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GuestHow do you deal with emotional abuse from a co parent?
I’m getting the blame for everything including my daughter being upset at his house.
I am experiencing gaslighting and feel like I’m going nuts.
Anyone with any similar experiences?
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Lucy Good
KeymasterLimited contact. Only communicate via email and text. And ignore the shite 🙂
I deal with it daily!
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Anonymous
GuestYes I guess I’ve just got to get better at managing it. Just wish it would stop.
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Anonymous
GuestIf you need to communicate face to face or on the phone limit what you say. If they say anything abusive just cut them off and walk away. I agree with the above poster though. To only communicate via email and text.
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Anonymous
GuestYes doing that, only communicating via an app. He still manages to find a way. Tonight he wouldn’t let me talk to my daughter on FaceTime 🙁
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Anonymous
GuestYes. Communicate via a co-parenting app. Cut the Facetime as it’s just another avenue and he may view it as disrupting his parenting time, be a trigger for your daughter missing you. Have extremely detailed parenting consent orders in order to limit any need for negotiation, communication or misunderstanding. DISENGAGE, DISENGAGE, DISENGAGE. Do not respond to anything that doesn’t require a response and if you need to, keep your response minimal, factual and non emotional.
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Anonymous
GuestI’ve been trying to keep up the communication. It’s not working so might try this instead! Thanks
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Lucy Good
KeymasterHere are some co-parenting apps you can try:
https://beanstalkmums.com.au/best-co-parenting-apps-2020/
Or you could suggest using a communication book:
https://beanstalkmums.com.au/communication-book-for-co-parenting/
There are also lots of other articles to help with peaceful co-parenting on this website.
Hope it gets easier for you soon.
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Anonymous
GuestI get the blame for EVERYTHING!
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Anonymous
GuestMy friend recommended this book (Parenting Toddlers: How You Can Use Positive Discipline to Raise Kids Who Will Have High Self-Esteem, Including Tips for Sleep Training, Handing Tantrums and a Guide to Potty Training) and it’s honestly been a huge game changer for me, it’s been so helpful in so many different aspects of parenting! Here’s the link if you want a free copy: https://amzn.to/2LsVSum
If you want to cancel during the free trial you can, you still get the book, that’s what I did haha 😆
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