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    • January 9, 2021 at 12:20 am #59487 Reply
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      So last week I told my ex he needed to use the aircon downstairs (he lives in a 2 story unit), he thinks running the upstairs one is enough.

      But he has our sons room set up downstairs in what’s meant to be the lounge room. Last week when I pick my son up it was 26 in the unit but colder outside. My son woke up when I got there saying “(his name) hot” and asked for a drink. I told my ex he needs to run the downstairs aircon because it’s unfair on our son (2years old).

      It’s meant to reach 30 Saturday before I have to drop my son at his dads and it’s supposed to be high 30’s come midday. If my ex hasn’t got the downstairs aircon running am I in my rights not to leave my son there with him? I can find a babysitter last minute or just tell work I can’t come in.

    • January 9, 2021 at 9:18 am #59515 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
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      No you are not. It’s up to your ex what he does, you have no control over the temperature of his home.

    • January 9, 2021 at 9:19 am #59516 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      That is, unless there is a genuine safety issue for your child that you are able to prove in a court.

    • January 9, 2021 at 4:27 pm #59547 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      You sooo not within your rights to withhold a child due to this.

    • January 9, 2021 at 8:36 pm #59559 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      No you’re not, no way

    • January 9, 2021 at 10:41 pm #59573 Reply
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      So hard being just two years old.

      Must be frustrating not having your concerns heard.

      If he’s anything like my ex, he won’t listen at all. Could you suggest a fan fir his room, or provide one?

    • January 10, 2021 at 7:41 am #59597 Reply
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      Shock horror he had the aircon on when I drop our son off.

      The reason I asked “if I had the rights to…” is because when we where together he always ran the aircon at 20 or lower all summer and the house was freezing, he didn’t care that I was getting sick all summer because of this and when even I or someone else said anything “I’m Canadian I can’t handle the Australian summer”. So it shocked me that he had his place sitting at 25/26.

    • January 10, 2021 at 9:31 am #59605 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      That’s good news.

      Unfortunately there are heaps of things that shock me about the way my ex parents and many are too shocking to share but when you co-parent you lose a level of control and there is nothing that you can about it. If things like this are going to bother you, you might be best not going into his house, just wait outside.

    • January 10, 2021 at 12:12 pm #59619 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      In terms of “are you within your rights” thats a NO, in terms of “do you have a right to be concerned” thats a YES.

    • January 10, 2021 at 4:29 pm #59639 Reply
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      A lot of us born in the early 80s didn’t have airconditioning at home until we were adults. My child’s other parent hasn’t even got a ceiling fan.

      I guess you can just ask him to dress the child appropriately and offer lots of cool drinks.

    • January 10, 2021 at 6:18 pm #59647 Reply
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      No, not within your rights. I grew up without aircon or even a fan. We had wet face washers.

      Now I only have aircon in two rooms, the bedrooms have fans only. Aircon is not essential.

    • January 10, 2021 at 8:09 pm #59655 Reply
      Lucy GoodLucy Good
      Keymaster

      Pick your battles. I would suggest this one isn’t worth it.

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