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      Hello, i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice.
      Little back story, I’ve had my son full time since birth, his father has had little involvement in his life really. He basically just visits when it suits him. Our son is 2.5 years old. His father moved away interstate when he had just turned 1. And now has not seen our son in 6 months, due to covid-19. I don’t hear from him very much and if i do it’s short and sweet. We’ve been amicable since he moved away but like I said he’s not really involved.
      So lately I’ve been thinking to claim child support. The reason why I haven’t is because when my son was 6 months old his father threatened to take me to court if I didn’t let him have our son over night, I got some legal advice in regard to that but it left me shaken that he would try to take my son away from me. And no I’m not trying to keep our son from his father, it’s just that he hasn’t been involved and our son isn’t at all familiar with who his dad is.

      Is it worth trying to get child support? I’m worried he will bully me if he has to pay it or try to use paying it as a way to try get more access to our son. Even though he really hasn’t got any parenting skills. Has anyone been in a similar situation before? Should I try talking to his father and ask if he’d would be happy I went through child support of something and have a discussion with him about it?

    • #45961 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      100% get CS – you re entitled to it. There is absolutely no way your ex could take your son off you. He may ask for some time with him but that would be fair enough.

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      AvatarAnonymous
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      Definitely have a chat to the father about it. And go from there. Entirely your decision whether you choos to claim.

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      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Does your ex have much money. If he doesn’t you will hardly get anything in which case it will most likely not be worth the hassle.

    • #46081 Reply
      AvatarAnonymous
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      There’s no way he would be able to take your son away from you- this threat is a form of emotional abuse. Under the Family Law Act, he has a legal obligation to provide financial support (parental responsibility). It’s a shame that many single mums probably choose to forego child support due to the underlying threat of abuse from the ex partner, however it is understandable especially considering the bureaucratic nightmare of the child support agency itself. If you choose to go the child support make sure it’s all formalized. Let us know how you get on

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        AvatarAnonymous
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        Thanks everyone for your replies

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