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    • #54214 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      Hi everyone,

      My son is 2.5 years old and I’m currently in the process of trying to agree on a self managed parenting plan with my ex. We’re trying to come to an agreement about Christmas. I’d really appreciate advice on what you do and works for your family.

      Do you alternate each year your child spending Christmas Eve night/Christmas morning and then also having a holiday during the Christmas/NY break? If so, from what age was your child/ren when you did this?

      Thank you.

    • #54226 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      My girls always want to be at mine on Christmas morning and I’m more festive than dad. We usually manage a lunch altogether and then they go back to dad’s in the arvo.

    • #54230 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      We do alternate Christmas morning and afternoon.

      We both want our son on Christmas morning and definitely both want to see him at some point on the day, so this works well for us.

      Luckily we live within 10 mins of each other.

    • #54234 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      It all depends on your own situation in terms of what you both want, how far apart you live etc. The most important thing is to focus solely on what is best for you son and not for you and the ex. When you are both on the same page with that it makes arrangements so much easier.

    • #54236 Reply
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      I had the first 2 Christmases post separation due to a lack of communication, but had my celebrations a few days early in case plans were sabotaged.

      There’s now a formal plan in place saying on even numbered years (ie 2020) child goes to Dad 2pm on Christmas Eve and returns 2pm Christmas Day. That alternates.

      I’ve had a few Christmases alone before being a Mum, but it’s going to be a little weird waking up completely alone on Christmas morning. I’m planning to have lots of treats for myself.

    • #54253 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      We do every other and the then the parent who misses Christmas day has them on Boxing Day. It works will this way and we’ve been doing it nearly 11 years! For us it’s normal.

    • #54256 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Following as we are trying to work this out too. Man it’s stressful 🙁

    • #54260 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      We don’t have a plan and go by what our kids want. Usually they want to spend some time with all four of us together i.e. with mum and dad. Some years this is a challenge, especially if we’re not getting on particularly well. Other years we’ve spent the whole day together and it’s great. Now they are teenagers and usually want to catch up with friends for part of the day too!

    • #54289 Reply
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      My boys want to be at mine on Christmas morning as I still live in the family home and they consider this to be their `home‘ (they only see their Dad at his place 2 days a fortnight).

      I have invited their Dad to come over 1st thing Christmas morning so he can be here when they open their Santa presents etc. They will then go with him to have lunch with his family then they will come back to me in the afternoon and we will have dinner with mine.

      First Christmas that I won’t be with my babies all day but I figure it’s just 1 more 1st to get through & I’m thinking of the positives no lunch for me with the in-laws lol 😂

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