My son is 2.5 years old and I’m currently in the process of trying to agree on a self managed parenting plan with my ex. We’re trying to come to an agreement about Christmas. I’d really appreciate advice on what you do and works for your family.
Do you alternate each year your child spending Christmas Eve night/Christmas morning and then also having a holiday during the Christmas/NY break? If so, from what age was your child/ren when you did this?
It all depends on your own situation in terms of what you both want, how far apart you live etc. The most important thing is to focus solely on what is best for you son and not for you and the ex. When you are both on the same page with that it makes arrangements so much easier.
We don’t have a plan and go by what our kids want. Usually they want to spend some time with all four of us together i.e. with mum and dad. Some years this is a challenge, especially if we’re not getting on particularly well. Other years we’ve spent the whole day together and it’s great. Now they are teenagers and usually want to catch up with friends for part of the day too!
My boys want to be at mine on Christmas morning as I still live in the family home and they consider this to be their `home‘ (they only see their Dad at his place 2 days a fortnight).
I have invited their Dad to come over 1st thing Christmas morning so he can be here when they open their Santa presents etc. They will then go with him to have lunch with his family then they will come back to me in the afternoon and we will have dinner with mine.
First Christmas that I won’t be with my babies all day but I figure it’s just 1 more 1st to get through & I’m thinking of the positives no lunch for me with the in-laws lol 😂