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  • #20683 Reply
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    Im needing some advice on a very sensitive topic. My toddler 2 1/2 has been coming home from her last two visits with dad hysterical and once getting home to take her nappy off she is saying “sore” and “daddy naughty” repeatedly while pointing to her downstairs area. It has been red inside and out but that can happen with nappy rash too. Then during the week she said i dont want to see daddy randomly and i said you wont be until the weekend and she said “nappy” pointed to her downstairs and said “open” then said again i dont want to see daddy. We are going through family court and so far even though i have had proof on other things regarding her safety they have not listened and judge even said we dont need a family report. What can i do? Do i need more evidence? I recorded the second time but she was extremely upset and its not that clear and even though she said it can it be taken as just a random thing toddlers can say? Should i take her somewhere to be checked? I have had completely different advice from my friends and the helpline i contacted and i just need some good advice, my heart is broken for her 💔💔💔 i have hardly slept all week and am stressed to the max. I cant trust my legal aid lawyer and just dont know where to turn 😢

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    Straight to the hospital. They can assess her internally for trauma.
    Love to you.

  • #20692 Reply
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    Oh my god you poor things. Agree with other poster. Go straight to the hospital and they will assess her for internal and external trauma. Hope the legal system protects your daughter and makes sure she never sees him alone again. Thinking of you and your daughter.

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    Please please take her straight to hospital for checking and never let her be alone with him again. Even if it’s nothing, you’ve got to listen to her as she doesn’t want to be with her dad! Praying for you. Xx

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    Thank you all so much. I have taken her to her gp, hospital and contacted facs. For now she has to continue going there as there is no major physical trauma and she cannot directly say whats happening in detail and we are already in the family courts system. My heart is broken for her, she is changing and scared to sleep, not eating and suddenly hitting and kicking herself and others alot. Shes not herself at all and no one is really helping because she still has to go there 😭

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    Can you ask you GP for a referral to a children’s psychologist? They should be able to assess what the matter is and given she’s positively told you she doesn’t want to go to Daddy’s house, an assessment by the psychologist might be enough to pause her unsupervised visits to dad? I’m no expert but this just sounds wrong. The law is an ass.

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    Thank you, definitely a psycologyst is my next stop. She said more today, “daddy sleeping i wake up daddy make sore i cry daddy say shhh” this is while i was trying to take a urine sample for the hospital, she wouldnt let me near her. Also her toilet training has stopped, she refuses to use the toilet or take off her nappy. I am devastated to send her back 😭 why cant they see there is definitely something wrong here, they say they can only investigate serious physical harm sexual abuse or a full statement from her but she cant make that at 2 years old. It sounds crazy to me 😢

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    Go to the hospital asap and have a medico legal report from the pedia. This things shouldn’t be ignored this is clearly an abuse from the father. Fight for your daughters rights the court will only listen if you show them legal documents/proof of abuse.

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    I’m not sure if this would help but could you try a qualified play therapist – sometimes this is better for young children and they can unravel things through purposeful play that kids wont or cant put onto words. Sending hugs. Stay strong for your daughter x

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    I’m not sure if this would help but could you try a qualified play therapist – sometimes this is better for young children and they can unravel things through purposeful play that kids wont or cant put onto words. Sending hugs. Stay strong for your daughter x

  • #20827 Reply
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    Thank you both 🤗
    We have now been to the hospital and done all tests, we are waiting for results. We have also been to her gp, police and Facs and reported with child services. They all say its very hard to stop court ordered time until there is actual visable physical harm, she is extremely irrtated inside and out but its not enough ☹ thats so sad, shes only 2 and i dont want to wait for her to be harmed again. I will try the play therapist and anything else i can because finding a qualified sexual abuse child psycologist for her age is proving impossible 😓 none if them want to take on a case so complicated. If anyone has any other advice it is very welcome!

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