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- January 5, 2021 at 2:39 pm #59129 Reply
  
  Anonymous
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  My ex keeps messaging me, asking things like how to make a smoothie for our daughter, or where to buy her furniture, and telling me to provide clothes for her at his place. Never a please or a thank you, it’s a demand. It infuriates me but I know that if I ask him to ask nicely I will get a long winded response saying that I’m as bad, when I am not even vaguely rude to him. It’s as tho he’s putting me in a position of demanding my attention under the guise of providing something for our daughter, and I’m the knob if I don’t. Considering he’s a self proclaimed ‘most capable bloke on the planet’, he should bloody well work it out himself, or ask his new girlfriend!!! I could explode, and I’m so frustrated that he is still able to affect me like this.
- January 5, 2021 at 7:37 pm #59154 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  Highly annoying but it would be good to help him with some of the stuff but keep your answers short and to the point.
- January 5, 2021 at 8:26 pm #59161 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  Yep agree! Short answers so you can’t be accused of not supporting his parenting.
- January 5, 2021 at 8:59 pm #59166 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  Tbh without offending, this sounds a bit petty. If he asked question about caring for your daughter, just answer them. I know there are many single mums who would do anything for the dad to show any kind of interest in their child. Grit your teeth and go along with it for the sake of your daughter
- January 5, 2021 at 9:00 pm #59167 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  It is also important to be on the same page with coparenting and this way you will be.
- January 6, 2021 at 11:43 am #59227 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  Just get back to him on the things that matter and keep your answers in such a way that there is no need for a response from him.
- January 6, 2021 at 2:24 pm #59245 Reply
  
  Anonymous
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  I can see that the expectation of being spoken to respectfully and not manipulated got lost in this post. It’s not petty and I am offended.
  - January 11, 2021 at 7:02 pm #59769 Reply
    
    Anonymous
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    Well I’m hearing you.
    I went over 2yrs without even getting a hello or please. Just treated like an underling.
    
    Mine kicked up a huge stink on Christmas Eve because I forgot to pack a nappy for the sleepover and refused to do the requested hour round trip to provide one.
    
    All suggestions he provide his own back up clothing, toiletries etc at his house were met with a bunch of ridiculous excuses why he shouldn’t.
- January 6, 2021 at 5:57 pm #59265 Reply
  
  Anonymous
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  Some men want to be mothered forever.
- January 11, 2021 at 7:48 pm #59773 Reply
  
  Lucy Good
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  I would be concerned if he never asked anything!
- January 11, 2021 at 11:12 pm #59795 Reply
  
  Anonymous
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  It’s not exactly a welfare issue. You’d think the most capable bloke on the planet would have heard of Amart and Google 🙄
- January 15, 2021 at 10:32 pm #60052 Reply
  
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