Are there any mums out there who agreed to private payment agreement instead of going through child support?
How did you come up with the amount to ask from ex? And did you request the whole amount or itemise/explain to him how you calculated that figure?
My ex and I are really amicable and have found that we can work this out for ourselves. We are both fair and generous people and he is also a spreadsheet whizz! This actually helps as we can both keep track of everything easily. It’s def not for most ex couples but it does work us and alleviates the stress of doing it all through child support.
You can register with Child Support but still have a private arrangement. They will just tell you a minimum amount that is legally enforcabke should the payer decide to stop paying. But you can still have a private agreement between the two of you for a higher amount and private collection (eg just bank transfer).