Hoping for some advice and guidance on this one.
I have been a solo mum for almost 5 years with 1 significant relationship in that time which didn’t last. Obviously as a parent with a large majority of care I am careful with who I bring into my boys (13 & 6) lives. That’s my choice and I’m happy with that.
On the other hand… the boys father is now is now on his 4th (maybe more) woman and has no issue introducing them to the kids even after a very short time. His last relationship ended just over two weeks ago and he’s now with someone else and already spent the day together with the kids.
Who he dates or for how long etc is not my concern at all. He’s verbally abusive to me even now so the minimal contact I have is enough. I guess my concern is the message all of this is sending to my boys. The lack of respect that he shows me, and from what I can see, the women he dates, as well as the lack of respect for his boys (that’s a longer story). Any words of wisdom? Do I just keep smiling and ‘putting up with it’ hoping that the kids know better? They’re both intelligent, respectful boys at the moment so I’m hoping they can see through his bs.
This is terrible for your boys to see. Can you set up a mediation to discuss this? Hopefully the mediator can point out how bad this is and some ground rules can be put into a parenting plan, what a grub.