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- November 29, 2019 at 10:25 pm #21306
Wonder if this is an okay to ask for advice for my brother.
His now ex wife already had a child when they started dating. He has raised him as his own for the past 6 years from 3-9. They have an 18month old together also. He is struggling with the fact that the child’s mother won’t let him see his step son anymore. She will bring over the youngest and the take the older child home. It’s killing him and the child also. Has anyone been in this situation and what was the outcome?
Is this something that can be brought up I. Mediation/family court?
- December 1, 2019 at 2:54 pm #21335
Thanks for posting on the Forum. We have had some technical issues and ladies have been able to post but not respond .. it is all fixed now, so you can look forward to getting some support.
- December 1, 2019 at 6:59 pm #21351
Unfortunately because if he didn’t adopt this little boy there is little he can do. It’s very sad.
- December 1, 2019 at 7:47 pm #21354
Was there anything formal put in place?
- December 2, 2019 at 10:41 am #21392
Has your brother adopted the child when they are still together? If not then I’m afraid there’s nothing that he can do about it.
- December 2, 2019 at 11:09 pm #21430
I’m sorry to hear. I had a 1 year old when I entered a relationship with my ex husband, she’s now about to turn 8 so the time frames are similar. He can actually request custody via mediation or the courts, but needs to be aware that the childs biological father still has rights to him too. My ex husband takes both his step daughter and our 5 year old 50/50.. he loves her as his own and has raised her! She’s the only Dad she’s known for so long – bio dad IS in the picture but in a limited capacity as he has another two daughters with his new partner and has been flippant over the years with visitation. If he can show that he has taken care of his step sons welfare, and was treated as a child of the relationship he can try to obtain visitation. My solicitors advice was that it‘s the best interest of the CHILD/REN, not us, and courts are hesitant to split children.. he needs legal advice pronto, and from someone who specialises in step parent rights – it will be tough but he does have rights. Start with him enquiring with his ex about his step child, show he is still interested etc.
- December 4, 2019 at 1:26 am #21479
It must be so difficult for your brother but you’re amazing for being there for him. Unfortunately I can’t actually help, but it sounds like you’re on the right track with mediation or asking for legal advice. There’s a page here with useful services just in case: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/directory/?fwp_category=useful-services
- December 4, 2019 at 8:58 am #21485
He didn’t adopt the child as his bio dad is still briefly in the picture. But he cares for this child like it was his own for all do their relationship. He didn’t see his bio dad for a few years and he has only recently come back into the picture in a flippant way.
It’s killing him and the boy and it’s sonsad to see. Thank you for all the responses. I will pass on to him any advice that comes our way. He isn’t able to seek any legal help st the moment due to being very limited financially, but this is in the cards for the new year.
- December 5, 2019 at 10:03 am #21522
Since he didn’t adopt the child legally there’s not much he can do and now that the biological father is in the picture again it might be more difficult for him to see the kid. Really sorry for you brother I can see how much he cares for the kid.