- January 15, 2020 at 7:52 pm #23367
After my ex left me and our two children, he refused to pay for our Car or rent, bills and childcare or anything. No money what so ever and I was a stay at home mum. When he left He said he will pay child support and I will need to get a job or Centrelink to support myself. He also within a week pressured me into signing over rights to our investment property, which is interstate. I refused for 2 months but I desperately needed money to survive. I also could not afford a lawyer and he had been planning to leave me with his lawyer for a long time. I have been left with a cash payout of only $42,300 and a 2009 xtrail, while he gets our house and stocks and stuff he obviously has hidden.
How is this fair? I wasn’t eligible for legal aid because I had a property but I was living with my friends for 2 months because I couldn’t afford rent.
Has anyone else had an unfair settlement? Like I was so obviously desperate and i had no choice but to give him the house. I am so angry and resentful towards him and I don’t know how to move forward. He made his children live in poverty! Can you appeal this somehow as an unfair trial?
- January 15, 2020 at 10:12 pm #23374
Have you had your financial settlements finalised yet? You need to fight for what is rightfully yours.
- January 15, 2020 at 10:31 pm #23380
My question is the same .. if you have already had the settlement drawn up there is nothing you can do, but if not, then you need to get a lawyer because part of what he has taken sounds as if it’s yours.
- January 16, 2020 at 9:09 am #23391
It sounds like your settlement is not complete as you would have needed a lawyer. You still have time to change this.
- January 16, 2020 at 9:55 am #23392
If you’ve already agreed to this settlement legally it’s done
- January 16, 2020 at 10:05 am #23393
Why would you ever sign a tbing in agreement without advice of a lawyer or mediator or arbitration?
- January 16, 2020 at 7:56 pm #23405
I was about to come and ask the same thing, though I financially stayed afloat I was mentally drowning! We have just been through mediation and now 3-4 weeks on he’s told me how he had managed to hide all the assets; I’ve not yet signed anything so am considering my options. If your settlement is finalised and he hid assets in fairly certain from my googling there is things you can do. If he’s not declaring everything that’s illegal and the court can do something about it – though I have yet to run this by my lawyer and I’m just tired of fighting. Can you have a consultation with a firm? They may be able to point you in the right direction… best of luck!
- January 17, 2020 at 1:11 pm #23448
Could hire a forensic accountant im sure be extremely expensive. U can subpoena two years banking to see what he’s done but again a very expensive court process
- January 17, 2020 at 4:21 pm #23453
As many people have already said, if there is nothing signed you need to fight for yourself and your kids. If there is any wiggle room, take it! As per other comment, organise an introductory meeting with a couple of law firms, on the basis of seeing whether you feel they can help you, what they see your prospects as being. You don’t have to hire any of them, though a lawyer is going to be important in this one it seems. By talking to a few you will get a sense of what is possible and what is not. I feel for you, it is so easy to be bullied and then to regret. No matter what happens take care of yourself.
- January 17, 2020 at 11:23 pm #23464
I’m sure you are disappointed to get so much less than you expected and feel you deserve. Especially about the house. Definitely ask some questions.
That said, the things you have walked away with… well to be honest, it would be like winning Lotto for me That’s more money than I used to earn in a year, AND you have a vehicle.
After settlement the best I can hope for is to be free of a mortgage and rates, which is a blessing, but still no car, no assets, and no money. All I want is $500-$2000 to buy a bike and a new computer. I’ve given up on a car and I’m not holding my breath about getting a cent.
I am very sorry for making my comment about me, but please realise you have been fortunate, even if it’s a considerably different lifestyle for you.
I really hope you get everything sorted out.
- January 18, 2020 at 1:23 pm #23486
How much is the investment property worth? I’m confused how you came to this agreement with no lawyers? Did a mediator let you agree to such a low settlement or how did it happen?
- January 18, 2020 at 2:49 pm #23488
You need to take this matter in hand with lawyers in order to get the right split. You will spend the rest of your life resenting it if you don’t.