I have a 7 month old baby that was 2 months premature, her dad and I ended one week ago, he is insistent on having her overnight fri-sun, but I feel she is to young at the moment as she has never been away from her me. He had her 6 hours on sat and 4 hours on Sunday and he see her two evenings last week, I have suggested a gradual process for our daughter seeing him so it doesn’t unsettle her anymore than what she has already been through.
I had no choice but to walk away from the family home as I was sleeping on the floor and constantly suffering emotional abuse, he has said he is buying me out, do I have any rights to remain in the house?
He has also threatened to take the family car away once everything has been sorted, even though I put the deposit down.
There are guidelines that suggest gradual amounts of time for young children (especially infants – and even more essential they are not away from mum for that period of time if mum is breastfeeding). It is not realist for an infant that has never been away from its mum to suddenly be away from her for 3 days in a row every week. No court would over that for a 7 month old.
A woman I know tried to prevent access to the father who left her for an affair during her pregnancy. He took her to federal court over a period 7 years and she eventually lost custody completely due to alienating behaviour trying prevent him as was bitter over affair woman who he married and had kids with . The judge awarded him full custody as he’s in a much better position with new wife to provide the best environment for the child and she can’t see her son t 18 with a virtual avo preventing her access to approach school even and restricted from everything. B wary it’s 2020 mins don’t rule
My lawyer (very experienced Family lawyer) advised that Courts would normally allow overnights to commence sometime between 2-3 years of age. No way that it’s in the best interests of an infant to spend that length of time away from primary caregiver and overnight stays aren’t essential for the baby to form an attachment with Dad. Be careful whose advice you listen to. To me it doesn’t sound like you’re trying to prevent access at all…
My kids did overnights from One after breakup my friend did overnights from birth. Why is a dad suitable carer within a nuclear unit but once separated you think not appropriate for overnights? Ridiculous