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- September 10, 2019 at 12:13 am #16087
Posted awhile ago. Ex is definitely stalking phone. Research indicates it’s a spyware that has been installed via Apple ID and is on the cloud. Here’s the problem, short of an email address etc the police will not investigate. Does anyone know of any tech experts who can identify the type of spyware on my phone? By its very nature spyware is invisible. And I need proof!
Yes I am taking safety precautions but I need proof or I will never be certain it’s removed if I’m even able to.
- September 10, 2019 at 8:35 am #16088
Unless he knows your Apple ID password or he has installed a mirroring app on your phone there’s no other spyware that can be installed.
If you’re that worried, get a new phone and create a new account.
- September 10, 2019 at 8:48 am #16089
Try overseas people, it’s unlikely anyone in Oz would do it.
- September 10, 2019 at 10:12 am #16091
Absolutely agree with first lady. Don’t even go there, just get a new phone/number/account etc and don’t let your ex near it.
- September 10, 2019 at 1:41 pm #16100
Can you take it to an Apple shop and ask?
- September 11, 2019 at 5:30 am #16153
Do a reboot of phone and delete everything..start from scratch .. reset all passwords and secret questions for your email, Facebook, Apple account, get new credit cards
Spend a day updating your details everywhere !!!
- October 26, 2019 at 11:58 am #19505
The best option for your peace of mind as well just buy a new phone rather than going through the hassle of checking it and stressing yourself out not being sure that it has been totally removed.
- November 9, 2019 at 6:55 pm #20325
Hi anon, I’m so sorry you have been through this. I have been through the same problem – was living under the same roof as my ex for 2 years while he was unemployed (I didn’t have the heart to kick him out) and he put spyware on my phone or knew my Apple ID – either way he was cyberstalking me. He knew where I was at all times & also read all my texts, even heard my conversations about him with friends at the pub and work colleagues, and quoted them back to me. I then moved on to a new phone to seek my privacy & he did the same thing again!!! I then paid $500 to see a family lawyer who told me to report it to the police & ask for a forensic check of my phone for spyware. I did this & the police pretty much laughed at me & said they don’t have the resources. I then called a few private agencies & they were going to charge me $900 for each phone to be checked, with no guarantee of evidence if it turned out he was accessing my data via iCloud. (I changed the password, email address, everything… & he was still able to access all data. ) I ended up going to the Magistrates Court for some guidance & to find out if I had enough evidence for an intervention order. They said if I had abusive texts from him on my phone that would be enough. So I lodged an Intervention Order and broke down in front of the Magistrate, explaining that the police refused to help & I couldn’t afford a $900 private forensic check. The Magistrate told me digital stalking is one of those new things that is way to difficult to get evidence for, so they have to take it on the balance of probabilities rather than evidence. He could see that I was psychologically abused & traumatised (I was a crying mess) & said that the abusive texts on my phone were adequate to get the IVO anyway. Digital stalking is a CRIMINAL OFFENCE. I strongly advise you to gather any abusive texts you may have, or record him verbally abusing you & get an IVO. I hope this information helps. I was devastated by the lack of support I received whilst going through it. All the very best to you in your journey.
- November 9, 2019 at 6:59 pm #20326
Oh and in terms of being sure, I agree with everyone else – get a new phone, new passwords, etc & always keep it locked & on you at all times – don’t leave it lying around where he can access it.
- November 9, 2019 at 11:05 pm #20331
What happens if you got an Android instead would that help to stop him hacking you, I’m just throwing it out there and then getting that app that parents use to communicate so that he doesn’t get your new email or passwords or new number. That’s so nuts that this is happening to you.
- November 10, 2019 at 2:13 am #20332
Hi all just to update. There is a service in nsw that will analyse a phone. I can’t afford the fee but they confirm the description is spyware being installed. I have a new phone and email and SIM card. I know it’s working because my ex is demanding my phone number through court… and my number has not changed but clearly he no longer has access to my messages. That’s a Winn to me!