Just wondering on people’s experiences with changing court orders for care of the kids after 5 years in place. Youngest of 3 is starting school next year and wants to change week on, week off rather than 6 nights over a fortnight. Plus he lives 30 mins from kids school so they would have to go on the bus. Court opinion??
If I read correctly, your ex is wanting 50/50 custody? Is the current arrangement working well? Do you have an objection to 50/50? I live 30 minutes from my kids school and have them 50/50 and and I work an hour from their school, my eldest is 8 and I wouldn’t be comfortable with her getting the bus let alone my youngest who starts prep next year also. Do they HAVE to get the bus? I manage with a current 2 hour commute between home > school > work, could he compromise and drive them instead of getting the bus?
I should mention I’m writing this for a friend… No ex wants 50/50. One week he has then Thursday nights and next week has we’d/thurs/fri/sat/sun. So 5 nights sorry. Yes they would mostly have to get the bus as he works in opposite direction. He also lives in a different town 30mins away. He has refused to drive the youngest into town for daycare on his Friday but MUM has had to continue to pay. There is no child support arrangement and he has never contributed to daycare, school fees, school uniforms or extra activities ex: sports. The two youngest kids don’t know any other way.
I always think of it like this: what will work best for your kids. This is what a court would think too and make a call based on the answer. It sounds like if he takes it to court he will lose, such a waste of time and money, Could you perhaps suggest mediation to discuss it with him?
Court would want 50/50 generally, especially if he can prove it would strengthen his relationship with his children. The bus thing is not a problem. Both my children take the bus while living at both parents houses. As we live so far apart and our childre’s school is roughly in the middle. Obviously this hasn’t been a court ordered araangement and it’s strange that child support isn’t being paid to someone. Really strange arrangement actually and I don’t think you’ve given is the full story.