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  • #23625 Reply
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    Anonymous

    I just don’t know what to do. For the past 3 years I have been on/off with my little boys dad. I genuinely think I’m in love with him but he is so distant with me it’s unreal. Doesn’t show me any affection whatsoever I find myself pining for his attention that he doesn’t give me. Comes over twice a week spends most of the time ignoring me, says he sees me as his gf but I want so much more. I’ve tried calling it off altogether but I can’t cope with the crippling loneliness of being on my own. Someone help me I need advice

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    Anonymous

    hey, sorry to hear about this. Work on self love and building a life for yourself and the boys.
    You will gain strength and will be able to make a decision that supports the life you want and need

  • #23633 Reply
    Lucy Good
    Lucy Good
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    Read this book: He’s Just Not That Into You.

    It will give the sense of value and self worth that you need to move on.

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    Anonymous

    Agree with the posters above you gotta learn to love yourself and build a life with your boys and don’t expect anything from him so you don’t get hurt.

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    Anonymous

    Could I suggest building your social network so that you are not dependent on romantic love for social stimulation? Dance/Yoga classes, meeting other mums with similar aged kids, reaching out to old friends for a chat on the phone to catch up… some ideas for you.

  • #23877 Reply
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    Anonymous

    If he’s your child’s father and “visits” you he’s def not committed to you in any way only wanting Mayb conveniences of sex occasionally and seeing his child. You cannot be in love with someone who’s clearly not in love with you. You need to end this set up and allow him see his child as a single father alone and set some higher standards for yourself your child father is using you as a non committed booty call

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    Anonymous

    Find someone else

  • #23894 Reply
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    Gretel Digo
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    Sorry you feel this way mum, but it will get easier with time. I recommend building a support group of friends or family so you feel less alone. A counselor might also help. All the best.

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    Gretel Digo
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    Sorry you feel this way mum, but it will get easier with time. I recommend building a support group of friends or family so you feel less alone. A counselor might also help. All the best.

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