My ex who I was together with for 12 mths took $34+k in cash from me over that time. Told me he would pay me back everytime he asked for money. Told me he would never **** me over and pay me back. Add to that ran my credit card up twice. Got me to get an 11k loan to help him consolidate his debts and give me some of the money he owed me. Said he would pay the loan but never really paid a cent. Got a phone in my name and the bill is at $1115. I have since found out he was doing drugs the whole relationship. Cheating on me. Sleeping with his drug dealer. All while accusing me of cheating and lying. I kicked him out and I have an ivo on him which he breached and ended up in jail for 3 weeks only to be released. He has 5 ivos on him as we speak and breached 3 of them. His family hates him. His exes hate him cos he’s done the same to them as he do me – 2 of them worse because he was physically abusive to them. The more I find out the sicker I feel and the more stupid I feel for letting him do this to me. I’m a single mum who has a mortgage and he’s broken me in ways I didn’t think possible. I don’t understand how any man could do that to a woman he claimed to love. I’m so sick of crying. I feel such a fool :’(
I can hear you are angry at yourself for getting yourself into that situation and trusting him. Good on you for always trying to see the good… and good on you for getting out! I can’t say anything to make it better but I know now you are out, better days will come. Thinking of you ♥️
You can take him to small claims court to try to get some of that money back, consult a lawyer on your options I think it would help to give you some of your power back if you did, the fact that he has a history of this can be presented and work in your favor. Please dont feel down about genuinely loving someone, good on you for being open enough to love and hope. Karma had a way of sorting people like this guy out sooner or later. Look after yourself , be kind to yourself.
You need to choice which path to take hun. Either move on, learn from mistakes and re-build your life, or fight to get the money back. Neither is the right or wrong way. You need to think of what you need to do and what outcome would make you feel best … then go with that. Good luck.
So sorry to hear about what happened but don’t be too hard on yourself as it is normal for us to trust the person that we loved. What I suggest you do is to learn from it and move on that’s the best gift you can give yourself in this kind of situation.