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  • in reply to: Child Using Phone #56516
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
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    Losing battle …

    in reply to: Moving my kids to a new house with partner-should I #56503
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Moving in together is a huge step in your relationship and is like to put pressure on it, at least in the short term. You need to be able to discuss your families needs with your partner openly whilst listening to what he needs also. If you are unable to do this, moving into together at this stage is very possibly not right for you .

    in reply to: Narc ex refused to return teenage kids #56479
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    You kids are old enough to decide who they want to live with so court won’t do anything to help you hun.

    in reply to: Narc ex refused to return teenage kids #56475
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Get a recovery order.

    in reply to: Mediation Tips #56473
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    Keymaster

    A really good idea is to email your ex a list of what you’d like to cover so he is thinking along the same lines when he goes in. It could save time in the long run.

    in reply to: Narc ex refused to return teenage kids #56472
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Are you worried for the kids? Could you call the police?

    in reply to: Narc ex refused to return teenage kids #56471
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Sorry, I wrote last message and was going to say, only do this is you feel safe. Please don’t put yourself or your kids in possible danger.

    in reply to: Narc ex refused to return teenage kids #56470
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Do you know where he is? I would go over there and confront him and the kids.

    in reply to: Mediation Tips #56469
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    Keymaster

    Following last message, if you tap “parenting plan” into Google you’ll find lots of examples and areas to cover.

    in reply to: Mediation Tips #56468
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    Keymaster

    Make list of what YOU want to cover in the session. Mediation is usually about custody arrangements as opposed to organising finances. Ideally you want to create a parenting plan so you both know where you stand and what the plans are .. this is also really helpful for the kids so they get into a routine.

    in reply to: Child Using Phone #56424
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    I had this issue with my ex getting both our sons phones at a time I felt was too early. We managed to reach a type of middle ground where we put a few rules around the phones that applied to both homes although in reality I don’t think he kept to them and now they are older and I just work within the rules I make for my home when they are with me. Phones really do make life difficult when they are young. Hope you manage to find a peaceful way forwards.

    in reply to: Moving my kids to a new house with partner-should I #56423
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Straight answer after reading your question and message is: NO.

    in reply to: Moving my kids to a new house with partner-should I #56377
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Sounds like he doesn’t get it because he doesn’t have kids which is gonna be problem moving forward with a life together.

    in reply to: Evalution Fees #56374
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    Keymaster

    House evaluation should be split from joint money.

    in reply to: Moving my kids to a new house with partner-should I #56355
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Honestly, I can see a million red flags with this situation most significant is that you have broken up in the past and are unable to talk honestly to him about something that matters so much.

    in reply to: Moving my kids to a new house with partner-should I #56346
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    If its not right for you and your kids you have to voice this to him even if it causes an argument. If you can’t get past this as a couple maybe it’s not the right move for you.

    in reply to: Evalution Fees #56332
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    I think most people on this forum are in Oz hun so better to check this with a lawyer over in the US or even Google it? Sorry I can’t help.

    in reply to: Ex reducing time with kids! How to cope with that? #56331
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    I appreciate that it can seem very overwhelming when your kids are young and you’re struggling to spin all the plates.

    Mine are teenagers now and the time went so quickly. Now I have trouble spending any time with them as they are always out with their friends, at school or working.

    I look back on when they were young and am really grateful that I had them 100% of their care, however hard that was. I was lucky.

    Try not to wish it away. Dating etc and a more involved social life can come later. I wish someone how told me this when I was still in your situation.

    in reply to: Struggling with patience #56300
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
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    It is desperatly hard to handle this when you’re bringing up kids on your own. Just repeat the answer over and over again in a calm monotone voice so he seeing he’s not getting a reaction from you.

    in reply to: Child Using Phone #56287
    Lucy GoodLucy Good
    Keymaster

    Take it off her when she comes to yours and don’t let her have it back!!! She is waaaaaay to young for a phone.

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