I’m feeling very restless. My soon to be ex husband is telling me he’s been advised by his lawyer to not have a formalised parenting agreement. I’ve consulted with my lawyer and she says while our son is this young (only 2) if my ex insists he doesn’t want to agree and sign a formalised parenting plan we just maintain the current status quo until things need to change when our son is older. Your thoughts?
What we currently have in place for our son is working for him, he’s happy and settled. I just feel a bit uneasy not having something signed. Am I overthinking/stressing too much?
We don’t have one and our girls were young when we separated. It turned out best this way as we’ve had to make quite a few changes as jobs/work hours etc change, as well as our daughters needs – having a parenting plan to update each time would have made it hard.
It depends how well you get on and parent together. It can be done without a plan but also it’s good to have a plan on place incase your relationship hits the rocks and your verbal plans no longer work
It really is down to you and your ex but make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Here is some information about parenting plans and the kind of things they include. It might help you decide whether you need on or not. All the best.
Part of your parenting plan can include reviewing the parenting plan every 12 months until say school age. A lot will change in that time. The need for a parenting plan (or parenting orders) depends on how amicable your relationship with your ex is. If it’s not so amicable, a parenting plan is essential- it puts boundaries in place and the kids have a stable routine. It’s actually not legally enforceable but an existing plan would hold some weight if your matter went to Court. If you’re paying for lawyers, parenting orders (made by consent) might be a good way forward. Don’t spend too much time and money letting the lawyers negotiate because it’ll cost you a fortune and you’ll just be lining their pockets. Get into mediation if you haven’t already and if you really can’t agree on things, the long and costly route to Court might await you- it really is a last resort though.