YES, I felt like this for a number of years and learn lots of ways to make things easier. Things like asking for support, learning what didn’t matter, streamlining stuff and saving time in heaps of ways. It really is about learning. Mine are now teens and general ‘amount’ of stuff I have to do is a lot less, is its just a phase you have to get through.
The coparent stage is usually the most difficult at the beginning as you are both finding your way. For me it got easier as we needed to communicate less and both started moving on to our own new lives. You also find that as your kids get older coparenting is easier as the kids are less needy too. It is hard though, stay strong, sending strength your way.
This single parenting gig is hard. I can handle the parenting side of things. I just never knew how much emotional support for your child was involved! I guess in our situation the emotional needs are greater because of the split across two households.
My ex has no comprehension of the time and effort that goes into emotional support and preparation for visits.
My little one has separation anxiety. I get the blame for that and for her saying that she needs mum and wants to come home.
I really try my best to be positive and encourage her about her time with dad. I feel like I’m doing all the heavy lifting and getting bullied in return.
Yes, me too. I do all the packing their bags, toys and dropping them off and picking them up, deal with their tiredness and tears and fighting because they can’t be bothered going. They are just so tired at the moment. Yet, same as you, I get criticism and no child support either. Oh, and the kids also tell me that Grandma says I don’t love them and I’m a naughty Mum. My blood boils when I hear this. You probably find no matter what you do it will never be good enough. I was told I was too nice to the kids when they were babies so that’s why they latch onto me sometimes. Wtf!! Hope the bullying stops for you soon.
My friend recommended this book (Parenting Toddlers: How You Can Use Positive Discipline to Raise Kids Who Will Have High Self-Esteem, Including Tips for Sleep Training, Handing Tantrums and a Guide to Potty Training) and it’s honestly been a huge game changer for me, it’s been so helpful in so many different aspects of parenting! Here’s the link if you want a free copy: https://amzn.to/2LsVSum
If you want to cancel during the free trial you can, you still get the book, that’s what I did haha 😆
I just don’t understand the mentality behind it. What can a person get out of being constantly critical and nasty? It’s takes so much more energy. I’m not asking to be best buddies, just some empathy and thanks. Ahh breathe. Rant over!! 🙂