Hello all! My child’s father has had little to nothing to do with child since I left him 4 months ago. For a while, I kept him updated on child. But he only asks about him once or twice a month or when he’s bored and wants to start an argument. My child deserves better than what’s being offered by their father, but I’m concerned that the fathers lame attempt to “be involved” will make it impossible to prove abandonment. Advice?
Can you go to mediation and get a parenting plan in place. The process will allow your ex to say how much involvement he wants with his child. And then it will hold him accountable to see child when he says he will.
This may be a better than trying to cut him out all together.
Most courts would encourage contact, if only a little, with the father. A father that has abandoned a child would likely be someone who has refused to have name on birth certificate and doesn’t acknowledge the child. In the case you can possibly get sole parental responsibility but this is notoriously hard if dad is still in the picture to any extent. Good luck getting everything sorted.
Thank you everyone for your responses! When we were together and he watched the child he would ignore our kid while I was at work. My current partner, our parents, and I have all been working to resolve the abandonment/trust issues he received from that experience. I personally had a parent that was in and out of my life at will, and I don’t want that for my kid. The father has had plenty of opportunity to see our child. In the beginning I offered to take the child to him, now that he hasn’t seen our child in 4 months, I’ve offered to let him come see him until he feels comfortable around him. And he refuses.