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  • #23743 Reply
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    I have court in the federal circuit court next month with my ex in regards to parenting matters, I have 3 teenagers and a 4 yr old. Two of my teenagers have refused contact with my ex for a year now, the only contact they have is text messages and that’s very sporadic. They are 15 almost 16.
    My ex was verbally and emotionally abusive with them and since that time they refuse and have refused. His saying that the children have to ask my permission which is far from it.
    My older boy had a lot to do with him and seemed to like his time there and he was staying with him for months at a time.
    He recently came back home as he couldn’t handle his father’s temper.
    And has been back since October.
    Our 4 yr old hasn’t he any sleep overs as yet. And he is pushing straight away for every 2nd weekend with her.
    This frightens me I am sure he will probably get it straight away.
    I can’t get into a legal aid lawyer for another week.
    Im struggling and I’m concerned about our children

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    Lucy Good
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    Yeah look I wish I had something more hopeful to say, but if he’s a reasonable father and there is no real proof of abuse, it is likely he will get it. If you can get proof, it is a different matter entirely. Sincerely hope you get the outcome you wish for though.

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    Lucy Good
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    My recommendation is to just be there to support your kids and to look after yourself (so you can look after them in return). Like last poster said, he you have proof of abuse for the court he won’t allowed your 4yr old, if you don’t have that he may get her. You need to allow that to happen and support her through it.

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    Lucy Good
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    If he has been abusive as you say there is no way the courts will allow an overnight. You have evidence of this right?

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    When I was taking her for visits he was abusive in front of her to me, his also denied her at times, I know he doesn’t really think she is not, he just likes to say it because he thinks it’s upset.
    I asked for a 3rd party to drop off and pick up when he was seeing her and he said no.
    I then moved handovers to a petrol station, he then would run his hand up my leg or back and when I asked him to stop he thought it was a joke and then would say, I’m going to get our daughter 50/50 I never reported it to the police and reasons why is my ex very manipulative and his a tit for tat person.
    He has told me many times his one step ahead of me and no one will believe me

  • #23782 Reply
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    Anonymous

    Parental alienation is not the way to go and causes life long psychological issues with kids. Even if you are a naive alienator.

    Courts allow access even if a parent has given a death threat my friend went through this.

    She stated court is a very dangerous place where who has most money wins regardless

  • #23783 Reply
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    Anonymous

    Why hasn’t 4 year s had any sleepovers? Are u preventing a relationship?

  • #23784 Reply
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    Anonymous

    I disagree my friend child was given access from a young age despite proven DV against mother.

  • #23787 Reply
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    Anonymous

    Just because a 4 year old hasnt had sleep overs does not mean she us preventing a relationship. Children can still spend quality, safe time with a parent during the day that is just as meaningful (or more so ) as overnight.

  • #23789 Reply
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    You should be scared court is an abusers playground it’s much better to mediate your children visitation fairly

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