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      AvatarAnonymous
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      I currently have a 6 year old soon to be 7, early next year, I have full custody of my child with no visitation from her dad.
      My partner has a just turned 5 year old who he has every second weekend.
      For the past year I have desperately wanted one more baby, in the perfect world I’d have had siblings 2-3 years apart. Having since discussed my desire I’ve been abruptly been told no, that I can wait until he wants one. Which he thinks is around 2-5 years away.
      I want to start trying from December of this year, which he has came back to tell me no, at the end of next year we will “discuss” a plan.
      I’m literally considering calling the entire relationship quits and just falling pregnant through a AI donor and having a baby myself.
      Am I over reacting? I feel he is being very selfish and all about his wants and nothing about mine.

    • #54166 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      I guess his needs and wants are just as important as yours … pushing someone to do something so big before they are ready could have bad consequences.

    • #54186 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Personally I find it fair enough that he doesn’t want a child just yet. No one is right or wrong.

    • #54196 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      Yeah definitely time to move on from that relationship.

    • #54198 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      I can’t help feeling that you should move on. And I kinda respect him for standing his ground too. You can’t force someone into something this important. Good luck.

    • #54223 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      i know what its like to really want to have another child but have to agree with the other people who have commented. It seems you have a difference in opinion and its not your partners fault that he feels that way. I can imagine it would be horrible to be pressured into a child if you are not 100% committed too.

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      AvatarGretel Digo
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    • #54446 Reply
      AvatarGretel Digo
      Keymaster

      Sounds like a tough situation. Sending hugs and strength to you <3

    • #54499 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      I tried to reply a few days ago, but I must’ve hit the wrong button.

      Trying to think this through from the perspective of my ex. Our child is about the same age as your partner’s child.

      My ex desperately wanted to be a Dad. We planned a family but things happened alarmingly fast (a fww months instead of 2yrs). Things went horribly wrong and he missed most of the first 2yrs due to his illness and FIFO. Then we split.

      He has struggled being away from his baby, and is heartbroken as he wanted this for so long.

      Your ex’s child is only 5 and you have been together at least 1yr. Your ex has watched his baby grow up from a distance. It must be awfully sad, and there must be some fear there that he could go through that again. It would be hard.

      Then throw all the Covid uncertainty into the mix.

      I’d give him a break and concentrate on the beautiful children you already have.

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