My partner and I have been together years. We have a 5 year old, 3 dogs, 4 cats & a mortgage. Everything we have is joint. Our relationship has never been what I would call amazing. We got pregnant by accident and I guess it kept us together. I was at my witts end around 2 years ago and left for 10 months. Our son and myself made ourselves a home and I loved it. But I felt guilty and things seemed better so I went back. He’s not a bad guy. He loves me. We just have no connection. I feel like I live with a house mate who’s never present. We’ve done counselling, I have voiced what I need SO many times. He says I’m impossible to please. I feel we are just so different. I am beginning to feel nothing will ever change and we just don’t belong together. If we didn’t have our son I’d leave. I feel like I owe it to him to stay. As my relationship isn’t abusive etc. It’s simply we are 2 people who seem to want different things from life. Any advice on what I should do?
If you are not happy anymore then it is better to leave we only have one life and it is not right to spend it with someone you are not happy with anymore. Just explain it to your son and for sure he will understand.
I have friends who were in the same boat and stayed together until the kids were in high school. If you are not 100% sure about leaving maybe try going to another marriage counselor and see if that makes a difference. Best of luck.
I could have written this. We had 3 kids together but were basically flatmates raising kids. It’s soul destroying. In the end I ended it. He agreed. We ended up buying the house next door and he moved in there. Now kids see mum and dad as much as they want and we are 100 times happier. Even in friendly splits tho there’s still heartache and guilt ( so much guilt). But he’s now got a new partner and I’m dating and we are like brother and sister. If you feel in your heart it’s over I would leave. Fighting for something that will never happen will drive you crazy.