift your attention to having a good time. Prepare a few open-ended questions, stay present, and remind yourself that not every date has to be perfect. If you are prone to overthinking, try journaling your thoughts before heading out. Writing can help you process your emotions and ease pre-date jitters. Remember, even if there’s no instant connection, it doesn’t mean the date was a failure. ## **Spark on the First Date (cont.)** ## **Why It’s Okay If the Attachment Doesn’t Last** Here’s the thing about sparks, they burn out. And that’s okay! A lasting relationship isn’t about the “butterflies in your stomach” moments but the ties that form over time. When I was younger, I’d regret giving second chances to dates where the spark wasn’t immediate. But now I realise those experiences taught me to treasure deeper ties over superficial attraction. If a date doesn’t lead to something more, appreciate it for what it was, which is a step on your journey to finding the right partner. ## **The Role of Physical and Emotional Attraction** While sexual desire can definitely play a role in relationship success, it’s not the only factor to consider. In the long run, emotional bond tends to matter the most. That said, it’s important to have some level of desire for the person you’re dating. If you are not physically or emotionally drawn to them after a few dates, it’s worth reassessing whether you are both looking for the same things. ## **How to Look for the Right Traits in a Partner** When dating, find a partner who shares your principles and goals. While it’s easy to get caught up in surface-level attraction, remember that traits like kindness, honesty, and resilience are what sustain long-term relationships. One tip: keep an open mind. The person you are dating might not tick every box on your checklist, but they could surprise you in other ways. Sometimes, the best connections come from unexpected places. ***Further reading: [How do I start dating again?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/im-ready-to-date-again-but-where-the-hell-do-i-start/)*** ## **Meaningful Talks** A great conversation can be the foundation of a strong relationship. Instead of obsessing over the spark, focus on having a meaningful dialogue. Ask questions that help you know their values, dreams, and sense of humour. In my experience, the best dates are the ones where I’ve walked away feeling inspired by the other person’s perspective. Even if it doesn’t lead to romance, a good chat can still be a pleasure. ## **Building a Happy Long-Term Relationship** If your goal is a happy [long-term partnership](https://www.nowtolove.com.au/entertainment/reality-tv/jessica-mauboy-husband-68576/), remember that the spark is just the beginning. Relationships take effort, commitment, and a willingness to grow together. Long-term couples often say that their love deepened over time; not just on day one. What is the best way to determine relationship success? Look for a mix of compatibility, communication, and mutual respect. When you find someone who aligns with your values and supports your dreams, you’ll know you’ve found something truly special. ## **Summary: Spark on the First Date** When you are a single mum, dating needs effort, especially with kids, work, and everything in between. It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of experiencing an immediate spark on a first date. But remember, as cliche as it may seem, good things take time. Whether you are exploring new connections or learning to trust your gut, focus on building something meaningful rather than chasing fireworks. At the end of the day, dating is about finding a mate who appreciates you for who you are, not just someone who ticks a box. So take your sweet time, trust the process, and keep an open mind. The right flame is out there, and when it comes, you’ll know it’s worth the wait. ![Spark on first date | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Spark-on-first-date.png "Spark on first date - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/spark-on-the-first-date/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/spark-on-the-first-date/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, first date, relationship, chemistry --- ### [Real-Life Tips on How to Increase Libido Naturally](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/how-to-increase-libido-naturally/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being the super mum that you are, your sex drive is probably the last thing on your mind. For many single mums (yep, myself included), you may think that low libido is more than just a phase. You may feel like it’s here to stay. But the good news is it doesn’t have to be. Whether it’s because of stress or just sheer exhaustion, there are ways on how to increase libido and feel more connected to yourself (and maybe someone else, too). Personally, I thought my sex drive had packed up and moved interstate after having kids. Between co-parenting dramas and the nightly chaos of homework and dinner, intimacy became something I used to have. But slowly, through small changes, I found my way back, and I want to help you do the same. Let’s talk about real-life, doable ways to reignite your sexual desire and confidence. ## **What Is Low Libido, Really?** Low libido is more common than most of us think, especially in women and men who have busy lives. It refers to a persistent lack of interest in sexual activity, and it’s completely normal to experience it at different life stages. For single mums, low libido may sneak in due to hormonal changes, stress, or even overall health issues. Knowing the causes of low libido can help you feel less alone and more empowered. From menopause and oestrogen drops to sleep deprivation and mental load, there are plenty of things that can affect libido. Understanding the “why” is step one in finding your way back to sexual pleasure and a healthy sex life. ## **Common Causes of Low Libido** The causes of low libido can be physical, emotional, or physiological, or a mix of all three. Low testosterone, thyroid problems, and menopause are big culprits, especially when hormonal levels shift after pregnancy or as we age. Then there’s the mental load, the one mums carry 24/7. Relationship difficulties, unresolved conflicts, depression and anxiety, and poor body image all play a role. And let’s not forget the big one, fatigue; basically, overall women’s health. If your libido has done a runner, it’s worth checking in on both your physical and emotional health. ## **How Hormones Affect Your Libido** Hormones are a critical part of your sexual function. When estrogen levels drop (like during menopause), you might experience vaginal dryness, pain during sex, or decreased libido. Testosterone (yes, women have it too) also influences arousal and desire for sex. Physiological changes after childbirth, while breastfeeding, or even due to hypogonadism, can wreak havoc on libido levels. A health professional can check your hormone levels and help you figure out whether hormone therapy or natural alternatives are the right way to go in boosting your libido. ## **How to Increase Libido: The Role of Mental Health** Your brain is your biggest sex organ. No joke. If you’re feeling anxious, down, or overwhelmed (hello, single mum life), it can absolutely affect your libido (goodbye, orgasms). Mental health support can make a huge difference here. Counsel from a therapist or even relationship counselling (if you’re seeing someone new) can help unpack things like unresolved conflicts or emotional closeness. A low sex drive doesn’t mean there’s something “wrong” with you, it could just be your mind asking for a little TLC. ## **How to Increase Libido Through Lifestyle Changes** This is where things get practical. Simple lifestyle changes can boost your mood, energy, and yes, sex drive. Start with eating a healthy diet, cutting back on alcohol, and trying to exercise regularly (easier said than done, I know!). Getting better sleep, drinking more water, and carving out “me-time” are little changes that have big payoffs. These things don’t just improve your overall health—they can help with change in libido and give you a stronger sense of self-image too. ***Further reading: [Why I’m not bothered about sex now I’m single.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dont-want-sex/)*** ![how to increase libido](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4759930-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4759930 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **FAQs: How to Increase Libido** ## **Do Herbal Remedies Help Boost Libido?** Not into the idea of hormone therapy? No worries. There are herbal remedies that may help with low libido and sexual function. [Maca root](https://www.fertilitylens.com/herbal-aphrodisiacs "Maca root"), ginseng, and Tribulus terrestris are some options that may support sexual desire and boost libido. Just remember, herbal doesn’t always mean harmless. Talk to a health professional before starting anything new, especially if you’re taking medications or managing existing conditions. ## **Does Sex Therapy Really Help?** Sex therapy is not as scary as it sounds, promise! It’s actually a great tool for unpacking deeper issues around intimacy, sexual response, and arousal. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner (if you have one) work through barriers like body image, sexual dysfunction, or relationship problems. Even if you’re single, this kind of therapy can still be a valuable space to rebuild your relationship with yourself and your own sexual experiences. Think of it as mental health support with a sexy twist. ## **How to Increase Libido Through Testosterone Therapy** When we hear “testosterone”, we often think of blokes, but women need it too, for sexual desire, muscle tone, and energy. Low testosterone can seriously mess with your libido in women, and testosterone replacement therapy might be worth exploring if blood tests confirm a deficiency. But again, speak with a trusted health expert. Managing testosterone levels isn’t a DIY job, and not everyone is a good candidate for hormone-based treatments. ## **How Do Relationships Impact Your Sex Drive** Whether you’re dating again or navigating intimacy with a long-term partner, relationship difficulties can make or break your sex drive. Lack of emotional closeness, poor communication, or even boring bedroom routines can lower libido. If you feel like your libido has vanished into thin air, ask yourself: is it the libido, or is it the relationship? That question alone can lead to more clarity. ## **How to Increase Libido With the Help of Food and Exercise** You are what you eat, and how you move matters too. Certain foods like dark chocolate, berries, and oily fish are thought to improve sexual health. Combine that with regular movement (think walking, dancing, or yoga), and you’re on the right track. Improving blood flow, reducing stress, and lifting your mood and energy levels all help to improve sexual function. Bonus: you’ll feel more confident in your skin, which definitely doesn’t hurt in the intimacy department. ## **What are Treatment Options for Sexual Dysfunction**? From therapy to the treatment of erectile dysfunction for your male partner, it’s good to know what options are out there. Sexual dysfunction isn’t entirely physical, it can also be psychological or relational. If you’ve tried the lifestyle tweaks and unconventional remedies and still feel stuck, don’t be afraid to reach out for professional help. There’s no shame in wanting to feel good, in every sense of the word. ## **Final Thoughts: How to Increase Libido** Low libido doesn’t define you. It doesn’t mean you’re broken or past your prime. It means your body, mind, and life might be asking for a bit of attention. Tweak your diet, get help with hormone levels, or take five minutes a day for yourself; you deserve to feel connected to your body again. A year ago, I found myself googling “how to want sex again.” I felt disconnected from everything, especially myself. So I started small: I swapped my PJs for nice undies and made space for exercise. Slowly but surely, my desire for sex returned. And more importantly, so did I. So here’s your reminder: Your libido is yours. It’s not gone, it’s just waiting for you to come back. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/how-to-increase-libido-naturally/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/how-to-increase-libido-naturally/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** sex, self love, self pleasure, sex drive, sexy --- ### [Breadcrumbing: How to Break Free from This Sneaky Manipulation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/your-man-is-breadcrumbing-you/) **Published:** January 23, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Ever felt like you are being strung along in a relationship but don’t know where you stand? Let’s talk about breadcrumbing, a manipulative tactic that leaves you frustrated, emotionally drained, and second-guessing everything. So, basically, most red flags you can think of. Here’s what you need to know to avoid being breadcrumbed and take charge of your dating life. Before we get into the details, let’s find out what breadcrumbing is (if you’ve never heard of it before). In dating terms, breadcrumbing is a cunning behaviour where someone leads another along with small nuggets of communication—but never fully commits to a relationship. So much worse than [being ghosted](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/), don’t you agree? It’s a toxic dating phenomenon that’s all too common in today’s world of texting, social media, and online dating. If you have ever received flirtatious messages or DMs that felt promising but led nowhere, you might have encountered a breadcrumber. In this guide, I will help you spot and decipher the signs and how to deal with them. ## **What Is Breadcrumbing? Defining the Dating Phenomenon** Breadcrumbing is when someone drops breadcrumbs of communication—small, intermittent interactions designed to string someone along. These messages or actions create the impression that they want to become intimate but lack the desire to be in a relationship. It’s a form of emotional deception that can confuse you and leave you questioning your worth. Breadcrumbers often use this tactic to satisfy their need for validation while evading genuine intimacy. They’ll send emojis, text messages, or vague praise to keep you tied to their orbit without providing anything solid. This behaviour is deceptive and leaves the recipient mentally drained and eventually heartbroken. ## **Examples of Breadcrumbing in Modern Dating** ### **1. Flirty Texts With No Follow-Through** Imagine this: you’re texting someone who seems genuinely interested, but every time you try to make plans, they cancel or go radio silent. These breadcrumbers drop hints of interest but avoid commitment, leaving you in limbo. ### **2. Social Media DMs** Have you ever received a random DM filled with heart emojis or compliments, only for the conversation to fizzle out? This is another classic example, where the breadcrumber keeps you hooked without genuine interaction or intimacy. ## **Signs of Breadcrumbing to Watch For** ### **Inconsistency in Communication** If the person you’re supposedly dating is breadcrumbing you, their actions will be inconsistent. They might send you a flurry of text messages one day and then, radio silence for weeks. This leaves you craving their attention. Trust me, you don’t want this kind of negativity in your life. ### **Lack of Substance** Breadcrumbers give small nuggets of communication, leading someone to believe that they have something real. But in reality, they will never commit to a real relationship. If their texts or messages are surface-level and don’t lead to meaningful connection, it’s a red flag. ![breadcrumbing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Ea268b2e-b62a-409a-a5e1-4fc4856bb084-1066x800.jpg "Ea268b2e-b62a-409a-a5e1-4fc4856bb084 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why People Breadcrumb: The Psychology Behind It** ### **Seeking Validation** Breadcrumbers are often seeking attention and reassurance without investing in a real relationship. This narcissistic behaviour stems from their need to feel wanted while dodging emotional vulnerability. ### **Fear of Commitment** Some people breadcrumb because they’re afraid of fully committing to a relationship. They string you along to keep their options open, creating frustration and confusion for the person they’re breadcrumbing. ## **How Breadcrumbing Affects You Emotionally** ### **Creates Limerence** Being a victim of breadcrumbing can lead to a state of limerence—an addictive obsession with someone who gives just enough attention to keep you hooked. It’s mentally draining and leaves you feeling unsatisfied. This kind of relationship is not healthy for your mental health at all. ### **Lowers Self-Worth** Breadcrumbing can make you question your worth, especially if you are unsure whether the person’s intentions are genuine. It’s important to remember that you are worthy of a relationship built on honesty and respect. ![breadcrumbing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/860f1125-1a0b-4c9a-b336-03de19b7e5f6-1066x800.jpg "860f1125-1a0b-4c9a-b336-03de19b7e5f6 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to Decipher a Breadcrumber’s Intentions** ### **Pay Attention to Actions** Words can be deceptive, but actions speak louder. If someone’s actions don’t match their words, they may be a breadcrumber. ### **Set Clear Boundaries** Communicate your needs and define your boundaries. If the person can’t meet your expectations, it’s better to walk away than tolerate such toxicity. ## **Examples of Breadcrumbing Versus Genuine Interest** ### **Breadcrumbing: “Let’s hang out sometime”** A breadcrumber will send vague messages like, “We should catch up soon!” but never follow through. It’s a way to keep you on the line without investing in a real connection. ### **Genuine Interest: “Are you free Friday night for dinner?”** Someone genuinely interested will make clear plans and stick to them, showing respect for your time and emotions. ## **What to Do if You’ve Been Breadcrumbed** ### **Recognise it** The first step is recognising that you have been breadcrumbed. Understanding that this behaviour is manipulative can help you regain control of the situation. ### **Take the Next Steps** Decide whether the relationship is worth pursuing. If the person continues to frustrate and manipulate you, it’s time to move on and focus on relationships that bring you joy and fulfilment. ## **The Role of Social Media in Breadcrumbing** ### **Intermittent Reinforcement** Social media makes breadcrumbing easier by enabling intermittent reinforcement. A simple “like” or DM can keep someone hooked. They will make you think they are into you romantically even when there are no real feelings involved. ### **Avoid Getting Hooked** To avoid falling into the breadcrumbing trap, don’t invest too much in [online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/sites-for-online-dating/) interactions. Look for substance and consistency in their actions, both online and [offline](https://www.axios.com/2024/06/08/love-dating-gen-z-tinder-hinge-events "offline"). ## **How to Build Healthy Relationships** ### **Prioritise Honesty and Communication** Healthy relationships are built on truthfulness and mutual respect. If someone’s actions leave you feeling confused or uncertain, it’s okay to ask for clarity. ### **Don’t Settle for Less** You deserve a relationship that’s fulfilling and supportive. Don’t tolerate breadcrumbs when you are worthy of a full loaf. ## **Final Thoughts: Recognising and Overcoming Breadcrumbing** Breadcrumbing can leave you questioning your self-worth. But remember that you can escape it early on. By recognising the signs, you can steer clear of being a victim of toxic breadcrumbers and focus on building relationships that truly matter. Once you see signs of breadcrumbing, run away as far as you can! Remember, a healthy (and serious) relationship is built on sincerity, respect, and mutual commitment, not small nuggets of communication that lead nowhere. ![Breadcrumbing | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Breadcrumbing.png "Breadcrumbing - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/your-man-is-breadcrumbing-you/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/your-man-is-breadcrumbing-you/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** breadcrumbing, relationships, dating, breakup, dating apps --- ### [The Impact of NSW Sexual Consent Laws on Personal Relationships](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-impact-of-nsw-sexual-consent-laws/) **Published:** December 29, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Understanding NSW Sexual Consent Laws The introduction of new sexual consent laws in New South Wales (NSW) marks a significant shift in the legal landscape. It aims to address and enhance the understanding of consent in sexual relationships. These reforms have been pivotal in setting clear legal expectations and fostering a culture prioritising respect and communication. By emphasising consent, these laws not only seek to prevent unwanted sexual interactions but also aim to build healthier, more respectful personal relationships. This article explores the influence of NSW sexual consent laws on personal relationships, shedding light on the balance between legal frameworks and personal interactions. Also, it’s essential to distinguish between the legal and personal dimensions of consent, ensuring clarity on their applications in daily life. ## Legal Framework: The NSW Sexual Consent Laws Explained In recent years, the NSW government introduced comprehensive changes to sexual consent laws, enhancing the legal definition and expectations surrounding the concept of consent. According to these laws, consent must be actively communicated; it should not be assumed based on silence, previous relationships or any form of coercion. These changes signify an evolution in the legal discourse regarding individual autonomy and protection. Historically, consent laws were less explicit, with ambiguities that did not adequately safeguard individuals’ rights. Today, the importance of these laws in protecting individual rights is undeniable, providing a robust framework that leaves little room for misinterpretation. Key terms such as ‘consent’, ‘coercion’, and ‘reasonable steps’ have been defined to ensure clarity in their interpretation. Ultimately, this will reinforce the legal support available to victims and deter potential offenders through clear guidelines. ## Promoting Communication: Transforming Conversations About Consent One of the most notable impacts of these laws is their encouragement of open dialogue around consent in relationships. Clear and honest conversations about consent can effectively prevent misunderstandings and foster a relationship based on mutual respect. The implementation of these laws provides a platform for individuals to feel empowered to discuss boundaries, desires, and concerns with their partners. Conversation starters and strategies for comfortably addressing consent are crucial, as they aid in creating an environment where both parties feel safe and respected. Furthermore, educating individuals about the specifics of these laws bolsters their ability to navigate consent discussions. This ultimately leads to improved relationship communication and understanding. ## Impact on Trust and Intimacy in Relationships A clear understanding of sexual consent laws contributes significantly to developing trust and intimacy in personal relationships. When both partners are aware of and adhere to these legal standards, it provides a sense of [security that bolsters trust](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/get-confidence-back-in-bed/). Understanding and practising legal consent protects individuals and contributes positively to their psychological well-being. Addressing fears and concerns openly in a relationship can enhance intimacy, as partners are encouraged to express their vulnerabilities and expectations without fear of judgment or backlash. By integrating these laws into the fabric of daily relationship dynamics, partners can maintain healthy interactions based on mutual consent and understanding. Demonstrating that these regulations are as much about nurturing personal connections as they are about legal compliance. ![NSW Sexual Consent Laws](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-68.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Challenges in Enforcing NSW Sexual Consent Laws Despite the laws’ intent to provide clarity and protection, challenges remain in their enforcement. One significant issue is the potential for misinterpretation of these laws, where individuals might still misunderstand what constitutes consent, given the complexity of human interactions. Misconceptions and myths about consent can create barriers to its proper application and enforcement, often resulting from societal perceptions that must be addressed systematically. A robust education and awareness campaign can be instrumental in overcoming these barriers, equipping individuals with the knowledge to apply these laws correctly and confidently. Potential tensions may arise in relationships when discussing consent, but implementing conflict resolution strategies can be beneficial. Encouraging open lines of communication can help partners navigate any difficulties, ensuring that the principles of consent are maintained in all interactions. ## Cultural and Societal Implications: Shifting Norms and Attitudes The introduction of these laws reflects and catalyses a shift in societal attitudes towards sexuality and relationships. By reinforcing the concept of explicit consent, these laws help shape cultural perceptions, encouraging a more respectful approach to personal interactions. Media and public discourse play a crucial role in this transformation, amplifying conversations about consent and highlighting its importance. As societal norms evolve, so do the legal frameworks, which must adapt to ensure continued protection and respect for individual rights. Society needs to remain engaged in these conversations, not just to comply with legal requirements but to cultivate a culture that inherently values consent as a fundamental aspect of human interaction. ## Conclusion: Navigating the Future of Relationships with Consent Awareness In conclusion, the [reforms to sexual consent laws](https://wmdlaw.com.au/2024/01/17/reform-of-sexual-consent-laws-in-nsw/) in NSW have ushered in significant changes in how people approach personal relationships. The laws serve as a comprehensive guide to the legal expectations of consent, fostering healthier, more communicative relationships. Encouraging ongoing dialogue and education on these matters is crucial to ensuring that everyone understands and respects the principles of consent. Balancing the legal aspects of consent with personal ethics can lead to more genuine connections where individuals feel safe and respected. As society evolves, staying informed and actively engaging with these issues will be key to navigating future relationships in a world that values consent and respects individual autonomy. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-impact-of-nsw-sexual-consent-laws/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/the-impact-of-nsw-sexual-consent-laws/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** relationship, sex life, consent --- ### [Online Dating Profile Tips: How to Find the Right Match](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-profile-tips-not-looking-for-something-serious/) **Published:** January 22, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you looking to dip your toes in the world of online dating? Or are you a seasoned swiper? Crafting an online dating profile that truly reflects your identity can feel challenging. You want to attract someone who shares your interests, values, and quirks, but without giving your whole life story away. In this article, I will guide you through tips when creating an app profile that increases your likelihood of finding love. As a single mum exploring dating apps myself, I’ve had my fair share of dating experiences (both good and bad). I’m here to share dating profile tips to help you avoid common pitfalls and set yourself up for success. ## **Online Dating Profile Tips** ## **Start with a Winning First Photo** Your first photo is your profile’s front door. Make it count! Your best photos will highlight your adventurous side and let your character shine. Remember, your first photo should reflect who you are, not a filtered version of yourself. You can also hire a professional photographer to capture a great winning photo for your online dating profiles. You can contact [Laura’s photographs](https://www.laurareidphotography.com/ "Laura's photographs") or similar sites to help you capture a memorable, warm, and authentic photo that people won’t be able to tear their eyes away from. When I first started swiping, I realised that selfies didn’t grab much attention. Instead, I included a picture from a beach trip where I was laughing with my daughter. It was authentic and warm and showed I’m looking for someone who values family. ![dating profile tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/19da16e4-1aa3-4dc7-9103-85a5e9382b9e-1066x800.jpg "19da16e4-1aa3-4dc7-9103-85a5e9382b9e - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Conversation Starter: Be Authentic in Your Bio** It’s important to avoid the cookie-cutter descriptions. Share things that make you unique. Are you a sucker for crime documentaries or an expert at whipping up pancakes? Let your bio give potential matches a glimpse into your life. But remember not to share sensitive and personal information on your profile! I once wrote, “If you can recommend a thriller I haven’t seen, you’ve got my attention.” It became an instant conversation starter and gave someone’s opening message a fun twist! ## **Keep Humour Front and Centre** Humour is your secret weapon. It’s easy to swipe left on profiles that feel stiff or generic, so let your funny side take over. A light-hearted quip can make all the difference. For example, “Fluent in toddler tantrum negotiations, and my negotiation skills are top-notch.” This one not only shows your parenting side but also lets people know you don’t take life too seriously. ## **Highlight Your Hobbies** A great profile should have at least one hobby. Love cycling and travelling? Mention it! Are you an aspiring baker or a bookworm? Share it. These details not only attract people with shared interests but also give them ideas for a first meeting. I had a fellow single mum tell me she added, “Weekend hikes with my kiddos keep me sane,” and it led to some great matches who loved the outdoors too. ## **Disclose What You’re Looking For** Be upfront about whether you are looking for a long-term relationship, a short-term fling, or something in between. This honesty saves you (and others) time and energy. When I started using Bumble, I made sure my profile clearly stated, “I’m looking for someone ready for something real.” It eliminated anyone looking for a whim and brought me closer to the right match. ## **Dating Profile Tips (cont.)** ## **Avoid Group Shots** Group photos can be confusing. Include at least one solo shot that shows off your smile and style. Remember, a potential match is looking at your profile, not trying to figure out which friend you are in a group shot. I once saw a profile where every picture was a group photo, and I couldn’t figure out who the person was! Don’t make someone’s experience downright frustrating. ## **Stay Away from Dating Profile Don’ts** Let’s talk about some common turn-offs: poor grammar, overusing filters, or only including close-up selfies. These can make you seem like a different person than you are. One dating expert recommends showing your true self instead. A selfie is fine, but mix it up with other types of photos that reflect who you really are. ## **Prompt Responses Matter** Apps like Tinder and Bumble have prompts for a reason. Use them wisely! Thoughtful prompt responses can help paint a picture of who you are while attracting potential mates who share your vibe. For example, if the prompt asks about your ideal Sunday, you could write, “A lazy morning with pancakes, cartoons, and coffee followed by a family beach day.” ## **Add a Mix of Photos** A mix of photos increases your chances of finding a suitable match. Include at least one close-up, a full-body shot, and an adventurous photo that shows your lifestyle. Choose pictures that let your personality shine. I found that a mix of photos—ranging from a casual brunch shot to a silly dress-up party—helped me attract people who appreciated my authentic self. ## **Invest Time in First Dates** Never imply anything about rushing things or getting serious during the first meeting. Unless you’re sure the feeling is mutual, avoid those topics. First dates should be about getting to know each other and having fun. Take the pressure off and treat it as a chance to connect. One of my initial dates turned into a hilarious adventure when we got lost trying to find a hiking trail. Even though it didn’t work out romantically, it was a story I’ll never forget. ![Dating profile tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/0fbcd365-be39-421f-8851-236e5515cf59-1066x800.jpg "0fbcd365-be39-421f-8851-236e5515cf59 - Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [How to choose the right online dating site](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/sites-for-online-dating/)*** ## **Final Thoughts: Dating Profile Tips** You don’t need a relationship coach to create the perfect online dating profile. But you will need thought and authenticity. By focusing on things that make you unique, avoiding common don’ts, and letting your personality shine through, you can attract potential matches who truly resonate with you. As a single mum, online dating has taught me to be upfront about what I want while keeping things light-hearted and fun. Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or simply hoping to meet new people, there’s no magic formula. The secret is showing your authentic self. So, grab your phone, polish that app profile, and start swiping. Who knows, your ideal match might just be a swipe right away! ![Dating profile tips if you’re not looking for something serious | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Profile-tips-not-serious.png "Profile tips not serious - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-profile-tips-not-looking-for-something-serious/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-profile-tips-not-looking-for-something-serious/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** dating apps, fwb, friends with benefits, online profile, casual, fling --- ### [Insurance: Never Overlook the Good Return on Investment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/never-underestimate-the-potential-return-on-investment-with-a-good-insurance-policy/) **Published:** March 12, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Insurance—just hearing the word might make you groan a little. Let’s face it, many of us see insurance as just another annoying monthly expense eating away at our budget. With bills piling up and the cost of living on the rise, it’s completely understandable why you might look at your monthly insurance payments and wonder if they’re really worth it. But when done right, a solid insurance policy can be one of the best investments you ever make. Think about it. Insurance is not only about ticking off a financial obligation, but it’s also about protecting you, your lifestyle, and the ones you love most. It shouldn’t feel like a chore or a drain on your resources. Instead, it should bring you peace of mind and a comforting sense of security. If that’s not how you’re feeling right now, maybe it’s time to review your policies. Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered with some friendly tips to get the most out of your insurance. ## **Top 5 Insurance Policies Worth Considering in Australia (and Why They Matter!)** Australia offers hundreds of different insurance options, and navigating through them can be overwhelming. Let’s simplify things by looking at five of the most important policies that will make a real difference in your life. ### **1. Health Insurance: Your Ticket to Stress-Free Medical Care** Picture this – your mum or your little one needs urgent medical treatment. The last thing you want to worry about is how you’ll afford the best possible care. Comprehensive [health insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/health-insurance-checklist/ "health insurance") ensures you have access to top-notch private healthcare without the stress of huge medical bills. Whether it’s a sudden injury or a routine check-up, knowing you have coverage provides invaluable peace of mind. ### **2. Income Protection Insurance: Keep Your Life Running Smoothly** Imagine unexpectedly being unable to work due to illness or an accident. It sounds scary, right? Income protection insurance is a true lifesaver in these situations. It replaces up to 70% of your regular income. This means your bills still get paid, groceries stay stocked, and life stays on track, even when unexpected circumstances hit hard. ### **3. Home Contents Insurance: Protecting Your Precious Memories** Think about everything you’ve gathered over the years, from your comfy couch to treasured family heirlooms. Now imagine losing it all in a fire or burglary. Devastating, isn’t it? Home contents insurance ensures all your valued possessions are protected and replaceable. Plus, it’s surprisingly affordable for the peace of mind it offers, making it a smart choice for every household. ### **4. Travel Insurance: Relax and Enjoy Every Adventure** Travelling should be about adventure, relaxation, and fun. You should not be worrying about lost luggage, cancelled flights, or unexpected illnesses when on vacation. Travel insurance covers all these scenarios, so you can fully enjoy your trips. And honestly, it’s an inexpensive way to ensure every holiday is stress-free. I remember the time my flight home from Bali got cancelled at the last minute, leaving me stuck overseas for an extra two days. Thankfully, my travel insurance kicked in immediately. It covered my accommodation and meals without any hassle. It turned a potentially stressful situation into an extension to my holiday! ### **5. Life Insurance: The Ultimate Safety Net** [Life insurance in Australia](https://www.tal.com.au/life-insurance) often gets overlooked because no one likes to think about the worst-case scenario. But it’s precisely because life can be unpredictable that this insurance matters so much. A solid life insurance policy — or dedicated [funeral insurance](https://www.seniors.com.au/funeral-insurance) — ensures your loved ones are financially secure if the unthinkable happens. It can cover funeral costs, mortgage payments, or daily living expenses. It makes sure your family doesn’t face financial hardship during an already challenging time. Plus, policies in Australia can be tailored with additional cover, making them highly versatile and practical. ## **How to Maximise Your Insurance Value (and Save Money!)** ![insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/756ce755-daaa-4421-8901-b375e06694d2-1066x800.jpg "756ce755-daaa-4421-8901-b375e06694d2 - Beanstalk Mums") Now, let’s get real about costs. Yes, insurance can add up, but here’s a fantastic tip to significantly reduce expenses: bundling your policies. Insurance providers in Australia typically offer discounts if you bundle multiple insurance types. For example, combining your health, income protection, home, and life insurance into one comprehensive package can substantially lower your monthly premiums. It’s like getting a bulk discount at your favourite shop, only better because you’re investing in your peace of mind! ## **Quick Tips for Choosing the Right Life Insurance in Australia** - **Review Regularly:** Your needs will change over time—maybe you’ve bought a house, had children, or changed jobs. Make sure your policy reflects your current life situation. - **Compare Policies:** Different providers offer different perks. Don’t settle on the first policy you see. Shop around to get the best cover and price. - **Understand Inclusions:** Always know exactly what your policy covers. Look out for important details such as exclusions or waiting periods. By staying informed and regularly updating your policies, you’ll ensure your life insurance and other policies remain relevant and cost-effective. ## **Final Thoughts** Ultimately, insurance—especially life insurance in Australia—is not just about ticking a box or throwing money away each month. It’s an investment in your peace of mind, your family’s wellbeing, and your financial security. When life throws curveballs, and let’s face it, it inevitably does, having the right policies in place can mean the difference between weathering a crisis comfortably or facing financial hardship. A decade ago, after witnessing a close family friend struggle financially after unexpectedly losing their partner, I understood the true value of life insurance. It gave me a powerful reminder that protecting your loved ones’ futures is essential. Life’s unpredictable enough, your finances don’t have to be. Make your insurance work for you! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/never-underestimate-the-potential-return-on-investment-with-a-good-insurance-policy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/never-underestimate-the-potential-return-on-investment-with-a-good-insurance-policy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Mind Matters: Why Brain Health Is the New Conversation in Wellness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mind-matters-why-brain-health-is-the-new-conversation-in-wellness/) **Published:** November 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Australia’s wellness industry is booming — from strength training and skincare to meditation, cold plunges and sleep tracking. As this culture matures, the next frontier is becoming clear: brain health. Alongside movement and nutrition, many people are now asking how to support mental clarity, calm and focus in a more structured way. For mums, this isn’t just a trend; it’s deeply practical. Between kids, work, ageing parents, relationships and the “life admin” that never seems to end, mental energy is one of the most precious resources we have. Feeling scattered, foggy or emotionally drained can make even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming. So it makes sense that more women are starting to ask: What does looking after my brain actually look like in everyday life? ## From Rituals to Results: Where Brain Health Clinics Fit In Beyond mindfulness apps and at-home rituals, a new wave of clinics is beginning to explore non-invasive, tech-enabled approaches to cognitive wellbeing. These experiences don’t rely on medication or needles. Instead, they use gentle electromagnetic stimulation to support the mind–body connection — a way to reset, focus and recharge in a professional environment. Think of it as another layer of support. Many women will still lean on familiar tools like breathing exercises, journaling or a walk in fresh air. But now, there is also the option of adding structured, clinic-based sessions designed specifically with mental health in mind. One company driving this evolution is [BTL Aesthetics](https://btlaesthetics.com.au/), a global leader in non-invasive technologies. Its latest innovation, [EXOMIND](https://btlaesthetics.com.au/for-providers/exomind-providers)™, brings a clinic-based option for those curious about integrating brain wellness into their existing self-care routines. Sessions are comfortable, short (usually under 30 minutes) and designed to fit around real life — between school drop-off, work or the gym. You don’t have to block out half a day or recover afterwards. For many, it’s not about aesthetics at all, but about creating space for a clearer, calmer mind and a more resilient response to everyday stress. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Screenshot-2025-11-20-at-9-28-16-pm-1200x520.jpg "Screenshot 2025-11-20 at 9 28 16 pm - Beanstalk Mums") ## Why This Resonates with Mums Between parenting, work and the constant juggling act of daily life, “mental load” has become a familiar term — and an exhausting one. The growing focus on mental health speaks directly to this reality. The mental load isn’t just about how much you do, but how much you hold: schedules, appointments, lunchboxes, social dynamics, school emails, family logistics, and everyone’s emotional wellbeing — including your own. Over time, that invisible responsibility can feel like you’re running multiple tabs open in your brain, all at once. For some, caring for the mind means daily walks, yoga or meditation. For others, it includes exploring new technologies that blend science and wellness, like the EXOMIND™, now available in select clinics across Australia. Importantly, this isn’t positioned as a cure-all, but as one more option in a larger mental wellbeing toolkit. The appeal lies in choice — being able to explore mind–body support that suits individual needs, without pharmaceuticals or extended downtime. Some women might choose a few sessions during particularly demanding seasons of life — returning to work after maternity leave, caring for a sick child, going through separation, or navigating perimenopause. Others may see it as part of ongoing self-care, alongside seeing a psychologist, prioritising sleep or setting clearer boundaries. There’s also something quietly powerful about having a dedicated time and space where your only job is to sit, receive and reset — no multitasking, no planning, no decision-making. For many mothers, that alone can feel radical. ![brain health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-emrekeshavarz-7207270-1200x751.jpg "Pexels-emrekeshavarz-7207270 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Technology Meets Holistic Brain Health Wellness What’s notable about this new movement is how it bridges disciplines — psychology, aesthetics, wellness and neuroscience — all in the pursuit of better balance. Clinics adopting this model often combine mind-focused technology with restorative programs such as breathwork, nutrition, mindfulness and movement. Some offer layered experiences, where [EXOMIND](https://btlaesthetics.com.au/for-providers/exomind-providers)™ sessions sit alongside practices that support sleep, nervous-system regulation and stress management, creating a more holistic approach to feeling well. The result is a more integrated version of self-care — one that treats brain wellness as another pillar of feeling well, just like skincare or exercise. Instead of thinking of “mental health” as something only addressed in crisis, mind wellness becomes part of everyday maintenance, like brushing your teeth or moisturising your skin. For women already visiting clinics for skin, body or general wellness treatments, adding a mind-focused option can feel like a natural extension. It recognises that how you feel in your brain and body are closely linked — and that real wellbeing should ideally support both. ## A New Chapter in Self-Care For years, self-care has largely meant looking after the body: moving more, eating well, drinking water, getting facials or massages. Now, the conversation is turning inward — towards the organ that shapes how we think, feel and connect with the people we love. Crucially, this isn’t about striving for perfection or becoming some idealised, endlessly productive version of yourself. It’s about presence. Being able to focus on your child’s story at dinner without your mind racing. Remembering what you walked into a room for. Feeling a little more grounded in the face of everyday chaos. Brain wellness isn’t a replacement for professional [mental health care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/ "mental health care"), and it’s not a shortcut to happiness. But as part of a broader, holistic approach to wellbeing — including social connection, rest, support, movement and, where needed, therapy — it offers women another way to care for themselves in a world that rarely slows down. As brain wellness joins Australia’s growing wellness movement, it’s giving women — especially mothers — a fresh way to reclaim focus, clarity and calm. And perhaps most importantly, it’s reinforcing a message many mums need to hear: your mind deserves just as much care as your body. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mind-matters-why-brain-health-is-the-new-conversation-in-wellness/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/mind-matters-why-brain-health-is-the-new-conversation-in-wellness/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Should I return to study as a single mother?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/study-single-mum/) **Published:** November 12, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Lots of single mums make the decision to study with the intention of changing or improving their careers. Many are super successful and absolutely love it. But it’s not for everyone. If you’re thinking about returning to the world of academia, we suggest you do your homework to be certain it is right for you at this point in your life. Study courses are not cheap, and if you start but don’t finish, it could be a waste of money and time, which is in short supply anyway. For this reason, we’ve compiled a list of questions to ask yourself that will help you make an educated decision about returning to study as a single mother. ## IS IT THE RIGHT TIME TO STUDY? Being a student is associated with being young. Studying as a mature student brings to mind a ticking clock and a sense of urgency. Although getting your study done and dusted sooner rather than later has many advantages, there is no age limit to studying. According to [The Guardian](https://www.theguardian.com/education/2018/jan/12/never-too-old-new-tricks-joy-mature-student-university): > *“Age is not a barrier when it comes to learning. About 40% of mature students studying at university are over the age of 30, some in their 50s and 60s. Many have mortgages, families and are in full-time employment.”* Instead, focus on your own circumstances and whether it is the right time for you to make this commitment. If you return to study as a single mother, timing is everything. Getting it right could be the difference between seeing it through or giving up. ## CAN I AFFORD TO STUDY AS A SINGLE MOTHER? Whether you plan to study full-time or part-time, it can put pressure on your finances, which may already be stretched. Most study is covered by loans if you meet the eligibility criteria, such as HECS-HELP, FEE-HELP or VET. Check what is offered by your chosen course and what the criteria are for paying it back. If a loan is too eye-watering at this stage in your life, you could try for a scholarship. Being a single mum may be the trump card you need! In addition to the cost of your education, you must account for the loss of earnings due to studying. Can you take the hit? Check for government payments available while you study to help bridge the gap. [AUSTUDY](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/austudy) provides financial support if you are 25 or older, in approved full-time education and under the income test limits. ## DO I HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO DO ALL THE COURSE WORK? Before you start shopping online for pencil cases, work out whether you actually have enough time in your week to see this thing through. Course information will include how many hours you will be required to work each week. This is just a guide, so round it up to allow for false starts and interruptions from little people. Don’t forget to add on travel time for on-campus study. Use a weekly planner to work out if you physically have enough hours available to complete the study. If not, can you shift commitments around or arrange childcare to free up time? If yes, great. If no, consider waiting until you have more time available. This might come when your children are at school or when they are older and more independent. ## AM I CHOOSING THE RIGHT COURSE FOR MY LIFESTYLE? Choosing the right course for you is half the battle, so allow yourself plenty of time for research. With study, there are many ways to reach a similar destination. Since COVID, online study has become more popular than ever, which means you don’t have to get to a campus and allow for hefty travel times. Some courses are entirely online, while others have a few on-campus commitments. ![Should I return to study as a single mother?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Mba-794x800.jpg "Mba - Beanstalk Mums") Explore study options that have the flexibility you need for your lifestyle. Nowadays, many university courses are set up with mature students in mind, knowing that you need to juggle work and kids around your learning — for instance, a [flexible part-time MBA course](https://www.aib.edu.au/courses/online-mba/part-time-mba-program/) can be an excellent choice if you want to upskill without putting your career on hold. ## WHAT IS MY MOTIVATION TO STUDY? This is really important because your motivation is your reason to study. It needs to be strong enough for you to persevere even when times get tough … and they will. Are you following a lifelong career dream? Or are you doing it because a couple of friends are studying and thought, Why not? Like with all long-term goals, your motivation will be highest at the beginning, but it will wane. Make sure you are fully focused on your “why” to ensure your commitment will carry you through. ## WHAT IF I START AND DON’T LIKE IT? It might be that you start with brilliant intentions only to discover it’s not for you. If this happens, you are not alone! According to [PolicyForum](https://www.policyforum.net/universities-dont-have-a-drop-out-problem/#:~:text=In%20Australia%2C%2050%2C000%20students%20drop,flexibility%20and%20student%20outreach%20programs.): > *“In Australia, 50,000 students drop out of university each year – that’s more than one in five students.”* ***Best tip ever:*** Make a note of the census date for your course, which is usually about three weeks after the start date. If you cancel before the census date, there will be no fees or debt repayment. ## CAN I JUGGLE WORK, STUDY AND PARENTHOOD? This could well be the juggle of your life! Can you do it? Or better still, can you do it without having a nervous breakdown? Only you know the answer to this. Think carefully about all your obligations. You are a mum, possibly an employee. Can you squeeze another hat into the ring? For some, we only really find the answer by giving it a go. If you find it too hard, most universities and colleges have the option to defer for a year, which is a fairly simple process. It can give you the breathing space you need to focus on your family and recharge, ready to get your head back into the books further down the line. ***Further reading:*** [***Tips for studying as a single mum.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/) ![Study single mother | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Study-single-mother.png "Study single mother - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/study-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/study-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** education, career, study, university, uni, retrain --- ### [Upsizing Essentials: Key Considerations to Make Before you Buy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/upsizing-essentials-key-considerations-to-make-before-you-buy/) **Published:** November 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Naturally, upsizing can be difficult for growing families. Alongside homeownership being one of life’s greatest expenses, parents of school-aged children also need to factor in school fees, costs associated with extracurricular activities, and, in some cases, maybe even consider having their kids move to a different school or sports team altogether to make the move more feasible. For single parents, these considerations become even more complex, with upsizing on a single income coming with its own unique challenges. Parents who are managing coparenting arrangements also need to make sure the address of their new property won’t be detrimental to the second caregiver, complicating weekly pickup and dropoff schedules and potentially even resulting in more consultations or mediation sessions with the family lawyers. Below, we’ve outlined some of the key considerations you should make before you think about buying a larger home for you and your family to grow into. ## Upsizing tip #1: Account for all costs – not just mortgage repayments Upsizing as a single parent typically requires careful [financial planning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-actually-survive-financially-as-a-single-mum/). But it’s important to keep in mind that you’re budgeting for more than just an estimated increase to your mortgage repayments. For instance, a bigger house with more rooms means more lights on every evening, which equates to higher utility bills. Similarly, upsizing to a larger home means you can also expect to [upgrade your home and contents insurance](https://www.racv.com.au/insurance/home-insurance/home-and-contents.html). Here, it may even be worthwhile getting in touch with your insurance provider to see if they can prep an estimate if you were to upsize. That way, you can proceed with your upsizing plans with a more realistic expectation of the total financial impact you can anticipate both during and following your move. ## Upsizing tip #2: Consider access to schools and other local amenities Moving home as a single parent who’s involved in a coparenting arrangement naturally means considering your partner’s address as well. If you’re planning to move further away from their fixed address, you may even need to secure their approval to move through mediation with your family law team. ![upsizing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-olly-761999-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-761999 - Beanstalk Mums") Even if you do have full custody, however, you will still need to think about how your move will affect your children’s access to other family members like aunts, uncles, and grandparents. In most cases, your plans to upsize may even include making space arrangements to accommodate extended family like grandparents moving into the family home with you, however. Outside of family considerations, parents must also keep in mind that a house move may also affect their daily school run and other routines. If you’re planning to move further away from your children’s school, GP clinic, or their extracurricular activities (i.e. local sports teams, swimming squads, theatre groups, etc.), then you will need to do a little research to see what your new commutes are likely to look like. If some of the journeys may be unfeasible, then consider looking for alternative properties, or perhaps even asking your children if they may be open to joining a new local team or attending a new school. Yes, this is never ideal, but in some cases (like [interstate moves](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/how-to-relocate-interstate-as-a-coparent/), for instance) it may be unavoidable. ![Upsizing Essentials: Key Considerations to Make Before you Buy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4247756-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4247756 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Upsizing tip #3: Prioritise lifestyle expenses prior to your move Upsizing means not only budgeting for a bigger mortgage, but also budgeting for more furniture, homewares, and home appliances. But it’s hard enough to put together a 20% deposit for your mortgage, so you can all but expect that some of these big purchases will have to be budgeted for once your move is already complete. Here, it helps to make a list of priority expenses so you know what you’ll need to prioritise buying first as soon as you have the funds to do so. For instance, making sure kids all have adequate bedding and bedroom furniture is likely going to be a higher priority than buying a flatscreen TV or a slushie machine. That being said, you may also look to prioritise affordable appliances just to improve the lifestyle factors for your new property and help the family settle in a little easier. If the kids are still feeling a little unsettled, splurging a little on a new jaffle maker may help them see the upsides to the new house. ![upsizing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-cottonbro-4569289-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-4569289 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Upsizing tip #4: Leave ample time for settling in Moving day is always guaranteed to be difficult – and with young kids in tow, ‘moving day’ can easily turn into ‘moving week’, or heaven forbid, ‘moving month’? At any rate, it can be tempting to try and speedrun your move and get everything out of the way in just a weekend. For working parents, this may also feel like a necessity, because you can only take so much leave to accommodate your moving plans. But it’s important to keep in mind that house moves can be stressful for kids in many different ways. On top of being physically unsettling and requiring kids to adapt to a ‘new normal’ very quickly, house moves can also be emotional for kids who’ve grown attached to their old bedrooms or their old neighbourhoods. So if you do have time to stagger your move, it may give kids plenty of opportunities to say ‘goodbye’ to the old house and enjoy some extra time between their old and new neighbourhoods. Staggering your move can also be ideal for single parents moving from rental properties. You don’t want to rush through your condition report assessment and do final run-throughs before you hand over the keys back to your property manager. **Pro tip:** Check out our [moving day tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/empowering-single-mums-with-efficient-moving-tips/) specifically for single mums looking to maximise their efficiency and get the very best value from their moving truck rental. ## Final tip: Chart your upsizing course with greater confidence Granted, this is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to upsizing considerations. Single parents must also make sure their new home accommodates both the current and anticipated future needs of their family – that is, if you’re not planning on moving again for a long time. Thankfully, with some careful financial planning and due diligence, you should be able to find the perfect home in the right location to accommodate your family as your kids continue to grow older. Just be sure to use the essential considerations we’ve outlined above as a jumping-off point for your own strategic househunting and property planning. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/upsizing-essentials-key-considerations-to-make-before-you-buy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/upsizing-essentials-key-considerations-to-make-before-you-buy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [From Bull to Bear: Adapting Your Portfolio in Changing Markets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/from-bull-to-bear-adapting-your-portfolio-in-changing-markets/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The stock market is cyclical; what goes up must eventually correct or decline. While bull markets bring optimism and growth, bear markets test investors’ discipline and strategy. Knowing how to adapt your portfolio during these shifts can mean the difference between preserving wealth and suffering unnecessary losses. One of the most critical skills in investing is recognising when to sell shares, especially when market conditions turn unfavourable. With the rise of digital trading, investors now have more tools than ever to [sell shares online quickly and efficiently](https://www.sellmyshares.com.au/). But should you? And if so, how? In this guide, we’ll explore: ✔ How to identify shifting market conditions ✔ When to sell shares in a downturn ✔ Strategies to protect your portfolio ✔ The role of online trading in bear markets ## **Understanding Market Cycles: Bull vs. Bear** ### **What Defines a Bull Market?** A bull market is characterised by rising stock prices, strong investor confidence, and economic growth. Key traits include: - Sustained upward trends (typically 20%+ from recent lows) - High trading volumes as more investors buy - Positive economic indicators (low unemployment, GDP growth) During bull markets, investors often adopt a “buy and hold” strategy, expecting continued gains. ### **What Triggers a Bear Market?** A bear market occurs when stocks fall 20% or more from recent highs. Common causes include: - Economic recessions - Geopolitical crises (wars, trade wars) - Interest rate hikes (increasing borrowing costs) - Market bubbles bursting (e.g., dot-com crash, 2008 financial crisis) In bear markets, fear dominates, and many investors rush to sell shares to avoid further losses. ## **When Should You Sell Shares in a Bear Market?** Not every downturn requires panic selling. Here’s how to decide when to sell shares online strategically: ### **1. When Fundamentals Deteriorate** - If a company’s earnings decline, debt rises, or leadership falters, it may be time to exit. - Example: Many investors sold Meta (Facebook) shares in 2022 when growth slowed. ### **2. When Technical Indicators Signal Weakness** - Watch for breaking key support levels or death crosses (50-day MA crossing below 200-day MA). - Tools like RSI (Relative Strength Index) can show overbought/oversold conditions. ### **3. When Rebalancing Is Necessary** - Shift from high-risk stocks to defensive assets (utilities, consumer staples, [fixed-income investments like bonds](https://www.investmentmarkets.com.au/investments/fixed-income "fixed-income investments like bonds")). - Example: In 2022, investors moved from tech stocks to energy and healthcare. ### **4. When You Need Tax-Loss Harvesting** - Selling losing positions can offset capital gains taxes. - Example: Selling a declining stock to balance gains from a winner. ### **5. When Emotional Panic Sets In (Be Careful!)** - Fear-driven selling often leads to buying high and selling low. - Instead of reacting, follow a pre-defined exit strategy. ## **How to Sell Shares Online Safely in Volatile Markets** With online trading, selling shares is faster than ever, but speed can lead to mistakes. Follow these best practices: ### **✔ Use Limit Orders (Not Market Orders)** - A market order sells immediately at the current price, which can be risky in fast-moving markets. - A limit order lets you set a minimum acceptable price. ### **✔ Avoid Selling at Market Open/Close** - Volatility spikes during these times, leading to worse execution prices. - Wait for liquidity to stabilise (usually 30-60 minutes after opening). ### **✔ Diversify Exit Strategies** - Instead of selling all at once, scale out in portions (e.g., 25% at a time). - This reduces regret if the market rebounds. ### **✔ Monitor Liquidity** - Thinly traded stocks can have wide bid-ask spreads, hurting your sale price. - Check volume before executing large trades. ![adapting your portfolio](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Adapting-your-portfolio-1200x800.png "Adapting your portfolio - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Alternative Strategies (Instead of Selling)** If you’re hesitant to sell shares online during a downturn, consider these alternatives: ### **1. Hedge with Options** - Buy protective puts to limit downside risk. - Sell covered calls for income on existing holdings. ### **2. Rotate into Defensive Sectors** - Shift from tech/growth stocks to: - Consumer staples (e.g., Procter & Gamble) - Utilities (e.g., NextEra Energy) - Healthcare (e.g., Johnson & Johnson) ### **3. Dollar-Cost Averaging (DCA)** - Continue buying quality stocks at lower prices to lower your average cost. ### **4. Hold Dividend Stocks** - Companies with strong cash flows and dividends can provide income during downturns. - Examples: Coca-Cola, Verizon. ## **Psychological Traps to Avoid** Even seasoned investors make mistakes in bear markets. Watch out for: ### **❌ Panic Selling** - Selling at the bottom locks in losses. - Solution: Stick to your investment thesis unless fundamentals change. ### **❌ Hoping for a “Dead Cat Bounce”** - Temporary rebounds can be traps before further declines. - Solution: Have a clear exit plan before emotions take over. ### **❌ Overconfidence in “Bargain Hunting”** - Not every cheap stock is a good buy. - Solution: Wait for confirmed uptrends before buying dips. ## **Final Thoughts: Adapting Your Portfolio Without Overreacting** Bear markets are inevitable, but they don’t have to devastate your portfolio. The key is to: ✅ Stay informed (watch economic data, earnings reports) ✅ Have a plan (define your selling rules in advance) ✅ Use online tools wisely (limit orders, research platforms) ✅ Keep emotions in check (avoid herd mentality) Whether you choose to sell shares online, hedge, or hold, the decision should align with your long-term goals and risk tolerance. ***Related article: [Practical Financial Literacy for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/from-bull-to-bear-adapting-your-portfolio-in-changing-markets/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/from-bull-to-bear-adapting-your-portfolio-in-changing-markets/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Professional Drafting and Design: Stress-Free Home Makeovers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/professional-drafting-and-design-stress-free-home-makeovers/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes to creating a home or commercial space that truly fits your vision, professional drafting and design services play an invaluable role. Services like those offered by [Gardner Design and Drafting](https://gardnerdesign.com.au/) provide expertise and precision that help ensure your project is completed efficiently and accurately. But why invest in professional services when there are many do-it-yourself design options available? This article delves into the unique benefits of working with experienced drafters and designers to bring your project to life. ## Understanding Professional Drafting and Design Services Professional drafting and design services focus on the technical aspects of architectural planning, ensuring that every structural and aesthetic element is well thought out before construction begins. These services can include creating blueprints, 3D modelling, and even interior layouts. While drafting and design may seem straightforward, they involve a level of detail that requires specialized knowledge, as the results directly impact both functionality and beauty in the final product. ## Why Expertise Matters: The Role of Skilled Professionals One of the greatest advantages of hiring a professional for drafting and design is the expertise they bring to the table. Unlike general contractors or DIY [enthusiasts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/sports-travel-enthusiasts-australia/), trained drafters and designers understand the nuances of spatial planning, materials, and structure that contribute to the durability and appeal of the finished building. Their knowledge ensures your project not only looks good on paper but functions effectively in the real world. ### Experience Enhances Precision Experienced drafters know how to work with detailed dimensions, integrate intricate architectural features, and consider variables like weight distribution and load-bearing points. This expertise minimizes errors, making the drafting phase smoother and less prone to costly adjustments during construction. ### Access to the Latest Tools and Techniques Professional firms have access to advanced design software that can create accurate and detailed plans. These tools go beyond simple sketches to show exact measurements, proportions, and even 3D renderings, allowing you to see how the final project will look before the ground is broken. ## Enhanced Accuracy and Attention to Detail Professional drafting and design services focus on accuracy down to the smallest detail, from exact measurements to aligning design elements with your project’s overall vision. Attention to detail is critical in construction projects, as even minor mistakes can lead to structural issues or unwanted changes in the design. ![Professional Drafting and Design](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Image-1.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ### Reducing Errors and Revisions Accuracy in drafting prevents costly changes later on by highlighting potential issues in the planning stages. For instance, a professional designer can identify if a room’s dimensions will accommodate necessary furniture or if there are enough windows for natural light, ensuring that your ideas are feasible from the start. ### Adherence to Aesthetic and Functional Balance A [professional designer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/8-graphic-design-online-courses-for-beginners-in-2023/) considers both form and function, aligning your desired aesthetic with practical design elements. This balance is particularly important in spaces like kitchens or bathrooms, where both utility and style are paramount. By blending these aspects, a professional can design spaces that are beautiful, functional, and efficient. ## Time and Cost Savings Through Effective Planning One of the most overlooked benefits of professional drafting and design services is the savings they provide in both time and costs. While the upfront investment may seem high, professional planning often leads to significant savings during the actual construction. ### Efficient Project Timeline Professionals streamline the design and drafting process by establishing a clear and detailed project plan from the start. This preparation reduces the likelihood of unexpected delays, as contractors will have a well-thought-out roadmap to follow. With a detailed draft, all parties involved know the timeline and scope, making each phase more predictable and manageable. ### Cost Control Through Detailed Budgeting By planning out materials, labour, and time commitments, professional drafters can provide accurate budget estimates. They account for everything from structural materials to finishing touches, preventing budget overruns and allowing you to allocate funds strategically. ## Improved Communication and Visualization Another essential advantage of professional drafting services is the enhanced communication they facilitate between stakeholders. These services help translate a client’s ideas into a visual and technical format that contractors, engineers, and clients can understand and execute effectively. ### Creating a Clear Vision for All Stakeholders Professionals create detailed drafts that serve as a common reference for everyone involved in the project. This clarity ensures everyone is on the same page, reducing the chances of miscommunication that could lead to mistakes or rework. ### 3D Renderings and Virtual Walkthroughs A professional designer can provide 3D renderings or virtual walkthroughs of the space, which give you a realistic view of the final design. This visual aid helps you understand how the design will work in practice, making it easier to suggest adjustments before construction begins. ## Compliance with Building Codes and Regulations Navigating local and national building codes can be challenging, especially for those unfamiliar with construction regulations. A professional design service ensures that your project adheres to these regulations, safeguarding you against legal issues and potential fines. ### Meeting Safety Standards Building codes are essential for safety, dictating everything from structural requirements to electrical and plumbing standards. Professional drafters understand these codes and will design plans that adhere to them, reducing the risk of safety violations and ensuring the building is safe for occupancy. This also extends to on-site safety practices, such as displaying the [appropriate construction signage](https://www.timberfix.com.au/australian-construction-site-signage-requirements/ "appropriate construction signage") required under Australian WHS regulations. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Image.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ### Avoiding Legal Complications Non-compliance with codes can lead to significant fines and delays. Professional drafters stay informed about the latest code requirements, ensuring that your project avoids these costly issues. Their familiarity with the legal aspects of construction can streamline the permitting process, allowing your project to progress smoothly. ## Adaptability for Future Modifications Another key benefit of working with professional drafters is their ability to create designs that can accommodate future modifications. Life evolves, and so do your needs—whether that means adding a new room, adjusting layouts, or updating materials. Professional drafting ensures that your structure is built with adaptability in mind, allowing for these future changes. ### Planning for Longevity With professional design, you can incorporate elements that make the space functional now and in the future. For instance, families may opt for flexible room layouts or open spaces that can later be repurposed. By thinking long-term, professional designers create spaces that serve their clients well for years to come. ### Eco-Friendly and Sustainable Solutions Many professional drafting and design services now incorporate sustainable practices, helping you minimize the environmental impact of your project. This can include using energy-efficient materials, optimizing natural light, and planning for effective insulation. These features not only reduce your [ecological footprint](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-024-57994-z) but can also lower long-term energy costs. ## Conclusion: The Value of Investing in Professional Design Opting for professional drafting and design services might seem like an added cost, but in reality, it’s an investment in the quality, efficiency, and longevity of your project. The expertise, accuracy, and foresight professionals provide can transform a basic concept into a well-executed, high-quality structure. By choosing to work with experts, you can feel confident that every detail of your project is in capable hands, ensuring a result that is both beautiful and built to last. Whether you’re embarking on a residential or commercial construction journey, working with a drafting and design service can help you achieve a result that not only meets but exceeds your expectations. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/professional-drafting-and-design-stress-free-home-makeovers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/professional-drafting-and-design-stress-free-home-makeovers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Postpartum Hair Loss: Understanding and Solutions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/postpartum-hair-loss-understanding-and-solutions/) **Published:** November 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Bringing a new life into the world is a transformative experience, but it also causes many physical and hormonal changes. Hair loss is one of the most common, but often unexpected, postpartum symptoms. The excessive shedding that many new mothers experience a few months after giving birth can be upsetting. Understanding the causes, timeline, and solutions for hair thinning can help you manage postpartum hair care more effectively. ## **Why Does Postpartum Hair Loss Happen?** Hormonal changes following childbirth are the main cause of postpartum hair loss, also known as telogen effluvium. During pregnancy, elevated oestrogen levels prolong the hair’s growth phase (anagen), resulting in thicker, fuller hair. However, oestrogen levels fall dramatically after delivery, causing more hairs to enter the shedding phase (telogen). This causes noticeable thinning of the hair, which usually peaks three to four months after giving birth. This shedding is temporary and typically goes away in six to twelve months, according to the American Academy of Dermatology (AAD). ## **How Common Is Postpartum Hair Loss?** Hair loss after giving birth is extremely common, affecting as many as 50% of new mothers. Although it might seem concerning, this is a temporary and natural process rather than an indication of irreversible hair loss. According to research, individual differences in hair loss may be influenced by factors such as genetics, stress levels, and general health. The three stages of the hair growth cycle are telogen (resting/shedding), catagen (transition), and anagen (growth). After giving birth, a greater proportion of hairs enter the telogen phase, which results in noticeable shedding. Hair growth usually returns to normal by the child’s first birthday, although postpartum hair loss is most noticeable around the third or fourth month after giving birth. But for some women, persistent hair loss might be an indication of a medical condition like thyroid dysfunction or iron deficiency. ## **Hair Thinning Solutions for New Mothers** Even though postpartum hair loss is a normal occurrence, there are things you can do to help it go away and encourage new growth: ### **1. Prioritise a Nutrient-Rich Diet** A healthy diet is essential for maintaining hair health after giving birth. Essential nutrients such as biotin, iron, zinc, and vitamin D help to strengthen and grow hair. Iron-rich foods, like spinach, lean meats, and legumes, are crucial for healing because iron deficiency is a common cause of hair thinning. Furthermore, omega-3 fatty acids and antioxidants found in salmon, nuts, and berries can improve scalp health and strengthen hair follicles. ### **2. Gentle Hair Care Routine** Using mild, sulphate-free shampoo and conditioner can help reduce breakage. Excessive heat styling, tight hairstyles, and harsh chemical treatments should be avoided because they can exacerbate hair loss. To avoid removing natural oils from the scalp, wash your hair with lukewarm water and use a wide-tooth comb to prevent further damage. ### **3. Reduce Stress and Prioritise Sleep** Chronic stress and sleep deprivation can aggravate hair loss. Relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, and deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress and improve overall hair health. Cortisol spikes brought on by stress can disrupt the hair cycle and cause prolonged shedding. Stress-related hair loss can be reduced by making sure you get enough sleep and postpartum care. ### **4. Scalp Massages and Hair Oils** ![postpartum hair loss](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Hair-loss-in-image-1200x800.png "Hair loss in image - Beanstalk Mums") Natural oils like coconut oil or rosemary can be used to massage the scalp, improving blood flow and encouraging hair growth. Massages of the scalp may stimulate hair follicles, promoting healing from postpartum shedding. Using essential oils to moisturise the scalp on a regular basis can also help keep it hydrated and lessen inflammation, which may be a factor in excessive shedding. ### **5. Hair Growth Products** Incorporating innovative[ **hair-thinning solutions**, such as the **Calecim Advanced Hair System**](https://calecimprofessional.com/), into your daily routine can provide advanced support for hair growth. These products optimise hair follicle function, stimulate regrowth, boost hair density, and reduce hair shedding. Combining this product with a healthy diet and lifestyle changes can enhance the results of your postpartum hair care plan. ### **6. Consider Postpartum Hair Supplements** Supplements high in collagen, omega-3 fatty acids, and vitamin B-complex are among the safe postpartum supplements that may promote hair growth. However, before incorporating any new supplement into your regimen, always get advice from your healthcare provider. Iron and folic acid-rich prenatal vitamins may still be good for hair health after delivery. ### **7. Seek Professional Guidance** Seeking advice from a dermatologist or trichologist can assist in determining underlying conditions like hormonal imbalances or nutritional deficiencies if postpartum hair loss lasts longer than a year or causes noticeable thinning. You might also explore evidence-based options like The [Hairy Pill for Women’s Hair Loss](https://www.thehairypill.com.au/womens-hair-loss), which provides personalised treatments designed to target female hair loss at the root cause. According to WebMD,[ a thyroid disorder or anaemia could be the cause of persistent hair loss](https://www.webmd.com/baby/what-to-do-if-you-have-postpartum-hair-loss), so it is best to consult a medical professional if you notice that your hair is not growing back after a few weeks of treatment. ## **Hair Shedding Prevention: Long-Term Hair Care** Even though postpartum hair loss is only temporary, proactive [hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/) practices can support the health of your hair in the long run: - Maintain a protein-rich diet to strengthen the hair strands. - Stay hydrated to keep your scalp and hair hydrated. - Use a silk pillowcase to reduce friction and avoid breakage. - Trim split ends on a regular basis to keep your hair looking healthy. - When possible, avoid using excessive heat styling tools and instead dry by air. - Try volumising haircuts or styles to make thinning less visible. ## **Conclusion** Many new mums experience postpartum hair loss, which is a common and transient occurrence. Although it can be concerning, its effects can be lessened by being aware of the causes and implementing good postpartum hair care techniques. By reducing stress, maintaining a healthy diet, and using gentle hair care methods, new mothers can encourage healthier hair regrowth. A professional’s advice can help address any underlying issues if hair loss appears excessive or persistent. Remember that with the right technique, your hair can gradually regain its natural volume and strength. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/postpartum-hair-loss-understanding-and-solutions/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/postpartum-hair-loss-understanding-and-solutions/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [How can a single parent buy a home?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/) **Published:** September 10, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** > *We work hard at Beanstalk to keep our information and resources fresh for you, the reader. For this reason, our articles are checked regularly to ensure information and links are current. This article was last checked in 12 November 2025. Feel free to contact us if there are more updates we failed to include or if there is wrong information on this page.* How can a single parent buy a home? As a single parent or single legal guardian, buying a new home might seem as unlikely as your kids voluntarily cleaning their rooms. But with the right knowledge and a few handy tips, [buying your first home](https://www.dijones.com.au/library/blog/buying-property/buying-a-house-step-by-step-guide "buying your first home") on your own might be more achievable than you think. According to [HomeStart Finance](https://www.homestart.com.au), nearly 20% of their customers are single with dependents. That’s an encouraging figure and should motivate you to navigate the housing market solo. Owning a home has many advantages, including a sense of stability, security, and pride, a closer tie to your community, and greater privacy. Plus, there are financial perks, such as the home increasing in value, predictable costs (with fixed-rate mortgages), and possible tax deductions. With this in mind, here are some useful tips to help an Australian single parent purchase a home. Learn everything – from how to get a home loan application to increasing your income. Whether you want to buy an investment property, build a new home or purchase an existing home with a deposit required, here’s your guide on your home-buyer’s journey. ## How Can I Purchase a Property as a Single Mum? ### **Understand What Counts as Your Income** Your income is key when it comes to getting a mortgage or home loan as a single parent as it dictates what you can borrow. Did you know some lenders allow you to include Australian government payments as income? These include Family Tax Benefit A & B, Parenting Payments, Child Care Benefit, and large family allowances available to eligible families. No rush, you have until 30 June 2025 to submit your papers. For more about government assistance that can help you buy a home sooner, see: [*What Benefits Am I Entitled to as a Single Mum*](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/government-benefits-for-single-mums/). ### **Check Your Eligibility for a First Home Owners Grant** Depending on your history in the property market, you may be eligible for the [First Home Owners Gran](https://www.firsthome.gov.au)t. These government schemes vary depending on what state you live in, but they’re definitely worth checking out. Imagine receiving a $15,000 kickstart towards your mortgage! Check out if you fit the eligibility criteria. Another nice option is the Family Home Guarantee for single parents, which allows a deposit as little as 2%. Part of the loan is administered by Housing Australia on behalf of the government. This federal government initiative aims to support eligible single parents and legal guardians applying for a home. If you want to know more about Family Home Guarantee Scheme, [check our detailed article here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/the-home-guarantee-scheme/). ![single parent buy a house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/in-article-image-5.png "in article image (5) - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Find a Great Mortgage Broker (Who Understands the Needs of a Single Parent)** There are some fantastic, professional people out there who can guide you through the homeownership process. They have an intimate knowledge of the loan market and will help you find a lender that is right for you as a single mum with at least one dependent. Our Beanstalk Mums team highly recommends [Liberty’s Sarah McLaughlin](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin). She provides incredible home buyer assistance like finding the right loan from a participating lender across Australia. She’s already helped one of our writers purchase an existing property. Oh, and don’t be put off by their charges, as most brokers receive a commission from participating lenders, meaning it’s a free service for you. ### **Avoid Paying Lenders Mortgage Insurance** If you don’t have a huge seed money for your dream house, you might find yourself with the additional cost of LMI. This is charged if your home loan is more than 80% of the property’s value and can add significantly to your loan cost. To get a better idea of the costs, use this [Lenders Mortgage Insurance Estimator Tool](https://www.yourmortgage.com.au/calculators/mortgage-insurance). Also, speak to your broker about ways to boost your borrowing power and avoid this unwanted sum. ### **Be a Savvy Saver** When saving for a deposit, you need to adopt the habits of a savvy saver. Make sure you utilise the best high-interest savings account available, ideally with an incentive if you make regular payments but don’t withdraw. There’s great advice around this in [*The Barefoot Investor* by Scott Pape](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0730324214/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0730324214&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=e7f46609f02ccf139049da29e158f51f). Make it as painless as possible by setting up an automatic periodical payment for as much as you can afford. Also, cut back on unnecessary expenses. For example, how much could you save by changing some of your food brands or cutting out your morning coffee a couple of days each week? This is a great time to [teach your children the value of money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-teach-your-children-about-money/), too. For more tips on saving, see: [*Money Saving Tips for Single Mums*](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/). ### **Learn How to Budget** Do you have a financial budget? If not, this could be the time to start one. Work out your money in/money out each week and then cut down on your outgoings. Use this process to calculate what mortgage loan repayments you can comfortably afford so you don’t overstretch yourself when the time comes to buy. Head to the fabulous [MoneySmart](https://moneysmart.gov.au/budgeting/budget-planner) website for a comprehensive guide to budgeting, or check out some [great budgeting apps here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/). ![single parent buy a house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/in-article-image-4.png "in article image (4) - Beanstalk Mums") ## How Can a Single Parent Buy a Home? (Cont.) ### **Consider Ways to Increase Your Income** Rack your brain to see if you [can increase your income](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/mums-extra-money-from-home/) in any way. Could you ask your boss for a pay rise? Put in some extra hours at work? Look for another job? Checked with [Centrelink](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/centrelink?context=22) that you are receiving all the payments you’re entitled to? An increased income will speed up your saving process and boost the amount you can borrow as a first home buyer. When you have a higher income, you will be able to save more money for your deposit at a faster rate. This will not only help you reach your deposit goal sooner, but it will also increase the amount you can borrow as a first home buyer. Lenders will see your higher income as a sign of financial stability and will be more willing to lend you a larger amount. This means you may be able to afford a more expensive property or be approved for a smaller deposit, making it easier for you to get into the investment property market. By taking advantage of your increased income and saving diligently for your deposit, you can set yourself up for success in home buying. ### **Change Your Thought Process and Dream Big** Stop thinking that owning your own home is for other people but not for you. Understand that you have as much right as anyone to own a secure, comfortable home to bring up your beautiful family. Keep your dream home at the forefront of your mind. Find a picture of the kind of house you’d like and stick it to the fridge. Most importantly, consider the bigger picture. When times are tough while you save for a deposit for a home, remember what you are aiming for and the wonderful gift you will be giving yourself and your children. This is something I can help you with in the [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/). ## Conclusion: Buying a home as a single parent or legal guardian Single-parent home loans are definitely out there for those of us looking to buy our own home. Sure, it can be challenging with a single income and sometimes a higher deposit, but there are support options available. For example, the First Home Loan Deposit Scheme allows single parents with dependents to get into their own homes sooner with as little as a 2% deposit. Whether you’re planning to buy an existing home or build a new one, these government initiatives are here to support us in achieving our dream of home ownership. Before property prices are more unattainable, now is the perfect time for us single mums to start our journey towards owning a home. Let’s go for it, ladies! Our dream home is within reach, and we deserve it! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** mortgage, government payments, saving, budgeting, first home owners grant, lenders mortgage insurance --- ### [Heart-Smart Habits That Every Busy Mum Should Know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/heart-smart-habits-that-every-busy-mum-should-know/) **Published:** October 18, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Heart disease can affect anyone, but women face more risks due to their anatomy and hormones. The latest data indicates that about [2 million Australian women have cardiovascular disease](https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/men-women/women-heart-disease-cardiovascular-profile/summary), and it accounts for 5 per cent of all hospitalisations for women. Mums, in particular, are at a high risk of developing heart problems since they’re now common in women ages 35 to 44. Fortunately, making healthy changes to your lifestyle can help to prevent or manage heart conditions and [improve your overall health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/chinese-herbs/) at the same time. Here are some heart-smart habits that every busy mum should know. ## Heart-smart habits: ## Eat Healthy Lunches, and Snacks Most mums put a lot of effort into making healthy meals for their families. Some even wake up at the crack of dawn to make nutritious packed lunches for their kids. But when it’s time for them to eat, many busy mums resort to having quick fry-ups or instant meals to save time. In general, the majority of Australians eat unhealthy food, as only 7 per cent of them [consume a healthy diet](https://theconversation.com/australia-is-dragging-its-feet-on-healthy-eating-in-5-years-weve-made-woeful-progress-192393) that’s in line with the Australian Dietary Guidelines. Having a poor diet not only adds inches to your waistline but it also significantly increases your risk of heart disease. If you’re already experiencing specific symptoms, such as a fluttering or pounding heartbeat, talk to your doctor and see if you need medical tests. An electrocardiogram or an [ECG, can identify whether your heart rhythm is abnormal](https://www.svph.org.au/services/cardiac-services/tests/electrocardiogram-ecg) or if you have a heart condition. For a more proactive approach to preventative health, some people also consider advanced screening options, such as a [full-body MRI scan](https://healthscreen.com.au/full-body-mri-scan/ "full-body MRI scan") or genetic screening, to detect potential issues early. Your health provider may prescribe medication or treatment, and you may also be advised to adjust your diet. To improve eating habits, mums should make it a point to be mindful of their food choices, even if they’re preparing a meal just for themselves. So, for instance, if you’re making healthy packed lunches for your kids, why not make some for yourself, too, and then eat it later? You can also prepare some healthy snacks in advance over the weekend by cutting up veggies or fruits. Put them in containers and place them in the fridge so you can have something to quell the hunger pangs in a pinch. If you don’t have time to cook a full meal for yourself, plan on having something simple yet nutritious, like a bagged salad– just add some protein, like tuna chunks or leftover chicken, plus a good sprinkle of parmesan cheese for flavour. ## Get Active Getting enough exercise not only makes you stronger but also lowers stress and improves cardiovascular health at the same time. A lot of busy mums don’t have time to go to the gym, but there are other ways that you can stay physically active while looking after your family. Try riding a bike when going out for errands or going on a short walk before picking the kids up from school. You can also invest in exercise equipment if you spend a lot of time indoors or if you’re working from home. A bike desk can help you to get moving while you’re on your computer, or consider a standing desk and a walking pad combo to keep fit at home. You can also sneak exercise into your day to strengthen your muscles and improve balance and flexibility without having to do a whole workout routine. Try doing some light stretches and lunges upon waking up, then jog in place or do some jumping jacks for two minutes to get your heart rate up. To boost your cardio fitness, plan on taking the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator if you’re only going to the next floor. Better yet, initiate a game of tag with your little ones, go on a hiking date with your partner, or go wall climbing with your friends on the weekends. Add some fun to working out so you’ll look forward to doing it again and again. ![heart-smart habits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-46.jpg "In-article images 46 - Beanstalk Mums")## Stay Hydrated We’ve always known that staying hydrated is essential to flush out toxins and to keep our skin healthy. But did you know that it can also help to improve cardiovascular health? According to the Heart Research Institute, [proper hydration is necessary](https://www.hri.org.au/health/your-health/lifestyle/hydration-and-your-heart) because it helps the heart to easily pump blood through the blood vessels. It also helps to prevent unnecessary strain on your heart since dehydration can make the heart pump faster. Whether you’re at work, doing chores, or going around town to do some errands, make it a habit to carry a refillable water bottle with you and take frequent sips throughout the day. If you need some motivation to up your fluid intake, try getting a cute, spill-proof water bottle or tumbler, fill it up, and place it on your desk or in your bag. Hate the taste of plain water? Make some flavoured water by adding sliced lemons and cucumbers to a pitcher of cold water. You can also make some herb and fruit-infused water by adding mint leaves and sliced strawberries or sliced blueberries, lemon, and a few sprigs of rosemary to still or sparkling water. ## Take Time to De-stress Mums deal with stress nearly every day, and it’s easy to shrug it off and consider it as a normal part of life. However,[ studies suggest that long-term stress](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentTypeID=1&ContentID=2171#:~:text=Studies%20suggest%20that%20the%20high,plaque%20deposits%20in%20the%20arteries.) can increase blood pressure, blood cholesterol, and blood sugar, which can lead to heart disease. To manage stress and keep your heart healthy, try to get at least 30 minutes of exercise daily to lower blood pressure, and do relaxing activities such as deep breathing exercises or meditation to reduce anxiety and negative emotions. Something as simple as a bath can also help to melt away stress and keep you calm, so once the kids are asleep, plan on taking a long soak in your bathroom. Add some bath salts or a bath bomb to the water, light some candles, and play some soothing music to help you relax. You may also want to drink some lavender tea or decaffeinated fruit teas to stay hydrated and to help you slip into deep sleep later. You may also want to ask your loved ones for help to do some tasks or chores around the house if you’re feeling overwhelmed. At least once a month, make it a point to do something nice for yourself. It can be anything like getting a massage or a manicure or just having a coffee with a friend. Doing things like these can ease stress so you can be healthier and happier while caring for your family. ## The Wrap on Heart-smart Habits Women have a high risk of developing heart disease, so mums should prioritise their heart health by de-stressing, eating healthy meals, and making time for exercise. If you experience heart symptoms or suspect that you may have heart disease, see your doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/heart-smart-habits-that-every-busy-mum-should-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/heart-smart-habits-that-every-busy-mum-should-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Single parent debt help: 7 Simple strategies that work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-debt-help/) **Published:** May 1, 2023 **Author:** Kitty Thomas **Content:** Being a single parent is no easy feat, especially when facing financial challenges. You are the sole breadwinner, the caregiver, and the emotional anchor for your children. It can be overwhelming, and when you add debt into the mix, it can feel like an insurmountable obstacle that leaves you drowning. However, there are options available for single-parent debt help that can provide some much-needed relief and support. As a single parent, getting out of debt can seem like a distant dream. Between the cost of raising children and the demands of work and home life, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and financially stretched thin. But escaping from debt is not impossible. You can regain control of your finances – and with the right tools and strategies, it can become a reality. In this article, we will discuss seven simple strategies that single parents can use to get out of debt and achieve financial stability. Whether you’re just starting out on your financial journey or are looking for ways to improve your current situation, these strategies can help you take charge of your finances and build a brighter financial future for yourself and your family. Let’s dive right in. ## Single-parent debt help ### 1. Create a Budget and Stick to It The first step to getting out of debt is to create a budget. As a single parent, creating a budget and sticking to it is essential for debt relief. You need to have a clear picture of your finances to make adjustments to your budget and get out of debt. Start by listing all your sources of income, including your salary, child support, and any other benefits you receive. Next, list all your expenses, including rent/mortgage, utilities, food, transportation, and childcare. As a single parent, you may have different financial priorities than a two-parent household. Allocate your resources accordingly and make sure to take advantage of any government assistance programs for which you qualify. Look for ways to reduce your expenses, such as downsizing to a smaller home, cutting back on entertainment expenses, or finding ways to save on groceries. Consider [increasing your income](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mums-extra-money-from-home/) by asking for a raise at work, taking on a part-time job, or starting a side hustle. Remember that getting out of debt takes time and effort, but with a budget tailored to your needs and resources, you can take control of your finances and work towards a debt-free future ### 2. Cut Back on Your Expenses Once you have a budget in place, it’s time to look for ways to [cut back on expenses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/). This might mean eating out less, cancelling subscriptions or memberships, or finding cheaper alternatives for things like groceries and household items. Every dollar you save can be put towards paying off your debts. Cutting back on expenses can be a challenging but rewarding journey. Remember, every little bit counts, and every dollar you save is one step closer to financial freedom. Instead of feeling deprived, try to focus on the positive changes you are making for yourself and your family. Celebrate small victories along the way, like finding a great deal on groceries or cooking a delicious meal at home instead of eating out. With each successful cost-cutting measure, you will feel more empowered and motivated to continue on the path towards debt freedom. ### 3. Prioritise Debt Payments One of the most effective strategies for single parents to get out of debt is to prioritise debt payments. Prioritising debt payments means focusing on paying off debt with the highest interest rates first, as those debts are costing you the most money in interest charges. By doing this, you can save money in the long run and pay off your debts faster. Here are some quick tips for prioritising your debt payments: - **List out all of your debts:** This includes credit card debt, personal loans, student loans, car loans, and any other debts you may have. - **Sort your debts by interest rate:** Start with the debt with the highest interest rate, and work your way down the list. - **Consider consolidating high-interest debts:** If you have multiple debts with high interest rates, consider consolidating them into one loan with a lower interest rate. This can help you save money in interest charges and make it easier to manage your debt. - **Make larger payments on high-interest debts:** Once you have identified the debts with the highest interest rates, make larger payments on those debts each month. This will help you pay off those debts faster and save money on interest charges. - **Automate your debt payments:** Set up automatic payments for your debts so you never miss a payment. This can help you avoid late fees and penalties, and ensure that you are making progress towards becoming debt-free. Prioritising debt payments may require some sacrifices in the short term, but it can help you achieve long-term financial stability and freedom. ### 4. Negotiate with Your Creditors One effective way for single parents to get out of debt is to negotiate with their creditors. This involves reaching out to your creditors and discussing potential options for reducing your interest rates or establishing a payment plan that better fits your financial situation. Reducing your interest rates can significantly lower your monthly payments and the overall amount you will need to pay back over time. You can start by [calling your credit card companies](https://www.freedomdebtrelief.com/learn/credit-card-debt/how-to-negotiate-credit-card-debt/) and explaining your situation. Let them know that you are a single parent and are struggling to make ends meet. Ask if they are willing to work with you to lower your interest rates or waive any fees. **Important note**: When negotiating with creditors, it’s important to be honest about your financial situation and make it clear that you are committed to paying off your debts. You may need to provide some documentation, such as pay stubs or bank statements, to prove your income and expenses. Remember, creditors want to be paid back, so they may be willing to work with you to find a solution that works for both parties. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and negotiate to improve your financial situation. If you’re feeling overwhelmed negotiating with your creditors, we’re here to help. Please know that you’re not alone in this. We take pride in providing compassionate support and expert guidance through these challenging times, and our team of Angels will work tirelessly on your behalf to negotiate with your creditors and find a solution that best suits your needs. You can count on us to keep the pressure off and help you regain control of your finances. ![debt solution](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/IN-ARTICLE-images-3.jpg "debt solution - Beanstalk Mums") ## Single parent debt relief suggestions (cont.) ### 5. Avoid Taking on More Debt One of the most important steps in getting out of debt is to avoid taking on any more debt. It may seem obvious, but when you’re struggling with debt, it’s easy to overspend without realising it, and it happens a lot more than you think. If you want to dive deeper into strategies for avoiding debt, check out these [10 tips to avoid falling into the debt trap](https://debtangelsolutions.com/10-tips-to-avoid-falling-into-a-debt-trap/). In the meantime, here are some quick strategies that can help you avoid taking on more debt: - **Avoid using credit cards:** Credit cards can be tempting, but they often come with high-interest rates and can quickly spiral out of control. Try to avoid using credit cards altogether, or at least limit your use to essential expenses that you can pay off in full each month. - **Find alternative sources of income:** If you are struggling to make ends meet, consider finding alternative sources of income. This could include taking on a part-time job, freelancing, or selling items you no longer need - **Create an emergency fund:** Unexpected expenses can be a major source of debt for single parents. By creating an emergency fund, you can have some savings to fall back on in case of emergencies, such as car repairs or medical bills. Start small by setting aside a small amount each month and work your way up over time. - **Avoid impulse purchases:** It can be easy to make impulse purchases, especially when you are stressed or feeling down. Before making any purchases, take a step back and ask yourself if it’s truly necessary. Try waiting 24 hours before making any non-essential purchases to give yourself time to think it over. Remember, the key to avoiding more debt is to be mindful of your spending habits and make smart financial decisions. By taking steps to avoid more debt, you can focus on paying off your existing debts and achieving financial stability. ### 6. Look for Ways to Increase Your Income As mentioned previously, one of the best ways to get rid of debt is to earn more money. It might seem tough, but there are some simple strategies you can use to increase your income. One of the easiest ways is to find a part-time job that fits in with your schedule. You could work in hospitality, retail or even do some freelancing work in your area of expertise. Another option is to start a side hustle or small business, like selling things online or providing pet-sitting services. When you’re looking for extra work, think about what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing. It’s important to find something that works for you and your family. You don’t want to add more stress to an already busy life. Please keep in mind that getting out of debt is your top priority, and earning more money is one of the best ways to achieve that goal. By increasing your income, you’ll be able to pay off your debts faster and take control of your financial situation. Every little bit counts when it comes to getting out of debt. So don’t be afraid to try new things and take on extra work. ### 7. Seek Expert Help Lastly, if you’re a single parent struggling with debt, it’s important to know that you don’t have to go through it alone. Seeking help from a professional can be a game-changer. Our team of Debt Angels can work with you to create a personalised plan to get out of debt help plan based on your specific financial situation and goals. We understand that every client’s situation is unique, and we tailor our approach accordingly. We work on creating a customised get-out-of-debt strategy that is tailored to your financial needs. Our team of Debt Angels will negotiate on your behalf with creditors, and help you navigate through the complex process of getting out of debt. By seeking help from a professional, you can take control of your finances and work towards a debt-free future. If you’re ready to take the first step, we invite you to reach out to our team of Debt Angels today. Contact us to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation, and take the first step towards financial freedom. ### Bonus Tip: Take Advantage of Government Assistance Programs If you are a single parent living in Australia, there are various government assistance programs available to you, such as the Single Parent Payment, Rent Assistance, and the Child Care Subsidy. These programs can provide financial support and help you manage your expenses. To determine your eligibility for these programs, you can [check out this blog](https://parents.au.reachout.com/common-concerns/everyday-issues/things-to-try-single-parenting-and-teenagers/support-options-for-single-parents#:~:text=Family%20Tax%20Benefit%2C%20which%20helps,for%20them%20or%20have%20died.), or visit the [Australian Government’s Department of Human Services](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/) website or speak with a local representative. You can also check out resources specifically tailored to single parents in Australia, such as blogs and community organisations, to learn more about available programs and support. Remember that taking advantage of government assistance programs is not a sign of weakness, but rather a smart financial decision. By utilising these resources, you can focus on building a stable financial future for you and your family. ## Conclusion: Single parent debt help Being a single parent can be difficult, and managing debt can add to the stress. However, getting out of debt is possible. In this article, we have discussed seven simple strategies that single parents can use to regain control of their finances and build a brighter financial future. These strategies include creating a budget and sticking to it, cutting back on expenses, prioritising debt payments, negotiating with creditors, avoiding taking on more debt, seeking financial advice, and staying positive. We hope that these strategies will help you take charge of your finances and achieve financial stability. If you found this article helpful, please share it with others who may benefit from it. Remember, you are not alone, and there is always help available if you need it. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-debt-help/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-debt-help/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** debt, budget, finance, bankrupt, expenses, creditors --- ### [15 Powerful self love crystals to enhance your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-love-crystals/) **Published:** March 4, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a woman who has struggled with self-love and confidence, I have always been drawn to the power of self-love crystals. There is something about their natural beauty and energy that has always resonated with me. Over the years, I have learned how to harness the power of these gems to cultivate feelings of self-love and empowerment. In this article, I’ll be sharing some of my personal insights and tips for choosing the perfect crystals for your own self-love journey. Whether you’re just starting to explore the world of crystals or you’re a seasoned enthusiast, I hope this read will inspire you to connect with these powerful tools and discover the love and confidence that lies within. ***Further reading: [Self love books for women: Our pick of the best.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-love-books-for-women/)*** ## 10 Powerful self love crystals to enhance your life ### 1. Onyx As a woman, I know how important it is to cultivate self-love and confidence in order to navigate life’s challenges and reach my full potential. While there are many ways to develop these qualities, one option that has gained popularity in recent years is the use of crystals like Onyx. Onyx is a black stone that is believed to have a grounding and protective energy. It is thought to help release negative emotions and promote inner strength, which can be especially helpful for women who may face societal pressures or expectations that challenge their self-worth. In my experience, using Onyx in my daily life has been a helpful tool for cultivating self-love and confidence. I like to carry a small Onyx stone in my pocket or wear an Onyx bracelet as a reminder of my inner strength and resilience. ![Onyx Self love crystals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/onyx-265x400.jpeg "onyx - Beanstalk Mums") ### 2. Smoky Quartz When I feel self-doubt or negative self-talk creeping in, I turn to my Smoky Quartz and hold it in my hand or meditate with it to help calm my thoughts and release any negative emotions. I find that focusing on the stone’s stabilising energy helps me feel more confident and self-assured, which can in turn improve my overall sense of self-esteem. Additionally, Smoky Quartz is believed to have a detoxifying effect on the mind and body, which can help release any lingering emotional blockages or self-limiting beliefs that may be holding us back from fully loving and accepting ourselves. By helping us let go of these negative patterns, Smoky Quartz can support us in developing a healthier and more positive relationship with ourselves. ![Smoky quartz](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/smoky-quartz-400x267.jpg "smoky quartz - Beanstalk Mums") ### 3. Rose Quartz Rose Quartz is a pink crystal that is often associated with love, compassion, and emotional healing. It is believed to help open the heart chakra and promote self-love, which can be especially beneficial for women who may struggle with self-care and prioritising their own needs. In my experience, incorporating Rose Quartz into my self-care routine has been a powerful way to nurture my emotional well-being and develop a deeper sense of self-love. I like to keep a Rose Quartz stone on my nightstand or wear it as jewellery as a reminder to be gentle and compassionate with myself. If you’re looking to bring more of this energy into your life, you can check out [online crystal stores like Crystalili](https://www.crystalili.com.au/collections/crystal-bracelets "online crystal stores like Crystalili"), which has beautiful Rose Quartz crystal bracelets and other thoughtfully curated pieces. I find that focusing on the stone’s loving energy helps me feel more grounded and centred, which can in turn support me in taking better care of myself. ![Rose quartz Self love crystals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/rose-quartz-400x267.jpg "rose quartz - Beanstalk Mums") ### 4. Clear Quartz Clear Quartz is a clear or translucent crystal that is often associated with clarity, focus, and amplification of energy. It is believed to be a powerful healing stone that can help balance the body and mind, which can be especially beneficial for women who may experience physical or emotional imbalances. When I am feeling unwell or out of balance, I turn to my Clear Quartz and stick it in my pocket or handbag. Just having it nearby helps my energy flow. I find that focusing on the stone’s clarity and amplification qualities helps me gain clarity about my physical or emotional state, and supports me in developing a more balanced perspective. ![Clear quartz](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/clear-quartz-267x400.jpeg "clear quartz - Beanstalk Mums") ### 5. Red Jasper Red Jasper has been prized for centuries for its grounding and protective qualities, and is believed to have many physical and emotional healing benefits. It is said to help boost the immune system, promote healthy circulation, and support the body’s natural healing processes. I like to place Red Jasper on areas of my body where I am experiencing pain or discomfort, or carry it with me when I am feeling run down or fighting off illness. In addition to its grounding and physical healing properties, Red Jasper is also believed to help support emotional healing and balance. It is said to help alleviate anxiety, promote feelings of calm and relaxation, and encourage feelings of self-confidence and inner strength. ![Red jasper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/red-jasper-400x267.jpg "red jasper - Beanstalk Mums") ## Powerful self love crystals to enhance your life (cont.) ### 6. Labradorite When it comes to manifesting my dreams and desires, having a strong sense of self-esteem can be essential for attracting positive outcomes.This is where Labradorite comes in. Labradorite is a stunning iridescent crystal that is often associated with manifestation, self-discovery, and inner strength. It is believed to help activate the third eye and crown chakras, which can support clarity of thought and intuition. Personally, I have found that working with Labradorite has helped me feel more confident and empowered in my ability to manifest successfully. When I am feeling unsure or stuck in my efforts to create positive change in my life, I turn to my Labradorite for support. ![Labradorite Self love crystals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/labradorite-265x400.jpg "labradorite - Beanstalk Mums") ### 7. Peridot Peridot is a beautiful green stone that is often associated with abundance, prosperity, and well-being. It is believed to help activate the heart chakra, which governs our sense of love, compassion, and self-worth. One of the ways that Peridot can help with self-love is by promoting feelings of compassion and forgiveness. By connecting with our own sense of compassion and forgiveness, we are better able to cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance. In addition to promoting self-love and compassion, Peridot is also believed to help attract good fortune and abundance into our lives. It is said to help clear away any negative energy or self-limiting beliefs that may be blocking our path to success and prosperity. ![Peridot](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Peridot-400x381.jpg "Peridot - Beanstalk Mums") ### 8. Carnelian self love crystals Carnelian is a beautiful reddish-orange stone that is often associated with creativity, confidence, and passion. It is believed to help activate the [sacral chakra](https://www.healthline.com/health/mind-body/sacral-chakra#:~:text=What%20is%20the%20sacral%20chakra,as%20a%20vibrant%20orange%20color.), which governs our sense of self-worth, pleasure, and creativity. Working with Carnelian has helped me connect with my own sense of self-love and acceptance, especially when I am in a self-critical mindset. When I am feeling particularly self-critical or stuck in negative self-talk, I like to hold Carnelian in my hand and focus on its energy. I find that the stone’s warm and vibrant energy helps me tap into my own sense of confidence and self-worth, and reminds me to treat myself with love and kindness. ![Carnelian self love crystals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Carnelian-267x400.jpg "Carnelian - Beanstalk Mums") ### 9. Amethyst As a crystal enthusiast, I love working with Amethyst. It is my go-to stone for protection as it helps ward off any outside negative energies and brings in positive vibes instead. Not only that, but it also serves as a great tool when manifesting anything in my life. To make sure that only good things come my way, I always keep an Amethyst nearby! I am using this stone during difficult times in my life so I have the power and strength to make it through. The stone is comforting and can give me a feeling of security. It’s said to be able to attract positive energy and vibes, so when things seem out of my control, I rely on this talisman to provide me with the hope and courage I need to keep going. ![Amethyst](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Amethyst-400x267.jpg "Amethyst - Beanstalk Mums") ### 10. Green Aventurine Finally on my list of self love crystals: Green Aventurine is a beautiful green stone that is often associated with abundance, prosperity, and emotional healing. It is believed to help activate the heart chakra, which governs our sense of love, compassion, and emotional balance. Green Aventurine can help with emotional healing is by promoting feelings of calmness and relaxation. By connecting with our own sense of inner calm and relaxation, we are better able to cultivate a sense of emotional balance and well-being. In addition to promoting emotional healing, Green Aventurine is also believed to help attract abundance and prosperity into our lives. It is said to help clear away any negative energy or self-limiting beliefs that may be blocking our path to success and prosperity. ![Green Aventurine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Green-Aventurine-400x328.jpg "Green Aventurine - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-love-crystals/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-love-crystals/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** confidence, healing, self esteem, alternative --- ### [Mastering Money: Practical Financial Literacy for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** I admit that I was financially illiterate stepping into single motherhood. Especially coming from a comfortable two-income household for so long. But with mortgage, utility bills, childcare costs, and basically the need to survive suddenly falling onto my shoulders, I had to reevaluate my life and get help. Enter financial literacy. Thankfully, managing money isn’t about being perfect. It’s about taking small, consistent steps that can lead to big changes. This guide is here to share practical advice and, hopefully, a little encouragement from someone who’s walked this path. ## What is financial literacy? First, the basics. Financial literacy is the ability to understand how to manage your money in a way that works for you and your family. Financial literacy can help individuals from creating a budget to saving, investing, and managing debt to achieve long-term financial success. It encourages individuals to make smarter decisions about their money. According to [research from the University of Newcastle](https://newcastleweekly.com.au/greater-financial-literacy-leads-to-greater-life-satisfaction-says-uon-report/), higher levels of financial literacy leads to greater life satisfaction. For us single mums, it’s about finding ways to create stability, ease the stress, and set a good example for our kids. I’ve learned that even small changes can make a world of difference for your long-term financial goals. The benefits of financial literacy are endless. ## The unique financial challenges for single mums Obviously, [being a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/unlock-financial-literacy-empower-your-future/) comes with its own set of money challenges. When I first became a single mum, I quickly realised how much tighter my budget had to be. Every dollar had to work harder. Once, my washing machine broke down, and I didn’t have an emergency fund. It was a hard lesson — and hard work, too, as I had to wash our laundry by hand for a few months. But it pushed me to start saving, even if it was just $10 a week. Between work, daycare runs, and keeping the house running, it’s tough to find time for detailed financial planning. There’s a variety of [financial education you can find online](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2). But if you don’t have time to pursue them yet, here are practical strategies to help you become financially literate. ## Financial literacy for single mums ## Build a strong financial foundation The first step of financial education is to assess your financial situation. Tracking my income and expenses was a game-changer. I started with pen and paper, moving on to Excel for personal financial management. Now, I use a [free budgeting app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/) that does the heavy lifting for me. Separating needs from wants was eye-opening. I realised that my weekly macchiato was adding up to hundreds a year … money I now set aside for our travel funds. Establishing an emergency fund felt daunting at first. I started small … just three months’ worth of expenses. I sold some unused items online and put that money straight into savings. Seeing it grow, little by little, was so motivating. Checking my credit score felt scary at first, but it was empowering. It helped me see where I could improve and set goals. When it comes to mortgages, understanding interest rates is crucial. If you’re a homeowner or considering buying, look for ways to reduce your interest rate or refinance. Even a slight reduction can save thousands over the life of your loan. For renters, saving for a deposit might feel like a far-off goal, but every little bit helps. Don’t be afraid to explore government grants or programs designed to support single parents. ![Build a strong financial foundation financial literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-7.png "In article image 7 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Increase your sources of income Boosting your income can make a significant difference in your financial stability. As a single mum, flexibility is key. Side hustles like freelance writing, graphic design, or virtual assistance can be done from home and often on your own time. I started ESL tutoring online, and the extra income helped cover unexpected expenses. Selling unused items around the house is another quick way to generate cash. Platforms like eBay or Facebook Marketplace make it easy to find buyers. Sell crocheted clothes and knickknacks on Etsy. Services like consulting, photography, or fitness training can also provide a steady stream of additional income. Upskilling is another powerful tool to improve your financial health. Free or low-cost courses online can help you develop new skills that might lead to higher-paying opportunities. Whether it’s coding, bookkeeping, or learning a new language, investing in yourself pays off in the long run. It may seem like another bump on your budget, but it’s worth it. Additionally, don’t overlook opportunities within your current job. Asking for a raise or taking on extra responsibilities could lead to an increase in earnings. ![Increase your sources of income financial literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-8.png "In article image 8 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Smart strategies for managing debt Using a credit card is not bad. I learned to separate “good” debt (like a loan to kickstart your business) from “bad” debt (like that store card with high interest rates). Regardless of how much money you receive, debt must be paid back. In my case, the snowball method worked wonders. Paying off my smallest debt first gave me the momentum to tackle bigger ones. Each win felt like a weight off my shoulders. For some people, [consolidating debts](https://www.australianlendingcentre.com.au/debt-consolidation-loans/ "consolidating debts") into a single loan with a lower interest rate can also make repayments more manageable and reduce stress. The goal is to maintain a good credit score. For some people, consolidating debts into a single loan with a lower interest rate can also make repayments more manageable and reduce stress. Be wary of offers that appear too good to be true. Payday loans seemed tempting when money was tight, but the high compound interest was brutal. Learning to avoid these traps helped me make smarter choices and saved me from deeper financial trouble. For student loans, look into repayment options. Keep track of any policy changes that might affect your repayments. Making small, voluntary contributions when you can may reduce the total interest accrued over time. If you’re still studying, look for scholarships or grants tailored to single mums. They’re out there, and they can make a big difference. ![Smart strategies for managing debt financial literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-9.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Saving and investing on a single-income Last Christmas marked the first time I got to take my daughter to a vacation since becoming a single parent. It took a year, but I was able to save enough for our holiday trip. Seeing my daughter’s face light up made every packed lunch and skipped macchiato worth it. Delayed gratification is really the key! Investing seemed intimidating at first, but I started small with a micro-investing app. It’s incredible how even tiny amounts can grow over time. Reviewing my super fund felt like adulting to the max, but it was worth it. I switched to a fund with lower fees. Now I feel more secure about the future, especially my child’s college education. A portfolio of stocks can be a valuable addition to your investment accounts, even if you’re starting small. Begin by understanding the basics of risk and diversification as well as buying and selling to get you started. It involves learning about the laws and regulations of the financial industry regulatory authority on different investment vehicles. Index funds or exchange-traded funds (ETFs) are beginner-friendly options that spread risk across multiple stocks. Study the New York Stock Exchange. Financial literacy is not about [gambling](https://laopcenter.com/treatment/gambling-addiction-los-angeles/) on the stock market but making steady, informed decisions to grow your wealth over time. Even $50 a month invested consistently can add up significantly over the years. ![financial literacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-6.png "In article image 6 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Financial advice for single mums (cont.) ## Planning for the future Retirement might feel like a distant dream, but it’s important to make sure you have adequate income in retirement. As the concept of time value of money goes, a dollar saved today is worth more than its worth later in life. So, there’s no better time to start your retirement account than today. If you’re employed, check if your workplace offers additional super contributions or employer-sponsored retirement. These can make a huge difference in your retirement savings. For self-employed mums, setting up a super fund and contributing regularly is crucial when you plan for retirement. Every small contribution to individual retirement adds up over time, thanks to the magic of compounding. Health insurance and similar financial products are another area that deserves attention. If you’re not covered, unexpected medical costs can derail good financial plans. Look for affordable plans that suit your family’s needs, or explore public healthcare options if private insurance isn’t feasible right now. Prioritising health insurance ensures you have a safety net when it matters most. ## Teaching financial literacy to kids Having children instilled with financial literacy can take a major load off your shoulders. She’s just three, but for Christmas, I gave my daughter three pretty (and cheap) piggy banks labeled “Save,” “Spend,” and “Give.” It’s amazing how quickly she caught on to the idea of saving for something special. I hope that when my daughter sees me comparing prices at the supermarket, it becomes a teaching moment on budget and personal finance. Now, although unknowingly, she even participates in my quest to minimise our bills. Talking about money openly with your kids is powerful to help them avoid making bad financial decisions. Share your financial goals and challenges with them in an age-appropriate way. Teaching them early ensures they grow up understanding the value of money and the importance of making thoughtful financial decisions. ![Teaching financial literacy to kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-13.png "In article image 13 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Accessing support and resources on financial literacy [Centrelink payments](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/ "How much does a single mum get from Centrelink?") and childcare subsidies have been a lifeline at times. Don’t hesitate to use these resources … they’re there to help. Speaking to a free financial counselor helped me see options I didn’t know I had. It’s a judgment-free way to get back on track. Finding an online community like Beanstalk Mums connected me with other mums who’ve shared fascinating tips and encouragement for attaining financial literacy. If you’re navigating debt or need help creating a plan for your finances, reach out to [organisations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/charities-help-single-mothers/) that offer free financial literacy courses or one-on-one advice. These financial literacy resources can provide clarity and confidence as you move forward. ## Overcoming financial anxiety For a long time, I felt embarrassed about my financial struggles. As I mentioned early on, I was far from being financially literate. But I’ve learned that everyone has setbacks. It’s about moving forward, not looking back. When I paid off my first credit card, I and my little one celebrated with a homemade pizza night. It was a small victory, but it felt huge. Spending on what truly matters, like experiences with my daughter, has brought me so much more joy than any material purchase ever could. Focusing on small wins can make a big difference. Whether it’s saving $5 this week or paying a little extra toward a debt, every step counts. Be kind to yourself and celebrate progress, no matter how small. Financial literacy is here to help individuals reach their goals like buying their forever home or opening their dream business. ## Conclusion: Personal finance basics for single mums Mastering money as a single mum isn’t about being perfect; it’s about progress. With rising living costs and global levels of debt, financial literacy is more important than ever. Achieving financial literacy helps you toward empowerment and resilience. Remember, every small step — understanding where money is going, creating a budget, investing in stocks, or saving a few dollars a week — adds up. Financial literacy includes different strategies. Start today by picking one strategy from this guide to try. And don’t forget: it’s never too late to start if you want to improve. Equipped with financial knowledge, we can start building secure, happy financial futures for ourselves and our kids. You’ve got this! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/practical-financial-literacy-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How to make money from a hobby you love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-to-make-money-from-a-hobby-you-love/) **Published:** November 12, 2025 **Author:** Bethany Seton **Content:** I am thrilled to share my journey of turning a beloved hobby into a profitable venture in this blog article. Discover how to make money from a hobby you love from my personal experience! As a mother juggling various responsibilities, finding time for personal pursuits seemed daunting. However, my passion for a particular hobby sparked an idea, and I took the leap to transform it into a source of income. Now, I want to pass on my invaluable insights and experiences to help you achieve the same. Whether you’re a creative crafter, a culinary enthusiast, an aspiring writer, or a photography whiz, this article will guide you through the process of monetising your passions. Get ready to unlock the true potential of your hobbies and embark on a thrilling path of financial independence and creative fulfilment. ## Identify your passion You cannot start an endeavour, whether it’s a hobby or a business, without knowing clearly what you want to pursue and focus your energy on. Before you start writing a plan to make money from a hobby, you need to have an honest sit-down with yourself. Be transparent with yourself by asking yourself these questions: - What would be something that you’ll be happy to wake up for in the morning? - Is something a dream of yours only because you want the admiration of others? - Or is it something that makes you truly proud of yourself? ![make money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-miriam-alonso-7585792-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-miriam-alonso-7585792 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Hone your skills Great surf instructors start as beginner kids who loved to catch waves before and after school. Eventually, they turned into teens and adults who have advanced surfing capabilities, before deciding they could actually make a living out of their passion and skills. This progression makes a lot of sense not only for surfers but also for you. Do you love baking cookies, and are you considering selling fresh goodies straight from your oven? Then practice your techniques and perfect your recipe to produce your signature cookies consistently. Honing your skills will boost your confidence and grant you the ethical licence to make money from a hobby. For standard business skills such as bookkeeping, marketing and design, look online for cheap courses to gain the skills you need. Great places to find courses are Udemy and [Coursera](https://imp.i384100.net/LXZ5v3). ![How to make money from a hobby you love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-cottonbro-4686829-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-4686829 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Research the market You can’t go in blindly to just start a social media business page and carelessly offer your products/services without defining what you are offering and to whom. Define who your target market is and learn about their buying behaviours. Think: - Where do they look when finding products similar to what you are offering? - Which channels convince them to buy the most? - How much do potential competitors price their offerings? - What is the gap in the market that you can fill? - Will you have to hook up with a delivery/courier service to make purchases more attractive for your target customers? Reverse engineer the buying process, ask all possible questions, and try to address all the gaps when it comes to your target customers’ relationship with your niche. ## Create a brand I love this part a lot. This is when you get to express yourself and create your own identity and space in your chosen niche. Based on your target market, your hobby, and your personality, how would you want your hobby/business to be presented and perceived? How would you like to appear and sound on your digital assets, such as websites, social media pages, and sales funnels? Visualise the space and identity that you would like to reside in as you make money from a hobby that you love. Would you name your small business simply after yourself (common among professionals), or would you like to think of a fitting chosen name for your business? Colours and logos can immediately give customers a sense of who you are. Create colour palettes and graphic image assets that represent your passion and your aspirations as a provider. Give your brand a voice. Define how you should communicate with future customers; do you want to be the fun and approachable sticker maker? Or do you want to come across as a classy and professional nail artist? Think about taking an [online graphic design course](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/8-graphic-design-online-courses-for-beginners-in-2023/), as having the knowledge to do your own design work will save you heaps. ![make money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-tranmautritam-326502-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tranmautritam-326502 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Get your price point right Aside from taking note of the going prices set by potential competitors and big-name vendors, you also need to do your internal studies. Compute how much you would be spending in total in delivering orders to your customers and determine how much of a margin you are going for. For example, when selling artworks, you need to take into account the costs of your materials, order packaging, and miscellaneous expenses before you even add profit and courier fees. You don’t want to be burning the midnight oil only to lose instead of making money from a hobby. ## Start small There are times when you don’t necessarily have to go big or go home. Making money from a hobby is one of them. You can start by purchasing as little inventory as possible; you don’t need to go bankrupt just because you want to earn a lot in the smallest amount of time. Neither should you start paying thousands of dollars in ads when you don’t even have the earnings yet that will recover those expenses. Focus on getting the first 10-15 customers, enjoying the brand creation process, and building your digital assets, before considering quitting your day job. Alternatively, if you want to fast-track your journey, you could look into [buying a small existing business](https://www.anybusiness.com.au/business-for-sale/nsw/sydney-2000/). Purchasing an established brand or online store can give you a head start with customers, systems, and revenue already in place — saving you the time it takes to build from scratch. ## Promote yourself through social media Every market demographic and age group are on social media. The question is: in your case, which one? By choosing the right social media platforms that are popular among your target clients, you are making your brand and your product/service offering visible to your potential customers. If you want to make money from a hobby, you need to realise that social media makes the current market go round, and the queries pour in. Social media pages are not only for your customers to find amazing small businesses such as yours, but it is also there to provide you and your customers the means to communicate and to build a community. ## Use online platforms to sell through Adding to cart and checking out is now the rule and not the exception when buying from small to medium-sized businesses. ![How to make money from a hobby you love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-mart-production-7679814-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-7679814 - Beanstalk Mums") Once you have identified the right selling channels that will help you reach your target customers, it’s important to maximise these digital assets when setting up your hobby business. Make sure you also know how to use the payment and messaging functions of these online platforms so you can address your customers’ concerns urgently. You will also want to beautify your profile and business page elements. ## Network and collaborate We all need a little help from each other. This is why, when making money from a hobby that you love, it is valuable to have people support you through endorsement, referral, networking, and collaboration. If you are creating hair accessories, it would be a great idea to reach out to influencers who are mums, content creators who mainly focus on the hair industry. If you love making marmalades, collaborate with food content creators, or network with bottling companies, restaurants and pastry shops. Opportunities are everywhere, and you only need to look around with optimism and a fair amount of ambition, so you can find and grab them. ## Offer excellent customer service No matter how seemingly small or unessential, or boring your product/service is, the thing that your customer will remember the most is how you have treated them and made them feel. Speaking with your suppliers and customers with genuine interest and kindness, paired with humour and the urgency to help, will put you in good graces with your customers. Including small thank you notes in order packages, providing free shipping, and being friendly and attentive towards repeat- and high-volume customers are all great ways to offer good customer service. ## Be prepared to adapt and change As with any endeavour, changes should be expected on the horizon. Whether it’s having to re-price packages, replacing a supplier, or hiring more employees, you need to be mentally prepared that things might ‘need’ to change and being able to adapt quickly will give you an edge over other vendors. Changes are also opportunities for you to see how flexible and creative you are as you spend more time making money from a hobby. Being rigid is not what made your hobby fun in the first place. Knowing how to make the best of a situation regardless of the changes that come by will mould you as a hobbyist and entrepreneur. ![How to make money from a hobby you love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-moose-photos-170195-1036622-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-moose-photos-170195-1036622 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Persevere and believe in yourself To keep sane in running a small business, you need to keep those blinders on! It’s very easy and tempting to keep looking around and comparing yourself with others in varying metrics. Is their branding better than mine? Does she have more experience doing this service than I do? Do they have more customers than I do? While being competitive can push you to be better, tread carefully. It is still much better to believe in your own capabilities and to nurture your own talent and style. Work at a pace that you find enjoyable and productive; you don’t want to burn out and start hating your hobby. Grow your earnings and build your brand, one order at a time. Keep your head in your own game and don’t lose the passion and the reason why you fell in love with your hobby in the first place. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-to-make-money-from-a-hobby-you-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/how-to-make-money-from-a-hobby-you-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** hobbies, make money, write an ebook, beautician, fitness coach, teach languages --- ### [How Smart Technology Is Redefining Independence for People with Cerebral Palsy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-smart-technology-is-redefining-independence-for-people-with-cerebral-palsy/) **Published:** November 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re a mum raising a child with cerebral palsy, you’ve probably wished for tools that could make their world just a little easier to navigate — and your days a little lighter too. Between therapy appointments, school routines and everything else life throws at you, the idea of technology lending a helping hand can feel like a game-changer. Thankfully, it’s not just wishful thinking. Advances in assistive technology are transforming what independence looks like for people living with cerebral palsy. From brain-controlled mobility aids to smart-home systems that respond to voice or movement, innovation is opening up new ways to move, communicate, and connect — not just for individuals, but for entire families. ## The Rise of Brain-Controlled Mobility Among People with Cerebral Palsy One of the most exciting areas of progress is brain-computer interfaces (BCIs) — technology that reads and translates brain activity into digital commands. Using sensors placed on the scalp, these systems allow users to control devices like robotic arms, computers, or even motorised wheelchairs simply by thinking about what they want to do. It sounds like science fiction, but it’s already happening. Here in Australia, [researchers](https://www.csiro.au/en/news/All/Articles/2023/April/artificial-intelligence-wheelchair) have trialled brain-controlled wheelchairs that respond directly to neural signals. For children and adults with severe mobility challenges, that means the ability to move through a space without physical movement — an incredible leap toward independence and self-expression. For a mum, that might mean watching your child navigate their classroom or home independently for the first time — something so small, yet so huge. One of the most exciting frontiers is brain-computer interfaces (BCIs) – systems that detect and translate brain activity into digital commands. Using sensors placed on the scalp, BCIs allow users to operate devices such as robotic arms, communication software, or even motorised wheelchairs through thought alone. ## Revolutionising Communication If your child struggles to communicate verbally, you’ll know how frustrating and heartbreaking that barrier can feel. But communication technology is evolving fast — and it’s giving non-verbal kids and adults powerful new ways to express themselves. Neural decoding and BCI-driven speech generation are showing remarkable results in early trials. According to the [Journal of NeuroEngineering and Rehabilitation](https://jneuroengrehab.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12984-024-01349-2), children often adapt to these systems in just a few weeks. Once they understand how to use their brain signals to “speak” or control software, their confidence and connection with others can grow rapidly. It’s not hard to imagine the difference that could make at school, during play, or even just chatting at home. When a child can finally share their thoughts, frustrations, or jokes in their own way, it doesn’t just change their life — it changes the family dynamic, too. ![cerebral palsy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Image.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Smarter Homes, Greater Control For families living with disability, independence isn’t only about mobility or speech — it’s also about having control over your environment. Smart-home integration is making that possible. Imagine your child being able to open doors, adjust the lighting, or turn on their favourite show with a single command or head movement. With assistive controllers linked to mainstream platforms like Google Home or Alexa, it’s easier than ever to create spaces that adapt to the person, not the other way around. For mums, that also means a little less hands-on help required for every small task — and a little more breathing room in the day. When technology supports your child’s independence, it also supports yours. ## Making Technology More Accessible Not long ago, this kind of tech came with a price tag well out of reach for most families. But that’s slowly changing. Through the [**NDIS**](https://www.ndis.gov.au/strategies/assistive-technology-strategy) **(National Disability Insurance Scheme)**, eligible Australians can now access funding for assistive technology, and [government subsidies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/ "government subsidies") are helping to close the gap for more households. More clinical trials are also happening here in Australia, driving innovation and competition — which in turn helps make devices more affordable over time. If you’re unsure where to start, your child’s occupational therapist or NDIS planner can help identify which technologies are best suited to their needs. Many families also share reviews and real-life experiences in online support groups, which can be a great way to see what’s actually working in day-to-day life. ## A Holistic Approach to Care Sabina Kamal, founder of [HealSoul](https://healsoul.com.au/), believes the psychological and emotional effects of technology are just as important as the physical ones. “When a person with cerebral palsy can control their environment independently, whether it’s moving through their home or expressing themselves through a communication device, the psychological benefits are just as profound as the practical ones,” Kamal explains. “Confidence, social connection and overall wellbeing improve dramatically when independence increases.” However, she cautions that technology should complement, not replace, holistic care. “These systems work best when carefully tailored to the individual, supported by therapists, educators and families,” Kamal adds. “Technology alone isn’t the answer – it’s the combination of innovation and holistic care that changes lives.” ![How Smart Technology Is Redefining Independence for People with Cerebral Palsy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Image-1193x800.jpeg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Future of Assistive Innovation Researchers are now developing contextually aware assistive devices – tools that can distinguish between routine and urgent commands, improving both safety and usability. As private health insurers begin to trial partial coverage for assistive devices, experts anticipate broader adoption, though affordability remains a key challenge. For many families, even small gains make a life-changing difference. “Every new advance represents another step toward greater independence,” Kamal says. “For children especially, these technologies open doors that were previously closed – from learning to socialising and everyday life.” ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-smart-technology-is-redefining-independence-for-people-with-cerebral-palsy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-smart-technology-is-redefining-independence-for-people-with-cerebral-palsy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Christmas Ham Made Easy: Prep, Glaze, Carve and Enjoy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-ham-made-easy-prep-glaze-carve-and-enjoy/) **Published:** November 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Few things shout “it’s a big Aussie Christmas” quite like a beautifully glazed ham sitting proudly in the middle of the table. The smell alone brings back all the festive feels — that sweet, sticky glaze, those caramelised edges, and the joy of sneaking a slice before it’s officially served. As a single mum, I’ll admit, the first time I tackled a Christmas ham solo, I was nervous. But once that golden glaze started bubbling away, it felt like a little victory — proof I could create something special for my kids and me. Now it’s become our Christmas tradition: a bit of chaos, plenty of laughs, and leftover ham sandwiches for days. Whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned ham hero, here’s your ultimate guide to making your Christmas ham shine — from Christmas Eve prep to the big day feast, right through to those laid-back Boxing Day leftovers. ## 1. Buying the Perfect Ham Start with quality. Look for Australian pork, ideally free-range or from a trusted local butcher such as [Grange Meat Co](https://www.grangemeat.com.au/sub-produce/christmas-hams). You’ll find two main types: - Full leg ham: impressive, with the bone in for extra flavour and a classic table presentation. - Half leg ham: easier to handle and perfect for smaller gatherings. Check for a firm texture, even pink colour and a good layer of fat on top. That fat is the secret to a perfect glaze later on. If you can, pre-order early to avoid disappointment and coming up short on Christmas day. ## 2. Glazing Like a Pro Glazing transforms a good ham into a showstopper. The goal is golden, sticky, slightly caramelised perfection. Here’s a simple method that works every time: 1. Preheat your oven to 160°C. 2. Remove the rind carefully, leaving a thin layer of fat. 3. Score the fat in a diamond pattern without cutting into the meat. 4. Brush generously with your chosen glaze. 5. Optional: pierce the juncture of each diamond with a clove Classic glaze ingredients include brown sugar, honey, Dijon mustard and orange juice. For something special, try adding maple syrup or a splash of rum. Baste every 15 minutes as it cooks. The final product will be the culinary equivalent of applying sunscreen for a well-seasoned, all-over tan. ## 3. Carving with Confidence When it’s showtime, give your ham a few minutes to rest before carving — it really does make a difference. The juices settle, the glaze sets, and it’s much easier to handle. 1. Use a sharp carving knife and steady your hand. A good knife will glide through those caramelised edges like butter. 2. Slice along the bone to release neat, thin pieces — this helps you get the most out of your ham. 3. Cut across the grain for tender, easy-to-eat slices that practically melt in your mouth. Serve it warm with roasted veggies and crisp salads, or cold with a fresh pineapple relish. Either way, you’ll have guests hovering by the carving board, waiting for “just one more slice.” ![Christmas ham](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Image-3.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Storing and Keeping It Fresh A cooked ham will keep beautifully for up to two weeks in the fridge if you treat it right — and honestly, it’s worth the effort. Wrap it snugly in a clean tea towel or ham bag that’s been dampened with a mix of water and a splash of vinegar. This helps stop the ham from drying out and keeps that delicious glaze tasting fresh. Every few days, rinse and re-soak the cloth to keep it clean and slightly damp. Store your ham in the coldest part of the fridge — usually near the back, not the door, where the temperature fluctuates. And only slice what you need each time. With just a bit of care, you’ll be enjoying that Christmas flavour well into the New Year. ## 5. Creative Leftover Ideas The best part of Christmas is the leftovers. Ham is the gift that keeps on giving. Here are a few ways to make the most of it: - Ham and cheese croissants for Boxing Day breakfast. - Pea and ham soup for cooler summer nights. - Ham and pineapple pizzas for lazy beach dinners. - Ham fried rice or pasta bakes when the fridge needs clearing. Freeze leftover slices for up to three months in airtight containers. Handy for quick meals long after the decorations are packed away. ![Christmas Ham Made Easy: Prep, Glaze, Carve and Enjoy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Image-2.jpg "Image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Make It a Christmas to Remember Christmas ham isn’t just food — it’s a tradition that brings people together, no matter how big or small the gathering. From that first sizzle of the glaze to the final leftover sandwich eaten in your pyjamas, it’s the flavour of Aussie summer, wrapped in nostalgia and shared moments. As a single mum, I’ve learned that [Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-shopping-and-planning/) doesn’t need to be perfect to feel special. It’s about the smell of the ham roasting while the kids sneak a peek under the tree, the laughter that fills the kitchen, and the joy of creating something with love. So roll up your sleeves, pour yourself something sparkly, and give your ham the care it deserves. Nothing says Christmas in Australia quite like a perfectly glazed ham carved under fairy lights, with laughter floating through the warm night air. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-ham-made-easy-prep-glaze-carve-and-enjoy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-ham-made-easy-prep-glaze-carve-and-enjoy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal, Christmas --- ### [How professional window cleaners help busy mums reclaim their time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-professional-window-cleaners-help-busy-mums-reclaim-their-time/) **Published:** November 6, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For busy mums, keeping a clean and organised home can feel like a full-time job. Between school runs, work deadlines, and endless family commitments, there’s rarely a spare moment for deep cleaning. And let’s be honest — window cleaning is often the first task to slip off the list. That’s where professional window cleaners can make life so much easier. Yet sparkling, streak-free windows can completely transform the mood of your home, letting in more light and making every room feel brighter, calmer, and more inviting. I remember putting it off myself — weeks would go by before I’d notice just how much dust and smudging had built up. But the day I finally had them cleaned, the difference was instant. The whole space felt lighter, fresher, and more “me” again. ## Why does having professional window cleaners make such a difference Windows are one of those quiet features that influence everything around them. When they’re clean, they let in more natural light and open up your space. When they’re not, fingerprints, streaks, and grime block sunlight and dull your home’s atmosphere. It’s easy to give the inside glass a quick wipe, but the outside — with all the dirt, rain spots, and cobwebs — often needs more time, effort, and the right tools. That’s where professional [window cleaners in Melbourne](https://www.baxclean.com.au/window-cleaning "window cleaners in Melbourne") really shine. They bring the equipment, purified water systems, and experience to get the job done safely and properly, no matter how high or awkward the windows. ## The benefits of having professional window cleaners ### 1. Protect your home from damage Hiring professionals isn’t just about saving time — it’s also about protecting your home. Over time, dirt, grime, and mineral deposits can build up on window frames and seals, slowly causing wear and tear. This can lead to leaks, cracks, or costly repairs down the track. Professional cleaners know how to remove those stubborn deposits before they cause lasting damage, helping your windows last longer and perform better. Think of it as a small act of maintenance that prevents bigger headaches later. ### 2. Improve your home’s air quality It’s easy to overlook the little areas that collect dust and mould — the window tracks, sills, and flyscreens. But these can affect both air quality and comfort. Professional cleaners don’t just focus on the glass — they clean all those details too. Removing dust, pollen, and mould helps reduce allergens and makes your home feel fresher. It also stops windows from sticking or becoming difficult to open. The result? A cleaner, healthier space that’s easier to maintain. ![professional window cleaners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6197117-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-6197117 - Beanstalk Mums") ### 3. Save time and stress For many mums, the biggest benefit is time. Instead of spending your precious weekend scrubbing windows, you can hand it over to the experts and actually enjoy your downtime. You can schedule cleanings as often as you like — once a season, twice a year, or before special occasions — and know that your windows will stay spotless without adding another task to your already full to-do list. Outsourcing jobs like this can feel like a luxury, but in reality, it’s a practical way to lighten your load and reclaim your weekends. ### 4. Enjoy the instant mood lift There’s something deeply satisfying about seeing sunlight stream through perfectly clean glass. It instantly brightens your rooms and lifts the energy of your home. When natural light floods in, everything — from your plants to your mood — feels refreshed. Clean windows can even make your home appear more spacious and inviting, which is great if you’re entertaining or just want to enjoy your own space more fully. ## Finding the right window cleaners in Melbourne If you’re thinking of hiring professionals, look for a local Melbourne window cleaning service with good reviews, insurance, and safety practices. Ask if they use purified water or eco-friendly cleaning solutions — these leave fewer streaks and are better for your home and the environment. You can also check whether they offer extras like screen cleaning, track detailing, or solar panel cleaning — these small add-ons can make a big difference. Many services now offer flexible scheduling or recurring plans, so you can choose what fits best with your lifestyle. Whether it’s a quarterly clean or just before the [holidays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/school-holidays/ "holidays"), the convenience is unbeatable. ## Why professional window cleaners are worth the investment It’s tempting to think of professional window cleaning as an optional extra, but for many busy families, it’s an investment in both comfort and time. Clear, gleaming windows don’t just look good — they change how your home feels. For mums juggling work, kids, and everything in between, small changes like this can make daily life a little lighter. It’s one less thing to worry about, and one more reason to enjoy being at home. ## Real support for real life Keeping your home looking its best doesn’t have to mean doing everything yourself. By letting professionals take care of the jobs that drain your time and energy, you’re not just keeping your home cleaner — you’re giving yourself space to rest and recharge. So if you’re ready to simplify your home maintenance routine and enjoy the sunshine through spotless windows, consider booking a professional window cleaning service in Melbourne. It’s a simple, stress-free way to brighten your home and make every day feel a little lighter. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-professional-window-cleaners-help-busy-mums-reclaim-their-time/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-professional-window-cleaners-help-busy-mums-reclaim-their-time/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [The ultimate guide to choosing the right hardware suppliers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-ultimate-guide-to-choosing-the-right-hardware-suppliers/) **Published:** November 6, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Upgrading or renovating your home with smart technology is an exciting step — it’s the kind of project that promises both comfort and convenience. But before you start ordering gadgets or planning installations, there’s one essential question to ask: where will you source reliable, high-quality components that last? Choosing the right [hardware suppliers](https://ovesco.com.au/ "hardware suppliers") is the backbone of any successful smart home project. The quality of the materials you use — from fasteners to smart locks — directly impacts performance, safety, and how smoothly your project comes together. In my own renovation journey, I learned this the hard way. A last-minute switch to cheaper hardware caused weeks of delays and a few frustrating do-overs. Once I found a trusted supplier who understood both the technical and practical sides of home automation, everything started falling into place. ## Why your choice of hardware suppliers matters Think of hardware suppliers as part of your project team — not just a store. The right one provides more than just parts; it offers insight, reliability, and peace of mind. When you’re dealing with smart home systems, small details make a big difference. You want hinges that won’t rust, fittings that don’t loosen over time, and smart locks that integrate seamlessly with your network. A reputable supplier ensures each piece works together perfectly, saving you from compatibility headaches and costly mistakes down the line. Whether you’re fitting out cabinetry, installing security systems, or upgrading door hardware, expert advice from a knowledgeable supplier can mean the difference between a seamless build and one plagued by trial and error. ## Product range of hardware suppliers: Everything under one roof A strong product range makes your life easier — especially when you’re juggling trades, timelines, and a dozen different tasks. Look for suppliers with a wide inventory that covers all your project needs, from screws and seals to smart door components and cabinetry fittings. Having one go-to supplier simplifies ordering, reduces shipping costs, and ensures all your materials are consistent in quality and finish. There’s nothing worse than mixing different brands that don’t quite match in colour, fit, or function. A well-stocked supplier helps you avoid that problem entirely. Some even offer bundled solutions for specific smart home applications, saving time and removing guesswork from the equation. ## Reliability and timing: Keeping projects on track Every [home builder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-choose-a-home-builder-you-can-trust/ "home builder"), designer, or homeowner knows that delays can derail a project. When one trade is held up, the rest of the schedule suffers — and that’s why reliability from your supplier is crucial. Choose a supplier known for fast dispatch, clear communication, and local stock availability. Reliable delivery keeps your project moving and helps trades complete their work without costly downtime. Many hardware suppliers in Australia now offer online ordering with real-time inventory updates, making it easier to plan and track your materials. Some even provide next-day delivery for metro areas, which can be a lifesaver when you’re running behind schedule. ![hardware suppliers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-thatguycraig000-1727684-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-thatguycraig000-1727684 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Quality first: why cheap can cost more It’s tempting to cut costs by choosing cheaper parts, but low-quality hardware can fail early — leading to more expenses in the long run. Corrosion, wear, or misaligned fittings can compromise both safety and functionality. Professional-grade suppliers work with trusted brands and manufacturers that meet Australian standards for durability, load capacity, and performance. That means your smart locks stay secure, your fittings stay firm, and your investment holds up over time. When it comes to something as fundamental as hardware, quality should always come before price. ## Customer service and expert support Even the best-laid plans can hit unexpected snags. Maybe a part doesn’t fit, or you realise mid-project that you need a different finish or size. In those moments, great customer service makes all the difference. A reliable supplier won’t just sell you a product and disappear — they’ll help you troubleshoot issues, recommend alternatives, and arrange quick replacements when needed. The best ones see themselves as partners in your success, not just vendors. I’ve worked with suppliers who went the extra mile to source specific items overnight, and that kind of support genuinely changes the whole experience of managing a project. ## Scalability: Future-proofing your smart home Smart homes aren’t static — they evolve with your needs. Maybe you’ll add more automation later, expand into outdoor living spaces, or upgrade your lighting system. When that happens, having a trusted supplier who can scale with you makes everything easier. Choose hardware partners who carry consistent product lines over time or who can supply compatible upgrades. It’s about building continuity — knowing that when you return for more components months or years later, you’ll find the same quality and compatibility. That kind of reliability gives you peace of mind and ensures your smart home remains cohesive and high-performing as it grows. ## Sustainability and innovation matter too As technology and design evolve, sustainability has become a key consideration in modern buildings. Many Australian hardware suppliers now prioritise eco-friendly materials and energy-efficient manufacturing practices. Opting for a supplier that values innovation and sustainability not only benefits the environment but can also future-proof your home. Components made from recycled metals, corrosion-resistant coatings, or low-impact packaging demonstrate long-term thinking — something worth supporting. ## Finding the right hardware suppliers in Australia When comparing suppliers, keep these essentials in mind: - **Reputation and reviews:** Look for consistent positive feedback and established credibility. - **Product quality:** Confirm they work with trusted brands that meet Australian standards. - **Expert advice:** Choose a supplier with technical knowledge, not just sales experience. - **Delivery and stock:** Local inventory and reliable logistics keep your project on track. - **Customer support:** Quick response and flexibility when you need help most. Doing a little research upfront saves a lot of frustration later. ## Takeaways: Choosing the right hardware suppliers The right hardware supplier isn’t just another line item in your budget — they’re a partner in your project’s success. They bring not only the materials you need but also the expertise and reliability that turn ambitious plans into lasting results. From your first order to the finishing touches, having a dependable supplier ensures every screw, latch, and fitting works exactly as intended. With the right support behind you, your smart home project will come together beautifully — and stand strong for years to come. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-ultimate-guide-to-choosing-the-right-hardware-suppliers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-ultimate-guide-to-choosing-the-right-hardware-suppliers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How Does a Large Modern Rug Complement the Living Room?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-does-a-large-modern-rug-complement-the-living-room/) **Published:** November 6, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes to designing a living room that exudes style and comfort, the right rug can make all the difference. Imagine stepping into a space where warmth meets elegance, where every piece harmonises effortlessly to create an inviting atmosphere. In this blog post, we’ll explore the art of layering a large modern rug with complementary accents to craft cohesive interiors that feel both chic and welcoming. Whether you’re aiming for a minimalist vibe or a more eclectic look, join us as we uncover how these stunning textiles can transform your living room into a true reflection of your personal style! Get ready to roll out some inspiration that will have you rethinking your floor plan in no time! ## Understanding the Impact of a Large Modern Rug in a Living Room Before we dive into how a [large modern rug](https://missamara.com.au/collections/modern-rugs "large modern rug") can complement other rugs in your living room, let’s explore the impact of this central piece on its own. The size of a rug can have a significant effect on the overall look and feel of a space. A large modern rug can serve as the foundation for your living room, bringing together all the elements in the room and creating a sense of unity. It also has the power to expand the space visually, making it feel larger and more open. In addition, a large rug can add texture and depth to a room, making it feel more cozy and inviting. It’s also a great way to add a pop of colour or pattern to an otherwise neutral space. ## The Benefits of Choosing a Large Modern Rug for Your Living Room Space ![large modern rug](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-fotoaibe-1571459-1200x783.jpg "Pexels-fotoaibe-1571459 - Beanstalk Mums") When it comes to choosing the right large rugs for the living room, size matters. A larger rug can have a multitude of benefits, including: **Defining the Space:** A large rug helps create a clear sense of purpose in your living room, defining where the seating area begins and ends. It pulls all your furniture together so nothing feels scattered or out of place. I love how it instantly makes the space feel more intentional and grounded. **Creating Balance:** A large modern rug can work wonders in balancing out a room, especially if you have big furniture pieces or lots of open space. It softens the visual weight and brings harmony to everything. In my own home, it helped transform a slightly awkward layout into a more cohesive, welcoming space. **Adding Visual Interest:** A large modern rug can easily become the star of your living room. Whether it’s a subtle pattern or a bold colour, it draws the eye and adds depth. I’ve found that swapping out rugs seasonally keeps the space feeling fresh and gives the room an instant lift. **Making a Statement:** A large modern rug sets the tone for your entire room—it’s like choosing the perfect outfit for your space. From modern geometrics to relaxed coastal vibes, the right rug lets your personality shine through. It’s the easiest way to make a statement without completely redecorating. **Comfort and Cosiness:** Beyond style, a large modern rug adds warmth and softness underfoot—especially on cool mornings. It makes lounging on the floor with the kids or the dog so much more comfortable. There’s something about the texture and warmth that instantly makes the space feel like home. ## Layering a Large Modern Rug with Complementary Accents ![How Does a Large Modern Rug Complement the Living Room?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-jvdm-1457842-1200x728.jpg "Pexels-jvdm-1457842 - Beanstalk Mums") Now that we’ve established the importance of a large modern rug in a [living room](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/why-your-living-room-never-feels-spacious-enough-and-how-to-fix-it/ "living room"), let’s explore how to incorporate other rugs into the space to create a cohesive look. Here are a few tips to keep in mind: **Start with a Neutral Base:** When layering rugs, it’s best to start with a neutral base. This could be a large jute or sisal rug that will serve as the foundation for your other rugs. **Mix Textures:** To add depth and interest to your living room, mix different textures when layering rugs. For example, pair a soft shag rug with a flat-woven rug for contrast. **Vary the Sizes:** Don’t be afraid to mix and match different rug sizes. Layer a smaller rug on top of a larger one to create dimension and break up the space. **Play with Patterns:** Mixing patterns can be tricky, but when done right, it can add visual interest and personality to your living room. Start with a large, solid rug and layer a smaller patterned rug on top for a balanced look. **Stick with a Colour Scheme:** To avoid a chaotic look, stick with a colour scheme when layering rugs. Choose complementary colours or stick with different shades of the same colour. ## Conclusion: How Does a Large Modern Rug Complement the Living Room? A large modern rug can completely transform your living room — it’s one of those simple updates that instantly makes the space feel pulled together. The right rug doesn’t just look good; it ties in your furniture, adds warmth underfoot, and gives your room a fresh, finished vibe. If you’re layering rugs (which is such a fun way to add depth), start with a neutral base and then build on it. Mix up your textures and sizes, don’t be afraid of a bold pattern or two, and keep things cohesive with a set colour palette. The trick is to balance contrast without creating chaos. With a little bit of playing around, you’ll end up with a space that feels cozy, stylish, and totally you — proof that the right rug can really set the tone for your whole home. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-does-a-large-modern-rug-complement-the-living-room/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-does-a-large-modern-rug-complement-the-living-room/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How Mums Are Prioritising Self-Care While Saving Money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-mums-are-prioritising-self-care-while-saving-money/) **Published:** November 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For many Australian single mums, the challenge of balancing financial responsibilities with personal well-being has never been greater. Yet, even in the face of tight budgets, prioritising self-care remains a priority. More women are discovering creative and affordable ways to nurture themselves, with natural beauty and wellness brands such as [House of Immortelle](https://www.houseofimmortelle.com.au/ "House of Immortelle") offering accessible options that don’t compromise on quality. This shift reflects a growing awareness that taking care of oneself isn’t indulgence—it’s essential for resilience and balance. ## Prioritising Self-care 101: Embracing Affordable Natural Beauty In 2025, single mums are increasingly turning toward [natural skincare](https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/natural-skin-care-routine) and wellness products that provide lasting benefits without excessive costs. Brands that emphasise plant-based ingredients are especially popular, thanks to their transparency and effectiveness. By choosing products that multitask—such as nourishing oils that can serve as both moisturiser and hair treatment—mothers are stretching their dollars while still enjoying high-quality care. According to Australian Women’s Health, this trend of “smart simplicity” in beauty is helping women feel confident without overspending. What’s more, the rise of online marketplaces and small-batch Australian beauty brands has made it easier to find local, eco-conscious options that don’t rely on celebrity marketing or inflated pricing. Social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok are filled with communities of women sharing honest reviews and cost-saving beauty hacks—from homemade face masks using pantry staples like honey and oats, to budget-friendly essential oil blends that double as perfume and stress relief. ![prioritising self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-mattycphoto-1062280-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mattycphoto-1062280 1 - Beanstalk Mums") As sustainability becomes more important to consumers, this move toward natural beauty also aligns with broader lifestyle values. For single mums, it’s not only about affordability—it’s about making mindful choices that feel good, inside and out. ## The Power of At-Home Rituals in Prioritising Self-care With childcare, work, and household duties competing for attention, time for [self-care ](https://www.who.int/health-topics/self-care#tab=tab_1)can be scarce. Single mums are addressing this by bringing spa-like rituals into their homes. Simple practices such as evening facials, essential oil baths, or guided meditation sessions can provide much-needed relaxation without the price tag of professional treatments. Beyond saving money, these routines foster consistency, which experts at Better Health Victoria note is key to maintaining long-term physical and emotional well-being. The home has truly become a sanctuary for affordable indulgence. Some mothers are even involving their children in these rituals, turning self-care into family care. Whether it’s a “spa night” with DIY cucumber masks or a Sunday morning yoga session streamed on YouTube, these shared experiences strengthen family bonds and teach children the importance of mental and physical health. For many single mums, these small acts of mindfulness offer a daily reminder that self-worth isn’t measured by income—it’s reflected in how we treat ourselves. ## The Role of Community and Shared Support in Prioritising Self-care ![Prioritising self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Prioritising-self-care.jpg "Prioritising self-care - Beanstalk Mums") Another remarkable development in 2025 is how single mums are creating networks of support to sustain their self-care journeys. From online groups sharing DIY skincare recipes to local community centres hosting wellness workshops, collaboration is helping women overcome financial and emotional hurdles. This collective spirit reduces isolation and makes self-care more achievable. According to the Australian Institute of Family Studies, community connection plays a vital role in strengthening resilience among single-parent households—a finding reflected in the rise of shared wellness spaces. In suburbs across the country, grassroots initiatives are gaining momentum. “Mums meet-ups” for outdoor fitness classes, bulk-buying co-ops for organic skincare, and virtual mental health check-ins are redefining what community looks like. In regional towns, libraries and local councils are even introducing free “wellness days” that include mindfulness coaching and aromatherapy sessions, specifically designed for parents juggling multiple responsibilities. Social media has also become a lifeline—Facebook groups like “Budget Beauty Mums Australia” now boast tens of thousands of members who swap tips on affordable products, time-saving routines, and emotional support. These connections are proving that self-care doesn’t have to be solitary; in fact, it often flourishes when shared. ## Prioritising Self-care Alongside Mental Health Self-care in 2025 isn’t just about external beauty—it’s equally about mental health. Single mums are increasingly embracing mindfulness apps, free therapy resources, and journaling as part of their wellness toolkit. Combining beauty rituals with practices that nurture emotional balance is proving transformative. As Head to Health highlights, integrating small but consistent mental health habits can dramatically improve overall well-being. ![prioritising self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/Pexels-hazardos-1535244-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-hazardos-1535244 - Beanstalk Mums") Many women are turning to digital tools like Smiling Mind or Calm to build mindfulness into their daily routines. Ten minutes of meditation before bed or a gratitude journal in the morning can shift the day’s outlook. Some are also exploring free counselling services offered through local councils or not-for-profit organisations, recognising that mental clarity often amplifies physical confidence. Experts agree that self-care is no longer about quick fixes—it’s about building sustainable habits that replenish both mind and body. When mothers care for their inner health, it ripples outward, benefiting their children and communities too. ## Navigating Financial Pressure with Creativity While Prioritising Self-care Of course, maintaining self-care on a budget requires ingenuity. In a time of rising living costs, single mums are becoming resourceful curators of their own well-being. Many have learned to prioritise experiences over excess—opting for a sunset walk, a picnic in the park, or a quiet cup of tea over expensive salon visits. Reusing skincare containers, making DIY scrubs, and swapping clothes or beauty samples with friends are all practical ways to stay within budget while still feeling cared for. Some mothers are also leveraging side gigs or flexible income streams—from reselling second-hand items online to freelancing—to carve out a small “self-care fund.” Even a modest $10 a week set aside can go toward a treat that boosts confidence, whether that’s a face serum, a yoga class, or a new book. This mindset of intentional spending transforms self-care from a guilty pleasure into an investment in personal stability. ## Conclusion: Prioritising Self-care as a Form of Strength Balancing budgets and beauty may seem daunting, but Australian single mums are proving it’s possible to prioritise self-care in creative, affordable, and deeply meaningful ways. By embracing natural products, carving out at-home rituals, building supportive communities, attending to mental health, and finding resourceful ways to stretch every dollar, they are reshaping what [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/ "self-care") looks like in 2025. Ultimately, these women are redefining self-care not as a luxury but as a form of strength—one that sustains them through challenges, uplifts their families, and sets an example for resilience across generations. In a world that often demands more than it gives back, these mothers remind us that beauty and balance are not opposites—they’re partners in the ongoing journey of self-worth. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-mums-are-prioritising-self-care-while-saving-money/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-mums-are-prioritising-self-care-while-saving-money/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Self-Care And Self-Development Your Life-Changing Growth Starts Here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’re a single mum juggling work, kids, and the never-ending to-do list, self-care probably feels like one more thing that slips to the back burner. But to tell you the truth, self-care and self-development are not luxuries; they’re essential for your wellbeing. Taking time to nurture yourself helps reduce stress, prevent burnout, and re-establish balance in your day-to-day life. This isn’t about spa days (though, yes, they help!) — it’s about small, consistent self-care practices that support your emotional wellness and self-development. By making self-care a priority, you’re cultivating resilience, clarity, and the confidence to handle life’s challenges with strength. Wondering how this looks in everyday mum-life? Here are the most common FAQs, answered simply and kindly. ## Q1. What are the essential self-care and self-development tips? - **Schedule small moments of daily self-care** – even five minutes counts. Use that time for deep breathing exercises or simply sipping a cup of tea in peace. - **Prioritise sleep, hydration, and balanced nutrition** – [getting enough sleep is foundational to your overall health.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-reset-sleep-schedule-tips-on-restoring-your-natural-rhythm/) - **Incorporate mindfulness** – short meditations or journaling can help you reconnect with your thoughts and feelings. - **Celebrate small wins** – personal growth happens in gentle, steady steps. - **Add comfort** – try essential oils or a nourishing hair treatment to help you stay centred. We love getting our [little treats from Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fcollections%2fnaturally-beautiful) —clean, affordable, and good for the planet. ### Q2. How do I start self-care and self-development if I have no time? Start small. Schedule time for something that replenishes your energy — even 2 minutes of mindful breathing or stretching can make a difference. [Journal three small self-care actions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/) you’ll try this week — and notice how even tiny shifts can improve your wellbeing. #### Time management strategies for busy single mums - **Plan your day with achievable priorities** — be realistic about what fits into your work life and home life. - **Use timers or gentle routines** to build structure. - **Delegate where possible** — asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. - **Try planners or** [anti-burnout journals](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/55oVqL) to stay organised. ![self-care and self-development](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-karola-g-6633771-1-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karola-g-6633771 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Q3. How can I manage time effectively without feeling overwhelmed? Focus on what matters most today. I’ve learned that self-care comes in many forms, and [saying “no” is one of them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/say-no-stress-christmas/). At day’s end, I would write down what went well and what I can let go of tomorrow — it’s a simple self-care routine for mental clarity. #### Building confidence and personal growth Confidence often begins with how you speak to yourself. Practising self-compassion and positive affirmation can help you foster your sense of worth. - **Recognise personal achievements** — no matter how small. - **Practice positive self-talk** — remind yourself daily that you’re doing enough. - **Engage in hobbies or new skills** — learning supports personal development and self-improvement. - **Treat yourself kindly** — [explore gentle skincare rituals](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fcollections%2fnatural-skin-care) as acts of self-care and self-development. ### Q4. What are the small steps to build self-confidence through self-care and self-development? Start by acknowledging one thing you’ve done well each day. Over time, this builds self-confidence and resilience. Write down one personal strength in your journal daily to boost your mood and motivation. #### Mindfulness practices for everyday life Mindfulness helps you deal with stress and stay grounded in the present moment. It’s a powerful self-care strategy that supports emotional well-being and overall health. - **Try 5-minute breathing** or movement exercises - **Practice mindful eating** or walking - **Journal** to process thoughts and feelings - **Create a dreamy mood** – use [calming teas](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fproducts%2fkoala-tea-organic-no-worries-tea-bags-pack-20) or [candles to help you relax](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fcollections%2fscented-candles). ### Q5. How do I make mindfulness a habit as a busy mum? Start by pairing it with something you already do — like deep breathing while waiting for the kettle to boil. Take five mindful breaths now and notice how your body feels. Check out our other article **[“Meditation for mums (no it’s not a joke)”](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/meditation-for-mums/)** for a deep dive into introducing mindfulness without the added stress. #### Developing healthy habits for mental clarity Healthy routines help you feel balanced physically and emotionally. - **Start small and stay consistent** – change builds over time. - **Include movement** or exercise that feels good for your body. - **Prioritise hydration** and enough sleep. - **Explore supplements** or [health essentials to support your physical health](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fcollections%2fsupplements) and energy levels. ### Q6. How do I set boundaries without feeling selfish? I always remind myself that boundaries protect my overall well-being. They allow us to show up better equipped to handle challenges. #### Setting boundaries for emotional well-being Boundaries are one of the most powerful self-care practices. They help you manage stress, prevent burnout, and maintain your overall well-being. - **Say no without guilt** — your needs are being met when [you protect your time and energy](https://singlemamaway.com/self-love-boundaries-powerful-ways/). - **Limit time with draining people or tasks.** - **Communicate needs kindly** — self-compassion makes this easier. - **Support your calm** — try aromatherapy or herbal blends. ### Q7. How long does it take to form a new habit? Around 21–30 days — start with one manageable change at a time. [Track your progress in a journal](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2ffoiled-journal-frida-kahlo-dark-pink%2fflame-tree-studio%2f9781804173534%2f) — small, steady habits nurture long-term success. #### Nurturing your physical and emotional health Your health and well-being thrive when you honour both your body and emotions. - **Engage in physical activity** you enjoy — dancing, stretching, or walking with your child. - **Eat nourishing foods** and stay hydrated. - **Set aside time to recharge** with quiet “me-time.” ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-thngocbich-760728-1-1200x798.jpg "Pexels-thngocbich-760728 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Q8. What are easy ways to care for both body and mind daily? Anything that helps you feel balanced — a warm shower, a mindful walk, or simply breathing deeply — counts as self-care. #### Journaling and reflection for self-care and self-development Reflection helps you grow personally and professionally. - **Set aside 10 minutes** each day for journaling. - **Explore your emotions**, goals, and gratitude. - **Track small wins** to boost your confidence. ### Q9. How do I start journaling as a beginner? Start with prompts like: *What’s one thing I’m proud of today?* or *What’s something I need more of this week?* We compiled a list of self-reflection prompts right here – [128 Self-reflection Journal Prompts for the Love Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/ "128 Self-reflection Journal Prompts for the Love Month") #### Creating a personal growth routine A self-care plan doesn’t have to be complicated. - **Blend awareness**, movement, learning, and rest. - **Adjust routines** as your life changes. - **Use practical wellness tools** to support your health and wellbeing. ### Q10. How do I stick to a personal growth routine without burnout? Be flexible. Your routine should nourish you, not drain you. #### Finding motivation and staying consistent Motivation grows when you celebrate progress and surround yourself with support. - **Set achievable goals** and reward yourself. - **Connect** with positive, like-minded mums. - **Pair habits with enjoyable rewards** — a podcast, a walk, or a new self-care treat. ### Q11. How do I stay motivated when life feels overwhelming? Focus on one day at a time. You’re doing your best — and that’s enough. Write one win each night to keep your motivation alive. ## Final reflection on self-care and self-development for mums Remember, Mum, self-care and self-development are about presence. I learned that the hard way after years of running on empty, thinking that self-care meant big changes I never had time for. It wasn’t until I started taking five quiet minutes for myself that things slowly began to shift. Those tiny moments helped me reconnect with who I was outside of being “Mum.” Prioritise your wellbeing and personal growth one small step at a time. Some days it might simply mean getting enough sleep, setting boundaries, or saying no without guilt. You’re not alone in this, and every moment you take for yourself helps create a more grounded, fulfilling life for you and your child — one that’s built on calm and genuine self-compassion. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-care-and-self-development-for-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Holiday Travel Tips: Make Family Trips Easy and Stress-free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/holiday-travel-tips-make-family-trips-easy-and-stress-free/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Planning a family getaway can be exciting, but it can also get a little tangled at times. For single mums especially, travelling during the holidays might feel impossible — but it doesn’t have to be! A smooth holiday is absolutely possible with a bit of preparation and a good plan. From packing smart and staying calm through airport queues, these holiday travel tips will help you navigate your trip with confidence. With an organised itinerary and a backup plan, you can unwrap the joy of family adventures — minus the chaos! ## Plan ahead when travelling around the holidays The best way to make your trip during the holiday travel season smoother is to prepare in advance. Create a timeline for booking flights, accommodation, and activities at least a few months before your departure time. Early planning often means the best deals, fewer crowds, and less stress when the airport gets busier during the holidays. - Research destinations and local visa or vaccine requirements before confirming plans. - Involve the kids by letting them choose one activity or food stop. - Pack a small health kit and [comfort essentials](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftravel%2ftravel-necessities) for peace of mind. ### How early should I start planning a family holiday? Ideally, [begin planning three to six months ahead,](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-strategies-solo-travel-with-kids/) especially if you want to travel domestically during the festive season. ***Pro tip:** Journaling your family travel goals and milestones is a great way to stay excited and organised!* ## Packing essentials for a smooth trip Smart packing is key to a hassle-free journey. Make a master checklist for every traveller in your family, from baby wipes to entertainment. - [Pack travel-friendly toiletries](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fredo-haircare-shine-spray-30ml), snacks, and layered clothing for various weather. - Use carry-on bags strategically to keep essentials handy during flight delays. - Opt for compact hair and skincare products to stay festive and fresh. Don’t forget to check TSA and airline rules before adding liquid or food items to your checked luggage. And if you’re travelling with gifts, remember to leave them unwrapped until you arrive. ![holiday travel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-yuliantopoitier-1231365-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yuliantopoitier-1231365 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### What are the must-have items for a carefree family trip? A health kit, extra snacks, headphones, and a change of clothes in your carry-on have always helped me avoid last-minute chaos. ***Pro tip:** Note what worked (and what didn’t) in your travel journal for next time.* ## Choosing family-friendly destinations through travel apps When choosing where to go, consider accessibility, comfort, and what will make your kiddos happy. - Research popular travel spots and look for places with family amenities. - Check local attractions, weather conditions, and road trips nearby. - Choose accommodations with space to play, kid-friendly menus, and safety features. ### How do I pick a destination suitable for children of different ages? I search for destinations offering activities for all, from playgrounds to quiet beaches. Travel apps can help you find family-friendly stays and help you navigate nearby attractions. ***Pro tip:** Journal each destination’s pros and cons to guide future decisions.* ## Budgeting for holiday travel Money management makes every trip smoother! - Compare airline options and booking platforms for the best deals. - Allocate funds for food, accommodation, and unexpected delays or cancellation costs. - Consider travel insurance — it offers real peace of mind if bad weather or a snowstorm hits. ### How can I travel with my family on a limited budget? Book mid-week flights and look for loyalty programs or cashback offers. You may also want to set aside a “plan B” fund for emergencies. ## Managing travel anxiety and stress Even seasoned mums feel nervous travelling this holiday season. Expect some bumps — from flight delays to queue chaos — and pack tons of patience. - Prepare a backup plan for connecting flights or last-minute cancellations. - Bring [calming oils](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fthursday-plantation-100-pure-lavender-oil-25ml), herbal teas, or comfort products. - Try [mindfulness or deep breathing before boarding](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/) to stay ahead of stress. ### How can I stay calm while travelling with kids? Keep routines familiar, from snacks, playlists, to comfort toys. Journal your coping strategies as they’ll come in handy for your next holiday break. ## Holiday travel ultimate tip: Fun activities to keep kids engaged on the go Long travel days can test everyone’s patience. To keep little ones happy, plan interactive games, audiobooks, and small surprises. - Rotate activities to avoid boredom. - Use a lounge pass to relax between connecting flights. - Bring educational or creative travel packs for a hassle-free journey. ### What are easy ways to keep kids entertained during long flights? Bring sensory toys for smaller kids and puzzles for older ones (the more complex, the better). Colouring books also worked wonders for me. Note which activities your kids loved most and want to repeat on your next trip. Read more here: [*Expert travelling tips for surviving long-haul flights with kids*](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/tips-for-long-flights-with-kids/) ![holiday travel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933896-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-tatianasyrikova-3933896 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Safety tips for family holiday travel Staying safe comes first, especially when visiting family or new places. - Keep documents, IDs, and emergency contacts secure. - Use travel harnesses or ID bracelets for kids. - If driving in the winter, pack blankets and a food items stash. ### What safety precautions should I take when travelling with children? Double-check your check-in details, confirm travel insurance, and always have a Plan B. Having a pre-departure safety checklist also helps. ## Travelling during peak holiday seasons (Have a backup plan) The festive rush can turn airports into madhouses. To minimise chaos: - Book flights and hotels early to avoid cancellations or unexpected delays. - Leave early, arrive at least two hours before domestic departures. - Use apps to track your flight, find lounge access, or check bad weather updates. A little extra preparation can help you get through crowded terminals and make travelling during the holidays far more relaxed. ### How can I minimise stress during busy holiday travel times? I learned that sticking to my itinerary, staying flexible, and always packing an alternative plan minimises stress during holiday trips. After the trip, you can also list down what worked this year to refine your approach for next Christmas. ## Creating lasting memories while travelling When the rush fades, what remains are the laughs, photos, and shared moments. I found these tips effective in creating lasting memories. - Take photos, record funny travel quotes, and keep ticket stubs. - Involve your kids in capturing their favourite memories. - Splurge a little on a small souvenir or family dinner. ### How can I make holiday travel more memorable for my children? Celebrate the small wins; even making it through security with fewer crowds deserves a cheer! Use your journal to unwrap every memory — it’s the best souvenir of all. ## Final takeaway: Holiday travel tips Travelling with kids around the holidays can be wonderfully rewarding — and yes, doable — when you plan ahead, pack smart, and keep expectations kind. With some holiday travel tips, reliable travel insurance, and a flexible alternative plan, you’ll be well on your way to a stress-free holiday that’s filled with laughter, love, and maybe a little chaos — the good kind. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/holiday-travel-tips-make-family-trips-easy-and-stress-free/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/holiday-travel-tips-make-family-trips-easy-and-stress-free/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [Empower Single Mums:How to Christmas Without a Father Figure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-without-a-father-figure/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** For many single mums, spending Christmas without a father figure for the kids can feel bittersweet because it’s a time when joy and responsibility sit side by side. The holiday can magnify what’s missing, yet it also highlights your strength, love, and ability to make the season magical in your own way. In this guide, we’ll provide real advice and emotional comfort for single mums everywhere. It’s not easy, but with the right mindset and gentle planning, you can create new memories, celebrate meaningful moments, and even find a little time to relax. ## Coping with Emotional Challenges During Christmas Without a Father Figure It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions when facing Christmas without a father figure. Grief, frustration, or even guilt can quietly surface, especially when everyone else seems to be celebrating as a family. For many single mums, emotions can also rise on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, when memories of past years or your ex resurface. The truth is, you don’t need to hide how you feel or push through with forced cheer. After all, acknowledging your emotions is an act of courage, not weakness. So, here are a few gentle ways to navigate these moments with grace: - **Journaling your thoughts**. Writing can help release tension and bring clarity. - **Seeking community support**. Connect with local single-parent groups or Facebook spaces that support single mothers. Knowing you’re not alone helps. - **Creating small rituals**. Light candles, sip hot chocolate, or simply breathe. These little acts help you feel grounded amid the holiday hustle. - **Rediscovering confidence**. Emotional healing sometimes starts by reconnecting with yourself. Explore our [Guide To Confidence After Divorce: Growth, Hope & New Life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/guide-to-confidence-after-divorce-growth-hope-new-life/) for gentle practices and small wins that inspire self-worth. Even on the hardest days, remember that your presence and love are the real gifts your children cherish. For more emotional and practical ideas, explore our [guide on how to survive Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/10-tips-to-survive-christmas-as-a-single-mum/). ## Managing Loneliness and Holiday Blues on Christmas as a Single Mum The quiet moments of Christmas without a father figure can feel the hardest—when the kids are asleep, or during family gatherings where you suddenly feel out of place. Loneliness can sneak in even when you’re surrounded by people, and that’s okay. But these moments don’t define you; they only remind you of how deeply you love. So, here are some simple ideas you can try to lift your spirits: - **Plan social touchpoints**. Join local single parent meetups, host a low-key dinner, or chat with friends on social media. - **Try virtual connection**. A video date with friends or a shared movie on Christmas Eve can make you feel close, even from afar. - **Remember that it’s temporary**. Reach out, connect, and spend time together whenever you can because connection heals. ![Christmas without a father figure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Christmas-without-a-father-figure.jpg "Christmas without a father figure - Beanstalk Mums") ## Create New Traditions This Christmas Without a Father Figure Old ways can carry emotional weight, especially in co-parenting situations. But this year is an opportunity to create new traditions that reflect your new family and what truly brings joy. So, here are a few simple ways to start: - **Start a unique ritual**. Try a pyjama pancake breakfast, a sunrise beach walk on Christmas Morning, or a cosy night under the Christmas lights. - **Bake together**. Make Christmas cookies or mince pies your signature tradition; it’s fun and smells amazing! - **Add meaning through giving**. Volunteer locally or donate a stocking to charity. These acts of kindness can inspire your kids. - **Keep it simple**. Try to avoid the temptation to go extravagant. A quiet night watching Santa movies with your favourite treats is enough. - **Celebrate small wins**. Honour the year’s achievements, such as surviving the holiday stress, paying off debt, or talking about single parenting with pride. Each arrangement and tradition you build tells your children that love adapts, and that’s what matters most. ## A Guide to Creating Special Memories as a Single Parent You have the freedom to make Christmas as a single mum your own. The laughter, the messy kitchen, and the small presents under the tree — that’s where the magic lives. Fortunately, there are a lot of things you can do to make this holiday memorable, such as: - **Plan intentional moments**. Have a backyard picnic, go camping, or curl up for a movie in matching pyjamas on Christmas Eve. - **Capture the memories**. Snap photos, write gratitude notes, or frame your kids’ drawings. These are little tokens that can provide comfort later. - **Choose experiences over things**. Instead of more toys, plan experiences your children will never forget. - **Take care of yourself, too**. After the excitement fades, take a quiet moment for self-care — try one of these [unusual self-care ideas for a stronger, calmer mind](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/) and pick a small, doable ritual that refills your cup. ## Involving Children in Meaningful Holiday Activities Involve your children in creating this season’s magic — not as a way to compensate, but to connect. After all, Christmas should be about building moments of teamwork, laughter, and love that belong to *your* little family. So, here are some ideas on how to spark joy and connection: - **Get crafty**. Make homemade ornaments or DIY decorations, or hang a handmade stocking for each person. - **Cook together**. Let your kids bake biscuits or decorate cupcakes. A little bit of messy fun can also strengthen your family unit. - **Start a giving game**. Create an arrangement where everyone picks a kind act to do for another. - **Story night**. Take turns telling Santa stories by candlelight. - **End with gratitude**. Share what you’re thankful for before bed. This simple act nurtures emotional security. When your children feel involved, they don’t just celebrate Christmas — they *create* it, alongside you. ## Tips for Budget-Friendly Holiday Planning for Single Mums It’s no secret that many single mums find this time of year financially stressful. Christmas without a father figure often means you’re navigating the holidays solo, especially when it comes to finances. But with mindful planning, you can spend wisely and still celebrate richly. Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to keep things joyful *and* affordable, such as: - **[A clear budget](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/mums-can-prepare-financially-christmas-right-now/ "A clear budget")**. Plan for meals, gifts, and small arrangements. This keeps your holiday joyful and debt-free. - **DIY your décor**. Simple decorations or homemade presents add charm without cost. - **Prioritise what matters**. Focus on experiences, not price tags. Spending Christmas laughing together beats any luxury. - **Plan your meals**. Host a potluck or make special meals using what you already have. - **Treat yourself, too.** Don’t forget to treat yourself! For hush-hush inspo that keeps the house asleep, peek at our guide to [10 extra-quiet vibrators that won’t wake the household](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-extra-quiet-vibrators-that-wont-wake-the-household/)—perfect for a little confidence-boosting indulgence 😜 Christmas doesn’t have to be pricey to be perfect. It just has to be real, filled with the love and laughter that make your family uniquely yours. ![Christmas without a father figure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Christmas-without-a-father-figure-2.jpg "Christmas without a father figure 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Staying Positive Amid Family Tensions Family gatherings can sometimes stir emotions or comparisons, especially in co-parenting situations. You can’t control others, but you can control your response. So, here are a few tips to stay grounded during emotional moments: - **Communicate boundaries**. Speak gently but firmly if someone oversteps. - **Focus on what’s joyful**. Redirect conversations to your kids’ favourite treats or your family unit’s happy updates. - **Spend the day your way.** Whether it’s with relatives or at home watching Santa, choose peace over pressure. Even if the energy around you feels unsettled, your calm presence will set the tone. You’re building a family life defined by love and confidence, and that’s something to be proud of. ## Self-Care Strategies for the Holiday Season Between wrapping presents and the holiday hustle, it’s easy to forget the mum who makes it all happen. That’s why it’s important to take small, intentional steps to nurture yourself. It helps you move through the holidays with calm, confidence, and clarity. So, here are a few, gentle ways to refill your cup this season: - **Schedule rest daily**. Even ten quiet minutes can refresh your energy. - **Try mindfulness**. Light a candle, sip hot chocolate, and breathe. - **Keep routines steady**. Consistency brings calm during the holiday rush. - **Enjoy cosy comforts**. Read, stretch, or watch your favourite movie on Christmas Eve with your favourite treats. - **Rediscover body confidence**. For mums ready to rediscover their sensual side, [Lovehoney](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/dildos/non-realistic-dildos/p/lovehoney-curved-silicone-suction-cup-dildo-5.5-inch/a34638g62632.html?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_content=&utm_campaign=59558&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=fb41d6663f1044a696c2aed8a93175cb "Lovehoney") offers empowering options that celebrate pleasure and confidence. This season, let calm replace chaos and show your children that love includes caring for yourself, too. ## Christmas Without a Father Figure: Celebrating Christmas with Confidence and Joy There’s no single way to “get Christmas right.” What matters most is the laughter you share, the small rituals you create, and the calm you find within the chaos. Christmas without a father figure can still be magical because its magic isn’t built on structure, but on love, connection, and the memories you shape together. Let this guide remind you that Christmas Day doesn’t have to look a certain way. Celebrate in a way that fits your family unit. It can be anything, whether it’s a walk under the Christmas lights, unwrapping gifts by the tree, or enjoying time together in pyjamas. And remember, you’re part of a community of strong, resourceful mums who understand exactly where you’re coming from. You’re not doing Christmas “alone”; you’re doing it your way, and that’s something to celebrate. And suppose a little “after lights-out” self-care helps your heart exhale. 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But there are ways to get travel deals so you can create memories without draining your wallet. I am a single mum on one income, and the minute the borders opened, we were on the move again. Since then, we’ve been on two holidays, seven flights, and two short getaways. If you’re a single mum planning a cheap family holiday without compromising on the fun, this guide is just for you. In this blog post, I came up with ideas and practical tips to keep your holiday budget-friendly, fun for the kids, and stress-free. Let’s explore how to make every dollar count so you can enjoy a fantastic family trip without financial stress. ## **Top tips on booking a cheap family holiday** ## **1. Set a realistic holiday budget** To kick off a budget-friendly holiday with your family, set a realistic budget. Decide how much you’re comfortable spending on accommodation, food, and travel. A clear holiday budget gives you a framework to keep costs in check, ensuring you can have a meaningful family bonding without worrying about finances. Also, take time to save for extra expenses such as souvenirs and pocket money. Doing so leads to a stress-free holiday where you’re able to relax, knowing you’re within your budget limits. ## **2. Book early for the best deals** Get dates that are at least 3 weekends away (or more!). Travel agents often recommend securing deals far in advance, especially during peak holiday seasons. By [booking flights and accommodations](https://www.traveloka.com/en-au/hotel "booking flights and accommodations") early, you get access to great deals, avoiding unannounced price hikes. Not only is this one of our favourite travel budget tips, but it also gives us peace of mind knowing everything is locked in. ![cheap family holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/A4ab6a27-a1b5-44d9-9e87-66f16d7c7ae8-1066x800.jpg "A4ab6a27-a1b5-44d9-9e87-66f16d7c7ae8 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Consider a staycation or closer-to-home holiday destinations** Who says your family’s travel location has to be far and wide? Sometimes, the best way to save is to explore destinations closer to home. Staycations or nearby spots can offer great holiday experiences without the hefty airfares or long travel times. Plus, sightseeing in the local area means you get a change of scenery without the stress and cost of big trips. You might be pleasantly surprised by the local attractions and family-friendly activities within Australia! ## **4. Look for family rooms and self-catering options** Self-catering accommodations can be a lifesaver for single mums travelling with kids. They help keep the holiday budget in check by reducing dining-out costs. Plus, everyone’s together, so it’s easier to spend quality time. Airbnb is also a good idea, with options like a cabin often come with kitchen facilities, which can be a great way to save money. You can also do a house swap. You stay in someone’s house, and they stay in yours. Not only does it save you money but you will have most of your home comforts at your fingertips when you arrive. My cousin has been house-swapping for years and can’t sing its praises enough. She says it is essential to use a well-known house swap website because they vet everyone, meaning the people who stay in your home will look after it. I believe she uses [Aussie House Swap](https://www.aussiehouseswap.com.au/?tap_a=11812-cb2a64&tap_s=3155364-faa687) but there are other options available. Always compare and check reviews. There are many great [benefits to house swapping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/), financials, and so much more. ## **5. Hunt for discounts and last-minute deals** Keep an eye on discount sites or enquire directly with the hotel for any last-minute offers. Holiday parks often have family packages, and some offer fantastic deals if you’re flexible with dates. Just be sure to check the cancellation policies for flexibility. With some research, you can find promos that benefit the family budget. According to [Skyscanner, ](https://www.skyscanner.net/travel-trends/best-value)here are the destinations with the biggest airfare price drop recently: - Sarajevo, Bosnia - Okinawa, Japan - Tirana, Albania - Sapporo, Japan - Marrakech, Morocco - Belgrade, Serbia - Gothenburg, Sweden - Prague, Czech Republic - Halifax, Canada - Jakarta, Indonesia ## **How to go on a family budget holiday (cont.)** ## **6. Plan day trips and free activities to keep the kids busy** For a fun family holiday without a big price tag, mix in some free or low-cost activities. Think of day trips, picnics, exploring the great outdoors, or visiting a playground. National parks, beaches, or even a nearby holiday park with a jumping pillow or playground can be exciting for small children. By including activities that don’t cost an arm and a leg, you can keep the kids entertained while keeping costs down. ## **7. Consider renting in caravan parks for budget-friendly accommodations** Instead of making a hotel booking, caravan parks are a top pick for affordable family holidays. Many parks offer cabins, and some even have facilities like an outdoor movie theatre, bike tracks, or a flying fox, adding extra fun for kids. Caravan or camping sites are also usually cheaper than hotels, perfect for families looking for a comfortable but great value choice. Western Australia has some great parks with stunning natural landscapes, perfect for families wanting to explore. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/C2ecdb09-2ca8-40bb-a200-123c0b529544-1-1-1066x800.jpg "C2ecdb09-2ca8-40bb-a200-123c0b529544 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **8. Take advantage of package deals and shop around for airfares** One of the most effective tips for saving money when planning a family holiday is to take advantage of package deals. Some travel agencies offer deals that bundle flights and accommodations, which are often cheaper than purchasing everything separately. You can also try contacting hotels directly to compare prices. It doesn’t hurt to be sure. And don’t forget to shop around, use comparison sites to find airlines with the best deals or consider flying mid-week when flights are usually cheaper. A great way to spend less on your family vacation is by being flexible with your travel dates. Use a holiday deal site that is well-known and reputable because if something goes wrong with travel (and this happens A LOT post-COVID), they are your point of contact. - [Cudo](https://cudo.com.au/au/hotels) - [Last Minute](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1100lqXAW) - [Expedia](https://prf.hn/click/camref:1011lr2iU) - [Booking.com](https://www.booking.com/index.en-gb.html) Avoid purchasing from little-known sites as they often have low reviews due to terrible customer service. ## **9. Get your family vacation off the beaten tracks** Local attractions, especially those off the beaten track, can add charm to a family holiday without the usual touristy costs. You can explore wildlife encounters, natural landscapes, or even local watersports. Many small destinations have unique spots that are either free or offer fantastic value, so you get memorable experiences without the heavy price tag. These lesser-known gems make for a unique holiday experience that the kids will remember. ## **10. Get affordable travel insurance** It can be tempting to skip travel insurance and the associated costs, but I beg you not to, especially if you are travelling overseas. The peace of mind it offers is worth every dollar, knowing you’re covered in case of unexpected events. From medical emergencies to lost luggage, insurance ensures a stress-free holiday. I trust [Covermore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/11003?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.covermore.com.au%2f) for all of our trips. Their policies are excellent and have been reliable over the years. ## **Bonus pro tip #1: How to save for your holiday spending** It will also be smart to use a high-interest savings account to grow holiday funds. You can have money automatically transferred each week. It’s a simple way to grow your holiday fund without much effort. Whether you’re aiming for a beach holiday or a trip to a family-friendly destination, a small amount saved regularly can add up and help cover holiday spending. ![cheap family holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/6517411f-1c83-413d-bf0e-aa47a0bd3e92-1066x800.jpg "6517411f-1c83-413d-bf0e-aa47a0bd3e92 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Bonus pro tip #2: Check out the discount sites** Another way to bag an affordable family trip is to check out [Scoopon](https://scoopon.com.au/au/hotels). I’ve made some mammoth hotel savings, which reduced the overall price of our holiday. One year, when the budget was particularly tight, I was planning a drive/stay holiday to avoid flight costs, but I found such a good interstate accommodation deal on Scoopon that I was able to afford flights. This shows that hunting around can not only save you money but can change the course of your holiday and allow you to travel further and possibly for longer. Scoopon also has brilliant restaurant deals, so you can splash out without splashing out on some nice dinners while you’re away. ## **Related posts for a smoother vacation with your little ones:** - [Where to find holiday deals online](Where+to+find+holiday+deals+online+(with+ways+to+save)) - [Co-parenting travel guidelines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/) ## **Final words: A family holiday on a budget** Taking a family holiday doesn’t have to mean stretching the budget to breaking point. With my tips above, you can create memorable experiences together as a family without breaking the bank. Personally, I’ve found that car hires and house swaps are a lifesaver for quality time with my kids. We all get a change of scenery, and they get to let loose in nature without the constant “don’t touch that!” reminders! So go on traveller mum, grab those travel brochures, make a plan, and look forward to an unforgettable family holiday, all on a budget! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/cheap-family-holiday/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/cheap-family-holiday/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holiday, travel, flights, hotel, house swap, accommodation --- ### [Oven Repair Guide for Single Mums: Fix It Without the Stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/oven-repair-guide/) **Published:** October 30, 2025 **Author:** Darlene Aberin **Excerpt:** Oven repair becomes urgent when you're a single mum juggling meals and budgets. This honest guide covers basic troubleshooting, deciding between repair and replacement, finding trustworthy repair services, and managing your kitchen while waiting for fixes. **Content:** That moment when you open the oven and nothing’s even warm? Meanwhile, the kids are driving you crazy asking about dinner. You’ve spent the grocery money already. And now this. Yeah. We’ve all been there. Here’s the thing about being a single mum. When the oven breaks, we can’t just wave it off and order Uber Eats for a week. We’re watching every dollar. We’ve got meal plans. We’re trying to get veggies into our kids without them staging a revolt. A dead oven doesn’t just mess up dinner. It messes up everything. So let’s sort this out together. No stress. No confusing technical stuff. Just real talk about what to do when your oven decides to quit on you and you need oven repair. ## **Before You Freak Out, Check These Things** Before you call a repairer or cry in the pantry, check the simple stuff — your “broken” oven might just need a quick fix. First, is it actually plugged in? Sounds silly, but it happens all the time — a kid bumped it, you moved it to clean, the dog’s tail hit the cord. Make sure the plug’s in and the switch is on. Check the switchboard too — a tripped circuit breaker could be the culprit. Got gas? Make sure it’s flowing. If your cooktop’s out too, it’s a gas supply issue, not the oven. And don’t forget oven settings — modern ones have heaps. My kid once put ours in “Sabbath mode,” and I nearly lost it trying to figure out why nothing worked. ## **Right, So It’s Actually Broken** Alright, let’s sort this out. If your oven won’t heat at all, the element’s probably gone — they just wear out over time. Luckily, it’s one of the easier and cheaper fixes. If your cooking’s all over the place — burnt on top, raw in the middle, or taking forever — the thermostat’s likely shot. That’s the bit that tells your oven when to stop heating. When it’s buggered, your oven just does its own thing. Check the door too. A cracked or worn rubber seal lets heat escape, so you’re basically cooking with the door open — wastes power and ruins your food. And if you’ve got a fan-forced oven but no whirring sound? The fan’s probably carked it. Things will cook unevenly and take ages, but it’s fixable. ## **Repair It or Bin It?** When you’re broke, it’s a tough call. If repairs cost more than half the price of a new oven, it’s probably not worth it. Under five years old? Fix it — it’s still got life left. Five to ten years? Get a quote and compare prices. Over ten years? Parts are harder to find, and old ovens chew through power, so a new one might save you in the long run. But if a new oven’s not in the budget right now, that’s okay. Fix what you’ve got — a working oven’s a win, no shame in that. ![oven repair](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-jep-gambardella-6223937-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jep-gambardella-6223937 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Finding Someone Who Won’t Rip You Off** This bit makes me nervous. You don’t want to get taken advantage of just because you don’t know much about ovens. Try to get two quotes if you can. Prices are all over the place. Some charge call-out fees, some don’t. Many oven repair services offer same-day service across the metros in Melbourne, Sydney, Brisbane, Adelaide, Perth and Canberra. Other mums say the good ones are decent and won’t try to rip you off. Make sure whoever you call is actually licensed and insured. This stuff matters. You want someone who’ll stand behind their work. Good tradespeople, whether they’re fixing ovens, plumbing, or[ heating system repairs](https://www.varcoe.co.nz/), should have proper credentials. Stalk them online first. Google reviews. Facebook groups. Other mums in your area. You’ll get the real story pretty quick. And when they give you a quote, ask questions. What’s actually wrong? What are they replacing? How long will it keep working after you fix it? Ask whatever you need to. It’s your hard-earned cash. ## **Surviving Without an Oven** ![Oven Repair Guide for Single Mums: Fix It Without the Stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-shvets-production-8900081-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shvets-production-8900081 - Beanstalk Mums") While you’re waiting for an oven repair (or saving up), you’ve still got to feed everyone — here’s what’s kept me going. Your stovetop becomes your new best mate: one-pot dinners, stir-fries, pasta — you can cook more than you think. A good frying pan with a lid helps heaps. Slow cookers are actual magic. Toss everything in before school drop-off and come home to dinner done. For about thirty bucks from Kmart, you can make roasts, curries, bolognese — anything you’d usually oven-cook. Air fryers aren’t just hype, either. They’re mini ovens that nail schnitzels, fish fingers and oven chips — not your Sunday roast, but close. And don’t forget the BBQ. Even a cheap portable one from Bunnings expands what you can cook — not just snags, but full meals. There’s always a way to keep everyone fed without the oven. ## **Stop It from Happening Again** Once you’ve got your oven back and running after[ appliance repair](https://www.nationalappliancerepairs.com.au/), look after the thing. Give it a clean regularly. I know. I hate cleaning it too. But all that burnt on crud makes the elements work harder. They die faster. Stop slamming the door. Tell the kids, too: gentle closes. It makes a difference in how long the seals and hinges last. Baking paper and trays help heaps. They stop the bottom from getting wrecked by spills and burnt messes. Less scrubbing. Less damage. Run your hand around the door seal every couple of months. Check for cracks. Catching it early saves money. ## **You’ve Got This** A broken oven when you’re juggling everything else is rough. But it’s just one more thing. You’ve dealt with worse. Get some quotes. Make a decision that works for your budget. Sort it out. Your kids will eat two-minute noodles for a week if they have to. They’ll live. You’ll get back to proper cooking soon enough. And if you need to grab Maccas or a $5 pizza while you sort this out? Do it. No [mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/) allowed. Sometimes we just survive however we can. That’s not failing. That’s getting through it. And you’re bloody good at that. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/oven-repair-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/oven-repair-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Christmas Shopping and Planning Made Easy for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-shopping-and-planning/) **Published:** October 29, 2025 **Author:** Megan Opena **Content:** Christmas can be a beautiful mix of magic and mayhem, especially for single mums juggling work, kids, and festive expectations. Between stretched budgets, decorations to hang, and endless to-do lists, the season can quickly shift from joyful to overwhelming. But with thoughtful Christmas shopping and planning, you can bring back calm, connection, and confidence and even make the process enjoyable. From writing simple shopping lists to setting a budget and realistic timelines, small steps can transform the chaos into control. Choosing curated, conscious Christmas gifts from trusted brands like Gourmet Basket, Bright Star Kids, and Biome Eco Stores also helps you shop early, save cash, and still spread the magic without financial stress. And remember, planning isn’t about perfection. With intention and care, your holiday season can feel lighter, more joyful, and truly your own. ## Christmas Shopping and Planning Tips for Single Mums When it comes to creating a stress-free Christmas, organisation is your superpower. Start buying and get ahead several weeks before the rush; you’ll save time, money, and sanity. Thoughtful Christmas planning isn’t about doing more but about doing what matters most and letting the rest go. So, here are some simple, practical tips to make it happen: - **Shop early to save money and avoid panic buying**. Keep an eye out for Black Friday sales and pre-Christmas discounts to make your budget stretch further. - **Prioritise gifts and essentials based on needs and budget**. Focus on what brings real value, such as a heartfelt present, a shared experience, or something useful for your little ones. - **Include your children in the planning**. Let them help make lists, wrap gifts in reusable wrapping paper, or choose decorations. After all, these are a great way to make them feel part of the magic. - **Shop smarter with trusted brands**. Explore [Gourmet Basket for thoughtful and affordable hampers](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/?cfclick=238326c4f4024814bc31984cd464cae2 "Gourmet Basket for thoughtful and affordable hampers") for friends and family to stay organised and give meaningfully. - **Set boundaries for spending and scheduling**. You don’t need to overspend or attend every event because your peace of mind matters most. - **Keep a running list or digital planner**. It helps track buying, deliveries, and budgets, ensuring nothing sneaks up on you. ## Creating a Stress-Free Holiday Shopping List One of the best ways to feel in control during the holiday rush is to organise everything in one place. A clear list saves money, time, and energy. When it comes to Christmas shopping and planning, structure is the key to calm. So, here’s how to create a stress-free list that works: - **Categorise by priority and budget**. List gifts, food, decorations, and Christmas cards by importance so you know where your cash matters most. - **Include local stores and online options**. Support small Australian shops while taking advantage of convenient delivery services. - **Add eco-friendly and practical products**. Check out [Biome for reusable essentials like bento boxes](https://www.biome.com.au/collections/lunch-boxes?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=dcd61ba3a67d442799792611071b94fd "Biome for reusable essentials like bento boxes"), insulated jars, and sustainable gift bags. - **Use [apps or spreadsheets to track purchases](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/ "apps or spreadsheets to track purchases")**. This helps you stay on top of your buying and prevent last-minute rushes. ![christmas shopping and planning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Christmas-shopping-and-planning-1.jpg "Christmas shopping and planning 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Christmas Gift Shopping: Budget-Friendly Gift Ideas for the Family You don’t have to spend big to make Christmas memorable. After all, the most meaningful presents are the ones that show love and care. Smart Christmas gift shopping is about connection, not cost. So, here are some budget-friendly ideas you can try: - **DIY and handmade gifts**. Create something personal, such as homemade cookies, a photo ornament, or a hand-painted mug. Simple, creative, and heartfelt. - **Shop second-hand or support local small businesses**. You’ll find unique items that fit your budget and support your community. - **Give the gift of experience**. Plan a movie night, picnic, or holiday voucher because experiences are a great way to make memories that last every year. - **Explore thoughtful, personalised options**. [Bright Star Kids offers fun, customisable gifts](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/personalised-gifts/gifts-for-kids?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cfclick=ea613421061a43c7a5deaf8971d770f6 "Bright Star Kids offers fun, customisable gifts") that will delight children and make Christmas shopping easy and affordable. ## Tips for Online Christmas Shopping and Planning Online shopping can be a lifesaver: no crowds, no queues, no rushing with tired children’s trolleys. Online Christmas planning means comparing deals, using wishlists, and ordering early to ensure everything arrives on time. Here’s how to make online shopping work for you: - **Use wishlists and saved carts**. Keep your cart organised to avoid impulse buying and stick to your budget. - **Compare prices and look for discounts early**. Many Aussie stores run great sales leading up to Christmas, so take advantage of them. - **Read reviews and product details carefully**. Check practicality, quality, and delivery times before purchasing. - **Order early to avoid last-minute delays**. Getting organised now means you can relax later. - **Try a curated option**. [Gourmet Basket’s Christmas Wishes Hamper](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/shop/christmas-gift-hampers/christmas-wishes-hamper-2/?cfclick=08e69b4da08e433c8e5fbd522d4e47b0 "Gourmet Basket’s Christmas Wishes Hamper") features a ready-made, beautifully curated gift basket under $60. Such items can make Christmas gift shopping effortless with reliable delivery. ## Time-Saving Strategies for Holiday Preparations Between cooking, decorating, and wrapping, Christmas can feel never-ending. But smart Christmas shopping and planning can help you reclaim your time and make space for joy. So, here are a few time-saving ideas for you: - **Schedule shopping, wrapping, and [meal prep in advance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/meal-planning-apps/ "meal prep in advance")**. Planning your week helps you stay in control and get ready calmly. - **Use online shopping for convenience**. From cute toys to [personalised bags at Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/kindy-backpack.html?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cfclick=ab2b1887071f4104a7472011e05c3d31 "personalised bags at Bright Star Kids"), you can shop quickly, save time, and get thoughtful gifts delivered to your door. - **Batch tasks**. Wrap all presents one evening, cook ahead, and prep ingredients. This is a simple strategy that saves days of rushing. - **Delegate to family or friends**. Ask a family member to help or bring a plate because teamwork makes the holidays easier. Remember: planning ahead means more family time. Every little bit of preparation frees up precious moments for laughter and togetherness. ## Organising Holiday Meals and Festivities Entertaining as a single mum doesn’t have to cause financial stress or fatigue. With good Christmas planning, you can host meals that feel relaxed and joyful. But, there are a few ways to make hosting easy, such as: - **Plan simple menus ahead of time**. A great way to keep things stress-free is to stick to easy menus, such as one-pot dishes or platters. - **Batch-cook or prep in advance**. Prepare what you can several weeks out so you can stay relaxed on the day. - **Ask guests to bring a plate**. It saves effort and helps everyone feel included. - **Involve your children or family members**. Little hands can stir, decorate, or set the table—even Santa would approve! ## Managing Holiday Expectations and Family Traditions The festive period can bring both joy and pressure. Co-parenting schedules, emotions, and expectations can be tricky, but mindful Christmas planning helps keep things balanced. Try these gentle approaches: - **Focus on meaningful experiences over perfection**. Shared laughter beats a perfect photo on any date. - **Communicate openly with family about plans and limits**. Clear communication prevents stress and helps everyone stay aligned. - **Create new traditions with your kids**. Watching a Christmas movie or [baking together using organic ingredients from Biome](https://www.biome.com.au/collections/organic-food-pantry-staples?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=6134dbbe33e64785b07fdef99a833091 "baking together using organic ingredients from Biome") is a great way to connect. Lastly, make sure to balance time respectfully. Prioritise what feels right for you and your children, and let go of the rest. ![christmas shopping and planning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Christmas-shopping-and-planning-2.jpg "Christmas shopping and planning 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Christmas Shopping and Planning: Fun and Meaningful DIY Christmas Gifts Handmade gifts have heart because they turn creativity into connection. When Christmas shopping feels heavy, slow down and make something personal. So, here are some inspiring homemade creations you can try: - **Photo ornaments, baked treats, or hand-painted cards**. These simple projects are fun for the little ones and perfect for friends and family. - **Upcycled gifts with an eco-friendly focus**. Repurpose jars, fabric, or paper for sustainable wrapping and Christmas decorations. - **Focus on thoughtful touches over perfection**. After all, a small effort filled with love is truly valuable. - **Try unique, DIY kits from eco stores**. [Biome offers DIY skincare essential ingredients](https://www.biome.com.au/products/beeswax-pellets-in-glass-jar-50g?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=4dc45d344a764e279302293b520c6a8a "Biome offers DIY skincare essential ingredients"), such as beeswax pellets, jojoba oil, and shea butter. You can make a kit and gift it to loved ones so they can craft something special at home. ## Balancing Work, Kids, and Holiday Planning If you’re feeling stretched between work deadlines, school events, and festive to-do lists, you’re not alone. Many single mums feel this end-of-year pull in all directions. But the key here is a gentle structure and a realistic Christmas shopping and planning that fits around real life, not the other way around. So, here are some tips on how to lighten the load: - **Use shared calendars and task lists**. It helps everyone stay on track. - **Prioritise must-dos and delegate non-essentials**. Let your kids help wrap gifts or decorate, and make it a bonding experience. - **Lean on time-saving treats**. [Gourmet Basket offers ready-made Christmas hampers](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/occasion/christmas-gift-hampers/?cfclick=19f2256dc7f34a46a4b4c83fe1245eb0 "Gourmet Basket offers ready-made Christmas hampers") that help you save time and avoid the rush. - **Take “me time” breaks**. Rest, reward yourself, and breathe — even five minutes matters. Always remember that you don’t have to do it all. Just stick to what feels right for your family and finances. ## Avoiding Last-Minute Holiday Stress Preventing last-minute panic starts with preparation. A little Christmas planning each week keeps things simple and calm. Organise your schedule, shop early, and finish wrapping ahead of time. But more importantly, focus on being present because that’s the real reward of a joyful, festive home. ## Christmas Shopping and Planning: Finding Joy and Balance This Christmas At the heart of Christmas is connection, not perfection. Mindful Christmas shopping and planning isn’t just about ticking boxes but about creating space for love, laughter, and peace. Whether you’re choosing [sustainable finds from Biome Eco Stores](https://www.biome.com.au/products/eco-art-and-craft-eco-slime-kit?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=59558&utm_content=&utm_campaign=Biome+Eco+Stores&cfclick=32fb5bf4e11e43758033264de6ba4f31 "sustainable finds from Biome Eco Stores"), buying [unique, personalised items from Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/large-metal-drink-bottles.html?utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cfclick=ee5294f349c2461584621aaf3d999913 "unique, personalised items from Bright Star Kids"), or leaning on [Gourmet Basket’s ready-made, luscious Christmas treats](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/shop/christmas-gift-hampers/happy-christmas-hamper-3/?cfclick=a4878416aeb643aaa2759711ef7d93df "Gourmet Basket's ready-made, luscious Christmas treats"), every intentional choice helps you organise, save time, and bring meaning to the holiday. This year, get ready to slow down, let go of pressure, and celebrate your way. You’ve done enough, you are enough, and the moments you share — no matter how small — are the most memorable gifts of all. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-shopping-and-planning/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-shopping-and-planning/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, christmas shopping and planning, christmas shopping, christmas planning --- ### [17 Online grocery shopping tips to save money and time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/online-grocery-shopping-tips/) **Published:** August 29, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Around three years ago, after a particularly stressful trip to the supermarket with my children, I decided enough was enough and turned to online grocery shopping. I am now one of those people who bores others with how much time and money it saves me every single week. And now it’s your turn! ***Further reading: [Woolworths or Coles: Which is better for online shopping?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/woolworths-coles-online-shopping/)*** ## 17 Online Grocery Shopping Tips to Save Money and Time ## Practice makes perfect Like everything new, especially something we are accustomed to doing a certain way such as grocery shopping, you need time to adjust. You will likely try online shopping once and feel out of your comfort zone. But. Don’t. Give. Up. You will make mistakes and end up with some wrong items but learn from them and get it right next time. Soon you will have it down to a fine art, saving time and money on every shop. ## If something goes wrong One of the best online grocery shopping tips is to accept that you will make mistakes when you order, but they can be easily rectified. I once ordered two massive bags of juicing oranges, instead of just two oranges. The delivery driver was laughing before I opened the door, saying ‘did you mean to order these?’. They’ve seen it all before. He just took them back for me and a credit was added to my account. Lesson learnt for next time. ## Not happy with your fruit or veg? Probably the biggest thing that puts people off online grocery shopping, is not being able to pick your own fruit and veg. Firstly, I would say ‘let it go’. Do you really need to waste time fondling every apple in the store to get the perfect one? Instead, choose fruit and veg which is in season and therefore on sale. You know it will be ripe and delicious, plus it’s cheaper. If you do get some bruised bananas in your delivery, phone or email to tell them. It takes a minute and you will be refunded the amount on the next order. Even a bruised banana tastes yummy if it cost you nothing. ## Use filter and search functions My favourite feature with these online grocery shopping sites are the filter and search functions. Definitely a life and time saver, as I don’t have to manually go through pages after pages of products as I would through aisles after aisles when shopping in physical grocery stores. In a few simple taps, the website will show you what you are looking for. In just a few clicks, you can limit the results to what you exactly need at any time. Local brands? Check. Organic and natural? Check. Within your budget? Check. ## Lowest unit price One of the very best online grocery shopping tips is setting-up your online search correctly. You can choose from a number of options to display your search items. If you are looking to save money, always set your search to ‘sort by lowest unit price’. This way you will get a brilliantly clear picture of the best value items, through to the most expensive. No more checking different shelves and different parts of the store and guessing value by vision. You will always get the best value with everything you buy. ## Unleash Savings Galore with iPrice Australia! Discover a [savings paradise](https://iprice.au/) where you can score promo codes, vouchers and coupons for Australia’s top electronics, fashion, food delivery, health & beauty, and travel sites. Say goodbye to full-price worries and hello to your shopping & travel dreams funded by your savings. ## Groceries free delivery Depending on whether you use [Woolworths](https://woolworths-supermarkets.sjv.io/3MYBv) or [Coles](https://www.coles.com.au/), the cost of delivery is different. I use Coles because I like a set price for delivery, which currently is $8. With Woolworths the price depends on the cost of the order. Both supermarkets offer free delivery on your first order, and often waives the delivery fee if your shop is over a certain amount. To reach this amount chuck in some cleaning products or non-perishables. ## Online Grocery Shopping Tips to Save Time and Money (Cont.) ## Not in stock We’ve all had it when a particular item we need is not in stock. Annoyingly, we usually end up buying a more expensive brand that is in stock. Not so with online grocery shopping. If an item you have ordered is not available, they will replace it with the closest match at the same price. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve ended up with brand products and larger quantities to replace the cheapest available products I had ordered. ## Click & Collect The other alternative to paying for delivery is to do [Click & Collect](https://www.coles.com.au/) (Coles) or [Pickup](https://woolworths-supermarkets.sjv.io/L19Nj) (Woolworths). For this option, you order everything online, it is picked and packed for you and you collect it ready-to-go from your chosen location. The best thing about this is that it is completely free. Plus, both supermarkets are trying to encourage it so offer regular discounts on shopping if you chose this option. ## Check quantities and sizes Picture yourself dashing through the grocery store, quickly grabbing what you believe you need, and making a beeline for the checkout line. However, the online shopping experience offers a different advantage. You hold the ability to thoroughly inspect every addition to your virtual cart. It’s the same as having a friend whispering, “Do you truly need that much?” This grants you the opportunity to reevaluate quantities and dimensions prior to clicking that “buy” button. Sure, we can’t physically hold the products, but that’s where careful consideration comes in. Some online stores even give you the option to view products from different angles or provide detailed descriptions. Plus, they usually have reminders that help you review your order before you finalise it. You won’t believe how many times those reminders saved me from overloading on items! ## Sucker for sales I love a good sale and there is no better way to make the most of them than by grocery shopping online. You can view all half-price sale items in one go, as well as searching sale items only. No more massive sales displays confronting you the moment you walk in the store and checking the end of every aisle for specials. Simply browse through current sales items in a few minutes and tick what you’d like. You’ll never miss a bargain again. ## Stick to budget If you need to [save money on your grocery shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/save-money-groceries/) then online is definitely the way to go. My weekly budget is $100. I can never remember an in-store grocery shop coming in at under this. Short of calculating the prices of everything as you go, or taking stuff out of your shopping bags at the checkout, you have no way of knowing what you are going to spend. When grocery shopping online you can view the cost of goods in your trolley at any time and remove or replace items to make sure you will come in under budget. Just think if you can save just $20 a week, that is over $1000 a year. ## How To Do Online Grocery Shopping (Cont.) ## Bought before feature To make life even easier, online grocery shopping websites will note all the items you bought online previously. This is the biggest time saver of them all. You can use this in two ways. Say you search for milk and it brings up 20 types, then a little ‘BB’ will appear by the ones you have bought before, so you know to get the same again. Alternatively, you can quickly glide through a list of your ‘bought before’ items at the end of your shop to check you haven’t forgotten any of your usual staples. ## Be prepared for some change Remember, this is an entirely different way of doing a task that you do every single week. You will have to make small changes to allow it to happen. But change is often good. My early morning deliveries don’t allow for fresh bread rolls, so I get more at other times and freeze them. My frozen pastry can break on delivery, so I make my own and wonder why I hadn’t done it earlier .. it’s delicious. One of my most important online grocery tips is to prepare for some change. ## Review your order before checkout I completely understand the frustration of having to double-check your physical cart before reaching the checkout counter, especially when the line is growing longer. Often, I’d come across items in my basket that I had accidentally taken too many of, or I’d realise I’d forgotten something crucial. The problem is, it’s tough to dash back to the aisle when other shoppers are waiting in line. The beauty with online grocery shopping is that you can finalise your purchase whenever your cart looks good to go. This means you get the chance to thoroughly review all the products you’ve selected before taking that final step. It’s like having a personal review session for your cart before you hit that checkout button. ## You can shop quickly… anywhere As a veteran online grocery shopper, I can place a weekly order in between 10 – 15 minutes. Brag, brag. Looking back at the effort of going to a store, filling a trolley, unpacking, packing, loading the car and unpacking the car now seems ridiculous. I only now touch my shop once it is carefully placed on my kitchen work surface by a friendly delivery person. Best of all you can place an order on your phone or computer anywhere. I once placed an order in Hong Kong to arrive the day we returned home from holiday. Simplifying life has never been more fun. ## Become a regular and get free samples Every now and then, my grocery delivery comes with a surprise or two. At first, I think I have someone else’s order and then, to my delight, realise I have some free gifts, yay. These may be hair products, biscuits, cereals, cleaning products … anything. I love receiving them and trying something outside my comfort zone. It’s a bit like Christmas … and yes, maybe I do need to get out more (but not to the supermarket). ## Final thoughts: Online grocery shopping tips to save money and time If, like me, you don’t have the patience for queues in the supermarket and would love to have more time for other fruitful endeavours, it’s time to try online grocery shopping. It yields the same result – getting your groceries done – in less time and even more savings. If I can do it, you can too! Not only do you save money from gas, but stores often offer better discounts and promotions when you get groceries online. You don’t have to manually check items to find the lowest price because the system does it for you. Alongside money, you save time. You can instantly see if an item is not in stock, so there’s no need to drag your cart to look for store attendants. Some stores even allow you to save your shopping cart for next time. Worried about the quality of the produce shopped online? Don’t fret! You can always phone the store for a return or an exchange. Better yet, go for in-season fruits and veg. You can be sure they’re fresh and cheaper. See? Online grocery shopping is not, and doesn’t have to be, intimidating. So, wave goodbye to the checkout hassle and join me in the world of stress-free shopping. 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But with so much available to buy at [online pharmacies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buy-vitamins-supplements-online-australia/), in health shops, and even in supermarkets, where do you start in your search for a quality product that does what it says on the label? A great place is right here! So, without further ado, let’s dive into the mysterious yet marvellous world of collagen powders. ## Collagen powders 101: What is collagen? Collagen is a type of protein that is one of the most abundant in the human body. It is often called the body’s scaffolding because it forms connective tissues in the skin, muscles, bones, tendons and ligaments. Collagen makes up around 80 per cent of the skin, and together with elastin, keeps the skin plump, elastic and wrinkle-free. But as we age, the body produces less collagen, and the enzyme collagenase eats away at the natural collagen. This natural process, along with exposure to the sun and pollutants, causes the skin to sag and become dry as we get older. ## Collagen powders 101: Different types of collagen Multiple types of collagen exist in the body. According to the [Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/), scientists have identified around 28 types of collagen. The five main types are: - Type I. The majority of collagen in the body is Type I. This dense type of collagen is used as support and scaffolding for our bones, ligaments and skin. - Type II. This type of collagen is part of cartilage and connective tissues in the body. Type II collagen contained in supplements usually comes from animal sources like cows and chickens. - Type III. Type III is found in the muscles and organs. - Type IV. Type IV is found in the skin layers. - Type V. Type V is found in skin, hair and cornea. ## What to look for when buying collagen powders When buying collagen powders, look for collagen peptides or hydrolysed collagen in the ingredients. Collagen peptides are shorter-chain amino acids that are more easily absorbed by the body than native collagen or gelatin. Choose animal collagen (marine, bovine or chicken) over plant collagen, unless you’re strictly vegan. Ethically sourced, sustainable collagen lowers the risk of getting toxins and harmful chemicals, so make sure to check the label carefully. We know how expensive collagen powders can be. To get the best value for your money, buy when there are store specials and look out for bulk discounts. ## Our top recommended collagen powders *Please note: Some collagen powders listed have paid for insertion in this article; however, reviews are independently written by Beanstalk.* ### Kissed Earth: Brilliance (Best value among collagen powders) Most collagen supplements only help the skin, nails, and hair. But Kissed Earth Brilliance also aids in reducing hormonal imbalance, repairing muscles, and improving joint health and bone density. (Back pain, mums, where you at? This is perfect for you!) That’s what makes it stand out from other brands. You can trust Kissed Earth Brilliance for its efficacy, as it comes from 100% pure bovine collagen of pasture-raised cows. It comes in 5 variants, but we love the Pineapple Coconut flavour. 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It has zero artificial colours, flavours, additives or preservatives. It’s also gluten-free, lactose-free, soy-free, and GMO-free, so it’s super safe to take even for those with allergies. Note that it tastes a bit ‘fishy’ when mixed with water, though. So you might want to mix it with juice or soup. But overall, we love The Beauty Shake Collagen for its price and health benefits. 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Vital Proteins is a collagen powder from bovine sources that gives you 20g of collagen per serving. It comes in plenty of flavours that you can mix and match to what you’re eating. The Dark Chocolate and Blackberry flavour was a surprisingly yummy combination! These collagen peptides come from grass-fed and pasture-raised cows. Unlike marine collagen, the unflavoured variant doesn’t have any aftertaste even when mixed with water alone. Vital Proteins collagen is an effective way to stay youthful without breaking the bank. 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Plus, the antioxidants and superfoods added to the formulation come from herbs, so your liver doesn’t have to take the hit. Happy Collagen is not only good for your skin, but it’s also great for your gut health. 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Collagen powder is similar to supplements but more convenient for people who like to mix it with soups, smoothies and diet shakes. You know how much you’re getting, and different flavours are available to spice up your drinks. Because the body breaks down collagen faster than it can be replaced, many people look to collagen supplements for an anti-ageing solution. Compared to collagen injections and topical cream applications, supplements containing collagen peptides (hydrolysed collagen) are more easily absorbed by the body because the amino acids are shorter. Collagen supplements have been linked mainly to reduced symptoms of arthritis and possibly to healthier skin and fewer wrinkles. But how much of the supplement is absorbed and whether it actually makes it to the target organs to build collagen is still questionable. Multiple studies have been done that show promise, linking supplements to improved skin elasticity and skin moisture. Keep in mind that these studies are small and preliminary, and many were funded by the manufacturers, so it’s hard to ignore the bias. Then again, there are no documented downsides to taking collagen peptides (as long as it’s the recommended dose), so the choice is up to you. ## How to store collagen powder It’s essential to keep your collagen in tip-top shape so you can enjoy its benefits. Here’s a quick guide: **1. Choose the Right Container:** Use an airtight container to prevent moisture and air from getting in. A glass or plastic container with a secure lid works great. **2. Keep It Dry:** Moisture is collagen’s enemy. Make sure your container is completely dry before filling it with collagen powder. **3. Store in a Cool Place:** Collagen prefers a cool, dark spot. Don’t expose it to direct sunlight or heat, as it can break down the protein. **4. Avoid Humidity:** High humidity can cause clumping in collagen powder. Keep it in a dry environment to maintain its quality. **5. Seal It Tight:** After every use, seal the container tightly. This helps prevent any air from sneaking in and affecting the collagen. **6. Label it:** If you have multiple supplements, label your collagen container to avoid mix-ups. **7. Don’t Freeze It:** Freezing collagen can alter its texture, so avoid the freezer. **8. Keep It Away from Odours:** Collagen can absorb odours easily, so don’t store it near strong-smelling items like spices or garlic. By following these simple steps, you’ll ensure that your collagen powder stays fresh and effective for your beauty and health routines. ## Collagen and ageing As we age, our bodies not only produce less collagen but also lower-quality collagen. Collagen breakdown is also faster for older adults than for teenagers or someone in their 20s. You may experience significantly reduced collagen production after menopause and after age 60. While you can’t test for collagen levels in the blood, you can check for signs of decreased collagen production in the body such as wrinkles, loose and crepey skin, deeper hollows in the eyes and cheeks, weakening muscle, muscle pain, stiff joints, and joint pain. Collagen makes up the lining of the gut and intestines, so you may also experience stomach problems as you age. In addition, older adults may experience partial or total loss of mobility due to damage in the joints because of low collagen. ## How to take collagen Eating collagen-rich foods won’t necessarily raise your collagen levels, as the body breaks down all the protein you ingest into amino acids and directs these to areas that need them most. ### As food The best way to boost collagen production is through a healthy diet. High-protein foods that are rich in collagen include the bones and skin of fresh and saltwater fish, poultry, tougher meat cuts, eggs, dairy, legumes, bone broth, and gelatin. You can make your own bone broth by simmering bones in water and vinegar for up to 24 hours. Nutrients like zinc, copper and vitamin C are required for collagen production, so make sure to add these to your diet as well. ### As supplements Collagen supplements have soared in popularity in the last decade. Taking collagen supplements may help boost your collagen production if you can’t get enough protein in your diet. Supplements may also contain additional nutrients to support joint and skin health, with leading [pharmaceutical manufacturers](https://www.lipa.com.au/) playing a key role in developing safe and effective formulations. ## Conclusion: Collagen powder to buy in Australia Whether you’re seeking to enhance your skin, joint health, or overall well-being, our collagen powder recommendations provide a range of options to choose from, catering to different preferences and dietary needs. As we age, collagen supplementation can potentially help improve skin elasticity and moisture. Some brands even aid in digestion and help maintain muscle mass. While research in this area is still evolving, trying these supplements could offer a convenient way to incorporate collagen into your daily routine. While doing so, it is essential to eat healthy and exercise regularly as well. In addition, storing your collagen powder properly is crucial to maintain its quality and efficacy. Choose an airtight container, keep it dry, store it in a cool place, avoid humidity, seal it tightly, label it, and keep it away from strong odours. Remember, moisture is collagen’s worst enemy. Following these simple guidelines will ensure that your collagen powder continues to support your beauty and health routines effectively. So, go ahead … choose the collagen powder that suits your needs, and enjoy the benefits of this stardust for a youthful appearance and overall well-being. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/11-best-collagen-powders-to-buy-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/11-best-collagen-powders-to-buy-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** beauty, supplements, anti aging, young --- ### [How to pass your rental property inspection with flying colours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Carolyn Parrella **Content:** Have you ever spent hours cleaning your home before a rental property inspection, only to be disappointed by negative feedback? If so, let that be the last time. Mums have enough to stress about in life. Your time is precious. There are many better things you could be doing than stressing about cleaning your rental property. Like being with your kids or enjoying some ‘me time’. Rental property inspections shouldn’t be a burden. Instead, they should be a stress-free part of your routine — a reminder of why working with a reliable [property management company](https://acceleratepropertygroup.com/ "property management company") makes such a difference when it comes to communication and care. Here’s my guide to surviving your rental property inspections. ## Review your lease agreement Reviewing your lease agreement is a crucial first step when preparing for a rental property inspection. Your lease is a legally binding contract that outlines the terms and conditions of your tenancy, including your rights and responsibilities as a tenant. Pay particular attention to clauses related to maintenance responsibilities, permitted uses of the property, and any specific requirements for upkeep and cleanliness. Knowing what the landlord expects will help you focus your efforts on areas that will be assessed during the inspection. Additionally, being well-informed about the lease terms empowers you to address any potential issues beforehand, avoiding any surprises during the inspection process. ## Be prepared for your property inspection Legislation differs from state to state, but generally, rental inspections are held once every three months. Your landlord must give you a minimum of seven days’ notice before completing a rental inspection. Consider making a note in your calendar as a reminder that you will be due to have a rental inspection soon, so that it doesn’t come as a surprise. Alternatively, you may like to take a proactive approach to your rental inspections, offering to schedule a full year of inspections in advance. This helps ensure you don’t have undue stress because of inspections organised at short notice. ## Make a list of property issues or safety concerns Rental property inspections are ideal for letting your landlord or property manager know about non-urgent maintenance problems. For example, leaking shower heads and bathroom taps or blocked air conditioning and water filters, are maintenance problems you are not responsible for fixing. The landlord or property manager will also assess the property’s structural integrity as part of the rental inspection. This includes: - Ensuring all doors and windows open, close and lock freely - Checking for cracks and deterioration in weatherboard, bricks and tiles - Looking under and around the home for dampness or wood rot - Monitoring for signs of termite damage and rust - Checking the hot water service and water supply for leaks, temperature and pressure ## Rent inspection cleaning checklist The property’s cleanliness during an inspection goes a long way to deciding whether or not the landlord or property manager will extend your lease. They want tenants who genuinely care for their property and do their best to keep it well-maintained. The best way to do this is with a [rent inspection cleaning checklist](https://www.rta.qld.gov.au/Renting/During-a-tenancy/Living-in-the-property/Routine-inspections). During an inspection, the landlord or property manager will check the general condition and cleanliness of carpets, walls, doors, floors, window furnishings, and the kitchen. To ensure everything is up to standard, you might consider hiring a [professional window cleaning company](https://www.platinumwindowcleaning.com.au/) to thoroughly clean the windows. Additionally, make sure you [remove any nasty stains](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-get-stains-out-without-using-chemicals/) on walls or floors. They will also check the cleanliness of wet areas and monitor for mould and potential water damage in the kitchen, laundry, ensuite and toilets. Maintaining a rental means both inside and outside, so any gardens must be looked after and kept healthy. Keep the lawns mowed and trees and plants pruned. Don’t forget to keep it watered, especially during the hot months. ## After the inspection If your landlord or property manager identifies issues with the property, such as poor cleanliness, they must provide you with a Notice to Remedy as soon as possible. You will be given 14 days’ notice to rectify the issue before further action is taken. Likewise, if you identify maintenance issues, it is your landlord or property manager’s responsibility to have them fixed in a timely manner. Leaky taps and squeaking floorboards are not considered urgent. However, broken windows and faulty appliances should be rectified immediately. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** rental property, rental property inspection, cleaning, renting a home --- ### [Choosing the Best Non-Surgical Face Lift: A Safety & Efficacy Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/best-non-surgical-face-lift/) **Published:** October 24, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the quest for a youthful glow without the downtime or risks associated with surgery, non-surgical face lifts have surged in popularity. You’re probably wondering, what’s the best option out there? There are so many treatments available, from laser therapies to cutting-edge ultrasound technology. Navigating the world of non-invasive rejuvenation can feel overwhelming. Fear not; as we delve into the realm of non-surgical face lifts. We’ll guide you through the top procedures that promise to lift, tighten, and refresh your skin with minimal fuss. Whether you’re looking to address fine lines, sagging skin. Or just seeking that elusive radiant boost, there’s a solution tailored just for you. Let’s explore the innovative treatments that stand out in the beauty industry, ensuring you make an informed decision in your pursuit of the fountain of youth. ## **Understanding Non-Surgical Face Lifts** Non-surgical face lifts offer a revolutionary approach to skin rejuvenation, providing effective solutions for those seeking a youthful appearance without undergoing invasive procedures. These treatments focus on enhancing skin quality, reducing fine lines, and lifting sagging skin with minimal to no downtime. Understanding the key technologies and methods behind these procedures is essential for selecting the best option tailored to your needs. ### **Key Technologies in Non-Surgical Face Lifts** - **Laser Therapy:** Uses concentrated light to penetrate the skin, stimulating collagen production and promoting cellular renewal. It effectively targets surface-level concerns like fine lines and pigmentation. - **Ultrasound Technology**: Employs sound waves to reach deeper skin layers, encouraging collagen production. This technology is ideal for lifting and tightening skin, particularly in areas like the neck and under the chin. - **Radiofrequency (RF)**: Delivers controlled heat to the skin, tightening existing collagen and stimulating new collagen growth. RF is effective for overall skin tightening and improving skin texture. - **Microneedling with RF**: Combines microneedling with radiofrequency energy to rejuvenate the skin profoundly. It’s particularly beneficial for reducing scars, wrinkles, and improving skin texture. - **Thread Lifts**: Involves inserting temporary, absorbable threads into the skin to lift and support sagging areas. The threads trigger collagen production, offering both immediate and progressive results. - **Dermal Fillers**: Hyaluronic acid-based fillers can volumise and contour the face, providing an immediate lifting effect. Fillers are versatile, used to enhance cheekbones, jawline, and under-eye area. ![Beanstalk Mums non surgical face lift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/1.jpg "Thread Lifts face lift - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Popular Non-Surgical Face Lift Techniques** Going deeper into the details of these procedures can help identify the ones that best suit your skin while providing safe and effective rejuvenation. The following techniques have garnered popularity due to their efficacy, minimal downtime, and compelling results. - **Ultrasound Therapy**: [**Ultrasound therapy, such as Ultherapy**](https://balabalalaserclinic.com/blog/what-is-ultherapy), uses focused ultrasound energy to target the deep layers of the skin. It stimulates collagen production, leading to firmer, tighter skin. The appeal lies in its ability to deliver noticeable results without recovery time. - **Radiofrequency (RF) Treatments**: RF treatments, like Thermage, apply controlled heat to remodel collagen and elastin in the skin. It’s versatile, working not just on the face but also on other areas of the body where skin may sag. Results develop over time, creating a smoother, more youthful complexion. - **Microneedling with RF**: This technique combines the benefits of microneedling and radiofrequency. It creates micro-injuries in the skin to trigger the body’s healing response, coupled with RF’s thermal effect to tighten the skin. It addresses texture, scarring, and laxity, making the skin appear rejuvenated and toned. - **Thread Lifts**: [Thread lifts](https://metrobeautycenters.com/thread-lift-in-bangkok/) involve inserting dissolvable threads under the skin to lift and reposition the tissue. They not only offer immediate lifting but also encourage collagen production, improving skin texture and elasticity. Ideal for those seeking a more defined facial contour without the permanence of surgery. - **Dermal Fillers**: Fillers made from hyaluronic acid or other biocompatible materials can restore volume and reduce the appearance of wrinkles instantly. By strategically placing fillers, practitioners can sculpt the face, enhancing natural features and restoring youthful volume. Consulting with a skincare professional allows you to navigate these options effectively, tailoring a treatment plan that aligns with your skin type, concerns, and aesthetic goals. Remember, what works for one person may not necessarily be the best fit for another, making professional guidance invaluable in your journey to a more youthful, radiant complexion. ## **Benefits of Non-Surgical Face Lifts** Non-surgical facelifts offer a myriad of advantages, crucial for anyone seeking rejuvenation without the commitment of traditional surgery. These benefits span across safety, efficacy, and cosmetic outcomes, but a skilled [face lift surgeon](https://drsydneychng.com.au/cosmetic-surgery/face-lift "face lift surgeon") can offer deeper insights into when surgical intervention may deliver more definitive results. **Minimal Downtime**: One of the most compelling reasons to opt for a non-surgical face lift is the minimal recovery time involved. Unlike surgical alternatives that can require weeks of healing, non-surgical procedures typically allow patients to resume daily activities almost immediately. **Reduced Risk**: Non-surgical methods come with a significantly lower risk of complications compared to their surgical counterparts. Issues like infection, scarring, and anaesthesia-related risks are markedly diminished, providing a safer path to aesthetic improvement. **Cost-Effectiveness**: Generally, non-surgical face lifts are more affordable than surgical ones. Without the need for anaesthesia, operating rooms, or extended hospital stays, costs are kept at bay, making these treatments accessible to a broader audience. **Customisability**: These treatments boast high levels of adaptability, catering to individual skin types, concerns, and aesthetic goals. Whether it’s targeting sagging skin, fine lines, or volume loss, non-surgical options can be tailored to meet specific needs, offering precise and personalised results. **Natural-Looking Results**: Non-surgical face lifts excel in providing outcomes that look and feel natural. Techniques like dermal fillers, thread lifts, and microneedling with RF enhance facial contours subtly, avoiding the “overdone” look that can sometimes result from traditional surgery. **Incremental Adjustments**: The opportunity for gradual improvement is a further advantage. Patients can opt for small enhancements over time, allowing for natural ageing and adjustments based on changing preferences or needs. In sum, non-surgical face lifts serve as an effective, safer, and more cost-conscious route to facial rejuvenation. Tailored treatments ensure personal concerns are addressed with minimal risk and downtime, making the pursuit of a youthful appearance an accessible goal for many. ## **Factors to Consider Before Choosing a Non-Surgical Face Lift** When deciding on a non-surgical face lift, it’s vital to consider several factors to ensure you select the most suitable treatment for your skin concerns and aesthetic goals. Understanding these factors helps tailor your choices to your specific needs, leading to more satisfying outcomes. ![Thread Lifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/2.jpg "Choosing the Best Non-Surgical Face Lift Beanstalk mums - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Skin Concerns and Desired Outcomes** Identify specific skin issues you wish to address, such as sagging skin, loss of volume, or fine lines and wrinkles. Different non-surgical face lifts target various concerns effectively, making it crucial to choose a procedure that aligns with your desired outcomes. ### **Treatment Options and Technology** Research available treatments, such as dermal fillers, thread lifts, or ultrasound therapies, to understand their mechanisms. Knowing the technology behind each option ensures you choose a method that’s compatible with your skin type and concerns. ### **Experience and Qualifications of the Practitioner** Selecting a skilled practitioner with experience is paramount. Their qualifications and expertise directly impact the success of your treatment as they tailor procedures to individual needs. ### **Recovery Time and Side Effects** Consider the downtime associated with each option. Non-surgical treatments typically offer minimal recovery time, but it varies between methods. Understand potential side effects to prepare accordingly and ensure minimal disruption to your daily activities. ### **Cost and Budget Considerations** Non-surgical face lifts are more cost-effective than surgical alternatives, yet prices vary widely between treatments. [Assess your budget ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/single-mum-budgeting/)and consider the cost-effectiveness of each option, keeping in mind that quality and safety should never be compromised for lower prices. By carefully evaluating these factors, you’re better positioned to choose a non-surgical face lift that meets your needs, offers a high satisfaction level, and optimises your investment in facial rejuvenation. ## **How to Choose the Best Non-Surgical Face Lift for You** Choosing the best non-surgical face lift demands careful consideration of key factors to ensure you select a treatment that aligns with your individual needs and goals. Following the discussion on the benefits and the importance of identifying your specific skin concerns, this section will guide you through the selection process. - **Identify Your Primary Concerns**: Begin by pinpointing the exact issues you wish to address. From wrinkles and fine lines to sagging skin or volume loss, understanding your primary concerns helps narrow down the most appropriate treatments. For instance, ultrasound-based therapies like Ultherapy are excellent for lifting and tightening, whereas injectables like dermal fillers can restore lost volume with precision. - **Research Treatment Options**: Once you’ve identified your concerns, delve into researching the available non-surgical treatments. Look into radiofrequency (RF) treatments, laser therapies, and hyaluronic acid injections, each offering unique benefits. Studying these options in-depth will help you understand which treatments are most effective for your skin concerns. - **Consider Practitioner Expertise**: The efficacy and safety of your chosen treatment heavily depend on the expertise of the practitioner administering it. Seek out clinics and practitioners with a solid track record in delivering non-surgical face lifts. Look for certifications and patient reviews to gauge their proficiency and the quality of outcomes. - **Understand Recovery Times and Side Effects**: Acknowledge the recovery times and potential side effects of each treatment option. While non-surgical face lifts boast minimal downtime, some therapies may require a short recovery period. Understanding these aspects ensures you can plan your treatment without significantly disrupting your lifestyle. - **Evaluate Costs**: Non-surgical face lifts vary in price, affected by the type of treatment, the practitioner’s expertise, and the treatment’s geographic location. Comparing prices while considering the previous factors will help you make a cost-effective choice without compromising on quality or safety. By carefully weighing these considerations, you’ll be equipped to choose a non-surgical face lift that offers you the best possible results, tailored to your specific skin concerns and lifestyle requirements. ## **Conclusion** Choosing the best non-surgical face lift requires a blend of awareness and personalisation. It’s about knowing your skin’s needs and matching them with the right treatment. Armed with the knowledge of what to look for and questions to ask, you’re now better positioned to navigate the vast options available. Remember, the goal is not just to achieve a more youthful appearance but to do so in a way that’s safe, effective, and harmonious with your lifestyle. With the right approach, you can enjoy the benefits of facial rejuvenation without the need for surgery. Here’s to a refreshed, more confident you! ## **Frequently Asked Questions** ### **What are the benefits of a non-surgical face lift?** > A non-surgical face lift offers safety, effectiveness, and customisability. It addresses various skin concerns with minimal downtime, reduced risks, and delivers natural-looking results. ### **What should I consider before choosing a non-surgical face lift?** > Before selecting a non-surgical face lift, consider your specific skin concerns, research treatment options, assess the expertise of the practitioner, understand recovery times and potential side effects, and evaluate the costs involved. ### **How can I choose the best non-surgical face lift for me?** > To choose the best non-surgical face lift, identify your primary skin concerns, thoroughly research available treatment options, consider the expertise and qualifications of the practitioner, understand the recovery process and any associated side effects, and evaluate the overall costs to ensure it fits your budget and lifestyle requirements. ### **Are there any risks associated with non-surgical face lifts?** > Yes, like any cosmetic procedure, non-surgical face lifts carry some risks, though significantly less than surgical alternatives. Potential side effects can include temporary redness, swelling, or bruising at the treatment site. Always consult with a qualified practitioner to minimise risks. ### **How long does it take to recover from a non-surgical face lift?** > Recovery times from a non-surgical face lift vary depending on the specific treatment chosen but are generally minimal. Most patients can resume normal activities immediately or within a few days following the procedure, unlike the extended downtime associated with surgical face lifts. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/best-non-surgical-face-lift/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/best-non-surgical-face-lift/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** liquid facelift, plastic surgery, dermal fillers, botox, beauty, Non-Surgical Face Lift --- ### [Affordable & Hilarious Christmas Costume Ideas That Will Make You Laugh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-costume-ideas/) **Published:** November 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ready to stand out and add a bit of cheeky fun to your Christmas season? If you are looking for ways to make the festive season extra memorable with your little one, you’ll love our list of unique and hilarious Christmas costume ideas. Whether it’s a get-up for the kids, you, or the whole family, nothing screams Christmas like a festive costume. These hilarious Christmas outfits will make you the star of any Christmas party, spread laughs, and even save you the last-minute stress of finding something cheerful. So, bring on the Christmas spirit. Let’s all dress up and say goodbye to traditional Christmas costumes! Let’s get into it! ## **10 Hilarious Christmas costume ideas** ## **1. Personalised “naughty or nice” Christmas jumper** Why pick a side when you can claim both? This Naughty or Nice personalised jumper lets you keep everyone guessing on Christmas Eve! It’s perfect for those who are just sweet enough to make Santa’s list, barely. Add your name, and let the holiday debate begin. Are you the angel spreading cheer, or the mischievous elf sneaking an extra gift or two? With this cosy jumper, you get to play both parts! To complete your festive look, consider browsing for [costumes online](https://www.blossomcostumes.com.au/ "costumes online") to find the perfect outfit that matches your holiday spirit. [![Personalised "naughty or nice" Christmas jumper | Hilarious Christmas outfits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Untitled-1024-x-768-px.png "Untitled 1024 x 768 px - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fpersonalised-christmas-jumper%2F1686534-01.html%3Fdwvar_1686534-01_color%3D1686534-01%26cgid%3Dcards-and-wrap%26originalPid%3D1686534-01%23start%3D1%26sz%3D60) We found this at: [Cotton On](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fpersonalised-christmas-jumper%2F1686534-01.html%3Fdwvar_1686534-01_color%3D1686534-01%26cgid%3Dcards-and-wrap%26originalPid%3D1686534-01%23start%3D1%26sz%3D60) ## **2. Blow up turkey** Why not dress up as the main course for Christmas dinner? This inflatable turkey costume is hilarious and easy to waddle around in. It’s a great choice for a funny Christmas outfit idea and will get everyone laughing, from the kids to your family members at the Christmas lunch. You’ll definitely be the star of the show! [![Blow up turkey](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/5713abbc-bb1b-42d8-b1a1-814a94d934ed.jpg "5713abbc-bb1b-42d8-b1a1-814a94d934ed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://mydeal.sjv.io/e1KYY1) We found this at:[ My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/e1KYY1) ## **3. Merry Grinchmas vest** This funny vest is your ticket if you would rather skip the Christmas pudding and just sass your way through the season. We like its delightfully grumpy red and green colours and “celebratory but cranky” vibes. It’s practically a hug from the Grinch himself. Wear it to holiday parties, Christmas dinner, or just while glaring at the neighbour’s light display. 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With Grumpy Cat’s legendary scowl front and centre, you’re ready to greet the season with a perfectly unimpressed attitude. Whether you love Christmas or are just here for the cookies, this tee has your ‘bah humbug’ style covered, one epic frown at a time! [![Grumpy cat Meowy Christmas t-shirt](https://assets.mydeal.com.au/49140/mad-cat-lovers-meowy-christmas-tshirt-gift-idea-funny-father-s-day-12788288_00.jpg?v=1727336417&imgclass=dealpageimage)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/9Lg00E) We found this at:[ MyDeal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/9Lg00E) ## **More festive but hilarious Christmas costume ideas** ## **5. Penguin jumpsuit** Bring some North Pole vibes to any Christmas gathering with this adorable penguin jumpsuit. It’s perfect for those who want to break from the typical Santa hats and reindeer antlers. You’ll look cute and comical, waddling around with a big smile. ![Penguin jumpsuit | Hilarious Christmas outfits](https://litb-cgis.rightinthebox.com/images/640x640/201406/urzzxp1402658403153.jpg?fmt=webp&v=1) We found this at: Light in the Box Further reading:[ 10 Beautiful personalised Christmas gifts for kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-beautiful-personalised-christmas-gifts-for-kids-to-keep-forever/) ## **6. Elf costume** Become one of Santa’s little helpers in this bright and playful elf costume. With red and green tights, a pointy hat, and even jingle bells, this Christmas costume idea brings festive cheer and gives you a helping hand at any Christmas gathering. It’s perfect for anyone who wants to share the festive spirit on Christmas Day! 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It’s perfect for a cheeky holiday look and sure to bring festive cheer. ![Reindeer costume](https://litb-cgis.rightinthebox.com/images/640x640/202308/bps/product/inc/odrwza1693213710503.jpg?fmt=webp&v=1) We found this at: Light in the Box ## **9. Christmas tree costume** What’s Christmas without a Christmas tree? And why not become the Christmas tree this year? Step into the centre stage of any event with this tree-inspired costume, decked out with decorations (baubles, tinsel, and a sparkly star on top). This costume screams Christmas and makes a great choice for school plays or holiday gatherings. ![Christmas tree costume | hilarious Christmas outfits](https://i.ibb.co/Rz6Dzsc/1.jpg) We found this at: Light in the Box ## **10. Funny gingerbread man t-shirt** Spice up the laughs with this “Did you try icing it?” Gingerbread Man t-shirt! This fun and festive shirt features our doughy friend in bandages and a smile, looking a little worse for wear after a rough baking session. It’s the ultimate conversation starter, especially when someone complains about a bump or bruise, just point to your shirt! Soft, comfy, and sprinkled with just the right amount of punny humour, it’s a sweet way to say you’re here for the treats and the giggles. Warning: may cause cravings for gingerbread and spontaneous holiday baking plans! ![Funny gingerbread man t-shirt](https://litb-cgis.rightinthebox.com/images/384x500/202410/bps/product/inc/htgncz1728721369773.jpg?fmt=webp) We found this at: Light in the Box ## **Hilarious Christmas costume ideas bonus pick: Christmas fancy dress** But wait, there’s more! If you’d rather look fabulous than funny, this fancy Mrs Claus dress will do the trick! This outfit lets you help Santa deliver the gifts in style. It’s ideal for a Christmas party or simply spreading a little holiday magic at home with your kiddos. [![Bonus pick: Christmas fancy dress/Hilarious Christmas Costume Ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/1000016329.jpg "1000016329 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fchristmas-slip-dresses-red-santa-claus-costume-set-halloween-p826662.html) We found this at: [Milanoo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66237?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.milanoo.com%2fproduct%2fchristmas-slip-dresses-red-santa-claus-costume-set-halloween-p826662.html) ## **Final words: Hilarious Christmas costume ideas** That’s it for my list of unique and funny Christmas outfits! Remember, the holiday season is all about fun, laughter, and making memories, and these costume ideas bring it all together. From classic Christmas jumpers to blow-up turkeys that’ll make you look extra juicy (in a good way), we’ve got your cheerful outfits covered. And who could resist becoming a walking Christmas gift or Mrs Claus herself? Three years ago, I wore the reindeer costume and jingled all night at a Christmas party with my little ones. They loved it! So, go ahead and pick a costume! Let’s all dress up, have some fun, and make this Christmas one to remember forever! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-costume-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/hilarious-christmas-costume-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** Christmas, festive, Xmas, dress up, costume --- ### [8 Gift ideas to mark the New Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-new-year/) **Published:** October 6, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A fresh, new year is such a symbolic and special time. It can be nice to mark it with a gift to those closest to you. Never more should we celebrate a new year than now as we head into 2023, away from scary lockdowns and health panics. If you’re looking for a New Year gift but you’re not sure where to start, this handy list is just the ticket. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [How to make New Year resolutions that actually last the year.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-make-new-year-resolutions-that-actually-last-the-year/)*** ### A COMPASS New year, new direction. I think this compass makes the perfect New Year gift for anyone on your list. It makes great decor for your tabletop, too. ![A Compass | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/Dzc5hmd/3.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ### A VASE OR ORNAMENT When I think of New Year gift ideas, I always picture a lovely ornament like this statue. Did you know that the lucky tree is a symbol of wealth and prosperity? Bonus! ![New Year Gift Ideas | Vase or Ornament | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/f1WR82B/1.jpg) We found this at: My Deal ### [A MEMORY JAR](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B08KVGT2LD/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&&camp=247&&creative=1211&&creativeASIN=B08KVGT2LD&&linkCode=as2&&tag=beanstalk0f-22&&linkId=8b68936ec61ee4f80a22c9226e980028) The beginning of the New Year is the best time to start collecting memories. Keep your daily notes, photos and special occasion keepsakes in a beautiful jar like this one. 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[![New Year Gift Ideas | Personalised Calendar | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/frzfmpz/2.jpg)](https://www.vistaprint.com.au/photo-gifts/calendars/wall-calendars?qty=1&Size=A4&PCXVATINCLUSIVE=true&utm_id=2B10979998748488615934) We found this at: [Vistaprint](https://www.vistaprint.com.au/photo-gifts/calendars/wall-calendars?qty=1&Size=A4&PCXVATINCLUSIVE=true&utm_id=2B10979998748488615934) ## MORE NEW YEAR PRESENT IDEAS ### CRYSTALS FOR NEW BEGINNINGS When it comes to New Year gift ideas, a little magic never hurts. A collection of crystals for new beginnings makes a great present for someone starting a new chapter of their life. ![Crystals for New Beginnings | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/dpdqcXL/il-fullxfull-2583065192-chh0.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ### [DIARY OR JOURNAL](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LPM1XV) Why not let the stars guide your journey into the new year? This gorgeous astrology diary by Ana Leo is the best way to record your thoughts. I love the unique zodiac-themed illustrations, lunar wisdom, and life coaching tips. [![New Year Gift Ideas | Diary or Journal | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81Y8S+mekXL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LPM1XV) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/LPM1XV) ### SOMETHING THE HELP THE PLANET We’re all trying to be more mindful of what we leave behind for future generations. This year, give your loved ones gifts that help save the planet and reduce plastic waste. ![100 Ways to Save the Planet | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-GR490068_4_2000x2000.jpg) We found this at: Yellow Octopus ### PERSONALISED NEW YEAR GIFT SET A personalised gift basket is guaranteed to please the pickiest giftee. Fill the box with their favorite things (alcohol is always appreciated!) so they can happily say goodbye to 2021. ![New Year Gift Ideas | Personalised New Year Gift | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.etsystatic.com/19350959/r/il/093a85/2656538374/il_1140xN.2656538374_tm8r.jpg) We found this at: Etsy ![New Year gift ideas | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/gifts2.png "gifts2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-new-year/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-new-year/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Shopping **Tags:** new year --- ### [10 Practical gift ideas for kids they won't find boring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/practical-gift-ideas-for-kids/) **Published:** June 23, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Every birthday and Christmas it’s the same thing. You buy a bunch of new toys for your kids, that get forgotten about within a few days and only serve to take up more space in your house! Wouldn’t it be great to have some practical gift ideas for kids that they actually like? If you don’t want to keep adding to your child’s toy collection then you might find yourself getting them clothes, something which can also very quickly pile up to unnecessary levels. Also, kids don’t usually appreciate getting “boring” gifts. So, here are some suggestions for more useful presents you can buy for your kids that they will still be excited to receive. ## 1. Kids gumboots We all know that little ones love to go out and get dirty, no matter the weather. Kids gumboots are a practical gift that you can get in bright colours that appeal to kids and the prospect of adventure that comes with them makes them an even more exciting gift. ![Kids gumboots practical gift ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.20.56-am-714x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.20.56-am - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/6eAm5m) ## 2. Backpack Like the gumboots, the promise of going on an adventure is what makes a new backpack so exciting. In addition to this, you can get ones that are decorated in whatever way would bring your kids the most joy! There are plenty of adorable backpacks available for children of any age. ![Backpack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.26.30-am-722x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.26.30-am - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Baby Bunting](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44049&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babybunting.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fskip-hop-zoo-backpack-giraffe-103217) ## 3. Toy box This is the perfect gift for a child that has way too many toys and likes to leave them lying around anywhere. You are essentially buying yourself storage space but passing it off as a kid’s birthday present! It’s genius. ![Toy box practical gift ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.30.31-am-800x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.30.31-am - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Etsy ## 4. Alarm clock Now bear with me, an alarm clock definitely does not seem like an exciting Christmas present, but you can get some pretty crazy alarm clocks! Getting your kids an alarm clock would be a huge help when it came to [getting them up for school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/getting-your-kids-to-school-on-time/), and if you are really lucky it might actually make waking up that little bit more exciting. ![Alarm clock](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.34.45-am-802x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.34.45-am - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Light In The Box ## 5. Child-sized chair This is a great gift for a child of any age (providing they are small enough). I don’t know any kid who would not be excited to get their very own miniature armchair to kick back and relax in. It serves a function (as a place to sit) but it can also add to the décor of your home if you pick the right style – in fact, the cutest chairs are the tiny versions of your own stylish sofas or armchairs. ![Child-sized chair practical gift ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.36.26-am-900x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.36.26-am - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/VmZ7WM) ## Practical gift ideas for kids they won’t find boring (cont.) ## 6. Lamp This is another way to get some extra décor for your home but give it as a gift. Children’s lamps don’t have to be gaudy, plastic monstrosities shaped like their favourite cartoon character. There is heaps of choice online so you can easily choose a lamp which your child will love while also looking good in their bedroom. ![Lamp](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.41.20-am-450x800.png "Screenshot-2023-06-15-at-11.41.20-am - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FKids-Fairy-Table-Lamp-DVLI1336.html) ## 7. Packed lunch box Is your child due a new lunch box? If so, giving them one as a gift makes a nice present but is also practical. Every child needs a good quality lunch box to keep their lunch and snacks cool at daycare or school. Lunch boxes in every colour, style and design, so choose one you know they’ll love. ![Packed lunch box practical gift ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/lunch-box-640x800.jpg "lunch-box - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [City Beach Australia](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Frip-curl-mixed-lunch-bag%2F20346628-03.html) ## 8. Umbrella Worried about the weather? Umbrellas are another practical gift kids can use, rain or shine. While staying cute, your little ones are protected from heavy rains and UV rays. Make sure to get a different umbrella for dry and wet seasons, as the material used to make UV protection umbrellas is unsuitable for heavy rain. ![Umbrella](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/umbrella-533x800.jpg "umbrella - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Cotton On](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fcottonon.com%2FAU%2Fkids-rainy-day-umbrella%2F7344530-01.html%3Fdwvar_7344530-01_color%3D7344530-01) ## 9. Bedding Like us adults, kids also need high-quality sheets for that good night’s sleep. Good thing, bed linen comes in the most interesting patterns that your little ones will love to tuck themselves in. Giving your kid a set as a present is smart since you won’t have to spend separately on bedding. ![Bedding practical gift ideas for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/KIDSHAIRY21_01__93743.jpg "KIDSHAIRY21_01__93743 - Beanstalk Mums") Buy here: [Pillow Talk](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43760&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.pillowtalk.com.au%2Fhairy-maclary-quilt-cover-set-kidshairy21%2F) ## 10. Money box Last on our list of practical gift ideas for kids: Start them young on saving money by getting your kid a money box. You hit three birds with one stone with this one: your kid gets a gift, you don’t need to buy a separate money box, and you can teach your little one a valuable life skill. Piggy banks are a classic, but you can find other fun designs like doll houses, treasure chests, or other animals. ![Money box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/piggy-bank-1067x800.png "piggy bank - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Etsy ## Final words: Practical gift ideas for kids As mums, giving our kids gifts that will not simply become unnecessary clutter can be challenging. Toys and clothes are fast and easy choices for many occasions, but they tend to be a hit or miss when it comes to our little ones. The good news is that we now have practical and useful gift options available everywhere, such as alarm clocks, lunch boxes, bedding, and piggy banks. They come in fun and exciting designs nowadays, too, and they can also double as learning toys, so it’s a win-win situation. Make sure to choose designs that reflect your kid’s unique interests and personality so that they will not find them boring and toss them into the junk! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/practical-gift-ideas-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/practical-gift-ideas-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping --- ### [Mother's Day hampers for delivery in Australia 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/mothers-day-hampers-delivery-australia/) **Published:** April 9, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Mother’s Day is a time to treat one of the most important people in your life. Yet, with much of the world in lock-down and border closures complicating travel in Australia, you might not be able to enjoy mum’s special day as you (and she) would like. If you are in this situation, we’ve found some beautiful Mother’s Day hampers you can buy online and send. And, for even more inspiration see: [75+ Gift ideas for Mother’s Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/75-gift-ideas-for-mothers-day/). ## Mother’s Day hampers for delivery in Australia 2023 ### [Breakfast in Bed with Coffee and Pancakes](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fanniversary-gift-baskets%2fbreakfast-in-bed-with-coffee-and-pancakes%2f) Treat her to a Breakfast in Bed hamper packed with everything you need for a delicious coffee and pancake breakfast: yummy Byron Bay ground coffee, Adelia vanilla bean pancake mix, Santa Vitorria peach nectar, Noble handcrafted maple syrup, white mug, and balsa wood flower diffuser. Mother’s Day hampers from Gourmet Basket are guaranteed to please the pickiest mum. The company has been around for over two decades and remains one of Australia’s top foodie and gift hamper destinations. They have hampers for every occasion, with a 100% money back “happiness” guarantee for each gift hamper you purchase. We like the option to donate 10% of each hamper’s value to your favourite charity. [![Mother's Day Hampers | Breakfast in Bed with Coffee and Pancakes](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/Breakfast-in-Bed-Coffee-and-Pancakes-LR.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fanniversary-gift-baskets%2fbreakfast-in-bed-with-coffee-and-pancakes%2f) ### [Jurlique Rosewater & Mulberry Silk Hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2fjurlique-rosewater-mulberry-silk-hamper) When it comes to pampering Mother’s day hampers, you can’t go wrong with the Hamper Emporium’s Jurlique Rosewater and Mulberry Silk hamper. Mums can soak away the stress with exclusive Jurlique skincare products whilst nibbling on delicious almonds. There’s also a fabulous satin robe and eye mask for after your bath, a leather makeup bag and a pretty notebook that’s perfect for journalling. The Hamper Emporium is the leading luxury hamper experts in the country, with over 300,000 happy customers. Every hamper is carefully curated, beautifully packaged and guaranteed to impress. This is the best place to shop for luxury, corporate and special occasion gifts. [![Jurlique Rosewater & Mulberry Silk Hamper | Mother's Day hampers](https://www.thehamperemporium.com.au/assets/alt_1/450a.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2fjurlique-rosewater-mulberry-silk-hamper) ### [Happy Heart Chocolate Box – Mothers Day Hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macarthurbaskets.com.au%2fhappy-heart-chocolate-box-mothers-day-hamper) Satisfy mum’s sweet tooth this Mother’s Day with the Happy Heart Chocolate box from MacArthur Baskets. The hamper contains 15 delightful milk chocolate candy hearts and gold foil-embossed milk chocolates, wrapped in a pretty lilac box with matching ribbon. For more amazing Mother’s Day hampers and sweet gifts, check out the MacArthur Baskets website. The company has been delivering gifts for over 15 years to happy customers Australia-wide. We love their budget-friendly options and the endless selection of special occasion hampers that range from gourmet to sweet to bath and body. [![Mother's Day Hampers | Happy Heart Chocolate Box](https://www.macarthurbaskets.com.au/assets/full/603.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macarthurbaskets.com.au%2fhappy-heart-chocolate-box-mothers-day-hamper) ### [Make Mum Smile](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/7602?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.petals.com.au%2fflower-arrangement%2fmake-mum-smile%2finprod1220019%3fskuId%3dinsku1200031%26zipMin%3d) Flowers for Mother’s Day are a no-brainer. The Make Mum Smile bouquet from Petals is too pretty for words, with crimson roses, purple and green mums, white daisies, pink alstromeria and delicate fillers. It’s also customisable: choose from Classic, Deluxe and Premium sizes. The Petals Florist Network offers same-day or next-day delivery of blooms and gifts to over 100 countries around the world. They have posies for every occasion, and you can shop by flower type, flower colour, arrangement and price. [![Melt Mum's Heart | Mother's Day hampers](https://assets.intleflorist.com//site/in5700001/skuimage/pzm/B316_800.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/7602?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.petals.com.au%2fflower-arrangement%2fmake-mum-smile%2finprod1220019%3fskuId%3dinsku1200031%26zipMin%3d) ### [Scents of Style Hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2fscents-of-style%2f) The Scents of Style hamper from Charity Hampers is a truly luxurious gift that appeals to the senses. This beautifully presented hamper features an exquisite selection of scented candles, diffusers, and room sprays, each designed to fill a room with an elegant fragrance. From fresh and floral scents to warm and spicy aromas, there is something for everyone in this hamper. The high-quality products included in the Scents of Style hamper are perfect for creating a relaxing and sophisticated atmosphere in any home. This hamper is not only a delight for the senses but also supports a charitable cause, making it a meaningful and thoughtful gift for any occasion. [![Scents of Style Mother's Day hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Screenshot-2023-04-10-at-11.35.57-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2fscents-of-style%2f) ### [Ultimate Foodies Hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2fthe-ultimate-foodies-hamper%3fgclid%3dCjwKCAiAyPyQBhB6EiwAFUuakrLlPmSqNB7UWtxGNKWOCrlPy_l-pu7M5tW0cWoEyUsh6L5SScOePhoCGg4QAvD_BwE) Get ready for the ultimate foodie experience this Mother’s Day with a scrumptious hamper from the Hamper Emporium. This box is filled with the world’s finest sweet and savoury gourmet treats, including artisanal crackers and tapenade, roasted nuts and three types of chocolate, plus pantry essentials like salted caramel sauce, black truffle paste, and Himalayan pink salt. The Hamper Emporium is the best place for all-occasion, personalised and customisable hampers and gifts. Categories are neatly organised so you can easily find the perfect present for him, her, kids, babies and teenagers. They also have vouchers if you have a hard time deciding on what to buy. [![Mother's Day Hampers | Ultimate Foodies Hamper](https://www.thehamperemporium.com.au/assets/alt_1/108a.jpg?20220202212959)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2fthe-ultimate-foodies-hamper%3fgclid%3dCjwKCAiAyPyQBhB6EiwAFUuakrLlPmSqNB7UWtxGNKWOCrlPy_l-pu7M5tW0cWoEyUsh6L5SScOePhoCGg4QAvD_BwE) ## More Mother’s Day hampers … ### [Relaxing Moment Hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fmothers-day-gift-baskets%2frelaxing-moment-hamper%2f) Gourmet Basket makes the best Mother’s Day hampers. Spoil mum with the Relaxing Moment Hamper that smells as good as it looks. The beautifully wrapped box includes a pink velvet eye Mask, St. Barths soy candle, grapefruit bath salts, champagne gummy bears, and a balsa wood flower diffuser. Add more pamper items, sweet and savoury treats, wine, champagne and books to really wow your giftee. Check out Gourmet Basket’s website for more pamper hampers for mums (head to the Sale and Under $100 sections if you’re on a budget). We like that each hamper comes with a money-back guarantee and there’s an option to donate 10% of the hamper to a charity of your choosing. [![Relaxing Moment Hamper | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://gourmetbasket.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Relaxing-Moment-Hamper_LR.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62125?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgourmetbasket.com.au%2fshop%2fmothers-day-gift-baskets%2frelaxing-moment-hamper%2f) ### [Moet & Two Dozen Choc-Dipped Strawberries](https://www.edibleblooms.com.au/p/two-dozen-choc-dipped-strawberries/52782) What’s better than beautiful flowers this Mother’s Day? Edible flowers, of course. The stunning Moet & Two Dozen Choc-Dipped Strawberries gift box is a sweet treat filled with 24 strawberries dipped in Edible Blooms’ signature Belgian chocolate. You can also customise this hamper with a message, a photo, a personalised ribbon, more chocolates, more alcohol, toys, and even a vegan chocolate block! Because of the perishable nature of strawberries, this hamper is eligible for same-day delivery, provided you place your order before 3 pm. Each Edible Blooms gift comes with an ice pack to keep your chocolates in mint condition. [![Moet and dipped strawberries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/moet-1.jpg "moet - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.edibleblooms.com.au/p/two-dozen-choc-dipped-strawberries/52782) ### Candle and Cuppa Pack Pamper Mother’s Day Hampers are always a great idea and perfect for the eco-conscious mum. This wonderful gift hamper from Etsy includes a Natural Soy Candle, Shanghai white tea, hug me mug and a tea strainer. All contents of the box are cruelty-free, vegan and eco-friendly. Ashwood & Co. is a Sydney-based brand that creates hand-poured 100% soy wax candles and wellness products in small batches. [![Candle and Cuppa hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Screenshot-2023-04-10-at-11.38.27-am.png "Candle and Cuppa hamper - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2fproduct%2fscents-of-style%2f) ### [Plunge Into Coffee Hamper](https://byronbaygifts.com.au/products/plunge-into-coffee-hamper) If you love coffee, you’d adore this hamper from Byron Bay Gifts. Get gluten- and nut-free bliss balls, a coffee plunger, a pack of gluten free mixed nuts, cookies, chocolate-covered coffee beans, and, of course, coffee! It’s perfect as an afternoon treat and a great gift for any coffee lover. Byron Bay Gifts supports local businesses from the Byron Bay region who produce local, organic, natural and ethical luxurious hampers. [![Plunge into coffee hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/plunge-into-coffee.jpg "plunge into coffee - Beanstalk Mums")](https://byronbaygifts.com.au/products/plunge-into-coffee-hamper) ***Hamper types:** Birthday, occasion, luxury, chocolate, Australian-made, vegan, organic, gluten-free, candle, pamper* ***Payment options:** Amex, Apple Pay, Mastercard, PayPal, Visa, AfterPay* ***Delivery details:** Free delivery on orders over $100* ***Why we like these gift hampers:** Edible gifts and bouquets, nice alternative to flowers* ### [Succulent Scent Hamper](https://www.edibleblooms.com.au/p/succulent-scent-hamper/57719?gclid=CjwKCAiAyPyQBhB6EiwAFUuakkXqKRlCcUPYVjpS8UYGHBY6xYS6SfmUPHypQCRo9NUBhqd8RheEKRoCxzgQAvD_BwE) Show your green thumb mum just how awesome she is with the Succulent Scent Hamper from Edible Blooms. Celebrate the day with a succulent plant in a woven pot, great-smelling candle, rose facial bar, chocolate-coated raspberries, and cinnamon almonds. A free gift card message and signature green thumb delivery box are included. [![Succulent Scent Hamper | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.edibleblooms.com.au/assets/full/57719.jpg?20211202122014)](https://www.edibleblooms.com.au/p/succulent-scent-hamper/57719?gclid=CjwKCAiAyPyQBhB6EiwAFUuakkXqKRlCcUPYVjpS8UYGHBY6xYS6SfmUPHypQCRo9NUBhqd8RheEKRoCxzgQAvD_BwE) Edible Blooms has more special occasions and luxury hampers for your loved ones and for yourself. Whether it’s for a birthday, promotion or memorable life event, you can always find the perfect gift to celebrate. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/mothers-day-hampers-delivery-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/mothers-day-hampers-delivery-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day **Tags:** Presents, mother's day, hampers, gifts to send, gifts for delivery --- ### [24 Gifts for teenage girls whatever they are in to](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-teenage-girls/) **Published:** October 6, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you hunting down the perfect gift for a teenage girl yet drawing a blank? They can be hard to buy for! Teenage girls (once you get them off their phones) can be into anything and nothing. In fact, buying them a special gift is a great way to get them interested in something new or, like we say, just get them off their phone for more than ten minutes! Here is a varied and inspired list of gifts that we think teenage girls will love. ## Gifts for teenage girls ## Facial cleansing system First on our list of gifts for teenage girls: Pamper your teenager’s skin with the Ultimate Skin Spa from Vanity Planet. Suited for all skin types and with micro-massage movement that gently cleanses and exfoliates. [![Facial cleansing system | gifts for teenage girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/ABH027352-1-800x800.jpg "ABH027352-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/38642?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cosmeticcapital.com.au%2fvanity-planet-raedia-facial-cleansing-system-dusty) Available at: [Cosmetic Capital](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/38642?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.cosmeticcapital.com.au%2fvanity-planet-raedia-facial-cleansing-system-dusty) ## Fun board game The What Do You Meme? board game is essential for the meme generation. Perfect for parties, sleepovers and family night with hours of fun to be had. [![Fun board game](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61NhJNMa44L._SL1200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B01MRG7T0D/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B01MRG7T0D&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=c27de38ad3a0870694a5957aaf82892b) Available at: [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B01MRG7T0D/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B01MRG7T0D&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=c27de38ad3a0870694a5957aaf82892b) ## Fun fridge magnets For your saccharine sweet teen, these cute magnets look like fruit-flavoured candies. The gift also comes with a pack of 24 stickers to share with her best friends. [![Fun fridge magnets | gifts for teenage girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/RPCHM01-800x800.jpg "RPCHM01 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.coolthings.com.au/conversation-heart-magnets) Available at: [Cool Things](https://www.coolthings.com.au/conversation-heart-magnets) ## A book a teenage girl will love Being a teenager is hard and sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone. This bestselling book is a totally awesome and relatable read. [![A book a teenage girl will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/the-perks-of-being-a-wallflower-1.jpg "the-perks-of-being-a-wallflower-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/k0QRkv) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/k0QRkv) ## Self tan starter kit Can’t go to the beach to get your tan on? The Minetan Bronze Babe spray tan kit is all you need. This set comes with a spray mist and applicator mitt. [![Self tan starter kit | gifts for teenage girls](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61Vr-hXWa+S._SL1500_.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fminetan-bronze-babe-personal-spray-tan-kit-pink) Available at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fminetan-bronze-babe-personal-spray-tan-kit-pink) ## Lava lamp A lava lamps adds 60s hippie chic and instant glam to any room. This lamp ups the chill factor on our list of gifts for teenage girls! [![Lava lamp](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/4230e265157562bfe357cba5a63d7baf-500x800.webp "4230e265157562bfe357cba5a63d7baf - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fOliandOla-Lava-Lamp-37cm-Night-Light-Decor-Various-Colours-Party-Silver-Base-Large-Pink-White%2fs%2fwqriy8YUt0GKDA-esEjLhw%3fssf%3dfalse) Available at: [Oz Sale](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fOliandOla-Lava-Lamp-37cm-Night-Light-Decor-Various-Colours-Party-Silver-Base-Large-Pink-White%2fs%2fwqriy8YUt0GKDA-esEjLhw%3fssf%3dfalse) ## What gift should I give to a teenage girl? ## Coconut yoghurt kit Mad Millie Coconut Yoghurt Kit is perfect for the budding chef. Make yummy and healthy coconut yoghurt at home with this fun beginner kit that’s guaranteed to please the palate. [![Coconut yoghurt kit | gifts for teenage girls](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/yellow-octopus-mad-millie-coconut-yoghurt-kit-4_2000x2000.jpg?v=1589512135)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/rQeg0d) Available at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/rQeg0d) ## Beach towel Relax on the beach and soak up the sun on a beach towel in floral print. We love the pretty pattern that stands out from the crowd. [![Beach towel](https://www.citybeach.com/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-fewstoneMaster/default/dw7e3d9159/images/20327447/20327447-01-FT-XL.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fkaiami-mullaloo-round-towel%2F20327447-01.html) Available at: [City Beach](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43316&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.citybeach.com%2Fau%2Fkaiami-mullaloo-round-towel%2F20327447-01.html) ## Personalised keyring Keyrings never looked this fancy. Your girl will absolutely adore the heart-shaped leather embossed with their name in silver. ![Personalised keyring | gifts for teenage girls](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/assets/full/KVW6990-GREEN.jpg?20210309032315) Available at: Gifts Australia ## Cool socks Socks can make boring gifts but these ones are anything but. The Motherf\*cking Girl Power socks are perfect for your feisty teenager who’s not afraid to show the world how badass she is. [![Cool socks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/137257-633-2-533x800.jpg "137257-633-2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https://cottonon.com/AU/socks/137257-598.html?dwvar_137257-598_color=137257-598&cgid=typo&originalPid=137257-598#q=socks&start=31&sz=60) Available at: [Cotton On](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=40988&murl=https://cottonon.com/AU/socks/137257-598.html?dwvar_137257-598_color=137257-598&cgid=typo&originalPid=137257-598#q=socks&start=31&sz=60) ## Anxiety relief candle Take away the stresses of school and social life with this bestselling anxiety relief candle from Etsy. Made with soy and packed with lavender buds, cornflower petals and Amethyst crystals. Smells wonderful too! ![Anxiety relief candle | gifts for teenage girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/il_1588xN.4126459241_tln9-1-598x800.jpg "il_1588xN.4126459241_tln9-1 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: Etsy ## Hair straightener or styler The GHD Styler should be in every teenager’s beauty arsenal. Easily tame frizz and create gorgeous Insta-worthy looks without harming your hair. [![Hair straightener or styler](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/454_Gallery_Image_1-1-1200x590.jpg "454_Gallery_Image_1-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/57684?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ghdhair.com%2fau%2fghd-platinum%2fghd-platinum-plus-white-styler) Available at: [GHD Hair](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/57684?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ghdhair.com%2fau%2fghd-platinum%2fghd-platinum-plus-white-styler) ## What to buy a teenage girl (cont.) ## The Teenager’s Guide to Life Have a teenage girl who feels unsure about this crazy period in her life? Give her this brilliant book. It’s a guide to staying happy, healthy and sane during the roller coaster ride that is adolescence. [![The Teenager's Guide to Life | gifts for teenage girls](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51MklmyzrNL._SX324_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x9qyxx) Available at: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/x9qyxx) ## Sleep wear For when your teen wants to sleep in something comfier than tailored pyjamas, this avocado-themed sleep wear is just the thing. Also perfect for chilling on the couch. [![Sleep wear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-10-05_142946_au.shein_.com_.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-10-05_142946_au.shein.com - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/46dcnP3) Available at: [Shein](https://fave.co/46dcnP3) ## Dream catcher kit Younger teens will love this Dream Catcher kit from Pepperell. It’s easy to create a pretty dream catcher that looks awesome on the wall and traps bad dreams to boot. [![Dream catcher kit | gifts for teenage girls](https://i.ibb.co/gyWHkMd/2.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/71507?Url=https%3a%2f%2friotstores.com.au%2fproducts%2fpepperell-designer-macrame-modern-dream-catchers-kit-coral-pink) Available at: [Riot Art & Craft](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/71507?Url=https%3a%2f%2friotstores.com.au%2fproducts%2fpepperell-designer-macrame-modern-dream-catchers-kit-coral-pink) ## Skin care The Sukin Blemish kit has all you need to banish zits and keep teenage skin healthy and glowing. Includes face wash, spot treatment gel, toner and oil free moisturiser. [![Skin care](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0039/9320/6854/products/Blemish_Control_Kit_OH_01_1200x1200.jpg?v=1555475208)](https://mydeal.sjv.io/MmoQoY) Available at: [My Deal](https://mydeal.sjv.io/MmoQoY) ## Essential oil diffuser Give your teenager the gift of aromatherapy with Eco’s Smart Aroma Diffuser. It also functions as a humidifier and nightlight. We love the wood exterior that looks great in any room. [![Essential oil diffuser | gifts for teenage girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Travel-Immune-Dream-Sinus-Gift-Bundle-800x800.webp "Travel-Immune-Dream-Sinus-Gift-Bundle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60227?Url=https%3a%2f%2fecomodernessentials.com.au%2fcollections%2fgift-boxes%2fproducts%2fpeaceful-bundle) Available at: [Eco](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60227?Url=https%3a%2f%2fecomodernessentials.com.au%2fcollections%2fgift-boxes%2fproducts%2fpeaceful-bundle) ## Hair band tidy Scrunchies are back and that’s why your teen needs this stand stat. Made from pine and can be personalised with their name. ![Hair band tidy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/il_1588xN.2626229672_6s23-1085x800.jpg "il_1588xN.2626229672_6s23 - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: Etsy ## Our last ideas: Gifts for teenage girls ## Fitness tracker watch This sleek and shiny fitness tracker makes it oh so easy to track calories, physical activity, heart rate and sleep. The colour is perfect too. [![Fitness tracker watch | gifts for teenage girls](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/he0/h47/29032260337694.jpg)](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/fitbit-luxe-fitness-wellness-tracker-orchid-platinum-stainless-steel/p/161030) Available at: [Big W](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/fitbit-luxe-fitness-wellness-tracker-orchid-platinum-stainless-steel/p/161030) ## Ice cream maker The mint green ice cream maker is just the right size. Your girl will love making frozen desserts all summer. [![Ice cream maker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/fb546035-ace8-490b-96e8-631791f66553.jpg "fb546035-ace8-490b-96e8-631791f66553 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.kmart.com.au/product/mini-ice-cream-maker-green-43264032/) Available at: [Kmart](https://www.kmart.com.au/product/mini-ice-cream-maker-green-43264032/) ## Cute ring tidy Keep rings and trinkets organised in this adorable dachshund dog ring holder from Etsy. Handcrafted by Mexican artisans from durable pewter. ![Cute ring tidy | gifts for teenage girls](https://i.ibb.co/RyVvhmH/il-1140x-N-3642169880-o2y7.jpg) Available at: Etsy ## Beach lounger Pool time just got more stylish with this cute botanical print pool lounger. Great for parties, outdoor activities or simply chilllaxing. [![Beach lounger](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/SUNLAZUPL23_01__27883-1-800x800.jpg "SUNLAZUPL23_01__27883-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43760&murl=https://www.pillowtalk.com.au/azure-palm-beach-lounger-sunlazupl23/) Available at: [Pillow Talk](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43760&murl=https://www.pillowtalk.com.au/azure-palm-beach-lounger-sunlazupl23/) ## Jewellery Anything which empowers makes a wonderful gift for a teenage girl. Give her the ‘You Are Enough’ secret message bracelet to celebrate her uniqueness. The bracelet is made of lightweight aluminium and can be personalised especially for her. ![Jewellery | gifts for teenage girls](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/il_1588xN.2628980173_duam-1067x800.jpg "il_1588xN.2628980173_duam - Beanstalk Mums") Available at: Etsy ***Having found a suitable gift yet? [See: 50 Gift ideas for mums (sisters, aunties and girlfriends)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-gift-ideas-for-mums-sisters-aunties-girlfriends/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-teenage-girls/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gifts-teenage-girls/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** Christmas, Presents, teenagers, gifts for teenagers, gifts for girls, birthday --- ### [10 Divorce party gift ideas for the newly separated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-party-gift/) **Published:** July 8, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** While divorce may seem like a sad occasion, it’s also a time of transformation and new beginnings. What better way to support and uplift a newly-fledged divorcee than by surprising them with a thoughtful divorce party gift? I’ve had lots of fun creating this list of divorce party gift ideas bearing in mind that everyone feels different when their divorce comes through. You may need a lighthearted token to lift their spirits or a practical item to help them navigate their new life chapter. Let’s reframe divorce and see it as a time to celebrate resilience, growth, and the start of a brand-new chapter. Get inspiration from my divorce party gift ideas list and show your friend or family member you’re there to support them with the journey ahead. ***Further reading: [My divorce has come through. I don’t know if I’m happy or sad.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/my-divorce-has-finally-come-through/)*** ## Relaxing candle Not to imply that your newly divorced friend or family member needs a flame in their life right now, but candles as a gift have long symbolised the warmth of friendship and love. Today’s candles come in pleasant scents that provide relief from anxiety, depression, and stress. Regardless of their spiritual beliefs, a relaxing candle is a thoughtful gift to a person undergoing emotional times. A jar with a lighthearted, funny message like this one fits the party vibe! ![Relaxing candle divorce party gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/candle-762x800.jpg "candle - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Etsy ## Pairs with divorce wine Whether you mean, “This calls for a celebration!” or “Sorry about your breakup,” it’s nice to share a glass or an entire bottle of good wine with your newly divorced friend or family member. Apparently, there’s booze for every kind of breakup, so you can try asking the seller to customise the flavour accordingly. Get something high-quality and tasty because you don’t want their new-found freedom tasting insipid. ![Pairs with divorce papers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/wine-823x800.jpg "wine - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Etsy ## Always wear protection apron A motorcycle helmet with a note that says “Protect your head” is still the most hilarious gift I got post-divorce. Although it’s been years, I still remember that helmet whenever I’m about to dive head-first into something dangerous. This apron is a witty reminder to your freshly unattached homie to guard their, er, heart – as every parent knows how a child can complicate a breakup. This funny apron will surely put a smile on their face in the kitchen … or anytime it’s getting hot. ![Always wear protection apron divorce party gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/apron-use-protection_735x.webp "apron-use-protection_735x - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Yellow Octopus ## New beginnings necklace Every goodbye is really just a new beginning. Here’s a sweet and thoughtful gift to remind a new divorcee that starting all over again is a beautiful thing. I love all gift ideas in this list, but this necklace is something that would have made me shed a bittersweet tear or two. It’s a gift that the receiver can look at and get strength from once the party guests are gone. ![New beginnings necklace](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/necklace-800x800.jpg "necklace - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: Etsy ## Good Vibes cocktail party pack What’s a party without booze? Grab a party pack or two of these cocktails to lift everyone’s spirits. Whether the divorce has been amicable or nasty, it’s finally time to let loose and have fun. If they used to be a party-goer, your gift can even remind your newly single friend or family member of all the fun they had before and let them know they’re allowed to have fun again. [![Good Vibes cocktail party pack divorce party gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/good-vibes-party-pack-616546_864x864-800x800.webp "good-vibes-party-pack-616546_864x864 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74539?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mrconsistent.com.au%2fcollections%2fbest-sellers%2fproducts%2fsummer-party-pack%3fvariant%3d43013565513913)Buy here: [Mr. Consistent](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74539?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.mrconsistent.com.au%2fcollections%2fbest-sellers%2fproducts%2fsummer-party-pack%3fvariant%3d43013565513913) ## Self-care and tea hamper Divorce proceedings are physically and emotionally stressful, which can lead to both parties neglecting themselves. Now that the divorce is finalised, it’s time for pampering and relaxation with this self-care and tea hamper. This set has everything they need for quiet time: an eye mask, bath soak, a journal, tea, and snacks. Even the colour scheme exudes peace and calm. I recommend slipping a jar of relaxing candle into the box to make everything perfect. [![Self-care and tea hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/471a.png "471a - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2ftime-for-tea-hamper)Buy here: [The Hamper Emporium](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/24361?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thehamperemporium.com.au%2ftime-for-tea-hamper) ## Restaurant Choice gift card A gift card to a restaurant of their choice is irresistible, and the operative word here is “choice.” It’s food, but it’s also a gift of options. As someone who always relied on my ex to make even the simplest decisions during our marriage, I would have appreciated the thoughtfulness of a gift card that allowed me to decide for myself for the first time. For a divorcee who didn’t experience this, receiving a gift card to any restaurant can be an excellent motivation to go on a solo date. [![Restaurant Choice gift card](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Opera-Snapshot_2023-06-30_153214_restaurantchoice.com_.au_-1200x564.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-06-30_153214_restaurantchoice.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/81727?Url=https%3a%2f%2frestaurantchoice.com.au%2fbuy%2fcf)Buy here: [The Restaurant Choice](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/81727?Url=https%3a%2f%2frestaurantchoice.com.au%2fbuy%2fcf) ## A sky dive (or similar cool experience) And then there are times when you just need to scream your lungs out. Giving them something new and thrilling can be helpful to release the tension and stress of the divorce. Of course, don’t forget to check your friend or family member’s health conditions before booking this experience for them. If they’re not physically fit for outdoor skydiving, look for other options like scuba diving, sailing, or hot air balloon. [![A sky dive divorce party gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Opera-Snapshot_2023-06-30_153527_www.thrillexperiences.com_.au_-1200x564.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-06-30_153527_www.thrillexperiences.com.au - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84747?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thrillexperiences.com.au%2fsky-diving%2f)Buy here: [Thrill Experiences](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/84747?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thrillexperiences.com.au%2fsky-diving%2f) ## Divorced AF cushion Now that the new member of the divorcee club doesn’t have “someone to hold” (at least for the meantime), why not give them a soft and squishy pillow instead? And while we’re at it, this Divorced AF cushion is such a statement. It can serve as a pillow to cry on and a punching bag, depending on what our divorcee feels. [![Divorced AF cushion](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Opera-Snapshot_2023-06-30_154335_www.redbubble.com_-798x800.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-06-30_154335_www.redbubble.com - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.redbubble.com/i/throw-pillow/Divorce-Divorced-Celebrate-New-Single-Party-Gift-by-haselshirt/36130139.5X2YF)Buy here: [Red Bubble](https://www.redbubble.com/i/throw-pillow/Divorce-Divorced-Celebrate-New-Single-Party-Gift-by-haselshirt/36130139.5X2YF) ## Finally divorced t-shirt, Finally, this Finally Divorced t-shirt reminds me of a favourite quote from Tori Morrison: *Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.* Indeed, with the jumping silhouette and the confetti, this shirt says there’s nothing to be ashamed of about a marriage that ended. Statement shirts have historically given their wearers a voice, power, and a community, which a new divorcee might need. ![Finally divorced shirt divorce party gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Opera-Snapshot_2023-06-30_161210_www.teepublic.com_-906x800.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-06-30_161210_www.teepublic.com - Beanstalk Mums")Buy here: [Teepublic](https://www.teepublic.com/t-shirt/19122215-funny-finally-divorce-divorced-gift?feed_sku=19122215D1V&feed_country=US&utm_source=google&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=%5BG%5D+%5BG.NAM%5D+%5BL.ENG%5D+%5BGEN%5D+%5BC.TShirts%5D+%5BPLF%5D&utm_id=notset&utm_content=divorce&srsltid=AR57-fBotDc7GV-DJLQ6DtLYvnwhbFk2hIcL9Lm06khGqF3qC7Ez3VnHE6o) ## Final words: Divorce party gift ideas The end of a marriage is sad, but it can also mean strength, freedom, and the start of a new and better life. A well-thought-out divorce party gift can help a friend or family during these challenging times. When choosing divorce party gifts, try to think of things that will make them smile, lighten the mood, and remind them of the good things about the divorce. Whichever gift you give a new divorcee, remember to be sensitive and kind, and remember that divorce feels different for everyone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-party-gift/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-party-gift/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Shopping **Tags:** divorce present, separation gift --- ### [How to get your child to stop sleeping in your bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-get-your-child-to-stop-sleeping-in-your-bed/) **Published:** April 5, 2023 **Author:** Caroline McMahon **Content:** As a Baby Sleep Specialist, I get asked ‘Why won’t my child sleep in their bed?’ on a very regular basis. So if you are asking this question, rest assured you are not alone. I will talk you through the why’s and how’s to get your child to stop sleeping in your bed. There are many reasons why our children like to sleep in our beds, but I would like to break down the reasons that I can see through my Baby Sleep Specialist lenses. ## HOW TO GET YOUR CHILD TO STOP SLEEPING IN YOUR BED When my business partner and I went into this line of work, it was essential that we didn’t entertain methods that left babies to cry in their sleep space from the start. We wanted our babies to feel confident with how they felt about going to sleep and feel safe in their sleep space. We also looked very closely at ‘how’ babies and children felt when they initially fell asleep. What did they think, and what sensations did they experience when falling asleep? This became a pivotal part of our work. If you are wondering why this step is so important, how a child falls to sleep directly impacts whether they fall back asleep during the night. All of this is relevant to getting a child to stop sleeping in your bed. ## THE STORY OF LAURA AND LIAM Let’s look at single mum, Laura, and her baby, Liam. Liam is 14 months old and ends up in Laura’s bed every night. Laura has returned to work and is exhausted and overwhelmed. If Liam slept soundly in her bed at night, she would settle into a co-sleeping arrangement, but Liam is restless in her bed, demands milk all through the night, and they are both awake a lot. She doesn’t sleep well when Liam is in bed with her as he is very mobile, and she is concerned that he will fall off the bed and hurt himself. In the evening, Laura has a predictable routine of getting him ready for bed at a similar time, which is excellent. They lay together on Laura’s bed and read a few books while Liam drinks from his milk bottle. After the books and milk are finished, they cuddle together until Liam falls asleep, then she transfers Liam to his cot. Liam usually sleeps until around 11pm or midnight, then wakes very loudly crying and, despite all of Laura’s efforts, will only settle back to sleep in her bed with a milk bottle. This goes on every 1-2 hours until morning. Even if Laura has Liam in bed with her for the rest of the night, he still wakes to look for milk and a cuddle every few hours. Let’s look at this through Liam’s eyes. He knows each evening how things roll. He gets on his mum’s bed and enjoys listening to her beautiful voice reading him a story while he sucks away on his milk. After a big day, he gets drowsy with the milk, cuddles into mum, and falls asleep. This is his last memory before falling asleep. What does Liam experience? - Being on Mum’s bed – location, smell, how her bed feels - Drinking milk – sucking, feeling of fullness in his belly - Having a cuddle, the warmth of Laura next to him, how she smells, the firmness of her arms around him and her warm breath on his hair as he snuggles in. These are the things that Liam associates with going to sleep. Liam then sleeps quite soundly in that first half of the night. This is deep sleep and around midnight, his brain stirs a little and he is more wakeful in the second part of the night as he rehearses all of the amazing things that he is learning to do such as walking, language, kicking etc. He stirs from his sleep cycles each hour, which is really normal. Adults stir each ninety minutes overnight. But when Liam stirs from his sleep cycle at midnight, he feels different. What does he feel now? - He is asleep somewhere different to where he fell to sleep. It smells and feels different, and he doesn’t understand it. - There is no sucking or full tum from milk - No warm arms cuddling him - And now he is standing upright, not understanding the feelings he has and calls for Laura to do something about it. In his head, Liam wishes to replicate the feelings he understands around sleep. That is, to be back in Laura’s bed with a bottle and a cuddle. Laura tries to resettle him in the cot, but he has none. He doesn’t understand why Laura is not ‘fixing’ his problem, so he gets even louder. He knows this usually works! So, Laura brings Liam into bed with her and offers a bottle. Liam sometimes only takes around 20mls, so he can’t be hungry. She is right, this is a replication of the ‘feelings’ Liam expects to feel to go back to sleep. He quickly settles back to sleep for an hour or two, then it all starts again. Even though Liam has remained in Laura’s bed, he still stirs from his sleep, has no bottle, and can’t feel Laura, so he fully wakens looking around to replicate these feelings. So how can Laura improve things? ## HOW TO ENCOURAGE A CHILD TO STOP SLEEPING IN YOUR BED After speaking with Laura on the phone, we knew things had to change. She is nervous about change as she is on her own, exhausted and back at work. Liam also has a strong personality and challenges change. We decided to make small changes that she could be consistent with rather than overwhelm both Laura and Liam by doing everything at once. Laura’s first step is to remove the bottle from the settling process. She offers Liam his bottle (if she were breastfeeding, the same would apply) in the living area. He looks a little confused but with confidence, Laura sits with Liam, and he drinks his milk. They have a quiet time in the living area, singing songs and cleaning his teeth. This creates a little space between the milk and going to bed which is very important. [![Sleep music and songs | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.limetreekids.com.au/database/images/dinosnores-sleep-cds-for-babies-sleepy-soundscapes-forest-night-main-688138-5191.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-dinosnores-forest-night-sleepy-soundscapes-cd-5191.aspx)Stockist: [Lime Tree Kids](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34279?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.limetreekids.com.au%2fproduct-dinosnores-forest-night-sleepy-soundscapes-cd-5191.aspx) As usual, they move through the bedroom to read [bedtime stories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/) on Laura’s bed. Liam is a little more restless without his bottle to suck on, but Laura calmly continues and knows this will take a little longer than usual. Liam falls asleep with cuddles on Laura’s bed but WITHOUT the milk. She transfers him to this cot. After a few days, she noticed that he was waking slightly less at night, and on occasion, she could get him back to sleep with just a cuddle. Other times he still demands a bottle. She has gone from 4-5 bottles per night to 1-2. His appetite improves during the day, and he is slightly less grumpy at times. Because the bottle is gone from the settling routine, Liam no longer expects it as much in the middle of the night. Laura now tackles where Liam falls asleep. The milk stays out in the living room with a gap before entering their room. They do a lovely quiet time of some stories and cuddles on the bed, but instead of letting him fall asleep there, Laura moves Liam into his cot awake and stays with him to sing and hold his hand, pat his bottom, and comfort him while he falls to sleep. It is a struggle some nights, but with calm confidence and patience, this becomes their new way of sleeping. Laura notices that Liam is now only waking once or twice per night. Sometimes she can repeat the singing and the patting in the cot, and he goes back to sleep – this replicates how he went to sleep and is now much more effective than before. Other times she still has to bring him to bed for a cuddle, but he no longer demands milk. She can usually transfer Liam back into the cot. He is used to the feel of the cot and is happy to continue sleeping there. Laura can relax back to sleep, knowing he is safe beside her in the cot. As Laura reduces how much patting she has to do to get Liam to sleep, she finds that he sleeps through most nights, with an occasional wake here and there, but this isn’t a problem. She misses some of the cuddles in the night! ![Night light to help kids sleep | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/is-galaxy-star-projector-night-light-yellow-octopus-30763724426_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555148989)Stockist: Yellow Octopus ## HOW TO APPLY THIS TO YOUR OWN NIGHT TIME SITUATION So, apply this to what you are experiencing with your own child. How do you encourage your child to stop sleeping in your bed? Make a list of all the possible sensations your child experiences when they fall to sleep. Consider what they - See - Hear - Smell - Taste - Touch All of their senses are engaged when falling to sleep. Then make a list of what your child experiences when they wake up. Compare the two lists. If there is a difference between them, it will help you understand why your child is so wakeful and needs your help to go back to sleep. Then you can see what areas to focus on to help your child. ## OTHER THINGS TO CONSIDER - Timing of day naps – what time they occur and for how long. It might be too long or too late in the day for your child which contributes to difficulty settling, night waking and early morning wakes - Warmth of the room. If the room is too warm, it can contribute to more night wakings - Night lights – if the lighting is too bright this mimics dawn and confuses your baby as to when it is time to wake up for the day. If your child is going to sleep in their own cot or bed regularly from wide awake, but coming into your room/bed overnight and you wish for that to stop, then consider: - Staying in your child’s room so that they expect to stay in their own room all night - Set up a bed next to yours so if they sneak in the night, they have a little bed just for them next to you. This can be less disrupting for both of you if you are happy with this arrangement. It can also be a good way of helping your toddler transition from falling asleep in your bed. Still close, you can still hold hands and offer touch to comfort and support while they adapt the new feelings of falling asleep slightly further away than usual. Then you can progress to their own room if you wish to. - If your child is old enough to understand your conversations, don’t forget to tell them what your expectations are. ‘Goodnight, I will see you in he morning’. Star or reward charts don’t work for every child and often are short lived. They are not necessarily the answer when getting your child to stop sleeping in your bed. Focus your energy on understanding how your child feels falling to sleep as a starting place for improvement. Sweet dreams! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-get-your-child-to-stop-sleeping-in-your-bed/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-get-your-child-to-stop-sleeping-in-your-bed/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** kids sleep, co sleeping, nighttime, bedtime routine, sleep specialist, bedtime stories --- ### [10 Warning signs of stress in children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/) **Published:** January 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Stress is an unavoidable part of life. And while we are all so busy [dealing with our own stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/), we might miss the warning signs of stress in our children. Interestingly, some stress is healthy and necessary for children because it helps them develop key emotional resilience tools. However, excess stress can lead to health problems and disrupt early brain development. So how do we know if a child is stressed? What are the red flags we should look for? And, once recognised, what steps should we take to deal with them? Here is a list of 10 warning signs of stress in children, with ideas to help them cope. ## 10 Warning signs of stress in children ### 1. Eating Habits Significant changes in eating habits can also be a sign that your child is stressed. They may either revert to comfort eating to make themselves feel better or develop a lack of appetite in response to a deeply stressful situation. Making family meals stress-free can help your child redevelop healthy eating patterns and provide a great chance to talk about any issues that might be worrying them. ### 2. Trouble Sleeping Stress can make it difficult to fall or stay asleep and can affect the quality of sleep your child gets, which in-turn, increases stress during the day. Changes in sleeping patterns, nightmares or your [child not wanting to sleep in their own bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-get-your-child-to-sleep-in-their-own-bed/), are all signs that stress may be keeping them up at night. To [help improve their sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/make-your-kids-sleep-well/) enforce a peaceful bedtime routine that allows them to wind down slowly from the stresses of the day. Use peaceful music, a trusted nightlight and/or meditation to help them relax. There are a lots of app to help children suffering from anxiety and stress, try [Smiling Mind](https://smilingmind.com.au) or [Headspace.](https://www.headspace.com/register?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=1940234794&utm_content=72181210313&utm_term=350705556436&headspace%20meditation&gclid=CjwKCAjw_uDsBRAMEiwAaFiHa9eQYi7XzWFQ0hf2SKf8FW25f7pqPxlJ16fxDe0IPDX7TBCS4uk1PRoCsBMQAvD_BwE) ![Stress in children | Night light | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/Yellow-Octopus-Bunny-LED-Touch-Lamp-1_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555300936)Stockist: Yellow Octopus ### 3. Mood Swings We’re all a little moody at times, but severe mood swings can indicate signs of stress in children. If you’re worried about excessive changes in your child’s mood consider starting a mood diary. Documenting the frequency, intensity, number and duration of mood swings throughout the week can be a great way to identify and manage ‘danger periods’. For example, if you find that mood swings are worst after school on Wednesdays you can try and identify possible causes and address it. Wednesday could be the day that your child plays with a different set of friends or has a certain lesson. Once you know a danger time you can plan around it. Ensuring [homework is done in a happy manner](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/too-hard-for-mum-homework-tips/), no scheduled afternoon activities, and an easy dinner might be all that’s needed to break the mood cycle. ### 4. Acting Out We all have emotional outbursts (parents included) but acting out aggressively is a possible indication your child is stressed. As a parent, staying calm during these meltdowns is the best (yet the hardest) thing you can do. Giving your children tools and information on how to manage stress can make all the difference. Breathing, sipping water and lots of hugs are an example of simple tools they can use to build their emotional resistance. The great thing about these is that you can use them too. ## CHILD STRESS SYMPTOMS (CONT.) ### 5. Aches and Pains Little people have trouble linking emotional and physical responses. Sometimes, a simple recurring tummy ache can be masking a deeper issue. Headaches, vomiting and cramps can also be linked to emotional stress. By ensuring your child has a healthy diet you can rule out food intolerance and give your child a range of stress-busting nutrients. Nuts, salmon, spinach and oats are stress-busting food to get your child into the habit of eating. ### 6. Regressive Behaviour Regressive behaviour can sometimes be caused by stress, significant transitions or traumatic events. Thumb sucking, bed-wetting and baby talk are some common regressive behaviours. However, any behaviour your child reverts back to after having grown out of is considered regressive. Gentle consistency, ensuring they have a [good support system](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/every-child-needs-great-support-system/), focusing on positive behaviours and extra love can help your child get back on track. ### 7. Change In Behaviour Looking out for significant changes in behaviour can help detect signs of stress in children. It is also a good way to develop awareness about your child’s emotional health. For example, sudden excessive clinginess and crying in younger children can mean they are struggling with the stress of a recent transition or event. Responding with reassurance and consistency instead of frustration can help your child develop their resilience and leave them feeling safer and more secure. ### 8. Excessive Worrying Worrying is a part of everyday life but when it begins to affect your child’s ability to function it could be due to excessive stress. A simple trick to help your children get past worry sessions is to analyse and talk about the issue. Start by asking if there’s anything that can be done about it. If there isn’t, you can explain that worrying about it isn’t going to change the outcome. If there is something that can be done, try and work with them to identify what action can be taken. Keep in mind that sometimes children worry so much it might be considered [clinical anxiety](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anxiety_disorder). If your child worries so much it keeps him or her up at night or they are constantly or unnecessarily scared, consider sharing your concerns with your local GP. [![The Worry Tree | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn2.penguin.com.au/covers/original/9781742757421.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/b9ygg)Stockist: [Booktopia](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/b9ygg) ## Warning signs of stress in children (cont.) ### 9. Being Withdrawn Being withdrawn is another key warning sign that your child is stressed. No longer participating in activities that they used to enjoy, or pushing away family and friends are signs to watch out for. Bonding activities can alleviate feelings of withdrawal and encourage your children to open up. If you have the time, consider introducing mental health days once a month where you all skip on commitments and curl up on the couch for a movie marathon instead. ### 10. Trouble Concentrating Overthinking is something that we can all relate to (hello, 2am worry session!), but it can be a sign of stress in children. Concentration is a self-regulation skill which children begin to develop from a young age. When a child is stressed they may find it difficult to complete ordinary tasks, forget simple instructions, and no longer take an interest in schoolwork. To help your child develop their concentration skills you can introduce some simple but effective games. Crosswords, Memory and Picture Puzzles are fantastic for improving attention ability whilst apps such as [Lumosity](https://www.lumosity.com) have been shown to improve human cognition ![Signs of stress in child | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Stress-in-a-child-2.png "Stress in a child 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/10-warning-signs-of-stress-in-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** bedtime routine, childhood anxiety, trouble sleeping, mood swings, concentration, withdrawing --- ### [Book subscriptions Australia: Best deals for the avid reader](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/book-subscriptions-australia/) **Published:** January 23, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** This one is for all the book-lovers out there because there are still a few of us left, aren’t there? Surely? I’m going to talk about book subscriptions Australia. I love books and get butterflies of excitement when I go to the library … true! There is something so peaceful about being surrounded by books and reading is a blissful combination of escapism and relaxation, away from the pixelated glare of our screens. The key to fuelling a healthy reading habit is choosing the books you really enjoy. The un-put-downables. The [National Reading Survey by Australia Reads](https://australiareads.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Australia-Reads-National-Reading-Survey-2021-KEY-FINDINGS-SUMMARY.pdf) says us Aussies take most our book recommendations from friends, but with less people reading this can be hard. The solution: An Australian book subscription box. Book subscription boxes are a brilliant way to stay stocked up with the books you love and they make a thoughtful gift that keep on giving for book-loving friends or family members of all interests, be it science fiction, fantasy or historical and [aboriginal books](https://www.evolves.com.au/our-books/). In this article I list my favourite Australian book subscription boxes with all the information you need before you choose one. ## Book subscriptions Australia: Best deals for the avid reader ### [BIONIC BOOK](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fbionic-book-subscription-monthly.cfm) As much as I love to buy books online or at my fave bookshop, I also love a surprise in the mail. Bionic Book offers a book delivery each month personalised to your tastes and preferences. Their curators select the books they think they you’ll like. Don’t worry if you get a dud, their algorithm gets smarter as you give them feedback on each book so you’ll eventually get something that’s hard to put down. Their selection includes recent fiction releases and contemporary releases. What I like best about this box is you can send back the book if you’ve already read it! [![Bionic Book Subsctiption](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/5455/40637/xlarge/Bionic-Book-Subscription--Monthly-May-2021.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fbionic-book-subscription-monthly.cfm) Get the 3-Month book subscription at [Bionic Book](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fbionic-book-subscription-monthly.cfm) ***Bionic Book is a great read for:** All types of bookworms! All boxes are personalised to your tastes and preferences.* ***Number of deliveries:** One box per month**Time period:** 3,6, 12 months* ### [WELLREAD](https://www.wellread.com.au/) With the infinite options available to bookworms today, sometimes you just don’t know or can’t decide what to read next. When I want to read a really good book, I turn to this awesome website called *Well Read*. It has brilliant book subscription boxes for both kids and adults, with one “thoughtfully selected” book delivered to your door each month. Their books are handpicked from the best new titles and hidden treasures. Don’t expect mass-market paperbacks here; expect great reads that you’ll be proud to share with your book club. With each delivery, you also get reading notes, discounts on new releases, and access to their FB group called WellRead People. [![Book Subscriptions Australia | Well Read](https://i.ibb.co/FhWKsQW/3.jpg)](https://www.wellread.com.au/) Get the Send Me a Book Every Month Subscription at [Well Read](https://www.wellread.com.au/) ***Well Read is a great read for:** People who don’t know what to read next.* ***Number of deliveries:** One book per month or every 2 months**Time period:** 1, 3, 6, 12 months* ### MYSTERY AUSTRALIAN BOOK SUBSCRIPTION BOX A mystery book subscription box can be hit or miss, but if you’re struggling to pick your next great read, I recommend this Etsy subscription box. The Mystery Australian Book Subscription Box contains one pre-loved book each month wrapped in cute brown paper tied up with string. For me personally, the fact that the books are pre-owned is part of the charm of this box. Plus, each parcel also comes with a fun hand-drawn bookmark with synopsis! Choose from the horror, mystery, fantasy, sci-fi, YA, literary/historical fiction, crime, and true crime genres. ![Mystery Australian Book Subscription Box](https://i.ibb.co/ZYmGG74/2.jpg) Get the Mystery Book Subscription Box at Etsy ***Mystery Australian is a great read for:** Avid readers who love a surprise in the mail.* ***Number of deliveries:** One book each month for 6 months**Time period:** 6 months* ### [TALES & TEA](https://www.talesandtea.com.au/products/3-month-package?pr_prod_strat=use_description&pr_rec_id=82870c271&pr_rec_pid=6099192840388&pr_ref_pid=6099191267524&pr_seq=uniform) For my friend who’s an avid reader and tea lover, I couldn’t go past this Australian book subscription box from Tales & Tea. Not only will you get a fantastic read each month, you’ll also receive organic loose leaf tea, yummy chocolate, and a lovely affirmation card. Choose your book (fiction, non-fiction or literature genres) and your preferred tea (13 different brews), and you’re all set. This is a perfect gift for a birthday or anniversary. My friend was over the moon with her box and she said the books they sent her were spot-on as well. [![Tales & Tea Book Subscription | Book Subscriptions Australia](https://i.ibb.co/k4Dsv69/1.jpg)](https://www.talesandtea.com.au/products/3-month-package?pr_prod_strat=use_description&pr_rec_id=82870c271&pr_rec_pid=6099192840388&pr_ref_pid=6099191267524&pr_seq=uniform) Get the 3-Month Book Subscription at [Tales & Tea](https://www.talesandtea.com.au/products/3-month-package?pr_prod_strat=use_description&pr_rec_id=82870c271&pr_rec_pid=6099192840388&pr_ref_pid=6099191267524&pr_seq=uniform) ***Tales & Tea is a great read for:** Avid readers who love tea and chocolate.* ***Number of deliveries:** 3 books for three months**Time period:**3 months* ## Australian book subscription boxes ### A BOOK A MONTH This subscription box from Etsy is another great gift for yourself or your bookworm friends. What I like about this box is you can choose not only the genre but the age. The seller has books for kids ages 0 to 14, for young adults, and adults. All books are brand new except for adults, where you can choose a pre-loved or new book. And the wrapping is super cute, brown paper hand-labelled with each month of the year. ![A Book A Month Subscription](https://i.etsystatic.com/32105210/r/il/0beb8e/3632237639/il_1140xN.3632237639_98rv.jpg) Get the A Book A Month Gift at Etsy ***A Book a Month is a great read for:** Adults and young adults who want a surprise book each month.* ***Number of deliveries:** 12 books each month for 12 months**Time period:** 12 months* ### [THE CURATED PARCEL](https://www.thecuratedparcel.com/products/book-subscription-box-mixed-age?variant=32326457131095¤cy=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=Cj0KCQjw166aBhDEARIsAMEyZh5ip07KAxW02QCM4I9Z4PBdJBn1wC7fBoJkgrWpj23w_AOr7ZJyJScaAlCOEALw_wcB) If your kids love books but you don’t know exactly which titles to get, I suggest the Curated Parcel book subscription. The monthly box contains carefully selected children’s books that your kids are guaranteed to enjoy. For example, their Midi Box has two board books, one book from each age group, and the Biggie Box has four hardcover picture books with 2 books from each age group. What I like about this box is that shipping is included in the price (which is unusual with book subscriptions) and you can cancel anytime! [![The Curated Parcel | Book Subscriptions Australia](https://i.ibb.co/QKpKrRG/4.jpg)](https://www.thecuratedparcel.com/products/book-subscription-box-mixed-age?variant=32326457131095¤cy=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=Cj0KCQjw166aBhDEARIsAMEyZh5ip07KAxW02QCM4I9Z4PBdJBn1wC7fBoJkgrWpj23w_AOr7ZJyJScaAlCOEALw_wcB) Get the Book Subscription Box at [The Curated Parcel](https://www.thecuratedparcel.com/products/book-subscription-box-mixed-age?variant=32326457131095¤cy=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=Cj0KCQjw166aBhDEARIsAMEyZh5ip07KAxW02QCM4I9Z4PBdJBn1wC7fBoJkgrWpj23w_AOr7ZJyJScaAlCOEALw_wcB) ***The Curated Parcel is a great read for:** Children* ***Number of deliveries:** Monthly**Time period:** Monthly* ***Further reading: [How to create a home library for your kids.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/home-library-kids/)*** ### [MILLS & BOON BOOK SUBSCRIPTION BOX](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fmills-%26-boon-modern-book.cfm) The Mills & Boon subscription box reminds me of those Silhouette paperback novels I used to read when I was a kid. They’re cheap and easy to read. I remember finishing a book in just a few hours. If you’re in the mood for hot romance and heaps of drama, this box is for you. Escape into the glittering world of seductive heroes and glamorous women who always seem to be located in some luxurious location. The perfect books to take with you on a weekend getaway! Or to gift to your friends and family who can’t turn down a juicy, romantic read. [![Mills & Boon | Book Subscriptions Australia](https://www.isubscribe.com.au/images/covers/au/5474/40818/xlarge/Mills--Boon-Modern-Subscription-Oct-2021.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fmills-%26-boon-modern-book.cfm) Get the 3-Month Subscription at [Mills & Boon](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/6502?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.isubscribe.com.au%2fmills-%26-boon-modern-book.cfm) ***Mills & Boon is a great read for:*** *People who love romance novels.* ***Number of deliveries:*** *One box per month with four books per box****Time period:*** *3, 6 months* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/book-subscriptions-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/book-subscriptions-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Christmas, Birthdays, Shopping **Tags:** reading, subscription box, gift, present, book, read --- ### [10 Easy Bluey cakes and how to make them look amazing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/bluey-cakes/) **Published:** January 12, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Have you been tasked with making a Bluey cake? We all love our favourite Blue Heeler puppy whose adventures with his sister, Bingo, have been delighting Australian kids (and parents) since 2018. But making a cake of this energetic character might feel like an immense undertaking. Having made five Bluey cakes (I won’t tell you how many were a success) I have some great recipes up my sleeve as well as some shortcut tricks to make the most brilliant Bluey cake your kids have ever seen. This article includes: - Bluey cake ideas - Accessories for Blue cakes - Bluey cake and party decorations ***Bluey not doing it for you? Try: [Easy kids birthday cakes that look impressive.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-kids-birthday-cakes/)*** ## Ideas for Bluey cakes ### Buttercream Bluey birthday cake Buttercream cakes for the win! I’m a buttercream gal so I love cakes like these cute Bluey design below. Save time and order a pre-made cake online or from your nearest bakery. [![Buttercream Bluey birthday Cake | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Buttercream-Bluey-cake.jpeg "Buttercream-Bluey-cake - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.instagram.com/marleesmorishmorsels/) I found this buttercream Bluey birthday cake on: [Marlees Morish Morsels](https://www.instagram.com/marleesmorishmorsels/) ### Bluey cupcakes Take it from me that it’s easier to create a Bluey-themed dessert with cupcakes than a larger cake. You can make cute designs like the one below. You’ll need some cupcakes, Bluey decorations, and coloured frosting. [![Cupcakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-09-at-8.54.39-am.png "Bluey cupcakes - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/bluey-number-4-cupcake-birthday-cake-recipe/v0hqdbm7) I found these cute Bluey cupcakes on: [Kidspot.](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/bluey-number-4-cupcake-birthday-cake-recipe/v0hqdbm7) ### Blue and Bingo cake Isn’t this Bluey cake amazing? My daughter thinks so anyway! If you don’t feel like baking and decorating your own cake, Deni Bakes can make a similar cake for your party. [![Bluey and Bingo cake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Untitled-design-2020-05-26T131746.164.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.instagram.com/deni_bakes_/?hl=en) I found this Bluey and Bingo cake on: [Deni Bakes.](https://www.instagram.com/deni_bakes_/?hl=en) ### Swiss roll Bluey cake A Bluey swiss roll cake? That’s genius. I don’t have the skills to pull off this amazing cake, but feel free to go for it. The YouTube video has step-by-step instructions and lists everything that you will need. [![Swiss roll](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/maxresdefault.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H72LqUMUkKs) I found this Bluey swiss roll cake on: [Zoes Fancy Cakes YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H72LqUMUkKs). ## Accessories for Bluey cakes ### Super cute Bluey cupcake sticks Prettify your Bluey cupcakes with almost no effort. Just stick these picks on top of the cupcake and you’re done. Each pack comes with 24 picks in blue and orange. [![Bluey Cupcake Picks](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hbc/hd6/28412912500766.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3M49P) I found these Bluey cupcake sticks on: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3M49P) ### Personalised Bluey cake topper Nothing’s sweeter than a custom Bluey birthday cake for your celebration. This Bluey cake topper from Etsy can be personalised with your child’s name. Print out your design and stick on top of your dessert. ![Birthday cake topper](https://i.ibb.co/W670LV0/3.jpg) I found this personalised Bluey cake topper on: Etsy ### Sprinkles for Bluey cakes Keep your desserts Bluey-themed with these sprinkles. I like to dress up my store-bought cakes with a bunch of sprinkles. You can also use some on ice cream, cookies, and other desserts! [![Personalized Bluey Cake Sprinkles](https://cdn0.woolworths.media/content/wowproductimages/large/773761.jpg)](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/MXMG33) I found this Bluey cake sprinkles on: [Supermarkets](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/MXMG33) ### Template for Bluey cakes Here’s another fun way to dress up plain cakes: printable Bluey toppers! Print them out and cut them to make your toppers. These can also be used for cutters like Silhouette or Cricut. ![Cake template](https://i.ibb.co/BTmN0GM/1.jpg) I found this Bluey cake template on: Etsy ## Bluey party decorations ### Bluey paper party bags I like to send home my kid’s guests with party bags filled with treats. These ones with Bluey and Bingo are perfect for your Bluey-themed party. Comes in a pack of 8. [![Bluey party Bag](https://www.spotlightstores.com/medias/BP80549656-multicoloured.jpg-SPOTWF-productHero?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3wyNDI3NXxpbWFnZS9qcGVnfGltYWdlcy9oMDUvaDAyLzEyNjAwMDY5MzkwMzY2L0JQODA1NDk2NTYtbXVsdGljb2xvdXJlZC5qcGdfU1BPVFdGX3Byb2R1Y3RIZXJvfGQ2YjViYWFjNzY3MWIwMjZmMTYxNmMwYzIzNzQzZTRmMWM5NjFhMDU5MjQ2ZDcyNWRmMDAyOTBlY2EwYWI4Mzk)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fparty%2fparty-supplies%2fparty-entertainment%2fparty-bags%2fbluey-kraft-bags-8-pack%2f80549656%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwv4SaBhBPEiwA9YzZvCo7uiCqke4hQsqxrd5Fr5wENbzq4Fra-y3SUFq8QyOqC0WKZfMaEBoCiqwQAvD_BwE) I found these Bluey party bags on: [Spotlight Stores](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fparty%2fparty-supplies%2fparty-entertainment%2fparty-bags%2fbluey-kraft-bags-8-pack%2f80549656%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwv4SaBhBPEiwA9YzZvCo7uiCqke4hQsqxrd5Fr5wENbzq4Fra-y3SUFq8QyOqC0WKZfMaEBoCiqwQAvD_BwE) ### Full Bluey party set Pre-made decorations are the secret to a stress-free Bluey birthday party. Trust me, it’s how I stay sane. This set from Costume Works has everything you need: Happy Birthday Banner, 24 Balloons, 12 Cake, 1 Happy Birthday Cake Topper and 2 Ribbons. [![Full Bluey party Set](https://i.ibb.co/PmHh31v/2.jpg)](https://costumeworks.com.au/products/bluey-birthday-party-set?variant=41081541722301¤cy=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic) I found this Bluey party set at: [Costume Works](https://costumeworks.com.au/products/bluey-birthday-party-set?variant=41081541722301¤cy=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic) ### Bluey party plates (to eat your Bluey cakes) Don’t forget the Bluey plates for your cake and party food! These square ones feature Bluey’s family and match the pre-made decorations on this list. You can get a bunch of them for all your guests, or a few to use as serving plates. [![Bluey party Plates](https://www.spotlightstores.com/medias/BP80549657-multicoloured.jpg-SPOTWF-productHero?context=bWFzdGVyfGltYWdlc3wxMDgwOTh8aW1hZ2UvanBlZ3xpbWFnZXMvaDg2L2gzMC8xMjY2OTg5NDQ1OTQyMi9CUDgwNTQ5NjU3LW11bHRpY29sb3VyZWQuanBnX1NQT1RXRl9wcm9kdWN0SGVyb3wzZjVlM2JmMzFkNzQ5ZDExNjM0OGIyNmNlYzhkNWM0MWMxNjBhZjNmMzU3NjU2ZDFjNDM2NDhiYmU0ZDQxNDc1)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fparty%2fparty-supplies%2ftableware-servingware%2fparty-plates%2fbluey-18-cm-square-paper-plate-8-pack%2f80549657%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwv4SaBhBPEiwA9YzZvLhJ8P3gHd6U6ttxGds-HasdXqA7NvkCQgpKq_CBvxK-aCizhyUF5BoCj_gQAvD_BwE) I found these Bluey party plates on: [Spotlight Stores](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76672?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spotlightstores.com%2fparty%2fparty-supplies%2ftableware-servingware%2fparty-plates%2fbluey-18-cm-square-paper-plate-8-pack%2f80549657%3fgclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclsrc%3daw.ds%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjwv4SaBhBPEiwA9YzZvLhJ8P3gHd6U6ttxGds-HasdXqA7NvkCQgpKq_CBvxK-aCizhyUF5BoCj_gQAvD_BwE) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/bluey-cakes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/bluey-cakes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Birthdays, Food **Tags:** birthday, party, cake, Bluey --- ### [How to get slime out of almost anything](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-get-slime-out/) **Published:** May 17, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Slime! It’s all so much fun until it ends-up somewhere it shouldn’t and we’re left scrubbing frantically at carpets, clothes, hair and goodness knows what else. At one point, I declared our house ‘slime free’ in an attempt to protect our beloved belongings. I wish I knew then, what I know now: That there are ways and means to rid your home of slimy stains and sticky residue when the creative fun goes a step too far. Here are some surefire suggestions to get slime out of almost anything. ## Get it out of carpet You knew the silence in the other room was too good to be true, especially when it ends-up with slime on the carpet. It can be tricky to remove depending on the size of the stain. But don’t worry, it is doable with a bit of elbow grease and items you already have in your pantry. Get distilled vinegar, paper towels or rags, and a spoon. Pour some vinegar (enough to soak the area but not too much) directly onto the stain and wait for it to break down the slime. Then take the spoon and scrape away the slime and vinegar goop from the carpet. This may take a while; be careful not to scrape too hard. Now heat up some water (not boiling) and pour it onto the carpet to rinse out the remaining slime and vinegar. Remove the water with rags or paper towels and use a hair dryer to dry the carpet. ## Remove it from clothes Getting slime on clothes is icky and can be meltdown-inducing if you’re just about to go out. But don’t panic. Whether it’s on your child’s shirt or your business suit, the slime can be easily removed. Grab some vinegar or household cleaner and paper towels. Use the paper towel to mop up the slime and a spoon or butter knife to gently scrape away residue. Next, soak the stain with vinegar or household cleaner for about 5 minutes. Finally, pour some warm water on the stain to get rid of remaining slime. You can now wash the garment as usual. Maybe next time, get your children to wear aprons when playing with slime. ![How to get slime out | Apron for art | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.etsystatic.com/14622092/r/il/819ce7/1177070024/il_794xN.1177070024_24z9.jpg)Stockist: Etsy ## HOW TO REMOVE SLIME FROM COUCHES AND CAR SEATS If you’re wondering how to get slime off couches and car seats, it’s essentially the same process as before. You’ll need paper towels, rags, a spoon and something to dissolve the slime. Here we use rubbing alcohol but others swear by vinegar, hand sanitiser or all-purpose household cleaner. Use whatever you have on hand. Pour some rubbing alcohol or cleaner on the stain (make sure to soak the entire stain) and wait a few minutes. The slime should now be easier to scrape off with a spoon or butter knife. Finally, dry out the alcohol with the rag or paper towel and remove stubborn bits. You may need to repeat the process to get it all out. ## Get slime out of hair Getting slime out of your hair or your kid’s hair doesn’t have to be a nightmare. All you need is patience and something to take out the slime. For glue-based slime, vinegar works well, but you can also use shampoo, conditioner or any oil-based product. The first thing to do is get in a warm shower or dip your hair in warm water. Massage conditioner on the area and use your fingers to break up the slime. You can also use a wide-tooth comb to dislodge slime particles. Rinse out the conditioner and shampoo your hair to get rid of remaining slime. ## Get it off the walls Kids left a huge slime stain on the pristine white walls and your [rental inspection](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rental-property-inspection-pass-with-flying-colours/) is tomorrow? No worries. Use a paper towel to pick off excess slime from the wall, then use a butter knife or spoon to scrape off bits and pieces. Make sure not to rub too vigorously as you can take off the paint or wallpaper. Next, mix baking soda, water and vinegar to form a paste. You want it thick, not runny. Don’t forget to protect the floor under the stain with newspapers or cloth. Wear rubber gloves and apply the paste directly onto the wall and let it sit and dry (about 1-2 hours). Remove the dried paste with warm water and a paper towel. ## Clean it off your hands Now that you’re done playing with slime or cleaning it, here’s how to get slime off your hands. For glue-based homemade slime, soap and warm water should do the trick. More stubborn slime can be removed with vinegar. Pour some vinegar into a small basin with warm water and soak your hands for several minutes. Use a spoon to scrape off hardened slime bits. Rinse your hands with exfoliating soap and apply lotion or oil afterward. ## Final words When it comes to banishing slime from pretty much anything, you have to act fast. Don’t let that slippery sucker get the better of you! Swiftly addressing the spill, employing suitable techniques and materials, and considering the specific characteristics of the affected material are all crucial steps. Oh and always do a small test to make sure you’re not going to destroy what you are cleaning with the wrong products. Remember, timing is everything—tackle the slime head-on before it sets up shop and becomes besties with your stuff. By applying these strategies and investing a little effort, you can bid farewell to stubborn slime and restore your belongings to their pristine state. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-get-slime-out/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/how-to-get-slime-out/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** cleaning, stain removal, slime --- ### [Where to buy second hand clothes online in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/) **Published:** June 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Have you ever wondered how to find the best second hand online stores? Op shopping is growing in popularity, and with good reason. Buying pre loved clothing online is a real pleasure, plus you will [save heaps of money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/). And the real bargains are to found online, all from the comfort of your home. Pre-loved bargain hunting is the very best way to get your hands-on second-hand designer items, high-quality [clothes](https://insightclothing.co.uk/) and fashion accessories for a fraction of their original cost. And since most items are sold due to sizing issues, style-changes or need for cash, the quality is often really good. But don’t take our word for it, why not take a look yourself? We’ve put together a handy list of the best places to buy pre-loved clothes online. ***Looking to sell your stuff? See: [How and where to sell used clothes online.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sell-used-clothes-online-australia/)*** *Please note: Some websites have paid for insertion in this article, however all reviews are independently written by Beanstalk.* ## Where to buy second-hand clothes online in Australia ### [Zaful](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/37843?Url=http%3a%2f%2fwww.zaful.com%2f) [Zaful](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/37843?Url=http%3a%2f%2fwww.zaful.com%2f) sells brand new clothes and accessories that are on the trendy and young side (lots of cropped tops). Much like H&M and Forever21, the quality of the clothes can be questionable at times, but the styles are definitely cute and the prices are reasonable to average. Zaful has ongoing deals that are sorted into categories (from under $24.99 to under $3.99) so you can easily find what fits your budget. Their ‘Last Call’ sale section also has flash sales where you can grab hot items. Head to the Top Rated and Top Recommendations sections to see what other people are buying. ***Range of items sold:*** *Women and men’s clothes and accessories* ***Price range:*** *$-$$* ***Delivery cost:*** *Free standard shipping on orders over $69, otherwise from $10* ***What we like most:*** *Cute swimsuits, plus size clothes, trendy and fun style* ### [Mottanai: S**econd hand designer clothes online australia**](https://mottainaiclothing.com.au/) It’s rare to find a fashion brand that takes sustainability as seriously as Mottainai, an Australian online thrift store for affordable, pre-loved fashion. The name ‘Mottanai’ is a Japanese term that encourages the use of belongings for their entire effective life with respect and a sense of gratitude. Each piece is carefully inspected to ensure it will be of value to someone. Even their delivery service is carbon neutral using biodegradable and recyclable packaging. You’ll find your favourite brands here at up to 90% off the retail price in sizes from 4 to 22. What’s more, they also offer free shipping and free returns. If you’re looking to sell, their [Clothing Exchange](https://mottainaiclothing.com.au/exchange/) allows you to send in your pre-loved garments and receive store credit upfront. Store credit lasts forever, so you can take as long as you like to find something you love. A really great option to buy pre loved clothing online. ***Range of items sold:*** *Women’s clothes* ***Price range:*** *$-$$* ***Delivery cost:*** *Free standard shipping for orders over $75, otherwise $7.95* ***What we like most:*** *Sustainable shopping experience, huge markdowns on top brands, free shipping and returns* ### [Lifeline for preloved clothing online](https://shop.lifelineqld.org.au/) [Lifeline](https://shop.lifelineqld.org.au/) is Australia’s largest online op shop, selling preloved clothes, accessories, toys and books. What makes Lifeline stand out from other second hand shops is their huge product range and fast order processing. They have over 14,000 items listed online in 120 categories that are shipped from the warehouse within 24 hours. They also have an excellent vintage section where you can find one-of-a-kind clothes and accessories (we love the vintage band tees). Prices are what you’d expect, but there are some vintage pieces that sell for $100 and over. ***Range of items sold:** Clothes, accessories, games, toys, DVDs and books* ***Price range:** $-$$* ***Delivery cost:** Spend $58 or more online and get free shipping Australia wide, otherwise from $8.95* ***What we like most:** Thousands of available items on hand, fast dispatch* ### [The Closet](https://www.thecloset.com.au/) The Closet is an online marketplace for affordable, pre-owned fashion ranging from designer threads to shoes. Many of the items are still brand new with tags intact but are sold at a fraction of the original cost (up to 90% off your favourite brands). The Closet carefully selects the items to ensure they are authentic and in perfect condition. Whether you are a hardcore thrift shopper or just a mum who wants to look great while saving some money, the Closet is the place to go. ***Range of items sold:** Women’s clothes, shoes and accessories* ***Price range:** $-$$* ***Delivery cost:** $11.50 flat rate Australia wide* ***What we like most:** Almost new items at a fraction of the cost, money-back guarantee* ## **Best second hand online stores in Australia** ### [eBay](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?icep_id=114&ipn=icep&toolid=20004&campid=5338549815&mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fb%2FWomens-Clothing%2F15724%2Fbn_1617334) [eBay](https://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/705-53470-19255-0/1?icep_id=114&ipn=icep&toolid=20004&campid=5338549815&mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com.au%2Fb%2FWomens-Clothing%2F15724%2Fbn_1617334) is the grandma of online thrift shops so must feature on our list of best second hand online stores. The website has been around for decades with a practically endless selection of items, from vintage clothes to one of a kind jewellery and accessories. The experience is like Amazon shopping but you save much more money if you know where to look and how the system works. Some items are only up for bids like an auction, while others are available to buy instantly. You can always contact the seller if you want to negotiate prices or have a bid-only item available to buy now. ***Range of items sold:*** *Everything from clothes to books to electronics* ***Price range:*** *$-$$$* ***Delivery cost:*** *Depends on location* ***What we like most:*** *Endless variety of preloved items, hard to find and one-of-a-kind items* ### [Dear Little Panko](https://dearlittlepanko.com.au/) [Dear Little Panko](https://dearlittlepanko.com.au/) sells preloved women’s clothes, shoes and accessories with an Australian-brand focus – with sizes across sizes 6-16. With a strong focus on sustainability, they’re committed to using no plastic – and use compostable mailers, recycled paper and cardboard packaging. Items range from as low as $12 up to approximately $65-70 at the most. Find fun, colour, unique pieces and shop sustainably for around the same price as mass produced, fast fashion items! Follow them on Instagram: [@dearlittlepanko](https://www.instagram.com/dearlittlepanko/). ***Range of items sold:** pre-loved clothing, shoes and accessories (including bags, scarves, jewellery, hats and more)* ***Price range:** $-$$* ***Delivery cost:** $10 flat rate postage in Australia or free postage over $100 (Australia only), AU$15 postage for NZ up to 2kg* ***What we like most:** Celebrated Aussie brands such as Gorman, Obus, Princess Highway and Kuwaii at fast fashion prices – and a sustainable shopping experience* ### [Round She Goes](https://www.roundshegoes.com.au/) [Round She Goes](https://www.roundshegoes.com.au/) is a bargain clothes marketplace that holds a fashion market twice a year in Sydney, Melbourne and Adelaide. Known for its pre-loved designer items from Miu Miu, Gorman, Karen Walker and many others, this is the perfect thrift shopping experience for the vintage lover on a budget. The sellers at the Round She Goes pop-up markets are handpicked by the team to ensure high quality finds, diverse sizing and styles, and of course low prices. We suggest getting to the market early to get the best deals. A great website for second hand designer clothes online Australia. ***Range of items sold:** Women’s clothes, accessories and makeup, high-quality designer and vintage items* ***Price range:** $-$$* ***Delivery cost:** Free* ***What we like most:** Great vintage and designer finds* ## **WHERE TO BUY PRE LOVED CLOTHES ONLINE** ### Etsy Etsy is a favourite of the crafty, DIY and artist crowd, and it’s a great place to find second-hand and one-of-a-kind items, from clothes and shoes to toys and wall art. If designer is your thing, there are lots of vintage and brand-new vintage-y threads on offer. Etsy keeps promoting their items as being sold by independent sellers, but don’t be surprised if you find that many are shipped by big wholesale companies from overseas. The prices of some items are comparable to those sold by Amazon, but expect to pay more for unique finds or items coming from abroad. ***Range of items sold:*** *Clothes, accessories, home goods, toys, wedding supplies, art* ***Price range:*** *$-$$* ***Delivery cost:*** *Depends on location* ***What we like most:*** *Unique and one of a kind items, great vintage pieces* ### [Depop](https://www.depop.com/) [Depop](https://www.depop.com/) is a global marketplace app that is wildly popular with the younger crowd. It’s like eBay and Etsy mixed with Instagram, so no surprise that teenagers are the top users. You can also find lots of creatives and thrift store lovers here. Young people are reportedly making bank reselling second hand clothing as well as their own designs on Depop, but anyone can be a buyer or seller. Selling on Depop is pretty straightforward: List your item (from clothes to electronics to cards) for auction and invite bids, which you can accept at any time. Depop charges a 10% commission on the total transaction amount. For buyers, there’s a wide selection of low-priced, trendy fashion items and some high-end designer clothes. ***Range of items sold:** Clothes, accessories, electronics, event tickets, cards, art* ***Price range:** $-$$* ***Delivery cost:** Depends on location (Free domestic shipping)* ***What we like most:** Trendy clothes, unique items, payment protection* ![Best second hand online stores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/2.png "2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping **Tags:** online shopping, Second hand clothes, clothes shopping, op shopping --- ### [11 Ideas for a cheap yet cheerful Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/) **Published:** September 26, 2022 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** The countdown for Christmas is well and truly on. Are you feeling more frantic than festive because of the inevitable high price tag? If so, you are definitely not alone. With the cost of living rising fast, just keeping your head above water with everyday spending is a challenge. Add to that the crazy cost of Christmas and the joy can fast drain out of this special time of year. We don’t want that to happen to you. The first thing you need to do is stop, take a few deeps breaths, then make a plan. Because forward-thinking for this celebratory season will not only save you money, but will make Christmas more enjoyable for you and your family. We’ve put together a list of cheap Christmas ideas to get you into the spirit, whilst keeping your purse strings intact. They range from the build up to Christmas, right through to the big day itself. We want you to come through Christmas smiling and still have money left for some [savvy shopping at the Boxing Day sales](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/make-most-boxing-day-sales/). ## 11 Ideas for a cheap yet cheerful Christmas ### 1. Cut down on Santa Photos You can line up for hours and pay a small fortune for a photo with the big guy. Yes, those moments are precious and ones you will cherish. However, there are many stores and shopping centres which will let your child meet Santa for free, without buying an extortionately priced photo package. And, many will even let you snap your own photo with your phone. ### 2. Do a Secret Santa One of the absolute best cheap Christmas ideas is setting up a Secret Santa (also know as a Kris Kringle). No longer just for workplaces, many families are doing Secret Santa when times are tight. Instead of having to buy everyone (including Aunt Fiona and Brother-in Law Gary) a $50 gift, you instead give a more thoughtful and valuable present to just one person. This can potentially save you hundreds of dollars and save considerable time trawling the shops or the internet for Christmas presents. Keep it festive but formal so everyone know who they are buying for, with these cute Secret Santa Exchange Cards. ***Further reading: [20 Secret Santa gift ideas for under $50.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/secret-santa-gift-ideas/)*** ![Secret Santa Gift Exchange Printable PDF Christmas Gift List image 0](https://i.etsystatic.com/5690531/r/il/3fa030/2130213109/il_794xN.2130213109_n37m.jpg)Source: Etsy AU ### 3. Reframe Christmas lunch Christmas lunch can work out super expensive as we get carried away buying too much and treating ourselves to the best of everything “because it’s Christmas”. Let’s face it, kids and adults alike, are guilty of snacking all of Christmas Day, starting with chocolates from the stocking for breakfast. For this reason, ask yourself whether you need to provide a banquet style lunch, or not? Perhaps a smaller, cheaper affair will suffice. If like many, you are sharing lunch with friends and family, make sure you share the costs too. Either arrange for everyone to bring a dish or divide the cost so no one is out of pocket due to a grass-fed, organic turkey and Christmas pudding with real gold-dust sprinkled on top. ### 4. Be smart with decorations If you’re reading this, then you probably have children and they are masters at creating, especially at Christmas. Our Christmas tree has half store bought decorations and half handmade paper craft. And, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Did you know you can make a wreath out of [plastic bags and a coat hanger](http://www.thehappierhomemaker.com/2013/12/trash-bag-wreath/)? Well, apparently you can! In fact, pretty much all decorations can be hand-made instead of shop brought, and all can be reused year after year. When you take down your decorations, store them carefully in storage box and pack away in dry place, ready for next Christmas. Purchasing a new set of decorations each year is wasteful on your wallet and on the environment. ### 5. Find free festive entertainment Why pay for entertainment when you can get it for free … with a little forward planning. Find out what streets in your area have the best Christmas lights and arrange a few happy hours admiring them … don’t forget the mince pies and eggnog for your travels. Also, comb the local paper and search online for free Christmas events in your area. There is usually plenty on offer such as Christmas markets, carol singing and seasonal shows. ### 6. Make something A [homemade gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make/) is both thoughtful and priceless .. instead of pricey. Everyone appreciates a [Christmas food gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-cooking-for-kids-that-actually-works/), so bake those cookies or pop that popcorn. The key is in presentation so use beautiful jars, baskets, ribbons or mugs to package the present. You can even design vouchers for babysitting, dishwashing, driving or other services you could offer your friends or family. ## KEEP THE COST OF CHRISTMAS DOWN ### 7. Lay-by during the sales and shop smart I don’t think I could get through Christmas without pre-planning, lay-buy and online specials. [Big online stores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-shopping-websites-great-deals-christmas/) offer excellent value all year round, but most especially at Christmas. Save them in your browser and keep an eye out for sales so you hit “buy” when the price drops on the items you want. High street stores are just as helpful, offering year-round sales and lay-by services so you can purchase at sale price and pay off before Christmas. ### 8. Buy one big family gift and practical items When you have multiple children the prospect of being Santa can be daunting. Investing in one quality item for the family to share and smaller, more practical items is a good option. Pair a trampoline, cubby or Playstation for all the kids with personalised smaller gifts for each, such as books, lunch boxes and socks. Giving practical items at Christmas saves you money as you would have had to buy them anyway, passing them off as Christmas gifts is genius! ### 9. Donate for Christmas Teach your children a valuable lesson and help them donate something small to ‘kids who have nothing’. This is an easy, wallet friendly way to get into the Christmas spirit, which should always be about kindness and giving and not how much loot they can score. A great habit to get your children into while they are young. ### 10. Start a (cheap) tradition Every year my kids and I choose one new decoration each for the tree. On Christmas Eve we watch a movie and put out carrots for the reindeer and bake cookies for Santa. These are our Christmas traditions. Creating your own (cheap) family traditions will spread the festive cheer and will be something your children will always remember. Not everything we do at Christmas needs to cost the earth. Meaningful time spent together is the most valuable gift of all. ### 11. Short of cash? If you are really struggling to stretch your Christmas budget there are [lots of other ways to make money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-weird-wonderful-ways-make-money/). Try selling unwanted goods on eBay, Facebook groups or Gumtree. For those who are willing to do a little extra work, [Airtasker](https://www.airtasker.com/) has odd jobs for pocket money. If you start planning and saving early, you have more time to get ahead so you can enjoy the build up to Christmas as much as your kids do. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Cheap-yet-cheerful-Christmas-1.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/ideas-cheap-cheerful-christmas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** christmas budget, santa photos, christmas lights, christmas decorations, christmas lunch --- ### [Pretty much free Mother's Day gifts ideas 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/pretty-much-free-mothers-day-gifts/) **Published:** April 10, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Mother’s Day for single mums can be a little tricky. If Dad’s not around (or even if he is) you may find yourself in charge of arrangements. But when it comes to your special day there’s one thing you can be sure of: Your kids will definitely want to celebrate it. So even if it’s just another day to you, there is no way you can ruin their fun. If you’re the one paying, you’ll be keen to keep the cost down. After all, this is meant to be your day and fretting about money will put the mockers on your ‘chilled out mama’ mode. I’m the first to admit that I’d love to be on the receiving end of a pricey gift, but there are lots of other things I’d be just as happy with. And the more my children have enjoyed making or organising it, the better. You can inspire your children with our list of pretty much free Mother’s Day gift ideas. Depending on their age, you can just plant the seeds and leave the rest to them. Or, if they’re younger, give them a little guidance and pretend you don’t really know what they’re planning. Just remember to look super-surprised on Mother’s Day morning and [celebrate Mother’s Day in style.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-reasons-celebrate-single-mum-mothers-day/) ## CHEAP AND FREE MOTHER’S DAY GIFT IDEAS ### CREATE A CARD Why spend money on a Mother’s Day card when there are so many free options online. I like the ones that can be printed and coloured in. Kids can add their own personal touch and it’s a great activity to keep them amused for a bit. As a starting point, there’s a nice selection available at [The Spruce Crafts](https://www.thesprucecrafts.com/free-mother-s-day-coloring-pages-1357879). ### MAKE A MENU, MAKE A MEAL Cooking is a wonderful way for children to display their love and affection. It doesn’t have to be expensive or messy. For younger kids simply leave the food out and let them plate and serve it while you ‘relax’. Or try these easy recipes from [BBC Good Food](http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/howto/guide/top-10-mothers-day-treats-kids-make). Oh and print our [Mothers Day Menu](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Mothers-Day-Menu.pdf) template for your child to colour and complete, so you know what delights you have in store. ![Menu template mother's day gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Screen-Shot-2020-04-14-at-1.13.25-pm.png "Screen Shot 2020-04-14 at 1.13.25 pm - Beanstalk Mums") For free from [Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Mothers-Day-Menu.pdf) ### PLAN A PAMPER SESSION This one is a goody, with ‘pamper’ generally meaning ‘give me some peace and quiet’. Ask your child for a pamper session and you can sit back with your favourite music and a cup of tea (or glass of wine) while they massage your hands and feet. If you’re feeling brave let them apply a face mask and put cucumbers on your eyes. And don’t hold them back if they want to serve you chocolates or other little treats they think you’ll love. ### COMPLETE A UNIQUE COUPON BOOK I love this idea. Your children can create coupons from scratch or print a template from the Internet. They then complete them with [age appropriate chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/)/favours for the course of the day, week or whatever. Things like ‘tidy my room’, ‘make a cup of tea’, ‘breakfast in bed’ or ‘a big hug’. These can actually be really handy … so long as they are honoured! ![Mother's Day coupons mother's day gift ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Screenshot-2023-04-10-at-10.50.18-am.png "Mother's Day coupons - Beanstalk Mums") Available from [Homemade Gifts Made Easy](https://www.homemade-gifts-made-easy.com/mothers-day-coupons.html) ### PHOTOGRAPHIC MEMORIES AND MOMENTS Why not ask for a photo gift? My 12 year old daughter makes some beautiful photo collages on her phone. As with most children, she has a natural ability and know-how to make them look professional and far superior than anything I’d do. They could create a collage or a moving slideshow with music using an app such as [Canva](https://www.canva.com/q/pro-photo-collages/travel/?utm_source=google_sem&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=REV_AU_EN_CanvaPro_Sitelink&gclid=Cj0KCQiAhP2BBhDdARIsAJEzXlHEZAfOdXRHP2WKzZwOa4PsK5pvGjWN0SYATnRmp-1YWEm0o8fAw7IaAqs3EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds)? As a busy mum, organising photos is something you may not have time for, so this would be a fabulous gift. ### WHIP UP A BODY SCRUB Smellies are always a hit as a Mother’s Day gift. And homemade ones are even better. Children will love concocting simple body scrubs to make you even more beautiful than you already are. They are easy-peasy to make and the ingredients lists are short and cheap. The Internet has plenty to offer, but a good starting point is this [Sugar Scrub](http://kidsactivitiesblog.com/13523/homemade-gifts-kids-can-make-sugar-scrub) from Kids Activities. An easy and pretty much free Mother’s Day gift. ## Pretty much free Mother’s Day gift ideas (cont.) ### PERFORM A MOTHER’S DAY MATINEE Young children love nothing more than putting on a show. Singing, dancing, acting … they love to perform. Ask them to produce a small Mother’s Day matinee. It works especially well if you have more than one child. Well, that is, if they don’t argue. If they need motivation direct them to [DLTK Holidays](http://www.dltk-holidays.com/mom/songs/) for lots of Mother’s Day poems and songs to get them started. You could even get them to make the popcorn too. ### MAKE A ’10 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT YOU’ MINI BOOK Don’t panic. This is easier than it sounds. Download a template from Etsy – there are heaps available. Your child will then have 10 prettily decorated slips to complete with reasons why they love you. They then cut them out and attached them together to create a mini book. This is a beautiful gift. A combination of craft and inspiration with a huge helping of love. Something to be cherished forever. ![Coupons mother's day gift ideas](https://i.etsystatic.com/7712170/r/il/c0f7e1/2281153089/il_794xN.2281153089_rj32.jpg)Available from Etsy AU ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Hopefully this list of almost free Mother’s Day gifts gives you some idea what to ask for this year. None of them will break the bank and they provide good activities for your children to get stuck into. Most importantly, they’ll get enormous pleasure when they give them to you.* *I guess all that’s left for me to say is I hope you have a truly wonderful Mother’s Day. May you relax and revel in your rewarding role of ‘mum’. And remember, it’s a whole year until the next one … so make the very most of it.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/pretty-much-free-mothers-day-gifts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/pretty-much-free-mothers-day-gifts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Mother's Day, Shopping **Tags:** Presents, homemade gifts, gifts to make --- ### [30 Tattoos for single mums to celebrate single motherhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-for-single-mums/) **Published:** July 27, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you thinking of getting a tattoo? They can be a beautifully symbolic way to celebrate a new phase in your life. And more and more women are rocking tats as a way to celebrate single motherhood. Hence this article about tattoos for single mums. I recently included “getting a tattoo” on this list of [10 Crazy things to break up the monotony of mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/breakup-monontony-of-mum-life/). But unlike activities like skydiving (if you dare!), a tattoo is a lasting symbol of something meaningful, intermingled with a tiny bit of craziness. ## Before you get your tattoo ### Where to have your tattoo Think carefully about this one ladies. I had a tattoo on my ankle thinking it was a safe place until got a job that required a skirt suit (we’re talking 20+ years ago, can you believe that was allowed?) and it meant hiding the tattoo under a plaster every-bloody-day. Don’t only think of the present but the future too so there are no regrets with your placement choice. ### The reason for your tattoo If you want a tattoo just because it looks nice, go for it! However, if you want a tattoo to symbolise something, make sure you get it right. Try this: Imagine if someone says to you “I love your tattoo, does it have a meaning?”. What will you say? Can you explain it easily. By thinking like this, it can help you choose a tattoo which represents exactly what you want … in this case … a celebration of single motherhood. ### The right tattoo artist for you Choosing a tattoo artist is up there with choosing a life partner … you need to completely trust them. Check out tattoo parlours in your local area and look at samples of their artwork and past body inks. Chat to them about what you want. If you still can’t find anyone, ask around. The school playground, friends, the guy in the coffee shop whose tatt you’ve been admiring for ages. Or even ask on a local FB group. Recommendations are best when it comes to finding a tattoo artist for your permanent body paint. ### The future of your tattoo We don’t all get it right with our tattoos. I’ve had one removed and more people are doing it as laser machines make the process less expensive and less painful than it was, say, ten years ago. I urge you to choose a design that will pass the test of time but if you choose to remove it, there are ways. You may want to check out the [cost of tattoo removal in Melbourne](https://removery.com/au/blog/tattoo-removal-melbourne-cost/) or anywhere near your area, as well as the procedures related to tattoo removal. If you need ink inspiration, here are some cute tattoos perfect for single mums loving life. ***Further reading: [10 Tattoo ideas for legs that are classy and cool.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tattoo-ideas-legs/)*** ## 30 Tattoos for single mums ## 1. Beautiful blooms First-up on my list of tattoos for single mums we have the beautiful blooms. Anything to do with growth and flowers is a pretty and significant way to show how far you’ve come, and we love the way this one fits perfectly around the ankle bone. ![Beautiful blooms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/6946011f54c1f7b921948d9b35e8adde.jpg "6946011f54c1f7b921948d9b35e8adde - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/485755509802137871/) ## 2. With pain comes strength Simple words with such potent meaning. You can have play around with the layout of this powerful sentence depending where on your body you are planning put it. ![With pain comes strength](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/f4/a6/2b/f4a62b12c5a81ec2e6d9e8da4828a279.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/523262050448390213/?lp=true) ## 3. Sparkling stars Not only do stars make a pretty tattoo but they symbolise truth. Stars shine brightly in the night sky, for this reason they are thought to give hope of a better path in life. I think this is one of the most app tattoos to celebrate single motherhood. ![Sparkling stars tattoos for single mums](https://stylesatlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Star-Tattoo-Designs1.jpg) Source: [Popstart Tats](http://www.popstartats.com/rihanna-tattoos/ri-neck-ear/string-of-stars/) ## 4. Angel wings Feeling brave? These wings certainly make a statement. Angel wings are wonderfully spiritual and stand for protection and guidance. This angelic tattoo can be way less stubble too, with small wings in more discreet areas. ![Angel wings](https://stylesatlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Wings-Tattoos2.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/18577417199126997/) ## 5. Free Such a gorgeous little tattoo that could go almost anywhere … too cute! If you’ve come out of an unhappy, controlling relationship, this simple word says it all. I saw a mum at school with this the other day and was super jealous. ![Free tattoos for single mums](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo10.jpg?itok=-wSXtVQQ) Source: [Free Tattoo Ideas Designs](http://freetattooideasdesigns.blogspot.com/2015/06/free-tatoos.html) ## 6. Mum and child Show the eternal bond between you and your kid with this super-duper cute mum and child tattoo. Add their name, a sweet phrase or a significant date (like your child’s birthday) to make it even more meaningful. ![Mother and child](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/40/1d/db/401ddb9dc90cb8241ad6fd88765d3860.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.cl/pin/304344887319574783/) ## 7. My body my rules Empowering tattoos like this one are awesome if you want to make a bold statement about who is ultimately in control of your body … you. ![My body my rules tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/3e/6f/7f/3e6f7fda00a7d92f94c0313c51f0be96.jpg) Source: [Tattooing is an Art](https://tattooingisanart.tumblr.com/post/146286427679/kerry-burke) ## 8. Birds Birds make for a classic statement tattoo. A couple of birds on your ankle, wrist or back are graceful, elegant and timeless. They symbolise vitality, freedom, spirituality and peace. I remember seeing a cool chick (younger than me) with a tattoo like this one on her neck and it really worked … must have hurt though! ![Birds](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/d0/71/67/d07167439a6193ff46dca292fa07cde7.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/523332419200879007/?lp=true) ## 9. Phoenix rising Phoenix rising from the ashes represents a complete rebirth and renewal of body and soul. If you’ve ever gone through a particularly difficult time (and who hasn’t), a rising phoenix tattoo is a statement to the world that you have overcome and emerged the winner. ![Phoenix rising tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/88/f5/b3/88f5b3d311e8d93f4c42ef65580bd1d4.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/663014376369970245/) ## 10. Lotus flower The open lotus flower is a symbol of enlightenment, calmness, peace and focus, while a half-closed lotus means growth of spirit and mind. A beautiful lotus flower tattoo is just the thing if you want to attract clarity and peace of mind. ![Lotus flower](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/29/7a/47/297a475fecea4a7423771259de2579c7.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.co.uk/TheScrapbookerUK/back-tattoos-for-women/) ## 11. Enough I’ve said this word to my kids enough times! This one-word tattoo is a powerful and succinct way to tell yourself and the world that you’ve had enough, or that you are enough and you can achieve your goals just as you are. I didn’t realise how much power there was behind this word until I saw this tattoo. ![Enough tattoos for single mums](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo21.jpg?itok=Q34UDoW2) Source: [FYeah Tattoos](https://fyeahtattoos.com/post/40687197299/got-my-first-tattoo-on-september-22nd-of-2012-as-a) ## 12. Tree of life This beautiful tree of life tattoo in all its leafy glory symbolises immortality, knowledge, wisdom, strength and protection, as well as growth, abundance and salvation. The design below is a temporary tattoo but you could use it as a guide for your tattoo artist. I love it as a back tattoo, but you can also put a more discreet version on your wrist or ankle. ![Tree of life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.05.42-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Source: Etsy AU ## 13. Dreamcatcher The lovely dreamcatcher makes a great tattoo as it represents the circle of life, safety and protection (dreamcatchers catch bad dreams during the night). Choose this tattoo as a talisman against negativity and a symbol of hope for the future. Not sure how good it would look around my 47yo boobs! ![Dreamcatcher tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/4d/1a/39/4d1a3929d80da5d499b801245019d5d4.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/297870962840597712/) ## 14. Still I rise Another empowering, positive phrase for women and single mums, ‘Still I Rise’ is recognisable from a Maya Angelou poem about rising above the struggles and difficulties of life. This tattoo is a great reminder that you have defeated hard times and can beat anything. ![Still I rise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.12.19-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Conscious Ink](https://consciousink.com/collections/empowering-tattoos/products/still-i-rise-manifestation-tattoo-2-pack?fromi=1&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Pinterest) ## 15. Family We know family is all important, and you can show it on your body with this simple but gorgeous tattoo. Whatever family means to you (it can be the one you came from or the one you create), this tattoo will remind you daily of your ‘why’ … even on the days your kids are driving you mad. ![Family tattoos for single mums](https://www.tattoosbag.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Birds-and-Family-Tattoo.jpg) Source: [TattoosBag](http://www.tattoosbag.com/51-pretty-family-wording-tattoos-on-wrist/) ## 30 Tattoos for single mums (cont.) ## 16. Mum and children This simple tattoo lets you ink on your body an image of the people you love the most. It will remind you why you work hard and push through when the going gets tough. ![Mum and children](https://cf.ltkcdn.net/tattoos/images/std/231069-325x325-mother-and-twins-tattoo.jpg) Source: [WJBQ](https://wjbq.com/15-maine-moms-share-their-tattoos-that-honor-their-children/) ## 17. Crown Nothing’s better than a crown tattoo to keep you empowered and positive. A crown symbolises leadership, authority and also good luck. As single mums, we wear our crowns everyday, and with this tattoo, you really will! ![Crown tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/1f/17/5b/1f175bd1bfcd6d147598c25c71ab7f0b.jpg) Source: [Tatuajes Geniales](http://www.tatuajesgeniales.com/coronas/) ## 18. This too shall pass When you’re in the midst of overwhelming difficulty, the ‘This too shall pass’ tattoo reminds you that there’s nowhere to go but up. So dust yourself off and pick yourself up because this will pass and the sun will shine again. Two people at my exercise class have this, but don’t let the popularity put you off as there are an infinite amount of ways to ink them. ![This to shall pass](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/80/b6/4f/80b64fdd731594c3b818a0bd9e07f684.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/27373510221649426/) ## 19. Celtic new beginnings This popular Celtic tattoo is actually on a list of tattoos for men but don’t let that stop you. Apparently it symbolises new beginnings, and the original artist claimed to have received it from the angels. Feel free to attach your own meaning and let it inspire you to create the life of your dreams. ![Celtic new beginnings tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/cd/d5/99/cdd599ebf8a639480614422ca81d542d.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/307441112044747108/) ## 20. Bow and arrow This pretty bow and arrow tattoo is both trendy and deeply meaningful. Arrow designs are connected to the Sagittarius zodiac sign that represents love, power, strength and a good sense of direction. One of my faves. ![Bow and arrow](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.20.43-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Ranker](https://www.ranker.com/list/sagittarius-tattoo-designs/tat-fancy) ## 21. Feather and birds As you can see, I love bird tattoos! This feather and birds one looks so beautiful on the arm, symbolising truth, courage, bravery, freedom and travel. Feathers can also mean messages from the spirit world as well as spiritual protection. ![Feather and birds tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/47/49/28/47492812ddb0fbae106a1de836988a13.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/540432024018571486/) ## 22. I am not afraid to walk this world alone Single mums and single women who need reassurance that they are enough should get this empowering tattoo. ‘I am not afraid to walk this world alone’ is a statement from the soul, a mantra for living bravely and fearlessly. ![I am not afraid to walk this earth alone](https://www.oddee.com/wp-content/uploads/_media/imgs/articles2/a98987_divorce-tat_7.jpg) Source: [PrettyDesigns](http://www.prettydesigns.com/45-tattoo-quote-ideas-women/) ## 23. Butterfly The butterfly is known as a symbol of growth and rebirth. As human beings we are always in flux, and this wonderful butterfly tattoo reminds us that personal transformation is a process, sometimes long, but worth it in the end. ![Butterfly tattoos for single mums](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/578e9178dad7e8cbaff45e95b07b205c.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/264586546835609271/) ## 24. Cosmetic eyebrow tattoos For single mums looking for a lasting and meaningful self-care option, [cosmetic eyebrow tattoos](https://tanyabeautycare.com/pages/eyebrows "cosmetic eyebrow tattoos") can provide an effortless beauty solution that enhances confidence every day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Image-1200x385.png "Image - Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Tanya Beauty Care](https://tanyabeautycare.com/pages/eyebrows) ## Our final Tattoos for single mums ## 25. Dragonfly The dragonfly is the butterfly’s less popular but equally symbolic and beautiful cousin. Dragonflies symbolise deep thoughts and a higher subconscious, and a dragonfly tattoo reminds us of the importance of the spirit world and things we cannot touch. Why not go for the dragonfly instead of the butterfly? It is far more fearless. ![Dragonfly tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/b2/c5/4c/b2c54c6ffbfaeeb7e5041bbfacddc19e.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/209347082665948562/) ## 26. Love me for who I am The words in this tattoo are simple but powerful: Love me for who I am. For anyone who’s ever questioned their worth because of someone else’s callousness or cruelty, this tells the world that you are worthy of love just as you are. ![Love me for who I am](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.25.06-am.png "Screen Shot 2022-10-19 at 8.25.06 am - Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Candystarz](https://www.instagram.com/p/BgExYBQDEOE/) ## 27. Mandala A pretty mandala tattoo can mean anything depending on your culture, religion or personal beliefs. The mandala in Hinduism and Buddhism represent the universe and a search for completeness and self-unity. Personally, I just love the pattern. ![Mandala tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c7/e0/61/c7e061b7884595119d89055809526f28.jpg) Source: [Bokainktattoo](https://www.instagram.com/bokainktattoo/) ## 28. Sometimes you need to let things go This tattoo is perfect for people who tend to hold on to things they should let go of, whether it’s a bad relationship or a soulless career. Get this tattoo and let it go. ![Sometimes you need to let things go](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.27.45-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/263742121904291543/) ## 29. Peace dove More peace is something I could seriously do with in my life. The peace dove tattoo represents calm, tranquility and all things that comfort you when things go awry. The graceful peace dove is a reminder that some things are not worth it if they destroy your inner peace. ![Peace dove tattoos for single mums](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/89/f9/0e/89f90e77297c5fa06dc454fbc0628130.jpg) Source: [Shannon Wages](https://www.flickr.com/photos/wages/3489570430/) ## 30. Everything happens for a reason Everything really does happen for a reason. I say that all the time! If you are like me and seriously believe this, then why not get the words in tattoo form? You can get this inked big and bold or small and discreet. Test it out with a temporary tattoo like the one below. ![Everything happens for a reason](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Screen-Shot-2022-10-19-at-8.30.39-am.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Source: Etsy AU ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/tattoos-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** tattoo ideas, tattoo meanings, tattoo --- ### [Money saving tips for single mums: Easy ways to save](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/) **Published:** May 31, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the biggest challenges of being a single mum is the financial impact. Even so, it can be the last thing on your mind as you navigate the murky waters of a break-up. For many, it’s not until later that the financial implications hit home. You wake up and wonder where the money is going. And then we need all the money saving tips we can find! According to a survey by [Raising Children:](http://www.education.vic.gov.au/Documents/childhood/parents/support/singlemothers.pdf) > *“Single mums have 47% less disposable income than coupled families.”* Mildly worrying? Or a reason to get proactive to make more money and to save more of what we make? Wouldn’t it be nice to have money every time you need it? Having savings can make you feel more at peace. If you want to take the strain off your haemorrhaging wallet, it’s time to check our brilliant ways to help you save money. For our American single mums following our content, please see **[this insightful resource](https://dealhack.com/blog/single-parent-savings-guide).** ***Further reading: [How Franchise Opportunities Make Great Side Hustles for Busy Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-franchise-opportunities-make-great-side-hustles-for-busy-mums/)*** ## Simple money-saving tips to help single mums ## Save money in the home ### Control the temperature Do you need to heat or cool your house? If so, be mindful of the costs; power bills can be hefty. To maintain the required temperature in the rooms you’re using, shut doors/curtains and use door snakes. One of the easiest ways to reduce your energy usage is to switch off temperature control appliances when you’re not using them. Start making this a habit and see if it helps lessen your electric bill. ### Borrow tools Borrow tools/machines for home maintenance jobs that you rarely do. There’s always a neighbour or friend who will oblige and you can thank them with a home-made cake or a hand-drawn card from your children, which costs hardly anything. While we’re at it, learn how to fix things around the house yourself. You can do simple tasks yourself instead of paying for professional services. ### Time your showers We Australians love to shower. It might sound over the top, but get in the habit of timing your showers, especially those of your kids. There’s no need to be too frugal; just remember that a number of long, luxurious showers daily will play havoc with your water bill. ### Freeze your food Turn your freezer into your best friend to manage your weekly budget. There are so many ways you can stay within your budget here and prevent food items from going stale quickly. Buy in bulk and freeze. Buy in season and freeze. Cook a huge batch and freeze. Get more great ideas from this article: [15 Make ahead freezer meals your kids will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/15-make-ahead-freezer-meals-your-kids-will-love/). Aside from reducing food waste, this trick is also a great time saver. ### Teach kids about money goals [Teach your children about money ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-to-teach-kids-about-money/)by making them do [age-appropriate chores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/) for pocket money. Encourage them to save so they understand the value and importance of finance in our everyday lives. You can use a pocket money app like [Spriggy](https://register.spriggy.com.au/sign_up/beanstalk) or just a good old piggy bank to help you budget and save. When they’re older, you can help them open a savings account. They can put a little in their account each month. No matter how small. Having their own debit or deposit account will also teach responsibility and independence. [![Spriggy pocket money -Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/spriggy-pocket-money-app.png)](https://register.spriggy.com.au/sign_up/beanstalk)Image: [Spriggy for kids pocket money](https://register.spriggy.com.au/sign_up/beanstalk) ## Save money at the shops ### Eat before you shop Don’t go to the supermarket on an empty stomach. You’ll end up buying food you don’t need and eating half of it on the way home! Have a snack before you go if necessary. And make sure you know all the [money-saving tips for grocery shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/save-money-groceries/). Oh, and while we’re on the topic of shopping, remember to bring your reusable bag. This way, you won’t have to pay additional fees for shopping bags. ### Make a list Prepare a list of groceries. Don’t attempt to visualise the contents of your fridge to remember if you need more milk while you’re shopping. You’ll end up getting things you don’t need (and forgetting stuff you do need). By preparing a list, you’re less likely to overspend. ### Stay within your budget Going on a shopping spree? That’s lovely, but make sure you stay within your budget. Leave your naughty-but-nice credit cards at home, and only take the cash you have available to spend. There’s nothing wrong with telling your kids that you need to downgrade on some things due to the rising cost of living. In fact, it’ll make your children your partners in this journey. ### Buy from charity shops You can save big time by buying clothes from charity shops. There are some great bargains to be found, many of which are brand/nearly new. This is especially good for children’s clothes as they grow out of them so quickly (and they won’t know where you got them). Take a look at [second-hand clothes shops online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/); you’ll be pleasantly surprised by what you find without having to pay the full price. ### Shop off-season Christmas shopping undoubtedly gets more expensive as children get older. To help you save, spread the cost throughout the year by setting up a savings account with a small automated payment. By the time Christmas comes around, you’ll be off on the right foot with money ready to spend. ### Shop online Try [shopping for groceries online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-grocery-shopping-tips/). Not only will it save you heaps of time, but you’ll also save money on petrol. You can check out all the current discounts and related products at the click of a button. But the best bit is that you can see exactly what you’re spending as you shop – a simple way to avoid overspending. [![Grocery shopping online - money saving tips](https://www.woolworths.com.au/content/content/affiliiliate-header-banner.jpg)](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/D2LAd)Image: [Woolworths Online](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/D2LAd) ## Money-saving tips for socialising ### Eat out less Cut back on meals and café dates with friends, especially with your children, as they’ll leave a gaping hole in your purse. Instead suggest you meet at the park or someone’s house where everyone can provide some food/drink. Another option is to offer to provide the venue and eat at home instead. You can borrow your friend’s coffee machine and spend your time gossiping while baking cookies. See how much you can save! ### Pay your own food If you’re lucky enough to have a night out with friends, explain that you’ll pay your own way and make careful, low-cost choices. Don’t get stuck in a round where you could end up paying for other people’s expensive tastes. I mean, maybe you like buying for your friends, but you’re trying to save. Surely, they’ll understand. ### Check for special deals Before you go anywhere that costs money, i.e. a theme park, restaurant, or cinema, check online for special deals. There’s usually something to be had, and you’ll kick yourself if you get there and find you could have saved money by simply printing a voucher. Coupons can greatly reduce the amount you have to pay. Look at how much savings you can make! ## And yet more easy saving tips money smart single mums ## General ways to grow your savings ### Use your local library The library is one of the best ways to save money. Not only can you borrow a huge array of books. You can also rent children’s toys and even movies without paying for a streaming service. Our local library has computers available for kids to play games and a selection of floor activities for toddlers. It makes for an easy and free afternoon out. Some libraries will even loan you a laptop so you don’t have to buy one. Not only that, you could rent [one of these brilliant finance books](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/personal-finance-books-to-save-money/) that will teach you to budget and save… and even earn extra money! ### Cut back on daily treats Are you buying lunch at work every day or grabbing a coffee after school pick-up? Sometimes, you don’t realise they already total at a heavy price tag. Don’t miss out entirely (we all need treats), but try to limit them and see how much you save. Spending a little on treats for yourself or the kids is OK… just don’t go overboard. Setting a savings scheme like a treat jar can boost your savings for these little doses of happiness. ### Check out free personal finance apps [Personal finance apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/top-money-budget-apps/) are a great way to budget and ultimately reach your financial goals. Make sure you check out the many free options available. You can even get free taxation advice. You’re looking for something that you can personalise to help track your spending habits. ### Consider your childcare options Is it costing you too much? There are many different types of childcare available, and they don’t all cost the earth. Try organising a vacation care club with other school mums, or look into other ways of managing childcare that are less pricey than your current arrangements. You can literally save hundreds by trying out other options. By the way, have you heard about Australia’s Centrelink childcare subsidy? ### Keep on top of your bank account/s Make a time every week to run through your statements online. This way, you can identify any errors (they do happen) and get your head around your income and expenses. You can then identify where you need to tighten the purse strings to reach your goals. You must also shop around at different banks. Find one that offers higher interest on your account, and watch your savings grow. Alternatively, have you looked into term deposits? If you have some money on hand, you can lock it in to secure higher interests. ### Travel off-peak Travel is expensive. If you’re planning a holiday, avoid peak travel times (especially flying), such as public holidays and, if possible, school holidays. Search online for specials and check your loyalty cards to see if you can redeem points for flights, accommodation, or activities. One of the best money-saving tips for holidays is to Airbnb your home while you’re away. Everybody’s doing it, and it may even pay for your whole holiday! ## Save money on your bills ### Compare insurance policies Make a note of when your insurance policies expire, and make sure your crafty insurance company doesn’t automatically roll your policy into another year at whatever cost they choose. Use super-fast websites such as [Compare The Market](http://www.comparethemarket.com.au/) to compare policies, as you’re bound to find something cheaper. The same with health insurance. Make sure you have the [right health insurance for a single-parent family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/manage-rising-private-health-insurance-costs-single-income/). ### Check your bank fees Have you checked the fees on your bank account lately? Bank fees can chip away from your savings without you realising. The banking market is more competitive than ever and some banks don’t charge monthly fees or overdrawn penalties anymore. [Bank account comparison sites ](http://www.infochoice.com.au/banking/bank-account/comparison/)make it quick and easy to find the best deal. No need for bank loyalty here. Swap if you can save. ### Purge your memberships and subscriptions You should regularly review your bank statements and check that you are not paying for memberships or subscriptions you no longer use. Is your gym membership burning calories or just a hole in your pocket? If you don’t use it, then cancel it. After all, walking and running are easy ways to help manage your budget… and they’re free! ### Check the details of your utility bills How carefully do you check regular payments on your utility bills? Take five minutes to check the details. Are you being charged correctly? If you don’t understand anything, then call and get clarification. And if you have time, shop around. If you find something cheaper, tell your original supplier, and they may beat the price, so you’ll pay less without the hassle of changing providers. ## Conclusion: Tips for money savvy mums You may think the money-saving tips I’ve listed above seem basic, and that’s why these expenses are so easy to overlook. These are little things that are so ordinary that we take them for granted. But if you take a closer look at your everyday expenses, you’ll find you could be spending above your budget! That’s how important knowing how you spend money is to hitting your savings goal. By starting to be mindful of making small changes to how you handle your finances, you can save more money in the long run. Start implementing these tips to make you feel more in control of your savings in the long term. Who knows? With those small savings, you can one day have enough for that house deposit. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Money-saving-single-mums.png "Money saving single mums - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/money-saving-tips-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** save money, grocery shopping, budget, frugal, finance, cost of living --- ### [Easy Book Week costumes you can make at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/) **Published:** July 14, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Book Week. It’s a bit like Vegemite .. you love it or you hate it. And for time-poor mums, it’s most likely the latter. Not that we don’t enjoy helping our little ones dress up as their favourite fictional character, but who has the time? Hopefully, we can encourage you to get into the spirit of things and join your kids in celebrating this annual celebration of books with our cheap and easy Book Week costume ideas. ***Further reading: [20 Hilarious ideas for crazy hair day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/crazy-hair-day/)*** ## Easy Book Week costumes you can make at home ## 1. Angelina Ballerina Every little girl loves Angelina Ballerina so Book Week is a perfect opportunity to don the tutu and tail. An especially easy choice if your daughter is already a ballet dancer and has the gear to hand. ![Angelina Ballerina easy book week costumes](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/pinterest6.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/79305643418125405/) ## 2. Katniss from The Hunger Games Katniss Everdeen is one of the most recognisable characters in fiction. Super cool and easy to put together, it’s a perfect choice if your little girl has long, dark brown hair. ![Katniss from The Hunger Games](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/instagram.com_....jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/264516178093543838/) ## Book week costumes ideas DIY ## 3. The BFG Roald Dahl’s much-loved The BFG is a perfect character to portray during Book Week, especially if your boy is tall and lanky. ![The BFG easy book week costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/4e/59/34/4e5934288d693ad116480aab30fa283f.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/351843789617008143/) ## 4. Charlotte’s Web This iconic web is as easy as ABC. Grab some white felt cloth, black yarn, a toy spider, scissors, and glue to start saving Wilbur! ![Charlotte's Web](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d6/8a/76/d68a76623e3d8c158824116958dabedf.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/212724782378502712/) ## 5. Matilda Miss Honey’s beloved five-and-half-year-old is one of the easy Book Week costumes to set up, using normal clothes already in your little girl’s wardrobe. Definitely a perfect character if your little girl is already a precocious book lover. ![Matilda](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/f2/69/2d/f2692da355daf69c4d8633f46ea95212.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/533184043363072588/) ## 6. Little Miss Sunshine Little Miss Sunshine is another excellent choice for your cheerful and polite little miss. If she’s not really the bubbly type, you can also choose another character from the series that better fits her unique personality. ![Little Miss Sunshine easy book week costumes](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/pinterest3.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/364932376038778443/) ## 7. Captain Underpants With a bodysuit, white undies, and a cape, Captain Underpants is another top pick for funny and easy Book Week costumes. The cap is essential for that definitive oddly-shaped head! ![Captain Underpants](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/90/83/d0/9083d08f628c31d04d8b2dbcbcf77e08.jpg)Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/319403798565497525/?lp=true) ## 8. Queen of Hearts Can your kid bring playing cards to school? Well, on Book Week, yes! The Queen of Hearts is one of the most recognisable yet easy Book Week costumes to set up. ![Queen of Hearts easy book week costumes](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/pinterest4.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/226657793727733536/) ## Easy Book Week costumes you can make at home (cont.) ## 9. Golden Ticket from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory What kid doesn’t dream of a lifetime supply of chocolate? The Golden Ticket costume is fairly easy to make. Your kid and her friends can go as a team of five highly-coveted tickets and scatter themselves all around the school grounds for added fun. ![Golden Ticket from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d8/23/54/d823541f0b7d4895bebf6863b4e1c2e9.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/463096774165514175/?lp=true) ## 10. Billionaire Boy If your boy fancies being a billionaire for a day, Book Week is definitely the perfect time to play as one. Fill up his tux with a handful of play money and lots of shiny, flashy bling. ![Billionaire Boy easy book week costumes](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/pinterest88.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/355080751851483002/) ## 11. Room on the Broom If your little girl can’t wait for October, the Book Week is the second best time to play a witch. What’s great is you can simply recycle her previous costumes from Halloween. Plus, she has an excuse to take her stuffed friends to school. ![Room On The Broom easy book week costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/74/e3/4a/74e34ab7aa4db190c425f0b3019587cb.jpg)Picture source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/137078382385103889/?lp=true) ## 12. Paddington Bear Add this adorable and universally loved British icon to your list of easy Book Week costumes. Great for boys and girls alike, don’t forget the bucket hat and marmalade to perfect the get up of this adventure-loving bear. ![Paddington Bear](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/ee/19/bb/ee19bb1ffafdea7a2944223da39fa9b0.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/388365167850025174/?lp=true) ## 13. Mr. Stink If your little boy is not really feeling a Billionaire Boy (also written by the same author) for the next Book Week, perhaps he’d like to be the funny old tramp, Mr. Stink. Unkempt hair, beard, and an old trenchcoat are all you need. If you an get your hands on a toy Yorkshire Terrier, it will complete this iconic look. [![Mr Stink easy book week costumes](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/hf2/h3f/104778998448158.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/EE7YoW)Image source: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/EE7YoW) ## Final book week costumes ideas DIY ## 14. Fox in Socks Dr. Seuss is a staple in every Book Week, and the Fox in Socks is an easy costume to DIY. Put on bright red orange overalls or coordinates on your little one, a fox mask made of cardboard, and, of course, the definitive blue socks. ![Fox in Socks](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/b5/d6/0a/b5d60a14c3b3049b7965a38d8d5f3049.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/106467978675931715/) ## 15. Hermione Granger from Harry Potter It’s no surprise that Harry Potter is a go-to whenever there’s a book- or movie-themed event, since the costumes are generic and widely available. If your little girl wants to cosplay as the series’ resident smarty-pants, make sure to keep the bushy brown hair, and let her memorise a few difficult spells. ![Hermione Granger from Harry Potter easy book week costumes](https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/hermione-halloween-costume-tutorial-1536764891.jpg)Image source: [Country Living](https://www.countryliving.com/diy-crafts/g21286780/diy-harry-potter-costumes/) ## 16. Saucepan Man from The Faraway Tree Saucepan Man is a favourite character Enid Blyton’s The Faraway Tree. Enamel kettles and cups will make for a more realistic Saucepan Man. But covering them in aluminum foil, like in this picture, can help minimise the clickety clack when your little boy runs in the hallways. ![Saucepan Man from the Faraway Tree](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/ba/18/d9/ba18d91feec77ad8a3bbf87b3d07f510.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/379287599851622798/) ## 17. Zac Power The essence of being a secret agent is that you can’t stand out, so a super spy costume should be easy to recreate using things your kid already owns. He can simply go to Book Week in his ordinary clothes, adding a few makeshift gadgets here and there to embody being Zac Power. ![Zac Power easy book week costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/fc/4e/78/fc4e7810d527b4e5ca8886140c19a894.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/480407485243254895/?lp=true) ## 18. Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter Harry Potter has a range of easy Book Week costumes to choose from, and Luna Lovegood one of the unique ones. You might have to buy several things to assemble the look, but we’re sure your little girl will have a delightful time as this dreamy Ravenclaw. ![Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71YhbAkJqmL._AC_SL1500_.jpg)Image source: [Amazon Australia](https://www.amazon.com.au/Harry-Potter-Lovegood-Costume-X-Small/dp/B07TCCVSFY) ## 19. Zog Turning your little one into Zog needs just a handful of parts you have to DIY: the ears, a horn, a mask, and wings. Then, simply don orange clothes, and off to school the keenest dragon goes! ![Zog easy book week costumes](https://i.pinimg.com/564x/41/96/16/41961649ef17222c3c85f6178e22e857.jpg)Image source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/438608451189744188/?lp=true) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/easy-book-week-costumes-make-at-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** school, world book day, world book week, book week, costumes, fancy dress --- ### [Why dreaming isn't everything but it certainly helps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-dreaming-isnt-everything/) **Published:** August 1, 2019 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There is nothing more inspiring than a single mum who has taken on the world and lived to tell her story! That is exactly what Lisa Burling has done. From standing in a Centrelink queue wondering ‘how did it come to this’ to an award-winning entrepreneur with a 7-figure business, Lisa has now written a book to help others dream big. Lisa believes that living courage, faith and gumption (love that word!) today can lead you to live the life you want tomorrow. And that’s what we discuss in this totally uplifting podcast that will have you rocking your goals by the end of the show. ## Why dreaming isn’t everything but it certainly helps We chat about: - How to adopt Lisa’s ‘little dreaming’ strategy to live your best life - How we can use our dreams to create the reality we want - Lisa’s take on money in relation to dreams - What to do if you’re at rock bottom but want to make changes to your life - The all-time best mantras and quotes to get you through the day - What it means to be a soccer mum! ### Listen here … ![Why dreaming isn't everything but it certainly helps | Beanstalk Mums Podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Podcast-Lisa-Burling.png "Podcast - Lisa Burling - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-dreaming-isnt-everything/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-dreaming-isnt-everything/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Podcast **Tags:** positive thinking, mantras, goal setting, dreaming, inspiration --- ### [12 Bedtime books your kids will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/) **Published:** February 27, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Bedtime books are a wonderful part of the evening ritual for parents and kids. According to researchers, bedtime stories not only help strengthen parent-child bonds and get kids ready for sleep, bedtime books also help reduce stress levels, boost logic skills and accelerate language mastery. Parents can use story-time to build conversation skills, expand vocabulary and make it easier for young ones to learn harder words later on. Having favourite bedtime books that your child associates with sleep, can be the key to a good bedtime routine, and can ultimately [help your child sleep well now and for the rest of their life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/make-your-kids-sleep-well/). From decades-old favourites to modern classics, our list of bedtime books will help you find the right sleep time story for every mood. ## BEDTIME BOOKS YOUR KIDS WILL LOVE ### 1. [Bedtime for Dreamer Willie by Allison Myers](https://booktopia.sjv.io/BVPo9) This humorous book shows little ones how going to bed can be fun. It is the story of Willie, a boy who likes to play and dream, but hates the evening routine before bed. With simple rhymes, fun characters and engaging illustrations, *Bedtime for Dreamer* *Willie* holds children’s attention and guides them into dreamland. [![Bedtime for Dreamer Willie | Kids books for bed | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51Nvgill9TL._SX491_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/BVPo9) ### 2. [Goodnight Football by Michael Dahl](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1623709237/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1623709237&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=98fa72964324e78461382987e3a6b6d6) One of the best bed time stories for kids who love football, this book starts with action-packed stories and ends with gentle, soothing rhymes to get children ready for sleep. It follows a young football fan cheering on her team and sharing the excitement of the game, and then saying goodnight to her favorite sport. [![Goodnight Football | Children's books for bedtime | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61pAGHz-TTL.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1623709237/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1623709237&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=98fa72964324e78461382987e3a6b6d6) ### 3. [Good Night World by Willa Perlman](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B007IKGFRM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B007IKGFRM&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5f2cea2dc284ac8abb869422e497d553) Let your kids explore the world before bedtime in this classic book. It takes children on a journey to see different natural wonders of the world, from planets to oceans to deserts, as the sun slowly sets. The calming text is accompanied by vivid illustrations showing everything in the world going to sleep. You can even say goodnight in different languages. [![Goodnight World | Stories for bed | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://d28hgpri8am2if.cloudfront.net/book_images/cvr9781442401976_9781442401976_hr.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B007IKGFRM/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B007IKGFRM&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5f2cea2dc284ac8abb869422e497d553) ### 4. [The Going to Bed Book by Sandra Boynton](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0671449028/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0671449028&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=0bbc025deda39c62127d59b449269891) One of the classic bedtime stories for kids, *The Going to Bed Book* makes every kid’s evening routine fun with silly rhymes and charming illustrations. Follow a group of animals take a bath in a tub, brush their teeth, do goofy exercises and finally go to sleep. The rhymes and repetition (‘rock and rock to sleep’) add to the effect of a boat rocking the animals to sleep. [![The Going To Bed Book | Bedtime stories | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/71slsnNNChL.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0671449028/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0671449028&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=0bbc025deda39c62127d59b449269891) ### 5. [Time for Bed by Mem Fox](https://booktopia.sjv.io/79Mk3) A classic bedtime book for younger children, *Time for Bed* is about a little lamb preparing for bedtime. The book summarises the coziness of snuggling under the covers and going to sleep. The beautiful illustrations depict warmth, coziness and safety, whilst the soothing, repetitive text help young ones enjoy bedtime snuggles and being tucked in. Yep, it’s certainly a classic when it comes to bedtime stories. [![Time For Bed | Bedtime stories | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61lIMPFZGiL.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/79Mk3) ## MORE WONDERFUL BEDTIME BOOKS ### 6. [Where Do Diggers Sleep At Night? by Brianna Caplan Sayres ](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0385374151/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0385374151&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5e8d1689ec09a40e2f7ca8dcd6740e4e) One of the most adorable bedtime stories, *Where Do Diggers Sleep At Night?* is the perfect book for your little truck lover. Diggers and trucks can be noisy, but this book gets it right and helps little ones go to sleep effortlessly. Read about dump trucks, diggers, tractors and more, and sing a goodnight song whilst tucking in your kids. [![Where do the diggers sleep at night | Sleeptime story | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61mlK5dRu2L._SY402_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0385374151/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0385374151&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5e8d1689ec09a40e2f7ca8dcd6740e4e) ### 7. [Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site by Sherri Duskey Rinker](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1452111731/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1452111731&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5845b65db9a7fe73a3f7b1b3e02d6d6a) This bestselling bedtime book is another treat for truck and construction-obsessed preschoolers. The soothing text and sweet story make this a great favorite with both parents and kids. Vibrant illustrations and gentle rhymes make even the most rambunctious readers want to turn off their engines, wind down and get ready for sleep. [![Good night good night construction site | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/913nY-+HJIL._SY342_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1452111731/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1452111731&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=5845b65db9a7fe73a3f7b1b3e02d6d6a) ### 8. [Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBratney](https://booktopia.sjv.io/Ly2Ga) Considered one of the modern classic bedtime stories, *Guess How Much I Love You* shows the limitless love between a parent and a child. A simple and affectionate story, it follows a father (Big Nutbrown Hare) and his son (Little Nutbrown Hare) showing how much they love each other. Little Nutbrown asks “Guess how much I love you?,” and the book uses increasing measures and analogies to quantify love. [![Guess how much I love you | Kids books for bed | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/810we85kbpL.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/Ly2Ga) ### 9. [Bedtime for Frances by Russell Hoban](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/006027106X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=006027106X&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=04514d4870d67e6b3b9b39c4fa3de012) *Bedtime for Frances* was published more than three decades ago, but it remains one of the top bedtime stories for parents and kids. The humorous and beguiling book tells the story of Frances the little badger and her adventures, and how she keeps delaying sleep time with many requests and concerns like things that go bump in the night. [![Bedtime for Frances | Children's nighttime stories | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/91miVhOy6gL.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/006027106X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=006027106X&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=04514d4870d67e6b3b9b39c4fa3de012) ## OUR FINAL FAVOURITE BEDTIME STORIES ### 10. [Llama Llama Red Pajama by Anna Dewdney](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0451474570/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0451474570&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=6c3e821e9dcc657c5b30a11788e5b3e7) Llamas and bedtime drama are combined in this classic sleep time book that is sure to delight young readers. The fun, simple rhymes and charming illustrations will have preschoolers laughing at the all-too familiar scene of an evening routine that does not go as well as planned. Mama Llama saves the day and comforts Baby Llama so he can finally to go to sleep. [![Llama llama red pajama | Bedtime story books | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/A1hHoK2Uw-L.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0451474570/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0451474570&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=6c3e821e9dcc657c5b30a11788e5b3e7) ### 11. [Dinosaur vs. Bedtime by Bob Shea](https://booktopia.sjv.io/jGmgn) Kids face many challenges, and bedtime is one of the toughest. This action-packed book follows an unstoppable little dinosaur and his loud shenanigans during bedtime—dueling with spaghetti, grownups and other targets—before finally drifting off to sleep. The simple story and dino roaring will have kids asking for this book to be read over and over. [![Dinosaur vs. Bedtime | Nighttime stories | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/519XnLP2KSL._SX383_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/jGmgn) ### 12. [The Quiet Book by Deborah Underwood](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0547215673/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0547215673&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=69d55beca9b263b9002eb4ce16557d50) Quiet moments and the comforting bedtime routine are captured in this charming and gentle book. Different scenes and types of quiet (best friends don’t need to talk quiet, car ride in the snow quiet, etc.) are depicted by sweet illustrations and simple text that emphasise togetherness and the ‘peaceful steps to bedtime.’ [![The Quiet Book | Bedtime stories | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41NHhdo+2bL._SX405_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0547215673/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0547215673&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=69d55beca9b263b9002eb4ce16557d50) ## TIPS TO MAKE READING BEDTIME BOOKS ENJOYABLE FOR YOUR CHILD Bedtime reading is an excellent way to spend quality time with your child while fostering a love for reading and learning. Here are some tips to make bedtime reading enjoyable for your child: - **Choose age-appropriate books:** Select books that are appropriate for your child’s age and interests. Younger children may enjoy picture books with simple stories, while older children may prefer chapter books with more complex plots. - **Make it a routine:** Establish a regular bedtime reading routine, so your child knows what to expect. This can help them relax and wind down before bed. - **Read with expression:** Use different voices and intonations when reading to bring the story to life. This can help your child become more engaged and interested in the story. - **Encourage participation:** Ask your child questions about the story, characters, and illustrations to encourage participation and critical thinking. - **Create a cozy atmosphere:** Create a cozy and comfortable environment for bedtime reading, with soft lighting and comfortable seating. This can help your child feel relaxed and ready for sleep. - **Let your child choose the book:** Let your child choose the book they want to read, as this can increase their interest and engagement in the story. - **Use props:** Use props such as puppets or stuffed animals to act out the story or bring the characters to life. - **Make it interactive:** Make the reading experience interactive by encouraging your child to point out objects in the illustrations or predict what will happen next in the story. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/bedtime-books-your-kids-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping **Tags:** bedtime stories, books for bed, books for sleep, children's books --- ### [Meal delivery services in Australia (with discounts) 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) **Published:** March 8, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As someone who loves to cook but often finds themselves short on time and creativity, meal kit delivery services have been a game-changer for me. These services offer pre-measured and prepped ingredients along with recipe cards, making it easy to whip up a delicious and nutritious meal without the hassle of grocery shopping and meal planning. With so many options available today, it’s never been easier to explore new cuisines and flavours right in the comfort of my own kitchen. In this article, I’ll delve into the world of meal kit delivery services, discussing their benefits, drawbacks, and some of the top players in the industry. Whether you’re a busy professional, a novice cook, or simply looking to spice up your dinner routine, there’s a meal kit service out there that can make your life easier and more delicious. ## MEAL DELIVERY SERVICES FOR THE BUDGET CONSCIOUS ### [Everyplate](https://imp.i339540.net/c/1253070/964454/11783) [Everyplate](https://imp.i339540.net/c/1253070/964454/11783) is the most affordable meal delivery service on this list and definitely a delicious bargain. They are known for their yummy comfort food (think steaks, burgers, tacos, mashed potatoes) at unbeatable prices. Starting at $4.44 per serving with flat-rate delivery, it’s a good option if you have people coming over and don’t want to sweat all day in the kitchen. The menu is limited and rotates weekly and the food is not really for vegetarians, health conscious eaters or those with special dietary needs. But if you’re on a budget and not too picky, this home delivery meal service is surprisingly tasty for the price and definitely the best value available. ***Further reading: [Everyplate review: User comments and latest specials. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/everyplate-review/)*** ![Everyplate Meal Delivery | Beanstalk Mums](https://img.grouponcdn.com/deal/3KM262iUP6RdhznKVTvcV7JmqoYs/3K-800x480/v1/sc600x600.jpg) ***Box types:** 2 to 6 people* ***No. of kits per week:** 3 to 6* ***Delivery areas:** Ingredients delivered to most of NSW, VIC, ACT and QLD* ***Price range:** From $4.44 per meal, from $48 to $160/week* ***Pros:** One of the cheapest meal delivery services, lots of comfort food favourites, packaging is designed to reduce plastic* ***Cons:** Not for vegetarians, the health conscious or people with special diets, limited choices in the weekly rotating menu* ***SPECIAL:** [Get up to $170 off](https://imp.i339540.net/MX0DZN)* ### [HELLO FRESH](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/c/1253070/1233104/7900) Possibly the most well-known of the meal delivery services for food kits, [Hello Fresh](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/c/1253070/1233104/7900) has lured many with their fabulous advertising and specials. The recipes are nothing short of mouth-watering to look at, and the end results are surprisingly similar to the pictures, which is always a good thing. There is something about the simplicity of the menu cards that gets kids cooking too, so that’s a bonus. The weekly nutritious choice includes standard dishes, gourmet upgrades, a vegetarian and ‘dinner to lunch’ option. Plus, they now offer a couple of yummy snack packs too. ***Box types:** Classic, Family and Veggie. 2 or 4 people.* ***No. of kits per week:** 3 – 5* ***Delivery areas:** See list [here](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/c/1253070/1233104/7900)* ***Price range:** From $9.99/dinner, $70.00 to $165.00 for boxes* ***Pros:** Very easy to make, options to ‘go posh’ with gourmet and to grab some snacks* ***Cons:** There are set days for delivery which won’t work for everyone* ***SPECIAL:** [Get up to $200 off](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/0MPJL)* [![Meal box kit | Hello Fresh | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.influenster.com/media/product/image/hellofresh-main.jpg.750x750_q85ss0_progressive.jpg)](https://hellofresh-au.r69o.net/c/1253070/1233104/7900) ### [MARLEY SPOON](https://marleyspoon.com.au/) [Marley Spoon](https://marleyspoon.com.au/) is hot on the tail of Hello Fresh in the popularity stakes. They boast chef-created dinners made with seasonal ingredients. There are 20 dishes to choose from each week including fast, healthy, vegetarian, no added gluten and family-friendly options. They focus heavily on sustainability with 100% recyclable packaging and reusable chill-packs made from 85% sugar cane! Food is sourced as locally as possible and, like most food delivery services, there is zero waste as everything is pre-measured for each recipe. Recipes are super-simple and have no more than 6-steps each. Easy-peasy. ***Box types:** Normal or Vegetarian. For 2 to 4 people* ***No. of meal kits per week:** 2 – 5* ***Delivery areas:** Ingredients delivered to Sydney, Canberra, Melbourne, Hobart, Launceston, Adelaide, Brisbane, the Gold Coast, Wollongong, Newcastle, Darwin and NSW’s Central Coast* ***Price range:** $53.96 to $169.80 per week (boxes + $10.49 shipping)* ***Pros:** Delivery is daily, seasonal and sustainable, a reasonable amount of choice* ***Cons:** Delivery area is a little limited* ***SPECIAL:** [More specials on their website](https://marleyspoon.com.au/)* [![](https://marleyspoon.com.au/images/ms/home/au/desktop-10e41c0e10.FP9KPDlf.jpg)](https://marleyspoon.com.au/) ### [DINNERLY](https://dinnerly.com.au/) [Dinnerly](https://dinnerly.com.au/) is touted as Australia’s most affordable meal kit delivery service, and they may be right with kits starting at just $5.49 per dinner, per person. How do they keep their prices down but still deliver quality ingredients? 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They have fewer bells and whistles than their costlier competitors but offer a solution “for people who like homemade cooking, but don’t like overpaying for the good things in life.” ***Box types:** Regular and vegetarian, 2 people or 4 people* ***No. of kits per week:** 3 – 6* ***Delivery areas:** Ingredients delivered to most of NSW, VIC, QLD, SA, NT, ACT, WA and TAS* ***Price range:** $5.49/serve, Boxes from $39.40 to $131.79 + $10.49 shipping* ***Pros:** Cost-effective meal kit delivery service, less fancy packaging so less waste* ***Cons:** Not as much choice for recipes each week, recipes a little basic (a pro or con!)* ***SPECIAL:** Check their website for specials.* [![Meal box kit | Dinnerly | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/dinnerly_box2.jpg "dinnerly_box2 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://dinnerly.com.au/) ## MEAL DELIVERY SERVICES FOR THE HEALTH CONSCIENCE ### [WEIGHTWATCHERS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54978?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.weightwatchers.com%2fau%2f) Want to lose weight? 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Book a free 15-minute consultation with their dietitian to see if this meal delivery service is right for you. ***Box types:** Meals for individuals, couples and families* ***No. of kits per week:** 7 – 28* ***Delivery areas:** See full list [here](https://befitfood.com.au/pages/delivery-routes).* ***Price range:** From $7.95 per meal + $19.95 flat rate for shipping* ***Pros:** Tasty meals and great selection, complimentary consultation with a dietitian* ***Cons:** Very restrictive rapid/gradual weight loss program* ***SPECIAL:** Sign up to Be Fit Food for exclusive rewards* ### [![Be Fit Food | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/Ns7mGCV/BFF-FEB19-0133.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77476?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbefitfood.com.au%2f) ### [MY MUSCLE CHEF](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088) [My Muscle Chef](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088) stands out from the crowd of meal delivery services with their high-protein meals that are big on taste and nutrition. 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The meal variety is excellent and every meal is great value for money, especially if you order by bulk. ***Box types:** Single-serve meals and fixed sets for couples* ***Delivery areas:** See full list [here](https://www.mymusclechef.com/delivery?showMap=true&isForm=true).* ***Price range:** From $7.95 per meal, meal plans and fixed sets from $165/week* ***Pros:** High-protein meals for active people, excellent meal variety, no additives or artificial flavours* ***Cons:** People with bigger frames may need to supplement the meals with snacks* ***SPECIAL:** [Free shipping when you subscribe (minimum $99 order value)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088)* [![My Mucle Chef | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/m.png "m - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69088) ### [MACROS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) [Macros](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) is a food delivery company known for their healthy, chef-made, dietitian-formulated meals made from fresh ingredients. One of the biggest draws of Macros is their great selection of meals and plans, including high protein, plant-based, paleo, no added gluten, dairy free, nut-free and balanced. The menu is updated each week so you always have new flavours to look forward to. Macros makes it effortless for the busy mum to lose weight or maintain a healthy lifestyle. But if you are a serious athlete or looking to gain muscle, you may need to add snacks to the meals due to the small portion sizes. ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person (350g/meal) and families* **Delivery areas:** Australia wide* ***Price range:** From $82.95 per week ($9.65 per meal) for single meals* ***Pros:** High protein meals, great meal variety, whole food ingredients, dietitian-designed* ***Cons:** Serious athletes or very active people may need to supplement with snacks due to small portion sizes* ***SPECIAL:** Check out their website for discounts.* ***Further reading: [MACROS User review with latest special.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/macros-fresh-meal-delivery-review/)*** [![Meal Delivery Services | Macros | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/banner-1.jpg "banner - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) ### [YOUFOODZ](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324) Moving onto ready-made meals, [Youfoodz](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324) certainly know how to tempt the tastebuds with their mouth-watering website. Providing fresh (not frozen) food, Youfoodz has everything from breakfast, lunch, dinner, wraps, snacks and soups. And although the general theme is healthy food, they have a ‘Weightloss Refreshed’ 70/30 diet plan too, which includes fresh meals and snacks designed to help you lose weight. They will even create a meal plan for you based on your goals, these being weight loss, clean eating or gain muscle. ***Box types:** Meals for 1 person* ***Delivery areas:** See list [here](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62459?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.youfoodz.com%2fabout%2fdelivery-areas)* ***Price range:** Snacks from $1.50 and fresh meals from $9.95. Meal plans between $69.95 – $119.88* ***Pros:** Huge range of ready made meals, for many dietary requirements and next day delivery* ***Cons:** You have to spend a set amount for home delivery, not frozen* ***SPECIAL:** [Get up to $200 off](https://youfoodz.sjv.io/c/1253070/1669032/18324)* - Offer: Up to $200 off your first 5 boxes. 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Much of the box is food or drink (7-10 items) and the remainder is beauty/lifestyle items (2-3 full-sized or sample-sized products). ***Box types:** 1, 3, 6 and 12-month plans, kids monthly subscription box, quarterly beauty box* ***Delivery areas:** Australia and New Zealand* ***Price range:** From $75 for 3 months to $300 every 12 months* ***Pros:** Health-focused food/drink and lifestyle items in one box delivered to your door* ***Cons:** Selection is limited to health samples* ***SPECIAL:** [Free shipping for orders over $75](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/36514?Url=https%3a%2f%2fgoodnessmebox.com%2f)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food, Shopping **Tags:** meal delivery service, food delivery, meal boxes, meal preparation, meal planning, grocery shopping --- ### [The benefits and challenges of being a single parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-benefits-and-challenges-of-being-a-single-parent/) **Published:** September 21, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** According to The [Australian Institute of Health and Welfare](https://www.aihw.gov.au/getmedia/ce2ccb3f-7538-478f-b996-16e20755f2d9/aihw-australias-welfare-2017-chapter1-2.pdf.aspx), there are around 949,000 single-parent families in the country, of which 65% had dependents living with them. Single parent families are on the rise worldwide, due to a number of reasons. There are many advantages and disadvantages that single-parent families experience. > And, in case you’re wondering who I am … > > I’m Lucy, a single mum and the founder of the website you are on. I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums. You can get more in-depth, personalised support from my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://ecourse.beanstalkmums.com.au/), which has already been downloaded by 2k+ single mums from around the world. ## THE BENEFITS THAT SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES FACE Being a single parent is difficult, but it also has many benefits, some which might shock and surprise you. So, don’t get bogged down with the negatives and think about the positives the next time you think about the beautiful journey of parenting. ### MAKE YOUR OWN RULES The best part about being a single parent is that you get to make your own rules. You don’t need to spend time debating how best to do something, you can just go ahead and decide what you want to do. Making your own rules saves time and stress because you don’t need to argue with your partner about how best to look after your child, or if they can go to a sleepover at their friends. Although at first, this might feel intimidating and like you are taking on a whole lot of responsibility, you’ll get used to it. You are your own boss and that feeling is very empowering. ### BECOME MORE INDEPENDENT As a single parent you don’t depend on anyone else. You are free to do what you want and what you feel is best for your family. Becoming more independent has a number of benefits, for one it will allow you to look after yourself and your family better. Research has shown that becoming more independent can also increase your self-esteem and self-confidence. Which means that you will make better relationships and connections with others. Increased self-esteem can also make you feel happier and healthier. ### MANAGE YOUR OWN FINANCES As a single mum, you will be able to manage your own finances. Managing your own finances means that you are able to spend money on the things you really want and need. It also means you are able to save money for what you want, i.e. nice family holidays, or money for your children’s futures. Keep track of your finances and remember to teach your children about how to look after money. A great way to do this is by giving them [pocket money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-do-pocket-money-for-your-kids-the-right-way/) in exchange for household chores. ### TEACH YOUR CHILDREN VALUES Speaking of teaching your children, being a single parent can be beneficial for them because they will get to experience first-hand what it means to be more responsible. Children are very observant and will see that their mum is responsible for a lot of things in their life (things that they will become very grateful of). Your child will learn how to work as a team, in your family unit, and will be able to apply this to their later life. Single parents can also teach their children other life lessons, values, and beliefs that will become invaluable to them as they grow up. ## THE CHALLENGES SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES FACE Whilst it is true that there is nothing as rewarding as parenting, it is also true that there is nothing that is quite as difficult as parenting, especially if you are doing it alone. Challenges of being a single parent can be exhausting and exhilarating at the same time. Here are a few challenges that you can expect, or might already be experiencing, and the ways in which you can deal with them. ### FEELING LONELY Feelings of loneliness can creep in unexpectedly and can burden you, especially if you are a single parent. You don’t have a lot of time to yourself because raising children is a full-time job in itself and then you have all the other requirements, such as working to bring in money to look after your family. [Dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-date-as-a-single-parent/) might be the last thing on your mind when your head hits the pillow after a long day. Or dating might always be on your mind, but you simply don’t have the time to commit to someone. You also might find it difficult to make time to spend with your friends because of family commitments, which can lead you to feel very lonely. The company of your child, or children, is great, but you can still experience feelings of loneliness because you want some adult company. **How to overcome this challenge:** Try making more time for the things you want to do i.e. allocate an hour or two away from the kids that you can have with your friends. Or join a [parent support group](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-support-groups/), these groups are a great way to meet new people and converse with other mum’s and dad’s about parenting. ### FINANCIAL PROBLEMS OF BEING A SINGLE PARENT Financial problems can be a large source of stress, especially for single parents. It can be very difficult to balance a full-time career and a full-time family. If you are the only source of income for your family, i.e. your child’s father isn’t paying child support, then money might be tight. Many studies have shown that single parents have a particularly hard time creating enough income for their families. One study in particular, found that single parents in Australia are [$271 per fortnight worse off](http://theconversation.com/its-not-just-newstart-single-parents-are-271-per-fortnight-worse-off-labor-needs-an-overarching-welfare-review-107521). **How to overcome this challenge:** Do your research and make sure you are receiving any financial support that you are entitled to. You can also use a number of apps and budgeting tools that can help you track what you are spending and work out how you can save money. ### JUGGLING WORK AND HOME LIFE Single parents often feel exhausted due to trying to juggle their work and home life. Before work, you can expect to run around like a headless chicken, trying to sort the children out for school and doing household chores. Then you go to work, which can be mentally and/or physically exhausting (depending on what you do). After work, there’s a mad rush to get the kids, make dinner, and put them to bed. Yes, it is exhausting juggling both work and home life. Doing all of this by yourself essentially makes you a super-mum! A spokesperson from Parentscorner said, “Single parents struggle to strike an important balance between work, home, and finding time for themselves. It is important to work out routines that allow you to make the most of your time and remain healthy and happy.” **How to overcome this challenge:** Find a balance that works for you and your children. If your children are old enough get them to help out around the house. Make sure you set aside an allocated amount of time each day or night, so you can relax and free your mind from the stress of the day. ### DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD For single parents, it can be difficult to discipline your child, especially if you aren’t used to doing this (i.e. you let your partner previously discipline your child). Nobody likes to discipline their child, but sometimes their behaviour needs to be addressed so they can understand that they shouldn’t be doing or saying certain things. Children sometimes manipulate their parents into not disciplining them, especially if they are experiencing difficulties (like the split of their parents). **How to overcome this:** Always offer an open communication policy between you and your child and let them know that they can talk to you if something is bothering them. Also, set boundaries and clear expectations for your child to follow. Then if they misbehave, make sure you use clear and concise communication, with a relevant punishment. For example, if they misbehave at school explain that what they did was wrong and give ground them for a week, or make them do more chores around the house. ### MAKE BEING A SINGLE PARENT WORK FOR YOU Whilst many people think that single parenting is difficult, it can be very rewarding and thus, a worthwhile journey. Challenges will come your way, but it is all about keeping a strong head on your shoulders and working out how to overcome the challenges. For example, for the challenge of looking after yourself, you can implement routines so that you can balance your time better, or you commit to setting aside half an hour each day just for you. Like anything else in life, single parenting is what you make of it and you need to find effective ways to make it work for you and your family. ![Benefits and challenges of being a single parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Benefits-and-challenges.png "Benefits and challenges - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-benefits-and-challenges-of-being-a-single-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/the-benefits-and-challenges-of-being-a-single-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** single parenting, being a single parent, single parent finances, independence, solo mum --- ### [Learning to let go of the wrong relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/let-go-of-wrong-relationship/) **Published:** September 5, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Not all relationships are right for us. Or perhaps they were once right, but have run their course, and no longer are. There are many reasons why we stay in a wrong relationship. And these reasons can make it hard to end it. Sound familiar? If so, this podcast is well-worth the 30 minute listen. I chat to my favourite Relationship Expert, Leah Sheppard from Honour Your Breakup. Leah, also known as ‘The Breakup Boss’, has developed a 7-step methodology for positive relationship recovery, and now writes, speaks and teaches on all things breakup, helping women around the world to use their heartbreak to unlock their own strength, power and beauty. We chat about how to leave a relationship that is no longer serving you, including: - The warning signs that we are in the wrong relationship - Why so many of us stay in relationships that are unhealthy and not right for us - How to get into the right headspace to finish your relationship - Tips to recover from the ‘fallout’ of ending it (even if it wasn’t right, it’s still sad) - The biology around your breakup i.e. why you feel like you do - Whether dating is a good idea following your breakup and what you can do instead ### Listen here … ![Learning to let go of the wrong relationship | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Podcast-HYB-Learning-to-let-go.png "Podcast - HYB Learning to let go - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/let-go-of-wrong-relationship/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/let-go-of-wrong-relationship/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Relationships **Tags:** letting go, wrong relationship, letting go of a wrong relationship --- ### [How to have the best sex life ever … with yourself!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/) **Published:** April 25, 2022 **Author:** Taranga **Content:** Ok ladies! Single mothers, single women of the world, it’s time to reclaim your sex life, with yourself! Oh yeah, you read me right. I’m talking about your very own, private sex life. Even if you don’t have a lover around who can meet your needs right now, you can still be having some of the best sex of your life. Our daily lives are often so busy that they get in the way of our most important relationship. One we should all have – our sexual relationship. Sex keeps us healthy and vital. It helps us to stay young and deepens our enjoyment of life. But, in the process of taking care of others, our own needs often get left by the wayside. If we don’t take care of ourselves our sex life can fade, leaving us unsatisfied and closed to the joyful things in life. So, how can we reclaim the best sex life ever? Here are a few simple and fundamental ideas to rekindle the fire and keep it burning bright. ## How to have the best sex life ever … with yourself! ### Fall in love with yourself The first step to having a fantastic, wonderful, unimaginable sex life with yourself is to fall in love with yourself. You only have one body. Claim it as one sexy bod! Not only will this make you feel better on the inside, it will show on the outside too with that fabulous, ‘This is my body!’ glow. Affirmations are a great way to stay in tune with this. One I like is: > *“I love this ever-changing body which carries me through life.”* This is a simple thing to do and it can make such a difference in how you see yourself. ### Have one orgasm a day Don’t get shy now. We all love touch. We all need it. One orgasm a day can keep the doctor at bay! Plus, it brings a host of other benefits. Daily orgasms [relieve stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) and help you to [sleep better](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/). They make you live longer and keep your menstrual cycles regular. I’ve also come to believe that if you orgasm on a regular basis, it may stop the drying process in the vaginal canal during and after menopause. And, on top of all these internal benefits, regular orgasms will keep your skin glowing as well. Sometimes, our bodies become neglected, unnoticed and untouched. We become more vital and beautiful when we give ourselves loving and sensual attention. ### Indulge in a sex toy Wanting some help with those orgasms? Well, you can get all the help you need from [online sex stores](https://www.adultshop.com.au/?affiliateID=CommFactory0001&cfclick=ccf474745a23440fb56d127e9de7ced9) and the never-ending varieties of dildos, vibrators, wands, clitoral ticklers. And why just stop at one? Variety is delicious, and there are all different shapes and sizes, colours and types to choose from. Some are even waterproof so you can take them in the bath with you. Imagine that! A hot bubble bath and an orgasm, mmmm. I personally have a little kit underneath my bed for times when I need a bit of assistance. Your toy will become your best friend in bed. Trust me on that, ladies. ***Further reading: [Buying a vibrator: Beginners guide to buying the perfect sex toy.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/)*** ### Watch some porn This is a topic that can hit a nerve with some women. Some may think that porn is wrong. That it’s degrading for women’s rights or that it’s made by men for men. However, there’s actually a trend out there in porn-land where female producers are making great porn for women to watch and enjoy. Sensual, connected, and sexy as you can imagine. With porn, one has to understand that it’s only entertainment. Just a show. Porn is a little like fantasy but on the screen. You may fantasise while watching porn that you are in that very scene. Enjoy it for what it is, entertainment and a little help along the way. ## How to Have the Best Sex Life Ever … With Yourself! (cont.) ### Give yourself a sexy treat There’s nothing better than giving and receiving gifts, right? Why not give yourself a sexy gift? Again, ain’t no one else around to do it for you. So, what’s the right sexy gift for you? - You could indulge in some sexy underwear for yourself - Maybe you’re the literary type. You could go out and purchase some delicious [erotica writings](https://amzn.to/2VjqKwy) - Having a massage is a wonderful sexy treat, one that gives your whole body some deep relaxation - Receiving a mani-pedi treatment always makes me feel sexy again. I love getting bright colours on my toes. It makes me happy to see them fresh and shining. - Go see that movie on the big screen with your favourite actor or actress. The goal is to pamper yourself, so don’t forget the popcorn and your favourite variety of choc top. - Put on those dancing shoes and get downright sexy doing Tango classes. Nothing like the cha-cha to get those sexy vibes happening. Dancing is a wonderful form of sexual self-expression and a great place to meet your next potential partner. - Or maybe you could really splash out on yourself and hire a male escort for a dinner date (or a bit more!). Nothing like a male treat to get those juices flowing. I indulged myself last year (you can read all about it [here](https://www.blissrising.com/2018/03/my-date-with-an-escort/)) and it was a wonderful experience on so many levels. I feel that every woman should treat themselves to this at least once. ### Go get a little touch intimacy You can always take yourself along to a cuddle party or therapist. Cuddle parties are where lots of other people just like you gather to share some intimacy and touch through the wonderful world of cuddling. Or, you may want to opt for a more personal session with a one-on-one cuddle therapist. We all need touch, especially single mums going it alone. It’s wonderful to be able to reach out and receive love and touch. Plus it will help you to relax deeply and relieve stress. Cuddling also releases those yummy oxytocin feel-good chemicals into the body. ***Further reading: [Coping with lack of intimacy when you’re single.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/lack-of-intimacy-single/)*** ### Make yourself a sexy date We always make dates to see the doctor or dentist or to set up social meetings. But how often do we make a date with ourselves? Some private time just for us, to feel good and make our bodies happy? This is what I mean by doing something just for yourself on your own private self-date. When the kids are finally sleeping, slip into that lingerie you bought for yourself. Make some hot chocolate and get out that glorious new vibrator. Close the bedroom door to block out all worldly distractions. Set the lap top on the X-rated movie or get out that juicy erotic literature. Get into bed and get ready to have the sexiest date with yourself ever. This is your very own sexy time, so make the most of it. Indulge in yourself, your body, your own vessel for self-expression and sensuality. You deserve it! ### Give yourself the gift of a Yoni Massage So, you might ask, what is a Yoni anyway? Yoni is the Tantra term for a women’s genital area. A [Yoni Massage](https://www.blissrising.com/services/) is done by a practitioner like myself, someone who knows the art of touch and can awaken your body to new depths of feeling. This session offers space for healing and brings profound pleasure. It makes use of different touching techniques, letting you experience sensations you may never have experienced before. And don’t be fooled by the name. Attention is lavished on the entire body – the Yoni, the breasts, and everything else. The Yoni Massage is deeply healing for the body’s sympathetic nervous system and gives you the ultimate in relaxation. It’s a sensual experience and an overall treat. ## TO FINISH So, there you have it, a creative and colourful list to help you get back in touch with yourself and become the sexiest and most vibrant single mummy out there. Sexual energy is a positive energy, healthy and incredibly attractive. When we are feeling our sexy selves, we glow. We radiate vitality and joy and become even more beautiful. The positive energy that we create within ourselves spreads to everyone around us. So, let yourself shine bright. Stay sexy ladies! ![Sex life with yourself | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Sex-life-with-yourself.png "Sex life with yourself - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Sex **Tags:** sex, vibrators, masturbation, self pleasure --- ### [3 Hacks to beat your takeaway temptations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-hacks-to-beat-your-takeaway-temptations/) **Published:** March 9, 2023 **Author:** Lucas Bikowski **Content:** When you become a single mother, you inherit a great deal of added responsibility and it can be overwhelming to try and manage, especially in the first few months. During this time, it can be easy to resort to ordering takeaway in place of cooking a healthy home dinner, and we wouldn’t blame you for giving in now and then! Eating junk food on a regular basis (god forbid every night) is obviously bad news for both your health and your wallet. Takeaway always seems to be ridiculously cheap when compared with the time and effort home cooking requires. Luckily, avoiding the convenient take away option is easier than you think when you practice a few simple tricks. Here are three easy hacks to resist those takeout temptations. ## How to say no to a takeaway dinner temptation ### 1. Develop a meal plan Planning your meals ahead of time is one of the most effective ways to avoid ordering takeaway every night. Us humans are wired such that if we make a plan to do something, we are far more likely to stick to it. By making a physical list of the meals you plan to have, you are training your mind to accept those choices ahead of time. This means that on your way home from work you’re far less likely to start fantasising about take away options because you already have a plan for what you’re going to eat. While sticking to a meal plan 100% of the time will be impossible when you first start, eventually you will train your mind to think about food differently and in turn make smarter food choices. For more help with meal planning look at [printable meal planners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/printable-meal-planners/) and [meal planning apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-planning-apps/). ### 2. Switch to a meal-kit delivery service [Meal-kit services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) have become very popular over the last few years and it’s not hard to see why. They combine the convenience of ordering in with the fun of preparing your own healthy and nutritious meals. How do they work? They’re really quite brilliant in their simplicity. You get a weekly set of pre-portioned ingredients and recipe cards sent to your door. You can then easily cook delicious and healthy meals without all of the boring measuring and portioning. This helps to eliminate stress that comes with decision-making in the grocery isle about what to buy and how much. All you need to do is select the kinds of dishes you want to have delivered and wait for the kit to arrive. A meal-kit service is incredibly convenient for single mums who want to maintain a healthy diet but don’t have the same mental and physical energy to do all the meal preparation themselves. It is also a mid-way point between ordering a takeaway and cooking at home. ### 3. Set a ‘takeaway budget’ If you’re really struggling to nurture your willpower to avoid eating takeout, try setting financial boundaries for yourself so that you are forced to limit your poor choices. For example, you could create a budget for takeaway that’s only $30 a week. While you could argue that enforcing your own rules is just another form of willpower, it’s a great psychological trick to get us to adopt healthy habits. The idea here is that after a while you won’t even be aware of having a takeaway budget because you’ll have trained yourself not to rely on those poor choices anymore. At the end of the day, refusing takeout is going to come down to your ability to ‘just say no’. While it may prove challenging at first, you and your kids will ultimately be better off for having divorced yourselves from the terrible temptation of takeaway. ## BONUS TIP TO AVOID YOUR TAKEAWAY TEMPTATIONS ### 4. Cook in bulk Bulk cooking can be a great way to avoid ordering takeaways because it provides you with healthy and delicious meals that are ready to eat when you need them. When you have a batch of food already prepared in your fridge or freezer, you can avoid the temptation of ordering takeaways because you know you have a meal waiting for you at home. Additionally, bulk cooking can be a cost-effective alternative to takeaways. By preparing meals in bulk, you can save money by buying ingredients in larger quantities and avoiding the cost of takeaways, which can be quite expensive over time. Furthermore, cooking in bulk can also help you avoid wasting food, as you can use up ingredients that might otherwise go unused. Bulk cooking can also be a time-saving strategy, which can help you avoid ordering takeaways due to lack of time or energy. By dedicating a few hours on the weekend or on a day off to bulk cooking, you can have meals prepared for the entire week. This means that you won’t have to spend time and energy cooking every day, which can be particularly helpful on busy weekdays when you might be tempted to order takeaways. ***Further reading: [20 Easy meals to cook in bulk and freeze.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easy-meals-bulk-cook-freeze/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-hacks-to-beat-your-takeaway-temptations/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/3-hacks-to-beat-your-takeaway-temptations/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Food **Tags:** meal planning, bulk cooking, junk food --- ### [What to expect in the first year after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-expect-first-year-separation/) **Published:** March 1, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The first year after a separation has got to be one of the most challenging in the life of a single mother. It is a time of huge change and highly-charged emotions. It is something that is almost impossible to prepare for. However, there are some wonderful resources out there to help you along the way and I was lucky enough to have this chat with [Sarah Whitechurch from My Divorce Coach.](https://au.linkedin.com/in/sarah-whitechurch-413a83173) Sarah is a trained counsellor with focus on clinical hypnosis and divorce, and her fabulous business is intended to support women going through separation to do so better emotionally, and to be more informed and confident about what the future holds for them. She is our perfect guide for this somewhat turbulent time. You can listen to us discuss: - What is clinical hypnosis and how can it assist the divorce process (I had no idea!) - Where to go for support and tools to get through the first year - Where the court process fits in (and where it doesn’t) - How to manage well-meaning friends and family - Whether dating again is good idea and how to know if we’re ready - Sarah’s key words of wisdom to take on your first year ### Listen here … [![Single Mum Vine Facebook group](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Banner-1-Anand-1024x345.jpg "Banner-1 Anand - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/) ![My Divorce Coach | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Pinterest-Mu-Divorce-Coach.png "Pinterest - Mu Divorce Coach - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-expect-first-year-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/what-expect-first-year-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Podcast, Divorce **Tags:** what to expect after divorce, what to expect after separation, expectations after separation, expectations after divorce --- ### [How to start dating again after a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-again-after-breakup/) **Published:** February 25, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Every woman has experienced a horrible breakup at some point. It’s soul destroying. But this podcast is all about getting over it, getting back out there, and starting to date again. And there is no better person to guide us through these tentative first steps than Leah Sheppard from Honour Your Breakup. Leah, otherwise know as The Breakup Boss, is a dating and relationship coach, speaker and author. Her wonderful business offers a number of breakup recovery resources including carepacks, coaching and retreats, all aimed at helping modern-day women get their boss-factor back after heartbreak. In this podcast Leah and I chat about: - The benefits of getting out there and dating again - How do we know when the time is right to date again - What are the biggest mistakes we make, and how to avoid them - How to prepare ourselves if things go wrong - The ‘reptile brain’: What it is and how it guides us - Leah’s beautiful words of encouragement to get us back into the dating arena - A fabulous offer of a FREE 45 minute session with Leah, click here. ### Listen here … ![How to start dating again after your breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/Podcast-How-to-start-dating-again.png "Podcast - How to start dating again - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-again-after-breakup/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-again-after-breakup/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating, Podcast **Tags:** dating single mum, dating single mother, dating after divorce, dating tips, dating, dating as a single parent, dating again, single mum and dating, dating a single mum, dating after separation --- ### [Understanding the biology around your breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/breakup-biology/) **Published:** July 9, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** We’ve all had ‘that’ horrible breakup. You know the one which literally puts your life on standstill? Even the seemingly strongest of women can be floored by a lost love. How we heal, learn and ultimately move-in is incredibly important. But, of course, that is easier than it sounds. For this reason, I chat to my official Beanstalk Relationship Advisor and Beyond Blue speaker, Leah Sheppherd from Honour Your Breakup about what’s happening within our bodies during this difficult time. For if we can understand WHY we feel the way we do, we have more control over the healing process. In this fascinating, fact-filled podcast we discuss: - The ‘three stages of love’ and the affect they have on your brain - The changes within your body that affects your thoughts during and after a relationship - How the chemicals in your body put you in ‘survival mode’ when the breakup happens - Actions that will begin and speed up the healing of your heart - Why time is not necessarily a healer (but other things are) - Leah’s absolute top tips to stop hurting and start healing ### Listen here … ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Podcast-Understanding-the-biology-534x800.png "Podcast - Understanding the biology - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/breakup-biology/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/breakup-biology/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Relationships **Tags:** how to survive a breakup, top tips on breakup, surviving a relationship breakup, breakups, breakup, biology about breakup, understanding breakup --- ### [Invaluable insights for raising your teenager](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/insights-for-raising-teenager/) **Published:** February 8, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As the mother of a teenager and a pre-teen, this podcast was absolutely spot-on for me .. and I am sure it will be for many listeners. Sometimes it is so hard to know what’s going on in our teenagers heads. So difficult to know what to say and how to help them. And, as much as I try and recall my teenage years, I can’t relate as I’d like to. That’s why I chat with Maya Kiusalaas, author of [Free The Girl](https://www.amazon.com/Free-girl-story-finding-self-love/dp/1974229890) and blogger at My Monday Love. During Maya’s teenage years she experienced eating disorders, depression and anxiety. But she chose to turn these negatives into positives by writing a book which is an invaluable tool for both teenagers and the parents of teenagers. She talks to us in this podcast with incredible insight and as a kind of mediator between us and our teenagers. You can listen to us discuss: - The mixed emotions of our teenage years and why Maya decided to write a book about them - The (sometimes inexplicable) lack of self-worth that teenagers have, and why - What the biggest issues are that teenagers face today and how we can help them - What we can do to connect with our teenagers on ‘their’ level - Take-aways tips that we can put into action straight-away that will improve our relationships with our teenagers ### Listen here … ![How to raise your teenage daughter | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/Podcast-Free-The-Girl.png "Podcast - Free The Girl - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/insights-for-raising-teenager/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/insights-for-raising-teenager/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Children **Tags:** raising a teenager, tips on raising a teenager, top tips on raising a teenager --- ### [Why separating without lawyers is definitely a thing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/separating-without-lawyers/) **Published:** October 13, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It is a myth that you need to hire lawyers to separate and divorce. You don’t. Property settlement is essentially a financial exercise that a lot of separating couples can work through together with the support of an expert. Which is where Belinda from Divide comes in. Belinda works with separating couples throughout Australia to help you financially separate and have your orders approved by the family court, without using lawyers. The end result is a more amicable split which will encourage a healthier co-parenting relationship and leave more money for you both to begin your new lives. Not only this, Belinda is a whizz at tax and super in a financial split so her advice will pay-off now and way into the future. Or, to put it another way, nothing will come back and bite you on the bum further down the track. Sounds good? Find out more in this podcast. ## Why separating without lawyers is definitely a thing Listen to Belinda and I discuss: - Which kind of cases would or would not require the services of a family lawyer - Options available to separating couples if they don’t want to hire lawyers - The benefits of choosing the “no lawyer” pathway (there are heaps!) - The importance of factoring super and tax into a property settlement (and what can happen if you don’t) - Ways to keep your separation amicable so you can “make it through” without lawyers ## LISTEN HERE … - - [![Single mother ecourse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-rectangle-960x800.png "ecourse rectangle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://ecourse.beanstalkmums.com.au/) ![Separating without lawyers | Beanstalk Mums podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Podcast-Divide-without-lawyers.png "Podcast - Divide (without lawyers) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/separating-without-lawyers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/separating-without-lawyers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Splitting up **Tags:** divorce, financial separation, tax, financial settlement, super --- ### [Separated but living together: What you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/separated-living-together/) **Published:** May 17, 2021 **Author:** Anna Carr **Content:** It’s no secret that for anyone considering separation, the thought of continuing to live with your ex might be ‘horrifying’. However, pandemic aside, there are a few notable legal and financial reasons to attempt cohabitation with an ex, detailed below. ***Further reading: [Bird nesting after divorce: How to make it work.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/no-nonsense-tips-for-bird-nesting-after-divorce/)*** ## Why do people end up separated but living together? Separation occurs when one party to a marriage or a de facto relationship says to the other party that he or she considers the marriage or relationship to be at an end. We often know when a couple has separated because one party moves out of the home. However, a couple can be separated and live separately and apart under the same roof; that is, the parties continue to reside in the same house or where either party renders some household services to the other party. The parties might choose to live separately and apart under the same roof where there is no family or domestic violence and whilst they are making arrangements for the care of the children and decisions about their finances. It often takes some time for the parties to carefully consider the best option for them. Then, once they have decided which best suits them, it often takes time to put in place the arrangements to refinance and pay out the other party or sell the house or move out. In some cases, one party may be able to retain the house and pay the other party a sum of money as part of a [property settlement](https://www.australianfamilylawyers.com.au/legal-services/property-settlement). In other cases, the parties will need to sell the house and split the net sale proceeds between them or where the parties are renting for each party to organise suitable accommodation. For more about this see: [What happens to our family home when we separate?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-happens-family-home-separate/) In the meantime, the parties each live separate lives whilst living in the same residence. The parties can still be separated but living together where one party carries on as the primary breadwinner, and his or her income is used to meet the mortgage repayments or rent and the household living expenses, whilst the other party continues performing household chores such as: - Preparing meals for the parties and the children; - Doing the laundry and ironing for the other party; and - Cleaning the house. Often where two people live separately under the same roof, they will no longer do things they used to do together. They may no longer eat their meals together. They do not go out and socialise together, and they will no longer do pleasurable recreational activities such as gardening together. Parties can still have sexual intercourse but be separated. Often living separately under the same roof is a temporary arrangement until the parties have separated and finalised their shared finances so that each party can go their separate way. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Divide_banner_3.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## The benefits of being separated but living together Besides doing it for the kids, there are a few beneficial reasons why ex-couples may choose to delay a physical separation. - There may be a financial saving as two households often mean two lots of expenses. - The party or parties who will move out of the house do not have to start paying rent for another house elsewhere until they move out of the house. - The party moving out of the house is not pressured to find other accommodation immediately, just because the parties have separated. - There is an orderly move or transition, rather than multiple moves and the disruption, time, stress and expense that comes from moving, packing and unpacking furniture and personal belongings. - Being able to move out of the house at a more convenient time, such as during the children’s school holidays, and into suitable accommodation, rather than hastily arranged temporary accommodation. - ## What Australian law says A married couple can [apply for a divorce](https://www.australianfamilylawyers.com.au/legal-services/divorce) after they have been separated for at least 12 months. Where a married couple has lived separately under the same roof any time in the 12 months before applying for divorce, the divorce application will need to be accompanied by an affidavit by at least one of the parties and a witness affidavit. The affidavits are required to set out that person’s observations of the parties having separate interests, no longer doing things as a couple, having separate finances, and that the parties were living under the same roof until such time as one or both parties were able to separate their finances and go their separate ways. De facto couples who separate have within two years of the date of separation to either reach an agreement or lodge an application for division of property and/or spousal maintenance. If they do not reach an agreement or lodge an application within this time, then as a general rule, the court does not have jurisdiction to hear their matter after this time, except in certain limited circumstances. ### DISCLAIMER: *This article is of a general nature and FYI only because it doesn’t take into account your personal situation, objectives or needs. That means it shouldn’t be considered legal advice and shouldn’t be relied upon as if it is. You should seek family law advice from an Australian Family Lawyer for a tailored, independent assessment of your individual circumstances.* ![Separated living together | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Separated-living-together.png "Separated living together - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/separated-living-together/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/separated-living-together/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** living together, under one roof --- ### [Why knowledge is power in a financial separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/knowledge-power-financial-separation/) **Published:** January 23, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** These podcasts are just getting better and better. And I’m not blowing my own trumpet here. You can NOT fail to get support if you’re in the ‘financial separation’ stage by listening to this chat with Belinda Eldridge from Divide. Divide is a brilliant service which helps couples who have separated to financially separate in a cost-effective manner, without using lawyers. Belinda works with couples to determine what financial structure will work best for them as two single parents co-parenting, and then helps them agree on the action plan to implement the new structure as cost effectively as possible. She is also the Financial Expert Advisor for Beanstalk, so is known and loved by so many single mums, myself included. In this information-packed podcast we discuss: - Why it’s so important to treat your financial separation as a learning process - What the biggest knowledge gaps are for single mums - What we can learn from a financial separation and how it will help now and in the future - Why there is an element of fear around ‘starting over’ financially, and how we can overcome it - The advantages of working through your financial separation WITH your ex-partner - Actionable tips to ensure a successful and peaceful financial separation ### Listen here … ![Knowledge is power in a financial separation | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Podcast-Why-knowledge-is-power.png "Podcast - Why knowledge is power - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/knowledge-power-financial-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/knowledge-power-financial-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Podcast, Divorce, Property Settlement **Tags:** financial separation, knowledge is power, financial knowledge --- ### [The difference between divorce and financial separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/difference-divorce-financial-separation/) **Published:** May 8, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Yes, we’re heading back to that challenging time .. the part of your breakup where you have to sort out the practical, paperwork stuff .. more specifically your financial separation and your divorce. I am not afraid to admit that when my time came I thought they were the same thing, or at least rolled into one. But THEY ARE NOT. In fact, they are quite different. And this includes when you can apply for them, and when it’s too late. To unravel the mystery I chat to our go-to Expert Advisor for all things financial, and that (as if you didn’t know) is Belinda Etheridge from Divide – Simple Financial Separation. Not only is Belinda a single mother who has ‘been there, done that’ but she is a fountain of knowledge around financial separation and divorce. She encourages people in DIY divorce and works with ex-couples to reach peaceful, cost effective financial settlements, which ultimately allows them to move forward and confidently communicate and co-parent. This podcast is PACKED with information, including: - What is a divorce and when and how to apply for one - Where to go for free, excellent support with your divorce proceedings - What is a financial settlement, when you can apply for one .. and when is too late - The main steps towards a financial settlement with a successful outcome - Where consent orders fit in and whether we really need them - Emotional and financial advice for a stress-free resolution with the right results for all involved ### Listen here … ![The difference between separation and divorce | Beanstalk Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Podcast-Difference-between-divorce-and.png "The difference between separation and divorce | Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/difference-divorce-financial-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/difference-divorce-financial-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Podcast, Divorce, Property Settlement **Tags:** divorce, separation and divorce, separation, divorce and financial separation, difference between divorce and financial separation --- ### [Support for single mothers: A complete guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about support for single mothers was last updated in 2025.*** The single mother journey is often long and complex. For me, it’s been a whirlwind of challenges, from managing finances to finding reliable child care. I’ve learned where to find support and how to make the most of what’s available. Let me share what I’ve discovered to make your journey a little less complicated. This article will guide you through the maze of resources and support systems available so you can focus on what matters most: raising children. Whether you’re dealing with Centrelink benefits or seeking information and support, there’s help out there—you just need to know where to look. I’ve compiled a list of services to assist with various aspects of support for single parents. These include: - Accommodation assistance - Family violence help - Financial hardship resources - Financial separation support - Legal support - Mental health resource spaces - Social peer groups - Parenting support All support services we list are available Australia-wide, but it is certainly worth checking out services in your local area. ## **People who can help with accommodation** ## **St Vincent De Paul Society** The St Vincent de Paul Society is a Catholic organisation that has been around for over 170 years helping people in need across Australia and in 153 countries around the world. If you are a homeless single parent with children, Vinnies will help you find temporary accommodation and support to find permanent accommodation. They provide regular visits from a support worker to assess your situation, make plans for housing, health and school and provide emotional support. Among their many referrals include Centrelink, housing, childcare, and legal. You will be asked to contribute towards temporary housing rental depending on your income. **Website**: [St Vincent de Paul Society](https://www.vinnies.org.au/ "St Vincent de Paul Society") **Contact number:** 13 18 12 ![support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/97181ac3-3125-4572-9691-d9575ad8655d-1066x800.jpg "97181ac3-3125-4572-9691-d9575ad8655d - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Salvation Army** Salvation Army Australia is the largest provider of homelessness and other free services in the country. Professional volunteers and donations make it possible for Salvos to provide free services, including accommodation, meals, case management, limited financial assistance, referrals and advocacy. They have specific homelessness services for adults and families as well as families with children. Salvos has multiple locations across the country. It’s easy to find help online. Head to their website and enter your suburb or postcode to find a homelessness service near your area. **Website**:[ Salvation Army](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/need-help/homelessness-support-services/?campaignid=196147532&adgroupid=63262985753&adid=309960998142&gclid=Cj0KCQiAjKqABhDLARIsABbJrGmnIrZV3TMS7u-yHu10DRnv3MgOm3DTkFoLFw31uKo5qmiuqIwNrScaAsnMEALw_wcB)**Contact number:** 13 SALVOS (13 72 58) ## **Mission Australia** Mission Australia provides free assistance to people at risk of homelessness or experiencing homelessness. They provide homelessness and social housing services as well as support for disadvantaged families, children and youth, mental health/addiction, disability, and employment and skills training. Financial planning and legal assistance are also available. For accommodation services, contact your state-based information and referral services directly. **Website**:[ Mission Australia](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/)**Contact number:** See the complete list[ here](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/contact-us). ## **Domestic violence support** Here are support groups for single parents affected by domestic violence. ## **1800RESPECT** 1800RESPECT is the country’s 24/7 sexual assault and domestic violence counselling service for people experiencing or at risk of experiencing abuse. It also provides information for people who support those experiencing abuse. 1800RESPECT is a confidential service available round the clock. Specialists provide information on sexual assault, domestic violence and abuse and referrals to helpful contacts. When you pick up the phone, what you say and how much you say is up to you. Counsellors will give assistance and referrals based on the information you provide. Listen to this chat with 1800Respect on the Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast:[ Helping single mamas move forward after DV](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-move-forward-after-dv/). **Website**:[ 1800RESPECT](https://www.1800respect.org.au/)**Contact number:** 1800 737 732 ## **Reachout** Reachout is a free self-help service dedicated to mental health and is great support for single mothers. It is the most accessed online mental health service for Aussie youths and their parents. Reachout is committed to helping people in an abusive relationship through online consultation and referrals. If you are a young person who doesn’t know what to do about your abusive relationship or where to get help, Reachout is for you. While not a crisis service, Reachout lists emergency contacts on its website and directs users to their peer-support forums. **Website**:[ Reachout](https://au.reachout.com/articles/domestic-violence-and-what-you-can-do-about-it)**Contact number**: 02 8029 7777 ## **White Ribbon** White Ribbon Australia is an institution dedicated to ending gendered violence or violence against women and girls. The Australian chapter is part of a global advocacy movement that promotes gender equality. White Ribbon engages men and boys to become active in ending violence against women and children. It is also a great place to find the latest studies and learn more about gendered violence. The website has in-depth, evidence-based research on violence against women and prevention strategies. **Website**:[ White Ribbon Australia](https://whiteribbon.org.au/)**Contact number:** +61 8 6370 0600 (Corporate) ## **DV Connect** DV Connect is a 24-hour domestic violence crisis line for Queenslanders who are experiencing or at risk of experiencing domestic violence and sexual assault. It is one of the five nonprofit partners working with 1800RESPECT. It is a brilliant support line for people who are more comfortable talking with someone of the same gender, as they provide separate crisis consultations for women (Womensline) and men (Mensline). DV Connect also provides sexual assault advice through the Queensland Sexual Assault Helpline, trauma counselling via 1800RESPECT, and domestic and sexual violence education through Workplace Training. If you need temporary accommodation, DV Connect operates medium-term safe housing for women and children after leaving a shelter. **Website**:[ DV Connect](https://www.dvconnect.org/)**Contact number:** 1800 811 811 ## **Organisations that offer financial support for single parents with low income** ## **Australian Government services** When it comes to financial hardship support, there is a huge range of government services available to support single mothers. These include but are not limited to: - Single parenting payment - Family tax benefits - Child care rebate - Income support payment You may be eligible for family tax benefits or any of the above. Check your eligibility via the Department of Human Services website (link below). For a more detailed explanation of what you could be eligible for see:[ What benefits am I entitled to as a single mama](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/). Understanding and registering for Child Support may also be an option. Know how it works here:[ The essential guide to child support for newly separated families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/). **Website**:[ Department of Human Services](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/),[ Child Support](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/individuals/child-support)**Contact number:** See individual website ## **DSS Grant Services directory** The Department of Social Services (DSS) provides critical services to families, children, seniors, and vulnerable people and communities. Current DSS grant programs are available for families and communities, housing and homelessness, and disability, mental health and carers. You can apply for a grant on the “Funding Open for Application” page. To see a detailed list of all active grants and organisations providing services in your area, visit the DSS Grant Services Directory page. Immediate emergency relief services are available. **Website**:[ DSS Grant Services Directory](https://serviceproviders.dss.gov.au/)**Contact number:** 1300 653 227 ## **National Debt Helpline (NDH)** The NDH is a nonprofit service that assists people in financial trouble in handling debt and getting back on track. Free and confidential financial consultation is available Monday to Friday during business hours. Their consultants are all qualified professionals working in community agencies across the nation. If you prefer the self-help route, the website has e-learning materials about handling debt one step at a time. They even help out with complex issues like family violence, natural disasters and economic abuse. Here’s a chat with the NDH in the Beanstalk Podcast:[ Dealing with debt and getting your finances back on track](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/debt-finances-back-on-track/). **Website**:[ National Debt Helpline](https://www.ndh.org.au/) **Contact number:** 1800 007 007 ## **Food Bank** Australia’s largest food relief organisation served over 77 million meals in the last year alone. The Food Bank is a charity sector pantry, sourcing surplus food and groceries for people in need. The Food Bank is also involved in natural disaster relief, research, and advocacy. While they don’t give food directly to individuals, you can get help by contacting food relief agencies in your area. You can also use the Ask Izzy website or visit the Foodbank website in your state to find links to local food aid services that serve families and individuals. **Website**:[ Food Bank](https://www.foodbank.org.au/)**Contact number:** 02 9887 4144 ## **Financial separation support** ## **Moneysmart** Moneysmart is the government’s financial literacy website that helps Australians take control of their money. On the Moneysmart website, you’ll find free tools, tips, and guidance to get a grip on your situation if you feel stressed and overwhelmed by money problems. If you are recently separated or divorced, make sure to visit their financial checklist page to help you organise finances after a breakup. Here’s a chat with MoneySmart on the Beanstalk Podcast:[ Single mum budgeting – Why, how and the tools to use](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-budgeting/). **Website**:[ Moneysmart](https://moneysmart.gov.au/getting-divorced-or-separating/divorce-and-separation-financial-checklist)**Contact number:** 1300 300 630 (ASIC contact centre) ## **Divide Financial Separation** It is a common misconception that you need to engage lawyers for your financial separation. But there is another way! Divide are specialised Chartered Accountants offering solution-driven advice, tailored to each individual financial separation. Their mission is to find the very best and most cost-effective outcome for both parties in a non-aggressive space, without using lawyers. Website: Divide – Simple Financial Separation Contact number: 07 3367 5380 (Book a free chat) ![support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Alvaro-reyes-h7plzfi0ih8-unsplash-edited-1066x800.jpg "Alvaro-reyes-h7plzfi0ih8-unsplash - edited - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Family Court of Australia website** The Family Court of Australia website is an excellent place to start for many single parents going through a divorce or separation and need legal advice. Their website is packed with information about family law, forms, fees and links to helpful contacts. If you are recently separated or divorced, check out their page on property and finances after separation. It covers the various ways assets and debts are divided after a breakup, and how a court decides the division and time limits for application for property adjustment. **Website**:[ Family Court of Australia](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/family-law-matters/property-and-finance/property-and-money-after-separation/)**Contact number:** 1300 352 000 (except WA) ## **Legal services and mediation support** ## **Relationships Australia** Relationships Australia is a group of agencies providing family relationship services across the country. Their services include family and relationship courses and professional training and development. If you are having relationship difficulties, are recently separated or divorced, starting a new relationship or simply want to make your relationships stronger, free courses are available on relationship skills, family violence, separation and more. Visit their website or call the agency to find out about courses and services near you. Here’s a chat with Relationships Australia on the Beanstalk Podcast:[ Your step-by-step guide to mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mediation-relationships-australia/). **Website**:[ Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/)**Contact number:** 1300 364 277 ## **Legal Aid** This agency helps financially disadvantaged Australians with criminal, family and civil law issues. Their services cover property, family dispute resolution, child support/maintenance disputes and spousal maintenance disputes. Grants are made possible with funding from the Australian government. As much as possible, the agency focuses on non-litigious dispute resolution and advice. They also prioritise grant aid for high-risk children or spouses. If you are in the middle of a high-conflict separation (or any family, civil or criminal difficulty) and can’t afford a lawyer, contact them to find out what options are available to you. **Website**:[ Legal Aid](https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/About-us/Policies-and-procedures/Grants-Handbook/What-do-we-fund/Family-law) **Contact number:** 1300 65 11 88 ## **Mental health resource spaces** ## **Lifeline** Lifeline is a 24-hour crisis hotline that provides short-term support for people feeling overwhelmed and having trouble coping and staying safe. This is the number to call for people in their darkest hours and for those who are worried about their loved ones experiencing emotional distress. A trained Lifeline supporter gives confidential one-on-one support to people who call. They provide a safe space and listen without judgment so you can freely discuss your concerns. Many people need long-term support, and they will work with you to explore options like connecting you with counsellors, medical and legal professionals, law enforcement and other agencies that can help. Here’s a chat with Lifeline on the Beanstalk Podcast:[ Feeling down as a single parent? There is help out there](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-for-single-parents-lifeline/). **Website**:[ Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/)**Contact number:** 131114 ## **Beyond Blue** Beyond Blue is a nonprofit dedicated to providing mental health support and services to people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide. According to their website, they are the most visited mental health organisation in the country. Beyond Blue operates a 24-hour advice and support line focused specifically on mental health issues. Information is organised by demographic to make it easy to find what you need whether you are a single parent, teenager, LGBTI or older adult. **Website**:[ Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/?&gclid=Cj0KCQiAjKqABhDLARIsABbJrGloP_8SMOXqMmRsqHYkjHVgtW95TBLC7tPH9Si7m_ET26_mEMAUaeUaAt5eEALw_wcB)**Contact number:** 1300 22 4636 ***Further reading:[ Asking for help as a single mum.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/)*** ## **Black Dog Institute** The Black Dog Institute is a nonprofit research institute focused on mental health and well-being for all ages. They provide tools and apps, clinical services, education programs, research studies and other services to improve mental health for everyone. While Black Dog is not a crisis centre, their website is a great place to start if you want to keep up with the latest research in the mental health space, from mood disorder treatments to suicide prevention strategies. They also connect you with communities around the country and provide clinical referrals if you need long-term support for depression, anxiety, mood disorders and other mental health issues. **Website**:[ Black Dog Institute](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAjKqABhDLARIsABbJrGlbl7P1r63qydebHO9iCJUODx6MqpmTPOKnEMax6Ry2b3nu88mMqLMaAqSNEALw_wcB)**Contact number:** (02) 9382 2991 (clinic) ![support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/2b7f10f6-f138-4d01-9d88-e998f19ca625-1066x800.jpg "2b7f10f6-f138-4d01-9d88-e998f19ca625 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Single Mama Way** Single Mama Way understands that mental and emotional well-being is at the heart of thriving as a single mama. Our support is designed to empower you with practical tools and personalised counselling. Single Mama Way provides one-on-one counselling and coaching sessions tailored to your unique challenges, helping you rebuild confidence, manage stress, and embrace your strengths. Whether you’re navigating the emotional toll of separation, juggling household chores, or facing financial pressures, we’re here to offer uplifting and actionable guidance. Through our programs like Reset & Empower, we create a safe and nurturing space for single mummies to process their emotions, explore resilience strategies, and set achievable personal goals. You’ll also find valuable resources like eBooks and eCourses, all crafted to build your emotional toolkit and inspire a brighter outlook. **Website**:[ www.singlemamaway.com](http://www.singlemamaway.com) ## **Social Support Groups for single mothers** ## **Single mum vine** The Single Mum Vine is a closed Facebook group entirely different from all other single mama spaces. It is an offshoot of this website you are on. We focus on the GOOD parts about being single mummies and post to inspire and make others laugh and feel good about themselves. If you are a single mummy looking for inspiration, friendship and empowerment from like-minded women, this is the perfect social media support space for you. **Website**:[ Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) **Contact number:** NA ## **Meetup** Meetup is a place to meet like-minded people and get or receive support, whether you are a single mummy who feels isolated or someone who likes to join local events for the things you love. Meet people in your area for playdates, working out, exploring, talking shop—the list is endless. You can also create a group of your own. It’s easy to sign up. Choose what you are into, search by city to find an event or group near you, and join. Note that many people are still confined to their homes due to COVID, so you may want to check out online meetups if you can’t get out of the house. Regular social interaction, even if it’s online, can do wonders for your mental health. **Website**:[ Meetup](https://www.meetup.com/cities/au/)**Contact number:** Follow on social media to connect. ## **Parenting Support** ## **Positive Parenting Program (TRIPLE P)** The Positive Parenting Program (Triple P) is a national program helping parents raise happy kids and build better relationships through positive strategies. Triple P is the largest evidence-based parenting program and is proven to work for families regardless of culture or situation. Contact your local child health centre to join a Triple P group or arrange for face-to-face support. The Triple P online course (free in QLD) is recommended for parents of toddlers to tweens. It has everything you need to raise confident, successful kids, including child-rearing techniques for all kinds of situations. The course consists of videos, worksheets, activities, podcasts and other online learning resources. Listen to this chat with Triple P on the Beanstalk Podcast:[ How to raise happy, resilient, confident children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/raise-happy-confident-resilient-kids/). **Website**:[ Triple P](https://www.triplep-parenting.net.au/qld-uken/find-help/triple-p-online/toddlers-to-tweens/?itb=52aa16fc56779ac9b2ae91a8b47927ba&gclid=Cj0KCQiAjKqABhDLARIsABbJrGneF7gDWprAMo42_JkXXKUiMs7dCw4u88SZIySB_s82VUNdjcvJe0kaAj4OEALw_wcB)**Contact number:** 13 HEALTH (13 43 25 84) ## **Parentline** Parentline is a service for anyone who needs help with a parenting issue or just someone to talk to. Parentline offers free consultation and support for parents, grandparents and carers living in Queensland and the Northern Territory. They help parents of children of all ages, with a focus on parents of children ages 0 to 8. Parentline is open seven days a week from 8 am to 10 pm. People who call are connected with a consultant right away. If the line is busy, you can leave a short message and your phone number so they can return your call. You can ask to speak with the same specialist and even choose the gender of the advisor you want to speak to. **Website**:[ Parentline](https://parentline.com.au/parents-carers)**Contact number**: 1300 30 1300 ## **Key Takeaways** Being a single parent is no easy feat, but resources and support systems are available to lighten the load. From financial support like payments to child care benefits and legal services, there’s help for every challenge. Remember, you’re not alone. Agencies and communities are here to provide guidance, information, and financial aid. Whether you’re coping with domestic violence or simply need advice, getting support is the first step. Never feel embarrassed to ask for support along the way because you are totally and utterly justified in reaching for them. Through these resources, you’ll discover a community of support and practical tools to make your journey smooth sailing. You’ve got this, single mummas! ![Support single mothers | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Support-as-a-single-mother-2.png "Support as a single mother 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** benefits, domestic violence, mental health, dv, help, charity, charities --- ### [What happens to our family home when we separate?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/what-happens-family-home-separate/) **Published:** September 26, 2020 **Author:** Samuel David **Content:** What happens to our Family Home when we separate? This is a very common question that I am asked by my single-mum clients going through a financial separation and faced with the prospects of an uncertain and anxiety-riddled future. ### YOU CAN KEEP IT – AT LEAST FOR NOW! Thankfully, the Australian [Family Law Act](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/rules-and-legislation/acts/) recognises the importance of ensuring stability for children and their primary carers and, quite often, the answer to the question is: > “*You can keep it – at least for now!*” In addition, I am also usually able to advise my single-mum clients, where they are the primary carers for the children, and reliant on their partner for financial support, that: 1. No, you are not required to magically start producing income to make all the payments for the mortgage and bills, on top of all of your already considerable responsibilities in raising pre-school children; 2. No, you won’t be kicked out of the home, even if the home is in your partner’s name and even if your partner threatens to change the locks or stop making the mortgage payments, bills or other child-related expenses (this could actually be a form of unlawful financial control and family violence); 3. Yes, if you are a victim of family violence or you or your children feel threatened or unsafe because of your partner’s threats or actions, you most certainly should go to the police and make a statement for your protection and that of your children, and yes, the police can and most likely will remove your partner from the home by an Intervention Order; 4. No, you don’t need to confront your partner in the Intervention Order matters, and where the police bring the application on your behalf, there is no cost to you; 5. Even if the police don’t think you have a strong enough case, speak to a good Family Law lawyer to help you negotiate a temporary deal to keep your family home (either by agreement or by Court Orders); and 6. Finally, even if you have to leave the Family Home, that does not mean that you can’t return to live there! The Family Court has the power to make Orders to force your partner to give you and your children sole I must say, however, that where the financial provider in the relationship also (genuinely) cannot afford to make the mortgage payments, you’re likely to qualify for a hardship relief on your mortgage, to give you time to get the house ready for sale and to locate suitable rental for yourself and the children. Where you are also working and contributing financially, then you should continue to work as you were before separation and continue making the same payments as you were. If there is a shortfall, your partner, in most cases, is obliged to make those payments. This is a concept known as ‘Spousal Maintenance’ in the family law. Spousal Maintenance payments are additional payments that you may be entitled to, above [Child Support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/) payments and are intended exactly for circumstances like this – to help keep a roof over your head and your children’s heads. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Divide_banner_1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ## What happens to our family home when we separate? ### IS IT WORTH KEEPING LONG-TERM? Now that we’ve addressed what happens to your home in the short-term, whether you are able to keep the family home long-term, however, is another question altogether. The Courts, when considering a property settlement application, need to assess each relationship on the basis of the parties’ respective contributions (financial, non-financial, homemaker and parenting), the size of the parties’ total superannuation-inclusive assets, the parties’ future needs and come to Orders which are fair (as decided by the particular Judge) in all the circumstances. > Sometimes, even if you are working, have approved finance, and combined with your anticipated property settlement, you are able to afford to keep the family home, it still isn’t worth keeping. > > Sometimes, it’s actually just better to downsize to a new home that is more manageable so that you’re not strung up on worrying about making your new mortgage payments all on your own. > > Sometimes, a fresh new start is the perfect way to celebrate your fresh new beginning because, ultimately, home really is where the heart is. ### GETTING GOOD ADVICE EARLY – THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO “What happens to our family home when we separate” is a very important question, particularly for single mums and mainly for the sake of your children. Thankfully, in most circumstances, you don’t have to worry too much about keeping your home in the short-term. The best thing you can do is to get some good legal advice even before you separate, just so you know where you stand and how best to protect yourself and your children, in the event that separation is unavoidable. There are lots of good Family Law practitioners who understand your worries – ring around and find one to give you good legal advice for your particular circumstances. Most of the good ones give you a free initial consultation, so you can get a couple of opinions and quotes too. Some of the great ones even offer fixed-prices and defer their fees until settlement! ![What happens to our family home when we separate? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Family-home-when-we-separate.png "Family home when we separate - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/what-happens-family-home-separate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/what-happens-family-home-separate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement **Tags:** divorce, financial separation, family law, family law act, settlement, asset pool --- ### [How to adjust to a change of income when you separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/adjust-to-change-of-income-when-separate/) **Published:** February 18, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** How to adjust to a change of income when you separate As a family unit you will have become accustomed to a certain lifestyle. When you separate and [split your assets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dividing-assets-after-separation/), this always changes. As a single parent you have to make cut-backs, possibly only temporary, but it can be overwhelming knowing where to start. First of all, breath. Then follow our steps on how to adjust to a change of income when you separate. ## HOW TO ADJUST TO A CHANGE OF INCOME WHEN YOU SEPARATE ### ACCEPT THE CHANGE One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to attempt to carry on as normal. You can be forgiven for wanting to because you desperately want to maintain normality for your children. The last thing you want is to cut back on an after-school activity your child loves, when they have just endured their parent’s separation. But, you may have no choice. Carrying on regardless in the hope of maintaining normality is a financial disaster waiting to happen. Accept that life has changed and talk to your children about these changes and what it means for them. Acceptance is the first stage in dealing with a change of income when you separate. ### START FROM THE BEGINNING When you [become a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-to-do-when-you-become-a-single-mum/), you are taking a new path in life. Whether this is exciting or daunting, it is a fresh start and you are in complete control of it. This includes your finances. Once your financial settlement is complete, you know exactly what you have to work with. Now is the time to stop and take stock. Think about your current situation and what you and your children need right now. Then consider what you want for your future. You have clean slate to do things your way, make the very most of it. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Divide_banner_1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ### GET YOUR DOCUMENTS TOGETHER If you are not used to managing your money, it is time to get organised. Getting your documentation in order is top of the list for [practical things to do when you first separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/first-5-practical-things-to-do-when-you-separate/). This includes utility bills, insurance policies, tax records and bank statements. As a newly single parent, you could have some big changes happening in your life over the next few years so be ready to reach for what you need, when you need it. ### DO A BUDGET TO REFLECT YOUR CHANGE OF INCOME WHEN YOU SEPARATE Putting together a budget is one of the most important steps in adjusting to a change in income when you separate. Not only will a budget show you what is really happening with your money, but it will give you peace of mind too. For this reason, make it a priority. MoneySmart has a brilliant, free [Budget Planner tool](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/tools-and-resources/calculators-and-apps/budget-planner) which you can use to record your income and expenses. Once your budget is in place, you will have an overview of your current financial situation. This knowledge is invaluable to creating and achieving your money goals. ### PRIORITISE AND CUT BACK Once you have accepted your new financial position (in our first point) you must make cut-backs because these could save you from unnecessary money struggles. To do this, you will need to prioritise what is important, and what is not. Usual cut-backs to help adjust to a change in income when you separate may include: - Renting a smaller home while you save for a deposit for a mortgage - Getting your kids to drop one paid activity and concentrate on the one they love most - Cancelling your gym membership in favour of running or exercising at home - Cancelling Foxtel and instead chilling with Netflix! ### BECOME A SAVVY SAVER When the buck (literally) stops with you, every cent counts. For this reason, you need to [save money at every opportunity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-be-a-money-savvy-single-mum/). Making changes to costly habits and routines such as buying coffees and takeaways is a good start. For an incentive, work out how much you will save if you cut back and think of what you could buy with the money. Remember, we all need to treat ourselves occasionally so be kind to yourself. Another brilliant way to save is to [switch to online grocery shopping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-grocery-shopping-tips/). By doing this you can shop to a budget every week. Just think, if you can save just $20 on each weekly shop, that is a saving of over $1,000 a year! ## HOW TO ADJUST TO A CHANGE OF INCOME WHEN YOU SEPARATE (CONT.) ### MAKE MORE MONEY Once your money is in order and you know your income and out-goings, you may be dismayed. The cost of living is high and for single mums surviving on one income, finances can be hard. Luckily, we live in world where money can be made in so many different ways. Think about ways to [earn extra cash from home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mums-extra-money-from-home/), consider finding a more [flexible job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-jobs-with-flexible-work-hours-that-you-dont-need-to-train-for/) or even retraining for the career you have always dreamed of. If you need inspiration or ideas, head to the [Single Mum Vine Facebook Group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/). You will find 1000’s of single mums building businesses and taking on extra work to fund their new single mum lives. ### REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT Remember, there is support out there if you need it. Call on friends and family to care for your children while you take an extra at work. Speak to your [employer about more flexible hours](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/negotiate-flexible-work-arrangements/) to allow you to work more or to fit your current work around your children. Reach out for [government benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) if you are in need. Please never feel too proud to ask for help. ![Change of income separate | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Adjust-change-of-income.png "Adjust change of income - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/adjust-to-change-of-income-when-separate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/adjust-to-change-of-income-when-separate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property Settlement, Money **Tags:** saving, financial support, financial documents, budget, making money --- ### [What is a parenting plan and what should I include?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) **Published:** May 18, 2022 **Author:** Belinda Eldridge **Content:** Making parenting arrangements for our children after separation can be challenging. We have to consider the various options available and adjust to a ‘new normal’. Many practical issues need to be discussed between parents before finalising parenting arrangements in relation to the care of their children. After the details have been negotiated and agreed, it is good to document parenting arrangements in a parenting plan so there is no ambiguity. You and your ex are the parents, therefore it is your responsibility to agree on the best arrangements for your children. There is no standard set of rules to follow, but there are a number of matters to be considered (more details later in this article). You and your ex determine the level of detail that you think is appropriate to document. This is often governed by how amicable or strained your relationship is. It is better to have more detail initially to set you both up for success. It usually relaxes over time as you settle into your new relationship as co-parents. ## WHAT IS A PARENTING PLAN? A parenting plan is a written agreement between the parents about the care of the children which is signed and dated. A parenting plan focuses on the needs and best interests of the children. The plan is worked out and agreed between you and your ex-partner jointly, often with assistance from a community based service providing family support. There is no required format for this plan, but some family support services have examples of parenting plans that may help parents. A parenting plan can be created quickly and cost effectively. It can be easily amended along the way. This is the simplest and most stress-free way of documenting your parenting agreement. However, a parenting plan is not a legally enforceable agreement and so acts more as a guide. It is different from a parenting order which is made by a court. To change a parenting plan into a legally enforceable agreement, parents can apply to the court for a parenting consent order which is based on the agreed parenting plan. ## WHAT IS A PARENTING ORDER? A parenting order is a set of orders made by a court about parenting arrangements for the children. Parents can agree their own Parenting Orders (parenting plan) and then submit them to the court for approval. Once approved by the Court, they are binding. Alternatively, a court can make a parenting order after a court hearing or trial. Once a parenting order is approved by the Court, each person affected by the order must follow it. ## Parenting plan or parenting order? Whether you choose a parenting plan or a parenting order, will often depend on the relationship you have with your ex. If you and your ex are amicable and you have confidence that your ex will comply with what you have both agreed, you will most likely be comfortable with a parenting plan. If you do not have this level of comfort, you might prefer to go straight to a parenting order. This way, both parties are legally bound to comply with the parenting order. Most couples start with an oral agreement or a parenting plan. Then, when they apply to the family court for property orders, they seek parenting orders at the same time. This is because there is no additional cost to include parenting orders that have already been agreed when applying for property orders. Using this approach enables documents to be submitted to the court for approval, but as both parents agree to the property and parenting orders sought, neither need to go to court. For this reason, it is the lowest cost option for obtaining legally binding orders. Remember, parenting plans and [orders can be updated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/change-consent-orders/) as your child grows. A parenting plan designed to [co-parent a baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parent-your-baby/) will not be suitable when your child starts school and life changes significantly for everyone involved. ## WHAT TO INCLUDE IN PARENTING PLAN / PARENTING ORDER When making a parenting agreement, parents should consider a wide range of matters, including: - Who the child will live with - The allocation of parental responsibility - Which parenting decisions will be joint decisions - Who is best placed to provide day to day care - How much time the child will spend with each parent and with other people, such as grandparents - School holidays, birthdays, Christmas and other special occasions - Practical considerations such as how far away parents live from each other and how this can affect your arrangements e.g. work commitments, accommodation, transport costs, travel time) - Education including current and future schools - Children’s sporting and social commitments - Transport arrangements for children e.g. pick-ups and drop-offs - How the child will communicate with a parent they do not live with, or other people - Medical issues, treatment and health insurance - Cultural needs - Overseas holidays with one parent - Consent for passport and holder of passports - How costs to be shared e.g. day to day, educational, medical, dental, unexpected - Any other aspect of the care, welfare or development of the child - How will disagreements be managed - How often will plan be reviewed as children grow their needs change and parenting plans need to be updated ## WHAT NOT TO INCLUDE IN A PARENTING PLAN OR PARENTING ORDER Property orders (financial settlement), parenting orders and child support are all separate legal matters. Parenting plans are able to include as much information as parents choose as a parenting plan is an agreement between the parents, with no set format, and it not submitted to the court. Parents often agree to include both parenting matters and child support matters in the parenting agreement, and that is fine if they are both happy with this approach. Parenting orders are submitted to the court and hence they are only to deal with parenting matters, not child support matters. ***Further reading: [The essential guide to child support for newly separated parents.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-essential-guide-to-child-support-separated-parents/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Parenting-plan.png "Parenting plan - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** parenting plan, how to protect your kids, what to include in a parenting plan --- ### [How super works when you separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-super-works-separate/) **Published:** November 13, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Ok, I get it .. superannuation is not the most exciting subject. But it is a vitally important part of a financial separation, so you’d do well to get your facts right. And there is only one lady who will tell it like it is. The plain-talking, all-knowledgeable, Belinda from Divide – Simple Financial Separation. Belinda, also a single mother, works with ex-couples to determine what financial structure will work best for them as 2 single parents co-parenting and then helps them agree on the action plan to implement the new structure as cost effectively as possible. Now, I usually glaze over at the word ‘superannuation’ but I actually understood everything in this podcast, which is credit to Belinda. In just 30 minutes you’ll have all the information you need to make the first educated choices around your super and your separation. The areas we discuss include: - The importance of including super in your separation process - The facts around the splitting of super - Whether super can accessed during your separation - Tax and super – why you should consider both when separating - The first steps to get your super in order prior to separation ### Listen here … ![How super works when you separate | Beanstalk Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Podcast-How-super-works.png "Podcast - How super works - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-super-works-separate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/how-super-works-separate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Property Settlement **Tags:** financial separation, superannuation, superannuation and divorce --- ### [Super and divorce: Here's what you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/) **Published:** June 15, 2021 **Author:** Belinda Eldridge **Content:** ***This article about super and divorce was last updated in 2021.*** Superannuation is an area that most of us understand as a broad concept. Digging into the specifics can be overwhelming. However, if you and your partner have separated, now is the time for you to learn about your super and understand your partner’s super. If you don’t understand superannuation when you divorce it could [cost you in your financial settlement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-ways-reduce-cost-divorce-financial-separation/). The following five tips will give you guidance on where to start with super post separation. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") For more support listen to this helpful podcast: [How super works when you separate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-super-works-separate/). ## SUPERANNUATION AND SEPARATION ### Update your nominated superannuation beneficiary Normally we nominate who our superannuation balance is to be paid to in the event of our death when we open a member account with a superannuation fund. This nominated person is called our nominated beneficiary and is often our spouse or partner. When you separate from your partner, you will want to review and update your nominated superannuation beneficiary as soon as possible – as we often want to change our nominated beneficiary post separation, from our partner to our children. Your superannuation (“super”) is not normally covered by your will, as your will only covers assets that you own. Your super is held for you on trust by the trustee of the super fund, so different rules apply. For this reason, your super fund must be kept up to date with your instructions. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Divide_banner_3.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Your superannuation balance Contact your super fund and obtain details of your superannuation balance as at your separation date. If you don’t have an online member account, register for one, as this is an easy and efficient way to get access to your up to date member balance as required. Download a copy of your most recent annual superannuation statement as this will show the type of balance you have in super and the different benefit components – all of which need to be understood and factored into your future property settlement. You will disclose this information to your ex-partner and will also receive comparable information from your ex-partner in relation to their super balance. ### Self-Managed Superannuation Funds (SMSF’s) If your super balance is in a [SMSF](https://www.ato.gov.au/super/self-managed-super-funds/#:~:text=Self%2Dmanaged%20super%20funds%20%28SMSFs,the%20super%20and%20tax%20laws.), normally you and your partner will both be members of this fund. The difference between a SMSF and other types of funds is that the members of a SMSF are usually also the trustees. This means that the members of the SMSF run it for their benefit and are responsible for complying with the super and tax laws. The financials and member account balances for SMSF’s are normally only calculated on an annual basis at the end of each financial year. Obtain a copy of the most recent financial statements for your SMSF from your accountant, as this will provide you with the relevant member balance information for both yourself and your ex-partner, that will need to be understood and factored into your future property settlement. ### Superannuation can be split Each party’s superannuation balance is an asset, which needs to be disclosed and considered in a financial settlement. Superannuation balances can be split and a portion transferred to the other party as part of a financial settlement, but superannuation must stay in the superannuation environment. It is possible to split member balances in a SMSF, but as the structures and investments within the SMSF are often complex, specialist advice is required to disentangle the fund. These superannuation splitting laws apply to married or de facto couples in all States and Territories of Australia, with the exception of de facto couples in Western Australia. ### Member to rollout of SMSF A typical SMSF will have the husband and wife or the defacto partners as members. When a property settlement is agreed, commonly one of the members will agree to leave the SMSF and rollover their balance to another complying superannuation fund, as it is no longer practical or desirable for them both to remain in the same SMSF. This is possible but specialist advice is required to ensure the SMSF continues to comply with the strict requirements (when one member is planning to roll out their balance), as only complying SMSF are eligible for tax concessions and entitled to receive contributions from members. ***Further reading: [5 Surprising facts about dividing your assets after separation.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dividing-assets-after-separation/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/understanding-superannuation-when-you-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Property Settlement **Tags:** superannuation, super, pension, SMSF, beneficiary --- ### [Yes, you can divorce without seeing a lawyer!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/yes-can-divorce-without-seeing-lawyer/) **Published:** April 8, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the most common myths surrounding separation and divorce is that you need a lawyer. You don’t! If you are looking to [save money on your divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-ways-reduce-cost-divorce-financial-separation/), you have several options. In this article, I will explain what they are so you can make an informed decision based on your unique circumstances. ## HOW TO SEPARATE WITHOUT A LAWYER ### THE DIY DIVORCE Depending on how well you are able to negotiate and work with your ex, it is possible to do the whole process yourself. You will need to be amicable and be able to communicate effectively in order to reach a decision about: - The split of the family’s net assets (what you own less what you owe) - Property arrangements - Child custody arrangements You can then lodge the necessary documents with the Court yourselves which will save lots of money. The [Family Court of Australia website](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/home) has plenty of information to help you with this. The disadvantages to this approach are that you need time and motivation to educate yourself about the process. Plus you must remain amicable with your ex-partner from beginning to end. If your communication breaks-down, you will need professional support. ![Divide Simple Financial Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Divide_banner_1.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ### Divorce using a lawyer There are circumstances where you will need a lawyer for a divorce or separation. This is usually in situations concerning child custody disputes and abuse. However, if this does not apply to you, it is important to know that a lawyer can only act for one party. This means engaging two lawyers (one for you, one for your ex) will doubles the cost and further reduces the share of net assets to be split. It is worth know that family lawyers often pay (which means you pay) accountants and other financial experts to compile a list of your assets which further increases the costs you will need to pay. Recent studies show that the average cost of separation using lawyers is approximately $50,000 for each party. There are many great family lawyers out there, but there are also many unscrupulous ones whose business model is to drag things out for as long as possible so that your family’s net assets end up in their pockets rather than yours. ### Use a specialist accountant for your divorce A mid-way option between DIY and a family lawyer is to use a specialist chartered accountant. Here at Beanstalk, we highly recommend Divide – Simple Financial Separation. Such an accountant would work with you and your ex-partner as a team to agree on a split of your family’s net assets, as well any many other decisions to be made during the separation process. All information is shared equally between the parties so that everything is transparent and one party is not disadvantaged. And the best bit is: If you do not want to be in direct contact with each other during the process, it can all be done on email. This approach of acting for both parties means it is significantly cheaper than lawyers. Depending on how quickly you can provide your financial information and how much of the work you do yourself, the whole process can cost as little as $5,000-$10,000 (+ court lodgement fees of approximately $1,000) for both of you. The below steps give you an idea of how this particular process would work. **Step 1** - Meet/speak with a specialist separation accountant to discuss your personal situati - Sign an engagement letter - Pay a small deposit ($$) - Start collecting your financial information **Step 2** - Provide specialist separation accountant with detailed financial information for each party - Detail any other issues for consideration such as future needs, earning capacity of each party and the impact of children (if any) - Agree a % and asset & liability split **Step 3** - Document and sign what has been agreed - Pay balance owing to specialist separation accountant - Lodge with the Family Court **Step 4** - Wait for review and approval by Family Court - Once approval is received, complete practical matters related to the settlement (such as transferring superannuation/loans/property to the other party) ![Divorce without seeing a lawyer | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Divorce-without-seeing-a-lawyer.png "Divorce without seeing a lawyer - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/yes-can-divorce-without-seeing-lawyer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/yes-can-divorce-without-seeing-lawyer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Divorce **Tags:** divorce, divorce process, divorce without a lawyer --- ### [Fast, healthy holiday food that kids will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/fast-healthy-holiday-food-kids-love/) **Published:** December 21, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As mums, we know only too well how the food we feed our children affects their moods, and during the holidays when routines are disrupted, it is more important than ever to get it right. For this reason, I had a wonderfully informative chat with Krissy Ropiha from Her Nourished. Krissy is a certified nutrition and health coach, with a background in psychology, but what I love about her most is that she is truly passionate about helping busy mums in the kitchen. She has a HEAP of great tips to get our kids (and ourselves) through the holidays, happily and healthily. This podcast is most definitely worth a listen AND includes a super-cool deal, especially for us Beanstalk single mummas … yay. Tune-in to listen to us talk about: - Why it is so important to feed our kids healthy, nutritious food at this time of year - Some really cool make-ahead snack ideas that your kids will actually LOVE - The pros and cons of three-meals-a-day vs. grazing - Hydration: Why and how to avoid it - Krissy’s favourite ‘go-to’ nutritious, delicious, super-fast recipes - How to get 75% off Krissy’s kids recipe book (making it just $3.75!!!). Simply head to Her Nourished and enter code BEANSTALKMUMS. ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/fast-healthy-holiday-food-kids-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/fast-healthy-holiday-food-kids-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Christmas, Food **Tags:** healthy meals, eating healthy, easy cooking tips, fast and healthy foods, healthy eating for kids --- ### [How to make bloody good life choices](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/bloody-good-life-choices/) **Published:** July 1, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *30 June 2017* You know when you just chat to someone, and you feel so comfortable and at ease? Well that is THIS podcast. My beautiful guest Penny Hall from [Penelope Jay](https://au.linkedin.com/in/penelopehalladelaide) brings her expertise and experience to the table, as we discuss (amongst other things ) the importance of life choices. After all, life is a series of choices. And as single mums making these decisions alone or having to communicate with an ex, it can be daunting. Well, let us put your mind at rest as we discuss: - How to be present in our lives i.e. how to be grateful and enjoy the good parts - Self freedom living – what it is and how to find it - The know-how and secrets of making good life choices - How to be free of unwanted life challenges - How to know if and when we are ready to make changes to our lives - A step-by-step guide to release drama from our lives and replace it with calm ### Listen here … ![Podcast | Make good choices | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/Podcast-Penelope-Jay.png "Podcast - Penelope Jay - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/bloody-good-life-choices/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/bloody-good-life-choices/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Podcast **Tags:** making good choices, tips to make good choices, making good decisions, tips on how to make a good decision --- ### [The lowdown on court orders and parenting plans](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/lowdown-court-orders-parenting-plans/) **Published:** April 18, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *3 February 2017* Are you ready to get your head around the sometimes complex issues of parenting plans and court orders? My guest, Lorrie Brook, is the Founder of [Our Children Australia](https://www.ourchildren.com.au/), and The Relationship Architect. She was a Family Lawyer, an Independent Children’s Lawyer and a Separate Representative for children in the Family Courts. Together, we unravel some of these complicated issues and empower you to move forward with your own personal situation. ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/lowdown-court-orders-parenting-plans/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/lowdown-court-orders-parenting-plans/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Podcast, Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** family law, parenting plan, court order --- ### [Learning to love yourself as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/learning-love-single-mum/) **Published:** April 18, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *7 February 2017* Do you find that life gets so busy, that it’s difficult to take time to smell the roses and love yourself for the wonderful person that you are? Alvia Turney is the CEO of [Act4Tomorrow](https://act4tomorrow.org/), a fabulous company that is having huge impact on the separation industry, by avoiding traditional (and costly) divorce/separation methods, which leave you more content and happy with the outcome. We discuss the emotional impact of a separation, the process of self-love, letting go, moving forward, changing patterns of behaviour and dating before you learn to love yourself. ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/learning-love-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/learning-love-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Healing **Tags:** single mother, single mum, loving yourself, learning to love yourself --- ### [Dating Profile Red Flags: What to Watch Out For](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-profile-red-flags-what-to-watch-out-for/) **Published:** October 23, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Online dating can feel like a minefield these days — equal parts excitement and uncertainty. While most people are genuine, there’s a growing wave of fake profiles, AI-generated photos, and elaborate scam tactics designed to reel you in emotionally (and sometimes financially). Whether you’re dipping your toes back into dating or swiping daily, knowing what to watch for can save you heartache and hassle. From too-perfect photos to suspicious money stories, here are the major dating profile red flags to look out for— and how to spot trouble before it finds you. ## Dating Profile Red Flags: What to Watch Out For ## The Photo Problem Dating profiles that use only professional studio shots or images that look like stock photography often signal trouble. Scammers regularly steal photos from social media accounts, modelling portfolios, and even AI generation tools to create fake profiles. Norton’s 2025 report found that less than half of online daters can distinguish between real profile photos and AI-generated ones, which explains why this tactic works so well. A reverse image search takes seconds and can reveal if someone has stolen photos from another person’s social account. Photos that show inconsistent backgrounds, lighting that doesn’t match the supposed location, or people who look different across their various pictures all point to profile fabrication. Some scammers now use AI to generate entire photo sets, making their profiles appear more authentic at first glance. ## When Profile Claims Don’t Match Reality Many dating profiles contain statements that should make you pause and think twice. Someone claiming to be a successful entrepreneur stuck overseas, a military contractor who can’t video chat, or [sugar daddy profiles](https://www.sugardaddy.com.au/sugar-daddies "sugar daddy profiles") with stock photo profile pictures promising luxury lifestyles all share common patterns that federal authorities have identified as warning signs. These profiles often feature professional photos and compelling backstories that seem almost too perfect. ![dating profile red flags](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-julio-lopez-75309646-29763529-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-julio-lopez-75309646-29763529 - Beanstalk Mums") The mismatch between what someone claims and what they can prove becomes apparent through their behaviour. A person who says they own multiple businesses but can only communicate through WhatsApp, someone who claims military deployment but asks for gift cards, or profiles advertising wealth while requesting cryptocurrency investments all follow documented scam patterns that cost Americans over a billion dollars last year, according to FBI reports. ## Platform Hopping and Message Patterns Scammers move conversations away from dating apps within days or sometimes hours of first contact. They suggest switching to WhatsApp, Telegram, or Google Chat because these platforms have minimal moderation and make it harder for authorities to track fraudulent activity. The FBI found that 40 per cent of romance scam victims first encountered their scammer on social media, but most were quickly directed to encrypted messaging apps. The language in early messages often follows specific templates. Messages arrive at odd hours with perfect grammar but strange phrasing, or they contain overly romantic declarations after minimal interaction. Someone who sends long paragraphs about their feelings before you’ve exchanged basic information about your lives is following a script designed to create emotional attachment quickly. Norton reports that 60 per cent of dating app users believe they’ve received messages written by AI rather than the person they thought they were talking to. ## Money Requests and Investment Pitches Financial requests start small and grow over time. First comes a story about a temporary hardship, such as a stolen wallet, a medical emergency, or a problem with international banking. The Consumer Sentinel Network found that 24 per cent of romance scammers cite illness or legal troubles as the reason they need money. After the victim sends that first payment, larger requests follow with more elaborate explanations. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-pixabay-210574-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-pixabay-210574 - Beanstalk Mums") [Investment schemes](https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/more-fake-cbc-ads-investigation-1.7494923 "Investment schemes") have become particularly sophisticated. The scammer presents themselves as a successful cryptocurrency trader or financial advisor who wants to share their wealth-building secrets. They direct victims to fake investment platforms that show impressive returns at first. One Cleveland resident lost over 650,000 dollars from her retirement savings to this exact scheme before the FBI traced her funds through blockchain analysis. These pig butchering scams, as law enforcement calls them, caused nearly 4 billion dollars in losses during 2023 alone. ## Excuses That Block Real Meetings Profile owners who cannot meet in person after weeks of conversation typically offer elaborate explanations. Common stories include working on oil rigs, military deployment, international business travel, or being trapped abroad due to visa problems. These excuses allow scammers to maintain the illusion while avoiding video calls or face-to-face meetings that would expose their deception. The FBI has documented cases where victims who insisted on meeting their online romantic interest went missing or suffered physical harm. At least one person died after travelling to meet someone they thought they knew from months of online conversation. While most scammers avoid in-person contact entirely, some criminal organisations use dating apps to lure victims into dangerous situations. ## Dating Profile Red Flags Final Tip: Profile Details That Raise Questions Vague job descriptions like “entrepreneur” or “consultant” without specific company names or verifiable work history often indicate deception. Real professionals can explain their work in detail and provide LinkedIn profiles or company websites. Scammers keep details fuzzy to avoid creating contradictions in their stories. Age and location inconsistencies also reveal problems. Someone who claims to be 35 but references events from decades ago, or whose supposed hometown details don’t match reality, hasn’t carefully thought through their fake identity. Grammar that switches between native and non-native English patterns within the same conversation suggests multiple people operating one account. [Online dating profiles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-profile-tips-not-looking-for-something-serious/ "Online dating profiles") that promise extraordinary wealth, claim connections to celebrities, or describe lifestyles that seem unrealistic for their stated profession deserve scepticism. The Federal Trade Commission reports that gift cards remain the most common payment method in romance scams, with 24 per cent of victims sending money this way. Real romantic interests don’t ask for iTunes cards or cryptocurrency transfers to solve their problems. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-profile-red-flags-what-to-watch-out-for/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-profile-red-flags-what-to-watch-out-for/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating, Online Dating --- ### [Why a Quality Dog Bed Matters for Your Pup’s Health & Comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-a-quality-dog-bed-matters-for-your-pups-health-comfort/) **Published:** October 22, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For many families, dogs are more than pets; they are cherished companions and members of the household. Just like any family member, their well-being is a top priority. One often overlooked element of a [dog’s health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/common-health-issues-in-rescue-dogs-and-how-to-treat-them/) and happiness is where they sleep. A high-quality dog bed can make a world of difference to your pet’s comfort, mood, and long-term health. Whether you have a small pup or a big breed, choosing the right bed is more than a design decision. It’s about supporting their joints, maintaining hygiene, reducing anxiety, and offering a safe, cozy space they can call their own. Here’s why investing in the right bed is one of the best things you can do for your dog. ## The Impact of a Proper Dog Bed on Your Pet’s Health A good dog bed does more than just look nice in your living room. It serves vital health functions, especially for larger breeds or older dogs. [Large Dog Bed](https://petcareshed.com.au/collections/large-dog-beds "Large Dog Bed") options are specifically designed to support heavier dogs and reduce stress on their joints, which is critical for long-term mobility and comfort. - Helps reduce pressure on joints and bones, especially for large or senior dogs - Aids in temperature regulation with breathable or heat-retaining materials - Prevents calluses, stiffness, or pain from sleeping on hard surfaces - Offers orthopedic support, ideal for dogs with arthritis or hip dysplasia - Keeps dogs off the cold floor, reducing the risk of illness in colder seasons - Providing your dog with the right kind of bed supports not just comfort but their overall physical health and well-being. ## Why Comfort and Safety Matter in Your Dog’s Resting Space Your dog’s bed is their personal retreat. Beyond the physical benefits, a well-made dog bed offers emotional comfort and helps your dog feel safe and relaxed. ### Emotional Security Dogs, like people, need a space to retreat to when they feel anxious, tired, or overwhelmed. A designated bed helps establish routine and security. It’s especially helpful for rescue dogs or pups that need extra reassurance. ### Better Sleep Quality Just as a comfortable mattress improves human sleep, a supportive dog bed can enhance your dog’s rest. Well-rested pets are generally more energetic, happy, and well-behaved during the day. ### Reduces Behavioural Issues Giving your dog their own space can reduce undesirable behaviours like couch hogging or bed hopping. With a cozy spot to relax, they are less likely to seek out human furniture for comfort. ### A Cleanable, Defined Space Most quality beds come with removable covers or washable materials. This means a cleaner, more hygienic environment for both your pet and your home. It also reduces the spread of fur and dirt across the house. ### Promotes Independence in Puppies For younger dogs and puppies, having a consistent sleeping area helps with training and encourages independence. It teaches them where they can safely relax. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-impact-dog-crates-1789722873-28860738-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-impact-dog-crates-1789722873-28860738 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Perfect Fit for Every Dog Dog beds come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and materials, allowing you to match the right bed to your dog’s needs. From calming beds to orthopedic foam, the options are tailored for both function and comfort. ### Maintains Home Aesthetics Modern dog beds are designed with home decor in mind. You can find styles that blend beautifully into your living room, creating harmony between comfort and visual appeal. ## Choosing the Right Bed for Your Dog’s Size and Needs With so many options available, it’s important to choose a bed that fits your dog’s specific needs, especially for larger breeds. ### Supportive Materials for Large Breeds Dogs over a certain weight need extra cushioning. Orthopedic foam or memory foam beds help prevent joint pain and support proper posture. Avoid flimsy, flat mats that compress under weight. ### Consider Temperature and Fabric In warmer climates, breathable cotton or mesh materials help keep your dog cool. In colder months, fleece or thermal fabrics provide insulation. Some high-end beds include cooling gel or heating elements. ### Raised or Flat: What’s Best? Raised beds keep dogs off the floor and provide better air circulation. Flat beds or doughnut shapes offer a feeling of being cradled, which is ideal for anxious pets. Choose based on your dog’s behavior and comfort preferences. ### Size Matters A bed that’s too small can restrict your dog’s movement, while one that’s too large may not offer a secure feeling. Measure your dog while they sleep, stretched out and add a few extra inches. For large and extra-large breeds, an XXL Dog Bed ensures they have plenty of room. ![dog bed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-tragaluz-5583526-1200x798.jpg "Pexels-tragaluz-5583526 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Washability Is Key Accidents, dirt, and shedding happen. Beds with removable, machine-washable covers are a must. They keep your home cleaner and make life easier for busy families. ### Non-Slip Bottoms for Stability Especially for active or older dogs, non-slip bases help keep the bed in place. This feature is particularly useful on wooden or tiled floors. ### Match the Bed to Your Dog’s Sleep Style Some dogs sprawl, others curl up tight. Observe how your dog sleeps, and choose a bed shape that supports that style. Doughnut beds, bolster beds, and lounge mats each serve different purposes. ## Comparative Overview: Dog Bed Features by Dog Size | **Dog Size** | **Recommended Bed Type** | **Key Benefits** | **Notes for Owners** | |---|---|---|---| | Small (under 10kg) | Donut or bolster bed | Doughnut or bolster bed | Choose soft, washable materials | | Doughnut or bolster bed | Orthopedic memory foam | Joint support, balanced firmness | Ideal for active or aging dogs | | Large (25–40kg) | Flat or cushioned platform | Pressure relief, room to stretch | Look for reinforced stitching | | Extra Large (40kg+) | XXL Dog Bed | Deep cushioning, full body support | Must support weight without flattening | ## Conclusion: Why a Quality Dog Bed Matters for Your Pup’s Health & Comfort Choosing the right dog bed isn’t just about spoiling your pet; it’s about giving them a foundation of comfort, health, and happiness. From joint support to emotional security, a well-chosen bed can truly transform your dog’s daily life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-a-quality-dog-bed-matters-for-your-pups-health-comfort/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-a-quality-dog-bed-matters-for-your-pups-health-comfort/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How long does a dental crown last (and how to make yours last longer)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-long-does-a-dental-crown-last/) **Published:** October 4, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** A dental crown should feel natural. It should let you chew, smile, and speak without a second thought. People often ask a simple question before or after treatment. How long will it last? The good news is that you can influence the answer every day with easy habits. Below is a plain guide to lifespan, day-to-day care, and what to watch for over the first months and the years after. It is written for Australian patients and keeps the language clear. ## What really affects the lifespan of dental crowns Several factors work together. None of them is complicated on its own. Together, they decide how long your crown stays strong and comfortable. - **Bite forces.** Heavy chewing, clenching, or grinding places an extra load on a crown. - **Cleanliness at the edges.** The margin where the dental crown meets the tooth must stay clean. - **Diet and chewing style.** Very hard or sticky foods challenge any restoration. - **Material choice.** Modern ceramics are strong. Fit and polish also matter. - **Gum health.** Healthy gums seal the edge and make cleaning easy. - **Review rhythm.** Light bite tweaks and a polish now and then keep things smooth. Think of a crown like a high-quality shoe. It performs best when it fits, you walk with balance, and you clean and care for it. ## The first 48 hours after a new crown Your aim is comfort. Keep things simple so the cement sets well and your bite settles. - Choose soft, easy foods. Warm soup, pasta, rice, fish, and ripe fruit. - Chew on both sides if it feels even. If not, favour the comfortable side for a day. - Brush gently along the gum line that night. - Floss with a slide-out motion so you do not tug on a fresh edge. - If your dentist supplied a night guard, start using it from day one. If anything feels a touch high, call the clinic. A tiny adjustment can make a big difference and is usually quick. ## Daily routine that protects the margin A crown is as strong as the tooth it covers. Keep the tooth healthy, and the crown stays happy. - Brush twice a day. Use a soft brush. Angle the bristles at the gum line. - Floss once a day. Slide the floss in. Clean the sides. Slide it out. - Add a water flosser if you have tight contacts or a bridge. - Use a non-abrasive toothpaste to protect the polish. - Rinse with water after coffee, tea, or wine. It takes seconds and helps a lot. Make this routine automatic. Most people find it takes less than three minutes. ![dental crown](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Pexels-mart-production-7491269-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-7491269 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Small food tweaks that pay off You do not need a special diet. A few small habits do the heavy lifting. - Cut firm fruit and veg into bite-sized pieces. - Avoid crunching ice or very hard lollies. - If a food stretches like toffee, chew it slowly or choose another treat. - Eat nuts and seeds with care if they get caught between teeth. These are simple choices. They reduce sudden force on edges and keep the bite even. ## Grinding and clenching Many people grind in their sleep and do not realise it. Signs include a tired jaw on waking, flat edges on teeth, or small chips on natural enamel. - Wear your night guard if one was made for you. - Keep caffeine lower in the afternoon. - Try a gentle jaw stretch and a short walk after dinner. - Mention any morning jaw tension at your next review. Protecting the crown from night forces extends lifespan more than most people expect. ## Reviews that make crowns last Regular checks do not only look for problems. They fine-tune success. - Your dentist checks the bite with thin coloured papers. - They polish tiny edges so your tongue glides. - They test floss points. Glide means easy daily cleaning. - They clean the crown and the nearby gum line. Most people book six-monthly hygiene visits. Some prefer four-monthly if they have lots of crowns or bridges. Pick the rhythm that keeps your mouth feeling fresh. Planning your appointment schedule and options with a clinic is easier when the steps are explained well. If you want a clear overview, you can skim before you book to see the [dental crown cost](https://www.ddiidentistgosford.com.au/dental-crown-costs-options/ "dental crown cost"). It outlines choices and timing in one place. ## Dental crowns on teeth that had undergone root canal therapy A tooth that has had root canal treatment can be more brittle over time. A crown protects it by spreading pressure. Your dentist may also add a core for support. Expect a careful bite check so contacts are even and comfortable. If you already wear a night guard, bring it to the fit visit. The team will confirm the contact points with the new crown in place. ## Sports, travel, and big life weeks Crowns fit normal life. A few tips help during busy periods. - Playing contact sports. Use a custom mouthguard. It protects teeth and crowns. - Flying or long travel days. Pack your brush, floss, and any guard in your carry-on. - Wedding week or photos. Schedule a quick polish and review a few days ahead. - [Holidays](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/school-holidays/ "Holidays"). Keep a mini brush and floss picks in your bag. Small tools, big gains. ## Whitening and your new dental crown ![dental crown](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/1000025678-1200x800.jpg "1000025678 - Beanstalk Mums") Porcelain does not whiten like enamel. Plan the crown shade after any whitening treatment, not before it. If you are thinking about whitening, chat with your dentist early. They will set the order so everything matches. ## Sensitivity and comfort It is common to feel a little newness as your bite settles. Light sensitivity to cold often fades quickly. A gentle toothpaste for sensitive teeth is fine to use in the short term. If you notice a tiny tap when chewing, book a short visit. A quick polish brings balance back. ## Signs to share at your next check Keep a short note on your phone. Mention anything that stands out. Your dentist will appreciate the detail. - A spot where floss frays or catches. - A food that always packs in one place. - A word or sound that makes your tongue notice an edge. - Any morning jaw tiredness or night guard issues. These notes lead to small adjustments that feel great. ## Dental crown and gum health over time Healthy gums frame a crown and make it look natural. They also protect the margin. If you see redness at the edge, it often means plaque is settling there. Spend ten extra seconds on that area at night. If it stays red, ask your hygienist to check the brush angle and floss technique. Small changes pay off fast. ## FAQs ### Can I floss around a crown? Yes. Floss as normal. Slide out rather than snapping up. You will get used to the feel in a day or two. ### Do dental crowns get decayed? Decay does not form on ceramic. It can form. on the tooth next to the edge if plaque sits there. Keep the margin clean and you avoid that risk. ### How soon can I eat normally? Most people return to a normal diet very quickly. Start with soft foods on day one. Add texture as it feels comfortable. ### Can I use a water flosser? Yes. It is helpful under bridge spans and around tight corners. It supports floss; it does not replace it. ### Will I need to replace the crown? Crowns can last many years with good care. Reviews keep them in top shape. Your dentist will tell you early if a refresh is wise. ### Can I grind my teeth with a crown? Yes, but protect it. A night guard spreads force and keeps the edges safe. Bring it to review visits so the fit stays perfect. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-long-does-a-dental-crown-last/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-long-does-a-dental-crown-last/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Space-Saving Ideas for Small Houses That Will Change Your Life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/space-saving-ideas-for-small-houses/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Tiny house dwellers make some noise! This article is for you! Stick around, and I’ll reveal the best space-saving ideas for small houses. Less cleaning, lower utility bills, and less furniture – these are the few perks of living in a small house. But along with these upsides come the downsides. One of which is the lack of storage space. If you’ve ever stood in the middle of your lounge room wondering where to put your kids’ toys, winter doona, or even your air fryer, I feel you. That is why I’ve listed storage ideas for small spaces that are genuinely useful (and Pinterest-worthy). ## **10 Space-Saving Ideas for Small Houses** Here are clever small hacks, real solutions and some creative tricks that will help you organise your home without losing your mind (or your floor space). Trust me, these storage solutions will help you make use of every inch. ## **Storage Ideas for Small Spaces (Our Top Pick): Maximise Wall Space** When you have limited floor space, the walls are your best friend. Install a few open shelving units to hold books, baskets, or even pots and pans. It gives you that modern interior vibe while keeping everyday items easy to reach. A simple wall organiser can completely [transform your kitchen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/energy-efficient-home-improvements/) or living room. It’s a place to hang craft tools or even plants. It looks chic and stops everything from ending up in a messy cabinet. Think outside the box; your walls have more potential than you think. ## **Space-Saving Ideas for Small Houses (Our Practical Pick):** **Install Built-In Under-Bed Storage Space** That under-bed area is more than just a dust bunny haven. It’s a prime storage unit of real estate. Slide in some low-profile bins or zip-up organisers for off-season clothes, spare linen, or shoes. If you’re handy, consider a built-in pull-out drawer system or even explore [OMF’s storage bed frames with built-in drawers](https://www.omf.com.au/collections/beds) that maximise every inch of under-bed space. This is perfect when you’re living in a small home and need to fit everything without the clutter. ## **Organise Your Kitchen Storage, Cabinets and Shelves** ![space-saving ideas for small houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-falling4utah-1080721-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-falling4utah-1080721 1 - Beanstalk Mums") Got a small kitchen? That won’t be a problem! It is possible to make your kitchen less cluttered, you only need to get creative. Use a hook rail for utensils or mugs, add a slimline cabinet on an otherwise unused wall, or install an open cupboard for spices and condiments. An [IKEA rolling shelving unit](https://www.ikea.com/au/en/p/braennboll-shelving-unit-on-castors-white-40586259/) works wonders next to your countertop. It’s compact, easy to move, and stores all those miscellaneous items that clutter your cupboards. ## **Hidden Shoe Storage or Bench in the Entryway** The entryway often turns into a dumping ground for shoes, bags, and who knows what. Add a narrow table or a bench with hidden storage to get rid of the chaos. Don’t forget the wall above! Install a shelf or a few hangers to give a proper home for jackets, hats, and keys. With the right setup, you’ll stop tripping over shoes and start welcoming guests into a neat little space that feels bigger than it is. ## **Multipurpose Furniture is Your Secret Weapon** When space is at a premium, every piece of furniture should earn its keep. Think a bed with storage underneath, a coffee table with compartments, or even a banquette seat that doubles as a toy chest. A dresser can double as a console in the hallway, and a dining table with storage underneath gives you a sneaky spot for napkins, placemats, or board games. It’s all about clever small changes that deliver good storage without compromising your style. ## **Space-Saving Ideas for Small Houses** Who said a small home can’t be aesthetically pleasing? These tips will prove them wrong! ## **Get Creative: Make Use of Every Stair and Step** If you’re in a tiny house with stairs, this is a goldmine for storage ideas. Install pull-out drawers underneath, and voila, you have storage for shoes, pet gear, or even school supplies. House guests won’t even know they’re there! You can also install a cabinet or bookshelf under the staircase to store things you don’t use daily. It’s an ideal spot for books, toys, or a cheeky wine rack. Stairs are often a wasted space. Turn that around, and you’ll be shocked how much you can hide away. ## **Don’t Sleep on Dressers, Consoles, and Entry Tables** ![space-saving ideas for small houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-medhat-ayad-122846-439227-1-1200x675.jpg "Pexels-medhat-ayad-122846-439227 1 - Beanstalk Mums") A slim entry table can bring instant order to a chaotic space. Choose one with a bottom shelf where you can pop a few decorative baskets, looks stylish and hides the mess. You could also use a sideboard table behind your sofa to hold remotes, books, or even your charging station. It keeps the clutter out of sight and gives your living area a more spacious feel. ## **Wall-Mounted Storage: Pegboards and Hooks** Hooks and pegboards are seriously underrated. Whether it’s in the kitchen storage zone or your home office, hanging things up gives you instant extra space. Hang your utensils, keys, jewellery, tools, or even art supplies. It’s not only a great way to decorate, but also a handy way to make stuff easily accessible. Bonus: kids love to hang their own backpacks, fewer piles on the floor! ## **Tuck Away Nooks and Crannies with Small-Space Baskets** Got a weird nook between the wardrobe and the wall? Or a skinny space between the wardrobe and the bed? Don’t ignore it. Fill it with a narrow shelf or a tall cabinet. Those wasted spaces are perfect for shoe storage, books, or even a compact storage unit for beauty products or stationery. When you use every awkward gap, your whole home runs smoother. ## **Home Office Pick: Declutter and Rotate with the Seasons** Sometimes the best first step is a good old declutter. It’s time to embrace your inner Marie Kondo! If it hasn’t been used in a year, chuck it or donate it. Use a suitcase or basket to store off-season clothes or bedding, freeing up prime space in your wardrobe. Label everything and group like items together. It sounds boring, but once it’s done, you’ll breathe easier and wonder why you didn’t start sooner. ## **Final Thoughts: Space-Saving Ideas for Small Houses** I used to live in a two-bedroom home with two kids and a dog. So trust me, I’ve wrestled with too many space-saving ideas for small houses that looked nice but didn’t work in real life. What I’ve learned is that you don’t need a lot of stuff; you just need smarter storage solutions. The change was huge once we added under-the-bed bins and swapped out our old coffee table for one with storage. The house felt lighter and way less chaotic. Even if you’re in a big house, these ideas will help you feel more in control. With a few tweaks and a bit of creativity, you really can save space, feel more spacious, and actually enjoy your home again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/space-saving-ideas-for-small-houses/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/space-saving-ideas-for-small-houses/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Why Comfort is Essential for Single Mothers’ Wellness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-cuddly-comfort-matters-in-single-mum-self-care/) **Published:** August 28, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Parenting on your own can be one of life’s most rewarding and challenging experiences. Every day comes with a mix of joy, exhaustion, and the need to balance multiple roles at once. Amid the school runs, work deadlines, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to forget about your own well-being. Yet, small, simple comforts can make a big difference in how you cope, reset, and recharge. It might seem surprising, but something as simple as a soft, familiar plush toy can bring a wave of calm. Brands like [Hugglemoo](https://hugglemoo.com.au/) offer items that aren’t just for kids. A well-loved plush can be a quiet reminder to pause, take a breath, and give yourself permission to rest. These tactile moments help ease tension and bring a little lightness to the day. ## **The Power of Comfort in Daily Life** Self-care is often linked to grand gestures like spa days or long weekends away. While these are lovely, they aren’t always realistic for single mums. Instead, comfort can be found in everyday moments. Holding something soft, smelling a favourite candle, or wrapping yourself in a cosy throw can help slow racing thoughts and soothe the senses. The act of reaching for a comforting object isn’t childish—it’s a mindful way of grounding yourself. It taps into a sense of safety that your body recognises instantly, helping to reduce stress in a natural, effortless way. ## **Why Cuddles Work for the Mind** There’s a reason we instinctively hug our children when they’re upset. Physical touch, even in the form of holding a soft item, can trigger the release of oxytocin. This hormone is linked to relaxation, improved mood, and [emotional connection](https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/oxytocin-the-love-hormone). For mums navigating solo parenting, these small doses of comfort can help balance out the mental and emotional load. A plush toy by your bed, a soft cushion on your favourite chair, or even a fluffy keychain on your bag can act as gentle reminders to care for yourself as much as you do for others. ## **Finding Your Own Cuddly Companion** Choosing a comfort item isn’t about age—it’s about personal meaning. Some mums keep a plush gifted by a friend, others find joy in browsing for something that speaks to them. Think about what texture, size, or colour feels good to you. You might prefer something bright and playful, or perhaps soft and neutral. The key is that it feels right in your hands and brings a smile to your face. This connection makes it more than just an object. It becomes part of your self-care toolkit. ## **Easy Ways to Bring Cuddly Comfort into Your Routine** ![cuddly comfort](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-cottonbro-5867736-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-5867736 - Beanstalk Mums") Adding cuddly comfort to your day doesn’t require a lot of time or money. It’s about finding little opportunities to pause and be kind to yourself. Here are a few ideas: - Keep a small plush on your desk to squeeze when work stress builds. - Place a cosy throw and cushion on the couch for evening wind-down time. - Tuck a soft item into your bag for moments when you need a quiet break. - Share a cuddly toy with your child during storytime to create a calm, bonding ritual. - Use a favourite soft item as a signal to begin your bedtime routine, helping your mind switch off from the day. ## **Cuddly Comfort as Connection** In a busy single-mum life, comfort can also be a bridge to connection. Sharing a cuddle with your child—whether it’s with each other or through a shared plush—creates moments of warmth that deepen your bond. It also teaches children that self-care is important and that comfort is something worth seeking out. These moments don’t have to be planned. Sometimes, the most meaningful acts of care are spontaneous. A quick cuddle during a busy afternoon, or pulling a soft blanket over you both during a movie night, can have lasting effects on your emotional well-being. ## **Keeping Joy in Focus** Life as a single mum can sometimes feel like it’s all about responsibilities. Adding little touches of joy to your day can shift your focus. A cheerful plush on the shelf, a bright cushion in your favourite chair, or a playful toy shared between you and your child can remind you that life is not just about getting through—it’s also about enjoying the moments in between. By intentionally including these small comforts, you create daily reminders to slow down, breathe, and savour the good. These cues become habits, helping you to make self-care a regular part of your life rather than an occasional indulgence. ## **When Cuddly Comfort Becomes a Ritual** Over time, the act of seeking out comfort can become a grounding ritual. Perhaps it’s the way you reach for your plush after a long day, or the nightly routine of wrapping yourself in a warm blanket. These repeated actions send signals to your brain that it’s time to relax and recharge. Rituals can be incredibly powerful for [mental health](https://www.aihw.gov.au/mental-health/overview/mental-health-services), especially for those juggling multiple roles. They create a sense of predictability and safety, both of which are essential for reducing stress. ## **Final Thoughts: Why Cuddly Comfort Matters in Single-Mum Self-Care** Cuddly comfort might seem like a small detail in the big picture of self-care, but it holds more power than many realise. In a world where single mums often give so much of themselves, taking time to embrace warmth, softness, and joy is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. So next time you’re feeling stretched thin, reach for something that feels good in your hands. Let it be a gentle reminder that [your well-being matters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/i-am-statements/ "your well-being matters"), too. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-cuddly-comfort-matters-in-single-mum-self-care/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-cuddly-comfort-matters-in-single-mum-self-care/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Curly Hair Confidence: How to Embrace and Enhance your Natural Texture](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/curly-hair-confidence/) **Published:** April 25, 2025 **Author:** Clare Smith **Content:** Single mothers often face the daunting task of juggling early mornings with the need to look and feel their best. Managing curly hair can be especially challenging amidst a whirlwind schedule. Here are simple yet effective ways to embrace your natural curls and boost your confidence. As a busy mum, finding time to style your curly hair can seem like an impossible feat. The struggle to balance morning routines with personal care often leaves little room for experimenting with hairstyling. However, with the right approach, you can effortlessly incorporate [leave-in and styling products](https://kevinmurphy.com.au/us/en/km/products-/by-benefit-/curl-/) into your daily regimen, allowing you to maintain beautiful curls without sacrificing precious time. Let’s explore how you can transform your morning routine to better accommodate your natural curls, boosting both your confidence and efficiency. ## **Embracing Natural Curls** Accepting and enhancing your natural curls is the first step towards building confidence in your daily life. Embracing your curly hair means understanding its unique needs and characteristics, rather than trying to conform it to societal standards of beauty. When you let go of unrealistic expectations and appreciate the beauty of your natural texture, it becomes easier to manage and style. Caring for curly hair requires a mindset shift. Recognise that each curl pattern is unique, necessitating different care techniques and products. This acceptance not only simplifies your routine but also empowers you to make informed decisions about [hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/) products that cater specifically to curly textures. The key is to focus on enhancing what you have naturally rather than transforming it into something it’s not. The empowerment that comes from embracing your natural curls extends beyond aesthetics – it positively impacts your mental well-being as well. By appreciating your hair in its most authentic state, you foster a deeper sense of self-acceptance. This self-assuredness can ripple through other aspects of life, reinforcing a positive self-image as you navigate the daily demands of motherhood. Many curly-haired individuals spend years fighting against their natural texture, often influenced by mainstream beauty standards that favour straight hair. However, the curly hair movement has gained significant momentum, celebrating the diversity and beauty of natural curls. This shift in perspective has encouraged many to discover the versatility of their curl patterns, from loose waves to tight coils. By learning to work with your natural texture rather than against it, you’ll find that your hair care routine becomes more enjoyable and less time-consuming. ![curly hair](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Curly-hair-in-image-1200x800.png "Curly hair in image - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Quick Morning Routines** Efficiency is crucial when managing curly hair during hectic mornings. Start by simplifying your routine with quick yet effective steps that maximise results while minimising time spent in front of the mirror. Begin by gently detangling your hair using a wide-tooth comb or your fingers -this helps prevent breakage while keeping curls intact. Next, consider applying a lightweight styling cream or mousse designed for curly hair types. Using [Color Wow Hair Products](https://www.ozhairandbeauty.com/brands/color-wow) can help define curls without weighing them down, ensuring they remain vibrant throughout the day. To enhance volume and lift at the roots, flip your head upside down while scrunching the product into damp strands – this technique encourages natural curl formation. Finally, opt for air drying or use a diffuser attachment on low heat if you’re pressed for time. Both methods preserve curl integrity while adding bounce and reducing frizz. By implementing these streamlined techniques into your morning routine, you’ll achieve beautifully styled curls that exude confidence without sacrificing valuable time. Another time-saving strategy is to prepare your hair the night before. Consider using a silk or satin pillowcase to minimise friction and preserve your curl pattern while you sleep. This simple switch can significantly reduce morning styling time, as your curls will maintain their shape better overnight. Additionally, gathering your hair in a loose ‘pineapple’ style on top of your head before bed can help maintain volume and curl definition, making your morning routine even more efficient. ## **Incorporating Leave-in Products** The benefits of incorporating leave-in products into your curly hair routine cannot be overstated – they provide essential hydration and definition that lasts throughout the day. These products work by penetrating deep into each strand, offering long-lasting moisture that combats dryness, a common issue faced by those with textured hair. When selecting leave-in treatments for curly hair, prioritise formulations rich in nourishing ingredients like shea butter or argan oil – these components help seal moisture while enhancing shine. Additionally, choose lightweight formulas that won’t weigh down delicate curls; this ensures optimal bounce without compromising on hold or longevity. Integrating these products into your regimen is simple: apply them post-shower on damp hair before styling as usual – this locks in hydration from root to tip while providing ample slip for easy detangling. As an added benefit, leave-in treatments often contain UV protectants which shield against environmental damage caused by sun exposure – perfect for busy mums constantly on the go. ## **Styling Tips for Defined Curls** To achieve well-defined curls that last all day long requires strategic styling techniques tailored specifically towards textured tresses’ needs. One effective method involves using ‘prayer hands’ motion during product application; simply smooth product down strands between flattened palms, ensuring even distribution across the entire surface area – this minimises frizz, ensuring uniformity amongst individual ringlets themselves! Another great option is the plopping method. This technique involves wrapping damp hair in a cotton T-shirt overnight after applying your favourite styling product. It helps enhance natural curls while keeping frizz at bay! This innovative process allows excess water to be absorbed into the fabric, leaving behind perfectly formed waves by morning, ready to be styled quickly and efficiently outdoors. It suits the demands of a busy schedule, enabling swift daily routines to be completed smoothly and seamlessly whenever needed. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/curly-hair-confidence/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/curly-hair-confidence/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Why Quick Action Is Critical in Water Damage Restoration](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-quick-action-is-critical-in-water-damage-restoration/) **Published:** July 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Water damage isn’t something you ever really expect until it happens. As a single mum, I don’t have the luxury of waiting around when things go wrong at home. I remember the panic when a pipe burst under the kitchen sink while the kids were halfway through their homework. Within minutes, the water was seeping into the hallway, and I was frantically trying to mop it up while the kids asked what was for dinner. It was chaos. I didn’t realise how quickly water can cause serious damage—warped floors, musty smells, and the dreaded mould that just won’t quit. That’s why acting fast matters. Honestly, having a reliable [water damage restoration company near me](https://www.zicklincontracting.com/water-damage-restoration/) took such a weight off my shoulders. They knew exactly what to do, and I could finally breathe. When you’re managing a household solo, help like that is a lifeline because some messes are just too big to clean up on your own. ## The Rapid Progression of Water Damage Water damage follows a predictable and destructive timeline. Within minutes of exposure, water begins to spread across floors, seeping into carpets, walls, and furniture. Porous materials like drywall and wood absorb moisture quickly, leading to swelling, warping, and deterioration. Paint may start to bubble, and finishes on furniture can begin to discolour. Within hours, the damage deepens. Wooden structures may begin to swell and split, metal surfaces can tarnish, and electrical systems may be compromised. Odours start to develop as bacteria and mould spores find a hospitable environment in the damp conditions. Mould growth becomes a serious concern by the 24 to 48-hour mark. Mould can colonise wet surfaces in as little as one day, especially in warm, humid environments. Once mould takes hold, it spreads rapidly and introduces health risks, particularly for individuals with allergies, asthma, or weakened immune systems. After a week, the damage becomes severe. Structural elements may be compromised, insulation becomes saturated and ineffective, and mould infestations can become widespread. At this stage, restoration becomes more complex, costly, and time-consuming. ## Health and Safety Risks Water damage is not just a structural issue—it’s a health hazard. Standing water and damp materials create the perfect breeding ground for mould, bacteria, and other pathogens. Mould spores can become airborne and cause respiratory issues, skin irritation, and other health problems. In cases involving contaminated water, such as sewage backups or floodwaters, the risks are even greater. These situations introduce harmful microorganisms that can lead to serious illness if not properly addressed. Electrical hazards are another critical concern. Water can infiltrate wiring, outlets, and appliances, increasing the risk of electrical shock or fire. Quick action to shut off power and begin drying can prevent these dangers from escalating. ![water damage](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-ehma-18302371-532x800.jpg "Pexels-ehma-18302371 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Financial Implications of Delayed Response The cost of water damage restoration increases significantly with time. Immediate action can often limit the damage to surface-level materials, allowing for drying and cleaning rather than full replacement. Delays, however, often result in the need to remove and replace drywall, flooring, cabinetry, and insulation. Mould remediation adds another layer of expense, as does the potential for structural repairs if the integrity of the building is compromised. Insurance coverage may also be affected by the timeliness of your response. Many policies require prompt reporting and mitigation efforts. Failure to act quickly can result in denied claims or reduced payouts, leaving homeowners to shoulder the financial burden themselves. ## The Role of Professional Restoration Services [Professional water damage restoration](https://restorationpros.com.au/ "Professional water damage restoration") companies are equipped to respond rapidly and effectively. Their teams are trained to assess the extent of the damage, identify hidden moisture, and implement a comprehensive drying and decontamination plan. Industrial-grade equipment such as air movers, dehumidifiers, and moisture meters can dry out affected areas much faster and more thoroughly than DIY methods. These professionals also understand the importance of documentation. They provide detailed reports and photographic evidence that support insurance claims and ensure transparency throughout the restoration process. Their expertise not only accelerates recovery but also provides peace of mind during a stressful time. ## Preventing Secondary Damage One of the most compelling reasons for quick action is the prevention of secondary damage. Secondary damage refers to the additional harm that occurs after the initial water intrusion, such as mould growth, structural weakening, and corrosion. These issues often develop silently and may not become apparent until weeks or months later, at which point remediation becomes far more invasive and expensive. By acting quickly, you can halt the progression of damage and preserve the integrity of your home or business. Early intervention reduces the scope of repairs, shortens recovery time, and helps maintain property value. ## Conclusion: Why Quick Action Is Critical in Water Damage Restoration If there’s one thing I’ve learned from dealing with water damage, it’s that you can’t afford to wait. The longer you leave it, the worse it gets—trust me, I’ve been there. Quick action isn’t just about saving your floors or avoiding a musty smell down the track. It’s about protecting your home, your health, and your sanity. Things like mould, warped walls, and [insurance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/never-underestimate-the-potential-return-on-investment-with-a-good-insurance-policy/ "insurance") headaches creep in fast if you don’t jump on the problem early. Whether it’s a sneaky leak or a full-on flood, getting onto it straight away can make all the difference. I know it’s hard when you’ve got a million other things going on (hello, parenting solo), but if water damage ever hits, don’t wait—just deal with it. Future you will be grateful. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-quick-action-is-critical-in-water-damage-restoration/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-quick-action-is-critical-in-water-damage-restoration/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Top 6 Home Office Tech Investments for Parents who WFH](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-6-home-office-tech-investments-for-parents-who-wfh/) **Published:** January 28, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For most parents, working from home can often reduce the cost and added stress of childcare. For others, many struggle to maintain a healthy work-life balance, juggling motherhood with deadlines and virtual meetings. Creating a[ comfortable and functional workspace](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/work-from-home-with-kids/) could help. Keeping you organised and on top of the game, whilst keeping your little ones safe and entertained for hours. To help you find that perfect work-life balance, here are our top six home office tech finds of 2025. ## **Top 6 Home Office Tech Investments for Parents who WFH** ## **1. An All-in-one Printer & Scanner** Allowing you to get the most out of your home office, a multifunctional printer can not only be a big time saver but also prove to be a great source of entertainment for kids! Whilst printers are essential for those big on organising, they can be useful for our little ones too, helping out with homework, providing unlimited colouring options and presenting the opportunity to help mummy with those top-secret documents! Remaining a popular option,[ Canon printers](https://cartridgesdirect.com.au/printers/canon-printers) offer a great variety of all-in-one printers and scanners for families, providing the perfect high-quality and adaptable home office accessory. With modern printers offering scanning, printing, copying, or all three, you are bound to find one that suits you and your family’s printing needs! ## **2. Productivity Apps** Gone are the days of Post-it notes and traditional calendars. Productivity apps like Notion and Asana are becoming increasingly popular among those working from home, allowing users to map out deadlines, plan weekly events and create the ideal work-life balance. Using templates and creative online tools, these apps are moulding the future of planning. This is particularly great in the case you have older children, a great feature of these online tools is the ability to share your plans with your school-aged children, allowing them to have a clearer visual understanding of your workload and availability. This shared scheduling feature is particularly valuable for single parents with high school-aged kids, who you’re more likely to have to orchestrate independent pick-up and drop-off schedules with. ## **3. Portable Power Banks** A portable power bank or charging station is a game-changer for those working from home and great for remaining flexible. Whether you are catching up on work during kids’ downtime or juggling duties between rooms, portable chargers keep your devices charged and ready for use on the go. Compact and versatile, portable charging stations keep the whole family connected indoors and out, helpful in power outages, weekends away and keeping us parents productive throughout the day. ## **4. Smart Speakers** Smart speakers have become widely popular in modern home office spaces, namely because they allow people to control music and smart home devices, check the weather and set reminders without lifting a finger. Alexa or Google Assistant are amongst the most notable virtual assistants, acting as a hub for information, reminders and automation in homes and home offices. Like your own personal assistant, whether it’s getting the kids up for school or setting work intervals throughout the day, smart speakers seem to be able to do it all! ## **5. Noise Cancelling Headphones** This next tech investment was showcased in our [best gifts roundup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/40-gift-ideas-for-her/) for the Christmas season for one particular reason: they’re a must for mum-friendly zen. As any working single parent knows, one of the biggest challenges we can face when working from home is often just managing noise. For those with virtual meetings or conferences, noise-cancelling headphones offer the perfect solution. By minimising distractions and enhancing noise quality, you can create a quiet, productive work environment. Yes, a good pair of [high quality headphones](https://audioconnection.com.au/collections/headphones "high quality headphones") can be expensive, but you’ll find that once you do get to snag yourself a pair, you’ll basically be fighting the urge to live in them. From using them for work, for gym seshes, and even for popping them on the kids so you can make dinner without having to hear Bluey in the background, your noise-cancelling headphones can not only boost your productivity during the day but also help you wind down better every evening. ## **6. A Webcam (with a Privacy Shutter)** As parents, we always want to protect our children, and as workers, we always want to appear professional and in control. One of our recommended picks for remaining professional whilst working from home is investing in a high-quality webcam with a privacy shutter, giving peace of mind to those with little ones. Webcams with an added privacy shutter can physically block the camera lens, preventing hackers or other team members from viewing you when used, allowing us to remain safe and professional whilst having the option to close our camera off for those unexpected interruptions! ![home office tech](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/2cdc0c01-7d38-4078-a202-4ede54038b78-1066x800.jpg "2cdc0c01-7d38-4078-a202-4ede54038b78 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Final Thoughts: Home Office Tech** With[ one in five professionals globally working from home in 2024](https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/remote-work-statistics/), home offices have naturally transformed from makeshift desks at the kitchen table to elegant high-tech spaces enhancing comfort, privacy and productivity. These six tech finds of 2025 are great for parents juggling work and parenting, helping to regulate routine and create a balance between life and profession. From noise-cancelling headphones to multiuse printers, these tech finds provide mums with practical solutions to all of our working-from-home problems! With the right work-from-home tech, parents can establish a creative and focused working environment, reflecting that of an office. Investing in these tools, you can support your children’s needs and own professional goals, balancing work and parenting like a boss! And there you have it – our top home selection of office tech for parents working from home! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-6-home-office-tech-investments-for-parents-who-wfh/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-6-home-office-tech-investments-for-parents-who-wfh/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Navigating Conflict and Co-Parenting: Strategies for Better Outcomes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/navigating-conflict-and-co-parenting-strategies-for-better-outcomes/) **Published:** August 9, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… When you’re navigating separation and parenting on your own, it’s easy to feel like you’re doing it all wrong — or all alone. From overwhelming emotions to the logistics of co-parenting and the financial pressures in between, the load is real. In this heartfelt episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, Elle is joined by **Thad Hollis**, a nationally accredited mediator, divorce coach and founder of [Better Outcomes Coaching & Mediation](https://www.betteroutcomes.au/). With over 30 years of experience across thousands of family and workplace disputes, Thad offers a calm and compassionate approach to one of the most emotionally complex transitions a mum can face: separating from a partner while raising children. Thad shares his own journey — from beginning mediation work in Bermuda as a teen, to rebuilding his life from scratch in Australia at 59 — and brings with it a deep understanding of grief, resilience, and finding strength in uncertain times. This episode goes far beyond the legal process. It’s a guide to the emotional terrain of separation, filled with wisdom, gentle mindset shifts, and incredibly practical tools for single mums working through conflict, co-parenting, and big life changes. ## Why separation is more than a legal process — it’s an emotional one Many mums approach separation, thinking the hardest part will be dividing assets or sorting custody arrangements. But as Thad explains, the real challenge often lies in grieving the relationship itself — and the future you once imagined. No one begins a relationship expecting it to end. So when it does, there’s a very real sense of loss. A divorce coach, unlike a lawyer, can support you through this emotional journey — helping you process your grief, regulate your emotions, and start making clearer decisions for yourself and your children. Thad calls it “holding a safe space” — a place to feel everything without judgment, while still gently guiding you forward. In the world of *co-parenting*, this emotional support is crucial. Without it, unresolved hurt can seep into every message, every negotiation, every drop-off. When it’s acknowledged and supported, healing begins — and a more stable *co-parenting* relationship becomes possible. ## The role of a divorce coach (and why it matters) Still a relatively new concept in Australia, a divorce coach is someone who helps you build a plan before you take action. As Thad shares, this might include clarifying what you want from separation, identifying your emotional triggers, and helping you build a team — whether that’s a family lawyer, a financial adviser, a therapist, or a mediator. A lawyer can tell you what’s legally possible. But a coach helps you explore what’s emotionally sustainable — and what’s actually best for you and your family long-term. In high-stress situations (which *co-parenting* often is), having someone neutral, calm and future-focused in your corner can make all the difference. Thad also offers a “communication review” service — guiding mums on how to word tricky texts or emails in a way that reduces conflict, rather than escalating it. ## Finding calm in the chaos of co-parenting Single mums are often under immense pressure. You’re managing the kids, holding down work, responding to your ex, dealing with bills — and all the while trying not to fall apart. Thad offers a refreshingly simple reframe: start small. Whether it’s five minutes with a cup of tea, repeating a calming mantra (“I am confident. I can do this. I am home”), or even finding a way to mentally check out while physically present with your child — small acts of self-regulation are powerful. He reminds us that when we’re overwhelmed, our nervous system moves into fight, flight or freeze. This makes *co-parenting* even harder, because we’re reacting from fear rather than responding with thought. Calming your body — through breath, space or routine — can help you return to centre before replying to that frustrating text or stepping into a tricky conversation. The takeaway? You don’t have to fix everything. Just claim a few moments each day where you come back to yourself. ## Why flexibility in co-parenting plans is key Co-parenting plans are essential — but they should never be written in stone. Children grow, jobs change, and emotions evolve. What works for your *co-parenting* relationship right now might not be right in six months’ time. Thad explains that one of the biggest sources of tension he sees is rigid expectations. One parent suddenly wants more time, the other feels blindsided — and before long, trust starts to unravel. He encourages families to treat their *co-parenting* plan as a living document — something that’s built to adapt. This might look like occasional check-ins, or using a mediator or coach to talk through changes calmly. If trust is low, even agreeing to communicate via email or app can be a step in the right direction. Thad’s advice is to start with the needs of the children. “If your child could write the plan,” he asks, “what would they ask for?” That one question can shift the entire tone of the conversation. ## Tools for communicating with an ex — without escalating Let’s be honest: communication is one of the hardest parts of *co-parenting*, especially when there’s unresolved hurt. Thad shares practical tools for lowering the temperature and keeping conversations focused — even if your ex doesn’t seem interested in the same approach. One key strategy? Delay. If you receive a message that spikes your emotions, it’s okay to step away. You can acknowledge receipt without engaging: “I’ve seen your message. I’ll get back to you later today.” This gives you time to regulate, think clearly, and respond in a way that reflects your values — not just your immediate emotions. Another useful approach is to imagine the message landing with your child’s eyes. “Would I be proud for them to read this?” is a filter that can save you from saying something reactive in the heat of the moment. And if communication is truly difficult, don’t be afraid to seek support. A coach or mediator can help craft messages that express your needs without reigniting conflict — a vital skill in any *co-parenting* arrangement. ## Encouragement for when it all feels too much Perhaps the most powerful part of this episode is Thad’s genuine admiration for single mums — and the reminder that you are doing so much more than you give yourself credit for. He acknowledges the exhaustion, the juggle, and the invisible load. And he encourages mums to recognise their own strength, creativity, and care. “You go to the fridge, see nothing, and still make a meal. That’s resourcefulness,” he says. “If you can do that, imagine what else you’re capable of.” When it comes to *co-parenting*, the emotional load is heavy — but it doesn’t have to be carried alone. Thad’s message is clear: you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re definitely not alone. ## FINAL THOUGHTS on Navigating Conflict and Co-Parenting *Co-parenting* isn’t always easy. In fact, some days it feels impossibly hard. But it doesn’t have to be lonely, and it doesn’t have to be chaotic. With the right support, a few grounded strategies, and a mindset that honours both your needs and your children’s, better outcomes really are possible. This episode is your reminder to pause, breathe, and remember your strength. Because you don’t need to do it perfectly. You just need to take the next small, steady step — and allow others to walk alongside you. --- ## Links for this episode: 🌸 Visit [**Better Outcomes Coaching & Mediation**](https://www.betteroutcomes.au/) ✨ Learn more about **[divorce coaching with Thad](https://www.betteroutcomes.au/divorce-coaching)** 👯‍♀️ [**subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts**](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) — Subscribe to the Beanstalk Mums newsletter for weekly support, podcast updates, and instant access to our life hacks library! 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! ## QUOTE YOU’LL LOVE: **“You’re not alone. There are people who want you to be well. Reaching out is the most courageous act you can do for yourself.”** – Thad Hollis [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Navigating Conflict and Co-Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/navigating-conflict-and-co-parenting-strategies-for-better-outcomes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/navigating-conflict-and-co-parenting-strategies-for-better-outcomes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast --- ### [Getting a car loan: What you seriously need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/get-a-car-loan/) **Published:** June 13, 2020 **Author:** Bill Tsouvalas **Content:** If you find yourself needing a new car due to a changing life situation or simply need an upgrade because “old reliable” is starting to leak oil and screech when you brake, most of us will need to take out a car loan. As newly single mothers or if we’ve been doing the single mum thing for a while, navigating a car loan can be tricky. Before you head out into the land of slick-talking dealers and figure out fuel economy, you should shop around for [car loans](https://www.financeking.com.au/motor-loans/car-loans/car-finance-gold-coast/). We’ve teamed up with Bill Tsouvalas, CEO of Savvy Car Loans to find out several things you need to know before [approaching a lender or a broker](https://www.savvy.com.au/car-loans/). It could save you a lot of money and a lot of hassle. ***Further reading: [Top tips for lowering your car insurance premiums.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/car-insurance-premiums/)*** ## HOW TO GET A CAR LOAN ### You should know your credit rating Before talking to a lender, you should know your credit rating (also known as a credit report, credit history, or credit score.) A credit rating tells your lender or broker how likely you are to pay the loan back. A high credit score gives you an empowered bargaining position, and access to lower interest rates, or even unsecured car loans (a fancy term for not using your car as collateral.) Usually a credit rating is expressed as a number, ranging from 0 to 850, with 850 being “perfect” and anything below 400 or so being questionable. According to credit monitoring agency [CreditorWatch:](https://creditorwatch.com.au/) > *“The average Australian company credit rating sits around 650.”* A credit history is always good to have, especially if you notice any mistakes. If you had utilities in your name and some dodgy housemates who weren’t great at paying bills or rent back in the day, defaults might still be listed now. It’s your responsibility to clear them up, which could save you a bundle of money on interest. You can find out how to get your credit rating at ASIC [MoneySmart](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/borrowing-and-credit/borrowing-basics/credit-reports-credit-repair). ## Getting a car loan (cont.) ### You should know the difference between an interest rate and a comparison rate When looking for loans, you’ll come across terms like “comparison rate” in some of the paperwork. A comparison rate is higher than a bare interest rate, with good reason. A comparison rate has most of the fees and charges on the loan added and shown as a total rate. This helps you decide on a loan based on how much you can expect to pay in total. Most brokers and lenders have something known as a comparison rate table. This table is nationally accredited and regulated chart that shows consumers all the different car loans, term lengths and interest rates that lender or broker might offer. (It doesn’t show every single one, however.) It’s all designed to be easy to follow and help you make an informed decision. You should also know that the comparison rate table might not include fees like early payment fees or statement fees, which some lenders charge on top of what’s owed on your car loan. [![Get Cozi - it's free!](https://static.shareasale.com/image/50314/CoziAdwords_Static_300x250.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1150365&u=1855502&m=50314&urllink=&afftrack=) ### You should know if your car is for business or personal purposes If you [run a side-hustle or work for yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mums-extra-money-from-home/), you can get a car loan designed for business customers. Known as a chattel mortgage, these are available for people with an ABN and using their car for business purposes more than 50% of the time. You can claim the $20,000 asset write-off, GST paid, interest on the loan, and depreciation. If you’re unsure if you qualify, ask your accountant. You should also know that a chattel mortgage is not the same as a consumer car loan. If you opt for a business car loan, you can borrow more than 100% of the value of the car you intend to buy. However, it’s not regulated by the usual consumer credit code, so you should be wary about entering into a chattel mortgage as a solo business or “mumpreneur” if you aren’t 100% sure about what’s involved. Chattel mortgages might also produce extra reporting burdens, such as logging fuel purchases, services, and kilometres travelled. That said, if you do rely on a car for business, it might be a suitable option. [![](https://www.prizerebel.com/assets/promotion/banners/336x280_2019_1.jpg)](https://www.prizerebel.com/index.php?r=9719121) ### You should know that buying new can also save you money on a loan You might be tempted to buy used to save money, but lenders are less likely to approve your loan if you buy older cars. New cars are a lower risk for lenders and will “reward” you with lower interest rates. Older cars can also turn into “money pits” quickly and won’t have as many safety features as newer models. New models might also have free scheduled servicing for a set period, which can save you even more money. ### You should know that buying new can affect your insurance Buying a new car also entails getting auto insurance coverage. This insurance can help reduce your out-of-pocket expenses when an untoward incident such as a car accident happens. But how does getting a car loan affect your car insurance? Remember that not only will you need to consider setting a budget for your car loan but also your auto insurance premiums. It’s important to obtain the total amount to set the right budget for these expenses. Insurance companies determine the suitable auto insurance premiums for their clients based on the condition of their vehicles. Thus, when you buy a new car, you’ll likely have lower monthly premiums than a second-hand car. Loan providers, like banks, usually offer auto insurance coverage too. They typically entice new car buyers to obtain a loan from them by giving free car insurance coverage. Many dealers offer free auto insurance for the first three years when you buy a new car as part of the deal. Comprehensive auto insurance usually covers accidental damage, earthquake, theft, fire, intentional damage, towing costs, emergency repairs, funeral expenses, and legal liabilities. ### Know how much you can afford to pay back each month One of the first questions a lender or broker will ask you is how much money you want them to give you. Of course, you should know the answer and have a plan for meeting the monthly repayments. The monthly repayments are just part of the equation. You also must account for fuel, insurance, registration, maintenance, and other miscellaneous expenses such as washing and cleaning. Once you have a good figure you can afford each month, you can present this to your broker or lender. It shows you’re responsible and a good borrower, too! ## Getting a car loan (cont.) ### You should know pre-approval can improve your bargaining position Many people go into a dealership with a vague budget in mind and buy a car, arranging finance afterwards. This might trap them into awful “zero percent” interest deals, which ends up costing you more in the end. You should approach lenders or brokers *before* you go car shopping, as the figure a lender quotes you in the pre-approval process gives you a price ceiling you can use as a bargaining chip with dealers. If you talk to dealers at the end of the month, when they’re trying to close as many deals as possible to improve their standing, using a hard and fast number can improve your confidence. The dealer will have to back down – you couldn’t even if you wanted to! Pre-approval gives you better peace of mind before and after the whole process. You won’t walk away with a car you can’t afford or don’t really want. ![Getting a car loan | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Car-loan-1.png "Car loan - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/get-a-car-loan/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/get-a-car-loan/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** car purchase, loans, vehicle --- ### [30 Affordable Fathers Day Gifts Sure to Surprise in 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/fathers-day-gifts/) **Published:** July 24, 2023 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** The first Sunday of September is just around the corner. That means it’s almost Father’s Day! And you’re probably scratching your head, wondering what on earth to get for the man who says he doesn’t need anything (but definitely deserves something). But when it comes to gifts, he’s notoriously hard to shop for. No need to feel pressured! To help you out, we put together a gift guide with 30 fun and thoughtful suggestions on what to get the father figure in your life. Read on and find the perfect Fathers Day gifts that’ll make this special day unforgettable. For more gift ideas (with a twist!) see: [Hilarious Father’s Day gifts for your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-fathers-day-gifts-for-your-ex/). ## **Best Fathers Day gifts to celebrate Dad 2025** #### **1. Great gift for the dad who loves golf: Golf gadget mug** First on our list of gift ideas for Dad is this golf gadget mug. This mug is a mini tribute to the game that so many Aussies love. It’s perfect for the golf enthusiast dad who can’t get enough of the green and loves his morning coffee. ![Golf gadget mug | Fathers day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014267.jpg "1000014267 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Cool Things Australia](https://fave.co/46BPnMR) #### **2. For the tech-savvy dad: Blackview AirBuds 6 Wireless** The Wireless BT5.0 Earbuds are the ultimate Father’s Day present for the dad who thinks he’s still got the moves. With a sound so clear and a Bluetooth connection so strong, even Dad’s “dad jokes” might sound cool. These sleek earbuds are the perfect sidekick to keep him in the groove all day long. ![Wireless BT5.0 earbuds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014269-1066x800.jpg "1000014269 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/41bCjKG) #### **3. For the dad who has everything: Personalised cardholder** For the dad who can afford anything, a personalised gift is the way to go. This sleek, sophisticated card holder keeps his essentials organised while adding a touch of class with his initials engraved on it. ![Personalised cardholder | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014271.jpg "1000014271 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/3HC8bBp "https://fave.co/4mDiEeE") #### **4. For the new dad: J’Ai Un Super Papa White Tee Shirt** These matching tees are the perfect first Father’s Day gifts! It will let Dad and little one sport a coordinated look that’s both fun and memorable. It will make family outings or just hanging out at home extra special. ![Letter print tops](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014273-1068x800.jpg "1000014273 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at:[MyDeal](https://fave.co/4oJ9P56 "https://shrsl.com/4xisk") #### **5. For grandpa who loves fishing: Fishing keyring** Finding the perfect gift for a dad or granddad who’s obsessed with fishing can be tricky. Do you go for a new lure or a bag of bait? Skip the hassle and keep it simple with this charming keyring that captures his love for the sport in a fun and practical way. [![Fishing keyring | Father's Day gifts](https://canary.contestimg.wish.com/api/webimage/5ab2b56ce114ef19ee7e71e1-large.jpg?cache_buster=ef7242a2077f74f3547370cd892ac889)](https://shrsl.com/4xisn) We found this at: [Walmart](https://fave.co/3JlQ6rL) ## **Meaningful gifts to get Dad (cont.)** #### **6. For the rad dad: Rock On leather & oak moss candle** This is perfect for the dad who secretly wishes he was still in a rock band. We love how this candle turns any space into a backstage lounge. This gift is perfect for relaxing after a long day or just setting the mood for his air guitar solo. ![Rock On leather & oak moss candle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014275.jpg "1000014275 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Gifts Australia](https://fave.co/4fnd1iy) #### **7. For the cool dad: Hands-free phone holder** The techie Dad will love this reliable phone holder. This handy gadget will keep his phone at the perfect angle whenever he multi-tasks (or tries to, lol). ![Hands-free phone holder | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014278.jpg "1000014278 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Cool Things Australia](https://fave.co/3UOUQbO) #### **8. For the dad who values music:**JVC Bluetooth Party Speaker If Dad loves his music then he’ll love this portable speaker which we have to say looks way more expensive than it really is … always a bonus! [![Portable wireless Bluetooth speakers ](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h4d/hba/17202218958878.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/BXJMy0) We found this at: [Big W](https://fave.co/45kq1SF) #### **9. Satechi Trio 7.5W Wireless** **Charger Pad** If you want to give something simple but useful, Dad would love to receive this sleek Orotec charger that powers up multiple devices at once. No more tangled cords, just place your gadgets and let the magic happen! [![Orotec Slimline Wireless Charger Pad | Father's Day gifts](https://i.ibb.co/nRT0Vtz/1.png)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/BXxed4) We found this at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/45nsiMQ) #### **10. A Game of Thrones: A Song of Ice and Fire Series: Book 1** This is a popular Father’s Day gift choice among Game of Thrones fans. If Dad is one of them, we’re sure he’ll be ecstatic to get one of these. He won’t even know it was a last-minute Father’s Day gift! (Wink!) [![A Game of Thrones: A Song of Ice and Fire Series: Book 1](https://i.harperapps.com/hcanz/covers/9780006479888.jpg)](https://www.booktopia.com.au/a-game-of-thrones-george-r-r-martin/prod9780006479888.html?irclickid=R-JXK40fyxyJUrK0GIyI522MUklU6IWmTVp92Y0&SUBID1=&SUBID2=&irgwc=1&bk_source_id=1253070&utm_campaign=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=Impact&bk_source=Impact) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://fave.co/4ojqEmH) ## ****Unique Fathers Day gifts** (cont.)** #### **11. Best practical gift: Tabletop pizza oven** If your Dad loves to bake, giving him this pizza oven will make him feel more appreciated! Plus, you can get free pizza all the time! ![Tabletop pizza oven | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014280-1066x800.jpg "1000014280 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Kogan](https://fave.co/4fmtUcV) #### **12. Australian craft beer mixed 6-pack** If Dad’s a beer connoisseur, you can’t go far wrong with this craft beer-tasting pack. With a selection of beers from Australian breweries, it’s a great opportunity to veer off VB and try something different. ![Australian craft beer mixed 6-pack](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014282.png "1000014282 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Beer Cartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbeercartel.com.au%2fproducts%2fmixed-boutique-beer-6-pack%3fcfclick%3dbd31d754aa2048a29148b674ca642248%26utm_campaign%3d59558%26utm_content%3d%26utm_medium%3d%26utm_source%3dCommissionFactory) #### **13. Best functional gift: Alarm clock + phone charger** This 2-in-1 alarm clock and wireless phone charger allows Dad to wake up on time and keep his phone juiced up without a mess of cables. It’s the perfect blend of retro and tech-savvy that’ll help him start his day right and stay connected. ![Alarm clock + charger | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014284.jpg "1000014284 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Big W](https://fave.co/47dt1RV) ***Further reading: [Thoughts from a single dad this Father’s Day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/thoughts-from-a-single-dad-this-fathers-day/)*** #### **14. Pornburger: Hot Buns and Juicy Beef Cakes cookbook** Not for the healthy conscience, this book is packed with mouthwatering photos and 80 delicious burger and burger-related recipes – pretty much every kind imaginable. [![PornBurger: Hot Buns & Juicy Beefcakes](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2046/8557/products/brumby-sunstate-pornburger-hot-buns-juicy-beefcakes-cookbook-yellow-octopus-30801355530_2000x2000.jpg?v=1555168610)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/vny1qN) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://fave.co/46I8bu2) ## **Thoughtful gifts that Dad will cherish (cont.)** #### **15. Pizza wheel cutter** This pizza wheel cutter makes pizza cutting a breeze. It’s a great addition to that tabletop pizza oven. Make Dad happy and get him both! ![Pizza wheel cutter | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014320.jpg "1000014320 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [MyDeal](https://fave.co/45yHAhI) #### **16. Australia’s Most Unbelievable True Stories** This book takes you on a wild ride through the country’s most jaw-dropping real-life events. From mind-blowing survival stories to bizarre historical escapades, it will give Dad plenty of subject matter to impress friends and family. ![Australia's Most Unbelievable True Stories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014322.jpg "1000014322 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Bookshop.org](https://fave.co/4m2HTr6) #### **17. Men’s board shorts** Give Dad these rockin’ board shorts for the beach or year-round wear. It pairs perfectly with t-shirts and hoodies, and features multiple convenient pockets. ![Men's board shorts | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014324.jpg "1000014324 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [My Deal ](https://fave.co/45ptsrm) #### **18. Veggie Saver fresh produce bag** Our next pick is perfect for the dad who loves gardening. This non-toxic, reusable food storage bag will help keep his produce fresh! We also love how it’s made from natural materials! ![Veggie Saver fresh produce bag](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014326.jpg "1000014326 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Biome](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14846?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.biome.com.au%2fproducts%2fveggie-saver-produce-bag-swag%3f_pos%3d1%26_sid%3d6e510c9ff%26_ss%3dr) #### **19. Book of Dad jokes** Make Father’s Day fun-filled with this handy Book of Dad jokes. Make sure he never runs out of material to entertain with this handy book. ![Book of Dad jokes | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014310.jpg "1000014310 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [bookshop.org](https://fave.co/4fklxPn) #### **20. Boganology board game** This board game is a great Father’s Day gift for the Dad who has an inner bogan that needs to be released. Hilariously, players can cash in on child support and get extra Centrelink payments, as well as outrun the cops in thongs! ![Boganology board game](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014308.jpg "1000014308 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [My Deal](https://fave.co/4myoKNH) ## **Perfect Fathers Day gifts for Dad** #### **21. Wireless portable massager** This nifty little portable neck massager not only soothes sore muscles but also stimulates blood flow and reduces tension. Just what Dad needs after a hard day at work. A list of Dad’s Day gifts wouldn’t be complete without some sort of massager! ![Wireless portable massager | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014305-1066x800.jpg "1000014305 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Walmart](https://fave.co/4ojgmTB) #### **22. Vacuum flask** A pretty cool gift for the tea lover. The thermos keeps Dad’s favourite drink hot for up to 6 hours, not only for tea. Think coffee and hot soup, too. ![Vacuum flask](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014303.jpg "1000014303 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [T2](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ft2-stainless-steel-flask-black-H999BC065.html%3futm_campaign%3d%2bT2%2bTea%26utm_source%3d%26utm_medium%3daffiliate%26cfclick%3d4ae5896f265c45d79fdccfdd49271d4a "https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ft2-stainless-steel-flask-black-H999BC065.html%3futm_campaign%3d%2bT2%2bTea%26utm_source%3d%26utm_medium%3daffiliate%26cfclick%3d4ae5896f265c45d79fdccfdd49271d4a") #### **23. The Aussie BBQ Bible** We all know how much Dad loves a BBQ. So make him feel loved by gifting this BBQ bible! With over 100 delish recipes, this book will encourage him to lift his game and produce some dishes he can really get his teeth into. [![The Aussie BBQ Bible | Father's Day gifts](https://d28hgpri8am2if.cloudfront.net/book_images/onix/cvr9781925418583/the-aussie-bbq-bible-100-recipes-for-the-great-outdoors-9781925418583_lg.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/5bA3Lj) We found this at: [Booktopia](https://fave.co/4mlaCXM) #### **24. Gift basket pick: Cheer and beer hamper** As hampers go, this one is not too girly but full of surprises that every man will secretly love, including 3 Steinlager Beers, H&S Mill Pistachio & Cheddar Bites, a Whittakers Milk Chocolate & Coconut Slab and an assortment of Italian Chocolate Truffles. ![Cheer and Beer Hamper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014300.jpg "1000014300 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [BeerCartel](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/60466?Url=https%3a%2f%2fbeercartel.com.au%2fproducts%2fbest-of-belgium-mixed-12-pack%3f_pos%3d13%26_sid%3d45e9f5866%26_ss%3dr) #### **25. Leather wallet with RFID protection** Complete Dad’s stylish look with a two-tone Pierre Cardin wallet made from Italian leather. It features RFID protection, which prevents unauthorised scanning of credit cards. Pretty neat, huh!? ![Leather wallet with RFID protection | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014298.jpg "1000014298 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [MyDeal](https://fave.co/41ayLZ4) ## **Final picks: Fathers Day gifts Australia 2025** #### **26. Groomsman Pro Sport beard trimmer** Give Dad a professional beard trimmer on this special day. This one from Wahl is heavy-duty and comes with four interchangeable heads and 360-degree rotation. [![Groomsman Pro Sport beard trimmer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014296.jpg "1000014296 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fseries-5-10-in-1-all-in-one-waterproof-style-grooming-kit-012423.html) We found this at: [Shaver Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fseries-5-10-in-1-all-in-one-waterproof-style-grooming-kit-012423.html) #### **27. Crosley Cruiser portable turntable** Let the dance-off begin! This portable turntable has Bluetooth so Dad can listen to his favourite tunes with a speaker of his choice. ![Crosley Cruiser portable turntable | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014294.jpg "1000014294 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [DickSmith](https://fave.co/4l9vf8k) #### **28. Wood Chip smoker box** Take BBQing to the next level with this simple yet effective wood chip smoker box. And so easy too: Simply fill with wood chips and place on the BBQ. ![Wood chip smoker box](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014291.jpg "1000014291 - Beanstalk Mums") We found this at: [Walmart](https://fave.co/40Q10w0) #### **29. Sleeping bag** Help Dad feel comfy during his camping trips with this well-insulated sleeping bag. With its warmth, Dad will create lasting memories outdoors instead of worrying about the cold. [![Sleeping bag | Father's Day gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014289-1066x800.jpg "1000014289 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/4msMSkK) We found this at: [DickSmith](https://fave.co/4msMSkK) #### **30. For the DIY Dad: Kikkerland car-shaped survival tool** Shaped like a classic car, this nifty tool packs in essential features like a bottle opener, screwdriver, and mini knife—everything he needs to tackle little emergencies with style. It’s a fun, functional addition to his DIY kit that’ll have him ready for anything. [![Kikkerland car-shaped survival tool](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/1000014287.jpg "1000014287 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/45i3zrR) We found this at: [ DickSmith ](https://fave.co/45i3zrR)[Australia](https://fave.co/45i3zrR "30 Affordable Fathers Day Gifts Sure to Surprise in 2025") ### **Customised gifts** If you want to make gifts more personal, some online shops such as [Gifts Australia](https://www.giftsaustralia.com.au/personalised-fathers-day-gifts) offer items that can be engraved with his name. Gifting something personalised will make your dad feel the extra effort you put into his special day. ## **Summary: Best Fathers Day gifts ideas for 2025** Father’s Day is the perfect time to show Dad you care and to make him feel loved. Get creative and find gifts that truly show the best dad just how much he means. But how do you select the perfect gift? The secret is knowing his heart. As long as it’s a sincere gift, we’re sure it will make the Father’s Day celebration memorable. No extravagant parties are needed! If he wants things simple and fun, then pick something appropriate. If he’s into functional things, our list above has plenty of special gifts you can choose from. Whether you’re looking for a gift for your ex-partner or a new dad in your life, it’s all about making his day extra special. Remember that a thoughtful day card and some fun gift wrap or gift box can make a difference. Gifts like these are meant to celebrate all the little things he does that make him such an amazing dad. 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Lots of my friends are dating later in life, so I’ve had people to share my experiences with and can listen and learn from theirs. I’ve had some good results with the requisite disaster along the way. Dating is an adventure, and you will find that dating in your 40s is even more so. Here is what I have learned, alongside my advice to anyone dusting off their dating skills and getting back out there in their 40s. ## Dating in your 40s: What you need to know ## Everyone is online now Heading back into the dating scene after a 20-year break is a bit like walking into a busy bar to find it is empty. Where the hell is everyone? They are all online. Even the youngsters. Online dating is the way to go. It is where all the people from the empty bar have gone, and it is where you need to be if you want to date. The sooner you get over the horrifying thought of promoting yourself online, the better. Yes, it is a bit like selling an item on Marketplace, where the item is you, but I promise you that it is considered perfectly normal in 2025. ## Choose the right dating app That said, finding the best dating app for the over-40s is key. There are millions, yes millions of people using dating apps. For success, you need to be amongst the right crowd. Think of it like choosing what bar or club to go to in the 90s. You’d choose one where you feel comfortable, which is frequented by the kind of people you like. This is how you choose an app. I know people who have had good and bad dating experiences on most of the major dating apps on the market today. A common mistake is to blame the dating app if something doesn’t go to plan. There are many apps out there, even [apps for people who hate dating apps!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-for-people-who-hate-dating-apps/) ![dating in your 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-jep-gambardella-5086626-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jep-gambardella-5086626 - Beanstalk Mums") My favourite app for dating in my 40s is [eharmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F), followed closely by [Bumble](https://bumble.com/). I like eharmony as most people use a reasonably-priced paid version, meaning they are all committed to finding a partner and taking it seriously. Plus, their profiles are really in-depth, which makes matching more successful. Bumble is a dating app with a twist because the woman has to make the first move. Not only does this make you feel empowered, but it stops the barrage of messages you can get from the more mainstream apps. Take your time and do your research to find the right app for you. ***Further reading:*** [***7 Best dating apps for the over 40s.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-apps-over-40/) ## Dating in your 40s? There is a new dating etiquette! If you only read one part of this article, read this and be prepared. With online dating comes a new set of rules that might shock you and take a while to get used to. It is normal for people to be chatting with several potential partners at the same time. To be sure that isn’t happening, you need to have the “exclusivity chat”; until you have it, assume you are part of a posse. Also, if someone decides they don’t like you at any point during the courting ritual, they will opt out. No need for conversation, and certainly no apology. It is called [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) and is very prevalent and also very rude. I was texting a guy whom I really liked for a few weeks and thought the feeling with mutual. Then halfway through a long texting session, he stopped, and I never heard from him again. That is ghosting. I racked my brain trying to work out what I had done wrong. Funnily enough, we were talking about crocodiles, so I wondered if that was a trigger for him. Honestly, getting ghosted can drive you insane, so just accept it as part and parcel of dating online and learn to move on. Then there are the requests for nude photos, which might come in text No. 2 or 3. And keep your phone away from your kids, as an [unwanted dick pic](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/respond-unwanted-dick-pic/) could pop up at any time. It’s a whole new world out there. Further reading: [Coping with rejection when dating online.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rejection-online-dating/) ## It’s more complicated, or is it? Most, but not all, people who are dating in their 40s have come out of long-term relationships and marriages with the person they had kids with. This can make dating more complicated, or less. It’s no longer all about you. Instead, you have to factor in the kids, and their kids, and how the hell you will find free time to actually date. Plus, there is the other parent (the father of the children) and how they feel about you dating. All up, it can get a bit complex. For me, though, I find dating less complicated in my 40s. I am not looking for a partner to marry, live with, or have kids with. I want someone who makes me happy and who I enjoy spending time with. This simplifies the process. ## Dating in your 40s? Some things never change I started dating again nine months after my marriage break-up, and by month ten, I realised that, when it came to men, I hadn’t changed at all. 20 years on, I was still behaving like a love-sick, man-mad teenager. I would get ahead of myself, be too keen, go off a guy if he was too nice to me (what is that all about?) and fall in love if we had sex. Oh yes, I fell very quickly back into my old ways. It took real strength and some serious adulting to change the way I approached potential new partners in my life. Don’t expect that because you are older and wiser, your style of dating will have changed. You might have to do some work on yourself to make it happen. ![dating in your 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-cottonbro-5934335-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-cottonbro-5934335 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Sexually transmitted diseases still exist No personal experience with this one, but I know many people who have had. Please remember that contraception will stop you from having babies. It will not stop you from getting a sexually transmitted disease. STDs in our age group are rife, with [gonorrhea and chlamydia](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/sexually-transmitted-infections-sti) being the most frequently reported. A quick visit to an [STD clinic](https://dbclinic.com.sg/std-test/ "STD clinic") can give you peace of mind and make sure any issues are caught early. In my experience, people are less likely to use a condom in their 40s, and it can even be frowned upon, but stand your ground. ***Further reading: [I love you, I want to be with you, but I can’t share a bed.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cant-share-a-bed/)*** ## Are you ready to date? Are they? It’s really important to be in the right headspace when you start dating in your 40s. For many of us who have come out of a long relationship, it takes time to heal, and you must heal before you date. Think about your reason for dating. Is it to have fun and to find a like-minded soul to enjoy life with? Or is it to help you get over your ex, boost your confidence and prove to yourself that you can get a partner? For example, I am currently not dating, but was recently told that sex is good for vaginal health when you are perimenopausal. My first reaction was to hit the dating apps and find myself a sexual partner. This is not on the list of “right reasons to date”. Remember, although you may be mentally ready to date, a lot of your potential dates won’t be. I have lost count of the number of guys I have met on and offline who have not got over their exes. They are a serious no-go, but it takes a while to read the signs. ***Further reading: [How to break through the fear and date again.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/date-again/)*** ### Dating in your 40s is a journey; enjoy it The most important thing to remember when dating in your 40s is that although you might have an end goal, reaching it is a journey, and only you have the power to make it an enjoyable one. Don’t rush it and take the time to learn and grow from your dating experiences, whether they are good or bad. I have not met Mr Right … yet. But I have had some hilarious dates, some happy short relationships, I’ve made two close friends, and even found someone to do my gardening! Of course, I have the obligatory disastrous dating stories too, but I use them to build my strength and resilience. Having the opportunity to date again later in life is exciting. Although I entered the dating scene with much trepidation, I have since learned to really enjoy it. And I hope you will too. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-in-your-40s/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-in-your-40s/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating --- ### [Empowering Single Mums with Efficient Moving Tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/empowering-single-mums-with-efficient-moving-tips/) **Published:** August 16, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ten years ago, as I navigated through my divorce, moving became a nightmare as I had to relocate with my 2-year-old. It was my first time moving alone with a child who was more into unpacking each box I just finished. The task was overwhelming, and eventually, I lost all motivation to pack and move. Fortunately, I received some invaluable moving tips from a friend, which eased my burden and became my moving roadmap for years to come. ## **Pro-Moving Tips for a Single Mom** After years of moving without any support to co-manage the moving tasks, I have learnt a lot of ways to cut down moving expenses and tasks. Here are my tips to let you enjoy a smooth transition to a new place with your kids. ### **Find Reliable Childcare** The last couple of days before the arrival of the moving truck is overwhelming and dangerous. You are moving your heavy furniture and electronics, and having your children around you is a major risk. It’s important to secure childcare for your children before the peak moving time as a first step. Talk to your close friends or family members who you can trust with your child. If not possible, get the recommendations for a reputable childcare and pre-enrol your children, so you freely concentrate on your moving checklist. ### **Create Your Moving Itinerary** You should always carefully plan and manage moving tasks to avoid making mistakes or, even worse, forgetting essential items at the last moment. Sit down and get your list-making tools, which can be as simple as the notepad on your smartphone. Keeping your home in view, decide on everything you need to do. The moving itinerary is going to cover everything from transferring your utilities to getting groceries for the day you have moved. Check the online moving checklists to find something you may have forgotten. ### **Manage Your Utilities** Home utilities, especially electricity and the internet are the two prime needs to keep your routine moving smoothly. So, you need to manage your utilities at both old and new places beforehand to avoid interruption. Check with your local service providers to cut down your utility connections at your old place and manage the connections at the new place on the exact moving day. This pre-arrangement saves you from extra bills and from sitting in the dark while surrounded by tons of boxes you have just moved to your new home. ### **Delegate Your Tasks** If your children are attending school, you will have plenty of time alone to pack everything without needing to care for your child. However, for younger kids, you need to tend to them while also handling the moving tasks that keep piling up. One of the best moving tips for this situation is to delegate some of the tasks to your family and friends, allowing you to focus on just the sections of the checklist that you can manage easily with your children and simply receive updates on the tasks others have completed. ![Moving Tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/in-article-image-4.png "in article image (4) - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Book the Rental Trucks** You can skip this part if you’re moving with fewer items that will easily fit in your vehicle. Otherwise, you need to rent an appropriate truck that can fit all your belongings and securely move everything to your new place. The last-minute booking is always chaotic as you may have to compromise on the work quality at such last moments. Hence, pre-book the trucks before packing your stuff so you can get an affordable quotation with premium services. Remember to also check the vehicle’s legal weight limit, which you can do at [weighbridges](https://diverseco.com.au/weighing/weighbridges/ "weighbridges"). ### **Declutter Before Packing** The top moving rule is to move only useful items for which you can get a designated place at your new home. So, before packing, decluttering your home is a must-do task. Go room-by-room, clean each corner of your home and remove everything you are not going to use at your new place. Organise a garage sale or donate everything to a charity. Sort all the items you are going to keep in different categories so similar items go together while packing. Hence, your unpacking at the new place will be streamlined. ### **Pack and Move** Once you know what you are going to move, stock up on an ample quantity of high-quality packing material. Start with occasionally used items and end it on the moving day. Pack a separate bag of essentials for you and your children. Include everything you both need for a few days until your home is completely set and organised. Load everything on the truck under your supervision, get into the car with your children, and move to your beloved home. ### **Hire Full-Package Moving Services** We completely understand if you’re struggling to take on any of these moving tasks. Moving is hard especially when you are all alone with your kids. In this situation, we highly recommend looking for reputable full-packing moving services like [**Mcorp**](https://www.mcorpconsulting.com.au). Such companies cover the entire checklist on their own with their professional expertise and moving experience. Your peace matters more than money. Let the professionals keep you free from moving stress while you and your children are finding comfort in each other. ## **Final Thoughts on These Essential Moving Tips** Moving as a single mum can be difficult when you have little kids, especially if you’re not well-prepared. So, stick to your moving schedule to keep the entire process on track. Making sure everything gets done in time. If you’re unsure about handling it all on your own, consider hiring a professional. Ensuring a smooth transition. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/empowering-single-mums-with-efficient-moving-tips/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/empowering-single-mums-with-efficient-moving-tips/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Smart Flooring Decisions for a Beautiful Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-flooring-decisions-for-a-beautiful-home/) **Published:** August 7, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When you’ve got kids running around (or crawling, or spilling things), choosing the right flooring becomes less about Pinterest perfection and more about what can survive daily life. I remember standing in a showroom, completely overwhelmed by samples—tiles, carpet, timber, hybrid—trying to picture what would actually work in our home. It’s not just about looks; it’s about comfort, safety, cleaning ease, and whether it’ll handle scooter wheels, snack-time disasters, or impromptu dance parties in the hallway. In this guide, we’ll walk through some popular flooring types and where they work best, so you can make a choice that feels as good as it looks. ## Tile Flooring: Durable and Stylish Tile flooring is a stunning solution that marries durability with endless design possibilities. It offers practical water resistance in kitchens, bathrooms and laundry rooms. Tiles can come in ceramic, porcelain and natural stone varieties. You must look for [premium indoor & outdoor tiles](https://ultimatetiles.com.au/) to ensure that they have long-term performance. For a luxurious touch, you can put in marble or travertine tiles, while porcelain or ceramic solutions provide low-maintenance solutions that help keep your interior temperatures down in warmer months. ## Carpet Flooring: Soft and Inviting Carpet is an increasingly popular choice for creating cozy living environments in bedrooms, nurseries and family rooms. They are available in a lot of colours, textures, patterns and styles. Carpets allow you to have a strong personal expression in designing spaces while offering sound insulation and warmth during colder months. Carpet may require regular vacuuming or deep cleaning sessions in order to maintain its appearance. Staining can occur, making it less ideal in high-traffic or spill-prone environments. ## Hardwood Flooring: Timeless Elegance For timeless elegance and long-term value, hardwood floors remain a timeless classic. Crafted from solid wood species such as oak, maple or walnut, these classic floors add warmth and natural sophistication to any room they are in. Hardwood is highly durable and can last decades when properly maintained, making it an excellent long-term investment that adds character in living rooms, dining areas and [bedrooms](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/12-gorgeous-bedroom-ideas-for-the-classy-single-lady/). Though this form of flooring might not work so well in moisture-prone places like bathrooms or basements, as it may warp over time. ![flooring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-clickerhappy-1388944-1200x721.jpg "Pexels-clickerhappy-1388944 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Laminate Flooring: Budget-Friendly Versatility Laminate flooring provides an economical yet stylish alternative to hardwood. Composed of multiple layers fused together and printed with photographic images that mimic wood, stone or tile grains, laminate offers impressive visual appeal at a fraction of its cost. Laminate is scratch-resistant and easy to maintain, an excellent option for high-traffic areas like hallways and playrooms. Although they might be a bit moisture resistant, you should still be a bit careful to put them in areas that get excessive amounts of dampness exposure. ## Concrete Flooring: Industrial Chic For those who are looking for a sleek and modern aesthetic, concrete flooring is an excellent solution. Not only is it durable and easy to maintain, but you can customise its look using stain dye and finish options to create something truly original. Concrete works especially well in open-concept layouts such as basements or loft-style homes, but can feel cold under your feet. Additional warmth could be provided through area rugs to make for an inviting atmosphere. ### My Flooring Mistake as a Mum (and What I’d Do Differently) When I became a first-time mum, I picked the prettiest carpet I could find for the nursery—plush, pale cream, and oh-so-soft. What I didn’t factor in? Milk spills, nappy leaks, and later, bright pink texta “art” on the floor. Within six months, it looked ten years old. I learned the hard way that flooring isn’t just about how it looks—it’s about how it lives with you. These days, I go for something that handles the chaos of parenting with grace. Think washable rugs, stain-resistant carpets, and durable vinyl that still feels soft underfoot. Pretty matters—but practical will always win. ### Kid-Proof and Mum-Friendly: Look for Easy-Clean Features If you’ve got little ones (or pets), easy-clean flooring will change your life. Spills happen daily—juice, paint, crumbs—and you don’t want to panic every time something hits the floor. Look for materials with water resistance, scratch protection, and sealed surfaces that can handle real-life mess. Laminate, hybrid flooring, or even textured tiles are great options that wipe clean without fuss. You’ll also want something that doesn’t show every speck of dust or fluff—because no one has time to vacuum twice a day. When you’re juggling everything else, having floors that hold up with minimal effort is a quiet game-changer. ## Final Thoughts: Choose Floors That Fit Your Life, Not Just Your Look At the end of the day, flooring isn’t just about what looks good in a magazine—it’s about what works for your family, your routine, and your budget. Whether you’re mopping up muddy footprints or trying to stop Lego from embedding into the carpet, the right floor can make life easier (and a little less stressful). From soft and cozy to tough and spill-proof, there’s something out there that will meet you where you’re at. So don’t feel pressure to choose the trendiest option—choose what feels right for your home. After all, you’re not just picking floors—you’re laying the foundation for family life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-flooring-decisions-for-a-beautiful-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/smart-flooring-decisions-for-a-beautiful-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household, Shopping --- ### [A Kinder Way for Single Mums to Stay Frugal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/a-kinder-way-for-single-mums-to-stay-frugal/) **Published:** August 7, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There’s a point when frugal living can feel like a second job. You’re meal-prepping, price-matching, refilling hand soap bottles, and sewing up torn seams on school uniforms after midnight. You’re not splurging—yet somehow, the pressure to be endlessly resourceful and financially savvy just keeps mounting. We don’t talk about it often enough, but sometimes trying to stay frugal can feel like an exhausting hustle. Let’s take a moment to rethink what it really means to be a “mum-saver”—that badge of honour worn by those juggling parenthood, budgeting, and a hundred daily responsibilities. There’s pride in stretching a dollar, sure. But when the effort to save becomes all-consuming, it might be time to ask: Is this still serving you? ## Frugality Isn’t Supposed to Burn You Out The image of the [ultra-frugal parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/)—stockpiling toilet paper, baking everything from scratch, repurposing every glass jar—has been romanticised to the point of glorification. And while there’s merit in being thrifty, the pressure to maintain a Pinterest-worthy standard of savings is unrealistic for most. Exhaustion in the name of “being smart with money” isn’t the goal. Frugality should feel empowering, not punishing. It’s okay to question whether all the extra effort is actually helping your household—or just adding mental clutter. Sometimes, saving every possible cent actually comes at a cost: your time, your energy, and your well-being. ## Strategic Over Sacrificial Reframing frugality as a strategy, not a sacrifice, can change the game. A strategy takes your needs, time, and bandwidth into account. It’s sustainable. It leaves room for joy, rest, and even spontaneity. Maybe that means saying yes to the odd café coffee if it buys you ten [minutes of sanity](https://www.helpinghandsdoula.com/5-morning-sanity-savers-for-busy-parents/). Or not driving 30 minutes across town to save $2 on flour. Strategy asks: What’s worth it? Sacrifice doesn’t ask—it demands. The mum-saver mindset tends to glorify the hustle. But strategic savers? They pick their battles. ## There’s a Difference Between Free and Freedom One unexpected lesson? Not everything “free” is a win. Free samples that clutter your drawers, or loyalty programs that require hours of your time for minor rewards—they’re often more about psychological tricks than actual value. That said, some resources genuinely do offer joy and value without a catch. One way to lean into smart saving without the overwhelm is to explore [free competitions](https://au.wowfreebies.com/win-free-stuff/) that give you the chance to win products or experiences your budget might otherwise never allow. Some sites gather all these in one place, taking the hassle out of chasing down random offers. It’s a way to inject a little surprise and delight into your life—without another spreadsheet or trip to the discount aisle. The trick is to filter the noise and be honest with yourself: Is this freebie saving me money or stealing my time? ### When Cheap Meant Costly ![stay frugal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Pexels-n-voitkevich-8062358-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-n-voitkevich-8062358 - Beanstalk Mums") I once bought a $15 kettle because mine had broken, and payday was still a week away. It looked fine on the shelf — basic, but functional. Within a month, it started leaking. By month three, it was completely dead. I ended up replacing it twice before finally buying a $40 one that’s still going strong. That experience taught me the difference between being frugal and being *too* frugal. I was so focused on saving in the moment that I lost sight of long-term value. As a solo mum, it’s easy to default to the cheapest option — we’re under so much pressure to make ends meet. But sometimes, spending a little more upfront can mean less stress (and fewer replacements) later. Now, I ask: will this choice help future me? If the answer’s no, I wait, save, or find another way. ## You’re Not a Budget Robot—You’re a Human Being You’re allowed to be tired. You’re allowed to want ease. You’re allowed to skip the [money-saving hack](https://cafemom.com/parenting/money-saving-tips-for-moms) and buy the pre-cut fruit if that’s what keeps your morning running. Too often, the frugal mum identity becomes a trap that won’t let you admit when something’s just too much. Being financially conscious doesn’t mean being constantly deprived or depleted. Life’s too short to be always chasing the cheapest option, especially if it’s eroding your peace. ## Start Saving Smarter, Not Harder There’s wisdom in stepping back and reassessing how you’re saving—not just how much. Consider what frugality could look like if it worked with your life, not against it. Could you save by simplifying your schedule? Could you invest in tools that cut down on mental load, even if they cost a bit more up front? There’s no prize for being the most exhausted saver on the block. Frugal living isn’t a competition. It’s a lifestyle choice that should support your values, your goals, and your well-being—not drain them. Let’s start seeing saving not as a burden to carry, but as a tool to shape a life that feels lighter, not just for your budget—but for you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/a-kinder-way-for-single-mums-to-stay-frugal/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/a-kinder-way-for-single-mums-to-stay-frugal/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Money --- ### [Why We Love Minimalist Style That Feels Powerful](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-we-love-minimalist-style-that-feels-powerful/) **Published:** July 18, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Minimalist style gets a bad rap—people assume it’s plain or a bit too safe. But honestly, when it’s done right, it’s one of the most polished, powerful ways to dress. As a single mum, I don’t have hours to faff around in front of the mirror, so I’ve learned to keep things simple: clean lines, quality fabrics, and pieces that actually fit well. A crisp white shirt and well-cut jeans can do more than a loud, trendy outfit ever could. I used to think I needed more clothes to feel put together, but now I know it’s about making every piece count. And when paired with carefully chosen accessories, like a timeless [Cartier Tank watch](https://kennedy.com.au/collections/cartier-tank "Cartier Tank watch"), minimalism becomes anything but boring. It’s chic, easy to throw on in a hurry, and always feels like “me”—even when I’ve been up since 5 am, making lunchboxes and cleaning Weet-Bix off the floor. ## **Focus on Fit, Not Flash** Minimalist style hinges on how your clothes *fit* rather than how much attention they demand. Forget bold graphics or oversized branding. Instead, think tailored trousers, structured blazers, or a simple shirt that fits just right at the shoulders. When clothing fits well, it enhances your silhouette naturally. It doesn’t need to shout. A clean fit gives the impression of polish and intention—something flashy fashion often misses. ## **Neutral Doesn’t Mean Forgettable** Minimalist colour palettes lean heavily on neutrals—black, white, grey, navy, camel—but that doesn’t mean they’re forgettable. These shades create a sophisticated base you can build on. Rather than rely on colour to make a statement, minimalist dressing lets texture, layering, and subtle contrast do the talking. A grey wool jumper over a white tee, paired with slim black jeans, can look effortlessly stylish without a single bold hue. ## **The Power of One Statement Piece** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-john-diez-7578332-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-john-diez-7578332 - Beanstalk Mums") One of the best things about minimalist style is that it makes room for standout accessories. When the rest of your outfit is understated, even one well-chosen piece—like [cute hair accessories](https://parismodeshop.com/collections/hair-accessories "cute hair accessories")—can have a real impact. This could be a high-quality leather bag, a pair of well-made boots, or a sleek timepiece. A minimalist outfit isn’t empty; it’s intentional. By removing the visual noise, you give space for detail to shine. ## **Fabric and Texture Are Everything** Without busy prints or logos, your clothing needs something else to carry it, and that’s where fabric comes in. A heavyweight cotton T-shirt feels different from a flimsy one. A textured knit has more character than a flat one. Layering these pieces gives depth to your outfit without overcomplicating it. Wool, linen, suede, and brushed cotton are all great options for adding interest without adding clutter. ## **Consistency Builds Confidence** Minimalism is more than a one-time look—it’s a mindset. If you consistently wear pieces that fit well and are thoughtfully chosen, you develop a signature style. People start to associate you with a sharp, elevated presence, even if they can’t quite pinpoint why. That consistency doesn’t come from buying more. It comes from wearing less, but wearing it better. ## **Grooming and Posture Matter More Than Ever** ![minimalist style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-prolificpeople-29734039-1067x800.jpg "Pexels-prolificpeople-29734039 - Beanstalk Mums") When your outfit isn’t relying on bold colours or logos, your grooming and posture play a bigger role in the overall look. Hair should be tidy, shoes polished, and nails clean. Even something as simple as good posture can transform how minimalist clothes sit on your body. Without distractions, every detail matters—including how you carry yourself. ## **Quality Over Quantity** Minimalism is the antidote to fast fashion. Rather than stuffing your wardrobe with options, the goal is to curate a smaller collection of high-quality staples. This doesn’t mean you have to spend a fortune. It means prioritising pieces that last, both in terms of durability and style. A well-made coat, tailored trousers, and a versatile pair of shoes will take you further than ten trendy items ever could. ## **Know When to Add Contrast** While most minimalist [wardrobes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-personalise-your-wardrobe/ "wardrobes") stick to simple tones and cuts, small contrasts can elevate the look. For example, a crisp white shirt can be mixed with dark denim, matte and shiny textures can be paired in the same colour palette, or a pop of interest can be added with subtle contrast stitching or a unique neckline. These minor touches break up the simplicity without losing the minimalist essence. ## **Minimalist Doesn’t Mean Basic** There’s a difference between minimalist and basic. Basic is careless. Minimalist is precise. The beauty of minimalist style lies in intention, the idea that every item you wear is there for a reason. It’s a style rooted in confidence, because you don’t need loud prints or logos to make your point. You need good judgment, solid taste, and attention to detail. Minimalist fashion might not scream for attention, but that’s exactly why it stands out. When you get the details right, you don’t just look good. You look effortless, modern, and completely in control of your style. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-we-love-minimalist-style-that-feels-powerful/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-we-love-minimalist-style-that-feels-powerful/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Shower Your Friends with Love: How to Celebrate Friendship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/shower-your-friends-with-love-how-to-celebrate-friendship/) **Published:** January 29, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** How do you celebrate friendship? If you have a ride or die, you know that true friendship is not just about having someone to laugh with. More so, it is someone who stands by your side through the ups and downs. Your connection is built on trust, understanding, and shared common interests. These ties are rare and truly worthy of celebration. Unlike the fleeting, amorous variety of connections, friends offer a unique kind of comfort and a safe space to be yourself without fear of judgement. Friends are the family you choose, offering support, laughter, and companionship that give joy to your life. ***Further reading: [The science of friendship: proven strategies for making friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/science-friendship-making-friends/)*** ## Why should you celebrate your friendship? [Making friends is easy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/science-friendship-making-friends/), but keeping them is not. Believe it or not, it takes commitment to maintain friends forever. Sure, there are people we remain close wit,h even with minimal interaction. But for some, the reality is that many relationships are expected to expire with the lack of communication. The older we grow, the more we recognise that just, like in any relationship, effort is vital to sustain and nourish meaningful friendships. That’s definitely a challenge for us mums, especially single mums and mums with younger kids. There’s so much going on in life that often forces us to put our friends aside. Here are creative ways to applaud our friends. ## 6 Creative ways to celebrate friendship ## Adventure bucket list Last year, my college friend group celebrated the 20th anniversary of our friendship. To mark the occasion, we decided to tick off an item that has been on our bucket list forever: a weekend in Bali. It was the perfect opportunity to reminisce about the past, share about our present, and share silly inside jokes from our uni days. It felt so good to catch up and see how far we’ve all come, yet how much we’ve stayed the same. That trip reminded me why these women are still my people after all these years. But whether it’s a local or foreign trip doesn’t matter. What’s important is you and your friends take a moment from your everyday life for the greatest adventures. ## Friendship bracelet If you didn’t notice, friendship bracelets have been all over the internet for the past two years. They’re simply a simple yet perfect gift—especially when custom-made by [jewellers](https://www.gsdiamonds.com.au/ "jewellers")—for people who bring happiness into your life.. My friend Kay has two preteen daughters, who were really enthralled by this cultural trend and had lots of beads and strings in her house. She made one for each of her closest friends, reflecting the uniqueness of one another, and had them shipped to our addresses. So sweet! If you’re not fond of colourful beadwork, charm bracelets and matching bangles work great, too! ## Friendship tattoos Now, this is something I haven’t personally done, but getting identical or matching tattoos with your friends is actually a thing! It’s a fun and meaningful way to celebrate your quirks and passions together. Whether it’s a symbol of a shared milestone, like graduating uni, surviving a tough year, or simply a design that represents your connection, a tattoo can be a lasting reminder of your bestie or your whole group. ![Shower Your Friends with Love: How to Celebrate Friendship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-10-1.png "In article image 10 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to celebrate your friends (cont.) ## Friendship photobook Another great idea is creating a [photo book](https://www.photobookaustralia.com.au). It’s a time capsule filled with pictures from the different trenches of life, funny screenshots of your social media chats, and those little keepsakes like a concert ticket or a handwritten card. Include snaps of childhood memories or life events like an engagement or wedding. Add captions to remember your stories, and gift a copy — or even mail it — to your friends. It’s nice to have something tangible that we can look back to see if, in 30 years, we have stood the test of time. ## Friendship Day date Sometimes, friends know you better than romantic partners or even your own family. That’s why people designated a special day for our friends: July 30. It’s a day that serves as a reminder of the people that has made everything brighter in our lives. Why not make plans with your friends to go on a date? You could plan a cosy brunch at your favourite café, complete with long chats and bottomless coffee. Or maybe try something adventurous, like kayaking, rock climbing, or taking a painting class together. If you’re more into low-key vibes, host a movie night at home with snacks and your favourite old films. A spa day, a karaoke session, or even just a walk by the beach are all great ways to reconnect. Whatever you choose, the focus is on spending time together and celebrating the bond you share. ## Signature treat A grandmother in my daughter’s daycare has something sweet she shares with her friends. By sweet, I mean literally. One of her best friends is a baker, and their friend group has a signature pastry! For us who can’t do something as grand as having a cake named after our friends, we can do the same on a simpler scale. A tweaked cookie recipe or a homemade drink that has ingredients that symbolise your shared experience. This idea might sound corny when you’re younger, but once you become an adult, believe me. You’re going to cherish it. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-9-1.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final thoughts: How to celebrate your friends There’s no end to the value of friends. Because of our different circumstances, most times, it’s enough to simply cherish and respect each other. But sometimes, it’s also nice to put a little more effort to applaud your chosen family. It doesn’t matter if the gesture is grand or simple. If you have true friends, they will appreciate even the simplest effort. Here’s to friendships that uplift, inspire, and stand the test of time. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/shower-your-friends-with-love-how-to-celebrate-friendship/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/shower-your-friends-with-love-how-to-celebrate-friendship/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship --- ### [5 Essential tips for your child’s first year at school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/5-essential-tips-for-your-childs-first-year-at-school/) **Published:** October 6, 2022 **Author:** Early Childhood Australia **Content:** Your child’s first year at school is a big milestone. It’s the beginning of a great adventure into their school years, but it can also be a time of challenge and change. As a parent, it’s also completely normal to worry about your child during this time. > *Will my child make friends at school?* > > *Are they going to enjoy school, and are they ready?* > > *Will they adjust to a new routine?* The abundance of information during the transition to school can be overwhelming. There is so much to think about and organise, and as a single mother, you’re already doing so much. Here are five tips from Early Childhood Australia to keep in mind as you and your child tackle the first year at school together. Early Childhood Australia (est. 1938) is the peak early childhood advocacy organisation, acting in the interests of young children, their families and those in the early childhood field. ***Further reading: [7 Easy ways to help your kids with homework.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/)*** ## 5 Essential tips for your child’s first year at school ### 1. REMIND YOUR CHILD THEY ARE CAPABLE AND CONFIDENT Research has found that when starting school, children are most concerned about making friends, following the rules or not understanding what’s going on. By the time they’re ready to begin school, most children have already experienced early learning services or playgroups, understand structure and have interacted with a range of children. They are capable and confident learners, and with your support, will transition to school easily. Additionally, you can - Remind your child it’s okay to be nervous about starting school, and to listen to any concerns your child may have and answer any questions - Do a ‘run through’ of the drop-off and pick up journey, take them for a walk around the school, pointing out any classrooms and mapping the journey from the rooms to the toilets, canteen, library and your pick-up point. - Tell your child what you’ll be doing during the day and where you’ll be, as some children worry about their family while they’re at school. School is one of the most important and earliest memories we have, and while we know that it might be challenging sometimes, it’s important to remind your child they’re capable and confident. ### 2. SUPPORT YOUR CHILD TO MAKE FRIENDS You have most likely heard the words ‘school readiness’ during the orientation process—but what actually is school readiness? A common myth is that your child needs to be able to write, read and do basic maths before they start school. Not only is this inaccurate, but it’s a lot of pressure to put on a child. In reality, school readiness focuses on children’s emotional and language development, particularly being able to articulate their needs and follow directions. This is important when tackling your child’s biggest fear about starting school: making friends As children, we learn how to be friends by watching people around us. We can help children make friends by: - Modelling respectful relationships with adults and talking about the importance of being respectful—not everyone will be their friend, and that’s okay - Support your child to get involved with activities such as [swimming lessons](https://steadyswimschool.sg/ "swimming lessons"), sports, or music, where they can meet other children. - Keep in contact with friends from playgroup or early learning—just because your child has moved on doesn’t mean the friendship has to end. ### 3. BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE SCHOOL Building a relationship with your child’s teacher and the school helps your child settle in and manage any problems that may come up. For single parents who are co-parenting, communicating your routine with your child’s teacher about who will do pick-up and drop-off is important for consistency and child protection. We know that relationships between parents can get complicated quickly, and being able to confidently and confidentially confide in your child’s teacher is one more person supporting you to do the best for your children. - Start early and get to know the school staff and your child’s teacher well before your child begins at school via orientations, school nights, or emails - Once your child has started school, make time to have a quick chat with their teacher as often as possible, keeping in mind that pick-up and drop-off times can be as busy for them as they are for you. - If you feel a problem might be developing, make an appointment to meet with your child’s teacher at a mutual time when you are both relaxed and prepared. ## First year at school essential tips for parents and carers (cont.) ### 4. DEAL WITH CONCERNS QUICKLY It’s common for [children to become anxious](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/) or unhappy about going to school—most of this is linked to settling into school, but if anxiety continues, it’s a good idea to have a chat with your child’s teacher at a time that suits you both. Most of the time, these anxieties disappear with the support of parents and teachers, and as your child gets used to school. Some of the times when you may want to seek additional professional advice may include when: - Your child is unable to cope with what they’re expected to do at school - Your child has been unhappy for several weeks or has had significant behavioural changes - Your child is soiling or wetting themselves during the day - Your child is struggling to see or hear clearly - Your child complains of tummy aches or headaches during school days. ### 5. REMEMBER YOU‘RE DOING A GREAT JOB Your child’s first year at school is a year of challenges and changes – for both you and your child. There will be bumps along the way, but you’ll also have the opportunity to share in their excitement, revel in their achievements and instil a lifelong love of learning. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") This article was adapted from the publication *First Year at School: Essential tips for parents and carers* by Jenni Connor and Pam Linke (Early Childhood Australia). For more strategies and practical tips to help your child get the most out of their first year. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/5-essential-tips-for-your-childs-first-year-at-school/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/5-essential-tips-for-your-childs-first-year-at-school/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School, Education **Tags:** back to school, starting school, school readiness, prep, early learning --- ### [How to Plan Memorable Celebrations Using Safe and Fun Party Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/plan-memorable-celebrations-using-safe-and-fun-party-essentials/) **Published:** July 29, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Celebrations with children can sometimes be… let’s say, a joyful chaos. Regardless of whether you’re planning a first birthday, baby shower or neighbourhood event, the goal is quite simple: to create warm memories without any undue stress. One of the easiest (and most festive) ways to lift a party atmosphere instantly is with balloon décor (one of my favourite party essentials!). Yet there are a few details to keep in mind to ensure everything goes off without a hitch. These days, many parents opt to use professional suppliers for items such as balloons and gas supplies, with elaborate balloon wreaths and arbours. But there are also practical tips worth knowing when organising DIY balloon décor at home, especially when you want to keep costs manageable and reduce waste. Here are tried and true ideas for planning a balloon-filled celebration that is safe, festive and suited to family life. ## **How to Plan Memorable Celebrations Using Safe and Fun Party Essentials** ## **Think Through the Design Before You Order** First and foremost, consider the theme and layout of your party. Balloons can be used in many ways to take the vibe to the next level. Depending on your venue, you might opt for a garland above a dessert table, clusters tied to chairs or a helium bouquet to welcome guests at the entrance. Measure your space before buying. If you have a high ceiling or plan to hang balloons from rafters, you can work with larger helium inflatables. For lower ceilings, smaller clusters or balloon bunches work better. Planning ahead avoids over-ordering and ensures your décor matches the scale of the event without overwhelming it. ## **Safety First: Handling Gas and Balloons Responsibly** Many party decorators and parents now order [gas for helium balloons](https://www.supagas.com.au/products/ZXHELIUM "gas for helium balloons") from professional suppliers. When delivered and handled properly, this gas is safe to use in household or community settings. If you are using a cylinder or canister, ensure it is secured upright and placed in an open, well-ventilated space out of direct sunlight. Never leave gas tanks in areas where small hands might reach them. After inflating balloons, seal the tops securely and place balloons where they can’t float away, especially if the event is hosted outside. Balloons released into the sky can harm wildlife, and helium is a non-renewable resource, so it’s best to use it sparingly and with purpose. ## **Eco-Friendly Balloons and Reuse Ideas** As parents, we want fun, but we also want to register our impact on the planet. Latex balloons are biodegradable when handled properly. If you choose latex rather than mylar, it can be easier to compost or repurpose small pieces after an event. Avoid releasing balloons outdoors altogether. Instead, consider stringing finished balloons onto a clothesline and using them as garland at your next event or rotating them through rooms in your home for decoration. Balloon arches can also be reused if they remain intact. Unsuitable or popped balloons might be cut away with scissors and discarded, but the plastic tubing or frame can be kept for future parties. ## **Combine Balloons with Other Budget‑Friendly Décor** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-jonathanborba-32370562-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jonathanborba-32370562 - Beanstalk Mums") Balloon décor really stands out when combined with simple props. Use crepe paper fans, fabric bunting or potted plants to anchor clusters. A backdrop of paper flowers or ribbons adds colour without any unnecessary bulk. For table styling, mix small helium balloons nestled into greenery with bowls of fruit and fresh herbs. The organic shapes and tones balance the devices and allow balloons to feel part of the living space. ## **Timing Is Key** When should you inflate your balloons? It depends on the type. Latex balloons filled with helium tend to float best in the first six to eight hours. If you plan the party in the morning, inflating just before guests arrive is ideal. For latex balloons that last longer, consider adding a small amount of a sealant designed to extend float time. This gives you more flexibility if you need to inflate balloons the day before. Just ensure they are stored upright overnight and away from heat or direct sun. Mylar balloons may float for several days and are less sensitive to timing. If you’re using them for a multi-day backdrop or party trail, they can be inflated earlier, giving you more setup flexibility. ## **Involve Kids in the Decoration Process** Turn balloon prep into a fun activity with your kiddos. They can help inflate balloons with pumps or tie ribbons with supervision. Use safety scissors where appropriate and demonstrate how to secure knots or use simple tying tools. It can be a memorable and effective learning experience! Kids love small details like combining colours, making balloon clusters or attaching small tags with their name on each balloon. This involvement allows them to feel part of the process and gives them a task to focus on before the [party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/) starts. ## **Minimising Waste Before and After the Party** Reduce waste by choosing larger balloons so you need fewer of them. Use reusable containers and washable tablecloths. After the event, pack leftover balloons carefully. Reuse those still intact and recycle responsibly those that are punctured. If small balloon fragments are left behind, do not wash them down the kitchen sink. Instead, sweep or gather them into a bin. Think of future events and consider passing your balloon tube frames or tie kits on to another family or local preschool. ![party essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-diana-reyes-227887231-30844787-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-diana-reyes-227887231-30844787 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Safety Around Eyes and Noise** Always keep popped or tied balloons well away from babies. A balloon fragment is a choking hazard for younger children. Provide small children with other sensory toys or bubbles instead. While most balloon inflators operate quietly, whistles or noisemakers can sometimes frighten toddlers. Keep party tools age-appropriate and give very little ones simple props to enjoy instead. ## **Capturing Photos That Don’t Look Cliché** Photograph your balloon décor in natural light before guests arrive for the best results. Natural photo light avoids harsh shadows or forced staging. Allow balloons to frame your photo areas rather than taking it over entirely. For example, a cluster over a cosy reading chair can provide ambience without drawing focus from faces. Even simple snapshots of children reaching up to a bunch of balloons or walking down a balloon‑lined path can capture the mess and the joy of the moment better than posed group images. ## **Final Thoughts**: **How to Plan Memorable Celebrations Using Safe and Fun Party Essentials** Hosting a celebration that feels joyful, family-friendly and thoughtful does not require complexity. With an intentional use of helium-inflated décor paired with eco-conscious thinking, you can elevate your event wisely. When used carefully and combined with compostable or reusable decoration pieces, balloons add height, personality and a sense of wonder. Planning properly means your party becomes memorable, environmentally accountable and genuinely fun to organise! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/plan-memorable-celebrations-using-safe-and-fun-party-essentials/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/plan-memorable-celebrations-using-safe-and-fun-party-essentials/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Winter Cleaning Tips: How To Keep Your Home Organised](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/winter-cleaning-tips-how-to-keep-your-home-organised/) **Published:** May 31, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As single mums, we’re often juggling everything from scraped knees to overdue bills. And when the winter season rolls in, we find ourselves spending even more time indoors — which means it’s the perfect time to refresh our spaces. A solid winter cleaning routine not only helps keep your house clean but creates a sanctuary for both you and your little ones, especially during the colder months. I’ve got a three-year-old daughter, who somehow manages to scatter more glitter and biscuit crumbs than I ever thought possible. But I’ve learned over the years that a good cleaning schedule and a realistic approach make all the difference when trying to keep your home clean — and sane — throughout the winter. ## Why Winter Cleaning is Just as Important as Spring Cleaning When we think about big cleans, we usually think of spring cleaning. Honestly though? Winter cleaning deserves just as much love. As we spend more time indoors, dust and dirt build up faster. Closed windows and constant heater use affect air quality, while germs and allergens thrive in warm, humid corners. Your fireplace, stove, and heaters work harder in the cold months, and often unnoticed areas like ceiling fans, light switches, and doorknobs collect more grime than we realise. Not to mention, cluttered spaces can feel even more overwhelming during winter months, when the weather keeps us cooped up. Last winter, my nephew had a daycare cold that hung around for two weeks. I remember my sister wiping every surface, re-washing his pillowcases, and disinfecting like her life depended on it … because, in that moment, it kind of did. ***Further reading: [Simple Time Saving Tips for Cleaning Your Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/)*** ## Your Winter Cleaning Checklist: Where to Start A well-thought-out winter cleaning checklist can turn chaos into calm. Here’s how to create a tidy, warm, and germ-free home without driving yourself up the (recently scrubbed) wall. ### Living Room - Vacuum carpets and rugs, and use a shampoo for upholstered furniture if it’s been a while. - Dust window sills, blinds, and any decorative cushions. - Wash throw blankets and pillowcases — they trap dust and allergens easily. - Give the fireplace area a deeper clean, and check it for safety if you plan to use it. ### Kitchen - Empty the pantry, wipe down cabinet shelves, and organize items for easier access to winter staples. - Scrub the stove, microwave, and other hardworking appliances. - Check for mould or stubborn stains behind the curtains, bins, or drawer corners. ### Bathroom - Clean tile grout and rinse down walls — winter moisture can sneak in. - Scrub and disinfect all high-traffic areas, like taps and doorknobs. - Keep your home clean and safe by washing bath mats and checking for mould behind the toilet. ![winter cleaning tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-16.png "In article image 16 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Your Winter Cleaning Checklist: Where to Start (cont.) ### Bedroom - Rotate the mattress and vacuum underneath it. - Clean out the wardrobe, replacing summer clothes with warm winter layers. - Wash curtains, and don’t forget to dust behind the headboard and along window sills. ### Throughout the Home - Dust ceiling fans, even if they’re not in use, still collect grime. - Clean your ceiling using a vacuum or a broom. - Use a microfibre cloth for skirting boards, vents, and shelves. - Consider professional duct cleaning if your heating system’s due. - Check and seal windows and doors to keep warmth in. - Clean gutters to prevent leaks and blockages when the rain picks up. [Installing gutter guards](https://mobilegutters.com.au/nsw/gutter-guards-sydney/ "Installing gutter guard") can make this even easier and help you avoid the drama I had when a leaky gutter turned my tiny front entry into a mudslide last year. Looking for a winter cleaning checklist? I love [this one from Clean Mama](https://cleanmama.com/free-winter-cleaning-checklist/)! ## Winter Cleaning and Keeping an Organised House with Kids Around It can feel impossible to deep clean when you’ve got kids running around, especially when the weather means more time inside. The trick? Lower the bar and organise items by function. - Have a basket for toys in each room so you can do a 5-minute tidy-up blitz. - Create a cosy, contained play area using a washable rug and easy-to-reach shelves. - Break your routine into small chunks — morning wipe-downs, post-nap vacuum, and evening resets. Meal prep helps too. I like to batch-cook soups and stews (with my kiddo “helping” to wash veggies) so I can avoid a messy kitchen every single night. ![winter cleaning tips](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/In-article-image-15.png "In article image 15 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How the Kids Can Help with Winter Cleaning Kids love helping when they feel like it’s a game. My kid loves using a microfibre cloth to “polish” the table. She also gets a thrill from pouring vinegar and bicarb into the sink for a fizzy science experiment that just happens to clean the drain. Some ideas by age: - Toddlers (2–4): Match socks, put toys away, use a soft duster. - Primary kids: Wipe surfaces, clean their drawers, help fold laundry. - Teens: Vacuum, change sheets, wipe down light switches and door frames. Make it fun: use timers, rewards, and music. I once pretended the vacuum was a dragon and my daughter had to save her toys before it “ate” them. It worked—for about 3 minutes, but hey, I’ll take it. ## Must-Have Winter Cleaning Supplies Here’s a short list of cleaning products and tools that help make the job easier: - Microfiber cloths and dusters – reusable and great for removing loose dirt and allergens. - Essential oils – lavender, eucalyptus or lemon make the house smell fresh. - Multipurpose spray, disinfectant wipes, and vinegar. - Carpet cleaner or shampoo for stains. - Scrub brushes for bathrooms and grout. - Vacuum with a HEPA filter for better air quality. - Mould remover for bathroom corners and window frames. ## Final Thoughts: A Clean Home Is a Calm Home Life doesn’t have to be heavy throughout the winter months. When you have a solid winter cleaning routine and systems that work for you and your kids, the cold months can actually be comforting. You’ll have a space that feels soft, safe, and welcoming — no matter how loud the toddler tantrums or how many socks are mysteriously missing. So this winter, let’s keep our homes clean, embrace the seasonal shift, and remember: it’s not about perfection. It’s about peace. And maybe finding one clean spot to enjoy your tea while the rest of the house slowly turns into chaos again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/winter-cleaning-tips-how-to-keep-your-home-organised/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/winter-cleaning-tips-how-to-keep-your-home-organised/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How to help your kids sleep well](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/make-your-kids-sleep-well/) **Published:** October 20, 2020 **Author:** Nicole Harper **Content:** The age-old question of how to make your kids sleep well? I get asked it on almost a daily basis. Unfortunately, most kids missed the memo about how great a sleep-in is. Oh, how we all dream of those lazy Sunday mornings in bed! As mum’s we all need a good night’s sleep, but don’t worry, as we can definitely teach our children to sleep well. This is how to do it. ## HOW TO MAKE YOUR KIDS SLEEP WELL NOW … AND FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES ### WHEN TO START TEACHING KIDS TO SLEEP PROPERLY The moment we bring our baby home from the hospital, we begin the task of helping our kids sleep well. No, I am not talking about crazy routines and making your little baby cry it out. Instead, I am talking about teaching your little baby healthy sleep habits. If you’re feeling lost, working with a [baby sleep consultant](https://mindfulmum.com.au/ "baby sleep consultant") can help you find the right approach, like sleeping your baby in a dark environment after 4-weeks of age, as this will help with the production of the hormone melatonin. Or sleeping them in the same place, swaddling, white noise, comforters (when age appropriate). Then, as they get a little older, we begin resettling our babies over and over, as this is how we teach the linking of [sleep cycles](https://www.sleep.org/what-happens-during-sleep/). ### AVOID YOUR CHILD GETTING OVERTIRED Helping your child avoid becoming overtired will definitely help when trying to settle and resettle your little one. And how do you help them avoid becoming overtired, I hear you ask? Working with age-appropriate awake times. As your baby grows, so does their awake time. Did you know, you will get the same issues trying to settle an overtired child as you do with an under-tired child? Finding that perfect awake time for your individual child is crucial because it will assist them in getting to sleep more easily, but also help them sleep more soundly. ### THE IMPORTANCE OF ROUTINE AND CONSISTENCY A lot of people will cringe at the word routine. But, truth be told, babies and children are creatures of habit; they like to know what to expect next. Then, as they get older, it gives them a sense of being all grown up, because they know what to do next all by themselves. Another hugely important factor is ‘consistency’. Think about it, if your child is starting their day at 7 am one day and ending it at 9 pm, then the following day they are starting their day at 9 am but ending it at 8 pm. That is a lot of mixed messages, isn’t it? Having some sort of guidelines in place around kids’ sleep and eating will set them up for a lifetime of great sleeping. As your little one gets older, their day-to-day ‘guidelines’ will change. I find that one of the biggest and most challenging times for parents can be around 2 years of age. Parents will often find that their child will go through a regression at this time, no matter how well they were sleeping previously (Don’t worry, it’s not all kids). ### HOW TO HELP 2-YEAR-OLDS SLEEP WELL DURING A REGRESSION PERIOD Remember that keyword from earlier? Consistency. It can get a little annoying after a while, hearing that word so frequently, huh? But we all know how stubborn a 2-year-old can be, which is why we mums need to stay consistent with our approach. Here are some tips to help young kids sleep well: - Don’t believe your two-year-old when they start telling you they don’t need a day nap anymore; they do - If they miss a day nap here and there, that’s ok, you’re not going to break your good sleeper, but keep encouraging them to have it - If you can, avoid moving them from the cot for as long as possible! The longer they are contained, the better. Trust me. - As your two-year-old begins to learn the new trick of prolonging bedtime, they are amazing at using excuses that you did not even think were possible. So, have a plan. Inform your child of what will be happening with your plan. Allow them that one last drink and to say goodnight to their toys, then it’s goodnight. - And remember, mums, be consistent, otherwise these tiny people will find any little inconsistency and run with it. Probably quite literally too. ### HELP YOUR CHILD SLEEP WELL AS THEY GET BIGGER Then we finally have our big kids. Oh, aren’t they a hoot! These guys are the real boundary pushers! From 3 years onwards, these little guys can really ramp it up. Some kids will no longer have a day nap. Ensure they are in bed nice and early. It is just as important now, as when they were younger, to avoid them becoming overtired. Consistent bedtime routines will really assist this. Dinner, bath, book, sip of water, toilet and bed. ### FINAL WORDS TO MAKE YOUR KIDS SLEEP WELL So, as you can see, each stage from newborn to young child has its challenges, but I think you can already tell what I will say next. Consistency is what will get you and your kids on the right track for sleeping well. Whether that be a strict routine, a loosely followed guideline, or only sticking to a bedtime routine, ensure that what you are doing is done in the same way, each day, day and night. Also, remember that each child is an individual; they are not robots. So what works for one kid’s sleep, whether that be a sibling or just a friend’s kid, may not work for another. Always go by your child’s temperament and what works for you and your family. You’ve got this mumma! ![Get your kids to sleep well | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Get-your-child-to-sleep-well.png "Get your child to sleep well - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/make-your-kids-sleep-well/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/make-your-kids-sleep-well/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household **Tags:** sleep patterns, sleep routines, bedtime routines, melatonin, bed --- ### [Help! How do I teach my son to shave?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-do-i-teach-my-son-to-shave/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Are you solo parenting with a son? You might think, “Isn’t this something his dad should be handling?” Or “How do I teach my son to shave?!” Don’t panic, as we’ve got you covered. It can’t be that different to shaving your legs, right? Wrong! Whether it’s his first shave or just another step in his grooming routine, you can be there to guide him through it. Just follow our easy-peasy steps below. ## When should boys start shaving? Hello, puberty. It might be time to give your son shaving lessons when they hit [puberty](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/books-teach-boys-about-puberty/) or the preteen years. Some start to shave as early as 12 or even younger. During this time, your son might also start showing interest in shaving, so be sure to answer his questions patiently. When you see long hairs pop up on his upper lip or chin, or he gets a peachy fuzz on his face, you can go ahead and teach him to shave. Even if your son wants to grow a beard, tell him that it’s important to shave around the edges to get a clean look. ## How to teach my son to shave: Our recommendations ## What products are best for first-time users, razor or shaver? When your son learns to shave, choosing the right tool plays a huge role in making his first experience smooth and comfortable. For beginners, it’s often better to start with a razor rather than an electric shaver. A quality razor, like the[ Gillette Mach3](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fgillette-mach3-turbo-razor-1-handle-2-cartridges), provides more control and a closer shave, helping him to get the hang of the process. Gillette’s flexible blades adapt to the contours of his face, reducing the risk of nicks and irritation, which is great for beginners. As your son becomes more confident, he might choose to experiment with different options—like trying [beard balms](https://jerichoaustralia.com/collections/beard-balms "beard balms") for grooming and care—but starting with a reliable razor will help him learn the basics of shaving with ease. [![Teach son to shave | Gillette Mach3 | Beanstalk Mums](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/media/catalog/product/cache/3e6a76ef90c487c9b0a5c089cb1584af/g/i/gillette_mach3_shaving_razor_1_pack.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/gillette-mach3-turbo-razor-1-handle-2-cartridges) Stockist: [Chemist Direct](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2fgillette-mach3-turbo-razor-1-handle-2-cartridges) The best razor is one that is safe and works well on his face. Take him to the store and help him pick out what he wants. Just keep in mind that most young men use a manual razor with replacement cartridges or an electric razor when they first start shaving. ![teach son to shave](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/IN-ARTICLE-images-37.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Single mum support - Beanstalk Mums") On the other hand, electric shavers are convenient and easy to use but may not offer the same level of precision. However, some like [Braun Series 3 Clean & Close](https://amzn.to/4dNUTge) can be used wet or dry and are a great option when considering long-term costs. An electric razor can be plugged in or have rechargeable batteries. Some brands supply gels or creams to protect the skin, taking the guesswork out of which to choose. Help him pick out a model with a flexible head that follows the contours of his face. It may not shave as close as a disposable razor… This is perfect if your son has acne, as the razor will reduce irritation. [![Braun electric razor | Amazon Australia | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61GffjFGnNL._SL1139_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/4dNUTge)Stockist: [Amazon AU](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B076Q6NXXD/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B076Q6NXXD&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=4a68d5a39e567d9afa311dad53fc183b) Whether you get an electric or a manual razor, a smooth shave depends on how sharp the blades are. Make sure to change the blades or get a new disposable razor regularly. A dull blade or an old razor can irritate the skin and cause rashes. He is also more likely to cut his skin if using a dull blade. Tell him to store the razor in a dry area to prevent bacteria and mould growth. ## **How to teach my son to shave for the first time** ### **Preparing the face to shave** The best time to teach your son how to shave is after his bath or shower. The steam keeps the skin soft and hydrated, so it’s easier to remove hair. If he hasn’t had a bath, teach him to wash his face with soap and warm water and leave it for up to three minutes to open up the pores and soften hair follicles. ### **How to teach my son to shave: Steps** - Gather your materials together: razor, shaving cream or gel, aftershave lotion, basin, and towel. - Teach him to apply the cream or gel on the face and lather up. - Wet the razor in warm water and shave along the grain of the hair or toward the hair growth. This reduces friction and prevents bumps and rashes. Many guys have facial hair that grows down, so shaving down removes most of the hair. To get rid of the remaining hair, shave gently against the grain or away from the direction of the hair growth. - Remind him that it’s easier if he rinses the razor after every few strokes. Be patient and don’t rush when you teach your little man to shave. Tell him to go slowly and gently over his face and let the blade do the work. Use short, light strokes and don’t press down hard. It’s better to shave over an area twice gently than apply too much pressure and cut the skin. - Finally, teach him to rinse his face with cold water and dry with a towel. Cold water closes up the pores and shrinks the blood vessels to reduce inflammation. - It will help him to watch a video first so he understands your instructions. Source: [Gillette Youtube](https://youtu.be/wXgmMp2ZFtE) ### **Aftercare post-shaving** Young skin can be very sensitive, so post-shave care is important. Choose an aftershave or moisturiser that is free of alcohol and strong scents. Get a soothing shave balm that is made for sensitive skin or [acne prone skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-teenage-skin-care-products/). If he’s heading out, don’t forget to tell him to apply sunscreen to protect his freshly shaved skin. ## **How to teach my son to shave FAQs** ## **What to do if he cuts himself?** It’s normal for adolescent boys to nick their face and skin a few times when they first start shaving. Use an antiseptic pencil on nicks and cuts to stop bleeding immediately. Then apply soothing aftershave, moisturiser or healing balm to the skin. If he’s using the right technique and still keeps getting nicks and razor burns, he might need to switch razors. Try a single or two-blade razor that doesn’t shave as close to the skin. ## **How often should your son shave?** Young men usually shave once every few weeks, a few times a week or once every 3 to 4 days. The actual frequency depends on how fast the hair grows and how dark or thick it is. When he is older, your son will need to shave more often. My widowed aunt said her son (my cousin, Leo) did not know exactly when to shave at first, so she made sure to check from time to time to see that he was well-groomed. ## **Summary: How to teach my son to shave** Teaching your son how to shave can feel both overwhelming and bittersweet. I know it’s not easy to face these milestones alone, but remember, you’ve been there for him through so much already. This is just another step in your incredible journey together. It’s okay if you’re feeling a little uncertain. You don’t need to be an expert. What matters most is that you’re there and willing to help him with this new chapter. Be patient with him, as shaving can take time to get used to. You can watch a few videos together, or you can ask a trusted male friend or family member to share their tips. But even if it’s just the two of you figuring it out, that’s enough. Your son will remember that you were there, guiding him with love and patience. You’ve always been his rock. This is just another moment where your love and support will make all the difference. Now you don’t have to go wondering – How to teach my son to shave? So take a deep breath and know that you’re doing an amazing job. ![How do I teach my son to shave? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Teach-my-son-to-shave.png "Teach my son to shave - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-do-i-teach-my-son-to-shave/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/how-do-i-teach-my-son-to-shave/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** grooming, teenage skin, shaving, razors, beard --- ### [The Ultimate Mums Guide to Balancing Weight Loss & Self-Care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-balancing-self-care-weight-loss/) **Published:** March 31, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Weight loss as a mum can feel impossible. Between school runs, meal prepping, and trying to squeeze in *some* physical activity, it’s easy to put yourself last. I get it—by the time the kids are in bed, the fridge calls your name, and suddenly, that block of chocolate is gone. But here’s the thing: you don’t need to overhaul your entire lifestyle to lose weight. Small, achievable habits can make a world of difference. In this guide, I’ll share how I finally stopped yo-yo dieting, why keeping a diary was a game-changer, and how you can fit weight loss into your already chaotic schedule without feeling guilty or overwhelmed. If you are a mum trying to get healthier while juggling literally everything, this one’s for you! ## **My Top 8 Favourite Weight Loss Tips** ## **1. WeightWatchers – Your Virtual Weight-Loss Diary (No Dietitian Required!)** The [WeightWatchers app](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/RGn3gv) is perfect if you love tracking but don’t have time to write everything down. It helps track your food, exercise, and progress and even gives meal ideas when you are stuck. For example, do you snack more when you are tired? Do you eat the kids’ leftovers instead of having a proper meal? I started using WeightWatchers to track my food and understand my macronutrients, and realised I was consuming way more hidden sugars than I thought. I also noticed I was hungry all afternoon because I wasn’t eating enough at breakfast. Now that I know my eating pattern, I make better choices without feeling restricted. Once I adjusted, my energy levels (and mood) improved. Plus, their community support is amazing for mums needing motivation. If you [sign up here, you get 60% off their core membership](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/c/1253070/2854007/24408)—so it’s the perfect chance to try it! Besides, keeping a diary isn’t just for teenage drama. It’s a powerful tool for busy mums like us who are trying to lose weight. ## **2. Stop Skipping Meals—It’s Sabotaging Your Weight Loss** Mums are busy, and skipping meals feels like a time-saver. But skipping breakfast or lunch can actually slow your metabolism and lead to weight gain. I used to survive on coffee until noon, only to crash by 3 PM and reach for biscuits. A balanced meal doesn’t have to be complicated. A quick berry smoothie, Greek yoghurt, or wholegrain toast with lean protein can help you feel full longer. If you often forget to eat, set a reminder or keep easy options ready in the fridge. While weight loss pens like [Ozempic in Singapore](https://slclinic.com.sg/weight-loss-medication-treatment-singapore/) are showing promising results, pairing them with simple, nourishing meals is still key to feeling your best. ## **3. Make Exercise Achievable** You don’t need a personal trainer to lose weight—just a bit of creativity is all you need to keep those muscles moving! The trick is to fit exercise into your existing routine. Play dance games with the kids, do some yoga or go for a jog while they scooter, or do a quick workout while dinner is in the oven. I used to think I needed an hour for a proper workout, but even 10-minute bursts throughout the week add up. Plus, chasing toddlers *is* cardio, right? At least you’ll feel good while running after them! ## **4. Meal Prepping: Your Secret to Stress-Free Healthy Eating** Between school drop-offs, work, and errands, the last thing you need is the nightly “What’s for dinner?” panic. That’s why food prepping is the secret to staying on track. I spend 30 minutes on Sundays chopping vegetables, cooking lean proteins, and portioning out meals. It’s a good thing to have [healthy options](https://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/gOg5L5) ready. It means I’m less likely to grab whatever’s quick (AKA the kids’ chicken nuggets). Plus, it’s a great way to maintain my energy levels without feeling hungry all the time. ## **How to Lose Weight and Keep Your Sanity (cont.)** ## **5. Stop Eating the Kids’ Leftovers** It’s easy to get into mum mode and “clean up” your child’s plate as an excuse to avoid wasting food, but those extra bites contribute to weight gain over time. I started plating my own portion first, so I wasn’t hungry and tempted to graze. If you hate waste like me, keep a small container for leftovers and use them for another dish. It’s a realistic way to avoid extra calories without feeling guilty. ## **6. Smart Snacking and Diet** Mum’s life is non-stop, and snacking is inevitable. I learned that having options that help you feel satisfied without causing a sugar crash. Instead of mindlessly grabbing chips, I now keep nutritious snacks ready like Greek yoghurt, a handful of nuts, or cut-up vegetables with hummus. If I really want a treat, I opt for dark chocolate over processed sweets (or anything with lower sugar content). It’s all about maintaining control of your intake without completely depriving yourself. ![weight loss](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/2de4cada-4fd6-4eb2-829a-b4f2ea6bb82c-1066x800.jpg "2de4cada-4fd6-4eb2-829a-b4f2ea6bb82c - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Losing Weight Through Healthy Eating and Exercise (cont.)** ## **7. Drop the Habit of Undoing Your Hard Work** It’s easy to make a mistake and stop focusing on your weight loss goals on the weekend. But the food and drinks you consume while having fun still matter. I used to eat well all week, then go overboard on Friday night pizza and wine. The next day, I felt sluggish (and guilty). Now, I plan for indulgences without going overboard. Instead of three slices of pizza, I’m going to get one with a big side salad. If I’m having wine, I’ll balance it out with extra exercise earlier in the day. It’s all about achievable and sustainable changes. ## **8. Give Yourself Grace—Nobody’s Perfect!** Weight loss isn’t about being perfect; it’s about progress. Some days, you won’t be able to fight the urge to eat cake at a birthday party. On other days, you will smash your workout and feel unstoppable. When I have a rough day, I remind myself: one meal won’t do my progress any harm, just like one salad won’t magically make me lose weight. The most important thing? Keep going, because every small change contributes to long-term success. ## **Final Thoughts: Mum-Friendly Weight Loss and Healthy Lifestyle** If you’re a mum trying to lose weight without going crazy, remember it is an exciting journey that proves you can shed fat without sacrificing fun. At the end of the day, it’s about embracing a lifestyle that leaves you feeling complete, inside and out. It’s not about harmful [quick-fix diets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/) but rather about enjoying balanced meals, nutritious snacks, and the occasional bit of therapy to keep your mental state stable. If you want to lose weight, incorporating regular exercise into your routine can boost your metabolic rate and help you stop unwanted cravings, and for some mums struggling with their weight, medical options like the [gastric sleeve surger](https://www.centralcoastsurgery.com.au/gastric-sleeve-surgery-newcastle "gastric sleeve surger")y may also be part of their weight loss journey. Keeping a diary like WeightWatchers helps us track our progress and learn healthy habits as we note small victories along the way. Remember, Mum, you need to make time for yourself, even when life is hectic. With a little creativity and perseverance, your journey becomes not just about losing weight but also about celebrating your resilience. So, keep smiling, stay active, and savour every step towards a healthier you.” (You are already ‘complete’ before weight loss! 🙂) Now tell me, what’s your biggest challenge when it comes to losing weight as a mum? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-balancing-self-care-weight-loss/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-ultimate-mums-guide-to-balancing-self-care-weight-loss/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [How We Access Healthcare Is Changing—And That’s Not a Bad Thing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-we-access-healthcare-is-changing/) **Published:** June 26, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Healthcare, once defined by waiting rooms and physical appointments, is now something many of us access from our living rooms, office desks, or, yes, even our cars. The idea of “going to the doctor” has shifted. In many cases, the doctor comes to you, in the comfort of your own home, over a screen. In many cases, your healthcare provider is transported to the comfort of your home (or vehicle) via your preferred screen. It’s not just about convenience, though, let’s be real, that plays a major role. It’s also about reaching people where they are, particularly when physical visits aren’t practical or can’t be scheduled in a timely manner. For workers in remote areas, parents juggling multiple schedules, or anyone managing a long-term condition, this transition has made healthcare feel more accessible and less dreaded. ## **A Broader Definition of Access** In Australia, distance and geography have always been major barriers to healthcare. For years, rural and regional communities were daunted by long travel times to reach clinics. Even in urban areas, securing an appointment can mean hours (or a whole day) off work or relying on someone for a ride. This is where digital care really steps in. From general consults to mental health support and occupational assessments, the vast scope of services now available online continues to grow. It allows people to get the support they need sooner, and often with less stress. ## **The Evolving Role of the GP and Allied Health Professionals** All the while, healthcare providers are learning how to communicate effectively through screens. They’re adjusting how they ask questions, observe symptoms, and recommend care. Secure platforms, electronic prescriptions, and digital records make virtual visits just as comprehensive as face-to-face ones. While some consults are better handled in person, others, like [physiotherapy services](https://www.papayaclinic.com.au/ "physiotherapy services"), can be just as effective over a phone call or, more likely, a video chat. The flexibility helps practitioners tailor care based on what each patient needs, rather than a one-size-fits-all model. ## **What It Means for Workplace Health** There’s also been a quiet but important shift in how businesses handle employee health. More organisations are using virtual health services to support their teams, whether that’s offering wellbeing consultations, injury assessments, or follow-ups for return-to-work plans. For example, some employers now provide access to [telemedicine services](https://www.phoenixoccmed.com.au/services/telemedicine/) to help workers get medical advice without needing to leave the job site. This is especially helpful for remote industries like mining, construction, or agriculture, where traditional healthcare access can be limited. The result? Faster answers, earlier intervention, and fewer disruptions to productivity. ## **A Human Connection in a Digital Format** One of the biggest concerns people raise about virtual healthcare is the fear of losing that personal touch. And it’s a fair point. Healthcare is deeply human, hinged on a contingency of trust, comfort, and being heard. Can that really happen through a screen? In many cases, yes. When done well, telehealth offers a surprising level of connection. It gives patients more control over their environment. It removes the stress of unfamiliar spaces. And for those managing anxiety or chronic conditions, this can make an incredible difference. What matters most is that the experience is handled with care. That providers take time to listen, communicate clearly, and follow up when needed. ## **Telehealth and Mental Wellbeing** One area where virtual care has had a profound impact is mental health. The stigma around seeking help is still a barrier for many Australians, and the convenience of digital platforms has helped reduce some of that resistance. Being able to access a counsellor or psychologist from the comfort of home removes logistical barriers like travel or time off work and can ease the emotional hurdle of walking into a clinic for the first time. ![healthcare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-5234505-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-polina-tankilevitch-5234505 - Beanstalk Mums") For young people in particular, who are often more comfortable with digital communication, telehealth has opened new doors. Many services now offer secure messaging, virtual therapy sessions, and digital wellbeing programs that integrate seamlessly with daily life. These solutions allow for earlier support, which often leads to better outcomes. Employers have also started recognising the value of offering [mental health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/ "mental health") support remotely. Staff in high-pressure roles or isolated environments are more likely to reach out when they know help is just a phone call or video session away. While not a complete solution, it’s a step in the right direction for a more supportive work culture. ## **Addressing Digital Literacy and Accessibility** Despite the clear benefits, digital healthcare still faces barriers. Not everyone is confident using technology, and some people don’t have reliable internet access or devices that support video calls. Older Australians and non-English speaking communities are especially at risk of being left behind. To ensure the benefits of telehealth are distributed more fairly, digital inclusion needs to be part of the conversation. That means providing training, ensuring simple and intuitive platforms, and maintaining support options for those who need extra help navigating the system. It also means making sure that virtual care is culturally sensitive and offered in multiple languages where possible. Healthcare providers and government bodies are beginning to address these gaps. In the long run, improving digital access is about enabling better connection to services, education, and community overall in order to make things just a little easier. ## **The Future of Care** Looking ahead, digital health isn’t going anywhere. If anything, it will continue to grow in both capability and scope. But that doesn’t mean traditional care will disappear, either. Possibly, we’re moving toward a blended model; one that uses the strengths of both in-person and virtual healthcare to deliver better outcomes. This transition calls for (and requires) thoughtful planning, updated policies, and a willingness from both patients and providers to adapt – much more than just technology. As the tools improve, so too must the way we use them. ## **Final Thoughts** Healthcare is personal, and there’s no one “right” way to receive it. For some, visiting a clinic will always be the preferred route. For others, the ability to speak with a provider remotely can be a lifeline. As long as care remains responsive, compassionate, and patient-centred, the method of delivery is simply a detail. Whether through a screen or across a desk, what matters is that people feel supported, understood, and well looked after. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-we-access-healthcare-is-changing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-we-access-healthcare-is-changing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Calmerceuticals’ Powerful Skincare: Rose Rayner’s Honest Take](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/calmerceuticals-powerful-skincare-rose-rayners-honest-take/) **Published:** July 17, 2025 **Author:** Rose Rayner **Content:** As the founder of Calmerceuticals, I’m excited to introduce a product that’s changing the skincare industry from the inside out. In a world overwhelmed with empty promises and fleeting trends, I wanted to create something that truly works, not just on the surface, but from within. That’s why I created [Calmerceuticals](https://calmerceuticals.com/): to offer a holistic, science-backed solution that helps people look and feel their best, every day. ## Calmerceuticals isn’t just skincare, it’s inner health, elevated. Growing up, I witnessed firsthand the frustration of not finding truly effective skincare products. So many solutions focus solely on the surface, masking symptoms rather than addressing the root causes of skin concerns. Many of the supplements available were filled with unsubstantiated claims and synthetic ingredients that didn’t deliver real results. I felt there had to be a better way, something grounded in science, not spin. I wanted to create a product that not only supported beautiful skin but also empowered overall health and vitality. Because great skin isn’t just about creams or serums, it starts with what’s happening inside the body. That belief became the foundation of Calmerceuticals. We developed a powerful liquid formula designed to restore balance, fuel skin health, and deliver truly transformative results. It’s not about trends; it’s about results. At Calmerceuticals, we focus on combining the best of science with high-quality, bioavailable natural ingredients. The result? A supplement that supports your body from the inside out, because that’s where true beauty begins. Our hero formula includes Verisol® Marine Collagen, clinically studied to reduce wrinkles, boost elasticity, and improve hydration. We’ve paired that with Hyaluronic Acid for deep hydration and skin plumpness, and Cultavit®, a bioactivated B-complex for energy and resilience. To further support skin regeneration, we include essential vitamins C, B, and D, along with polyphenols to combat oxidative stress and enhance the product’s absorption and effectiveness. ## What sets Calmerceuticals apart is our uncompromising commitment to quality and efficacy. ![skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-shiny-diamond-3373721-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-shiny-diamond-3373721 - Beanstalk Mums") Every single ingredient in our formulation is selected with intention, not because it’s trending, but because it’s backed by rigorous clinical research. No fillers. No sugar. No artificial junk. Just potent, clean, clinically dosed ingredients that work with your body, not against it. Our collagen supplement boasts a 90-95% absorption rate, significantly higher than most powders or tablets, meaning your body can actually use what you’re taking. With consistent use, users have seen up to a 40% reduction in wrinkles, alongside improvements in skin tone, hydration, and overall glow. But more than that, they’re feeling the difference: more energy, stronger nails, shinier hair, and a renewed sense of confidence. This isn’t about vanity, it’s about vitality. The beauty industry has long been dominated by brands that overpromise and underdeliver. At Calmerceuticals, we’re changing the game. Our approach is refreshingly simple: focus on science, deliver what we promise, and create products that truly make a difference. We’re transparent with our ingredients, our sourcing, and our results, because you deserve to know what you’re putting into your body and why it matters. Our marine [collagen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/11-best-collagen-powders-to-buy-in-australia/ "collagen") is sustainably sourced from cold Nordic waters, and every batch is third-party tested for purity and safety. We manufacture right here in Australia to ensure the highest standards of quality control from start to finish. ## But Calmerceuticals is more than just a supplement. It’s a movement. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-olly-3764019-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3764019 1 - Beanstalk Mums") It’s a shift in how we think about beauty, ageing, and wellness. It’s about empowering people, especially women, to take control of their health, their hormones, and their skin without relying on hype or half-truths. Our community continues to grow, not because of celebrity endorsements or glossy campaigns, but because our customers are seeing and feeling the real results, and they’re telling their friends, their mothers, their daughters. The feedback we receive is powerful. People are sharing how their skin is noticeably firmer, their breakouts have cleared, or their energy has returned after months of feeling depleted. They’re showing up to life with more clarity, more confidence, and a deeper sense of self-care. At the heart of Calmerceuticals is a simple but powerful belief: glowing skin starts from within. True beauty isn’t about covering up; it’s about showing up for yourself. Taking care of your body, fuelling it with what it actually needs, and making choices rooted in knowledge, not noise. As we continue to innovate, we remain guided by the same mission that started it all: to create formulas that are scientifically sound, genuinely effective, and deeply supportive of both inner and outer wellness. We’re exploring new ingredients, new delivery formats, and new ways to support our community through every stage of life, from hormonal shifts and skin concerns to energy, stress, and sleep. I’m proud to lead this brand with the belief that every person deserves to feel their best, inside and out. That’s why we won’t compromise on science, efficacy, or integrity, because you deserve better than that. It’s a new era of skincare, one that goes beyond the surface and into the heart of true wellness. And we’re just getting started. Calmerceuticals is here to restore balance, support vitality, and help you feel good in your skin, every single day. ## Final Thoughts If you’re a single mum, you already know what it means to juggle everything, often putting yourself last. Between the school runs, work, and everything in between, finding time for your own wellbeing can feel like a luxury. Calmerceuticals was created with that reality in mind. It’s not about chasing flawless skin or keeping up with trends. It’s about supporting your body in a way that’s simple, sustainable, and grounded in science. Because when you’re stretched thin, it’s easy to ignore the signs your body’s sending—fatigue, dull skin, low energy. We believe you deserve something that quietly works in the background, helping you feel just a little more like yourself. Not for vanity’s sake, but because you matter too. Taking care of your skin and health isn’t selfish—it’s one small way to give back to the person holding it all together. You’re already doing the hard work. Let this just be something that helps. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/calmerceuticals-powerful-skincare-rose-rayners-honest-take/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/calmerceuticals-powerful-skincare-rose-rayners-honest-take/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Self-love books for women: Our pick of the best](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-love-books-for-women/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There are too many ladies out there lacking in self-love and low on self-esteem … which is no good at all! We lack self-love for many reasons. It could be due to a messy divorce, financial worries, an abusive relationship, an ongoing medical problem … or any number of other things. If you’re looking for tools to help you reconnect with yourself, self-love books for women can be a powerful place to start. See below for our carefully curated list of self-love books for women to help get you back on track, loving yourself and loving life. ***Further reading: [15 Powerful self love crystals to enhance your life. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-love-crystals/)*** #### [You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ORvqWn) *“If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed,”* says author Louise Hay in a book that demonstrates the power of thoughts to shape our daily experience. Her first-hand experience of “curing herself” after a cancer diagnosis will no doubt inspire others who are struggling with their own issues, whether it’s illness, job loss or the end of a relationship. [![You Can Heal Your Life | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81-fxaNGDML.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ORvqWn) ***Recommended for:** Recommended for: Anyone having difficulty getting their lives back on track due to persistent negative thoughts and feelings.* #### [How to Stop Feeling Like Sh\*t by Andrea Owen](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/2rLDJQ) It’s time to start living your best life with Andrea Owen’s no-nonsense advice to awaken your brilliant, awesome self. In this book, you’ll learn how to overcome self-destructive behaviours, like catastrophizing, people-pleasing and constant criticism, that derail your best-laid plans for self-improvement. Each chapter is filled with practical tips to create a happier, better version of you. [![How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*T | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81kJo5isIpL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/2rLDJQ) ***Recommended for:** If you dislike touchy-feely self-help and prefer a straight-shooting approach, this book is for you.* #### [The Untamed by Glennon Doyle](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2funtamed%2fglennon-doyle%2f9781785043352%2f) If you are a fan of Glennon Doyle’s other work, you’ll love this empowering memoir. This book is all about finding yourself by letting go of what you should be according to other people’s expectations, trusting your inner voice, and being brave. Because “the braver we are, the luckier we get.” It’s about listening to your heart and being that person, instead of someone the world wants you to be. [![Untamed | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/818LjUvnyIL.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2funtamed%2fglennon-doyle%2f9781785043352%2f) ***Recommended for:** Anyone who feels lost or unsure and looking for inspired advice to point them in the right direction.* #### [Love for Imperfect Things by Haemin Sunim](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/0JNaEP) Written by a Zen Buddhist monk, *Love for Imperfect Things* is all about self-care and accepting yourself, flaws and all. Because it’s only when we have compassion for our imperfect selves that we can finally build fulfilling relationships and love others. In short, “be good to yourself first, then to others.” The lovely illustrations are the perfect accompaniment to the deceptively simple nuggets of wisdom at the heart of this book. [![Love for Imperfect Things | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81QybSoHpLL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/0JNaEP) ***Recommended for:** Women who need a little help loving themselves more.* #### [You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/3PqQLd) Speaking of entertaining self-love books for women, this one by Jen Sincero is a must-read. It’s about how to become a badass and create a life you truly love. According to Jen, being a badass starts with understanding what makes you tick, changing what you don’t love and loving what you can’t change. Even if it doesn’t turn your life around, you’ll enjoy the hilarious stories, words of wisdom and easy exercises. [![You Are a Badass | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/61+4xDF+FQL.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/3PqQLd) ***Recommended for:** People who like funny, in-your-face self-help and practical self-transformation tips.* #### [The Self-Love Experiment by Shannon Kaiser](https://fave.co/4jDyft8) Anyone who has struggled with body issues will relate to Shannon Kaiser’s experience in the *Self Love Experiment*, a book about being kind to yourself and getting the confidence you need to reach your goals. Sometimes, we need to prioritise our own interests to achieve our ideal body, dream job, or partner. Her process is simple and actionable: changing daily habits and banishing fear-based thoughts. [![The Self Love Expertiment | Beanstalk Single Mums - Self-love books for women](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/A1dyRrFrH6L.jpg)](https://fave.co/4jDyft8) ***Recommended for:** Those struggling with weight issues and need a confidence/positivity boost.* #### [Self-Love Workbook for Women by Megan Logan](https://fave.co/4lDUTDN) When you just want to roll up your sleeves and get right to improving your life, this *Self Love Workbook for Women* by therapist Megan Logan is what you need. She provides goal-setting exercises, quizzes, affirmations and other creative activities to kick-start your self-love journey. These tools and Logan’s sage advice will help you get in touch with your feelings and build a self-care arsenal. [![Self Love Workbook | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/81k17unItGL.jpg)](https://fave.co/4lDUTDN) ***Recommended*** for: Women of all ages looking for a step-by-step guide to building self-love *and positivity habits.* #### [The Most Powerful Woman in the Room Is You by Lydia Fenet](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZdAWnQ) We could all use more confidence when it comes to reaching our goals. Lydia Fenet teaches you how to “sell your way to success” in all areas of your life, whether in business or relationships. You’ll learn a signature move to help you feel confident in any situation, overcome fears, and motivate others. Her tips are collected from personal stories and case studies from some of the world’s most successful women. [![Self-love books for women](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/71JCQ5aYz2L.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ZdAWnQ)***Recommended for:** Anyone who needs a confidence boost.* ## Final Thoughts on Self-Love Books for Women Each of these 8 **self-love books for women** offers something unique—whether it’s a boost of confidence, emotional healing, or simply a gentle reminder that you are enough, exactly as you are. Remember, self-love isn’t a destination—it’s an ongoing relationship with yourself. And the right book, at the right time, can be just the nudge you need to begin that journey or deepen it. Pick the one that speaks to you most, pop the kettle on, and start turning the pages towards a more empowered, self-loving you. You’re worth it, always. ***Further reading: [7 Self-love courses you can do online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-self-love-courses/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-love-books-for-women/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-love-books-for-women/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** self love, self esteem, self help, kind --- ### [Home Spray Tan Machine For a Stunning Natural Look](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/home-spray-tan-machines/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Shiza Shoaib **Content:** Home Spray Tan Machines are fast becoming a household beauty essential—and with good reason. Used sensibly, they’re far preferable to hours in the sun, which comes with serious health risks. Instead, you can achieve a natural-looking tan quickly and easily with a home spray kit. Just to be clear, we’re talking about flawless tanning at home, not the professional machines you find in salons. If that’s what you’re after, we’re here to help you choose the best Home Spray Tan Machine for a salon-quality experience, all from the comfort of your bathroom. ## What is a home spray tan machine? A home spray tan system is a device that gives you a [golden glow at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Salon.jpg "Improve your salon | Beanstalk Mums") without needing to expose your skin to actual sunlight and harmful UV rays. A personal spray tan equipment pumps tanning lotion with a chemical called Dihydroxyacetone (DHA) through a spray tan gun machine onto the skin in a fine mist spray, creating a non-toxic reaction on the surface of the skin which causes it to colour and look tanned. Unlike getting a tan at a salon or spa, a home spray system is more affordable, super convenient, beginner-friendly and easy to use. You can perfect the uniform fake tan without worrying about spending too much money in professional salons. ## Different types of kits suitable for home tanning Of course, you can always opt for a spray-on tan. But if you’re up for something else, there are many different types of pro spray tanning kits available on the market. Here are some of the popular ones: ### Airbrush Home Spray Tan Machine Machines for tanning can be HPLV (high pressure/low volume) or LVLP (low volume/low pressure). Both systems are often used in salons but can also be used at home. The HPLV is considered to be more efficient and quieter than the LVLP, which is slower and requires accurate handling for even application. These sprayers are powerful, precise and speedy (you can get a full tan in a few minutes). ### Airbrush spray applicators These machines use high pressure to deliver more tanning solution to an area quickly. A compressor controls the airflow, but the application can take longer, and the product can be wasted due to overspray. ### Automatic home spray tan machine An automatic sprayer is an enclosed tent or booth for full-body tanning. The booth is equipped with nozzles that apply tanning solution to your body. While fast, automatic sprayers are not precise or uniform, and they can be expensive for home use. ## What to Look for When Choosing a Home Spray Tan Machine ### Ease of use/comfort Choose a lightweight machine that is comfortable to hold for long periods, especially if you’ve never used one before or you’re going to use the machine while travelling. You’ll also want a spray gun that’s easy to grip and won’t slip and slide as you spray. Make sure the cup that comes with the spray tan gun features an adequate capacity, not too big or too small. You need approximately 2 ounces of spray tanning solution, so you won’t waste solution or need frequent refills to cover your whole body. Also, if you’re looking into turning your craft into a mobile use business, I suggest you choose a portable spray system. ### Features Most spray tanners have multiple speed, spray, airflow and temperature settings to make it easy to achieve the look you want. Kits also come with a bottle of tanning solution and accessories like cups, hose, nozzles and a tent. A selection of spray tan machines offers a control dial for managing the solution flow. Compare models to see which is right for your needs. ### Durability Check the warranty information for your machine before you buy. Choose machines made of durable materials that can stand up to multiple or frequent use. Make sure every part twists and locks onto the spray gun securely for optimal movement and minimal overspray. ### Maintenance Get a machine that requires minimal cleanup with zero or minimal overspray. And check the accessories. The tent should be washable, and the cups/nozzles leak-proof. ## The best professional Home Spray Tan Machine in Australia 2025 Here’s our pick for the ultimate spray tan kit available, you can get everywhere: #### Minetan Bronze Babe First up in our list of professional spray tan kits, the easy-to-use Minetan is a salon-quality tan right in the comfort of your home. It has everything you need, including a tanning glove and intense bronze tan solution–perfect for beginners or pros alike. Plus, it’s vegan, organic and cruelty-free. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/ddde7352c1b3f54c4709aa3b803458c86faaf714e473573b74ccadd43680b280?ts=1729058645)We found this at: [Oz Hair and Beauty](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69489?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozhairandbeauty.com%2fproducts%2fminetan-bronze-babe-personal-spray-tan-kit-black%3fcurrency%3dAUD%26utm_source%3dgoogle%26utm_campaign%3dGoogle%2520Shopping%26gclid%3dCjwKCAjw3cSSBhBGEiwAVII0Z0IrkzIXN5lkuuIo00OpBuxrbwx_vfaCDFqaFC1SvoU4c5FBRL7dyxoCBDEQAvD_BwE) #### Tan Lite Serious about summer? Get your tan on with the professional Tan Lite machine, featuring an ultra-fine mist for even and streak-free tanning. It’s lightweight, quiet and powerful, with controls to adjust the flow, speed and spray. Great for home or travel. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/94ce82cefa9ef2320eb83813f0aeb06e0f58581b55c6fadb2b40ecd6c101078f?ts=1729057998)We found this at: [DickSmith](https://fave.co/3Rsyag5) #### Airglo Cordless Next up in our range of machines available in Australia, Azure Tan spray tan is a salon-quality machine ideal for tanning yourself, friends, and family. Its lightweight, battery-powered applicator with stainless steel parts ensures even, streak-free results every time. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/ca140f123c5cd28fc2bb9bbab648dd7f7573a001dc2557114183490d45f79c93?ts=1729063241)We found this at: [AzureTan](https://www.azuretan.com.au/collections/spray-tan-solutions/products/airglo-cordless-spray-tan-machine?variant=45222256509153) #### Lycon Lyco-Bronze The Lycon professional kit is something you’ll find at a professional aesthetician’s office. It’s a powerful spray tanner (with a price tag to match) that guarantees a flawless finish every time. It comes with adjustable controls, warm air for quick drying, 1L of dark tanning solution and ‘sticky feet’ to protect the soles of your feet from tanning spray. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/359e88126bea5547c75fc109ecfa58fe327b488750dc5e373fbdcfa70a825857?ts=1729058795)We found this at: [Look Fantastic](https://www.lookfantastic.com.au/lycon-lyco-bronze-professional-spray-tan-kit/12738128.html) #### Alba Be beach-ready in minutes with the 700W Alba home spray tan machine. It has all the basics plus lovely extras like a powerful but silent motor, heat function, spare kettle and auto shut off feature. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/caf2fd8777383e205954db6c62d6af6526877b71078ddcf9b1c940b7bedc320a?ts=1729058474)We found this at: [OZSALE](https://www.ozsale.com.au/product/Alba-Alba-Spray-Tan-Machine-Gun-and-Tent-Kit/s/F-ZtVFIonUOp1w-K_C-VhA?ssf=false) #### MaxiMist Allure Xena MaxiMist is perfect for doing 25+ sessions a day, whether you’re working in a salon or on the go. It’s super beginner-friendly with built-in storage for the tanning gun, and its lightweight, mobile design makes it easy to move around. There’s even a hidden retractable handle for easy carrying, plus a spot to neatly store the cord. ![Home Spray Tan Machines For a Stunning Natural Look](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/b9f4378b572d7cee1b7f0da52a8a21a2a0f9a7223a0bbe7d2b4c22b96f25667e?ts=1729060872)We found this at: [U-buy](https://www.u-buy.com.au/product/9R22QS-maximist-allure-xena-hvlp-spray-tanning-system-with-pop-up-tan-tent-brown) #### Norvelle Oasis Norvell’s start-up line contains all the essentials for beginner artists, including a tan gun and a tan room. It also comes with 25 tip flyers to give away to your first customers. The kit comes in a professional version too, so it’s equally perfect for salons. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/108b828a099f353428037379b3a3a7d8b2c9881214a1bd0a829294f180365cd8?ts=1729060419)We found this at: [Sunless](https://sunless.com.au/collections/shop-all-norvell/products/oasis-start-up-kit-budget-business-in-a-box) #### Fuji Spray Sunless soloTAN 6175 with T-Pro Applicator Now, don’t be intimidated by the looks of this bad boy. Although it may seem too industrial for tanning, it’s actually lightweight and mobile spray equipment that’s super beginner-friendly. It also comes with a shoulder strap and hand strap, so it’s perfect for on-the-go artists. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/c2f943da7c425a3d85d6cb637e93c829a88b1605c26fc89041d8d78fa8045009?ts=1729059772)We found this at: [Artesian Tan](https://artesiantan.com/products/fujispray-sunless-solotan-6175-with-t-pro-applicator) #### MoroccanTan Pro V Mobile Kit Portability is a huge green flag when it comes to machines ideal for home and salon use. The MoroccanTan Pro V Mobile Kit makes spray tanning on the go even easier. It includes a sleek, quiet Pro V system, a pop-up tent, an air filter, and everything you need for perfect tans and uniform spray patterns anywhere. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/db4a6e3a5075d336edf7cc1cddeaaf830bc63cd86eabac69033681029d039424?ts=1729061931)We found this at: [MoroccanTan](https://moroccantan.com.au/professional-tanning/spray-tan-kits/moroccantan-prov-mobile-kit.html) #### Apollo Mini Mist® Essentials Starter Kit Lastly, here’s the Apollo Mini Mist – perhaps the best home spray tan machine, at least in my personal opinion. This HVLP spray tan device is beginner-friendly and comes with manuals and samples. Yes, it’s a bit pricey at $400, but the machine will last for years. More good news? You can use your favourite non-Sjolie spray tan solutions in this machine to give you the best results. But don’t just take my word for it; read the reviews online! ![Home Spray Tan Machines For a Stunning Natural Look](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/fc557f06ad3bd1fe0333ff5eb79cd920511dd4873753d31696f170dafbcde10e?ts=1729059386)We found this at: [Sjolie](https://www.sjoliespraytan.com/product/mini-mist-starter-kit/) ## Choosing your tanning solution When it comes to achieving that flawless bronzed skin, the tanning solution you use is just as important as the self-tanning machine. Here are some things to consider: ### Skin tone Orange streaks are every self-tanner’s nightmare. Avoid this by choosing a solution that matches your original skin tone and base colour, not your desired tan shade. An excellent formula can create a flawless bronze with greens/blues that counteract reddish, pink and yellow undertones. ### Skin issues Do you have skin prone to allergies and other issues? Choose a tanning solution designed for sensitive skin, such as a hypoallergenic and moisturising tanner, which keeps your skin healthy while you colour it. A tanning solution infused with oil can help soothe and soften dry skin. ### Type of tan Do you want a deep, dark tan for the beach or a light sun-kissed look for every day? Are you going to be working out or sweating a lot after the tanning session? Is it for a special event like a wedding? Choose your solution accordingly. A long-lasting, hydrating formula is usually best for most people. ### What Else You’ll Need with Your Home Spray Tan Machine Once you’ve got your machine, there are a few items to help the self-tanning process, these include: ### A tent Most self-tanning machines include a portable, leak-proof tent that you can use as a booth to minimise mess while you spray your entire body. This makes cleanup so much easier. ### A tanning Mitt Always use a tanning mitt or glove when using a machine for tanning to keep your hands free of stains and streaks. Mittens also help to distribute tanning solution more evenly in hard-to-reach areas. ### Feet Covering This is like a glove for your feet to protect the soles from sprays and spills while you stand in the tanning booth. ### Tan remover To ensure a uniform and flawless finish, you’ll want to remove all traces of previous tan applications before applying a fresh coat. The quickest way to remove a tan is with a remover mitt or lotion/mousse. ## Conclusion: The best Home Spray Tan Machine on the market in 2025 Whether you’re after a quick at-home touch-up or dreaming of going pro, there’s a type of spray tan equipment out there to suit your needs. A mini home spray tan machine is perfect for a quick glow without the fuss, while professional kits bring that salon-quality finish right to your doorstep. With adjustable spray nozzles and advanced spray mist technology, you’re guaranteed smooth, streak-free results in the comfort of your home. Whether you prefer a handheld spray or something more traditional, there’s a machine to fit every sunless tanning style. So, get ready to glow! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/home-spray-tan-machines/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/home-spray-tan-machines/?share=x) - **Categories:** Beauty **Tags:** spray tan, self tan --- ### [10 Best birthday party themes for children we all love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fab-party-themes-for-children/) **Published:** July 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Organising a kid’s birthday party is one of the most nerve-wracking but exciting challenges for mums like us. You want your child to have a great time, but with so many party themes for children options out there, choosing the right one can be tough. It’s hard to come up with unique ideas that your kiddos and their friends will love and enjoy. We created this guide to help you find the best party theme that fits your kid’s personality and ensures a memorable day. Stress-free party planning starts now! ## **How to choose the best party themes for children?** If it’s your first time organising a party for your kid, remember that the secret recipe is knowing your kid’s latest interests. The next step is finding a theme that’s easy to pull off. Whether you want a fun, low-key event at home or want to do something bigger, think about what will make your kid smile. Is your kiddo obsessed with superheroes, or do they adore dressing up as a princess? The best part about it is that there are no rules! ## **Top 10 party themes for children** Here are 10 popular and creative birthday party ideas for your kid’s big day: ## **1. Superheroes party** A superhero theme is always a hit with kids! Let them dress up as their favourite superheroes, whether it’s Superman, Wonder Woman, or even a custom-made superhero. Decorate the party space with logos, capes, and masks, and organise party games like a “superpower training course.” Don’t forget a superhero-themed cake to match! ![Superheroes party | Party themes for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/154954fc-deee-47e0-953d-a3dd85987327-1066x800.jpg "154954fc-deee-47e0-953d-a3dd85987327 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **2. Princess tea party** For a princess party, you can transform your home into a royal palace. Kids can arrive in their best dress or tiaras and enjoy a fancy tea party with mini sandwiches, cupcakes, and lemonade. Put together a magical atmosphere with twinkling lights, a soft colour scheme, and a themed cake to complete the day. ![Princess tea party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/6faef8c0-40e4-4920-a6a3-7b4e565bf542-1066x800.jpg "6faef8c0-40e4-4920-a6a3-7b4e565bf542 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Dinosaur adventure** If your child adores dinosaurs, then a dinosaur party theme is perfect. You can easily find dinosaur decorations, balloons, and even costumes for the kids. Do activities like a “dino dig” where the kiddos can dig for toy fossils in the sandbox, or put together a dinosaur egg hunt. Of course, bake (or buy) a dinosaur-shaped cake to complete the setup. ![Dinosaur adventure | Party themes for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/pexels-jibarofoto-16475253-Edited-1066x800.jpg "pexels-jibarofoto-16475253 - Edited - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Fairy garden party** A fairy party is a fantastic option for kids who love magic and the outdoors. Build a small garden with fairy decorations, wings, and wands for the kids to wear. You can have craft stations where they build their own magical houses or make pixie dust. For snacks, you can’t go wrong with a colourful garden-themed cake. ![Fairy garden party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/d1041c9a-6539-4707-96e3-4f4aa630c0e5-1-1066x800.jpg "d1041c9a-6539-4707-96e3-4f4aa630c0e5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Pirate adventure** This theme is great for active kids who are into ships and the sea. You can build a pirate ship out of cardboard, have a treasure hunt, and teach the kids some pirate lingo. Make sure the snacks follow the theme, and a treasure chest cake will be the icing on the day. Arrr! ![Pirate adventure | Party themes for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/675a5fcd-226d-476a-8708-e9755639a06c-1066x800.jpg "675a5fcd-226d-476a-8708-e9755639a06c - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Unique **party themes for children** (cont.)** ## **6. Space party** Do galaxies, aliens, or stars fascinate your kiddo lately? Go with a space-themed party! Decorate the venue with planets and astronauts, and have the kids build their own rockets or play space trivia. A cake shaped like a rocket or a planet will definitely make their day! ![Space party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/3239181d-decb-4734-8d0e-f365544ebc8e-1066x800.jpg "3239181d-decb-4734-8d0e-f365544ebc8e - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Farmyard party** A farmyard party is an exciting and interactive theme, especially for younger kids. You can bring in small animals for a petting zoo or have farm-inspired games such as “Pin the Tail on the Donkey.” Decorate with hay bales and farm animal balloons, and end the day with a farm animal cake. ![Farmyard party | Party themes for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/71311fee-2df3-4ab6-a499-f0f0e9b582d5-1066x800.jpg "71311fee-2df3-4ab6-a499-f0f0e9b582d5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **8. Unicorn party** Unicorns are a magical choice for any kiddie party. Use bright colours, glitter, and rainbows for your decor. Let the kids dress up in colourful unicorn horns or face paint and play unicorn-themed party games. For the cake, go with something adorned with rainbows, unicorns, or both! ![Unicorn party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/7fe5e56b-c4db-4603-b80f-9a4a6cdf22cc-1066x800.jpg "7fe5e56b-c4db-4603-b80f-9a4a6cdf22cc - Beanstalk Mums") ## **9. Sports party** For older kids who are into sports, a sports-themed birthday is perfect. Whether it’s soccer, basketball, or baseball, you can set up a mini field in your backyard or local park for the kids to enjoy a game. Snacks can include sports-shaped cookies, refreshments disguised as sports drinks, and of course, a sports ball cake. ![Sports party | Party themes for children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/e8b13bbd-5ca4-459d-b2d2-7c9cade828c5-1066x800.jpg "e8b13bbd-5ca4-459d-b2d2-7c9cade828c5 - Beanstalk Mums") Further reading: [Easy kids’ birthday cakes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/easy-kids-birthday-cakes/) ## **10. Art party** If you have a creative kiddo, an art party is a great way to encourage their artistic side. Set up easels, paints, and brushes, and let the kids make their own masterpieces. You can have an art gallery at the end of the day to display their work. For the cake, consider an art palette design or a rainbow of colours. ![Art party](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/4e19a1c5-1100-497e-8959-2c40d3b55f22-1066x800.jpg "4e19a1c5-1100-497e-8959-2c40d3b55f22 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Where to find inspiration for **party themes for children**?** With so many options out there, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed when organising your kid’s birthday. But you can find plenty of inspiration online from Pinterest, party blogs, talking to other moms or even [visiting toy shops](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/75880?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.caseystoys.com.au%2f). Exploring different themes and decorations can give you the confidence to organise a truly one-of-a-kind event for your child. ## **How to create a party that’s fun for kids and easy for you?** Keep things simple by sticking to a theme that your child loves and that you can easily execute. Opt for DIY decorations, simple party games, and homemade snacks. You don’t have to go all out. Just make it fun and let the kids enjoy themselves. Further reading: [How to plan a fun, affordable kid’s birthday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/how-to-plan-a-cheap-kids-birthday-party/) ## **Summary: Best party themes for children** Organising your kid’s birthday party doesn’t have to be overwhelming, and as a single mum, I’ve learned that keeping things simple and focusing on what makes your child happy is key. For my 5-year-old son, I recently hosted a Minecraft party at home, complete with DIY costumes and a Minecraft-inspired obstacle course in the backyard. The kids had a blast, and it didn’t break the bank. Whether you’re hosting a princess tea party or a dinosaur adventure, remember that the most important thing is seeing your child smile and having a blast. You’ve got this, and their birthday will definitely be memorable! ![10 Fab party themes your 10 year old will love | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Party-themes-for-10-year-old-1.png "Party themes for 10 year old - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fab-party-themes-for-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/birthdays/10-fab-party-themes-for-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Birthdays **Tags:** kids parties, party ideas, party themes --- ### [Makeup Magic: Curate a Kit That Works Every Look](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/makeup-magic-curate-a-kit-that-works-every-look/) **Published:** July 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the world of beauty, makeup is so much more than just products; it’s a slice of “me time” that single mums rarely get but truly treasure. Whether you’re rushing to school drop-off, tackling meetings, or sneaking out for a rare night with friends, the right makeup collection can help you feel a little more like you. I still remember the first time I swiped on my favourite lipstick after a tough week of solo parenting. It wasn’t about impressing anyone; it just made me feel instantly brighter and braver. A few versatile products can help you create a quick, fresh look on chaotic mornings, or dial it up when you finally get a moment to yourself. It’s not about chasing perfection, but about boosting your mood and reminding yourself you matter too. In this article, we’ll show you how to build a practical, mum-friendly makeup kit so you’re always ready to glow, even on the busiest days. ## **Understanding the Basics** Let’s talk about the real MVPs of any makeup kit, the essentials that help you go from “just rolled out of bed” to “ready to take on the world” in minutes. These are your trusty, do-it-all staples that keep things simple but fabulous: - A gentle cleanser and moisturiser – keep your skin fresh, soft and ready for anything - Primer – your secret weapon for smoother, longer-lasting makeup - Foundation or tinted moisturiser – for evening out skin tone without feeling heavy - Concealer – hides those “mum life” late-night circles or unexpected breakouts - Setting powder – keeps shine under control and helps everything stay put - Eyeshadow palette with neutral tones – perfect for both a quick day look or a bit of night-time glam - Mascara – makes tired eyes look wide awake in seconds - Rouge – adds a healthy, natural-looking flush - Lip balm and a versatile lipstick – for soft lips and an instant boost of colour that suits almost any occasion With these basics, you’re covered for busy mornings, coffee catch-ups, and those rare but magical nights out. ## **Everyday Essentials** Simple products are typically used in people’s daily lives to make themselves more beautiful without looking too exaggerated with makeup. A light foundation or BB cream can be worn to gain an even skin tone and still enable your skin to breathe. To achieve a professional but not too loud appearance, you must have natural eyeshadow colours that are not too vivid and have a matte texture. A tinted lip balm or a sheer lipstick will create a hint of colour without it being very vivid is a good idea. ## **Adding Glamour** ![runway room makeup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-freestockpro-3800060-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-freestockpro-3800060 - Beanstalk Mums") Night days or occasions, when people want to be a little bolder, of course, more vivid materials may be incorporated into the package. They are potentially the following items too: - A full-coverage foundation - Highlighter and contour products - Shimmery or metallic eyeshadows - False eyelashes - Bold lipsticks in various shades - Setting spray to ensure long-lasting wear ## **Choosing the Right Tools** Top-notch makeup brushes and tools are indispensable for the application of beauty products. A standard kit typically comes with: - Foundation brush or sponge - Powder brush - Rouge-pink brush - Eyeshadow brushes (flat and fluffy) - Eyelash curler - Lip brush ## **Considering Skin Type and Tone** Building a makeup collection takes a bit of know-how, especially when it comes to your [skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/ "skin") type and shade. If you’ve got oily skin, you’ll want to look for oil-free or mattifying products. On the other hand, if your skin tends to be dry, go for hydrating formulas that give your skin a bit of a boost. And when it comes to foundation and concealer, getting the right colour match is everything, it’s what makes your makeup look natural and effortless. The good news? These days, so many brands offer a wide range of shades and formulas to suit different skin types and tones. So whether you’re squeezing in a quick touch-up between school drop-offs or getting glam for a rare night out, the right products can help you look (and feel) like your best self. ![runway room makeup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-andersonguerra-1115128-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-andersonguerra-1115128 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Organising Your Collection** As your makeup collection starts to grow, keeping things organised can make a world of difference, especially when you’re juggling a busy schedule. Clear organisers, drawer units, or even a few labelled containers can help you see exactly what you have and save time during those rushed mornings. And while it’s easy to forget, regularly cleaning your brushes and tossing out old or expired products is super important. Not only does it keep your skin happier and healthier, but it also helps your favourite products perform at their best. A little organisation and upkeep go a long way, because let’s face it, no mum has time to dig through clutter or deal with a surprise breakout! ## **Experimenting and Expanding** Once you’ve got the basics covered, you can start having a bit more fun with your makeup collection. Think bold colour combos, playful textures, or finally treating yourself to that high-quality product you’ve been eyeing. As a single mum, your time (and budget) is precious, so it’s all about choosing smart. You don’t need drawers full of products to feel great. A handful of good-quality, versatile items can go a long way and work harder for you than a pile of stuff you rarely use. It’s not about having more, it’s about finding what really works for you. ## **Conclusion** Your makeup collection isn’t something you build overnight; it’s a personal journey that grows and changes with you. It starts with the basics: those everyday go-to products you rely on. Then, as you figure out your style, your routine, and what works for you, you start adding in a few fun extras, maybe a bold lipstick for nights out or a shimmer palette for special occasions. The key is to create a collection that fits your lifestyle, while still keeping things fresh, current, and totally you. For instance, incorporating key pieces of [runway room makeup](https://wholefoodmerchants.com/collections/all-runway-room) can elevate a collection, allowing for versatile looks. Once you have got the right things and knowledge, you can become self-confident and prepare yourself for any possible challenge, even if it is just a casual walk in the park or a big event. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/makeup-magic-curate-a-kit-that-works-every-look/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/makeup-magic-curate-a-kit-that-works-every-look/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Messy Days, Magic Hats: The Rise of Custom Headwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/messy-days-magic-hats-the-rise-of-custom-headwear/) **Published:** July 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For single mums who are packing lunchboxes at sunrise, racing to daycare drop-offs, and squeezing in errands between work calls, fashion isn’t always a priority. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still have a little fun with your style. Custom headwear, whether embroidered with a cheeky phrase, silk-screened with your kid’s doodles, or hand-painted to match your vibe, offers a simple, low-effort way to express yourself. These one-of-a-kind pieces stand out from the usual store-bought options and let you show off a bit of personality, whether you’re doing the school run, grabbing groceries, or finally sitting down for a well-earned coffee. In this article, we’ll explore why personalised headwear is making waves in the world of fashion and self-expression. More than just an accessory, a custom hat can give you a confidence boost and serve as a small but powerful reminder of how strong and stylish you really are. ## **The Rise of Custom Headwear** These days, [custom headwear](https://supplycrew.com.au/headwear/) has indeed gone through a boom in acceptance in the market. More and more people are turning to personalised caps and hats as a fun, stylish way to show off who they are. In this vein, the new fashion ethos is a personal one, which includes wanting to wear items that say to the world: This is who I am. ## **A Crown for Every Style** Custom headwear gives a very wide range of choices that can complement any type of style one prefers. Among which, baseball caps are popular for the fashion trends, but the cozy woollen hats have not lost their appeal; chic fedoras, small visors, are made for various occasions for people who like different styles. Along with this, personalisation features add more attraction to them, and thus they give the person an advantage to be the only one having them as a piece of jewellery. ## **Expressing Individuality** One idea of getting associated with custom headwear is self-expression. The wearers can pick various colours, materials, and designs to make the hat suit their personal style. Moreover, the possibility of inserting unique representations, texts, or logos through DIY is a way to show interests, ideas, or affiliations. ![custom headwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-jep-gambardella-7690081-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-jep-gambardella-7690081 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Boosting Confidence** Wearing custom headwear might seem like a small thing, but it can do wonders for your confidence, especially when you’re a single mum trying to hold it all together. There’s something empowering about putting on something that feels uniquely you, whether it’s a design you picked yourself, a message that lifts your spirits, or even a little tribute to your kids. It’s about owning your space and feeling good in your own skin. That boost of confidence can ripple into other areas of your life, helping you walk into a meeting with your head held high, strike up a conversation at the park, or simply feel more like yourself again after a hectic morning. Sometimes, it’s the little things, like a personalised hat, that remind you just how strong, capable, and fabulous you really are. ## **A Versatile Fashion Statement** Custom headwear comes out as a piece of accessory that gives a wider horizon of fashion outfits to go with it. Whether matching with casual wear at the weekend for a day out, or using a twisted hat to complement a formal outfit, these individual hats ensure that wearers can freely switch between styles. Its versatility is what makes headwear a must-have staple in anyone’s wardrobe. **The Emotional Connection** Many individuals become emotionally attached to their custom headwear. Moreover, those accessories do not retain their initial position and become much more valuable as they play an integral role in the wearer’s life. An event commemorating a specific moment, branding, or merely fulfilling the want of the favourite kind of design, a custom hat being the source of inspiration, can be of significant importance to the wearer. ![custom headwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-sasha-kim-8484112-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-sasha-kim-8484112 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Quality and Durability** Custom headwear is usually of supreme quality and has a longer lifetime as opposed to mass-produced ones. Many companies have been seen to be the domain of the industry of personalised hats, and they use superior materials and professional workers to ensure their products’ regular wear resistance. This strict adherence to the provision of quality is what ensures that the headwear is a long-lasting investment as well as a valuable affair. ## **The Gift of Personalisation** The nature of custom headwear provides the option of gifts as well. One thing you learn over time, especially as a mum, is that the most meaningful gifts are the ones that come from the heart. When someone takes the time to personalise something just for you, it shows real thought and love. These kinds of gifts say, “I see you, and I know what matters to you.” That personal touch turns something simple into something you actually want to hold onto because it reminds you of the person who gave it. A personalised gift can lift your spirits on the rough days and make you feel deeply appreciated. **Environmental Considerations** Amid the escalating concern for environmental sustainability, an increasing number of custom hat companies are now actively embracing green practices. This can be through the use of organic materials or the incorporation of environmentally-friendly production methods, which the companies do in order to stay in line with the rising demand for eco-friendly fashion alternatives. ## **Conclusion** Custom headwear isn’t just about following a fashion trend; it’s about showing the world who you are. Whether it’s a bold design, a cheeky quote, or something that reflects your values or personality, personalised headwear lets you wear your story on your head (literally). These unique pieces have become more than just accessories; they’re little statements of identity, confidence, and creativity. For many mums, especially those navigating life solo, fashion can sometimes feel like an afterthought. But adding a one-of-a-kind item to your [wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-personalise-your-wardrobe/ "wardrobe") is an easy way to reclaim your sense of style and self. More and more people are moving away from cookie-cutter fashion and leaning into pieces that feel personal and meaningful. Remember, you can curate a wardrobe that reflects you, your journey, and your everyday wins. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/messy-days-magic-hats-the-rise-of-custom-headwear/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/messy-days-magic-hats-the-rise-of-custom-headwear/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping --- ### [Top Commercial Outdoor Tables That We Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-commercial-outdoor-tables-that-we-love/) **Published:** July 10, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Just think of it: a busy outdoor café, full of people talking and drinking coffee, and the smell of freshly brewed coffee in the air. Out of the blue, dark clouds gathered, and a sudden storm hit with its full force. The rain was falling heavily on the pavement, and the wind was blowing hard and strong in the air. The only question is: can the street furniture stay outside in the air’s absolute control of nature? This scenario spotlights the indispensable nature of overall commercial outdoor tables that can handle not only the rough treatment of the weather but also add to the beauty and functionality of the space. ## Why Outdoor Tables Deserve More Thought Than You Think In outdoor hospitality settings and public spaces, the selection of furniture can either make or ruin a venue. The role of outdoor tables is not just that they are less important than the rest of the furniture, but they are not present at all. So, they need to be thought through with the utmost attention. Quiet partners of outdoor dining and hanging out spaces, they have to deal with the heat, rain bombs, heavy wind, and occasional small hail. But, really, how do you search all this on the table market, and visit all the sites? I learned this the hard way when I opened a tiny café with a few outdoor seats [near the coas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-gold-coast/ "near the coas")t. I thought the tables I picked were cute and functional, until the first storm hit. By the next morning, two had rusted underneath, and one had literally blown into the neighbour’s yard. After that, I spent weeks comparing materials, finishes, and weights before investing in tables that could take on both salt air and toddler tantrums. It taught me that in outdoor hospitality, durability isn’t a luxury but survival. ![commercial outdoor tables](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-eyupcan-timur-424989336-32848859-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-eyupcan-timur-424989336-32848859 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Weather-Resistant Materials: Start Here You don’t want to ignore the materials you are picking the adverse weather-resistant tables from the onset. Aluminium is the preferred option due to its lightweight and resistance to rust. It can last through different conditions of weather without decomposing, hence, it is suitable for coastal areas or heavy humidity. So the other choice, stainless steel, is more robust and durable. Its good tolerance to oxidation qualifies it to be a metal to be kept in areas with a high salt content in the atmosphere, such as fume-rich places. ## Sustainable & Stylish Options: Teak and HDPE For those of you who would like to eco-travel, teak is the trendiest pick for the outer furniture, which has lasted for hundreds of years. What its natural oils do is to make it weather the elements, as they get infestation-free and naturally damage-resistant. But, it is necessary for regular upkeep to get that particular gold shade colour of it, else it will turn into a white-grayish patina over time. Synthetic materials like high-density polyethylene (HDPE) have also gained popularity. These materials look exactly like wood but have greater durability and are easy to maintain. ## Strong Design Matters More Than You Think Besides the choice of material, another important determinant of the table’s usefulness is its design. Tables that have held joints and solid legs to support the heavy traffic of daily use and the external forces are better than those with other features. There are objects that are produced with the possibility of adjusting them, and this is one of the keys to stabilising the uneven surface on construction sites. Moreover, the surface of a table has an important effect on weight and desired aesthetics. UV-resistant coatings have the ability to shield from sun fading and damage due to the sun and moisture. What these coatings do is wear away the durability of the tables while they maintain their good looks, so it is almost as if they are new ones. ![commercial outdoor tables](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-mlkbnl-12329414-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mlkbnl-12329414 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Lightweight vs Wind-Proof: A Balancing Act The quality also appeared not important for outdoor furniture, as weight is almost always neglected. Apart from the fact that light-weight tables provide flexibility in the way that they can be arranged, the point is that a strong wind can easily toss them off. If your tables cannot be moved, they are basically safe. Some manufacturers have proposed other solutions, such as bases that can be filled with sand or water to keep down, be easily emptied for moving around. They are rather inclined to weigh less and provide more conveniences. ## Commercial Outdoor Tables Maintenance Needs for maintenance will assist in making the right decision. While some materials could be more long-lasting, they would definitely require a bit of extra service. Care should be taken to consider both the initial carrying out and the sustained cost, and the amount of work. The tables that can be smoothly cleaned without specialised care are the best for commercial places where time and funds are limited. ## Final Thoughts: Commercial Outdoor Tables In conclusion, [commercial outdoor tables](https://felton.net.au/product-category/tables-chairs/) and their selection is a thorough problem, which requires considering all the possible sides of the issue. Matter of fact: Many are the materials that are used for making the tables, and the method to build them, the surface, and the weight are all the factors to consider with the Scrap. The customers, by investing in the table, can acquire added value for their business and give more space for nature, weather conditions, etc. The choice that caters not just to rain endurance means that from among the clients, the ones who had the far-sightedness and the wise choice of table managed to attract them and enhance the outdoor experience, not just for a while but for the years they were there. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-commercial-outdoor-tables-that-we-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-commercial-outdoor-tables-that-we-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Rejuran® Made Simple for Time-Poor Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/rejuran-made-simple-for-time-poor-mums/) **Published:** July 7, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Motherhood changes many things — your daily rhythm, your priorities, even your skin. Whether it’s lack of sleep, hormonal shifts, or just that post-baby blur, a lot of mums feel their skin looks more tired than they’d like. While most of us reach for concealer (or the nearest wipe), others are quietly exploring longer-term clinic options. One that’s getting attention in professional settings is [Rejuran®](https://rejuran.com.au/) — a gel containing highly purified marine-derived polynucleotides that is administered by trained healthcare professionals. But is it just another beauty trend, or could it fit into a self-care plan that’s realistic for mums managing everything from daycare drop-offs to job interviews? Here’s what to know, minus the hype. ## Why Does Skin Change After Kids? You’re not imagining it. [Pregnancy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/ "Pregnancy"), birth, and breastfeeding can affect your skin in ways that aren’t always talked about. Changes in hormones, hydration, sleep, and diet all play a role. You might notice dullness, uneven tone, or just a general “meh” feeling when you look in the mirror. Topical skincare is helpful, but some women seek additional support through clinic-led treatments when they’re ready and it’s appropriate for them. ## What Is Rejuran® — And What Does It Do? Rejuran® is a sterile injectable gel included in the Australian Register of Therapeutic Goods (ARTG). It contains highly purified polynucleotides, which are long chains of DNA fragments derived from marine sources, specifically wild salmon. These molecules are delivered into the dermis by trained health professionals, with the goal of supporting tissue restoration and improving the physical appearance of treated areas. The formulation is processed using a patented method called DOT™ (DNA Optimising Technology), which enhances purity and molecular stability. The treatment is only available through professional consultation and cannot be purchased or self-administered. ## It’s Not a Quick Fix — and That’s OK Unlike “lunchtime makeovers” you may see online, Rejuran® is designed to work gradually. For many people, a course involves multiple sessions spaced out over weeks or months, with individual results varying. This slower, layered approach can be more realistic for mums juggling family life, but it’s also important to align your expectations and calendar with what’s involved. If you’re considering this type of treatment, it’s worth chatting with your practitioner about timelines, childcare support, and any recovery considerations (usually minimal, but worth noting if you’re on the go). ## What Does the Science Say about Rejuran? Rejuran®’s active ingredient, polynucleotides, is included to support favourable conditions for cell growth and tissue restoration, as described in the product’s intended purpose. The gel is designed to be administered into the dermis and is listed on the ARTG for improving physical appearance and supporting tissue restoration. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-sora-shimazaki-5938242-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-sora-shimazaki-5938242 - Beanstalk Mums") In clinical settings, some professionals may use complementary products as part of a broader treatment plan. These are used at the practitioner’s discretion and are not available for public purchase. The Rejuran® range also includes cosmetic skincare options for daily use. These are considered part of general skincare maintenance and do not require a consultation. ## What About Safety? Rejuran® is administered by qualified healthcare professionals, and treatment is only provided following a consultation. Like any procedure, it’s not for everyone. If you’re pregnant, breastfeeding, or managing other health concerns, speak openly with your provider. Some people may experience mild redness or temporary sensitivity around the treatment area. These responses are usually short-lived and manageable, but your practitioner should outline what to expect based on your skin type and history. ## Can I Afford It? We get it — finances matter. Most clinics offer plans over multiple sessions, and pricing may vary based on the clinic and region. Because it’s considered an aesthetic medical treatment, it isn’t covered by Medicare or private health insurance. If you’re considering Rejuran®, factor it into your broader self-care budget — the same way you might plan for a gym membership or physio. ## What Realistic Results Look Like Rejuran® is not about overnight transformations. It’s more about gradual visible improvements in the appearance of treated skin over time. While high-profile individuals may have contributed to its visibility, Rejuran® is not a celebrity-endorsed product and should never be chosen based on social media influence. Instead, results are shaped by things like your overall skin health, age, lifestyle, and consistency with follow-up care. Professional guidance is key, and your practitioner can help you track subtle changes with photos and reviews over time. ![rejuran](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-olly-3764019-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-olly-3764019 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Can Rejuran Fit Into My Life as a Mum? Absolutely — but only if it makes sense for you. Here are a few practical considerations: - Time: Treatments are relatively quick, but you’ll need to book in advance and possibly rearrange your schedule (hello, daycare swap). - Recovery: Minimal for most people, but allow a little downtime just in case. - Planning: Align treatments with periods when you have breathing room (e.g., not school concert week!). ## Where Can I Get It? To explore Rejuran®, you must visit a trained healthcare professional via an authorised clinic. These clinics are equipped to guide you through the process safely and ethically, with no pressure, just facts. ## A Gentle Reminder for All Mums Rejuran® may be a tool in your self-care kit, but it’s not the whole story. Skin health also comes from what you eat, how you sleep, and what you say to yourself in the mirror. If now isn’t the right time, that’s more than OK. If you’re curious, talk to someone qualified and ask all the questions you need. ### Important Information Rejuran® is a sterile injectable gel included in the Australian Register of Therapeutic Goods (ARTG). It is administered by trained healthcare professionals for tissue restoration and improved appearance. Always consult a healthcare professional to determine if this treatment is appropriate for your individual circumstances. Individual results may vary. This content is not intended as medical advice. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/rejuran-made-simple-for-time-poor-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/rejuran-made-simple-for-time-poor-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [What happens to my kids if I die?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-happens-to-my-kids-if-i-die/) **Published:** July 8, 2025 **Author:** Brooke Reardon **Content:** The only thing more precious than watching the ones you love enjoy life is life itself. So we’re sure this question has crossed your mind once or twice – what happens to my kids if I die? Many of us think that our family will automatically be looked after financially when we are gone. Unfortunately, this is not true. As a parent, your life changes from the moment your first child is born, and you would do anything to protect them. Considering your end-of-life and what happens to your children when you are gone can be overwhelming, but it is an essential part of planning for the future. The only way to ensure our families are taken care of when we are no longer here is by preparing a Will. There are a number of steps you can take as part of your succession planning to ensure that your children are adequately provided for from the perspective of your own peace of mind and in the eyes of the law. This includes appointing a Guardian and adequately providing for your children in your Will. Further reading: [6 Things that can go wrong if you don’t write a will](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-things-that-can-go-wrong-if-you-dont-write-a-will/). ## What happens to my kids if I die? (Appointing a Guardian) Choosing a Guardian to look after your children under the age of 18 years can be one of the most challenging decisions you will make. However, there are numerous benefits to making a Guardianship provision within your Will. Not only will it reduce the number of family disputes and legal costs involved in contesting a Will, but you will also know exactly who will be looking after your children after you are gone. ### Dying Intestate If you die without a Will, it means you have died intestate. Different states have different intestacy laws that dictate where your Estate is distributed and who will look after your children. Most often than not, in the event of the death of one parent, the surviving parent will take legal guardianship of the child, unless there are circumstances to reflect that this is not in the best interest of the child, such as domestic violence or substance abuse. Otherwise, if both parents pass away, any person with sufficient interest (i.e. grandparents, aunts, or uncles) can apply to be a guardian. ### Role of a Guardian A Guardian has the following responsibilities for your children who are under 18 years old: - Day-to-day care and control of the children; - Making decisions about the children’s upbringing - Financial provision - Influencing moral obligations in the children’s upbringing, i.e family traditions, religion & cultural beliefs ![What happens to my kids if I die](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Pexels-littlesoad-2803979-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-littlesoad-2803979 - Beanstalk Mums") ### What happens to my kids if I die? Things to consider when appointing a Guardian It is important to consider the following factors when choosing a Guardian for your children: - **Location** – where does the Guardian live, and do they have access to important amenities such as a school, child care, medical treatment, etc? - **Relationship** – what sort of relationship does your child have with the Guardian? Are they close and already have a bond? - **Financial situation** – aside from providing financially for your child through your Will, can the Guardian continue to financially support your child? - **Living arrangements** – what sort of living arrangements can the Guardian offer? Is their home adequate for a child, and do they have enough space? - **Other children** – does the Guardian have other children or plans to have a child of their own? How will that impact your child? - **Lifestyle** – do the cultural and religious beliefs of the Guardian align with how you would like your child to be raised? ## Family Provisions The freedom to make a Will on whatever terms one wishes is limited by the overriding consideration that a person must consider his or her moral responsibility to provide for one’s spouse, children or others. The Court has the power to order financial provisions to be made out of the Estate of a deceased person for the ‘proper maintenance and support’ of a person ‘for whom he or she had responsibility to make provision’. It is important to keep the Family Provisions in mind when preparing a Will to ensure your [children are adequately provided for](https://www.nsw.gov.au/departments-and-agencies/trustee-guardian/news-stories/plan-for-your-childrens-future-a-will), in addition to other family members. Different legislation applies in different states, so it is important to review these with a succession lawyer to ensure you have included everything. The court considers various factors to determine whether the deceased had a responsibility to make provision for a person and whether the proposed distribution of the Estate, as contemplated under the deceased’s Will or rules of intestacy, makes adequate provision for the proper maintenance and support of that person/persons. An applicant must show that the deceased had a responsibility to make provisions or further provisions for that person. No class of person is excluded, but financial considerations must be taken into account in making a claim of this nature, as an applicant will not only be liable for his/her own costs but also the estate costs if the applicant’s claim is dismissed. It is extremely important to make sure that your Will adequately provides for your family and dependents. This will reduce the costs involved in administering your Estate and prevent your Will from being contested. It will also mean that your loved ones will not have the burden of making a family provision claim, and your children will be looked after when you leave this Earth. If you’re unsure where to start, you can [contact expert wills and estate lawyers in Sydney](https://ramsdenfamilylaw.com.au/wills-and-estate-lawyers-sydney/) to ensure your wishes are documented clearly and legally. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *For specific legal advice in relation to your personal situation, contacting a succession lawyer is advised.* ![What happens to my kids if I die? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/What-happens-to-kids-when-I-die.png "What happens to kids when I die - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-happens-to-my-kids-if-i-die/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-happens-to-my-kids-if-i-die/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** will, family estate, succession planning, guardian, family provisions --- ### [Smart Skincare: Why Real-Life Mums Love SKIN x LULU](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/smart-skincare-why-real-life-mums-love-skin-x-lulu/) **Published:** July 7, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Motherhood rarely makes room for ten-step routines or long recovery periods, yet most women still want their skin to look rested, even when the week is crammed with meetings, lunchboxes and late-night Minecraft marathons. The reassuring news? You don’t need a spare day (or a spare life) to invest in your complexion. In Sydney’s inner west, SKIN x LULU has shaped its service menu around the rhythm of parenthood, offering smart skincare solutions that respect your diary as much as your dermis, evidence-informed, time-friendly, and designed for real life. Founder-practitioner Jamal Ammar keeps the clinic calm, bright and child-free, a genuine pocket of headspace. Early, late and lunchtime appointments sit on either side of school runs; treatment plans come with transparent pricing and realistic timeframes. The clinic’s motto? Science first, pressure never. ## Tailored Serums That Evolve With You Hormones, climate and sleep (or lack of it) all influence skin behaviour. Instead of guessing which bottle to buy next, the clinic blends custom serums in-clinic after a skin review. Selected cosmetic ingredients are combined into a single formula designed to refine overall appearance. Because the serum can be tweaked at each visit, it adapts to seasonal or hormonal change, one streamlined step instead of a shelf full of half-used creams. ## Surface Refreshers With Minimal Downtime If you prefer professional help to DIY hacks, you might consider the clinic’s non-invasive skin rejuvenation sessions. Gentle laser facials and light chemical peels aim to brighten tone and smooth texture in under an hour. Most clients leave with only slight warmth or a pink flush that settles quickly—ideal if the afternoon involves playground duty rather than pyjama recovery. ![smart skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Skinxlulu-571x800.jpg "Skinxlulu - Beanstalk Mums") ## Rejuran Micro-Injection Therapy (For the Planner’s Diary) Some improvements involve needles, but still fit into everyday life. [Rejuran](https://skinxlulu.com.au/treatments/) is a registered injectable gel placed in the mid-dermis via fine micro-injections. Sessions generally take less than an hour, with mild redness that usually subsides by the next day. Over a series of visits, many clients describe a gradual improvement in overall skin texture and appearance, all while maintaining regular routines. A qualified consultation is essential to confirm suitability and spacing. ## Melanopro: Two-Phase Peel for a More Even Look Uneven colour can appear after changes in hormones or sun exposure. The Melanopro chemical peel supports a more uniform tone through a two-step exfoliation process: an in-clinic masque begins controlled resurfacing, followed by a guided home routine. When paired with diligent sunscreen and moisturiser, users often notice a brighter complexion over the following weeks. Flaking is usually mild enough to handle with extra hydration and a no-photos mindset, rather than full hibernation. ## Why the Model Works for Parents - Flexible scheduling – Early-morning and twilight slots keep office time and bedtime stories intact. - Plain-language consults – Benefits, limitations and costs are outlined clearly so families can weigh effort against outcome. - A brief mental reset – Neutral interiors, gentle playlists and herbal tea provide a short, much-needed pause. - Evidence-informed practice – Devices and protocols are selected for their supporting data; communication follows current professional guidelines. ## Setting Realistic Expectations Jamal stresses that “quick” doesn’t mean “instant”. Professional treatments can enhance surface radiance, but sunscreen, balanced nutrition and, where possible, sleep still underpin long-term results. The clinic’s role is targeted intervention; the client’s role is consistent after-care and practical goals. For mothers considering a first step, a consultation covers lifestyle factors, skin history and budget so any plan feels achievable, not overwhelming. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Skinxlulu-featured-571x800.jpg "Skinxlulu featured - Beanstalk Mums") ## A Typical Mum-Friendly Timeline ### Week 1 — Consultation & Personal Serum 30 minutes – A skin review, serum mixed, and daily routine simplified to cleanse, serum, SPF. ### Week 3 — Quick Peel + LED 60 minutes – Light chemical peel to lift surface dullness, followed by LED light therapy to soothe the skin and promote a refreshed look. Pinkness fades by [school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/tips-for-preparing-your-child-for-school/ "school") pick-up. ### Week 6 — Laser Genesis Treatment 45 minutes – A no-downtime session that helps smooth skin and even tone. Many clients find it leaves skin feeling firmer and more refreshed—no recovery needed. Makeup-ready straight after. ### Week 8 — First Rejuran Session (if suitable) 60 minutes – Micro-injection appointment for deep hydration and repair. Back to work the next morning. ### Week 10 — Tone Check 30 minutes – Review progress; adjust serum actives for seasonal shift. The spacing keeps momentum without hijacking family logistics. ## Curious? Next Steps To explore options or arrange a skin review, visit SKIN x LULU. Whether you opt for a lunch-break laser polish or plan a structured injectable programme, the guiding concept remains unchanged: skin care that adapts to real-world schedules. ## Just a Heads-Up, Mumma - Always check the label and follow the directions – they’re there for a reason. - Any treatments mentioned here are done by trained pros – you can’t grab them off a shelf at your local chemist. - You’ll need to chat with a healthcare expert first to see if it’s right for you. - Everyone’s skin (and story) is different, so results can vary. **Quick Disclaimer:** This info is here to help and follows the latest from AHPRA, the TGA and the MTAA, but it’s not meant to replace advice from your doctor. SKIN x LULU is responsible for making sure everything ticks the right legal boxes. Not sure about something? Best to check with a qualified expert. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/smart-skincare-why-real-life-mums-love-skin-x-lulu/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/smart-skincare-why-real-life-mums-love-skin-x-lulu/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Not Just a Luxury: Why Aerolase Makes Sense for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-aerolase-makes-sense-for-single-mums/) **Published:** June 29, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As a single mum, it’s easy to put your skin last on the never-ending to-do list. Skincare trends can feel like just another thing to keep up with, full of big promises and little time to actually follow through. That’s why treatments like [Aerolase](https://beautytechnology.com.au/aerolase/neo-elite/) are starting to stand out. It’s a quiet achiever in the world of skin care—used by professionals, and not because it’s flashy or trending, but because it gets results without the drama. It’s not about chasing perfect skin (who has time for that anyway?). It’s about giving your skin the support it needs, in a smart, no-fuss way that works with your real And yes, it has celebrity cred. Wellness entrepreneur and Australian supermodel Elle Macpherson has shared that she uses Aerolase to maintain her iconic glow: > “I tend to stay away from lasers as I live in Miami, but I’ve found a laser called Aerolase through my dermatologist… it works really well for promoting beautiful, healthy and clear skin.” > — Elle Macpherson, via *[womanandhome.com](https://www.womanandhome.com/ "womanandhome.com")* While the glow is real, the science behind it is even better. ### **Inside the Technology** At the heart of the Aerolase Neo Elite is a 650-microsecond Nd: YAG laser system — a cutting-edge platform designed to treat common dermatological conditions, including acne, rosacea, psoriasis, and benign vascular and pigmented lesions. Its ultra-precise pulse duration allows it to target the skin with minimal discomfort, reduced downtime, and virtually no contact. That makes it particularly appealing for patients who want results without interruption to their routine. Importantly, Aerolase Neo Elite is suitable for all Fitzpatrick skin types — a major step forward in inclusive skincare. For clients with melanin-rich skin, the technology’s gentle but effective approach significantly reduces the risks traditionally associated with laser treatments. ![Aerolase](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Aerolase.jpg "Aerolase - Beanstalk Mums") In clinical settings, practitioners also turn to the Era Elite for its resurfacing capabilities. Where the Neo works from the inside out, the Era works from the outside in. This Er: YAG system is designed to perform full-field skin resurfacing, treating uneven texture, visible pores, fine lines, and photodamage. It’s also indicated for the ablation of benign cutaneous lesions. Together, Neo and Era form the core of the Aerolase Reverse Protocol — a holistic approach to skin rejuvenation that can be tailored to suit a wide range of conditions and aesthetic goals. These treatments are only available through trained healthcare professionals, ensuring clinical precision and appropriate patient care. ### **Post-Treatment Support, the Smart Way** [Supporting your skin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/the-sleepless-mums-guide-to-glowing-skin/ "Supporting your skin") after professional treatments is just as important as the treatment itself. For those seeking a hydrating, non-invasive way to maintain skin comfort and appearance, CO2Lift offers an effective at-home option. This advanced carboxytherapy mask uses carbon dioxide technology to help refresh and hydrate the skin, making it an ideal post-laser companion or simply a luxury moment of calm between clinic visits. > *Note: CO2Lift is a cosmetic product and is not included on the Australian Register of Therapeutic Goods (ARTG). It is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any medical conditions.* Easy to use, cooling, and gentle on sensitised skin, CO2Lift bridges the gap between clinical innovation and at-home self-care. It’s become a favourite among clinicians looking to offer patients a recovery-friendly product they can trust. --- ### **The Support Act: Byonik and Slimyonik** Many clinics turn to Byonik when a patient’s skin needs added hydration support, especially during laser treatments. This pulse-synchronised system combines LED light therapy with antioxidant-rich hyaluronic acid serums. The device aligns its energy pulses to the user’s heartbeat—yes, really—allowing for deeper product absorption in a calm, controlled way. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Byonik.jpg "Byonik - Beanstalk Mums") Used in pre- or post-laser protocols, Byonik helps support skin recovery and reinforces the barrier function without physical exfoliation or mechanical abrasion. *Byonik is not ARTG-registered and is intended for cosmetic use in professional settings only.* For body-focused care, Slimyonik offers a unique experience using compression therapy. The device gently massages the body using alternating air pressure to support a sense of relaxation and promote lymphatic flow. It’s ideal for clients looking to feel lighter, more relaxed, and reconnected with their body, particularly after intensive facial or skin treatments. *Slimyonik is not ARTG-registered and is not intended to treat or cure any medical condition. It is marketed for general wellness support.* --- ### **Quiet Luxury in the Clinic** The growing popularity of Aerolase reflects a larger shift in the aesthetics space: from aggressive, time-consuming procedures to refined, data-driven therapies that work with, not against, the skin’s natural function. These treatments don’t scream for attention. They don’t rely on over-the-top packaging or viral hype. Instead, they offer high-end performance in a controlled clinical setting, administered by trained professionals who know how to personalise care. For patients, this means more than great skin; it means peace of mind. ## **So that you know:** This treatment isn’t something you can pick up off the shelf; it’s only available through a qualified healthcare professional. If you’re curious about whether it’s right for you, it’s best to have a chat with your doctor. Everyone’s different, so results and experiences can vary. And yep, always follow the label and your doctor’s advice. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-aerolase-makes-sense-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-aerolase-makes-sense-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [How EdTech Toys Are Teaching Kids While They Play](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-edtech-toys-are-teaching-kids-while-they-play/) **Published:** June 18, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In homes and classrooms across the globe, educational toys are getting smarter. These aren’t the alphabet blocks or wind-up dinosaurs of decades past. Today’s EdTech toys are connected, sensor-packed, and software-powered. They promise to turn screen time into learning time, blurring the line between play and pedagogy. As families grapple with how to raise digitally literate kids without overwhelming them with devices, EdTech toys offer a middle ground. They’re fun, often collaborative, and, most importantly, they’re designed to teach. ## What Makes a Toy “EdTech”? EdTech toys are educational tools embedded with technology. That might include motion sensors, AI, touch screens, or app integrations. But the technology isn’t the point, the learning is. A coding robot that reacts to drawn commands, or a tablet-connected game that teaches fractions through puzzles, fits this model. Unlike passive entertainment, these toys require kids to interact, solve problems, and sometimes even build or program. The best ones offer feedback loops: kids try something, get results, and adjust. ## A Market on the Rise The U.S. educational toy market reached an [estimated $12.2 billion in 2023](https://www.grandviewresearch.com/industry-analysis/us-educational-toys-market-report). Analysts expect annual growth over 10% through the end of the decade, driven by STEM-focused parents and digitally fluent kids. Roughly one in four households now owns a learning-focused toy with a digital component. A 2022 survey from The Toy Association found that 71% of parents said they actively seek out toys that support academic skills or developmental goals. COVID-19 also accelerated the trend. With more learning happening at home, parents turned to tech-infused toys to reinforce reading, math, and problem-solving. Even as classrooms have reopened, interest in these products has stuck. ![LEGO | EdTech toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Lego-education-edtech-for-kids-800x800.jpg "Lego education edtech for kids - Beanstalk Mums") ## Standout Brands and Innovations Several brands are leading the charge, each with a unique approach: - **Osmo:** Designed for kids ages 3–10, Osmo’s iPad-based games use physical pieces that interact with the screen via a mirror attachment. Games target math, reading, drawing, and even basic coding. Its hybrid design appeals to parents wary of too much screen time. - **LEGO Education:** Kits like LEGO Spike or Mindstorms blend building with programming. Kids construct robots or mechanical devices and then use drag-and-drop code to animate them, introducing principles of logic, cause-effect, and iteration. - **Kano:** Known for its build-your-own computer kits, Kano helps kids understand what’s inside their devices, and how to shape them. The brand has expanded into creative coding, offering projects that teach music mixing, game design, and simple animations. - **Sphero:** These programmable robot balls teach coding through motion. Students can guide Sphero devices through mazes, obstacle courses, or group challenges. Sphero products are widely used in classrooms thanks to their hands-on and collaborative potential. Other notable players include SmartLab, Snap Circuits, and Tacto, each building on the idea that playtime can also be brain time. ![Sphero | EdTech toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Sphero-stem-for-learning-800x800.jpg "Sphero stem for learning - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Pedagogy Behind the Tech Most EdTech toys are built around active learning theory. Rather than passively watching or listening, kids learn best when they manipulate objects, ask questions, and receive instant feedback. These toys often incorporate: - **Gamified learning:** Kids unlock levels, earn badges, or complete missions while learning. The challenge-reward cycle keeps them engaged. - **Project-based interaction:** Toys like Kano or LEGO ask children to build something and then experiment with how it behaves, reinforcing trial-and-error thinking. - **Multisensory inputs:** Physical touch, sound cues, visual animations, and speech recognition combine to reinforce memory and comprehension. The goal isn’t just to teach content, but to foster curiosity, confidence, and creative problem-solving. ## Learning vs. Entertainment: A Cultural Tension The digital divide between adults and children is often blurred. Parents tell their kids to put the tablet away while checking their own phones for emails, games, or social feeds. Many parents game themselves, whether casually or seriously. This dynamic sometimes shows up in amusing contradictions. A parent might limit their child’s app usage while spending hours each week on a fantasy sports app, or even mobile casino-style games. One mom from a focus group noted the irony. “I don’t want my daughter glued to her tablet all day, but I’ll admit I unwind with [WinBetZillo](https://winbetzillo.com/) every night after she’s asleep. We’re all trying to find balance.” That tension is real: trying to guide a child’s digital diet while managing your own. It adds complexity to the conversation around educational technology, especially when both generations are navigating the same devices in different ways. ## Benefits Observed in Early Studies While long-term academic impact is still under review, early studies are promising. One research brief from MIT’s Playful Learning Lab found that students using programmable robots for just 30 minutes per week showed improvements in spatial reasoning and sequencing. A similar study in New Jersey elementary schools found that children using Osmo’s math games outperformed a control group on fraction comprehension after four weeks. Teachers also report increased classroom participation when tech toys are involved. They provide a form of differentiated instruction, allowing students to progress at their own pace, make mistakes safely, and often collaborate in small groups. ![Tacto | EdTech toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Tacto-games-for-toddlers-to-learn.jpg "Tacto games for toddlers to learn - Beanstalk Mums") ## Parental Enthusiasm and Worries Most parents welcome anything that combines fun with learning. For many, EdTech toys feel like the perfect compromise between enrichment and entertainment. Instead of zoning out with cartoons, their kids are solving puzzles or building simple machines. But concerns persist, especially around: - **Screen time:** Even if a game is educational, it still involves a screen. Parents struggle to draw the line between “productive” and “excessive” use. - **Privacy:** Many smart toys connect to the cloud or require accounts. Parents worry about what data is being collected, and who has access. - **Tech dependency:** Some educators worry that if children only engage when tech is involved, they may lose interest in traditional learning or social play. Despite this, surveys suggest most parents are willing to adopt EdTech toys, provided there are time limits and transparent privacy practices in place. ## Pressing the Play Button to Learn EdTech toys aren’t a gimmick. When thoughtfully designed, they provide real learning value while still being fun. They bridge a gap between what kids want (play) and what adults hope for (growth). As the technology improves and more data becomes available, parents will be better equipped to choose [tools that align with their values](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/finding-the-right-tutor/). For now, moderation and mindful use seem to be the best policy. Play is still the work of childhood, and with smart toys, it’s becoming smarter work than ever. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-edtech-toys-are-teaching-kids-while-they-play/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/how-edtech-toys-are-teaching-kids-while-they-play/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Children --- ### [Why Your Bathroom Never Looks as Clean as It Should](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-your-bathroom-never-looks-as-clean-as-it-should/) **Published:** June 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You’ve just finished scrubbing the bathroom. The tiles are sparkling, the mirror’s streak-free, and the towels are freshly laundered. But somehow… it still doesn’t look quite right. Sound familiar? A lot of us put in the effort to keep our bathrooms clean, only to be left with a space that still feels a bit dull, tired, or just not quite finished. The problem might not be your cleaning habits — it could be the details you’re overlooking. Things like lighting, layout, or worn-out [bathroom taps](https://www.winnings.com.au/c/bathroom/tapware) can all throw off the visual impact of an otherwise clean space. If your bathroom never seems to look as clean as it feels, here are a few subtle culprits that could be sabotaging your efforts — and how to fix them. ## **1. Your Tapware Is Letting You Down** Even the cleanest sink can look dingy if the tapware is pitted, outdated, or constantly showing water spots. Taps are one of the most-used fixtures in the bathroom, and they naturally attract grime, fingerprints, and calcium build-up — especially in high-use households. The fix? Choose tapware in finishes that are both durable and easy to maintain. Brushed metal, matte black, and chrome all clean up beautifully — and with the right shape and finish, they reflect light in a way that enhances the whole space. If your current taps are constantly looking dull or stained, it might be time to upgrade. ## **2. There’s Not Enough (Good) Light** Bathrooms often rely on overhead lighting, which can cast harsh shadows and make even a clean room feel dull or cold. Worse, it highlights imperfections like grout discolouration or streaks on glass. **To improve the lighting:** - Add wall-mounted lights or sconces near the mirror for flattering, even illumination - Use LED bulbs with warm tones instead of cool white - If possible, bring in natural light with a sheer window covering or skylight [Good ligh](https://www.bhg.com/home-improvement/lighting/planning/how-to-improve-lighting/)[ting](https://www.bhg.com/home-improvement/lighting/planning/how-to-improve-lighting/) makes every surface look cleaner — and makes your bathroom more pleasant to be in, too. ## **3. You’re Using Too Many Products — and Storing Them Poorly** Benchtop clutter makes a bathroom feel instantly messier, even when it’s spotless. Half-used bottles, mismatched containers, and items that don’t belong in the bathroom can all add up visually. **Quick tips:** - Store everyday items like toothbrushes and moisturisers in a closed cabinet or drawer - Decant products into matching dispensers for a more uniform look - Use small trays or baskets to group items and create zones on your vanity Less visual noise makes your surfaces look cleaner — even before you actually clean them. ## **4. Your Mirror Is Too Small (Or Too Basic)** ![bathroom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pexels-karolina-grabowska-4239031-1-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-karolina-grabowska-4239031 - Beanstalk Mums") The right mirror can transform the feel of your bathroom. A small or frameless mirror might be practical, but it doesn’t always do much for the aesthetics of the room. **Consider:** - A larger mirror to reflect more light and make the space feel bigger - A mirror with a stylish frame or unique shape - A backlit mirror for a modern, spa-like effect A [well-chosen mirror](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COpgLcdN5SI) becomes a feature — not just a tool — and helps tie your whole design together. ## **5. You’re Ignoring the Grout and Silicone** Even if the tiles are clean, stained grout or discoloured silicone around the bath or basin can make the entire space look unclean. Over time, these areas naturally collect mould, mildew, and water stains — and [regular surface cleaning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/time-saving-cleaning-tips/) isn’t always enough to fix it. **Solutions:** - Use a grout pen to refresh discoloured lines between tiles - Reapply silicone in areas that look mouldy or cracked - Consider professional regrouting for a longer-lasting fix These are the small details that make a big difference in how polished your bathroom looks overall. ## **6. The Style Doesn’t Match the Cleanliness** A dated colour scheme or low-quality finishes can make your bathroom feel dirty even when it’s technically spotless. If your vanity is peeling, the tapware is rusting, or the tiles are a strange shade of beige, it’s hard to make the room *look* clean — no matter how hard you scrub. Think about where you can make low-cost, high-impact changes: - Swap your tapware or cabinet handles for something more modern - Add peel-and-stick tiles or wallpaper to update the look - Use new towels, bath mats, and accessories to bring in fresh colour and texture Your bathroom doesn’t just need to *be* clean — it needs to *look* clean, too. And that’s where design, storage, and attention to detail come in. By updating a few key features, simplifying your space, and addressing the little things that add visual clutter, you can make your bathroom feel as fresh as it really is. After all, you’ve already done the hard work scrubbing. Now it’s time for your bathroom to look the part. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-your-bathroom-never-looks-as-clean-as-it-should/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/why-your-bathroom-never-looks-as-clean-as-it-should/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Common Health Issues in Rescue Dogs and How to Treat Them](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/common-health-issues-in-rescue-dogs-and-how-to-treat-them/) **Published:** June 14, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When someone adopts a rescue dog, it is an incredible experience for them. But it also comes with responsibilities. Many rescue dogs suffer from health problems of their own due to their past experiences. These circumstances give such dogs a chance for life with a higher quality. We can do this by learning about rescue dogs’ common health issues and how to treat them. | **Common Health Issue** | **Prevention Tips** | |---|---| | **Skin Problems** | Use medicated shampoos and flea prevention meds. | | **Dental Problems** | Brush teeth regularly and provide dental chews. | | **Digestive Issues** | Transition diets slowly and include probiotics. | | **Parasites** | Use monthly preventatives and regular deworming. | | **Behavioral Health** | Establish routines and use positive reinforcement. | | **Ear Infections** | Clean ears regularly with vet-approved solutions. | ## **1. Skin Problems** ![rescue dogs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Image5.jpg "Image5 - Beanstalk Mums") The dogs’ skin conditions are their most noticeable health problem. Many rescued dogs have flea infestations, dermatitis, or even mange. ### **Causes and Symptoms:** - The parasites, such as fleas and mites, can cause the dog to itch and become red and swollen. - Food or environmental allergens can cause scratching, redness, and hair loss. - Sometimes, if the dog is not properly cared for, the pet might develop skin infection problems. ### **Treatment:** - Initially, a vet has to check out for the exact diagnosis. - Use the medicated shampoos and topical treatments prescribed by the vet. - Treat the dog with medications for flea and tick prevention. | Pro Tip: Use pet wipes to clean your dog’s skin. This prevents infections and keeps its coat fresh. | |---| ## **2. Dental Problems** Most rescue dogs have poor-quality teeth. They have bad breath, too. They weren’t given the right dental care. Poor dental health can alter the overall well-being of the dog. ### **Common Issues:** - Tartar build-up and gum disease. - Loose or missing teeth. - Bad breath due to microbial infection. ### **Treatment and Prevention:** Make sure your dog’s teeth are brushed with the vet’s recommended toothpaste regularly. Schedule annual dental cleanings with the vet. Use dental chews specifically designed for dogs. ## **3. Digestive Issues** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Image3.jpg "Image3 - Beanstalk Mums") Rescue dogs may have sensitive stomachs. This is due to abrupt diet changes or poor past nutrition. ### **Symptoms:** - Vomiting or diarrhea. - Lack of appetite or bloating. - Weight loss despite eating well. ### **How to Help:** Transition to a balanced diet gradually. Include probiotics to support gut health, and consult your vet about potential food intolerances or allergies. ## **4. Parasites** Rescue dogs, especially strays, often have fleas, ticks, and worms. ### **Types of Parasites:** - **External parasites:** Fleas and ticks. - **Internal parasites:** Roundworms, hookworms, and heartworms. ### **Preventions:** Use monthly preventatives to keep parasites at bay. Deworm your dog based on your vet’s recommendations and regularly check for ticks, especially after walks in wooded areas. ## **5. Ear Infections** ![rescue dogs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Image2.jpg "Image2 - Beanstalk Mums") Typically, rescue dogs with floppy ears are the ones that go untreated for ear infections. ### **Symptoms:** - Continual movement of the head or the rot of the ear canal by the paw of the animal. - The ears could turn red or discharge a foul odour. - The ear canal may have thick, yellowish, or occasional blood discharge. ### **Treatment:** Ears should be cleaned with a gentle vet-approved solution that is left in for a few minutes. Diseases caused by microorganisms can be identified by cultures. They can be treated with antibiotics or antifungals if given. Keep ears free of water, especially after a bath or swim. ## **6. Arthritis and Joint Problems** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Image4-1200x655.jpg "Image4 - Beanstalk Mums") Mature rescue dogs or those with old injuries often get arthritis and other joint issues. ### **Signs to Watch For:** - Animals may dislike biomechanical issues, like lameness or ataxia, after exercise. - Symptoms of soundproofing include going up the stairs and jumping. It also limits mobility in retirees. - Worsening lung function or poor coordination could, more than expected, limit the rising interest in exercise. ### **Management Tips:** Orthopedic beds should be used to provide support to dogs. Supplements like glucosamine and chondroitin should be used to improve joint health. To achieve a healthy weight, dogs can reduce stress on their bones. They can do this by playing or taking short walks. ## **7. Vaccination and Preventive Care** Many rescue dogs have missed their vaccinations. So they are at a higher risk of infectious diseases. ### **Vaccines:** - Rabies, distemper, and parvovirus vaccines are the most common core vaccines. - Lyme disease is a non-core vaccine. It is given based on your location. ### **Prevention Plan:** Start with a veterinarian’s check-up after adopting your pet. Ensure you strictly adhere to your vaccination schedule, and vaccines are supplemented with wellness checks. Regularly search for up-to-date topics on pet preventive health care. Watch[vet tech webinars](https://www.vetandtech.com/webinars) offered by vets and techs. ## **8. Obesity** Obesity is common in former pets due to abuse and irregular eating. They lack exercise. ### **Risks:** - The probability of diabetes and joint problems is high. - The life span falls. ### **Solutions:** Feed high-quality dog food in moderate amounts at regular times. This is the solution. Apart from regular playtimes, regular exercise can be made a motive to keep them fit. Buy interactive toys, like laser lights or dog chew balls, to make your dog exercise. Weight loss and difficulty breathing are common symptoms during the progression of heartworm infection. ## **Conclusion** A rescue dog’s journey is a struggle. But it’s a triumph. You get a loyal, loving dog. By finding their health problems early and providing preventive care, you will ensure they live a happy, healthy life as dogs. Always remember: every dog is unique. You must work with your vet to find the best care plan. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/common-health-issues-in-rescue-dogs-and-how-to-treat-them/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/common-health-issues-in-rescue-dogs-and-how-to-treat-them/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [Endometriosis vs PCOS: What’s the Difference?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/endometriosis-vs-pcos-whats-the-difference/) **Published:** June 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’ve ever experienced irregular periods, pelvic pain or trouble getting pregnant, you may have wondered if you could have endometriosis or polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). These two common conditions affect many women across Australia (and around the world), and while they’re often mentioned in the same breath, they’re actually quite different. Understanding the difference between endometriosis and PCOS can help you better recognise symptoms, ask the right questions and get the care you need, without needing to undertake [online health courses](https://studyonline.uts.edu.au/online-courses/health) yourself. In this guide, we’ll break down what each condition is, how it affects the body, and what to look out for. ## **What is Endometriosis?** [Endometriosis](https://endometriosisaustralia.org/) is a chronic condition where tissue similar to the lining of the uterus (called endometrial tissue) grows outside the uterus. This tissue can be found on the ovaries, fallopian tubes, bladder, bowel or even the pelvic wall. Unlike the uterine lining, this tissue has no way to exit the body during your period. As a result, it can lead to inflammation, scarring and sometimes cysts, causing significant pain and complications over time. ### **Common symptoms of endometriosis include** - Intense period pain (often described as cramping that interferes with daily life) - Pain during or after sex - Pelvic pain outside of your period - Painful bowel movements or urination, especially around your period - Heavy bleeding or irregular periods - Fatigue - Trouble conceiving It’s worth noting that some women with endometriosis may have [mild or even no symptoms,](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/endometriosis) while others experience debilitating pain. It’s also a condition that can take years to diagnose. Unfortunately, many people are told their symptoms are “normal” or that they’ve been misdiagnosed with other issues first. ## **What is PCOS?** PCOS, or [polycystic ovarian syndrome](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/polycystic-ovarian-syndrome-pcos), is a hormonal disorder that affects how the ovaries work. It’s often characterised by irregular periods, excess androgen (male hormone) levels and the presence of many small cysts on the ovaries. However, you don’t need to have ovarian cysts to be diagnosed with PCOS. The exact cause of PCOS isn’t known, but it’s linked to insulin resistance and hormonal imbalances. It’s one of the most common endocrine disorders among women of reproductive age. ### **Common symptoms of PCOS include** - Irregular or missed periods - Acne, oily skin or persistent breakouts - Excess facial or body hair (hirsutism) - Thinning hair on the scalp - Weight gain or difficulty losing weight - Difficulty getting pregnant - Dark patches of skin (especially around the neck or underarms) Unlike endometriosis, PCOS doesn’t usually cause pelvic pain. Instead, it often presents with skin changes, weight issues and menstrual irregularities. ## **How Are They Diagnosed?** ### **Diagnosing Endometriosis** Diagnosing endometriosis can be tricky, as symptoms often overlap with other conditions like IBS or pelvic inflammatory disease. Your doctor may recommend: - A pelvic exam - Imaging tests like ultrasound or MRI (though these don’t always detect endometriosis) - A laparoscopy (a minor surgical procedure that allows a specialist to view the inside of your abdomen and confirm the diagnosis) ### **Diagnosing PCOS** PCOS is typically diagnosed based on three main criteria (known as the [Rotterdam criteria](https://www.health.qld.gov.au/cpc/gynaecology/polycystic-ovarian-syndrome-pcos)). If you meet at least two out of three, you may be diagnosed with PCOS: - Irregular or absent ovulation - Excess androgen levels (either through symptoms like acne or a blood test) - Polycystic ovaries are visible on an ultrasound Your doctor will also rule out other possible causes of symptoms before confirming a PCOS diagnosis. ![endometriosis vs pcos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Endometriosis-vs-pcos-in-article.jpg "Endometriosis vs pcos in-article - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Can You Have Both?** It is [possible to have both endometriosis and PCOS](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10472311/), though it’s less common. Having both conditions can complicate symptoms and treatment, so it’s important to work closely with a GP or specialist who can help you manage both holistically. ## **How They Are Treated** ### **Managing Endometriosis** While there’s no cure for endometriosis, [symptoms can be managed](https://www.thewomens.org.au/health-information/periods/endometriosis/treating-endometriosis) with: - Pain relief medications (like anti-inflammatories) - Hormonal treatments such as the contraceptive pill or IUD - Surgery to remove endometrial tissue (often via laparoscopy) - Lifestyle support, including diet changes and pelvic physiotherapy Treatment depends on the severity of symptoms and whether you’re trying to get pregnant. ### **Managing PCOS** PCOS treatment usually focuses on managing hormonal imbalances and insulin resistance. This might include: - Hormonal birth control to regulate periods - Medications like metformin for insulin resistance - Anti-androgen medications to help with acne or hair growth - Lifestyle changes such as a balanced diet and [regular exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/ "regular exercise") - Fertility treatments if you’re trying to conceive There’s no one-size-fits-all approach, and treatment should be tailored to your specific symptoms and goals. ## **When to See a Doctor** If your period symptoms are interfering with your daily life—whether it’s pain, irregularity or something else—it’s important to speak to your doctor, regardless of whether you have either condition or not. Both endometriosis and PCOS are common, but that doesn’t mean they should be dismissed or go untreated. Early detection is important for managing symptoms, so don’t be afraid to visit your doctor, gynaecologist or endocrinologist [if you think something is not quite right](https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/endometriosis-vs-pcos#seeking-medical-help). You deserve answers, and you deserve care that takes your concerns seriously. ## **You’re Not Alone** Endometriosis and PCOS can both be life-altering, but they don’t have to define you. With the right support, management and awareness, many women go on to live healthy, full lives. If you think something’s not right with your body, trust your instincts and reach out for help. The more we talk openly about these conditions, the easier it becomes for others to recognise symptoms and advocate for their own health. Remember, you’re not alone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/endometriosis-vs-pcos-whats-the-difference/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/endometriosis-vs-pcos-whats-the-difference/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Disney Dad: The Astonishing Truth Behind the Illusion](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/disney-dad/) **Published:** November 9, 2023 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** The term Disney Dad (also known as Disneyland Dad) was something I was unfamiliar with until recently. However, after reading the legal definition, it hit home. It goes something like this: > ***“A noncustodial parent who indulges his or her child with gifts and good times during visitation and leaves most or all disciplinary responsibilities to the other parent”.*** So, what does this mean for you as a single mother? ## Am I parenting with a Disney Dad? If your ex is a Disney Dad, you probably already see where this is going. When you send your little ones off to the party house, it can feel like they are staying with your teenage son rather than their biological father. You nag, plead, and beg for them to eat just one piece of broccoli, and that meal times are planned to [incorporate something healthy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-healthy-meals-your-kids-will-love/). But, when it’s Disney Dad’s turn, it’s pancakes for breakfast, pizza for lunch and nuggets and chips for dinner. With chocolate and ice cream at regular intervals. ## An insight into the Disney Dad If you look deeper, it is easier to understand the logic behind the Disney Dad’s actions. When he sees his children infrequently he may struggle to understand what their real needs are. To hide this colossal lack of insight, he uses the distraction of entertainment and the ‘go go go’. The Disney Dad wants to be a friend, not a parent. He wants to leave your children with happy experiences and albums full of photos. He may even ‘spoil’ them to compensate for his guilt for not spending more time with them. In his mind, disciplining is not fun for them or him … so why bother? ## The routine of the Disneyland Dad Routine. What [routine](http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/family_routines_how_and_why_they_work.html/context/312)? While as the primary custodial parent it is often a daily battle for baths, bedtimes and brushing – this is not something the Disney Dad needs to concern himself with. [Free-range parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-range-parenting/) is more his style. My children will come home with their eyes hanging out of their heads, with my strict 7.30pm bedtime turning into whenever they pass out. There have even been occasions where he has picked them up from school early on his weekend. Because, after all, it’s about ‘quality time with Dad’. ## The financial implications of the Disney Dad Then, there is possibly the most challenging part to accept. It’s when you’re left struggling financially with school fees, swimming lessons and day-to-day expenses such as keeping the fridge filled. While the Disney Dad swans in for short doses, throwing cash around on outings and frivolities. My kids have done it all, and it often amazes me how much can be jam-packed into one night a fortnight. Movies, random trips interstate, theme parks, ghost tours, the show, bowling, water slides, rock climbing, aquariums, AFL, ice skating … the Disney Dad does it all. But, if your child needs new socks, a haircut or shoes, poor old Disney Dad’s wallet is suddenly empty. To him, there is no fun in the practicalities of life. ## How to talk to your children about why you parent differently to their dad Raise your hand if you’ve experienced the “Mum vs. Dad” parenting saga. To resolve this, talk to your children about why you parent differently to their dad. First, be honest and straightforward. I mean, I remember having this heart-to-heart with my little ones about why bedtime at Dad’s place is more of a suggestion than a rule. I told them about the time I let them stay up late for a movie night, and we were all zombies the next day. Use relatable examples to help them understand your perspective. For instance, I explained how we prioritise veggies here, while Dad’s place is like a candy store. But, hey, we’re building strong teeth! Keep the conversation open and encourage them to ask questions. Let them suggest ways on how to make your time together more fun. Ask them what things they don’t like and explain why those need to be done. Tell them that it’s for their well-being. ![disney dad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/In-article-images-2025-06-11t100624%20418.jpg "disney dad - Beanstalk Mums") ## Do not try and compete with a Disneyland Dad As a parent with the majority of custody, how are we supposed to compete with the entertainment they provide? The answer is, unless your ex is willing to work with you to maintain consistency … you don’t. As long as there is no danger to your child, picking your battles and biting your tongue will save you a lot of unnecessary stress. Your children will learn that there are different rules in [different houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/), and so will the Disney Dad. My number one rule is ‘no items are to come home’. This rule was formed after two years of Royal Show trips where they brought home the giant gorilla teddies you win in the sideshows. I have four giant gorillas in my shed, which won’t fit in their rooms (and won’t fit in the bin). From now on, he can line his walls with as many gorillas as he likes … they are not welcome here. Nerf guns are confiscated at the door and so are bad habits. ## Beware of parental alienation Explained in this article from the [NCSC](https://www.ncsc.org/__data/assets/pdf_file/0014/42152/parental_alienation_Lewis.pdf): > ***“Parental alienation is a strategy whereby one parent intentionally displays to the child unjustified negativity aimed at the other parent.”*** As a single mum, I know it can be a concern. The last thing you want is for your kids to feel like they have to choose sides in the Mum vs. Dad showdown. I’ve learned that healthy competition between parents can be entertaining, but it should never cross into superhero vs. supervillain territory. Look out for signs that your ex might be trying to turn your kids against you. It can begin with little comments or gestures that hint at Dad being the “fun parent” or making Mum the “bad cop.” If this starts happening to you, talk to your kids and tell them how you feel. Remind them that even if your temper gets the best of you sometimes, it doesn’t change how much you love them. Never say bad things about your ex, this might backfire. Tell your kids that you want them to have a great relationship with their dad, and how it hurt when they felt they had to pick one side over the other. If you’re up for it, you can talk to your ex. Tell him that you can still team up on special occasions like birthdays or holidays to create wonderful memories for your kids. If he’s not up for it, what’s new? At least you tried. ## How to benefit from your child having a Fun Dad You’re not going to be able to change the actions of your kid’s father. Well, you can try but it will be like banging your head repeatedly on the tiled kitchen floor. I wouldn’t recommend it. Instead, there is a sneaky way you can benefit from his behaviour. If your children want a big item that you are unable to afford or they want to go somewhere that is out of your budget … get them to ask their dad. Be sure when they ask their dad, they mention that mum said ‘no’. The Disney Dad will leap at the chance of buying them a Nintendo Switch or taking them to the local theme park if it means he gets one up on Mum. Doing this means your kids get what they want without you paying. My kids knew from a young age how to play their dad like this. And I never discouraged it. Getting one over your ex like this is a win for the kids and, believe me, it will make you feel good too. ## What next for shared parenting success? If you have to deal with a Disney Dad, understand that, at the end of the day, your children are just like you. A holiday is lovely, but there is nothing better than the feeling of being home. There is no need to compete. Instead, create boundaries so they understand the behaviour you expect when they return. Stick to the [parenting style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/) that works for you. They will learn the [value of money](https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/families/teaching-kids-about-money) and what you do for them every day. And, really … most kids are just as happy with a free trip to the beach or the park or spending time with mum. There is no need to empty your bank account on them in one afternoon. Save that one for Disney Dad. Suggestions to stay calm and sane while sharing care with a Disneyland Dad. ## My final words on the troublesome truth of the Disney Dad As a single mum, I’ve learned that this role isn’t always a walk in the park (especially while co-parenting with a Disney Dad), but it comes with its own set of adventures. The truth is, we don’t need pixie dust and magic castles to be amazing parents. We’re the ones making sure homework is done, veggies are eaten, and bedtime is adhered to (most of the time, at least). We may not have the “fun parent” title, but we’ve got our unique way of making memories. So, embrace your role, quirks, and all. Savour the funny mishaps along the way. Remind your kids that real adventures happen at home, where love, laughter, and life lessons are served daily. You might not have a wand, but you’ve got something better – your heart and your unique parenting style. So, keep being your awesome, “No-Candy Yoda” self, and keep guiding your kids through life’s ups and downs your way. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/disney-dad/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/disney-dad/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** parenting, free range parenting, co parenting, shared parenting, disneyland dad, custody, fun dad --- ### [The Collagen Co’s Smart Approach to Beauty and Wellness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-collagen-cos-smart-approach-to-beauty-and-wellness/) **Published:** June 5, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** I’ll admit, I used to roll my eyes at anything with the words “beauty and wellness” in it, especially during the chaos of solo parenting. But after one too many afternoons running on coffee and crusts from my kid’s sandwich, I knew I needed to find something simple to help me feel like me again. That’s when I tried The Collagen Co. It is a premium brand that’s turning everyday wellness into an experience that’s as chic as it is convenient. Wellness these days isn’t just about kale and skincare. It’s about small daily habits that actually fit into your life. As a single mum, I don’t have time for complicated routines or chasing the latest trends. The Collagen Co delivers smart solutions for real life, without the fluff, fads, or overpromises. What I love about The Collagen Co is how easy it is to throw a scoop of collagen into my morning coffee or make a quick shake between the school run and meetings. It’s a little act of self-care that helps me feel more like myself, even on the wildest days. ### **Collagen Powder That Actually Tastes Good** Let’s be honest, many collagen powders have fallen flat in the taste department. The Collagen Co’s collagen powder, however, delivers premium hydrolysed collagen peptides in flavours you’ll look forward to mixing into smoothies, coffee, or even baked goods. Created to integrate effortlessly into your [daily routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-care-daily-routine/ "daily routine"), their collagen supplements are designed as a functional nutrition option that supports a balanced diet, with no complicated routines or endless pills required. Their collagen peptides are hydrolysed for easier mixing and absorption, and combined with ingredients like Vitamin C and hyaluronic acid. It’s a nutrient-rich, smart addition to your wellness routine, without making medical or therapeutic claims. ### **Glow Shakes: Where Nutrition Meets Everyday Luxury** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Tcc-5-1114x800.png "Tcc- 5 - Beanstalk Mums") For those seeking a next-level option that blends convenience with satisfaction, Glow Shakes are where it’s at. Created by The Collagen Co to support a balanced lifestyle, these ready-to-blend formulas bring together collagen, protein, fibre, and essential nutrients in a delicious shake that fits effortlessly into your day. Choose from indulgent flavours like Chocolate Milkshake, Salted Caramel, or Violet Crumble, and know that each shake has been crafted with busy lifestyles in mind. Instead of relying on traditional snacks or skipping meals, these [meal replacement shakes](https://www.thecollagen.co/collections/glow-shakes) offer: - A protein-rich, satisfying option to include as part of a balanced meal plan - Nutrient-dense formulations designed to complement an active lifestyle - A well-balanced choice for those seeking convenience and smart nourishment on the go - A delicious and filling option for people who want to make mindful food choices without compromising flavour These aren’t about quick fixes or unrealistic claims. They’re about feeling good, fuelling smart, and making the everyday a little more luxurious. ### **Why The Collagen Co Is More Than a Trend** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Collagenco_september_2024-50-533x800.jpg "Collagenco_september_2024 50 - Beanstalk Mums") What sets The Collagen Co apart is how effortlessly it combines form and function. Yes, the packaging is beautiful. Yes, the flavours are addictive. But at its core, it’s a brand built on science-backed ingredients, consumer-driven convenience, and a deep understanding that modern beauty begins within. From the first sip of a Glow Shake to the daily ritual of adding collagen peptides powder as an afternoon pick-me-up, the brand makes wellness feel intentional and enjoyable, never forced or prescriptive. No fad diets. No lofty promises. Just simple, satisfying products that support a lifestyle of smart decisions and real results. For me, it’s become one of those rare things I actually stick with. I keep a tub of the collagen powder in the kitchen, and it’s become my 3 pm ritual; something just for me in a day that’s usually all about everyone else. It’s a small thing, but it’s made a real difference. ## **The Bottom Line? Delicious Wellness That Fits You** The Collagen Co is proof that wellness doesn’t have to be complicated, boring, or full of questionable ingredients. It’s effective, elevated, and just feels effortlessly cool. I first came across the brand when I was trying to shake up my morning routine, literally, and I haven’t looked back since. Their collagen peptides mix seamlessly into my coffee, and their meal replacement shakes have become my go-to when I’m racing out the door or just can’t be bothered making a full lunch. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/081a7181-2-800x800.png "081a7181 2 - Beanstalk Mums") If you’re on the hunt for the best collagen supplement to boost your glow from the inside out, or want something more mindful to keep you fueled during busy days, The Collagen Co has options that are as practical as they are pretty (and let’s be real, the pastel packaging doesn’t hurt). It’s no surprise that beauty and nutrition are blending more than ever, and The Collagen Co is right at the heart of that shift. Their products are easy to use, taste amazing, and actually make me feel like I have my life together—even when I clearly don’t. Wellness that fits into real life? That’s the kind of self-care I can get behind. The Collagen Co is proof that wellness can be effective, elevated, and effortlessly cool. Whether you’re shopping for the best collagen supplement to round out your routine or want to explore the brand’s meal replacement shakes for a more mindful meal option, the brand offers solutions that are as practical as they are polished. With beauty and nutrition continuing to intersect in exciting ways, The Collagen Co is leading the charge, one delicious scoop at a time. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-collagen-cos-smart-approach-to-beauty-and-wellness/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-collagen-cos-smart-approach-to-beauty-and-wellness/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [How IT Managed Services Help Single Mums Run Their Businesses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-it-managed-services-help-single-mums/) **Published:** June 3, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In today’s fast-paced business world, single mothers face unique challenges when it comes to balancing their professional and personal lives. Dealing with children and a business at the same time may seem difficult to the naked eye, but the fact is that through technological advances and the rise of an [IT managed service](https://www.milnsbridge.com.au/), these intelligent women have found shortcuts to reduce complexity and optimise for time. ## **The Challenges Faced by Single Mum Entrepreneurs** Women entrepreneurs with little kids to take care of do not have an easy life. They are the breadwinners, nannies and housekeepers all in one, while trying to find time for themselves. These mums are in a constant search for time with both children and work on their hands. They’re seriously short on time, so anything that can save time and keep things running smoothly would be a real lifesaver. ## **Enter IT Managed Services** Managed IT services have become a great help to the single mothers who run their own businesses. These technologies are provided to the [small business class](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/start-a-small-business-from-hobby/ "small business class") and families, especially women who work independently. The offered IT support typically includes complete management, where business owners can direct all their focus on their essential business while technology issues are taken care of by their technicians. ### **1. Remote IT Support** Remote support, one of the most significant features in IT, is used for time-saving purposes. Single mothers who are entrepreneurs can ask for on-the-spot help from IT pros when they encounter any technical obstacle right in the comfort of their homes or home offices. This kind of remote support makes the immediate fixing of technology problems possible. With this method, no time is wasted, as the business operations follow a smooth routine. ![IT managed services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/1000022992-1200x800.jpg "1000022992 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **2. Cloud-Based Solutions** The settings of cloud technologies are usually provided by the IT-managed services offered to these women entrepreneurs. Cloud technology involves online servers, which store information and allow mums access from anywhere in the comfort of their homes. This way, they are quicker in using their spare time outside working for the family work-life balance, like being able to check a document or write back to an email while sitting on the edge of a chair at their kids’ soccer practice. ### **3. Automated Backups and Data Security** For any company of any size, data loss can have catastrophic consequences concerning business operations. IT services usually involve automated backup systems, which ensure the successful storage of documents and therefore the easy recovery of anything important. The first is the full understanding of the need for secure data and thus achieving a successful business people without the constant worry of things going wrong, which can at times be due to human error, etc. ### **4. Software Updates and Maintenance** Dealing with the regular dynamics and the common process of software updates and the maintenance of IT systems may take more time than expected. The managed IT services are responsible for doing this thus, they provide all the necessary software, virus, and spam protection and make sure all systems operate in the latest versions and are properly maintained. For example, in the case of a crash or system malfunction, issues and security risks can be minimised, thus, this saves time and is a good point for these busy single mums. ## **Time-Saving Benefits of IT managed Services for Single Mums** The adoption of managed IT services will offer single mothers the privilege to relive and enjoy different types of time-saving benefits, of which the following are the most important: ### **1. Reduced Downtime** With quick remote assistance and preventive maintenance, businesses will experience less frequent downtime due to hitches in technology. This is the reason why single mums can devote much of their spare time to assignments that are truly thrilling and waste less on the IT advisory task. ![IT managed services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/1000022993-1200x675.jpg "1000022993 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **2. Increased Mobility** Cloud solutions give the ability to move from one location to another, even as a single mum. Friday can mean setting up at home, a laptop in a cafe, or with children after sports school. These women have now gotten new habits of staying productive wherever they are, all while spending quality time with their loved ones. ### **3. Streamlined Communication** Plus, there’s none of that stick-in-the-mud communication style that drags down so many workplaces. Video conferencing software and engaging message transmission platforms are all built into the package. Through these communication tools, single mothers are now able to stay in constant touch with their team members, clients, and suppliers without wasting hours on personal meetings. ### **4. Automated Tasks** With system automation, covering tasks like data entry, invoice processing, and customer relationship management (CRM) updates, managed IT services allow single mums in business to focus on the bigger picture. By cutting down on time-consuming, repetitive tasks, automation helps them make the most of their limited time and channel their energy into strategic, high-impact areas of their business. ### **5. Enhanced Focus on Core Business** By outsourcing IT management to expert service providers, single mum entrepreneurs can focus their time and energy on what really matters — growing their business. They no longer have to worry about technical glitches, software updates, or cybersecurity issues. With those concerns off their plate, they can stay hands-on with serving clients, developing new products, and driving the business forward. ## **Conclusion** As technology continues to evolve, managed IT services are becoming even more powerful allies for single mum entrepreneurs. They’re not just business tools, they’re lifelines that help these women succeed professionally while staying present in their children’s lives. More than just tech support, they’ve become true partners in motherhood and business, making it possible to raise a family and run a company side by side. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-it-managed-services-help-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-it-managed-services-help-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Career --- ### [Why Locally-Sourced Pet Food Is Revolutionising Canine Nutrition](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/locally-sourced-pet-food/) **Published:** May 29, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes to feeding our dogs, more and more pet parents are paying closer attention to what’s actually in the bowl. With a growing focus on pet nutrition, there’s been a real shake-up in the pet food world, and local ingredients are stealing the spotlight. Leading the pack is [Pet Food](https://www.petfoodaustralia.com.au/), your go-to for top-quality Australian-made pet products and online dog food. They’re all about putting pets before profits, and it shows in every bite. But “locally-sourced” isn’t just a trendy label. Choosing Aussie-made pet food has real benefits that imported brands just can’t compete with. Think fresher ingredients, tighter quality control, and a smaller carbon pawprint. It’s a win for your pet and the planet. ## **The Freshness Factor: Why Proximity Matters** When ingredients travel shorter distances from farm to factory, they retain more of their nutritional integrity. This fundamental principle underpins the superior quality of Australian-made pet food. Unlike imported products that may spend weeks or even months in transit, locally sourced ingredients are processed at their nutritional peak, ensuring your dog receives maximum benefit from every kibble. Pet Food Australia harnesses this freshness advantage by maintaining close relationships with Australian farmers and suppliers. Their formulas are specifically designed to combat issues like chronic itchy skin, stress, and dull coats—problems often exacerbated by nutritionally compromised ingredients found in mass-produced, imported options. By prioritising freshness, they deliver a product that supports optimal canine health from the inside out. ## **Unique Australian Ingredients: Nature’s Nutritional Powerhouses** Thanks to Australia’s unique wildlife, we’ve got access to some pretty amazing, natural protein sources for our dogs. Take kangaroo meat; it’s super lean, packed with protein, and naturally rich in omega-3s to help with joint health and inflammation. Plus, it’s one of the most sustainable and ethical meat options out there, which means it’s good for your dog and the environment. Pet Food Australia’s Kangaroo & Ocean Fish Dry Food takes full advantage of these benefits. It’s loaded with top-quality Aussie protein to help [your dog](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/what-you-need-to-know-before-getting-a-dog/ "your dog") build strong muscles and stay healthy from the inside out. The added ocean fish ups the omega count, which is great for your pup’s skin and gives their coat that healthy, just-brushed shine. ## **Quality Control: The Australian Regulatory Advantage** When it comes to quality and safety, Australian pet food manufacturers don’t mess around. Thanks to strict regulations and a strong focus on biosecurity, every stage of production is held to seriously high standards. For pet parents, that means peace of mind, knowing the food in your dog’s bowl has passed all the right checks and tests before it even leaves the factory. ![pet food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-mart-production-8434725-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-mart-production-8434725 - Beanstalk Mums") Pet Food Australia embraces these high standards as a minimum baseline, often exceeding regulatory requirements in their pursuit of nutritional excellence. Their manufacturing processes incorporate multiple quality checkpoints, ensuring consistency and safety across all product lines. This commitment to quality control minimises the risk of contamination issues that have plagued imported pet foods in recent years. ## **Environmental Sustainability: The Local Advantage** The environmental impact of pet ownership extends beyond waste management to include the carbon footprint of pet food production and distribution. Locally-sourced ingredients dramatically reduce transportation-related emissions, contributing to a more sustainable pet care industry. By choosing Australian-made pet food, environmentally conscious pet owners can align their values with their purchasing decisions. Pet Food Australia’s dedication to environmental responsibility extends beyond ingredient sourcing to include packaging considerations and manufacturing efficiencies. Their “kinder on the planet” approach recognises that truly premium pet food must consider its impact on the world our pets and their humans will inhabit in the future. ## **Supporting Local Economies: The Ripple Effect** Buying Australian-made pet food does more than just fill your dog’s bowl; it helps support local farmers, manufacturers, and small businesses. Every purchase creates a ripple effect that keeps money in our communities, boosts rural jobs, and helps maintain a steady supply of top-quality ingredients for the long haul. Pet Food Australia really walks the talk here. They’ve built strong partnerships with local suppliers, which means they’re not only backing regional economies but also locking in fresh, trustworthy ingredients. It’s a win-win for everyone: farmers, pet parents, and of course, the dogs who get to enjoy seriously good food. ## **Tailored to Local Conditions: Climate-Appropriate Nutrition** Australia’s unique climate and environmental conditions create specific nutritional needs for dogs living in this region. Locally developed formulations take these factors into account, providing climate-appropriate nutrition that supports canine health through extreme temperature variations and environmental challenges. This tailored approach represents a significant advantage over one-size-fits-all global formulations. The complete and balanced formulations from Pet Food Australia reflect this nuanced understanding of local conditions. Their recipes incorporate ingredients that support hydration, temperature regulation, and immune function, all critical considerations for dogs navigating Australia’s diverse climate zones. ## **Transparency and Traceability: Knowing Your Pet’s Food Source** One of the big perks of buying locally made pet food? You know exactly where it’s coming from. Shorter supply chains mean Aussie pet food brands can trace ingredients from farm to bowl, so you’re never left guessing what’s in your dog’s dinner. That kind of honesty builds trust and helps you make confident, informed choices for your furry friend. ![pet food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-yaroslav-shuraev-9632600-1200x800.jpg "Pexels-yaroslav-shuraev-9632600 - Beanstalk Mums") Pet Food Australia exemplifies this commitment to transparency through detailed product information and open communication about sourcing practices. Their Australian-made products offer peace of mind through traceability that imported alternatives simply cannot match. The revolution in canine nutrition being led by Australian-made pet food represents a significant advancement in how we care for our dogs. By choosing locally-sourced options like those offered by Pet Food Australia, pet owners can provide their companions with nutritionally superior food while supporting environmental sustainability and local economies. The Australian advantage in pet food is clear—fresher ingredients, unique nutritional profiles, stringent quality control, and formulations tailored to local conditions combine to create products that truly prioritise canine health and wellbeing. As more pet owners recognise these benefits, the trend toward locally-sourced nutrition will continue to grow, driving further innovation and quality improvements across the industry. For dogs across Australia, this revolution promises a healthier, happier future, one nutritious bowl at a time. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/locally-sourced-pet-food/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/locally-sourced-pet-food/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [The Best Parenting Apps Every Single Mum Needs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-parenting-apps-every-single-mum-needs/) **Published:** May 21, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** I remember the first time I tried a few parenting apps. I was pregnant, overwhelmed, and unsure of what information to trust. The app ([What To Expect](https://www.whattoexpect.com/mobile-app/)) promised to guide me week by week through my pregnancy and later, through the early months of motherhood. It felt like having a digital mentor in my pocket. Months later, I had 12 different apps; each tracking a different aspect of my baby’s life. My phone became a command centre, and I was the operator of a tiny human’s data stream. I’m not alone in this, as parenting apps are having a serious moment when it comes to popularity. Huckleberry, a popular baby tracker app designed to help parents manage their child’s activities, sleep, and feeding, is [used by over 4 million parents, according to Google Play](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.huckleberry_labs.app). And this is just one of the many tools out there. Feeding, sleeping, growth, and health are all now trackable and analyzable. But as we embrace this tech boom, not everyone is convinced that this wave of innovation is purely beneficial. The question lingers: Are these tools helping us become better mothers, or just adding noise to the already loud journey of early parenthood? From smart monitors to sleep analysers, the promise is simple: tech that makes parenting easier. But as we embrace these tools, it’s worth exploring where they shine and where they might be worth a second thought. So let’s dive into the apps parents are turning to, the devices that are emerging, and my thoughts on what’s helping, and what might be making it harder. ## **Top Mum Apps That Promise to Aid Parenting** ## **Huckleberry** ![Huckleberry | parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Huckleberry_parenting_app-1-1200x791.jpg "Huckleberry_parenting_app 1 - Beanstalk Mums") A favourite among sleep-deprived parents, Huckleberry bills itself as [your child’s sleep whisperer](https://huckleberrycare.com/). By tracking nap patterns and offering scientifically calculated “SweetSpot” alerts, the app claims to improve infant sleep schedules and parents. And it’s not wrong. I’ve seen magic happen when naps aligned with its predictions. But here’s the catch. It’s dangerously easy to become a slave to its data, judging by how much I began to rely on it. I felt a bit off-track if we missed the nap window by ten minutes. I also once delayed a nap just to make sure it landed within the app’s advised window. That day, my daughter screamed through the entire sweet spot. ## **Nanit** ![Nanit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Nanit_app_for_parents-1131x800.jpg "Nanit_app_for_parents - Beanstalk Mums") Nanit is [one of the most feature-packed baby monitors ](http://nanit.com/)on the market. Think live video streaming, two-way audio, sleep summaries, and even breathing motion detection via a wearable band. This tech offers peace of mind for many parents and can be especially helpful for those returning to work or managing parenting from different locations. But while there is comfort in seeing everything in real time, there’s also the trap of over-monitoring. Sometimes I’d wake up not because my baby cried, but because Nanit alerted me to a harmless stretch or snore. ## **Baby Daybook** Baby Daybook is like your second brain, except it doesn’t forget. As a digital log for every diaper, feeding, pump session, and milestone, it is a great option for parents juggling multiple caregivers or trying to detect patterns during fussy spells. While using the app, I sometimes felt overwhelmed by how much data I was recording. But in those foggy, sleep-deprived days, it helped me feel a step ahead. And with time, I learned to use it as a loose guide rather than a strict manual. ## **Owlet Smart Sock** ![Owlet Smart Sock | Parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Owel_tracking_sock_for_infants-1200x559.jpg "Owel_tracking_sock_for_infants - Beanstalk Mums") The Owlet Smart Sock is wearable tech that monitors oxygen levels and heart rate while your baby sleeps. Its dashboard updates in real time, alerting you if something seems off. Many NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) parents find it indispensable. Even for parents of full-term, healthy babies, it can offer reassurance. For many, this app is a total blessing, but it can be the fast track to unnecessary anxiety or a false sense of security, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, which holds that there is no actual evidence the app prevents sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). One false low-oxygen alert and you’re wide awake, Googling symptoms in the dark. ## **Cry Translator** Yes, there is an app that claims to decode the reason behind your baby’s cries, whether he or she is hungry, sleepy, gassy, stressed, or just moody. I tried it partly out of curiosity and partly out of hope. And I’ll honestly say that it didn’t always hit the mark. It, however, did encourage me to pay closer attention to my baby’s cues. ## **Benefits of Parenting Tech** When used wisely, parenting tech tools offer real benefits: - **Peace of mind**: Video monitors and wearables can reduce the anxiety of first-time parenthood, especially for those with premature or [medically fragile babies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-treat-an-asthma-attack-at-home-the-ultimate-guide/). - **Convenience**: Parenting involves juggling an endless list of tasks. But daily routines can be simplified with feeding trackers and diaper logs. - **Support**: For single parents or those without a strong community or extended family support, parenting apps offer some guidance, as they offer structure, routines, and reminders that can come from a support network. - **Neurodiverse support**: Tools like visual schedules and speech development apps can also be really helpful to neurodiverse families, as well as apps that support tailored routines and care strategies. Apps like Speech Blubs and Autism Tracker Pro are some popular options. - **Medical support**: In cases where monitoring is medically advised, such as for babies with sleep apnea, reflux, or other conditions, parenting tech can be a lifesaver. Smart socks, cameras, and connected thermometers, for instance, can aid early detection of potential issues when paired with professional guidance. This way, parents can act swiftly if anything goes off. - **For routine building**: One of the underrated gifts of parenting tech is how it turns fog into clarity. In times when the days blur together, tracking tools can help make sense of emerging rhythms from feeding patterns to sleep windows. Parenting involves juggling an endless list of tasks. But daily routines can be simplified with feeding trackers and diaper logs. That sense of control, even if partial, can be a lifeline on chaotic days. I’ve caught myself leaning into that feeling across apps that have nothing to do with parenting, whether it’s organising grocery lists or checking in on distraction-friendly platforms during nursing breaks. [Royal Reels](https://royalreels.online/), for example, ended up in my scroll queue one afternoon and, before I knew it, became part of that rotation of digital habits that feel harmless but quietly habitual. The appeal isn’t necessarily the content itself, but the rhythm these tools provide. ## **The Problem with App-ified Parenting** - **Quantified parenting**: Quantified parenting is the growing urge to measure and optimise every part of a child’s life. When parenting is reduced to data points (hours of sleep, ounces consumed, dirty diapers), it can suck the humanity out of the entire experience. We become managers of a project, not the nurturers we are called to be as parents. - **Burnout and guilt**: Ironically, the same apps meant to ease the load can increase pressure. That creeping sense that you’re not doing enough when you skip logging a feed or miss a nap notification is real. I’ve talked to parents who deleted their apps just to breathe easier. And I understand why. - **Data privacy**: The issue of what happens to all that baby data is something to keep in mind as we invite these devices into our most intimate spaces. A [report by Mozilla raised concerns](https://foundation.mozilla.org/en/privacynotincluded/the-bump-pregnancy-tracker-baby-app/) over how some pregnancy and baby apps handle sensitive information. - **Algorithmic parenting**: Advice tailored by data may be impersonal, outdated, or even incompatible with your child’s temperament. By relying wholly on these apps, one might risk replacing real-world wisdom with templated suggestions. ## **My Takeaway – Download Less, Connect More** I’m not here to vilify parenting apps. Some of them genuinely saved my sanity during early motherhood. I still use a few, especially Baby Daybook, when my mother-in-law babysits. But I also know how easy it is to let these tools take over. So I set boundaries. Here’s my current rule of thumb: if an app is adding peace, I keep it. If it’s feeding my anxiety, I pause. Because no notification should trump a mother’s intuition. When I really think about it, the best insights I’ve received came from seasoned moms, not smart devices. And my best parenting decisions still come from watching and listening to my baby, not a screen. So yes, download that sleep tracker if it helps. Use that feeding log if it keeps you on track. But also put the phone down and let the moment be messy and magical. Your baby needs a parent, not a perfect log. And at the end of the day, no app can replace what a connected, present parent brings to the table. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-parenting-apps-every-single-mum-needs/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/the-best-parenting-apps-every-single-mum-needs/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [How to break through the fear and date again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/date-again/) **Published:** May 27, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are too scared to put yourself out there and date again, then you’re missing out on endless opportunities for connection, companionship and/or love. And that is no good because we all deserve a shot at meaningful relationships, which make us feel good about ourselves. As someone who was terrified of dating for six long years, I hate to see other people suffer the way I did. I only wish I had taken action sooner to break through the fear and date again. Here, I will share how I overcame my trepidation about dating so I could meet potential partners confidentially with a clear, healthy mindset. Remember, no one should let fear dictate any area of their life, and finding love is no exception. ## **How to break through the fear and date again** ### **Know Yourself** One of the most challenging yet helpful things I did before I declared myself “ready to date again” was to audit myself. I sat down and started asking critical questions. Do I really want to date again? (The answer is yes.) What do I want and not want – a.k.a. the green and red flags – in a potential partner? In what aspects am I willing to compromise? Moreover, what’s holding me back? Knowing yourself – your fears, motivations, and standards – will give you a clearer picture of what you can expect from a potential relationship. It’s hard, especially once you get confronted by your own red flags. But knowing yourself is the first step to breaking through the fear before trying to date again. ### **Trust Yourself before you date again** I’ll be the first to admit that trusting your own judgment again is hard. After all, my own judgment brought me into a bad situation. How can I trust myself again? But we have learned. We are stronger. We are smarter. We have survived heartbreak, and we know much better now. Many times, our biggest obstacle is our own self-doubt. > *Do I deserve to be happy? (Yes!)* > > *Will someone like me? (Yes!)* > > *What if I make a huge mistake again? (You might but that’s ok so long as you learn from it.)* ### **Be Honest with Potential Partners** With dating, whether offline or online, it’s easy for someone to want to present the most likable version of themselves. It is even tempting to change who you are to get that right swipe. Don’t do it. Be honest about who you are. That’s how you look, your past, your aspirations and your current situation. Just be you! If you are attempting to be someone else, then you’re still having [dating anxiety](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/dating-anxiety) – or Fear Of Dating Again (F.O.D.A.). More importantly, be honest about how you feel. Feeling like asking for a second date? Go say it. Not committing to something serious just yet? Tell them. If you’re unsure how to prepare for those early encounters, here are some helpful [first date tips](https://www.be-salt.com/blog/first-date/ "first date tips") to boost your confidence and set the right tone for the experience. ![date again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-9143900-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-pavel-danilyuk-9143900 - Beanstalk Mums") We know that lying is wrong and a heavy burden, having to keep tabs on the lies. Telling the truth is always the easier route. In addition, humans are not perfect. A real person will not expect you to be perfect. So, just be honest about who you are and what you want. A person who loves you will accept you, flaws and all. You’re imperfect, so what? That doesn’t make you unworthy of happiness. Accepting who you are and trusting that your flaws do not make you less deserving of love can help you break through the fear and date again. ## **How to break through the fear and date again (cont.)** ### **Only date People You Really Connect With** Many of us fear dating nowadays, and a huge reason for that is the fear of being used, lied to, and taken advantage of. This is especially true given our increasing use of online platforms and dating apps to meet potential partners. It’s normal to fear. Not just that: it’s helpful to feel fear. After all, the ability to feel fear is a crucial factor in the evolution and survival of humans. So, you must be careful with meeting people you don’t know. You shouldn’t be forcing connections with people who feel a bit off just for the sake of “trying to make it work.” Listen to your instincts … always. ***Further reading: [10 Green flags that you’re actually in a good relationship.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/green-flags-good-relationship/)*** ### **Embrace the Probability of an Imminent Heartbreak** Okay, so I hope *The Hunger Games* doesn’t sue me for borrowing this line. Well, you might think this is counterproductive, and I get it. Who in their right mind would want to think that her special relationship could end? But hear me out. Remember John Legend’s song about loving a person like you’re going to lose them? This is what I mean precisely: Hold them like you’re saying goodbye. However, take note that embracing this possibility does not mean you hold back your feelings and deny investing love in your person. On the contrary, thinking about “the end” could be helpful in that you don’t take for granted the things you do for and with each other. You appreciate the presence of the other person more. You become present in the moment. Sometimes, because we don’t anticipate what will happen tomorrow, we don’t show the people we love how much we really love them. We would like to think there’s always another day when, in reality, we only have today. So, when that unexpected day comes, it comes as a shock. Now, if by chance, you end up together forever, well, wouldn’t that be nice? ### **Remember: if you’re not ready to date again, you don’t have to.** Alas, the truth is nobody can force you to date again if you’re not emotionally and/or physically ready. Healing from heartbreak or a traumatic relationship takes time; sometimes, time’s perfect companion is not a new person but yourself. During the six years it took me to break through the fear and date again, I did try dating. But being unprepared just caused more trouble for me and the people I went out with. All the while, I feared that I would get hurt again, so I couldn’t give them my complete trust. At most, I was half-hearted, and I eventually realised I was being unfair. It took me six long years to finally get myself out of the rut and start dating again. Do I wish moving on took less time? Definitely. But I also believe I needed those six years to pick myself up, regain the confidence I had lost, and learn to trust people again. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/date-again/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/date-again/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships, Online Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, relationship, meeting people --- ### [Fun Pranks for April Fools Day Your Kids Will Love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-pranks-for-april-fools-day/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** “It’s a praaaaank!” is one of those phrases I love hearing in YouTube videos but absolutely dread in real life. Unfortunately for me, the kids (and plenty of adults) in my life think pranks are hilarious. This year, I’ve decided it’s time to return the favour with some harmless and fun pranks for April Fools Day that’ll keep the laughs rolling (without causing any tears… hopefully). ## Fun Pranks for April Fools Day ## 1. Fish in the Ice Cream Tub First up is something that’s a common thing done all around the Philippines that’s gone viral online last year. Carefully hide fake or real fish inside an ice cream tub. The look of betrayal when they go in for a scoop will be priceless! ## 2. Chocolate Broccoli Dip pieces of broccoli in melted confectionery, let them set, and then offer them as a “special treat.” A health-conscious gag that’s still delicious (sort of). ## 3. Toothpaste Oreos Switch the creamy filling in an Oreo with white toothpaste. A classic joke that never gets old! ![pranks for april fools day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-34.png "In article image 34 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Carrot Lollie Cut a big carrot in the shape of lollipop or a popsicle and stick onto a popsicle stick. Bonus points if you can cover it with icing! ## 5. The Unpeelable Banana Peel a banana, remove the fruit, and replace it with a hotdog. Seal it back up and hand it over for a “healthy snack.” ## Best Pranks for April Fools Day (cont.) ## 6. Sewing Kit Cookie Tin Replace biscuits with a sewing kit in an old biscuit tin. A true parenting favourite! ## 7. Tin Foil Cover everything on your kid’s desk or school bag with foil: pens, notebooks, even their chair. The shiny makeover they never asked for! ## 8. Fake Cracked Screen Pic Set your teen’s phone’s wallpaper to a cracked screen pic. Watch them panic before realising it’s just an image! ## 9. Rubber Band Remote Control Put an elastic tightly around the TV remote to block the buttons. Let them struggle before revealing the prank! ## 10. The Mystery Alarm Clock Set a hidden [alarm clock](https://ph.banggood.com/LCD-Smart-Digital-Alarm-Clock-with-Large-Display-Thermometer-Hygrometer-Anti-Slip-Bottom-with-Night-Light-Battery-Operated-Safe-Rounded-Corners-Design-for-Home-Office-Bedroom-p-2003775.html?cur_warehouse=CN&rmmds=search) to go off at 3 a.m. in another room. See how long it takes for them to find and stop it! ## Harmless Pranks for April Fools Day (cont.) ## 11. Soap That Won’t Lather A layer of clear nail polish on a bar of soap makes washing hands quite the challenge. See how long it takes for them to figure it out! ## 12. Blue Faucet Water Drop some edible blue food colouring inside the faucet aerator. When they turn on the tap, your kiddo will think something’s wrong with the water! ## 13. Switch the Sink and Shower Attach an elastic band around the sprayer’s handle so it stays pressed down. When someone turns on the water, your child will get an unexpected burst. ![pranks for april fools' day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-32.png "In article image 32 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 14. Bubbly Toilet Seat Glue thick strips of bubble wrap onto the toilet seat for a little bit of discomfort. ## 15. The Messy Bathmat Sprinkle a bit of cornstarch (mixed with edible food colour) under the bathmat or rug. When someone steps out of the bath, their feet will be covered! ## Fun and Easy Pranks for April Fools Day (cont.) ## 16. The Pillowcase Jam Put some scrunched-up newspaper inside someone’s pillowcase before bed. When they try to lie down, it’ll be quite a surprise. ## 17. Soggy Sock Surprise Lightly dampen a pair of underwear or socks, then neatly fold them back into the drawer. Watch their frustration as they fail to get ready for school. ![pranks for april fool's](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-30.png "In article image 30 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 18. Hidden Blow Horn Tape a blow horn under a chair. When they sit, the entire house will hear it. ## 19. Googly Eyes Everywhere Stick googly eyes on everything in the fridge—milk cartons, apples, even eggs. Now their lifestyle involves being watched. ## 20. The Toilet Paper Message Unroll the toilet paper, write “IT’S A PRANK!” on the inside, and roll it back up. Your kid will find it soon enough. ## Best Pranks for April Fools Day (cont.) ## 21. Frozen Bowl of Cereal Pour a bowl of cereal with milk and freeze it overnight. Serve it up in the morning and watch them struggle to dig in. ## 22. Jelly Juice Cup Pour juice into a cup or a glass, mix in some gelatine, and let it set in the fridge. Your child will find out soon enough why their drink won’t be able to be sipped! ## 23. Mini Candy Swap Unwrap a mini candy or brownie, [replace it with something healthy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/21-easter-gifts-for-kids/), and carefully re-wrap it. The disappointment will be real. ![april fools day pranks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-31.png "In article image 31 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 24. Easter Egg Rocks Sneak in small rocks inside Easter egg wrappers and leave them out for an unsuspecting sweet tooth. ## 25. Whipped Cream Deodorant Swap out someone’s deodorant stick with whipped cream. A messy, refreshing start to the day. ## Easy Pranks for April Fools (cont.) ## 26. The Melted Chocolate Gag Smear melted confectionery on a tissue and pretend to wipe your hands on someone’s sleeve. The reaction is always golden. ## 27. Draw on Their Face This one never goes out of style. Draw funny patterns on their face with washable markers while they’re still sleeping. Use permanent markers if you’re feeling extra devilish! The thought of waking them up and getting caught before finishing the job makes the prank more exciting. ![pranks for april fool's day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-33.png "In article image 33 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 28. The Fake Outlet Trick Print out a picture of a power outlet, tape it to the wall, and watch your kids’ friends try to plug something in. Confusion at its finest. ## 29. The Whoopee Cushion Pillow Surprise Place a whoopee cushion under a couch pillow and wait for someone to sit. You’ll never hear the end of it … literally. No whoopee cushion available? How about balloons? ## 30. The Classic Prank Call Call your kid and pretend to be from a delivery service, saying their order of $3671 is coming. Enjoy as you watch them panic! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-pranks-for-april-fools-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/fun-pranks-for-april-fools-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Easter --- ### [Top 8 Reasons to Work With an Immigration Lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-8-reasons-to-work-with-an-immigration-lawyer/) **Published:** May 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Figuring out the many complex immigration laws can seem intimidating to many individuals. Navigating the complicated web of paperwork, interpreting the frequently changing regulations, and resolving possible language barriers can be daunting. This is why working with an immigration lawyer can make a huge difference and help you handle the process better. Here are eight reasons you should consider hiring an immigration lawyer. ## **Top 8 Reasons to Work With an Immigration Lawyer** ## **1. Immigration Knowledge and Experience** Immigration attorneys have extensive experience in this field. They have the knowledge required to make successful applications. They keep themselves abreast of changing regulations and policies. An [immigration lawyer in Melbourne](https://www.australianmigrationlawyers.com.au/melbourne) knows the common pitfalls and understands how to tailor a strategy for each individual. This practical skillset ensures the relevant legal requirements are adequately satisfied and the chance of errors or missed regulations is minimised. ## **2. Personalised Guidance** No immigration case is precisely the same as another; there are always different angles to approach each case and different hurdles to overcome. Immigration lawyers give one-on-one attention and know what you want and what your goals regarding immigration are. This also means filing applications and petitions so they present the best-case scenario. Individuals know they are being supported and guided through the process from beginning to end. ## **3. Quick and Smooth Paperwork** This process requires [extensive documentation](https://expatnetwork.com/moving-to-australia-checklist-tips-for-a-stress-free-move/). The immigration form filing process is extraordinarily detail-oriented. Getting one thing wrong could mean a new timeline or a non-start. Immigration lawyers handle paperwork professionally and can appropriately fill out and maintain the documents. They have vast experience in this field, so they handle all the documentation processes for you, which saves you time and hassle. Furthermore, it reduces the possibility of mistakes and enables you to go through the process without stress. ## **4. Better Chances of Approval** A good immigration lawyer can make all the difference when hoping to get a specific application approved. They know the ins and outs of the legal system and can present your case in the best way possible. These professionals also anticipate problems and solve them in advance, thus increasing the likelihood of positive results. ## **5. Access to Resources and Networks** Immigration attorneys typically have access to an extensive network of professionals and resources. That network can include translators, financial advisors, and additional legal experts. These connections offer a complete support structure so every facet of the immigration process is addressed. The availability of such resources can be a game-changer for successful immigration. ![immigration lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8731037-1198x800.jpg "Pexels-mikhail-nilov-8731037 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **6. Answering the Hard Questions** Some immigration cases are complex. In certain cases, matters such as a previous denial, a [criminal record](https://www.qld.gov.au/law/crime-and-police/criminal-records-and-history-checks/criminal-records), and complex family dynamics are not as simple. An attorney handling such cases can manoeuvre these complexities subtly, providing solutions that will be much less apparent to the inexperienced. Since they work with some of the most complicated cases, you can be reasonably sure your case will get the attention it deserves, even if you have a challenging case. ## **7. Preparation for Interviews and Hearings** Immigration interviews or hearings can be intimidating. An immigration attorney prepares clients for these significant steps and guides them on what to expect and how to behave. Being prepared can help reduce anxiety and translate into confidence. It enables you to prepare to handle the pressures of this process and understand what it entails. Preparation can play a significant role in determining the fate of an immigration application. ## **8. Advocacy and Representation** Knowing that you have an advocate on your side can be comforting. Immigration lawyers support their clients while confidently handling the procedure. Advocating on behalf of clients ensures that their rights are protected and their voices are heard in legal proceedings. Effective legal representation can potentially change the outcome of an immigration case. ## **Conclusion** The immigration journey begins with proper planning and informed decision-making. Working with an immigration attorney is highly beneficial and increases the chance of success. This becomes easier with in-depth personal guidance and advocacy from your legal expert. With [professional legal help](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/ "professional legal help"), people find that their experience with immigration law improves. Legal representation helps them achieve favourable results in most cases. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-8-reasons-to-work-with-an-immigration-lawyer/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/top-8-reasons-to-work-with-an-immigration-lawyer/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Travel --- ### [Easy winter desserts to keep out the cold](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/easy-winter-desserts/) **Published:** March 28, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** One of the best parts of winter is tucking into a warm dessert. In fact, many families who don’t usually “do dessert” will make an exception on a cold winter’s evening. We’ve been researching (while drooling) to find the best easy winter desserts to keep out the cold. All recipes are easy to make and equally delicious to eat. Don’t have a sweet tooth? Check out these recipes instead: [15 Foods to keep you warm this winter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-foods-to-keep-you-warm-this-winter/). ## **Easy winter desserts that keep out the cold** ## [**Lemon and Condensed Milk Dump Cake**](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/lemon-condensed-milk-dump-cake-recipe/qqqy38e1?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) We love easy winter desserts that you can make in one pan, like this lemon and condensed milk dump cake. Buy ready-made lemon curd, mix in the other ingredients and pop in the oven for 35-40 minutes. [![Lemon and Condensed Milk Dump Cake | easy winter desserts](https://img.taste.com.au/MqO8p57K/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2021/04/lemon_dump-cakes-170841-1.jpg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/lemon-condensed-milk-dump-cake-recipe/qqqy38e1?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) Get recipe here: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/lemon-condensed-milk-dump-cake-recipe/qqqy38e1?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) ## **[Chocolate Mug Muffin](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/DyezY5 "Chocolate Mug Muffin")** This microwave mug recipe is both wholesome and decadent! Toss a ripe banana, hearty oats, rich cocoa, an egg, a splash of vanilla, and sweet dates into a trusty 300ml mug. Mix well, then press a chunk of chocolate right in the center for a delightful surprise. After a speedy cleanup of the mug’s rim, pop it in the microwave on high for 2 minutes. Watch it transform into a soft, muffin-like marvel that edges from the mug. Enjoy it warm, topped with creamy yoghurt and fresh strawberries. [![Chocolate mug muffin](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Av0shpf7veeynfwsxc9n.jpg "Av0shpf7veeynfwsxc9n - Beanstalk Mums")](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/DyezY5) Get recipe here: [WeightWatchers](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/DyezY5) ## [**Golden Syrup Dumplings**](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/golden-syrup-dumplings-recipe/q7i8olkk?r=baking/0gdpxnhf&h=baking) Easy winter desserts like these golden syrup dumplings come together in just 30 minutes. And everything you need can be found in the pantry…perfect for when you and the kids are craving something warm and comforting. [![Easy Winter Desserts | Golden Syrup Dumplings](https://img.bestrecipes.com.au/IzaNfEAu/w643-h428-cfill-q90/br/2018/07/golden-syrup-dumplings-recipe-523350-1.jpg)](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/golden-syrup-dumplings-recipe/q7i8olkk?r=baking/0gdpxnhf&h=baking) Get recipe here: [Best Recipes](https://www.bestrecipes.com.au/recipes/golden-syrup-dumplings-recipe/q7i8olkk?r=baking/0gdpxnhf&h=baking) ## **[Sarah’s Chocolate Nutella-filled Muffins](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/55ZP2b)** WeightWatchers ambassador Sarah curated this famous recipe. It is a mini treat bursting with flavour! Preheat your oven to 180°C and line 15 of your mini muffin tin with paper cases. Top tip: Bake for 15 minutes until golden, springy, and irresistible. Enjoy these delectable, bite-sized delights anytime! [![Sarah's chocolate Nutella-filled muffins](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Mvmozuwdbpgkjndvc9o9.png "Mvmozuwdbpgkjndvc9o9 - Beanstalk Mums")](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/55ZP2b) Get recipe here: [WeightWatchers](http://weightwatchersaunz.pxf.io/55ZP2b "WeightWatchers") ## **Easy Winter Desserts (cont.)** ## [**Apple and Berry Crumble**](https://www.woolworths.com.au/shop/recipes/apple-and-berry-crumble) Nothing says easy winter desserts like the apple and berry crumble. It’s packed with antioxidant-rich berries, apples and high-fibre oats. Top with your fave ice cream (or skip if you’re on a diet). Great for breakfast or snacks. [![Apple Berry Crumble | Easy Winter desserts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/1708-apple-and-berry-crumbledesktop-1300x658-1.webp "1708-apple-and-berry-crumbledesktop-1300x658 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.woolworths.com.au/shop/recipes/apple-and-berry-crumble) Get recipe here: [Woolworths](https://www.woolworths.com.au/shop/recipes/apple-and-berry-crumble) ## [**Quick Rice Puddings**](https://www.coles.com.au/inspire-and-create/recipes-tips-ideas/recipes/quick-rice-puddings) Craving something sweet and filling on a cold day? Try this yummy rice pudding that is ready in five minutes. The recipe uses microwavable white rice, but you can use any type of rice. Top with cream, jam and pistachios. [![Quick rice puddings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/July20_quick-rice-puddings-976x549-1.jpg "July20_quick-rice-puddings-976x549 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.coles.com.au/inspire-and-create/recipes-tips-ideas/recipes/quick-rice-puddings) Get recipe here: [Coles](https://www.coles.com.au/inspire-and-create/recipes-tips-ideas/recipes/quick-rice-puddings) ## [**Carrot Walnut Pudding**](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/carrot-walnut-puddings/40cac791-30c6-4ef4-a4c3-e343da0d4e7e?current_section=recipes&r=recipes/collections/wiqkm0b1) Winter veggies like carrots make a delicious pudding for dessert. This easy steamed recipe gets extra flavour from toasted walnuts and lemon mascarpone. Prep time is 15 minutes, and actual cook time is just 35 minutes. [![Carrot and Walnut Pudding | Easy winter desserts](https://img.delicious.com.au/EvbuEnUc/w759-h506-cfill/del/2015/10/carrot-and-walnut-puddings-21961-1.jpg)](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/carrot-walnut-puddings/40cac791-30c6-4ef4-a4c3-e343da0d4e7e?current_section=recipes&r=recipes/collections/wiqkm0b1) Get recipe here: [Delicious](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/carrot-walnut-puddings/40cac791-30c6-4ef4-a4c3-e343da0d4e7e?current_section=recipes&r=recipes/collections/wiqkm0b1) ## [**Caramel Apple Pudding**](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/caramel-apple-pudding/7212b714-5239-4780-8766-e9aa35fa0b93?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) Looking to make easy winter desserts from seasonal produce? Try this caramel apple pudding made from golden delicious or Granny Smith apples. It’s easier than apple pie but just as tasty. Simply throw everything in a pan and bake. [![Caramel Apple Pudding](https://img.taste.com.au/8tEt_teG/w643-h428-cfill-q90/taste/2016/11/caramel-apple-pudding-8139-1.jpeg)](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/caramel-apple-pudding/7212b714-5239-4780-8766-e9aa35fa0b93?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) Get recipe here: [Taste](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/caramel-apple-pudding/7212b714-5239-4780-8766-e9aa35fa0b93?r=recipes/winterdessertrecipes&c=effe3954-4fd1-43e1-a90e-afa92fcbe828/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) ## **Easy Winter Desserts (cont.)** ## [**Chocolate Fudge Pudding**](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/individual-chocolate-fudge-puddings-recipe/ncjf7kqm?r=collection/winterdessertrecipes&c=q9cy8mgz/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) Satisfy your family’s chocolate cravings this winter with a delicious chocolate fudge pudding. You’ll need cake crumbs, cooking chocolate, condensed milk, eggs and a dash of marsala. Serve with heavy cream or your favourite ice cream. [![Easy Winter Desserts | Chocolate Fudge Pudding](https://img.kidspot.com.au/O_-U2f6_/w643-h428-cfill-q90/kk/2017/06/choc-fudge-puddings-w1205090806-3189042-503092-1.jpg)](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/individual-chocolate-fudge-puddings-recipe/ncjf7kqm?r=collection/winterdessertrecipes&c=q9cy8mgz/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) Get recipe here: [Kid Spot](https://www.kidspot.com.au/kitchen/recipes/individual-chocolate-fudge-puddings-recipe/ncjf7kqm?r=collection/winterdessertrecipes&c=q9cy8mgz/Winter%20dessert%20recipes) ## [**Slow Cooker Bread and Butter Pudding**](http://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/slow-cooker-bread-and-butter-pudding/) If you have a bit of time and don’t mind waiting, try this cheap and easy winter dessert. Place all the ingredients in a slow cooker, cook for 3-4 hours and serve with cream or ice cream. It costs around $5 for six servings. [![Slow Cooker Bread and Butter Pudding](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Featy.jpg "Featy - Beanstalk Mums")](http://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/slow-cooker-bread-and-butter-pudding/) Get recipe here: [Stay at Home Mum](https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/recipes/slow-cooker-bread-and-butter-pudding/) ## [**Jamie Oliver’s Doughnuts in Anise Caramel**](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/doughnuts-anise-caramel-bunuelos/ed85c6e8-e75f-443f-99a5-44d07d547f64) If you’re looking for easy winter desserts that are fancier than your usual comfort food, try Jamie Oliver’s doughnuts in anise caramel (bunuelos). It takes over an hour to prep and make, but trust us, it’s well worth it. [![Doughnuts in Anise Caramel | Easy Winter Desserts](https://img.delicious.com.au/EzJPtxsS/w759-h506-cfill/del/2015/10/doughnuts-in-anise-caramel-bunuelos-20799-2.jpg)](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/doughnuts-anise-caramel-bunuelos/ed85c6e8-e75f-443f-99a5-44d07d547f64) Get recipe here: [Delicious](https://www.delicious.com.au/recipes/doughnuts-anise-caramel-bunuelos/ed85c6e8-e75f-443f-99a5-44d07d547f64) ## [**Self-saucing Sticky Toffee Chocolate Pudding**](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/self-saucing-sticky-toffee-chocolate-pudding) Sticky toffee pudding is the ultimate comfort dessert on a cold winter’s day. The sponge pudding contains medjool dates and heaps of dark chocolate chunks and chocolate sauce to please the entire family. Serves 8 to 10. [![Sticky Toffee Chocolate Pudding](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Molten_chocolate_sticky_toffee_pudding-694940c.jpg "Molten_chocolate_sticky_toffee_pudding-694940c - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/self-saucing-sticky-toffee-chocolate-pudding) Get recipe here: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/self-saucing-sticky-toffee-chocolate-pudding) ## **Final Thoughts: Easy Winter Desserts** Winter might be chilly, but your kitchen (and your heart) will be warm with these easy, cosy desserts! Whether you’re whipping up a quick mug cake after the kids are in bed, indulging in a rich self-saucing pudding, or bribing little hands to help with a batch of choc-chip cookies, these sweet treats make the cold months feel just a little bit sweeter. As single mums, we know that time is precious, and energy is limited—so these fuss-free recipes are perfect for keeping everyone happy without spending hours in the kitchen. Plus, nothing beats the joy of snuggling on the couch with a warm dessert and a cuppa while the rain taps against the window. So go on, embrace the winter vibes, treat yourself (because you deserve it!), and enjoy every spoonful. After all, dessert is one of life’s simple pleasures—why not make the most of it? Stay warm and keep baking! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Winter-desserts-1.png "Winter desserts 1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/easy-winter-desserts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/winter/easy-winter-desserts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Winter, Food **Tags:** pudding, dessert, sweets, comfort food --- ### [Asking for help as a single mum: Why, how and where.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/) **Published:** March 28, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Being a single mum is a fiercely independent role. Many of us have lost trust in others and genuinely feel it’s easier to do everything ourselves. However, showing vulnerability and asking for help as a single mum is an act of strength. And let’s face it, we can’t learn everything from YouTube. Having been a single mum for ten years (many of which I was defiant in my ‘I don’t need help’ attitude), I eventually learned to ask for help. And it changed my life. From leaning on friends for emotional support to exploring practical solutions, I realised that seeking assistance not only lightens the load but also builds a stronger, more resilient foundation for you and your children. I vividly recall the days when I thought I had to do it all alone. The exhaustion, the stress, and the emotional toll were all too familiar. But then, something shifted within me. I realised that by opening up to my friends, family, and community, I was inviting a network of love and support I hadn’t fully tapped into before. It changed everything. In this article, I will talk you through: - Why it’s so important to let other people into your world to help you - How to ask for help, even when it feels impossible - When to know the time is right to reach out for support ## Why it’s important to ask for help as a single mum ### Reduce your stress levels There is no doubt that the role of a single mother is challenging. Balancing parenting, work, and personal well-being is no mean feat. Getting support in any area of your life, from support with childcare to a mate lending a sympathetic ear over a cuppa, will help [lower stress levels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/). It even helps getting a [single parent health insurance](https://healthdeal.com.au/single-parents-health-insurance/ "single parent health insurance"), for peace of mind, so you know your kid is secured no matter what life might throw at you. ### Excellent role modelling for your children We all want our kids to look up to us and see how damn capable we are, but this doesn’t mean you have to do everything yourself. It’s good for your little ones to see mum reaching for help and delegating tasks to make their worlds more ordered and peaceful. Do you want to teach your children that we have to do everything on our own, or would you prefer them to see how to build support systems to keep them safe and happy? ### Create a support system We all need a sound support system. This usually consists of mates, family, and professional services. We fall back on this system in times of need. It is a safety net. But you can’t create a support system if you never seek help. Think of it this way: Each time you reach for help or give support to others, you build another section of your support system, making it more robust and reliable. ![asking for help as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-9-1.png "In article image 9 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Skill and knowledge sharing I know what I’m good at and what I’m not. For example, it would take me several hours to assemble a piece of furniture (eleven hours in total for a desk, once – no joke), but I have a friend who could do the same in one hour. I provide tea or wine and ooh and ahh at his skills, and everyone’s happy. Offer your skillset in return should your support be needed. ### Prevent loneliness and isolation Doing everything yourself feels safer and easier, but it gets lonely over time. Getting support from others, whether a tradie to mow the lawn or another mum to drop the kids off after school, means human interaction. Human interaction provides a sense of connection and belonging, releasing neurotransmitters like oxytocin that promote happiness and emotional well-being. ***Further reading: [How can I be so busy but still feel so lonely.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/busy-but-lonely/)*** ### Know you are cared for However adverse you might feel to receiving help from others, it just makes you feel good. Calling on a friend for a lift to the mechanic to collect your car after a service or asking your handy plumber friend to check a dripping tap makes you feel like someone has your back. Knowing you are cared for can evoke a deep sense of comfort, validation, and emotional security. This fosters a positive outlook and a greater sense of belonging in your relationships and the world around you. ### Easier time management And then there’s the time aspect … Asking another mum to take your children to netball so you can do a couple of extra work hours is acceptable and will free up valuable time. We all wish we had more hours in the day. Asking for help as a single mum is a surefire way to get them. ***Further reading: [Brilliant time management tips for busy single mums.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-time-management-tips-for-busy-single-mums/)*** ## Asking for help as a single mum: How to do it So, how do you muster the courage to ask for help? First and foremost, remember that you are not alone. Reach out to those you trust, whether it’s a close friend, family member, or even a [support group for single parents](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). Explain your situation honestly without downplaying the challenges you’re facing. Never forget that vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s an act of courage that invites genuine connections. Be clear about what kind of help you need, whether babysitting for a few hours, having a hand with household chores, or having someone to talk to when things get tough. Articulating your needs helps others understand how they can best support you. While asking for support, always offer a helping hand in return. This has three benefits: - It makes it easier to ask for help if you have something to offer in return. For example, ask another mum to look after your children after school when you have a late work meeting. Then, provide the same in return if the need arises for her. - It feels good to be able to support the people who are helping you. This is the creation of the aforementioned support system. - Giving support to others makes you feel useful, valuable and empowered ## Asking for Help as a Single Mum: Where to Find Support So, you’ve finally decided that asking for help as a single mum is OK. Great! Now, where to get that much-needed and well-deserved support? I started with friends and family. Even with most of my family on the other side of the world, I got moral support and encouragement through a simple WhatsApp call. Since my friend circle had depleted considerably post-separation, I even joined a few [friend finder apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/) to find like-minded mums in my local area. Then, there are the other mums. I mean the ladies you meet at playgroup, kindy, and school. They seem to be coping, but you can bet they have struggles similar to yours. Strike up a chat, get to know a few, and build on that for a fledgling two-way support system. Remember, friendship alone is support … help with the practical stuff is a bonus. When asking for help as a single mum, think beyond the confines of your world. There is [government support for single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) and an array of [brilliant charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/charities-help-single-mothers/) offering everything from financial, practical, and emotional assistance. When you’re doing it all on your own, even the small stuff, like chasing refunds or fixing a bill, can feel like too much. That’s where [Ajust’s Busy Parents Customer Support](https://www.ajust.com.au/busy-parents-customer-support?utm_source=beanstalkmums) comes in. They help time-poor mums handle everyday customer service issues – like bill disputes, cancellations and refunds – without hours on hold or the usual runaround. It’s fast, stress-free, and actually works. Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of community resources. Local organisations, online forums, and parenting networks can offer valuable advice and connections that make a world of difference. ## My final thoughts: Asking for help as a single mum Asking for help as a single mother isn’t a sign of failure; it’s a sign of resilience and a commitment to creating the best life possible for your child. By reaching out, you’re setting a powerful example for your child – showing them that it’s okay to seek support and that together, we can navigate the challenges that life throws our way. So, don’t hold back. Identify where you need help, work out where and how to get it … and reach out. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care **Tags:** support, charity, charities, self-care, assistance, support system --- ### [Women's Health: Simple Shifts to Grow Fit and Strong](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/womens-health-simple-shifts-to-grow-fit-and-strong/) **Published:** May 10, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… **Women’s Health is Not a Luxury: A Mama’s Right to Thrive.** When we talk about women’s health, particularly for mums, it’s easy for it to fall to the bottom of the priority list. Between juggling the kids, work, a household, and everything in between, we often put ourselves last. But here’s the truth: our health and well-being matter, and they’re not a luxury. They’re a necessity. In this episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, we explore women’s health through the lens of motherhood with the warm and inspiring Ashley Sonnenberg from [*Mommy and Me Fitness*.](https://mommyandmefitness.net) Ashley shares honest, practical, and deeply empowering insights into how mums can reframe their thinking around health, moving away from guilt and perfectionism, and toward consistency, self-kindness, and confidence. ## Why Women’s Health Deserves the Front Seat Let’s be real—mums are the backbone of the home. But too often, they run on empty. Ashley, a former healthcare professional and now a dedicated fitness coach for mums, understands this all too well. After her own experiences as a new mum, she realised that many women feel like they have to choose between caring for their families and caring for themselves. Her message? We don’t have to choose. In fact, we *can’t afford* to. Women’s health is not just about workouts and nutrition—it’s about energy, sleep, stress, mental health, and the little things we do each day to stay grounded. Ashley reminds us that small shifts in mindset and daily habits can make a big difference, especially when life feels overwhelming. ## Real Women’s Health Isn’t About Perfection One of the key themes in this chat is letting go of the “all-or-nothing” mindset. So many of us believe we have to be doing it *all*—meal prepping, exercising daily, meditating, working, parenting—perfectly. But the truth is, perfectionism is exhausting, and it’s often a fast track to burnout. Ashley encourages mums to take a more realistic and forgiving approach. Start with small steps: five minutes of quiet with your coffee, a 20-minute walk, or a short home workout. These little wins add up—and more importantly, they’re sustainable. ## Community, Accountability, and Custom Support Another big takeaway? We don’t have to do it alone. Ashley’s virtual program brings mums together from across the globe, creating a sense of connection, encouragement, and accountability. Whether it’s through group chats, weekly calls, or check-ins via her app, this approach reminds us that support makes a world of difference. Her holistic program covers everything from mindset and nutrition to workouts and sleep routines, and every element is shaped around the reality of a mum’s life—time-poor, energy-stretched, and often feeling like there’s just not enough of us to go around. ## Redefining Self-Care as Essential Ashley challenges the idea that self-care is indulgent or selfish. In fact, it’s foundational. When we’re well, we show up better for our children, our work, and ourselves. And it doesn’t have to be grand or time-consuming. Sometimes, self-care is saying no. Sometimes it’s stretching while the pasta boils. And sometimes it’s reaching out to a community of mums who just *get it*. ## Real Mum, Real Results, Real Women’s Health Take Ashley’s client Wendy, for example. After years of yo-yo dieting and harsh inner talk, she shifted her mindset with Ashley’s support. She learned how to be consistent rather than perfect and now feels more confident and empowered in her clothes and in her life. This is the kind of transformation that comes from putting *well-being* first, not just weight loss or aesthetics. ## Want to Take a Peek Inside Ashley’s Approach? For our lovely email subscribers, Ashley has shared her *Organised Mama Meal Blueprint*—a beautifully simple guide to making healthy meals feel less overwhelming. If you missed it, not to worry. Sign up to our mailing list and you’ll find it waiting for you in the BSM Life Hacks Vault 💛 ## Final Thoughts on Women’s Health & Wellness This episode isn’t just about health tips—it’s a call to action for mums to take their wellbeing seriously and compassionately. It’s a reminder that small, kind changes are powerful and that you’re worthy of care, just as much as anyone else in your life. Women’s health matters. Your health matters. And Ashley’s work is a testament to what’s possible when we stop striving for perfection and start choosing progress instead. 💛 Tune in to the full episode wherever you get your podcasts, and let this be the gentle nudge you need to start prioritising YOU. --- ## Links for this episode: 🌸 **<https://mommyandmefitness.org/home>** — Start your Women’s Health journey with Ashley here. ✨ **<https://www.facebook.com/ashley.sonnenberg>** — Ashley’s dedicated FB page to all things fitness and wellness. 📘 **<https://www.subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts>** — Grab your ‘**Organized Mama Meal Blueprint**‘ and many other single mum resources right here! 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast - Women's Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/womens-health-simple-shifts-to-grow-fit-and-strong/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/womens-health-simple-shifts-to-grow-fit-and-strong/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast **Tags:** meal planning, fitness coach, health --- ### [The Lifeline for Tech-Savvy Parents: Must-Have Promotional Cables](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/must-have-promotional-cables/) **Published:** April 30, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** With the involvement of technology, modern-day parenting becomes a balancing act. It is, in fact, balanced precarables with the help of technology for everything from scheduling errands on the fly to tackling a crisis to making daily things a bit more manageable. That call for a sprint to pick the kids up from school at the last minute? Keeping the devices charged during family car journeys and streaming your child’s favourite show probably won’t suffice. It’s really not a possibility; it’s essential. Enter the [promotional cables](https://www.cubicpromote.com.au/product-category/office-tech/mobile-accessories/cables): not simply a marketing ploy, but an extremely valuable asset for those tech-savvy parents who use their gadgets to create order in their very disorganised lives. Such handy, versatile, parent-approved devices now prove tremendously helpful in the minefield of modern parenting. Let’s dive in and glean insight into the must-have features of custom cables, everyday scenarios where they can save the day, and why they make great promotional products for businesses targeting parents. ## **Parenthood in the Digital Age** More than ever, parenting today is reliant on technology. From grocery lists and school schedules to sleep training and doctor’s appointments, there’s an app for everything. Tablets and children’s devices have entertained the little ones, especially during a lengthy wait or a ride in the car. While work-from-home parents handle work tasks, their best companions are laptops or phones. Nonetheless, technology comes with its responsibilities- keeping the devices charged. A dead battery during critical moments can break any parent’s day, be it an important work email, a child throwing a tantrum on a delayed train ride, or losing contact with emergency contacts. That’s why durable and reliable promotional cables become a smart yet practical tool for parents. They keep the family going strong by keeping their devices running while offering a kind of considerate practicality that will hit home for busy households in the modern world. ## **Everyday Scenarios Where Promotional Cables Save the Day** Promotional cables aren’t just convenient accessories; they’re lifesavers in countless real-world parenting situations. Here are a few scenarios where they make a meaningful difference. ### **1. Long Car Rides** “Are we there yet?” Keeping kids entertained during long drives often means ensuring that tablets or portable gaming devices stay charged. Portable promotional cables make it easy to connect devices to car chargers, avoiding meltdowns and keeping everyone happy. ***Related article: [14 Parental Control Apps to Keep Your Child Safe Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/parental-control-apps/)*** ### **2. Emergencies** Few things are more frustrating than a dead phone battery in the middle of a family emergency. Whether it’s contacting medical services or coordinating plans with multiple people, a reliable cable ensures critical devices stay powered when you need them most. ### **3. Work-Life Balance** Modern parents often juggle professional duties alongside childcare. A drained laptop or phone can hinder productivity. Having a durable promotional cable on hand allows parents to quickly power up and stay on top of work deadlines. ## **Choosing the Right Promotional Cable** When selecting a custom cable for gifting or marketing, there are several factors businesses should keep in mind to maximise appeal to parents. ![promotional cables](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Cable-1-1200x800.png "Cable - Beanstalk Mums") ### **1. Brand Reliability** Choose products from reputable manufacturers known for meeting industry standards. A high-performance cable reflects positively on both the product and the brand that provides it. ### **2. Quality Materials** Parents need tools they can trust. Highlight cables with durable materials, such as braided nylon or reinforced TPE, to ensure longevity and prevent wear and tear. ### **3. Functional Design** Practical designs often resonate best with parents. Think retractable cables to avoid tangling, multi-connectors for universal use, or compact builds for easy storage. ### **4. Customisation Options** For businesses, promotional cables offer a unique branding opportunity. Customise with your logo or an inspiring message to create a lasting reminder of your brand with every use. ## **The Marketing Angle** For brands, promotional cables represent a strategic, high-impact marketing tool. Why? Because they’re practical, universally relevant, and reusable day after day. ### **1. Relevance for Parents** By offering tech-savvy parents a thoughtful, functional item, businesses position themselves as problem-solvers who understand and cater to their audience’s real needs. ### **2. Customisation Possibilities** Cable customisation allows brands not only to promote their message but also to forge genuine connections with gift recipients. Consider adding vibrant colour schemes, eco-friendly variants, or gift packaging options that fit family aesthetics. ### **3. Brand Longevity** Unlike disposable or gimmicky promotional products, cables remain in use for extended periods. This continued exposure helps reinforce brand recognition and loyalty every time a cable comes to the rescue in daily life. ## **Powering Modern Parenting with the Right Tools** Tech-savvy parents rely heavily on different forms of technology to keep up with their busy lifestyles, but promotional cable charges are invaluable. These are all-purpose and must-have gadgets that give parents more value to their lives every day with features like ruggedness, faster charging, and a universal interface. For brands, promotional cables are not only a clever marketing strategy; they also get them a step closer to being memorable by addressing actual, real-life troubles their audience has. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/must-have-promotional-cables/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/must-have-promotional-cables/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [The Best Mother's Day Activity Ideas for the Frugal Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/the-best-mothers-day-activity-ideas-for-the-frugal-mum/) **Published:** April 28, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Mother’s Day is that one day of the year dedicated to mums all over the world. Unfortunately, though, activities that mum will love have become increasingly consumerist. Everywhere around us, Mother’s Day activity ideas seem like a call to buy things and spend money … money that some of us can’t spare. In this economy, it makes planning a Mother’s Day celebration stressful and less enjoyable. But it doesn’t have to be. Looking for fun things to celebrate being a mum with your kids doesn’t have to mean spending a lot. Whether you’re saving for something important or financially struggling at the moment, you can still make Mother’s Day extra special without breaking the bank. ***Further reading: [Blooming Resilience: A Spotlight On Single Mums On Mother’s Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/blooming-resilience-a-spotlight-on-single-mums-on-mothers-day/)*** ## The Best Mother’s Day Activity Ideas for Frugal Single Mums ### Morning Walk with Mum The crazy thing about being a single parent is there’s no way to surprise mum; after all, you think of Mother’s Day activity ideas all by yourself! But that doesn’t mean there’s no fun way to celebrate Mother’s Day as a single mum. First things first: go for a walk. Jogging or walking around the neighbourhood with the little ones releases happy hormones to kick off this special day. It’s always a great way to spend quality time together without spending anything. If your teen is not keen to talk, you both can assemble a playlist to jam with during the walk. Better yet, you can simply talk. If your kids are up to it, how about a nature hike? Thankfully for us, we are blessed with nice hiking trails here in Australia. All you need are your good shoes, water, some protein bars, and you’re good to go! ### Mother’s Day Brunch Breakfast in bed would be an awesome Mother’s Day gift to wake up to if your kids are old enough to be left alone in the kitchen. But for a single mum with a small child like me, this is a hard no. The next best thing? To start the day a bit later and then make brunch with the kids. Get the kids involved in the preparation. Drinking beverage out of fancy china and snacking on sandwiches cut in neat triangles can turn a simple meal into a high tea moment. Take out your gingham sheet and set up a Mother’s Day picnic at the backyard. Or have your brunch or dinner in bed while you watch home movies together. No need to spend money on special ingredients … just a little creativity over the ingredients you already have is enough. ***Further Reading: [Kid-friendly Mother’s Day Recipes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/mothers-day/breakfast-in-bed-mothers-day/)*** ![The Best Mother's Day Activity Ideas for Frugal Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-64-1.png "In article image 64 - Beanstalk Mums") ### **Brews and Treats at Home** There’s something magical about a warm drink on a cool morning, and getting together to make them can be a sweet bonding moment. Instead of lining up at a crowded café, make your favourite brew at home. Whether it’s herbal tea, hot chocolate, or a fancy instant coffee with whipped cream, this can be your special treat. You and the kids can set up a little “café corner” in your home using your favourite mugs, some homemade cookies, and a calm playlist. If you’re feeling fancy, decorate the table with a little handwritten menu or signs. You’d be surprised how much joy you can spark with what’s already in your pantry. You can even have a mini taste test of different teas or hot chocolates. Kids love playing food critics, and you’ll love not spending a cent. ## Fun Mother’s Day Activity Ideas Without Spending a Lot (cont.) ### Trip Down the Botanical Garden Everyone loves flowers, but we can all agree that [Mother’s Day flowers](https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attractions-g255055-Activities-c57-t58-Australia.html) can be hecka expensive. Instead of bouquets of flowers that will eventually dry out and end up in the compost, why not go to a botanical garden? Thankfully, many beautiful gardens here in Australia are open everyday for free. You will get your colourful photographs surrounded with blooms without spending a cent. More importantly, your little trip can be a teaching moment about allowing plants to grow. It can be a way to show your love for Mother Earth as well. Here’s a beautiful quote attributed to Osho you can share with the kiddos: > “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” Oh, and make sure none of your kids are allergic to pollen before planning your visit! ### Book Date at the Library Another one of the things I love the most about our country is that many of our public libraries are open seven days a week. You can simply pick a book to read. But if you’re a regular at your public library, you already know that the cool librarians have already planned something to celebrate you. It can be a Mother’s Day-themed book club or film showing. Last year, my library offered free daycare while the mums attended their choice of a cooking class, a perfume-making class, or a pottery workshop. While the mums were learning a new skill, the staff helped our kids make handmade Mother’s Day crafts as keepsakes. Sweet! ![The Best Mother's Day Activity Ideas for Frugal Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-65-1.png "In article image 65 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Join a Neighbourhood Mother’s Day Event Look out for Mother’s Day activities to celebrate this day in your neighbourhood. Organisations in your community could be offering free services, like mental health consultations or financial health seminars. It could be a karaoke challenge or an impromptu mum pageant. There could be totally free freebies for mums in the park or at the mall. The farmer’s market near us always sets up a booth that lets mums enjoy a glass of local wine on Mother’s Day. No need to buy anything! ## One-of-a-Kind Mother’s Day Activity Ideas (cont.) ### Get Planting If you have a patch of soil, a few pots, or even just recycled containers, Mother’s Day can be the perfect excuse to start a little garden with your kids. Growing something together — whether it’s flowers, herbs, or veggies — is a great reminder that motherhood, like gardening, is all about patience and care. No need to go out and buy anything fancy. You can use seeds from store-bought tomatoes or sprouted garlic from your pantry. Decorate old jars or cans for pots, and use wooden spoons or ice-cream sticks for labels. This activity doesn’t just save money, it also teaches kids how to appreciate growth, responsibility, and sustainability. Plus, watching something bloom weeks later will feel like the celebration continues long after Mother’s Day. ### Spa Day at Home If it were me, rest and relaxation are always the best way to celebrate Mother’s Day. Obviously, going to the spa costs a lot. You don’t need to buy all the products you see from overconsumption-pretending-to-be-self-care creators on TikTok. You can pamper yourself at home using stuff you already have: hot water, a washcloth, and a bit of nail polish. Or you might even have little kids who will be willing to talk all over your back for a nice massage. ![One-of-a-Kind Mother's Day Activity Ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-66-1.png "In article image 66 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Visit Grandma Last up in our list of Mother’s Day activity ideas is something for the mum’s mum. Even though we are mums ourselves, my sister and I still prefer to spend the day in our parents’ house on Mother’s Day. For our mum, having her grandchildren around is always the best gift. For our kids, visiting their grandma is always at the top of their list of fun things to do. Assuming you have a wonderful relationship, Mother’s Day is a great time to enjoy with your kids’ grandmother. If you grew up in a healthy family environment, get everyone together in your mum’s home for a meaningful Sunday reunion. You will only need some food and drinks to enjoy together, lots of photographs, childhood stories, and supplies for a creative activity for the youngsters. And since you now share one more thing with your mum – motherhood, that is – this is a great chance to learn something new about each other. I’m sure this will make her feel extra special. ## Final Thoughts: Mother’s Day Activity Ideas Frugal Mums Will Love Mother’s Day isn’t about expensive gifts or over-the-top plans. For single mums, especially those juggling tight budgets, it’s about feeling seen, appreciated, and celebrated in ways that are meaningful and real. Whether it’s walking with your kids, planting something together, or sipping tea in your pyjamas, the best moments are usually the ones that cost the least. These simple Mother’s Day activity ideas are filled with acts of togetherness, laughter, and creativity, and are the memories that stay with us. So this year, celebrate yourself exactly as you are: a mum who’s doing her best, with love, heart, and grit. And know that you don’t need to spend a fortune to be cherished. 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Every single day, it feels like living is becoming harder to afford. And it doesn’t seem like things are going to get better anytime soon. The thing is, it’s not just us here in Australia. Rising cost of living is a global problem. The entire world has been hit by the economic fallout of the COVID-19 pandemic, and the truth is, the Australian economy hasn’t fully recovered from the inflation. On top of that, political and economic instability — like tariffs on Australian goods and rising inflation — are making everything more expensive. The wages of workers aren’t keeping up, and the value of the AUD is shrinking faster than we can keep up with. As single mums, we feel this the hardest. Our families depend on us, and sometimes it feels like we’re juggling too many things at once. Whether you’re working, relying on child support, or doing both, the expenditures are incredibly tough on our budget. I get it. I see you. It affects all of us. We’re all doing our best just to get through the day. The good news? We’re not alone in this. As Australians, there’s a whole community of single mums who understand exactly what you’re going through. And while we wait for federal government action, let’s make the most of what we can control, together. Here’s some practical advice to help us all cope with increasing expenses and decreasing budget without compromising our kids’ quality of life: ## General Advice on Coping with the Rising Cost of Living in Australia ### Reduce Spending I’m sorry to have to say this again; you’ve probably heard this a thousand times. And trust me, I get it – sometimes it feels like there’s no room left to cut. You’ve already cut back on everything you possibly can, but the reality is, sometimes there’s just not enough to get by. If you’re already living on bare minimum, it’s tough to hear people tell you to cut back even more. But here’s the thing: even though it feels like you’re at the end of your rope, there are still small, manageable tweaks that can ease the burden. Have a look at your current expenses — groceries, bills, healthcare, subscriptions — every little thing. If you’re like me, you might be paying for services or items you barely use. That’s money that could go elsewhere. I’m not here to tell you to skip the morning coffee if that’s what gets you through the day. I get it; sometimes the little things keep us sane. But take a breath and give yourself some grace. If you’re already stretched thin, just know you’re doing the absolute best you can. ### Find Free or Cheaper Alternatives Remember, you don’t have to sacrifice nutritious food for your kids just because it’s cheaper elsewhere. It’s about finding creative solutions. Maybe you can buy from a local market or discounted grocery store? Sometimes, the cheaper option for a daily necessity is just as good. I’ve been there, trying to make every dollar stretch as far as it can. A friend of mine left Sydney to move back in with her parents for a while to save on rent. Sometimes, it’s okay to ask for help when you need it most. If you’re fortunate enough to have that option, it might ease some of the financial burden while you figure things out. ### Involve Your Kids Protecting our kids from harsh realities is a concern for many parents. But here’s the truth: talking to your kids about how to navigate the complexities of finances can actually bring them closer to you. I remember a boss I had once who, after losing her husband, sat down with her four sons and explained the family’s financial situation. She showed them all their average household bills, the pay slips, and really opened up about how they could all work together to lower their living standards. Sometimes, we forget that kids can handle more than we think. Let them in on the reality. Explain why certain adjustments are being made, and help them understand that the family needs to be a team. They’ll appreciate it more than we realise, and they’ll feel empowered knowing they’re contributing to the solution. The [Australian Bureau of Statistics](https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/rises-living-costs-across-all-household-types) reported the rising cost of living across all types of households. Here are several practical ways we can adjust our standard of living in light with the financial stress of Australia’s ongoing economic crisis: ## Coping with the Cost of Living in Australia: Food and Household Savings - **Eat More Beans.** Beans are a godsend: cheap, full of protein, and versatile. I know it’s not the fanciest meal, but they’re filling and nutritious, which is what matters most. Toss them into a salad, soup, or wraps, and you’ve got yourself a hearty meal. - **Frozen Food.** Frozen veggies and meals are a lifesaver. They’re better for your budget than fresh produce, and they last so much longer. I know it’s not always ideal, but when you’re running low on funds and time, frozen food can make sure your kids are still eating well. - **Cook in Season.** When something’s in season, it’s cheaper and tastes so much better. You’ll usually find seasonal produce at the local market for a fraction of the cost. This is one of those small wins that can make a difference. - **Cook for Yourself.** I know it feels like you don’t have a second to spare, but home-cooked meals are a lifesaver for your wallet. Plus, meals at home are often healthier than restaurant meals. Even a simple pasta dish or a stew can last for days. I try to cook in batches whenever I can. - **Lower Quality Meat Cuts.** Look, I get it. You want the best for your kids, and sometimes that means going for the leanest cuts of meat. But if you’re in a pinch, lower quality cuts (like chicken thighs or beef chuck) can be just as tasty when slow-cooked and seasoned right. - **Chicken and Fish Instead of Red Meat.** Chicken and fish tend to be cheaper and still pack a solid protein punch. They’re often more affordable, and you can make them last through multiple meals. - **Drink More Water.** Water is free and it’s great for the kids. I know it’s tempting to buy juice or soda, but water helps keep everyone hydrated and feeling good. When you can, keep a jug of water in the fridge and make it fun for the kids to drink more. - **Instant Coffee.** Sometimes, you’ve gotta make do with what you’ve got. Instant coffee isn’t as fancy, but it gets the job done, and it’s a fraction of the price of a café latte every day. ![Coping with the Cost of Living in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-70.png "In article image 70 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Coping with the Cost of Living in Australia: Food and Household Savings (cont.) - **Local Food Pantry.** There’s absolutely no shame in reaching out for help. Food pantries are there for a reason: to support families when times are tough. I know it can feel humbling, but trust me, you’re not alone in this. Accepting help from a food pantry can free up some funds to cover other essentials. - **Never buy full price.** There’s always a sale around the corner. Wait it out or check discount stores before making that purchase. - **Stop shopping at big supermarkets like Coles and Woolworths.** Aldi, local markets, and even bulk stores can be cheaper. Based on the price of groceries alone, it’s worth trying around to compare. Aside from that, I’m still angry about a large supermarket profitting off this pivotal moment in history. - **The Reject Shop.** Great for snacks, toiletries, and cleaning stuff. Just check the unit prices and stock up. - **Coupons.** A little searching online or on apps can get you discounts or cash back. Every bit of extra cash helps. - **Up protein for kids, especially for breakfast.** Protein helps keep them full longer, so less snacking and better energy for school. ## Coping with the Cost of Living in Australia: Home and Utilities - **Turn Off Lights and Unplug Appliances.** I know the electric bill can skyrocket fast, and that’s just one more thing to worry about. But turning off lights and unplugging appliances when you’re not using them can save a surprising amount over time. - **Utilise Hardship Options on Bills.** Don’t be afraid to reach out to your utility providers if things are tight. Many companies offer hardship programs that can give you a break during tough times. You don’t have to do this alone. - **Talk to Your Employer About Working From Home.** If you can, working from home can save money on petrol, lunches, and even give you some tax deductions. It might not be an immediate fix, but it can take some of the pressure off. - **House Sharing.** If you’re open to it, consider house sharing with another single mum or a trusted friend. It might feel like a big step, but with the exorbitant property prices, it could halve your rent and bills, making life a little easier. Talk to your landlord if this is possible. - **Charge your small devices at work/in school.** It’s cheeky but harmless. Saves a bit on power, especially if your kids always have something plugged in. - **Ditch the dryer.** Cut a significant portion off your electricity bills by utilising the sun in drying your laundry, if possible. ![cost of living](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-69.png "In article image 69 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Dealing with the High Cost of Living Amidst Rising Fuel Prices: Transportation and Mobility - **Walk More.** Walking is free, good for your headspace, and you’ll save heaps on fuel or transportation expenses. - **Public Transport.** As Australians, we’re lucky to have an efficient mass transit system. Buses and trains can be a lot cheaper than driving every day — and less stressful too. - **Keep tires inflated properly for fuel efficiency.** It sounds small, but properly pumped tyres use less petrol. Easy savings! - **Sell your car.** If you live in a small town or a city with an efficient transport system, you may not need your own car. To be honest, the maintenance cost of cars can easily be more of a liability than an asset. Cities like Sydney and Melbourne have great mass transit, so consider if you really need a car. ![Dealing with the High Cost of Living Amidst Rising Fuel Prices: Transportation and Mobility](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-71.png "In article image 71 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Cope with the Rising Cost of Living in Australia: Lifestyle and Personal Care - **Cut your gym membership.** The thing is, you don’t have to pay to move your body. YouTube workouts, walks with the kids, or running around at the park are all great alternatives in this financial landscape. All free and just as effective. - **Repeat clothes.** No shame in outfit repeats. Me and my little one use the same pajama for the whole week. Saves us on water and detergent … and good for the environment, too! - **Learn to sew.** Sewing helps fix clothes or make small gifts. And YouTube has free tutorials for everything. - **Opt for cheap holidays.** For now, you might need to forego travelling with the kids. There are surely leisure activities you can do in your neighbourhood. - **Learn to cut your hair, do manicure/pedicure, etc.** DIY beauty saves heaps. It can be a fun self-care moment at home and even a source of income. - **Evaluate your skincare.** You don’t need a dozen products. Find one or two that work and skip the rest. My mum had the best skin and her regimen consists of soap, sun screen, and Vaseline. - **Generic supplements and medicines.** The chemist’s own brand usually has the same ingredients for less. Always ask the pharmacist for generic options. - **Check your insurance premiums.** Many Australians I know have already ditched their insurance providers. After all, we all know how hard the claims can be. But if this is not possible, shop around for better options. - **Find a part-time job.** Check [this article](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/jobs-with-flexible-hours/) if you want to see the best jobs with flexible hours. - **Limit social media to stop comparison and temptation.** It’s easy to feel behind when scrolling. Remember, people post their highlights, not their real life. Also, you don’t get influenced to add unnecessary knick knacks to your cart. ## Coping with the Rising Cost of Living in Australia: Helping Other Single Mums Lastly, let’s not forget that we’re all in this together. Helping others, even in small ways, can lift everyone’s spirits amidst the financial pressures. Maybe you can swap clothes with another mum, or offer to share a meal. Every little bit helps, and sometimes that solidarity is what gets us through the cost of living crisis. We’re all doing our best to hold it together … and that’s enough. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, I want you to know you’re doing an amazing job. This season will pass, and we’ll come through stronger. ## Final Thoughts on Dealing with the High Cost of Living as an Australian Single Mum Living in Australia has become harder for individuals and families alike, no doubt. It’s unfair, and it’s exhausting, but you’re not alone. So many Australian households are finding themselves in the same struggle, and while we wait for better times and financial stability, we’ve got each other. While waiting for the government to intervene, you’re showing up every day, doing what you can to keep your family afloat. That’s worth celebrating. Things will get better, but until then, we rise together as Australians. And remember: you’ve made it through every hard day before this. Just like millions of mums throughout history, you’re tougher than you realise. So, take a breath, and know that this too shall pass. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-beat-the-crazy-cost-of-living-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-to-beat-the-crazy-cost-of-living-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money --- ### [Breaking Gender Norms: How To Be A Non-Toxic Boy Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/breaking-gender-norms/) **Published:** April 19, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** The pushback against the “toxic boy mum” trend on social media has forced an incredible discourse on the significant role of mothers in breaking gender norms and gender stereotypes. As we take part in the celebration of the [International Day of the Boy Child](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Day_of_the_Boy_Child) on May 16, let’s talk about how gender discrimination at home can be damaging to our boys … and how we can fight it. Being single mothers, we are in a perfect place to promote gender equality. After all, they already see you doing everything, including jobs traditionally done by dads. For your kids, you are already a picture of a woman who has crushed the barriers of societal expectations and gender roles. ## What is a Toxic Boy Mum? Being a mother of a boy is not a negative thing in itself. I don’t have a son, but I have nephews who are so easy to be obsessed with. They’re menaces, but also incredibly sweet and affectionate. (So are my daughter and niece, by the way. In hindsight, there’s not much of a difference between the boys and girls in our family.) However, this becomes harmful when a mother makes having a son her entire personality. She shows a bias towards sons over daughters. She is extremely possessive of her place in his life. Sometimes, she can \[subconsciously\] use her son as an emotional replacement for a romantic partner. These can be damaging not only to daughters who witness the preferential treatment but to sons who grow up around this unhealthy form of parenting. ![What is a Toxic Boy Mum?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-64.png "In article image 64 - Beanstalk Mums") Check out these statements: - “Having a son is so different. I love my daughters, but my son is just special.” - “No girl can replace me. I’m his first love. I’m the love of his life.” - “Teaching my son how to cook so he’s not impressed by your daughter’s microwave meals.” These kinds of messages might sound harmless at first, but they can reinforce an outdated attitude that a woman’s value lies only in relation to a man … even if that man is her son. And for our boys, it sends the wrong signal about emotional independence and respect in future relationships. The good news? Not all mums of boys turn toxic. And if you’re reading this and realising you’ve maybe said or done some things that fall into this category, don’t panic. This isn’t about shame. It’s about awareness and encouragement. Once we know better, we do better. And you, dear mum, have the capacity to shift the culture in your household starting today. Here’s how to not be one: ## Breaking Gender Norms as a Single Mum ### Remember: Play Has No Gender First on our list of breaking gender norms starts from an early age. I’m fortunate to have grown up in a home where toys have no gender. We were equally allowed to play with dolls, stuffed animals, hula hoops, robots, cars, toy weapons, and blocks. There were no girls’ and [boys’ toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/gift-ideas-young-boys/) … just children’s toys. Role-playing with dolls and stuffed animals teaches empathy, an essential trait that is easily usurped in our boy children by both society and much digital content. Make sure your children are exposed to a wide variety of play that nurtures creativity, cooperation, and emotional intelligence. Play is how kids learn about relationships, boundaries, and the world. It’s crucial that we don’t limit them. ### Remember: Chores Have No Gender But my parents also raised us around chores based on gender. I can clean, cook, sew, and do the laundry. But I can’t change light bulbs and do basic electric and plumbing repairs. It’s only lately that I realised these are life skills that everyone should possess, regardless of being a boy or a girl. Let’s aim to raise kids who are capable in all aspects of running a household. That means knowing how to clean, budget, fix things, and prepare meals. This strategy doesn’t just prepare them for life; it also challenges the culture that some tasks are beneath men or too hard for women. ![Breaking Gender Norms as a Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-66.png "In article image 66 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Remember: Interests Have No Gender Our kids today are fortunate to live at a time when people are free to pursue hobbies and interests without judgment from society. Children of all genders can equally do ballet, paint, write, do math, sports, be a scientist or an astronaut. Encouraging our children to pursue their interests — no matter how “different” they may seem — expands their horizons and builds resilience. Don’t let old stereotypes limit what they dream of becoming. Whether it’s a boy who wants to dance or a girl who wants to go into a male-dominated field, your encouragement means everything. ## Breaking Gender Norms at Home (cont.) ### Advocate Respect and Admiration for Girls and Women Communication is key. Teach your boys (and girls) to value girls not just for their looks or relationship to them, but for their voice, intelligence, career aspirations, and strength. Talk about women’s achievements, both in the workplace and in your own family. Showcase women in leadership roles, in different professions, in science, politics, art, and sports. Normalise an inclusive, diverse, equitable view of society in the classroom, the media, and your own family unit. ### Empower Your Daughters and Nieces The flip side of the toxic boy mum trend is the quiet erasure of girls. Make sure your daughters, nieces, and the other girls in your life feel seen, heard, and celebrated. Inspire them to aim high, speak up, and take space. Teach them that they’re not “bossy” … they’re leaders. ![Breaking Gender Norms as a Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/In-article-image-65.png "In article image 65 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Find Positive Role Models Just because you do not have a husband does not mean your children cannot have positive male role models. There are many men that they can look up to, from their grandfathers, to their neighbours, teachers, political leaders, and even movie/book characters. Captain America, Aragorn from The Lord of the Rings, and Kristoff from Frozen immediately come to mind when I think of positive male depictions. Positive masculinity is tender, responsible, kind, and emotionally expressive. Let your son bond with men who model those values. It helps balance what they see in popular media and teaches them it’s okay to cry, hug, and communicate deeply. Simple things like this are a huge help in breaking gender norms. ## Final Thoughts: Breaking Gender Norms as a Single Parent Being a single mum isn’t an obstacle; it’s an opportunity. You are the daily example of strength, determination, and love. Your behaviour teaches your children what’s normal, what’s right, and what’s possible. Let’s raise boys who respect women not because we told them to, but because they grew up watching women lead, nurture, build, and thrive. Let’s encourage them to become men who don’t feel entitled to a woman’s body, time, or devotion because their mum never behaved like they were her whole world. Let’s celebrate diversity in people, in different cultures, and in how we love and express ourselves. And let’s inspire one another in this community of single mums to raise the next generation with empathy, equality, and strength. We are not just raising boys or girls. We are raising future generations by breaking gender norms. Let’s give them the tools to live in a more inclusive, equitable, and compassionate world. Happy International Day of the Boy Child. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/breaking-gender-norms/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/breaking-gender-norms/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [The Ultimate Mum's Guide on How to Prevent Lice and Nits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/prevent-lice-and-nits/) **Published:** April 14, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** How do you prevent lice and nits? That is the question. If you’re a mum of an active kid, chances are you have already had that dreaded moment—the note from school, frantic head scratching, and the sinking realisation your child has head lice. Trust me, I’ve been there! Head lice and nits are a common childhood nuisance, but they’re totally manageable with the right approach. In this guide, you’ll find practical advice on [treatment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/head-lice-treatments-that-actually-work/ "treatment"), prevention tips, and insights to help you get rid of these pesky insects. I’ll never forget the day my daughter came home scratching. After checking her hair with a magnifying glass, my heart sank—nits! We raced to her paediatrician, only to realise later that I had accidentally bought dandruff shampoo instead. This article will ensure you don’t make my mistake! ## **How to Prevent Lice and Nits** ## **Understanding the Life Cycle of Head Lice and Nits** It may seem a bit cringeworthy, but knowing the head lice life cycle is crucial. It all starts with nits attached close to the scalp. These tiny oval-shaped lice eggs hatch after about a week, becoming nymphs. Nymphs mature into adult lice capable of laying more nits. To properly treat lice, you’ve got to break this loop. Treatments must target both lice and nits that haven’t hatched. Remember, just because you kill the lice doesn’t mean you’ve eliminated their spawn. Regular checks and follow-up treatments after 2 weeks are essential to catch those sneaky late-hatchers. ## **How Do Head Lice Spread?** Contrary to popular belief, lice don’t jump or fly—they crawl. Kids mostly get head lice through head-to-head contact during play or sleepovers. It’s rare but possible to catch lice from hats, brushes, or pillows. As a mum, it’s important to educate your kids about having lice. Encourage them not to share personal items that touch the head. Remind them consistently and do gentle reinforcements so they don’t forget. ## **Spotting Head Lice Eggs Early** Head scratching is usually your first clue, but itching isn’t always immediate. It can take weeks before your child starts scratching. That’s why it’s important to check your child’s hair regularly with a special fine-toothed lice comb. Use a magnifying glass in good lighting—lice and eggs are hard to see. Catching lice early makes them easier to get rid of, saving you and your child from unnecessary stress and discomfort. ## **Choosing the Right Head Lice Treatment** When choosing a treatment, look for products with active ingredients like permethrin. These treatments effectively kill lice and their eggs. Medicated shampoos, lotions, or sprays can all be effective. Remember, home remedies aren’t always reliable. You want a treatment that’s scientifically proven to work right away. Don’t make the same mistake as I did—read the labels carefully! ![prevent lice and nits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/File_0000000082e451f7a6cb0c66a3b4f2e6_conversation_id_3d67f0d219-9464-8010-b8f4-63910b06b1d6_26message_id_3d10875122-dbbb-4049-bc66-b9988c8c762e-1200x800.png "File_0000000082e451f7a6cb0c66a3b4f2e6_conversation_id_3d67f0d219-9464-8010-b8f4-63910b06b1d6_26message_id_3d10875122-dbbb-4049-bc66-b9988c8c762e - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Properly Applying Treatment** For head lice treatment to work, it’s crucial to apply it correctly. Soak your child’s hair completely with the lotion or hair cleanser and follow the instructions exactly. Missed spots can mean treatment failure. After the first treatment, use a lice comb to remove dead lice and eggs. Comb thoroughly from scalp to ends, wiping frequently. Repeat this process after 7-10 days to seize any lice that hatch later. ## **How to Prevent Lice and Nits (cont.)** ## **How Laundry Helps Stop Head Lice** Laundry plays a key role in getting rid of lice. Wash hats, scarves, pillowcases, and bedding in hot water and dry for at least 30 minutes. This kills eggs and lice lurking on fabrics. For items that can’t be washed, seal them in plastic bags for 48 hours. Lice can live away from the head for only 1-2 days. This simple household tip helps keep your environment lice-free. ## **Preventing Head Lice from Spreading at Home** To stop lice from getting transmitted in your household, avoid close contact between family members until everyone is treated. Teach your kids to avoid head-to-head contact when lice are around. Also, disinfect combs and brushes regularly. A quick soak in hot water for about 10 minutes can prevent lice from hopping between family members. ## **Natural Prevention** There are natural ways to prevent lice. Essential oils like tea tree or lavender can deter lice. Spraying diluted oils on hats and brushes might help reduce the risk. However, the natural way isn’t foolproof. Always combine it with regular scalp checks and effective treatments if needed. Staying vigilant is your best line of defence. ## **Common Myths About Head Lice** Head lice aren’t a sign of poor hygiene, and lice don’t discriminate! Anyone can get head lice regardless of cleanliness. Understanding this helps reduce stigma and embarrassment for your child. Another myth is that kids get lice from [pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/what-happens-to-our-dog-when-we-divorce/). That is not true because head lice are human parasites. Your furry family members are off the hook! ## **When to Call the Doctor for Lice Treatments** ![prevent lice and nits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Prevent-lice-and-nits-in-image-1200x800.png "Prevent lice and nits in-image - Beanstalk Mums") Most head lice cases respond well to over-the-counter treatments. However, if you find many lice after treatments or notice your child has resistant lice, it’s time to consult your [General Physician](https://sydneydoctors.com.au/ "General Physician") for prescription options. Doctors might recommend stronger medicated treatments if lice repeatedly return. Always follow professional medical advice if your situation escalates. ## **Final Thoughts: How to Get Rid of Head Lice** As a single mum, there’s already plenty on your plate without adding head lice dramas into the mix. Don’t forget that they are completely manageable with the right strategy. Check your kid’s scalp consistently and make sure you’re prepared to treat it properly if things take a turn for the worse. Trust me, I’ve been there: spotting that first nit sent my stress levels skyrocketing! But with the right info, managing lice quickly becomes second nature. It’s also comforting to know you’re not alone. Head lice happen to the best of us, so lean on your fellow mums for support (and maybe even share a laugh). At the end of the day, dealing with these pesky parasites is just another one of those parenting challenges that, once handled, leaves you feeling stronger and more capable than ever. Remember, there is no hurdle you can’t conquer, Mum! And your kids will thank you (one day!). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/prevent-lice-and-nits/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/prevent-lice-and-nits/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** school, kids hair, children's hair --- ### [Blooming Resilience: A Spotlight On Single Mums On Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/blooming-resilience-a-spotlight-on-single-mums-on-mothers-day/) **Published:** April 5, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Mother’s Day in Australia, falling on Sunday, 11th of May this year, is more than just a date on the calendar. For many, it’s a day filled with cards, flowers, and cherished moments. But for single mums, this day often carries a deeper, more complex emotional weight — one woven from threads of love, resilience, strength, and yes, sometimes fatigue. If you’re a single mum reading this, know this: you are extraordinary. You are the architect of your family, the silent engine running the household, and the anchor of your children’s world. This Mother’s Day, let’s shift the focus away from perfection and onto the real, raw, powerful beauty of your journey. Let’s celebrate you. ## **Celebrating Single Mum Strength This Mother’s Day** ## **Beyond the Bouquet: Honouring the Unseen Strength** The traditional Mother’s Day imagery — breakfast in bed, flowers, and handmade cards — is lovely. But for single mums, reality often looks a little different. There are no partners coordinating surprises, no one quietly handling the morning chaos so you can “sleep in.” And yet, every day, you show up. You juggle work, finances, school lunches, emotional support, tantrums, and teary bedtimes. You’re there through the sickness, the school concerts, the scraped knees and heartaches — all while holding the household together with sheer determination. This Mother’s Day, let’s celebrate that unseen strength. The resilience. The sacrifices. The quiet victories you’ve had to cheer for yourself because no one else saw them. ## **Celebrating Mother’s Day – Your Way** You don’t need a grand gesture or a flawless plan to feel celebrated. Sometimes, it’s the simplest things that mean the most — a hot cup of tea, a smile from your child, or a few uninterrupted moments to yourself. Here are some beautiful, low-pressure ways to embrace Mother’s Day this year: - **Embrace the Imperfect:** - Let go of expectations. Don’t stress about creating a “picture-perfect” day. Give yourself permission to just be. Whether you’re in your pyjamas all day or doing something special, you deserve to celebrate without pressure. - **Create Shared Moments:** - Plan an activity that brings joy to you and your kids. Bake cupcakes, go for a nature walk, have a movie night, or build a pillow fort. Shared laughter and time together often mean more than anything material. - **Carve Out Time for You:** - Even just 15 minutes alone can make a world of difference. A quiet bath, a short meditation, a few pages of a book — whatever helps you reconnect with yourself, do that. You are allowed to prioritise your own peace. - **Accept Help and Love:** - If someone offers to babysit, cook a meal, or bring you flowers, say yes. This day is about you, and it’s okay to be on the receiving end for once. ## **Flowers as a Symbol of Growth and Resilience** While this isn’t about material gifts, flowers can carry deep symbolic meaning — and that’s why they’re such a beautiful way to honour yourself or another single mum in your life. Just like you, flowers bloom through all conditions. They are delicate and powerful, beautiful and enduring — much like the journey of single motherhood. Consider: - Sunflowers for strength and optimism - Lilies for purity, [motherhood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-tips-balance-enjoy-work-mum-life-2/), and renewal - Orchids for beauty, resilience, and elegance - Wildflowers, growing wherever they land, thriving in unexpected places — just like you. You could gift yourself a bouquet or even plant a garden as a tribute to your growth. Watching something bloom under your care is a deeply symbolic and rewarding act. If you’re in Perth and looking for something truly special this Mother’s Day, Spearwood Florist, available through this [website](https://spearwoodflorist.com.au/), offers a beautiful selection of thoughtfully arranged bouquets and floral arrangements with same-day delivery across many suburbs. Whether you’re treating yourself or sending love to another single mum in your life, their fresh, hand-crafted arrangements are a meaningful way to say, “You’re doing amazing.” ## **Finding Joy in the Quiet Moments** You don’t need extravagant plans to feel celebrated. Often, the best moments are the ones we don’t expect — your child’s handwritten note, a silly dance in the kitchen, a spontaneous “I love you.” This Mother’s Day, slow down enough to notice those moments. They are your reward. ## **Building Your Village – You’re Not Alone** ![Mother's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Mothers-day-2-1200x800.png "Mothers day 2 - Beanstalk Mums") Single motherhood can sometimes feel isolating, but you’re not alone in this journey. There’s strength in community, in finding people who truly get it. Here’s how to build and nurture your support network: - **Connect with Other Single Mums:** Join [Facebook groups](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine), local meetups, or community events designed for single parents. You’ll find shared understanding, advice, and lasting friendships. - **Lean on Loved Ones:** Let go of the idea that you must do everything solo. Trusted family and friends can be pillars of support — let them help. - **Access Local Resources:** Many community programs offer support for single mums, from financial aid to mental health services to parenting workshops. - **Consider Professional Support:** Therapy or counselling can be a powerful tool to help you manage stress, heal emotional wounds, and find clarity on your path forward. ## **Nurturing Yourself – Mind, Body, and Soul** You give so much of yourself to your children, but your needs matter, too. In fact, your well-being directly impacts your family’s well-being. Prioritising yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Ways to nurture your own growth: - **Reconnect with Your Passions:** Whether it’s writing, painting, hiking, or dancing in your living room, find your joy again. - **Move Your Body:** Exercise, even in small amounts, boosts your mood and energy. Find something that feels good — a walk, a dance, a stretch. - **Set Gentle Goals:** You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Set achievable goals and celebrate every step forward. - **Practice Self-Kindness:** Speak to yourself the way you’d speak to your best friend. You are doing your best, and that is more than enough. ## **Looking Ahead with Hope This Mother’s Day** The road of single motherhood isn’t easy, but it’s filled with profound love, unmatched strength, and deep connection. You are raising children who will grow up knowing what love and perseverance look like. You are modelling courage, independence, and emotional strength. This Mother’s Day, take a moment to look back at how far you’ve come — and look ahead to all that’s still to bloom. Whether your day is filled with laughter or quiet moments of reflection, let it be a celebration of you: your resilience, your love, your relentless hope. ## **Final Thoughts: You Are a Blooming Resilience** If no one else says it today, let us be the ones: You are doing an amazing job. You are allowed to celebrate yourself. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to feel proud. You are allowed to ask for more because you deserve it. This Mother’s Day, don’t just mark the day — own it. Let your story be one of strength, blooming quietly and boldly through every challenge, just like the flowers you so deserve. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/blooming-resilience-a-spotlight-on-single-mums-on-mothers-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/blooming-resilience-a-spotlight-on-single-mums-on-mothers-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Seasonal, Life, Mother's Day --- ### [From Cosy to Chic: Matching Fragrances to Interior Styles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/from-cosy-to-chic-matching-fragrances-to-interior-styles/) **Published:** April 5, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your home is a reflection of your personality—each design choice, from wall colour to furniture layout, tells a story. Yet one essential detail often goes unnoticed: **fragrance**. The scent acts as an invisible design element capable of transforming the atmosphere entirely. Whether you’re aiming for a cosy retreat or a modern, upscale look, selecting a fragrance that aligns with your interior style creates a fully immersive sensory experience. ## **The Role of Fragrance in Home Design** Fragrance is more than just a pleasant aroma—it shapes the emotional ambience of your space. Much like music sets a mood, scent influences the overall tone of a room, evoking feelings of comfort, energy, calm, or sophistication. The right fragrance doesn’t just accompany your décor—it enhances it, adding depth and dimension to your home’s personality. ## **Cosy Interiors and Warm Scents** ### **Embracing Comfort and Familiarity** Cosy interior styles such as farmhouse, cottagecore, and Scandinavian hygge prioritise warmth, softness, and an inviting atmosphere. These environments often feature soft [lighting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/night-lights-kids-sleep/ "lighting"), textured fabrics, and organic materials. To complement this aesthetic, fragrances should evoke the same comforting familiarity. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Vanilla and amber** – Warm, enveloping scents that create a sense of serenity and relaxation - **Cinnamon and clove** – Spicy undertones reminiscent of hearth and home, especially suited for colder seasons - **Woodsy aromas** – Notes like sandalwood, pine, and cedar ground the space with a touch of nature These fragrances blend effortlessly into spaces designed for curling up with a book or enjoying a quiet evening indoors. ## **Minimalist and Modern Spaces** ### **Clean Lines, Clean Scents** Minimalist interiors embrace simplicity, defined by sleek lines, neutral tones, and a clutter-free environment. Fragrances that suit these spaces should feel equally clean, refined, and unobtrusive. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Citrus blends** – Bright and refreshing, notes like lemon and bergamot uplift the space without overwhelming it - **Herbal notes** – Scents like mint, basil, and eucalyptus offer clarity and freshness, aligning with minimalist ideals - **Oceanic and ozone-based fragrances** – Light and airy, these evoke the freshness of open skies and breezy coastlines Such fragrances reinforce the calm, open feel of modern spaces while subtly enhancing their sophistication. ## **Glamorous and Chic Interiors** ### **Luxurious Touches and Sophisticated Aromas** Chic and glamorous interiors are known for bold styling, incorporating metallic finishes, velvet furnishings, and dramatic lighting. These designs call for fragrances that exude confidence and elegance. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Musk and leather** – Rich, alluring notes that mirror the opulence of lavish interiors - **Jasmine and tuberose** – Sensual florals with a sophisticated edge, ideal for romantic or statement-making spaces - **Oud and patchouli** – Deep and complex, these scents perfectly complement refined, upscale designs In these interiors, fragrance doesn’t play a supporting role—it stands proudly alongside every design element as part of the room’s signature appeal. ## **Rustic and Nature-Inspired Styles** ### **Earthy Elements and Organic Aromas** Rustic homes celebrate imperfection and texture, often highlighting natural materials like wood and stone. Whether your space evokes a forest cabin or a bohemian hideaway, earthy and herbal scents are a natural extension of this aesthetic. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Green notes** – Aromas such as fig, moss, or freshly cut grass bring nature indoors with subtle grace - **Smoke and firewood** – Perfect for spaces with fireplaces or exposed beams, these add depth and cosiness - **Lavender and sage** – Herbal, soothing scents that contribute to a restorative, tranquil environment These choices reinforce the raw, grounded charm of rustic spaces while enhancing their organic vibe. ![fragrances](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Fragrances-2-1200x800.png "Fragrances 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Eclectic and Artistic Spaces** ### **Bold Combinations and Creative Scents** Eclectic interiors thrive on contrast—layering textures, patterns, and global influences to create a space full of personality. The scent should be just as daring, acting as an olfactory expression of the room’s unique character. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Spiced florals** – Unexpected pairings like rose with cardamom or lavender with black pepper invite curiosity - **Incense-based** – Scents like frankincense and myrrh add a mystical, almost spiritual depth - **Fruity gourmand** – Sweet, tangy blends that are playful yet refined, perfect for rooms filled with visual interest In these artistic settings, fragrance becomes another creative medium, contributing to the room’s layered story. ## Coastal and Beach-Inspired Interiors ### Breezy Vibes and Refreshing Scents Coastal interiors reflect the tranquility of the sea, often incorporating elements like weathered wood, light fabrics, and nautical hues. The perfect [**home scent**](https://drift.co/en-au/blogs/news/best-scent-diffuser-for-home) for this environment should mimic ocean breezes and evoke feelings of escape and ease. ### Recommended Fragrance Profiles - **Sea salt and driftwood** – Clean, mineral-rich scents that conjure images of shoreline walks and summer getaways - **Coconut and citrus** – Sun-drenched and tropical, ideal for relaxed, vacation-ready settings - **Cotton and linen** – Crisp and soft, these scents embody the clean simplicity of sun-dried laundry on a beach day A fragrance in a coastal home should be like the air after a wave crash—light, fresh, and effortlessly uplifting. ## **Vintage and Retro Interiors** ### **Nostalgic Notes and Time-Honored Aromas** Vintage-inspired homes draw on the beauty of past decades, from art deco glamour to mid-century cool. The scents that complement these interiors should invoke a sense of nostalgia and timelessness. ### Recommended Fragrance Profiles - **Powdery florals** – Notes like violet, iris, and rose recall classic elegance and traditional beauty - **Tobacco and bourbon** – Rich, evocative scents that bring to mind old libraries, leather armchairs, and curated history - **Citrus cologne-style** – Bright, familiar notes with a hint of masculinity—perfect for retro or mid-century aesthetics These scents anchor the space in its stylistic era, evoking memories while keeping the ambience current and fresh. ## **Industrial and Urban Interiors** ### **Strong Designs and Statement Scents** Industrial design favours exposed materials—think brick, metal, and concrete—with open floor plans and utilitarian charm. The fragrance that suits this style should be bold and structured, much like the space itself. ### **Recommended Fragrance Profiles** - **Leather and smoke** – Dark and moody, these notes add sophistication and a touch of edge to loft-style settings - **Metallic and mineral** – Unique and modern, these mimic the architectural materials at the heart of industrial design - **Coffee and spice** – Warm and robust, these aromas enhance the grit and energy of city living These fragrance choices bring texture and warmth to industrial spaces, elevating them from stark to sensorially rich. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/from-cosy-to-chic-matching-fragrances-to-interior-styles/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/from-cosy-to-chic-matching-fragrances-to-interior-styles/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [What to know about de facto before moving in with a partner?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-should-i-know-about-de-facto/) **Published:** April 4, 2025 **Author:** Nadia MacLeod **Content:** Deciding to move in with your significant other is a big step. A sign that you’re ready to commit to your partner and share your lives more intimately. In essence, you are agreeing to live as ‘man and wife’ without formally entering the institution of marriage. By moving in with your partner, you are entering a de facto relationship or de facto marriage. From a legal perspective, a de facto marriage is considered much the same as an actual marriage, especially when it comes to the division of property, caring for any children of the union and spousal maintenance. ***Further reading: [What is a pre-marital background check and why is it important.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pre-marital-background-check/)*** ## **The De Facto Myth** Many people believe that you automatically give up half of your assets to your partner once you’ve been living together for two years. This is incorrect. The Family Law Act (the *Act*) does not give any automatic right for one person to receive another person’s assets, even after two years of living together. What the *Act* does do, is allow the parties who have been in a de facto relationship (for over two years), to make an application to the court for orders to be made about how your assets and liabilities should be divided following a breakup. However, the *Act* does make some exceptions to the two-year minimum period, including where: - There is a child of the relationship. - The de facto relationship has been registered, and - Where one party has made substantial contributions to the other party. In those circumstances, the parties can make an application to the court even if the relationship lasted for less than two years. ## **Protecting What You Already Have in a De Facto Relationship** If you are concerned about the financial consequences of moving in with your partner, then you may want to consider a Cohabitation Agreement. In Australia, a cohabitation agreement is a type of financial agreement. A Financial agreement is the proper name given to an agreement between couples in a de facto relationship or contemplating a de facto relationship, or even after a de facto relationship (separation). Wherever we refer to a Cohabitation agreement, we are referring to a Financial Agreement, they are the same thing. Whilst the main effect of a financial agreement is to prevent either party from making an application to the Family Court for the division of property, negotiating a financial agreement encourages a couple to agree on how to divide their property in the event of, or following, separation. Financial agreements may deal with all or any of the parties’ property and financial resources, and also how maintenance would be paid. In general, cohabitation agreements suit couples where one or both parties come into the relationship with existing money, debt or other assets. For example, a young couple who are both starting with very little may not think they need a cohabitation agreement. Examples of relationships that could benefit from a cohabitation agreement include relationships where one or both parties: - Have children from a previous relationship, and they want to ensure that their existing assets are preserved for their children; - Have accumulated a significant amount of assets before beginning the relationship; - Expect to receive a significant inheritance or gifts during the relationship. - Are involved in a family business and want to ensure that a relationship breakdown would not interfere with the business; - Wish to quarantine themselves from the debt incurred by the other party - They are keen to avoid a court case to decide how their assets should be split in the future; and - Would like the security and certainty of understanding their future financial position if the relationship doesn’t continue for whatever reason. ## **A Cohabitation Financial Agreement** When you first consider a cohabitation agreement, your mind might instantly race to the negatives. Just when you’re in the throes of an exciting relationship and you’re either considering [moving in together](https://blog.hireahelper.com/my-practical-guide-to-making-moving-in-with-a-partner-sustainable-romantically-and-financially/) or you’re already living together, the last thing you want to do is sit down and have an awkward conversation about who gets what if you decide to break up. But think of it this way. When do you think two people would be in the best position to make life-changing decisions about the future: While feeling safe and secure in a happy relationship, or when tensions are high and emotions go haywire during a bitter breakup? ![De facto](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/De-facto-1200x800.png "De facto - Beanstalk Mums")The fact is that, if the relationship breaks down in the future, decisions will have to be made at some stage about the asset pool of the relationship. You could make them now while both of you are in a good place and can deal reasonably and respectfully with each other, or you can wait until after you’ve split. The best-case scenario, of course, is that your relationship goes from strength to strength and you never need to rely on a cohabitation agreement at all. In that case, at least you have had the peace of mind knowing you both would have been taken care of financially if you hadn’t been able to make it work. Other benefits of a cohabitation agreement include: - Relationship benefits, knowing that you and your partner can calmly and reasonably discuss matters of great importance; - No stress or confusion if moving in with a partner who owns a house - Peace of mind throughout the relationship, safe in the knowledge that you have had the all-important discussion about your finances and have come to a responsible decision; - A reduced risk of disagreements throughout the relationship, since money and lack of financial transparency are two of the most common causes of relationship problems. - The ability to avoid a lengthy and costly court case by relying on the provisions of your cohabitation agreement instead. - The freedom for you and your partner to make your own binding decisions about the future of your assets, rather than allowing a court to make decisions for you. ## **When to Make a Financial Agreement?** A Financial agreement can be created at any point in a relationship, from before you start living together, after you’ve moved in together, or even after you’ve separated. The best time to create a cohabitation agreement is as soon as possible after you decide to live together or start living together. The earlier you sit down and make decisions about the future of your finances should the relationship breakdown, the quicker you can finalise the matter and put the whole topic out of your mind, concentrating instead on enjoying your relationship together. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-should-i-know-about-de-facto/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/what-should-i-know-about-de-facto/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Relationships **Tags:** marriage, de facto, financial agreement, cohabitation --- ### [Finding the Right Anxiety Medication Online in  Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/finding-the-right-anxiety-medication-online-in-australia/) **Published:** April 1, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Anxiety can feel like an unwelcome guest that refuses to leave, especially when you’re a single mum trying to keep everything together. Maybe it’s that late-night worry spiral about bills, the endless to-do list that never seems to shrink, or the guilt of wanting just five minutes to yourself. It strikes when exhaustion has already set in, amplifying every challenge and making things feel ten times harder. But the good news is there are many ways to manage it, including therapy and medication for anxiety. I remember a time when my anxiety was at its worst. Late at night, my mind would race with endless worries about my child’s future, unpaid bills, and whether I was doing enough. It felt like I was constantly on edge, and no amount of deep breathing or chamomile tea could make it go away. That’s when I knew I needed help, and exploring [anxiety medication online in Australia](https://bursthealth.com.au/pages/anxiety) changed everything. If you’re struggling with anxiety, this guide is for you. Let’s explore different options to help you feel more in control of your mental well-being. ## **Understanding Anxiety Disorders and Their Impact** Anxiety disorder is a mental health condition that can affect every part of your life, from how you sleep to how you parent. Generalised anxiety disorder, social anxiety, and panic disorder are just a few types of anxiety that people experience. The symptoms of anxiety can include constant worrying, restlessness, difficulty sleeping, and even physical symptoms like muscle tension. If left untreated, it can lead to depression and anxiety becoming a long-term struggle. The good news is, there are treatments for anxiety disorders that can make a real difference. ## **Therapy: A Key Step in Managing Anxiety** Therapy is one of the most effective treatments for anxiety. Speaking to a mental health professional can help you understand the root causes of your anxiety and develop practical strategies to cope with it. Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) is a common approach used to treat and manage anxiety. CBT helps you identify unhelpful thinking patterns and replace them with healthier ones. Exposure therapy, another psychological therapy, is particularly effective for people dealing with severe anxiety or phobias. Working with a therapist can help you feel more in control and give you tools to ease your anxiety. ## **Medication for Anxiety: Is It Right for You?** Sometimes, therapy alone isn’t enough, and anxiety medication may be necessary to help treat anxiety. If your anxiety symptoms are severe, your GP or a professional might recommend medication. There are different types of anxiety medications online, including antidepressants like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and noradrenaline reuptake inhibitors (NRIs). Benzodiazepine medications are also prescribed in some cases, but they are not recommended for long-term use due to their potential for dependence. ### **Antidepressants and Their Role in Anxiety Treatment** Antidepressant medication is commonly used to treat anxiety and depression. These medications work by balancing serotonin and noradrenaline levels in the brain, helping to reduce anxiety and improve mood. Side effects may vary depending on the type of antidepressant you take, and it’s important to talk to your doctor before starting any medication. Some people may experience initial side effects like nausea or dizziness, but these often improve over time. ![anxiety medication online in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/E54b4951-063e-4aaf-979f-805339f461b0-1066x800.jpg "E54b4951-063e-4aaf-979f-805339f461b0 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Anxiety Medication Online cont… ### **Benzodiazepines: When Are They Used?** Doctors sometimes prescribe benzodiazepine medications to provide short-term relief from severe anxiety symptoms. These medications act quickly and can be highly effective, but they are unsuitable for long-term use. Since benzodiazepines can be addictive, they are only recommended for situations where other treatments haven’t worked. If your doctor prescribes them, they will likely also suggest other psychological treatments to help manage your anxiety in the long run. ## **Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) for Anxiety** Cognitive behavioural therapy is one of the most evidence-based treatments for anxiety disorders. It helps you change negative thought patterns that contribute to anxiety and replace them with healthier coping mechanisms. CBT is particularly helpful for treating generalised anxiety disorder and stress disorder. By learning stress management techniques and challenging anxious thoughts, CBT can help manage your anxiety in a way that lasts. ## **Lifestyle Changes to Help Reduce Anxiety** While medication and therapy are crucial, lifestyle changes can also play a big role in anxiety treatment. Exercise, a balanced diet, and good sleep hygiene can all help reduce anxiety and improve mental health. Techniques like muscle relaxation, mindfulness, and deep breathing exercises can also be beneficial. These small changes play a big role in helping you feel better again. ## **When to Seek Professional Help** If your anxiety is affecting your daily life, it’s important to talk to a mental health professional. They can help diagnose the type of anxiety you’re experiencing and recommend the best treatment options. Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a step towards feeling better. There are many medical professionals who specialise in treating anxiety and finding the right support can be life-changing. ## **Online Mental Health Resources for Single Mums** If you’re struggling to find time for therapy, online mental health resources can be a great alternative. Many Australian platforms offer cognitive behaviour therapy programs that you can do from home. Online therapy is convenient and often more affordable than in-person sessions. It’s a great option for single mums who need flexible anxiety treatment options. ## **Final Thoughts: Finding Anxiety Medication Online in Australia** Being a single mum is tough, and anxiety needs to be taken seriously. Whether you choose therapy, buying anxiety medication online, or lifestyle changes, what matters most is finding what works for you. Remember, help is available. Talk to your doctor, reach out to a professional, and [explore different treatments for anxiety.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-deal-with-mum-anxiety/) You deserve to feel calm, in control, and happy. Your mental well-being matters—not just for you but for your little one too. So take that first step, and know that brighter days are ahead! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/finding-the-right-anxiety-medication-online-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/finding-the-right-anxiety-medication-online-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing --- ### [Which is the best smartwatch for my child?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-smartwatch-child/) **Published:** March 29, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A smartwatch can be especially handy (excuse the pun) for kids. If you’re going to pay for them to have a smart device, knowing it is safely attached to their wrist is a good option. When it comes to choosing a smartwatch for your child, there are heaps of choices… which are both good and bad. Knowing where to start and what to buy can be overwhelming. For this reason, we’ve broken it down into an easy guide, including the following: - What is a smartwatch? - The benefits of smartwatches for kids - What to look for when buying a smartwatch for your child - Our pick of the best smartwatches for kids ***This article about smartwatches for kids was last updated in 2025*** [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/265212 "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77630?Url=https%3a%2f%2fspacetalk.co%2f) ***Thinking of getting your little one a phone? See: [Should I get my child a phone or not?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/should-i-get-my-child-a-phone/)*** ## **What is a smartwatch?** A smartwatch is like a mini mobile device that you wear on your wrist. Unlike adult versions, smartwatches for kids come with parental controls to track activity like screen time. These portable devices don’t just tell the time; they have built-in educational apps, games, cameras, and even texting and calling features. Kid-friendly smartwatches are designed for children as young as 3 years. ## **The benefits of smartwatches for kids** [Superwatches](https://www.superwatches.com/apple-watch-tips-and-trick/) for kids are like less powerful smartphones that give parents control but foster a child’s independence at the same time. Here’s why we love them: ### **Stay in touch with your kids** Smartwatches for kids let you keep in touch quickly and track their location. A smartwatch with a SIM card lets you contact them on the go; a GPS tells you their exact location, and SOS notifications alert you to emergency situations. ### **Keep them entertained** Smartwatches are packed with games, educational apps, music streaming and selfie cameras to keep little ones entertained. ### **Monitor screen time** Set screen time limits to keep kids focused on school and chores. If you’re worried about dangers like cyberbullying and online addiction, get a watch that doesn’t connect to the internet. ### **Establish healthy habits** Some smartwatches for kids have apps that encourage positive behaviours (like going to bed on time, brushing their teeth, completing chores) through rewards. ## **What to look for when buying a smartwatch** Before buying, figure out what features are most important to you and your child. Here’s a list of must-haves to help you make a decision: ### **Durability** Kids are tough on devices. Get a smartwatch that can withstand dirt, moisture, scratches and everyday use. ### **GPS** GPS is a great feature for parents who want to keep tabs on their child’s location. No need to text your kid every hour for their whereabouts; a GPS function lets you see it. ### **Emergency alerts** Safety is a priority, and SOS alerts tell you when your child is in potential danger. ### **Battery life** Battery life depends on use, and you want a watch that doesn’t lose juice quickly. Check the battery life on standby to get an idea of when you need to charge the device. ### **Extra features** Call and text, fitness tracking, games, reward apps, cameras and calculators are nice to have on top of the basics. ## **Our picks of the best smartwatches for kids** ## [**Gabb Watch 3e**](https://gabb.com/gabb-watch/ "Gabb Watch") Gabb Wireless is a standout choice for smartwatches that keep kids safe while still being heaps of fun. These gadgets ditch the internet, social media, and app stores, so kids can enjoy a distraction-free experience. With built-in call and text features plus GPS tracking, parents can easily keep an eye on their little ones. Gabb smartwatches are tough enough to handle everyday play and won’t break the bank, making them ideal for families. They also encourage healthy tech habits by limiting screen time. If you’re after a reliable, secure, and budget-friendly option for your child’s first wearable, Gabb is a winner. [![Gabb Watch 3e | smartwatch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Gabb-watch.png "Gabb watch - Beanstalk Mums")](https://gabb.com/gabb-watch/) ***GPS:** Yes* ***Fitness tracking:** Yes* ***Water resistant:** IP68 water-resistant* ***Battery life:** Rechargeable* ***What we like most:*** Wireless charging ## [**VTech Kidizoom Smartwatch MAX (Blue)**](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Z6bggK) We can see why the VTech Kidizoom is one of the top-rated smart watches for kids on Amazon. It’s durable, easy to use, and packed with fun features: games, activities, a voice-changer, a pedometer and a dual camera to snap selfies. Great for kids aged 4 years and up. [![VTech Kidizoom Smartwatch MAX (Blue)](https://assets.kogan.com/images/gamesmen/GMS-POS-205954/3-36fe6fbc9b-vtech_kidizoom_smart_watch_max_blue-3.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=1200.0%2C800.0&dpr=1.0&enable=upscale&fit=bounds&height=800&quality=90&width=1200)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/Z6bggK) ***GPS:** Yes* ***Fitness tracking:** No* ***Water resistant:** Waterproof* ***Battery life:** Rechargeable* ***What we like most:** Easy-to-use and fun smartwatch* ## [**Kogan Play 3 Kids Smartwatch (Pink)**](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/jeXqqM) The Kogan Play 3 Kids Smart Watch offers everyday health tracking to ensure your child’s well-being. It monitors heart rate, sleep patterns, stress, and SpO2 levels, providing valuable insights into their health. Parents can stay informed and help their kids maintain a healthy lifestyle with ease. [![Kogan Play 3 Kids Smartwatch (Pink)](https://assets.kogan.com/files/external/White_Label_Products/Kogan/KAPY3SWPNKA_1N.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/jeXqqM) ***GPS:** Yes* ***Fitness tracking:*** Yes ***Water resistant:** Yes* ***Battery life:** Up to 8 days of battery life!* ***What we like most:** Real-time tracking with GPS, cellphone signal and Wi-Fi* ## [**Spacetalk Loop 4G Smartwatch**](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77630?Url=https%3a%2f%2fspacetalk.co%2fproducts%2fspacetalk-loop-smartwatch-1) Spacetalk Loop is packed with features to keep your child safe and connected. It includes GPS tracking for real-time location updates, an emergency SOS button, and talk, text, and call functions, all within a comfortable, durable design with strong Gorilla Glass and a flexible strap in 4 stylish colours and 13 variations. With a school mode to minimise distractions and no access to social media or the web, *Loop* lets kids enjoy the freedom of connection in a secure, kid-friendly way. [![Spacetalk Kids Smartwatch ](https://spacetalk.co/cdn/shop/files/LoopWebsiteAssets_Frost-front.png?v=1721612751&width=1000)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/77630?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.spacetalkwatch.com%2f) ***GPS:** Yes* ***Fitness tracking:** Step counter* ***Water resistant:** No* ***Battery life:** Depends on use* ***What we like most:** No social media or web browser* ## [**Moochies Odyssey 4G Smartwatch**](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/RGPekX) If communication is your main concern, the Moochies Odyssey is worth considering. Kids can make and receive calls and texts, but only from people on a contact list that you approve. Two-way video calling is supported, and there’s a GPS to track location. The core functions of voice and video calling, GPS tracking, and messaging have been joined by educational games, music integration, step tracking, and heart rate and temperature monitoring. [![Moochies smartwatch for kids](https://assets.kogan.com/images/4gforce/GFO-5060623281977/2-b0d7476ea0-moochies-odyssey-4g-smartwatch-phone-for-kids-black-bundle-bonus-blue-strap-screen-protector-1.jpg?auto=webp&bg-color=fff&canvas=753%2C502&fit=bounds&height=502&quality=90&width=753)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/RGPekX) ***GPS:** Yes* ***Fitness tracking:** Yes* ***Water resistant:** Yes* ***Battery life:** Depends on use* ***What we like most:** Solid communication and GPS tracking features* ## **[DGTEC Smart Watch with Wireless Earbuds](https://bigw.sjv.io/ra45ZD "DGTEC Smart Watch with Wireless Earbuds")** The DGTEC Smartwatch with Wireless Earbuds has many features, including connecting with your smartphone for Bluetooth calling. Music playback control is available when you are on the go. 22 Multisport modes that enable you to keep track of your fitness goals in a variety of sports. On top of that, it comes with a heart rate monitor to further help track your fitness. [![DGTEC Kids Smartwatch](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h74/h12/47791892463646.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/ra45ZD) ***GPS:*** Yes ***Fitness tracking:** Yes* ***Water resistant:** Yes* ***Battery Life:** Depends on use* ***What we like most:*** Bluetooth single-chip voice calling, so they can answer on the go. ## **Last words on the best smartwatches for kids** Ultimately, choosing the best smartwatch for your child comes down to what matters most to you and your family. Whether it’s safety features like GPS tracking and SOS buttons, the ability to stay connected through calls and texts, or a focus on simplicity without social media or browsing, there’s a smartwatch to suit every need. Each of the six watches reviewed here offers unique advantages, from basic models for young children to more advanced options for older kids ready for extra features. It can be a great way to keep your child safe and connected, adding convenience, peace of mind, and a bit of fun to everyday life. ![This image has an empty alt attribute; its file name is smartwatch2.png](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Image-533x800.png "Undefined - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-smartwatch-child/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/best-smartwatch-child/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping **Tags:** device, phone, watch, smartwatch, gps, tracker --- ### [The Ultimate Guide to Selling Property During a Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-ultimate-guide-to-selling-property-during-a-divorce/) **Published:** March 27, 2025 **Author:** Jillian Zhang **Content:** Unfortunately, going through a divorce is both an emotionally and financially difficult experience, made more difficult by the division of a couple’s assets. Although this may be a streamlined process for some couples, others find it extremely difficult to split their property without seeking professional assistance. There are many types of property that often need to be divided when a couple is going through a breakup. Therefore, it is first important to consider which types of property need to be split. This may include real property, investments, personal items, vehicles, retirement or superannuation funds and cash and/or bank accounts. However, this article will focus on the division of real [property](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/family-law/property-settlements/), which includes vacation homes and family residences. ## **How to divide property** If the property is owned by both parties, there are two options for couples to choose from when deciding how to best dispose of the asset. For example, couples can either: 1. Sell the property and pay the costs of the sale and split the proceeds, and/or 2. Have one spouse buy out the other spouse and become the sole owner of the property. ## **How to sell property during a divorce** Before making the decisions on these options, they should undergo three key steps: 1. Determine the value of the property 2. Establish whether the property can be sold at a price that will pay off the remaining mortgage 3. Understand how the profit will be divided amongst the couple should the property be sold with a surplus, which is above the cost of paying off the mortgage The final step often creates genuine issues, which can be difficult to resolve, as occasionally, one partner feels as though they are entitled to more than half of the proceeds from the sale of the real property. To help decipher how to divide the cash asset from the sale of the home, several factors should be considered. These include: - The contributions of both parties to the relationship, including financial contributions, non-financial contributions and contributions to the welfare of the family; and - The future needs of each party, e.g. the earning potential of each party, the income disparity of the parties. Overall, it is always best if these decisions can be made by the couple themselves in an informal environment. Although the couple may find it necessary to put the agreement in writing to secure a financial agreement. ***Further reading: [The Power of Mediation in Property Division Post-Separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/the-power-of-mediation-in-property-division-post-separation/ "The Power of Mediation in Property Division Post-Separation")*** ![selling property during a divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/383dd4bc-463c-4d2e-907a-cf6883ec774d-1066x800.jpg "383dd4bc-463c-4d2e-907a-cf6883ec774d - Beanstalk Mums") If the couple is unable to form an agreement by themselves, the couple may opt to seek such orders from the Court for a judge to determine. Although couples should be aware that this option is costly and time-consuming, and thus, it is recommended that couples try to come to an informal or written financial agreement by themselves. After a couple has decided on the proceeds from the sale of a jointly owned real property, they should put the property on the market. Within this, both parties must agree to make the property available for inspections to potential buyers. The couple should also move through the selling process in a cooperative manner. Once the sale has occurred, the assets from the sale of the property will be divided between the parties as agreed upon. From this, the parties can move forward. Selling property during a divorce can be extremely difficult. Thus, good planning and getting professional assistance can make the process much easier for all involved. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-ultimate-guide-to-selling-property-during-a-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/the-ultimate-guide-to-selling-property-during-a-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation, Property Settlement --- ### [Self-Managed Super Funds and Family Law](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/self-managed-super-funds-and-family-law/) **Published:** March 27, 2025 **Author:** Jillian Zhang **Content:** Going through a separation or divorce is stressful in various ways, with many interconnecting assets and things to consider. For example, parties may need to think about joint business holdings, physical assets, joint ownership of property, not to mention the emotionally charged consideration of children. Alongside these factors, couples who are undergoing a breakup also need to consider superannuation, as they may have individual superannuation holdings or may be jointly operating their own [Self-Managed Super Funds (SMSF)](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/business-support/setting-up-smsf/). This, along with all other assets, will need to be distributed to both parties. ## **Timeframes to consider** When considering the division of superannuation, including SMSF, parties need to consider relevant timeframes, i.e. limitation period. For example, a party who was in a marriage must make a claim for superannuation within 12 months of divorce. Whereas parties who were in a de facto relationship must make a claim within 2 years of separation, and must have been in that relationship for a minimum of 2 years, unless the parties have a child or children from that relationship, in which case the requirement of being together for 2 years is void. ## **Dividing the assets of an SMSF: Fair and equitable** If the parties have reached an agreement, they can decide to establish their own [financial agreement](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/financial-disclosures-separate/ "financial agreement") in relation to apportioning assets or allow the Court to do this for them by way of a consent order. Whilst a 50:50 split of this fund is possible, it is not always finalised this way, as it is the overall distribution of joint assets that matters. Regardless, once a split has been decided on, there are established processes that must be followed to make enquiries to the trustee of the fund. Within an SMSF, it is possible that an individual in the breakup is also the trustee of the fund. Should this be the case, decisions need to be made to facilitate appropriate distribution, depending on the assets held – cash, shares or property. ![self-managed super funds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/2b6e365f-2fe0-446f-b977-6b0272c04c7f-1066x800.jpg "2b6e365f-2fe0-446f-b977-6b0272c04c7f - Beanstalk Mums") Should an individual in the breakup prefer to receive non-superannuation assets or assets held within the superannuation structure, their individual circumstances will be considered. This will be in relation to their age and proximity to retirement. However, one fact remains unchanged, and that is that assets within an SMSF or any other type of fund must remain within superannuation. This means that unless in compliance with Superannuation laws, assets from within the fund cannot be cashed out. A singular person may not operate an SMSF as a sole trustee. Thus, should one party leave, it may be required to re-establish the fund through using a corporate trustee. This means that the remaining member will be the director. After the distribution of the funds has been decided for an individual, they may choose to create a new interest within the same fund. Although this is possible, this option may be difficult should the nature of the separation be acrimonious. However, where a transfer to another complying SMSF is made, proper procedures must be followed to avoid a Capital Gains Tax event. The division of assets of an SMSF can be tedious, thus, it is essential that sound professional advice is obtained to ensure the process is as streamlined as possible. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/self-managed-super-funds-and-family-law/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/self-managed-super-funds-and-family-law/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Separation --- ### [How to Deal with Mum Anxiety: Coping with Motherhood Stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-deal-with-mum-anxiety/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Is there anything in life that can beat being a single mum? It is indeed a journey full of love, cheers, and, of course, a fair share of stress. Some days, juggling a million things at once is overwhelming, and mum anxiety can sneak in. Once it creeps in, everything feels a little (or a lot) overwhelming. If this is you, know that you are not alone in it because everyone struggles with anxious thoughts now and then. So, let’s have a look at how to deal with mum anxiety. Prioritising your mental well-being is just as important as looking after your little one(s), and the good news is, that there are practical ways to deal with and ease anxiety. In this article, I will list some very simple, effective strategies to help make you feel more balanced, when to seek the extra support an amazing mother like you deserves, and how to navigate that with confidence. Hang in there, Mum; you are doing great, and let’s make sure you feel good doing it! ## **Recognising Anxiety in Motherhood** It’s tricky to acknowledge anxiety because we mums often fall into the trap of believing stress is just part of the deal. Anxiety symptoms can range from constant worry to physiological signs like heart palpitations or disrupted sleep. Recognising these signs is the first critical step towards dealing with anxiety effectively. I initially brushed off my anxious thoughts as simple parenting jitters. But when these thoughts escalated, I realised they were negatively impacting my mental health. The quicker you recognise anxiety, the faster you can find strategies to cope and be in control. ## **Tips on How to Deal with Mum Anxiety** Simple, everyday habits can make a world of difference. Things like taking a few minutes for yourself, moving your body, practising deep breathing, and learning to say “no” when you need to can really help take the edge off tension. Personally, adding a quick meditation to my day worked wonders—it gave me a moment to breathe, reset, and feel a little more in control. Another important tip is to maintain a support network. Find support among friends, family, or even online parenting communities like the [Beanstalk Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). Trust me, having someone to talk to when you start feeling anxious is invaluable. ## **The Impact of Anxiety on Parenting** Anxiety isn’t just tough on mums; it can also affect kids. They pick up on the tension, and when you are overwhelmed, they can feel it, too. That was a big wake-up call for me. Realising how my own anxiety could impact my child pushed me to get the support I needed and find ways to cope. Taking care of your mental health helps you be the best parent you can be. When you manage your anxiety, it makes your days a little easier and creates a calmer, more secure environment for your child to grow and thrive. ## **When to Seek Professional Help** Sometimes, dealing with anxiety on your own just isn’t enough—and that’s totally okay. Talking to a therapist or a licensed psychologist can really help when things start to feel overwhelming. A good therapist, especially one who understands the ups and downs of motherhood, can give you practical tools to work through anxiety and help you feel more like yourself again. [You don’t have to figure it all out alone.](https://singlemamaway.com) For me, that first therapy session was a turning point. It didn’t mean I was helpless. I realised that I was taking charge of my mental health. Remember, getting professional help is a step toward feeling better, not a sign of failure. ## **Setting Boundaries to Reduce Anxiety** I know it’s easy to put everyone else’s needs first, but that can quickly lead to burnout. For me, setting boundaries around work and family time significantly [reduced my stress levels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/ "reduced my stress levels"). It helped me feel more in control and less overwhelmed. Boundaries are necessary, not selfish. They give you the space to breathe, recharge, and handle life without feeling constantly stretched too thin. ![how to deal with mum anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/806bcdbb-b9f7-4b0a-ba68-f46ea8cdfce5-1066x800.jpg "806bcdbb-b9f7-4b0a-ba68-f46ea8cdfce5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to Deal With Mum Anxiety (cont.)** ## **Coping Strategies for Anxiety** Finding ways to cope with stress is super important. Simple things like deep breathing, journaling, or getting creative can really help calm your mind. Even small changes—like getting enough sleep or tweaking your diet—can make a big difference in keeping stress in check. When I start feeling anxious, I find writing down my thoughts helps me clear my mind and feel less overwhelmed. These evidence-based practices are extremely helpful for handling daily anxiety and keeping a sense of balance. ## **The Role of Therapy in Managing Anxiety** Talking to a therapist who understands anxiety gave me real, practical ways to handle stress. Techniques like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) helped me challenge negative thoughts. Therapy provides learning tools that make everyday life easier and help anxiety feel less overwhelming. ## **Overcoming Fear** Fear can make anxiety spiral fast. It leaves you feeling stuck or overwhelmed. But taking small steps to face those fears can help you feel more in control and confident. At first, it’s uncomfortable. But over time, it gets easier. Therapy helped me tackle fears in a way that felt safe, and little by little, anxiety lost its grip on me. ## **Why Professional Help Matters** Talking to a therapist or psychologist can help you uncover deeper causes of anxiety. It can be a past trauma, hormonal imbalances, or something else affecting your well-being. Mila, a single mother of two teenagers, said that working with a specialist who understood anxiety made a huge difference. They gave her clarity and practical coping strategies tailored to her personal experiences. It helped her overcome struggles in a way that actually worked for her. ## **Creating a Support System** Having a solid support system can make a huge difference when dealing with anxiety. Reach out to loved ones, join a support group, or connect with other working mums who truly get it. Just knowing you’re not in it alone can be a huge relief. For me, finding people who understood what I was going through was a game-changer. Being able to vent, swap tips, and just have someone say, “Yeah, I’ve been there too,” made everything feel a little easier to handle. ## **Building Resilience in Motherhood** Building resilience is all about learning to bounce back from tough situations. Things like mindfulness, regular self-care, and staying active can really help strengthen your emotional well-being. I’ve found that resilience doesn’t mean never feeling anxious; it’s about handling it healthily. Learning how to deal with anxiety has made me a better parent and a stronger role model for my kids. ## **Final Thoughts on Managing Anxiety as a Mum** If you think handling anxiety is about getting rid of stress completely, think again. It’s about facing it head-on in a way that works for you. Motherhood can be tough, but with the right tools and support from the people you trust most, you can get through it and still thrive. Every little step counts. So remember to make time for yourself, talk to a therapist, and lean on other mums who get it. Trust me, it all helps. You’re not in this alone, and it’s never too late to start feeling better! You deserve to feel happy, confident, and in control—and your kids deserve that version of you too. ![Mum anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Mum-anxiety.png "Mum anxiety - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-deal-with-mum-anxiety/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-deal-with-mum-anxiety/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** anxiety, stress, worry, anxious, meditate --- ### [9 Earth Month Activities for a Better Planet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/9-earth-month-activities/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** April is Earth Month, a time to reflect on how we care for our planet. This year’s Earth Day theme, *Our Power. Our Planet.*, reminds us that every small action adds up. As single mums, our plates are already overflowing, but that doesn’t mean we can’t contribute to environmental protection. The truth is, we *do* have power, more than we realise. And the choices we make today shape the world our kids will inherit. Here are some simple but powerful Earth Month activities that kids will love. The best thing? These activities are simple enough for you to do them year long. ## What is Earth Month and Why Participate in Earth Month Activities? Earth Month is a time dedicated to raising awareness and taking action for the environment. It originated from Earth Day project, with the official Earth Day falling on April 22nd. Earth Day is an annual celebration that began in 1970 in the United States as a response to increasing pollution and environmental destruction. Over the decades, it has grown into a global movement, with millions of people participating in events and initiatives to protect our planet. Now, Earth Month extends the spirit of Earth Day throughout April, encouraging ongoing efforts toward sustainability and climate action. In Australia, Earth Month gained traction in the early 2000s, with schools, organisations, and community groups incorporating environmental initiatives throughout April. It has since become a widely recognised time to focus on sustainability, conservation, and climate action, with events like tree planting, beach cleanups, and awareness campaigns happening across Australia. Here are some of the best Earth Month activities for the whole family: ## 9 Fun Earth Month Activities to Help the Environment ## Join a Local Cleanup Drive There’s something powerful about seeing a space transform before your eyes. Whether it’s a park, a beach, or just your local footpath, every little bit counts. I’m 100% sure there will be Earth Day activities on April 22 everywhere. I’m also pretty sure there will be [cleanups](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/clean-up-australia-day/). My little girl and I celebrated Earth Day 2024 – her first Earth Day celebration – by joining a local clean-up to combat ocean pollution. While she mostly played with the sticks and dirt, it was a beautiful moment, watching strangers come together to fight pollution, filling bin after bin with rubbish. We know that for once, we were *giving* back to the planet this Earth Month instead of just taking from it. Plus, fresh air and a bit of exercise never hurt! ![Fun Earth Month Activities to Help the Environment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-51.png "In article image 51 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Start Composting If you’ve ever felt a pang of guilt tossing out food scraps, composting is the antidote. It’s a quiet, almost magical way to help the planet. You watch waste turn into something rich and life-giving. I started my bokashi when I realised how much food was wasted during mealtimes (half a banana here, a single bite from an apple there, coffee beans on coffee filters). At first, it felt like another chore, but over time, it became a small act of care, a reminder that nothing in nature truly goes to waste. Your kid’s Earth Day art can even be turned into fertiliser! You can also check out vermicomposting and create your at-home ecosystem of earthworms. You can even turn paper scraps into organic matter. ## Switch Off Your Lights on Earth Hour [Earth Hour](https://www.earthhour.org.au) is more than just switching off lights; it’s a statement. Millions of people around the world joined in pausing for just an hour last March, but no one’s stopping you from doing the same on April 22 too. The first time I did this with my little girl, she was more excited about playing with the flashlight than the actual message behind it, but that’s okay. You can use this hour to cuddle with your child for bedtime stories, playing instruments, or having a (soy) candlelight dinner. These little traditions plant seeds, and one day, they’ll sprout into something bigger. By switching off the lights, we can also teach kids about fossil fuels and alternative energy. ## Fun and Easy Earth Month Activities for Planet Earth (cont.) ## Planetary Diet for a Month I won’t lie: I used to be all-in on the plant-based lifestyle. And while I no longer label myself, I *do* believe that eating more plants is known to be one of the easiest ways to show kindness to the planet. It’s important to know you don’t have to go fully vegan, but even swapping out meat a few times a week helps. Try a “Meatless Monday” or experiment with new vegetarian recipes this month. One of my go-to lazy dinners is chickpea and tofu curry. It’s cheap, easy, and (miraculously) my three-year-old actually eats it! ## Start Your Backyard Garden There’s something deeply grounding about planting a seed and watching it grow into a seedling. Even if you don’t have space for a full veggie patch, a few pots of herbs can be a great start. The first time my daughter saw a tiny sprout break through the soil, her eyes lit up like it was magic. And maybe it *is* magic: our own little hands-on way of working with nature instead of against it. You can also scatter seed bombs to germinate in your community garden. Get your hands dirty! ![Fun and Easy Earth Month Activities for Planet Earth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-50.png "In article image 50 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Zero Waste Challenge A zero-waste lifestyle can feel overwhelming, but starting small makes it manageable. Try a “no single-use plastic” challenge for a month. Bring your own bags, say no to plastic straws, and pack snacks in reusable containers. Recycle your kid’s botched artwork. My first attempt at this was a disaster (forgot my bags every single time), but once I got into the habit, it became second nature. And let’s be real: half the battle is just remembering! ## Fun Earth Month Activities for Kids to Get Involved (cont.) ## Political Action Advocacy over environmental issues doesn’t have to be complicated. Let’s face it: as single mums and little kids, who has time for full-blown activism? Signing petitions, emailing local MPs, and supporting eco-friendly policies can make a real difference. Even having conversations with our kids about why these issues matter helps create a future generation that cares. My niece once asked the cashier why we needed so many plastic bags at the shops. Good question, kid! Turns out, little voices can spark big change. ![Fun Earth Month Activities for Kids to Get Involved](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-49.png "In article image 49 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Buy Secondhand Fast fashion is a huge contributor to environmental damage, and kids outgrow clothes at an alarming rate. Buying secondhand is one of the best budget-friendly and eco-friendly ways to keep garbage off the landfill. Op shops, Facebook Marketplace, and clothing swaps with other mums are great places to find quality clothes without the hefty price tag. Last fall, I snagged a beautiful, barely-worn winter coat for my daughter at an op shop for just $5. It felt like a small win for both my wallet and the planet. ## Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle for School Projects Kids love getting creative and show off their design skills. Earth Month is a great time to introduce them to recycling and upcycling. Instead of buying new craft supplies for art projects, encourage your little ones to use what’s already at home: cardboard boxes, tin cans, old magazines, and egg cartons. Last year, my nephew made a rocket ship out of toilet paper rolls and an old shoebox with printable images printed on scrap paper for his science project. It wasn’t perfect, but he was so proud of it and kept some trash from the recycling bin. Schools often encourage using recycled materials, so you get two big thumbs up from Mother Earth. Other unused stuff you can’t upcycle you can take to a recycling centre or an op shop. ## Final Thoughts: Kid-Friendly Earth Month Activities If you want to involve your kids in Earth Month activities, keep things fun and simple. It doesn’t have to be a puzzle. Make a bird feeder from an old milk carton, have a “nature scavenger hunt” at the park, or challenge them to turn off lights when they leave a room. The goal isn’t perfection but progress. This Earth Month, let’s remind ourselves that small actions *do* matter. Educate yourself and your child on the dangers of balloons to animal life and their habitats. Teach about the endless benefits of recycling and being a mindful of our consumption. Protect plants and animals in our daily life. We may not always see the impact immediately, but one day, when our kids grow up in a world that’s just a little bit greener, we’ll know. We played a part in that. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/9-earth-month-activities/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/9-earth-month-activities/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [9 Tips on How to Make Good Decisions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-good-decisions-that-you-dont-worry-about-later/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Calling the shots can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re juggling the responsibilities of being a single mum. Believe me, I’ve been there—standing frozen in the cereal aisle, totally unsure if I should go healthy or grab the sugary stuff to prevent another breakfast battle! It’s not just cereal, though. it is those big moments too, like determining whether to pursue a new profession or picking the perfect school for your kiddos. Each decision seems loaded with pressure, especially when you are steering the ship alone. In this guide, I won’t judge you for the cereal picks, promise! Instead, I’ll walk you through practical, real-life strategies to simplify the tough calls. Together, we’ll take a deep breath and learn how to make good decisions that put you back in the driver’s seat, feeling empowered and ready to tackle whatever comes next. ## **Why is Good Decision Making Important?** Decision-making is one of those sneaky skills nobody teaches you, but it literally impacts your whole life! I remember panicking over selecting a daycare for my daughter. Would picking the wrong place scar her forever? Spoiler alert: it didn’t. But that experience taught me decisions don’t just affect us, they ripple through to our kids’ futures, our financial stability, and even our mental peace. And let’s be honest, decision fatigue is real, especially after a long day chasing toddlers! Luckily, understanding [what makes a choice good or bad](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/bloody-good-life-choices/) can reduce so much anxiety and improve outcomes. ## **What Are the Key Steps to Making Good Decisions?** It isn’t just picking option A or B (though sometimes I wish it were that simple—like choosing between chocolate or vanilla ice cream!). It requires pausing, taking a step back, weighing the pros and cons, and taking decisive action. You know, like scribbling down those pros and cons lists at midnight when the kids are finally asleep! The best possible decisions come from a combination of logic, past experiences (even the not-so-great ones), and a good dash of mum instinct. Your gut feeling counts big time! By getting the hang of this process, you will decide with more confidence, knowing you’ve considered every angle. ## **How Can You Choose Your Options Effectively?** One of my favourite go-to (and the most helpful) approaches is the good old-fashioned list of pros and cons! Seriously, it is a lifesaver. I still remember scribbling frantically on a napkin in a café, trying to determine whether moving closer to family was worth the chaos (it totally was!). This straightforward method cuts through the noise and assists you in seeing what’s at stake with each decision. Plus, there’s something super satisfying about seeing everything neatly laid out in front of you. By carefully weighing each outcome, you will find yourself making confident decisions, even when life feels anything but simple! ## **What Role Does Stress Play in Making Decisions?** Stress can cloud judgment and choosing can feel more complicated than it already is. When you are under pressure, it is easy to rush into a decision that isn’t the best one. Taking care of your mental health by sticking to a routine and opening up to close friends or family can guide you in seeing things more clearly. ![make good decisions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/059ae639-7f2c-4405-8b1b-523aeeeb94bc-1066x800.jpg "059ae639-7f2c-4405-8b1b-523aeeeb94bc - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why Does Seeking Advice Matter?** It is easy to want to decide on your own, but getting feedback or a second opinion can be a game-changer. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a counselling website like [The Single Mama Way](https://singlemamaway.com/), an outside perspective can help you spot things you might have missed. ## **How Can You Avoid Poor Decision-Making?** Based on past experiences, poor decisions came from jumping in too fast or conveniently ignoring the red flags waving in front of me. Like that time, I bought a flashy (and totally impractical!) sofa because it was on sale, completely forgetting I had toddlers with markers. Yikes! The secret to avoiding these facepalm moments is pretty simple: slow down, consider important factors, and follow a structured course of action. Start by setting clear goals, gathering all the necessary data (Google is your friend here!), and making sure your decision truly aligns with your core values. Your future self will thank you! ## **What Techniques Help in High-Stakes Decisions?** Not all decisions are created equal. Some carry a greater impact than others. Picking out tonight’s dinner is definitely easier than thinking about a career change. I once spent days wondering if switching careers would totally derail my life (it didn’t, thankfully!). For these big, scary choices, having a structured approach can break down the process and execute the best possible pick. ## **How Can You Trust Yourself More?** Believing in your decision-making capability takes a bit of practice (and maybe a few epic fails!). If you tend to second-guess yourself like me, like at that time, I changed holiday plans three times before finally settling (and yep, the first pick was best!). One trick I’ve learned? Remind yourself of past decisions that turned out great. Celebrate those little victories! Over time, you will realise your instincts are actually pretty awesome. Trusting your gut but still checking in with logic is the secret. Keep practising, believe in yourself more, and soon enough, you’ll be making decisions like a pro! ## **How Can You Improve Your Decision-Making Ability?** Being a good decision-maker doesn’t only mean getting one thing right; it is also about acquiring skills you can whip out whenever life puts you in difficult situations. My cousin learned this the hard way when she impulsively bought a puppy (adorable, yes, practical, not so much!). But honestly, developing greater awareness, finding techniques that actually work, and recognising when negative influences (hello, late-night online shopping!) are clouding your judgment can reduce bad outcomes. With this functional expertise in hand, you’ll feel more prepared and way less burdened, no matter what tricky decisions come your way. ## **Final Thoughts: What’s the Best Way to Make Good Decisions?** Every decision—good or bad—teaches you something valuable. Looking back can sharpen your decision-making abilities. The important thing is to recognise what worked and what didn’t and use that insight to make even better decisions moving forward. Good decision-making takes practice, but every move you make helps you grow more confident and clear-headed. Life throws plenty of uncertainty and challenges your way, but with the proper mindset, you can handle tough decisions more smoothly. Believe in yourself, ask for advice when you need it, and stay true to what matters most to you. No choice will ever be perfect, but as long as you are thinking things through, you’re moving in the right direction. You’ve got this, Mum! ![How to make good decisions that you don’t worry about later | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/How-to-make-good-decisions.png "How to make good decisions - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-good-decisions-that-you-dont-worry-about-later/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-make-good-decisions-that-you-dont-worry-about-later/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** decision making, choosing, writing lists, having faith --- ### [Bonding Time! Exciting Easter Activities for Kids and Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-activities-for-kids-and-mums/) **Published:** March 24, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As a child, Easter has always been one of the best holidays for me. It has always been colourful as there’s always paint and crayons involved. And of course, the chocolates! But what I remember the most fondly are all the simple yet meaningful activities I did with my family that I want to recreate now that I’m a mum. If you’re looking for new ideas on how to spend this holiday this year, here are nine Easter activities for kids and mums to share. ## Fun Easter Activities for Kids and Mums ## Easter Egg Scavenger Game First in our list is the classic Easter egg hunt game! I have heaps of fond memories of spending entire Sunday mornings searching the gardens at the church for hidden plastic eggs with tiny gifts and sweets. I even had an Easter basket where I would place the plastic Easter eggs I had collected. You can still have an Easter scavenger hunt even if you’re staying indoors. For toddlers, set up an Easter sensory bin with colourful kinetic sand and bury the eggs in it. Take things up a notch by hiding smaller sand bins in different parts of your house. Each bin will have eggs that contain a clue for the location of the next bin. They will have to find all the bins to get the final prize. ## Easter Games Eggs are one of the quintessential symbols of Easter, so egg-themed games, like egg and spoon race or pin the tail on the bunny, could be a great bonding activity with school age or younger children. This game is perfect for a big group, so invite your child’s cousins and friends for some friendly competition. ![Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-35.png "In article image 35 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Get Colouring Getting their hands messy, whether it’s colouring or kneading dough, is fun and also beneficial to early childhood development. Next in our list of fun activities, colouring books are the one of the easiest Easter activities for children and you don’t have to spend anything. You most likely have crayons or paintbrushes in your child’s study and there are lots of [free printable Easter colouring pages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/printable-easter-colouring-pages/) for every age group. Bunny, eggs, chicks, and flowers are easy choices for younger kids. For older kids, you can paint a plaster Easter bunny or a simple Easter stained glass. You can also set up an egg painting activity using natural dye. ![Fun Easter Activities for Kids and Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-40.png "In article image 40 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Easter Crafts Making [handmade Easter art](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) is also a great bonding activity between kids and mum. Get creative using recycled stuff like egg cartons, tissue paper, shredded paper, or whatever else is available to make paper eggs or paper squishy rabbits. Crafts keep them busy, but make sure to sit down with them. True bonding means you’re doing things together and accomplishing things together. ![Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-36.png "In article image 36 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Dough Activities Playdough is always fun sensory activity even for adults. Make sure you use edible dough to stay safe. Here’s a [Peeps Playdough recipe](https://www.peepsbrand.com/recipes/peeps-playdough/) using Peeps marshmallows to get you started. If you’re looking for more long-lasting crafts that you don’t have to discard as soon as Easter is over, I highly recommend 2D baked ornaments. You’ll need [edible playdough](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/9528/ornament-dough/) cut using spring-themed cookie cutters and stamps like rabbits and flowers. ![Fun Easter Activities for Kids and Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-43.png "In article image 43 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids (cont.) ## Chocolate Eggs You and your kid will love this sweet activity. Take Easter as an opportunity to do kitchen experiments with your child. Making chocolates is a great STEM activity … and also you have chocolates at the end! This year, my daughter and I will make [peanut butter eggs](https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/peanut-butter-eggs/), but with the trendy pistachio crunch inside. Exciting! ![Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-38.png "In article image 38 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Hot Cross Buns Since we’re in the kitchen already, baking is one of the best bonding activities that are also educational. Your toddler learns fine motor skills. Your school-age kid learns about measurements. And everyone develops patience. Plus, you get to spend a looooong time together in the kitchen. This traditionally Easter bread is the perfect bonding moment for you and your kid this today. Your child will love to do the honour of cutting the cross at the top … just make sure to watch closely. I love this [recipe from RecipeTinEats](https://www.recipetineats.com/hot-cross-buns-recipe/) because there are different options depending on your equipment. I have made all three, but the first one is the best version for me. ![Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-37.png "In article image 37 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Easter-themed Puzzle Solving puzzles was my ultimate bonding activity with my mum growing up. This helps develop problem-solving skills while having a lot of time to talk and catch up. There are nice E[aster themed 1000-piece sets](https://www.jigsawstore.com.au/?rf=kw&kw=easter) available online that your child will enjoy, but check out your local library first to see if you can borrow one for free. ![Favourite Easter Activities for Mums and Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-39.png "In article image 39 - Beanstalk Mums")## Watch a Movie At the end of the day, movies are always an incredible bonding time for kids and parents to cap the day off. Growing up, my family watched The Ten Commandments on VHS every Easter Sunday. Me and my siblings could sit through that almost four-hour long film because, well, we didn’t have a choice. Thankfully, now, we have a greater selection of [Easter movies to choose from](https://www.today.com/popculture/movies/easter-movies-rcna67285). You can let your little one pick the movie on Netflix or Prime. Cuddle in bed with mugs of hot chocolate. Always, the best way to end Easter. ![Fun Easter Activities for Kids and Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/In-article-image-41.png "In article image 41 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final Thoughts: Easy Easter Activities for Kids’ and Mums’ Bonding Easter is more than just chocolates and eggs. It’s about creating with your kids a bond that never stops or ends. Whether you’re painting eggs, baking hot cross buns, or simply snuggling up for a movie, the best moments are the ones spent together. As a mum, I love that these simple activities for Easter give us a chance to slow down, laugh, and truly connect. The thing is, it doesn’t have to be perfect or Pinterest-worthy … just real and filled with love. So, whatever you choose to do this Easter, embrace the mess, enjoy the giggles, explore craft ideas, and make it a holiday that you and your child will remember forever. **Further Reading:** - **[10 Free printable Easter colouring pages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/printable-easter-colouring-pages/)** - [**15 Fabulous Easter crafts your kids (and you) will love**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) - [**10 Budget-friendly new Easter traditions**](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/10-budget-friendly-new-easter-traditions/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-activities-for-kids-and-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/easter-activities-for-kids-and-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Easter --- ### [Why Your Favourite Bra Wears Out Too Fast (And How to Make It Last)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-your-favourite-bra-always-wears-out-too-fast/) **Published:** March 21, 2025 **Author:** Lauren Mitchell **Content:** Have you ever noticed how your favourite bra, the one that’s good for any occasion, fails just when you need it the most? It doesn’t matter what’s happened. The strap breaks, the cups are worn out, the bands are overstretched, or it simply no longer feels right. You are going to feel frustrated and that’s okay. It’s not the bra’s fault. You just need to know why this happens. It makes it easier to prevent your favourite bra from wearing out too fast. That’s what we’re here to help with. ## **Top Reasons You’re Bra Is Wearing Out Too Fast** If you’re like us, you’re probably guilty of making most of these mistakes. But, hey! You’re busy and, despite being an important part of any outfit, it’s not usually the one you spend the most time thinking about. ### **You’ve Just Worn It Too Much** Everything wears out eventually. The more you use it the faster this will happen. Look at it this way, every time you ask a bra to support you you’re placing its elasticity under load. If you wear the same bra every day, that elastic never gets time to fully shrink. In other words, like you, it’s constantly stressed. We recommend you rotate your bras. Try to get four or even five favourites and switch them to ensure you’re not wearing the same one every day. It can really help to [buy a lace bra](https://elevenintimates.com/collections/lace-bras). Treat it as an investment and switch and use it regularly to balance out your usage of your favourite bra. Of course, lace bras are luxurious, feminine, and delicate. They can also be worn every day. It may surprise you to find that the lace bra has become your favourite – it surprised me. ### **Washing On The Wrong Cycle** We get it, your bra goes in the machine with everything else. It’s easy and fast. I’ve done it myself. But, washing a bra on too hot a cycle can damage the material and the elastic. You’re going to need to check the label, some bras shouldn’t even be machine-washed. It’s not just the heat, the [detergent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/eco-friendly-laundry-detergents/ "detergent") you use can be damaging to your bra. I recommend you hand wash your bras in warm water. That’s one of the reasons you need at least five favourite bras. ### **Storing Solution Is Wrong** Yes, it’s possible to store a bra incorrectly and shorten its life. For starters, have you ever folded a bra in a rush and then discovered there’s a crease across the cup? I have. It ruins the shape of the cup. You can also damage them if they are tangled or rubbed against other clothes in your drawer. It damages the fibres and stretches the elastic. Give your bras the VIP treatment, it’s what you expect them to give you. Lay them flat in your chosen spot or even hang them. Just make sure you use the centre gore. ### **It’s Not the Right Size** Just because it feels super comfortable doesn’t mean it’s the right size! I know it’s hard to get rid of the bra you love, even when it doesn’t fit quite right. The problem is, if it’s not the right size it won’t be supporting your breasts properly. That’s strike one. Strike two is that the wrong part of the bra will be stretching and holding the weight of your boobs. If it’s not designed to work that way it will quickly wear out and fail. ### **Quality Matters** If you want a bra that lasts, spend a little more to get a high-quality option. It may seem extravagant but you’ll appreciate the superior fit and feel. I certainly do. The fact it lasts longer can be seen as a bonus. ![bra](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Bc45f7ec-608b-4828-9631-909cbe2136d4-1066x800.jpg "Bc45f7ec-608b-4828-9631-909cbe2136d4 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Making Your Favourite Bra Last Longer** Okay, you’re figuring out what you’re doing wrong. Hopefully, you’re investing in a couple of new bras that will rotate regularly. Here’s what else you can do to help your favourite bras last longer. ### **Be Gentle When Washing Them** You need to use detergent to make sure your bra is clean. That’s the point of washing them. Whether you’re doing it by hand or using a machine, choose a gentle detergent. I recommend you skip the chlorinated bleach and anything with a synthetic fragrance. It’s more chemicals which may damage the material. Top Tip: If you have to put your bra in the machine, first put it in a laundry bag. Use a cool or cold cycle and don’t use any fabric softeners. They have been shown to damage elasticity by breaking down the fibres. ### **Let It Dry** Heat is one of your bra’s biggest enemies. Skip the dryer, and leave your bra lying flat somewhere where it can dry naturally. If you must hang it, make sure the centre is supported. You run the risk of it losing its shape. ## **Build Your Collection** Make sure you’ve got at least five really nice bras. That’s enough to regularly rotate and allow the used bra to relax. It will help it retain its shape and keep you comfortable in your day-to-day life. I recommend you find one that you love and buy several versions of it. You can pad out (pun intended) your collection with some more intimate bras for those special moments. OR, they can simply make you feel good. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-your-favourite-bra-always-wears-out-too-fast/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/why-your-favourite-bra-always-wears-out-too-fast/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [Collagen for Strength, Skin, and Slimming: The All-in-One Protein](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/collagen-for-strength-skin-and-slimming-the-all-in-one-protein/) **Published:** March 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the ever-evolving world of health and wellness, few supplements have achieved the recognition and scientific backing of collagen. Once considered primarily a beauty aid, collagen is now widely acknowledged as a powerhouse protein essential for skin vitality, muscle strength, joint health, and even weight management. Whether you’re aiming for a glowing complexion, enhanced muscle recovery, or sustainable weight control, [collagen supplements](https://www.thecollagen.co/pages/shop) — especially those from The Collagen Co — offer a comprehensive solution that caters to a wide range of wellness needs. ## **The Science Behind Collagen: Why It’s Essential** Collagen is the most abundant protein in the human body, serving as the structural framework for skin, muscles, tendons, ligaments, and even bones. However, as we age, natural collagen production declines, leading to visible signs of aging such as wrinkles, sagging skin, and joint discomfort. This decline also affects muscle mass, making it more difficult to maintain strength and flexibility over time. Thankfully, scientific advancements have led to the development of hydrolysed collagen and collagen peptides, which are easily absorbed by the body and utilised to replenish and support these essential structures. Unlike traditional protein sources, collagen peptide powder is rapidly digested and distributed to areas in need, making it an efficient and effective supplement for daily health maintenance. ## **Skin Health: The Key to a Youthful Glow** For those who prioritise skincare, collagen has become a game-changer. As the primary building block of skin, collagen plays a crucial role in maintaining elasticity, hydration, and firmness. Research suggests that incorporating collagen into your diet can help improve these qualities while visibly reducing fine lines and wrinkles. The Collagen Co’s premium [collagen powder](https://www.thecollagen.co/pages/shop) is expertly formulated to enhance the skin’s structure from within. Regular consumption can help stimulate the body’s natural collagen synthesis, leading to a brighter, more youthful complexion. Unlike topical skincare products, which only target the skin’s outermost layer, ingestible collagen works at a deeper level, nourishing skin from the inside out. This makes it a must-have for anyone looking to maintain a fresh, radiant glow for years to come. ## **Strength & Recovery: More Than Just Beauty** While collagen is often celebrated for its beauty benefits, its role in muscle repair and joint health is equally significant. Athletes and fitness enthusiasts are increasingly turning to collagen peptide powder as a post-workout supplement due to its ability to support muscle tissue repair and reduce joint inflammation. Unlike conventional protein powders, which can be difficult to digest, collagen peptides are gentle on the stomach while still delivering the essential amino acids needed for muscle synthesis and recovery. Collagen’s impact on joint health is particularly important for individuals who engage in high-impact activities such as running, weightlifting, or intense training. Studies have shown that collagen supplementation can help maintain cartilage integrity, reduce stiffness, and even alleviate joint pain associated with aging or strenuous exercise. For anyone looking to stay active and injury-free, incorporating collagen into a [daily routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/topics/self-care/ "daily routine") can be a game-changer. ![collagen](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Collagen-2-1-800x800.jpg "Collagen 2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Slimming Support: The Weight Loss Connection** Collagen isn’t just a beauty booster—it can also play a crucial role in weight management. High-protein diets have been widely studied for their ability to support weight loss by promoting satiety and reducing overall calorie intake. Collagen, in particular, has been shown to help regulate appetite and curb cravings, making it an excellent addition to any weight loss strategy. [Meal replacement shakes](https://www.thecollagen.co/collections/glow-shakes) infused with collagen offer a convenient way to stay on track with weight management goals while ensuring adequate protein intake. The Collagen Co’s weight loss shakes are designed with this in mind, combining high-quality collagen with essential nutrients to create one of the best meal replacement shakes available. These shakes provide sustained energy, helping to keep hunger at bay while supporting muscle maintenance and fat loss simultaneously. ## **Finding the Best Collagen Supplement** With the growing popularity of collagen supplements, it’s essential to choose a high-quality product that delivers real results. The Collagen Co offers some of the best collagen supplements on the market, formulated with scientifically backed ingredients for maximum absorption and effectiveness. Their range includes collagen peptides, meal replacement shakes, beauty greens powders, and immunity blends, catering to different health needs and lifestyles. ## **The Takeaway** Collagen is no longer just a beauty trend—it has cemented itself as a wellness essential. With benefits spanning skin, hair and nail health, muscle recovery, joint support, and weight control, it truly is the all-in-one protein for modern living. By choosing high-quality collagen supplements like those offered by The Collagen Co, individuals can experience a transformation from the inside out. Whether your goal is to achieve radiant skin and hair, enhance physical performance, or support a healthy weight, collagen provides an easy, effective, and science-backed solution. Investing in a quality collagen supplement is an investment in long-term health, ensuring you look and feel your best at every stage of life. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/collagen-for-strength-skin-and-slimming-the-all-in-one-protein/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/collagen-for-strength-skin-and-slimming-the-all-in-one-protein/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [How To Prepare For Pre-Employment Tests](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-prepare-for-pre-employment-tests/) **Published:** March 17, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Employers rely on pre-employment tests to assess candidates beyond their resumes and interviews. These tests measure various factors, such as problem-solving skills, personality traits, and job-specific knowledge, to identify the best fit for a role. A strong performance on these assessments can set you apart from other applicants and strengthen your overall application. Without proper preparation, even the most qualified candidates may struggle to showcase their abilities effectively. Understanding what to expect and taking the right steps beforehand can boost your confidence and improve your results. Read on to learn how to prepare effectively and maximise your chances of success. ## **Understand the Types of Tests** Employers use different types of tests to assess skills, personality, and overall suitability for a role. Knowing the purpose of each test helps in preparing effectively. Below are the common types of pre-employment tests and what they evaluate: - **Cognitive ability tests:** These measure problem-solving, logical reasoning, and decision-making skills. They often include numerical reasoning, verbal comprehension, and abstract thinking exercises. Employers use these tests to evaluate how well a candidate processes information and makes decisions under pressure. - **Personality assessments:** These tests assess behavioural tendencies, work ethic, and how a candidate interacts with others. Questions typically focus on traits like adaptability, teamwork, and leadership style. Employers use them to determine cultural fit and predict workplace behaviour. - **Skills tests:** These focus on job-specific abilities, such as technical knowledge, typing speed, or software proficiency. They help employers verify whether a candidate has the necessary skills to perform daily tasks efficiently. Some industries require hands-on simulations to evaluate practical skills. - **Physical ability tests:** For roles that involve manual labour, operating machinery, or handling heavy equipment, these tests measure stamina, coordination, and overall physical fitness. They may include lifting exercises, endurance tests, or reaction time assessments. - **Integrity tests:** These evaluate ethical decision-making, reliability, and trustworthiness. Employers use them to identify potential risks, such as dishonesty or workplace misconduct. Some questions may ask about past behaviours or hypothetical situations to assess moral judgment. Understanding these tests helps in preparing for the hiring process. Many employers also require [drug and alcohol testing](https://www.coolangattamedicalcentre.com/drug-alcohol-testing/ "drug and alcohol testing") as part of their screening procedures, especially for roles that involve safety-sensitive responsibilities. ## **Practice Sample Questions** Practicing test questions improves accuracy and builds confidence. It also helps in understanding question formats and improving response time. To prepare effectively, the following types of practice exercises can be useful: - **Cognitive assessments:** These include logic puzzles, pattern recognition tasks, and problem-solving exercises. Practising these questions sharpens analytical thinking and helps identify patterns quickly. - **Numerical and verbal reasoning:** Reviewing math problems, reading comprehension passages, and grammar exercises strengthens basic skills. Focus on percentage calculations, data interpretation, and sentence structure for better performance. - **Personality and behavioural assessments:** Answering sample personality questions can provide insight into how responses align with workplace expectations. Since these tests measure consistency, it’s important to respond truthfully while keeping the job role in mind. - **Skills tests:** Industry-specific tests evaluate abilities such as typing speed, coding proficiency, or customer service scenarios. Practising relevant exercises ensures familiarity with the expected tasks. Taking multiple practice tests highlights areas that need improvement and reduces test-day anxiety. Regular practice also enhances decision-making speed and accuracy. ![Pre-employment tests](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Pre-employment-test-1200x800.jpg "Pre-employment test - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Improve Time Management** Effective time management is key to performing well on pre-employment tests. Many assessments are timed, requiring candidates to answer questions quickly and accurately. Poor pacing can result in unanswered questions, which may impact scores. To maximise performance, the following strategies can help: - **Familiarise yourself with the test format:** Each assessment tool has a unique structure. Reviewing sample tests ensures you understand question types, timing constraints, and the best approach for each section. - **Prioritise easier questions first:** Quickly answering straightforward questions creates more time for complex ones. This method prevents getting stuck on a difficult question and missing out on points from easier ones. - **Use elimination strategies:** For multiple-choice testing methods, ruling out incorrect options increases the chances of selecting the right answer. This is particularly useful for [cognitive ability tests](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22306-cognitive-test "cognitive ability tests") and numerical reasoning sections. - **Avoid overanalysing:** Overthinking can waste time and lead to second-guessing correct answers. Sticking to an initial, well-thought-out response is often the best approach. - **Simulate testing conditions:** Practicing under timed conditions improves speed and accuracy. Many online cognitive assessments and skills assessment tests allow candidates to refine their timing strategies before the actual test. Strong time management skills improve test performance and reduce stress, helping candidates meet job requirements and move forward in the hiring process. ## **Get Rest and Stay Focused** Mental and physical preparation is just as important as studying for the test itself. Stress and exhaustion can negatively impact cognitive function, making it harder to perform well. Prioritising rest and [mental health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/ "mental health") helps maintain focus and clarity. Below are key steps to help you prepare: - **Get enough sleep:** Lack of rest affects cognitive ability and slows down critical thinking. Aim for at least seven to eight hours of sleep before test day to stay mentally sharp. - **Eat a balanced meal:** Proper nutrition supports brain function and sustained energy. Include protein, whole grains, and healthy fats to maintain focus. Avoid heavy meals that may cause sluggishness. - **Limit caffeine and sugar:** While caffeine can provide a temporary boost, too much may lead to restlessness and energy crashes. Instead, stay hydrated and opt for lighter stimulants like green tea. - **Practice stress management:** Pre-test anxiety can affect concentration. Simple techniques such as deep breathing or mindfulness exercises can help regulate stress levels. Proper rest and focus help you approach pre-employment assessment tests with confidence, improving accuracy and decision-making under pressure. ## **Final Thoughts** Preparing for pre-employment tests requires a strategic approach and steady focus. Strong preparation improves performance, boosts confidence, and demonstrates your commitment to the role. Consistent practice, effective time management, and a calm mindset can make a significant difference. With the right preparation, you can increase your chances of success and move forward in your career. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-prepare-for-pre-employment-tests/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-prepare-for-pre-employment-tests/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Career --- ### [Breeze Wellbeing Review: A Full Review of the Mental Health App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breeze-wellbeing-review-a-full-review-of-the-mental-health-app/) **Published:** March 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** A few months ago, I realised that I’ve become anxious, less focused, and couldn’t help but dwell on overthinking the same stuff again and again. At first, it was just a slight change, but after time, it started affecting my daily life — work, relationships, and even friendly connections. I’ve tried meditation and grounding techniques, but nothing seemed to help. Then, I’ve started searching for a comprehensive online tool. This is how I discovered Breeze Wellbeing. ## **First impressions from the app** To begin with, I studied Breeze-wellbeing reviews and was intrigued by how many people notice significant changes thanks to an app. I thought, “Can everything really be so good?” But then I downloaded [Breeze mental health](https://breeze-wellbeing.com/) and started my own research. After just 10 minutes, I was excited about how easy this app is to use. All the features are intuitive and straightforward, which makes it simple to navigate, even for someone who isn’t tech-savvy. Yet, the best thing I’ve noticed from the spot is the design! So cute illustrations and animations in bright colours made using Breeze more enjoyable. It didn’t feel like a typical mental health app but rather like a companion for self-understanding and growth. ## **Main features** Then, I focused on the opportunities the app provides. Of course, my main goal was to relax and reach an emotional balance, but I also wanted to try some self-reflection. Here is what I liked most: ### **Mood tracking** It was super helpful to track my mood daily and understand some patterns. I couldn’t even imagine how [stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/ "stress") from morning traffic jams and unnecessary meetings made me feel low for the whole day. Now, I try to work from home more and have improved my calendar. Breeze helped me understand that optimising just a few things in my routine can make a huge difference! ![](https://lh7-rt.googleusercontent.com/docsz/AD_4nXciPTb4u8ICV29Pw0xFKI0A3pm9KFYFALhI2LLha2yTGeXN58SW9vZax736-pmCT-9O_z9cLjTHRxZ_flgVqLt2ahj_2x6pRGN50IU6RJQBTY3jud-MKlgSHfQJqS_GJmXkxxSafQ?key=H04o9cqUtJKJxC6hEceHrgg5) ### **Self-discovery tests** Actually, I use them now instead of scrolling through Instagram or TikTok! This is a really absorbing feature that has provided me with dozens of insights into my personality, communication style, relationships, career choices, and much more. Of course, the tests aren’t just fun — they really helped me understand myself better. Now, I know how I respond to stress and what childhood experiences influence my reactions, and I understand my level of personal toxicity. Moreover, I know how to take advantage of all these insights. ### **Routines & journal prompts** It was so impressive that sometimes, to relax and let go, I need to simply write down my worries. No, really, I’ve set a reminder in the Breeze app, and now, every day, I release my anxious thoughts with specific journal prompts. I’ve read in the breeze-wellbeing reviews that other people use routines to build healthy habits or get more disciplined. Maybe I’ll need to try this approach sometime as well. ### **Relaxation games** I haven’t noticed them from the very beginning, but later on, it was just “wow!” After a busy day at work, standing in a line to grab some coffee, or simply when things feel overwhelming, then I know how to get grounded. For sure, some might argue that breathing techniques and various exercises can be more effective. Yet, I want to remind you: everyone is completely unique. For me, these relaxation games work best to calm my mind quickly. ## **Main advantages** To make this review more comprehensive, I can’t forget about other important pros that make me keep using this app. Among the most important are: - **Opportunity to share test results with close ones.** Sometimes, after taking a test, I just think, “Impossible! How couldn’t I understand it earlier?” There were a few times I simply wanted to call a friend and ask, “Did you know that about me?” Luckily, Breeze allows users to share their test results so I can send them online. - **App passcode to protect personal data.** On the other side of the coin, sometimes, I want to keep all the insights, my mood, and my frustrations private. And I’m so happy that Breeze lets me set up a passcode to protect everything without worries. - **Science-backed info.** Really, this is what I’ve noticed in the breeze-wellbeing reviews and this is what inspired me to delve deeper into self-discovery. I don’t worry about test results — whether they are completely true or not. All the info is reliable. - **A one-stop shop with a vast number of features.** It isn’t a feature but rather an overall benefit. Breeze combines mood tracking, self-discovery tests, relaxation games, and more into one app, which makes it a convenient and effective tool for managing mental health. ## **Who I’d recommend it to** I would definitely continue using this app, as every time I feel stuck it shows me how many things I still can discover about myself and how many opportunities are still waiting for me. Moreover, I would definitely recommend others to try the Breeze app. In general, it can be valuable for almost everyone. Yet, it’s definitely worth trying right now if you: - Struggle with stress or anxiety - Want to improve emotional resilience - Need guidance in self-discovery - Have a busy lifestyle and want to relax - Are looking for a fun, engaging way to stay calm - Need something to support you when working with a therapist ## **Breeze wellbeing reviews: What other users say** As I’ve already said, before downloading the app, I’ve done a brief research on others’ opinions. And, while I already share my experience with Breeze, I would also like to attach some comments that resonate with my feelings. ![Breeze Wellbeing](https://lh7-rt.googleusercontent.com/docsz/AD_4nXdrH33U_UBGIOyNh3cd3xwMxAHxmpAnYsYsSG_mTPst8zgCu93h_7YcUs3WEyjlwsSeNojkfSkD0LqnFzM6pnK0Rr3OK925sg-EBrO067Bs2cTqN-SjdWjgmGhD-hU2a6bBAJPo?key=H04o9cqUtJKJxC6hEceHrgg5) I definitely like this simplicity and the fact that I don’t need to spend hours to get the result. Opening the app wherever you are for a few minutes can make a noticeable difference. A specific professional approach is another thing worth noticing. While other mental health apps might seem pretty similar — yes, I’ve tried a few others just to compare — Breeze is much more insightful and comprehensive. ## ![](https://lh7-rt.googleusercontent.com/docsz/AD_4nXeh7ziH-7LYBY-Z6ucag417vn6O9OqUB6UWCiuZP2jrXYneTEne7k7-eAcNEb5L5wriNs95IZvKIoC4PHI4xdCBpDw8f5zmtKYfs0EjT6KCXMa9-UhZkt-hDPEv374JYd1rR1-zLw?key=H04o9cqUtJKJxC6hEceHrgg5) ## **My final verdict** I highly recommend trying this app to anyone who has thought that they want to improve their well-being and emotional resilience at least once. Don’t hurry up or try to get immediate results. Simply stay consistent, and I’m sure you’ll start seeing changes pretty soon — just like I did. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breeze-wellbeing-review-a-full-review-of-the-mental-health-app/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/breeze-wellbeing-review-a-full-review-of-the-mental-health-app/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care --- ### [Which breast pump is right for me and my baby? (2024 version)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-pump/) **Published:** February 25, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Whether you have never used a breast pump before or need a new one, the market is flooded with different brands and types … it can feel a little overwhelming. If you’re new to the baby business, you might wonder why you need a breast pump. It may seem like a crazy concept to pump milk out of your boobs! I will never forget my first attempt which eventually became a reliance on my machine, both to ease my pain and save precious, nutrient-filled milk for my baby. For many new mums, their breast pump becomes an essential but also very personal piece of equipment, which is why choosing the right one is super important. We’ve done our research and in this article, I will take you through: - What is a breast pump - Why a new mum needs a breast pump - The difference between manual and electric pumps - What to look for before purchasing - The five best breast pumps on the market today ***Further reading: [How to create a strong and healthy body after baby.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/strong-healthy-body-after-baby/)*** ## What is a breast pump? Breast pumps are [medical devices](https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/what-know-when-buying-or-using-breast-pump) used to draw milk from a mother’s breast. They are used either to relieve yourself from clogged ducts or to collect milk to be fed to your baby later. They can come in manual or electric. Electric breast pumps can come in single (you can pump one breast at a time) or double (you can pump both breasts at a time). ## Why a new mum needs a breast pump ### Express Milk While you can definitely simply feed your baby straight from the breast if you can, and express milk with your hands, there are times when breast pumps can come in handy. Breasts can be used to collect breast milk that can then be fed to your baby through a bottle or a feeding tube. Many mums, including me, use breast pumps to store breastmilk for my baby to consume while I am out at work or on an errand. ### Pull Out Inverted Nipples Before I became a mum, I had no idea that my nipples were inverted. This made breastfeeding challenging for my daughter to latch. In the beginning, I used a simple silicone device called a *nipple puller.* However, when I started using my electric breast pump more regularly, I found that the need for a separate device for my inverted nipple decreased. ### Relieve Engorged Breasts Every breastfeeding mum knows the horrors of engorged breasts and clogged milk ducts. Some mums even develop infections that cause them to get a fever. Breast pumps can take out the milk that are clogging the breasts and alleviate the pain. However, if you’re a new mum, you should know this: the more you empty your breasts, the more they produce milk. This means expressing milk through a breast pump can also cause engorged breasts. ### Increase Breast milk Supply As I said in the previous section, the best way to increase your breastmilk is to remove milk. This is easy by breastfeeding, but of course, your baby won’t be breastfeeding all the time, at least after a few weeks. (She has to sleep, you know!) Many mums have successfully increased their milk supply by using a breast pump in between feedings. However, as I said earlier, this could also lead to breast engorgement since your breasts will be producing more milk. So, if you want to try using a breast pump to increase your milk, keep in mind that “oversupply” is a thing and it’s NOT a good one. ### Measure Your Breast Milk Finally, there are mums who just need to know the precise amount of milk their babies consume. To be honest, I’m one of these, since weight gain was a concern when my daughter was a newborn. So, I knew how much more I needed to make and how much we needed to supplement with formula. ## What to look for before purchasing One thing you must remember as a new mum is that different breast pumps work differently for mums. What I mean is because a breast pump worked for many mums doesn’t mean it will work for all. For some mums, looking for the perfect breast pump that works for their body could take a long time. With that said, here are some of the things you should consider when looking for a breast pump. ### Convenience Aside from considering popularity and cost, comfort and ease of use should be of utmost importance when it comes to something you may use multiple times daily. ### Budget Budget is also an important factor when choosing a breast pump. Which breast pump is within your budget? In some countries like the US, breasts pumps are included in a mum’s health insurance. So, check with your insurance company if you can get a free breast pump. It is also important to look into the price of replacement parts, which you need to change often. ### Availability of Replacement Parts Pump accessories do not and should not last forever. Depending on the frequency of use, you should be replacing them (duck valves, breast shields, etc.) quite frequently to keep your pump in optimum condition. For instance, worn duck valves would not be effective in pumping out milk, so you could think you’re producing less when it’s not the case. So, it’s important that pump accessories are easily available. That they can be bought separately is also a factor to consider. ### Single or Double Pump You should also take into consideration whether you need a single or double pump. For instance, if you’d be pumping while working, I think you would be better off with a double pump, since it takes a shorter amount of time to express breastmilk. If, however, you would be breastfeeding your child, a single pump would do. ### Noise Another factor you can take into consideration is noise. If you’re going to use your pump at work or at a public place, you might want to look into something discreet. Also, manual pumps are quiet, while electric pumps could be quite noisy. ### Portability Portability is really important for on-the-go mums. Does it need to be plugged to a power source, or does it operate using a battery? Whether you I am working from home or onsite, I personally take portability seriously. ### Customer Reviews You might also want to check customer reviews before purchasing your pump. Customer reviews would give you an idea of the experience of other mums with these pumps. However, take other mums’ reviews with a grain of salt. As I said, how each pump works depends on the body of individual mums. Each mum would have a totally different experience in terms of output and convenience. Who knows? Maybe what works on other mums won’t work on you and vice versa. ### Guarantee or Warranty The best thing about buying a breast pump from the official store or an authorized distributor is that it often comes with a guarantee or warranty. If you’re planning to get an electric breast pump, you’d be better off with one that has a warranty. This is because good-quality electric pumps can be pricey, so you would want one that can be replaced or repaired for free for a certain period. ## The five best breast pumps on the market today ### [Medela Swing Flex Single Electric Breast Pump](https://amzn.to/4hq3Pcn "https://amzn.to/4hq3Pcn") First up, we have a super famous portable single electric breast pump. Back when I was still active in new mum groups, Medela Swing Flex was one of my “dream” pumps. Many pumping mums have only great things to say about this popular breast pump. Although on the higher spectrum price-wise, my friends rave that Medela Swing Flex Electric Breast Pump gives value for money. It’s easy to assemble and clean since there’s not a lot of parts compared to other electric breast pumps. It’s also durable and portable. Best of all, my mum friends love that they manage to express more milk pain-free. A single electric breast pump can be used for the other breast while breastfeeding your baby on the other. You can also use it to pump both breasts, one after the other. Check out this [power pumping schedule](https://livingwithlowmilksupply.com/power-pumping-to-increase-milk-supply) when using a single electric breast pump. [![Medela Swing Flex Single Electric](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/swing_flex_key_2017-400x400.png "swing_flex_key_2017 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.babybunting.com.au/product/medela-swing-flex-single-electric-breastpump-116122?utm_source=Rakuten&utm_medium=rakuten&utm_content=Beanstalk&utm_campaign=10&ranMID=44049&ranEAID=3543403&ranSiteID=ZyRbSLJoru8-VY3DZIz7nVLA0tItHtzT5Q)Where to Buy: [ Wireless Breastfeeding Pump ](https://www.babybunting.com.au/product/medela-swing-flex-single-electric-breastpump-116122?utm_source=Rakuten&utm_medium=rakuten&utm_content=Beanstalk&utm_campaign=10&ranMID=44049&ranEAID=3543403&ranSiteID=ZyRbSLJoru8-VY3DZIz7nVLA0tItHtzT5Q "https://amzn.to/4hq3Pcn") ### [Tommee Tippee Made ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftommee-tippee-made-for-me-double-electric-breast-pump)[for](https://amzn.to/3FnCBGh "https://amzn.to/3FnCBGh")[ Me ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftommee-tippee-made-for-me-double-electric-breast-pump)[Double ](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftommee-tippee-made-for-me-double-electric-breast-pump "https://amzn.to/3FnCBGh")[Electric Breast Pump](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftommee-tippee-made-for-me-double-electric-breast-pump) For the next item on this list, we have a portable double electric breast pump. Tommee Tippee Made for Me Double Electric Breast Pump is compact and lightweight, making it a great choice for on-the-go mums. It has minimal parts, making it easy to set up. It has 5 stimulating modes and 9 expressing modes, so you can try the best combination for you. The best thing about a double electric breast pump is you can pump both breasts simultaneously. This means the time it takes to pump both breasts is shorter compared to a single electric breast pump. You can either hold the pumps in your hand or use a pumping bra. [![Tommee Tippee Made for Me Double Electric Breast Pump](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/tommee_tippee_made_for_me_double_electric_breast_pump-400x400.jpg "tommee_tippee_made_for_me_double_electric_breast_pump - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/59613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.chemistdirect.com.au%2ftommee-tippee-made-for-me-double-electric-breast-pump)Where to Buy: [Hands-Free Breast Pump with 2 Modes](https://amzn.to/3FnCBGh "https://amzn.to/3FnCBGh") **Further reading: [10 Breast feeding jumpers for convenience and warmth.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/breast-feeding-jumpers/)** ### [Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/medela-harmony-manual-breast-pump-with-flex-technology/p/156049?irclickid=3%3A6zmPWFdxyNWoKS9wyIxWGIUkA3t3TvUR543Q0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate) Now, if you’re looking for a manual breast pump, the famous Medela Harmony is a great option. You can use this to pump a breast while feeding your baby on the other, or while using a milk catcher (see last item). This manual pump is lightweight and there’s no need for batteries or power source. Manual pumps are great where there’s no accessible electricity. This means you can pump anywhere, anytime. Manual pumps are great because you can control the positioning and speed of expression. Electric pumps could be painful at times – especially if you forget to reset the speed – which isn’t going to be a problem with manual pumps. [![Medela Harmony Manual with Flex Technology](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/medela_harmony-400x400.jpg "medela_harmony - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/medela-harmony-manual-breast-pump-with-flex-technology/p/156049?irclickid=3%3A6zmPWFdxyNWoKS9wyIxWGIUkA3t3TvUR543Q0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate)Where to Buy: [BigW](https://www.bigw.com.au/product/medela-harmony-manual-breast-pump-with-flex-technology/p/156049?irclickid=3%3A6zmPWFdxyNWoKS9wyIxWGIUkA3t3TvUR543Q0&irgwc=1&utm_source=singlemums99%40&utm_medium=affiliate) ### [Spectra S2 Hospital Grade Double Electric Breast Pump](https://spectra-baby.com.au/products/spectra-s2-hospital-grade-double-electric-breast-pump) I have tried many breast pumps until I finally found my partner in Spectra. I actually have S1 (portable), S2 (hospital grade), and wearables, and they’re all great. Spectra pumps are known for their powerful motors. The pink variant, S2, is hospital grade, therefore the most powerful. It’s not portable and should be plugged to a power source to be used. Spectra S2, like S1, has a flashlight so you can use it at night without turning on the lights. The main drawback is that Spectra S2 has lots of accessories, so it could be more challenging to prepare in the beginning. Hospital-grade breast pumps have powerful motors that often employ a closed system. Spectra S2 has barriers in place that prevent breastmilk from entering the motor. [![https://spectra-baby.com.au/products/spectra-s2-hospital-grade-double-electric-breast-pump](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/spectra-s2-hospital-grade-breast-pump-1_823x-400x400.jpg "spectra-s2-hospital-grade-breast-pump-1_823x - Beanstalk Mums")](https://spectra-baby.com.au/products/spectra-s2-hospital-grade-double-electric-breast-pump)Where to Buy: [Spectra](https://spectra-baby.com.au/products/spectra-s2-hospital-grade-double-electric-breast-pump) ### Pigeon manual breast pump And now, for my most favourite of all: the milk catcher! Pigeon Milk Saver Pump is an excellent pump that “catches” milk from your free breast while your baby nurses or you’re using a manual or electric pump on the other. What makes a milk catcher or saver pump great is that, once it’s attached on your breast, you don’t have to do anything at all. All you need to do is leave it be and let the milk flow from your breast. You can then transfer this milk into a bottle or milk bag. No milk wasted! A milk catcher is also great because it doesn’t need electricity to use. It’s also easy to clean, since there’s only one component: the pump itself. To use the Pigeon Milk Saver Pump, watch [this video tutorial](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LELAepfyOew) by Pigeon Singapore. [![Pigeon Milk Saver](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/pigeon-400x400.jpg "pigeon - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.babybunting.com.au/product/pigeon-milk-saver-breast-pump-116084?utm_source=Rakuten&utm_medium=rakuten&utm_content=Beanstalk&utm_campaign=10&ranMID=44049&ranEAID=3543403&ranSiteID=ZyRbSLJoru8-cwas1CRRbT0W9lZdrdiXnQ)Where to Buy: [BabyBunting](https://www.babybunting.com.au/product/pigeon-milk-saver-breast-pump-116084?utm_source=Rakuten&utm_medium=rakuten&utm_content=Beanstalk&utm_campaign=10&ranMID=44049&ranEAID=3543403&ranSiteID=ZyRbSLJoru8-cwas1CRRbT0W9lZdrdiXnQ) ***Further reading: [Nursing sports bras: Choosing the right one for you.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/nursing-sports-bras/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-pump/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/breast-pump/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping **Tags:** new baby, formula, breast milk, breast feeding --- ### [Your guide to buying a robot vacuum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/buying-robot-vacuum/) **Published:** July 24, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about robot vacuums was last updated in 2022.*** Robot vacuums are becoming hugely popular, and with good reason. Who doesn’t want to designate one of lives most tedious household chores to a trusty electronic gadget that does a thorough job without complaint? If you’re in the market for a robot vacuum, we cover off on everything you need to know in this article, including: - What is a robot vacuum - Is a robot vacuum right go for my home? - The features to consider when buying a robot vacuum - Our pick of robot vacuums ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")Further reading: [10 Hacks to get the housework done faster.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hacks-housework-done-faster/) ## What is a robot vacuum? A robot vacuum is an automatic vacuum cleaner that cleans surfaces without you having to operate it. Unlike upright vacuums that you have to move around manually, robot vacuums have computer systems, sensors/lasers, Wifi connectivity and controls that let them navigate your house independently. A robot vacuum can remove dust, dirt, debris and pet hair from different surfaces: floors, carpets, mats and rugs. ## Is a robot vacuum right go for my home? Robot vacuums are genius devices. They can keep your house relatively clean without you ever getting up from the couch. You’ll likely still need a traditional canister vacuum for heavy duty cleaning on the weekend, but the robot vac definitely makes a handy buddy for the time-poor single mum. A robot vacuum is amazing at daily cleaning, and you can schedule the vac to run multiple times a day. ### Robots vacuums are great for homes that: - Have few nooks, crannies, and obstacles. Lower-priced robot vacuums will be able to clean properly without constantly getting stuck and bouncing off the walls. - You share with roommates or other people. Vacuuming will be one less chore to delegate. - You use as an office or place of business. Robot vacuums are great at tidying up dust, dirt and spilled paperclips. ### They may not suit homes that: - Have very cramped areas. Some house layouts are difficult to clean because of all the obstacles in the way of the robot vacuum. It’s best to use a push vac for these cramped spaces. - Have multiple rooms and floors. Some robot vacuums are designed to clean very large spaces with multiple floors and rooms, but these can be pricey. ## The features to consider when buying a robot vacuum? With a new model released every week and endless options to choose from, which type of robot vacuum is right for you? Before you decide, consider the size of your home, the kind of floors you have, and whether you have pets that shed hair. Also consider features that you can’t live without, as well as extras that are nice to have. ### Size of your home A robot vacuum with sophisticated navigation (home mapping features and can store the layout of a space) is great if you live in a large house, while a vacuum with sensors/lasers is necessary if you live in a two-storey home. ### Battery life For uninterrupted cleaning, choose a robot vacuum with long battery life or something that can operate for at least 30 minutes on a single charge. Also look at the recharge time, as this can take several hours. If you have the budget, go for a robot vacuum that recharges itself. ### Type of surface Do you have wood, carpeted, tiled or mixed floors? Do you have pets that shed hair? Consider the type of surface or debris in your house and choose a robot vacuum that can clean it efficiently. If you have carpeted floors that hold a lot more dirt, get a vacuum with good suction capabilities. ### Mop feature Some models have a built-in mop feature to clean hardwood floors as well as carpets. A hybrid model may not be as good as cleaning as a dedicated mopper, however. ### Bin size The larger the waste bin, the better, especially if you have a large house. It means less frequent emptying. Choose a robot vacuum with at least a one-litre bin capacity. If you have the budget, a self-emptying robot vacuum is a real time-saver and protects you from exposure to dust. ### Noise No one likes to wake up to the noise of a manual vacuum. Thankfully, most robot vacuums are designed for quiet or low-noise operation. This is perfect if you have babies or very young children. ### Price It eventually comes down to your budget. Robot vacuums can cost from a couple of hundred to over a thousand dollars. A lower-priced basic vacuum usually does not have features like sensors, self-emptying bins, or WiFi connectivity, but does a good job of cleaning an average-sized home. Consider what you’ll use the vacuum for before investing in bells and whistles. ## Our pick of robot vacuums ### iRobot Roomba 670 Have pets? The iRobot Roomba 670 is designed to clean dust, dirt and all types of hair and debris from carpets and hardwood floors. It’s whisper-quiet, compatible with Alexa and Google Home, and has a self-charging battery. [![iRobot Roomba | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.bigw.com.au/medias/sys_master/images/images/h1c/he7/31186320293918.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) We found this on: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/b3rP5g) ### Roborock S5 The Roborock S5 is a powerful vacuum cleaner/mop combo that automatically mops and cleans your floors. It comes with precise water control and voice assistance. Perfect for larger homes and hard-to-reach areas. [![Roborock S5 Vacuum Cleaner | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://assets.kogan.com/files/product/etail/Roborock-/ROB-S5MAX-03_1.jpg)](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/LPBWWj) We found this on: [Dick Smith](https://dicksmith.jxhtmc.net/LPBWWj) ### Eufy RoboVac 11S Slim Robot Vacuum The Eufy is a cleaning powerhouse that can fit under the lowest couch. It’s also affordable and perfect for small spaces, if you don’t mind your vacuum ping-ponging around the house. [![Eufy RoboVac 11S Slim Robot Vacuum | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://assets.kogan.com/files/product/aub/akr/AKR-T2108T11_1.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/gba0AA) We found this on: [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/gba0AA) ### Black MyGenie ZX1000 Intelligent Robotic Vacuum If you need vacuuming and wet mopping functions, the MyGenie ZX1000 has you covered. It’s super sleek, thin and has powerful suction. [![Black MyGenie ZX1000 Intelligent Robotic Vacuum | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/38443/19398387/4/Intelligent%2BRobotic%2BVacuum.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FBlack-MyGenie-ZX1000-Intelligent-Robotic-Vacuum-0101415-ROLC1102.html%3Frefid%3DGPAAU447-ROLC1102) We found this on: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FBlack-MyGenie-ZX1000-Intelligent-Robotic-Vacuum-0101415-ROLC1102.html%3Frefid%3DGPAAU447-ROLC1102) ### MyGenie ZX1000 Automatic Robotic Vacuum Here’s another 2-in-1 robot vacuum/wet mop combo that won’t drain your wallet. The MyGenie ZX1000 has all the basics you need plus nice extras like HEPA filters and an intelligent anti-collision and anti-fall system. [![MyGenie ZX1000 | Beanstalk Single mums](https://cdn0.woolworths.media/content/wowproductimages/large/1073771765.jpg)](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/zaGbWG) We found this on: [Robot Vacuum Cleaner](https://amzn.to/41TT8KG "https://amzn.to/41TT8KG") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/buying-robot-vacuum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/buying-robot-vacuum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Shopping **Tags:** cleaning, housework, hoover --- ### [10 Healthy teas to help you look and feel great](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/healthy-teas/) **Published:** November 26, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I don’t have a certificate to say I am a tea expert but I consider myself a connoisseur since I drink about seven cups a day and have done so for the past 30 years. Although I still love my old favourites such as English breakfast (Tetley all the way for me), my real interest is with healthy teas. There is nothing better than enjoying a comforting cuppa while reaping health benefits? Although I have lived in Australia from 14 years, I am English which means that all the problems in the world can be solved by sticking the kettle on and making a brew. The more I learn about tea and it’s wonderful health benefits, the truer this is. Teas have the ability to keep us calm, soothe colds, reduce inflammation, energise us … and so much more. In this article I’ll take you through everything I know about healthy tea to enable you to choose the perfect tea for your lifestyle and health needs, including: - What is herbal tea? - How to spot a high quality tea - Loose tea or tea bags? - My favourite healthy teas and their benefits ## What is herbal tea? Herbal teas or tisanes are drinks made from plant parts, herbs, and other ingredients steeped in hot water, unlike “true teas” made exclusively from leaves of the tea plant (Camellia sinensis). However, some herbal teas contain real tea leaves in addition to other plant materials. Many herbal teas are not naturally caffeinated, but some may contain natural stimulants. There’s good reason that people have been drinking tea for thousands of years. Plenty of scientific evidence supports that teas and herbal teas have numerous benefits. Besides boosting the immune system, teas can also help prevent chronic diseases like cancer and heart disease. ## How to spot a high quality tea ### Inspect the tea High-quality loose-leaf tea look like tea leaves. They’re carefully prepared to reduce breakage and to ensure that leaves are intact. Avoid teas that are crumbly and have fragments like stalks and debris. Tea is pretty simplistic. What you see on the ingredients list should match what you see when you open the packet. I get such delight from seeing petals, cloves and other nuggets of health and yumminess in my tea. ### Touch and smell it High-quality tea leaves should not crumble when carefully handled. They should feel slightly heavy and not super light, a sign of age, over-drying, or over-processing. A high-quality tea has a distinct scent. Depending on the type of tea, the scent can be floral, fresh, earthy, or sweet. After steeping, high-quality tea should be fragrant and aromatic. ### Taste the tea All high-quality teas have clear flavours that you can taste. For example, ginger tea has a kick and leaves a warm glow in your mouth and down your throat as you drink. Low-quality teas have barely noticeable flavours and taste. A good one to compare is green tea. I bought a box of cheap green tea and decided I didn’t like it anymore. It wasn’t until I had a cup elsewhere that I realised it was the quality of my teabags that had put me off. The difference in taste between a high quality and low quality green tea is huge. It’s the same with most teas. ## Loose tea or tea bags? ### Loose tea If you’re like me, you were probably introduced to the world of teas through teabags. It makes sense. Tea bags are convenient, they’re easy and quick to prepare, and they’re readily available at your supermarket. But when I had a taste of loose leaf tea, I never looked back. My mind was blown by the superior feel, aroma, and flavours. Loose leaf tea is almost always better in quality and taste than tea from tea bags, which are made from small, cheap tea particles. Loose leaf teas are made from whole tea leaves, which are carefully handled to ensure minimal breakage. Ever watched loose tea leaves unfurl as they steep? It’s mesmerising! And the fragrance and taste cannot compare to your store-bought tea bags. ### Tea bags I can understand why some people still prefer their tea bags. They’re super easy to prepare. All you need is a mug and hot water. They’re also cheap, and you can find heaps of different blends and flavours at the supermarket. I’m not a tea snob by any means, and please feel free to enjoy your tea however you like! But I would strongly recommend trying loose leaf tea if you haven’t before. It’s a completely new experience (at least for me personally). And if you’re a tea lover, chances are you’ll enjoy loose leaf tea even more than teabags! ## My favourite healthy teas and their health benefits ## Rooibos tea Rooibos or redbush tea is made from a plant native to South Africa. It’s naturally free of caffeine and packed with inflammation-fighting antioxidants. I prefer drinking Rooibos tea in the morning with its smooth, intense, smoky flavour and natural sweetness. It’s like a caffeine-free version of a strong breakfast blend or black tea (without the bitterness), especially when you let it brew longer in the pot. I like drinking it plain on its own, but feel free to add honey, lemon juice, or milk/milk substitute. My friend swears by a strong brew of Rooibos with a dash of almond milk! ### Healthy Benefits of Rooibos Tea - May boost the immune system - May help prevent cancer - Filled with antioxidants [![Rooibos | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.doorsteporganics.com.au/image/optimised/large/Rooibos-Tea-Clipper-20-bags.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3XBOBKi) This is my favourite Rooibos tea which I get from: [Doorstep Organics](https://amzn.to/3XBOBKi "https://amzn.to/3XBOBKi") ## Hibiscus tea Hibiscus tea is made from the petals of the beautiful hibiscus flower. Hibiscus flowers come in a variety of colours, from white to red to bright orange, but hibiscus tea is usually bright red, and the red gets richer the longer you steep the petals. I haven’t tried making tea from fresh hibiscus flowers, but the teabag and loose petal tea that I‘ve tried were refreshing and fruity with a tart note. Because hibiscus tea is caffeine-free, you can enjoy it any time of the day. I like brewing a pot in the morning and letting it sit in the fridge to chill. Then I would enjoy a cold glass it in the afternoon … with a bit of honey if I feel like going mad. ### Healthy Benefits of Hibiscus Tea - Filled with antioxidants that can boost the immune system - May lower blood pressure - May reduce cholesterol [![Healthy Teas | Hibiscus| Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn0.woolworths.media/content/wowproductimages/large/1073779528.jpg)](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/P0MQYj) This is my favourite hibiscus tea which I get from: [Woolworths](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/P0MQYj) ## Ginger tea Ginger tea is a warming, slightly spicy tea that I prefer drinking in cool weather. Or whenever I feel a sore throat or cold coming! It’s soothing but it can also be energising, making it a perfect breakfast tea. I love mixing turmeric and ginger and making a strong brew to enjoy in the afternoons or whenever I feel rundown. Add a slice of lemon and steep for a shorter time if you like your drink mild. It’s fine to drink on its own, but if it’s too strong for you, I suggest steeping it for a shorter time. You can also use tea blends like ginger/lemon and ginger/turmeric and add your sweetener of choice plus a slice of lemon. ### Healthy Benefits of Ginger Tea - May calm nausea - Can help soothe an upset stomach - May help reduce inflammation and fight off colds[![Ginger | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn.intelligencebank.com/au/share/NOrD/1VN0z/e4NoR/preset=pB6BA/B140AE029_Turmeric%20Ginger%20Ninja_Digitized_Packaging_hi-res)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ftea%2fherbal-and-floral-tea%2fturmeric-ginger-ninja-teabag-gift-cube-B140AE029.html) This is my favourite ginger tea which I get from: [T2Tea](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ftea%2fherbal-and-floral-tea%2fturmeric-ginger-ninja-teabag-gift-cube-B140AE029.html) ## Coconut tea Coconut tea is made from coconut flakes and mixed with milk and green/black tea. The richness of coconut flakes and bright green or intense-flavoured black tea is a match made in heaven! It’s delicious hot or cold, and you can enjoy it any time of day. It’s easy to make your own coconut tea at home by adding coconut milk to regular green or black tea. Most of the health benefits of coconut tea come from the antioxidants in green/black tea. Give your immune system a boost with a nice cup of coconut tea in the morning or afternoon. ### Healthy Benefits of Coconut Tea - Boosts the immune system and fights inflammation - Can help prevent cancer - May lower risk of diabetes and heart disease [![Healthy Teas | Coconut | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://img.zcdn.com.au/lf/8/hash/39042/19504365/4/Supertea%2BGreen%2BTea%2BCoconut%2BOrganic%2BLoose%2BLeaf%2BTea%2BBags.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FSupertea-Green-Tea-Coconut-Organic-Loose-Leaf-Tea-Bags-TEMI1004.html) This is my favourite coconut tea which I get from: [Temple & Webster](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=41108&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.templeandwebster.com.au%2FSupertea-Green-Tea-Coconut-Organic-Loose-Leaf-Tea-Bags-TEMI1004.html) ## Black tea Black tea is made from the same plant as green tea, but the leaves are dried and fermented instead of steamed, giving this tea it’s dark colour and intense flavour. Black tea is also rich in flavonoids that boost the immune system, fight off inflammation, and prevent cancer and heart disease. Black tea’s strong flavour and caffeine content makes it the perfect energising tea to drink in the morning at breakfast – which is why it’s often called breakfast tea. You really can’t go wrong with black tea. I have mine the typical English way, with milk. Some people have it with lemon, honey, milk and/or a sweetener of choice. ### Healthy Benefits of Black Tea - Can help prevent cancer - May lower risk of diabetes - The one recommended below has added [collagen powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/11-best-collagen-powders-to-buy-in-australia/) which is great for your skin [![Black Tea | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/dJzZdCx/1.jpg)](https://fusspottea.com/collections/shop-all-beauty-teas/products/the-headliner) This is my favourite black tea which I get from: [Fusspot Tea](https://fusspottea.com/collections/shop-all-beauty-teas/products/the-headliner) ## Green tea Green tea is one of the “true teas,” made from the processed leaves and buds of the Camellia sinensis plant. Green tea is very high in antioxidant compounds called flavonoids that have numerous proven health benefits, from cancer prevention to blood sugar regulation. A cup of refreshing green tea is great to drink anytime of the day, but some say that drinking tea after breakfast or lunch is the best way to boost the tea’s antioxidant effects. I prefer drinking a cool green tea beverage in the afternoon and hot tea at breakfast, either plain or with a slice of lemon. ### Healthy Benefits of Green Tea - May help keep skin clear - May boost the immune system and prevent cancer - Can help lower blood pressure and total cholesterol[![Healthy Teas | Green Tea | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/3kg5WP0/2.jpg)](https://au.iherb.com/pr/prince-of-peace-100-organic-green-tea-100-tea-bags-6-35-oz-180-g/6126) This is my favourite green tea which I get from: [iHerb](https://au.iherb.com/pr/prince-of-peace-100-organic-green-tea-100-tea-bags-6-35-oz-180-g/6126) ## Echinacea tea Echinacea or coneflower is a pretty flower that makes a soothing cup of tea that’s great to drink anytime of the day. Many people like to take their echinacea tea at night to help ease anxiety and insomnia and help them sleep better. I like to add a slice of lemon and a teaspoon of honey/sweetener of choice and enjoy it in the afternoon. Echinacea tea can cause allergic reactions in some people and can interfere with the effects of certain medications, so make sure to get an okay form your GP if you plan to drink this tea in the long-term. ### Healthy Benefits of Echinacea Tea - May boost the immune system - May help reduce the symptoms of colds and flu - May help the body fight off infections [![Echinacea | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/1160/4260/products/kr54_15257_400x400_8862ff3b-9a2d-4f2c-bcfb-ea30dfe950cb_1024x1024.jpg?v=1616652787)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fkintra-foods-loose-leaf-tea-immunity-60g%3f_pos%3d7%26_sid%3df81387d4e%26_ss%3dr) This is my favourite echinacea tea which I get from: [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fproducts%2fkintra-foods-loose-leaf-tea-immunity-60g%3f_pos%3d7%26_sid%3df81387d4e%26_ss%3dr) ## Chamomile tea Chamomile tea is made from the dried flowers of the plant (German or Roman). You might have tried chamomile tea before to use as a sleep-aid, as it has mild sleep-inducing benefits when taken a few minutes before bedtime. Chamomile tea contains a compund called apigenin which has sedative effects. While it’s considered safe to drink for most people, avoid this tea if you have ragweed or daisy allergies. I like to drink chamomile tea to calm me down when life gets too stressful. I enjoy it either piping hot or cold, with a slice of lemon and dash of honey. ### Healthy Benefits of Chamomile Tea - May ease upset stomach, gas and diarrhea - May help ease anxiety and insomnia - May help improve blood sugar levels [![Healthy Teas | Chamomile | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://cdn.intelligencebank.com/au/share/NOrD/BM9XV/A6YkL/preset=pB6BA/B140AE014_Just_Chamomile_Digitized_Packaging_medium)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ftea%2fherbal-and-floral-tea%2fjust-chamomile-teabag-D108.html) This is my favourite chamomile tea which I get from: [T2Tea](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/47770?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.t2tea.com%2fen%2fau%2ftea%2fherbal-and-floral-tea%2fjust-chamomile-teabag-D108.html) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/healthy-teas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/healthy-teas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Food, Shopping **Tags:** health, supplement, tea, hot drink --- ### [12 Empowering books for after divorce or separation 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/empowering-books-divorce-separation/) **Published:** February 25, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Going through a family break-up is a hectic time. When the dust has finally settled, you might find yourself feeling understandably overwhelmed, tied and deflated. We get it … and are here to help! A few firm words from within the pages of the world’s top-rated self-help books could be just what you need. So stick on the kettle and curl up with one of these brilliant books to start feeling empowered after divorce or separation. ## **1. [The Power Of Letting Go by John Puriss](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/oeLmeO)** *The Power of Letting Go* by John Purkiss is one of the must-read books after divorce. The author explains the why and how of letting go when you’re stuck in a rut, whether it’s a bad relationship or a dead-end job. Sometimes letting go of attachment is what we need to grow as a person and live the life of our dreams. [![The Power Of Letting Go | books after divorce](https://www.qbd.com.au/img/products/0/9781783253630.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/oeLmeO) ***Recommended for:** Newly separated women or anyone stuck in a rut.* ## **2.** [**Get Divorced, Be Happy** **by Helen Thorn**](https://www.booktopia.com.au/get-divorced-be-happy-helen-thorn/book/9781785043703.html) We all need a funny friend. If you want a little break from all the crying, definitely add Helen Thorn’s *Get Divorced, Be Happy* to your to-read list of books after divorce. We guarantee you will be laughing your ass off reading stories from her own separation. More than the funny anecdotes, though, the book is also a self-help guide, providing valuable advice and insights on how to love and lift yourself when you’re feeling low. ![Get Divorced, Be Happy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/get-divorced-be-happy.jpg "get-divorced-be-happy - Beanstalk Mums")***Recommended for:** Newly separated women who need a bit (or a lot) of humour* ## **3. [Get Out Of Your Own Way by Mark Goulston, M.D.](https://amzn.to/3i8ScK8)** Sometimes, we can be our own worst enemy. If you are struggling to move forward during this difficult time, this excellent read about overcoming self-defeating behaviour is one of our fave books for after divorce. Mark Goulston teaches you practical self-help tips to beat everything from self-pity to procrastination. [![Get Out Of Your Own Way | books after divorce](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ojHvtp3DL.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3i8ScK8) ***Recommended for:** People who are having a hard time getting started.* ## **4. [It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way by Lysa Tekeurst](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/zabZar)** If divorce or the end of a relationship is testing your faith, give this book a read. The study guide accompanies a six-video Bible study series to get you through dark times. The writer has experienced her own life-changing losses and shares the lessons she learned on her journey, including finding peace when life turns out not the way you expected it to be. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/its-not-supposed-to-be-this-way.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Recommended for:** Religious people going through tough times.* ## **5. [Hello Beautiful by Keryl Pesce](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07L5BCZ6Y/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07L5BCZ6Y&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=8296711d110d976511c8ffd746004878)** Say hello to empowerment in this eye-opening read about breaking free from self-doubt, regret and anxiety. You’ll learn to be okay with not being okay and become more accepting of your true self, flaws and all. You’ll also learn to be more comfortable in your own skin even when people around you are not. Definitely one of our top books for after divorce. [![Hello Beautiful | books after divorce](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41LssDQjgkL.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B07L5BCZ6Y/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B07L5BCZ6Y&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=8296711d110d976511c8ffd746004878) ***Recommended for:** People suffering from low self-esteem and self-doubt post-breakup.* ## **6. [Survive And Thrive Through Your Separation by Helen Slater](https://amzn.to/3dmfEmr)** Legal proceedings are some of the toughest things about separation and divorce. Helen Slater’s practical book gives you everything you need to take the emotion out of the equation and make better decisions. In plain language, she guides you through the entire process, including paperwork, costs, responsibilities and potential outcomes. [![Survive And Thrive Through Your Separation](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/512P+X+bFdL._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3dmfEmr) ***Recommended for:** Anyone struggling with the legal aspects of separation.* ## **7. [Better Than Okay: Finding Hope and Healing After Your Marriage Ends ](https://amzn.to/41zkZyl)** This collection of short essays is perfect if you’re on the quest to heal and transform yourself after divorce. *When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal* by Brianna Wiest is the type of book you don’t read quickly; you absorb it. Filled with guidance and advice that will resonate with you, this is one of the best books after divorce to help re-frame your thoughts so you can come out better and stronger. ![When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal | books after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/when-you-re-ready-this-is-how-you-heal.jpg "when-you-re-ready-this-is-how-you-heal - Beanstalk Mums")***Recommended for:** Anyone on a healing journey and/or undergoing therapy* ## **8. [The Kickass Single Mum by Emma Johnson](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/J53av)** Looking for books for after divorce that teaches you how to be successfully independent? The Kickass Single Mum is for you. Written by someone who’s been there and survived (the author created the popular blog Wealthysinglemommy.com), this is a complete guide to single motherhood that shows you how to build financial stability and reignite your love life whilst being a kickass single parent. [![The Kickass Single Mum](https://covers.booktopia.com.au/big/9780143131151/0000/the-kickass-single-mom.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/J53av) ***Recommended for:** Women who want to be great parents whilst juggling a career and new relationship.* ## **9. [Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan Elliott](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0738213284/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0738213284&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=07e784f52a9122caba85fa3a4b5b5a76)** Getting over someone doesn’t happen overnight, as anybody who has gone through a breakup knows. Pick up this book if you’re having a hard time moving on. The author will teach how to overcome the pain of divorce through practical steps (starting with no contact with your ex) and other tips to jump-start the healing process so you can be happy again. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/book.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Recommended for:** People who have difficulty moving on after a breakup.* ## **10. [Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/edoGQ)** *Conscious Uncoupling* is one of those life-altering books for after divorce. The author understands how breakups bring out the worst in people, and she gently guides you away from the anger, bitterness and resentment towards peace, healing and wholeness. This book is a bright ray of hope for those who can’t see their way out of the darkness. [![Conscious Uncoupling](https://i.ibb.co/QfkQyvp/9780553447019xxl.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/edoGQ) ***Recommended for:** The heartbroken who needs a compassionate hand to guide them to peace.* ## **11. [You Are Enough by Mandy Hale](https://amzn.to/3bspLFB)** Divorce can torpedo your self-esteem like no other life event, making you feel like you are never good enough. This book uncovers the lies the brain tells you when someone rejects you, or you are down in the deepest dumps. It also teaches you how to overcome heartbreak and see yourself as whole and complete just as you are. [![You Are Enough | books after divorce](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51pescbDdbL.jpg)](https://amzn.to/3bspLFB) ***Recommended for:** Anyone who feels that they are not good enough after the end of a relationship.* ## **12. [Untamed by Glennon Doyle](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ALzDa)** This wonderful and empowering essay collection by Glennon Doyle is the one you’re looking for if you find yourself asking, “Now what?” after the end of a relationship. Do you feel unsettled and not quite yourself? The *Untamed* will wake up your heart and soul and give you the courage to finally take that scary next step, whether it’s coming out, moving to a new country or quitting an addiction. [![Untamed](https://covers.booktopia.com.au/big/9781785043352/4050/untamed.jpg)](https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/ALzDa) ***Recommended for:** Those who need a big push to become their best self.* ## **Summary: Empowering books after divorce and separation** Divorce is a painful and exhausting process that can make you feel like you’re at the lowest point in your life. But if you’re ready to pick up the pieces and start living again, a good book may just be what you need. This list has everything you would want from books after divorce – stories, advice, lessons, and validation. Some are like funny friends, some are like the best friend/sister you never had, and some are like your personal handheld therapists. (Of course, we recommend you seek real therapy, too.) There are books to help you start healing, and there are those that will guide you toward financial stability. Some will even walk you through the actual divorce proceedings. There’s surely a book that meets you wherever you are in this separation process. Now if you’re ready, grab your mug and a box of tissues, tuck yourself in your comfiest blanket, and start reading. *P.S. While we guarantee these are some of the best books after divorce, we also understand that you’re tired. If you find yourself dozing off in the middle of a book and don’t come out of this a changed person, well … at least you’re getting that much-needed shut-eye.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/empowering-books-divorce-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/empowering-books-divorce-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** support, reading, resources, book --- ### [10 Best sex toys for couples to have extra fun in the bedroom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sex-toys-couples/) **Published:** November 19, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Sex toys for couples are the best things ever! Not only do they spice up your sex life and keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom, but I find they have a positive affect on my relationships as a whole. Using adult toys opens up communication and a healthy vulnerability, which filters into other areas of the relationship making it stronger and more loving. If you are a [sex toy novice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/), you might like to have a little play on your own first or make it a journey of discovery together. Start slow with some [sexy lingerie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sexy-lingerie-outfits/) or [role play costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sexy-costumes-for-men/) then bring in the toys for the foreplay ride of your life. There are lots of great [adult toy shops online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/) and I’ve always found choosing sex toys with my partner easy and fun. Most stores have categories especially for couples to browse together and start sharing your fantasies before you get the toys. You can even get [sex toys for couples to use apart](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-best-wireless-app-enabled-sex-toys-for-socially-distanced-sexy-time/) which are perfect if you are in a long-distance relationship or in that stage when you can’t keep your hands off each other. Here are my favourite sex toys for couples. ## 10 Best sex toys for couples for extra fun in the bedroom ### 1. Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator When it comes to couple sex toys, the Lush 3 is made for long-distance fun. My friend and her partner absolutely love this wearable vibrator for both G-spot and clitoral stimulation. She says it’s perfect whether you’re in the privacy of your bedroom or in public, as it’s whisper-quiet and very discreet. She also raves about the battery life (up to 5 hours on one charge) and the fact that you can hook up the vibe to your phone and control Lush from a distance. 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And I love that you can just roll up the toys when you’re done. [![3](https://i.ibb.co/0mTqLDC/3.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34726?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.adultshop.com%2fboudoir-bondage-bag-by-brigitta-kit) I found this on: [Bondage Restraints Set](https://amzn.to/3XAVWKb "https://amzn.to/3XAVWKb") ### 3. NEXUS G-PLAY PLUS SMALL UNISEX VIBRATOR It can be difficult to find a vibrator that both you and your partner can enjoy. That’s why I like the Nexus G-Play vibe, a tiny but powerful and versatile “unisex massager” that’s [great for vaginal, clitoral, or anal stimulation](https://pleasuremenow.com/best-vibrators-for-couples/). This is perfect for couples who travel together, as the 3.6″ toy packs up nicely in a small bag and is also discreet enough if you’re in the mood for frisky fun in public. You wouldn’t think to look at it that it has six powerful vibration modes. 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Prepare for embarrassing questions and spill your sexy secrets while building your “adult business empire.” We had so much fun playing this with friends the first time that we all decided to make it a once-a-month event. [![Sex Toy Couples | Sexopoly Board Game | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://smhttp-ssl-61975.nexcesscdn.net/pub/media/catalog/product/cache/a9eaa6092683ca24b424e2903a837305/s/e/sexopoly.jpg)](https://amzn.to/4iaJnxm) I found this on: [Opoly ](https://amzn.to/3F7aI5f "https://amzn.to/3F7aI5f") ### 5. Whipped cream dispenser (funny sex gifts for couples) Whipped cream! Who doesn’t love it? For beginners, I recommend this whipped cream dispenser from the Naughty Store that’s great for bedroom fun. The rubberised container is easy to grip and holds enough whipped cream (1 pint or about 15 to 20 ) to last you the whole night. If there’s anything left over, just pop the dispenser in the fridge and it will stay fresh for up to 14 days. [![Whipped Cream Dispenser | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/Xx12rn6/Screenshot-2022-10-16-153934.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76118?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.naughtystore.com.au%2f) I found this on: [Naughty Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/76118?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.naughtystore.com.au%2f) ## Adult sex toys for couples ### 6. Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple’s Sex Toy Kit What is the one thing would you bring to a weekend getaway with your partner? Hands down, I would pick this aptly named sex toy kit from Lovehoney that has 11 (count ’em) toys for him and her: rabbit and g-spot vibrators, cock rings, jiggle balls, anal beads, butt plug, and masturbator. This set literally has everything you need and can ask for to take your erotic weekend to the next level. We definitely had a lot of fun playing and experimenting with the toys. Great value for money! 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This best-selling set of butt plugs from Wild Secrets comes with 3 different-sized plugs (small, medium, and large) so you and your lover have the freedom to experiment and explore. The ruby red base is just brilliant (and cute) and the plugs are also great for temperature play. [![Adam and Eve Butt Plug Set | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://media.exciteonlineservices.com.au/products/AEVE/t1218aeve/large_1.jpg?v=202210110244)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f233892%2fmetal-butt-plug-set-with-red-heart-shaped-gem-base-(3-pce)) I found this on: [Wild Secrets](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f233892%2fmetal-butt-plug-set-with-red-heart-shaped-gem-base-(3-pce)) ### 8. Magic touch fun paddle While I haven’t personally tried the Magic Touch Paddle, my friend only has great things to say about it. She says it’s a good toy for beginners and for curious couples who want to ease into BDSM play. The key is to practice, practice, practice, she says. She recommends trying the paddle on a pillow and on each other so you can feel the pressure and find out how hard you are willing to go. And come up with a “safe word” so that your partner knows when to stop! [![Sex Toy Couples | Magic Touch Fun Paddle | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/g6KLWg9/2.jpg)](https://www.clubx.com.au/products/magic-touch-paddle?pleasurebase&cfclick=711e76f8ffda4bc1ae6fe873968e851bhttps://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/31924?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.wildsecrets.com.au%2fp%2f233892%2fmetal-butt-plug-set-with-red-heart-shaped-gem-base-(3-pce)) I found this on: [Club X](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/64094?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.clubx.com.au%2fproducts%2fmagic-touch-paddle) ### 9. Couples choice vibrator When you’ve tried every couple toy out there, it’s always exciting when something new and different comes along. This vibrator from Femplay is called “Couples Choice” for a reason. And it’s as unique as it looks. I had to read the instructions first because I was unsure how to use it, haha. The vibrator head is worn by the woman (vaginal or anal), and the other shaft is for your partner’s penis to slide into. It can also be used for double entry if you’re into that. Versatile and double the fun! [![Couples Choice Vibrator | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://smhttp-ssl-61975.nexcesscdn.net/pub/media/catalog/product/cache/a12ef2bf8aae3038a80bfd87a8156ef1/c/o/couples-choice-couples-vibrator.jpg)](https://amzn.to/4heXJvm) I found this on: [Couple Vibrator Kit ](https://amzn.to/4iaJnxm "https://amzn.to/4iaJnxm") ### 10. FUSE STRAP ON ELECTRO STIM HARNESS DILDO Strap-ons are something I’ve been curious about for the longest time, but too chicken to try. It looks super intimidating in my opinion, haha. This Electro Strap On is definitely for the bold and daring couple, whether beginner or experienced. The dildo is made from soft silicone and can be used with or without plugging in the electric stimulation controls. I suggest trying it out sans electro wires at first, and then using the lowest setting so you and your man can see how it feels like before turning up the dial. 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But earning extra money does not automatically mean you have to dedicate yourself to another draining career that leaves you with little time for anything else. Instead, you can select an opportunity that better aligns with your skills, knowledge, and passion. Regardless of your motivation to earn more money, whether you are trying to save for the expensive, top-of-the-line [coffee machine for business](https://www.nespresso.com/pro/au/en/order/machines/pro) that you have been eyeing for months or simply want to feel more financially secure, there are an endless number of worthwhile side jobs to pursue. ## **Turn Your Weekend into Cash with These Side Hustles** ## **Answer Surveys** If you are looking for an easy, stress-free, and flexible side gig to do from the comfort of your home, answering online surveys is a great place to start. Multiple websites exist, like Inbox Dollars and Survey Junkie, where brands post surveys relating to their products and operations, looking for feedback from consumers in exchange for a small payment. It is a mutually beneficial arrangement that offers your favourite brands valuable insight into how they can improve while you earn money without leaving your couch. ## **House Sitting** For a relatively simple and relaxing weekend and holiday job that includes plenty of leisure time, consider [offering to housesit for neighbours](https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/housesitting-job) and other people in your area who are going out of town. You can either stay in their home while they are gone or check in multiple times a day to ensure everything is safe and secure, completing simple tasks like watering plants, collecting their mail, and tending to their pets, giving them peace of mind their home is in safe hands. It is only natural that people will be hesitant to leave their homes with people they don’t know, so word-of-mouth recommendations are vital in securing new clients. Start by sitting for people you already know, like family friends, or relatives, who can recommend you to others while remaining honest and transparent in your abilities. Alternatively, use websites like MindMyHouse and Trusted Housesitters to get started. ## **Online Language Teaching** Foreign language teachers, particularly in English, are in high demand across the globe. With the rise of telecommuting and online teaching platforms, you can now do this job from anywhere in the world. There are many platforms that connect language teachers with students, including Preply and Cambly. However, many require a TEFL (teaching English as a foreign language) or teaching certification. Furthermore, it is vital to read employee reviews of various teaching platforms and companies, as many are guilty of exploiting their teachers with demanding schedules and low pay. ![side hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Ad_4nxdmnl0b2-mlmi9unktki0xcvvkr1m8bfc4n5fctv4ginsagf51n8th5hmor1ppwtomz4dhxnznrwiotgzlv27_xdk2eqt2fi5d0iebkb4kj3im7b3jrf_ams4ecj19rc-eo2gx6xq.jpg "Ad_4nxdmnl0b2-mlmi9unktki0xcvvkr1m8bfc4n5fctv4ginsagf51n8th5hmor1ppwtomz4dhxnznrwiotgzlv27_xdk2eqt2fi5d0iebkb4kj3im7b3jrf_ams4ecj19rc-eo2gx6xq - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Become a Notary Public** Notary signing agents are legal officials who witness and sign specific documents, like wills, marriage licenses, new passport applications, and real estate documents. Before becoming an official notary, you will need to pass an exam and pay filing fees. However, it can become a lucrative side job. According to the National Notary Association in the United States, 43% of part-time, self-employed notaries earn at least $500 per month, while almost 30% can earn more than $1000. ## **Dog Walking & Pet Sitting** If you enjoy getting outdoors, love working with animals, or live in an area popular with pet owners, you can earn a steady income by offering dog walking and pet sitting services. Many pet owners who work full-time jobs are open to the idea of utilising these services with reliable and trustworthy people who are often referred to them via word-of-mouth. Pet-sitting can take multiple forms, including visiting a client’s home numerous times throughout the day to check in their animal, staying overnight to pet-sit in a familiar and comfortable environment for their pet, or using your own home as a daycare or overnight stay where pet owners can drop off their animals. ## **Virtual Assistant** For organised individuals looking for the ideal weekend [side hustle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/single-mums-in-business/ "side hustle"),[ becoming a virtual assistant](https://www.investopedia.com/terms/v/virtual-assistant.asp) to busy working professionals and entrepreneurs may just be the answer you are looking for. Your role is to provide remote administrative support, including scheduling meetings, entering data, or responding to emails. To excel in this career, you need a detail-oriented mindset, strong communication skills, and a knack for organisation. 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Alternatively, if you would prefer not to leave your home, film and post videos onto digital platforms like YouTube or Facebook, where you can potentially earn money through advertisements and sponsorships as your channel and online audience grow. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/turn-your-weekend-into-cash-with-these-side-hustles/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/turn-your-weekend-into-cash-with-these-side-hustles/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Harmony Week is Here: How to Celebrate Diversity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/harmony-week/) **Published:** February 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Harmony Week is just around the corner. It’s the perfect time to teach our kids about the beauty of cultural diversity in Australia. This year, Harmony Week runs from March 17 to March 23, celebrating the message that “everyone belongs.” It’s a chance to honour the different cultures, languages, and traditions that make Australia such a vibrant place to live. Coming from a lineage of immigrants, I know how important it is to embrace and celebrate our differences. My daughter, who is now attending nursery school, is already curious about the world, and Harmony Week gives me a fun excuse to show them how amazing it is to be part of a multicultural community. Plus, these activities are simple and affordable. Because let’s be honest, no one has time for Pinterest-level crafts when there’s laundry piling up. ## What is Harmony Week? Harmony Week is an annual celebration in Australia that promotes inclusiveness, respect, and a sense of belonging for everyone, no matter their cultural or linguistic background. It began in 1999 and is held every year in March, coinciding with the [United Nations International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination on March 21](https://www.un.org/en/observances/end-racism-day#:~:text=The%20International%20Day%20for%20the,%22pass%20laws%22%20in%201960.) (Harmony Day). It’s a reminder that our diversity makes us stronger and that everyone has a place in the Australian community. It is a reminder of the importance of the different cultures that make Australia, Australia. Feeling a sense of belonging is really important for each of us. Unfortunately, there is a risk that celebrating Harmony Week might end. I’ve read a report on SBS Australia that the celebration can hide the racism brought about by people’s lack of understanding (or regard) of others. Some suggest this event gets replaced by an anti-racism celebration. Regardless of what happens, here are Harmony Day and Harmony Week activities to try. ## How to Teach Kids About the Value of Diversity on Harmony Week ## 1. Explore the World Through Food The theme of Harmony Week is “everyone belongs,” and if there’s one thing that brings people together, it’s food. Try cooking a dish from a different culture and let your kids help out. My daughter loves mixing ingredients … even if half of it ends up on the floor. You could make homemade dumplings, a simple pasta dish, or even flatbread. If cooking feels too ambitious, grab some treats from your local international grocery store. Even researching about aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander food together will do! Sharing a meal is the easiest (and yummiest) way to start conversations about where food comes from and who makes it. My older sister married a wonderful man who is Muslim, and their family celebrates Eid every year. Last year, they invited us over for a feast, and my toddler discovered a deep love for samosas. Now, whenever we pass their house, she asks, “Auntie, samosa?” Food has a funny way of bringing people closer. ![harmony week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-14.png "In article image 14 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Travel the World Through Books Books are another great window into other worlds. Borrow books from your local library that highlight stories from different cultures. Many libraries put together Harmony Week displays, so you don’t even need to search. Read together and talk about what makes each culture special. My niece attends a public school, and for last year’s Harmony Week, her teacher read the class a picture book about the [Lunar New Year](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/exciting-lunar-new-year-activities-for-kids-2025/). They got so excited that they came home and tried to teach the whole family how to do a dragon dance. It was chaos, but the joy was contagious. Check out events in your local area; I’m sure there’d be many in your bookshops and libraries. ![2. Travel the World Through Books harmony week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-15.png "In article image 15 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Get Creative with Cultural Crafts Set up a simple craft area at home and make art inspired by different cultures. You and your kids could paint Aboriginal dot art, create paper lanterns, or even design mini flags from around the world. You don’t need fancy supplies; just paper, crayons, and a sense of adventure. At the nursery school my little girl attends, the teachers already sent out a memo about a bead bracelet-making activity for Harmony Week. They will be making bracelets with beads in different colours to represent different cultures. Check out local community events that you and your kids can participate in. If there are none, you could even head your locale’s activities! ## How to Teach Children About Diversity on Harmony Week (cont.) ## 4. Learn New Languages Together Another fun idea is to challenge your kids to learn how to say “hello” in a new language every day during Harmony Week. It’s an easy way to show that different languages are something to celebrate. Use Harmony Week as a chance to practise other languages with family and friends. Learning about their language also allows you to hear other people’s stories. You can also check out awesome foreign-language films or music. One of my closest mum friends is from India, and she’s been teaching my daughter to say “Namaste.” Every time they meet, my kid proudly presses their hands together and says it with a big smile. It’s a small thing, but it warms my heart to see them connecting through language. ![4. Learn New Languages Together harmony week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-16.png "In article image 16 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 5. Celebrate Your Own Culture When I was growing up, my mum would always make these little egg cakes during special occasions. She has already passed the recipe to us, and this year, I’m planning to bake it with my daughter to share with our neighbours. It’s a sweet way to honour my roots while building connections in our local community. Harmony Week isn’t just about learning from others; it’s also a chance to celebrate your own background, traditions and practices. Share your family’s cultural traditions with your kids. Teach them a favourite childhood recipe, play music from your heritage, or share stories from your upbringing. Maybe you can entice them by awesome music shows like PopAraby, PopDesi and PopAsia on SBS. ![5. Celebrate Your Own Culture harmony week](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-17.png "In article image 17 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 6. Listen to people from different backgrounds Lastly, take this opportunity to listen to the stories of other people who come from other backgrounds. After all, realising that somebody else has felt the same way helps you feel less alone. There will be plenty all around you, but if you (or your kids) are not ready to approach others, many community radio stations have culture-based shows. It’s powerful to hear other people’s stories and can even serve as an opportunity to share your story too. The best thing is, listening is free. ## Conclusion: Embracing Cultural Diversity on Harmony Week Australia is one of the most multicultural countries in the world. I love being an Australian because it’s a place where so many cultures can come together and call it home. My family’s roots may be elsewhere, but here, we get to celebrate who we are while learning from others. Watching my little girl grow up in an environment where they can share their heritage and embrace new ones makes me hopeful for the future. At the end of the day, Harmony Week is about kindness, curiosity, and belongingness. The great thing is that there’s plenty happening around Harmony Week. These little activities aren’t just fun; they’re planting seeds of empathy and understanding that will grow for years to come. In simple ways, this celebration inculcates a sense of belonging for all Australians. And who knows? Your child might just discover a new favourite food or a beautiful new tradition along the way! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/harmony-week/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/harmony-week/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Ramadan Diaries: How to Support Your Muslim Friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/support-your-friends-during-ramadan/) **Published:** February 19, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Ramadan is a month of self-reflection, faith, and fasting for many Muslims around the world. As the holiest month of the Islamic calendar, it is a deeply spiritual time for those observing, filled with prayer, charity, and community. If you know a Muslim observing Ramadan, you may want to be supportive but aren’t sure how. Here’s how to support a friend during Ramadan. ## What is Ramadan? Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, a time when many Muslims fast between sunrise and sunset as an act of devotion and self-discipline. It is a period of increased prayer, reflection, and acts of charity. Fasting during Ramadan is one of the five pillars of Islam, and those observing can’t eat or drink anything during daylight hours. Also, it’s the month for strengthening faith, performing good deeds, and fostering a sense of community. [In 2025](https://www.timeanddate.com/holidays/australia/ramadan-begins), Ramadan begins on the evening of February 28 and ends on the evening of March 30, following the lunar calendar (in contrast to the Gregorian calendar). I’ve personally had the privilege of seeing Ramadan through different perspectives. My sister converted a few years ago, and one of my closest colleagues is Muslim. Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to be supportive during this important time. I remember the first time the month came around after my sister’s conversion; as a non-Muslim, I had so many questions! At first, I worried about eating in front of her or saying the wrong thing. But she assured me that small gestures, like acknowledging her fast and understanding her energy levels, meant the world to her. Similarly, my colleague has shared how much it means when people show respect for her fasting without making a big deal about it. ![ramadan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-12.png "In article image 12 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How Non-Muslims Can Show Support to a Muslim During Ramadan ## Wish them a ‘Happy Ramadan’ A simple greeting like “Happy Ramadan” or “Blessed Ramadan” can go a long way in showing respect and support for people observing Ramadan. Muslims welcome these warm wishes, and it lets them know you acknowledge this important time. ## Learn About Ramadan Taking the time to learn about the devotion and what it means can help you be more supportive and respectful. A quick Google search can teach you about the significance of fasting at this time and how it impacts daily life. ## Respect Their Fasting Part of Ramadan is abstaining from food and drink during daylight hours. This means they can’t take food or drinks anything from sunrise to sunset. Being mindful of this and not offering them food or drinks shows thoughtfulness. Aside from fasting from food, Muslims are also supposed to stay away from bad actions and thoughts. Remember that Ramadan is a time for them to get close to Allah, so don’t gossip around them! ## Be Considerate When Eating Around Them Remember when you were [dieting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/5-easy-ways-to-diet-for-the-time-poor-mum/) and someone brings in your favourite fried chicken meal? Eating or drinking in front of someone who’s fasting can be challenging for them. While many Muslims don’t mind, others may find it difficult. If you’re unsure, don’t be afraid to ask your Muslim friend or colleague how they feel about it. You might want to eat your meals somewhere else or at least have halal food. ## Avoid Scheduling Food-Centric Meetings If you’re a manager or planning a work event, try to be mindful of Muslim friends and colleagues. Avoid scheduling lunch meetings where Muslim employees may feel left out. ## Understand That Energy Levels May Vary The effects of fasting can include tiredness, lower energy levels, and difficulty concentrating, especially closer to sunset. Showing patience and understanding is a great way to support your Muslim colleagues and friends. ## Offer Flexible Work Hours If you’re a manager, offering flexible work hours for employees fasting can be incredibly helpful. My colleague once told me how grateful she was when our team leader adjusted meeting times so she could rest before iftar. Small accommodations like this make a big difference. It’ll also prevent possible issues with other non-Muslim employees or clients who might not be as receptive. ## Be Mindful of Scheduling Avoid scheduling major meetings or deadlines right before sunset when those fasting are preparing to break their fast, or around suhoor. ## Supporting Muslim People in Your Life During the Holy Month of Ramadan (cont.) ## Acknowledge Their Effort Fasting reminds Muslims of discipline and devotion. A kind word acknowledging their commitment can make them feel supported throughout the holy month. ## Respect Their Prayer Time Many Muslims use this as a time to strengthen their faith by praying more frequently. If a friend or colleague needs a few minutes to pray, be supportive and respectful. ## Join in for Iftar If you’re invited to an iftar (the meal to break the fast), it’s a wonderful opportunity to share in the experience and learn more about Ramadan. I remember being invited to an iftar at my sister’s home and being amazed at the warmth and generosity of the gathering. It was a beautiful way to connect. I first joined in 2024 and it’s a time to learn more about their faith. ## Encourage Generosity Ramadan is a month of good deeds and charity. Whether that’s contributing to a fundraiser or donating to a food bank, showing generosity is a beautiful way to support your Muslim community. ## Understand That Not All Muslims Observe Ramadan the Same Way Some Muslims can’t fast due to health reasons or personal circumstances. Others may even observe Ramadan differently based on cultural practices. ## Be Patient with Responses Fasting can impact energy and focus, so if a Muslim friend or colleague takes longer to respond to emails or messages, be understanding. ## Encourage Breaks When Needed If you notice a fasting colleague struggling, encourage them to take a break or rest when possible. ## Celebrate with Them The end of Ramadan is marked by Eid al-Fitr, a festive holiday. Wishing someone a happy Eid or acknowledging the celebration is a thoughtful gesture. On Eid, my sister gives away chocolates, so I definitely take part in that! Oh, and their food is scrumptious. ## Don’t Assume They Are Available for Evening Plans Since the game between Mainz and Augsburg started in the early evening, some Muslims might have had to miss it because iftar takes priority. Keep in mind that Muslims use their evenings to pray, eat, and spend time with family. My siblings and I go on a dinner date once a month, but we go forego that tradition during this period for the sake of our eldest. ![ramadan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-13.png "In article image 13 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Support Muslims in Your Community During Ramadan (cont.) ## Offer to Help with Tasks If you have a fasting friend, family member, or employee, small gestures like offering to run an errand for them during your spare time can be greatly appreciated. ## Respect That Ramadan Can Also Be a Time for Rest Muslims don’t just fast; they also focus on reflection and religious and spiritual growth. Give them space if they need it. ## Avoid Stereotypes Not every Muslim practises Islam the same way. Some may observe Ramadan strictly, while others may not. Avoid making assumptions. ## Encourage Inclusivity If you have a Muslim employee or colleague, ensuring that workplace policies and events are inclusive can help them feel supported. ## Ask Thoughtful Questions If you’re unsure about how to best support your friends or colleagues, just ask! Many Muslims welcome questions about their faith and practices. ## Recognise That Ramadan is a Personal Journey Ramadan-practising Muslim family members may experience the month differently from other Muslims. Everyone has their own way of connecting with their faith. ## Share the Spirit of Giving Many people refrain from negative actions and instead focus on kindness during Ramadan. A small act of kindness on your part can align with the spirit of the month. Even if you don’t share their beliefs, no one refuses an opportunity to be generous and kind. ## Continue the Support During the Month of Ramadan and Beyond Support for people observing Ramadan doesn’t have to stop once the month ends. Being respectful and supportive of their faith and traditions should not be available exclusively on Ramadan. ## Final Thoughts: How to Support Your Muslim Friends During Ramadan As a Catholic, I didn’t know anything when my older sister converted to Islam. How do we navigate this new dynamic in the practise of different religions? More importantly, how do I make her feel supported and respected in her faith? Ramadan is a time for connection, reflection, and generosity. Whether you’re supporting a Muslim co-worker, friend, or family member, your respect and kindness will mean the world to them. Wishing you all a generous Ramadan and a blessed month of self-reflection! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/support-your-friends-during-ramadan/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/support-your-friends-during-ramadan/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** friendships, ramadan, harmony week --- ### [International Women's Day 2025: How To Celebrate ALL Women](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/international-womens-day/) **Published:** February 22, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** March isn’t just about the changing seasons: it’s also the time to celebrate women. Held on 8 March each year across the world, International Women’s Day is a time to celebrate the strength, resilience, and achievements of millions of women and girls everywhere. And as single mums? We’ve got a lot to be proud of. The theme for IWD 2025 for UN Women Australia is “March Forward Forward: From Promises to Progress.” This initiative is a call to move beyond words and take real steps toward gender equality and equity. Coinciding on the anniversary of the Beijing Declaration and Platform for Action, International Women’s Day is a day to recognise the many cultural and political achievements of women. It’s time to turn promises and commitments into actions and enact lasting change in terms of women’s rights. For us single mums, marching forward means many things. It means pushing for better [support systems](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-for-single-mothers-complete-guide/ "support systems"), eliminating workplace barriers and violence against women, and greater recognition of the unique challenges we face. All of these while celebrating the extraordinary ways we show up for ourselves and our kids. Being a single mum means wearing many hats. It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget to acknowledge how much we do. But IWD is a reminder that our stories matter toward a gender equal future. Our work matters. We matter. ## International Women’s Day: Celebrating Our Strength and Resilience Being a single mum takes guts. You navigate the hard days, show up when you’re exhausted, and love your kids fiercely. That’s worth celebrating. IWD is a chance to reflect on how far you’ve come. Maybe you’ve rebuilt your life after a tough breakup. Maybe you’ve gone back to school, started a new job, or made it through the rising violence. Every step is a victory. Give yourself credit; you’ve earned it. And it’s not just about us. This month is also a time to commemorate the Australian women and girls who came before us. It’s a to pay our respects to the mothers, grandmothers, friends and the feminists who paved the way towards achieving gender equality. Their strength runs through us, even on the days we feel like we’re barely holding it together. ![International Women's Day: Celebrating Our Strength and Resilience](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-24.png "In article image 24 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to Celebrate International Women’s Day 2025 as a Single Mum There will be celebrations taking place across the globe to honour the achievements women have made. Here, [United Nations Woman Australia](https://www.iwd.net.au) has lined up lots of IWD events and activities for Australia’s women. If you can join these, great, but if not, there are still lots you can do. You don’t need a big budget or a packed schedule to celebrate. Here are some simple, meaningful ways to mark the celebration: ### 1. Treat Yourself (Without the Guilt) When was the last time you did something just for you? Take a step back and give yourself a little treat. It could be as simple as a cup of morning tea at sunrise, a long bath after the kids are asleep, or finally buying that book you’ve been eyeing. Small joys matter. And while you’re at it, why not support women business owners? ### 2. Share Stories with Your Kids Teach your children about inspiring and empowering women leaders, both famous and the ones in your own life. Share stories about your mother’s courage, your best friend’s kindness, or your own journey. Read them books about the awesome women who paved the pathway. For our little girls, women reaching their full potential is an awesome opportunity to learn strength. ### 3. Connect with Other Women Reach out to other single mums or women in your community. A simple catch-up, a supportive text, or a shared laugh can make all the difference. If you have the time, consider attending a local International Women’s Day event. Many communities offer free or affordable workshops and celebrations. ![How to Celebrate International Women's Day 2025 as a Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-26.png "In article image 26 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Celebrating International Women’s Day 2025 (cont.) ### 4. Celebrate Your Accomplishments Write down three things you’re proud of this month, no matter how small. Maybe you managed a tough parenting moment with grace, or you handled a work challenge like a boss. Despite the economic disparities and gender stereotypes we still face, acknowledging your wins helps you see how far you’ve come. ### 5. Give Back in Small Ways Sometimes, the best way to celebrate is to lift someone else up. Donate clothes you no longer need to a women’s shelter, give to the fundraising efforts of organisations across Australia, leave a kind note for another mum, or simply offer a smile to a stranger. Get involved in local programs to achieve gender empowerment. Small acts of kindness, commitment, and solidarity ripple far. ### 6. Embrace the 2025 Theme: March Forward This year’s theme encourages us to move beyond promises and take real steps toward progress. As a single mum, marching forward might mean advocating for better childcare, supporting other mums through domestic violence, fighting systemic inequalities, or pushing for change and equal rights for single-parent families in the workplace. Even small actions, like speaking up, sharing your story, or mentoring another woman, can drive progress globally. Join us by using the hashtags #IWD2025 and # marchforward on your related social media posts as a call to action. After all, forward momentum is essential towards an equitable future. ![How to Celebrate International Women's Day 2025 as a Single Mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/In-article-image-25.png "In article image 25 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final Thoughts: International Women’s Day in 2025 As single mums, we often put ourselves last. But this International Women’s Month, let’s change that. Take a moment to celebrate your resilience, your courage, and your love because you are doing an incredible job. So, how will you celebrate yourself this month? Whatever you choose, know this: you’re not alone, and you’re worth every bit of celebration. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/international-womens-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/international-womens-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [How to survive a breakup with a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/survive-a-breakup-with-a-narcissist/) **Published:** February 21, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Breakups suck. However, breaking up with a narcissist is uniquely challenging. Indeed, in my consulting room, I often come across people who look for therapy after their breakup with a narcissistic partner. Here, I explain why a breakup with a narcissist is so painful and offer expert tips on how to deal with it. ***Further reading: [12 Essential (and unusual) steps to survive a relationship breakup.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/)*** ## Normal breakup vs narcissist break-up Even the most amicable breakups hurt badly because you are losing a significant relationship. This is true regardless of whether you are the partner who is making the decision to leave or the one left behind. Yet, it’s worth making a distinction between normal breakups versus narcissist breakups. This is true because of how narcissists break up, which adds another layer of complexity to the ordinary heartache of a relationship ending. ## Why prepare for your breakup with a narcissist There are several reasons why you should be prepared for the worst when you break up with a narcissistic partner. Narcissists present with a personality style that has distinctive features. A deep sense of shame and low self-esteem lies at the heart of inflated narcissism. These feelings go hand in hand with a sense of entitlement, arrogance, self-absorption, and a limited capacity to empathise and feel remorse. The narcissist’s entire personality is formed in a way that protects them from being hurt. However, this happens at the expense of other people, especially those closest to them. So, what does a narcissist do when you break up? And what should you expect when a relationship with a narcissist comes to an end? In a nutshell, it will be messy and ugly – more so than an ordinary breakup. ## What happens when you breakup with a narcissist When you breakup with a narcissist, your decision may open up old wounds for the narcissist, inflicting a narcissistic injury on them. They will feel humiliated by your decision to leave them, which will spark feelings of rage. Narcissists don’t like looking inward out of fear of seeing something faulty. It is unlikely that they will take responsibility for the breakup or for your unhappiness in the relationship. Instead, they may: - Find ways to denigrate you mentally - Make false accusations and paint you in overtly negative colours - Be furious with you for taking the control away from them Their behaviour can escalate to abuse, including physical violence. On the flip side of the coin, a narcissist who feels unprepared for a breakup can plead with you to stay, promising you the world. Take such promises with a significant pinch of salt. Even though a narcissist can miss you after a breakup, their promises are a form of regaining control rather than committing to long-lasting changes. ![How to survive a breakup with a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/In-article-images-78.jpg "Beanstalk Mums blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## What happens when a narcissist ends a relationship When a narcissist ends the relationship, be prepared to feel discarded by them. They cannot tolerate feeling rejected themselves, so they will project feelings of rejection onto you and walk out of the relationship triumphantly. Narcissists move on quickly after a breakup. It’s not uncommon for the narcissist to have already found a new romantic partner before walking out. Their new relationship is their way of regulating their self-esteem, providing them with a narcissistic supply. This type of supply is about the narcissist getting the admiration and validation that they need from others to feel good about themselves. However, their new relationship will understandably make the breakup more painful for you. You will likely doubt your self-worth and feel you were not good enough for them in the first place. Try not to buy into these thoughts. A true narcissist will often treat other people as objects serving a single purpose of meeting their own emotional needs. ## How do you survive a breakup with a narcissist? No matter who is initiating the breakup, a separation from a narcissistic individual means one thing: A bumpy ride, so fasten your seatbelt. The more entrenched your life together is, the uglier the breakup will be. Here are five tips to help you survive a breakup with a narcissistic partner: ### 1. Prepare for it If you see the breakup coming, prepare for it practically. Think of anything of value that you share in common with your narcissistic partner. Do you: - Have kids together and may need to [co-parent with a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/) - Have any assets or other financial ties? - Live together? - Have any common friends? Individuals with narcissistic personality traits can become revengeful when someone hurts them. Thus, take any necessary action to safeguard the things you value. Seek legal or financial advice, remove beloved belongings, and prepare your friends for a possible character assassination committed by your ex-partner. [Employ a company to help you move](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/67185?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.muval.com.au%2f) and create a buffer between you and the ex. Moving out after breaking up with a narcissist can be difficult and scary, but it is crucial for reclaiming your peace. Start by planning your exit carefully to minimize drama and avoid confrontations. Ensure all your valuable belongings are secured, and have someone help you move out your stuff. If needed, seek legal advice when there’s a conflict when moving out of the house. Besides physical distance, emotional detachment is key, try to limit communication to essential matters only. It’s not an easy process, but a great deal of planning and a support system can help you move forward from the breakup. For more guidance, check out the full article [here](https://blog.hireahelper.com/the-official-break-up-moving-checklist/). If you are afraid of your partner becoming violent towards you, then consider calling a domestic violence helpline such as [1800Respect](https://www.1800respect.org.au/), asking a professional to help you develop an exit plan safely. ### 2. Minimise their humiliation The less humiliated your narcissistic partner feels during the breakup, the better. In any kind of breakup, both partners may say and do some really hurtful things to each other, inflicting pain. However, the deeper the narcissistic injury inflicted on your partner during the breakup, the more vindictive they can become. If there are ways in which you can help your narcissistic partner feel as little attacked as possible during the breakup, this may limit the damage caused to both of you. Could you: - Minimise the tit-for-tat attitude and refrain from retaliating. - Mention any qualities of your narcissistic partner that you have appreciated during the relationship. Be warned: Despite the best intentions, an amicable breakup with a narcissistic partner may be out of the question. ### 3. Have firm boundaries While the above point is about not adding fuel to the fire, this point is about protecting yourself and not allowing your narcissistic partner to cause disproportionate damage. - If they post about their new relationship all over social media, block them. - Is your partner trying to take advantage of you financially? Don’t agree to their terms, and be prepared to fight back. - Are you being seduced back to the relationship when you were determined to leave? Limit communication with them and do not fall for empty promises It is extremely likely that a narcissistic partner will try to cross your boundaries during a breakup. Don’t allow them to do this. Get your support system ready and waiting as you may need all the help you can get. ### 4. It’s not about you, it’s about them A narcissist will do their best to push any feelings of rejection and humiliation that they experience back onto you. They may blame you for everything, point out your character flaws, or coldly announce that they have met a new and better partner. They could make you feel utterly worthless. Remember, this is a narcissist’s way of being: Protecting their own self-worth at the expense of others. Try to adopt a bird’s eye view, look at the bigger picture and don’t take things personally. Their new partner will be no better than you, and your narcissistic ex-partner will not immediately become an improved version of themselves and live happily ever after. Their false, charming selves will continue to be there after the breakup. ### 5. You will still grieve If your breakup is a lucky escape from your narcissistic partner, what are you grieving for? This can feel confusing. However, you will need to grieve for the person that you had imagined your partner to be and their good qualities. You will grieve for the relationship and the moments that you experienced together – your dreams, your aspirations, and your future as a couple. It’s ok to feel upset. [Surviving a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/) is challenging. Even if this person did not deserve you, you may still miss them, not only because of who they really were but because of what they meant to you. ## Breakup with a narcissist: Getting help Life does not get better straight away following a breakup, even if you have broken free from a narcissistic partner. Time helps but does not heal all wounds. You sometimes need professional help to recover after a breakup with a narcissist. This is especially true if you experience flashbacks, difficulty with trusting people, low mood, a sense of you being not good enough, and rumination over your ex-partner for a long while after your breakup. [A therapist experienced ](https://singlemamaway.com/aboutsinglemama/)working with non-death related loss and survivors of narcissist abuse may be best positioned to help you. A narcissistic breakup can often feel traumatic. Hopefully, you will find ways to grow stronger and wiser and feel ready to enter a new relationship that meets your needs and validates your feelings instead of boosting your partner’s inflated ego. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/survive-a-breakup-with-a-narcissist/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/survive-a-breakup-with-a-narcissist/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** emotional abuse, relationship breakup, narc --- ### [5 Self Care Tips To Help You Through The Partner Visa Process in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-self-care-tips-to-help-you-through-the-partner-visa-process-in-australia/) **Published:** February 20, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Seemingly endless paperwork and long waits to hear back are to be expected when applying for a partner visa in practically any country. Australia is no exception, and if you or your partner are going through the process of applying for a visa there, you may find the ongoing uncertainty hard to deal with. Handing power over the future of your relationship to somebody you do not know is enough to keep anyone up at night, and it can take a serious toll on the mental health and well-being of some people. Unfortunately, you cannot control how quickly the authorities process applications, but there are plenty of strategies that can help you cope with how you feel during this difficult time. This short article outlines a few effective and practical methods of managing stress and staying positive during the visa process. ## **1. Break the Process Down into Manageable Steps** Throughout the [Australia partner visa](https://www.resultsmigration.com.au/partner-visas/) process, many documents are required and there is often a lot of back-and-forth between applicants and the authorities. It can be very long, and this sometimes causes people to feel overwhelmed. One way to avoid this is to break the process down into manageable steps and just focus on completing the next one. One exercise that can help shift your perspective from unproductively worrying about the whole process to productively concentrating on the most immediate tasks is creating a checklist. That way, you can easily see what has been done and what needs doing. Your checklist can be written, but some people also like to use apps or spreadsheets for this. ## **2. Find Some Supportive Communities** Reach out to friends and family for emotional support. After all, that is what they are there for and you would surely be there for them if the tables were turned. Beyond that, it may also be helpful to join some online support groups for people in similar situations to you. There are often Facebook groups or online forums where people applying for visas or people with foreign partners can share their experiences, seek advice, and make new connections. While getting in touch with the busy immigration authorities to get information about your case can be a pain, there are some advice lines you can call that may be able to offer [free legal support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/) or answer your questions about the application process. ## **3. Exercise Regularly** ![partner visa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/16a35b7b-9008-49de-9b9a-4714b0f320b7-1067x800.jpg "16a35b7b-9008-49de-9b9a-4714b0f320b7 - Beanstalk Mums") This might seem unrelated to what you are going through, but it certainly should not be overlooked. [Exercise and mental health](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/exercise-and-mental-health) are very closely linked and working up a sweat is a proven stress-buster, so make sure that you stay active while applying for the visa. The type of activity and the length of the workout do not significantly alter the impact it has on stress, so even just doing ten minutes of an activity you enjoy can be enough. In fact, exercise will not just fix your stress, but it will actually improve your mood too. This is because it releases endorphins, which are essentially your body’s happy hormones. ## **4. Distract Yourself Productively** Your experience is going to be much worse if you are coming straight home from work just to spend your free time stressing about your visa. Once you have your checklist in place and you have everything ready for the next stage of the application, find some ways to distract yourself and put your worries to the back of your mind. This is a great opportunity to take up a new hobby, a creative project, or to learn something new. You could also help others by sharing your experiences in a blog. ## **5. Practice Mindfulness Techniques** Mindfulness is so popular now that many people are incorporating meditation and other techniques into their everyday lives. This is because it is very effective at helping them deal with stress, worry, and intrusive thoughts. It is also easier than ever to do nowadays. You can easily get started with YouTube videos and apps. ## **Conclusion: Australia Partner Visa** There is no getting around the fact that visa applications are stressful, but with the right coping strategies you can minimise the impact on your everyday life and mental health. Practising being focused and organised, maintaining a positive mindset and a healthy lifestyle, and not constantly checking timelines are all things that will help you keep anxiety at bay. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-self-care-tips-to-help-you-through-the-partner-visa-process-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/5-self-care-tips-to-help-you-through-the-partner-visa-process-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Grass-Fed Tallow in Skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/grass-fed-tallow-in-skincare/) **Published:** December 12, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the world of natural skincare, not all ingredients are created equal. Tallow, a time-honoured skincare component, reveals a fascinating distinction between its grass-fed tallow and grain-fed varieties—a difference that can significantly impact your skin’s health and appearance. Visit[ tallowbalmshop.com](https://tallowbalmshop.com) to learn more about these traditional skincare products. ## **Understanding Tallow: Beyond the Basics** Tallow, rendered from beef or mutton, is far more than a simple animal fat. Its molecular structure remarkably mirrors human skin’s natural oils, positioning it as an exceptional moisturizing agent. However, the source of this ingredient—whether from grass-fed or grain-fed cattle—plays a crucial role in its ultimate effectiveness. ## **The Nutritional Powerhouse: Grass-Fed Tallow** ### **A Symphony of Nutrients** Grass-fed tallow stands out as a nutritional powerhouse, offering a comprehensive array of benefits that grain-fed alternatives simply cannot match. 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It supports: - Sustainable farming practices - Ecosystem diversity - Potential carbon sequestration through responsible grazing ![Grass-Fed Tallow in Skincare](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-61.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Selecting High-Quality Tallow Balm: What to Look For** ### **Sourcing Criteria** - Seek “grass-fed and grass-finished” labels - Research producer’s farming practices - Prioritize transparency in sourcing ### **Quality Indicators** - Creamy white to pale yellow colour - Smooth, consistent texture - Minimal, natural ingredient list - Proper protective packaging ## **Final Reflections on Grass-Fed Tallow in Skincare** Investing in grass-fed tallow balm is an investment in: - Superior skin nutrition - Natural ingredient efficacy - Environmentally conscious consumption Your skincare routine becomes more than a daily ritual—it transforms into a [statement of holistic well-being](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/) and environmental stewardship. ## **Frequently Asked Questions** **Is Grass-Fed Tallow Worth the Extra Cost?** Absolutely. The enhanced nutritional profile and potential long-term skin benefits justify the investment. **Can I Use Tallow Balm on Sensitive Skin?** Grass-fed tallow’s natural composition makes it generally suitable for most skin types, but individual experiences may vary. **How Often Should I Apply Tallow Balm?** Consistent daily use typically yields the best results, adapting to your skin’s specific needs. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/grass-fed-tallow-in-skincare/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/grass-fed-tallow-in-skincare/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Finding Friends After Divorce: How to Build New Connections](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/finding-friends-after-divorce/) **Published:** February 19, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Divorce is one of the most challenging transitions in life. Beyond the legal and emotional hurdles, it often stirs up major shifts in most relationships. Are you wondering why some of your closest friends fell out of touch after you became a single mum? Do you want advice on finding friends after divorce? I’m here to help. Friendships after divorce may fall apart, but you can take this opportunity to forge new, supportive ones. Talk about a fresh start, am I right?! So, let’s explore this next chapter in your life and ride out the changes together. ## **Why Friendships Change After Divorce** Divorce can make us reevaluate our relationships, and friendships are no exception. Some friends often feel caught in the middle, as they don’t know how to deal with the new dynamics. Others might distance themselves if they were closer to your ex. On the flip side, we become closer to some of our friends after divorce. You will realise who your real friends are. People with shared experiences can support and help guide you through this difficult time. It’s okay if some friendships fade. What matters is focusing on the ones that remain or forging new ones that align with your values and beliefs. Quality over quantity. ## **It’s Okay If Some Connections Disappear** One of the hardest parts of life after divorce is realising that some friendships may not survive the transition. Whether it’s a book club acquaintance or a couple of friends who mostly knew you through your marriage, it’s natural for some connections to shift. However, it’s possible to reestablish your circle of friends with people who truly support you. Instead of distancing yourself, look for others with similar interests. Accept that not every friendship will last forever, and that’s totally okay. ## **Tips for Finding Friends After Divorce** ## **How to Make New Friends Post-Divorce** [Making new friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/find-friends-single-mum/) as an adult can feel awkward at the beginning, but it’s worth the effort. Start by joining a [mum group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) or enrolling in a hobby class. Engage with people with similar interests. A cooking class, yoga group, or even a divorce support group can help open the door to fresh relationships (or new besties, even)! Social media platforms like Instagram can also be a way to interact and look for people who share your new reality. It is up to you to attend meetups or just connect online. The key is being open to new friendships and experiences. ## **Finding Emotional Support in Your New Circle** Having emotional support after divorce is crucial. Friendships take time to develop, but nurturing new ones can help you heal. Connecting with others who have gone through a divorce allows you to feel less isolated and lets you know what to expect. Divorced people often understand the nooks and crannies of life after divorce better than those who haven’t experienced it. Seeking out those friendships may help guide you toward acceptance. ## **Rebuilding Confidence in Friendships** It’s natural to feel vulnerable when navigating friendships after divorce. At first, I felt unsure about who to trust, especially since some of my past friendships changed unexpectedly. But remember, you are not alone. Many newly divorced people feel the same way. The best way to gain your confidence back is by spending time together with supportive friends who truly admire and accept you. Your well-being will improve as you surround yourself with positive and uplifting relationships. ## **Avoiding Isolation: Say Yes to Social Opportunities** Loneliness can creep in post-divorce, but don’t let it isolate you. Even if you feel hesitant, say yes to invitations and social outings. A divorce can stir [feelings of loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/ "feelings of loneliness"). But one of the best ways to combat a negative outlook is by making time for social interactions. Joining activities like a book club, yoga class, or cooking class can help you meet like-minded people. These small steps create opportunities to sustain friendships and develop deeper bonds. ![Finding friends after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/53eba727-0713-4438-8902-b527ed95d4ea-1-1066x800.jpg "53eba727-0713-4438-8902-b527ed95d4ea - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Tips for Finding Friends After Divorce (cont.)** ## **The Importance of Vulnerability in Friendships** Being open and vulnerable can be challenging, especially after a divorce. You might be hesitant to share your experiences, but vulnerability often strengthens friendships. When you express your feelings, you allow others to relate to and support you. This doesn’t mean oversharing with every fellow mum you interact with, but rather developing trust with those who genuinely care. Opening up about your experience can create a deeper bond and help friendships blossom over time. ## **Keeping Boundaries** As you make new pals, setting healthy boundaries is essential. Post-divorce friendships won’t be the same, and that’s okay. It may even be for the better! Some friendships may be purely platonic, while others might click in unexpected ways. Remember, you don’t have to share every detail of your divorce with everyone. Keeping some privacy allows you to control the narrative and protect your emotional well-being. Respect yourself and the friendships you’re building. ## **The Role of Social Media in Post-Divorce Friendships** Social platforms like Instagram can be great for finding people with similar interests, but they can also be toxic if you are constantly comparing your life to others. Use social media to mingle with new friends, but don’t let it replace real-life relationships. Be mindful of who you admire and choose to engage with. ## **Handling Rejection** Reestablishing your social life comes with challenges, including rejection. Not every acquaintance will turn into a lifelong friend, and that’s okay. Either way, getting rejected isn’t a reflection of your worth. Keep your curiosity alive and continue seeking meaningful bonds without fear of awkward moments. ## **How to Sustain New Friendships** New connections require effort to nurture. Make time for regular check-ins, whether it’s grabbing coffee or enrolling in a cooking course together. They need time to develop, so be patient and let connections grow naturally. ## **Final Thoughts: Finding Friends After Divorce** When I went through my divorce, I felt like my entire social world had shifted overnight. Friends I once relied on drifted away, and I found myself unsure of where I belonged. It was daunting to step out of my comfort zone, but I knew I had to rebuild. At first, joining clubs and attending events felt awkward, like I was the odd one out. But over time, I met people who genuinely supported me, many of whom had gone through similar experiences. These new friendships weren’t just about filling the void. They helped me heal, grow, and rediscover my confidence. If you’re finding friends after divorce, remember that this is a chance to create a social circle that aligns with who you are now. Healing, meaningful connections, and a stronger, more confident version of yourself are all within your reach, you just have to take that first step. ***Further reading: [Red flags of a toxic friendship and surefire ways to spot them.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/toxic-friendship/)*** ![Friends and divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Friends-and-divorce.png "Friends and divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/finding-friends-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/friendship/finding-friends-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Friendship **Tags:** loneliness, lonely, friends, mate, friendship groups --- ### [Life as an alcoholic mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/life-as-an-alcoholic-mum/) **Published:** June 3, 2017 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** *3 June 2017* In this podcast with the gorgeous Kate Gibson, we talk about a topic that is not discussed enough .. that is the toxic mix of alcohol and motherhood. Kate unashamedly shares her story about her [journey with alcohol](https://betteraddictioncare.com/alcohol/addiction/), from the moment she took her first life-changing sip, through the lowest lows, until she knew something had to change. It is such a moving story, told from the heart, and I know it will resonate with many mums .. it certainly did with me. Alongside Kate’s story, the topics we discuss are: - How easy it is to start drinking - Why mums drink - The red flags that our (or our kids) drinking is getting out of control - Breaking the cycle of alcoholism - How the people around us can affect our decisions to drink (or not to drink) - How our drinking can affect our children - Where and how to get help if you need it If you would like to contact Kate, you can reach her via Instagram here [@unapologeticallykate](https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallykate/). ### Listen here … ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/life-as-an-alcoholic-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/life-as-an-alcoholic-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Podcast, Health **Tags:** alcoholic mums, alcoholic mum, alcoholism, alcoholic --- ### [How to find the best protein powder for me?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/which-protein-powder/) **Published:** May 3, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about which protein powder is best was last updated in 2024.*** Protein powders are a staple in many people’s diets, and as they grow in popularity, so does the number of varieties available. This huge choice may leave you wondering: > “How do I find the best protein powder for me?” There are actually a number of different types of protein, and depending on your health and lifestyle goals, they have many uses. This article will help you understand protein powders so you can make an educated choice and achieve the results you want. We will answer these questions for you: - What is protein powder? - Do I need to include protein powder in my diet? - What are the different types of protein, and what do they do? - How can I recognise protein powder and avoid scams? - How do I find the right protein powder for my health requirements? - How should I take my protein powder? ## What is powdered protein? Protein powder is a powdered protein made from plant or animal sources. Protein powder may or may not contain additional ingredients like micronutrients (vitamins and minerals), sugars and flavouring. Adding a scoop of protein powder to shakes or food is a convenient way to up your protein intake if you want to build muscle, improve athletic performance or lose weight. ## Do I need to include protein powder in my diet? Protein is an essential macronutrient needed for many bodily functions, including tissue repair, muscle building and maintaining bone strength. Most people already consume enough protein from their diet and should get much of their protein from whole foods. Those with increased requirements (athletes, bodybuilders, older adults with poor appetites) and people who want to lose weight may benefit from including protein powders in their diet. ***Further reading: [How to make protein shakes at home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/homemade-protein-shake-weight-gain/)*** ## What are the different types of protein, and what do they do? Powdered proteins come in different forms. Whey and soy are two of the most common, so we have listed them all below. ## [Whey protein powder](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2fcollections%2fwhey-protein%2fproducts%2fwhey-protein-by-happy-way%3fvariant%3d34389067694213) This is a type of milk protein that easily dissolves in water, making it perfect for adding to shakes and smoothies. Whey contains all the nine essential amino acids that the body needs. Great for everyday use. [![Whey protein powder | Best protein powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/f3af1554-93b0-4cac-970b-be1e30ebc226_20240417_205103_0000.png "f3af1554-93b0-4cac-970b-be1e30ebc226_20240417_205103_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2fcollections%2fwhey-protein%2fproducts%2fwhey-protein-by-happy-way%3fvariant%3d34389067694213) We found this at: [Supplement Mart](https://fave.co/4bilWOX) ## [Soy Protein](https://fave.co/4aXsmDx) Soy protein is a plant-based protein that is great for vegans. However, it is not a complete protein and does not dissolve as easily in water as whey. Soy protein may help reduce bad cholesterol. [![Soy](https://static.thcdn.com/images/large/webp//productimg/1600/1600/12313421-1364846439682207.jpg)](https://fave.co/4aXsmDx) We found this at: [My Protein](https://fave.co/4a5KYQq) ## [Egg Protein](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fprotein-supplies-australia-paleopro-egg-white-protein-pure-900g.php) Egg protein is a complete protein that contains all essential amino acids. It is released more slowly than whey and can be taken throughout the day. [![Egg | Best protein powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/75826350-c909-43aa-9264-029bc096c3ef_20240417_210006_0000.png "75826350-c909-43aa-9264-029bc096c3ef_20240417_210006_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fprotein-supplies-australia-paleopro-egg-white-protein-pure-900g.php) We found this at: [Aussie Health Products](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fprotein-supplies-australia-paleopro-egg-white-protein-pure-900g.php) ## Pea Made from peas, pea protein is affordable and easily digestible. Great for people with allergies or gut problems. [![Pea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/38d6ce9f-9218-448c-a56f-d511e955741c_20240417_210357_0000.jpg "38d6ce9f-9218-448c-a56f-d511e955741c_20240417_210357_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fprotein-supplies-australia-protein-pea-pro-raw-organic-pea-protein-vanilla-bean-500g.php) We found this at: [Aussie Health Products](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2f) ## [Hemp](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fcollections%2fhealth-protein) Hemp is another plant-based protein ideal for vegans. It is also a rich source of omega-3 fatty acids, which are good for the heart. [![Hemp | Best protein powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000010157.jpg "1000010157 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fcollections%2fhealth-protein%2fproducts%2fessential-hemp-hemp-protein-powder-vanilla-420g) We found this at: [The Well Store](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/66899?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.thewellstore.com.au%2fcollections%2fhealth-protein%2fproducts%2fessential-hemp-hemp-protein-powder-vanilla-420g) ## Brown rice Brown rice protein is gluten-free and perfect for vegetarians and those with dairy allergies. [![](https://images.aussiehealthproducts.com.au/lg/eden-healthfoods-ultimate-protein-sprouted-brown-rice-chocolate-1kg.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2feden-healthfoods-ultimate-protein-sprouted-brown-rice-chocolate-1kg.php) We found this at: [Aussie Health Products](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2feden-healthfoods-ultimate-protein-sprouted-brown-rice-chocolate-1kg.php) ## [Milk Protein](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2fproducts%2foptimum-nutrition-100-casein%3f_pos%3d2%26_sid%3d7308cd2fd%26_ss%3dr) Milk protein is a complete protein source like whey and animal-based protein. It helps build muscle and support the immune system. [![Milk | Best protein powder](https://www.supplementmart.com.au/cdn/shop/files/optimum-nutrition-gold-standard-casein-nighttime-protein-2lb-chocpb.png?v=1712814052&width=600)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2fproducts%2foptimum-nutrition-100-casein%3f_pos%3d2%26_sid%3d7308cd2fd%26_ss%3dr) We found this at: [Supplement Mart](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/73384?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.supplementmart.com.au%2f) ## [Protein water](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fprotein-water.php) Between juggling work, kids, and workouts, the last thing you need is a complicated protein routine. That’s where protein water comes in! It is a convenient way to get a quick protein boost while staying hydrated. Just grab a bottle on the go, and you’ve got a portable source of protein to help fuel your day. It’s perfect for busy days when there is no time for a sit-down meal. But not all protein waters are mum-friendly. So, look for options with a decent amount of protein and flavours that you enjoy. [![Protein water](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/a03a6262-44e0-4502-a915-79eefde204a7_20240417_211651_0000.jpg "a03a6262-44e0-4502-a915-79eefde204a7_20240417_211651_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/3UsaoBO) We found this at: [Musashi](https://fave.co/3UsaoBO) ## How can I recognise protein powder and avoid scams? To get quality protein powder and avoid scams check the label carefully before buying. Look at the ingredients list (avoid those with added sugar or artificial flavours), the protein source (animal or plant), servings per container and the amount of protein per scoop. This depends on the formulation. Protein powders for building muscle generally contain more protein than those for weight loss. To get the most out of your money, buy protein powder in bulk and when there’s a sale. ## How do I find the right protein powder for my health requirements? Protein powders work best when tailored to individual requirements. Are you trying to [lose weight](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/) or gain weight/build muscle? Are you a vegetarian? Here is a list of common personal health goals with suggested protein powders to assist. ## [Weight loss](https://securecdn.healthymummy.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/07171109/Healthy-mummy-smoothies.jpg) The best protein powders for weight loss are those without added sugar or sweeteners. Avoid powders that promote weight gain and choose those with low carbohydrate content. [![Weight loss | Best protein powder](https://securecdn.healthymummy.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/07171109/Healthy-mummy-smoothies.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2fproduct%2fpremium-double-chocolate-smoothie%2f) Here is a suggestion from: [The Healthy Mummy](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/45613?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsecure.healthymummy.com%2f) ## Meal replacements [The Lady Shake](https://fave.co/44pDB4V) is a game-changer for us single mums. It is a weight loss shake designed specifically for women, packed with all the nutrients we need to stay healthy and strong. I learned about The Lady Shake through a colleague, Jan. After struggling to shed stubborn pounds post-baby, she decided to give it a try. She said that not only did it help her reach her weight loss goals, but it also made her feel more energised and confident. Now, it’s become a staple in her daily routine, so it is easier than ever to stay on track and feel her best. [![Meal replacements](https://www.theladyshake.com.au/_next/image/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.themanshake.com.au%2Fon%2Fdemandware.static%2F-%2FSites-ch-master-catalog%2Fdefault%2Fdw08f9abab%2Fimages%2Flarge%2FF0149-SLCOF.png&w=750&q=75)](https://fave.co/3WkRW0H) We found this at: [The Man Shake](https://fave.co/3WkRW0H) ## Toning and muscle-building Whey protein is the best everyday protein for body toning and muscle building. It is easily digested, absorbed, and utilized by the body. [![Tone and muscle building | Best protein powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/4cf60644-802d-4472-b7c9-20f7a5ba7cb9_20240418_095215_0000.jpg "4cf60644-802d-4472-b7c9-20f7a5ba7cb9_20240418_095215_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fmaxines-burn-protein-powder-salted-caramel-g-f-500g.php) Here is a suggestion from: [Aussie Health](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2f) ## [Vegan/Vegetarian](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2f) Choose protein powders from 100% plant-based sources if you are vegan or vegetarian. Soy, hemp, brown rice and pea protein are all great options. [![Vegan/vegetarian](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000010184.jpg "1000010184 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fnatural-evolution-vegan-protein-multifibre-vanilla-g-f-400g.php) Here is a suggestion from: [Aussie Health Products](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/14839?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.aussiehealthproducts.com.au%2fnatural-evolution-vegan-protein-multifibre-vanilla-g-f-400g.php) ## Low sugar Protein powders that are low in carbohydrates and without added sugar are [excellent for diabetics](https://atsitesi.com/click?redirect=https%3A%2F%2Ftorokhtiy.com%2Fblogs%2Freviews%2Fbest-protein-powders-for-diabetics&dID=1671550783288&linkName=https://torokhtiy.com/blogs/reviews/best-protein-powders-for-diabetics) or those who want to reduce their overall sugar intake. [![Low sugar | Best protein powder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000010186.jpg "1000010186 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tropeaka.com.au/collections/protein/products/fit-protein-cookie-dough) Here is a suggestion from: [Tropeaka](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/67104?Url=https%3a%2f%2ftropeaka.com.au%2fcollections%2fprotein%2fproducts%2ffit-protein-cookie-dough) ## Health conditions If you have gut problems (lactose intolerance, irritable bowel syndrome, gluten allergy), stay away from protein powders that contain lactose sugar, artificial sweeteners and gluten. People who cannot tolerate large amounts of protein at one time should choose protein powders with lower grams of protein per scoop. [![](https://www.nakedharvestsupplements.com/cdn/shop/files/NH_Protein_NHxGS.jpg?v=1710910358&width=1920)](https://fave.co/4bl0w3F)Here is a suggestion from: [Naked Harvest Supplements](https://fave.co/44oCh2a) ## How should I take my protein powder? - Unflavoured protein powders are perfect for adding to food and drinks since they don’t alter the taste. If you prefer flavoured powders, choose those with reduced/no added sugar and no artificial flavours. Even better, create your own flavours by adding fruit, milk, peanut butter or cocoa powder. - For weight loss, take a steady amount of protein powder at every meal to keep you fuller for longer. Add protein powder to breakfast bowls or smoothies for lunch and dinner. - Protein is important for [recovery after exercise](https://grovetreatment.com/programs/exercise-nutrition/ "recovery after exercise"), strenuous activity or prolonged illness. Add protein powder to your post-workout drink or smoothie to aid the body’s repair and healing process. ## Summary: So, which protein powder is best for me? Picking the best protein powder may feel like a strenuous task at first. At first, I thought I had better things to do than spend time researching and trying different brands. But as single mums juggling a million things at once, we need something that isn’t just good but is also great for our body and lifestyle. I remember one hectic morning, I grabbed a random protein powder off the shelf, thinking it would save me time. But it ended up giving me the worst stomach ache ever! Lesson learned – never underestimate the importance of choosing the right one. After proper research and a bit of trial and error, I finally found my match. Now, I stick with my plant-based protein powder, which gives me the energy I need without any nasty side effects. But hey, what works for me might not work for you. So, take time to experiment and listen to your body. So, which protein powder is best for you? Well, it’s a personal journey, but remember, don’t settle until you find the one that makes you feel like a supermum! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/protein2.png "protein2 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/which-protein-powder/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/which-protein-powder/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** health, energy, protein, vitamins, supplements, shakes --- ### [Is your child talking to strangers online? 6 Ways to check](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-talking-strangers-online/) **Published:** July 20, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As parents, our top priority is to protect our children and ensure their safety in both the physical and digital worlds. With the rise of technology and the increasing presence of social media platforms, we must be vigilant about our children’s online activities. One concerning aspect is the possibility of your child talking to strangers online, posing potential risks and dangers. In this article, I want to address this pressing issue from one mum to another, offering five practical ways to check if your child is talking to strangers online. By implementing these strategies, we can gain valuable insights into our children’s digital interactions and take the necessary steps to keep them safe. Join me as we explore effective ways to navigate the digital landscape, promoting healthy digital habits and protecting our children from potential online threats. ## Use Parental Control Software There are several [parental control software apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parental-control-apps/) competing in the market right now. With features that allow you to monitor, filter, and block sites, a parental control software app empowers you to safeguard your child in the digital space. You can see your child’s online activity, review their browsing history, and limit their access and time online. Parental control software apps enable you to know what your children interact with online, curb potential digital addiction, and protect them from adult content and unwanted messages. While there are a few that offer free software, I advise that you invest in software offered by a reputable software company. This will give you a wider range of features and entitles you to professional customer service. ## Do regular device checks Sometimes life becomes so hectic that we forget to check the threads of conversation our kids are involved in on their apps. Sometimes curiosity also gets the better of our kids and they could decide to download apps that we haven’t approved and it slips by us. This is why it’s important for us to regularly check not only their app account activity on our own devices but also their actual devices themselves. Check their most-used apps, inboxes, recent contacts, and their media gallery. If you can also check their recently deleted files, do that too. Suspicious messages, adult-natured or strange images, and unusual browser queries shouldn’t be ignored, as these can either be normal signs of growing curiosity OR alarm bells for possible unwanted correspondence with strangers. ## Monitor their social media Social media is incredibly time-consuming and addictive to people of all ages. Despite being trendy and deeply engaging, not all social media platforms are appropriate for your children. A lot of these platforms are conducive grounds for awful people to prey on children. Protected by the anonymity and privacy that are easily afforded in these social media platforms, strangers with nasty motives have become emboldened to target children. As a mum, you need to be smarter and ten steps ahead of these people. Choose which platforms your children can take part in. Be logged in to their accounts on your own devices and check who messages them or leaves comments on their posts. Make sure that you know everyone who gets in touch with your child on social media. If you see someone you don’t know in your kid’s inbox (or maybe it’s someone you know but shouldn’t be really ‘that’ close to your kids), do some light investigation and see if this person is someone you can trust your child to have conversations with. ## Set their privacy settings One of the best ways to prevent your child from talking to strangers online is to set your [kids’ device privacy settings](https://www.esafety.gov.au/parents/issues-and-advice/privacy-child) yourself. In most unfortunate situations, it’s the predatory adults who first reach out to children. This can be prevented if you stop strange accounts from connecting with your children’s accounts by setting them to their most private and restrictive options. You should check these from time to time in order to ensure that the settings you have made are maintained. ## Connect with them online Follow your kids’ accounts and be on ‘friends’ status with them online. Being visibly connected with your children online will not only allow you to see all your kids’ posts and everyone who likes and comments on them but it can also scare away potential creeps who are planning to get your kids’ attention on these apps and platforms. Take note of which of your kid’s connections keep liking and commenting on your kid’s posts. If something feels off, honour that instinct and investigate. When it comes to protecting your children’s innocence and safety online, you can never be too paranoid. Preventing risky situations such as your child talking to strangers online can spell the huge difference between your precious children being protected *and* them being pursued by dangerous adults. ## Educate yourself (and them) The digital world expands and evolves madly by the minute. The sooner we learn how to catch up and understand even just the most basic concepts of trending platforms and online activities, the better we are equipped as mums to protect our children from talking to strangers online. Research about the various methods used by predatory adults and their behaviours online. Learn how they think and how they approach children. Discuss these learnings in simplest terms with your children and teach them how to protect themselves from strangers (especially adults) who have no business talking to them. Ask them if there is anyone who makes them feel uncomfortable online, and assure them that they can trust you and that they should turn to you if they are receiving strange and adult attention online. Help your kids understand, with the least fear possible, why some adults are bad, and why they could be dangerous to talk to. ## Conclusion: Is your child talking to strangers online? Being vigilant and covering all bases (offline and online) in checking if your child is talking to strangers online is an important task that should be taken seriously. Ensuring digital security is a huge part of protecting your kids’ physical and psychological welfare as they grow up and become more engaged and exposed to the world of today. Regular monitoring, vetted and purposeful connections, updating privacy settings, and educating one’s self are ways we can watch over our kids better. Amidst the labyrinth of communication opportunities offered by the Internet, it’s our responsibility to keep our children safe. Have open communication with your kids and be their most trusted adult. Encourage them to participate in wholesome and real-life friendships with other well-adjusted kids of their age so they do not find interest in talking to strange adults. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-talking-strangers-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-talking-strangers-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** social media, parental control, privacy settings, kids online, device checks --- ### [Xnspy Parental Monitoring App: User Review 2025](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/xnspy-parental-monitoring-app-user-review-2025/) **Published:** January 30, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** While the digital world offers incredible opportunities for learning and communication, it also has a darker side that concerns every parent. This side exposes children to risks such as cyberbullying, online predators, inappropriate content, and even [digital addiction](https://addictionresource.com/addiction/internet/ "digital addiction"). Recent statistics reveal that [97% of teens now own smartphones](https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/12/11/teens-social-media-and-technology-2023/), making it nearly impossible for parents to deny them this privilege. The best approach is acknowledging these challenges and seeking solutions to safeguard children from the internet’s harmful effects. While open communication remains the ideal strategy, using trustworthy tools to monitor and protect children can be immensely beneficial. I have personally used the Xnspy parental monitoring app for my two teens, and it has proven to be an invaluable resource. Here’s my experience to help you decide if this app fits your family. ## **Xnspy app overview** [Xnspy](https://xnspy.com/) is a parental monitoring app that helps parents track children’s online activities and provides features that can safeguard your children in the digital space. The app offers insights into your child’s digital behaviour, including phone usage, messaging activity, social media usage, and location tracking. It works on iOS and Android, allowing you to manage all phones through one platform. I started using the app when my teenage daughter got the phone and became distant and private. I talked to her and installed the app on her phone. My experience with the app has been extremely helpful in understanding the different mood swings of my teens and also gave me the peace of mind that they are using their internet privileges responsibly. ## **How did Xnspy start?** Xnspy is one of the pioneers of the monitoring app, as it was developed when just a few apps offered that facility. The app was created to meet the growing need for modern parental monitoring tools. At that time, people started using the internet and were introduced to many new worlds. The app was designed with simplicity and effectiveness, enabling parents to keep tabs on their children’s digital activities discreetly. Over the years, Xnspy has evolved into a comprehensive solution catering to today’s families’ specific needs. ## **Xnspy features and how they work?** ### **Phone logs** Xnspy’s phone log feature offers detailed information about phone usage. This section has features like call histories, durations, and contact details. It also includes insights into frequent callers and timestamps. Additionally, you can view contacts saved on the phone, shared text messages, emails, and internet history. You can view the incoming and outgoing messages and analyze who your children are talking to the most and if that contact is good for them. Personally, I loved the call log features. This feature also provides call analysis along with detailed and accurate call logs. I could see who the top 5 callers in my teens’ contact list are based on the frequency and duration of the call. Additionally, Xnspy records all the calls received on the phone, assuring me that [my children are not engaging with strangers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-talking-strangers-online/) who can be potential scammers or predators. ### **Messenger and keyloggers** Xnspy instant messaging features provide information on the messages your children have sent or received on social media apps like WhatsApp, Facebook, Viber, and Snapchat. The app covers all the popular platforms, so you don’t have to worry about any communication apps teens use. Xnspy uses keylogging to capture every keystroke on their phone and save it on the dashboard. As all the incoming and going messages are saved, you can view the deleted and disappearing messages or shared media quickly anytime you want, regardless of the phone activity. When I started monitoring my children’s online activities, I was baffled by how many apps my girl used to communicate with her friends. Fortunately, using Xnspy provided all the information in one place under its messenger feature, where I could instantly access every message. ### **Screen Recorder** Xnspy screen recorder captures every activity on social media apps, including Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube, and more. The app takes periodic screenshots of the social media apps when they are being used. This allows you to track every activity, including the content they consume on social media, comments, likes, posts, profiles, shared media, and messages. The app saves all the screenshots on the dashboard with accurate timestamps so you can view and analyze the activity trends instantly. If you view [inappropriate content or signs of cyberbullying or scamming](https://www.northwell.edu/news/insights/is-social-media-bad-for-kids), you can take necessary measures to protect them from potentially harmful behaviour. ### **Location tracking** Along with online protection, Xnspy also focuses on protecting your children offline. With Xnspy’s GPS tracking, you can track your child’s real-time location and view location history. The app logs every place your child has visited. Each area is updated on the dashboard with timestamps, so you have a clear idea of where and if they are safe. Additionally, the app allows you to add safe zones for children. You can select the secure area, and whenever your child enters or exits the designated area, you get an alert, providing the ease you need for monitoring. You can use Xnspy’s surround recording feature to be even more assured. You can remotely record everything happening around them so you know they are with friends and safe. ### **Commands and alerts** Xnspy offers a few necessary remote commands so that you can protect your children from sensitive content and internet overuse. These commands focus on protection rather than being intrusive. These commands include surround recording, phone locking, phone wiping, and taking an ambient screenshot. So, [if your child exceeds their screen time limit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/), you can lock their phone remotely. The screenshot feature lets you see what they are doing at a particular moment. So, if they are doing something they are not supposed to, you can view it and guide them accordingly. Additionally, you can set up alerts for specific words, contacts, or locations. These alerts provide timely notifications, helping you act quickly if something concerning arises. ![Xnspy Parental Monitoring App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Xnspy-1200x519.jpg "Xnspy - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How Xnspy app works for parents** When using the app, one of my primary concerns was avoiding unnecessary invasion of my children’s privacy. I aimed to ensure their safety, and Xnspy provided the balance I needed. Most of the time, I rely on location alerts and only check their phone when I receive a word alert indicating they’ve used a term they shouldn’t. Xnspy delivers the convenience I was looking for. The user interface is highly intuitive, and the settings tab allows you to customize features to suit your needs quickly. Even if you’re not tech-savvy, the app is simple to set up. You only need to install it once on your child’s phone, and Xnspy starts collecting data right away. Once installed on your child’s device, you can access all features through the app’s dashboard. The intuitive dashboard offers search filters and navigation options to streamline monitoring. Since it’s accessible via any web browser, you can stay connected no matter where you are. ## **Xnspy cost** Xnspy provides a range of pricing plans designed to cater to different needs, making it easier to choose the correct option without confusion. You can select from monthly, quarterly, or yearly plans, depending on what works best for you. The yearly premium plan is the most popular choice, offering access to all features for just $7.49 per month. The basic plan starts at $4.99 monthly for those seeking a more straightforward option. These flexible and affordable plans make Xnspy an excellent choice for parents seeking reliable monitoring solutions. ## **Customer support** Xnspy offers 24/7 customer support to assist with installation, troubleshooting, and other queries. Their technical support team is prompt, averaging under a minute response time. I’ve reached out to them multiple times during the installation process and on other occasions, and they’ve always been attentive and helpful, taking the time to resolve my concerns. This level of dedicated support ensures a smooth user experience and provides parents with peace of mind. ## **The good and not-so-good** ### **What I like about the Xnspy parental monitoring app** - Xnspy offers comprehensive monitoring features, including call logs, social media monitoring, texts, and apps. - The app’s user interface is friendly. The intuitive dashboard allows seamless navigation across all features. - Covers both digital and physical safety with advanced location tracking with geofencing alerts. - Remote commands ensure [safer and more secure digital use](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-smartphone-safety/). Locking your phone and surround recording, app blocking, and contact blocking plays a vital role in your child’s well-being. - All the insights are recorded in real time. You can easily take action when it is required the most. - Xnspy sends you various alerts, ensuring you know where your child is and that they are using their phone productively. - Xnspy offers convenient and affordable pricing plans. - Compatible with a wide range of devices. - 24/7 customer support for assistance. Xnspy tracks and logs every activity, even if the phone is not connected to the internet. Once connected to the internet, it uploads all the recorded information to the dashboard. Overall, it gives reliable performance with minimal lag. ### **What I don’t like about the Xnspy parental monitoring app** - Although the app allows you to take screenshots at any time, the app limits support for certain instant messaging apps. - Requires physical access to the device for setup. - Some of the features require jailbreaking in iOS. ## **Is Xnspy worth the money?** Xnspy is a solid choice for parents who want to monitor their child’s activities discreetly and effectively. The app offers every feature that provides information on online activities. Depending on your concerns, you can turn the features on or off. For example, Xnspy also offers Skype, Viber, and WhatsApp call recording services. From the settings, you can turn the features off. Overall, Xnspy balances advanced features and an easy-to-use interface, making it a dependable tool for ensuring online safety. The app also emphasizes data security, keeping your family’s information private and protected. If you’re seeking a solution that provides comprehensive insights into your child’s activities, Xnspy is undoubtedly worth the investment. ## **My review conclusion** I have been using the app for some time now. Although there were a few limitations, the app has performed very well for me and provided me with the information I needed about my teen’s internet usage. I appreciate how Xnspy combines ease of use with powerful features like location tracking, screen recording, and customizable alerts. If I had to describe Xnspy in a few words, I’d say it’s secure, comprehensive, reliable, advanced, and stress-free The app has worked well for me, but that doesn’t have to be the same for everyone. Ultimately, choosing a parental monitoring app depends on your unique needs. While it may not be perfect, it’s worth considering for parents looking to safeguard their children in the digital age. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/xnspy-parental-monitoring-app-user-review-2025/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/xnspy-parental-monitoring-app-user-review-2025/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting --- ### [How a Water-Fed Pole Can Revolutionise Your Cleaning Routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-a-water-fed-pole-can-revolutionise-your-cleaning-routine/) **Published:** February 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Admit it – cleaning high windows and gutters isn’t exactly how you want to spend your precious free time. As someone who’s busy juggling house chores, work, and caring for kids, the last thing you need is to be perched precariously on a ladder while trying to scrub that stubborn second-story window. Unfortunately, this is a reality for a lot of people. We’ve resigned ourselves to either risking life and limb on ladders, paying expensive professionals, or simply letting those high spots gather dust. But we don’t have to settle with any of that. Remember that scene in Mary Poppins where she makes cleaning fun and magical? There won’t be singing birds to help you clean, but a water-fed pole might be the next best thing. Wondering what this tool is and [how to use a water-fed pole](https://www.equipmaxx.com/blogs/equipmaxx-blogs/the-benefits-of-using-water-fed-poles-over-traditional-cleaning-techniques) effectively? Keep on reading to find out the answers. ## **What Exactly Is a Water-Fed Pole?** A water-fed pole is essentially your cleaning superhero in disguise. It consists of: - a lightweight, extendable pole that connects to a water supply - a water filtration system - specialised brushes with jets that deliver pure, spot-free cleaning power In recent years, pure water cleaning systems like water-fed poles have become the tool of choice for professional window cleaners, with good reasons, which will be explained later in this post. ## **How the Magic Happens** The science behind a water-fed pole is interesting. The water used in this system goes through a multiple filtration process to remove minerals and impurities. This results in deionised water that actively attracts dirt and grime, leaving surfaces spot-free when dry. You might be thinking, isn’t it better to use a detergent instead of just purified water for washing and cleaning? A [recent study](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0021979721017173) published in the Journal of Colloid and Interface Science titled “The effects of water purity on the removal of hydrophobic substances from solid surfaces without surfactants” demonstrated that two different grades of purified water were able to remove over 90% of Vaseline from surfaces, whereas tap water only managed to remove 75%. Although further research is needed to fully understand the effectiveness of purified water in various washing and cleaning applications, this study provides a promising foundation. ![water-fed pole](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/B70ab54e-1c52-4e42-8f65-5b8b749955fb-1066x800.jpg "B70ab54e-1c52-4e42-8f65-5b8b749955fb - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why Every Busy Person Needs a Water-Fed Pole in Their Life** Now that you know the basics of a water-fed pole system, let’s discuss why this cleaning superhero is a favourite recommendation for busy folks like you. Rest assured that once you try cleaning without doing your best ladder acrobatics impression, you’ll wonder how you ever managed without it before. ### **1. Safety first (because you’ve got better things to do than visit the ER)** Let’s talk statistics for a moment. According to the American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons, over [500,000 people](https://www.ishn.com/articles/106830-000-falls-from-ladders-annually-97-percent-occur-at-home-or-on-farms) make emergency room visits annually due to ladder-related injuries. If you’re a parent or the primary caregiver in your household, you literally can’t afford to be out of commission with an injury. With a water-fed pole at your disposal, you can avoid putting yourself at risk when cleaning hard-to-reach places throughout your home. ### **2. Time is precious (and you likely never have enough of it)** When was the last time you had a free hour to yourself? Can’t remember, right? A water-fed pole system can cut cleaning time by up to 50% compared to traditional methods. That’s more time for: - actually sitting down to enjoy that cup of coffee while it’s still hot; - helping with your kid’s homework; - self-care, if you still remember the concept; - or simply catching up on your favourite show without feeling guilty. ### **3. Mother Earth will thank you** If you’re an eco-conscious warrior, here’s something to feel good about: Using a water-fed pole system is significantly more environmentally friendly than traditional cleaning methods. The [American Lung Association notes](https://www.lung.org/clean-air/indoor-air/indoor-air-pollutants/cleaning-supplies-household-chem) that many commercial cleaning supplies release chemicals like volatile organic compounds (VOCs) that produce dangerous pollutants indoors. Exposure to these chemicals contributes to chronic respiratory problems, allergic reactions, and headaches. They can also get into the atmosphere, changing ozone concentrations. In addition, they can also leach into groundwater, drink-water supply wells, and soils, where they can disrupt ecosystems and impact human health. Put simply, reducing the use of these cleaners in households can significantly improve indoor air quality and reduce environmental impact. ### **4. More money in your pocket (because who doesn’t love saving money?)** Sure, the initial investment in a water-fed pole system might make your wallet wince, but consider this in exchange: - A professional window cleaning service’s average cost is $200-$400 per visit. - A quality water-fed pole system costs $300-600. - The system pays for itself in 2-3 uses. Plus, many systems are available through rent-to-own programs or payment plans, making them more accessible for [budget-conscious households](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/). ## **Practical Tips to Use a Water-Fed Pole Effectively** Considering all the benefits you can gain from using a water-fed pole, you may already be convinced to include it as part of your cleaning arsenal. In that case, here are a couple of tips to effectively use it in your cleaning routine and enjoy more savings: - Start with a shorter pole length and work your way up. - Practice on lower windows first. - Make it a family activity (kids love water play!). - Consider splitting the cost with a neighbour and sharing the system. ## **Conclusion** As a busy person, a mum, or the main caregiver of the family, most of us put ourselves last on the priority list. But investing in tools like a water-fed pole system that makes our lives easier isn’t selfish–it’s necessary. With this system, it becomes easier to protect yourself while you clean and manage your time more effectively. It also gives you the opportunity to set a good example for your kids about working smarter, not harder, while taking pride in maintaining your home on your own terms. Don’t forget that you don’t have to do everything the hard way to prove you’re capable. Sometimes, the smartest thing we can do is embrace solutions that make our lives easier and safer. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-a-water-fed-pole-can-revolutionise-your-cleaning-routine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-a-water-fed-pole-can-revolutionise-your-cleaning-routine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [The Ultimate Guide to Removing Ink Stains Without Damaging Fabrics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-ultimate-guide-to-removing-ink-stains-without-damaging-fabrics/) **Published:** February 15, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Stains from ink are unsightly, and to make it worse, they can happen when you least expect it. You’re likely familiar with this scene: You’re wearing your favourite top, feeling put-together for once, when suddenly you discover your little Picasso has decided your outfit needed some “artistic enhancement.” Or maybe you’re rushing to get everyone out the door, and that pen in your pants’ back pocket goes rogue and makes a dramatic leak. We’ve all been there, and as intimidating as they seem, those ink stains won’t be the end of your beloved outfit. Here’s a guide that will walk you through [how to remove ink stains](https://www.aquaprovac.com/blogs/aquaprovac-blogs/a-guide-for-combatting-stubborn-stains-for-auto-detailers "how to remove ink stains") without harming your fabrics using methods backed by textile experts and cleaning professionals. ## **Because Not All Stains Are the Same** Different inks have different formulations. So, it makes sense that some stains are tougher to remove than others. Understanding each stain type can help you take the right treatment approach for your affected fabric. Let’s take a look at the main categories: ### **Ballpoint pen ink** The classic culprit. You know, the one your toddler probably found rummaging into your purse while you were trying to check out at the grocery store. This ink contains fatty acids and dyes suspended in oil, which explains why water alone won’t do the trick. But, with a bit of persistence and the right solvents, it’s definitely beatable! ### **Water-based ink** We’ve all been fooled at least once by that package promising those washable markers would be “completely removable.” Sometimes they tell the truth, sometimes they don’t. While it can be annoying to fall into the trap, the consolation is that this ink is generally easier to remove than other inks because its components dissolve in water. But take note that speed is crucial here – don’t let the ink sit for too long, or it will bond with the fabric fibres, making it harder to remove. ### **Permanent markers** Ah yes, the dreaded Sharpie. Just when you thought you kept them somewhere out of sight, they somehow find a way to where they shouldn’t be. What makes this ink challenging is its makeup of resins that stick really well into fabric fibres. Its successful removal often requires a combination of special techniques and some elbow grease. ## **Getting to Know Your Fabric** When it comes to ink stain removal, it’s not just the type of ink you need to know. It’s equally important that you’re familiar with the fabric composition to ensure stain removal success: - Natural fibres like cotton and linen have more porous surfaces, enabling them to withstand more aggressive cleaning methods. - Synthetic fibres such as polyester and nylon are generally more stain-resistant but are also more prone to damage when exposed to harsh solvents. - Blended fabrics need a balanced approach that considers the types of fibre used. - Delicate fabrics like silk demand special care to prevent damage. ## **Stocking Up Your Stain-Fighting Arsenal** Let’s be honest. Between [making lunches](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/easy-work-packed-lunch-ideas/ "making lunches") for the kids, going to work, running errands, and trying to remember if you even brushed your hair today (no judgment, really), removing ink stains is an added burden that you don’t have a lot of time for. With your hectic schedule, you want solutions that work with what’s already in your house. The good news? Your kitchen and bathroom have everything you need. ### **The Milk Magic** Remember that gallon of milk your little one refused to drink after begging for it at the store? Time for it to earn its keep! Pour some into a bowl, soak that stained piece overnight, and let the dairy do its thing. It’s especially gentle on fancy fabrics – you know, that silky, smooth blouse you bought yourself as a present for “surviving another busy school year.” ### **The Vinegar and Baking Soda Combo** We all know that these two ingredients are your kitchen’s dynamic duo. You’ve likely already used them for cleaning around the house. Now, you can use them to rescue your clothes, too. Sprinkle baking soda on the stain, pour a splash of vinegar, and let the bubbling begin. When they fizz together, they’re actually lifting that stain right out. ![ink stains](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/B79a6889-8876-408e-9f47-bbe0726f6697-1066x800.jpg "B79a6889-8876-408e-9f47-bbe0726f6697 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Quick Fixes for Different Ink “Oops” Moments** As mentioned earlier, ink stains can be one of life’s little surprises. So, when you come across an “oops” moment, it’s best to be prepared. For ballpoint pen incidents like when your kid was “taking notes” on their clothes during class, grab that hairspray you barely have time to use anyway. Spray and blot the affected area, but don’t scrub. A cycle in the wash should seal the deal after that. For those permanent marker masterpieces that usually find their way on the walls and sometimes on clothes, an acetone-based nail polish remover could be your new best friend. A slow and steady approach wins here. Dab with a cotton ball, watch that stain start to go away and wash afterwards. ## **Taking Care of Clothes Post-Stain Removal** Your clothes have been through enough drama already. So, once you’ve tackled the stains, let them air dry. Avoid throwing them into the dryer because the heat from the machine might set any residue ink you didn’t catch. Also, you can preserve the quality of the fabrics, especially delicate ones, when you dry them naturally. Once you’re sure the ink stains are gone, give your clothes a gentle wash. This will freshen up the piece and make sure no chemical residues hang around. ## **When to Wave the White Flag** Look, superwoman, sometimes it’s best to call in the professionals, especially if you’re dealing with situations like: - Your “dry clean only” power suit got an ink somehow. - A stain that’s already bonded into the fabric fibre. - The special outfit you actually got to buy for yourself but ended up getting “inked.” It’s totally okay to let the pros take care of ink stains, especially since you’re already handling enough. ## **Final Thoughts** Ink stains are just part of the adventure. They’re proof that life is being lived, art is being created (sometimes in unexpected places), and memories are being made. And hey, if all else fails, there’s always the “artistically distressed” look to fall back on. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-ultimate-guide-to-removing-ink-stains-without-damaging-fabrics/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/the-ultimate-guide-to-removing-ink-stains-without-damaging-fabrics/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Household --- ### [How to Personalise Your Wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-personalise-your-wardrobe/) **Published:** February 12, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Personalising your wardrobe is essential for individual expression and boosting your confidence. It also promotes sustainability and reduces your carbon footprint by minimising mindless shopping. In this guide, we will explore practical tips on modifying your clothing to reflect your unique style and preferences. ## **Understanding Your Style** Learning your [personal fashion style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/reinventing-your-style/) is the first step to personalising your wardrobe. Define your look and identify the clothing you are naturally drawn to. If you have yet to establish your style, examine your current outfits. - What clothes do you wear most that make you feel confident without sacrificing comfort? What patterns, colours, and textures do you like? Do you prefer classic, bohemian, trendy, or minimalist pieces? Do you tend to rush when dressing or have sufficient time to prepare? Be honest with your assessment and really think of what looks and feels good on you instead of what your peers are wearing. - Consider your lifestyle, as your clothes should suit your daily activities. Your personal fashion style should match your values and convey the image you want to project. Your body shape is another significant factor when developing your personal fashion style. Understanding it can help you select clothes that flatter you and highlight your best assets. - To get more inspiration, read fashion blogs, check magazines or online fashion platforms, and leverage social media. If you have friends who dress well, observe how they dress up and envision how you would look if you were in their shoes. However, be careful of who you follow, especially influencers, as some are getting paid by fashion brands to promote their products. ## **Curating a Personalised Wardrobe** Once you understand your style, you can begin curating a wardrobe that genuinely represents you. Start by selecting versatile pieces that will become staples in your closet. - Invest in quality clothing, as they generally withstand daily wear and tear. They are comfortable and can be used for a long period of time, reducing the need to shop for replacements. This promotes sustainable shopping, which is highly beneficial for the environment. - While you don’t need to purchase from high-end fashion brands, make sure that they come from reputable retailers. If budget is a concern, search for brands that offer quality pieces for more affordable rates. You can also shop at trusted fashion thrift stores or [secondhand online shops](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/), as some offer various stylish and durable clothes. - Find pieces you can wear in various ways or mix and match with other outfits. Some versatile clothing options include denim dresses, dress pants, blazers, and dress shirts. Opt for neutral-coloured clothing so they can blend well with other pieces or accessories. Be deliberate with your purchases and avoid buying them for the sake of trends. However, if you want to try wearing some trendy pieces, go ahead and give them a try. If you’re still interested in them after a few months, even after the trend ends, then that means they have become staples in your personal style. - Incorporate outfits that reflect your individuality. Select statement pieces that can show off your unique style. If you prefer vibrant or decorated outfits, select pieces with varying patterns, textures, colours, and designs. Textures like silk, velvet, and leather can help elevate your overall look. You can also check out vintage clothing stores or distinctive fashion boutiques, as they offer various unique clothing that can help make you stand out. ## **DIY and Customisation** Consider do-it-yourself (DIY) and customisation techniques to make your clothes uniquely yours. This not only elevates your style but also allows for creative expression. If you have clothes that are still in excellent condition and can be refurbished, look for relevant DIY projects to modify them. For instance, you can sew fancy patches from your travels or your initials to one of your denim jackets. Or, if you’re fond of colourful tops, consider [hand-dyeing](https://www.luvlymagazine.com/how-to-hand-dye-clothing-to-create-the-look-and-color-you-want/) some of them using a homemade or commercial dye. If you have long bottoms, you can turn them into shorts that you can wear on your beach trips. Another creative way to customise your clothing is through Direct-to-Film [DTF transfers](https://printfactory.com.au/). This technique enables you to add unique designs and motifs to your garments. Make sure you find a reliable DTF provider to ensure you receive quality service and prevent your clothes from being destroyed. ![personalise your wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/42fd508c-8c7c-4645-a181-d5b6c75d3ff2-1068x800.jpg "42fd508c-8c7c-4645-a181-d5b6c75d3ff2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Incorporating Accessories** Accessories play a significant role in personalising one’s look. They can instantaneously transform a simple fashion piece into an interesting or statement outfit. Choose pieces that enhance your outfits and express your personality. Find accessories that can complement different styles. Experiment with various types of accessories such as jewellery, watches, hats, belts, bags, shoes, scarves, sunglasses, and socks. Make sure your accessories match your skin tone, especially if you’ll be wearing pieces of jewellery. This can help make your skin look more radiant, boosting your overall appearance. To elevate your look further, consider investing in customised or one-of-a-kind accessories. They can add more character to your overall outfit without compromising your personal style. However, avoid going overboard with your accessories, as their primary purpose should be to enhance your overall look and not be a source of visual distraction. ## **Endnote** Personalising your wardrobe not only boosts your confidence but also contributes to a more sustainable fashion choice. By understanding your style, curating the right pieces, incorporating accessories, using DIY methods, and embracing creativity and individuality in fashion, you can efficiently create a wardrobe that is distinctly yours. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-personalise-your-wardrobe/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-personalise-your-wardrobe/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Shopping --- ### [Sustainable Hair Care: Repair Without Harm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/) **Published:** February 13, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Do you feel like your hair is constantly fighting against the elements? And with the cruel Aussie sun, the drying winds, and the occasional dunk in the chlorinated pool, it’s no wonder our locks sometimes appear and feel a little worse for wear. The multitude of hair repair products available on the market, which you think will do wonders but instead leave your hair worse than before and the environment in peril, make real hair repair solutions feel like looking for a needle in a haystack. But what if you could restore your hair vitality and still be gentle on Planet Earth? Let’s discuss sustainable hair care and how to repair your hair without sacrificing your principles or the health of our planet. From ethical regrowth to zero-waste options, we’ll walk you through actionable solutions for nourishing and fortifying your hair as you scale back your environmental footprint. Plus, we’ll [explore conditioner options tailored for Australian hair](https://www.onature.com.au/collections/conditioner) to help combat the unique challenges your locks face daily. ## **Ethical hair restoration: Damage control for a healthy mane** Damaged hair appears as split ends, dryness, frizz or even breakage. Ethical hair restoration aims to undo this damage without using unwanted chemicals and unsustainable practices. Instead, it focuses on gentle yet practical solutions that promote hair health without sacrificing the environment’s health. - **Understanding the culprits:** - Heat styling tools (blow dryers, straighteners, curling irons) break down hair bonds. - Chemical processes such as dyeing, bleaching and perms deplete hair of its natural strength. - Environmental aggressors like UV exposure, pollution, and hard water also contribute to dryness and breakage. - **Gentle cleansing:** - Always choose sulphate-free shampoo as they cleanse hair without stripping it of natural oils. - Use lukewarm or cool water to avoid excess drying of hair. - **Nourishing treatments:** - Plant-based proteins and powerful essential fatty acids in deep conditioning masks strengthen hair. - Add leave-in conditioners for all-day hair protection. - Use coconut, argan or jojoba oil and consider weekly hot oil treatments to restore shine. ## **Eco-friendly hair care: The green route to repair** Green hair care is more than using “natural” products. It details the entire lifecycle of a product, from ingredient sourcing to packaging to disposal. A genuinely sustainable approach has the least possible environmental impact at all stages. - **Sustainable sourcing:** - Seek out brands dedicated to fair trade ingredients and ethical growing practices. - Steer clear of palm oil unless RSPO-certified (Roundtable on Sustainable Palm Oil). - **Eco-friendly packaging:** - Opt for products/packages that are biodegradable, recyclable or refilled. - Choose brands with post-consumer recycled (PCR) plastics or compostable substitutes. - **Reducing water usage:** - Explore water-saving hair care techniques like co-washing (shampooing with conditioner). - Dry shampoo is used between washes to delay how long it takes to wash your hair. ![hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/85b2e861-1935-45c8-9d7a-c42887beba83-1066x800.jpg "85b2e861-1935-45c8-9d7a-c42887beba83 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Natural remedies for hair salvation: healing from within** In a world of botanical ingredients, nature has much to offer in repairing and restoring damage. This guide can help you do so in a natural, gentle, practical, and integrated way into your hair care routine. - **Coconut oil:** - Deep within the hair shaft, protein loss is reduced. - It makes it easier to control flyaways and moisture levels. - **Argan oil:** - Antioxidants and essential fatty acids can be found in abundance. - It enhances sheen and bounce and protects from heat damage. - **Aloe vera:** - Calms and moisturises the scalp, decreasing dandruff and discomfort. - Fortifies hair fibres and improves softness. - **Rice water:** - Full of amino acids, vitamins and minerals that improve hair growth. - It helps strengthen, reinforce and smooth out the hair cuticle. - **Apple cider vinegar (ACV**): - Balances scalp pH and prevents product buildup. - Adds shine and cuts down on frizz. ## **Sustainable salon practices: professional responsibility for hair health** Salons can be powerful advocates for [sustainable hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/hairstyles-prevent-lice-nits/). By starting to be eco-friendly, they can minimise their own impact on the ecosystem and help to promote a cleaner earth. - **Eco-friendly products:** - Choose ammonia-free hair dyes and plant-based styling products. - Select biodegradable or organic treatments that nourish hair while not harming waterways. - **Water conservation:** - Low-flow showerheads should be used to cut down on water usage. - Advocate for clients bringing refillable containers to professional treatments - **Recycling and waste reduction:** - Recycle hair clippings for composting, or some organisations use hair for environmental clean-up. - By choosing bulk-sized professional hair care products, you are helping reduce plastic waste. - Team up with sustainable beauty programs, like Green Circle Salons, to recycle colour tubes, foils and waste chemicals. ## **Zero-waste hair care: Embracing a waste-free lifestyle** The zero-waste life is catching on, and these principles, too, can be applied to hair care problems. A zero-waste hair routine means to minimise waste at every single step. - **Reusable containers:** - Participating eco-conscious stores will refill shampoo and conditioner bottles. - Choose glass or aluminium containers, which can be recycled more easily. - **Solid hair care products:** - Shampoo and conditioner bars replace plastic bottle packaging. - Solid products have a longer shelf life and are more travel-friendly. - **DIY hair care:** - Use natural ingredients to create your hair masks, serums and rinses. - Use avocados, bananas, yogurt, and honey for homemade deep-conditioning treatments. ![hair care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Hair-care.png "Hair care - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Sustainable scalp solutions: Nourishment for a healthy ecosystem** A healthy scalp is the beginning of shiny, luscious hair. Sustainable scalp care is rooted in nourishing and balancing the scalp’s ecosystem to allow hair to grow and repair optimally. - **Scalp exfoliation:** - Gently scrub (sugar, sea salt or coffee grounds) the dead skin off. - Weekly exfoliation can help minimise [hair dandruff and excess oil](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/hair-problems), too. - **Natural oils:** - Jojoba oil mimics the natural sebum of the scalp and prevents dryness. - The antibacterial properties of tea tree oil help to soothe the irritation. - **Gentle massage:** - Scalp massage improves blood circulation and stimulates hair growth. - Use a scalp brush to distribute oils evenly. ## **Conclusion: Small changes have a significant impact** Switching to sustainable hair care doesn’t have to be daunting. I am not talking about drastic shifts here; small, intentional changes can make a massive difference in the long run. Do so without destroying our planet by repairing your strands with eco-friendly products, supporting eco-friendly salons, and turning to home remedies. With the cooler months on their way — the finals of the AFL season and preparations for summer holidays being among them — now is the time to take care of yourself and adopt a more sustainable approach to beauty so as you enter the most stressful months of the year, you are the best version of yourself. Remember: healthy hair starts with a healthy planet. By making responsible choices today, we can ensure strong, beautiful hair and a thriving Earth for generations to come. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/sustainable-hair-care-repair-without-harm/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care, Beauty --- ### [8 Self-Love Rituals for the Best Single Mum Galentine's](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/self-love-rituals-for-valentines/) **Published:** January 30, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Have you ever felt like you’ve lost your friends since becoming a mum? If you have, you’re not alone. Maintaining friendships takes a lot of effort, an effort we’d honestly rather be spending on keeping our household and our sanity afloat. Seeing all the celebrations around us on February 13, you might find yourself mourning the loss of many of your platonic female friendships. But you don’t have to! Here’s a list of self-love rituals you can practise for Galentine Day … and every day thereafter. After all, your first best gal is worth celebrating on this day, too: YOU. ***Further reading******: [15 Valentine’s Gifts to Get for Yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/valentines-day-gifts-get-yourself/)*** ## Self-love rituals for single mums on Galentine’s Day ## Start your day with affirmations If you’re not doing this already, you’re missing out on a powerful way to set your intentions for the day. As soon as you wake up, smile at your reflection in the mirror and recite positive thoughts to yourself out loud. You can create your own “I am” affirmations or find one online. Beanstalk Mums has an incredible list of [mantras for your well-being](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/i-am-statements/) and for [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/100-mantras-for-mums/). Check them out to find something that resonates with you. I promise this simple practice will boost your self-esteem and confidence. ## Write yourself a letter There’s truly nothing better than having female friends, and Galentine’s Day is here to show them your appreciation and gratitude. Still, don’t forget about the little girl inside who’s been with you and will be with you forever. Sometimes, it takes just a whisper of “thank you” to connect with her. But you can make things more special … like writing a letter to yourself. My friend Chaire uses an email service provider that allows her to send letters to her future self. She has been doing this for almost ten years but says she still gets excited whenever she receives one on her email. You can do the same or take the snail mail route – either is perfectly fine! ## Take a long, warm bath Honestly, when was the last time you took a proper shower since you became a mum? We’re busy, sure, but self-love also involves looking after yourself. Take this unofficial holiday to pamper yourself. Grab a bath bomb or a shower gel that you really like. Light up some scented candles. Take out your best towels from the closet. Pour yourself a glass of wine to enjoy. Take it up a step and go to the spa for your much-needed pampering. Whether it’s a full-body massage, mani-pedi, facial, or body scrub, I promise you’ll feel fresh and so much better after. ![Self-love rituals for single mums on Galentine's Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-5-1.png "In article image 5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Self-love rituals for single mums (cont.) ## Buy yourself flowers Thankfully, the days of thinking this is “just for losers” are behind us. Sending yourself a [beautiful bouquet](https://www.petals.com.au/flower-arrangement/pink-blush/inprod1220141?skuId=insku1200347&zipMin=) is one of the best ways to practise amour propre. Flowers are luxurious, special, and — let’s be honest — not cheap. Treating yourself to a bouquet or even a single stem shows that you believe you deserve something extravagant and beautiful just because. ## Take yourself out on a date Thank god going on a date with yourself is not seen as something weird anymore. It doesn’t have to be a 5-star restaurant, but something you will really enjoy. Treat yourself to a cup of expensive tea and a pastry in a cosy café. Go to the library to read the book you’ve been putting off because of your hectic schedule. Go on the beach by yourself. This is a great time to check in with yourself emotionally. Can’t bring yourself to leave the house? You can also set up a special dinner for yourself after tucking the little ones to bed. ## Create your sacred space Do you have a space in your home you consider sacred? If not, this is the time to set up one. It’s the one spot in your house that you associate with calm and warmth. It can be a book nook, a small table with your religious articles, or your personal self-love altar filled with cleansed crystals. You can decorate your special spot with the comfiest rugs and throw pillows. Have some incense or candles in your favourite scent. Here, you can sit in silence and read, pray, or meditate. ## Remember, you can say no to invitations from your gals Finally, if you’re lucky enough to still have female friends who would want to spend Galentine’s with you but you’re not feeling like it, you can say no! In the end, true soul sisters won’t leave you just because you decided to skip on a night out. Real girlfriends accept and respect that you have a completely different life now, especially now that you’re a mum. ## Conclusion: Self Love Rituals for Galentine’s Day You might think you’re missing out on being with your female friends on Galentine’s Day now that you have become a mum. But the truth is, this is a perfect time in your life to date your first best friend, your true ride-or-die: yourself. Use this time to create a self-love ritual to appreciate yourself for your strength, courage, and resilience. What’s best about these habits is that you can take anyone and make it a part of your lifestyle. The key is to make these practices intentional. It doesn’t matter if you make it a part of your morning ritual as long as you’re doing it regularly. Making it a point to be truly loving to the little girl inside you will make you realise that, actually, you’re not missing out on a lot. Because when you nurture yourself, you’re not just surviving motherhood … you’re thriving. So this Galentine’s Day, celebrate the friendship that’s been with you all along: the one with that gal that’s within you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/self-love-rituals-for-valentines/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/valentines-day/self-love-rituals-for-valentines/?share=x) - **Categories:** Valentine’s Day --- ### [128 Self-reflection Journal Prompts for the Love Month](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/) **Published:** January 29, 2025 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Journalling is a powerful tool that can be pretty intimidating for beginners. Once you find that pen that perfectly matches your beautiful notebook, it can start to get confusing. How do you get started? What do you write about? That’s where self-reflection journal prompts enter the picture. Prompts are incredibly helpful to explore your thoughts and feelings. They can guide you on what you should write. They can serve as an inspiration for creativity. More importantly, they can help you reconnect with your innermost self and understand why you are who you are. All of these are necessary to improve one’s mental health. Whether you’re a total beginner who’s not sure where to start or someone currently feeling stuck in life, here are some journal questions to get you going: ***Further reading: [How to boost a child’s health with gratitude journalling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/gratitude-journaling-boost-childs-health/)*** ## 128 Self-reflection Journal Prompts ## Prompts About Self-Reflection and Identity 1. Who am I outside of being a mum? 2. What makes me feel most like myself? 3. How has being a single mum shaped my identity? 4. What do I love about myself? 5. What do I struggle to accept about myself, and why? 6. How do I want others to see me? 7. When do I feel the most confident? 8. What are my core values, and how do I live by them? 9. What habits help me stay true to myself? 10. How do I define success for myself? 11. What personal achievements am I most proud of? 12. How do I honour my emotions? 13. What are my biggest strengths? 14. How do I handle setbacks or failures? 15. Who inspires me, and why? 16. What are my greatest fears, and how do they shape my decisions? ## Prompts About Parenting and Connection with Your Child 17. What is my parenting philosophy? 18. What are my child’s unique qualities? 19. How do I encourage my child’s individuality? 20. What do I want my child to learn from me? 21. How do I nurture my relationship with my child? 22. What is my proudest parenting moment? 23. How do I handle parenting challenges? 24. What do I want my child to remember about their childhood? 25. How do I balance discipline with love? 26. How do I celebrate my child’s milestones? 27. What is the most important lesson I’ve learned as a parent? 28. How do I show my child unconditional love? 29. What do I admire most about my child? 30. What does quality time with my child look like? 31. How do I help my child feel safe and supported? 32. How has my child changed my perspective on life? ![self-reflection journal prompts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-5-2.png "In article image 5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Self-reflection Journal Prompts (cont.) ## Prompts About Navigating Single Motherhood 33. What has been the hardest part of being a single mum? 34. How have I grown through the challenges of single motherhood? 35. What support systems do I have, and how do I use them? 36. What stereotypes about single mums do I reject? 37. How do I define success as a single mum? 38. What makes me proud of my journey as a single mum? 39. How do I handle feelings of loneliness? 40. What boundaries do I set to protect my energy? 41. How do I ask for help when I need it? 42. What does self-care mean to me as a single mum? 43. How do I manage my time and priorities? 44. What resources or tools have helped me as a single mum? 45. How do I handle financial challenges? 46. What advice would I give a new single mum? 47. How do I celebrate small victories in my daily life? 48. What do I appreciate about the freedom of single motherhood? ## Prompts About Healing and Growth 49. What wounds from my past do I need relieved of? 50. How do I forgive myself for past mistakes? 51. What limiting beliefs hold me back? 52. How do I practice self-compassion? 53. What lessons have I learned from my hardships? 54. How do I release guilt or shame from my past? 55. What brings me peace in difficult moments? 56. How do I nurture my inner child? 57. What does emotional healing look like for me? 58. How have I grown from my struggles? 59. How do I handle triggers from my past? 60. What habits or thought patterns no longer serve me? 61. What inspires me to keep going? 62. How do I celebrate my resilience? 63. How do I stay grounded during tough times? 64. What brings me hope for the future? ## Self-reflection Journal Prompts (cont.) ## Prompts About Relationships and Boundaries 65. What does a healthy relationship look like to me? 66. How do I set and enforce boundaries in relationships? 67. How do I show love to the people in my life? 68. What qualities do I value in a friend or partner? 69. How do I communicate my needs and feelings? 70. What red flags do I look out for in relationships? 71. How do I protect my energy from toxic people? 72. How do I rebuild trust after it’s been broken? 73. What does self-respect mean to me in relationships? 74. How do I teach my child about healthy relationships? 75. How do I handle conflict in a productive way? 76. What role does forgiveness play in my relationships? 77. How do I prioritise relationships that matter to me? 78. What do I need from the people in my support system? 79. How do I balance relationships with my own needs? 80. What relationships bring me joy and fulfilment? ## Prompts About Gratitude and Positivity 81. What am I grateful for today? 82. Who in my life am I thankful for, and why? 83. How do I express thankfulness in my daily life? 84. What positive habits am I proud of? 85. What small joys bring me happiness? 86. How do I focus on the good during hard times? 87. What does abundance mean to me? 88. How has appreciation improved my perspective on life? 89. What blessings have come from being a single mum? 90. How do I celebrate life’s little wins? 91. What do I love about my current life? 92. How do I stay optimistic about the future? 93. What affirmations help me feel positive and grounded? 94. How do I bring joy into my daily routine? 95. What does happiness look like for me? 96. How do I inspire positivity in my child? ![self-reflection journal prompts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/In-article-image-6-2.png "In article image 6 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Self-reflection Journal Prompts (cont.) ## Prompts About Dreams and Goals 97. What are my biggest aspiration for myself? 98. What goals am I working toward right now? 99. How do I motivate myself to keep going? 100. What small steps can I take toward my goals? 101. How do I balance my goals with parenting? 102. What does success look like for me in the next year? 103. What skills or knowledge do I want to develop? 104. How do I celebrate progress toward my goals? 105. What fears hold me back from pursuing my ambitions? 106. How do I teach my child to follow their vision? 107. What legacy do I want to leave for my child? 108. What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail? 109. How do I define a meaningful life? 110. What inspires me to keep growing? 111. How do I prioritise my goals without guilt? 112. What is one goal I’m ready to chase? ## Prompts About Mindfulness and Presence 113. How do I stay present in the moment? 114. What does mindfulness mean to me? 115. How do I ground myself when I feel overwhelmed? 116. What does a perfect day look like for me? 117. How do I find joy in the small things? 118. What helps me feel calm and centred? 119. How do I practise mindfulness in parenting? 120. What activities bring me into the present moment? 121. How do I respond to stress in a mindful way? 122. What role does meditation or reflection play in my life? 123. How do I make space for stillness? 124. What does balance look like in my life? 125. How do I help my child stay present and grounded? 126. What moments today made me feel truly alive? 127. How can I incorporate more mindfulness into my routine? 128. How do I show gratitude for the present moment? ## Tips for Journalling Beginners I’m not a mental health expert, but I’ve kept a journal for as long as I can remember. For those of you who are novices in this practise, here are some effective ways to help you in your journey of putting pen to paper: 1. **Try to have a schedule.** Find a quiet place and set aside a time to write with no distractions. The best times are as soon as you wake up and before you sleep. 2. **Don’t worry.** Your journal is a safe space. Inside its pages, no one will judge your grammar and spelling. Just let your thoughts flow. Since no one else is reading it, you don’t have to lie or hold back. Write freely; even “stream of consciousness“ will work perfectly. 3. **Use technology.** If you’re not the pen and paper kind of mum, no one’s stopping you from using a digital journal. And even if you are writing on traditional notebooks, many apps can help you with prompts. Some sites will also give you printable gratitude journalling guides. ## Conclusion: Self-reflection journal prompts Many [mental health professionals](https://positivepsychology.com/benefits-of-journaling/) encourage us to write down our thoughts as a self-care practise. Journaling can help you reflect about, have deeper understanding of, and gain clarity about values that align with yourself. The process can be cathartic; therapeutic, even. This can make you feel better on the inside, which can manifest in an improvement in your physical health. Journaling practice is a recommended tool to aid in your journey of self-discovery. I hope these journal prompts help in your journey to getting your thoughts out. Journaling is more than just writing. It’s a way to nurture your inner world, process your feelings and emotions, and celebrate your journey. As you write using these questions, remember to be kind to yourself. Your story, your growth, and your reflections are all valuable steps toward becoming the best version of you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/self-reflection-journal-prompts/?share=x) - **Categories:** Self Care --- ### [Tools and Resources to Make Learning More Accessible for Teens](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/tools-and-resources-to-make-learning-more-accessible-for-teens/) **Published:** January 28, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Teenagers today face a myriad of challenges in their academic journeys, from keeping up with demanding curricula to managing extracurricular commitments. With education evolving rapidly, finding the right tools and resources to support effective learning has never been more crucial. For parents and students alike, understanding how to navigate the wide array of options available can make a significant difference. Accessible learning resources not only help students perform better academically but also boost their confidence and motivation. Whether through digital tools, study aids, or practical support from parents, there are numerous ways to simplify and enhance learning for teens. This article explores some of the most effective methods to empower teens in their educational pursuits. ## **Digital Tools and Resources for Enhancing Study Efficiency** Modern technology offers countless tools to help students organise their schedules, complete assignments, and study more effectively. Calendar apps like Google Calendar and task managers like Todoist are excellent for keeping track of deadlines and setting study goals. Teens can plan their days efficiently, avoiding the last-minute stress of unfinished projects or upcoming tests. Online platforms that provide study notes, lecture materials, and study guides have become indispensable. These resources enable students to deepen their understanding of challenging subjects and revise effectively. [Platforms like Studocu](https://www.studocu.com/en-au "Platforms like Studocu"), offering study material, including lecture notes and exam prep content, can bridge knowledge gaps. For example, students tackling difficult topics can turn to these resources to simplify complex concepts. Such tools don’t just save time—they make learning personalised and efficient, helping teens develop a sense of autonomy in their studies. Resources like these are vital for staying ahead in competitive academic environments. ## **Study Habits and Resources for Better Learning** Good study habits form the backbone of academic success, yet many teens struggle with distractions and ineffective methods. A structured approach, supported by reliable resources, can make a huge difference. For example, creating a quiet, distraction-free study space can significantly improve focus. Using techniques like the Pomodoro method—where students work in focused bursts with short breaks—helps sustain attention over longer periods. Access to quality study materials is equally important. Comprehensive study guides, detailed lecture notes, and curated exam prep content give students the tools they need to succeed. Whether reviewing a challenging math chapter or [preparing for a history exam](https://www.htav.asn.au/htavnews/preparing-for-the-vce-history-examinations-and-study-design-20222026 "preparing for a history exam"), these resources provide clarity and depth. It’s important to encourage teens to evaluate the credibility of the study help they use. Resources designed by educators or experienced professionals ensure accuracy and relevance, boosting confidence in the material. ## **Supporting Teens with Specialised Educational Needs** Learning isn’t one-size-fits-all. Some students thrive with visual aids like charts and graphs, while others benefit from auditory tools like podcasts or narrated study guides. Ensuring that teens have access to customised resources tailored to their needs is crucial for equitable learning. For students with unique learning requirements, specialised tools can level the playing field. Speech-to-text applications, for instance, assist those who struggle with written assignments, while interactive platforms help students with attention difficulties stay engaged. Equally, teens who prefer self-paced learning can use online platforms to access a wide variety of study material. By empowering teens to explore resources that cater to their specific needs, parents and educators can ensure that learning remains both inclusive and impactful. ![Tools and resources](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/459d8caf-e94b-4008-9d6b-13b270b13b34-1066x800.jpg "459d8caf-e94b-4008-9d6b-13b270b13b34 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **The Role of Parents in Facilitating Accessible Learning** Parents play an integral role in ensuring their teens have the support they need to excel academically. Open communication about academic struggles can help uncover areas where additional resources are required. Encouraging teens to voice their concerns ensures that parents can provide relevant support, whether that’s through study guides or digital tools. Parents can also help their teens stay organised by assisting in the creation of realistic study schedules. Monitoring progress without being overbearing fosters independence while ensuring that students remain on track. Additionally, introducing teens to reliable platforms and [resources for study](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/excellent-educational-apps/ "resources for study") help can be immensely beneficial. A quick search for comprehensive lecture notes, for example, can help demystify tough subjects and reduce exam stress. ## **Conclusion** Learning is a journey, and every teen deserves the tools and resources to navigate it successfully. From digital apps that streamline study schedules to online platforms offering curated study material, there are countless ways to make learning more accessible. Parents play a critical role in this process, offering guidance and ensuring their teens can access the best resources available. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/tools-and-resources-to-make-learning-more-accessible-for-teens/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/tools-and-resources-to-make-learning-more-accessible-for-teens/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Education --- ### [10 Simple Back to School Tips for Separated Parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/10-back-to-school-tips-for-separated-and-divorced-parents/) **Published:** January 25, 2025 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Getting organised for back-to-school is like a military operation, especially if you have more than one child. So, if you co-parent with your children’s father, you are forgiven for feeling a tad overwhelmed. Getting the school routine right for [children living between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) takes practice, but it is possible. And it is one of the most important things you can do for your kids. See below for some handy back to school tips for separated and divorced parents. > And, in case you’re wondering who I am … > > I’m Lucy, a veteran single mum and the founder of the website you are on! I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums. You can get more in-depth, personalised support from my [“You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/). ## BACK TO SCHOOL TIPS FOR SEPARATED AND DIVORCED PARENTS ### 1. GET THE COMMUNICATION RIGHT Like with shared parenting in every situation, communication is key. Remember that you are working together to give your child the best possible chance at school. You will most likely know which form of communication works best for you as an ex-couple, so work with that. And stick to the facts, with some niceties thrown in for good measure. ### 2. BACK TO SCHOOL COSTS If you are undecided as to who is paying for what when it comes to school, open the conversation early. Although [Child Support](https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/subjects/parents-guide-child-support) payments generally cover school costs, my ex and I split the more significant amounts. Whatever you decide to do, keep your kids out of it so they don’t have to worry about money and can concentrate on the things that matter most … like choosing the [perfect pencil case](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/pencil-cases/)! Get some great specials on school gear here: [Find the best student laptop for 2025.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/student-laptop/) ### 3. GET AN APP Kid’s schooling can get really complicated. Along with parent’s evenings and sports days come school trips, casual clothes day and project/homework deadlines. It can feel like a full-time job for any parent, especially those with kids at primary school. For this reason, a [co-parenting app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-co-parenting-apps-2024/) is a lifesaver. They offer shared calendars, expense recorders and message boards designed primarily for separated families and will make school arrangements for your little ones easier for everyone. ### 4. BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM Most separated families have two parents who work. This can make life hard for pick-up, drop-off, and school events. To minimise stress, build a support system outside yourself and your ex. This could be friends and/or family who you can call on for a favour (and do a favour for in return). If you feel you lack this now, you will likely connect with other parents at the school who will become your support system. Having a backup is always a good thing and will offer you and your children security. Need help building a support system? It is one of many things we cover in my [“You’ve Got This” eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/), especially for single mums. ### 5. TELL THE SCHOOL It is really important to let your child’s school know if you co-parent, or if they are already at school, to let them know you have separated from your child’s other parent. Please don’t feel guilty or worried because schools are used to working with separated families. Teachers are better positioned to care for your children if they understand their home life. It also helps as they can put you and Dad on their email list, ensuring you both get all school communication simultaneously. ![Back to school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/In-article-image-16.png "Back to school - Beanstalk Mums") Simple Back-to-School Tips ## Back-to-school tips for separated and divorced parents (cont.) ### 6. GET A HANDLE ON THE HOMEWORK Homework can easily become a bone of contention between separated parents … I speak from experience. This is because one parent will often take more responsibility than the other. If this is the case in your family, then explain to your child that homework is “their” responsibility, not the parents. This will encourage them to do it even if they are with the parent who is less enthusiastic about homework. It will also teach independence and responsibility. For more homework help, read this: [7 Easy ways to help your kids with homework](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-with-homework/). ### 7. MAKE SURE EVERYTHING IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME One of the most challenging aspects of school, when your child lives between two homes, is getting uniforms and school supplies from house to house. There are stages of schooling that involve laptops, musical instruments, castles made of 100 toilet rolls, and goodness knows what else … that is on top of the everyday supplies such as uniforms, shoes, school bags and sports kits. Work together to ensure everything is in the right place at the right time. And give kids some leeway if something is forgotten. It is hard to live between two homes, and they are likely doing their best. Here are some logistical ideas to help: “[7 Superb ideas for moving kid’s stuff during handover](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/)“ ### 8. SHOW A UNITED FRONT Although you are a separated family, it is great to pull together at the times that matter to show a united front for your child and their school. Try to both be present for the first day of school, parent’s evening and sports days. It is not always possible, but even once or twice is enough to show you are a team and both care about their schooling. ### 9. EMERGENCY CONTACT DETAILS Next on our list of back-to-school tips for separated parents … Even in this modern day, school software systems don’t always cater for the separated family, I know our school doesn’t. This means they can record only one main contact. Decide between you and your ex-partner who this should be. Does one of you work nearer to the school and is more available if your child is sick? And ensure the school is advised to call the other parent if the first can not be reached. ### 10. IT’S OK THAT MUM AND DAD ARE DIVORCED For some children, it can be very difficult to cope with the separation of their parents. Add to this the pressure of the school playground and awkward questions they may be asked by well-meaning (and not so-well-meaning) kids, and life might seem unfathomably complicated. Help them decide how to communicate your separation to their peers. As well as constantly reassuring them that you and their father love and support them with everything they do. ![Back to school coparents | Beanstalk Mums | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Back-to-school-tips.png "Back to school tips - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/10-back-to-school-tips-for-separated-and-divorced-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/10-back-to-school-tips-for-separated-and-divorced-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School **Tags:** co-parenting apps, homework, school uniform, school costs, teachers, school supplies, school and separation --- ### [How is superannuation divided during a divorce?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-is-superannuation-divided-during-a-divorce/) **Published:** January 24, 2025 **Author:** Kristy-Lee Burns **Content:** Divorce is rarely straightforward, and the division of superannuation assets can be particularly complex. In Australia, superannuation – just like other assets such as houses, cars, or savings – is treated as property in divorce proceedings. This means it’s subject to division between separating couples. The complexities surrounding [superannuation](https://www.owenhodge.com.au/family-law-articles/superannuation-splitting-during-divorce/) have historically made it difficult to ensure a fair split, particularly for women who often have lower superannuation balances due to career breaks and lower-paying jobs. Recent legislative changes have sought to address this issue by increasing transparency and making it harder to hide superannuation assets during divorce. Here’s a rundown of how superannuation is divided in Australia following a relationship breakdown. ## **Superannuation is treated as property** Australian family law treats superannuation as an asset that forms part of the ‘property pool’ during divorce proceedings. This pool includes all assets acquired during the relationship, regardless of whose name they are held in. The court aims to achieve a just and equitable division of this property pool, considering various factors such as: - **Contributions:** Both financial and non-financial contributions to the relationship are considered, including caring for children, homemaking, and supporting a partner’s career. - **Future needs:** The court takes into account the future needs of each party, including their age, health, earning capacity, and caring responsibilities. - **Length of the relationship:** The duration of the relationship influences how the assets are divided. ## **Options for splitting superannuation** Separating couples have a few options when it comes to dividing superannuation: - F**inancial agreement:** Couples can enter into a financial agreement outlining how their superannuation will be split. This requires both parties to receive independent legal advice and have their lawyers sign a certificate confirming this. - **Consent orders:** Couples can apply to the court for consent orders that formalise their agreement on superannuation splitting. - **Court orders:** If an agreement cannot be reached, the court will make orders determining how the superannuation will be divided. ## **What happens when a former partner hides superannuation?** In the past, it was possible for individuals to conceal superannuation assets, making it difficult to achieve a fair division during divorce. However, the *Treasury Laws Amendment (2021 Measure No. 6) Bill 2021 (Schedule 5)*, effective from 1 April 2022, has significantly changed the landscape. This legislation empowers the Australian Taxation Office (ATO) to release superannuation information to family law courts upon request. This means that individuals can no longer easily hide their superannuation from their former partner during divorce proceedings. ![Superannuation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/5a390ba0-70c9-4fed-97f0-5447b0635c08-1066x800.jpg "5a390ba0-70c9-4fed-97f0-5447b0635c08 - Beanstalk Mums") To obtain superannuation information about their former partner, an individual needs to apply to a family law court registry pursuant to rule 90XZJ of the *Family Law Act* 1975 (Cth). This process is relatively straightforward, requiring the completion of a Superannuation Information Request Form available online through the Commonwealth Courts Portal. The legislation offers several key benefits: - **Transparency:** It promotes transparency and fairness by ensuring both parties have a clear picture of their superannuation assets. - **Efficiency:** It simplifies the process of obtaining superannuation information, reducing the time and cost involved. - **Equity:** It helps to ensure a more equitable division of superannuation, particularly for women who may be at a financial disadvantage. If you suspect your former partner is hiding superannuation assets, it’s crucial to seek legal advice. A family lawyer can help you navigate the process of obtaining information and ensure you receive your rightful share of the superannuation. ***Further reading: [Life After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/)*** ## **Key takeaways** Superannuation is considered property in Australian divorce proceedings and is subject to division between separating couples. The recent legislative changes have made it easier to access superannuation information from a former partner, promoting transparency and fairness, and ensuring that superannuation assets aren’t concealed during the property division process. If you are going through a divorce, it’s essential to seek legal advice to understand your rights and ensure a just and equitable division of assets, including superannuation. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-is-superannuation-divided-during-a-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-is-superannuation-divided-during-a-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Investing in Your Commercial Kitchen: A Guide to Key Equipment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/investing-in-commercial-kitchen/) **Published:** October 16, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** The absence of a well-designed and fully equipped commercial kitchen can hinder the potential of your food service establishment. High-end restaurants, roadside hotels, or even tiny cafés can use more commercial kitchen equipment to boost customer flow. This article will break down the different classes of some of the most important products that can help your commercial kitchen stand out and the considerations that should be considered while procuring commercial kitchen equipment for your business. ## Cooking Equipment Stoves and ranges can be considered the heart of the kitchen in any commercial establishment; hence, a rigorous selection process should be exercised to identify the right one. Commercial kitchen stoves are most commonly heated using gas, electricity or induction. Consider the availability of these three sources of heating in your locality or the nature of cooking that your business will do before deciding on one or more of them as the best choice for your work. The intensity of use plus the frequency of food preparation, among other factors. ***Ovens*** are capable of baking, roasting, and reheating, and indeed, no matter what your business is, you will be certain to use them day in and day out. The nature of your needs is likely to be influenced heavily by the number of times your clients order for baking or roasting. Consider conventional ovens for a small restaurant or a café that produces a few items cooked at low to medium temperatures for long periods. ***Grills***: When considering equipment in a restaurant, we always see the presence of a grill since it is the best source for preparing dishes that could be liked by customers stocked up by the commercial menu, such as crisp meat or vegetables – grilled dishes are very rich. In the world of grills, the choice between gas, electric, or charcoal will depend on the type of dishes you want to grill and the various techniques you will need to use. ***Fryers***: Fryers in the category of fryers are usually deep fryers and are the best equipment to use when making fried food items that cannot be missed within the fast food industry, for example, fries as well as onion rings characteristically made of a certain type of fryers. When you are trying to choose a fryer for your business, you need to know the type of food you will prepare and the volume that will come. ## Refrigeration and Food Storage ***Refrigerators and Freezers***: When purchasing a refrigerator and a freezer, it is mandatory that you look for one that can provide for the whole space required and can reach the temperatures needed, as well as doing so for as long as possible. Be sure to verify how easily the temperature controls may vary and to make sure you understand how to go about it in a simple way. ***Reach-In Refrigerators and Freezers***: These products are actually very performance-oriented, and they can help out in many types of very busy establishments like restaurants and all sorts of snack bars. Some of these machines have double or triple doors, enabling easy access to food and quick temperature control, hence following the safety standards necessary as far as food safety is concerned. ***Display Cases***: Display cases have become another very important component of the food business in refrigeration and food storage. Each of these cabinets is designed to allow the best practices in merchandising, best practices in food presentation, and higher levels of food safety in their application; hence, they are one of the most popular and effective instruments for attracting customers. ***Ice Machines***: Ice Machines: You should always consider another cooling appliance when you are planning a commercial kitchen, one which is essential in the preparation of drinks that anybody should consider as complete such as cold teas, coffees, or shakes. ![commercial kitchen - Food preparation equipment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-44.jpg "Beanstalk Mums Blog for mothers - Beanstalk Mums")## Food Preparation Equipment ***Food processors*** are the magic wands of today’s kitchen equipment that can perform a myriad of functions, including chopping, slicing, shredding, and pureeing food, among many other tasks. That fine-textured sauce or that chunky vinaigrette for salads or an ultra-smooth potato puree, these little marvels of technology are a predominant piece of equipment for any food preparation process for a food service business. Additional equipment is used for making cream soups, mashed potatoes or any other purees for the input of the heroes of the menu. ***Whiskers*** are another fundamental food preparation appliance whose importance cannot be overstated as they help in the incorporation of various ingredients, beating eggs for certain pastries, whipping cream to its fluffiest appeal or any other mixing task in the kitchen. You want a ***Kitchen Mixer*** that is steady in function and able to deliver higher volume mixing in equal proportions of performance efficiency, quality and durability depending on the nature of products or baked items your bakery deals with. ***Slicers*** are extremely versatile kitchen appliances that make short work of slicing meat, cheese, or vegetables to plan the exact amounts required during food preparation, thus improving work efficiency and consistently yielding identical cuts of products. You do not want a slicer that has too many small wheels and areas that hardly ever get cleaned, and hence, it may expose the meat or cheese to all manner of bacteria that may actually land in your food. ***Choppers*** are the essential kitchen tools for cutting up ingredients like fresh vegetables and herbs, nuts, or even dried fruits, which form a major part of culinary arts as these diced ingredients are as much a part of cooking. ## Cleaning and Sanitation Equipment ***Dishwashers***: These commercial dishwashers highly aid the tireless cleaning and sanitizing of numerous greasy, dirty plates or cups; it is thus essential to view them as one of the most important workhorses of your cooks and cleaners and highly important part of jobs in restaurants or the kitchens of large hotels. ***Three-Compartment Sinks***: The three-compartment sinks provide the biggest commercial kitchen silverware and the holy grail of the primary hygiene principles. There are widely known regulations that, if applied to the correct operation of these sinks while washing, will involve using the right quantity of water, completely rinsing all the detergent, and sterilizing using the right chemicals and temperatures accordingly. ***Garbage Disposal Units***: The garbage disposal is a must-have in a successful and hygienic kitchen. These units serve great advantages such as reduced odours and increased food debris management and should consider their buy when setting up such kitchens. ## Additional Equipment ***Cooking Utensils***: It should be noted that no kitchen can deliver above-average-quality food and services expected of it without the appropriate cooking utensils. Saucepans and other utensils, such as pots and pans, should go hand in hand, and one cannot go without the other since they comprise the best set for the accomplishment of kitchen tasks. It is, therefore, advisable that all cooks conduct thorough research before buying kitchen utensils that will include forks, culinary tweezers, and spatulas, among others. It would be easy to measure what they will buy considering the activities they are to carry out and the available number of chefs in the kitchen. ***Small Appliances***: To further improve food quality and to serve customers quickly, one can consider investing in small electrical appliances such as blenders, toasters, coffee makers, and others based on the kind of menu offered and consumer demands. ## Conclusion When running a food establishment under the relentless pressure of time and the inherent challenges of the journey, we tend to forget about one of the most vital elements in any commercial kitchen: the efficiency, effectiveness and reliability that come with the right [commercial kitchen equipment](https://mvocateringsolutions.com.au/). The right choice of kitchen equipment not only simplifies the whole process of food preparation and cooking but also helps to improve the overall efficiency of the kitchen, thereby enhancing profit margins while still making great-tasting food. Therefore, in summing everything, to establish a satisfactory and prosperous commercial kitchen, it is not enough to equip the kitchen with any equipment out there; instead, it is crucial to fully understand the needs of the particular establishment and make the right choice. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/investing-in-commercial-kitchen/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/investing-in-commercial-kitchen/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Homeschooling in Australia 2025: Is it right for you?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/homeschooling-in-australia-2025-is-it-right-for-you/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Are you considering homeschooling your child but don’t know where to start? In this guide, we’ll get into the essentials of homeschooling in Australia, including tips to make this journey smoother for you and your kids. This article is packed with insights to help you navigate this rewarding path. One good example is Aurora Smith, a single mum from Brisbane. When her son struggled with traditional school, she decided to homeschool. She turned their kitchen into a mini classroom, used colourful worksheets, and utilised every resource available. Two years later, her son’s love for learning blossomed. If she can do it, so can you! ## **What is homeschooling?** Homeschooling is when parents take full responsibility for their children’s education instead of enrolling them in a traditional school. This method allows families to tailor a child’s curriculum to their learning pace and unique needs. Imagine teaching math at your dining table, surrounded by textbooks and resources, or turning a nature walk into a science lesson. ### **Structured (Traditional Curriculum-Based)** Structured homeschooling uses a traditional curriculum with lesson plans, textbooks, and set milestones, so you don’t have to plan everything from scratch. It’s perfect if you thrive on organisation and prefer a clear roadmap. With plenty of Australian curriculum options available, you can ensure your child stays on track with their education while still managing your work and home life. ### **Unschooling (Child-Led Learning)** Unschooling is the least rigid among the three types of homeschooling. If you don’t want your child to sit at a desk eight hours a day, this approach is for you. It lets your kid’s interests guide their learning. It’s all about hands-on, real-world experiences. It’s a stress-free way to let education happen naturally without the pressure of strict schedules or formal assessments. ### **Hybrid Homeschooling** Hybrid homeschooling is perfect for busy mums balancing work and teaching. It combines the flexibility of home learning with the social and educational perks of group settings. Kids split their time between home education and attending co-ops or learning centres, so they get peer interaction and access to educators. ## **Home School Legal Requirements in QLD, NSW, and VIC** Homeschooling laws and regulations vary on where you live. Each state and territory has its own requirements. For instance: - New South Wales requires registration with the NSW Education Standards Authority (NESA) and regular reporting. (*Source*: *[Office of the Board Studies New South Wales](https://www.educationstandards.nsw.edu.au/wps/wcm/connect/e57f6349-fc99-42e5-96f3-1017626d9f74/home-edu-info-pack-13.pdf?MOD=AJPERES)*) - Victoria mandates registration with the Victorian Registration and Qualifications Authority (VRQA) and conducts reviews at any time if deemed necessary. (*Source: [Education.vic.gov.au](https://www2.education.vic.gov.au/pal/minimum-standards/print-all)*) - Queensland offers both registration and home education options through the Department of Education. Parents must apply for registration, which includes submitting an educational plan that meets state standards. (*Source: [vrqa.vic.gov.au](https://www2.vrqa.vic.gov.au/about-victorian-registration-and-qualifications-authority)*) Check your local guidelines to ensure compliance. Resources like Home Education Australia (HEA) and state education department websites provide up-to-date information and support. ![Homeschooling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/1000018356-1066x800.jpg "1000018356 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Benefits of homeschooling: Why should you homeschool your child** Many families choose to homeschool because traditional schools may not meet their kid’s needs. It can be due to special learning needs or a desire for a personalised approach. Other benefits include: - **Flexibility**: You can create individualised learning plans or use resources that align with your values. Plus, schedules are totally adjustable, so you can work around routines and unexpected events. - **Enhanced family bonding:** The time spent learning side-by-side helps build stronger relationships and creates memories you’ll cherish. - **One-on-One Attention:** Your child gets your undivided attention. You can move at their pace. It’s also great for tackling any tricky areas without the pressure of a classroom. - **Safe Learning Environment:** Say goodbye to worries about bullying or other school pressures. Your child learns in a space where they feel comfortable and supported so they can focus on growing and thriving without distractions. ## **Homeschooling vs. Distance Education** Homeschooling and distance education are often confused. While both offer learning at home, distance education follows the Australian curriculum and is supervised by a registered school. Homeschooling, on the other hand, allows you to design your kid’s learning plan. Consider your child’s education needs before choosing between these two options. ## **How to start homeschooling** ### **Step 1: Assess your readiness** Before jumping into homeschooling, assess if it’s the right fit for you and your kids. If you’re not sure, ask yourself these questions: Do you have the time and patience to teach? Are you ready to invest in resources and materials? It can be rewarding, but it’s also a big commitment. Think about your daily schedule, your little one’s learning needs, and how you’ll manage everything else on your plate. ### **Step 2: Understand legal obligations** Homeschooling in Australia means you’ll need to tick a few legal boxes. You’ll need to register as a homeschooler and meet specific requirements, like submitting learning plans or attending reviews. It might sound overwhelming at first, but there’s always a way. Check your local education department’s website for the exact steps. ### **Step 3: Choose a homeschooling approach** There are many different types of teaching methods that you can use. Find what suits your kid’s personality and your teaching style. Maybe you love the hands-on, nature-based vibe of Waldorf education, or perhaps a STEM-focused curriculum aligns with your kiddo’s interests. Always consider what your kids like as they learn best that way. Other popular approaches include Montessori, Classical education, or even unschooling. Don’t feel pressured to stick to one, you can mix and match to create your own approach. ### **Step 4: Select homeschool curriculum and resources** Once you’ve chosen your approach, it’s time to select your curriculum. You can purchase ready-made programs, tweak existing ones, or even create your own. Look for materials that align with your goals and your kid’s learning pace. Explore online resources, free printables, and community support groups. They’re lifesavers when you’re just starting. Libraries, educational apps, and second-hand bookshops can also help you stay within budget. ![homeschooling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/7692876b-9105-4934-be50-ad5261a7b326-1066x800.jpg "7692876b-9105-4934-be50-ad5261a7b326 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **FAQs About Homeschooling in Australia** ### **1. How do I Register for Homeschooling?** Each State has different requirements. Homeschool families around Australia follow these conditions upon registration. #### New South Wales (NSW) 1. **Enrol with Euka:** Kick things off by enrolling with Euka. 2. **Complete the Application:** Fill out the initial application form—you can submit it alone or with other documents. 3. **Prepare Your Paperwork:** You’ll need a Scope and Sequence (your full-year learning course), your kid’s birth certificate, and an individualised plan for your child. 4. **Submit to NESA:** Send everything to the NSW Education Standards Authority via email. 5. **Wait for Approval:** Once approved, you’ll get a registration certificate. #### Victoria 1. **Download the Form:** Head to the VRQA website to grab the application form. 2. **Attach Documentation:** You’ll need your kid’s birth certificate, a learning plan 3. **Send It Off:** Submit the completed form and documents to the VRQA. 4. **Wait It Out:** The approval process can take up to 28 days. #### Australian Capital Territory (ACT) 1. **Request the Form:** Contact the Home Education team to get the registration form. 2. **Enrol with Euka:** Just like in NSW, Euka can help with learning plans. 3. **Submit Your Application:** Include your kid’s birth certificate, Proof of ACT residency, and a “Statement of Intent” (your educational plan, due within three months of applying). #### Queensland 1. **Complete the Form:** Fill out the online or paper application provided by the Department of Education. 2. **Gather Documents:** You’ll need your kid’s birth certificate and evidence you’re their parent or guardian. 3. **Sign the Declaration:** Double-check everything and sign to confirm it’s correct. 4. **Send It In:** Submit your application to the Home Education Unit. #### General Homeschooling Registration Requirements Across States No matter where you’re registering, all States require: 1. A learning plan covering subjects and materials. 2. Proof of residency and ID for you and your child. 3. To be the kid’s parent or guardian—registration is your job, not theirs. ### **2. Can I homeschool my child if I work full-time?** Yes, but it may mean hiring a tutor or creating a flexible schedule. ### **3. Is homeschooling recognised for ATAR?** Yes, with proper planning and registration. ![homeschooling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Db6bed0b-c2d8-455a-84f4-ef109a2d3d7e-1066x800.jpg "Db6bed0b-c2d8-455a-84f4-ef109a2d3d7e - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Tips and Tricks for Successful Homeschooling** Starting as a homeschool parent can feel overwhelming, but these tips and tricks will help: ### **Find Homeschooling Groups and Support in Your Area** Homeschooling groups offer social opportunities for kids and a chance for parents to share tips. They will help you figure out how and where to begin. Try searching for fellow homeschoolers or HEA groups in your area. The homeschool community can provide guidance and resources to help your child thrive. ### **Create a Dedicated Learning Space** Their dedicated learning spot doesn’t need to be fancy. A quiet, organised corner with minimal distractions does the trick. Having a set space helps your child focus and separates learning time from playtime. Bonus points if you can make it inspiring with posters, charts, or their favourite books! ### **Set a Routine** A good routine doesn’t have to be rigid. Find what works for your family. Start the day with a general plan, but don’t stress if things go off track—life happens. The beauty of homeschooling is that you can adjust as needed. ### **Use Technology Wisely** Explore educational apps, online classes, or even virtual tours of museums around the world. You can find resources for everything from maths to art to coding. Just remember to set some boundaries. Learning can easily turn into gaming if you’re not keeping an eye on screen time! ### **Track Progress** Portfolios, simple tests, or even photos of projects can show how far they’ve come. Jot down notes on their achievements or create a folder for worksheets and artwork. Regular check-ins help you see what’s working, what’s not, and what needs adjusting. Plus, having records is super helpful for any official requirements. ## **Challenges of Homeschooling** Homeschooling parents often find that the decision to move from traditional school is a rewarding one. But it also comes with challenges. ### **Time Commitment** Homeschooling takes a good chunk of your time, no doubt about it. You’ll need to be hands-on with teaching and planning lessons. For busy single mums, this can feel like a juggling act. But finding a routine that works for your family (and giving yourself grace on the tough days) makes it more manageable. ### **Socialisation** One of the top questions homeschoolers hear is, “What about friends?” While homeschooling doesn’t come with built-in peer interaction, there are loads of ways to keep your child social. Your child can make new friends and develop social skills by signing up for sports, dance, or art classes. Playdates, community events, and even online groups can help, too. It just takes a little extra planning to ensure they’re getting plenty of social time. ### **Financial impact** Homeschooling can put a dent in the budget. The costs when you buy a curriculum, supplies, and extracurricular activities can be high. You can make it work by finding free or low-cost resources, like library materials or second-hand books. You can also explore work-from-home options or flexible jobs to help balance finances. ***Further reading: [Homeschool payments and benefits for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/homeschool-payments/)*** ## **Final Thoughts (Should you choose to homeschool your kids)** Homeschooling isn’t just an alternative to traditional classrooms but a personalised path to your kid’s education. Homeschooled kids are just as experienced and educated as those enrolled in local schools. Remember, you’ve made the decision to homeschool because you know what’s best for your child. With a little planning and a lot of heart, this educational adventure can be life-changing. Homeschooling parents say it’s best to keep education flexible and fun. So, grab that pencil, get creative with your learning areas, and enjoy the ride! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/homeschooling-in-australia-2025-is-it-right-for-you/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/homeschooling-in-australia-2025-is-it-right-for-you/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Building a Child’s Bedroom That Stands the Test of Time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/building-a-childs-bedroom-that-stands-the-test-of-time/) **Published:** December 20, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Your little (or not so little!) one’s bedroom is more than just a place to sleep – it’s a personal retreat, a library, an art studio, perhaps even a mini theatre. It’s only natural that your child’s room should evolve as they do, reflecting their evolving interests, needs, and level of autonomy. When well-thought-out and properly designed, your child’s bedroom can be a combination of practical and fun, growing up right alongside them. ## Start with a Flexible Layout Before bringing in furniture or décor, consider the room’s layout. Children change so quickly, and what works for a preschooler might not suit an angsty tween. Try to leave some open floor space that can adapt to different uses. Maybe one day, your child will want room for a craft table; another day, they might need floor space for building elaborate structures with blocks. By keeping the centre of the room flexible, you avoid boxing yourself into a setup that’s too rigid. ## Think Long-Term, Not Just ‘Cute’ The temptation to decorate with your child’s current obsession—whether it’s dinosaurs, astronauts, or mermaids—can be strong. While a few themed accents can create a sense of joy, consider opting for a neutral backdrop. Walls painted in soft tones, simple flooring, and versatile storage solutions allow you to swap out décor elements easily as your kiddo’s interests change. Posters, removable wall decals, and colourful bedding can bring in personality without requiring a full-scale redesign every time your child’s favourite character changes. ![child’s bedroom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Ad_4nxeh3cmd1jwzy23jfhf2kjnb60tn-argtfjl17ibemo2wxyn4yelhb-9kujncdygil_y8q65pw9ste4x4u9vscpazirzkvi4lax5pdz_h1tciagh5toqog_88ksvbjtf2genbvheyw.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Focus on Quality Where It Counts Storage units, desks, and seating are items you’ll want to choose carefully, as these can last for years. Sturdy shelves that can hold heavy books or collections of treasures will outlast flimsy options, saving money over time and reducing waste. Many parents also invest in well-made sleeping solutions—there are a variety of [beds for kids](https://boori.com.au/collections/kids-bed) that can adapt as they grow, finding a balance between comfort, style, and functionality. While you don’t need to overspend, picking quality pieces in key areas often pays off in the long run. ## Make Storage Work for You Clutter control is a major aspect of maintaining a peaceful environment, particularly in a child’s room. When your little one knows where to find their crayons or how to put away their toys, it instills a sense of independence and responsibility. Try storage at different heights: low shelves and baskets for younger kids so they can easily reach their own books or dolls, and higher shelves for items best kept out of smaller hands. Labelled bins or picture labels for pre-readers can make tidying up feel like a natural part of playtime rather than a chore! ## Encourage Reading and Imagination Even if your child isn’t a bookworm today, providing a cosy reading nook can gently encourage them to pick up a [healthy reading habit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/childrens-books-divorce-separation/). A soft rug, a floor cushion, and a small bookshelf can turn a plain corner into a quiet haven for flipping through pages. As children grow, this nook might become a spot for listening to music, journaling, or simply daydreaming. ## Light It Up Thoughtfully Lighting can make or break a room’s atmosphere. Natural light is ideal, so keep windows uncovered or use light curtains to let the sunshine in. For evenings, consider layering light sources: a gentle overhead fixture for general use, a reading lamp on a bedside table, and maybe a string of soft twinkling lights for a comforting glow at night. Each source of light should serve a purpose, from helping with homework to making late-night trips to the bathroom less daunting. ## Foster Independence with Accessible Design When furniture is scaled to a child’s size or arranged with their reach in mind, it boosts their confidence! Low hooks for hanging coats, a small chair they can move themselves, or a height-adjustable desk can empower them to take charge of their own environment. As they get older, you might raise the desk or rearrange furniture, but the initial decision to prioritise accessibility can plant the seeds of independence early in life. ## Don’t Forget the Personal Touches This is your child’s room, after all! Involve them in decision-making where appropriate. Be sure to take their input into consideration – ask them which colours they like best, or if they have a preference for patterns on their bedding. Maybe they’d enjoy choosing a new poster every year on their birthday or displaying their own artwork in a frame that you update periodically. When children feel like they’ve contributed to designing their space, they’re often more respectful and appreciative of it. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Ad_4nxevjs0wfvxdeyet-hu7gdglemlor2om2wlow4y0xyk2pptjetuqrfrykb3hhpzkuuwphkawfe_yg4lhtjtezuaygm0_ejfygtpr1h8hymw9j9fijozrsv47odr5xwtzynudmjzf.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Make Room for Movement and Change Children grow taller, their hobbies evolve, and their belongings multiply. Try to avoid overly permanent solutions. For instance, instead of installing fixed shelves that exactly fit their current collection of figurines, choose adjustable shelving that can accommodate larger items in the future. Instead of wallpapering the entire room with a complicated mural, consider one accent wall or use removable decals that can change out as quickly as your child’s tastes. ## Think Comfort, Not Just Aesthetics Inviting and safe are necessary feelings your little one’s room should evoke. Soft rugs that are gentle underfoot, cushions scattered around a play area, or a comfortable chair by the window can encourage relaxation. Consider textures: a chunky knit blanket to snuggle under, smooth surfaces that are easy to clean, and some plush elements that absorb sound, making the room feel calmer. Comfort goes beyond seating: it’s about creating a vibe where your child feels at ease expressing themselves, learning, and resting. ## Bring Nature Inside A small plant on the windowsill or a terrarium of easy-to-care-for greenery can bring life into the room. Nature has a soothing effect, and encouraging your child to water a little plant gives them a simple responsibility and a connection to the living world. Even if plants aren’t an option, natural materials like wooden furniture or baskets made from organic fibres can add warmth and authenticity to the room’s ambience. ## Remain Open to Evolving Needs The best-designed child’s room is one that can evolve. Today’s shelves might hold picture books; tomorrow, they might display school trophies or a budding art collection. That cosy rug could become a stage for dance performances or a spot for meditating as your child becomes a teen. By choosing flexible furniture arrangements, using décor that’s easy to swap out, and resisting the urge to lock into one fixed style, you ensure the space can adapt gracefully to whatever the future brings. ## Enjoy the Process It’s easy to get hung up on “getting it right,” but remember that creating a child’s bedroom is a journey, not a destination. As they grow and their personalities shine through, their room will transform—maybe slowly, maybe dramatically. Each change is a chance to learn more about who your child is becoming and how their environment can support them. In the end, a well-designed child’s bedroom isn’t just about looking good. It’s about providing comfort, inspiring imagination, supporting learning, and making everyday life a bit better. Keep these principles in mind, and you’ll create a space that truly resonates with your child, now and in the years to come. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/building-a-childs-bedroom-that-stands-the-test-of-time/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/building-a-childs-bedroom-that-stands-the-test-of-time/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Unusual Self-Care Ideas For A Killer Mind & Mental Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Being a single mum is exactly a 24/7 job where the boss is a tiny human who never stops demanding snacks and attention. Between juggling kids, work, and trying to remember when you last had a moment to yourself, self-care can feel as mythical as a unicorn. And if one more person suggests more self-care ideas as a mental health tool, I might just lose it and start throwing punches. Social media and corporations would have you believe that regular self-care activities are all about blowing your budget on spa days, luxury skincare and manicures, and endless “treat yourself” splurges. They’ve turned self-care routines into a cash grab, pushing the idea that you need to spend big to feel good. It’s all about overpriced products and picture-perfect moments. Well, guess what? You’re a single mum! Here’s the thing: it’s not all about bubble baths and scented candles. True self-care doesn’t have to be another task you force onto your already overflowing to-do list. And you don’t have to deal with the spending requirements either. In fact, it can be as simple as finding creative ways to give yourself a well-deserved break. Here are five simple yet unconventional ways to practice self-care you can incorporate into your everyday life. Because, let’s face it, you’ve got enough of that already! ## Why Single Mums Need Self-Care For single mums like you and me, self-care means prioritising personal well-being amidst the demands of daily life. Exploring [different types of self-care activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas/) can significantly enhance your physical and emotional health. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s essential to recognise that self-care helps to alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, making you feel more balanced and centred. Taking a moment for yourself not only boosts your mood but also sets a positive tone for the rest of the day. Implementing self-care ideas into a busy schedule can seem daunting, but it’s vital to learn how to practice it effectively. Whether it’s through joining communities to promote health or seeking guidance from a therapist or psychologist, these practices can lead to improved health outcomes. Ultimately, making self-care a priority allows us to become the best version of ourselves, helping us prevent disease and stay physically and mentally healthy. ## 5 Non-Conventional Self-Care Tips to Save Your Sanity ## Take a One-Day Leave from Parenting Parenting is relentless, and the idea of taking a break might seem impossible. But imagine giving yourself permission to take just one day off from the pressures of being a supermum. This means doing the absolute minimum for a day. No cooking elaborate meals from scratch. No enforcing strict schedules. And no unnecessary chores. Instead, let the kids fend for themselves a little. Serve easy meals like sandwiches or cereal, and allow them to watch more TV than usual. This kind of self-care is about letting go of perfection and embracing simplicity. A one-day leave from parenting can be a game-changer. It allows you to recharge your batteries and come back to your role as a mum with renewed energy and patience. The world won’t fall apart if you take a day to focus on your own health and well-being. And by the end of the day, you will feel like you’ve been on a mini-holiday — without even leaving the house. And if you’re anxious about nutrition, remind yourself your parenting break is just one for day. They can go back to whole grains and vegetables tomorrow. ## Skip the School Event (Gasp!) The PTA puts a lot of pressure on mums to be present at every school event, from assemblies to fundraisers to parent-teacher nights. While it’s great to be involved in your child’s education, it’s also important to recognise that attending every single event is draining you. Sometimes, the best self-care is knowing when to say, “No, not this time.” If attending that school assembly or bake sale is going to drain you, skip it. Skipping the occasional school function doesn’t make you a bad mum; it makes you a healthier [mum who understands her boundaries.](https://singlemamaway.com/how-to-create-healthy-life-boundaries-for-single-mothers/) I once skipped a school fest because I simply couldn’t face another evening of small talk and awkward mingling. Instead, I stayed home, read a book, took more time for meditation, and slept for eight hours. The next day, I was a better mum for it — energised, calm, and not even a smidge guilty. And it didn’t make the teachers hate my kids! By selectively choosing which events to attend, you free up time for yourself. Taking the time to relax, do something you enjoy, or simply rest. It’s about finding a balance between supporting your child and taking care of your own needs. After all, your mental health is just as important as your little one’s gold star. ![self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/in-article-image-1.png "in article image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Embrace the Not-So-Clean House We’ve all been there: staring at the laundry pile that’s beginning to resemble Mount Kosciuszko or the dishes that seem to multiply overnight like gremlins. The pressure to maintain a spotless home is real, especially when you’re the only adult in the household. But here’s a little secret: your house doesn’t need to be perfectly clean to be a happy home. Embracing a bit of mess can actually be a form of self-care. It means you’re prioritising your well-being over the unrealistic expectation of being Australia’s Martha Stewart. Instead of spending time scrubbing floors or folding laundry, give yourself permission to let things slide now and then. A messy house is a sign of a lived-in, loved-in home. Plus, those chores will still be there tomorrow, but your need for rest and relaxation can’t always wait. Imperfect is healthier for your mental and physical health. ## Have a Super Secret Chocolate Stash Sometimes, self-care is about the little indulgences that bring you joy. Yes, a massage is perfect, but having a secret stash of chocolate hidden away is also one such indulgence. It’s a simple pleasure that you can turn to when you need a moment of peace in the midst of chaos. The best part? It’s just for you. My secret stash is hidden in the back of the pantry, behind the tinned chickpeas (the kids will never look there). On particularly stressful days, I sneak a piece of chocolate and just savour it. It’s like a tiny, delicious act of rebellion. It’s my secret weapon for staying calm. Whether you hide it in the pantry, your bedside drawer, or even the freezer, having that little bit of chocolate reserved just for you is a small act of self-love. It’s a way to carve out a moment of sweetness in your day, no matter what else is going on. And let’s be honest, sometimes a square of chocolate is exactly what you need to get through the day. Doctors say they can help prevent heart disease, right? And I heard they improve your mood. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/In-article-images-64.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Choose Clothing That Doesn’t Need Ironing Life as a single mum is already like running a marathon in flip-flops. The last thing you need is to waste precious minutes ironing clothes. Let’s be real: ironing is the bane of existence for anyone who’s ever tried to keep a household running smoothly. It’s one of those tasks that just doesn’t deserve your time. I mean, why does each piece of clothing take 10 minutes to straighten out? That’s why choosing clothes that don’t require ironing is the ultimate self-care hack. It’s like giving yourself permission to skip one more annoying chore. Look for wrinkle-resistant fabrics or outfits that still look fab, even with a few creases. Seriously, who’s got time to iron when you’re busy being the CEO of your household? I used to iron everything — shirts, pants, even the kids’ school uniforms. But after one too many mornings spent frantically pressing wrinkles, I made a life-changing decision: I was done. Now, I embrace the beauty of wrinkle-resistant clothes. And guess what? No one has noticed the difference except for me. I now have those precious extra minutes to actually enjoy my morning coffee. It’s a small change that makes a huge difference, reducing stress and giving you one less thing to worry about. Plus, you’ll still look pulled together without ever having to touch an iron again. (This is your sign to start wearing more linen, which everyone already expects to wrinkle.) ## Final Thoughts: Non-Conventional Self-Care Tips for Your Mental Health The process of self-care doesn’t have to be complicated, expensive, or time-consuming. Instead, it’s important to make small, unconventional choices that prioritise your overall wellness. Taking a one-day leave from parenting, skipping a school event, embracing a not-so-clean house, indulging in a secret chocolate stash, and choosing clothes that don’t need ironing are ways to give yourself a break. These self-care practices may not be traditional, but they’re effective in helping you recharge and maintain a good mental state. Hey, you’re doing an incredible job, and taking care of yourself is a vital part of being the best mum you can be. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [Back to school survival guide for the single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/ultimate-back-school-guide-busy-single-mums/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** The start of the school year can feel like a whirlwind, especially for single mums juggling meal preps, daycare drop-offs, and nine-to-five jobs. I get it—it’s a lot. That’s why this guide is here: to help you stay on top of it all and feel like the amazing, capable mum you are. These practical tips are designed to ease the stress and keep things running smoothly. Let’s tackle this season together and go back to school in style! ## **Back to School** **Survival Guide** ## **1. Create a back-to-school schedule** After years of trial and error, I’ve found that a school routine is one of the best ways to keep things in order (and my sanity intact) every time the kids start school again. Take the time to draft a simple morning schedule, including wake-up times, breakfast, and getting out the door. Don’t forget to set a clear bedtime too. It’s your secret weapon against the chaos of the days of summer fading into the school year. A consistent routine creates structure. It ensures that everyone knows what to expect and helps avoid hectic mornings and tantrums if you have younger kids. ## **2. Plan ahead** Of course, establishing a routine goes hand in hand with planning ahead. Start with a monthly calendar and mark important dates like parent-teacher meetings, school holidays, and project deadlines. If possible, share a calendar with your partner, caregiver, co-parent, or employer to keep everyone in the loop. Doing this also helps point out where you might need help. Could a neighbour swap carpools, or might your employer offer flexible hours? Don’t hesitate to ask. It’s a valuable way to make the entire year manageable. ## **3. Create a school supplies list** The school supplies shopping rush doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Keep a list handy, and shop online at [AliExpress](https://www.aliexpress.com/ "AliExpress") or a local store to save time. Pro tip: Pick up extra pencils and pens now. You’ll thank yourself later when your kids’ stock inevitably runs out mid-year. Organise supplies ahead of time by labelling items and setting up a dedicated spot for doing assignments and projects. I get my labels and personalised bags from [Bright Star Kids](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/ "Bright Star Kids"). A little preparation goes a long way to keep your kids focused during the school year. ## **4. Create a weekly meal plan** As a busy mum, meal prep is essential for staying on top of everything. Fill your meal plan with simple but healthy breakfast ideas, packed lunches, and easy dinners. Don’t forget snacks! Prep ahead of time on weekends to save valuable time during the week. You can also involve the kids and have fun with them while experimenting with recipes. You can ask them to help pack their lunches or try a new dinner recipe. ## **5. Manage mornings with grace** Mornings can feel like a mad dash to the finish line, but I’ve got a few tricks that can make it manageable. Lay out school clothes and pack lunches the night before to save time. Even a few minutes are precious during the morning rush. Use a clock or timer to keep the kids on track without nagging. There will be silly moments when things don’t go to plan, like burnt toast or forgotten homework. When obstacles like this happen, remind yourself it’s okay, we’re all human, and tomorrow is another day. ![back to school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/E418c32d-3fa5-410f-8b40-59d8d7676ca5-1066x800.jpg "E418c32d-3fa5-410f-8b40-59d8d7676ca5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Back to school tips cont…** ## **6. Organise after-school activities** Multi-tasking between projects, carpools, and driving to practices and games each day can be stressful. Keep a weekly schedule to track activities and communicate with other adults in charge, like coaches or babysitters, to share the responsibility. If your son or daughter’s coach or teacher has meeting times, don’t forget to talk with—and listen to, them about your little ones’ progress. It’s an effective way to stay connected and feel involved in their school activities. ## **7. Prioritise self-care** Single mums often forget to look after themselves during the back-to-school season, but taking care of yourself is critical. Take small steps, like enjoying a cup of tea after the kids go to bed or scheduling a monthly date with friends. Even a short walk or reading a book can help you recharge. You don’t have to go overboard. Just find little ways to tell yourself that you, mummy, are more than just the boss of your children’s lives. ## **8. Stay ahead with a homework routine** Assignments and home projects are one of the school year’s biggest challenges, but dealing with them doesn’t have to be stressful. Set up a quiet space where your kids can focus and stock it with supplies like pencils, pens, and paper. Create a consistent time for assignments each day, and don’t forget to check in with them. Communicating about their progress helps them feel supported, and you can catch any issues early on. ## **9. How to handle the transition back to school** The transition back to school is a major change for both you and the kiddos. I remember when my son started first grade, I was a nervous wreck trying to keep up with all the forms, meal preps, and schedules. But then, we celebrated a small win when he came home beaming after making his first friend. It reminded me that these little victories matter. So, take the time to organise your thoughts and expectations. Celebrate small wins, like surviving the first week or nailing a tricky drop-off. These moments prove that you can raise happy, resilient kids! ![back to school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/874c1dc7-980f-44ab-b06f-787dd2fcf50a-1066x800.jpg "874c1dc7-980f-44ab-b06f-787dd2fcf50a - Beanstalk Mums") ***Further reading: [How to get your kids to school on time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/getting-your-kids-to-school-on-time/ "How to get your kids to school on time")*** ## **10. Have fun (whenever you can)** Sending the kids to school can be a whirlwind, but don’t forget to squeeze in some fun! Add a little spontaneity by planning bonding moments or a weekend outing with your kiddo(s). It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It can be a picnic at the park, a movie night at home, or a trip to grab ice cream. These moments are great for creating memories and shaking off the stress from your busy schedule. ## **Wrapping it all up for Back to School** The back-to-school season is a time of change, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By establishing a routine, planning ahead, and prioritising self-care, you can manage the school year like a piece of cake. I’ve been through the rollercoaster of juggling kids’ schedules and my own responsibilities. One thing I’ve learned is to take it one day at a time. Sure, there are days when everything feels like it’s falling apart, but then there are those moments when your kids come home with stories that make you laugh or a big hug that makes it all worth it. Above all, take care of yourself and give yourself credit. You are doing an amazing job juggling multiple roles as a mum, caregiver, and all-around superhero. Have fun with your kiddos every now and then. You deserve it, and so do they. ![Back to school | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Back-to-school-guide.png "Back to school guide - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/ultimate-back-school-guide-busy-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/back-to-school/ultimate-back-school-guide-busy-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Back To School **Tags:** school mornings, packed lunches, labelling --- ### [Housing crisis in Australia: everything you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/housing-crisis-in-australia-everything-you-need-to-know/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** As if being a single mum isn’t tough enough, life throws in the COVID-19 pandemic that led to rising inflation and a housing crisis. I’m lucky to own a home, but I see friends in this housing market struggling to make ends meet, whether they’re renting or managing a mortgage. It’s been nothing short of a rollercoaster for them, with each week bringing fresh challenges. If you’re one of the mums struggling with housing affordability, I genuinely hope there’s a silver lining in sight. Meanwhile, let’s unpack the housing problems right now so you can get a sense of the forces at play. ***Further reading: [How can a single parent buy a home?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/)*** ## Understanding the Australian Housing Crisis 2024: What’s Going On? Housing is a basic human right. A housing crisis occurs when house prices soar so high that there are fewer dwellings for many people. Right now in Australia, we’re seeing record-high prices in the rental market, with the [renters having to pay an average weekly rent of $627](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-05-06/median-rent-record-high-corelogic/103809092)! Every day, the dream of home ownership slips a little further out of reach for many of us. Data from the Australian Bureau of Statistics shows new housing costs have surged by about 30 per cent from 2021 to 2023. And in zones like Sydney or Melbourne, that number probably feels even steeper. [GIVIT](https://www.givit.org.au), a national non-profit, has highlighted some challenges facing single mums due to Australia’s housing crisis: - **Long-Term Stays in Crisis Accommodation**: Many families, particularly single mums, find themselves stuck in shelters that were meant for short stays. - **Surge in Essential Item Requests**: With longer stays in temporary housing, there’s been a 40 per cent increase in requests for basic items like grocery vouchers, school supplies, and toiletries. - **Support for Domestic Violence Survivors**: For mums and kids escaping violence, finding essentials can be tough when arriving in shelters with just the basics. - **Impact on Children’s Wellbeing**: The instability of shelter life often impacts children’s mental health and school life. ## What are the Causes of the Housing Crisis in Australia? What’s causing all this? Well, it’s a mishmash of things: a shortage in supply of affordable housing, increased demand, and low interest rates for a time that spurred investors to buy up properties, driving prices even higher. In addition, there’s negative gearing and Capital Gains Tax discounts, leading landlords to hike the cost for renters. The bottom line? More Aussies, especially single parents, are struggling to keep a roof over their heads. It’s easy to feel deflated by all of this (plus that Albanese fiasco), but don’t lose hope. Yes, we’re calling for more action from the Australian government. In the meantime, there are ways to make things work. Together, we’ll get through this. ## What the Australian Government is Doing Speaking of government action, the Australian Housing and Urban Research Institute (AHURI) is looking into what’s holding up housing development. They call it “construction constraints,” which means delays in building because of things like supply chain problems and regulations that slow things down. The goal? To increase the number of homes available faster and, hopefully, more affordable.​ Australia would also explore something called “circular economy housing.” Te government will build eco-friendly and low-cost homes over time. Imagine homes being built with materials you can recycle or reuse instead of just throwing out. This would be better for the environment and might help with costs too. Housing Minister Julie Collins is on board with the delivery of new social and affordable homes. She’s pushing for more partnerships between the government and private companies to make new affordable housing sooner. It’s a small ray of hope that single mums might have more affordable, stable options in the future. It may take time, but at least people are finally working on it. We’re hoping for more government action, like to fast-track of the Housing Australia Future Fund, to increase the supply of public housing, and government intervention in prices and rents. So, we welcome this initiative to build enough new social housing to increase the total stock. This will benefit many Australians in low- and moderate-income families. ![Housing crisis Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-image-36.png "In article image 36 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Assessing Your Situation: Knowing Your Housing Needs and Budget Let’s get practical, mum-to-mum. Start with the basics: What do you need in a home? Are you looking to stay close to your child’s school, near family support, or close to public transport if you don’t have a car? Jot these essentials down … they’ll help you stay focused when affordable housing feels like a needle-in-a-haystack mission. Next up, money. I know, not the most exciting topic to discuss, but a necessary one. For single-income households, it’s crucial to set a realistic budget. Aim to keep housing costs (rent or mortgage) at about 30 per cent of your income. It might sound ambitious in this economy, but it’s a good target. If you’re already paying above that, there are still some creative ways to make things work. And if you’re really in a bind, consider reaching out to [GIVIT](https://www.givit.org.au). They help families access essential items and can sometimes assist with urgent needs that make your housing search a little less stressful. Every bit of support counts, especially if it means keeping your household afloat while you’re working toward something more stable. ## Where to Find Support Amidst the Housing Stress: Housing Programs and Resources in Australia Fortunately, the government has a few programs designed for single parents and low-income earners amidst the shortage in housing supply: - [**Commonwealth Rent Assistance**](https://www.dss.gov.au/housing-support/programmes-services/commonwealth-rent-assistance): This payment helps with rent if you’re on certain income support payments or receiving the Family Tax Benefit. It’s not huge, but every bit helps if you need to save for a deposit. - [**First Home Owner Grant (FHOG)**](https://www.firsthome.gov.au): If you’re considering buying, check out this one-off grant for first-home buyers. It varies by state, but it’s worth exploring. - [**National Housing and Homelessness Agreement (NHHA)**](https://www.dss.gov.au/housing-support-programs-services-homelessness/national-agreement-on-social-housing-and-homelessness): This isn’t a direct benefit but means extra state-level support is available for accessing affordable homes. States and territories have their own programs, so take a moment to check your state government’s website or reach out to your local council. And if this feels overwhelming, ask for help. Community organisations and nonprofits, like GIVIT, can offer housing support services and guidance on applying for these programs. ![Where to Find Support Amidst the Housing Stress: Housing Programs and Resources in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-image-39.png "In article image 39 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Practical Strategies for Finding Affordable Housing Here are some ideas if you’re looking in the private rental market: - **Negotiate with Landlords**: Yes, the market’s tight, but it doesn’t hurt to ask for a small rent reduction if you’re in a stable situation and plan to stay long-term. Many landlords appreciate having reliable tenants and might be open to discussion. - **Look in Nearby Suburbs**: If your ideal suburb is out of reach, try areas nearby. Often, you’ll find similar amenities like schools, parks, and public transport in more affordable spots. - **Consider House Sharing**: Not everyone’s cup of tea, especially if you have young kids, but some single mums have teamed up to rent larger homes together. It’s a way to create a supportive little community, share expenses, and lighten the load. GIVIT can also help here if you’re in a tight spot and need essentials to settle into a new place. They support families by providing items you might need to get set up, which can free up your budget for other things. ## Looking Into Temporary Housing Options and Emergency Support If you’re in need of immediate housing support, there are options available: - **Crisis Accommodation**: Organisations like the Salvation Army and St Vincent de Paul offer emergency shelters for those in urgent need. - **Social Housing:** If you and your kids have very low household incomes and have needed homelessness services, you may want to check out the government’s affordable housing options, either through public housing or community housing. The waitlists can be long for social housing stock, but it’s worth applying if you’re struggling long-term. Public housing supports thousands of families across Australia every year. If you’re facing an emergency, remember that you’re not alone. Reach out to local councils, community centres, or nonprofits. They often have links to resources and can help you explore your options. ## Building a Support Network One of the best ways to navigate the challenge to afford housing is by building a support network. We all need a village, especially during hard times. Seek out single-parent groups on Facebook, join local support groups, or connect with the [Beanstalk Mums community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine). It’s incredible what we can achieve when we come together! If you’re ever in doubt, reach out to other Australians in similar situations. Just knowing someone else understands what you’re going through can be a huge comfort. ![Building a support network](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-image-38.png "In article image 38 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Final Thoughts: Facing the Housing Crisis as a Single Mum With rising rents, inflated property prices, and the relentless pressure to keep up with costs, finding stable and affordable housing can feel like an impossible task. Remember, be gentle with yourself. Lean on your community, use resources, and know that every step you take to provide for your family is an act of resilience. Whether you’re securing long-term housing, adjusting to temporary solutions, or finding a connection with support groups, every effort you make matters. Together, as a community of single mums, we can keep sharing tips, resources, and … most importantly, hope. The housing market may be unpredictable, but our ability to uplift each other remains steady. Stay strong, keep going, and know that brighter days are ahead. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/housing-crisis-in-australia-everything-you-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/housing-crisis-in-australia-everything-you-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [GIVIT: Support for vulnerable single mums in a critical time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/givit-support-for-vulnerable-single-mums-in-a-critical-time/) **Published:** December 15, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Between juggling kids, work, bills, and maybe a bit of our sanity, we single mums are no strangers to tough times. However, some challenges are just too heavy to bear alone, and in those moments, we need a little extra help. With the cost of living soaring and a housing crisis that’s affecting so many of us, that support is more crucial than ever. That’s where GIVIT steps in. GIVIT is like a lifebuoy for single mums. It’s not just a charity … it’s a connection, a bridge between those of us who need some help and the kindness of people who can give it. Many of my friends, strong and resilient single mums, have leaned on the organisation during difficult times. Through these, you can find not just practical support but also a reminder that they’re not alone. I’ve seen it make a real difference. Let me share with you what GIVIT is and how you can lift another mum’s wellbeing. ## What is GIVIT? GIVIT is a charity that does things a bit differently than many charities across Australia. Instead of simply gathering unsolicited donations and distributing them randomly, the not-for-profit takes a personal approach. They manage donations by connecting specific items to the people who need them most. If a mum needs a fridge, a bed, or a school uniform, the organisation connects her with a donor who can offer exactly that item. GIVIT can also connect them to councils, charities, and other groups in the local area to get them the items they need. It might sound simple, but it’s actually huge. It’s not hard to imagine being offered things that don’t meet the needs … or just can’t use. I’ve been there myself, wondering how I’ll pay for a school uniform only to be offered hand-me-down furniture. It cuts out the guesswork and lets you request what you truly need. There’s a quiet dignity in knowing you can ask for and receive help that actually eases your burdens. ![givit single mum support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-image-4.png "In article image 4 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Support for Single Mums and Single Parents GIVIT is all about helping families who are struggling. And as single mums, we know that every dollar counts. The network steps in to offer essential items like children’s clothing, household appliances, food, and even things like school supplies and toys. These aren’t “extras”. They’re the basics we need to keep our families safe and healthy and help people in need. A friend of mine lost her home to the 2022 New South Wales and Queensland floods and had to move into a small unit with her kids. Because of the disaster, she had little more than a few bags of clothes, but she was determined to start over. Through it, she was able to furnish her place … slowly but surely. She received a dining table and a couple of beds. Someone also donated a reliable washing machine that would allow the mother time to apply for work instead of washing clothes by hand. It might not seem like much to some people, but to her, it was everything. Being able to sit down to a meal with her kids or throw in a load of washing without worrying about where she’d find the money was a step towards rebuilding her life. Another friend whose home was devastated by a cyclone was able to get school uniforms and supplies for her kids through the network. The relief on her face when she told me about it was incredible. She could focus on her work without the constant worry of where she’d find the extra funds for basics. GIVIT didn’t just give her supplies… it gave her peace of mind. These forms of aid allow a single mother the time to devote to more important tasks. ## GIVIT’s Role in the Housing Crisis Right now, the housing crisis is hitting single mums hard. Rents are climbing, and securing stable housing has become a challenge for so many, especially the disadvantaged. Even when you do find a place, it can feel bare, empty, and impossible to afford the furniture or basics to make it a home. GIVIT has been invaluable here. They provide furniture, kitchen essentials, and household items. These make all the difference in turning an empty space into a real home. A close friend of mine was forced to relocate to Melbourne quickly after experiencing domestic violence. She moved into a new, very bare apartment with her kids, and they didn’t have much more than mattresses on the floor. Through the organisation, she received a couch, kitchen essentials, and beds for her kids. Suddenly, the new place felt a little more like a home. Instead of facing those days full of worry and uncertainty, she was able to focus on settling in, knowing she didn’t have to do it alone. It’s not just about material items. It’s about feeling human, feeling stable. When you’re moving through crisis after crisis, it’s easy to feel invisible. But GIVIT reminds single mums that they’re seen, that people care, and that a helping hand is out there. ![single mum support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-image-5.png "In article image 5 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How You Can Support GIVIT’s Mission The charity’s work is possible thanks to everyday people, Australians like us, who want to make a difference by [volunteering](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/volunteering/). Even if you’re stretched thin yourself, there are ways to give back if you want to help: 1. **Donate Items**: Take a look around your home. Maybe you have old baby clothes, a pair of unwanted work boots that could help someone, a microwave, or a set of plates you’re not using. Even an unused boxing bag you’re supposed to dispose of can aid a kid in coping and healing. These can make all the difference to another mum in need. 2. **Financial Support**: GIVIT also manages financial donations, which allows them to respond quickly when urgent needs arise. Even a small amount can add up and make a big impact on a family trying to get back on their feet. Small amounts can lead to millions of donations. 3. **Spread the Word**: Even if you don’t have unwanted items around the house, let others know about GIVIT. Sometimes, the hardest part is simply knowing where to turn. The more we talk about GIVIT, the more someone somewhere in Australia can find and access this support. If you’re looking at other ways to extend a helping hand, there are other forms of aid you can provide. Should you have some form of job to offer, you could help a father secure work to support his family as well. If you want to donate items, you can pledge your items through the virtual warehouse at [givit.org.au](https://www.givit.org.au) so someone can get exactly what they need. You can also find which items have been donated via the portal. ## Conclusion Being an Australian single mum, it’s okay to admit that sometimes we all need a little help. Australian charities like GIVIT provide a safety net for those of us who are balancing so much. In times like these, that kind of support can be life-changing. Whether you’re someone who needs support following large emergency events, including bushfires, floods and droughts, someone who can offer it, or just someone who believes in building a stronger community, GIVIT is a way to make a difference in the lives of the impoverished and marginalised. To the single mums reading this, remember that you’re not alone. There’s a community out here that cares, and sometimes, it starts with a little connection, a shared struggle, and a lifeline like GIVIT. Together, we can lift each other up and facilitate community recovery. Further reading on GIVIT’s work:*[ GIVIT Brings Hope to Families in Need Amid Housing Crisis](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/givit-brings-hope-to-families-in-housing-crisis/)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/givit-support-for-vulnerable-single-mums-in-a-critical-time/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/givit-support-for-vulnerable-single-mums-in-a-critical-time/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [9 Handy tips for mums who like to vape](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-mums-that-vape/) **Published:** May 25, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** For those of you who find vaping to be a part of your lifestyle, it’s essential to have the correct information at your fingertips. Whether you’re new to vaping or a seasoned e-cigarette user, understanding the nuances and tips can make your experience as safe as possible. This article is specially crafted for mothers who vape, providing valuable insights to ensure you make the most informed choices possible. Here are some tips for vaping safely, much like a [vape prescription](https://www.quitclinics.com/) to help you quit smoking through a tailored weaning schedule. We’ve compiled nine very handy tips tailored specifically for mums who enjoy vaping. ## 9 Tips for vaping mums ### 1. Keep your vapes out of reach Kids are curious creatures, and part of every mum’s job is to keep them away from anything that may pose a danger to them. That’s why the very first tip on our list is to keep your vaping supplies somewhere where children can’t get to them. This could be someplace they simply can’t reach, such as a shelf that’s too high for them to get to, but the best place is a locked storage container. If your purse happens to lock, then you might already have an ideal solution for where to keep your vapes. If it doesn’t, you might consider buying a lockable storage pouch and tossing it inside your bag to make sure everything is safely tucked away where only you can get to it. ### 2. Never leave e-juice lying around In an [absolutely tragic event that occurred in 2019](https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2019/jul/08/toddler-died-after-consuming-liquid-nicotine-while-mums-head-was-turned-coroner-says), a toddler in Melbourne ingested some of his mother’s liquid nicotine while her head was turned and died. The child’s mum washed the boy’s mouth out and called for an ambulance, but he sadly died just 11 days later while in the hospital. The coroner said that it was not a case of neglect as the child was well cared for, but rather a “momentary lapse of vigilance” on the part of the child’s mum. While not all mums who vape buy liquid nicotine to mix with vape juice, the point remains that vape juice, liquid nicotine, and any other vaping supplies that a child might ingest should never be left out – not even a second! When storing your e-liquid, make absolutely sure that it’s out of reach of any children and never leave any bottles or e-liquid mixing supplies unattended. ### 3. Talk to your kids about vaping Just because you vape does not mean that you want your kids to do the same. Talk to your kids about vaping, and make sure that you set clear expectations for them so that they know what is okay and what is not. If you’re using vaping as a way to quit smoking, make sure that they understand why this is a decision that you’ve made. Your goal in talking to them should, in part, be to educate them, not to chastise them. Honesty can go a long way when you’re talking to your kids, but be sure to remember that it’s okay to put your foot down! Before you start talking to your children about vaping, make sure that you know all of the facts. The best way to do this is to educate yourself in advance. This way, you will be prepared to answer any questions that they might have. ### 4. Avoid vaping where kids are present There’s no question about it; kids are impressionable. What you say and do as a mum can have a big impact on the little ones. This is why you should be careful about where you decide to use your vape. If you can avoid vaping where they can see you, it’s probably for the best. If nothing else, make sure you never expose them to secondhand vapour. This means not vaping in the car while you have children with you and not vaping inside your home. ### 5. Keep your doctor involved If you’re vaping e-liquid that contains nicotine, you are required to have a prescription and the only way you can get a prescription is from a licensed Australian doctor. Make sure that you and your GP are both on the same page and that you have outlined clear goals such as quitting smoking or reducing the number of cigarettes that you smoke. ### 6. Consider using less appealing vape juice flavours In an ideal world, no kid will ever see you using your vape. Unfortunately, reality entails a world in which it’s not unlikely that your young ones will see you vaping at some point. If nothing else, there’s the chance that you’ll be spotted refilling your vape with e-liquid or that one of your bottles of vape juice might be spotted at some point. Be this the case, you might want to reconsider the candy-flavoured vape juice and instead opt for something a little less appealing to today’s youths, such as menthol. If that doesn’t work, you might just want to black out the labels of your bottles so that nobody, kids included, can tell what it is you’re vaping without at least smelling it first. ### 7. Only use child-proof bottles for storing e-juice With the world of vaping products a large one, it’s not always a guarantee when buying a bottle of e-liquid that the bottle will be designed with the safety of children in mind. If the e-liquid you’re buying comes from the UK, you might be all set because regulations in the UK and across the EU require e-liquid packaging to be child-proof and tamper-proof. As a result, [TPD compliant vape juice](https://www.vaperempire.com.au/e-liquid-store.html) is sold in bottles with childproof caps. Aussie mums with a valid vaping prescription can order EU e-liquids from overseas suppliers that are TPD compliant. If your e-liquid is not in a childproof bottle, you should buy an empty one designed for storing e-liquid and transfer your vape liquid to it for safe storage. Even with this added safeguard, be sure to store your e-liquid in a location where children cannot access it. Empty childproof e-liquid bottles can be purchased from online retailers. ### 8. Know the signs that your child is vaping For mums who vape and mums who don’t, there’s a chance that your kid might take up vaping at some point in their life. This is why all mums should know the signs that their teen is vaping. Here are some of the signs that your kid might be vaping: - Finding unusual items that might be for vaping, such as lithium-ion batteries, chargers, pods, coils, and atomisers. Be sure you know what they look like so that you can quickly identify them if you happen to spot them. - Behavioural changes such as mood swings or agitation might be a sign that your kid is vaping, as medical studies have shown that vaping nicotine may negatively impact the prefrontal cortex in the brain of youths, which is largely responsible for governing emotional control. - Shortness of breath could be another sign that your kid has taken up vaping. If you are noticing a reduction in your child’s ability to breathe as well as they once did, it could be indicative of vape use. - Sweet fragrances such as peach, watermelon, apple, and strawberry lofting through the air could be vapour from fruit-flavoured vape juice. There are also candy flavours, so be sure to stay on your toes and identify any sweet scents that your nose detects. It could be perfume or lotion, but it could also be vapour. - Abnormal coughing and throat clearing could be signs of vape use. If you notice your kid coughing or clearing their throat more than you would normally expect them to, it might be worth investigating. While these signs could mean that your child is vaping, it’s certainly no guarantee that they are. If they are vaping or you suspect them of vaping, it may be time for an honest discussion. If they admit to vaping or you suspect them of vaping, it may be best to stay calm and approach the matter in a non-judgemental fashion. Listen to what they have to say and try your best to understand them. But most importantly, consult your doctor. ### 9. Don’t assume that it’s okay to vape everywhere Regardless of whether or not you’re vaping to quit smoking, you should not assume that everyone else is fine with your vape use and wants to be around it. If you are vaping, be mindful of others and how your vape use might affect them. If you’re too close to others, in a confined space such as a car, indoors, dining, or anywhere else where other people might be exposed to your vapour, be considerate and take into account that they prefer you go elsewhere to vape. Further reading: [Causes of bad breath and how to get rid of it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/want-to-get-rid-of-bad-breath/) ![9 Very handy tips for mums who like to vape](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Mums-that-vape-pin.png "Mums that vape pin - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-mums-that-vape/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/tips-mums-that-vape/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [The best online adult toy shops in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/) **Published:** September 28, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Single, re-partnered or discovering yourself again? Wherever you are on your sexual journey, toys will make it all the more fun. And, with so many online adult toy shops at our fingertips, we are spoilt for choice. Not only, in the choice of shops, but also in the huge array of fun-time adult toys on offer. From sex toys to sexual wellness products, and from lubricants to lingerie, the mind boggles as you browse the virtual aisles of these adult superstores. We find the whole experience truly wondrous and not even a tiny bit embarrassing. Careful categories and filter tools help you hunt down exactly what you’re after or get inspired by checking out categories that are new to you (pro tip: look for popular products). Think bondage, love eggs, and [sexy costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-sexy-outfits-to-entertain-in-the-bedroom/) for raunchy role play. Our favourite online adult shops are the ones with an emphasis on healthy fun and inclusivity. We love online spaces that cater to every person at every stage of sexual exploration, including singles, couples, LGBTQ+, and menopausal women. Although completely private, you won’t feel alone trying to decide between a rabbit vibrator or a realistic dildo. Customer reviews give you genuine opinions and some stores, such as Lovehoney, have a helpline to discuss your sexual needs with a real-life expert! Particularly helpful if this is your [first time buying a sex toy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/buying-a-vibrator/), or you want to try something different. The best bit is that it is all so incredibly classy. Despatch and delivery are not only fast but also discreet. No box signage announcing “dildo inside”, we promise! So, if like us, you’d rather keep your bedroom shenanigans to yourself and shop from the privacy of your home, you’ll love our list of the very best online adult shops in Australia. ***Further reading: [Sex toys you can disguise if your kids discover them.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-sex-toys-you-can-disguise-if-your-kids-discover-them/)*** ## HUGE RANGE OF ONLINE SEX TOY SHOPS IN AUSTRALIA ### LOVEHONEY [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2f) is first on our list of online adult shops. It’s been around since 2002 and their products and customer service keep getting better. More than just a seller of adult toys, Lovehoney is all about bringing you sexual happiness and a fun, fulfilling sex life. The shop was born when the founders decided to make shopping for sex toys a discreet and fun experience, not a seedy, male-focused one. And we’re glad they did! The shop is filled with a seemingly endless selection of toys, lingerie, bondage accessories, lubricants, love eggs and more, so you’ll be sure to find something you like. They also carry plus sized lingerie to make bigger ladies look and feel fabulous in bed. Lovehoney has tons of specials at the moment so head over to their website for big savings. ***What we like most about this adult store:*** Excellent customer service, great selection of items, lots of specials, sex toy advice, lots of discount codes and a sexual happiness podcast. 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One of the best things about shopping at ATMS is their amazing community and perks for subscribers. You get “Pleasure Dollars” each time you shop and complete an Achievement plus exclusive subscriber specials. They have a price match guarantee and after-sales service is top notch in case you have a problem with your order. ***What we like most about this adult store:** Extensive catalogue (over 8,000 items and 45 brands), great loyalty programme, price-match guarantee* [![Share Satisfaction Sutra | Beanstalk Mums/ online adult toy shops](https://atmsc-cache-p.azureedge.net/248170_16.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2ffemale-sex-toys%2fg-spot-toys%2fshare-satisfaction-sutra%2f248170%2f258%2f) [Share Satisfaction Sutra from Adulttoymegastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2fsex-toys%2ffemale-sex-toys%2fg-spot-toys%2fshare-satisfaction-sutra%2f248170%2f258%2f) 1. ### ADULT SHOP.COM [adultshop.com](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/34726?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.adultshop.com.au%2f) is another online adult store that makes shopping for sex toys a great experience. Their shop is easy to navigate with a huge range of the latest, bestselling products for women, men and couples. They carry everything from the essentials (vibrators, sex ed books, batteries, massage oils) to fun and wild gag gifts, bondage accessories, anal toys, butt plugs and even rainbow LGBTQ toys. While their selection is not as extensive, all items are carefully curated to bring you the best sex toys available. adultshop.com also carries other brands like LELO, We-Vibe and Womanizer. We love the frequent specials on their website (check out their “Sale” section as well) and the bestselling items featured up top so you know what’s currently trending. If you’re buying a gift for someone, filter by category for easy searching. ***What we like most about this adult store:*** Curated items to make sure you get the best adult products available, LGBTQ sex toys, plain packaging, multiple payment options. 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Enjoy a cleaner shopping experience, explore new sex toys, and pleasure items in a more authentic and contemporary way. ***What we like most about this adult shop:*** Prices are checked daily, so you are always paying the right price. Fast discreet delivery with super easy returns. ![online adult toy shops](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Remember-July-1.png "Remember July (1) - Beanstalk Mums") ### ADULT TOY MEGASTORE [Adult Toy Megastore](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/62977?Url=https%3a%2f%2fadulttoymegastore.com.au%2f) is the go-to shop for many Australians, and we can see why. The shop is indeed a megastore, carrying over 12,000 items and hundreds of adult brands from all over the world at unbeatable prices … it’s like the Amazon of online adult shops. They have toys for women, men and couples, adult DVDs, cock rings, bondage gear, lingerie and essentials like the vibrating panties system! It’s easy to shop and the bestsellers are front and centre so you can see highly-rated products that other people are buying. They also have a loyalty programme if you want the biggest discounts. ***What we like most about this adult mega store:*** Great customer service, huge range, price match guarantee, sex articles, guides and tips, frequent discount codes. 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Launched in 1993, it has grown to become the largest premium retailer of adult toys and accessories. Their selection is massive (over 10,000 items), including couples and his/hers toys, lingerie (small to plus size), costumes, bondage gear, wigs, sexy games, footwear and essentials. Boost your sexual health, increase intimacy between you and your partner, or just have fun solo with Wild Secrets products. There are so many perks to shopping at Wild Secrets, like free gifts for orders over a certain value, student discounts, and rewards when you sign up as a member. We particularly like their no-hassle exchange policy and great customer service. ***What we like most about this adult toy store:*** Huge variety and selection of products, friendly customer service, best price guarantee, no hassle exchanges. 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They’ve been around for literally decades (35 years) and carry bestselling toys, sexy lingerie, bondage accessories and more. They also offer adult entertainment like live peep shows, uncensored internet booths and the Blue Class Cinema that shows non-stop XXX movies. Club X partners with great brands like We Vibe, Womanizer, Fleshlight, the Bong Shop, Sexpo and others to bring you the best in sex toys and pleasure items. If you don’t like online shopping and prefer to see the toys in person, drop by one of their megastores (free parking!) all over Australia. ***What we like most about this adult mega store:*** Great range of items including penis extenders, free gift with every order, physical retail stores, Buy now pay later with Afterpay and Zip Pay. 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Besides the high-quality toys, customers love their loyalty program that lets you earn points for every dollar spent and exchange the points for vouchers. ***What we like most about this adult toy store:** Lots of bestselling brands at competitive prices, award-winning toys for singles and couples, best price guarantee, excellent loyalty/rewards program* [![Best Online Adult Shops | JouJou | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0289/2118/products/Dua_fuchsia_with_phone_900x.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70796) [Je Joue DUA v2 from JouJou](https://www.joujou.com.au/collections/je-joue-collection/products/je-joue-dua) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/the-best-online-adult-shops-in-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Shopping **Tags:** vibrators, sex toys, sexy underwear, lingerie, adult toys, bedroom toys --- ### [Frugal tips on household finances & resources for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/) **Published:** December 10, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** **Handling household finances as a single parent can be challenging, especially when balancing work and family responsibilities. Achieving a balance between meeting immediate needs and planning for the future requires strategic planning and resourcefulness. This guide provides practical tips to help single parents achieve financial stability and security.** Being a single parent presents unique financial challenges, from ensuring there is enough money to cover daily expenses to planning for long-term goals. It is crucial to develop effective strategies that not only address immediate concerns but also build a secure financial future. With access to the right resources and support systems, you can navigate these challenges successfully and ensure a stable environment for your children. When shopping for necessities like eyewear, prioritize affordability without sacrificing quality by considering options like online retailers such as [SmartBuyGlasses](https://www.smartbuyglasses.co.nz/), which specialize in cost-effective solutions. ## Budgeting basics for single parents Creating a budget tailored to your specific needs is fundamental in managing household finances effectively. Start by listing all your sources of income and categorizing your expenses to understand where your money goes each month. This detailed overview will help you identify potential areas for cost-saving, allowing you to allocate funds more efficiently. Tracking expenses is essential in ensuring you stick to your budget. Use budgeting apps or spreadsheets to monitor spending habits and adjust your budget as needed. Implementing these strategies can significantly impact your ability to manage financial responsibilities and achieve stability. Focus on distinguishing between needs and wants when budgeting, prioritizing essential expenses such as housing, utilities, groceries, and child-related costs. Cutting back on non-essential purchases will free up funds for savings or unexpected expenses. ## Maximizing available resources There are [numerous assistance programs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/support-single-mother/) and community resources designed to support single parents financially. Government initiatives often provide aid with food, childcare, housing, and healthcare expenses. Familiarize yourself with these programs in your area, as they can offer significant relief from financial pressures. Community organizations also play a vital role in providing support through food banks, clothing drives, and educational opportunities. Utilizing these resources not only helps alleviate immediate financial burdens but also contributes to long-term stability by offering valuable services at little or no cost. Finding the right balance of these available resources will enhance your ability to manage household finances effectively. Explore both online and local platforms that provide information on accessing these benefits. ![household finances](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/In-article-images-60.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Smart shopping strategies Adopting smart shopping habits can greatly impact your financial situation as a single parent. Look for deals and discounts wherever possible—online platforms often offer competitive prices on various items, including essentials like clothing and school supplies. Plan your shopping trips around sales and use coupons or cashback offers to maximize savings. Taking advantage of loyalty programs offered by retailers can also yield significant discounts over time. When shopping for necessities like eyewear, prioritize affordability without sacrificing quality by considering options like online retailers that specialize in cost-effective solutions. Ensuring you’re making informed purchasing decisions will help stretch your budget further. ## Building a support network A strong support network can be invaluable in navigating the complexities of single parenthood. Community groups provide not only emotional support but also practical advice on managing finances efficiently. Joining online groups or forums dedicated to single parents allows you to share experiences, exchange tips, and gain insights into overcoming common challenges. Platforms such as [Beanstalk Mums’ Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) group offer a space where you can connect with others facing similar circumstances. Building relationships within these communities fosters an environment where you can access shared resources, collective wisdom, and encouragement—empowering you to tackle financial challenges with confidence. By taking proactive steps toward managing finances wisely, you create a more secure future for yourself and your children—a future where financial stability is achievable through careful planning, resourcefulness, and community support. ## Summary on household finances for single parents Single parents often face the dual challenge of providing for their families while managing all household responsibilities alone. This can be overwhelming, but with the right approach, it is possible to create a stable and nurturing environment for children. One of the first steps is to establish a clear financial plan that outlines both short-term and long-term goals. This plan should include a realistic budget that accounts for all necessary expenses and allows for savings. In addition to budgeting, single parents should explore all available resources that can provide financial assistance or reduce costs. This includes government programs, community services, and online platforms that offer discounts or free services. By leveraging these resources, single parents can alleviate some of the financial pressures they face and focus more on their family’s well-being. Another important aspect of managing single parenthood is building a strong support network. This network can consist of family, friends, community groups, and online forums. Having a support system in place can provide emotional support, practical advice, and access to shared resources. It can also offer a sense of community and belonging, which is crucial for both parents and children. Finally, single parents should prioritize self-care and personal development. Taking care of one’s own physical and mental health is essential for maintaining the energy and resilience needed to manage a household. This can include setting aside time for exercise, hobbies, or relaxation, as well as seeking professional help if needed. By focusing on these key areas—financial planning, resource utilization, support networks, and self-care—single parents can create a stable and fulfilling life for themselves and their children. It is important to remember that while the challenges of single parenthood are significant, they are not insurmountable. With determination and the right strategies, single parents can achieve financial stability and provide a nurturing environment for their families. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/frugal-tips-on-household-finances-resources-for-single-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [The ultimate guide to setting phone rules for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/) **Published:** December 6, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Giving your kid their first phone is a big moment, and let’s be honest, it can be a little overwhelming, too. You’re probably wondering how to set boundaries, manage their screen time, and make sure they’re using it safely. Don’t worry, we’ve got your back! This guide is packed with real-world tips for creating phone rules for kids that actually work. We know you’re concerned about online safety and want to make sure they don’t spend all day glued to their screen. No need to brainstorm, mum, because we’ve listed everything you need to know. Let’s get started! ## **10 Mobile phone rules for your child** ## **1. When is the right age to give your child a cell phone?** There’s no “one-size-fits-all” answer for the right age to buy your child a cell phone, but many parents start considering it between the ages of 8 and 11. If your child is involved in after-school activities or spends time at friends’ homes, having a means of communication may give you peace of mind. But you also need to think about your child’s maturity level. Are they mature enough to have their own device? If you’re thinking about getting your kid their first cell phone, it’s important to talk with them about how they plan to use it. Set expectations early on so they understand the responsibility that comes with owning a phone. ***Related article:**[ What to consider before getting your child their first smartphone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-first-smartphone/)* ## **2. Set ground rules for healthy and responsible mobile phone use** Before your child can start sending DMs to their friends, it’s essential to set some ground rules. You’ll need to think about when and where they can use their phone, such as no phones in the bedroom after a certain time or during family meals. It’s also a good idea to also want to talk to your child about what’s not appropriate on a phone. This includes things like sharing private information, sexting, or engaging in harmful behaviours like internet bullying. Teach them phone etiquette as well. Remind them that certain establishments, such as hospitals, may discourage or prohibit the use of phones. Emphasise the importance of respecting such rules. ## **3. Monitor screen time and set limits** Screen time can quickly get out of hand if it’s not monitored. According to [Common Sense Media](https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ "Common Sense Media"), parents believe that setting limits helps manage kids’ media use more effectively. Create a schedule (if you can) so your child has time for homework, hobbies, and family activities without spending too much time glued to their screen. You might also want to consider setting up a charging station in the family room where phones are left at night. This ensures that your child isn’t using their phone after bedtime, which can disrupt sleep. ![Monitor screen time and set limits | Phone rules for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Dc2f9211-599a-472c-a1f7-d79e6f4c812e-1066x800.jpg "Dc2f9211-599a-472c-a1f7-d79e6f4c812e - Beanstalk Mums") ## **4. Download the best parental control apps** Parental control apps are lifesavers when it comes to monitoring your child’s cellphone use. They help manage screen time, block unsuitable or malicious content, and even monitor who your child is talking to or texting. Popular apps like Bark, Qustodio, and Norton Family offer easy-to-use features that keep you in the loop. We all have different concerns regarding our kids’ gadget usage, so it’s essential to choose an app that fits your family’s needs. ## **5. Teach internet safety and the dangers of inappropriate content** Safety should be a top priority for any parent giving their child a smartphone. Discuss the dangers of malicious content, such as pornography and virtual harassment. Make sure your child understands that anything they post online can be shared, even if it feels private. Explain the consequences of sharing personal information, like their location or school name. Teach your child internet safety from the start so they can make smart decisions every time they go online. ## **10 Cell phone rules for your child (cont.)** ## **6. Establish rules for phones at school** Every school has different rules for mobile phone use, so it’s important to establish what’s allowed and what’s not. Some schools may require phones to be kept in backpacks, while others might ban them altogether during school hours. Talk with your child to make sure they understand when it’s appropriate to use their phone at school. If they break the rules, they have consequences in place, such as reduced gadget time or phone privileges at home. We know reinforcing this can be a challenge, especially among rebellious teenagers, but consistency is key! ![Establish rules for phones at school | Phone rules for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/1583025d-96f0-4e8d-8574-61361bb3f239-1066x800.jpg "1583025d-96f0-4e8d-8574-61361bb3f239 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **7. Emphasise the importance of face-to-face conversations** In a world filled with smartphones, it’s easy for kids to prefer texting or chatting online over face-to-face conversations. Encourage your child to prioritise in-person interactions, whether it’s at home or with friends. You might need to remind them that video calls and online messaging aren’t the same as real-life communication. Helping them build these skills is essential for developing healthy relationships. ## **8. Create a family media plan to manage phone usage** Setting up a family media plan is an excellent way to manage phone habits and gadget use for everyone in the household. This plan can include rules like keeping phones away during dinner or limiting media use during the evening. As part of your family plan, it’s a given that phones should be used responsibly. This can include time limits for apps like Snapchat or gaming, and it gives your child clear guidelines to follow. ![Create a family media plan to manage phone usage | Phone rules for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/0315d825-29fd-468e-acba-96c821c57480-1066x800.jpg "0315d825-29fd-468e-acba-96c821c57480 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **9. Dealing with cyberbullying, sexting, and inappropriate content** Unfortunately, cyberbullying and explicit messaging are real concerns when kids start using smartphones. Create an open dialogue where your child feels comfortable coming to you if they encounter these situations. Help them understand what to do if they see malicious content or if someone sends them something that makes them uncomfortable. Look for online resources that can help during these tough conversations, and make sure your child knows how to handle these challenges. ***Further reading:**[10 Ways to keep your kids safe online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-safe-online/)* ## **10. Why role modelling healthy cellphone habits matters** Kids tend to copy what they see, so it’s crucial to set a good example when it comes to using cell phones. Show them how to balance phone time with other things, and be mindful of how much you’re on your phone around them. Setting clear boundaries, like limiting your phone use and keeping phones out of the bedroom at night, helps show that while phones are helpful, they shouldn’t take over everything. ## **Summary: Phone rules for kids** For Annie, a single mum, giving her 12-year-old daughter her first phone felt like a big leap. She spent hours researching the best apps, talking with other parents, and reading articles like this one. What she has learned is that setting clear rules and maintaining open communication is the key to helping her tween use her phone responsibly. You can do it, too! Yes, it can be scary, especially with everything that we have been seeing online lately. Sure, there may be bumps along the way. But with the right support and guidance, your child can figure out how to handle their phone habits in a balanced and healthy way. ![10 No nonsense phone rules for kids and teens | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Phone-rules-for-kids.png "Phone rules for kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/no-nonsense-phone-rules-for-kids-and-teens/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** internet safety, phone safety, online safety, kids phones --- ### [Fragrance Hacks: How to Make Your Perfume Last Longer in Hot Weather](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-make-your-perfume-last-longer-in-hot-weather/) **Published:** December 3, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When temperatures soar, so does the challenge of keeping your favourite perfume lasting all day. Hot weather can cause fragrances to evaporate more quickly, leaving you feeling less fresh by midday. But with a few smart strategies, you can make your perfume last longer, even on the hottest days. Here are some fragrance hacks that will keep you smelling fabulous from sunrise to sunset. ## **The Science Behind Perfume and Heat Perfumes are a blend of fragrant oils, alcohol, and water. When exposed to heat, the alcohol and water evaporate faster, which can cause the scent to dissipate more quickly. The high temperatures also intensify the top notes, which are the first to fade, leaving the base notes lingering. Understanding this process can help you adapt your perfume routine for better longevity. ## **Start with Moisturized Skin Moisturized skin helps to lock in scent, allowing it to last longer. Before applying your perfume, make sure your [skin is well-hydrated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/protect-skin-barrier/). Use an unscented lotion or a matching scented body cream to avoid clashing scents. The moisture will create a barrier that slows down the evaporation of the perfume, keeping you smelling fresh all day. ## **Apply Perfume to Pulse Points Pulse points are areas where your blood vessels are closer to the skin’s surface, generating more heat and helping to diffuse the fragrance. Common pulse points include your wrists, neck, behind your ears, and the inside of your elbows. Applying perfume to these areas will ensure that the scent is released gradually as your body heats up. ## **Layer Your Scents Layering involves using multiple scented products to build up the fragrance. Start with a scented body wash, followed by a matching body lotion, and then apply your perfume. This technique not only intensifies the scent but also helps it last longer, as each layer adds another dimension to your overall fragrance profile. ## **Store Perfume Properly Heat and sunlight can break down the delicate compounds in perfumes, causing them to lose their potency. To preserve your fragrance, store your perfume in a cool, dark place, away from direct sunlight and temperature fluctuations. A drawer or a closet is ideal for keeping your perfume in top condition, ensuring it lasts longer on your skin. ![Perfume Last Longer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Picture2.png "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Use a Perfume Sealant A perfume sealant is a product designed to lock in your fragrance, making it last longer. After applying your perfume, you can use a sealant to create a protective barrier over your skin. This helps to slow down the evaporation process and keeps the scent intact for hours. Sealants are especially useful in hot weather when perfumes tend to fade quickly. ## **Reapply Strategically In hot weather, it might be necessary to reapply your perfume throughout the day. However, instead of dousing yourself in fragrance, try a more strategic approach. Carry a travel-sized version of your perfume and lightly spritz it on your pulse points when needed. This will refresh the scent without overwhelming your senses or those around you. ## **Choose the Right Perfume Concentration Perfumes come in various concentrations, from eau de cologne to pure parfum. In hot weather, opt for a higher concentration like Eau de parfum or pure perfume, which contains more fragrance oils and less alcohol. These formulations are richer and more intense, making them last longer in the heat. Additionally, perfumes with heavier base notes, such as amber, musk, or vanilla, tend to linger longer on the skin. ## **Consider a Perfume Monthly Subscription A [perfume monthly subscription](https://www.scentbird.com/) can be a great way to explore new fragrances and find the ones that work best for you in different weather conditions. With a subscription, you can receive a variety of scents to suit every season, ensuring you always have the perfect fragrance on hand, whether it’s a light, fresh scent for summer or a warm, spicy fragrance for winter. ## **Opt for Perfume Oils Perfume oils are a fantastic alternative to traditional alcohol-based perfumes, especially in hot weather. Unlike alcohol-based fragrances, which evaporate quickly in heat, perfume oils are more concentrated and adhere better to the skin, providing a long-lasting scent. Applying a small amount of perfume oil to your pulse points can give you a rich, enduring fragrance that won’t fade as quickly as its alcohol-based counterparts. ## **Apply Vaseline Before Spritzing A simple yet effective trick to make your perfume last longer is to apply a thin layer of Vaseline to your pulse points before spritzing your perfume. Vaseline acts as an occlusive barrier that locks in moisture and prevents the perfume from evaporating too quickly. This hack is particularly useful in hot weather when your skin tends to be drier, causing the scent to dissipate faster. By using Vaseline, you can extend the longevity of your fragrance and enjoy its aroma throughout the day. ![Perfume Last Longer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Picture3-1200x763.png "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Avoid Rubbing Your Wrists Together One common mistake people make after applying perfume is rubbing their wrists together. While it might seem like a good way to spread the scent, this action actually breaks down the fragrance molecules, causing the scent to fade faster. Instead of rubbing, simply spray your perfume onto your wrists and let it air dry. This allows the fragrance to settle into your skin naturally, preserving its integrity and ensuring it lasts longer, even in hot weather. ## **Experiment with Fragrance-Boosting Fabrics Believe it or not, the type of fabric you wear can influence how long your perfume lasts. Natural fibres like cotton, wool, and silk tend to hold onto scents better than synthetic materials like polyester. When choosing your summer wardrobe, consider wearing clothes made from natural fabrics to enhance the longevity of your perfume. You can also lightly mist your clothing with your fragrance for an extra layer of scent, but be cautious not to overdo it, as some perfumes can stain fabrics. This technique works particularly well with lighter, fresh scents that complement the breezy feel of summer. ## **Use a Hair Mist or Spray Your hair is another excellent medium for holding onto fragrance, especially in hot weather. Perfume tends to cling to hair strands longer than it does to the skin. Instead of spraying your regular perfume directly onto your hair, which can dry it out due to the alcohol content, consider using a hair mist or spray designed specifically for this purpose. These products are formulated to be gentler on your hair while still providing a lasting scent. By lightly spritzing your hair, you’ll create a subtle, lingering fragrance that will stay with you throughout the day, enhancing your overall scent profile. Keeping your perfume lasting longer in hot weather doesn’t have to be a challenge. By following these fragrance hacks, you can ensure that your favourite scents stay with you throughout the day, no matter how high the temperature climbs. Remember to start with moisturized skin, apply your perfume to pulse points, layer your scents, and choose the right perfume concentration. And don’t forget to store your perfume properly and consider a perfume monthly subscription to keep your fragrance game strong all year round. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-make-your-perfume-last-longer-in-hot-weather/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/how-to-make-your-perfume-last-longer-in-hot-weather/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [GIVIT Brings Hope to Families in Need Amid Housing Crisis](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/givit-brings-hope-to-families-in-housing-crisis/) **Published:** December 10, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** ## Listen here… ## **Shining a Light on Australia’s Housing Crisis and Givit’s Impact on Families in Need** As we approach the festive season, many look forward to spending time with our loved ones, sharing meals, and creating cherished memories. Yet, for countless families across Australia, the Housing Crisis casts a shadow over these celebrations. Instead of decking the halls at home, many single mums and their children are navigating the challenges of shelters and transitional housing, with soaring property prices leaving them without a place to call home. The Beanstalk Mums Podcast recently tackled this issue in a heartfelt episode, joined by Danielle Draper, manager of Givit’s Domestic and Family Violence program. Together, they explored the challenges these families face and the incredible impact Givit is having in providing essential support. ## **Givit: A Bridge of Hope** For those unfamiliar, Givit is a not-for-profit organisation that connects people in need with essential items, all while maintaining a clear focus on dignity and respect. It collaborates with over 4,700 organisations across Australia, including councils, charities, and community groups, ensuring that donations are targeted to meet specific needs. Danielle shared stories of resilience, including a mum transitioning out of a refuge who received a bed and a fridge voucher to help her establish her new home. These seemingly simple items are life-changing for families trying to rebuild their lives. But Givit’s impact goes even deeper. The organisation’s Domestic Violence Appeal has provided over 33,000 donations worth $500,000 to people fleeing domestic violence. This includes almost 1 million items and services delivered over the past four years. ## **Housing Crisis: From Temporary to Permanent** The conversation highlighted a troubling trend. Housing designed for short-term use is now being relied on as a long-term solution. Many single mums and their children spend years in transitional accommodation, which often isolates them from support networks and makes it harder to provide for their children’s education and well-being. Danielle explained how Givit addresses these challenges by connecting donors directly to families in need. Whether it’s grocery vouchers, clothing, or larger items like washing machines, Givit’s approach ensures families receive exactly what they need when they need it. ## **Christmas Needs: A Time for Giving** The holiday season amplifies the needs of families who are doing it tough. Requests for grocery vouchers and Christmas gifts surge, especially for tweens and teens who are often overlooked. Danielle explained that while Givit doesn’t physically store donations, it acts as a bridge between donors and organisations. This allows flexibility in how people give—whether by posting items, dropping them off locally, or making financial contributions. She also shared a touching story of a family who received bicycles through Givit. This gift not only brought joy but also helped a child and his stepfather bond, showing how thoughtful donations can foster healing and connection. ## **How You Can Help Those in Housing Crisis** If you’re feeling inspired, there are many ways to support Givit: - **Donate funds or physical items** through their platform. - **Volunteer your time or skills** to assist their operations. - **Spread the word** to increase awareness about their mission. One of Givit’s most significant strengths is its transparency. Donors can see exactly where their contributions are going, which motivates continued generosity and builds trust. ## **A Shared Mission** This episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast was a poignant reminder of the power of community. It highlighted the resilience of single mums and the importance of organisations like Givit in helping families move forward. At a time when many of us are counting our blessings, let’s not forget those who need our help. By supporting organisations like Givit, we can bring hope to families facing unimaginable challenges. --- To learn more or to get involved, visit [Givit’s website](https://www.givit.org.au). Together, we can make a real difference this Christmas—and beyond. ## **Links for this episode:** 🌸 **<https://1800respect.org.au>** — 1800RESPECT is available for free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to support people impacted by domestic, family or sexual violence. ✨ **<https://www.givit.org.au>** — Now that’s the smart way to give! Donations making real and positive differences to the lives of Australians in need. Discover how a single donation, given the smart way, can change a life forever. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. Please don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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As the effects of climate change and soaring energy tariffs are felt around the world, solar energy seems to be the most efficient in curing the issues. This passage is a comprehensive examination of the various advantages of solar energy, which in turn is not only a part of the environment but also a source of enormous financial benefits. ## **Environmental Impact An important aspect of solar power is its being environmentally friendly, which is a key argument among the numerous benefits it offers. Solar power reconciles two excellent features: it is not only clean but also renewable. It does not produce air pollution because it does not emit greenhouse gasses that are the major driving force of climate change. Solar technology has a genuine claim to supporting climate change mitigation by transformation when it becomes the main producing source of electricity, with no greenhouse gas emissions. ## **Financial Savings Even though one of the most common criticisms of solar panels is the huge up-front cost, the long-term financial gains are indeed significant. Households and businesses often experience a remarkable decrease in their electricity costs after solar panel installation. A number of cases with solar panels have an energy output that is enough for their house, and some with a surplus amount. In some places, one can also send back the extra generated energy to the energy production system to make some money. Moreover, if you live in areas where you can get tax benefits, credits, or rebates for installing solar panels, more of these costs are reduced even more. As the cost of energy goes up, solar power savings grow more and more evident from year to year. In some locations, additionally, any excess energy generated can be sold back to the grid, giving a further supply of income. ![solar energy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-images-56.jpg "Beanstalk mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Energy Independence Solar power is a way to achieve energy independence for people and nations. Owning a system to produce their own electricity can reduce the need for traditional power grids in both cases. This kind of self-support offers a margin for coping with power outages and coming waves of energy costs. In addition, states that invest in solar energy can lessen their reliance on such imports as foreign oil thus, they are able to partly provide for themselves with home-produced energy. Not only does this approach improve national security, but it also makes the national economy more immune to global energy market volatility. ## **Job Creation and Economic Growth The solar panel manufacturing sector is no pocket-size industry; in the last decade, it has become one of the top employment generators. Solar system installations are envisioned as the driving force for economic perspectives in such areas as production, putting up, and caretaking of solar panels. These developments help the economic stability of local communities and also give the workforce the opportunity to find sustainable employment. Further, technology development and improvement are interrelated in the solar industry. Solar technology research and advancement are the main factors for creating more new jobs for companies and entrepreneurs. It, in turn, leads to economic growth and competitiveness in the global market. ## **Low Maintenance and Longevity Solar panels are very reliable and durable, and they barely ever need any attention. Once installed, they just require a quick wipe-down every so often to ensure maximum efficiency. The vast majority of solar panels have warranties for 25 years or more. Hence, it is tantamount to guaranteed decades of cheap electricity production. These, along with the low-maintenance rituals, bring the users peace of mind and they impact in a great way the costs related to solar energy systems. Solar industry innovations give the users more efficient and durable new solar panel designs, this, in turn, makes them more valuable for a long period of time. ## **Versatility and Accessibility Solar energy systems can be mounted in many locations, from city roofs to the countryside. This diversity makes solar energy equally available for different kinds of users, from an ordinary person to a big company or the whole regional power system. Moreover, the progress of solar cells is such that it can now be integrated into construction materials; hence new alternatives to energy-efficient building are emerging. To sum up, the contributions of solar energy are not only restricted to the protection of the environment. From significant financial savings to the promotion of energy independence and economic growth, solar power presents itself as an excellent solution to our current predicaments. The prevalence of solar energy is very likely to keep growing as technology advances and the associated costs decrease, which will lead to an earth’s cleaner, more sustainable future. If you’re in Sydney and considering solar power, there are many reputable [**solar companies Sydney**](https://www.solarpathnsw.com.au/) that can help you make the switch. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-benefits-of-solar-energy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/the-benefits-of-solar-energy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household **Tags:** eco friendly, solar energy --- ### [Top Home Security Essentials for Young Families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/top-home-security-essentials-for-young-families/) **Published:** November 11, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As a parent, you want to ensure that you do everything you can to keep your family safe. Your home should be a place where you and your kids always feel safe and secure. Regardless of how big or small your home is, there are countless things that you can do to improve your security efforts and ensure that you and your kids are safe and sound at all times. Nowadays, there are more security products and devices available than ever before. While they all have their place and can all be useful, it’s important to identify which products will benefit you the best. You don’t need to go out and spend every last cent you have on home security. Instead, take the time to assess your space, identify what security measures might help and then work from there. Focusing on a few key areas of home security is often all you need to do to ensure your home is as secure as possible. Continue reading below to learn about the best home security essentials that will help to keep you and your young family safe. ## **Start With The Basics** If you’ve just moved into a new home, the first thing you’ll want to do is change your locks. You never know who the previous owner might have given a key to in the past, and there is every chance that there could be extra keys to your home in the wrong hands. Thankfully, you can easily make sure that you have the only key to your home by working with a local locksmith. If you’re new to the area, search for ‘[locksmith near me](https://www.racv.com.au/home/repairs-maintenance/locksmith.html)’, find a locksmith with good reviews, and ask them for a quote on their services. If you’re happy with the provided quote, then all that’s left to do is schedule your appointment. While your locksmith is around, it might also be a good idea to get them to check the locks on all of your doors and windows to make sure everything is secure. A quick security check from a professional can provide parents with some much-needed peace of mind. And if you’re happy with the service provided by your locksmith, then be sure to both leave them a Google review and add their number to your [household list of emergency contacts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/emergency-contacts-fridge/) ## **Install An Alarm System** Much the same as changing your locks, installing a modern alarm system will give you incredible peace of mind. Knowing that your property is protected from burglars and other criminals is very comforting. There are countless different systems on the market nowadays with all sorts of bells and whistles. You can opt for a very basic system, or you can spend a lot of money on more advanced systems that will notify the police if there is a break-in and that you can even monitor remotely from your phone. Take the time to consider the different options before you make a decision. ![Security](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-images-54.jpg "Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Consider Outdoor Lighting** Potential intruders will always want to access a property under the cloak of darkness. Having adequate [outdoor lighting installed](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/outdoor-lighting/) is one of the best ways to deter any prospective trespassers from venturing into or even near your home. If you have motion sensors installed, there will be even less risk of criminals coming near your home. As soon as the lights come on, they will quickly retreat and try a different property instead. In addition, if you hear an unusual noise outside, you can simply turn on the lights to see what is happening outside. This can be great for young kids with big imaginations. By switching on the light, you can quickly prove that it was the wind blowing through the trees and not a potential intruder out in the dark. ## **Use A Video Doorbell** Young children should always be taught to never open the front door to a stranger. In fact, many parents would argue that they simply shouldn’t open the door at all. Knowing who is at the door before you or your kids go out to it can help to keep your home safe. Video doorbells have become very popular in the last few years and can be a great additional security measure in your home. From facial recognition to thermal motion sensing, there are a lot of different features that you can avail of depending on your budget. Some video doorbell feeds can be accessed remotely from your phone, so even if you’re not home, you always know who’s at the door. For families with young kids, however, we have to recommend video doorbells with two-way talk features. These models allow you to speak to whoever is at the door without having to physically answer the door. Naturally, this can be really useful for parents who are busy with young kids and don’t want to answer the door for deliveries, door-to-door sales or any other unforeseen interruptions that may arise while they’re changing nappies or are mid-way through their family’s nighttime routine! ## **Choose The Right Home Security Systems To Meet The Needs Of Your Family** In addition to the solutions listed above, there are [countless other things](https://www.choice.com.au/home-improvement/safety-and-security/home-security) that you can do to make your home more secure. From installing CCTV cameras to adding window guards, adding a safe, or even employing a security firm to monitor your home, there are endless ways to keep your home safe. To ensure you find a solution for you and your family, take the time to consider your needs, speak to friends and family with young kids to see what has worked best for them and then take the necessary steps to secure your home. With the right systems in place, you can enjoy more peace of mind, knowing that you and your family are safe. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/top-home-security-essentials-for-young-families/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/top-home-security-essentials-for-young-families/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Amazing Santa Apps: Best Personalised Messages From Santa](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/personalised-messages-from-santa-apps/) **Published:** November 7, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Having lived through the last few Christmases isolated due to the global pandemic, we have come to rely more and more on technology. On the upside, it has brought some cool mobile Santa apps into our lives. First, we have the Google Santa tracker and the North American Aerospace Defense Command (NORAD) to track Santa. Then, here comes personal gifts from Old Saint Nick himself. Imagine giving Santa a call! If you’re looking for fun and exciting ways to keep the spirit of Christmas aside from downloading interactive games on your smartphone, how about trying out this idea? Other than seeing the priceless look on your child’s face, a Christmas app has other uses, including: - A gentle reminder that SANTA IS REAL for any little person heading down the non-believer path (this would help the easter bunny and the tooth fairy, too!) - Evidence that Father Christmas is watching all the little children around the world, which can encourage positive behaviour - For children of separated families who don’t know where they will be at Christmas, a personal word can reassure them that [Santa knows mum and dad are divorced](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/santa-knows-mum-and-dad-divorced/) and will be able to find them, wherever they are, on Christmas Eve. If you’re planning to include this in your family tradition, here is our list of Christmas Santa apps for iOS and Android for Mr. Claus to personalise his messages; no coding needed! ## The Best Santa Apps of 2024 ## Package from Santa.com To kickstart the countdown to December 24th, imagine how thrilled your kids will be to get individualised communication from Mr. Claus this Christmas. The [Package From Santa](https://afreevideofromsantaclaus.packagefromsanta.com/) app lets you take a custom note from Saint Nicky (watch him say your child’s name) and all the North Pole characters. Simply upload your child’s photos and details for a unique holiday dispatch that can be shared with family and friends. - ***Available via:** Android, Apple, Website* - ***Free:** One free video* - ***Cost:** Free for a limited time, $9.99 regular* - ***What we like most:** 90-day money-back guarantee* ![santa apps](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/75cc10e41571c88cbd99f56bdc970b363e5c8774ce0041792f32114c8dc35540?ts=1730509493) ## Elfi Santa Surprise the kids (or yourself) with a present from Father Christmas this year and up the holiday cheer. [Elfi Santa’s](https://www.elfisanta.com/video-from-santa.html) hardworking team of elves will make a personalised video with a unique, customizable dispatch based on the details you provide. For instance, you can request them to dance or do a hilarious pose. Allow your children to know that Mr. Claus has received their letters, or reassure them that presents are on the way. Customised messages of encouragement from Saint Nicky don’t get more authentic than this. - ***Available via:** Website* - ***Free:** No* - ***Cost:** From $5* - ***What we like most:** 180-day free returns* ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/261a28a917e0f8f9e6f32c60c726b3bcdc859157ce7268f037fff85d70bc5766?ts=1730509584) ## Portable North Pole Encourage good behaviour this holiday season with free tailor-made communication from Saint Nicholas himself. The seasonal [Portable North Pole (PNP)](https://www.portablenorthpole.com/santa-video) app allows you to create individualised VCs where Ms Claus’s husband says your kid’s name, shows their picture and reveals if they’ve made it on his nice list. It’s a great way to bring the magic of the Jolly Old Man to your home without going to the mall. - ***Available via:** Apple, Android, Website* - ***Free version:** Yes* - ***Cost:** From $2.99* - ***What we like most:** Get 4 free Santa* high-quality cinematic videos, and *PNP donates 5% of every purchase to participating hospitals.* ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/36b255006a7b89b8b06d3a77a0b57088b808f16045ddfc032802a8a418b19d95?ts=1730509652) ## Santa Letter Direct Can’t decide which customised note from Saint Nicholas to give your children to lift the Christmas mood? [Santa Letter Direct](https://www.santaletterdirect.co.uk/video-from-santa/) Santa App has got you covered. Choose from multiple message and activity options based on your child’s age and interests. There’s the baby’s first letter from Old Saint Nicky, a tailored activity or sticker book for young bookworms, or a custom phone call from Santa’s village with your child’s photos. They can hang the memento on the Christmas tree as decoration or add it to their Christmas album. - ***Available via:** Website* - ***Free version:** No* - ***Cost:** From $1.*98 - ***What we like most:** Multiple options* ![santa apps](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/80c3b8d16879b27e0ccf399c95da7f761f3c0efd461079948eeef99b69e20d71?ts=1730509733) ## The Mailroom Co. [The Mailroom Co](https://www.themailroomco.com.au/products/personalised-letter-from-santa)‘s Santa app is a nice way to add a bit of holiday magic. It lets parents send personalized messages from Santa to their kids, making them feel noticed by the big guy himself. With options for letters or video messages, it’s a simple tool that can make the holiday season feel a bit more special for families. - ***Available via:** Website* - ***Cost:** From $54.99* - ***Free version:** No* - ***What we like most:** Family Letter option to include more than one child in a letter, Beautiful designs, Vintage map of the North Pole included* ![The Mailroom Co.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/In-article-image-29.png "In article image 29 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Message from Santa Kids behaving badly? If they’re on the naughty list and you’ve tried the usual threats, a call from the big man of the reindeer and the elves might just do the trick. [Message From Santa](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.retropixel.CallSanta&hl=en_US&gl=US) offers simulated VCs and videos straight from the Christmas village featuring your little one’s name and photo. Saint Nicholas can call your child to say they’re doing a good job at school or they’re behaving badly (brilliant way to encourage good behaviour!). Your child can also leave a voice mail for Mrs. Claus’s husband with their wish list and location tracker. - ***Available via:** Apple, Android* - ***Free version:** Yes, with ads* - ***Cost:** From $1.99* - ***What we like most:** Santa calls your kids to tell them how good/badly they’re behaving**,** track Santa’s location, text Santa* ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/761dbff10d5af59ffedc4cbfabcb9bdecf2b9a765acd1e32b8b589fadf59546f?ts=1730509811) ## Speak To Santa [Speak to Santa](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.gravytraingames.santatrackerlitereal) simulates a voice call from Santa Claus with individualised conversation options. The templated calls are simulated and pre-recorded. But you can make them as unique and realistic as possible by entering your child’s name, age, favourite colour, sport, recent life events, and other details. Mr Claus will even tell your child if they’ve been naughty or nice. It’s the perfect holiday app for families with younger kids. - ***Available via:** Apple, Android* - ***Free version:** Yes, with ads* - ***Cost:** From $1.99* - ***What we like most:** Realistic calls, high-quality voices, thousands of call options* ![santa apps](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/b989fb43f3d790ed3d79fc51ea04995b16013408e2684ef995f8fa7165b61fa8?ts=1730509892) ## Final words on the best Santa apps for iPhone and Android Beyond the sheer delight of witnessing the joy on your child’s face upon receiving video messages individually created by Old Saint Nicholas, these Santa apps have many other purposes. They reaffirm the belief in Santa Claus for the young sceptics, encourage positive behaviour through the idea of Saint Nicholas’s watchful eye, and provide solace for children in separated families, assuring them that Old Saint Nicky will find them no matter where they are. From Package From Santa’s customisable North Pole communication to the realistic calls of Speak To Santa, these Santa apps for kids have become indispensable in making the holiday season genuinely festive. In a world where we are more connected yet physically distanced, these apps bridge the gap and keep the magic of the Christmas season alive in our hearts. Along with Santa tracker apps for kids to use, as the 2024 calendar comes to a close, let’s deliver the best gift for our children with special dispatches, especially for them. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/personalised-messages-from-santa-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/personalised-messages-from-santa-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** father christmas, santa, christmas list --- ### [30 New Christmas traditions for separated families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-traditions-separated-families/) **Published:** November 7, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As the festive season approaches, not only do Christmas traditions give us something to look forward to, they make us feel safe and connected. All of these are super important for separated families. If you are navigating your first Yuletide as a single parent, you may be feeling a little lost. Yet, rather than see it as a time of loss, why not spin it around? Use your new-style Yule to create wonderful new practices as a joint unit that will set the scene for many happy Christmases to come. Rituals can be created simply for the fun factor (and why not?), or they can be based on religion, values or anything which is important to you. Here are 30 easy and mostly affordable customs you can incorporate into your family’s new Christmastime celebrations. ***Further reading: [The upside of being a single mum at Christmas.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/upside-single-mum-christmas/)*** ## 30 New Christmas traditions for separated families ## 1. Have a Christmas movie marathon One thing this world is not short of is cheesy Christmas-themed movies. Whether they’re new releases or [traditional favourites](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-christmas-movies/) you watch every year, there is bound to be a few that your family love to watch together. Choose a special time, such as Christmas Eve or Boxing Day morning, to cuddle up and share the joys of the holidays without lifting a finger. Don’t forget the yummy Christmastime snacks! Note: As a divorced family sharing Yule with other parents, you might need to change ‘when’ you do this each year. But that’s ok. Us single mums are super flexible. ![Have a Christmas movie marathon](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-30.png "In article image 30 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Read a special Yuletide book with the kids Do you and your little ones have a favourite Yuletide book? If not, now is the time to pick one for family time. We have a few that we pull out with the Nativity tree each year and read over and over at bedtimes on the lead up to Christmas Day. Don’t laugh when I tell you my girls are now teenagers and still cry through ‘[The Little Match Girl](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-little-match-girl%2fhans-christian-andersen-hye-won-yang-joy-cowley%2f9781921790409%2f)‘ when I dig it out. They will never forgive me for telling you. ## 3. Volunteer at the local soup kitchen or homeless shelter Volunteering is a great way to help others during the festive season, but did you know that [volunteering is also great for your mental health?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/) It’s the perfect new practice to teach your children values and lessons around Yule. Most importantly that not everyone is as lucky as they are … even if their mum and dad are separated. Look online for ways to volunteer in your local area during the holidays. An expert advice? You might consider invite their father to turn the litigious processes of divorce into a joyful experience where two households come together to a united front. ## 4. Bake holiday cookies/desserts together No holiday is complete without a few cheery cooking sessions. Whether your kids want to spend the day with one parent or the other, cooking and baking together is always fun. My suggestion is to pick [super easy recipes to celebrate Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/christmas-cooking-for-kids-that-actually-works/), nothing too complicated or stressful! And remember, they don’t need to be Pinterest worthy. As long as they taste good and you have a laugh making them, you’ve found yourself a brilliant new Yuletide lore. ## 5. Buy a real Christmas tree Nothing screams ‘Christmas traditions’ as an Australian than the mission to buy a real tree for your home. Wandering around the trees of all shapes and sizes, smelling the pine, and arguing over which is the perfect one for your living room. Yep, that’s what Yule is all about. So, if you’ve never had a real tree before, now is the time to create new Christmastime custom. Look online, find your nearest dealer, grab the kids and off you go. ## 6. Walk to see Christmas lights on local houses Simple, fun and completely free! Having lived in the same area for ten years, I know which streets near us go all out with the outdoor Christmastide decs. It’s like they’re having a competition with their neighbours for the most flamboyantly decorated house in the street. I’m not complaining though. We spend a good hour wandering these festively-lit streets, oohing-and-arring at the twinkly lights and wondering how they managed to get a 12-foot blow-up Santa on the roof. If you have just moved following your separation, ensure to spend this quality time to discover the neighbourhood too. ![Walk to see Christmas lights on local houses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-31.png "In article image 31 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 7. Create the perfect Christmas gift baskets for the needy You might find your kids school or playgroup have already nabbed this Yuletide ritual and they don’t want to do it at home. If not, most charity shops are welcoming of anything around Yule but they particularly love a well-thought-out [hamper](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78096?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.charityhampers.com.au%2f%3fsrsltid%3dAfmBOoop0ukzaiha8WD1NOIFcBR3-zF9JgiJcFdH3v1pYR53odYVNFVK). If your budget can afford it, don’t miss the opportunity to chat with your kids about how they can make a difference in the life of another family this Christmastime. Yes, they might feel upset that mum and dad are not together this Yule. But some families will struggle to put food on the table, let alone buy one for each other. ## 8. Go to a pantomime or Christmas show I’m a sucker for a Christmas-themed show. Especially a pantomime. Whether it’s a big city feature or a school performance, book yourself and your kiddies tickets for some kind of live event as part of your new Christmas custom list. You could go all-out: Dress up and (if money allows) grab some Christmassy food before or after the show. Hot chocolate in the cooler climes or ice creams/snow cones if it’s hot where you live. ## 9. Do something nice for the neighbours Have your neighbours been there for you this last year? Mine are always on hand to help. This past year alone, they’ve: - Looked after both my daughters when I was late from work (four times) - Fed the dogs while we’ve been away (three times) - Helped me with the oddest jobs around the house (I have lost count of how many times!) Use the holiday as a time to show how much you appreciate your neighbours support. No need to spend the whole budget for your neighbours, of course. I keep it simple and buy my long-suffering neighbours a small Tupperware of ice cream sandwiches my kids make every year. We head around as a family on the morning of the 25th, wish them Happy Holidays and then go our own ways. ## 10. Surprise your friends with carolling! Does anyone actually do carolling in Australia anymore? Well, I love a good sing-song. Practice with your kids and head around to friends and family to sing to your heart’s content at their front door. If nothing else, it’ll give them a good laugh … and yes, you’ve created another Yule practice. ## Ideas for Christmas as a single parent family (cont.) ## 11. Put a gift under the Kmart Wishing Tree Wanna know another heritage as a co-parenting family that teaches about giving? Try dropping a box under the Kmart Wishing Tree. It’s a great parenting opportunity to remind our kids (and ourselves) that sometimes the best presents are the ones we give. Last year, my girls and their cousins decided to drop something special at Kmart. Their eyes sparkled brighter than any Christmas-themed light when they realised their toys would bring another child joy. It’s a lesson in love we can do every year they’re with me! They can even do it with their dad if they want to! ![Christmas traditions for separated families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-32.png "In article image 32 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 12. Make a holiday playlist Most of the time, you already have everything you need in the palm of your hand – this time, on Spotify! Whether you are jamming to all the different versions of ‘Last Christmas’ or belting to Mariah Carey’s iconic Christmas album, music is the heartbeat of any celebration. Let your kids pick some tunes, and voilà, you’ve got your unique family holiday playlist. Dancing in the living room? Totally mandatory. Trust me, nothing beats those impromptu dance sessions! Now, my daughters are starting to prep for their school presentations, so TikTok dances are playing on repeat in our house. I think by the next stage of the calendar, I would have memorised at least one of those dance moves. Try it – your youngsters will love it! ## 13. Go to a tree-lighting event Lights, camera, Christmas! You can wrap up in your cosiest scarves (cold season peeps only) and head out to see the big switch-on. The combined oohs and aahs? Priceless. Bonus points if you bring along some homemade hot cocoa! The first time we watched a tree light up post-separation, there was this beautiful moment of awe. Holding my daughters’ hands in mine, I realised the magic of the season was right there with us. ## 14. Go skating, ice skating or rollerskating Whether it’s gliding on ice or rolling on four wheels, it’s a splendid way to bond. And if your skating skills are a tad rusty, no worries! Your kiddos will have a blast helping you out. Our first skating adventure was full of hilarious slips, slides, and endless laughter. I might’ve spent more time on the floor than on my feet, but hearing my daughters’ giggles was totally worth it. Going ice skating isn’t simply one of the holiday customs you can celebrate as divorced parents. It can also be a ritual you can do with your little ones on every special occasion (or whenever you feel like it!). ## 15. Write letters to Santa “Dear Santa, all I want for Christmastime is five minutes of peace (and maybe some wine).” That sounds right, mums? But in all seriousness, writing letters to Santa is a heartwarming practice, especially for children in co-parenting families. It will put them at ease as they often[ worry that Santa won’t know where they are on Christmas Day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/santa-knows-mum-and-dad-divorced/) One year, as we penned our wishes, my youngest daughter wrote, “For mummy to smile a lot.” It was a heart-melting moment, reminding me of the simple joys. This year, I’m secretly hoping Santa gets my memo for a spa day! ## 16. Make DIY presents Ah, the magic of [homemade Yuletide presents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/22-homemade-christmas-gift-ideas-that-are-easy-to-make). From salt dough ornaments to hand-painted mugs, who doesn’t love some crafty fun? And hey, if things go a little off-course and you end up covered in glitter, just keep in mind: it’s not messy; it’s delightful! Remember, every imperfection was a perfect memory in the making. Just make sure to come up with strategies for managing Christmas gifts. ![Make DIY presents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-33.png "In article image 33 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 17. Go to church Now, this is one of the Christian world’s Nativity practices that we never take for granted, even with a co-parent. Going to church (not just at this time of year) is a great reminder for our kids to be thankful for the blessings and for each other. Let us teach them to cherish even the smallest things. I believe having a strong faith is a powerful way to build resilience. It’s also a great time to relax. I’m incredibly lucky that my daughters understand our situation and continue to be good girls despite the absence of… my ex. And for that, I’ll be forever grateful. ## 18. Dress up in hilarious Christmas-themed outfits Enough with the serious talk! Want a memorable Yuletide party with your kiddos? Dressing up in [hilarious outfits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-christmas-outfits/) works every time! You don’t have to buy new ones if you need to watch what you spend. You can put together your very own silly costume for a more personal touch! I’m sure your little ones will be more than willing to help with such a fun DIY project. ## 19. Get family photos done by a professional photographer One of my absolute favourite holiday customs is capturing the essence of the season with a photoshoot, even with the constraints of traditional setups. You can do the shoot in a studio or at home. You can use the aforementioned hilarious outfits and take pictures while wearing them. If your kids get a bit shy, it’s often effective to play some jolly Yuletide tunes to break the ice. These snapshots in time are treasured keepsakes that will remind us that family is forever, no matter the distance. Professional photographers are quite busy during the holidays, though, so make sure to book them ahead of time. ## 20. Make a Countdown to Christmas chain Now this holiday custom will definitely bring so much anticipation and excitement. As soon as December hits, create a countdown-to-Christmas chain. Each day, tear off a link, getting you one step closer to the big day. And as the most wonderful time of the year approaches, your kids’ enthusiasm will surely double! This simple Yule ritual is a tangible representation of shared excitement, especially for your little ones, who can’t wait for Santa to arrive. ## Top tips for holiday traditions for separated families (cont.) ## 21. Decorate the house and yard in a new way Family traditions have their charm. But every year, we spice things up a bit when it comes to decorating the house and the yard. It could be a different colour scheme, homemade ornaments, or a new outdoor display. This year, I’m planning to swap out our usual twinkly white lights for a rainbow of colours. I can’t wait to see my daughters’ faces once they see the result! Change keeps things fresh and helps us embrace the holiday spirit in unique, unexpected, and thoroughly delightful ways. ![Decorate the house and yard in a new way](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-34.png "In article image 34 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 22. Make Christmas coupons for the family Homemade Christmas-themed coupons are more than just pieces of paper; they will be something that keeps on giving, making your post-holiday days just as special. You can craft personalised coupons for things like cozy movie nights, breakfast in bed, or a day at the park. Or you can purchase [gift coupons](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54934?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.qbd.com.au%2fthe-little-match-girl%2fhans-christian-andersen-hye-won-yang-joy-cowley%2f9781921790409%2f) if you don’t have time. These thoughtful tokens will remind us that the best presents aren’t found under the tree but in the moments we share. ## 23. Have an ugly Christmas sweater contest Who doesn’t love a good laugh during the holiday season? A couple of years back, we threw caution (and fashion sense) to the winter wind and declared an “Ugly Christmas Sweater Day” at home. Now, it’s an annual Christmastime ritual where we compete to see who can find or create the most hilariously awful sweater. If you want to try it, you can scour thrift shops for cheap but silly ensembles. You can also raid the closet of their grandparents. Telling them it’s supposed to be for an ugly sweater competition is totally unnecessary. ## 24. Play fun Christmas-themed games or board games Games are a great way to bond during the holidays. To complete the vibe, turn your living room into a joyful game zone. Make sure you have a variety of games, from Yuletide charades to holiday-themed board games. Start with Monopoly, Jenga, or Scrabble. You can also ask your kids what they want. You can even prepare a prize for the winner to keep your kiddos’ competitive juices running! ## 25. Have a Secret Santa gift exchange To bring a dash of mystery and fun, we introduced a [Secret Santa](https://www.elfster.com/content/secret-santa-rules/) twist at home. It was just the three of us, so not so secret, but boy, was it fun! The rules were simple: a modest budget and a whole lot of creativity. No wrapping paper is required. Year after year, we continue the spirit of giving with this gift exchange, even if we can’t be together physically. We make sure to send our gifts with love, creating an air of mystery and excitement as we await the big reveal. It’s a wonderful way to surprise each other and show that we’re thinking of one another, no matter the miles that separate us. ## 26. Make and decorate a gingerbread house Gingerbread houses are a must in our household. Whenever it’s my turn to spend the holidays with my daughters, we spend an afternoon baking and decorating our own delicious creations. It’s a hands-on practice that allows us to be creative, embrace our inner architects, and indulge in some sweet treats. These edible abodes are more than just sugary structures; they’re edible masterpieces that bring us together. ![Make and decorate a gingerbread house](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/In-article-image-35.png "In article image 35 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 27. Watch the sunrise on Christmas Day This December 25, I want to try something different with my kids. Wrapped in cozy blankets with warm mugs of cocoa, we’ll sit on our porch and witness the sun come up. I’m sure that watching the sunrise on the morning of the 25th will bring a sense of peace and calm to our day. It’s not just about witnessing the first light. It’s about taking a moment of reflection and gratitude before the excitement of gift-giving and festivities begins. ## 28. Make special food for Santa and his helpers Even though my daughters are growing up, we still leave out a plate of cookies and a glass of milk for Santa, along with some carrots for his reindeer. It’s a Yule custom that can keep the magic of the season alive as harmonious two-home families. Instead of the usual milk and cookies, you can give Santa and his reindeer a gourmet treat. You can prepare baked mini carrot muffins and whip up a special spiced cocoa just for Santa. ## 29. Have a treasure hunt Who says you need a map for buried treasure? With little clues hidden in Christmas-themed socks, behind baubles, and even tucked inside the fridge, your home can turn into an adventurous treasure trail! For the prizes, you can award a homemade Yuletide ornament or a day of choosing all your activities. The gleam in your little pirate’s eyes will shine brighter than any treasure chest full of gold! ## 30. Give to charity Lastly, amidst all the wonderful fun, we always make it a point to give back during the holiday season. I want my daughters to remember the true spirit of the season – giving. Sometimes, we would sort through toys and clothes and pack up gently used items to donate. Additionally, we set aside a portion of our holiday budget to contribute to a local charity. Whether it’s volunteering at a local shelter, donating to a food drive, or sponsoring a family in need, teaching my children the importance of kindness and generosity is a tradition I hold dear. More importantly, it’s an incredible way to spend time with your family while giving them the tools to becoming better human beings. ## Final thoughts on new Christmastide customs for divorced families Navigating Christmas as a single parent offers the perfect opportunity to create traditions that celebrate your unique family dynamics. Rather than focusing on what has changed, these new customs allow you to embrace the magic of the season in fresh, meaningful ways. Each activity you adopt builds cherished memories and helps your children feel secure, loved, and connected as much as possible, even if you’re divorced. Also, remember that these moments aren’t just about the festivities. Instead, they’re building blocks for your children’s resilience and joy, a constant in the midst of change. So, approach this season with an open heart and embrace the laughter, love, and traditions that will define many Christmases to come for everyone involved. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-traditions-separated-families/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-traditions-separated-families/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** single mum christmas, Xmas, christmas routines --- ### [Alone on Christmas Day: Tips to make it memorable](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/alone-christmas-day/) **Published:** November 5, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Being alone on Christmas Day can feel daunting, especially if we’re surrounded by the pressures of the festivities and expectations of society (I’m talking about you, social media). But what if this could actually become one of your most memorable Christmas celebrations? As a single mum, I’ve faced a few Christmases by myself, and I promise, there are so many ways to make it special! So, whether you are physically away from loved ones, living overseas, or just want to spend a different kind of December 25, here are some practical tips to help you upgrade a lonely day into something unforgettably fun! ***Further reading: [Navigating your first Christmas as a single mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/navigating-first-christmas-single-mum/)*** ## **How to find joy when alone on Christmas Day** ## **Create new traditions** Not all traditions have to involve a big gathering, some can be personal, even solitary. You could start the day by watching your favourite holiday movie or indulging in a lavish breakfast. What’s great about it is you have your own timeline and you are free to do things your way! There’s something magical about creating your own habits that can be as cheesy or unique as you like. ## **Volunteer** Volunteering is one of the most fulfilling ways to celebrate Christmas. Many people find happiness in helping others during the holidays. When I first started to help at the nearby orphanage a few years ago, I didn’t feel the loneliness at all. Instead, I built new connections with the kids and my fellow volunteers. Look for charities and organisations nearby that might interest you. I’m sure it will be a fulfilling experience. ***Further reading: [How volunteering can seriously help you mental health.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/)*** ## **Eat something delicious** Who says Christmas isn’t the perfect excuse for some long-overdue me time? Being alone on Christmas Day doesn’t mean you can’t go out and enjoy yourself. Treat yourself to a Christmas lunch at a lovely restaurant or even catch a film at the cinema. Go somewhere you’ve been wanting to go but couldn’t. You can even splurge a little! Besides, it’s Christmas! Doing so might even bring the feeling of contentment. Remember, this time of year is about celebration, even if it’s just you. ## **Create a playlist for the festive season** When loneliness at Christmas starts to creep in, music can be a great pick-me-up. Create a playlist with a couple of your go-to songs and dance around your living room! Let go of any concerns, blast those tunes, and go full party mode. The best part about it is you get to pick every song! Music has this incredible way of changing your mood and making you feel good even celebrating by yourself. ![alone on Christmas Day](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/F25f14ef-e6ff-489f-9df8-f8e15bf1d7e0-1066x800.jpg "F25f14ef-e6ff-489f-9df8-f8e15bf1d7e0 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Bake your favourite treats** Nothing says Christmas like the smell of fresh-baked cookies or a delicious cake. Baking can be a therapeutic activity, and you get to enjoy every bite! You can bake mince pies, gingerbread, or something more adventurous. I don’t know about you, but baking gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. And remember, there’s no pressure to share, it’s all for you! But if you want to share your baked goodies with neighbours, you can, too! ## **Read a good book or have a movie marathon** One of the best upsides to being alone at Christmas is the freedom to do exactly what you want. You finally have the time to read that novel you bought a long time ago or catch up on the latest episodes of your favourite Netflix series. Make it a day to escape from reality, whether it’s a Yuletide classic or something unrelated to the holidays. The beauty of it all is you can freely enjoy what you love without compromise, a cultural experience just for you! ## **Find joy when alone on Christmas Day** **cont** ## **Self-reflection** It is indeed the most wonderful time of the year. And what better way to celebrate than by doing some self-reflection? If you feel a little lonely, try taking a few quiet moments to [list things you are grateful for](https://singlemamaway.com.au/embracing-acceptance/). Maybe it’s the simple happiness of sipping hot coffee, the sound of the birds outside, or even the opportunity for some solitude. Trust me, it can make a big difference. ## **Get crafty with DIY decorations** Who says you can’t decorate just because you are alone on Christmas Day? Pull out some DIY supplies and create your own ornaments or decorations. Crafting can be a joyful way to keep yourself busy. You might even end up with a beautifully decorated space that’s uniquely yours. I suggest hitting the nearest arts and crafts store weeks before to avoid the Christmas rush. ![Christmas alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/C4a5f2aa-a19a-4bc7-b551-76222b5c61f4-1066x800.jpg "C4a5f2aa-a19a-4bc7-b551-76222b5c61f4 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Pamper yourself with a home spa day** “Me time” will not be complete without rejuvenating yourself from head to toe. If your financial situation can’t cater to a luxury salon, why not do it at home? Put on a face mask, take a warm bath, or try out some wellness and skincare products you’ve been saving. Christmas is as good a time as any to relax and treat yourself with compassion. It’s easy to forget self-care in the middle of the festive bustle, but remember how important it is to take care of yourself, especially when you are spending it alone. ## **Send messages to loved ones to be less lonely** Even though you are celebrating Christmas alone, sending a heartfelt message or two to loved ones can bridge the distance. Let them know you are thinking of them during this festive season, even if you are physically apart. This connection, even through a simple text or video call, can remind you of the people who care about you and vice versa. ***Further reading: [Surviving separation sadness if your kids are with dad on Christmas Day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/surviving-seasonal-separation-sadness/)*** ## **Enjoy a peaceful walk in nature** If the weight of solitude starts to creep in, try taking a walk outside. While everyone else is partying, you are getting a breath of fresh air and being one with nature. How cool is that!? Australia offers stunning natural landscapes, and a peaceful walk can make you feel connected to the world around you. Whether it’s a beach stroll, a park walk, or just enjoying the crisp December air, nature can offer peace and clarity during this time of year. ## **Final words: How to be alone on Christmas Day** Celebrating Christmas alone doesn’t have to feel sad. I remember my first solo Christmas after my divorce. My kids were spending the day with my ex and his relatives, so I had a whole day to myself. I won’t lie; the loneliness was intense at first. But as the day went on, I embraced the peace and solitude. I baked, watched a childhood holiday movie, and even treated myself to a home spa day. It became a day to improve my relationship with myself, and it was pure bliss. The festive season can be challenging when you are alone, but it’s also an opportunity for self-love, new traditions, and contentment. So, if you’re spending Christmas solo this year, remember there are many ways to make it a day of happiness. Enjoy the freedom, pamper yourself, buy yourself a Christmas gift, and create a holiday that’s one of a kind. And remember, you’re not alone; many others are in the same situation. So grab the Baileys, pick your fav movie and enjoy like you did in your pre-kiddie years. May this be a wonderful time of the year for you. Merry Christmas! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/alone-christmas-day/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/alone-christmas-day/?share=x) - **Categories:** Christmas **Tags:** festive, Xmas, volunteering, christmas community events --- ### [Stress-Free Travel: Let an Online Travel Agent Plan for You!](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-travel-let-an-online-travel-agent-plan-for-you/) **Published:** November 3, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Imagine this: a single mum traveller searches countless flight options, hotel reviews, and activity recommendations on a computer. Hours go by, and she becomes increasingly angry at the fact that she can’t find exactly what she is looking for. This can be a usual situation for many people who want to go on their dream vacation. There is one method, though, that can help you tip the scale from stressful to seamless – that is, engaging the services of an online travel agent. ## Why Choose an Online Travel Agent for Your Next Trip? In the current prompt world, time has become one of the most expensive things people have, and very often, they are faced with the necessity to combine work obligations with family and personal issues. [Planning a vacation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/single-parent-holidays/) can be both a burden and a reward, especially when stressful times arise, which is often the case during various activities. It is in these cases that e-travel agents come in and provide a great service that can not only save time but also reduce stress and help secure a well-organized trip. The online travel agents have beaten how people usually go about their vacation plans and bookings. These digital pros of the travel industry who are familiar with the best practices, contacts, and up-to-date technologies for customizing travel experiences should be given credit for this innovation. The traveller’s preferences, the budget, and the intended destinations are the things the agents use to design the most convenient itinerary. Most of them surpass others’ expectations, and their flexibility is included. ## Save Time and Energy The first advantage of an online travel agent is that it saves time. Instead of spending enormous time researching destinations, comparing prices, and reading reviews, travellers give their agents a written list of things they would like to do. The agent, in turn, becomes the person who has to go through the tons of sakura available to him or her, presenting the customer with a few options that he or she might be interested in. Besides, online travel agencies usually provide extra offers and discounts you cannot find on any website. Having a very good relationship with suppliers and a lot of group-buying power with them, they are very often able to locate big savings. For instance, if someone doesn’t have the money for a luxurious trip and wants to reduce expenses, such a person could find these professionals very helpful. ## Exclusive Deals and Discounts You Can’t Find Elsewhere Another key of a virtual travel agency is closely connected with the tranquillity it gives to the customer. The nature of travel can involve many things such as multiple there-and-back flights, transportation reservations, and activity schedules. An experienced professional can ensure that all the aforementioned elements are seamlessly managed thereby greatly reducing the possibility of incidents, mishaps or oversights. They can also give helpful suggestions about travel insurance, visa requirements, and local customs, thus making tourists feel more prepared and boastful about their upcoming trips. ![Let an Online Travel Agent Make Your Dream Vacation a Reality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/In-article-images-53.jpg "Beanstalk Mums blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Insider Tips and Hidden Gems from Your Online Travel Agent Moreover, for admin process solutions, online travel agents can provide secret information and ratings that can additionally support the whole journey. For example, they might introduce the client to off-the-beaten-path sites, and neighborhood restaurants that cater to the specific preferences of the tourist. Such a personal touch from them can even take an ordinary leisure trip and make it into an exciting adventure. Another point to be emphasized is that these special agents are not only for those who are organizing a vacation. Business travellers and people celebrating special occasions such as weddings and family reunions also need them. In fact, some agencies are quite localized, catering to specific interests or demographics. ## Family-Friendly Travel Made Easy with an Online Travel Agent In the case of a family trip with little kids, online travel agents are very supportive. Suggestions range from family-friendly flats, activities, and restaurants the whole family can enjoy to various local services, like childcare. They might even give information on local services such as childcare. Mrs Mayfield, for example, might have very good childcare providers for tourists visiting their area. Through the internet, a travel agent can look that up and recommend it under their guidance. Some people may argue that travel agents are not necessary anymore with the rise of online booking platforms. This is far from true, however, as these platforms often lead to user overload and difficulty in finding the best option. Another party has a different view, i.e. they will mention that a travel agent, more often than not can provide a selection of options to choose from. They do so, however, guided by their knowledge and knowing exactly what is important for the respective traveller. Also, a travel agent can be important in case of unexpected changes or emergencies in the trip. The difficulties may be related to rebooking flights, finding alternative accommodation, or simply solving issues. Such kind of support might be very comforting, especially when one is travelling in unfamiliar places and dealing with language barriers. ## Let an Online Travel Agent Make Your Dream Vacation a Reality In conclusion, travel agents are more important than ever before in the digital age by providing the expertise, personalized advice and ease that can bridge the gap between the traveller and a successful journey. By assuming responsibility for a detail-concerned individual, a specialist assists to avoid the details becoming the focus of a journey helping the travelers to concentrate on the expected excitement and joy of the new place. The travel universe keeps on changing, and so do the online travel agents that adjust and invent to cater to the newly established requirements of travellers. From the use of machines and artificial intelligence for the generation of custom commands to the offering of faithful virtual reality visualizations of locations, these agents are the main motors of technology. By choosing to work and confide in an [online travel agent](https://www.pht.com.au/), the individuals will surely benefit from this knowledge and truly enjoy a smooth travel planning process. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-travel-let-an-online-travel-agent-plan-for-you/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/stress-free-travel-let-an-online-travel-agent-plan-for-you/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel --- ### [Home Security for Single Mums: 3 Essential Considerations to Keep Your Home Safe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-security-for-single-mums/) **Published:** October 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It’s estimated that [two per cent of Australian households](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-02-23/australian-crime-statistics-break-in-homes-increase-2021-2022/102008984), or 194,100 homes, experienced a break-in during the last financial year, according to the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) in 2023. This demonstrates an increase from 1.7% in the 2020-21 financial year, which happened to be the lowest recorded rate. For single mums, home security can be a daunting endeavour, [especially if you’re newly divorced](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/life-after-divorce-10-tips/) or have recently moved to a new home. From the value of professional security providers to the elements that can bolster your home in innovative ways, there is no shortage of worthy options to consider — especially with the advantages of modern technology. ## Different home security systems For single Australian mums, proactive, efficient, and up-to-date home security protection is vital. It’s crucial to take into account the fact that, generally speaking, there are [two types of home security systems](https://www.nzseniors.co.nz/life-insurance/discover/choosing-home-security). DIY security systems typically involve quick and easy installations that the homeowner can carry out independently, while the second type involves the help of a security professional. DIY systems will typically involve budget-friendly options that enable homeowners to take a hands-on approach to securing the home, with equipment such as video doorbell cameras, basic alarms, reinforced locks, and the use of a safe. On the other hand, professionally installed systems extend beyond basic alarms. According to RoomBanker, a professional security system is “[a meticulously designed security solution](https://www.roombanker.com/blog/what-is-a-professional-security-system/) that safeguards people, property, and critical information”. It involves vital components that range from a front-line defence of alarms, cameras, and sensors to fast and secure data transmissions along with control panels or home security hubs. Backend systems and 24/7 protection are additional features of professionally installed home security systems. ## The value of professional home security providers A certified provider will guarantee that your home’s security is held to a high standard. While many may wish to choose a company that doesn’t have the right certification due to convenience or price, security expert Daniel Lewkovitz notes that this can be a big mistake, primarily if the company is not graded by the Australian Security Industry Association Limited (ASIAL). “This is fine when all you do is pay the bill each month, but the one time you come to rely on it is when you will realise there is a difference between an Australian Standards and ASIAL graded facility versus one which is simply cheap.” Lewkovitz goes on to highlight the importance of a reputable security professional who[ can provide tailored assistance](https://auspost.com.au/home-contents-insurance/information-and-guides/things-to-consider-for-your-home-security-system). “Beware of the ‘man with a van’ who may sell you a system but not look at your overall security posture, risk and environment,” he warns. ![home security for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-48-1.jpg "Beanstalk Mums Blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Reinforced doors Single mums can enhance specific areas of the home for added protection. Windows and doors are just two key aspects of the home to focus on, as these have the potential to serve as entrances/exits to criminals. In addition to window locks, simple alarms can provide great peace of mind and are installed on the frame and the window themselves (when a window is opened, the separation will cause an alarm to sound). In regard to the doors, a proper lock is a must. Deadbolts are a great start, though high-quality [security screen doors in Perth](https://safeguardindustries.com.au/security-doors/) are ideal when the goal is to boost security in a city neighbourhood. Stainless steel mesh doors, for example, boast versatility with features such as maximum strength, as these types of doors are engineered to be resistant to force and impact while retaining function and reliability — in other words, you’ll still have optimal airflow and views. Heavy-duty frames that have been tested and passed to exceed Australian Standards further add to the security of your home. ## The advantages of a home security camera setup Even a simple camera setup can be a great way to gain peace of mind when it comes to home security as a mum. The first area to protect is your front door. However, the backyard and any other entrances can benefit from a camera installation as well — with a modern camera, you will be able to view the feed from your smartphone. Whether you have an older teen coming home to an empty house or expecting a delivery, you’ll have access to a time-stamped video showing exactly who is coming and going. While cameras are a great way to keep an eye on your home at all times, they will serve as an effective way to deter crime — though it’s essential to realise that it won’t necessarily prevent an incident from happening. One comprehensive look at multiple academic studies found that CCTV cameras effectively deter crime. However, it’s noted that they are more effective “when paired with other elements like lighting,” [highlights one Security.org article](https://www.security.org/security-cameras/deter-crime/#:~:text=Municipal%20Technical%20Advisory%20Service%3A%20A,security%20cameras%20in%20a%20bit%29.). With that in mind, at-home security cameras are great tools in the event that something does happen, as the footage can aid police throughout an investigation as well as serve as documentation. Security is a major concern for any parent, though it can be a daunting endeavour for a single mum who is newly divorced or managing a stressful schedule. With options that range from DIY security systems to the value of professional installation, a safe and secure home can be achieved with solutions that range from reinforced doors to a home camera system and beyond. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-security-for-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/home-security-for-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [7 Reasons You Need a Car in Perth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-reasons-you-need-a-car-in-perth/) **Published:** October 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Perth is one of the most isolated state capital cities on the planet, and having a car in Perth makes navigating its vast expanse much easier. Often labelled ‘the world’s longest suburban sprawl,’ the city stretches 150 km from Mandurah in the south to Two Rocks in the north (although Sochi in Russia might dispute that!). What is not in dispute is that while the public transport system is sound in the ‘City of Light’, getting around it is a lot easier with a car. Not only does the sun-soaked capital of Western Australia have an excellent road network that is easy to navigate (especially with Waze or Google Maps), but there is also plenty of paid and free parking available pretty much anywhere you want to go. If you haven’t yet learnt how to drive, you should take [Perth driving lessons with Ezlicence](https://www.ezlicence.com.au/driving-instructors/wa/perth). But if you’ve already passed your test and don’t have access to a vehicle, here are seven reasons you need a car in Perth. ## 1. Convenience and flexibility Arguably the biggest reason why you need a car in Perth is that having one provides you with the ultimate in convenience and flexibility. With a car, you can go wherever you want, whenever you want, without being tied to timetables or having to wait for others. You can also comfortably take all the possessions you need with you for the purpose of your drive and travel in the comfort of a nice seat. At the same time, you will be able to listen to music at a volume you like and even have something to eat without others coughing and sneezing in close proximity to your food – which is often the case on public transport. ## 2. Save time with a car in Perth Another major reason why it’s beneficial to have a car in Perth is that it can save you time. While the city is not immune to traffic jams, often driving to a destination in your own vehicle is much quicker than taking public transport. For instance, if you want to head for a swim at Cottesloe Beach, a latte at a café in Fremantle, or make your way up to the [John Forrest National Park](https://exploreparks.dbca.wa.gov.au/park/john-forrest-national-park) for a hike, it will typically take you longer to get there via public transport than it would in a car. ## 3. Easier and cheaper for families and bigger groups If you are travelling with kids or 3 or 4 friends, it can be much easier, logistically, to drive than to navigate your way through Perth’s public transport system. Carrying a stroller or multiple bags can be a cumbersome task on a bus or train. However, with a car, you can simply load up the boot with your essentials and head off whenever you are ready. Additionally, if you are travelling in a larger group, it can be cheaper to drive to where you are going than to pay for the public transportation service individually. ![why you need a car in Perth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/In-article-images-47.jpg "Beanstalk Mums Blog for single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Relief from the sun Perth is known for its hot weather, particularly in the summer when temperatures often soar above 35°C (95°F). Under such conditions, waiting for public transport or walking to your destination can really sap your energy to the point that it could potentially lead to dehydration if you do not have water or hydrolytes with you. In comparison, having a car with a good air conditioning system can be a godsend, as it will enable you to travel comfortably on even the most scorching of days. ## 5. Handy for emergencies If you find yourself in an emergency situation, having a car can literally be a lifesaver. Depending on the circumstance, it can be the difference between getting to a hospital in time for someone to receive urgent medical care or not. It can also mean helping someone avoid a potentially dangerous or uncomfortable situation, such as having to walk home late at night or can provide you with the fastest means of getting to a person in need. ## 6. You can take road trips Perth is a lovely city to explore by car, with plenty of attractions and destinations, such as Scarborough Beach, Adventure World and the WA Maritime Museum, to keep you engaged and occupied. However, with access to a car, you can also explore further afield on one of many road trips you can take from the city. The likes of Lancelin, Nambung National Park and Jurien Bay can all be visited within a couple of hours, while destinations like Carnarvon, Exmouth and Broome are accessible via epic, multi-day, soul-lifting journeys. If you intend to travel on a road trip with children, here are some [important survival tips for parents](https://hellokidsfun.com/7-important-road-trip-survival-guide-for-parents/) to follow. ## 7. Helps us be more social If you don’t have a car, it can be harder to meet up with friends and family as you will either have to rely on them to pick you up or take public transport. This could result in you becoming socially isolated and possibly losing contact with some of them. But with a vehicle at your disposal, you can easily socialise with your nearest and dearest on a more regular basis by driving to them. ## Conclusion to why you need a car in Perth In a city as expansive and sun-drenched as Perth, having access to a car offers unmatched convenience, comfort, and freedom. While the public transport system is reliable, a vehicle can significantly enhance your ability to explore the city’s many attractions and make life easier, especially for families or groups. Whether it’s escaping the summer heat, embarking on scenic road trips, or being prepared for emergencies, a car provides practical benefits that go beyond simple transportation. If you haven’t already, consider Perth driving lessons with Ezlicence to gain the necessary skills. With your own set of wheels, the ‘City of Light’ becomes even brighter, opening up countless possibilities for adventure and connection. ***Further reading***…[Explore car insurance for your trip.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/taking-a-road-trip-car-insurance-explained/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-reasons-you-need-a-car-in-perth/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/7-reasons-you-need-a-car-in-perth/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** car rental, Perth --- ### [Embracing Solo Motherhood: Carly’s Powerful Journey of Resilience and Hope](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/embracing-solo-motherhood/) **Published:** November 10, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Content:** Listen here… ## Carly’s Journey to Solo Motherhood: A Beanstalk Mums Story On this latest episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, we were honoured to share Carly’s inspiring journey to solo motherhood. Carly’s path, filled with determination, love, and a lot of courage, shines as a beacon of hope for so many women navigating the complexities of parenthood on their own terms. ## Egg Freezing and the Donor Decision Carly’s story began with her decision to freeze her eggs. Like many women today, she faced the ticking biological clock while also yearning to be a mother. But the traditional path of having a partner wasn’t unfolding as expected. So, she took matters into her own hands, bravely going through several rounds of egg freezing. While egg freezing is an empowering option for many women, it’s not without its emotional toll. Each round came with its own set of challenges—physically, emotionally, and financially. But Carly stayed committed, knowing that motherhood was something she deeply wanted, even if it meant venturing into it solo. After careful consideration, Carly made another life-altering decision: using a donor. She embraced the journey of creating a family on her own, preparing herself mentally and emotionally for the road ahead. Her resilience during this period was admirable, showcasing how powerful and committed women can be when chasing their dreams of motherhood. ## Navigating Postnatal Depression and Solo Parenting Carly’s daughter, now three years old, is the light of her life. But motherhood wasn’t all smooth sailing. Carly faced postnatal depression, a challenge many mums encounter but may feel reluctant to talk about. She shared the emotional weight of raising a child without a partner, a reality that can feel both isolating and overwhelming. Yet, through support networks and determination, Carly began finding her way. She leaned into her role as a solo mum, taking pride in the bond she was creating with her daughter. Her story reflects the importance of being gentle with ourselves during these challenging times and seeking help when we need it most. Carly’s transparency around postnatal depression serves as a reminder that it’s okay not to be okay—and that healing is possible. ## Embracing Life as a Solo Mum and Dating Again One of the most powerful parts of Carley’s story is how she reframed her narrative around solo motherhood. Instead of feeling like she was missing out on something, she realised that her daughter was the missing piece she had been searching for all along. Together, they formed their own unique family dynamic, filled with love, laughter, and unique traditions that bonded them even closer. Like many solo parents, Carly also wrestled with the idea of dating while raising a child. How do you navigate new relationships when your time, energy, and heart are already devoted to your little one? While dating remains a delicate balance, Carly continues to embrace the possibilities, approaching this chapter of her life with openness and optimism. ## Redefining Motherhood on Her Terms Carly’s journey is a beautiful testament to the fact that there is no one-size-fits-all path to motherhood. By trusting her intuition and following her heart, Carly created the life she had always dreamed of, even when it looked different from what society often expects. Her story serves as an inspiration to any woman considering solo motherhood or facing challenges along the parenting journey. Carly’s message is clear: you can define your version of family, and sometimes, the most unexpected paths lead to the greatest joys. We’re so grateful to Carly for sharing her story on the Beanstalk Mums Podcast. Her courage, strength, and vulnerability will undoubtedly resonate with so many mums, reminding them that they are never alone on this journey. --- Stay tuned for more incredible stories like Carly’s on future episodes of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast, and don’t forget to join our community of mums supporting mums. ## Links for this episode: 🤗 **<https://panda.org.au/>** – PANDA is dedicated to supporting the mental health and wellbeing of expecting, new and growing families. Through various information, services and programs, it supports parents and families during pregnancy and the first 12 months of a new baby. 🌸 [**https://monashivf.com/?state=qld&gbraid=0AAAAADuVMacfBUC9BQ02XXDUhV4OSTggV**](https://monashivf.com/?state=qld&gbraid=0AAAAADuVMacfBUC9BQ02XXDUhV4OSTggV) – Carly began her solo mum journey and received treatment at Monash IVF, Wesley. ✨ **<https://forum.smcaustralia.org.au/>** – The Solo Mums by Choice Australia forum is the FB group Carly found really helpful to get support from other solo mums by choice. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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Bec is a passionate advocate for neurodivergent children and their families. With over 20 years of experience in education and the disability sector, and as a homeschooling mother of three neurodivergent children, Bec shared invaluable insights into how we can best support these amazing kids and their families. ## Bec’s Background and Approach Bec brings a wealth of experience to the table. Her professional background spans over two decades in the education and disability sectors, where she has focused on a strength-based, empathetic approach to working with neurodivergent children. However, what makes her insights so relatable and powerful is her personal experience. As a homeschooling mum to three neurodivergent children, Bec’s understanding goes beyond theory—she lives this reality every day. She believes deeply that parents are their children’s greatest educators and advocates, and this philosophy guides her work and parenting approach. ## Understanding Neurodivergent Behaviour One of the key takeaways from Bec’s talk was her focus on understanding the behaviour of neurodivergent children. She emphasised that behaviours, often seen as misbehaviour, are, in fact, forms of communication. For example, meltdowns are not choices but physiological responses to overwhelming stimuli. Beck encouraged listeners to view sensory processing differences as a core aspect of how neurodivergent children experience the world. It was particularly eye-opening when Bec pointed out that non-verbal children do not necessarily lack understanding and that many autistic children do not have intellectual disabilities—only 30-40% fall into that category. This was a call to reframe how we perceive neurodivergent children, focusing on their abilities rather than their limitations. ## Supporting Neurodivergent Children: Strategies That Work Bec provided practical advice on supporting neurodivergent children, focusing on positive reinforcement and high expectations. She urged parents and caregivers to focus on what they want to see in their children rather than what they don’t want. Visual supports, routines, and sensory regulation tools are critical in helping neurodivergent children feel safe and understood. An empowering message Bec delivered was the importance of maintaining high expectations for these children. By doing so, we empower them to reach their fullest potential. She also reminded us to celebrate successes, no matter how small they seem, as every step forward is progress. ## Advice for Parents: Self-Care and Asking for Help Perhaps one of the most essential parts of the discussion was Bec’s advice for parents. She highlighted the necessity of self-care for those caring for neurodivergent children, noting that you cannot pour from an empty cup. Bec encouraged mums to ask for help when needed, take breaks, and understand that current challenges are temporary. She also stressed the importance of co-regulation and connection with children, especially during tough moments. Having pre-planned calming activities in place can make all the difference when a child is experiencing sensory overload or emotional distress. ## Final Thoughts on Supporting Our Neurodivergent Children This episode of the Beanstalk Mums Podcast with Bec McKay was an insightful and heartwarming conversation. Bec’s empathy, expertise, and lived experience shine through as she reminds us of the incredible resilience of neurodivergent children and the importance of parental support. Whether you are a parent of a neurodivergent child or a caregiver looking to understand neurodivergence better, this episode is packed with advice, strategies, and hope. For more support and resources, make sure to check out Beck McKay’s ongoing work with families and the neurodivergent community. ## Links for this episode: 🌸 [**https://bit.ly/44NEbsn**](https://bit.ly/44NEbsn) — Connect with Bec for a complimentary 1st consult. ✨ **<https://www.facebook.com/Bec.NeuroFlexible>** — Bec’s dedicated FB page to all things Neurodiverse, a treasure trove of great resources, including her own FB group. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! 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This week, we’ve got a detailed discussion on Binding Financial Agreements that you won’t want to miss. We’re thrilled to welcome Ian McLeod, a financial expert with nearly two decades of experience. Ian is here to guide single mums through one of the most important aspects of financial security. Whether navigating life post-separation or planning for your financial future, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you feel more in control. In this episode, Ian explains why BFAs are especially crucial for single mums. How they can safeguard your assets and ensure a smoother property division after a relationship breakdown. More than just legal documents, BFAs offer a sense of security and peace of mind, helping you avoid potential conflicts when it comes to financial settlements. Ian’s approach makes this often complex subject easy to understand, giving you the tools and knowledge to protect your future. But this episode isn’t just for mums dealing with a recent separation. If you’re entering a new relationship or thinking about long-term financial planning, Ian’s advice will equip you with the confidence you need to make informed decisions. He walks through the steps of setting up a BFA, providing practical guidance that you can apply to your unique situation. So, get ready to elevate your financial savvy. With Ian’s expert advice, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of how to protect your assets and build a solid financial foundation for yourself and your children. Don’t miss this essential episode—your financial future is too important to leave to chance! ## Links for this episode: 📧 [**https://www.financialagreements.com.au**](https://www.financialagreements.com.au) — Want more info? Reach out to Ian for personalised help. 👯‍♀️ **<https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine>** — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎙️ **<https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast>** — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to **like and follow** the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey! ## Listen here… [![Beanstalk Mums Podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Listen-to-the-Beanstalk-Podcast-and-get-expert-advice-for-free-1000x800.png "Listen to the Beanstalk Podcast and get expert advice for free - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.podbean.com/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/binding-financial-agreements/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/binding-financial-agreements/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast **Tags:** divorce, amicable separation, financial advice, podcast --- ### [How to reduce the cost of divorce in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/5-ways-reduce-cost-divorce-financial-separation/) **Published:** September 29, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** If you’re going through a divorce or applying for nullification of marriage, you’re likely facing not just legal challenges but financial ones, too. Often requiring the assistance of a law firm. Costs can add up, and paying the full fee might feel overwhelming. Yes, it can be emotionally and financially draining. Understanding how much the overall cost is and knowing whether you qualify for a fee reduction can ease some of that stress during the legal process. In this article, I’ll guide you through the process of applying for a lowered fee in cases of financial challenges and offer practical advice on your application for divorce. Ways to reduce the cost of divorce coming right up! ## How much does a divorce cost in Australia? The full filing fee for a [divorce application in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-divorce-in-australia/) The average legal fee for a divorce is around $1,000, depending on your circumstances and whether you utilise legal aid. However, the costs associated with getting a divorce don’t end there. Legal fees, hearing fees, potential child custody agreements, and divorce settlement negotiations can drive the expense. For those facing financial struggles, the option for a fee reduction is available, which I’ll discuss next. ***Further reading:** [How much does a divorce cost?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/how-much-does-a-divorce-cost/)* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/IN-ARTICLE-images-43.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## What is considered financial hardship? Financial hardship is assessed based on your ability to cover court fees and essential living costs, including property settlement expenses. If paying for the divorce would interfere with your ability to meet your day-to-day living expenses, you may qualify for legal aid or a fee reduction. Examples of financial challenges include high debt, limited surplus income, or significant liabilities and assets tied up in non-liquid forms like a home or retirement fund. You’ll need to provide supporting evidence to the court to prove your situation. ## How to apply for a reduction of payment in divorce? You can apply to reduce the financial cost if paying the full application fee would cause undue financial strain. To apply for a divorce fee reduction, you must fill out an application for a reduction of payment and submit it to the Family Court of Australia. To be eligible for a lower fee, you’ll need to prove you are financially challenged by providing documentation such as a concession card or other proof of low income. You can download the application forms [here](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/forms/app-reduction-divorce-nullity-fin). ## **How to reduce the cost of divorce in Australia(cont.)** ## Seek legal advice from a solicitor or family lawyer Hiring a family law solicitor comes with its own set of costs. Legal fees can vary based on how complicated your case is. Understand your lawyer’s fee structure before committing, so ask for a breakdown of legal costs and potential additional costs that could arise during the divorce process. While you’re not required to have a solicitor, it’s highly recommended to seek legal advice if your case involves significant assets, complex liabilities, or disputes over child custody. Legal representation may increase the overall expense of a divorce process, but it also helps avoid mistakes and potentially more costly disputes later. ## Can mediation help reduce your legal fees? Mediation isn’t only for dispute resolution. It is also one way to reduce your legal fees and keep your divorce amicable. By working with a mediator, you and your ex-spouse can reach an agreement on property settlement, child custody, and other legal issues without going to court. Mediation can be a fraction of the cost compared to full litigation, especially if both parties are willing to compromise. Keep in mind, though, that even in mediation, you may still want legal advice to ensure your rights are protected. ![How to stay civil with your ex after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-40.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to lower the cost of your divorce (cont.) ## Collaborative divorce: Is it worth the investment? This is another option for couples who want to avoid a nasty court battle. While it can be more expensive upfront compared to a DIY divorce, it may save you money in the long run by reducing the likelihood of lengthy court proceedings. In this approach, you and your ex will work with a team of professionals. Including divorce lawyers, financial advisors, and child specialists, to reach a mutually beneficial agreement. This can help reduce overall expenses as long as both parties cooperate. ## DIY divorce Here comes my final tip on how to lower your divorce expenses! If you have a knack for DIY and have administrative skills, try doing as much as you can yourself. Do a bit of research to weigh your options and figure out the costs involved. That way, you can keep divorce expenses down and potentially negotiate a fixed fee with your lawyer. Start by listing what you own (like your superannuation) and what you owe. Put a folder together with important documents like bank statements, mortgage info, car details, insurance policies, credit card bills, and tax returns. Anything related to your superannuation, will, or power of attorney. Remember that understanding the cost of a divorce comes first! If you are unsure, you might end up spending a lot more, so think it through. ## Summary: How to reduce cost of divorce When you file your divorce application, there’s usually a fee, but you might be able to get it lowered. If you’re going through financial difficulties or have a concession card, you could qualify for a reduced fee. Read the complete [guidelines for reduced fees](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/guidelines-reduced-fee-divorce-nullity) to check if you are eligible. Even though a lower fee is still payable, it can make a noticeable difference to your budget. To keep costs down, stay informed about any fee reductions or exemptions you might qualify for. Handling as much of the legal process on your own and keeping things amicable can also help you avoid unnecessary expenses during this challenging time. Finally, keep your head up because you’re not alone, mumma! ![5 ways to reduce the cost of your divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/Reduce-cost-of-divorce.png "Reduce cost of divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/5-ways-reduce-cost-divorce-financial-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/5-ways-reduce-cost-divorce-financial-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Property Settlement **Tags:** maintenance, settlement, alimony --- ### [Period talk: helping your child handle menstruation and puberty](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/unsure-about-the-period-talk-read-this/) **Published:** September 27, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Oh, *the* period talk. Are you ever ready to discuss menstruation with your child? Luckily (or unluckily, it depends on who you ask!), my kids have been brought up with the ‘Period Talk’ since they were about 8 and 10, respectively, so not much phases them. I have a son who is happy to hand me my menstrual cup in the shower and a daughter who regularly openly celebrates the arrival of her period undies in the post. If you’re preparing yourself to answer your child’s questions about their first period, read on. ## How to have the ‘period talk’ Now, before you judge, I don’t mean OVER celebrating. I’m merely referring to NORMALISING the conversation around menstruation with two humans, of which one will and does regularly bleed from her vagina and another who will be around people that do or are regularly bleeding from their vagina. The earlier you open a discussion around period and normalise it with your kids, the better. First up, make it part of the body and puberty chat; there is no need to sensationalise anything. Heck, at the end of the day, this change is one of the most natural processes in the world, without which none of us would be here. In my experience, people only weird out about stuff when you weird out about it! ![period talk](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/in-article-image-7.png "in article image (7) - Beanstalk Mums") ### Hormones! The physical and emotional changes The scariest thing I’ve found over the years is just how little we talk about periods with our kids. Then, as a result, just how little adults know about even the simplest things, like the four phases of the cycle. Have you got any idea what happens in the luteal phase of yours, or even when that is? The sooner our kids understand their cycle and what’s happening physiologically and emotionally at EVERY stage and phase, the more empowering it is as a woman. (If you are the dad, the more well equipped you can be as a bloke to support the females in your life.) Knowing that they are able to get pregnant once their period starts might also make them more responsible around boys and sex. Knowing what will happen to them from a trusted family member can make them feel comfortable about their emotional and bodily symptoms. ### Environmental impact There’s so much more to the topic than just a period. There’s the environmental impact, the hygiene side of things (are you a ‘binner’ or a ‘flusher’, for example?!), the different cultural and traditional taboos and the range of menstrual products available nowadays. ### Blood colour Understanding what the colour of the fluids means, the fact that painful PMT isn’t something that ANY female should suffer from. Just because they have their period doesn’t then automatically mean that they sign up for some lifelong monthly pain debt that they may have clocked up in a previous lifetime. ### Period poverty: what is it? Then there’s period poverty (yup, that’s a thing) that (just quietly) is happening in your backyard – it’s not just a ‘developing’ world issue. What about trans-gender bleeding? Athletes, women fleeing domestic violence, disabled women, women in the defence force – how do they all manage their periods? You can talk about and download [period trackers](https://tampax.com/en-us/period-tracker), and you can myth-bust that all females living together bleed at the same time or that the cycle has to last for 28 days. You could even take bets on how much bleeding they think they’ll lose every period. There’s so much fun to be had with the period talk. At the same time, educate your kids on something fundamental to their development. ## Should you trust Dad with period talk? Another important thing is to talk about how they feel about discussing it with their dad, bearing in mind that they may or may not want to. It makes things a lot more complicated if they don’t want to. My research shows that the number one thing females wished their dads did when they were younger was to be able to at least talk about the topic and be happy to go and buy them the [sanitary products](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/first-period-kits/) they needed! So, encourage the period to talk where you can or else it’s over to you! Oh, and remember, both parents need to make sure there are bins in the loos so your kids don’t have to come up with some ninja way of transporting blood-ridden pads and tampons from the bathroom to the bin in the kitchen – ewww! ![period talk](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/in-article-image-6.png "in article image (6) - Beanstalk Mums") ## FAQ: Helpful questions when preparing for the period talk ### What should I include in the **period talk** with my **child**? When getting ready to teach about periods, it’s absolutely necessary to cover the basics. Start with what a period is, why it happens, and how the menstrual cycle works. Explain that it’s a normal part of growing up; every girl goes through it. Also, discuss the physical changes during puberty, like breast development and discharge. Share the different products they can use, like tampons and period underwear. Most importantly, reassure them that it’s okay to have doubts or feel uncertain when they get their first period. ### How can I tell if my child is ready for period talk? Every child is different, but signs of readiness include asking about their body or showing curiosity about puberty. If they have a friend who’s already started their period, that might spark some curiosity, too. You can also create a relaxed environment where they feel safe to speak about these topics. If they seem awkward but willing to listen, it’s a good sign they’re ready! ### What are some tips for making the conversation more comfortable? Start by creating a relaxed atmosphere. Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted, maybe during a car ride or while cooking together. Use casual language and be open about your own experiences with menstruation. Make it clear that it’s a normal part of life, and they can always come to you with questions. If you’re feeling nervous, you can even say it’s okay to feel awkward about it! ### What should I do if my child has severe PMS or cramps? If your child is experiencing severe symptoms, especially on the first days of a period, it’s important to take it seriously. Talk to her about how she feels and encourage her to keep a menstrual diary to track her symptoms. This can help you both identify patterns and potential triggers. If their discomfort affects their daily life, consider consulting a healthcare professional for advice. Sometimes, physical activity can help ease those cramps, too! ### What’s the best way to handle leaks or accidents during their **first period**? It’s normal for your child to feel freaked out, especially if they have a leak or accident. Simply, the body is just doing its thing, shedding the uterus lining when an egg hasn’t been fertilised. It’s good to wear something like a panty liner or pad to feel more secure, especially if they’re planning to swim or hang out anywhere. Also, keeping a stash of supplies handy will make them more comfortable. ## Finally, in talking about periods In conclusion, discussing periods with your child doesn’t have to be a daunting task. By normalising the conversation and providing clear, factual information, you can help them feel confident and prepared for this natural stage of life. It’s important to cover not only the basics of getting their period but also the broader aspects, like emotional and physical aspects, the environmental impact, and even period poverty. Encourage them to feel easy speaking about their experience, whether with you, another trusted adult, or even their dad. Remember, your openness helps shape their understanding and acceptance of their body. The first few days of their cycle might be a challenge, but by educating them early on, you’re giving them the tools to embrace it. So, take this chance to start the conversation, address any concerns, and offer tips for discussing periods in a way that feels natural and empowering. Every child deserves to know that periods are a predictable part of life, and with your support, they can approach them confidently and easily. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/unsure-about-the-period-talk-read-this/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/unsure-about-the-period-talk-read-this/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** menstrual cycle, menstruation, period, period tracker, time of the month, teenage girls --- ### [How to stay civil with your ex after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/civil-with-your-ex/) **Published:** September 27, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Trying to stay civil with your ex is never easy. I’ve been there juggling schedules, tense financial discussions, and the dreaded shared birthday parties. At one point, I couldn’t imagine how people actually managed to pull this off without losing their minds! But after plenty of trial and error (and a few awkward exchanges), I found ways to make it work. In this article, I’m sharing the real-life lessons I’ve learned, plus practical tips on how to keep things amicable. From avoiding drama-filled arguments to mastering the art of effective communication, I’ve got the tips you need to keep things cordial (and maybe even a little easier). Curious to find out how I handled those rough patches and created a smoother path forward? Keep reading! ## **Why is it important to stay civil with your ex after divorce or separation?** The end of your marriage can be emotionally draining. But think about the long-term impact on your mental health and, more importantly, on your children. Staying civil with your ex after you separate helps create a more peaceful environment for your kids as they adjust to the changes. Divorce or separation doesn’t mean you should cut ties with your ex completely, especially when kids are involved. By keeping a respectful and amicable relationship, you can reduce stress and set a positive example for your children. Plus, it helps avoid unnecessary drama and conflict, which everyone can benefit from avoiding. Children thrive in stable environments, and while divorce can shake that up, staying civil with your ex can help them feel secure during this transition. Find a new normal that works for everyone involved. This will make sure that even though you’re separated, you can still work as partners when it comes to raising your kids. ## **How to communicate effectively with your ex** Effective [communication with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) is crucial, especially when it comes to managing joint responsibilities. The key is to keep conversations constructive. If you feel emotions rising, try to take a step back and breathe before responding. Yes, it’s tempting to get angry or defensive, but keeping communication civil and polite will help reduce tension. When you communicate, focus on the message, not on past wrongs. I know it’s easier said than done, but through constant practice, you can do it! I have also learned that it’s helpful to set clear communication boundaries early on, such as using text or email for less urgent matters and saving face-to-face discussions for more important issues. This can help avoid misunderstandings and keep conversations focused. Remember, you’re not just communicating for yourself but also for the sake of your children. ## **Do you need a Family Law lawyer to help communicate with your ex?** In some cases, you might need a lawyer to help keep communication with your ex-husband on track. While not every post-divorce discussion requires legal advice, it’s good to know when a lawyer might be necessary. If your ex is being difficult, refusing to comply with arrangements, or if you need to make changes to an existing custody agreement, consulting a lawyer can be a smart move. A family law specialist can help clarify your rights and obligations, especially if things become acrimonious. While you might not want to involve a lawyer in every conversation, they can step in when necessary to ensure things stay civil and legally compliant. ## **How to co-parent without losing your mind** Fulfilling parental duties after separation and divorce is not for the faint-hearted. But it’s crucial to prioritise your children’s best interests. You’ll need a solid parenting plan and a willingness to stay cooperative, even when things get tough. Remember, your kids are like sponges. They absorb everything around them, so maintaining a harmonious atmosphere will help them adjust to their new reality. Pro tip: Focus on being a co-parent rather than dwelling on unresolved issues from your divorce. Keep in mind that your children will benefit greatly from seeing their parents cooperate, even after divorce. ## **How to handle custody arrangements and parenting schedules** Setting up and sticking to a plan is key to giving your kids much-needed stability. A good agreement should spell out when the kids will be with each parent and how decisions get made. Regular communication helps keep everything running smoothly when changes come up. For my kids, having a solid parenting schedule made things way easier. Knowing when they’ll be with each parent gives them a sense of security. But remember to remain flexible, as unexpected things that may require last-minute changes can happen! ## **When to consider counselling or mediation** If communication is consistently tense or breaks down altogether, it might be time to consider [counselling](https://singlemamaway.com.au/product/one-on-one-counselling-session-60-min/) or mediation. A neutral third party, such as a mediator, can help facilitate conversations and offer solutions that both parties can agree on. This is especially useful when discussing sensitive topics like child custody or finances. Counselling is another option, particularly if emotional wounds from the divorce are still fresh. ![How to stay civil with your ex after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-40.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to reach an agreement during difficult situations** It’s easy to get caught up in emotions when dealing with your former spouse, especially if the divorce process is particularly tough. But staying calm during difficult exchanges is crucial for keeping things civil. When tensions rise, try to remind yourself of the bigger picture. Keep in mind that maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship is in the best interests of your children. Taking a moment to breathe, stepping away from the conversation, or even writing down your thoughts before responding can help prevent arguments from escalating. These techniques worked well for me. Being polite, even when it’s hard, sets a good example for your kids and shows them how to handle conflict maturely. ## **How to keep things civil during major life events** Life doesn’t stop after a divorce. There will still be milestones like birthdays, graduations, and other important events where both you and your ex-partner will need to be present. It’s important to stay civil during these moments for your kids and your peace of mind. These big events should be all about celebrating your child’s accomplishments, not digging up decade-old issues. [Staying civilised](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/4-ways-to-keep-your-break-up-civilised-for-your-children/) will make the whole experience way better for everyone, especially your kids, who will likely hold on to these memories for years. You want them to remember the fun, not the tension! ## **What do you get from maintaining a civil relationship with your ex?** There are numerous benefits to staying on good terms with your ex after a divorce. First, it reduces stress and drama, making it easier for everyone to move on. Plus, it shows your kids that even though you’re not together anymore, you can still team up and treat each other with respect. Having a friendly relationship with your ex can stop little disagreements from blowing up into bigger issues, and you might end up talking to a lawyer. Staying open and honest in your communication helps you sort things out before they get out of hand. ## **Summary: Staying civil with your ex is an ongoing process** Staying civil with your ex isn’t something you figure out once and call it a day. It’s an ongoing process. As your kids grow and life throws new curveballs, you and your ex will have to deal with challenges that didn’t even cross your mind. I’ve definitely had to learn this the hard way. When our schedules shifted as my kids got older, I had to adjust and rethink our communication. The trick is staying flexible and open, even when things don’t go as planned. Whether it’s through [setting boundaries](https://singlemamaway.com.au/product/a-beginners-guide-to-setting-healthy-boundaries/), getting help from a mediator, or even considering counselling, keeping the peace is key to everyone’s well-being. Remember, you’re doing this to build a healthier, happier future for you and your kids. ![Why being civil with your ex during separation can change your life | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Civil-with-your-ex-when-you-separate.png "Civil with your ex when you separate - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/civil-with-your-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/civil-with-your-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** divorce, separation, amicable separation, financial settlement, good co-parenting, peaceful separation, cost effective divorce --- ### [Free-range parenting: Does raising free-range kids work?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/free-range-parenting/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Remember those long summer days as a kid, where you’d disappear with your friends until the sun started to set, only to rush home when you heard your mum yell from the porch? No smartphones, no GPS trackers, just pure freedom. Well, those carefree days may seem like a thing of the past, but a new parenting trend is trying to bring them back – free-range parenting. If you’ve ever wondered what exactly this style of parenting is and why some parents are all about it, buckle up because we’re diving in! ## **What is free-range parenting style, and why does it matter?** Free-range parenting is about letting your kids explore, make decisions, and handle responsibilities at their own pace without constant supervision. It encourages kids to be confident by learning through experience. This parenting style became widely known thanks to Lenore Skenazy in 2008 after she famously let her 9-year-old son ride the New York subway alone. Why does this matter? In today’s world, many parents feel the need to hover over their children, but research suggests that children need opportunities to make their own decisions and solve problems without parental monitoring at every turn. It isn’t about neglect. Instead, you’ll be giving guidance while letting them try new things in a safe way. ## **Free-range parents vs helicopter parents** [Helicopter parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helicopter-parenting-and-why-single-mums-do-it/) are over-protective, constantly watching and monitoring their kids to prevent them from facing any difficulties. Most parents who are like this have probably experienced something traumatic and are fearful that something bad might happen again. On the other hand, free-range parents understand that exposure to the real world is part of life and crucial for learning essential skills needed in the future. We all have different [parenting styles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/). Aside from the two types mentioned above, some parents are permissive. Permissive parents are really lenient and don’t set many boundaries or rules. Kids pretty much do whatever they want, and the downside is that it lacks structure. ## **What does free-range parenting look like in real life?** In real life, free-range parenting is as simple as allowing your child to walk to school without adult supervision or play outside without needing to check in every five minutes. It doesn’t mean abandoning safety precautions. It means trusting your child to handle more responsibility as they age. ![free-range parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/bf3ed619-c136-4c89-a8d8-b464637738bb-1-1066x800.jpg "bf3ed619-c136-4c89-a8d8-b464637738bb (1) - Beanstalk Mums") For example, instead of organising constant play dates or structured activities, you let your child decide how to spend their free time. Have them visit a neighbour’s house to play or explore a nearby park. The key is to “let grow” and trust that they’ll be able to cope with different situations. ## **Can you be both protective and free-range?** Yes, you can! Free-range parenting doesn’t mean letting go of all responsibility. Instead, it’s about being protective when necessary while still allowing kids to explore. It’s like teaching your kid to ride a bike. You give them the tools and guidance they need, but eventually, you have to take your hands off the back of the seat and trust that they’ll figure it out. ## **How do you let your kids play independently? What about risks?** Now, this doesn’t mean parents are letting their kids do dangerous stuff. Start small with [age-appropriate activities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/your-guide-to-age-appropriate-chores-for-children/) that push their boundaries safely. You can let your child take public transportation like the bus**,** allow them to go to the corner store alone, or tackle difficult homework by themselves. Always assess the situation and ensure they’re ready for the level of responsibility. You’re allowing them to roam and play freely, but in a way that minimises actual danger. Over time, these experiences build self-esteem and teach essential life skills like decision-making and problem-solving. ## **Is unstructured play really that important?** Absolutely! Unstructured play is vital for children’s cognitive and emotional development. It allows them to explore their environment, make decisions, and deal with problems without a set agenda or adults guiding their every move. This kind of play encourages creativity and helps children to learn to entertain themselves. When kids engage in this kind of play, they’re not just having fun. They’re also learning how to cope with different scenarios and interact with peers. It’s a critical part of childhood that many kids today are missing out on due to overly scheduled lives. ## **How free-range parenting builds independence** One of the main goals of this style of parenting is to help children become independent. By giving them the freedom to make decisions and take responsibility for themselves, you’re preparing them for adulthood. Kids who are trusted to handle age-appropriate tasks develop a sense of responsibility. Allowing natural consequences to happen to your kiddos will make them trust in their abilities. You can allow your 15-year-old to take on a part-time job or let your younger child explore the neighbourhood with friends. These moments of independence are where children learn how to thrive in the real world. Plus, they will surely have a lot of stories to talk about during family time! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/cdcade97-76a6-4e4b-80d4-b63676d9838f-1067x800.jpg "cdcade97-76a6-4e4b-80d4-b63676d9838f - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why many parents are afraid to let go** In today’s parenting culture, it’s common to feel anxious about giving kids too much autonomy. Many children are raised with the idea of stranger danger and that the world is a scary place. But while it’s natural to want to keep your child safe, holding on too tightly can actually hinder their ability to grow. Parental anxiety can lead to kids developing stress and anxiety of their own. When parents refuse to let go, kids miss out on the opportunities to learn resilience, confidence, and problem-solving. If you’re unsure, the trick is to ease into it and let them take baby steps. Lila, a single mum, decided to try free-range parenting with her 7-year-old son. Nervously, she let him walk to the park alone for the first time. She gave him a safety talk, packed a snack, and watched as he confidently set off. When he returned, he was glowing with pride, telling her about helping a younger kid and navigating the crosswalk by himself. It was a reminder that sometimes, letting go a little can lead to big growth. ## **What parenting experts say about free-range parenting** Parenting experts like Lenore Skenazy advocate for free-range parenting because it allows kids to develop the skills they’ll need for the future. By letting kids take on more responsibility, they’re better equipped to handle challenges later in life. These experts also suggest that over-protecting children can lead to a lack of confidence and independence in adulthood. It can even affect their mental health as they can’t handle difficult scenarios. While it’s important to guide them, it’s equally essential to give your kids the chance to grow into capable, independent individuals. ## **Summary: Tips for incorporating free-range parenting into your family** Free-range parenting will teach your kids valuable life lessons. If you’re curious about it, why not treat it as a fun experiment? Start small by giving your kids more choices in safe, controlled environments, and gradually let them handle bigger responsibilities. Encourage outdoor play and allow them to handle more decisions independently, like walking to school or playing at a friend’s house. It’s a great way to build confidence and creativity! While safety is always a top priority, don’t let fear hold you back from giving them more freedom. Mix structured activities with lots of unstructured playtime to fuel their independence and imagination! Yes, it is a bit risky, but you know your child’s abilities and what they can handle; trust in them. Free-range parenting is something you are probably already doing to an extent. Every child is different, and as parents, we just try to do what works for our own family. ![What the hell is free range parenting? | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/Free-range-parenting.png "Free range parenting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/free-range-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/free-range-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** helicopter parenting, parenting styles, age appropriate chores, independence, safety for kids --- ### [Easy DIY Halloween decorations for 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/easy-diy-halloween-decorations-for-2024/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Indeed, time flies – October 31st is just around the corner! Whether it’s part of your yearly festivities or want to start a new family tradition, we have a handful of easy DIY Halloween decoration ideas to spookify your home. From disposable to everlasting indoor and outdoor [Halloween decor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/halloween-craft-ideas-for-kids/), we’ve included the most creative ideas to give your home a spooky makeover. It’s up to you and your kids to make it is as festive or as spooky as you want! ## Easy Halloween decor for 2024 ## Spider web Spider webs are one of the most common decor for Halloween. Now, it’s fun to thread intricate webs out of macramé, but who’s got time? Instead, you can make them with yarn, construction paper, and even gauze to create the abandoned home feels. Just stick them on your porch or windows with some hot glue and attach rubber spiders for a finishing touch. Voilà! You’ve transformed your home into a haunted house. ## Jack-o-lantern The scary gourd is the ultimate representation of Halloween in many cultures, including Australia. If you can carve pumpkins, that’s great. But I personally pick rock melons to make our family’s Jack-o-lanterns. They’re a lot cheaper and easier to carve than pumpkins using a craft knife. I also like putting battery-operated flameless candles inside the lanterns for that glow-in-the-dark effect. You can also use a cloche instead of a mason jar. ## Painted pumpkins An alternative to jack-o-lanterns is painted pumpkins that appear to bloom from the ground. Paint faces on mini pumpkin varieties, if available in the area, or even oranges. You can also paint round objects to turn into pumpkins and tuck them in the grass in your yard. You can use orange balloons if you’re in a jiffy. Personally, I prefer something more sustainable, like table tennis or rocks, which I could reuse the following year. ![diy halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/in-article-image-4.png "in article image (4) - Beanstalk Mums") ## Paper bats You can simply cut out bats from black construction paper and stick them on your windows. But if you have weeks ahead of Halloween, why not take it a step further and make paper mache? All you need are old scrap paper, homemade glue or Mod Podge, and black acrylic paint for your lifelike bat sculptures. ## Ghoul behind the window Here’s a surefire way to keep the trick-or-treaters from knocking on your windows. You can assemble your creature with a coat rack using old blankets or towels. You would want to get some frosted window film from the store for maximum effect. Pro tip: Choose a vacant room in your home so you don’t give the kids the fright of their lives. Trust me, I’ve been there. ## Dead dolls Now, this one’s a lot macabre even for me, especially being the mum of a little girl. My neighbour Leticia is famous for her collection, which is made out of old porcelain and silicone dolls, eyeballs gouged. She arranges the dolls with a thin layer of dirt under a tree in her front yard. I would try it, if it doesn’t solidly spook me out. ![diy halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/in-article-image.png "in article image - Beanstalk Mums") ## Skeleton Skeletons are a Halloween fixture, whether hidden in the closet, half-buried in your yard, or hanging from the ceiling. It’s easy to make them using cardboard and markers. You can also take your Halloween crafter gig a step further using sticks and strings. For older kids who don’t care about huge skeletons, they can help create paper skeletons for your Halloween table. I’m trying out [this tutorial](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OBtylNVwgw) for my nightstand this upcoming spooky season. ## Cheap and easy Halloween decor ideas ## Halloween wreath For a more festive atmosphere, how about a wreath for your front door? Wreaths are a top choice for Halloween door decorations. You can attach fall leaves, eyeballs, skulls, and other ghostly furbishing. Plus, you can simply switch the ghostly decor with Christmas-themed ornaments for the upcoming holidays. ## Sugar skull My daughter is obsessed with Pixar’s *Coco*, and that’s why we have been doing sugar skulls for years. I find that the shape of papayas makes perfect Frida Kahlo-inspired table decor. Painting them with food colours is also a fun art and bonding activity with your kids. And they make a great first impression and bewitch our visitors too. Mum hack? I always look for green papayas so we can eat them when they ripen after Halloween. ## Mason jar lanterns Mason jars are wonderful for enchanting yet spooky Halloween decorations for your coffee table and mantel. They’re perfect if you have older kids you can trust not to knock stuff around. You will need used mason jars, black construction paper cutouts, and small candles. I like getting violet or orange flameless candles from the store to make the setup even safer. ## Ghost piñata Piñatas are always fun, and a ghost-themed one is a perfect decoration for the home and a treat for your little ones. Simply cut the front and back sides of a big box – think cereal – into identical ghosts. Glue more cardboard on the sides so you create a box with an opening at the top. Paint white or cover with white scrap paper. (Put frills if you want!) Then, draw or use black paper for the face before putting the treats inside. Your kids will surely have so much fun! ![diy halloween decorations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/in-article-image-2.png "in article image (2) - Beanstalk Mums") ## Ghost garland I’m the first to admit I’m not the crafty kind of mum, so my go-to last-minute decor is always the garland. Most likely, you can find these supplies in your kiddo’s art drawer: construction paper, scissors, and tape or glue. Cut the paper into thick strips and assemble in alternating colours, using tape or glue to attach the ends. Cheap and easy! If you have more time and supplies, you can hang cutouts of ghosts, pumpkins, or witch’s hats from old book pages or craft paper onto a long piece of twine to hang on your mantel. Store-bought orange string lights and plastic pumpkin lanterns also make for pretty DIY outdoor Halloween decorations for your front porch. ## Wicked witch Finally, we can’t end this list without the queen of October 31st! Simple on-theme ornaments you can make at home would be a witch’s cardboard hat, cape, and pointy shoes. Another fuss-free witchy stuff is also her broom! If you’re like me, you already have this at home. All you need is to attach some small pieces of ornaments like a strand of spider web, and you’re good to go. ## Conclusion: Spook-tacular DIY Halloween decorations for homemade fun If you and your kids love Halloween, you would want to make it special every year. But also, you don’t want to spend so much money and time on a one-day celebration. Here’s where DIY crafts come into play. Homemade Halloween decor comes in many forms. Spider webs, bats, ghouls, and witches are the first to pop into our minds when we think of this day. But flowery skulls, glass lanterns, and wreaths are also cool and on-trend. The best thing about these decorations is that most of the materials are already found in your home. There’s most likely a glue gun, spray paint, craft knife, and construction paper in your kiddo’s art drawer. That way, you don’t have to spend, and you can also turn this into a fun learning and bonding activity. What’s your favourite DIY idea? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/easy-diy-halloween-decorations-for-2024/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/easy-diy-halloween-decorations-for-2024/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Halloween --- ### [Best Halloween costumes for adults to DIY in 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/best-halloween-costumes-for-adults-in-2024/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** I can still clearly remember the time when celebrating October 31st was not a thing here in Australia. Halloween costumes? Spooky decor? Irritating trick-or-treaters? Honestly? Can’t relate! But Halloween festivities are slowly becoming a part of our culture, don’t you think? I’m sure you have noticed. Shops in the neighbourhood have incorporated horror-themed designs in the past couple of years. My little one and her cousins are already informing the family of what they want to dress up as and what kinds of chocolates we must give them. And our department had just announced we might have our first-ever Halloween party! My first thought: what to wear? To be honest, I’m quite hesitant. Dressing up has always been fun – but it’s also a lot of effort. But we must always try things at least once. So, if you’re scouring the Internet for the best [Halloween costume ideas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/halloween/15-really-easy-kids-halloween-costumes/) for adults for 2024, you’ve come to the right place. ## Essentials for Do-It-Yourself Halloween costumes ### Little Black Dress Every woman must have her [BLD](https://www.prettylittlething.com.au/clothing/dresses/little-black-dresses.html). If you don’t already have one, believe me, it will make a lot of your dressing-up problems disappear. For Halloween, you can be a witch just by adding a pointy hat, stockings, and a broom. You can be the devil with just a devil headband and a cape. Add sparkly bling, and you’re ready for a Gatsby-themed night. Add white gloves and an elegant necklace to channel your inner movie star. The sky is literally the limit! ### Art and Craft Supplies When it comes to last-minute costumes, don’t underestimate the power of basic art and craft supplies. Items like cardboard, markers, glitter, fabric scraps, and hot glue can go a long way in creating DIY props and costume pieces. You can quickly make things like crowns, wings, or even armour with a little creativity and some scissors. Plus, it’s a great way to put a personal touch on your outfit. ### Makeup Learning how to do your own makeup can completely elevate a simple costume. With a few YouTube tutorials, you can master the basics of Halloween makeup, whether you’re aiming for something glamorous, spooky, or downright scary. Even basic eyeliner can create a cat-eye, whiskers, or spider webs, while red lipstick is perfect for vampires or movie stars. Special effects makeup like fake blood or face paint can add depth to zombie or monster costumes. It’s one of the easiest ways to transform your look without needing a full wardrobe change. ### Accessories Accessories are the finishing touch that can pull any costume together. Whether it’s a themed headband, a wig, hats, belts, masks, sunglasses, or quirky jewellery, small details can make a huge difference. You can easily find these at affordable shops like Daiso, thrift stores, or even lying around your house. Think of a pirate’s eye patch, a superhero’s cape, or a tiara for a princess – all simple pieces that can make your costume stand out. ![halloween costumes for adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/3.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## Halloween-themed costumes ### Wicked Witch The Wicked Witch is one of the most recognisable costumes if you need to put something together in a jiffy. Wear a pointy hat and bring your kitchen broom, and you’re good to go! Plus, Ariana Grande’s Wicked is set for just after this year’s Halloween, so you’re on a theme. ### Ghost Ghosts are another fixture for horror-themed parties, and they’re usually pretty easy to DIY. Get an old white sheet you’re not using anymore and cut holes for your eyes. Done! ### Zombie A zombie costume also comes together quickly. After all, you can pretty much use whatever old clothes you have in the closet, adding a few cuts and rips here and there. It comes down to hair and makeup – make sure to be as dishevelled and rotten as you can. ### Zombie bride Alternatively, why not go as a zombie bride? *Mean Girls* is admittedly one of my favourite movies, and everyone remembers Cady’s iconic Halloween costume. If you haven’t already given away your white dress to Retrostar after the divorce, then this is the perfect time to say goodbye. ### Skeleton Skeleton is another popular and easy Halloween costume. It’s quite easy to DIY for a last-minute costume, too. You only need a matching black shirt and black pants. Paint the front and back with white bones, and you’re good to go. ### Spirits from the Land of the Dead My daughter has been obsessed with Pixar’s *Coco* since she was one. Many adults take inspiration from intricate makeup and elaborate clothing from Mexican folklore. I personally don’t have the makeup skills to DIY everything and channel my inner Frida Kahlo, but I’m sure you’ll be in the running for the best costume award. ### Scary Movie Characters If you’re aiming for a fright, scary movie characters like Michael Myers, Freddy Krueger, or Chucky are solid choices. These costumes are usually simple but pack a punch, especially when you focus on the right hair, mask, or makeup to bring the creepy factor. ![halloween costumes for adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/4.png "4 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Fictional characters ### Fairy If you’re looking for an easy way to craft a classic fairy look, we’ve got you covered! The fairy is a quick and easy outfit that comes together in no time. A large piece of tulle can transform into wings, while a simple article of clothing makes for an adorable dress. Add some adhesive glitter for sparkle, and you’re set to go! ### Mermaid Channel your inner Ariel this Halloween! Head to your local thrift store and search for a large piece of shimmering fabric, then add some body paint for that iridescent glow. You can even craft an adorable doll of Flounder to carry around. ### Mythology Homer’s gods and goddesses are another safe yet dainty option for costumes. A flowy white dress, sandals, and gold accessories would be fairly easy to find in your closet or the local thrift shop. ![halloween costumes for adults](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/2.png "2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Novelty ### Animals If you’re leaning toward something adorable and easy, animal costumes are always a hit. Grab some zebra or tiger-striped clothing and pair it with animal ears. You can also add face paint to enhance the look—think whiskers, a cute nose, or bold stripes. You can also turn yourself into a unicorn with just a headband and a rainbow dress. ### Objects If you have a LOT of time and a LOT of creativity, you might want to check out cosplaying objects. Think a Rubik’s Cube, a Starbucks cup, or a french fry. Though it’s not that easy to assemble, you’re going to be a huge hit at the party. ## Best Halloween costumes from pop culture moments ### The Eras Tour Whatever your opinion of her, Taylor Swift is undeniably this year’s most influential pop star. The great thing about this is there are a lot of eras to get inspiration from. If you went to the show in Sidney – I didn’t – maybe you even have an outfit ready to be recycled for your Halloween costume this year. Oh, and how about Taylor Sheesh? It would be heaps of fun impersonating the famous Taytay impersonator! ### Barbie In 2023, [Good Housekeeping](https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/) had a Barbie Halloween costume on the top of their list. It’s unsurprising, given Barbie was last year’s highest-grossing movie. If the trend continues, we’re expecting to bump into lots of walking and talking emotions at this year’s party. ### Beetlejuice Beetlejuice Okay, I’m highly anticipating this one. Jenna Ortega’s Wednesday Addams has become a Halloween fixture, and her fashion in this film is just as promising. It’s always a nice idea to get inspo from movies with definitive fashion. ### Chappell Roan Admittedly, I’m biased on this one, but the Midwest princess is definitely 2024’s phenomenon. She’s like Dolly Parton, Tina Turner, Kylie Minogue, Madonna, Britney Spears, and Lady Gaga all rolled into one. There are also lots of looks to recreate so that you won’t run out of ideas. ### Jojo Siwa To be honest, I have a very soft spot for Jojo Siwa. I used to babysit a niece who was obsessed with her. Her current rebrand as a gay pop icon has become a major pop culture meme. If your friends don’t find the ensemble recognisable enough, you can always say you’re from Kiss. ![halloween costumes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/1.png "1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Couple costumes ### Cowgirl and cowboy If you’re coming in as a couple, cowgirl and cowboy is one of the easiest to assemble. A plaid shirt, denim jeans or shorts, leather boots, and a cowboy hat are basically everything you need. You might also sneak in a whip for a sprinkle of naughty. ### Angel and devil The angel and devil iconography is one of the most common Halloween costumes of all time, and also quite easy to DIY. You can simply mix and match stuff you already have in your wardrobe and your kids’ art drawer. You may want to buy the wings and the pitchfork, but you can also make them yourself using cardboard and sticks. ## Group costumes If you’re heading to a Halloween party with friends, why not coordinate a team? Ideas could include the cast of *Charlie’s Angels*, characters from *The Lord of the Rings*, or the iconic Ghostbusters team. Team costumes are a fun way to stand out and ensure you and your mates arrive in style! ## Conclusion to best Halloween Costumes 2024 As Halloween continues to become a more significant part of Aussie culture, it’s exciting to see how creative everyone is getting with their costumes. Whether you’re pulling together a last-minute look with a little black dress or going all out with pop culture-inspired outfits, the possibilities are endless. From easy DIY costumes to iconic characters, Halloween 2024 is your chance to have fun and show off your creativity. So, why not give it a go? Dressing up doesn’t have to be overwhelming, and with the right accessories or a bit of makeup, you can transform yourself into something truly memorable. Whether you’re channelling a Taylor Swift era, a Pixar favourite, or a classic skeleton, there’s a costume idea for everyone. This Halloween, let your imagination run wild and enjoy every moment of the spooky season! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/best-halloween-costumes-for-adults-in-2024/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/best-halloween-costumes-for-adults-in-2024/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Halloween --- ### [$5000 Payment: Domestic and Family Violence Support in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/domestic-violence-payment-australia/) **Published:** September 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Domestic violence is something the world could do without. Sadly, it’s still a reality for many women, men, and children around the world. Some don’t survive, and those who do often carry deep scars. But there’s a silver lining: here in Australia, the government offers domestic violence payment support for survivors to help them get back on their feet. It’s a small step, but it’s a lifeline that can make all the difference. ## What is Domestic and Family Violence? Domestic and family violence is a complex issue that can affect anyone, regardless of their circumstances. It often occurs when an abuser uses power to control a member of their family. Verbal abuse is one of the most common forms. Here, someone uses offensive and hurtful language to humiliate the victim, especially in public. In the case of economic abuse, the abuser uses money to create fear or dependency, impacting a person’s financial well-being. Perpetrators can also weaponise insurance payouts to further exert control over their victim’s finances. If you want to learn more about domestic and family abuse, check [this comprehensive list](https://1800respect.org.au/violence-and-abuse/domestic-and-family-violence). ***Further reading:*** [Intervention Orders (Australia): The facts in plain English](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/) ## What is a $5000 payment in Australia? Australians who are survivors of family violence who also wish to leave their abusive partner can avail of up to $5000 from the national government as a domestic violence payment. The program is the Escaping Violence Payment (EVP), which is paid through the community organisation of the Uniting Church. This can be used for housing, food, and other immediate needs. The purpose is to serve as a safety net to help survivors rebuild their lives after experiencing abuse from an intimate partner. Eligible applicants can receive up to $1,500 cash assistance through the survivor’s chosen bank. Up to $3,500 is paid directly to the caseworker for various services necessary for moving. The amount covers different forms of abuse, such as physical, verbal, sexual, emotional, spiritual, psychological, and financial abuse. Threats, coercion, or control and/or domination are also considered abuse. Aside from financial assistance, domestic violence payment or EVP also provides other confidential support. ![domestic violence payment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/inarticleimage_20240829_071845_0000.png "Beanstalk Single Mum Single mum support - Beanstalk Mums") ## Who is Eligible for Escaping Violence Payments? The eligibility criteria for the program are set by the Department of Social Services (DSS). EVP is limited to survivors aged 18 and above who are leaving a violent situation to be safe from a romantic partner. This can be a husband, wife, partner, boyfriend, or girlfriend. Here are the minimum eligibility requirements for EVP: - An Australian citizen, a permanent resident or a holder of a protected special category visa residing in the country - 18 years and above - Currently experiencing financial hardship and have not availed EVP in the last year. - Has plans to flee, has changed residences, or has been left by the partner within the last three months because of abuse Additionally, the applicant must have plans to leave the relationship or have already broken up with their abuser. The team handling the case may request documentation as proof of eligibility on behalf of the DSS. These strict requirements have received backlash from advocates, as [less than half of those applying for the emergency assistance have been granted](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-05-02/domestic-violence-payment-5000-dollars-eligibility-rejected/103797212). ## How to Apply for EVP for Domestic Violence Survivors Survivors wishing to apply for EVP should visit the Uniting page [here](https://www.unitingvictas.org.au/services/family-services/family-violence-services/escaping-violence-payment/) and complete the online form. You will need a photo identification and your Medicare Card for the application. For help with the application process, contact the EVP customer hotline at **1800 387 387 (1800 EVP EVP)**. ## Other Types of Government Support Available: If you or someone you know are ineligible for EVP, don’t lose hope. There are still other assistance programs provided by the government. Ineligible individuals like those escaping a parent or guardian or another family member are redirected to other crisis payments such as Centrelink. You will find other help and support from various government agencies [here](https://www.unitingvictas.org.au/evp-client-booklet/#help). ***Further reading*:** [10 Domestic violence charities to get help in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/domestic-violence-charities-australia/) ## Preventing Domestic and Family Violence: What Can Be Done? If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, it is important to speak to someone who can help. You can call support services or access resources via a mobile app. We recommend that you talk to a specialist for advice on navigating these difficult situations. It’s essential to remain informed and ask for help. You may be able to refer to local services that provide [counselling ](https://calendly.com/d/cmks-b9f-qrk/counselling-session-clone)or financial assistance. A telephone call can be a vital first step in finding the support you need. If you feel vulnerable or afraid, don’t hesitate to reach out; there’s no shame in seeking help. You can send in tips to law enforcement authorities to let them know about what you know. They’re here to help. ### Conclusion: Domestic Violence Payments Anyone can be affected by domestic abuse. Thankfully, there are available resources provided by the Australian government to empower us to take the next step toward safety and recovery. Escaping Violence Payment is one way to help survivors of abuse improve their finances and leave a toxic romantic relationship. Although the amount is not huge, the $5000 payment can assist survivors start over. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/domestic-violence-payment-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/domestic-violence-payment-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Separation, Money --- ### [Best online chat tools for staying in touch with loved ones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-online-chat-tools-during-isolation/) **Published:** March 2, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** In today’s fast-paced world, it can be challenging to stay in touch with our loved ones. Whether it’s because of distance, busy schedules, or other commitments, it’s easy to feel disconnected from the people we care about. However, technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected, no matter where we are in the world. Online chat tools, in particular, have become increasingly popular for staying in touch with loved ones. There are many different online chat tools available, from messaging apps to video conferencing platforms, and each has its unique features and benefits. In this article, we will explore some of the best online chat tools for staying in touch with loved ones. Whether you want to send a quick message, have a group video call, or share photos and videos, these tools can help you feel closer to the people you care about. We will discuss the features and benefits of each tool, as well as any potential drawbacks or limitations. We will also provide tips for getting the most out of each tool and staying connected with your loved ones, no matter where you are in the world. Whether you’re a tech-savvy millennial or a baby boomer just getting started with online communication, there is a tool for you. So let’s dive in and explore the best online chat tools for staying in touch with loved ones. ***Related reading: [How to move interstate as a co-parent.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-relocate-interstate-as-a-coparent/)*** ## WHAT TO CONSIDER CHOOSING AN ONLINE CHAT TOOL ### Features The features of the chat tool will determine what you can do with it. Some chat tools only offer basic messaging, while others allow for video calls, file sharing, screen sharing, and more. Consider what features you need and choose a tool that offers them. ### User interface A user-friendly interface can make the chat tool more accessible and easy to use. Look for a tool with a clean and intuitive interface that makes it easy to navigate and find the features you need. ### Compatibility Check the compatibility of the chat tool with your devices and operating system. Some tools may not work on certain devices or require specific software to function properly. ### Security Security is essential when it comes to online communication. Look for a chat tool that uses encryption to protect your messages and data from hackers and other security threats. ### User base The user base of the chat tool can impact its functionality and popularity. Look for a tool with a large user base, as it will likely have more features and be easier to connect with your contacts. ### Pricing While many online chat tools are free, some may require a subscription or premium features that come at a cost. Consider your budget and choose a tool that fits your financial needs. ## BEST ONLINE CHAT TOOLS FOR STAYING IN TOUCH WITH LOVED ONES ### [FACETIME](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/facetime/id1110145091) [Facetime](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/facetime/id1110145091) is the go-to video chat app for iOS users. It’s pre-installed in iPhones, it’s free, and works great most of the time if you have a strong connection. Facetime lets you online chat with up to 32 people from anywhere in the world over cellular data, but it works best for one-on-one calls or a small group. Probably the best thing about Facetime is the HD quality video calls (up to 720p on Macs). The image is crystal clear compared to similar apps, especially if you have a strong WiFi connection. And even if Facetime isn’t running, you still receive incoming calls without opening the app. [![Best Online Tools for Quarantine | FaceTime | Beanstalk Mums](https://support.apple.com/library/content/dam/edam/applecare/images/en_US/iOS/ios13-ipad-pro-iphone-xs-facetime-hero.jpg)](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/facetime/id1110145091) ***Cost:** Free over Wifi* ***Pros:** Easy to use, invite up to 32 people, lots of fun features, high definition video* ***Cons:** Requires an Apple device, works best for one-to-one calls* ***You will love this app if:** You’re an iOS user who wants an easy-to-use app to check in on kids, parents and grandparents.* ### [WHEREBY](https://whereby.com/) [Whereby](https://whereby.com/) is a professional collaboration tool that lets you setup meetings with team members easily. It’s geared towards professionals and businesses instead of families, with highly-rated audio calls, video conferencing and muting features. The app also supports polls, scheduling and annotations. One of Whereby’s best features is that guests don’t need to download or sign in. They can connect right away and start chatting. Whereby is an excellent communication tool if you work mostly on the computer. [![Whereby](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/y5YQwncUFZZR0PAbtjyETE0tPC4c8lcIqVJ-vIF6YOQqZh1dSNT40T1rScfBepLOQgs=w1208-h805-rw)](https://whereby.com/) ***Cost:** Free option (limited functionality), paid version starts at $6.99 (pro) and $9.99/month (business)* ***Pros:** Easy to use, guests don’t need to download or install software, video conferencing is done via web browser* ***Cons:** No app version, can join other groups/calls by mistake* ***You will love this app if:** You are a small business owner or professional connecting with clients and partners.* ### [ZOOM ONLINE CHAT](https://zoom.us/download) You’ve probably used [Zoom](https://zoom.us/download) for work. It’s the top video conferencing tool right now mainly because you can invite up to a hundred people for meetings and classes. It’s already the go-to video app for professionals working at home during the quarantine. If you’re a teacher stuck at home, Zoom is perfect for connecting with your students. The premium version lets you chat with 500 people–great for virtual seminars, conferences and TED-like talks. Setting up Zoom is easy if you know your way around Skype and similar apps. You can also customise your screen with fun backgrounds and effects and choose the popular grid layout. [![Zoom | Beanstalk Mums](https://is3-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Purple123/v4/b5/3d/9e/b53d9e91-6ce7-acc6-20d8-d822544ce364/pr_source.png/300x0w.jpg)](https://zoom.us/download) ***Cost:** Free version available, Zoom Pro $14.99/month, Zoom Business $19.99/month* ***Pros:** Invite up to 500 people (paid version), screen sharing, record meetings* ***Cons:** App can be hard to use and navigate in the beginning, free 40-minute call limit can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You work from home or you’re already familiar with video conferencing tools.* ### [BOOYAH](https://www.appsdrop.com/booyah-video-chat-whatsapp/) [Booyah](https://www.appsdrop.com/booyah-video-chat-whatsapp/) is a video chat app similar to Facetime but is designed specifically for WhatsApp, the popular instant messaging app for Android. The fact that WhatsApp doesn’t have a video conferencing feature and that you need to install another extension to enable that is a huge drag. But if you already have WhatsApp and you need video chat, definitely get Booyah. You can add contacts from WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and more. Simply send a link to invite up to 12 people for the video chat. No need for guests to sign up. [![Booyah Group Video Chat](https://cdn-www.bluestacks.com/bs-images/Booyah-1.jpg)](https://www.appsdrop.com/booyah-video-chat-whatsapp/) ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Invite contacts from other apps like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat* ***Cons:** Designed for WhatsApp on Android* ***You will love this app if:** You’re a WhatsApp user.* ### [AIRTIME](https://www.airtime.com/) Ever wanted to share a cool video with your friend while you’re on video chat? [Airtime](https://www.airtime.com/) lets you do that and more. You can chat and watch movies, TV shows and YouTube, listen to music and share photos. Plus, you can create private rooms and party rooms for different people, as well as customising your screen with animated stickers. Airtime lets you chat with up to 10 people at the same time. It’s a fun way to connect with friends and family during isolation, but not ideal for younger kids without supervision. Overall, the app is easy to use and set up, and it’s completely free. Just remember that the app collects a ton of information about you based on what you share with others. [![Airtime](https://is3-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Purple113/v4/fe/a6/b9/fea6b9dd-56b4-adf9-2e59-6d8f9d6ae0bd/pr_source.png/300x0w.jpg)](https://www.airtime.com/) ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Fun, easy to use and set up, great for teens and young adults* ***Cons:** Not ideal for young kids, privacy policy could be improved* ***You will love this app if:** You have teens and young adults who want a fun video chat tool.* ## Best online chat tools (cont.) ### [BUNCH ONLINE CHAT TOOL](https://bunch.live/) Like Houseparty, [Bunch](https://bunch.live/) combines video chatting with games and Snapchat-like filters to make virtual huddles a fun experience. The user interface pops with colour and there’s a lot of filters/animations that you can use to customise your screen. The games are fun and range from easy peasy to super difficult. There’s a drawing game similar to Pictionary, a billiards game and a trivia game. You can also play third party games like Fortnite, Roblox and Minecraft. Pro tip: Installing the games on your first go can eat up a lot of time. Skip this process if you only want straight video online chat. [![Bunch](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/faT_sX7J6b0apey_S6GQqGxLlSL5t6ZK8wk1P6YZQJ2c9QB9vdKVyuIxOX6cwsMEMjs=w1208-h805-rw)](https://bunch.live/) ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Fun games and video chat for the younger crowd* ***Cons:** Installing games can take a while* ***You will love this app if:** You’re a gamer or you have kids who love games.* ### [GOOGLE HANGOUT (Now Google Chat)](https://hangouts.google.com/) If you’re already using Gmail (and who isn’t), give [Google Hangout](https://hangouts.google.com/) a try. It’s accessible from your email and easy to use even if you’re new to video conferencing. Just go to the Google Hangout page and invite people directly from your contact list. It’s best to open a pop out window for chatting instead of having the conference from your inbox as people can see your email messages. The quality of calls is far from exceptional, and it’s very noticeable if you have poor to average broadband connectivity. You can also get dropped randomly from large group chats. When this happens you have to reconnect manually as it won’t add you back in. While not perfect, Google Hangout is extremely easy to use even for the tech averse, and you can start chatting with family, friends or colleagues in seconds. [![Best Online Tools for Quarantine | Google Hangout | Beanstalk Mums](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/bHrwV6XHVlKvSCi82rECje380b2I94Ka3Wn-sEQoK5Eze_iKDDxIQtQXhZGI7hFr__LeDC1SLDs=w640-h400-e365)](https://hangouts.google.com/) ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Easy to use and accessible for Gmail users* ***Cons:** No grid layout, users report connectivity issues, you can get randomly dropped from large group chats* ***You will love this app if:** You already have a Gmail account and want an accessible chat/video tool.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-online-chat-tools-during-isolation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/best-online-chat-tools-during-isolation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** COVID-19, pandemic, isolation, Coronavirus, outbreak, houseparty, video, webcam --- ### [How to download text messages from your phone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/download-text-messages/) **Published:** July 3, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about how to download text messages was last updated in 2022.*** It’s a wonder how we managed without text messaging! We use it daily for literally *everything*. Since texting it is such a popular form of communication, there may be times you need to share a message thread with a third party. A common reason is to prove abuse, or if you are seeking conflict resolution. So, short of taking a million screenshots, how can you download text messages to share or print? Here are some apps that will obligingly do the job for you. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Some co-parenting apps will also allow you to do this, see this article for more details: [9 Best co-parenting apps for shared parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/). ## How to download text messages from your phone ### [IMAZING](https://imazing.com/) iMazing is a file manager app that lets you download text messages from your phone and so much more. This popular software supports safe transfer of music, documents, photos and other data from your iPhone and iOS devices. Save, export and even print your text, MMS, iMessages and attachments with iMazing. You can also access messages from your Mac or PC and use them for court proceedings. [![Imazing | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://imazing.com/img/visual/main/messages.jpg)](https://imazing.com/) ***Works on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** $49.99 (3 devices) to $44.99 (unlimited)* ***Pros:** All-in-one file manager, save messages as PDF, Excel/CSV and txt and print* ***Cons:** Can be pricey* ### [KEEPSTER](https://keepster.co/) Keepster is another handy app to download text messages from your phone and devices. This ‘messaging bank’ saves and organises your messages, chats and texts. Easily backup your favourite messages or save everything, then sort them into folders. It’s easy to find the messages you want with the date and keyword filter. Super useful when you have thousands of messages on your iPhone! [![Download Text Images | Keepster | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://keepster-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/var/www/production_backend/public/ckeditor_assets/pictures/77/content_keepster-messages-group_chat_2x-min.jpg)](https://keepster.co/) ***Works on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free with in-app purchases* ***Pros:** Lets you organise messages from different devices into folders, search filters for messages, turn your messages into a printed book* ***Cons:** Messages cannot be exported to a new device or computer.* ### [COPYTRANS](https://www.copytrans.net/) Back up your messages and entire iTunes library with CopyTrans. Simply download, install and start transferring messages, contacts, calendars, notes, music, videos, bookmarks and other files in a single click. The basic version is completely free, but the number of files you can download is limited. Still very useful if you need to urgently backup messages for use in court. [![Copytrans | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ctp-main-interface.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.copytrans.net/) ***Works on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** Free basic version with in-app purchases* ***Pros:** One-click backup for your messages and other files* ***Cons:** You have to pay to download more than 100 files.* ### [LEGAL TEXT COLLECTOR](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.legaltextcollector&hl=en&gl=US) Need to quickly download text messages and print them out in court-friendly PDF format? Legal Text Collector is the app for you. It collects your phone’s SMS, MMS and other messaging formats (plus attachments) and organises them by conversation or date. Export the messages as a zip file with PDFs for each conversation. Paying a one-time fee lets you share the PDFs via email and online. [![Download Text Images | Legal Text Collector | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/S0aR2lF5mtjVDW19plCmqLHVEu5zJesZnqSIU4qQ19jwVjbIUmX1uDxDwKNcP1QymVY=w1082-h756)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.legaltextcollector&hl=en&gl=US) ***Works on:** Android, Windows* ***Cost:** Free basic version, $2 to unlock the Share feature* ***Pros:** Quick and easy message to PDF feature for legal proceedings* ***Cons:** Emojis can’t be exported, not a backup or restore app, you can’t transfer messages to a new device* ### [DECIPHER](https://deciphertools.com/decipher-textmessage.html) If you are looking for an app to download text messages and recover deleted messages, give Decipher a try. This powerful app works with iMessage, SMS and MMS and supports attachments. Export text messages in multiple formats and print them out for documentation. Pro tip: Before buying, read their guide and use the free trial to find out if your deleted messages can be restored. [![Decipher | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://deciphertools.com/images/screenshots/view-iphone-text-messages.png)](https://deciphertools.com/decipher-textmessage.html) ***Works on:** Apple, Android* ***Cost:** $29.99 (free trial + 30-day money back guarantee)* ***Pros:** No jail breaking required, install on unlimited devices* ***Cons:** You need to buy a separate app to download WhatsApp messages.* ## EXPORT TEXT MESSAGES FROM PHONE (CONT.) ### [IEXPLORER](https://macroplant.com/iexplorer) iExplorer is a lightweight iPhone manager that backups your data to any Mac or PC device. This is the perfect app if you are looking to save storage space and need lightning fast file transfers (up to 70x faster than similar apps). The SMS client feature works with group messages, images and message attachments. No need to jail break your device. [![Download Text Images | Iexplorer | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://assets.macroplant.com/images/feature_images/attachments/45/d822c417288bdaea2180d4f163bb0628cda6feea/Device-Overview-PC-medium.jpg?1491936478)](https://macroplant.com/iexplorer) ***Works on:** Apple, Windows* ***Cost:** From $39* ***Pros:** Quick installation, lighweight app, fast file transfers* ***Cons:** Can be pricey if you have multiple devices* ### [PHONEVIEW](https://www.ecamm.com/mac/phoneview/) Save the data you love with Phoneview. This app lets you download text messages, including SMS, WhatsApp and iMessages. You can also access call logs and voicemail messages. Once exported as PDF files, you can print the messages directly on your Mac or PC. View messages and attachments even when your phone is not connected to your computer. [![Phoneview | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.ecamm.com/images/bg-phoneview.jpg)](https://www.ecamm.com/mac/phoneview/) ***Works on:** Apple* ***Cost:** $29.95 (free trial)* ***Pros:** Automatic backup, can download and save WhatsApp messages* ***Cons:** No Android or Windows version* ### [SMS BACKUP AND RESTORE](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.riteshsahu.SMSBackupRestore&hl=en&gl=US) For Android users with multiple devices, easily download text messages with SMS Backup and Restore. It backups all call logs, SMS and MMS messages in XML format. It supports local device backups and automatic upload to Google Drive, Dropbox or OneDrive. Pick and choose the messages you want to save or download everything in one go. You can also transfer messages to another phone via WiFi direct. [![Download Text Messages | SMS Backup and Restore | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/9BvawXTYTcKPIvyKBalXJtAcwy0t5mY5Ds8vRQ039bwiaCIratIpjxsgZl6BhMOQwW42=w1082-h756)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.riteshsahu.SMSBackupRestore&hl=en&gl=US) ***Works on:** Android* ***Cost:** Free with ads, $4.49 (Pro version)* ***Pros:** Easy file transfer between Android devices, encrypt your backups with the Pro app* ***Cons:** No iOS version* ### [i-Funbox](https://www.i-funbox.com/en/index.html) i-Funbox is a complete file management app for your Apple devices. Manage messages, photos, music, apps, games and all your files from one window. Easily export your files to another computer without jail breaking your device. i-Funbox turns your iPhone into a USB drive for file storage and fuss-free drag and drop transfer. [![i-Funbox | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.i-funbox.com/static-ifb/img/demo-en-1.png)](http://www.3u.com/) ***Works on:** Apple, Windows* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** Powerful file manager for Apple devices* ***Cons:** Problems connecting to the latest iTunes version, security concerns* ### [3uTools](http://www.3u.com/) 3uTools is a file management and jail breaking app for iOS devices. Many people use it to flash or jailbreak their devices in one click, but it also lets you download and transfer messages to another phone or computer. Plus, it can backup all data, convert photos and videos, make ringtones, install IPA files and customise the look of your iPhone. [![Download Text Images | 3uTools | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/1_arZ3GJAbFvuGD_u-WGgxOQ.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](http://www.3u.com/) ***Works on:** Apple, Windows* ***Cost:** Free* ***Pros:** File management and jailbreak tool in one app* ***Cons:** Does not work on devices that are activation locked.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/texts.png "texts - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/download-text-messages/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/download-text-messages/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** document, proof, prove --- ### [Supercharging your self esteem after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/) **Published:** July 2, 2020 **Author:** Holly **Content:** Maybe you have been there … You believe you have failed at life. You feel fluffy and frumpy and are frozen in time with little sense of how to move forward. The dissolution of your marriage happened slowly with a gradual loss of your true self and your identity to please your spouse. Your self-esteem has never been lower. Now that you are single, it’s time to get your mojo back so you can build a life that you are excited to get up to everyday. The question is: How do you go about building self-esteem after divorce? ## Supercharge Self Esteem After Divorce ### ADDRESS YOUR THOUGHTS Begin by addressing your thinking. Divorce is not failure; it is transition. When you chose your spouse, you were a different person. You have since learned a lot about yourself and life and these new lessons are a gift from the past. You have outgrown the person you were when you are married, and likely your spouse in the process. Changing the internal dialogue is an important part of building your self-confidence. Instead of thinking of yourself as a: > *“Pushover or doormat”* How about change it to: > *“I made a choice to sacrifice what I wanted to make someone else happy”?* Or instead of : > *“I’m too fat”* The new dialogue is: > *“I worked out three times this week”?* ### ACCEPT YOUR PATH You must allow yourself to [grieve your relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/) and what you have lost in order to move on. There were positive parts to the marriage and they deserve acknowledgment and gratitude. You might miss the comfort of a companion at social events. You may miss shared social events with other couples. Your children would not be here today if you had not chosen your spouse. You have learned hard won lessons about life and love that will impact your future choices. Give yourself the gift of compassion. Feel it, accept the hurt, nurture yourself. Then get busy and look for the lesson or gift. Here are some ideas on how to do this: - Notice small acts of love and kindness around you and tell yourself that you deserve them. - Find a nurturing support group or a therapist. My support group was a lifesaving part of my recovery. They reached out regularly, reminded me of who I was and held me in warm regard when I was hurting. - Take small risks to build your self-esteem like reaching out to make new friends, trying a new hobby or get a new hairstyle. - Take notes about the good things people say about you and get them out when you are having hard days and need a boost. ### LET YOURSELF HEAL This is a big phase of building self-esteem after divorce. > *“Do not distract yourself with dating until you have healed.”* Take time to examine your wounds and let them breathe. It’s okay to have days where you miss your ex or your past life but recognise that feeling those things and doing something to show your feelings are two different things. Texting him because [you are lonely](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) might create havoc in your relationship as co-parents. Badmouthing him when you are angry to his friends or family may create drama for your children or rifts in the relationships you have. Pause, breathe, and allow yourself to heal. - Work out regularly. This helps you feel more in control of your situation and feel better about your body. The endorphins released with exercise help improve your mood and a side benefit is better sleep. - Get support for building self esteem after divorce Ask for help with your kids, take time for yourself, lean on your friends. I have never felt more loved than I did during my divorce. My friends came out of the woodwork. - Address your baggage. What did you bring to the marriage that needs to be owned? What did you learn that needs to be unpacked? Delay dating again until you have finished this step. This will help you feel more empowered and have clarity about your future choices. - Reclaim the parts of your identity that you gave up for your spouse. In relationship it is easy to give up on your own personal interests or ignore important whisperings about growth to keep peace. - Think of three things you did each day to make yourself proud and write them in a journal. Revisit this when you are feeling low. - Try something new each week that you did not think you could do. I installed a smart thermostat in my home and was so proud of myself. It is amazing what you can learn from YouTube. - Do something for someone else in need. You become grateful for your own situation and feel good about giving back. ### FINAL WORD ABOUT BUILDING SELF ESTEEM AFTER DIVORCE The benefits of taking the time to heal your self esteem are enormous. You model confidence and healthy decision making for your children. You create a future for yourself that is in alignment with your true self. You begin to feel a sense of purpose about your life that allows you to move into gratitude and growth instead of living in angry victimhood. Best of all, you wake up with excitement to start each day and live it to the fullest. ![How to supercharge your self esteem after divorce | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Self-esteem-after-divorce.png "Self esteem after divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Healing **Tags:** acceptance, self care, self love, confidence --- ### [How to co-parent with a passive aggressive ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coparent-passive-aggressive-ex/) **Published:** August 11, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Passive-aggressive behaviour can make co-parenting feel like a nightmare. This hidden hostility creates constant tension and makes communication difficult, impacting both you and your kids. Instead of dealing with problems directly, passive-aggression leads to confusion and frustration. Worry not! I created this guide to help you deal with a passive-aggressive co-parent while putting your children’s well-being first. Ready to turn those subtle jabs into a cohesive parenting plan? Let’s get started! ## **What is passive-aggressive behaviour?** Passive-aggressive behaviour is when someone expresses negative feelings indirectly instead of openly. This might look like giving backhanded compliments, making snide remarks, procrastinating on purpose, or being stubborn without saying why. It’s a way of showing anger or frustration without actually saying it. ## **10 Tips to co-parent with a passive aggressive ex** ## **How do you deal with a passive-aggressive co-parent?** So, how do you co-parent with a [passive-aggressive ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/coparent-passive-aggressive-ex-2/)? One of the most effective means of dealing with passive-aggressive behaviour is to simply ignore and pretend you don’t notice – if it doesn’t noticeably bother you, the behaviour loses its power. But this isn’t always possible when you are co-parents and there are children affected, so here are some strategies to help save your sanity. ## **1. Recognise the signs** Passive aggressiveness can be subtle, but once you spot it, it’s hard to miss. Look for patterns like backhanded compliments, sarcastic remarks, silent treatment, or intentional procrastination. Your ex might say things like, “Sure, I’ll pick up the kids if you think it’s best for them to miss their extracurricular activities,” or they may “forget” important dates. Pay attention to these signs and how you react to them. Being aware of these tactics helps you stay prepared and manage your responses effectively. ## **2. Choose your battles** When [co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/) with a passive-aggressive ex-spouse, it’s important to choose your battles wisely. Not every issue is worth the stress and conflict. Focus on what truly matters for your children’s well-being and stability. Let go of minor irritations and inconveniences to maintain a more peaceful relationship. For instance, if your former partner makes a snide remark, it might be better to ignore it rather than engage in an argument. Save your energy for addressing major issues that directly impact your kids, like education, health, and overall care. Prioritise the big picture to reduce unnecessary tension. ![co-parent with a passive-aggressive ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/bdbce659-7435-4856-9226-8b67866edc46_20240805_221718_0000-1066x800.jpg "bdbce659-7435-4856-9226-8b67866edc46_20240805_221718_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **3. Remain unemotional** Sometimes, dealing with a passive-aggressive person is like resolving a kid’s tantrum. When your ex-partner acts passive-aggressively, don’t take the bait. Showing anger or frustration only shifts the focus away from the real issue. Stay calm and communicate clearly and openly about your feelings without getting emotional. Model the behaviour you want to see from your co-parent—be direct, honest, calm, clear, and respectful—even if they don’t do the same. To keep your cool, take deep breaths, wait before responding to emails or messages, let calls go to voicemail, or remove yourself from the situation if needed. ## **4. Call it out** When there’s a problem, say so. Point out the hostile behaviour and explain how it harms your parental responsibilities. Be specific about what your ex-spouse says or does that’s upsetting. Understand that calling out the behaviour might not stop it and could even make it worse. Only do this if you feel safe and there’s no risk of abuse or violence. ## **Strategies for dealing with a passive aggressive co-parent(cont.)** ## **5. Seek support** Your situation can be incredibly challenging and isolating, so it’s essential to seek support. Surround yourself with friends and family who understand your situation and can offer advice, a listening ear, or a shoulder to lean on. Consider joining a support group for co-parents or those dealing with similar issues. Hearing from others who have been through the same struggles can be incredibly validating and helpful. Talking to a therapist can also provide professional guidance and coping strategies tailored to your needs. Talking through your challenges with someone who understands can provide much-needed relief and perspective. ## **6. Put it in writing** Keep your co-parent informed in writing about the kids’ needs, plans, and activities to avoid confusion. Have a detailed parenting plan with clear pickup/drop-off times and holiday arrangements, including contingencies for illness or changes. Use neutral locations for pickups and drop-offs, like school or a grandparent’s house, to prevent delays. Ensure all other caregivers are aware of and follow these arrangements. I have found shared calendars or parenting[ app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2019/) to be invaluable for this kinds of scenarios. ## **7. Effective communication** Stick to the facts, avoid emotional triggers, and keep your exchanges as straightforward as possible. Avoid vague language or emotional responses, as these can be misinterpreted or used against you. Instead of saying, “I feel like you never support my decisions,” try, “I need confirmation that you’ll pick up the kids at 5 PM on Friday.” Clear communication reduces misunderstandings and minimises opportunities for passive-aggressive behaviour to fester. While assertive communication isn’t aggressive, your ex might perceive it that way, especially if they’re not used to it. If conversations become too stressful or harmful to your mental health, switch to written communication like texts or emails. This not only helps you maintain a calm and clear tone but also gives you time to craft your responses thoughtfully. ## **8. Establish boundaries and stick to them** Set rock solid boundaries, state the consequences, and follow through. Clearly define what’s acceptable and what’s not, and stick to your guns. If your co-parent insists on veering off course, gently but firmly guide the conversation back to the set boundaries. For instance, if they start making passive-aggressive remarks, remind them of the purpose of the conversation – the well-being of your children. If this behaviour happens in front of the children, say, “This is not OK for the kids. I’ll remove them from this situation and explain why it’s unacceptable.” Then, walk or drive away, close the door, or hang up to enforce your boundaries. ## **9. Be the bigger person (even when it’s hard)** Don’t [badmouth your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/bad-mouthing-to-kids/). Yes, it’s tempting to fight fire with fire, but that often leads to more flames. Being the bigger person means handling situations with maturity and composure, even when the behaviour of your co-parent is challenging. Keep in mind that one parent should remain calm and reasonable for your kids’ sake. Responding to passive-aggressiveness with patience and maturity can help defuse tense situations. It also sets a positive example for your kids on how to handle conflict gracefully. ## **10. Opt out** Passive-aggressive exes can make co-parenting impossible. If this is your reality, consider a[ parallel](https://www.reflectcoaching.com.au/reflectblog/2019/8/30/parallel-parenting-what-is-it-and-how-do-you-do-it) parenting model where you have indirect contact with each other. If you’ve done all you can, allow yourself to step back and focus on yourself and your children. When dealing with a passive-aggressive ex-partner and co-parent, you need to unhook from the power struggle. Learn to deal with your own fear of conflict or need to please. Passive aggression in a co-parenting relationship is harmful to your kids. Call it out if it’s safe for you to do so and control what you can – your own behaviour. Remember, remain calm. Set firm boundaries and consistently enforce them. Respond rather than react. Communicate clearly, concisely and assertively. Break the cycle by creating a healthier pattern for your family. ## **Summary: How to deal with a passive-aggressive ex** So, if you find yourself dealing with an ex who could moonlight as a master of passive aggression, first, take a deep breath. Second, know that you’re not alone in this. Remember why you’re doing this. Don’t forget that you want to ensure your children have the best possible upbringing, despite the circumstances. Keeping this goal in mind can help you stay motivated and patient, even on the toughest days. With a little strategy, a bucketful of patience, and a lot of humour, you can navigate this tricky terrain like a pro. ![10 Tips to co-parent with a passive aggressive ex | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Coparenting-passive-aggressive-ex.png "Coparenting passive aggressive ex - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coparent-passive-aggressive-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coparent-passive-aggressive-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** boundaries, communication with ex, toxic ex, arguments, changeover, handover --- ### [10 Tips on how to get and stay motivated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/get-motivated-instant/) **Published:** August 11, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Motivation … It can be as elusive as the television remote. And, once found, it can all too easily slip away again. That’s why as a crazy-busy single mum, it’s essential to have a few instant inspiration-inducing ideas to hand. What we need are motivational “hits”. Blasts of motivation with immediate effect. However tired, busy or stressed we are, we must conjure up motivation like magic, so we can enthusiastically focus on the task at hand. Have you lost your go-getting attitude? Has your drive to succeed driven off? Don’t despair. Staying motivated isn’t always easy. But these simple, yet effective tricks will have you enthused and energised, one goal at a time. ## **10 Tips to get motivated** ## **1. Find your power pose** The first thing to do when your motivation levels are low – find your power pose. How does your body language make you feel? Are you supporting a ‘worn down’ look with your shoulders hunched and your head hung low? If so, it’s time to strike a power pose. Stand (or sit) proudly with your shoulders back and your head held high. Act like you mean business and the rest of you will follow suit. ## **2. Boost your motivation by eating chocolate (yay!)** Diet plays a huge part in how we feel. The foods we consume are our fuel. It’s easier to get motivated when your tummy is full and happy. Food affects our mental performance, energy levels, and ability to focus.[ Pick The Brain](http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/foods-for-mental-energy-and-focus/) suggests motivational munchies such as dark chocolate, blueberries, eggs, and nuts. So snack sensibly. Oh, and remember to drink plenty of water. You can’t get motivated when you’re dehydrated. Staying hydrated will make you feel awake, alert, and generally happier. For information on energising health supplements see:[ Energy boosting secrets for tired mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/energy-boosting-secrets-tired-mums/). ## **3. Go green** You may be surprised to discover we are motivated by certain colours. According to[ Motivational Maps](http://motivationalmaps.typepad.com/motivational_memos/2010/01/the-three-colours-of-motivation.html), green is the most motivational colour of all, with blue and red hot on its tail. Whenever I don’t feel like finishing my tasks, I wear a bright colour. Just looking at the mirror already gets me motivated. You can try it, too! Incorporate some green into your day. Make a green smoothie. Take a walk in a green park. Or wear green clothes. Throw in some red and blue to create a motivational rainbow. ## **4. Take a power shower** If you are feeling sluggish, it’s extremely hard to feel motivated. Whatever time of the day, if you have a spare ten minutes, hop in the shower for an instant refresh. That short break will wash away your procrastination and negativity. Regroup, revamp, and emerge as a new woman. It can even help if you clean your teeth. The fresher you feel, the more likely you are to tackle your tasks. ## **5. Quick, write a list to stay on track** Lack of motivation can be caused by having too much to do. Single mums like to multi-task, yet it’s not always the way forward. If you find yourself doing bits of lots of tasks but never completing any, your motivation will nose-dive mode. Make a to-do list and work through it systematically. Each time you complete a task, cross it off. Doing this will help you achieve your goals in no time! Plus, you’ll get a great sense of achievement which will spur you on. See the [ “You’ve Got This” Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) for more ideas around time-chunking and multi-tasking for the busy single mother. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/e24559c7-a2a7-471f-8bc5-843c35bc320b_20240807_131633_0000-1066x800.jpg "e24559c7-a2a7-471f-8bc5-843c35bc320b_20240807_131633_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Tips not to lose motivation** ## **6. See it and believe it** It’s easy to lose sight of the reason why you’re doing a particular task. Overcome this obstacle by trying to visualise the end result. This can be as simple as imagining how gorgeous your house will look once you’ve cleaned it. Or imagine how gorgeous you will look (and feel) once you’ve been to the gym or completed your[ home workout](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/). Keeping the end result in the forefront of your mind will help keep you motivated. And eliminate negative thoughts! ## **7. Extrinsic motivation** There are two types of motivation. Intrinsic motivation comes from within, and extrinsic motivation comes from outside. It comes in the form of rewards or bonuses. How do we get our kids to do things? We bribe them of course! And why do we do it? Because it works! And it works with us too. A reward drives us to make more efforts to finish our tasks. Promise yourself a treat when you’ve finished a task. Not only will you get it done, but you’ll do it quicker. Just a coffee and biscuit when you’ve done the ironing is enough. You’ll become super-productive, and you most definitely deserve it. ## **8. Phone a friend** If self-motivation is failing you, bring a close friend or family member into the equation. Calling someone you trust can help whenever you’re feeling depressed. Just make sure you choose someone encouraging and enthusiastic. Just voicing how you feel and getting good motivational advice is enough to get you off the starting block. Choose your motivator wisely though. Find motivation from positive people goes a long way. Don’t call the friend who will suggest you meet up for a drink and do your task later … however lovely they may be. ## **9. Play some tunes if you lack motivation** It’s a proven scientific fact that music makes us feel inspired and the[ power of sound](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/boost-your-mood-with-the-power-of-sound/) can have a massive positive impact on your life. Whether it’s your typical power tracks or tunes that have motivational meaning to you, make sure they’re always on hand. Stick your headphones in and double your motivational drive in an instant. And feel free to sing and dance along, as a lack of physical movement can lead to procrastination. We don’t want that! ## **10. Find a mantra to stay motivated** If you don’t have a mantra, now is the time to get one. If you can’t think of something original, here is a[ list of mantras](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) I made earlier. Just a sentence or two that inspires you. Write it out and stick it on the fridge or screen-save it to your phone or computer. Repeat it under your breath or shout it from the rooftops. It may seem mad, but this simple action maximises your motivation. ![get motivated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/39c78ac5-5aba-43bb-bcf5-8e4668646f7b_20240807_131709_0000-1066x800.jpg "39c78ac5-5aba-43bb-bcf5-8e4668646f7b_20240807_131709_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Bonus tips when it’s hard to be motivated** ## **Avoid things that make you feel unmotivated (Bye negative motivation!)** Getting started on tasks can be tough, especially when you don’t feel motivated. Lack of motivation doesn’t only come from within, but it also comes from your surroundings. Avoid things that drain your energy, like negative people or cluttered spaces. Limit social media if it makes you feel inadequate. Set small, clear, and achievable goals when things get tough. Surround yourself with supportive friends who lift you up. Upon doing this, you’ll feel more positive and you’ll get things done quickly. After I eliminated all the negativity in my life, I was able to create a happier environment for my kids. ## **Have a routine to get motivated** Start your day with a simple plan. Wake up at the same time, have a healthy breakfast, and set small goals for the day. The purpose of a routine is to create a sense of control and achievement. Include some “me time” in your routine, even if it’s just 10 minutes of quiet or a quick walk. Based on my experience, breaking tasks into smaller steps makes them more manageable. Doing so also makes it easier to get back on track. ## **Why is motivation important?** Motivation is important because it drives you to work towards your set goals despite life’s challenges. It helps you wake up early, juggle work, and manage your kids’ needs simultaneously. When you’re not feeling motivated, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and exhausted. But when you stay motivated, you set a positive example for your kids. Motivation helps you tackle obstacles and reach your goals, whether you’re trying to get a promotion, providing a better life for your family, or simply maintaining your well-being. It reminds you why you’re striving so hard even when things don’t go as planned. Staying motivated means constantly reminding yourself of your worth and the bright future you’re building for your children. ## **Summary: Ways to get motivated** Motivation is what drives us. And staying motivated may not always be easy, but it’s entirely possible with the right approach. Remember, your motivation directly impacts your family’s well-being. There may be times when feel like you’re not getting anything done. But keep in mind that you don’t always have to focus on your long-term goals. Start taking small steps toward achievable goals and celebrating each success. Seek support from other single mums or support groups. Sharing experiences can provide encouragement and help build your motivation and energy. Whenever I need motivation, I practice positive self-talk. I focus on my strengths and achievements rather than my setbacks. Don’t forget that your mental state matters most. So take it one day at a time. Each day is an opportunity to make progress. Following the tips above will help you maintain motivation to manage your responsibilities efficiently. You’re doing an amazing job, and someday everything you want to achieve for you and your kids will be yours. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/How-to-get-motivated.png "How to get motivated - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/get-motivated-instant/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/get-motivated-instant/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** motivation, depression, mantras, inspiration, energy, tired, depressed --- ### [Ultimate Guide to Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Medication in Menopause](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hrt-medication/) **Published:** August 11, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ah, menopause! Just when you thought you had life all figured out, along comes this charming phase to shake things up. As a single mum navigating this journey myself, I understand how overwhelming it can be. Between managing work, raising kids, and trying to remember where you put your car keys, dealing with menopause symptoms can feel like the last straw. I’m not a medical expert, but I’ve been there, and I’ve seen firsthand how HRT, also known as Hormone Replacement Therapy, can make a significant difference. [When hot flushes and night sweats](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-symptoms/) disrupted my life, taking HRT was a game-changer. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution, but with the right information and support, it can be incredibly effective. Let’s explore what HRT is all about and how it might help you regain control and feel more like yourself again. ## Understanding Menopause and Its Symptoms Menopause is when our periods decide to call it quits. Before that, there’s perimenopause (early menopause) — the bumpy transition where hormonal changes trigger irregular periods, hot flashes, and mood swings. This phase can last several years as our estrogen levels fluctuate. It’s a natural part of ageing, marking the end of our reproductive years. Menopause usually happens between 45 and 55 years of age, but everyone’s body has its own schedule. Symptoms of menopause can range from hot flashes that make you feel like a human volcano to mood swings that rival a teenager’s. There are also night sweats, sleep disturbances, and even a bit of brain fog. It’s like puberty in reverse but with more wisdom and better taste in music. Hormonal changes can make you feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster. One minute, you’re laughing; the next, you’re crying over a TV commercial. Between night sweats and general hormonal upheaval, getting a good night’s sleep can become a challenge. Finding your keys in the fridge? Forgetting why you walked into a room? Welcome to brain fog, where your memory plays hide and seek. Thinning hair, dry skin, and weight gain, especially around the middle, are also part of the package. ## Benefits of Hormone Replacement Therapy Different forms of HRT can be a game-changer for many women. It helps alleviate those pesky menopause symptoms by replacing the oestrogen and progesterone your body is no longer producing. With renewed levels of estrogen, it can reduce symptoms such as hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings. You might even get your groove back with improved sleep and a boost in energy. The medication helps minimise the risk of osteoporosis by maintaining bone density. This is particularly important post-menopause as bone loss accelerates. Some studies suggest the therapy may reduce the risk of heart disease when started early in the menopausal transition. It can help alleviate symptoms such as vaginal dryness, itching, and discomfort during sex, making intimacy more enjoyable. Furthermore, women with type 2 diabetes could see positive effects by incorporating estrogen therapy, as it has the potential to enhance insulin sensitivity and glucose metabolism. This could lead to better management of blood sugar levels and overall health. ![hrt medication](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/IN-ARTICLE-images-34.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Risks and Side Effects of HRT You’ve probably heard that [hormone replacement poses the risk of cancer](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/hormone-replacement-therapy) and a myriad of other side effects. While it helps reduce menopausal symptoms, like anything in life, this medication isn’t without its downsides. Some women may experience bloating, feeling like they’ve eaten an entire pizza when they haven’t. Persistent headaches can be a side effect for some women. Breast tenderness similar to what some women experience before their periods can also occur. Some women find themselves feeling intense period-like cramps due to changes in the lining of the uterus. There’s an increased risk of breast cancer, blood clots, and stroke, particularly with long-term use. In short, risk increases the longer you use it. Breast cancer risk may increase unless hormone replacement is started within ten years from the onset of menopause. It’s all about balancing the risk factors and finding what’s right for you. While it’s normal to experience side effects when you take hormones, your healthcare provider will help weigh the risks and benefits based on your individual health profile. ## Types of HRT There are a few different types of hormone replacement therapy, each tailored to different needs: 1. **Estrogen-only**: ideal for women who’ve had a hysterectomy. This is the solo act of the hormone world. 2. **Combined estrogen and progesterone:** for those who still have their uterus. The combo of estrogen and progestogen may help lessen the risk of developing endometrial cancer (cancer of the lining of the uterus). Combination therapy is the dynamic duo you didn’t know you needed. 3. **Bioidentical hormones:** chemically identical to the hormones your body produces. Some swear by them for being more “natural,” but it’s best to discuss them with your doctor to see if they’re right for you. Each type comes in various forms – tablets, patches, gels, creams, and even vaginal rings. Which of these has fewer side effects depends on individual circumstances. The choice depends on your preferences, medical history, and how your body responds. Speak to your doctor to help you decide whether this is a suitable way to treat menopausal symptoms. ## How to Determine if HRT Medication is Right for You Deciding on hormone therapy is a bit like deciding if you need that extra slice of cake. Listen to your body, weigh the pros and cons, and talk to your healthcare provider. Evaluate your symptoms and consider how severe they are and whether they are affecting your daily life and well-being. Discuss your personal and family medical history with your doctor, including any history of breast cancer, heart disease, stroke, or blood clots in the past, as HRT may increase your risk of developing these. Consider your lifestyle and how medication might fit into it. Are you open to taking a daily tablet, or would a patch or gel be more convenient? Explore other options like lifestyle changes, dietary adjustments, and alternative therapies. Sometimes, a combination approach works best. ## Finding a Healthcare Provider for HRT Finding the right healthcare provider is crucial. Look for someone who listens, respects your concerns, and is knowledgeable about menopause and the medication. Ask for recommendations from friends, family, or other single mums who have gone through menopause. Look for reviews and testimonials online. Websites like Health Direct and the [Australasian Menopause Society](https://www.menopause.org.au/) can be helpful. Don’t be afraid to book a few consultations. Think of it like dating – you want someone who gets you and supports you through this phase of life. Ensure your provider is someone you feel comfortable talking to about all aspects of your health. ## The Process of Starting HRT Once you’ve decided to give HRT a go, your healthcare provider will guide you through the process. Your doctor will take a detailed medical history and possibly conduct a physical examination. Blood tests might be needed to check hormone levels and assess your overall health. Based on your symptoms and health profile, your doctor will recommend the type and form that’s best for you. It’s often best to kickstart the procedure with a low dose and adjust as needed. This helps your body acclimate and minimises side effects. Regular check-ups are essential to monitor your progress and make any necessary adjustments. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/IN-ARTICLE-images-35.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Managing and Monitoring HRT Beginning HRT is the easy part. Regular check-ups with your healthcare provider are essential to monitor how you’re doing. Schedule regular follow-ups to discuss how you’re feeling and any side effects you might be experiencing. Your doctor might adjust your dosage or switch you to a different type of treatment if necessary. Keep a symptom diary and note any changes in your symptoms, mood, and overall well-being. This helps your doctor make informed decisions about your treatment. Incorporate healthy habits like a balanced diet, regular exercise, and stress management techniques. These can enhance its benefits and improve your overall quality of life. I remember when my friend Sarah started the treatments. She was having such intense hot flashes that her kids started calling her “The Dragon.” We would laugh about it over coffee, but it was no joke for her. After trying the treatment, she noticed a significant reduction in her symptoms within a few weeks. The hot flashes decreased, and she was finally able to get a full night’s sleep. Sarah felt like she had her life back and could enjoy her time with her children without constantly feeling like she was on fire. The improvements in her mood and energy levels were a bonus, and she found herself more engaged and active in her daily life. On a more personal note, when I began experiencing the joys of menopause, I found myself waking up drenched in sweat every night. My energy levels plummeted, and I felt like I was constantly running on empty. After discussing with my healthcare provider, we decided HRT was worth a try. The first few weeks were a bit of a roller coaster as we adjusted the dosage, but soon enough, the night sweats and mood swings became more manageable. I could finally sleep through the night and wake up feeling somewhat refreshed. It wasn’t a magic cure-all, but it made a noticeable difference in my quality of life. ## Conclusion: hormone replacement therapy for menopause Navigating menopause and HRT can feel like uncharted territory, but you’re not alone. With the right information and support, you can make the best decisions for your health and well-being. Remember to laugh, stay curious, and take care of yourself. After all, you’ve got a lot of living and loving left to do. Cheers to thriving in this new chapter! The years of menopause are a natural part of life, and with the right tools and support, you can navigate it with grace and strength. Whether you choose HRT or another approach, the most important thing is that you feel empowered and supported in your choices. You’ve got this, and we’re here cheering you on every step of the way. ## Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) ### What is the difference between oestrogen and estrogen? Estrogen and oestrogen are two terms used interchangeably to refer to the primary female sex hormone that plays a crucial role in the menstrual cycle and reproductive system. ### What is the difference between MHT and HRT? Menopausal Hormone Therapy is actually a more precise term, specifically referring to hormone therapy for menopausal symptoms. MHT is the most effective treatment for menopause. HRT, on the other hand, is a broader term that includes hormone treatments for various conditions, not just menopause. ### What is testosterone-based HRT? Testosterone-based HRT is helpful, particularly for women dealing with symptoms like low libido or fatigue that aren’t fully addressed by estrogen alone. While it’s less commonly discussed, testosterone can play an important role in overall hormonal balance. It’s usually prescribed in conjunction with other hormones and can come in forms like gels or patches. ### What is tibolone? Tibolone is a type of hormone replacement medication that can be a great option for managing menopause symptoms. It’s a synthetic hormone that mimics estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone, helping to alleviate hot flashes and mood swings and even improve bone health. While tibolone can be effective in managing menopause symptoms, it does come with potential side effects. Some women may experience weight gain, abdominal pain, breast tenderness, or headaches. It can also slightly increase the risk of stroke and breast cancer with long-term use. It is sold under the brand name Livial (among others). ### Are there alternative ways to manage your menopausal symptoms? You can take estrogen pills or on your skin as a patch as a common treatment for menopause. But managing menopausal symptoms in a ‘natural’ manner is definitely possible. Embracing a healthy lifestyle is key. Non-hormonal medications and therapies, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), can also help manage menopausal symptoms. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hrt-medication/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/hrt-medication/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [The Best Synthetic and Human Hair Wigs in Australia (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/best-hair-wigs-australia/) **Published:** July 30, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## From Static to Stunning: How Hair Wigs Can Transform Your Look! Tired of your everyday look and want to transform it into something stunning and head-turning? Look no further than hair wigs! Wigs have come a long way from being considered purely functional to becoming stylish accessories that can completely change your look. Whether you want to experiment with a different hair colour, add length, or try a new hairstyle, wigs offer an easy and versatile solution. They are available in various colours, lengths, and designs to suit every preference and occasion. Gone are the days of static and uninspiring wigs. With advancements in technology, modern wigs are now made with high-quality materials that mimic the look and feel of natural hair. You can achieve a seamless and undetectable look that enhances your natural beauty. Join us as we explore the world of wigs and discover how they can transform your look from static to stunning. Get ready to embrace a new level of confidence and style with the help of these fabulous hair accessories. ## Synthetic vs. human hair wigs Choosing between human hair and synthetic wigs can feel like a dilemma, but let’s break it down, mum-to-mum. Synthetic wigs are like the trusty ready-to-wear option in your wardrobe. They come pre-styled, so you can just plop them on and go. Perfect for those mornings when the kids are slow, but life isn’t! They hold their shape even after a wash, which is a bonus. However, synthetic can sometimes look a bit too shiny, and if you’re planning on heating, forget it. They’re priced around $50 to $200 in Australia, making them a budget-friendly choice. On the flip side, human hair wigs are the high-maintenance bestie who always looks fab. They can be fixed just like your natural hair, which means you can straighten, wave, or colour them. They offer a more natural look and feel, blending seamlessly with your own hair. The downside? They require the same care as your own hair and can be quite pricey, averaging between $200 to $2,000 in Australia. But hey, if you’re ready to splurge a bit for that perfect look, they’re totally worth it. Whichever you choose, you should check out monofilament wigs, where hair is hand-tied or knotted to the scalp. Mono tops offer a natural-looking alternative for those looking to find the perfect wig. With endless options in textures and styles to choose from, these wigs provide a real choice in hair coverings. Whether you prefer a wavy style or a beautiful long wig, there are plenty of styling options to suit your preferences. Additionally, with options such as a hand-tied monofilament top or lace front caps, these wigs are a quality guarantee. ## From hair loss to perfect hair: benefits of wigs Wearing wigs can be a real game-changer for us single mums, not just for those who lose their hair. Imagine not having to wrestle with bad hair days or spend hours in front of the mirror. With a wig, you can have fabulous hair in minutes, even if you’ve just rolled out of bed after a sleepless night. One of the biggest perks is the versatility. You can switch up your look as often as you like without committing to a permanent change. Feel like going blonde today and brunette tomorrow? No worries! Wigs let you experiment with different looks minus the damage that comes from constant dyeing and styling. Speaking of styling, think about the cost. A trip to the hairdresser in Australia can easily set you back $250 or more. Compare that to some real hair wigs available for as little as $350, and it’s a no-brainer. You’re not just saving money in the long run, but also precious time. Plus, wigs can be a confidence booster. Whether you’re dealing with hair loss or simply want to enhance your look, a good wig can make you feel like a million bucks. It’s all about finding what makes you feel comfortable and gorgeous, without the hassle. So why not give it a go? You might just find your new favourite accessory. ## How to choose the right hair wig for your face shape Choosing the right wig for your face shape can feel like finding the perfect pair of jeans—tricky but oh-so-rewarding when you get it right. As single mums, we need all the shortcuts we can get, and knowing your face shape is the first step to finding that flawless wig. For round faces, aim for wigs that add height at the crown. This helps to elongate your face. Long, layered ‘dos work wonders here. If your face is more oval and petite, lucky you! Most wig hairstyles will suit you, so feel free to experiment with bobs, waves, or long and sleek looks. Square faces benefit from silky, curly wigs that can soften strong jawlines. If you have a heart-shaped face, opt for wigs with volume around the jawline to balance out a wider forehead. I remember the first time I bought a lace front wig. I didn’t think about my face shape at all and ended up with a hairdo that made me look like I was auditioning for an ’80s rock music video. Goodbye, femininity and dignity! After some trial and error, I found that soft waves suited my heart-shaped face perfectly. It made a world of difference, and I felt more confident instantly. Take a good look in the mirror, figure out your face shape, and choose a wig that complements it. You’ll feel like you’ve unlocked a secret beauty trick, saving time and looking like a glamorous muse while doing it. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/805635a5cd5bfc7b1a546ce4b9fec844346760751ede13e0bf219075d87d8fcd?ts=1722284431) ## Tips for maintaining and caring for your hair wig Maintaining and caring for your wig doesn’t have to be a chore, even for us busy single mums. With a few simple tips, you can keep your wig looking fabulous for longer. First off, always detangle your wig before washing it. Use a wide-tooth comb or your fingers to gently work out any knots. When it’s time to wash, opt for lukewarm water and a wig-friendly shampoo. Gently swish your wig in the water and avoid rubbing or twisting it. Conditioning is key, especially for real human hair wigs. Use a conditioner specifically designed for wigs and apply it from the mid-lengths to the ends, avoiding the roots to prevent build-up. After rinsing, pat your wig dry with a towel. Don’t wring it out! Let it air dry on a wig stand to maintain its shape. Styling your wig is where the fun comes in. For synthetic wigs, stick to low-heat tools or, better yet, no heat at all. Human hair wigs can handle more, but always use a heat protectant. When not wearing your wig, store it on a wig stand or in its original packaging to keep it from getting tangled or dusty. I remember once leaving my wig on the bathroom counter, only to have my curious cat think it was her new toy. Lesson learned! Keeping it stored properly saves you from unnecessary headaches. ## Different styles and colours of hair wigs Exploring different designs and colours of hair pieces can be like stepping into a candy store. There’s just so many different colours to choose from! Whether you’re after a sleek bob, beachy waves, or long, flowing locks, there’s a wig out there to match your aesthetic and mood. Short hairstyles, like pixies and bobs, are fantastic for a fresh, low-maintenance look. They’re easy to care for and perfect for the warmer Australian climate. If you’re after something more glamorous, long wigs can give you that extra bit of drama and elegance. Curly wigs can add volume and bounce, while straight hairdos offer a classic, polished appearance. Sensational colours are where you can really have fun. You might stick to shades close to your own hair for a subtle change or go bold with vibrant reds, deep blues, or even pastel pinks. Blonde wigs can give you that sun-kissed glow, while rich brunettes and jet blacks can offer a sophisticated, timeless look. For those of us who love to mix things up without the commitment, ombre and highlighted wigs are brilliant. They add dimension and depth, making your hair look full and dynamic. No matter your preference, wigs provide an exciting way to reinvent yourself. You can match your hair to your outfit, mood, or even the season. ## How to properly wear and style your hair wig Wearing and styling a wig can feel a bit daunting at first, but with a few tips, you’ll be a pro in no time. Start by making sure your hair is neatly tucked away. For short hair, a wig cap works wonders. If you have longer locks, try braiding or pinning them flat against your head before putting on the cap. When putting on your wig, start at the front and work your way back. Adjust it so it sits comfortably and securely on your head. Most wigs come with adjustable straps inside to help with a snug fit. Once it’s on, take a moment to adjust the hairline and parting to look natural. Styling your wig is where you can really make it your own. For synthetic wigs, a spritz of water and gentle finger combing can revive the design. Human hair wigs add more flexibility. You can use heat tools like straighteners or curling irons, just like with your hair. Remember to use a heat protectant to keep the hair in good condition. If you want to change up the look, try different accessories. A collection of hats, headbands, scarves, turbans, and clips can add a personal touch. If you’re going for a more polished look, a bit of wig-specific styling cream can help tame any flyaways and add shine. Practising these steps will soon make wearing and styling your wig second nature. With a little time and care, you’ll feel confident and fabulous, ready to tackle whatever the day throws your way. ![](https://neuroncdn.com/cdn-0001/67d878746036f8a601efc7a77034a3e338ad065ff2f98cff9a57b85717c80452?ts=1722284381) ## Hair wig accessories and styling tools Wig accessories and styling tools can be a lifesaver for busy single mums looking to keep their wigs looking fabulous. A good wig stand is a must-have. It keeps your wig in shape and ready to wear, saving you time in the morning. When it comes to securing your wig, wig caps are a game-changer. They help keep your hair in place and provide a smooth surface for your wig to sit on. For those days when you want to switch things up, a collection of headbands, scarves, and clips can add a touch of personal flair to your wig. These accessories are perfect for adding a pop of colour or hiding a less-than-perfect hair day. Styling tools designed specifically for wigs make a big difference. Wig brushes and combs are gentler on the fibres, preventing unnecessary damage. If you have a synthetic wig, a spray bottle filled with water can help refresh the look without any fuss. For human hair wigs, a good heat protectant spray is essential if you’re using styling tools like curling irons or straighteners. Just like your own hair, wigs can lose their silky feel due to improper care. Don’t forget about wig-specific shampoos and conditioners. They keep your wig looking and feeling its best. A little TLC goes a long way in maintaining the wig’s shine and texture. Having the right accessories and tools makes wearing and styling your wig easier and more enjoyable. It’s all about finding what works for you and making your wig routine as simple and stress-free as possible. (If you have other tips you’d love to share, feel free to contact us and stay connected!) ## Where to buy the highest quality hair wigs in Australia ### Online Building a perfect high-quality wig collection doesn’t have to be a hassle, even with a busy schedule. Online stores are a fantastic starting point to find best sellers and unique ‘dos. For the highest quality fashion-forward styles, [Ellen Wille wigs](https://www.ellenwille.com) has European designed headwear products made with quality human hair. With options like mono part by Ellen Wille or the HI by Ellen Wille, you can match your skin tone effortlessly. They also have a range of European designed headwear, including a German exclusive collection for that top-grade workmanship we know. For those who prefer a human hair topper, there are plenty of natural fiber options to choose from as well. Plus, with free delivery and Afterpay, Ellen Will wigs is hard to beat. Their customer care is also exceptionally strong. Additionally, websites like Wigs.com, WigOutlet, and Australian stores like Wigs Online, Wigged Out, Wigs Australia, and [Oh My Pretty](http://ohmyprettywig.pxf.io/75N2jY) offer a wide range of headwear products made to provide women with a real choice, with detailed descriptions and customer reviews to help guide your choice. Sometimes they offer free shipping too. ![Oh my pretty hair wig](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/320-100.jpeg "Oh my pretty wig - Beanstalk Mums") ### In-person If you prefer seeing wigs in person, many cities have specialty wig shops that offer unmatched personalised service. These stores often let you try on different hairstyles and get expert advice on what suits your face shape and needs. Stores like The Wig Studio and Rydges Wigs can provide quality products and that hands-on experience, helping you find the perfect fit. I personally adore Milk and Honey! I’m still in love with the human hair lace front wig my daughter got for prom last year. They have a wide range of human hair wigs and toppers that make customers feel beautiful. Discover classics and try on the most outrageous looks here. For those looking for a more tailored approach, consider visiting a local hair salon that specialises in wigs. They can offer customised solutions and may even help with fitting and adjustments to find your perfect look. You can see if a lace front or sleek mono-parting works for you. No matter where you decide to shop, quality is key. Look for stores or brands that are known for their good reputation and customer service. Investing in a high-quality wig will not only enhance your look but also save you time and effort in the long run. ## Conclusion: Embrace your new look with confidence In the end, wigs are a fantastic way for single mums to refresh their look and boost their confidence without the stress of constant hairstyling or maintenance. Whether you choose a synthetic wig for its convenience or a human hair wig for its versatility, there’s an option to suit various styles and budgets. With the right wig, you can enjoy a new hairstyle every day, save time and money on salon visits, and embrace a new level of confidence out of normality. Why not take the leap and explore the world of wigs? You deserve to have perfect hair effortlessly. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/best-hair-wigs-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/appearance-grooming/best-hair-wigs-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Beauty **Tags:** self care, beauty, hair styles --- ### [Dating someone with kids: New relationship tips post-divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-with-kids/) **Published:** July 30, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you remember the heady days of dating before you had kids? When the biggest worry was what perfume to wear and how much cleavage to show? Well, scratch all that. If you are dating with kids, it’s a whole new game. Most likely, you never thought you’d be in this position. Dating is all part of the preamble to settling down and having kids, not something you do after the kid bit. You’d be forgiven for feeling a bit out of sync. Like someone dropped the pieces of your life and put them back in the wrong order. You are not alone. So many women are breaking free of unhappy relationships, embracing the single mother life, and tentatively hitting the dating scene on the hunt for Mr. Right-This-Time. If you’re ready to meet someone new, or you already have, here are things you should know about dating as a single mum. Further reading:[ 6 Tips to find reliable babysitters for your children. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/six-ways-to-seek-out-the-perfect-babysitter/) ## **What you need to know before dating with kids (and dating someone with kids)** ## **It’s complicated** Dating the first time around was all about looks and lust. Do I fancy him? I wonder if he shaves his chest? Wow, he’s got a cute smile. Now, it’s about so much more than that. The questions you might ask yourself are: Does his work schedule work around mine? When does he have his kids? Does he have a criminal record? Will he be happy only having sex once every two weeks when we get a night together? There is a lot more to consider when it comes to dating with children. But try to let it flow and worry about the practicalities later. ## **The criteria are more complex** Whereas once your dream date criteria might have included things like broad shoulders, dark eyes and a jawline to die for, it will now be quite different. You might now be more interested in a man who can fix things around the house, is good with kids, and is cool with you running late as your toddler puked in your hair. Add this to what you are attracted to physically in a man, and you’ve considerably narrowed down your search. ## **You have kids, don’t forget** Putting your kids first may seem obvious now as you prepare for your debut in the dating world. Yet, if you meet a man and hit it off, it is all-consuming. Kids? What kids? Of course, you want to be a good mum. But sending cheeky text messages when you are spending quality family time is a big no-no. If you meet a man who doesn’t get this, that’s a big red flag right there. ## **Timing is everything when dating with kids** You need to be absolutely sure you are[ ready to start dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ready-to-start-dating-again/). This means you can juggle work and home life around your busy schedule and still have spare time to date. Plus, your kids are in a good place in their lives and it’s okay if Mum takes her eye off the ball every now and then. Trying to date when you don’t have time will be stressful, upsetting for your children, and frustrating for all those men who fall for you! ![Dating with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/1000013003-1066x800.jpg "1000013003 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **How to be in a relationship with someone who has kids** ## **You are not the only one dating with kids** Even if dating with kids still feels weird to you, heaps of people dating have children. In fact, some women won’t date a man unless he has children. Kids may be a common interest that can bond you to a potential date. You both ‘get’ single parenting and can even share notes. Don’t feel that having kids will hold you back; they may even make you a more attractive package. ## **You have to handle the letdowns** Dating these days will expose you to some hideous human behaviour that many already accept as the norm. For example, [you may be ghosted](https://singlemamaway.com.au/unlock-practical-ways-to-overcome-ghosting/). This means you meet a guy, things go well, you find yourself envisioning a future together, and then BAM … he disappears. No explanation, nothing. Stuff like this can make you want to take to your bed for a week, but as a mum, you can’t. You have to carry on as normal. If you’re not strong enough for this, you are not ready to have a new person in your life. ## **You are being watched** As parents, we are role models for our children every day. This doesn’t stop when you start dating. Be that mum who is confident and happy when she goes on a date rather than nervous and insecure. Be that mum who knows what she wants from a date and won’t settle for anything less. Don’t let your children see you being treated badly by anyone. Show your children what dating should look like, and make sure you set a good example. ## **It’s okay to date with kids** There is a stigma around single mummas dating. I mean, what is up with that?! But no matter how pissed you are, the wisest thing to do is ignore it. If you’re ready to date again, don’t mind other people and just go for it. Your children might find it odd to start. But in time, they will get used to it and want to see Mum with someone who makes her happy, especially if they get on with him. Don’t feel bad about dating. You have a life to live; enjoy it! ## **Tips for dating as a single mum (cont.)** ## **Forget the spontaneity** You can forget the spontaneity of dating pre-kids. Lazy mornings, impromptu sex, and last-minute romantic breaks just ’cause you could. Dating with kids requires planning and communication … and not just with you and your man. Organising a night out together means getting the kids involved (both his and yours); plus the babysitters and even your exes. Accept that it’s the way it is now and if you’re really into each other, you’ll manage. Further reading:[ My kids can’t stand my new man, now what?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/kids-cant-stand-my-new-man/) ## **Don’t forget to look for red flags** Like any other relationship, you won’t always meet ideal potential partners. Before having this new partner meet the kids, it’s crucial to know them well first. You don’t want to date someone shady. Don’t be mesmerised by sweet, flowery words. Do some background checks as well. We want to be sure that our children are safe around this new person. ## **You will need online dating** You may have scoffed at[ online dat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia-2/)ing in the past, but as a single parent dating with kids, it’s a godsend. Viewing, texting, and chatting can all be done from the comfort of your couch. In fact, you can find out so much about a guy before you leave your house, that it’s almost reversed the whole dating process. For us crazy-busy single mamas, this is marvellous. Check his dating profile from home and only spend your precious time meeting him if you think he’s a keeper. Note: The dating app[ eHarmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) even has a video date feature where you can video chat before meeting without sharing your Zoom, Skype or Facebook details. ## **What about sleepovers?** Everyone has their own views as to when it’s okay to sleep with a guy. But the decision is taken out of your hands when you are dating with kids. Imagine it’s date No.3, and you’re desperate to rip his clothes off and dive into bed .. but wait .. the kids are asleep upstairs. It’s not cool for kids to see Mum sleeping with lots of men or with a man they have never met. But look on the bright side: Keeping the suspense going longer is fun, and it will be all the more enjoyable than you wangle yourselves a kid-free night. ![Dating with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/1000013002-1066x800.jpg "1000013002 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **It’s hard to take off your Mum hat** Being a single parent is all-consuming. We are in Mum mode 24/7 and it can be hard to switch out of it. If you find yourselves discussing the merits of reusable nappies on a first date, you’ve gone off course and need to change tact. Turn off your ‘mum thoughts’ and focus on the man in front of you. ## **Respect privacy for yourself and your kids** Never let a guy know where you live until you are 100% sure about him, but this is even more important with kids. Be careful not to share any private information early on, such as where your kids go to school or any routines that you have. Don’t discuss money or go into detail about your ex. You just never know how this information could be used in a way that is detrimental to your family. There are some lovely guys out there, but there are also some headcases. Stay safe, be careful and have fun. Here are some helpful tips to guide you safely on your way:[ 12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/). ## **Cons of dating someone with kids** Dating someone with kids can also be disappointing at times. Your plans often revolve around their schedules, so your time together is limited. Alone time is rare, and it’s difficult to get lovey-dovey with your partner’s kids around. I once planned a romantic weekend at his place but only found myself knee-deep in Legos! The co-parent (also known as “the ex”) is another complicated factor to consider. Most of all, winning the kids’ approval can be tough, and you’ll never know when they’ll finally accept you. ## **Summary: What single mothers need to know before dating someone with kids** I have learned first-hand that dating as a woman with kids requires patience and flexibility. Experiencing new love may be rewarding, but it demands a lot of understanding and compromise. Before putting yourself out there, let your kids know so they know what to expect. Never rush things, no matter how much you adore your new love interest. It’s also important to wait a while before acting as a couple in front of the kids. If you really want to revive your dating life, use my tips above as your guide, and you’re good to go! Finally, follow your heart and be happy! You deserve it more than anyone! ![Dating with kids | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Dating-with-kids-1.png "Dating with kids - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-with-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/dating-with-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, stigma, dating with kids --- ### [The Rise of Low Demand Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/low-demand-parenting/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Low-demand parenting allows adopting a gentler, more flexible approach to raising children. It’s not about abandoning rules but prioritising what truly matters and letting go of the rest. As a single mum juggling many responsibilities, I’ve naturally leaned into this style. It means fewer battles over minor things like tidy rooms or perfect meals and more focus on ensuring my kids feel loved, heard, and safe. The environment and activities must ensure kids can explore and make mistakes without constant correction. Sometimes, this means letting them choose their own clothes, even if it means a tutu over jeans. Other times, it’s recognising that a meltdown might need a hug more than a timeout. “Low-demand parenting” is about picking our battles and nurturing a harmonious home. Our kids won’t remember if the laundry was always done on time, but they will remember the love and laughter we shared. Ready to embrace a radically respectful and joy-filled relationship with your kids? Let’s dive in. ## The Shift in Parenting Styles Have you noticed the shift in parenting styles lately? As a society, we collectively break free from traditional parenting techniques to something more flexible and nurturing. As a single mum, this style of parenting allows you to drop demands and the change is a breath of fresh air. Instead of stressing over every detail, like perfectly clean rooms or rigid schedules, I focus on our kids’ happiness and well-being. This new approach isn’t about giving up on rules, but is based on trust. For me, it means embracing the beautiful chaos of our lives. This shift has brought more laughter and less stress into our home. My kids are thriving, feeling more confident and secure, and I’ve found a new level of peace and joy in parenting. ## Research and Studies on Low Demand Parenting Studies suggest that to reduce the perception of demands foster greater emotional resilience in children. By allowing them to explore and make decisions while setting clear boundaries or expectations, kids develop stronger problem-solving skills and a deeper sense of self-confidence. This approach also promotes healthier parent-child relationships with less stress and more open communication. However, like any parenting style, there are challenges. Critics argue that too much freedom without enough structure could lead to children feeling adrift. Enabling the equilibrium between freedom and guidance is crucial to ensuring kids feel secure while exploring their independence. Research also shows that while reducing demands encourages creativity and emotional intelligence, it may not suit every child or whole family dynamic. Some children thrive while still maintaining appropriate boundaries and structured routines, and it’s important to respect individual differences. Low-demand parenting can be particularly effective for neurodivergent children, including kids with profile of autism. For Amanda Diekman – parent coach and author, an autistic adult, and a leader of the movement for low demand parenting – this approach recognizes the unique needs and preferences of these children. By dropping demands that may overwhelm autistic children, parents can create a more supportive and loving environment. Amanda’s book, “Low-demand Parenting,” is a must-read for any parent looking to break free from conventional parenting styles. It’s a valuable resource for creating a nurturing home for neurodivergent children. For autistic children, classic parenting methods with strict routines and high expectations can often lead to increased anxiety levels. This is especially true for children with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA profile) characterized by an extreme avoidance of everyday demands and expectations. Living life with low demands helps keep anxiety levels to a minimum and provide a sense of control to children. ![The Rise of Low Demand Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Untitled-design-10.png "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Effects of Low Demand Parenting on Children This approach can have amazing benefits. Research from the Australian Institute of Family Studies shows that children raised in low-pressure environments often develop stronger emotional resilience and better stress management skills. By allowing our kids to explore, make mistakes, and learn at their own pace, we’re helping them build confidence and independence. Personally, I’ve seen my own kids flourish with this style. They’re more self-assured and less anxious because they know it’s okay to be themselves. Studies also suggest that children in low-demand households tend to have stronger problem-solving skills and better social interactions. This is likely because they’re not constantly worried about meeting high expectations and instead feel free to navigate challenges in their own way. Of course, this doesn’t mean there are no rules or boundaries. It’s about striking a balance and focusing on what truly matters: our kids’ emotional well-being and happiness. ## Benefits of Low Demand Parenting Practices Parenting styles that encourage radical acceptance can help the family thrive. A heartfelt journey of acceptance is a beautiful thing to share as a family. One major perk is that it fosters a more peaceful home environment. Without the constant pressure to be perfect, our kids (and us mums!) can breathe easier and enjoy each day more. Another great benefit is that it encourages creativity and independence. When we’re not micromanaging every move, our kids get the freedom to think outside the box and solve problems in their own unique ways. I’ve noticed that this approach also strengthens the parent-child bond. When we let go of rigid expectations that are making family life impossible and embrace the joyful freedom of living life, our kids feel more valued and understood. This builds trust and makes our relationships deeper and more meaningful. Plus, it helps our kids develop better emotional intelligence and give them the tools to love you right. By allowing them to express their feelings without fear of constant correction, they learn to understand and manage their emotions more effectively. ## Criticisms and Misconceptions One major criticism is that this approach is seen as permissive parenting. Some think it means letting kids run wild without any rules or consequences. But that’s a big misconception. Low-demand parenting is about choosing our battles and focusing on the big picture, not abandoning structure entirely. It’s about creating a supportive environment for your child and gives her/him a chance to learn and grow without constant pressure. Another misconception is that it will make kids lazy or irresponsible. In reality, this approach encourages independence and self-motivation. By allowing children to take more control over their choices, we’re helping them develop critical life skills and confidence. They learn to make decisions, solve problems, and understand the consequences of their actions. Given all the discipline oriented approaches that confront parents and caregivers, there’s a concern that this parenting style might not prepare kids for the real world. However, by fostering resilience and emotional intelligence, we’re equipping them with tools to navigate life’s challenges. Kids raised this way often have strong problem-solving abilities and healthy coping mechanisms because they’ve been given the space to figure things out on their own. ## Challenges of Low Demand Parenting While it’s a wonderful approach, low-demand parenting has its hurdles. One big challenge is finding the right balance, especially with older kids used to more structure. Shifting to a low-demand style can be confusing for them at first. They might test boundaries more or feel uncertain about the new freedom. It’s essential to communicate clearly and set some consistent, reasonable limits to help them adjust. Starting young can also be tricky. Little ones thrive on routine, and without it, things can quickly become chaotic. For example, toddlers need structure to feel secure, so blending low-demand principles with a bit of routine is key. This might mean allowing more playtime freedom while still maintaining a consistent bedtime. Another challenge is dealing with outside opinions. Friends, family, and even strangers might question your approach, thinking it’s too lenient. It’s important to stay confident in your parenting choices and remember that you know your kids best. Despite these challenges, the rewards are well worth it. With patience and a bit of trial and error, you can create a nurturing environment where children can thrive and be celebrated. Remember, it’s all about finding what works best for your family. ![The Rise of Low Demand Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-23.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Tips for Practising Low Demand Parenting If you’re thinking about giving low demand parenting a go, here are some tips to help you along the way. First, start small. You don’t need to overhaul everything at once. Begin by letting go of one or two non-essential rules and see how it feels. For example, let your kids choose their own outfits or decide what they want for breakfast. This can be a great way to ease into a more relaxed approach. Next, focus on the positives. Celebrate your kids’ individuality and encourage their creativity. If they want to build a fort in the living room or paint the sidewalk with chalk, go for it! Embracing these moments helps them feel valued and understood. It’s also crucial to maintain some structure. While it is about flexibility, kids still need some routine to feel secure. Establish consistent bedtimes or mealtimes, but be open to occasional changes. Balance is key for parents who wish to foster a joy-filled relationship with their kids. Lastly, trust yourself and your kids. It’s easy to second-guess your choices, especially when others have different opinions. Remember, you know your kids best. Give them the space to grow and learn at their own pace, and trust that you’re doing a great job. ### More Practical Tips for Parents of Neurodivergent Children Here are additional tips for finding a connection with your uniquely wired child: - **Simplify Routines:** Break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps, use declarative language, and allow extra time for transitions. For example, instead of a strict bedtime routine, provide a range of activities that can help your child wind down, letting them choose what feels most comfortable. - **Offer Choices:** Give your child options to increase their sense of control. This can be as simple as letting them choose what to wear or what activity to do next. For a PDA child, framing requests as choices can significantly reduce resistance. - **Build an Environment That Feels Safe:** Ensure your child has a designated area where they can retreat when feeling overwhelmed. This safe space can be filled with comforting items and sensory tools that help in restoring calm. - **Use Visual Supports:** Visual schedules and social stories can help autistic children understand and anticipate daily activities without feeling pressured. These tools provide a clear and consistent way to communicate expectations while allowing for flexibility. - **Encourage Self-Expression:** Allow your child to express their feelings and needs without fear of judgment. This can involve using alternative communication methods such as sign language, picture exchange systems, or technology aids. You should also allow children to lead in their play and activities. ## The Role of Communication Communication with our kids is key. When we involve them in decisions and explain the reasons behind our choices, they feel respected and empowered. Whether it’s discussing why bedtime might be a bit later on weekends or letting them have a say in family activities, open dialogue builds trust and strengthens our bond. Equally important is communication with their other parent or caregivers. Consistency is essential in any parenting approach, and keeping everyone on the same page ensures a unified front. Sharing expectations and discussing any adjustments helps create a supportive environment where kids know what to expect. Beyond our immediate family, communicating with extended family, friends, and even educators can impact our parenting journey. Sharing our parenting philosophy can help others understand and respect our choices, even if they differ from theirs. Ultimately, effective communication lays the groundwork for a harmonious home where everyone feels heard and valued. It’s about building a supportive network and navigating challenges together, creating a nurturing environment where our kids can thrive. ## Conclusion: Is Low-Demand Parenting Right for You? The beauty of parenting is that there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Low-demand parenting allows you to drop the demands and expectations but will still involve setting clear boundaries. It approach offers a gentle, flexible approach that can bring more peace and joy into your home. It’s about focusing on what truly matters—love, connection, and supporting your child’s growth without unnecessary pressure. Reflect on your family dynamics and values. Are you drawn to fostering independence and creativity in your kids? Do you believe in nurturing strong, trusting relationships through open communication? These are core elements that could align beautifully with your parenting philosophy. At the same time, consider the challenges. Are you prepared to navigate the balance between freedom and structure, adapting to your child’s evolving needs? Are you comfortable explaining and sometimes defending your parenting choices to others who may have different views? Remember, parenting is a journey of learning and growth. Whether you choose low-demand parenting or another style, what matters most is that it feels right for you and your family. Trust your instincts, embrace the moments of joy and challenge, and know that you’re doing your best every day. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/low-demand-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/low-demand-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** parenting style, conflict free --- ### [Master your sleep hygiene: 10 Proven tips to sleep better and improve sleep quality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-improve-sleep-quality/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you dream of skipping out of bed with a smile on your face? Or is getting a good night’s sleep a lost cause, relegated to the carefree BC (before children) days? Improved sleep quality doesn’t need to be the privilege of a lucky few. We all need it; we can’t cope without it, and we are of little use to our children or ourselves if we are lurching from one latte to another in order to function. So, if you’re clutching your pillow in desperation, take heart: there’s help out there. These tried and tested tips can help you reclaim quality me-time in the form of restful, refreshing sleep. Sounds heavenly? Keep reading. ***Further reading: [10 Sleep supplements for the best night’s sleep ever.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sleep-supplements/)*** ## **How to improve sleep quality in 10 ways** ## **Aim for quality of sleep, not quantity of sleep** If you’re seriously sleep-deprived or even feeling a little fuzzy, the problem is not the amount of sleep but the quality. A few hours of restful sleep is better than 8 hours full of sleep disruptions. Factors like eating too soon before bed, light or noise disturbance, and room temperature could be interrupting your sleep at night. Ear plugs, sleep masks, and eye covers are a quick fix. ## **Boost your melatonin naturally** Melatonin is a hormone that regulates sleep-wake cycles. You can boost your production of melatonin naturally by reducing exposure to artificial light in the evening. I know that as soon as the children are tucked up, we dive onto our screens to send an email, finally finish that report, or check our Facebook feed. Don’t! Have a cut-off time and be strict with yourself. Any WiFi activity or blue light from computers, mobiles or TV screens sends a wake-up call to our brains and bodies. Exactly the opposite of what we should be doing. That said, there are also some great[ insomnia apps](http://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sleep/top-insomnia-iphone-android-apps) that help you get a healthy sleep. ## **Fall asleep faster with proper sleep habits** Sadly, there’s no one to read us a bedtime story or tuck us in, though audiobooks could be a substitute! Yet, that doesn’t mean you can’t take time to create your own sleep schedule. Do not underestimate the power and role of sleep hygiene. Think of a warm bath with candles, followed by a pyjama shuffle around the house while switching down all the lights. It could also be a sip of chamomile tea on the sofa (in the semi-dark, of course) or opt for a few pages of light reading. ![improve sleep quality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/5e92e845-51d9-4afc-8891-b409f9abb6be_20240628_061055_0000-1066x800.jpg "Woman sleeping - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Do exercise (the right type)** [Regular exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) is great for boosting our natural serotonin levels, which contributes to quality sleep. However, practising your Jane Fonda or Beyoncé booty moves within an hour or two of bedtime can have the opposite effect. Instead, a few gentle stretches or yoga is the way to go in your PJs. Regular[ meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) will help improve the overall quality of sleep by calming your mind and body. Remember, you’re giving your brain cues for what’s to come … think “good night’s sleep, good night’s sleep.” ## **Manage your daytime activities (spend time outdoors!)** Your sleep quality can also be affected by your daytime activities. Regular exercise, ideally in the morning or early afternoon, can improve the quality of your sleep. Avoid heavy meals too close to bedtime to prevent sleep disturbances. Our bodies have their own built-in clocks, just like how our ancestors used to rely on daylight for work and rest. Today, even though we have artificial light, reconnecting with nature can still boost our sleep. For busy mums, this might seem impossible, but it’s simpler than you think. Just step outside twice a day—first thing in the morning and as you wind down in the evening. This natural light helps signal to your brain that it’s time to wake up or relax, it sets you up for a great night’s sleep without you even realising it. ## **Ways to improve sleep quality (cont.)** ## **Prioritise hours of sleep** Aim to keep to a regular bedtime. This includes weekends. Yes, it’s tempting to stay up late and enjoy ‘adult time’ until later in the night. I know these moments are rare for us single mums. But beware – it will make it harder to fall asleep by messing with your body’s natural clock. Likewise, waking up around the same time each day is important for a good night’s sleep. You may even find you no longer need the alarm or your beloved snooze button. That’s an enormous sleep improvement right there! ## **Address sleep disorders early** If you suspect you have sleep problems or disorders, such as insomnia, obstructive sleep apnea, or restless leg syndrome, it’s crucial to seek help early. Consult a healthcare professional to diagnose and treat these issues. You might need to take sleep medicine to support you with insufficient sleep. ## **Reserve your bed for sleep and sex** Train your brain to associate your bed with sleep and intimacy only. Avoid working, eating, or watching TV in bed, particularly during the daytime. By reserving your bed for sleep, you’ll strengthen the mental connection between your bed and getting good sleep. Once I stopped doing unfinished work in bed, I was able to get to sleep faster! ## **Drop the caffeine** If a soothing, warm drink is your snooze cue, make sure it’s non-caffeinated. Try switching to herbal tea or dandelion coffee – often, it’s the warmth that we’re looking for! The[ caffeine kick](http://tuftsjournal.tufts.edu/2009/03_1/professor/01/) can help us in the short term. But don’t lean on it all day because even one shot of espresso will make it harder to sleep. Likewise, a nice glass of red may bring on a warm, fuzzy feeling, but alcohol actually impairs sleep quality. Limiting your intake especially close to bedtime, will work wonders for your sweet dreams. And a hangover is certainly one less bedfellow to wake up with. ## **Understand the stages of sleep** The sleep cycle is made of different stages that help your body and mind recover and rejuvenate. These stages are Light Sleep, Deep Sleep, and Rapid Eye Movement (REM). Each night, you cycle through these stages multiple times, typically every 90 minutes. Getting enough of each stage is crucial for feeling refreshed and alert the next day. Missing out on deep or REM sleep can leave you feeling tired and groggy, even if you spend a lot of time in bed. ![Improve sleep quality](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/45bfaa12-7e21-4306-84b7-efe0c3af88b8_20240628_061013_0000-1066x800.jpg "45bfaa12-7e21-4306-84b7-efe0c3af88b8_20240628_061013_0000 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Bonus tips to master your sleep hygiene** ## **Optimise your sleep environment** Another crucial factor that causes poor sleep is your surroundings. Ensure your bedroom is cool, quiet, and dark. Invest in a comfortable pillow and mattress; you don’t have to endure that back pain anymore. Switch your synthetic bedlinen to breathable, natural fibres. Use blackout curtains or a white noise machine if necessary to help you fall asleep quickly and more peacefully. Minimise clutter! Your bedroom should be a haven, not a dumping ground or multi-media room. After doing these, I guarantee a huge improvement in your sleep quality. ## **Get out of bed if you can’t sleep** If you suffer from insomnia, there is nothing wrong with getting out of bed to break the relentless tossing and turning. Ditch the bedside clock so you don’t keep torturing yourself with glow-in-the-dark numbers. Get up, make a warm drink and do something really, really boring. Like folding laundry or tidying a pantry shelf. Something utterly mundane and repetitive. Don’t be tempted to fire up the computer. I once darned a lace tablecloth at 3 am. I know!! But after doing so, I was able to fall asleep so quickly, and the hole didn’t irritate me at brekkie! ## **Summary: How to improve your sleep** I cannot stress this enough: sleep is important – it’s when our bodies and minds rejuvenate so we’re ready to conquer the day ahead. Improving sleep quality might seem difficult, but with a few fun tweaks, you can transform your nights. Plus, it improves your overall health, which means both your physical and mental health. Start with a relaxing sleep routine to help you fall asleep faster and stay asleep at night. Remember, how well you sleep affects your daytime energy levels. If you’re dealing with obstructive sleep issues or anything that might disrupt sleep, like noisy neighbours or a snoring partner, dealing with them head-on will help you sleep better at night. Sleep deprivation is no joke and can lead to daytime sleepiness and a foggy brain. Dimming the lights, sipping some herbal tea, and letting the stress of the day melt away will give you enough quality sleep throughout the night. With consistent efforts, you’ll notice a significant improvement in your overall sleep quality and health. Wave goodbye to those restless nights and sleep problems. Sweet dreams, mumma! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-improve-sleep-quality/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/how-to-improve-sleep-quality/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** exercise, bed linen, sleep apps, sleep routine, bedtime, tired --- ### [No More Swiping: Discovering Love Without a Dating App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/meet-partner-without-dating-app/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** With the increase in dating apps, online video calling and other technology, you may be fooled into thinking that online and, in particular, dating apps are the only way to meet someone. However, let me reassure you that is not the case. You are not alone if you feel burnt out from dating and are over the apps. I am here to tell you that dating can succeed online or offline. You might be thinking: > *“If I don’t go on the apps to meet someone, am I limiting my chances and how on earth do I meet a partner?”* Firstly, no, you are not limiting your chances. Instead, I like to think of it as refining your chances. So, if you don’t enjoy online dating, don’t do it! Instead, try one of these five ideas to meet a partner without using a dating app. ***Further reading: [The 8 best dating apps for people who hate dating apps.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-for-people-who-hate-dating-apps/)*** ## Join a Meetup Group If you have not heard of [Meetup](https://www.meetup.com/), then it’s time to check it out. It is a worldwide service where you can join any group according to a category. For example, you could join a walking, photography, or social trivia group. I like the idea of Meetup because you can meet people without the pressure to “date” them. You are both simply there because you have a common interest, which is a great building block for any relationship. Not only that, but you might also make some new friends in the process. ## Get Set Up! Why not ask your friends and family to set you up? Going on a blind date can certainly be daunting, but who knows you better than your loved ones? Have a chat with your friends and family about what you are looking for in a partner and what values are important to you. Remember to ask that they don’t take offence if you don’t gel with the person they have set you up with. ## Volunteer for Causes You Care About Volunteering is a fantastic way to meet like-minded people while giving back to the community. When you volunteer, you’re surrounded by individuals who share your passions and values, which can be an excellent foundation for building connections. Whether helping out at a local animal shelter, participating in community clean-up events, or working with a charity, you’ll find that the camaraderie and shared purpose often lead to meaningful interactions. Plus, volunteering can lead to friendships and potentially spark a romantic connection with someone who shares your commitment to making a difference. ## Use an Experienced Matchmaking Service If you’re tired of the randomness of online dating or prefer a more personalized approach, consider using an [experienced matchmaking service](https://bluelabellife.com.au/). Unlike dating apps, which can sometimes feel impersonal or overwhelming, a professional matchmaking service takes the time to understand your preferences, values, and relationship goals. They use this information to connect you with potential partners who are a good match for you, both in terms of personality and long-term compatibility. This tailored approach can lead to more meaningful connections and increase the likelihood of finding a partner who aligns with your vision of a fulfilling relationship. ![without a dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/IN-ARTICLE-images-22.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Host a Stranger’s Dinner What on earth is a “stranger’s dinner”, you may be thinking. Basically, it’s a dinner party where each person invites one single person who doesn’t know any of the other guests. It’s a great way to have fun, eat and meet someone new. If you don’t fancy hosting a dinner, check online, as depending on where you live, there are dating services that run group dinner dates in local restaurants. Not only do you get to meet new people and start a possible romance, but you get a yummy dinner to boot. ## Go Speed Dating Yes, speed dating still exists! Speed dating is a great opportunity to have 3-5 minutes with a stranger and trust your gut as to whether there is a connection or not. If you are nervous, take a friend who is also looking for love and have many questions prepared to ask. Some people really do find long-lasting relationships through speed dating, so it is definitely worth a go. ***Further reading: [55 First date questions to break the ice.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/55-first-date-questions/)*** ## Be Open to Meeting Someone… ANYWHERE Know what you want and what your values are, and be open to meeting people. Accept invites to social events, especially the ones where you get to meet new people. Embrace the idea that the next person you bump into when you are out might be your next partner. It could be walking down the road, in the supermarket, the gym, even the doctor’s surgery … it might even be the doctor! The truth is, you don’t know where you will meet your next partner. So, smile and say “hi” to that stranger … it could be the most important connection you ever make. ### Conclusion Finding a partner doesn’t have to be confined to the digital realm of dating apps. While these platforms can be effective, they are not the only way to meet someone special. By exploring alternative methods like joining Meetup groups, engaging in community service, attending speed dating events, or using an experienced matchmaking service, you open yourself up to a variety of opportunities for connection. These approaches not only offer the chance to meet potential partners but also help you build meaningful relationships based on shared interests and values. Remember, the key to meeting someone new is to stay open, proactive, and engaged in activities that resonate with you. Whether you’re hosting a stranger’s dinner, volunteering, or simply striking up conversations in everyday settings, every interaction has the potential to lead to something extraordinary. Embrace the journey with confidence, knowing there are numerous pathways to finding a meaningful connection. Your next great relationship could be just around the corner. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/meet-partner-without-dating-app/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/meet-partner-without-dating-app/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** relationship, partner, find love, offline dating --- ### [7 Small Businesses You Can Start From Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/small-businesses-start-from-home/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When people think of earning a stream of income, they often opt for rented commercial spaces, managing a team, and having to plan every detail of the working space to be productive and efficient. However, things are different when planning to run a small business from the comfort of your home. These ideas do not have to involve heavy machinery or stock storage rooms and can be started with little investment. In fact, a [print-on-demand](https://www.gelato.com/au/print-on-demand) business and even a store that creates custom planners are some popular small business ideas you can try. Here are more small businesses that you can start from home. ## 1. A home bakery business If you have grown up baking cookies, muffins, and cakes, starting a bakery business can be a fantastic opportunity to capitalise on your knowledge and skills. Customisation today has become an essential part of everyone’s life, and with the limitations that a store-bought cake has, a home bakery has become a go-to spot for many. To ensure that your bakery stays at the top of its game, you can always learn how to bake more styles and include a wider variety of items in your menu. Incorporating [easy-to-use micro-bakery ovens](https://microbakery.com.au/) can help streamline your baking process and expand your offerings. You can also launch your own seasonal items made in limited quantities and available during a certain time of the day. ## 2. Creating planners with affirmations and other details Planners and affirmation diaries are becoming increasingly popular as more people get into the habit of journaling. You can use AI tools to create a template allowing users to feed in their details. You can also use Pinterest and Instagram for inspiration and research purposes. This will enable you to understand the nature of the current trending product and how you can add a touch of convenience and more features to your version. For design purposes, consider using a tool like Canva. Canva is easy to navigate and has thousands of templates you can start with. Affirmation diaries are a [great tradition to start this Christmas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/christmas-gifts-for-mums-to-give-themselves/), as they allow you to count your blessings and experience gratitude more deeply. ## 3. Print on demand business With this business model, you can bring dreams into reality, as it will allow you to print any design on any surface. These businesses are gaining popularity as they enable people to create their own merchandise without going through the process of investing in machines. Notably, you can automate your print-on-demand business. This allows more flexibility in terms of customisations and the range of white-label products that are being produced. You can niche your print-on-demand business to serve a purpose, cause, or interest. ## 4. Dropshipping If you do not have space to store inventory or manage resources, consider opting for dropshipping to start your small business. Dropshipping involves a third party producing, storing, and shipping products on your behalf. You will be required to get sales and customer service only. These businesses are on the rise as they are effortless to set up. You do not have to worry about shipping processes and inventory management. Be sure to thoroughly analyse the drop shipper you partner with to ensure their product quality is top-notch, leaving no room for complaints. ![Small businesses](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/IN-ARTICLE-images-19.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 5. Offer creative online services Running a service-based business is less hassle than running a [product-base](https://www.forbes.com/sites/melissahouston/2021/02/25/how-to-build-a-successful-product-based-business-told-by-the-experts/?sh=7375c6346850)d business. However, it will become crucial that you manage your time well and market your skills well. Creative professionals, including content writers, marketers, and designers, can freelance or act as consultants to growing companies. It will usually involve working on client projects to ensure you can deliver high-quality services within the shared timeline. Alternatively, you can work on an appointment basis to ensure you have projects spread throughout your calendar. Learning to use tools and acquiring certifications from reputable sources will be a bonus. ## 6. Virtual Assistance and Administrative Services If you have strong organisational and communication skills, offering virtual assistance and administrative services can be a gratifying home-based business. Many businesses and entrepreneurs need support with email management, scheduling, data entry, and customer service tasks. By providing these services remotely, you can help streamline their operations while enjoying the flexibility of working from home. With minimal setup costs and the ability to work with clients from various industries, this business idea is ideal for those with excellent administrative skills. ## 7. Online Tutoring and Educational Workshops With the rise of remote learning, online tutoring and educational workshops have become increasingly popular. If you have expertise in a particular subject or skill, you can offer personalised tutoring sessions or create educational workshops to share your knowledge. There is a growing demand for online education. Whether it’s academic subjects, language learning, or specialised skills like coding or art. You can leverage video conferencing tools and online platforms to connect with students and provide valuable learning experiences from the comfort of your home. ## Parting words: Small Businesses You Can Start From Home Why not run a small business from home? The benefits are truly endless. It gives you freedom while you can do what you love. It allows you to work and become financially responsible. Moreover, running a small business is a great way to offer your talent and skills to solve someone’s problems. However, it is crucial that you thoroughly analyse the market before launching your business to ensure your brand can create its own unique online presence and customer base without wasting resources and opportunities. Remember to enjoy the journey every day. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/small-businesses-start-from-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/small-businesses-start-from-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career --- ### [Enhance Your Small Bathroom with Mirrors and Savvy Renovations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/bathroom-renovations/) **Published:** July 26, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Small bathrooms can sometimes feel cramped and challenging to navigate. Yet, with the right renovation design choices, you can create an illusion of a larger, more inviting space. One of the most effective ways to achieve this is by strategically using mirrors. Mirrors not only reflect light, but they can also visually expand your bathroom and enhance its overall design aesthetic. Additionally, small bathroom renovations can transform your space in significant ways. From updating fixtures and fittings to choosing the right colour palette and storage solutions, a well-planned renovation can make your bathroom feel more functional and stylish, whether you’re considering a complete overhaul or just a few tweaks. A thoughtful design and clever renovations can turn even the smallest bathroom into a beautiful, comfortable oasis. ## **1. Install a large mirror above the vanity** A large mirror above the vanity is a classic design choice that offers functionality and visual appeal. A large mirror can make a small bathroom appear more spacious by reflecting the surrounding area. It also provides ample room for grooming and other daily tasks. To further enhance the effect, choose a frameless mirror or one with a slim, minimalist frame that doesn’t take up additional visual space. ## **2. Update cabinets for storage** In a small bathroom, storage is often limited, making it essential to optimise every available inch. Savvy bathroom renovations can significantly increase cabinet space, providing practical solutions for your storage needs. Mirrored cabinets are an excellent choice, as they serve a dual purpose: providing additional storage while visually expanding the space. A mirrored cabinet can be mounted above the vanity or on a side wall, offering a discreet place to store toiletries, cosmetics, and other essentials without sacrificing style or valuable floor space. By incorporating these clever storage solutions, you can make the most of your small bathroom and create a more functional and visually appealing environment. ## **3. Place mirrors opposite light sources** Maximising natural light is one of the keys to making a small bathroom feel more open and airy. Placing a mirror opposite a window or another light source will reflect and amplify the light, brightening the room and creating an illusion of a larger space. If your bathroom lacks windows or natural light, consider installing sconces or other light fixtures near your mirror to achieve a similar effect. ## **4. Incorporate accessories** Mirrored accessories, such as soap dispensers, toothbrush holders, and decorative trays, can add subtle reflective surfaces to your bathroom without overwhelming the space. Minor renovations can help incorporate these accessories seamlessly, such as adding small shelves or niches to hold them, ensuring they blend well with the overall design. These small accents can help tie the room together and contribute to the overall sense of spaciousness. Look for accessories with clean lines and minimal detailing to maintain a streamlined and uncluttered appearance. You can enhance your small bathroom’s functionality and aesthetic appeal by thoughtfully integrating these elements. ![mirrors and renovation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-17.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **5. Experiment with Creative Ideas** While large mirrors are often recommended for small bathrooms, don’t be afraid to experiment with different shapes and sizes. A collection of smaller reflective surfaces arranged in an eye-catching pattern can create visual interest and draw attention away from the limited square footage. Alternatively, consider using an oversized mirror with an unusual shape. An arched or circular design makes a bold statement and creates the illusion of depth. Small renovations, such as adding niches or custom frames, can enhance these creative ideas. In addition to mirrors, consider incorporating other reflective or transparent elements, such as glass shelves, acrylic fixtures, or shiny tiles. These can also contribute to a sense of openness. Renovating with built-in storage solutions, like recessed shelving or floating vanities, can further maximise space and keep your bathroom sleek and uncluttered. Lighting is another crucial aspect to consider. Installing recessed lighting or strategically placed light fixtures can amplify the reflective qualities of your mirrors and other surfaces, making the room appear brighter and more spacious. Turn your imagination into reality with the assistance of [bathroom renovation experts](https://bellebathrooms.com.au/bathroom-renovations-sydney/). They can help you design and implement these creative ideas, ensuring that every element harmonises harmoniously to transform your bathroom. ## **6. Install mirrored tiles or panels** Another innovative way to incorporate mirrors into your small bathroom is by using mirrored tiles or panels. These can be installed on a feature wall, around the bathtub, or even as a backsplash behind the sink. Mirrored tiles and panels not only reflect light and visually expand the space, but they also add an element of luxury and sophistication to the bathroom. Choose between traditional mirror finishes or opt for tinted or antiqued options for a unique look. ## **7. Consider a full-length mirror** A full-length mirror might seem counterintuitive in a small bathroom, but it can actually serve multiple purposes. By reflecting the entire length of the room, a full-length mirror can create the illusion of a larger space. Additionally, it provides a convenient spot to check your outfit or assess your overall appearance before leaving the bathroom. To save space, consider mounting a full-length mirror on the back of the door or on a narrow section of wall. ## **Conclusion**: Maximising Your Small Bathroom with Mirrors and Savvy Renovations Maximising your small bathroom space doesn’t have to be a daunting task. By strategically using reflective surfaces and incorporating minor renovations, you can create an illusion of a larger, more open area while enhancing the overall design aesthetic. Consider installing a large mirror above the vanity, using mirrored cabinets for storage, placing reflective surfaces opposite light sources, incorporating accessories, experimenting with various shapes and sizes, and installing mirrored tiles or panels. Adding a full-length mirror and making small renovations, such as adding shelves or niches, can also significantly improve the functionality and appearance of your bathroom. By incorporating these tips and considering minor renovations, you’ll be well on your way to transforming your small bathroom into a stylish and functional oasis. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/bathroom-renovations/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/bathroom-renovations/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [How To Rebuild Your Savings After Divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rebuild-your-savings/) **Published:** July 25, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Getting divorced later in life can often mean your savings take a big hit. Dipping into your retirement savings is not uncommon in grey divorces. Setting up a new home is always a costly exercise, whether you’re a parent or starting over single and solo. Family mediator Ian Shann from **[**Move On M**ediation](https://moveon.com.au/)** in Perth has put together some helpful tips on how to rebuild your savings after divorce. From having an emergency fund for life’s little surprises to investing and downsizing, there are several things you can start today to rebuild your savings after separation. ## **Start An Emergency Fund Having an emergency fund in place provides peace of mind. Knowing that you’ll be able to deal with any surprises during the potentially tricky financial period after your divorce. Building an emergency fund can take time, depending on your goal amount, so the sooner you start one, the better. Many savers aim to have three to six months of basic living expenses in reserve. A good way of building an emergency fund is to put aside a set amount at the beginning of each month and not wait to see if anything is left at the end of the month. Because you know there will always be something else you can spend it on. Saving before you spend it is the best way to build your emergency fund from day 1. ## **Ensure Your Assets Are Divided Fairly Rebuilding your assets after divorce usually starts well before your divorce is legally finalised. Property settlements can happen well in advance of your divorce being legally finalised. By obtaining professional advice from family lawyers early on in the separation process, you’ll know your rights and obligations. This will enable you to ensure your assets are divided fairly and according to the law. It will also give you a fair idea of what assets you’ll have and what financial support you may be entitled to receive from your ex and the government (if relevant to your circumstances) after the divorce. ## **Create A Realistic Budget Once you have carefully evaluated your current financial situation, you should have a good idea of your income and expenses after divorce. Now, it’s time to sit down and create a realistic budget to match your income. In most cases of a relationship breakdown, there are bound to be lifestyle changes for everyone involved. It’s, therefore, vital to prioritise your family’s essential needs over the non-essential wants. Keeping tabs on your daily expenses will enable you to identify ways of cutting down unnecessary expenses and live within your means as a newly single parent until you’re back on your feet. It might mean dropping some luxuries in your grocery shop, changing utility providers, or reducing your kid’s paid activities. Remember, it can be temporary if you stick to your budgeting, planning and saving! ![Rebuild Your Savings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/1-1.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Consult A Trusted Financial Adviser Rebuilding and protecting one’s finances after a divorce can be extremely complicated and challenging. It can leave many people who may already be emotionally drained, perplexed and overwhelmed. Consulting a trusted financial adviser may take the weight off, making it easier for you to decide on issues like where to invest, where to cut down and how to reorganise your savings, income, bills, debts, and taxes. Ask friends and family for recommendations on who to consult, and make sure you find out about their fee structure before you book that first meeting. There’s no point getting into debt if you aren’t sure who to trust regarding financial advice. ## **Review Your Superannuation & Insurance Superannuation is often overlooked when it comes to divorce. Investigate whether your super fund is performing the way you expect it to, relevant to whether you still have several years to contribute to it or whether you will be drawing a pension from it in the short term. Professional financial advice is essential. You must also review your named beneficiaries for your superannuation and insurance to ensure that funds go to those you nominate. Insurance is another area many couples forget to check and update after separating. Most couples have family cover for health insurance, and contents, home and car insurance are often in one person’s name despite covering joint assets. Make sure you review who pays for what insurance, and what cover you have in place. Undoubtedly, all your insurance policies will need to be reviewed and changed to cover the separation of these assets. ## **Consider Downsizing There are many steps you can take to save money and rebuild your finances after your divorce, and one major step is to downsize. Consider living in a smaller home to suit your new situation. Even if it’s for a short period, it will help you save money and rebuild your reserves until you’re back on track with your finances. And just think, the smaller the house, the less time you’ll spend tidying up! ## **Invest Wisely Investing wisely becomes even more important after a divorce. Solid advice from a trusted financial adviser is highly recommended when making any investment decisions. How you invest will depend greatly on your financial situation and short-, medium- and long-term financial goals. ## **Look Into Additional Income Streams Explore all opportunities to increase your income if you can work in any capacity. Depending on your skills, you could look into finding extra part-time work, starting a side hustle, asking your boss for a salary increase or taking on extra hours. ## **Investigate Your Entitlement To Government Payments It’s worth investigating your entitlement to any tax benefits or government support after your divorce. You may also be entitled to [receive different subsidies from Centrelink ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/)as a single person. A financial adviser may be able to help you with this, or you can enquire directly with Services Australia. They have a good collection of information and calculators on their website to get you started with what payments you may be entitled to claim as a newly divorced single mother. --- *Note: This blog is not intended as financial or legal advice. Consult a registered financial advisor before making any financial decisions. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rebuild-your-savings/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/rebuild-your-savings/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** divorce, savings, centrelink --- ### [9 Free Divorce Resources In Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/free-divorce-resources/) **Published:** July 25, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Do you need help with your separation or divorce? Are you wondering what to do or who to speak to to get the ball rolling? Ian Shann from [**Move On Mediation in Perth**](https://moveon.com.au/) has put together **9 free divorce resources in Australia** to help you get started with your divorce process. ## **Federal Circuit & Family Court Of Australia** The [**Federal Circuit & Family Court of Australia**](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/divorce/resources) is perhaps the best place to start. Offering an overview of the legal divorce process in Australia. It is a very informative site, providing a step-by-step guide on applying for a divorce that covers almost all situations and a list of documents and legal requirements. It outlines the various divorce options. Including how to apply for the relevant court orders and what one can expect to face during the various procedures. It also has several links to other family advice services and allows the download of different application forms relevant to the various cases. Be aware that this service applies in all States of Australia except Western Australia, where the relevant site is the [****Family Court of Western Australia****](https://www.familycourt.wa.gov.au/). ## **Family Relationship Advice Line** The [**Family Relationship Advice Line**](https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/talk-someone/advice-line) is a national telephone service that offers advice and instant assistance to anyone with relationship or separation issues of any kind. It allows parents, grandparents, children, other family members or friends to call to obtain advice and information on family matters or the family law system. Callers may remain anonymous. The Family Relationship Advice Line can also refer callers to various local services to provide the appropriate assistance that may be needed for all situations, such as child, drug and alcohol abuse, mental health issues, family violence, etc. There’s also a separate line to call them from overseas. ## **Legal Aid** [****Legal Aid****](https://www.legalaid.wa.gov.au/) offers the community low-cost or free legal services, providing advice and information on all civil, criminal and family law matters. Having over 300 lawyers and support staff at their disposal at nine offices covering Perth and WA, they are the largest legal aid service providers in Western Australia. Although their services stretch far and wide and cover most legal issues, they can refer you to the appropriate service provider if they cannot advise or offer information relevant to your specific problem. ## **Men’s Legal Service** Striving to address the high numbers of unrepresented parents appearing in family law matters, the [****Men’s Legal Service****](https://menslegalservice.org.au/) provides essential low-cost services to men, especially fathers wishing to maintain an active role in their children’s lives. The service can help with family matters such as domestic violence, making parenting arrangements, offering counselling, arranging family dispute resolution or mediation and have a 24-hour suicide prevention and crisis lifeline. ## **Divorce Resource** Providing invaluable information and a range of free resources, family mediation services and divorce coaching, [****Divorce Resource****](https://www.divorceresource.com.au/) help people save money and be better prepared for their divorce. Frequent blogs and articles explain the divorce process and various matters, such as finding a lawyer, reaching a property settlement, serving divorce papers, and making parenting and custody arrangements. They also provide valuable links to other service providers for emergencies and family law issues. ## **Family Court WA** The website for the [****Family Court WA****](https://www.familycourt.wa.gov.au/L/legal_advice.aspx) offers a comprehensive guide to the legal system of Western Australia. It provides an in-depth guide to all the stages of the divorce process, helping one to understand and prepare or defend an application for a divorce to the minutest detail. Not only does it offer legal advice and simple information videos, but it also allows one to download the various forms and links to helpful community resource centres, family law legislation, and everything one needs to know regarding parenting, property and making financial arrangements. ![Beanstalk mums logo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/2-1.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Beanstalk Mums** [****Beanstalk Mums****](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/) is a wonderful and inspirational source of information aimed at helping single mums in Australia navigate through their divorce. The website is packed with tons of information and tips on virtually every topic under the sun, from understanding family law and avoiding common mistakes many mums make to highly emotional issues single mums face every day while bringing up their children. It provides a step-by-step guide on what to do when separating, dealing with a high-conflict separation, and covering post-separation issues on health, self-care, saving money, dating and more. ## **Relationships Australia** This non-profit organization provides excellent relationship support services to families, vulnerable individuals and communities across Australia. They include training workshops and counselling for families, separating couples, employees in the workplace and disabled or neglected individuals, young and old, suffering the effects of violence, gambling, drug and alcohol abuse or any mental health condition. Having over 2,400 staff in 106 locations, including 39 remote locations across every state, Relationships Australia offers an invaluable service to people of all walks of life, helping them to improve their wellbeing and their relationships with their families and communities. Drawing from their own experiences and research carried out over 70 years across the country, as well as regular surveys and formal studies, they make a considerable contribution to public policy in Australia. ## **The Separation Guide** Established in 2019, [****The Separation Guide****](https://theseparationguide.com.au/) has one purpose – to help make separation simpler, more manageable, less costly and less stressful. Since then, it has helped over 320,000 people do precisely that. Their Q&A is a good starting point, helping them to understand your unique situation. Upon completion, they will suggest what steps to take and put you in touch with a selected range of resources suitable to your circumstances. These may include family lawyers, mediators, financial advisors, psychologists and counsellors. They will provide the relevant information on the various options guiding you through your separation and seeing the Court only as a last resort. Their site is packed with helpful information, videos, podcasts, books and blogs covering numerous topics you’ll likely encounter during and after your separation. I hope you’ve found this list of **free divorce resources in Australia** useful to help guide you in your separation and the divorce process. Once you get the ball rolling, you can start planning for your life after divorce, too! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/free-divorce-resources/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/free-divorce-resources/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** divorce, resources, divorce support --- ### [5 Essential Tips for Hassle-Free Errands with a Baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/errands-with-baby/) **Published:** July 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Having a baby brings much joy but can also make everyday tasks overwhelming. Getting out of the house can be a considerable challenge, whether it’s your first baby or your newest addition. From doctor’s appointments to quick trips to the store, you now have to do everything with a baby in tow. Running errands with a baby doesn’t have to be stressful. With some preparation and a few smart tips, you can make these outings smoother and more manageable. Here are five essential tips to help you handle errands with your baby, making life a little easier for both of you. ## **Choose the Right Baby Capsule or Stroller** Choosing a suitable baby capsule or a stroller can make your errands more manageable. A baby capsule keeps your baby secure and makes transferring them in and out of the car easy. Look for one that’s comfortable for your baby, with good support and breathable fabric. A stroller also gives your baby a comfy place to rest and provides additional storage for items like your handbag, nappy bag, and smaller items you’ve purchased while shopping. Find a stroller that’s easy to push, folds up quickly, and has plenty of storage space. Features like a sunshade can add extra comfort. Think about your needs and choose the option that works best for you. Some parents like to have a capsule *and* a stroller (or a travel system, a combination of the two) so they’re ready for any situation. Check out the [Maxi Cosi homepage](https://www.maxi-cosi.com.au/) to explore a wide range of high-quality baby capsules and strollers. They offer various options designed with comfort and convenience, helping you find the perfect fit for your family’s needs. ## **Allow Extra Time for Your Outings** Running errands with a baby means things might not go as planned. Nappy blowouts, forgotten bottles, and other surprises can make a simple trip more chaotic. Always give yourself extra time to get where you need to go to avoid stress. Allowing extra time helps you handle unexpected delays without feeling rushed. Don’t schedule appointments too close together; if you think it will take 30 minutes to get somewhere, plan for 45 minutes to an hour instead. Good preparation can also help you get out the door faster. Make a checklist of what you need, pack your nappy bag the night before, and prepare the car. Checking traffic conditions before you leave can help you avoid delays. Giving yourself extra time and being prepared makes errands with your baby more manageable and less stressful. This way, you can enjoy your time out without worrying about the clock. ![Errands with Baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images-16.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Pack the Essentials** A well-packed nappy bag is your best friend during errands. [Ensure you have all the basics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/newborn-baby-essentials/) to keep your baby happy and comfortable. Here’s what you need: - **Nappies and Wipes:** Pack enough nappies for the trip, plus a few extra. Wipes are helpful for nappy changes and cleaning up messes. - **Extra Clothes:** Bring at least one extra outfit for your baby in case of spills or accidents. Consider the weather and pack accordingly. - **Snacks and Bottles:** If your baby eats solid food, pack snacks like fruit or puffs. Bring bottles of milk or formula if needed. Even if you’re breastfeeding, a bottle can be handy. - **Toys and Entertainment:** Pack a few small toys or books to keep your baby entertained while you’re out. - **Changing Pad and Plastic Bags:** A portable changing pad makes nappy changes easier. Plastic bags are great for storing dirty nappies or soiled clothes. - **Mum’s Essentials:** Don’t forget your keys, phone, wallet, and any personal items you might need, like snacks or a water bottle. Organise your bag so everything is easy to find. Use small bags or pouches to keep things sorted. This way, you can quickly grab what you need without searching the whole bag. Consider what you need based on how long you’ll be out. For short trips, just the basics might do. For longer outings, pack a bit more. It’s always better to have extra supplies, just in case. With a well-packed nappy bag, you’ll be ready for anything, making your errands smoother and less stressful. ## **Dress for Comfort** Comfortable clothing can make a big difference during errands, ensuring you and your baby stay happy and stress-free. Choose outfits for your baby that are easy to change, like onesies or clothes with snaps; it makes nappy changes quicker and less stressful. Dressing in layers is critical, especially when moving between indoors and outdoors. A lightweight onesie under a sweater or jacket works well for your baby. You can easily add or remove layers to keep your baby comfortable. As the parent, you’ll be on your feet often, so comfortable, supportive shoes are necessary. Joggers or cushioned flats can help prevent foot fatigue and keep you moving comfortably throughout the day. Check the weather before you leave, and dress appropriately. On hot days, opt for breathable fabrics like cotton to keep your baby cool, and bundle up with hats, mittens, and warm layers for colder weather. Always pack extra clothes for you and your baby in case of spills or accidents. ## **Schedule Around Your Baby’s Needs** Planning your errands around your baby’s nap and feeding schedule can make the experience much smoother. A well-rested and [well-fed baby](https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/baby-feeding-schedule#establishing-a-schedule) is more likely to be cooperative and less fussy. Identify when your baby is usually most content and aim to run errands during these windows. This strategy will help ensure a more pleasant and stress-free outing for both of you. ## **Takeaway** Running errands with a baby doesn’t have to be a stressful experience. With a bit of preparation and flexibility, you’ll be ready to handle any situation that comes your way. Remember, the goal is to make the experience pleasant for you and your baby. Happy errands! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/errands-with-baby/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/errands-with-baby/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** baby carriers, baby bag, baby travel, car capsule --- ### [Bill Refresh: Your Guide to Starting FY25 Off On The Right Foot.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/bill-refresh-fy25/) **Published:** July 16, 2024 **Author:** Sophie Ryan **Content:** Happy New (Financial) Year! It’s time to dig out those receipts and bills you’ve stashed somewhere and see if you could be eligible for a healthy tax refund. Doing your taxes can be confusing and time-consuming. Yet that extra boost to your bank account could be worth it in the long run. When you’re a parent, you may also need to think about whether you receive Family Tax Benefit or Child Care Subsidy around this time of year. Given the many factors to consider at tax time, you wouldn’t be alone in putting off the task. Maybe you’re in a hurry to get it done? Either way, don’t forget to add ‘bill refresh’ to your to-do list. Sorry to pile something else onto your plate, but not reviewing common household bills and expenses regularly could be costing you. New research from [comparison service iSelect](https://www.iselect.com.au/) found that almost half of Aussies (48 per cent) say the new financial year is prompting them to review common household bills to make sure they’re getting a good deal. Time to get onboard! ## ****What’s health insurance got to do with it?**** Whether you hold a private health insurance policy or not, this common expense should be a top priority. When it comes to tax time, private health insurance typically isn’t the first thing that springs to mind. But have you heard of the Medicare Levy Surcharge? This is an extra tax on higher-income earners who don’t take out (and continue to hold) an appropriate level of private hospital cover during the financial year. iSelect General Manager – Health Andres Gutierrez explained that the Medicare Levy Surcharge income thresholds increased on July 1. > “If you don’t have a policy and received a pay rise recently, you could now be in surcharge territory and not even realise it,” he said. > “As we’re already weeks into the new financial year, you may still have to pay the surcharge for every day you’re without cover, but you likely won’t have to shell out the full amount if you purchase a policy now.” > > “At least you’ll have that peace of the mind that comes from having private hospital cover instead of ending up with a higher tax bill.” The [study from iSelec](https://www.privatehealth.gov.au/health_insurance/surcharges_incentives/medicare_levy.htm)t also found that most Aussies with private health cover (69 per cent) have either never switched their health insurance plan and/or provider or haven’t for more than two years.1 This highlights another important reason to [think about private cover.](https://www.iselect.com.au/health-insurance/) As life goes on and the kids get taller in the blink of an eye, our health needs change, too. If you’re covered, but it’s been a few years since you checked the details of your policy. AKA the ‘set and forget’ mistake, you could be paying for services that you don’t need or use! ![Paying bills](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/IN-ARTICLE-images.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## ****Check your energy plan.**** There’s a lot to unpack when it comes to your power bills. Think supply charges, rates, usage… too many numbers and it’s quickly put into the ‘too hard basket’ for many Aussies. Just paying your bills without reading them properly could be a big mistake. Here’s the lowdown. Depending on where you live, you will probably receive an electricity rate reduction on July 1 (or in August). After years of significant price hikes, there’s a chance you’re already [paying more than you need to be](https://www.iselect.com.au/energy/) to keep the lights on and the kid’s devices charged. While families can take extra steps around their home to reduce energy usage, it might not impact bills too much. Now’s the time to check how much you’re currently paying, including what your service and supply fees are. Compare it against what other providers are charging and see if you can switch for a better deal. Remember to check whenever you’re advised of a price change. There’s no limit to how many times you can switch. Don’t worry, you’re not alone in this new financial year bill refresh. As a single mum, you’re likely pretty time-poor. So you can enlist iSelect’s trained comparison experts to do the hard work for you. They can help you understand private health cover and find a policy that suits your needs and budget. As well as, compare your energy deal against a range of other plans and providers. If you decide to switch, [they’ll take care of it](https://www.iselect.com.au/about-us/), saving you time and effort. ## **Disclaimers iSelect does not compare all energy providers or plans in the market. The availability of plans may change from time to time, depending on who iSelect’s providers are and what plans they make available to iSelect. Not all plans made available from iSelect providers may be compared by iSelect either due to commercial arrangements, area or availability, so not all plans or providers compared by iSelect will be available to all customers. Some plans and special offers are available only from iSelect’s contact centre or website. Energy plans are available only for properties located in eligible areas of Victoria, New South Wales, South East Queensland, South Australia and ACT. [Click here to view iSelect’s range of providers.](https://www.iselect.com.au/our-partners/) iSelect does not compare all health insurance providers or policies in the market. The availability of policies will change from time to time. Not all policies available from its providers are compared by iSelect and due to commercial arrangements, your stated needs and circumstances, not all policies compared by iSelect are available to all customers. Some policies and special offers are available only from iSelect’s contact centre or website. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/bill-refresh-fy25/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/bill-refresh-fy25/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** iselect, Bills, Tax time --- ### [Everything you need to know about kid snatch and recovery orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/recovery-orders-everything-you-need-to-know/) **Published:** June 18, 2020 **Author:** Fidan Shevket **Content:** *This article is designed to give you information about recovering your children from your ex-partner if they have taken the children without your permission. It is not legal advice. You should always get legal advice about your specific situation.* ## All about Recovery Orders: The snatch and run ### WHAT IS “THE SNATCH”? Lawyers refer to “the Snatch” in a situation where one parent has unexpectantly taken the children from their home, school or day-care. It is a scary thing to have your children taken without your consent. What do you do? Some might say call the police – which, of course, you can do – but let’s remember, if the children are with their father – that’s not a crime. The police will probably say “we don’t get involved in domestic matters.” Remember that family law is a federal jurisdiction and the police are a state organisation so the police might not be very helpful. What you can do is insist that the police get involved by telling them that your children are in danger. ## Recovery Orders: Everything you need to know about the snatch and run ### MY CHILD HAS BEEN TAKEN. NOW WHAT? You can ask the police to conduct a “welfare check” because you are concerned that the children are “at risk of harm or danger”. Generally, the police will go around to your ex-partner’s residence and physically check on the kids to make sure that they are okay. Sometimes, they will get your ex-partner to agree to return the children to you. Some police stations have a Domestic Violence Liaison officer who is unlikely to be dismissive of your situation, so definitely try and speak to him/her and ask for their help. As a last resort, you “lawyer up”. Get your lawyer to send a very firm letter to your ex-partner saying if the children are not returned forthwith, you will be making an urgent application to the Family Court of Australia for a Recovery Order where you will be seeking that the Australian Federal Police physically take the children away from the snatcher’s care and return them to your care. In that application, you can seek that your ex-partner pays your legal fees. 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Section 67Q of the *Family Law Act* *1975* defines a Recovery Order as: > *An order made by a court doing all or any of the following:* > > *Requiring the return of a child to:* > > 1. *A parent of the child; or* > 2. *A person with whom the child is to live under a parenting order; or* > 3. *A person with whom the child is to spend time under a parenting order; or* > 4. *A person with whom the child is to communicate with under a parenting order; or* > 5. *A person who has parental responsibility for the child.”* The Order basically allows law enforcement to do whatever they have to, including by force: > *“To stop and search any vehicle, vessel or aircraft, and to enter and search any premises or place for the purpose of finding a child”.* If your children have been snatched and all attempts made by you to get the children returned to you have failed, a Recovery Order is a real option. You should see a lawyer so they can seek a Recovery Order to get you your kids back. If you cannot afford a private lawyer, try Legal Aid or a local community legal centre. [![Get Cozi - it's free!](https://static.shareasale.com/image/50314/CoziAdwords_Static_300x250.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1150365&u=1855502&m=50314&urllink=&afftrack=) ### HOW DO I GET A RECOVERY ORDER? To get the Recovery Order, you need to file a lot of paperwork at either the [Federal Circuit Court of Australia](http://www.federalcircuitcourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fccweb/about/about-fcc) or the [Family Court of Australia](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/about/) (you can choose which) specifically: 1. **Initiating Application** – This sets out your Orders. 2. **Affidavit** – A document that gives your evidence to the Court. This is the equivalent of telling your story from the witness box. You will have to give all the relevant details about ‘the snatch’ and your concerns for the children. 3. **Affidavit – Non-Filing of Family Dispute Resolution Certificate** **–** This is a form you must complete to say why the case is urgent and why you do not have a Certificate saying that you have attended mediation. Note that it is compulsory to mediate all parenting matters before you file a case in the family law jurisdiction. You can apply for a waiver when there is urgency. A Recovery Order would qualify as an urgent matter. 4. **Notice of Risk** – A form where you set out the risks to the children. There is a filing fee to lodge the papers. You can lodge the forms online and apply for an urgent court date. At the court date, the Judge will look at your evidence and hopefully make the Recovery Order. ## WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT RECOVERY ORDERS (CONT.) ### WHAT IF THE RECOVERY ORDER DOESN’T WORK? Sometimes, a Court Order seeking to recover the children is not enough to physically get them back. Let’s say the snatcher has “gone underground” with your children and the Australian Federal Police look at all of the obvious places but still cannot locate your children. The Court has a lot of power to get information and to get the word out that your children have been abducted. You may have heard of an “Amber Alert” on the news. This is where a Recovery Order has failed to recover the children. Instead, the Court makes an Order to allow photographs and certain details of a party to the case to be published by the media with the sole purpose of locating the missing children. Without a publication order, it is a criminal offence to publish details of a family law case to the public that identifies any people involved in that case. ### WHAT IS A LOCATION ORDER? Another useful tool is a Location Order where the court will release information to you that is normally confidential. For example, the person may have disclosed their whereabouts to Centrelink so you can ask Centrelink to release their address and contact information from their system. If you know your ex-partner banks with a certain financial institution, you can subpoena that bank for their bank and credit card statements to find out where the person is making their ATM withdrawals or purchases. Local law enforcement can then be on the lookout for the snatcher and your children. ![Recovery Orders | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Recovery-orders.png "Recovery orders - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/recovery-orders-everything-you-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/recovery-orders-everything-you-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation **Tags:** family law, co parenting, family court, taken child, police --- ### [5 Strategies For Managing Sleep Problems In Autistic Toddlers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/sleep-problems-in-autistic-toddlers/) **Published:** June 24, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Many parents of autistic toddlers face significant challenges with their children’s sleep disturbances. Addressing sleeping problems in autistic toddlers is crucial as they not only affect the child’s health and development but also impact family dynamics and overall well-being. This article offers practical strategies tailored to manage autism-related sleep difficulties, helping to create a nurturing environment that promotes better sleep for autistic children. By implementing these techniques, families can experience improved rest and less stress during bedtime routines. ## 1. Gradual Introduction to Sleeping Alone Gradual introduction to sleeping alone can significantly ease the stress associated with bedtime for autistic toddlers. One effective method is the incremental retreat technique, which allows parents to slowly reduce their presence in the child’s room at bedtime. Start by sitting near your child’s bed as they fall asleep, then gradually move the chair further away over successive nights until you are outside the room. This method helps manage [separation anxiety](https://www.transformlife.com.au/autism/navigating-separation-anxiety-strategies-for-parents-of-autistic-toddlers/) by providing a reassuring presence that lessens over time, allowing the child to develop the confidence to sleep independently. Consistency and patience are key, as each step should only be taken once the child seems comfortable with the current arrangement. ## 2. Establish a Consistent Bedtime Routine Maintaining a consistent schedule can be incredibly beneficial for autistic toddlers, providing them with a sense of safety and predictability. Establishing a bedtime routine filled with calming activities can help them understand when it’s time to prepare for sleep. Consider incorporating a warm bath, reading a favourite book, or listening to soothing music as part of this routine. By keeping the sequence of events the same every night, you signal to your child that bedtime is approaching, making the transition to sleep smoother and more reassuring. Try to start the routine at the same time each night, even on weekends, and stick to it as closely as possible. This helps regulate your child’s internal clock and makes it easier for them to fall asleep and stay asleep. If changes are necessary, introduce them gradually. For example, if bedtime needs to be shifted earlier, do it in 15-minute increments over several days. ## 3. Create a Sleep-Friendly Environment Think of your toddler’s bedroom as their [sleep sanctuary](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-bedtime/). It should be a quiet, cosy space that encourages relaxation and minimises any sensory distractions. This can make a world of difference in their ability to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night. Start by considering light and sound. Blackout curtains can be a great investment to block out streetlights or early morning sun. If your child is sensitive to noise, a white noise machine can create a consistent, soothing sound that masks other disruptive noises. The temperature of the room also plays a role. A slightly cooler room is often more conducive to sleep. You might also consider using a weighted blanket, which has been shown to have a calming effect on some individuals with autism. Additionally, pay attention to visual clutter. A clean, organised space with minimal stimulating decorations can help your child wind down before bed. If your child has any specific sensory sensitivities, factor those in as well. For instance, if they are sensitive to certain fabrics, choose bedding that is soft and comfortable for them. ![Sleep Problems In Autistic Toddlers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/IN-ARTICLE-images-13.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Use Visual Schedules Visual schedules can be powerful tools for autistic toddlers. They break down the bedtime routine into easy-to-understand steps using pictures or symbols. This helps your child know what to expect and reduces anxiety around bedtime. You can create a simple visual schedule using pictures of your child doing each activity in their routine (taking a bath, putting on pyjamas, brushing teeth, reading a book). Hang the schedule in their room at their eye level. As you go through the routine, point to each picture so your child can follow along. This not only makes the routine more predictable but also helps them learn the sequence and develop a sense of independence. You can find many free printable visual schedules online, or you can create your own using photos or simple drawings. Laminate the schedule and use Velcro or magnets to make it interactive, allowing your child to move each picture as they complete the task. If your child enjoys using tablets or phones, you can also find apps that offer digital visual schedules with customisable pictures and sounds. Experiment with different formats to find what works best for your child. The goal is to make bedtime feel less overwhelming and more predictable. ## 5. Address Dietary Factors What your autistic toddler eats and when they eat can significantly affect their sleep disorders. Certain foods and drinks can either help or hinder their ability to fall asleep and stay asleep through the night. Let’s start with the obvious: [caffeine](https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/caffeine-and-kids). Avoid giving your child anything containing caffeine, such as chocolate, tea, or soda, in the hours leading up to bedtime. Sugar can also cause a spike in energy followed by a crash, so it’s best to limit sugary snacks and drinks in the evening. On the flip side, some foods can promote better sleep quality. Milk contains tryptophan, an amino acid that the body converts to melatonin, a hormone that regulates sleep patterns. A glass of warm milk before bed might be helpful. Other tryptophan-rich foods include turkey, bananas, and nuts. Timing is also crucial. A heavy meal right before bed can make it harder for your child to fall asleep due to discomfort. Aim for a lighter dinner a few hours before bedtime. ## Conclusion to Sleep Problems In Autistic Toddlers Every child is special, and what works for one may not work for another. Be patient, flexible, and willing to adapt these strategies to your child’s individual needs. With consistent effort, you can help your little one get the good night’s rest they need to thrive. If sleep challenges persist, don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance. A paediatrician or a therapist can offer advice and support to address your child’s specific needs. By working together, you can create a path towards peaceful nights and brighter days for your whole family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/sleep-problems-in-autistic-toddlers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/sleep-problems-in-autistic-toddlers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** Sleep Problems In Autistic Toddlers --- ### [Why my kids get on better since we divorced](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/kids-get-on-better-when-divorce/) **Published:** May 24, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I’m not gonna lie. Separation and divorce is hard. It’s comes with a myriad of horrible feelings and immense challenges. But if like me, you’re well into your single mum life, you will notice there are some silver linings. One of which is that I believe it has made my children closer to one another. Of course, not everyone will find this because every family, every child and every separation is unique. However, if you are separated and have noticed your children getting on exceptionally well, it might be for one of these reasons. ## Why my kid’s get on better since we divorced ### THEY ARE EACH OTHER’S CONSTANT For siblings who have parents going through a divorce, the world is an ever-changing place. What they thought was solid, may now feel shifting. It is a scary time for children. Changes include their parents living separately, alongside possible new homes and schools. Throughout these changes (and dependent on their ages) they will have one constant: their siblings. Whether it’s a new house, a new school, a new way of parenting or a new atmosphere between their parents, they have their brother or sisters beside them going through a very similar experience. Not only is this a much-needed certainty, but it will help them feel less alone. Children might not understand the importance of this at the time but the stability of sibling-hood creates a safe and familiar space during unpredictable times. ### THEY DON’T NEED TO REDEFINE THEIR SIBLING RELATIONSHIP Mum and Dad are no longer in the same picture. Even if they are both still in their lives, it is rarely at the same time. For this reason, even young children need to re-define their relationship with each parent. This is a natural transition when a family splits up … a transition we, as mums, try very hard to them with. Throughout all this, the relationships they have with their siblings remained unchanged. Even sibling rivalry can feel comforting because it is what they are used to. Yes, Mum and Dad may have separated but younger sisters are still annoying and big brothers are still disgusting … but that is normal and ‘normal’ is good. ### ONLY THEY KNOW WHAT THE OTHER IS EXPERIENCING Although we will do literally anything to smooth the path of divorce for our children, we don’t always know what they are experiencing, and as parents, we can be the last people they want to share with! According to [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=): > *“Divorce is a difficult topic of conversation for parents and children alike. Pretty much every child in a divorced family situation does not want to hear their parents talking about it, much less talk about it with their parents.”* So, who better to talk to, than a sibling who is on the same journey? Just knowing they are not alone and one other person is having the same experience can make kindred spirits of your kids. ### THEY LEARN TOOLS TO CREATE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS Being witness to their parents separation comes with a heap of emotions but it also comes with lots of lessons. Your children will witness how you cope with conflict, they will see what works and what doesn’t. It is a real-life tutorial on the importance of respect and amicability – how to show it and how it can affect a situation or conversation. Alongside this, while they experience emotional challenges, often beyond their years, they will develop empathy which is super important in any sibling relationship. They will fill up their toolbox with skills to create healthy relationships with the people around them, starting with those closest … their siblings. ***Further reading: [The positive impact of divorce on children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-positive-impact-of-divorce-on-children/)*** ### THEY CAN PLAY THE GAME TOGETHER We might not want to admit it but children of divorce, especially those living between homes, learn how to play their parents! They learn what works with one may not work with another and they use it to their advantage to get the best of both worlds. Surely this is one of the good things about having separated parents! Pulling together and sharing knowledge as they navigate their childhood and teen years as a team means they will rely on one another more and become closer than ever. ***Further reading: [How not to get played by your kids post divorce.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-not-to-get-played-by-your-kids-post-divorce/)*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")## END NOTE: THE IMPORTANCE OF YOU SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS DURING DIVORCE Amongst the mayhem that your is your separation, don’t forget to help nurture your siblings relationships with one another. This scholarly article from Smiths ScholarWorks: [Surviving The Divorce : The power of the Sibling Relationship](https://scholarworks.smith.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1723&context=theses) explains: > *“Positive sibling relationships have the potential to help children and adolescents cope with and adjust to parental divorce as sources of comfort, stability, and support in times of familial stress and change.”* Never is there a better time to encourage your children to get on with one another! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Kids-better-since-divorce.png "Kids better since divorce - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/kids-get-on-better-when-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/kids-get-on-better-when-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Children **Tags:** separation, school and separation, sibling, brother, sister --- ### [How to let go of hate and be a better co-parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/) **Published:** October 25, 2023 **Author:** Rachel Tomlinson **Content:** Separation is distressing at the best of times, but the added complexity of having children together can compound the challenges. This is not to say that separation without children isn’t equally emotional or stressful, but having children adds another dimension. Co-operative co-parenting is the goal after most breakups, and that dynamic is the one that I will explore here. **Note:** This article does not attempt to explore relationship separation due to family and domestic violence or other traumatic circumstances. In these cases, please seek advice from appropriately skilled professionals. ## Accept (and embrace) your feelings around co-parenting Let’s get things straight: to co-parent effectively you don’t need to push down or ignore your feelings of anger, resentment and/or fear. These are very normal and appropriate feelings in situations like separation and when negotiating a new norm for parenting. When we feel like we can’t control things – such as court or custody arrangements or differences in [parenting techniques](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/), we can feel anxious, worried, frustrated and angry! So, remember any feelings you have are normal. Embrace them by exploring them and reflecting on your feelings. It doesn’t seem like it could have much impact, but simply acknowledging your emotions goes a long way to reducing them. Exploring our emotions helps us understand them, and when we know them, we feel more confident in managing them and subsequently feel less scared or overwhelmed. ## Try to co-parent without hate But co-parenting without hate is not just about acknowledging your emotions. It’s also about how you direct and respond to those feelings. Holding on to anger is bad for us emotionally and physically. It stops us from being able to process or move into a different space (not necessarily forgiveness, but a place of acceptance), it can also impact current situations that are neutral, but when we bring anger into it, it can taint our perceptions of what’s happening in the here and now. Anger also increases blood pressure, which can impact heart health. So, let’s explore some ways to re-direct anger. ## Use a communication or co-parenting app Apps are not just great to help you become a better co-parent by lessening the need to physically communicate. They can also serve as legal documents required by the family courts. You can have evidence of communication, expenditures, calendar, and custody schedules, among others. Here are two co-parenting apps recommended by [Australian Family Lawyers](https://www.australianfamilylawyers.com.au/information-centre/co-parenting-apps-for-divorce). - [**Our Family Wizard:**](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) The most comprehensive co-parenting app available. Allow involvement from third parties such as mediator, and stands-up in family court - [**Cozi:**](https://www.cozi.com/) An user-friendly app with calendar, shared lists and notes, great to use while you are deciding whether to pay for a co-parenting app ***Find more listed here: [12 Best co-parenting apps and software.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/)*** ## Keep your child (or children) in focus It’s easy to focus on “winning” or one-upping your partner to punish them for your separation or their behaviours during your relationship, but no one wins in a family breakup. Least of all our kids. They are always watching and picking up on any conflict, so try and [communicate openly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) and honestly where possible, reassure them that the separation is not their fault and use your child as the focus for moving towards an amicable co-parenting relationship. Regardless of your relationship breaking down with your ex, that person will still always be their mother or father and it’s essential to allow them to have and maintain that relationship. ## Accept you may be parallel parenting, not co-parenting [Parallel parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/) is a parenting method usually adopted by high-conflict parents. Here, communication is professional and limited to the children only. Each parent has the autonomy to make routine, day-to-day decisions without the intervention and input from the other parent. If you and your ex are in this situation, don’t fret. It’s natural for at least one of you to want to avoid communication as much as possible, especially when you’ve just divorced. I understand not knowing exactly what the other parent is doing with your kids can make you anxious, especially in the beginning. But parallel parenting is about trusting that your ex will do things well, even if it’s not the same way as you. To be honest, having minimal communication may be the best to avoid even more conflict between the two of you. If less communication means less trauma for your kids, then parallel parenting may be what makes you a better co-parent. ## Practice mindfulness Mindfulness is the practice of being aware of the present moment, a skill that helps us identify and acknowledge our feelings without judgment of them being “good” or “bad”. It can help you bring your focus back to the present and not on past hurts, but it also allows you to examine what comes up for you, witnessing the emotions but not allowing them to influence you at this moment. Mindfulness activities are everywhere, so find an app or a YouTube channel to talk you through a [mindfulness activity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/). It might focus on your breathing or body or be a visualisation. Just find one that works best for you. ## Learn and use conflict resolution strategies Conflicts are typical in every human interaction. Especially if you’ve had a less-than-amicable separation, it’s natural and expected that you’ll encounter problems with your ex sooner or later. Here are three conflict resolution strategies to help the two of you become better co-parents: - **Avoidance**. While it seems counterintuitive to ignore a problem, there are instances when avoidance is the best option, at least temporarily. Sometimes, you will need to wait it out until the other party calms down. In the meantime, you act as if there’s no problem to keep the peace. However, remember that ignoring the existence of conflict must be a temporary solution. Once the tension subsides, facing the problem head-on is still best. - **Compromise**. In this lose-lose strategy, you and your ex must forfeit some of your needs to arrive at an acceptable resolution. This can be an excellent temporary strategy while you come up with a better and more harmonious permanent solution. - **Collaboration**. The best strategy to resolve your conflicts is always working together to find a mutually beneficial solution. This way, neither of you feels she or he is getting the worse end of the bargain. Collaborating is the key for you to become a better co-parent for the sake of your kids. ## Recognise the source of your anger Anger is an important emotion that tells us many essential things about our safety and boundaries. Generally, we feel angry when something or someone has stepped over a boundary or made us feel unsafe (it could be emotional or physical). Anger tells us about what we value. Therefore, paying attention to why we feel angry and when it occurs can tell us a lot about how we can look after ourselves, including changing the boundaries or expectations of others to keep ourselves safe. Recognising triggers also helps you map out or plan responses if you know you are going to be exposed to a situation that might elicit feelings of anger. ## Let’s get physical We all know that [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) releases lovely, feel-good endorphins in our bodies, reducing stress and making us happy. But when we experience anger, it also comes with a lot of physical energy. It is just as essential to process and rid our body of the physical side effects of anger in addition to processing the cognitive/emotional impact. So, get your body moving to shift angry energy. ## Find the positives Sometimes, we get stuck in a rut and unconsciously start seeking our negatives, so we must actively step in and re-direct our thoughts to neutral or positive things around us. You might recall some redeeming qualities about your ex-partner (they always try to be on time for school pick up, they love your child just as much as you do etc) and keep this positive thought at the forefront of your mind. Consider starting a daily gratitude journal or setting [daily affirmations](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) to get your mind focused on other areas of your life that are wonderful, happy and abundant. ## The non-negotiables You can’t have rules about everything; not all parenting decisions will go your way when co-parenting. If you set too many rules or expect your ex to parent precisely the way you do, you are setting them up to fail, and it will be hard to be amicable. So, sit down and identify the non-negotiables. What values will you hold as a family moving forward (trust, honesty, open communication etc)? A couple of key values that keep you aligned as co-parents and any real non-negotiable expectations each might have (communicate in advance any changes to custody arrangements, call if you are going to be late, no mobile phones until XX age etc) is a great place to start. ## Get professional mediation if needed Lastly, when you can’t resolve disputes by yourself, considering getting the services of neutral, third-party professional mediators may be the path to becoming a better co-parent. These are not lawyers and will not give you legal advice; however, mediators are an excellent alternative to a court battle. Mediation is generally a more peaceful and less time-consuming way to arrive at a settlement. You might still need a lawyer to represent you and negotiate on your behalf, but mediation is typically more cost-effective than litigation. You can definitely DIY the mediation process, but that means you’d have to spend time learning about family law. If you have funds, it’s good to have a lawyer negotiating on your behalf and ensuring that the settlement terms are fair. Mediation, however, requires that you and your ex are willing to negotiate in good faith to reach a mutually beneficial settlement, and there’s no violence involved in the separation. Otherwise, it’s best to go to a family court. As they say, leave it to the professionals. **Note:** This article does not attempt to explore relationship separation due to family and domestic violence or other traumatic circumstances. In these cases, please seek advice from appropriately skilled professionals. ## Final words: Let go hate and be a better co-parent Despite these strategies, I want to normalise that it’s okay to have angry feelings or be upset with your ex-partner. Take as much time as you need to heal – you can’t rush the process. But keep in mind that you can’t and must not stay in the anger phase forever. The risk of remaining in a space with angry feelings is that, eventually, these feelings take over and creep into other areas of your life or start to affect other relationships. By acknowledging your feelings, recognising that the only person you have control over is yourself, doing things that make you happier, and putting the limelight on your children, you can get to a better place sooner than you think. Be kind to yourself, and focus on taking little steps away from anger. Once you do, you will notice the relief and move closer to acceptance and comfort in your co-parenting role. You become a better co-parent by actively working on getting better. Who knows? Maybe you can also inspire your ex to become a better co-parent himself. And, after all, your ex will heal and be happy someday. You wouldn’t want to see him doing better in life while you’re still stuck in the dark, would you? ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/better-coparent-let-go-of-hate/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** shared care, shared parenting, co-parent --- ### [Parallel parenting or co-parenting: Finding your best fit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/) **Published:** June 29, 2022 **Author:** Mellita Bate **Content:** Most days I come across couples in the process of separation. One of the things I’ve noticed is, regardless of our circumstances in parenting most of us want the same thing – the best for our children. However, when each of us comes to the table with a variety of differing experiences and values, sometimes *agreeing* on what’s best is the crux of our issue. Some parents enjoy an organic and flexible style while others are structured and organised. Some parents choose to explain actions and consequences and others allow their children to experience the consequences naturally. When parents come from opposite ends of the parenting spectrum it can be very hard to co-parent. ## WHEN DOES CO-PARENTING WORK? Co-parenting is ideal in separated families and will take energy to work out with the other parent. Co-parenting is a commitment from both parents although they are no longer partners. It requires: - Commitment to making co-parenting an ongoing and open conversation with the other parent - Consistent rules agreed upon at [both households](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) - Commitment to talking positively around the house about the other household - Agreements on boundaries and behavioural guidelines for raising your children so that there’s consistency in their lives The journey through separation is not easy and not all couples can achieve the cooperative relationship required to co-parent. When there are high levels of conflict or an [inability to communicate](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) respectfully, some parents need to disengage from each other and limit direct contact. This can be an important step for their own well-being and for the well-being of their children. In this situation, the idea of parallel parenting can be helpful. [![OurFamilyWizard has co-parenting tools for scheduling, messaging, document sharing, and more.](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/aus-300-250_c.jpg)](https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/?utm_source=shareasale.com&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=link&utm_term=home&utm_content=tools&sscid=61k8_p17t0) ## WHAT IS PARALLEL PARENTING? Parallel Parenting requires that parents disengage from each other and focus on their individual relationship with their children, making the choice to embrace their own parenting style and enjoy the time they have with their children. Five initial steps to parallel parenting: - Focus on being the parent you want to be - Model your own values to your children - Disengage emotionally from the other parent - Focus on what is in your control - Redirecting your attention from the other parent’s behaviour, choices, and parenting style to create energy for your own well-being and relationships. ## THE CHALLENGES OF PARALLEL PARENTING Sometimes this can be exceptionally hard. Here are some examples: - When you are introducing the taste and texture of foods to increase the variety your children enjoy, your ex takes them to Maccas every visit. - When you still have your children using training wheels on their bikes and they have built a makeshift skate park in their backyard. - When you have adopted an emotional intelligence and relationally connected parenting approach and your ex has a bootcamp style of household organisation. ## THE CIRCLE OF CONTROL One visual image of this transition to parallel parenting is the Circle of Control illustration. In this exercise, we turn our focus to what is important and what we have control over in our lives and our parenting. Focusing on our circle gives us the confidence and creative energy we need to become the parents we want to be. ![Circle of Control | Parallel Parenting | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Screen-Shot-2020-04-17-at-1.10.43-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") For many families over time, strategies for emotionally disconnecting from the other parent and developing a business-like relationship can be achieved where more communication and effective planning are a focus. However, not all separated families will be able to achieve this transition as every situation is unique. In the meantime, parallel parenting allows the children to develop meaningful relationships with both parents. Children need to know they are free to have a relationship with both parents regardless of differences or hostility between parents. ## WILL OUR CHILDREN GET MIXED MESSAGES? Some of the parents we work with are concerned about the different messages their child will receive. Different rules, expectations and boundaries between houses, how will they cope? It’s really important to remember that children are resilient in adapting to different situations and rules. Take for example school vs home. The rules and happenings at school are very different from in your home, children adjust from one environment to the other. Even at school, the behaviour and rules required in the library are different to those expected on the playground or in the typical classroom. Children quickly learn the rules of each situation and act accordingly. Children will also adapt to different relationship styles and parenting styles in two homes. Parallel parenting can be an important step in securing your satisfaction with the relationship between you and your child. So how do you achieve this? ## HOW TO MAKE PARALLEL PARENTING WORK - Get a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) in place to help create the structure for this model of parenting - Find a communication method that works for you, an app, a [communication book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-book-for-co-parenting/) or other communication method that is acceptable to both parents. (Ensure that children are never responsible for messages between their parents) - Find time to look after yourself; [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) promotes healthy parenting - Focus on what’s important – your relationship with your children It’s important to remember that you don’t have to do this alone. There are counsellors trained to help you build this skill. This is a really tricky time in your life. If you are struggling to co-parent, and you are finding it difficult to come to an agreement, ask for assistance. A lot of times there is no single right answer, only the answer that is right for you. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Parallel-parenting.png "Parallel parenting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** parenting, shared care --- ### [Effective Menopause Treatments: Alleviating Symptoms and Enhancing Quality of Life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-treatments-for-relief/) **Published:** June 20, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Menopause, cessation of menstruation, occurs in stages including perimenopause and post-menopause. Symptoms range from hot flashes to mood changes and irregular periods. Effective symptom management is vital for women’s health and quality of life, potentially preventing chronic diseases, discomfort, and emotional stress and enhancing overall well-being. ## **Understanding Menopause** ### Discussion of the biology behind menopause Menopause occurs in women due to an age-related decrease in estrogen production, ending reproductive fertility. It’s a natural biological transition, not a disease. ### Explanation of the different stages: pre-menopause, perimenopause, menopause, post-menopause Pre-menopause is the fertile phase, perimenopause outlines diminishing fertility, menopause ends the menstrual cycle, and post-menopause represents years following the end of reproduction. ### Detailed overview of common symptoms: hot flashes, sleep problems, night sweats, mood changes, vaginal dryness and more Common symptoms such as hot flashes, sleep disorders, night sweats, mood fluctuations, and vaginal dryness frequently indicate menopause or hormonal imbalances in women. Proper [menopause treatments](https://www.earthandskin.com.au/services-offered/menopause-treatments/) are always essential. ## **Psychological Impact of Menopause** ### The link between menopause and mental health Menopause may trigger mental health issues like depression and anxiety due to drastic hormonal changes, impacting emotional well-being and cognitive function in women. ### Importance of mental wellness during menopause Mental wellness during menopause is crucial as hormonal changes can trigger mood swings, anxiety, and depression, significantly impacting one’s overall quality of life. ### Strategies for managing mood changes and anxiety Effective mood management strategies include regular physical activity, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep. Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques to cope with anxiety daily. ![menopause treatment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/IN-ARTICLE-images-10.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Types of Menopause Treatments** ### Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT): benefits and risks Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) benefits include alleviating menopausal symptoms and reducing osteoporosis risks. However, it can potentially increase breast cancer and stroke risks. ### Alternative Therapies: botanicals, nutritional supplements, physical exercises Alternative therapies can incorporate botanicals and nutritional supplements, coupled with physical exercises to promote overall well-being and alleviate numerous health issues naturally. ### Lifestyle Changes: diet, exercise, stress management Making lifestyle changes, like improving diet, increasing exercise and managing stress effectively can significantly enhance overall health, wellbeing, vitality and longevity. ### Medications: antidepressants, anti-seizure drugs, blood pressure medications Medications including antidepressants, anti-seizure drugs, and blood pressure pills play crucial roles in managing mental health issues and hypertension effectively. ## **Deep Dive Into Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)** ### Explanation of how HRT works Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) works by supplementing low hormone levels, typically estrogen and progesterone, to alleviate menopausal symptoms in women effectively. ### Types of HRT: estrogen-only, estrogen plus progesterone, and tibolone HRT types include estrogen-only for post-hysterectomy patients, estrogen plus progesterone, ideal for intact wombs, and tibolone, which mimics several hormones. ### Discussing the risks and benefits Discussing the risks and benefits before undertaking any venture is critical. It supports informed decision making, predictability, and minimises potential negative implications. ## **Exploring Alternative Therapies** ### Explanation of various available botanicals and nutritional supplements Various botanicals and nutritional supplements offer support to health, including fighting inflammation, enhancing digestion, optimising heart health, improving cognition & boosting immunity. ### Importance of close consultation with healthcare professionals Close consultation with healthcare professionals is crucial for accurate diagnosis, effective treatment planning, and prevention of potential health-related complications. ### Discussion of their effectiveness in symptom management Their effectiveness in symptom management has been proven substantial, significantly alleviating discomfort and improving the quality of life for patients across several conditions. ## **Importance of Lifestyle Changes** ### Detailed discussion on the benefits of diet for managing menopause symptoms A detailed discussion on diet benefits for managing menopause symptoms includes reduced hot flashes, mood stabilisation and lower risk of osteoporosis and heart disease. ### Role of exercise in managing weight and mood changes Exercise plays a crucial role in managing weight as it helps burn calories, while also improving mood by releasing endorphins and reducing stress. ### Importance of stress management techniques Effective stress management techniques are crucial for maintaining overall health, enhancing productivity, improving relationships, promoting longevity and fostering positive mental well-being. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-treatments-for-relief/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/menopause-treatments-for-relief/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Self Care **Tags:** hormone, menopause, Menopause Treatments, woman health, HRT, perimenopause, post-menopause --- ### [Co-Parenting Travel Guidelines: Navigating travelling with children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/) **Published:** June 18, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** For many Australians who’ve been putting off holidays or have an overdue visit to family and friends overseas, the return of international travel is a huge relief. But for single parents who are sharing child custody, travelling with children abroad is not as simple as grabbing a passport, booking a flight, and packing a suitcase. You have to be aware of some important rules and responsibilities before leaving Australia. This helps you avoid any potential legal issues that could cause big problems down the line. If you’re planning to travel overseas with your child, the first rule is to inform your co-parent about your travel plans. If you don’t, there may be serious consequences. What are they? Let’s find out from my co-parenting holiday travel guidelines below! ***Further reading: [How to bag yourself a cheap family holiday.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-family-holiday/)*** ## **What does the law say about co-parents making decisions for their children?** Under the [Family Law Act 1975](https://www.legislation.gov.au/C2004A00275/2019-03-10/text), which is the main law for family matters in Australia, it’s generally assumed that both parents share equal responsibility for major decisions about their child. This includes choices about health, schooling, moving, religion, and travel. But, if there are court orders, they might change this arrangement if sharing responsibility isn’t in the child’s best interest. Under the idea that both parents have a say, big decisions like health, schooling, moving, religion, and travel need a team effort. This means you’ve got to chat with your co-parent before making these calls for your child. Remember that in co-parenting, both of you get a say in the important stuff. ## **Child custody vacation (Do’s and don’ts)** ## **Open communication and compromise** Determine how your kid will keep in touch with your ex during the vacation. It can be via phone calls, online messages, or video chats. They can do it at the end of the day, or your child can send photos and updates whenever they want. It also helps to share your travel itinerary, contact information, accommodation plans, and emergency details. It’s normal for the non-travelling parent to ask for details. Remember that by doing this, you are not giving up control. Instead, you are showing your former spouse that you can cooperate and co-parent effectively. Doing this prevents unnecessary panic when your ex tries to reach you, and you’re somewhere in the Grand Canyon with zero cell reception. You can also agree not to share every detail of the vacation, but make sure you can give updates whenever needed. If you’re planning a lengthy trip, your child might miss spending their usual time with the non-travelling parent. As a compromise for allowing you to travel with your kid, arrange some “make-up time” with your co-parent when you return home. ![Co-parenting travel guidelines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012358-1066x800.jpg "1000012358 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Have a parenting plan in place** When [putting together your parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/lowdown-court-orders-parenting-plans/), don’t forget to cover vacations! A parenting plan allows you to set expectations for how and when to discuss vacation plans. Talk about how vacation time will be split, how much notice needs to be given, and any restrictions on travel destinations. This bit of planning now will prevent last-minute scrambles and ensure that both parents are on the same page. Kids thrive on routine. [A parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) provides a consistent schedule so they know what to expect. Our little ones need this stability, especially during vacations, which can already shake things up a bit. ## **Don’t travel without consulting your co-parent about your plans** Springing vacation plans on your ex at the eleventh hour is a recipe for conflict. I have a friend who tried and it did not end pretty. Surprises might work for birthday parties but not for custody schedules. If you’re considering vacation time abroad and have not received consent from the other parent, contact a family lawyer to discuss your arrangements and options and find the best way forward for you. Always provide ample notice and discuss any potential conflicts early on. If you fail to consult your co-parent and choose to take your child on an international trip that is not agreed on by both parents, this can be considered child abduction under the law. Further reading: [Ex won’t sign passport application for your child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/) ## **Do respect the Custody Agreement** Custody agreements are legally binding, not a casual set of guidelines to be interpreted loosely. Make sure your vacation plans comply with the stipulated dates and conditions. If the agreement says “no international travel,” resist the urge to whisk your child off to Paris on a whim. Stick to the agreement to avoid a visit to the courtroom. ## **Don’t take the risk of travelling anyway** As I said earlier, if you don’t consult your co-parent and choose to leave Australia with your child without their consent or while waiting for the Court’s decision, you could be breaking the law under sections 65Y and 65Z of the Family Law Act. If found guilty, you could face up to three years in prison. If you’re travelling to a country that has signed the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, your co-parent in Australia can apply for a court order, seeking the help of authorities in the country you’ve travelled to, to return your child to Australia safely. The same law applies if your co-parent has taken your child overseas without your consent. In this circumstance, the non-travelling parent can also apply for an Airport Watch List Order, which can stop your child’s travel at the border. ![Co-parenting travel guidelines](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/1000012357-1066x800.jpg "1000012357 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **When should you involve the Court or a family lawyer?** If you’ve talked to the non-travelling parent, share your travel plans and even offer them extra time with the kids to make up for your trip, but they still say no, don’t lose hope. There are more steps you can take. If you feel the other parent is being unreasonable, you might consider applying for a court order to travel without their consent. The court will decide if the trip is in your child’s best interest, and they have the final say. It’s important to speak to a family lawyer about this first, as every situation is different. Although it’s rare, sometimes the non-travelling parent might need extra reassurance about your child’s safe return. For instance, if you’re worried that your co-parent might overstay their trip or secretly plan to move your child to another country, you can ask the court for a surety payment. This payment covers the cost of bringing your child back to Australia if necessary. It’s a precaution that’s only used in exceptional cases, but it’s good to know it’s an option if needed. ## **Summary: Co-parenting holiday travel guidelines** With international travel making a comeback, I know how much you want to spend some alone time abroad with your kid. But make sure you understand your obligations as a co-parent. Never forget to get consent from the other parent. Make sure you also include your child in the planning process! This will get them excited and give them a sense of responsibility. Whether it’s choosing between the zoo or the aquarium, let them have a say. When packing, think ahead and be prepared for anything. This includes favourite toys, books, comfort items, and any necessary medications. I’ll never forget one vacation meltdown years ago all because my son’s beloved stuffed toy was left behind. Co-parenting and travel can be tricky, but with good communication and a solid parenting plan in place, you can make it work! Sticking to the tips above will keep things smooth and fun for your kids, no matter where they are. Stay flexible and focused on what’s best for them. Bon voyage! ![ids holiday separated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Kids-holiday-separated.png "Kids holiday separated - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/co-parenting-travel-guidelines/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Travel **Tags:** family law, holiday, vacation, overseas, abroad --- ### [Practical Tips for Stocking Up on Newborn Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/newborn-essentials/) **Published:** June 4, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Mums, are you ready for your baby? There’s nothing like the excitement and expectancy of preparing for your newborn. Yet it’s common for new parents to feel like they’re not prepared enough. It’s also possible to go overboard and buy things that you’re probably never going to use. We understand you just want everything to be perfect for your new little bundle of joy. Wouldn’t you rather spend your money where it really matters and save the rest? So, to help you along your way when planning and purchasing all things baby-related, we’ve put together some practical tips for stocking up on all the newborn essentials. ## Tip 1: Create a checklist To kick things off, we’d suggest making a checklist of all the essential things you need for your newborn. Then everything you want to get for them. Under essentials, you’d need to include all the important items, such as clothing, feeding supplies, diapers, nursery equipment, and any healthcare items they may need. Under wants, include the things you might want for them or yourself, i.e. all the fun, pretty and cool stuff to make the process more comfortable. ## Tip 2: Separate the essentials from the non-essentials Separating the essentials and non-essentials can be tough because some non-essentials might seem like they are completely necessary. By separating them, you’re not saying you’ll never get it; you’re just prioritising other, more important items for your newborn. A great way to separate the essentials from the non-essentials is to organise your checklist from the top priority to the lowest. For instance, nappies are essential, but a super cute outfit isn’t. Thus the nappies would be higher on the list than outfits. ## Tip 3: Set up a budget for your newborn essentials Having a budget and sticking to it is often challenging for new parents. We just want to get our kids anything and everything that’ll make their arrival more comfortable and memorable. That said, sticking to your budget is the only way you’re going to prioritise the essentials over the wants. We suggest doing a little digging! Check how much your essentials cost online and then budget accordingly. ## Tip 4: Buy in bulk The seasoned parents will all tell you that looking after your newborn is a full-time job. Right as soon as it arrives. Some new parents barely have enough time to shower, let alone go to the store. Going back and forth to buy things like nappies and baby wipes is the last thing you want to do. The good news is there is a solution; whenever possible, BUY IN BULK. An extra bonus to doing this is it actually ends up being a lot cheaper to buy in bulk. You can avoid being caught without enough [nappies and buy them online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/), too. Here are a few items that you’ll go through at a faster rate than you’d initially anticipate. Buy these in bulk if you can: - Baby nappies Whether you’re going to use disposable or washable nappies, make your decision beforehand, but just know that it’s okay to change your mind. The option of what type of nappies or what brand of nappies to use will depend on you and your little one because everyone is different. During the newborn stage, it’s easier to use disposable nappies. This is because your baby will have a bowel movement between two to five times a day. Some babies go after every meal. From six weeks to three months old, the frequency of changing dirty nappies will decrease. This becomes the optimal time to start using reusable nappies. - Baby wipes When your baby arrives, trust us; baby wipes are going to be your best friend. Whether your little one has a nappy change or a dirty face, having baby wipes nearby helps a bunch. Like with nappies, you’ll need to find out which brand and type of baby wipes works best for you and your baby. Hypoallergenic baby wipes are always a good way to go. - Burp cloths With a newborn, always anticipate needing a burp cloth. So, do yourself a favour and stock up on these beauties before the baby comes, so you’ll never be without them. - Dummies Save yourself the effort before your baby comes and invest in some good-quality dummies. These are lifesavers as they help soothe your baby. Keep some in every spot possible: in the nursery, in your nappy bag, in your bedroom and in the kitchen. Anywhere you need so you always have easy access to a dummy. ![Newborn essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/17.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Tip 5: Buy quality for your newborn Some of the essentials are going to cost a lot of money. It may be a little tempting to cut costs where possible and buy secondhand or cheap. This is okay for some items, but when it comes to cots, travel systems and prams, it’s best to buy new ones and not skimp on the price. But buying the most expensive items also doesn’t mean you’re buying good quality. Before you buy something as essential as a pram, ensure you’ve done your research. Check out as many reviews as possible so you know exactly what you’re investing in. Sites like [Baby Toddler Kids](https://babytoddlerkids.com.au/prams/newborn/) give authentic and insightful reviews from experts to help you find the best pram for your needs and budget. ## Tip 6: Create a baby registry The saying goes that it takes a village to raise a kid, and if you want to be prepared and ensure you have all the essentials, get all your friends and family involved. The norm is for good friends or family members to throw a baby shower for the expecting parents to spoil and help them prepare. People will usually give you many essentials, but don’t be afraid to be specific about your needs. Creating a baby registry is the perfect way to let everyone know what your needs and preferences are. ## Tip 7: Be flexible Every baby is different, so don’t be surprised when they don’t like certain items or are more sensitive to certain baby products. Here’s where you need to be flexible and understanding. Like us, even newborns can respond differently to items, fabrics, and experiences. For example, maybe your baby isn’t latching properly to you, and you need to use bottles. While you may have already gone out and bought all the bottles and done the research beforehand, they might not latch to those either. It takes patience and perseverance to find the perfect match. There’s no need to worry or grumble when this happens. Just move along until you find what does work for them. ## Tip 10: Don’t forget about self-care When your newborn arrives, your whole world suddenly revolves around being there for them. The maternal instinct kicks in as you realise you are their sole provider and their little life depends on you. While you’ll find out just how far you can push yourself while being sleep-deprived, it’s vital to look after yourself as well. Self-care is going to look a little different compared to what it was prior to the baby, with spa treatments and chocolates, but now you’ll find absolute bliss when using a silver nipple shield or getting out of the house for a short walk or gym session. The point is, to look after your newborn best, you also need to ensure you have your essentials. Here are some things moms should have before your newborn arrives: - Nipple cream Don’t forget to stock up on nipple cream because once you’re breastfeeding (should you choose to), this stuff is going to save your nipples. With feeding on demand, approximately every one to three hours, your nipples will be cracked and achy, and nipple cream will help bring some relief. ![Self care for mums with newborns](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/18.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") - Silver nipple shields Before you start breastfeeding or pumping, it might seem optional, but once you’re in the thick of it, silver nipple shields will feel like a dream. They work well to protect your nipples thanks to their anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, antifungal and antimicrobial properties. They also help to position your nipple to help your baby latch properly. - Tissue oil Your body has adapted so much to prepare to bring a new life into the world, especially your skin. So, look after it all through your pregnancy and postpartum. While stretchmarks are primarily hereditary, you can help minimise them by keeping your skin moisturised with good-quality tissue oil. - Nursing pillow When your newborn needs to be fed almost every hour, you’ll be awake at odd times of the night in a feeding position. A nursing pillow provides you and your baby with the right support for the best feeding positions so you both feel more comfortable and relaxed. ## Final Thoughts on Newborn Essentials Having a child can sometimes be an overwhelming experience for most parents; it’s normal. In the end, parents all say the same thing: having a baby was the best thing that happened to them. Remember that a prepared parent is a happy parent. We hope these practical tips make stocking up for your newborn a breeze, and we wish you all the best! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/newborn-essentials/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/newborn-essentials/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life **Tags:** self care, baby carriers, newborn essentials, new mum --- ### [Best websites for single parents: Support in Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/websites-for-single-parents/) **Published:** June 4, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** It takes a village to raise a child. But sometimes it could feel like you’re all alone, especially if you’re freshly divorced. You start questioning your life choices. Believe us, separation was the right decision. But still, you will find yourself asking whether that famed “village” is real or just a figment of the Africans’ optimism. Who can you trust to babysit your little one when your boss needs you to go overtime? How do you get adequate child support? Who will listen to you vent when all this single parenting gets overwhelming? Who will talk you out of reconciling with your kid’s father when everything becomes too much to do on your own? If you’re struggling to find a [support group around you](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine), maybe it’s time you look at your hand. Wait, this is not a “sometimes the only hand you need to hold is your own” advice. What I mean is that thing on your hand: your smartphone. Maybe it’s time to take a look into online support for Australian single mums. ## Benefits of utilizing websites for single parents While I still value having fellow like-minded individuals I can meet and talk to face-to-face, I have learned not to snub online communities. These are just some of the benefits for using websites to find support in your single parenting journey: ### You get access to relevant resources and information. Need addresses on family law counsellors to help with child custody? Advice and guidance on [successful co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/complementary-co-parenting/)? Help with Centrelink single parenting payment? Today, almost everything is a few taps away on Google. ### You connect with other single parents for support and advice. There’s literally hundreds of thousands of online forums, chat groups, and Facebook groups to build your virtual single parent community. You’ll find single parents from all walks of life to keep you from feeling alone or isolated as you navigate this journey. To be honest, I often find many online communities to be a better safe space. Even if members are anonymous, such as in a particular Subreddit I frequent, you can find a group of supportive and non-judgmental people online. ### It’s convenient to find childcare services and activities for children. At 35, I appreciate parenting tips and hacks that make my life easier. I mean, it’s nice when I don’t have to wrack my brains thinking of where’s the best (and most affordable) daycare or unique and [fun summer activities for my child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-activities-kids-sydney/). There are already lots of helpful mum blogs and vlogs to make my life easier in just a few taps on my phone. ![A mum with a pram using a smartphone websites for single parents](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/IN-ARTICLE-images-9.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Top websites for single parents Here are our team’s top three choices for the best parent support group for Aussie single mums: ### Single Mother Survival Guide First up, we have [SMSG,](https://www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com/help-resources/) an all-in-one resource featured in a handful of podcasts and shows. It’s a blog, a podcast, and a coaching service in one platform. Aside from tackling important issues on the blog, it also curates different services to assist us when we need help with buying food, finding support for victims of domestic violence, and others. You’ll find every helpline for single or solo parents [here](https://www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com/help-resources/). You’re free to join its support forum on Facebook or download the essentials guide. ### Single Mother Families Australia, Inc. [Single Mother Families Australia](https://smfa.com.au) helps mothers in the country get through single parenthood by curating links to a variety of income support, child support and child care, future planning, and safety and housing. You can find recent articles, press releases, and reports for sole parents too. You can also follow them on [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/SingleMumsInfo/) for updates and to find mums in the same situation. Who knows, you can meet other mothers you can build a single mum Facebook group with. ### Council of Single Mothers and Their Children Finally, there’s [CSMC](https://www.csmc.org.au), which has been supporting single mums for 50 years already. You can find links to legitimate income support systems, like Services Australia. They also have featured articles and news on everything that you need to know, such as annual budgets and research. ### eHarmony Now, if you’re more interested in online dating, [eHarmony](https://www.eharmony.com.au/lifestyle/single-parents-dating/) is a great platform. It’s literally one of the best dating app out there and a couple of my friends will vouch for it! My childhood best friend and self-confessed hopeless romantic Cindy had tried many other dating apps to find a new person to love after her first marriage fell apart, but to no avail. You’d think she’d give up on the dating apps after her frustrating results, but she did not. And rightfully so, because that’s how she met Sam. They’re now happily married and loving their family of seven! My neighbour Stacey swears by eHarmony too. She met her soon-to-be wife on the app as well. She says it was more challenging to find someone who understood her experience and priorities as a separated mother on other websites. For instance, not everyone gets her dark humour about family courts – except a fellow single mum like Lynn. ### Single Parent Advocate Finally, [Single Parent Advocate](https://singleparentadvocate.org) is a US-based nonprofit organisation that strives to be a one-stop shop for single mums and dads. It mentors mums and dads on how to get child support. Clients can also join activities like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day celebrations to make them feel less lonely. The website has a lot of 5 stars. [One client says](https://greatnonprofits.org/org/single-parent-advocate), “\[the\] SPA has been there for me and my 3 kiddos for several years. They have provided physical items such as clothes, bikes, Thanksgiving meals, and Christmas presents. More importantly, SPA has provides emotional and spiritual support.” It is in the US, but us Aussies will still find useful resources on the website. It curates links to everything you might need: employment, education, finances, food, health, shelter, and government. Aside from reputable links, they have a podcast that provides support and information to empower single parents. If the topic you’re interested in can’t be found in the ones listed, you can even place a request for a future discussion. And if you really enjoy listening to podcasts, and you want something closer to home you can always tap into the [Beanstalk Mums very own podcast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/). Full of information and interviews with experts who make your journey a lot easier. If you’re already in the place where you can give back, you can also donate or volunteer, so SPA can help more solo mums and dads. ![Woman using a laptop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/brooke-cagle-JBwcenOuRCg-unsplash-1200x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## Tips for using websites for single parents effectively ### Setting up a profile and engaging with the community Most of the websites I’ve listed above don’t require you to sign up to access their resources. But in the case of online groups (i.e. Single Mother Families Australia Facebook group), you would need to have a profile to start engaging. You can use your personal profile if you have one, or create an account solely for this purpose. If you’re interested in forums like Reddit communities, you can stay totally anonymous. Regardless, you should always engage with fellow users and positively contribute to your virtual community. ### Utilising filters and search features to find relevant information Sometimes, websites can have hundreds or thousands of pages, making it challenging to find what you need. Turning on filters and trying out the search box will make navigating the website much easier. ### Being cautious of online scams and protecting personal information Finally, although there are good people online, there are also bad ones. Keep updated on scams (such as love scams) so you don’t fall for them. (Remember: if it sounds too good to be true, it is probably untrue.) Don’t give away your personal information to strangers, especially those that can compromise the safety of your family. ## Summary of websites for single parents Wrapping up, being a single parent is tough, but the internet can be your best friend. There are fantastic websites out there that offer everything from advice and support to dating opportunities just for single parents. They are absolute gems, packed with local resources and ways to connect with other single mums. Diving into these digital communities can make you feel a lot less alone. You can find everything you need, from tips on handling custody battles to the best summer activities for your little ones. Plus, it’s all just a few taps away on your phone. But remember, while most people online are great, there are always a few bad apples. Stay smart about your personal info and be on the lookout for scams. Use those search features and filters to find exactly what you need without the hassle. In a nutshell, these websites can turn your smartphone into a superhero sidekick, making single parenting a bit easier and a lot more connected. So, go ahead and tap into these resources – your future self will thank you! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/websites-for-single-parents/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/websites-for-single-parents/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life **Tags:** support groups for single mums, friends and motherhood, dating websites, parenting support --- ### [The advantages of being a single mum in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/advantages-being-single-mum/) **Published:** June 1, 2024 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a single parent is no walk in the park. But it’s also filled with some great benefits, especially Down Under. Here, single mothers are not just getting by; we are thriving in a supportive and vibrant community. If you are new to this, I got you, mumma. I’m a single mum, and in this article, I will list the perks of being a single mother in Australia. I might even tell you what my favourite perk is! Join me as I list the many ways single mamas are rocking it, and I’ll show you why raising kids on your own can be a wonderful journey. ## Benefits of being a single Mum in Australia ## 1. Priority access to child support services In Australia, single mums often receive priority access to childcare support services, which is a significant advantage in terms of securing a spot for their child. Receiving financial support makes a huge difference. Sarah, another single mother from work, found herself overwhelmed after her divorce. But after applying for the Parenting Payment and Family Tax Benefit, the additional income helped her cover essential expenses, from groceries to school supplies. This support allowed her to focus more on her kids and less on financial stress. She even managed to save a little each month, which she used for special outings with her children. These programs allow single mums to create wonderful memories with their kids without worrying about money. ## 2. Government support We all know that, aside from emotional struggles, being a single mum also comes with financial challenges. However, there are several [Australian organisations offering financial assistance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/) to help us lighten the load. Here are some agencies that could help: - [Centrelink](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/centrelink?context=1) – A government agency that offers various payments and benefits to assist with the cost of living. Including Parenting Payment Single (PPS), Family Tax Benefit, and Child Care Subsidy, rent assistance, among others. - [National Debt Helpline](https://ndh.org.au/) – Provides financial counselling and support to help single parents manage debt and financial difficulties. - [Council of Single Mothers and their Children](https://www.csmc.org.au/) – Provides specialist support services to single mothers in Victoria, including assistance with Centrelink payments, housing, work and study, and parenting arrangements. ### Eligibility criteria To access [these benefits,](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/) single mums need to meet certain criteria. Typically, you must have a low income and be the primary carer for your kids. The application process is pretty straightforward. It involves filling up forms where you provide information about your financial situation and family setup. It might seem like a lot at first, but it’s designed so that the support goes to those who need it most. ## 3. Single parenting flexibility and independence Being a single mother means you get to be the ultimate decision-maker, which is my favourite perk of being a solo mama. Want to have pizza for dinner? Sure, why not? Feel like taking a spontaneous trip to the beach? Pack up the kids and go! You set the rules, and you get to break them, too. This applies to your children’s education, daily routines, and even financial priorities. Adapting to your kiddo’s needs without lengthy discussions with your ex is incredibly liberating. It allows you to decide based on what works best for you and your children. ![single mum cuddling child](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/pexels-tatianasyrikova-3968139-1200x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum supporting single mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ## 4. Stronger bond and emotional connection within a single-parent family Single mamas often find themselves wearing many hats – parent, friend, teacher, and confidant. This means every day is filled with chances to connect with our children. When I became a single mother, I developed a [stronger bond with my kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/why-you-should-have-confidence-in-your-ability-to-mother-alone/). We shared and spent quality time whenever we could. We turned making dinner together into cooking-slash-variety shows. Even the daily drive to school became mini karaoke concerts where everyone sang their heart out. These moments are the glue that holds our relationship together. That bond also allows us to connect more emotionally with our kids. Without another adult to lean on, you and your kids become each other’s greatest allies. They see you at your best and your worst, and you see them the same way. ## 5. Empowerment and resilience of single mothers Becoming a solo mama does not make you weaker. Instead, it gives you the chance to be empowered and resilient. We can do it in countless ways, even the small ones. The first lesson I learned after being a single mum is relying on my resourcefulness. Every day brings new challenges, and single mums become adept at solving problems on the fly. We embrace new skills, from financial planning to DIY home repairs, and we become extremely capable because we can only rely on ourselves. Many single mothers also pursue higher education or training to get better opportunities for themselves and their children. ### Examples of successful single mums There are countless stories of single mamas who have succeeded in life. Like J.K. Rowling, who got divorced after suffering from domestic abuse. She struggled to finish her novel while taking care of her infant daughter by herself. Her journey from living on welfare to creating the Harry Potter empire is a testament to what single mothers can achieve with perseverance. Or Taraji P. Henson, who had to raise her son alone after her husband died. She worked tirelessly and took on any role she could until her breakthrough in Hollywood. Today, she’s an acclaimed actress and a beacon of inspiration for single mothers everywhere. ## Summary: Perks of Single Motherhood Being a single mum comes with benefits that make the journey both rewarding and empowering. The flexibility to create your own rules, the chance to nurture an incredible emotional connection, and the opportunity to grow stronger and more resilient every day are just a few of my favourites. These perks often get overshadowed by the challenges. So, while the road might be bumpy at times, it’s also filled with countless beautiful, laugh-out-loud moments that make the ride truly special. Yes, every single mother encounters challenges along the way, but remember that you are strong, capable, and not alone. There is an entire [single mum community](https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100044576462982) going through the same experiences. Ready to help you the best they can. Most of all, embrace the adventure because being a single mum means being a superhero in your own right. So hold your head high because you got this! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/advantages-being-single-mum/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/advantages-being-single-mum/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life --- ### [The best YouTube videos to teach your child to ride a bike](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teach-child-ride-bike/) **Published:** May 19, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** OK, the big moment has come … it’s time to teach your child to ride a bike. But how on earth do you go about it? Well, there are a few different ways. We’ve made it super easy for you by trawling YouTube for the most comprehensive and helpful videos on teaching your child to ride a bike. Happy teaching, mumma, and happy peddling, little one! ### Teach Your Kid How To Ride A Bike – BikeRadar’s Ultimate Guide BikeRadar’s ultimate guide is all you need to teach your child to ride a bike. Learn from a former racer in this 8-minute video that covers the basics and more, including the right age for kids to learn to ride a pedal bike and why using stabilisers is not a good idea. ### How to Ride a Bike in Less than 5 Minutes Got 5 minutes to teach your child to ride a bike? Watch this video. That’s all the time it takes to learn, apparently, provided your child has the balance and coordination to pull it off. ### Learn to Ride a Bike without Training Wheels with Michael In this video, your child will learn how to ride a bike from another kid in 3 easy steps. Six-year-old Michael learned how to ride a bike confidently (and without stabilisers) in just a few hours. Find out how he did it. ### Teach a child to ride a bike quickly and simply by Cycling UK Here’s a step-by-step guide to having your child ride a bike without stabilisers in no time at all. Made by Cycling UK, the national cycling charity, this 3.4-minute video takes you through the entire process quickly, from getting on and off the bike to scooting to using pedals. ### Kids Riding Bikes Safely by DIT South Australia Riding a bike on public roads for the first time can be scary for children. This video from the Department of Infrastructure and Transport (DIT) South Australia teaches children to ride bikes safely on the road. The next time your kid wants to hit the streets with their new ride, they’ll be prepared for anything. For more helpful hints, tips and advice on all things parenting check out the [‘Children’ section of the Beanstalk Mums blog](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/). Happy reading. ![Teach child ride bike | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Teach-child-ride-bike.png "Teach child ride bike - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teach-child-ride-bike/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teach-child-ride-bike/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** bicycle, ride a bike, training wheels, stabilisers --- ### [Why not to feel guilty for holidaying without your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/holidaying-without-your-kids/) **Published:** May 25, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** As a single parent (or indeed a partnered parent) you might have a golden opportunity to holiday without your kids. The natural reaction is to jump for joy and then dust off your suitcase and start packing. But, in reality, as mums we spend hours/days/weeks of guilt-infused deliberation trying to justify whether it’s ok to ditch the kids and take a break. I have written this article to help you justify that YES it is absolutely fine to take a kid-free holiday. And, even more so, it’s important that you do. Keep reading to [ditch the mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/), embrace the opportunity and start planning your holiday wardrobe. Here are my reasons not to feel guilty about holidaying without your kids. ***Further reading: [7 Budget-friendly solo travel ideas for women.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/)*** ## Reasons not to feel guilty for holidaying without your kids ### It will give you balance Ah the elusive life balance! As mums, it’s virtually impossible to [find a healthy balance](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/balance-single-mum-life/) between looking after ourselves, caring for our kids, managing the home, making money … and the many other plates we spin. If this balance can’t be found in everyday life, going on holiday without your kids might be the only way to reset the scales. I used to find long flights intensely boring. Now, the thought of an eight-hour flight without children is up there as one of my all-time favourite activities. If you feel the same, it might be that a holiday minus your little angels is exactly what you need right now. Not just a luxury, but a necessity. ### You will rediscover who you really are If you only vaguely remember who you were before your mini-me’s came along, then it’s time to step away for a bit and [reconnect with yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/). Holidaying without your kids allows you to rediscover yourself. You relearn and reconnect with your truths that range from the most inane things to profound self-concepts. Remind yourself what makes you tick, what makes you happy and what your own personal goals are. Maybe too much Paw Patrol has made you forget that there is a whole world out there waiting to be discovered. Or, perhaps, eating your kids’ leftovers day-after-day has distracted you from exploring different foods and cultures that really interest you. You can’t enjoy being a mum if you can’t celebrate who you are as a person. So take that holiday without your kids and rediscover yourself. ### It will make you a better mum Going on holidays without your kids is a great way to load up on fun adventures and new sensory information. You will gain knowledge and experiences to share with your children without them tagging along on your trip. Aside from taking home lessons and stories to share, you will come home happier and relaxed. Yes! Holidays without your kids can make you a better mum than when you are constantly running your household and fussing over your kids. Experiencing another culture and observing other mums can even help you pick up new practices and ideas which you can incorporate in your journey as a woman and a mum. You become more open to new fashions, cuisines, and habits. These are things that can positively transform you as a mum. ### You will role model self-care to your kids Motherhood is the most selfless job in the world, in any culture. And a lot of times, we wear that selflessness on our sleeve and absorb it as part of our identity. Some of us will even go as far as believing that doing anything that doesn’t directly benefit our children is – \*gasp\* – selfish. How many times has the thought, “Why would I take a holiday and not let my kids enjoy it?” crossed your mind? Countless, I’m sure. We may even be guilty of judging other mums for taking their holidays without their kids! “How dare she leave her kids behind just to bake her bum in Bali? Grrr!” This may stem from hearing our mums or older women regard personal holidays as a grave sin in motherhood. It makes us believe that to be an acceptable mum, self-care is limited to the rare yoga class, online shopping, or watching our very own Netflix show. Nothing more ‘extravagant’ than that. This is something we need to correct as modern mums. By taking a holiday by yourself … on your own or with your favourite adults, you set a good example for your children that taking care of yourself is important at any age. ### Give your kids a chance to grow … without you One of the reasons why you are hesitant to leave your kids behind is that you believe that they need you ALL THE TIME. Not true. Well, yes, in a sense your kids need you. But they also need you to leave them alone. Remember that time when your mum left you with Nan and Pops so she could take a work trip? It was probably the first time you learned how to unpack and pack your own bag and fold your clothes amongst other basic life skills. Your absence can help develop independence and build confidence in your children as they try to make decisions and take care of their own selves. Remember this when considering holidaying without your kids. ### It will lower your stress levels Removing yourself from an environment that your brain associates with stress [can lower your stress hormones](https://www.bbrfoundation.org/blog/importance-taking-vacation-time-de-stress-and-recharge#:~:text=A%20study%20released%20last%20year,Your%20Risk%20for%20Heart%20Attack.). Let’s admit it, raising your kids and running the daily errands to maintain your household can be a huge source of stress. Sustained stress will eventually affect all aspects of your health. A break from home and work life (including the people whom you work for, a.k.a. your kids) will give you a chance to reset your body and [lower your stress](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/). Leaving for a holiday without your kids and doing activities that boost your happy hormones, whether that’s shopping or riding a jet ski, can lower your anxiety, reduce your risk for cardiovascular diseases, and [improve the quality of your sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/). ### You deserve this If you’ve run out of good-enough reasons to justify going on a holiday without your kids, remember this: > *You are a mum, and YOU DESERVE A HOLIDAY.* The reality is that holidaying with your kids is not yours to fully enjoy. [Travelling with your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/travelling-as-a-mum/) requires your complete attention and care. On the other hand, holidays without your kids are all about you, you, YOU. So, you’ve got the chance of holidaying without your kids? Don’t be a martyr. Take the holiday, leave the guilt behind and go have the time of your life. Because if there is one thing I know, the minute you get home, mum duties will begin again and you’ll be grateful you took the opportunity for some well-deserved time off. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/holidaying-without-your-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/holidaying-without-your-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Travel **Tags:** self care, holiday, travel, break --- ### [11 Meditation apps to improve your life through mindfulness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/) **Published:** May 3, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about apps to learn meditation was last updated in 2024.*** If someone mentioned meditation to me a few years ago I would have laughed and spat out my wine. I’m a mum! How on earth could I find time for peace and meditation? No, red wine was a far easier option. That was until I reached rock bottom, partly due to my lack of insight and possibly too much wine. I was at the point when I would try ANYTHING to feel better, and meditation was mentioned to me over and over again by everyone – my GP, my counsellor, my friends. So, I thought, “What harm can it do?” and I gave it a whirl. I am so glad I did. It has changed my life. The best bit is that it’s actually very easy to get started if you use a meditation app, and it only takes 10 minutes each day. Winner! But best of all are the massive positives you can gain from meditation. According to [ZenHabits](https://zenhabits.net/meditate/): > *“Meditation has been shown to have mental benefits, such as improved focus, happiness, memory, self-control, academic performance and more. Some research on meditation has indicated that it may have other health benefits, including improved metabolism, heart rate, respiration, blood pressure and more.”* What have you got to lose? To get you off the starting block, I’ve listed my favourite apps for learning meditation—many of which have free options and heaps of specific features you will love. I’ve done the research and brought you everything you need to know right here. ## 11 Apps to learn meditation and improve your life through mindfulness ## [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/) [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/) is a meditation app made for sceptics. If you’re completely new to meditation or are afraid that it might be too woo-woo for you, this is the app to get. Headspace is easy to use, straightforward and to the point, focusing on guided exercises that last for about 10 minutes and are intended to be practised daily. You get 10 sessions of guided meditation for free by downloading the app, and you can learn the basics quickly just by following along. If you want more sessions and features, the paid subscription is pretty solid and packed with content, along with stats that track your progress. Headspace has got to be one of the best apps to learn meditation. [![Headspace | Improve your life | Apps to learn meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000010216.jpg "1000010216 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.headspace.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free to try* ***Cost of app:** $12.99/month or $69.99/year* ***Pros:** free 10 sessions of guided meditation, takes the hippy-dippy out of meditation* ***Cons:** Need to pay for more sessions and features* ***You will love this app if:** Y*ou’re new to meditation and want a secular, straightforward way to learn. ## [Calm](https://www.calm.com/) Calm offers a free 7-day trial where you can access guided meditation exercises plus additional content at no cost. This is a good way to get a feel of the features before you commit to a monthly plan, which is a great deal if you want the whole package. This includes a 21-day program that teaches you about wellness in general and another 7-day program to help you get better sleep. The meat of the subscription is the individual meditation sessions that last from 2 to 20 minutes that you can use as often as you need. [![Calm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000010218.jpg "1000010218 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.calm.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Free 7-day trial* ***Cost of app:** $14.99/month or $69.99 (yearly)* ***Pros:** 7-day trial to learn meditation at no cost, well-rounded meditation app, paid version is packed with features* ***Cons:** Need to pay for advanced features, requires commitment to achieve results* ***You will love this app if:** You have kids who also want to learn meditation. Check out the Calm Kids app.* ## [Breathwrk](https://www.breathwrk.com/) Breathwrk offers a variety of guided breathing exercises suitable for different situations and levels of experience, making it accessible for beginners and experienced practitioners alike. This app allows you to customise your breathing sessions based on your preferences, such as duration and intensity. One feature that I like is the Calming Breath technique. For instance, whenever I feel overwhelmed by the sudden influx of emails and deadlines, I open Breathwrk and follow the simple breathing prompts. My racing thoughts slow down, and my body relaxes within minutes! The rapid breathing technique helps me regain focus and composure and allows me to tackle my tasks with a clearer mind and renewed energy. [![Breathwrk | Apps to learn meditation | Improve your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/0270e070-1ac6-4355-b6a8-b5f9f0b372e4_20240420_174217_0000.jpg "0270e070-1ac6-4355-b6a8-b5f9f0b372e4_20240420_174217_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.breathwrk.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android, Web* ***Free version:*** *Available but with limited access* ***Cost of app:*** *$5.75 to $12 per month* ***Pros:*** *Free 7-day trial on Pro version, Science-backed breathing exercises, customised breathing sessions, Visual feedback* ***Cons:*** *Access to the full range of exercises and customisation options requires a subscription* ***You will love this app if:*** *You are into sports, as it includes exercises that improve aerobic capacity and performance.* ## [Healthy Minds](https://hminnovations.org/meditation-app) Healthy Minds focuses on practising mindfulness and meditation. The benefits are reduced stress and anxiety and improved concentration. A fellow mum from the Beanstalk community says that mindfulness meditation helps her focus on the present, let go of things she cannot change, and calm her mind. Over time, this simple practice rewired her brain to notice the positives in life, shifting her focus from stress to appreciation. Healthy Minds also emphasises the importance of connection and supportive relationships. This includes appreciation, kindness, and compassion toward others. So, not only does it help keep you calm, but it also improves your overall quality of life through building better relationships. [![Healthy Minds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/41dde6dd-c0c8-4eb3-ab1c-5a7cd69a9258_20240420_174916_0000.jpg "41dde6dd-c0c8-4eb3-ab1c-5a7cd69a9258_20240420_174916_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://hminnovations.org/meditation-app) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:*** *Yes* ***Cost of app:*** *Free but they accept donations* ***Pros:*** *Podcast-style lessons, Status report, Active and seated meditation options available* ***Cons:*** *No personalised sessions, Limited offline access* ***You will love this app if:*** *You want to improve relationships with people around you*. ## [Buddhify](https://buddhify.com/) Buddhify is a paid meditation app that organises meditation lessons based on themes like waking up, taking a work break, dealing with difficult emotions, trying to sleep, and feeling stressed. There are plenty of exercises for turning a beginner into an intermediate or advanced practitioner, and enough lessons within each theme to help and calm your mind in specific situations. This isn’t the ideal app if you’re just testing the waters because you have to pay upfront, but intermediate users will find it more than adequate for their needs. [![Buddhify | Improve your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/aaf62d9c-9c4c-40d5-a491-6b3777628842_20240419_212916_0000.jpg "aaf62d9c-9c4c-40d5-a491-6b3777628842_20240419_212916_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://buddhify.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** No* ***Cost of app:** $4.99 (iOS) or $3.99 (Android) to download, $30/year membership* ***Pros:** Guided meditation sessions organised by theme, lot os of exercises, 60 sessions for kids* ***Cons:** Paid app* ***You will love this app if:** You have experience with meditation and want to level up your knowledge.* ## Meditation apps for beginners (cont.) ## [Sattva](https://www.sattva.life/) Next on our list of apps to learn meditation: Sattva is a meditation app based on Vedic teachings and taught by Sanskrit masters, focusing not just on meditation but also on chants and mantras. One of the spiritual teachers on the app is Gurudev, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. This app is more spiritually focused than the others on this list and ideal for experienced practitioners and those interested in Vedic beliefs and traditions. Overall, the lessons are accessible enough even if you’re a complete newbie, and the app features a robust tracking system that monitors progress. Seasoned users will appreciate over a hundred guided meditations, sacred sounds and music tracks. [![Sattva](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/d35b83b4-87ec-404b-ab79-d330e77ccd9a_20240420_195906_0000.jpg "d35b83b4-87ec-404b-ab79-d330e77ccd9a_20240420_195906_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.sattva.life/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Most meditations and chants are free to download* ***Cost of app:** $12.99/month or $49.99 per year (one time)* ***Pros:** Downloadable content for offline use, wide variety of content on different themes, data-driven progress monitoring* ***Cons:** Might put off secular-minded beginner users* **You will love this app if:** You want an authentic, spiritual mindfulness experience based on Vedic teachings.* ## [Simple Habit](https://www.simplehabit.com/) For people who just don’t have time to meditate, the Simple Habit app makes it a breeze to squeeze the meditation habit into your daily routine. The 5-minute mindfulness meditation tracks are bite-sized and perfect for on-the-go mindfulness. Even short meditations can help focus attention, reduce stress and improve the way you handle difficult emotions at that moment, and the app encourages daily continuous practice for best results. The app features progress tracking, social media connectivity, and over 50 meditation tracks available to buy. All exercises are taught by experienced teachers. [![Simple Habit | Improve your life | Apps to learn meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/76d51a01-8a95-4d3a-8622-6fe6703f50d1_20240420_200408_0000.jpg "76d51a01-8a95-4d3a-8622-6fe6703f50d1_20240420_200408_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.simplehabit.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** 50+ free sessions* ***Cost of app:** $11.99/month or $89.99/year* ***Pros:** Bite-sized meditation sessions for busy people* ***Cons:** Need to pay for additional content, advanced users might need more features* **You will love this app if:** You are a time-poor mum who wants to fit mindfulness into your daily routine.* ## [Aura](https://www.aurahealth.io/) Aura focuses on your current mental state and recommends a brief guided meditation session (3-7 minutes) to calm your mind and reduce stress. These short sessions are about 5-10 minutes long and encourage you to reflect on how the session changed the way you feel. There’s a community section where you can post reflections to a board for other Aura users to see. There are also different meditation channels with playlists, like calm anxiety, peaceful morning, positivity and happiness, and self-love. [![Aura](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/420c5630-065c-4371-a65f-ed04bdf9458f_20240420_200847_0000.jpg "420c5630-065c-4371-a65f-ed04bdf9458f_20240420_200847_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.aurahealth.io/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes* ***Cost of app:** $11.99/month, $59.99/year or $399.99/lifetime* ***Pros:** Short meditations, personalised meditation lessons, stories and music, over 1000 sessions* ***Cons:** Limited functionality on the free version, need to pay to unlock additional content and premium features* ***You will love this app if:** You can’t sit still for long periods.* ## Apps to learn meditation (cont.) ## [Insight Timer](https://insighttimer.com/) The number one free meditation app Insight Timer is perfect whether you are learning meditation for the first time or you are a more advanced user. Insight Timer’s library has over 120,000 free meditation sessions on a wide range of topics from managing stress to getting better sleep, all completely ad-free. The app also offers free live yoga classes, a thriving community hub and a kids/teens section with stories and meditations. And if you want to get deeper into the practice, the premium version features workshops, mentoring and multi-session meditation courses. [![Insight Timer | Improve your life | Apps to learn meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/931152d2-c74f-4c17-a7df-e9e92ddb7f66_20240420_201141_0000.jpg "931152d2-c74f-4c17-a7df-e9e92ddb7f66_20240420_201141_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://insighttimer.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes, 120,000 free sessions* ***Cost of app:** $60/year with 30-day free trial* ***Pros:** Huge library of free meditation sessions, great for both beginners and advanced users* ***Cons:** Massive amount of content can be overwhelming for beginners, need to pay for mentoring and workshops* ***You will love this app if:** You want endless options when it comes to meditation sessions and mindfulness topics.* ## [Smiling Mind](https://www.smilingmind.com.au/smiling-mind-app) The Aussie meditation app Smiling Mind was originally designed to help children and young people deal with daily stressors and difficult emotions. Now adults can learn how to meditate and calm their mind as well. The guided lessons are categorised by age and starts at 7-11 years. The interface is easy to navigate, the exercises are clear and simple, and the app is completely free. Smiling Mind is a great choice for families with kids who want to learn meditation together. [![Smiling Mind](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/5354cb0b-5e76-4191-846c-012939f96cdb_20240420_201610_0000.jpg "5354cb0b-5e76-4191-846c-012939f96cdb_20240420_201610_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.smilingmind.com.au/smiling-mind-app) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** Yes* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Pros:** Easy to use, clear and straightforward exercises, great for kids and young people* ***Cons:** Intermediate and advanced users might need more features to keep engaged* **You will love this app if:** Your family wants to learn and practice meditation together.* ## [Ten Percent Happier](https://www.tenpercent.com/) Last on our list of apps to learn meditation, Ten Percent Happier was developed by an American news anchor who had an on-air panic attack back in 2004 and found that meditation helped calm the voice in his head and improve the way he handles his emotions. Ten Percent Happier teaches you how to be mindful, improve your relationships, sleep better and become 10% happier with guided meditation exercises (audio and videos), sleep content, and bite-sized wisdom and inspiration. People who are completely new to [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/meditation-for-mums/) will appreciate the fuss-free, straightforward lessons that build up practice and help you stick with it. [![Ten Percent Happier | Improve your life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/e5c083f4-9dfd-4ffb-b750-3860a17c0f11_20240420_201856_0000.jpg "e5c083f4-9dfd-4ffb-b750-3860a17c0f11_20240420_201856_0000 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tenpercent.com/) ***Available via:*** *Apple, Android* ***Free version:** 7-day free trial* ***Cost of app:** $99.99 per year* ***Pros:** Video and audio exercises, flexible meditation, around 500 meditation lessons on different topics, including sleep* ***Cons:** Limited features on the basic version, expensive* ***You will love this app if:** You are busy and want a flexible way to learn mindfulness and stick to the meditation habit.* ## Summary: Improve your life through meditation Life can be a rollercoaster, especially when you’re doing it alone. But guess what? You deserve some me-time, too! That’s where these incredible meditation apps swoop in to save the day (and your sanity). Lisa, a friend from college (and a fellow single mum), often tells me about hustling with a full-time job and her energetic kiddos. She felt like she was running on empty until she stumbled upon a reliable meditation app – Breathwrk. Now, she sneaks in quick sessions during her coffee break or right before bedtime. She says she’s feeling calmer, more patient, and ready to tackle whatever chaos comes her way. Some of these apps may not be free but think of it as an investment in a better self. And a better, calmer you means you can give your best in taking care of your kids and providing for them. So, here’s to finding your inner peace amidst the chaos. With these apps in your corner, you’ll be rocking the mum game like a total boss! Namaste. 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They can plunge into their new life with a decent share of the [asset pool](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/property-settlement/dividing-assets-after-separation/), secure in their financial future. But for many – most, actually – the financial aspect of their new life is an intimidating basket of worries. Forget about building wealth. The first order of business is simply not making any mistakes or getting ripped off. And for yet another group of people, they’re starting all over again. They may not have had much going into the relationship, but they certainly have not been left with much coming out of it. No matter which group you’re in, I’m sure the importance of taking what you have now and building on it to create real wealth is clear. But, then, what does “wealth” mean to you? Because I bet it’s not some magic number or amount of money. In my experience, what matters most is not the amount itself but what it *represents*. It might represent freedom. Or security. Or options. Or comfort, control, progress, success, achievement. Any number of things. And, to me, it’s these concepts that define real wealth. So, here are 5 tips to help you build *your* wealth after your separation. ## 5 tips for building wealth after separation (even if you don’t have much money) ## 1. Define your goals Once you have determined what “wealth” means to you, you should try to set goals based on that. For instance, let’s say “wealthy” to you means: - having “enough” money that you can stop working in 15 years time - have “enough” income to live the life you want. Then, you can set yourself some goals or milestones around that. And, in this case, ‘enough’ income is $40,000 a year, so you’ll need $687,000 in assets in 15 years’ time. There’s goal number 1. Once that headline goal has been set, you can work backwards and set milestones along the way. Perhaps you want your current $100,000 in superannuation to be worth $185,000 in 5 years. There’s goal 2. And so on. Another option is to use clear, discrete goals to design your ideal financial future. A fantastic tool for this is [Keith Abraham’s 25 Questions worksheet](https://keithabraham.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/KeithAbraham_100_Lifetime_Dreams_Worksheet_2017.pdf) – which will prompt you think of the things you’d like to do in the future. Once you’ve noted down your answers, you’ll have a list of clear goals to tick off as you achieve them. In my experience, setting goals helps concentrate your efforts on what you need to focus on to build your wealth. They also make the inevitable sacrifices that you’ll confront much, much easier to accept because you can see how they’re contributing to your wealth. ![Define your goals | building wealth after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-14-1.png "Untitled-design-14-1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 2. Gradual actions, permanent results I’m sure it’s no surprise that coming out of a separation without much money behind you makes for a difficult recovery. It’s hard to think about your financial future when the financial present is so tough. But if you’re in a position where you have enough to cover the survival part of your budget and still have a little bit left over, there are things you can do. The key is to work within your own reality while recognising the cumulative impact of small, consistent steps. Perhaps you can put $100 a month towards building some level of wealth for you and your family. While that reality might mean retiring early is off the table (for now), that’s still $1,200 a year, $3,600 after three years and $12,000 in ten years. Say you also have a personal loan that is costing you $150 a month. Putting this $100 against that each month might halve how long you have it for. For a few years, you would pay $250 a month off that loan until it’s gone. Then, you can direct that $250 towards the next wealth-building item. This rolling snowball can feel a little ineffective early on because it won’t seem like a big amount. But over 10 years, it works out to nearly $39,000 (at 5% a year). While I know it takes a long time, that’s still a significant amount of money for an extra $100 per month. It’s these gradual, consistent steps that have real, long-lasting impacts. And, of course, if you’re in the position of being able to dedicate a larger amount towards your goals, then that impact is multiplied many times over. So, instead of chasing the big, one-off impact, think about what small steps you can start taking towards your goals today. ![Budget | building wealth after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-11.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ## 3. Budget (without a budget) Being clear on the money coming in and out of your life is the biggest step you can take towards building the wealth you want. The thing is, budgeting sucks. Tracking every cent you spend, feeling bad when you go over or slip up – that’s not much fun. Instead, I suggest that you avoid the traditional ‘budgeting’ approach and consider using rations. I recommend splitting your expenses between Needs, Wants and Worries. Then, divide up your income into fixed percentages between each category. I suggest: - 60% on your Needs; - 20% on your Wants; - 20% on your Worries. Using these fixed percentages makes it easier to manage – and avoids having to track every cent. The reason “budgeting” is so powerful isn’t just because it helps you recognise when you’re spending more than you’re earning or because it helps you prioritise your financial decisions or start building a nest egg. It’s because it’s YOU doing it. And because it rewards progress instead of perfection. It’s a great way to start building your financial self-esteem and start making progress towards to your future wealth. ## Wealth building for single parents (cont.) ## 4. Be an educated sceptic about building wealth One reason money can be so intimidating is the absolute fear of getting ripped off or being pressured into making a bad decision. I wish I could say this won’t happen, that you can trust everyone in the financial world. But I can’t, sadly. The spruikers, the charlatans, the self-interested, conflicted and just plain dodgy will always be out there, looking to help themselves to your money. The best defence, in my experience, is an educated scepticism. It is important that you arm yourself with some information about money. Learn some of the basics about things like compounding, inflation, interest rates, fees and taxes. Get a feel for how superannuation works, what ‘shares’ are, and what the reality of investing in property is like. This information is not only important as you work to build wealth in the future, but it will also help you develop your BS detector so you can tell when something sounds a bit too good to be true. It will help you ask that extra question that might make things a bit uncomfortable (“how do you get paid” is always a good one). It will help you smell when something’s a bit off. This is your money, your wealth and your financial future – so be sceptical and a little demanding of those offering to “help”. The [MoneySmart](https://moneysmart.gov.au/#get-help-with-money) website is a great resource to help you get up to speed on some of the areas you might be unsure about – definitely take the time to check it out. ![Start as soon as you can | building wealth after separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-12-1.png "Untitled-design-12-1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## 5. Start as soon as you can I thought about saying “start now” but realised that’s easy for me to say. I’m not the one trying to make ends meet, and I’m not the one deciding between filling the petrol tank and paying the phone bill. So, start when *you* can. Don’t wait for the ‘perfect’ time; don’t wait for everything to line up. Invest in a money tin and start stashing coins. Write down your goals and put them on the fridge. Start learning about those core financial ideas. Because, one day, things might loosen up a little and you’ll be able to start taking steps towards the financial future you want. Getting ready for that now means that when the time comes (if you’re not there already), you’ll be primed and able to take off quickly. ## Summary: Building Wealth After Separation Any of these five tips will help you build wealth on your own, but doing all of them will put you on the path to real financial freedom. They’ll help you build the wealth you need to construct your best financial future, but more importantly, they’ll help you understand *why* you’re doing it and *what* you’re aiming for. And that kind of certainty is a pretty good foundation for your own personal level of wealth. > ***General Advice Warning:** The information contained in this post is general in nature and does not take into account your personal situation. You should consider whether the information is appropriate to your needs, and where appropriate, seek personal advice from a financial adviser.* ![5 Tips for building wealth | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Building-wealth.png "Building wealth - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-tips-for-building-wealth-after-separation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/5-tips-for-building-wealth-after-separation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** saving, budget, financial plan, money, wealth --- ### [Free vacation care your kids will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/free-vacation-care-your-kids-will-love/) **Published:** May 3, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** > *Note: This article was initially published in 2015. Given that the challenges for us mums remain the same, we thought it’d be fun to bring this idea into 2024 by updating it for you.* > > ~ Beanstalk Mums Team The school holidays are upon us once more. Is it just me, or are the terms getting shorter? I’m sure the last term only started a few weeks ago. Of course, it’s a relief to have a break from the regimented school routine, but for working mums, especially working single mums, life goes up another gear as we struggle to juggle the inescapable vacation care/work scenario. There is no doubt that vacation care can be stressful. We race to get our children places at the right care, cajole them to actually go, and frantically crunch numbers to find the extra money to pay for it. If this resonates with you, then why not consider setting up a VACATION CARE CLUB? ![free vacation care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-6-1.png "Untitled-design-6-1 - Beanstalk Mums") By this, I don’t mean inviting everyone’s kids to your house. Not at all. All you do is hook up with other mothers in the same situation as you and devise a simple plan whereby you look after each other’s children on certain dates during the school holidays. It’s a win-win situation. You get free vacation care in return for looking after people’s children, your children get to hang out with kids from their class, and you may even make some new friends in the process. ## Sounds good? Follow this simple step-by-step process to set up your own free vacation care club. ## Step 1: Ask other mums A few weeks before the end of term, ask around other mums in your children’s year groups to see if they work. If they do, ask if they’d be interested in forming a vacation care club. Here, you all pitch in looking after each other’s children in the holidays. If they express an interest, grab their email address. Alternatively, draft an email and ask the teacher to send it out to all parents on your behalf. Of course, never EVER forget about safety. Try to do background checks on all the prospective mums on your list. Also, make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to childcare. I mean, it could become uncomfortable if everyone has the same parenting style and there’s one mum who has stricter (or more lax) rules. ## Step 2: Compile a list of interested mums There are bound to be a few. An ideal number would be about 4-6. Too many, and it gets complicated. Plus, you could end up with too many kids on your doorstep. Remember, siblings need to be taken into the equation, too. ## Step 3: Name your free vacation care group You can give your new group a cool name if you like. The Havoc Free Holiday Club? Or The Vacation Vixens? Just a thought … you don’t have to! ![vacation care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-7-2.png "Untitled-design-7-2 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Step 4: Send out general instructions Email the interested mums with general instructions as to how it works. I’d advise that you keep it as simple as possible. It’s not like a babysitting circle, which is ongoing and requires a number of rules. You just need a framework with set dates to get you through the holiday period. I’d suggest you ask them to send you a return email with: - Confirmation that they’d love to join this fabulous new group - The names and ages of their children - Their address and phone number - Details of their children’s health issues or allergies - Which days they NEED childcare and can PROVIDE child care ## Step 5: Create a calendar Print out a [monthly calendar](http://www.timeanddate.com/calendar/create.html) that encompasses the school holiday dates. Then in a quiet moment, maybe with a cuppa or glass of wine, work out who can look after whose children on what days. (You may like to use a calendar app you can share within the group. Google Calendar is free and completely collaborative.) Try to be as fair as possible and make sure everyone’s needs are met. But keep in mind that it may not always work out perfectly. Oh, and don’t forget about yourself – it’s important to ensure that your needs are met, too! Aim for fair treatment for everyone involved. ## Step 6: Create a directory for your vacation care Compile a list with the information you requested earlier i.e. member names, addresses, contact details, children’s names and ages and children’s allergies. You can even create cute ID cards for the kids for each mum to fill out. ## Step 7: Seek confirmation Then email all members with your details list and your online calendar. Ask them to confirm back to you if they’re happy with the dates you’ve suggested or if changes are required. If you have someone who’s particularly difficult or wants more help than they’re prepared to give, don’t waste time with them. Tell them you have their hours covered and their help is no longer needed. Sorry, but this approach is meant to make life easier, not harder. ## Step 8: Final email Once everyone’s happy, send one final email with the finalised calendar and a few simple ‘rules’ so everyone’s singing from the same hymn sheet. I’d suggest: - All children are to bring a packed lunch and water bottle when going to childcare - Confirm set drop-off/pick-up times (allowing those caring to make plans for the day) - Collect your child on time (Unless absolutely unavoidable) - Unacceptable behaviour from the child allows the caregiver to request an immediate pick-up - Do not send your child if he/she is ill or has nits, etc. ## Step 9: Create a private group chat With everyone on board, it’s time to create a group chat. Yes, email is good, but a group chat makes life easier. It’s more accessible for other mums since everyone has a smartphone, and most of us are connected to the internet through work. A group chat also creates a collaborative atmosphere, making it easier for people to brainstorm, pitch in their ideas, and react to messages. Not decided yet on a platform for your vacation care club? Here’s a list of [video-calling apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/video-calling-apps/) you can check out. (Of course, ol’ Facebook Messenger works just fine too.) ![free vacation care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-8-1.png "Untitled-design-8-1 - Beanstalk Mums") ## Summary: Free Vacation Care Your Kids Will Love That’s it. Easy. It should be fairly straightforward to organise, but this does depend on the mothers involved. And if it works, you already have a fully formed group ready for the next holiday period. Make sure you pass the organisational responsibility to another member – it’s only fair that everyone gets a turn! You can send the new organiser this blog with the list so they know what to do. Hopefully, you’ll find that even if your new group doesn’t alleviate all your vacation care issues, it will ease some of the holiday pressure. You may even decide to take the group further and set up a babysitting circle. These require a little more planning since they’re ongoing, so more records need to be kept. I’d highly recommend one, though, for the simple reason that YOU CAN GET A NIGHT OUT. YAY. I’ll leave you with warm wishes for a safe, reasonably relaxing and enjoyable school holiday. Good luck, mum! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/free-vacation-care-your-kids-will-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/free-vacation-care-your-kids-will-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** holiday care, vacation care, care groups, school holidays, babysitting circles, kids on vacation, vacation care club, free vacation care --- ### [How much does a single mum get from Centrelink?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/) **Published:** May 1, 2024 **Author:** Patricia C. **Content:** Wondering how much a single mum makes from Centrelink payments? I did imagine myself as the glamorous girl boss of my own million-dollar empire. Instead, here I am: rummaging the internet for grocery coupons and promo codes while juggling a full-time and a part-time job to get by. If you’re like me, we’re not alone. It really is extra challenging to be a parent – let alone a single parent – in this economy. After all, 2023 researches reveal that one-third of single mums in the country experience [financial hardship](https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/oct/18/a-third-of-single-mothers-in-financial-hardship-due-to-welfare-policies-analysis-finds), with 1 out of 8 kids living below the poverty line. If you’re included in this statistic (or you’re thinking there’s a 100% chance you and your husband are separating soon), you must have been researching about the different [benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/single-parent-benefits-australia/) or subsidies you can get as a single mum. With this, I’m sure you’ve already heard about Centrelink payments. Centrelink is part of Services Australia, a government department that provides money and services to Australian residents on behalf of other government programs. Centrelink supports those looking for jobs, students, parents or non-parent caregivers, Australian Aboriginals, and more. Here’s everything I know about the program. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-4-3.png "Untitled-design-4-3 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How can you get paid by Centrelink? There are various ways to receive assistance from Centrelink as a single mum. ## 1. Parenting payment (single) If you’re under 55, the principal provider of a child below 14 years old, meet residential requirements, do not receive other pensions from Centrelink, and have income and assets within the set limit, you may be eligible for Parenting Payment Single (PPS). This is the main income support for single parents who mostly look after a young child. The amount you receive also includes a small energy supplement. ## 2. Family tax benefit Another allowance you may apply for is Family Tax Benefit (FTB). In contrast to PPS, which is meant to support you as the parent, FTB is paid specifically to augment the cost of raising children. It is calculated using your taxable income and assets and the number of your kids. To qualify for family tax benefits, your child must be 0 to 15 years old or a full-time secondary student (16 to 19 years old) who isn’t receiving other benefits from Services Australia. Additionally, you must pass an income test, meet residence rules, and care for your child at least 35% of the time. Unlike PPS, you can apply for FTB even if you are not the principal carer. Here, you can get two payments: one for individual dependent kids (FTB-A) and another for the family (FTB-B). Aside from these, you can also apply for these subsidies: ## 3. Child care subsidy If you’re paying for childcare services for kids aged 13 and younger, you can get subsidised as well. This is paid directly to approved childcare providers to reduce fees before you get billed. You can get up to 90% of Child Care Subsidy (CSS) from the government. This is such a great help for working mums. Even if you do not qualify for PPS and FTB because you’re earning more than the income limits, you can still get CSS. Of course, your subsidy gets reduced as you earn more, but you still get help. Like other benefits, the amount changes according to your family’s circumstances, like your income, your child’s age, how much time you spend with your kids, and the number of children. Use this [calculator](https://www.startingblocks.gov.au/child-care-subsidy-calculator) to see how much CSS you can get. If your child is 14 to 18 years old and has a disability, you can also get CSS. ## 4. Rent assistance Because I own a small home, I didn’t qualify for this benefit from Centrelink. But if you’re not a homeowner, you can get rent assistance from the government as well. You should be paying rent (outside of state housing) and already availing of any Centrelink payment. The minimum rent is $1, and you get a subsidy of 75c. You don’t have to apply for Rent Assistance, as Services Australia automatically assesses your eligibility. ## 5. JobSeeker Payment But what if you don’t have children under the age limits? You can still get government assistance through JobSeeker Payment. This allowance is given to help you get by while you don’t have an income and looking for a job. This income is taxable, and you can request Services Australia to deduct this from your tax. I’m not there yet since I’m still on PPS, but I heard once your youngest kid reaches the age limit, you automatically move from parenting to jobseeker. There are still other benefits you may qualify for. For example, if your kids are Aboriginal Australians or if you’re a rural farmer. Check out [Services Australia](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au) for detailed information about other benefits the government can help you with. ![how much does a single mum get from centrelink](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Untitled-design-1-3.png "Untitled design (1) - Beanstalk Mums") ## How much can a single mum get from Centrelink? OK, now we get to the point of this post. How much can you actually get from Centrelink? Well, as you’ve probably guessed, the amount is not the same for everyone, as payments depend on your circumstances. If you want to see how much you can receive, you can do so using the [Payment Finder](https://www.centrelink.gov.au/custsite_pfe/pymtfinderest/paymentFinderPage.jsf?wec-appid=pymtfinderest&wec-locale=en_US#stay). Note that the amounts reflected here are only estimates and can change upon actual application. But to give you an idea, I’ve compiled the maximum amounts you can get for different payment schemes discussed in this article, except CSS. | **Payment Type** (paid fortnightly) | **Recipient** | **Maximum** **Benefit** (as of April 2024) | |---|---|---| | 1. Parenting Payment Single | Per family | $987.70 | | 2. Family Tax Benefit Part A (0 to 12 years old) | Per child | $213.36 | | Family Tax Benefit Part A (13 to 15 years old) | Per child | $277.48 | | Family Tax Benefit Part A (16 to 19 years old) | Per child | $277.48 | | 3. Family Tax Benefit Part B (0 to 4 years old) | Per family | $181.44 | | Family Tax Benefit Part B (5 to 18 years old) | Per family | $126.56 | | 4. Rent Assistance | Per family | $188.20 | | 5. JobSeeker Payment\* | Per parent | $762.70 | *\*JobSeeker Payment cannot coincide with Parenting Payment.* You are eligible for only one benefit at a time. There’s also a yearly supplemental allowance of up to $879.65 for each eligible child under FTB-A and a lump sum of up to $420.77 per family under FTB-B. Meanwhile, you can see examples of how Centrelink calculates CSS [here](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/examples-to-help-you-understand-your-child-care-subsidy?context=41186). ## What affects the amount you can get from Centrelink? As I mentioned before, the amount you can receive depends on individual circumstances. Some of the factors to look into are: - **Your income.** To be eligible for welfare payments from the government, you have to earn below a certain limit. If your income exceeds $2,730.85 for a fortnight, you don’t get paid PPS for that fortnight. Income comes in the form of money and goods. - **Your assets.** What you own also impacts how much you get paid from Centrelink. For a single mum who owns a home, you must not have more than $301,750 in total assets. If you’re a non-homeowner, you can’t go above $543,750. Assets include financial investments, home contents, real estate, shares, and more. - **Number of kids.** The number of kids you have also affects not just how much you get paid but also your income and asset limits. Calculate your [income and assets](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/income-and-assets-tests-for-jobseeker-payment?context=51411) here to see if you qualify. ## Are these Centrelink payments free? There’s no such thing as a free lunch, they say. If you have been approved for Centrelink payments, you also have some obligations to the government. They call this [mutual obligation agreement](https://www.workforceaustralia.gov.au/individuals/obligations/learn/requirements#:~:text=Your%20obligations%20are%20the%20tasks,target%20and%20job%20search%20requirement). First, you have to **report your income every two weeks**. Any increase or decrease in your fortnightly income can also increase or reduce the amount of money you receive for that period. If you don’t, your payments will be cancelled. Next, if you are eligible for the Family Tax Benefit, you must **update your family income estimate** before January 1. If you are receiving a parenting allowance as a single mum, you also should inform them if there’s a change in your circumstances, like having a partner. Also, remember to make sure that your kids get immunised. My kids were once cut from receiving welfare because their paediatrician forgot to upload their vaccination records. (Don’t worry; once your doctor updates their immunisation records, the payment will resume. Whew!) If you’re on JobSeeker Payment, you also have to agree to a job plan. Here, you have to reach a number of points or lose the allowance. These points come from doing tasks and activities such as looking for a job and getting interviews. Find out about these commitments [here](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/what-your-parenting-payment-commitments-are?context=22196). ## Summary: How much a single mum can get from Centrelink Being a single mum, particularly being on government assistance, is challenging. As single mums, we find ourselves balancing multiple responsibilities while striving to make ends meet. Services Australia through Centrelink provides support through various payments such as Parenting Payment Single, Family Tax Benefit, Child Care Subsidy, Rent Assistance, and JobSeeker Payment. These payments are tailored to assist with the financial cost of raising children and maintaining households. However, it’s crucial to understand that these benefits come with responsibilities. From reporting income regularly to fulfilling mutual obligation agreements, we are expected to meet certain criteria to continue receiving assistance. Despite this, Centrelink remains a lifeline for many single mums. As an Australian, it’s nice to think that we are not alone in this struggle. With the support of government programs like Centrelink, we can face these challenges head-on and provide a better future for ourselves and our kids. Although the money you could potentially receive from Centrelink won’t be enough to build your million-dollar girl boss empire, it can still make life as a single mum and providing for your children a whole lot easier. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-get-from-centrelink/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Money --- ### [7 Mother's Day craft ideas every single mum will love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mothers-day-craft-ideas/) **Published:** April 12, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** It’s almost that time of the year again. I understand the rollercoaster of emotions that Mother’s Day can bring. It’s a day filled with mixed feelings, from pride and joy in our role as mothers to moments of longing and loneliness. It’s a day when we not only celebrate being a mother but also cherish the love and joy our children bring into our lives. While store-bought gifts are always appreciated, there’s something extraordinary about receiving a handmade creation from loved ones, especially from our kiddos! Don’t you think? With that in mind, I have compiled a list of delightful Mother’s Day craft ideas that celebrate the essence of motherhood and honour the unique journey of single mums everywhere. ## **Mother’s Day craft ideas** ## **Handprint flower pot** First on our Mother’s Day crafts list is a handprint flower pot. All you need is a terracotta pot, some paint, and your child’s handprint! Let your child dip their hand in paint and press it onto the pot to create colourful designs. You can also join in! Simply use a larger pot to add your handprints. Imagine how cute these matching pots would look in your garden! One of my fondest Mother’s Day memories is receiving a flower pot like this from my kids. There’s something magical about watching a simple terracotta pot transform into a masterpiece adorned with the handprints of our little ones. The best part is that every time I water the flowers, I will remember those precious moments spent crafting with my kiddos. ## **Homemade bath bombs** Every mum deserves a little pampering on Mother’s Day. But I understand that [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-care-daily-routine/) is a rare luxury for single mums like us. That’s why I love the idea of homemade bath bombs. It is a thoughtful reminder to prioritise my well-being amidst the demands of daily life. How do you make them? Simply gather baking soda, citric acid, Epsom salt, and essential oils. Get creative with colours and scents, and package them in pretty jars or bags – and voila! You have created a thoughtful and luxurious-looking gift. Mixing, moulding, and shaping these fizzy delights with my children last year brought me enormous joy. Every time Mother’s Day arrives, and I finally sink into a tub filled with fragrant bubbles, I am reminded of our messy but fun bonding session. ![Homemade bath bombs | Mother's Day craft](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000009946-1066x800.jpg "1000009946 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Memory jar** [Like most single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/asking-for-help-as-a-single-mum/), I often find myself caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life. So, having a cozy memory corner at home is a wonderful way to pause and get a much-needed energy boost. Every time I read the notes written by my children, our memory jar at home brings tears to my eyes. This Mother’s Day craft is simple to put together. Get a mason jar and decorate it with ribbons, glitter, or any coloured specialty paper. Then, ask your kids to fill it up with heartfelt messages. Encourage them to write down their favourite memories or reasons why they love you on colourful strips of paper. You can continue this tradition all year long, not just on Mother’s Day. ## **Customised photo frame** In the age of smartphones and digital cameras, there’s something truly special about holding a physical photograph and remembering the captured moments. Don’t you agree? Let your kids decorate a plain frame with paint (the colour of their choice), glitter, stickers, or other embellishments. Then, insert a favourite family photo to complete the masterpiece. Believe it or not, the first Mother’s Day craft I received from my children was a customised photo frame. Years have passed, and it is still on my bedside table. I still get sentimental every night when I look at it before going to sleep. ## **Mother’s Day craft ideas (cont.)** ## **Handmade jewellery** If you have daughters who enjoy crafting, this Mother’s Day craft idea is perfect! Whether it’s a beaded necklace, a braided bracelet, or a pair of dainty earrings, I’m sure you will appreciate the effort and thoughtfulness put into creating this personalised accessory. If your daughters are a little older, pick more sophisticated beads and accessories so they won’t think that they are too old for the activity. If you ask me, the moments spent crafting artsy pieces with our kids are the real gift. Seeing beads of all shapes and colours scattered across the table, tiny fingers carefully threading them onto strings, and creating one-of-a-kind jewellery – now that is priceless. ## **Scented candles** Scented candles are a beloved indulgence for many single mums. So, receiving one (or two) on Mother’s Day will be like winning the lottery. Gather soy wax, wicks, fragrance oils, and containers to create custom candle creations with your kiddos. Experiment with different scents and colours to match your preferences. You can also create one for your mother. Whether you craft a candle with the soothing scent of lavender or the invigorating aroma of citrus, your mum will surely love it. Watch her face light up with delight as she enjoys the soothing ambience of your handmade gift. I actually got this idea from my Mum, so thank you, Mama! ![Scented candles | Mother's day craft](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/1000009949-1067x800.jpg "1000009949 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Handwritten letters** In today’s digital age, there’s something undeniably special about receiving a handwritten letter. I treasure the moments when my children pour their hearts onto paper. Even if it’s just a simple (sometimes misspelled) “Happy Mother’s Day” greeting, a hilarious inside joke, or a simple “thank you” for buying their favourite ice cream flavour, every word (and doodle) is a precious gift. In a world filled with instant messages, emojis, and texts, handwritten letters are more than just words on paper. To me, they serve as a reminder that the simplest gifts are the most meaningful. Consider taking the time to write a heartfelt letter to your mum and express your love and gratitude for everything she has done for you. I’m sure she will appreciate it. ## **Summary: Mother’s Day craft ideas** In the whirlwind of daily life, Mother’s Day serves as a reminder to pause and celebrate the incredible journey of motherhood. As single mums, we wear many hats, dealing with numerous challenges, all while nurturing our little ones. These Mother’s Day craft ideas are not only creative and fun ways to celebrate this special day but are also opportunities to bond with our children. These activities allow us to create lasting memories along the way. I know how much we cherish the handmade gifts and heartfelt gestures that our children shower us with. I vividly remember Mother’s Day a few years ago when my oldest surprised me with a handcrafted photo frame adorned with doodles and random stickers. As I looked at the picture of us laughing together, I forgot about the hardships and was reminded of the profound joy that single motherhood brings. I realised that it is in these small but meaningful gestures that we find solace and strength. These mementos will tell us that the love we share with our children will help us overcome any obstacle. Lastly, let us not forget about the love and support of fellow single mums. Let’s continue to cherish the moments together, both big and small, that make single motherhood extraordinary. Happy Mother’s Day! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mothers-day-craft-ideas/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/mothers-day-craft-ideas/?share=x) - **Categories:** Life, Mother's Day **Tags:** DIY mum, mother's day, craft, Mother's Day Ideas --- ### [How to rediscover your sexuality after a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/rediscover-your-sexuality-after-breakup/) **Published:** April 4, 2024 **Author:** Maya Kinsley **Content:** Everything changes after a breakup: plans for the future, your daily schedule, and even your sleeping position. A serious breakup can even distort your sense of self and lead to losing the desire to date anyone new. But you should understand that these feelings of disappointment and loneliness will go away at some point. Only you can make a decision to move on. Indeed, it might be scary to start dating again and open up to someone else. Moreover, it is perfectly fine to have sexual insecurity after a breakup. You can live without sex and sexual desire. But your bedroom shouldn’t be a midfield where you feel insecure and vulnerable. You are a grown-up woman who deserves to have a satisfying sex life. Going back to the game can benefit your physical and mental health. Rediscovering sexuality after a serious breakup can take some time. Here is how you can start enjoying yourself and boost your libido. ![Lovehoney 15% off | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/163601 "Lovehoney until Oct 300x250 - Beanstalk Mums") ## How to rediscover your sexuality after a breakup ## Enjoy your singleness At the moment, you have all the time in the world. Use this opportunity to improve yourself and even fall in love with yourself. Being satisfied with yourself is sexier and more attractive than being miserable. The happier you are, the more confident and approachable you are. Once you stop feeling like a victim of circumstance and start enjoying your new status, you will be able to lead a fulfilling life and attract emotionally healthy men. Start spending more time with your friends; consider going on a trip with them and getting some [hen party packages](https://www.magicmen.com.au/extras/hens-party-packages/). ![rediscover your sexuality after a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/a-c-ZeTK-BqkTSk-unsplash-1200x754.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## Fall in love with yourself Work on improving your physical appearance. You should do it for yourself in the first place. It will help you to get rid of fears, boost self-confidence and improve your sex drive (as an outcome). First of all, ask yourself what you want to improve. Maybe you want to [lose some weight](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-best-diet-programs-in-australia-with-specials/) or get a new hairstyle. Besides the list of things you want to work on, write down things you love in your appearance and don’t be so hard on yourself. Secondly, make a realistic action plan once you have a clear sense of your goals. Also, focus on your mental health. If you can’t get over your ex, consider scheduling a therapy session. Being sexual is not about having sex. It’s all about confidence, harmony and love to life. So if you want to rediscover your sexuality, to be able to love and let yourself be loved, make sure to take these steps listed above. ## Walk around naked You should love your body the way it is. Why do you want to spend your life hiding from other people and hating yourself? Most women don’t look like Kendall Jenner or Irina Shayk. These body shapes are presented in the underwear ad campaigns, but it doesn’t mean that they are perfect and that you should feel miserable if yours looks a bit different. Take off your clothes and look at yourself in the mirror. There might be something you want to work on, but before you start writing a list of things you want to change in yourself, say it out loud: **I’m beautiful.** Walk around naked more often in order to get used to your body image. Then, the next time you have a man in your bedroom, you will feel more comfortable with the lights on. Once again, confidence is one of the biggest turn-ons. ## Pleasure yourself The fact that you are not dating anyone at the moment doesn’t mean you can’t have orgasms. To have good sex, you don’t even need to look for guys in bars in the middle of the night. You should start with solo play. That’s how you can discover your body and get some satisfaction without getting emotionally involved with someone. Let’s be honest: the one-night stand will not always work as perfectly as self-pleasure. Masturbation can help women release built-up sexual tension, relieve stress, and improve sleep and their mood. The most important thing is that masturbation also helps to increase women’s libido since it leads to better sexual responses and more sexual thoughts in general. ![rediscover your sexuality after a breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-1066x800.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Blog Features - Beanstalk Mums") ## Masturbation for beginners If you haven’t masturbated for a while, here’s a refresher: For a start, you should know that there are more than just clitoral and vaginal types of masturbation. You can also have the anal, combo and erogenous zones orgasms by [using different masturbation techniques](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/10-mind-blowing-vibrators-for-absolute-beginners/). To get started, you should set the mood and let your mind wander first. Then, add some lube to explore your erogenous zones. Consider reading an erotic novel or watching pornography to turn up the heat in your bedroom. Masturbation will not always lead to an intense orgasm in the very beginning. Practice the art of self-pleasure in order to explore your body and sexual desires. ## How to rediscover your sexuality after a breakup (cont.) ## Know what you want Having sex with someone new should excite you (instead of freaking you out). To open up sexually with a new partner, you should be aware of your boundaries and desires. Indulging in sexual fantasies and masturbation will help you rediscover your sexuality. You start to understand your wants and needs, and it gets you in the mood for intimacy. Having clear expectations is also a great first step to communicating with a new partner. Knowing what you want also takes the pressure to read your mind off of your potential significant other. This can be empowering as well, as you don’t have to rely on someone else to decide what feels good in bed… and in other places. ## Summary: HOW TO REDISCOVER YOUR SEXUALITY To rediscover your sexuality after a serious break-up might take some time. Especially for a single mum, loss of trust and self-confidence can make it harder to open up – literally and figuratively – to a new person. First, don’t be scared to take some time off sex. Don’t be pressured into thinking you need to be intimate again if you’re not ready. Healing has no deadline. Second, just because you’re single again doesn’t mean your sex life has to be zero. Instead, take this time to enjoy your singleness and regain your confidence. Use this break to work on your mental health and physical appearance if you need to. To let someone else love and please you, you should fall in love with yourself first. This is also the perfect time to know yourself. Walk around naked more often – I personally find this an incredible way to feel sexy and beautiful, no matter my shape and size. Pleasure yourself. Masturbation has heaps of known benefits, from stress relief to increasing your libido. Lastly, take this time to know your desires, boundaries, and expectations. This way, once you have made the decision to move on and let someone else in again – literally and figuratively – you’re prepared. ![How to rediscover your sexuality after a breakup | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Rediscover-your-sexuality.png "Rediscover your sexuality - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/rediscover-your-sexuality-after-breakup/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/rediscover-your-sexuality-after-breakup/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** dating, self love, self pleasure, relationship breakup, masturbate --- ### [10 Free printable Easter colouring pages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/printable-easter-colouring-pages/) **Published:** March 15, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Easter is coming, and mums everywhere are racking their brains for ideas to keep their kids entertained during the holidays. One of the cheapest ways for creative fun is to grab the crayons and download some free printable Easter colouring pages. It’s worth noting that they’re not just for the kids. Colouring in is known to help us mums chill out, too! In fact, this simple act can calm the brain and body, making you feel more relaxed. This, in turn, leads to all sorts of good things, such as better sleep and a healthier mindset. All up, if you incorporate some Easter colouring into your holidays, it’s going to benefit everyone. To save you time hunting down the best free printable Easter colouring pages, here are some I have used in the past, as well as new ones I found recently online. ## **10 Free printable Easter colouring pages** ## **1. Cute chick and egg** Let’s start this list of Easter family fun ideas with the cutest chick and egg free printable I could find. It’s super easy to colour and so great for really little kids, too. [![Cute chick and egg | Easter crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/baby-chick-in-broken-easter-egg-coloring-page.png "baby-chick-in-broken-easter-egg-coloring-page - Beanstalk Mums")](https://museprintables.com/download/coloring-page/baby-chick-in-broken-easter-egg/) Source: [Muse Printables](https://museprintables.com/download/coloring-page/baby-chick-in-broken-easter-egg/) ## **2. Lots of eggs** Eggs everywhere! This simple yet beautifully detailed colouring piece is great for both adults and kids. [![Lots of eggs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/Coloring-Page-Easter-8-Little-Sprout-Learning-1-618x800.png "Coloring-Page-Easter-8-Little-Sprout-Learning-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://littlesproutlearning.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Coloring-Page-Easter-8-Little-Sprout-Learning.pdf) Source: [Little Sprout Learning](https://littlesproutlearning.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Coloring-Page-Easter-8-Little-Sprout-Learning.pdf) ## **3. Cute bunny with flowers** How did rabbits become synonymous with Easter? You might have to prepare an answer for that as your kids work on bringing to life the cutest bunny and all the foliage. [![Cute bunny with flowers | Easter crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/compressed_1c00533d290912ba1a3430524f4e5d16-603x800.webp "compressed_1c00533d290912ba1a3430524f4e5d16 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://miramuseai.net/record/36684-Adorable-Kawaii-Bunny-Coloring-Page-for-Kids-with-Floral-Delight) Source: [MUSE AI](https://miramuseai.net/record/36684-Adorable-Kawaii-Bunny-Coloring-Page-for-Kids-with-Floral-Delight) ## **4. Rabbit popping out of a spotted egg** Here’s a precious rabbit popping out of a spotted egg! It’s a super adorable and funny scene that both kids and adults will surely love. (And no, rabbits don’t come from eggs.) [![Rabbit popping out of a spotted egg](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/Easter-Color-Pages-2a-1.jpg "Easter-Color-Pages-2a-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.lifeissweeterbydesign.com/easter-color-pages/) Source: [Life is Sweeter by Design](https://www.lifeissweeterbydesign.com/easter-color-pages/) ## **5. Bunny mandala** This super cute mandala is simple enough for kids yet pretty enough for mum, making it perfect for wholesome Easter family fun. [![Bunny mandala | Easter crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/mandala-coloring-pages-49-615x800.webp "mandala-coloring-pages-49 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://momlovesbest.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/mandala-coloring-pages-49.webp) Source: [Mom Loves Best](https://momlovesbest.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/mandala-coloring-pages-49.webp) ## **6. Intricate rabbit with flower pattern** Isn’t this one adorable? It’s a flowery rabbit! It’s just black and white now, but I can really imagine it coming to life with all the potential colours you can use. [![Intricate rabbit with flower pattern](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/baby-rabbit-mandala-coloring-800x800.jpg "baby-rabbit-mandala-coloring - Beanstalk Mums")](https://coloringlib.com/rabbit-mandala/baby-rabbit-mandala/) Source: [Coloring Lib](https://coloringlib.com/rabbit-mandala/baby-rabbit-mandala/) ## **Free printable Easter colouring pages (cont)** ## **7. Easter bunny painting an Easter egg** This colouring page features a bunny painting an Easter egg… with a bunny inside. Just adorable! [![Easter bunny painting an Easter egg | Easter crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/easter-rabbits-painting-an-egg-coloring-sheet-768x543.jpg-1.webp "easter-rabbits-painting-an-egg-coloring-sheet-768x543.jpg-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.diy-magazine.com/coloring-pages/easter-rabbit-coloring-page/) Source: [DIY Magazine](https://www.diy-magazine.com/coloring-pages/easter-rabbit-coloring-page/) ## **8. Easter bunny with snail** If only snails were this cute and not a threat to our spring gardens, right? [![Easter bunny with snail](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/easter-bunny-with-little-snail.webp "easter-bunny-with-little-snail - Beanstalk Mums")](https://pupla.com/en/cp/easter-bunny-little-snail) Source: [Pupla](https://pupla.com/en/cp/easter-bunny-little-snail) ## **9. Little bunny in the carrot house** This little rabbit in a carrot house is cute enough for both adults and kids for loads of Easter family fun. Your kids might ask for a carrot house of their own after this. [![Little bunny in the carrot house | Easter crafts for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/Easter-cute-carrot-house-coloring-page.jpg "Easter-cute-carrot-house-coloring-page - Beanstalk Mums")](https://topcoloringpages.net/easter/egg-hunt/) Source: [Top Coloring Pages](https://topcoloringpages.net/easter/egg-hunt/) ## **10. Cute squirrel with a nut** Surely, spring is not just for rabbits. If you and your kids are done (or simply need a break) from the Easter bunny, I give you… the Easter squirrel! [![Cute squirrel with a nut](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/squirrel-coloring-page3-1-1035x800.png "squirrel-coloring-page3-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://everydaychaosandcalm.com/wp-content/uploads/squirrel-coloring/squirrel-coloring-page3.pdf) Source: [Everyday Chaos and Calm](https://everydaychaosandcalm.com/wp-content/uploads/squirrel-coloring/squirrel-coloring-page3.pdf) ## **Summary: Easter Family Fun** If your family is like mine, Easter is the perfect time to channel your artsy side as we surround ourselves with colours to signify the coming of spring (or the Resurrection of Jesus, if you’re Christian). It’s time to take your paintbrushes and coloured pens out for heaps of Easter family fun. But it’s not all about painting Easter eggs. In fact, not all kids enjoy running around hunting for Easter eggs; some prefer things toned down. If that’s the case (or **[you just want to create new family traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/10-budget-friendly-new-easter-traditions/)**), you and your kids can bond over something simpler, cheaper, and a lot less messy with these free colouring pages! Whether it’s crayons, watercolour, or acrylic paint – non-toxic, of course – your little ones will be delighted with these Easter-themed colouring pages. From eggs to flowers to bunnies and carrots, these printable designs were carefully curated to suit kids and kids at heart. So, print them out and start colouring! Who knows, there might be a little Picasso in your brood. ![Printable Easter colouring pages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Printable-Easter-colouring-pages-1.png "Printable Easter colouring pages - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/printable-easter-colouring-pages/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/printable-easter-colouring-pages/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Easter **Tags:** mindfulness, easter, colouring --- ### [10 Budget-friendly new Easter traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/easter/10-budget-friendly-new-easter-traditions/) **Published:** March 15, 2024 **Author:** Therese I. **Content:** Easter is a time for joy, celebration, and cherished traditions. Like everywhere around the world, it is one of the most looked-forward-to holidays in our household. My kids adore bunnies and enjoy decorating Easter eggs. As a single mum, I see to it that my kids’ Easter experience is not any less exciting than their friends from traditional families. I understand that this can be a challenge, given our financial situation and all. But do you know you don’t have to break all the piggy banks in your home to make this happen? With a little creativity and resourcefulness, you can make this celebration special without spending a fortune. Here are 10 budget-friendly but fun ideas to add to your Easter traditions. ## **10 Budget-friendly new Easter traditions** ## **Easter crafts workshop** This Easter tradition is perfect for kids of all ages. Your Mum friends can even join in the fun and get their creative juices flowing! What’s great about this activity is that there is no right or wrong. The kids can put their ideas into reality and create whatever [Easter crafts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/easter-crafts-your-kids-and-you-will-love/) they want. If you’ll be doing this, choose a spacious room to accommodate as many kids as you want. Every year, we set up our workshop in the garage. It has plenty of room and has excellent ventilation, so everyone is comfy. You can also involve the little ones in cleaning up afterwards. Tell them it’s part of the workshop, and they’ll definitely participate! It works every year for me. You’re welcome. ![Egg decorating contest | Easter traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/pexels-cottonbro-studio-3972016-1200x800.jpg "pexels-cottonbro-studio-3972016 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Egg decorating contest** What is Easter without the traditional Easter egg, right? Year after year, everyone in our neighbourhood looks forward to different egg designs – some peculiar, some dainty, and each has a different story. Every child in our community gets the chance to showcase their artistic genius. What I love most about this Easter tradition is the preparation – choosing the art materials, decorating the venue, and buying the eggs! You can include the egg decorating contest in the Easter crafts workshop. Remember to award prizes for the most creative, funniest, and most colourful eggs. If you can, give a little something (like a DIY certificate) to every participant so everyone gets something. ## **Easter egg hunt** Ah, the classic Easter egg hunt. What else to do with the decorated eggs than hiding them all around the yard for the kids to find? Quick tip: Don’t think hard when hiding the eggs. If they get too difficult to find, the little ones might lose interest, and the game will be over. I made this mistake years ago, and I will never make it again! You can use plastic eggs for the egg decorating contest and fill them with small treats or coins. Believe me, seeing the sparkle in the kids’ eyes upon finding their little reward is priceless. ![Nature walk and picnic | Easter traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/pexels-zen-chung-5529537-1200x800.jpg "pexels-zen-chung-5529537 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Nature walk and picnic** If you and your kiddos want a little peace and quiet during this holiday, enjoying a nature walk and having a picnic could be your new Easter tradition. It’s one way to take advantage of the spring weather as well. My sister does this with her kids every other year. They even bring a tent and go camping. She packs a basket full of homemade sandwiches, fruits, and snacks. Whenever they stay overnight, she brings a small ukelele and sings songs over the campfire after roasting the s’mores. Maybe we’ll try coming with them this year! ## **Bake Easter treats** My kids and I love to bake – it is how we spend quality time. It’s not only fun but also an extremely productive hobby. So whenever there are special occasions, we make all kinds of pastries and treats. Every Easter, we love baking classic hot cross buns and festive sugar cookies shaped like bunnies and chicks. If your little ones are tired of decorating toy eggs every year, this Easter, you can try pretending to be a pastry chef with them. It will be messy, but the memories you’ll be creating with them are irreplaceable! ![Plant spring flowers | Easter traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/pexels-gustavo-fring-5622460-1200x800.jpg "pexels-gustavo-fring-5622460 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Plant spring flowers** Here is one of the perfect Easter traditions for nature-loving mums out there. You can spend the day in your garden planting spring flowers. If you don’t have space for a garden, you can plant in pots on your balcony. It’s a fun and hands-on activity that will add beauty to your home and garden while celebrating the arrival of spring. My kids truly enjoy this activity because I allow them to get messy and play with dirt. You can also visit a local nursery or garden centre to choose colourful flowers like daffodils, tulips, or hyacinths. ## **Budget-friendly Easter traditions (cont.)** ## **Movie marathon** You will want some quiet time after an active day of egg decorating and hunting. This is where your favourite flicks come in handy. Our Easter traditions at home are not complete without a cozy movie marathon. Add classics such as “Hop” and “Peter Rabbit” to your lineup. Get suggestions from your little ones and let them choose which film to watch. Prepare some snacks (don’t forget the popcorn), snuggle up on the couch with blankets and pillows, and enjoy the rest of the day with family-friendly entertainment. ![Visit a local farm | Easter traditions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/pexels-gustavo-fring-5163460-1200x800.jpg "pexels-gustavo-fring-5163460 - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Visit a local farm** If you haven’t gone anywhere with your kids in a while, Easter is the perfect time for that overdue outing! Many farms offer special Easter events with activities like harvesting crops, egg hunts, pony rides, and animal encounters. You don’t have to drive far for this. Search online or ask your friends for farms near your home. Don’t worry—these kinds of places don’t charge much; you’ll just have to pay a budget-friendly entrance fee. It’s a memorable and educational way to celebrate the holiday while supporting local businesses. ## **Virtual Easter party** If you can’t gather with family and friends in person, host a virtual Easter party. Thanks to modern technology, we can now use videoconferencing platforms to connect with loved ones and enjoy Easter traditions together. A few years ago, we attended a virtual Easter party that a high school friend hosted. I thought it would be dull, but I was wrong! It was filled with exciting games and performances from each participant. There were even prizes for the winners. What’s great about this is you don’t have to spend money on food for your guests! Talk about practical, right?! ## **Acts of kindness** Let us not forget what Easter is all about. Teach your children that Easter is not only about egg hunting and parties but also about being kind to others. Whether it’s helping someone with groceries, volunteering at a local charity, or simply offering a warm greeting, spreading love is a meaningful way to celebrate this holiday. This year, I am bringing my kids to a local fire station to hand out baked goodies to our real-life heroes. As I said, you don’t have to spend a lot on this. You and your children can sort through old clothes and toys and donate them to an orphanage. As the saying goes, “It’s the thought that counts.” ## **Summary: 10 Easter traditions** If you have run out of ideas for making Easter more fun for your kiddos, these fresh ideas will do the trick (without breaking the bank, of course)! Easter traditions don’t need to be extravagant. I know how challenging it is for us single mothers to provide for our children’s needs. But with your DIY prowess and your kids’ creativity, you can put together the most unforgettable celebration ever. Forget the expensive egg hunt venues. Take that treasure hunt to the local park. And as for the Easter feast, potluck style is the way to go. If you have a big family, you can ask family members to help you prepare food and decorations. It may be tiring, but seeing your kids’ eyes gleam with happiness is worth it! Finally, let us not forget the real meaning of Easter. It’s a reminder that we’re stronger than we think, just like how we juggle work, bills, and school projects. So here’s to us: making magic happen on a dime because love doesn’t come with a price tag. 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The programs promise to equip the students knowledge and mastery of graphic design fundamentals, practical skills and in-depth understanding of graphic design– and also how to secure design projects. The academy also offer optional work placement to its students who want to kick off their graphic design career right after certification. 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From understanding the fundamentals of graphic design principles to delving deep into industry-standard software like Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator, these online graphic design courses offer an invaluable foundation. Moreover, they empower you to explore critical aspects such as colour theory, typography, branding, and logo design, ensuring a comprehensive education. Remember that creativity knows no boundaries, and with dedication and the right knowledge, your graphic design dreams can flourish. So, seize the opportunity, enrol in the course that resonates with you, and let your artistic journey begin. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/8-graphic-design-online-courses-for-beginners-in-2023/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/8-graphic-design-online-courses-for-beginners-in-2023/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** career, self improvement, resume, courses --- ### [14 Free online personal development courses 2023](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/free-online-personal-development-courses/) **Published:** April 5, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Personal development is a great way to give yourself a boost in this crazy thing we call life. But it can be hard to find the time or money to spend on self-improvement. Well look no further as we’ve found some fabulous free online personal development courses .. all of which are completely and utterly FREEEEEE. And, as all the courses listed are online, it means you can do them whenever and wherever you like. You can also find a great opportunity for practicing as a professional writer and discover the world of these helpers, who you can request [write my essay for me](https://domyessay.com/) and they do their best. I’m thinking PJ’s and couch when the kids are in bed.” So block out some [me-time](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/important-reasons-me-time-priority/), sign yourself up and create an even better version of yourself. ## 14 FREE ONLINE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT COURSES ### 1. [IMPROVE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE WITH 5 TECHNIQUES AND HYPNOSIS](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fimprove-your-self-confidence-with-5-techniques-and-hypnosis%2F) Self-confidence is key when it comes to transforming your life and achieving your goals, but it can be elusive for many people. Have you ever felt that you could be in a better place if only you had great self-confidence? This course is for anyone who wants to boost their self-confidence and self-esteem. You’ll learn five practical techniques to improve your confidence in different situations; turn weaknesses into strengths; break old habits; and be more aware of your surroundings. You will also learn to improve your posture and choice of words in conversation, as well as experiencing guided hypnosis and trance travel. ***Course length:*** *11 lectures in 1 hour* ***Course platform****: [Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fimprove-your-self-confidence-with-5-techniques-and-hypnosis%2F)* ### *2.* [CAMERAS, EXPOSURE AND PHOTOGRAPHY](https://imp.i384100.net/nLLEbX) Ever wanted to start a photography business or just improve your photography skills in general? Then this course is for you. *Cameras, Exposure and Photography* from Michigan State University is basic and introductory, and is the first module in five of the *Photography Basics and Beyond* course. You’ll learn fundamental concepts like different camera types and choosing one that best fits your goals; making sense of the controls; setting it up; and understanding vantage point and framing. We love that it lets you get your feet wet without committing to a lengthy, paid class. You can always sign up for the rest of the modules if you want to dive in further (financial aid is available). ***Course length:*** *4 modules (64-199 minutes per module) in 4 weeks* ***Course platform****: [Coursera](https://imp.i384100.net/nLLEbX)* ### 3. [NEVER SETTLE: HOW TO CREATE SUCCESS IN YOUR LOVE LIFE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fneversettle%2F) Relationships are tricky for most people, but a successful love life doesn’t have to be out of reach. One of the favourites on our list of online personal development courses is *Never Settle: How to Create Success in Your Love Life.* This is a course for anyone who is looking for a successful, long-term relationship. Dating and relationship coach Trevor Treo Scott teaches you how to use both logic and emotion to have a successful love life; attract people who are ready for a relationship; be more confident; and get rid of negative thinking that is holding you back. Scott says that choosing the wrong spouse hinders productivity because so much energy is spent on fixing the relationship instead of helping the couple grow. ***Course length:*** *5 lectures in 1 hour* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fneversettle%2F)* ### 4. [INTRO TO MINDFULNESS](https://thiswayup.org.au/how-we-can-help/courses/intro-to-mindfulness/) For frazzled mums looking to de-stress, become more focused or gain a deeper understanding of the mind, *Intro to Mindfulness* is one of the best online personal development courses. You’ve probably heard of mindfulness and its many benefits and want to put it into practice. This course goes in-depth and teaches you what mindfulness is; how it improves awareness; attention and acceptance; how to do mindfulness meditation exercises and more. Besides lessons, the course features online questionnaires, comic-based stories, summaries and .mp3 files of guided meditation exercises. We love that the course is self-paced so you can do the guided exercises whenever you have the time. ***Course length:*** *4 lessons (from 30 to 60 minutes per module) over 4 weeks to 2 months* ***Course platform:*** *[This Way Up](https://thiswayup.org.au/how-we-can-help/courses/intro-to-mindfulness/)* ### 5. [MINIMALISM: SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fminimalism-simplicity-freedom%2F) Life can be a rat race sometimes, and the desire to acquire more money and material possessions can wear you down and take a toll on your health and well-being. *Minimalism: Simplify Your Life* is perfect for people who’ve always wanted to cut-back on consumerism and focus instead on the intangible things in life that really matter. In this course, you will understand the core concepts of minimalism; learn how to reduce possessions; surround yourself with what you love; and live a simple but beautiful life. ***Course length:*** *25 lectures in 1 hour* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fminimalism-simplicity-freedom%2F)* ## FREE ONLINE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT COURSES (CONT.) ### 6. [GOAL SETTING THE SMART WAY AND ENJOY THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fgoal-setting-smart%2F) Many people have dreams but fail to reach them. It’s a common issue, and often it’s not the goal itself but how you set or define it that determines success. If you’ve never set goals before or you’ve always wanted to be better at turning your dreams into reality, *Goal Setting the SMART Way* by MBA, public speaker and investor Steve Ballinger is the course for you. Ballinger teaches you how to set effective SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound) goals step by step; the different variations of SMART and which one to use; the importance of having a goal with a deadline,;and more practical tips. ***Course length:*** *13 lectures in 1 hour* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fgoal-setting-smart%2F)* ### 7. [HOW TO WRITE YOUR FIRST SONG](https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/songwriting) If you’ve ever been mystified and fascinated by the songwriting process and why some tunes make it to the top of the charts while other’s flop, *How to Write Your First Song* explains the whole thing. The course is an introduction to songwriting, covering the tools and techniques required to write your first song; how to set words to music, time and pitch, melody, chords and chord progressions; song forms; arrangement; and what makes a song successful. You’ll follow along with world-renowned musician Martin Simpson as you build and arrange your own song. You’ll also hear tips from established songwriters, musicians and psychologists. After completing the course, you should be able to set words to rhythm and create your first song. You don’t need prior experience; the course is designed for complete beginners as well budding musicians. ***Course length:*** *3 hours a week for 6 weeks* ***Course platform:*** *[FutureLearn](https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/songwriting)* ### 8. [FOUR TRUTHS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Flearn-4-truths-that-will-change-your-life%2F) Next on our list of online personal development courses is *4 Truths That Will Change Your Life*, a Udemy course taught by Wolfgang Riebe, an inspirational speaker, moderator for corporate events and entertainer/magician writer. The ‘mind shift master’ promises to shift your perception by sharing insights into the meaning of wealth; the importance of passion in achieving success; and the importance of honesty in life. The course is short (75 minutes) and serves as an introduction to Riebe’s other paid courses. We love the practical, no-nonsense tips as well as additional resources if you want to go deeper into the subject. ***Course length****: 6 lectures in 1 hour and 44 minutes* ***Course platform****: [Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Flearn-4-truths-that-will-change-your-life%2F)* ### 9. [TRIPLE P ONLINE](https://www.triplep-parenting.net.au/qld-uken/triple-p/) Parenting is the most important and one of the toughest jobs in the world, and it’s even more challenging for single mums. Even if you’re a natural at raising children, there’s always room to improve. The Triple P Online course helps you raise healthy, happy kids with less stress through positive parenting strategies. Triple P is one of the few online parenting programs that is proven to work for families regardless of culture or situation, as shown by over 290 studies and trials (the largest evidence base of any parenting program). The research is from the University of Queensland’s Parenting and Family Support Centre headed by Dr. Matt Sanders, one of the world’s leading authorities on parenting. The course consists of videos, tips, worksheets and activities, plus podcasts, emails and texts. ***Course length****: 8 modules (from 30 to 60 minutes per module)* ***Course platform:*** *[Triple P](https://www.triplep-parenting.net.au/qld-uken/triple-p/)* ### 10. [ACTUALIZE ACADEMY – ADVANCED PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SUCCESS](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fcourse%2Fthe-actualize-academy-advanced-personal-development-course%2F) Our next online personal development course is designed for those who want to take personal development to the next level. This free course from Actualize Academy will help improve your self-awareness and motivation, and increase your emotional intelligence and personal development. Best-selling author, coach and psychoanalytic thinker Justin Quinton will teach you about how to influence your own psychology and speed up your success. You will learn how to control your life, fix any emotional problem, and heal from a breakup. The only prerequisites to take the course are a willingness to change your life and an open mind. ***Course length:*** *14 lectures for 1 hour 21 minutes* ***Course platform:***[ *Udemy*](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fcourse%2Fthe-actualize-academy-advanced-personal-development-course%2F) ### 11. [MEANING TO LIFE AND DEFINING YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fmeaning-to-life%2F) Are you in the middle of a personal crisis? Or simply want to learn strategies to become more successful? The free *Meaning to Life* online personal development course by Marc Wynn will point you in the right direction. Wynn is a motivational guru and self-described ‘ordinary guy who knows how life works.’ He has studied life, spirituality, healing and the laws of attraction for 22 years, and he shares what he’s learned to make your own life amazing. Marc Wynn understands rock bottom and how to climb out of it because he’s done it himself. You will learn strategies to improve your health, relationships, career and well-being, find your purpose and the meaning of life. You’ll also learn how the spiritual, non-physical world can help you 24/7. The course features two lectures and a workbook to guide you on your self-transformation. ***Course length:*** *5 lectures for 1.5 hours* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fmeaning-to-life%2F)* ## FREE ONLINE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT COURSES (cont.) ### 12. [DETOX YOUR ENTIRE LIFE, SIMPLY](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fdetox-your-entire-life%2F) Next on our list of online personal development courses is a great course for anyone who’s stressed out (and who isn’t these days?). *Detox Your Entire Life, Simply* is a free course by eco and organic expert Tash Jefferies that teaches you how to detox your entire life, from the physical to the spiritual aspects. In this course, you will learn what holistic health really is; how to clear stresses of everyday life; how to effectively deal with stress on a daily basis; and how to live a more authentic and fulfilled life. Besides the lessons, you get to do activities and exercises to examine your life and discover truths that may affect your health. Jefferies’ approach is practical, fun and energetic, so you’ll never be bored. ***Course length:*** *6 lectures in 1.5 hours* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fdetox-your-entire-life%2F)* ### 13. [POWER SELF HEALING IN 5 SIMPLE STEPS – SELF HELP COURSE](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fcourse%2Fself-help-course%2F) Do you want to improve your life but unsure how to actually start? Reiki Master Teacher Melissa Crowhurst will teach you that improving your life is simple and easy. You will learn about simple actions that will make you balance your mind and body. A key takeaway from this brief course is knowing how to *micro-meditate* to rest your mind in almost any situation that might disturb your inner peace. At the end of the course, you will have improved self-worth and self-image, and find a newfound love for who you are. ***Course length:*** *21 lectures for 49 minutes* ***Course platform:*** [*Udemy*](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fcourse%2Fself-help-course%2F) ### 14. [METAP™ – FASTTRACK TO LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE WITH EFT](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fmetap-fasttrack-to-live-your-best-life-with-eft%2F) Last but not least on our list of free online personal development courses is MeTap. You might have heard of ‘tapping’ or emotional freedom technique (EFT) as an alternative treatment for physical and emotional pain. This free course is a good introduction to this counselling intervention popularized in the 1990s by Gary Craig’s EFT Handbook. In this fast track course, therapist Desireé Lüpke-Read teaches you what EFT is, why it is used, the potential benefits and how to apply EFT to yourself. This is a perfect introduction to EFT if you are super busy (only takes an hour). ***Course length:*** *9 lectures in 1 hour (with assignments)* ***Course platform:*** *[Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fmetap-fasttrack-to-live-your-best-life-with-eft%2F)* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/free-online-personal-development-courses/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/free-online-personal-development-courses/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career, Healing **Tags:** photography, minimalism, parenting, mindfulness, eft, online courses, goal setting, personal development, self improvement, ecourses, learning, self confidence --- ### [Friends with benefits: 10 Rules to make it work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/) **Published:** February 23, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Does having a friend with benefits (FWB) appeal to you? A friend-with-benefits relationship is simply a relationship with a good friend, with whom you enjoy sex without the commitment of a conventional relationship. Simple. Or is it? The idea of no-strings-attached sex with someone you like (and fancy) is appealing to many. As humans, [we crave intimacy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/lack-of-intimacy-single/), but may not want a committed relationship for several reasons. These include commitment phobia, fear of getting hurt and lack of time. But there is more to this setup than meets the eye. Unlike a traditional relationship where the rules are clear, the lines and boundaries around an FWB relationship are all over the place. And to make it work is harder than you may think. Finding the perfect friend who satisfies you in the bedroom AND doesn’t want to take it further is tricky. Making it work long-term, is harder still. Like all good things, getting it right can take time and effort. Here are our rules for finding, keeping and loving life with a FWB. ***Further reading: [Casual fling or relationship: Which is right for you?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/casual-fling-relationship/)*** ## **FWB: 10 Rules to make it work** ## **Pick the right friend with benefits** If you already have a close friend who you fancy (come on, we all have one) you could see if they’d like to take your friendship to another level. It’s possible that he/she is waiting for you to ask! Note: Consider this carefully first. Beautiful friendships can be ruined when sex comes into the equation. Only you can decide whether this is the right move, or not. No fanciable friends? No problem. There are heaps of people out there looking for the same thing as you, you just have to know where to find them. [Dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/) are great for this, but using the right app is key. Generally, people are looking for love, even if they don’t say it. To cut them out of your search from the beginning use a more targeted app for your needs, such as [Adult Friend Finder](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF). The name alone suggests what you’re looking for and all your matches will be after the same. Another great app that is slightly more PC is [Passion](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION). ## **Know your emotional boundaries** I learned from a few “friends with benefits” in the past that having feelings for your buddy is inevitable (for me, at least). Even if you want it to be completely about sex and satisfying each other, there is always one party (or both) who ends up caring deeply (and romantically) for the other. Once this happens, it is time to end the relationship. Believe me, nothing good is ever going to come out of being in love with your FWB (especially if it is one-sided). Understand what you can handle emotionally. Take the exit if it becomes too much. Remember, you are doing this to unwind, not to complicate your life more. ## **Make sure you are cut out for FWB** Everyone loves the idea of a FWB. It seems so fun and easy. But really, is it you? Many women find it hard to have an intimate relationship without falling in love and wanting more. And no, this is not you being needy. An article from Business Insider explains why we feel this way after having sex with someone: > *“Oxytocin is released into the body during intercourse, a hormone which is linked to positive social functioning and is associated with bonding, trust, and loyalty.”* The main cause of breakups in FWB relationships is because one person develops deeper feelings and wants more, which is natural and (we now know) chemical. If you are the type to fall for someone big time, attempting a relationship with someone who will not commit could be a heartbreak waiting to happen. ## **Beware the green-eyed monster** Remember the feelings I warned you about earlier? This is its evil twin. You know you are only involved physically, so you should be fine with your partner having other friends with benefits. I was not good at it at first. But years of experience taught me how to keep the green-eyed monster at bay. I used to feel possessive and jealous whenever I saw my “buddy” flirting with other women. But after one ugly confrontation, I learned that I can use this as a “me time,” or a chance to look for other potential (and hotter) FWBs. ## **Communication is key** Like with every single relationship in the world, communication is super important. Especially so when navigating the world of friends with benefits. Start out with clear expectations and listen to those of your friends. Are you both on the same page? Things to chat about include: - Whether you are sexually exclusive, or not - Will you tell people about your relationship - How often will you meet - How the relationship will/could end - A plan for contraception As a woman, you might need to instigate these conversations but explain that it is important for you both to know where you stand. Then, check in regularly to make sure you’re both still happy with the arrangement. By defining the boundaries of your relationship, you can both relax and have lots of fun within them. ## **Safe sex always** Even if you are not sleeping with anyone else but him, it could be different for your sex buddy. You never know who else he is intimate with, so practising safe sex is crucial. And even if you are in an exclusive relationship, protection is still important. Don’t forget the contraceptives, too! Trust me, you don’t want a little version of him wiggling in your uterus. Aside from a first aid kit and an emergency “anti-tantrum” kit for my kids, I always keep a secret protection pouch at hand. Besides, being prepared never hurts. You can tell your partner to do the same as it will benefit you both. ## **Don’t forget the friend bit** A common mistake people make is to forget the ‘friend’ part of friends with benefits. This is not a casual fling or a one-night stand. Friends should be treated with the respect and kindness they deserve … and your FWB is no different. Friends talk to one another and look out for one another. Never use your FBW as simply a toy for your bedroom and always respect his/her feelings. ## **Keeping it a secret (or not)** To spill the beans or not to spill, that is the question. It is up to you to decide whether you want to tell your friends about your little rendezvous. But before you start gushing about it, be sure that your FWB is aware and that he (or she) approves. Personally, I’ve had success with both. But like any other relationship, communication is key. It is just a matter of timing and knowing who to trust. If you want only a few of your closest friends to know, that works too! However, be careful about letting your kids know, especially if they are still pretty young. They will not understand it yet. In my experience, I have only introduced my past FWBs as “mum’s new friend,” and so far, it worked well. ## **Be prepared to share** Talking about friends, let’s look at this from another angle. Friends are all you are, not partners or a couple. This means both you and your friend have the freedom to do as you wish, with who you wish. Even if you have agreed on exclusive sex, you are both free to go on dates and attend work events with other people. How does that make you feel? In an article in [Women’s Health](https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19949572/fwb-communication/) discussing findings from a published journal about friends with benefits, they found a real issue for women was: > *“A difficulty expressing negative feelings about their partner engaging in flirting or sexual behaviour with someone else. They said that although they experienced jealousy, they couldn’t express it as such because they didn’t have the ‘right,’ because they weren’t in a serious relationship.”* Are you able to watch, even support, your FWB as they meet and enjoy other people? After all, this is what a real friend would do. ***Further reading: [The best hookup sites for casual flings during a separation.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-hookup-sites/)*** ## **Be ready to let go** This is not marriage. There is no ‘to death do us part’. Which means, there will most likely be ‘an end’. Talk about what will happen if either of you meet a person you/he/she would like to date. It will mean you can no longer continue sleeping together, but there is no reason not to maintain your friendship. The same goes if either of you are not into it anymore. Can you extricate yourself from the sex side of the relationship whilst keeping your friendship intact? Friendships are one of the most beautiful things in the world. Discussing ‘the end’ before it actually happens will allow for a peaceful transition from bed buddies to just good mates. ## **Summary: 10 Rules to make friends with benefits work** There you have it, your foolproof guide to having friends with benefits and making it work. It is a fun, no-pressure setup that will relieve most (if not all) of your stress from solo parenthood. Don’t get me wrong, I love caring for my kids and have completely embraced the single mum role. But as human beings, we need to satisfy our needs. And sometimes, we do not need to commit to a serious relationship to do so. Just make sure you follow all of my tips above and your FWB experience will be smooth sailing. Here’s a special tip – always keep those communication lines open and establish ground rules. Be clear about expectations, desires, and physical and emotional boundaries. Be clear about what’s on the table and what’s off-limits. Doing this has worked wonders for me. Have you watched the movies “No Strings Attached” or “Friends with Benefits?” If not, these are great flicks that I am sure you can relate to, especially if this is your first time having an FWB. That’s it! Go forth, have fun, and celebrate your womanhood! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** sex, intimacy, relationship, fwb, sex with friend --- ### [Where to buy cheap nappies online and never get caught out again (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/) **Published:** February 16, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Buying nappies for the little bottoms in your care is an endless task. No sooner are you fully stocked-up and they are all gone again. For this reason, buying cheap nappies online in bulk is a savvy solution that will ensure you’re always on top of the nappy buying gig. So where can you buy good quality nappies at a great price online? Look no further as we have you covered … you will never get caught nappy-less again. **Note:** This article has been recently updated to ensure we stand by the stores listed. We have updated the details where needed, and added a couple more so you have plenty of choice on where to buy cheap nappies online. Happy nappy buying. ## **Where to buy cheap nappies online** ## [**Big W**](https://bigw.sjv.io/rn3BmR) Big W is your one-stop-shop for a huge selection of affordable nappies, from disposable to cloth to pull-ups. They carry both small and big brands like Huggies, Little Ones and Big Softies. [![Big W | cheap nappies online](https://i.ibb.co/PZKd97L/bigw.jpg)](https://bigw.sjv.io/rn3BmR) ***Brands carried:** Huggies, Little Ones, Big Softies, Babylove, Wonder, Plum* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide* ## **[Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/eKGbx6)** Kogan has a ton of choices for cheap nappies online from various reputable brands. Whether you’re aiming for disposable, reusable, or eco-friendly options for your little one, you’ll surely find it at Kogan. While you’re at it, check out other nappy products like creams, balms, and diaper bags. [![Kogan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Opera-Snapshot_2024-02-14_090448_www.kogan_.com_-1200x571.png "Opera-Snapshot_2024-02-14_090448_www.kogan_.com_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/eKGbx6)***Brands carried:*** *BabyLove, Bella Baby, Bambo Nature, Bamboo Behinds, Beyond Love, Big Softies, Drypers, Earth Dreaming, Ecoriginals, Haleco, Hello Bello, Huggies, MamyPoko, Muumi, Pampers, Pandas, Snookums, Tooshies, Toshi Wonder* ***Delivery area:*** *Australia-wide* ## [**Woolworths**](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/e4MbLj) Liek shopping at Woolworths? You’ll love their nappy selection, too. You can also shop here for other mum and baby products (they have an extensive selection) and score sweet, sweet deals. [![Woolworths | cheap nappies online](https://i.ibb.co/zhJBbcL/woolies.jpg)](https://supermarkets.4emhls.net/e4MbLj) ***Brands carried:** Alva Baby, Babylove, Bare and Boho, Big Softies, Bonds, Cuddlies, Designer Bums, Econaps, Ecoriginals, Huggies, Joonya, Little One’s, Lulu & Finn, Naty Nappies, Nuzzles, Pampers, Pea Pods, Plum, Tooshies* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide* ## [**Chemist Direct**](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/catalogsearch/result/?q=nappies) Chemist Direct is a web shop that sells pharmacy items and disposable nappies online that are delivered straight to your doorstep. Their brand selection includes Mustela, Tooshies, as well as Pampers and Huggies. [![Chemist Direct](https://i.ibb.co/Tqrj6kk/chemist-direct.jpg)](https://www.chemistdirect.com.au/catalogsearch/result/?q=nappies) ***Brands carried:** Babylove, Pandas* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide* ## **[Ecoriginals](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/72806?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ecoriginals.com.au%2f)** Unlike the rest of the sites in this guide, Ecoriginals is a company focused on biodegradable nappies. It has disposable and reusable nappies, wipes, sprays, and rash creams. Nappies and wipes are available for one-time purchase or subscription. You will also find other baby stuff like beddings and carriers. [![Ecoriginals | cheap nappies online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Opera-Snapshot_2024-02-14_094920_www.ecoriginals.com_.au_-1200x576.png "Opera-Snapshot_2024-02-14_094920_www.ecoriginals.com_.au_ - Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/72806?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ecoriginals.com.au%2f)***Brands carried:** Econaps, Ecoriginals* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide, USA, UK* ## [**Pharmacy Online**](https://www.pharmacyonline.com.au/catalogsearch/result/?q=nappies) Pharmacy Online carries most of the popular nappy brands and more. You can also shop for other mum and baby products here (they have an extensive selection) and score sweet, sweet deals. [![Pharmacy Online](https://i.ibb.co/BgRnQGQ/Pharmacy-Online.jpg)](https://www.pharmacyonline.com.au/catalogsearch/result/?q=nappies) ***Brands carried:** BabyLove, Pandas* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wid*e ## **Where to buy cheap nappies online (cont.)** ## [**Chemist Warehouse**](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43806&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chemistwarehouse.com.au%2Fshop-online%2F791%2Fbaby-nappies) Australia’s number 1 online pharmacy is a great place to find hugely discounted nappies. From disposable to modern cloth nappies, they have it all. Shop online, in store or via click and collect. [![Chemist Warehouse](https://i.ibb.co/S3PW0VJ/Chemist-Warehouse.jpg)](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=43806&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chemistwarehouse.com.au%2Fshop-online%2F791%2Fbaby-nappies) ***Brands carried:** BabyLove, EcoNaps, Huggies, Tooshies* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide* ## [**Amazon**](https://www.amazon.com.au/s?k=nappies&ref=nb_sb_noss&_encoding=UTF8&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkCode=ur2&linkId=40463bc113fe0027518c3b19c0212e95&camp=247&creative=1211%22%3ENappies%3C/a%3E%3Cimg%20src=%22//) Last on our list of where to buy cheap nappies online: The world’s top retailer is an excellent website to shop nappies online. Amazon carries most of the popular brands, plus eco nappy brands and foreign ones you’ve never heard of. [![Amazon | cheap nappies online](https://i.ibb.co/GkykZL8/Amazon.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/s?k=nappies&ref=nb_sb_noss&_encoding=UTF8&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkCode=ur2&linkId=40463bc113fe0027518c3b19c0212e95&camp=247&creative=1211%22%3ENappies%3C/a%3E%3Cimg%20src=%22//) ***Brands carried:** Most brands, including Huggies, Pampers, Babylove and eco nappy brands* ***Delivery area:** Australia-wide* ## **Summary: Where to buy cheap nappies online** Whether you have a newborn or an older toddler, you’d still need up to twelve diapers everyday. Before you know it, poof! Your stash is empty. Every mum knows that running out of nappies for your little one can be a major pain in the bum. Unfortunately, diapers are not inexpensive. That means your munchkin’s undies alone can take up to AU$2000 off your family budget every year. That’s why it’s important to buy nappies in bulk to save time and some money. (Washable and reusable nappies are cheaper and ultimately better for the planet compared to ‘sposies. But you must also think of your laundry expenses and time spent constantly washing them.) In this guide, we have listed websites where you can shop for cheap nappies online. These merchants have everything from conventional to biodegradable to washable cloth nappies you can buy in larger quantities. Buying in bulk can also make you eligible for free shipping. You will also find a brand that offers their eco-friendly nappies for a monthly subscription. This can be better for your wallet if you’re on the lookout for sustainable options. We know finding cheap nappies online can be especially challenging given the economy. But hang in there, mum. Like pee and like poo, their diaper years too shall pass. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Shopping **Tags:** diapers, bulk --- ### [Buyer's agent in Gold Coast can save you money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buyers-agent/) **Published:** February 14, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Finding and working with a buyer’s agent in the Gold Coast can be a very beneficial experience for anyone looking to purchase a home. A [buyer’s agent in Gold Coast can save you money](https://www.savvyfox.com.au/buyers-agent-gold-coast). The agent will be able to provide a wealth of knowledge and resources about the local market, as well as help connect you with potential sellers. ## The Benefits of Using a Buyer’s Agent ### The agency knows the market A buyer’s agent is intimately familiar with the Gold Coast real estate market. The agency will know the prices and trends of the area, and can help you find the perfect property for your needs. ### An established agent knows the ins and outs of the home buying process They will be able to help you negotiate the best price, understand the terms of the contract, and guide you through the home inspection process. ### You’ll stay organised and on track Your agent can help you stay organised and on track during the home buying process. They will keep you updated on all the developments in the market, and can help you stay within your budget. ### They can make the process smoother and easier A buyer’s agent can help you negotiate the best price and make the home buying process as smooth and easy as possible. Your agent will help you understand the terms of the contract, and will be there to help you through the home inspection process. ## Things to Consider When Choosing a Buyer’s Agent in Gold Coast When you want to buy a house in the Gold Coast, finding the right buyer’s agent can make all the difference. Here’s what to look for when finding an agent: ### Experience A buyer’s agent with lots of experience working with buyers and house sellers in the area will be better equipped to help you find the right house and make the process go smoothly. ### Networking Make sure the agent you choose is active in the community and keeps up to date on the latest trends and developments in the area. Ask them how they connect with local real estate agents and government officials, and whether they have any connections that may help you get a better deal on a house. ### Certification Many buyers’ agents are certified by the National Real Estate Association (NREA). This means they have met specific standards and have been trained in the art of real estate. Look for award-winning real estate professionals, as you’re sure you can get hold of a buyer’s agent who has a reputation for getting things done. ### Commitment Ask the agent how much time they will commit to helping you find a house and whether they have any cancellation policies in case something comes up in the process. ### Fees Make sure the agent you choose charges a reasonable fee for their services. Fees should cover the costs of their services, such as researching houses and making contacts with sellers and buyers. ### Availability Ask the agent when they are available to start working on your house search and whether they have any flexible hours. When you have a list of houses you are interested in, contact the agent and set up a time to visit some of the properties. If you are able to tour several houses before making a decision, that is a good sign the agent is knowledgeable and helpful. Once you have made a decision on which house to buy, the agent will help you negotiate a deal in your favour and get your mortgage approved. ***Further reading: [How can a single parent buy a home.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-can-a-single-parent-buy-a-home/)*** ![Buyer's agent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Buyers-agent-1.png "Buyer's agent - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buyers-agent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/buyers-agent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property --- ### [How to discipline your kids when you’re exhausted](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/discipline-your-kids-when-exhausted/) **Published:** February 7, 2024 **Author:** Ariella Lew **Content:** The longer I do this job, the more I’m convinced that being a parent is the world’s toughest gig; most especially if you have to discipline your kids when you’re exhausted. For those with a partner and a strong support system, sharing the parenting load is easier. However, for single parents, handling everything alone, especially tough tasks like discipline and setting boundaries, is incredibly challenging. It often feels overwhelming, and for many, including myself, it seems like an impossible task. During moments of chaos, whether it’s arguing with a 3-year-old about toast shapes or having a tough talk with a teenager about their grievances, it can feel overwhelming. Finding the motivation to respond calmly and handle discipline can seem like an impossible task. > I am Ariella Lew, a highly qualified paediatric nurse and Director of Kids on Track Consultancy. My expertise is in parenting, behaviour and sleep and toilet training. In this article I will teach you how to discipline your kids how flippin’ tired you. And, I will start with my top secret, which is: > > **“*Your energy is better spent planning your discipline in advance rather than in the moment. This way you feel like you have something concrete to turn to and a back-up system ready to go.”*** Now, let’s dig a little deeper. Here are seven surefire ways to discipline your kids when you’re exhausted. ***Further reading: [10 Superfood supplements to help busy mums get through the day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/top-superfoods-every-aussie-mum-needs-to-try/)*** ## **How to discipline your kids when you’re exhausted** ## **1. Deal breaker rules and consequences** Once your kids are asleep tonight, sit down with a glass of wine and a blank piece of paper. Write down the five non-negotiable rules for anyone living in your house. This may have to do with manners, fighting or jumping on furniture, but there shouldn’t be more than five. Then there should be a consequence for each one that is immediate and related to what they have done. For example, if they have thrown a toy – that toy is removed for at least 48 hours. If they have hit their sibling, they can’t be around them for a period of time (maybe 15 minutes). One of the biggest stresses when trying to discipline your kids is caused by not thinking clearly at the moment and not being able to think of consequences. If you can turn this list of rules and consequences into a visual chart on the fridge, this part of parenting becomes predictable and hopefully easier. ## **2. Have realistic expectations of your children** Not all kids are wired similarly. While your neighbour’s kid already knows how to sweep the floor at five- years old, it might not be the same for yours. And that is completely fine. Understand that kids, like adults, have their limits, and expecting perfection may lead to frustration. I know it’s challenging to discipline your kids when you’re exhausted. But do you know what happens when you expect too much from your children? They get pressured and end up not being able to finish the task. You of all people know your children best – their strengths and what they are capable of. Start by aligning discipline with realistic developmental milestones. Set achievable goals and assign age-appropriate chores. If you have a toddler, you can start teaching them how to put their toys away or wipe up spills by themselves. ## **3. The witching hour** Almost every parent I speak to tells me that the most difficult times of the day are getting their [children through the morning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/getting-your-kids-to-school-on-time/) and evening routine. You are trying to cram a lot into a short period of time and if you have more than one child, it can be chaotic. If your children are in childcare or school, they are each likely to be able to do some of these tasks themselves. One idea to make these times of day easier is to have a checklist for each child of five things that they need to do in the morning and five in the evening. These can be as simple as brushing teeth, having a bath and finding their shoes. Once these tasks are on a chart, it is up to your children to remember to complete them. It isn’t worth the fight to remind them or ask them multiple times. Even better, you can pair these charts with an earning system. Each task they do earns them a token and once a jar is filled with tokens, they get a reward. You don’t need to stress about the things they don’t do. A day without brushed teeth won’t cause harm in the long run. ## **4. Picking your battles when you discipline your kids** For many parents, their children fighting with each other is very annoying and seemingly pointless! However, the thing to remember is that your children fighting with each other is not your fight, and you don’t always have to get involved. Of course, if someone is actually being hurt, you need to step in but if not, encourage your children to sort it out themselves. By getting involved when they ask you to, you are giving yourself stress over a discipline that may not be required. When disciplining your kids, choose your battles wisely. If there’s no harm involved, let them resolve minor conflicts themselves. This teaches problem-solving and fosters independence, reducing your stress and empowering them. ## **5. Introduce the creative cleanup** Yes, you are trying to teach your kids the consequences of their actions. But why not make it a little more fun? Children (toddlers to teenagers) tend to disobey and do the opposite of what you asked them to do. So instead of using conventional disciplinary methods, introduce creative cleanup. For instance, if your kids always leave their toys around the house, have them tidy up by telling them whoever gets the most toys in the toy box in a set time is the winner. You can even give them a small reward afterwards. Of course, don’t forget to emphasise the importance of tidying up after playing. Doing this will create a positive atmosphere so they will not feel like you are bossing them around. Plus, you get to be the “fun” parent! ***Further reading: [8 Persuasive ways to get your child to tidy their bedroom.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/child-tidy-bedroom/)*** ## **6. Only ask once** As parents, we often feel frustrated when our children don’t seem to listen and we have to repeat ourselves multiple times. This is as frustrating for the child being asked because they are telling you through their behaviour that they can’t or won’t do what you are asking! The more you ask, the more aggravated you will both become and the more heated the situation is likely to become. A better idea is to take the following steps: - Ensure your child is actually able to listen (not engrossed in a screen or busy with something else) - Ask them the question - Wait about two minutes - Go up to them and tell them that you noticed they didn’t do what you asked and that they have until the timer rings to do it. - Explain what the consequence will be if they don’t do it. The idea here is not about punishment but rather about encouraging them to understand that every action they take has an automatic consequence. For example, if they haven’t put the toy away, you take the toy away completely. - After the time has passed, the consequence occurs The aim of this method is two-fold: - Firstly, you are only asking once – Ask once/warn once/ consequence. Therefore, your child is learning you mean business! - Secondly, you are transferring some responsibility onto your child’s shoulders which gives them a sense of control – they are making a clear choice. There may be situations where this approach isn’t feasible. However, making a conscious effort to ask your child fewer times can lead to increased responsiveness when you do ask. ## **7. Be sure to fill your own cup** If there is one thing that all parents are guilty of, especially single parents, it is looking after ourselves. On top of cooking, keeping the house clean, and feeding your children, you also have to teach them manners and values along-side correct behaviour. So how can you effectively discipline your kids when you’re exhausted? Make time for yourself. Whether it’s a 15-minute alone time while sipping a cup of coffee or a short nap, take it. Make sure you schedule breaks, delegate responsibilities when possible, and seek support from friends or family. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being plays a crucial role in parenting. Having a sound mind and body will help you think clearly. It will give you more patience in dealing with toddler tantrums or teenage outbursts. ***Further reading: [107 Self care ideas that cost you nothing.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/)*** ## **My final words to help discipline your kids when you’re exhausted** We often have an idealised notion of the perfect home and parent, influenced by media images. However, setting realistic goals based on our own circumstances is crucial. Being compassionate with yourself, like postponing laundry when tired or spending extra time snuggling with your child instead of doing dishes, is perfectly fine. It can even become a healthy habit over time. It is true that not all of these ideas will work for everyone. But hopefully, there is something here that resonates with you and you family. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/discipline-your-kids-when-exhausted/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/discipline-your-kids-when-exhausted/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** routine, rules, consequences, rewards, picking battles, fighting kids --- ### [How to write a successful online dating profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/) **Published:** April 22, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Are you tired of swiping right without getting matches on dating apps? Or are you getting matched but not with the right people? I get you. I’ve been there. And now I want to help you write a successful online dating profile to hook the partner of your dreams. When you write your online profile, you are basically marketing yourself online to a world of strangers. No wonder it’s confronting! In the tricky process of trying to portray ourselves as interesting but not too crazy, it is natural to put on a front. We all do it. However, the result is that we lose our authenticity and either come across as the same as everyone else or entirely different to who we really are. As you can imagine, neither of these creates the smoke signals for your perfect potential match to pick up on. Having been on nearly [every dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/) and written countless profiles for myself (and several friends!) I know the tricks to write a successful online dating profile. ***Further reading: [Genuine online dating advice you won’t have seen elsewhere.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-genuine-advice/)*** ## Pick the perfect profile pic When you write a successful online dating profile, the first stop is your main profile picture. It is super important. Think of it as your resume that gets you through the door for an interview [(a man search is a bit like a job search!)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/lessons-for-a-man-search/). You want as many people clickin’ on this pic as possible. Having said that, you still need it to portray a true first impression of who you really are. The amount of times I’ve clicked on a guys profile pic, only to scroll through the rest of his photos to see he actually looks totally different. Many dating apps have algorithms which rotate and test your images to see which get the most clicks, it will then use this as your profile picture. It might not be the photo you thought it would be, but it’s a great way to gage your best image. I also run my photos past my friends as they have a different perspective. The last time I did this, I had a pic I was super proud of but they told me to ditch it as it didn’t look like me. Gutted – but this is the kind of advice you need. ## Show who you are through your photos A picture paints a thousand words, you know that already I’m sure. That’s why I suggest that you allow your photos to tell a joyful and real story about who you are when you are creating your online dating profile. In this age of intense social media influence, it is very easy to be pressured to post photos that show an airbrushed and ideal version of us. Maybe you are tempted to post that photo from that time you wore a skimpy dress at the club (which you tugged at all night and never wore again), or that photo taken in Bali 10kgs ago, or that selfie you took with that amazing makeup filter you discovered on your niece’s TikTok. If those photos don’t show and tell who you are, they will be doing you a disservice. You will be attracting people who are expecting the qualities and version of you which don’t exist! I am not saying that you post what you look like when a fire alarm rings at 3AM, although that would be a great conversation starter. Just don’t go overboard with the editing, include photos of you doing things you actually enjoy, and add images of you wearing the style that make you feel confident and comfortable. Remember, it’s the energy and authenticity that you exude through your online dating profile that will help you attract the right matches. ## Write your profile from the heart Maybe you are tempted to put up a wall while writing your online dating profile bio and portray yourself as someone hard-to-get or a little cold-blooded so you don’t look “desperate”. And while I encourage you to always [prioritise your privacy and safety online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/), I also believe that you should open yourself up (cautiously) and create a sincere online dating profile. Are you hoping to meet the one who will meet you down the aisle and love your crazy self until you’re both old and grey? Say that on your profile. For all you know, someone your type, in your city, is also looking for the same. Do you not wish to participate in the current hookup culture and you prefer to fall in love for a length of time before deciding if you want to be intimate? Don’t hesitate to include that in your online dating profile. After all, sex and intimacy is an important aspect to courtship and dating and it’s important that you and your match are on the same page. If you are going through some emotional struggle, [recovering from a bad breakup](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/), or you have high hopes for finding the right person, you can be honest about it. Most people are not expecting a perfect person, instead they are inspired by someone who is honest about their imperfections and is working on themselves. ## Be honest about who you are Most of us are not entirely honest online. Although this might seem wrong, it’s done with the best of intentions. For example: - You worry you’ll come across as boring so you elaborate your interests and click that you like skydiving even if the balcony of your mates third floor flat scares the sh-t out of you - You like the odd cigarette but think it will put most guys off so present yourself as a non-smoker - Your favourite pastime is collapsing on the couch with crappy TV but it sounds so much better to say it’s running, kayaking, studying … or something equally impressive I totally get it. But please don’t do it. The only way to find the right partner without wasting time is to be 100% honest. That way you’ll find the guy who also hates heights, likes the odd rollup and loves nothing more than cuddling on the couch with you. ## Be honest about who you are looking for I actually think that in online dating , sometimes, being forthright about what we want can be harder than just being honest about ourselves. This is because we tend to think that self-deprecation can be funny, but being frank about others can sound self-important and therefore, off-putting. But it’s not. It helps you filter your prospects and it also helps others to not waste time if they’re not the right fit for you. Are you allergic to cats and you prefer people who has no furry friends? Mention it in your bio. That way you won’t end up on date No.3 at somebody’s house, requiring antihistamines instead of Netflix-and-chilling while your date is already planning how to end things because there is no way he is giving up his 5 year old cat. Aside from pet issues, these are some of the other factors that you may want to include in your preferences. - **Intentions:** Are you dating to marry or for the long-term? Or do you just want a [FWB on the weekends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/)? - **Kids:** Whether you are not ready to date a single parent, or you are looking for a partner who *also* doesn’t want to have kids in the future. - **Long distance relationship:** If you are not ready to date a person who either travels a lot for work or is looking to move far away soon, make that clear. - **Interests:** Do you *really* want someone who is into sneaker culture, surfing, gardening, or horror movies? Don’t be shy to talk about this in your online dating profile. ## Showcase your character Don’t be afraid to show the things that make you YOU. But don’t exaggerate or make up things to make yourself quirky or extra unique either. This is super important when you write a successful online dating profile. So you like telling puns or corny jokes – don’t hold back. Are you uncomfortable with sexy talk? Do you like suggesting date ideas or actively participating in making plans? Make yourself heard. As long as you are courteous and sufficiently polite, natural traits like having a cackling laugh or chatting in your sleep are nothing to be ashamed of. It’s actually great if you can mention it on your online dating profile because you want somebody who won’t be turned off by your thick accent, your tradie sneeze, or your appetite for food and life. ## Highlight your interests Your interests will set the tone and identify the commonalities between you and an online dating match. If you are an adventurous foodie, you will have a hard time getting on with a picky and allergic eater. If you are leading a sober life, you don’t want to be with someone who parties every weekend or likes to frequent vineyards. Remember, when it comes to finding a partner, you don’t need to have identical interests. Just because he likes surfing and you don’t and you like reading and he doesn’t, that is not the end of the love story. Often, different interests make a couple. He can surf while you read and then you can spend time together doing something you both enjoy. Most dating apps will match you based on interests and location only, which is a bit shallow. Others, such as [eharmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g), go much deeper into choosing matches and don’t make it all about interests, which I personally prefer. I feel there is more to me than my love of Thai food and cats. ## Make your values clear to write a successful online dating profile There are things that might not come across immediately when you are in the early stages of online dating (the talking stage, as the kids call it) if you don’t set it straight with your online dating profile. For example, you two might be very engaged texting each other because you like the same kind of movies or you are into the same workout (possible Crossfit buddies?). Then, it all ends in disappointment at your first date when you find out … shock, horror … that he doesn’t recycle and has no respect for the environment. Values are fundamental to who you are and how you approach everyday life. Which means it’s best to meet people and date someone who shares similar values in order to maintain harmony and satisfaction in *your* life. Are you religious? Family-oriented? Individualistic? Vegan or into ethical conscious living? Are you a workaholic who prefers someone who doesn’t expect you to be around all the time? Are you big on regular counselling and therapy? Is being punctual very important to you? Touch upon these things when making your online dating profile. ## Share what you don’t want (without being negative) I get it, you don’t really like a loud snorer. But there is no need to say, “If you sound like a truck speeding down the highway when you sleep, get gone.”. Instead, you can say, “Note: I’m a very light sleeper, and I need absolute silence every night.” The way you use your words also reflect your character. Sure, someone who doesn’t snore might see your profile, but if you write the former statement, that person might just swipe left because they perceive you as rude. My pet hate are the guys (and there are many of them) who say they are looking for a “lady with no drama”! It doesn’t matter if he looks like George Clooney, he’s a swipe left. Think about how you word your conditions and what a potential match might read into it. And avoid negative language. Some words (no, never, go away, can’t, I don’t, gross, disgusting, weird) can render your language negative and paint a whine, snobbish, or disagreeable perception of you. Remember: Your words are energy and you manifest what you speak. Speak negatively, and negative things happen. Speak positively and the man of your dreams is more likely to pop-up and sweep you off your feet and the dating app! ***Further reading: [10 Online dating mistakes we don’t want you to make](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-dating-mistakes/).*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** online dating, internet dating, relationship, partner, find love --- ### [15 Ways to teach your teen girl self-love](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teen-girl-self-love/) **Published:** December 13, 2023 **Author:** Amanda Rootsey **Content:** I’m Amanda Rootsey, the founder of Teen Academy – Shine From Within and best-selling author of the book Shine From Within; A Teen Girl’s Guide to Life. With my background in life coaching and youth mentoring, I am honoured to write this article in which I share my suggestions to teach your teen girls self-love. Those teen years … they are a tough time, right? We all remember it. And if you’ve got teens in your household right now, then you are likely experiencing some of the challenges all over again (lucky you!). One thing parents often ask me is how they can encourage their kids to love themselves and develop a positive body image. (Sometimes I get asked the complete opposite… ‘my daughter is obsessed with herself and has no empathy whatsoever for anyone else…. HELP!’ – but we’ll leave that discussion for another time!) With this in mind, I want to help you to help your teenage girls to love them themselves. Here are my simple practices to teach teen girls self-love. Warning: There may be some truth bombs ahead. #justsayin ***Further reading: [Gifts for teenage girls that have nothing to do with iphones.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-for-teenage-girls-which-have-nothing-to-do-with-iphones/)*** ## Ways to teach your teen girl self-love ## 1. Be a great role model with your own body image I know you know this one. But let me highlight things you may not be aware of that can potentially harm your children’s body image. It’s none other than – your language around your own body. Every time you say something negative about your appearance, you’re normalising this behaviour. Wearing swimmers in front of your daughter without embarrassment sends a powerful message that you embrace your body. It reminds her that ALL bodies are beautiful and life is to be enjoyed, regardless as to whether you are not built like a typical swimwear model, or not. But if that’s a stretch, start with becoming aware of the thoughts and comments you make to yourself when standing in front of the mirror. ## 2. Your language and behaviour around health Recently a student shared that her Mum saw a random person on the street, and said: ***“I just don’t know how that person can let themselves get that big; it’s so unhealthy.”*** It made the daughter feel really uncomfortable. Passing judgment on other people based on their appearance can show your children that they need to look a certain way if they want to be accepted by you. What we grew up with as normal behaviour and acceptable viewpoints are being questioned and debunked by science daily. ‘Healthy’ doesn’t look a certain way for everyone. Eating disorder prevention training teaches us that even words and phrases we believe to be innocent can cause issues, such as: - Clean eating - Guilt-free - Conscious eating These statements suggest that some foods are dirty or should make you feel guilty. Labelling foods as ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ can cause stress for the young people around the types of food they eat. Instead, encourage intuitive eating. Notice how foods make us feel (which can be different for each of us). If you’re trying to get healthier in your household, it’s recommended that you increase the stuff you know to be full of nutrients (such as fresh fruits, veggies) rather than restrict foods. **Important note:** Dieting is the most significant risk factor for an eating disorder. ## 3. Focus on what our bodies can do Instead of fixating on how the human body ‘looks’. Focus on what your body and your child’s body can ‘do’. When your daughters realises how flippin’ incredible her body is, she may view it more favourably which is a brilliant way to teach a teen girl self-love. Here are some incredible facts to share with her: - Pound for pound, human bone is stronger than steel, providing an incredible combination of flexibility and strength. - Taste buds have a lifespan of about 10 to 14 days and constantly regenerate, allowing for the adaptation of taste preferences over time. - Muscles are incredibly elastic and can stretch up to three times their original length, showcasing the body’s flexibility. ## 4. Take notice and get help if needed Keep a close eye on your teen girl. For example, you might notice she is fixating on her weight. Such signs are: - Talking about the calorie count in her meals - Scrutinising food labels - Discussing her weight, most especially when compared to others - Doing excessive exercise - Fainting or feeling unwell - Hiding food in her bedroom If you try and talk about these issues but nothing is changing I strongly advise that you take her to see a professional. This could be a counsellor or psychologist who specialises in working with adolescents. If you have any queries or concerns, call [The Butterfly Foundation](https://www.thebutterflyfoundation.org.au/our-services/helpline/) on 1800 33 4673. They are wonderful, will talk to you about anything related to this topic and provide recommendations if they feel you need more help. ## 5. Create stress relief rituals Empowering teenage girls with self-care rituals not only minimises stress but also fosters a deep sense of self-love. By instilling these practices early, they develop lifelong habits that prioritise their well-being. Such habits include: - Encourage regular mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing or meditation, to provide moments of calm amidst daily challenges. - Promote the importance of quality sleep, as it directly impacts mood and cognitive function. - Guide them in creating a skincare routine, reinforcing the connection between physical and emotional well-being. - Encourage hobbies and activities that bring joy, allowing them to explore passions and express creativity. - Emphasise the significance of setting boundaries and saying no, teaching them that self-care is not selfish. My eldest daughter had a lot of trauma early in life (around age 15). Because of this, she had to learn at a young age how to manage stress and look after herself. Although it was hard at the time, she is now 20, and miles ahead of her friends in knowing how to look after herself on a deep, personal level. You don’t need trauma to teach stress-relief rituals early in life. But know that if you do, your gorgeous teen girl will be better balanced and more able to cope with the world around them in later years. ## 6. Give them a mirror message board Speaking of rituals, I’d like to talk about one in particular that I have known teen girls to have a lot of success with … a mirror message board. Instead of a typical message board made of wood, this one is a mirror that they can fill with positive messages. Using a special pen that rubs off, tell them they can write self-empowering quotes and mantras on the reflective surface. Every time they feel down, they can simply look in the mirror and read the messages to lift their spirits. Aside from optimistic quotations, they can also write whatever they are feeling at the moment. Because sometimes all we need is to write down our thoughts to feel better. To encourage them, you can also write cheerful messages from time to time. This will let them know that you’re there for them. ## 7. Spend time together and show her she matters One time during a mother-daughter retreat I was running, I took the teens to chat with them separately, while my co-host spent time with the mums. The teens shared that they knew their parents were stressed a lot of the time, wanted to be able to talk to them about it and, most of all, wanted some 1:1 time with them. They realised this wasn’t easy and it didn’t have to be often, but they wanted to schedule it in. Some of their suggestions included once a month they could go for a walk together, or once a week they could do the grocery shopping together and perhaps before or after the shopping was done, they could sit in a cafe for half an hour with nothing else to do but chat. It’s not a lot to ask for is it? Take them to their favourite place, be it a cafe or a spot on the beach. Every now and then, you could get your [teenage girl a gift](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gifts-teenage-girls/) to show that, however busy and preoccupied you seem, you are always thinking of them. Often these rituals take time to develop and it can take time for the teen to open up. But, by simply knowing they have this time with you coming up, they can think about what they’d like to share with you during those precious times. ## 8. Go easy on yourself Bringing a teen girl into the world is no mean feat! Especially if you want to offer them the best opportunities in life and encourage them grow with a healthy, happy mindset. Trust your gut and be kind to yourself. Not only will this make you feel better but it will rub off on your teen girl. Show them that you make mistakes sometimes and love yourself regardless. During my sessions, teens often tell me how much they love and respect a parent more when they realise they are not perfect! Being kind to yourself is a brilliant way to teach your teen girl self-love. ## 9. Teach them not to compare This one of the most critical reminders when nurturing self-love, especially in teenagers. Let your teen girl know that by comparing themselves to others, whether on social media or between schoolmates and friends is a big no-no. Tell them that doing this will spread negativity not only within themselves but also among the people around them. I encourage the teenage girls I work with to accept that we are all different; and that being different is not always a bad thing. Alongside this, I help them understand that it’s better to focus on loving oneself and not on how we measure up to others and society. ## 10. Enforce clear boundaries around technology A study, published on September 11th 2019 in JAMA Psychiatry, from researchers at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health found that: > ***“Adolescents who spend more than three hours a day on social media are more likely to report high levels of internalising behaviours, which can involve social, difficulty coping with anxiety or depression or directing feelings inward.” ([Read more here](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/09/190911142733.htm)).*** This could mean ensuring phones and other devices are taken away each night at a certain time. Another thing you can do is spend some time setting up apps on your phone together. For example, Instagram allows you to set a daily reminder that will pop up when you’ve been online for your desired time that day (e.g. I set mine for 20 minutes/day). You can also mute push notifications. This way, alerts cannot distract you throughout the day and can check privacy settings together. ## 11. Teach the boundary of conformism Yes, they need to conform at school with rules and uniforms. However, they don’t have to *look* the same as everyone else. Just because, say, straight blonde hair is in fashion, and they have red curls, does not mean they are not beautiful. Teach them that following trends is not a requirement and that they have a choice. This is critical for them to understand particularly with choices that involve their body or the way they look. They should not feel left out just because their taste is different from the current trend. Tell your teenage girl that the first step to loving oneself is by being true to themselves. For example, they might see a top they love but don’t buy it as it’s not the current trend. But if *they* like it, they should buy it and wear it proudly to show their individuality, rather than desperately trying to fit in with clothes, hair, makeup which everyone else is wearing. **True story:** When my youngest daughter did the Walk of Honour on her last day of high school, we kept mistaking her for other girls. They all looked the same! Blonde, straight hair, tanned skin, fake eyelashes. I showed her the video afterwards and she was shocked. She hadn’t realised how much she had conformed and what that actually looked like. ## 12. Watch shows together Watching shows together can be a powerful way to enhance self-love in teen girls. Shared TV time creates opportunities for bonding, fostering open communication and understanding. It allows you to engage in discussions about characters, storylines, and themes that may resonate with the girls’ personal experiences. By exploring diverse narratives, teens can gain valuable insights into various perspectives and emotions, promoting empathy and self-reflection. Most importantly, it provides a platform for discussing body image, relationships, and self-acceptance in a comfortable setting. This shared entertainment experience not only strengthens familial connections but also encourages a positive self-image by affirming that everyone’s journey is unique and worthy of acceptance. ## 13. Remember being a teen It might feel like it was all a long time ago now but remember what it was like for you as a teen! I know I had heaps of body image issues. They are nothing new, they’re just presented in different ways now. It can be hard for us to understand the real pressure kids today are under from social media as we didn’t have it. Yet, we can still share stories of what it was like for us as teens in the hope of connecting with them and showing we have a sense of how they feel based on our own experiences. ## 14. The social media feed choice Remind the young person in your life that they get to choose their social media ‘feed.’ They can unfollow anyone who doesn’t make them feel good. Instead, they can fill their feed with positive, uplifting, interesting, challenging, educational, and activist profiles. That will be super cool and empowering! Some of the body positive advocates I love include: - @bodyposipanda - @wearelivingcute - @sabine.mckenzie - @effyourbeautystandards - @ramonaforgirls - @jazzmynejay Or encourage your teen girls to search these hashtags: #bodypositivity #positivevibes #nobodyshame ## 15. Real vs fake Last tip on how to teach your teen girl self-love … Talk about: Real vs fake. And ask how social media images, influencers, and celebrities make them feel. Try to listen without judgment or jumping in to tell your daughter how beautiful she is to you (it often elicits an eye-roll because well, ‘Mum has to say that!’). Instead, listen and acknowledge her feelings without needing to fix them immediately. Allow her to share, empathise with her, and perhaps ask some questions, such as: Is what we see online, in movies, on billboards, etc actually real? (hint: it’s not!). Is it helpful or realistic to compare yourself to that? **Note:** In my book, [Shine from Within](http://www.shinefromwithin.com.au/); A Teen Girl’s Guide To Life, I share my experiences as a model and how I wished I looked like images of myself in real life! I then share that we can change our perspective rather than hating all images and avoiding social media and anything else that makes us feel bad about ourselves. Tell your girl that these images can be incredibly beautiful, but we don’t compare ourselves to them because we know they’re not real. In the same way, we can appreciate what an influencer is sharing on Instagram. For example: - The way they’ve selected the outfit - The time they’ve taken to do their hair and make-up - The location they’ve chosen - The way they’ve styled the shot - The time they’ve taken afterwards to select the right filter and edit the image - How they’ve decided to caption it - Pick the perfect placement among their feed It all takes work and is how that person likes to express themselves, or perhaps even how they make a living. ## Summary: Ways to teach your teen girl self-love If you have a teen girl who is struggling to love themselves, I hope the suggestions I have made in this article based on my expertise and experience, will help give you a path forward. The best thing you can do to teach your teen girl self-love is to lead by example. Be kind to yourself. Be aware of the language you use when talking about yourself, others and your teen. Work with them to change their perspective and remind them that they can choose how they react to things and what to look at … this is so empowering, and they can start NOW. Celebrate all the things your teen does and remind them that they do not need to please others to feel and be loved. Most importantly, no matter how busy you are, make time for your kids. Even a few minutes will go a long way. This will let them know that they are not alone and that they matter. In my experience, most cases of low self-esteem in teens are rooted in a lack of attention at home. Through your extraordinary parenting skills and with the list above as a guide, I’m sure your teen girl will grow into a confident, self-loving young woman. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teen-girl-self-love/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teen-girl-self-love/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** self love, social media, teenage girls, body image, Adolescents, teenage diet --- ### [Help, how do I stop my teen getting a tattoo?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/stop-teen-getting-tattoo/) **Published:** May 8, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Ah, the teenage years – a time of transformation, exploration, and boundary pushing. It’s no secret that many teenagers yearn for a sense of identity and individuality, often expressing themselves through bold fashion choices, piercings, and yes, tattoos. As a parent, it is a very fine line to actively support your teens desire for self-expression whilst staying calm and praying they don’t arrive home one day with a spider web tattooed on their face. While tattoos can be a beautiful form of self-expression, they can also be a source of regret for many teens (and their parents). So, how do you stop your rebellious offspring from getting a tattoo they may later regret? I was that teenager who went against my parents wishes and got the tattoo (not the spiders web, thankfully). I have now gone full circle and am talking my own teens out of getting tattoos. Having been on both sides of the argument, here are some ideas to put the breaks on the body design … at least until they are a bit older and you no longer have a say in it. If you are desperately wondering: “How do I stop my teen getting a tattoo?” read on. ***Further reading: [15 Ways to teach your teen girl self-love.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teen-girl-self-love/)*** ## Listen to why they want a tattoo We know conflict has a higher chance of resolving if both parties take the time to listen to each other. This feud is no different. Not only will your teen feel heard and valued but you will learn a lot if you listen to why your teenager wants a tattoo. And, what you discover will give you fuel to present your side of the argument. A straight “no” is way less powerful than a conversation with valid reasoning about why a tattoo is not a great choice right now. It can be tempting to scream and shout, then lock them in their bedroom with a hatch to serve meals to prevent them from visiting the local friendly tattooist. Instead, treat them like adults, hear them out and base your argument on their reality. ## Chat about the long-term consequences Your child must hear that you are coming from a place of concern, not judgment. Rather than a blanket “no” calmly explain the long-term repercussions. They may pretend not to hear, but you will plant a seed of thought that could encourage them to change their mind on their terms. They may want a pop-culture reference tattoo now, but ask them if they are ready to sport something they no longer like or nobody knows about in ten years. Or may they have [started a new relationship](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/teenagers-dating/) and thinks their new partner will find a tattoo attractive on them. Remind them that their partner will not be around as long as the tattoo! If your teen is currently living in oversized t-shirts, baggy clothes, or jumpers, maybe in just two years they will find themselves wearing more revealing fashion and showing parts of their bodies with tattoo placements that they might already regret. Perhaps your teen wants a tattoo that marks an emotional phase in their youth. It could be something based on heartbreak or euphoria, which in all honesty, is understandable; artistic expression is often rooted in strong emotions and passion. But emphasise the permanence of a tattoo. One can stash away a lousy poem or a hideous painting, but you can only cover up or expensively laser off a bad tattoo. ## They will be breaking the law (if under 18) Pull the big guns if your teen child insists. It’s simply illegal to tattoo anyone aged below 18 in Australia, [even when the parent or guardian agrees.](https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Find-legal-information/Personal-rights-and-safety/Health-and-medical/Tattoos-piercing-and-cigarettes#:~:text=You%20must%20be%20aged%2018,your%20parent%20or%20guardian%20agrees.) If they express wanting to push through with getting a tattoo, firmly remind them that they are putting everyone involved including you, the parent, in a disagreeable position as law violators. With this, you have reasonable grounds to stop your teen from getting a tattoo. And if they find a tattoo artist to ink them, tell them that the tattoo artist is most likely more concerned with making a quick buck than having an honourable and legal practice of his art. And, if they are that desperate, they are probably no good, and thus the tattoo won’t be any good either. ## Educate them about the risks Some of the risks of getting a tattoo to include in your argument (sorry, discussion) are: - Staphylococcal infections - Allergy reactions - Keloid formation - Dermatitis - Photosensitivity If they do not know how their skin will react to repeated trauma (remind them that tattooing is simply repetitive punctures with ink), or if they are allergic to certain inks and metals, they risk developing scars, or provoking anaphylactic shock. You can stop your teen from getting a tattoo by simply telling them that their skin or body is not yet ready for tattoos. ## Suggest alternative forms of body expressions Instead of the standard and ineffective “no” we have already discussed, you can redirect your child to alternative ways to express themselves … ideally ones that are not permanent. Nowadays, sticker tattoos have evolved from basic cereal box freebie designs to full-blown artist-designed sticker tattoos that can last up to two weeks! These “tattoos” can allow them to experiment with different techniques and placements and can easily be erased with nail polish remover. Henna tattoos are a handy, temporary first tattoo idea. Note: You must perform a skin test before committing to a henna tattoo because some inks can cause allergic reactions. Or move away from skin inking altogether and suggest cutting/dying their hair, an [age-appropriate piercing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/child-ear-piercing/) or shopping for new-look clothes. ## Show them some horror pictures Nothing can dissuade a teenager more than the fear of being injured or disfigured. Will they still think a tattoo is cool if their skin starts oozing pus, peeling, and distorting the design because of infection? Find some gory pics showing tattoos gone wrong and forward them to their phone. If your teen wants the face of a celebrity on one of their thighs, photoshop an image of yourself wearing shorts showing off the beaming face of an 80’s pop star on your own thigh. That oughta change your teens’ mind and stop them from getting bad tattoos! ## Help, how do I stop my teen getting a tattoo? (cont.) ## Discuss the potential impact on job opportunities While most industries are becoming increasingly accepting of visible tattoos as a rightful part of self-expression and personal choice, some jobs still call for an ink-free presentation. Our duty as parents is to ensure our teens know the implications of tattoos and their impact on possible job opportunities. Does your teen want a full sleeve but also dream of becoming a barrister? It would be better to pass the bar first, get into a law firm, and win a couple of cases before committing to a full arm of ink. Or maybe your daughter is thinking of that anklet tattoo they saw on their favourite influencer. It might seem cute in theory, but it can be distracting and tacky when she goes to her first job interviews wearing her nice heels and corporate skirt. Encourage your teen to earn their stripes in life and career first before drawing them on their bodies. ## Tell them the cost of tattoo removal Tattoos in Australia start at $110. A single tattoo laser removal treatment starts at $160, and you will need an absolute minimum 4-6 of these to clean it all up. Mistakes are costly. And painful. Laser tattoo removals are notoriously known for feeling like a bad sunburn or a rubber band being flicked against your skin hundreds of times. Be honest. As much as you love your son’s girlfriend, tattooing her initials on his wrist will be the corniest and easiest mistake he can make on his body. Tell him he doesn’t want to be standing in a clinic, explaining to his dermatologist and her assistant what those initials stand for three years from now when he has a new girlfriend. ## Encourage them to wait In the tattoo game, patience is a virtue. Even an excellent, fully-etched tattoo artist will tell you to take your time choosing a tattoo because the last thing they want is a regretful client. Most advise 3-12 months of deliberating on your desired tattoo. If, within that period, your teen realises they don’t want to commit to their dream tattoo, they then have you and themselves to thank for being sufficiently prudent and stopping them from making a mistake. Tell them that waiting for the right time will allow them to gain more life experiences to form who they are as individuals. Having more profound life lessons and more meaningful relationships will also enrich their inspiration for the tattoos they want in the future. More time will also allow your teenagers to get to know reputable tattoo artists in your area. They will have more time to appreciate different tattoo art styles before choosing a final design. Tattoos are not inherently bad. They can be a beautiful artistic expression of who you are. Talk to your teenagers and encourage them to become themselves first … out of high school, free from peer pressure, understanding what they want to do and who they are. This way, they will get tattoos not out of angst towards the world or borne out of frustration but with certainty and confidence that their tattoos tell a true and timely story of themselves. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/stop-teen-getting-tattoo/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/stop-teen-getting-tattoo/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** teenager, ink, self expression, piercing --- ### [8 Great reasons to house swap for a cheap family holiday](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/) **Published:** May 4, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you looking for an affordable way to travel with your family? We have the answer! How about a house swap? House swapping is a unique way of holidaying that allows families to exchange homes with another family in a different location. It provides a brilliant opportunity to experience new places while avoiding the high costs of traditional holiday accommodation. This article will explore the benefits of house swapping for family vacations, including cost savings, flexibility, and the authentic experience it provides. So pack your bags and prepare to discover the world with house swapping. **Note:** Head to [Aussie House Swap](https://www.aussiehouseswap.com.au/?tap_a=11812-cb2a64&tap_s=3155364-faa687) for more information on how house swapping works. ## 1. You don’t have to pay for holiday accommodation The most significant advantage of a home swap is that you don’t have to pay for holiday accommodation. We all know this can take a considerable chunk of our budget and, even then, we are not always happy with it. Think of the money you will save and what you could do with it instead! More attractions and meals out, or simply more holidays. Put it this way: For the cost of a standard package holiday, including accommodation, you could book two or more house swap holidays. Start thinking of destinations as [holidaying just got cheaper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/cheap-family-holiday/)! ## 2. Live like a local when you house swap By swapping homes with someone else, you get to stay in a real neighbourhood, rather than a tourist area and live in a real home, rather than a hotel room. All up, you’ll have a more authentic and immersive experience. You get the opportunity to live in a genuine neighbourhood, shop at local markets, and explore the hidden gems that might have been otherwise undiscovered. House swapping allows you to experience the daily life of the locals, which can provide a more meaningful and enriching travel experience. Say “hi” to your neighbours, watch the school run, and be part of life in your holiday destination. ## 3. All your home comforts Another massive advantage of house swapping for the holidays is that you’re in a real home, not an apartment or hotel where thousands of people have stayed. When you stay in a hotel, you’re often limited to a small room with basic amenities, which can be uncomfortable, especially if you’re traveling with a family or for an extended period. With house swapping, you get to stay in a real home with all the creature comforts you’re used to. You’ll have access to a fully equipped kitchen, comfortable couch, full laundry, and all the other amenities you’d expect to find in your own home. This can make a huge difference to your travel experience, allowing you to relax and feel more at home, even when you’re thousands of miles away. ## 4. It’s super convenient Home swapping can be incredibly convenient, especially for those who value flexibility and independence while traveling. Unlike traditional accommodation options like hotels or resorts, home swapping allows you to create your own schedule and travel at your own pace. Just think, you won’t have to worry about check-in or check-out times, and you can come and go as you please … without bumping into heaps of other tourists on the way! It’s particularly great for larger families as it allows everyone to stay together in one comfortable and spacious home rather than split into multiple hotel rooms with annoying interconnecting doors. This means families can spend more quality time together, cooking meals, playing games, and enjoying each other’s company. ## 5. Child-friendly if you need it One of the biggest advantages of home swapping is peace of mind with child safety. By choosing to swap homes with a family with children the same age as yours, you can rest easy knowing their home is kitted out just as you need it. Think stair gate, cupboard safety locks and no glass coffee tables that grace every holiday accommodation unit in the world! Also, your holiday home will come equipped with other baby/child equipment such as water warmers, cots and baby baths. And don’t forget the toys! Your child will have a chance to play with a whole new set of age-appropriate toys for the duration of your holiday. ## 6. Super safe and secure Being in a family home in a more residential area will keep your family safe from crime hot stops that often come alongside tourist destinations. [Home swapping platforms](https://www.aussiehouseswap.com.au/?tap_a=11812-cb2a64&tap_s=3155364-faa687) offer verification and review systems, which can help you feel more secure about the people you’re swapping homes with. You can check their profile, read feedback from other users, and communicate with them directly to ensure their home is the safe environment you want to take your family to. Also, in this post-pandemic era, staying in a private home means avoiding the germ risks associated with public spaces. ## 7. Free pet care Pet hotels and apartments can be super expensive. So, if you have to leave your pets at home during vacation, swap with someone who also has pets. This way, they can look after your pets and you can take care of theirs. Think of how much you can save! You also get to meet and care for other pets. Say you’ve always had cats and dogs. You and your kids can get to experience looking after something different … like lizards or parrots! ## 8. Get local tips and recommendations The final but also one of the best benefits of house swapping is you can ask the family for tips on everything you need for your vacation. This way, you can save time discovering where the best places are through trial and error. You get instant information on the best vacation spots, local play areas, restaurants, favourite cafes, and fun things to do. You also get helpful tips, like recommended clothes and shoes for specific spots. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/house-swap-cheap-family-holiday/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** holiday, travel, break --- ### [5 Lessons From A Job Search You Can Use on Your Man Search](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/lessons-for-a-man-search/) **Published:** April 27, 2023 **Author:** Elly Johnson **Content:** Anna was ‘sort of happy’ ‘most days’ in the work she was doing. Her role was a mixed bag of responsibilities, with a bit of finance, a touch of HR and some general admin duties. But, the job didn’t make her heart sing. She decided she wanted something different and that she deserved better. Have you ever decided that you really want something and then pulled out all stops to get it? Maybe it was a job or a complete [career change](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/career-move/). You may have needed to do a training course, get a qualification or even work through a four-year degree to achieve the goal. It’s possible and likely you had to apply for 10, 20, 30 or more jobs in the search. In the process you may have set some non-negotiable criteria and decided not to settle for anything less than the role you deserved. And all the way, even though some of your applications were seemingly ignored, you persevered, attended many interviews and dealt with the rejections and the knock backs. Then there were the jobs that were pretty good but not quite right and although you could have accepted an offer, you decided to follow your plan to get the right job in the right company for the right reasons. And finally, after putting in all the hard work, the ideal job opportunity came your way. Doing a man search is a bit like a job search. For most people, finding a great partner is more important than finding the ideal job or career. The right partner can bring joy to your life, warmth to your heart and song to your soul. But is it possible that at times you don’t put in enough effort to maximise your chances of success in love? Is it possible that you put more effort and focus and training into getting the right job or in other parts of life than you do getting the right partner? Anna decided she wanted to find her ideal job so she got serious and got clear. She discovered she was lacking skills and that she also had to ditch limiting blocks that had prevented her from career success in the past. Anna knew that it was highly unlikely that the job would just fall on her lap, so she took action, went after it and got it. Here are five lessons we can adapt from Anna’s job search to your search for your Mr Right. ## 1. Make a Decision This needs to be a firm decision that you will do whatever it takes to find, attract and keep not just any partner, but someone who makes your heart sing. In this step you make a new agreement with yourself and set high standards. No more excuses. ## 2. Get Crystal Clear before starting your man search Think about the sort of partner you want and why. Go deeper than surface level factors and really explore the sort of relationship you want. Doing this will ensure your man search is successful from the get-go. ## 3. Reflect on You Do some deep reflection on yourself and understand your strengths, the gaps in your knowledge or things you would like to do better. As you think about your Mr Amazing, ask yourself these questions: > *‘Who is the Ms Amazing that he is searching for and what about me can I improve, develop or change to become a better version of myself?”* > > *“What are the limiting beliefs I need to let go and do I need some help to do that?”* ## 4. Immerse Yourself in Learning Think about it, if you want something you’ve never had before, then you will need to do things you’ve never done before. This applies to your man search. It is difficult to get a better result in any part of your life with the same level of knowledge and thinking that brought you to where you are today. That means new ways of thinking, improved awareness of self and others along with knowledge that can help you succeed once you start a new relationship. There is no down side to knowing more about what makes you tick and what you might need to change or tweak. In this learning phase you may discover [patterns of behaviour](https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/202301/which-of-the-12-relationship-patterns-best-describes-yours) or limiting blocks that need to change. ## 5. Put in maximum effort with your man search Get strategic with your search. Anna didn’t land her ideal job by only sending in a few applications, nor will you land your ideal partner by just going on a few random dates. Get creative, get brave, think outside the box and don’t give up until you have achieved your goal. Go get what you want and deserve! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/lessons-for-a-man-search/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/lessons-for-a-man-search/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** job search to man search, job tips you can use to search your man, looking for mr. amazing --- ### [Online dating apps: Paid vs free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/) **Published:** April 26, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** So, you’ve decided to start dating again and online seems the way to go. But, when it comes to online dating apps, there is so much choice! The free apps are obviously the most attractive, but are they right for you? And what’s the difference? As someone who’s dipped their toes (and maybe a little more) into the vast ocean of dating apps, I understand how daunting it is to choose between the paid and free options. The question is: Will swiping right on a paid app give you better results, or can you find love without spending a cent? To help you on your search for a soul mate or just a fun date, here are my thoughts on both paid and free online dating apps. ## Online dating apps: Paid vs free ### ARE YOU PRIVATE PERSON? When you use an online dating app, you are basically marketing yourself to potential partners. It may sound crass but everybody’s doing it, so don’t stress. Your photos and details are out there for all to see. How does that make you feel? If you are a private person it may be your worst nightmare. In which case, a paid app would be well-worth the money because they share less information with less people, which also makes it a [safer online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/) option. However, a paid app is not for you if you want to get as much exposure with as many people as possible, which is what a free app will do for you. > ***Paid vs free conclusion:*** *If you don’t want your ex, your boss, or the guy from the local coffee shop to see you are online dating, go for a paid app. On the other hand, if you don’t really care who sees, then free will do just fine.* ### ARE YOU NEW TO ONLINE DATING? If you are new to online dating, dating apps can be overwhelming, especially the free ones. It is not unusual to have heaps of matches and people wanting to talk within hours of posting your profile. It’s great for the ego, but where do you start? Paid online dating apps such as [eharmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) are not as busy so it can take longer to gain traction (and interest). This in-turn, gives you time to get used to the app and how it works, as well as putting more time and energy into your matches. > ***Paid vs free conclusion:*** *If you want lots of action fast go for a free app. If you want to take it slowly and get used to how everything works, consider paid.* ### WHAT EXACTLY ARE YOU LOOKING FOR? Are you looking for love and a long-term relationship? Or are you looking for a one-night stand, a bit of fun or just someone to chat to? There is no doubt that people who are serious about dating will pay to search. Not only have they invested money in the process because paid apps have more functionalities to share, match and chat. This is not to say there aren’t people looking for love on the free apps, you just have to sift through to find them. Free online dating apps have a real mix of people looking for love, a hook-up, a chat or just to make the ex-partner jealous. > ***Paid vs free conclusion:*** *If you’re serious about finding The One, you are more likely to find him/her faster on a paid app. However, if you’re not sure what you’re after and want to test the water, a free app has a wider range of people looking for different things.* ### WHAT’S YOUR BUDGET FOR AN ONLINE DATING APP? It may seem obvious but think carefully about how much you are prepared to invest in your dating experience. Searching for Mr Right is a pretty important mission and worth spending some money on. Plus, the men you meet on a paid online dating app obviously feel the same and are prepared to pay to do it right. Does that give you something in common already?! If you really don’t have a budget for dating, a free app is fine, but be prepared to kiss a few frogs along the way. I know several people who have met and married through free apps, and they also have a bank [hilarious dating stories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/hilarious-date-stories/) to tell. > ***Paid vs free conclusion:*** *If you are looking for a serious relationship you will streamline the process with a paid app, but don’t despair if you don’t have the money, as there are good guys lurking on the free apps too.* ## Online dating apps: Paid vs free (cont.) ### LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION We all know location is everything. It’s no good meeting the perfect man only to discover he lives in another state. All apps allow you to set a location and many work on a tracker, meaning wherever you are, they will find matches near you. Since free apps have larger user numbers, you will likely find matches wherever you are, whether they are suitable or not is your call. However, their paid counterparts don’t have as many users so if you live in a rural area your choice may be limited to less matches if there are less paid users in that area. > ***Paid vs free conclusion*:** *Depending on where you live, there may be less matches on a paid app, for this reason, if you prefer quality over quantity go with paid. If you’re feeling opening-minded and want lots of interesting people to choose from, a free app will be much more fun.* ### HOW MUCH TIME DO YOU HAVE? Dating is time-consuming. Online dating even more so. It’s great to use a free app and get a heap of matches, but it takes time to work through them. And it can be frustrating to put energy into getting to know someone only for them [to ghost you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) as they are not ready or change their mind. The people who use paid apps want to make their investment work for them so they make their intentions clear from the start. They are also more likely to keep their profiles up-to-date since they have paid and want to make the most of their dating experience. Compare this to free apps, where unused profiles and scammers can slow down your search. > ***Paid vs free conclusion:*** *If online dating helps you through long evenings alone, and you have the time and inclination to chat to lots of different people, a free app will be perfect for you. In contrast, if you are time-poor and want to cut the crap and minimise some of the craziness that comes with online dating, a paid app is a better choice.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** online dating, dating apps, free dating apps, paid dating apps --- ### [10 Easy ideas to refresh your tired mum wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/ideas-to-refresh-your-mum-wardrobe/) **Published:** April 24, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Is your mum wardrobe stuck in a rut? Do you find yourself reaching for the same tired old outfits day after day? Do you see other mums looking effortlessly stylish and wonder how the hell they do it? I know what you mean and understand the struggles of trying to balance fashion and function while also juggling a million other things. For years I’ve followed fashionistas everywhere to work out how to combine their styles with my limited budget and even more limited time. I am now in possession of some super-cool tricks to transform myself from flustered-mum to fashionable-mum in a matter of seconds. In this article, I share my ideas to help refresh your wardrobe and inject some much-needed fun and flair into your everyday style. ## 1. Update your basics OK, so you’ve had your Kmart jeans for five years now and they are just so comfy and easy to slip on in the morning. Comfy or not, it’s time to say goodbye to some of your old favourites, or least confine them to wear-around-the-house items. If you’re a jeans kinda gal, get a nice pair that flatter your figure and work with the style you are after. It’s the same with standards tops and other clothing that constitute your basic wardrobe. Been wearing the same old black t-shirt for yonks? Hunt down something new and stylish to replace it. Even if it’s just another black top in a designer brand (try the local [op shop](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/brilliant-reasons-op-shop/)) or something with more shape and sophistication. Once you’ve updated your basic wardrobe, you’ll feel more confident and ready to add more change to the new-look you. ## 2. Try statement accessories Have fun and invest in accessories that are brimming with character or colour. Whether you choose a thick signet gold ring, or a turquoise pendant necklace, you should consider adding accessories that can make you feel empowered. It can even be a fabulous pair of sunglasses that work perfectly with the shape of your face. Statement accessories don’t have to be expensive. They just need to be well-made and speak your style and personality. A great statement accessory is something that can elevate a simple outfit. For example, you may be drawn to wearing your comfy uniform of grey t-shirt and blue jeans. That’s fine. But, if putting on a beautiful pair of white gold hoop earrings or a thick multi-coloured bracelet boosts your confidence and gives your outfit an extra oomph, you’re doing something right. ## 3. See a look you like? Copy it! It happens to us all the time. We are mindlessly scrolling through social media and we see a celebrity or a friend-of-a-friend wear an outfit that makes our thumbs stop. Quick, take a screenshot or pin it to your board (Pinterest lovers, anyone?). Personally, I like looking at my favourite stylish celebs who have a similar body type and hair colour to mine. This gives me a sense of how certain styles could look on me. With the convenience of online retail platforms and their search function, it has also become so much easier now to look and shop for similar items so we can come up with our own take on inspired outfits. ## 5. Give athleisure a go Even I would admit, during the first few months (or years) of raising a child, it’s so comfortable to live in old t-shirts, sweatpants, and trainers. Aside from these items feeling soft and familiar, it also helps us mums hide our perceived imperfections, even long after childbirth. This is where you should give athleisure a chance. A beautiful and well-designed matching set of halter top and leggings can help you look like you put more thought into your outfit without even trying. Athleisure also helps you look more put-together even if it is very casual, and THAT is something you want in your mum wardrobe. The material used in athleisure wear can also feel incredibly supportive and looks appropriate for the gym and basic errands like grocery shopping. ## 6. Try monochromatic dressing As we have discovered in recent years, monochromatic dressing can be incredibly flattering. Since Michelle Obama’s iconic burgundy attire at Joe Biden’s inauguration and Gigi Hadid’s mastery on head-to-toe neutrals for her streetwear, we have seen several international and local celebrities pull off monochromatic dressing extremely well. And so can you! If you’re too lazy to mix-and-match or figure out the right colour + texture combinations of your next outfit, monochromatic dressing can be your friend. This approach, when done right, is slimming, elegant, and effortlessly chic. Monochromatic dressing doesn’t mean you have to wear all black (I know, it’s tempting). A navy blue tank top, paired with a midnight blue skirt, with nude sandals and a denim bag, can make you look extra stylish, slim, and long. Monochromatic dressing only requires you to follow a single colour story and to focus on creating the right silhouette for you. ## 7. Incorporate vintage pieces If there is anything we learned from our younger years, it is to not be pressured from conforming to the current trends … which will shift every 5 seconds, anyway. Feel free to explore opportunity shops, vintage stores, or [online reselling sites](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-second-hand-clothes-online-in-australia/)! Being stylish doesn’t have to be pricey. A sense of style is everyone’s right, and you only need the right pieces to express yours. Aside from vintage shopping making you a participant in sustainable fashion, there is so much treasure you can find among vintage items. One of the best things about dressing vintage is that your item is likely to be totally unique. You won’t bump into mums at school pick-up in the same top. Instead, they’ll be looking longingly at your special piece and wondering where you bought it from. ## 8. Step outside your comfort zone As mums, we feel bad spending too much time on ourselves. But you NEED it and you deserve it. We cannot direct our creative and nurturing energy towards our loved ones if we do not nurture and create it within ourselves. So push yourself beyond the lines. I am sure there are a few styles and outfits you have always wondered about trying. Now is the time to do it for real. Start wearing colours and patterns you don’t usually pick but which look good with your skin tone. Then, when you are comfortable, try new shapes that flatter your figure. A fitted long sleeve? An off-shoulder dress? Or a nicely tailored wide-leg pant instead of your usual skinny jeans? Keep encouraging yourself to try new things and dress YOUR body. Before you know it, you’ll have a fantastic updated mum wardrobe! ## 9. Look online for new styles I have already mentioned Pinterest. You can explore this app alongside others like Instagram and TikTok to learn more about new styles. The more you feed yourself information (which is massively available through the Internet) the more you learn about fashion and self-styling. Fashion has become amazingly inclusive and you can even find style mood boards especially for us mums. As basic as it sounds, I personally like using Google and Pinterest, and just literally type “everyday style for pear shape body type”, “cool fashion trends for mums”. No matter what you search, there will ALWAYS be results that spark your interest. And, try exploring hashtags such as #mumstyle, #casualoutfits, #athleisure. This is how I learned about styles that I now incorporate in my own mum wardrobe. ## 10. Have fun with fashion Don’t be afraid of fashion. At the end of the day, they are JUST clothes. If your outfit didn’t work out, it was no harm to anyone. If it was something that flattered your body and suited your personality, then hooray! We’ve got a new one in the vault. Remember when you were a little girl? Dressing up was fun and creative. It was fantastic, dreamy, and optimistic. There is no reason for your reinvention and mum wardrobe update to be any different. Have fun and rediscover your love for clothes and your own stylish expression. Whatever your budget is, there are fabulous items everywhere that are perfect and waiting for you! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/ideas-to-refresh-your-mum-wardrobe/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/shopping/ideas-to-refresh-your-mum-wardrobe/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shopping **Tags:** clothes, wardrobe, style, fashion --- ### [7 Helpful suggestions to co-parent your baby](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parent-your-baby/) **Published:** April 13, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Co-parenting with a baby is a challenging and demanding experience for a new parent. Unlike co-parenting with an older child, a baby requires constant care, attention, and support. From feeding and changing to soothing and nurturing, co-parenting a baby demands both parents to be fully committed and engaged. Although it might seem daunting, it is also an opportunity to build a strong foundation for the future. In this article, l explore some tips for co-parenting with a baby and how to make the transition into parenthood as smooth as possible. Whether you have [gone through pregnancy alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-for-going-through-pregnancy-alone/) and are now trying to involve babies father, or you’re newly separated, help is at hand. ***Further reading: [Co-parenting tips I wish I knew ten years ago.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/)*** ## 1. Establish a consistent sleep schedule Sleep is very important for your baby’s health especially as sleep quality and hours directly affect children and babies’ growth and brain development. Establish with your co-parent the sleep pattern that keeps your baby happy, alert, and healthy. Does your baby need naps after every feeding? Is 8pm the right time to put your baby to bed? What sends your baby to sleep? Is it rocking her gently? Is it the white noise machine or a lullaby player? If you find that your baby has preferred techniques and routines to go to sleep, make these available and implemented in both homes. Having a regular schedule and consistent sleeping techniques at both homes will maintain a familiar and safe environment for your baby that will always be conducive to sleep. ## 2. How, when, what to feed your baby Feeding. The most important time of the day for your baby. If you are a breastfeeding co-parent, you have to put in some extra loving effort to ensure that enough milk is expressed for the days that your baby will be spending with your co-parent. Learn how to store and pack your milk (and the right accompanying bottles) properly so that it can survive the trip to your co-parent’s house and fridge. If you use [formula for your baby](https://themilkybox.com/collections/kendamil-formula), make sure that your co-parent also knows that exact brand and type of formula they have to buy and prepare at their house. Whether you do [scheduled feeding vs. on-demand feeding](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22420982/), establish the same method with your co-parent. Having different manners and schedules of feeding can make your baby feel stressed and mistrusting towards one parent (or both). ## 3. Use the same nappies when you co-parent a baby One of you might think, “well it’s just nappies, how different could they be?” The answer is: they could be a lot different to your baby’s skin. Using the wrong nappy can mean skin irritation for your baby if one of you co-parents use the wrong one. Come to an agreement with your co-parent on whether you use disposable vs. reusable nappies for your baby. If you prefer to use disposable nappies, make sure you both know which brand and size is suited for your baby. Confirm with the other co-parent when it’s time to upsize your baby’s nappy. Additional tip: List two brands that agree with your baby’s skin so that if favourite brand suddenly runs out at the shops, you or your co-parent can buy the second preferred brand. This way, you both avoid conflict and possible skin complications for your baby if your favourite brand runs out at your local supermarket. [Buying nappies online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/where-to-buy-cheap-nappies-online/) in bulk is a good way to save money and make sure there are always plenty in the house. ## 4. Share baby equipment to keep costs down Having two homes for your baby to grow up in doesn’t mean everything has to be bought in two. You and your co-parent should definitely consider sharing baby equipment for more reasons than one. To keep costs down and maintain a familiar home environment for your baby, prepare a list of items that need to be moved between homes at changeover time. Are there things on this list that you could share? This would mean less expense between you, less to [move between homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/), and your baby gets to use the equipment they are most familiar with. Win/win/win. This list can include the car seat, stroller, walker, baby rocker and the more pricey items that can be shared between you and your co-parent. ## 5. Move comforters between homes Even as adults, we have our favourite beddings, wraps, and blankets when we are relaxing or sleeping at home. Comforters play a huge role when it comes to ensuring the quality of our sleep and our feelings of safety. Remember the shared list of things that come with the baby when traveling to each other’s house? This should also include your baby’s favourite comforter, blanky, and soft toys. Maintaining comfort and familiarity for your baby is crucial in creating a constant sense of home, whether staying with you or your co-parent. This reduces risks for stress and anxiety for your baby as moving becomes a regular part of their schedule. ## 6. Be prepared to make changes as your baby grows While similar routines, using the same stuff, and maintaining the same essential schedule for your baby is a fantastic thing to do when you co-parent a baby, you also need to discuss and make decisions when changes are coming. And mumma, these changes keep on coming! From changing clothes and nappy size to feeding times and food preferences, discuss with your co-parent your observations and changes that need to be implemented, as often as needed. Try to be open to sharing ideas about what is working in your home with your co-parent. For example, you may have safety-proofed your home in anticipation of the crawling stage. Let your ex-partner know what works well and what doesn’t. Remember, the person who will benefit the most from your shared information is your baby. ## 7. Communicate with the other co-parent Babies are in a stage where they are developing their sense of trust, especially in their primary caregivers. And your obligation is to maintain that through meeting all your baby’s needs as consistently and timely as possible, whether it’s at your house or your co-parent’s house. This is only possible when both of you have established an aligned understanding of the each of these needs and the details of responding to them. It goes without saying that clear communication is crucial for both of you in achieving success when it comes to understanding your baby’s needs and accepting the responsibilities that come with meeting them. This is the type of communication where any form of resentment or passive aggressiveness is out the door, one where you actually sit down (whether in-person or video call) to actually take notes and confirm with each other the right manner or your baby’s preferred measures when it comes to sleep, feeding, personal possessions, and play. For general, on-going communication and everyday planning, a [co-parenting app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/) is a great way to keep everything in one place and avoid any confusion that could cause upset to either parent or your baby. ## 8. Create a parenting plan to co-parent your baby Speaking of taking notes, it will be hugely beneficial for you and your co-parent to establish a shared [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/). This might sound excessive but trust me. As a mum, I think any parent can benefit with having a written plan in place, especially co-parents who are doing their best to maintain quality standards in taking care of their baby between two separate and alternating households. Writing a parenting plan together can also improve your communication and cooperation skills as co-parents while also creating a clear record and reference for your baby’s growth, changes, and needs. You forgot the favourite piece of music that soothes your baby? Refer to the parenting plan. Your co-parent keeps getting confused about the ratio of formula scoops to water? It’s there detailed in the plan. Effective communication as co-parents is not only manifested through lengthy discussions about your baby (these are very important too!), but also through maintaining supportive resources for each other, such as a shared parenting plan. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parent-your-baby/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parent-your-baby/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting, Children **Tags:** baby, coparent, infant --- ### [The pros and cons of hiring teenage babysitters](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenage-babysitters/) **Published:** April 10, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re searching for someone to care for your children so you can have the odd night (or day) out, you might be considering teenage babysitters. Many people hire teenagers for this caregiving role, which can be a great option. Finding the right person to care for your child is a serious business, and you must be 100% happy with your decision. For this reason, there are many points to consider if you plan on hiring a teenage babysitter. Of course, no two teenagers are the same. But here are some pros and cons of hiring teenage babysitters so you have peace of mind when you go out and enjoy your free time. ## PRO’S OF HIRING TEENAGE BABYSITTERS ## Cost-effective As babysitting is a private arrangement between yourself and the carer, no law dictates what you must pay. However, the consensus is that pay would increase with your babysitter’s age and experience level. This means that teenagers can work out pleasantly cost effectively! With most teens earning around $20-$25 per hour in casual jobs and babysitting rates averaging between $20-$40 per hour, a teenager would be cheaper than an experienced adult babysitter. Plus, most teens are eager to gain work experience to build their resume with a current job and an excellent first reference, so they are happy with the lower wage bracket. ## Energetic and fun You were a teenager once. Remember when you could juggle school, swim team, friends, family, AND a secret boyfriend? The energy you were able to economise effectively during that time is now a mystery to you. Teenage babysitters have enough energy to look after your child and play with them (it’s a bonus if they can also help them with their homework), allowing them to create fun memories and positive experiences with your child while you are away. Having a good teen as a role model in your child’s life can make up a valuable part of their [support system](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/every-child-needs-great-support-system/). ## Familiarity with technology [According to a study in 2020](https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2012/02/29/main-findings-teens-technology-and-human-potential-in-2020/), the brains of multi-tasking teenagers are wired to acquire and retain important information more efficiently through the internet and other current technological tools than those 35yo and above. If you are a parent who needs someone who can easily understand and learn to use your home’s security and doorbell systems, I suggest you give teenage babysitters a chance. Aside from being able to digest technical instruction on modern tools easily, they have a genuine interest and natural inclination to use technology in accomplishing most of their tasks (remember how good they are at using computers, mobile phones, and other devices that require a reasonable amount of artificial intelligence), whether that is school work or babysitting. Ensure that your hired babysitter also knows and has access to your preferred messaging apps, local emergency channels, and personal contact details. ## Flexible schedules Aside from school hours, possible part-time work and curfew which is fixed for most typical teenagers, the rest of their day is often free for them to do as they please. This means many teenagers are available so you can hire them for the hours you need them. Plus, they might be available for last-minute work if they have few commitments. If you are looking for a teenage babysitter, look for someone whose social calendar is not full and who can show you they are willing to work and accommodate your child in their schedule. ## Relatable to your children Teenagers sit about somewhere between being a child and becoming an adult. While this can make you hesitate to entrust your child’s welfare for a few hours, you can benefit significantly from getting a teenage babysitter. While teenagers are young enough to understand and form easy, relatable, and authentic connections with younger children, they are also old enough to develop the confidence and skill to communicate with an adult such as yourself. A teenage babysitter can be an effective bridge between you and your child, as they gain their ward’s trust with their natural relatability and easy involvement, and your trust as a parent through effective communication and reliability. # CONS OF HIRING TEENAGE BABYSITTERS ## Lacking in experience The reality of hiring a teenage babysitter is that they have little work experience and often no experience caring for children. As their first employer, you might find yourself explaining the importance of timekeeping, reliability, and communication. With a lack of experience comes the inability to handle certain situations which may arise and not having the necessary skills to care for your child properly. Some teenagers can act responsibly without prior experience, while others might have a meltdown and cut your evening short. ## Maturity level Set your expectations realistically. When you leave your child with a teenage babysitter, they are being watched by an older and, hopefully, more responsible child. Before you start the clock on your babysitting employment with your cool teenager of choice, sit down with them and set boundaries and expectations with them respectfully. You can let them know which TV channels you do not allow them to watch with your child, or which words you would prefer not to be said in front of your child. Suppose your child exhibits specific behaviours that can confuse, put off, or scare your new young babysitter. In that case, I advise you to educate the teenager in advance so they can also be empowered about how to deal with your child in the future. You can teach them how to earn respect and assert healthy authority with your child. Brush them up too on what they would do in different scenarios they might experience in the house while you are away where their decision-making will be necessary. ## Limited availability I have mentioned that teenagers can make themselves available easier than most adults. But it doesn’t mean that their schedules are a free for all. Remember, they are teenagers. Nothing is more important to them than socialising with their friends, and this will take priority above everything else, sometimes even paid work! If you wish to employ a teenage babysitter in your home, I encourage you to plan ahead. Do you have a dinner date coming up in a month? Ensure to “book” someone who can fully commit the evening of that day at least a two-weeks before. Then remind your teenage babysitter as the time draws nearer, as they have a tendency to forget. ## Safety concerns Given the age of your hired babysitter (14-17yo), you must consider safety issues when they are in charge of your home and, more importantly, your kids. Teenagers may lack the experience and maturity to handle emergencies or keep a close eye on multiple children at once. They are also more likely to engage in risky behaviour, such as inviting friends over or leaving the children unattended. Provide clear guidelines and expectations to avoid anything going wrong and keep your kids (and home safe). ## Limited transportation Depending on the age of your teenage babysitter, they may or may not have their own transport. But most teens are still relying on public transport or the taxi of mum and/or dad. This means that when you decide to hire a teenage babysitter, they might need some time, support, or a specific time window so they can safely show up at your home and leave for their home at the end of their gig. This is particularly true if you need babysitting services in the evening; these hours can be logistically challenging for teenage babysitters, especially girls. I suggest that you allocate 30mins before and/or after the babysitting gig for you to do pick-up and/or drop-off for your teenage babysitter to ensure their safe arrival at your home and safe return to their homes. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenage-babysitters/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenage-babysitters/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** child care, babysit, night out --- ### [10 Tips for safe sexting in the digital age](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/phone-sext/) **Published:** April 3, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** I am not a pro at sexting, but I’ve had my fair share of experience. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: Safe sexting is the best sexting. In this digital age, getting carried away and sending a naughty photo without thinking twice about the potential consequences is easy. But let’s be honest, nobody wants a private photo sent in a moment of passion to end up somewhere it wasn’t intended to be. The question is: How can you enjoy the thrill of sexting without putting yourself at risk? From setting boundaries to choosing the right messaging app, I’ll cover everything you need to know to keep your sexting adventures safe and secure. ## Use the right message app Not all messaging apps are equal when it comes to sexting. Firstly, choose one that offers end-to-end encryption to protect your messages from being intercepted by hackers or other third parties. Apps like Signal and WhatsApp are excellent choices for this. Also, if I’m sending something a little x-rated, I prefer apps with disappearing messages that automatically delete after a specific time. The most popular of these is Snapchat, but Instagram has a feature called “Vanish mode” and WhatsApp recently introduced “View Once” which allows users to send disappearing photos and videos that can only be viewed once. **Note:** Even with disappearing messages, the receiver can screenshot to view them later, so send with caution. ## Set clear boundaries of consent Boundaries and consent are critical aspects of any sexual interaction, including [sexting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/phone-sext/). It can feel awkward having this conversation with your sexting partner. Getting all serious might momentarily take the edge off the sexy mood, but I can’t emphasise its importance enough. By establishing clear boundaries, you will avoid unpleasant misunderstandings that could damage your relationship and have serious legal consequences. On a positive note, boundaries and consent help ensure that both you and your sexting partner are on the same page regarding what you enjoy and what you don’t. This creates a safe space to have fun and leads to a more enjoyable experience. 1. ## Don’t Share Personal Information Sharing personal details with people you don’t know in real life can be risky. Aside from being used in possible crimes like extortion and blackmail, your personal information can also be used in cybercrimes like phishing and identity theft. If you don’t personally know your sexting partner, it will be wise to err on the side of caution and maintain a level of skepticism. But keeping your personal information private should not be limited to sexting. You must also avoid sharing them on social media and other sites. Creeps and criminals exist everywhere, so always be cautious when sharing details that can be used for fraudulent activities. ## Don’t Include Your Face or Other Identifying Features Sending nudes is OK as long as it’s consensual. But don’t show your face. As I mentioned earlier, be skeptical when interacting with anyone online – regardless of whether you know them personally or not. Part of protecting your identity is keeping your face off those racy selfies and videos. Don’t take the risk of your face and identifying features getting shared illegally – because *that* happens all the time. Remember, we’ve all heard of someone who lost their job or have been ostracised after having their faces and x-rated stuff illegally exposed online. We all know better … don’t take the risk. ## Think twice before sending The well-known advice when it comes to information security is: > *Think before you click.* Never is this more important than while sexting. In the heat of the moment, we can lose our minds and do things we don’t normally do. The great thing about sexting is that you’re in control of this interaction (at least on your end). Allow yourself time to think about what you’re about to send and the possible consequences should it end up somewhere it wasn’t intended. Slow down to check what you’ve typed or photographed. Remember, the Internet never forgets. ## Avoid using public WIFI Using public Wi-Fi for sexting is like playing Russian roulette with your intimate photos and messages. You might as well print them out and tape them to the nearest lamp post for all the privacy you’ll have. It’s like inviting your nosy neighbour, creepy co-worker, and judgmental aunt to join the bedroom fun with you. Public Wi-Fi networks are often unencrypted, making it easier for hackers or other malicious individuals to intercept and access your private messages and personal information. Furthermore, you have no control over who else is using the same network and could potentially view your messages. It’s always best to use a private Wi-Fi network, preferably one that is encrypted and password-protected, or to use a cellular data connection for secure messaging. ## Be Careful Who You Sext With While it can be a fun and spicy way to connect with your partner or explore your sexuality, it’s important to be careful who you’re sexting with. Always triple check you are sending your message to the right person. You don’t want to accidentally send your saucy snaps to your boss or your grandma. Choose your sexting partners wisely and always make sure they’re someone you trust and feel comfortable with. And maybe double-check that you’re not accidentally sending your nudes to your dentist instead of your significant other. ## Delete your conversations regularly There’s nothing scarier than the idea of your child or or our mum scrolling through your phone and stumbling upon you – or someone else – naked! To be safe, always delete all evidences of sexting from your phone, whether it’s something you’ve sent or received. That includes messages and photos from your phone gallery and trash folder. You should also establish deleting rules with your partner from the start for your mutual protection. Although that’s not a guarantee that they will delete your conversations and photos from their end, at least you’ve done your part. And, for Pete’s sake, have a password! ## Be aware of revenge porn Personally, I will never understand people who will humiliate you in public for dumping them. That’s such a loser behaviour. Revenge porn is revealing someone’s explicit videos and pictures without the other person’s consent. Usually, this happens after a breakup in order to embarrass someone. Unfortunately, it can happen to anyone. Regardless of whether it’s a person you’re in a romantic relationship with, a [friend with benefits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/), or an online stranger, there’s no guarantee that this will not happen to you. Being cautious from the start by not sending them your face and identifying parts provides that crucial layer of protection. ## Report any abusive behaviour Nothing ruins the thrill more than guys (and girls!) who send unsolicited pics and those who don’t respect your clearly stated boundaries. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of them on the Internet, especially since some are anonymous. Here’s my easy, two-step guide for minor offenders: 1. Block 2. Report As in real life, you absolutely don’t have to tolerate anyone’s abusive behaviour. This is easier with strangers you meet online, since you can just block them and never interact with them again. On the Internet, [ghosting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) is easy. If you know the person in real life, it will get tricky. If the offences escalate to major crimes, then that’s totally different. If they keep harassing you, start extorting you, or distribute your photos and videos, don’t hesitate to report them to the police immediately. Always remember to take the precautionary measures – don’t share your identity – so you can stay protected if the worst happens. ## Conclusion: Safe sexting in the digital age While sexting can be a spicy and exhilarating way to connect with your partner or explore your sexuality, it’s important to do it safely in the digital age. Before you start sending your saucy snaps or tantalising texts, make sure you’re doing it with someone you trust, and who won’t accidentally share your intimate moments with the entire internet. Remember: With great sexting power comes great sexting responsibility. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/phone-sext/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/phone-sext/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Online Dating --- ### [Why not to plaster your divorce all over social media](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-on-social-media/) **Published:** March 30, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In this article, I discuss why you should think twice before blasting your divorce all over social media. Divorce is a real pain in the you-know-what. Let’s face it, it’s not exactly a walk in the park. But trust me, if you think it’s ok to share the nitty-gritty details of your divorce online, you might want to pump the brakes a bit. When you’re going through a tough time, it’s natural to want to seek comfort and support from your friends and family. But before you hit that “post” button and start venting about your ex to the entire internet, consider the potential consequences. Things like: > Do you really want your personal business out there for all to see? > > Do you want to risk damaging your reputation or hurting your children’s feelings? > > Is social media the right way to share such intimate family information? Probably not. Here are some good reasons not to plaster your divorce all over social media. ***Further reading: [How to use social media positively after a separation.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/social-media-positively-after-separation/)*** ## It will make things worse When a relationship ends, it is often an emotional rollercoaster for all involved, even in the most amicable separations. Time and distance are great healers, yet posting about your separation on social media or even changing your relationship status can cause anger, controversy and confrontation. ## You and your ex are at different stages You and your ex are most likely at different stages of your emotional journey for this breakup. You might be delighted it’s over but your ex is not, and seeing you post “freeeeedom” GIFs on Facebook could be hurtful and unnecessary. This works both ways. We don’t want to cause further hurt or be hurt ourselves. Hurtful comments (even unintentional ones) don’t just create tension between you and your ex but also impact extended family members and friends. ## Does anyone really want to know? There is only so much information people want to read about when they scroll through their social media accounts. Friends don’t need to know who retained the antique dinner service, nor do they need to be party to the gory details of a recent argument. As for getting an hourly update on your “feelings” about the separation … I’m sorry to break it to you, but it may create some eye rolls. What seems important to you is not to other people, and sharing finer details of divorce on social media may make you look petty and a wee bit crazy. ## It could be awkward or embarrassing Think carefully before you make any announcements about the end of your relationship. We’ve all seen those posts where people announce “it’s definitely over” only to be followed up by a “it’s back on” post. Not only can this be awkward and embarrassing for yourself and your former partner, but also for friends who may have made comments they now regret. ## It could end up in family court Did you know a social media post about divorce can be used as evidence in family court proceedings? Depending on the post’s content, it may be admissible as evidence of a party’s state of mind or their behaviour leading up to or during the divorce process. For example, if one party makes derogatory comments about the other on social media, this could be used to support allegations of misconduct or hostility towards the other party. It is essential to be mindful of what is posted on social media during a divorce proceeding, as it could potentially be used against a party in court. Remember that [social media will stand up as evidence in a Family Court](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-role-of-social-media-as-evidence-during-divorce/). ## Your employer might see it Sure, telling the world about your ex’s inability to put the toilet seat down or their love for Nickelback might feel cathartic, but do you really want your potential employer to see that? Imagine going in for a job interview and they first ask, “So, we saw your Facebook post about your messy divorce. Can you tell us more about that?” Yeah, I don’t think so. It’s better to keep those details private, or at least share them with your therapist instead of your 1,000+ social media friends. ## Erase the temptation to plaster your divorce all over social media It’s easy to get carried away if you see a post from your ex, his family or his mates which triggers you. It may feel like the only way to deal with it is to add a negative comment to the thread or post something yourself which may cause him the pain you feel. These split-second decisions are often bad ones. To prevent it from happening, lock or unfollow your partner, their family and friends. All social media platforms allow you to stop following or stop seeing content from people you’re connected to. Even if it is only temporary, avoiding seeing pictures or content from your ex and the people in their lives can allow you time to [heal a little](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-essential-steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/). ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-on-social-media/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/divorce-on-social-media/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce, Splitting up **Tags:** divorce and social media, divorce on social media --- ### [Healthy habits to help your child manage their sweet tooth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/healthy-habits-to-help-your-kids-manage-sweets-and-treats/) **Published:** March 27, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Did you know kids love sweet treats because they have more tastebuds than adults? For this reason, it is crucial to help your child manage their sweet tooth with healthy habits they can adopt for a lifetime. It makes perfect sense that my kids adore sugary foods because even as an adult with less tastebuds, I love them! However, having kids who take their sweet tooth too far is troubling, and there are some pronounced health risks, even at a young age, with all of the sugar and chemicals they are ingesting. If your child adores their sugary snacks, you must step in early and manage it correctly so your kids can manage their food intake and have a healthy attitude. See my tips below to help your child manage their sweet tooth. ## Break the unhealthy routine The first and possibly the most challenging part of managing sugar addiction is stopping it. This means keeping sugary foods out of the house, like chocolates, candies, and donuts. Switch to unsweetened juices, plain yoghurt, plain oatmeal, and fresh produce instead of highly processed ones. It’s time to stop ordering takeaway and to prepare as much food as possible from scratch, so you know exactly what your little ones are eating. Identify unhealthy eating patterns and put a stop to them right away. ## Model healthy eating habits Kids are known to imitate the adults around them, so make sure that you practice healthy eating habits. Let them see you drink lots of water, eat your fruits and veggies, and choose better snacks – and let them see you enjoying eating better food. Even if they find healthy eating repulsive initially, seeing you loving what you eat can eventually influence their enjoyment of healthier eating habits. Remember, the healthy eating habits you instil in your child today will last them a lifetime, so it is well worth the effort. ## Offer alternative healthy snacks A major reason kids develop a liking for sugary food is availability. If they see unhealthy snacks in your pantry or available to buy in the school cafeteria, that’s what they’ll gravitate to. You can replace your snacks at home with trail mixes (ensure there’s no added sugar), mixed nuts, dried and fresh fruit, and homemade sandwiches. Yes, it is a bit more effort (and cost) to look for and prepare healthier snacks, but it will be worth it when it comes to curbing your child’s sugar addiction. ## Educate them Find fun ways to share the benefits of healthy eating, the effects of too much sugar on their teeth, and how to make their favourite treats healthier. If you have younger kids, head to your nearest public library and ask the librarian for storybooks on good eating habits. If they have a phone, you can also casually relevant share interesting social media posts with verified health information. Sometimes, leaving leaflets around the house can help them “discover” these things independently. ## Use sweet spices instead of sugar Cinnamon, cardamom, and ginger – the trifecta of sweet spices – are just some of the spices that come to mind when I think of sweet, delicious sugar alternatives. You can switch from sugar to this blend for your kids’ morning oats, popcorn, or stewed fruit. It might take some time for your kids to get used to this new taste, but if you persevere, they’ll not only eat it but love it! Why use sugar when you can use spices that not only have more flavour but most have considerable health benefits? ## Use portion control I love Snickers and will be forever bummed if I suddenly can’t have one again. I replace the regular-sized packs with bite-size ones and treat myself to one piece at the end of every other day. Kids may find it challenging to go cold turkey when it comes to quitting sugar, so instead of eliminating their favourite sweets from their diet, why not use portion control? Instead of depriving them of a treat they love – which poses the risk of eating more of that later – reduce the amount they can eat and replace it with healthier alternatives. ## Check for hidden sugars in food Educate yourself on the different names for sugar and sugar alternatives you usually would not suspect as “unhealthy.” Sometimes, marketers and food companies will try to circumvent the regulations and replace the term sugar with words regular people aren’t familiar with. High fructose corn syrup, fructose, dextrose, fruit juice concentrate, and ethyl maltol are other names for sugar in processed food. If memorising these names is challenging, double-check the labels for ingredients with syrup or -ose in their name. ## Make dessert healthy I have developed a love of healthy baking. For example, I use almond flour instead of regular flour for cakes and cookies. There are recipes where you can completely replace regular sugar with coconut sugar with a lower glycemic index or even date paste. Thankfully, many healthy and yummy recipes are available on the Internet nowadays, so you don’t have to experiment with the ingredients and measurements to get the same results as conventional goodies. I find plant-based cookbooks to be a haven for healthi-fied desserts. ## Eat together Sharing the experience of enjoying healthy meals as a family encourages kids to improve their eating habits. If eating all your meals together is impossible due to differences in schedules and commitments, set aside a regular family meal time at least a few times a week. Make sure your meal times are free from pressure and judgments to make this a time they can look forward to. Aside from eating together, you can also prepare your meals together, which is another excellent way to entice children to like healthier ingredients like fruits and vegetables. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/healthy-habits-to-help-your-kids-manage-sweets-and-treats/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/healthy-habits-to-help-your-kids-manage-sweets-and-treats/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health, Food --- ### [How to keep young kids entertained on flights](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-entertained-flights/) **Published:** March 27, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Air travel can be a daunting experience for anyone, but it can be particularly challenging for parents of young children. I know from experience that keeping kids entertained on flights can seem impossible. However, with a little planning and creativity, turning an otherwise stressful experience into an enjoyable one is possible. In this article, I’ll share my ideas to keep young kids entertained on an aeroplane, from packing the right snacks and toys to taking advantage of in-flight entertainment options. Whether you’re a seasoned traveller or a first-time flyer, my tips can help ensure a smooth and stress-free flight for you and your little ones. ***Further reading: [Single parent holidays: 6 Easy ideas to get away.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-holidays/)*** ## Pack their favourite snacks Children get hungry … a lot. We all know that kids tend to get cranky when they’re hungry, and no one wants to deal with a cranky kid on a plane. In fact, food is a clever way to keep kids entertained on flights If you spend 12 hours on a long flight, you need to be armed accordingly. Your child may not like aeroplane food and refuse to eat it. So it’s better if you have something you know they like That’s why we never fly without a bag of our favourite snacks. Snacks that aren’t messy are ideal. The last thing you want is to clean up a mess in the middle of the plane. And think of foods that your child can graze on so they take longer to eat and use up time! It’s worth checking with the airline you are flying with or [Australian Border Force](https://www.abf.gov.au/entering-and-leaving-australia/can-you-bring-it-in/bring-on-a-plane) to see what you can and can’t take onboard. Some flights won’t allow fresh produce, and liquids on nearly all flights must be under 100ml. ## Bring the devices (with everything downloaded) While you pack for your trip make sure that all their favourite movies and series are also downloading. Streaming websites like Netflix allow you to download your favourite movies and series. This could keep your little one entertained for the entire flight. They wouldn’t even notice the lack of WiFi. By following this one tip, you can pretty much ignore the rest of my suggestions! Having everything downloaded can make or break your trip. Because we all know that once our kids get their hands on a tablet or a phone, that’s the only time we can have a break. ## Give them the window seat to keep kids entertained on flights As much as I love staring out the window as we fly, I know my child would love it even more, and a window seat is excellent entertainment. Use the opportunity to point out landmarks on take-off and landing and discuss the wonder of flying above the clouds. Staring out of a plane window is memorising at any age. ## Bring comfort toys or blanket Be sure to pack your child’s favourite comfort toys and blanket because they can provide a sense of security which will help your little one feel more at ease while flying. It can also help them sleep better on the plane, a godsend for long-haul flights. If they’re used to sleeping with a comforter at home, having one with them can help them feel more relaxed and comfortable enough to drift off. Plus, the temperature on a plane can be unpredictable, and being too hot or cold can make my children uncomfortable and restless. We all know that in-flight blankets are scratchy and thin! Bringing a familiar blanket for your child to snuggle under will keep them warm and comfortable throughout the flight. ## Pack books and other travel games Having only one way to entertain your kids just wouldn’t do. They could get bored of just watching movies or playing with toys. Another way you can keep them entertained is by engaging them intellectually. You can pack books that interest them or create games to challenge them. There are already a lot of travel games out there but who says you can’t create your own? You can try to make it educational. Stimulate their brain while they’re having fun. For me, books have been a lifesaver for long-haul flights. Just one book can keep you entertained for hours. My son doesn’t quite agree with me, so I’m still stuck downloading movies while I pack. ## Make use of the in-flight entertainment system The in-flight entertainment (IFE) system can be a valuable tool for entertaining kids on a long-haul flight. They offer a range of movies, games, educational content, and interactive features which can help keep kids occupied and engaged throughout the journey. They can even track their flight and see what countries they are flying over. My kid’s are always fascinated by this. Some airlines offer free access to their IFE systems, while others may charge a fee for access or certain features within the IFE system. In some cases, the cost of using the IFE system may be included in the ticket price, while in other cases, it may be an additional cost. Some airlines offer different tiers of IFE access, with more features and content available at higher prices. It’s always a good idea to check with the airline beforehand. Many airlines will have this information on their website, or you can contact their customer service department for more information. ## Don’t forget their headphones I’ll repeat. Don’t forget their headphones. The important piece of equipment to keep kids entertained on flights It won’t matter if your kid is acting like an angel. If they’re blasting whatever they’re watching without headphones, they would be disturbing the other passengers. So without your headphones, you have two choices, you can be the jerk letting their kid blast music on their phone, or you can deal with your bored hyperactive kid during the flight. Either way, it sucks. And I know what you’ll say, “don’t they have headphones on the plane?”. Yes, they do, but they’re mostly catered for adults, so there’s a possibility they may not even fit your child. And don’t forget an adapter if you need one. Most modern airplanes have a standard headphone jack to accommodate standard 3.5mm headphones. If your child’s headphones have a standard 3.5mm plug, you should be able to plug them directly into the airplane’s headphone jack. However, some airlines may use a different type of headphone jack or a proprietary IFE system requiring a specific adapter type. In this case, you may need to purchase an adapter to use the headphones. ## Encourage them to write/draw in a journal Journaling on a flight is a fantastic activity for kids. It can provide a multitude of benefits that go beyond just passing the time. Journaling allows children to document their travel experiences, which can be incredibly valuable. Travel can be a transformative experience, and keeping a record of it can help kids remember the sights, sounds, and feelings of their journey for years to come. In addition to memory-keeping, journaling can be a creative outlet for kids. They can write stories, draw pictures, or create collages using boarding tickets, etc., reflecting their experiences and impressions of the journey. And think of all the time it would use up during the flight! ## Make it fun I have always made flying a fun and enjoyable experience for my kids, and now they are well-seasoned travellers who love nothing more than hopping on a plane for a 12-hour flight! To get yours in the same headspace, talk to your kids about the trip and get them excited about the destination. Involve them in planning and packing to give them a sense of ownership over the journey. Explain to them the wonders of flying and how lucky you are to have this experience. Remember to show them how excited you are about the journey. If they see you are excited, they won’t be able to help but feel it too. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-entertained-flights/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-entertained-flights/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Travel **Tags:** flying, holiday, plane, travel, areoplane --- ### [Second wedding etiquette: What you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/second-wedding/) **Published:** March 23, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Getting married for the second time can be just as exciting and meaningful as the first time, if not more so. However, there are some unique challenges and considerations to keep in mind. Whether you are remarrying after a divorce or the death of a spouse, planning a second wedding comes with its own set of etiquette rules, family dynamics and possible financial constraints. In this article, we explore some helpful tips and advice to ensure that your second wedding is a memorable and joyful occasion that reflects your personal style and values. From considering legal implications to navigating [blended families](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/blended-families/) and talking through expectations, we will provide practical guidance to help you plan the perfect second wedding. ## Second Wedding Etiquette: What You Need to Know ### Sharing the news While your second wedding is your big day, you must remember that not everyone will share your excitement and happiness. Therefore, being sensitive and thoughtful when you share the news of your second wedding with your loved ones is a crucial first step. When sharing the big news, approach your family and friends with empathy and understanding. You must acknowledge that this could surprise some! If you have kids from your first marriage, assure them that your love for them hasn’t changed and will not change. Be open to sharing what you love about your new fiancé/fiancée and your excitement about starting this new chapter with them. ### Planning your second wedding guest list Oh, the guest list! It is the portion of the wedding planning process most couples dread. How do you choose who to invite and who to skip? The guest list for your second wedding should include the people you and your partner would love to witness your celebration. While you want everyone you love to be there, remember that not everyone will be happy for you. If you know someone who would most definitely spoil your day – the cousin who remains loyal to the ex, maybe? – feel free to slash them on the guest list! ### Selecting the venue How do you choose a venue? The great thing about your second wedding is that you’ve already tried at least one venue, which you can cross off your list. You’re now free to choose from a selection of unconventional venues, like a forest, a museum, or even a bar! Choose a place that means something special for you and your other half. Or not! Somewhere you’ve never been to will also do. Other important things you’d like to consider when selecting your venue are accessibility for your guests, seating capacity, the weather, the dress code, and the motif you have in mind. If you have selected an outdoor venue with intermittent weather conditions, consider having a Plan B. ### What to wear at a second wedding The wedding dress is one of the most exciting yet possibly stressful parts of planning for your special day. Traditionally, first-time brides wear white – and you can still wear white if you want. But for your second time walking down the aisle, you can experiment with what to wear. Something short, colourful, a pantsuit – the sky’s the limit. The only condition is to feel comfortable and beautiful in it. The dress code should go hand-in-hand with the venue, so it’s crucial to keep your chosen location in mind when planning what you and your guests want to wear. If you haven’t already, check out [this](https://www.brides.com/story/wedding-dress-code-explained) article for everything you need to know about wedding dress codes. ### Second wedding vows For me, at least, exchanging wedding vows was the most moving part of the ceremony. But what’s great about writing your vows for your second wedding is that you already have a realistic view of married life. Most likely, you already know what *in sickness and in health* and *for richer or for poorer* mean in real life. So, this time, when you recite those words, you have the wisdom to back them up. Or, you can make an original, wacky wedding vow to make your guests crack up. But, remember, the most important thing is you mean what you say and keep it once the party is over. ### The perfect ceremony The perfect ceremony isn’t one that goes silk-smooth from start to finish. Unless you hire the best wedding coordinator who controls traffic, the weather, and every possible disaster, chances are there will be a mishap one way or another. As an example, my sister’s wedding was a total disaster. The toddlers wouldn’t walk down the aisle to fulfil their duties as flower girls and ring bearers. The band for the reception arrived late. Because there was no guest list, there needed to be more tables, chairs, or food for everyone who came. We, her family, were so stressed and disappointed. But my sister was so happy that she literally doesn’t remember the inconveniences until now. It seems like she didn’t even notice. So, the perfect ceremony is one where both of you come out happy and excited to finally start your married life for the second time. (But of course, carefully planning your wedding will minimise the mishaps and stop you from turning into Bridezilla.) ### Legalities of a second wedding Obviously, a second wedding will have more challenges compared to the first, legally speaking. Because bigamy or polygamy is illegal in many places worldwide, you’d have to ensure that your authentic documents are ready and that you are both completely cleared when you file for your marriage license. You should carefully study the laws in the place where you want to get married. If you or your partner isn’t Australian, first secure permission from the Embassy. Also, some countries still don’t legally marry LGBTQ+ couples, so do your due diligence before deciding on your venue. For complete requirements for getting married in Australia, check out this [article](https://bronteprice.com.au/legal-marriage-requirements-australia/). ### The wedding budget Of course, remember the budget. In fact, the budget should be one of the first things you must consider before going full throttle on your wedding preparations. Your budget will dictate if you can hire a wedding planner or if you’d need to go the DIY route. Whether this is your first or second wedding, one important tip is to be strict on your wedding budget. Sometimes, wedding planners would “suggest” small additions here and there that sound perfect for the celebration, so always keep an eye on your budget. You don’t want to exceed your budget and be a stressed bride later. ### Involving in a second wedding A second wedding has its unique challenges. After all, for some couples, marriage is not just about the two of you. Sometimes, there are children involved, which could mean bringing together two sets of kids who barely know each other. Your family (or families) can be part of your wedding ceremonies in many ways. They can walk you down the aisle. They can be your entourage. Or, they can sing. Giving them an important role can be an excellent way for them to feel that they belong in the new family you’re creating. But of course, don’t force your kids to be part of the celebration, as this could be an emotional time for them. So, be sensitive, respect their feelings, and tell them your love for them will never change. ### Managing conflict Wedding planning is sometimes stressful, and second weddings have additional challenges. Conflict is almost unavoidable when planning a wedding, whether between you and your significant other, the two families, or with a third party. Differences in opinion regarding the wedding details, financial problems, kids struggling to accept this new phase, and stress are just some forms of conflict. When conflict arises, ensure you and your partner remain open for communication. Listen with compassion, be available for adjustments, and be willing to step back from wedding planning and hand the reins to someone else if necessary. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/second-wedding/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/blended-families/second-wedding/?share=x) - **Categories:** Blended Families **Tags:** repartnering, remarry, second marriage --- ### [How to boost your mood with the power of sound](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/boost-your-mood-with-the-power-of-sound/) **Published:** March 23, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Sound is an incredible tool used for centuries to enhance our well-being and mood. We should not underestimate the power of sound as a mental health tool. From the rhythm of our heartbeats to the sound of nature, our bodies and minds are influenced by the sounds around us. Recent studies have shown that intentional use of sound, such as music therapy, can help with many things, including but not limited to the following: - Having a positive impact on our mood - Reducing stress levels - Possibly helping with medical conditions such as even help with certain medical conditions such as chronic pain, anxiety, depression, Alzheimer’s Disease, and dementia Learn how, with the proper selection of sounds, we can create a harmonious environment that boosts our mood and improves our general quality of life. ## HOW DOES THE POWER OF SOUND HELP? Music and sound can help quieten the worries and woes in your head. Music and sounds can help to make you feel more grounded and less disconnected. Music and podcasts can help you find inspiration and better understand yourself and your surroundings. [Studies on sound health](https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2018/01/sound-health) have found that listening to sounds can significantly affect a person’s mood and emotions because of brain dopamine regulation – a vital neurotransmitter linked to regulating your moods and emotional behaviour. ## HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT SOUND Many people enjoy listening to music, and there are many different options, genres, and artists. The key to finding music you enjoy listening to is sampling as much as possible and finding your favourite. Some musicians and songs will make you happy, while others might make you sad. If you are trying to improve your mood, then you need to stick to a happy playlist. If you don’t like music, you can always stick on your favourite podcast or even have the TV on in the background. The sound itself doesn’t always matter, as long as there is some sound that your brain can focus on. ## WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO LISTEN TO MUSIC? You can listen to any music, whenever you want. Some people like to listen to motivational and powerful music in the morning to help them get the confidence they need to start the day. When feeling down in the dumps, it is always best to stick to happy music. Unless you want to listen to sad songs and have a little cry, but once you are finished, put on some bubbly songs and dance. Find tracks that make you want to get up and dance and have a little boogy around or sing along to the music. Listening to happy music and dancing or singing will help to boost your mood. If the kids are asleep and you need to be quiet, why not try listening to music with your headphones? Listening to music through your headphones will help your mind focus on the music because it will be the only thing you can hear. ## FIND YOUR GROOVE There’s no right or wrong thing that you should be listening to. If something makes you happy and helps you forget your worries, then play it. Remember to find your groove and forget about your blues. ## CONCLUSION: How to boost your mood with the power of sound The power of sound is an easy yet very effective way to boost your mood and improve your emotional well-being. You can [reduce stress levels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) and improve your overall quality of life by intentionally selecting and listening to music or sounds that promote relaxation and calmness. Furthermore, listening to music or sounds that uplift you makes you feel happier, freer, and more motivated. Incorporating the power of sound into your daily routine can be an easy and accessible way to improve your emotional health and lead a more satisfying and meaningful life. Take time to explore and find the sounds that resonate with you, and let them work their magic to boost your mood and soothe your soul. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/boost-your-mood-with-the-power-of-sound/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/boost-your-mood-with-the-power-of-sound/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** feel good, music --- ### [Why every child needs a great support system](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/every-child-needs-great-support-system/) **Published:** March 22, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Do you have a support system? You will have. We all do. It may not be something you think about or plan. It may not be carefully mapped out and stuck to your fridge, but it will be there. A support system consists of the people and processes you have in place to help you in your everyday life. And they are not just for adults, they are vital for children too. Today’s youth are battling a crazy-fast-paced world. With so many options and opportunities, school is just one part of their busy schedules. Extra-curricular activities intrude on afternoons, weekends and into the evenings. The logistics alone can be stressful. And stress for your child is one thing you seriously want to avoid. Let’s look at the benefits of building a support system that will allow our children to flourish and grow. ## It gives them boundaries As kids grow and become more confident, they crave freedom. But (and they may not admit this) they also love boundaries. It means they can feel free yet secure around the people within their support system. ## It gives them a sense of independence The first play date, the first school trip, the first sleepover. All these momentous occasions give children independence. They are not with mum or dad. They are out of their comfort zone. It is a big step. The more extended your child’s support system is, the more often they will step outside their comfort zone and become confident and happy with various people. Independence will help them in many social situations, at school and later in life. ## It gives them a feeling of safety Things happen. We can’t always make school pick-up. As a working single mother, my life is hectic and my daughters witness it. Occasionally, I can’t get to where I need to be, and they know this. But they also know I would never let them down and that there will always be someone to take my place. If your child has a support system wrapped around their lives, they have much more than just the practicalities of getting them from A to B and back again. They have a group of people they can turn to for advice and support. Children are constantly developing. They have issues, fears and inhibitions. The more people your child can turn to, the better. And don’t worry if it isn’t you. As long as your child talks to someone you trust, it is good. ## A support system can improve a child’s social skills Children with a robust support system tend to have better social skills because they have more positive opportunities to interact with others. They have a safe and supportive environment to learn and practice these skills, which can help them develop healthy relationships with their peers. A support system can allow a child to socialise with other children in a safe and supportive environment. This can include playdates, group activities, social events, or even during a lift home from school. ## It teaches them the value of a support system Our children don’t know it yet, but they will grow up like us! A horrifying thought for them I am sure. As parents, we are their [most significant role models](http://centerforparentingeducation.org/library-of-articles/focus-parents/role-model-promise-peril/). They are watching and learning every day. If they grow up enjoying the benefits of a sound support system, they will create them for themselves when they grow older. And it goes further than the front door. Learning how to get support and delegate will help children in the workplace, in relationships, and in many other life areas. ## A support system encourages them to reach out and offer support in return A support system is not a take-take thing. It is about relationships, friendships, loyalty and trust. To make it work, you must offer support in return. These are brilliant values and lessons to instil in our children. It is ok to reach out for help when needed, even for something as simple as a lift back from ballet. But always be there to return the favours. This is how the world goes around, so we may as well teach our children to spin happily on it now. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/every-child-needs-great-support-system/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/every-child-needs-great-support-system/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** child support, child safety, child care --- ### [How to prepare for your Family Report when separating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-report/) **Published:** March 20, 2023 **Author:** Courtney Mullen **Content:** So, you’re in Court and the Judge orders a Family Report to explore what is in your child’s best interests – what now? Well, it’s always a good idea to be prepared. Knowing what you can expect for your family report appointments will help you to focus on presenting at your best, rather than your energy being depleted by stressing about the unknown. ## What is a Family Report? A Family Report is a written assessment of a family’s dynamics by a professional person, usually an accredited social worker or psychologist. It can be done if you are in the middle of court proceedings, but it doesn’t have to. A lot of separating parents consider having an assessment done in advance of negotiating longer term parenting arrangements for their children. Assuming you’re in Court though, this report will be written up by a Family Consultant (employed or funded by the Court) or a privately funded Psychologist or Psychiatrist (if the Judge decides that you have the means to fund one privately) who will conduct the assessment independently as the Court Expert. In most parenting cases, this might be the only source of independent evidence the Court has to turn to when making a decision about your final parenting arrangements – so it’s important that you know what to expect and feel prepared going into the interviews. ## What to expect Until recently, Family Report interviews occurred in person – whether they were at the Court, at a private professional’s offices or at your home. COVID-19 has changed the way that Courts are conducting Family Report interviews. In most registries across Australia, interviews are now being conducted by telephone, or occasionally by video link. This means that it is more important than ever to be prepared and know what and how you can communicate with the Family Consultant. ### The Family Consultant may interview: - You and the person you are in dispute with, separately or together; - Your child alone; - Your child with you, or with the person you are in a dispute with; - Your child with other significant people (such as your partner, grandparents or friends); or - Other relevant professionals such as teachers, counsellors or doctors. Your interview may be for 20-30 minutes if it is a short-form report (i.e. a Child Inclusive/Dispute Conference Memorandum; a short, summary version of a Family Report made under Section 11F of the [*Family Law Act 1975*](https://www.legislation.gov.au/Details/C2017C00385)) or 1 – 1.5 hours if for a full Family Report (i.e. made under Section 62G of the Family Law Act 1975). The style of questions in short-form report interviews will often involve more ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answers rather than being opened-ended due to time restraints. You may then need to wait for observations with your child, so you might want to consider taking the whole day off work so you can stay “in the zone” for as long as you need to. It is important to remember that all information gathered by the Family Consultant during these interviews is not confidential, and is admissible as evidence before the Court. ### The purpose of the interview is to: - Understand and explore the issues in dispute between you as well as what is agreed; - Identify any risk of harm to your child; - Assess the adult relationships as well as your child’s relationships with you, your former partner and anyone else significant in their lives; - Determine your child’s views, if they are at an age or level of maturity where it is appropriate to do so; - Make recommendations about what arrangements might be in your child’s best interests. The report may be released days or weeks after the interviews and is often released by the Judge that your matter is before, along with some Orders reminding you about your obligations not to disseminate the report or publish it. Hopefully, it is released with enough time before the next Court date that it allows time to consider negotiating with your former partner (including through lawyers) about your ongoing parenting arrangements. ## How to prepare for a Family Report interview I think the best way you can be prepared to go into Family Report interviews is to have a thorough understanding of what the issues in dispute are in your situation. This is because evidence is only admissible in Court if it is relevant to an issue in dispute in your case – so you can be guaranteed that it is going to be what your Family Report, including the interviews, focus on. It is also really important to know what you want. It sounds simple, but being able to tell the Family Report writer what Orders you want the Judge to make is imperative to the Family Report writer and the Judge determining what the relevant issues in dispute are. Getting legal advice to help you to identify what these issues are, and what your position should be, may be a good idea if you haven’t already engaged a lawyer. The report writer may collect information about: - Your child’s relationship with significant people such as their parents, brothers and sisters, extended family and friends; - Your child’s views, if they want to tell the Family Report writer; - Your child’s personal history and emotional attachments; - Your child’s family history, including any significant issues that have impacted on them; - What is currently happening in your child’s life; - Your attitude towards your parental responsibilities, and to the other parent; - Any other important aspects of your child’s life that will help the court make a decision. ## What to consider before attending your Family Report interviews ### How would you describe your co-parenting relationship? - What is good about it? What is your role in [constructively communicating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) with your former partner? - What needs work? What is to blame for the level of conflict? What is your role in this? - What could you improve on, and are you taking any steps towards that? For example, using a communication app or attending a post-separation parenting course. ### What is your proposal for short-term and long-term parenting arrangements for your child? This includes the detail and logistics of those arrangements, like: - Are special occasions treated differently to the usual arrangement? - How will [changeovers work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/change-overs-when-coparenting/)? - Are any therapeutic interventions required? - ### Why do you say that your proposal is in the best interests of your child? - How does it ensure that your child will have a meaningful relationship with their other parent? - Is your child protected from any risk of unacceptable harm? - What is the effect of the proposed arrangements on your child? - How is your child coping with the current arrangements, and how do you think they are likely to cope with any change in the arrangements? - What is your level of acceptance of your child’s wishes; are these views in accordance with what is in your child’s best interests? ## What not to say to a Family Report writer It is really important to be aware of what not to say to a family report writer because this could hinder your case. Here are some examples of what not to say to a Family Report Writer. Do not: - Make threats or be aggressive. This can be seen as intimidating and may negatively impact their assessment of your family. - Lie or exaggerate the truth. It is important to be honest and upfront about your family situation, as the family report writer will likely uncover the truth anyway. - Badmouth your ex-partner or other family members because it could make you look bitter and may damage your credibility. - Try to discuss the case with the family report writer outside of scheduled meetings. It is important to follow the proper channels of communication and not try to influence the report writer outside of their official duties. - Refuse to cooperate with the family report writer or refuse to provide requested information. This can be seen as uncooperative and may negatively impact the assessment of your family situation. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") We hope that this article has provided some information to you about the Family Report process. Getting legal advice should always be a top priority when you are separating – no matter how amicable or acrimonious the split. *DISCLAIMER:* *This article is of a general nature and FYI only because it doesn’t take into account your personal situation, objectives or needs. That means it shouldn’t be considered legal advice and shouldn’t be relied upon as if it is. You should seek family law advice from an Australian Family Lawyer for a tailored, independent assessment of your individual circumstances.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-report/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/family-report/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation **Tags:** family law, family court, family consultant report, family interview, family assessment report --- ### [30 Easy meals when camping with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-when-camping-kids/) **Published:** March 18, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Camping with kids is an adventure, and keeping them fuelled and energised throughout the day is essential. For this reason, knowing some easy meals when camping is a godsend. There is no doubt about it, camp-side cooking can be challenging, especially when you’re trying to come up with meals that are easy, nutritious, and appeal to your little ones’ taste buds. Fortunately, there are plenty of delicious and simple meal options that will keep the whole family happy and satisfied without requiring hours of preparation or a lot of fancy equipment. Whether you’re a seasoned camper or a first-timer, these easy meal ideas will make your next camping trip a breeze. So, prepare to fire up the camp stove and produce some tasty meals that will have your kids asking for seconds (and maybe even thirds!). ## Easy meals when camping with kids: Savoury dishes ### Campfire nachos Nachos are always a hit anytime of the day but never more so than when feeding hungry tummies in the outdoors. Swap up the recipes to include your kids favourite toppings. No cutlery required! ![Campfire nachos](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Screenshot-2023-03-06-at-4.14.21-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Campfire grilled nachos](https://letscampsmore.com/grilled-nachos/) ### One-Pot Tomato Basil Pasta Apologies in advance to the Italians, but this one-pot tomato basil pasta is easy-to-cook and incredibly filling. You can make this recipe even easier by using any kind of pasta, pre-made sauce and tossing in any ingredient your kids love. ![One-Pot Tomato Basil Pasta | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/onepotpasta.jpg "onepotpasta - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [One-Pot Tomato Basil Pasta](https://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/270915/one-pot-tomato-basil-pasta/) ### Southwest Sweet Potato Bean Burger Don’t leave vegan kids out! Burgers are incredibly easy-to-make and filling. If you don’t have the time to whip up the patty from scratch, there are already lots of super yummy plant-based burger options in grocery stores. ![Southwest Sweetpotato Bean Burger](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Southwestern-Sweet-Potato-Bean-Burger-6.jpg "Southwestern-Sweet-Potato-Bean-Burger-6 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Southwest Sweet Potato Bean Burger](https://www.freshoffthegrid.com/southwest-sweet-potato-bean-burger/) ### Frankfurts in Damper I don’t know about you, but as for me and my family, hotdogs are a camping fixture. Of course, you can also enjoy toasting them on the bonfire, but this recipe takes it up to a notch. Regular hotdogs or plant-based hotdogs will totally work! ![Frankfurts in Damper](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/frankfurts-in-damper-74631-1.jpeg "frankfurts-in-damper-74631-1 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Taste AU](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/frankfurts-damper/edb776e8-3e88-4d5b-9b34-c835fa3a9780?r=recipes/campingrecipes&c=a8e1bbff-1f53-4899-9dfc-72ff66f7c4af/Camping%20recipes) ### Chilli Cheese Fries Who said you can’t make cheese fries in the woods? This recipe is dead simple and sure to be a hit for your little junk foodies. This is definitely *not* healthy, but not too unhealthy either. But you can always try to make it healthier by adding toppings like chopped up lettuce, tomatoes, pickles and bottled olives. ![Chili Cheese Fries](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/chilicheesefriesBBQ1.jpg "chilicheesefriesBBQ1 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Chilli Cheese Fries](https://www.thekitchenmagpie.com/campfire-chili-cheese-fries-tin-foil-dinner/) ### Camp Cooker Pizza Pie Pizza crust dough, shredded mozzarella, sliced pepperoni, and pizza sauce – how can yumminess get any easier? This camp pizza is so easy to assemble and cook in under 20 minutes! Seriously, what kid or kid-at-heart can resist pizza? ![Camp Cooker Pizza Pie | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Camp-Cooker-Pizza-8_thumb1.jpg "Camp-Cooker-Pizza-8_thumb1 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Camp Cooker Pizza Pie](https://homemadeheather.com/camp-cooker-pizza/) ### Campfire Potatoes Hot, savoury, with a kick of cayenne, I guarantee you’ll have more potatoes than steak with this perfect side dish. If you’re not up for potatoes, try sweet potatoes or kielbasa, or add on some sliced sausages. Don’t forget to load up on butter and onions! The perfect easy meal when camping. ![Campfire Potatoes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/mare_campfire_potatoes_h.jpg "mare_campfire_potatoes_h - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Bon Appetit](https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/campfire-potatoes) ### Italian Meatball Kabobs Here’s a recipe for a sneakily healthy handheld meal on a stick! To save time and keep your ingredients fresh, you can cut up the vegetables on the campsite. You can shape and freeze the meatballs beforehand then skewer everything together just before grilling. ![Italian Meatball Kabobs | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Italian-Meatball-Kabobs.jpg "Italian-Meatball-Kabobs - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Italian Meatball Kabobs](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/italian-meatball-kabobs/) ### Muffin Tin Eggs on the Campfire Just because you’re in the campsite doesn’t mean you can’t have something fancy! These muffin tin eggs make for a great, protein-rich breakfast. Pack a muffin tin for this *almost* bite-sized goodies. Top your eggs with bacon crumbles, sliced sausages, and chopped up fresh veggies! ![Muffin Tin Eggs on the Campfire](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Muffin-Tin-Eggs-On-The-Campfire.jpg "Muffin-Tin-Eggs-On-The-Campfire - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Muffin Tin Eggs on the Campfire](https://www.campingforfoodies.com/muffin-tin-eggs-campfire-recipe/) ### Seared Cod with Potato and Chorizo ![Seared cod with potato and chorizo | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/seared-cod-with-potato-and-chorizo-hobo-packs.jpg "seared-cod-with-potato-and-chorizo-hobo-packs - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Bon Appetit](https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/seared-cod-with-potato-and-chorizo-foil-pack-dinner) ## Easy meals for camping with family ### Brats with Peppers and Onions Don’t worry, I don’t mean those catty little versions of us. Bratwursts or brats are German pork sausages that can be either fried and grilled. You can top them with lots of caramelised onions or peppers or anything your kids would love! Leftover sausages can go to next morning’s breakfast! ![Brats with onions and peppers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/cast-iron-brats-campfire-cooking-4.jpg "cast-iron-brats-campfire-cooking-4 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Brats with Peppers and Onions](https://www.freshoffthegrid.com/cast-iron-brats-peppers-onions/) ### One Pot Chilli Mac For my house, anything one pot is perfect for camping. It combines two of America’s favourites, chilli and mac, which will surely find a place in your heart and tummy, too. This recipe is creamy, with a hint of spice, and lots of toppings. ![One Pot Chilli Mac | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Dutch-Oven-Chili-Mac-Camping-Meal.jpg "Dutch-Oven-Chili-Mac-Camping-Meal - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [One Pot Chilli Mac](https://www.freshoffthegrid.com/one-pot-chili-mac/) ### Camping-Style Budae Jjihae Get your and your teens’ Korean fix with this loaded instant noodle soup. For something cozy and hearty, why not try this hearty noodle soup for your next adventure? It requires minimal effort, minimal equipment, and minimal ingredients. You can easily swap ingredients with whatever’s available: leftover sausages, greens of your choice, or make it plant-based. Plus, there’s no need to drain the noodles – it’s meant to be brothy! ![Camping-style Budae Jjigae](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/budjae.jpeg "budjae - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Food Network](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/camping-style-budae-jjigae-12347758) ### Snags with Onions Grilled Australian sausage sandwiches on camping? Count me in! They’re easy to prep and incredibly yummy. The recipe calls for beer, but you can absolutely skip it to make your snags kid-friendly. ![Snags with onions | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/snags-with-onions-cooked-in-beer-83167-1.jpeg "snags-with-onions-cooked-in-beer-83167-1 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Taste AU](https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/snags-onions-cooked-beer/9d3b9cbc-7ab2-483d-a312-aaa5eb150e15?r=recipes/campingrecipes&c=a8e1bbff-1f53-4899-9dfc-72ff66f7c4af/Camping%20recipes) ### Frito Pie Now, camping is supposed to be fun, and for some of us, a bag of Fritos can be just that. Also called a walking taco, all you need to do is open a bag and top with chilli and your favourite trimmings. Your kids would surely love that they get to have their favourite corn chips. ![Frito Pie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/frito-pie.jpg "frito pie - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe pie: [Frito Pie](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a28914527/frito-pie-recipe/) ## Easy meals when camping with kids: Desserts ### Chocolate fondue & toasted marshmallow What is a camping trip without toasted marshmallows? Yummy dessert takes it to the next level with a delicious chocolate fondue which is oh-s0-easy to make. A absolute must for when it comes to easy meals for camping with family. ![Chocolate fondue and toasted marshmallows | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Screenshot-2023-03-06-at-4.11.07-pm.png "- Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/chocolate-fondue-toasted-marshmallow) ### Oreo Cookie Skillet I love skillet cookies and they are perfect for the outdoors, too! It has all of what kids and kids at heart love: cookies, Oreos, and marshmallow. ![Oreo Cookie Skillet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/oreo-cookie-skillet.jpg "oreo-cookie-skillet - Beanstalk Mums") Get the Recipe Here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a36519406/oreo-cookie-skillet-recipe/) ### Campfire Cinnamon Rolls Tired of s’mores? If you fancy something fancier than the usual camping fare, these cinnamon rolls are a surefire hit. ![Campfire Cinnamon Rolls | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/campfire-cinnamon-rolls.jpg "campfire-cinnamon-rolls - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a53636/campfire-cinnamon-rolls-recipe/) ### Peanut Butter Oreo Icebox Cake Your kids will surely love something cool after a long day of activities. This peanut butter Oreo icebox cake will make them looking forward to finish all their adventures. To save time from prep, make it ahead at home and pop in your cooler. ![Peanut Butter Oreo Icebox Cake | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/pb-oreo-icebox-cake.jpg "pb-oreo-icebox-cake - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Delish](https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a20952721/peanut-butter-icebox-cake-recipe/) ### French Toast Foil This camping twist on everyone’s favourite breakfast is so easy to make and even healthier than your regular French toast. You can also have some eggs on the side for those who’d want to have extra protein. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/foil-packets.jpeg "foil packets - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Food Network](https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/healthy-grilled-french-toast-foil-packets-3363738) ### Tropical Breakfast Bars Breakfast bars are great as a grab-and-go snack, for when the kids can’t wait to start their day. You can pack them individually in wax paper and slip into your kid’s backpack for an emergency snack. ![Tropical breakfast bars | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/tropical-breakfast-bars-31ec8ab.jpg "tropical-breakfast-bars-31ec8ab - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/tropical-breakfast-bars) ### Carrot Cake Flapjacks Carrot cake is absolutely a household favourite, and turning them into flapjacks has made it easier to enjoy them anytime my daughters want – even on a camping trip! Like the breakfast bars above, I wrap leftovers in wax paper and pop them in my kids’ bags for a quick snack. ![Carrot Cake Fridge Flapjacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Carrot-cake-fridge-flapjacks-07b2d15.jpg "Carrot-cake-fridge-flapjacks-07b2d15 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [BBC Good Food](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/carrot-cake-fridge-flapjacks) ### S’mores Three Ways S’mores are still a campfire fixture. Upgrade your s’mores game with these three twists to everyone’s favourite grilled marshmallows. ![Smores three ways](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/camping-recipes-smores-1652103270.jpeg "camping-recipes-smores-1652103270 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Country Living](https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/a28189946/smores-recipe/) ### Instant Pot Banana Bread If you have access to electricity in the campsite, why not make banana bread in your Instant Pot? It’s great to make on the last day of the trip to use up those overripe bananas. ![Instant Pot Banana Bread | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/InstantPotBananaBreadHERO-.jpg "InstantPotBananaBreadHERO- - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [The Spruce Eats](https://www.thespruceeats.com/instant-pot-banana-bread-recipe-4774611) ### Peach-Blackberry Camp Cake It’s impossible to mess up this skillet cake, making it perfect to cook in the campsite even for newbie campers. You can also switch the fruit to your favourites. ![Peach-Blackberry Camp Cake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/peach-blackberry-camp-cake.jpg "peach-blackberry-camp-cake - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Bon Appetit](https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/peach-blackberry-camp-cake) ### Salted Caramel Hot Chocolate Me and my daughters love waking up to a mug of hot chocolate. You can turn up the cozy on your family’s camping trip with this recipe. It’s a great way to warm the tummy and wake up their sleepy senses. ![Salted Caramel Hot Chocolate | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/salted-caramel-hot-chocolate-recipe.jpg "salted-caramel-hot-chocolate-recipe - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Wilton](https://www.wilton.com/salted-caramel-hot-chocolate/WLRECIP-748.html) ### Smores Bites Me and my kids call these “graham balls” and we used to make it all the time in the past. Easy-to-make, easy-to-eat, and they last the whole trip! These S’mores Bites are also a great way for the kids to help in preparing your dinner. ![Smores Bites](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/smores-bites-recipe.jpg "smores-bites-recipe - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Wilton](https://www.wilton.com/smores-bites/WLRECIP-770.html) ### No Bake Peanut Butter Cookies How can we forget no bake cookies? Great as a make ahead or on-site, you can swap the microwave portion of the instructions with the grill. Great to make with the kids as an end-of-the-day additional activity, too. ![No Bake Peanut Butter Cookies | Easy meals when camping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/WLRECIP-8861-no-bake-peanut-butter-cookies-1.jpg "WLRECIP-8861-no-bake--peanut-butter-cookies-1 - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Wilton](https://www.wilton.com/no-bake-peanut-butter-cookies/WLRECIP-8861.html) ### Banana Split This recipe is like S’mores but with bananas. If you haven’t tried roasting your ripe bananas before, you’re missing out on all the sweetness and flavour. It’s super easy to prep and almost impossible to screw up. ![Campfire Banana Splits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/6637546-campfire-banana-splits.jpg "6637546-campfire-banana-splits - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe from: [AllRecipes](https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/20038/campfire-banana-splits/) ### Campfire Peach Cobbler Yes, another peach cobbler and I’m not apologising. This is super easy to make, warm, and enjoyable. You can even make smaller individual batches using a muffin tin! ![Peach Cobbler](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/peach-cobbler.jpg "peach-cobbler - Beanstalk Mums") Get the recipe here: [Taste of Home](https://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/campfire-peach-cobbler/) ## HANDY TIPS FOR CREATING EASY MEALS WHILE CAMPING Preparing food while camping can be challenging, especially if you’re not used to cooking in the great outdoors. For this reason here are some tips make sure every meal is a success. - **Pack the right gear:** Make sure you have all the necessary cooking gear, including a stove, pots and pans, utensils, and a cooler to keep your food fresh. Don’t forget to bring plenty of fuel for your stove. Oh a storage containers to keep food fresh. - **Plan ahead:** Before you head out on your camping trip, make a [meal plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/printable-meal-planners/) and a shopping list. This will help you avoid overpacking and ensure that you have all the ingredients and equipment you need for the duration of your camping trip. - **Keep it simple:** Stick to simple, easy meals while camping that don’t require a lot of preparation. Any of the ones on this list would be ideal. - **Prep ahead of time:** If possible, do some of the meal prep ahead of time at home. This could include cutting up vegetables, marinating meat, or pre-cooking rice or pasta. Remember you want to enjoy this camping trip, not spend the whole time preparing meals. - **Use foil packets:** Foil packets are a great way to cook food over a campfire or on a grill. Simply wrap up your ingredients in aluminium foil and cook over the fire for an easy, mess-free meal. You can grab them at your local supermarket or dollar store. - **Practice food safety:** Always wash your hands before handling food and use separate cutting boards for raw meat and vegetables. Make sure to keep perishable food in a cooler with plenty of ice, and check the temperature regularly to make sure it stays below 40°F. This is especially important if you are camping in the heat. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-when-camping-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/easy-meals-when-camping-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food, Travel **Tags:** camping, caravan, camp fire, cooking stove --- ### [50 I am statements: Positive affirmations for well-being](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/i-am-statements/) **Published:** March 13, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Words are pretty powerful, and never more so than when put together the right way and used at the right time. That’s why I love I Am Statements. Also known as a I Am Affirmations. In fact, I can’t get enough of them. I use several different ones daily and am always doling them out to friends when they feel down, stressed, overwhelmed, or are in need of a boost. I’d love to share some of my favourites with you. In this article I take you through: - What is an I Am Statement - How can positive affirmations help in everyday life - How to find the right I Am Statement for you - How to use I Am Statements - Suggested I Am Statements for your life right now ***Further reading: [100 Mantras for mums to help you make it through the day.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/)*** ## What is an I Am Statement Positive self-affirmations like “I am” statements can be incredibly powerful tools in inspiring and motivating actions. When we repeat these statements and focus intently on what they represent, we are able to influence our behaviours, thoughts, and reactions. [Achieving realistic goals](https://collegeforadultlearning.edu.au/effective-goal-setting-set-and-achieve-goals/) is the objective and foundation for this process. The power of positive self-affirmations lies in the fact that they assist us to steadily build our emotional resilience and strength. It allows us to look at challenges in new ways, offering us perspectives that might have been overlooked previously. This can help us to remain optimistic and motivated even when facing hard times. The more positive affirmations we repeat, the better our chances of obtaining our desired end result or outcome. ## How can positive affirmations help in everyday life ### Regain your Self-Control I am sure you also experience days when you feel discouraged, but with the help of positive self-affirmations and a renewed focus on your objectives, you can regain your sense of control over anything that could have been holding you back. Positive affirmations not only help to keep you encouraged throughout our journey, but it also helps in overcoming your stress, anxiety, fear and other negative emotions. ### Build your confidence These positive affirmations can be used in any circumstance or situation, whether it is a job interview or even during tough times when you are feeling unmotivated. These self-affirmations will help to build your confidence and give you that extra kick of motivation you need to accomplish whatever task is before you. ### Feel more positive When we repeat positive affirmations, we remind ourselves of the power and strength that lies within us. This helps us feel more positive about our own capabilities, which in turn gives us the drive and motivation to go out there and get what we want from life! With consistent practice of these self-affirmations, your mood is likely to greatly improve, and you will find yourself in a better place mentally. ## How to find the right I Am Statement for you Girl, if you feel like you need a little more positivity in your life, creating an I Am Statement for yourself is a great way to start! Start by getting clear on what it is that you want to achieve and then create a simple statement that expresses the sentiment behind it. Be sure to: - Write/speak in the present tense - Keep it short and sweet - Be specific - Add at least one emotion or feeling word to your statement. - Visualise yourself achieving your goal when you say it because this will further enhance the power of the statement. - Lastly, make sure to be positive and focus on what you want – not what you don’t want. With some practice, affirmations can help create a more positive reality for yourself. So go ahead and give it a try today! ## How to use I Am Statements How many times do you find yourself repeating negative thoughts throughout the day? It is time to switch up those negative self-talk and use I Am Statements instead. Start by putting the statement on a sticky note and placing it somewhere visible such as your bathroom mirror or fridge door. You could put them inside your locker at work, have them pop up on your phone screen or set them as your screen saver. You can also read your I Am Statements aloud a few times a day, repeating them as often as needed until they become part of your regular thought process and mindset. With consistent practice, positive affirmations can help you become your confident and best self. So start using your I Am Statement today, and watch the positive changes unfold! ## Suggested I Am Statements for your life right now ### I Am Statements for mothers As a mother who is always juggling between emotions and responsibilities, it can be difficult to stay positive and motivated. But with the right I Am Statements, you can get the motivation you need to enjoy motherhood and appreciate all that comes along with it. Here are some I Am Statements for mothers: - I am strong enough to take on any challenge - I am learning every day and I’m becoming the best version of a mother I can be. - My children get all the love they need from me. - I am grateful for all the moments I get to spend with my children. - I create a loving and nurturing home environment for my family. - My children are happy and healthy, and so am I. - I am doing an amazing job as a mom. - No matter what comes my way, I am resilient and capable. - I have the power to create a positive and peaceful atmosphere in my home. - I give myself permission to make mistakes and learn from them. ### I Am Statements if you feel lonely I am sure that no matter how hard you try, our current situation or circumstance does not make it any simpler to feel connected and less lonely or deserted. I Am Statements can make you feel happier about yourself and the world around you. Here are some I Am Statements for when you feel alone: - I am surrounded by people who love and support me unconditionally. - I can find joy in the little things even when I am feeling lonely. - I have the strength to reach out and connect with others whenever I need it. - I look forward to making new connections that bring me joy and purpose. - I do not need anyone else’s approval or validation for my worth. - I am constantly learning and growing through my experiences. - I give myself permission to grieve what is lost and be thankful for what I have. - I can find strength in moments of solitude when necessary. - I choose to be kind, compassionate and understanding towards myself. - It’s okay to feel lonely sometimes, but I will not let it define who I am. ### I am Statements if you feel stressed We all know how stress can take a toll on our mental and physical health. I Am Statements can help you feel more empowered in tackling your stressors. Here are some I Am Statements for when you feel stressed and overwhelmed: - I am capable of managing my stress and anxiety effectively. - I take a few moments to practice mindfulness every day. - I always have the power to choose how I respond in challenging situations. - My stress does not determine my worth or define who I am. - No matter what happens, I create a safe and calming environment for myself. - I can find moments of peace throughout my day no matter what is going on. - I choose to be kind and forgiving towards myself - I am learning how to effectively manage my stress so that it does not control me. - I have the power to make positive changes in my life one day at a time. - I trust myself to know what is best for me and take care of myself. ### I Am Affirmations to practice gratitude What do you get when you combine I Am statements with gratitude? An attitude of gratefulness that can help you stay positive, no matter what life throws your way. Here are some I Am Statements for practicing gratitude: - I am thankful for the present moments and all the beauty they bring. - I choose to look at life with a sense of wonder and appreciation. - I am blessed to have the people and things that bring me joy. - I am grateful for the many opportunities and experiences life has given me. - I trust in myself to find the silver lining no matter what obstacles come my way. - No matter how tough times can be, I will always keep my heart open to gratitude. - I have the power to look on the bright side and discover new possibilities. - I am thankful for my resilience and ability to keep learning and growing. - I find joy in simple things like taking a walk or watching the sunset. - I am grateful for every moment of my life that brings me closer to my goals. - I give thanks for the beauty and love that surrounds me every day. ### Positive I Am Statements to brighten your day Of course, when you feel down, I Am Statements can also be a powerful instrument for boosting your mood and helping to make your day a little bit brighter. Here are some positive I Am Statements to brighten your day: - Today is an opportunity to become the best version of myself. - I am worthy of feeling happiness no matter what my circumstances are. - I can find joy and positivity in the smallest of moments. - No matter what I face today, I will stay resilient and focused. - I have the power to make my dreams a reality no matter how big or small. - Every day, I choose to live life with intention and purpose. - I will remain open-minded and discover new possibilities today. - I am strong enough to make it through any challenge that comes my way. - I have the ability to find joy in life’s simple pleasures. - I am grateful for all the wonderful people who bring me light and love. With the right I Am Affirmations, you can now start feeling more confident and empowered than ever before. Whether you are a mother, feeling lonely or have another challenge in life – these affirmations can help you create a more positive and uplifting reality for yourself. Don’t underestimate their power – repeat these statements every day and you’ll soon start to feel a whole lot better! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/i-am-statements/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/i-am-statements/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** positive thinking, affirmations, quotes, mindset --- ### [How to write a letter from the tooth fairy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/letter-from-the-tooth-fairy/) **Published:** March 11, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** With much drama and excitement, your child’s tooth has fallen out. You’re are emotional and they are bright-eyed with expectation as they await a letter from The Tooth Fairy. This is your first ever Tooth Fairy letter and you want to be sure to get it right. But, where to start? What to write? Should you include money? If so, how much? Most importantly, how can you ensure your tooth fairy letter looks authentic and you don’t do the worst thing a parent can do: Give the game away! Having been through two sets of baby teeth with my girls (that’s 40 teeth btw!) here are my thoughts on how to prepare the perfect letter from The Tooth Fairy. Further reading: [8 Terrifying facts to scare your kid’s into brushing their teeth.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-terrifying-facts-to-scare-your-kids-into-brushing-their-teeth/) ## Wording suggestions for a letter from tooth fairy As children grow and begin to lose their baby teeth, one of the most magical experiences for them is the visit from the Tooth Fairy. For many parents, this presents an opportunity to create a special moment for their children and to help them make sense of this transition. One way to do this is to leave a letter from the Tooth Fairy, congratulating the child on their bravery and offering words of encouragement. But what should the Tooth Fairy say in her letter? Finding the right wording can be challenging, which is why we’ve put together some suggestions to get you started. ### Tooth Fairy first tooth letter > Dear \[CHILD’S NAME\] > > I was watching when you lost your very first tooth! Congratulations! You were very brave and I am so happy to be a part of this special and exciting experience. > > Losing your first tooth means you are growing up. These past years, I have been happily watching you taking such great care of your teeth. And I am so proud of your courage when you let go of that first tooth. > > Were you scared when you lost your first tooth? Don’t worry. I am here to make sure you have magical memories of this experience. > > Thank you for leaving your tooth under your pillow for me. I love getting the teeth from good children and leaving a gift in return. I hope that you will like the present I have left for you. It’s in the bottom drawer of your chest. > > Continue taking good care of your teeth. I’m excited to see you again next time. > > Keep smiling! > > Sweet dreams and lots of love, > > The Tooth Fairy ### Letter from Tooth Fairy for any tooth > Dear \[CHILD’S NAME\] > > I heard the news that you lost a tooth! Congratulations! I am so proud of you. Losing teeth can be scary sometimes, but you were so brave and handled it like a champ. You are growing up so fast! > > Did you know that every time you lose a tooth, it means you are growing bigger and stronger? And it also means that you are getting closer and closer to becoming a grown-up. But don’t worry, you still have plenty of time to enjoy being a kid and having fun. > > As a reward for being so brave, I have left a little gift for you under your pillow. I hope you like it! Keep up the good work taking care of your teeth, and I will be back to visit you soon. > > Sweet dreams and lots of love, > > The Tooth Fairy ### Tooth Fairy letter for lost tooth > Dear \[CHILD’S NAME\] > > I heard the news that you lost a tooth! Although it might be lost somewhere, don’t worry, I can still feel the magic in the air. Sometimes teeth can be tricky and slip away, but it’s all a part of growing up and becoming bigger each day. > > Even though I couldn’t find your tooth under your pillow, I still wanted to visit you and leave you a little something special. You were so brave to lose a tooth, and I want to congratulate you on being such a big and strong kid. > > Remember to keep taking good care of your teeth by brushing and flossing every day. That way, when your next tooth falls out, we will be ready for another visit. > > Sweet dreams and lots of love, > > The Tooth Fairy ### Tooth Fairy letter for last baby tooth > Dear \[CHILD’S NAME\] > > Congratulations! I just heard the most exciting news, that your last baby tooth fell out! I am so happy for you and proud of how much you have grown. This is such a special moment, and I wanted to make sure I was the first to congratulate you. > > Do you know what losing your last baby tooth means? It means you are all grown up now! You are a big kid, and I am so excited to see all the amazing things you will do in the future. I know you will continue to be kind, brave, and wonderful just like you are now. > > As a special treat, I have left you a little something under your pillow. I hope it brings a smile to your face and reminds you of this magical moment. > > Thank you for being such a special child, and for making my job as Tooth Fairy so much fun. Keep smiling and taking care of your big kid teeth, and remember that I will always be watching over you. > > Lots of love, > > The Tooth Fairy ## Tooth Fairy letter templates Now, if you’re not confident in your writing (or if you simply don’t have the time), there are ready-made templates available online that you can download. I found three that are totally different from mine, but which I really wish I found when my daughters were little! ### Pre written girly letter The first template I found is super cute and short. It’s perfect for younger kids, especially our girly ones. The wordings are simple yet The Tooth Fairy’s message remains. ### [![Adorable Tooth Fairy Letter For Girls - Cassie Smallwood](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/tooth_fairy_1-309x400.jpg "tooth_fairy_1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/442689838382034929/) You may download this template at: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/442689838382034929/) ### Letter from tooth fairy template This second template is great for when your kid loses their succeeding teeth. What’s great about this template is that it can be used for boys and girls. Your child can also keep track of the teeth they lose with this visual record. [![Tooth Fairy Report by The Suburban Mom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Tooth-Fairy-Report-267x400.jpg "Tooth-Fairy-Report - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.thesuburbanmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Tooth-Fairy-Report.jpg)You may download this template at: [Suburban Mom](https://www.thesuburbanmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Tooth-Fairy-Report.jpg) ### An official letter from The Tooth Fairy Lastly, we have a Tooth Fairy Poem. A unisex template, you can use this to send to boys and girls. Because the creators of the template are dentists, it includes how your child can take care of their teeth, such as brushing, flossing, and eating healthy food. So, this is a both a magical letter and a learning resource. This is great to build your child’s poetry skills and vocabulary, too! [![Letter from the Tooth Fairy by Purcellville Pediatric Dentistry](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/ToothFairyLetter-02-400x300.png "ToothFairyLetter-02 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.novatoothfairy.com/hub_sites/monajemy-nooshin/www/assets/uploads/images/ToothFairyLetter-02.png)You may download this template at: [Purcellville Pediatric Dentistry](https://www.novatoothfairy.com/hub_sites/monajemy-nooshin/www/assets/uploads/images/ToothFairyLetter-02.png) ## How much money does The Tooth Fairy leave? You can leave from anything from 5c to $5, but there’s really no set amount. It depends largely on your family’s financial situation. Don’t worry too much about it. In my experience with my kids, they don’t really care about how much money they get. For most kids, it’s the experience of receiving a gift that they really treasure. If you are trying to stay away from giving them money, you can leave them simple items they’d love. For example, The Tooth Fairy gave my youngest daughter her first pearl hair clip. She loved it so much! ## What else to consider ### Your kid’s age The length, style and contents of the letter should, of course, suit the age and reading level of your child. For young children, you can start with their poems and rhymes. As they age, the letters should be more lengthy and contain more information about their dental health. By the time your child loses his/her last baby tooth, she would have known that you are The Tooth Fairy. This time, you can add more details about your expectations for their dental hygiene. ### Personalise the letter according to your kid’s interests Take note of your child’s age and interests. As a mum, you know what your kid likes. Make sure the wording and design of your letter is suited to what your kid wants. Think: > Does your kid love poems? > > Does your kid love sparkles and glitters? > > Or are they more interested in scholarly or adventure stuff? That personal touch would make The Tooth Fairy’s letter even more magical! ### Different letter for different kids If you have children around the same age, make sure The Tooth Fairy writes them different letters. This way, your younger kid wouldn’t find the exact same letter in the older sibling’s things. At least for me as a child, there’s nothing more disappointing than finding out I’m not unique! So, make a little bit of effort and make the letters different. Sure, sooner or later our kids would find out the hard truth. But as long as they’re children, we parents should make their lives as magical and as wonderful as we can. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/letter-from-the-tooth-fairy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/letter-from-the-tooth-fairy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** tooth fairy, baby teeth --- ### [Homeschool payments and benefits for single parents 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/homeschool-payments/) **Published:** March 2, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** In recent years, homeschooling has become an increasingly popular option for many families in Australia. For this reason, there is more interest in than ever in homeschool payments. For single parents, the decision to homeschool their children can present unique challenges, particularly when it comes to finances. With many single parents already struggling to make ends meet, the additional costs associated with homeschooling, such as curriculum materials, technology, and educational resources, can be overwhelming. In this article, we explore the various financial support options available to single parents who choose to homeschool their children in Australia in 2023, as well as how to access these resources. By understanding the financial support available for homeschool payments, you can make an informed decision about whether homeschooling is a viable option for you and your family. Note: Eligibility criteria and payment amounts for benefits may vary depending on individual circumstances, and not all families will be eligible for every benefit. It’s recommended that homeschooling families research each benefit thoroughly and speak to a qualified government agency to determine which benefits you may be eligible for. ***Related reading: [Understanding single parent benefits in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-benefits-australia/)*** ## Homeschool payments and benefits for single parents ### Family Tax Benefit (FTB) Family Tax Benefit (FTB) is a payment provided by the Australian government to eligible families to assist with the cost of raising children. Homeschooling parents in Australia may be eligible for FTB, provided they meet certain criteria. To be eligible for FTB, homeschooling parents must: - Have a dependent child who is under the age of 16 (or under the age of 19 if they are still studying full-time) - Be responsible for the day-to-day care of the child - Must meet residency requirements (i.e., they must be an Australian resident or hold a special category visa) - Must pass an income test, which takes into account the parent’s income, the number of children in their care, and other relevant factors The amount of FTB received by homeschooling parents will vary depending on their individual circumstances. The payment is means-tested, meaning that it is calculated based on the parent’s income and other factors, such as the number of children in their care and their age. In addition to FTB, homeschooling parents may also be eligible for the FTB supplement, which is a payment made at the end of the financial year to families who received FTB during the year. The FTB supplement is designed to provide additional assistance to families who are raising children on lower incomes. Note: Families must meet ongoing eligibility requirements to continue receiving FTB. This may include keeping up-to-date with child immunisations, attending health checks, and meeting income reporting requirements. ***More about [Family Tax Benefit (FTB).](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/family-tax-benefit)*** ### Child Care Subsidy (CCS) Child Care Subsidy (CCS) is a payment provided by the Australian government to eligible families to help cover the cost of approved child care services. While homeschooling parents in Australia may not use traditional child care services, they may still be eligible for CCS if they meet certain criteria. To be eligible for CCS as a homeschooling parent, you must meet the following requirements: - You must be the primary carer of your child and provide a homeschooling program that meets the government’s homeschooling requirements - Your child must be of the eligible age (i.e. between 5 and 12 years old) and meet other CCS eligibility criteria, such as being immunized and attending regular health checks - You must meet the income and activity test requirements, which consider your income, the number of hours you work or study, and other relevant factors If you are eligible for CCS as a homeschooling parent, you may receive a percentage of the subsidy rate, which varies depending on your income and other factors. The subsidy rate may be up to 85% of your childcare fees, subject to an annual cap. The subsidy can be paid directly to the homeschooling parent, rather than a traditional child care provider. Note: The CCS program has specific rules and requirements for homeschooling parents, such as ensuring that the homeschooling program is registered and meets government requirements. Additionally, the subsidy may only be paid for approved hours of care, which may differ for homeschooling programs compared to traditional child care services. ***More about [Child Care Subsidy (CCS).](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/child-care-subsidy)*** ### Newstart at a higher rate Newstart is a government payment provided by the Australian Department of Social Services to eligible individuals who are unemployed and looking for work. It is designed to help support individuals financially while they search for employment and is part of Australia’s social welfare system. To be eligible for Newstart, you must be an Australian resident, be aged between 22 and Age Pension age, and meet income and asset tests. You must also be actively seeking employment and meet the job search and other requirements set out by the Australian government. If you are a single parent, you may also be eligible for the Parenting Payment in addition to, or instead of, Newstart. The [Australian Government Social Security Guide](https://guides.dss.gov.au/social-security-guide/5/1/8/20) states you are eligible for the highest rate of payment if you are: > *Single principal carer with an exemption from mutual obligation requirements EITHER:* > > - *Because of caring for large family or foster child/ren, OR* > - *Who is a home or distance educator of child/ren in their care.* ***More about the [Newstart allowance.](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/newstart-allowance)*** ### Centrelink Mutual Obligations for homeschooling single parents Centrelink Mutual Obligation requirements refer to the activities that job seekers must do to receive their income support payments, such as attending appointments, undertaking job search activities, and participating in training or work experience programs. However, in some cases, Centrelink may grant exemptions from these requirements, including for homeschooling single parents. To qualify for a mutual obligation exemption, homeschooling single parents must provide evidence to Centrelink that they are actively engaged in homeschooling their child/children. This may include providing details of the curriculum and learning activities, submitting learning plans and assessments, and demonstrating regular attendance and participation in homeschooling-related events. Once Centrelink has approved the exemption, homeschooling single parents will not be required to participate in mutual obligation activities for the duration of the exemption period. This means they can focus on providing education to their child/children without having to balance their responsibilities with job search activities. Note: Mutual obligation exemptions are granted on a case-by-case basis, and the eligibility criteria and exemption periods may vary depending on the individual’s circumstances. Additionally, Centrelink may periodically review the exemption to ensure that the homeschooling activities are ongoing and meeting the required standards. ***More about [Mutual Obligation Requirements.](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/mutual-obligation-requirements?context=51411)*** ## Homeschool payments and benefits for single parents (cont.) - - ### Assistance for Isolated Children (AIC) Assistance for Isolated Children (AIC) is a financial assistance program offered by the Australian government to help families who live in isolated or remote areas provide educational opportunities for their children. The program is designed to support families with homeschool payments and benefits for single parents 2023 who live in areas where there are no local schools or where distance and travel time to school is significant. To be eligible for AIC, families must meet certain criteria. Firstly, they must live in an area classified as “isolated” or “remote” by the Australian government. Secondly, the child must be a full-time student between the ages of 7 and 16 years old and be studying an approved course. Finally, the family must not have access to a school or distance education service within a reasonable distance of their home. If you meet these eligibility criteria, you may be able to receive financial assistance through AIC to help cover the costs associated with educating your child. The types of assistance available may include: - **Boarding allowance:** This allowance can help cover the costs of sending your child to a boarding school or hostel if there are no suitable educational options available near your home. - **Second home allowance:** This allowance may be available to help cover the costs of setting up and maintaining a second home closer to a school if there are no educational options available within reasonable travel distance of your primary residence. - **Distance education allowance:** This allowance can help cover the costs of enrolling your child in a distance education program, which may include access to online learning resources and support from remote teachers. To apply for AIC, you will need to complete an application form and provide supporting documentation, such as proof of your child’s enrolment in an approved course, evidence of your residential address, and any other relevant information requested by the Australian government. You can submit your application online or by mail, and it will be assessed by the Department of Education, Skills and Employment. More about [Assistance for Isolated Children (AIC).](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/assistance-for-isolated-children-scheme) ### State-specific funding for homeschool payments 1. In Australia, there are state-specific funding programs available to assist homeschooling families, including single parents. These programs can help with the cost of educational resources, materials, and programs that may be required for homeschooling. For example, in New South Wales, the Home Schooling Assistance Program (HSAP) provides funding to homeschooling families to help with the cost of educational resources and activities. To be eligible for HSAP, families must be registered with the NSW Education Standards Authority (NESA), and must meet specific criteria. Similarly, in Victoria, the Homeschooling Support Fund provides financial assistance to families who are homeschooling their children. The fund can be used to cover the cost of educational materials, resources, and programs that may be required for homeschooling. Other states and territories in Australia also have specific funding programs available for homeschooling families. For example, in Queensland, families may be eligible for the Distance Education Allowance, which provides financial assistance to families who are living in isolated areas or are unable to attend school for medical reasons. Note: The eligibility criteria and funding amounts may vary depending on the state or territory in which you reside. To find out more information about state-specific funding programs for homeschooling families, it’s recommended that you contact your local education department about your eligibility for homeschool payments. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/homeschool-payments/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/homeschool-payments/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Education **Tags:** education, school, learning, learn from home --- ### [Our favourite celebrity single mums (with quotes)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/favourite-celebrity-single-mums/) **Published:** March 1, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As the divorce rate rises, the status of ‘single mum’ is becoming very much the norm. The skill set acquired on the journey to becoming a single mum makes these women strong, powerful and determined. Is it any wonder we see more and more of them in the public eye? Celebrity single mums are dominating the world stage, proving to paparazzi and public alike, what we knew already .. that single mums are superstars. These fabulously famous women own the spotlight in which they so comfortably saunter. They are capable, beautiful, high-achieving women, who have worked their butts off to get to where they are today. Remind you of anyone? Hats off to these megastar mummas who are showing the world just what single mothers are capable off. Of course we are all the star of the show in our children’s eyes. But let’s look at some of these celebrity single mums who mix single motherhood and superstar status so smoothly. ***Further reading: [Why single mums are really superheroes.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-single-mums-are-super-heroes/)*** ## OUR FAVOURITE CELEBRITY SINGLE MUMS (WITH QUOTES\_ ### Sandra Bullock Not only is Sandra a talented actress and producer, but she’s also a single mum to two adorable children. And she’s not afraid to get real about the struggles of parenting. In a recent interview, she joked: > *“I’m a great mum. I’m like a teamster mum. I’m like, ‘Where’s my coffee? Where’s my danish?’”* ### Halle Berry Halle Berry is a Hollywood icon and a single mum to two children. She’s been candid about the challenges of parenting, but she’s also quick to laugh at herself. In an interview with The Guardian, she said: > *“I’m not sure I’m qualified to give parenting advice. I mean, I can tell you what not to do, but that’s about it. Just don’t leave your kids in the car with the windows up. That’s a bad idea.”* ### Angelina Jolie Angelina Jolie is one of the most famous celebrity mums in the world, and she’s been raising her six children on her own since her split with Brad Pitt. But she’s not one to dwell on the negative. In an interview with Vanity Fair, she said: > *“I actually feel more of a woman because I’m being smart about my choices, and I’m putting my family first, and I’m in charge of my life and my health. I think that’s what makes a woman complete.”* [via GIPHY](https://giphy.com/gifs/love-funny-film-MpehdbMRPS6eA) ### Charlize Theron Charlize Theron is not only a talented actress, but she’s also a proud single mum to two adopted children. And she’s not afraid to poke fun at herself. In an interview with Ellen DeGeneres, she said: > *“I am a single mum. I don’t know if you know this, but I have two kids. They’re both black, which is weird.”* ### Kate Hudson Kate Hudson is a beloved actress and a single mum to three children. She’s also known for her quick wit and sense of humour. In an interview with The New York Times, she admits: > *“I think a good mum is a happy mum. And I think that the happiest mums are the ones who have a glass of wine at night.”* ## CELEBRITY SINGLE MUMS (CONT.) ### Jennifer Lopez Jennifer Lopez is an actress, singer, and single mum to twins. She’s known for her stunning performances and her ageless beauty. In an interview with Today, she joked: > *“Being a single mum is like running a marathon every day. But with more laundry.”* ### Adele Adele is a Grammy-winning singer and single mum to one son. She’s known for her powerful voice and relatable music. In an interview with Rolling Stone, she bantered: > *“I’m just a mum, I don’t want to be anyone’s role model. Except maybe for my kid, but he’s stuck with me.”* [via GIPHY](https://giphy.com/gifs/brits-brits-2022-brit-awards-tON54JfIBqAVkohls7) ### January Jones January Jones is an actress and a single mum to one son. She’s known for her daring fashion choices and her dry sense of humour. In an interview with Red magazine, she said: > *“I’m constantly learning and making mistakes, but that’s what being a parent is all about. You have to be willing to get your hands dirty and just go for it.”* ### Mary J. Blige Mary J. Blige is a music legend and a single mum to one son. She’s known for her powerful voice and her empowering lyrics. In an interview with Essence, she said: > *“Being a single mum is tough, but it’s also the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I’m raising a young king, and I take that responsibility very seriously.”* ### Mariah Carey Mariah Carey is a legendary singer and songwriter, and also a proud single mum to twins. She’s known for her iconic voice, diva persona, and her hilarious social media posts. In an interview with People, she said: > *“Being a single mum is hard work, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.”* [via GIPHY](https://giphy.com/gifs/mariah-carey-reaction-gif-my-tumblr-is-bleak-and-non-festive-IrEVUZ01POOpG) ## Final words: Celebrity single mums In conclusion, being a single mum is not an easy task, but these celebrity single mums have shown that it is possible to balance a successful career and raise their children with grace, humour, and love. Through their hard work and dedication, these celebrity single mums have proven that nothing is impossible when it comes to motherhood. They have inspired us with their stories, their strength, and their ability to make us laugh. They are true warriors, and we are grateful for their presence in the world. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/favourite-celebrity-single-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/favourite-celebrity-single-mums/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** celebrities, famous, star --- ### [Child ear piercing: What to consider](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-ear-piercing/) **Published:** February 18, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Child ear piercing is a decision that many parents face. Your little one wants to get his or her ears pierced so you have to decide whether to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Suddenly you’re looking at child’s ears everywhere to see who has piercings. You realise some have, some haven’t, and … well, with your child begging you with wide eyes and a somewhat grating whinge … it’s hard to make a decision. Everyone’s situation is different, and there are no hard or fast rules. I dealt with each of my children differently when the inevitable request came, and I recommend that you do the same. To help you make an informed decision you can stand by, here are some essential things to consider before deciding whether or not to allow your child to get their ears pierced. ## Your child’s pain threshold First stop is to consider your child’s pain threshold because ear piercing can, at the very least, be uncomfortable, if not painful. Ask yourself this very simple question: > *Is my child going to handle it?* If the answer no, then wait a bit. Explain why you feel ear piercing is not right for him or her at this time. Some children can be quite traumatised by the experience if they are not ready for it. Only you know whether your little one is going to be able to take it in their stride. ## Child ear piercing and sports Another essential thing to consider is whether earrings will be an issue with the sports they play. It is possible that a child’s earrings could get in the way of certain sports activities. For example, dangling or hoop earrings may pose a risk of getting caught on equipment or clothing during active play, and studs may still pose a risk of injury if they are hit or pushed into the earlobe. For safety reasons, it is often recommended that children remove their earrings before participating in sports or other physical activities. In fact, many sports organisations and schools have specific rules or guidelines in place regarding the wearing of jewellery during athletic events. Remember that when the ears are first pierced you shouldn’t remove the studs for at least 6-weeks. We got caught out with this thinking we could just remove them straight-away. ## Peer pressure to get their ears pierced Peer pressure can be a common experience for children when it comes to getting their ears pierced. Children may feel pressure to conform to the expectations of their peers or to fit in with a particular group. As a parent or caregiver, it is important to have open and honest conversations with your child about the decision to get their ears pierced. Encourage your child to make their own decision based on their own feelings and preferences, rather than feeling pressured to do something because of their peers. ## Whether their siblings have their ears pierced As a parent, you will know it is super important to treat both your children the same. This means if you let the oldest have their ears pierced when they were ten, you have to allow the same with your younger children. Of course, just because they are siblings, does not mean they have the same characters. For this reason, you might feel that what is right for one child is not right for another. Even if you haven’t thought of it, I am sure your child will bring the fact that their older sibling has their ears pierced into the argument. ## The age of your child The right age to get ears pierced is a matter of personal and cultural preference, and there is no set age at which it is appropriate to pierce a child’s ears. However, it is generally recommended that children should be old enough to take care of their piercings properly and understand the potential risks and responsibilities that come with wearing earrings. Many piercing establishments have age restrictions and require parental consent for minors. Some establishments may have a minimum age requirement of 12 or 13, while others may allow children as young as six-months to get their ears pierced with a parent’s consent. My advice here is not only to consider your child’s age but also their maturity level, and ability to take care of their piercings. ## Different metals used for child ear piercing The best metal for ear piercing is typically surgical-grade stainless steel or 14K gold. These metals are considered to be [hypoallergenic](https://www.romadesignerjewelry.com/blogs/education/jewelry-question-what-metals-are-hypoallergenic), meaning that they are less likely to cause an allergic reaction or infection. Surgical-grade stainless steel is a popular choice for ear piercing because it is durable, affordable, and resistant to corrosion and tarnishing. It is also easy to clean and sanitise, which makes it a good option for those concerned about hygiene. Gold is another popular choice for ear piercing because it is hypoallergenic and resistant to tarnishing. 14K gold, which is an alloy of gold and other metals, is a good choice because it is less expensive than higher karat golds, but still contains enough gold to be considered hypoallergenic. Most reputable ear-piercers will be working with one of these metals but it is worth checking before you give them the go ahead to pierce your little ones ears. ## Whether to opt for a piercing gun or a needle Interestingly, both my girls had their ears pierced with a piercing gun but now it is generally recommended to use a needle rather than a piercing gun. The main reason for this is that needles are typically considered to be more precise, less traumatic, and less likely to cause unnecessary tissue damage than piercing guns. Piercing guns use a spring-loaded mechanism to force the earring through the earlobe, which can cause more tissue damage and trauma than a needle, as well as increased pain and discomfort. Piercing guns are also more difficult to sterilise properly, which can increase the risk of infection. If you are unsure, talk to your piercer about the pros and cons so you can make an educated decision that work for your child. ## Where to get your child’s ears pierced When it comes to getting a child’s ears pierced, there are a few different options to consider: ### Professional piercing studio I got both my daughters ears pierced at professional piercing studios, which are often part of tattoo parlours. These are typically the safest and most hygienic option for getting a child’s ears pierced. They use sterile needles or other piercing equipment, and are experienced in proper piercing technique and aftercare. ### Paediatricians office Some paediatricians may offer ear piercing services, which can be a convenient option for parents. Make sure to inquire about the piercing method and aftercare instructions, and ensure that the equipment and procedure are safe and hygienic. ### Retail stores Some retail stores, such as jewellery stores or department stores, may offer ear piercing services for children. While this can be a convenient option, it is important to ensure the store is fully trained and insured to pierce ears. Regardless of where you choose to get your child’s ears pierced, it is important to do your research and choose a safe, hygienic, and reputable option. Be sure to ask about the piercing method, aftercare instructions, and any potential risks or complications before making a decision. ### Religious and cultural views on ear piercings Ear piercing is a common practice in many cultures and religions, and can have various meanings and significance depending on the cultural or religious context. Here are some examples: - In some cultures, such as India and Pakistan, ear piercing is considered a rite of passage for both boys and girls. It is often done at a young age, and can have both cultural and religious significance. - In many Latino cultures, ear piercing is a common tradition for girls and is often done in infancy or early childhood. - In many African cultures, ear piercing is also a common practice and can have various meanings and significance depending on the region and community. - In some Native American cultures, ear piercing is considered a sacred tradition and can be part of a healing or spiritual ceremony. - In some Jewish and Muslim traditions, it is common to pierce the ears of a baby girl during a religious ceremony or celebration, such as a bris or aqiqah. It is important to respect and understand the cultural and religious significance of ear piercing in different communities, and to approach the practice with sensitivity and cultural competence. ***Further reading: [How to talk to your daughter about her period (from the pros).](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/talk-to-your-daughter-about-her-period/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-ear-piercing/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/child-ear-piercing/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** ear piercing, pierced, piercing gun, piercing needle --- ### [8 Signs that your relationship is really over](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/signs-relationship-is-over/) **Published:** February 15, 2023 **Author:** Cheryl Duffy **Content:** It’s such a horrible feeling when you realise that what was once a special relationship, is now coming to an end. In fact, it is so upsetting that many of us (myself included) will chose to ignore the signs that the relationship is really over. In some cases, your relationship running it’s course will be obvious and you absolutely know that breaking up is the right thing to do. But what if you are not sure? Or you feeling conflicted by your feelings and can’t see a clear path through? In this article, I talk you through some obvious (and not so obvious) signs that your relationship is possibly not worth saving. It’s really important to know these signs because staying in an unhealthy, unhappy relationship is damaging for both you and your partner. And how one relationship ends can often determine the course of your next relationship. Here are eight signs that your relationship is really over. ***Further reading: [The top 10 comfort foods to get over a breakup.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-top-10-comfort-foods-to-get-over-a-breakup/)*** ## 1. GUT FEELING THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS OVER Your gut feeling tells you something isn’t right. You can’t seem to put your finger on it but you’re always feeling as though something is wrong. You don’t feel at ease and every attempt to create happy moments fall flat leaving you feeling dissatisfied with life. I have been there and I can tell you it’s a sure sign that your relationship is over. You will know it when he starts to ignore you or when he starts giving you the cold shoulder, leaving you feeling rejected and unimportant. You will feel it in your gut that something is ending especially when he starts to act differently around you. You know that there is something wrong though you can’t quite pinpoint it. Most of the time, our feelings are right and your gut feeling that things are over is a sign you should listen to. Sometimes, he makes it clear. Your partner may be exhibiting distance behaviour, avoiding eye contact, not talking to you, or even lying about his whereabouts and who he spends time with. All these may be a good clue that something is not right in your relationship and that is beyond repair. ## 2. SELF-SABOTAGING You or your partner are self-sabotaging to escape the reality of unhappiness in the relationship. This may include: - Drinking - Comfort eating - Gambling - Taking drugs If there are no other major stressor in your lives such as work, family, then you need to look at your relationship to conclude whether it is what is causing your discontent with life. Do you or your partner find yourselves engaging in self-destructive behaviours like drinking, comfort eating, gambling, or taking drugs? If there are no other major stressors in life such as work or family issues, then it may be time to check the relationship and determine if that is what’s causing unhappiness. Don’t let yourself be dragged down by a relationship that isn’t working – make the decision today to get back on track and live happier! ## 3. NO QUALITY TIME No longer do both of you spend the same amount of quality time you used to enjoy. From long walks in the park, going to the movies, watching your favourite TV programs, engaging in stimulating conversations late into the night, and taking part in recreational hobbies together, many of these activities have slowly been replaced by solo ventures or group get-togethers outside the relationship. You’re spending less and less time together as a couple. Instead of being present at the moment and enjoying each other’s company, your partner may choose to spend their free time on their individual interests or with friends. This lack of quality time can leave you feeling neglected, lonely, and disconnected from your partner. ## 4. PARTNERS’ FAULTS ARE AMPLIFIED Your partner’s faults overshadow their good traits and you’re starting to dislike them as a person. Times together are often ending up in arguments, frustration or resentment. This can ultimately cause the bad times to outweigh the good times. Conflict between you and your partner will become more frequent and intense, leaving little room to move forward in the relationship. You may find it difficult to talk things through as arguments erupt quickly and nobody is willing to settle and compromise. These conditions make the relationship almost impossible to repair. You or your partner may feel like the other person is always at fault for clashes and disagreements. This can lead to a cycle of blame and resentment that only further distances you from each other. When this happens, you will know that you need to make a decision about ending the relationship. ## 5. POOR COMMUNICATION Communication is the lifeblood of relationships and lack of communication in a relationship indicates that something is wrong. When communication breaks down, couples often struggle to reconnect and re-establish their bond with each other. And the longer it takes for a communication to be re-established, the harder it becomes to recover from problems, making it difficult to trust each other and build a strong relationship. You aren’t communicating and both of you seem very despondent. Your partner use to be the first person you would call whenever you had good news or bad, because they were your best friend or confidante. You may feel neither of you have anything in common to talk about. Even when things annoy you, you don’t bother raising it as an issue anymore as you think: > *‘What’s the point.’* When you are in love, you want to share almost everything including the littlest of things that happened to you in the day. The lack of or poor communication is a clear sign that the relationship is on its way out. If this symptom sounds familiar to you, it’s time to take stock of your relationship and assess the situation. It can be grueling to come to terms with ending a long-term relationship, but sometimes it’s for the best. ## 6. NO FUTURE When you think of your life ahead you don’t actually see your partner as part of your future. You don’t talk about things you can both look forward to or common goals you both aspire to. You can often think: > *‘Is this it? Is this the best life is going to get.’* You start to feel like you’re on different paths and the interests of your partner no longer align with yours. This is a sign that it might be time to move on, as it demonstrates the relationship is no longer fulfilling for both parties. There may even be instances when you or your partner feel like you’re missing out on something else. This can manifest as apathy and an unwillingness to put in effort into the relationship, further eroding it from within. If you find these signs familiar, then there is a good chance that your relationship has gone off track and it may be excruciating to get back in sync with each other. When you no longer see the potential for a future together, then it is wise to think about and consider ending the relationship. Ending a long-term relationship can be heartbreaking and daunting but sometimes it’s for the best. If any of these signs of no future resonate with you, then it might be time to take stock of your relationship and assess where it stands. A lack of a future is a symptom of a relationship that might be beyond repair. ## 7. DISCONNECTED When you first met, you almost instantly felt the connection but now, it seems like you’re two separate individuals. You don’t feel close to each other anymore, almost as if you’re not even in the same room. This can be a sign that your relationship is calling for an end. As time goes by the connection has been lost with no intimacy or affection. You can actually feel more like flatmates than partners. Everything that you once shared has been pushed away or buried. This can cause both partners to feel disconnected and anxious, fearing the relationship is heading toward a breakup. Even when you are together in one shelter, you may feel like you two are miles away. You can see them physically but feel like you can’t connect. The connection is clearly gone between the two of you, and it can leave both of you feeling anxious and vulnerable, knowing that things have changed drastically since before. ## 8. VALUES MISALIGNED Your values may be mismatched causing conflict in areas such as: - Integrity - Honesty - Work ethic - Family You both have your own values that you acknowledge before when you are happy together but now they seem to be conflicting with each other. If both of you have different values and views on things, it may create a disconnection in your relationship, making it harder for the two of you to connect. This sense of disconnection can cause feelings of frustration and resentment that damage the relationship’s bond. No matter how hard you try to acknowledge or understand each others values, you may find it increasingly challenging to align them. This then leads to arguments or clashes, which makes both sides feel misunderstood and unappreciated. You will know when your relationship is heading to an end when you started to see that your values are no longer compatible. If this is the case, it may be better to end the relationship before both of you get too hurt and resentful toward each other. It’s important to remember that a breakup may not necessarily mean your values are wrong, it just means they are no longer suited for each other. ## CONCLUSION: 8 Signs that your relationship is really over If you feel like your relationship has gone off track and these signs resonate with you, take a check of your relationship and assess where it stands. When you see these symptoms mentioned above, it may be time to seriously consider whether the relationship is still fulfilling for both parties. Ending a long-term relationship can be heartbreaking and daunting but sometimes, it’s for the best. It takes strength and courage to end a long-term relationship, and it’s important to remember that it can be done with kindness, understanding, and respect. If you are still unsure whether it is time to end it, you can take this: [Is your relationship over quiz.](https://www.quizony.com/is-your-relationship-over/index.html) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/signs-relationship-is-over/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/signs-relationship-is-over/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** relationship breakdown, relationship breakup, wrong partner --- ### [Should I change my surname back after divorce?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/change-surname-back-after-divorce/) **Published:** June 14, 2023 **Author:** Venita Dimos **Content:** Going through a divorce is challenging for everyone involved. On top of the grief, stress and emotional turmoil, you must make endless decisions. Decisions about children, living arrangements, finances, property … the list goes on. Even though you may feel your life has spiralled out of control, there is one decision which is yours, and yours alone. It is: *“Should I change my surname back after divorce?”* And there is absolutely no rush to decide. It’s not a decision you should make hastily. Because how you feel now may be very different from how you feel in 12 months. So, take a deep breath and take it slowly. Before deciding to change your surname, there are five things you should consider. Read them now. Then reread them in a few months. And again. Read them until you know in your heart which decision is right for you. ## Think of your identity Your sense of identity is a powerful thing. When you get divorced, you may feel like you have lost your sense of identity. That is normal. You will need to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life. Part of this may mean [reclaiming your self-esteem](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/) and rebuilding your sense of self. Divorce is a time of change and transformation. Changing your surname may signify a new beginning, a fresh start. You may be a different person now to who you were during your marriage. You may feel like you are regaining yourself. Reclaiming your maiden name may feel freeing and empowering. Relationship expert Renee Catt, known as the ‘[Divorce Go To Girl](http://www.divorcegotogirl.com/)’, says that in her experience, some women may benefit from changing their surname, because it helps them regain a sense of who they are, which adds to their identity and can rebuild confidence. Renee states: > “*This is a massive internal question that women (and men) are faced with after a separation and divorce. I am no longer a wife, a Mrs, an ‘other half’, so who am I*?” As you navigate your way through your new life, reverting back to your maiden name may also reignite your sense of connection and belonging to your own family, and, as an extension of that, a strong sense of who you really are. On the other hand, if you have been married for a long time, you may have been happily using your husband’s surname for many years. It may better represent who you are and how you see yourself. You may feel more comfortable with the identity that has evolved with your married name. Changing your name back may feel like going backwards, in the sense that it no longer feels like you. Or you may actually like your married surname. My friend, Konstantina, had a long and complicated Greek surname. Combined with her equally long first name, she had a total of 33 characters in her name! When she got married, she could not wait to change her surname and become Mrs Bell. Even though her marriage ended quickly, she refused to give up her married surname when she got divorced. [![](https://static.shareasale.com/image/137368/Divorce138.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2298469&u=1855502&m=137368&urllink=&afftrack=)## Emotions involved in a name You cannot ignore the link between names and emotions. How many times have you heard a name that reminded you of someone else with that name? Expectant parents spend hours contemplating the name of their unborn baby. They are really assessing their connection and emotional attachment to a proposed name for their child. Using your ex-partner’s surname may consistently remind you of a painful past. Your subconscious is a powerful tool. You cannot assume that a name has no importance. Would you give your daughter the same name as that girl who bullied you in high school? Or give your son the same name as your first love, who broke your heart? A name change could be remarkably liberating if your marriage was horrible. Alternatively, you may have strong feelings for your former spouse and be hanging onto hopes of a reconciliation. Maybe keeping his surname is a way for you to stay connected to him. In these circumstances, keeping your married name may make it harder to let go and move on. You might be surprised to discover that your former partner has strong feelings about you continuing to use your married name. I recall conducting a Mediation where the husband did not want his former wife to continue using his surname after the divorce. For him, this issue was closely linked to his feelings of anger, grief and even control. It was difficult for him to understand and accept that it was her personal choice and not his decision to make. ## Timing of changing back to your maiden name If your [relationship has just broken down](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-expect-first-year-separation/), you may be feeling overwhelmed. Taking on too many tasks may feel emotionally and physically exhausting. This is understandable. It may be a struggle just to get yourself to work. If you have children to look after, it can be even harder. The [first year of divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-expect-first-year-separation/) can often be the toughest. Changing your name can be a tedious and time-consuming process. Are you up to spending the time and energy it will take to change your surname right now? It can take hours trying to source, download, complete and lodge the relevant forms. For example, you will need to change your surname on your: - Driver’s licence - Passport - Bank accounts and credit cards - Loans, such as your mortgage or car loan - Property and investments, such as shares - Superannuation fund(s) - Medicare - Private health fund - Ambulance - Centrelink - Email and social media account You also need to notify organisations such as: - Australian Taxation Office - Australian Electoral Office - Your employer - Insurance companies (e.g. house, motor vehicle) - Electricity, gas and water suppliers - Your doctor/medical specialists For the sake of completion, you should also update your name on any memberships (e.g. loyalty programs such as frequent flyer) or other associations you are part of. If you do decide to change your name, it is a good idea to do it comprehensively. It can get complicated if you end up with multiple names by changing your name on some things and not on others. For example, one of my clients booked an overseas trip as a way of healing from her recent marriage breakdown. She had already decided to revert back to her maiden name. However, it wasn’t until she turned up to the airport that she remembered her passport still showed her married surname. Needless to say, the airline would not allow her to check-in using two different names. Although the problem was eventually resolved, she missed her flight due to the confusion caused. So, if you are planning on travelling overseas (and what a great way to heal!) make sure your booking is in the same name as the name on your passport. Also, things can get a bit complicated if you are trying to deposit cheques that are in a different name to the one on your bank account. Or if you are trying to claim medical expenses, which have been invoiced in a different name to the name recorded on your Medicare or health fund records. In most instances, you can clarify things by providing proof of a name change, such as your birth certificate, marriage certificate and/or divorce order. However, just be aware that there may be a transition period where issues such as these arise. Consider your name and your work Perhaps you spent significant time building your career during your marriage. If you have used your married name for many years, this is likely to form part of your professional standing. Changing your name may cause confusion and be detrimental to your work identity. You could be relying on your married name to build a positive professional reputation. Your work colleagues and clients may not know what your maiden name is. If you have your own business, changing your name can also prove problematic. It may be detrimental to your professional branding. You may have worked hard to build loyalty among your clients, referral sources and other professional networks. Changing your name may feel like starting your career again from scratch. There may also be business costs incurred with changing your name, such as: - Ordering new corporate stationary - Making changes to your website, social media channels, email address and templates - Registering name changes with regulatory authorities such as ASIC If you are deadset on changing your name but it all feels too overwhelming, contact [Easy Name Change](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2269149&u=1855502&m=137368&urllink=www%2Eeasynamechange%2Ecom%2Fau%2F&afftrack=) as they’re a great service who will do most of the above for you at very reasonable price. ## The impact of changing your name on your children Having children could be one of the most compelling reasons to retain your ex-partner’s surname. It may bother you that your last name is different from that of your children. Perhaps sharing the same surname as your children fosters a sense of unity, particularly at a time when everything around you feels insecure and unstable. Maybe you don’t want the added confusion for your children, as well as their school and their friends, of having a different name to them. If your children are already feeling shocked and sad about the changes to their family, maybe keeping the status quo (for the moment, at least) can help make the transition easier for all of you. I still recall my friend, Heather, telling me how confronting it was for her when she was writing her Christmas cards soon after her divorce. She had changed her surname back to her maiden name but suddenly didn’t know how to sign off the Christmas cards from her and the children. They had always been the “Wilson” family, but that was no longer her surname. This is definitely worth thinking about when considering ‘should I change my surname back after divorce’. It is not an easy decision to make. However, it may give you some comfort to know that in the 2013 Easy Name Change Survey, 70% of women reported that they did not feel any loss when removing their ex-husband’s surname. [![](https://static.shareasale.com/image/137368/Divorce138.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2298469&u=1855502&m=137368&urllink=&afftrack=)## Should a change my surname back after divorce? The decision to change your surname back is an important one. There is no right or wrong answer and everyone’s situation is different. Your decision may not be understood or supported by all those around you. But if you have just gone through the trauma of a divorce, the last thing on your mind should be other people’s judgement. Take the time to think about your decision. As stated earlier, there is no rush. Names can be complicated things. The power of a name cannot be underestimated. But the power to make a choice is yours. If you are thinking: ‘Should I change my surname back after divorce?’. hopefully this article has helped you make a decision. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/change-surname-back-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/change-surname-back-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** maiden name, name change, surname --- ### [Teenagers dating: How parents can guide and support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenagers-dating/) **Published:** June 10, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Ah, the wild world of teenagers dating—the mix of butterflies, drama and hormones that can leave any parent feeling like they’re on a rollercoaster ride they didn’t sign up for. As much as you might want to hide in a cupboard and come out when it’s all over, as a parent, you have a vital role to play. How teenagers manage their first relationships can impact their romantic choices moving forward for the rest of their lives. It’s not just about providing the sex talk or a shoulder to cry on. We must instil in them a greater understanding of human nature, an unwavering sense of self-esteem and the ability to recognise experiences as lessons … and to ultimately learn from them. Overwhelming? Yes Absolutely necessary? Also yes. Join me as we explore practical strategies, share a few laughs, and learn how to support your teenagers dating. ## Be approachable When your kids are encountering new (some strange) experiences, intense emotions, bodily changes, and more complex relationships, the last thing you want to do is cut yourself off. As a mum, you want to be someone they can easily approach and seek advice about relationships and personal problems they struggle to resolve. You want to be someone who they trust. As you may remember from your teen years, they are more likely to confide in their friends about their dating situation or try to process conflicts independently. It’s not necessarily because they don’t want your help; it’s because they want to see themselves as more adult and capable individuals. There may be an element, too, of them doubting whether you would not understand their predicament completely. Whether the latter part is or isn’t true, make it clear you will not judge them. You can maintain a respectful boundary and maintain authority while becoming a friend to your becoming-adult teen. ## Help them recognise red flags As adults, we can generally spot red flags in an unhealthy relationship, but we still miss a few. The red flags can be innocently ignored or not recognised by teenagers dating for the first time. For this reason, it is your job to point out red flags that suggest a lack of respect, poor communication or consent issues. Gently explain that if their partner ditched them last minute to hang with their mates, this is not just annoying, but a big red flag with flashing neon letters saying ‘lack of respect’. You can also mention the [green flags](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/green-flags-good-relationship/) which show their relationship is healthy so you don’t come across as all doom and gloom! ## Share some of your own dating stories Remember that your children only know you as Mum. They never met the version of you who cried over boy problems, left angry voicemails fresh off a breakup, and went starry-eyed at every bad boy who entered the room. Show them you understand by sharing stories about your own dating past. This includes how you met people, your mistakes, and the lessons you learned. And don’t forget the positive dynamics and emotions you treasure and hope they will also have the opportunity to experience in their own life. It’s a great way to share perspectives and bond over funny stories. It will allow your teen to get to know you better, while guiding them through your own lived experiences on navigating dating better. ## Promote self-confidence in teenagers dating Puberty can affect your kids’ confidence in different ways. Whether it “blesses” them with features considered attractive among their peers, or frustrates them with flaws that make them feel unattractive, hormonal changes are confusing. Your job is to ensure your teenagers know that they deserve respect and love, regardless of their appearance. Instill in them a sense of self-respect where they understand that they should first prioritise learning how to love themselves before pouring into others. Teach them that the way they treat themselves is indicative of how they treat others. Guide your kids on how to practise good hygiene. It will also be fun to explore colours and silhouettes of clothes with them so they can discover styles that complement their skin tone, hair color, and body types. This will boost their confidence in developing their own style – as opposed to solely complying with trends – to make them feel more comfortable in how they choose to present themselves. Give your teens good examples of confident and attractive people whom your kids may relate to. And help them understand the importance of good social skills, a positive attitude, politeness and respect. ## Have the sex talk Face the reality: Telling your teenagers dating to stop themselves from having sex will not stop them from doing it. It didn’t stop us years ago! While most of us prefer to preserve our kids’ innocence for as long as we can, we must accept that they are entering a stage where exploring their bodies to express desire and find pleasure will be inevitable. First, research and gather factual information to relay to your teen. Be open to the possibility that you may not know everything and need to update your knowledge. Health agencies publish several legitimate resources online to help you with the correct information that you can use to share with your teen. An excellent way to approach The Talk and eliminate distrust is to assure your children that you do not wish (now or ever in the future) to police or to *know* what they do with their bodies. You only want to discuss fact-based lessons with them that will keep them safe from unwanted pregnancies and diseases. Clarify things that are readily accepted false truths. The best example is that the [withdrawal/pull-out contraception method is ineffective](https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/pull-out-withdrawal). Then lay down the consequences of not using protection or subscribing to beliefs that are not science-based. And don’t forget to reiterate that unfortunate consequences can happen to ANYONE if they are not careful. Make them understand that safe and consensual sex shows their respect towards others and their own body, and it is the only way to have healthy sex. ## Discuss safety in all areas of dating While safe sex is a vast and vital topic to discuss and teach your teenagers dating, remember that safety should be taught concerning other areas of dating too. Touch upon ensuring their physical and [psychological safety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/) around the person they want to date. Teach them signs and behaviours to watch out for in people who may have tendencies to be abusive. Discuss with your teens how real people with awful intentions and unresolved traumas exist, and it’s not impossible to be targeted by them through dating. Teach them how to avoid and protect themselves by making the right choices. Empower your kids to believe in their boundaries and to set parameters for their safety. For example, discuss with them the right approach to choosing where to go for dates, deciding on times or hours that are best for their safety to socialise, and identifying which crowds they should avoid. ## Model healthy relationships If you had trash taste in partners before, now is the perfect time to raise those standards. Make sure your children have a great example of someone who respects herself and only allows herself to be in the company of those who will also appreciate, love, and cherish her. This does not only apply to romantic relationships, but also to platonic and familial ones. If your teens see a healthy and happy dynamic between you and your friends, other family members, and partners, they will also want to date to foster a healthy relationship. Attachment behaviours, relationship dynamics, gender roles, and preferences are learned. Ask yourself this question: “Do I want my child to date someone who will treat my child the same way my partner treats me (or vice versa)?” If the answer is no, you have some fixing and decision-making to do. ## Allow independence The tighter you hold onto someone, the harder they will try to break free. This also applies to your teen. Letting them be is one way to show your kids you trust them. After you teach your child everything there is to know about sex, safety, dating, and relationships, all you can do is let go. From time to time, remind them to make good choices and to always respect others and themselves. But you cannot hover over their dating 24/7. Allowing your kids to be more independent and explore dating and relationships will build their confidence and develop their wisdom to deal with people and their own emotions. ## Encourage a balanced approach We all know the heady feeling of a new relationship and how wonderful it feels. Everything else in our life feels insignificant. It is easy to feel this way but also unhealthy because if something goes wrong with loves-young-dream or the relationship ends, they might feel they have nowhere to turn. Remind your dating teenager about the importance of maintaining a healthy balance between dating and other aspects of their life, such as academics, friendships, hobbies, and self-care. If the message isn’t hitting home, tell them that having a life/friends/interests outside their relationship will make their partner keener on them. ## Respect their choices If your teen is well-informed and has healthy self-esteem, you should allow them to process their dating circumstances and make their own choices. I know, that mop-headed boy will never be good enough for your baby princess. But that baby is now a well-adjusted 17 years old, and you have taught her well to make their own decisions regarding dating. If you respect your kids’ choices, instead of worrying about proving themselves to you, lying to you, or keeping things from you, you give them the space and confidence to “see” for themselves and to keep making the right choices. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenagers-dating/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teenagers-dating/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Relationships --- ### [10 Easy ways to incorporate self-care into your daily routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-care-daily-routine/) **Published:** June 2, 2023 **Author:** Beth Barnes **Content:** Making time for yourself when you’re a single mum can feel impossible. My children were nine, ten and thirteen when I became a single parent, and boy, was it a shock to the system. I know we all struggle to put ourselves first, but investing in self-care pays off in the long run. It’s hard shifting your mindset enough to prioritise maintaining your balance and happiness, but incorporating self-care into your daily routine doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. In this blog post, I’ve listed ten easy ways to prioritise self-care, drawing from my experiences as a busy mum. So, please grab a cup of tea, coffee, or milo, and dive into these practical self-care tips. ## Get up a few minutes earlier Okay, this is tricky for many single mums, especially those with poor sleepers (I remember those days, nights, hours, and minutes), so stay with me here! This one tip can make a significant difference to your day. Why? Setting your alarm for ten minutes earlier gives you ten minutes to practice some deep breathing exercises or plan your day. You could set a positive intention for the day or enjoy a few moments of solitude before the household wakes up. ## Burn incense and engage in mindful activities Every mummy blogger or influencer seems to recommend practicing [mindfulness](https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2021/06/mindfulness-your-health), and it’s no surprise. Mindfulness works, which is why I’ve included it in this list. Burning incense while practicing mindfulness can enhance the experience. I like to use a [waterfall incense burner](https://www.myincensewaterfalls.com/products/incense-waterfall-100-incense-cones), which I keep on a chest of drawers in my bedroom. I let the delicious aroma fill my senses while I practice, as it calms me and fills me with joy. Whether practicing yoga, journaling, or engaging in a creative hobby, these moments of self-expression allow you to tap into your inner self and unwind. Being fully present in these activities can cultivate a sense of calm and nourish your soul. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at it. ## Embrace mini breaks Short breaks throughout the day can help you find small moments to recharge. You could step outside for a few deep breaths of fresh air or savour a cup of your favourite herbal tea. Hang out the clothes, then take a few minutes in the garden to stretch your back or, my favourite, jump up and down to reinvigorate the body. (Try it – it works!) I like burning incense when working from home, as it creates a serene environment and promotes mindfulness even when responding to corporate emails. Small pauses and mini breaks can help you regain focus, reduce stress, and calm your mind, injecting tranquility into a hectic schedule. ## Prioritise sleep “But you told us to get up earlier in tip 1!” I see the irony here. However, sleep is crucial for overall well-being and energy levels, even though it can be elusive for mums. Establishing a bedtime routine is essential for your kids but also critical for you. A bedtime routine sends signals to your body and mind to relax and unwind. Try to turn off electronic devices at least an hour before bed to promote better sleep quality – while it’s hard to resist the pull of the late-night Instagram scroll, a well-rested mum is better equipped to handle the demands of the day. ## Nurture your body Many mums can feel like their body isn’t their own anymore – and this is normal. You’re used to being climbed over, pulled, covered in food, sneezed on, and all the rest. It can be easy to neglect your physical health. Try to make exercise a priority. Even a fifteen-minute walk outside can calm the mind and increase serotonin levels. Nourish your body with nutritious meals, stay hydrated, and exercise regularly. It is crucial to include pampering yourself with small indulgences, like having a relaxing bath enhanced with scented oils or using an invigorating body scrub. Remember, taking care of your body is an act of self-love and sets an excellent example for your children. ## Set boundaries Boundary setting is another tricky one. But don’t be afraid to set boundaries to carve out time for yourself. Communicate your needs with your loved ones and set designated periods for uninterrupted self-care. It could be as simple as reading a book, walking, or enjoying a cup of tea in solitude. Boundaries are essential for maintaining balance and preserving your mental and emotional well-being. ## Connect with nature Everything seems better when you’re outside. Getting outside can put things back into perspective if you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed by the housework or screaming kids. Spending time in nature has a therapeutic effect on our minds and bodies. Make it a point to connect with nature regularly, whether walking with a friend in the mornings, gardening, or simply sitting outside and basking in the sunlight. Engaging your senses in a natural environment can rejuvenate your spirit and provide a much-needed break from the demands of daily life. ## Practice gratitude When life is stressful, losing sight of the wonder in our lives can be easy. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can impact your overall well-being in a significant way. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you are grateful for, no matter how small. It could be how your kids laugh in the bath, a kind gesture from a friend, or a peaceful moment of self-reflection. I write a gratitude list in my journal, which helps shift my perspective, promotes positivity, and reminds me of the blessings in my life. ## Create a support network Remember, you don’t have to do it alone. Creating a support network can help ease the stress in your life. Reach out to loved ones, friends, or other [mums who understand your journey](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/importance-making-friends-motherhood/). Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who can offer advice, encouragement, and empathy. Sometimes, simply sharing your experiences can be therapeutic and help alleviate the challenges of motherhood. ## Prioritise joy I know this sounds very ‘Eat, Pray, Love,” but it’s incredible how different you can feel when you identify and prioritise moments of joy. During your busy life, remember to engage in activities that bring you happiness and allow you to unwind. Whether listening to your favourite music, dancing around the living room with your kids, or simply ordering a fancy takeaway coffee to sip while watching your kids play soccer on a cold morning, make time for these moments of pure joy. Your happiness matters and incorporating moments of joy into your daily routine can help you recharge and embrace the beauty of motherhood. ## If you can’t do all of these – pick one Incorporating self-care into your daily routine as a busy mum doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Integrating even one of these ten easy and practical tips into your everyday life can create a nurturing environment that promotes well-being, balance, and happiness. You are worth it. ![Self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Self-care-pin-533x800.png "Self-care-pin - Beanstalk Mums")### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-care-daily-routine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/self-care-daily-routine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** self care, health, self-love --- ### [The positive health impacts of using a vibrator if you are single ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/using-a-vibrator/) **Published:** May 28, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Vibrators have been around for a while and though, for some, they might be seen as a taboo topic sexual health. However, sexual pleasure should be able to be spoken about openly. If you’re single and looking for ways to boost not only your sexual happiness but also get some great health benefits, using a [vibrator](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/vibrators/) might just be the solution you’re looking for. Some of our favourite health benefits that vibrators can provide: ## 1. Stress Relief & Improved Mood Life is stressful and being overly stressed is a common problem for many people, especially if you are a single parent. Finding ways to relax and unwind can be extremely difficult when there are so many other things on your plate after a long day. Many studies have shown that using a vibrator to completion can help reduce stress and promote relaxation. When you use a vibrator to get to the finish line, your body releases natural endorphins that helps reduce stress. Using a vibrator can also improve your mood by releasing endorphins, as mentioned above, which can help elevate your mood and make you feel happier. In addition to mood enhancement, exploring various types of vibrators can cater to individual preferences and desires. For example, some people find that using a [G-spot rabbit vibrator](https://www.lelo.com/g-spot-vibrators) adds an extra dimension to their experiences, offering a more nuanced form of pleasure and satisfaction. Additionally, taking control over your sexual desires can improve your self confidence making you feel happier and more confident. Though manual self pleasure can be useful, using a vibrator or other sex toy to reach completion can help you get there effectively and quickly if you are under a time constraint. ## 2. Better Sleep If you struggle with sleep, using a vibrator before bed can naturally help. During an orgasm, the body releases a rush of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins which can help you relax and fall asleep faster. The release of endorphins can help you feel more relaxed mentally and release tension from your body physically, which can contribute to better sleep. Using a vibrator for solo play before bed allows you to reach completion both intensely and effectively allowing for an easier sleep in a shorter amount of time then manual pleasure. [Better sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/) can lead to improvements in overall health including reducing chances of sickness, help maintain a healthy weight, and help with clear thinking and decision making. ## 3. Improved Pelvic Floor When you are using a vibrator you are engaging muscles in in your pelvic floor which helps strengthen them over time. Strengthening your pelvic floor can be especially beneficial to those who have given birth or have experienced urinary incontinence due to age or other reasons. Whether it be using a vibrator or doing specific pelvic floor excersies called keegals, strengthening your pelvic floor can make sex more enjoyable by creating stronger orgasms. ## 4. Pain relief If you suffer from menstrual cramps, endometriosis or vulvodynia, using a vibrator can be a great way to find relief. The stimulation caused from using a vibrator increases blood flow to the area and can reduce pain and discomfort. When masturbating your body releases Oxytocin, which is a natural pain reliever which can eliminate pain caused by menstruation as well as any other pain you might be experiencing. During menstruation you may also feel more desire then normal due to hormone fluctuations, using a vibrator during this time can be useful to help in both of these areas. ## 5. Increased Self Awareness Using a vibrator is a great way to start a journey of self discovery. Stimulating your genitals and increasing blood flow to the area can improve your sexual function. Being in tune with your body, experimenting with different types of stimulation and coming to terms with your own sexual desires can improve sexual experiences overall. Feeling confident in self pleasure can be empowering and lead to greater seld confidence and self esteem. This confidence can allow you to experiment in the bedroom outside of solo vibrators and can lead to using toys with your partner such as a We Vibe, to experience enhanced pleasure together. ## Conclusion: The positive impact of using a vibrator From stress relief and better sleep to sexual health and exploring your own sexuality, vibrators offer a host of benefits for single people. So, if you are looking for a way to boost your mood and increase your sexual confidence, why not give a vibrator a try? Who knows, it might just change your life. ***Further reading: [Eco-friendly sex toys for sustainable bedroom fun. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eco-friendly-sex-toys/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/using-a-vibrator/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/using-a-vibrator/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex --- ### [Investment property mortgages: What you need to know](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/investment-property-mortgages/) **Published:** May 20, 2023 **Author:** George Rodman **Content:** If you are thinking about buying an investment property, you need to consider how you will finance it, i.e. an investment property mortgage. By all means look at the property market, see what properties are out there, but do not start negotiating the price, signing contracts or falling in love with a property without sorting out your finances first. Yes, finance first, then property. Below are some points to consider when you are ready to jump into investment property finance. ## Why is it a good time to purchase an investment property? The rental market has seen a dramatic shift in the last 12-18 months across Australia. As at March 2023, the rental vacancy rate in all capital cities was a historically low 1.43%. This is due to a combination of factors, namely [higher interest rates](https://www.rba.gov.au/chart-pack/interest-rates.html) and increased migration to Australia. The 11 interest rate rises in the last 13 months has shifted the goals for a lot of people with respect to property. Many that were looking to purchase an owner-occupied property have chosen to put their plans on hold and to keep renting. While higher interest rates are not preferred, the benefit of receiving rental income makes owning an investment property much more affordable. In the current market, this softens the blow of the higher rates. Additionally, as investment loan repayments are tax deductible, higher interest rates mean that the tax deductions are also increased for borrowers. After the Covid lockdowns, we have seen an increased number of migrations to Australia, which has surpassed previous projections made. As a majority of these people are unable to purchase an owner-occupied property immediately (due to lending policy or personal circumstances), they will be looking for a rental property. This will further increase demand for rental properties. Another reason to be optimistic about the property market is the increase in overseas investment. We have regularly seen the impact of such investment on property prices. ## What makes property investment loans different to residential home loans? Investment property mortgages are similar to residential home loans in many ways. However, there are some key differences between the two. - Firstly, the majority of investment property mortgages are interest only, which means that only interest component is payable thus minimising monthly repayments. - Secondly, when you have an investment loan, the interest repayments are all tax deductible. This is another reason why investment loans are usually interest only, as the principal portion of the loan i.e. the part that is used to pay down the loan, is not tax deductible. A great benefit of investment properties as well as the loans which secure them is that it is not only the interest repayments that are tax deductible. Most expenses associated with owning an investment property are tax deductible, including Lender’s Mortgage Insurance (a cost which is added to any loan which is over 80% of the value of the property) and any repairs or renovations. All of these items can assist in reduction of tax being paid at the end of each financial year. ## Who qualifies investment property mortgages? The criteria for qualifying for an investment loan is very similar to an owner occupied loan or any other loan. Lenders will review your income, assets, liabilities and expenses to calculate your capacity to service the loan. The information which is usually reviewed by a lender is as follows: - Payslips, PAYG Summary and bank statements confirming wages for employed applicants. - Tax Returns and Financials for any self-employed applicants. Most lenders require the last 2 financial years, however there are some lenders that may accept just one. - Bank statements confirming savings history as well as monthly expenses. - Loan statements for any outstanding liabilities. This includes credit card statements. As every situation is different, a lender may ask for additional information. For [single mothers buying property](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-single-parents-buy-property/), most lenders will look at any Centrelink or Child Support payments which are received. Qualification will depend on the age of the children. The cut off is usually between 10 and 12 years of age. If the deposit for the property is to be sourced from savings, the lender will need to see that the funds have been held in the account or saved over a period of at least 3 months. If the deposit is to be sourced from equity in another property which you own, confirmation of ownership is required (Rates Notice) and a valuation of the property is conducted to confirm there is sufficient equity to fund the deposit. ## How do you apply for an investment property mortgage? Before signing a contract or making an offer on a property, it is vital to arrange pre-approval. This will ensure that you aware of how much you are able to borrow (and from there, what price range you should be looking at). Having pre-approval is beneficial when speaking with real estate agents, as you will not be required to ask for a Subject to Finance clause. This may give you an advantage when negotiating for a better price with the seller. There are benefits of using a Mortgage Broker when applying for a loan. Instead of meeting with each lender one-by-one, you are working with someone who has access to the majority of lenders in Australia and who is able to compare different loans and offer options to meet your personal circumstances. You will also be talking to one person throughout the whole process. Once you provide the information mentioned in the previous section to the Broker, they will be able to calculate your borrowing capacity with numerous lenders. From there, they will provide you with a number of options based on your requirements and will submit an application for pre-approval to the lender of your choice. Pre-approvals last for 90 days, which should be sufficient time to source the right property. Once a Contract of Sale is signed, it is submitted to the lender and the loan can proceed to Unconditional Approval. It is important that during the pre-approval stage you do not make any significant changes to your financial circumstances, such as changing employment or taking out another loan without speaking to the Mortgage Broker or a lender first. Such changes may significantly change your borrowing capacity and you may not be able to qualify for the same loan amount. Your Mortgage Broker may have suggestion on when and how to go about making these changes. ## Final words: Investment property mortgages Getting an investment loan can be scary, especially for first time investors, but it does not need to be. Make sure you understand the process, you are comfortable with your Mortgage Broker or a banker and they have explained to you the loan structure and why they have recommended it. Investing in property is a long-term process, so do not concern yourself with the amount of the loan, because today it may seem a lot, but in 5, 10 or 20 years you will probably be thinking that the properties at this time were not that expensive! The loan amount is a measure of the value of an asset you are acquiring and in the long term it will keep increasing. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/investment-property-mortgages/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/investment-property-mortgages/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** investment, money, finance, property, home, loan --- ### [Causes of bad breath and how to get rid of it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/want-to-get-rid-of-bad-breath/) **Published:** May 16, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you’re reading this article, chances are you or someone you know is dealing with bad breath. You will want to know the causes of bad breath and, most importantly, how to get rid of it. Bad breath, also known as halitosis, is embarrassing and can affect your personal and professional relationships. Even thinking you “might” have bad breath is reason enough not to venture further than the front door. It can be a huge concern, leaving more than a dirty taste in your mouth. Here I explore the common causes of bad breath and provide practical tips to help eliminate it, including some unusual suggestions you may have yet to try. So, whether you’re dealing with chronic bad breath or just the occasional morning breath, keep reading to learn more. ## What causes bad breath Let’s start at the very beginning and look at the causes of bad breath. Simply knowing the reason, may be enough for you to eliminate your problem and give you the confidence to breathe freely again. ### Poor oral hygiene We all know we should clean our teeth for two minutes twice a day. But do you? And when was the last time you used the floss that’s been lying in the back of your bathroom drawer untouched for several months? If you’re not cleaning your teeth and flossing adequately, you could have bad breath. ### Certain foods and drinks Certain food items can cause your breath to smell unpleasant. There is an obvious reason we avoid eating foods with lots of garlic or onion when we are on a date. Did you know that these two yummy ingredients do not only leave a strong smell in your mouth but their sulphuric mark trails into your blood and eventually into your lungs, making that garlic/onion smell linger in your breath? Dairy and fish can also cause bad breath by feeding the bacteria in your mouth and through oxidisation. ### Smoking Smoking poses so many risks and damaging effects. It is no surprise that it causes bad breath. The smell of a fresh tobacco leaf may smell sweet and inviting to some, but there are very few smells more disgusting than the smell of old cigarettes mixed with saliva and tar-stained lungs and teeth. Aside from leaving unwanted chemical elements that mix with your saliva and cause bad breath, smoking also means you always have traces of cigarette smoke lingering in your lungs and throat causing you to have the dreaded smoker’s breath. By the way, it doesn’t matter whether you smoke old-school cigarettes or these cool-looking vape pens; they all make your breath smell rank. ### Dry mouth The condition of having a dry mouth or xerostomia (slow and low production of saliva) is one of the causes of bad breath. Your saliva is in charge of regularly flushing away food particles and bacteria, helping your mouth to stay relatively clean and smell acceptably healthy. When you run low on saliva due to stress, anxiety, diabetes, hormonal issues, other illnesses, or even just sleeping with your mouth open, you can develop bad breath because the bacteria in your mouth and throat build up. This can develop into much bigger health issues like tooth decay and mouth sores. ### Gum disease Gingivitis is one of the leading causes of bad breath. Having plaqued gums means they are lined with plaque bacteria that is behind the awful smell of halitosis. At the first sign of gum trouble, it is important to have yourself checked by a reputable dentist who can help you with a thorough cleaning and a few prescribed medications. ### Some medical conditions can be causes of bad breath Certain medical conditions can contribute to bad breath. This can be due to factors such as: - Use of some medication - Salivary gland problems - Breathing through the mouth - Reduced saliva production Additionally, respiratory infections, sinus conditions, and post-nasal drip can produce foul-smelling breath. In some cases, gastrointestinal issues like acid reflux, gastritis, or liver disease can cause bad breath due to the release of unpleasant-smelling gases. Having bad breath does not necessarily mean you have a serious medical condition but if you have a concern, book an appointment with your GP. ## How to tell if you have bad breath It can be difficult to tell if you have bad breath because our noses become accustomed to our scent. Bad breath is essentially an imbalance of sulphides in your breath but how the hell can we measure this? If you are unsure, here are some things you can try. ### Ask someone It’s highly embarrassing, but asking someone is an absolute surefire way to know if you have bad breath. I ask my kids since they never mind my feelings and are always honest! You could ask a family member, friend, or a close colleague at work. Or, if you’re not comfortable with asking anyone, book a dentist appointment and ask there. ### The lick test Bear with me and don’t mind if you look foolish; just do this in the privacy of your home. Lick the inside of your wrists and let the saliva dry. After it dries, take a sniff. If it smells bad, chances are, your breath smells horrible too. ### Check your tongue If your tongue looks more white than pink, there is a high chance that your breath is not smelling that great. Your tongue needs some good scraping and cleaning as it has become white due to the build-up of dirt and food, feeding bad breath-causing bacteria on its surface. ### Smell your floss Another quick test is to floss in between your two front teeth and smell the floss. If it smells particularly rotten, it’s time for you to brush, floss, brush, and mouthwash, before setting an appointment with your dentist for that check-up. ## How to get rid of bad breath Now let’s look at ways to hit that halitosis on the head once and for all. Try one or a combination of the below to see what works for you. ### Brush and floss regularly I mentioned it earlier … you must clean your teeth for two minutes twice a day at the very least. You should also floss daily. Get into a [healthy routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parents-healthy-habits/) and use a timer or your phone to make sure you clean for the whole two minutes instead of guessing it at just 30 seconds! ### Clean your tongue Your tongue can be a nasty, perpetually moist, and warm environment for bad breath-causing bacteria to proliferate faster than you expect. That is why it is highly advisable to also clean your tongue as often as your own teeth. Scrape that white stuff away with toothpaste/antibacterial mouthwash and tongue cleaner (or your toothbrush if you don’t have a tongue cleaner). ### Use mouthwash (or cider vinegar) Mouthwash can reach corners of your mouth that your toothbrush won’t go into. There is a huge variety of mouthwash now available in the market to address your specific needs. Whether you need a strong peppermint antibacterial wash or a much gentler mouthwash that doesn’t dry your mouth even more, there is a mouthwash for you out there to complement your brushing. ### Drink plenty of water Plenty of water keeps your body AND mouth hydrated and your saliva constantly replenishing. Regular and watery spit means having fewer bacteria breeding action and fewer chances to develop halitosis. So don’t forget to drink your 8-10 glasses of water daily! ### Drink green tea Antioxidants in green tea fight off multiple causes of bad breath. Aside from antioxidants and the obvious hydration part of drinking cups of green tea, this beverage also contains polyphenols that reduce sulphur compounds in various foods … which as I explained earlier, can be the root cause of your bad breath. ### Chew sugarless gum Chewing encourages your mouth to produce more saliva. And sugar feeds the bacteria that multiply and cause bad breath. To address the dryness of the mouth without having to help halitosis-causing bacteria to flourish, you could try chewing on sugarless gum. ### Avoid certain foods and drinks Avoid eating garlic or onion-rich foods and dairy products if you are far from your toothbrush or mouthwash. Too many spices, sweets, and seafood can also make your breath smell funny. Stick to less stinky foods and drinks especially when you are out and socialising. ### Eat foods with live cultures Aside from helping maintain your mouth and gut’s fungal-bacterial balance, probiotics keep odour-causing compounds low. For this reason, probiotics are a superfood considered by holistic health advocates as a natural deodoriser, not only for your breath but for other body openings and membranes too. ### Chew on breath-freshening herbs Fresh herbs can help with bad breath because they contain natural deodorisers, antimicrobial properties, stimulate saliva production, and have aromatic volatile oils. The best herbs to chow down on are: - Parsley - Mint - Cilantro (coriander) Using herbs in teas or as garnishes in meals also helps. ### Have regular dentist check-ups and cleans Bad breath is one of the top symptoms and complaints [that dentists address in Australia](https://www.health.qld.gov.au/news-events/news/pass-the-mints-lets-talk-halitosis). From mouth dryness to hidden tooth cavities, your dentist can diagnose and help treat the reason for your bad breath. Regular checkups and cleanings work as both preventative and corrective maintenance for your whole mouth, including the prevention of smelly breath. - ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/want-to-get-rid-of-bad-breath/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/want-to-get-rid-of-bad-breath/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health --- ### [Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms: The red flags](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/) **Published:** May 13, 2023 **Author:** jacintacallaghan **Content:** ***Trigger warning: This article deals with narcissistic personality disorder symptoms. Please ensure you are in a safe place to read this content and can access support if needed.*** Wondering how you landed here again? The same thing in a different package? You’ve managed to escape one narcissist only to find your next relationship has ended up being the same… despite a seeming different start. [Sane.org](https://www.sane.org/) reports that around 1% of adults in the general community experience Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), with some studies estimating up to 6%, and whilst it is a diagnosable mental illness, that doesn’t lessen its impact on victims, especially second or third time around. Surviving one relationship with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder is hard enough especially when you have to navigate co-parenting and recovery post that relationship ending. Part of your recovery has no doubt been to vow to never again fall for someone with NPD…. and yet, here you are. Confused and in a relationship with another narcissist. If only there was a road map of signs that could be easily spotted. Here are the most common narcissistic personality disorder symptoms. ## Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms: The red flags Learning the warning signs and growing muscle in practicing ***active*** observation provides you with the training to spot narcissists while they are still at arm’s length. If they happen to get through your first layer of defences, how they behave in the next phase of your relationship will give the game away in quick time, and you can rip the Band-Aid off less painfully …. IF you’ve honed the skills in being able to identify the classic narcissist behaviours below. There are key behaviours and phrases that they all have in common, we call this their “toolbox”, and it’s pretty limited. Each of these behaviours emerge at different stages of the relationship. It is important then to recognise the 4 stages and their related red ‘flags’. - Stage 1: Acquaintance: Friend zone - Stage 2: Charm on steroids - Stage 3: Not so charming; The wheels are falling off. - Stage 4: Survival mode: trying to regain supply and control. ### Stage 1 – Acquaintance stage: Spot the Elephant in the room. There are some early clues like the overuse of “I” language, and the seldom of use “we”. They use “you” or “they” predominantly solely for laying blame and scorn. You can practice spotting these traits ahead of an emotional connection by observing those around you in everyday life. Red Flags will then jump out like flashing beacons when you’ve tuned into noticing them.. When we learn to watch and listen, there are clues to personalities in all language and behaviours. The below behaviours are common in Stage 1 with narcissistic personality disorder symptoms: - When relaying a story/event, it will usually revolve around them *only* as ‘hero’ or ‘victim.’ (i.e. no responsibility is taken for their part in anything) - In terms of occupation: Either king of the jungle (boss, president, CEO etc.) or ‘cannot keep a job’(blames everything/everybody else for their lack of success) - In their mind, everyone is against them, plotting against them … strangely even people in other cars in the traffic (this is where the victim mentality is most present). - They believe people allegedly deliberately target them to annoy them. - They lay on the charm socially, but behind closed doors, watch out for their venom to emerge. Even in the workforce they will pick their targets. ### Stage 2: Prince Charming In the start of the relationship, they are doing their groundwork and getting you hooked into a false sense of “this is the one”. You will love them, your friends will think you’ve hit the jackpot … even your pets will swoon – this is the power of their full charm offensive. We can narrow it down to be alert for these ‘tools’ during the early days. They will usually: - Engage in love bombing – showering you with compliments, attention and romance. - Be interested in you and everything about you. - Fall “In love” in quick time. Want to “lock it in” … suggest buying a dog/sharing a house or purchase/engaged/pregnant. - Declare that you are the most amazing person they have met. - Complain that the former partners were all … evil, unfaithful, controlling, paranoid blah blah. - Send too many texts and want to spend a huge amount of time together like they cannot get enough of you. - Want to know about your past hurts (they file these as weak points to use against you later) - Want to meet the family and friends (charm offensive part 2, only to put them down and criticise them later) - Are often alone and it seems they have no close friend group – lots of acquaintances they call friends but don’t really spend any time with them - Have some sad family story/childhood story – used to illicit empathy in you - Set up the “debt bank” where they do or buy amazing things for you (to set up a perceived debt later) - Make wonderful promises (they have no intention of keeping) As you look over the above list, if your latest love interest has ticked 50% of what’s here, it may be time to exit stage left, and save yourself more pain. ### Stage 3: Not so charming, the wheels are starting to fall off Once the narcissist feels they have you, their behaviour usually starts to change. This change in behaviour may see you start to question what *you* are doing wrong and find yourself asking yourself “is this the same person you started with?” Once you enter this doubting phase – even if only in your own mind and you never voice this to your friends – you may also start to withdraw somewhat, and no longer pander to their ego and what they want, or constantly tell them what they want to hear. This will cause the classic narcissist to want to take you down a peg or two … or ten! It’s important to be aware of what tools are coming into play for the narcissist now. What you will start to notice: - If it’s not about them, they will make it about them - A huge lack in normal ethics and morals and self … these qualities are beyond them - They will lie without a need or a reaction/sign they are lying – they are *masters* at lying - They will want you to pursue them and validate them … they may also deliberately withhold affection and/or contact to test if you initiate (to *their* level of satisfaction which of course cannot be achieved) - They will use sex/lack of sex as a control tool … “they” decide when you have it even if you try to initiate it – it’s the ultimate control tool - They accuse you of upsetting them, and you will be confused about why - You will be always second guessing yourself and this is a downward spiral - They will have ailments, real and imagined … always worse than others’. - They will use phrases like “You made them do it”, “I’m sorry you see it that way” As a way of invalidating you and your view - They will make targeted, hurtful remarks in public that fly under the radar of others - Will start isolating family and friends through words, criticisms and behaviours and if possible, geographically. You will feel, and sometimes actually be, very alone - Words and actions don’t match and promises are not kept - Their interpretation of events does not make sense ### Stage 4: Survival mode: Trying to regain supply and control By this stage you have probably worked out that what you are experiencing is not normal, and they sort of know that you know. In other words, the gig is up! This is the time to tell a safe group of family and friends what is going on and start making plans to safely exit. Once you recognise the signs below, you know it’s time to go. Be sure to go when its **safe**. Look out for: - Coercive control and/or financial control - [Gaslighting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/gaslighting/) - Tracking via phone and friends - Seemingly innocent remarks and questions either to you or family and friends to garnish what stage you are at and your whereabouts at any time It’s important to know and remember, they won’t ever: - change, - validate your hurt or - be accountable! Please stop, breathe and trust your instincts. You may have been able to quash that little voice of concern inside you during the first part of the relationship but the signs can no longer be ignored. It’s time to leave and live your best life… leaving them to a life that’s full of same, same. Remember … It’s not your job to fix them, fulfil them or be their whipping post! ***It’s your life to live with as much joy and love as possible xo*** ***Helpful Resources:*** [1800Respect](https://www.1800respect.org.au) [Health Direct (Emotional abuse)](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/emotional-abuse) [Steps To Family Violence Response Centre](https://www.safesteps.org.au) [How to recover from a marriage to a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/recover-marriage-narcissist/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** emotional abuse, abuse, narc, grey rock --- ### [6 Tips for rental property application success](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/perfect-applicant-for-the-rental-property/) **Published:** May 10, 2023 **Author:** Elishah Lusi **Content:** Are you in the process of searching for a rental property ? If so, you will know how competitive the market is. With so many potential tenants vying for limited vacancies, standing out from the crowd and securing the property you want takes time and effort. At times like this, the quality of your rental property application is paramount. We always get asked what people can do to make their application stand out to the real estate agent or landlord so that their application is more attractive. Allow us to share our expertise around best practices for submitting rental applications that impress landlords and property managers. From showcasing your financial stability to being 100% prepared and proving you are the perfect tenant, here is what you need to do. ## 6 Tips for rental property application success ### Show them the money Depending on demand, offer a higher amount than the rent asked. If an application comes through for a property that has a higher rental offer of $10-$20 per week more than what the landlord is asking it will be an instant way to get your application to the top of the pile. When you are up against 4-5 other applications having a rental offer above asking is a good way to stand out from the crowd, the other option is to offer to pay a few months in advance. This can be tricky though as you will need to pay bond and one months’ rent in advance already so don’t over commit to this if it will put you under financial pressure. Having a consistent job with an income that can comfortably meet the rent payments, high quality rental references from previous landlord and a solid bank balance all come into account so ensure that these areas are in order. ### Decide on what you need first Do you need a house or a flat? One bedroom or three? What is your budget? Location is important. If you don’t have a car research how you will access public transport and the distance to local amenities and schools. Will the layout of the housework for your family? Is the master bedroom downstairs and the kid’s rooms upstairs? Are you bring [pets to your rental property](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/renting-with-pets-what-you-need-to-know/)? If so, is it suitable and are they allowed? Think through how you would place your furniture and take a tape measure for the fridge space! That’s the most common mistake people make and end up having to buy a new fridge because their one doesn’t fit in the space. If you are serious about getting a place look for something slightly under your budget, not at the top end and as mentioned above this will give you room to offer a slightly higher rent and increase your chances of securing it. ### Be Prepared That sounds simple enough, but you would be surprised how many people come to an open for inspection and apply for the property a few days later when going for a rental property the turnover time from inspection to approval is typically about 24-48 hours. We receive applications as soon as we have done the inspection. If you have found the property you like, make sure you have everything the application requires including access to the funds to pay the deposit. People often have their deposit in a high interest-bearing account however sometimes it takes a day or so to access these funds and a real estate agency would need them immediately. Most agencies have an online application form now so you can upload all the required documents. The more information you include the better! It saves the agent time calling and asking you to send more through, sometimes having not enough on your application will instantly make an agent move onto the next application. ### Know your rights and duties Did you know you have a legal obligation, as a tenant, to have viewed the property before signing a lease? The Residential Tenancies Act covers Victorian rental properties and Consumer Affairs Victoria have published a booklet called ‘Renting – Your Rights and Responsibilities’. You should receive a copy of this booklet from your Landlord or Agent when you sign the lease agreement. Do you know when you are expected to pay your rent? Are you required to maintain the garden? Make sure you know these things before applying and if you don’t as the questions at the inspection. ### Arrange references When you find the house you like and want to submit an application, you’ll need to supply references. It helps to have all their details on hand, and to have sought their approval before providing their details. Referees and references from previous Landlords, employers and bank statements are usually the most commonly asked for. If you haven’t rented before but have [owned a home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-can-a-single-parent-buy-a-home/) a good idea is to print off or email details of your previous home and mortgage. As mentioned above the more information you can provide the better. Make sure those people you have put down as a reference are expecting a call, sometimes the references won’t disclose any information as they haven’t been made aware to expect a call. This can cause delays sometimes even days when the references are hard to contact. ### Understand the rental process Once you have been approved for a rental property you will be required to pay rent one month in advance and a bond which is normally the equivalent to one-months rental (sometimes this amount can be higher if the weekly rental is more than $350 per week) the bond is held with the Residential Tenancy Bond Authority and will be refunded at the end of the tenancy if the Lease conditions are met. You will be required to sign a Residential Tenancy Agreement usually for a period of 12 months, however, this can vary. ## Conclusion: Tips for rental property application success Securing a rental property can be a competitive and daunting process, but with proper preparation and a positive, organised approach, you can increase your chances of success. By following the tips and strategies outlined in this article, you can showcase your strengths and increase your appeal as a tenant. Remember, every rental property is unique, so tailor your application to the specific property and landlord you’re dealing with. With these tips in mind, you’ll be well on your way to rental application success and securing the rental property of your dreams. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/perfect-applicant-for-the-rental-property/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/perfect-applicant-for-the-rental-property/?share=x) - **Categories:** Property **Tags:** renting, rental property, rental property application --- ### [10 Strategies to return to work if you can't find a job](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/return-work-cant-find-work/) **Published:** July 9, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** All mothers understand the profound challenges of juggling family responsibilities while striving to maintain our professional identities. However, there are moments in life when, despite our best efforts, finding a job is an uphill battle. Frustration and discouragement can be overwhelming, leaving us questioning our worth and capabilities. At this time, you will need some strategies to return to work. In this article, I explore effective game plans to help you navigate returning to work when job opportunities appear scarce. I delve into alternative paths, unearth untapped potentials, and uncover the resources available to help you regain your professional footing. ## Expand your job search Sometimes, your vision can get clouded by what you’re familiar with, leading you to search for specific job titles. You’d be surprised that different job titles mean the same thing. Think Grant Writer and Fundraiser, Auto Mechanic and Automotive Technician, or as per my favourite comedy, Beautician and Image Stylist. So, instead of relying on the job title alone, read the entire job description in the posting. You can also try a strategy called cold-emailing. Here, you send out emails to potential employers to offer your services. They might not be actively looking to hire in the usual job portals, but you can open a need they have yet to realise. Who knows, there could be an employer who appreciates a proactive applicant instead of those passively waiting for job openings. ## Upgrade your skills You might be getting impatient while awaiting a job, but this can be the perfect opportunity to expand your skill set. This is also an excellent way to tell future employers you had a productive work gap. Here are some of the ways you can up skill before you return to work: ### Certifications Getting certified by an accredited, high-value provider assures you have a high level of knowledge and skills. Ever encountered the titles “Certified Life Coach” or “Certified Personal Trainer”? Professional certifications add credibility to your name. Some certifications, like Microsoft and Google, are sought-after in many tech-related workplaces. They can even be used in place of a degree. ### Courses Enrolling in accredited professional courses is also a good way to upgrade your skills. [Coursera](https://imp.i384100.net/LXZ5v3) and Udemy offer various courses, many of which are accredited. ## Practice, practice, practice Nothing’s better than hands-on work when upgrading your skills while waiting to return to work. For example, one interesting piece of advice I found on Reddit when I was looking for a writing job is maintaining a blog that will serve as my portfolio. Find opportunities to hone your craft and get non-paying clients to vouch for you. ## Consider temporary work Imagine all the fun Jack Black had as a temp in School of Rock! But seriously, don’t snub short-term employment. You can include it in your resume as job experience, so you’re not wasting your time. What’s more important is you hone your skills and improve your work ethic. If you’re finding it challenging to find permanent work, look for jobs listed as Contract or Project-based. The job responsibilities for temps are just the same as permanent employees. As far as I can recall from scouring various job sites, the salary for temps is the same, sometimes even higher. This is also an excellent opportunity to meet people to build your network. Plus, if you do an impressive job, they may hire you again for another project … or permanent work! ## Get networking As a self-confessed introvert, I tend to stay away from mingling with others growing up. But entering adulthood and joining the workforce, I recognised the importance of networking. It was a struggle for someone with fast-depleting social batteries. But I forced myself and eventually became more comfortable rubbing elbows with people. Your work gap is an excellent time to meet people within your profession. Go to fairs, conventions, and seminars as much as you can. And don’t just sit in a corner. Engage with other participants, organisers, exhibitors, and speakers. Connect with them on socials. Who knows, maybe you will meet your next employer in the conference. Regardless, there’s still heaps to learn from hanging with people in your field. For one, you will get an idea on how those in your profession act, talk, and dress. Also, you can catch a few tricks or insider knowledge to use in your next job interview. ## Do volunteer work Volunteering is a chance, not just to pass the time, but to hone your skills as you wait to return to work. I highly recommend offering to work voluntarily for your local daycare, community library, or an animal rescue organisation – causes closest to mostly everyone. Preferably, do work related to the job you’re looking for. If you’re looking for marketing jobs, you can build the organisation’s website or blog or manage its social media. If you’re a grant writer, you can write their proposals. This way, you also build your credibility in your profession. Psychologically, [volunteering is good for you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/). At a tough time when you might feel like your efforts for applying to job after job are going to waste, volunteering can boost your mental health. You’re doing something good, building relationships with people who can vouch for your character and work ethic, and gaining worthwhile work experience simultaneously. ## Update your resume Another super useful piece of advice from Reddit for who wish to return to work is to always [update your resume](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/resume-hacks/). You should update your resume at the end of the calendar year or once every three months. Even better, employers prefer highly personalised resume. What this means is you highlight the work experience, education, and skills that reflect what’s in the job vacancy. This shows you have researched about the potential employer. For example, if the job posting indicates experience over education, list the job history first. Focus on the work experience that makes you perfect for the job. On the contrary, list first your educational qualifications is that’s the employer’s main requirement. ## Change your availability (if you can) Another strategy when applying for jobs is tweaking your availability to match the company’s time. Research your potential employer’s work hours, and say so when the interviewer asks, “What’s your availability to work?” Unless you’re the unicorn everyone wants to hire, the company won’t change their schedules to accommodate you. You will be the one to adjust your schedule. As a mum, this can disrupt your already-established family routine. For starters, this can clash with your kids’ schedules. Make sure to get your children onboard with your plans to return to work. Seek their understanding of potential changes to your everyday life. Be prepared to seek help from your parents, friends, or a hired babysitter in case you do get hired. ## Boost your online presence Most employers care about what you post, so building a positive online reputation is always a good idea. If, like me, you can’t handle multitasking on the Internet, focus on one or two platforms to advertise yourself. LinkedIn is the most suitable for jobseekers and professionals. I use it to build my online presence alongside my personal blog. Instagram is an excellent option for photographers and artists. YouTube and TikTok for video creators. Facebook is still popular in Australia, so you can set up your business page to post relevant professional updates. Here’s something I’ve learned the hard way: from the get-go, create separate social media accounts for personal use and business. The business account is your best foot forward, meant to show what you want clients and employers to see. Keep rants and emotional issues from your business account, since doing so can turn off potential employers. That’s what your personal account is for. And limit access to your personal account to your closest family members and friends. ## Think about freelancing If you’ve tried almost everything but still fails to land a job, maybe it’s time to consider freelancing. It’s an awesome opportunity if you want flexibility and can work well with minimal supervision. Everyone can become a freelancer. Virtual assistance is one of the most popular online jobs today, but freelancing is more than than. Freelancing is simply being hired to do specific tasks or jobs without the commitment of full-time employment. Freelancers work on a per project, per task, or per hour basis, either online or on-location. Some of the most popular remote freelance jobs are graphic design, video editing, copywriting, SEO, blogging, ghostwriting, and social media marketing. ## Stay positive during your search Feeling down when rejected left and right during your job search is okay. You doubt yourself. You feel confused over your decision to work again. Acknowledge these feelings. Meditate. Write about them in your journal. Cry. Releasing the bottled up frustrations can help you feel refreshed and ready to start sending out those applications again. At the same time, realise that it’s not always your fault. Many others are also getting rejected, with the global recession and lack of available jobs for everyone. You’re not alone in this boat. Remember, too, that you are more than your capacity to make money. Who you are determines your worth, not your job. Lastly, actively pursue things that bring you joy in your downtime. Picture this: One day, you’ll get accepted to a job, and you won’t have heaps of free time for things you enjoy. ## Final words Finding a way to return to work as mum can be rough these days. With not enough jobs available, coupled with the current state of the economy, you can struggle from getting a job offer. It’s normal to feel frustrated when you keep getting rejected. After all, you are not just doing this for your personal professional growth. You also have your family to support. But don’t lose heart. The strategies I have listed and discussed above can help you improve your chances navigating the job market. Investigate other job paths, keep up-skilling, update your résumé, network with other professionals, be adaptable, and, most importantly, have a positive mindset. Remember that those who wait patiently will be rewarded. In addition to the tactics in this guide, don’t forget to make the most of this time. Be more present with your family. Keep yourself healthy by exercising, eating nutritious food, and [getting enough sleep](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/). Pursue your hobbies. Since you can’t control when you’re getting “that” call, you don’t know until when you have spare time to do the things you love. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/return-work-cant-find-work/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/return-work-cant-find-work/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** job, workforce, find work --- ### [How to watch movies online for free Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/movies-online-for-free/) **Published:** June 15, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** With the ever-increasing cost of movie tickets, streaming services and rentals, you might wonder where and how to watch movies online for free. Since I love nothing more than getting lost in a good movie (with or without my kids), knowing how to access them without paying saves me heaps. Why pay for something when you don’t have to? In this article, I share ways to find and watch movies online for free … legally, of course. So, grab your popcorn, kick back, and get ready to save some serious cash on your next [movie marathon](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/15-uplifting-single-mums-movies/). ## Free trials on streaming services If you’re already paying for a streaming service, you’ll be able to watch plenty of movies without forking out more money elsewhere. For streaming services you’re not paying for, why not give the free trials a whirl? The most popular streaming services such as Netflix and Binge and Amazon Prime Video all lure new users in with a free trial offer. This could be anywhere between one to four weeks. The trick is to time your trial when you have plenty of viewing time available. Oh, and remember to cancel it before your trial period ends; otherwise the card you used to start the free trial (yes, you must provide card details to get the trial) will be charged. ## YouTube and other video sharing platforms If you don’t mind ads and commercials, you can score some incredible movies on various video streaming platforms. I found some of my favourite indie films on YouTube, shared for free by the producers and directors. Aside from YouTube, you can also watch old and new movies and TV shows on platforms like: - Amazon Freevee - Roku Channel - Pluto TV - Tubi - Crackle - Sling Freestream - Vudu Most of which have live streams and some top-notch original content. A lot of these apps don’t require you to sign up for an account. But doing so allows you to continue watching when you switch to a different device. Some ads can be pretty annoying, but that’s the price we pay for free. ## Hire DVD’s from your local library Books are just one of many things you can borrow from your local library. You can also find games, music, movies, and more! Of course, every library is different. Well-funded libraries will have a more diverse and up-to-date collection of DVDs. On the other hand, you might have to settle for a limited selection of movies if your library is underfunded. Take a look though as you are sure to find a rare gem. Side note: Did you know you can help your local library get funds by borrowing their resources? Librarians can use your usage data – what types of materials you rent, how many times you’ve borrowed, your queries and recommendations – to request funds from the government and their benefactors. So, if you want to help your local library get more financial support to buy more movies, definitely check out the DVD section. ## Free, local movie screenings Sometimes, your local library, a film group, a school, or a private organisation hosts free movie screenings on certain occasions. Grab this opportunity to see movies you haven’t seen before (or something you’ve seen before but love watching repeatedly) and discuss with fellow film enthusiasts. Of course, you must get off your couch and remove your slippers for this one, but it gets you out of the house and it’s fun to watch a movie with others. This is an excellent way for you to encourage these groups to host more movie screenings. In addition, supporting these events can motivate the organisers to host similar events in the future, giving you more opportunities to catch free movies. ## Websites that offer movies online for free Aside from the video streaming platforms listed above, sometimes a quick Google search is all it takes to watch a movie you want without paying. There are hundreds of websites that upload movies. Many of them have ads and don’t require signing up. However, some websites upload content illegally, so there can be some copyright issues. Some can also host malicious content and viruses or steal your data, so check the online reviews first, stick to the “safe” options, and use a VPN service. ## Conclusion: How to watch movies online for free Accessing and enjoying movies online for free in Australia is possible through various legal and legitimate platforms. By utilising streaming services with free trials, exploring the libraries of ad-supported platforms, and leveraging the resources provided by public libraries, you can happily indulge in your favourite movies without paying or doing anything illegal. Be sure to exercise caution and be mindful of [copyright laws](https://www.copyright.org.au/browse/book/ACC-Films,-DVDs,-TV-&-Streaming-Services:-Screening-in-Public-INFO031), respecting the rights of content creators. Happy free viewing everyone! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/movies-online-for-free/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/movies-online-for-free/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money --- ### [How get started with post graduate career options](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/post-graduate-career-options/) **Published:** June 15, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Launching a shiny new career after completing study is both exhilarating and transformative. But you might wonder how you get started. This article will help you unlock your professional potential and navigate the initial steps of launching your post graduate career. Think of it this way: You’ve studied hard and put in so much effort to get this far. You need to get the next part right to make it all worthwhile. Choosing the perfect post-graduate career requires planning, perseverance, and a proactive mindset. Keep reading to gain the confidence and tools necessary to navigate the early stages of your professional journey, setting the stage for long-term success and fulfilment. ***Further reading: [Things to think about before heading back to college.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-things-to-think-about-before-heading-back-to-college/)*** ## What are your career aspirations? Many successful career women have converted their hobbies and interests into paying careers after seeking a postgraduate degree. Consider your desires when deciding what [online postgraduate courses](https://www.industry.gov.au/work-us/careers-graduates) in Australia you should pursue. It will make a difference if you have the chance to prepare for a paying career that encompasses at least one of your primary passions. For instance, some women combine creativity with their love for children. Others have the desire to help victims seek justice within the court system. Whatever vocational journey you choose, make sure it includes activities you enjoy. Then, take the following steps to make your aspirations a reality. ## Identify your talents If you are organised or have eloquent speaking skills, you might transition into a management degree. You also can narrow your focus to someone who oversees large teams who complete projects, or you could integrate your interest in technology with a teaching degree. Otherwise, you could apply your ability to empathise with others with a master’s degree in mental health or nursing. As a bonus, it helps if you also enjoy the activities that are your most prominent abilities. ## Explore your post graduate career options Many single mums later started small businesses or began employment with a company that allowed them to put their families first. An advanced education also gives you an advantage when seeking work that pays you a substantial salary and allows you to control your schedule. You may have more vacation days or not have to work on weekends, for instance, if in a management position. Another way to determine your best career path is to take a single unit in a subject that interests you. It can help you establish whether you should consider a [full-time career](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-for-single-parents-working-full-time/) in the field represented by the class you take. In addition, you will need to find out what courses are available when considering a field of interest. Some programs include online and on-campus classes, while others can be completed [online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-courses-that-can-improve-your-job-prospects/). ## Start the application process Once you have found a program highlighting some of your core interests, abilities, and learning preferences, it is time to apply for entry. This will include answering questionnaires concerning your career goals and supplying records that confirm your identity and course completion history. When filling out college admission forms, provide as much relevant information as possible to ensure correct course placement. You will also need to be ready to disclose additional documentation, such as information about work history and financial data. If you have any questions during the application process, an enrolment advisor can help. Approval of program admittance may take at least a few weeks. You can contact your school of choice anytime to check your application status. ## Plan your course schedule After being admitted into your school of choice, it is time to plan your schedule. This usually is easier when you register for online classes because most Internet courses allow you to study anywhere anytime. When you enrol in an accelerated program, you can obtain a postgraduate degree in as little time as about two years. When planning your schedule, you also will decide the order in which you should take each course. The sequence of study partly depends on the prerequisites for entrance and degree requirements. However, you can still decide what classes will help you best achieve your career goals. ## Set new priorities Although you can study at your own pace, you may want to set new priorities. For instance, you may have to sacrifice some leisure activities to finish your learning path on time. It also may require that you set boundaries with other people who frequently request favours from you. If your children are old enough, consider asking them to help you with household chores and cooking to free up more of your time. ***Further reading: [How to fit earning a degree into busy single mum life.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/earning-a-degree/)*** ## Request assistance for your post graduate career options For example, you may need a child car subsidy available to eligible parents. Also, ask your friends and family if they can help care for your children when you need to study. In addition, it would be wise to take advantage of all the educational support offered to you. Usually, instructors will answer questions in forums and emails. Depending on your post graduate career options, some teachers may also be available by telephone, and if you live near the campus, you might even be able to meet an instructor in person. However, Internet courses usually provide primarily online support that is personalised enough that students may never be required to meet professors face to face. ## How important is education to you? When you allocate time and money to course completion, consider it an investment in yourself. Not only that, but enrolling in a program that will help you find a job supporting your children is also an investment in their lives. If lack of funds is a concern, try not to worry too much. Financing and grants from both public and private sources are available if you take the time to find them. If you are still determining whether obtaining a degree is worth the time and effort, speak to women currently in your desired career. Reading biographies of other single mums who transformed their lives may also inspire you. However, the best way to determine if it is worth it is to take a chance. If you have at least some goals, you will have no problem making your dreams come true. ## Conclusion Moving from education to a post-graduate career can feel exciting yet scary. Remember, it is a transitional phase, and you will see it through … successfully! Try delving into diverse industries, establishing professional connections, and seeking guidance from career advisors or mentors can provide invaluable insights and unlock pathways to opportunities. We wish you every success with your move to a post graduate career. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/post-graduate-career-options/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/post-graduate-career-options/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** career, study, college, university --- ### [30+ Single mother and son quotes to melt your heart](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mother-and-son-quotes/) **Published:** June 17, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the beautiful bond shared between a single mother and her son lies a world of love, strength, and resilience. It’s so special that we are dedicating this whole article to single mother and son quotes. Through the challenges faced and the triumphs celebrated, single mothers and their sons forge an unbreakable connection that touches hearts and inspires others. In this article, we have compiled 15 heartfelt quotes that encapsulate the profound love and deep bond between single mothers and their sons. Prepare to be moved as these quotes melt your heart and remind us of the extraordinary power of a mother’s love. ## What makes a relationship between a single mother and her son so special? ### Unconditional Love and Support A single mum’s relationship with her son is frequently defined by an unshakeable foundation of unrestricted love and support. A single mum is there to offer constant love, direction, and support through the highs and lows of life, forging a personal and distinctive connection. ### Strong Resilience Single mums frequently demonstrate extraordinary resiliency in their dual roles as nurturers and providers. Their sons are inspired by their perseverance because they see directly the tenacity and resolve needed to face adversities. As a result, a single mum and her son have a strong bond based on their mutual appreciation of each other’s fortitude. ### Mutual Growth and Empowerment A single mum’s relationship with her son promotes growth and empowerment. Her son watches her courage as she navigates challenges and picks up helpful life lessons. The son then becomes a source of pride and motivation for his mum, strengthening their relationship and encouraging personal growth. ### Deep Emotional Connection A single mum and her son often have open communication, trust, and shared experiences. These lead to a deep level of understanding and empathy between the two. This emotional bond leads mum and son to become vulnerable toward each other, heal, and unite. ### Role Modelling and Life Lessons A single mum often plays the dual role of a mother and a father for her son. This is incredibly challenging for a mum. But it also provides valuable life lessons and role modelling, as she shares important values, teaches resilience, nurtures independence, and instils a strong work ethic in him. Because of their shared experiences, her son learns to appreciate these lessons and forge a special bond with his mum. ### Empathy and Compassion As a son witnesses his mum’s daily struggles and sacrifices, he develops a genuine understanding and appreciation for her. This deep sense of empathy and compassion creates a nurturing environment that strengthens their relationship, laying the foundation for emotional growth for both. ### Unbreakable Support System A single mum and her son become each other’s confidantes, sources of strength, and trusted allies. The son provides the mum with emotional support, while the mum gives the son guidance and encouragement. Their support system fosters security and belonging, enhancing their emotional bond. ### Shared Achievements and Milestones A single mum and her son share a journey of achievements and milestones. They overcome obstacles and celebrate success together. These memories and experiences strengthen their relationship, creating a sense of pride in what they have endured and accomplished. ### Mutual Respect and Appreciation A single mum and her son can recognise each other’s strengths, efforts, and sacrifices, building a foundation of mutual respect and appreciation for one another. This becomes the basis of a special bond that lasts forever. ## Single mother and son quotes to melt your heart - Being a single mum to a son is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you never knew existed - The love between a mother and son is forever - Sons are the anchor of their mother’s life - Sometimes I still cry. But when I look at my son and he’s smiling back at me – I’m reminded why I have to be strong - A son may outgrow a mother’s lap, but he will never outgrow her heart. - A son is a love that lasts a lifetime - A son is a little boy who grows up to be his mother’s pride and joy - A son’s love for his mother is like nothing else in the world. It knows no boundaries or limits. - A mother’s love is the foundation that shapes a son’s life - A mother’s love is like sunshine. It warms, illuminates, and brings a sense of joy to all it touches … most especially her son. - A son may grow taller than his mother, but he will never outgrow her heart - Being a single mother to a son is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears, but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride - A single mother’s love for her son is the strongest, bravest love you’ll ever find - A single mother may not be able to be in two places at once, but her love is always present in her son’s heart - Being a single mother to a son means that you are stronger than you think you are. - A single mother’s love knows no limits or boundaries. She will move mountains for her son. - A single mother may not be able to give her son everything, but she gives him everything she’s got - Single mums don’t have it easy. But they always find a way to make it work, even when they don’t know how. It’s the love for their son that pushes them through, every single time. - Being a single mum to a son means sacrifice: time, money, sleep, privacy. And we give them all, willingly. Just to keep them safe and warm; to let them know they are loved. - Single parent mothers who aren’t spending their time looking for a man but spending their time providing for their son are the most admirable people on earth. - I never knew how strong I was, until I became a single mum to a son and being strong was the only choice I had - The weight of the world rests on my shoulder and not only am I surviving, I am knocking it out of the park. My son is still breathing; he is growing: he laughs, loves, and thrives. *(Kaly McKenna)* - To be a good mother to my son while my heart was breaking was one of the hardest roles I’ve ever had to play - Being a single parent to a son is not a life full of struggles, but a journey for the strong. *(Meg Lowrey)* - A single mother to a son has a backbone made of steel and a heart made of gold - It’s easier to build strong men than it is to repair broken men. That’s my job as a single mum. - A single mother is never really alone in her thoughts. She always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her son. - Single mums with sons have a resilience that knows no bounds, a strength that can move mountains, and a love that can heal all wounds. - It’s hard growing up without a father, but it’s easy when you have a fantastic mother who plays both roles - Single mums: You may be solo, but you are never alone. You have the love and support of your son, and you are stronger than you know. ## Final words: Single mother and son quotes We hope your have found joy in reading this article packed full of single mother and son quotes. Whilst parenting is very rewarding, it can be extremely challenging at the same time. Having some [inspirational quotes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-quotes-to-inspire-and-uplift/) and [positive mantras](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/100-mantras-for-mums/) strategically placed where you can see them daily act as simple reminders of our intentions. We leave you with love and well wishes to all the single mothers and sons out there. ![Single mother and son quotes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Single-mother-and-son-534x800.png "Single-mother-and-son - Beanstalk Mums")### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mother-and-son-quotes/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mother-and-son-quotes/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** mantras, quotes, sayings, sons --- ### [What is catfishing and how can we protect ourselves?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/catfishing-can-protect/) **Published:** June 20, 2023 **Author:** Melissa Ferrari **Content:** The rise of online dating has significantly opened up opportunities to meet future partners. This is particularly true for single mums who may not be able to get out much because of caring for young children. Incredibly convenient and simple, there are endless [dating websites and apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2019/) to try your luck with. However, in all the fun and excitement, it’s easy to get carried away and forget that there are some potential dangers to look out for too. ***Further reading: [5 Tips to tackle online dating fatigue.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-fatigue/)*** ## What is catfishing on the Internet The term’ catfishing’ is used to describe when someone has created a fake [online identity](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Online_identity) with the intent to pursue someone romantically under false pretenses. ## Why do people catfish? Some catfish because they don’t wish to reveal something they see as potentially negative about themselves, and some do it just for fun. Unfortunately, others have more sinister agendas, such as wanting to coerce someone into doing something they wouldn’t normally do. For example, to give money, send intimate photos, or are trying to gather enough information to commit fraud identity. ## How can catfishing make you feel? Even if the catfishing is not particularly sinister, it can still be extremely hurtful and frustrating when you’ve invested time in someone online, only for them not to be who you thought they were. It can also make some women feel vulnerable and impact their ability to trust anyone again, especially if they have already suffered a traumatic breakup. Catfishing is a somewhat scary concept. However don’t let it stop you from using dating apps and sites. You need to protect yourself. ## Tips to avoid being a victim of catfishing - Never use the Internet for online dating while under the influence of alcohol or drugs. - Block anyone suspicious. - Don’t leave it weeks, but take time to get to know someone and check that things’ add up’ before meeting up in real life. - Do a background check – Google a potential date if you have enough details. Thanks to the increase in online dating apps, you can also use searches created for potential dates. - Look for red flags, such as spelling mistakes and bad grammar on a profile when someone has stated they are college or university educated. - Be wary if they mention recent traumatic life events (such as the death of a partner or child), as many will fake stories such as these to make you feel sorry for them and therefore be more trusting. - One of the most significant indicators of catfishing is when a person makes excuses not to meet you, won’t do a video call and even avoids all conversation about when to meet up. If they’re putting off a face-to-face date, it could mean they have something to hide. - If a profile photo looks like a Hollywood movie star or model and appears too good to be true, use Google Images to check the profile photo. If it comes up on another site that makes you feel suspicious, or it’s out rightly a magazine cover model, you are potentially being catfished. You can also use Catfish reverse image search apps. - Always remember, if it’s too good to be true, it probably is. ## What to do if you are catfished If you are catfished, please remember, it is not your fault. It’s an unfortunate consequence of online interactions; many people have faced similar situations. Here are some suggestions if you realise you have been catfished. ### Step back Step back, remove your emotions (where possible), and assess the situation for what it is. Gather all the information you have about the person who catfished you. Review your conversations, their profile, and any photos or details they shared. Take note of any red flags or inconsistencies. ### Stop communication Cease all communication with the person who catfished you. It’s important not to engage or confront them, as they may attempt to manipulate or deceive you. You may be tempted to have a go at them, tell them how you feel and what you think about them. Don’t! Just stop communicating. They are not worth it. ### Protect your privacy If you shared any personal information with the catfisher, such as your address, phone number, or financial details, take measures to secure your information. Change your passwords for online accounts and consider enabling two-factor authentication for added security. If you have real concerns, call your local police for advice or a referral for online security support. ### Report them If you met the person on a dating website or app, report the incident to the platform’s administrators. Provide them with the relevant information and evidence to help them investigate the situation and potentially prevent others from falling victim to the same catfisher. ### Get support Talk to friends, family, or online communities for support. Sharing your experience with others can be cathartic and may help you gain perspective. You are not alone. Many people are catfished. Just knowing this makes it easier to bare and understand. ### Learn from it Take this as an opportunity to reflect on the signs you may have missed and learn how to protect yourself in the future better. Be cautious and skeptical about [keeping safe while online dating](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/), especially when dealing with individuals you haven’t met in person. ### Get professional support If you’re struggling emotionally or mentally due to catfishing, don’t hesitate to seek support from a therapist or counsellor. They can help you process your feelings, build resilience, and develop healthy coping mechanisms. ***Further reading: [10 Online dating mistakes single mums should avoid.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-dating-mistakes/)*** ## And then there’s kittenfishing Another thing to be mindful of is kittenfishing. It’s quite likely you’re even guilty of this yourself! A much lighter version of catfishing is when someone embellishes or improves [their profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/decoding-online-dating-profile/) to make themselves more appealing online – such as using a photo from ten years ago, adjusting their age or lying about their education or profession. Generally, people who kittenfish aren’t meaning to be harmful. The reason is to present their best version to increase their odds of meeting someone. However, this doesn’t make it any less annoying when you meet them in person. And if you are tempted to kittenfish yourself, remember that potential dates and future partners will uncover the ‘real you’ at some point. Therefore, a true reflection of who you really are is always best. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/catfishing-can-protect/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/catfishing-can-protect/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, catfishing, fake identity --- ### [How to get value for money from divorce lawyers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/value-money-divorce-lawyers/) **Published:** June 22, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Not all separations require you to hire divorce lawyers. However, legal support is your only option if you cannot communicate effectively and reach agreements with your ex. And yes, divorce lawyers are expensive. Even more so if your case ends up in the family court. Be sure to avoid this at all costs. But there are ways to stretch your money further during your legal proceedings so you have more in the bank to start your new life as a single parent. Here are some simple ways to make sure you get the most for your money from your divorce lawyers, because why pay a cent more than you have to? ***Further reading: [9 Places to get free legal support in Australia.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-legal-support-australia/)*** ## Tell your lawyer if you have a set budget Be sure to establish your financial limitations with your lawyer. Yes, you may know your chosen attorney’s hourly rate, but make sure they understand how much you can pay. You’ve found a good divorce lawyer if they have set fees with no scary extras and acceptable, no-interest payment plans. Remember that you have other things to worry about financially. Perhaps a new apartment or car, or you may need to go on that one holiday to deal with divorce stress. Look at your finances to figure out how much money and how many hours you can afford for your divorce proceedings, and let your lawyer know. ## Limit your contact with your lawyer You might feel very relieved to have found a good divorce lawyer. Someone to fight your corner and take an interest. It may even feel like you have a new best friend, someone to share every deal of your separation with, as and when it happens. Don’t do this! Whether on the loo or staring at the ceiling wide awake at night overwhelmed by divorce-related thoughts, refrain from texting or calling your lawyer whenever you have a question. Note: Your lawyer will charge you every time you make contact. And this, as you can imagine, will rack up costs. Instead, grab your phone, open your Notes app, and add it to a list of questions and requests you want to address in your next appointment. Make every minute and hour in contact with your lawyer count. ## Do what you can yourself A large part of a separation is clerical work. Things like finding documents, certificates, confirming dates, working out finances etc. Much of this you can do yourself for free instead of paying a divorce lawyer a high price for basic admin services. There are other parts of the proceedings that you can educate on and then do yourself, such as [writing an affidavit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-write-an-affidavit-for-family-court/) or creating a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/). At each stage, check with your lawyer what needs to be done and ascertain whether or not you can do it independently. It will save you money and empower you throughout your separation to know you played an effective part in the outcome. ## Lower the conflict Separation, especially with kids involved, is a messy business and even the most amicable divorce comes with some level of conflict. If you are hiring divorce lawyers, this suggests that you and your ex are struggling to reach agreements. But did you know that each disagreement you cannot resolve between yourselves, which ends up with your lawyers, will cost you big time? Instead of going the turbulent route and adding another expensive hour to your bill, as I have mentioned before, add your demands to your list of questions and issues to discuss in one sitting with your divorce lawyer at your next appointment. Or, try and resolve some of the easier issues yourselves and notify your respective lawyers of the agreements you have reached. ## Be 100% honest with your divorce lawyer Remember, that your lawyer is dealing with facts. Such as when you separated, your current asset pool, your living circumstances and your children. Ensure you are completely honest with your divorce lawyer from the get-go. Not only is lying or not disclosing certain information illegal, but the truth will come out, which will delay your legal proceeding, costing you more. The same goes for your ex-partner too. If they provide non-factual information, flag it immediately so your lawyer can push for the truth. Playing games with the truth from either party in a property settlement will rack up lawyer bills unnecessarily. ## Rant to your therapist, not your lawyer Your lawyer does not need to know how bad the sex got during the last two years of your marriage or how awful your ex’s tastes in clothes and music are. As callous as it sounds, the only personal details your lawyer needs to know are things that will help them negotiate the best possible situation to divide your property and the most beneficial custody arrangement for you and the kids. You are being billed for every minute you spend venting to your lawyer. That money will be better spent on therapy where your grief, trauma, and stress can be appropriately processed. Your divorce lawyer has heard it all. They may be sympathetic, but that’s only because you are a client whom they want to feel taken care of. ## Avoid the family court Not all family legal proceedings require a day or more court. Most are settled out of court unless the case is really complex or has safety issues. Any divorce lawyer worth their salt will prioritise you avoiding court at all costs (excuse the pun). Going to a [family court](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/) is expensive, stressful, and often extraordinarily lengthy and unpleasant. If you feel your family lawyer is pushing you towards the court option, put the breaks on and ask how to resolve matters more directly instead. If court is inevitable, you could consider [self-representation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-representing-family-court/), which means your divorce lawyer will not be there to represent you on the day at a colossal cost and you will talk for yourself. Not only is court costly, but it takes essential decisions around finances and childcare out of your hands. They will be decided by a judge who knows very little about your personal circumstances and the best forward for you and, more importantly, your children. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/value-money-divorce-lawyers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/value-money-divorce-lawyers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** family law, property settlement, court, attorney, child custody --- ### [12 Ways to maximise car fuel efficiency and save money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/improving-power-fuel-efficiency-car/) **Published:** June 28, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** With fuel prices at an all-time high, getting from A to B has never been more expensive. For this reason, educating yourself on car fuel efficiency and practicing what you learn is a great way to save money at the pump. Not only does full efficiency mean fewer petrol station stops, and a fatter wallet but it also reduces your carbon footprint, which is a huge bonus. Whether planning a road trip or cutting down on commuting costs, optimising fuel efficiency is a win-win. Now, let’s be clear … I’m no expert, just an everyday driver like you who wants to combat high fuel costs. So, I’ll share practical, jargon-free tips in a casual, relatable manner. Buckle up because I’ve got the ultimate guide to maximising your car’s fuel efficiency and saving money, without even popping your bonnet. ## Check and inflate your tires Remember when we were learning how to drive, we were being taught repeatedly to check our tires, gas, motor oil, water etc… Well yeah, I don’t believe any of us are actually doing that, not even the instructor who told us to. But it doesn’t mean we should keep neglecting to check these things. For example, having deflated or overinflated tires can cause you to drag on the road, or to wear out your tires more easily, causing you to lose traction. Either way, you will either step on your gas more or exert more effort on maneuvering. Check your tires as often as you can at the petrol station, and make sure they meet their recommended tire pressure by checking and re-inflating. ## Remove excess weight from the car Just like a horse carrying a rider and cargo, your car works more and burns more fuel when it’s carrying heavier weight. For every extra 45 kgs your car is carrying, your fuel expenditure goes up by 2%. The smaller your car, the lighter it can optimally carry. So try to limit the weight of your car as much as you can. Besides the spare tire, your weight, and your kids’ combined weight, check if you’re treating your car boot as a perpetual storage room for some of your things. It’s okay, I’m also guilty of that, so I’m not going to judge if you still have the luggage that you brought on your last vacation in the boot. But, yes, ‘right now’ is the right time for you to unload that. If life gets too busy for you to maintain your car mess-free every day, try to do a weekly declutter of your car. It’s important that from time to time, make sure that you are not keeping on unnecessary weight for your car as this will help in staying fuel-efficient. ## Get your car serviced regularly Follow your prescribed and planned schedule of having your car serviced. When in doubt, take a look at your owner’s manual for the manufacturer-recommended maintenance schedule of your car. With the kids’ birthdays, school events, and your doctor’s appointments, I understand how easy it is to forget when the next service date is. Regular servicing ensures that your vehicle is running efficiently and will save you time and money in the long run. Being able to tune a neglected vehicle just in time, or providing repairs to any damage that may cause your car to fail an emissions test can increase fuel efficiency by 5-40%, depending on the extensiveness of the damage and repair. ## Use recommended grade motor oil Using the [recommended grade motor oil](https://www.carexpert.com.au/car-news/which-engine-oil-should-you-use) for your car engine can improve fuel efficiency 1%–2% and save you some coins. Always make sure that you refer to your car manual for the manufacturer’s recommended grade motor oil if you are not sure of what to put in. You may also have the opportunity to select recommended grade motor oil that contains friction-reducing additives that improve fuel efficiency. Note that lower viscosity oils improve fuel efficiency and reduce greenhouse gas emissions. ## Plan the shortest route This is pretty obvious. The shorter your route is, the less time you need to be on the road and burning up fuel. Use navigation apps to help you identify routes that would help you maintain fair fuel efficiency. If you want to save money, it’s time to give up those long drives around your neighbourhood that you used to enjoy in order to clear your head, eat junk food away from your kids, or listen to your guilty pleasure podcast and nasty songs. Or is that just me? ## Drive smoothly The way you drive hugely influences your car’s fuel efficiency. For example, slamming often on your brakes will increase fuel consumption as you need to accelerate soon again, later. Avoid following too closely behind the vehicle in front of you since this will result into you stepping on the brakes harder than usual, repeatedly. Besides, tailgating is dangerous, bad practice, and to be totally avoided. Anticipate and be a predictive and defensive driver. Needless to say, keep observing the road ahead and plan your next move. To be more fuel efficient, avoid slamming on the brakes to a complete stop (you really don’t need to stop and yell at the jerk who overtook you). Instead, try slowing down as you approach the red light. When reaching the foot of a descent, start accelerating as you edge closer to it, not when you approach the next ascent. Hard and sudden accelerations when moving your car from a complete stop or climbing uphill will consume more fuel than you would if you drive smarter. ## Optimise your driving speed When you rev your accelerator to a high revolutions per minute (RPM), you burn up more fuel than ideal. It’s better for fuel efficiency when it is revolving slower, or when your engine is working at a lower RPM. Also, for smaller or light-duty vehicles, every 8 kph you drive over 80 mph is like paying $0.15 more per litre of gas. Reducing your speed by 8 to 13 kph can improve your fuel efficiency by 7%–14%. ## Minimise use of air-conditioning This is more nuanced than you may think. Did you know that turning up the air-conditioning can reduce a car’s fuel economy by more than 25%, especially on those short errand trips? BUT driving with your windows open is not great for fuel efficiency when you are driving at higher speeds because it causes wind resistance and makes your vehicle consume more fuel to move forward at high speed. Lowering your windows and turning off your air-conditioning at low speeds won’t have too much effect on your fuel efficiency, but if you’re on the freeway— it could cost you. So roll the windows down on neighbourhood and errand trips and turn on the air-conditioning when driving on the highway. Don’t use the air-conditioning at a fan level that is more than needed or at a temperature lower than you need to stay comfortable. Park in a nice shade so that you don’t have to blast the AC to counter the heat inside the cabin when you get in the car. Don’t idle with the air-conditioner running to cool your car before driving. Keep the windows open as you initially drive for a short time before turning on the air-conditioning to allow the hot air to leave the cabin first. This will put less demand on the air-conditioning unit and help your vehicle cool faster when you decide to turn the air-conditioning on. ## Use cruise control for fuel efficiency Your speed and gears directly affect fuel efficiency. If you’re driving an automatic or manual car, you should make use of the car’s cruise control to maintain your speed efficiently. If you’re using a manual car, maintain a higher gear when appropriate. Stepping on your gas pedal in first gear demands much higher energy than if you drive at your desired speed at second or third gear, whichever is appropriate. Again, in order to reduce your fuel consumption, check if you are using your gears or cruise control in order to help your engines go through fewer revolutions per minute (RPM) as possible. ## Remove the roof rack (if you don’t use it) In case you didn’t know, roof racks are a literal drag on your fuel efficiency, especially when you are driving at higher speeds. The faster your car moves, the smaller front area it needs to be able to maintain fuel efficiently. Roof racks can increase fuel consumption because of the additional aerodynamic drag they create. Unless heavy cargo is loaded onto the rack making it at least useful, drag is the only thing your roof rack is contributing to your car and your fuel economy. I understand how easy it is to leave the roof rack there, I mean why install it if not to keep it available right? But try to remove empty roof racks for better fuel efficiency especially when you are travelling for long distances and at higher speeds, like on highways or freeways. ## Use apps to find the cheapest fuel near you Before, we just crossed our fingers and prayed as we drove to the petrol station nearest our place of work hoping they don’t have painful rates. Now, with the inflation, it is much better to know what prices are being set close to us before we decide where to drive to have our tanks refilled. Depending on where you are, there are different apps that can be helpful for you in finding the cheapest fuel near you. PetrolSpy Australia, Fuel Map Australia, Simples: Compare & Save, MotorMouth, and state-based apps like Fair Fuel (RACQ) and FuelCheck (NSW) are some of these most downloaded price-monitoring apps that can inform you of the best servo to go to for better fuel prices. **Further reading: [7 Apps to find the cheapest fuel near you. ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/apps-find-cheapest-fuel-near-you-australia/)** ## Take advantage of fuel coupons Look out for petrol station-related promotions at the shopping centres you frequent and don’t miss the fuel discounts and coupons they offer at supermarket chains near you. If you’re vigilant enough, you might be able to get low-priced petrol year-round or up to 10% discounts. Also, when at the petrol station, chat with the cashier or attendant up and ask them if there are any ongoing promotions they have with other businesses around your neighbourhood and which coupons they are currently accepting. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/improving-power-fuel-efficiency-car/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/improving-power-fuel-efficiency-car/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money **Tags:** petrol, mechanics, driving --- ### [Online courses to improve your job prospects](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/online-courses-that-can-improve-your-job-prospects/) **Published:** June 28, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Taking certificate and diploma courses online is a valuable way to improve your job prospects, and ultimately your chance of moving up in a current job or finding a better-paying position. For single mums who have put their careers on hold to raise a family, it’s also helpful for keeping skills fresh and showing initiative that will impress prospective employers. You can build upon a degree or job experience you already possess or branch out into another field that interests you. Some top online degree courses provide helpful training in various fields, giving you more flexibility when looking for a job. Digital jobs are needed in just about any company or organisation. At the other end of the spectrum, jobs that involve hands-on services are also in demand. For example, if you check job openings, you’ll see many nursing and health support positions available at any given time. When considering which course of study to pursue online, it’s best to balance current job market needs with your own skills and interests. ***Further reading: [10 Strategies to return to work if you can’t find a job.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/return-work-cant-find-work/)*** ## Degrees with a High Rate of Return Recent graduates that are the most satisfied with the [relevance of their degrees](https://www.news.com.au/finance/work/careers/nearly-half-of-degrees-soon-to-be-worthless-leaving-students-with-more-debt-and-poor-job-prospects/news-story/983dce074b81ac1402b66433115d4e97) have mostly graduated in either technical or people-oriented fields. Academic degrees and those in the humanities like social sciences, architecture, and creative arts are less likely to provide as many job opportunities in today’s job market. Here are the top five degrees from the past few years with their levels of graduate satisfaction: - Nursing (87%) - Health Services (86%) - Education (80%) - Law/Paralegal (79%) - Business/Management (67%) ## Distance Learning to improve job prospects [Returning to school](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tips-for-studying-as-a-single-mum/) is a challenge for anyone, especially for a single parent. Luckily, the ability to take classes online makes it easier to continue your education or make a career switch. Distance education allows you to communicate with classmates, form study groups, and connect with faculty members in a cyber-learning environment. Chat rooms, online forums, e-mail, and video-conferencing are available to help online students stay connected in a virtual learning environment. The time saved by not having to drive to campus and sit through classes can help working single mums move ahead. Part-time programs are available, and most online courses are self-paced with a flexible time frame for completing assignments. Whether for career advancement or re-entry to the workforce, getting an online certificate or diploma can be a positive step in the right direction for a single mum. **Based on the job fields with the best prospects, here are some suggestions for certificate and diploma programs:** ## Business/Tech Jobs ### Digital Support Technical skills are needed across all five disciplines that rate highly for job availability. Learning to be a programmer is a career path you can continue building on by upgrading your skills. Today, it is a male-oriented field that includes more women than ever before, and programmers are needed in Australia. A **Certificate in Programming** will teach you the fundamental programming languages. This is a good foundation for an entry-level position in tech, such as an assistant programmer or web designer. If you are interested in math and logic, programming might be the right course of study for you. ### Business Administration One of the most in-demand jobs during the first half of last year was executive administrative assistant. Professionals in business, construction, real estate, sales, and many other fields rely on administrative assistants for support. A **Certificate or Diploma in Business Administration** will prepare you to use office systems, prepare documentation and work as a team member. This could be a good career choice if you’re organised and enjoy composing correspondence, assisting with presentations and preparing reports. A vital component of customer service is involved, so excellent interpersonal skills are a plus. ### Law Like an administrative assistant, a paralegal secretary supports professionals, such as Barristers and Solicitors. With a **Legal Administration Certificate**, you can apply for a legal secretary or administrative assistant job in a law firm. If you previously worked in this setting, a current certificate will give you an edge when you begin looking for jobs in the field. It can also be a springboard for transitioning from a current job as an administrative assistant into a paralegal position. ## People-Oriented Jobs ### Nursing The health field includes jobs in nursing, radiology, counselling, and other patient support areas. For busy mums, enrolling in distance learning courses instead of attending a physical campus can make or break the opportunity to get a nursing degree. Throughout Australia, you can take classes for a **Diploma in Nursing** online. Some job opportunities with a nursing degree include positions in hospitals, doctor’s offices, rehabilitation facilities, and elder care homes. A nursing degree could be a good choice if you’re a compassionate person with good communication skills. ### Counselling If you’re interested in getting a counselling degree, online counseling courses are nationwide. Courses can be completed via distance learning, and hybrid programs that include some class time are also available. Individual and family counselling is needed in Australia, which is an excellent opportunity for a new career. Various branches of counselling include working with children and adolescents, bereavement counselling and vocational counselling. This type of degree is also beneficial for human resources positions. A Diploma of Counseling could be worthwhile if you empathise with others and want to help the community. ### Early Childhood Education There’s a need for early childhood education professionals in Australia because of our expanding population, and you can get a **Certificate or Diploma in Early Childhood Education** through distance learning. Online courses prepare you to be a teacher or administrator who provides a caring and intellectually stimulating environment for young children. Certified online classes can be completed part-time, preparing you to work in a school, daycare centre or community organisation. If you enjoy working with children in an educational setting, you could find childhood education a highly satisfying career choice. ## Success with online courses to improve your job prospects If you decide to take online classes to improve your job prospects, a few things will help you along the way. One of the most important is your support network. Don’t hesitate to rely on friends and family for help when needed. Planning ahead and staying organised will be another saving grace. Put everything on your calendar, including school-related deadlines, and don’t forget to check it daily. There’s a lot to remember between home and school; keeping a running to-do list is also a great help. Reach out to other single mums who are going back to school. When times get tough, you can be each other’s sounding board and [stress relief](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) valve. Wanting to learn and grow is half the battle. Your kids will benefit from your improved prospects, and you’ll be a role model for them with your perseverance and hard work. As long as you start with a plan and stick to it, you can do this … with a little help from your friends. ***Further reading: [Tips to write a perfect job application letter.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/perfect-application-letter/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/online-courses-that-can-improve-your-job-prospects/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/online-courses-that-can-improve-your-job-prospects/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career **Tags:** online courses, career, job, find a job, career training --- ### [How to manage insecurities in long distance relationships](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/insecurities-long-distance-relationship/) **Published:** June 29, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Long distance relationships are thrilling, but oh, those insecurities! When you can’t be with your partner, doubts creep in. In this article, we’ll tackle insecurities in long distance relationships. Whether starting anew or nurturing an existing bond, addressing insecurities is crucial for a healthy connection and long-lasting love. First, we’ll uncover common insecurities: FOMO, trust, and loneliness because shedding light reduces their power. Next, open communication takes the stage. We’ll share tips for bridging the gap and embracing technology. The final tips include setting boundaries, managing expectations, and of course, the all-important self-care. It is time to dispel those doubts that threaten what could be a beautiful partnership and create a love story that defies the miles. ## Learn to handle FOMO Feeling like you’re missing out on experiences and opportunities while physically separated from your partner is natural. Especially in the era of social media, when you see others’ best and happiest moments, the fear of missing out, or FOMO, is a massive challenge for long-distance couples. Acknowledging these emotions is the first step to handling this fear. Accept that these are normal feelings given your situation, and that it’s okay to feel lonely or envious of other couples who are together. Next, the two of you must work on these feelings. Building trust and [managing loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/), along with other tips we will discuss below, are key to addressing these. Finally, remind yourself that you’re not always going to be apart. You will also have the opportunity to go to different places and experience moments together, which is something to look forward to. ## Build complete trust with your partner Building trust can be incredibly challenging when you see each other only some of the time. Open and honest communication is the first step to building trust. Regularly checking on each other, discussing challenges and opportunities, and being transparent with your partner will help. Inform each other about your activities and schedule, so you know when you can talk. Celebrate your milestones and special occasions using technology, like having gifts delivered to them. Allowing each other to grow and have a life outside your relationship is crucial. Giving each other personal space and establishing boundaries are healthy for any relationship, long-distance or not. Most importantly, you must be trustworthy. Avoid behaviours and activities that can elicit doubts, like lying, hiding stuff, and flirting with others. ## Manage loneliness when apart Feelings of loneliness are an expected struggle in long-distance relationships. After all, many of us seek “someone to hold” in romantic relationships – one thing absent when a couple is physically apart. Although long-distance couples experience loneliness, it doesn’t have to lead to a breakup. The tips in this guide will help you maintain a healthy relationship despite being apart. In addition, constant quality time (although virtually), pursuing individual hobbies and interests, reaching out to others, and working together towards shared goals and aspirations will help you cope with the distance. Keep in mind that although your romantic relationship is a significant part of your life right now, in the end, it is just one part. Nurture different aspects of your life, so you don’t focus on the absence of your partner. ## Make the most of your time together Quality time is essential in every relationship. Doubly so for long-distance couples who have limited time together. Plan and coordinate your schedules to maximise the duration of your time together. Make sure that other commitments are out of the way for the two of you to be more present and attentive. Sometimes, this means delaying answering texts and calls from other people or turning off your phone. Engage in activities the two of you equally enjoy. Take turns planning for activities and surprising each other, bringing excitement to your reunion. Make room for emergencies, and consider involving your significant other when unexpected changes happen. For example, if your office calls for an emergency online meeting, allow your partner to stay in the same room (unless the discussion is confidential). Then, make up for lost time with a surprise! ## Communicate regularly Today, long-distance couples have no reason to miss out on each other; FaceTime or Messenger is just a few taps away. But keep in mind that merely talking is not enough. As mentioned above, the quality of the time you spend together is what’s really important. Think setting a specific schedule for your regular talks and committing to this plan. Limit answering messages from other people and treat it as your virtual date night. You don’t answer work calls on date night, do you? What you talk about is equally crucial. As discussed earlier, open communication is key to building trust. Be honest and transparent about your feelings and share your activities so you both feel involved in each other’s life. ## Invest in some long distance sex toys One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship are the many missed moments of intimacy. Keeping your sex life alive and kicking even while apart will seriously help lessen those insecurities, as well as lowering the chances of either party looking elsewhere. Talk to your partner about ways to stay sexy while apart. Think [safe sexting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/phone-sext/), phone calls with dirty talk, or video calls, all of which are heaps of fun. They can even make the build up to seeing one another again in person even more exciting. [Wireless app enable sex toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/5-best-wireless-app-enabled-sex-toys-for-socially-distanced-sexy-time/) are a gift from the heavens for long distance lovers. They allow users to pleasure themselves while their partner controls the settings from their smartphone wherever they are in the world. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it! ## Manage expectations in long distance relationships Managing expectations is another crucial factor in maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship. Make sure you see eye-to-eye when it comes to where you want your relationship to go. The two of you must have a shared understanding of the terms of the relationship, such as exclusivity, commitment, and other boundaries. Talk about communication routines. Discuss schedules for your virtual “dates,” who calls first, what you expect during the call, and what situations allow for unexpected and emergency calls. However, both of you should have a level of flexibility. A long-distance relationship has unique challenges, so both parties must practice understanding and empathy. ## Stay busy and invest in yourself We’ve mentioned this before, but allowing each other to have a life outside each other is necessary for a long-distance relationship. In fact, spending all the time together – although virtually – is counterproductive for any relationship. You and your significant other must still have individual hobbies, interests and goals. Allow and encourage independence and personal growth. Take this opportunity to take classes you’ve always wanted, grow your career, [practice self-care](https://www.mentalhealthcommission.gov.au/lived-experience/consumer-and-carers/safety-and-quality-engagement-guidelines/mental-health-safety-and-quality-engagement-guide/7-managing-your-self-care/managing-your-self-care), and foster relationships with friends and families. This will lessen the pressure in your relationship, since each of you will not feel responsible for the other’s happiness and needs. ## Final words: Managing insecurities in long distance relationships Insecurities are normal in long-distance relationships. Feeling fear, distrust, and loneliness is typical when you are physically apart. However, this does not mean your relationship will not work. Quality time, open and honest communication, making the most out of technology, and allowing for independence and personal growth are just some things you can do to help alleviate these insecurities. Remember that this is a two-way process; you and your significant other must work together to nourish your love despite the physical distance. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/insecurities-long-distance-relationship/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/insecurities-long-distance-relationship/?share=x) - **Categories:** Relationships **Tags:** dating, relationship, fifo --- ### [Teeth straightening for kids: Why, when, how](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teeth-straightening-kids/) **Published:** June 29, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Straightening teeth during childhood improves the appearance and functionality of the mouth, enhancing overall oral health and self-esteem. For this reason, the consideration of teeth straightening for kids is a must. If you are concerned about your child’s teeth alignment, you’re going to want to know everything there is to know about getting their pearly whites in a row. This has been written by a mum who has straightened her two children’s teeth – one with traditional braces, the other with Invisalign. It delves into the why, when, and how of teeth straightening for kids. It sheds light on the importance of early intervention, suitable treatment timings, and available straightening methods to achieve a perfect smile that your little one can be proud of. ## Why should I get my child’s teeth straightened ### Boost their self-confidence It’s easy to presume that any set of teeth, crooked or straight, small or big, as long as they’re white and clean, should be good enough. But there is more to teeth than just digestive function. Most culture’s aesthetic standards, including ours, consider straight teeth as ideal and attractive. It gives the impression that one is well-groomed and has good genetics. Who doesn’t want that? As your kids enter puberty, their desire to fit in, look good, and feel accepted becomes an increased priority. The confidence they have is heavily influenced by how they perceive their own appearance. According to [NatruSmile](https://www.natrusmile.com/), 25% to 50% of children require orthodontic treatment at some point. Giving your child the opportunity to improve their smile and correct malocclusion-related speech defects will boost their self-confidence and reassure them if they have any hang-ups about their teeth alignment. ### Improve oral health Well-aligned teeth helps your child avoid risks of build up and hidden cavities that happens in overcrowding. Straighter teeth are easier to brush and floss. Receiving teeth straightening treatment will help your kids find it more convenient to take care of their teeth. Sometimes, with crooked teeth, some teeth may go through overwear due to compensatory biting and chewing habits that your kids develop because of how their teeth are positioned. This could lead to cavities or erosion of the enamel. ***Further reading: [6 Terrifying facts to scare your kids into brushing their teeth.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-terrifying-facts-to-scare-your-kids-into-brushing-their-teeth/)*** ### Correct bite issues Bite is one of the main things that orthodontists pay attention to and treat when they provide teeth straightening. There are more important (but underlying) issues than appearance when it comes to a ‘bad bite’. Whether your child has an overbite or an underbite, or even a seemingly normal bite with misaligned teeth, malocclusion affects not only their facial shape but also what happens in their whole mouth and jaw. A bad bite can cause jaw disorders, gum injuries, tongue infection, and tooth decay in the long run. Having straight teeth and a strong bite will make chewing, speaking, cleaning (and even sleeping and closing the mouth!) easy for your child. ### Better chewing As I’ve mentioned about having a strong bite in the previous paragraph, straighter teeth make eating and chewing a non-chore for your kid’s oral anatomy. I can still remember when my kids had crooked teeth; they would often accidentally bite and nick their tongue while chewing. If they were eating something hard or crispy, they might prefer to chew in a specific side of their mouth because they felt like their teeth there were just ‘better’ at chewing. As a mum, I was worried that their teeth were making it uncomfortable for them to do the basic task of eating. So to the orthodontist, we went. ### Enhanced speech Quirky and cute as they are, lisps and whistles are not fun when you are a kid growing up among peers at school. We know how these can be something they get teased for, which may make them feel insecure. Not to mention that these are speech defects in of themselves. Malocclusion can cause unusual speech habits and patterns in your kids because of the way they learn how to form sounds as comfortably as possible with the imperfect oral anatomy that they have. Huge gaps, protruding teeth, crowding, and a bad bite are all contributory factors that influence the way your child talks. It’s a great thing that you can restore their confidence and comfort at speaking by providing them the chance to straighten their teeth. ### Prevent dental injuries/issues in the future Our mouths open and close countless times in a day when we are speaking and eating. The weight or force of our jaws coming together should ideally be distributed equally among all our teeth. With malocclusion or crooked teeth, some of our teeth may bear more of the impact due to their protrusion or crowding. This means that it’s only a matter of time before their enamel gets fractured or wears away, leading to cavities and other dental injuries. Getting your kids’ teeth straightened reduce these risks hugely. ## When should I start the teeth straightening treatment? Now you may think, “Okay, I would love to get my kids’ teeth straightened, but should I do it now, or can it wait?”. Well, the answer is yes and yes. There is really no age limit when it comes to teeth straightening. Some parents put their children through braces as early as 6 years. Some adults get it themselves as late as 35. However, most orthodontists agree that it is best to start treatment when most of the permanent teeth have come in. Orthodontists consider ages 12-14 as the best time to start teeth straightening because the child has most of their adult teeth and their jaw structure is most conducive to treatment. Dental changes do not happen at the exact pace for all kids. The right timing for braces will be best advised by your child’s dentist. ## How to choose a good orthodontist? Getting teeth straightening treatment for your child can be a little bit intimidating, especially if you have never gotten it yourself and it is your first time to look for an orthodontist. And as always, we want the best for our children. I understand, this simple hunt can feel like a lot of pressure. Don’t worry, I’ve got tips for you that I hope will reassure and help you. ### Personal recommendations You can start off by looking at the local orthodontist listings in your neighbourhood or city. It’s good to rely on a clinic that is within minutes from your home and your kids’ school so regular visits can be easily done in between errands and on your kids’ schedules. There is also nothing wrong with setting appointments with different orthodontists. Schedule initial consultation with them to compare their rates and opinion and to observe their communication styles and facilities. This can help you narrow down your choices, too, if you’ve got a list of orthodontists whom you are considering. If looking for the right one becomes overwhelming, do it the old fashioned way: Ask your family and friends for recommendations. Usually, someone in your circle already had a satisfactory experience with teeth straightening, and they can refer you to the right orthodontist. ### Areas of expertise Note that several orthodontists have specialised practice. Look for someone who works with a lot of children and who has an extensive practice in treating malocclusion. Yes, you may feel tempted to go for an orthodontist who is widely experienced in straightening teeth for patients of all ages (they’re all just teeth, right?) because they surely know what they are doing. Sure, there is nothing wrong with going in that direction. But consider your kid’s experience, too. You would want an experienced healthcare provider who is also known for their effective communication and rapport with kids. This gives your kid a better chance at feeling comfortable and reassured during every orthodontist appointment. Don’t forget, your kids have to deal with them for months, or even a couple of years. ### Cost and payment options Giving your child the gift of straighter teeth should not cost you an arm and a leg. Check if your health insurance policy covers orthodontist treatment. If it does not, know that you don’t have to necessarily burn through your pockets in order to get your kid good teeth straightening treatment. When compared, traditional braces are more cost-effective than invisible aligners. Both have their pros and cons and these are things you should also consider. Note that clinics and orthodontists offer different rates. If you have a set budget, I suggest that you stick with it and give it a small but reasonable wiggle room when comparing your choices of orthodontists. A lot of practices understandably recommend a one-time but discounted payment. But if that is too heavy for you (hey, inflation is tough on all of us), several practices are able to offer credit card and installment options. With traditional braces especially, payment schedule can be staggered to a regular series of installments that coincide with every brace adjustment visit. ### Treatment approach and technology You should also consider the practice of an orthodontist and the technology they use. This is why looking up your potential orthodontist online can be helpful. Clinic websites can inform you of how the treatment process is done by the orthodontist. They may even share on their website or social media pages how they approach specific cases of malocclusion and how they usually prefer to treat their patients. If they are using advanced technology and the latest equipment, they will be proud to mention it. Employing innovation and better technology will help an orthodontist perform safer and less painful treatments on their patients. ### Online reviews A lot of times, to see is to believe. When you’re online sleuthing on potential orthodontists, check practitioners in your area who regularly post images of their work on their website and social media accounts. Doing this can help you compare their patients’ before and after teeth straightening results and read reviews from their clients. Reviews can reveal more than just how perfect an orthodontist can make your teeth look. Other clients can tell you a lot about the work ethic of the orthodontist and their clinic staff, their values, the physical condition of their facilities, and if they charge too much. ## What are my teeth straightening options? When it comes to [dental braces and and retainers](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/dental-braces-and-retainers), you’ve got two main options when it comes to teeth straightening that are widely available. These are traditional braces and invisible aligners, or more commonly known as Invisalign. ### Traditional braces to straighten teeth Traditional braces are usually made of metal and attached to the outer part of the teeth. Now, aside from metal, there are different options for traditional braces, including ceramic attachments and lingual braces (when braces are attached behind the teeth). Metal wires and rubber bands are part of the braces and are adjusted regularly to manipulate and gradually move the teeth to their ideal position, correcting orthodontic problems. Aside from its cost-effectiveness, traditional braces’ strong advantage is that they are reputed to correct multiple dental and facial issues during a patient’s course of treatment. Traditional braces are suitable for a wide range of malocclusion cases, no matter how difficult or complex. Because this method literally uses metal anchors and wires, it employs more force and reliable mechanism in pulling the teeth into the ‘perfect’ position. There are also options to choose from when it comes to ‘customising’ traditional braces to straighten the teeth. For an additional cost, you can consider ceramic braces. These use ceramic bracket attachments that are colourless or the same colour as your kid’s teeth (instead of the regular gray metallic ones) so that only the wires are \*barely\* visible. You can also opt for lingual braces for your kids, where the brackets are attached behind their teeth, effectively hiding the braces when they smile. There are downsides to traditional braces that may or may not affect your decision. Braces are very visible, especially the regular metal ones. If your kid is self-conscious, you might want to consider other options. Traditional braces can also be quite uncomfortable and injure the inside of your child’s lips and cheeks, especially within the first couple of months of them being installed. This can take a lot of getting used to depending on your kid’s tolerance for discomfort. And while this can be easily addressed with salt wash and brace wax, it can still be annoying. There will also be some restrictions when it comes to food. Gum, corn on the cob, apples, thick chewy or crispy food like fried pork skin… Think of anything that makes a loud and hard crunch or requires biting through. These foods can detach one or more brackets while your child bites and chews through them, making the braces ineffective until your child has to go back to the orthodontist for bracket reattachment and adjustment. Speaking of adjustment, regular visits for braces adjustment will be required. Appointments should be set every 3-4 weeks with the clinic, or as recommended by the orthodontist, so that they can ensure that your kid’s teeth are moving in the right direction. This can be inconvenient, especially if you are a busy parent. Lastly, brushing and flossing can feel like a chore with traditional braces. Because braces are permanently attached on your child’s teeth (which could be an advantage depending on how you look at it), using tiny brushes for the brackets and superfloss so they can carefully floss through the wires will be an added part to your kid’s oral hygiene routine. While some may find this therapeutic, it can certainly eat up more time. And that’s not fun for any kid who wants to do anything but clean their teeth. ### Invisalign to straighten teeth Invisalign treatment makes use of colorless and clear plastic aligners. These aligners are fitted and customised for each patient through 3D scan technology applied on the patient’s mouth. Customised aligners, updated and replaced every few weeks or months, are then made and fit to move the teeth gradually until their ideal position is achieved. The primary advantage and selling point of Invisalign to straighten the teeth is that it’s practically invisible. Because of its clear quality, unless someone looks very hard, Invisalign is barely noticeable especially in photos. This is a great option for your self-conscious teen. Invisalign also requires less adjustment appointments with the orthodontist. Unlike having traditional braces, wearing aligners rely a lot on the 3D scan technology which in turn determines the timing of aligner re-adjustments and the position of the teeth. This means you don’t have to worry about taking a lot of time off work and having to constantly remind your child about their upcoming appointment. Because they are also customised for your kid’s oral structure, it is more comfortable to wear and there are less risks for gum and cheek problems. Cuts and abrasions inside the mouth won’t be a problem, unlike in traditional braces. Your kid will also have an easy time cleaning their teeth because of how convenient it is to remove the aligners before brushing and flossing. These are amazing advantages, right? But not all that glitters is gold. Or maybe in this case, it is. One of the biggest disadvantages of Invisalign is its cost. Because of the technology and flexible material used, it is more expensive to opt for Invisalign than traditional braces. And considering that you are getting teeth straightening treatment for your kid, I am not sure how much trust you can put in your darling child when it comes to expecting them to faithfully return their Invisalign to their mouth after every time they eat, drink, brush, and floss. Because Invisalign is conveniently removable, many a times do adults lose or misplace them; how much more a kid? Another con is because your kid’s teeth are *wearing* these aligners, food and bacteria may be trapped inside for hours at a time which can increase your kid’s risk for cavities. Lastly, Invisalign does not guarantee perfect results just by itself. In more complex cases of malocclusion, it’s not uncommon for orthodontists to recommend transitioning to traditional braces for the last stretch of the treatment in order to achieve perfect results. So be prepared for that possibility too if you choose Invisalign. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teeth-straightening-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/teeth-straightening-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** braces, invisalign, retainers --- ### [How will bankruptcy affect my family?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-will-bankruptcy-affect-my-family/) **Published:** July 4, 2023 **Author:** Lauren Smith **Content:** It’s essential to separate the myths from the facts regarding bankruptcy. While becoming bankrupt is a serious matter and shouldn’t be taken lightly, it can be the best solution in some situations and help ease unbearable financial stress. So, here’s a spoiler alert: *‘Bankruptcy doesn’t usually impact your family as a whole. Many people aren’t aware that if your partner becomes bankrupt, you won’t automatically become bankrupt by association. Instead, many people tend to incorrectly assume that their bankruptcy will somehow be extended to their partner, parents or children.’* ## There’s a lot to understand when considering bankruptcy For starters, it’s important to understand the kind of debts covered and how long this option will affect you. The types of debt cleared by becoming bankrupt are provable, unsecured debts. An unsecured debt is a debt that isn’t secured to any assets. Examples of provable, unsecured debts include credit cards, unsecured personal loans and overdrafts, most tax debts and shortfalls owing after assets like property or cars have been sold. Some examples of secured debts include a mortgage or a car loan. ## How long does bankruptcy last? Bankruptcy typically lasts for three years and one day with it staying on your credit report for another two years after discharge (five years in total.) A bankruptcy record will also be maintained on the [National Personal Insolvency Index (NPII)](https://www.afsa.gov.au/online-services-help/bankruptcy-register-search/national-personal-insolvency-index-npii), a register held and maintained by the Australian Government. ***Further reading: [Single parent debt help: 7 Simple strategies that work.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-parent-debt-help/)*** ## How assets are treated around bankruptcy Certain assets are protected under the Bankruptcy Act, while others aren’t. Examples of assets that are usually protected include: - Standard household contents and furniture - Most superannuation funds - Tools used to earn an income worth up to $3,800 and total vehicle assets used primarily for transport worth up to $8,000 For a car under finance, the $8,000 threshold applies to the equity in the vehicle. Now, property is one of those assets that aren’t ordinarily protected. We’ll look at an example to better explain how unprotected assets are treated and how bankruptcy works. ## Example of Dan and Claire Let’s take a family who has two children under the age of ten. Dan\* has recently become bankrupt and earns around $120,000 a year. His wife Claire\* is a full-time mum to their two young children. Dan and Claire jointly own their property and have around $40,000 equity combined, i.e. the house is worth around $440,000 and they owe around $400,000 on their mortgage. When looking at a property within the context of bankruptcy, we’re generally focusing on the portion of the house that Dan and Claire own. That amount is relative to the equity which in this example, is around $40,000 in total. Since the house is jointly owned, Claire and Dan each own $20,000 worth of equity (i.e. combined equity divided by two owners). By becoming bankrupt, Dan’s half of the property (I.e. his $20,000 of equity) became an asset of his bankrupt estate. Because Claire isn’t bankrupt, she’ll still own her $20,000 share. When you become bankrupt, a Bankruptcy Trustee is appointed to manage the administration of your bankrupt estate. If you happen to own assets that aren’t protected, your ownership of these assets shifts from you to your trustee. In Dan’s case, his trustee stood in Dan’s shoes and became a legal co-owner of the house. Dan’s trustee then had an obligation to realise the value of the unprotected portion of the house so that the money could be made available to Dan’s bankrupt estate. One of the options available to Claire was to join Dan’s Bankruptcy trustee in selling the property. Had she gone down this road, she would have received half of the proceeds after the mortgage was paid out and less the costs of selling the house. Instead, Claire elected to purchase the trustee’s share of the property at market value for around $20,000. Ultimately, this transaction removed Dan and Claire’s house from Dan’s bankrupt estate, allowing Claire to hang onto it. The money raised for Dan’s share of the property then went into his bankrupt estate to benefit his unsecured creditors. Another thing to understand is that your earnings will determine if you need to make an ongoing financial contribution to the estate during the three years of bankruptcy. The income calculation comes from the Bankruptcy Act and many factors come into play such as salary packaging, fringe benefits, child support payments and the number of dependants that the bankrupt person supports. Based on Dan’s income, the amount payable was around $6,000 per year. The highly dramatised TV version of bankruptcy where bailiffs often turn up to your house seizing all of your worldly possessions isn’t the reality. For starters, standard household contents and furniture are protected under the Bankruptcy Act. Regarding your car, you can own combined vehicle assets used mainly for transport worth up to $8,000. For vehicles under finance, the threshold of $8,000 applies to the total equity in the vehicle. In Dan and Claire’s case, bankruptcy helped them clear a crippling amount of unsecured debt. For the first time in years, they were finally able to breathe again, enjoy quality time with their kids and start planning for a brighter future. ## Conclusion: How will bankruptcy affect my family? For many, choosing to go bankrupt can positively impact the family, and thousands of Australians rely on this option every year. Always ensure you do your research. You may also want to seek help from a suitably qualified and experienced professional, as it’s crucial to understand how bankruptcy will affect you. \*names changed to protect privacy ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-will-bankruptcy-affect-my-family/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/how-will-bankruptcy-affect-my-family/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money **Tags:** debt, assets, banks --- ### [7 Simple habits that will save you from hearing loss](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/hearing-loss/) **Published:** July 10, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you think you might be experiencing hearing loss? It is becoming hard for you to follow a conversation in a noisy place, such as an indoor play centre or a sports hall? Do your kids complain you are shouting at them, even when you didn’t mean to? Or you find you’re turning up the volume button on the TV more often than you used to? If these aspects describe your situation, you could be experiencing a degree of hearing loss. Because of your age, you might think that you can suffer from such a problem. Many people associate hearing loss with old age. While there is some relationship, you can have this issue at any age. A newborn, teenager, or adult can lose their hearing abilities. But the good thing is that you can save yourself from suffering a hearing loss to some degree. Here are some simple habits that can save you from losing your hearing ability. ***Further reading: [How to boost your mood with the power of sound.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/boost-your-mood-with-the-power-of-sound/)*** ## Limit sounds within your control At times, it is impossible to avoid loud noise. You can’t escape the noise of the motorbike while on the road. Also, avoiding the ambulance siren can be beyond your limit. In such situations, the only option is to limit the exposure time. Hearing loss from noise depends on the time you expose yourself to the high noise. In other situations, you have the power over the amount of sound you can listen to. For instance, you can determine the loudness of the music on your radio or phone. When you can limit the sounds you are listening to, ensure they are within the safe range and save your hearing ability. ## Refrain from a noisy environment No doubt, [noise is the major cause of hearing loss](https://chchearing.org/noise/health-problems/noise-induced-hearing-loss/). The exposure to extensive noise damages your eardrum. When this happens, you automatically lose your hearing ability. But how can you know whether the noise is putting at the hearing loss risk? When you find yourself in a place where you have to shout for one to hear you, the noise is beyond what your ears can handle. Some noisy environments include music concerts, loud earphone sounds, motorcycles, drills, and a power saw. So, if you can avoid areas with these loud and noisy elements, you will enhance your chances of retaining your hearing ability for a long. ## Always put on hearing protection accessories Do you work in noisy areas? Maybe you are a mechanical engineer or technician in a factory where noise is a norm. You have to get your daily bread and pay bills for your household. As a single mum, you can’t give up this opportunity and must continue grinding despite prevailing conditions. However, keeping your ears safe is your responsibility too. While you cannot avoid the high noise in your working space, you can get some hearing protection accessories. Some of these accessories can reduce any type of noise by 15-30 decibels making it suitable and safe for your ears. As such, consider getting a pair of earmuffs or earplugs if you are going or work in a very noisy environment. ## Go for low noise rated devices No one will take care of your ears but yourself. In this regard, you have the responsibility of minimising noise levels that threaten your hearing ability. When buying appliances and devices for use at home, always go for ones with low noise ratings. Do not get a blender or electric kettle that wakes up everyone in your neighbourhood when running. Such a noise will eventually damage your ears. For this reason, always check the noise ratings of each device and appliances before making a purchase decision. It is better to miss the appliance in your home than lose your hearing ability. ## Avoid smoking and smoke If you didn’t know, you can suffer hearing loss due to smoke. [Research indicates](https://www.hear-it.org/Cigarette-smoking-and-hearing-loss) that tobacco smoking is a contributor to hearing issues. Smoking cigarettes or exposure to any smoke directly or indirectly raises your chances of hearing loss. If you are a smoker, you need to reconsider your habit. For those who are not smokers, you need to avoid exposure to smoke from any source where possible. Any secondhand smoke will have an impact on your hearing. As such, you can be safe by avoiding breathing smoke from any source. ## Prioritise effective earwax removal As you know, ears produce some wax. The wax is crucial as it traps debris and foreign objects trying to access your inner ear. With time, the wax accumulates and begins blocking your ears. The wax buildup muffles sound making it hard for you to hear. This problem is temporary and you can resolve it by removing the accumulated wax. However, your option of removing the wax can pose an additional risk and result in hearing loss. For instance, some people use a sharp object to remove the earwax. The objects can temper with your eardrum or other inner parts. If you need to remove the earwax, you should consider using substances such as irrigation kits. Avoid cotton swabs as it can hurt your deep ear parts. ## Consider a check-up Most of the time, hearing loss does not happen overnight. We wouldn’t notice the creeping changes unless we pay attention to signs, such as the slowly rising volume to which we need to turn our devices to hear audio clearly. This is why it’s always a good idea to include visits to the otolaryngologist and the audiologist in our annual check-up routine. A check-up will offer you factual information about your ears’ health, such as earwax consistency (your earwax can tell a lot!) and your level of sound perception ability. Dropping by the doctor’s office will also help you to prevent any possible existing hearing-related issues from getting worse. ## Final words Taking care of your ears and hearing requires more than just cleaning your ears with a cotton bud. To ensure that you enjoy life with perfect hearing, it’s important to incorporate habits that will protect your ears from damage. Noise management has a lot to do with this. Avoid exposing yourself to loud sounds. If noise is unavoidable, such as in the workplace, use protective gear to protect your eardrums. Keep your devices to the lowest volume of sound that you can enjoy. Remember that smoking can directly affect your ear health and quitting it will help you maintain your clear sense of hearing until you’re old and grey. Don’t hesitate to visit the doctor when you need help to identify and treat possible hearing loss-related issues. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/hearing-loss/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/hearing-loss/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** ear, ears, sound --- ### [How do we change consent orders for parenting arrangements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/change-consent-orders/) **Published:** June 19, 2023 **Author:** Shaya Lewis-Dermody **Content:** One of the most complex parts of family separation is negotiating and eventually agreeing on your parenting arrangements. Unfortunately, life is ever-changing, even the best-laid plans will need to change in time. For this reason, this article focuses on how to change consent orders as your children’s needs evolve, a parent moves, or a life event renders your current orders out-of-date. ## How are Agreements reached when you separate? When you separate, there are a few ways that you and your ex partner can formalise the parenting arrangements for your children. Generally speaking, any agreement reached between you will set out the arrangements such as where your children live and how much time they spend with you both including during holidays and special occasions. Agreements usually also set out things such as parental responsibility which is who makes the ‘big ticket’ decisions for the children such as schooling and health. Arrangements for the children may be formalised in the following ways: - A verbal agreement or negotiation/agreement via email - A Parenting Plan - Consent Orders – without Court proceedings - Final Consent Orders – made during the Court process A [Parenting Plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/) is a written and signed agreement which sets out the arrangements for the children. Oftentimes, parents reach an agreement following their own private negotiation or mediation through a Family Dispute Resolution service. If the Parenting Plan is signed and dated by you both then there is an expectation that you both stick to the agreement. That said, it is not a legally binding document. Consent Minutes of Order are legally drafted documents which set out the parenting agreement, however it is drafted in a more formal way and registered with the Court. There are no Court proceedings but a Registrar of the Court looks over the document and application and, if satisfied it is reasonable and in the best interest of the children, will put the court stamp on it. It then has the effect of being a legally binding Court Order which you *must both comply with.* The other way that you may obtain final Consent Orders is if you have had Court proceedings and at some stage during the proceedings you and your ex partner reach an agreement. This agreement is relayed to the judicial officer and final Consent Orders are made reflecting that agreement. Again, this is a binding Court Order which you both must comply with. ## What if you want to change the Consent Orders? ### Do not change consent orders unilaterally It is important to know that if you are considering changing Consent Orders that you should not do so unilaterally. If, for example, you stopped sending your children to spend time with your ex partner then you may find yourself in Court at the end of a Contravention Application or Enforcement Application. There are exceptions if you have a ‘reasonable excuse’ to not comply with Consent Orders. An example of a ‘reasonable excuse’ may be that the children are at risk of family violence or there are new child protection concerns. You should get legal advice before making any unilateral changes to the Consent Orders because Contravention Applications are quasi criminal and you also want to avoid any Court cost orders being made against you. ### How to change consent orders If you want to change the Consent Orders because you think the agreement is no longer working or you have concerns about the Orders then there are a few ways to go about changing them. Usually, you will need to continue to stick with the Consent Orders *until* there is an agreement between you both to change them. If you and your ex partner agree, then you can: - Reach an informal agreement to change the orders (verbal or written communication); - Have a subsequent Parenting Plan drafted to supersede the Consent Orders; - Have subsequent Consent Minutes of Order drafted to supersede the previous Consent Orders. It is always recommended to vary the Consent Orders at the very minimum by a Parenting Plan that is written, dated and signed by you both. In some cases that will be sufficient and there is no need to go to the expense of having a lawyer draft Consent Minutes to supersede the previous Orders. If you have concerns that your ex partner will not stick to any agreed changes then you should consider having subsequent Consent Minutes filed to have the effect of a binding Court order. ## What if you cannot reach an agreement to change the Consent Orders? ### Attend mediation If there is no agreement to change the Consent Orders for parenting arrangements then, generally speaking, you will need to try to negotiate before going to Court. In any event, it is always recommend you take options to avoid Court where you can given the potential stress and cost involved! The other concern about initiating Court proceedings is that you may essentially ‘open up’ everything and the judicial officer may make orders that you are unhappy with. The options available to you if there is no agreement to change the Consent Orders are: - Instruct a solicitor to write to your ex setting out any concerns and perhaps a proposal for new arrangements; - [Attend private mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-mediation-high-conflict-separations/) (Family Dispute Resolution) either by yourself or with a solicitor to assist you; - Attend a community based Family Dispute Resolution service such as Family Relationships Centre or [Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/) You will not be allowed to initiate Court proceedings to vary the parenting arrangements until you have shown a genuine attempt to mediate and negotiate as set out above. There are some exceptions such as where there has been family violence or child protection and safety concerns. If you want to change the Consent Orders because you have significant concerns for the children’s safety and wellbeing then you should get legal advice *before* any mediation attempts as it may not be appropriate. ### If there is no agreement during mediation If there is no agreement during mediation or Family Dispute Resolution then you will be issued with a s60I certificate which then enables you to initiate Court proceedings to change the Consent Orders. As mentioned, once you initiate Court proceedings you are inviting the Court to assess everything and you no longer have as much control of the negotiation – you may find that there are Orders made that you are unhappy with. The Court will also need to be satisfied that there is a reasonable change in circumstances to consider changing your Consent Orders. What constitutes ‘reasonable change of circumstances’ will differ in every matter but may be things such as lapse of time (ie Consent Orders were made many years ago and are no longer appropriate) or the parties are now living a significant distance apart so the Orders are not practical. If you have only recently had Consent Orders made and are then filing Court proceedings you will need to establish that it is in the best interest of the children to change them. ## Final words: How to change consent orders Remember that every family is unique and has their own nuances. Just because a friend or family member (or your hairdresser!) had a particular experience in their family law matter does not meant that it is the correct approach for your family. Rely on your friends and family members for emotional support and get legal advice from a solicitor where you can. If you cannot afford a lawyer then remember that each State has it’s own [Legal Aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/) service and also [community legal services](https://clcs.org.au/) where you can seek specific legal advice if you want to change your Consent Orders. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/change-consent-orders/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/change-consent-orders/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** family law, parenting plan, shared care, co-parenting --- ### [Co-parenting tips I wish I knew ten years ago](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/) **Published:** June 26, 2023 **Author:** Tonia Adleta **Content:** There’s an odd twist of irony once the ink has dried on the divorce decree. There might be a sense of relief, a feeling of closure, maybe even the feeling that we can finally exhale – especially since we often don’t realise we’ve been holding our collective breath for that long. The twist: Now that you’re no longer married to your children’s other parent, you must still work together to raise them. Welcome to the world of co-parenting. The goal here is to find enough common ground in parenting styles, shared values and goals, and most importantly, a foundation built on an unwavering love for your children that minimises tension or drama. Spoiler alert: This phase is about finding ‘the new normal’ as fast as possible. There will be plenty of practical elements (along with emotional, mental, and even spiritual) to this. And quite a few of those “to do’s” early on in the newly single mum/post-divorce phase have to do with creating some structure to how you co-parent. Even for those who might not love structure (ahem…. myself included), trust me: Ten years in, I can tell you, the structure makes all the difference. Here are my co-parenting tips I wish I had known from the start. ***Further reading: [Why you need a communication book for co-parenting.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-book-for-co-parenting/)*** ## Always put your kids first, without exception First and most important on my list of co-parenting tips: You and your ex have already made a decision to zone your relationship into a co-parent-ship where one another’s personal needs are no longer a priority. Remember that this decision IS separate from fulfilling your children’s needs. If anything, your kids need more reassurance, protection, and compassion from you and your co-parent especially during the transition period. Continue with your mission to be the best parent for your children, regardless of the transitional pains and issues you have with your co-parent. Do not get carried away by anger, resentment, vengeance, or envy. If you don’t want to see your ugly ex at at your kid’s school recital, I’m sorry ma’am, that is really not up to you. Your child deserves to feel fully supported and adored during milestones like these, unconditionally. Sit your butt in that auditorium next to him, swallow your pride, smile, wave at your kid, and take lots of photos and videos of your child’s performance. The dark satisfaction you get from avoiding your ex and ranting about how you hate seeing him around is NEVER worth the damage you may cause to an important and happy experience of a child. ## Good communication means good co-parenting Remember when you were a teenager, and you and your mum were always in a row? The more she yelled at you, the more you wanted to act passive aggressive and resistant to her demands. While a lot of that behaviour can be owed to just being a normal teenager, it is our flawed human nature to want to fight fire with fire. In order to actually maintain civility, we have to rise above ourselves a lot of times. No matter how much you want to wring your ex’s neck, remember that speaking with him is no longer about you. You are now in a relationship that solely represent the wellness and happiness of your child. So be conscientious and [kind with your communication](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/improve-communication-with-ex/). Speak in the best interest of your kids, and maintain respect and consideration. ## Create a parenting plan while you are amicable When you and your ex are in a good place in your new relationship as co-parents, take advantage of that time to come together and create a [parenting plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-a-parenting-plan-and-what-should-i-include/). Ask each other about your schedule demands and how you can maintain, or even augment, support and presence for your kids. This is the perfect time to update each other about your kids’ changes and progress. What are the new weekend routines your kids have adopted? How often does your boy need his asthma meds? What is your little girl’s ballet class schedule? Where are the kids spending special holidays? Who is going to host the next birthdays? Sit down and talk about these important things with your co-parent. This is one of those golden co-parenting tips I wish someone had told me when we first split up. ## Be flexible and accepting to change One of the worst things you can be for yourself and your kids when you become a co-parent is be a control freak. Accept that you and your co-parent have to adjust to a new dynamic and setting. Changes are inevitable and it is now more likely that you will make some decisions based on different perspectives and beliefs. Perhaps, you are an all-organic parent who doesn’t like her kids being exposed to fast food. If you can’t convince your ex to share the junk food ban decision while he has the kids, take a deep breath, and just look away as they enjoy a couple of bags of crisps and chocolate bars with their dad. It doesn’t need to be the root of another huge fight and tug-of-war over your kids. You don’t also need to be the unreasonable mum who is screaming at her co-parent on the phone to drive through an evening thunderstorm because the kids are “supposed” to be back at your home by 10PM sharp. Doing so will just cause distress for everyone and actually put your kids at risk. Build a thick high wall between your kids’ needs and your ego. ## Respect each others parenting styles If you and your ex had [parenting style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/) conflicts when your were still together under one roof, what makes you think that it will be any less different now? There is no single correct or superior parenting style. Every style has its pros and cons. The best you can really do is be supportive, loving and to provide the best for your child. If you and your co-parent are doing your best, albeit separately, at their share of parenting, it is absolutely pointless to be critical and disrespectful of each other’s approach. Is your co-parent the good cop type of parent? That’s okay, your kids can benefit from the contrast and balance more than you think they will. Is your kids’ dad academically inclined? There’s nothing wrong with having a parent who can motivate their kid to do better in school. As long as there is no abuse and the children are happy, let your co-parent BE a parent the best way he knows and can. ## Try for consistency between households When you have good communication with your co-parent, work together on creating a similar environment and a consistent routine in both your [homes for your children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/). Do your kids love books? Make sure that you both keep your separate houses stocked with your children’s books. Are your kids used to sleeping in different beds and eating their meals together? Help each other as co-parents to provide separate beds and enough dining space for your kids in both homes. You don’t want your kids to feel uncomfortable and out of place, or like they are living with one parent and occasionally “disturbing” the other. ## Don’t expose your kids to conflict No matter what internal struggles or interpersonal conflicts you may have, it is your primary responsibility to be the provider of support, care, and nurturing for your children. This includes protecting your kids from trauma, painful scenarios, and scary adult conflicts, especially between the two people they love and depend on. Remember that seeing their divorced parents fight can heighten fears of abandonment, and isolation in your kids. Your conflicts with your co-parent are because of your differences and years-long issues with each other. Your children should not bear any of the emotional or mental burden from these conflicts. Even though you’re no longer together, your kids will feel safe and supported if they have two parents who show cooperation and courtesy towards each other. ## Get professional support for co-parenting tips Last on my list of co-parenting tips: I am not here to shame you if you find it almost impossible to deal with the trauma of your divorce and you are not quite close to becoming civil with your ex. I know that during the course of this article, I have mentioned a lot of times that your children take utmost priority in your newly-singled life. But I would also like to acknowledge that, as humans, we all have our limits too. If you feel like you have become unable to deal with your ex and it has affected your mental health and functional capabilities as a parent, it’s time to set an appointment with the psychiatrist and therapist. This could be your first step towards prioritising your kids. An absolutely broken parent cannot raise happy and well-adjusted children. This also goes the same for a situation where you and your ex are finding it hard to be on the same page when it comes to your kids. Are you struggling to agree on a parenting plan? Have the humility and initiative to invite in a parenting counsellor or family mediator [(Relationships Australia](https://relationships.org.au/) offer free and subsidised sessions) who can expertly guide both of you to the same table and create amenable terms for your and your ex to follow so you can become effective co-parents. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/co-parenting-tips-i-wish-i-knew-10-years-ago/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** co-parenting apps, shared care, social media, co-parenting tools, co-parenting calendars --- ### [Your ex is bad-mouthing you to the kids? Here's what to do ...](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/bad-mouthing-to-kids/) **Published:** August 1, 2023 **Author:** Sallyanne Hartnell **Content:** So, your ex (or someone close to your ex) is bad-mouthing you to the kids? What can you do? Separation and divorce can make those involved feel hostile and resentful, with emotions running high and feelings raw. It’s not uncommon for this to tip over into bad-mouthing, where one or both parties speak badly of their ex behind their back. Bad-mouthing can include: - Name calling - Disproportional blaming - Telling half-truths, omitting truths or telling out-right lies - Passive aggressive tactics such as the “back handed compliment” - Constant criticism - Telling disparaging, negative or biased stories Sadly, it’s often the children who hear this bad-mouthing first-hand. When one parent says mean, hurtful, less-than-true things about their co-parent, it can cause them to feel torn, hurt and angry. Hearing negative things about one parent from another means the kids are made to carry an emotional burden. Which is simply not something they should have to do. Bad-mouthing may be provoked by anger, frustration, bitterness or betrayal. However, it only makes an already difficult situation for your kids worse. It is unhealthy and painful. So, the question here: > *“How do you clear your name, point out the truth and rectify the situation without dragging your kids even deeper into what is essentially an adult situation?”* ## What to do if your ex is bad-mouthing you to the kids ## Acknowledge the behaviour Acknowledge it without adding emotional energy to the already lit fire. Don’t go on the defensive or the attack with words like: *“I am not.*“ *“I do not.”* Instead, take the high. Don’t be tempted to join your ex in the mud-slinging mess. You could try: > *“I’m sorry he said that to you.”* > > *“That must be hard for you to hear from your Dad.”* > > *“What you’ve heard may make you angry/sad/scared.”* ## Remain calm Take a good long deep breath before responding. If you need to, after acknowledging what your child has shared with you, tell them you need to take a few moments to think about what they’ve shared so you can respond properly and well. It may help to think of your ex’s behaviour like a toddler’s when having a tantrum. Don’t allow your emotional reaction to trigger your own tantrum in response. Your kids need you to be a grown up and hold a safe space for them. They need you to model how to handle their own emotions well without becoming consumed or overwhelmed by them. ## Call it out If your ex bad mouths you, speaks badly to you or insults you in front of the kids, don’t let it slide. It might catch you off guard the first couple of times it happens, so don’t feel bad if that’s the case, but don’t let it become an ongoing event. Call it out with your ex. Calmly say: > *“It’s not OK to speak that way to/about me”.* This does have the potential to escalate, so be prepared with a de-escalation strategy which can be as simple as: > “*This is an adult issue. Let’s discuss it later, when the children aren’t around.”* Include your kids if appropriate (either when it happens or later) and say: > *“I’m sorry you heard Dad speak like that, it’s not an OK way to talk about someone.”* ## Talk about feelings Talk with your kids about feelings. Ask how they feel about what’s happened. Help them with words to describe their feelings and encourage your kids to share the way they feel with their other parent. > *“When you speak that way about Mum, I feel…”* > > *“When you say nasty things about Dad, I feel…”* > > *“When people are hurt or angry, they may not be able to see things clearly, sometimes forget the nice way to behave and might say things they don’t truly mean.”* This is a great opportunity for an open, more general discussion with your kids about saying mean things, saying things in anger and how hurtful it can be. ## Versions of the truth In our family we talk about “versions of truth”. This means acknowledging that everyone has and is entitled to their own perspective and understanding of what the “real” story is. Everyone will tell a slightly different story of an experience and that doesn’t necessarily make it “untrue”. It is just their version of the story. But, the more we tell our own version of the “story” the more we tend to believe it as the *only* true version. This is a useful strategy not only for bad-mouthing, but other experiences they will have as they grow and navigate other relationships and life in general ## Present the facts Your ex bad-mouthing you is a form of [gaslighting](https://www.healthline.com/health/gaslighting). An attempt to control the story and the narrative your children believe. It is an attempt to blame and divide, that forces them to choose sides. While presenting the facts is vital in dousing the fire created by gaslighting, it’s important to do it calmly and clearly in an age-appropriate way for your children. Explain to your children why what they heard is not true, without attempting to prove anything to them or take down their other parent in retaliation. If for example, your ex is telling the children you took all the money after the divorce and that’s why they can’t have X, Y or Z, your response could be along the lines of: > *“I’m sorry that Dad is talking to you about that. I believe that’s adult stuff and it’s not something you need to worry about. It’s true each of us has less money than we did when we all lived together, but there is plenty of money to pay for the things we need.”* ## Permission to think for themselves Give your kids agency. Give them the skills, permission and power to think for themselves. Once again, this is a life skill they will carry with them forever, not just use in circumstances where their co-parent is bad-mouthing you. While your kids should never feel they need to defend you, they require the skills to understand the behaviour, analyse what they’re being told, think for themselves and communicate how bad-mouthing makes them feel. Use words and an open, accepting, calm behaviour to convey that they can come to you with their concerns without you flying off the handle. Show by example that you will remain calm, listen well and answer truthfully. This doesn’t mean you have to load them with the WHOLE truth. Make it age and stage appropriate and preserve their relationship with their other parent. Remember, you’re teaching them to think for themselves. Not to think what you think or believe what you believe. ## Be the parent you most want your ex to be Set a good example by speaking respectfully and without emotion about your ex as well as about his extended family. Speak kindly and with affection. Recall, if you can, good things they have done, positive traits they display, fun family memories they have created. If that’s too much of a stretch, speak about them as you would wish them to speak about you. Behave towards them, as you would hope they would behave toward you – regardless of whether they’re physically present or not. Be the parent you most want your ex to be and show your kids how you want them to behave towards others in their own lives. Don’t involve your kids any further in the conflict than they already are. ## Have the hard conversation Try having a calm, respectful, cordial, constructive conversation with your ex. Politely request them to stop saying unnecessary, unkind things about you, or using sarcasm or other [passive-aggressive communication](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coparent-passive-aggressive-ex/) strategies around your children. If possible, have this conversation face-to-face, but if you find it too difficult to remain calm (or fear your ex will struggle to do so) send a request in writing. Protect your children from any secondary conversation with your ex about the issue. While your kids may have been the ones that told you about what they heard, the issue does not involve them. If your conversation does not go in your favour, and your co-parent continues to badmouth you to your children or others, consider seeking help from an objective, neutral third party or professional. ## Dealing with bad-mouthing: The don’ts - Don’t minimise the significance of what happened – it IS a big deal and your kids ARE affected (sad, angry, worried or upset) by it - Don’t add fuel to an already emotional fire by firing back either directly to your ex or via your kids… “well, he/she said that because they are XYZ” ## Dealing with bad-mouthing: The do’s - Take a breath and stay calm - Offer a calm response that isn’t overly emotional - Tell them you’re sorry they heard that from their parent - Address how they are feeling - Teach them the skills to communicate with their parent how the behaviour makes them feel - Tell your kids it’s not OK to speak about people like thatExplain that sometimes people who are hurt or angry say things they might not say when they are calmer (use an example from their own friendships or siblings) Tell them you will handle the situation by speaking to your ex as it’s really a grown-up issue. ## My last words: What to do if your ex is bad-mouthing you to the kids While you can’t protect your kids absolutely from negative or destructive things your ex does or says, you can be the buffer they need. Having even one parent who provides an emotionally safe, nurturing and supportive environment – one where they never feel like they have to choose between their parents or where one parent is the “baddie” – is enough. Teaching your kids by the example of your own behaviour, how to behave respectfully and in an emotionally safe, intelligent way, helps them deal with the challenges of their family relationships now, and to form healthy, respectful relationships as they grow. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/bad-mouthing-to-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/bad-mouthing-to-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** ex, communication, co parenting, arguments, sharing care --- ### [15 Uplifting single mother movies that'll have you fist pumping](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/15-uplifting-single-mums-movies/) **Published:** August 1, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Getting settled for a movie night but can’t decide what to watch? Be inspired and [feel proud](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/why-being-a-single-mum-makes-me-so-damn-proud/) with one of these brilliant single mother movies. **QUESTION:** Why do these movies portray single mums as such resilient, strong, capable women? **ANSWER:** Because we *are*. Enjoy ladies! Further reading: Our favourite celebrity single mums (with quotes). ***Further reading: [20 Signs that you’re a damn good parent.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-signs-youre-good-parent/)*** ## 15 Uplifting single mother movies that’ll have you fist pumping ## 1. Little Man Tate When it comes to single mother movies, *Little Man Tate* is an oldie but a goodie. A child prodigy complicates single parenthood for mum Dede (Jodie Foster), who tries to bring up her genius child while struggling with her own issues. ![Little Man Tate | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BMjEyMTQ0NDIxOV5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwODU2NDk0NA@@._V1_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Jodie Foster* ***Other famous peeps:** Harry Connick Jr., Dianne Wiest* ***Movie genre:** Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG* ## 2. Jerry Maguire Single mum Dorothy Boyd (Renée Zellweger) is the only person who believes in independent sports agent Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise), recently stripped off his elite status, big name clients and huge paycheck. Dorothy helps Jerry rebuild what he once had and finds love in the process. ![Jerry Maguire | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BMTI5OTAxODAyOV5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwNzI0MTkyNA@@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,1266,1000_AL_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Renée Zellweger* ***Other famous peeps:** Tom Cruise, Cuba Gooding Jr.* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated R for strong language and sexuality.* ## 3. One Fine Day If you’re looking for single mother movies that working mums can relate to, watch *One Fine Day* with Michelle Pfeiffer and George Clooney. Both single parents, these two get tangled up one stressful day in New York City and nothing is ever the same again. ![One Fine Day | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BZWM5ZTRiNmItM2IwYi00ZmNjLWIyNDctZjFkN2ZlNTU2MmYyXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMjk3NTUyOTc@._V1_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Michelle Pfeiffer* ***Other famous peeps:** George Clooney, Robert Redford* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG* ## 4. It’s Complicated *It’s Complicated* is one of those single mother movies about two exes who reconnect after a number of years. Meryl Streep and ex-husband Alec Baldwin meet at their son’s graduation and realise they still have feelings for each other. But he’s remarried and she’s dating someone else. ![It's Complicated | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BMjA3MTAzMjEzN15BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwNDQzODQwMw@@._V1_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Meryl Streep* ***Other famous peeps:** Alec Baldwin* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated R* ## 5. Single Mums Club Five struggling single mums decide to form a support group to find laughter and inspiration. Coming from different backgrounds, the women in this film come together and deal with life’s obstacles in a highly relatable way. Perfect watching for when you feel down in the dumps. ![The Single Moms Club | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BY2RmMmI5MDQtMTNkZC00NmQyLWI0ZGItOTQ1MmMyMWQ3MmRkXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyNjU1MDM0NzU@._V1_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Nia Long* ***Other famous peeps:** Amy Smart, Wendi McLendon-Covey* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ## Powerful single mum movies (cont.) ## 6. Mamma Mia We love a good musical. This one is about a young woman who is about to get married and wants to find her real father. But even her mum (Meryl Streep) is not sure. Sing along to ABBA’s hits and enjoy the scenery in this beautiful film set on a Greek Island. ![Mamma Mia | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://cdn.images.express.co.uk/img/dynamic/36/750x445/991559.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Meryl Streep* ***Other famous peeps:** Amanda Seyfried, Pierce Brosnan* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Musical* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13*7. The Babadook ## 7. The Mother ![The Mother | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-1200x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")Darkly empowering, *The Mother* is a thriller-action film that explores the depth of a mother’s love- even when that mother has a questionable code of ethics and living situation. When the lead character, a hardened assassin, suddenly finds her child endangered because of the complexities of her occupation, she faces the ultimate test. ***Starring as the single mother:** Jennifer Lopez* ***Other famous peeps:** Omari Hardwick, Joseph Fiennes, Gael Garcia Bernal* ***Movie genre:** Thriller, Action* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated R for violence, language, and brief drug use.* ## 8. Mrs. Doubtfire Our list of single mother movies won’t be complete without the classic *Mrs. Doubtfire*. Struggling actor Daniel (Robin Williams) recently split with his wife Miranda and he can’t see his kids as often as he wants. When Miranda puts up an ad for a nanny, Daniel disguises himself as a British housekeeper. ![Mrs. Doubtfire | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://akns-images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/20181019/rs_1024x759-181119131223-1024-mrs-doubtfire-cast.jpg?fit=around|1024:auto&output-quality=90&crop=1024:auto;center,top) ***Starring as the single mother:** Sally Field* ***Other famous peeps:** Robin Williams, Pierce Brosnan* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama, Family* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG -13* ## 9. Where The Heart Is Pregnancy is difficult enough, but when you are seventeen years old it can feel like the end of the world. After being abandoned at a Walmart by her boyfriend and with only five dollars to her name, Novalee (Natalie Portman) has to learn to rebuild her life with a newborn in tow. ![Where the Heart Is | Beanstalk Mums](https://ilarge.lisimg.com/image/9534885/1118full-where-the-heart-is-screenshot.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Natalie Portman* ***Other famous peeps:** Ashley Judd, Stockard Channing* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ## 10. Erin Brockovich Erin Brockovich is an unemployed single mum who is desperate for a job. When she lands one as a secretary in a law firm, she finds herself up against a multibillion-dollar corporation that’s accused of poisoning the local water supply. An inspiring film about guts and how far it can take you. ![Erin Brockovich](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/MV5BYTA1NWRkNTktNDMxNS00NjE4LWEzMDAtNzA3YzlhYzRhNDA4L2ltYWdlXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTQxNzMzNDI@._V1_-540x800.jpg "MV5BYTA1NWRkNTktNDMxNS00NjE4LWEzMDAtNzA3YzlhYzRhNDA4L2ltYWdlXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTQxNzMzNDI@._V1_ - Beanstalk Mums") ***Starring as the single mother:** Julia Roberts* ***Other famous peeps:** Albert Finney, David Brisbin* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated R* ## Brilliant films about single mothers (cont.) ## 11. Mermaids Mermaids is one of those single mother movies that’s perfect if you are a solo parent of teenagers. In this quirky tale set in 1963, Mrs. Flax drags her angsty daughter to a small town in Massachusetts to start over again after yet another failed relationship. ![Mermaids | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/1c/9a/a1/1c9aa1064e27092989056ea4d6f48e00.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Cher* ***Other famous peeps:** Bob Hoskins, Winona Ryder* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama, Romance* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ## 12. Enough Said If you’re an older single mum dreading an empty nest, *Enough Said* is a gem of a movie. Eva is a masseuse whose daughter is about to leave home. Eva meets a funny, like-minded man, but his ex (also Eva’s client) is badmouthing him all the time so she starts to doubt her new relationship. ![Enough Said | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/59/e5/68/59e5687eca87fcfca3fdcb7cfe971f3e.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Julia Louis-Dreyfus* ***Other famous peeps:** James Gandolfini, Toni Collette* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama, Romance* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ## 13. The Florida Project *The Florida Project* is a beautiful and raw exposition drama about families who live below the poverty line in the shadow of the ‘Happiest Place on Earth’. The film follows adorable and mischievous Moonee, a six year-old girl who is being raised by her young mum and looked out for by the kind motel manager. It takes us on an arresting visual journey of one hot Florida summer as Moonee learns how to dream while explores the neighbourhood which is steeped in harsh realities during. ![The Florida Project | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/image-1-1067x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")***Starring as the single mother:** Bria Vinaite* ***Other famous peeps:** Willem Dafoe* ***Movie genre:** Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated R for language, violence, sexual references and some drug material.* ## 14. Tumbleweeds Many single mums will relate to the struggle of a woman who drags her 12-year-old daughter from place to place to escape past boyfriends. The two arrive in a new town that promises to be different from all the others. The mom starts dating a trucker while the daughter adjusts to her new school. ![Tumbleweeds | Single Mother Movies | Beanstalk Mums](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/5e/73/9e/5e739e93897414669d79796fda9d1619.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Janet McTeer* ***Other famous peeps:** Jay O. Sanders, Kimberly J. Brown* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ## 15. Maid In Manhattan In the mood for feel good single mother movies? *[Maid in Manhattan](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0252076/)* is a must see. In this Cinderella story set in New York, J. Lo stars as a hotel maid who gets mistaken for a socialite by a handsome politician when she tries on another woman’s dress. ![Maid in Manhattan | Beanstalk Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BMTc2OTQyMzg1NF5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMzAyMDQxNw@@._V1_.jpg) ***Starring as the single mother:** Jennifer Lopez* ***Other famous peeps:** Ralph Fiennes, Natasha Richardson* ***Movie genre:** Comedy, Drama* ***Can I watch this with my kids:** Rated PG-13* ***Further reading: [10 Things every single mum has thought.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/10-things-every-single-mum-has-thought/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/15-uplifting-single-mums-movies/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/15-uplifting-single-mums-movies/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** inspiration, films, tv --- ### [Coping mechanisms for DV triggers during shared parental care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coping-mechanisms-dv-triggers-shared-parenting/) **Published:** July 31, 2023 **Author:** Chandra Clements **Content:** Separation can be hard. It is hard on parents, and it is hard on kids. We do not live in a society of fairytales and there are times when being apart is the best outcome for both adults and children. Sadly, shared parenting where domestic violence is involved is more prevalent than most of us would like to admit. In these situations, the complexity, fear, stress, and need for self-awareness, escalates. For many single mothers facing memories of domestic violence and the threat of ongoing abuse, it can be difficult to cope. It can be difficult to prevent re-injury or future harm from occurring, to you or the kids. You are not alone. Domestic violence is a complex issue. Whether physical, emotional, financial, or social, or a combination of these, it can be overwhelming. Many people struggle to talk to friends and family who have no experience in these areas. Despite people’s best intentions, what someone says they would do in a certain situation can differ dramatically to what they would ACTUALLY do in that situation. Victims can therefore feel alone, misunderstood, silenced, and wishing to avoid the spotlight. There are many fabulous [resources to aid DV victims](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/family-and-domestic-violence). This article does not intend to replace their assistance, but provide support to those trying to cope with DV triggers during shared parental care with an abuser. Here are seven key tips to this affect. ***Further reading: [How to survive a breakup with a narcissist.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/breakup-narcissist/)*** ## 1. A boxer can’t fight without an opponent Emotions can be incredible fuel for DV situations. When two or more parties become emotionally charged, the possibility of escalation increases … and rapidly. It is important to consider that a boxer cannot fight if no one enters the ring with them. This is a powerful tool that can aid you in so many areas of your life, not just in relation to the relationship with your ex. This mantra requires you to identify where you currently ‘get in the ring’, and how you can ensure you get out and stay out in future. A little bit of self-reflection and planning can go a long way in setting you up for peace. Comments from your ex do not require a response. Many times, no response is the best response as it doesn’t provide the signal that their words are affecting you. If child support arrangements are managed via a third party, leave financial discussions to that forum, and not during pick up and drop off. Physically, staying ‘out of the ring’ and out of physical presence can also be another valuable strategy. This might mean drop off and pick up is done by someone else or at a public venue. Emotionally and physically, the safest place is as a spectator and not as a participant. Consider how silly a boxer would look in a ring on their own, punching thin air and getting worked up over it. ## 2. Breathing and DV triggers It is significant to note how many of us struggle to breathe deeply and diaphragmatically when under pressure. When oxygen levels become lower than optimal, thinking is compromised, and catastrophic beliefs can invade our space. We do not see things are sharply as we could. We might: - Overreact - Under-react - Stay in the ring - Yell at our kids - Blame ourselves - Say things we don’t mean - Basically get in a flap Right here and now, I want you to stop and take a deep breath. Place your hand on your abdomen and try pushing it in and out. Now slow your breathing down and keep pushing your hand in and out. How do you feel? Energised? Sharpened? Focused? Calmer? We underestimate the role of the breath in our lives. I’m not suggesting that when you are in the middle of shared parental care, that you tell everyone to hold five while you do your breathing exercises. But, I am suggesting you pay more attention to your breathing and practice slowing down and getting full amounts of oxygen in your system. Before you attempt drop off, spend ten minutes deep breathing and focused on your state. After pick up, pop to the loo and increase your oxygen levels to help you recalibrate. The sharper you can think and the calmer you feel, the better choices you will make, especially in the heat of anything stressful. ## 3. We give energy to what we pay attention to For the scientists among us, you know that energy must go somewhere. It doesn’t disappear. Energy is within us. It is in our bodies, and it is in our thoughts. This is relevant when discussing DV triggers as we need to understand that what we pay attention to, creates energy around that situation. Creating energy around something can be good when it relates to taking action or getting healthy or helping and loving our kids. If we pay attention to those things that help or grow us or our kids, that is a wonderful blessing. However, similarly if we create energy around negative people or occurrences in our lives, those things grow in significance. They are fuelled by the energy, and we need to own the role we have played in disrupting our own peace. There is nothing more powerful than self-management and self-awareness. Ask yourself: - What do you pay attention to or think about that does not need anymore energy? - What do you fixate on that is out of your control yet eating away at your energy levels? - What can you focus on and pay attention to instead? - Where is the best target for your energy? - How are you currently living with fear or pain that is in the past and no longer present? Your ex says you are the problem, and they have a ‘great partner’ now. That doesn’t need your energy or attention. Your ex denies what has happened and attempts to distort your recollection. That doesn’t require your energy or validation. Your ex says they are going to reduce their income to punish you or that you are nothing. Nope, nothing here that requires more energy. What they say and what is real is not necessarily connected. You decide what you pay attention to, not them. We need to pay attention to those things that propel us forward, not those things that restrict us. ## 4. Teflon coating to protect from DV triggers Our minds are powerful. Just like in point three, what we think about is creating energy and impacting our outcomes. It is therefore valuable to understand the power of imagery. I want you to imagine that someone who cares deeply for you is pouring a bucket of Invisible Teflon Coating all over you right now. This coating is going to stick to you permanently and coat you with that special stuff we see on the infomercials where nothing sticks to it – not melted cheese, not burnt milk, nothing smelly or gooey. And not what your ex says and does. I want you to visualise the Teflon coating each time you feel DV triggers. Imagine it glistening all over your body and protecting you from that smelly cheese … and those looks … and those comments. You have got this. ***Further reading: [Keeping body language positive when talking to your ex.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/body-language-positive/)*** ## 5. Expectations are not reality In life, we can confuse what WE THINK is happening with WHAT IS happening. We can expect more of people than what people are capable of, or indeed, what people will do. We can hold high expectations and hopes, and then feel poorly when those expectations are not met. The brutal truth is that people are not what we would like them to be; they are what they are. It is important to remember that we can control ourselves and no one else. We can change ourselves and no one else. We can hope someone will change yet we have no control over whether they want to, will, or even see a need to. Expectations are not reality. We are best served looking at reality and not for the achievement of our expectations. You will never meet the expectations of an abuser and they will never meet yours. Expecting that this weeks’ drop off will be significantly better than the last is setting yourself up for hurt. Planning that it is unlikely to change and preparing to stay out of the ring is dealing with a more realistic outcome. Facing risks and utilising the support services of people trained to assist is a far more beneficial approach than expecting change or a reduction in risk. I have been expecting to win lotto for quite some time now. Sadly and annoyingly, the reality is I have not. I have higher levels of control and can make better decisions for the future when I deal with reality and recognise the gap between that and my expectations. Face your reality, as hard as that may be. ## 6. Records are priceless At the end of the day, ‘he said-she said’ is tough. Your view and their view will never meet. When someone is attempting to control the narrative, they will remember what they want and leave out the elements that paint them in anything other than a good light. This can be so upsetting when you know what happened and yet you have no proof. Proof is priceless in helping you achieve physical, emotional, psychological, and financial safety. There is nothing worse than being asked ‘can you prove it,’ knowing that you had evidence but didn’t keep it. Small things matter. Texts, witnesses, times, rego plates, missed appointments, emails, may not seem significant as an isolated event. Yet, small things can accumulate quickly and so tucking things away just in case you need them is a habit that can be encouraged. The best outcome is that you will never need to use anything you have collected. Yet there is real comfort in knowing you have done your homework, kept your evidence, and it’s all there if you need it. ## 7. Boundaries Are Invaluable Domestic violence relies on the abuse of boundaries. Whatever these boundaries may be, boundaries are breached and typically there is a beginning point where these breaches are tolerated and overlooked. We do this as we are in love or seeing the good in others and trying to minimise the significance of the breach. However, in all DV cases, you can strip everything back to breaches in boundaries and the associated acceptance of this. Regardless of what has occurred in the past, now is the time to learn the importance of our needs and wants, and the boundaries that are required to protect those needs and wants. No one tells you in high school that you should spend more time working out what your boundaries are then studying for your final exams … but if truth be told, you should. We sometimes don’t know how important our boundaries are until they are breached and repeatedly breached. **Today,** right now, I want you to stop and think about what boundaries you have in place for your shared parenting arrangement, and what boundaries are missing or being walked over. **Today** is the day to right this. **Today** is the day to own where you have allowed boundary creep to keep the peace. **Today** is the day to identify what boundaries your children need you to have in place for their well being and safety. When we employ strategy number one of ‘not getting in the ring’ with setting and upholding appropriate boundaries, we can make life a lot easier in the shared parenting scenario (this is the case for both DV and non-DV families). You do not need to debate, defend, fight over, or fear having boundaries. There are times when you may wish to explain your boundary setting to the older children affected by their implementation (i.e. the ex no longer entering your home). However, what is most important is that you know what they are and what they are protecting you for or from. When we have clarity in our minds about the significance of the boundary, strategy three comes into play. That is, when we pay attention to our boundaries and clearly articulate what they are, we give energy to them and to the need for them to be upheld. Until this occurs, it is likely that people, whoever they may be, will be sliding all over the place, knocking you over with their brashness, own needs, demands, expectations and DV triggers. Boundaries create peace. Boundaries create awareness. Boundaries create ownership. Your ownership! ## Coping mechanisms for DV triggers during shared parental care Shared parenting with DV triggers at play can be incredibly difficult to navigate. The above seven strategies are not exclusive. They will not make the world a perfect place, because it is not. However, hopefully, one or some of them can help you as you journey this all-too-common path. And remember, you are not alone. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coping-mechanisms-dv-triggers-shared-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/coping-mechanisms-dv-triggers-shared-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** domestic violence, abuse --- ### [What is gentle parenting and how do I do it?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/gentle-parenting/) **Published:** July 29, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As parents, we strive to create a nurturing and loving environment for our children, where their emotional needs are met and their development is supported. Two years ago, I stumbled upon a parenting approach that completely transformed my relationship with my children: Gentle parenting. Now, with a heart full of gratitude and a desire to share my experiences, I shed light on what gentle parenting is, how to do practice it, and how it has positively impacted my family. I’ll take you through the fundamental principles of gentle parenting, including the importance of mindful discipline, effective communication, and the power of connection. I will share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and the benefits I have witnessed in my own journey. So, join me as we embark on this beautiful path of gentle parenting, where love and understanding pave the way for a harmonious and enriching parent-child relationship. ***Further reading: [Parenting styles and why you should have confidence in yours.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/)*** ## What is gentle parenting There is no single definition of gentle parenting, but it has become a catchall phrase for parenting based on empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries. Parents who have embraced this style turn away from rewards and punishment. Instead, they give age-appropriate and socially acceptable positive reinforcements. The end goal is to raise children who are happy and emotionally healthy. When I first learned about this parenting style, I was hesitant. Having been raised by an authoritative parent (I love you, mum!), I wondered what’s wrong with the traditional parenting style. After all, I turned out fine, didn’t I? But gentle parenting resonates with me more than other parenting styles. Now that we parents are more aware of the mental issues hounding our kids and understanding the effects of our upbringing, we ask, “Is there something better for my children?” And there is! Psychologists and paediatricians believe that gentle parenting is one of the best strategies parents can adopt in order to reduce anxiety and have a positive impact. Here, children grow up with parents who affirm their emotions. Instead of being viewed as “just kids,” they are taken seriously by adults around them. Thus, they learn to regulate their feelings, boost their self-esteem, and become responsible for their behaviours ## The top benefits of gentle parenting ## My children manage their emotions better The most immediate change I noticed in my daughters since I started practicing gentle parenting is improved control over their emotions. In a short time, there was less shouting, less walking out, and less scream-crying, “Why can’t you understand?!” They have become much calmer, able to wait for their turn to speak because they know they will be heard. Well, monkey see, monkey do. Children are like mirrors; they reflect what they see. When your child grows up witnessing you flare up at misbehaviours and accidents, they will mimic your reactions. After all, they will think this is the “adult,” hence the proper way to act in untoward situations. On the contrary, when they see you wait and think before you react, they will know that’s what they should do in similar situations in the future. ## Stronger bond with both my children I have always enjoyed a special bond with my daughters as a single mum. But I absolutely believe gentle parenting made our connection even stronger. A few weeks ago, my youngest said in a completely normal, very nonchalant way that she wants to become “like mum” when she has a family of her own. Needless to say, I spent the rest of the night bawling in my room. Looking back, I think it’s because she sees me try hard to acknowledge, understand and respect the two of them as individuals and humans, instead of imposing my ideas and ideals on them. They have the assurance that I will not automatically dismiss their feelings and thoughts “because I’m \[their\] mum.” Just because I am an adult doesn’t mean mine is the only opinion worth hearing. Most of all, my daughters know I will not hurt them, physically or otherwise, even in their missteps. Remember, mutual respect and trust are key ingredients for nurturing any relationship, including yours. ## My discipline works! If you were raised in a traditional – read: authoritative – parenting style, it can be hard to believe that anything other than that will work. But it does! It’s perfectly normal for children to misbehave. We’ve all been kids before, so we know that, naturally, many “rules” do not make sense for our young minds. Children want to have autonomy and self-determination. They are at a phase where they are trying to discover themselves and the rules of the world. In this stage, they experiment with lines and what happens when crossing them. Since incorporating more gentle discipline, I have noticed that my daughters are becoming more receptive to what I want them to do. I take the time to explain why things must be done a certain way and try to understand what is behind their defiance. They understand my reasoning, and their emotions are acknowledged and validated. ## We all communicate better As I mentioned earlier, gentle parenting has changed how we manage conflicts, so there’s remarkably less shouting and stomping around the house—and no more slamming doors! The three of us know we can sit and talk to resolve our issues or share important stuff. Before my discovery of gentle parenting, I was always the one to talk to my daughters. Most of the time, I tell them what’s wrong and tell them what to do. When I observed something, I was the one to give advice. In short, my children were merely at the receiving end. Now, we communicate. It has become a two-way or three-way process. We allow each other to speak and actively listen without judgment. I have gone from saying, “Well, that’s wrong,” to “How do you feel about it?” My daughters are starting to do the same to me and each other, and in the process, we are becoming better at expressing our feelings and thoughts. And with that, a more peaceful and happy home. ## My children make better decisions It’s normal for children to make mistakes. They *should* make mistakes. That’s how people learn. But there has been a major shift in my daughters’ decision-making since I started to become a gentler parent. Even in the smallest things, like picking their snack or how they want to spend weekends, they are becoming more and more mindful and considerate. I figure it’s because they are more in tune with what they want and how they feel others will feel because of the choices they make. I don’t know for sure, but demonstrating concern and consideration by constantly asking them how they feel encourages them to think of other people’s feelings as well. ## We have less power struggles Being a single mum, life would be infinitely easier if I could get my children to do what I want anytime, all the time. But I have two equally assertive and strong-willed girls like their mum. Naturally, we are bound to have power struggles, especially with my daughters asserting their individuality and me still trying to “undo” the lasting effects of my upbringing. A lot has changed since I stumbled upon the concept of gentle parenting two years ago. It has helped my children become kinder and more thoughtful. Even as they start to uphold their independence, they remain respectful. But most importantly, I am changing as a mum. I am slowly letting go of the need to always be right. I am learning that I cannot and must not try to control my daughters’ lives. I realise I am giving my children the best gift by being the parent I wish I had growing up. ## My tips to start gentle parenting ## Educate yourself Naysayers think gentle parenting is a lazy way to raise your child, but here’s a hard NO! For starters, there’s so much to learn. When I decided to adopt gentle parenting a couple of years ago, I had to read piles of child development and psychology books. As a parent, you must keep abreast of relevant scientific and social research to understand your child better and more importantly, the effects of your parenting style on their growth. At the same time, you as a parent must be observant about your kid and everything happening around them, which may affect their emotions. And the hardest? You need to work on yourself. Especially if you had a different upbringing, it could be challenging to “undo” reactions and behaviours you are used to. ## Give lots of positive reinforcement While gentle parenting avoids giving rewards and punishments, positive reinforcement is still essential to encourage appropriate behaviours. While rejecting the concept of rewards and punishments, you don’t want to withhold your approval or disapproval. Kids love having a degree of self-determination and get motivated when we encourage them towards desirable actions. Paying attention to what they are doing, being engaged in their interests, and showing trust and respect for their autonomy are excellent ways to boost good habits. ## Practice active listening Nothing beats listening. My mum tried her hardest to be a good parent, but I grew up being “told” what to do. In my household, adults said, “Because I said so” all the time. That’s one thing I hope to undo for my daughters. With gentle parenting, you [actively listen](https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/toddlersandpreschoolers/communication/activelistening.html). Stop whatever you are doing, go down to their level, and pay full attention to your child’s words. You must reflect and repeat what they say to let them know you actually listen and to clarify if you understood their message. ## Allow natural consequences When I was growing up, so many of the “punishments” for my misconduct baffled me. What did I missing the bus have to do with doing the dishes for the week? How did not fixing my bed end up with not going to my best friend’s birthday? They were so… disconnected. When I studied gentle parenting, I learned about natural consequences. It simply means informing your child about the direct results of their action. For instance, if they miss the bus, they will miss their first class. They will miss that day’s lessons, miss homework or a quiz, and get lower grades. Or that if they don’t take out the trash on schedule, the garbage truck will not pick it up, and your house will stink for the rest of the week. These are the natural consequences of your child’s actions. By doing this, they will not grow up believing mistakes need to be punished. Moreover, you, the parent, are not involved in the consequence, so they will not grow up thinking you will punish them. (Of course, there are times when natural consequences should not be applied. For example, when there are safety issues involved (like running in a busy street), or someone will be harmed by the child’s action (like throwing rocks at animals), you can and should put your foot down.) ## Encourage problem solving According to research, overwhelmed or hopeless students will give up solving problems altogether. In a relevant study, those who lack problem-solving skills have increased depressive and suicidal tendencies. And this is not just in maths. Throughout your children’s lives, they are going to encounter problems. In most of them, your children will have to face them independently. When you and your kid calm down in the face of a tantrum, you demonstrate the importance of a peaceful environment. They have to be calm before they can approach the problem. Next, when you ask your kid about their feelings, you are helping them understand the problem. Through this probe, they will learn to ask the right questions. And when you ask your kid what they think they should do in light of the situation, you are helping them understand that there are solutions to their problems. They will also know that they are the ones who should solve the hurdles along the way. ## Emotionally coach your children Children have yet to understand their emotions and often do not know how to express and control themselves when upset. Sometimes, they throw violent outbursts, but you don’t have to resort to meeting them with the same anger and frustration. Here is a three-step strategy that works to de-escalate the situation when one of my daughters throws a temper: First, I sit down to her level. You are her safe space, not an authority figure to be feared. Second, I validate her emotions. Tell her it’s okay to feel this way; if you were in her place, you would feel the same. Empathise with her frustration when things are not going according to her plans. At this point, you might be tempted to say, “It’s okay, don’t cry now.” But that invalidates her emotions. Instead, allow your child to. Third, I allow her to calm down on her own. Just sit there and wait it out. Being patient, calm, and kind can be challenging, especially when you are in a public space or need to leave. But eventually, she will calm down. If an authoritative parent raised you, the automatic response is to stick to your guns. But if you decide to try gentle parenting, you will need to summon a lot of kindness and patience. But don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it, as research has shown that gentle parenting leads to happier, more confident adults with better emotional regulation skills. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/gentle-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/gentle-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** parenting styles --- ### [20 Brilliant divorce tattoos that say it all](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/divorce-tattoos/) **Published:** July 27, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** I speak from experience when I say that getting divorced is pretty significant. Once the crisis is over, you might want to mark the occasion in a positive yet permanent way … yes, I’m talking divorce tattoos! And why the hell not? Going through a family separation changed me. I feel stronger and more independent. I have learned life lessons that will stay with me forever. Do you feel this way too? A tattoo is a perfect reminder of how far you’ve travelled to become the incredible woman reading this today. If you are tempted to get a tattoo, get inspired with my list of brilliant divorce tattoos that say it all. ***Further reading: [30 Tattoos to celebrate your children.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/tattoos-celebrate-children/)*** ## 20 Brilliant divorce tattoos that say it all ## 1. The Only Way Out is Through I love divorce tattoos that remind you to stay strong when you are going through hell. Because you know that you will get through this. ![The Only Way Out is Through divorce tattoos](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d0/8d/0d/d08d0d6bd9710ae8fb6ebcb340e2b4e0.jpg)Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/366128644687443652/) ## 2. Flying Free Here’s another tattoo that I personally recommend. The birds flying from an open cage symbolise freedom and serves as a reminder that sometimes, it is the right decision to leave. ![Flying Free](https://www.askideas.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/Free-Birds-Flying-From-Cage-Birds-Tattoo-On-Full-Back.jpg) Source: [Ask Ideas](https://www.askideas.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/Free-Birds-Flying-From-Cage-Birds-Tattoo-On-Full-Back.jpg) ## 3. The Past is Practice This brilliant quote is the perfect divorce tattoo for women looking to start fresh. Yes, the past is just practice and it does not define you. ![The Past is Practice divorce tattoos](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/8b/14/25/8b1425a72da58855eb5081fb92f46a39.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.pinterest.com%2Fpin%2F560768591086283730%2F&psig=AOvVaw0WJ8HV265vYlpdyP1sW-av&ust=1612058203171000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAIQjRxqFwoTCLDZrPnGwu4CFQAAAAAdAAAAABAD) ## 4. Always a Lesson This lovely tattoo with a key heart is symbolic of lessons from the past. I love this tattoo because every mistake, even failed relationships, is transformed into a learning experience. ![Always a Lesson](https://images.huffingtonpost.com/2015-03-20-1426873180-1167106-skelteonkeydivorcetattoo.jpg) Source: [Huffington Post](https://images.huffingtonpost.com/2015-03-20-1426873180-1167106-skelteonkeydivorcetattoo.jpg) ## 5. She Flies with Her Own Wings This divorce tattoo empowers women to fly with their own wings. Nothing could be more appropriate for people who had been dependent on another person for years. ![She flies with her own wings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/7fcb6809a27d7e08473c265b741b11ca.jpg "7fcb6809a27d7e08473c265b741b11ca - Beanstalk Mums")Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/433753007832306790/) ## 6. Sometimes You Fly Sometimes when you fall, you fly. A divorce tattoo quote reminds us that a failed marriage or relationship can bring out the best in us. It certainly did with me. ![Sometimes You Fly](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo4.jpg?itok=xBuUMku1) Source: [Your Tango](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo4.jpg?itok=xBuUMku1) ## 7. Boat in a Storm Calm waters teach us nothing, but storms always leave a lesson even after the devastation. My friend has this tattoo and she wears it proudly on her back. ![Boat in a Storm divorce tattoos](https://www.sheknows.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/udnrifolrv8xq5ifhxkz.png?w=648) Source: [She Knows](https://www.sheknows.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/udnrifolrv8xq5ifhxkz.png?w=648) ## 8. Free Yourself Still stuck in a dead-end or abusive relationship? Get this tattoo and free yourself, so you can finally become the best version of yourself and live the life of your dreams. ![Free Yourself](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo18.jpg?itok=FsRXUeOx) Source: [Your Tango](https://www.yourtango.com/sites/default/files/styles/body_image_default/public/image_list/dtattoo18.jpg?itok=FsRXUeOx) ## Tattoos to mark a separation ## 9. Celtic Symbol The Celtic symbol for new beginnings is a beautiful and elegant divorce tattoo that looks fab anywhere on your body. The original artist claimed to have received the symbol from the angels. ![Celtic Symbol divorce tattoos](https://i.pinimg.com/474x/59/39/08/593908f68505bb08f38d983fb4823d58.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.de/pin/684547212098530960/) ## 10. Let Your Past Make You Better A painful past is usually a ticket to a bright future. This heart-shaped quote makes for an optimistic divorce tattoo that nudges you towards hope and healing, not bitterness. ![Let your past make you better](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/a06e7a049ad95525675e0211013bf5df.jpg "a06e7a049ad95525675e0211013bf5df - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/303993043576588392/) ## 11. Nothing’s Forever I have a friend who got this tattoo after her divorce and I think it’s brilliant. Because let’s face it, nothing is forever but change. ![Nothing's Forever divorce tattoos](https://images-wixmp-ed30a86b8c4ca887773594c2.wixmp.com/f/f87d7da2-68fe-46c4-8316-a5f0a8070b65/dhs50p-7360170e-f807-4498-aae3-ee715a027505.jpg?token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJzdWIiOiJ1cm46YXBwOjdlMGQxODg5ODIyNjQzNzNhNWYwZDQxNWVhMGQyNmUwIiwiaXNzIjoidXJuOmFwcDo3ZTBkMTg4OTgyMjY0MzczYTVmMGQ0MTVlYTBkMjZlMCIsIm9iaiI6W1t7InBhdGgiOiJcL2ZcL2Y4N2Q3ZGEyLTY4ZmUtNDZjNC04MzE2LWE1ZjBhODA3MGI2NVwvZGhzNTBwLTczNjAxNzBlLWY4MDctNDQ5OC1hYWUzLWVlNzE1YTAyNzUwNS5qcGcifV1dLCJhdWQiOlsidXJuOnNlcnZpY2U6ZmlsZS5kb3dubG9hZCJdfQ.HGf_xtU1z2jKlgqoeS8PJWC3K4tSCY8Z8FCi-1OXRAI) Source: [Deviant Art](https://www.deviantart.com/thesearemyscars/art/Happy-Divorce-29866345) ## 12. Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go A simple string of words with a red balloon can be a powerful affirmation to let things go. I love this one because it’s not only elegant, it looks great on any part of your body. ![Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go](https://www.macleans.ca/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/MAC29_DIVORCE_TATTOO_FEATURE.jpg) Source: [Macleans](https://www.macleans.ca/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/MAC29_DIVORCE_TATTOO_FEATURE.jpg) ## More brilliant divorce tattoos ## 13. Tree of Life The tree of life is a symbol for many things: growth, wisdom, abundance, strength, protection and salvation. All the things you need to rebuild your life after a breakup. ![Tree of Life divorce tattoos](https://www.sheknows.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/da3ef2epjchloedjzuxr.png) Source: [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/p/BA8CTvOG5ZJ/?tagged=treeoflifetattoo) ## 14. Phoenix Rising I prefer minimalist tattoos and this one is beautiful with the curved lines suggesting a rising phoenix. It makes a lovely tattoo for the shoulder or arm. ![Phoenix Rising](https://th.bing.com/th/id/OIP.O6OQn6A_WY_Wc9vH75EI4QHaM2?pid=Api&w=720&h=1250&rs=1) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/113223378122979624/?d=t&mt=login) ## 15. Lotus Symbol The beautiful lotus flower is an ancient Eastern symbol for calm, serenity, peacefulness and spiritual enlightenment. It makes an excellent post-divorce tattoo for women who are on the path to healing. ![Lotus Symbol divorce tattoos](https://selftattoo.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/shutterstock_1036101928-edited.jpg) Source: [Self Tattoo](https://selftattoo.com/the-significance-and-symbolism-of-lotus-flower-tattoos/) ## 16. Live Free Freedom is one of the best things in life, especially if you’ve been chained to the wrong person for far too long. Celebrate your freedom with these two affirming words and a flock of flying birds. ![Live Free](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/f3/41/61/f341616088f433f91e96488a52748c5f.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/24699497931161220/) ## More brilliant divorce tattoos ## 17. Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go I like this other version of the “let it go” tattoo but with a green balloon. This one is just as elegant and the words can be cursive or in print. ![Sometimes You Need to Let Things Go divorce tattoos](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/7f/48/8d/7f488d33cb27c93cdaf677c7e7217c43.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/263742121904291543/) ## 18. Stand Tall Time for some cute divorce tattoos to lift your spirits. This giraffe symbol with the words “Stand Tall” is as empowering as it is adorable. ![Stand Tall](https://www.tattoostime.com/images/493/Cute-Giraffe-Tattoo-On-Back-Shoulder.jpg) Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/508273507915935617/) ## 19. I am What I Choose to Become A painful past does not define us, our actions in the here-and-now do. This awesome quote works beautifully on its own or with an image to inspire you to be the best person you can be. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/681a82576b160642fd3bc287682c912e.jpg "681a82576b160642fd3bc287682c912e - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/394065036118361982/) ## 20. Freedom Birds I love birds (if you can’t already tell!). This tattoo of a flock flying in a subtle S formation is perfect if you prefer just an image without words. ![Freedom birds](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/freedom-bird-tattoo-meaning.jpg "freedom-bird-tattoo-meaning - Beanstalk Mums") Source: [Ideas and Meaning](https://tattify.com/bird-tattoos/) ## What to think about before getting a tattoo ## Get a tattoo that stands the test of time First things first: Do your homework. A tattoo will be with you for a long time unless you have it removed, so it’s important to research and do more research. I have had a tattoo removed and can tell you it is a lot harder and more painful than having it put on! Get a tattoo that stands the test of time or something small and simple especially if you are a complete beginner. I have plenty of elegant and understated divorce tattoos on this list if that’s your cup of tea. Whatever design you choose (minimalist or maximalist, full colour or not), make sure you can be happy with the commitment for the long term. ## Where to put a tattoo Another important thing to consider when getting a divorce tattoo is where to put it. Tattoo artists say that this has an impact on how painful the process is going to be. For example, tattoos directly over the bone tend to hurt more than tattoos over your thigh or other fleshy parts of the body. Size also affects pain. Smaller, fine-line tattoos are less painful than bigger tattoos in full colour. If you are a beginner, the forearm or the wrist is a good place to start. You know your own body and which parts are the most sensitive, so keep that in mind when choosing. As well as the pain level, when choosing where to put your tattoo think about how visible you want it to be. If you want to display it all the time, think hands and forearms. However, there are more discreet places to ink, such as the upper thigh or torso. A lady at my local coffee shop has a small tattoo behind her ear which is super cute and nicely hidden most of the time. ## Designing your own tattoo Have an image of a divorce tattoo that you can’t get out of your head? Why not go for it and design your very own tattoo? I would definitely do this if I was any good at art. Your design will be completely unique and it’s not as complicated as you might think. A simple and timeless design (like many of the ones on my list) are perfect if this is your first time. Or you can make a rough sketch of the design and let your tattoo artist refine it to your specifications. Grab some similar designs on Pinterest to help make your vision clearer. ## Choosing a tattoo artist Don’t do what I did and get your first tattoo from a boyfriend’s mate! A tattoo artist can play a big role in determining whether you have a great experience and end up loving (instead of hating) your tattoo. If you don’t have one yet, social media is one of the best places to find great tattoo artists in your area. Most tattoo shops have Instagram accounts that you can follow to see more of their work and find out if they specialise in the design you want. Besides expertise, you want a tattoo artist that you can trust, feel comfortable and have fun with. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/divorce-tattoos/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/divorce-tattoos/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** empowerment, tattoo --- ### [How to make protein shakes at home (with my fav recipes)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/homemade-protein-shake-weight-gain/) **Published:** July 25, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Does your life revolve around juggling thousands of things daily, leaving you exhausted by lunchtime? Well, I’m here to let you in on a little secret that’s been my go-to trick for staying energised and nourished amidst the chaos: How to make protein shakes at home. Protein is vital, but who has time for elaborate meals? Not me! Protein shakes are a lifesaver. Quick to make, customisable, and loved by my little ones too! As a health professional who’s spent more time blending ingredients than I care to admit, I’ve learned a thing or two about whipping up delicious, nutritious, and ridiculously easy protein shakes that will rock your taste buds and keep you fuelled throughout the day. Let’s ditch sugary store-bought shakes and take control of our nutrition. I’ll share my favourite protein shake recipes and sneaky tips for a healthier blend. Blenders at the ready! ***Further reading: [10 Top diet shakes on the market with specials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/top-10-diet-shakes-specials/)*** ## My top tips to make protein shakes at home - **Invest in a high-power blender:** Up your smoothie game by getting a high-power blender. It can make your shakes smoother and thicker. They will crush ice and frozen fruits with no problem, so you don’t have to worry about your blender’s motor breaking down. - **Use fresh and frozen ingredients:** I love adding fresh fruits to my shakes but am also obsessed with frozen ingredients. I cut fruits into small, even pieces and batch-freeze them in ziplock bag or freezer-safe glass containers. They make my smoothies thicker, and this way, I don’t have to add ice. Great for cooler months. - **Choose the right protein powder for your needs:** You have plenty of excellent options for protein powder: whey, casein, egg, pea, hemp, brown rice, and mixed plants. Any of these will give you adequate protein to meet your daily requirements. - **Add enough liquid for the perfect consistency:** The right amount of water, milk, or fruit juice makes for a perfect concoction. Use more liquid if you want a shake; less if you prefer an ice cream-like consistency. Remember that you won’t need to add as much liquid if you use fresh fruits, especially juicy ones. - **Use ingredients to thicken your shake:** Frozen bananas are my go-to add-on to turn my shakes thicker. But if you’re not into bananas or want alternatives, full-fat milk, yoghurt, oats, fatty seeds like chia or flax, and nut butter are other fantastic options. - **Get creative with flavours:** I’m sure it won’t be long before you get sick of drinking a plain protein shake daily. Aside from switching your add-ons now and then, also try other flavours. I occasionally try variants like cinnamon bun and carrot cake, but I find plain ones like vanilla and chocolate to be a better base for when I want to go crazy with my extras. - **Use mindful sweeteners:** Whenever trying out a new protein powder, remember to check the ingredients for sugar content. Of course, to be very sure, you can get pure protein (most likely with plant-based proteins like pea and rice), but many protein powders have natural or artificial sweeteners. If you care about more natural options, look for those sweetened using stevia or monk fruit. Ripe fruits are great sweeteners, too. - **Drink immediately after making:** This is one non-negotiable when it comes to protein shakes. Protein shakes are best ice-cold. Keep it from standing too long on the counter, and don’t take too many intervals between sips. Not only do you not want your frozen ingredients melting, but it won’t taste good. At all. - **Clean your blender straight after using:** One important thing to note is that protein shakes and smoothies tend to stick to your blender. Most blenders are also not dishwasher-friendly because you want to avoid getting water into the motor. A quick hack is to pour plain water into your blender container and run for a few seconds until all the gooey stuff gets loosened and removed. Then, you can wash it by hand. - **Make note of what you like:** You’ll soon find out you have a few favourite protein shake combos. Experiment with the ratio of protein powder to add-ons, and always have your favourite ingredients on hand. Mine is basic: berry vanilla. Having a recipe you love will make you feel excited to take out your blender. ## My five favourite protein shakes to make at home ## Chocolate Protein Shake If you like it au naturale – that is, without protein powder – I have just the recipe for you. Thick, super rich, and packed with fibre and super seeds, I love that I can whip up this yummy concoction even if I run out of protein powder. Plus, I still get 20 grams of protein with ingredients I already have in the pantry. ![Chocolate make protein shakes at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/Vegan-Protein-Shake-v1-1456-05-515x800.jpg "Vegan-Protein-Shake-v1-1456-05 - Beanstalk Mums")Get recipe here: [Minimalist Baker](https://minimalistbaker.com/chocolate-protein-shake-protein-powder-free/) ## Vanilla Berry Protein Smoothie This sweet and tart classic combo got me into the world of protein smoothies, and that’s why it remains in my top spot. Refreshing and full of antioxidants, this recipe is thickened with yoghurt, but you can swap it with frozen banana or plant-based yoghurt if you’re dairy-free. The juicy berries also mask the taste of the vanilla, so it’s perfect if you have vanilla-flavoured powder on hand. Literally tastes like summer! ![Vanilla berry protein smoothie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/BFV21177_ProteinSmoothies5Ways-FB1080SQ.webp "BFV21177_ProteinSmoothies5Ways-FB1080SQ - Beanstalk Mums")Get recipe here: [Tasty](https://tasty.co/recipe/vanilla-berry-protein-smoothie) ## Peanut Butter Chocolate Protein Shake Cow’s milk, protein shake, peanut butter powder, oats: You can hit half your daily protein requirement with this! Easy to make and easy to finish, I especially adore this mixture for busy, fully-loaded days. Sometimes, I skip the oats and make this in my shaker cup, so it’s perfect when I don’t have time to wash the blender. (And sometimes I add a handful of kale; the chocolate and peanut butter flavours effectively hide the taste of yucky greens for my kids.) ![Chocolate Peanut Butter make protein shakes at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/protein_shake1-56c5db2934474536b25e57710a6dae50-800x800.webp "protein_shake1-56c5db2934474536b25e57710a6dae50 - Beanstalk Mums")Get recipe here: [The Spruce Eats](https://www.thespruceeats.com/peanut-butter-chocolate-protein-shake-428374) ## Pineapple Protein Green Smoothie Now, if you’re not hiding ’em greens from your picky eaters, this tropical smoothie is super refreshing and nutritious. It tastes like piña colada, but you can be sure it’s safe for the kids. (Of course, if it’s just you…) The recipe calls for spinach, but you can definitely use kale or whatever neutral-tasting greens you have in the fridge. It’s low-cal, so I add a teaspoon of seed oil to make it more filling. ![Pineapple protein green smoothie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/pineapple-green_post_1-533x800.jpg "pineapple-green_post_1 - Beanstalk Mums")Get recipe here: [Laura Fuentes](https://www.laurafuentes.com/pineapple-green-smoothie-recipe/) ## Protein Power Blueberry Banana Protein Smoothie Last on my list of protein shakes to make at home, here’s an indulgent cheesecake protein smoothie recipe that uses all-natural ingredients. It uses cottage cheese instead of protein powder, plus stuff you already have in your smoothie arsenal. Of course, you can switch it to another protein, like yoghurt or some plant-based protein powder, but I swear you’ll love this combination. It seriously doesn’t taste healthy! ![Protein power blueberry banana protein smoothie make protein shakes at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/Blueberry-Banana-Protein-Smoothie-1-618x800.webp "Blueberry-Banana-Protein-Smoothie-1 - Beanstalk Mums")Get recipe here: [Hurry The Food Up](https://hurrythefoodup.com/blueberry-banana-protein-smoothie/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/homemade-protein-shake-weight-gain/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/homemade-protein-shake-weight-gain/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** diet shakes, shakes, milkshakes, meal replacement --- ### [8 Brilliant online shopping hacks to save you money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/8-brilliant-online-shopping-hacks-to-need-to-know/) **Published:** July 23, 2023 **Author:** Megan Love **Content:** With time so precious and the cost of living rising, online shopping is coming into its own. Not only will you save money by not leaving home, but many e-commerce stores favour their online customers and reward them with exclusive online specials and free shipping. In addition, knowing the latest online shopping hacks will ensure you get even more bang for your buck, stretching your hard-earned dollars further with every purchase. Now is the time to get educated with our brilliant online shopping hacks to save money. ***Further reading:*** [***13 Online grocery shopping tips to save time and money.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-grocery-shopping-tips/) ## 1. Reward programs are your friend Nearly every retailer now has a rewards program; some deliver in spades. You can research each program online to understand if it will benefit you. The best reward you for spending a certain amount on each shop. In most cases, they are complementary, although a few might charge a nominal fee in return for a guaranteed set discount on full-price and sale items regardless of the total spend. ## 2. Be patient Gone are the days when a sale happened twice a year and the Boxing Day sales would stop a nation. If you have your eye on something, then wait! A targeted sale or an overall discount sale is on at most retailers every week. Be prepared, try on the items beforehand to know your size, and then jump online to purchase when the sale starts. ## 3. Celebrate your birthday Signing up with key retailers means you need to share your personal details, although many offer a birthday discount or voucher, which is a guaranteed win. ## 4. Sign up for shopping discounts Sign up to the retailer’s mailing list. They often offer an incentive to join the list, and then you are informed of the latest range and, more importantly, will be first to hear about upcoming sales, store events and special offers. Do the same and follow them on social media as this is the first place they will post about a forthcoming flash sale or partner collaboration. To ensure you don’t miss a deal, download the [Honey](https://www.joinhoney.com/explore) browser extension which will search the web for discount codes when you reach the checkout. ## More hacks for online shopping ## 5. Add to the shopping cart and leave What? I hear you say. This is one clever trick! If you leave items in the cart or basket and then choose to leave the website, providing you have signed in or logged in, they will follow up to see if you want to finalise the sale and may offer a discount to entice you back. ## 6. Best days to shop Studies show that Wednesdays to Fridays are the most popular days for retailers to commence a sale or offer a discount code. So these are the best days to browse to your heart’s content. ## 7. Seasonal shopping This is an old-school hack. If you know you are heading on a summer holiday later in the year, wait until the end-of-season sale or when they have transitioned into the next season as you are guaranteed to save precious dollars. The only risk is that the exact piece you may want may no longer be available in your size. ## 8. Clear your browsing history This hack is a true winner. It is essential to clear your browser history and cookies, or you can use an in-private browser window because a website can see if you have already been looking at specific products. If you have ever jumped online to compare prices for flights or accommodation, the price starts to increase. Spooky, but someone is watching! ## Bonus tip: Sign up for newsletters Signing up for newsletters can be a game-changer when saving money while shopping online. By subscribing to newsletters, you can access early notifications on upcoming sales, limited-time offers, and special events, allowing you to snatch up bargains before they run out. Some retailers even offer new subscribers first-time customer discounts or unique coupon codes. Staying connected through newsletters informs you about clearance sales and seasonal discounts, ensuring you never miss significant savings opportunities. So, simply sharing your email can unlock a treasure trove of money-saving possibilities. ## Stay safe while online shopping. You now have all the tips to save your precious dollars at the online checkout, but always think before clicking to purchase. Take time to check the returns policy on each website and vigilantly check for random charges added to your cart for additional items you don’t want. Learn more about your rights and risks as an online shopper from the [ACCC](https://www.accc.gov.au/consumers/online-shopping/shopping-online). ## In conclusion Armed with these brilliant online shopping hacks, you now have a powerful toolkit to make the most of your virtual retail experiences and save substantial money. Remember to always compare prices across different platforms and employ cashback websites to earn rewards on your purchases. Utilise browser extensions and coupon websites to effortlessly access discounts, and strategically time your shopping to coincide with seasonal sales and major events like Black Friday. Additionally, signing up for newsletters and creating wish lists can grant you exclusive access to deals and early notifications on price drops. Maintaining a budget and exercising self-discipline during your online shopping sprees will ensure you remain financially responsible and avoid impulse purchases. Embrace these hacks, shop smartly, and enjoy an educated shopping experience to grab the best bargains in the world. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/8-brilliant-online-shopping-hacks-to-need-to-know/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/8-brilliant-online-shopping-hacks-to-need-to-know/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Shopping **Tags:** save money, rewards, sales, internet shopping --- ### [How not to get ripped off by a tradie (by someone who was)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/ripped-off-by-tradie/) **Published:** July 17, 2023 **Author:** Chandra Clements **Content:** Let me introduce myself and explain why I have put myself forward to write this article about how not to get ripped off by a tradie. I am a mother of three young children, living on the Gold Coast, sporting three post graduate degrees, a career as a business owner, CEO, director, author, coach, and a recent victim in a $35K tradie conman scheme. Yes, that’s me! I’m still scratching my head and wondering how I let this happen. I have achieved a lot in my life, yet there is no escaping the fact that this latest ‘hurdle’ has certainly caused me extensive pain, financial burden, emotional scars, and sleepless nights. (My seven-year-old has even been wise enough to ask me how I let this happen.) However, like all lessons in life, it also has an upside. Consider me the current Mummy Expert on what to do when engaging tradies to avoid being scammed. I am the crash test dummy on what not to do! When I put on my big girl pants and admit where I went wrong, this experience can hopefully prevent other mums following in my rather foolish footsteps. Further reading: [Beginners DIY: 6 Tips if you’re new to home improvement.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/) ## Know What You Want Scope creep is a common way that scammers make money. You start off with a $150 piece of work needing attention, and before you know it, the bill is at $900! The best and simplest way to avoid this is to do your work upfront BEFORE engaging anyone. Think: - What is it that you actually want? - Quite importantly, what is it that you don’t want? - What does success look like? - How much would you be happy to spend? - What is your absolute final budget? - Is time a factor? - Would you be happy to pay more to have it done by a certain time? When we are clear what we want, we can be confident in our communications and firm in our expectations. There is no room for kinda, sort-of, maybe, probably when it comes to engaging someone to work for us. These words are the seeds of exploitation. ## Finance Over Feelings As women and mothers, it can be easy to prioritise relationships over business. Preserving the relationship and caring a little too much about feelings over finance is a common trap that create an easy opening for the wrong kind of tradie. Don’t get me wrong. There is no place in this world for throwing our weight around or earning the gold medal for Mummy Monster of the Year. Yet, it is vital that we enter any tradie engagement with the mantra “this is business and nothing personal”. This means we create and enforce boundaries from day one. If they don’t show up as advised, well your time is just as important as theirs, so this is not on. If they return your call at 7pm on a Saturday night, this is not professional conduct and we let it go to voicemail. If they offer a sad story as to why they need to leave their tools in your garage or why they can’t complete the work to the standard you expect, then pop that sad story compassionately back into their own pocket and leave it with them to solve. This is business. It isn’t personal and you encourage what you pay attention to. Pay attention to standards, timelines, and money. Stay away from ANY AND ALL drama. ## How not to get ripped off by a tradie (cont.) ## Quotes Are Binding A quote tells you the tradesperson’s terms of service and how much you’ll be charged. **Note:** Once you accept a quote from a tradie, it becomes a [legally binding contract](https://www.qld.gov.au/law/your-rights/consumer-rights-complaints-and-scams/consumer-advice-rights-and-responsibilities/tips-to-become-a-smarter-shopper/getting-quotes-and-signing-contracts). Thus, be careful what you sign off on. Be sure it includes everything you want to be done and when you want it done by, and check for clauses regarding delays, variations, and exclusions. If you have agreed to a quote and a tradie attempts to bill you more than that quote, the answer is simple. You have a legal document that stipulates the price, and the price is the price. Do not engage in conversation, texts, or emails regarding why you should pay more than the quoted price. A common trap for many women is to feel it is ‘the right thing to do’ to pay the additional charges. Let me speak from experience. The moment you entertain additional ‘unquoted’ costs, these costs will soon multiply. No means no! ## Online Information Gathering Be diligent and do your homework. You can check licence databases online. If the tradie is unlicensed or the information they have given you regarding their licences does not match what you find online, abort! **Note:** Social media searches will uncover random reviews or information that you will not find on a business card or by talking to a tradie during a quote***.*** One of my biggest regrets is that a previous mummy victim of my offending tradie had gone to great lengths to post reviews everywhere she could online. Of course, I searched for and found this out AFTER I had been scammed. She had done everything she could to stop him from repeating his behaviour with future clients. Yet, her efforts did little for me as I did not do my homework upfront. It was all there if I had just used our social media empire for what it is well known for: digging up anything and everything. If a job is worth getting done, it is worth the homework investment upfront. ## My last words: How not to get ripped off by a tradie. Let my cautionary tale be your guide on how not to get ripped off by a tradie. When it comes to hiring someone to fix, build, or create something in your home, don’t let your vulnerability blind you. Remember, you’re the boss, and you hold the purse strings! First and foremost, research is your superhero cape. Don’t just settle for the first tradie you stumble upon. Read reviews, ask for recommendations, and interview them like they’re contestants on a reality show. Don’t be shy to ask for their qualifications and licenses; after all, you wouldn’t let someone with a fake doctorate perform brain surgery on your goldfish, right? Always remember, trust your gut. If something feels off, don’t ignore those “red flag” sirens blaring in your head. Communication is key, so don’t be afraid to speak up and voice your concerns. A trustworthy tradie will understand and address your worries, not disappear into the Bermuda Triangle with your hard-earned cash. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/ripped-off-by-tradie/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/ripped-off-by-tradie/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money **Tags:** diy, quotes, trades --- ### [Sites for online dating: How to choose the right one?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/sites-for-online-dating/) **Published:** July 15, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Finding suitable sites for online dating is an integral part of your dating journey. Choosing the perfect site (or app) for your needs will help you find who you are looking for sooner and make the experience more enjoyable. If you’re on the wrong sites for online dating, you could have negative experiences which leave you feeling dejected and put you off dating altogether. We all have a friend who is ‘completely over’ online dating. Could they be on the wrong app? Dating is an important part of life. We all deserve a special someone in our world, whether it be a committed relationship or to fulfil our need for sex and intimacy. Taking the time to research where to find like-minded souls is the first step. In this article, I use my experiences with online dating to get you started on the right foot (and the right sites), so your quest is both positive and productive. ## Take advice from friends It is very likely that your own friends have experiences and insights regarding online dating. Aside from sharing hilarious online dating anecdotes, your friends can also advise you about which online dating sites are easy or fun to use. Ask them which apps or sites will works best for your demographic. Your friends can also help you identify red flags that you should watch out for when talking to someone online, and tips on how to [optimise your dating profile](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-write-a-successful-online-dating-profile/). Let’s be real here, your friends will not hold back from telling you which hot photos showcase your features best or helping you out if your dating bio is written poorly. ## Read reviews Reviews are a great resource to consider, especially if you are not yet comfortable talking about your online dating endeavour with your friends. Check if other women – especially those who are your age – feel safe and at ease on the sites that you are looking at. Reviews also reveal if the members or subscribers’ user experience is smooth, if the customer support is responsive, and if the premium plans are actually worth paying for. ## Consider the target audience Choosing an online dating site is not that different from choosing a nightclub or bar to go to. Just like there are bars that are targeted towards the Gen Z kids, online sites tend to cater to a specific demographic, whether they intend to or not. When choosing, consider the sites’ target audience so that you will be able to find the right ‘bar’ to meet new people based on your age group, interests, and location. For example, [eharmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) is know for creating meaningful relationships and [Tinder](https://tinder.com/app/recs) is more reputed with hookups. You don’t want to be wasting your time on a dating site where you are surrounded by dating options who are mostly either way younger or older than your preference. ## Look at prices and free options The best things in life are free. And for you, that can include finding love. With that being said, you can also find better online dating plans, for an additional fee. Compare inclusions and advantages between different sites’ paid and free packages. It is possible to create free accounts on various sites’ and enjoy features that meet most, if not all, of your needs. There are also sites that offer paid online dating packages that offer considerable and tempting features like unlimited messaging or worldwide location access. Depending on your online dating needs, the right type of account is out there for you to discover. And while we hope that you won’t have to pay a single cent to be able to find Mr. Right, it’s also fine to invest in your online dating experience. If it makes it safer, fast and more fun, it is money well spent! ***Further reading: [Online dating apps: Paid vs. free.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/)*** ## Research the features This sounds very basic but I believe it’s important to emphasise how much features impact your experience in online dating. Features also directly affect the effectiveness of a dating platform to provide you an environment where you can easily find your potential matches. Does the site restrict your access to potential matches in other cities or countries? Does it have acceptable conditions when it comes to who can message you? Does it have any special features that protect women from potential predatory behaviour and harassment? Question what these sites are offering and picture how each of their features can benefit you. ## Read the privacy policies You know what they say: READ the fine print! Understand what you are about to sign up for before you create an account with your chosen dating site. We are all guilty of it … scrolling down to the end of the user agreement clause or information privacy policies in a hurry to find the ‘I agree’ checkbox, without really reading any of these clauses. And then we express our surprise and suspicions when our browser start marketing things that we muttered under our breath minutes ago. Avoid getting Black Mirror-ed and read the privacy policies so you can ensure the safety of your information. Select a dating site that respects its members’ privacy and does not include sneaky clauses in their policies that are difficult to agree with. Remember, your agreement or signature legitimises whatever they eventually do with the information you share on their platform. ## Reputation of the app No matter how well-developed an app or platform is, their reputation among users and reviewers matter a lot. As I have previously mentioned, you should look at other people’s impression of the sites that you are looking at. You can also read up on articles written by unpaid creators and former users of the sites. Are they singing praises for this platform? Do the mention of platform errors or bad customer service come up too often? Does everyone think this particular app is tacky? There’s a lot of truth and wisdom in other people’s experiences to consider and learn from. You can then apply this in your own dating journey. ## Geographical location For me, among all the things to consider when choosing the right online dating site or app, location is one of the biggest factors. Again, I’ll use the bar analogy. You can’t have a lot of picking options if you go to a bar where there are barely any patrons in it. If you are looking to meet new people, you want to go where all the cool guys are going. Ask around or search on Google which is the most downloaded or used online dating sites in your area. I mean, what does it matter if a site offers incredible features but they have not marketed their brand well to attract enough members for you to choose from? ## Take advantage of free trials Free trials are a fantastic way for you to have a first-hand feel of how to use and navigate paid online dating sites. Aside from checking if their user interface is comfortable for you, you can also see for yourself if their platform design and features correspond to your needs. You also get to judge if the social atmosphere and the type of people that comprise the membership of the platform are satisfactory for you. Enjoying these free trials will help you a lot in determining which site, whether free or paid, is right for you. ## Go with your gut Listen to your own judgment and assessment of things- and have fun! I understand that you may take this selection process seriously, as you should. But don’t stress yourself out. Trust your instinct and choose the site that does not only offer you the best value and features, but also make you feel safe, excited, and comfortable to explore. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/sites-for-online-dating/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/sites-for-online-dating/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** relationships, dating, internet dating, hook ups --- ### [7 Clever ideas to set up a shared bedroom for kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/shared-bedroom-for-kids/) **Published:** July 10, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Being a single mother brings many obstacles, and I recently faced a new challenge: [downsizing our home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/downsizing-your-home/) after a divorce. With this came less space and the unavoidable decision to have a shared bedroom for my kids. While the transition wasn’t easy, we got there and now have a shared bedroom set-up that works, and, most importantly, my kids are happy. If you are in a similar situation, see my tried-and-tested tips that helped me get my kids on board with the idea of joining forces and creating a shared bedroom space they have learned to love. I’ll share practical solutions, imaginative ideas, and clever hacks to make the most of your limited space while ensuring your little ones feel cherished, comfortable, and excited about their new shared oasis. ## 1. Try bunk beds or trundle beds Bunk beds and trundle beds are a great way to make sharing a bedroom fun and doable for your kids. If you’re currently downsizing after a separation or a financial decision, or just trying to figure out a way how to make a single bedroom work for your two kids, making them sleep together in one bed can feel a bit invasive and unsettling for your kids. Bunk beds and trundle beds give your kids separate sleeping spaces, which grants them a feeling of having their own personal space in a shared room. Bunk beds can also be fun for kids, from choosing which bunk they prefer, to personalising their walls and covers. Trundle beds’ bottom bed are more often recommended for occasional use and for rooms that have enough floor space. ## 2. Provide individual space (if room allows) Space planning a shared bedroom is the secret to being able to provide individual space to your kids who are going to share a bedroom. Having separate corners for their own desks, their own side of the room, or even their own wall can mean a lot to a kid who is sharing a bedroom with a sibling. Strategise and mark how you would allot space for each of your kids who are going to share a room. Make sure their individual space is indicative to their personalities and hobbies. For example, one might like a small reading nook, and the other a space for sports equipment or art supplies. ## 3. Get creative with functional storage Anything could be a storage opportunity if you choose the right beds and furnitures for your kids’ bedroom. You can store books and school supplies in organised boxes under the bed. Instead of having regular chairs or seats in their common floor space, opt for ottomans to store some of their favourite toys. Rather than a small couch by the door, choose a shoe bench instead. Vertical space is also important to utilise especially if the room has a smaller floor space. High cabinets or shelves are fantastic to store stuff. Clothes and heavier items, like gadgets and body care supplies, can be placed on the lower shelves for easy reach. And spare bed sheets and special costumes can be stored in higher compartments. ## 4. Personalise their bed covers Most of our trepidation over seeing our kids share a bedroom comes from our empathy towards them not having “enough” privacy and a sense of spatial ownership. A really easy way to give your kids a personal space in a shared room is by personalising their bedcovers. Getting customised sheets with their names on them, or shopping for covers that feature their favourite TV characters or colours will work towards creating a separate oasis for them in a shared room. You can also ask your kids how they would like their beds to look and work on it together as a project through tie-dyeing or quilting. ## 5. Create separate display walls Separate display walls encourage your kids to express themselves individually. By allowing them to decorate their own side, you can watch your kids’ creativity grow and their tastes evolve, and teach them the proper way to take care of their own space. Depending on whether you own or rent your property, you could [paint the walls with chalkboard paint ](https://www.housebeautiful.com/home-remodeling/diy-projects/a23455002/chalkboard-paint-tips/)and supply coloured chalks for them to use as they please. Alternatively, allow them to stick up posters or (for minimum damage) lean a big cork board against the wall for them to pin pictures and decorations too. Note: Beware with pins and younger kids. If this is a concern try a magnetic board instead. ## 6. Remove any unnecessary clutter Because space is valuable commodity in a shared bedroom for kids, keep the room as clean and clear as possible. Yes, messes are unavoidable every now and then; you’re raising kids! This is why you should decide *which* is “clutter”. Try to declutter your kids’ shared bedroom in the sense that you discard or give away everything that is not being (and will never be) used or needed by the kids in that room for at least the next six months. Declutter things like picture frames hung on the wall (floating shelves will be better for storage), shoes and clothes that no longer fit, neglected toys and books that are just taking up storage space. ## 7. Install a privacy curtain (older kids, different sexes) Perhaps your kids are approaching or already inhabiting their puberty phase and they want to feel a tad bit more independent. Or maybe your kids are of different sexes and they simply need you to give them their own space as they need more privacy for when they get dressed or when they want refuge from school-related stress. Instead of installing panel partitions or putting up a wall – which will surely make the room feel smaller and less appealing – you can put in a privacy curtain. This is easier to put in and a great non-committal way to divide the space and to assign limited access in order to allow your kids to accomplish more private tasks in a shared bedroom, like getting dressed or taking a call. ## Final words Instead of lamenting over your situation because your kids have to share a bedroom, look at the bright side. Shared bedrooms for kids can encourage them to develop a closer relationship, to be more creative, and to be more considerate of other people’s spaces. It is possible to make a shared bedroom functional and comfortable for your children. Follow my tips to create a shared bedroom for kids that allows them to maintain a positive sense of self, privacy and ownership. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/shared-bedroom-for-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/shared-bedroom-for-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household **Tags:** bedroom, downsize, room share --- ### [How I shattered a dysfunctional generational cycle for the sake of my daughter](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/dysfunctional-generational-cycle/) **Published:** December 18, 2023 **Author:** Kate Heussler **Content:** I’m [Kate Heussler](https://kateheussler.com/). I usually introduce myself as a branding specialist, model coach and mother. For this article, I’m going to reintroduce myself as a recovering people pleaser, good girl syndrome cycle-breaker and my family’s scapegoat. Because I can’t acknowledge my life and work achievements and accolades without honouring the little girl inside me that helped me get there. Here, I talk about how I shattered a dysfunctional generational for the sake of my daughter. I hope that my telling my story and sharing my experience, alongside my professional expertise, it will other single mums in a similar situation. When people say to you: > ***“You’re so funny.”*** Is your response: > ***“Thank you, it’s from my trauma.”*** And then you both laugh? Same. There were some phrases and labels that weren’t discussed in my upbringing, though it would have been helpful if they were. They include: - Dysfunctional families - Childhood trauma - Family and domestic violence - Child abuse - Mental health disorders - Narcissistic personality disorder - Anxious and avoidant attachments - Affairs - Alcohol and substance abuse - Eating disorders - The ‘scapegoat’ - Black sheep of the family ## Are you a victim of an abusive family dynamic? If you have never experienced a toxic or abusive family dynamic, or never been in or had to flee from a domestic violent relationship, I am truly happy for you. For those who have experienced these things, ‘no contact’ isn’t a word that is thrown around lightly. It’s born from years of trying to make a relationship work, all in the name of ‘family’, and at the sole detriment to your mental health. And, to those people doing those things now, choose you. You can only heal from a burn if you take your hand off the burner. ## It is time to choose ‘you’ One of the most difficult things you’ll ever do in your life, if you choose to, is work on yourself. If you’re reading this and thinking “that’s selfish” then you’re either the problem or someone who hasn’t realised they are a victim of the same thing I’ve had to work through. You want to be able to see things differently by design though oftentimes the best time to self reflect and take accountability for your part is after disaster. Might I point out, both are perfectly acceptable – and normal. Once you’ve cried all of your tears, parked your ego to reflect, there is something quite powerful about being at rock bottom. I’ve been there a few times in my four decades. ## My rock bottom For me, this is acknowledging child abuse and the ways in which family members covered it up. Sexual assault at 15, spousal rape at 21 and 26, miscarriage due to abuse at 15, 21 and 34, $12,000 of reconstructive dental surgery over two years at 36, x-rays that revealed years of repeated broken noses in my adolescence, police intervention and four [Apprehended Violence Orders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/intervention-orders-australia/) over two years whilst pregnant and with a newborn, leaving partners who have physically, emotionally and financially betrayed me and counselling to work through all of those moments as they happened. The funny thing is (in a not so funny way) when I think of all the traumatising moments I’ve had to live through, survive and heal from, 99% of them have been perpetrated by family members. ## My daughter made me change When I sat with my own shameful, intrusive, uncomfortable feelings with tears rolling down my cheeks, the times I reflected on those traumatising moments in my life, taking one look at my infant daughter sleeping peacefully, something changed in me. Becoming a mother was the first time in my entire life where I had an abrupt awakening. Acknowledging my upbringing and lived experiences taught me that if I knew nothing else, my daughter was not going to have my childhood, no matter the cost. That’s where you take a good look at yourself, your habits, your traits, your decision making ability or lack thereof, your opinions and their origins, the choices you’ve made and the path you have walked versus where you want to go. Then you have two choices: - Keep going like this - Change the way this ends ## How I shattered a dysfunctional generational cycle for the sake of my daughter So long story short, if you want to break the cycle, pull back all of your energy and turn it inwards. Disappear for a few years. Work on you for you. You know what I found when I removed the following type of people from my life? This little black sheep was never the problem. If you want things to change you first have to make some changes. - Physically violent and verbally abusive men, gone - Emotionally and psychologically abusive women, gone - Family member who threatened my daughter’s life and physically assaulted her as a baby, gone - Family members who tried to convince me of a different reality to suit their narrative, gone - Friends who turned a blind eye to domestic violence, gone - Family members who only ever used me for emotional, physical and financial support, gone - Long term partners who have used, abused, humiliated and betrayed me, gone - People who saw me as competition while I saw them as family or friends, gone - People who frequently consume pornography and/or self soothe with alcohol and drugs, gone - People who have caused an insurmountable amount of stress due to projecting all their own unhealed trauma and self-loathing onto me, gone - People who only want to remember the ‘old me’ because I was easier to manipulate, gone - People who yell, scream and hit their children relentlessly and call it discipline, gone ## What did becoming a mother and cycle-breaker cost me? **Answer:** Everything and everyone that I have ever known. I didn’t miss any of the red flags. Abusive and toxic behaviour and dysfunction had been normalised. I’d spent decades being [gaslit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/relationships/gaslighting/) and manipulated into silence and obedience to ‘save face.’ In my experience the people who say ‘but they’re your family’ are either the perpetrators or enablers of abuse. When an adult cuts themselves off from certain family members, or their entire family, it’s because no contact is the only healthy way to heal, move forward and ensure the cycle breaks once and for all. It’s not an easy job and it always falls on the shoulders of the black sheep of the family. This is me. And I am sure my ancestors are proud. All of those above-mentioned people have spent my lifetime accusing me of things I’ve never said and never done, all whilst holding me accountable for their behaviour and expecting me to make up for it. The price you pay for calling it out is abuse and isolation. So, for a time you go with the flow. You rely on them for survival. Until you find the strength and courage to call it out and leave for good. They’re never going to change, so that’s why you have to. I have no regrets and I haven’t looked back. ## My daughter’s mere existence saved my life. Prior to her I was just in survival mode without even realising it. With her here, and me having done my inner work to cut the circuit of a dysfunctional generational cycle, I am the healthiest I have ever been. I don’t know everything, though I have learned that the happiest and most peaceful people have lived through a lot of violence to get there. Watching her grow before my eyes, seeing her express her feelings and opinions without fear, nurturing her curiosity and answering her questions in factual and age appropriate ways, not giving her labels so she can explore and become the person she was meant to be, giving her the physical touch and affection she needs when she needs it. I get to see how I would have turned out if I had a safe and loving home environment. I didn’t get that though it doesn’t mean I can’t provide it. ## Are you in a dysfunctional generational cycle: Questions to prompt action If you have read my words and are still asking yourself if you’re in a toxic cycle that you seriously need to break, ask yourself these questions. **Note:** Be ready for some hard truths: - Do I need therapy to save my marriage, or am I simply the only one ‘doing the work’ and making their life easy and comfortable at the expense of my own? - If I stop being the first and only one to initiate a phone call or organise a catch up with my family members (or friends), how many of them will call me to see if I’m ok or want to catch up? - If I stop doing ‘all the things’ that I do on a daily and weekly basis, how long will it take for my home to implode? - If I stop giving 100% of my availability, or financial, emotional or physical support and energy to my family member(s), will I see any reciprocity? - Do I despise my kids or is it simply that I am doing what 2 parents should do and getting no support? - Do I needing therapy or medication to ‘cope’ with my family, or - Do I actually have anxiety or depression, or both, or am I surrounded by toxic and abusive people who make me feel worthless? - Am I a bad mother, or am I a woman who works the job of 5 people whilst trying to be ‘hot and flawless’ at the same time with no support? ## Final words: How I shattered a dysfunctional generational cycle for the sake of my daughter In my quest to break a dysfunctional generational cycle, sacrifices were made as I severed ties with toxic relationships. Becoming a mother ignited a transformative shift, compelling me to protect my daughter from the traumas I endured. The journey involved acknowledging abuse, assault, and loss, necessitating detachment from hindering relationships. Courage was required to confront uncomfortable truths and discard societal expectations. ‘No contact’ became the path to true healing. Witnessing my daughter flourish in a nurturing environment reminds me that renewal is never too late. For those facing similar struggles, these words serve as a beacon of resilience. Trust the process, embrace past strength, and remember, it’s never too late for to brake a dysfunctional generational cycle. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/dysfunctional-generational-cycle/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/dysfunctional-generational-cycle/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing --- ### [The best period tracking apps we could find (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-period-tracking-apps/) **Published:** July 24, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about period tracking apps was last updated in 2023.*** There’s an app for everything nowadays. Yes, even for tracking your period. Lets talk about: - What a period tracking app is - The benefits of using one - The best period tracker apps we could find ## WHAT IS A PERIOD TRACKING APP? A period tracking app is an app that tracks your menstrual cycle. Period tracking apps do more than just predict when your next period is going to be; they also help you record changes in your cycle such as heavy bleeding and other abnormalities. ## WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF USING A PERIOD TRACKER APP - You can predict the date of your next period - Track PMS symptoms like cramping, headaches, pain and moodiness - If you’re trying to get pregnant, pinpoint the days when you’re most fertile - If you’re trying to avoid pregnancy, track the days when you shouldn’t be having unprotected sex - Get deeper insights into your reproductive health - Access reproductive health resources - Connect with an online support group ## THE BEST PERIOD TRACKING APPS WE COULD FIND ### [**FLO**](https://app.appsflyer.com/id1038369065?pid=Website&c=ios_top_banner&af_adset=/&af_ad=banner-main_page-top) With over 150 million users, Flo is one of the most popular period tracking apps available. And we can see why. It’s a feature-packed app that lets you track your cycle using AI, record over 70 period symptoms, access health resources and inspiration, and connect with millions of women to talk anonymously about intimate issues. It also turns into a brilliant pregnancy tracker when you are expecting. Calculate your due date, record test results, learn about parenting essentials and track your baby’s development. [![Flo | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/A-t3oJn9KdLJ65f_kmkncM13U6NVKvPfq4_69Juzn-I1hXSB2p7Q9F3ziAy7JYKDyso=w1171-h822)](https://app.appsflyer.com/id1038369065?pid=Website&c=ios_top_banner&af_adset=/&af_ad=banner-main_page-top) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Yes, free with ads* ***Cost of app:** $49.99/year* ***Best features:** Featured-pack period tracker* ***Pros:** Lots of features, easy to use, pregnancy mode, syncs with Apple Health, anonymous chat* ***Cons:** Expensive in-app purchases if you aren’t a subscriber* ***You will love this app if:** You’re looking for an all-in-one period tracker that also supports pregnancy tracking.* ### [NATURAL CYCLES](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.naturalcycles.cordova&utm_campaign=website_footer) Natural Cycles is the first FDA-approved period tracker and natural birth control app in one. You can record your daily temperature, mood, PMS symptoms and other period information to predict your fertile window–extremely useful if you’re trying to get pregnant or avoiding pregnancy. Based on the data you entered, the app shows green for non-fertile days or red for fertile. It claims to be 98% effective with perfect use and 93% effective with typical use. [![Natural Cycles period tracker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/My-Cycle-1.jpeg "My Cycle (1) - Beanstalk Mums")](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.naturalcycles.cordova&utm_campaign=website_footer) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Free trial* ***Cost of app:** $9.99/month or $89.99/year* ***Best features:** First FDA-approved natural birth control and period tracker* ***Pros:** Clinically proven non-hormonal birth control app, support for women trying to get pregnant, reliable ovulation prediction* ***Cons:** Pricey, requires you to take and record daily temperature, not 100% accurate* ***You will love this app if:** You need a relatively effective natural birth control method.* ### [CLUE](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clue-period-cycle-tracker/id657189652) When it comes to period tracking apps, Clue is one of the most, if not the most inclusive. Its gender-neutral language and educational resources make it popular with the LGBTQIA community. It’s also easy to use, has a wide range of tracking categories (from body temperature to mood to cravings), and has an extensive knowledge base about menstrual health. The more information you enter in the app, the more accurate your period predictions get. [![Clue | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/oVsfxTeFuPlnjkB5omhOdeNNPm874_9hQY3O8ZDTiC2_uJ-ODKJ2l2yfb7M5NDDkoQ=w1171-h822)](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clue-period-cycle-tracker/id657189652) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Free version with ads* ***Cost of app:** $5/month* ***Best features:** Gender-neutral period tracking app* ***Pros:** Inclusive, gender-neutral language, resources for LGBTQIA* ***Cons:** Limited symptom tracking* ***You will love this app if:** You belong to the LGBTQIA community and want a solid period tracker with gender-neutral language.* ### [EVE](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve&hl=en_US&gl=US) Looking for period tracking apps that are focused on people who are trying *not* to get pregnant? Eve is the app for you. It’s a free ovulation and period tracker in one with fun extras thrown in like horoscopes, quizzes, juicy sex and relationship tips and an online support group. The app itself is well-designed and easy to use, letting you record PMS symptoms and other period data as it relates to your sex life. Eve data can also be synced with the iOS Health app. [![Period Tracking Apps | Eve | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/qpXHI3YP3hXjiTIZOY0sVZZDvoOUGLFalVg4h1fz9Q0edXwnHYy0Hl7EVsfpxB4LNkE=w1171-h822)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve&hl=en_US&gl=US) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Free with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Best features:** Sexual health-focused period tracker* ***Pros:** Easy to use, great for people who are trying to avoid pregnancy, free period tracker with fun extras* ***Cons:** Push notifications can be annoying, you have to pay to access some features* ***You will love this app if:** You need a period tracker focused on avoiding pregnancy.* ### [PERIOD TRACKER](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/period-tracker-period-calendar/id896501514) Period Tracker is what is says on the label and more. It’s one of the most popular and highly-rated period tracking apps on Google Play (over 100 million Android users in 63 countries). The app is comprehensive and has a well-designed and intuitive interface. It lets you track your period, chance of pregnancy, PMS symptoms by category, weight and BMI, sexual activity and fitness. It’s a great app whether you are trying to get pregnant or avoid pregnancy. The information also helps physicians treat you better and with less guesswork. [![Period Tracker | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/F3J9aOX5JnZXA9ZljIv0hV3YumFTsETEkZ8wPBwfSbKtihrT07KkG-mftHnt2cDx3kXa=w1171-h822)](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/period-tracker-period-calendar/id896501514) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Free with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** $9.99/month or $39.99/year for unlimited features* ***Best features:** All-in-one free period tracker* ***Pros:** Free top-rated period tracking app, feature-packed, easy to use and navigate, pill reminder notifications, syncs with Apple Health* ***Cons:** You need to pay to unlock some features* ***You will love this app if:** You want a simple period tracker with health and fitness features built in.* ### [OVIA](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ovuline.fertility&hl=en) Ovia is a pregnancy-focused period tracking app/fertility tracker that’s perfect for people trying to conceive. Record you body temperature, cervical mucus and position, plus period data like PMS symptoms to know when you are most fertile and make the most of that time. You’ll also get fertile window predictions, daily fertility scores, real-time health alerts, tips and reproductive health articles, and support from an anonymous online community. [![Period Tracking Apps | Ovia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://play-lh.googleusercontent.com/GJm4BmG1YVjXM_GgFyM6-issCr5lPJTWLZdyye306pzAAKeMfR0KnWJ5HJz6QhTQ-A=w1171-h822)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ovuline.fertility&hl=en) ***Available via:** Apple and Android* ***Free:** Free with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** Free* ***Best features:** Pregnancy-focused period tracker* ***Pros:** Customisable data tracking, support for regular and irregular cycles, premium tools and features for Ovia Health members* ***Cons:** Ads can be annoying* ***You will love this app if:** You are trying to conceive and need a period/fertility tracker.* ### [CYCLES](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/cycles-period-pms-tracker/id577187307) Cycles is an elegant and discreet period tracking app that looks like a regular app (great for using on the sly). It’s easy to log in your period information so you can get accurate predictions, including mood patterns and body changes. You can also dive deeper with a detailed look at your cycle data. What really makes Cycles stand out is the ability to share information with your partner so you can get the support you need when you need it. [![Cycles period tracker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Facebook-Share-Link-Image-Cycles-1.png "Facebook-Share-Link-Image-Cycles-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/cycles-period-pms-tracker/id577187307)***Available via:** Apple* ***Free:** Free with in-app purchases* ***Cost of app:** From $2.99 to $29.99* ***Best features:** Minimalist period tracker with partner support* ***Pros:** Easy to use, calendar view for easy planning, can sync with partner’s device* ***Cons:** iOS only* ***You will love this app if:** You are an iOS user who wants a period tracker that syncs with your partner’s device.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/period1.png "period1 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-period-tracking-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/best-period-tracking-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** period tracker, time of the month --- ### [Best dating apps Australia 2024: Get the lowdown here ...](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia/) **Published:** August 21, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***This article about dating apps Australia was updated in 2023, keeping it fresh for the reader!*** Whether you’re new to dating apps or on the hunt for the right one for you, this article will help you make an educated choice to get the very best experience. We cover: - What to think about before choosing a dating app - The advantage of paid vs. free with online dating - Simple tricks to get the best from the app you choose - Our pick of the best dating apps Australia ## Points to think about before choosing a dating app ### COST Many dating apps have a free, limited version that lets you browse profiles and send messages. However, you’ll need to spend some cash if you want extras like unlimited communication, profile customisation and a more tailored experience. Download a couple of apps and try out the free features before you commit. ### LOCATION Consider where you live before choosing a dating app. Many apps claim large memberships, but these can be concentrated in more metropolitan areas. Try a few apps to see which ones connect you to quality matches in your location. ### LOVE GOALS Are you looking for a serious relationship or a one-night stand? Not ready for marriage but want to scope out what’s available on the market? Are you a member of the LGBTQ community? Maybe you’ve never used a dating app before and are simply curious. Our guide below should help point you in the right direction. ## The advantage of paid vs. free with online dating ### Free Dating Apps Many dating apps hide their best features behind a paywall, but this doesn’t mean you can’t find love without spending money. You would expect dating apps with free versions to attract more users or members, and this is true for apps like Tinder and Facebook Dating. These apps also tend to have bigger communities, although the quality of matches that you get can vary depending on factors like location and your profile. Free dating apps are great if you’re new to online dating, are trying out different apps to see which one fits your needs best, or are just here to browse and have fun. ### Paid Dating Apps Dating apps can cost from a few dollars per feature to a couple of hundred per month. The longer the subscription, the least expensive it is. The main pull of paid dating apps is the level of customisation they give in terms of experience. And there’s the reassurance behind the fact that paying for premium features means members are taking online dating seriously. You pay a monthly subscription to create a detailed profile, upload unlimited pictures and videos, see or contact people who have viewed your page, send and receive unlimited messages, and filter search results based on criteria like religion, ethnicity, and interests. You can also pay to have your profile featured so it shows up prominently in search results. ***Further reading: [Online dating apps: Paid vs. free.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/)*** ## Simple tricks to get the best from the app you choose - Try the free version of different dating apps to find a good fit before you purchase a subscription or buy premium features. - Decide on the features that you want to pay for, like unlimited messaging, profile spotlights or match filters. You might not need all the bells and whistles that come bundled in a subscription. - Figure out your online dating goals and choose the right app, such as Tinder or Adult Friend Finder for hookups, or eHarmony for marriage and long-term relationships. - Don’t give up. Dating is messy for most of us, so don’t give up hope if one match doesn’t work out. - Once you have chosen your app, take time to write an honest but engaging profile to attract the kind of partner you are looking for. A good profile will make all difference to your online dating experience. ## Our pick of the best dating apps Australia ### [EHARMONY](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) Eharmony is one of the oldest dating apps on this list and has come a long way from its roots, evolving with the times and including LGBTQ matches in its main service. With its solid data-driven matching system and incredibly detailed profiles, it’s the best dating app for people looking for serious relationships or marriage. Although it can be pricey (starts at $60/month), you get what you pay for: strong security features, thorough surveys to nail down your dating personality and interests, high-quality matches, and video dating to boot. ***Free version:** Yes, but very limited* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Solid matching system, personality quizzes and very detailed profiles* ***What kind of people hang out here:** Those seeking long-term relationships* [![Eharmony | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/BVQsy4x/Rooftop-1920x800-nov21.jpg "https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g")](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) ### [BUMBLE](https://bumble.com/) Feeling confident and love to make the first move? Bumble might be the best dating app for you. Women get to message men first, who are given 24 hours to reply to messages. You get to contact multiple people, initiate conversations based on your chosen topic, and see matches near you (the app is location-based). It’s super easy to use, lets you filter by interest (and even astrological sign) and allows you to control the narrative from the get-go. It’s perfect for women who are just looking around or want to go on dates with different matches. ***Free version:** Yes* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Lets women make the first move, choice between in-app purchases or subscription* ***What kind of people hang out here:** Women who are new to online dating and those who are browsing for eligible matches* [![Bumble | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/34Rx3hx/Screenshot-2022-04-05-182252.png)](https://bumble.com/) ### [ADULT FRIEND FINDER](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) If hookups are more your thing, Adult Friend Finder is definitely worth checking out. It’s easily one the most popular places, if not the most popular, on the web to arrange meetups online and off with other people looking for sex. Their membership base is colossal and there are multiple filter options to easily find what you’re looking for. Even if you’re just browsing, you can have fun by watching adult vlogs and webcams or joining chatrooms. The app even has paid sex academy courses. ***Free version:** Yes, but you can’t contact other members* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Large membership base, detailed profiles and multiple options to express sexuality* ***What kind of people hang out here:** People looking for sexual encounters online and offline* [![Adult Friend Finder | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/9pgwZXB/Screenshot-2022-04-05-181234.png)](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) ### [RSVP](https://www.rsvp.com.au/) RSVP is an Aussie dating app for people looking to take relationships to the next level. This is the app for you if you’re in the mood for meaningful conversations and serious or long-term dating. With over 2 million members in the country and 30,000 new ones added each month, plenty of potential matches await. You can use RSVP for free with ads, pay for stamps, the in-app currency, or a monthly subscription. RSVP is easy to use and fairly secure with mods manually filtering fake profiles. ***Free version:** Yes* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Large and growing community, secure app* ***What kind of people hang out here:** People looking for serious or long-term relationships* [![RSVP | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/SmKk0qH/Screenshot-2022-04-05-181318.png)](https://www.rsvp.com.au/) ### [SUGARBOOK](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69445?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsugarbook.com%2f) If a dating app where you can earn treats and money in exchange for sexual favours sounds like a dream come true, give Sugarbook a try. This is the app for sugar babies who want to connect with sugar daddies for a mutually beneficial relationship. This is easier said than done if you are a sugar baby, as the competition is tough. Majority of members are young (20s to 30s) females who are in the free Student Program with premium access. Meanwhile, the paying sugar daddies (about 35% of members) who are in their mid 20s to early 50s are guaranteed a wealth of options. ***Free version:** Yes, but you can’t send messages for free unless you’re in the Student Program* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Free premium membership for female students who can show proof of enrolment* ***What kind of people hang out here:** Sugar babies looking for sugar daddies* [![Sugarbook | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://sugarbook.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/SB-Blog-Footer.png)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/69445?Url=https%3a%2f%2fsugarbook.com%2f) ### [PASSION](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) Passion is like the soft-core cousin of Adult Friend Finder. Both attract people looking for hookups and casual encounters, but Passion offers a more refined experience. You can set your contact settings to be as clean or as X-rated as you like, for example. The website and app are easy to use, you can build very detailed profiles with 12 sections, and get in the mood with member videos, **video chats, and webcams. Search by sexual interests and engage with the community through a voting and points system (this can be a pro or con depending on your personality).** ***Free version:** Yes, but very limited* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Growing membership base, customisable contact settings (clean to dirty)* ***What kind of people hang out here:** People looking for fun and casual relationships* [![Passion | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/0FRR2Kz/Screenshot-2022-04-05-181620.png)](http://passion.com/go/p2076696.subPOC-PASSION) ### [HINGE](https://www.hinge.co/) Whether you’re into long-term relationships or meaningful connections, Hinge has you covered. With a limited number of connections each day (unless you pay for the upgrade), the focus is on quality, not quantity. The app is a great choice for people who love conversations, getting to know their matches and those looking to build something serious. Profiles are detailed, with demographic information (last names, location, age, etc.) and interests shown to matches to drive better quality connections. ***Free version:** Yes, with limited matches per day* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Easy to use, reduced risk of catfishing, focus on match quality rather than quantity* ***What kind of people hang out here:** People looking for meaningful connections and are not shy to share their personal information with others* [![Hinge | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/6B3st72/Screenshot-2022-04-05-181655.png)](https://www.hinge.co/) ### [TINDER](https://tinder.com/) The OG swiping app that’s known for hookups is still going strong. Tinder remains an excellent choice for someone who’s completely new to the world of online dating and looking to get their feet wet, whether you’re looking for long-term love or something more casual and short-term. The app is easy to use with a simple swipe left/right matching system and quick sign-up (you can connect your social media account directly). It’s a great dating app for people who live in more remote areas where other dating apps don’t have a strong membership base. ***Free version:** Yes* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Simple to use, great for casual dating and people who are new to online dating* ***What kind of people hang out here:** People seeking casual connections as well as more meaningful ones* [![Tinder | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/frv7G5k/Screenshot-2022-04-05-182035.png)](https://tinder.com/) ### [HAPPN](https://www.happn.com/en/) Feeling nostalgic about a missed connection? Happn can help. The dating app connects you to people you may have crossed paths with or those you may find interesting based on your location. Sign up is easy and there’s a free version that lets you use most features, like viewing profiles of people you’ve met and liking and contacting them if the feeling is mutual. Contacting other members and seeing profiles that have liked you requires a premium subscription, however. And if you live in a remote area, you may see fewer profiles to connect with. ***Free version:** Yes* ***What we like most about this dating app:** Easy to use and set up an account, detailed profiles, location-based matching* ***What kind of people hang out here:** Younger crowd looking for casual flings as well as long-term relationships* [![Happn | Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://i.ibb.co/68MvRkq/Screenshot-2022-04-05-182140.png)](https://www.happn.com/en/) ![Dating apps Australia | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Dating-apps-Australia.png "Dating apps Australia - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/best-dating-apps-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** online dating, internet dating, relationship, love, dating app, find a man --- ### [MACROS Meal delivery: User review with latest special 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/macros-fresh-meal-delivery-review/) **Published:** November 14, 2022 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** MACROS is a subscription ready-meal delivery service with a few differences. Most importantly, the meals are not frozen … I wouldn’t even try them if they were. Plus, they offer meals for various types of fitness depending on what you’re after. Whether you want more energy, weight loss, to bulk up or get more toned, [MACROS](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) has a meal plan to help reach your goal. I’m a single mum with two teen girls in a part-vegetarian, part-low carb household without a fitness goal. What drew me to MACROS was their reviews (check ’em out, they’re great), the dietary choice and the family sized portions. Plus, with summer coming I knew my girls would appreciate the weight-loss focus (although they are both gorgeous and don’t need to lose weight, but teenage girls and their bikini bods … need I say more). Lately, I’m spending more money at the supermarket and more time in the kitchen trying to get creative with low cost not-so-healthy ingredients … have you seen the price of fresh veg these days? MACROS seemed like a good opportunity to ensure we were all eating healthy meals with a set budget and zero time cooking. In the review I’ll take you through the MACROS process from placing my order through to heating and eating the food. ## Ordering MACROS online Ordering [MACROS online](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) is easy-peasy. First, sign up. This is straight-forward. Next hit the Plans tab to view all seven MACROS plans (more about these below). If you click on each plan it will take you through the plan options which includes the number of meals you can order and the cost per meal and per week. Click on Choose Plan and then comes the fun part, scrolling down and choosing you meals. This couldn’t be easier. The only place I came unstuck was trying to order the kombucha drinks which are at the end of the meal choices. I assumed these were extras I would pay for on top of the meal plan I had chosen. But you order a pack of 3 bottles in place of one meal order. For example, my order was for 15 meals but I ordered 13 meals and two three-packs of kombucha, which totalled to the 15 meals included in my plan. ## Plans There are [seven plans](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2fplans) in total which are categorised in two groups: - Everyday plans - Fitness plans Here details on each: ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/MACRO-plans-list-1056x800.png "MACRO plans list - Beanstalk Mums")Macros meal plansI like that you can choose your plan by health goals. From a balanced diet through to weight loss and protein-packed fitness meals. You can also pick larger meals which are 700g instead of 350g that serve two and are classed as Family Meals. They wouldn’t feed my family of one adult and two teens but they might some, and are perfect when just two of us need feeding. A big thumbs up to MACROS for the Plant-based plan which had lots of choice for non-meat eaters or people such as myself and my eldest daughter who have chosen to cut back on meat. Whatever plan you choose, you can book 7, 10, 15, 18, 21 or 24 meals per week. ## Pricing ### What it costs Depending on the plan you choose, prices at the time of writing range from $9.40 to $12.40 per meal. They price decreases if you order more meals in your plan. ### Latest Macro special You an usually get a great special with MACROS, the latest is: **[Get up to $20 of your first order with code: YOUR20 (use at checkout).](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f)** ### Refer a friend If you refer a friend to MACROS they reward you and your friend with $40 voucher. Note: You get your voucher once your mate has placed their order. ### Qantas points If you are a Qantas point junkie like me, you will love that you get four Qantas points for every dollar you spend with MACROS. Make sure you are logged in via the [Qantas shopping website](https://shopping.qantas.com/) or that you have your [Points Prompter Browser Extension](https://shopping.qantas.com/points-prompter) activated so you definitely get the points. ## What I ordered After much deliberation, I decided to go for the Balanced Plan of 15 x 350g one-person meals each week. The price was $161.25/week + shipping of $13. The total amount was $174.25. ## How delivery works ### Booking my MACROS delivery I was a tiny bit gutted as I had to wait over a week for my first delivery. Although I get that joining a subscription program means you have to wait for the next delivery slot and from then my deliveries will be weekly. The website says they deliver on Sunday/Monday or Thursday/Friday but mine was scheduled and arrived on a Tuesday. I see this as a good sign as they might be expanding their delivery range and times. Australia is a huge country and MACROS doesn’t deliver to all of it. Note: When you sign up and add your postcode you will notified as to whether or not they can deliver to you. This saves time and disappointment placing an order only to discover you are out of the delivery zone. ### Receiving my delivery Don’t you just love it when a delivery go smoothly? I received a text message on Monday to remind me of the delivery. Then, after dropping my daughter at work at 9am on Tuesday, I came home to a big MACROS box on my doorstep. ### MACROS packaging: Keeping it cool Living in Queensland there is always the worry of food getting warm if left outside too long. This wasn’t an issue with this delivery due to the timing but the box was well insulated. In fact, all the meals where enclosed an insulated foil food bag which included two big ice packs. MACROS delivers in refrigerated vans and say that this alongside the packaging will keep food cold for 6-8 hours. I wonder if this would be the case where I live but as consumers we have some responsibility. Perhaps get a neighbour to take your box in if you are out all day, or arrange for it to be left in the shade. I guess my meals were neatly stacked when they started their journey but they were a bit messy when I opened the box and this ruined the presentation of some. The main thing is the order was correct and still cold. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/IMG_7942-600x800.jpg "IMG_7942 - Beanstalk Mums")My macros delivery with insulated packagingOnce in the fridge you can relax and enjoy your meals instead of scoffing at speed. The [MACROS website](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/70250?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.macros.com.au%2f) states: > *“Due to our Modified Atmosphere Packaging (MAP), our meals are naturally preserved by removing the oxygen – so your meals can last for a week in the fridge.”* We ate the last meal from this delivery on day-six and it was still nice and fresh. So whatever this Modified Atmosphere Packaging is, it works. Here is what I received for $174.25. I will add that each meal feels delightfully heavy so I have high hopes that they will fill us up. ![MACROS What I got](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/IMG_7945-1067x800.jpg "MACROS review - Beanstalk Mums")My macros order## TASTE TESTS Below are comments on three meals I tried and the kombucha. I have picked a vegetarian, meat and fish meal for variety. ### TOM KHA TOFU (9/10) The tom kha tofu was the first MACROS ready meal I tried. I love veggie food so it was a safe bet. I would give this meal a score of 9/10. Here is why: - Surprisingly authentic tasty with nice hits of lemongrass, ginger and chilli. I can still feel a pleasant heat in my mouth as I type this. Oh and three kafir lime leaves which was a nice touch – not sure if I just got lucky. - Again, somewhat surprisingly, the tofu was the right firmness. Something I find hard to get right when I cook it. - Broccoli cooked to my personal taste – not too soft but not raw either. Some may find too soft. - A wee bit salty. Check before you season. - A smaller size than I would serve myself for dinner but my hunger was satisfied. My first realisation that my normal portion sizes are too big. ![Tom Kha Tofu MACROS](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/IMG_7952-1067x800.jpg "Tom Kha Tofu MACROS - Beanstalk Mums")Tom kha tofu 425 calories 19 protein 34 carbs 20 fats### LOUISIANA SPICED BEEF N WEDGES (8/10) I’m not a fan of minced beef, especially in ready meals because the quality can be dubious, that’s why I chose this dish to critically review. Surprisingly my score for this meal is 8/10 because: - This ain’t the best looking dish but I love, love, loved the taste … smoked paprika, garlic, lime. It just works. - The mince is some of the most tender I have tasted. - The wedges, whilst not crunchy were good (better than they look). - I was sure this meal wouldn’t fill me up but it did, these meals are a bit like magic in the way they do that! - The presentation was disappointing but deceiving in relation to the taste. ![Louisiana spiced beef n wedges](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/IMG_7955-1067x800.jpg "Louisiana spiced beef n wedges - Beanstalk Mums")Louisiana spiced beef n wedges 445 calories 35 protein 31 carbs 18 fats### JAPANESE MISO SALMON (7/10) Ok, so next for the fish. This was the dish I was most dubious about because fish requires such delicate cooking. How would it fair in a ready meal, albeit a fresh one? I have given this meal a 7/10 for these reasons: - Omg to the delicious smell emanating from the microwave whilst reheating, anyone would think I had been slaving in the kitchen for the past hour. - Heaps of edamame and udon noodles. - Salmon portion little undersized compared to amount of other ingredients. Slightly overcooked for my liking (which is almost raw) but much nicer than I had expected - The food was packed into the container, almost too much to eat as the udon noddles are filling. - It needed salt … which is a pro because I like to season my own meals instead of them being too salty to start. - Although very filling and reasonably tasty it lacked a punch. Next time I’ll add a little soy or extra miso and some red capsicum to the noodles for colour and flavour ![MACROS Japanese Miso Salmon](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/IMG_7954-1067x800.jpg "MACROS Japanese Miso Salmon - Beanstalk Mums")Japanese miso salmon 548 calories 33 protein 50 carbs 24 fats### ORGANIC BLUEBERRY HIBISCUS KOMBUCHA I love me a kombucha which is why I forwent two meals to order six bottles. My girls love it too, so it lasted less than two days in our house. Gotta give this a 10/10, here is why: - It tastes so good, especially served with ice and a few slices. The perfect summer drink. - You wouldn’t know it to taste it but it’s sugar free, so low calorie too. It does have erythritol though. - It is vitamin fortified (B1, B2 and niacin) - Makes a healthy alternative to water without the sugar hit of other soft drinks ![Kombucha](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/IMG_7965-600x800.jpg "Kombucha - Beanstalk Mums")Organic blueberry hibiscus kombucha## CUSTOMER SERVICE I’ve emailed MACROS and received a response the following day. Which I was happy with. At time of writing the Customer Support link isn’t working on the website which is a worry and I have seen the odd review about poor customer service. Good to note these are mostly old reviews so hoping this is all fixed up now. ## WHAT I LIKE AND DON’T LIKE ABOUT MACROS ### PROS - They are not frozen, need I say more - Food is really flavoursome, you can tell it’s made quality ingredients and tastes authentic (the Rogan Josh was as good as our take-away) - There are absolutely no unidentifiable ingredients in the food or on the ingredients list - These meals fill you up somehow, it must be the protein and food-combination but I felt pleasantly full after each - You can tell these meals have been curated by dieticians as they really fill you up, even though the portions aren’t huge - Whatever Plan you choose there’s a good choice of fish, red meat, chicken and veggie dishes ### CONS - Packaging not quite secure enough and this ruin meals presentation - At just under $10 for single meal costs can add up but meals contain lots of foods which are super expensive at the supermarket - Not being frozen means you have to get through you meals within a week - Where we live, we are limited to one delivery day (Tuesday), it would good to have more choice - If you are someone who eats with their eyes you might be put of but the presentation of the meal in a plastic container - The writing on the packaging (orange on black) makes it hard to read heating instructions, ingredients and other details ## IS MACROS WORTH THE MONEY? Right now, with the cost of groceries, especially fresh ones, MACROS is definitely worth the money. Cooking meals with similar combinations and varied ingredients as MACROS at home would be very costly. Plus, there is no waste. ## MY PERSONAL CONCLUSION ABOUT MACROS I like MACROS and will use them again. For me as a busy single mum, saving time in the kitchen and still feeding myself and my family healthy meals packed with fresh ingredients is a big plus. If I weigh the price up against a weekly grocery shopping bill and include the super foods from the MACROS meals, the price is certainly comparable. Although I’m not dieting and don’t have specific health goals, MACROS has taught me about portion size. I was eating waaaay too much before. I now know that if I combine the right foods, I can eat less and feel fuller for longer. Similar to any ready meals, some foods work better than others. Curries, bakes and noodles hold their presentation, whereas meat and two veg type meals don’t heat up as well in terms of looks. And, like all [subscriptions meal delivery services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/), it can take a few orders to find what works for you from their range. For healthy, filling meals that are ready in under four-minutes MACROS is a win for my family and lifestyle, especially for weeks when I want a break from grocery shopping and cooking. ![MACROS Fresh ready meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/MACROS-Fresh-ready-meals.png "MACROS Fresh ready meals - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/macros-fresh-meal-delivery-review/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/macros-fresh-meal-delivery-review/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food, Shopping **Tags:** weight loss, diet, meal delivery, ready meals, subscription meals --- ### [Which laser hair removal machine to buy in Australia 2024?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/laser-hair-removal-machine/) **Published:** January 16, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you’re thinking of buying a laser hair removal machine to use at home, there are a few things you need to know so you buy the right machine for your needs. Although laser hair removal might be part and parcel of our daily lives, it is a fairly new technique which was approved by the [FDA](https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/it-really-fda-approved) in the late 90s. Since then we have all gone crazy for it. Especially when you live in a hot climate like I do and lots of body parts are on display all-year round. You might also hear them called IPL machines which stands for “intense pulsed light”. They are popular with males and females, from late teens through to later life. Why? It looks good. It feels good. And it makes life easier. No more shaving, waxing or epilating. Just the flash of a light and goodbye hair. I have been getting professional laser hair removal on various parts of my body for years. However, my teenage girls are now into it and this is costly because they get different results. For me, laser hair removal is a permanent solution but for them in their tender teenage years, the hair grows back (albeit after 4-6 months) due to hormonal changes that trigger hair regrowth. Hence, another laser treatment is never fair away. That’s why I decided it would be more economical and convenient to buy a laser hair removal machine for use at home. Armed with professional advice from my laser therapist and well-sourced online information, I learned what you need to know before making a purchase, as well identifying the best laser hair removal for home. In this article I cover: - The difference between a home laser and getting it done professionally - What to look for when buying a laser hair removal machine - Which laser hair removal is best for home use? ## At home laser hair removal vs. professional: The main differences Long before I purchased my first IPL hair removal device, I did lots of research on home laser removal versus professional. And I mean lots! Because let’s face it, an at-home laser hair removal device is a big investment. Not only in money, but also time. I wanted to make sure that I was going to get the results I wanted, which is permanent hair removal. It turns out that at-home laser removal devices and professional machines at the salon are as different as night and day. Here are some major differences between the two. ### Laser intensity At-home laser removal devices use intense pulse light (IPL) or diode laser light to target the hair roots, while professional laser removal machines use true laser to kill the hair follicle so it can’t grow back. The main difference is that at-home lasers use very low intensities on small areas of skin, while professional lasers use higher intensities on wider areas of skin. ### Permanent vs short-term hair removal Because of the low laser intensity, it’s no wonder that at-home lasers take a longer time to work, and hair typically grows back if you stop regular maintenance. I find that I need to use my at-home IPL every month or so if I want to ditch my razors. On the other hand, salon hair removal (when done correctly) takes around 10 treatments and the results are permanent. ### Compatible skin tones I learned that at-home laser devices work only on a range of skin tones. I have dark hair and light-medium skin, so my little IPL does its job. However, it won’t work if you have grey, blonde, red or light hair and light skin, or the laser may cause burns if you have dark hair and very dark skin. Some devices will even turn off if you don’t have the right skin tone. Best to err on the side of caution if your skin tone is not compatible and opt for professional hair removal. Machines at the salon use lasers that are safe for all skin tones. ## What to look for when buying a laser hair removal machine For someone buying a home IPL/laser hair removal device for the first time, the options can be overwhelming! I have to admit that it took me waay too long before I decided which one to get. I must have looked at 20 different types of home lasers! Besides looking at obvious things like the price, I also checked the reviews and compared the comments from different websites. Plus, I asked my friends who have hair removal devices for recommendations. It really helped me to hear the experiences of people who have used and tested these devices, because results can vary widely even for the same device. When choosing my first hair removal device, I considered: ### My budget At-home laser hair removal devices vary in quality and price. I know that salon hair removal can run to several hundreds of dollars, but the best at-home IPL devices will still cost you a pretty penny. The best brands cost from $100 to $1000. It’s definitely an investment even if it’s not as pricey as professional hair removal sessions at the salon! It helped that I knew what I wanted and had a set budget to work with. Buying my device during a sale also helped! If you’re on a strict budget, consider getting an older model. This may not have all the bells and whistles of the latest version, but it works just as well and at a fraction of the cost. In addition to the cost of your at-home laser device, you need to factor in the cost of accessories for pre-shaving like razors, trimmers, and of course, skin protection after your laser session (SPF and moisturiser). ### My hair and skin colour I mentioned above that at-home hair removal devices may not work on all skin tones and hair colours. At-home IPLs can burn or damage very dark skin and they don’t work on light hair (grey, blonde or red) and light skin. The laser needs the contrast of light skin and dark hair to effectively target the follicles. IPL devices come with a chart that tells you what laser intensity to use based on your skin tone or target area. ### My target area Bikini line, legs, underarms, arms … I wanted to be smooth and hair-free everywhere so I picked a device that would work on all areas, whether small or large. Many brands come with removable filters that focuses the laser on a specific area. You can remove this when you’re treating your legs or your torso, for example. My device can also work with or without a cord. I like keeping the IPL plugged in when treating large areas because I don’t want to keep recharging the batteries. ### Essential features I picked a laser that works for all body areas and one with attachments and filters for smaller areas. I also looked at the number of flashes or flash life on the device which tells you how many years it will work, charging time, and whether I would need to replace components like lamps down the road. Don’t be afraid to ask the salesperson if you have questions. They’re there to make sure you are happy with your purchase! ## Which laser hair removal is best for home use (Australia)? ### [Philips Lumea Prestige IPL](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fphilips%2flumea-prestige-ipl-hair-removal-device-011793.html%3fcgid%3dladies-hair-removal-light-based) One of my top picks for at-home laser hair removal is the award-winning Philips Lumea Prestige IPL. It’s one of the IPLs that I looked at with consistently good reviews on different websites, and it came highly recommended by my friends as well. I love everything about the Lumea: The built-in sensor that tells you what light intensity to use based on your skin tone and hair colour, the cord/cordless model that’s great for on-the-go hair removal, the curved head for easy hair removal on tricky areas like knees, and the decent size of the light head to cover small and large areas. ***Google reviews at time of listing:** 4.8/5* ***What I like most about this product:** The rounded head for easy hair removal on tricky areas, filters for specific areas, and a sensor that tells you what intensity to use based on skin tone.* ***What is not so great:** Pricey, does not work on all skin tones, can irritate very sensitive skin, it can take months to see results* ***An example review:*** > *“I have been using the Lumea Prestuge for a few weeks now and it is an amazing product to use. It’s so easy to use plug in and go. Ive mainly used it on my legs and underarms and the results are brilliant so far. My legs grow thick black hairs and when I shave it normally grows back in 48 hours, after using Lumea for a few weeks it’s hardly growing back at all and skin is really smooth not much leg stubble. I like that you can use it while plugged in so not worried about charging it up. This is totally a great product and the results are much better than I anticipated. Would definitely recommend.”* [![https://www.shavershop.com.au/dw/image/v2/ABCZ_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-shavershop-master-catalog/default/dw43a778af/hires/011793_01.png?sw=930&sh=1139&sm=fit](https://www.shavershop.com.au/dw/image/v2/ABCZ_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-shavershop-master-catalog/default/dw43a778af/hires/011793_01.png?sw=930&sh=1139&sm=fit)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fphilips%2flumea-prestige-ipl-hair-removal-device-011793.html%3fcgid%3dladies-hair-removal-light-based) I found the best place to buy a Philips Lumea is on [Shaver Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fphilips%2flumea-prestige-ipl-hair-removal-device-011793.html%3fcgid%3dladies-hair-removal-light-based) ### [Estelle Laser IPL Hair Removal Handset](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/MX7KP2) I decided to include the Estelle laser IPL handset on my list because of the price. At $70, it’s an excellent bargain and a perfect at-home device for beginners who want to try out the benefits of IPL without needing to spend hundreds on a big brand. While it’s definitely not a substitute for salon hair removal, you’ll see results with long-term use. These are not so dramatic, but reviewers say they’ve noticed thinner hair growing back after regular use. You do have to keep using this several times weekly to really see a difference, however. With that said, the features and price are totally worth it. ***Google reviews at time of listing:** 3.5/5* ***What I like most about this product:** Great price, long life (700,000 flashes), travel-sized IPL* ***What is not so great:** Results can be hit or miss, it can take months to see your hair thinning* ***An example review:*** > *“It’s really easy use.. you won’t get the results as you do at the laser clinics. Been using it since sept I think the hair has thinned out anyway not shaving as much.”* [![2](https://i.ibb.co/YZ7fwZn/2.jpg)](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/MX7KP2) I found the best place to buy an Estelle Laser IPL Hair Removal Handset is on [Kogan](https://kogan.4p72pk.net/MX7KP2) ### [Braun Silk Expert Pro 3](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fsilk-expert-pro-3-ipl-long-term-hair-removal-device-010370.html) The Braun Silk Expert Pro 3 gets my vote for a mid-price IPL that’s great for both beginners and experienced users. I have personally used this one with good results and I love that it’s dermatologist-tested and FDA-approved. There are two modes (normal and gentle) and beginners can start with the lowest setting to see how it feels and works on their skin. I also like that it adapts to your skin tone, it’s super light, and it comes with a precision head to target pesky areas. One downside for me is it’s a corded model so you always need to have it plugged in while shaving. ***Google reviews at time of listing:** 4.5/5* ***What I like most about this product:** FDA and dermatologist approved, good price* ***What is not so great:** Not suitable for very sensitive or irritated skin, can take 3 months to see results* ***An example review:*** > *“Not for any kind of pigmented skin tones at all! LOL. This is really a LEG hair removal!* > > *This works wonders everywhere on your body, I think this is the PERFECT device to remove hair on your LEGS. In just three weeks I have seen a tremendous difference in the growth rate. I only have hair on the knee below but it works so well I think I will only need about 4-5 more weeks before I am free of leg hair forever.”* [![https://www.shavershop.com.au/dw/image/v2/ABCZ_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-shavershop-master-catalog/default/dwf4071a6f/hires/women/010370.jpg?sw=930&sh=1139&sm=fit](https://www.shavershop.com.au/dw/image/v2/ABCZ_PRD/on/demandware.static/-/Sites-shavershop-master-catalog/default/dwf4071a6f/hires/women/010370.jpg?sw=930&sh=1139&sm=fit)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fsilk-expert-pro-3-ipl-long-term-hair-removal-device-010370.html) I found the best place to buy a Braun Silk Expert Pro 3 is on [Shaver Shop](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/21392?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.shavershop.com.au%2fbraun%2fsilk-expert-pro-3-ipl-long-term-hair-removal-device-010370.html) ### [Lux Skin IPL Hair Removal](https://au.luxskin.co/collections/hair-removal-devices/products/ipl) Hooray for affordable at-home IPL devices that work! My second favourite IPL on this list price-wise is the Lux Skin IPL ($79). Their website says it is the “worlds best selling IPL Laser Hair Removal Handset” and definitely worth a try because of the price and the reviews. I like that it’s easy to use and handle, whether you’re using it on the legs or the underarms. Most people say it works, but you do need to be very consistent to see the results you want. It can take months for some, but you can see thinner growth and sparser hair if you use it once or twice a week. ***Google reviews at time of listing:** 4.5/5* ***What I like most about this product:** Great affordable price, good results with consistent and long-term use* ***What is not so great:** Takes a long time to work, not compatible with all skin tones* ***An example review:*** > *“Amazing* > > *I bought this whilst it was on offer about a month ago was going to get an expensive one but thought I’d try this first. It is amazing!! Usually do arms/underarms, legs and upper lip in one go and then bikini/underneath etc. at a different time. I used to get bad razor burn and ingrown hairs downstairs and underarms would grow back straight away but since I started using this machine I have had little to none of the above! Grows back alot slower and I’ve started to notice that ther are large patches where the hair hasn’t grown back at all. This is only after a months use cant wait to see more results! 10/10 this product is working great for me :)”* [![3](https://i.ibb.co/ypJfLKj/3.jpg)](https://au.luxskin.co/collections/hair-removal-devices/products/ipl) I found the best place to a buy Lux Skin IPL Hair Removal is on [Lux Skin](https://au.luxskin.co/collections/hair-removal-devices/products/ipl) ### [Tavice AU IPL Laser Hair Removal Handset](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fTavice-AU-IPL-Laser-Hair-Removal-Handset-Salon-Grade-Pink%2fs%2ffa2evYkUxUWR3c1nkkmwyg%3fssf%3dfalse) And my last pick for your at-home laser hair removal session: The Tavice AU IPL. At $80, it’s slightly more expensive than the Lux IPL but still worth considering. The handset is lightweight and super easy to use even on tricky areas like knees and face hair. The flash life/lamp tube life is also pretty decent at 500,000. And you get five intensity levels to play with. I always recommend to start at the lowest level if you’re completely new to IPL, and this machine is no different. It’s great for smaller areas like the lips, forehead, underarms, and arms. And for larger areas like the legs if you’re patient! ***Google reviews at time of listing:** 3.5/5 W* ***What I like most about this product:** Affordable price, great for smaller areas* ***What is not so great:** Results can be hit or miss, takes a long time to work* ***Example review:*** > *“Over 1 year of use and very satisfied* > > *Using the laser hair remover has been ABSOLUTE BLISS. I am VERY satisfied with the product. Just be prepared to put in the time. Whack a movie on or an audiobook and you’ll be good to go.”* [![1](https://i.ibb.co/n8Gzdcn/1.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fTavice-AU-IPL-Laser-Hair-Removal-Handset-Salon-Grade-Pink%2fs%2ffa2evYkUxUWR3c1nkkmwyg%3fssf%3dfalse) I found the best place to buy a Tavice AU IPL Hair Removal Handset is on [Oz Sale](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/78069?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.ozsale.com.au%2fproduct%2fTavice-AU-IPL-Laser-Hair-Removal-Handset-Salon-Grade-Pink%2fs%2ffa2evYkUxUWR3c1nkkmwyg%3fssf%3dfalse) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/laser-hair-removal-machine/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/laser-hair-removal-machine/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health, Shopping **Tags:** IPL, hair removal, laser, shave --- ### [7 Brilliant personal finance books to save you money 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/personal-finance-books-to-save-money/) **Published:** March 24, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** When it comes to money, as a single mum it can be overwhelming. Maybe you don’t have enough, and what you do have, well .. how the hell do you manage it? Never fear, as we are going to introduce you to some of the best resources available that will help you manage your money right now and way into the future … personal finance books. Books? We hear you say. Not Google? Yes, books indeed. Good old Google may be the first stop for all our modern day problems, from homework to household hacks. We all know if we look long enough we’ll find the opinion or answer that we ‘want’ but not what is necessary ‘right’. And this is fine for menial matters. Yet, when it comes to your money, there is no room for error. So rather than rely on non-expert advice you find on a website that knows more about ranking highly in the search engines than how you should handle your hard-earned cash, grab a book where the author has put their money where their mouth is .. quite literally. Here are our top picks when it comes personal finance books for single mums who want to understand their finances, save money, [make more money](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/mums-extra-money-from-home/) and relax in the smug glow of knowing their finances are under control. ## THE PERSONAL FINANCE BOOKS ON THE MARKET NOW ### [The Barefoot Investor](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0730324214/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0730324214&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=91463782041a591e1ad678d457e63d6c) ### by Scott Pape This is one of the all-time, best-selling financial books in Australia. And with good reason. Scott reassures us that whatever our age and or the state of our finances, we all have the power to take control of our cash. It is the simple down-to-earth relatability of this book that makes it so damn popular. Especially with his ‘date night’ conclusions at the end of each chapter, encouraging us to get out and enjoy life (and champagne or a decent steak WITH dessert) as your financial issues start to fall into place. The Barefoot Investor claims to be the ‘the only money guide you’ll ever need’ and that could be right. The best bit is, there are no confusing calculations, head-spinning spreadsheets or ball-breaking budgets. Just step-by-step formulas and real-life examples that make you feel like Scott himself is by your side as you follow them. This is No.1 for our personal finance book recommendation. [![The Barefoot Investor | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51gksI6yl0L._SX378_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0730324214/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0730324214&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=91463782041a591e1ad678d457e63d6c) ***Recommended for:** People who need simple, understandable advice in all financials areas from daily money management, teaching our kids, learning to save and making the right investments for the future. Particularly good for those with a short attention span, who want to enjoy the read while they learn.* ### [The Financial Diet: A Total Beginner’s Guide to Getting Good with Money](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1250176166/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1250176166&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=2851301a2d51ffa64ebf550e866ce0e3) ### by Chelsea Fagan So, this book is brilliant. It’s basically a ‘personal finance book for people who don’t care about personal finance’. A contradiction in terms, but one that works. In fact, more than works, it gets incredible results. This is a particularly girlie read that focuses on the real problems faced by real women, such as how to spend money (or not) on clothes through to making the perfect (budget friendly) cocktail recipe to celebrate your wins. The pages will take you on a wildly fun year of organising your finances once and for all, with emphasis on creating a budget-friendly kitchen, how to overcome awkward money talk with your mates, and understanding what ‘investment’ means and how to get out there and do it! [![The Financial Diet | Personal finance book | Beanstalk Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41K9AC0g6QL._SX360_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/1250176166/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=1250176166&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=2851301a2d51ffa64ebf550e866ce0e3) ***Recommended for:** Young mums, single mums, younger ladies who need relatable advice which works in their world. Perfect for those who find the more complex personal finance books a bore, and like a knowing giggle as they read.* ### [The Total Money Makeover](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B00DNBE8P6/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B00DNBE8P6&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=7f02aff0d16fc94e94d8f9b26b01ad84) ### by Dave Ramsey Unless you’ve been living your single mum life under a rock for the last few years, you will have heard of Dave Ramsey. Basically, when this guy speaks, people listen. And why wouldn’t you? His simple 7-step plan has helped millions of families with organisation, getting out of debt and, well, basically giving them a total money makeover. Dave works his magic to turn fat, flabby expenses to toned budgets, and skinny bank accounts into bulk cash machines. Plus, there is a great section about the ten most dangerous money myths. It could be the mix of 20-years of financial teaching and counselling or his simplistic manner which makes sense to even the most exhausted mumma, but somehow, he makes everything easy. [![The Total Money Makeover | Money books | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-fe.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51AyzNQ41%2BL.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/B00DNBE8P6/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=B00DNBE8P6&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=7f02aff0d16fc94e94d8f9b26b01ad84) ***Recommended for:** People who have families and possible debt would really benefit from this read, but it has been written for everyone whatever age or income. If you are looking for a full life/money makeover which is straight-forward and easy-to-follow, this is your book.* ### [Get Rich Lucky Bitch](https://booktopia.sjv.io/DZr05) ### by Denise Duffield Thomas We love this book as it focuses mostly on ‘money mindset’. And if your mindset is right, everything else falls into place. The beautiful Denise will have you busting through your money blocks to start raking-in the money you truly deserve. Her advice is real, loving and it truly works. From manifestation and inspiration, right through to practical advice we can all follow, Denise is open about her past financial mistakes, which have given her the wisdom to help so many. Most women settle for pennies not realising they are capable of so much more! This book will open your eyes and your mind to become aware of those blocks that hinder you, and have you charging confidently towards your financial sanctuary. [![Get Rich, Lucky Bitch! | Personal finance books | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/P/B078HW6H7K.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/DZr05) ***Recommended for:** Women who feel negative about their money situation and overwhelmed at the thought of turning it around. Especially good for those who succeed with empowerment and revelations from the modern-divas we sooooo respect.* ### [Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook](https://booktopia.sjv.io/Jvar2) ### by Tony Robbins We couldn’t compile a list of the best personal finance books without an appearance from ‘the man’.. Tony Robbins. Look, the guy is the No.1 life and business strategist and has coached more than 50 million worldwide. Need we say more? Well, yes actually, as what makes this book exceptional is that Robbins has teamed up with Peter Mallouk, who has been ranked the No. 1 financial Advisor in the U.S. for three-years straight. The end result is a blockbuster of a book that includes inspirational stories, action plans and strategies from the world’s top investors on how to increase super and the mindset of true wealth. As a real bonus it reveals the four principles of the world’s greatest financial minds. With this book in your life you have the best tips from the money masters at your fingertips. [![Unshakeable : Your Guide to Financial Freedom | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41WYfvm1jUL.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/Jvar2) ***Recommended for:** People who are at any stage of their financial management plan. Those who love the inspirational-American style of teaching and want to learn from people who have truly ‘made it’ and are happy to share their secrets.* ## OUR FINAL PERSONAL FINANCE BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS ### [I Will Teach You To Be Rich](https://booktopia.sjv.io/ogWeo) ### by Ramit Sethi This is a book worth picking up for the title alone! A bit presumptuous perhaps, but from page one you will see that Ramit means business. His 6-week (yes, only 6 week!) personal finance program is based around 4 pillars of finance: Banking, saving, budgeting and investing. The idea is that if you get these areas right, everything else will fall into place. And it’s not just what we ‘should’ be doing, but what NOT to do too. The now dubbed ‘Rising Star of Finance’ will have you not wasting a cent and will scare you into chucking your credit cards into the nearest bin. He reckons he can teach you how to get your finances in action for under $20 and, best of all, will teach you to negotiate like an Indian! The book is integrated with his website, but can be used on a standalone basis too. [![I Will Teach You to Be Rich | Money reads | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51v9NVwWHHL._SX330_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://booktopia.sjv.io/ogWeo) ***Recommended for:** 25-35 year-olds who love an energetic, enthusiastic approach to sorting out money issues with a slightly more aggressive edge and the support from a community of like-minded people.* ### [The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical and Spiritual Steps So You Can Stop Worrying](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0517707918/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0517707918&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=6e1b29b8f99d3f1a8b6a4d9a86983979) ### by Suze Orman If you choose to live your life within the realms of spirituality, then here is a great read to discover your personal path to financial freedom. Suze Orman has touched the hearts and the pockets of peeps across the United States, and her lessons now reach far and wide across the globe. She teaches with a unique and revolutionary approach will allows you to confidently confront your money situation and move forward to [deal with debt](http://www.debtangelsolutions.com/?AngelCode=Beanstalk), retirement, trusts and general money management. There is really interesting take in the book which explores our earliest attitudes towards money. By observing and becoming enlightened to this, you will have a greater understanding of why we behave as we do with money in the modern day, and will have conviction around the changes that you make. [![The 9 steps to financial freedom](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/517NE0jfPyL._SX323_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com.au/gp/product/0517707918/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=247&creative=1211&creativeASIN=0517707918&linkCode=as2&tag=beanstalk0f-22&linkId=6e1b29b8f99d3f1a8b6a4d9a86983979) ***Recommended for:** People looking for a deeper answer to their financial situation and/or those who make changes based on behavioural and educational understanding. Especially helpful for those who are planning to zero out their debts before retiring and struggling in choosing the perfect retirement plan.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/personal-finance-books-to-save-money/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/money/personal-finance-books-to-save-money/?share=x) - **Categories:** Money, Shopping **Tags:** budgeting, Saving money, money mindset, investing, money guides, financial support, spending --- ### [7 Best kids educational apps in Australia 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/excellent-educational-apps/) **Published:** June 13, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the rapidly evolving digital age, where technology permeates every aspect of our lives, educational apps have emerged as powerful tools to enhance children’s learning experiences. As parents, we are constantly looking for the best educational apps to boost our little ones intellectual growth and love of learning. Because all kids love a screen, these interactive and engaging learning apps have revolutionised how children absorb knowledge and develop vital skills. What makes education apps so successful is that they seamlessly [teach and entertain](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/fun-activities-teach-entertain-children-3-5/) at the same time, providing a dynamic learning environment that sparks curiosity and encourages independent exploration. We’ve been writing about educational apps for years now, and if there is one thing we have learned, it is that not all apps are equal. This article focuses on our seven favourite apps by considering their ease of use, popularity, results, and significance to the Australian education system. Here is our pick of the best kids educational apps in Australia 2023. ## [ABC Reading Eggs](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o) This app uses songs, games, and golden eggs (as rewards) to teach kids from 2 to 13 to read at home or at school. It is one of the best kids educational apps by a long shot! Finding books that match our kids’ reading level can be hard to do on our own, so we appreciate its massive online library of 3000+ levelled readers, searchable either by level or topic. Each fiction and non-fiction book ends with a short and optional comprehension quiz to get kids used to asking questions about what they read. One of the best features is that mums can change the accent and regional settings to American English, British English, and of course, Australian English. Its Mathseeds program is designed for learners from 3 to 9 and combines structured one-on-one lessons and highly motivational elements. [![ABC Reading Eggs best kids educational apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Screenshot_2023-06-08_at_12.17.42_pm-1200x209.png "abc-reading-eggs - Beanstalk Mums")](https://readingeggsau.pxf.io/oqqK7o)## [Homer](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr) We’re Sesame Street kids, so we love the combination of nostalgia and learning with this app. If you’re looking for an app that teaches everything so you don’t have to subscribe to different apps, definitely check out Homer. Homer teaches reading, maths, social and emotional learning, thinking skills, and creativity with lessons and activities that are personalised to your child’s age, interests, and skill level. It caters to children from 2 to 8 to kick-start their interest in studying. Homer is ad-free and safe, so mums can be at ease leaving their kids to use the app on their own. [![Homer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/homer-1200x564.png "homer - Beanstalk Mums")](https://homer.i8epma.net/3eeKGr)## [Mathletics](https://www.mathletics.com/au/) Mathletics is designed to help kids and teens with their maths journey across the K to 12 curricula. The app uses a gamified approach to motivate children from preschool to the end of secondary, with lessons and visuals that mature as your kid or teen ages. Another feature is that parents and teachers get automated reports on the progress of individual learners, giving valuable insights on which topics your kid or teen excels at or needs more help with. If you’re into competition, they can also join the live maths challenge to test their skills and speed against other kids and teens around the world. [![Mathletics best kids educational apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/mathletics-1200x564.png "mathletics - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.mathletics.com/au/)## [Tynker](https://www.tynker.com/) We believe that coding is an awesome skill to develop in kids and teens, more for the problem-solving, logic, critical-thinking, and analytical abilities that are useful even outside the high-tech realm. This app uses lessons, tutorials, hands-on projects, and interactive assessments. But what we love the most is how kids and teens start their coding journey with easy block-based challenges then seamlessly upgrades to text-based languages, effectively guiding children to coding certifications. The lessons are self-paced and game-based, which kids and teens enjoy. [![Tynker](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/tynker-1200x564.png "tynker - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.tynker.com/)## Best kids educational apps (cont.) ## [Doodle Learning](https://doodlelearning.com/for-parents) DoodleLearning is a suite of programs that support teaching maths and English. Its four apps are filled with teacher-designed interactive exercises, games, and rewards that are personalised to individual kids’ strengths and weaknesses. As parents, we definitely don’t want our kids glued to their gadgets all the time, so we at Beanstalk Mums appreciate that the apps can be used for as short as 10 minutes a day, giving our kids adequate time to do other things. The programs are designed for children from 4 to 14 and are meant to support, as opposed to replace, the curriculum. By the way, DoodleLearning was acquired by Discovery Education in 2022, upping the app’s trustworthiness (at least in our team’s eyes). [![Doodle Learning best kids educational apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/doodle-1200x564.png "doodle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://doodlelearning.com/for-parents)## [DuoLingo](https://www.duolingo.com/) Knowing a second or third language is a must nowadays, and Duolingo is a free app for learning foreign languages, from Spanish to Japanese to Swahili to Navajo. Although not specifically created for children unlike other apps in the list, it is designed to get learners to level B2 in over 100 languages. (This level gets you a job in the language you’re learning.) Duolingo uses a bite-sized approach to teach foreign languages, English and even maths. Another awesome feature you can have your English certification, which you can use at school or at work. You have the option to upgrade to Super or Super Family for unlimited lessons and personalised practice. [![Duolingo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/duolingo-1200x564.png "duolingo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.duolingo.com/)## [National Geographic Kids](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/) Last but not the least on our list of best kids educational apps, National Geographic Kids is an all-around great website to learn about animals, history, history, geography, and more. NatGeo kick-started our interest in science growing up, so it’s nice that it’s still around to support our kids’ education today in the same fun and pocket-sized way we’re familiar with. It has competitions and fun games, and also gives your kids access to primary sources for science, animals, geography, English, arts, maths, and PSHE. NatGeo Kids is web-based and has no app as of yet, but it’s still a valuable addition to your collection of great educational resources. [![National Geographic Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/natgeo-1200x167.png "natgeo - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.natgeokids.com/au/)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/excellent-educational-apps/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/education/excellent-educational-apps/?share=x) - **Categories:** Education **Tags:** education, school curriculums, school, learning, learn, teach --- ### [Everyplate review 2024 with latest specials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/everyplate-review/) **Published:** June 30, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Welcome to my Everyplate review! Since[ EveryPlate](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) is Australia’s cheapest meal kit subscription service I decided to see if it is as budget-friendly as it claims and, more importantly, whether the meals taste as good as they look in the pictures. This popular meal kit delivery service aims to provide affordable and easy-to-prepare meals for people who want to eat well without breaking the bank. In this review, I will be providing an in-depth look at Everyplate’s meal kit delivery service, including its ordering process, the quality of its ingredients, the variety of its recipes, and the overall experience of using the service. I hope this review will help you decide whether Everyplate is the right meal kit delivery service for you. Note: The review was done for three weeks for my non-conventional family of four – consisting of myself, my two teenage daughters, and my eldest daughter’s boyfriend. Below is my honest opinion of the Everyplate meal kit subscription service from order, to cooking, to eating. ***Further reading: [How to make meal kits work for your family.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-kits-work-for-your-family/)*** ## The ordering process Placing an order on the Everyplate website is super-duper easy. Here are the steps I took: ### Go to the EveryPlate website To start the process of placing an order with EveryPlate, you’ll need to visit their website at [www.everyplate.com](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0). I found the website clean and easy to use. For mobile users, download the [Everyplate app](https://imp.i339540.net/ZdP36q). There is a simple guide as to how the process works on the homepage. [![Everyplate how it works](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Everyplate-how-it-works.png "Everyplate how it works - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/ZdP36q)How Everyplate works ### Sign up for an account Once you’re on the EveryPlate website, click on the [Get Started](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) button to create an account. You’ll need to provide some basic information, such as your name, email address and shipping address. ### Choose your meal plan That is it for signing up! Next you get to the fun part which is choosing a meal plan that best fits your needs. ## Different Everyplate meal plans Selecting your plan with Everyplate is easy as pie. A plan consists of two parts. They are: ### Choose your preferences What I really like about the Everyplate preferences is that whatever you choose, you will have access to all the recipes every week. By choosing a preference simply means they will put meals in the perfect order for your viewing. And you don’t have to choose just one. You can choose as many as you like. The current choices are: - **Classic:** A selection of everyday favourites - **Family:** Family-friendly dishes with popular flavours and nothing too out-there - **Flexitarian:** A nice mix of meat and vegetarian dishes (our personal favourite) - **Vegetarian:** Meal free meals with vegetables and alternative proteins ### Select your box size Then of course, you must select how much food to order. This is done by: - **Number of people:** Choose between 2, 4 and 6 - **Recipes per week:** Choose between 3, 4, 5 and 6 Here is what we chose for our household: [![Choosing your Everyplate plan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Choosing-your-Everyplate-plan.png "Choosing your Everyplate plan - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Our Everyplate plan ## Pricing with the latest special With Everyplate, depending on your plan, you can buy a meal from $4.44 for a single serving. That’s just as good, if not better, than creating my own dish from supermarket ingredients. You get the best value the more you order. So, ordering six recipes for six people gets the cheapest individual meal. You’ll see in the Everyplate plan image above that you can view a clear indication of what everything cost and how much you are saving. This is a great little tool. As you browse your recipes, you will see options for recipes that have an extra charge of around from 99c to $5.00 per serve. These include: - Premium dishes that feature more expensive ingredients such as prawns or steak - Custom recipes where you can swap out an ingredient for something more expensive - Recipes with which you can order extra protein ## Lastest Everyplate special Everyplate seems to always have a special on, but they can vary. **The current special is: [Get $128 off throughout your first three boxes.](https://imp.i339540.net/za6b0W)** Note: If you are a Qantas points collector, you’ll be pleased to know you can earn a whopping seven points per $1 spend. ## What I ordered I ordered four meals for four people with the Flexitarian preference, over a period of three weeks. ## Delivery Your delivery day will depend on where you are located. It is worth noting that Everyplate does not deliver everywhere in Australia. You don’t have to go through the rigmarole of signing up, only to discover you are outside the delivery area. Instead, get a full list of [delivery areas here](https://imp.i339540.net/mgDEaa). For us, delivery was on a Tuesday. I would have preferred a Monday but this was fine. I received a text reminder the day prior to delivery, and another when delivery had been made – which was good as the delivery driver didn’t ring the bell. Perhaps they are still no-contact delivery post covid? ## Packaging There is always much excitement in our house when a parcel arrives and Everyplate is no exception. It has been a while since I ordered a meal delivery service and my sigh of relief was audible when I saw how much less packaging is used nowadays. Everything is packaged loose in the box other than the cold items which are packed together in one insulated bag, and of course the sauces and spices. Not one item was so much as damaged or bruised in any of the three boxes we ordered. Our boxes had around three-to-four ice packs in each. According to Everyplate this would keep the food fresh for 48-hours. Living in sub-tropical Queensland, I wasn’t game to test their claim and my food was packed safely in the fridge as soon as possible. ## Preparation and cooking Now comes the fun part: cooking! ### How long does it take to make an Everyplate meal? Everyplate states that their meals take between 25 and 45 minutes to cook. From my experience, this is fairly accurate but it’s worth noting they are not super-fast meals to make. Leave yourself plenty of time. ### Are all the ingredients provided? EveryPlate aims to make meal preparation and cooking as convenient as possible, and their meal kits come with pre-portioned ingredients, including fresh produce, meats, and pantry staples like rice, pasta, and spices. However, there are some basic store cupboard ingredients that you may need to have on hand to complete certain recipes, such as: - Salt and pepper - Cooking oil and cooking spray - Butter - Vinegar - Sugar - Eggs - Milk I recommend checking the recipe cards for the meals you’ve selected before they arrive, so you can make sure you have any additional ingredients needed. If you find that you’re missing something, you can easily purchase it from your local grocery store. ### How easy are the Everyplate meals to make? The Everyplate recipes cards are easy enough for a novice cook and/or children aged 12 and up to follow successfully. As a mum of nearly 20 years, I can already cook but I enjoy trying new dishes, especially with the kind of foods that we wouldn’t usually cook at home. ### Other points about cooking with Everyplate - The recipes are fuss-free and easy. Don’t expect frills and fancy bits as there aren’t any! For busy mums such as myself who just want to get healthy, filling food into my family fast, this is great. - There is heaps of food. Without exception, every dish served more than four people and we had leftovers the following day. - Talking of leftovers, if you choose your meals carefully, you can use food for pack lunches or freeze for an easy meal another day. Also check out their specific Bulk Cooking Recipes which have just four steps and create multiple meals for the family, perfect for freezing. You will see these at the meal selection stage. - Loved some of the simple twists on cooking everyday foods. For example, cooking rice with butter and garlic for delicious garlic rice (great for a stir rice dish the following day if you have spare) – never will I cook plain rice again! - Expect lots of carbs in your meals, they are designed to fill tummies on a budget – think potatoes, rice, couscous etc. - There is lots of butter in the dishes! It may seem unnecessary but it does aid the taste. Often it is added with the garlic near the end of the cooking time. It seems odd but it does work. - Garlic, garlic, garlic – there is lots of it in nearly every dish. I think Everyplate must get a special deal on their garlic order as we always receive much more than we need. Not complaining. ## The recipe cards [![Everyplate menu cards](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/IMG_9339-scaled-e1677917735121.jpg "Everyplate menu cards - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Everyplate menu cards Each recipe card comes complete with: - Big image of the dish - Cooking time - Photos of included ingredients - Pantry items required - The main kitchen utensils you need, such as oven tray, baking paper, frying pans, saucepan etc - Nutritional information - Allergens - Step-by-step illustrated cooking instructions - Extra steps if you choose Custom Recipe ingredients **Quick tip:** If you like a recipe, hold onto the menu cards as the Everyplate meals are easy to recreate at home, you just have to guess the spice mixes sometimes! ## Everyplate review: Taste tests No Everyplate review would be complete without taste tests. I won’t bore you with details of all 16 meals I cooked but I have picked a few to share images and opinions from my family. ## Asian pork schnitzel and garlic rice with veggies and sweet chilli mayo My youngest daughter picked this dish. It was way more flavoursome than I thought it would be because the rice and vegetables are cooked in garlic. And there was so much food! Even after feeding four, there was enough for at least another three full meals. It could have done with more flavour at the bread-crumbing stage. Other than that, it was a hit with my teens. [![Pork schnitzel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Pork-1-scaled.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Asian pork schnitzel and garlic rice with veggies and sweet chilli mayo ## Cheesy veggie pasta bake with creamy sauce This was my pick as I like vegetarian dishes, plus I knew it would freeze well. The recipe was a really unusual to cook a veggie pasta dish. Some vegetables were roasted which was great as this adds lots of flavour, while the zucchini is grated and added to the sauce. Stick with it though as it does work. I omitted the garlic powder and instead added crushed fresh garlic while frying the zucchini. The sauce seemed runny at first but once baked it was a good consistency. A highly flavoursome vegetable bake with 4+ extra portions to eat the following day or freeze. [![Veggie pasta bake](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/IMG_9319-scaled.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Cheesy veggie pasta bake with creamy sauce ## Black bean chilli and garlic rice with sour cream Another dish picked by a wanna-be-vegetarian mum. Veggie chilli is a favourite in our house anyway but this one was highly regarded by all. It was the easiest dish to make. It felt wrong to add the vegetable stock powder at the end of the dish but I followed the instructions to a T and it definitely works. There is a custom recipe option for this dish to add minced beef and use only half the amount of black beans. Very fuss-free and simple. I will make this again for sure. [![Veggie chilli](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Chilli-scaled-e1678060473672.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Black bean chilli and garlic rice with sour cream ## Ginger pork noodle stir-fry with garlic veggies It was with trepidation that I cooked and tried this dish that my kids chose. Not one for pork, especially minced, I was wary. Gotta say though, it was good. Cooking with fairly straight-forward, especially with the pre-cooked udon noodles. Lots of yummy Asian greens and delicious flavours really made this dish pop. 40 grams of butter added at the final stage didn’t feel right but somehow brought the dish together. Again, lots left over which I portioned up for lunches the following day. [![Ginger pork noodles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Noodles-scaled-e1677981530588.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Ginger pork noodle stir-fry with garlic veggies [![Ginger pork noodles for lunch](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Noodles-for-lunch-scaled-e1677981745492.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Noodles for lunch the following day ## Haloumi dukkah couscous bowl with lime yoghurt One my picks, this is definitely a dish I would make again. It’s a dinner essential in our home now because we all loved it. By cooking the couscous with fresh crushed garlic and butter it is far from plain, as couscous sometimes can be. Alongside the roasted veg which give a sweet tang, it’s super moreish. It was a bit on the dry side so I would make more of the lime yoghurt dressing next time. This particular dish is great for packed lunches the next day. [![Haloumi dukka couscous bowl](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Haloumi-dukka-couscous-bowl-scaled.jpeg "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0)Haloumi dukkah couscous bowl with lime yoghurt [![Haloumi dukka leftovers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Haloumi-dukka-leftovers-scaled.jpeg "Haloumi dukka couscous for lunch the next day - Beanstalk Mums")](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) ## Customer service Everyplate has a [customer service team](https://imp.i339540.net/Keo30n) that is available to assist customers with any questions or concerns they may have. Based on customer reviews and feedback, EveryPlate’s customer service is generally considered to be satisfactory. Customers can reach out to the company’s customer service team via email, phone, or live chat. Many customers have reported that they were able to get quick and helpful responses from the EveryPlate customer service team. Additionally, EveryPlate has a comprehensive [FAQ section](https://imp.i339540.net/mgDVOe) on its website that provides answers to many common questions about the service. The company also offers a money-back guarantee to customers who are not satisfied with their orders. Overall, while there may be occasional issues with EveryPlate’s customer service, the majority of customers seem to be satisfied with the level of support they receive from the company. ## What I like and don’t like about Everyplate ## Pros - This is simple, no frills food which makes it easy-to-cook and easy to get everyone in the family to eat, even the fussy eaters - The serving sizes are huge, often providing double what we needed so we could stretch one meal to two - The dishes are damn tasty, with even the blandest ingredients with clever tricks to get flavour into rice, couscous etc - It’s cheap – I genuinely believe ordering Everyplate is cheaper than buying the individual ingredients from a grocery store - The recipes are super simple with foolproof menu cards to guide you every step of the way ## Cons - I’d like to see more choice on the weekly meal options, if ordering weekly, the dishes are a bit same-same - More vegetarian choices would be a bonus for me, and I am sure for many others - There is limited availability for special diets, although some options are labeled “low-carb” or “low-calorie,” these may not meet the specific needs of some customers - Like other meal kit delivery services, EveryPlate uses a significant amount of packaging which won’t sit comfortably with the environmental conscience. Having said this, packaging has been improved and there is far less than previously used. ## Is Everyplate worth the money? In my opinion, Everyplate is 100% worth the money. With the cheapest meal options coming in at $3.98 this is very competitive to a meal in which all the ingredients are shop-purchased. Not only that, the meals stretch much further, in some cases to at least another three additional full-sized servings. By picking meals carefully, one meal will be enough for dinners, lunches the following day, and freezer meals. ## My Everyplate review conclusion In conclusion to my Everyplate review, there is no doubt that Everyplate lives up to its promise of being a budget-friendly, easy meal delivery service that saves you time and money in the kitchen. My experience with it was a very good one. Having said that, after three weeks of Everyplate meals, we were ready to go back to our everyday home cooking. With the option to pause orders for a week at a time, I will continue to use Everyplate once every four weeks to give myself a break from the supermarket and from thinking about meal planning. For others, using Everyplate each week is doubtless a great solution that is economic in both time and money. Ultimately, whether or not EveryPlate is worth the money depends on your personal preferences and circumstances, so it’s worth considering all factors alongside [other meal delivery services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meal-delivery-services-in-australia-with-discounts/) before making a decision. Head to [Everyplate](https://imp.i339540.net/jv1D0) and see what you think. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/everyplate-review/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/food/everyplate-review/?share=x) - **Categories:** Food, Shopping **Tags:** meal delivery, meal services, budget food --- ### [Our Family Wizard: User review 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/our-family-wizard-review/) **Published:** July 2, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Co-parenting apps are the go-to tools for separated couples to effectively manage the care of their children. [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) is considered a leading co-parenting app and possibly the most well-known. The question “what is the best app for co-parenting” comes up in our [group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) a *lot* and Our Family Wizard often makes the conversation. For this reason, I have done a thorough review of the app. Enjoy! ## Our Family Wizard app overview [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) is an online platform for families to simplify co-parenting, document information, and improve communication and for family law and mental health practitioners to improve case management and help lower conflict. Based in Minneapolis, MN, over 1 million people use the website and the iOS/Android apps in America, Australia, the UK, Canada and New Zealand. These global platforms let parents share calendars, track spending, send payments, hold information, and non-verbally communicate. In my experience working within the single parent realm for ten years, it is the most recommended co-parenting app by professionals, such as family lawyers and mental health workers. I believe this is because they personally like the app but also because they can access it (more about this later). It is endorsed by family courts and in some cases, judges will order separated parents to use Our Family Wizard for two reasons: - If co-parents use the app there will be less conflict and they are less likely to return to court - The app records information that can help resolution in future family law cases ## How OFW started OFW was founded in 20o1 by a guy called Paul Volker who was living and breathing the challenges of co-parenting life. He co-parents his three children with his first wife and now lives with his second wife, Dara, who has one daughter. Both his and Dara’s ex-partner have also remarried. Confusing? You bet. Paul tried a few different apps to help them get a handle on co-parenting but none hit the mark, so he built one. I love it when services are created by people looking for solutions to the problems they are experiencing because the results are usually excellent. It turned out that Paul had lots of handy people in his extended family who were perfect to help him get his idea off the ground, starting with his cousin who has 25+ experience as a family lawyer and lots of tech-minded relations, many going through their own family separations. Everything fell into place and Our Family Wizard was born. Although the app is 20+ years old, it moves with the times. For example, in April 2021 it announced the release of a new mobile experience for building and tracking parenting time schedules with templates and colour-coding. ![Our Family Wizard app on my phone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-Icon-scaled.jpg "OFW Icon - Beanstalk Mums") *The Our Family Wizard app on my phone* ## The features and how they work ### Calendar and family schedule The OFW colour-coded, shared calendar allows both parents to see what is happening and when in relation to their children. I’ve used a couple of shared calendars and found this a little clunky to start but I persevered because of the OFW’s Trade/Swap™ tool which is one of my favourite features of the app. However, organised we are, time swaps are needed for unforeseen circumstances such as work commitments or medical issues. If you need to change a time, you make a request and all the communication linked to the request is recorded. If you reach an agreement and change the time, the calendar is automatically updated. The calendar also features Holiday Scheduling which allows you to record set holidays as per court orders or to change them up each year. You can add in personalised events such as birthdays and plan as far in advance as you need to, which I recommend you do. Planning early and recording on a shared calendar is highly conducive to reduced conflict. [![OFW calendar](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-calendar.png "OFW calendar - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### Message Board The message board is a level up over texting and email. If you send a message to your ex through OFW it will go through their own email server so it is as secure as it gets. Messages can never be edited, deleted or retracted and they get time-stamped when they are first viewed. You can use the *Moment*s and *Check In* tags to prove where you are and when and to add more context to the message history for your own security. I see lots of single mums asking how to [download text messages from their phones](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/download-text-messages/) to resolve conflict. Consequently, my favourite feature (alongside Trade/Swap™) on Our Family Wizard is the ability to easily and tidily download all message threads without drama. The message board has an optional feature called ToneMeter™ which is a bit like Grammarly but for your co-parenting communication. It detects the tone of your message and alerts you if your message sounds rude or is written in a manner that might antagonise or cause conflict. Oh, and it also checks your spelling! [![OFW message board](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-message-board.png "OFW message board - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### Journal The OFW could either be a happy place or a horrid place. The idea is for co-parents to share and record information on this diary-like interface. You can add to the diary one of two ways: - **Check ins:** Verify your location at any given time to prove you are where you should be - **Moments:** Record events and occurrences by tagging the location and adding photos Both the above can be shared with your ex or kept as a personal record for yourself. I am slightly wary of the journal because, although it can only deal with facts, it might cause conflict. Perhaps the other parent doesn’t want to know you’re on the other side of town with their kids. And sending a location snap to them when they are two minutes late to prove you are on time might cause conflict. On the flip side, if you have an amicable relationship with your co-parent, the Journal is a great space to keep each other up-to-date with the kid’s activities and share those special moments. After all, no one will appreciate the cuteness of little Johnny getting ice cream all over his face as much as his other parent. Sometimes they are the only people who get these special moments so being able to share them so easily through the app is a good thing. [![Our Family Wizard journal](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-Journal.png "OFW Journal - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### Expense Log The financial aspect of co-parenting for myself and my ex was the hardest part. The problem was not paying but who paid what, and when. We tried a shared bank account but ended up closing it as it was all too hard. Hence the expense log in Our Family Wizard is a life-saver if you are sharing co-parenting costs. It is a payment system in itself and alleviates the need for a shared bank account because if payment is requested, the party can make it through the app. Requests for payments must include a certain level of detail so none of these “oh yeah the school shoes were about $70”. If you want money from the other parent you must show exactly what you spent, on what, and when. The app then very cleverly takes the expense and works out what percentage each parent pays and who owes what. Payments are made through OFWpay™ and are 100% secure so you don’t need to share any financial information. This feature works brilliantly if your cost splitting is straightforward because for the app to work out how the expenses are split, you need to feed the information in first. However, if you don’t have a set procedure for each payment, the app can’t help to dictate the split but you can still use the secure platform to reimburse one another. [![Our Family Wizard expense log](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-Expense-log.png "OFW Expense log - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### Info Bank Yet another frequently asked question in our group is “[how can I get a copy of my child’s passport?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ex-wont-sign-passport-application-for-your-child/)“. Or “my ex wants a copy of our child’s passport, how do I do this”. I think of the OFW Info Bank as the filing cabinet we would have in our spare room if we still lived together. Keeping and sharing information this way is even better. You can use it for photocopies of passports, birth certificates, medical records, photos, and emergency contacts. I even know one couple who share recipes in their Info Bank so they both cook food their kids love … next level co-parenting. Everything you put on the Info Bank is protected by the OWF server which provides peace of mind that nothing will get lost, plus it saves time and possible conflict if asking one another for important documents. ## [![Our Family Wizard info bank](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-info-bank.png "OFW info bank - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=)How Our Family Wizard works for practitioners A point of difference for OFW compared to other co-parenting apps is that it allows access, not only to co-parents but also to other practitioners who assist in co-parenting situations. These include: - Family lawyers - Family mediators - Mental health professionals Professionals can rely on the OFW app to streamline record keeping, case management and report writing. At first, I didn’t like the idea of allowing others to use the app and have access to your information, it felt invasive. However, for couples struggling and in need of third-party support, I can see that it could be a godsend. How better to explain the nature of your co-parenting relationship than to let a professional view your communication? Even better, if toxic behaviour or coercive control is taking place, a professional can pick up on it and intervene much sooner than would otherwise happen. For me, if I knew someone was monitoring my behaviour and tone, I know I would behave better! ## Our Family Wizard cost There are two bundle packages. One for one-year and the other for two-years. You save if you book the two-year bundle. Here are the current details as of 2023. [![OFW Pricing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Screen-Shot-2022-10-14-at-8.25.08-am.png "OFW Pricing - Beanstalk Mums")](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) If neither of these options works for you, [OFW](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) offers the option to create your own plan. **Note:** Each parent needs their own account and must pay the membership fee. However, each parent can add as many third-party, child, and professional accounts as needed at no extra cost. Think friends and family members who help you care for your kids. ## Special offers ### The Financial Hardship Program The OFW fee waiver program is designed for those who don’t have the financial means to purchase an annual subscription. To qualify, in most cases, you need to be working with [legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/), receive certain forms of government assistance, or have an attorney doing pro bono work for you. ### Military Family Discount OFW recognises the strain that military employment has on families, whether they are separated or not. It, therefore, provides 50% off the cost of subscription (one subscription is free) to partnered parents and co-parents if one party is in the military. ## The free trial Yes, there is a free trial! But it is in the form of a [30-day money back guarantee ](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=)on the Essentials and Premium subscription plans. You still need to sign-up and provide payment details but you can get a full refund if the app is not for you. I like this option because 30-days is enough time to see if the app is going to work for you and your ex as a co-parenting couple. Unless both parties take the time to learn and use the app, it is useless. The success of all co-parenting apps is down to the commitment of the users. If, after 30-days, the app is not working, even because of one parent, you can get your money back. ## Customer support You can contact [OFW customer support](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) via their website, email or phone. The phone line is in the US only which is a shame as I would love to be able to phone a help desk in Australia. The “contact” button is easy to find on the website and the OFW app which is always promising. The app looks like it has a Live Chat option but sadly it doesn’t and you are taken to the contact form. I completed a “Contact Us” form and received a response within 2-hours which I was happy with. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-Support-scaled.jpg "OFW Support - Beanstalk Mums") *The OFW contact page on my phone* ## The good and not so good ### What I like about Our Family Wizard - Family courts recognise and even recommend it which gives a sense of safety should you end up in court one day (hopefully you don’t though) - There are some handy features that genuinely make my life easier such as Trade/Swap™ to simplify one-off changes to care arrangements - Everything in the app is recorded and can be downloaded with minimal fuss including open dates and all that important info - Family separation specialists work with you on the app for easier monitoring, faster intervention, and more accurate reporting - OFWpay™ means easier cost splitting but, most importantly, no sharing bank details with my ex - Hardship specials make it accessible to low earners - There is a security to this app that makes me feel comfortable sharing information, especially in the Info Bank which has been invaluable - It definitely works to reduce conflict between co-parents which ultimately means happier kids … the No.1 priority for me ### What I don’t like about Our Family Wizard - Compared to other co-parenting apps on the market it can be pricey especially as both parents need to pay for a subscription but with co-parenting apps, it is a case of “you get what you pay for” - It would be good to see increased storage on the Essentials plan, which is a little miserly - There is no search function on the mobile app unless I have missed it - Please OFW give us a phone number with phone support in Australia and the other countries you serve outside the USA - I have experienced the odd glitch on the interface (app only) - ToneMeter™ has the potential to be brilliant but occasionally makes random suggestions that don’t make sense ![Setting everything up on OFW](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/OFW-Start-scaled.jpg "OFW Start - Beanstalk Mums") *Setting up OFW on my phone* ## Is Our Family Wizard worth the money? There is nothing more valuable than giving your children a happy, healthy upbringing. If Our Family Wizard helps to do that, and it does for many co-parenting couples, then it is worth every cent/penny. If the app helps to settle matters in the family court faster, this is also a huge money saver. Avoiding the family court or minimising time spent there will be worth the cost of the app several times over. However, if you and your ex-partner have an amicable relationship you might find a more basic, [free co-parenting app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-co-parenting-apps-for-separated-parents/) is enough for you and some ex-couples get by without using an app. ## My review conclusion The idea of a co-parenting app is to reduce conflict and make better co-parents because calm parents = happy kids. Our Family Wizard does this. For me, I needed a tool to simplify life, not complicate it, which is what I found happened with other less user-friendly apps. The last thing you want is to argue even more with your ex because the app doesn’t work. The words I would associate with [Our Family Wizard](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) are: Safe, secure, solid, reliable, forward-thinking, and stress reducing. My advice? Every co-parenting relationship is unique and what works for one is not necessarily right for another. [Try it](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=212922&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) and see what happens. After all, anything that will make life easier and our children happier has got to be a good thing. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/our-family-wizard-review/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/our-family-wizard-review/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting, Shopping **Tags:** co parenting, shared care, coparenting, coparenting app, co-parenting app --- ### [The 10 best free yoga classes we could find on YouTube 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/) **Published:** July 18, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** In the digital age, online platforms have revolutionised the way we access information, entertainment, and even fitness routines. As people seek convenient and accessible ways to incorporate wellness practices into their daily lives, YouTube has emerged as a popular hub for free yoga classes. Whether you are a seasoned yogi or someone just beginning their yoga journey, these classes offer a perfect opportunity to deepen your practice from the comfort of your own home. Each video provides clear instructions, modifications, and an immersive experience that will leave you feeling rejuvenated, balanced, and centred. So grab your mat, find a quiet space, and get ready to explore the top ten free yoga classes available on YouTube, guiding you towards a healthier, happier you. Sun salutations to you all! ***Further reading: [10 Online fitness programs you can do in your undies.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/)*** ## The 10 best free yoga classes we could find on YouTube ## 1. [Yoga with Adriene](https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene) Yoga with Adriene is the top YouTube channel for free yoga classes. Adriene Mishler launched her channel just a few years ago, but subscribers have already reached over 12 million, thanks to the accessibility of over 400 videos (great for both beginners and advanced yogis) and her laid-back personality. She’s incredibly approachable and gives stressed out viewers a dose of calm no matter what mood they’re in. It’s liking doing yoga with your best friend. [![Yoga with Adriene free yoga](https://yogawithadriene.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/yoga-with-adriene.png)](https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 12 million* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 20 to 60 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are a beginner or advanced yogi who wants a lighthearted, quirky approach to learning.* ## 2. [Bad Yogi](https://www.youtube.com/user/badyogitv) Bad Yogi’s YouTube channel is a must if you’re bored or turned off by the whole concept of yoga. Bad Yogi makes learning a fun and accessible experience and takes the focus off perfection in body and form. There’s plenty of content for everyone, including meditation tutorials, daily home yoga, and restorative yoga for when you’re feeling extra stressed. She also has lots of general fitness, nutrition, life tips, and yoga challenges for motivation. [![Bad Yogi](https://www.badyogi.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/erin_headshot1.jpeg)](https://www.youtube.com/user/badyogitv) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 94.6K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to intermediate **Average time of classes:** 1 to 30 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You want extra motivation to do yoga or stick to your daily routine.* ## 3. [Boho Beautiful](https://www.youtube.com/user/cexercize) Free yoga classes in paradise sound fantastic, and Boho Beautiful gives you that and more. If you are aesthetic-minded and looking for an escape whilst learning yoga or improving your skills, this is the channel for you. Travellers Juliana and Mark take you to beautiful exotic destinations and teach you yoga for body toning and rejuvenation. They also share vegan recipes, affirmations, and travel tips. Definitely appeals to the Instagram crowd, although everyone is welcome. [![Boho Beautiful free yoga ](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/f1/b0/20/f1b02099499d600978f6cf53c6f7bb17.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/user/cexercize) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 2.76 million* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 5 to 20+ minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You love to travel and want to do yoga in stunning tropical locations.*[![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/73758)](https://thinco.me/) ## 4. [Body Positive Yoga](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUpYEPZ4LZpnr77i7Ra968A) We’re loving all these free yoga classes focusing on body positivity. Our favourite channel is Body Positive Yoga, a low-pressure, judgment-free space for beginners and bigger bodies to learn and practice yoga. Founder Amber Karnes is your yogi who is all about big Asana and big heart. Her videos are packed with modifications for bodies of all sizes and great tips to nail down the more difficult poses. Amber is super open and relatable, and she always encourages people to have more self-compassion and confidence. [![Body Positive](https://bodypositiveyoga.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/amber-karnes-body-positive-yoga.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUpYEPZ4LZpnr77i7Ra968A) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 27K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to intermediate* ***Average time of classes:** 2 to 60 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You’re a bigger gal who wants practical and relatable yoga lessons.* ## 5. [Cat Meffan](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVrWHW_xYpDnr3p3OR4KYGw) Cat Meffan is a qualified yoga teacher/former gymnast who has conquered an eating disorder and mental health issues to become an inspiring fitness practitioner. She shares her knowledge of Vinyasa yoga on YouTube with people who are looking for an online soul sanctuary. She also has more restorative video tutorials, pose breakdowns for beginners, and advanced lessons for seasoned practitioners. Her YouTube channel is a great place to start if you’re completely new to yoga. For intermediate and advanced yogis, check out her yoga membership for a more immersive experience and supportive community. [![Cat Meffan free yoga](https://catmeffan.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/IMG_9869.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVrWHW_xYpDnr3p3OR4KYGw) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 281K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 15 to 45+ minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You want to learn how to have a healthier relationship with your mind and body through yoga.* ## 6. [We are Alo](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJEi1foUiGObzzQM3QA2H5A) Did you know that yoga gear shop Alo Yoga has a YouTube channel with free yoga classes? We Are Alo has lots of videos that teaches you basic and advanced yoga poses, as well as plenty of tips for practicing and improving mindfulness and the mind-body connection. Whether you want to de-stress or just tone your body, Alo Yoga has you covered. Beginners and seasoned yogis will appreciate the concept of taking mindfulness from the studio and applying it to your daily life. Parents will also love the kids yoga classes. [![Alo Yoga free yoga](https://thegrovela.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/900x600-Website-Grove-AloThrive.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJEi1foUiGObzzQM3QA2H5A) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 483K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 5 to 30 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are a fan of the mindful movement and want to extend the benefits to all aspects of your life.* ## FREE ONLINE YOGA (CONT.) ## 7. [Kino Yoga](https://www.youtube.com/user/KinoYoga) Kino MacGregor is a veteran yoga teacher with more than 20 years of practice. She also has 17 years of practice in Ashtanga yoga and one of the few people in the world certified to teach it. Kino has released six yoga DVDs and co-founded the yoga network Omstars, but she offers free tutorials on her YouTube for beginner-friendly practice as well as more advanced poses. It’s like having an encyclopedia of yoga poses at your fingertips. [![Kino Yoga](https://www.kinoyoga.com/wp-content/themes/kino2017/img/shop_liquido_brooklyn.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/user/KinoYoga) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 806K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 10 to 30 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are a beginner or you want to learn more about Ashtanga yoga.* ## 8. [Fightmaster Yoga](https://www.youtube.com/user/lesleyfightmaster) Yoga just got more intense. At Fightmaster Yoga, you get free yoga classes that focus on strengthening workouts for all skill levels, although the tutorials are focused on more advanced yogis. It’s like Crossfit or HIIT yoga. Her videos covers Hatha, Ashtanga. Vinyasa yoga and more. You definitely need a good grasp on foundations to make full use of the lessons. YogaWorks teacher Lesly Fightmaste runs the channel and releases a new video each week. These are packed with modifications, prop tips, and inspiration. [![Fightmaster Yoga free yoga ](https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5514f55be4b057e153ee54e3/1546335991078-EYFFPZRTHO9BAJDEGJEZ/ke17ZwdGBToddI8pDm48kNvT88LknE-K9M4pGNO0Iqd7gQa3H78H3Y0txjaiv_0fDoOvxcdMmMKkDsyUqMSsMWxHk725yiiHCCLfrh8O1z5QPOohDIaIeljMHgDF5CVlOqpeNLcJ80NK65_fV7S1USOFn4xF8vTWDNAUBm5ducQhX-V3oVjSmr829Rco4W2Uo49ZdOtO_QXox0_W7i2zEA/bantrys.jpg?format=2500w)](https://www.youtube.com/user/lesleyfightmaster) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 687K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes: 1**0 to 30 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are an intermediate or advanced practitioner who loves a good workout.* ## FREE YOGA WORKOUTS (CONT.) ## 9. [Tara Stiles](https://www.youtube.com/user/TaraStilesYoga) Tara Stiles’ YouTube channel teaches Strala yoga, a combination of yoga, tai chi, qigong, and traditional Chinese medicine to release stress, heal the body and improve resilience. Even if you’re just getting into yoga, there are lots of videos that covers everything from flexibility to restoration to pregnancy yoga. She’s a fun and supportive teacher who recognises the fact that not everyone is as skilled as she is. It’s all about finding a routine that works for you and following the “slow down, soften and breathe” mantra. [![Tara Stiles Yoga](https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/5e71d844af1a143846e7b7e5/1584793406523-2XWEY04V1DQY74BHJE8O/Group+4%402x.jpg?content-type=image%2Fjpeg)](https://www.youtube.com/user/TaraStilesYoga) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 324K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 1 to 20 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are a martial arts fan who loves yoga that focuses on strength and flexibility.* ## 10. [Jen Hilman](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo9L06Ipw6-Mmkhxr9ORpAQ) Jen Hilman is the yoga teacher for people who love gym but hate yoga. Her videos are practical and take out the spiritual aspects of the practice to appeal to regular folks. Her unconventional approach to teaching has drawn both criticism and praise (Deepak Chopra is one of her fans), as it emphasises the physical and health benefits of yoga, just like a standard fitness routine. Her YouTube channel is a must watch for anyone who wants accessible and practical tutorials, whatever the skill level. [![Jen Hilman Yoga free yoga](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/EgblhioFi68/maxresdefault.jpg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo9L06Ipw6-Mmkhxr9ORpAQ) ***Number of YouTube subscribers:** 39.7K* ***Level of yoga:** Beginner to advanced* ***Average time of classes:** 10 to 60 minutes* ***You will love this yoga class if:** You are a fitness nut who thinks yoga is too New Age.* ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/health/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/?share=x) - **Categories:** Health **Tags:** anxiety, stress, meditation, exercise, fitness --- ### [Light, compact travel strollers to buy in Australia (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/travel-strollers/) **Published:** July 27, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a seasoned travel mum with heaps of experience exploring the globe with my little ones, I know firsthand the importance of reliable and compact travel strollers. Whether you’re jetting off to distant lands or road-tripping locally, having a light and versatile travel stroller is an absolute must. For this reason, I’ve curated a selection of the finest travel strollers available in Australia. All my suggestions offer effortless manoeuvrability, space-saving foldability, and are designed to make international and airplane travel a breeze. ***Further reading: [How to keep young kids entertained on flights.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/kids-entertained-flights/)*** ## What to look for when buying a travel stroller ## Lightweight Wonder Woman, you’ve already got two or three hand carry bags, one (if that) large luggage, and a tot to tote. That’s more than enough lifting for you to regret the days you skipped weights at the gym. Having the lightest possible travel stroller will help you get through the airport and go up the stairs on your tours more bearable. ## Compact I know the feeling: The nerves over bringing a travel stroller that ‘might’ not be allowed to go on board, requiring you to carry or drag your screaming child through the airport. Or feeling worried when checking in a stroller that could take up more space than you want it to due to its dimensions. Good travel strollers need to be compact and take up as little space as possible when folded and used. IATA-compatible prams allow you to continue usage beyond check-in and pack it up for overhead cabin storage when you board the plane. ## Easy folder Have you ever needed to fold a stroller with one hand and all your useable body surface, *while* your toddler is struggling to streak free from your other hand’s grip? At a shop entrance or at the parking lot, no less. Well, you’ll find yourself in similar situations when your travelling as a mum. A travel stroller that folds smoothly in a few seconds with a few deft moves will be perfect for you and your child as you take in the sights! ## Durability Cobblestone streets in Italy, uneven roads in Bali, rocky hiking trails in England. You need a sturdy travel stroller that can weather all kinds of surface conditions with you as you see the world with your baby. Look for strong features such as good metal frame design, durable textile choice, and wheel shock absorbers when shopping for a travel stroller. ## Manoeuvrability It’s all in the wheels and framing. Test out potential choices for travel strollers by wheeling them around the store, and especially around sharp aisle turns. This will help you check the smoothness and turn response of the wheels. You don’t want to be kicking or nudging your travel stroller with your baby in it when the thing starts acting like a busted shopping cart. ## Safety features More than the compactness, weight, and durability, your travel stroller should provide safe rides for your child. Frame locks, wheel brakes, and security straps, and foot rests must be checked to see if the travel stroller has any parts that might pose injury risks to your child. ## **Comfort** Just because they’re smaller and less fluffy, does not mean travel strollers should feel skeletal. An ergonomic design that accommodates and supports comfortable sitting and sleeping postures of your bub is a must. The fabric and padding used in the seat and straps should also be considered. ## Price As with any important purchase, your budget must be considered. While a higher price point might allow you more luxurious materials and innovative features, you are in no shortage of great travel stroller options at an affordable price. Below, I will be sharing with you travel strollers I have found and wished I had bought for my kids. ## **Customer reviews** No matter how impressive the features of a travel stroller you’re looking at, it’s still important for you to hear what it does for those who have used them. Read customer feedback by real customers and product reviews by baby care industry experts to know how your travel stroller options roll in the real world. This will make choosing the right travel stroller easier for you. ## My pick of the best travel strollers in Australia 2023 ## [Safe-n-Sound Glide Lite Stroller](https://bigw.sjv.io/9gJNX4) This one, I think, is a fantastic heavy-duty travel stroller. With a huge sun shade to protect your child as they sleep under the summer sun, this lite pram is large enough to hold your baby from birth until they are strong enough to walk long distances on their own! Talk about enjoying years of getting your money’s worth. While it’s not small enough for plane cabin storage, it is compact and durable enough to be checked in along with your luggage, or stored in the car boot for your road trips. You will also love its braking system and hand tether strap for better safety in steep inclines and crowded places. Oh, have I mentioned it’s affordable too? ***Recommended for ages:*** Newborn to 4 years ***Stroller weight:*** 6.5 kg [![Safe-n-Sound Glide Lite travel strollers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-28-800x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/9gJNX4)Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/9gJNX4) ## [Bugaboo Butterfly](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.bugaboo.com%2fau-en%2fprams%2fbugaboo-butterfly%2f) This butterfly can fly with you and your little one in the sky! I wish I had this when I visited the US with my kid. The one-second fold feature and the IATA-compatible size allow this stroller to be folded and stowed in the plane cabin, under the dining table, or on the metro’s overhead racks in less than 5 seconds. How convenient! That ease is something you’ll appreciate even more when travelling unassisted in big cities and busy centres. While on the pricier end, this travel stroller can be considered a great investment and comes with an extended 4 year warranty, guaranteeing a long service that will see your child grow and explore the world, rain or shine. ***Recommended for ages:*** 6 months and older (up to 22 kg) ***Stroller weight:*** 7.3 kg [![Bugaboo Butterfly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-29-800x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.bugaboo.com%2fau-en%2fprams%2fbugaboo-butterfly%2f)Buy here: [Bugaboo](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/74394?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.bugaboo.com%2fau-en%2fprams%2fbugaboo-butterfly%2f) ## [Joie Nitro LX Stroller](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44049&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babybunting.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fjoie-nitro-lx-stroller-laurel-124711) Another affordable option and perfect for travel, this lite stroller comes with a foldable and removable sun canopy and closes like an umbrella, making it compact enough to endure the rumble and tumble in checked baggage cargo. It fully reclines to allow your kid to sleep comfortably, has a 5-point harness with shoulder that covers wheel suspension, and uses SoftTouch harnesses- all these come together to make the ride smooth and comfortable, even on uneven surfaces. ***Recommended for ages:*** Newborn and older (up to 22 kg) ***Stroller weight:*** 7.8 kg [![Joie Nitro LX Stroller travel strollers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-30-738x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44049&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babybunting.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fjoie-nitro-lx-stroller-laurel-124711)Buy here: [Baby Bunting](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=44049&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babybunting.com.au%2Fproduct%2Fjoie-nitro-lx-stroller-laurel-124711) ## [Ickle Bubba Discovery Stroller](https://bigw.sjv.io/3ed2nr) Tres chic! This one caught my eye because of its stylish design. Browsing through its features, it looks just as great as a travel stroller for adventurous mum and bubba. The leatherette handles and bars make cleaning easy with wipes, the hood viewing window will allow you to check bubba without having to pull the entire hood up, and the bumper bar opens like a gate for easy access when you have to feed and change your baby. This stroller comes with a rain cover that will allow you to frolic and watch nature together, even when it drizzles. It also has a footwarmer, calf support, ventilated roll up fabrics, and a cup holder to help keep your baby comfortable and hydrated, whatever the weather. For extra safety on bumpy terrain, this mid-priced stroller’s front swivel wheels are lockable. ***Recommended for ages:*** Newborn and older (up to 20 kg) ***Stroller weight:*** 7 kg [![Ickle Bubba Discovery Stroller](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-31-800x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://bigw.sjv.io/3ed2nr)Buy here: [Big W](https://bigw.sjv.io/3ed2nr) ## [Valco Baby Snap Ultra P Stroller](https://fave.co/43v3ApN) I would have loved this pram when I still had my car with the small boot. Loved by so many Aussie parents for being light and compact, this midnight black travel stroller has 3 recline positions. You can prop this one up forward-facing, rear-facing, or the seat completely removed and replaced with bub’s car seat! This lite pram can be folded completely without removing the seat it comes with. It has an adjustable footrest and a removable bumper for your growing child. This is a travel stroller for the long haul. ***Recommended for ages:*** Newborn and older (up to 22 kg) ***Stroller weight:*** 8.2 kg [![Valco Baby Snap Ultra P Stroller travel strollers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-32.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://fave.co/43v3ApN)Buy here: [Catch](https://fave.co/43v3ApN) ## [The Karion Travel Stroller](https://karionkids.com.au/products/karion1?_pos=1&_sid=b607a2654&_ss=r) Last but definitely not the least… An IATA-compatible *and* wearable 5.5 kg travel stroller. I know! Watching this travel stroller get folded and unfolded blew my mind and almost made me want to have another baby to put in it. Fantastic for domestic and international travel, this super lite pram is so compact and small that it can fit in most airline overhead bins. It comes with two carry bag options, which allow you to wear it either as a backpack or a shoulder bag as you go transit through airports and train terminals. While it might not be able to hold a lot of things in its basket (2 kg capacity), it has fantastic manoeuverability, has responsive brakes on both back wheels, and can be easily pushed with one hand. I just know this is a best friend to a lot of mums who are walking with their family for eternity, it seems, at the airport. ***Recommended for ages:*** 6 months and older (up to 18 kg) ***Stroller weight:*** 5.5 kg [![The Karion Travel Stroller](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/image-33-800x800.png "- Beanstalk Mums")](https://karionkids.com.au/products/karion1?_pos=1&_sid=b607a2654&_ss=r)Buy here: [Karion Kids](https://karionkids.com.au/products/karion1?_pos=1&_sid=b607a2654&_ss=r) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/travel-strollers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/travel-strollers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel, Shopping **Tags:** holiday, airport, aeroplane, pram, pushchair --- ### [Best photo books Australia: Our top picks of 2024](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/photo-book/) **Published:** July 31, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** There is no better way to record family memories and preserve precious moments than by creating photo books. We have a library of them in our house! I use them to mark each year and every holiday. Now my daughters are older, they are so grateful to have their memories recorded, as am I. In today’s fast-paced digital world, photo books have become a popular trend. With so many options available, choosing the best photo book software that suits your needs can be overwhelming. Plus, prices vary considerably. For this reason, I decided to compare various photo book services and explore their features, benefits, and drawbacks to help others choose the best option for them. In this article, I share my experiences and insights into different photo book software to help you create a beautiful and long-lasting record of your family’s special moments. ***Further reading: [What’s a memory jar and how can it work for my child?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/whats-memory-jar-can-help-child/)*** ## What to look for when choosing photo books in Australia ## Ease of use Have you ever started to make something online but abandoned the project out of frustration because of the website’s complexity? Me, too. It’s a huge turn-off when you log on to a website that promises lots of lovely things but makes the experience too complicated for its users. Requires me to log in (with a credit card!) just to try? Nah. Need to refresh all the time? Count me out. Oh, and I also dislike too many pop-ups. As a novice in graphic design, I love drag-and-drop builders, so this is the first thing I look for when choosing a photo book software online. Something with simple navigation that makes it easy to upload a bunch of photos and rearrange them across the pages. The great thing is that almost all the recently checked websites are easy to navigate and use. ## Prices and special offers for photo books You’ll be drawn to lower prices if you’re on a budget like me. But we must still ensure the quality of the photo book. Don’t get blinded by the price. There are providers that have low prices yet have high-quality products. Some stores price their products at a premium, but the quality is the same or less. It is also worth noting that display prices are for photo books with a certain number of pages. Extra pages cost more, adding considerably to your overall cost. Here’s a pro tip: Don’t get too excited when you see discounts. Check out previous prices on other blogs and maybe even the Wayback Machine when you see a promo. Some unscrupulous websites will pretend to offer discounts to get unsuspecting potential customers to buy their products. Check if there is a difference between the regular and sale prices. ## Choice of book sizes and different papers Another thing to check is how customisable your photo book will be. I love having the option to choose the size and type of paper I want. I prefer matte paper, so it looks and feels like a physical book, so I look for a provider with this option. You might like a specific binding or a padded cover, so you should look for sellers that can offer that. If you want your photo book printed using soy ink or recycled paper, I’m pretty sure there’s a seller out there that uses more sustainable materials. ## Delivery options for photo books Australia Another crucial consideration when choosing your photo book provider is the delivery options. Before you get hyped about a photo book provider, check the shipping policies. It’s frustrating when after spending a lot of time and effort creating your beautiful photo book, everything will go to waste because the seller doesn’t deliver to your area. So, before you start designing your photo book, take a peek at the shipping policy page or send a message to customer service. In addition, make sure to check the delivery fees. Does the provider offer a nationwide flat rate? Or is the shipping fee calculated based on the location? Of course, you don’t want the shipping fee to cost even more than the photo book or take a huge chunk off your budget. ## Customer support Customer service is the heart of every good business. Fortunately, customers are always willing to rave or rant about companies’ customer service. Check what users say about the customer service of the seller of your choice. You would want a photo book provider to respond to your queries and update you on your orders. How long does the company answer messages? Or do they answer messages at all? Is a human behind their customer service? Or are you just directed to a chatbot? You should check these factors to gauge a seller’s customer support. ## Customer reviews Last but not least, read customer reviews before investing your money and effort in a photo book software. It would help to find out what other paying customers say about the product and the company before availing. If you know someone who has used the software, quiz them for the lowdown! Of course, also try to find authentic reviews. We all know that not all reviews are genuine. Some are paid reviewers. Some are sponsored ads. Some reviews even come from the company itself. So, do your due diligence when looking at reviews. Check the most recent reviews from different review sites before clicking to buy. ## Our pick of the best photo books in Australia ## [Photo book Australia](https://www.linkbux.com/track?pid=LB00001769&mid=81672&url=https%3A%2F%2Fphotobookaustralia.com) Photobook Australia is my personal go-to for my printing needs, including photo books. I love the wide variety of templates that make my photo books look like they were made by a total professional. You can also choose the core thickness to add more weight to your memories. And now, they have a new feature called ColorUp, which lets you print seven colours in HD! I’m definitely trying out this one next time! [![Photobook Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/photobook.png "photobook - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.linkbux.com/track?pid=LB00001769&mid=81672&url=https%3A%2F%2Fphotobookaustralia.com) **What I like most about PHOTOBOOK AUSTRALIA:** Aside from photo books, you can make wall and home decor, stationery cards, calendars, prints, and other gifts for weddings, babies and kids, and corporate events. The website also allows you to shop by the type of cover or binding – super easy to navigate! ## [Shutterfly](https://go.skimresources.com?id=237602X1720595&xs=1&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.shutterfly.com%2F) Shutterfly is another incredible option for photo books and more. It has everything other providers offer to create fully customisable photo books. You can make your albums with metallic accents, rounded corners, and even gilded pages with silver and gold. But I’m most excited about the children’s board book! Little boys and girls will surely love receiving a storybook filled with their own photos. ![Shutterfly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Opera-Snapshot_2023-08-04_093725_www.shutterfly.com_-1200x572.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-08-04_093725_www.shutterfly.com - Beanstalk Mums")**What I like most about SHUTTERFLY:** I love the FREE photo book and album designer! If you want your photo book and album designed by an expert, you have 24 hours to avail of this service. Simply upload your photos, a Shutterfly will lay everything out for you, and you approve the final design. ## [Snapfish](https://www.snapfish.com.au/store/home) How can you go wrong with a provider trusted by 2 million Aussies? You get different options for size, cover (softbound, hardbound, linen laminate or leather laminate), and paper (glossy, premium glossy, satin, matte). There are also over 100 pre-made templates to choose from, so can quickly upload your photos and make your beautiful photo book. You can also create your photo book from scratch. Shipping depends on the number of items you’ve ordered. [![Snapfish](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/snapfish.png "snapfish - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.snapfish.com.au/store/home) **What I like most about SNAPFISH:** Aside from photo books, you can also make canvas, calendars, home decor, photo tiles, gifts, blankets, mugs, and cards. Plus, the first time you sign up, you get 50 10x15cm prints for free! ## [Canvaschamp](https://www.canvaschamp.com.au/personalised-photo-book) Unlike the first two sellers in this list, Canvas is the main product of CanvasChamp, as the name implies. But they also create personalised photo books, so they’re an excellent option for you, too. What I like about CanvasChamp is you can easily calculate how much you would most likely spend for your photo book right on the homepage. This way, you don’t need to scour through different pages to find the price of your order. For me, this feature alone makes CanvasChamp stand out. [![Canvaschamp photo book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/canvaschamp.png "canvaschamp - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.canvaschamp.com.au/personalised-photo-book) **What I like most about CANVASCHAMP:** CanvasChamp also has templates, but what I love the most is that these are already arranged according to the occasion. Also, it has fewer customisation options, making it a good choice if you’re short on time and must finish designing your photo book ASAP. ## [Officeworks](https://www.officeworksphotos.com.au/collections/photo-books) Officeworks doesn’t specialise on photo books, too, but it is also an excellent photo book maker that allows you to create personalised photo books in a snap. It doesn’t have as much customisation options compared to other photo book makers mentioned above, but you can create photo books up to 120 pages. The pages are printed on 150gsm laminated paper, so they’re surely sturdy and waterproof, making your photo book a great addition to your coffee table. [![Officeworks photo books Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Opera-Snapshot_2023-03-15_134929_www.officeworks.com_.au_.png "officeworks - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.officeworksphotos.com.au/collections/photo-books) **What we like most about OFFICEWORKS:** I love that you can shop for your photo book right on the homepage. You can simply click the template of your choice. And you can choose to have your photo book delivered in its own customised presentation box. ## [Journi](https://www.journiapp.com/photo-book?_gl=1%2A1ipqmbx%2A_up%2AMQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQiA6rCgBhDVARIsAK1kGPKlbKqdAw4woaD4Qd61-uvUIKkIFnRDBFFqGfftVmb2KJs-lfNsIZcaAssZEALw_wcB) Dispatch in two to four days? Check. Up to 300 pages? Check. Highly customisable? Check. Seriously, why did I only discover Journi now? I’m sure you’ll love that you can easily locate the photo book creator anywhere you scroll. And the photo book designer? Honestly, it’s the prettiest and neatest I’ve seen! If you want to change the design, you can do so with a click of a button. On a serious note, though, I love that Journi features short blog-type content that will walk you through the different options for your photo book. If you don’t know the difference between matte and glossy, for instance, just scroll down the homepage for information that will help you decide on the type of paper you want. [![Journi App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/journi.png "journi - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.journiapp.com/photo-book?_gl=1%2A1ipqmbx%2A_up%2AMQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQiA6rCgBhDVARIsAK1kGPKlbKqdAw4woaD4Qd61-uvUIKkIFnRDBFFqGfftVmb2KJs-lfNsIZcaAssZEALw_wcB) **What I like most about JOURNI:** The website? It’s simply so pretty! Compared to the other providers in this list, I love the minimalist design and the rounded edges on the photos and boxes! The design of the website itself tends to increase its trustworthiness, at least to my eyes. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/photo-book/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/photo-book/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel, Shopping **Tags:** Memories, holiday, photos --- ### [7 Best dating apps for the over 40s (2024)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-over-40/) **Published:** August 10, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Not all apps are for youngsters! And this is certainly the case with dating apps. In this article, I discuss dating apps for the over 40s. Dating in your 40s and very possibly with [kids in tow](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-with-kids/), can feel daunting. For this reason, finding the right space to meet that like-minded someone is really important. It will also make the whole experience more enjoyable. After all, dating is a journey … and it should be fun. So which apps are best suited to middle-aged women who are looking for love, companionship, or a cuddle between the sheets? I want you to choose the right app that will find you exactly the kind of partner you are looking for. Yet, for many of us over 40s, we can feel a little out of our depth. We have no (or very limited) experience with dating apps and they can feel foreign, bizarre, and even scary. The thought of literally ‘selling ourselves’ online is enough to make us cringe behind the couch and never come out again. This is certainly how I felt at the beginning of my own dating journey. The more time you spend researching apps the more informed decision you can make … and the sooner you’ll be heading off into the sunset with Mr Right. There can be a ton of questions when getting back into dating when it’s online because we might worry about the little things like [how to ask him if he likes me over text.](https://commitmentconnection.com/how-to-ask-a-guy-if-he-likes-you/) I’ve made some suggestions to help women in their 40s find the perfect dating app at the end of this article. They are all things I have learned from my experiences dating online and I would like to share them with you to help you avoid the mistakes I made. First, here’s my top pick of dating apps for the over 40s in 2023. ## 7 Best dating apps for the over 40s ## [1. EHARMONY](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) The inclusive [eharmony](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) dating app is definitely for the marriage-minded or those looking for long-term relationships, whether you are in your 20s or 40s. After filling out a detailed questionnaire (which took me about an hour!), their smart matching system finds potential dates for you based on your age, goals, interests, and profile. If like me, you love customising your profile to paint a clear picture of who you are and what kind of match you’re looking for, eharmony is the best dating app available. There is a free version that lets you view limited profile information, however you can’t see photos. Using the free version will give you a taster of how the app works before making the commitment to pay and getting stuck into your dating mission. To date, I have had more success with eharmony than any of the other apps, having made a couple of firm friends and even found a gardener in my journey to find love! For me, I feel amongst like-minded people on eharmony, but this won’t be the case for all women in their 40s. Check out our full, genuine [eharmony review](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/eharmony-review/). [![eHarmony | dating apps for the over 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Screen-Shot-2019-11-23-at-3.44.48-pm-1200x626.png)](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=18235&awinaffid=616603&ued=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eharmony.com.au%2F) ***Free version:** Yes, limited* ***Pros:** Great for marriage-minded singles in their 30s, 40s and beyond, most people here seem fairly grounded* ***Cons:** It takes a while to sign-up and complete your profile but we feel it’s worth it in the long run* ***What we love about eharmony:** Definitely seems a little more classy than, say Tinder, and feels like a safe space* ## [2. ADULT FRIENDFINDER](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) Over 40 and looking for some online or offline fun? This was me once (no judgement please) so don’t be shy and give it a go. This is the go-to app for people on the lookout for casual encounters. But it’s more than just a hookup app, it’s an entire social media phenomenon. Think of Facebook, but for sex. With over 25 million visitors each month and a feature-rich experience (from chatrooms to live cams to a sex academy), I didn’t get bored and yes I did have lots of fun. There’s just one downside; you need to pay for the premium version if you want unlimited messaging. Otherwise, you’ll need to work on your profile to get noticed. Oh and please ladies, be careful what you share and [stay safe online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/) … always. [![Adult Friend Finder](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/6d234c6d5dfcb87944c945604886d91e1c5aea57/0_0_1148_689/master/1148.jpg?width=620&quality=85&auto=format&fit=max&s=675d48e27f3dc642878071c3aeb75afa)](http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/p2076695.subPCT-AFF) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Huge membership base of over 40s looking for hookups and casual connections so I didn’t feel weird as everyone was doing it* ***Cons:** You need to pay to unlock most features* ***What we love about Adult Friend Finder:** Great hookup app for older women to get their sexy back and I loved the fact that I could do it all completely anonymously* ## [3. BUMBLE](https://bumble.com/) For the over 40s women who are confident and love making the first move like I do, [Bumble](https://bumble.com/) is pretty cool too. I’ve found it’s actually a great way to build confidence. This dating app empowers us ladies to make the first move and contact the guys who take our fancy, whether for a casual connection or something more serious. The matching system is similar to Tinder. You swipe right and if they like you back, you can send your first message. So, is it a good dating app for someone older? Definitely yes! While the median age of Bumble users is 26, it’s also popular with an older demographic. And they have over 100 million users, so chances are you’ll find a good match, or at least have some fun along the way. Bumble was a liberating experience, so I suggest you give it a try at least once. Then, if you are like me, you’ll head back to an app where men make the first move and do the chasing … call me old fashioned! [![Bumble | dating apps for the over 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.27.12-pm-1200x468.png)](https://bumble.com/) ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Us women get to start a conversation with their matches* ***Cons:** Profiles are less detailed than eharmony, slightly younger user base but then you might be looking for a younger love* ***What we love about Bumble:** Ladies get to make the first move, yay* ## [4. MATCH.COM](https://au.match.com/) Can you believe that [Match.com](https://au.match.com/) has been around for 20 years? And did you know that a majority of members (around 75%) are over 30? I tried Match once and found it to be a fairly good choice for older adults who are family-minded and looking for long-term relationships. In fact, the over-50 segment is the fastest-growing demographic. Like most dating apps, there are lots of cool features to play around with but I found MatchPhone and Video Date really handy, allowing you to keep contact within the app without handing out personal details too soon. Us over 40s are private like that! [![Match.com](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.30.50-pm-1200x652.png)](https://au.match.com/) ***Free version:** Yes, limited* ***Pros:** Most members are over 30, lots of potential matches for mature daters, detailed profiles* ***Cons:** It was a bit pricey if you want to access all features* ***What we love about Match.com:** It’s a veteran app with a good range of features to communicate within the app* ## Dating apps for middle aged (cont.) ## [5. RSVP](https://www.rsvp.com.au/) Are you single and looking for something serious? RSVP has 20 years of experience and has developed a “Market Engine” that’s more successful than standard match algorithms in other dating apps for the over 40s. Using historical match data, you get matched with like-minded Aussies. What’s more, it closely works with safety organisations like the police to ensure your safety. This is by far my favourite feature, since as someone over 40s, I’m protective about my privacy. Aside from finding local matches, you can filter your searches to single parents or seniors. Becoming one of its 30,000 monthly members is easy. You only need 15 minutes to complete a questionnaire on its user-friendly website. It then gives you a personality report that can guide you when checking your compatibility with another member. ![RSVP | dating apps for the over 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Opera-Snapshot_2023-08-09_184903_www.rsvp_.com_.au_-1200x572.png "Opera Snapshot_2023-08-09_184903_www.rsvp.com.au - Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** Free version plus premium boosting and privacy settings* ***Cons:** With thousands of choices, finding a match can be challenging; also, membership is expensive* ***What we love about OkCupid:** It’s an all-Australian dating app – even customer service is Syndey-based* ## [6. ELITE SINGLES](https://www.elitesingles.com.au/) [Elite Singles](https://www.elitesingles.com.au/) is the dating app for over 40s professionals getting back into the dating scene after a long break. Like eharmony, this app is designed for singles looking for long-term relationships and marriage. The point of difference with Elite is that users have an above-average education, so it’s perfect for career-minded women looking for love. This made me like and dislike the app. Some of the other users seemed a bit pompous but at the same time it felt good to be amongst like-minded individuals. I found lots of divorcees lurking in this space. Not complaining, as I am one of them. On the technical side, Elite Singles recently added a swipe-based matching system on top of their traditional system which is good as I previously found it a bit clunky to use. [![Elite Singles](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Screen-Shot-2019-07-14-at-8.23.46-pm-1200x409.png)](https://www.elitesingles.com.au/) ***Free version:** Yes, limited* ***Pros:** Specifically hunt down professional potential partners, in-person speed dating events (these are cool)* ***Cons:** Free version is limited, and the paid version is very expensive* ***What we love about Elite Singles:** Designed for singles over 30s looking for serious relationships* ## [7. TENDERMEETS](https://www.tendermeets.com/over-40-dating.html) Who said your dating adventures should end with you turning 40? I don’t think so! TenderMeets is an [over 40 dating site](https://www.tendermeets.com/over-40-dating.html) designed for mature singles who refuse to stop having fun even after hitting a certain age, just like me. If you are looking for love and long-term relationships with like-minded mature people, no matter where you live, you will find this platform extremely fruitful. But what amazed me is that being a platform for seeking love in the first place, TenderMeets can meet other needs too. Looking for casual hookups? No problem! Given the extensive community that the platform has gathered over the years, you might meet someone special with just a few clicks. Registration takes up to five minutes, so you won’t have to spend all day filling in boring questionnaires . After providing your gender, age, and email, you’ll have to come up with a strong password to protect your account. Once the email is confirmed, you get access to thousands of mature singles over 40 looking for all sorts of relationships: one-night stands, friends with benefits, long-term dating, and even marriage. ![TenderMeets | dating apps for the over 40s](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Dating-Over-40-Meet-Interesting-Singles-at-TenderMeets.com_.png "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Free version:** Yes* ***Pros:** A huge community of singles over 40 from all corners of the world* ***Cons:** I’ve found that the site has high competition among users, as it is currently one of the most popular on the market* ***What we love about TenderMeets:** In my opinion, it’s a perfect place for mature singles to revive their love lives, regardless of age, status, location, and goals* ## What to consider when using a dating app ## Dating app research Us middle-aged women like to be informed before making a decision. There’s no need to draw up a PowerPoint presentation but at least get the facts … and then some. Read up on the apps that have sparked your interest so you know their points of difference and if they specialise in a certain type of dating, such as finding love, hookups, or same-sex. Check out the subscription options, trial periods and prices, as well as their stance on safety i.e. how do they keep their users safe and what do they do if a problem arises? ## Do a dating app test run If you can’t decide, get proactive and test out a couple of apps, I suggest no more than two at a time – you will soon discover how consuming online dating is! Sign up for the free versions and take a look around. Test out liking a few people and see what happens when they like you. Get a feel for the platform to see how user-friendly it is and what kind of matches you get on it. ## Ask your friends who are dating in their 40s Most of us have friends who are over 40 and working the dating scene. Ask them! Don’t just ask which is their favourite app, drill down into what they like and don’t like about the app, as well as experiences they have had with other dating apps. If you don’t know anyone, ask on a FB group or look at reviews for the individual apps to get genuine feedback from platform users. ## Prepare for knock-backs Getting knocked back is part and parcel of online dating, and if you’re not used to it, it feels horrible. If you are over 40 and looking for love you might already be lacking in confidence so you need to prepare yourself for the fast-paced, pick and mix style of app dating. There are no apologies or Dear John letters. If they ain’t into you they will tell you straight or [ghost you](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-ghosting-and-how-should-we-deal-with-it/) i.e. disappear into thin air. I am not sure which is worse but prepare for it to happen to you and don’t take it personally. ## Understand dating ettiquete Online dating is completely different from dating in the real world, and definitely different from your dating experience the first time around if you are in your 40s. It is not unusual for users to be chatting to several potential partners at the same time. And people don’t waste time. If they want to have sex with you, they’ll let you know straight away, often with an eggplant emoji. Confusing? You bet! ## Don’t let dating horror stories put you off We all know a few online dating horror stories. They happen. However, it is worth remembering that it is unlikely the app’s fault, more the people using it. Try not to let a negative experience on one app put you off for good. Instead, learn from the story so you don’t make the same mistake and don’t have a horror story of your own to tell. ## To pay or not to pay for a dating app You might be undecided about [paying for a dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/). Of course, if we have a choice, we will always choose free. But with dating apps you get what you pay for, and if you pay nothing, you literally get nothing i.e. a match but no photo, which is pretty much useless. There are lots of advantages to paying for an app. These include more stringent matches, less time wasting and more safety. I like paid apps as all my matches have also paid which shows their intent to invest in finding a partner. ## Don’t give up … yet So many people give online dating a go, only to run a mile and delete their profile and all evidence of their attempt a week later. Accept that this is going to be a learning curve. It will feel really weird having strange men (or women) asking you random questions while you chill on your couch of an evening. But that is what online dating is all about. As a middle-aged single person, you might feel completely out of your depth. Persevere and you’ll find your groove and be asking your own questions, swiping right, sending love hearts, and getting into the experience in no time. ## Take a break Online dating is fun and can have great results. It can also be time-consuming and emotionally draining. It doesn’t hurt to take a break now and then. Most apps will allow you to pause your profile. Come offline, practice some [self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/) and get in touch with the real you again. Spend time with good friends who bolster your confidence and remind you how wonderful you are. And, remember if you haven’t found anyone yet, it’s OK. Being single in your 40s is super cool and lots of fun. ***Further reading: [10 Warning signs that you need to take a break from online dating.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/break-from-online-dating/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-over-40/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating/dating-apps-over-40/?share=x) - **Categories:** Online Dating **Tags:** eharmony, date, bumble, dating app, dating site --- ### [How I built a support system without a co-parent](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-system-when-theres-no-coparent/) **Published:** October 14, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a seasoned solo mom, I’ve learned to cope and build a support system when there’s no co-parent. In this article, I want to share my experiences and insights, not as an expert, but as a fellow solo mum who has learned to thrive amidst adversity. **Note:** We are talking *solo mums* here. So, mums doing it *without* another parent in the picture. This journey can be incredibly demanding, both emotionally and physically, as we strive to be the anchor, the nurturer, and the provider all rolled into one. Remember: Building a solid support system is a lifeline for solo parents. Like you, I understand the isolation and exhaustion of solo parenting. However, I also know there is hope and ways to forge meaningful connections, find the support you need, and create a nurturing environment for your children. I explore the journey of creating a robust support system when there’s no co-parent, empowering you to face single parenthood’s challenges with strength and grace. ## Identify your needs If you are parenting alone, you are justified to reach for support. The key here is knowing where and what you need support with. When deciding what you can manage yourself and what you want to outsource (get help with), it helps to play to your strengths. For example, I love cooking, I can help my kids with their homework and I have housework down-packed. But give me a DIY project or ask me to mow the lawn, and I’m stumped! For this reason, I ask for help with gardening and the odd DIY task. I am also, like other mums, time-poor, so I ask for help managing my time by organising lift-sharing or a few hours of childcare after school so I can squeeze in extra hours at work. Identifying your exact support needs and targeting the right people for help is a proactive way of creating a solid support system when there’s no co-parent. ## Reach out to family and friends I know! This is easier than it sounds. You might have family in the picture but feel uncomfortable asking them for help. If this is the case, consider why this is and think outside the box to wangle the support you need. Say, your mum doesn’t take the kids as much as you would like, but she wants to spend time with them. Invite her over to play with the kids at your house while you get on with other things. As for friends, we work out who our friends really are when we need support. As mentioned in the point above, once you know what you need help with, ask the friend who is most able to offer that support. A good friend will bend over backward to help you, especially as you are parenting independently without help from a father. If you’re lacking on the family and friend front, it might be time to connect with new people to [forge new friendships](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/find-friends-single-mum/). I know it feels daunting but these new friends could be the core of your support systems when there’s no co-parent. ***Further reading:*** [***8 Best friend finder apps in Australia.*** ](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/) ## Join local parenting groups Talking of making new friends, joining a parenting group is a significant first step. Ask your local playgroup or school if they know of any good ones in the area. Check the local newspaper and free kiddie magazines. Or look online to see if you can find a group that appeals to you. Most parenting groups are for parents of young children, and the set-up allows the kids to play and socialise while the parents, well … play and socialise too. A parenting group might be an official group, or it could be a more informal, regular get-together arranged by parents from school or something similar. Whatever kind of group you join, be sure to open up and mention that you are a solo mum and *dad is not on the scene*, meaning you do it ALL. OK, it’s a bit of a sympathy card but it works, I promise you. Why? Because you deserve the support. Keep your ear to the ground and join at least one group because here you will find like-minded souls who will totally get your situation and might, in time, be the support you crave … both emotionally and practically. ## How I built a support system when there’s no co-parent (cont.) ## Find a reliable babysitter and/or childcare services The good thing about partnered parenting, co-parenting, and even [parallel parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-shared-parenting/) is that you get a break when your child goes to dad’s house. As a solo mum, this is a luxury you have to learn to live without. However, it gives you a great excuse to use a babysitter or childcare services. When I had my first daughter, before I went back to work, I put her in childcare for one afternoon each week and was able to fully justify it as a solo mum. I needed the time and space to get organised, and it’s amazing what you can get done in just one afternoon if you are child-free! If you can’t afford childcare, how about finding a local [teen to babysit](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/teenage-babysitters/) at a set time each week? It will give you a breather, give the teen some cash, and your child will love being entertained by someone else for a while. ## Get support from professionals I’m just going to say it: There is no shame in seeking professional help. In fact, professional support makes up an integral part of your support system when there’s no co-parent. If you need help figuring out where to start, head to your local GP. They can refer you to pretty much any health professional you need. Be open with your doctor and explain that you’re *a mum doing it alone*. I have always found my GP to be a massive support, and I have shed many tears in the patient chair … the cry alone makes me feel better. And when I talk about professional support, I don’t mean only for you. Does your child need help in a way that exhausts your offering as a parent? If so, bring in the big guns. It might be that your child is struggling without a father figure, has health issues, needs educational support, or anything in between. If you are worried about cost (which is understandable), check remuneration options from [Medicare](https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/medicare) or the health service in the country/state where you live. As a solo mum, without another parent taking some of the load, you might be entitled to some generous concessions. My point here is that there is professional help out there. Don’t be afraid to reach for it. And if you reach for it and can’t afford it, work the system and [get benefits you are entitled to as a solo mum](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/) to make it happen. ## Connect with your neighbours to create a support system when there’s no co-parent Establishing a cordial relationship with your neighbours is always a good idea. They can be an awesome support system when there’s no co-parent. While you don’t need to live out your neighbours’ pockets, and vice versa, let them know your situation as a solo mum where dad is not on the scene. People love to be neighbourly and perform good deeds. I like to help them in their quest and let them do those good deeds for me! Of course, I help out in return too. But seriously, neighbours can be very accommodating. They can help you fix things around the house and watch your property when you are away. Your kids can play with their children and go to school together. When I was renting, I was lucky enough to live in a cute cul-de-sac full of fellow single mums. They became my lifeline once I’d plucked up the courage to chat with them. We shared care-child, food and even arranged the odd night out together. Whether your neighbours are single parents or not, be open and friendly, and you’ll soon have heaps of free support at your fingertips. ## Find like-minded solo mums online I have met so many kind-hearted fellow solo mums online who provide emotional support and valuable resources on various social media sites and forums. Whether I know them in real life or virtually, these women make up for the absence of another parent. Surrounding yourself with individuals who have been or are in a similar situation helps you gain strength and inspiration. They have a first-hand understanding of how it is to be a solo mum with no co-parent, so they are much more likely to be empathetic and understanding. Plus, single mums online have the most useful hacks and tips to make this solo parenting journey easier! You’re more likely to find people online if you head to single mother or single parent spaces. Here, you’ll find all kinds of single parents doing it any which way, including co-parenting, parallel parenting, and solo parenting. You’ll find the chats include stuff about ex-partners, but there will also be a fair amount of content around solo parenting. We have our own single mum group here on Beanstalk. The [Single Mum Vine FB group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) is a peaceful, happy space where we focus on uplifting one another and focusing on the best parts of single motherhood. Best of all, of the 25K+ members, there are heaps of solo mums. ## Communicate your needs clearly This might seem obvious. I mean, we have to tell people what help we need from them in order to get it, right? Absolutely. I learned this the hard way, as I was always too nervous to ask for help directly. Instead, I would find myself moaning to people about my situation as a solo mum, hoping they would pipe up and offer me help. Take it from me that this method doesn’t work and you come across as a whingey old cow! I have discovered that if I ask clearly and directly people couldn’t be happier to help, or if they can’t for any reason, will say no, and that is OK too. It took me half a year before I finally dared to ask my next-door neighbours if my daughters could carpool with their kids to school. Sarah hugged me and said, “We thought you’d never ask!” It turns out they have always wanted to offer their help but didn’t want me to feel they were sorry for me. Now, I’m not saying you should ask everyone for favors. But sharing your needs with family and friends you trust is OK. After all, you’re doing this parenting thing solo, and they’ll want to help. ## Reciprocate and show appreciation When someone does put their hand up to help and becomes a rung in your support system when there’s no co-parent, make sure they feel valued. Do not – I repeat, do not – ever take your source of support for granted. A genuine “thank you,” small, inexpensive gifts, and offering to do errands for them are wonderful ways to express your gratitude. I’m the sort of person who, if someone buys me a drink in a bar, I will spend the rest of the evening worrying until I have evened the scales and brought one for them in return. This goes for everything in my world. If someone is kind enough to help me, I can’t rest until I have done something for them. Now, don’t stress. You might be thinking ‘If I have to do something for everyone who helps me, how’s that going to help me in the long run?’. But just because someone takes your kids for a few hours doesn’t mean you must do the same in return. Instead, think of easy ways to show your appreciation. Next time you make homemade cookies, put some in a small box and gift them. Or send them a text telling them how appreciative you are for their support. Remember that there’s such a thing called “compassion exhaustion.” It applies to your support system too. ## Plan for emergencies One of the main reasons to have a solid support system when there’s no co-parent is to ensure you and your children are covered in an emergency. Of course, we all believe the worst won’t happen and most likely won’t. But, it’s sod law that if you are prepared, it is less likely to eventuate. This is another time that neighbours come in so handy. Their proximity to your home makes them perfect for emergency support. I can’t tell you the number of times my neighbours have taken in one of my daughters when they’ve forgotten their key and I’m stuck at work. I also have one friend (another solo mum) with whom I’ve agreed we will be each other’s emergency support people. This means we can call each other anytime and reach for support. So far we’ve avoided any midnight callouts or hospital runs but she has done countless school pick-ups when I’ve worked late, and I once took her kids on Christmas Day morning when her nan got ill and she had to drive interstate. Us solo mums can’t call our kid’s dad’s in an emergency, therefore we need another plan. Make sure you have yours ready to go. ## Take care of yourself This is one of the most important things you can do as a solo mum. But we are all guilty of putting our own self-care waaaay down the priorities list. Myself included. Please remember you are doing one of the most challenging jobs in the world (parenting) *on your own*. That takes a lot of energy, headspace and time. No one can maintain a fully functioning solo mum role without a break. I’m not talking about a trip to Hawaii … but if you get the chance, GO. I mean small acts of kindness and [self-care for yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/). My personal example is very dull: I go to bed at the same time every night but only after a full hour of Netflix/Britbox/my current fav streaming service. This means I relax before bed and (usually) get a good night’s sleep. For others, self-care will be way more impressive. Meditation, Pilates, gym etc. Self-care is a personal practice. Decide what makes you feel good. Think: - How can you really relax? - What re-charges your batteries? - How can you keep on top of your health? - What makes you feel happy? As a solo mum, you are your children’s one and only parental role model. You are being watched! By taking time for self-care, your children will see that you love yourself and teach them the importance of self-love. They will also learn that it’s not all about them, you are not their servant, and if mum doesn’t get to sit down for five minutes now and then, she’ll seriously lose her shit! ## My final words on how I built a support system when there’s no co-parent The well-coined phrase ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is so accurate. I love being a solo mum to my children. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But, I am not blinkered into believing that I alone am enough. Children need a team to raise them. They need people from all walks of life with different skills, ideas and values to offer them. The best way to provide this is by building a support system where they can thrive, grow, and feel confident even when you are not around. After ten years of solo parenting, I’m proud of my support system. It shows how I conquered my fears, allowing me to both accept I needed help and ultimately ask for it. It is a network of people and services that have allowed me to be the best mother I could to my children while living my life to the fullest. If you are in doubt about how to create a support system when there’s no co-parent, reread this article. Identify what you need help with and where you can find it. Put your feelers out in your immediate crowd and among strangers (who may become your friends) at local and online support groups. Be clear about what you need from these people and offer what you can in return. Most importantly, always remember the central pillar holding your support group in place…. YOU. Without you, the plates will not only stop spinning, they will come crashing down. So, be sure to take care of yourself. Yes, it’s a cliche but it’s also super important. Anyway, I must dash. I have to get the kids ready for the neighbours to take them to school before Mick, the handyman, arrives to mow my lawn, and my best friend’s husband pops around to put my daughter’s desk together. See what I mean … support! It makes the world go round! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-system-when-theres-no-coparent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/solo-parenting/support-system-when-theres-no-coparent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Solo Parenting **Tags:** no dad, parenting alone, get help, ask for help, no father --- ### [Serving of divorce papers: How the process works](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/serving-divorce-papers/) **Published:** October 2, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Embarking on the difficult journey of divorce is never easy, and when it comes to the legal processes involved, things can get even more overwhelming. In Australia, the serving of divorce papers is necessary for the dissolution of some marriages, and it’s essential to do it correctly to ensure a smooth transition from marriage to divorce In our comprehensive guide, we will unravel the intricacies of serving divorce papers in Australia. Whether you’re considering filing for divorce or have already initiated the process, understanding the ins and outs of serving divorce papers will empower you to confidently make informed decisions and navigate the Australian family law system. We cover why you may need to serve divorce papers, various methods of serving and the potential obstacles you might encounter. Get the knowledge and insights you need to embark on this legal journey right here. ## Which kind of divorce requires me to serve divorce papers (joint/sole)? Not all divorce applications require you to serve divorce papers. If you are applying for a joint divorce, you will be pleased to know that you are not required to serve divorce papers. However, if you are applying for a sole divorce application, then the service of divorce papers to your ex-partner is a requirement. ***Further reading: J[oint and sole application for divorce: What’s the difference.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/difference-between-sole-and-joint-divorce/)*** ## What is the purpose of serving the Application for divorce on the other party? The serving of divorce papers is an essential step in a sole divorce process. Its main purpose is to let your ex-partner know that you have already initiated the process. It also informs the other party of every detail written in the application, providing them with all the necessary information related to the divorce. ## How to prepare the service documents After filing the divorce application at a family law registry, you need to prepare the following documents: - Affidavit of Service by hand or by post - Acknowledgment of Service - Application for Divorce - Affidavit for eFiling - Notice of application for divorce - Marriage, Families, and Separation brochure - A stamped self-addressed envelope - Any other related documents You can download the service forms from the [Commonwealth Courts portal](https://www.comcourts.gov.au/). The steps and the required documents vary for every service type. To know what other requirements you need to prepare, refer to the related section below. ## What is the time limit to serve divorce papers? The time limit for the serving of divorce papers depends on where the other party is. If your ex-partner is in Australia, the time limit is at least 28 days before the court hearing. If your ex is abroad, you need to serve the divorce papers at least 42 days before the hearing. ## How do I serve my divorce application to my ex? ### By hand The serving of divorce papers cannot be done by the party involved, so you cannot do it yourself. It must be served by someone above 18 years old. You can either hire a professional process server or ask a friend or family member to do it. ### By electronic communication When serving divorce papers by electronic communication, be sure to send the documents to your ex-partner’s active email address. You must be confident that your ex will sign and return them accordingly. If the serving of divorce papers by electronic communication doesn’t work, you must serve the documents by hand. ### By post Before you choose to serve the divorce papers by post, you must know your ex-partner’s current address. Aside from the documents listed above, include a letter requesting to return the signed Acknowledgment of Service. Make sure that your ex acknowledges and returns the documents. Otherwise, the Court won’t consider the application served. If your ex-partner doesn’t return them within the allotted period, you must serve the divorce papers by hand. ### To your ex-partner’s lawyer Your ex-partner can choose to accept the documents through a lawyer. When the lawyer signs and dates an acknowledgment of receiving the papers, that’s your proof that they’ve been served properly. You’ll want to make sure you file this acknowledgment with the Court. If that’s all done correctly, you don’t have to worry about any other service documents. However, if you can’t get that acknowledgment from the lawyer, you’ll have to figure out a way to serve the papers directly to your ex. ## What if my ex is in prison? If your ex-partner is in prison, the serving of divorce papers must be done by hand. Here’s what you need to do: - Fill out and sign the Affidavit of Service by Post - If you don’t know which prison your ex is in, contact the state/territory correctional services - Get your ex-partner’s Master Index Number (MIN) - Write a self-addressed cover letter posted to the prison chief or whoever is in charge. The letter should have the following: - Your ex-partner’s name and MIN - A request to hand over the documents to your ex - A request for the person in charge of the prison to sign and return the Acknowledgment of Service ## What if my ex has a disability and cannot sign? If your ex has a disability and cannot sign, you can serve the documents to the guardian. The guardian can be a family member or a person appointed by the State. If your ex is confined in a facility, whoever is in charge can acknowledge the divorce application. ## What if I cannot find my ex to serve the divorce papers? If you have tried every single method and still can’t reach your ex, these are your options: ### Service with conditions Service with conditions is a special case where the Court allows you to serve the divorce documents by post instead of doing service by hand. This also enables you to serve the divorce papers to a third party approved by the Court. This person should guarantee that the documents are delivered to your ex-partner. ### **Dispensation of service** Dispensation of service is allowed by the Court only when absolutely necessary. This method enables the court to exempt or waive the necessity for formal service. ### Apply to court for service order To request a service order from the Court when you are unable to serve the divorce application yourself, you can use the Commonwealth Courts Portal’s eFiling system, which offers two options. The first is the Guided option which involves an online interactive application form where you can upload the required supporting documents. The second is the Unguided option, which allows you to fill out an online form and upload both the application and supporting documents. If you’re not registered on the portal or lack electronic access to your file, contact them at <registerme@comcourts.gov.au> with relevant details to create or grant access to your registration. Once registered, select your file number, choose “File a New Application,” confirm your understanding of obligations, and proceed with either the Guided or Unguided option. Complete the required sections, including the Affidavit, and submit the application after verifying its contents. This process streamlines applying for a service order when personal service is not feasible. Note: When applying for a service order, you also need to attend a hearing on the date set by the Court. ## What next when the divorce papers are signed? Once the divorce papers are signed and returned, you must sign the Affidavit of Service (with the Acknowledgment of Receipt attached) in the presence of an authorised witness. This will be the proof that the divorce papers have been served to your ex-partner. After this, you must upload the forms to the [Commonwealth Courts Portal](https://www.comcourts.gov.au/). If you cannot do it electronically, you can post them directly to the Court registry where your divorce application has been filed. ## Final words: Serving of divorce papers Understanding the process of serving divorce papers is essential for anyone navigating the challenging waters of divorce proceedings. This crucial step sets the legal framework for the entire divorce process, ensuring that both parties are informed and given an opportunity to respond. From selecting a suitable method of service to adhering to legal requirements, serving divorce papers demands careful attention to detail. While the process may vary by jurisdiction, the overarching goal remains the same: to provide due process and fairness to all parties involved. Whether through personal service, certified mail, or publication, serving divorce papers ensures that both spouses have a clear understanding of the impending legal actions and can make informed decisions about their future. In this emotionally charged journey, knowledge truly is power. By understanding how the serving of divorce papers works, you can take the first step toward closure, resolution, and ultimately, a fresh start in their post-divorce lives. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/serving-divorce-papers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/divorce/serving-divorce-papers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Divorce **Tags:** commonwealth courts, affidavit of service, acknowledgement of receipt --- ### [Yes, you can get your kids to play board games, here is how](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-to-play-board-games/) **Published:** September 11, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Are you on an eternal quest to entice your kids to play board games and take a break from the screen-induced trance? I’m that mum who convinced my kids that board games are cooler than video games (most of the time). From the days of endless Candy Land sessions to epic Monopoly showdowns that led to more dramatic negotiations than a UN summit, I’ve been there, rolled the dice, and emerged victorious in the battle against digital distractions. From cultivating a positive mindset around board games to selecting suitable games for different age groups and interests, here are my practical tips to make family game nights an eagerly anticipated tradition. So, if you’re ready to trade screens for smiles, competition for camaraderie, and virtual worlds for the real, engaging world of board games, read on! ## Lead by example As a fellow mum who’s cracked the code on turning game night into a screen-free delight, I can vouch for the power of leading by example. Kids often mirror our behaviours, so if they see you excited about board games, they’re likelier to jump on board (*pun intended*). Show genuine enthusiasm, share memorable gaming experiences, and emphasise the quality of time spent together. Your contagious excitement can turn an ordinary evening into an eagerly anticipated tradition. ## Make it special (add snacks!) Ramp up the excitement by throwing in a bit of culinary magic. Snacks have this sneaky power to turn a regular game night into a little fiesta. I mean, who doesn’t light up when there’s a spread of their [favourite munchies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/50-easy-recipes-for-healthy-after-school-snacks/), right? So, rustle up a snack platter with all those goodies your gang can’t resist. Not only does it keep their energy from plummeting, but it also adds a sprinkle of celebration to the whole deal. Oh, and did I mention? It’s like this cool backdoor to remind them that board games are not just about winning – they’re also about good company and creating some seriously awesome moments. ## Find the best games for your kids Selecting the right game is key to getting your kids to play board games. Consider their ages, interests, and attention spans. For younger children, opt for games that involve colours, shapes, and simple rules. As they grow, introduce more complex games that challenge their strategic thinking. Engaging themes also make a difference – whether it’s a detective mystery, outer space adventure, or fantasy quest, there’s a game to captivate every imagination. ## Give them lots of choice You know how kids are … right? They totally dig being the boss sometimes. So, here’s a **cool trick**: spread out a bunch of game options and let them do the picking. It’s like handing them the steering wheel of fun. They get all empowered and jazzed up because they’re calling the shots. And guess what? It’s not just about picking some game; it’s like they’re joining for the whole experience. Oh, and the best part? When you mix up the games, it’s like injecting a dose of freshness into each game night. No yawns of boredom here, mums – just endless adventures. ## Pick games with quick wins Kids, especially younger ones, thrive on immediate rewards. Opt for games that offer quick wins and instant gratification. These could be games with short rounds or challenges that lead to frequent victories. This helps maintain their enthusiasm, as they experience the joy of success more frequently. Balancing these with longer, more strategic games ensures a well-rounded gaming experience. ## Invite their friends to join in Turn game night into a social affair by inviting your kids’ friends over. Playing with peers adds a layer of excitement and competitiveness that can’t be replicated with family alone. It also encourages teamwork and communication. Plus, what’s better than a house filled with laughter and friendly competition? Just be prepared for a bit of friendly banter and cheers as they strive to outdo one another. ## Stop arguments by explaining the rules To dodge those “But I thought…” moments, lay down the law beforehand. Keep it simple and throw in some visuals if needed – you’d be surprised how a simple drawing can save the day. See, when the kids are in the know, they’re in the zone – no squabbles, just pure fun. Plus, it’s like a secret recipe for good sportsmanship; they learn the game and the art of fair play, all in one go. ## Celebrates the wins Let’s face it … we play to win. So, whoever wins the game, make sure you celebrate with them. This includes encouraging them and telling them how proud you are (in an age-appropriate way, of course!). I find a little victory dance around the room works for toddlers to teens. Note: Teen eye-rolls will ensue, but they will be secretly delighted with their victory. Winning doesn’t always mean coming first. If one of your children has beat their personal best in the game, be sure to acknowledge that too. And what if you win? Well, that’s great too. Do a happy dance and give yourself a pat on the back. Playing board games together is the perfect opportunity to teach your children to celebrate their own wins and the wins of others. So, make a fuss over every win. ## Offer games rewards (runners-up too!) Oh, the winner gets the spotlight, no doubt. But hey, let’s not leave our awesome runners-up hanging! Here’s a nifty trick: sprinkle in some rewards. I’m talking about high-fives for the “**Best Strategy**” or a mini-fist bump for the “**Most Creative Move**.” Not only does it shout out their effort, but it’s like a secret ingredient that stirs up their strategic juices. You see mums, it’s not just about the winner’s dance – it’s about everyone feeling like champs. And guess what? Sneakily, they’re learning that success isn’t only in nabbing the trophy; it’s in growing their brainpower and soaking in every drop of fun. ## Embrace the learning moments You know, board games aren’t just kid stuff – they’re like little trainers for life skills. While the kiddos are giggling their way through a game, they’re secretly becoming these awesome thinkers and problem solvers. It’s like they’re levelling up their brainpower without even realising it. And guess what? That teamwork they do in games? It’s like a practice run for real-life tag-teams. **So, here’s the scoop**: when they’re crushing it in a game, chat about how those skills are like secret keys for life. They’ll be learning and having a blast at the same time – total mum win! ## Make it a tradition Consistency is the secret ingredient that turns sporadic game nights into a cherished tradition. Kid’s of all ages [thrive on routine](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/routines-help-children-thrive/), as do adults. Pick a specific day of the week for your kids to play board games, and stick to it as much as possible. When kids know that Friday (*or whichever day you choose*) is game night, they’ll eagerly anticipate it. It becomes a stable, comforting routine that creates lasting memories and strengthens family bonds. ## Reflect and adapt As your kids grow, their interests and preferences will evolve. Be ready to adapt your game choices if you don’t want them to lose interest and all your work getting kids to play board games to be wasted! Keep an *ear* out for their feedback and suggestions, and don’t hesitate to explore [new game genres or styles](https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/board-games-we-love/). Flexibility ensures that game night remains exciting and relevant, catering to their changing tastes. ## In conclusion: How to get your kids to pay board games Transforming game night from a mere pastime to a beloved tradition isn’t rocket science; it’s all about weaving fun, bonding, and learning into a single activity. Remember, you’re not just rolling dice or moving pieces – you’re creating a haven of laughter, camaraderie, and memorable moments. So, fellow mums, gather your little competitors, shuffle those cards, and embark on a journey to build lasting connections through the magic of board games. Your family will thank you for it, and your kids might just discover a lifelong love for analog adventures! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-to-play-board-games/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-to-play-board-games/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** games night, tradition, non digital games --- ### [Why parallel parenting could be the answer to shared parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parallel-parenting-shared-parenting/) **Published:** September 7, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Navigating the intricate dance of shared care arrangements with an ex-partner can feel like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. Been there, dropped that! But guess what? I stumbled upon a game-changer: parallel parenting. If you’ve been desperately trying to co-parent with an ex who won’t cooperate or communicate, you’ll know it’s like banging your head against a brick wall – day after day after day. Whatever you do, it’s never gonna work. Instead, parallel parenting is a shared parenting approach that focuses on minimising direct interaction between you and your ex, while prioritising your children’s well-being. It allows each parent to independently manage their time with the kids, making decisions within their own domains, promoting stability, and reducing conflict. So, if you’re ready to let go of the tug-of-war drama, parallel parenting could be the answer to your prayers. Keep reading to find out how. ***Further reading: [Parallel parenting or co-parenting: Finding your best fit.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-or-co-parenting/)*** ## Reduced conflict Parallel parenting creates “space.” And that expanse right there in the middle is incredibly helpful in a relationship, especially in an expired one. When you’re in a toxic situation, as in co-parenting with an old flame who sucks the air out of the room, parallel parenting limits direct contact with your high-conflict ex. And disengagement outside of parenting needs is an effective way to “keep the peace.” No, I’m not promoting “stonewalling.” My point is communication should be outlined – let’s stick to mandatory engagements, shall we? Less interaction means less arguing, and more listening, thus creating a more stable environment for both parents and children. ## Less stress for you Slamming the door in your ex’s face is never easy; it comes with a great influx of emotion – bitterness, vengeance, fear, sadness, betrayal and pure vulnerability. All of these will rock your sanity. And when your headspace is not on track, you can’t take care of anything. Now, parallel parenting is not gonna magically erase all that. Rather, it will reduce the risk of mental burden – you know, like an ice pack to your swelling bump. When emotions are at an all-time high, parallel parenting allows you to heal faster by not having to communicate and meet with that ex-partner on a regular basis. As such, you avoid unnecessary drama and have more space and freedom to breathe and contemplate your new life. ## **Less stress for the kids** The saddest part is, the children always get the short end of the stick. When parents get into the ring and ask the kids to pick a corner, they create such a traumatising experience for the little ones, affecting their behaviour (no matter what age). That’s why parallel parenting works because it places the focus back to the kids and takes it further. The children can bond with each parent without being in the centre of a crossfire. They can be cocooned in a conflict free zone. And this isn’t just random talk, studies have shown that kids who spend 35% of their time with each parent have far better adaptability to such situations. So, despite a high-separation conflict, the children’s relationship with their parents can still evolve. ## You can parent your way It’s hard to co-parent with someone you can’t even have a civil relationship with. Tendency is, you’re gonna keep arguing every time you see each other. With parallel parenting though, that would have to take the backseat. Each parent can work with their preferred [parenting style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/). Meaning they have a clear line of responsibilities to focus on such as education, values and living situation, and put their time and energy into those key aspects, instead of each other. The thing is, this approach can be your temporary or even long-term solution. You and your ex will slowly get used to the idea of parenting separately, set aside your differences and close in on the children. ## Clearer boundaries Boundaries are essential for kids as they provide a sense of security, guidance and structure, helping them understand their limits and develop a strong foundation for healthy relationships and responsible behaviour. You might think that parallel parenting would blur the boundaries. After all, both parents are doing things differently. For us, this wasn’t the case. My ex and I have created boundaries within our own homes when we have our kids. Yes, they are different at each house, but that’s OK. Kids can cope with different [rules and routines across two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/), so long as they are clear and consistent. Taking away the stress of trying to control boundaries in another house when you are not there, and instead concentrating on the ones in your home when the kids are there is a huge relief. Instead of swimming against the tide, you’re swimming with it … with flippers on! ## The children always come first Okay, when I say the children come first, this doesn’t mean you’re not gonna address your needs. You have to do what’s right for you, eventually, but only AFTER, you do right for the kids. Parallel parenting is seeing past who’s right or wrong between the parents. There is no longer a competition. They just work together in raising the kids, period! As such, no parent will make a big decision without the approval of the other parent. But at the same time, you give freedom to your ex-partner to use their own parenting approach, no comparison whatsoever. You handle things more maturely and move forward with the ultimate goal of protecting the interests of your kids. ## More consistency in the long run C’mon, the mayhems of the divorce procedure and settlement? No one finds stability in all that. High-conflict situations are just built to wreak havoc no matter how you put it. Enter parallel parenting. This shared parenting strategy is putting order back to chaos. How so? In spite of the different visiting schedules, household routines and rules, settlements, the kids know what to expect and the parents are confident to respond to situations independently. And that encourages emotional stability, not right away, but gradually, as situations like this take time. With less conflict and friction, both parents can create a structured environment and work harmoniously, yet separately, in the long-term. ## Less legal battles, mediation and all that horrible stuff When parents are always fighting, they can’t make even the simplest of decisions. But it’s hard to have issues with someone you rarely meet and hardly talk to, except when it’s about the kids, the kids and the kids. That, my friend, is the typical “parallel parenting” scenario, which I would describe as “handling things more maturely.” You interact less and give freedom to your partner. You disengage from your emotional outburst and move on. By doing so, there’s less conflict and things are much more easily resolved without shouting, pointing fingers, or worse, legal battles. This is beneficial for the children, as they won’t be forced to pick sides. Parenting is not a contest, it’s a collaboration that will only work if you focus on guiding the kids and forgiving the past. ## My final thoughts on parallel parenting In the whirlwind of navigating shared care arrangements, I’ve found solace and success in the concept of parallel parenting. For this reason, I’m truly grateful for the chance to share my insights and advice with fellow single mothers who might be facing the same challenges. Remember, parallel parenting isn’t just a technique; it’s a lifeline that empowers us to [prioritise our children’s well-being](https://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/6-ways-you-can-prioritize-your-kids-during-and-after-a-divorce) while maintaining our own peace of mind. Through this journey, I’ve learned that setting clear boundaries, focusing on effective communication, and letting go of the need for control are crucial components of parallel parenting. It’s heartening to witness the positive impact this approach has on both my children and myself. By working together yet independently, we’ve created a harmonious environment where our kids can thrive, free from the tensions that can arise in traditional co-parenting dynamics. I want you to know that parallel parenting can be the answer you’ve been searching for. Embrace the opportunity to tailor your shared care arrangement to your unique circumstances, and don’t hesitate to seek support from those who have walked this path before. The journey might have its challenges, but the rewards in terms of your children’s happiness and your own well-being are immeasurable. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parallel-parenting-shared-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/parallel-parenting-shared-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** shared care, co-parenting --- ### [How to encourage your teen to read a book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/encourage-teen-to-read-a-book/) **Published:** September 4, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a parent who’s successfully managed to foster a love for reading in my teenagers, I understand the struggle of enticing your teen to read a book. The allure of screens and digital entertainment can make the world of literature seem like uncharted territory to our tech-savvy teens. However, I’m here to share insights and strategies that have worked wonders in my household in the hopes of helping you guide your teen toward the enriching world that books can offer. From understanding their preferences to creating a conducive reading environment, I’m excited to offer guidance on how to spark that reading flame in your teenagers. So, whether you’re a book enthusiast or simply aiming to expand your teen’s horizons, let’s explore the art of encouraging your teen to embark on the journey of reading a book. ## Give them books you think they’ll enjoy Imagine you’re at the bookstore, and you spot a book that instantly reminds you of something your teenager likes. Buy it, wrap it up … and give it to them as a surprise gift. This simple gesture can do wonders for encouraging your teen to read a book. You can be tempted to give them books that align with your own interest or ideas of what good reads are. But remember, the key is to find books that align with their hobbies, passions, or even current favourite movies or TV shows. If your teen loves sci-fi, introduce them to space adventures. If they’re into mysteries, find gripping detective novels. By choosing books for their tastes, you’re laying the foundation for a reading habit they’ll relish. What’s even more awesome? You don’t have to buy all these books! Head on to your public library, so they can pick and choose the exact books they want. ## Lead by example It’s a lazy Sunday afternoon, and you cosy up with your favourite novel, a steaming cup of tea in hand. Guess what? Your teenager’s curious eyes will wander toward that intriguing book cover. I discovered on this journey as a mum: kids are like sponges, soaking up what they see around them! Whether it’s your healthy (or unhealthy) habits, books, or phone, they will naturally gravitate toward the things they see their caregivers enjoy. So, let’s make reading more than just a hobby; let’s make it a vibrant part of our daily lives. Here’s the kicker: getting your teen to read a book is simple! Just let them see you loving it. Read a book on your rest time. Include a trip to bookstores and libraries whenever you go to vacations. Fill your home with all sorts of books. Talk about your reading experiences. Share your fascination with the characters, and the excitement of turning the pages. Let them see that reading isn’t a chore but an adventure, a journey into uncharted territories of imagination and knowledge! ## Create a reading-friendly environment I remember when I decided to carve out a reading corner for my teens, and the effect was truly enchanting. We took a quiet corner of our home and brought it to life with their favourite colours and soft furnishings. Their eyes sparkled with excitement as they picked out posters of their beloved bands and artwork from school to adorn their sacred reading space. And, oh, the books! We filled the shelves with a cornucopia of genres – from adventures to heartwarming stories, ensuring there was something to suit every mood and taste. (Your local op shop is a great place to buy cheap books en masse.) The result? Their sanctuary became a portal to a secret universe, like a world of stories! The best thing is, creating a reading-friendly environment to get your teen to read a book doesn’t have to be expensive. Your book nook can simply be an under-utilised space in your house, decorated with things you already have. What’s important is it’s a place where they can read books in peace, without the distraction of devices. ## Limit screen time Gadgets are a challenge we all face as parents, but here’s a trick that’s worked in my household: strike a balance, and make it a family affair! I [set reasonable screen time limits](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/9-ways-to-cut-back-on-family-screen-time/) for them, and yes, it wasn’t always met with smiles, but it’s crucial. What’s our courageous alternative? Reading, of course! I made it a rule – for every hour they spend glued to screens, they must spend an hour immersed in a book. Trust me, this simple rule has made a world of difference in getting a teen to read a book. At first, there were grumbles and protests, but soon … oh, soon, it’ll start to happen. With time and with lots of books suited to their individual interests, their addiction to screen time began to decrease, and the joys of literature took over. ## Give them an incentive I’ll admit it. I got both of my daughters to read their first book by giving them a $20 incentive. You’ll be amazed at what a teen will do for money! I just knew that if they had the right book and saw it through to the end, they would love the experience and keep reading. Lucky for me, it worked. Both my girls carried on reading, even without the monetary incentive. Thank goodness, as I would be penniless by now! Aside from some cash, think about what would inspire your teen to read a book. How about a treat to their favourite restaurant after reading a certain number of books? Or, you can offer one less chore for the week for every novel they finish. Dangle the carrot and watch the magic happen. ## Tell them about the mental health impacts of reading As a mum who’s been through the teenage rollercoaster, I’ve seen how reading can be a lifesaver. Once, my eldest was going through a tough time at school. She was stressed and anxious, and it broke my heart. So I decided to share my own story with her. I told her about a book that helped me when I felt overwhelmed, just like she did. I said: “*Sweetie, books are like a soothing balm for the soul. They whisk you away from your troubles, calm those racing thoughts, and bring a sense of peace like nothing else.*“ And guess what? She actually tried it! She picked up that book, and I could see the tension slowly melt away from her face. My daughter realised that reading wasn’t just a hobby; it was her escape, her secret weapon against stress. So, mums, share your stories about how books have been your rock during tough times. Let them know that reading isn’t just about words on pages; it’s a lifeline to emotional resilience, a friend that’s always there to lend a comforting hand. ## Tell them that reading is cool! One of my daughters was a tiny bit challenging to convince to start reading, so the last thing I tried was showing her role models. Specifically, I would show her stories and quotations from actors like [Emma Watson](https://www.goodbooks.io/people/emma-watson) and [Daniel Radcliffe](https://likewise.com/list/Daniel-Radcliffes-Recommended-Books-5e20df26d67bf4002bd9ab56). Knowing her favourite screen wizards loved to read changed her notions about the activity. So, share stories of famous people, from authors to athletes, who are avid readers. Learning that they share the same interests with people they look up to can influence your teen to continue reading. Highlight how reading broadens horizons, and makes them more interesting conversationalists. Lastly, encouraging your teen to read the book requires creativity, patience … and a dash of parental ingenuity. Remember, it’s not just about getting your teen to read a book; it’s about opening the door to a world of imagination, knowledge, and personal growth. ## My final thoughts: How to encourage your teen to read a book Embarking on the wonderful journey of encouraging your teen to read a book is a path filled with delightful rewards and shared moments of joy. I hold a strong belief that armed with a touch of insight, a sprinkle of inspiration, and an abundance of affection, we, as mums, can guide our adolescents into the enchanting universe of books. Ultimately, instilling a love for reading in your teen is an expedition characterised by affection and deep connections. As mums, we are both privileged and accountable for helping them unlock the treasure trove of wisdom, expanding their horizons, and setting forth on exhilarating journeys—all within the pages of a book. By following the practical hints and techniques outlined in this guide, you can embark on this adventure with patience, enthusiasm, and an open-hearted attitude, all the while keeping in mind that the realms they discover within the pages will forever accompany them. Cheers to the enchantment of reading and the captivating journey that lies ahead for both you and your beloved teenager. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/encourage-teen-to-read-a-book/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/encourage-teen-to-read-a-book/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** teenager, novel, biography --- ### [7 Reasons why it’s fabulous to be single](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/fabulous-to-be-single/) **Published:** August 31, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** We’re about to dive into a topic near and dear to my heart – why it’s fabulous to be single. Before you roll your eyes and think, “Yeah, right,” just hear me out. As a card-carrying member of the Single Women’s Society (if that were actually a thing), I’m here to tell you that flying solo isn’t just okay – it’s bloody brilliant! Sure, society is trying to convince us that our lives won’t be complete until we’re part of a dynamic duo. But really, who needs a sidekick when you can be your own superhero? From indulging in solo dance parties to having the entire bed to yourself, there’s a lot to celebrate about being footloose and fancy-free. So, grab that tub of ice cream (no need to share, hooray!) and join me as we explore the seven glorious reasons why riding solo is absolutely, positively, and unapologetically fab. ## It’s a time for self-discovery Remember that classic scene from “*Eat, Pray, Love”* where, after Elizabeth gets divorced, she leaves her job and travels to three different countries to discover herself for a whole year? Well, this could be you! Whether you are divorced or not! That’s why it’s fabulous to be single – you have the luxury of enjoying and celebrating yourself through new and exciting things. You can go to a beach and learn scuba diving or take some surfing lessons. Or, if you’re more of a mountain person, you can go hiking with your friends. You can camp out in a park or forest. Or, if you’re more of an indoor person you can also do activities like meditating, exercising, reading books, or finishing 100 movies in 100 days. The most important thing is that you get to know yourself more. You get to know what you like and what you don’t like. Self-discovery is crucial to our well-being, but you can’t really do that when you’re in a relationship, can you? ## You can concentrate on your friendships Society has brainwashed all of us to think that a romantic relationship is the most important relationship in our lives. But, truthfully speaking, after that bad breakup (if you ever had one), do you really think so? Don’t go on a wild goose chase and pursue another relationship. Instead, go out and have fun with your besties! Rekindle lost friendships and find comfort in spending time with those amazing people. You’ll find that having strong social ties can enrich your life in so many ways. Invite them to your home and have them spend the night. Or, in your free time, you can spend the afternoon with them, just shopping in the mall, going to parties, or attending classes (like learning pottery or painting). If you friendship group have dwindled, as often can happen during a relationship, find new friends. There are many women in the same boat as you also looking for friendship. Making is friends is easy with [friend finder apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friend-finder-apps/) and online groups where you can hook up with like-minded mates. Having more time to nurture important friendships is definitely one of the best reasons why it’s fabulous to be single. **Note:** If you’re a single mum looking for friends, join the [Single Mum Vine Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) to connect with thousands of other single mothers. ## Independence is all yours There is something so damn empowering about being totally and utterly independent. You’re the captain of your ship, charting your course without needing anyone’s approval. I love that I have complete control over my decisions and actions. Not a fan of rugby that your ex loved? No problem! Missing your favourite dish that your former partner was allergic to? Well, you no longer need to accommodate another person’s conflicting interests and lifestyles into your plans all the time. It might feel a little scary, but it is also exhilarating. It’s fabulous to be single because you are no longer bound by the expectations or preferences of a partner, allowing you to navigate life on your terms. Go, the independent, single women out there! ## Complete and utter freedom When you look on the bright side, being single is not so bad. In fact, it’s awesome. The biggest perk? You have freedom. And freedom is a luxury. It’s priceless, like time. It’s one of the things that we take for granted when we’re young. But as we become older, we realise just how precious it is and just how much it can make us happy. If you’re divorced and haven’t gotten out of the [divorce hangover](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/steps-to-survive-a-relationship-breakup/) yet, then you will never realise this: *That divorce you were sobbing uncontrollably over? Girl, it’s a blessing in disguise.* Come out stronger and celebrate that freedom with me! Or, if you went through a horrible break-up with an ex who’s done nothing but control your every movement, then you’d know, just like I do, that freedom equates to happiness. I’d take that freedom over a wrong man any day. ## You’re not living your life for anyone else Let’s admit it. Living your life for someone else is draining, right? But, when you’re single, you won’t have to focus all your energy on keeping your partner satisfied. You won’t have to spend your time trying to make things better for them. You won’t have to put all your efforts into trying to make them happy, if only for a moment. That energy, time, and effort? That could’ve gone to an activity or career that makes your life fulfilling. But maybe this whole “living-your-life-for-someone-else” thing is really a canon event that all of us have to live through in order to realise that we shouldn’t live for someone else. But, just promise yourself you won’t stay there. Trust me when I say the grass is definitely greener on this side. ## Uninterrupted me-time If you still need convincing that it’s fabulous to be single, this should be something that will entice you: loads of uninterrupted me-time. There’s no one to call us whenever we’re in the middle of a dance floor. Or, tell us to go home early whenever we’re having fun out with our friends. And most importantly, we can spend our time doing hobbies that we really enjoy. You should be able to look back on your life with no regret. Don’t force yourself into a relationship just because social media or traditions tell you to. The truth is, it’s not all unicorns and rainbows over there. Just stop and take a moment. Do you really want to be in a relationship, or is it just because of the external pressure? Don’t you want to have all the time to yourself and spend it however you want without feeling guilty? ## Flirt with who you like! But the most exciting part that makes it fabulous to be single is that you get to flirt with who you like! A healthy, no-strings-attached flirt always makes me feel great. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t strut your stuff. Just take care not to lead anyone on if it really is only flirting and you have no intention to take it further. Single life can introduce you to this thing I like to call “healthy flirting.” It’s when you and the guy you met are on the same page when it comes to relationships. You both don’t want to commit (not yet, anyway), and you know what both of your boundaries are. It’s casual, and you can get playful as much as you want. Remember: nothing will break when there are no strings attached. ***Further reading: [Friends with benefits: 6 Rules to make it work.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/)*** ## Final thoughts on why it’s fabulous to be single Society conditions us women to fear the thought of being single. That’s why you might believe not being in a romantic relationship is sad and shameful. But the truth is, it’s everything but. Having proudly navigated singleness for a long time, I can firmly attest that the real sadness and shame lie in clinging to a loveless and pointless relationship out of fear of being alone. If you’re fresh out of a divorce or a breakup, you might find it impossible to see the silver lining. You might not understand how it can be fabulous to be single. But give it time, and you will see that this chapter of your life celebrates self-discovery, empowerment, and the realisation that your happiness and fulfilment come from within. As you continue to embrace the unique adventures that come with being an unattached woman, revel in the beauty of charting your course and savouring the joys of this wonderful phase. Soon, you’ll realise: Prince Charming is overrated. So, here’s to embracing this chapter with a wink, a smile, and the knowledge that we’re the authors of our own happily ever after. Cheers to the fearless, independent, and utterly fabulous single women that we are! ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/fabulous-to-be-single/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/fabulous-to-be-single/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** breakup, single life --- ### [How to find excellent divorce lawyers near me?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyers-near-me/) **Published:** August 26, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When I found myself in the intricate and emotionally charged process of divorce, one of the most crucial steps was locating adept and understanding divorce lawyers near me. Initially, the task appeared quite daunting, but as I delved into the process, I uncovered various strategies to pinpoint the perfect legal partner for my journey. Having successfully identified a skilled divorce lawyer in my local area, I’m excited to share the insights and tips I learned along the way. Divorce is a complex matter that goes beyond legality; it’s a deeply personal and life-altering experience requiring the expertise of professionals. This article will walk you through the step-by-step approach I adopted to identify exceptional divorce lawyers near me, empowering you to make this critical decision with confidence and clarity. ## Start your research online Thankfully, you can find anything and anyone in seconds these days. Google is a great kickoff point for online research for divorce attorneys. Many private law firms and lawyers are setting up their businesses on Google, making them easier for potential clients to find. In fact, typing “divorce lawyers near me” on Google yields millions of results, including websites that match you with family lawyers. Alongside Google, you can check social media platforms such as LinkedIn and even good ol’ Facebook. Use social media to determine if a lawyer in your area is a good fit for your case. ## See how close they are on Google maps On Google, you can see the directions to different lawyers’ offices in your area. Keep in mind that the location of the law firm or office can affect the cost of their services. For example, attorneys in bigger cities tend to be more expensive. On the other hand, lawyers near you can save you travel time and costs. So, it’s good to check their location, too. Businesses most related to your search usually appear on top of your search results, alongside their location on Google Maps, for you to easily find lawyers in your local area. ## Check location-based online directories Another place to look at is location-based online directories. These were my trusted go-to when looking for a divorce lawyer near me. Back then, Google Maps was still in its inception stages, so looking for online directories was my best bet. (It still is!) Lawyer directories are a convenient way to find attorneys. [Australian Lawyers Directory](https://australianlawyersdirectory.com.au), for instance, is a comprehensive website that lets you search by suburb, name, type, speciality, issues, and quality. Here, you can find a lawyer’s location and contact details. Likewise, lawyer directories for individual states and territories are worth checking out. You will have better chances finding a lawyer you need with a narrow set of choices. ## Ask on local social media groups There are heaps of social media groups for practically every topic you need. Nowadays, Reddit is incredibly helpful when I want honest reviews and recommendations. But Facebook groups remain a top online destination if you want to find reviews from people you know. Most users I have encountered on social media are genuinely eager to offer their help, especially regarding causes close to their hearts. I am wary of local social media groups, especially for topics as sensitive as recommendations for divorce lawyers. Moreover, I’d stay away from local Facebook groups if I’m revealing my identity, since there might be one person in there I’d rather *not* know about my private life. If I am doing my search on social media today, I will use a dummy account or go to forums where I can be anonymous. ## Look out for local advertising Although everything is online now, I won’t snub traditional media in my search for divorce lawyers near me. After all, advertising in print media conveys a level of professionalism, prestige, and trustworthiness, which most lawyers aim for. So, you will likely still find information about a particular divorce lawyer in channels like the local radio, newspapers, and community boards. I personally love hanging out in local libraries, and I highly recommend you do this as well. Not only will you find directories of excellent local lawyers there. Librarians can also find you other community members who have similar experiences to help you with your search. ## Consult local Bar Associations I also checked local Bar Associations. I mentioned earlier that there should be directories for lawyers in individual states and territories. These were incredible resources for my search for the best divorce lawyers near me. After all, they have firsthand information about local lawyers and are keen to protect the profession’s reputation. So, no bogus or incompetent lawyers are allowed! Many local law societies have websites where you can find names and profiles of lawyers in your area. You can email them using the contact details on the website. Additionally, you can send them a letter or drop by their headquarters to ask for assistance for your search. ## Read reviews and testimonials Once I had a list of divorce lawyers near me, it was time to do some digging about these attorneys. (Just kidding.) Today, you can find online reviews about lawyers in online communities and marketplaces. One online directory, [Lawpath](https://lawpath.com.au/lawyer-directory), lets you see lawyer profiles and star ratings. I recommend going through your list one by one and reading reviews and testimonials about them. As I said previously, most users I have encountered on social media are great people who only want to help. However, stay alert and ensure you are reading reviews from real clients, not bots or paid accounts. ## Turn up at their offices (without an appointment) It’s not a wedding, so it’s definitely okay to gatecrash a lawyer’s office. You might think you look unprofessional, but in my experience, most secretaries won’t mind. You often don’t need to make an appointment to inquire. You’re not asking to see the divorce lawyer, after all. You only want to have a feel of the office, to know if this lawyer feels right for you. Not only that, you can also ask if the lawyer accepts clients with similar cases. If you’re lucky and the firm is generous, you might know the professional and other fees you would have to pay if they take you on as a client. In addition, you will have an idea about the reputation of this particular attorney and what kinds of people they are dealing with. In short, I do recommend showing up at their office, even without calling first. The only risk is that they turn you away, right? ## Act on personal recommendations Don’t dismiss personal recommendations in your quest to find a divorce lawyer. Personal recommendations can make the decision-making process for choosing a divorce lawyer easier and faster. Beyond everything, people around you have your best interests in mind. Friends, family, or acquaintances can offer valuable perspectives on a lawyer’s competence, approach, and success rate. These firsthand accounts will give you an idea of a lawyer’s communication skills, empathy, and courtroom prowess. But remember that every case is different, so combining recommendations with other steps I have listed in this guide ensures a well-informed choice tailored to your unique divorce situation. ## Check they specialise in family law Next, see that they specialise in family law. Of course, many law firms will inform you immediately whether they take on family law or divorce cases. But check it before going into the office or setting an appointment so you save your and their time. There are generalist lawyers who practice a broad spectrum of the law. Typically, these are lawyers who are working in small law firms or general practice firms. Although it’s perfectly fine, and there are many competent generalist lawyers in Australia, they might still refer you to a family law specialist. It will be practical to look for a lawyer specialising in family law from the get-go. ## Book a free consultation (they should have one) It’s a great thing that many law firms in Australia offer free consultations. These are excellent opportunities to get to know a lawyer. Free consultations are usually introductory talks where you decide whether you want a particular attorney to represent you. On your free consultation, your lawyer will not ask for original copies of documents in your case. Lawyers also will not give legal advice during this meeting. Instead, these are some things you will discuss: - A brief overview of your separation - Child custody and visitation plans - Property and asset overview - Immediate concerns - How the family law can help Remember, you don’t have to hire the first lawyer you meet. Take this opportunity to see whether they are a good fit for your needs and means. ## Ask for billing and payment details Pay rate is another critical factor in my quest to find divorce lawyers near me. Being a newly single mum of young girls at that time, I had to make sure I was hiring a lawyer I could actually afford. Legal fees are one of those make-or-break factors that decide whether or not you hire a particular lawyer. Of course, we all want the best lawyers to represent us in court; but in most cases, the best comes with a hefty price. It’s wise to ask for the legal fees upfront so you can have more time looking for attorneys within your location and your budget. As a side note, Australia is known as a global pro bono leader regarding [legal aid](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/). If you cannot afford a family lawyer and believe you qualify for free legal assistance, try pro bono lawyers. ***Further reading: [How to save money on legal fees when you separate.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/save-money-on-legal-fees-when-separate/)*** ## Ensure they have local knowledge for your state Finally – although this should have been placed earlier – make sure the lawyer you have chosen knows about your state laws. This was one of my first considerations when looking for divorce lawyers near me. Although divorce laws are essentially the same throughout Australia, different states and territories have various subcultures, which could affect my chances. This is primarily why I wanted a lawyer in my area. A lawyer from a different state might not be familiar with the local contexts of my divorce. But if you cannot find a suitable divorce lawyer from your state, make sure that the attorney knows the environmental factors that might affect the case. If, like in the movies, your lawyer asks if there is something else they need to know, consider sharing some contexts about your state that can be relevant. Oh, and by the way – and this is basic – make sure they have the license to practice law in your state. ## Final words: How to find excellent divorce lawyers near me? In a nutshell, navigating the world of divorce lawyers near me might have seemed like a steep hill to climb, but armed with a bunch of savvy strategies, I managed to find the perfect legal partner for my unique journey. Divorce isn’t just about paperwork; it’s about emotions and change, which is why having a skilled lawyer is so crucial. Now that you’ve walked through my journey, you’ve got the inside scoop on how to make this crucial decision with confidence. From online research and social media sleuthing to personal recommendations and office visits, each step plays a part in your success story. Remember, every case is different, so blend these steps to match your own adventure. Here’s to finding excellent divorce lawyers near you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyers-near-me/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/divorce-lawyers-near-me/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** family law, legal, attorney, bar associations --- ### [How to prepare for a long car ride with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/long-car-ride-kids/) **Published:** August 19, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Buckle up, because we’re about to embark on the ultimate adventure: A long car ride with kids! Whether it’s a road trip to grandma’s house or a family vacation to a magical wonderland, preparing for hours on the road with kids requires some strategic planning and a dash of humour to keep us sane. In this blog post, I’m excited to share some tried-and-tested tips to make your upcoming car journey smoother than a freshly paved highway. From packing the right snacks (cue the endless snack requests) to unleashing the magic of car games that will keep them entertained without causing “are we there yet?” on repeat. So, tighten your seatbelts, stock up on patience (and maybe some earplugs), and prepare to make this long car ride with kids a journey to remember … for all the right reasons. ## Plan your route with lots of toilet and fun stops Research the best route for your destination in the fastest time while travelling via [fuel stations](http://fuelmap.com.au/index.html), amenities and interesting landmarks. This will allow you to have timely pit stops to use the loo, to refuel, and to make road trip memories. Pulling over to take photos with your kids at beautiful spots, welcome signages, or interesting architecture makes the trip more enjoyable and memorable! ## Pack snacks and drinks To avoid the temptation of pulling into every drive-thru you see and to ensure that you keep moving on the road for as long as you can tolerate, pack snacks and drinks for everyone before setting off. You get to choose what to make and pack (healthy sandwiches and some fresh fruits are always a great option!) and you avoid unnecessary expenses during travel that could easily pile up if you are not mindful. Preparing your own beverages and water also lets you monitor your kids’ fluid intake throughout your journey. ## But don’t let them drink too much before the journey Too much fluid intake before the journey means full diapers in a couple of hours and more toilet breaks along the way. Make sure that everyone has drunk their water for the last time at least 2 hours before you all leave the house. So you and your kids can be reassured against the agony of searching for a loo for several kilometres, make it a habit to remind your kids to use the toilet first before they climb in the car. ## Have a change of clothes at the ready (for them, not you!) Heat, food, dust, and dirt. These could all make your kid’s clothes dirty while you are travelling. Your kids can easily get sweaty too if it’s a hot day, even if they are only napping and getting out for pit stops. Don’t forget to pack an extra set of clothes or a full outfit for the road that your kids can change into should they soil the clothes they are wearing. Opt for pieces that are comfortable and easy to change into; you never know if they will need to change inside the car, on the roadside or a random car park! ## And all the entertainment you can think of Don’t forget bub’s favourite plushie or your little ones iPad when going on a long car ride with kids. Keeping them occupied and entertained during the trip is important so they don’t grow irritable, bored, and uncomfortable with the day-long driving situation. Think tablets, gaming devices, and travel games. Anything that will occupy them while you keep your eyes firmly on the road ahead. ## Download music, audio books and videos But what would be the use of all those devices unless they are uploaded with plenty of games and entertainment? Don’t forget to download all sorts of files that will help you mentally get through the trip when you are on a long car ride with kids. Put in some kid-friendly movies and everyone’s favourite music playlists. And while you’re at it, include some [fun educational games](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/free-educational-websites/) and top-rated audiobooks which are age-appropriate for your kids. ## Charge all devices (don’t forget charging cables) Ensuring devices are fully charged before embarking on a lengthy car journey with kids is key to a peaceful trip! A depleted battery could transform a potentially smooth ride into a chaotic one, with bored and restless children. By preemptively charging tablets, smartphones, and portable gaming consoles, you’re equipping yourself with a valuable arsenal of entertainment. Adequately charged devices not only maintain peace but also provide a sense of security, as they serve as a lifeline for communication and navigation during the journey. ## Have nappies and portable potties at the ready This is important to remember especially if you are travelling overnight. Given the frequent snacking and continuous movement due to travel, nature calls are inevitable. Depending on your route, you may also find yourself driving for an extended period of time with no public bathroom in sight. In these instances, nappies and potties will be a great reassurance for both you and your kids. ## Remember blankets, pillows and comforters Bringing blankets, pillows, and comforters on extended car journeys with children is a wise move. These familiar comforts transform the vehicle into a cozy haven, promoting relaxation and even sleep. Long rides often lead to fatigue and restlessness, especially among youngsters. Having soft pillows and warm blankets at hand can make the difference between a restless trip and a peaceful one. These items not only provide physical comfort but also a sense of security, helping kids feel more at ease in an unfamiliar setting. A well-prepared car becomes a haven of tranquility, ensuring a smoother and more enjoyable journey for everyone. ## Pack clever so you can reach everything Efficient packing for a lengthy car journey with kids involves strategic organisation and foresight! Here are my top tips: - Prioritise essentials like snacks, water, and medication within easy reach. - Utilise space by packing versatile clothing, minimising bulky items. Opt for travel-sized toiletries and a compact first aid kit. - Allocate a bag for each child, including their entertainment essentials like books, toys, and devices. - Use seat-back organisers to maintain order and accessibility. - Pack a separate bag for rest stops, containing extra clothes, wipes, and necessities. - Maximise trunk space by using vacuum bags for bedding and non-essential items. Clever packing ensures a smoother ride, addressing needs promptly while keeping the journey enjoyable. ## Have motion sickness medication if needed Even as an adult, I know the struggle of motion sickness. It’s not fun going somewhere, especially on a long car ride with kids when you (or your child) constantly feels like throwing up or passing out because of growing nausea. Things like this can be avoided if you take some antihistamines that are also prescribed for motion sickness. Make sure to ask your doctor and your pharmacy to find the right medication to take and pack. ## Encourage napping Every few hours, after meal or snack times, encourage your kids to take naps. This will allow them to combat travel fatigue and will give you some peace and quiet as you drive and sit with your own thoughts. I know we’re supposed to have fun with our kids. But after three hours of listening to their audiobooks and hearing them watch all the Paw Patrol they could consume, it’ll be nice to just be able to drive with your preferred music (or silence) as your kids take some much-needed rest. ## Don’t forget the car karaoke As a kid, I am pretty sure I learned all the words to those 80s hair band songs because I belted them out with my dad while travelling to the beach! Long car rides with kids are the perfect venue for karaoke parties with your little ones. Use the trip as an opportunity for music education by Mum and get your kids to fall in love with your favourite songs by giving them positive memories and emotions to associate those songs with. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/long-car-ride-kids/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/long-car-ride-kids/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** car journey, road trip --- ### [8 Ways to teach kids emergency preparedness at home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-emergency-preparedness-home/) **Published:** August 17, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As parents, our top priority is the safety and well-being of our children. Therefore, ensuring our kids are equipped for emergencies is a crucial task that cannot be overlooked. From minor accidents to more significant unforeseen events, teaching our kids emergency preparedness at home empowers them with essential life skills. It instills a sense of confidence in facing the unknown. In this article, I explore age-appropriate discussions, family emergency plans, first aid basics, and engaging activities that will make learning about emergencies educational and fun for our kids. By fostering a prepared and resilient household, we can rest assured that our children will be poised to navigate any unexpected situations. So, let’s embark on this journey together and ensure our little ones are ready to face the world with confidence and strength. ## Have age appropriate discussions Discussing emergencies with your kids is necessary to help them make sense of these situations and cope with their emotions during unexpected circumstances. Failure to do this will make children fearful and anxious when these situations arise. If you’re unsure where to start, here are some resources you may find helpful to teach kids emergency preparedness at home, tailor-fit to their age: - Storybooks and storytelling sessions instil essential information and coping strategies in times of natural hazards and emergencies, even for kids not yet of reading age. Thankfully, you can find a wide array of materials from local libraries and free printable resources such as activity sheets online. [Save the Children](https://www.savethechildren.org/us/what-we-do/disaster-relief-in-america/preparedness) has lessons books and reading lists for kids of various grade levels. - Once your little one turns 3, they can learn to call Triple Zero (000), Australia’s 911. Explain what 000 is, when to call emergency services, and what information to provide once they reach the hotline. [This guide](https://www.getprepared.gc.ca/cnt/plns/mrgncychldrn-en.aspx) from the Canadian government has a section on teaching children about emergency calls. - For older kids, I love this [Teen Prep Kit](https://preparecenter.org/toolkit/teenprepkit/) from PrepareCenter.org. It has fun modules and videos created especially for teenagers and how they can confidently handle different emergencies. ## Identify potential risks Knowledge is power, so being aware of potential risks is the first step when you teach kids emergency preparedness at home. Bushfires, extreme heat, and storms and floods are some natural hazards we experience here in Australia. It’s important for your kid to acknowledge the risks they could face where they live to prepare better. Aside from natural hazards, study your neighbourhood. Traffic accidents, home theft, and school shootings are realities in some areas. Teach your kid how to prevent them, as well as how to keep themselves safe when facing these situations. ## Create an emergency plan An emergency plan is crucial to ensure the safety and well-being of your kid. Additionally, if you have family members with special needs (like your senior parents or persons with disabilities) and pets, the more you need an emergency plan to give them a better chance for survival. Typically, an emergency plan looks includes: - An evacuation plan, or where your child can go, how to get there, and what to do when they get separated from you - A go-bag, or a kit that contains emergency items like snacks, water, first aid, IDs, and other comfort stuff - An [emergency contact list](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/emergency-contacts-fridge/) which contains contact information of emergencies and relatives to call when help is needed. Remember to thoroughly discuss and regularly practice possible emergency scenarios so your child will build more confidence when/if the real thing happens. ## Instruct them how to call 000 As I mentioned earlier, children as young as 3 can learn to call emergency services. Unfortunately, a 2021 study revealed that 91% of kids don’t know how to call 911 – the counterpart of 000 in North America. Don’t let your kid be part of that statistic! Aside from instructing your child how to call 000, minimise the barriers to successfully placing an emergency call. For example, you can turn off password protection or set up 000 as the emergency number on your child’s smartphone. If you opt not to give your kid their phone, make sure they can easily access your smartphone and how to bypass your passcode. ## Teach them basic first aid Basic first aid is essential when you teach kids emergency preparedness at home. This critical skill will help your kid during different medical situations. Did you know you can teach your child about basic first aid and CPR as early as 6? Simple techniques such as putting on a band-aid, applying pressure to a bleeding wound, putting an ice pack over a swollen injury, or applying cold water on burns are doable for kids in kindergarten. As they grow, you can add more complex first aid knowledge. Handling ointments and medicines, CPR, and Heimlich manoeuvre can be taught when they are older. Of course, you can only teach then as much as you know, so consider updating your skills with a reputable first aid course. ## Do some safety drills Regular emergency drills are a requirement in schools and workplaces here in Australia. Why not do the same at home? Before you start with your drills, create an evacuation map for your home. Walk through the map with your kid, familiarising them with different areas of your house. Instruct them how to get out of any room in times of emergencies, as well as when it is safe to go back. Alongside safety drills, actually keep your house safe! Make efforts to minimise obstructions in your house. If needed, design your place in such a way that kids can get out safely and quickly. Secure heavy, bulky furniture on the walls, and keep breakable objects out of the way. ## Encourage confidence Things might not go exactly as planned during a disaster, but adequate education and practice give your kid a better chance to keep a level head and know what to do when emergencies happen for real. Make sure that your child thoroughly understands every element of your emergency plan. Give them positive reinforcements when they take your safety drills and lessons seriously. When you teach kids emergency preparedness at home, involve them every step of the way. Ask for their ideas and opinions, and find a way to include their inputs in your plans. For example, when my second daughter was younger, she always asked to pick out the snacks to include in our go-bags, so we gave her that duty. This simple thing made her feel that her role is important, making her more confident in her knowledge. ## Be calm and reassuring Maintaining a calm and reassuring demeanour while preparing kids for emergencies is paramount. Your composed presence serves as a stabilising force, quelling their fears and uncertainties. Use age-appropriate language to explain potential situations and safety measures, avoiding unnecessary details that might overwhelm. Emphasise that preparedness is a family effort, fostering a sense of unity and security. Address their concerns with patience and empathy, validating their emotions. Engage in practice drills and discussions, showcasing confidence in the plans you’ve crafted together. By radiating reassurance, you empower children to approach emergency preparation with a balanced mindset, enabling them to navigate challenges with a greater sense of tranquility. ## Conclusion: Teaching kids emergency preparedness at home Guiding kids through the process of emergency preparedness at home is a vital responsibility that instils invaluable skills and confidence. Age-appropriate discussions about potential risks and safety measures are crucial, as they help children process emotions and reduce anxiety when faced with unexpected situations. By involving them in creating an emergency plan, teaching them how to call for help, imparting basic first aid knowledge, and conducting safety drills, you equip them with the tools needed to respond effectively. Your calm and reassuring demeanour throughout this process provides a strong foundation, ensuring that your children approach emergencies with a sense of unity, security, and tranquillity. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-emergency-preparedness-home/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/kids-emergency-preparedness-home/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Household **Tags:** 000, emergency plan, emergency call, first aid --- ### [Bird nesting after divorce: How to make it work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/no-nonsense-tips-for-bird-nesting-after-divorce/) **Published:** August 17, 2023 **Author:** Sallyanne Hartnell **Content:** Bird nesting or a birds nest divorce is a simple idea: After a couple has separated or divorced, the kids remain living in one home space while the separated parents move in and out on a rotating basis, much like birds alighting from the nest. Each parent has a second living space where they spend time when not in primary carer role. Some rent or live in a share house while some separated couples share a common apartment where they each spend time when not in the ‘nest’. ## The positives of bird nesting after separation There are many positives to the arrangement. Maggie (names changed), who lived a bird nesting divorce with her kids then aged 8 and 12, and their Dad for a period of 18 months says that her children ‘barely noticed’ their parents’ separation during that phase. For her now grown daughter Anna especially, the more difficult and traumatic period was post bird nest, when she and her brother were transitioning back and forth between the [two separate homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) their parents created. For many kids of separated parents, this shifting back and forth between two homes is not only practically but also emotionally challenging. Forgotten security toys, homework or soccer boots combined with the challenge of different spaces, different routines and different rules can be hard. A bird nest arrangement minimises the complexities of [moving your children’s belonging between two homes during handover.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-superb-ideas-for-moving-kids-stuff-during-handover/) ## The negatives of bird nesting after separation Of course, it’s not all easy. There are some negatives to be aware of if you are thinking of a bird nesting arrangement for your family. Firstly, the logistical complexity of coordinating parental schedules and maintaining separate living spaces can be overwhelming. The constant transition between two homes can create a sense of instability for children, as they may struggle to adjust to the changing environment. Additionally, bird nesting requires a high level of communication and cooperation between parents. Miscommunication or unresolved conflicts between parents can lead to tension and negatively impact the children’s emotional well-being. However, these challenges can be mitigated through thoughtful solutions. Open and effective communication is essential; parents should establish clear guidelines, boundaries, and expectations. Creating a detailed schedule and adhering to it can provide a sense of routine for children. I delve into these solutions later in this article. ## Bird nesters are better off financially Financially, too there can be positives. Maintaining two homes large enough for children, close to school and other activities; duplicating clothes, toiletries, furniture, books and toys, is expensive, especially when each home remains ‘empty’ of kids for a portion of time. A smaller, modestly furnished second home(s) or share houses for parents can, in some situations, be a cheaper option. With the challenges it brings, a bird nest care arrangement will work for some, but not all separating families. Negotiating as separated co-parents can be tricky even when you aren’t sharing a living space. The cost of maintaining two or even three residences will be prohibitive for many families. And doing all of this while dealing with the demise of your relationship as a couple will be too much for many. ## When does bird nesting work? Most experts, including Melbourne based couples’ counsellor [Jo Heriot](http://www.joheriot.com/Counselling.html) agrees it’s an arrangement that works best in the short to medium transitional period. It allows everyone to adjust, properties are settled, longer term housing options are secured, and parenting arrangements made, rather than as a long term or permanent plan. Both parents need to be committed to raising their children co-operatively and jointly for it to be a viable and successful solution. They need to able to put the best interests and needs of the children as well as their responsibilities as parents / co-parents above their own personal self-interest. It requires co-operation, clear, calm, open communication and works best when care is evenly shared between parents rather than one being the primary care giver and the other the ‘visiting’ parent who is present only for short periods of time. So, if you are considering a bird nest divorce, here are 10 tips to help you make it a smooth solution for your family. ## 10 No nonsense tips for bird nesting after divorce ## 1. It’s the kids house View the ‘nest’ as the KIDS home. It’s no longer the family home (if it ever was). It’s not ‘yours’ or ‘ours’. It’s the kids house. So, when the floors need mopping, the toilet needs cleaning or the lawn needs mowing, neither of you feels resentful that your co-parent hasn’t done it. You just DO IT because it needs to be done IN YOUR KIDS HOUSE. ## 2. The money stuff when bird nesting Be clear and have a detailed, written plan of how costs will be shared in the kids’ house and who is responsible for what including utilities, groceries, garden, maintenance and repairs. Who actually PAYS the bills? Oven or hot water service needs replacing? Who pays? Is everything 50/50 or is the percentage weighted differently due to your family circumstances? Open a joint account, with equal visibility, specifically for running the household. Each parent deposits a set amount per month, and agreed expenses are paid using the joint funds. Clearly outline what is / is not to be paid from the account, how much each should contribute and when deposits are due. Review it regularly. ## 3. Bird nesting and communication Clear and calm [communication](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/) is crucial. You will need regular check-ins – between co-parents and between kids and co-parents. Formalise these if necessary, with a set day per month to catch up and discuss anything that’s come up or needs tweaking. Have a communication board in a prominent place, or use one of the many awesome [co-parenting apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2019/) available so all members of the household can track what’s going on, and what’s coming up. Whenever possible, make decisions together as a family, especially if arrangements need amending or changing. Keep the nest as clear of [conflict](https://www.reflectcoaching.com.au/reflectblog/2019/2/14/20-tips-for-a-low-conflict-divorce) as you can and, when it inevitably arises, stick to the issue at hand and find an amicable solution. ## 4. The grunt work Have a clear outline of household duties with both parents contributing as equal partners, including: - Shopping - Washing - Cleaning - Maintenance Whatever your arrangement while you were togethe/ married, it’s different as bird nesting co-parents. It’s 50/50. Agree on a roster. Each parent cleans the home at the end of their time, leaving it tidy for change over. Agree on what ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’ means and be prepared to compromise. Have an agreed basic shopping list, so no-one arrives to the nasty surprise of an empty fridge, a bare pantry or toilets sans paper. Remember to frame these tasks as ‘for the kids’ rather than your co-parent. ## 5. Equality and respect Recognise and value each other as equal in the lives of your kids. They need BOTH of you. You both have equal rights, deserve equal respect and share equal responsibility. This is the path you’ve chosen jointly because you BOTH love and are deeply committed to raising your kids as best you can. Don’t talk badly of the other parent. EVER. Don’t take each other for granted. You need each other because your kids need BOTH of you. ## 6. Keep the rules consistent No-one gets to be the ‘fun’ parent, leaving the other to do the hard, everyday stuff. Develop, write down and stick to a co-parenting agreement. Review it over time. Keep the rules and expectations consistent, while still honouring each other’s different parenting styles. As best you can, keep structure and routine the same regardless of which parent is in the nest. This is one of the major benefits of a bird nesting arrangement for kids – routines don’t change, only the parent present. ## 7. Privacy, boundaries and dating You each need a private space within the kids’ house. Your private space should remain exactly that – PRIVATE. As should your co-parents’ space. Don’t overstep that boundary. Regarding possible dating, Jo says: > *‘Bringing new partners into the nest can be confusing for the kids and activating for the other parent’.* She suggests it is wise to adopt a ‘no dates in the nest’ policy. If dating occurs, it is best kept outside the home space. Be clear on exactly when handover is – day, date and time. Maggie and her family chose midday, rather than at the beginning of the day when everyone is rushing to get to school and work, or at the end, when everyone is tired and grumpy. With one parent responsible for drop off and the other for pick up, this arrangement also minimises hand over [anxiety in the children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do/). ## 9. Teamwork Once you’ve set the nest timetable, stick to the routine, but support each other by sharing the challenges of co-parenting when required. Be flexible when you can but ensure this is appreciated and a two-way street. If one is always flexing to help the other, it’s unsustainable. Help each other – you’re a team and it’s a great way to teach your kids about collaboration and co-operation. ## 10. Tolerance and patience Know what each other’s triggers are, acknowledge your own, and decide what you can tolerate in the other for the sake of peace in your kids’ house. Nesting requires infinitely more patience, compromise and tolerance of the differences of each parent and their living style. The very things you argued about while you were together remain the things you will likely bicker about as bird nesters. ## Final words on bird nesting after separation Bird nesting can be a great transitional situation for kids but is not without challenges. Remaining in what was the family home can trigger emotions from past events, both happy and not so happy, while everyone is learning to navigate something new. For parents and kids alike, it can be hard to accept the changes and move on emotionally while still tied to the family home and to a certain extent, each other. But Bird Nesting gives everyone time to adjust. Maggie’s advice is to ‘trial it and see how it goes. If it gets too hard, think of the next steps, plan them out and move forward slowly’. It takes a great deal of energy for parents to balance their co-parenting relationship in its new form. Ultimately, to nest or not to nest will depend on your family’s ability to create and maintain this balance. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/no-nonsense-tips-for-bird-nesting-after-divorce/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/no-nonsense-tips-for-bird-nesting-after-divorce/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation, Shared parenting **Tags:** co parenting, bird nesting, living in one home, birds nest divorce --- ### [10 Domestic violence charities to get help in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/domestic-violence-charities-australia/) **Published:** August 12, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** If you are a woman in Australia experiencing any form of domestic violence, know that you are not alone. Amidst the shadows, there shines a glimmer of hope in the form of dedicated domestic violence charities that provide crucial support and aid to those in need. We understand that reaching out can be difficult, but remember that your safety and well-being matter above all else. This article presents ten compassionate domestic violence charities that stand ready to support and uplift you during these difficult times. These charities offer various services, including confidential helplines, safe shelters, counselling, legal aid, and more. Never hesitate to take the first step toward seeking help. Never forget, you deserve a life filled with love, respect, and dignity, and these organisations are here to help you reclaim it. ## 1800Respect An easy to remember lifeline is offered by 1800Respect to Australians who are struggling with abuse, be it physical or psychological. It is one of the leading domestic violence charities and hotlines that cater to thousands of DV and abuse victims all over Australia. 1800Respect’s reliable services include safety planning and providing 24/7 confidential counselling to those who seek their help. - ***1800Respect number:*** *[1800 737 732](tel:1800737732)* - ***1800Respect [website](https://www.1800respect.org.au/)*** [![1800Respect | domestic violence charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/Screenshot-2023-10-19-at-9.08.11 am-1-1200x474.png "Screenshot-2023-10-19-at-9.08.11 am-1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.1800respect.org.au/) ## Friends With Dignity One of the most notable domestic violence charities in Australia positions itself uniquely and fills the gap in helping DV and abuse survivors. Friends With Dignity operates only through registered referring agencies and ensures anonymity of the referrals/clients throughout their process of assistance. The organisation provides help in transitioning survivors into independence with the “little” huge things. This may include helping a family obtain necessary home appliances after moving, gathering skill resources for mums who may need driving lessons and job training, and collecting funds for removal from a violent home. Volunteers and donations are accepted and utilised to accommodate as many referred clients as possible. - ***Friends With Dignity number:*** *1300 512 393* - ***Friends With Dignity [website](https://www.friendswithdignity.org.au/)*** [![Friends With Dignity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-7-1200x547.png "image-7 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.friendswithdignity.org.au/) ## Lifeline Lifeline offers a safe and non-judgmental space to communicate and intervene for callers who are in emotional distress or are contemplating suicide and holding out their last string of hope. The organisation’s services can be urgently accessed through call, text, and chat. Their hotline and website are important to take note of whether you are a DV and abuse survivor or not. Suicide prevention is our responsibility especially when we have the power to help someone who is struggling and seeking an early exit from this life due to pressure, depression, or other mental health issues. - ***Lifeline number:*** *13 11 14* - ***Lifeline [website](https://www.lifeline.org.au/)*** [![Lifeline | domestic violence charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-8-1200x540.png "image-8 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) ## The Salvation Army An international Christian movement founded in London and known for their work with the homeless and their charity shops all over the world, The Salvation Army has services that cater to families affected by domestic violence and abuse. The organisation also helps in risk assessment and planning for the removal of victim-survivors from violent homes. They also assist to address survivors and families’ homelessness, unemployment, and poverty that could be directly caused by domestic violence. - ***The Salvation Army number:*** [*13 SALVOS (13 72 58)*](tel:137258) - ***The Salvation Army [website](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/)*** [![The Salvation Army](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-9-1200x540.png "image-9 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/) ## RizeUp RizeUp is an Australian organisation that works in partnership with registered domestic violence agencies to augment the services they provide. They have helped more than 13,000 families move towards peace and safety, away from domestic violence. By accepting and distributing donations and training volunteers to assist victim-survivors, RizeUp helps local domestic violence charities and urgent care teams attend to clients in a more efficient and anonymous fashion. - ***RizeUp number:*** *1800 633 937 (domestic violence referral line)* - ***RizeUp [website](https://www.rizeup.com.au/)*** [![RizeUp | domestic violence charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-10-1200x542.png "image-10 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.rizeup.com.au/) ## Red Rose Foundation The foundation aims to help address the darkest and most unfortunate aspect of domestic violence: death. They organise “Red Rose rallies” to honour and remember those killed in domestic violence. The foundation also has programs to support surviving families of those killed and inform the media about domestic violence related deaths. Red Rose Foundation recognises that strangulation is one of the highest risk indicators to domestic violence related homicides and premature deaths. The foundation believes strangulation is a particularly high-risk form of domestic violence that needs a specialised response. In response, Red Rose Foundation provides information, resources and therapeutic support, available to women in Australia who survived the trauma of non-fatal strangulation in their experience of domestic violence. - ***Red Rose Foundation number:*** *(07) 3065 9043* - ***Red Rose Foundation [website](https://www.redrosefoundation.com.au/)*** [![Red Rose Foundation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-11-1200x545.png "image-11 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.redrosefoundation.com.au/) ## Mission Australia In Australia, domestic and family violence is the leading cause of homelessness for women and children. With Mission Australia’s objective to help eradicate homelessness in the country, programs are implemented to assist with safety planning, help victim-survivors obtain legal services, and improve families’ social welfare through professional services and acommodation. - ***Mission Australia number:*** [*1800 88 88 68*](tel:1800%2088%2088%2068) - ***Mission Australia [website](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/)*** [![Mission Australia | domestic violence charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-12-1200x544.png "image-12 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/) ## Next Steps Specialising in homelessness assistance for domestic and family violence victim-survivors, Next Steps creates and provides Starter Packs for their clients through the kindness of donors and supporters. Next Steps continuously collects donations and works through community partners with the objective of helping restore dignity and provide safe and clean materials to families fleeing domestic violence. - ***Next Steps number:** +61 1300 888 619* - ***Next Steps [website](https://www.nextstepsaustralia.org.au/)*** [![Next Steps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-13-1200x540.png "image-13 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.nextstepsaustralia.org.au/) ## Beyond DV Beyond DV aims to empower and support women and children victim-survivors in the Brisbane area (and for those willing to travel) as they rebuild their lives after domestic violence. As with many domestic violence charities, Beyond DV was borne out of a lived experience helping a loved on who happens to be a victim-survivor. The organisation focuses their work on their identified Five Pillars of Recovery: Social Connection, Legal Support, Health Support, Housing Support, and Financial Rebuilding. - ***Beyond DV [contact form](https://www.beyonddv.org.au/contact/)*** - ***Beyond DV [website](https://www.beyonddv.org.au/)*** [![Beyond DV | domestic violence charities](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-15-1200x523.png "image-15 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.beyonddv.org.au/) ## White Ribbon Seeing the dominant prevalence of domestic violence and abuse being directed towards women by men, White Ribbon aims to eliminate gendered violence through primary prevention. The organisation puts focus on educating and mobilising men and boys (and the community) to take action against violence and abuse. By implementing evidence-based and research-backed strategies and activities in the community, White Ribbon works towards fostering discussion and encouragement among men to champion for women’s safety. - ***White Ribbon number:*** *08 6370 0600* - ***White ribbon [website](https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/)*** [![White Ribbon](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/image-16-1200x542.png "image-16 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/)### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/domestic-violence-charities-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/domestic-violence-charities-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** support, abuse, dv, violence --- ### [How using the grey rock method for co-parenting saved me](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/grey-rock-method-for-coparenting/) **Published:** August 11, 2023 **Author:** Amelia (Anon) **Content:** Co-parenting is hard at the best of times. Include narcissism in the mix and it can equate to a whole new kind of chaos. For anyone who has ever gone through a divorce or separation when children involved, you know how many challenges there are to deal with. There are custody arrangements, financial and property settlements, communication barriers and conflict. Then, let’s not forget the emotional turmoil that comes with all of that – both personally and from the children’s point of view. Dealing with a narcissist adds to the pressure. It is very likely you’ll get to see how insidious they truly are during this process … not to mention childish – narcissistic tantrums are a very real, pathetic thing). ## Narcissists use their kids to play the game Unlike those of us who have normal human qualities like empathy and compassion, the narcissist does not, and will use every single trick in their monstrous book to use you like a puppet, especially when it comes to co-parenting. > So much of their power has been taken away because you’re not in a relationship with them anymore, so what do they have left that can hurt and control you the most? Yep, that’s right – the kids. Sadly, I know this behaviour all too well, and it will heighten your anxiety at a time when you’re trying your utmost to have some semblance of normalcy – for yourself and for your children. Just when you’re beginning to feel like you might be free from the narcissist’s mind games and controlling behaviour, and you couldn’t possibly take on any more heartache and confusion, they start using your children as a way to keep their twisted game going. ## Narcissistic behaviours when co-parenting The narcissist does this in many ways, and unfortunately, I’ve experienced them all. From covert verbal and psychological abuse, threats, and putting me down as a parent. To refusing to spend more time with our children as a manipulative tool to upset me. They all revolve around co-parenting, because the fact is, that is the only thing remaining that enables the narcissist to have any control. Personally, the anxiety from knowing I would have to put up with this for so many years moving forward was extremely overwhelming. After all, ongoing co-parenting with this person is a reality that has to be faced. Knowing that I had to communicate with him for some time as the children grow older meant I had to do something, *anything*, before I completely lost my mind. ## What happened next I found myself reading countless books and articles, and I worked with psychologists looking for any tools to help me manage this battle to maintain my own sanity. But everything I tried seemed to just aggravate the narcissist even more and made things much worse. That was, until I was made aware of the **Grey Rock Method**. This is a method used to prevent the narcissist from getting under your skin. It’s brilliant, I wish I had known about it sooner. In a nutshell, the aim is to have the narcissist become bored of you (like a boring Grey rock that goes unnoticed). To give them absolutely no fuel to continue their twisted games. If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that the fuel they love most is drama. So, giving them little or no reaction is a very powerful one … I learned that very quickly with this method. ## Communication with your narcissistic ex Firstly, I began by changing my communication method to *email only* (but you could even try to use a [communication book](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-book-for-co-parenting/)) where possible. This of course, aggravated the narcissist, but it was the first step I tried in using the Grey Rock Method. I stated everything that needed to be communicated with him about the children simply and professionally. Every word I wrote was brief and to the point. But, here’s the key: I included *zero emotion*. When he begun responding in anger (naturally, because not getting a reaction from you irritates them), I simply reiterated what I had already communicated in exactly the same way. I would state only the facts, and stop responding altogether if the same topic was being re-hashed as a way for him to try and get a reaction out of me. This is so important when using the Grey Rock method for co-parenting. **Note:** The beauty of using email as the main form of communication is that you have everything in writing for legal purposes, and you’re in a better position to reflect before responding. If in doubt, when communicating over the phone or in person, simply request that the communication continue via email. ***Further reading: [Why parallel parenting could be the answer to shared parenting.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parallel-parenting-shared-parenting/)*** ## Direct contact with your narcissistic ex There are times when you must have direct contact when co-parenting with a narcissist. For example, during changeovers with the children. This is what you do: > Do not share any information with them *unless absolutely necessary*. Don’t discuss personal matters or anything to do with the past. Don’t ask them questions unless you need to. Don’t elaborate on any topic. Speak in a monotone voice. To put it simply, be as boring as you can possibly be. They will try to get a reaction from you, any reaction, and you’re not going to give them that satisfaction any longer. Discuss *only* what needs to be discussed and leave it at that. And remember, *zero emotion*. They are no longer entitled to have access to that part of you. **This is where your power lies, and damn it feels good to get back that control so easily.** I thought that this would be the most challenging part of using the Grey Rock method for co-parenting, but I tried it once and it was extremely effective and empowering. It has now become second nature to me. As we know, the narcissist will try anything possible to draw you back in emotionally, and when [communicating with your ex in person](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/), it is easy for them to do so if you’re unprepared. ## How using the grey rock method for co-parenting has helped I have only recently begun to use the Grey Rock method for co-parenting, but the changes I’ve noticed have been incredible and have occurred quite rapidly. Not only have they helped me personally, but it has helped my children because they’ve noticed my tension lift and my anxiety ease. More importantly, now my ex is no longer able to use the children as a manipulative tool against me, he spends more time with them, which is a positive thing for their relationship. Using the Grey Rock method has truly given me a renewed sense of confidence and the ability for me to better handle situations that could otherwise have been nightmares. This includes mediation for parenting arrangements and court proceedings relating to family violence. ## My final words on the grey rock method for co-parenting As I said, in the beginning, using the Grey Rock method for co-parenting aggravated the narcissist, and you know why? Because he realised he was very quickly losing the very last grip of control he had over me. But, after using it consistently for only a couple of months, I can honestly and confidently say that it has worked. The narcissist has completely lost interest in manipulating or trying to get a rise out of me – because I’ve shown him that *he just won’t get it.* For anyone doing shared care with a narcissist (or any [toxic person](https://www.indy100.com/article/10-common-signs-person-is-toxic-reddit-list-8216531)), I encourage you to look into and practice the Grey Rock method for co-parenting. It truly works, and because we want our children to be happy and healthy, it starts with us. Having a successful [co-parenting arrangement with a narcissistic ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/) *is possible*, but first, you must take back the control that they have made you believe for so long that you don’t have. The Grey Rock Method will absolutely remind you just how much power still resides within you. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/grey-rock-method-for-coparenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/grey-rock-method-for-coparenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting **Tags:** narcissistic ex, narc, toxic ex, grey rock --- ### [9 Places to get free legal support in Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/) **Published:** August 10, 2023 **Author:** Ella Hickman **Content:** Are you looking for free legal support in Australia? Navigating the complexities of the legal system can be a daunting task, especially when going through a family separation. Fortunately, there are numerous resources and organisations across the country that offer valuable legal aid without the burden of hefty fees. We understand the importance of having access to legal aid, regardless of one’s financial background, and we hope this compilation will empower you to seek the help you need. Here are nine places you can get free legal support in Australia. ## Legal Aid With offices throughout Australia, [Legal Aid](https://www.nationallegalaid.org/for-individuals/) offers free or low-cost legal services to the community. While some of their services are prioritised to assist disadvantaged and vulnerable people, they can assist people requiring legal advice or have certain questions regarding the law. Their main function is to assist people who may be disadvantaged economically, have a language barrier, live in a remote area or may even be in prison. The level of assistance depends entirely on the actual problem, the person’s personal situation and their own resources. If legal aid are unable to assist, they may refer the person to someone who can. ***Further reading: [What is legal aid and can I get it for my family law case?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/what-is-legal-aid-family-law-case/)*** ## Federal Circuit & Family Court of Australia The [Federal Circuit Court and Family Court](https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/) provides a single point of entry for all family matters, making it easier and simpler for families to resolve their disputes and separate smarter, quicker, safer and with less animosity. Their main aim is for separating couples to avoid lengthy, costly and stressful litigation, by promoting dispute resolution whenever possible. But for cases that need to be settled in Court, this Court provides a more efficient way for separating couples to achieve a settlement. Using the expertise of specialised judges, skilled registrars, court child experts and staff, they’re also able to identify and minimise any possible risks to children or other vulnerable parties, and strive to deliver justice safely and effectively. Some Courts also have duty lawyer services, who can provide advice to self-represented parties. ## Pro Bono Centre The [Pro Bono C](https://www.probonocentre.org.au/legal-help/individual/)[entre](https://www.probonocentre.org.au/legal-help/individual/) provides free or reduced-fee legal assistance to individuals, charities or any other non-profit organisations, who cannot obtain Legal Aid and cannot enter the legal system without incurring financial hardship. They also assist individuals or organisations whose issues raise matters of public interest, are in the interests of low income or disadvantaged people, or are for the public good. ## Community Legal Centres [Community legal centres](https://clcs.org.au/) are independent, non-profit organisations with centres across all states of Australia. They provide free legal services to individuals and communities, especially people experiencing financial hardship, any form of discrimination, disadvantage, or domestic violence and abuse. These non-governmental organisations also provide non-legal support, such as community health organisations, housing services, and drug and alcohol related services. They have assisted many communities across the whole of Australia in metropolitan, rural and even in extremely remote territories. ## Family Relationship Advice Line The [Fa](https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/talk-someone/advice-line)[mily Relationship Advice Line](https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/talk-someone/advice-line) is a national telephone service offers advice and information to anyone who is, or knows someone who is experiencing family or separation problems. It includes parents, children, family members or concerned friends. The assistance and advice offered may include parenting issues, even after a separation, family law information, emotional and practical separating issues, family violence and child abuse. Once the issues are identified, they may refer you to a range of other services that may also assist, such as Centrelink, a child support agency, counselling, family dispute resolution or a legal service. Callers who have a hearing or speech impediment may call through the National Relay Service, and they also provide a line for callers from overseas. The information remains confidential and callers may remain anonymous should they wish. ## Family Advocacy and Support Service The [Family Advocacy and Support Service](https://familyviolencelaw.gov.au/fass/) is a government-funded organisation that has offices in every state and territory across Australia. It provides free legal advice and support for people affected by family or domestic violence. Their website is extremely informative providing useful information and advice on a wide range of family law issues, such as child protection, family violence and how to go about obtaining violence orders. They also offer advice on all divorce and separation matters, such as making parental arrangements, the division of assets and other financial issues, obtaining spousal or child support and even preparing for Court. ## Indigenous Legal Assistance program Through a range of legal aid commissions, Community Legal Centres and family law specialists spread across every state and territory of Australia, the [Indigenous Legal Assistance program](https://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/legal-advice#a5) provides a wide range of free services on all legal matters including family law. They provide advice through information sessions, brochures and telephone lines to disadvantaged or vulnerable individuals or communities who meet the relevant legal aid criteria and guidelines. Eight indigenous organisations ensure that indigenous Australians receive culturally appropriate legal assistance to exercise their legal rights. They achieve that through a number of permanent sites and courts in urban, rural and remote areas. ## Commonwealth Legal Financial Assistance Scheme Another useful place to get free legal support in Australia is through the [Commonwealth Legal Financial Assistance Scheme](https://www.ag.gov.au/legal-system/legal-assistance-services/commonwealth-legal-financial-assistance). A wide range of statutory and non-statutory legal financial assistance schemes are also available from the Attorney-General’s Department. Although each scheme has a different purpose, they are all aimed at people who cannot afford to pay their legal costs. Some schemes are however limited to legal representation costs. Statutory matters apply to current and former Australian Defence Force members who are participating in legal matters arising from the Afghanistan Inquiry, anyone summoned to Court by the Australian Security Intelligence Organisation and also under various other schemes. Non-statutory matters include Commonwealth public-interest cases, or serious overseas criminal and child abduction cases. Application forms can be downloaded and submitted online along with the relevant required attachments. ## Initial Consultation with a Family Lawyer As some of these organisations’ requirements and procedures can be fairly complex and difficult to understand and navigate, it can be helpful to attend an initial consultation with a trusted family lawyer, before applying for any free legal assistance. Some family lawyers offer a free initial consultation which can help you work out what assistance you need depending on your individual situation. ***Further reading: [How to find an excellent divorce lawyer near me.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divorce-lawyers-near-me/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/free-legal-support-australia/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law **Tags:** family court, legal aid, pro bono, community legal centre --- ### [15 Brilliant charities that help single mothers](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/charities-help-single-mothers/) **Published:** August 8, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** We are very lucky here in Australia to have lots of brilliant charities that we can reach out to during our times of struggle. Many of them have plenty to offer us single mothers. Whether you are in need of emotional, practical or financial support, you don’t have to look far to find a helping hand. Often the hardest parts are accepting you need help, and then finding it. For this reason, we’ve compiled a list of brilliant charities that help single mums. ***Further reading: [What benefits am I entitled to as a single mum?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/government-benefits-for-single-mums/)*** ## Charities exclusive to single mums ## [Council of Single Mothers and their Children](https://www.csmc.org.au/) The Council of Single Mothers and their Children is one of the foremost charities that help single mums in Australia. Based in Victoria, the CSMC is run by single mothers and has been helping and empowering them since 1969. The non-profit organisation is dedicated solely to supporting single mothers and their children through specialist services. Their priorities include child support, parenting support, affordable childcare and housing, income security, family law, and flexible study and employment. The CSMC focuses on advocacy and collaboration with other organisations, emergency relief, referrals and information, and social connections. This is done mainly through their direct telephone and email support. CSMC is a membership-based community and based on a self-help model. You can access their services and community support by becoming a member for free. Reach out to CSMC if you need help with single mother specialist services. [![Council of Single Mothers and their Children](https://i.ibb.co/LdjKwnQ/1.jpg)](https://www.csmc.org.au/) ## [The National Council of Single Mothers and their Children (NCSMC)](https://www.facebook.com/SingleMumsInfo/) Like the CSMC, the National Council of Single Mothers and their Children (NCSMC) exists to support and empower single mothers, focusing on mothers living in hardship. Founded in the 1970s, the goal of the NCSMC is to eliminate and respond to violence, hardship and domestic violence for single mums and their children. The organisation ensures that single mums have access to information and support they need to make informed decisions and protect themselves and their children. Their three main service areas include assistance for financial hardship, child support and domestic violence. Their website provides links to resources and emergency relief contacts like DHS Centrelink for mothers in financial hardship and those experiencing domestic violence, children experiencing cyberbullying, as well as information on childcare, child support, and family tax benefits policies. Reach out to the NCSMC if you need help with child support, domestic violence and financial hardship. [![CSMC charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/Fkv95hS/2.jpg)](https://ncsmc.org.au) ## Charities that help single mothers emotionally ## [Lifeline](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) It’s not uncommon for single mothers to find themselves in a dark place. When life gets overwhelming, there are multiple charities that help single mums emotionally. One of them is Lifeline. Lifeline is dedicated to providing short-term counselling and support for anyone having a difficult time or feeling hopeless and suicidal. It also helps those who are worried about someone experiencing life’s toughest challenges, from domestic violence to natural disasters. Australia’s helpline provides 24-hour crisis support by phone, text or online chat. You can talk to someone and get compassionate support without judgment. Their non-crisis services include suicide prevention through the Holding on to Hope podcast and community education and advocacy. In addition, Lifeline has multiple centres across the country providing face-to-face counselling and support groups for financial hardship, bereavement, suicide safe training and domestic violence response training. Reach out to Lifeline if you need help with any overwhelming personal crisis. [![Lifeline](https://i.ibb.co/HDBYTDL/3.jpg)](https://www.lifeline.org.au/) ## [Beyond Blue](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) Beyond Blue is another charity that helps single mums experiencing emotional distress. Beyond Blue is not a crisis centre like Lifeline that you can call 24/7, but they provide phone, email and online chat support for people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide. You can discuss your concerns and worries with a trained support specialist or mental health professional and they will point you in the right direction. This service is completely confidential. Beyond Blue has been around for 20 years, and it is the most well-known and visited mental health organisation in the country. Besides counselling, they work with the community, including private and public organisations, to provide resources and information about mental health improvement and suicide prevention. If you need to contact a GP or other mental health professional, head to their website for a directory of practitioners. Reach out to Beyond Blue if you need help with anxiety, depression and other mental health issues. [![Beyond Blue charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/27Hk9bM/4.jpg)](https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) ## [Black ](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au)[D](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au)[og Institute](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au) The Black Dog Institute is a medical research institute solely dedicated to mental health and wellness. Through research, technology, clinical services, education, advocacy, and collaboration with other agencies and community organisations, they aim to create a world that is mentally healthier. Their website is a gold mine of the latest research on anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar disorder, suicide and wellbeing. Besides a one-stop mental health resource, the institute offers a wide range of services to vulnerable groups. Currently, they provide free mental health support for emergency service workers and their loved ones affected by natural disasters. You can connect with support groups in your area, access free apps and digital mental health tools, and get a free online mental health assessment that you can use when you visit your therapist. Also check out their COVID-19 page for resources to deal with stress and anxiety. Reach out to the Black Dog Institute if you need non-emergency mental health and well-being support. [![Black Dog Institute](https://i.ibb.co/vBbrKXH/5.jpg)](https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au) ## Charities for domestic violence ## [1800Respect](https://www.1800respect.org.au/) 1800RESPECT is a national counselling service operating round the clock for those experiencing sexual assault and domestic or family violence/abuse. The helpline provides confidential information, counselling and support services by phone and online chat, and a wealth of information on violence and abuse, including safety planning and supporting someone you care about. It can be difficult for single mums to talk about these issues, so 1800RESPECT ensures that you can talk to a trained counsellor who will listen and provide support based on your unique situation. Counsellors will work with you to identify what you can do and where to get help. You can expect them to talk about ways to improve your safety like building a safety plan, services available to you, such as support groups and counselling, and connect you to local support workers and professionals. Reach out to 1800-RESPECT if you need immediate help with sexual assault and/or domestic violence issues. [![1800RESPECT charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/Y8ynmXy/6.jpg)](https://www.1800respect.org.au/) ## [Friends with Dignity](https://www.friendswithdignity.org.au/) The nonprofit Friends with Dignity is a charity that helps single mums start a new life after surviving domestic violence. Together with refuge and crisis centres, they raise awareness and provide free programs for survivors and those currently experiencing domestic violence (including men and children) in order to reduce instances of domestic violence in the country. To help domestic violence survivors reclaim their dignity, they provide a wide variety of services in areas like emergency relief, housing, and child education. Their Sanctuary program aims to create a safe living environment for survivors by transforming houses into sanctuaries, and their FriendSafe program provides people who have fled violence a personal safety smartwatch to contact emergency services without needing to use a phone. Friends with Dignity works from agency referrals and not directly with individuals, but you can get in touch with them if you would like to apply for a scholarship for your child who is affected by domestic violence. Reach out to Friends with Dignity if you would like to apply for a Little Friends Scholarship. [![Friends With Dignity](https://i.ibb.co/5TmvVfR/7.jpg)](https://www.friendswithdignity.org.au/) ## [White Ribbon](https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/) If you want to be more actively involved in raising awareness of domestic violence in your community, White Ribbon Australia is the charity you need. White Ribbon is the largest movement in the world that engages men and boys to build healthier relationships and eliminate violence against women and girls. They believe that women’s safety is a man’s issue, too, and their main purpose is to mobilise men and boys to take action to end men’s violence and abuse against women. The organisation takes a preventive approach to domestic violence in schools, workplaces and communities through its programs and events. You can get involved by becoming a Community Partner, starting a community action group or response fund, holding an event at your school or workplace, or working directly with White Ribbon. Reach out to White Ribbon if you need help organising a community event to raise domestic violence awareness. [![White Ribbon charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/y6KQwmF/8.jpg)](https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/) ## Charities that offer financial assistance to single mothers ## [National Debt Helpline](https://www.ndh.org.au) If you find yourself suddenly unable to pay bills and urgent expenses, the National Debt Helpline is here to help. It is one of the top charities that help single mums get their financial issues sorted and get back on track. This independent and confidential service is available free of charge to anyone in financial difficulty. You can call the helpline (1800 007 007) or chat online with a financial counsellor who will help assess your situation, provide advice on how to deal with creditors and agencies, and refer you to other support services (including legal, emergency and housing) if needed. For complex financial woes related to situations like domestic violence and mental health issues, the National Debt Helpline offers face-to-face financial counselling. On their website, they also provide step-by-step action plans and e-learning resources for people in these situations. Reach out to the National Debt Helpline if you need help with urgent financial difficulties. [![National Debt Helpline](https://i.ibb.co/YpMnDqw/9.jpg)](https://www.ndh.org.au) ## [Salvation Army Moneycare](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/about-us/our-services/moneycare/) The Salvation Army is a popular charity for crisis relief, but they also provide support services to people struggling with money. Its Moneycare program can help you tackle out-of-control finances fast through counselling, coaching and no-interest loan services. Their trained counsellors are there to listen, help you understand your situation and provide step-by-step advice to end your money worries. Moneycare’s financial counselling service is ideal for those in need of urgent, practical advice, while financial coaching is great for those looking for a long-term plan to reach their financial goals. Their No-Interest Loan Scheme (NILS) if for anyone needing a little extra help, whether it’s to buy essentials, repair your car or supplement a low income. Reach out to Salvation Army Moneycare if you need short- or long-term financial help. [![Salvation Army MoneyCare charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/hWJJ32m/10.jpg)](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/about-us/our-services/moneycare/) ## [The Smith Family](https://www.thesmithfamily.com.au/programs/financial/) While the Smith Family is a children’s charity that helps young disadvantaged Australians with educational programs, they also provide financial support services to families in need. For example, they offer financial assistance for children’s essential education items if you are struggling to pay for your kids’ school things. Their three main financial programs are MoneyMinded, Money Talks and Saver Plus. MoneyMinded is a financial literacy program that helps people make informed decisions in terms of money management. Money Talks is another literacy program helping young people develop positive money habits and skills. Saver Plus is Australia’s longest-running financial education and matched savings program that lets you receive up to $500 to help with education costs. Reach out to the Smith Family if you need help with your kids’ education costs. [![The Smith Family](https://i.ibb.co/t8Y5qGC/13.jpg)](https://www.thesmithfamily.com.au/programs/financial/) ## Charities that help single mothers practically ## [Mission Australia](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/) Homelessness can be one of the biggest challenges for many struggling single mothers. If you are affected, Mission Australia can help. The Christian charity is dedicated to helping individuals and families experiencing homelessness or a housing crisis by providing social housing and other support services, including financial, legal, mental health, employment, skills training and other homelessness services. With nationwide centres, Mission Australia can help you find safe and affordable housing in your area. Mission Australia Housing is a national provider of social and affordable housing with over 3,000 social and affordable homes across NSW, Tasmania and Queensland. The charity works with other agencies to provide research services and advocate for more social and affordable housing in government. If you need more help, they also have other services, from employment and skills training to rehabilitation. Reach out to Mission Australia if you need help finding affordable housing or a safe place to stay for the night. [![Mission Australia charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/GCdvw0K/11.jpg)](https://www.missionaustralia.com.au/) ## [Vinnies](https://www.vinnies.org.au/) Vinnies or the St Vincent de Paul Society is a Catholic charity providing a broad range of services to disadvantaged and vulnerable Australians. Their services include low-income support, housing and homelessness, health, refugees and migrants, indigenous people, and children and education. Volunteers and employees help people find secure and adequately paid work, affordable housing, immediate shelter, food aid, emergency relief, financial assistance and more. If you need local support, go to the Vinnies website and enter your state to see a list of agencies to contact. You can also reach out directly to the Vinnies Helpline on 1800VINNIES (1800 846 643) or chat online at www.qld.vinnies.org.au. Reach out to Mission Australia if you need help with housing, financial or employment issues. [![Vinnies](https://i.ibb.co/N76F0S7/12.jpg)](https://www.vinnies.org.au/) ## [Foodbank](https://www.foodbank.org.au/) Foodbank is the country’s largest food relief organisation that serves as the pantry to Australia’s charities. It is the largest supplier of food and groceries to charities in many states and the biggest supporter of school breakfast programs, providing regular breakfasts to more than 132,000 students. Foodbank does not work with individuals directly, but feeds over a million people each month through agency referrals and requests. With donations from businesses and private individuals, Foodbank is able to source food and groceries from retailers, wholesalers, farmers and manufacturers and distribute them to where they are most needed. If you or your family need food, head to the AskIzzy website and click ‘Food’ and enter your details and location. Or visit the ‘Individuals’ section of their website and choose your state to find a helpline or agency number. Reach out to Foodbank if you need food assistance for you and your family. [![Foodbank charities single mothers](https://i.ibb.co/dbMPWbd/14.jpg)](https://www.foodbank.org.au/) ## [Salvation Army](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/) The international charity Salvation Army is a one-stop social services organisation for anyone in need. Their short- and long-term services cover areas like housing and homelessness, family and domestic violence, financial assistance, employment, housing, disaster/emergency relief, aged care, and much more. They are the largest provider of homelessness services in Australia. If you need temporary shelter, food and emergency financial assistance, contact your local Salvos. For long-term support, such as mental health counselling and financial planning, Salvos can connect you to professionals and social workers who can help. The Salvos website is also packed with information about its services in case you prefer to go the self-help route. Reach out to the Salvation Army if you need emergency accommodation, family and financial support. [![Salvation Army](https://i.ibb.co/jMfYncB/15.jpg)](https://www.salvationarmy.org.au/) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/charities-help-single-mothers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/charities-help-single-mothers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household, Money, Healing **Tags:** domestic violence, support, financial support, mental health, dv, help, charity --- ### [Coping with lack of intimacy when you're single](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/lack-of-intimacy-single/) **Published:** November 2, 2023 **Author:** Dr Karen Phillip **Content:** Lack of intimacy, affection and touch can have detrimental effects on our body and mind. If you have been single for a long time you will know what I mean. Humans are designed to be close, intimate, cuddle and have sex with one another. Being touched is what most of us miss when we are in-between relationships. It is the case for me. While great sex is wonderful and often desired, it’s the cuddles and hugs I crave most. Our bodies know what is required to function properly and research suggests that affection belongs on that list closely behind food, water and rest. We humans need touch; touch is vital for us all. Without human touch, we can feel an increase in anxiety and [depression disorders](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/depression-single-mother/), experience [sleep issues](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-secrets-damn-good-nights-sleep/), and suffer more health issues. Touch can make us feel better, it can alleviate the challenges of the day, release the endorphins in our brain, increase our immunity and create that feel-good sensation we all need. When we are single we often crave that intimate touch, the urge of someone to hold us gently, touch us affectionately, desire us physically and satisfy our sexual passions. Even the most independent person needs the kind of closeness that physical intimacy brings. Longing for intimacy means being human. Touching is healing for us in many ways and cuddling calms the chaos in our busy lives. A woman desires a partner, but she certainly doesn’t need one. A woman does need to be touched because she is human. ***Further reading:***[ ***How to get your sexual needs met as a single mum.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sexual-needs-single-mum/) ## **Understand the importance of intimacy** Don’t sit back and think it’s ok to live without intimacy and the touch of another human. If you are craving it, know that it is perfectly normal. We learned a lot about intimacy during covid when so many people suffered from a lack of physical contact. The [National Library of Medicine](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8424338/) surveyed 1746 people to examine touch experiences during the pandemic and found that: *“Intimate touch deprivation during COVID-19-related restrictions is associated with higher anxiety and greater loneliness.”* For me, understanding that intimacy is a human need and wanting it is normal is the first step to coping and then finding ways to fill the closeness gap. ## **Spend quality time with close friends and family** We all need connection and while family and friends can’t satisfy all our intimacy needs, they can certainly aid us in obtaining the close connection of touch and intimacy of conversation that is equally important in our lives. Take the time to enjoy your family and friends rather than isolate yourself. When single, use the opportunity to catch up with your friends and family that you may not have connected with for a while and do those things you love and enjoy with others. ## **Cuddles and hugs will help with lack of intimacy** When you spend time with family and friends give them a tender hug or cuddle. We all love these, young and old, men and women. If there were more cuddles and hugs in the world people would be far happier, stronger and certainly more resilient within themselves. Again, the pandemic created a void where cuddles used to be, and even now in 2023, people are less likely to reach in for an embrace or a kiss on the cheek. Body connection between two people is invaluable. It is a good feeling for both because you can’t touch without being touched. This is one of the simplest ways to cope with a lack of intimacy when you are between relationships. ## **Try a sensory deprivation tank (float tank)** We know that sex helps release the “feel good” hormones. Sometimes, it’s not the sex we crave, but the need to loosen up and relax. In this case, you might consider checking out a float tank before reaching out for a human. Sensory deprivation tanks, also called isolation tanks or flotation tanks, are known to help in muscle relaxation, sleep improvement, pain reduction, and lessening stress and anxiety. In this treatment, you go inside a soundproof, lightproof, and temperature-controlled room and float in a pool with Epsom salt. I’ve had a few treatment sessions and have ended up feeling fully relaxed. Of course, each of us will experience it differently, so take my experience with a grain of, well, Epsom salt. ## **Lie with your kids (if you have them)** I know a lot of single mums who love co-sleeping with their kids as it fulfils their need for human touch, and their children love it too. And why not? Snuggling up to another person in your sleep is heavenly. Personally, I have never encouraged co-sleeping so would feel selfish to start it now to satisfy my own needs. Instead, I instigate lots of movies and cuddles on the couch together, which we all love. When I lie with my kids I like to stop and focus on the moment. I feel the softness of their skin, the warmth of their body, and the gentle rise and fall of their breath. I fill myself up with the feeling and create a reserve of affection to draw strength from when I feel alone. ## **Have a fling** If you’re craving sex and not looking at getting into a serious relationship right now, it’s okay to have a fling. No shame, no judgement. Do what’s right for you. A fling allows you most of the benefits (aka intimacy) minus the responsibilities of being in a committed relationship. It’s also an excellent way to gauge if you’re ready to engage in something long-term again. If you’ve never been in one before, I suggest trying out [apps designed to find a casual fling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-apps-casual-fling/). They’re fantastic for judgement-free, no-strings-attached arrangements. As always, remember to practice due caution to stay safe. ## **Love your pets** I’m not suggesting you head out and buy a pet to relieve your need for intimacy, although many do. [The Guardian in the US](https://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/2022/jan/21/pets-ownership-pandemic-dogs-cats) reported that: *“Almost 9 million dogs have been acquired by households since the start of the pandemic (a number equivalent to the population of New York City).”* This shows how pets can replace our need for affection if human loving is sparse. My cats have saved me during times of loneliness. And the cuddles are the best. Of course, pets don’t fulfil the human need but they certainly fill a gap. ## **Recognise you don’t need to wait for the perfect long-term partner** Moving back to humans … If you need intimate connection, rather than waiting for that perfect partner, practice. Practice with a person you like and respect. Practice with a person you are attracted to and who respects you. This doesn’t mean get onto everyone you meet, goodness no! It means to consider enjoying a physical connection, without strings. We usually only have difficulty once emotions are escalated and we expect more. Yes, it is acceptable for women to want sex, just like a male. You never know, you might have a friend who feels the same way as you, and you could satisfy one another’s intimacy needs … it’s a win/win. Further reading: [Friends with benefits: 6 Rules to make it work.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/friends-with-benefits-rules-to-make-it-work/) ## **Never feel embarrassed** Never be embarrassed about wanting to feel the gentle touch of another. Our lives are so isolated. Admitting you need to feel that human touch and connection can be seen as weak. It is not, it is normal. Everyone needs touch, to be held and to be sexual. To feel the body of a person next to us, feel the warmth of their breath, the softness of their touch, the power of their arms holding you. Know that seeking this connection is healthy and right, for all of us. ***Further reading:***[ ***10 Mind-blowing vibrators for absolute beginners.***](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-mind-blowing-vibrators-for-absolute-beginners/) ## **Final words on coping with lack of intimacy when you’re single** Being single can have harmful effects on our psyche, especially for those coming from long-term relationships. After all, as humans, it’s natural for us to need physical intimacy. The absence of touch can cause various physical and mental health issues. Sometimes, especially if you’ve been single for a long time and feeling the adverse effects of the lack of intimacy in your body and mind, you wonder if you need to get into a relationship to fill the void. But that’s not always the case – and in fact, you shouldn’t get into a serious relationship just because you’re craving intimacy. In this article, I have listed some genuine, doable ways to cope with the lack of intimacy. You can find the closeness you need from your friends, children, and pets. You can also try meditation and therapies to alleviate stress and anxiety. The key is to recognise that what you’re feeling is normal. There’s nothing to be ashamed of if you find yourself seeking physical touch. Try some of my suggestions to feel loved-up without the commitment of a relationship. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/lack-of-intimacy-single/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/lack-of-intimacy-single/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex, Healing **Tags:** sex, intimacy, feeling alone, lonely, human touch --- ### [15 Positive songs about being single (and why to listen to them)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/positive-songs-being-single/) **Published:** November 2, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I don’t need to tell you how uplifting a good song can be. The right tune can instantly create a great mood. Resonating with the lyrics is even better. So, for all the single ladies out there, this one is for you. Pump up the volume as I share 15 positive songs about being single. Before we get into the grooves, I’d like to share with you: - Why music has the power to put you in a positive mindset - Simple ways to incorporate mood-boosting beats into your everyday life ## Why music puts you in a positive mindset As someone navigating the exciting but sometimes challenging life of a single mum, I can’t emphasise enough how music has been my faithful companion through thick and thin. Listening to my favourite tunes transforms my mood, attitude, and overall outlook on my daily life. Here’s why music puts me in a positive mindset: - **Emotional Resonance:** Music has this uncanny ability to tap into my emotions and make me feel understood. Listening to songs that echo my feelings about being single is like having a heart-to-heart conversation with my favourite artists. - **Empowerment**: Many songs about being single are about embracing independence, and for me that’s incredibly empowering. It reminds me that being alone doesn’t mean [being lonely](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/), and I can conquer life on my own terms. - **Mood Elevation:** A good song has the power to lift anyone’s spirits, even on the gloomiest days. - **Inspiration:** Some single anthems are brimming with inspiring lyrics that [motivate me](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/get-motivated-instant/) to go after my dreams, focus on self-improvement, and make the most of my solo journey. - **Connection:** Music connects me with like-minded individuals who are also navigating the single life. It’s a reminder that I’m not alone in this adventure, and there’s a whole community of singles out there. - **Stress Relief:** Whenever life’s challenges start to overwhelm me, I turn to music. It’s a proven [stress buster](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/stress-relief-10-tips-single-mothers/) that helps me relax and find my centre again. - **Reinforces Positivity:** Positive songs about being single emphasise the importance of self-love and self-worth. They encourage me to be optimistic and focus on the positive side of things and not dwell on what I don’t have. - **Pure Joy:** There’s nothing quite like dancing around my room to my favourite single anthems. The sheer joy of losing myself in the music is an instant mood booster. ## Ways to incorporate more music into your life ### Have a radio in the kitchen I grew up with my Dad and he loved his kitchen radio. It was a car stereo attached to the underside of a kitchen cupboard with 4 speakers built into the ceiling. Weird but great! Although I haven’t gone the car stereo route, I have had a trusty radio in the kitchen of every house I live in. I flick it on first thing in the morning for news (boo) and happy songs (yay). It’s incredible how a good tune can lift your mood. One minute you’re staring aimlessly into the fridge wondering what to feed the kids for brekkie. Next, you’re rocking the kitchen with a spatula microphone. ### Play your fav tunes in the car I bet you’ll agree, but there’s something magical about driving while listening to your favourite tracks. Aside from helping keep your cool during traffic jams, it helps boost your mood especially when driving alone. Whether it’s an uplifting pop song, a classic rock jam, or a soothing ballad, the car becomes a personal concert hall. I remember countless road trips with my daughters, the windows down, and our voices in unison. Music is the soundtrack to unforgettable journeys. ### Have a music hour with the family Family time can be even more memorable with music. My daughters and I started a weekly tradition called “Music Hour.” For an hour every weekend, we each take turns choosing songs. We get to listen to a wide variety of songs, from my youngest’s Taylor Swift favs to my old classics (cue: The Carpenters) that they find cheesy. It’s a bonding experience that spans generations and musical tastes. ### Listen when you wake up or before going to bed There’s nothing better than waking up and starting your day with your favourite song (and a cup of good coffee). The day’s start and end are prime opportunities to incorporate music into your life. I’ve found that starting the day with a soothing melody and capping it with a calming serenade can make a difference. It’s a ritual that enhances both my mornings and nights. ### Invest in good headphones Good headphones are worth their weight in gold. Whenever I have mine on, the world around me disappears, and I’m transported into a dimension filled with my favourite songs. Whether you’re commuting, working, or just taking a moment for yourself, investing in quality headphones ensures you get the best musical experience. ### Get a waterproof speaker for your shower Shower time can be an oasis of relaxation, and music can make it even more rejuvenating. I recently purchased a [waterproof speaker for my shower](https://bigw.sjv.io/BXJMy0), and it’s a game-changer. I no longer have to worry about getting water splashed around while bouncing to my jam. Singing in the shower is taken to a whole new level when your favourite tunes are right there with you. ### Change alarm or ringtone to your favourite song The sound that greets you each morning sets the tone for the day. Instead of a standard alarm, I’ve set my favourite song as my wake-up call. It turns the abrupt jolt into a gentle, musical awakening that puts a smile on my face. You can also do the same to your ringtone. It’s a sure mood booster every time your phone rings and your fav tune plays out of the blue. Just don’t get too hooked, you might forget to answer the call, lol. ### Create playlists you love Playlists are like tailor-made soundtracks for the moments that matter most in your life. I’ve found that creating personalized playlists lets me have the perfect audio backdrop for any occasion. Each one is distinct and unique, reflecting my mood and taste. For those high-energy moments, like workouts or road trips, I have playlists filled with energizing tracks that get my heart racing and my confidence soaring. On lazy Sunday afternoons, I turn to a different kind of playlist, one that’s brimming with mellow, soothing melodies. These are the songs that make me forget about the world’s hustle and bustle. You can also craft playlists based on how you’re feeling – for good vibes, when you’re frustrated, or when you want to calm down. ### Attend music events There’s nothing like the energy of a live music event. I’ve made it a point to attend concerts, festivals, and local gigs whenever I can. For those precious hours, it’s just me, the music, and nothing else. Worries, bills, and deadlines are out the window, and I’m floating in a bubble of sonic joy. For me, the palpable connection between the crowd and the artist is something you can’t replicate. It’s an experience that you can remember whenever you feel low. ### Meditate with music Picture this: a cozy corner, a comfy cushion, and a gentle, melodic soundtrack that carries you away. When I need to unwind after a long, hectic day, music meditation is my go-to remedy. The harmonious tunes create a serene atmosphere where stress and worries can’t find a way in. ## 15 Positive songs about being single ## 1. I don’t need a man ### By The Pussycat Dolls As far as female empowerment goes, this song has it all. And trust me when I say that singing ‘I don’t need a man’ at the top of your voice makes you feel good. Sung by American all-girl, The Pussycat Dolls, it was a hit across the globe and is a fav for car karaoke or a weights workout. ## 2. Flowers ### Miley Cyrus Who said you can’t buy yourself flowers? Well, Miley Cyrus disagrees! As someone who just got divorced, her lyrics totally hit the spot. This pop song talks about self-love, happiness, and contentment in being alone. It empowers us single people that no one can love you better than you. ## 3. Woman ### Kesha Whenever I need to seize the day, this song is my go-to. Its uplifting beat and lyrics boost my self-esteem. It’s a reminder of how fun it is to be single and independent. If you’re a woman who buys her own things and does what she wants without worrying about what others think, this song is for you. ## 4. Single ladies ### Beyonce My list of positive songs about being single will not be complete without this masterpiece. This Grammy-winning Beyonce hit radiates good vibes and positivity all over. I bet you love dancing to it too! ## 5. Miss me more ### Kelsea Ballerini Just got off from a toxic and draining relationship? This is your jam! It’s true that sometimes you can lose yourself when loving someone and giving it your all. Sometimes it leads to changing yourself just to please your partner, After listening to this tune, you’ll definitely regain your confident old self. ## Positive songs about being single (cont.) ## 6. I am Not a Woman, I’m a God ### Halsey This song may have a chill, punk-like beat, but it sure has some powerful lyrics. It tackles womanhood and pregnancy, including the pressure put on us by our society. It also emphasizes the important roles of women, especially mums. ## 7. Never not gonna dance again ### Pink This single exudes nothing but good vibes. It urges you to keep the dance floor as your happy place. It’s about being single and not letting that fact hold you back from enjoying life to the fullest. Its infectious beat and catchy lyrics are an encouragement to savour every moment. ## 8. Single ### Natasha Bedingfield Natasha Bedingfield’s ‘Single’ is an empowering track that celebrates the freedom and possibilities of being unattached. It talks all about self-discovery and the thrill of independence. The track’s uplifting message reminds us that being single can be an incredible phase of personal growth and adventure. ## 9. Independent women ### Destiny’s Child This timeless classic defines the essence of self-sufficiency. It’s a declaration of financial independence and self-reliance, emphasizing that a woman can achieve anything on her own. It encourages single ladies to take charge of their lives, careers, and most importantly, their happiness. ## 10. Stronger ### Britney Spears ‘Stronger’ is an iconic track that encourages resilience and personal growth. It talks about bouncing back from adversity and coming out even stronger. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, as they say. The infectious melody and Britney’s confident vocals are a reminder that challenges can be the stepping stones to greater strength and independence. ## 11. Roar ### Katy Perry Katy Perry’s ‘Roar’ is a track about letting your voice be heard, embracing your power, and roaring like a champion. The song’s bold lyrics and catchy tune make it a fantastic choice for anyone looking to assert their independence and confidence. ## 12. Kings & Queens ### Ava Max ‘Kings & Queens’ by Ava Max is all about rising to your full potential and celebrating your worth. It’s a daring proclamation of self-confidence and the realization that we are all the rulers of our own destinies. I love the song’s energetic sound and uplifting message. To all the headstrong queens out there, this is your anthem. ## 13. On my own ### Ricki Lee ‘On My Own’ is a heartfelt ballad that tells the story of someone who’s embracing their independence. It’s a powerful declaration of self-reliance. It’s a track that says you’re not afraid to go your own way, follow your path, and stand on your own two feet. The raw emotion in the song makes it an anthem for single people who are trying to find their own way in the world. ## 14. Sorry Not Sorry ### Demi Lovato Payback really is bad b\*tch, isn’t it? There’s no better revenge than being the best version of yourself. This song talks about being unapologetic for self-confidence and self-expression. It’s a testament to personal power and a reminder that it’s okay to assert yourself and demand respect. So if you’re looking for a feisty post-breakup song, this song is perfect. ## My final selection of positive songs about being single ## 15. Get Ur Freak on ### Missy Elliott Last on my list of songs about being single is ‘Get Ur Freak on.’ This Missy Elliot classic is a fierce, bold track that encourages you to embrace your unique style and not be afraid to stand out. It’s a track that’s all about letting loose, dancing like no one’s watching, and being true to yourself. The high-energy and contagious rhythm of the song makes it my personal choice during my workout sessions. ## Hope you love my list of positive songs about being single Incorporating music into your life isn’t limited to just listening. It’s about embracing it in various aspects of your daily routine. So let’s turn up the volume and embrace these songs about being single. They remind us that being single is an incredible journey filled with independence, growth, and opportunities for self-discovery. Let the music be your guide to maintaining a positive and empowered mindset on this solo adventure. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/positive-songs-being-single/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/positive-songs-being-single/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** motivated, music, singing --- ### [The ultimate guide to restaurant hopping: A culinary adventure](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/restaurant-hopping/) **Published:** December 14, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Embarking on a culinary adventure through restaurant hopping is more than just a series of meals — it explores flavours, ambience, and the diverse culinary landscape. But if you’re new to the wonders of gastronomic adventures, restaurant hopping may seem like an intimidating activity. But it doesn’t have to be! Following the guide below, you can ensure your restaurant-hopping experience becomes a memorable and satisfying culinary odyssey. ## Planning Your Culinary Expedition Before you set out on your restaurant-hopping adventure, meticulous planning is essential. Research the culinary scene in your chosen area, exploring a mix of renowned establishments and hidden gems. Consider factors such as cuisine variety, ambience, and distance between venues. The key is to balance diverse offerings, ensuring a well-rounded experience. Additionally, leverage online resources and platforms to read reviews and gather insights from fellow food enthusiasts. Pay attention to unique dishes or specialties at each location, as this will add depth to your gastronomic journey. Consider the company you’ll bring along. You can skip this if you plan to go alone, but it’s an essential consideration for those who want to bring friends or family along. If you’re going with friends, discuss the itinerary according to all your wants, preferences, and dietary restrictions. Or if you’re bringing your kids along, make sure they’re comfortable during the trip from one restaurant to another by getting them a car seat from the [Maxi Cosi homepage](https://www.maxi-cosi.com.au/). By crafting a thoughtful plan, you set the stage for a seamless and enjoyable restaurant-hopping experience. ## Navigating Culinary Diversity One of the joys of restaurant hopping is the opportunity to savour many flavours. From the spicy aromas of an authentic Indian dish to the comforting warmth of Italian pasta, each restaurant contributes a unique note to your culinary symphony. When navigating this diversity, be open to trying new cuisines and dishes that push your palate beyond its comfort zone. Engage with chefs and staff to gain insights into the inspiration behind each creation. This not only enhances your dining experience but also provides a deeper understanding of the cultural influences that shape each culinary masterpiece. The key is embracing the diversity on your plate, allowing each restaurant to tell its delicious story. ## Mastering the Art of Pairing No culinary adventure is complete without the perfect beverage pairing. Whether you’re indulging in a fine wine at a French bistro or sipping on a craft beer at a local gastropub, the art of pairing enhances the overall dining experience. Take the time to understand the nuances of each dish and experiment with different pairings to discover the perfect harmony between food and beverage. Engage with the restaurant’s sommelier or beverage expert to gain insights into recommended pairings. Don’t be afraid to explore unconventional combinations—sometimes, the most delightful surprises come from unexpected matches. Doing so elevates your restaurant hopping experience from a mere series of meals to a symphony of complementary flavours. ## **Capturing Culinary Memories** As you progress through your culinary adventure, don’t forget to capture the moments. Document each dish, the ambience of the restaurants, and the unique stories behind your favourite culinary finds. Taking photographs or jotting down notes allows you to relive the experience and share your discoveries with fellow food enthusiasts. Consider creating a dedicated food diary or blog to chronicle your restaurant-hopping journey. Share your insights, recommendations, and even the unexpected challenges you encountered. Not only does this serve as a personal keepsake, but it also contributes to the broader community of food lovers, creating a virtual space for culinary exploration and shared experiences. ## Etiquette of the Dining Experience As you immerse yourself in the world of restaurant hopping, it’s crucial to navigate the dining experience with grace and respect for the culinary craft. Culinary etiquette extends beyond mere table manners — it encompasses an understanding and appreciation of the entire dining process. ### Respect the Timing Each restaurant has its rhythm, from the carefully timed courses to the ambience that evolves throughout the evening. Respect the meal’s pacing, allowing the culinary narrative to unfold naturally. This not only enhances your dining experience but also acknowledges the efforts of the chefs and staff in crafting a memorable journey. ### Engage with the Staff The culinary journey goes beyond what’s on the plate. It involves the people behind the scenes. Take the time to engage with the staff, expressing appreciation for their work and seeking recommendations. A genuine connection with the culinary team adds a personal touch to your restaurant-hopping adventure, turning it into a collaborative experience between you and the creators of each dish. ### Adapt to the Ambiance Each restaurant has its unique ambience, contributing to the overall sensory experience. Whether in a bustling urban eatery or a quaint countryside bistro, adapt to the ambience and embrace the atmosphere. Understanding and appreciating the setting enhances your ability to immerse yourself in the culinary journey fully. ### Mindful Ordering When navigating various restaurants, be mindful of your ordering choices. Consider the portions, and be open to sharing dishes to sample a broader range of flavours. Additionally, inquire about special dietary considerations or chef’s recommendations to ensure a harmonious and satisfying dining experience. ### Express Gratitude At the end of each restaurant visit, express genuine gratitude for the experience. Acknowledge the efforts of the culinary team and the staff, recognising the role they played in making your dining adventure memorable. A simple thank you goes a long way in fostering a positive connection with the establishments you visit. ## Bottomline: The ultimate guide to restaurant hopping Restaurant hopping undoubtedly shows you a new world of diverse flavours and experiences. By following the guide above, you’ll transform each restaurant hop into a chapter of your gastronomic saga, giving you new experiences and expanding your culinary palate. Bon appétit! ***Further reading: [7 Budget friendly travel ideas for solo women.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/solo-travel-ideas-for-women/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/restaurant-hopping/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/household/restaurant-hopping/?share=x) - **Categories:** Household --- ### [Yes, there is free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-gold-coast/) **Published:** December 14, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** As a frequent visitor to the sun-kissed shores of the Surfer Paradise with my energetic brood, I’ve learned that beneath the glitzy exterior of theme parks and tourist attractions lies a treasure trove of free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast. Let’s face it, those theme parks can put quite a dent in your wallet, and as a mum on a budget, I’ve made it my mission to uncover the best no-cost activities to keep my little ones gleefully entertained. In this guide, I’ll take you on a journey through the Gold Coast’s hidden gems, sharing the delightful freebies that have saved my family’s vacations. From pristine beaches and charming parks to captivating wildlife encounters and cultural experiences, there’s a plethora of cost-free adventures waiting to be explored. By weaving these pocket-friendly activities into your itinerary, you can ensure that your kids have an unforgettable time without breaking the bank. ## [Famous Surfers Paradise Beach](https://www.queensland.com/nz/en/things-to-do/attractions/p-56b26568d5f1565045da88d9-surfers-paradise-beach#:~:text=Australia's%20famous%20Surfers%20Paradise%20Beach,designated%20swimming%20and%20surfing%20areas) When people hear Gold Coast, they immediately think about the famous Surfers Paradise Beach. You know, the stretch of golden sand and the surfing lifestyle that people around the world (and my kids) enjoy. For my brood, the place has truly become a massive playground. Every time we visit, they bring out the gear to dig in the sand, and then spend time on the surfboard and ride the waves – while I sunbathe and supervise on the side. For beach breaks, there’s an adjacent esplanade with a sitting area and a barbecue section where my kids and I love to hang out, taking in the majestic oceanic view. ## [Springbrook National Park](https://www.queensland.com/us/en/places-to-see/experiences/nature-and-wildlife/springbrook-national-park) If you’re planning a family trip, this national park is a can’t-miss attraction for your adventurous moppets — it’s one of Queensland’s World Heritage properties. Think about mesmerising waterfalls, olden trees, lush rainforest and animals that can’t be found elsewhere … that’s Springbrook. It’s like wandering through a epic history book. And what kid who adores Indiana Jones (like mine does) would want to miss an ecological caper? In Springbrook National Park, you’ll find a 100-million-year-old ancient vegetation, a one-of-a-kind pheasant-sized songbird and over a thousand flowering plant species. A mind-blowing adventure for adult and children nature enthusiasts. A completely free show from Mother Nature herself. ## [Sunset at Burleigh Heads Beach](https://www.ozbeaches.com.au/blogs/beaches/burleigh-heads-where-the-locals-hang-out-on-the-gold-coast) Burleigh Heads Beach is magical all-year round. It’s one of those places flocked by locals and tourists alike … and why not? It’s not too commercialised and offers plenty of free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast. Burleigh Heads is definitely the best all-round beach. There are bustling dining hubs and shopping centre for the whole family to enjoy. And then around the corner, a lovely playground to keep kids entertained. But what my sweet chicks and I truly love about this beach is the visually stunning headland along the coastline with a walking track that draws a breathtaking sunset vista to beat. I’m telling you, it’s worth the hike! ## [Broadwater Parklands](https://www.goldcoast.qld.gov.au/Things-to-do/Parks-gardens-reserves/Park-Finder/Broadwater-Parklands) What kid doesn’t like water playgrounds? Mine go ecstatic for Broadwater Parklands so we visit any chance we get. What makes this parkland my youngster’s go-to place? Well, it has three different playgrounds which means there are plenty of splashes to be had. Broadwater Parklands is a sculptural water play area with fountains, tidal rock pools and a creek bed, all oceanic-themed. And, when the youngsters get tired of dips, slides and laps, there’s a shady patch for picnic and a vast grassy spot to walk or ride a bicycle. All without payment a cent! ## [Gold Coast Regional Botanic Gardens](https://www.goldcoast.qld.gov.au/Things-to-do/Parks-gardens-reserves/Park-Finder/Gold-Coast-Regional-Botanic-Gardens-Rosser-Park) While wondering about educational and free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast, I suddenly had an idea to take my little ones to the Regional Botanic Garden. And it works perfectly — it’s free entry and opens on the weekends. When we got there, the sensory garden attraction was just half of the whole experience. There are actually plenty of family activities to enjoy (to my utter surprise) such as slides (large and toddler) and climbing frames … and we tried them all. The range of events is exciting, but the best part was the guided walk to see the birds and native bees — that one put a big smile on my children’s faces. ## [Currumbin Rock Pools](https://www.mustdobrisbane.com/outdoors-pools/currumbin-rock-pools-currumbin-valley) Secret swimming holes and glassy waters — Currumbin Rock Pools has a gorgeous outlook with a range of free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast. Believe me, this treasure is worth a drive with your little ones. It’s not just the swim in calm waters, but the dashing swing on the rope and leap on the rivulet which my little tornado dared with glee. And if your little one is too scared to try, she can still splash in the rocks nearby. After the insatiable fun in the water, the family can have a picnic for lunch on the grassy banks, lounge and just admire the scenic view. ## [Kangaroo spotting at Coombabah Lake Conservation Park](https://myfavouriteescapes.com/coombabah-lake-conservation-park/) My animal-loving kids have always wanted to see the kangaroos in action. So, I finally took them with me on a Saturday trip to visit Coombabah Lake Conversation Park. And there were my cubs and I, slack-jawed, looking at what seems like a hundred kangaroos hopping in the conservation area, biting dust at their wake. While they are spotted any time of the day, I suggest visiting around 4 PM (like we did) because that’s a sight to behold, complete with a backdrop of the orange glow of the afternoon sun. There are also areas for bike rides and trail walks, but we were there for the kangaroos and oh boy, they did not disappoint. ## [Gold Coast Libraries](https://www.goldcoast.qld.gov.au/libraries/Home) As a single mum, I want to instil to my children the love for reading. And what better way to kickstart that journey, than to take them to a surprise library trip to the Gold Coast Libraries. The city’s athenaeum was the perfect opportunity to let my young learners explore the different cultures around the globe. The library has 13 branch locations across Gold Coast, offering rare books, special collections, online services and a mobile library. Since the visit was new to my kids, I made it fun for them. I let them navigate the many shelves by themselves … so, I suggest you put a twist and do the same. ## [Burleigh Markets](https://www.burleighmarket.com.au/) Burleigh Markets is not just a market, it’s a place to experience the people, fresh products and creative entrepreneurs. That being said, for your curious younglings, a visit means immersing in the life and culture of the natives. The Burleigh market community is bustling with activities and busy stalls of food, crafts, clothes, flowers, and deli goods. And me and my children sampled the line of tasty foods while being entertained by local talents which only happens every Saturday … lucky us! While the night vibe was incredibly magnetic, nothing beats Burleigh market in the morning with the wonderful smells of bakery treats brewing the atmosphere. ## [Fishing on Paradise Point Foreshore](https://www.goldcoastfishingspots.com.au/paradise-point-beach/) Paradise Point Foreshore has a pretty spot that offers an easy access to the canal system which is very convenient for kayak anglers. But we’re not there for kayaking, the place has several platforms that’s perfect for fishing, whether you’re a past master or beginner, like me and my kids. So, there we were with our gears and plastic chairs. And though, we were mighty positive to throw in the line and reel in for a catch of mangrove jack and bream, we failed to get a bite! Anyhow, it was a learning experience for us, and besides, there was plenty of fantastic scenery that still made our visit worthwhile. ## [Waterfall hike on Tamborine Mountain](https://www.destinationgoldcoast.com/places-to-go/hinterland-gold-coast/mt-tamborine) Looking for free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast? How about a waterfall hike with the most exquisite views of the hinterland region of Tamborine Mountain. Whenever I need my young children to do a good walking exercise, I take them to the 11 scenic trails of this tourist attraction. The enchanting treks of Curtis falls and lower creek circuit are totally kid-friendly routes, short and easy. But apart from the waterfall hike adventure, taking photographs and birdwatching were great side entertainments that kept our energy up till the finish line. ## Final words: Free entertainment for kids on the Gold Coast So there you have it! The Gold Coast is not all about the expensive theme parks selling $20 dollar burgers which leave your purse empty with every visit. There are some fabulous free things to do that you and your kids will love. My recommendation is to plan your itinerary with a mix of paid and free activities to keep your budget intact and the kids happily entertained throughout your visit. I hope my advice and suggestions will encourage you to visit the Gold Coast with your kids, knowing it isn’t all bright lights and big bucks. There’s so much more to this region which is available to you without paying a cent, so start planning your Gold Coast trip today. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-gold-coast/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/travel/free-kids-gold-coast/?share=x) - **Categories:** Travel **Tags:** surfers paradise, cheap travel, free fun --- ### [5 Good reasons not to stalk your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/5-reasons-not-stalk-ex/) **Published:** November 22, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** You split up. It’s over. It doesn’t matter who instigated the break up, it’s done. So, why do you have an overwhelming urge to stalk your ex? Breakups are rarely clean. They are never easy and it can be really to hard to let go. I mean, going out with someone is like a habit. When it’s over, it can feel natural to want to know what he’s doing, and with who. You might feel there is a gaping hole in your world and the only way to fill it is by getting a fix on his life. Yet, checking out your exes movements on social media or any other way, is likely to cause you pain. Think of it as dwelling on the past instead of moving forward. Or, picking at a wound rather than allowing it to heal. It’s never gonna be a good move. So, if you find yourself wanting to stalk your ex … I are here to talk you out of it. ## Good reasons NOT to stalk your ex ## Stalking your ex is illegal Let’s get this out of the way straight off the bat. True [stalking is illegal](http://www.police.nsw.gov.au/community_issues/domestic__and__family_violence/what_is_stalking) and if you are here for justification for sending your ex 100 texts a day, hiring a private investigator and tailing him in your car, we can’t say we approve. On the flip side, you wouldn’t want someone doing this to you. And don’t think that cyberstalking is exempt from the law. It can also be considered illegal. If you feel yourself crossing the line between looking at their profile and posting abuse on their page, you may have to consider getting some help. ## It will be so embarrassing if you get caught It’s not just the shame of being caught red-handed, but if your ex gets fed up with all your stalking, he might file for a restraining order or sue you for harassment. I don’t want to sound serious but these kinds of things actually happen. How will you explain to your kids why you have to be 100 yards away from Daddy whenever you fetch them? How will you justify your acts to your parents or worse, the law enforcement? Your world will turn upside down all because of what you thought were harmless video call attempts. Do not cross that line, ever. ## It’s not good for your mental health For the rest of this article, I’m going to refer to virtual stalking in the way of so-called ‘innocent’ browsing. This means spying on your ex via Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat … whatever your virtual poison happens to be. This behaviour can quickly reach an unhealthy level. One minute you are on your ex’s page and the next … you are 20 pages deep in his new girlfriend’s, sister’s, husband’s page. When you stalk your ex online it can lead to feelings of resentment or insecurity. - Why is he at your favourite spot? - Who is that girl with him? - Is that random comment on his page directed at you? This behaviour can quickly lead you down an obsessive rabbit hole. This is the time to [boost your self-esteem](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/) and when you stalk your ex you will only feel worse. Instead, join a gym class or dye your hair, basically do anything that [makes you feel good](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/20-simple-ways-to-be-a-more-content-single-mum/). ## You have to let it go You have kids, you’ve seen Frozen. Let it go. You can’t hold onto the past if you want to move into the future. Holding on too tight may begin to affect your friendships, as if all you ever talk about is your ex it can become emotionally draining. Think about your future and give yourself a clean slate so you can move on. Allowing yourself that time to heal without the constant reminder will help you get your groove back. This process will give you a chance to find someone new … that is, when you are [ready to start dating again](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ready-to-start-dating-again/). ## You will see a distorted reality Speaking of mental health, whenever you stalk your ex, you will see a distorted version of reality. Not everything we see on social media is true. Of course, your ex will only put up positive photos or videos. You don’t know the whole story behind every post, but will believe what you see. I used to think that my ex-husband was happier than I was after we separated. Yup, I also got myself into the “stalking his social media” mess. Since I thought I was the only one miserable, I would get drunk and send him countless messages (you don’t want to know the content). How your ex portrays himself on social media is (like everyone) very different to his reality. He might post him and his mates taking shots on his ‘fab night out’ but you won’t see that it was actually a crap night and he was home by 10pm with headache. Likewise, he might post a stunning photo of a mountain range where you assume he frolicked for the day with some gorgeous sex nymph, only to discover it was taken out of a bus window on the way to collect his car from the mechanics. Stalking will only provide part of the story. You will join the dots and nearly always get it wrong. ## Two extra reasons not to stalk your ex because we really don’t want you to do it ## Time is too precious to waste Your time is precious, do you really want to waste it stalking your ex? If you find yourself [feeling lonely](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) after a break up, use the extra time to start something new. Find new friendship groups or rekindle old ones. Join the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine/) Facebook group. Try a hobby you have always wanted to do. There are so many better ways to spend your time than worrying about your ex’s life. If your life is full, you will stop caring about his. It can be tempting to stalk your ex. But, it isn’t good for you. Take back control and focus on the relationships right in front of you. ## You will never get closure You’re free now! Live your life. Do the things you haven’t done because your ex stopped you from doing them. If you wallow in sadness and misery and stalk your ex all day/all night long, you will never get closure and move forward. It’s okay to be sad and miss him, that’s normal. What’s not healthy is to refresh his profile every 5 seconds to check if there’s a new update. If you’re not yet in the mood to go out, that’s totally fine. You can binge-watch all the shows and movies that you didn’t get to watch because your ex only liked John Wick. Don’t forget to pick up the kids from school, though. ## My summary: Why not to stalk your ex It’s not just you. Everyone gets the urge to find out the latest on their exes. It can happen while you’re sitting on the couch after the kiddos are finally asleep — the temptation to take a peek into your ex’s social media. But hold on, sister! Let’s hit pause on that remote. Because if you stalk your ex, it will be like opening a can of emotional worms you don’t want in your life. It’s like a muddy puddle you don’t want to get dragged into. First off, getting caught will be a huge embarrassment. Like the time my best friend found my ex’s name in my profile’s search bar (oops!). What would you tell your friends or your kids? Trust me, it does not look good. Plus you’re not setting a very good example for your little ones. Secondly, the stalking mess will stop you from moving forward, from embracing the awesomeness that is YOU. Final words of advice, whenever you get that urge to stalk your ex (personally or virtually), distract yourself! Redirect that energy into something more fabulous (and more worthy of your precious time). Like, maybe, planning the next family game night or treating yourself to a solo dance party in the living room. (But get away from that wine bottle!) And know that you deserve better. Period. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/5-reasons-not-stalk-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/5-reasons-not-stalk-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** breakup, social media, moving on, relationship breakup, jealousy --- ### [Single mother myths that are complete and utter crap](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/) **Published:** April 12, 2023 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** Is it time to put an end to single mother myths? You don’t have to be a single mum for long to experience societal stigmas. You may gradually notice chinks of negativity linked to your social standing. That society is designed for clichéd family units you no longer belong to. Potential employers become discriminatory. Banks and rental agencies become hesitant. Social invites dry-up and [married friends](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-things-single-mums-want-married-mums-to-know/) slink away. Is it that by being the female half of a relationship breakdown, we are being placed on the periphery of society? Yep, archaic single mum stereotyping is a real thing. Yet, look at the facts; you’ll see that single mums are far from this preconceived typecast. Many single mums are remarkable women with strength, determination and capability unrivalled by any other social group. But don’t just take my word for it. Let’s bust some single mother myths and set the record straight once and for all. ## Single mother myths that are complete crap **MYTH: Single mothers are usually teenagers (or certainly in their early 20’s).** > **FACT:** “The majority of parent’s who children alone are over 30 years old. Most have become single parents after the breakdown of a partnership. Contrary to the stereotype, less than three in every one hundred lone parent is a teenager.” – Resource: [Directory of Service for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) **MYTH: Single mothers are selfish for denying their children the chance to thrive in a coupled-parent home.** > **FACT:** “When children of divorced parents have problems, often those problems started when the parents were still married. For example, researchers who followed the children of married parents for more than a decade, not knowing in advance whether the parents would stay married or divorce, found something very telling. Among those children whose parents did divorce and who had problems, sometimes their difficulties began as early as 12 years before the divorce. They were already “struggling” while their parents were married.” – Resource: [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201507/10-ways-the-children-single-parents-defy-all-stereotypes) **MYTH: Single mothers have heaps of kids, often from different fathers.** > **FACT:** “Sole parent families are small. Contrary to the stereotype, the majority of single mothers have one child, 33% have two, 12% have three and 3% have four children or more.” – Resource: [Directory of Services for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) ## SOME OTHER UNTRUTHS YOU MAY HAVE HEARD **MYTH: Single mothers are long-term abusers of drugs and alcohol.** > **FACT:** “In a US national [survey](https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/addiction) of substance abuse among more than 22,000 adolescents from many different kinds of households, the rate of substance abuse among the children of single parents was 5.7%. Compared to 4.5% for the children of married parents. That’s a difference of just a tad more than 1%.” – Resource: [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201507/10-ways-the-children-single-parents-defy-all-stereotypes) **MYTH: Single mothers have more children in order to receive more child support payments.** > **FACT:** “Single mothers living on income support and those who manage on part-time wages are frequently surviving on incomes under the poverty line. Child support is of minimal assistance to children in these families as 40% of single parents receive no child support at all, and 40% of those remaining receive $5 or less per week.” – Resource: [Directory of Services for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) **MYTH: Single mothers are desperate to find a man and will do anything to get one.** > **FACT:** “As per a post on the Beanstalk Facebook page, single mums were shown an image of family stickers on the back of a car (you know the ones). There was a space for the dad and a sign saying POSITION VACANT. They were asked whether the position needed filling and why. Not one single mum suggested the requirement or need for a man in their life. Dogs, lawnmowers and vibrators got a mention though!” – Resource: [Beanstalk Single Mums](https://www.facebook.com/beanstalkmums) ## EVER HEARD ANY OF THESE SINGLE MOTHER MYTHS? **MYTH: Single mothers don’t exhibit a sense of family or form close bonds with their children.** > **FACT:** “Children in single-parent families often form close bonds with their parent, as they are closely dependent on each other throughout the child’s life. Children from single-parent families may also form closer bonds with extended family members or family friends, as these people often help raise them.” – Resource: [Livestrong](http://www.livestrong.com/article/83670-effects-single-parent-home-childs/) **MYTH: Single mothers sponge money off the government for as long as possible.** > **FACT:** “The majority of sole parents who are receiving Parenting Payment Single will spend less than three years living on income support payments. Many sole parents move off their income support when their income increases through wage or business income, or if they re-partner.” – Resource: [Directory of Services for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) **MYTH: Single mums don’t bring their children up as well as conventional two-parent families.** > **FACT:** “An example comes from a [study](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3685438/) comparing adolescents in different kinds of one-parent, two-parent, and multi-generational households. The authors looked at rates of drinking, smoking, graduating from high school, and enrolling in college, as well as the age at which they first had sex. The children raised by married parents did well. But another group did just as well: children of divorced parents living in multi-generational households.” – Resource: [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201507/10-ways-the-children-single-parents-defy-all-stereotypes) ## THE FINAL CRAZY MYTHS WE NEED TO DISPOSE OF **MYTH: Single mothers either can’t be bothered to work or are unemployable.** > **FACT:** “Around half of the single parents who receive income support, also earn some income through paid work. In fact, the employment rate of single mothers is only slightly lower than that of married mums.” – Resource: [Directory of Services for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) **MYTH: Single mothers raise children who are lazy and irresponsible.** > **FACT:** “According to a study at \[Cornell University\], children in single-parent families may exhibit strong responsibility skills, as they are often called upon to help out more with family chores and tasks.” – Resource: [LiveStrong](http://www.livestrong.com/article/83670-effects-single-parent-home-childs/) **MYTH: Single mothers are negative, depressed and bitter about their circumstances.** > **FACT:** “Single parent families are the most financially disadvantaged families in Australia. Despite this, 94% of single mothers surveyed by the Age were optimistic about the future – higher optimism than any other group!” – Resource: [Directory of Services for Women with Children](https://whfs.org.au/) ***Further reading: [The biggest challenges single mothers face.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/challenges-single-mothers-face/)*** ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/single-mothers-busting-the-myths/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking **Tags:** myths, busting myths, stigma, society, stereotypes --- ### [Sending your child to childcare when you are not ready](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-sending-your-child-to-child-care-when-youre-not-quite-ready-to-let-them-go/) **Published:** June 1, 2020 **Author:** Lee Price **Content:** As parents we can feel tremendous amounts of guilt about the parenting decisions we need to make. Add the need for child care to the list and our brains can explode with questions and what-ifs. Today we look at some of the most common concerns that parents have about child care and do our best to dispel the myths and calm your fears. ***Further reading: [Preparing your kids for daycare: A comprehensive guide.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/preparing-kids-daycare/)*** ## TIPS FOR SENDING YOUR CHILD TO CHILD CARE WHEN YOU’RE NOT *QUITE* READY TO LET THEM GO ### ISN’T MY CHILD BETTER OFF AT HOME WITH ME? First of all, breathe, you’re doing the right thing. Remember why you’re using child care in the first place. Perhaps you need to head back to work for financial reasons – helping to provide a roof over the heads of your family is a big deal. Or perhaps your career is progressing and your professional life will improve by heading back to work. These are all more than valid reasons for not feeling guilty. Remember that child care is beneficial for your child. Monique is a child care director with more than 20 years of experience with young children (as well as being a mum of twins). She says: > *“Your child is going to be building positive relationships at a child care centre, and that can only be a good thing.”* ### AM I A BAD PARENT FOR USING CHILD CARE? We are all just doing the best we can. Remember that child care is beneficial for your child, but also for you too. ‘For the parents it can be a good community experience,’ shares Monique. ‘You’ll be meeting other parents, you’ll be part of the child care community, and reducing the isolation that many parents feel when they stay at home with young children. Mums and dads need to look after themselves and take care of their wellbeing. In order to do the best you can for your child, you’ve got to be looking after yourself too. To have a child at child care for a couple of days benefits everyone. It’s going to be less stressful for you if you’ve got some time to do the things you need to do. Whether that’s working, getting thing done at home, putting your feet up, or taking care of other children at home.’ ## WORRIED ABOUT SENDING YOU CHILD TO CHILD CARE? (CONT.) ### AM I A BAD PARENT FOR USING CHILD CARE? We are all just doing the best we can. Remember that child care is beneficial for your child, but also for you too. According to Monique: > *“For the parents it can be a good community experience,’ shares Monique. ‘You’ll be meeting other parents, you’ll be part of the child care community, and reducing the isolation that many parents feel when they stay at home with young children.* > > *Mums and dads need to look after themselves and take care of their wellbeing. In order to do the best you can for your child, you’ve got to be looking after yourself too. To have a child at child care for a couple of days benefits everyone.* > > *It’s going to be less stressful for you if you’ve got some time to do the things you need to do. Whether that’s working, getting thing done at home, putting your feet up, or taking care of other children at home.’* ### WHAT IF MY CHILD IS REALLY UPSET WHEN I DROP THEM OFF? The staff at your child care centre are experienced and there to help you. Speak with them about how you are feeling and come up with a plan to make the drop off easier for all. Monique explains: > *“As an educator, it’s my job to keep an eye on children who are finding the drop off difficult. For instance, in my current role I noticed that there were a couple of children who weren’t settling well in the morning.* > > *I made it a point to ask the parents what time they would come so that I could ensure that I was there to meet them to help them transition into the day at child care.* > > *I confirmed that I would be the person to greet their child. After a few weeks those children didn’t need me to do that anymore, but it completely changed their child care experience and they were so much happier.”* ### WHAT IF MY CHILD HAS TROUBLE MAKING FRIENDS? There’s nothing like looking forward to seeing a special friend to reduce everyone’s anxiety about a day at child care. Monique explains: > *“When they get to child care and they’ve got a pal they’re looking forward to seeing, it makes such a difference to their day. It’s your right as a parent to specifically ask how the educators are going to support and nurture that for your child.”* ### WHAT IF THE CHILD CARE CENTRE DOESN’T HAVE THE HIGHEST RATING? For some parents, the child care spot that they’ve accepted isn’t the centre that they had hoped for. Don’t feel bad if you do have to take a spot at a centre that is only just meeting standards or working towards them. It may well be that you just put your child there for a few months while you wait for a centre that you really like. Your child is pretty resilient, and if you have to go to work you need to take what you can get. If you have to put your child into a centre that is working towards meeting the standards, go and visit the centre. Ask them which areas they didn’t meet the standards for, and ask them what they’re doing now to address it. Remember they might have been assessed years ago, and a lot can change over the years so maybe they’re actually hitting the mark now but are just waiting for their next assessment. For instance, it might be that they met all areas except one. If that one is about staffing and leadership, maybe you can overlook it. If the one they’re missing is about health and safety then you’re going to really think twice before accepting a spot there. You can also ask them when they were last assessed. If you don’t go and ask the questions you might be turning down a spot at a centre that is actually ideal for your child. If you have a few different centres that you are considering, you can use the free services of child care finder site [**Toddle**](https://toddle.com.au/) to help narrow down your options. **Toddle** [**Toddle**](https://toddle.com.au/) has over 13,000 Australian child care centres listed on its directory. The platform has been designed to provide parents with a child’s view of the child care centre. There’s information on the menus, the programs, the all important outdoor play equipment, and plenty of photos to help you get a feel for the place. Parents can read reviews, book a tour, and watch videos of the centre too which will help you make your decision. Visit [**Toddle**](https://toddle.com.au/) today. ***Further reading: [Why quality childcare is essential for a child’s healthy development.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/quality-childcare/)*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![Tips for sending your child to child care when you’re not quite ready to let them go](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Tips-for-sending-your-child-to-child-care.png "Tips for sending your child to child care - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-sending-your-child-to-child-care-when-youre-not-quite-ready-to-let-them-go/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/career/tips-for-sending-your-child-to-child-care-when-youre-not-quite-ready-to-let-them-go/?share=x) - **Categories:** Career --- ### [Is being a single parent twice the work?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/is-being-a-single-parent-twice-the-work/) **Published:** June 16, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Do you like being a single parent? It’s a question you could ask 100 single parents and the answer will never be the same. Yes, I love it. No, it sucks. Or, ask me again tomorrow. The fact is that single parenting, like every other kind of parenting, goes through phases. Some hard, some easy, some confusing, some exhausting and some so damn rewarding you could burst with pride. But, the question we are focusing on here is: Is being a single parent twice the work? After all, not many of us set-out to become a single parent. Some do, and I take my hat off to them. Generally, our society sees parenting as dual role. A job to be shared between two people, who both have different attributes and skills to bring to the table … along with a never-ending supply of unconditional love, however hard it gets. But depending on how you like to operate, some single mums would actually rather go it alone. Let’s look more closely at duties of the modern-day single parent and decide whether or not being a single parent is twice the work … or not. ## IS IT HARDER OR EASIER BEING A SINGLE PARENT ### Was your ex-partner a help or a hindrance? The role of your ex-partner plays a huge part in answering this question. Occasionally I have the pleasure of coming across a couple who work brilliantly together. They demonstrate earnest teamwork with the effortless precision of a couple playing double’s tennis. I am in awe. The end of my marriage resembled a few backhanders that hit the net, or veered completely off the court, usually hitting an unsuspecting bystander. If a parenting set-up is full of miscommunication, frustration and people getting hurt, then parenting alone, has got to be the preferred option. Not only will you be a better parent, but your children (often the ones getting hurt) will benefit from a more individual style of co-parenting, where everyone is happier and calmer. ### Are your kids a handful, or two? We’ve addressed the ex, now let’s look at the children. All kids are different, and they change dramatically with age. Being a parent is a series of phases. Just as we get used to one, everything changes. The question is are you able to manage them on your own? A number of factors come into play here. How many do you have? I have two and consider parents with more to be superhuman. How oh how do you do it? After all, I only have two hands, two knees, two shoulders to cry on. If you are significantly outnumbered by your brood, being a single parent may seem like twice the work. Of course, age is relevant too. And don’t be fooled by thinking parenting gets easier. Our children need us more than ever during the teenage years. It would also add pressure if one or more of your children has special needs, or if they are clingy or particularly attention seeking. [![](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/799-160885)](//swagbucks.7eer.net/c/1253070/160885/799) ![](//swagbucks.7eer.net/i/1253070/160885/799)### Are meal times suddenly easier, or harder? We generally eat three meals a day, with a variety of packed lunches and snacks in-between, so it is worth considering them when deciding whether being a single parent is twice the work. Did you have a fabulous Jamie Oliver style husband who couldn’t wait to get in the kitchen and cook up a feast his family would relish? Or did you have a husband who couldn’t cook a crepe, but was hands-on clearing-up and washing-up. Either scenario would be welcome at mealtimes. On the other hand, if your ex’s only kitchen appearance was to grab a fresh beer or he demanded certain ‘man foods’ (usually involving half a cow) then mealtimes would definitely create more work for you. One of the best bits about being a single mum is serving whatever you like for dinner. Think cereal, chocolate cake, take-away pizza. Strictly no guilt by the way … your kids will grow and thrive … and they will love you for it too. ### Is the laundry pile bigger or smaller? Something that amazed me when I became a single mum was how my washing pile diminished. Don’t get me wrong … washing (like housework) is still a never-ending task designed to torment us daily, however there is definitely less. Whether your ex-hubby was a tradie with dirty work clothes daily, or an exec who required, not only clean but ironed, shirts of a morning, it’s likely your load was more laborious. Then again, if you man was a whizz with the washing, then life would have been easier. Having another pair of hands to help around the house would definitely make lower your workload, as well as making you feel supported … which is just nice. ### Can you do the DIY … could he do the DIY? DIY. I am completely useless at it. It once took me 11-hours to assemble my daughters flat-pack desk. But I did it. Power to me! Generally (and I mean generally as I know many [super-cool DIY divas](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/)) DIY work is reserved for the man of the house. I mean, us women can do it of course, but we need to delegate some stuff, right? The question is: Do they actually do the jobs? Or do they accomplish half a job and then lose interest? I know many-a women’s despair at a half-painted hallway that was started in 2003. And do you have to ask over and over for a job to be done, until you are eventually accused of nagging, but if he just did it … you know where I’m going with this. Look, I have a handyman who comes every 6-weeks. He does everything I can’t and I only ever ask once. Just saying, there is a difference between Do-It-Yourself and Do-It-Yourself-If-You-Want-It-Done-This-Decade. ## IS BEING A SINGLE PARENT TWICE THE WORK? THE ANSWER … If you are already doing the single parent gig, you will know whether it is harder or easier than parenting when you were coupled-up. If you’re considering a split then hopefully these points give you something to consider. Every situation is unique, and I think we all know from our own personal situations whether being a single parent creates more work, or not. It could be that you find it less work in some areas but twice the work in others. Or you have a successful school morning and think ‘I’ve got this’, only to be exhausted by dinner time and wishing you had another pair of hands to fashion something your kids will eat. For most, becoming a single parent is not a choice we made around workload, it is a choice we made for a happier, healthier life for ourselves and our children. Concentrate on what’s important … and everything else will fall into place. ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/is-being-a-single-parent-twice-the-work/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/is-being-a-single-parent-twice-the-work/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting, Solo Parenting **Tags:** single parenting, household chores, single mum work, being single --- ### [Stages of grief in a marital breakdown](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/) **Published:** May 3, 2020 **Author:** Romy Kunitz **Content:** > *“To have and to hold from this day forward in sickness and health till death do us part.”* This is what we all think when we take the leap into the unknown territory of marriage. We believe that “forever” exists and despite cold feet we go into it reassuring ourselves that the commitment to this one individual will be everything we need. We agree to be friends as well as lovers and despite having other relationships with friends and those other less intimate relationships marriage is our sanctity. Our main commitment to another human being to which all other relationships pale in comparison. But what if this ideal cannot be reached? What if what once was two souls living side by side, is no longer. Researchers have normed stressful life events and have found that: > *“The breakup of a marriage or an intimate relationship are the second most stressful life events after death.”* A breakup in a marriage or de facto partnership is akin to a mini-death and therefore a process of mourning will take place. One thing is for sure that no matter who calls the end, it is really difficult for both parties. And it will be a process which requires a lot of patience, persistence and the mobilisation of external support. Owing to the fact that we are all different and unique human beings what mourning the breakup of a marriage looks like to one person going through it can be vastly different to another. However, there are some characteristic stages or emotions that individuals or the couple who are divorcing or separating will go through. Dr Elizabeth Kubler Ross a psychiatrist who pioneered the stages of grieving on death and dying developed five stages of grief responses that she held people who are mourning go through. In this article we talk about the stages of a marital breakdown so you know what to expect and how to cope. ## THE STAGES OF GRIEF IN A MARRIAGE BREAKDOWN ### DENIAL AND LONELINESS This is the first stage of a marital breakdown. There is shock and disbelief that the marriage is actually ending and this can be seen where one partner may not want to accept that it is going to be over. This is anticipatory grief where the individual is painfully imagining what life will be like when the marriage is over. Often it is that the individual does not actually want out for a particular reason or could be if their partner is having an affair or they may [fear being alone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) and not finding someone else or have fears of not being financially stable. There are also feelings of a loss of control and when children are involved parents are anxious about how they will[ tell their children about the separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-tell-kids-getting-divorced/) and the effects the breakup will have on them. The practical aspect of finding oneself without a partner is difficult for the person or parties to comprehend. This may cause them to wonder if this is actually “real” and happening. [![OurFamilyWizard has co-parenting tools for scheduling, messaging, document sharing, and more.](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/aus-300-250_c.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1314717&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### ANGER This usually occurs once the legal divorce has taken place, especially where there are custody issues and where parties struggle to agree on who will have responsibility for what. Often where there is infidelity there is a lot of anger and it can act as a strong defence to ward off feeling the pain and loss. The individual will often blame his or her partner and will struggle to avoid accusing or confronting. At this stage it is difficult to intervene and often [mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/prepared-for-mediation/) is necessary. Anger and sadness are two sides of the same coin when we grieve. We become defensive/protective of ourselves to attempt to avoid “falling apart” and it’s at this anger stage that we can justify the breakup due to the “other” being insufferable to us. ### BARGAINING > *“I will work on myself and start to drink less and communicate more.”* > > *“If only I had been more available for sex, spent less time at the office, was less distracted.”* These are some of the statements that people make when bargaining with themselves to feel less helpless and less guilty. The promises or compromising that takes place is different from when the marriage wasn’t breaking up. This is due the fact that it has become an eventuality and a realisation that it is over, which can make the individual feel regret and want to hold on and have hope. This stage doesn’t last long once a marriage breakdown has been cemented. ### DEPRESSION I have had grown male basketball players, as well as men and women holding high profile positions, fall completely apart wailing uncontrollably into pits of pain and despair ravaging my tissue box at this grief stage! Sadness or melancholia as Shakespeare would term it, is at its peak now. It affects the person’s appetite, sleep and functioning, when they permit themselves to feel the loss of the breakup. There is often an element of defeat and helplessness at this stage of a marital breakdown. ### ACCEPTANCE This stage most commonly occurs once the decision to breakup has been finalised, or the divorce has already begun or been made final. However, this can occur at the very beginning of the decision to separate phase. It is characterised by the realisation that the marriage is over and may be characterised by some relief. ## HOW TO COPE WITH THESE STAGES OF GRIEF? ### KNOW THE STAGES OF A MARITAL BREAKDOWN Realise that these are normal stages and that they may occur in a roller-coaster like fashion i.e. altogether, in a different order and may last for a long or short period. ### BE KIND TO YOURSELF Be compassionate towards oneself in realising that you are going through a life transition which is traumatic and will be life-changing. ### GET SUPPORT Enlist the support from family and friends-use them to debrief and talk about the breakup, your feelings and ask for what you need i.e. a hug, a coffee. ### TALK TO THE RIGHT PEOPLE Be boundaried in your talking about the breakup. Often people feel so at a loss that they will talk to anyone and everyone about the breakup. There needs to be a balance between talking about it and holding back. Although it is normal to want to talk about it all the time or in some cases not to talk about it at all, neither state is desirable. The talking to entrusted friends and family is important but too much information and spilling over can result in rumours being spread and in people ‘knowing your business’ which may affect you in the workplace etc. and is undesirable. Not talking about it at all, can result in a person internalising all the feelings which may lead to severe anxiety and depression and where children are involved result in anxiety and problematic behaviour. ### DON’T PLAY THE BLAME GAME Don’t feel judged or ashamed-sometimes people feel to blame, like the breakdown of the marriage will be seen as their fault where they may feel like they have failed in their marriage. It is very important to understand that no one is to blame and not to pre-empt judgement from others. ### FIND TIME TO EXERCISE Neuroscience has shown that [exercise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/) is a natural anti-depressant and helps to release endorphins which help us to ward off stress and help to release tension build up and sadness experienced from the breakup or impending breakup. Yoga-breathing and assuming postures in yoga can be a great source of healing when going through a breakdown in marriage. ### LEARN TO MEDITATE [Meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/) helps to calm an individual. When practiced regularly it can help to reduce the trauma symptoms from the breakup and help one to cope with the daily routine and grief symptoms. ### USE A MASSAGE AID Massage aids in reducing muscle tension due to stress and can help one to feel nurtured at a time when they feel so at a loss. The sensation of touch is very powerful. ### STICK TO YOUR ROUTINE Keep daily routines as normal as far as possible and keep distracted as this will provide structure and allow for normalcy. Although one may want to just collapse, keeping busy and distracted helps to reduce the symptoms of anxiety and sadness. ### KEEP A JOURNAL AROUND YOUR MARITAL BREAKDOWN Journal one’s thoughts and feelings which helps to get them out and can make them feel less overwhelming. ### GET HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL Go for psychotherapy. Additional support from a professional who can be objective and containing will help enormously. The breakdown of a relationship or marriage is a significant loss, one in which we feel we have lost part of ourselves. Eventually we need to come to terms and learn to re-order our sense of self and rediscover our unique place in the world without the partner we originally thought was going to be there forever. Like with all situations time heals and the grieving symptoms will abate. As Nicole Kidman’s father said to her when she experienced her marital breakdown: > *“Nic, it is what it is, it’s not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is.”* > > ![Stages of grief in a marital breakdown | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Stages-of-grief-1.png "Stages of grief - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/stages-of-grief-in-a-marital-breakdown-and-to-work-through-them/?share=x) - **Categories:** Splitting up **Tags:** denial, loneliness, depression, acceptance --- ### [How to broach a difficult topic with your ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/broach-difficult-topic-with-ex/) **Published:** February 10, 2020 **Author:** Kylie Zeal **Content:** Want to stay present and composed during difficult conversations with your ex? Want your relationship with your ex to be amicable? This article compliments the Beanstalk article ‘[How to communicate with an ex you can’t stand](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-communicate-with-ex/)’, which provides excellent, practical tips on handling a difficult relationship. Here we are going to look at the structure of a difficult conversation. This is important because all difficult conversations have a common structure and understanding that can transform the way you show up to and handle them. ## The Structure of a Difficult Conversation Underneath every difficult conversation, there are three underlying conversations happening: - The ‘What happened’ conversation - The ‘feelings’ conversation - The ‘identity’ conversation These three underlying conversations are explained in detail in the book: [Difficult Conversations](https://www.amazon.com/Difficult-Conversations-Discuss-What-Matters/dp/0143118447). Over the last decade as a coach, helping women live with confidence, I’ve trained extensively and read countess books on how to be an effective communicator. Difficult Conversations is still one of the best books I’ve ever read on the topic. It taught me the underlying structure of difficult conversation and instantly improved my ability to handle them. To help explain each of the conversations underlying every difficult conversation, let’s imagine this scenario: > *You’re at your parents’ home on the evening of your daughter’s birthday. Your husband has just pulled up in the driveway forty-five minutes late. Your frustration triples when you see your daughter holding a toy; the same toy that you have wrapped and waiting for her inside. Your daughter runs to her grandparents who are waiting by the front door and you are left to exchange words with your ex.* [![OurFamilyWizard helps co-parents with conflict-free communication](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/300-x-250b.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=224401&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ### The ‘What happened?’ Conversation The ‘what happened’ conversation tends to be a one-sided view of the facts, where blame lies and what should have happened. This doesn’t work because difficult conversations are almost never about facts. They are about conflicting perceptions, interpretations and values. They are not about what a contract states, they are about what a contract *means*. They are not about which child-reading book is most popular, they are about which child-rearing book *we* should follow. Difficult conversations are not about what is true, they are about what’s *important*, and ‘important’ is usually a matter of opinion. The other problem in the ‘what happened’ conversation is we tend to decide what the other person’s intentions are, treat that assumption as fact, then attempt to attribute blame. This all puts the other person on the defensive. ### The ‘Feelings’ conversation Expressed feelings can make us feel vulnerable, especially around people we’ve experienced a lot of hurt with in the past. We think we need to be emotionless around those people, so we don’t appear weak, vulnerable or unstable. So we attempt to keep feelings out of the conversation. But in difficult conversations, ‘feelings’ are the core of the issue. It’s how we feel (hurt, afraid, scared, cautious, stressed) that makes a conversation difficult. Yet we fall under the illusion that if we are not talking about feelings then they are not there and are not controlling you. They are there and they are dictating your experience of reality and driving the conversation with your ex. ### The ‘Identity’ conversation Some conversations are difficult because they make us think about our own sense of capability and worth. Your divorce means your daughter is travelling between two different homes on her birthday instead of experiencing the kind of birthdays you envisioned for her when you were pregnant. This might make both you and your ex feel a sense of failure around parenting and the identity attribution might sound something like ‘I’m a bad parent.’ Additionally, human beings have a tendency to think in terms of all or nothing, which is why you or your ex might hear yourselves think ‘I’m a bad parent’ rather than ‘I’m a good parent who made a mistake.’ [![Get Cozi - it's free!](https://static.shareasale.com/image/50314/CoziAdwords_Static_300x250.jpg)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1150365&u=1855502&m=50314&urllink=&afftrack=) ## What to do: - Consider whether you really need to have the conversation? While it’s not effective to be a habitual avoider of difficult conversations, it is smart to consider: Is this conversation really necessary, or should I just surrender and let it go? - Stay with facts. Avoid assumptions, labels or turning your feelings into facts. - Express your feelings. If you and your ex can express feelings to each other, it can help to get to the core of the issue rather than getting caught up in each person’s interpretation of what happened. At a minimum, explore, name and express your feelings with someone you trust. - Work on your self-worth. You’re a good parent, even if you make mistakes sometimes. Don’t allow a mistake mean you’re ‘bad’ because that will likely cause you to become defensive. ![How to broach a difficult topic with your ex | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Difficult-topic-with-ex.png "Difficult topic with ex - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/broach-difficult-topic-with-ex/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/shared-parenting/broach-difficult-topic-with-ex/?share=x) - **Categories:** Shared parenting, Splitting up **Tags:** communication, co parenting, arguments, talking to ex --- ### [Helicopter parenting: Why some single mums do it](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/helicopter-parenting-and-why-single-mums-do-it/) **Published:** September 10, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Helicopter parenting is a well-used term in parent-related media of late. It is also referred to as lawnmower parenting, over parenting or bulldoze parenting. We all know the general consensus is ‘don’t do it’ but as a single mother, this is sometimes easier said than done. So who exactly are these lowly-regarded helicopter parents? Well, [Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D.](http://carolyndaitchphd.com/), director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders refers to them as ‘a style of parents who are over focused on their children’. Dig a little further and you’ll find them described as over-controlling, over-protective and interfering. They basically hover unhealthily close to their offspring to the detriment of their upbringing. Of course, put like this, it’s definitely not the [parenting style](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting-styles-and-why-you-should-have-confidence-in-yours/) we want to adopt. Yet it’s a superfine line between caring for our children and giving them the space they need to become independent young adults. Firstly, let’s look at ‘why’ parents adapt this helicopter parenting method. (According to an article on [Parents.com](http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/what-is-helicopter-parenting/), there are four main reasons.) Then we can see how these reasons relate to traits and emotions that burn particularly strongly in single mothers. ## THE FEAR OF NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES No parent wants to watch their child fail. Whether it’s flunking a test, losing a sports game or not being invited to an all-important party. It’s tempting to interfere so everything runs smoothly and prevent anything bad happening. Yet, the subsequent emotions of negative events are valuable life lessons for children. It is how they learn to deal with undesirable feelings, helping them accept failure and learning how to overcome it. ### How a single mother may feel: > *“My child has already been forced to deal with emotions and heart-ache way above their years. If there is anything I can do to prevent them having to take on more negativity, then I will do it. I’m worried that after everything he/she has already been through they may not be able to cope. My desire to protect and to make their life perfect is in overdrive.”* ## THE NEED TO OVERCOMPENSATE Naturally all parents try to do their best by their children but it isn’t always possible to get it right. And if they don’t get it perfectly right they feel the need to excessively recompense in other areas. This need to overcompensate may also come from an unhappy or unfulfilled upbringing of the parent, creating the desire to ensure their children don’t suffer similarly. ### How a single mother may feel: > *“My child has been forced to grow-up in an unconventional environment and is already on the back foot compared to other children in regular families. I feel guilty as I’m partly to blame for what they’ve been through. I must make-up for this by doing everything I can to ensure that my child is happy, safe and successful.”* ## ANXIETY ABOUT THE BIG WIDE WORLD As children grow, parents are faced with the reality that one day they will make their own way in the world. This can cause understandable anxiety. Worries about employment rates, the economy and the general safety of the world are all commonplace for parents. Of course, it’s important to guide and support our children. However, if taken too far, parents can become over-controlling in the attempt to pre-empt and protect their children from life’s natural downturns. ### How a single mum may feel: > *“I am personally responsible for how my child deals independently with the world. It is my job to ensure that he/she is fully prepared. I will do whatever it takes to make sure he/she makes the right decisions to avoid failure, heart ache or disappointment. I have seen how easily our paths in life can change.. I am determined not to allow my child to go through this.”* ## “THE OTHER PARENTS” PEER PRESSURE Everyone parents differently. Yet with no defined right or wrong way, it’s not uncommon for parents to feel unsure about their methods. Many opt for a more relaxed ‘I’m here if you need me’ style. Yet they may feel pressure from helicopter parents, resulting in guilt for not being more involved in their children’s lives. The result: Jump into the pilot seat and do the same. ### How a single mum may feel: > *“As a single mother I already feel that other parents think I’m not as good as them. If I don’t step-up and show how involved I am in my child’s life, this will fuel their thoughts. I’m also worried if I don’t get more involved and help, while everyone else is, then my child will get left behind. Plus I’d hate for my child to think I don’t have time for him/her and that their friends have more attentive parents.”* These four simple points give single mums plenty of reasons to fall into the helicopter parenting trap. Maybe the only saving grace is that most single mothers don’t have the time or energy to hover continually over their children. And, due to their busy lives, may in fact encourage their children to become independent faster. Engaged parenting is perfect, but overstep the mark and become a helicopter solo pilot, sorry I mean single parent, and the outcome can be problematic. This includes children lacking confidence, having immature coping abilities, lack of life skills and [heightened anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do/). ## So how can single mums avoid helicopter parenting? To start, [ditch the guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/). Single mums makes wonderful parents. Many hugely successful people were raised in single parent families. Have confidence and recognise there’s no such thing as the perfect family and your child will thrive in the one you provide. Most importantly, relax the reigns a little. Allow your child to experience life’s downturns and to feel the consequences. Then, when they do, help them to recognise their feelings, to learn from them and to understand it’s perfectly OK to make mistakes. I hope this helps single mums to acknowledge whether they are a little close to the rotating blades of helicopter parenting. And if so, then to see the perfectly acceptable reasons why. It will hopefully even encourage a few adjustments that could take some pressure off and further strengthen the beautiful relationship that exists between a single mother and their child. ![Helicopter parenting | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Helicopter-parenting.png "Helicopter parenting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/helicopter-parenting-and-why-single-mums-do-it/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/helicopter-parenting-and-why-single-mums-do-it/?share=x) - **Categories:** Parenting **Tags:** helicopter parenting, parental anxiety, Engaged parenting, parenting styles, overprotective parenting, bulldoze parenting, lawnmower parenting --- ### [55 First date questions to break the ice](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/55-first-date-questions/) **Published:** July 16, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** First dates. They can be painfully embarrassing or the start of something beautiful. You’ve made it through the [dating app](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2019/) stage and now it’s time for the real thing. If you’re game enough to give it a go, make sure you’re prepared as we all know how embarrassing it is to be tongued-tied on a date. Here are our first date questions to fill the awkward silences and to find out as much as you can about your date in the time it takes to swig your coffee. ## 55 FIRST DATE QUESTIONS TO BREAK THE ICE ### GET THE CONVERSATION STARTED ON YOUR DATE 1. Where is your favourite place in the world? 2. Fish and chips on the beach or dinner in a posh restaurant? 3. Describe your perfect day-off work? 4. If you found $100, what would you do with it? 5. Would you rather: Find true love or be a millionaire? 6. If you had one super power what would it be? 7. Are you an indoor or outdoor person? 8. How would you describe yourself in three words? 9. Cats or dogs? Introvert or extrovert? Tea or coffee? 10. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? 11. Were you nervous about our date? [![eHarmony Discount Code | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/eharmony_box_Dec_20-400x333.png "eharmony_box_Dec_20 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) ### FLIRTY QUESTIONS IF YOU THINK YOU LIKE HIM 12. What’s your favourite cuddle position? 13. What are your biggest deal breakers? 14. How would you react if I told you that I like you? 15. How would you react if I kissed you right now? 16. Would you kiss a girl on a first date? 17. Who should make the first move in a relationship? 18. Do you prefer a hot shower or a bubble bath? 19. What do you like for breakfast, just asking? 20. What do you wear in bed? 21. Do you have any tattoos? 22. Can I get you another drink? ### FIRST DATE QUESTIONS TO DIG A LITTLE DEEPER 33. Who is the biggest influence in your life? 34. What are you obsessed with? 35. What are you known for amongst your friends? 36. If you had the power to change one thing in the world what would it be? 37. What’s your biggest fear? 38. What one thing gives you butterflies? 39. Who is your best friend and how long have you known him/her? 40. Do like to work as part of a team or on your own? 41. What are your most important values that you live your life by? 42. Do you like confrontation, or avoid it at all costs? 43. Are you a spender or saver? ## OUR FINAL FIRST DATE QUESTIONS FOR YOU ### COMPLETELY RANDOM FIRST DATE QUESTIONS 44. Do believe in life after death? 45. If you had to give up one of your senses what would it be? 46. Would you rather go up in a hot air balloon or do a skydive? 47. Do you want to live to 100? 48. Would you rather spend time with friends or family? 49. Do you prefer imagination or reality? 50. Do you ignore reviews or live your life by them? 51. If your house was on fire and you could save one thing, what would it be? 52. What’s your favourite[ ice cream flavour](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ice_cream_flavors)? 53. If you had one hour left to live what would you do? 54. What century do you wish you lived in? 55. Shall we have an arm wrestle?! ![55 First date questions | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/First-date-questions.png "First date questions - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/55-first-date-questions/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/55-first-date-questions/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating, conversation starters --- ### [Sex over 40 just gets better and better. Here’s why.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sex-over-40-just-gets-better-and-better-heres-why/) **Published:** June 30, 2020 **Author:** Debbie Rivers **Content:** Sex after divorce is nerve-wracking at any age, let alone over 40! Maybe your body isn’t quite what it used to be and the thought of getting naked with someone new is petrifying! This was exactly the position I found myself in when I left my husband. I met him when I was 18 and we were married for 21 years. I was 42 years old when I left him. The thought of being with someone new was scary and exciting after being with the same person for so long. There were so many terrifying thoughts going through my mind as my body wasn’t the same as it was when I got married or after having three kids! I mean, I’d had sex with the same person who saw me at my skinniest and loved me as time went on. I know for other women they have had men leave them for a younger model and it has seriously rocked their confidence. We can even worry if [it all still works down there](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/its-been-so-long-since-the-last-time-is-it-all-still-working-down-there/)! With all these thoughts, worries and insecurities how on earth do you manage to relax and enjoy sex with someone new? Is it even possible to enjoy sex over 40? ***Further reading: [10 Best sex toys for couples to have extra fun in the bedroom.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/sex-toys-couples/)*** ## I’M GONNA REASSURE YOU THAT SEX OVER 40 IS GREAT I want to reassure you that it is possible and, from my own experience, it just got better and better. Eleven years on I can honestly say I only have great memories of that first experience! And I am not alone, so many of my clients tell me if they hadn’t divorced they wouldn’t have had some of the best sexual experiences of their lives! Which means you can replace dread with anticipation and excitement! The good news is that for women the older you get the better sex gets. I remember hearing that we hit our sexual peak in our mid 30’s but I can honestly say that the older I am the better sex is. I am now over 50 and having the best sex of my life. I believe this comes down to me knowing what I like and feeling comfortable in my own body (regardless of being bigger than I ever have been). Here are my top five tips for great sex over 40. ## HOW TO HAVE BRILLIANT SEX IN YOUR 40’S ### 1. Don’t point out your faults It is all too easy to focus on what is wrong with your body. To obsess over every real or perceived fault, especially the older you get. But my advice is simple … STOP IT. Men love women’s bodies and are happy when they have a naked woman in front of them … it’s that simple. I want to reassure you that most men are not nearly as harsh as you are with yourself! Oh, and if you do come across an overly critical man … get rid of him. Life is too short to waste time on men who don’t value you. Whatever you do, do NOT point out your faults or your insecurities because when you do this, it will highlight them to the man you are with as well as show you as insecure. Insecurity is never an attractive quality! So many women spend years hating their bodies and it is a waste of time and energy. It is important to accept and love your body as it is. ### 2. Have sex when you are ready It is important to only have sex when you are ready, not just because you are newly single. If you put yourself under too much pressure you won’t be relaxed enough to enjoy the experience. Just because everyone else is fine with casual sex doesn’t mean you have to be. Everyone has a different view of sex and it is important to be true to yours and take the time to discover what feels right for you. I can highly recommend pashing like a teenager. It is so much fun especially after being in a long-term relationship. Some of those early stages of kissing and touching are so delightful. Enjoy every single kiss, touch and moment. The anticipation, the feeling wanted and desired is truly wonderful. Savour it and take the time to make the most of it. They all build the anticipation and help you feel comfortable with the person you are with. ### 3. The first time doesn’t have to be the best sex of your life If your partner has left you, you may feel like you want to get back at your ex for hurting you by having the best sex of your life. This puts way too much pressure on the experience. This type of expectation won’t give you the fun experience you are looking for. My advice is to see it as a new experience and let your instincts take over. Oh, and if you have spent a lot of time ‘making out’ it comes naturally. ### 4. Don’t compare to your ex It may seem natural to compare the new experience to your ex. But I suggest being totally in the moment. You may be used to having sex the same way but now it is time to try new things. Experiment, be playful, get out of your head and simply don’t overthink! It gives you a wonderful opportunity to discover what you like and what you really want. The bonus of being with someone new is they will want to please and satisfy you and won’t be stuck on what you used to like. ### 5. Practice safe sex (even when having sex in your 40’s!) Have fun, but make sure that you practice safe sex. The single world has changed and there are many sexually transmitted diseases you don’t want to get. It is a sad fact that the over 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s have the highest rates of STD’s! The reason for this is it didn’t used to be such an issue, along with the fact that older singles are no longer worried about getting pregnant so they overlook protection and [contraception](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/which-contraception-is-right-for-me/). Don’t be paranoid, simply be safe. ![Sex over 40 just gets better and better | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Sex-over-40.png "Sex over 40 - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sex-over-40-just-gets-better-and-better-heres-why/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/sex-over-40-just-gets-better-and-better-heres-why/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** sex toys, lingerie, bedroom, middle age --- ### [7 Perks of shared custody for single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/7-perks-of-shared-custody/) **Published:** January 26, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Many single mothers would agree that one of the biggest challenges they face is shared custody. Not only is it logistically complex, but it can be emotionally draining too. Yet, there are several benefits to this sometimes sensitive set-up. And it certainly can’t hurt to remind ourselves of them every now and then. Whether you are still struggling as a part-time parent or you’ve found a happy balance that is working (for now), sit-back, relax and look on the bright side. ## PERKS OF SHARED CUSTODY FOR SINGLE MUMS ### 1. SPEND ‘LESS QUANTITY / MORE QUALITY’ TIME WITH YOUR KIDS It can seem unnatural when your children aren’t with you. Maternal instincts kick-in as you experience a premature bout of empty nest syndrome. If this happens, use your time to get all the boring jobs out of the way, such as cleaning and bulk cooking and [freezing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/simple-freezer-tips-to-streamline-your-kitchen/). Then, when your children return you’re all set to spend quality time with them. Less quantity and more quality time with your children forges happy, positive relationships. ### 2. MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR ‘ME TIME’ Enjoy the looks of pure envy when you tell married mums that you don’t have your kids for the weekend. Many mothers can only fantasise about “me time” so enjoy every minute of it. Head to a grown up movie, cook your favourite meal, become a [DIY diva](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-secrets-to-becoming-a-diy-diva/), or simply play your own music in the car for once. This is equally important if you experience [loneliness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/coping-loneliness-single-parent/) or [separation anxiety when parted from your kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-deal-with-separation-anxiety-as-a-single-mothe/). Try to keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy. ***Further reading: [How volunteering can seriously help your mental health.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/volunteering/)*** ### 3. WORK ON YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT (FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS) Shared custody can reveal some great opportunities for personal development you would never have considered while in a typical family unit. Whether it’s a fitness goal, a return to study or a DIY project, they might be within reaching distance again. And remember, anything you do for yourself will benefit your children. If they see you making the most of your life, they will grow up making the most of their’s. So go for it! ### 4. TEST RUN A NEW RELATIONSHIP Do you feel ready to start dating again? If so, it can be tricky with important little people around. No doubt you want to take it slow. And it’s important to get to know a potential partner before involving your children. Shared custody allows you time to do just this. Even if it becomes a long-term commitment, having some time without your children will allow you to build a healthy, well-deserved relationship. ***Get more support here: [What nobody tells you about dating with kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating-with-kids/).*** ## Perks of shared custody (cont.) ### 5. BIN THE BABYSITTERS NUMBER Depending on your personal shared custody arrangements, it’s possible you can fit social activities in while your children are with their dad. Meaning you don’t need to rely on babysitters or nannies to care for your children. Not only does this ease the financial burden but it takes away the stress of finding suitable help, and of course relieves any guilt you may feel when you go out. ### 6. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU’RE MAKING YOUR KIDS HAPPIER If you find yourself in a low moment, consider how shared custody can benefit your kids. As you no longer live with their father it may have reduced conflict in their life considerably. Not only that, [children who live between homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/) often develop stronger, closer bonds with each parent. Plus, due to the two-home set-up, they quickly become independent, capable and organised. This in-turn, helps them at school and through the rest of their lives (and helps you get them out the door in the morning!). ### 7. RECHARGE YOUR BATTERIES Being a mother, any mother, can be relentless. Gone are the nine-to-five work days. It can be utterly exhausting. Yet with a shared custody arrangement you have perfect opportunities to recharge your batteries on a regular basis. Make sure you use this time to rest. Whether it’s a lie-in or a relaxing walk. Then you’ll be firing on all cylinders when your children make their eager and pleasantly exhausting return. ![The line - Shona](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")*Just in case you weren’t already making the very most of shared custody, I hope you will now.* *We all cope differently with our parental arrangements. What works for one family, won’t work for another. It’s about making the very best of your situation, not only for your children, but for yourself too.* [![OurFamilyWizard helps co-parents with conflict-free communication](https://static.shareasale.com/image/25791/300-x-250b.png)](https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=224401&u=1855502&m=25791&urllink=&afftrack=) ![Perks of shared custody | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Perks-of-shared-custody.png "Perks of shared custody - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/7-perks-of-shared-custody/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/7-perks-of-shared-custody/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Shared parenting **Tags:** shared custody, joint custody, co parenting --- ### [When can a child decide which parent to live with?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/when-can-our-child-decide-which-parent-to-live-with/) **Published:** October 16, 2020 **Author:** Elaine Li **Content:** Despite what popular culture and American soap dramas have told us, there is no such thing as “parental rights” in Australia. It is children who have a right to have a meaningful relationship with both parents and to have their voices heard. However, a child’s wishes, and views are just one factor amongst many for a [Family Court](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/home) to consider. The weight given to a child’s wishes and views will depend on the child’s age and level of maturity. ### AT WHAT AGE CAN A CHILD DECIDE WHICH PARENT TO LIVE WITH? There is no magical age for when a child can decide which parent to live with, but it is safe to say that the views of a 13 year old will likely be given more weight than that of a 5 year old. Most parents would agree that even when a child is old enough to express their views, they may not always know what is best for themselves. Children make questionable decisions on a daily basis: refusing to [brush their teeth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-terrifying-facts-to-scare-your-kids-into-brushing-their-teeth/), eating too much junk food, and skipping school are just some of the less harmful. There are other types of decisions kids and teenagers make that have more destructive effect. This is why parents get to make the ultimate decisions about their children’s welfare. ### HOW THE COURTS WILL MAKE A DECISION ON YOUR BEHALF When it comes to choosing a parent to live with, Courts will be asked to make a decision if the parents themselves can’t agree. When making Court Orders, a Judge will prioritise the *child’s* best interests (not the parent’s best interests) and will take into account a range of considerations, including the child’s wishes and views. Whilst the Court has the power to make Orders in relation to children of any age before they turn 18 years, Judges are usually more reluctant to impose any specific care arrangements for teenagers. This is primarily for practical reasons – it is logistically much harder to strap a teenager to a car seat and drive them to the other parent’s house than it is with a younger child! ### WHAT IF YOUR CHILD IS TELLING BOTH PARENTS DIFFERENT THINGS? It is common for children to tell a parent what he or she thinks that parent wants to hear in order to please them. Children may also be worried about hurting a parent’s feelings. While some children feel comfortable expressing their preferences, others can [experience anxiety](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/childhood-anxiety-spot-it-and-what-you-can-do-beanstalk-mums/) over having to choose between their parents, especially if there is a high level of conflict between them. To avoid placing pressure on a child to express a choice, parents can jointly consult with a child psychologist or counsellor to explore the child’s wishes and views in an appropriate and safe manner. Another option is to participate in a [Child Inclusive Mediation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/child-inclusive-mediation/), which is a mediation between the parents that involves a child expert meeting with the child and providing useful feedback to the parents. Both options enable the child’s voice to be heard but without directly involving the child. ## When can my child decide which parent to live with? (CONT.) ### WHAT IF THE MATTER IS ALREADY BEFORE THE COURT? If a parenting matter is already before the Court, a [Family Report](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-report/) can be prepared to assist the Judge in deciding what care arrangements are in the child’s best interests. The Family Report writer, who is usually a child psychologist or social worker, interviews and observes the interactions between the child and each parent. Report writers can make recommendations about a child’s wishes and views, the weight that should be attached to them, and whether a child has been influenced by a family member. Another way for children’s wishes to be heard in Court is through an [Independent Children’s Lawyer](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/independent-childrens-lawyers/) (ICL). The ICL’s role is to represent the best interests of the child, however, they are not obligated to make recommendations that are consistent with the child’s wishes and views. ### WHAT HAPPENS IN THE FUTURE? Children’s preferences about their favourite colour, best friends, and music tastes amongst other things can change as they get older, as can their preference for who they live with. Care arrangements that once suited a child when they were young may not work when they become an adolescent. As such, parents can review the arrangements as circumstances change. Maintaining a child-focused approach and having some flexibility with the other parent can help to ensure that your child’s evolving needs are being met. ![When can our child decide which parent to live with | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Child-decide-which-parent-to-live-with.png "Child decide which parent to live with - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/when-can-our-child-decide-which-parent-to-live-with/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/when-can-our-child-decide-which-parent-to-live-with/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation **Tags:** co parenting, family court, shared care, coparenting, between two homes --- ### [Dealing with debt and getting your finances back on track](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/debt-finances-back-on-track/) **Published:** September 22, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** There is nothing like “debt” to make us want to bury our heads in the sand or run for hills. Which is the reason for this podcast. If you have debt that is worrying you then there IS HELP OUT THERE! And that help comes in the form of the [National Debt Helpline](https://ndh.org.au/) – a completely free and confidential telephone financial counselling service offering information, advice and options to those experiencing financial hardship or simply wanting guidance on creditor issues. In this podcast I have soooo fallen on my feet as I get to chat to the Supervisor of the National Debt Helpline, Deborah Naylor, who not only has 20 years experience in the financial counselling sector BUT is also a single mum! If you are in debt and are yet to discover this brilliant service, please listen … it could very well change your life. ## Dealing with debt and getting your finances back on track Listen to this information-packed chat where Deborah and I discuss: - The stigma around debt and why people find it so hard to reach out - How debt can negatively impact so many areas of your life - How to break-free from a difficult mindset around debt i.e. taking the first step - Some examples of options available to you when it comes to debt solutions - Complex financial situations and how the [National Debt Helpline](https://ndh.org.au/) can assist - Financial counselling – What is it? How to get it? (It is non-bias and completely free btw.) - How to cope with debt created by another person before a break-up, grrrr … there are ways ### Listen here … [![Single mother ecourse | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-rectangle-960x800.png "ecourse rectangle - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/) ![Dealing with debt and getting your finances back on track | Beanstalk Single Mums Podcast | Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Podcast-NDH.png "Podcast - NDH - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/debt-finances-back-on-track/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/debt-finances-back-on-track/?share=x) - **Categories:** Podcast, Money **Tags:** financial support, budget, money --- ### [Everything you secretly want to ask about masturbation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/everything-you-want-to-know-about-masturbation/) **Published:** September 14, 2020 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Let’s get real: masturbation isn’t a topic that’s discussed openly. However, everyone has an opinion on it, and more often than not, the views of your friends, family, and even society can influence the way you perceive it. You’ve probably heard that “everyone does it,” yet openly admitting it is still frowned upon. Even though masturbation is a pervasive topic, it’s not explained well enough. As such, there are way too many false claims, misinformation, and superstitions with little to no scientific backup. Regardless of your age, you may have some questions that desperately need answers, and yet you’ve been afraid to ask them. In this article, you’ll finally find answers to at least some of them. Keep on reading to find out more about the act of[ self-pleasuring](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-have-the-best-sex-life-ever-with-yourself/). ## Is Masturbation Normal? Regardless of how the media, people in authority, public figures, and religious groups portray masturbation, it’s a normal activity with which many people have a hands-on (pun intended!) experience. According to the [National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior](https://nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu/) (NSSHB) from Indiana University, over 94% of men and 84% of women aged between 25 to 29 have masturbated at least once in their lifetime. So yes, masturbation is a completely normal activity. On the other hand, experts from [OMG Kinky](https://omgkinky.com/) assure that if you don’t like to masturbate, nothing’s wrong with you, either! Different people have different needs, and it’s alright if you’re not interested in self-pleasuring. ## Is Masturbation Cheating? By definition, [masturbation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/rediscover-your-sexuality-after-breakup/) is an activity performed by yourself and on yourself, with or without the use of [sex toys](https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/best-sex-toys/) You’re stimulating your own erogenous zones, potentially to reach orgasm. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to do it alone; some couples find it sexually arousing to watch their partners touching themselves. Nevertheless, experts agree it doesn’t count as cheating. Self-pleasuring should be a guilt-free activity. In fact, many women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. If you’re a female and your male partner feels hurt that you can’t achieve sexual satisfaction during intercourse, consider explaining to him that it’s not always the case. If he truly cares about your needs, we bet he’ll be able to understand! ## Does Self-Pleasure Equal Better Sex? Some people claim that masturbation causes both men and women to lose interest in the intercourse itself and become desensitised to it. That’s not entirely true. Obviously, both partnered sex and masturbation potentially lead to releasing sexual tension. However, masturbation can’t really replace intercourse with a partner, just like eating a meal alone or going for dinner together are two different ways to achieve the same goal. Masturbation can lead to better sex life if you’re not choosing self-pleasure over partnered sex way too often. If you’re not satisfied with how things are in your bedroom, it would be best to have an honest conversation with your other half. ## Is Masturbation Bad for You? Have you ever heard that masturbation causes blindness, makes your hair grow in weird places or can render you infertile? Maybe you’ve heard similar statements that pretend to be true but are, in fact, unscientific nonsense. As long as masturbation doesn’t turn into a habit for you, negatively impacting your daily routine and social interactions with others, there’s no scientific evidence that it causes bodily harm (unless you use hardcore tools, but to each their own.) On the other hand, the constant spreading of misinformation and superstitious information can result in psychological damage, especially among young people. ## Are Men the Only Ones Who Masturbate? A belief that only men masturbate is a common misconception, although the act itself seems to be more socially accepted in their case. On the other hand, female masturbation is a topic that’s often avoided or shrouded in unnecessary stigma. That being said, both men and women of all ages masturbate. Data collected for the NSSHB show that the frequency decreases with age. However, both genders report they masturbate with a certain amount of regularity. Even though women do it less frequently than men, some of them engage in acts of self-pleasure more than 4 times per week. [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/53664)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/b/53664) ## Are There any Benefits of Masturbation? Yes, there are! Let’s sum them up real quick: - Masturbation helps you discover your body. - It reduces stress and sexual tension. - It can help you sleep better or fall asleep faster. - It can alleviate muscle tension and relieve menstrual cramps. - It can improve body image. - It can boost your mood. - It can strengthen pelvic and anal muscles. - You can’t get pregnant from masturbating. ## The Bottom Line Obviously, there are more questions and doubts about this topic. The answers mentioned in this article are just scratching the surface of the bigger issue, which is misinformation and social stigma surrounding masturbation. However, as you can see, it’s a normal activity for both men and women. As such, it should be discussed more openly instead of being swept under the rug. Every person is different, which means there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate. Adding to that, everyone has different sexual needs, which is why there’s nothing really wrong with the seemingly excessive frequency of self-pleasuring. As long as it doesn’t disrupt your daily routine, including your work and social life, there’s nothing to worry about. ![Masturbation | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Masturbation.png "Masturbation - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/everything-you-want-to-know-about-masturbation/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/everything-you-want-to-know-about-masturbation/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** sex, sex toys, self pleasure, bedroom, vibrator --- ### [Independent Children’s Lawyers: Why to use them and how they work](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/independent-childrens-lawyers/) **Published:** September 30, 2020 **Author:** Feeney Family Law **Content:** ## FIRST … UNDERSTAND THE ADVERSARIAL PROCESS Australian Courts (including the Family and Federal Circuit Court) adopt what is called an adversarial process: two sides in dispute with each other present their positions before an impartial person who attempts to determine the truth and deliver a just decision. Generally speaking, parents know what is best for their children, however, it is not always possible for parents to be entirely child-focused (especially after a separation) or able to navigate the Court process (especially if they don’t have their own lawyer). The Court is concerned with making Orders that are in the best interests of the child. In determining what are in the child’s best interests the court will consider several factors, some of which are: - The benefit to the child of having a meaningful relationship with both parents. - The need to protect the child from physical or psychological harm. - Any views expressed by the child that might be relevant. - The capacity of each of the child’s parents to provide for the needs of the child. If a [Family Law Court](http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/home) is not satisfied that the parents are able to present their positions in a way that provides the Court with the evidence necessary to decide what arrangements are in the best interests of the child, then the adversarial system cannot work in the way intended. The Court cannot assist parties to run their cases and it cannot tell them what to say or do. It cannot get involved in the evidence-gathering process. Enter the Independent Children’s Lawyer. ## WELCOME … THE INDEPENDENT CHILDREN’S LAWYER The Independent Children’s Lawyer is like the inquisitorial (information gathering) arm of the Court. Despite its name, it is not the child’s legal representative like a parent’s lawyer is to the parent. ## WHAT DOES AN INDEPENDENT CHILDREN’S LAWYER DO? The Independent Children’s Lawyer’s job is to impartially form an independent view of what is in the best interests of the child and then act in the best interests of the child. To do that, the Independent Children’s Lawyer looks at the evidence available and makes enquiries to gather further evidence and information that may assist the Court and the parents. An Independent Children’s Lawyer will generally organise, obtain, and fund expert reports as they consider necessary. When it is appropriate, an Independent Children’s Lawyer will also organise and seek to have Legal Aid fund a mediation. ## IS THE THEIR WORD FINAL? Parties are not bound to do what the Independent Children’s Lawyer says. However, if one parent refuses to attend [family report interviews](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/family-report/), for example, then the Independent Children’s Lawyer might apply to the Court for an order requiring that parent to attend. The Court is extremely likely to assist the Independent Children’s Lawyer in matters that are plainly going to assist the Court. Parents generally cannot give impartial evidence about “views expressed by the child” because children often say things to their parents that they think will make their parents happy (despite the parent’s best intentions). Their “views” might change depending on who they are speaking to. A family report organised by the Independent Children’s Lawyer may assist in obtaining a clear understanding of the children’s views and some Independent Children’s Lawyers meet with the children, where they consider it appropriate to do so, so that the children can express their views directly. Assertions or concerns raised by one parent about the other parent’s mental health are very common. Where there is evidence of incidents that demonstrate a person’s mental health might be compromised, it might be important, and it will be necessary to prove on the basis of, expert medical evidence such as a psychiatric assessment completed by a qualified psychiatrist. An Independent Children’s Lawyer will often, in such circumstances, commission an independent psychiatric assessment to assist the Court. The law recognises that children are better off if their parents agree and act on the children’s best interests. In this sense, the Independent Children’s Lawyer can also act as a long-term intermediary, being a point of contact and even filter for parents’ communication during the heat of the dispute. They can be a beacon of reason for parents experiencing one of the most difficult and stressful times of their lives. ## WE ALL WANT ONE! So, if Independent Children’s Lawyer can be so useful, why not appoint them in every case? From the Court’s perspective they are incredibly useful in certain cases (for instance, if both parties are self-represented, have limited financial resources, and cannot appropriately communicate with each other about the child) but are a finite resource and cannot be allocated to every single parenting matter. ## WHEN WILL THE COURT APPOINT AN INDEPENDENT CHILDREN’S LAWYER? The Court can appoint an Independent Children’s Lawyer on its own motion, or a party can apply for one. In either case, there are several factors the Court will consider before appointing an Independent Children’s Lawyer. - Serious allegations of child abuse, whether physical, sexual, or psychological. - Apparent intractable conflict between the parents. - Apparent alienation of the child by one or both parents. - Someone has a significant medical, psychiatric, or psychological illness or personality disorder. - Neither parent seems a suitable carer. - A child of a mature age expresses strong views to change long term parenting arrangements. - Neither of the parents are legally represented. Sometimes only one factor needs to be satisfied for the Court to appoint an Independent Children’s Lawyer. In other cases, there needs to be more factors before the Court considers it necessary. The Court is generally well-equipped and experienced at identifying cases in which an Independent Children’s Lawyer is necessary, however, it will not be enough to simply tell a judge that a case involves one or more of the relevant factors. ## THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD … ALWAYS An Independent Children’s Lawyer is required to form a view about what is in the children’s best interests and it may be that their view, if one is appointed for your children, is different to yours. Exploring and seeking to understand why that view is different to your view may help you to understand what issues the Independent Children’s Lawyer thinks are most important and how you could potentially either change their mind on what is in the children’s best interests or best present your case to the Court. ![Children's lawyers | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Independent-childrens-lawyers.png "Independent children's lawyers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/independent-childrens-lawyers/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/family-law/independent-childrens-lawyers/?share=x) - **Categories:** Family Law, Kids and Separation **Tags:** divorce, separation, family court --- ### [Scientific reasons why orgasms make you so damn happy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/scientific-reasons-why-orgasms-make-you-so-damn-happy/) **Published:** September 28, 2020 **Author:** Chantelle Otten **Content:** We often put time and effort into our physical and mental health, yet so many of us seem to neglect their sexual health! And I’m not just talking about using condoms or having sexual health checks (though those are also super important!), our sexual pleasure and satisfaction is a huge part of our overall sexual health. We have gym memberships, [daily yoga](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-10-best-free-yoga-classes-we-could-find-on-youtube/), juice cleanses and [mindfulness apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/apps-to-learn-meditation-and-improve-your-life-through-mindfulness/), yet taking time for our own sexual pleasure is pushed to the side. I get told all the time that “I just don’t have time to masturbate”, and yes, we are all busy these days! Managing careers, partners and children can make us wish for more hours in the day for sure, but there are so many amazing reasons to prioritise your pleasure besides just amazing orgasms. Though I must admit, having an orgasm seems like a pretty great reason on its own! Let’s get scientific for a minute, as self-pleasure and orgasms give us a lot more than just the tingles. ## Scientific reasons why orgasms make you happy ### ORGASMS PRODUCE HEAVENLY HORMONES When we experience an orgasm our brain releases two hormones, dopamine and oxytocin, which together create a hormonal cocktail guaranteed to give us a good time! Dopamine is the pleasure hormone, we can get it by doing things we love that bring us pleasure generally, but during orgasm we also get boosts of desire and motivation along with all that pleasure. Oxytocin, or the love hormone as many call it, is also released. This allows a sense of warmth and love to wash over us during the orgasm, and for a while after! So not only are we feeling a happy motivational buzz during orgasm, we keep feeling that as we start our day. Who needs coffee when we can have a morning orgasm to wake us up! (I’m just kidding coffee, I still love you). 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So next time you’re trying to count sheep or heat up some milk, maybe first try some self-pleasure. One quick little orgasm is sure to knock us right out! ### LOWER STRESS LEVELS AND BOOST BLOOD TO THE BRAIN On the same train of thought as our relaxing into sleep, orgasms are a great way to reduce our stress! Maybe we have a big work meeting coming up that’s stressful. Maybe we’re trying to work out how we can work from home while the kids are trying to do school over zoom and dinner needs to be made. That’s a lot of stress! Sometimes we don’t have the time for a full hour yoga session to relax the body, and maybe mindfulness apps just aren’t for you. But taking a little bit of time to really enjoy your own body, give yourself some happy pleasurable hormones, will be that relaxing moment you are craving for. That orgasm is also going to boost blood flow within our brains, actually helping keep our brains healthy! Hour body massage? Amazing. Hour self-pleasure sensation filled with orgasms? Waaaaaaay better. [![Clitoral stimulator for great orgasms | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://d3f650ayx9w00n.cloudfront.net/940/74431-022.jpg)](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d40834) Get the Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 from [Lovehoney](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/29682?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.lovehoney.com.au%2fproduct.cfm%3fp%3d40834) ## WHY ORGASMS MAKE US FEEL SO GOOD (CONT.) ### INCREASE THAT CONFIDENCE (AND FEEL EMPOWERED) Now besides all these amazing scientific health reasons for orgasms, being able to experience pleasure from our own hands is a huge confidence and empowerment boost! Sexual pleasure is not only something that our partners can give us, sexual pleasure isn’t something that we even need a partner to experience. You are allowed to want pleasure for pleasure’s sake. Yes, orgasms are good for our health, help us sleep and reduce stress. But they also just feel great! Masturbating can help us love our bodies, feel more connected with our bodies and actually help us express our sexual wants with a partner in the future. Honestly, I really can’t think of a reason not to be enjoying some one-on-one time with my hand. ![Scientific reasons why orgasms make you so damn happy | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Orgasms-make-us-happy.png "Orgasms make us happy - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/scientific-reasons-why-orgasms-make-you-so-damn-happy/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/sex/scientific-reasons-why-orgasms-make-you-so-damn-happy/?share=x) - **Categories:** Sex **Tags:** sex, self pleasure, masturbate --- ### [Your ultimate guide to toilet training while co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/your-ultimate-guide-to-toilet-training-while-co-parenting/) **Published:** August 28, 2020 **Author:** Janet Hall **Content:** ## THE IMPORTANCE OF COOPERATION AND ROUTINE In my book, [Fight-free Families](https://drjanethall.com/product/fight-free-families-book/), I state that when their parents separate, more than ever children need unconditional love, security and routine. The aspect of routine is crucial when it’s time for the toddler to toilet train. Toilet training can be hard and stressful for everyone involved. So, when children have divorced parents and [live between two homes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/helping-children-live-happily-two-homes/), it can be even more challenging. As well as routine, separated parents also need to be guided by these words: > *“courtesy, cooperation and consistency”* The main words to avoid are: > *“competition or comparisons”* For instance, it doesn’t matter in whose house the child has the most or least accidents!Sadly, in our psychology clinic we have seen a father who deliberately sabotaged the single mother’s training program by keeping the toddler in nappies! He continued to do this even when the mother supplied him training pants. ## THIS IS THE TIME FOR SEPARATED PARENTS TO USE A TEAM PLAN It is so important that both parents make an affirmative plan that sets aside any differences you may have and focus instead on meeting the needs of your toddler. You need to be a team who share the same goal –a happy toddler who proudly learns to self-toilet. To help avoid conflict about expectations it is a really good idea for BOTH parents to follow the same “roadmap” and my book and webinar, [Easy Toilet Training](https://drjanethall.com/product/fight-free-families-book/)**,** is the best guide for how to toilet train toddlers ! There’s nothing more powerful than following clear instructions in writing or video from a certified expert. The goal is to avoid all opportunities for “one-upmanship”. For example, if one single parent claims all the success for dry pants. The child is the only one who should be praised for dry pants and successful potty time results. ## AGREE ON THE IDEAL TIME TO START TOILET TRAINING Separated parents must agree about the ideal time to start toilet training, so the child does not get confused about what’s expected of her in her two different houses. With toilet training, timing is everything. If it’s taking too long, it’s the WRONG time. With toilet training, if in doubt – WAIT. Don’t start toilet training “just because it’s the holidays, it’s before or after the holidays or it’s because the rest of playgroup is starting it”. Definitely don’t start just because somebody else, like a “know-all” grandmother, says “It’s time for your toddler to train because YOU were trained at that age”. [![](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/a/153912)](https://www.brightstarkids.com.au/) ## A CHECKLIST FOR CHOOSING AN IDEAL TIME TO TOILET TRAIN The ideal time to start toilet training will depend on several things. - The living arrangements with both parents are “stable” and there is unlikely to be any change for about 6 months (no house moves). - There are indicators that the toddler is “ready”. These include: The child is often dry for at least 2-hour stints and after a nap; poos are regular and mostly predictable (after breakfast in the morning); the child can indicate she is about to poo or wee; the child can follow simple verbal directions. - The minimum age is two-and-a-half but it is still best to wait for summer if they turn 2 in winter! In warm weather a bare bottom is more comfortable. - There is agreement on the choice of training – my recommendation is to start with potty training and then move to the toilet when the child is confident. - With the “ideal” cooperative parents it would be good to agree to use the same toileting props – even down to the type of potty, colour and all, to make it all very comforting for the toddler. Important note: Although wet wipes are easier to use when toilet training, [plumbers recommend](https://www.rolandjdown.com/blog/10-things-your-plumber-wants-you-to-stop-doing-now-roland-j.-down-service-experts) discarding them in the trash. Flushing them can cause clogs and backups in your sewer line. ## HOW DO YOU TOILET TRAIN? Begin by introducing your toddler to the potty/toilet. Tell her what it’s for and encourage her to sit on it (clothes on or with a nappy on at first if necessary, and then without). Be prepared to tell a story, sing a song and even provide a snack and a drink to keep her interested in sitting until she’s used to the idea. Both parents must be aware that toilets can be scary and a negative place to go because: - Flushing water might be noisy and cold. - There is height involved in sitting on an adult-sized toilet seat. - It’s cold and dark. - It may be a long distance away from the family and the child is expected to be there alone. Some children insist that they absolutely must have Mummy or Daddy present while they are on the potty. This can be extremely inconvenient experience for busy adults but the child must come first. [![Baby Bunting](https://ad.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/show?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&bids=709541.24&subid=0&type=4&gridnum=13)](https://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/click?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&offerid=709541.24&subid=0&type=4) ## PRACTICAL IDEAS TO MAKE TOILETING EASY - A step to get onto the toilet - A special toilet seat - A heater to keep the toilet room warm - A bright colourful poster on the wall - A special light - A special clock or toy on the wall - Messages of love and positive heart stickers behind the door ## USE REWARDS AND NO PUNISHMENT One of the most important issues separated parents who are toilet training their toddler must agree on is that punishment is to be avoided at all costs. Rewards can be very useful incentives. A reward may be promised but is NOT given until AFTER the desired behaviour occurs. (A bribe is something that is given BEFORE the desired behaviour and is NOT recommended.) Fortunately, little children don’t know the meaning of the word “patronizing”, so feel free to exclaim about their wonderful “wees on potty”. Make your voice high and gushy so that they really hear the pleasure you feel. Praise them in the early stages for any indication that they are participating in the training – for telling you that their pants are wet, telling you they need to go, for taking off wet pants, for flushing and for washing their hands. Praise every little step forward! Choose rewards that are appropriate for the age of your child – very young children thrive on bits of jellybean. One jellybean can be cut up into eight pieces. All that is needed is enough of the food to be placed on the child’s tongue, so that the child gets the instant ‘hit’ of yummy taste. Bigger children who are slow to toilet training love coloured stickers and charts on the walls as rewards and best of all – special time with YOU (Mum and Dad)! Gradually fade-out the rewards as your child becomes independent. ## SHARE YOUR CHILD’S SUCCESS AS A REWARD Both parents should make a list of family and friends and call them to share good news of dry pants and wees and poos on the pot/toilet. It would be great to include your in-laws and not just your own parents as a gesture of good will! (Is this asking too much?????) Say, “Mummy is very proud of you being a big girl and doing wees in the toilet. Let’s ring up Nanny and tell her. Nanny will be proud of you too.” Toddlers love to talk on the telephone and could tell grandparents about using the potty. (To avoid disappointment, make sure that the grandparent is going to be home and is willing to give lots of praise and encouragement to the child.) ## FINAL WORD ON TOILET TRAINING In conclusion, all parents, together or separated, need to know that toddlers have a strong need to learn, be independent and develop new skills. With toilet training, be patient, be persistent and be positive. ![Toilet training while co-parenting | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Toilet-training-while-coparenting.png "Toilet training while coparenting - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/your-ultimate-guide-to-toilet-training-while-co-parenting/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/your-ultimate-guide-to-toilet-training-while-co-parenting/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children **Tags:** potty, wee, poo, undies, nappy, nappies --- ### [How to talk to your teen about birth control](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/birth-control-teens/) **Published:** March 4, 2021 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** When your teenager comes up to you asking: “[When should I start birth control?](https://www.pandiahealth.com/resources/when-should-a-woman-start-birth-control/)“, it’s normal to feel a little intimidated. But having this conversation with your teen is so important because it can help keep her safer if she becomes sexually active. Besides, there are other possible benefits for your teen when it comes to birth control, beyond preventing an unwanted pregnancy. Keep reading to learn more! ## What is the average age to start birth control? Most girls start using birth control around age 16. By this age, they’ve likely started their menstrual cycle—which means that if they become sexually active, they’re at risk of becoming pregnant. In fact, research suggests that women who are at the highest risk of unintended pregnancy are between the ages of 15 and 19. ## What are the reasons to start birth control? Not all teenagers will become sexually active, but many do. Starting birth control is the best way to prevent unintended pregnancies among sexually active teens. Certain types of birth control, including male and female condoms, are also important because they can prevent sexually transmitted infections. But here’s the thing … There are other [birth control considerations](https://www.pandiahealth.com/five-reasons-to-consider-birth-control-that-arent-for-pregnancy-prevention/) to be made between you and your teen. For instance, some girls (along with their parents and/or doctor) decide to go on birth control to control acne, manage symptoms of health conditions like polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) or endometriosis, or to improve the regularity of their periods. ## What is the best birth control for teens? Here are some of the top birth control methods for teens: ### IUD OR IMPLANT With implants or IUDs, your teen doesn’t have to remember to take a pill at the same time every day, which can be a lot easier for her busy life! IUDs and implants are 99% effective at preventing unwanted pregnancies. ### THE PILL Oral contraceptives can be a great choice for teen girls experiencing painful and heavy periods or excessive acne. Some birth control pills also give your teen the freedom of making her periods optional or help her manage health conditions like PCOS. The science says women under 30 should choose birth control pills containing [at least 30 micrograms of estrogen](https://www.pandiahealth.com/resources/low-dose-birth-control/), since estrogen plays a key role in bone health. ### CONDOMS Condoms help prevent unwanted pregnancy AND they’re one of the best ways to prevent sexually transmitted infections. No matter what type of birth control your teen uses, you should encourage him or her to use condoms, too. ## What are the side effects for teenagers on birth control? Side effects of hormonal birth control (e.g., tender breasts, spotting and nausea) are usually mild and tend to go away after a few months—which is true for teens and adults. Since teenagers tend to be more [prone to acne](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/6-teenage-skin-care-products/), some girls find that avoiding progestin-only pills is better for their skin. That said, many forms of birth control can improve skin quality and provide other beneficial effects. Be sure to talk to your doctor if you and your teen daughter need help selecting the best birth control option for her. ## Why is birth control important, even for teenagers? Here’s the reality: A little over half of all male and female teenagers have had sex by the time turn 18, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). So, empowering teenagers with birth control matters because it can help prevent teen pregnancy. The social and economic consequences of teen pregnancy are significant. Teen girls who become pregnant and give birth are far more likely to drop out of school. It’s also been found that kids born to teen mums are more likely to become teen parents themselves, face unemployment as adults, and are more likely to struggle with lower academic achievement, health problems and incarceration. Thankfully, teen pregnancy rates have been declining recently. The CDC believes that the greater availability and use of birth control is a huge driver of this promising trend! ## Conclusion Talking about [birth control for teens](https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/birth-control-teens) is an important conversation. Be honest, avoid making assumptions, and let your teen know they are safe to ask questions and talk to you about their concerns and needs. Let them know they have several options to choose from and encourage them to practice safer sex techniques if they do become sexually active. ![How to talk to your teen about birth control | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Talk-to-teen-birth-control.png "Talk to teen birth control - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/birth-control-teens/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/birth-control-teens/?share=x) - **Categories:** Children, Health **Tags:** sex, teenagers, condoms, birth control, teens, pill --- ### [Missing the other parent: Helping kids cope after divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/missing-the-other-parent/) **Published:** March 1, 2021 **Author:** Bron O'Loan **Content:** Of all the changes in your kids’ lives after separation, perhaps the most challenging is that one of their parents will no longer be in the next room to help with homework or tuck them in at night. This sense of missing the other parent will no doubt continue for your kids. If you feel your [child is struggling to cope with your separation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/child-struggling-separation-divorce/) because they miss the parent they are not with, here are ways to overcome the issue and help them thrive. ### THEY’RE GONNA MISS YOU Kids feel a sense of connection to both parents, so it’s normal for them to miss the parent they’re not with. So how can you help your kids to move forward positively when they are experiencing missing each of their parents at different times? Here are 5 tips to help you out. ***Further reading: [Divorce and children: How to help your kids cope with the changes.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/divorce-and-children/)*** ### RESPECT THE LOVE Do your best to respect your kids’ love for your co-parent. It’s totally understandable if you have mixed feelings about your co-parent. But no matter how you feel about your ex, try to separate those feelings from the needs of your kids. ### BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY Avoid at all costs the temptation to speak badly about the other parent in front of your kids. You will only hurt their feelings at a time when they need to find a sense of balance and security. ### ALLOW CONTACT Unless there are Family Court orders to the contrary, or there is a risk of the safety of your kids, when they want to contact their other parent, let them. You will have happier and more relaxed kids, and your co-parent may just follow your lead. See this article for more support: [Best video calling apps to help with co-parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/video-calling-apps/). ### BUT NOT TOO MUCH Let your kids to settle into their other home. Keep telephone calls short and sweet. Too much contact from you can make things harder for your kids. ### SHOW RESPECT If your kids are involved in an activity or a meal with your co-parent, get them to return your call when they are free so that their time is not interrupted. Your co-parent will appreciate the respect you are showing and may well do the same for you. ## MISSING PARENTS AS A CHILD OF DIVORCE (CONT.) Sometimes kids worry about the parent who they are not with. They worry that you are missing them or that you will be lonely without them. It can really make a difference to do what you can to ease their concerns. Let your kids know that while you will miss them when they’re away from you, [you are okay](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/). > *Around two years ago I met a little boy whilst I was travelling on a plane to a conference in Brisbane. The little boy was travelling with his father to spend time with his grandmother and he was excited about the plane trip. I guessed that he was around 5 years old.* > > *The boy sat next to me on the plane, with his father sitting in the next seat along. He was a very chatty little guy who told me his name was Eric. When our snack was offered, Eric was beside himself with excitement and I watched him lean over to his dad and say, “Can I call Mum to tell her about the cheese and biscuits?”* > > *Eric’s dad gently explained that he couldn’t call Mum just now. Then I witnessed an amazing thing that almost brought me to tears. Eric’s dad handed Eric an old blue teddy bear. Clearly it was a much-loved toy. He said to Eric, “Tell Bear about it.” Eric then turned to me and said, “I talk to Bear all the time. When I miss my Mum or Dad, I tell Bear. And when I have something that I want Mum or Dad to know, and they’re not with me, I tell Bear. Then Bear helps me to remember what I need to say to them when I see them again.”* > > *Eric’s bear was a simple and effective way of reminding Eric that it’s okay to miss his parents when he is not with either of them, but that he’ll see them again soon.* ## LIFE GOES ON The journey might have started like a rollercoaster, but I’m here to tell you that it is possible to get past the extreme ups and downs and begin establishing a new normal for your family. Hey, [there are perks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/7-perks-of-shared-custody/) to this new life right! Continue to focus on growing resilient, capable, confident and happy kids and it will all be okay. Remember, raising positive, well-adjusted kids isn’t about being a perfect parent or having the perfect co-parenting relationship. We all make our share of mistakes on the parenting journey. Focus on the things you can change and what you can influence. Stay connected to your people and the activities that help you feel good about yourself and keep finding ways to move forward. ![Missing the other parent | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Missing-the-other-parent.png "Missing the other parent - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/missing-the-other-parent/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/kids-and-separation/missing-the-other-parent/?share=x) - **Categories:** Kids and Separation **Tags:** co parenting, living between homes, shared care, coparenting --- ### [How to recover from a marriage to a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/recover-marriage-narcissist/) **Published:** February 19, 2021 **Author:** Jacinta Callaghan **Content:** You’re exhausted, right? And every day feels like a battlefield? You spend most of the day inside your own head – predicting, analysing, planning, questioning yourself endlessly – working out how reduce the conflict that you know is inevitable. Surviving a marriage to someone with a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is excruciatingly difficult. But, once the marriage has ended the stress is not over, particularly if you share children together. You still need to navigate co-parenting with your narcissist ex-partner, while also trying to regain your own identity, self-worth and a positive mental health space that has likely been eroded by the narcissist over time. Layered onto this is the confusion about how you ended up in this position. How had you not seen the signs of narcissism from the start? Yes, the self-punishing fallout from a narcissist can be brutal. The emotional labour of all these factors means you need a plan. A good strategy will give you focus and structure for your own recovery. This where your energy is needed the most (not reliving and replaying the past wondering what you could have done different/better). There are 3 main areas to focus on when recovering from a marriage to a narcissist: - Learning how to co-parent and communicate effectively - Learn about NPD so you can understand the behaviour you are dealing with - Learn about co-dependence, healing yourself and rebuilding your self-worth ## CO-PARENTING: HOW TO DO IT EFFECTIVELY Co-parenting means you must communicate with your ex-partner. It is important to do this in the most positive and non-destructive way possible. This will involve reducing interactions that will trigger your ex-partner wherever you can. This effort alone will be exhausting, but there are three approaches to take: - Manage - Accept - Ignore ### MANAGING YOUR COMMUNICATION Remember that reasonable communication is best for your children and their mental health. Remind yourself that your ex-partner’s unreasonable behaviour and words are not about you, despite how it may feel. Detaching yourself from their behaviour enables you to be functional and factual. As well as to interact in a way that will get the best outcome for you and your children. **Tips for managing communication:** - In correspondence, always focus on just one issue at a time and make plans for the children the key point of the communication - Understanding how they work and ‘playing their game’ does not mean you are lesser – just smarter and more effective. Don’t confuse ‘understanding’ their game with being sucked into ‘playing their game’. Remember, it’s hard to have a fight if only one person turns up ie – don’t engage in the rage - Be honest and factual (rather than emotive) when discussing issues with your kids Need more support communicating with your ex? These apps may help: [12 Best parenting apps and software in 2021](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/). ### ACCEPT(ANCE) Having a good understanding of your ex-partner’s behaviour and truly accepting it will not change is difficult, but essential. You may have spent years trying to change it, without any meaningful success. It may be challenging (even heart-breaking) to accept they will never see your perspective or understand how damaging their behaviour towards you has been. But understanding they are incapable of this is the only way to move forward with your own life. Their personal growth is not your personal project. Release them to live their life in their own destructive way without trying to “fix” them. **Tips for managing acceptance** Accept: - They will not change. It is simply not in their belief system. - They need to be right (see point above about why they won’t change – why would they if they are right?). Allow them to feel this as much as possible to minimise conflict. - They will use others to upset you, particularly your children – do your best not to buy into this – you’ll only feed their power trip. - They will present you as the ‘bad guy’ to other people. (Remember this is not your fault.) - Have a back-up plan, for situations when you will not be able to control things. Because you will need one. ### IGNORE Learn to predict what your ex-partner may say or do and prepare yourself to ignore it. This doesn’t mean endlessly playing over situations in your head. It means being clear and prepared, putting a mental “bow” around the plan knowing it’s done and ready should you need it. Understand that a person with NPD will use behaviour that is not acceptable in parenting (or other) terms and will deliberately try and upset you or “set you off”. If you react, this will accelerate an already volatile situation. Know your plan and stick to it to the best of your ability. And be gentle with yourself if you don’t always get it right. **Tips for ignoring:** - Say as little as possible. Avoid saying anything that can be used to create an argument or conflict. - Be a healthy sounding board for your children. They need you to be calm and stable, if you react with anger then the children will avoid confiding in you, as they don’t want you to be upset. They may also feel they don’t have a safe adult to talk to, which will limit their own ability to learn the skills they need to deal with their NPD parent. AND … always plan for the NPD behaviour in co-parenting arrangements and predict the issues you know are typical of their behaviour. For example, if your ex-partner is always late or does not show up, plan accordingly. Rather than create a situation where the children also feel let down, say: > *“\[Parent name\] said he will be picking you up sometime after x o’clock, but we know they often having trouble making it, so let’s go ahead with our day until we know for sure.”* For more tips around co-parenting with a narcissist ex see: [Crucial tips for co-parenting with a narcissist ex](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/co-parenting-with-a-narcissistic-ex/) [How to help your kids cope with a narcissist father](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/help-kids-cope-with-narcissistic-father/) ## NPD: LEARN WHAT YOU CAN AS KNOWLEDGE IS POWER At the beginning of the relationship, you probably thought your new partner was unpredictable. But the more you learnt about them – the more you found they are predictably unpredictable. Learning as much as possible about [NPD](https://www.healthline.com/health/narcissistic-personality-disorder) traits, phrases and behaviours will help you understand that is it not about you. You do not cause or create this behaviour. This will help you remove and detach yourself from their damaging words and actions and understand that it is not personal (despite how it feels). It is crucial for your self-care. **Tips for learning about NPD:** - Learn as much as you can about the disorder and how it works but avoid becoming a ‘couch psychologist’. It takes professionals years to understand and work with NPD – you only need as much info as you need to get through this. - Ignore the behaviour as much as possible. Switch off to feeling hurt by it, and realise it says way more about them than it does about you (and yes, I know that’s hard, but worth it!) - Do not try and achieve respect, compassion or understanding from someone with NPD. - Ignore any personal attacks made by text or email. Don’t respond. - Do not engage in arguments. It is about ‘winning’ not resolution for someone with NPD. Learn to just walk away and let them think they won. Remember my earlier point about a fight not being possible if only one person shows up. Let them be the one that shows up for the fight whilst you rise above it and don’t engage. - Realise they will always feel some ownership of you, and will not accept a new partner in your life. ## UNDERSTAND CO-DEPENDENCE AND BUILD YOUR SELF-WORTH Part of re-building your self-worth is learning about your own personality and understanding how you ended up in a damaging relationship. Your NPD ex-partner has exploited the cracks in your [self-esteem](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/how-to-supercharge-your-self-esteem-after-divorce/), so it’s important to understand what those cracks are, how to mend them and seek assistance to do so effectively. This will ensure the baggage from this relationship does not continue to be part of your psyche moving forward. Years of abusive and damaging behaviour means rebuilding your [sense of self](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/) is not an easy task. But it’s an important one to help you avoid repeating similar patterns of behaviour, and to develop happy and positive relationships in the future. A first step on this journey is to have a spring clean of anyone in your life who may exhibit NPD characteristics, both overt and covert. Being aware of how others treat you and making sure you protect yourself is important, particularly at this early stage when you are most vulnerable. **Tips on eliminating co-dependence:** - Avoid seeing your ex-partner (or anyone with NPD) in person. - Communicate about factual things only, and in writing. Ensure you have a paper trail. - Screenshot texts. Analyse this information rather that react. It will help remove the emotion you feel. - Understand that the truth is not their starting point. People with NPD create a version of events or a situation that suits the outcome they desire in that moment. Truth is secondary. - Remember that YOU are in charge of your thoughts, your mind. This is a big change. Remind yourself constantly of this fact. **Tips on rebuilding self-worth:** - Do the work on your recovery and self-worth. This will include facing internal self-blame, depression and PTSD. - Understand how you got to where you are. Get specialist counselling. - Forgive yourself. Do nice things for yourself daily. [Practice self-care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/107-self-care-ideas-that-cost-you-nothing/). - Allow time for grief. Be kind to yourself while you heal. - Reconnect with friends and family. - Know that unless someone has dealt with NPD they may find it hard to understand your position. This can make you feel alone at times. Specialist support groups can help. - You do not have to tell your story to new people, it’s ok to protect yourself. - Take your time with new people. Watch, listen and learn as there are others with NPD that you will want to avoid. - Seek other therapies that can help you heal, such as [meditation](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/meditation-for-mums/), tapping, journaling, kinesiology, reiki and more. Find what connects and works best for you. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Finally, it’s important to know that you WILL get through this. You WILL heal and find joy again. You WILL regain your beautiful sense of self, and best of all you WILL discover new strengths and skills you never knew you had. These will be the basis of your new life – with clearer boundaries, more confidence, greater strength and enhanced wisdom. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Recover-marriage-narcissist.png "Recover marriage narcissist - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/recover-marriage-narcissist/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/healing/recover-marriage-narcissist/?share=x) - **Categories:** Healing **Tags:** narc, narcissism --- ### [The importance of role modelling body confidence to our children](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/role-modelling-body-confidence-children/) **Published:** February 15, 2021 **Author:** Zali Yager **Content:** Imagine this … Your child walks in on you trying on a new outfit in the mirror. You are trying to smooth down your stomach, checking the back to see your butt. Then your brain starts letting your thoughts out, and you say “hmm, I think I’ll take this back, I hate the way my stomach looks so big in it”. You’re just making conversation, and you’re just being honest. However, in that moment, your child learns big lessons that will affect their body confidence and possibly stay with them throughout their life. They learn about what women should look like, and how they should feel about their bodies and themselves. ## THE INFLUENCE OF PARENTS ON CHILDREN’S BODY IMAGE Parents are a strong influence on children’s body image. This includes thoughts and feelings that they have about their appearance through: - Direct sources such as food, physical activity, and - Indirect sources such as role modelling, acceptance of appearance-based teasing. Research suggests that mothers are one of the strongest influences of body image attitudes and behaviours to children. We do this by: - Modelling attitudes towards our own bodies and, - Displaying behaviours based on our thoughts and feelings about our bodies. Children engage in a lot of vicarious learning about the world, by watching other people, particularly up to the age of six or seven. They learn from us, and role modelling takes place, even when we are not aware of it, or actively trying to teach them something. **FACT:** They are more likely to pick up on and remember the things they “see” that have an emotional component than the “lessons” we give them. ## WHY TO KEEP READING THIS ARTICLE … Now, I’ve got three kids – one is eight, and twins who are five. And I really hate parenting articles that make you feel guilty for things that you might have said and done in your parenting past. So please, let’s move forward with compassion and kindness to ourselves (more on this later!). It is also worth noting that you are not alone in that familiar feeling of [mum guilt](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/the-truth-about-mum-guilt/). A body confidence [study](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/eat.22858) in the U.S. found that: > *“76% of mothers reported sometimes or often using at least one ‘fat talk’ statement in front of their children, with the most common statements being ‘I complain that I am not in shape’ (42.8%), ‘that I am fat’ (34.7%) and ‘that I have gained weight’ (34.6%).”* So, if how you feel about your body, what you say about your body, and how you speak about other people’s bodies is important, this article will help. We discuss what can do to role model positive attitudes and improve the likelihood that your child will feel good about their body and the way they look. ## HOW TO ROLE MODEL BODY CONFIDENCE TO OUR CHILDREN ### WORDS MATTER Try not to say negative things about your body front of your child. This can take some practice, but it is worth it! Every time you catch yourself about to say, or halfway through saying something negative about your jiggly tummy when your child pokes it, try to flip it to a positive about the functionality of your body with: > *“Yes, my tummy is soft and squishy, AND that makes it much better for cuddling you.”* I call this the “Red Riding Hood” approach, as in “all the better to see/hear/smell/eat you with my dear”. ### JUDGEMENT BE GONE To encourage body confidence, it is important not to comment on other people’s bodies … in a positive OR negative way. Do not say things like: > *“Oh, you look great, have you lost weight?”* > > *“Wow, she’s really getting big.”* We generally say these things to voice aloud the automated self-comparisons that are happening in our heads. However, they teach our children more about how to judge others and can become the voice inside their heads when they judge themselves. Instead of this, try practicing compassion towards others. Take a deep breath and send kindness instead of judgement their way, or at least don’t say anything out loud. You could think or say non-appearance-based compliments like this instead: > *“You look so radiant today- your energy is amazing!”* > > *“I hope that (name) is looking after herself right now.”* ### MODEL POSITIVE BEHAVIOURS Show your child how you nourish your body with great food, and joyful [physical activity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/finding-time-exercise-busy-single-mum/). In doing this, you are teaching your child that: - You are worthy of looking after - We love our bodies, so we need to look after them - Food and movement are for fun and keep us healthy, not a punishment or a chore For improved body confidence, try one new activity together where you can move your bodies and have fun. A silly dance party before dinner, or a fun game at the park. Point out the way that our hearts are beating fast and keeping us healthy as we have fun. Remember, when you are doing physical activity on your own, tell yourself and your kids that you are doing this [online exercise class](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/10-online-fitness-programs-you-can-do-in-your-undies/) because you want to look after your body, not because you want to change it. ### DITCH THE DIET … OR AT LEAST THE DIET TALK You might have already guessed what’s coming next … Part of modelling positive food and movement behaviours also means us stopping ourselves when we are going to use negative wording. Instead of: > *“Mummy has to eat a salad because I need to lose weight.”* You could say: > *“Mummy loves eating all of these vegi’s to make my body feel good.”* Can you see how flipping this switch could make all the difference to your kids? If weight loss is important to you, try investigating non-diet approaches, or professionals that take a body positive, [Health at Every Size \[HAES\]](https://www1.racgp.org.au/newsgp/clinical/understanding-the-%E2%80%98health-at-every-size%E2%80%99-paradigm) approach. ### WORK ON YOUR OWN BODY CONFIDENCE [The Body Confident Mums](http://www.bodyconfidentmums.org/) team published some research last year to explore the role modelling of mums and how they related to their own body image, and their diet and exercise behaviours. We found that the mums who had a better body image themselves according to our standardised measures were more likely to agree that they were a good role model for their children. For Mums who are struggling with this, the first thing that you can do is start to treat yourself and your body with more self-compassion. Try changing the critical voice in your head to say the sorts of kind things that a friend would say to you instead. There are some great meditations to listen to by Kristen Neff that can kickstart this process. For more evidence-based resources to help you encourage body positivity to your children check out the [Body Confident Mums](http://www.bodyconfidentmums.org/more) Resource Page and follow us at @bodyconfidentmums on Instagram. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Starting on the path to making these changes, flipping your words, and eventually your thoughts to role model positive body image can be a huge help in interrupting the intergenerational transmission of poor body image to your kids. ![Role modelling body confidence to our children | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Body-confidence-children.png "Body confidence children - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/role-modelling-body-confidence-children/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/self-care/positive-thinking/role-modelling-body-confidence-children/?share=x) - **Categories:** Positive thinking, Children **Tags:** exercise, diet, body image, teenager, overweight --- ### [6 Online dating myths you’d do well to ignore](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/) **Published:** February 27, 2021 **Author:** Anna Wood **Content:** As a single mum, online dating sounds perfect. No more scanning to see if the sports teacher has a ring, an end to awkward blind dates, and the promise of being able to swipe right in my underwear. What more could you want? I’d heard of the many [dating apps](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-dating-apps-australia-2020/) out there but for some reason, I could never bring myself to actually sign up. Why? Well, online dating myths had me shaking in my baby-vomit-covered flats. But eventually, I took the plunge and ended up finding out a lot about myself and the type of person I want to end up with. So, if you’re thinking about looking online for love, I’ve compiled a list of online dating myths you need not worry about. ## Online Dating Myths you’d do well to ignore ### Online Dating Myth #1: It isn’t safe The biggest online dating myth is that it isn’t safe. I was scared I was going to leave my kids exposed to the next Craiglist killer. In reality, I found online dating much safer than meeting people offline. Many online sites require two-way matches before you can message other people. In other words, nobody can contact you unless you say it’s okay first. If you do match with someone and realise that you made a mistake then you can simply block them from contacting you anymore. You’re not required to swap phone numbers and can talk for as long as you like before moving forward. These measures mean you can stay safe while getting to know new people. For more on this see: [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/). ### Online Dating Myth 2: It never works out It’s a myth that online dating never works out. A decade ago online dating was non-existent, but today, [one-third of marriages start online](http://www.pnas.org/content/110/25/10135.abstract) and [15% of people are using online dating](http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/02/29/5-facts-about-online-dating/) to meet potential partners. [Research suggests](https://www.datingnews.com/industry-trends/online-dating-statistics-what-they-mean-for-future/) that online dating will soon be the most popular way to meet people. ### Myth #3: It’s superficial One of the things that held me back from online dating was the fear that people would judge me based on my photos. In an effort to look more approachable I asked my 5yo to take some new ones of me. As much as I admired his ability to perfectly centre my gigantic washing pile in the background of every single blurry picture, I didn’t think my potential dates would appreciate it. Instead, I opted for the ones that made me happy and didn’t highlight my lack of organisation. Whilst looks obviously played some part in matching with partners, I was surprised to find that it’s what inside that counts. According to [eHarmony](https://tms.eharmony.com.au/cl?m315=c&q=UaIQZv4FDeiyzE3P98bTYl2g) research, it’s a myth that online dating is superficial. Last year, 88% of women and 73% of men surveyed believed that personality was the most important quality, not looks. ### Myth #4: It’s for the desperate It’s a myth that online dating is only for desperate people who can’t seem to score a date ‘in real life.’ I am yet to meet a full-time worker who can afford to spend time constantly going out on dates and meeting new people. The guys you meet online often fall under the ‘too-busy-to-meet-people-offline’ (aka ‘adult’) category of our society and they’re definitely not desperate. Once you get into online dating you’ll see that many people are actually the opposite. I once got rejected because I told a guy I was a Star Wars nerd. Note to self: the force will not help with online dating. ### Myth #5: Everyone is lying Yes, people lie on their online profiles, but not about what you’d think. According to online dating polls, [53% of people lie about their age, height/weight, and income](http://www.eharmony.com/online-dating-statistics/) to sound more desirable. I was shocked to find the truth behind this online dating myth until it came to online dating myself. I didn’t mention that the reason I liked ‘movie nights’ was because it’s the only time my children shut up. Or that the pictures I used were taken five years ago before I started binge eating LCM bars. I probably should have mentioned that my full-time job involved watching the Teletubbies on repeat and that I wouldn’t be available for a date until 2028, but I didn’t. At the end of the day, we’re all just want to be liked and people are going to over (or under) exaggerate in the real world too. ### Online Dating Myth #6: It’s expensive Online dating won’t break the bank. Most online dating sites have a ‘try before you buy’ option that allows you to sign-up for free. Sites such as [Tinder](https://www.gotinder.com/) and [Plenty of Fish](http://www.pof.com) let you send and receive messages without purchasing upgrade options so don’t let this online dating myth stop you from trying it out. If you do decide to purchase an online dating subscription the fees are generally very affordable and can usually be cancelled at any time. Find out more about these options here: [Online dating apps – Paid vs. free](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/online-dating-apps-paid-vs-free/). ![Online dating myths | Beanstalk Single Mums Pinterest](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Online-dating-myths.png "Online dating myths - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/online-dating-myths-youd-well-ignore/?share=x) - **Categories:** Dating **Tags:** dating, online dating, dating apps, relationship, finding love --- ### [Red flags to look out for on a first date](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/dating/red-flags-first-date/) **Published:** May 14, 2021 **Author:** Ichikawa Shannon **Content:** I am super excited for you that you are either off on a first date with someone, or you have decided to start getting out there again so you maybe heading out on a first date sometime soon! It’s not easy as a single mum to find the time, inclination and chance to head out to get to know someone new. Keeping your eye out for red flags at the same time as being open and curious about getting to know a new human is a wonderful intention for a first date. ## WHAT IS A RED FLAG? A red flag is a metaphor for something you sense, see, or feel that warns you about something. Warning signals can help you steer clear of somebody who is just not the right fit, is somehow destructive or even potentially dangerous. It’s very important to be aware of red flags to help us steer clear of what we don’t want. Someone in a seemingly brand spanking new package can look completely different to someone who had damaging behaviours or patterns, but they actually have the same destructive tendencies you have experienced before. If so, head for the hills! These patterns can, and do, present in someone you can have a sustainable and happy relationship with – they help us grow. It’s only when these patterns are a destructive version that we need to avoid them. ## FIRST DATE RED FLAGS The other side of red flags is noticing them in your own behaviour during the first date and beyond. This whole list can be applied to yourself – consider why you might have the behaviours that are listed. Do so with oodles of gentleness and care for yourself, of course! For example, if you leave your phone on the table during a date perhaps intimacy makes you feel uncomfortable and you want a kind of escape. That’s totally ok, just note it as a tendency and practice going without it occasionally and see what happens. ### TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES If they turn everything you say around to be about them! This could be related to nerves, however your date might not have a very developed capacity to listen – which should certainly be a red flag if you want a relationship that has understanding, empathy and effective communication. ### NOT TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES AT ALL! For the duration of the whole date, they don’t volunteer in any information about themselves. It could be that they have something to hide, or perhaps they feel their life is not very interesting and are a bit shy. This is only really a red flag if they have something to hide. People who think their life is not interesting or who are shy just have some mindset adjustments to make – they could very well be a very decent and beautiful person. ### PUTTING THEIR PHONE ON THE TABLE If your date looks at their phone the whole time, or even if they just leave the phone on the table. Apart from being impolite, what subconscious messages is someone who leaves their phone on the table giving out? Are they saying that their work, and communicating with others is more important than the connection with the person in front of them? Many people think they must be always reachable and do exactly that. I don’t suggest writing them off completely, however it is important to note this tendency and suggest a different possibility next time you hang out, early in the relationship if this is important to you. You don’t want your date to be more connected to their boss, or Siri, than with you – especially if they end up being your choice of lasting love partner! ### TRYING TO GET YOU ALONE Get to know someone before you make that decision to be alone with them, and of course the same goes with choosing to be intimate physically with them. One aspect of being alone with someone is that it can be dangerous to not be in a public place when you are first getting to know them. Another aspect is if you’re alone the date might expect that you will connect sexually. If your date needs this intimate connection before any friendship is built, it may indicate that other forms of connection are not easy for them to maintain. Perhaps not, it’s just something to be aware of. I have no judgement on people who get intimate when they first meet someone – however as a find love coach, it is not what I recommend. I recommend getting to know people as friends quite well before connecting in this way. ### THE FRIEND ZONE, OR NOT If you meet someone who does not gel with you as a friend, it does not bode well for a sustainable and lasting relationship. Likewise, a friendship without the intimacy is not ideal either. You can discern these different nuances and choices in relating, and what is right for you, by exploring your inner mental and emotional landscape. This will help you learn about your beliefs and patterns and how to clear them, so you attract someone who truly resonates with how you want to be and live. ### THE “CHILDREN” TALK When you talk about your children, your date is either way too interested, or not interested at all. If your date wants to know any personal details about your children, for example where you live or what school they go to, make sure you do not share that information, and also note it as a red flag. Hopefully, anyone with truly creepy energy you wouldn’t end up on a date with anyway because you practice using your intuition, and you used it when you got to know them a little first either online or in person before you agreed on the date. However, you never know as there are some people very good at hiding the dark sides of their nature. For more about this see: [12 Tried and tested tactics to date safely online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/12-tried-and-tested-tactics-to-date-safely-online/). On the other hand, as a single mum if your date does not have a jot of interest in what you say when you talk about your children, then they may not have much experience with kids. This could mean they don’t understand what it’s like navigating the day-to-day challenges of parenthood. Of course, this can be learnt but they may need some gentle guidance in understanding about your life as a mum, the priorities you have and the choices you need to make. ### ONLY TALKING ABOUT CHILDREN If you are both parents, a red flag for both of you to consider is if you can only talk about your kids. Naturally, this will happen at first and it’s not a red flag in the traditional sense, but if it’s extremely uncomfortable or challenging to talk about anything but being a parent, it could mean you have lost a sense of self. This happens to most of us, but it is definitely something to be aware of and work on. You can write a list of subjects that you find interesting to talk about and approach one of those subjects with your date instead. Get more help in this area here: [Finding the “real you” amid the craziness of being a single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/real-you-single-mother/). ### BIG LIFESTYLE DIFFERENCES Your date wants only veggies and you eat a Paleo diet. Or visa versa, they are ordering the steak and you are a dedicated vegan. This sort of situation can indicate you have very different lifestyles. I chose food as an example, but this flag is good to note generally. Perhaps being very fit is something you feel passionate about, but they can’t stand focussing on fitness. Look out for aspects that would indicate you are very different. Difference can be a positive thing, but fundamental differences can greatly contribute to relationship breakdown. Decide if their values and lifestyle choices are something that you can happily live with, or something that’s going to drive you crazy. ### BEING LATE If your date is late. If they have a valid reason, ok maybe once. But if it happens on the 2nd date too, a serious red flag. If they don’t honour and respect your time now, when will they? ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Having these things to look out for will help you relax, get to know your date and remain open and curious. I have the attitude of giving people the benefit of the doubt, however it’s only natural to have concerns. So, take note of these flags if they come up, and work out if it’s something serious, or something you can work with. 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Get ready to embrace your independence, redefine your path and be the best you can be, all whilst being a brilliant single mum. ## A unique eCourse packed with tools specific to the challenges of a single mother. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/restore-1098x800.png "restore - Beanstalk Mums") ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/rejuvenate-1098x800.png "rejuvenate - Beanstalk Mums") ![Recapture your single mum life](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/recapture-1098x800.png "recapture - Beanstalk Mums") ## Is this the right course for you? - Have you lost sight of the “real you”? - Is your life unbalanced but you can’t seem to take control? - Are you stressed about money and find it hard to live on one income? - Is every day a race against the clock? - Do you feel lonely, even though you are always busy? - Do you want a better quality of life for you and your children? - Have you put your future dreams on hold while you fulfil your role of single mum? ## Meet Lucy Founder of Beanstalk and the writer of this course. I’ve worked with single mothers for the last nine years – chatting, advising and providing every kind of support I can think of. I totally and completely get your needs, wants, challenges and the bittersweet feeling of being a single mum. It can be difficult to make progress when you’re working alone. I understand how hard it can be. I have lived it and learned from it. This course is a culmination of my work with single mothers, as well as my own personal experience to find my way whilst navigating single motherhood, chronic illness, depression, addiction and separation in a country 15,000km from my homeland. But I did it! **And now I would be honoured to help you do the same.** Learn more about the [Beanstalk Mums Journey](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/about-beanstalk-mums/) [here](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/about-beanstalk-mums/) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/lucy2.png "lucy2 - Beanstalk Mums") Many single mums put their lives to one side while they focus on their children, often driven by guilt or worry. Yet, contentment comes from the source – **you**. If you revamp your life, the results will filter through to your children and they will benefit. Remember that you are their guide and their inspiration. They mimic and learn from you. If you expect more from your life, they will grow up making more of theirs. ## Let’s Talk Money You can be excused for thinking this ecourse is free because everything else on my website is. I charge a fee of just $90 (Aussie dollars) due to the cost of two software platforms I use to host the learning. Plus, I donate $5 from each course to the Lifeline charity, which plays a huge part in helping desperate single mothers who need support. I was there once, and you may have been, too. But don’t be fooled by the low cost! I did a lot of research, and a course of this size with the amount of quality content and resources would usually sell for around $800. I am certainly not going to be charging single mums this, but I want you to know this is the value you are getting if you choose to buy. !["You've Got This" eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Youve-Got-This.jpg "You've Got This - Beanstalk Mums") [ Buy the course now ](https://lucy-s-school-e5f4.thinkific.com/enroll/800071) - There are seven super-easy modules. - Each module has four exercises and will take about two hours to complete. - You can do the course anywhere, anytime and entirely at your own pace. - The course is full of advice, techniques, exercises and actions that are worked through and then implemented in real life. - It’s fun and thought-provoking. It will help you create a more orderly, happier, and successful life for yourself and your children. ## Course Modules --- ### Seven super-easy modules to complete at your own pace. ### Self-Assessment #### 01. Face in the Mirror **Current Situation** Complete a thought-provoking review of the wonderful person you are at this exact moment in time … practically, emotionally and physically. #### 02. New Growth **Re-defining Direction** Consider your current aspirations, identify exciting new ones, deal with decision pressure and identify issues that could prevent growth and progress. ### Practical #### 03. Balancing Act **Life Balance** Review the balance of the main components of your life and effortlessly readdress them to allow you to concentrate on the things that matter. #### 04. Time Machine **Time Management** Pinpoint your problem areas and put highly effective and easy-to-use measures in place to magically generate valuable “you” time. #### 05. Financial Sanctuary **Financial Planning** Understand your current situation and learn uncomplicated processes to live on one income, save money and feel financially at peace. ### Life Enhancing #### 06. Bring Back The Laughter **Quality of Life** Quality check your everyday life and make simple upgrades to ditch the guilt and create happiness, health and well-being for your whole family. #### 07. It Just Gets Better **Goals and Aspirations** Test your motivation, build a support network and create a successful, fail-safe strategy to capture your future vision for you and your children. “Happily Ever After comes in many different forms. Let me take you on a journey to find yours.” ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Lucy-Beanstalk-Founder.jpg "Lucy Beanstalk Founder - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mum online ecourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Youve-Got-This-Logo-Final.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mums eCourse You've Got This Single mother support - Beanstalk Mums") [ Buy the course now ](https://lucy-s-school-e5f4.thinkific.com/enroll/800071) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/ecourse-banner-320x100-2-1200x148.jpg "ecourse banner 320x100 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://lucy-s-school-e5f4.thinkific.com/enroll/800071) ## What’s included in the course? - Use of our easy-to-use online course software for as long as you need to complete the course - Private login to ensure full security and privacy throughout the course process - Clear directions on how to complete the course - Videos to explain, encourage and inspire you - 28 Guided exercises designed uniquely for single mums - 28 Thought-provoking, beautifully designed worksheets to complete by-hand or online - Free access to PDF Filler if you choose to complete the course online - Extra downloads for more complex exercises - A super-cool reward scheme to make sure you see it through to the end - Some extra gifts just because you deserve them - Recommended resource links for further learning and support ## Read the latest success stories ![Single mother - Alanah](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Alanah-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Alanah-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “Lucy, I did your ecourse and got so much out of it. I often refer back to it as I get overwhelmed and feel sorry for myself. Your course puts everything in perspective and makes it more reachable. Thank you for being you, for being inspirational, real, focused and amazing. You really are reaching out and touching people’s lives and making a difference.” Alesha ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Jocelyn](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Jocelyn.jpg "Polaroid Jocelyn - Beanstalk Mums") “I can never thank Lucy enough for this course. I was at a point in my life that I had nothing to lose. Hated my job, where I was living, struggling to be a parent to a gorgeous little girl, no self-confidence and really unhappy. Never did I think doing an ecourse would actually help. But boy was I wrong. Lucy has set this course up in a very realistic manner. Every part has an actual reason! It reminded me of all the good things in my life. And I can now see so many things that affect my well-being both mentally and physically. I am so much happier seeing a clearer path to how I wish my life to be.” Jocelyn ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Linda](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Linda-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Linda-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “It’s like losing a friend finishing up the course. My daily life is so much easier with all the tips and tricks to streamline my time and energy. I actually have more time and money based solely on this course. What I gained is exciting and eye opening and I can’t wait to wake up tomorrow morning and look through my gorgeous workbook with all my individual and reassess what gets my attention right now! I feel like you are my fairy godmother Lucy, thank you.” Linda ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Jermaine - Single mother](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Jermaine-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Jermaine-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “I absolutely loved doing this course. It is super easy to follow and each module made me feel more confident and inspired to improve all areas of my life. It made me focus on me and how I could not only be a better mum but also a strong women. I feel more aware now of what areas of my life I need to focus on and have been given great tools from this course to do so. Lucy is amazing, always so encouraging and I always felt like she had time for me.” Jermaine ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Tina](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Tina-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Tina-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “This course is super easy to follow and has some real eye opening moments. I especially loved Lucy’s introductory videos which genuinely got me excited about what came next. It was great to put my life in perspective and challenge where I was headed. I have actually become a lot more confident and self-aware since doing the course. Changed jobs after 9.5 years and earn more money. I feel happier as I have more direction in life and know who I’m taking along with me. If you get the opportunity, do yourself a favour and DO THIS COURSE.” Tina ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Chelsea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Chelsea-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Chelsea-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “As a single mum I felt so lost and alone and really struggled to look forward and not get bogged down with life. Doing this course put everything into perspective for me. I found my strengths and realised what I can change. I now look positively towards the future with a clear head and purpose. It also allowed me more quality time with my kids as I could prioritise better. Highly recommend this course for any single mama trying to do her absolute best.” Chelsea ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Michelle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Michelle-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Michelle-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “I completed the course on the weeks I didn’t have my kids, but would share it with them when they came back. They would get excited as I was when I showed them. I love the layout, the prettiness, the worksheets, the activities and the quotes. You have done such an inspirational job Lucy and I sincerely thank you.” Michelle ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mother - Nicole](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Polaroid-Nicole-compressed.jpg "Polaroid Nicole-compressed - Beanstalk Mums") “I have just finished this ecourse and it wouldn’t matter if it cost a million dollars, it would be worth every cent. The software is easy to use (even for the computer challenged like me!). The modules are inspiring and insightful and I found each one of them equally important and satisfying to do. I would recommend this course single mothers. It helped me get my life back in perspective and to level things back out again. Thank you so much.” Nicole ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/5-stars.jpg "5 stars - Beanstalk Mums") ![Single mum online ecourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Youve-Got-This-Logo-Final.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mums eCourse You've Got This Single mother support - Beanstalk Mums") [ Buy the course now ](https://lucy-s-school-e5f4.thinkific.com/enroll/800071) ## Frequently asked questions ### Toggle Is the course only for when you have just become a single mum? Not at all. The course can help you at any stage of your single mother journey. If you feel the need to improve your single mum world and are open to making positive change, then this course is for you! ### Toggle How can I expect feel after doing the course? Check out the testimonials to see how other single mums have felt after completing the ecourse. Basically, if you complete the “You’ve Got This” ecourse and adapt your learnings into your life, you can expect great changes. These include a better understanding of where you are, what you want and how you’ll get it. Life will be more balanced (in your favour!), calmer, more organised, less stressful and waaay less overwhelming. Getting through each day will feel more controlled and exciting, knowing that you are happily cruising in the right direction. You’ll feel proud, enthusiastic and determined. You’ll have a plan, and you’ll be rocking it … all while setting a great example for your kids. ### Toggle Why is the course so well-suited to single mums? The “You’ve Got This” ecourse has been designed by Lucy Good. The Founder of Beanstalk Mums, who has been working with single mums every day for the last nine years. Lucy sat at the centre of the think-tank for modern single mums and understood their needs, wants and challenges. Lucy also has her own experiences of single motherhood from the past years and has learnt to overcome many obstacles to reach a place of clarity, balance and control. She gets the craziness of single motherhood and for this reason, each module takes into account the specific challenges that single mums face. The modular design of the course ensures that it’s simple to complete anywhere, anytime, at any pace. The exercises yield fast results that can be applied emotionally and practically to make real-life changes that will ease the pressure, promote growth and make you feel excited about life again. ### Toggle What do I need to complete the course? You simply need a device, i.e. a computer, tablet or phone. You will also need a printer if you would like to print your worksheets, although they can be completed totally online, too. If you are printing your worksheets, you will have the option to print them all together at the beginning of the course or to print them as you do each exercise. And, although not a necessity, I recommend a folder for your worksheets. You will also need an inquiring mind, moments of peace and quiet and a desire for self-improvement. ### Toggle How long will it take me to complete the course? It is entirely up to you how long you take to complete the course. There are no deadlines or time restrictions. You are able to work through the course entirely at your own pace. As a rough guide, it takes two hours to complete each module (of which there are seven). The more time you give each exercise the more you will get out of it. ### Toggle Do I have to complete each module all in one go? Not at all. Each module has four exercises and it’s recommended that you try to do each of these in one sitting. However, the nature of the worksheets allows you to refer back to your findings each time you start a new session. This way, you’re always prepared for inevitable single mum-style distractions and setbacks. ### Toggle Can I do the course on my phone? Absolutely. You can do the course on any device. ### Toggle Is the course country specific? Not at all. Other than being written in English, the course is beneficial to single mums the world over. Lucy, the course creator, is from the UK and now lives in Australia. There are minimal country-specific references. ### Toggle My question isn’t list here, how can I get in touch? You contact Beanstalk via the contact page on the website or via this email: elle@beanstalkmums.au. We look forward to hearing from you 🙂 ![Beanstalk Single Mums eCourse You've Got This Single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/Youve-Got-This-clear-background-1200x690.png "Youve Got This clear background - Beanstalk Mums") ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mums-ecourse/?share=x) - --- ### [About Beanstalk Mums - Your Reliable Single Mother Life Line](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/about-beanstalk-mums/) **Published:** September 8, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ![mama reading in a warm inviting library](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Newsletter-artwork-19.jpg "Warm corner - Beanstalk Mums") Beanstalk Mums is a warm, practical corner of the internet for single mums. We share real-life advice, helpful tools, and a kind community so you feel less alone, more informed, and quietly confident about your next steps. ## **Our story** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Lucy-Beanstalk-Single-Mothers-1200x800.jpg "Lucy Beanstalk Single Mothers - Beanstalk Mums") ### Founded by Lucy Good Beanstalk Mums began with a simple idea from founder **Lucy Good**: a place where single mums could find straight-up information and genuine support without judgement. What started as one mum’s passion grew into a much-loved platform of articles, resources, and community—proof that when mums back each other, beautiful things grow. ![Elle Sitek owner Single Mama Way and Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-9.jpg "Single Mama Way Elle - Beanstalk Mums") ### Now owned by Elle Sitek Today, Beanstalk Mums is cared for by **Elle Sitek**, a single-mum counsellor and coach who’s walked this road herself. Elle brings a calm, caring voice and a practical mindset—keeping the heart of Lucy’s vision while expanding helpful offerings for everyday life, from money and home to wellbeing and parenting. ![Plant growing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Fukayamamo-bbmyspfyrws-unsplash-306x400.jpg "Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Why “Beanstalk Mums”?** Think of the magic beanstalk: a tiny handful of beans, planted with hope, becomes a sky-high ladder of possibility. That’s our spirit. - **From the ground up:** we honour where you’re starting. - **Growth, step by step:** small actions add up. - **Opportunity:** we help you spot it—and reach it. - **Making our own luck:** with community, knowledge, and courage, a couple of “measly beans” can take you from the bottom to the skies. ## **What we’re here for** - **Practical help first:** clear, trustworthy info you can use today. - **Kind community:** reminders that you’re strong, capable, and never on your own. - **Time + money savers:** discounts, directories, and tips that lighten the load. - **Emotional steadiness:** gentle tools for confidence, boundaries, and mental load relief. - **Ethical partnerships:** only brands and services that genuinely serve single mums. ## **What you’ll find** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-3.jpg "Magazines - Beanstalk Mums")### Helpful Articles & Guides Real-world advice on co-parenting, finances, home life, legal basics, and more. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-5.jpg "Podcast - Beanstalk Mums")### Podcast & Stories Honest chats with experts and mums who get it. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-7-1.jpg "Service directory - Beanstalk Mums")### Service Directory Values-aligned businesses that support single mums. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-6.jpg "Freebies - Beanstalk Mums")### Freebies & Tools Checklists, worksheets, and little boosts you can print or save. *(Looking for 1:1 support? Elle also runs our sister brand, **[Single Mama Way](https://singlemamaway.com/)**, for counselling and gentle programmes.)* ## **Our values** - **Respect:** every mum’s path is different—and valid. - **Clarity:** no jargon, no guilt, just useful help. - **Strength in softness:** support isn’t weakness; it’s how we keep going. - **Community care:** we rise higher when we lift together. - **Integrity:** advice you can trust, partnerships that pass the sniff test. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-19-267x400.jpg "Beanstalk Mum - Beanstalk Mums") ## **Meet the team** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Dsc_8705-edit-1200x800.jpg "Dsc_8705-edit - Beanstalk Mums") ### Elle Sitek — Owner A counsellor, coach, and single mum, Elle believes tiny, doable steps change everything. She stewards the platform with compassion, clear information, and a steady belief in mums finding their feet—and their spark. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-2.jpg "Maggie - Beanstalk Mums") ### Margaret — Social Media Queen Maggie is a single mum and the heart behind **Not Just A Mum**. She shows up as herself—warm, honest, and a little cheeky—sharing small wins, real-life tips, and moments that remind mums they’re doing beautifully, even on the tough days. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Untitled-design-8.jpg "Writing team - Beanstalk Mums") ### Gilliane, Megan & Cedie — Team of talented writers The original seed-planter. Lucy created Beanstalk Mums to turn isolation into connection and guesswork into guidance. Her legacy is a community that champions practical hope. ![Flower Decoractions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/themes/beanstalk/img/leaves-background-left.webp) ![Leaf Decoractions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/themes/beanstalk/img/leaves-background-right.webp) ![Plant Decoractions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/themes/beanstalk/img/plants2.png) ![Branch Decoractions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/themes/beanstalk/img/plants2.png) ## **Come grow with us** [ Subscribe ](http://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts) [ Join our community ](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) [ Partner with us ](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/t3d6tr1em5m2lmk3ku8kp/Beanstalk-Mums-Info-Pack-2026.pdf?rlkey=2lemjjl3hpylksj2k45ijd5x7&st=1tspbhaj&dl=0) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/about-beanstalk-mums/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/about-beanstalk-mums/?share=x) - --- ### [Media](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/media/) **Published:** January 17, 2018 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** # In The Media ## Loved by the media Beanstalk is often featured in the media due to its societal relevance and uniquely positive attitude towards single parenting. Considered by many to be the “think-tank of modern-day single motherhood”, you may have come across Beanstalk on national television and radio, in nearly all the national newspapers, as well as online and print parenting, news, lifestyle and business communities. Beanstalk is also proud to work closely with the Australian government and nationwide charities to share important single-mother-related news and advice. [![Lucy Good on Today Extra](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Today-Extra-SS-compressed-1200x670.jpg "Today Extra SS-compressed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Today-Extra-converted-with-Clipchamp.mp4) [![Lucy Good on Weekend Sunrise](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Sunrise-SS-compressed-1200x680.jpg "Sunrise SS-compressed - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Weekend-Sunrise-Lucy-converted-with-Clipchamp.mp4) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Screen-Shot-2018-01-17-at-11.43.35-PM-1200x680.png "Screen Shot 2018-01-17 at 11.43.35 PM - Beanstalk Mums")](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Today-converted-with-Clipchamp-1.mp4) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/Sbs-single-parent-home-buyers.jpg "Sbs single parent home buyers - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/gbao4o3lb8n0ezj5rbnj0/SBS-Single-Parent-Home-Buyers.mp4?rlkey=im0t8cit1a01no193srmoz7ik&st=24qmst3n&dl=0) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Logo-horizontal-light.png "Logo-horizontal-light - Beanstalk Mums") ### As featured in [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/SBS_logo_g.png)](https://www.sbs.com.au/topics/voices/family/article/2020/04/15/how-im-co-parenting-during-self-isolation) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/take5.png)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Take-5-article.pdf) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/ABC_Life.png)](https://www.abc.net.au/life/how-online-friendships-compare-to-real-friends/11456856) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/weekendsunrise.png)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Weekend-Sunrise-Lucy-converted-with-Clipchamp.mp4) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/sundaymail.png) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/SMH-1.png)](http://www.smh.com.au/small-business/entrepreneur/sole-traders-doing-it-all-by-themselves-20170511-gw2cb4.html) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/abc.png)](http://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-01-16/co-parenting-benifiting-children-while-liberating-mums-and-dads/9304796) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/salt.png)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Homeless-and-on-Centrelink-to-CEO.mp3) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/dailymail.png)](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5273277/Mum-reveals-time-parenting-works-family.html) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/sunshinecoast.png)](https://www.sunshinecoastdaily.com.au/news/sisters-share-the-love-on-valentines-day/3142553/) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/theage.png)](http://www.smh.com.au/small-business/entrepreneur/sole-traders-doing-it-all-by-themselves-20170511-gw2cb4.html) ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/today.png) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/todayextra-1.png)](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Today-converted-with-Clipchamp-1.mp4) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/huffpost.png)](http://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/lucy-good/i-love-being-a-single-mother_a_21718980/) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/oprah-magazine.png)](https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a28843699/dating-a-single-mom/)![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Logo-horizontal-light.png "Logo-horizontal-light - Beanstalk Mums") [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/abclocal_logo.png)](https://www.abc.net.au/radio/sunshine/programs/mornings/single-parent-lucy-good-on-household-finances/11738854) ## Contact Us About Media [ Contact Us ](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/t3d6tr1em5m2lmk3ku8kp/Beanstalk-Mums-Info-Pack-2026.pdf?rlkey=2lemjjl3hpylksj2k45ijd5x7&st=1tspbhaj&dl=0) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/media/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/media/?share=x) - --- ### [Beanstalk Mums - Single Mum Life Hack Freebies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-life-hack-freebies/) **Published:** January 5, 2025 **Author:** Beanstalk Single Mum Team **Content:** ## Beanstalk Single Mum Life Hack Freebies Welcome to your go-to hub for single mum life hack freebies! At Beanstalk Mums, we know the daily juggle can be overwhelming. Which is why we’ve created this collection of free resources designed to empower and simplify your life. Each month, we release a brand-new freebie tailored to the unique challenges of single mums. From budgeting planners and life organisation worksheets to wellness journal prompts. These tools are crafted to help you stay organised, feel grounded, and achieve your goals. Whether you’re looking to save money, prioritise self-care, or plan for the future, there’s something here to support you every step of the way. We’ve made this page easy to navigate, with each freebie linked below for quick access. Simply click, download, and start making positive changes in your life today! Remember, these exclusive resources are just one way we’re here to support you on your journey—you’ve got this, and we’re with you all the way. Want to stay in the loop and be a part of an amazing community join the [Single Mum Vine](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine) for more inspiration and support. ## Spring Renewal Checklist [Ready to clear the clutter and welcome fresh energy?](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/90dmofe0x6ngt246i8dvg/Spring-Renewal-Checklist.pdf?rlkey=nivtp5ccas2heqhx6w2stlg23&st=w2kvif5h&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/Spring-renewal-checklist-566x800.jpg "Spring renewal checklist - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/90dmofe0x6ngt246i8dvg/Spring-Renewal-Checklist.pdf?rlkey=nivtp5ccas2heqhx6w2stlg23&st=w2kvif5h&dl=0) ## Winter Reset [If you’ve been feeling stuck or unsure where to begin, this one’s for you.](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/i1sr3ptd61ngo5ic8jg9b/Winter-Reset.pdf.pdf?rlkey=s714rb9b812a49wwx2tz4fst0&st=w6gdw5tm&dl=0) [![Free member download](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/Winter-reset%20Jpg-566x800.jpg "Winter reset Jpg - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/i1sr3ptd61ngo5ic8jg9b/Winter-Reset.pdf.pdf?rlkey=s714rb9b812a49wwx2tz4fst0&st=w6gdw5tm&dl=0) ## Ultimate Winter Survival Guide [Because let’s face it—winter can feel like a lot.](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/rtp75j39vdvv0xbfee61c/Ultimate-Winter-Survival-Guide.pdf?rlkey=kenaoc21iqjhxr44yghtrqtbd&st=f7adswa8&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Flyer-your-ultimate-winter-survival-guide-566x800.jpg "Flyer - your ultimate winter survival guide - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/rtp75j39vdvv0xbfee61c/Ultimate-Winter-Survival-Guide.pdf?rlkey=kenaoc21iqjhxr44yghtrqtbd&st=f7adswa8&dl=0) ## Break Free From Guilt [Easy-to-follow Worksheet ](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/uac1ji5wubo5zffayvtqf/Mum-Guilt-Worksheet-Final.pdf?rlkey=mrz74sc0x9jfu5kcrb87j5pf9&st=zjic5ynn&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/April-freebies-566x800.jpg "April freebies - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/uac1ji5wubo5zffayvtqf/Mum-Guilt-Worksheet-Final.pdf?rlkey=mrz74sc0x9jfu5kcrb87j5pf9&st=zjic5ynn&dl=0) ## The Organised Mama Meal Blueprint [Nourish your body without the overwhelm](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/vwdzo0ng1dcbg4ku8gty0/Organized-Mama-Meal-Blueprint-part-2.pdf?rlkey=pgesftdo9ip932b7ljlh5g92g&st=7wyhqrkg&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/1-618x800.png "Meal Blueprint - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/vwdzo0ng1dcbg4ku8gty0/Organized-Mama-Meal-Blueprint-part-2.pdf?rlkey=pgesftdo9ip932b7ljlh5g92g&st=7wyhqrkg&dl=0) ## Foster Inclusion at Home [Activities for Harmony at Home](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/6d0xnxjvhjk1xka719l34/course-workbook.pdf?rlkey=vdjtck6gtfz9x6vm1d5vwayis&st=lk2p6x4e&dl=0) [![Harmony at home freebie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Course-workbook-566x800.png "Harmony at home freebie - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/6d0xnxjvhjk1xka719l34/course-workbook.pdf?rlkey=vdjtck6gtfz9x6vm1d5vwayis&st=lk2p6x4e&dl=0) ## Find your Tribe [Your Cheat Sheet to Building a Supportive Tribe](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ypfy4ns2atn803ocffnph/Single-Mum-Guide-to-building-a-tribe.pdf?rlkey=v4whgy1x2cs4qksypzlru6761&st=2e03vxjv&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/The-single-mums-guide-to-tribe1-566x800.png "The single mums guide to tribe1 - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ypfy4ns2atn803ocffnph/Single-Mum-Guide-to-building-a-tribe.pdf?rlkey=v4whgy1x2cs4qksypzlru6761&st=2e03vxjv&dl=0) ## Take Charge of Your Finances [2025 Budgeting Planner](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/m71fgngyx4qtrkea4zejy/Budget-Planner-for-Mums.pdf?rlkey=krgxzblfhhwaug3ra8zxty2tc&st=qylcsfc1&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Budget-planner-for-mums-make-2025-your-year-of-savings-welcome-mama-this-simple-budget-planner-is-designed-to-help-you-take-control-of-your-finances-reduce-stress-and-make-room-for-wh-566x800.jpg "Budget planner for mums make 2025 your year of savings --- welcome mama This simple budget planner is designed to help you take control of your finances reduce stress and make room for wh - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/m71fgngyx4qtrkea4zejy/Budget-Planner-for-Mums.pdf?rlkey=krgxzblfhhwaug3ra8zxty2tc&st=qylcsfc1&dl=0) ## Recharge with Ease [Self-care Checklist](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/p1cfphr12q6juedunf9kf/Self-care-Checklist.pdf?rlkey=051lyyvcjinyy4hyohsavy8fq&st=io0slt18&dl=0) [![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Self-care-checklist-front-image-600x800.png "Self-care checklist front image - Beanstalk Mums")](https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/p1cfphr12q6juedunf9kf/Self-care-Checklist.pdf?rlkey=051lyyvcjinyy4hyohsavy8fq&st=io0slt18&dl=0) ### Share this: - [ Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-life-hack-freebies/?share=facebook) - [ Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mum-life-hack-freebies/?share=x) - --- ### [Single mother counsellor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/single-mother-counsellor/) **Published:** September 12, 2023 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** # Single mother counsellor ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Headshot-800x800.jpg "Headshot - Beanstalk Mums") ## The Single Mama Way As an Australian-based counsellor and life coach, I understand how challenging it can be for single mothers to juggle their responsibilities and work towards a brighter future. That’s why I’ve created an online counselling and resource platform specifically for Australian single mothers. I aim to help single mothers achieve their best life by providing action-focused counselling tailored to their unique needs. I offer flexible scheduling to accommodate their busy schedules. All sessions can be conducted from the comfort of their home at an affordable price. On my website, you’ll find a wealth of information on practical ways to overcome the daily challenges that single mothers often face. I’ve also included links to other professionals who can provide additional support and a range of personal growth and organisational freebies. I’m even creating self-growth books and courses to help single mothers continue their journey of self-improvement. 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This is a fantastic opportunity to treat yourself to self-care products complementing your health journey with WeightWatchers. By combining these offers, you can focus on your health and well-being, embracing a holistic approach to self-care. > [Recreate Yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/recreate-yourself/) **Directory categories:** Health --- ### [Nook Collective – Best co-working space with childcare in Sunshine Coast - Exclusive 15% Off](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/nook-collective/) **Published:** March 13, 2025 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Discover Nook Collective, a collaborative workspace offering on-site childcare, podcast studios, and event spaces. Single mums enjoy an exclusive 15% discount. **Content:** ## **Nook Collective – Empowering Single Mums with Flexible Workspaces and Childcare Support** Balancing work and parenting can be challenging, especially for single mums seeking a supportive environment to pursue their professional goals. 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Delivery is not included. This voucher entitles first-time Naked Wines customers to $100 off their first order of 12 bottles. All orders are a minimum of 12 bottles and a minimum spend of $155.88. It is not to be used in conjunction with any other offer or promotion. \*Next-day delivery is available to Sydney, Melbourne and Perth metro areas for orders placed before 3 pm. We don’t ship to the Northern Territory. Delivery is not included. The offer is subject to change. See website for full Terms and Conditions. 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Econnex is just one of the many ways we work hard to ensure you have the tools and support to thrive. 💰 Not only the energy and internet comparison process is easy, but they also do the transfer work for you. **You could save on your bills, and with this exclusive bonus payment, you’ll have extra cash in your pocket** to put towards the things that matter most to you and your family. 👉 [**Start comparing now and see how much you can save—plus earn extra cash only available through Beanstalk Mums!**](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/58818?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.econnex.com.au%2f) [\* T&Cs Apply](https://cdn-mail-assets.s3.dualstack.ap-southeast-2.amazonaws.com/econnex/bean-stalk-mum-t%26c.pdf) And if you’re looking for more ways to boost your financial knowledge, don’t forget to check out our [**Capabilite Financial Literacy courses**](https://financialwellbeing.thinkific.com/bundles/Capabilite?ref=2d30c2). 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It has a Kids Hub, extensive schools and education programs for primary and secondary students, and school holiday programs. NCM is Melbourne’s first major museum to open in almost 25 years. NCM spans two levels of dynamic and changing gallery spaces, with artefacts and gadgets, a working historical telephone exchange, immersive rooms, interactive experiences and temporary exhibitions. The museum brings to life the nostalgia of communication in Australia and showcases cutting-edge technologies that will connect us in the future – with something for visitors of all ages. Among the key exhibits are: • Speaking Clock, a mainstay of worldwide telecommunications offerings until it ended in 2019, restored and featuring the familiar voice of Gordon Gow, along with a mysterious humanoid robot visitor named Diamandini, who listens to the voice of Gordon Gow and develops her sonic systems (Diamindini will be at NCM until the end of October). • Cyber Café, stepping back to the mid-1990s and the beginning of the Information Age. • Lone Phone, an interactive sonic adventure inspired by the iconic imagery of glowing phone booths at night in regional Australia. • Research Labs, connecting visitors with the past, present and future of local research and innovation – including some ideas that worked and some that didn’t. • Premiere installations from internationally renowned artists Jarra Karalinar Steel, Rel Pham and Louis-Philippe Demers. 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Our store and services focus on your privacy and ensure maximum discretion at all times, from browsing, to billing, to deliveries. - Free shipping on orders over $100 - Secure and discreet Billing - Discreet packaging and delivery Australian Owner and operated. ***Get a 15% discount. Use code happy15 at checkout.*** **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Wild Secrets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/wild-secrets/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** If you are looking to take your sex game to a whole new level, you have come to the right place. At Wild Secrets, we believe that everyone deserves pleasure – whether that’s during solo or partnered play. ***10% discount is available on orders over $100.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/wild-secrets.png "wild secrets - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Gheorg](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/gheorg/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Gheorg is a friendly robot app designed to help children improve their resilience, emotional intelligence and wellbeing. Designed for kids 7-12 years, Gheorg and the friendly characters use the latest therapy to support kids who experience anxiety and overwhelm. Kids are encouraged to use the app for around five minutes a day to perform a daily check-in, sharing how they’re feeling and to perform self-calming mindful techniques. Codesigned with kids, educators and health professionals, Gheorg has been designed specially for children and the app delivers long-term positive results through neuroshaping. Gheorg was created by a psychologist with 30 years experience supporting people and their mental health. It was after Dr Louise Metcalf had her own child and spoke with early-childcare educators that she realised how many children are impacted by anxiety. If anxiety goes untreated in children, long-term they can have challenges with learning, friendships and their overall wellbeing. Gheorg makes it fun for kids to learn the skills and knowledge they need to understand their emotions and calm themselves when they’re feeling stressed. The Gheorg app is available on the Apple App Store and the Google Play Store. Gheorg also runs school programs around Australia that empower children with skills to improve their mental resilience, emotional awareness and social literacy skills. **Gheorg is offering a two-month free subscription to all Beanstalk Mums! To get this discount, please fill out [this short form](https://www.gheorg.com/discount-codes) on their website and they will share a discount code with you via email (specific to your Apple or Android device).** ![Gheorg | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Gheorg-Directory.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kid Stuff --- ### [Maeraki Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/maeraki-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Maeraki Australia’s mission is to provide unique formulations based on extremely premium clean ingredients. Our supplements are specially formulated by a team of food technologists, microbiologists and naturopathist to deliver nutrient dense premium products that nourishes your body and skin. We stand for nature in its purest form where all our ingredients are 100% natural, no synthetic nutrients used and optimal potency. *First purchase discount, 15% off storewide.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Maeraki-Directory.png "Maeraki Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Supplements --- ### [Mum dad can you hear me? - A book about divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/mum-dad-can-you-hear-me/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Excerpt:** "Mum Dad Can You Hear Me?" a book about divorce helps kids navigate and promote co-parenting and "My Diary" offers a safe space for their thoughts and emotions. **Content:** My name is Despina, and I am the author of the book “Mum Dad Can You Hear Me?” and the workbook “My Diary”. The first is a book about divorce through a kid’s eyes. The book aims to help children understand that they are not alone and that a balance can be created following a divorce. The book also helps parents understand the importance of co-parenting and the need for the kids to have both parents in their lives. The book is inspired by my personal story. The Diary is a workbook where the kids can write their thoughts, emotions, and needs during the difficult divorce period. They can also use it to write things they do not want to share with anyone. ***Buy your copy here:*** Book – [“Mum Dad Can You Hear Me?”](https://amzn.to/4dSYGb3) Diary – [“My Diary”](https://amzn.to/3Ujr2Es) ![book about divorce](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Mum-Dad-copy.png "Mum Dad copy - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Learning Materials, Education --- ### [Humaniti](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/humaniti/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Build a brighter financial future and earn extra cash!** Humaniti offers a simple and secure personal finance app to help you better understand your finances and spending and earn extra cash by completing surveys. Join using the code **BEANSTALK** and get $5 free when you complete your welcome survey. Earn extra weekly cash by completing short surveys and entering our $5,000 prize draw! ![Humaniti | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Humaniti.png "Humaniti | Beanstalk Mums - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Education --- ### [Sex Toys Erotica](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sex-toys-erotica/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Australia’s Most Trusted Adult Shop & Sex Shop Online.** Sex Toys Erotica make your sexual happiness and health their business. They give an easy, hassle-free, secure online shopping experience, and are proud to be 100% Australian owned and operated. Choose from thousands of premium quality brand sex toys including vibrators, dildos & dongs, bondage kits, sex machines, sexy women’s lingerie, personal lubricants, candles, massage oils, adult games & novelties and more, all at very competitive prices. If you are after sex toys now but can’t pay in full because the budget won’t allow for it, don’t fret, take advantage of their interest-free Buy Now Pay Later options – PayPal, Klarna, Zip, Afterpay, Laybuy or Latitude Pay. All parcels are securely and discreetly packaged with no mention of Sex Toys Erotica [Adult Shop](https://www.sextoyserotica.com.au/), and sent via express shipping directly to your door. Express delivery is FREE for orders over $100. All orders are shipped where possible on the same day and usually received within three business days – that’s fast! Subscribe to their newsletter for new-to-market sex toys and products discounts. When shopping for cheap sex toys at [Sex Toys Erotica ](https://www.sextoyserotica.com.au/)adult shop & [online sex shop Australia](https://www.sextoyserotica.com.au/), you’ll enjoy great prices every day. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Sex-Toys-Erotica-copy.png "Sex Toys Erotica copy - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Enhance Me Empower Me](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/enhance-me-empower-me/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Be a better you and start thriving again! Are you looking to build something of your own? Tired of having to compromise on the things that are truly important to you such as kids, family & friendship engagements? I am passionate about assisting other mothers to create a life of freedom they dream of, to never have to miss a single second with the kiddies, to have purpose and a career they are passionate about. With only 15-20 hours a week, you could work either Full Time and Part Time, based on your schedule and start to create a successful future. Give yourself the chance at an incredible future within this Online Business. This business will suit all that are motivated, independent, professional and ready to step outside the 9-5 into a leadership role. The great thing about this business is we DO NOT cold call, We DO NOT stock products, We ARE NOT MLM and as you work from home you will not have typical business overheads. If you are ready to be supported and encouraged through your new venture and are driven to create change in your life, I would love to speak with you. ![Enhance Me Empower Me | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Enhance-Me-Empower-Me-Directory.png "Enhance Me Empower Me Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Work For Mums --- ### [You've Got This: Single Mum eCourse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/youve-got-this-single-mum-ecourse/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **The ultimate guide to live your best single mum life** Get ready to embrace your independence, redefine your path and be the best you can be, all whilst being a brilliant single mum. Get all the details [here](https://ecourse.beanstalkmums.com.au/). **Directory categories:** Mum stuff, Useful Services --- ### [Sokkie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sokkie/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Sokkie started out from the idea that buying condoms shouldn’t be something that is taboo or frowned upon. So, we went on a journey to make condoms with some of the best materials out there, without any nasties, all in a discreet and pocketable package. The result of which is Sokkie; condoms made with only 3 ingredients – natural latex, silicone oil and cornstarch. That is it. No preservatives. No nasty chemicals. They’re also vegan friendly and gluten-free. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Sokkie-Directory.png "Sokkie Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Adulttoymegastore](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/adulttoymegastore/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Adulttoymegastore is an online retailer of sex toys and lingerie with fast and discreet shipping worldwide. We’re here to make good sex, great! We have over 10,000 products from more than 45 brands including Satisfyer, Share Satisfaction, Lelo, We-Vibe, Womanizer and more! We take great pride in providing the best products to thousands of happy customers, and have many benefits such as a loyalty program, free samples, and personalised notes. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Get 10% off store-wide (including sale items) using the code BEANSTALK10.* ![Adult Toy Megastore | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Adult-Toy-Megastore.png "Adult Toy Megastore - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Beysis](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/beysis/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Beysis designs and produces stunning lifestyle essentials that can be completely personalised by the customer. Modern, functional and affordable, Beysis products make the ultimate personalised gifts for the ones you love or the perfect pick me-up if you are looking to treat yourself. We believe that living sustainably shouldn’t come at the expense of good design. Pick it, personalise it and make it yours. ![Beysis | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Beysis-Directory.png "Beysis Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Beauty, Gifts --- ### [Peanut App](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/peanut-app/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Peanut is an app that provides a safe space for mothers, expectant mothers and those trying to conceive to build friendships, ask questions and find support. ![Peanut | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Peanut-Directory.png "Peanut Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum stuff, Useful Services --- ### [Melissa Oatman](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/melissa-oatman/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** I provide Reiki, life coaching, intuitive card readings, past life regression, and online self-development and self-love courses. I also have a daily podcast called, “Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness.” ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Melissa-Oatman.png "Melissa Oatman - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Bed Buddies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/bed-buddies/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Bed Buddies is an Australian owned and operated online adult products store. We pride ourselves on providing exceptional customer service and extremely competitive prices. Bed Buddies carries a full range of products suitable for all your needs, whether it be solo play, partner play, kink and fetish, dildos and vibrators for her, masturbators for him, or our range of sleek lingerie. Come and have a look at our range, you won’t be disappointed. Bed Buddies, don’t go to bed without one. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/bedbuddies.png "bedbuddies - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Adult Friend Finder](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/adult-friend-finder/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Looking for a great time? Hoping to meet someone for a hot, sexual relationship or even just a quick fling? Access our thriving sex community and satisfy your need for amazing sexual experiences. AdultFriendFinder is the world’s largest adult personals site with over 90 million active members worldwide. We help millions of people find traditional partners, swingers groups, threesomes, and a variety of other alternative partners. The site is designed to help you quickly find and connect with your best dating matches. Browse member profiles, send email messages, view cams, and chat right from your mobile device. Meet people anywhere, anytime – It’s a party that never ends. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Adult-Friend-Finder.png "Adult Friend Finder - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [MyView Online Surveys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/myview-online-surveys/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** MyView Australia is an online rewards community; powered and backed by Ipsos – the 3rd largest global market research company\*, operating in over 90 markets. Take fun and engaging surveys in exchange for MyView points, and turn these points into instant rewards! Join MyView – and you can create polls to learn more about your community, interact with members… and so much more! Choose from Wish eGift vouchers, iTunes credit…and more! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/My-View.png "My View - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Work For Mums --- ### [OMG I'm a single mum ... now what?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/omg-im-a-single-mum-now-what/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** What to do when you become a single mum is a question you might find yourself asking before or after your separation. It’s a life-changing event which will affect both you and your children. Knowing the first steps is a great starting point to allow you to enter this new phase of your life with dignity, determination and hopefully not too much drama. So, how do you know what to do when you become a single mum? Well, I’ve been there, done that and got the t-shirt. And now I’ve created this ebook to help you be the organised and in-control new single mum that I wasn’t. We have you covered with everything from the emotional aspect, through to finances, child support, co-parenting, divorce and more. Lucy – Beanstalk Single Mums **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [PrizeRebel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/prizerebel/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** - 8 Million+ Members, Paid Out over $17 Million since 2007 - Rewards Site that members earn points by completing activities - Activities Include: Answering Surveys, Watching Videos, Completing Offers and Doing Tasks **How to Start Earning Money** - Surveys - The best method of earn points consistently - Offers one of the largest inventory of survey amongst all survey sites - Answers are anonymous and confidential and used to help researcher improve their products - 10+ survey providers - Watching Videos - Earning based on the number of ads you watch while watching videos of your interest - Multiple video providers (3+) - Earning based on signing up or downloading an app to earn points - Hundreds of choices but make sure to follow through on exact directions ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Prize-Rebel.png "Prize Rebel - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Work For Mums --- ### [Aspire 2 Inspire Now](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/aspire-2-inspire/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Give yourself a chance to breathe. ‘Raising a family is hard enough, you don’t need more obstacles, you need more opportunity’. Work portably with a flexible schedule. **Directory categories:** Work For Mums --- ### [Who Gives A Crap](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/who-gives-a-crap/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Who Gives A Crap makes toilet paper that’s good for the planet, good for people and good for your bum. We’re B Corp™ certified for the highest standards of social and environmental impact. All of our products are made from 100% recycled paper or bamboo and we also donate 50% of profits to help support clean water and sanitation services for the billions of people who don’t have proper access. As you can see, this really isn’t your average toilet paper. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get $10 off your first order with Who Gives A Crap using the code BEANSTALK at checkout.*** ***\*Valid on orders over $47.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Who-Gives-a-Crap.png "Who Gives a Crap - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Household essentials --- ### [Triple P - Positive Parenting Program](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/triple-p-positive-parenting-program/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Parenting can be tough; single parenting can be tougher! But it can also be a LOT easier, more enjoyable, and less stressful, with tips and strategies that really work. A few small changes can make a big difference. Get everyone (even your ex-) on the same page. Triple P may even be free in your area, and you can also do it online! There are Teen Triple P programs, if you have teenagers, as well as programs for parents of young kids. And there are group and individual programs, one-off and ongoing courses, and online programs that are ideal for time-poor single mums. Find out how to: – stay calm rather than falling into the escalation trap – set rules and routines that kids actually follow – look after yourself as a parent – be more confident in managing tricky situations. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Triple P is free in some parts of Australia. Please check if your provider offers programs for free or charges a fee. You may be eligible for a Medicare rebate, so check with your provider or GP. For more details visit [www.triplep-parenting.net](http://www.triplep-parenting.net/) or see below for more information:*** QLD – Free including online programs**.** WA/SA – Free in many areas, visit [www.triplep-parenting.net](http://www.triplep-parenting.net/). NSW – Free in some areas, visit [www.resourcingparents.nsw.gov.au](http://www.resourcingparents.nsw.gov.au/)​. VIC – Free in Latrobe Valley, visit [www.triplep-parenting.net](http://www.triplep-parenting.net/). NT/TAS/ACT – Limited availability. Search ‘Triple P’ to find local providers. Fees can apply. Triple P Online and Teen Triple P Online is free in Queensland, and $79.95 in other states and territories. Visit [www.triplep-parenting.net](http://www.triplep-parenting.net/) to register. **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Emamaco](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/emamaco/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Emamaco is an Australian activewear brand supporting women through all stages of life, including pregnancy and pregnancy recovery. Their leggings are designed to be comfy, stylish, and super supportive, perfect for mums-to-be as their bodies change. Using custom fabrics and cuts, they aim to flatter your figure while keeping everything in place during a workout. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Enter code “beanstalk” for an extra 10% off all items, including those already on sale.*** **Directory categories:** Maternity, Maternity Activewear --- ### [Remedy Drinks JNR. Range](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/remedy-drinks/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Remedy Drinks are stoked to have made a drink just for kids that parents can feel good (maybe even a little smug) about. Remedy JNR. frees parents to treat their children – more often – to the tasty fizzy drinks they want to be drinking. Remedy JNR. doesn’t just take the bad stuff out of kids’ drinks, or add the good things in – it does both! It might taste like their fave popper – but it’s jam-packed with goodness with no sugar, for real! Thoughtfully brewed in small batches; Remedy JNR is live-cultured, raw and unpasteurised. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 15% discount storewide. T&Cs apply.*** ***T&C: One-time use only. Not available in conjunction with other offers. Excludes Subscriptions. Valid only on*** [remedydrinks.com/au](https://www.remedydrinks.com/au/shop?drink_type=JNR. "http://remedydrinks.com/au"). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Remedy-Directory-copy.png "Remedy Directory copy - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Food --- ### [Lifeline Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/lifeline-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** **Content:** Lifeline Australia is Australia’s largest suicide prevention service provider. With over 40 centres around the nation, Lifeline exists to ensure that no person in Australia has to face their darkest moments alone. There are over 10,000 volunteers and 1,000 employees working towards an Australia free of suicide at Lifeline. The flag ship service is the 13 11 14 telephone hotline providing free-call support to people experiencing emotional distress 24 hours every day. Support can also be accessed on-line via webchat every night at lifeline.org.au. While individual centres around the country provide services to meet local community needs. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Lifeline crisis support is available 24/7 by phone on 13 11 14. You can also chat to a crisis supporter on-line each night from 7pm – midnight at lifeline.org.au*** **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [eHarmony](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/eharmony/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ## Experience Online Dating with eharmony In between work, family and social commitments it can be hard to find the time to meet someone. And even if you do, dating online can seem overwhelming with endless profiles to trawl through. At eharmony, we do the hard work for you by selecting your compatible matches and delivering them straight to your inbox. We match you with people who share your attitudes, beliefs and values. This way, you already have a great foundation which gives you the best chance at falling in love and finding a happy relationship. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Book any subscription and save 20% with checkout code: BM20.*** **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Cashrewards](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/cashrewards/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Australia’s most trusted cash back site with thousands of brands including Nike, Apple, Sephora, THE ICONIC and more. We have given over $1,000,000 in cash back to Australians and proudly support the Starlight Foundations. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Get $20 when you sign up. Minimum $20 spend within 7 days.* ![Cashback Rewards Directory | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Cashback-Directory.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [dk active](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dk-active/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Proudly manufactured in Australia, we strive to change the game in environmentally responsible design. Whether you’re working out or hanging out, our functional garments provide the perfect fit. Our HQ, based in North Brisbane, runs on solar power and a passion for ethical business practice. We are proud to say that our factory meets all Australian standards for ethical clothing manufacturing. We are for everybody and every body offering a range from AU6 to 24. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Use code BEAN20 at checkout for $20 off any order (minimum spend $100) on full price products only.*** ![DK Active Directory | Beanstalk Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/DK-Active-Directory-1.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum Activewear, Mum stuff --- ### [FoodSt - Home cooked meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/foodst-home-cooked-meals/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** FoodSt empowers home cooks to create their traditional family recipes, and in turn providing busy households with authentic home cooked meals. All meals are cooked in small batches with real ingredients by our community of accredited cooks. With over 100 meals from 30 different cuisines available, there is plenty of choice for a quick lunch or family dinner. ![FoodST | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/FoodST-Directory.png "FoodST Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Therapy Shoes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/therapy-shoes/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Here at Therapy, we believe shoes should elevate your style and your mood. That’s why we design fun, fresh, and inspired footwear—to give you style for miles! Our Shoe-losophy. We believe shoes are the most expressive point of any look. Think about it: you can wear the same mini dress, but the minute you swap out your cute yellow mules for studded lace-up boots, your entire look changes. Are we right or are we totally right? That’s why we founded Therapy Shoes in 2003. We wanted to bring the fun back to footwear by giving you #allthechoices. From poolside platforms to equestrian-inspired boots, our impressive collection allows you to explore your style through shoes. Even better? At accessible price points, every shopping sesh feels like therapy for your wallet and your feet (of course!). ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 20% off all full price items. Minimum $100 spend.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Therapy-Shoes.png "Therapy Shoes - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum Footwear, Mum stuff --- ### [HelloFresh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/hellofresh/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** **Content:** When you can’t face the supermarket shop, when recipe fatigue leaves you grasping for the takeaway menu, HelloFresh is here to help! Each week they’ll send you all the fresh, pre-measured ingredients and recipes you need to make delicious dinners that will delight your tastebuds, delivered to your door for free. It’s time to ditch the stress of meal planning and shopping and say hello to inspiration, delivered. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Get up to $130 off your first 4 boxes with code: SINGLEMUMS130.* **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Woolworths Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/woolworths-online/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***Get free delivery on your first order.*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Shop online for home delivery or free store pick up at time that suits you. 7 days a week. Low price always. Same prices as in store. No minimum order. Track your order online. Hand picked with care. **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Zanui](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/zanui/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Zanui is Australia’s online destination for furniture & homewares.** Proudly based in Australia, Zanui is home to an impressive selection of interior and property styling items, sourced from the best local and international brands. From rugs, décor, bedding and lighting to living room, bedroom, home office, outdoor, dining and nursery furniture, and even outdoor play equipment, there’s something in their catalogue for everyone. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Minimum spend of $250 applies.* ![Zanui | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Zanui.png "Zanui - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Home, Furniture --- ### [Reluv Clothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/reluv-clothing/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Reluv.com.au is an online store offering beautiful, affordable and sustainable preloved fashion. Our mission at Reluv is to make it easy to buy or sell quality preloved items and minimise the impact of fashion on our planet. We ensure every single item listed on our site is “Certified Reluvable” – 100% authentic and in excellent condition – allowing you to shop our curated, high-quality women’s clothing range from the comfort of your home. We provide a unique shopping experience, express delivery, styled outfit inspiration and above-and-beyond customer service. Stock is size-inclusive and from a vast range of brands. Reluv centres itself around sustainability, with carbon neutral shipping, compostable packaging, a textile recycling program and a commitment to minimising waste. We donate clothing to women in indigenous communities and women returning to the workforce. One dollar from every purchase is donated to an organisation in Bangladesh which supports and empowers garment workers. When you shop with Reluv you are helping to transform the fashion industry and to also change lives. ![Reluv Clothing | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Reluv-Clothing-Directory-1.png "Reluv Clothing Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [Dr Janet Hall](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dr-janet-hall/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Dr Janet Hall is a professional with a big heart! As a success coach, she has the ability to see things as they are and to tell it like it is. Dr Jan is a Hypnotherapist, Sex Therapist, Parenting and Children’s Therapist, Author and Media Consultant and Speaker. She was a Clinical Psychologist (now retired), for over 40 years. She specializes in making personalized hypnosis audios using your own name throughout –for both adults and children. Email me – <jan@drjanethall.com.au> – and I can make you or your child your very own “I AM AWESOME” audio to listen to every night to be programmed for success! Jan consults regularly with print media, world web and is a frequent guest on talk-back radio and current affairs shows. Jan was a regular for two years on the Sex Life television program in Australia. She has written 8 paperback books, including six parenting books and 2 sexual education books. She has also created and produced 52 MP3s on sexual issues, bad habits, general motivation and hypnosis for solving problems and programming success. Her Ebooks and Audios are published on Amazon and Audible as well as her Online Shop: [www.drjanethall.com](http://www.drjanethall.com). Dr Jan’s user-friendly strategies offer practical solutions to sexual and relationship issues so that you can have the love and the sensational sex that you deserve. Pleasure Power Experts is the collective wisdom and life experience shared intimately by mother/daughter sexperts, Dr Jan and Ella Hall (Transformational Life Coach, Tantric Practitioner) who are passionate and dedicated to bringing more pleasure into your life by offering you head meets heart (Clinical vs Tantric) online training courses and Podcasts. A world first! Dr Jan has a unique ability to encourage people to clarify their situation and solve their own problems with both heart (trusting intuition and feelings) and head (with logical analysis and rational prioritization). Dr Jan believes that people deserve to feel empowered to be the best they can for the good of all. Her personal mission is to eliminate the *Tall Poppy Syndrome* in Australia. ![Dr. Janet Hall | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Dr-Janet-Hall-Directory.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Keto Cycle](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/keto-cycle/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Keto Cycle is one of the leading Keto apps in the market. We are known for versatility and diet personalisation based on individual needs, food preferences, and desired goals! Our app has many features: Meal recipes, shopping list, water/step tracker, workout plans, and many more. All of this will allow you to lose weight most quickly and conveniently! It will be the last diet app that you’ll ever need! ![Keto Cycle | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Keto-Cycle-Directory.png "Keto Cycle Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Excel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/excel/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Pascal Press is and has been for over 30 years, Australia’s leading independent publisher of quality educational resources and home study materials for teachers, students and parents. Our trusted *Excel* range of student books, workbooks and study guides are all written by highly qualified teachers and educators who are specialists in their fields. Our ***Excel* Early Skills** series teaches young children aged 3-5 how to read and write while our ***Excel* Basic Skills** range provides in-depth practice of core skills in English and Mathematics for primary students. Visit [www.pascalpress.com.au](http://www.pascalpress.com.au) to explore these and many more ranges from *Excel* and other brands for students in Years K-12. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *We are offering **20% OFF\*** all titles in our **Excel** range only redeemable on [www.pascalpress.com.au](http://www.pascalpress.com.au).* Terms & Conditions: - Offer only redeemable online and while stocks last - Not available in conjunction with any other offer or discount. This includes other coupon codes ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Excel-Directory.png "Excel Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Learning Materials, Kid Stuff --- ### [Jimmy Brings](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/jimmy-brings/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Jimmy Brings delivers a great range of Wine, Beer & Spirits in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Gold Coast, Sunshine Coast, Canberra, Adelaide and Perth in just 30 minutes. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *T&Cs:* - *Only available to first time users.* - *No minimum order.* - *Excludes tobacco.![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Jimmy-Brings-Directory.png "Jimmy Brings Directory - Beanstalk Mums")* *Not available in conjunction with any other offer.* **Directory categories:** Alcoholic Beverages, Food --- ### [Interior Secrets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/interior-secrets/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Interior Secrets is an award-winning e-commerce retailer and Australia’s number one destination for great design. At Interior Secrets, we develop and curate furniture pieces of only the highest quality and house a wide yet exclusive range, so you can shop the styles you love. Since 2009, we’ve continued our promise of delivering designer furniture, at ‘un-designer prices’. We are passionate about curating on-trend products for all interior enthusiasts, beautiful living, and living well. We are dedicated to providing honest price tags and driving the change to disrupt the furniture industry and market pricing guidelines. ![Interior Secrets | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Interior-Secrets.png "Interior Secrets - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Home Decor, Home --- ### [Ann Saint James](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/ann-saint-james/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Accessories by Ann Saint James are designed in Sydney, Australia with a focus on making women feel confident, empowered, and elegant in each moment. Designed with timeless beauty and precision in mind, each bracelet is crafted with premium materials and genuine gemstones. Our jewellery aims to inspire women to reconnect with their inner power and their truest selves – because practicing self-love never goes out of style. Ann Saint James is also a socially responsible small business donating percentage of its sales to women empowerment and environmental causes such as Dress for Success and One Tree Planted. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Anne-St-James-Directory-1.png "Anne St James Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Accessories, Gifts, Mum stuff --- ### [Soulara](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/soulara/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Wanting to try plant-based living but don’t know where to start? Soulara makes it easy and delicious to eat meat-free, with 65+ ready-made meals, breakfasts, snacks and drinks to choose from. From noodles to pasta, ragu to curry, our in-house chefs take your fave meals and give them a plant-based twist. Our menu has been dietitian-designed to ensure you’re getting plenty of the nutrients you need to thrive on a plant-based diet, even protein. Why try plant-based? It’s no secret it’s better or you and the planet! Delivered fresh to your door, ready to heat and eat in two mins, our ready-made meals can help you save time and money. Our flexible subscription plans mean you get a weekly delivery of tasty, plant-based meals, which you can pause, skip a week or cancel anytime before your weekly cutoff. With meals starting from just $8.50, there’s never been a better time to try plant-based. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Terms & Conditions:* *\* Get $20 Off on First Order for New Customers only* *\* Valid for use of New Customers Only* *\* Applicable on all weekly meal plans* *\* Cannot be used in conjunction with other promotions such as referrals, email marketing and other Soulara onsite promotions* ![Soulara | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Soulara-Directory-1.png "Soulara Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [SendAFriendLove](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sendafriendlove/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ‘SendAFriendLove’ is a gift box service with a difference. Brought to you by @caretribe.co, our new service brings loved ones closer together. Surprise someone you care about and spread some love and joy. Perfect for young and old and suitable for all occasions. You simply choose a fluffy friend, then we snuggle them up in tissue paper and pop them inside one of our sunshiny yellow signature boxes. Our gift boxes greet your loved one with happy messages of ‘You are Loved’ and ‘Let your Light Shine’ and are sure to brighten their day and help them feel connected and less isolated. We love to give back to our community and believe that it really does take a village to raise a child. We’re passionate about children’s health and wellbeing and commit to donating 10% of sales to children’s hospitals. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Pre orders available at: <https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/sendafriendlove/sendafriendlove>* ![Send a Friend Love | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Send-a-Friend-Directory.png "Send a Friend Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Gifts, Useful Services --- ### [amicable](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/amicable/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The amicable co-parent app was built by co-parents, for co-parents and makes parenting post-separation simpler, more organised and better for you and your for your children. The app combines beautifully designed tools including; a co-parenting calendar with shared care schedules, a goal-setting function and a messaging area with expert co-parenting advice and resources. The app is available on iOS and Android and you can try all features of the app for free via the 30-day trial. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***After the trial, the monthly cost is £9.99 or an annual fee of £99.99.*** ![Amicable | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Amicable-Directory.png "Amicable Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Reloved Wardrobe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/reloved-wardrobe/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Reloved Wardrobe makes it easy for you to buy high-quality preloved clothing and fashion accessories at up to 90% off retail prices from the comfort of your own home. We offer flat rate postage of $8.95 Australia wide or FREE postage over $*75*, plus easy returns. Reloved Wardrobe can also help you earn money on your unwanted clothes and fashion accessories. Visit our website for details. Help us make a difference with $1 from every order donated GIVIT. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Reloved-Wardrobe.png "Reloved Wardrobe - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [Glow Dreaming](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/glow-dreaming/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Glow Dreaming is the 5-in-1, #1 ranked children’s sleep aid that is scientifically engineered for sleep. A unique combination of Red LED Light Therapy, Pink Noise, an Ultrasonic Humidifier and Aromatherapy, Glow Dreaming has helped over 130,000 families we have helped bring sleep back to. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *T&Cs:* - *Available on online sales channels* - *$10 off 8 products* - *Applies once per order* - *For everyone* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Glow-Dreaming-Directory-1.png "Glow Dreaming Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kid Stuff --- ### [LOOKFANTASTIC](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/lookfantastic/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Attracting over half a million unique visitors a month, and £80m in sales in 2015, LOOKFANTASTIC has grown from strength to strength and continues to lead the online beauty market. We pride ourselves on our wide range of brands and products, exclusive free gifts with purchases and fantastic member rewards. Get luxury hair and beauty products delivered to your door with LOOKFANTASTIC – the online home of some of the industry’s biggest luxury haircare, skincare, and make-up brands. Our blog, along with our rapidly growing online community, brings beauty-lovers together through new product features and reviews, guest bloggers, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. With a dedicated team of beauty experts who receive regular training directly from brands, LOOKFANTASTIC provides accurate, intelligent information on each and every product. We supply some of the leading luxury beauty and hair brands ranging from Medik8, BIOEFFECT, NUXE, Glasshouse Fragrances and The Beauty Chef. ![Look Fantastic | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Look-Fantastic.png "Look Fantastic - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [Recreate Yourself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/recreate-yourself/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** RY is Australia’s biggest online beauty retailer with over 250 premium beauty brands across skincare, haircare and makeup. Based in Sydney, we are proud to be an authorised retailer for all brands sold on RY. We have all your beauty favourites including Alpha H, ASAP, Dermalogica, GHD, Parlux, Redken, SkiCeuticals and many more. ![Recreate Yourself | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Recreate-Yourself.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum cosmetics, Beauty --- ### [Flora & Fauna](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/flora-fauna/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Flora & Fauna is an award-winning ethical retailer and Australia’s largest online eco store with over 10,000 products. We have over 300 brands stocked from Australia and around the world and everything from skin care to make up, baby products, vegan bags, ethical fashion and lots of eco home products. We are dedicated to people, the planet and animals, so everything on the site is vegan and 100% cruelty free. As a certified BCorp, we are a platform for purpose – a business that uses its power to do good. We love our customers so we take the time to include a handwritten note in every order. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Note: Offer does not apply to sale items, gift vouchers or beauty boxes.* ![Flora & Fauna | Beansrtalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Flora-and-Fauna-Directory.png "Flora and Fauna Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Body Care, Beauty --- ### [Zero Co](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/zero-co-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Zero Co deliver awesome & planet-friendly cleaning & personal care products direct to your door, minus all the single-use plastic. Our products are palm oil free, vegan & cruelty free, septic & grey water safe and made right here in Australia. They work as well as the big name supermarket brands or your money back. We make it super easy to win the war on waste at your place. Order your Starter Box today! ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 10% off any Zero Co products (minimum spend $100. One use per customer).*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Zero-Co-Directory-copy.png "Zero Co Directory copy - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Household essentials, Home --- ### [Youfoodz](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/youfoodz/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Youfoodz makes healthy eating easy!** Say goodbye to meal prep and hello to Youfoodz. Their ever-changing seasonal menus offer a wide variety of healthy ready-made meals, snacks and drinks to make mealtimes a breeze! Youfoodz’ chef-inspired menu is packed with quality ingredients sourced from local Aussie growers. Meals are all conveniently calorie and portion-controlled, plus they taste amazing because they are delivered fresh to your door. Meals are ready to heat and eat in minutes, making them perfect for when life gets busy! And if getting to the shops is a challenge, you needn’t worry, because Youfoodz offers Next Day Delivery in Brisbane, Sydney & Melbourne metro areas. Simply order today before 7pm, for delivery tomorrow! See Youfoodz.com for delivery zones and the most up to date delivery times. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![Youfoodz | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Youfoodz-Directory.png "Youfoodz Directory - Beanstalk Mums") *Enjoy 20% off Youfoodz* *\*Min spend AU$69 (before discount applied at checkout). Available via [youfoodz.com](http://youfoodz.com/) or on the YF App only (iOS App version 2020.4 or later, Android App version 2021.6 or later) until 11 Mar, 2022 at 11:59pm AEST. Apply code YFM-BEANSTALK20 at checkout to receive this offer. Maximum one code per order. Delivery fees may apply for select regions. Youfoodz delivery zones via [youfoodz.com/pages/delivery-areas](http://youfoodz.com/pages/delivery-areas). See website for full YF T&Cs. Youfoodz reserves the right to remove this deal at any time.* **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Parent and Child: The two person family](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/parent-and-child/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A guide book written by Kathleen M Waddington to inspire and support single parent families. Based on her own experiences and those of other single parents; Waddington addresses a host of issues single parents face including: living in the moment, creating a community, discipline, managing stress, the pursuit of happiness, enhancing confidence and more. Offering guidance, along with vital anecdotes, tips and solutions, the book focuses on ways of embracing challenges with courage, strength and integrity. ![Parent and Child | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Parent-and-Child-Directory.png "Parent and Child Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Reading Materials, Mum stuff --- ### [Carly Car Subscription](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/carly-car-subscription/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Carly is a month-to-month car subscription service with no deposits, no lock-in contracts, so you can cancel anytime with 30 days’ notice. All registration, comprehensive insurance, servicing and maintenance, and roadside assist costs are included in your subscription cost – all you need to add is fuel! ![Carly Car Subscription | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Carly-Car.png "Carly Car - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Triaba.com](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/triaba-com/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Respond to online paid surveys and earn up to $6 or more for each survey you complete!** Triaba surveys offers you the possibility to make money with online surveys and with surveys on your cell phone. Fill out surveys quick and easy and you will earn money online from home safely. For every survey you complete, you will be rewarded. The amount of money you receive depends on the length and type of survey, from $ 0.5 and $ 6 or more . You can start claiming your rewards after accumulating just $8.50 in your account. We offer payments by PayPal, Gift Vouchers from Amazon and G-Codes. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *New members from Beanstalk in 2021 who have answered at least 1 survey, can win in total 1000 AUD. In August we will have 1 winner, in October 1 winner and in December 8 winners of 100 AUD. All payments will be sent by PayPal.* *Send an email to <frode@triaba.com> to join the competition and use “BEANSTALK MUMS 2021 COMPETITION” in the heading.* *Use the email address you signed up with.* ![Triaba | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Triaba.png "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services, Work For Mums --- ### [Debbie Rivers Relationship Coach](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/debbie-rivers-relationship-coach/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** It’s really hard out there. Searching for love and not finding it. Or if you do find it to have it not work out and watch it fall apart before your very eyes. **It is one of the most painful things you can go through in life.** There’s a **whole** ***other*** **level** of grief, confusion, fury and self-criticism that comes after the end of **a long-term relationship or marriage.** **Debbie Rivers Relationship Expert will** show you how you can open your heart and be safe to let healthy, incredible love in. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *40% off all Online Courses – How to Get him to Want You, Learn How to Love Yourself and How to Succeed Online* ![Debbie Rivers Relationship Coach | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Debbie-Rivers-Directory.png "Debbie Rivers | Beanstalk Mums Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [MACROS](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/macros/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Healthy, ready-made meals delivered fresh from $9.40/meal. Chef-crafted and nutritionally-balanced with 7 Everyday, Family and Fitness plans available. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Valid from 1 March 2021- 28 February 2022. Terms & Conditions: - Get $30 OFF on First Order for New Customers only - Valid for use of New Customers Only - Applicable on all weekly meal plans - Cannot be used in conjunction with other promotions such as cash back or referrals, email marketing and other MACROS onsite promotions ![Macros | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Macros-Directory-1.png "Macros Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [KidsUnlock](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/kidsunlock/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** KidsUnlock is possibly the world’s most advanced online learning programme ever designed to challenge, educate and develop the talents and mental abilities of children from five to 16. It could transform the way children learn for a generation. Unlike other online learning platforms, every programme on KidsUnlock is unique – tailor made and designed to benefit each child – and totally bespoke to that child’s academic and creative abilities. Michael Younge, CEO of KidsUnlock says: > *“It is our mission to help develop smarter children, kids who are gentle, kind, intelligent and mentally strong. We do this by concentrating on the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses – and this is what we teach at KidsUnlock.”* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/kids-unlock-directory.png "kids unlock directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kid Stuff --- ### [Mon Verre](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/mon-verre/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Introducing Mon Verre, signature personalised glassware that adds sophistication to every occasion. Whether you’re looking for a personalised glassware gift for someone special or an opportunity to elevate your own glassware collection, Mon Verre, is waiting for you. We have the widest range of personalised wine glasses, personalised champagne glasses and personalised whiskey and martini glasses available anywhere, so you can rest assured you’ll find a glass that holds a special meaning for you. ![Mon Verre | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Mon-Verre-Directory.png "Mon Verre Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Home, Homeware, Gifts --- ### [ECO. Modern Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/eco-modern-essentials/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ECO. Modern Essentials is a Gold Coast based wellness brand specialising in 100% pure essential oils and blends to support overall health and wellbeing. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Save $10 (minimum order purchase $85).* ![Eco Modern Essentials | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Eco-Modern-Directory.png "Eco Modern Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Essential Oils, Health, Gifts --- ### [FUNCH](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/funch/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The FUNCH mission is aimed at inspiring every generation to discover, enjoy and share good food that makes people feel and live better. Founded in Melbourne by two passionate mums, the FUNCH vision has always been to create and share healthy food throughout Australia and beyond. The products we make help infants and kids love, enjoy and discover food, and empower parents to feel satisfied that what their kids are eating is good for them and good for the world they will inherit. FUNCH baby range is made with 100% Australian ingredients. FUNCH baby puree is fortified with Omega 3, and infant cereals contain iron for growing bodies. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Conditions: Valid for new customers only and limited to 1 use per customer.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Funch.png "Funch | Beanstalk Single Mums - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kids' Snacks, Food --- ### [Skin Matrix](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/skin-matrix/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Skin Matrix is an Australian Company that exists to inspire all to love life with radiance by taking an active role in nurturing the transformation of your skin. Skin Matrix is a destination where you can enjoy the benefits of education, inspiration, and information to confidently choose products to fulfil the needs of your skin. With a passion for Cosmeceutical Skin Care, mineral make up, health and wellness, Skin Matrix have a great range of different products available and can create a complimentary skincare regime for our customers. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *Complete your free online skin questionnaire and skin routine through our [Matrix Program](https://t.cfjump.com/59558/t/54057?Url=https%3a%2f%2fwww.skinmatrix.com.au%2fmatrix-program%2f).* ![Skin Matrix | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/skinmatrix_directory.png "skinmatrix_directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [VeeFresh](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/veefresh/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Our mission is to help women everywhere take back their confidence through community, education, and effective solutions. Natasha Semago founded VeeFresh based on her personal struggle with recurring BV and the desire to help other women who have experienced the pain, anxiety, and depression that can come from chronic vaginal issues. After years of trial and error, she has finally found nature-based solutions she is willing to share with the world! ![Veefresh Discount Directory | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/veefresh.png "veefresh - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Body Care, Beauty --- ### [Sanity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sanity/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Sanity is Australia’s leading entertainment retailer. Australian’s have been coming to Sanity for years to find a wide range of movies, music, TV shows, pop vinyl, books, board games and so much more! ![Sanity | Beanstalk Mums Discount Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/sanity_directory.png "sanity_directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Entertainment, Gifts --- ### [The Collagen Co.](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/the-collagen-co/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** At The Collagen Co, our mission is to help you get the most out of life through nourishing your body and getting the nutrients you needs to thrive. We create great tasting, premium quality collagen products to promote health, fitness and natural beauty. We believe that when you nourish your body and give it the fuel it needs, you get more out of it. Our products are designed to fit into your life and give you the energy you need to take on whatever your day throws your way. We use the highest quality hydrolyzed collagen specifically formulated for glowing skin, strong nails and hair, improved joint function and a healthy gut. We’ve sourced 100% grass-fed, pasture-raised bovine to give you as much goodness as possible. And our premium blend also contains Vitamin C for antioxidant defence and collagen synthesis, along with Biotin to aid cell renewal. **Directory categories:** Health, Supplements --- ### [Noom](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/noom/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Noom is a behaviour change innovator, leveraging psychology and science to help people live the healthy, fulfilling lives they deserve. Noom’s program offers personalised one to one coaching to deliver successful behaviour change and sustainable weight loss results. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/noom.png "noom - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Health, Useful Services --- ### [Kissed Earth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/kissed-earth/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A superior range of collagen and vegan protein products. Our bodies deserve nothing but the best. We know that true beauty starts from within and that what we put into our body should be of the highest quality. At Kissed Earth we have sourced some of the best bovine collagen from around the world and carefully blended it with a unique mix of botanicals, superfoods, probiotics and fibres to allow your body to thrive. Collagen supplementation improves the quality and structure of skin, hair, nails, joints, tendons, lining of the gut and more. We do not believe in using synthetic or artificial ingredients in any of our products and are committed to using the cleanest and most powerful foods from nature. By eating real foods, we can heal our body and live to our full potential. Having seen first-hand the effects a lack of nourishment and care has on our body, it is our mission to open the pathway to a more enriching life. **Directory categories:** Health, Supplements --- ### [Threadicated](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/threadicated/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Threadicated is your personal fashion styling partner that develops with your lifestyle, budget, taste, and needs. Your stylist hand-selects outfits just for you, and delivers them to your door – no subscription required. You keep what you love and return the rest. Shipping and returns are free. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *$20 off your first order, $200 minimum spend, valid until indefinitely.* ![Threadicated | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/threadicated_directory.png "threadicated_directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [Vuly Play](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/vuly-play/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Vuly Play creates the world’s most amazing outdoor products by pushing the limits of imaginative design and engineering. Our springless trampolines, modular play sets, advanced basketball hoops and more bring dreams to life. With ingenuity and quality that surpasses the competition, we’re bringing our revolution of safe and active play to more families across the globe. Our dedication to innovation and safety are the ingredients that produce the wonder of a Vuly trampoline and play set. It’s an experience that no other can match. **Directory categories:** Outdoor essentials --- ### [Breezy Shade](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/breezy-shade/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The ULTIMATE SHADING SOLUTION for the beach, picnic, camping and just about anywhere you want to hangout in the sun. This is a game changer when it comes to sunshades! Our innovative product is full with incredible features: - Sun protection UPF 50+ - Made of top-quality stretchable Lycra Polyester fabric - Has built it sand bags - Super light and compact to carry, **only 2- 3 kg!!** - Wind resistant - Breathable & quick to dry - Setup with 3 simple steps and super easy to pack away (See how in this [video](https://www.facebook.com/BreezyShade/videos/2497577900516811/)) - Available in multiple sizes and colours Here is just a few of the awesome reviews our product has received recently: <https://www.breezyshade.com.au/breezy-bloggers/> ![Breezy Shade | Beanstalk Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/breezy-shade_directory.png "breezy shade_directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Outdoor essentials --- ### [EveryPlate AU](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/everyplate-au/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** EveryPlate delivers simple home cooking solutions at prices lower than the supermarket. It’s smart value, simplicity and satisfying allowing you to feel in control of mealtimes without breaking the budget. It’s a win-win. ***Terms and Conditions:** Excludes premium selection these can be added for an additional charge. Excludes delivery charges. Limit of 1 voucher per person/household. Valid for new customers and households only. Delivery is only available in Eastern Seaboard locations. Pause or cancel in your online account by NSW, VIC, ACT: 11.59pm Tuesday local time; QLD: 10.59pm Tuesday local time (AEDST – Daylight Saving Time).* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Everyplate-.png "Everyplate - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Flexi Lexi Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/flexi-lexi-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Eco-friendly activewear sets for mums and their minis. Think #twinning! Black gym wear is great, we get it, but at Flexi Lexi we want to empower women and kids to express themselves. Whether at the gym, beach or in the studio we will excite and support you. We bring the best quality activewear, focusing on comfort, designs, flexibility, functionality and of course…fun. The same quality and features go into our matching mini ranges, which means your mini will be in the best gear around and most importantly it will last! Not only will they pass the squat test – every time (yes, wash after wash). Our sets are made to endure even the toughest toddler or teenager. Honestly, they’ll even outlast a red wine drinking mum! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Flexi-Lexi_Directory.png "Flexi Lexi_Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kids Clothing, Mum Activewear, Kid Stuff, Mum stuff --- ### [ABCmouse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/abcmouse/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ABCmouse.com® Early Learning Academy is the leading and most comprehensive digital learning resource for children ages 2–8. With more than 9,000 Learning Activities and 850 lessons, the standards-based ABCmouse curriculum is available on computers, tablets, and smartphones and is used by millions of children at home, in more than 70,000 U.S. classrooms, and in nearly half of all U.S. public libraries. [Large-scale research studies assessing the effectiveness of ABCmouse](https://www.ageoflearning.com/research) have concluded that ABCmouse accelerates learning and helps children make significant gains in early literacy and math skills. ABCmouse is regularly ranked as the leading children’s learning iPad®, iPhone®, and Android™ app in both the Kids and Education categories; to date, children have completed more than 3 billion ABCmouse Learning Activities. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/ABC-Mouse.png "ABC Mouse - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kid Stuff --- ### [The Fruit That Loves Itself](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/the-fruit-that-loves-itself/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The Fruit That Loves Itself is a rhyming children’s book about a hairy tropical fruit called Remi. While on display at the market Remi begins to notice that he looks a little different from the apples and the pears. With his unusual spiky hair, Remi worries that the market folk are ignoring him, or worse still, they stop to point and stare! The little rambutan feels utterly dejected, until a chance encounter with a cactus sets him on another path. Inspired by the wise succulent and all the deliciously different fruits he meets, Remi learns to stop comparing himself to others and even finds his own best friend. Join Remi the rambutan in this beautifully illustrated story about friendship and accepting yourself just the way you are. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/The-Fruit-that-Loves-Itself.png "The Fruit that Loves Itself - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Learning Materials, Kid Stuff --- ### [Bump Boxes](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/bump-boxes/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Bump Boxes is a monthly subscription service that curates fun, healthy products for pregnancy and beyond. Our subscription can be started at anytime during pregnancy and continue all the way through baby’s third birthday! Bump Boxes are tailored to your due date, and once the little one arrives, the boxes transition into Bitsy Boxes! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Bump-Boxes.png "Bump Boxes - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Maternity, Pregnancy Essentials, Gifts --- ### [Busy Kid Planners](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/busy-kid-planners/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Busy Kid has a range of planners that offer fun and simple ways to help young children organise and plan the week ahead. Each Busy Kid planner comes with a large base magnet and 40 colourful magnets that include popular school and after-school tasks and sports activities, daily routines, or age appropriate household chores and jobs. They help children connect days and actions, and build good daily habits of organisation. Perfect for early readers and for children that benefit from simple visual aids and schedules. Busy Kid planners empower children to take an active role in their activities and helps build self organisation skills and responsibility. Available in Magnetic, Digital and Paper formats. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Busy-Kid.png "Busy Kid - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Learning Materials, Gifts, Kid Stuff --- ### [Eighteen B](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/eighteen-b/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Eighteen B harnesses the power of silk – one of the strongest materials in the natural world – to reinforce the natural skin barrier. Like a silk scarf, their proprietary b-silk™ protein forms a lightweight, breathable barrier that locks powerful ingredients close to the skin and keeps environmental stressors at bay for skin that looks healthy, glowing, and silky smooth. As a result, skin looks smoother, firmer, youthful, and more radiant. After studying silk proteins for a decade, Lindsay Wray, PhD, realized she could use silk to create more effective skincare products. Lindsay and her team engineered our proprietary b-silk™ protein to mimic the properties of spider silk. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Eighteen-B.png "Eighteen B - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [Fridge-to-go](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/fridge-to-go/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Fridge-to-go makes school lunches easy … FOOD STAYS COOL AND CRISP FOR UP TO 8HRS! This unique school lunch bag performs all day so never worry about food getting warm, mushy or spoiling. No food poisoning and less waste! Parents love us as we give peace of mind. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Fridge-to-Go.png "Fridge to Go - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kids' Accessories, Kid Stuff --- ### [Bundarra Sportswear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/bundarra-sportswear/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Bundarra is a fashion label that designs and supplies Indigenous themed clothing and apparel. All our designs use authentic Indigenous art from real artists living in Australia. Each design tells a story unique to the artist. Our fashion lines range from yoga and athleisure inspired leggings and performance wear to corporate blouses and evening dresses. We cater to mens, ladies and kids of all sizes and age. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Bundarra-1.png "Bundarra - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kids Clothing, Mum Activewear, Kid Stuff, Mum stuff --- ### [Happy Hair Brush](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/happy-hair-brush/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** The Original Happy Hair Brush is a 100% Aussie owned and run business that provides hair brushes for adults and kids that don’t hurt, pull out hair or damage hair when used to brush. Works on wet or dry hair and is a complete game changer. With a 100% money-back guarantee, the Happy Hair Brush is the only brushes on the market that have your back in solving this problem once and for all. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Happy-Hair-Brush-2.jpg "Happy Hair Brush - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Accessories, Kids' Accessories, Kid Stuff, Mum stuff --- ### [GroupTogether](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/grouptogether/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Easily collect cash for your kids’ teachers’ end of year gifts. This Christmas GroupTogether has you covered! The **easy way to collect money from a group for anything.** – Create and share a group collection in 1 minute – no downloads needed. – Sit back and relax while money is collected and auto-reminders are sent – Choose a gift card, let the receiver choose or simply cash out the money – Get a stunning personalised card with all contributors’ photos and wishes – DONE! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Group-Together-1.png "Group Together - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Gifts, Useful Services --- ### [Jubly-Umph](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/jubly-umph/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***Buy 3 pins and get the 4th one free with code: BEANSTALK. Start shopping on the [Jubly-Umph](https://www.jubly-umph.com/) website today.*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Have pride in your passions! Jubly-Umph makes little reminders that you can wear every day: Reminders that you are smart and brave and strong, and reminders to celebrate the things that make us different, because they are our strengths. Their work is exclusive and locally designed. It says something, means something and shows the world that you’re exceptional. Based on the artwork of Melbourne illustrator Tasha Miller, each shiny lapel pin has a motivational message or sassy saying that you can wear on your collar, jacket, bag or lapel. These little mementos are for book lovers, craft addicts and people who believe in embracing their weirdness. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Jubly-Umph-1.png "Jubly Umph - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Accessories, Kids' Accessories, Gifts, Kid Stuff, Mum stuff --- ### [Motivating Kids Parenting Guide](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/motivating-kids-parenting-guide/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Feeling frustrated with your kids’ lack of motivation? Tired of nagging and nagging? Looking for ways to inspire your kids to be the best they can be? Want to motivate your children without the use of force? Motivating Kids is the Parenting Book for you! Get the simplest, most practical guide to motivating children of all ages. Motivating Kids is your ultimate comprehensive parenting guide book. It includes practical tips that work effectively and easily on toddlers and teenagers alike. It will teach you the science and art of motivation: Why, What, and most importantly, How to motivate your kids. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Motivating-Kids.png "Motivating Kids - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Reading Materials, Gifts, Mum stuff --- ### [Tropeaka](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/tropeaka/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Tropeaka wants to help you conquer the day the healthy way! With powerful proteins, BCAA’S, superfoods and teas there is something for everyone! Whether you’re interested in toning and building lean muscle, wellness and vitality, energy, immunity or cleansing, Tropeaka’s range of wholefood nutrition are all natural, vegan friendly, gluten free, soy free and NON-GMO. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/tropeaka.jpg "tropeaka - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Health, Supplements --- ### [Vitable](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/vitable/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Vitable takes the guesswork out of feeling good. Get your own personalised daily vitamin packs, safely delivered to your doorstep every month. Take their online Quiz to find out which vitamins & minerals can support your personal needs, based on your own diet & lifestyle. \#Only what you need, nothing that you don’t. All vitamins are manufactured in Australia at the highest quality standard, ingredients come in the best form for their absorption by your body. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums")*Offer expires on 31/12/2023. Offer available to 1st time clients only. This offer cannot be used in conjunction with another offer. By using this promo-code you will enter a flexible monthly subscription: edit or stop at any time. Always read the label. Follow the directions for use. If symptoms persist, change or worsen talk to your health professional. Vitamin supplements should not replace a balanced diet.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Vitable-3.jpg "Vitable - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Health, Supplements --- ### [Neptune Blanket](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/neptune-blanket/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***To save 25% on your purchase, head to the Neptune Blanket website and enter code Beanstalk25 at the checkout.*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Neptune Blanket is an Australian owned and operated family business with a mission to help each other deal with stress, anxiety, insomnia and mental health. Our Weighted Blankets are created with the best of premium materials and the latest stitching tech. You use it every day, so it needs to last. The non-toxic, environmentally friendly glass beads provide the weight which is evenly distributed within the 7 layers of the Neptune blanket® II. When under the blanket, it gives us that great feeling of being hugged or cuddled. DTPS (Deep Touch Pressure Stimulation) is even pressure applied to your body which can help produce the ‘HAPPINESS’ chemicals which regulate our mood and overall sense of calm- helping us settle down from stressful situations, relax faster and sleep deeper. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Neptune-Blanket-Directory.png "Neptune Blanket Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Home, Homeware --- ### [Broth & Co](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/broth-co/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***To save 10% on your order enter code THANKYOU at the checkout on the [Broth & Co website](https://brothandco.com.au/).*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Melbourne’s Broth & Co is a family owned business; founded by a husband and wife team in the health and fitness industry, who love healthy, nutritious food that’s ready to use. Healthy Bone Broth and Superfood Vegetable Powders for fussy little eaters. Bone broth was once lauded as an elixir by our ancestors, recipes of broth were passed down generation to generation so that families could provide healing and nourishment to their loved ones. Today’s busy lifestyle leaves little time to prepare such healing elixirs so we wanted to provide that warm hug that only broth can give. Our bone broths are authentic and made with Australian grass fed beef & free range chicken bones, made the traditional way and simmered for 24 hours. Available in traditional liquid and convenient take anywhere powdered sachets. Healthy eating is important throughout a child’s life, it provides the energy and nutrients needed for growth, it develops a sense of taste, and instils positive patterns and decision making for the rest of their life. The VegEase Kids Superfood Range is Australian freeze-dried Vegetables ready to spoon in and improve nutrition in any meal or baking. A food Hack for fussy little eaters because we are serious about raising healthy kids. Available in 7 varieties – Mushroom, Beetroot, Cauliflower, Pumpkin, Carrot, Spinach, Broccoli Authentic. Australian. Nourishing. Nutrient Dense. Energising. Gut Health. Immunity. Skin Health. Joint Health. Wellness. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Broth-and-Co-Directory.jpg "Broth and Co Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Meals, Food --- ### [Bed Threads](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/bed-threads/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** **Meet Bed Threads:** Luxurious, comfortable 100% French Flax Linen bedding. Moving into her apartment, journalist-turned-entrepreneur Genevieve Rosen-Biller encountered a problem. She wanted a luxurious but affordable 100% French Flax Linen bedding set but the only options she could find were impractically sold separately and priced at $500 or more. So in 2017, after two years of rigorous product development and research, Genevieve created Bed Threads and bedrooms around Australia have been more chic ever since. Bed Threads’ philosophy centres around providing luxurious 100% French Flax Linen bedding that’s comfortable to sleep in (whether it’s scorching or freezing), looks good and is accessible to everyone. When stock sold out just three weeks after Bed Threads threw open its figurative online doors in August 2017, it was clear the brand had struck a chord with savvy interior lovers. “It blew my mind that a luxurious, affordable, 100% French Flax Linen set with two pillowcases, a duvet cover and a fitted sheet didn’t exist in the Australian market before Bed Threads,” explains Genevieve. “I wanted to create something simple and functional but beautiful and top quality that would fit seamlessly into any home – whether it’s a share-house, small apartment or luxurious family home.” From $230, sets are available in an array of 22 captivating colours – think rosewater, turmeric, olive, fog, rust and more – that will bring a Pinterest-worthy touch to any bedroom. Beautiful aesthetic aside, it’s the quality of Bed Threads’ linen that makes sleeping on it pure bliss. The pure 100% French Flax Linen Bed Threads uses is a great temperature regulator – which means you’ll stay breezy in the heat and toasty when it’s cold. It softens over time (so becomes more and more comfortable with every wash), is durable, anti-bacterial and anti-static. Impressive, right? With customers stating that the sets are “heaven” and “the most beautiful linen” they’ve ever slept on, and some of Australia’s most prolific influencers like Jasmine Dowling and Carmen Hamilton declaring their love for the brand, it’s clear Bed Threads is the bedding company to watch. ![Bed Threads | Beanstalk Single Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Bed-Threads-Directory.png "Bed Threads Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Home, Homeware --- ### [Dyeing 4 Ewe](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dyeing-4-ewe/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Dyeing 4 Ewe was born of a passion for yarns, fibres and all things fluffy. These yarns are individually hand dyed in my studio in Gidgegannup. These skeins are dyed with environmentally friendly acid dyes that contain no heavy metals. All created in very small batches so no two skeins are the same. Rain water from our tanks and no “single use” plastic in my dyeing studio help ensure these skeins make minimal environmental impact. All labels are made with recycled paper. The yarn is machine washable (woollen cycle). Please always hand wash for the first few washes as there may be some slight dye run. Thank you for supporting small local business Jessica ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 15% off all purchases over $50.00 with checkout code: MUMSROCK.*** ***Discount excludes looms and Majacraft products.*** **Directory categories:** Hobbies, Mum stuff --- ### [esmi Skin Minerals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/esmi-skin-minerals/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Start your journey to beautiful skin with esmi’s range of high quality and ethically sourced skincare products. This vegan and cruelty-free range is Australian made and includes serums, masks, cleansers, foundations and accessories. You can talk to our skin specialist team who will guide you through your FREE personal Skin Care Plan and help you get on top of your skin concerns today. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Save 10% storewide with discount code BEANSTALK10.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Esmi-1.jpg "Esmi - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [Mosmann Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/mosmann-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Mosmann Australia was born in 2009 in the exclusive harbourside suburb – Mosman. Mosman is the gateway to Sydney’s famous Northern Beaches – home to Australia’s top surfing hotspots. Reflective of our premium brand, Mosman inspires us to continue our creation of stylish, quality Swimwear and underwear for the family , offering specialty fabrics and unique prints for those who covet their own little piece of our quintessential Australian lifestyle. We have now introduced kids swim shorts to our range with lovely fun prints and bright colours. Using our 4 way stretch fabric the swim shorts are not only on trend but also very comfortable. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***For your 25% discount, head to the [Mosmanm website](https://mosmannaustralia.com.au/) and enter checkout code: Beanstalk25.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Mosmann-2.jpg "Mosmann - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [Tesalate Beach Towels](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/tesalate/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ***For 10% off your first-time purchase, just sign-up on the [website](https://au.tesalate.com/?geolizr=off) and a discount code will be sent directly to your email.*** ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Tesalate is proudly an Australian-designed beach towel created by two friends. After 18 months of planning, product development and testing, Tesalate finally launched at Bondi Beach Markets in 2016. From there, Tesalate rapidly expanded by selling towels to customers in over 100 countries within a couple of years. Our vibrant beach towels are made from cutting-edge fabric technology. Apart from repelling sand, the towels are made with AbsorbLite™ fabric. It rapidly dries compared to regular ones, yet it can absorb at least 1 (33 oz.) liter of water. We have been featured in several media outlets worldwide and have over a million followers across our social media platforms. We are by far, the most reviewed beach towel in the world. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Tesalate.png "Tesalate - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Outdoor essentials --- ### [Japoodah](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/japoodah/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Japoodah began back in 2015 when a mum of eight children figured out a way to stop her toddler making a big mess when he ate solids. After some experimentation she discovered a trick that would instantly put a stop to the mealtime mess. The unique food catching bib she created meant no more messy clothes, highchair, or floor and saved her countless hours of cleaning. Knowing that there was nothing else like it on the market she decided to open an online store called Japoodah, which was the nickname of the son for whom she made the bib. Japoodah now also has its exclusive range of soft waterproof dribble bibs which were also designed by the mum of eight. The fabric she used made these dribble bibs better than any other one she’d tried. They were waterproof, yet lightweight and soft. Her last son was a major dribbler, yet these bibs kept his shirts dry and clean. Japoodah will continue to add to their range. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get any food catching bib for half price. Usually $36, but for Beanstalk mums $18. Enter the coupon code Beanstalk when going through the checkout and the discount will be applied.*** **Directory categories:** Baby Essentials, Kid Stuff --- ### [Little Shop of Happiness](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/little-shop-of-happiness/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** We make it easy to make someone smile with our range of beautiful gift boxes and bespoke hampers for all occasions. Our gift boxes are bright, colourful and full of happy products that are perfect to brighten up a loved ones day. We have a selection of different themes and sizes to choose from, ranging from ‘good vibes’ packs to the little box of gratitude, and our top seller is our famous Little Box of Happiness, there’s a pack for every occasion. We also do fabulous corporate gift hampers perfect to let your employees feel appreciated. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 10% discount. Use Promo code BEANSTALK at checkout.*** **Directory categories:** Gifts --- ### [Modsie](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/modsie/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Modsie is your online marketplace to Buy & Sell pre-loved high-end and luxury fashion bags, shoes, clothing and accessories. Our Quality Control team inspects 100% of products sold on our website for authenticity and compliance to ensure a safe shopping environment with authentic products from famous designer houses. Giving a second life to fashion products is a great way to reduce fashion waste. Make extra cash by selling the products you no longer use and access quality and unique items at lower price by shopping pre-loved! ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***$30 off with the code BEANSTALK.*** ***(1 usage per customer, cannot be used in conjunction of other coupons.)*** **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [BioBag World Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/biobag-world-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** BioBags are earth-friendly, plastic alternatives including food and freezer storage bags, resealable bags, dog bags and bin liners. Using a BioBag is much better for the environment than using plastic because a BioBag breaks down into harmless organic matter, instead of harmful microplastics. BioBag’s compostable, plastic-free Food and Freezer Bags and Resealable Food Storage Bags keep food fresh and can also be used to collect food scraps for recycling with organic waste. When you’re finished using BioBags, you can put them in your compost bin or green bin (check with your local council) so they can be returned to the earth as harmless organic matter, instead of breaking down into microplastics. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Save 10% on your first order with checkout code: FIRSTORDER10.*** **Directory categories:** Household essentials, Home --- ### [Paudha Healing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/paudha-healing/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Paudha Healing is an award winning organic skincare company, producing a beautiful range of all natural skincare products that are vegan and certified cruelty free. Our products are proudly handmade in the Blue Mountains, Australia, using plant-based ingredients. We have a strong belief that every ingredient we use should provide a benefit to your skin, without the need for chemical fillers! All of our products are packaged in recyclable glass jars and we use biodegradable and recyclable packaging for posting all orders. We also donate $1 from the sale of each product to Rainforest Alliance for the protection of rainforests. Together, we can look after your skin and our environment. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 20% discount on all products with checkout code: Beanstalk.*** **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [Biome Eco Stores](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/biome-eco-stores/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Biome, Australia’s leading eco store, offers all the products and tools needed to live zero waste, toxin free and ethically, ranging from reusable coffee cups and lunch boxes to organic skin care, and DIY food kits. Biome helps customers shop by the values important to them, such as vegan, plastic free and palm oil free, knowing that the products have passed Biome’s strict criteria and are verified for truth in labelling, safe ingredients and zero harm to people, animals and the planet. Biome is Australia’s first certified B Corporation and the world’s first Palm Oil Investigations (POI) approved retailer. Shop in store at Biome’s five stores located in Brisbane and the Gold Coast or online for national and international delivery. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") **Stores:** **Indooroopilly** Level 3, Indooroopilly Shopping Centre **Brisbane City** 33 Adelaide Street, Brisbane QLD **Paddington** 2 Latrobe Terrace, Paddington QLD **Balmoral** 216 Riding Road, Balmoral QLD **Gold Coast** Shop 3D, The Brickworks Centre, Southport QLD 4215 **Directory categories:** Kids' Snacks, Hobbies, Baby Essentials, Body Care, Skin Care, Household essentials, Home, Beauty, Gifts, Food, Kid Stuff, Mum stuff --- ### [The Little Cook](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/the-little-cook/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Empowering Kids to Cook The Little Cook team are passionate about cooking and baking. We love nothing better than getting creative in the kitchen and filling the house with delicious smells. It goes without saying that we love sharing this passion with our children and they enjoy it as much as we do. Our passion is in helping kids and their parents experience the joy of cooking together. Our aim is to provide your budding Little Cook with the tools to empower them to create fun, tasty and healthy meals that the whole family can enjoy. With our kitchen products and your help, your Little Cooks will soon reap the benefits of spending quality time in the kitchen and the joy that learning to cook brings. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Use code beanstalk15 at checkout to receive a 15% discount.*** **Directory categories:** Hobbies, Kid Stuff --- ### [JuJu](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/juju/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** JuJu’s range of reusable period care products are better for your body, your budget and the environment! They are a Perth based business with a mission to encourage period positive conversations, while empowering women with healthier and more sustainable alternatives to disposable pads and tampons. The Australian made JuJu Menstrual Cup comes in four different models to suit a variety of bodies. JuJu also manufactures a range of reusable cloth pads and absorbent period underwear, giving you more options during your period or when dealing with light bladder leakage or postpartum bleeding. JuJu is proud to be a corporate partner with Share the Dignity, a charity that helps vulnerable Australian women and girls access the sanitary products they need – menstrual cup and cloth pad donations can be made through their website. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 10% discount with code ‘BEANSTALK10’ (valid until 31/12/2020).*** **Directory categories:** Intimates, Mum stuff --- ### [Eco Tan & Eco By Sonya Driver](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/eco-tan-eco-by-sonya-driver/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Eco Tan x Eco By Sonya Driver is a Global Award Winning Aussie made organic company offering vegan, cruelty free and certified organic tanning, body and skin care. After Sonya’s sister was diagnosed with a melanoma at age 30, Sonya started searching the ingredients in the fake tans they were using. She didn’t like what she found. This Aussie mum’s tenacity and journey has given us a healthier alternative to tanning, body care and skincare and continues to grow at a rapid rate, as our ‘greener’ and healthier products are made with only natural and organic ingredients and we have never or will never test on animals! “The truth is always visible”~ Sonya Driver ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 25% off when you subscribe to our newsletter*** **Directory categories:** Body Care, Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [Talyala Emu Farm](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/talyala-emu-farm/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Talyala Emu Oil and Emu Oil Products are perfect for anyone looking for natural health and skincare products. Our Pure Emu Oil and Pure Emu Oil Capsules can assist in the management of the symptoms of all types of aches and pains, muscular stiffness, arthritis, joint pain and also help to relive the severity of skin conditions such as eczema and psoriasis. Our Skincare and Body range compliment the Pure Oils, appealing to anyone looking to avoid nasty chemicals and harsh additives. Our products are free from SLS, Petrochemicals, Alcohol and Artificial Fragrances. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Please use coupon code BEAN20 at the cart check out for 20% off your first order.*** **Directory categories:** Body Care, Skin Care, Health, Supplements, Beauty --- ### [Nutra Organics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/nutra-organics/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Nutra Organics provides real, honest nutrition that not only tastes good, but is easy to incorporate into your daily life. Plus practical, holistic support to help you find and maintain your version of health, whatever that looks like for you and your family. We provide the wholesome goodness you may be missing out on. Our products are certified organic whenever possible and packed with essential nutrition to boost your everyday health. We work hard to maintain the integrity of all we produce, from the highest quality ingredients in our blends to the drying methods that preserve the most amount of nutritional value. We don’t use artificial colours, flavours, synthetics or ingredients. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 10% discount with checkout code: BEANSTALK*** **Directory categories:** Health, Supplements --- ### [Dope Skin Co](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dope-skin-co/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Aussie Made Organic Hemp based Botanical skincare enriched with natures super-foods & vitamins to feed your skin. Hand made with love in small batches to ensure freshness! No Nasties.. only the finest cruelty-free vegan friendly naturally derived ingredients. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 20% discount storewide with checkout code: Beanstalk.*** **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [BOOHOO](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/boohoo/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** We are boohoo, the brand behind the clothes helping you #DOYOURTHING We started in 2006 and haven’t stopped smashing it since. A global brand that doesn’t sleep, we’re 24/7 and always bringing something new with over 100 new products dropping on the daily, bringing you the latest looks for less. Since launching in 2006, the in-house design team has consistently created directional collections which not only combine incredible value but also cutting edge style.boohoo recognises individuality. We see you. We embrace it. We make fashion accessible and fun. boohoo is for girls. All girls. Our philosophy’s pretty simple: we don’t take fashion or life too seriously. From over 4 million fans on social and an online magazine, we’re the dress you need at the weekend, and the LOL moments you need when you’re down. WORK HARD. HAVE FUN. NO DRAMA. **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [Numu-roo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/numu-roo/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Numu-roo is a revolutionary baby mattress made of a single mesh layer. It is safer, friendlier and contributes to a better sleep for both bub and mum. Our unique design eliminates dust mites and increases airflow, which prevents accumulation of CO2 and overheating. The Numu is also super easy to clean (takes less than 30 seconds) Numu meets the Australian safety standard for sleeping surface firmness and was selected by Sensitive Choice, with their strict health standards, as a partner mattress. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Buy a cot mattress and get a [free cotton sheet](https://www.numu-roo.com.au/discount/Numu-BeanStalk).*** ***Once both items are added to your cart add checkout code: Numu-BeanStalk.*** **Directory categories:** Baby Essentials, Kid Stuff --- ### [OZiHOMESTAY & OZiAU-PAIR](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/ozihomestay/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** OZiHOUSE Group has three main programs, which are, OZiHOUSE, OZiHOMESTAY and OZiAU-PAIR. We are a professional homestay, au-pair and demi-pair provider based in Melbourne. ### OZiHOMESTAY We have two groups of students coming from different countries, which are under 18 years old and above 18 years old. Most of them come from Japan but we do accommodate students from Korea, Phillipine, Thailand, South American and more. They are looking to stay with a local family so they can learn English and experience cultural exchange. You will receive rent for hosting a student. This amount varies so please contact us for more information. If you would like to become an OZiHOMESTAY host family, you should: - Be able to provide a furnished personal room such as bed, desk and wardrobe. - Prepare meals for the students. (Optional, depends on the package) - Live within 60 minutes of travel distance to the CBD and accessible public transportation. - Be an easy-going, patient and friendly family. - Provide an English speaking environment hence needs a family that can speak fluent English. ### OZiAU-PAIR Our demi-pairs are young adults (aged 19 to 30), who are trained in Basic Early Childhood Education and First Aid. They have an elementary or intermediate level of English and have come to Australia either on a Working Holiday visa or for study purposes. They are searching for local families who are willing to host them by providing accommodation and full board. In return, they will perform childcare and simple house duties. No money is exchanged between demi-pair and the family. OZiAU-PAIR is a platform which links demi-pairs with local families in Melbourne. They have a strict selection process and all demi-pairs must have a valid Working with Children card. Most of OZiAU-PAIR’s demi pairs are from Japan and surrounding countries. The selected demi-pairs receive training before living with their host family. Demi-pairs typically work 15-20 hours per week with two days off on a three-month contract. While Au-pairs work for 35-40 hours with two days off on a six-month contract. If you would like to become an OZiAU-PAIR host family, you should: - Have children under 13 years of age. - Be able to provide a furnished personal room and meals for the demi-pair. - Live within travel distance to the CBD and have accessible public transportation. - Be an easy-going, patient and friendly family. Provide an English speaking environment. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Mention Beanstalk to receive a special:*** ***OZiAU-PAIR Program*** 1. ***To receive Demi-Pair (Fully waive the fee for the first demi-pair you receive). Original fee is $150 application fee + $390 placement fee.*** 2. ***To receive Au-Pair (Waive application fee & 50% discount on the placement fee). Original fee $150 + $790 placement fee.*** **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Incy Interiors](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/incy-interiors/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Incy Interiors was founded in 2011 by Mum and interiors enthusiast, Kristy Withers. The business transpired from an opportunity Kristy saw after an unexpectedly difficult search for her son Oscar’s first ‘big boy bed’. This merger of a frustrated but extremely ambitious mother saw the birth of Incy and with that, the launch of high quality designer kids furniture in Australia. Since its establishment, Incy Interiors has expanded outside its initial Australian clientele and now caters to stockists in nine countries. Despite its growth, Incy has always remained close to its roots and continues to be run by a staff that are small in number but abundant in productivity (and personality!) As a mum to two beautiful children, Oscar and Polly, Kristy understands the importance of safety. It is therefore Incy’s number one priority to have all products rigorously tested to ensure they meet Australian, New Zealand, Canadian, USA and European standards. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Save 20% storewide. Simply mention BEANSTALK when you place your order.*** **Directory categories:** Home, Furniture, Homeware --- ### [Naughty By Nature](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/naughty-by-nature/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Young, wild and freaky! Naughty By Nature is an online adult shop with a HUGE range of sex toys to satisfy every need. Shop quickly, safely and discreetly. Free delivery on orders $200 or more. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 10% off your first order with checkout code: 10BEANS.*** **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Bright Star Kids](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/bright-star-kids/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Want personalised name labels, school supplies or gifts? Join the families who’ve purchased over 500k quality personalised products from Bright Star Kids. Designed & printed in Australia, we’re so sure you’ll love them that we give a 100% happiness guarantee. Our company is built upon a love of quality products, and our passion for customer satisfaction. We employ full-time inhouse designers and production staff because we want to ensure that every item that leaves our studio meets the highest possible standards. Our families purchase from us because our name labels, school supplies and personalised gifts are made to last. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a 10% discount storewide with code BEANSTALK, and no minimum spend!*** **Directory categories:** Kids' Accessories, Gifts, Kid Stuff --- ### [Cluey Learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/cluey-learning/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Cluey Learning offers **expert personalised tutoring** to school students in Years 3 – 12. Trusted by hundreds of Australian families, each private session is aligned to the school syllabus and tailored to the individual student, with programs offered across **English**, **Maths** and **Chemistry**. It’s **100% online**, available anywhere, anytime including the ability to complete **practice questions** between tutoring sessions, and you receive **comprehensive feedback reports** after every session. **Directory categories:** Online Learning, Kid Stuff, Useful Services --- ### [SheKan](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/shekan/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** SheKan is a fearless community of women who are connected, feel safe and live unapologetic lives. Together we are reigniting our passions with authenticity, contribution and crazy amounts of fun. Want to come and play? ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get a $1200 gift voucher towards any of our 2 Day Escapes which will bring your investment down to $199. The gift code is SheKanGift1200 (case sensitive). Register here: [http://bit.ly/SheKan2DayEscape](http://bit.ly/SheKan2DayEscape?fbclid=IwAR2Cd-GPRXUPdcEgMr0r2_SbqVWU_2q8jjXmNJw8vGF9B0Mckhq_MREkuOQ).*** **Directory categories:** Hobbies, Mum stuff --- ### [Udemy: Learn new skills online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/udemy-learn-new-skills-online/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** > The leading global marketplace for learning and instruction. > > By connecting students all over the world to the best instructors, Udemy is helping individuals reach their goals and pursue their dreams. > > Talent is universal but opportunities are not. With access to online learning resources and instruction anyone, anywhere, can gain skills and transform their lives in meaningful ways. > > Courses include: Personal development, language, business, lifestyle, health and fitness, music, academics and much more. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") Find free courses on [Udemy](https://click.linksynergy.com/deeplink?id=ZyRbSLJoru8&mid=39197&murl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.udemy.com%2Fcourses%2Fsearch%2F%3Fsrc%3Dukw%26q%3Dfree%2520courses) today. **Directory categories:** Reading Materials, Mum stuff, Useful Services --- ### [Coles Online](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/coles-online/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Save time. Shop online. - Create an account and link your flybuys to shop faster - Shop our extensive online product range - Choose a delivery or collection option. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***[Save $16](https://coles.uqzq.net/RNBq9) on your first online order with code: BEANSTALK16. (For orders over $155.)*** **Directory categories:** Household essentials, Home, Food, Useful Services --- ### [BYJU’s FutureSchool](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/byjus-futureschool/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** BYJU’S FutureSchool is an interactive, learning platform that offers education programs on coding, math and music designed for students ages 6-18 that will help children build confidence and problem solving, creative thinking and communication skills. Through the platform, students receive personalised attention with **live access to a teacher in a one-on-one setting** as well as hands-on activities. To set your kids up positively for the next year, help them with concepts they can’t quite grasp or get them ready for NAPLAN or other maths assessments, why not consider [BYJU’S FutureSchool](https://rocketcomms-com-dot-yamm-track.appspot.com/Redirect?ukey=1PPHVyT1zvr4ogt4_wotGqTNAmQjToC1JFuLUQ09kQOQ-2069047495&key=YAMMID-41387735&link=https://www.byjusfutureschool.com/ "https://rocketcomms-com-dot-yamm-track.appspot.com/Redirect?ukey=1PPHVyT1zvr4ogt4_wotGqTNAmQjToC1JFuLUQ09kQOQ-2069047495&key=YAMMID-41387735&link=https://www.byjusfutureschool.com/") virtual classes for kids? The classes get results and are much cheaper than a personal tutor. These courses are also an excellent resource to ensure students go back to school feeling confident. ![BYJU Future School | Beanstalk Mums Directory](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/BYJU-Directory.png "BYJU Future School Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Online Learning, Kid Stuff --- ### [VonBlü Cosmetics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/vonblu-cosmetics/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** **Content:** VonBlü Cosmetics originated from many years of hard work and determination of a team of individuals. After identifying characteristics that were lacking in the industry,VonBlü Cosmetics formulated products that were not only good for you, but affordable, high quality and unlike anything on the market. VonBlü Cosmetics is proud to be made from natural ingredients, 100% vegan and animal cruelty free. Products by VonBlü Cosmetics are designed, produced and tested in Sydney, Australia. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.auwp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum cosmetics, Beauty --- ### [Octopus Paid Surveys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/octopus-paid-surveys/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** **Content:** The Octopus Group revolution! We are re-defining how the survey industry works. We’re paying the money forward to our members; we do this by having the highest survey cash rate and the best Tell-A-Friend incentive in Australia! Companies really want to know what you’re thinking and are only too happy to pay for it. Octopus Group connects you with these companies. **Directory categories:** Useful Services, Work For Mums --- ### [ABC Reading Eggs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/abc-reading-eggs/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ABC Reading Eggs is the **award-winning program** that makes learning to read easy and fun for kids aged 2–13. It uses a progressive sequence of highly interactive lessons, games, activities and over 2,500 e-books. The comprehensive program is **designed by expert Australian educators** and has been used by over **10 million children worldwide.** ABC Reading Eggs includes **hundreds of one-on-one reading lessons** that teach children essential early literacy skills, including **phonics and sight word recognition**. Parents can access detailed assessment reports to track their child’s progress, and print out certificates and worksheets, which supplement the program. **Based on scientific research** and the most up-to-date learning principles, ABC Reading Eggs uses a highly motivational reward system, which keeps children engaged while they learn to read. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg) Get a 4-week free trial + 20% off 12 months ABC Reading Eggs subscription\* Customers can sign up and redeem their code through: [www.readingeggs.com.au/bnstk2.](http://www.readingeggs.com.au/bnstk2) Use code: **BEANS20** Your trial will include access to **ABC Reading Eggs Junior**, the most comprehensive learning program for toddlers aged 2–4, **ABC Reading Eggs** for ages 3–7, and **ABC Reading Eggspress** for ages 7–13. We also have our maths program, **ABC Mathseeds**, which makes maths fun for ages 3–9. *\*does not include ABC Mathseeds* **Directory categories:** Online Learning, Kid Stuff --- ### [Spriggy](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/spriggy/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Spriggy is much more than a simple bank account or digital piggy bank. It’s a tool to prepare your kids through practical experience, all under your watchful eye. Spriggy builds important money habits in an environment where practical financial skills are rare to come by. Our prepaid card and purpose-built mobile app help teach 6-17 year olds vital earning, saving and spending skills with real world practice. - There’s a digital account for you, the Parent Wallet, and a Spriggy account for each of your children. - Manage all your kids through our simple phone app. - Kids get their own app and personalised prepaid card to manage saving and spending. - Only the money on the card can be spent, there’s no danger of debt. - Get real time notifications on spend to the parent and kid apps. - Give your kids the option to earn additional pocket money through parent controlled jobs. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona-1200x13.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Add code: beanstalkmums when you sign-up for your free trial to receive a $5 credit.*** **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Lovehoney](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/lovehoney/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** # Hello, we’re Lovehoney… And we’re the sexual happiness people, and we make a fun, fulfilling sex life available to everyone. We’re the global leader in sexual happiness and ship orders in discreet, boring brown boxes direct from our warehouse in Brisbane, straight to your door. Discover Lovehoney’s sex toys and lingerie to boost your sexual happiness! 30 Day Returns Policy. Next Day P&P Available. ![single mother support](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Sassy Organics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sassy-organics/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Sassy Organics is an all-natural, vegan and organic eCommerce store, committed to helping others adopt a healthier and more compassionate lifestyle. We believe that a business can be a force for good and we are committed to protecting our planet at every possible turn and we have removed all plastic waste from our online order packaging. In 2021, Sassy Organics were finalists in the Top Sustainable Retailer category at the All Star Bash Awards. Sassy Organics offers free standard shipping on all orders over $100. Afterpay and zipPay available. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Sassy-Organics-.png "Sassy Organics - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Skin Care, Beauty --- ### [LEGO Australia](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/lego-australia/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Founded in 1932 by Ole Kirk Kristiansen, and based on the iconic LEGO brick, it is one of the world’s leading manufacturers of play materials. Inspire and Develop the Builders of Tomorrow LEGO play starts to release a child’s potential from the moment they pick up their first brick. As children shape their own worlds with LEGO bricks, we play our part in having a positive impact on the world they live in today and will inherit in the future. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***If your child is between the age of 5 and 9, you can get them a FREE subscription to LEGO® Life Magazine. All you have to do is sign up for an account. Even shipping is free!*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Lego-Directory-copy-1.png "Lego Directory copy - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Toys, Kid Stuff --- ### [Zero Co Body Care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/zero-co-body-care/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Zero Co make incredible planet friendly body-care products that are refillable and single-use plastic free. Their reusable Forever Bottles are made from Ocean, Beach and Landfill plastic (OBL), so every time you buy Zero Co, you’re funding clean-ups around Australia and helping to tackle the single-use plastic problem. Zero Co also have a range of cleaning products which will knock your socks off! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 10% off any Zero Co products (Minimum spend $100. One use per customer).*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Zero-Co-Body-Care.png "Zero Co Body Care - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Body Care, Beauty --- ### [Floraly](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/floraly/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** At Floraly, we’re all about the journey ‘from bud to bloom’, which means we send you flowers while they’re still in bud, so they bloom in your home and last longer. We source your flowers fresh each morning to reduce flower waste and ensure you receive the best blooms available. We are also passionate about people and the planet. We’ve partnered with OzHarvest so that every bunch of flowers sold buys a meal for somebody who needs it. We also work with ClimateCare to offset the carbon emissions generated from our operations, and to give you the option at checkout to offset your own order. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 10% off your order. No minimum spend!*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Florally.jpg "Florally - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Gifts --- ### [Goldelucks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/goldelucks/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** For gifters who want to upgrade their gifting game, Goldelucks delivers a variety of personalised gifts Australia-wide from confetti hampers to gift boxes with flying butterflies – make your gift memorable! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Goldelucks-.jpg "Goldelucks - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Gifts --- ### [Naughty Store](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/naughty-store/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Let’s face it, who doesn’t feel a little naughty sometimes? We got you. Naughty Store is one of the biggest online adult destinations in Australia, boasting thousands of reviews from our raving super fans across the country. At Naughty Store, we go the extra mile by providing complete video overviews for many of our products (not like that you naughty thing! We are professionals!) All orders ship by express post because we know that everyone needs it fast sometimes! ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 15% off site wide by using the code BEANSTALK15.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Naughty-Store-1.jpg "Naughty Store - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Adult Stuff Warehouse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/adult-stuff-warehouse/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Adult Stuff Warehouse provide you quality brands at everyday low prices so you never have to wait for a sale again! New products arrive weekly at Adult Stuff Warehouse so you will always find something new across our Toy, Lingerie, Wellness and Personal Care range. We provide discreet and fast shipping across Australia from our Australian based warehouses. Join our monthly prize draw to go in the draw to win great prizes! The Australian based Adult Stuff Warehouse team are always here to answer any questions and provide outstanding customer support. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***10% Off everything in-store when you spend $60 or more.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Adult-Stuff-Warehouse-1.jpg "Adult Stuff Warehouse - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Adult Fun --- ### [Twinxie Girl](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/twinxie-girl/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Twinxie Girl is an Australian family business that makes safe, natural, organic, gluten-free, nut-free, and sensitive skin-friendly cosmetics for your tweens and teens. With a 100% satisfaction guarantee, Twinxie Girl supports young girls’ journey through body awareness stages by helping them understand safe ways to enhance their natural beauty. At Twinxie Girl, we believe in creating safe cosmetics that spark joy. We not only keep the bad stuff out of all our products, but we also add good for young skin ingredients that help protect your tween and teen from harsh chemicals and keep their skin healthy and beautiful. Our products are a fun way to let your little girl find her confidence and discover how beautiful she really is. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Twinxie-Girl.png "Twinxie Girl - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Girl Cosmetics, Beauty --- ### [PatPat](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/patpat/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** PatPat is a growing global brand of children’s clothing serving millions of mums and children in over 140 countries with cute, quality clothing and great prices for over 7 years. We have more than 30,000 products and daily new arrivals for you and your little one. Our promise at PatPat has always been to bring you unique, charming, and whimsical styles without compromising on quality or price. Whether it was a glittery party dress, cozy family pyjamas, or licensed characters’ outfits, we hope we made your memories a little brighter and accompany your children to explore the unknown world with courage. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/PatPat-Directory.jpg "PatPat Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Kids Clothing, Kid Stuff --- ### [Modibodi](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/modibodi/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Embodied: Postpartum Unfiltered Every woman needs to be seen. Every body deserves the right support. Swap uncomfortable, unreliable disposable breast pads and maternity pads for luxe comfort, less landfill and leak-proof protection. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *15% off all orders minimum spend $100 for new and returning customers.* *T&C: Not to be used in conjunction with any other offer, on sale, gift cards or bundle packs. Does not apply to Maxi-24 hr and Puma collaboration products. Limit of one use per customer.* *\*Puma product isn’t eligible for discounts excluding the 10% sign up discount on site.* ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Modibodi-Diretcory.png "Modibodi Diretcory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum Intimate Apparel --- ### [Sheet Society](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/sheet-society/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Sheet Society was dreamt up by Hayley and Andy Worley in 2017 after realising the bedding industry had hit snooze. Our bedding is available in both trend-driven and timeless colours, designs, and fabrics. We use only the best natural fabrics, like our signature long-staple Eden Cotton or our dreamy French Flax Eve Linen. And since we don’t believe in being forced to buy bedding in sets, we’ll always give you the freedom to choose for yourself. Our mission: Make the bed, better. Today, there are a million reasons why the world isn’t sleeping well at night – and we’re not just talking about bad sheets. We exist to help people get a better night’s sleep. Simple. First with sheets: we wanted to make the process less complicated, more relatable, and way more sustainable. Followed by connection: between our team and our customers, our manufacturers and our processes, our content, our collaborations, and our partnerships. It’s our dream come true. **CLICK [HERE](https://sheetsociety.com/en-au?irclickid=WwjRI5Sj2zzqRxs12aVa3R3vUkDWBFVuTVp92Y0&irgwc=1&utm_source=Online%20Tracking%20Link&utm_medium=affiliate) TO REDEEM THE CODE.** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***$25 Off your first orders over $150, and it could be applied on the sales items.*** **Directory categories:** Home, Homeware --- ### [Tracy Malone](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/tracy-malone/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** ### Helping solo mums going through separation or divorce Get full support to get through this difficult time with grace. I will support you to take out the fight and make clear and conscious decisions. You will know what you want and be able to communicate it clearly making the whole process easier and much less expensive. ***10% off for Beanstalk Mums with code BEANSTALK10.*** ### Money Mindset Membership for Single Mums This is a monthly program for Single Mums. Learn how to grow your money mindset with a 6 module course, weekly group coaching, a supportive community and the opportunity to make money while you learn through the affiliate program. ***$99 monthly membership. $30 off a month for Beanstalk Mums with code: BEANSTALK.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Tracy-Malone-Directory-1.jpg "Tracy Malone Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Useful Services --- ### [Petzyo](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/petzyo/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Dog food you can trust. It’s our mission. We are an 100 % Australian made & owned company that formulates ultra premium raw and dry dog food with only the highest-quality ingredients, delivered straight to your door. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/Petzyo.png "Petzyo - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Pets --- ### [High End Hammy Downs](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/high-end-hammy-downs/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** A matching kids fashion app. Get matched with liked minded parents based on your kids clothing criteria, think like Tinder, but for your kids outgrown clothes. **Directory categories:** Kids Clothing, Kid Stuff --- ### [Dear Little Panko](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/dear-little-panko/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Dear Little Panko sells curated women’s second-hand clothing, shoes and accessories. Find premium pre-loved Australian fashion brands such as Gorman, Obus, Karla Cola and Nancybird at fast fashion prices! We love colour and prints, so you can shop sustainably and have a little fun along the way. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") ***Get 20% off your first order – no minimum or maximum spend required.*** ***T&C: Not to be used in conjunction with any other offer. Limit of one use per customer.*** ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Dear-Little-Panko-Directory.jpg "Dear Little Panko Directory - Beanstalk Mums") **Directory categories:** Mum clothing --- ### [Fusspot Collagen Beauty Tea](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/fusspot-collagen-beauty-tea/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** This is no ordinary tea, it’s a tea with major benefits! Fusspot Collagen Beauty Tea are organic teas infused with hydrolyzed collagen peptides to support radiant, firmer skin, healthier hair and stronger nails as well as stronger joints and gut health from the inside. The range includes herbal, green tea and black tea in loose leaf, biodegradable teabags and powdered matcha and chai blends – all infused with collagen peptides – including a sleep tea, complexion-boosting teas, skin-saving teas, energy teas ( with natural caffeine), and even a pink tea! You’ll get your daily caffeine fix, antioxidant hit and collagen boost when you drink Fusspot Tea. So easy, simply scoop one teaspoon, pour hot water and sip away!! An easy, beneficial and healthy collagen drink option for your daily skincare and wellness routine! Drink the benefits, your skin will love you! Australian Made. ![](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/The-line-Shona.jpg "- Beanstalk Mums") *20% off ANY Fusspot Collagen Beauty Tea for all Beanstalk Mums!* *Use code **BEANSTALK** at checkout to get 20% off.* **Directory categories:** Beauty, Food --- ### [Active Truth](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/active-truth/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Active Truth is an inclusive activewear and lifestyle brand with extended sizes from 6 to 26 and niche product ranges, such as maternity, designed with a focus on fit to give more women confidence and support for exercise, and for life. We champion women’s inclusivity, diversity and positivity through realistic marketing and a commitment to never retouching our images. **Directory categories:** Mum clothing, Mum stuff --- ### [AID Resolutions](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/aid-resolutions/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love --- ### [Ellesse](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/ellesse/) **Published:** September 24, 2024 **Author:** Sally Love **Content:** Shop Ellesse Australia for sports clothes that’ll make your kids stand out from the crowd. Ellesse blends street style with sport for a look that’s bold and fun. Whether it’s for soccer, tennis, or just hanging out with friends, Ellesse’s got your kids covered. Born from a need for fashionable skiwear, this iconic brand has been loved by athletes and celebs alike. Now, it’s back in Australia with fresh, sporty styles for boys and girls. Check out their latest gear online and get ready for your kids to collect compliments! **Directory categories:** Kids Clothing, Kid Stuff --- ## Support Services ### [On Your Own Two Feet - Helen Baker Financial Adviser](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/helen-baker-financial-adviser/) **Published:** February 20, 2026 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Helen Baker is the founder of On Your Own Two Feet and an experienced Financial Adviser, Speaker and Author dedicated to helping single mums take control of their money with confidence. She understands the overwhelm that can come with managing finances alone and provides clear, practical guidance and a trusted team of professionals to help you build secure foundations and a stronger financial future. **Content:** ### **Enjoy 10% off your first consult, because every Beanstalk Mum deserves a little extra support.** **Why we trust Helen:** *When you are navigating separation or just trying to get on top of your finances as a single mum, the last thing you need is a corporate suit speaking in jargon. We love Helen because she gets it. Her focus is entirely on helping women build a safe, strong financial foundation, and she even writes specific survival guides for navigating divorce.* Helen Baker is a highly qualified and experienced Financial Adviser, author and speaker dedicated to empowering women to confidently take control of their financial future. As the founder of On Your Own Two Feet, Helen draws on more than 15 years of financial planning experience and a deep belief that every woman deserves a strong financial foundation. Helen’s own journey into financial planning was driven by her passion for helping others. With two master’s degrees—one in Financial Planning and another in Management (Innovation and Change)—and a Bachelor of Commerce (Accounting), she brings exceptional expertise and insight to every client relationship. Her work has been recognised with industry accolades, including Financial Adviser of the Year at the Godfrey Pembroke Group National Conference and multiple finalist nominations for national planning awards. A sought-after voice in media, Helen frequently shares practical financial guidance on TV, radio and in print, and has authored several books designed to demystify money matters for women at all life stages. These include **On Your Own Two Feet: Steady Steps to Women’s Financial Independence** and **Money for Life, how to build financial security from firm foundations, practical survival-and-thriving guides for women navigating separation and divorce.** At On Your Own Two Feet, Helen offers a range of personalised services tailored to meet you where you are, whether you’re single, divorced, widowed, newly partnered, or simply ready to get serious about your financial goals. Helen believes that understanding your money is the first step to independence, and her approachable, jargon-free style ensures every woman feels supported and empowered throughout her financial journey. ![Helen Baker — Financial Adviser, Speaker & Founder of On Your Own Two Feet](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Gk27lqvb-400x266.jpeg "Helen Baker — Financial Adviser, Speaker & Founder of On Your Own Two Feet Helen Baker is a highly qualified and experienced Financial Adviser, author and speaker dedicated to empowering women, to confidently take control of their financial future. As the founder of On Your Own Two Feet, Helen draws on more than 15 years of financial planning experience and a deep belief that every woman deserves a strong financial foundation. Helen’s own journey into financial planning was driven by her passion for helping others. With two master's degrees—one in Financial Planning and another in Management (Innovation and Change)—and a Bachelor of Commerce (Accounting), she brings exceptional expertise and insight to every client relationship. Her work has been recognised with industry accolades including Financial Adviser of the Year at the Godfrey Pembroke Group National Conference and multiple finalist nominations for national planning awards. A sought-after voice in media, Helen frequently shares practical financial guidance on TV, radio and in print, and has authored several books designed to demystify money matters for women at all life stages. These include On Your Own Two Feet: Steady Steps to Women’s Financial Independence and Money for Life how to build financial security from firm foundations , practical survival-and-thriving guides for women navigating separation and divorce. At On Your Own Two Feet, Helen offers a range of personalised services tailored to meet you where you are, whether you’re single, divorced, widowed, newly partnered, or simply ready to get serious about your financial goals. Helen believes that understanding your money is the first step to independence, and her approachable, jargon-free style ensures every woman feels supported and empowered throughout her financial journey. Contact & Socials: LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/helenbaker2 Facebook & Insta: @onyourowntwofeet TikTok: @onyourowntwofeet Website: www.onyourowntwofeet.com.au/contact Message to Mums: Enjoy 10% off your first consult, because every Beanstalk Mum deserves a little extra support. - Beanstalk Mums")Helen Baker — Financial Adviser, Speaker & Founder of On Your Own Two Feet **Contact & Socials:** LinkedIn: [www.linkedin.com/in/helenbaker2](https://www.linkedin.com/in/helenbaker2/) Facebook & Insta: @onyourowntwofeet TikTok: @onyourowntwofeet Website: [www.onyourowntwofeet.com.au/contact](https://onyourowntwofeet.com.au/contact/) Expwww.onyourowntwofeet.com.au/contactlore why we think Helen is a business we trust: \[link to upcoming article\] **Service categories:** Finances --- ### [NeuroFlexible Parent - Bec McKay Neurodivergent Parent Coach](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/neuroflexible-parent-neurodivergent-parent-coach/) **Published:** September 19, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Rebecca serves as a Strengths-Based Autism Support Teacher and NeuroFlexible Parent Coach, where she empowers parents with the understanding, knowledge, and strategies they need to support their children at and from home. She firmly believes that parents are their children’s greatest educators and therapists. **Content:** ### **Book a complimentary session with Bec today to find calm, connection, and strategies that actually work for your neurodivergent child.** **Why we trust Bec:** *Parenting is hard enough, but navigating neurodiversity, meltdowns, and sensory needs as a single mum can feel incredibly isolating. We love Bec because she doesn’t just have the clinical qualifications—she lives it. As a homeschooling mum to three neurodivergent children herself, she truly understands the reality of the daily juggle. Instead of just treating the child, she focuses on up-skilling YOU to reduce stress in the home. Plus, anyone who spends their summers raising orphaned native birds and animals for WIRES is an absolute angel in our books!* **About Bec McKay & NeuroFlexible:** With over 20 years of experience in the education and disability sectors, Rebecca (Bec) McKay is a Strengths-Based Autism Support Teacher and NeuroFlexible Parent Coach. She holds a Bachelor of Education (specialising in early childhood development) and has an extensive background in Early Childhood Early Intervention (ECEI) through the NDIS. At NeuroFlexible, Bec has shifted her focus from one-on-one therapy with children to empowering parents. She firmly believes that parents are their children’s greatest educators and therapists. Her goal is to help you understand the “why” behind challenging behaviours so you can build communication, navigate big emotions, and foster independence. **Services & Specialties:** - Managing tantrums, meltdowns, and big emotions - Sensory regulation and building communication skills - Strengths-based parenting strategies for Autism and neurodivergence **Contact & Links:** - **Book a Complimentary Session:** [Link to booking calendar](https://bit.ly/44NEbsn) - **Facebook:** [www.facebook.com/Bec.NeuroFlexible](https://www.facebook.com/Bec.NeuroFlexible) - **Email:** proactivesouth@gmail.com - **Phone:** 0400 049 771 Listen to Bec’s interview on Beanstalk Mums “Real Talk Podcast” **Empowering Neurodivergent Children with Bec McKay** ![Empowering Neurodivergent Children: Insights and Support for Mums with Beck McKay](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Beanstalk-Single-Mum-Blog-Features-60-400x210.jpg "Beanstalk Single Mum Podcast - Beanstalk Mums") **Service categories:** Parenting --- ### [Liberty Loans - Sarah Mclaughlin Lending Expert](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/sarah-mclaughlin-lending-expert/) **Published:** September 19, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Sarah is a dedicated local lending expert based in the Hunter region, but she supports women across the country. With over 6 years in the mortgage industry, she is well-equipped to guide you smoothly through what can often be a stressful lending journey. **Content:** ### **Book a complimentary, no-obligation clarity call with Sarah today to explore your lending options.** **Why we trust Sarah:** *When you’re navigating life as a single mum, the “D” words—debt and deposits—can feel completely overwhelming. We love Sarah because she isn’t just a mortgage broker; she’s a “free-thinking” problem solver. Whether you need to consolidate post-separation debt or figure out how to finally buy a home on a single income, she is dedicated to finding solutions that actually work for your reality. Plus, as dog lovers ourselves, anyone who spends their weekends wrangling a Labrador is good people in our books!* **About Sarah McLaughlin:** Sarah is a dedicated local lending expert based in the Hunter region, but she supports women across the country. With over 6 years in the mortgage industry, she is well-equipped to guide you smoothly through what can often be a stressful lending journey. Holding a Certificate IV and a Diploma in Finance and Mortgage Broking, Sarah stays up to date with the latest industry trends to provide highly informed, practical advice. She draws on her extensive knowledge to support clients seeking out-of-the-box solutions to purchase their dream home, refinance, or consolidate debt. When she isn’t crunching numbers for her clients, Sarah stays active playing netball and loves spending time with her friends and her Labrador, Baxter. **Services & Specialties:** - Home Loans & Purchasing - Refinancing & Debt Consolidation - Out-of-the-box Lending Solutions **Contact & Links:** - **Book a Complimentary Call:** [Here](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin) - **Website / Full Profile:** [www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin](https://www.liberty.com.au/mortgage-broker/sarah-mclaughlin) - **Email:** sarah.mclaughlin@libertynetwork.com.au - **Phone:** 0422 109 389 ![Sarah Liberty Loans - lending expert](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/filters_formatwebp-1-400x95.webp "Sarah Liberty Loans - Beanstalk Mums") **Sarah’s Articles on Beanstalk:** 1. [Family home guarantee scheme for first home buyer single mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/the-home-guarantee-scheme/) 2. [Expert Guide To New Homeownership Opportunities For Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/expert-guide-to-new-homeownership-opportunities-for-single-mums/) 3. [How can a single parent buy a home?](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/property/single-parent-buy-a-home/) **Service categories:** Finances --- ### [Single Mama Way - Elle Sitek Counselling for Single Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-services/counselling-for-single-mums/) **Published:** September 17, 2024 **Author:** Elle Sitek **Excerpt:** Elle is a self-sufficiency catalyst—helping single mums transform challenge into confidence. She brings deep compassion, practical support, and real-world grit to everything she builds. **Content:** ### **Ready to rebuild your confidence? Book a Nurturing Empowerment Call with Elle at a special Beanstalk Mums rate.** **Why we love Single Mama Way:** *It’s no secret that Elle is the driving force behind Beanstalk Mums, but her passion goes so much deeper than just running this platform. With 27 years of experience as a nurse, her background in counselling, and her own lived experience raising her 11-year-old daughter solo, she created Single Mama Way to be the exact lifeline she knew women needed. She’s not just a counsellor; she’s a quiet powerhouse who truly walks the walk. Whether you need help navigating a toxic ex or just want to rebuild your self-worth, Elle is exactly who you want in your corner.* **About Elle Sitek & Single Mama Way:** Elle is a self-sufficiency catalyst—helping single mums transform challenge into confidence. She brings deep compassion, practical support, and real-world grit to everything she builds. Through Single Mama Way, Elle offers more than just advice; she provides meaningful community and an unwavering belief in every mum’s ability to thrive. From running dedicated healing programs to creating bite-sized education courses (like the “10-Minute Reclaim”), she meets women exactly where they are—and walks beside them, every step of the way. She is known for her warmth, her honesty, and her fierce commitment to making space for single mums to not just survive, but to rise, steady, and strong. **Services & Specialties:** - Nurturing Empowerment Calls & 1-on-1 Counselling - Rebuilding self-worth, confidence, and financial independence - Navigating co-parenting with a toxic ex - Bite-sized education and healing programs **Elle’s Top Articles on Beanstalk:** - [Unusual Self-Care Ideas For A Killer Mind & Mental Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/unusual-self-care-ideas-for-a-killer-mind-mental-health/) - [Alone on Christmas Day: Tips to make it memorable](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/seasonal/christmas/alone-christmas-day/) - [How to boost a child’s health through gratitude journaling](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/parenting/children/gratitude-journaling-boost-childs-health/) - [How to survive a breakup with a narcissist](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/separation/splitting-up/survive-a-breakup-with-a-narcissist/) **Contact & Links:** - 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[Food](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/food-discounts/) **Description:** Food --- ### [Kid Stuff](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/) **Description:** Kids stuff --- ### [Mum stuff](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/) **Description:** Mum stuff --- ### [Useful Services](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/useful-services/) **Description:** Useful Services --- ### [Work For Mums](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/work-for-mums/) **Description:** Work for mums --- ### [Gifts](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/gifts/) **Description:** Gifts --- ### [Kids Clothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/kids-clothing/) --- ### [Mum clothing](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/mum-clothing/) --- ### [Pets](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/pets/) **Description:** Browse pet-related services and products in our directory, helping mums find trusted vets, groomers, trainers and essentials to keep furry family members happy. --- ### [Home Decor](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/home-decor/) --- ### [Mum Intimate Apparel](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/mum-intimate-apparel/) --- ### [Girl Cosmetics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/beauty-discount-coupons/girl-cosmetics/) --- ### [Body Care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/beauty-discount-coupons/body-care/) --- ### [Toys](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/toys/) --- ### [Mum cosmetics](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/beauty-discount-coupons/mum-cosmetics/) --- ### [Skin Care](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/beauty-discount-coupons/skin-care/) --- ### [Household essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/household-essentials/) --- ### [Home](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/) **Description:** Find home services and products for mums, including cleaning, décor, repairs & organisation solutions that make managing your household easier and stress-free. --- ### [Mum Footwear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/mum-footwear/) --- ### [Maternity](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/maternity/) **Description:** Explore maternity services and resources for mums, covering pregnancy support, essentials, expert care and trusted guidance for every step of your motherhood. --- ### [Maternity Activewear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/maternity/maternity-activewear/) --- ### [Accessories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/accessories/) --- ### [Mum Activewear](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/mum-clothing/mum-activewear/) --- ### [Meals](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/food-discounts/meals/) --- ### [Furniture](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/furniture/) --- ### [Alcoholic Beverages](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/food-discounts/alcoholic-beverages/) --- ### [Learning Materials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/learning-materials/) --- ### [Reading Materials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/reading-materials/) --- ### [Essential Oils](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/health/essential-oils/) --- ### [Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/health/) **Description:** Discover health services and products for mums, from wellness support to expert care options designed to help you stay healthy, informed and supported. --- ### [Homeware](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/homeware/) --- ### [Kids' Snacks](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/food-discounts/kids-snacks/) --- ### [Entertainment](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/entertainment/) **Description:** Explore entertainment options for mums and families, with fun activities, experiences, services and ideas to help you enjoy quality time and memorable moments. --- ### [Supplements](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/health/supplements/) --- ### [Outdoor essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/home/outdoor-essentials/) --- ### [Pregnancy Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/maternity/pregnancy-essentials/) --- ### [Kids' Accessories](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/kids-accessories/) --- ### [Hobbies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/hobbies/) --- ### [Baby Essentials](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/baby-essentials/) --- ### [Intimates](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/mum-stuff/intimates/) --- ### [Hobbies](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/hobbies-kid-stuff-discounts/) --- ### [Online Learning](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/kid-stuff-discounts/online-learning/) --- ### [Education](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/education/) **Description:** Browse education services and resources for mums and kids, offering learning support, tutoring, tools and programs to help families grow, learn and thrive. --- ### [Business/Career](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory-categories/business-career/) **Description:** Find business and career services for mums, including coaching, training and professional resources to support your work goals and create new opportunities. --- ## Service categories ### [Mental Health](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-service-categories/mental-health/) **Description:** Explore mental health support for mums, including counselling, wellbeing tools & helpful services designed to guide you through stress and emotional challenges. --- ### [Parenting](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-service-categories/parenting/) **Description:** Access parenting support services for mums, offering expert guidance, practical help & trusted resources to navigate challenges and build confidence every day. --- ### [Finances](https://beanstalkmums.com.au/support-service-categories/finances/) **Description:** Get financial help and guidance for mums, from budgeting tools to support services that assist with managing money, overcoming challenges and planning ahead. ---