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      AvatarHayley
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      My partner and I have been together years. We have a 5 year old, 3 dogs, 4 cats & a mortgage. Everything we have is joint.
      Our relationship has never been what I would call amazing. We got pregnant by accident and I guess it kept us together. I was at my witts end around 2 years ago and left for 10 months. Our son and myself made ourselves a home and I loved it. But I felt guilty and things seemed better so I went back.
      He’s not a bad guy. He loves me. We just have no connection. I feel like I live with a house mate who’s never present.
      We’ve done counselling, I have voiced what I need SO many times. He says I’m impossible to please. I feel we are just so different. I am beginning to feel nothing will ever change and we just don’t belong together.
      If we didn’t have our son I’d leave. I feel like I owe it to him to stay. As my relationship isn’t abusive etc. It’s simply we are 2 people who seem to want different things from life.
      Any advice on what I should do?

    • #21357 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      Move on hun, you only get one go at it. It’s not working. You all need to be happy and your son needs to learn what a proper functioning relationship is like.

    • #21390 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      If you are not happy anymore then it is better to leave we only have one life and it is not right to spend it with someone you are not happy with anymore. Just explain it to your son and for sure he will understand.

    • #21412 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Now! You’ve tried it all and it aint working .. you all deserve better.

    • #21542 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      I have friends who were in the same boat and stayed together until the kids were in high school. If you are not 100% sure about leaving maybe try going to another marriage counselor and see if that makes a difference. Best of luck.

    • #24808 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      I could have written this. We had 3 kids together but were basically flatmates raising kids. It’s soul destroying. In the end I ended it. He agreed. We ended up buying the house next door and he moved in there. Now kids see mum and dad as much as they want and we are 100 times happier. Even in friendly splits tho there’s still heartache and guilt ( so much guilt). But he’s now got a new partner and I’m
      dating and we are like brother and sister. If you feel in your heart it’s over I would leave. Fighting for something that will never happen will drive you crazy.

    • #24827 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      This is what we were like and we wanted more from life. You only get one go at it hun. He will thank you for it later.

    • #24830 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      When you no longer love or trust no respect I guess

    • #24897 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      If you are not happy or living life to the full, you need to move on.

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